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How to Bowl with Reactive Bowling Balls
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1. Gripping the Ball
1-1. Insert your fingers into the ball.
If you’re right-handed, slide the middle and ring fingers of your hand hand into the upper two finger holes. If you’re left-handed, insert the fingers of your left hand. The finger holes should come to a stop right around the first knuckle. This grip will be most effective for bowling precise angles.
Using any other fingers won’t permit you to keep the ball centered in your hand.
Select a ball that doesn’t force you to stretch your hand. There should be enough room between your palm and the surface of the ball to fit a pencil.
1-2. Use your other hand to steady the ball.
Place your non-bowling hand flat against the opposite side of the ball. You’ll use this hand to steady the ball as you initiate the swing. Relying too heavily on the movement of your bowling hand can cause the ball to sway before the moment of release—this will throw off your shot.
Your support hand should remain on the ball until just before you roll.
1-3. Remove your thumb from the ball.
Rest your thumb flat against the outside of the ball to get it out of the way. Unlike a conventional roll where the thumb guides the ball during release, a proper hook shot requires the ball to be able to rotate slightly.
Imagine that you’re cupping the ball with your thumb rather than pressing against it.
Tuck the ball against your wrist as you raise it behind you to help stabilize it.
1-4. Hold the ball loosely.
Keep your wrist straight but relaxed. To bowl a strike with a hook shot, it’s critical that you release the ball at exactly the right time and position. If you’re too tense, you’re more likely to neutralize the rotation of the roll or miss entirely.
Try not to bring your arm out too far to the side. The ball should move within a few inches of your support leg when you bowl.
2. Bowling a Hook Shot
2-1. Line up your body with the pins.
Before you roll, make sure your stance is squared up and your head is facing forward. Bend your knees slightly to give yourself a solid base. Any shifting or tilting of the feet, waist or shoulders will rob your shot of accuracy.
Start straight and finish straight.
Remember that the angle of the shot depends largely on the angle of your body.
2-2. Take a few steps toward the fault line.
Glide smoothly into each step, keeping your head level as you travel forward. Raise the ball to face level, then bring it down and back behind you. As you prepare to release the ball, lower your hips and lean your upper body downward to put you closer to the lane.
Let the ball’s natural momentum carry it through the swing—don’t force it.
Most experienced bowlers take 4-5 steps during their approach. Any more than this may overcomplicate your throw and take your focus away from your technique.
2-3. Flick your finger slightly as the ball leaves your hand.
Just before releasing the ball, curl your middle and ring fingers together upward and to the side. The motion of these two fingers is responsible for generating rotation. Right-handed bowlers should turn the ball just slightly toward the left before it makes contact with the lane. Left-handed bowlers will twist the ball to the right.
Your fingers should just graze the edges of the holes on their way out.
When you’re first learning to roll a hook, keep your rotation minimal. As you get accustomed to the motion, you can work on making your angles wider and your arc more pronounced.
2-4. Follow through for greater accuracy.
Continue extending your bowling arm forwards and upwards, even after the ball has left your hand. This will ensure that you don’t pull back too soon and choke the ball’s momentum. Finish the roll with your arm at about chest level, as though you were accepting a handshake.
A good follow through is critical for a fast, accurate roll.
If your bowling arm is pointed downward at the lane when you complete your roll, you’re not following through enough.
3. Aiming and Rolling Correctly
3-1. Line the ball up near the edge of the lane.
In order for the ball to strike near the middle of the pins following a curved hook, you’ll need to make sure it begins its path on the far side of the lane. As it travels down the lane, the inward rotation will cause it to pull in the opposite direction, moving it closer to the center.
Approach from the side of the lane rather than trying to reach with your bowling arm.
Try to keep the ball inside the outermost arrow printed on the lane. Otherwise, it may accidentally spiral into the gutter.
3-2. Make a clean release.
Keep your head up and your eyes on the pins as you complete your roll. Let the ball leave your hand in one smooth motion, making sure to withdraw your fingers from the holes quickly so that they don’t get in the way. Take care not to drop or fling the ball—it should fall no more than an inch or two before making contact with the lane.
The lower your stance and angle of your upper body, the closer your bowling arm will be to the lane.
Because of the increased friction created by the shell of reactive bowling balls, it’s even more important that your release be seamless.
3-3. Target the point between the first and second or third pins.
When the ball enters from this “sweet spot,” it creates a sweeping action that knocks over the pins in the direction that they’re spaced. This is a much more efficient path than bowling straight on, which often leaves surrounding pins untouched.
If you’re a right-handed bowler, the ball should enter right between the first and third pins (the pin in the front and the one just behind it to the right). Left-handed bowlers should aim between the first and second pins.
The oblique angle and rotation force of a hook shot makes it easier to clear pins, even if your aim is off by a little bit.
3-4. Learn to increase the amount of rotation you put on the ball.
The rotation you apply to the ball allows it to strike the pins at a precise angle and with greater force, but it also makes you more likely to miss. Start by throwing slight curves, then work your way toward more exaggerated hooks. After you’ve refined your control over the ball, you’ll be able to bowl strikes and spares effortlessly.
The rotation should come from the movement of your fingers, not your wrist, arm or shoulder.
Rolls with more rotation need to be counterbalanced by a faster speed to avoid curving off the lane.
Tips
There’s no substitute for practice. If you want to master bowling hook shots with a reactive ball, you have to get out on the lanes.
Buy your own reactive bowling ball to practice with. Most of the balls stocked by commercial bowling alleys feature a basic polyurethane construction, which make it difficult to pull off hook shots with control.
Choose a ball with enough weight to create force that isn’t too heavy to manipulate comfortably.
Warnings
Polish reactive bowling balls, but don’t oil them. The coat of resin applied to the outer shell creates small dimples to increase surface area. Oiling will smooth out these dimples, reducing friction and therefore your control over the ball.
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Any more than this may overcomplicate your throw and take your focus away from your technique.\\n2-3. Flick your finger slightly as the ball leaves your hand.\\nJust before releasing the ball, curl your middle and ring fingers together upward and to the side. The motion of these two fingers is responsible for generating rotation. Right-handed bowlers should turn the ball just slightly toward the left before it makes contact with the lane. Left-handed bowlers will twist the ball to the right.\\nYour fingers should just graze the edges of the holes on their way out.\\nWhen you’re first learning to roll a hook, keep your rotation minimal. As you get accustomed to the motion, you can work on making your angles wider and your arc more pronounced.\\n2-4. Follow through for greater accuracy.\\nContinue extending your bowling arm forwards and upwards, even after the ball has left your hand. This will ensure that you don’t pull back too soon and choke the ball’s momentum. 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How to Box
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1. Learning Boxing Fundamentals
1-1. Develop a stable stance for effective defense.
A strong, comfortable stance will enable you to unleash powerful punches and swiftly evade blows from your opponent. Always keep your feet shoulder-width apart and your weight evenly balanced on both feet. Most of your weight should be on your back foot.
Keep your elbows in and your hands up, with your left under your cheek and your right under your chin. Keep your chin down at all times.
If you're a right-handed fighter, the proper stance is to have your left foot in front of you, pointing away from your opponent at a 45° angle. Your left heel should line up with your right toe. If you’re left-handed, reverse the stance and lead with your right foot.
1-2. Stand on your toes and keep moving to practice your footwork.
Good footwork in the ring will help you evade your opponents and move in quickly for a strike. Focus on making quick movements in the ring, pivoting and sliding with the balls of your feet when necessary. Avoid putting weight on your heels when moving into the boxing ring. This will move your center of gravity backwards ad make it easier for your opponent to knock you down.
Keep your spine straight when you’re moving around in the ring. Keep your upper body relaxed so it won’t restrict your legs’ movement.
Also, never cross-step (put one foot in front of the other when you step forward). This can put you in an unbalanced, indefensible position.
1-3. Tape your hands
Wrapping your hands will protect them from being cut or seriously bruised while you box. Hook your thumb and pull the tape down and wrap it around your wrist 3 times. Then pull the tape up and wrap it around your hands 3 times.
Bring the tape back down under the pad of your thumb and make “X” shapes in the gaps between your fingers. Do this starting with your pinky and ring fingers. Pull the tape through each gap, then twist it across the bottom of your hand along the upper pads.
Cross the tape over the back of your hand from right to left and then go underneath. Repeat the process for the other gaps.
When you've completed that, wrap around your thumb once and then around the back of your hand. Wrap your thumb again and then pull the tape across your palm. From here, wrap your knuckles 3 times and end by wrapping your wrist once. Wrap is really useful for keeping the position of your hand in place whilst your hand is in a boxing glove as well as absorbing moisture such as sweat.
2. Developing Offensive Punches
2-1. Practice punching on a bag to develop proper form.
Whether shadow-boxing or using a speed bag or heavy bag, new boxers must concentrate on using proper form when unleashing a blow. Using proper form means that you’ll need to develop a good sense of balance so that you’re not thrown off balance by throwing a punch. Also, practice keeping your hands in front of your face and returning to this defensive position after throwing a punch.
Before punching, keep your hands close to your face and your elbows tight against your body.
Put your weight into the punches you throw, and follow through with each punch. This will help you land punches effectively and accurately on your opponent’s head or torso.
2-2. Jab
Jabbing is a basic punch which you’ll usually do with your weaker front hand. The jab is a short punch. To jab, drive your fist straight into your opponent’s face or torso.
To maximize the effectiveness of the jab, professional boxers twist their arm and wrist just before making contact with their opponent.
2-3. Throw a cross punch to counter punch a jab.
As opposed to a jab, which is thrown straight in front of the body, deliver a cross punch by jabbing your dominant hand in a slightly upward motion across your body. If your opponent throws a left jab at you, they’ll leave themself open for your right hook. Keep your weight on the balls of your feet, and aim your punch across your body towards the right side of your opponent’s torso or face.
Use the cross on its own to counter a jab, or put the jab and cross together for a 1-2 combo.
The shoulder helps power the cross punch. Also pay attention to your feet when throwing a cross. As you throw the punch, move your body weight from your rear foot up to your front foot.
2-4. Throw a hook when you have time for a slower, powerful punch.
The hook can be delivered to the head or body of the opponent. Lean your body to the side that you plan to hit from, and circle your arm around to punch the opponent in the unprotected side of their head or body. The hook is often used in combination with other punches.
The hook’s sweeping delivery is its chief drawback, as it can leave you susceptible to a counterpunch. So, if you and your opponent are exchanging swift jabs back and forth, this isn’t the time to wind up for a hook.
2-5. Use an uppercut to seriously damage your opponent.
The uppercut is an upward blow unleashed by either hand that is highly effective when in close quarters. Throw an uppercut when you’re close to your opponent’s body. To uppercut, lower your arm to about waist-height, then swing it upward in an explosive burst. Aim to his your opponent squarely on their chin.
Don’t try to throw an uppercut form more than 1 foot (0.30 m) away, or you may miss and leave yourself open to a counter-attack to your body.
2-6. Combine punches to hit an opponent multiple times in a row.
After they become adept at delivering a variety of punches, fighters usually develop combinations, in which they release a devastating flurry of blows on their opponent. The first combination most boxers learn is the 1-2 combo (a jab followed by a cross). Try putting together different combos of your own. Rely on building combos around punches that you feel good throwing.
Another effective combo adds a hook to the 1-2 combo. If you're right-handed, this would be a left jab followed by a right cross and ending with a left hook.
3. Picking up Defensive Moves
3-1. Learn to take a punch to increase your longevity in the ring.
Boxing isn't all about throwing punches. Minimizing your opponent's blows is a vital part of the game, too. To take a punch, relax your body and keep eye contact with your opponent. This will help you figure out where they are planning to land their next punch. If your opponent is aiming their punches for your body, tighten up your core muscles and absorb the punches.
Develop an effective boxing defense by mixing together various methods of deflecting, blocking, and dodging your opponent’s punches.
3-2. Parry your opponent’s punches by knocking them away.
After keeping your gloves up and chin down, the parry is probably the most basic defensive technique in boxing. To parry, hold your hands at the level of your face and, when your opponent throws a punch, move your hand to strike your opponent’s gloves and misdirect the punch.
You’ll need to move fast to parry quick punches like jabs and crosses.
3-3. Slip
The slip is performed by sharply rotating your hips and shoulders as your rival throws a punch aimed at your head. Also turn your chin sharply in the same direction that you’re turning your body. This will cause your opponent to miss their target (your head) altogether. It’s more difficult to slip punches directed at your body, since it presents a larger target. Instead, try to block blows aimed at your body.
Slipping a punch works best if your opponent throws a punch from at least 2 feet (0.61 m) away.
3-4. Block punches that your opponent throws at you.
When blocking a punch, do not try moving your entire body out of the way to avoid the punch. Instead, absorb the impact with your gloves. Start with your gloves held defensively in front of your face, and move one or both gloves to defend an area of your body that your opponent is trying to punch.
Be aware that blocking punches will gradually tire out your hands, and may reduce the effectiveness of your punches.
3-5. Bob and weave
The bob is executed by bending the legs to avoid a high blow (e.g., a hook to the head). Bobbing is almost like ducking, although you’ll keep your head up and your eyes on your opponent. Follow up the bob with a weave to evade your opponent. To weave, arch your body just out of range of your opponent's extended glove and straighten back up.
While the bob and the weave are technically separate defensive moves, they’re commonly paired together.
After weaving, strike out at your opponent with a jab.
To get better at bobbing and weaving, do exercises that will improve your balance and your leg strength, like jump squats, sprinting, and skipping rope.
3-6. Roll your body to deflect your opponent’s punches.
When you roll with punches, you won’t dodge them altogether. Instead, you’ll move your body away from your opponent’s glove to reduce the force of each punch. Press your gloves to your forehead, hold your elbows in against your body, and keep your chin against your chest. When your opponent throws punches at you, roll your hips and torso to the right or left to deflect hits.
So, if your opponent swings at you with a right jab, swing your upper body to the left. While the jab will still strike you, its force will be much weaker than if you hadn’t rolled away from the blow.
Rolling provides little protection against side-body blows but is an effective defense against a barrage of punches, as your gloves and forearms absorb most of the impact.
4. Committing to a Comprehensive Training Regimen
4-1. Start training at least 3 months before you begin boxing.
Some boxing experts suggest that beginners train for 3 to 6 months before ever entering a ring. This allows fledgling fighters to reach peak physical condition and perfect basic techniques before engaging in their first match. You can put together your own training regimen, or join a gym which focuses on developing boxers.
Most physical-conditioning programs for boxers can be broken down into 3 categories: cardiovascular, core exercises, and weight training.
4-2. Work on cardiovascular exercises
Boxers need to not only have great endurance capabilities but also must summon short bursts of power at key moments in a bout. To meet these physical requirements, boxers will vary their cardio training programs. Try to do at least 30 minutes of cardio training every day that you work out. Cardio can include things like jumping rope, running (indoors or outdoors), cycling, swimming, and training on stair-climbing machines.
For example, boxers will vary the pace of their endurance-building runs to include brief, all-out sprints. This simulates the physical demands and chaos of fighting.
Long-distance running will help you build endurance, and it will also help you recover more quickly between rounds in a boxing match.
Fatigued fighters tend to drop their hands and leave their heads exposed. They also can't produce the energy to effectively counterpunch in late rounds of a bout.
4-3. Weight train
Weightlifting helps new boxers build strength and punching power. Your chest, shoulders, and arms are of particular importance. The key in weight training for boxers is to develop the strength needed for explosive punches. This means doing 6 to 8 reps of each exercise with the heaviest weight you can handle. Do 3 sets of each and vary the exercises so your muscles don't plateau. Alternate days between core and weight training.
Upper-chest exercises include the flat bench press and dumbbell flies.
Target your shoulder muscles with dumbbell military presses and lateral raises.
Biceps curls and triceps kickbacks help build upper arm strength needed to increase punching power.
4-4. Perform core exercises
Boxers generate much of their power from the core of the body. Some of the most effective exercises include chin-ups and pull-ups, crunches, squats, and thrusts. Do 3 sets of each with 1-minute breaks in between exercises. Chin-ups and pull-ups should be done until you can't do any more. Do 20 reps of the other exercises.
By performing exercises that involve many muscle groups, a prizefighter can build a powerful core that forces all parts of the body to work cohesively.
Tips
To get out of the corner, be sure to block. Then bob and weave your way back to the center of the ring.
Rolling is a technique often used by former heavyweight champion Muhammad Ali.
Stay in the center of the ring when you're sparring with a boxing partner. Don't get trapped along the ropes or in a corner.
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Focus on making quick movements in the ring, pivoting and sliding with the balls of your feet when necessary. Avoid putting weight on your heels when moving into the boxing ring. This will move your center of gravity backwards ad make it easier for your opponent to knock you down.\\nKeep your spine straight when you’re moving around in the ring. Keep your upper body relaxed so it won’t restrict your legs’ movement.\\nAlso, never cross-step (put one foot in front of the other when you step forward). This can put you in an unbalanced, indefensible position.\\n1-3. Tape your hands\\nWrapping your hands will protect them from being cut or seriously bruised while you box. Hook your thumb and pull the tape down and wrap it around your wrist 3 times. Then pull the tape up and wrap it around your hands 3 times.\\nBring the tape back down under the pad of your thumb and make “X” shapes in the gaps between your fingers. Do this starting with your pinky and ring fingers. Pull the tape through each gap, then twist it across the bottom of your hand along the upper pads.\\nCross the tape over the back of your hand from right to left and then go underneath. Repeat the process for the other gaps.\\nWhen you've completed that, wrap around your thumb once and then around the back of your hand. Wrap your thumb again and then pull the tape across your palm. From here, wrap your knuckles 3 times and end by wrapping your wrist once. Wrap is really useful for keeping the position of your hand in place whilst your hand is in a boxing glove as well as absorbing moisture such as sweat.\\n2. Developing Offensive Punches\\n2-1. Practice punching on a bag to develop proper form.\\nWhether shadow-boxing or using a speed bag or heavy bag, new boxers must concentrate on using proper form when unleashing a blow. Using proper form means that you’ll need to develop a good sense of balance so that you’re not thrown off balance by throwing a punch. Also, practice keeping your hands in front of your face and returning to this defensive position after throwing a punch.\\nBefore punching, keep your hands close to your face and your elbows tight against your body.\\nPut your weight into the punches you throw, and follow through with each punch. This will help you land punches effectively and accurately on your opponent’s head or torso.\\n2-2. Jab\\nJabbing is a basic punch which you’ll usually do with your weaker front hand. The jab is a short punch. To jab, drive your fist straight into your opponent’s face or torso.\\nTo maximize the effectiveness of the jab, professional boxers twist their arm and wrist just before making contact with their opponent.\\n2-3. Throw a cross punch to counter punch a jab.\\nAs opposed to a jab, which is thrown straight in front of the body, deliver a cross punch by jabbing your dominant hand in a slightly upward motion across your body. If your opponent throws a left jab at you, they’ll leave themself open for your right hook. Keep your weight on the balls of your feet, and aim your punch across your body towards the right side of your opponent’s torso or face.\\nUse the cross on its own to counter a jab, or put the jab and cross together for a 1-2 combo.\\nThe shoulder helps power the cross punch. Also pay attention to your feet when throwing a cross. As you throw the punch, move your body weight from your rear foot up to your front foot.\\n2-4. Throw a hook when you have time for a slower, powerful punch.\\nThe hook can be delivered to the head or body of the opponent. Lean your body to the side that you plan to hit from, and circle your arm around to punch the opponent in the unprotected side of their head or body. The hook is often used in combination with other punches. \\nThe hook’s sweeping delivery is its chief drawback, as it can leave you susceptible to a counterpunch. So, if you and your opponent are exchanging swift jabs back and forth, this isn’t the time to wind up for a hook.\\n2-5. Use an uppercut to seriously damage your opponent.\\nThe uppercut is an upward blow unleashed by either hand that is highly effective when in close quarters. Throw an uppercut when you’re close to your opponent’s body. To uppercut, lower your arm to about waist-height, then swing it upward in an explosive burst. Aim to his your opponent squarely on their chin.\\nDon’t try to throw an uppercut form more than 1 foot (0.30 m) away, or you may miss and leave yourself open to a counter-attack to your body.\\n2-6. Combine punches to hit an opponent multiple times in a row.\\nAfter they become adept at delivering a variety of punches, fighters usually develop combinations, in which they release a devastating flurry of blows on their opponent. The first combination most boxers learn is the 1-2 combo (a jab followed by a cross). Try putting together different combos of your own. Rely on building combos around punches that you feel good throwing.\\nAnother effective combo adds a hook to the 1-2 combo. If you're right-handed, this would be a left jab followed by a right cross and ending with a left hook.\\n3. Picking up Defensive Moves\\n3-1. Learn to take a punch to increase your longevity in the ring.\\nBoxing isn't all about throwing punches. Minimizing your opponent's blows is a vital part of the game, too. To take a punch, relax your body and keep eye contact with your opponent. This will help you figure out where they are planning to land their next punch. If your opponent is aiming their punches for your body, tighten up your core muscles and absorb the punches.\\nDevelop an effective boxing defense by mixing together various methods of deflecting, blocking, and dodging your opponent’s punches.\\n3-2. Parry your opponent’s punches by knocking them away.\\nAfter keeping your gloves up and chin down, the parry is probably the most basic defensive technique in boxing. To parry, hold your hands at the level of your face and, when your opponent throws a punch, move your hand to strike your opponent’s gloves and misdirect the punch.\\nYou’ll need to move fast to parry quick punches like jabs and crosses.\\n3-3. Slip\\nThe slip is performed by sharply rotating your hips and shoulders as your rival throws a punch aimed at your head. Also turn your chin sharply in the same direction that you’re turning your body. This will cause your opponent to miss their target (your head) altogether. It’s more difficult to slip punches directed at your body, since it presents a larger target. Instead, try to block blows aimed at your body.\\nSlipping a punch works best if your opponent throws a punch from at least 2 feet (0.61 m) away.\\n3-4. Block punches that your opponent throws at you.\\nWhen blocking a punch, do not try moving your entire body out of the way to avoid the punch. Instead, absorb the impact with your gloves. Start with your gloves held defensively in front of your face, and move one or both gloves to defend an area of your body that your opponent is trying to punch.\\nBe aware that blocking punches will gradually tire out your hands, and may reduce the effectiveness of your punches.\\n3-5. Bob and weave\\nThe bob is executed by bending the legs to avoid a high blow (e.g., a hook to the head). Bobbing is almost like ducking, although you’ll keep your head up and your eyes on your opponent. Follow up the bob with a weave to evade your opponent. To weave, arch your body just out of range of your opponent's extended glove and straighten back up.\\nWhile the bob and the weave are technically separate defensive moves, they’re commonly paired together.\\nAfter weaving, strike out at your opponent with a jab.\\nTo get better at bobbing and weaving, do exercises that will improve your balance and your leg strength, like jump squats, sprinting, and skipping rope.\\n3-6. Roll your body to deflect your opponent’s punches.\\nWhen you roll with punches, you won’t dodge them altogether. Instead, you’ll move your body away from your opponent’s glove to reduce the force of each punch. Press your gloves to your forehead, hold your elbows in against your body, and keep your chin against your chest. When your opponent throws punches at you, roll your hips and torso to the right or left to deflect hits.\\nSo, if your opponent swings at you with a right jab, swing your upper body to the left. While the jab will still strike you, its force will be much weaker than if you hadn’t rolled away from the blow.\\nRolling provides little protection against side-body blows but is an effective defense against a barrage of punches, as your gloves and forearms absorb most of the impact.\\n4. Committing to a Comprehensive Training Regimen\\n4-1. Start training at least 3 months before you begin boxing.\\nSome boxing experts suggest that beginners train for 3 to 6 months before ever entering a ring. This allows fledgling fighters to reach peak physical condition and perfect basic techniques before engaging in their first match. You can put together your own training regimen, or join a gym which focuses on developing boxers.\\nMost physical-conditioning programs for boxers can be broken down into 3 categories: cardiovascular, core exercises, and weight training.\\n4-2. Work on cardiovascular exercises\\nBoxers need to not only have great endurance capabilities but also must summon short bursts of power at key moments in a bout. To meet these physical requirements, boxers will vary their cardio training programs. Try to do at least 30 minutes of cardio training every day that you work out. Cardio can include things like jumping rope, running (indoors or outdoors), cycling, swimming, and training on stair-climbing machines.\\nFor example, boxers will vary the pace of their endurance-building runs to include brief, all-out sprints. This simulates the physical demands and chaos of fighting.\\nLong-distance running will help you build endurance, and it will also help you recover more quickly between rounds in a boxing match.\\nFatigued fighters tend to drop their hands and leave their heads exposed. They also can't produce the energy to effectively counterpunch in late rounds of a bout.\\n4-3. Weight train\\nWeightlifting helps new boxers build strength and punching power. Your chest, shoulders, and arms are of particular importance. The key in weight training for boxers is to develop the strength needed for explosive punches. This means doing 6 to 8 reps of each exercise with the heaviest weight you can handle. Do 3 sets of each and vary the exercises so your muscles don't plateau. Alternate days between core and weight training.\\nUpper-chest exercises include the flat bench press and dumbbell flies.\\nTarget your shoulder muscles with dumbbell military presses and lateral raises.\\nBiceps curls and triceps kickbacks help build upper arm strength needed to increase punching power.\\n4-4. Perform core exercises\\nBoxers generate much of their power from the core of the body. Some of the most effective exercises include chin-ups and pull-ups, crunches, squats, and thrusts. Do 3 sets of each with 1-minute breaks in between exercises. Chin-ups and pull-ups should be done until you can't do any more. Do 20 reps of the other exercises.\\nBy performing exercises that involve many muscle groups, a prizefighter can build a powerful core that forces all parts of the body to work cohesively.\\nTips\\nTo get out of the corner, be sure to block. Then bob and weave your way back to the center of the ring.\\nRolling is a technique often used by former heavyweight champion Muhammad Ali.\\nStay in the center of the ring when you're sparring with a boxing partner. Don't get trapped along the ropes or in a corner.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Boxing is one of the most physically demanding sports. It requires a blend of power and quickness, plus excellent overall physical conditioning. If you'd like to start boxing, it's important to develop a good workout strategy in order to develop your strength and cardio system. You'll also need to pick up the basics of boxing, including learning some standard footwork plus offensive punches and defensive moves. If you’re a boxing novice, try joining a boxing gym where you can train and spar with more experienced boxers and boxing coaches.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learning Boxing Fundamentals\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Develop a stable stance for effective defense.\", \"描述\": \"A strong, comfortable stance will enable you to unleash powerful punches and swiftly evade blows from your opponent. Always keep your feet shoulder-width apart and your weight evenly balanced on both feet. Most of your weight should be on your back foot.\\nKeep your elbows in and your hands up, with your left under your cheek and your right under your chin. Keep your chin down at all times.\\nIf you're a right-handed fighter, the proper stance is to have your left foot in front of you, pointing away from your opponent at a 45° angle. Your left heel should line up with your right toe. If you’re left-handed, reverse the stance and lead with your right foot.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Stand on your toes and keep moving to practice your footwork.\", \"描述\": \"Good footwork in the ring will help you evade your opponents and move in quickly for a strike. Focus on making quick movements in the ring, pivoting and sliding with the balls of your feet when necessary. Avoid putting weight on your heels when moving into the boxing ring. This will move your center of gravity backwards ad make it easier for your opponent to knock you down.\\nKeep your spine straight when you’re moving around in the ring. Keep your upper body relaxed so it won’t restrict your legs’ movement.\\nAlso, never cross-step (put one foot in front of the other when you step forward). This can put you in an unbalanced, indefensible position.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Tape your hands\", \"描述\": \"Wrapping your hands will protect them from being cut or seriously bruised while you box. Hook your thumb and pull the tape down and wrap it around your wrist 3 times. Then pull the tape up and wrap it around your hands 3 times.\\nBring the tape back down under the pad of your thumb and make “X” shapes in the gaps between your fingers. Do this starting with your pinky and ring fingers. Pull the tape through each gap, then twist it across the bottom of your hand along the upper pads.\\nCross the tape over the back of your hand from right to left and then go underneath. Repeat the process for the other gaps.\\nWhen you've completed that, wrap around your thumb once and then around the back of your hand. Wrap your thumb again and then pull the tape across your palm. From here, wrap your knuckles 3 times and end by wrapping your wrist once. Wrap is really useful for keeping the position of your hand in place whilst your hand is in a boxing glove as well as absorbing moisture such as sweat.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Developing Offensive Punches\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practice punching on a bag to develop proper form.\", \"描述\": \"Whether shadow-boxing or using a speed bag or heavy bag, new boxers must concentrate on using proper form when unleashing a blow. Using proper form means that you’ll need to develop a good sense of balance so that you’re not thrown off balance by throwing a punch. Also, practice keeping your hands in front of your face and returning to this defensive position after throwing a punch.\\nBefore punching, keep your hands close to your face and your elbows tight against your body.\\nPut your weight into the punches you throw, and follow through with each punch. This will help you land punches effectively and accurately on your opponent’s head or torso.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Jab\", \"描述\": \"Jabbing is a basic punch which you’ll usually do with your weaker front hand. The jab is a short punch. To jab, drive your fist straight into your opponent’s face or torso.\\nTo maximize the effectiveness of the jab, professional boxers twist their arm and wrist just before making contact with their opponent.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Throw a cross punch to counter punch a jab.\", \"描述\": \"As opposed to a jab, which is thrown straight in front of the body, deliver a cross punch by jabbing your dominant hand in a slightly upward motion across your body. If your opponent throws a left jab at you, they’ll leave themself open for your right hook. Keep your weight on the balls of your feet, and aim your punch across your body towards the right side of your opponent’s torso or face.\\nUse the cross on its own to counter a jab, or put the jab and cross together for a 1-2 combo.\\nThe shoulder helps power the cross punch. Also pay attention to your feet when throwing a cross. As you throw the punch, move your body weight from your rear foot up to your front foot.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Throw a hook when you have time for a slower, powerful punch.\", \"描述\": \"The hook can be delivered to the head or body of the opponent. Lean your body to the side that you plan to hit from, and circle your arm around to punch the opponent in the unprotected side of their head or body. The hook is often used in combination with other punches. \\nThe hook’s sweeping delivery is its chief drawback, as it can leave you susceptible to a counterpunch. So, if you and your opponent are exchanging swift jabs back and forth, this isn’t the time to wind up for a hook.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Use an uppercut to seriously damage your opponent.\", \"描述\": \"The uppercut is an upward blow unleashed by either hand that is highly effective when in close quarters. Throw an uppercut when you’re close to your opponent’s body. To uppercut, lower your arm to about waist-height, then swing it upward in an explosive burst. Aim to his your opponent squarely on their chin.\\nDon’t try to throw an uppercut form more than 1 foot (0.30 m) away, or you may miss and leave yourself open to a counter-attack to your body.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Combine punches to hit an opponent multiple times in a row.\", \"描述\": \"After they become adept at delivering a variety of punches, fighters usually develop combinations, in which they release a devastating flurry of blows on their opponent. The first combination most boxers learn is the 1-2 combo (a jab followed by a cross). Try putting together different combos of your own. Rely on building combos around punches that you feel good throwing.\\nAnother effective combo adds a hook to the 1-2 combo. If you're right-handed, this would be a left jab followed by a right cross and ending with a left hook.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Picking up Defensive Moves\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn to take a punch to increase your longevity in the ring.\", \"描述\": \"Boxing isn't all about throwing punches. Minimizing your opponent's blows is a vital part of the game, too. To take a punch, relax your body and keep eye contact with your opponent. This will help you figure out where they are planning to land their next punch. If your opponent is aiming their punches for your body, tighten up your core muscles and absorb the punches.\\nDevelop an effective boxing defense by mixing together various methods of deflecting, blocking, and dodging your opponent’s punches.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Parry your opponent’s punches by knocking them away.\", \"描述\": \"After keeping your gloves up and chin down, the parry is probably the most basic defensive technique in boxing. To parry, hold your hands at the level of your face and, when your opponent throws a punch, move your hand to strike your opponent’s gloves and misdirect the punch.\\nYou’ll need to move fast to parry quick punches like jabs and crosses.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Slip\", \"描述\": \"The slip is performed by sharply rotating your hips and shoulders as your rival throws a punch aimed at your head. Also turn your chin sharply in the same direction that you’re turning your body. This will cause your opponent to miss their target (your head) altogether. It’s more difficult to slip punches directed at your body, since it presents a larger target. Instead, try to block blows aimed at your body.\\nSlipping a punch works best if your opponent throws a punch from at least 2 feet (0.61 m) away.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Block punches that your opponent throws at you.\", \"描述\": \"When blocking a punch, do not try moving your entire body out of the way to avoid the punch. Instead, absorb the impact with your gloves. Start with your gloves held defensively in front of your face, and move one or both gloves to defend an area of your body that your opponent is trying to punch.\\nBe aware that blocking punches will gradually tire out your hands, and may reduce the effectiveness of your punches.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Bob and weave\", \"描述\": \"The bob is executed by bending the legs to avoid a high blow (e.g., a hook to the head). Bobbing is almost like ducking, although you’ll keep your head up and your eyes on your opponent. Follow up the bob with a weave to evade your opponent. To weave, arch your body just out of range of your opponent's extended glove and straighten back up.\\nWhile the bob and the weave are technically separate defensive moves, they’re commonly paired together.\\nAfter weaving, strike out at your opponent with a jab.\\nTo get better at bobbing and weaving, do exercises that will improve your balance and your leg strength, like jump squats, sprinting, and skipping rope.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Roll your body to deflect your opponent’s punches.\", \"描述\": \"When you roll with punches, you won’t dodge them altogether. Instead, you’ll move your body away from your opponent’s glove to reduce the force of each punch. Press your gloves to your forehead, hold your elbows in against your body, and keep your chin against your chest. 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How to Box Out in Basketball
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1. Get close to the backboard when a player shoots.
This sets you up to box out an opposing player and get the rebound.
It doesn’t matter if you’re on offense or defense. Wait for the ball to be in the air on its way to the basket, then run and position yourself close to the backboard, anticipating the rebound.
Often, watching an opponent pass the ball with peripheral vision can be mistaken for a shot, particularly if it is a lob pass across the court.
Listen for your teammates yelling, "shot" in case someone takes a shot that you don’t see right away.
If you see a shot taken, yell "shot" yourself so others can hear you.
2. Position yourself between your opponent and the basket.
This allows you to anticipate the direction the rebound comes.
Get in front of the player you’re boxing out and face the net, keeping your body between your opponent and the basket. Get ready to think quickly and go for the ball when it bounces off the rim or backboard!
If you’re on defense and you are facing the player you’re guarding, make contact with your opponent’s chest using your forearm. Then, quickly turn your body to the opposite side of the arm you extended to back pivot into them and face the net.
3. Choose the opponent to box out based on your defense.
The player you box out can vary depending on what defense is being played.
If you’re playing man-to-man defense, box out whoever you are assigned to guard. Box out the closest person to you if you’re playing zone defense. Once you’re near the backboard after a shot, find the player and get ready to box them out.
If it’s clear that a teammate will not be able to box out their own man, and their man is closer to the basket than your man, move to box out the opponent closest to the basket instead.
If you're playing a high position in the zone, or closer to the top of the key, past the free throw line, try to select an opponent who is also above the key. If you're playing a low position, closer to the basket, try to find someone near you in the paint.
4. Get your hips low and keep your feet wide apart.
This lets you use your base and core to keep the opponent away.
Set your feet in a wide stance, preferably wider than your opponent’s. Squat down, stay balanced, and extend your buttocks slightly back towards the player you’re boxing out.
It’s okay to make contact with the player you’re guarding, just don’t aggressively shove them or anything like that or you might get a foul.
5. Spread your arms straight out at your sides.
Putting your arms out wide makes it harder to get around you.
Keep your arms up, but make sure not to wrap them around your opponent. Trying to hold the player you’re guarding in place is a foul.
Make sure to keep both your arms and legs spread wide to create a “box” that’s hard for the player you’re guarding to get around and go for the rebound from.
6. Push backwards with your butt.
This is the most effective way to get your opponent out of your zone.
Use your arms to feel which direction the player is trying to get around you in and move with them. Stay in front of the player and push backwards with your butt to push them away from the basket.
If you feel that the opponent is moving in one direction, try to push them the opposite way to counteract their movement.
Keep your wide stance and stay low as you move, using your body weight to keep the player you’re guarding from getting to the ball.
7. Watch the ball while you're boxing out.
Once you have your opponent boxed out, it’s time to go for the rebound.
Keep your eyes on the ball, anticipating where it’s going to go, and get ready to move in the direction of the rebound. Don’t wait for the ball to come to you, but rather be ready to release your box out position and jump for the ball.
Stopping your opponent’s momentum is often enough to keep them from attempting a rebound, and even if they try to keep going, you have an advantage of position.
8. Extend both arms completely and jump for the ball.
Now it’s time to get that rebound.
When the shot bounces off the basket in your direction, move into position where you think it’s coming and jump up to grab it with your arms fully extended. Try to meet the ball at the highest point of your jump and snatch the basketball firmly for a successful rebound.
As long as you time it right, it should be very difficult for the player you boxed out to get the rebound, even if they are taller than you.
9. Chin the ball.
”Chinning” is the most effective way to secure the ball after a rebound.
Do this by putting the ball underneath your chin and sticking your elbows out. Hold the ball tightly and refrain from dribbling for a second or two as many defenders will attempt to hit it out of your hands.
Don't swing your elbows, you don't want to commit a foul or hurt anyone, but bring them out as wide as possible to protect the ball.
10. Pivot away from the basket to the sideline and look to pass.
The heat’s on you now, so get rid of the ball to an open teammate.
Look to throw an outlet pass to a streaking player or to a guard located near the sidelines. Ideally, Look for your point-guard and pass them the ball if they’re open.
If you just got a defensive rebound and you are the point-guard, look up the court for an open teammate close to the basket. Otherwise, look to set up your offense.
If you’re a guard and you just got the defensive rebound, you can wait for the defenders to clear and dribble the ball up the court yourself.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Get close to the backboard when a player shoots.\\nThis sets you up to box out an opposing player and get the rebound.\\nIt doesn’t matter if you’re on offense or defense. Wait for the ball to be in the air on its way to the basket, then run and position yourself close to the backboard, anticipating the rebound.\\nOften, watching an opponent pass the ball with peripheral vision can be mistaken for a shot, particularly if it is a lob pass across the court.\\nListen for your teammates yelling, \\\"shot\\\" in case someone takes a shot that you don’t see right away.\\nIf you see a shot taken, yell \\\"shot\\\" yourself so others can hear you.\\n2. Position yourself between your opponent and the basket.\\nThis allows you to anticipate the direction the rebound comes.\\nGet in front of the player you’re boxing out and face the net, keeping your body between your opponent and the basket. Get ready to think quickly and go for the ball when it bounces off the rim or backboard!\\nIf you’re on defense and you are facing the player you’re guarding, make contact with your opponent’s chest using your forearm. Then, quickly turn your body to the opposite side of the arm you extended to back pivot into them and face the net.\\n3. Choose the opponent to box out based on your defense.\\nThe player you box out can vary depending on what defense is being played.\\nIf you’re playing man-to-man defense, box out whoever you are assigned to guard. Box out the closest person to you if you’re playing zone defense. Once you’re near the backboard after a shot, find the player and get ready to box them out.\\nIf it’s clear that a teammate will not be able to box out their own man, and their man is closer to the basket than your man, move to box out the opponent closest to the basket instead.\\nIf you're playing a high position in the zone, or closer to the top of the key, past the free throw line, try to select an opponent who is also above the key. If you're playing a low position, closer to the basket, try to find someone near you in the paint.\\n4. Get your hips low and keep your feet wide apart.\\nThis lets you use your base and core to keep the opponent away.\\nSet your feet in a wide stance, preferably wider than your opponent’s. Squat down, stay balanced, and extend your buttocks slightly back towards the player you’re boxing out.\\nIt’s okay to make contact with the player you’re guarding, just don’t aggressively shove them or anything like that or you might get a foul.\\n5. Spread your arms straight out at your sides.\\nPutting your arms out wide makes it harder to get around you.\\nKeep your arms up, but make sure not to wrap them around your opponent. Trying to hold the player you’re guarding in place is a foul.\\nMake sure to keep both your arms and legs spread wide to create a “box” that’s hard for the player you’re guarding to get around and go for the rebound from.\\n6. Push backwards with your butt.\\nThis is the most effective way to get your opponent out of your zone.\\nUse your arms to feel which direction the player is trying to get around you in and move with them. Stay in front of the player and push backwards with your butt to push them away from the basket.\\nIf you feel that the opponent is moving in one direction, try to push them the opposite way to counteract their movement.\\nKeep your wide stance and stay low as you move, using your body weight to keep the player you’re guarding from getting to the ball.\\n7. Watch the ball while you're boxing out.\\nOnce you have your opponent boxed out, it’s time to go for the rebound.\\nKeep your eyes on the ball, anticipating where it’s going to go, and get ready to move in the direction of the rebound. Don’t wait for the ball to come to you, but rather be ready to release your box out position and jump for the ball.\\nStopping your opponent’s momentum is often enough to keep them from attempting a rebound, and even if they try to keep going, you have an advantage of position.\\n8. Extend both arms completely and jump for the ball.\\nNow it’s time to get that rebound.\\nWhen the shot bounces off the basket in your direction, move into position where you think it’s coming and jump up to grab it with your arms fully extended. Try to meet the ball at the highest point of your jump and snatch the basketball firmly for a successful rebound.\\nAs long as you time it right, it should be very difficult for the player you boxed out to get the rebound, even if they are taller than you.\\n9. Chin the ball.\\n”Chinning” is the most effective way to secure the ball after a rebound.\\nDo this by putting the ball underneath your chin and sticking your elbows out. Hold the ball tightly and refrain from dribbling for a second or two as many defenders will attempt to hit it out of your hands.\\nDon't swing your elbows, you don't want to commit a foul or hurt anyone, but bring them out as wide as possible to protect the ball.\\n10. Pivot away from the basket to the sideline and look to pass.\\nThe heat’s on you now, so get rid of the ball to an open teammate.\\nLook to throw an outlet pass to a streaking player or to a guard located near the sidelines. Ideally, Look for your point-guard and pass them the ball if they’re open.\\nIf you just got a defensive rebound and you are the point-guard, look up the court for an open teammate close to the basket. Otherwise, look to set up your offense.\\nIf you’re a guard and you just got the defensive rebound, you can wait for the defenders to clear and dribble the ball up the court yourself.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Boxing out is a way to block an opposing player with your body to prevent them from getting a rebound. The technique is so effective, in fact, that a shorter player can out-rebound a taller player! Boxing out is an essential skill for every player on the floor, but it’s especially important if you’re a center or power forward, since your primary goal on missed shots is to rebound the ball. Check out this list of useful tips for mastering the powerful technique.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get close to the backboard when a player shoots.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"This sets you up to box out an opposing player and get the rebound.\", \"描述\": \"It doesn’t matter if you’re on offense or defense. Wait for the ball to be in the air on its way to the basket, then run and position yourself close to the backboard, anticipating the rebound.\\nOften, watching an opponent pass the ball with peripheral vision can be mistaken for a shot, particularly if it is a lob pass across the court.\\nListen for your teammates yelling, \\\"shot\\\" in case someone takes a shot that you don’t see right away.\\nIf you see a shot taken, yell \\\"shot\\\" yourself so others can hear you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Position yourself between your opponent and the basket.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"This allows you to anticipate the direction the rebound comes.\", \"描述\": \"Get in front of the player you’re boxing out and face the net, keeping your body between your opponent and the basket. Get ready to think quickly and go for the ball when it bounces off the rim or backboard!\\nIf you’re on defense and you are facing the player you’re guarding, make contact with your opponent’s chest using your forearm. Then, quickly turn your body to the opposite side of the arm you extended to back pivot into them and face the net.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Choose the opponent to box out based on your defense.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"The player you box out can vary depending on what defense is being played.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re playing man-to-man defense, box out whoever you are assigned to guard. Box out the closest person to you if you’re playing zone defense. Once you’re near the backboard after a shot, find the player and get ready to box them out.\\nIf it’s clear that a teammate will not be able to box out their own man, and their man is closer to the basket than your man, move to box out the opponent closest to the basket instead.\\nIf you're playing a high position in the zone, or closer to the top of the key, past the free throw line, try to select an opponent who is also above the key. If you're playing a low position, closer to the basket, try to find someone near you in the paint.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get your hips low and keep your feet wide apart.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"This lets you use your base and core to keep the opponent away.\", \"描述\": \"Set your feet in a wide stance, preferably wider than your opponent’s. Squat down, stay balanced, and extend your buttocks slightly back towards the player you’re boxing out.\\nIt’s okay to make contact with the player you’re guarding, just don’t aggressively shove them or anything like that or you might get a foul.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Spread your arms straight out at your sides.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Putting your arms out wide makes it harder to get around you.\", \"描述\": \"Keep your arms up, but make sure not to wrap them around your opponent. Trying to hold the player you’re guarding in place is a foul.\\nMake sure to keep both your arms and legs spread wide to create a “box” that’s hard for the player you’re guarding to get around and go for the rebound from.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Push backwards with your butt.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"This is the most effective way to get your opponent out of your zone.\", \"描述\": \"Use your arms to feel which direction the player is trying to get around you in and move with them. Stay in front of the player and push backwards with your butt to push them away from the basket.\\nIf you feel that the opponent is moving in one direction, try to push them the opposite way to counteract their movement.\\nKeep your wide stance and stay low as you move, using your body weight to keep the player you’re guarding from getting to the ball.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Watch the ball while you're boxing out.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Once you have your opponent boxed out, it’s time to go for the rebound.\", \"描述\": \"Keep your eyes on the ball, anticipating where it’s going to go, and get ready to move in the direction of the rebound. Don’t wait for the ball to come to you, but rather be ready to release your box out position and jump for the ball.\\nStopping your opponent’s momentum is often enough to keep them from attempting a rebound, and even if they try to keep going, you have an advantage of position.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Extend both arms completely and jump for the ball.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Now it’s time to get that rebound.\", \"描述\": \"When the shot bounces off the basket in your direction, move into position where you think it’s coming and jump up to grab it with your arms fully extended. Try to meet the ball at the highest point of your jump and snatch the basketball firmly for a successful rebound.\\nAs long as you time it right, it should be very difficult for the player you boxed out to get the rebound, even if they are taller than you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Chin the ball.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"”Chinning” is the most effective way to secure the ball after a rebound.\", \"描述\": \"Do this by putting the ball underneath your chin and sticking your elbows out. Hold the ball tightly and refrain from dribbling for a second or two as many defenders will attempt to hit it out of your hands.\\nDon't swing your elbows, you don't want to commit a foul or hurt anyone, but bring them out as wide as possible to protect the ball.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Pivot away from the basket to the sideline and look to pass.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"The heat’s on you now, so get rid of the ball to an open teammate.\", \"描述\": \"Look to throw an outlet pass to a streaking player or to a guard located near the sidelines. Ideally, Look for your point-guard and pass them the ball if they’re open.\\nIf you just got a defensive rebound and you are the point-guard, look up the court for an open teammate close to the basket. Otherwise, look to set up your offense.\\nIf you’re a guard and you just got the defensive rebound, you can wait for the defenders to clear and dribble the ball up the court yourself.\"}]}]}}",
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How to Box a Table
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1. Positioning the Cloth
1-1. Get the right size tablecloth.
Using a tablecloth that is the right size is important when boxing a table. A tablecloth that can't fully cover the table won't look quite right when finished. Make sure you measure your table and use a tablecloth that fits to get the best results.
The tablecloth will need to cover the table and reach the floor.
For example, a rectangular table that is 70" wide and 180" long will need a tablecloth that is 128" wide and 238" long.
1-2. Place the cloth over the table.
Before you can box a table, you'll need to place a tablecloth over it. You don't need to be exact just yet. Simply toss the table cloth over the table, covering the surface of the tabletop.
1-3. Even up the ends of the tablecloth.
Once the tablecloth has been placed over the table, you can begin to level the cloth out on each end. The tablecloth should cover the table evenly, with both ends of it having the same length of cloth covering them. Make sure that the edges of the tablecloth near the floor are hanging at an equal length.
Both ends of the table should have an equal length of cloth.
The lower edges of the tablecloth should either be touching or just above the floor.
1-4. Level the front side of the cloth.
The front side of the tablecloth is the side that guests will most likely noticed. For this reason, it is important that you make sure the front edge is level along its length. Neither side should be higher or lower than the other. Take a few moments to make sure the front, lower edge is level with the floor.
The front side of the cloth should barely touch the floor.
An unleveled front edge can make the rest of the table boxing unleveled in turn.
2. Beginning to Box the Table
2-1. Hold the front corner in place with your left hand.
Stand on one edge of the table and use your left hand to secure the left corner of the table cloth. It's recommend that you use your pointer and middle fingers to hold the cloth in place. Holding the table cloth at this point will help prevent the cloth from shifting and will keep the angles looking clean and sharp.
2-2. Lift the lower right corner up.
While holding the cloth in place with your left hand, reach down with your right hand and grab the lower corner of the tablecloth. Once you've got the lower right corner of the cloth in hand, you can start to bring it up and over the table top.
It may be helpful to hold the rest of the cloth in place with your thighs by standing against the table.
Pull the cloth tight in order to get a good, crisp line in the fabric.
Keep the corner of the table in a straight line, matching the edge of the table.
2-3. Bring the lower right corner up and across the table.
Move the lower right corner of the tablecloth up and over the table surface. You are going to bring this corner of the cloth to the center of the table's front edge. This action will allow you to create the crisp lines and folds needed when boxing a table.
The corner should end in the front and center of the table top.
Don't worry if it looks messy at this point. There is still time to fix the tablecloth.
Make sure the cloth was pulled tightly to ensure a clean fold.
2-4. Adjust the side of the tablecloth.
Before you continue to box the table, it's a good idea to make adjustments to the side of the tablecloth. If it's crooked or unleveled, it will still be this way when you are finished. Take a moment to adjust the side of the tablecloth you started on.
The bottom of the tablecloth should be level with the floor.
Try to have the bottom edge of the tablecloth touching or placed just above the floor.
3. Finishing the Technique
3-1. Hold the top-right corner and adjust the top.
Go around to the back of the table now and hold the corner you lifted up in place. From here, you can begin adjusting the cloth on the top of the table, removing wrinkles, unwanted folds, and generally making it lay as flat as possible. Keep one hand in place, holding the table cloth, to prevent the tablecloth from falling down and ruining your work.
Try gently waving the top section of cloth to work out folds or wrinkles.
Pull the cloth slightly to fix areas where the cloth bunched up.
Remember to keep the lower sides of the tablecloth level with the ground.
3-2. Bring the side back down.
Once the top of the cloth is folded and flat, you can bring the top fold back down. Take the corner you originally placed at the top-center edge of the table, lift it up, and fold it down to the right hand corner. This is the last fold you will need to do when boxing this side of the table.
It's a good idea to hold the right corner of the tablecloth in place while you fold the top over to meet it.
Don't worry if the edge doesn't line up, you can still make adjustments.
3-3. Make final adjustments.
Now that table boxing is complete, you can make your final adjustments. You'll want to make sure that the edge of the tablecloth lines up with the edge of the table. Remove any wrinkles, bumps, or unwanted folds if you notice any. The tablecloth should lay completely flat when you have finished.
3-4. Do the other side of the table.
Now that you have completed the fold on one side of the table, you can move on to the opposite end. Both sides should be folded in the same exact way to give the tablecloth a symmetrical and clean finished look. Follow the same steps on the opposite end of the table to box the table.
Tips
Make sure the cloth is flat, level, and smooth at every step.
Hold the corner opposite of the one you are working with in place.
You can use the same technique on either end of the table.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Positioning the Cloth\\n1-1. Get the right size tablecloth.\\nUsing a tablecloth that is the right size is important when boxing a table. A tablecloth that can't fully cover the table won't look quite right when finished. Make sure you measure your table and use a tablecloth that fits to get the best results.\\nThe tablecloth will need to cover the table and reach the floor.\\nFor example, a rectangular table that is 70\\\" wide and 180\\\" long will need a tablecloth that is 128\\\" wide and 238\\\" long.\\n1-2. Place the cloth over the table.\\nBefore you can box a table, you'll need to place a tablecloth over it. You don't need to be exact just yet. Simply toss the table cloth over the table, covering the surface of the tabletop.\\n1-3. Even up the ends of the tablecloth.\\nOnce the tablecloth has been placed over the table, you can begin to level the cloth out on each end. The tablecloth should cover the table evenly, with both ends of it having the same length of cloth covering them. Make sure that the edges of the tablecloth near the floor are hanging at an equal length.\\nBoth ends of the table should have an equal length of cloth.\\nThe lower edges of the tablecloth should either be touching or just above the floor.\\n1-4. Level the front side of the cloth.\\nThe front side of the tablecloth is the side that guests will most likely noticed. For this reason, it is important that you make sure the front edge is level along its length. Neither side should be higher or lower than the other. Take a few moments to make sure the front, lower edge is level with the floor.\\nThe front side of the cloth should barely touch the floor.\\nAn unleveled front edge can make the rest of the table boxing unleveled in turn.\\n2. Beginning to Box the Table\\n2-1. Hold the front corner in place with your left hand.\\nStand on one edge of the table and use your left hand to secure the left corner of the table cloth. It's recommend that you use your pointer and middle fingers to hold the cloth in place. Holding the table cloth at this point will help prevent the cloth from shifting and will keep the angles looking clean and sharp.\\n2-2. Lift the lower right corner up.\\nWhile holding the cloth in place with your left hand, reach down with your right hand and grab the lower corner of the tablecloth. Once you've got the lower right corner of the cloth in hand, you can start to bring it up and over the table top.\\nIt may be helpful to hold the rest of the cloth in place with your thighs by standing against the table.\\nPull the cloth tight in order to get a good, crisp line in the fabric.\\nKeep the corner of the table in a straight line, matching the edge of the table.\\n2-3. Bring the lower right corner up and across the table.\\nMove the lower right corner of the tablecloth up and over the table surface. You are going to bring this corner of the cloth to the center of the table's front edge. This action will allow you to create the crisp lines and folds needed when boxing a table.\\nThe corner should end in the front and center of the table top.\\nDon't worry if it looks messy at this point. There is still time to fix the tablecloth.\\nMake sure the cloth was pulled tightly to ensure a clean fold.\\n2-4. Adjust the side of the tablecloth.\\nBefore you continue to box the table, it's a good idea to make adjustments to the side of the tablecloth. If it's crooked or unleveled, it will still be this way when you are finished. Take a moment to adjust the side of the tablecloth you started on.\\nThe bottom of the tablecloth should be level with the floor.\\nTry to have the bottom edge of the tablecloth touching or placed just above the floor.\\n3. Finishing the Technique\\n3-1. Hold the top-right corner and adjust the top.\\nGo around to the back of the table now and hold the corner you lifted up in place. From here, you can begin adjusting the cloth on the top of the table, removing wrinkles, unwanted folds, and generally making it lay as flat as possible. Keep one hand in place, holding the table cloth, to prevent the tablecloth from falling down and ruining your work.\\nTry gently waving the top section of cloth to work out folds or wrinkles.\\nPull the cloth slightly to fix areas where the cloth bunched up.\\nRemember to keep the lower sides of the tablecloth level with the ground.\\n3-2. Bring the side back down.\\nOnce the top of the cloth is folded and flat, you can bring the top fold back down. Take the corner you originally placed at the top-center edge of the table, lift it up, and fold it down to the right hand corner. This is the last fold you will need to do when boxing this side of the table.\\nIt's a good idea to hold the right corner of the tablecloth in place while you fold the top over to meet it.\\nDon't worry if the edge doesn't line up, you can still make adjustments.\\n3-3. Make final adjustments.\\nNow that table boxing is complete, you can make your final adjustments. You'll want to make sure that the edge of the tablecloth lines up with the edge of the table. Remove any wrinkles, bumps, or unwanted folds if you notice any. The tablecloth should lay completely flat when you have finished.\\n3-4. Do the other side of the table.\\nNow that you have completed the fold on one side of the table, you can move on to the opposite end. Both sides should be folded in the same exact way to give the tablecloth a symmetrical and clean finished look. Follow the same steps on the opposite end of the table to box the table.\\nTips\\nMake sure the cloth is flat, level, and smooth at every step.\\nHold the corner opposite of the one you are working with in place.\\nYou can use the same technique on either end of the table.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Boxing a table can be a great way to make any table look great and can be a good idea for any banquet or catered event. The only thing you will need to know is how to correctly fold and level the tablecloth. Try practicing your table boxing skills to get the technique down and make your tables look crisp, clean, and professionally set.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Positioning the Cloth\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get the right size tablecloth.\", \"描述\": \"Using a tablecloth that is the right size is important when boxing a table. A tablecloth that can't fully cover the table won't look quite right when finished. Make sure you measure your table and use a tablecloth that fits to get the best results.\\nThe tablecloth will need to cover the table and reach the floor.\\nFor example, a rectangular table that is 70\\\" wide and 180\\\" long will need a tablecloth that is 128\\\" wide and 238\\\" long.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Place the cloth over the table.\", \"描述\": \"Before you can box a table, you'll need to place a tablecloth over it. You don't need to be exact just yet. Simply toss the table cloth over the table, covering the surface of the tabletop.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Even up the ends of the tablecloth.\", \"描述\": \"Once the tablecloth has been placed over the table, you can begin to level the cloth out on each end. The tablecloth should cover the table evenly, with both ends of it having the same length of cloth covering them. Make sure that the edges of the tablecloth near the floor are hanging at an equal length.\\nBoth ends of the table should have an equal length of cloth.\\nThe lower edges of the tablecloth should either be touching or just above the floor.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Level the front side of the cloth.\", \"描述\": \"The front side of the tablecloth is the side that guests will most likely noticed. For this reason, it is important that you make sure the front edge is level along its length. Neither side should be higher or lower than the other. Take a few moments to make sure the front, lower edge is level with the floor.\\nThe front side of the cloth should barely touch the floor.\\nAn unleveled front edge can make the rest of the table boxing unleveled in turn.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Beginning to Box the Table\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Hold the front corner in place with your left hand.\", \"描述\": \"Stand on one edge of the table and use your left hand to secure the left corner of the table cloth. It's recommend that you use your pointer and middle fingers to hold the cloth in place. Holding the table cloth at this point will help prevent the cloth from shifting and will keep the angles looking clean and sharp.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Lift the lower right corner up.\", \"描述\": \"While holding the cloth in place with your left hand, reach down with your right hand and grab the lower corner of the tablecloth. Once you've got the lower right corner of the cloth in hand, you can start to bring it up and over the table top.\\nIt may be helpful to hold the rest of the cloth in place with your thighs by standing against the table.\\nPull the cloth tight in order to get a good, crisp line in the fabric.\\nKeep the corner of the table in a straight line, matching the edge of the table.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Bring the lower right corner up and across the table.\", \"描述\": \"Move the lower right corner of the tablecloth up and over the table surface. You are going to bring this corner of the cloth to the center of the table's front edge. This action will allow you to create the crisp lines and folds needed when boxing a table.\\nThe corner should end in the front and center of the table top.\\nDon't worry if it looks messy at this point. There is still time to fix the tablecloth.\\nMake sure the cloth was pulled tightly to ensure a clean fold.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Adjust the side of the tablecloth.\", \"描述\": \"Before you continue to box the table, it's a good idea to make adjustments to the side of the tablecloth. If it's crooked or unleveled, it will still be this way when you are finished. Take a moment to adjust the side of the tablecloth you started on.\\nThe bottom of the tablecloth should be level with the floor.\\nTry to have the bottom edge of the tablecloth touching or placed just above the floor.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Finishing the Technique\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Hold the top-right corner and adjust the top.\", \"描述\": \"Go around to the back of the table now and hold the corner you lifted up in place. From here, you can begin adjusting the cloth on the top of the table, removing wrinkles, unwanted folds, and generally making it lay as flat as possible. Keep one hand in place, holding the table cloth, to prevent the tablecloth from falling down and ruining your work.\\nTry gently waving the top section of cloth to work out folds or wrinkles.\\nPull the cloth slightly to fix areas where the cloth bunched up.\\nRemember to keep the lower sides of the tablecloth level with the ground.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Bring the side back down.\", \"描述\": \"Once the top of the cloth is folded and flat, you can bring the top fold back down. Take the corner you originally placed at the top-center edge of the table, lift it up, and fold it down to the right hand corner. This is the last fold you will need to do when boxing this side of the table.\\nIt's a good idea to hold the right corner of the tablecloth in place while you fold the top over to meet it.\\nDon't worry if the edge doesn't line up, you can still make adjustments.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make final adjustments.\", \"描述\": \"Now that table boxing is complete, you can make your final adjustments. You'll want to make sure that the edge of the tablecloth lines up with the edge of the table. Remove any wrinkles, bumps, or unwanted folds if you notice any. The tablecloth should lay completely flat when you have finished.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Do the other side of the table.\", \"描述\": \"Now that you have completed the fold on one side of the table, you can move on to the opposite end. Both sides should be folded in the same exact way to give the tablecloth a symmetrical and clean finished look. Follow the same steps on the opposite end of the table to box the table.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Make sure the cloth is flat, level, and smooth at every step.\\n\", \"Hold the corner opposite of the one you are working with in place.\\n\", \"You can use the same technique on either end of the table.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Hold Hands With Your Girl/Boy Friend
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1. Steps
1-1. Know if he is not ready.
If you are out to dinner, and he is across from you, you can reach for his hand over or under the table. If he pulls away, stop, he is not ready! You never want to push your partner into doing something they don't want to do. If you pressure him, he may feel awkward and break up with you. If you are sitting next to each other, you can easily hold his hand, without stretching your arms out. If you are watching a movie, or a play, he may put his arm around you. If so you can reach your arm out and rub his hand (the one on your shoulder, or his free one). He may bring his hand up, and you can lock fingers.
If he does pull away or seems uncomfortable with holding hands, STOP, and whatever you do, don't seem offended. If you do, he may feel like you are mad at him because of his opinion and that is not a good situation. You may apologize, or just slightly nod, and show you understand.
1-2. Put your hand near theirs.
This works well if you are sitting or walking next to each other, but make sure their hand is at their side. Hold your hand very close to theirs, even maybe touching a bit, but look straight ahead. Don't freak out or stare down at your hands.
1-3. Move your hand even closer, and soon, very slowly put your hand in theirs.
Try brushing your hand against theirs. Say that you want to compare your skin tones. This is a great way to get closer to holding their hand. Close it around their hand. This would be a good time to look up at them. If they just stare at you, smile. If they pull away, just quit all together. They are just not ready to do this yet.
Holding their hands and looking into their eyes can create a nice tension, which is perfect for a first kiss.
1-4. Watch for signals.
If your significant other seems to be enjoying themself, holding hands with you, this is good. They are comfortable with this, and if you think you are ready, intertwine your fingers in theirs. They will eat this up!
If your partner doesn't seem interested in holding hands, it doesn't hurt to ask what's the matter. It's possible that they're simply nervous or sweating too much.
1-5. Proceed at the right pace!
You are holding hands with your cutie! Yay! If they don't like it, don't worry! They are nervous and just not ready! If they pull away, do not try to hold hands with them again that day!
1-6. Move on to hugs, more touching, and maybe a little kissing!
This is a slower process. Do not move into this too fast. If you do, they will think that you are a creep and will make fun of you behind your back.
1-7. Be understanding!
It's okay if they either jerk away, or look down. Everyone has their own speed. If you freak out they will understand. But just keep trying different days until they are ready. If you don't feel comfortable, you are okay! Holding hands isn't the most thing to do in a relationship.
Tips
Don't freak out. Remain calm.
Just stay calm and try not to be uncomfortable.
Put lotion on your hands because sometimes your hands can be ashy; nobody wants to hold an ashy hand.
Warnings
This could possibly ruin a relationship if tried too early in a relationship, but typically not.
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How to Boycott Autism Speaks
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1. Doing Your Research
1-1. Consider your mental health.
Information about Autism Speaks' history is deeply disturbing. If you have disabilities such as anxiety, depression, PTSD, or other mental health conditions, reading about AS may trigger a downward spiral. If you are prone to this, proceed with caution.
Autistic people with self-esteem issues should especially be mindful. Reading what Autism Speaks has to say may worsen your self-image.
Have a self care plan in case your mental health issues are triggered. This could be a warm bath, a good book, time with a loved one, making art, or something else. Do not research right before bedtime.
1-2. Be mindful of search engine results.
Autism Speaks is a very large and influential group, so it and its supporters may dominate the first pages of search results. You need to know where to look in order to find more critical opinions.
When searching "Autism Speaks," add keywords such as "controversy," "bad," "eugenics," or "ASAN" (an organization that has written about Autism Speaks). It might also be worth noting that boycotters of Autism Speaks sometimes refer to it as 'Autism $peaks', with a dollar sign replacing the S.
1-3. Place autistic voices first.
Autistic people have a personal stake in their futures, their needs, and how they are treated by others. Make sure that your research includes people of all ability levels, from the independent people to those who need round-the-clock support, and everyone in between.
Read from autistic people like John Elder Robison, Lydia Brown, Ari Ne'eman of ASAN, and more.
1-4. Consider parent and ally perspectives as well.
Many non-autistic people are also concerned about the rhetoric and motives of AS. Their thoughts are also worth listening to.
Read from Ariane Zurcher, Emily Willingham, Deanne Shoyer, Steve Silberman, Jess from Diary of a Mom, and others.
Some people, such as Carol Greenburg, are autistic parents of autistic children.
1-5. Read what Autism Speaks itself has said and done.
AS' rhetoric can give you a better sense of its attitude towards autism. Take your mental health into account.
Watch the video "I Am Autism," or read the transcript. This video has a voice-over, calling itself autism, describing how it will destroy parents' lives.
Read the wording of the militant Call to Action, a letter that resulted in several resignations.
Watch or read about the documentary "Autism Every Day." This video includes a scene of an autistic girl's mother talking about how she contemplated killing her, as her upset daughter listens.
Consider its response to murder, which is often portrayed as a tragic but understandable result of lack of services.
1-6. Check the math and science.
Autism Speaks is known for spreading misinformation, especially in past years, despite evidence disproving their claims. Compare things that Autism Speaks has said to the actual numbers and research.
Autism Speaks entertained and gave credibility to anti-vaccination beliefs for a long time, long after evidence was clear that vaccines aren't linked to autism.
Autism Speaks claimed that having an autistic child causes divorce and likely spread the myth that 80% of parents who have autistic kids get a divorce. But research shows no real difference in family separations.
A petition was called to investigate Autism Speaks for fraud after people described inconsistencies about its financial claims.
1-7. Be mindful of trigger warnings on articles.
Some articles are more detailed and intense than others. Some discuss severe ableism, child abuse, torture, murder, murder sympathizers, eugenics, and other disturbing content. If you are a sensitive person, pause and consider whether you are able to handle it at the moment.
Autism Speaks does not use trigger warnings on its own disturbing materials. Be cautious if you visit the site or read about what it says.
The Judge Rotenberg Center, other abuses in ABA therapy, and restraint/seclusion may be especially upsetting. You may wish to avoid these subjects.
2. Boycotting Autism Speaks
2-1. Keep Autism Speaks media away from the children and autistic people in your family.
If the TV or radio has an ad or episode about the group, turn it off. Keep blue puzzle pieces out. Avoid showing or telling them the worst of what you've learned about AS. This can help keep them from absorbing attitudes from it.
If they ask, give an age-appropriate explanation. For example, "That's a group that bullies people, so I don't want to watch that ad, because it's not true."
Teens or adults may wish to get involved. If they're autistic, consider whether their self-esteem is strong enough. Supervise their participation if you have concerns about them being exposed to something too disturbing.
Be especially cautious during April, when AS is the most active. This month can be hard on autistic people.
2-2. Refuse to participate in any events that benefit Autism Speaks.
This includes "light it up blue," many autism walks, and many "autism awareness" events. Research an event before deciding to participate, to make sure that you are supporting a good cause.
As a shortcut, puzzle pieces and the color blue often suggest connections to Autism Speaks. This is not a perfect rule, just a red flag.
2-3. Protest at Autism Speaks events if you are able.
It is common for autistics, parents, and allies to protest at AS walks. You can make signs, write with chalk, and encourage people to learn about autism in a less stigmatizing way.
Protesting at these events is not for the faint of heart, because autistic people are not always treated well. Some AS supporters speak very aggressively, and sometimes, they throw food. Bring a support person if needed.
If you would be too stressed to show up, try making posters, or writing accepting messages in chalk before the event begins.
2-4. Consider boycotting and writing to companies that support Autism Speaks.
While AS is known for not listening, companies are different, and some (like Build A Bear) have withdrawn support after community outcry.
A list of companies supporting AS is available online.
2-5. Visit the official site of the boycott movement.
There is a Boycott Autism Speaks website, in addition to various social media accounts. While you do not need to become officially involved, it may help you keep up to date with the news, if you'd like.
3. Supporting Autism Acceptance
3-1. Find organizations
These organizations will be run or co-run by autistic people, and have autistics at all levels of the organization. Here are some basic guidelines for a good autism organization:
Meaningful autistic leadership (not just tokenism)
Goal of support, not eradication
Includes support for autistics of all ages (not just children)
Unambiguous support for human rights; against abusive therapy and murder
Fights stigma; does not exploit fear for profit
3-2. Learn about the neurodiversity and autistic rights movements.
Autistic people such as Jim Sinclair have been advocating since before the turn of the century. In order to support autistic people, it's important to learn what many of them have to say.
Neurotribes by Steve Silberman offers a detailed history of autism.
The social model of disability presents a more inclusion-based, accepting view of disability.
3-3. Celebrate Autism Acceptance Month in April.
This month focuses on social support, accommodation, and respect towards autistic people, and is distinct from Autism Speaks' fear-based campaign.
Wear #REDinstead for autism acceptance.
Share messages from autistic people online.
Post on social media about autism acceptance and neurodiversity.
3-4. Observe the Disability Day of Mourning on March 1.
This day commemorates the disabled people, including many autistic people, killed by their caregivers. Many disabled people fight back against the rhetoric that murder is understandable because disability is such a burden.
This day reminds people why acceptance, support, and inclusion are so important.
3-5. Teach people about autism in an autistic-friendly manner.
Help spread accurate and compassionate information. Instead of saying autistic people are broken, say that they need extra support. Instead of saying they are burdens, say that they have unique skills, and that every person is lovable and important.
Try sharing information like helping someone with sensory overload or handling someone's stimming. WikiHow articles may be useful to distribute.
Encourage autistic people and their loved ones to reach out to the Autistic community for help.
Try making a list of autism resources, to hand out to people who need it. Consider the Autism Acceptance Month website (which has a resource list), the Thinking Person's Guide to Autism, wikiHow, and other sites.
3-6. Support policies that empower autistic people.
This includes enabling self-determination, fighting abusive therapies, providing resources for every stage of life, and pushing for the inclusion of autistic people in committees about autism.
Join or organize letter-writing and email campaigns.
Create and sign petitions.
Signal boost articles describing the policies.
Encourage others to get involved.
3-7. Collaborate with autistic adults and other advocates.
They can help you find events to participate in, and guide you towards good organizations and good people.
Consider the hashtags #AskAnAutistic (where autistic people can answer your questions) and #ActuallyAutistic (where autistics may post, and non-autistics may read).
3-8. Support the autistic people
Be patient and accommodating towards their needs. Remind them of their capabilities, and help them feel confident and strong. Look for ways for them to adapt and shine.
3-9. Educate others about Autism Speaks.
Encourage them to join more positive campaigns. People might get involved with AS without knowing the details of what it says and does.
You could use a script like "That's a scam" or "That's run by a group that harms autistic people. Would you like to participate in _______ instead?"
Praise their willingness to help, and encourage them to participate in a group alongside autistic people (instead of despite their protests).
4. Working Well
4-1. Assume ignorance before malice.
People might share links to Autism Speaks articles, donate money, or participate in walks, without knowing exactly what they are supporting.
4-2. Stay as polite and considerate as possible.
Assume the best of people, and "take the high road" by keeping on your best behavior, even if they are not. Good manners are not required on or off the internet, but they are nice.
If you're too angry to do this, step away. Let someone with more patience or spoons handle it, or deal with it later once you feel ready.
Be polite and firm with mean people. For example, "Leave my friend alone," "You are creating an unsafe space and you need to leave," or "It is not okay to talk to people that way. Everyone has worth."
If you don't know how to deal with a mean person, ask a trusted person for help.
4-3. Know when to walk away.
It's very difficult to speak rationally and be nice to a person who is determined to be awful. Manipulation, intimidation, yelling, et cetera, are not okay. If someone is making you feel terrible, stop talking to them.
Learn how to block people on social media. You can block someone for any reason you want.
Use scripts like "I need some air," "This conversation is bad for my mental health, so I'm ending it," "Don't talk to me anymore," or "You've violated this site's comment policy, and if you don't stop it, you will be banned."
Remember, if someone is determined not to change their mind, you talking to them won't help anyone. You're just wasting energy that could be used productively.
4-4. Deal with difficult emotions.
People may say very mean and upsetting things to you. They might try to argue that things like murder, abuse, eugenics, etc. really aren't that bad. They might treat you, and others, like dirt. It's normal and okay to get upset about this. Treat your feelings as real and valid.
Walk away if you get too upset. You can always come back at a calmer time.
Talk to someone you trust if you become overwhelmed by bad feelings. Don't bottle it up.
4-5. Take breaks as needed.
You do not have to keep pushing if you feel frustrated or about to cry. Place your mental health first. Step away to talk to a loved one, snuggle with a pet, or take a walk in the sunshine. Or, spend time in a safe space or more protected community (e.g., an autism acceptance blog).
Ignoring your feelings won't help anyone. An over-stressed, overworked activist is not a very effective one.
4-6. Support those around you, especially the autistic people who need it.
Collaborate on projects, and encourage them to look after their mental health. If you see an autistic person feeling bad about themselves, say a few encouraging words or drop them a kind note. Boycotting Autism Speaks is a movement focused on supporting autistics. Reach out, accept them as they are, and show them that you care.
Autistic advocates may have trouble reading their own emotions. If you noticed that they are becoming over-stressed with activism, gently suggest a break to stim or do something fun.
Look out for the autistic people in your life, at all ages. Even if young children are kept away from Autism Speaks, they may still absorb negative attitudes about autism from the people around them. Remind them that you love and value them.
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This video has a voice-over, calling itself autism, describing how it will destroy parents' lives.\\nRead the wording of the militant Call to Action, a letter that resulted in several resignations.\\nWatch or read about the documentary \\\"Autism Every Day.\\\" This video includes a scene of an autistic girl's mother talking about how she contemplated killing her, as her upset daughter listens.\\nConsider its response to murder, which is often portrayed as a tragic but understandable result of lack of services.\\n1-6. Check the math and science.\\nAutism Speaks is known for spreading misinformation, especially in past years, despite evidence disproving their claims. 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Be cautious if you visit the site or read about what it says.\\nThe Judge Rotenberg Center, other abuses in ABA therapy, and restraint/seclusion may be especially upsetting. You may wish to avoid these subjects.\\n2. Boycotting Autism Speaks\\n2-1. Keep Autism Speaks media away from the children and autistic people in your family.\\nIf the TV or radio has an ad or episode about the group, turn it off. Keep blue puzzle pieces out. Avoid showing or telling them the worst of what you've learned about AS. This can help keep them from absorbing attitudes from it. \\nIf they ask, give an age-appropriate explanation. For example, \\\"That's a group that bullies people, so I don't want to watch that ad, because it's not true.\\\"\\nTeens or adults may wish to get involved. If they're autistic, consider whether their self-esteem is strong enough. Supervise their participation if you have concerns about them being exposed to something too disturbing.\\nBe especially cautious during April, when AS is the most active. This month can be hard on autistic people.\\n2-2. Refuse to participate in any events that benefit Autism Speaks.\\nThis includes \\\"light it up blue,\\\" many autism walks, and many \\\"autism awareness\\\" events. Research an event before deciding to participate, to make sure that you are supporting a good cause. \\nAs a shortcut, puzzle pieces and the color blue often suggest connections to Autism Speaks. This is not a perfect rule, just a red flag.\\n2-3. Protest at Autism Speaks events if you are able.\\nIt is common for autistics, parents, and allies to protest at AS walks. You can make signs, write with chalk, and encourage people to learn about autism in a less stigmatizing way. \\nProtesting at these events is not for the faint of heart, because autistic people are not always treated well. 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Celebrate Autism Acceptance Month in April.\\nThis month focuses on social support, accommodation, and respect towards autistic people, and is distinct from Autism Speaks' fear-based campaign. \\nWear #REDinstead for autism acceptance.\\nShare messages from autistic people online.\\nPost on social media about autism acceptance and neurodiversity.\\n3-4. Observe the Disability Day of Mourning on March 1.\\nThis day commemorates the disabled people, including many autistic people, killed by their caregivers. Many disabled people fight back against the rhetoric that murder is understandable because disability is such a burden.\\nThis day reminds people why acceptance, support, and inclusion are so important.\\n3-5. Teach people about autism in an autistic-friendly manner.\\nHelp spread accurate and compassionate information. Instead of saying autistic people are broken, say that they need extra support. Instead of saying they are burdens, say that they have unique skills, and that every person is lovable and important. \\nTry sharing information like helping someone with sensory overload or handling someone's stimming. WikiHow articles may be useful to distribute.\\nEncourage autistic people and their loved ones to reach out to the Autistic community for help.\\nTry making a list of autism resources, to hand out to people who need it. Consider the Autism Acceptance Month website (which has a resource list), the Thinking Person's Guide to Autism, wikiHow, and other sites.\\n3-6. Support policies that empower autistic people.\\nThis includes enabling self-determination, fighting abusive therapies, providing resources for every stage of life, and pushing for the inclusion of autistic people in committees about autism. \\nJoin or organize letter-writing and email campaigns.\\nCreate and sign petitions.\\nSignal boost articles describing the policies.\\nEncourage others to get involved.\\n3-7. Collaborate with autistic adults and other advocates.\\nThey can help you find events to participate in, and guide you towards good organizations and good people. \\nConsider the hashtags #AskAnAutistic (where autistic people can answer your questions) and #ActuallyAutistic (where autistics may post, and non-autistics may read).\\n3-8. Support the autistic people\\nBe patient and accommodating towards their needs. Remind them of their capabilities, and help them feel confident and strong. Look for ways for them to adapt and shine.\\n3-9. Educate others about Autism Speaks.\\nEncourage them to join more positive campaigns. People might get involved with AS without knowing the details of what it says and does. \\nYou could use a script like \\\"That's a scam\\\" or \\\"That's run by a group that harms autistic people. Would you like to participate in _______ instead?\\\"\\nPraise their willingness to help, and encourage them to participate in a group alongside autistic people (instead of despite their protests).\\n4. Working Well\\n4-1. Assume ignorance before malice.\\nPeople might share links to Autism Speaks articles, donate money, or participate in walks, without knowing exactly what they are supporting.\\n4-2. Stay as polite and considerate as possible.\\nAssume the best of people, and \\\"take the high road\\\" by keeping on your best behavior, even if they are not. Good manners are not required on or off the internet, but they are nice. \\nIf you're too angry to do this, step away. Let someone with more patience or spoons handle it, or deal with it later once you feel ready.\\nBe polite and firm with mean people. For example, \\\"Leave my friend alone,\\\" \\\"You are creating an unsafe space and you need to leave,\\\" or \\\"It is not okay to talk to people that way. Everyone has worth.\\\"\\nIf you don't know how to deal with a mean person, ask a trusted person for help.\\n4-3. Know when to walk away.\\nIt's very difficult to speak rationally and be nice to a person who is determined to be awful. Manipulation, intimidation, yelling, et cetera, are not okay. If someone is making you feel terrible, stop talking to them. \\nLearn how to block people on social media. You can block someone for any reason you want.\\nUse scripts like \\\"I need some air,\\\" \\\"This conversation is bad for my mental health, so I'm ending it,\\\" \\\"Don't talk to me anymore,\\\" or \\\"You've violated this site's comment policy, and if you don't stop it, you will be banned.\\\"\\nRemember, if someone is determined not to change their mind, you talking to them won't help anyone. You're just wasting energy that could be used productively.\\n4-4. Deal with difficult emotions.\\nPeople may say very mean and upsetting things to you. They might try to argue that things like murder, abuse, eugenics, etc. really aren't that bad. They might treat you, and others, like dirt. It's normal and okay to get upset about this. Treat your feelings as real and valid. \\nWalk away if you get too upset. You can always come back at a calmer time.\\nTalk to someone you trust if you become overwhelmed by bad feelings. Don't bottle it up.\\n4-5. Take breaks as needed.\\nYou do not have to keep pushing if you feel frustrated or about to cry. Place your mental health first. Step away to talk to a loved one, snuggle with a pet, or take a walk in the sunshine. Or, spend time in a safe space or more protected community (e.g., an autism acceptance blog). \\nIgnoring your feelings won't help anyone. An over-stressed, overworked activist is not a very effective one.\\n4-6. Support those around you, especially the autistic people who need it.\\nCollaborate on projects, and encourage them to look after their mental health. If you see an autistic person feeling bad about themselves, say a few encouraging words or drop them a kind note. Boycotting Autism Speaks is a movement focused on supporting autistics. Reach out, accept them as they are, and show them that you care. \\nAutistic advocates may have trouble reading their own emotions. If you noticed that they are becoming over-stressed with activism, gently suggest a break to stim or do something fun.\\nLook out for the autistic people in your life, at all ages. Even if young children are kept away from Autism Speaks, they may still absorb negative attitudes about autism from the people around them. Remind them that you love and value them.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Autism Speaks (abbreviated to AS or sometimes A$) is a highly controversial organization, run by non-autistic people, that seeks to eliminate autism. Its goals and rhetoric have resulted in protests, led by autistic people, and many of their loved ones and allies. Here is how to do your research and speak out to help autistic people everywhere.\\n\\nThis article discusses some disturbing material, particularly in the section \\\"Doing Your Research.\\\" Skip this section if needed.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Doing Your Research\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Consider your mental health.\", \"描述\": \"Information about Autism Speaks' history is deeply disturbing. If you have disabilities such as anxiety, depression, PTSD, or other mental health conditions, reading about AS may trigger a downward spiral. If you are prone to this, proceed with caution. \\nAutistic people with self-esteem issues should especially be mindful. Reading what Autism Speaks has to say may worsen your self-image.\\nHave a self care plan in case your mental health issues are triggered. This could be a warm bath, a good book, time with a loved one, making art, or something else. Do not research right before bedtime.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be mindful of search engine results.\", \"描述\": \"Autism Speaks is a very large and influential group, so it and its supporters may dominate the first pages of search results. You need to know where to look in order to find more critical opinions. \\nWhen searching \\\"Autism Speaks,\\\" add keywords such as \\\"controversy,\\\" \\\"bad,\\\" \\\"eugenics,\\\" or \\\"ASAN\\\" (an organization that has written about Autism Speaks). It might also be worth noting that boycotters of Autism Speaks sometimes refer to it as 'Autism $peaks', with a dollar sign replacing the S.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Place autistic voices first.\", \"描述\": \"Autistic people have a personal stake in their futures, their needs, and how they are treated by others. Make sure that your research includes people of all ability levels, from the independent people to those who need round-the-clock support, and everyone in between. \\nRead from autistic people like John Elder Robison, Lydia Brown, Ari Ne'eman of ASAN, and more.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Consider parent and ally perspectives as well.\", \"描述\": \"Many non-autistic people are also concerned about the rhetoric and motives of AS. Their thoughts are also worth listening to. \\nRead from Ariane Zurcher, Emily Willingham, Deanne Shoyer, Steve Silberman, Jess from Diary of a Mom, and others.\\nSome people, such as Carol Greenburg, are autistic parents of autistic children.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Read what Autism Speaks itself has said and done.\", \"描述\": \"AS' rhetoric can give you a better sense of its attitude towards autism. Take your mental health into account. \\nWatch the video \\\"I Am Autism,\\\" or read the transcript. This video has a voice-over, calling itself autism, describing how it will destroy parents' lives.\\nRead the wording of the militant Call to Action, a letter that resulted in several resignations.\\nWatch or read about the documentary \\\"Autism Every Day.\\\" This video includes a scene of an autistic girl's mother talking about how she contemplated killing her, as her upset daughter listens.\\nConsider its response to murder, which is often portrayed as a tragic but understandable result of lack of services.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Check the math and science.\", \"描述\": \"Autism Speaks is known for spreading misinformation, especially in past years, despite evidence disproving their claims. Compare things that Autism Speaks has said to the actual numbers and research. \\nAutism Speaks entertained and gave credibility to anti-vaccination beliefs for a long time, long after evidence was clear that vaccines aren't linked to autism.\\nAutism Speaks claimed that having an autistic child causes divorce and likely spread the myth that 80% of parents who have autistic kids get a divorce. But research shows no real difference in family separations.\\nA petition was called to investigate Autism Speaks for fraud after people described inconsistencies about its financial claims.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be mindful of trigger warnings on articles.\", \"描述\": \"Some articles are more detailed and intense than others. Some discuss severe ableism, child abuse, torture, murder, murder sympathizers, eugenics, and other disturbing content. If you are a sensitive person, pause and consider whether you are able to handle it at the moment. \\nAutism Speaks does not use trigger warnings on its own disturbing materials. Be cautious if you visit the site or read about what it says.\\nThe Judge Rotenberg Center, other abuses in ABA therapy, and restraint/seclusion may be especially upsetting. You may wish to avoid these subjects.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Boycotting Autism Speaks\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep Autism Speaks media away from the children and autistic people in your family.\", \"描述\": \"If the TV or radio has an ad or episode about the group, turn it off. Keep blue puzzle pieces out. Avoid showing or telling them the worst of what you've learned about AS. This can help keep them from absorbing attitudes from it. \\nIf they ask, give an age-appropriate explanation. For example, \\\"That's a group that bullies people, so I don't want to watch that ad, because it's not true.\\\"\\nTeens or adults may wish to get involved. If they're autistic, consider whether their self-esteem is strong enough. Supervise their participation if you have concerns about them being exposed to something too disturbing.\\nBe especially cautious during April, when AS is the most active. This month can be hard on autistic people.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Refuse to participate in any events that benefit Autism Speaks.\", \"描述\": \"This includes \\\"light it up blue,\\\" many autism walks, and many \\\"autism awareness\\\" events. Research an event before deciding to participate, to make sure that you are supporting a good cause. \\nAs a shortcut, puzzle pieces and the color blue often suggest connections to Autism Speaks. This is not a perfect rule, just a red flag.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Protest at Autism Speaks events if you are able.\", \"描述\": \"It is common for autistics, parents, and allies to protest at AS walks. You can make signs, write with chalk, and encourage people to learn about autism in a less stigmatizing way. \\nProtesting at these events is not for the faint of heart, because autistic people are not always treated well. Some AS supporters speak very aggressively, and sometimes, they throw food. Bring a support person if needed.\\nIf you would be too stressed to show up, try making posters, or writing accepting messages in chalk before the event begins.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Consider boycotting and writing to companies that support Autism Speaks.\", \"描述\": \"While AS is known for not listening, companies are different, and some (like Build A Bear) have withdrawn support after community outcry.\\nA list of companies supporting AS is available online.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Visit the official site of the boycott movement.\", \"描述\": \"There is a Boycott Autism Speaks website, in addition to various social media accounts. While you do not need to become officially involved, it may help you keep up to date with the news, if you'd like.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Supporting Autism Acceptance\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find organizations\", \"描述\": \"These organizations will be run or co-run by autistic people, and have autistics at all levels of the organization. Here are some basic guidelines for a good autism organization: \\nMeaningful autistic leadership (not just tokenism)\\nGoal of support, not eradication\\nIncludes support for autistics of all ages (not just children)\\nUnambiguous support for human rights; against abusive therapy and murder\\nFights stigma; does not exploit fear for profit\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Learn about the neurodiversity and autistic rights movements.\", \"描述\": \"Autistic people such as Jim Sinclair have been advocating since before the turn of the century. In order to support autistic people, it's important to learn what many of them have to say. \\n\\nNeurotribes by Steve Silberman offers a detailed history of autism.\\nThe social model of disability presents a more inclusion-based, accepting view of disability.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Celebrate Autism Acceptance Month in April.\", \"描述\": \"This month focuses on social support, accommodation, and respect towards autistic people, and is distinct from Autism Speaks' fear-based campaign. \\nWear #REDinstead for autism acceptance.\\nShare messages from autistic people online.\\nPost on social media about autism acceptance and neurodiversity.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Observe the Disability Day of Mourning on March 1.\", \"描述\": \"This day commemorates the disabled people, including many autistic people, killed by their caregivers. Many disabled people fight back against the rhetoric that murder is understandable because disability is such a burden.\\nThis day reminds people why acceptance, support, and inclusion are so important.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Teach people about autism in an autistic-friendly manner.\", \"描述\": \"Help spread accurate and compassionate information. Instead of saying autistic people are broken, say that they need extra support. Instead of saying they are burdens, say that they have unique skills, and that every person is lovable and important. \\nTry sharing information like helping someone with sensory overload or handling someone's stimming. WikiHow articles may be useful to distribute.\\nEncourage autistic people and their loved ones to reach out to the Autistic community for help.\\nTry making a list of autism resources, to hand out to people who need it. 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How to Have a Long Passionate Kiss With Your Girlfriend/Boyfriend
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1. Lock eyes as you go in for the kiss.
Eye contact can create a connection and signal that you want to kiss.
The eyes are the window to the soul, and there’s nothing sexier than locking eyes with a slight smile on your face. Once you lock eyes, lean towards your partner, take their hand in yours, or brush their hair away from their face as you initiate the kiss.
2. Tilt your head and lean in.
Move in slowly at an angle so your noses don’t touch.
You don’t need to tilt your head very much, so don’t turn your head super far. Begin to lean in towards your partner. Go slowly to build the passion up and raise the tensions between you and your partner.
3. Close your eyes as you lock lips.
Slowly start closing your eyes as your lips are about to touch.
Pucker your lips out a bit and slowly close your eyes so that they shut right when your lips touch. Keep your lips soft and don’t push too hard against your partner.
Take cues from your partner here. If they open their mouth a bit, open your mouth, too!
If they pull away a bit as soon as you lock lips, they probably aren’t in the mood for some passionate kissing, so don’t force it.
4. Hold the kiss for at least 5 seconds.
A quick peck isn’t super passionate, so don’t pull away.
A key part of a passionate kiss is the length. Give the two of you enough time to enjoy the experience. Kissing is all about connection, and a slightly longer kiss signals an especially intense bond.
If your kiss is too short, it will feel like more of a quick smooch.
5. Pull your partner in close to you.
The closer you two are, the more intimate the kiss will be.
Put one hand on their back and gently close in. If your partner is shorter than you, you can put a hand over their shoulder instead and lean in that way.
Bringing your bodies together signals that you’re so into them that you just can’t stand not being close!
You can pull them against you before you actually start kissing if you want a more sexually charged energy.
If they pull away or reposition themselves so that there’s a little bit of space against you, don’t force it. Let them respond to what you’re doing so that they’re comfortable, too!
6. Hold your partner’s head or back.
This will heighten the emotional energy of your kiss.
Incorporating both of your arms is essential to making your partner feel like you just can’t control your impulse to be close to them. You can use your free arm to support your partner’s head by resting your palm against the cheek, or against the back of their head. Alternatively, you can put your hand on their upper back or shoulder. Just do what feels natural!
You can also put your hand on their upper chest if you two are kissing at a slight angle.
If your partner is kind of swept off of their feet and surprised, they may not put both of their hands on you. If one of their hands is free, you might hold it tight.
7. Keep your hands moving (slowly).
Staying in one position can make a kiss feel too stiff and cold.
However, if you move your hands too quickly, it can make it difficult for your partner to settle into the kiss. Calmly reposition your hands so that you engage all of your partner’s senses.
You could run your fingers through their hair a bit and give them a (very gentle) hair tug for a super hot option.
For something cuter, you might brush their hair back out of their face.
Holding a hand against their check or gently squeezing their shoulder can make them feel supported and close to you.
You can also move both of your hands to their lower back and pull them up closer to you. This is an especially sexy option if your partner is shorter than you.
8. Let your partner guide things.
Listening to your partner’s body language is key.
If they lean in even further when you embrace them, it’s a cue that they’re super in for a potential make out session. If they coo a little bit but don’t lean in, keep doing what you’re doing! If they pull back after a few seconds, they probably don’t want to keep going so it may be time to wind down.
It can be hard to remember if you’re super into your partner in the moment, but passion requires two people! Don’t push them to do something they aren’t enjoying.
9. Explore gently with your tongue.
Introducing your tongue will turn the heat up a notch.
A passionate French kiss is a super intimate way of moving from romantic to hot. If your partner opens their mouth a bit and they seem into it, start moving your tongue around in their mouth. Explore gently and softly. Less is more with a French kiss, so let your partner set the tone.
Don’t push or stiffen your tongue. Keep it soft, flexible, and don’t shove it too deep down your partner’s throat.
You don’t need to use tongue at all if you aren’t ready.
Always try to match your partner during the kiss so things aren't unbalanced.
10. Try sucking their lip for a moment.
Pausing a French kiss for a little lip play can be super hot.
If you’ve been kissing for more than 5-10 seconds, variation can keep things hot and heavy. When the position feels natural, move your lips down a bit so that their bottom lip is in the middle of your lips and give it a very gentle pull. Release their lip after a second or so and go back to your normal kissing.
This may be a bit of an odd sensation for them (in a good way) if they’ve never done this before, so don’t suck hard like you’re pulling on a straw.
If you have done this before and things are trending way more to the sexy side than the romantic side, gentle, extremely light bite may really get your partner going!
11. Let out a gentle moan.
Less is more with noise-making, but a soft moan can drive them crazy.
You don’t want to be super loud during a kiss or you may throw your partner out of the moment. However, a very quiet moan or cooing noise during an especially intense part of the kiss can really elevate the moment.
This is definitely one of those moves you probably only want to pull out once during an extended kiss.
12. Pause between kisses if you keep going.
Give the kissing session a little bit of room to breathe (literally).
There’s a thin line between a passionate, extended kiss, and overwhelming your partner. Pause in between multiple kisses for a second or so just so you and your partner can actually get a breath.
This also gives you a brief moment to assess whether your partner wants to keep going or not. If you pause to breathe and they pull back like they’re done, the kiss is probably over.
13. Whisper in their ear for a memorable finish.
You could say something sweet to make the hair on their neck stand up.
Leave them with something to think about by whispering something sexy or romantic into their ear as you’re pulling away from one another. You might let them know how much they mean to you, or say something a little suggestive to drive them wild. Either way, it will punctuate the kiss and drive them wild. You might say:
“You drive me crazy, you know that?”
“You’re the light of my life.”
“You have no idea how bad I want you.”
Less is more here. You don’t want to ramble for too long after a passionate kiss!
Tips
When you choose to kiss impacts the amount of passion as well. A long kiss in the rain or in front of a beautiful sunrise is super romantic!
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If they open their mouth a bit, open your mouth, too!\\nIf they pull away a bit as soon as you lock lips, they probably aren’t in the mood for some passionate kissing, so don’t force it.\\n4. Hold the kiss for at least 5 seconds.\\nA quick peck isn’t super passionate, so don’t pull away.\\nA key part of a passionate kiss is the length. Give the two of you enough time to enjoy the experience. Kissing is all about connection, and a slightly longer kiss signals an especially intense bond.\\nIf your kiss is too short, it will feel like more of a quick smooch.\\n5. Pull your partner in close to you.\\nThe closer you two are, the more intimate the kiss will be.\\nPut one hand on their back and gently close in. If your partner is shorter than you, you can put a hand over their shoulder instead and lean in that way.\\nBringing your bodies together signals that you’re so into them that you just can’t stand not being close!\\nYou can pull them against you before you actually start kissing if you want a more sexually charged energy.\\nIf they pull away or reposition themselves so that there’s a little bit of space against you, don’t force it. Let them respond to what you’re doing so that they’re comfortable, too!\\n6. Hold your partner’s head or back.\\nThis will heighten the emotional energy of your kiss.\\nIncorporating both of your arms is essential to making your partner feel like you just can’t control your impulse to be close to them. You can use your free arm to support your partner’s head by resting your palm against the cheek, or against the back of their head. Alternatively, you can put your hand on their upper back or shoulder. Just do what feels natural!\\nYou can also put your hand on their upper chest if you two are kissing at a slight angle.\\nIf your partner is kind of swept off of their feet and surprised, they may not put both of their hands on you. If one of their hands is free, you might hold it tight.\\n7. Keep your hands moving (slowly).\\nStaying in one position can make a kiss feel too stiff and cold.\\nHowever, if you move your hands too quickly, it can make it difficult for your partner to settle into the kiss. Calmly reposition your hands so that you engage all of your partner’s senses.\\nYou could run your fingers through their hair a bit and give them a (very gentle) hair tug for a super hot option.\\nFor something cuter, you might brush their hair back out of their face.\\nHolding a hand against their check or gently squeezing their shoulder can make them feel supported and close to you.\\nYou can also move both of your hands to their lower back and pull them up closer to you. This is an especially sexy option if your partner is shorter than you.\\n8. Let your partner guide things.\\nListening to your partner’s body language is key.\\nIf they lean in even further when you embrace them, it’s a cue that they’re super in for a potential make out session. If they coo a little bit but don’t lean in, keep doing what you’re doing! If they pull back after a few seconds, they probably don’t want to keep going so it may be time to wind down.\\nIt can be hard to remember if you’re super into your partner in the moment, but passion requires two people! Don’t push them to do something they aren’t enjoying.\\n9. Explore gently with your tongue.\\nIntroducing your tongue will turn the heat up a notch.\\nA passionate French kiss is a super intimate way of moving from romantic to hot. If your partner opens their mouth a bit and they seem into it, start moving your tongue around in their mouth. Explore gently and softly. Less is more with a French kiss, so let your partner set the tone.\\nDon’t push or stiffen your tongue. Keep it soft, flexible, and don’t shove it too deep down your partner’s throat.\\nYou don’t need to use tongue at all if you aren’t ready.\\nAlways try to match your partner during the kiss so things aren't unbalanced.\\n10. Try sucking their lip for a moment.\\nPausing a French kiss for a little lip play can be super hot.\\nIf you’ve been kissing for more than 5-10 seconds, variation can keep things hot and heavy. When the position feels natural, move your lips down a bit so that their bottom lip is in the middle of your lips and give it a very gentle pull. Release their lip after a second or so and go back to your normal kissing.\\nThis may be a bit of an odd sensation for them (in a good way) if they’ve never done this before, so don’t suck hard like you’re pulling on a straw.\\nIf you have done this before and things are trending way more to the sexy side than the romantic side, gentle, extremely light bite may really get your partner going!\\n11. Let out a gentle moan.\\nLess is more with noise-making, but a soft moan can drive them crazy.\\nYou don’t want to be super loud during a kiss or you may throw your partner out of the moment. However, a very quiet moan or cooing noise during an especially intense part of the kiss can really elevate the moment.\\nThis is definitely one of those moves you probably only want to pull out once during an extended kiss.\\n12. Pause between kisses if you keep going.\\nGive the kissing session a little bit of room to breathe (literally).\\nThere’s a thin line between a passionate, extended kiss, and overwhelming your partner. Pause in between multiple kisses for a second or so just so you and your partner can actually get a breath.\\nThis also gives you a brief moment to assess whether your partner wants to keep going or not. If you pause to breathe and they pull back like they’re done, the kiss is probably over.\\n13. Whisper in their ear for a memorable finish.\\nYou could say something sweet to make the hair on their neck stand up.\\nLeave them with something to think about by whispering something sexy or romantic into their ear as you’re pulling away from one another. You might let them know how much they mean to you, or say something a little suggestive to drive them wild. Either way, it will punctuate the kiss and drive them wild. You might say:\\n“You drive me crazy, you know that?”\\n“You’re the light of my life.”\\n“You have no idea how bad I want you.”\\nLess is more here. You don’t want to ramble for too long after a passionate kiss!\\nTips\\nWhen you choose to kiss impacts the amount of passion as well. A long kiss in the rain or in front of a beautiful sunrise is super romantic!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"So, you’ve been kissing your boyfriend or girlfriend for a while, but you really want to take it up a level. If you want to elevate your kissing game and really leave their head spinning, we’ve got you covered. There are so many different ways to do this, and you can pick and choose the moves that feel right for you and your kissing style. The key here is to listen to your partner and take cues from their body language. 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Go slowly to build the passion up and raise the tensions between you and your partner.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Close your eyes as you lock lips.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Slowly start closing your eyes as your lips are about to touch.\", \"描述\": \"Pucker your lips out a bit and slowly close your eyes so that they shut right when your lips touch. Keep your lips soft and don’t push too hard against your partner.\\nTake cues from your partner here. If they open their mouth a bit, open your mouth, too!\\nIf they pull away a bit as soon as you lock lips, they probably aren’t in the mood for some passionate kissing, so don’t force it.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Hold the kiss for at least 5 seconds.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A quick peck isn’t super passionate, so don’t pull away.\", \"描述\": \"A key part of a passionate kiss is the length. Give the two of you enough time to enjoy the experience. Kissing is all about connection, and a slightly longer kiss signals an especially intense bond.\\nIf your kiss is too short, it will feel like more of a quick smooch.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Pull your partner in close to you.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"The closer you two are, the more intimate the kiss will be.\", \"描述\": \"Put one hand on their back and gently close in. If your partner is shorter than you, you can put a hand over their shoulder instead and lean in that way.\\nBringing your bodies together signals that you’re so into them that you just can’t stand not being close!\\nYou can pull them against you before you actually start kissing if you want a more sexually charged energy.\\nIf they pull away or reposition themselves so that there’s a little bit of space against you, don’t force it. Let them respond to what you’re doing so that they’re comfortable, too!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Hold your partner’s head or back.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"This will heighten the emotional energy of your kiss.\", \"描述\": \"Incorporating both of your arms is essential to making your partner feel like you just can’t control your impulse to be close to them. You can use your free arm to support your partner’s head by resting your palm against the cheek, or against the back of their head. Alternatively, you can put your hand on their upper back or shoulder. Just do what feels natural!\\nYou can also put your hand on their upper chest if you two are kissing at a slight angle.\\nIf your partner is kind of swept off of their feet and surprised, they may not put both of their hands on you. If one of their hands is free, you might hold it tight.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Keep your hands moving (slowly).\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Staying in one position can make a kiss feel too stiff and cold.\", \"描述\": \"However, if you move your hands too quickly, it can make it difficult for your partner to settle into the kiss. Calmly reposition your hands so that you engage all of your partner’s senses.\\nYou could run your fingers through their hair a bit and give them a (very gentle) hair tug for a super hot option.\\nFor something cuter, you might brush their hair back out of their face.\\nHolding a hand against their check or gently squeezing their shoulder can make them feel supported and close to you.\\nYou can also move both of your hands to their lower back and pull them up closer to you. 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Release their lip after a second or so and go back to your normal kissing.\\nThis may be a bit of an odd sensation for them (in a good way) if they’ve never done this before, so don’t suck hard like you’re pulling on a straw.\\nIf you have done this before and things are trending way more to the sexy side than the romantic side, gentle, extremely light bite may really get your partner going!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Let out a gentle moan.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Less is more with noise-making, but a soft moan can drive them crazy.\", \"描述\": \"You don’t want to be super loud during a kiss or you may throw your partner out of the moment. However, a very quiet moan or cooing noise during an especially intense part of the kiss can really elevate the moment.\\nThis is definitely one of those moves you probably only want to pull out once during an extended kiss.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Pause between kisses if you keep going.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Give the kissing session a little bit of room to breathe (literally).\", \"描述\": \"There’s a thin line between a passionate, extended kiss, and overwhelming your partner. Pause in between multiple kisses for a second or so just so you and your partner can actually get a breath.\\nThis also gives you a brief moment to assess whether your partner wants to keep going or not. If you pause to breathe and they pull back like they’re done, the kiss is probably over.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Whisper in their ear for a memorable finish.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You could say something sweet to make the hair on their neck stand up.\", \"描述\": \"Leave them with something to think about by whispering something sexy or romantic into their ear as you’re pulling away from one another. You might let them know how much they mean to you, or say something a little suggestive to drive them wild. Either way, it will punctuate the kiss and drive them wild. You might say:\\n“You drive me crazy, you know that?”\\n“You’re the light of my life.”\\n“You have no idea how bad I want you.”\\nLess is more here. You don’t want to ramble for too long after a passionate kiss!\"}], \"小提示\": [\"When you choose to kiss impacts the amount of passion as well. A long kiss in the rain or in front of a beautiful sunrise is super romantic!\\n\"]}]}}",
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What Does "Boys in Blue" Mean?
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1. What does “boys in blue” mean?
“Boys in blue” is a playful slang term for the police.
In the United Kingdom and the United States, the "boys in blue" are police officers. This phrase generally has playful and friendly connotations.
“Boys in blue” is a blanket term that includes all genders. It’s kind of like saying “hey guys!” when addressing a room of men and women.
2. How do you use “boys in blue?”
Make a sentence about police more playful with “boys in blue.”
The word “police” is kind of straightforward, while “law enforcement” is cold and clinical. However, “boys in blue” sounds so fun and whimsical! You might say:
“They caught the shoplifter on camera. They’re just waiting for the boys in blue to show up and arrest them.”
“Are the boys in blue on their way?”
“Did you see the boys in blue riding their horses over on Main Street?”
3. What is the origin of “boys in blue?”
In the US and UK, police officers wear distinct navy blue uniforms.
The origins of the phrase are a little unclear. In the UK, it seems that police officers wore blue to contrast with the British military, which wore red. In the United States, the Union Army wore blue, and when the first police force was formed in 1845, they wore blue to match the UK police.
In many countries, police forces wear white, gray, or neon vests. As such, if you say “boys in blue” outside of the US or UK, people may not know what you’re talking about.
4. Alternative Meanings
4-1. A “boy in blue” might refer to a LGBTQ+ man.
There is a 17th century painting by Thomas Gainsborough that depicts a young man in elegant, blue clothing. In some circles, the painting became an icon of queer masculinity. In this context, a “boy in blue” refers to a confident, gay or queer man.
Someone might say, “I love that boy in blue,” or, “What a dashing boy in blue! That outfit is so on point.”
This is not a particularly common usage, but you may see lovers of fine art or folks in the LGBTQ+ community using it.
4-2. “Boys in blue” could refer to any team in blue uniforms.
Basically, any team or organization that wears a blue uniform can be referred to as the “boys in blue.” It’s just a fun nickname you can give a team that everyone will understand.
If you watch the Toronto Blue Jays or Chicago Bears play, an announcer might say, “Here come the boys in blue!” as they enter the stadium.
4-3. The “boys in blue” may refer to the Union Army in the Civil War.
In the American Civil War, the Confederate Army wore distinctive grey uniforms. The Union, on the other hand, wore deep navy blue uniforms. This may be the origin of “boys in blue” in the United States, as there are many ballads, poems, and colloquialisms from the late 19th century that refer to the Union soldiers as “boys in blue.”
It’s rare these days that someone would use “boys in blue” to refer to the Union Army in everyday conversation, but you might hear a history teacher or museum curator use it this way.
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Understanding the Borderline Personality Disorder Relationship Cycle
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1. Stages of the BPD Relationship Cycle
1-1. Idealizing
During this initial “honeymoon phase,” your partner with BPD is extremely enthusiastic about the relationship. They think you’re absolutely perfect; you’re everything they’ve been searching for! Things move fast, and you’re caught up in the passion and excitement. It feels great to be loved so deeply.
Your partner may mirror your interests since a symptom of borderline personality disorder is an unstable and shifting self-image. You collect Happy Meal toys? Absolutely fascinating! You love to watch water polo? What a coincidence, your partner does too!
1-2. Neediness & Hypersensitivity
Your partner feels insecure during this stage. They watch carefully for signs of rejection and treat you with suspicion. The thought of separation sends them into a panic, even if you’re only planning a weekend trip. You may feel smothered by their constant need for attention.
A person with BPD engages in irrational efforts to avoid being left alone. For example, your partner might try to entice you to stay in bed longer in the morning, even though that would make you late for work.
Your partner is hypersensitive during this stage; they can misinterpret your words or actions and feel deeply hurt. Say your partner sends you a text while you’re busy driving. When you check your phone later, you’re surprised to find a string of angry messages saying you “clearly don’t care about them" because you didn't respond immediately.
Your partner’s behavior has roots in two aspects of their BPD diagnosis: stress-related paranoia and fear of abandonment. They often feel guilt and shame because of their actions, but the impulse to behave this way is very strong.
1-3. Provoking & Testing
Your partner’s doubts about your commitment are likely escalating. They crave evidence of your love, so they provoke, manipulate, and test you to gauge your loyalty. Your reaction is seen as evidence of how much–or how little–you value them. You might feel confused by their muddy logic and frustrated that you have to jump through hoops to show you care.
Imagine that your partner with BPD begs you to cancel your plans with friends so the two of you can watch a movie together instead. If you agree to cancel, it’s proof that you love them. If you choose to hang out with your friends, it’s perceived as utter rejection.
One symptom of borderline personality disorder is constant feelings of worthlessness. Because people with BPD battle nonstop self-negativity, they seek continual reassurance from outside sources.
1-4. Distancing & Devaluing
When you do something your partner perceives as “wrong,” it’s as though a switch is flipped. Even though they were wild about you a day ago, now you’re viewed as a horrible person. Your partner with BPD pulls away from you. As they rapidly swing from totally adoring you to completely devaluing you, you can experience emotional whiplash.
Black-and-white thinking, or “splitting,” is common in people with borderline personality disorder. They have a tendency to think of people as all good or all bad, heroes or villains. It’s a struggle for them to view others realistically.
It’s painful to be treated this way, but try to remember: this is not a reflection of who you are as a person; it is a manifestation of your partner’s mental illness.
1-5. Breaking Up
The breakup can happen in a few different ways. Your partner could start an argument. Once that fuse is lit, they have trouble controlling their temper. Or, they might just “ghost” you and disappear. If you instigate the breakup, your partner probably offers desperate explanations and begs you to stay.
People with borderline personality disorder have a deep fear of abandonment; they would much rather be the person leaving instead of being the person who is left behind.
Anger issues, including frequent loss of temper, is one diagnostic symptom of borderline personality disorder.
1-6. Downward Spiral & Reconnecting
Post-breakup, your ex experiences a downward spiral of depression and self-destructive behavior. They may drink too much, engage in risky sex, or rack up debt. Deliberate self-harm and suicidality are not uncommon. After some time has passed, they'll reach out to you with hopes of repairing the relationship.
Take threats of suicide seriously. Immediately call emergency services so a professional can determine how dangerous the situation is. This shows your ex that you don’t wish them harm, but you refuse to be drawn in by their chaos. You are not responsible for the outcome of your ex’s choices.
If you agree to give the relationship another try, the cycle begins again. That is, unless the two of you put in the therapeutic work to break the pattern.
2. What causes borderline personality disorder?
2-1. BPD is marked by the inability to effectively manage emotions.
People with borderline personality disorder experience severe mood swings, strong impulses, and intense, overwhelming emotions. The disorder is thought to be caused by a combination of genetics and harmful childhood experiences.
Childhood trauma has long-lasting effects; it can actually influence how someone’s neurons and genes work by causing neuromorphological and epigenetic changes.
2-2. Fear of abandonment is at the root of BPD.
When someone’s needs have not been consistently met during childhood, that betrayal can cause someone to feel unsafe and vulnerable well into adulthood. Without a foundation of trust and predictability, they may behave in a defensive or reactive way as a means of protecting themselves from rejection.
3. How long does the BPD relationship cycle last?
There is no set time limit for the BPD relationship cycle.
How often it occurs and how long each stage lasts varies based on multiple factors, including the person’s stress levels, whether they’re engaged in therapeutic treatment, and whether they have a solid support network.
Research shows that outcomes are good for people with BPD who participate in treatment; they can learn strategies to manage their emotions and improve their relationships.
4. Strategies for Improving Your Relationship
4-1. Learn about BPD.
Educating yourself about borderline personality disorder is a great way to support your partner. Feeling misunderstood intensifies your partner's pain and their emotional flare-ups. When you develop a greater understanding of their diagnosis, you form a better understanding of how to show up for them.
4-2. Embrace therapy.
Encourage your partner to engage in therapy. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is the go-to treatment for BPD, and couples therapy is worth looking into as well. You may also benefit from your own private sessions. Dating someone with BPD comes with unique challenges; you can learn to navigate them by working with a therapist.
4-3. Communicate productively.
Discuss problems when you’re feeling calm. If your partner is experiencing an intense emotional reaction, they’re probably too overwhelmed to have a rational discussion. Stay neutral and level-headed while communicating with your partner.
The best way to help an emotional person cool off? Simply by listening. Staying silent while looking interested and concerned can make a big difference.
If they’re speaking to you in a hurtful way, say, “I won’t tolerate being spoken to like that. We can talk about this later when we’re both feeling calmer.”
4-4. Set attainable expectations.
Plan to solve problems with baby steps rather than overarching, long-term goals. Remember that your partner with BPD is dealing with a serious disorder that impacts them on an epigenetic and neuromorphological level. Progress will be slow and ongoing, and that's okay.
Slower progress has better outcomes, as it prevents the possibility of big failures that could crush their budding self-confidence. Learning how to cope with small failures leads to greater success overall.
For example, instead of telling your partner with BPD to stop texting you at work, schedule times throughout the day to catch up with them, such as during lunch and breaks. Your partner feels reassured that you aren’t ignoring them, and you aren’t interrupted during a meeting.
4-5. Define boundaries.
Establishing boundaries is essential to any healthy relationship, but it’s especially important to set clear boundaries when your partner has BPD. This helps your partner know what to expect, and it provides the stability and predictability they need. Express yourself using simple, direct language.
One example might be, “I need to get to work on time, and I expect you to be supportive of that. I'm setting a boundary: please don’t ask me to do things that interfere with my morning schedule.”
Think carefully before giving your partner an ultimatum; only give an ultimatum when you can and will follow through.
4-6. Join a support group.
Attending a support group, either in person or online, is a good way to connect with people who can relate to your situation. NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness, https://nami.org/) facilitates support groups for people living with mental illness, as well as groups for their loved ones.
4-7. Practice self-care.
Carve out time for your own hobbies and friends. Whether you go for a jog, meet your mom for dinner, or go watch a game with your crew, it’s beneficial to spend some time doing activities without your partner. Loving someone who has a mental illness can feel all-consuming; spending time with other people eases feelings of isolation or tension.
5. Knowing When to Walk Away
5-1. Break up if you’re staying out of a sense of obligation.
Are you only with your partner because you feel guilty when you think about leaving? Are you still dating because you’re worried they'll hurt themselves if you break up? If you’re being manipulated into staying, that isn’t a healthy relationship–it’s a trap.
Saying no to someone with BPD can be intimidating, but you owe it to yourself if you’re unhappy in your relationship.
5-2. Leave an abusive situation.
If you’re experiencing physical abuse of any sort and/or ongoing emotional abuse, it isn’t worth staying. Refuse to tolerate threats, spitting, or hitting. Yes, you care about your partner. Yes, they have a mental illness that’s difficult to manage. But you deserve to feel safe and respected.
Leaving an abusive relationship can be difficult or even unsafe. Depending on your situation, it may require some planning and preparation. Most areas have organizations to help victims of abuse.
Tips
In the US, dial or text 988 to reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Their trained counselors provide confidential support to people in crisis 24 hours a day.[43]
X
Research source
A warmline is a phone number you can call to receive emotional support. Whether you’re in crisis or just need someone to talk to, their trained peer staff is there to listen.[44]
X
Research source
Find a directory of warmline numbers in the US on https://warmline.org/. [45]
X
Research source
Warnings
If you’re experiencing abuse, the National Domestic Violence Hotline can help. In the US, call 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788.[46]
X
Trustworthy Source
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Organization providing lifesaving tools, support, and resources for victims and survivors of domestic abuse
Go to source
If you need help right away, call emergency services.
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You may feel smothered by their constant need for attention.\\nA person with BPD engages in irrational efforts to avoid being left alone. For example, your partner might try to entice you to stay in bed longer in the morning, even though that would make you late for work.\\nYour partner is hypersensitive during this stage; they can misinterpret your words or actions and feel deeply hurt. Say your partner sends you a text while you’re busy driving. When you check your phone later, you’re surprised to find a string of angry messages saying you “clearly don’t care about them\\\" because you didn't respond immediately.\\nYour partner’s behavior has roots in two aspects of their BPD diagnosis: stress-related paranoia and fear of abandonment. They often feel guilt and shame because of their actions, but the impulse to behave this way is very strong.\\n1-3. Provoking & Testing\\nYour partner’s doubts about your commitment are likely escalating. They crave evidence of your love, so they provoke, manipulate, and test you to gauge your loyalty. Your reaction is seen as evidence of how much–or how little–you value them. You might feel confused by their muddy logic and frustrated that you have to jump through hoops to show you care.\\nImagine that your partner with BPD begs you to cancel your plans with friends so the two of you can watch a movie together instead. If you agree to cancel, it’s proof that you love them. If you choose to hang out with your friends, it’s perceived as utter rejection.\\nOne symptom of borderline personality disorder is constant feelings of worthlessness. Because people with BPD battle nonstop self-negativity, they seek continual reassurance from outside sources.\\n1-4. Distancing & Devaluing\\nWhen you do something your partner perceives as “wrong,” it’s as though a switch is flipped. Even though they were wild about you a day ago, now you’re viewed as a horrible person. Your partner with BPD pulls away from you. As they rapidly swing from totally adoring you to completely devaluing you, you can experience emotional whiplash.\\nBlack-and-white thinking, or “splitting,” is common in people with borderline personality disorder. They have a tendency to think of people as all good or all bad, heroes or villains. It’s a struggle for them to view others realistically.\\nIt’s painful to be treated this way, but try to remember: this is not a reflection of who you are as a person; it is a manifestation of your partner’s mental illness.\\n1-5. Breaking Up\\nThe breakup can happen in a few different ways. Your partner could start an argument. Once that fuse is lit, they have trouble controlling their temper. Or, they might just “ghost” you and disappear. If you instigate the breakup, your partner probably offers desperate explanations and begs you to stay.\\nPeople with borderline personality disorder have a deep fear of abandonment; they would much rather be the person leaving instead of being the person who is left behind.\\nAnger issues, including frequent loss of temper, is one diagnostic symptom of borderline personality disorder.\\n1-6. Downward Spiral & Reconnecting\\nPost-breakup, your ex experiences a downward spiral of depression and self-destructive behavior. They may drink too much, engage in risky sex, or rack up debt. Deliberate self-harm and suicidality are not uncommon. After some time has passed, they'll reach out to you with hopes of repairing the relationship.\\n\\nTake threats of suicide seriously. Immediately call emergency services so a professional can determine how dangerous the situation is. This shows your ex that you don’t wish them harm, but you refuse to be drawn in by their chaos. You are not responsible for the outcome of your ex’s choices.\\nIf you agree to give the relationship another try, the cycle begins again. That is, unless the two of you put in the therapeutic work to break the pattern.\\n2. What causes borderline personality disorder?\\n2-1. BPD is marked by the inability to effectively manage emotions.\\nPeople with borderline personality disorder experience severe mood swings, strong impulses, and intense, overwhelming emotions. The disorder is thought to be caused by a combination of genetics and harmful childhood experiences.\\nChildhood trauma has long-lasting effects; it can actually influence how someone’s neurons and genes work by causing neuromorphological and epigenetic changes.\\n2-2. Fear of abandonment is at the root of BPD.\\nWhen someone’s needs have not been consistently met during childhood, that betrayal can cause someone to feel unsafe and vulnerable well into adulthood. Without a foundation of trust and predictability, they may behave in a defensive or reactive way as a means of protecting themselves from rejection.\\n3. How long does the BPD relationship cycle last?\\nThere is no set time limit for the BPD relationship cycle.\\nHow often it occurs and how long each stage lasts varies based on multiple factors, including the person’s stress levels, whether they’re engaged in therapeutic treatment, and whether they have a solid support network.\\nResearch shows that outcomes are good for people with BPD who participate in treatment; they can learn strategies to manage their emotions and improve their relationships.\\n4. Strategies for Improving Your Relationship\\n4-1. Learn about BPD.\\nEducating yourself about borderline personality disorder is a great way to support your partner. Feeling misunderstood intensifies your partner's pain and their emotional flare-ups. When you develop a greater understanding of their diagnosis, you form a better understanding of how to show up for them.\\n4-2. Embrace therapy.\\nEncourage your partner to engage in therapy. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is the go-to treatment for BPD, and couples therapy is worth looking into as well. You may also benefit from your own private sessions. Dating someone with BPD comes with unique challenges; you can learn to navigate them by working with a therapist.\\n4-3. Communicate productively.\\nDiscuss problems when you’re feeling calm. If your partner is experiencing an intense emotional reaction, they’re probably too overwhelmed to have a rational discussion. Stay neutral and level-headed while communicating with your partner.\\nThe best way to help an emotional person cool off? Simply by listening. Staying silent while looking interested and concerned can make a big difference.\\nIf they’re speaking to you in a hurtful way, say, “I won’t tolerate being spoken to like that. We can talk about this later when we’re both feeling calmer.”\\n4-4. Set attainable expectations.\\nPlan to solve problems with baby steps rather than overarching, long-term goals. Remember that your partner with BPD is dealing with a serious disorder that impacts them on an epigenetic and neuromorphological level. Progress will be slow and ongoing, and that's okay.\\nSlower progress has better outcomes, as it prevents the possibility of big failures that could crush their budding self-confidence. Learning how to cope with small failures leads to greater success overall.\\nFor example, instead of telling your partner with BPD to stop texting you at work, schedule times throughout the day to catch up with them, such as during lunch and breaks. Your partner feels reassured that you aren’t ignoring them, and you aren’t interrupted during a meeting.\\n4-5. Define boundaries.\\nEstablishing boundaries is essential to any healthy relationship, but it’s especially important to set clear boundaries when your partner has BPD. This helps your partner know what to expect, and it provides the stability and predictability they need. Express yourself using simple, direct language.\\nOne example might be, “I need to get to work on time, and I expect you to be supportive of that. I'm setting a boundary: please don’t ask me to do things that interfere with my morning schedule.”\\nThink carefully before giving your partner an ultimatum; only give an ultimatum when you can and will follow through.\\n4-6. Join a support group.\\nAttending a support group, either in person or online, is a good way to connect with people who can relate to your situation. NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness, https://nami.org/) facilitates support groups for people living with mental illness, as well as groups for their loved ones.\\n4-7. Practice self-care.\\nCarve out time for your own hobbies and friends. Whether you go for a jog, meet your mom for dinner, or go watch a game with your crew, it’s beneficial to spend some time doing activities without your partner. Loving someone who has a mental illness can feel all-consuming; spending time with other people eases feelings of isolation or tension.\\n5. Knowing When to Walk Away\\n5-1. Break up if you’re staying out of a sense of obligation.\\nAre you only with your partner because you feel guilty when you think about leaving? Are you still dating because you’re worried they'll hurt themselves if you break up? If you’re being manipulated into staying, that isn’t a healthy relationship–it’s a trap.\\nSaying no to someone with BPD can be intimidating, but you owe it to yourself if you’re unhappy in your relationship.\\n5-2. Leave an abusive situation.\\nIf you’re experiencing physical abuse of any sort and/or ongoing emotional abuse, it isn’t worth staying. Refuse to tolerate threats, spitting, or hitting. Yes, you care about your partner. Yes, they have a mental illness that’s difficult to manage. But you deserve to feel safe and respected.\\nLeaving an abusive relationship can be difficult or even unsafe. Depending on your situation, it may require some planning and preparation. Most areas have organizations to help victims of abuse.\\nTips\\nIn the US, dial or text 988 to reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Their trained counselors provide confidential support to people in crisis 24 hours a day.[43]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nA warmline is a phone number you can call to receive emotional support. Whether you’re in crisis or just need someone to talk to, their trained peer staff is there to listen.[44]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\\n\\n\\n Find a directory of warmline numbers in the US on https://warmline.org/. [45]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nWarnings\\nIf you’re experiencing abuse, the National Domestic Violence Hotline can help. In the US, call 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788.[46]\\nX\\nTrustworthy Source\\nNational Domestic Violence Hotline\\nOrganization providing lifesaving tools, support, and resources for victims and survivors of domestic abuse\\nGo to source\\n\\n If you need help right away, call emergency services.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Dating someone with BPD comes with unique challenges. It can feel like a rollercoaster ride at times! Why is your partner suddenly acting suspicious? Why are they pushing you away? What’s up with all of the mixed messages? The BPD relationship cycle explains this behavior, and learning about each stage will help you gain a deeper understanding of your partner. Maintaining a romantic bond isn’t easy when one person has borderline personality disorder, but if both partners are invested, it is possible. Keep reading to find out more about the BPD relationship cycle as well as steps you can take to improve your relationship.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stages of the BPD Relationship Cycle\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Idealizing\", \"描述\": \"During this initial “honeymoon phase,” your partner with BPD is extremely enthusiastic about the relationship. They think you’re absolutely perfect; you’re everything they’ve been searching for! Things move fast, and you’re caught up in the passion and excitement. It feels great to be loved so deeply.\\nYour partner may mirror your interests since a symptom of borderline personality disorder is an unstable and shifting self-image. You collect Happy Meal toys? Absolutely fascinating! You love to watch water polo? What a coincidence, your partner does too!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Neediness & Hypersensitivity\", \"描述\": \"Your partner feels insecure during this stage. They watch carefully for signs of rejection and treat you with suspicion. The thought of separation sends them into a panic, even if you’re only planning a weekend trip. You may feel smothered by their constant need for attention.\\nA person with BPD engages in irrational efforts to avoid being left alone. For example, your partner might try to entice you to stay in bed longer in the morning, even though that would make you late for work.\\nYour partner is hypersensitive during this stage; they can misinterpret your words or actions and feel deeply hurt. Say your partner sends you a text while you’re busy driving. When you check your phone later, you’re surprised to find a string of angry messages saying you “clearly don’t care about them\\\" because you didn't respond immediately.\\nYour partner’s behavior has roots in two aspects of their BPD diagnosis: stress-related paranoia and fear of abandonment. They often feel guilt and shame because of their actions, but the impulse to behave this way is very strong.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Provoking & Testing\", \"描述\": \"Your partner’s doubts about your commitment are likely escalating. They crave evidence of your love, so they provoke, manipulate, and test you to gauge your loyalty. Your reaction is seen as evidence of how much–or how little–you value them. You might feel confused by their muddy logic and frustrated that you have to jump through hoops to show you care.\\nImagine that your partner with BPD begs you to cancel your plans with friends so the two of you can watch a movie together instead. If you agree to cancel, it’s proof that you love them. If you choose to hang out with your friends, it’s perceived as utter rejection.\\nOne symptom of borderline personality disorder is constant feelings of worthlessness. Because people with BPD battle nonstop self-negativity, they seek continual reassurance from outside sources.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Distancing & Devaluing\", \"描述\": \"When you do something your partner perceives as “wrong,” it’s as though a switch is flipped. Even though they were wild about you a day ago, now you’re viewed as a horrible person. Your partner with BPD pulls away from you. As they rapidly swing from totally adoring you to completely devaluing you, you can experience emotional whiplash.\\nBlack-and-white thinking, or “splitting,” is common in people with borderline personality disorder. They have a tendency to think of people as all good or all bad, heroes or villains. It’s a struggle for them to view others realistically.\\nIt’s painful to be treated this way, but try to remember: this is not a reflection of who you are as a person; it is a manifestation of your partner’s mental illness.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Breaking Up\", \"描述\": \"The breakup can happen in a few different ways. Your partner could start an argument. Once that fuse is lit, they have trouble controlling their temper. Or, they might just “ghost” you and disappear. If you instigate the breakup, your partner probably offers desperate explanations and begs you to stay.\\nPeople with borderline personality disorder have a deep fear of abandonment; they would much rather be the person leaving instead of being the person who is left behind.\\nAnger issues, including frequent loss of temper, is one diagnostic symptom of borderline personality disorder.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Downward Spiral & Reconnecting\", \"描述\": \"Post-breakup, your ex experiences a downward spiral of depression and self-destructive behavior. They may drink too much, engage in risky sex, or rack up debt. Deliberate self-harm and suicidality are not uncommon. After some time has passed, they'll reach out to you with hopes of repairing the relationship.\\n\\nTake threats of suicide seriously. Immediately call emergency services so a professional can determine how dangerous the situation is. 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How to Braai Steak
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1. Marinating the Steak
1-1. Make the spice rub.
Combine the salt, coriander, peppercorns, and thyme in a spice grinder or pestle and mortar. Grind the spices to a fine powder. Transfer the ground spices to a small bowl and add in the sugar, paprika, garlic powder, and onion powder.
Use a spoon or your finger to mix all the spices together until combined.
1-2. Season the steak.
Pour half the spice mix over the top of the steak and use your fingers to spread the spices around and massage them into the meat. Flip the steak over and repeat on the other side.
Transfer the steak to a plate and put it in the refrigerator to marinate in the spice mix for three to four hours.
1-3. Remove the steak from the fridge before cooking.
Once the steak has been marinating for two to three hours, you can start preparing the grill. While the charcoal or wood is heating up, take the steak out of the fridge and let it warm up on the counter.
Once the grill is ready, the steak will be at room temperature and ready to go on the grill immediately.
2. Heating the Braai
2-1. Clean the grill.
Use a wire brush to scrub the grill clean to remove old food particles that have been burned on. Once you've removed the larger pieces, go over each part of the grill with a grill brush and give the grill a good scrubbing. Empty out old ashes from the bottom of the bowl.
When you're finished cleaning the grill, remove it from the braai and set it aside so you can light the fire.
2-2. Light the fire.
Stuff the bottom of the chimney starter with a piece of newspaper. Fill the chimney starter with as much wood or charcoal as you can fit. A braai needs a good, hot, large fire, so you need to start with a lot of fuel. When the chimney starter is full, use a barbecue lighter to light the newspaper in the bottom of the starter. Light it in multiple places around the starter.
Once the fire is started, it will begin to spread and the charcoal or wood will burn down.
Continue burning the fire in the chimney starter until the wood turns to embers or the charcoal turns gray.
2-3. Spread out the coals.
When the wood or charcoal is ready, pour the embers into the bowl and spread them out evenly with charcoal tongs. This will ensure that there aren't any cool spots, and that the steak cooks evenly on the grill.
Concentrate the coals in the center of the bowl so the heat will be directly below where the steak is cooking.
2-4. Preheat the grill.
Carefully place the grill back into the bowl of the barbecue. If your grill has multiple racks, place the grill on the lowest one, nearest to the fire. Let the grill sit over the coals for 10 to 20 minutes to preheat. This will ensure the steak starts cooking as soon as you lay it on the grill.
Ideally, you want the grill to be 2 to 6 inches (5 to 15 cm) from the bed of embers.
When the grill is good and hot, use the wire brush again to give it a final scrub.
3. Cooking and Serving the Steak
3-1. Cook the steak on each side.
As soon as the grill is ready, use a pair of long-handled tongs to transfer the steak to the center of the grill. Don't use a fork to move the steak around, or you'll pierce the meat and release the juices.
Cook the steak for three to five minutes on the first side. After three minutes, start checking the underside for browning.
When the first side is browned, flip the steak with tongs and cook for another three to five minutes on the other side.
3-2. Cook the steak to medium rare.
A braai steak is traditionally only cooked to medium rare. This will take about seven to 10 minutes in total. If you have a meat thermometer, the ideal temperature for the steak is 120 to 125 F (49 to 52 C).
If you don't have a meat thermometer, gently press the steak with your finger when you think it's done. If the meat provides little resistance and gives easily to your push, then it's ready.
3-3. Rest the meat.
As soon as the meat is cooked, remove it from the grill with the tongs. Place the meat on a fresh plate or wooden board. Set the meat aside to rest for about 10 minutes.
Resting meat makes for a juicier steak because it prevents the juices from spilling out when the meat is cut.
3-4. Serve with roasted potatoes and asparagus.
Steak and potatoes are a classic combination, and roasted potatoes are a great side dish for braai steak. Asparagus is also a fantastic pairing with steak, and grilled asparagus nicely complements a braai steak.
Tips
Avoid marinating the steak with sweet sauces or marinades before cooking. Because of the high heat used to cook on a braai, high-sugar marinades tend to burn.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Marinating the Steak\\n1-1. Make the spice rub.\\nCombine the salt, coriander, peppercorns, and thyme in a spice grinder or pestle and mortar. Grind the spices to a fine powder. Transfer the ground spices to a small bowl and add in the sugar, paprika, garlic powder, and onion powder.\\nUse a spoon or your finger to mix all the spices together until combined.\\n1-2. Season the steak.\\nPour half the spice mix over the top of the steak and use your fingers to spread the spices around and massage them into the meat. Flip the steak over and repeat on the other side.\\nTransfer the steak to a plate and put it in the refrigerator to marinate in the spice mix for three to four hours.\\n1-3. Remove the steak from the fridge before cooking.\\nOnce the steak has been marinating for two to three hours, you can start preparing the grill. While the charcoal or wood is heating up, take the steak out of the fridge and let it warm up on the counter.\\nOnce the grill is ready, the steak will be at room temperature and ready to go on the grill immediately.\\n2. Heating the Braai\\n2-1. Clean the grill.\\nUse a wire brush to scrub the grill clean to remove old food particles that have been burned on. Once you've removed the larger pieces, go over each part of the grill with a grill brush and give the grill a good scrubbing. Empty out old ashes from the bottom of the bowl.\\nWhen you're finished cleaning the grill, remove it from the braai and set it aside so you can light the fire.\\n2-2. Light the fire.\\nStuff the bottom of the chimney starter with a piece of newspaper. Fill the chimney starter with as much wood or charcoal as you can fit. A braai needs a good, hot, large fire, so you need to start with a lot of fuel. When the chimney starter is full, use a barbecue lighter to light the newspaper in the bottom of the starter. Light it in multiple places around the starter.\\nOnce the fire is started, it will begin to spread and the charcoal or wood will burn down.\\nContinue burning the fire in the chimney starter until the wood turns to embers or the charcoal turns gray.\\n2-3. Spread out the coals.\\nWhen the wood or charcoal is ready, pour the embers into the bowl and spread them out evenly with charcoal tongs. This will ensure that there aren't any cool spots, and that the steak cooks evenly on the grill.\\nConcentrate the coals in the center of the bowl so the heat will be directly below where the steak is cooking.\\n2-4. Preheat the grill.\\nCarefully place the grill back into the bowl of the barbecue. If your grill has multiple racks, place the grill on the lowest one, nearest to the fire. Let the grill sit over the coals for 10 to 20 minutes to preheat. This will ensure the steak starts cooking as soon as you lay it on the grill.\\nIdeally, you want the grill to be 2 to 6 inches (5 to 15 cm) from the bed of embers.\\nWhen the grill is good and hot, use the wire brush again to give it a final scrub.\\n3. Cooking and Serving the Steak\\n3-1. Cook the steak on each side.\\nAs soon as the grill is ready, use a pair of long-handled tongs to transfer the steak to the center of the grill. Don't use a fork to move the steak around, or you'll pierce the meat and release the juices.\\nCook the steak for three to five minutes on the first side. After three minutes, start checking the underside for browning.\\nWhen the first side is browned, flip the steak with tongs and cook for another three to five minutes on the other side.\\n3-2. Cook the steak to medium rare.\\nA braai steak is traditionally only cooked to medium rare. This will take about seven to 10 minutes in total. If you have a meat thermometer, the ideal temperature for the steak is 120 to 125 F (49 to 52 C).\\nIf you don't have a meat thermometer, gently press the steak with your finger when you think it's done. If the meat provides little resistance and gives easily to your push, then it's ready.\\n3-3. Rest the meat.\\nAs soon as the meat is cooked, remove it from the grill with the tongs. Place the meat on a fresh plate or wooden board. Set the meat aside to rest for about 10 minutes.\\nResting meat makes for a juicier steak because it prevents the juices from spilling out when the meat is cut.\\n3-4. Serve with roasted potatoes and asparagus.\\nSteak and potatoes are a classic combination, and roasted potatoes are a great side dish for braai steak. Asparagus is also a fantastic pairing with steak, and grilled asparagus nicely complements a braai steak.\\nTips\\nAvoid marinating the steak with sweet sauces or marinades before cooking. Because of the high heat used to cook on a braai, high-sugar marinades tend to burn.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Braai is a South African word that means barbecue, so to braai a steak is similar to barbecuing one. In South Africa, a braai is a festive event that brings together friends, family, and neighbors, who come together to eat, drink, and celebrate occasions like birthdays, holidays, and other special events. When using this type of grill, it's traditional to use wood or charcoal, so gas grills won't work to braai a steak.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Marinating the Steak\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make the spice rub.\", \"描述\": \"Combine the salt, coriander, peppercorns, and thyme in a spice grinder or pestle and mortar. Grind the spices to a fine powder. Transfer the ground spices to a small bowl and add in the sugar, paprika, garlic powder, and onion powder.\\nUse a spoon or your finger to mix all the spices together until combined.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Season the steak.\", \"描述\": \"Pour half the spice mix over the top of the steak and use your fingers to spread the spices around and massage them into the meat. Flip the steak over and repeat on the other side.\\nTransfer the steak to a plate and put it in the refrigerator to marinate in the spice mix for three to four hours.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Remove the steak from the fridge before cooking.\", \"描述\": \"Once the steak has been marinating for two to three hours, you can start preparing the grill. While the charcoal or wood is heating up, take the steak out of the fridge and let it warm up on the counter.\\nOnce the grill is ready, the steak will be at room temperature and ready to go on the grill immediately.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Heating the Braai\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Clean the grill.\", \"描述\": \"Use a wire brush to scrub the grill clean to remove old food particles that have been burned on. Once you've removed the larger pieces, go over each part of the grill with a grill brush and give the grill a good scrubbing. Empty out old ashes from the bottom of the bowl.\\nWhen you're finished cleaning the grill, remove it from the braai and set it aside so you can light the fire.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Light the fire.\", \"描述\": \"Stuff the bottom of the chimney starter with a piece of newspaper. Fill the chimney starter with as much wood or charcoal as you can fit. A braai needs a good, hot, large fire, so you need to start with a lot of fuel. When the chimney starter is full, use a barbecue lighter to light the newspaper in the bottom of the starter. Light it in multiple places around the starter.\\nOnce the fire is started, it will begin to spread and the charcoal or wood will burn down.\\nContinue burning the fire in the chimney starter until the wood turns to embers or the charcoal turns gray.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Spread out the coals.\", \"描述\": \"When the wood or charcoal is ready, pour the embers into the bowl and spread them out evenly with charcoal tongs. This will ensure that there aren't any cool spots, and that the steak cooks evenly on the grill.\\nConcentrate the coals in the center of the bowl so the heat will be directly below where the steak is cooking.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Preheat the grill.\", \"描述\": \"Carefully place the grill back into the bowl of the barbecue. If your grill has multiple racks, place the grill on the lowest one, nearest to the fire. Let the grill sit over the coals for 10 to 20 minutes to preheat. This will ensure the steak starts cooking as soon as you lay it on the grill.\\nIdeally, you want the grill to be 2 to 6 inches (5 to 15 cm) from the bed of embers.\\nWhen the grill is good and hot, use the wire brush again to give it a final scrub.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Cooking and Serving the Steak\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Cook the steak on each side.\", \"描述\": \"As soon as the grill is ready, use a pair of long-handled tongs to transfer the steak to the center of the grill. Don't use a fork to move the steak around, or you'll pierce the meat and release the juices.\\nCook the steak for three to five minutes on the first side. After three minutes, start checking the underside for browning.\\nWhen the first side is browned, flip the steak with tongs and cook for another three to five minutes on the other side.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Cook the steak to medium rare.\", \"描述\": \"A braai steak is traditionally only cooked to medium rare. This will take about seven to 10 minutes in total. If you have a meat thermometer, the ideal temperature for the steak is 120 to 125 F (49 to 52 C).\\nIf you don't have a meat thermometer, gently press the steak with your finger when you think it's done. If the meat provides little resistance and gives easily to your push, then it's ready.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Rest the meat.\", \"描述\": \"As soon as the meat is cooked, remove it from the grill with the tongs. Place the meat on a fresh plate or wooden board. Set the meat aside to rest for about 10 minutes.\\nResting meat makes for a juicier steak because it prevents the juices from spilling out when the meat is cut.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Serve with roasted potatoes and asparagus.\", \"描述\": \"Steak and potatoes are a classic combination, and roasted potatoes are a great side dish for braai steak. Asparagus is also a fantastic pairing with steak, and grilled asparagus nicely complements a braai steak.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Avoid marinating the steak with sweet sauces or marinades before cooking. Because of the high heat used to cook on a braai, high-sugar marinades tend to burn.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Quick and Easy Options
1-1. Slide a matchbook under the shortest leg to level it.
This is the simplest way to solve an issue with a single short leg. Just grab a small, flat item and slide it under whichever table leg is giving you the most problems. You could use a matchbook, thin strip of cardboard, a coaster, or a folded up paper towel.
This may take a little bit of trial and error.
1-2. Fill a single wobbly or loose joint with wood glue.
If one of the joints is loose and that’s what is causing the wobble, you can typically remedy the problem by filling the joint with glue or epoxy. Flip the table over, gently hold the legs in place, and fill the gaps with wood glue. You can even unscrew the leg, fill the area with wood glue, and then reinstall the leg before it dries.
You can use a clamp to hold a leg tight against the table while the wood glue dries if necessary.
You can also use epoxy if you prefer. Wood epoxy is going to be stronger than wood glue most of the time, but it’s a little harder to work with.
1-3. Try retightening any loose screws or bolts on your table.
If you just moved, rearranged your room, or use the table frequently, the joints can become loose. Grab a screwdriver, hex key, or any other hardware you need and inspect each joint. Retighten screws and bolts as needed to get rid of the wobble.
1-4. Put something heavy on the table to keep it in place temporarily.
If one of the legs is shorter than the other, but you just need a super quick fix, put something heavy over the shorter leg. It could be a stack of books, a planter, or some kind of other item. This should push the table leg down and keep the table from wobbling all over the place.
You can achieve a similar effect by leaning a wobbly table against a wall depending on how the table wobbles.
This only works if one of the legs is short. If the table is wobbly because the joints are weak, this might break the table.
2. Leveling Uneven Table Legs
2-1. Twist the adjustable glides if your furniture has them on the bottom.
Glides are adjustable little pads that sit at the bottom of furniture legs where they rest on the floor. If your table isn’t level and you have glides on it, just twist them counterclockwise to make the table a table leg longer, or clockwise to make them shorter. Continue adjusting the legs until your table is even and stable.
You can monitor how even the table is by putting a spirit level flat on top of the tabletop while you’re adjusting. There are also level apps you can download to turn your phone into a spirit level.
2-2. Install a furniture tack if your table doesn’t have glides.
If one of your legs is shorter than another, measure the distance between the ground and the end of the leg. Buy a furniture tack that matches the size of that gap. Flip the table upside down, hold the furniture tack over the bottom of the leg, and hammer it into place.
Some furniture tacks have “pressure pads” on them. These are great if you can’t measure the gap between the leg and the floor, since they’ll give you a margin to work with while preventing the wobble.
2-3. Cut pieces of a wine cork out and glue them to the legs for a DIY option.
If you can’t screw or drill into the legs of a table, make a riser! Use a utility knife to cut a slice off of an old wine cork and then use hot glue or wood glue to secure it to the bottom the shortest leg. This will keep the table from wobbling, and the cork won’t stand out at all.
Make sure that the glue has totally cured before you move the table around.
2-4. Saw the longer legs down for a professional-looking solution.
You can do this with a hand saw, circular saw, or jigsaw. Use a measuring tape to calculate the gap between your floor and the shortest leg. Then, mark that distance off on each of the longer legs using a pencil. Saw the end off of each of the longer legs, and sand the bottom of each leg you cut. Add a furniture pad or furniture tack to each leg and you’ve got a perfectly level table!
Wear safety goggles and a dust mask. If possible, make your cuts outside to keep sawdust from getting all over.
Keep your hands away from the blade of whatever saw you’re using.
If it will make things easier, take the legs off of the table. That way, you can set them on a set of sawhorses or in a C-clamp to make the cutting process easier.
3. Using L-Brackets to Reinforce the Joints
3-1. Purchase some L-brackets to brace the table and legs.
L-brackets are L-shaped pieces of soft metal that have holes for screw slots. By installing them at the junction where your table legs meet the tabletop, you’ll give the table legs some additional support to prevent wobbling. Purchase at least 4 of these brackets to brace every leg on your wobbly table.
You can also use small blocks of wood to do this if you don’t have L-brackets. That’s going to be tougher though, since you can bend L-brackets, but you’ll need to cut the wood blocks to size with a saw.
Some L-brackets come in kits with screws that will work for them. These are ideal if you can find them and the screws aren’t longer than your table’s thickness.
If you only have 3 table legs, you can just use 3 L-brackets.
3-2. Bend each bracket to match the leg where it meets the table.
Flip your table upside-down so the tabletop sits on the floor and give each leg a little push and pull. For every leg that wobbles a bit, place a bracket at the 80- to 100-degree angle where the leg meets the table. Bend the brackets so that they sit perfectly flush against the leg and the tabletop.
You do not need to adjust the angle of the leg at all. So long as the legs rest on the ground, the angle there doesn’t matter. Your table is wobbly because the joints are weak, not because the legs need adjusting.
If you can’t bend the brackets by hand, you can use two wrenches or sets of channel locks to gently bend the brackets to size. These things typically aren’t that strong, though.
3-3. Drill pilot holes into each slot where the screws will go.
Grab some screws that are shorter than the width of the tabletop and legs. Put a pilot bit on your drill and hold the bracket in place. Drive a pilot hole into each opening where you’re going to be placing a screw.
The pilot hole doesn’t need to be as deep as the screw. So long as there’s some threading in the hole, the screw should catch.
You don’t want to go too deep and risk driving the pilot bit all the way through the table!
3-4. Screw the brackets into the leg and table.
Place your bracket in place so the pilot holes align with openings in the bracket. Then, drive your screws through the openings with a drill to secure the brackets in place. When the screws are in, give the leg a little tug. If it doesn’t move, you should have no more wobble!
Repeat this process on any other legs that needed support. You can do this on every leg if you want to keep things uniform.
Tips
Cross-bracing is the official, proper way of bracing a wobbly table, but it does involve more effort and knowledge of woodworking tools. To cross-brace, you’d cut one wood board to connect the top of one leg where it meets the tabletop to the bottom of the opposite table leg with screws or nails, and then do the same on the opposite side to make an X-shape.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Quick and Easy Options\\n1-1. Slide a matchbook under the shortest leg to level it.\\nThis is the simplest way to solve an issue with a single short leg. Just grab a small, flat item and slide it under whichever table leg is giving you the most problems. You could use a matchbook, thin strip of cardboard, a coaster, or a folded up paper towel.\\nThis may take a little bit of trial and error.\\n1-2. Fill a single wobbly or loose joint with wood glue.\\nIf one of the joints is loose and that’s what is causing the wobble, you can typically remedy the problem by filling the joint with glue or epoxy. Flip the table over, gently hold the legs in place, and fill the gaps with wood glue. You can even unscrew the leg, fill the area with wood glue, and then reinstall the leg before it dries.\\nYou can use a clamp to hold a leg tight against the table while the wood glue dries if necessary.\\nYou can also use epoxy if you prefer. Wood epoxy is going to be stronger than wood glue most of the time, but it’s a little harder to work with.\\n1-3. Try retightening any loose screws or bolts on your table.\\nIf you just moved, rearranged your room, or use the table frequently, the joints can become loose. Grab a screwdriver, hex key, or any other hardware you need and inspect each joint. Retighten screws and bolts as needed to get rid of the wobble.\\n1-4. Put something heavy on the table to keep it in place temporarily.\\nIf one of the legs is shorter than the other, but you just need a super quick fix, put something heavy over the shorter leg. It could be a stack of books, a planter, or some kind of other item. This should push the table leg down and keep the table from wobbling all over the place.\\nYou can achieve a similar effect by leaning a wobbly table against a wall depending on how the table wobbles.\\nThis only works if one of the legs is short. If the table is wobbly because the joints are weak, this might break the table.\\n2. Leveling Uneven Table Legs\\n2-1. Twist the adjustable glides if your furniture has them on the bottom.\\nGlides are adjustable little pads that sit at the bottom of furniture legs where they rest on the floor. If your table isn’t level and you have glides on it, just twist them counterclockwise to make the table a table leg longer, or clockwise to make them shorter. Continue adjusting the legs until your table is even and stable.\\nYou can monitor how even the table is by putting a spirit level flat on top of the tabletop while you’re adjusting. There are also level apps you can download to turn your phone into a spirit level.\\n2-2. Install a furniture tack if your table doesn’t have glides.\\nIf one of your legs is shorter than another, measure the distance between the ground and the end of the leg. Buy a furniture tack that matches the size of that gap. Flip the table upside down, hold the furniture tack over the bottom of the leg, and hammer it into place.\\nSome furniture tacks have “pressure pads” on them. These are great if you can’t measure the gap between the leg and the floor, since they’ll give you a margin to work with while preventing the wobble.\\n2-3. Cut pieces of a wine cork out and glue them to the legs for a DIY option.\\nIf you can’t screw or drill into the legs of a table, make a riser! Use a utility knife to cut a slice off of an old wine cork and then use hot glue or wood glue to secure it to the bottom the shortest leg. This will keep the table from wobbling, and the cork won’t stand out at all.\\nMake sure that the glue has totally cured before you move the table around.\\n2-4. Saw the longer legs down for a professional-looking solution.\\nYou can do this with a hand saw, circular saw, or jigsaw. Use a measuring tape to calculate the gap between your floor and the shortest leg. Then, mark that distance off on each of the longer legs using a pencil. Saw the end off of each of the longer legs, and sand the bottom of each leg you cut. Add a furniture pad or furniture tack to each leg and you’ve got a perfectly level table!\\nWear safety goggles and a dust mask. If possible, make your cuts outside to keep sawdust from getting all over.\\nKeep your hands away from the blade of whatever saw you’re using.\\nIf it will make things easier, take the legs off of the table. That way, you can set them on a set of sawhorses or in a C-clamp to make the cutting process easier.\\n3. Using L-Brackets to Reinforce the Joints\\n3-1. Purchase some L-brackets to brace the table and legs.\\nL-brackets are L-shaped pieces of soft metal that have holes for screw slots. By installing them at the junction where your table legs meet the tabletop, you’ll give the table legs some additional support to prevent wobbling. Purchase at least 4 of these brackets to brace every leg on your wobbly table.\\nYou can also use small blocks of wood to do this if you don’t have L-brackets. That’s going to be tougher though, since you can bend L-brackets, but you’ll need to cut the wood blocks to size with a saw.\\nSome L-brackets come in kits with screws that will work for them. These are ideal if you can find them and the screws aren’t longer than your table’s thickness.\\nIf you only have 3 table legs, you can just use 3 L-brackets.\\n3-2. Bend each bracket to match the leg where it meets the table.\\nFlip your table upside-down so the tabletop sits on the floor and give each leg a little push and pull. For every leg that wobbles a bit, place a bracket at the 80- to 100-degree angle where the leg meets the table. Bend the brackets so that they sit perfectly flush against the leg and the tabletop.\\nYou do not need to adjust the angle of the leg at all. So long as the legs rest on the ground, the angle there doesn’t matter. Your table is wobbly because the joints are weak, not because the legs need adjusting.\\nIf you can’t bend the brackets by hand, you can use two wrenches or sets of channel locks to gently bend the brackets to size. These things typically aren’t that strong, though.\\n3-3. Drill pilot holes into each slot where the screws will go.\\nGrab some screws that are shorter than the width of the tabletop and legs. Put a pilot bit on your drill and hold the bracket in place. Drive a pilot hole into each opening where you’re going to be placing a screw.\\nThe pilot hole doesn’t need to be as deep as the screw. So long as there’s some threading in the hole, the screw should catch.\\nYou don’t want to go too deep and risk driving the pilot bit all the way through the table!\\n3-4. Screw the brackets into the leg and table.\\nPlace your bracket in place so the pilot holes align with openings in the bracket. Then, drive your screws through the openings with a drill to secure the brackets in place. When the screws are in, give the leg a little tug. If it doesn’t move, you should have no more wobble!\\nRepeat this process on any other legs that needed support. You can do this on every leg if you want to keep things uniform.\\nTips\\nCross-bracing is the official, proper way of bracing a wobbly table, but it does involve more effort and knowledge of woodworking tools. To cross-brace, you’d cut one wood board to connect the top of one leg where it meets the tabletop to the bottom of the opposite table leg with screws or nails, and then do the same on the opposite side to make an X-shape.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Tables wobble either because the joints are weak, or because one of the legs is shorter than the other. In any case, a wobbly table is one of those problems that you notice, throw on the to-do list, and then forget about until the next time you sit down. No more! There are tons of ways to fix this one. There are easy and quick solutions, and more “professional” options that involve a few tools and some elbow grease, so pick whichever solution seems the best for you.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Quick and Easy Options\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Slide a matchbook under the shortest leg to level it.\", \"描述\": \"This is the simplest way to solve an issue with a single short leg. Just grab a small, flat item and slide it under whichever table leg is giving you the most problems. You could use a matchbook, thin strip of cardboard, a coaster, or a folded up paper towel.\\nThis may take a little bit of trial and error.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Fill a single wobbly or loose joint with wood glue.\", \"描述\": \"If one of the joints is loose and that’s what is causing the wobble, you can typically remedy the problem by filling the joint with glue or epoxy. Flip the table over, gently hold the legs in place, and fill the gaps with wood glue. You can even unscrew the leg, fill the area with wood glue, and then reinstall the leg before it dries.\\nYou can use a clamp to hold a leg tight against the table while the wood glue dries if necessary.\\nYou can also use epoxy if you prefer. Wood epoxy is going to be stronger than wood glue most of the time, but it’s a little harder to work with.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Try retightening any loose screws or bolts on your table.\", \"描述\": \"If you just moved, rearranged your room, or use the table frequently, the joints can become loose. Grab a screwdriver, hex key, or any other hardware you need and inspect each joint. Retighten screws and bolts as needed to get rid of the wobble.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Put something heavy on the table to keep it in place temporarily.\", \"描述\": \"If one of the legs is shorter than the other, but you just need a super quick fix, put something heavy over the shorter leg. It could be a stack of books, a planter, or some kind of other item. This should push the table leg down and keep the table from wobbling all over the place.\\nYou can achieve a similar effect by leaning a wobbly table against a wall depending on how the table wobbles.\\nThis only works if one of the legs is short. If the table is wobbly because the joints are weak, this might break the table.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Leveling Uneven Table Legs\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Twist the adjustable glides if your furniture has them on the bottom.\", \"描述\": \"Glides are adjustable little pads that sit at the bottom of furniture legs where they rest on the floor. If your table isn’t level and you have glides on it, just twist them counterclockwise to make the table a table leg longer, or clockwise to make them shorter. Continue adjusting the legs until your table is even and stable.\\nYou can monitor how even the table is by putting a spirit level flat on top of the tabletop while you’re adjusting. There are also level apps you can download to turn your phone into a spirit level.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Install a furniture tack if your table doesn’t have glides.\", \"描述\": \"If one of your legs is shorter than another, measure the distance between the ground and the end of the leg. Buy a furniture tack that matches the size of that gap. Flip the table upside down, hold the furniture tack over the bottom of the leg, and hammer it into place.\\nSome furniture tacks have “pressure pads” on them. These are great if you can’t measure the gap between the leg and the floor, since they’ll give you a margin to work with while preventing the wobble.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Cut pieces of a wine cork out and glue them to the legs for a DIY option.\", \"描述\": \"If you can’t screw or drill into the legs of a table, make a riser! Use a utility knife to cut a slice off of an old wine cork and then use hot glue or wood glue to secure it to the bottom the shortest leg. This will keep the table from wobbling, and the cork won’t stand out at all.\\nMake sure that the glue has totally cured before you move the table around.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Saw the longer legs down for a professional-looking solution.\", \"描述\": \"You can do this with a hand saw, circular saw, or jigsaw. Use a measuring tape to calculate the gap between your floor and the shortest leg. Then, mark that distance off on each of the longer legs using a pencil. Saw the end off of each of the longer legs, and sand the bottom of each leg you cut. Add a furniture pad or furniture tack to each leg and you’ve got a perfectly level table!\\nWear safety goggles and a dust mask. If possible, make your cuts outside to keep sawdust from getting all over.\\nKeep your hands away from the blade of whatever saw you’re using.\\nIf it will make things easier, take the legs off of the table. That way, you can set them on a set of sawhorses or in a C-clamp to make the cutting process easier.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Using L-Brackets to Reinforce the Joints\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Purchase some L-brackets to brace the table and legs.\", \"描述\": \"L-brackets are L-shaped pieces of soft metal that have holes for screw slots. By installing them at the junction where your table legs meet the tabletop, you’ll give the table legs some additional support to prevent wobbling. Purchase at least 4 of these brackets to brace every leg on your wobbly table.\\nYou can also use small blocks of wood to do this if you don’t have L-brackets. That’s going to be tougher though, since you can bend L-brackets, but you’ll need to cut the wood blocks to size with a saw.\\nSome L-brackets come in kits with screws that will work for them. These are ideal if you can find them and the screws aren’t longer than your table’s thickness.\\nIf you only have 3 table legs, you can just use 3 L-brackets.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Bend each bracket to match the leg where it meets the table.\", \"描述\": \"Flip your table upside-down so the tabletop sits on the floor and give each leg a little push and pull. For every leg that wobbles a bit, place a bracket at the 80- to 100-degree angle where the leg meets the table. Bend the brackets so that they sit perfectly flush against the leg and the tabletop.\\nYou do not need to adjust the angle of the leg at all. So long as the legs rest on the ground, the angle there doesn’t matter. Your table is wobbly because the joints are weak, not because the legs need adjusting.\\nIf you can’t bend the brackets by hand, you can use two wrenches or sets of channel locks to gently bend the brackets to size. These things typically aren’t that strong, though.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Drill pilot holes into each slot where the screws will go.\", \"描述\": \"Grab some screws that are shorter than the width of the tabletop and legs. Put a pilot bit on your drill and hold the bracket in place. Drive a pilot hole into each opening where you’re going to be placing a screw.\\nThe pilot hole doesn’t need to be as deep as the screw. So long as there’s some threading in the hole, the screw should catch.\\nYou don’t want to go too deep and risk driving the pilot bit all the way through the table!\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Screw the brackets into the leg and table.\", \"描述\": \"Place your bracket in place so the pilot holes align with openings in the bracket. Then, drive your screws through the openings with a drill to secure the brackets in place. When the screws are in, give the leg a little tug. If it doesn’t move, you should have no more wobble!\\nRepeat this process on any other legs that needed support. You can do this on every leg if you want to keep things uniform.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Cross-bracing is the official, proper way of bracing a wobbly table, but it does involve more effort and knowledge of woodworking tools. To cross-brace, you’d cut one wood board to connect the top of one leg where it meets the tabletop to the bottom of the opposite table leg with screws or nails, and then do the same on the opposite side to make an X-shape.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Brag About Your Girlfriend
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1. Bragging in Social Situations
1-1. Let your inner circle know how happy she makes you.
Gushing about your girlfriend is a great way to show your family and close friends how happy you are. A little bragging can be especially helpful when you introduce your girlfriend to your inner circle or tell them about her for the first time.
For example, try saying, “I can’t wait to introduce you to my new girlfriend. She’s smart, down to earth, and I can’t remember being this happy.”
1-2. Tell a good story instead of bragging out of the blue.
Bragging just for the sake of it can seem boring or unnecessarily boastful. Try to sing your girlfriend’s praises by telling an interesting story that naturally relates to a conversation.
For instance, if you and your friends are talking about basketball, you could slip in, “You know, Rachael was an all state forward in high school.”
Try recounting the time she came to your rescue when you were stuck in a crazy situation. If you met in a funny or unique way, tell your friends about it.
1-3. Don’t forget to let her hear you brag about her.
It’s always nice to hear how proud your partner is of you. Bragging about your girlfriend in front of her can help remind her how special she is.
When you and your girlfriend are out to dinner with friends or visiting your parents, try mentioning her recent professional accomplishment or how she’s become such a pro at her new hobby.
1-4. Try not to brag too much on social media.
Everyone has friends who fill up their social media feeds with mushy, boastful posts about their partner. Try to keep in mind that your significant other isn’t so significant to everyone on your social network.
Posting pictures of you and your girlfriend on a trip is one thing, but daily oversharing on social media can put too much emphasis on how other people perceive your relationship.
2. Bragging about Your Girlfriend Respectfully
2-1. Focus on her qualities and accomplishments.
It’s great to tell your girlfriend she’s beautiful or gush about how gorgeous she is. However, instead of bragging about her looks alone, try to focus on her personality, achievements, and other qualities that make her a wonderful person.
Brag about her professional accomplishments, like a laudable project she managed.
Talk about an impressive test score, how she made honor roll or dean’s list, or how great of a mentor she is to her younger siblings.
2-2. Keep private details private.
Bragging about your love life isn’t the most respectful way to convey what a great human being your girlfriend is. Further, when you keep intimate details about your relationship between the two of you, those details become more special and profound.
It’s one thing to confide in your best friend about your love life. However, if you brag to all of your friends about how great your girlfriend is at intimate stuff, she might feel like nothing more than a conquest.
2-3. Avoid reducing her to gendered stereotypes.
Bragging about how great your girlfriend is at things like cooking and cleaning could come across as old fashioned and stereotypical. Instead of reducing her to an outdated gender role, try drawing attention to more complex personality traits.
For example, you could say, “Sophie is a great cook. She likes to glance at recipes, then add her own unique twists. Her creativity, intelligence, and quick-thinking never cease to amaze me!”
Try saying something like, “Her apartment is always spotless, and she loves to keep things in order. Among her many great qualities, she’s so responsible and has such attention to detail. She really makes me a better person.”
2-4. Ask your girlfriend how comfortable she is with your bragging.
When in doubt, talk to your girlfriend about whether or not she likes it when you gush about her. Set clear boundaries about what’s up for discussion, when bragging is appropriate, and how much you should share about your relationship.
Ask her, “Does my bragging ever make you uncomfortable? I love telling everyone how amazing you are, but I’d never want to put you on the spot or make you feel embarrassed.”
3. Coming up with Compliments
3-1. Offer details and evidence to back up your bragging.
Adding some specific details can verify and add meaning to your boasting. Instead of simply stating that your girlfriend has a great quality, try to add context by explaining why.
For example, instead of just saying, “Lindsay is really good at her job,” try adding details like, “Lindsay just had a performance review at work. Her supervisor went on and on about how much the company relies on her, and said that she’s a rising star in her industry.”
3-2. Make a list of things you appreciate about her.
Spend some time reflecting on why you’re proud of your girlfriend, what makes her special, and why you’re grateful for her. Try keeping a mental or written list of those attributes. Whenever she does something noteworthy, add it to your list.
In addition to listing her personal qualities and achievements, you could note things like the connection you share, the trust you have in each other, and how you make each other better people.
3-3. Come up with cute sayings.
Every now and then, think of something lovey-dovey to express how head over heels you are. Cute catch phrases and mushiness in moderation can be sweet, but try not to go overboard when bragging to your friends about your relationship.
Once in a while, you could say things like, “I never imagined someone could add so much meaning to my life,” or “She makes me wish my life had a pause button so I could make every moment I spend with her last forever.”
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Try to keep in mind that your significant other isn’t so significant to everyone on your social network.\\nPosting pictures of you and your girlfriend on a trip is one thing, but daily oversharing on social media can put too much emphasis on how other people perceive your relationship.\\n2. Bragging about Your Girlfriend Respectfully\\n2-1. Focus on her qualities and accomplishments.\\nIt’s great to tell your girlfriend she’s beautiful or gush about how gorgeous she is. However, instead of bragging about her looks alone, try to focus on her personality, achievements, and other qualities that make her a wonderful person.\\nBrag about her professional accomplishments, like a laudable project she managed.\\nTalk about an impressive test score, how she made honor roll or dean’s list, or how great of a mentor she is to her younger siblings.\\n2-2. Keep private details private.\\nBragging about your love life isn’t the most respectful way to convey what a great human being your girlfriend is. Further, when you keep intimate details about your relationship between the two of you, those details become more special and profound.\\nIt’s one thing to confide in your best friend about your love life. However, if you brag to all of your friends about how great your girlfriend is at intimate stuff, she might feel like nothing more than a conquest.\\n2-3. Avoid reducing her to gendered stereotypes.\\nBragging about how great your girlfriend is at things like cooking and cleaning could come across as old fashioned and stereotypical. Instead of reducing her to an outdated gender role, try drawing attention to more complex personality traits.\\nFor example, you could say, “Sophie is a great cook. She likes to glance at recipes, then add her own unique twists. Her creativity, intelligence, and quick-thinking never cease to amaze me!”\\nTry saying something like, “Her apartment is always spotless, and she loves to keep things in order. Among her many great qualities, she’s so responsible and has such attention to detail. She really makes me a better person.”\\n2-4. Ask your girlfriend how comfortable she is with your bragging.\\nWhen in doubt, talk to your girlfriend about whether or not she likes it when you gush about her. Set clear boundaries about what’s up for discussion, when bragging is appropriate, and how much you should share about your relationship. \\nAsk her, “Does my bragging ever make you uncomfortable? I love telling everyone how amazing you are, but I’d never want to put you on the spot or make you feel embarrassed.”\\n3. Coming up with Compliments\\n3-1. Offer details and evidence to back up your bragging.\\nAdding some specific details can verify and add meaning to your boasting. Instead of simply stating that your girlfriend has a great quality, try to add context by explaining why.\\nFor example, instead of just saying, “Lindsay is really good at her job,” try adding details like, “Lindsay just had a performance review at work. Her supervisor went on and on about how much the company relies on her, and said that she’s a rising star in her industry.”\\n3-2. Make a list of things you appreciate about her.\\nSpend some time reflecting on why you’re proud of your girlfriend, what makes her special, and why you’re grateful for her. Try keeping a mental or written list of those attributes. Whenever she does something noteworthy, add it to your list.\\nIn addition to listing her personal qualities and achievements, you could note things like the connection you share, the trust you have in each other, and how you make each other better people.\\n3-3. Come up with cute sayings.\\nEvery now and then, think of something lovey-dovey to express how head over heels you are. Cute catch phrases and mushiness in moderation can be sweet, but try not to go overboard when bragging to your friends about your relationship.\\nOnce in a while, you could say things like, “I never imagined someone could add so much meaning to my life,” or “She makes me wish my life had a pause button so I could make every moment I spend with her last forever.”\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Bragging about your girlfriend can remind her how special she is and show your family and friends how happy you are. Do your best to not overwhelm your social circle, and try to boast in moderation. While it’s great to compliment her looks, focus on her achievements, personality, and other qualities that make you proud. Keep intimate details private, and make sure your bragging doesn’t make her feel uncomfortable. 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How to Brag Without Being Arrogant
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1. Promoting Yourself Tactfully
1-1. Know when to use self-promotion.
The most common situations in which people might brag are in forming new acquaintances, especially during job interviews or first dates. In both of these scenarios you are trying to demonstrate your worth to another person who has little to base their opinion on besides what you say.
If you are on a first date, you want the person to be impressed with you and get to know more about you, but you don't want them to think that you are conceited or arrogant. One approach is to wait for your date to ask you about yourself before you volunteer information.
For example, if your date has asked you if you have any hobbies, you might say, "I really like running. I got started just going for jogs around my neighborhood and kept increasing the distance little by little. I just ran my first marathon last month. Do you ever run? I would love a new running partner." This sounds more personal and less bragging than just sitting down to dinner and saying, "I am a great runner. I just ran a marathon and came in second in my age group. I am going to run 3 more marathons this year."
1-2. Discuss your achievements in a team-centered way.
Bragging often has a competitive and self-centered edge to it, but sharing credit for your accomplishments can minimize the potential for seeming arrogant.
Research has shown that listeners feel more positively about people who use inclusive language (such as “we” and “team,”).
For example, if you work at an architectural firm and your team just got a contract for a new building, be sure to use "we" instead of "I" when talking about the accomplishment. "After several months of hard work, we just signed a contract to design and build a new public library. It is a great opportunity for the team" sounds better than "I just scored an awesome contract to build a new building. It is going to cement the rest of my career."
1-3. Use caution when saying “I” and “me.”
You clearly need to use first-person language in scenarios where you have to promote yourself, but you should focus on emphasizing accomplishments.
Also try to avoid superlative language like, “I was the best employee my previous employer ever had,” or “I always worked harder than everyone else there.” Extreme statements like these are unlikely to be true, even for the most accomplished of people and instead sound like exaggeration.
Superlative statements wherein the speaker claims to be the “best” or the “greatest” (even if they might be true) tend to be identified as bragging rather than true accomplishment.
For example “It was my idea to create a space where employees could speak freely about their concerns,” sounds more like bragging than, “I created a space where employees could speak freely.”
Instead, try statements like, “While I worked for my previous employer, I tried my best to be dedicated and hard-working.”
1-4. Turn a bragging statement into a positive statement.
By using team-oriented language and mentioning your accomplishments but spinning them in a more modest way, you can sound positive and talk yourself up without bragging.
One example of a statement worded as either bragging or as a simple positive statement is as follows:
The positive version: “My softball team had its awards dinner last night. We had a good season and so everyone was in a great mood. I even got the most valuable player award. Boy, was I surprised. I played really hard this summer, but I did it for the fun and the exercise. So I was really pleased to get the award and the recognition. I was glad to help my team finish the season so well.”
The bragging version: “My softball team had its awards dinner last night. I had my best season yet, so I was in a great mood. They gave me the most valuable player award. But that was no surprise since I was the leading player all summer. Actually, I'm the best all-round player this league has ever seen. I could have my choice to play on any team I want next year, so I may be changing to a better team.”
1-5. Observe your reaction to hearing others promote themselves.
A good trick if you're still hesitant about bragging is to observe your own reactions to other peoples' behavior: when you hear someone else bragging, think about why it's bragging, and how they could rephrase what they said to no longer sound like bragging.
When you find yourself concerned about bragging, ask yourself, “Is it true? How do I know it's true?”
2. Feeling Confident
2-1. Build true confidence by realizing your positive attributes.
You can start this process by making a detailed list of your accomplishments, how you achieved them, and why you're proud.
For example, you could be proud of graduating from college because you're the first person in your family to do so, and you did it while working two jobs.
This will help you see that you truly have achieved things, and it will give you deeper insight into your accomplishment.
Many of us are kinder and quicker to give out praise to others than ourselves. To help you be more objective and overcome any reluctance you might have to praise yourself, think about your skills and achievements from an outside perspective. You can do this by writing down positive things about yourself in the third person, as though you were writing a letter of recommendation or endorsement about a friend or coworker.
2-2. Avoid the sound of your own voice.
Arrogant, self-centered people (and people who are insecure) tend to go on and on about themselves and their exploits, even when the people they're talking to have stopped listening.
Learn to spot body language cues like glazed eyes, glancing at the watch, or picking at fluff on clothing. These cues can show you that you're getting tiresome and you need to stop bragging. Stop talking about yourself and ask the other person about himself or herself.
Aim to listen and to give summary feedback that reveals that you understand what the listener has said. For example, "What I hear you saying is..." Doing so is both a compliment to them and an excellent reflection on your character. Listening will always impress people, especially when you make it clear you understand.
Be concise. If you can get your idea across in a 1 or 2 sentence statement, what you say is more likely to stick in people's minds. If you ramble on about yourself for 15 minutes, then people are going to run away from you the next time they see you coming down the hall because they'll think you're arrogant and annoying.
2-3. Make goals for improvement.
At the same time that you acknowledge your accomplishments, do not ignore areas you want to improve. Ignoring your potential areas for improvement can make you appear like a braggart.
Acknowledging areas that you can improve can actually give your positive statements more credibility and make you sound even more knowledgeable about a field.
2-4. Emphasize your skills if you are a woman.
While the accomplishments of men tend to be attributed to skill, the exact same accomplishments of women are more likely to be attributed to luck. Women who boast are often judged more harshly than men who boast. This means that if you're a woman who is trying to demonstrate her positive accomplishments, you should be sure to promote your skills in addition to your accomplishments.
You can do this by elaborating more on what you did to earn your achievement: for example, if you won an award or a scholarship, spend more time describing the work you did to win that award than the award itself.
2-5. Ask for help if you need it.
If you struggle with low self-esteem, depression, or social anxiety, you should seek out the assistance of a mental health professional. These issues can make it difficult or impossible to be able to speak positively about yourself to another person.
For example, individuals who suffer from extremely low self-esteem can find it impossible to find anything positive in themselves, and as a result can be filled with sadness, anxiety, or fear.
Mental health professionals can give you tools to build confidence and work through social anxiety or depression issues and help you to examine ways you can change your thoughts and behavior in order to improve your life.
2-6. Give sincere compliments to others.
Compliment people often for the things they do that you genuinely admire. Never give a compliment that is phony.
When a person compliments you, don't launch into a discussion of how great you are. Be humble, accept the compliment and say "thank you." If you need to say more, say something such as, "I appreciate that you noticed. This is something I've really been working on in my life."
You don't always have to return a compliment if you don't have anything sincere to say. A simple "thank you, I appreciate you saying something" is sufficient.
Tips
Before you brag about something, imagine you were the person that you're bragging to and think if you'd be turned off.
Don't start accumulating material things just so you can brag about them. If you have a fantastic new sports car and a Rolex, but you're empty on the inside, no amount of bragging about your possessions will make you feel better about yourself.
Warnings
Different cultures have different attitudes to bragging. For example, Americans tend to be brought up to value individualism, and they talk about their accomplishments. People in some other countries are brought up to be very modest with others and to think that it is gauche to talk of their accomplishments openly. Be respectful of these differences before you start bragging.
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I would love a new running partner.\\\" This sounds more personal and less bragging than just sitting down to dinner and saying, \\\"I am a great runner. I just ran a marathon and came in second in my age group. I am going to run 3 more marathons this year.\\\"\\n1-2. Discuss your achievements in a team-centered way.\\nBragging often has a competitive and self-centered edge to it, but sharing credit for your accomplishments can minimize the potential for seeming arrogant.\\nResearch has shown that listeners feel more positively about people who use inclusive language (such as “we” and “team,”). \\nFor example, if you work at an architectural firm and your team just got a contract for a new building, be sure to use \\\"we\\\" instead of \\\"I\\\" when talking about the accomplishment. \\\"After several months of hard work, we just signed a contract to design and build a new public library. It is a great opportunity for the team\\\" sounds better than \\\"I just scored an awesome contract to build a new building. It is going to cement the rest of my career.\\\"\\n1-3. Use caution when saying “I” and “me.”\\nYou clearly need to use first-person language in scenarios where you have to promote yourself, but you should focus on emphasizing accomplishments.\\nAlso try to avoid superlative language like, “I was the best employee my previous employer ever had,” or “I always worked harder than everyone else there.” Extreme statements like these are unlikely to be true, even for the most accomplished of people and instead sound like exaggeration.\\nSuperlative statements wherein the speaker claims to be the “best” or the “greatest” (even if they might be true) tend to be identified as bragging rather than true accomplishment. \\nFor example “It was my idea to create a space where employees could speak freely about their concerns,” sounds more like bragging than, “I created a space where employees could speak freely.”\\nInstead, try statements like, “While I worked for my previous employer, I tried my best to be dedicated and hard-working.”\\n1-4. Turn a bragging statement into a positive statement.\\nBy using team-oriented language and mentioning your accomplishments but spinning them in a more modest way, you can sound positive and talk yourself up without bragging.\\nOne example of a statement worded as either bragging or as a simple positive statement is as follows: \\nThe positive version: “My softball team had its awards dinner last night. We had a good season and so everyone was in a great mood. I even got the most valuable player award. Boy, was I surprised. I played really hard this summer, but I did it for the fun and the exercise. So I was really pleased to get the award and the recognition. I was glad to help my team finish the season so well.”\\nThe bragging version: “My softball team had its awards dinner last night. I had my best season yet, so I was in a great mood. They gave me the most valuable player award. But that was no surprise since I was the leading player all summer. Actually, I'm the best all-round player this league has ever seen. I could have my choice to play on any team I want next year, so I may be changing to a better team.”\\n1-5. Observe your reaction to hearing others promote themselves.\\nA good trick if you're still hesitant about bragging is to observe your own reactions to other peoples' behavior: when you hear someone else bragging, think about why it's bragging, and how they could rephrase what they said to no longer sound like bragging.\\nWhen you find yourself concerned about bragging, ask yourself, “Is it true? How do I know it's true?”\\n2. Feeling Confident\\n2-1. Build true confidence by realizing your positive attributes.\\nYou can start this process by making a detailed list of your accomplishments, how you achieved them, and why you're proud.\\nFor example, you could be proud of graduating from college because you're the first person in your family to do so, and you did it while working two jobs.\\nThis will help you see that you truly have achieved things, and it will give you deeper insight into your accomplishment.\\nMany of us are kinder and quicker to give out praise to others than ourselves. To help you be more objective and overcome any reluctance you might have to praise yourself, think about your skills and achievements from an outside perspective. You can do this by writing down positive things about yourself in the third person, as though you were writing a letter of recommendation or endorsement about a friend or coworker.\\n2-2. Avoid the sound of your own voice.\\nArrogant, self-centered people (and people who are insecure) tend to go on and on about themselves and their exploits, even when the people they're talking to have stopped listening.\\nLearn to spot body language cues like glazed eyes, glancing at the watch, or picking at fluff on clothing. These cues can show you that you're getting tiresome and you need to stop bragging. Stop talking about yourself and ask the other person about himself or herself.\\nAim to listen and to give summary feedback that reveals that you understand what the listener has said. For example, \\\"What I hear you saying is...\\\" Doing so is both a compliment to them and an excellent reflection on your character. Listening will always impress people, especially when you make it clear you understand.\\nBe concise. If you can get your idea across in a 1 or 2 sentence statement, what you say is more likely to stick in people's minds. If you ramble on about yourself for 15 minutes, then people are going to run away from you the next time they see you coming down the hall because they'll think you're arrogant and annoying.\\n2-3. Make goals for improvement.\\nAt the same time that you acknowledge your accomplishments, do not ignore areas you want to improve. Ignoring your potential areas for improvement can make you appear like a braggart.\\nAcknowledging areas that you can improve can actually give your positive statements more credibility and make you sound even more knowledgeable about a field.\\n2-4. Emphasize your skills if you are a woman.\\nWhile the accomplishments of men tend to be attributed to skill, the exact same accomplishments of women are more likely to be attributed to luck. Women who boast are often judged more harshly than men who boast. This means that if you're a woman who is trying to demonstrate her positive accomplishments, you should be sure to promote your skills in addition to your accomplishments.\\nYou can do this by elaborating more on what you did to earn your achievement: for example, if you won an award or a scholarship, spend more time describing the work you did to win that award than the award itself.\\n2-5. Ask for help if you need it.\\nIf you struggle with low self-esteem, depression, or social anxiety, you should seek out the assistance of a mental health professional. These issues can make it difficult or impossible to be able to speak positively about yourself to another person.\\nFor example, individuals who suffer from extremely low self-esteem can find it impossible to find anything positive in themselves, and as a result can be filled with sadness, anxiety, or fear.\\nMental health professionals can give you tools to build confidence and work through social anxiety or depression issues and help you to examine ways you can change your thoughts and behavior in order to improve your life.\\n2-6. Give sincere compliments to others.\\nCompliment people often for the things they do that you genuinely admire. Never give a compliment that is phony.\\nWhen a person compliments you, don't launch into a discussion of how great you are. Be humble, accept the compliment and say \\\"thank you.\\\" If you need to say more, say something such as, \\\"I appreciate that you noticed. This is something I've really been working on in my life.\\\"\\nYou don't always have to return a compliment if you don't have anything sincere to say. A simple \\\"thank you, I appreciate you saying something\\\" is sufficient.\\nTips\\nBefore you brag about something, imagine you were the person that you're bragging to and think if you'd be turned off.\\nDon't start accumulating material things just so you can brag about them. If you have a fantastic new sports car and a Rolex, but you're empty on the inside, no amount of bragging about your possessions will make you feel better about yourself.\\nWarnings\\nDifferent cultures have different attitudes to bragging. For example, Americans tend to be brought up to value individualism, and they talk about their accomplishments. People in some other countries are brought up to be very modest with others and to think that it is gauche to talk of their accomplishments openly. Be respectful of these differences before you start bragging.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"There is a fine line between self-promotion and arrogance. In many situations, like when you are interviewing for jobs, seeking a raise or promotion, dating, or making new friends, you may want to talk yourself up without seeming off-putting to the other person. People tend to feel more attracted to, interested in, and positive toward people who say positive things about themselves, but it can feel difficult to list positive things about yourself without feeling like you are bragging too much.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Promoting Yourself Tactfully\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know when to use self-promotion.\", \"描述\": \"The most common situations in which people might brag are in forming new acquaintances, especially during job interviews or first dates. In both of these scenarios you are trying to demonstrate your worth to another person who has little to base their opinion on besides what you say.\\nIf you are on a first date, you want the person to be impressed with you and get to know more about you, but you don't want them to think that you are conceited or arrogant. One approach is to wait for your date to ask you about yourself before you volunteer information.\\nFor example, if your date has asked you if you have any hobbies, you might say, \\\"I really like running. I got started just going for jogs around my neighborhood and kept increasing the distance little by little. I just ran my first marathon last month. Do you ever run? I would love a new running partner.\\\" This sounds more personal and less bragging than just sitting down to dinner and saying, \\\"I am a great runner. I just ran a marathon and came in second in my age group. I am going to run 3 more marathons this year.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Discuss your achievements in a team-centered way.\", \"描述\": \"Bragging often has a competitive and self-centered edge to it, but sharing credit for your accomplishments can minimize the potential for seeming arrogant.\\nResearch has shown that listeners feel more positively about people who use inclusive language (such as “we” and “team,”). \\nFor example, if you work at an architectural firm and your team just got a contract for a new building, be sure to use \\\"we\\\" instead of \\\"I\\\" when talking about the accomplishment. \\\"After several months of hard work, we just signed a contract to design and build a new public library. It is a great opportunity for the team\\\" sounds better than \\\"I just scored an awesome contract to build a new building. It is going to cement the rest of my career.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Use caution when saying “I” and “me.”\", \"描述\": \"You clearly need to use first-person language in scenarios where you have to promote yourself, but you should focus on emphasizing accomplishments.\\nAlso try to avoid superlative language like, “I was the best employee my previous employer ever had,” or “I always worked harder than everyone else there.” Extreme statements like these are unlikely to be true, even for the most accomplished of people and instead sound like exaggeration.\\nSuperlative statements wherein the speaker claims to be the “best” or the “greatest” (even if they might be true) tend to be identified as bragging rather than true accomplishment. \\nFor example “It was my idea to create a space where employees could speak freely about their concerns,” sounds more like bragging than, “I created a space where employees could speak freely.”\\nInstead, try statements like, “While I worked for my previous employer, I tried my best to be dedicated and hard-working.”\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Turn a bragging statement into a positive statement.\", \"描述\": \"By using team-oriented language and mentioning your accomplishments but spinning them in a more modest way, you can sound positive and talk yourself up without bragging.\\nOne example of a statement worded as either bragging or as a simple positive statement is as follows: \\nThe positive version: “My softball team had its awards dinner last night. We had a good season and so everyone was in a great mood. I even got the most valuable player award. Boy, was I surprised. I played really hard this summer, but I did it for the fun and the exercise. So I was really pleased to get the award and the recognition. I was glad to help my team finish the season so well.”\\nThe bragging version: “My softball team had its awards dinner last night. I had my best season yet, so I was in a great mood. They gave me the most valuable player award. But that was no surprise since I was the leading player all summer. Actually, I'm the best all-round player this league has ever seen. I could have my choice to play on any team I want next year, so I may be changing to a better team.”\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Observe your reaction to hearing others promote themselves.\", \"描述\": \"A good trick if you're still hesitant about bragging is to observe your own reactions to other peoples' behavior: when you hear someone else bragging, think about why it's bragging, and how they could rephrase what they said to no longer sound like bragging.\\nWhen you find yourself concerned about bragging, ask yourself, “Is it true? How do I know it's true?”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Feeling Confident\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Build true confidence by realizing your positive attributes.\", \"描述\": \"You can start this process by making a detailed list of your accomplishments, how you achieved them, and why you're proud.\\nFor example, you could be proud of graduating from college because you're the first person in your family to do so, and you did it while working two jobs.\\nThis will help you see that you truly have achieved things, and it will give you deeper insight into your accomplishment.\\nMany of us are kinder and quicker to give out praise to others than ourselves. To help you be more objective and overcome any reluctance you might have to praise yourself, think about your skills and achievements from an outside perspective. You can do this by writing down positive things about yourself in the third person, as though you were writing a letter of recommendation or endorsement about a friend or coworker.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Avoid the sound of your own voice.\", \"描述\": \"Arrogant, self-centered people (and people who are insecure) tend to go on and on about themselves and their exploits, even when the people they're talking to have stopped listening.\\nLearn to spot body language cues like glazed eyes, glancing at the watch, or picking at fluff on clothing. These cues can show you that you're getting tiresome and you need to stop bragging. Stop talking about yourself and ask the other person about himself or herself.\\nAim to listen and to give summary feedback that reveals that you understand what the listener has said. For example, \\\"What I hear you saying is...\\\" Doing so is both a compliment to them and an excellent reflection on your character. 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Ignoring your potential areas for improvement can make you appear like a braggart.\\nAcknowledging areas that you can improve can actually give your positive statements more credibility and make you sound even more knowledgeable about a field.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Emphasize your skills if you are a woman.\", \"描述\": \"While the accomplishments of men tend to be attributed to skill, the exact same accomplishments of women are more likely to be attributed to luck. Women who boast are often judged more harshly than men who boast. This means that if you're a woman who is trying to demonstrate her positive accomplishments, you should be sure to promote your skills in addition to your accomplishments.\\nYou can do this by elaborating more on what you did to earn your achievement: for example, if you won an award or a scholarship, spend more time describing the work you did to win that award than the award itself.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Ask for help if you need it.\", \"描述\": \"If you struggle with low self-esteem, depression, or social anxiety, you should seek out the assistance of a mental health professional. 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How to Braid
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1. The Basic Setting
1-1. Brush your hair.
Brush your hair so it is light and fluffy. You want to get rid of any knots so your braid is silky smooth! This also makes the braiding process easier, so make sure you do it.
1-2. Decide where the braid is going to be.
Is it going to be at the back of your head on a pony tail? Is it going to be at the side or lower down near your neck? Decide this to determine where and how it will look best.
2. Braiding Hair
2-1. Divide your hair into three sections.
Use a comb to part your hair in two places to create three sections with even amounts of hair. One section is on the right side of your head, one in the middle, and one on the left side. Use your fingers to hold the sections separate from each other.
2-2. Cross the right section over the middle section.
Keep the sections tight, so the finished braid won't come loose. Now the right section has become the middle section.
2-3. Cross the left section over the middle section.
Cross the left section over the middle section. You've now completed the first segment of the braid. Keep holding the sections taut and apart from one another.
2-4. Continue crossing the right and left sections over the middle.
Keep weaving the left section over the middle, then the right section over the middle, always holding all of the sections taut and separate. Keep braiding the sections together until you run out of hair.
2-5. Secure the end with a hairband.
Hold the braid in place by wrapping a hairband around the end, leaving a 1" unbraided tail to keep it secure.
2-6. Try other braiding styles.
Now that you know the basic braiding form, try these gorgeous hairstyles to show off your new skills. They may take some practice, but you'll be pleased with the results.
Do a French braid. French braids start at the scalp, incorporating hair from the sides of the head, and end in a braided tail secured with a hairband. Done correctly, a French braid will keep your hair out of your face all day and earn you plenty of compliments.
Do a fishtail braid. This pretty braid looks more delicate than a regular braid, since you're working with smaller sections of hair.
Try a Dutch braid. This looks like a French braid, only inside-out.
Create a rope braid. This is made by twisting the strands of hair as you braid them.
3. Braiding Ribbon or String
3-1. Cut three pieces the same length.
Whether you're using ribbon, string, or another long, thin material, start with three pieces that are all the same.
3-2. Tie the three pieces together with a knot.
Use a knot to tie the pieces together about 1/2" from the ends. You can double knot the pieces to make sure they're secure.
3-3. Tape the ends to a board.
Use a piece of masking tape to tape the ends above the knot to a board or other hard surface, to keep the pieces anchored while you braid.
3-4. Separate the pieces and hold them taut.
One is the left piece, one is the middle piece, and one is the right piece.
3-5. Cross the right piece over the middle piece.
Now the formerly left piece is in the middle. Continue holding all three pieces taut.
3-6. Cross the left piece over the middle piece.
This completes the first section of the braid.
3-7. Continue crossing the right and left pieces over the middle.
Alternate crossing the left over the middle, then the right over the middle, making sure the strings stay taut. Continue weaving the strings in this way until you've run out of string to weave.
3-8. Tie a knot in the bottom.
Gather the three ends and make another knot to secure them.
4. Braiding Flowers
4-1. Pick three flowers with long stems.
Try to pick them so that the stems are all approximately the same length. You need flowers with sturdy, pliable stems, like dandelions or clover.
4-2. Hold the flowers together just below their heads.
Lightly pinch them together with one hand to hold them in place.
4-3. Separate the stems.
Use the other hand to gently separate the three stems, so you have a right stem, a middle stem, and a left stem.
4-4. Cross the right stem over the middle stem.
Keep handling the stems gently, and cross the right stem over the middle so that the right has now become the middle.
4-5. Cross the left stem over the middle stem.
Now the left stem has become the middle stem.
4-6. Keep weaving the stems in this manner.
Cross the right over the middle, then the left over the middle. Don't pull too hard, or the stems may break.
4-7. Secure the ends.
Once you've run out of stem to weave, secure the three ends together by tying a knot, if possible, or using a bit of string instead if you want to make sure not to break the stems.
Tips
Apply a detangling product to your hair before braiding it if you have a lot of tangles or knots.[2]
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Expert Source
Ndeye Anta NiangHair Stylist & Master Braider
Expert Interview. 10 January 2020.
Don't get frustrated, you don't learn in a day.
Use a good quality hair band so it doesn't snap.
Warnings
Be cautious while removing the hair band, as it gets tangled if pulled away harshly.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. The Basic Setting\\n1-1. Brush your hair.\\nBrush your hair so it is light and fluffy. You want to get rid of any knots so your braid is silky smooth! This also makes the braiding process easier, so make sure you do it.\\n1-2. Decide where the braid is going to be.\\nIs it going to be at the back of your head on a pony tail? Is it going to be at the side or lower down near your neck? Decide this to determine where and how it will look best.\\n2. Braiding Hair\\n2-1. Divide your hair into three sections.\\nUse a comb to part your hair in two places to create three sections with even amounts of hair. One section is on the right side of your head, one in the middle, and one on the left side. Use your fingers to hold the sections separate from each other.\\n2-2. Cross the right section over the middle section.\\nKeep the sections tight, so the finished braid won't come loose. Now the right section has become the middle section.\\n2-3. Cross the left section over the middle section.\\nCross the left section over the middle section. You've now completed the first segment of the braid. Keep holding the sections taut and apart from one another.\\n2-4. Continue crossing the right and left sections over the middle.\\nKeep weaving the left section over the middle, then the right section over the middle, always holding all of the sections taut and separate. Keep braiding the sections together until you run out of hair.\\n2-5. Secure the end with a hairband.\\nHold the braid in place by wrapping a hairband around the end, leaving a 1\\\" unbraided tail to keep it secure.\\n2-6. Try other braiding styles.\\nNow that you know the basic braiding form, try these gorgeous hairstyles to show off your new skills. They may take some practice, but you'll be pleased with the results.\\n\\n Do a French braid. French braids start at the scalp, incorporating hair from the sides of the head, and end in a braided tail secured with a hairband. Done correctly, a French braid will keep your hair out of your face all day and earn you plenty of compliments.\\n Do a fishtail braid. This pretty braid looks more delicate than a regular braid, since you're working with smaller sections of hair.\\n Try a Dutch braid. This looks like a French braid, only inside-out.\\n Create a rope braid. This is made by twisting the strands of hair as you braid them.\\n3. Braiding Ribbon or String\\n3-1. Cut three pieces the same length.\\nWhether you're using ribbon, string, or another long, thin material, start with three pieces that are all the same.\\n3-2. Tie the three pieces together with a knot.\\nUse a knot to tie the pieces together about 1/2\\\" from the ends. You can double knot the pieces to make sure they're secure.\\n3-3. Tape the ends to a board.\\nUse a piece of masking tape to tape the ends above the knot to a board or other hard surface, to keep the pieces anchored while you braid.\\n3-4. Separate the pieces and hold them taut.\\nOne is the left piece, one is the middle piece, and one is the right piece.\\n3-5. Cross the right piece over the middle piece.\\nNow the formerly left piece is in the middle. Continue holding all three pieces taut.\\n3-6. Cross the left piece over the middle piece.\\nThis completes the first section of the braid.\\n3-7. Continue crossing the right and left pieces over the middle.\\nAlternate crossing the left over the middle, then the right over the middle, making sure the strings stay taut. Continue weaving the strings in this way until you've run out of string to weave.\\n3-8. Tie a knot in the bottom.\\nGather the three ends and make another knot to secure them.\\n4. Braiding Flowers\\n4-1. Pick three flowers with long stems.\\nTry to pick them so that the stems are all approximately the same length. You need flowers with sturdy, pliable stems, like dandelions or clover.\\n4-2. Hold the flowers together just below their heads.\\nLightly pinch them together with one hand to hold them in place.\\n4-3. Separate the stems.\\nUse the other hand to gently separate the three stems, so you have a right stem, a middle stem, and a left stem.\\n4-4. Cross the right stem over the middle stem.\\nKeep handling the stems gently, and cross the right stem over the middle so that the right has now become the middle.\\n4-5. Cross the left stem over the middle stem.\\nNow the left stem has become the middle stem.\\n4-6. Keep weaving the stems in this manner.\\nCross the right over the middle, then the left over the middle. Don't pull too hard, or the stems may break.\\n4-7. Secure the ends.\\nOnce you've run out of stem to weave, secure the three ends together by tying a knot, if possible, or using a bit of string instead if you want to make sure not to break the stems.\\nTips\\nApply a detangling product to your hair before braiding it if you have a lot of tangles or knots.[2]\\nX\\nExpert Source\\n\\nNdeye Anta NiangHair Stylist & Master Braider\\nExpert Interview. 10 January 2020.\\nDon't get frustrated, you don't learn in a day.\\nUse a good quality hair band so it doesn't snap.\\nWarnings\\nBe cautious while removing the hair band, as it gets tangled if pulled away harshly.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Braiding is a simple weaving technique used for everything from hair to ribbon to flowers. Braiding your hair can be a huge timesaver while also creating a hairdo you can flaunt! Once you learn the basic technique, you can move on to more complicated braid types.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"The Basic Setting\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Brush your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Brush your hair so it is light and fluffy. You want to get rid of any knots so your braid is silky smooth! This also makes the braiding process easier, so make sure you do it.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Decide where the braid is going to be.\", \"描述\": \"Is it going to be at the back of your head on a pony tail? Is it going to be at the side or lower down near your neck? Decide this to determine where and how it will look best.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Braiding Hair\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Divide your hair into three sections.\", \"描述\": \"Use a comb to part your hair in two places to create three sections with even amounts of hair. One section is on the right side of your head, one in the middle, and one on the left side. Use your fingers to hold the sections separate from each other.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Cross the right section over the middle section.\", \"描述\": \"Keep the sections tight, so the finished braid won't come loose. Now the right section has become the middle section.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Cross the left section over the middle section.\", \"描述\": \"Cross the left section over the middle section. You've now completed the first segment of the braid. Keep holding the sections taut and apart from one another.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Continue crossing the right and left sections over the middle.\", \"描述\": \"Keep weaving the left section over the middle, then the right section over the middle, always holding all of the sections taut and separate. Keep braiding the sections together until you run out of hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Secure the end with a hairband.\", \"描述\": \"Hold the braid in place by wrapping a hairband around the end, leaving a 1\\\" unbraided tail to keep it secure.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Try other braiding styles.\", \"描述\": \"Now that you know the basic braiding form, try these gorgeous hairstyles to show off your new skills. They may take some practice, but you'll be pleased with the results.\\n\\n Do a French braid. French braids start at the scalp, incorporating hair from the sides of the head, and end in a braided tail secured with a hairband. Done correctly, a French braid will keep your hair out of your face all day and earn you plenty of compliments.\\n Do a fishtail braid. This pretty braid looks more delicate than a regular braid, since you're working with smaller sections of hair.\\n Try a Dutch braid. This looks like a French braid, only inside-out.\\n Create a rope braid. This is made by twisting the strands of hair as you braid them.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Braiding Ribbon or String\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Cut three pieces the same length.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you're using ribbon, string, or another long, thin material, start with three pieces that are all the same.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Tie the three pieces together with a knot.\", \"描述\": \"Use a knot to tie the pieces together about 1/2\\\" from the ends. You can double knot the pieces to make sure they're secure.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Tape the ends to a board.\", \"描述\": \"Use a piece of masking tape to tape the ends above the knot to a board or other hard surface, to keep the pieces anchored while you braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Separate the pieces and hold them taut.\", \"描述\": \"One is the left piece, one is the middle piece, and one is the right piece.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Cross the right piece over the middle piece.\", \"描述\": \"Now the formerly left piece is in the middle. Continue holding all three pieces taut.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Cross the left piece over the middle piece.\", \"描述\": \"This completes the first section of the braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Continue crossing the right and left pieces over the middle.\", \"描述\": \"Alternate crossing the left over the middle, then the right over the middle, making sure the strings stay taut. Continue weaving the strings in this way until you've run out of string to weave.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Tie a knot in the bottom.\", \"描述\": \"Gather the three ends and make another knot to secure them.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Braiding Flowers\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pick three flowers with long stems.\", \"描述\": \"Try to pick them so that the stems are all approximately the same length. 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Don't pull too hard, or the stems may break.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Secure the ends.\", \"描述\": \"Once you've run out of stem to weave, secure the three ends together by tying a knot, if possible, or using a bit of string instead if you want to make sure not to break the stems.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Apply a detangling product to your hair before braiding it if you have a lot of tangles or knots.[2]\\nX\\nExpert Source\\n\\nNdeye Anta NiangHair Stylist & Master Braider\\nExpert Interview. 10 January 2020.\\n\", \"Don't get frustrated, you don't learn in a day.\\n\", \"Use a good quality hair band so it doesn't snap.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Be cautious while removing the hair band, as it gets tangled if pulled away harshly.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Braid African Hair: Black Braided Hairstyles
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1. Creating Box Braids
1-1. Wash and condition your hair.
Start by washing your hair as per usual, and then use a deep conditioner to help soften your strands. Leave the conditioner on your hair for the amount of time recommended on the bottle, then rinse it out with cool water.
To minimize dryness and frizz, use a gentle, sulfate-free shampoo.
1-2. Detangle your hair.
When you’ve rinsed your conditioner out, use a wide-tooth comb to brush out all the tangles, starting from the ends and working towards the roots. For even gentler detangling, use your fingers to tease out any knots and tangles.
1-3. Blow-dry your hair to relax and defrizz your curls.
Use your hairdryer on “low” to blow out your curls, so that they are almost completely dry. Brush out your hair once more to make sure there are no knots, and then you’re ready to start your braids.
Blow-drying your hair will help stretch and relax the curls, reducing frizz and making the hair easier to manage during the braiding process.
1-4. Prepare your packages of braiding hair.
Box braids use ‘braid hair’ – synthetic hair strands that are very long – to fill in the space on your scalp and give you plenty of fullness in your braids. Take each chunk of hair out of the packages individually, and hold them in the center, cutting off the elastic bands holding it together. With a grip on the center and the 2 tail ends of the hair hanging down, begin pulling the strands on 1 side of the hair. This will give the ends of your hair a more natural look, otherwise the packaged hair is blunt-cut straight across and your braids will look a bit unnatural when you’re finished.
Choose your braid hair in a color similar to your own, and get at least 2 large packages. The longer and thicker you want your braids to be, the more packages of braid hair you will need. If you want shorter braids, use fewer packages and cut the braid hair into halves or thirds.
When you’re pulling the hair, gently tug at small strands rather than big portions of hair.
Run your fingers through the hair when you’re finished evening out the ends to remove any knots that might have shown up.
1-5. Get a strand of braiding-hair ready for braiding.
Section off your first piece of braiding hair into a strand that is about 2–3 inches (5.1–7.6 cm) wide. Then, separate off ⅓ of this section. You should be holding 2 sections with 1 that is twice as thick as the other. Wrap the smaller strand around the larger one, so that the tail ends are facing opposite directions (like ‘><’). Take the smaller strand and grab it at the center where it is intertwined with the first strand. Carefully twist the strand over and under, so that the 2 tail ends form a single piece that sticks out between the original tail strands.
You should be left with 3 strands of approximately equal size, which you can hold in 1 hand.
1-6. Section off your hair on your scalp for braiding.
Use a rat-tooth comb to carefully section a small piece of hair on your scalp, approximately 1-inch by 1-inch (2.5 cm by 2.5 cm). It will probably be easiest to start on 1 side of your head near your hairline and work your way back, but you can start wherever you are comfortable. Use a bit of hair gel or edge control product to prepare this section, making it easier to manipulate.
If you want to do basic box braids, you can section the hair into square “boxes.” You can also get creative and make sections in other shapes, such as diamonds or triangles.
1-7. Start your first braid.
Hold your braiding hair in your hand so that 1 strand is between your thumb and index finger, a second strand is between your index and middle finger, and the third strand is hanging behind the first 2. Grab the section of hair closest to your scalp with your thumb and index finger, as close to the roots as possible. To start the braid:
Reach your empty hand around your head and grab the third strand of braiding hair hanging behind the ones gripped in your hand.
Simultaneously pull the 3rd strand of hair under and incorporate the hair from your scalp into the section between your thumb and index finger, and twist it over in the opposite direction.
Pull the third loose section of hair into the middle, between the other 2 sections. You should now have 3 separate strands of hair that are held tight to your scalp, with your natural hair incorporated into 1 of the sections.
1-8. Braid your section of hair
With your braiding hair as close to your scalp as possible, begin braiding tightly in the traditional pattern. Alternate placing the left-most strand over the middle section, and then the right-most strand over the middle section. When you reach the end of your braid, the strands should taper out into a smaller and smaller braid. You don’t need to use an elastic band to hold it in place, as it should hold on its own.
1-9. Braid additional sections of hair.
Repeat the same steps as aforementioned to braid the rest of your head:
Section a 1-inch by 1-inch (2.5 cm by 2.5 cm) piece of hair from your scalp, and apply gel or edge control.
Prepare your braiding hair and part it into 3 strands.
Use the twisting method to combine your natural hair into your braiding hair.
Complete the braid using a regular 3-strand method until you reach the ends.
1-10. Perfect each braid.
As you braid, it is important to take the time to make sure they are all smooth, flexible, and even. If you notice any bulging strands or lumps in your braid, you’ll need to take it out and start over from the beginning. If your natural hair is sticking out from the strands of your braiding hair, you’ll need to remove your braiding hair and add gel or edge control to moisturize it and reduce frizz.
You may have to re-braid the same strand multiple times in order to get it just right.
If your braid is uneven, you may have started with sections of differing thickness. You’ll have to take out your braiding hair and re-split it into 3 even sections.
2. Braiding Cornrows
2-1. Wash and condition your hair.
Because you’ll likely be leaving your hair in cornrows for several weeks straight, you want to make sure that you start with clean, well-conditioned hair. Wash your hair with your regular shampoo, and then use a deep conditioner to soften it. You’ll also want to use a hair gel of some sort while you braid, to keep your hair smooth, frizz-free, and easy to control and manipulate.
2-2. Decide where your part will be.
Cornrows can be braided in any direction, so it is important that you decide where your part will be before you start braiding. The 2 most common part styles are either in rows from your hairline straight back to the nape of your neck, or braided in a circular motion around your head from a center part. You’ll need to use a rat-tooth comb to part your hair in the desired pattern, and to split your hair into sections for braiding.
2-3. Section your hair.
Fill a spray bottle with water and a little bit of olive oil and shake it well. Then, spray down the section of hair you are working with. Use your comb to separate off this section of hair in a row down your head. The smaller the part, the smaller the braid; the larger the part, the larger the braid. Use butterfly clips to hold your remaining hair in place out of your face.
2-4. Begin your first cornrow
Take the sectioned part of hair in 1 hand and pull a small piece from the very top (near your hairline) away from the rest of the bunch. Separate this small piece of hair into 3 sections of equal size. Start braiding these 3 pieces in the traditional braiding pattern: cross the right-most section over the middle section, then cross the left-most section over the middle section, back and forth.
2-5. Add in more hair to your cornrow.
The cornrows are created by braiding your sectioned hair in a French braid really close to your head. As you work down your parted section of hair, continue your braid the same way you started it. However, as you braid, grab small portions of hair from the un-braided part and incorporate them into each strand you cross over the middle section. You are essentially creating a very tiny french braid.
As you add in hair, pull the braid tight and keep your fingers close to your head.
Don’t braid your hair away from your head, as this will make your cornrows loose and appear funny.
2-6. Finish your cornrow.
When you get to the nape of your neck, you may or may not run out of hair. If your hair is short, you will finish your cornrow by twisting the ends of the braid together to secure them and prevent unravelling. If your hair is a bit longer, you will continue your cornrow past the nape of your neck in a regular braid. Twist the ends to secure the braid when you’re finished.
You can choose to use small, clear elastic bands to hold your cornrows in place if you’re worried about the braids coming loose.
Some people choose to put beads on the ends of each braid as a decorative detail.
2-7. Cornrow the rest of your hair.
Work across your scalp, sectioning out even pieces of hair and braiding them into cornrows. The process can be quite time-consuming, so don’t be alarmed if it takes several hours to complete. Make sure that each cornrow is the same size and follows the same pattern, so that it appears even and intentional across your head.
If your hair is sticking out from your braids, it is likely not moisturized enough and your braids aren’t tight enough. Add more styling product, such as gel, edge control, pomade, or mousse, to remedy this.
You might need help from someone to make sure that all your rows are even and parallel, especially on the back of your head.
3. Making 2-strand Twist Braids
3-1. Wash and condition your hair.
Just like with other braiding styles, your hair needs to be well-moisturized and de-tangled prior to starting your 2-strand twists. Wash your hair as per usual, and then use a deep conditioning cream to moisturize it.
Your 2 strand twists will be easier to style if they are wet or at least slightly damp, so do not blow dry or air-dry your hair completely before styling.
Use a comb to remove any tangles or knots that might be present.
3-2. Decide on the size of your twists.
There are many options when it comes to braiding your 2-strand twists. The most obvious decision you’ll need to make is how large you want your braids to be. You can do ‘micro twists,’ which use dozens of teeny-tiny braids, or you can do jumbo twists that use 1-inch (2.5 cm) sections or larger of hair.
Small twists will last much longer than large twists, but the process is obviously more time-consuming. Decide what size you want based on your personal style and the amount of time you have to work on your hair.
3-3. Prepare your first section.
Use a rat-tail comb to part a section of hair to your desired size. The section of hair should be a square in shape. Rub a bit of style gel or cream through your hair and mist it with a little water and olive oil to reduce frizz and make it easier to manipulate. Use your comb to brush through this section several times, to make sure that the hair is completely smooth and tangle-free.
3-4. Start twisting your first section.
Split your section of hair into 2 equal strands. Begin winding them tightly away from your head in a rope-like pattern. You’ll simply wrap the strands simultaneously around each other to create a twist. To keep it tight, you’ll want to pull the twist tight to your scalp as you work.
3-5. Finish your first twist.
When you near the end of your strand and begin running out of hair to twist, you will need to switch to doing a 1-strand twist to secure the ends. To do this, take the 2 strands and combine them together (there shouldn’t be much hair left to do this with). Then, wrap this section around your finger many times, in the same direction you were twisting the 2 strands of hair. This will curl the ends of the hair in the same direction, securing them in place.
This method works best if your hair is naturally curly rather than chemically relaxed or permed.
3-6. Repeat the twisting process on the rest of your hair.
Continue working your way across your scalp, creating your 2-strand twists. The process is the exact same for each twist, just make sure that you section off equal amounts of hair so that all your twists are the same size.
Section a small piece of hair, comb it, and apply your gel or cream.
Split your section into 2 equal strands.
Wrap the strands around each other to form a rope-braid.
Twist the ends of the 2-strand braid together to secure them and prevent the braid from unravelling.
Tips
You can add beads to the hair while braiding.
You can make your braids shinier by putting hair grease or hair oils in your hair. Wait to do this until after you have finished braiding, since adding oil to your hair beforehand will make the hair too slippery to work with.
If you're unsure about how to braid the hair without damage, or if you're displeased with the overall look, visit a local salon or hairstyling business that specializes in Black hairstyles.
Warnings
Don't attempt to wear tight braids for an extended period of time if your hair is already very weak, brittle or damaged. Braids, when worn for long periods of time, can be damaging to the hair.
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Brush out your hair once more to make sure there are no knots, and then you’re ready to start your braids.\\nBlow-drying your hair will help stretch and relax the curls, reducing frizz and making the hair easier to manage during the braiding process.\\n1-4. Prepare your packages of braiding hair.\\nBox braids use ‘braid hair’ – synthetic hair strands that are very long – to fill in the space on your scalp and give you plenty of fullness in your braids. Take each chunk of hair out of the packages individually, and hold them in the center, cutting off the elastic bands holding it together. With a grip on the center and the 2 tail ends of the hair hanging down, begin pulling the strands on 1 side of the hair. This will give the ends of your hair a more natural look, otherwise the packaged hair is blunt-cut straight across and your braids will look a bit unnatural when you’re finished.\\nChoose your braid hair in a color similar to your own, and get at least 2 large packages. The longer and thicker you want your braids to be, the more packages of braid hair you will need. If you want shorter braids, use fewer packages and cut the braid hair into halves or thirds.\\nWhen you’re pulling the hair, gently tug at small strands rather than big portions of hair.\\nRun your fingers through the hair when you’re finished evening out the ends to remove any knots that might have shown up.\\n1-5. Get a strand of braiding-hair ready for braiding.\\nSection off your first piece of braiding hair into a strand that is about 2–3 inches (5.1–7.6 cm) wide. Then, separate off ⅓ of this section. You should be holding 2 sections with 1 that is twice as thick as the other. Wrap the smaller strand around the larger one, so that the tail ends are facing opposite directions (like ‘><’). Take the smaller strand and grab it at the center where it is intertwined with the first strand. Carefully twist the strand over and under, so that the 2 tail ends form a single piece that sticks out between the original tail strands.\\nYou should be left with 3 strands of approximately equal size, which you can hold in 1 hand.\\n1-6. Section off your hair on your scalp for braiding.\\nUse a rat-tooth comb to carefully section a small piece of hair on your scalp, approximately 1-inch by 1-inch (2.5 cm by 2.5 cm). It will probably be easiest to start on 1 side of your head near your hairline and work your way back, but you can start wherever you are comfortable. Use a bit of hair gel or edge control product to prepare this section, making it easier to manipulate.\\nIf you want to do basic box braids, you can section the hair into square “boxes.” You can also get creative and make sections in other shapes, such as diamonds or triangles.\\n1-7. Start your first braid.\\nHold your braiding hair in your hand so that 1 strand is between your thumb and index finger, a second strand is between your index and middle finger, and the third strand is hanging behind the first 2. Grab the section of hair closest to your scalp with your thumb and index finger, as close to the roots as possible. To start the braid:\\nReach your empty hand around your head and grab the third strand of braiding hair hanging behind the ones gripped in your hand.\\nSimultaneously pull the 3rd strand of hair under and incorporate the hair from your scalp into the section between your thumb and index finger, and twist it over in the opposite direction.\\nPull the third loose section of hair into the middle, between the other 2 sections. You should now have 3 separate strands of hair that are held tight to your scalp, with your natural hair incorporated into 1 of the sections.\\n1-8. Braid your section of hair\\nWith your braiding hair as close to your scalp as possible, begin braiding tightly in the traditional pattern. Alternate placing the left-most strand over the middle section, and then the right-most strand over the middle section. When you reach the end of your braid, the strands should taper out into a smaller and smaller braid. You don’t need to use an elastic band to hold it in place, as it should hold on its own.\\n1-9. Braid additional sections of hair.\\nRepeat the same steps as aforementioned to braid the rest of your head:\\nSection a 1-inch by 1-inch (2.5 cm by 2.5 cm) piece of hair from your scalp, and apply gel or edge control.\\nPrepare your braiding hair and part it into 3 strands.\\nUse the twisting method to combine your natural hair into your braiding hair.\\nComplete the braid using a regular 3-strand method until you reach the ends.\\n1-10. Perfect each braid.\\nAs you braid, it is important to take the time to make sure they are all smooth, flexible, and even. If you notice any bulging strands or lumps in your braid, you’ll need to take it out and start over from the beginning. If your natural hair is sticking out from the strands of your braiding hair, you’ll need to remove your braiding hair and add gel or edge control to moisturize it and reduce frizz.\\nYou may have to re-braid the same strand multiple times in order to get it just right.\\nIf your braid is uneven, you may have started with sections of differing thickness. You’ll have to take out your braiding hair and re-split it into 3 even sections.\\n2. Braiding Cornrows\\n2-1. Wash and condition your hair.\\nBecause you’ll likely be leaving your hair in cornrows for several weeks straight, you want to make sure that you start with clean, well-conditioned hair. Wash your hair with your regular shampoo, and then use a deep conditioner to soften it. You’ll also want to use a hair gel of some sort while you braid, to keep your hair smooth, frizz-free, and easy to control and manipulate.\\n2-2. Decide where your part will be.\\nCornrows can be braided in any direction, so it is important that you decide where your part will be before you start braiding. The 2 most common part styles are either in rows from your hairline straight back to the nape of your neck, or braided in a circular motion around your head from a center part. You’ll need to use a rat-tooth comb to part your hair in the desired pattern, and to split your hair into sections for braiding.\\n2-3. Section your hair.\\nFill a spray bottle with water and a little bit of olive oil and shake it well. Then, spray down the section of hair you are working with. Use your comb to separate off this section of hair in a row down your head. The smaller the part, the smaller the braid; the larger the part, the larger the braid. Use butterfly clips to hold your remaining hair in place out of your face.\\n2-4. Begin your first cornrow\\nTake the sectioned part of hair in 1 hand and pull a small piece from the very top (near your hairline) away from the rest of the bunch. Separate this small piece of hair into 3 sections of equal size. Start braiding these 3 pieces in the traditional braiding pattern: cross the right-most section over the middle section, then cross the left-most section over the middle section, back and forth.\\n2-5. Add in more hair to your cornrow.\\nThe cornrows are created by braiding your sectioned hair in a French braid really close to your head. As you work down your parted section of hair, continue your braid the same way you started it. However, as you braid, grab small portions of hair from the un-braided part and incorporate them into each strand you cross over the middle section. You are essentially creating a very tiny french braid.\\nAs you add in hair, pull the braid tight and keep your fingers close to your head.\\nDon’t braid your hair away from your head, as this will make your cornrows loose and appear funny.\\n2-6. Finish your cornrow.\\nWhen you get to the nape of your neck, you may or may not run out of hair. If your hair is short, you will finish your cornrow by twisting the ends of the braid together to secure them and prevent unravelling. If your hair is a bit longer, you will continue your cornrow past the nape of your neck in a regular braid. Twist the ends to secure the braid when you’re finished.\\nYou can choose to use small, clear elastic bands to hold your cornrows in place if you’re worried about the braids coming loose.\\nSome people choose to put beads on the ends of each braid as a decorative detail.\\n2-7. Cornrow the rest of your hair.\\nWork across your scalp, sectioning out even pieces of hair and braiding them into cornrows. The process can be quite time-consuming, so don’t be alarmed if it takes several hours to complete. Make sure that each cornrow is the same size and follows the same pattern, so that it appears even and intentional across your head.\\nIf your hair is sticking out from your braids, it is likely not moisturized enough and your braids aren’t tight enough. Add more styling product, such as gel, edge control, pomade, or mousse, to remedy this.\\nYou might need help from someone to make sure that all your rows are even and parallel, especially on the back of your head.\\n3. Making 2-strand Twist Braids\\n3-1. Wash and condition your hair.\\nJust like with other braiding styles, your hair needs to be well-moisturized and de-tangled prior to starting your 2-strand twists. Wash your hair as per usual, and then use a deep conditioning cream to moisturize it.\\nYour 2 strand twists will be easier to style if they are wet or at least slightly damp, so do not blow dry or air-dry your hair completely before styling.\\nUse a comb to remove any tangles or knots that might be present.\\n3-2. Decide on the size of your twists.\\nThere are many options when it comes to braiding your 2-strand twists. The most obvious decision you’ll need to make is how large you want your braids to be. You can do ‘micro twists,’ which use dozens of teeny-tiny braids, or you can do jumbo twists that use 1-inch (2.5 cm) sections or larger of hair.\\nSmall twists will last much longer than large twists, but the process is obviously more time-consuming. Decide what size you want based on your personal style and the amount of time you have to work on your hair.\\n3-3. Prepare your first section.\\nUse a rat-tail comb to part a section of hair to your desired size. The section of hair should be a square in shape. Rub a bit of style gel or cream through your hair and mist it with a little water and olive oil to reduce frizz and make it easier to manipulate. Use your comb to brush through this section several times, to make sure that the hair is completely smooth and tangle-free.\\n3-4. Start twisting your first section.\\nSplit your section of hair into 2 equal strands. Begin winding them tightly away from your head in a rope-like pattern. You’ll simply wrap the strands simultaneously around each other to create a twist. To keep it tight, you’ll want to pull the twist tight to your scalp as you work.\\n3-5. Finish your first twist.\\nWhen you near the end of your strand and begin running out of hair to twist, you will need to switch to doing a 1-strand twist to secure the ends. To do this, take the 2 strands and combine them together (there shouldn’t be much hair left to do this with). Then, wrap this section around your finger many times, in the same direction you were twisting the 2 strands of hair. This will curl the ends of the hair in the same direction, securing them in place.\\nThis method works best if your hair is naturally curly rather than chemically relaxed or permed.\\n3-6. Repeat the twisting process on the rest of your hair.\\nContinue working your way across your scalp, creating your 2-strand twists. The process is the exact same for each twist, just make sure that you section off equal amounts of hair so that all your twists are the same size.\\nSection a small piece of hair, comb it, and apply your gel or cream.\\nSplit your section into 2 equal strands.\\nWrap the strands around each other to form a rope-braid.\\nTwist the ends of the 2-strand braid together to secure them and prevent the braid from unravelling.\\nTips\\nYou can add beads to the hair while braiding.\\nYou can make your braids shinier by putting hair grease or hair oils in your hair. Wait to do this until after you have finished braiding, since adding oil to your hair beforehand will make the hair too slippery to work with.\\nIf you're unsure about how to braid the hair without damage, or if you're displeased with the overall look, visit a local salon or hairstyling business that specializes in Black hairstyles.\\nWarnings\\nDon't attempt to wear tight braids for an extended period of time if your hair is already very weak, brittle or damaged. Braids, when worn for long periods of time, can be damaging to the hair.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Because of its natural thickness and fullness, braiding African hair can be a challenge, but it's possible with a little help. Rope braids and cornrows are beautiful, classic styles that you can do without going to a salon. Be gentle with your hair, and take your time! The results will be well worth it.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Creating Box Braids\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wash and condition your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Start by washing your hair as per usual, and then use a deep conditioner to help soften your strands. Leave the conditioner on your hair for the amount of time recommended on the bottle, then rinse it out with cool water.\\nTo minimize dryness and frizz, use a gentle, sulfate-free shampoo.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Detangle your hair.\", \"描述\": \"When you’ve rinsed your conditioner out, use a wide-tooth comb to brush out all the tangles, starting from the ends and working towards the roots. For even gentler detangling, use your fingers to tease out any knots and tangles.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Blow-dry your hair to relax and defrizz your curls.\", \"描述\": \"Use your hairdryer on “low” to blow out your curls, so that they are almost completely dry. Brush out your hair once more to make sure there are no knots, and then you’re ready to start your braids.\\nBlow-drying your hair will help stretch and relax the curls, reducing frizz and making the hair easier to manage during the braiding process.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Prepare your packages of braiding hair.\", \"描述\": \"Box braids use ‘braid hair’ – synthetic hair strands that are very long – to fill in the space on your scalp and give you plenty of fullness in your braids. Take each chunk of hair out of the packages individually, and hold them in the center, cutting off the elastic bands holding it together. With a grip on the center and the 2 tail ends of the hair hanging down, begin pulling the strands on 1 side of the hair. This will give the ends of your hair a more natural look, otherwise the packaged hair is blunt-cut straight across and your braids will look a bit unnatural when you’re finished.\\nChoose your braid hair in a color similar to your own, and get at least 2 large packages. The longer and thicker you want your braids to be, the more packages of braid hair you will need. If you want shorter braids, use fewer packages and cut the braid hair into halves or thirds.\\nWhen you’re pulling the hair, gently tug at small strands rather than big portions of hair.\\nRun your fingers through the hair when you’re finished evening out the ends to remove any knots that might have shown up.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get a strand of braiding-hair ready for braiding.\", \"描述\": \"Section off your first piece of braiding hair into a strand that is about 2–3 inches (5.1–7.6 cm) wide. Then, separate off ⅓ of this section. You should be holding 2 sections with 1 that is twice as thick as the other. Wrap the smaller strand around the larger one, so that the tail ends are facing opposite directions (like ‘><’). Take the smaller strand and grab it at the center where it is intertwined with the first strand. Carefully twist the strand over and under, so that the 2 tail ends form a single piece that sticks out between the original tail strands.\\nYou should be left with 3 strands of approximately equal size, which you can hold in 1 hand.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Section off your hair on your scalp for braiding.\", \"描述\": \"Use a rat-tooth comb to carefully section a small piece of hair on your scalp, approximately 1-inch by 1-inch (2.5 cm by 2.5 cm). It will probably be easiest to start on 1 side of your head near your hairline and work your way back, but you can start wherever you are comfortable. Use a bit of hair gel or edge control product to prepare this section, making it easier to manipulate.\\nIf you want to do basic box braids, you can section the hair into square “boxes.” You can also get creative and make sections in other shapes, such as diamonds or triangles.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Start your first braid.\", \"描述\": \"Hold your braiding hair in your hand so that 1 strand is between your thumb and index finger, a second strand is between your index and middle finger, and the third strand is hanging behind the first 2. Grab the section of hair closest to your scalp with your thumb and index finger, as close to the roots as possible. To start the braid:\\nReach your empty hand around your head and grab the third strand of braiding hair hanging behind the ones gripped in your hand.\\nSimultaneously pull the 3rd strand of hair under and incorporate the hair from your scalp into the section between your thumb and index finger, and twist it over in the opposite direction.\\nPull the third loose section of hair into the middle, between the other 2 sections. You should now have 3 separate strands of hair that are held tight to your scalp, with your natural hair incorporated into 1 of the sections.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Braid your section of hair\", \"描述\": \"With your braiding hair as close to your scalp as possible, begin braiding tightly in the traditional pattern. Alternate placing the left-most strand over the middle section, and then the right-most strand over the middle section. When you reach the end of your braid, the strands should taper out into a smaller and smaller braid. You don’t need to use an elastic band to hold it in place, as it should hold on its own.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Braid additional sections of hair.\", \"描述\": \"Repeat the same steps as aforementioned to braid the rest of your head:\\nSection a 1-inch by 1-inch (2.5 cm by 2.5 cm) piece of hair from your scalp, and apply gel or edge control.\\nPrepare your braiding hair and part it into 3 strands.\\nUse the twisting method to combine your natural hair into your braiding hair.\\nComplete the braid using a regular 3-strand method until you reach the ends.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Perfect each braid.\", \"描述\": \"As you braid, it is important to take the time to make sure they are all smooth, flexible, and even. If you notice any bulging strands or lumps in your braid, you’ll need to take it out and start over from the beginning. If your natural hair is sticking out from the strands of your braiding hair, you’ll need to remove your braiding hair and add gel or edge control to moisturize it and reduce frizz.\\nYou may have to re-braid the same strand multiple times in order to get it just right.\\nIf your braid is uneven, you may have started with sections of differing thickness. You’ll have to take out your braiding hair and re-split it into 3 even sections.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Braiding Cornrows\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wash and condition your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Because you’ll likely be leaving your hair in cornrows for several weeks straight, you want to make sure that you start with clean, well-conditioned hair. Wash your hair with your regular shampoo, and then use a deep conditioner to soften it. You’ll also want to use a hair gel of some sort while you braid, to keep your hair smooth, frizz-free, and easy to control and manipulate.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Decide where your part will be.\", \"描述\": \"Cornrows can be braided in any direction, so it is important that you decide where your part will be before you start braiding. The 2 most common part styles are either in rows from your hairline straight back to the nape of your neck, or braided in a circular motion around your head from a center part. You’ll need to use a rat-tooth comb to part your hair in the desired pattern, and to split your hair into sections for braiding.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Section your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Fill a spray bottle with water and a little bit of olive oil and shake it well. Then, spray down the section of hair you are working with. Use your comb to separate off this section of hair in a row down your head. The smaller the part, the smaller the braid; the larger the part, the larger the braid. Use butterfly clips to hold your remaining hair in place out of your face.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Begin your first cornrow\", \"描述\": \"Take the sectioned part of hair in 1 hand and pull a small piece from the very top (near your hairline) away from the rest of the bunch. Separate this small piece of hair into 3 sections of equal size. Start braiding these 3 pieces in the traditional braiding pattern: cross the right-most section over the middle section, then cross the left-most section over the middle section, back and forth.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Add in more hair to your cornrow.\", \"描述\": \"The cornrows are created by braiding your sectioned hair in a French braid really close to your head. As you work down your parted section of hair, continue your braid the same way you started it. However, as you braid, grab small portions of hair from the un-braided part and incorporate them into each strand you cross over the middle section. You are essentially creating a very tiny french braid.\\nAs you add in hair, pull the braid tight and keep your fingers close to your head.\\nDon’t braid your hair away from your head, as this will make your cornrows loose and appear funny.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Finish your cornrow.\", \"描述\": \"When you get to the nape of your neck, you may or may not run out of hair. If your hair is short, you will finish your cornrow by twisting the ends of the braid together to secure them and prevent unravelling. If your hair is a bit longer, you will continue your cornrow past the nape of your neck in a regular braid. Twist the ends to secure the braid when you’re finished.\\nYou can choose to use small, clear elastic bands to hold your cornrows in place if you’re worried about the braids coming loose.\\nSome people choose to put beads on the ends of each braid as a decorative detail.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Cornrow the rest of your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Work across your scalp, sectioning out even pieces of hair and braiding them into cornrows. The process can be quite time-consuming, so don’t be alarmed if it takes several hours to complete. Make sure that each cornrow is the same size and follows the same pattern, so that it appears even and intentional across your head.\\nIf your hair is sticking out from your braids, it is likely not moisturized enough and your braids aren’t tight enough. Add more styling product, such as gel, edge control, pomade, or mousse, to remedy this.\\nYou might need help from someone to make sure that all your rows are even and parallel, especially on the back of your head.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Making 2-strand Twist Braids\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wash and condition your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Just like with other braiding styles, your hair needs to be well-moisturized and de-tangled prior to starting your 2-strand twists. Wash your hair as per usual, and then use a deep conditioning cream to moisturize it.\\nYour 2 strand twists will be easier to style if they are wet or at least slightly damp, so do not blow dry or air-dry your hair completely before styling.\\nUse a comb to remove any tangles or knots that might be present.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Decide on the size of your twists.\", \"描述\": \"There are many options when it comes to braiding your 2-strand twists. The most obvious decision you’ll need to make is how large you want your braids to be. You can do ‘micro twists,’ which use dozens of teeny-tiny braids, or you can do jumbo twists that use 1-inch (2.5 cm) sections or larger of hair.\\nSmall twists will last much longer than large twists, but the process is obviously more time-consuming. Decide what size you want based on your personal style and the amount of time you have to work on your hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Prepare your first section.\", \"描述\": \"Use a rat-tail comb to part a section of hair to your desired size. The section of hair should be a square in shape. Rub a bit of style gel or cream through your hair and mist it with a little water and olive oil to reduce frizz and make it easier to manipulate. Use your comb to brush through this section several times, to make sure that the hair is completely smooth and tangle-free.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Start twisting your first section.\", \"描述\": \"Split your section of hair into 2 equal strands. Begin winding them tightly away from your head in a rope-like pattern. You’ll simply wrap the strands simultaneously around each other to create a twist. To keep it tight, you’ll want to pull the twist tight to your scalp as you work.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Finish your first twist.\", \"描述\": \"When you near the end of your strand and begin running out of hair to twist, you will need to switch to doing a 1-strand twist to secure the ends. To do this, take the 2 strands and combine them together (there shouldn’t be much hair left to do this with). Then, wrap this section around your finger many times, in the same direction you were twisting the 2 strands of hair. This will curl the ends of the hair in the same direction, securing them in place.\\nThis method works best if your hair is naturally curly rather than chemically relaxed or permed.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Repeat the twisting process on the rest of your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Continue working your way across your scalp, creating your 2-strand twists. The process is the exact same for each twist, just make sure that you section off equal amounts of hair so that all your twists are the same size.\\nSection a small piece of hair, comb it, and apply your gel or cream.\\nSplit your section into 2 equal strands.\\nWrap the strands around each other to form a rope-braid.\\nTwist the ends of the 2-strand braid together to secure them and prevent the braid from unravelling.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"You can add beads to the hair while braiding.\\n\", \"You can make your braids shinier by putting hair grease or hair oils in your hair. Wait to do this until after you have finished braiding, since adding oil to your hair beforehand will make the hair too slippery to work with.\\n\", \"If you're unsure about how to braid the hair without damage, or if you're displeased with the overall look, visit a local salon or hairstyling business that specializes in Black hairstyles.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't attempt to wear tight braids for an extended period of time if your hair is already very weak, brittle or damaged. Braids, when worn for long periods of time, can be damaging to the hair.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Braiding Beads with Floss
1-1. Select two to three strands of hair.
These are the strands that you are going to braid. You may pick strands on one side of your head or at the back of your head. It may be easier to start with strands on one side. Pick thin strands if you are using narrow beads and thicker strands if the beads are wide in diameter.
You may braid the strands a bit so the bead sits in the middle of the braid.
Alternatively, you can put the bead in your hair first and then braid the rest of your hair.
1-2. Tie the floss around the strands.
Loop the floss around two to three strands of your hair. Then, tie the floss around the strands. Make a simple knot with the floss.
The strands should form a V-shape, if they are not already braided.
1-3. Thread the ends of the floss through the bead.
Slide the bead through the ends of the floss. Pull the bead down so it sits just above where the floss is tied onto your hair.
You may start with plastic craft beads that are narrow and round. Over time, you can try using professional metal beads that are larger or narrower.
1-4. Pull the floss and your hair through the bead.
Pull the bead through the floss until it slides onto your hair. Gently pull your hair through the bead along with the floss. Your hair may make a “pop” sound as you slide it through the bead.
If your hair does not slide through the bead with the floss easily, you may need to use a wider bead or use less hair in the braid. Start over with a wider bead or less hair.
1-5. Use an elastic to secure the bead.
Once the bead slides onto your hair, remove the floss and use a clear elastic band to secure the bead to your hair. You can then slide the bead over the elastic to keep it in place.
Alternatively, if your hair is thick enough, you may not need an elastic to secure the bead.
1-6. Braid around the bead.
Once the bead is secure, braid the rest of your hair and secure it with an elastic. You can also add more beads and then braid your hair, if you’d like.
Try braiding half way down your hair, then secure a bead, and continue braiding. Vary the types of braids you use in your hair, integrating beads as you go.
2. Braiding Beads with a Threading Tool
2-1. Braid your hair
Start by braiding your hair as you’d like. Create thick braids if you are using wide beads. Make the braids thinner if you are using narrow beads.
Leave half of the braid undone if you'd like the bead to appear in the middle of the braid. Finish the braid and leave the bottom undone if you'd like the bead to appear at the end of the braid.
2-2. Loop the threading tool around your braided hair.
Threading tools for hair are thin, short hooks made of wire. Loop the hook part of the threading tool around a portion of your braided hair.
You can find threading tools online or at beauty supply stores. Sometimes they come in a kit with hair beads and pins that keep the beads in place.
You can also make your own threading tool at home using craft wire or jewelry wire.
2-3. Pull the bead through the threading tool.
Take the bead and slide it through the two ends of the threading tool. Pull the bead through the tool until it sits just above your braided hair.
2-4. Thread your hair and the bead through the tool.
Next, pull your hair and the bead through the threading tool. You may need to gently tug on your hair to get it through the bead and the threading tool.
2-5. Check that the bead is secure.
Remove the threading tool from your hair and check that the bead sits firmly on your braid. Use a clear elastic band to secure the bead. Tie the elastic band to your braid and slide the bead over it so it stays in place.
You can also use a bead pin to keep the bead in place. Clip the bead pin to your braid and slide the bead over it so it stays put.
3. Using Just the Beads and Water
3-1. Braid your hair.
Start by braiding your hair in an area of your choice. The side of your head may be the easiest area to start with. Make the braid thick if you are using wide beads and use a thin braid if you are using narrow beads.
3-2. Twist the end of the braid.
Leave the end of the braid loose. Then, twist the end with your hand so it forms a narrow strand of hair.
3-3. Wet the twisted end.
Use your mouth to wet the twisted end of hair. You can also run the end under running water or use a spray bottle of water to wet it.
Wetting the end will make it easier to thread through the bead.
3-4. Thread the bead through your hair.
Take the bead and carefully thread it through the wet, twisted end of hair. Try to get all of your hair into the opening of the bead.
3-5. Secure it with a hair elastic.
Slide the bead up the braid to where you’d like it to sit. Then, tie a clear hair elastic onto your hair. Pull the bead over the hair elastic so it stays in place.
You can then braid the rest of your hair or add more beads as you see fit.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Braiding Beads with Floss\\n1-1. Select two to three strands of hair.\\nThese are the strands that you are going to braid. You may pick strands on one side of your head or at the back of your head. It may be easier to start with strands on one side. Pick thin strands if you are using narrow beads and thicker strands if the beads are wide in diameter.\\nYou may braid the strands a bit so the bead sits in the middle of the braid.\\nAlternatively, you can put the bead in your hair first and then braid the rest of your hair.\\n1-2. Tie the floss around the strands.\\nLoop the floss around two to three strands of your hair. Then, tie the floss around the strands. Make a simple knot with the floss.\\nThe strands should form a V-shape, if they are not already braided.\\n1-3. Thread the ends of the floss through the bead.\\nSlide the bead through the ends of the floss. Pull the bead down so it sits just above where the floss is tied onto your hair.\\nYou may start with plastic craft beads that are narrow and round. Over time, you can try using professional metal beads that are larger or narrower.\\n1-4. Pull the floss and your hair through the bead.\\nPull the bead through the floss until it slides onto your hair. Gently pull your hair through the bead along with the floss. Your hair may make a “pop” sound as you slide it through the bead.\\nIf your hair does not slide through the bead with the floss easily, you may need to use a wider bead or use less hair in the braid. Start over with a wider bead or less hair.\\n1-5. Use an elastic to secure the bead.\\nOnce the bead slides onto your hair, remove the floss and use a clear elastic band to secure the bead to your hair. You can then slide the bead over the elastic to keep it in place.\\nAlternatively, if your hair is thick enough, you may not need an elastic to secure the bead.\\n1-6. Braid around the bead.\\nOnce the bead is secure, braid the rest of your hair and secure it with an elastic. You can also add more beads and then braid your hair, if you’d like.\\nTry braiding half way down your hair, then secure a bead, and continue braiding. Vary the types of braids you use in your hair, integrating beads as you go.\\n2. Braiding Beads with a Threading Tool\\n2-1. Braid your hair\\nStart by braiding your hair as you’d like. Create thick braids if you are using wide beads. Make the braids thinner if you are using narrow beads.\\nLeave half of the braid undone if you'd like the bead to appear in the middle of the braid. Finish the braid and leave the bottom undone if you'd like the bead to appear at the end of the braid.\\n2-2. Loop the threading tool around your braided hair.\\nThreading tools for hair are thin, short hooks made of wire. Loop the hook part of the threading tool around a portion of your braided hair.\\nYou can find threading tools online or at beauty supply stores. Sometimes they come in a kit with hair beads and pins that keep the beads in place.\\nYou can also make your own threading tool at home using craft wire or jewelry wire.\\n2-3. Pull the bead through the threading tool.\\nTake the bead and slide it through the two ends of the threading tool. Pull the bead through the tool until it sits just above your braided hair.\\n2-4. Thread your hair and the bead through the tool.\\nNext, pull your hair and the bead through the threading tool. You may need to gently tug on your hair to get it through the bead and the threading tool.\\n2-5. Check that the bead is secure.\\nRemove the threading tool from your hair and check that the bead sits firmly on your braid. Use a clear elastic band to secure the bead. Tie the elastic band to your braid and slide the bead over it so it stays in place.\\nYou can also use a bead pin to keep the bead in place. Clip the bead pin to your braid and slide the bead over it so it stays put.\\n3. Using Just the Beads and Water\\n3-1. Braid your hair.\\nStart by braiding your hair in an area of your choice. The side of your head may be the easiest area to start with. Make the braid thick if you are using wide beads and use a thin braid if you are using narrow beads.\\n3-2. Twist the end of the braid.\\nLeave the end of the braid loose. Then, twist the end with your hand so it forms a narrow strand of hair.\\n3-3. Wet the twisted end.\\nUse your mouth to wet the twisted end of hair. You can also run the end under running water or use a spray bottle of water to wet it.\\nWetting the end will make it easier to thread through the bead.\\n3-4. Thread the bead through your hair.\\nTake the bead and carefully thread it through the wet, twisted end of hair. Try to get all of your hair into the opening of the bead.\\n3-5. Secure it with a hair elastic.\\nSlide the bead up the braid to where you’d like it to sit. Then, tie a clear hair elastic onto your hair. Pull the bead over the hair elastic so it stays in place.\\nYou can then braid the rest of your hair or add more beads as you see fit.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Braids with beads is a fun way to jazz up your hair. You can create all kinds of variations on braids with beads once you get the basic style down. Try using floss to create this style. A threading tool will work well, too. If you don’t have much on hand, you can use just the beads and a little ingenuity to create this hairstyle.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Braiding Beads with Floss\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Select two to three strands of hair.\", \"描述\": \"These are the strands that you are going to braid. You may pick strands on one side of your head or at the back of your head. It may be easier to start with strands on one side. Pick thin strands if you are using narrow beads and thicker strands if the beads are wide in diameter.\\nYou may braid the strands a bit so the bead sits in the middle of the braid.\\nAlternatively, you can put the bead in your hair first and then braid the rest of your hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Tie the floss around the strands.\", \"描述\": \"Loop the floss around two to three strands of your hair. Then, tie the floss around the strands. Make a simple knot with the floss.\\nThe strands should form a V-shape, if they are not already braided.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Thread the ends of the floss through the bead.\", \"描述\": \"Slide the bead through the ends of the floss. Pull the bead down so it sits just above where the floss is tied onto your hair.\\nYou may start with plastic craft beads that are narrow and round. Over time, you can try using professional metal beads that are larger or narrower.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Pull the floss and your hair through the bead.\", \"描述\": \"Pull the bead through the floss until it slides onto your hair. Gently pull your hair through the bead along with the floss. Your hair may make a “pop” sound as you slide it through the bead.\\nIf your hair does not slide through the bead with the floss easily, you may need to use a wider bead or use less hair in the braid. Start over with a wider bead or less hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Use an elastic to secure the bead.\", \"描述\": \"Once the bead slides onto your hair, remove the floss and use a clear elastic band to secure the bead to your hair. You can then slide the bead over the elastic to keep it in place.\\nAlternatively, if your hair is thick enough, you may not need an elastic to secure the bead.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Braid around the bead.\", \"描述\": \"Once the bead is secure, braid the rest of your hair and secure it with an elastic. You can also add more beads and then braid your hair, if you’d like.\\nTry braiding half way down your hair, then secure a bead, and continue braiding. Vary the types of braids you use in your hair, integrating beads as you go.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Braiding Beads with a Threading Tool\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Braid your hair\", \"描述\": \"Start by braiding your hair as you’d like. Create thick braids if you are using wide beads. Make the braids thinner if you are using narrow beads.\\nLeave half of the braid undone if you'd like the bead to appear in the middle of the braid. Finish the braid and leave the bottom undone if you'd like the bead to appear at the end of the braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Loop the threading tool around your braided hair.\", \"描述\": \"Threading tools for hair are thin, short hooks made of wire. Loop the hook part of the threading tool around a portion of your braided hair.\\nYou can find threading tools online or at beauty supply stores. Sometimes they come in a kit with hair beads and pins that keep the beads in place.\\nYou can also make your own threading tool at home using craft wire or jewelry wire.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pull the bead through the threading tool.\", \"描述\": \"Take the bead and slide it through the two ends of the threading tool. Pull the bead through the tool until it sits just above your braided hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Thread your hair and the bead through the tool.\", \"描述\": \"Next, pull your hair and the bead through the threading tool. You may need to gently tug on your hair to get it through the bead and the threading tool.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Check that the bead is secure.\", \"描述\": \"Remove the threading tool from your hair and check that the bead sits firmly on your braid. Use a clear elastic band to secure the bead. Tie the elastic band to your braid and slide the bead over it so it stays in place.\\nYou can also use a bead pin to keep the bead in place. Clip the bead pin to your braid and slide the bead over it so it stays put.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Using Just the Beads and Water\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Braid your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Start by braiding your hair in an area of your choice. The side of your head may be the easiest area to start with. Make the braid thick if you are using wide beads and use a thin braid if you are using narrow beads.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Twist the end of the braid.\", \"描述\": \"Leave the end of the braid loose. Then, twist the end with your hand so it forms a narrow strand of hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Wet the twisted end.\", \"描述\": \"Use your mouth to wet the twisted end of hair. You can also run the end under running water or use a spray bottle of water to wet it.\\nWetting the end will make it easier to thread through the bead.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Thread the bead through your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Take the bead and carefully thread it through the wet, twisted end of hair. Try to get all of your hair into the opening of the bead.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Secure it with a hair elastic.\", \"描述\": \"Slide the bead up the braid to where you’d like it to sit. Then, tie a clear hair elastic onto your hair. Pull the bead over the hair elastic so it stays in place.\\nYou can then braid the rest of your hair or add more beads as you see fit.\"}]}]}}",
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How to Braid Your Own Cornrows
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1. Braiding Basic Cornrows
1-1. Wash and detangle your hair.
Use your normal shampoo and conditioner to wash your hair. While it's still damp, detangle your hair with a leave-in conditioner and a detangling brush. Then apply a hair oil or butter to lock in moisture. Your hair will be much easier to braid when it’s moisturized and free of tangles.
Some oils or butters you can use to keep your hair moisturized and tangle-free include coconut oil, argan oil, jojoba oil, shea butter, or aloe butter products.
If your natural hair is tightly coiled, blow dry your hair before you start braiding. This will help stretch out your curls and give your cornrows a neater look.
1-2. Part your hair in rows from front to back.
Use the end of a rat-tail comb to part your hair in rows from your forehead to the nape of your neck. Part your hair down the middle first, from the center of your forehead to your neck, then divide each side section into 1-3 more rows. More sections will give you smaller cornrows. Secure the rows in place with small-tooth clips or with bobby pins.
If you don't want a middle part, create 2 parts near the middle to make a row right on top of your head, then make more rows on the sides from there.
Make your parts evenly spaced so that your rows are about the same size.
1-3. Divide the first row into 3 even sections.
Unclip the center section and hold the hair near your forehead between your fingers. Separate that row into 3 even sections with your fingers: a left section, center section, and right section.
Use both hands to do this, with 1 hand holding 1 section of hair, while the other hand holds 2 separated sections of hair.
Before you start braiding, add a bit of edge control gel along your hairline. This will help you grip the hair easier, tame flyaways, and keep your cornrows neat.
1-4. Begin making a 3-strand braid.
Using your fingers, swap the positions of the center and rightmost strands of hair, bringing the right strand under the center strand. Then, swap the positions of the left strand and the new center strand. Repeat this process, swapping the center strand with the right and left strands, alternating as you go.
When you swap the positions of the strands, the left or right strand will become the new center strand.
Each time you complete a braid with all 3 strands, it’s known as a “braid stitch.”
1-5. Add a small strand of hair from the section to each braid stitch.
Repeat the above braid stitch technique, adding a ⁄2 in (1.3 cm) strand of hair to each stitch as you go. Every time you make a new braid stitch, add more hair from the same section, taking up the loose hair just under the braid and incorporating it into one of the strands. Continue until you reach the nape of your neck..
If you don't add more hair with each stitch (basically making a small French braid in the process) the braid will come away from your head instead of laying flat in a cornrow style.
1-6. Finish the braid once it's off your scalp and secure it with a hairband.
When you get to your neck, you won't have any more hair to add to each stitch. Simply finish the braid until you've used up the rest of your hair. Then secure the end of the braid with an elastic hair band, rubber band, or small barrette.
The length of the end of your braid will depend on how long your hair is.
1-7. Continue the same braiding technique for each row on your head.
Unclip the next row of hair on your head. Repeat the process: divide that row into 3 even sections at the front near your forehead or ears, French braid it until you reach the nape of your neck, braid the remaining hair, then secure the braid at the end with a hair band.
Maintain your finished cornrows by wrapping them in a silk scarf before bed.
Clean your cornrows by applying shampoo and conditioner with a spray bottle in the shower.
To remove your cornrows, gently unbraid each strand, starting at the ends and working your way up.
2. Styling Cornrows
2-1. Style side-swept cornrows for an elegant look.
This design is similar to front-to-back cornrows, but it's turned on its side. Create 3 even parts horizontally, beginning at one ear, rather than vertically. Clip all but 1 section out of the way. Begin each braid near your ear and French braid each row by adding new hair from the row with each stitch.
Braid every row in the same direction, either to your left or your right, whichever you prefer.
These braids will end in an arc surrounding your opposite ear. Secure each with a small elastic hair tie.
2-2. Go with swirl cornrows to try something unique.
For a little twist on traditional cornrows, part your hair starting in the front near your forehead, but instead of going straight back, curve the line to 1 side of your head and then back again toward the other side. Create 4 more parallel parts so that you have 5 total rows that appear to swirl from the front over and around to the back in uniform curved lines. Then create curved cornrow braids within the parts.
When you're finished with each braid, join the braids together in a low side-ponytail if you like.
2-3. Braid long cornrows into a high ponytail or a bun.
If you have long hair and like to wear it in a high ponytail, create parts around the perimeter of your hairline. Braid your cornrows to the crown of your head, where you’d start a ponytail, then keep braiding up and away from your scalp. Then, style your braids into a bun or a ponytail.
This style also looks good with different-sized cornrows, so mix up the size of your sections as you go.
2-4. Make cornrows with zig-zag parts for a hypnotic style.
Create parts in zig-zags by starting at the front by your forehead and separating the hair back and forth in 2 in (5.1 cm) lines all the way to the nape of your neck. Then braid your cornrows straight back as you normally would, simply using the hair sectioned off within the zig-zags.
Combine this parting style with other techniques such as the side-swept cornrows, or keep it simple by doing only 1 or 2 zig-zag parts while the rest of your parts are straight.
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More sections will give you smaller cornrows. Secure the rows in place with small-tooth clips or with bobby pins.\\nIf you don't want a middle part, create 2 parts near the middle to make a row right on top of your head, then make more rows on the sides from there.\\nMake your parts evenly spaced so that your rows are about the same size.\\n1-3. Divide the first row into 3 even sections.\\nUnclip the center section and hold the hair near your forehead between your fingers. Separate that row into 3 even sections with your fingers: a left section, center section, and right section.\\nUse both hands to do this, with 1 hand holding 1 section of hair, while the other hand holds 2 separated sections of hair.\\nBefore you start braiding, add a bit of edge control gel along your hairline. This will help you grip the hair easier, tame flyaways, and keep your cornrows neat.\\n1-4. Begin making a 3-strand braid.\\nUsing your fingers, swap the positions of the center and rightmost strands of hair, bringing the right strand under the center strand. Then, swap the positions of the left strand and the new center strand. Repeat this process, swapping the center strand with the right and left strands, alternating as you go.\\nWhen you swap the positions of the strands, the left or right strand will become the new center strand.\\nEach time you complete a braid with all 3 strands, it’s known as a “braid stitch.”\\n1-5. Add a small strand of hair from the section to each braid stitch.\\nRepeat the above braid stitch technique, adding a ⁄2 in (1.3 cm) strand of hair to each stitch as you go. Every time you make a new braid stitch, add more hair from the same section, taking up the loose hair just under the braid and incorporating it into one of the strands. Continue until you reach the nape of your neck..\\nIf you don't add more hair with each stitch (basically making a small French braid in the process) the braid will come away from your head instead of laying flat in a cornrow style.\\n1-6. Finish the braid once it's off your scalp and secure it with a hairband.\\nWhen you get to your neck, you won't have any more hair to add to each stitch. Simply finish the braid until you've used up the rest of your hair. Then secure the end of the braid with an elastic hair band, rubber band, or small barrette.\\nThe length of the end of your braid will depend on how long your hair is.\\n1-7. Continue the same braiding technique for each row on your head.\\nUnclip the next row of hair on your head. Repeat the process: divide that row into 3 even sections at the front near your forehead or ears, French braid it until you reach the nape of your neck, braid the remaining hair, then secure the braid at the end with a hair band.\\n\\n Maintain your finished cornrows by wrapping them in a silk scarf before bed.\\n\\n Clean your cornrows by applying shampoo and conditioner with a spray bottle in the shower.\\nTo remove your cornrows, gently unbraid each strand, starting at the ends and working your way up.\\n2. Styling Cornrows\\n2-1. Style side-swept cornrows for an elegant look.\\nThis design is similar to front-to-back cornrows, but it's turned on its side. Create 3 even parts horizontally, beginning at one ear, rather than vertically. Clip all but 1 section out of the way. Begin each braid near your ear and French braid each row by adding new hair from the row with each stitch.\\nBraid every row in the same direction, either to your left or your right, whichever you prefer.\\nThese braids will end in an arc surrounding your opposite ear. Secure each with a small elastic hair tie.\\n2-2. Go with swirl cornrows to try something unique.\\nFor a little twist on traditional cornrows, part your hair starting in the front near your forehead, but instead of going straight back, curve the line to 1 side of your head and then back again toward the other side. Create 4 more parallel parts so that you have 5 total rows that appear to swirl from the front over and around to the back in uniform curved lines. Then create curved cornrow braids within the parts.\\nWhen you're finished with each braid, join the braids together in a low side-ponytail if you like.\\n2-3. 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Every time you make a new braid stitch, add more hair from the same section, taking up the loose hair just under the braid and incorporating it into one of the strands. Continue until you reach the nape of your neck..\\nIf you don't add more hair with each stitch (basically making a small French braid in the process) the braid will come away from your head instead of laying flat in a cornrow style.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Finish the braid once it's off your scalp and secure it with a hairband.\", \"描述\": \"When you get to your neck, you won't have any more hair to add to each stitch. Simply finish the braid until you've used up the rest of your hair. Then secure the end of the braid with an elastic hair band, rubber band, or small barrette.\\nThe length of the end of your braid will depend on how long your hair is.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Continue the same braiding technique for each row on your head.\", \"描述\": \"Unclip the next row of hair on your head. 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How to Braid Curly Hair
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1. Making Curly Hair Easier to Braid
1-1. Spray a detangling product on your hair and brush it through.
Before you braid curly hair, you want to make sure that it’s as manageable as possible. That’s why you should apply a detangling product first to ensure that your curls aren’t knotted or coiled together when you try to braid. Apply the product to your hair and gently work it through with your fingers to carefully get rid of any tangles.
Many detangling sprays can be used on wet or dry hair.
If you’re detangling wet hair, you can use a leave-in conditioner or smoothing serum.
For dry hair, a small amount of hair oil can work as a detangler.
1-2. Avoid brushing your hair.
While it’s important for your hair to be free of tangles before braiding, you shouldn’t use a brush to smooth your hair. Brushing curly hair can often leave it frizzy, which makes braiding much more difficult. Use your fingers to work through your hair if it’s tangled or knotted.
If your hair is too tangled for your fingers to get the job done, opt for a wide-tooth comb, which is less likely to create frizz than a brush.
1-3. Work with your curls.
When it comes to actually braiding your hair, it’s important to work with your curls, not against them. As you’re gathering sections of hair to work into the braid, take whole curls. Don’t try to separate pieces to create sections that are the precise size that you prefer or you may wind up creating frizz.
Working with your curls while braiding may sometimes mean that the sections you pull into it aren’t even. Don’t worry -- the curls will add a pretty textured detail to your braid that straight hair doesn’t have.
2. Creating a Relaxed, Casual Braid for Curly Hair
2-1. Gather your hair at the nape of the neck.
For a casual look, allow your hair to fall naturally over your shoulders. Comb through it with your fingers to smooth it if necessary, and then gather it together at the nape of your neck.
If your hair is extremely thick and unruly, you may want to use a hair elastic to secure it at the nape of your neck so it’s easier to braid.
2-2. Create three sections and braid.
When you’ve gathered your hair at the nape of the neck, divide it into three sections that are roughly the same size. Braid your hair by taking one of the outer sections and crossing it over the middle section. Cross the other outer section over the middle, and repeat the process until all of your hair is braided.
If your hair is extremely thick, you can also create a braid with just two sections. Cross the sections over one another until you reach the ends of your hair.
2-3. Secure the braid and pull some pieces loose.
Once you’ve braided your hair, use a hair elastic or clip to secure the end of it. Pull some pieces of hair out of the braid to give it a more relaxed, casual look. It’s especially pretty to pull some curls loose around your face.
If you prefer, you can gather your hair over to one side and create a side braid instead of a traditional style at the nape of the neck.
3. French Braiding Curly Hair
3-1. Gather some hair at the crown and start to braid.
At the top of your head, gather a chunk of your hair. Divide the hair into three sections, and begin to braid by crossing the right section over the middle and then crossing the left section over the middle.
Be sure to only cross each outer section over hair over the center once for the first step.
Pull the hair tightly as you’re braiding to ensure that the braid won’t come undone as you’re working. Curly hair is more likely to come loose if you don’t create a tight braid.
3-2. Pull more hair from each side of the head before repeating the pattern.
Before you repeat the braiding motion of crossing the outer sections over the center, take a little more hair on each side to incorporate it into the braid. For example, when you’re crossing the right section over the center, gather a little more hair from the right side into the outer section before crossing it over.
French braiding your own hair can be difficult because you can’t see the back of your head. To make it easier, hold the right section in your right hand, the left section in your left hand, and the middle section between the thumb and forefinger or middle finger of either hand. That will keep the sections separate.
3-3. Continue the braiding process to the end.
Repeat the braiding process, taking more hair from each side as you work and incorporating it into the braid. As your reach the end of your hair, you’ll finish with a regular braid by just crossing the outer sections over the center section without adding in any other hair. Secure the end of the braid with a hair elastic or clip.
You may want to apply a little flexible hold hairspray to your curly French braid to ensure that your curls don’t come loose and get frizzy.
Tips
Because curly hair tends to be thicker and coarser, you can go tighter with your braid than those with fine, straight hair without it looking thin and unattractive.
Braiding curly hair when it’s wet can allow you to temporarily reshape the curls in your hair. After your hair has dried and you remove the braid, your tresses will have some soft waves running through them.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Making Curly Hair Easier to Braid\\n1-1. Spray a detangling product on your hair and brush it through.\\nBefore you braid curly hair, you want to make sure that it’s as manageable as possible. That’s why you should apply a detangling product first to ensure that your curls aren’t knotted or coiled together when you try to braid. Apply the product to your hair and gently work it through with your fingers to carefully get rid of any tangles.\\nMany detangling sprays can be used on wet or dry hair.\\nIf you’re detangling wet hair, you can use a leave-in conditioner or smoothing serum.\\nFor dry hair, a small amount of hair oil can work as a detangler.\\n1-2. Avoid brushing your hair.\\nWhile it’s important for your hair to be free of tangles before braiding, you shouldn’t use a brush to smooth your hair. Brushing curly hair can often leave it frizzy, which makes braiding much more difficult. 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Comb through it with your fingers to smooth it if necessary, and then gather it together at the nape of your neck.\\nIf your hair is extremely thick and unruly, you may want to use a hair elastic to secure it at the nape of your neck so it’s easier to braid.\\n2-2. Create three sections and braid.\\nWhen you’ve gathered your hair at the nape of the neck, divide it into three sections that are roughly the same size. Braid your hair by taking one of the outer sections and crossing it over the middle section. Cross the other outer section over the middle, and repeat the process until all of your hair is braided.\\nIf your hair is extremely thick, you can also create a braid with just two sections. Cross the sections over one another until you reach the ends of your hair.\\n2-3. Secure the braid and pull some pieces loose.\\nOnce you’ve braided your hair, use a hair elastic or clip to secure the end of it. Pull some pieces of hair out of the braid to give it a more relaxed, casual look. It’s especially pretty to pull some curls loose around your face.\\nIf you prefer, you can gather your hair over to one side and create a side braid instead of a traditional style at the nape of the neck.\\n3. French Braiding Curly Hair\\n3-1. Gather some hair at the crown and start to braid.\\nAt the top of your head, gather a chunk of your hair. Divide the hair into three sections, and begin to braid by crossing the right section over the middle and then crossing the left section over the middle.\\nBe sure to only cross each outer section over hair over the center once for the first step.\\nPull the hair tightly as you’re braiding to ensure that the braid won’t come undone as you’re working. Curly hair is more likely to come loose if you don’t create a tight braid.\\n3-2. Pull more hair from each side of the head before repeating the pattern.\\nBefore you repeat the braiding motion of crossing the outer sections over the center, take a little more hair on each side to incorporate it into the braid. For example, when you’re crossing the right section over the center, gather a little more hair from the right side into the outer section before crossing it over.\\nFrench braiding your own hair can be difficult because you can’t see the back of your head. To make it easier, hold the right section in your right hand, the left section in your left hand, and the middle section between the thumb and forefinger or middle finger of either hand. That will keep the sections separate.\\n3-3. Continue the braiding process to the end.\\nRepeat the braiding process, taking more hair from each side as you work and incorporating it into the braid. As your reach the end of your hair, you’ll finish with a regular braid by just crossing the outer sections over the center section without adding in any other hair. Secure the end of the braid with a hair elastic or clip.\\nYou may want to apply a little flexible hold hairspray to your curly French braid to ensure that your curls don’t come loose and get frizzy.\\nTips\\nBecause curly hair tends to be thicker and coarser, you can go tighter with your braid than those with fine, straight hair without it looking thin and unattractive.\\nBraiding curly hair when it’s wet can allow you to temporarily reshape the curls in your hair. After your hair has dried and you remove the braid, your tresses will have some soft waves running through them.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Curly hair is definitely beautiful, but the texture can sometimes make basic hairstyles difficult to pull off. But if you've shied away from braids because of your curly locks, it's time to reconsider. Braiding curly hair definitely requires more effort work than straight hair and your braids may never be perfectly even and neat, but the curly texture actually adds a unique look to the usual braid that all your straight-haired friends will envy. You just need to learn the right way to prep your curls before you braid.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Making Curly Hair Easier to Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Spray a detangling product on your hair and brush it through.\", \"描述\": \"Before you braid curly hair, you want to make sure that it’s as manageable as possible. That’s why you should apply a detangling product first to ensure that your curls aren’t knotted or coiled together when you try to braid. Apply the product to your hair and gently work it through with your fingers to carefully get rid of any tangles.\\nMany detangling sprays can be used on wet or dry hair.\\nIf you’re detangling wet hair, you can use a leave-in conditioner or smoothing serum.\\nFor dry hair, a small amount of hair oil can work as a detangler.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Avoid brushing your hair.\", \"描述\": \"While it’s important for your hair to be free of tangles before braiding, you shouldn’t use a brush to smooth your hair. Brushing curly hair can often leave it frizzy, which makes braiding much more difficult. Use your fingers to work through your hair if it’s tangled or knotted.\\nIf your hair is too tangled for your fingers to get the job done, opt for a wide-tooth comb, which is less likely to create frizz than a brush.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Work with your curls.\", \"描述\": \"When it comes to actually braiding your hair, it’s important to work with your curls, not against them. As you’re gathering sections of hair to work into the braid, take whole curls. Don’t try to separate pieces to create sections that are the precise size that you prefer or you may wind up creating frizz.\\nWorking with your curls while braiding may sometimes mean that the sections you pull into it aren’t even. Don’t worry -- the curls will add a pretty textured detail to your braid that straight hair doesn’t have.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Creating a Relaxed, Casual Braid for Curly Hair\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Gather your hair at the nape of the neck.\", \"描述\": \"For a casual look, allow your hair to fall naturally over your shoulders. 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1. Braiding Box Braids With Hair Extensions
1-1. Shampoo and condition your hair before braiding it.
Extensions braided into small braids are usually in place for a long period, so you want to start with clean hair and scalp. Make sure your hair is dry before braiding.
You may also want to cut the extensions to the length you prefer before braiding. If you are going to use the full length of the extensions, you can leave them as they are.
1-2. Separate your hair into small, even sections.
For box braids, you are going to be braiding numerous strands into tiny, long braids. Start the process by separating your hair into small, even, box-shaped sections. Then, use a small elastic to secure each section in a bun. Use a comb for best results and make sure your hair is untangled before you begin.
1-3. Wrap the hair extension around the natural hair strand.
Hold the piece of natural hair in one hand. Take the hair extension and loop it around the natural hair; essentially, you are wrapping the extension around the natural hair in half. You will have two strands of hair extension in one hand, and one natural strand in the other hand.
Make sure the extension is looped evenly around the strand so the ends meet; this will ensure that way your braid is even.
1-4. Twist the extension around your natural hair.
Hold your natural hair taut as you twist the two strands of the extension around the natural hair strand. If you can't quite get it by twisting, just cross the extension strands under the natural hair. You will now have three distinct strands of equal size.
1-5. Start the base braid.
Take the natural strand, which is one of the outside strands, and cross it over the middle strand. Pull the extension strand to the side, making it an outside strand while the natural hair strand becomes the middle strand. This makes your three strands.
Spray the hair extension and natural hair with water to keep stray hairs in place while you are working with it.
1-6. Braid a few strands.
Using these 3 initial strands, braid a few strands to get the braid going. Then, slide the extension upwards towards the scalp to secure it.
Make sure not to braid the hair too tightly. This can cause severe scalp and hair damage.
1-7. Blend the natural hair into the extensions.
Split the natural hair into 2 strands. Do the same to 1 of the extension strands. Combine 1 of each of the strands together into 2 new strands. Now, 2 of your strands should be a combined natural hair and extension strand. You should still have 3 separate sections of hair at this point.
1-8. Continue braiding.
Now that you have the braid started and blended, continue braiding until you get to the end of your hair.
When you get to the ends of your natural hair, use some hair spray or water to smooth them down as they combine with your extensions.
1-9. Secure the ends.
When you reach the end of the extensions, secure the ends with a small hair tie or whatever other method you choose.
2. Braiding Cornrows With Hair Extensions
2-1. Section off a line of hair.
Start your cornrow by sectioning off a long, narrow section of hair. This section should be in a straight line from your scalp to your nape. Make sure to separate the edges as crisply as possible.
Use rubber bands, clips, bobby pins, or another styling tool to secure the hair not in the cornrow section. You want to make sure hair from the rest of your head doesn't get integrated into the cornrow.
Make sure to comb the hair in the tract straight back before you begin.
2-2. Separate a thin section near the scalp.
To start your cornrow, you need to make the base for the braid. Begin by taking a thin, even section from the very front of the section - right next to the scalp.
2-3. Add the extension hair.
Position the hair extension around the natural hair so the natural hair rests in the direct middle of the extension. This will produce 3 strands to braid - the extension on the right, the natural hair in the middle, and the extension to the left.
Prepare these strands to braid by placing the 3 strands between your fingers on 1 hand. One strand should be between your thumb and index finger, the middle between your index and middle finger, the last between your middle and ring finger.
2-4. Begin the braid.
Get your fingers as close to the scalp as possible. Start with the strand of hair resting between ring finger and middle finger. Take that strand between your thumb and index finger on your free hand. Wrap the strand around the base of the hair in the direction of the hand you are wrapping with. Keep the hair tightly close to the scalp. Keeping that strand secure between your thumb and index finger, place the middle strand between the index and middle finger, while the outside strand is between your middle and ring finger.
The strands have now shifted position. The hair that started in the back is now in front, the original middle strand (your natural hair) is in the back, and the original front strand is in the middle.
2-5. Repeat this on the other side.
Now with the other hand, repeat the same steps, wrapping around the other side of the strand. Take the strand currently between your ring and middle finger and wrap it around the hair using the thumb and index finger on your free hand. Make sure you wrap it around a different side than in the previous step; you are wrapping it around towards your free hand. Now place the middle and outside strands between the index and middle and middle and ring finger, respectively.
If you are wrapping with your left hand, the hair will be wrapped on the left side of the strand. If you are wrapping with your right hand, the hair will be wrapped on the right side of the strand.
2-6. Continue for three or four turns.
Continue braiding the hair this way for 3 to 4 more turns. You want to establish a tight, secure base braid for the rest of your cornrow.
2-7. Add hair to the braid.
Now that the base braid is ready, start adding hair to the braid. Pick up a small amount of hair from the tract and add it to the strand between your thumb and index finger. Make sure that you add hair from both sides of the section you are braiding.
Continue adding small sections of hair from directly below where the braid is, braiding complete turns each time.
2-8. Continue the braid to the end of your hair.
When you have incorporated all the hair from your scalp into your braid, keep braiding but transition to a box braid and continue until you get to the end of your hair. Secure your hair with a small rubber band.
After you finish the first section, go back through the process for the other rows.
3. Braiding Crochet Braids With Hair Extensions
3-1. Braid cornrows into your hair.
To prepare your hair for crochet braids, braid your hair into cornrows. You can do 5-6 large cornrows, or you can do smaller ones.
The amount of cornrows you braid into your hair might depend on the kind of extensions you are braiding into your hair. If you are braiding bulky extensions, you can braid less cornrows into your hair.
Crochet braids are braids where you first cornrow your hair, then attach the extensions into the cornrows by a latch hook method.
3-2. Sew your tails to your cornrows.
If your hair is long enough to extend beyond the nape of your neck, fold them up so they are directly alongside the cornrow. Push a threaded needle through the cornrow and the braided tail, then out and through a loop on the end of the thread. Pull tight to secure the thread around the hair. Repeat a few times along the cornrow.
3-3. Attach the extension with a latch hook.
Fold the extension in half so the ends meet evenly. The center of the extension should make a little loop. Carefully slide the latch hook under the cornrow. Hook the loop of the extension into the latch hook, then close it.
Buy a latch hook tool. This tool closes the hook so that it doesn't tear, break, or snag on your hair. If you use a regular crochet needle, you might damage your hair.
Alternately, you can use a bobby pin. Slide the bobby pin under your cornrow until just the looped end is sticking out on the other side. Slide your extension through the looped end of the bobby pin. Make sure to pull the hair through until both strands are even. Slide the bobby pin and extension under the cornrow.
3-4. Pull the extension through.
Carefully pull the extension underneath the cornrow until the loop of the extension is below the cornrow. Take the strands of the extension and pull them through the loop. Tighten the loop until it is snug against the cornrow, and therefore, attached to your hair.
3-5. Repeat the same latch hook process.
Once you have secured 1 extension, repeat the same process all the way down the cornrow. Place them as closely together as you please, depending on the look you are going for. You can put the extensions into twists or braids after you finish attaching them.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Braiding Box Braids With Hair Extensions\\n1-1. Shampoo and condition your hair before braiding it.\\nExtensions braided into small braids are usually in place for a long period, so you want to start with clean hair and scalp. Make sure your hair is dry before braiding.\\nYou may also want to cut the extensions to the length you prefer before braiding. If you are going to use the full length of the extensions, you can leave them as they are.\\n1-2. Separate your hair into small, even sections.\\nFor box braids, you are going to be braiding numerous strands into tiny, long braids. Start the process by separating your hair into small, even, box-shaped sections. Then, use a small elastic to secure each section in a bun. Use a comb for best results and make sure your hair is untangled before you begin.\\n1-3. Wrap the hair extension around the natural hair strand.\\nHold the piece of natural hair in one hand. Take the hair extension and loop it around the natural hair; essentially, you are wrapping the extension around the natural hair in half. You will have two strands of hair extension in one hand, and one natural strand in the other hand.\\nMake sure the extension is looped evenly around the strand so the ends meet; this will ensure that way your braid is even.\\n1-4. Twist the extension around your natural hair.\\nHold your natural hair taut as you twist the two strands of the extension around the natural hair strand. If you can't quite get it by twisting, just cross the extension strands under the natural hair. You will now have three distinct strands of equal size.\\n1-5. Start the base braid.\\nTake the natural strand, which is one of the outside strands, and cross it over the middle strand. Pull the extension strand to the side, making it an outside strand while the natural hair strand becomes the middle strand. This makes your three strands.\\nSpray the hair extension and natural hair with water to keep stray hairs in place while you are working with it.\\n1-6. Braid a few strands.\\nUsing these 3 initial strands, braid a few strands to get the braid going. Then, slide the extension upwards towards the scalp to secure it.\\nMake sure not to braid the hair too tightly. This can cause severe scalp and hair damage.\\n1-7. Blend the natural hair into the extensions.\\nSplit the natural hair into 2 strands. Do the same to 1 of the extension strands. Combine 1 of each of the strands together into 2 new strands. Now, 2 of your strands should be a combined natural hair and extension strand. You should still have 3 separate sections of hair at this point.\\n1-8. Continue braiding.\\nNow that you have the braid started and blended, continue braiding until you get to the end of your hair.\\nWhen you get to the ends of your natural hair, use some hair spray or water to smooth them down as they combine with your extensions.\\n1-9. Secure the ends.\\nWhen you reach the end of the extensions, secure the ends with a small hair tie or whatever other method you choose.\\n2. Braiding Cornrows With Hair Extensions\\n2-1. Section off a line of hair.\\nStart your cornrow by sectioning off a long, narrow section of hair. This section should be in a straight line from your scalp to your nape. Make sure to separate the edges as crisply as possible.\\nUse rubber bands, clips, bobby pins, or another styling tool to secure the hair not in the cornrow section. You want to make sure hair from the rest of your head doesn't get integrated into the cornrow.\\nMake sure to comb the hair in the tract straight back before you begin.\\n2-2. Separate a thin section near the scalp.\\nTo start your cornrow, you need to make the base for the braid. Begin by taking a thin, even section from the very front of the section - right next to the scalp.\\n2-3. Add the extension hair.\\nPosition the hair extension around the natural hair so the natural hair rests in the direct middle of the extension. This will produce 3 strands to braid - the extension on the right, the natural hair in the middle, and the extension to the left.\\nPrepare these strands to braid by placing the 3 strands between your fingers on 1 hand. One strand should be between your thumb and index finger, the middle between your index and middle finger, the last between your middle and ring finger.\\n2-4. Begin the braid.\\nGet your fingers as close to the scalp as possible. Start with the strand of hair resting between ring finger and middle finger. Take that strand between your thumb and index finger on your free hand. Wrap the strand around the base of the hair in the direction of the hand you are wrapping with. Keep the hair tightly close to the scalp. Keeping that strand secure between your thumb and index finger, place the middle strand between the index and middle finger, while the outside strand is between your middle and ring finger.\\nThe strands have now shifted position. The hair that started in the back is now in front, the original middle strand (your natural hair) is in the back, and the original front strand is in the middle.\\n2-5. Repeat this on the other side.\\nNow with the other hand, repeat the same steps, wrapping around the other side of the strand. Take the strand currently between your ring and middle finger and wrap it around the hair using the thumb and index finger on your free hand. Make sure you wrap it around a different side than in the previous step; you are wrapping it around towards your free hand. Now place the middle and outside strands between the index and middle and middle and ring finger, respectively.\\nIf you are wrapping with your left hand, the hair will be wrapped on the left side of the strand. If you are wrapping with your right hand, the hair will be wrapped on the right side of the strand.\\n2-6. Continue for three or four turns.\\nContinue braiding the hair this way for 3 to 4 more turns. You want to establish a tight, secure base braid for the rest of your cornrow.\\n2-7. Add hair to the braid.\\nNow that the base braid is ready, start adding hair to the braid. Pick up a small amount of hair from the tract and add it to the strand between your thumb and index finger. Make sure that you add hair from both sides of the section you are braiding.\\nContinue adding small sections of hair from directly below where the braid is, braiding complete turns each time.\\n2-8. Continue the braid to the end of your hair.\\nWhen you have incorporated all the hair from your scalp into your braid, keep braiding but transition to a box braid and continue until you get to the end of your hair. Secure your hair with a small rubber band.\\nAfter you finish the first section, go back through the process for the other rows.\\n3. Braiding Crochet Braids With Hair Extensions\\n3-1. Braid cornrows into your hair.\\nTo prepare your hair for crochet braids, braid your hair into cornrows. You can do 5-6 large cornrows, or you can do smaller ones.\\nThe amount of cornrows you braid into your hair might depend on the kind of extensions you are braiding into your hair. If you are braiding bulky extensions, you can braid less cornrows into your hair.\\nCrochet braids are braids where you first cornrow your hair, then attach the extensions into the cornrows by a latch hook method.\\n3-2. Sew your tails to your cornrows.\\nIf your hair is long enough to extend beyond the nape of your neck, fold them up so they are directly alongside the cornrow. Push a threaded needle through the cornrow and the braided tail, then out and through a loop on the end of the thread. Pull tight to secure the thread around the hair. Repeat a few times along the cornrow.\\n3-3. Attach the extension with a latch hook.\\nFold the extension in half so the ends meet evenly. The center of the extension should make a little loop. Carefully slide the latch hook under the cornrow. Hook the loop of the extension into the latch hook, then close it.\\nBuy a latch hook tool. This tool closes the hook so that it doesn't tear, break, or snag on your hair. If you use a regular crochet needle, you might damage your hair.\\nAlternately, you can use a bobby pin. Slide the bobby pin under your cornrow until just the looped end is sticking out on the other side. Slide your extension through the looped end of the bobby pin. Make sure to pull the hair through until both strands are even. Slide the bobby pin and extension under the cornrow.\\n3-4. Pull the extension through.\\nCarefully pull the extension underneath the cornrow until the loop of the extension is below the cornrow. Take the strands of the extension and pull them through the loop. Tighten the loop until it is snug against the cornrow, and therefore, attached to your hair.\\n3-5. Repeat the same latch hook process.\\nOnce you have secured 1 extension, repeat the same process all the way down the cornrow. Place them as closely together as you please, depending on the look you are going for. You can put the extensions into twists or braids after you finish attaching them.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Learning how to braid extensions can be a time-consuming process that requires patience. The most common types of ways to braid extensions are box braids, cornrows, and crochet braids. Though they can be time-consuming, each method is easy to learn.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Braiding Box Braids With Hair Extensions\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Shampoo and condition your hair before braiding it.\", \"描述\": \"Extensions braided into small braids are usually in place for a long period, so you want to start with clean hair and scalp. Make sure your hair is dry before braiding.\\nYou may also want to cut the extensions to the length you prefer before braiding. If you are going to use the full length of the extensions, you can leave them as they are.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Separate your hair into small, even sections.\", \"描述\": \"For box braids, you are going to be braiding numerous strands into tiny, long braids. Start the process by separating your hair into small, even, box-shaped sections. Then, use a small elastic to secure each section in a bun. Use a comb for best results and make sure your hair is untangled before you begin.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Wrap the hair extension around the natural hair strand.\", \"描述\": \"Hold the piece of natural hair in one hand. Take the hair extension and loop it around the natural hair; essentially, you are wrapping the extension around the natural hair in half. You will have two strands of hair extension in one hand, and one natural strand in the other hand.\\nMake sure the extension is looped evenly around the strand so the ends meet; this will ensure that way your braid is even.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Twist the extension around your natural hair.\", \"描述\": \"Hold your natural hair taut as you twist the two strands of the extension around the natural hair strand. If you can't quite get it by twisting, just cross the extension strands under the natural hair. You will now have three distinct strands of equal size.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Start the base braid.\", \"描述\": \"Take the natural strand, which is one of the outside strands, and cross it over the middle strand. Pull the extension strand to the side, making it an outside strand while the natural hair strand becomes the middle strand. This makes your three strands.\\nSpray the hair extension and natural hair with water to keep stray hairs in place while you are working with it.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Braid a few strands.\", \"描述\": \"Using these 3 initial strands, braid a few strands to get the braid going. Then, slide the extension upwards towards the scalp to secure it.\\nMake sure not to braid the hair too tightly. This can cause severe scalp and hair damage.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Blend the natural hair into the extensions.\", \"描述\": \"Split the natural hair into 2 strands. Do the same to 1 of the extension strands. Combine 1 of each of the strands together into 2 new strands. Now, 2 of your strands should be a combined natural hair and extension strand. You should still have 3 separate sections of hair at this point.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Continue braiding.\", \"描述\": \"Now that you have the braid started and blended, continue braiding until you get to the end of your hair.\\nWhen you get to the ends of your natural hair, use some hair spray or water to smooth them down as they combine with your extensions.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Secure the ends.\", \"描述\": \"When you reach the end of the extensions, secure the ends with a small hair tie or whatever other method you choose.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Braiding Cornrows With Hair Extensions\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Section off a line of hair.\", \"描述\": \"Start your cornrow by sectioning off a long, narrow section of hair. This section should be in a straight line from your scalp to your nape. Make sure to separate the edges as crisply as possible.\\nUse rubber bands, clips, bobby pins, or another styling tool to secure the hair not in the cornrow section. You want to make sure hair from the rest of your head doesn't get integrated into the cornrow.\\nMake sure to comb the hair in the tract straight back before you begin.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Separate a thin section near the scalp.\", \"描述\": \"To start your cornrow, you need to make the base for the braid. Begin by taking a thin, even section from the very front of the section - right next to the scalp.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Add the extension hair.\", \"描述\": \"Position the hair extension around the natural hair so the natural hair rests in the direct middle of the extension. This will produce 3 strands to braid - the extension on the right, the natural hair in the middle, and the extension to the left.\\nPrepare these strands to braid by placing the 3 strands between your fingers on 1 hand. One strand should be between your thumb and index finger, the middle between your index and middle finger, the last between your middle and ring finger.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Begin the braid.\", \"描述\": \"Get your fingers as close to the scalp as possible. Start with the strand of hair resting between ring finger and middle finger. Take that strand between your thumb and index finger on your free hand. Wrap the strand around the base of the hair in the direction of the hand you are wrapping with. Keep the hair tightly close to the scalp. Keeping that strand secure between your thumb and index finger, place the middle strand between the index and middle finger, while the outside strand is between your middle and ring finger.\\nThe strands have now shifted position. The hair that started in the back is now in front, the original middle strand (your natural hair) is in the back, and the original front strand is in the middle.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Repeat this on the other side.\", \"描述\": \"Now with the other hand, repeat the same steps, wrapping around the other side of the strand. Take the strand currently between your ring and middle finger and wrap it around the hair using the thumb and index finger on your free hand. Make sure you wrap it around a different side than in the previous step; you are wrapping it around towards your free hand. Now place the middle and outside strands between the index and middle and middle and ring finger, respectively.\\nIf you are wrapping with your left hand, the hair will be wrapped on the left side of the strand. If you are wrapping with your right hand, the hair will be wrapped on the right side of the strand.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Continue for three or four turns.\", \"描述\": \"Continue braiding the hair this way for 3 to 4 more turns. You want to establish a tight, secure base braid for the rest of your cornrow.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Add hair to the braid.\", \"描述\": \"Now that the base braid is ready, start adding hair to the braid. Pick up a small amount of hair from the tract and add it to the strand between your thumb and index finger. Make sure that you add hair from both sides of the section you are braiding.\\nContinue adding small sections of hair from directly below where the braid is, braiding complete turns each time.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Continue the braid to the end of your hair.\", \"描述\": \"When you have incorporated all the hair from your scalp into your braid, keep braiding but transition to a box braid and continue until you get to the end of your hair. Secure your hair with a small rubber band.\\nAfter you finish the first section, go back through the process for the other rows.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Braiding Crochet Braids With Hair Extensions\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Braid cornrows into your hair.\", \"描述\": \"To prepare your hair for crochet braids, braid your hair into cornrows. You can do 5-6 large cornrows, or you can do smaller ones.\\nThe amount of cornrows you braid into your hair might depend on the kind of extensions you are braiding into your hair. If you are braiding bulky extensions, you can braid less cornrows into your hair.\\nCrochet braids are braids where you first cornrow your hair, then attach the extensions into the cornrows by a latch hook method.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Sew your tails to your cornrows.\", \"描述\": \"If your hair is long enough to extend beyond the nape of your neck, fold them up so they are directly alongside the cornrow. Push a threaded needle through the cornrow and the braided tail, then out and through a loop on the end of the thread. Pull tight to secure the thread around the hair. Repeat a few times along the cornrow.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Attach the extension with a latch hook.\", \"描述\": \"Fold the extension in half so the ends meet evenly. The center of the extension should make a little loop. Carefully slide the latch hook under the cornrow. Hook the loop of the extension into the latch hook, then close it.\\nBuy a latch hook tool. This tool closes the hook so that it doesn't tear, break, or snag on your hair. If you use a regular crochet needle, you might damage your hair.\\nAlternately, you can use a bobby pin. Slide the bobby pin under your cornrow until just the looped end is sticking out on the other side. Slide your extension through the looped end of the bobby pin. Make sure to pull the hair through until both strands are even. Slide the bobby pin and extension under the cornrow.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Pull the extension through.\", \"描述\": \"Carefully pull the extension underneath the cornrow until the loop of the extension is below the cornrow. Take the strands of the extension and pull them through the loop. Tighten the loop until it is snug against the cornrow, and therefore, attached to your hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Repeat the same latch hook process.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have secured 1 extension, repeat the same process all the way down the cornrow. Place them as closely together as you please, depending on the look you are going for. You can put the extensions into twists or braids after you finish attaching them.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Braiding Cured Garlic
1-1. Clean the bulbs.
There’s no need to clean the garlic before you cure it, but you should take the time to remove any lingering dirt before you braid it. In some cases, you may be able to remove the dirt and other residue by brushing it away with your fingers. If the bulbs are particularly dirty, you may need to use a soft cloth to clean them.
For stubborn dirt that won’t wipe away with fingers or a cloth, try using an old toothbrush to go over the bulbs. Be gentle, though, so you don’t bruise the garlic when you’re cleaning it.
If the garlic is extremely dirty, you may want to remove a couple of the outer layers of dry skin.
1-2. Trim the garlic.
To ensure that you wind up with a neat, attractive braid, you’ll need to trim the bulbs before you begin braiding. There are usually long, scraggly roots attached to the bulbs, so you’ll want to cut those to approximately ¼-inch. The roots aren’t very thick, so you can use regular scissors to trim the garlic.
If you notice that any of the leaves are jagged or scraggy, you may want to trim them as well because they can make it more difficult to braid.
1-3. Soak the garlic stems.
When you’re braiding, you want the bulbs’ leaves to be pliable so they’re easier to braid. The best way to make them more flexible is to soak them in water. Fill a bowl or sink with lukewarm water, and soak the garlic so just the leaves are submerged. You don’t want the bulbs to get wet. Let the leaves soak for approximately 15 to 30 minutes, or until they feel more pliable.
Instead of soaking the leaves, you can sandwich them between two thoroughly wet towels. Once again, make sure the bulbs are not getting wet, and let the leaves sit for 15 to 30 minutes.
1-4. Select three largest bulbs and criss-cross them.
To make an attractive braid, you’ll need approximately 12 bulbs. As you’re sorting the ones that you’ll use, set aside the three largest bulbs to serve as the start of the braid. Lay them on a flat surface with one bulb in the center, one to its left, and one to its right. The center bulb’s leaves should be pointed at you, while the other two’s leaves are crisscrossed over one another to form an X over the center bulb.
It helps to secure the place where the bulbs overlap with a piece of twine. Make sure that the piece you use is long enough to knot over the bulbs with enough excess that you can secure additional bulbs that you place in the braid.
1-5. Start adding bulbs.
Place a fourth bulb over the existing bundle, so it matches up with the center bulb. Use the excess twine to secure the fourth bulb to the stack to make it easier when you start to braid. Next, take two more bulbs and align them with the two diagonal bulbs in a criss-cross fashion.
Take the time to line them up as much as possible because it’ll be easier when it comes time to braid.
1-6. Begin braiding.
With all of the bulbs’ leaves lined up, it’s time to start the braid. Make sure that you’re grabbing the two sets of leaves for each section as you begin braiding. Take the two leaves from the right side and cross them under the middle leaves, so they become the centerpieces. Next, take the two leaves on the left and cross them under the middle leaves. Repeat the process one or two more times.
You may find it easier to secure the braid with more twine before you add more bulbs. Just tie the knot in the back to keep it neat.
1-7. Add more bulbs.
Once you’ve started the braid, you can add three bulbs. You should line the leaves up with the existing ends of the braids as you did with the second set, so one aligns with the left section, one aligns with the center, and one aligns with the right. Start braiding again for one or two passes, and repeat the process until you’ve added all of your bulbs.
It’s a good idea to use twine to secure the bundle of bulbs after you’ve added the last set. That will make it easier to finish off the rest of the braid. To make it more decorative, tie it off in a bow.
1-8. Finish braiding and secure the entire garlic braid.
After you’ve added all of the garlic, you should continue braiding the leaves until you get to the end. Use another piece of twine to tie off the end and secure the entire braid. Use a pair of scissors to trim the end of the roots so they’re even and neat -- and you’re ready to hang your garlic braid in your kitchen.
You may also want to make the time to trim the fine roots at the tops of the bulbs to give the braid a neater appearance.
2. Curing Harvested Garlic
2-1. Choose a proper spot for curing.
If you want to preserve your garlic for long-term use, you need to cure it after it’s harvested. The curing process is meant to help the bulbs dry out, so you need to choose the right location to keep them. You want a dry, dark space with good air circulation. A covered porch, carport, barn, or well-ventilated garage can work well.
Make sure to keep garlic that you’re curing out of direct sunlight because the heat can start to cook it and change its flavor.
2-2. Create bundles of garlic.
When you’re ready to cure your garlic, it’s best to divide your harvest into portions. It’s usually best to create bundles of 5 to 10 bulbs, and tie them together with string or twine that's wrapped and knotted around their stalks. You can then hang them or place them on mesh racks for curing, so it’s easier for air to circulate around the bulbs.
Don’t remove any leaves or do any trimming when you’re preparing the bundles of garlic. The bulbs still gets energy from the rest of the plant until all of the moisture is gone.
2-3. Allow the bundles to sit for two weeks to a month.
For the garlic to fully cure, you have to wait until all of the moisture evaporates from the leaves and roots. That can take anywhere from two weeks to a month. If you live in a very humid location, though, it may take longer. You’ll know that the garlic is cured when the roots are shriveled, the leaves turn brown, and the bulbs have developed several layers of papery skin.
When you plan to braid your garlic, it’s often easier if you don’t allow it to fully cure. Let it go for about a week, and then braid it when the stems are still flexible.
3. Growing and Harvesting Garlic
3-1. Get the timing right.
The best time to plant garlic is in the fall approximately four to six weeks before the ground freezes in your area. The colder your climate is, the earlier in the fall that you should plant. That means the garlic is usually ready to harvest in early to mid-summer, which can be anywhere from July to August. Because garlic grows underground, it can be difficult to know when it’s ready -- the trick is to watch the plants and notice when approximately ⅓ of the leaves are pale yellow and shriveled.
Dry soil around the plants is another sign that your garlic is ready to be harvested.
If you aren’t sure whether your garlic is ready to be harvested, remove one or two bulb to examine them. They should be a good size, and the skins should be completely filled.
3-2. Loosen the soil around the bulbs.
If the soil is too tightly compacted around the garlic, it can be difficult to remove them from the ground. Before you try to lift the bulbs free, use a digging fork or small shovel to carefully loosen the dirt around the bulbs of garlic so you’ll be able to easily work them free. Don’t dig too close to the bulbs or you may damage them.
Be careful when you’re using the fork or shovel around the bulbs. Garlic is delicate, so it can bruise easily.
3-3. Lift the garlic from the soil.
You may be tempted to pull the bulbs out of the ground by their stems, but you can damage the garlic if you extract it too roughly. Instead, use a spade, shovel, or garden fork to gently lift the bulbs out of the dirt. Gently place the harvested bulbs in a container, such as a bucket, to keep them safe as you continue to remove the rest of the garlic.
It’s usually best to use a spade or shovel to lift the garlic out of the ground because it’s easier to damage if you use a pointed tool like a garden fork.
Keep the garlic out of the sun after you harvest it. Place the container that’s holding the bulbs in the shade or cover it with a sheet.
Tips
Braid garlic before it has completely dried so the leaves are pliable enough to handle.
Store fresh garlic in low temperatures, 32 to 35 °F (0 to 2 °C), or at room temperature, 60 to 70 °F (16 to 21 °C).
For a cleaner looking garlic braid, remove the outer bulb wrapper.
Warnings
After it’s been cured, the flavor of garlic usually intensifies, so start by using a small amount in your dish and adding more if necessary.
Garlic is best stored in a cool, dry space, so don’t hang your braid in direct sunlight or near the stove or radiator.
If you make more than one braid, it’s best to keep the extras in your pantry or another cool, dry space rather than in the kitchen. Hang only the one you’re currently using in the kitchen.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Braiding Cured Garlic\\n1-1. Clean the bulbs.\\nThere’s no need to clean the garlic before you cure it, but you should take the time to remove any lingering dirt before you braid it. In some cases, you may be able to remove the dirt and other residue by brushing it away with your fingers. If the bulbs are particularly dirty, you may need to use a soft cloth to clean them.\\nFor stubborn dirt that won’t wipe away with fingers or a cloth, try using an old toothbrush to go over the bulbs. Be gentle, though, so you don’t bruise the garlic when you’re cleaning it.\\nIf the garlic is extremely dirty, you may want to remove a couple of the outer layers of dry skin.\\n1-2. Trim the garlic.\\nTo ensure that you wind up with a neat, attractive braid, you’ll need to trim the bulbs before you begin braiding. There are usually long, scraggly roots attached to the bulbs, so you’ll want to cut those to approximately ¼-inch. The roots aren’t very thick, so you can use regular scissors to trim the garlic.\\nIf you notice that any of the leaves are jagged or scraggy, you may want to trim them as well because they can make it more difficult to braid.\\n1-3. Soak the garlic stems.\\nWhen you’re braiding, you want the bulbs’ leaves to be pliable so they’re easier to braid. The best way to make them more flexible is to soak them in water. Fill a bowl or sink with lukewarm water, and soak the garlic so just the leaves are submerged. You don’t want the bulbs to get wet. Let the leaves soak for approximately 15 to 30 minutes, or until they feel more pliable.\\nInstead of soaking the leaves, you can sandwich them between two thoroughly wet towels. Once again, make sure the bulbs are not getting wet, and let the leaves sit for 15 to 30 minutes.\\n1-4. Select three largest bulbs and criss-cross them.\\nTo make an attractive braid, you’ll need approximately 12 bulbs. As you’re sorting the ones that you’ll use, set aside the three largest bulbs to serve as the start of the braid. Lay them on a flat surface with one bulb in the center, one to its left, and one to its right. The center bulb’s leaves should be pointed at you, while the other two’s leaves are crisscrossed over one another to form an X over the center bulb.\\nIt helps to secure the place where the bulbs overlap with a piece of twine. Make sure that the piece you use is long enough to knot over the bulbs with enough excess that you can secure additional bulbs that you place in the braid.\\n1-5. Start adding bulbs.\\nPlace a fourth bulb over the existing bundle, so it matches up with the center bulb. Use the excess twine to secure the fourth bulb to the stack to make it easier when you start to braid. Next, take two more bulbs and align them with the two diagonal bulbs in a criss-cross fashion.\\nTake the time to line them up as much as possible because it’ll be easier when it comes time to braid.\\n1-6. Begin braiding.\\nWith all of the bulbs’ leaves lined up, it’s time to start the braid. Make sure that you’re grabbing the two sets of leaves for each section as you begin braiding. Take the two leaves from the right side and cross them under the middle leaves, so they become the centerpieces. Next, take the two leaves on the left and cross them under the middle leaves. Repeat the process one or two more times.\\nYou may find it easier to secure the braid with more twine before you add more bulbs. Just tie the knot in the back to keep it neat.\\n1-7. Add more bulbs.\\nOnce you’ve started the braid, you can add three bulbs. You should line the leaves up with the existing ends of the braids as you did with the second set, so one aligns with the left section, one aligns with the center, and one aligns with the right. Start braiding again for one or two passes, and repeat the process until you’ve added all of your bulbs.\\nIt’s a good idea to use twine to secure the bundle of bulbs after you’ve added the last set. That will make it easier to finish off the rest of the braid. To make it more decorative, tie it off in a bow.\\n1-8. Finish braiding and secure the entire garlic braid.\\nAfter you’ve added all of the garlic, you should continue braiding the leaves until you get to the end. Use another piece of twine to tie off the end and secure the entire braid. Use a pair of scissors to trim the end of the roots so they’re even and neat -- and you’re ready to hang your garlic braid in your kitchen.\\nYou may also want to make the time to trim the fine roots at the tops of the bulbs to give the braid a neater appearance.\\n2. Curing Harvested Garlic\\n2-1. Choose a proper spot for curing.\\nIf you want to preserve your garlic for long-term use, you need to cure it after it’s harvested. The curing process is meant to help the bulbs dry out, so you need to choose the right location to keep them. You want a dry, dark space with good air circulation. A covered porch, carport, barn, or well-ventilated garage can work well.\\nMake sure to keep garlic that you’re curing out of direct sunlight because the heat can start to cook it and change its flavor.\\n2-2. Create bundles of garlic.\\nWhen you’re ready to cure your garlic, it’s best to divide your harvest into portions. It’s usually best to create bundles of 5 to 10 bulbs, and tie them together with string or twine that's wrapped and knotted around their stalks. You can then hang them or place them on mesh racks for curing, so it’s easier for air to circulate around the bulbs.\\nDon’t remove any leaves or do any trimming when you’re preparing the bundles of garlic. The bulbs still gets energy from the rest of the plant until all of the moisture is gone.\\n2-3. Allow the bundles to sit for two weeks to a month.\\nFor the garlic to fully cure, you have to wait until all of the moisture evaporates from the leaves and roots. That can take anywhere from two weeks to a month. If you live in a very humid location, though, it may take longer. You’ll know that the garlic is cured when the roots are shriveled, the leaves turn brown, and the bulbs have developed several layers of papery skin.\\nWhen you plan to braid your garlic, it’s often easier if you don’t allow it to fully cure. Let it go for about a week, and then braid it when the stems are still flexible.\\n3. Growing and Harvesting Garlic\\n3-1. Get the timing right.\\nThe best time to plant garlic is in the fall approximately four to six weeks before the ground freezes in your area. The colder your climate is, the earlier in the fall that you should plant. That means the garlic is usually ready to harvest in early to mid-summer, which can be anywhere from July to August. Because garlic grows underground, it can be difficult to know when it’s ready -- the trick is to watch the plants and notice when approximately ⅓ of the leaves are pale yellow and shriveled.\\nDry soil around the plants is another sign that your garlic is ready to be harvested.\\nIf you aren’t sure whether your garlic is ready to be harvested, remove one or two bulb to examine them. They should be a good size, and the skins should be completely filled.\\n3-2. Loosen the soil around the bulbs.\\nIf the soil is too tightly compacted around the garlic, it can be difficult to remove them from the ground. Before you try to lift the bulbs free, use a digging fork or small shovel to carefully loosen the dirt around the bulbs of garlic so you’ll be able to easily work them free. Don’t dig too close to the bulbs or you may damage them.\\nBe careful when you’re using the fork or shovel around the bulbs. Garlic is delicate, so it can bruise easily.\\n3-3. Lift the garlic from the soil.\\nYou may be tempted to pull the bulbs out of the ground by their stems, but you can damage the garlic if you extract it too roughly. Instead, use a spade, shovel, or garden fork to gently lift the bulbs out of the dirt. Gently place the harvested bulbs in a container, such as a bucket, to keep them safe as you continue to remove the rest of the garlic.\\nIt’s usually best to use a spade or shovel to lift the garlic out of the ground because it’s easier to damage if you use a pointed tool like a garden fork.\\nKeep the garlic out of the sun after you harvest it. Place the container that’s holding the bulbs in the shade or cover it with a sheet.\\nTips\\nBraid garlic before it has completely dried so the leaves are pliable enough to handle.\\nStore fresh garlic in low temperatures, 32 to 35 °F (0 to 2 °C), or at room temperature, 60 to 70 °F (16 to 21 °C).\\nFor a cleaner looking garlic braid, remove the outer bulb wrapper.\\nWarnings\\nAfter it’s been cured, the flavor of garlic usually intensifies, so start by using a small amount in your dish and adding more if necessary.\\nGarlic is best stored in a cool, dry space, so don’t hang your braid in direct sunlight or near the stove or radiator.\\nIf you make more than one braid, it’s best to keep the extras in your pantry or another cool, dry space rather than in the kitchen. Hang only the one you’re currently using in the kitchen.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"A garlic braid is a tidy way to store your garlic. However, there are more benefits to braiding garlic than just its appearance. There's also the convenience in being able to grab a clove or two whenever you need it and garlic that stays fresher longer because of improved air circulation. Braiding garlic can seem a little intimidating at first, but once you get the basics down, you can make these fun ropes in no time.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Braiding Cured Garlic\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Clean the bulbs.\", \"描述\": \"There’s no need to clean the garlic before you cure it, but you should take the time to remove any lingering dirt before you braid it. In some cases, you may be able to remove the dirt and other residue by brushing it away with your fingers. If the bulbs are particularly dirty, you may need to use a soft cloth to clean them.\\nFor stubborn dirt that won’t wipe away with fingers or a cloth, try using an old toothbrush to go over the bulbs. Be gentle, though, so you don’t bruise the garlic when you’re cleaning it.\\nIf the garlic is extremely dirty, you may want to remove a couple of the outer layers of dry skin.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Trim the garlic.\", \"描述\": \"To ensure that you wind up with a neat, attractive braid, you’ll need to trim the bulbs before you begin braiding. There are usually long, scraggly roots attached to the bulbs, so you’ll want to cut those to approximately ¼-inch. The roots aren’t very thick, so you can use regular scissors to trim the garlic.\\nIf you notice that any of the leaves are jagged or scraggy, you may want to trim them as well because they can make it more difficult to braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Soak the garlic stems.\", \"描述\": \"When you’re braiding, you want the bulbs’ leaves to be pliable so they’re easier to braid. The best way to make them more flexible is to soak them in water. Fill a bowl or sink with lukewarm water, and soak the garlic so just the leaves are submerged. You don’t want the bulbs to get wet. Let the leaves soak for approximately 15 to 30 minutes, or until they feel more pliable.\\nInstead of soaking the leaves, you can sandwich them between two thoroughly wet towels. Once again, make sure the bulbs are not getting wet, and let the leaves sit for 15 to 30 minutes.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Select three largest bulbs and criss-cross them.\", \"描述\": \"To make an attractive braid, you’ll need approximately 12 bulbs. As you’re sorting the ones that you’ll use, set aside the three largest bulbs to serve as the start of the braid. Lay them on a flat surface with one bulb in the center, one to its left, and one to its right. The center bulb’s leaves should be pointed at you, while the other two’s leaves are crisscrossed over one another to form an X over the center bulb.\\nIt helps to secure the place where the bulbs overlap with a piece of twine. Make sure that the piece you use is long enough to knot over the bulbs with enough excess that you can secure additional bulbs that you place in the braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Start adding bulbs.\", \"描述\": \"Place a fourth bulb over the existing bundle, so it matches up with the center bulb. Use the excess twine to secure the fourth bulb to the stack to make it easier when you start to braid. Next, take two more bulbs and align them with the two diagonal bulbs in a criss-cross fashion.\\nTake the time to line them up as much as possible because it’ll be easier when it comes time to braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Begin braiding.\", \"描述\": \"With all of the bulbs’ leaves lined up, it’s time to start the braid. Make sure that you’re grabbing the two sets of leaves for each section as you begin braiding. Take the two leaves from the right side and cross them under the middle leaves, so they become the centerpieces. Next, take the two leaves on the left and cross them under the middle leaves. Repeat the process one or two more times.\\nYou may find it easier to secure the braid with more twine before you add more bulbs. Just tie the knot in the back to keep it neat.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Add more bulbs.\", \"描述\": \"Once you’ve started the braid, you can add three bulbs. You should line the leaves up with the existing ends of the braids as you did with the second set, so one aligns with the left section, one aligns with the center, and one aligns with the right. Start braiding again for one or two passes, and repeat the process until you’ve added all of your bulbs.\\nIt’s a good idea to use twine to secure the bundle of bulbs after you’ve added the last set. That will make it easier to finish off the rest of the braid. To make it more decorative, tie it off in a bow.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Finish braiding and secure the entire garlic braid.\", \"描述\": \"After you’ve added all of the garlic, you should continue braiding the leaves until you get to the end. Use another piece of twine to tie off the end and secure the entire braid. Use a pair of scissors to trim the end of the roots so they’re even and neat -- and you’re ready to hang your garlic braid in your kitchen.\\nYou may also want to make the time to trim the fine roots at the tops of the bulbs to give the braid a neater appearance.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Curing Harvested Garlic\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Choose a proper spot for curing.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to preserve your garlic for long-term use, you need to cure it after it’s harvested. The curing process is meant to help the bulbs dry out, so you need to choose the right location to keep them. You want a dry, dark space with good air circulation. A covered porch, carport, barn, or well-ventilated garage can work well.\\nMake sure to keep garlic that you’re curing out of direct sunlight because the heat can start to cook it and change its flavor.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Create bundles of garlic.\", \"描述\": \"When you’re ready to cure your garlic, it’s best to divide your harvest into portions. It’s usually best to create bundles of 5 to 10 bulbs, and tie them together with string or twine that's wrapped and knotted around their stalks. You can then hang them or place them on mesh racks for curing, so it’s easier for air to circulate around the bulbs.\\nDon’t remove any leaves or do any trimming when you’re preparing the bundles of garlic. The bulbs still gets energy from the rest of the plant until all of the moisture is gone.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Allow the bundles to sit for two weeks to a month.\", \"描述\": \"For the garlic to fully cure, you have to wait until all of the moisture evaporates from the leaves and roots. That can take anywhere from two weeks to a month. If you live in a very humid location, though, it may take longer. You’ll know that the garlic is cured when the roots are shriveled, the leaves turn brown, and the bulbs have developed several layers of papery skin.\\nWhen you plan to braid your garlic, it’s often easier if you don’t allow it to fully cure. Let it go for about a week, and then braid it when the stems are still flexible.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Growing and Harvesting Garlic\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get the timing right.\", \"描述\": \"The best time to plant garlic is in the fall approximately four to six weeks before the ground freezes in your area. The colder your climate is, the earlier in the fall that you should plant. That means the garlic is usually ready to harvest in early to mid-summer, which can be anywhere from July to August. Because garlic grows underground, it can be difficult to know when it’s ready -- the trick is to watch the plants and notice when approximately ⅓ of the leaves are pale yellow and shriveled.\\nDry soil around the plants is another sign that your garlic is ready to be harvested.\\nIf you aren’t sure whether your garlic is ready to be harvested, remove one or two bulb to examine them. They should be a good size, and the skins should be completely filled.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Loosen the soil around the bulbs.\", \"描述\": \"If the soil is too tightly compacted around the garlic, it can be difficult to remove them from the ground. Before you try to lift the bulbs free, use a digging fork or small shovel to carefully loosen the dirt around the bulbs of garlic so you’ll be able to easily work them free. Don’t dig too close to the bulbs or you may damage them.\\nBe careful when you’re using the fork or shovel around the bulbs. Garlic is delicate, so it can bruise easily.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Lift the garlic from the soil.\", \"描述\": \"You may be tempted to pull the bulbs out of the ground by their stems, but you can damage the garlic if you extract it too roughly. Instead, use a spade, shovel, or garden fork to gently lift the bulbs out of the dirt. Gently place the harvested bulbs in a container, such as a bucket, to keep them safe as you continue to remove the rest of the garlic.\\nIt’s usually best to use a spade or shovel to lift the garlic out of the ground because it’s easier to damage if you use a pointed tool like a garden fork.\\nKeep the garlic out of the sun after you harvest it. Place the container that’s holding the bulbs in the shade or cover it with a sheet.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Braid garlic before it has completely dried so the leaves are pliable enough to handle.\\n\", \"Store fresh garlic in low temperatures, 32 to 35 °F (0 to 2 °C), or at room temperature, 60 to 70 °F (16 to 21 °C).\\n\", \"For a cleaner looking garlic braid, remove the outer bulb wrapper.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"After it’s been cured, the flavor of garlic usually intensifies, so start by using a small amount in your dish and adding more if necessary.\\n\", \"Garlic is best stored in a cool, dry space, so don’t hang your braid in direct sunlight or near the stove or radiator.\\n\", \"If you make more than one braid, it’s best to keep the extras in your pantry or another cool, dry space rather than in the kitchen. Hang only the one you’re currently using in the kitchen.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. 3-Strand Braid
1-1. Detangle your hair
Braiding goes a lot faster with hair that’s kept knot-free. Keep brushing your hair out until your comb or brush pulls easily through without getting snagged on any tangles and knots.
If you're working with thick or layered hair, use a bit of water or leave-in conditioner to dampen the hair first. This will make it easier to handle.
Braiding your hair when it’s damp will give it a very smooth, tight appearance. Meanwhile, braids done on dry hair will have a bit more of a messy look.
If braiding your hair dry, do it a few days after washing so that it’s not so slippery. Slightly oily hair will hold a braid better than freshly washed hair, and you'll have fewer flyaways.
1-2. Tie your hair into a ponytail
If you tie your hair into a ponytail or half ponytail with a hair tie, your braid will be easier to handle and come out neater.
Once you’ve gotten the hang of braiding starting with a ponytail, move on to braiding loose hair at the nape of your neck.
1-3. Divide the hair into three even sections.
These will be the three strands of your braid. Separate your hair into three sections using either your fingers or a comb, and make them as even as possible.
Grab the right section with your right hand and the left section with your left hand, letting the middle section hang free.
Hold the strands so that you're grasping them against your palm with your middle, ring and little fingers, keeping your index fingers and thumbs free.
1-4. Cross the left section over the middle section.
With the index finger and thumb of your left hand, grab the section of hair that’s in the middle. Using the index finger and thumb of your right hand, grab the left section of hair that's grasped against your left palm. The section that was originally on the left is now the middle section.
If your strands started out as , they should now be ordered as .
1-5. Cross the right section over the middle section.
In your left hand, shift the strand that's between your index finger and thumb so that your other fingers are holding it securely against your palm. Use your left index finger and thumb to grab the section of hair that's being held against your right palm (but not the one being held by the thumb and index finger). The original right-hand section is now the middle section.
Your strands that were ordered will become .
1-6. Continue layering the left and right sections over the middle strand.
Keep using the free index finger and thumb of one hand to grab the section of hair held against the palm of the other hand. Repeat until you run out of space to braid, leaving about 1–3 inches (2.5–7.6 cm) of unbraided hair at the end.
Tighten the braid as you go and keep the tension even for all 3 sections by gently pulling down on the braid as you weave.
Any time a strand changes hands, tug gently on the hair so that the braid gets tightened.
1-7. Secure the braid using a hair tie.
You might have to wrap it around the hair several times to make it tight enough. Avoid using rubber bands, as these can damage the hair and be difficult to remove at the end of the day.
Use a ponytail holder that’s the same color as your hair or translucent so that it blends in with your braid. This makes your braid look more natural.
1-8. Set the braid using hairspray.
Applying hairspray or spray gel is great for preventing flyaways that can spring up as the day goes on. Hold your hairspray about 12 inches (30 cm) away from your head and lightly mist the entire length of your braid.
If you decide to use hairspray, apply it before adding any other hair accessories, like headbands or clips.
Use a shine serum along your braid to give it some extra glow. Rub a bit of serum between your hands and then run them along the length of the braid.
Use a nourishing oil to protect your braids at night.
1-9. Add some fun accessories to make your braid stand out.
Use some colorful ribbon to make a bow at the end of your braid for extra flair. Stick on a cute hair pin or brooch near the base of your braid, or use them to hold back your bangs.
1-10. Play with traditional braids to create other styles.
Traditional braids are easy to incorporate into other styles. Braid a tiny accent braid that hangs loose, or pin your accent braid across your head to create a headband. You can also dress up a ponytail by braiding it into a traditional braid.
Experiment with braiding all of your hair or just small sections until you find some styles you like.
2. French Braid
2-1. Comb out any knots.
French braiding can be particularly tricky if your hair is tangled, so take a few minutes to remove knots with a brush or wide-toothed comb. Work in small sections and start at the bottom and work your way up.
If you detangle your hair starting at your scalp, your hair will be more likely to break when you come across a tangle.
2-2. Create your starter section by grabbing the hair closest to your forehead and temples.
For a traditional French braid, grab a small section of hair next to your left temple, in the center of your scalp close to your forehead, and next to your right temple.
You don't have to start a French braid at the top of your head. This is the easiest starting point for beginners, but a French braid can technically be started from any point on your head.
Just make sure you're including the hair above your ears in your starter section if you decide to braid moving downwards.
You can create multiple French braids on your hair using several parts. If you have short hair, it may be easier to make two medium braids rather than one large one.
2-3. Separate your starter section into three equal sections.
These three strands will make up the beginning of the braid. Divide your hair using your fingers or a comb, and make them as even as possible.
Make sure the strands start from the same row of hair. For example, divide your sections so that they all start at the very edge of your scalp.
Keeping the three strands close together will make starting the braid easier as well.
2-4. Hold the left strand in your left hand and the middle and right strands in your right hand.
Grasping the strands correctly will help you braid neatly and quickly. Though you might find another way that's more comfortable for you, here's a basic beginning grip:
Grasp the left strand in your left hand.
Grasp the center strand between the thumb and index finger of your right hand.
Grasp the right strand between your right palm and the remaining three fingers of your right hand.
2-5. Cross the right strand over the center strand.
With the last three fingers of your left hand, grip the left strand between your fingers and your palm. With your left thumb and index finger, reach over the center strand and grab the right strand to pull it over the middle strand. While doing this, maintain your hold on the center strand with your right index finger and thumb. You should now have two strands in your left hand and one in your right hand, and the right strand should now be in the center.
2-6. Move the left strand to the center.
With the last three fingers of your right hand, grip the right strand between your fingers and your palm. This will free up your right thumb and index finger to reach over the center strand and grab the left strand. Bring the left strand over the center strand so that they switch positions. You should now have two strands in your right hand and one in your left hand.
2-7. Add hair to the right strand.
Let go of the center strand and allow it to hang between the left and right strands. Grip the left strand between the last three fingers of your left hand and your left palm and grab the right strand with your left thumb and index finger. Using your free right hand, pull up a small section of unbraided hair from the right side of your head. Grab this new section with your left thumb and index finger to add it to the right strand of the braid.
Grab the center strand with your right hand and move it to the right, making it your new right strand. The section you added hair to, between your left thumb and index finger, is the new center strand.
Up until now, you've done a regular braid. Adding in unbraided hair is where the "French" part of the process comes in.
2-8. Add hair to the left strand.
Let go of the center strand again and grip the right strand between the last three fingers of your right hand and your right palm. Then, grab the left strand with your right thumb and index finger. Using your left hand, pull up a small section of unbraided hair from the left side of your head. Grab the new section with your right thumb and index finger to add it to the left section of the braid.
Pick up the center strand with your left hand and cross it under the left strand. The section you added hair to, between your right thumb and index finger, is the new center strand.
For an even braid, grab the same amount of hair on each side when you’re adding hair to the braid.
2-9. Continue braiding in this pattern.
Keep adding hair to the right and left strands as you work your way down. You’ll eventually run out of new hair to add to the braid when you reach the nape of your neck. To keep the braid looking as neat as possible, create parallel lines on each side of your head using a comb or your fingers as you gather sections of hair. This helps keep your sections about the same size as you finish your braid.
2-10. Finish by tying the rest of your hair up in a basic braid.
Once you’ve run out of new hair to add, continue doing a regular 3-strand braid until you reach near the bottom of your hair.
2-11. Secure the braid using a hair tie.
Use a hair tie the same color as your hair or one that’s clear so that it blends in. Avoid rubber bands, which can damage your hair and be difficult to remove.
2-12. Set the braid with hairspray.
Hairspray or spray gel will keep your French braid looking neat and clean throughout the day. Hold the product about 12 inches (30 cm) away from your hair, then lightly spritz the length of your braid.
If you're going to add other accessories to your hair, hairspray it first. This will prevent flaky residue from getting on your barrettes or ribbons.
Applying shine serum along your braid will help keep your hair looking smooth and soft.
2-13. Add accessories to embellish your braid.
Tie on a length of colorful ribbon at the end of your braid, or secure some cute clips and barrettes here and there for decoration.
3. Fishtail Braid
3-1. Separate your hair into two even sections.
A fishtail braid looks like it's made of several small strands, but surprisingly there are only two primary sections. Split your hair into two even sections, holding the right section in your right hand and the left section in your left hand.
For a neat braid, use a fine-toothed comb to make a straight part down the middle of your head, from your forehead to your nape.
For a more tousled, Katniss Everdeen-inspired look, just part your hair with your hands and separate it into two sections that are mostly even.
Fishtailing can be done with either damp or dry hair.
3-2. Pull a small strand of hair from the left section into the right section.
Keep holding the right section of hair in your right hand and drop the left section so it hangs loose. Using your left hand, pull up a small strand of hair from the side of the left section of hair that's closest to your ear. Grab this small strand with your right index finger and thumb and incorporate it into the right section of the braid.
3-3. Pull a small strand of hair from the right section into the left section.
Pick up the left section with your left hand and drop the right section so it hangs loose. Using your right hand, pull up a small strand of hair close to your right ear. Grab this small strand of hair with your left index finger and thumb and bring it over the right section and into the left. Finally, pick up the right section again in your right hand.
For a more intricate-looking braid, pull up smaller strands of hair. For a quicker braid, grab larger sections.
3-4. Repeat this pattern until you run out of hair.
Keep alternating sides and adding strands until you reach the end of your hair. Keep the small strands that you pull into the main sections as evenly sized as possible to achieve a clean-looking braid.
3-5. Secure your fishtail braid with a hair tie at the very end.
Loop the hair tie around your hair a couple of times until it’s tight. Avoid using a rubberband, as this can get caught in your hair and can be a bit more painful to remove later.
4. 5-Strand Braid
4-1. Separate your hair into five equal sections.
A 5-strand braid looks more intricate and elegant than a standard 3-strand braid. Start by dividing your hair into five separate strands using either your fingers or a comb. Make the sections as even as possible.
Pull your hair into a ponytail first to create a stable base for braiding. This is a good technique to use if you’re trying out this braid for the first time.
It's easiest to braid a 5-strand braid when your hair is wet or greasy from going a few days without being washed. This makes your hair less slippery and prevents fly-aways from getting tangled up in other strands.
4-2. Hold the two left strands in your left hand and the two right strands in your right hand.
Leave the center strand to hang loose down the middle. Numbering the strands can help you keep them straight. They should look like .
4-3. Move the leftmost strand to the center.
Hold the hair in your right hand using your middle, ring, and pinky fingers and use your right index finger and thumb to grab strand 1. Then, move strand 1 over under 2 and over strand 3 so that it's now in the center. Grab strand 3 in your left hand and let strand 1 now hang loose in the middle.
You should now have .
4-4. Weave the rightmost strand (strand 5) to the center.
Hold strands 2 and 3 in your left hand using your middle, ring, and pinky fingers. Then, use your left index finger and thumb to grab strand 5 and move under strand 4 and over strand 1. Grab strand 1 in your right hand, and let strand 5 hang loose in the center.
You should now have .
4-5. Continue weaving your hair until you reach the end.
Continue this process of weaving the outer strands to the center until you reach the end of your hair.
4-6. Tie off the braid.
Use a ribbon or non-rubber hair elastic to secure the end of the braid. Take care not to tangle your hair as you tie it off, and choose an elastic that is wrapped in fabric.
5. Other Braid Styles
5-1. Learn how to do a Dutch braid.
This is the reverse of a French braid, where instead of braiding the left and right strands over the center strand, you braid them under the middle section. Instead of the braid sitting under your hair (as with a French braid), it sits on top of your head.
This look is also called an "outside braid," and it pops a little more than a traditional French braid.
5-2. Try a waterfall braid.
This beautiful style is created by letting strands of hair hang loose from a French braid, similar to the look of a waterfall. When you feel comfortable with your skills in French braiding, go a step further and try a waterfall braid.
5-3. Use your French braid skills to make a braided headband.
This is a small, thin braid that goes from ear to ear across your forehead, like a headband. It uses the process of French or Dutch braiding to turn your bangs into a statement piece.
5-4. Take your 3-strand braid up a level by braiding each strand.
This creates a very intricate, large braid. This style is great with a bohemian headband or pin, or to give the impression of a lot of work when you didn't do much at all!
5-5. Style a rope braid for a unique look.
This is a pretty braid that looks like a spiraling rope strand and is done by separating your hair into two sections and twisting them tightly before crisscrossing them over one another. It’s great for leaving down or twirling up into a bun.
Tips
Pull down gently on each strand as you braid to keep the entire braid tight.
If you’re having a hard time keeping your groups separate, secure them with small hair ties at the very end. When you get closer to the end of the braid, take them out and finish off the braid.
If you are having trouble braiding your own hair, try practicing on a friend to get the hang of the basic movements.
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Tie your hair into a ponytail\\nIf you tie your hair into a ponytail or half ponytail with a hair tie, your braid will be easier to handle and come out neater.\\nOnce you’ve gotten the hang of braiding starting with a ponytail, move on to braiding loose hair at the nape of your neck.\\n1-3. Divide the hair into three even sections.\\nThese will be the three strands of your braid. Separate your hair into three sections using either your fingers or a comb, and make them as even as possible.\\nGrab the right section with your right hand and the left section with your left hand, letting the middle section hang free.\\nHold the strands so that you're grasping them against your palm with your middle, ring and little fingers, keeping your index fingers and thumbs free.\\n1-4. Cross the left section over the middle section.\\nWith the index finger and thumb of your left hand, grab the section of hair that’s in the middle. Using the index finger and thumb of your right hand, grab the left section of hair that's grasped against your left palm. The section that was originally on the left is now the middle section.\\nIf your strands started out as , they should now be ordered as .\\n1-5. Cross the right section over the middle section.\\nIn your left hand, shift the strand that's between your index finger and thumb so that your other fingers are holding it securely against your palm. Use your left index finger and thumb to grab the section of hair that's being held against your right palm (but not the one being held by the thumb and index finger). The original right-hand section is now the middle section.\\nYour strands that were ordered will become .\\n1-6. Continue layering the left and right sections over the middle strand.\\nKeep using the free index finger and thumb of one hand to grab the section of hair held against the palm of the other hand. Repeat until you run out of space to braid, leaving about 1–3 inches (2.5–7.6 cm) of unbraided hair at the end.\\nTighten the braid as you go and keep the tension even for all 3 sections by gently pulling down on the braid as you weave.\\nAny time a strand changes hands, tug gently on the hair so that the braid gets tightened.\\n1-7. Secure the braid using a hair tie.\\nYou might have to wrap it around the hair several times to make it tight enough. Avoid using rubber bands, as these can damage the hair and be difficult to remove at the end of the day.\\nUse a ponytail holder that’s the same color as your hair or translucent so that it blends in with your braid. This makes your braid look more natural.\\n1-8. Set the braid using hairspray.\\nApplying hairspray or spray gel is great for preventing flyaways that can spring up as the day goes on. Hold your hairspray about 12 inches (30 cm) away from your head and lightly mist the entire length of your braid.\\nIf you decide to use hairspray, apply it before adding any other hair accessories, like headbands or clips.\\nUse a shine serum along your braid to give it some extra glow. Rub a bit of serum between your hands and then run them along the length of the braid.\\nUse a nourishing oil to protect your braids at night.\\n1-9. Add some fun accessories to make your braid stand out.\\nUse some colorful ribbon to make a bow at the end of your braid for extra flair. Stick on a cute hair pin or brooch near the base of your braid, or use them to hold back your bangs.\\n1-10. Play with traditional braids to create other styles.\\nTraditional braids are easy to incorporate into other styles. Braid a tiny accent braid that hangs loose, or pin your accent braid across your head to create a headband. You can also dress up a ponytail by braiding it into a traditional braid.\\nExperiment with braiding all of your hair or just small sections until you find some styles you like.\\n2. French Braid\\n2-1. Comb out any knots.\\nFrench braiding can be particularly tricky if your hair is tangled, so take a few minutes to remove knots with a brush or wide-toothed comb. Work in small sections and start at the bottom and work your way up.\\nIf you detangle your hair starting at your scalp, your hair will be more likely to break when you come across a tangle.\\n2-2. Create your starter section by grabbing the hair closest to your forehead and temples.\\nFor a traditional French braid, grab a small section of hair next to your left temple, in the center of your scalp close to your forehead, and next to your right temple.\\nYou don't have to start a French braid at the top of your head. This is the easiest starting point for beginners, but a French braid can technically be started from any point on your head.\\nJust make sure you're including the hair above your ears in your starter section if you decide to braid moving downwards.\\nYou can create multiple French braids on your hair using several parts. If you have short hair, it may be easier to make two medium braids rather than one large one.\\n2-3. Separate your starter section into three equal sections.\\nThese three strands will make up the beginning of the braid. Divide your hair using your fingers or a comb, and make them as even as possible.\\nMake sure the strands start from the same row of hair. For example, divide your sections so that they all start at the very edge of your scalp.\\nKeeping the three strands close together will make starting the braid easier as well.\\n2-4. Hold the left strand in your left hand and the middle and right strands in your right hand.\\nGrasping the strands correctly will help you braid neatly and quickly. Though you might find another way that's more comfortable for you, here's a basic beginning grip:\\nGrasp the left strand in your left hand.\\nGrasp the center strand between the thumb and index finger of your right hand.\\nGrasp the right strand between your right palm and the remaining three fingers of your right hand.\\n2-5. Cross the right strand over the center strand.\\nWith the last three fingers of your left hand, grip the left strand between your fingers and your palm. With your left thumb and index finger, reach over the center strand and grab the right strand to pull it over the middle strand. While doing this, maintain your hold on the center strand with your right index finger and thumb. You should now have two strands in your left hand and one in your right hand, and the right strand should now be in the center.\\n2-6. Move the left strand to the center.\\nWith the last three fingers of your right hand, grip the right strand between your fingers and your palm. This will free up your right thumb and index finger to reach over the center strand and grab the left strand. Bring the left strand over the center strand so that they switch positions. You should now have two strands in your right hand and one in your left hand.\\n2-7. Add hair to the right strand.\\nLet go of the center strand and allow it to hang between the left and right strands. Grip the left strand between the last three fingers of your left hand and your left palm and grab the right strand with your left thumb and index finger. Using your free right hand, pull up a small section of unbraided hair from the right side of your head. Grab this new section with your left thumb and index finger to add it to the right strand of the braid.\\nGrab the center strand with your right hand and move it to the right, making it your new right strand. The section you added hair to, between your left thumb and index finger, is the new center strand.\\nUp until now, you've done a regular braid. Adding in unbraided hair is where the \\\"French\\\" part of the process comes in.\\n2-8. Add hair to the left strand.\\nLet go of the center strand again and grip the right strand between the last three fingers of your right hand and your right palm. Then, grab the left strand with your right thumb and index finger. Using your left hand, pull up a small section of unbraided hair from the left side of your head. Grab the new section with your right thumb and index finger to add it to the left section of the braid.\\nPick up the center strand with your left hand and cross it under the left strand. The section you added hair to, between your right thumb and index finger, is the new center strand.\\nFor an even braid, grab the same amount of hair on each side when you’re adding hair to the braid.\\n2-9. Continue braiding in this pattern.\\nKeep adding hair to the right and left strands as you work your way down. You’ll eventually run out of new hair to add to the braid when you reach the nape of your neck. To keep the braid looking as neat as possible, create parallel lines on each side of your head using a comb or your fingers as you gather sections of hair. This helps keep your sections about the same size as you finish your braid.\\n2-10. Finish by tying the rest of your hair up in a basic braid.\\nOnce you’ve run out of new hair to add, continue doing a regular 3-strand braid until you reach near the bottom of your hair.\\n2-11. Secure the braid using a hair tie.\\nUse a hair tie the same color as your hair or one that’s clear so that it blends in. Avoid rubber bands, which can damage your hair and be difficult to remove.\\n2-12. Set the braid with hairspray.\\nHairspray or spray gel will keep your French braid looking neat and clean throughout the day. Hold the product about 12 inches (30 cm) away from your hair, then lightly spritz the length of your braid.\\nIf you're going to add other accessories to your hair, hairspray it first. This will prevent flaky residue from getting on your barrettes or ribbons.\\nApplying shine serum along your braid will help keep your hair looking smooth and soft.\\n2-13. Add accessories to embellish your braid.\\nTie on a length of colorful ribbon at the end of your braid, or secure some cute clips and barrettes here and there for decoration.\\n3. Fishtail Braid\\n3-1. Separate your hair into two even sections.\\nA fishtail braid looks like it's made of several small strands, but surprisingly there are only two primary sections. Split your hair into two even sections, holding the right section in your right hand and the left section in your left hand.\\nFor a neat braid, use a fine-toothed comb to make a straight part down the middle of your head, from your forehead to your nape.\\nFor a more tousled, Katniss Everdeen-inspired look, just part your hair with your hands and separate it into two sections that are mostly even.\\nFishtailing can be done with either damp or dry hair.\\n3-2. Pull a small strand of hair from the left section into the right section.\\nKeep holding the right section of hair in your right hand and drop the left section so it hangs loose. Using your left hand, pull up a small strand of hair from the side of the left section of hair that's closest to your ear. Grab this small strand with your right index finger and thumb and incorporate it into the right section of the braid.\\n3-3. Pull a small strand of hair from the right section into the left section.\\nPick up the left section with your left hand and drop the right section so it hangs loose. Using your right hand, pull up a small strand of hair close to your right ear. Grab this small strand of hair with your left index finger and thumb and bring it over the right section and into the left. Finally, pick up the right section again in your right hand.\\nFor a more intricate-looking braid, pull up smaller strands of hair. For a quicker braid, grab larger sections.\\n3-4. Repeat this pattern until you run out of hair.\\nKeep alternating sides and adding strands until you reach the end of your hair. Keep the small strands that you pull into the main sections as evenly sized as possible to achieve a clean-looking braid.\\n3-5. Secure your fishtail braid with a hair tie at the very end.\\nLoop the hair tie around your hair a couple of times until it’s tight. Avoid using a rubberband, as this can get caught in your hair and can be a bit more painful to remove later.\\n4. 5-Strand Braid\\n4-1. Separate your hair into five equal sections.\\nA 5-strand braid looks more intricate and elegant than a standard 3-strand braid. Start by dividing your hair into five separate strands using either your fingers or a comb. Make the sections as even as possible.\\nPull your hair into a ponytail first to create a stable base for braiding. This is a good technique to use if you’re trying out this braid for the first time.\\nIt's easiest to braid a 5-strand braid when your hair is wet or greasy from going a few days without being washed. This makes your hair less slippery and prevents fly-aways from getting tangled up in other strands.\\n4-2. Hold the two left strands in your left hand and the two right strands in your right hand.\\nLeave the center strand to hang loose down the middle. Numbering the strands can help you keep them straight. They should look like .\\n4-3. Move the leftmost strand to the center.\\nHold the hair in your right hand using your middle, ring, and pinky fingers and use your right index finger and thumb to grab strand 1. Then, move strand 1 over under 2 and over strand 3 so that it's now in the center. Grab strand 3 in your left hand and let strand 1 now hang loose in the middle.\\nYou should now have .\\n4-4. Weave the rightmost strand (strand 5) to the center.\\nHold strands 2 and 3 in your left hand using your middle, ring, and pinky fingers. Then, use your left index finger and thumb to grab strand 5 and move under strand 4 and over strand 1. Grab strand 1 in your right hand, and let strand 5 hang loose in the center.\\nYou should now have .\\n4-5. Continue weaving your hair until you reach the end.\\nContinue this process of weaving the outer strands to the center until you reach the end of your hair.\\n4-6. Tie off the braid.\\nUse a ribbon or non-rubber hair elastic to secure the end of the braid. Take care not to tangle your hair as you tie it off, and choose an elastic that is wrapped in fabric.\\n5. Other Braid Styles\\n5-1. Learn how to do a Dutch braid.\\nThis is the reverse of a French braid, where instead of braiding the left and right strands over the center strand, you braid them under the middle section. Instead of the braid sitting under your hair (as with a French braid), it sits on top of your head.\\nThis look is also called an \\\"outside braid,\\\" and it pops a little more than a traditional French braid.\\n5-2. Try a waterfall braid.\\nThis beautiful style is created by letting strands of hair hang loose from a French braid, similar to the look of a waterfall. When you feel comfortable with your skills in French braiding, go a step further and try a waterfall braid.\\n5-3. Use your French braid skills to make a braided headband.\\nThis is a small, thin braid that goes from ear to ear across your forehead, like a headband. It uses the process of French or Dutch braiding to turn your bangs into a statement piece.\\n5-4. Take your 3-strand braid up a level by braiding each strand.\\nThis creates a very intricate, large braid. This style is great with a bohemian headband or pin, or to give the impression of a lot of work when you didn't do much at all!\\n5-5. Style a rope braid for a unique look.\\nThis is a pretty braid that looks like a spiraling rope strand and is done by separating your hair into two sections and twisting them tightly before crisscrossing them over one another. It’s great for leaving down or twirling up into a bun.\\nTips\\nPull down gently on each strand as you braid to keep the entire braid tight.\\nIf you’re having a hard time keeping your groups separate, secure them with small hair ties at the very end. When you get closer to the end of the braid, take them out and finish off the braid.\\nIf you are having trouble braiding your own hair, try practicing on a friend to get the hang of the basic movements.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"There’s nothing more stylish and chic than a perfectly pleated braid. Not only does a nice braid keep your hair out of your face, but it also adds a fun “twist” to your everyday look. If you’re a beginner ready to dive into braiding, this article is perfect for you. By the time you’re done reading, you’ll know the ins and outs of braiding and will have a brand-new look to show off to your friends.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"3-Strand Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Detangle your hair\", \"描述\": \"Braiding goes a lot faster with hair that’s kept knot-free. Keep brushing your hair out until your comb or brush pulls easily through without getting snagged on any tangles and knots.\\nIf you're working with thick or layered hair, use a bit of water or leave-in conditioner to dampen the hair first. This will make it easier to handle.\\nBraiding your hair when it’s damp will give it a very smooth, tight appearance. Meanwhile, braids done on dry hair will have a bit more of a messy look.\\nIf braiding your hair dry, do it a few days after washing so that it’s not so slippery. Slightly oily hair will hold a braid better than freshly washed hair, and you'll have fewer flyaways.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Tie your hair into a ponytail\", \"描述\": \"If you tie your hair into a ponytail or half ponytail with a hair tie, your braid will be easier to handle and come out neater.\\nOnce you’ve gotten the hang of braiding starting with a ponytail, move on to braiding loose hair at the nape of your neck.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Divide the hair into three even sections.\", \"描述\": \"These will be the three strands of your braid. Separate your hair into three sections using either your fingers or a comb, and make them as even as possible.\\nGrab the right section with your right hand and the left section with your left hand, letting the middle section hang free.\\nHold the strands so that you're grasping them against your palm with your middle, ring and little fingers, keeping your index fingers and thumbs free.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Cross the left section over the middle section.\", \"描述\": \"With the index finger and thumb of your left hand, grab the section of hair that’s in the middle. Using the index finger and thumb of your right hand, grab the left section of hair that's grasped against your left palm. The section that was originally on the left is now the middle section.\\nIf your strands started out as , they should now be ordered as .\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Cross the right section over the middle section.\", \"描述\": \"In your left hand, shift the strand that's between your index finger and thumb so that your other fingers are holding it securely against your palm. Use your left index finger and thumb to grab the section of hair that's being held against your right palm (but not the one being held by the thumb and index finger). The original right-hand section is now the middle section.\\nYour strands that were ordered will become .\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Continue layering the left and right sections over the middle strand.\", \"描述\": \"Keep using the free index finger and thumb of one hand to grab the section of hair held against the palm of the other hand. Repeat until you run out of space to braid, leaving about 1–3 inches (2.5–7.6 cm) of unbraided hair at the end.\\nTighten the braid as you go and keep the tension even for all 3 sections by gently pulling down on the braid as you weave.\\nAny time a strand changes hands, tug gently on the hair so that the braid gets tightened.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Secure the braid using a hair tie.\", \"描述\": \"You might have to wrap it around the hair several times to make it tight enough. Avoid using rubber bands, as these can damage the hair and be difficult to remove at the end of the day.\\nUse a ponytail holder that’s the same color as your hair or translucent so that it blends in with your braid. This makes your braid look more natural.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Set the braid using hairspray.\", \"描述\": \"Applying hairspray or spray gel is great for preventing flyaways that can spring up as the day goes on. Hold your hairspray about 12 inches (30 cm) away from your head and lightly mist the entire length of your braid.\\nIf you decide to use hairspray, apply it before adding any other hair accessories, like headbands or clips.\\nUse a shine serum along your braid to give it some extra glow. Rub a bit of serum between your hands and then run them along the length of the braid.\\nUse a nourishing oil to protect your braids at night.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Add some fun accessories to make your braid stand out.\", \"描述\": \"Use some colorful ribbon to make a bow at the end of your braid for extra flair. Stick on a cute hair pin or brooch near the base of your braid, or use them to hold back your bangs.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Play with traditional braids to create other styles.\", \"描述\": \"Traditional braids are easy to incorporate into other styles. Braid a tiny accent braid that hangs loose, or pin your accent braid across your head to create a headband. You can also dress up a ponytail by braiding it into a traditional braid.\\nExperiment with braiding all of your hair or just small sections until you find some styles you like.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"French Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Comb out any knots.\", \"描述\": \"French braiding can be particularly tricky if your hair is tangled, so take a few minutes to remove knots with a brush or wide-toothed comb. Work in small sections and start at the bottom and work your way up.\\nIf you detangle your hair starting at your scalp, your hair will be more likely to break when you come across a tangle.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Create your starter section by grabbing the hair closest to your forehead and temples.\", \"描述\": \"For a traditional French braid, grab a small section of hair next to your left temple, in the center of your scalp close to your forehead, and next to your right temple.\\nYou don't have to start a French braid at the top of your head. This is the easiest starting point for beginners, but a French braid can technically be started from any point on your head.\\nJust make sure you're including the hair above your ears in your starter section if you decide to braid moving downwards.\\nYou can create multiple French braids on your hair using several parts. If you have short hair, it may be easier to make two medium braids rather than one large one.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Separate your starter section into three equal sections.\", \"描述\": \"These three strands will make up the beginning of the braid. Divide your hair using your fingers or a comb, and make them as even as possible.\\nMake sure the strands start from the same row of hair. For example, divide your sections so that they all start at the very edge of your scalp.\\nKeeping the three strands close together will make starting the braid easier as well.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Hold the left strand in your left hand and the middle and right strands in your right hand.\", \"描述\": \"Grasping the strands correctly will help you braid neatly and quickly. Though you might find another way that's more comfortable for you, here's a basic beginning grip:\\nGrasp the left strand in your left hand.\\nGrasp the center strand between the thumb and index finger of your right hand.\\nGrasp the right strand between your right palm and the remaining three fingers of your right hand.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Cross the right strand over the center strand.\", \"描述\": \"With the last three fingers of your left hand, grip the left strand between your fingers and your palm. With your left thumb and index finger, reach over the center strand and grab the right strand to pull it over the middle strand. While doing this, maintain your hold on the center strand with your right index finger and thumb. You should now have two strands in your left hand and one in your right hand, and the right strand should now be in the center.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Move the left strand to the center.\", \"描述\": \"With the last three fingers of your right hand, grip the right strand between your fingers and your palm. This will free up your right thumb and index finger to reach over the center strand and grab the left strand. Bring the left strand over the center strand so that they switch positions. You should now have two strands in your right hand and one in your left hand.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Add hair to the right strand.\", \"描述\": \"Let go of the center strand and allow it to hang between the left and right strands. Grip the left strand between the last three fingers of your left hand and your left palm and grab the right strand with your left thumb and index finger. Using your free right hand, pull up a small section of unbraided hair from the right side of your head. Grab this new section with your left thumb and index finger to add it to the right strand of the braid.\\nGrab the center strand with your right hand and move it to the right, making it your new right strand. The section you added hair to, between your left thumb and index finger, is the new center strand.\\nUp until now, you've done a regular braid. Adding in unbraided hair is where the \\\"French\\\" part of the process comes in.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Add hair to the left strand.\", \"描述\": \"Let go of the center strand again and grip the right strand between the last three fingers of your right hand and your right palm. Then, grab the left strand with your right thumb and index finger. Using your left hand, pull up a small section of unbraided hair from the left side of your head. Grab the new section with your right thumb and index finger to add it to the left section of the braid.\\nPick up the center strand with your left hand and cross it under the left strand. The section you added hair to, between your right thumb and index finger, is the new center strand.\\nFor an even braid, grab the same amount of hair on each side when you’re adding hair to the braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Continue braiding in this pattern.\", \"描述\": \"Keep adding hair to the right and left strands as you work your way down. You’ll eventually run out of new hair to add to the braid when you reach the nape of your neck. To keep the braid looking as neat as possible, create parallel lines on each side of your head using a comb or your fingers as you gather sections of hair. This helps keep your sections about the same size as you finish your braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Finish by tying the rest of your hair up in a basic braid.\", \"描述\": \"Once you’ve run out of new hair to add, continue doing a regular 3-strand braid until you reach near the bottom of your hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Secure the braid using a hair tie.\", \"描述\": \"Use a hair tie the same color as your hair or one that’s clear so that it blends in. Avoid rubber bands, which can damage your hair and be difficult to remove.\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Set the braid with hairspray.\", \"描述\": \"Hairspray or spray gel will keep your French braid looking neat and clean throughout the day. Hold the product about 12 inches (30 cm) away from your hair, then lightly spritz the length of your braid.\\nIf you're going to add other accessories to your hair, hairspray it first. This will prevent flaky residue from getting on your barrettes or ribbons.\\nApplying shine serum along your braid will help keep your hair looking smooth and soft.\"}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Add accessories to embellish your braid.\", \"描述\": \"Tie on a length of colorful ribbon at the end of your braid, or secure some cute clips and barrettes here and there for decoration.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Fishtail Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Separate your hair into two even sections.\", \"描述\": \"A fishtail braid looks like it's made of several small strands, but surprisingly there are only two primary sections. Split your hair into two even sections, holding the right section in your right hand and the left section in your left hand.\\nFor a neat braid, use a fine-toothed comb to make a straight part down the middle of your head, from your forehead to your nape.\\nFor a more tousled, Katniss Everdeen-inspired look, just part your hair with your hands and separate it into two sections that are mostly even.\\nFishtailing can be done with either damp or dry hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pull a small strand of hair from the left section into the right section.\", \"描述\": \"Keep holding the right section of hair in your right hand and drop the left section so it hangs loose. Using your left hand, pull up a small strand of hair from the side of the left section of hair that's closest to your ear. Grab this small strand with your right index finger and thumb and incorporate it into the right section of the braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pull a small strand of hair from the right section into the left section.\", \"描述\": \"Pick up the left section with your left hand and drop the right section so it hangs loose. Using your right hand, pull up a small strand of hair close to your right ear. Grab this small strand of hair with your left index finger and thumb and bring it over the right section and into the left. Finally, pick up the right section again in your right hand.\\nFor a more intricate-looking braid, pull up smaller strands of hair. For a quicker braid, grab larger sections.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Repeat this pattern until you run out of hair.\", \"描述\": \"Keep alternating sides and adding strands until you reach the end of your hair. Keep the small strands that you pull into the main sections as evenly sized as possible to achieve a clean-looking braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Secure your fishtail braid with a hair tie at the very end.\", \"描述\": \"Loop the hair tie around your hair a couple of times until it’s tight. Avoid using a rubberband, as this can get caught in your hair and can be a bit more painful to remove later.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"5-Strand Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Separate your hair into five equal sections.\", \"描述\": \"A 5-strand braid looks more intricate and elegant than a standard 3-strand braid. Start by dividing your hair into five separate strands using either your fingers or a comb. Make the sections as even as possible.\\nPull your hair into a ponytail first to create a stable base for braiding. This is a good technique to use if you’re trying out this braid for the first time.\\nIt's easiest to braid a 5-strand braid when your hair is wet or greasy from going a few days without being washed. This makes your hair less slippery and prevents fly-aways from getting tangled up in other strands.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Hold the two left strands in your left hand and the two right strands in your right hand.\", \"描述\": \"Leave the center strand to hang loose down the middle. Numbering the strands can help you keep them straight. They should look like .\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Move the leftmost strand to the center.\", \"描述\": \"Hold the hair in your right hand using your middle, ring, and pinky fingers and use your right index finger and thumb to grab strand 1. Then, move strand 1 over under 2 and over strand 3 so that it's now in the center. Grab strand 3 in your left hand and let strand 1 now hang loose in the middle.\\nYou should now have .\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Weave the rightmost strand (strand 5) to the center.\", \"描述\": \"Hold strands 2 and 3 in your left hand using your middle, ring, and pinky fingers. Then, use your left index finger and thumb to grab strand 5 and move under strand 4 and over strand 1. Grab strand 1 in your right hand, and let strand 5 hang loose in the center.\\nYou should now have .\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Continue weaving your hair until you reach the end.\", \"描述\": \"Continue this process of weaving the outer strands to the center until you reach the end of your hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Tie off the braid.\", \"描述\": \"Use a ribbon or non-rubber hair elastic to secure the end of the braid. Take care not to tangle your hair as you tie it off, and choose an elastic that is wrapped in fabric.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Other Braid Styles\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn how to do a Dutch braid.\", \"描述\": \"This is the reverse of a French braid, where instead of braiding the left and right strands over the center strand, you braid them under the middle section. Instead of the braid sitting under your hair (as with a French braid), it sits on top of your head.\\nThis look is also called an \\\"outside braid,\\\" and it pops a little more than a traditional French braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Try a waterfall braid.\", \"描述\": \"This beautiful style is created by letting strands of hair hang loose from a French braid, similar to the look of a waterfall. When you feel comfortable with your skills in French braiding, go a step further and try a waterfall braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Use your French braid skills to make a braided headband.\", \"描述\": \"This is a small, thin braid that goes from ear to ear across your forehead, like a headband. It uses the process of French or Dutch braiding to turn your bangs into a statement piece.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take your 3-strand braid up a level by braiding each strand.\", \"描述\": \"This creates a very intricate, large braid. This style is great with a bohemian headband or pin, or to give the impression of a lot of work when you didn't do much at all!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Style a rope braid for a unique look.\", \"描述\": \"This is a pretty braid that looks like a spiraling rope strand and is done by separating your hair into two sections and twisting them tightly before crisscrossing them over one another. It’s great for leaving down or twirling up into a bun.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Pull down gently on each strand as you braid to keep the entire braid tight.\\n\", \"If you’re having a hard time keeping your groups separate, secure them with small hair ties at the very end. When you get closer to the end of the braid, take them out and finish off the braid.\\n\", \"If you are having trouble braiding your own hair, try practicing on a friend to get the hang of the basic movements.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Trick Braiding Leather with Three Strands
1-1. Cut a 1 inch wide leather strip.
Determine the length of braid you need and add 1/3 more material to that measurement before cutting.
The process of braiding will shorten the material by the time you have completed braiding, so cutting extra leather will make the braid the proper length once you finish.
Use sharp scissors to cut the leather strip to the desired length. A good length to practice on is 9-10 inches.
1-2. Make 2 parallel slices down the middle of the strip, but don't cut the very ends.
Your strip of leather should be divided into 3 equal parts. For the following steps, the individual strands will be referred to as 1,2, and 3 from left to right.
Be sure that the two cuts are evenly spaced from each other. The spacing between the cuts should be about 1/3 inches.
Stop the slices at 3/4 inch from the vertical ends, leaving the strip intact. This technique requires the strip to remain as a single piece, as opposed to braiding hair or string.
If you decide to make your cuts with a blade, place a piece of cardboard, wood, or other protective board under the leather to protect the surface you are cutting on.
1-3. Grab the lower end of the strip and bring it up and toward you.
Pass it between strands 2 and 3. Pull the end of the strip down from the other side so that it is back in its original position.
Looping the strip through strands 2 and 3 will bend it, making it so that the individual strips are twisted and easier to braid.
If done correctly, your strip of leather should have a kink throughout the middle and should not lie flat. You should also be able to see through the slits you made earlier.
1-4. Pass strand 1 over strand 2 starting at the top of the leather strip.
Insert strand 1 into the slit between strands 2 and 3.
If done correctly, strand 1 should rest behind strand 3.
1-5. Move strand 3 over strand 1.
The top of your strip should now resemble a woman crossing her legs as she sits.
1-6. Pass strand 2 over strand 3.
There should now be a gap between strands 2 and 3 at the bottom of the braid.
1-7. Bring the lower end of the strip up and toward you again.
Loop it through the gap between strands 2 and 3 and pull it back down.
Doing this "un-loops" the kink you made earlier in step 3 and completes 1 braiding cycle. The braid itself should now be kept to the top of the strip.
1-8. Repeat steps 4-6 for braiding the individual strands.
Make sure you pass the lower end of the strip through strands 2 and 3 to complete the braiding cycle, as demonstrated in step 7.
If you opted to braid a 9 inch x 3 inch leather strip, you should be done braiding after 2 cycles total.
2. Making a Round Four-Strand Braid
2-1. Cut 4 separate strands from a leather strip.
Leave a little more length at the end of the strands as this technique will utilize more leather.
Remember that you are using 4 strands now, so the braid will be considerably thicker than the previous methods. Think about cutting the width slightly thinner than before.
Using 4 strands will also form a round braid rather than a flat one, hence its name.
2-2. Tie the top ends of the strands similarly to the previous methods.
For the following steps, the 4 strands will be referred to as A, B, C, and D from left to right.
Since you will be working with many strands, try tying the ends to a key-chain ring and putting the ring under the leg of a chair. This will keep the strands secure so you can focus all of your attention on this slightly intricate process.
To help you keep track of each strand, consider practicing with colored yarn first. It can become very easy to lose track of which strand is which. Alternately, you could tie-off different colored strings of yarn to the end of each strand.
2-3. Take strand D and move it left over both strands B and C.
From left to right, your strand order should now be A, D, B, C.
2-4. Pass strand B over strand D, also moving left.
Your order will now be A, B, D, C.
2-5. Move strand A right so that it passes over both strands B and D.
The strands will now be ordered B, D, A, C.
2-6. Cross strand D to the right so that it passes over strand A.
Your strands should now be B, A, D, C.
If you've done the previous steps correctly, strands D and A should be in the middle, respectively. Strand B should be on the far left side and strand C should be on the far right.
2-7. Take strands B and A into your left hand and strands D and C into your right.
Pull the two strands in each hand away from each other to tighten the braid.
2-8. Pass strand C to the left over both strands D and A.
Strands should now be B, C, A, D.
2-9. Move strand A left so that it passes over strand C.
Strands should be as follows: B, A, C, D.
2-10. Cross strand B to the right over both strands A and C.
The strands should now be arranged A, C, B, D.
2-11. Take strand C and pass it to the right over strand B.
From left to right, strands should be ordered normally: A, B, C, D. You have completed 1 cycle of the braiding process.
Tighten the braids in the same manner as you did in step 7. You will need to do this after each braiding cycle to ensure that your braid is tight and won't come apart.
2-12. Repeat steps 3-11 until you have used the desired amount of leather.
Since this process is very detail-oriented, it is suggested that you start with shorter length strands.
2-13. Tie the end of the braid once you have finished.
You might tie the remaining loose strands to another key-chain ring, similar to the top end. This is an easy way to adjoin the opposite ends to make a bracelet or necklace.
3. Using the Hair Braiding Technique
3-1. Cut 3 strands of equal width from a leather strip.
You can leave one end intact so that the 3 strands dangle at one end, or you can cut both ends and make 3 separate strands.
Remember to take into consideration the same length and width factors as before. For a thicker bracelet, make the strands wider. For a necklace, cut the strands longer than 9 or 10 inches.
3-2. Secure the top ends.
If you chose to cut 3 individual strands, you can tie the top ends all together or wrap and tie a cord around the ends, leaving about an inch tail. For the following steps, the strands will be referred to as "left," "center," and "right."
Be sure that the ends of the strands line up. You want your braid to be as even as possible.
3-3. Pass the left strand over the center strand.
The two strands should now switch places so that the left becomes the center and vice versa.
3-4. Take the right strand and move it over the new center strand.
Now the right and center strand will switch places.
3-5. Alternate moving the left and right strands over the center strand.
Continue doing this until you have reached the desired length or until you reach the end of the strands.
If you find that you want to make a bracelet but have too much leather at the end, use scissors to cut the excess strands.
3-6. Tie off the ends about an inch up.
You can use a similar technique as securing the top end by wrapping and tying a cord around the strands.
4. Crafting Braided Leather Jewelry
4-1. Fashion a bracelet from your braided leather.
This can be achieved in multiple ways, some more fancy than others.
As outlined in the 4-strand braiding method, you could tie the opposite ends of the braid to key-chain rings and connect the rings afterwards to form a bracelet. While this method is easiest, it may not look the most appealing.
Alternately, you could take the trick braided leather and puncture a small hole in the intact, 3/4 inch ends. Run a regular strand of leather through each hole and tie the ends off into knots. Adjust the size of the regular leather strand to better fit your wrist.
To make a high quality, professional looking bracelet, hold the ends of your braid together so that they line up (this won't be necessary for the trick braid). Take a pinch crimp — which can be purchased at most jewelry shops — and place your braided ends inside of it. Use a pair of pliers to squeeze the pinch crimp shut over the ends. Now you're bracelet has metal ends like store-bought jewelry!
4-2. Make a necklace using the same end connections as the bracelet.
Though your necklace will differ mostly from your bracelet length-wise, you can add other accessories to customize it.
Find some beads with holes that run through them. You could run the braid through a single, tubular bead so that it sits in the middle, almost like a pendant. Or, you could fill the entire bottom portion of the braid with various colored beads so that only half of the braid is showing.
Instead of beads, put a locket on your braid. Place your picture inside and give it to a special someone as a token of your friendship. Or, you could find letter pendants and use them to spell your name across the bottom of the braid. The possibilities are virtually endless!
4-3. Use a tiny braid as a leather ring.
Once you become an expert at braiding normal-sized strands, challenge yourself by braiding even smaller ones.
Use the hair braiding method to weave black and brown strands together. Make a standard length braid and then cut it to ring-size once you're done. Fit the ends with pinch crimps and wear the ring on your finger with pride.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Trick Braiding Leather with Three Strands\\n1-1. Cut a 1 inch wide leather strip.\\nDetermine the length of braid you need and add 1/3 more material to that measurement before cutting.\\nThe process of braiding will shorten the material by the time you have completed braiding, so cutting extra leather will make the braid the proper length once you finish.\\nUse sharp scissors to cut the leather strip to the desired length. A good length to practice on is 9-10 inches.\\n1-2. Make 2 parallel slices down the middle of the strip, but don't cut the very ends.\\nYour strip of leather should be divided into 3 equal parts. For the following steps, the individual strands will be referred to as 1,2, and 3 from left to right.\\nBe sure that the two cuts are evenly spaced from each other. The spacing between the cuts should be about 1/3 inches.\\nStop the slices at 3/4 inch from the vertical ends, leaving the strip intact. This technique requires the strip to remain as a single piece, as opposed to braiding hair or string.\\nIf you decide to make your cuts with a blade, place a piece of cardboard, wood, or other protective board under the leather to protect the surface you are cutting on.\\n1-3. Grab the lower end of the strip and bring it up and toward you.\\nPass it between strands 2 and 3. Pull the end of the strip down from the other side so that it is back in its original position.\\nLooping the strip through strands 2 and 3 will bend it, making it so that the individual strips are twisted and easier to braid.\\nIf done correctly, your strip of leather should have a kink throughout the middle and should not lie flat. You should also be able to see through the slits you made earlier.\\n1-4. Pass strand 1 over strand 2 starting at the top of the leather strip.\\nInsert strand 1 into the slit between strands 2 and 3.\\nIf done correctly, strand 1 should rest behind strand 3.\\n1-5. Move strand 3 over strand 1.\\nThe top of your strip should now resemble a woman crossing her legs as she sits.\\n1-6. Pass strand 2 over strand 3.\\nThere should now be a gap between strands 2 and 3 at the bottom of the braid.\\n1-7. Bring the lower end of the strip up and toward you again.\\nLoop it through the gap between strands 2 and 3 and pull it back down.\\nDoing this \\\"un-loops\\\" the kink you made earlier in step 3 and completes 1 braiding cycle. The braid itself should now be kept to the top of the strip.\\n1-8. Repeat steps 4-6 for braiding the individual strands.\\nMake sure you pass the lower end of the strip through strands 2 and 3 to complete the braiding cycle, as demonstrated in step 7.\\nIf you opted to braid a 9 inch x 3 inch leather strip, you should be done braiding after 2 cycles total.\\n2. Making a Round Four-Strand Braid\\n2-1. Cut 4 separate strands from a leather strip.\\nLeave a little more length at the end of the strands as this technique will utilize more leather.\\nRemember that you are using 4 strands now, so the braid will be considerably thicker than the previous methods. Think about cutting the width slightly thinner than before.\\nUsing 4 strands will also form a round braid rather than a flat one, hence its name.\\n2-2. Tie the top ends of the strands similarly to the previous methods.\\nFor the following steps, the 4 strands will be referred to as A, B, C, and D from left to right.\\nSince you will be working with many strands, try tying the ends to a key-chain ring and putting the ring under the leg of a chair. This will keep the strands secure so you can focus all of your attention on this slightly intricate process.\\nTo help you keep track of each strand, consider practicing with colored yarn first. It can become very easy to lose track of which strand is which. Alternately, you could tie-off different colored strings of yarn to the end of each strand.\\n2-3. Take strand D and move it left over both strands B and C.\\nFrom left to right, your strand order should now be A, D, B, C.\\n2-4. Pass strand B over strand D, also moving left.\\nYour order will now be A, B, D, C.\\n2-5. Move strand A right so that it passes over both strands B and D.\\nThe strands will now be ordered B, D, A, C.\\n2-6. Cross strand D to the right so that it passes over strand A.\\nYour strands should now be B, A, D, C.\\nIf you've done the previous steps correctly, strands D and A should be in the middle, respectively. Strand B should be on the far left side and strand C should be on the far right.\\n2-7. Take strands B and A into your left hand and strands D and C into your right.\\nPull the two strands in each hand away from each other to tighten the braid.\\n2-8. Pass strand C to the left over both strands D and A.\\nStrands should now be B, C, A, D.\\n2-9. Move strand A left so that it passes over strand C.\\nStrands should be as follows: B, A, C, D.\\n2-10. Cross strand B to the right over both strands A and C.\\nThe strands should now be arranged A, C, B, D.\\n2-11. Take strand C and pass it to the right over strand B.\\nFrom left to right, strands should be ordered normally: A, B, C, D. You have completed 1 cycle of the braiding process.\\nTighten the braids in the same manner as you did in step 7. You will need to do this after each braiding cycle to ensure that your braid is tight and won't come apart.\\n2-12. Repeat steps 3-11 until you have used the desired amount of leather.\\nSince this process is very detail-oriented, it is suggested that you start with shorter length strands.\\n2-13. Tie the end of the braid once you have finished.\\nYou might tie the remaining loose strands to another key-chain ring, similar to the top end. This is an easy way to adjoin the opposite ends to make a bracelet or necklace.\\n3. Using the Hair Braiding Technique\\n3-1. Cut 3 strands of equal width from a leather strip.\\nYou can leave one end intact so that the 3 strands dangle at one end, or you can cut both ends and make 3 separate strands.\\nRemember to take into consideration the same length and width factors as before. For a thicker bracelet, make the strands wider. For a necklace, cut the strands longer than 9 or 10 inches.\\n3-2. Secure the top ends.\\nIf you chose to cut 3 individual strands, you can tie the top ends all together or wrap and tie a cord around the ends, leaving about an inch tail. For the following steps, the strands will be referred to as \\\"left,\\\" \\\"center,\\\" and \\\"right.\\\"\\nBe sure that the ends of the strands line up. You want your braid to be as even as possible.\\n3-3. Pass the left strand over the center strand.\\nThe two strands should now switch places so that the left becomes the center and vice versa.\\n3-4. Take the right strand and move it over the new center strand.\\nNow the right and center strand will switch places.\\n3-5. Alternate moving the left and right strands over the center strand.\\nContinue doing this until you have reached the desired length or until you reach the end of the strands.\\nIf you find that you want to make a bracelet but have too much leather at the end, use scissors to cut the excess strands.\\n3-6. Tie off the ends about an inch up.\\nYou can use a similar technique as securing the top end by wrapping and tying a cord around the strands.\\n4. Crafting Braided Leather Jewelry\\n4-1. Fashion a bracelet from your braided leather.\\nThis can be achieved in multiple ways, some more fancy than others.\\nAs outlined in the 4-strand braiding method, you could tie the opposite ends of the braid to key-chain rings and connect the rings afterwards to form a bracelet. While this method is easiest, it may not look the most appealing.\\nAlternately, you could take the trick braided leather and puncture a small hole in the intact, 3/4 inch ends. Run a regular strand of leather through each hole and tie the ends off into knots. Adjust the size of the regular leather strand to better fit your wrist.\\nTo make a high quality, professional looking bracelet, hold the ends of your braid together so that they line up (this won't be necessary for the trick braid). Take a pinch crimp — which can be purchased at most jewelry shops — and place your braided ends inside of it. Use a pair of pliers to squeeze the pinch crimp shut over the ends. Now you're bracelet has metal ends like store-bought jewelry!\\n4-2. Make a necklace using the same end connections as the bracelet.\\nThough your necklace will differ mostly from your bracelet length-wise, you can add other accessories to customize it.\\nFind some beads with holes that run through them. You could run the braid through a single, tubular bead so that it sits in the middle, almost like a pendant. Or, you could fill the entire bottom portion of the braid with various colored beads so that only half of the braid is showing.\\nInstead of beads, put a locket on your braid. Place your picture inside and give it to a special someone as a token of your friendship. Or, you could find letter pendants and use them to spell your name across the bottom of the braid. The possibilities are virtually endless!\\n4-3. Use a tiny braid as a leather ring.\\nOnce you become an expert at braiding normal-sized strands, challenge yourself by braiding even smaller ones.\\nUse the hair braiding method to weave black and brown strands together. Make a standard length braid and then cut it to ring-size once you're done. Fit the ends with pinch crimps and wear the ring on your finger with pride.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Leather braiding is an ancient art form that looks amazing and is easier than it may seem. There are several techniques for braiding leather, including the traditional 3 strand braid, the trick braid, and the 4 strand braid. See Step 1 for a tutorial on how to complete each method easily and quickly.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Trick Braiding Leather with Three Strands\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Cut a 1 inch wide leather strip.\", \"描述\": \"Determine the length of braid you need and add 1/3 more material to that measurement before cutting.\\nThe process of braiding will shorten the material by the time you have completed braiding, so cutting extra leather will make the braid the proper length once you finish.\\nUse sharp scissors to cut the leather strip to the desired length. A good length to practice on is 9-10 inches.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make 2 parallel slices down the middle of the strip, but don't cut the very ends.\", \"描述\": \"Your strip of leather should be divided into 3 equal parts. For the following steps, the individual strands will be referred to as 1,2, and 3 from left to right.\\nBe sure that the two cuts are evenly spaced from each other. The spacing between the cuts should be about 1/3 inches.\\nStop the slices at 3/4 inch from the vertical ends, leaving the strip intact. This technique requires the strip to remain as a single piece, as opposed to braiding hair or string.\\nIf you decide to make your cuts with a blade, place a piece of cardboard, wood, or other protective board under the leather to protect the surface you are cutting on.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Grab the lower end of the strip and bring it up and toward you.\", \"描述\": \"Pass it between strands 2 and 3. Pull the end of the strip down from the other side so that it is back in its original position.\\nLooping the strip through strands 2 and 3 will bend it, making it so that the individual strips are twisted and easier to braid.\\nIf done correctly, your strip of leather should have a kink throughout the middle and should not lie flat. You should also be able to see through the slits you made earlier.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Pass strand 1 over strand 2 starting at the top of the leather strip.\", \"描述\": \"Insert strand 1 into the slit between strands 2 and 3.\\nIf done correctly, strand 1 should rest behind strand 3.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Move strand 3 over strand 1.\", \"描述\": \"The top of your strip should now resemble a woman crossing her legs as she sits.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Pass strand 2 over strand 3.\", \"描述\": \"There should now be a gap between strands 2 and 3 at the bottom of the braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Bring the lower end of the strip up and toward you again.\", \"描述\": \"Loop it through the gap between strands 2 and 3 and pull it back down.\\nDoing this \\\"un-loops\\\" the kink you made earlier in step 3 and completes 1 braiding cycle. The braid itself should now be kept to the top of the strip.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Repeat steps 4-6 for braiding the individual strands.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure you pass the lower end of the strip through strands 2 and 3 to complete the braiding cycle, as demonstrated in step 7.\\nIf you opted to braid a 9 inch x 3 inch leather strip, you should be done braiding after 2 cycles total.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Making a Round Four-Strand Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Cut 4 separate strands from a leather strip.\", \"描述\": \"Leave a little more length at the end of the strands as this technique will utilize more leather.\\nRemember that you are using 4 strands now, so the braid will be considerably thicker than the previous methods. Think about cutting the width slightly thinner than before.\\nUsing 4 strands will also form a round braid rather than a flat one, hence its name.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Tie the top ends of the strands similarly to the previous methods.\", \"描述\": \"For the following steps, the 4 strands will be referred to as A, B, C, and D from left to right.\\nSince you will be working with many strands, try tying the ends to a key-chain ring and putting the ring under the leg of a chair. This will keep the strands secure so you can focus all of your attention on this slightly intricate process.\\nTo help you keep track of each strand, consider practicing with colored yarn first. It can become very easy to lose track of which strand is which. Alternately, you could tie-off different colored strings of yarn to the end of each strand.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take strand D and move it left over both strands B and C.\", \"描述\": \"From left to right, your strand order should now be A, D, B, C.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Pass strand B over strand D, also moving left.\", \"描述\": \"Your order will now be A, B, D, C.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Move strand A right so that it passes over both strands B and D.\", \"描述\": \"The strands will now be ordered B, D, A, C.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Cross strand D to the right so that it passes over strand A.\", \"描述\": \"Your strands should now be B, A, D, C.\\nIf you've done the previous steps correctly, strands D and A should be in the middle, respectively. Strand B should be on the far left side and strand C should be on the far right.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Take strands B and A into your left hand and strands D and C into your right.\", \"描述\": \"Pull the two strands in each hand away from each other to tighten the braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Pass strand C to the left over both strands D and A.\", \"描述\": \"Strands should now be B, C, A, D.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Move strand A left so that it passes over strand C.\", \"描述\": \"Strands should be as follows: B, A, C, D.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Cross strand B to the right over both strands A and C.\", \"描述\": \"The strands should now be arranged A, C, B, D.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Take strand C and pass it to the right over strand B.\", \"描述\": \"From left to right, strands should be ordered normally: A, B, C, D. You have completed 1 cycle of the braiding process.\\nTighten the braids in the same manner as you did in step 7. You will need to do this after each braiding cycle to ensure that your braid is tight and won't come apart.\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Repeat steps 3-11 until you have used the desired amount of leather.\", \"描述\": \"Since this process is very detail-oriented, it is suggested that you start with shorter length strands.\"}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Tie the end of the braid once you have finished.\", \"描述\": \"You might tie the remaining loose strands to another key-chain ring, similar to the top end. This is an easy way to adjoin the opposite ends to make a bracelet or necklace.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Using the Hair Braiding Technique\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Cut 3 strands of equal width from a leather strip.\", \"描述\": \"You can leave one end intact so that the 3 strands dangle at one end, or you can cut both ends and make 3 separate strands.\\nRemember to take into consideration the same length and width factors as before. For a thicker bracelet, make the strands wider. For a necklace, cut the strands longer than 9 or 10 inches.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Secure the top ends.\", \"描述\": \"If you chose to cut 3 individual strands, you can tie the top ends all together or wrap and tie a cord around the ends, leaving about an inch tail. For the following steps, the strands will be referred to as \\\"left,\\\" \\\"center,\\\" and \\\"right.\\\"\\nBe sure that the ends of the strands line up. You want your braid to be as even as possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pass the left strand over the center strand.\", \"描述\": \"The two strands should now switch places so that the left becomes the center and vice versa.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take the right strand and move it over the new center strand.\", \"描述\": \"Now the right and center strand will switch places.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Alternate moving the left and right strands over the center strand.\", \"描述\": \"Continue doing this until you have reached the desired length or until you reach the end of the strands.\\nIf you find that you want to make a bracelet but have too much leather at the end, use scissors to cut the excess strands.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Tie off the ends about an inch up.\", \"描述\": \"You can use a similar technique as securing the top end by wrapping and tying a cord around the strands.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Crafting Braided Leather Jewelry\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Fashion a bracelet from your braided leather.\", \"描述\": \"This can be achieved in multiple ways, some more fancy than others.\\nAs outlined in the 4-strand braiding method, you could tie the opposite ends of the braid to key-chain rings and connect the rings afterwards to form a bracelet. While this method is easiest, it may not look the most appealing.\\nAlternately, you could take the trick braided leather and puncture a small hole in the intact, 3/4 inch ends. Run a regular strand of leather through each hole and tie the ends off into knots. Adjust the size of the regular leather strand to better fit your wrist.\\nTo make a high quality, professional looking bracelet, hold the ends of your braid together so that they line up (this won't be necessary for the trick braid). Take a pinch crimp — which can be purchased at most jewelry shops — and place your braided ends inside of it. Use a pair of pliers to squeeze the pinch crimp shut over the ends. Now you're bracelet has metal ends like store-bought jewelry!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make a necklace using the same end connections as the bracelet.\", \"描述\": \"Though your necklace will differ mostly from your bracelet length-wise, you can add other accessories to customize it.\\nFind some beads with holes that run through them. You could run the braid through a single, tubular bead so that it sits in the middle, almost like a pendant. Or, you could fill the entire bottom portion of the braid with various colored beads so that only half of the braid is showing.\\nInstead of beads, put a locket on your braid. Place your picture inside and give it to a special someone as a token of your friendship. Or, you could find letter pendants and use them to spell your name across the bottom of the braid. The possibilities are virtually endless!\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Use a tiny braid as a leather ring.\", \"描述\": \"Once you become an expert at braiding normal-sized strands, challenge yourself by braiding even smaller ones.\\nUse the hair braiding method to weave black and brown strands together. Make a standard length braid and then cut it to ring-size once you're done. Fit the ends with pinch crimps and wear the ring on your finger with pride.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Making a Three-Strand Braid
1-1. Start with the rope of your choice.
A three-strand braid is a very common way to braid, perhaps most associated with a classic schoolgirl hair braid. You can use this technique to make a strong braided rope. Braided ropes are appropriate for use in high-friction situations. You can use more or less any type of rope material for this method, including synthetic rope, natural rope and plastic cords. It just has to be flexible enough that you can work with it. If the ends of your strands are frayed, fuse them before you begin.
With a synthetic rope you can fuse the end by holding it over a candle so that it melts a little and fuses together.
You can tie twine (dental floss works well) around the end portion of the strand to bind it together. This practice is known as “whipping.”
You can also use tape to secure the ends of the strands, and prevent fraying.
1-2. Bind the three ends together.
Use a knot or some tape to securely bind the ends of your three strands. Electrical tape and gaffer tape are good choices, depending on how thick the strands you are using are. Once you have bound the strands together at the left-hand side, stretch out the rest of the rope towards the right-hand end.
The three strands should be lying next to each other and not overlapping to get your starting position.
You may find it helpful to label the three strands A, B, and C.
You could also color-code the strands, or use different colors if you want to make a pattern.
1-3. Pass the outside strands across the central one.
Start by crossing strand A over the central strand B. The order of strands will now be B, A, C. Next cross the other outside strand across the newly central strand, C over A. Now the order will be B, C, A. This is one basic repetition of the braiding pattern for a three-strand braid.
1-4. Repeat the outside to in pattern.
Continue repeating this pattern of crossing one outside strand over the central strand, and then crossing the other outside strand over the new central strand.
In this example you would now cross B over C, so that B is the central strand.
Then you would cross A over B so that A is the central strand.
You can continue this pattern until you reach the end of the length of rope.
1-5. Tie off the rope.
Once you have reached the end of the rope, you can secure the braid by binding the strands together. You can do this by taping the ends together with electrical tape or gaffer, or by tying a strong knot at the end.
2. Making a Four-Strand Braid
2-1. Start with flexible cord.
This technique requires four pieces of cord with good flexibility, since you will be braiding together multiple strands, so you need to ensure whatever type of rope material you use is flexible enough for you to work with. It will be hard to get a tight braid with something that is too stiff.
A four-strand braid is a good choice for a high-friction use, such as in winches and pulleys.
Ensure that each strand is fused at the end, either by melting the end of a synthetic rope, or by tying or taping a natural rope.
The extra strand over a three-strand brand should make the rope thicker and stronger.
2-2. Join the ends together.
For this braiding technique, you will need to knot or fuse together four strands of rope. There are a few different ways to do this, but the easiest is to simply tie a knot joining four pieces of rope together at one end. You could also secure them with some electrical tape or gaffer tape.
You can work with four separate pieces of rope, or you could bend two pieces of rope in half and treat the two ends of one piece as two strands, thereby giving you a total of four strands.
You can also use eight strands of rope as long as you work in bunches of two, essentially treating two strands as one.
For the sake of this tutorial, the four strands will be labelled as A, B, C, and D. Strands B and C are the centre two strands.
2-3. Cross the middle strands together.
Cross strand C over strand B. Wrap C around B so that it first crosses over B before eventually winding underneath it and back to its original position in the cluster.
When you are finished with this step, the ends of all four strands should still be in the same order they were in at the start.
The order should be A, B, C, D.
2-4. Cross one end over the middle.
Bring strand A over strand B. Do not cross A over C. At the end of this step, the order of the strand ends should be B, A, C, D.
2-5. Weave the remaining end in.
Pass strand D underneath strand C. Bring it up from the other side of C and pass it over Strand A. Do not cross D with B.
At the end of this step, the order of the strand ends should be B, D, A, C.
You have completed one braiding block at the conclusion of this step.
2-6. Repeat this pattern down the length of the rope.
Follow the same pattern used to complete the first braiding block down the length of the rope until you make the braid as long as you need it to be or until you are nearly out of rope.
At the start of each round, re-label the strands as A, B, C, D according to the order they are now in.
Wrap C around B.
Bring A over B.
Cross D under C and over A.
2-7. Join at the other end.
Once the braid is complete, you need to join the four strands at the finishing end of the rope. You can fuse them together or create a knot to hold them in place.
3. Doing a Standard Single Rope Braid
3-1. Start with a flexible single cord.
A single braided rope offers the strength of braided rope, but is more lightweight as it involves only one strand. A synthetic or natural rope could work, but it has to have a high level of flexibility so that you can work with it. A stiffer cord will not really work with this method. It can be any length depending on what you want to use it for.
Single-braided ropes are often used for rigging and pulling and climbing.
Do not use a rope you have made yourself for climbing unless you have had it checked out by an expert who can vouch for its suitability and safety.
3-2. Make a loop with the rope.
If you are doing a single rope braid, you will be braiding a section of the rope. When you know how long you want the braided section to be, make a loop in the rope that is about that size.
You can do this just by sliding the two ends of the rope towards the centre.
For this example, have the right side of the rope above the left side.
3-3. Pass one free end through the loop.
Once you have your loop, bring the end of the rope from the right-hand end up and through the left-hand side of the loop in an over and under movement. Your main loop should now have a smaller loop on the left-hand side and the right-hand end of the rope should be below the loop.
3-4. Twist the loop.
Bend the top of the loop down so that it crosses over the bottom end of the original loop. Make this crossover near the first braid of your rope and not toward the open end of the loop. This will create the beginnings of a braid-like pattern and create the hole that you will then pass the right-hand end of the rope through.
As you cross the rope over itself, the original top portion of the loop should cross back over the original bottom portion of the loop, just a short distance away from the new intersection you created.
As a result, a new, smaller loop or hole should form just past the original link of your braid.
3-5. Pass the end through the newly created hole.
Insert the right-hand end of the rope through the hole you just created in the previous step. This action forms another link in the braid.
The right-hand end of the rope will go through the hole by going over the bottom portion of the loop and under the top portion of the loop.
The right-hand end should now be angled upward, above the rest of the rope.
3-6. Repeat down the length of the rope.
You will need to continue making new, small loops from the larger loop by twisting the rope, and then weaving the right-hand end of the rope through the holes that are created. The braid is complete once you no longer have enough of the large loop to work with and use for the creation of new sub-loops.
3-7. Tighten the braid.
When you twisted the loop for the last time, thread the right-hand end of the rope through the final small loop. Carefully pull on both ends of the rope to tighten the braid.
4. Doing a Monkey Braid
4-1. Start with a flexible single cord.
To make a Monkey Braid (or Chain Sinnet) you only need a single strand. Monkey braids can add bulk, or shorten a rope. They are often used as a way to store rope without it getting tangled up. You can use synthetic or natural rope, but ensure that the material is flexible so that you can work with it. Plastic cords tend to be quite stiff, which can prevent you from getting a tight single-strand braid.
You can use a Monkey Braid to make a nice looking chain, which returns to a straight rope when pulled.
You often see these braids on dress uniforms.
4-2. Make a loop.
For this technique you need to start by making a loop in the rope by pushing the right-hand end of the rope towards the left-hand until a loop pops up. The point where this loop starts will be where the braid starts so ensure that the loops start near to the left-hand end of the rope.
4-3. Push the long side through the loop.
Once you have a loop you need to take the rope from the long end (the right-hand side) and push it through the loop. You are pushing the part of the rope that is closest to the loop on the right-hand side. Only use a small section of the rope.
You should be pulling a small U-shaped portion of rope through your initial loop to create a second loop.
Pull it down, through the loop and out, tugging it toward the working side of the rope to tighten it slightly.
Note that it is easier to tighten each loop as you work when using this braiding method. Trying to tighten the loops once you finish the entire braid can cause the braid to be loose and uneven overall.
4-4. Turn the u-shaped part into a new loop.
Once you have pulled the u-shaped part of rope through the loop pull it to the right hand side so that is in line with the braid and the loop that you just pulled it through.
4-5. Create another loop.
Pinch another section of rope from the working end (the right-hand side), again making sure that it is directly next to the loop you just created. Push it under, through, and out of the loop on the end of the braid, tugging gently to secure it.
4-6. Repeat through the length of the rope.
The rest of the braid is completed simply by making new loops from the working side of the rope and pulling those loops the larger loops. Pinch another section of rope from the working end. Push this section under and through the previous loop made in the rope.
Repeat this as necessary down the length of the rope.
4-7. Pass the end through the final loop.
When you have enough braids in the rope, create one special final loop to pass the finishing end through. To create a locking loop at the end pass the working end (right-hand end) of the rope over the top side of the last loop and through it. Pull snug on both loose ends of the rope to tighten the braid securely.
5. Tips
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Bind the three ends together.\\nUse a knot or some tape to securely bind the ends of your three strands. Electrical tape and gaffer tape are good choices, depending on how thick the strands you are using are. Once you have bound the strands together at the left-hand side, stretch out the rest of the rope towards the right-hand end.\\nThe three strands should be lying next to each other and not overlapping to get your starting position.\\nYou may find it helpful to label the three strands A, B, and C.\\nYou could also color-code the strands, or use different colors if you want to make a pattern.\\n1-3. Pass the outside strands across the central one.\\nStart by crossing strand A over the central strand B. The order of strands will now be B, A, C. Next cross the other outside strand across the newly central strand, C over A. Now the order will be B, C, A. This is one basic repetition of the braiding pattern for a three-strand braid.\\n1-4. Repeat the outside to in pattern.\\nContinue repeating this pattern of crossing one outside strand over the central strand, and then crossing the other outside strand over the new central strand.\\nIn this example you would now cross B over C, so that B is the central strand.\\nThen you would cross A over B so that A is the central strand.\\nYou can continue this pattern until you reach the end of the length of rope.\\n1-5. Tie off the rope.\\nOnce you have reached the end of the rope, you can secure the braid by binding the strands together. You can do this by taping the ends together with electrical tape or gaffer, or by tying a strong knot at the end.\\n2. Making a Four-Strand Braid\\n2-1. Start with flexible cord.\\nThis technique requires four pieces of cord with good flexibility, since you will be braiding together multiple strands, so you need to ensure whatever type of rope material you use is flexible enough for you to work with. It will be hard to get a tight braid with something that is too stiff.\\nA four-strand braid is a good choice for a high-friction use, such as in winches and pulleys.\\nEnsure that each strand is fused at the end, either by melting the end of a synthetic rope, or by tying or taping a natural rope.\\nThe extra strand over a three-strand brand should make the rope thicker and stronger.\\n2-2. Join the ends together.\\nFor this braiding technique, you will need to knot or fuse together four strands of rope. There are a few different ways to do this, but the easiest is to simply tie a knot joining four pieces of rope together at one end. You could also secure them with some electrical tape or gaffer tape.\\nYou can work with four separate pieces of rope, or you could bend two pieces of rope in half and treat the two ends of one piece as two strands, thereby giving you a total of four strands.\\nYou can also use eight strands of rope as long as you work in bunches of two, essentially treating two strands as one.\\nFor the sake of this tutorial, the four strands will be labelled as A, B, C, and D. Strands B and C are the centre two strands.\\n2-3. Cross the middle strands together.\\nCross strand C over strand B. Wrap C around B so that it first crosses over B before eventually winding underneath it and back to its original position in the cluster.\\nWhen you are finished with this step, the ends of all four strands should still be in the same order they were in at the start.\\nThe order should be A, B, C, D.\\n2-4. Cross one end over the middle.\\nBring strand A over strand B. Do not cross A over C. At the end of this step, the order of the strand ends should be B, A, C, D.\\n2-5. Weave the remaining end in.\\nPass strand D underneath strand C. Bring it up from the other side of C and pass it over Strand A. Do not cross D with B.\\nAt the end of this step, the order of the strand ends should be B, D, A, C.\\nYou have completed one braiding block at the conclusion of this step.\\n2-6. Repeat this pattern down the length of the rope.\\nFollow the same pattern used to complete the first braiding block down the length of the rope until you make the braid as long as you need it to be or until you are nearly out of rope. \\nAt the start of each round, re-label the strands as A, B, C, D according to the order they are now in.\\nWrap C around B.\\nBring A over B.\\nCross D under C and over A.\\n2-7. Join at the other end.\\nOnce the braid is complete, you need to join the four strands at the finishing end of the rope. You can fuse them together or create a knot to hold them in place.\\n3. Doing a Standard Single Rope Braid\\n3-1. Start with a flexible single cord.\\nA single braided rope offers the strength of braided rope, but is more lightweight as it involves only one strand. A synthetic or natural rope could work, but it has to have a high level of flexibility so that you can work with it. A stiffer cord will not really work with this method. It can be any length depending on what you want to use it for.\\nSingle-braided ropes are often used for rigging and pulling and climbing.\\nDo not use a rope you have made yourself for climbing unless you have had it checked out by an expert who can vouch for its suitability and safety.\\n3-2. Make a loop with the rope.\\nIf you are doing a single rope braid, you will be braiding a section of the rope. When you know how long you want the braided section to be, make a loop in the rope that is about that size.\\nYou can do this just by sliding the two ends of the rope towards the centre.\\nFor this example, have the right side of the rope above the left side.\\n3-3. Pass one free end through the loop.\\nOnce you have your loop, bring the end of the rope from the right-hand end up and through the left-hand side of the loop in an over and under movement. Your main loop should now have a smaller loop on the left-hand side and the right-hand end of the rope should be below the loop.\\n3-4. Twist the loop.\\nBend the top of the loop down so that it crosses over the bottom end of the original loop. Make this crossover near the first braid of your rope and not toward the open end of the loop. This will create the beginnings of a braid-like pattern and create the hole that you will then pass the right-hand end of the rope through.\\nAs you cross the rope over itself, the original top portion of the loop should cross back over the original bottom portion of the loop, just a short distance away from the new intersection you created.\\nAs a result, a new, smaller loop or hole should form just past the original link of your braid.\\n3-5. Pass the end through the newly created hole.\\nInsert the right-hand end of the rope through the hole you just created in the previous step. This action forms another link in the braid.\\nThe right-hand end of the rope will go through the hole by going over the bottom portion of the loop and under the top portion of the loop.\\nThe right-hand end should now be angled upward, above the rest of the rope.\\n3-6. Repeat down the length of the rope.\\nYou will need to continue making new, small loops from the larger loop by twisting the rope, and then weaving the right-hand end of the rope through the holes that are created. The braid is complete once you no longer have enough of the large loop to work with and use for the creation of new sub-loops.\\n3-7. Tighten the braid.\\nWhen you twisted the loop for the last time, thread the right-hand end of the rope through the final small loop. Carefully pull on both ends of the rope to tighten the braid.\\n4. Doing a Monkey Braid\\n4-1. Start with a flexible single cord.\\nTo make a Monkey Braid (or Chain Sinnet) you only need a single strand. Monkey braids can add bulk, or shorten a rope. They are often used as a way to store rope without it getting tangled up. You can use synthetic or natural rope, but ensure that the material is flexible so that you can work with it. Plastic cords tend to be quite stiff, which can prevent you from getting a tight single-strand braid.\\nYou can use a Monkey Braid to make a nice looking chain, which returns to a straight rope when pulled.\\nYou often see these braids on dress uniforms.\\n4-2. Make a loop.\\nFor this technique you need to start by making a loop in the rope by pushing the right-hand end of the rope towards the left-hand until a loop pops up. The point where this loop starts will be where the braid starts so ensure that the loops start near to the left-hand end of the rope.\\n4-3. Push the long side through the loop.\\nOnce you have a loop you need to take the rope from the long end (the right-hand side) and push it through the loop. You are pushing the part of the rope that is closest to the loop on the right-hand side. Only use a small section of the rope.\\nYou should be pulling a small U-shaped portion of rope through your initial loop to create a second loop.\\nPull it down, through the loop and out, tugging it toward the working side of the rope to tighten it slightly.\\nNote that it is easier to tighten each loop as you work when using this braiding method. Trying to tighten the loops once you finish the entire braid can cause the braid to be loose and uneven overall.\\n4-4. Turn the u-shaped part into a new loop.\\nOnce you have pulled the u-shaped part of rope through the loop pull it to the right hand side so that is in line with the braid and the loop that you just pulled it through.\\n4-5. Create another loop.\\nPinch another section of rope from the working end (the right-hand side), again making sure that it is directly next to the loop you just created. Push it under, through, and out of the loop on the end of the braid, tugging gently to secure it.\\n4-6. Repeat through the length of the rope.\\nThe rest of the braid is completed simply by making new loops from the working side of the rope and pulling those loops the larger loops. Pinch another section of rope from the working end. Push this section under and through the previous loop made in the rope.\\nRepeat this as necessary down the length of the rope.\\n4-7. Pass the end through the final loop.\\nWhen you have enough braids in the rope, create one special final loop to pass the finishing end through. To create a locking loop at the end pass the working end (right-hand end) of the rope over the top side of the last loop and through it. Pull snug on both loose ends of the rope to tighten the braid securely.\\n5. Tips\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Braiding rope gives the material additional durability and makes the finished product more versatile for use in a variety of applications. There are a few different ways you to braid rope when you only have a single strand, or you could join several ropes or strands together to create something even stronger.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Making a Three-Strand Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Start with the rope of your choice.\", \"描述\": \"A three-strand braid is a very common way to braid, perhaps most associated with a classic schoolgirl hair braid. You can use this technique to make a strong braided rope. Braided ropes are appropriate for use in high-friction situations. You can use more or less any type of rope material for this method, including synthetic rope, natural rope and plastic cords. It just has to be flexible enough that you can work with it. If the ends of your strands are frayed, fuse them before you begin.\\nWith a synthetic rope you can fuse the end by holding it over a candle so that it melts a little and fuses together.\\nYou can tie twine (dental floss works well) around the end portion of the strand to bind it together. This practice is known as “whipping.”\\nYou can also use tape to secure the ends of the strands, and prevent fraying.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Bind the three ends together.\", \"描述\": \"Use a knot or some tape to securely bind the ends of your three strands. Electrical tape and gaffer tape are good choices, depending on how thick the strands you are using are. Once you have bound the strands together at the left-hand side, stretch out the rest of the rope towards the right-hand end.\\nThe three strands should be lying next to each other and not overlapping to get your starting position.\\nYou may find it helpful to label the three strands A, B, and C.\\nYou could also color-code the strands, or use different colors if you want to make a pattern.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pass the outside strands across the central one.\", \"描述\": \"Start by crossing strand A over the central strand B. The order of strands will now be B, A, C. Next cross the other outside strand across the newly central strand, C over A. Now the order will be B, C, A. This is one basic repetition of the braiding pattern for a three-strand braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Repeat the outside to in pattern.\", \"描述\": \"Continue repeating this pattern of crossing one outside strand over the central strand, and then crossing the other outside strand over the new central strand.\\nIn this example you would now cross B over C, so that B is the central strand.\\nThen you would cross A over B so that A is the central strand.\\nYou can continue this pattern until you reach the end of the length of rope.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Tie off the rope.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have reached the end of the rope, you can secure the braid by binding the strands together. You can do this by taping the ends together with electrical tape or gaffer, or by tying a strong knot at the end.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Making a Four-Strand Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Start with flexible cord.\", \"描述\": \"This technique requires four pieces of cord with good flexibility, since you will be braiding together multiple strands, so you need to ensure whatever type of rope material you use is flexible enough for you to work with. It will be hard to get a tight braid with something that is too stiff.\\nA four-strand braid is a good choice for a high-friction use, such as in winches and pulleys.\\nEnsure that each strand is fused at the end, either by melting the end of a synthetic rope, or by tying or taping a natural rope.\\nThe extra strand over a three-strand brand should make the rope thicker and stronger.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Join the ends together.\", \"描述\": \"For this braiding technique, you will need to knot or fuse together four strands of rope. There are a few different ways to do this, but the easiest is to simply tie a knot joining four pieces of rope together at one end. You could also secure them with some electrical tape or gaffer tape.\\nYou can work with four separate pieces of rope, or you could bend two pieces of rope in half and treat the two ends of one piece as two strands, thereby giving you a total of four strands.\\nYou can also use eight strands of rope as long as you work in bunches of two, essentially treating two strands as one.\\nFor the sake of this tutorial, the four strands will be labelled as A, B, C, and D. Strands B and C are the centre two strands.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Cross the middle strands together.\", \"描述\": \"Cross strand C over strand B. Wrap C around B so that it first crosses over B before eventually winding underneath it and back to its original position in the cluster.\\nWhen you are finished with this step, the ends of all four strands should still be in the same order they were in at the start.\\nThe order should be A, B, C, D.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Cross one end over the middle.\", \"描述\": \"Bring strand A over strand B. Do not cross A over C. At the end of this step, the order of the strand ends should be B, A, C, D.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Weave the remaining end in.\", \"描述\": \"Pass strand D underneath strand C. Bring it up from the other side of C and pass it over Strand A. Do not cross D with B.\\nAt the end of this step, the order of the strand ends should be B, D, A, C.\\nYou have completed one braiding block at the conclusion of this step.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Repeat this pattern down the length of the rope.\", \"描述\": \"Follow the same pattern used to complete the first braiding block down the length of the rope until you make the braid as long as you need it to be or until you are nearly out of rope. \\nAt the start of each round, re-label the strands as A, B, C, D according to the order they are now in.\\nWrap C around B.\\nBring A over B.\\nCross D under C and over A.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Join at the other end.\", \"描述\": \"Once the braid is complete, you need to join the four strands at the finishing end of the rope. You can fuse them together or create a knot to hold them in place.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Doing a Standard Single Rope Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Start with a flexible single cord.\", \"描述\": \"A single braided rope offers the strength of braided rope, but is more lightweight as it involves only one strand. A synthetic or natural rope could work, but it has to have a high level of flexibility so that you can work with it. A stiffer cord will not really work with this method. It can be any length depending on what you want to use it for.\\nSingle-braided ropes are often used for rigging and pulling and climbing.\\nDo not use a rope you have made yourself for climbing unless you have had it checked out by an expert who can vouch for its suitability and safety.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make a loop with the rope.\", \"描述\": \"If you are doing a single rope braid, you will be braiding a section of the rope. When you know how long you want the braided section to be, make a loop in the rope that is about that size.\\nYou can do this just by sliding the two ends of the rope towards the centre.\\nFor this example, have the right side of the rope above the left side.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pass one free end through the loop.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have your loop, bring the end of the rope from the right-hand end up and through the left-hand side of the loop in an over and under movement. Your main loop should now have a smaller loop on the left-hand side and the right-hand end of the rope should be below the loop.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Twist the loop.\", \"描述\": \"Bend the top of the loop down so that it crosses over the bottom end of the original loop. Make this crossover near the first braid of your rope and not toward the open end of the loop. This will create the beginnings of a braid-like pattern and create the hole that you will then pass the right-hand end of the rope through.\\nAs you cross the rope over itself, the original top portion of the loop should cross back over the original bottom portion of the loop, just a short distance away from the new intersection you created.\\nAs a result, a new, smaller loop or hole should form just past the original link of your braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Pass the end through the newly created hole.\", \"描述\": \"Insert the right-hand end of the rope through the hole you just created in the previous step. This action forms another link in the braid.\\nThe right-hand end of the rope will go through the hole by going over the bottom portion of the loop and under the top portion of the loop.\\nThe right-hand end should now be angled upward, above the rest of the rope.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Repeat down the length of the rope.\", \"描述\": \"You will need to continue making new, small loops from the larger loop by twisting the rope, and then weaving the right-hand end of the rope through the holes that are created. The braid is complete once you no longer have enough of the large loop to work with and use for the creation of new sub-loops.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Tighten the braid.\", \"描述\": \"When you twisted the loop for the last time, thread the right-hand end of the rope through the final small loop. Carefully pull on both ends of the rope to tighten the braid.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Doing a Monkey Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Start with a flexible single cord.\", \"描述\": \"To make a Monkey Braid (or Chain Sinnet) you only need a single strand. Monkey braids can add bulk, or shorten a rope. They are often used as a way to store rope without it getting tangled up. You can use synthetic or natural rope, but ensure that the material is flexible so that you can work with it. Plastic cords tend to be quite stiff, which can prevent you from getting a tight single-strand braid.\\nYou can use a Monkey Braid to make a nice looking chain, which returns to a straight rope when pulled.\\nYou often see these braids on dress uniforms.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make a loop.\", \"描述\": \"For this technique you need to start by making a loop in the rope by pushing the right-hand end of the rope towards the left-hand until a loop pops up. The point where this loop starts will be where the braid starts so ensure that the loops start near to the left-hand end of the rope.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Push the long side through the loop.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have a loop you need to take the rope from the long end (the right-hand side) and push it through the loop. You are pushing the part of the rope that is closest to the loop on the right-hand side. Only use a small section of the rope.\\nYou should be pulling a small U-shaped portion of rope through your initial loop to create a second loop.\\nPull it down, through the loop and out, tugging it toward the working side of the rope to tighten it slightly.\\nNote that it is easier to tighten each loop as you work when using this braiding method. Trying to tighten the loops once you finish the entire braid can cause the braid to be loose and uneven overall.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Turn the u-shaped part into a new loop.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have pulled the u-shaped part of rope through the loop pull it to the right hand side so that is in line with the braid and the loop that you just pulled it through.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Create another loop.\", \"描述\": \"Pinch another section of rope from the working end (the right-hand side), again making sure that it is directly next to the loop you just created. Push it under, through, and out of the loop on the end of the braid, tugging gently to secure it.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Repeat through the length of the rope.\", \"描述\": \"The rest of the braid is completed simply by making new loops from the working side of the rope and pulling those loops the larger loops. Pinch another section of rope from the working end. Push this section under and through the previous loop made in the rope.\\nRepeat this as necessary down the length of the rope.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Pass the end through the final loop.\", \"描述\": \"When you have enough braids in the rope, create one special final loop to pass the finishing end through. To create a locking loop at the end pass the working end (right-hand end) of the rope over the top side of the last loop and through it. Pull snug on both loose ends of the rope to tighten the braid securely.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Tips\", \"步骤\": []}]}}",
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1. Creating a Simple Side Braid
1-1. Part your hair down the center.
Use a comb to draw a part down the center of your hairline. Brush the hair flat on either side of this part.
For this style, you'll need to create two standard braids along the front sides of your head. These braids should roughly mirror one another in position, width, and length.
This style is good for very short hair, as you can decide to braid only a portion of your short hair if you do not have enough hair to put it all back in a braid.
1-2. Grab a section of hair on the right.
Gather approximately 3 inches (7.6 cm) of hair toward the front of your face, working to the right of the part.
If you have short bangs that you wish to keep out of the braid, begin the section immediately behind the right end of your bangs.
If you have long bangs that you want to include in the braid, split the bangs in half down the center. Include the right half of your bangs in this first section and the left half of your bangs in the second section.
1-3. Divide the section into three portions.
Split the gathered section of hair into three portions. Try to make each portion equal in length and width.
1-4. Braid the portions together.
Braid the three separated portions into a standard braid. Direct the braid so that it points down and toward the back of your ear.
Cross the left portion of hair over the middle section. The previous left portion now becomes the new middle portion.
Cross the right portion over the new middle portion to complete one full braid.
Repeat as many times as needed until the braid reaches your desired length.
1-5. Tie and pin the braid in place.
Tie the end of the braid with a small hair elastic, then use a bobby pin the tack the loose end to the unbraided hair at the side of your head.
1-6. Repeat on the left.
Create an identical braid on the left side of your part by following the same steps used to create the first braid.
Separate the section into three portions, then braid those portions down toward the back of your ear.
Note that the two braids don't need to be exactly identical, but they should look very similar to one another to maintain enough symmetry.
1-7. Flaunt your braids.
Check your braids in the mirror and redo them if necessary. Once they look the way you want them to look, the style is done and ready to show off.
2. Styling a Waterfall Braid
2-1. Part your hair along the side.
Use a comb to draw your part along either side of your head. Brush the hair on both sides of this part to keep it smooth.
To create this look, you'll create a partial French braid that drapes down along one side of your head. As you form the braid, though, you'll leave some hair hanging down from beneath it, creating a “waterfall” effect.
This style may be better for individuals with short hair that comes to at least their shoulders or just above their shoulders. Alternatively, if your hair is very short you can try to do a waterfall braid on a section of your hair, not your entire head.
2-2. Grab a section of hair.
Gather approximately 2 inches (5 cm) of hair toward the front of your face. This section of hair should be taken from the wider side of your part.
If you have long, sideswept bangs, your first section of hair will mostly consist of your bangs. If not, draw the section from the hair closest to your part and at the front of your face.
2-3. Create a few braids from this section.
Split the section of hair into three equal portions, then braid those portions together into one or two full braids.
To form a single braid, cross the left portion of hair over the middle portion, then cross the right portion of hair over the new middle portion (previous left portion).
2-4. Gather new hair into the braid.
Gather a new portion of hair into the braid by drawing it from the top of your head.You'll add this hair to your braid using a traditional French braiding technique.
Pick up a section of hair directly next to the topmost section of your braid. The section should be roughly one-third as thick as the overall braid.
Draw the new portion together with the current topmost piece, essentially forming one large portion.
Create another single braid using this newly joined portion of hair.
2-5. Pick up a new section from the bottom.
Gather a new portion of hair into the braid from beneath. Instead of incorporating it into a standard French braid, however, you'll use this new section as a substitute for an old section.
Pick up the second new portion will from directly beneath and behind the braid. Draw together a portion of hair roughly one-third as thick as the overall braid.
Drop the current bottom portion of the the braid and allow it to hang loose down the side of your head.
Create one new braid using the new bottom portion. Leave the previous bottom portion alone.
2-6. Repeat to desired length.
Continue drawing new hair into the braid using the same technique as before. Braid the hair in this manner until you reach the back of your head.
Each new portion of hair taken from above the braid should be woven into the braid with the previous top portion.
Each new portion of hair taken from beneath the braid should be woven into the braid instead of the previous bottom portion.
2-7. Secure the braid.
Tie the loose end of the braid off with a small elastic hair band. Allow the loose ends to hang down naturally off the back of your head.
Carefully brush the loose hair hanging from beneath your braid to remove any tangles and smooth out any frizz.
2-8. Sport your new braid.
Check your braid in the mirror. If you like the way it looks, the braid is done and ready to show off. If not, unbraid and redo until you have the desired look.
3. Doing a Halo Braid
3-1. Part the hair.
Draw your desired part using a comb. This style works with both center and side parts alike.
Regardless of which part you choose, brush your hair flat on either side of the part after defining it.
For this style, you'll create one French braid on either side of the part and along the lower hairline. Afterward, you'll secure the two braids together, forming the shape of a crown. This style is also known as an “around the world” braid.
This style may be best for individuals with short hair that is at least to their shoulders or above their shoulders as it works best with more hair.
3-2. Pick up three portions of hair.
Gather together three sections of hair along one side of your part. These sections should be roughly equal in length and width.
Each section should be about 1 inch (5 cm) wide. If you have long bangs, the front section will include hair from your bangs.
3-3. Braid the sections together.
Create one or two full standard braids from your original three sections of hair.
A single full braid includes all three sections of hair. Cross the back portion over the middle, turning the previous back portion into the new middle in the process. Complete the braid by crossing the front portion over the new middle, turning the front into the newest middle.
3-4. Gather new hair into a French braid.
Draw two new portions of hair into the current braid. Create one full braid with each new section to begin your French braid.
The first new section should come from the top of your head and further back along your part. Combine this new section with the current topmost section of your braid, then create one new braid using the newly combined portion.
The second new section should come from in front of your braid and just beneath it. Combine this section into the current bottom section of the braid, then create one new braid using the combined portion.
3-5. Repeat around the hairline.
Continue French braiding down the side of your head. Work around the entire lower hairline, drawing in all of the hair from beneath your braid as you do.
Pay special attention to the hair around your ear. This hair will need to be braided tightly to create the most flattering appearance possible.
3-6. Braid down the loose ends.
Once you reach the center back of your head, braid any remaining loose hair on that side into a standard braid. Tie off the end with a small hair elastic.
3-7. Repeat on the other side.
Braid the hair at the other side of your part by following the same steps used for your first braid.
Pick up three equal portions of hair along the other side of your part.
French braid the hair on the opposite side of your head, leaving no loose-hanging hair in the process. Continue along the lower hairline in this manner.
Braid down as much of the loose ends as possible into a standard braid, then secure the end with an elastic hair tie.
3-8. Tuck in the ends.
Crisscross the hanging ends, then tuck them beneath the braids to hide them from view.
Depending on how tight your braids are, tucking in the ends can be a difficult challenge. Work carefully to avoid pulling out the braid, and hide the unbraided ends and hair ties as best as possible.
Note that you'll probably need to insert a few bobby pins through the tucked ends to help hold them in place.
3-9. Add volume to the braid.
Use your fingers or the handle of a rat-tail comb to carefully pick up and loosen each individual braid.
Only pull on each braid enough to give it a little more body. Do not pull hard enough to completely undo the braid.
Skip over the sides and focus on the front and back of the braid. Doing so will add volume to the braid without sacrificing an appealing face shape.
3-10. Adjust and enjoy.
Check your halo braid in the mirror and make any desired adjustments. Once you're satisfied with the way it looks, you should be ready to show it off.
If the top of your head looks too flat or slick, carefully swipe your hand over the hair, working it back and forth several times. Doing so should gently loosen and volumize the hair there, making it messy and natural without destroying the braid.
4. Braiding Afro-Textured Hair
4-1. Use hair oil before you braid.
To make styling easier, you should use natural hair oil on your scalp and massage the oil into your hair. Use natural oils like jojoba or coconut and avoid heavy oils like lanolin, petroleum, and mineral oils. These oils will clog up your scalp and attract dirt and dust.
You can also use a boar bristle brush to brush the oil into your hair to make it easier to braid. If you have very thick, afro-textured hair, you can skip this step as it can make your hair more frizzy.
4-2. Braid your hair in sections.
It will be easier to work with your hair if you divide it into sections using a rat-tail comb. Divide your hair into two sections and clip each section with a hair clip. You can then focus on one section at a time.
You can then decide if you are going to do simple braids where you braid each section into simple braids, creating two side braids or a more elaborate design like a top mohawk with braids.
4-3. Do side braids.
This is an easy option for afro-textured hair as it only requires you to know how to do simple braids. Because afro-textured hair can be very thick and tricky to work with, many people do small side braids in a row rather than two big side braids.
Start with one section and do a small braid with 1/4 of the hair on one side. Start the braid just above your ear, at the top of your hairline. Collect hair as you braid, forming a small braid that lies flat against your scalp. Pull the hair so it is taunt but not too hard, as you do not want to damage your hair or your scalp. Once the braid is done, use a bobby pin to secure it.
Then, make another small braid above the braid you just created. Make sure the braid starts right at your hair line and is parallel to the first braid. Secure this braid with a bobby pin.
Finish with one more small braid above the second braid. It should start at your hair line and move parallel to the second braid. There should now be three braids on one side of your hair, forming diagonal lines.
Repeat these steps on the other side of your head. You should now how small braids on either side of your head, framing the rest of your hair. You can then leave the rest of your hair natural or finger curl it using your fingers and hair oil.
4-4. Try a top mohawk with braids.
This option is a more elaborate braided hair style and may require a second set of hands or help from a professional hair dresser who knows how to work with afro-textured hair. If you are experienced with braiding your hair type, you may be able to do this one at home.
Divide your hair into four sections and pin each section with a hair clip. Then, unclip the section at the front end of your hair, right above your ear. You will then braid a small section of the hair above your hair moving upward. Pull the hair taunt but not too tight as you braid upward. You want the braids to be as vertical as possible. When you reach the top of your head, pin the braid and then let the rest of your hair sit on your head.
Move on to braid the next small section of the front section of your hair. Make the braid vertical and tight, leaving the remaining hair from the braid loose once you reach the top of your head.
Repeat these steps, moving from section to section of your hair. The braids should all be vertical and in line with each other. Keep the hair at the end of the braids lose and let it sit on your head. This hair will act as the top mohawk.
Once you have finished braiding your hair into vertical braids, you should have a row of 9-10 braids on each side of your head. You can then style the mohawk using hair oil and your fingers for a fun look.
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Include the right half of your bangs in this first section and the left half of your bangs in the second section.\\n1-3. Divide the section into three portions.\\nSplit the gathered section of hair into three portions. Try to make each portion equal in length and width.\\n1-4. Braid the portions together.\\nBraid the three separated portions into a standard braid. Direct the braid so that it points down and toward the back of your ear.\\nCross the left portion of hair over the middle section. The previous left portion now becomes the new middle portion.\\nCross the right portion over the new middle portion to complete one full braid.\\nRepeat as many times as needed until the braid reaches your desired length.\\n1-5. Tie and pin the braid in place.\\nTie the end of the braid with a small hair elastic, then use a bobby pin the tack the loose end to the unbraided hair at the side of your head.\\n1-6. Repeat on the left.\\nCreate an identical braid on the left side of your part by following the same steps used to create the first braid.\\nSeparate the section into three portions, then braid those portions down toward the back of your ear.\\nNote that the two braids don't need to be exactly identical, but they should look very similar to one another to maintain enough symmetry.\\n1-7. Flaunt your braids.\\nCheck your braids in the mirror and redo them if necessary. Once they look the way you want them to look, the style is done and ready to show off.\\n2. Styling a Waterfall Braid\\n2-1. Part your hair along the side.\\nUse a comb to draw your part along either side of your head. Brush the hair on both sides of this part to keep it smooth.\\nTo create this look, you'll create a partial French braid that drapes down along one side of your head. As you form the braid, though, you'll leave some hair hanging down from beneath it, creating a “waterfall” effect.\\nThis style may be better for individuals with short hair that comes to at least their shoulders or just above their shoulders. Alternatively, if your hair is very short you can try to do a waterfall braid on a section of your hair, not your entire head.\\n2-2. Grab a section of hair.\\nGather approximately 2 inches (5 cm) of hair toward the front of your face. This section of hair should be taken from the wider side of your part.\\nIf you have long, sideswept bangs, your first section of hair will mostly consist of your bangs. If not, draw the section from the hair closest to your part and at the front of your face.\\n2-3. Create a few braids from this section.\\nSplit the section of hair into three equal portions, then braid those portions together into one or two full braids.\\nTo form a single braid, cross the left portion of hair over the middle portion, then cross the right portion of hair over the new middle portion (previous left portion).\\n2-4. Gather new hair into the braid.\\nGather a new portion of hair into the braid by drawing it from the top of your head.You'll add this hair to your braid using a traditional French braiding technique.\\nPick up a section of hair directly next to the topmost section of your braid. The section should be roughly one-third as thick as the overall braid.\\nDraw the new portion together with the current topmost piece, essentially forming one large portion.\\nCreate another single braid using this newly joined portion of hair.\\n2-5. Pick up a new section from the bottom.\\nGather a new portion of hair into the braid from beneath. Instead of incorporating it into a standard French braid, however, you'll use this new section as a substitute for an old section.\\nPick up the second new portion will from directly beneath and behind the braid. Draw together a portion of hair roughly one-third as thick as the overall braid.\\nDrop the current bottom portion of the the braid and allow it to hang loose down the side of your head.\\nCreate one new braid using the new bottom portion. Leave the previous bottom portion alone.\\n2-6. Repeat to desired length.\\nContinue drawing new hair into the braid using the same technique as before. Braid the hair in this manner until you reach the back of your head.\\nEach new portion of hair taken from above the braid should be woven into the braid with the previous top portion.\\nEach new portion of hair taken from beneath the braid should be woven into the braid instead of the previous bottom portion.\\n2-7. Secure the braid.\\nTie the loose end of the braid off with a small elastic hair band. Allow the loose ends to hang down naturally off the back of your head.\\nCarefully brush the loose hair hanging from beneath your braid to remove any tangles and smooth out any frizz.\\n2-8. Sport your new braid.\\nCheck your braid in the mirror. If you like the way it looks, the braid is done and ready to show off. If not, unbraid and redo until you have the desired look.\\n3. Doing a Halo Braid\\n3-1. Part the hair.\\nDraw your desired part using a comb. This style works with both center and side parts alike.\\nRegardless of which part you choose, brush your hair flat on either side of the part after defining it.\\nFor this style, you'll create one French braid on either side of the part and along the lower hairline. Afterward, you'll secure the two braids together, forming the shape of a crown. This style is also known as an “around the world” braid.\\nThis style may be best for individuals with short hair that is at least to their shoulders or above their shoulders as it works best with more hair.\\n3-2. Pick up three portions of hair.\\nGather together three sections of hair along one side of your part. These sections should be roughly equal in length and width.\\nEach section should be about 1 inch (5 cm) wide. If you have long bangs, the front section will include hair from your bangs.\\n3-3. Braid the sections together.\\nCreate one or two full standard braids from your original three sections of hair.\\nA single full braid includes all three sections of hair. Cross the back portion over the middle, turning the previous back portion into the new middle in the process. Complete the braid by crossing the front portion over the new middle, turning the front into the newest middle.\\n3-4. Gather new hair into a French braid.\\nDraw two new portions of hair into the current braid. Create one full braid with each new section to begin your French braid.\\nThe first new section should come from the top of your head and further back along your part. Combine this new section with the current topmost section of your braid, then create one new braid using the newly combined portion.\\nThe second new section should come from in front of your braid and just beneath it. Combine this section into the current bottom section of the braid, then create one new braid using the combined portion.\\n3-5. Repeat around the hairline.\\nContinue French braiding down the side of your head. Work around the entire lower hairline, drawing in all of the hair from beneath your braid as you do.\\nPay special attention to the hair around your ear. This hair will need to be braided tightly to create the most flattering appearance possible.\\n3-6. Braid down the loose ends.\\nOnce you reach the center back of your head, braid any remaining loose hair on that side into a standard braid. Tie off the end with a small hair elastic.\\n3-7. Repeat on the other side.\\nBraid the hair at the other side of your part by following the same steps used for your first braid.\\nPick up three equal portions of hair along the other side of your part.\\nFrench braid the hair on the opposite side of your head, leaving no loose-hanging hair in the process. Continue along the lower hairline in this manner.\\nBraid down as much of the loose ends as possible into a standard braid, then secure the end with an elastic hair tie.\\n3-8. Tuck in the ends.\\nCrisscross the hanging ends, then tuck them beneath the braids to hide them from view.\\nDepending on how tight your braids are, tucking in the ends can be a difficult challenge. Work carefully to avoid pulling out the braid, and hide the unbraided ends and hair ties as best as possible.\\nNote that you'll probably need to insert a few bobby pins through the tucked ends to help hold them in place.\\n3-9. Add volume to the braid.\\nUse your fingers or the handle of a rat-tail comb to carefully pick up and loosen each individual braid.\\nOnly pull on each braid enough to give it a little more body. Do not pull hard enough to completely undo the braid.\\nSkip over the sides and focus on the front and back of the braid. Doing so will add volume to the braid without sacrificing an appealing face shape.\\n3-10. Adjust and enjoy.\\nCheck your halo braid in the mirror and make any desired adjustments. Once you're satisfied with the way it looks, you should be ready to show it off.\\nIf the top of your head looks too flat or slick, carefully swipe your hand over the hair, working it back and forth several times. Doing so should gently loosen and volumize the hair there, making it messy and natural without destroying the braid.\\n4. Braiding Afro-Textured Hair\\n4-1. Use hair oil before you braid.\\nTo make styling easier, you should use natural hair oil on your scalp and massage the oil into your hair. Use natural oils like jojoba or coconut and avoid heavy oils like lanolin, petroleum, and mineral oils. These oils will clog up your scalp and attract dirt and dust. \\nYou can also use a boar bristle brush to brush the oil into your hair to make it easier to braid. If you have very thick, afro-textured hair, you can skip this step as it can make your hair more frizzy.\\n4-2. Braid your hair in sections.\\nIt will be easier to work with your hair if you divide it into sections using a rat-tail comb. Divide your hair into two sections and clip each section with a hair clip. You can then focus on one section at a time. \\nYou can then decide if you are going to do simple braids where you braid each section into simple braids, creating two side braids or a more elaborate design like a top mohawk with braids.\\n4-3. Do side braids.\\nThis is an easy option for afro-textured hair as it only requires you to know how to do simple braids. Because afro-textured hair can be very thick and tricky to work with, many people do small side braids in a row rather than two big side braids.\\nStart with one section and do a small braid with 1/4 of the hair on one side. Start the braid just above your ear, at the top of your hairline. Collect hair as you braid, forming a small braid that lies flat against your scalp. Pull the hair so it is taunt but not too hard, as you do not want to damage your hair or your scalp. Once the braid is done, use a bobby pin to secure it.\\nThen, make another small braid above the braid you just created. Make sure the braid starts right at your hair line and is parallel to the first braid. Secure this braid with a bobby pin.\\nFinish with one more small braid above the second braid. It should start at your hair line and move parallel to the second braid. There should now be three braids on one side of your hair, forming diagonal lines.\\nRepeat these steps on the other side of your head. You should now how small braids on either side of your head, framing the rest of your hair. You can then leave the rest of your hair natural or finger curl it using your fingers and hair oil.\\n4-4. Try a top mohawk with braids.\\nThis option is a more elaborate braided hair style and may require a second set of hands or help from a professional hair dresser who knows how to work with afro-textured hair. If you are experienced with braiding your hair type, you may be able to do this one at home.\\nDivide your hair into four sections and pin each section with a hair clip. Then, unclip the section at the front end of your hair, right above your ear. You will then braid a small section of the hair above your hair moving upward. Pull the hair taunt but not too tight as you braid upward. You want the braids to be as vertical as possible. When you reach the top of your head, pin the braid and then let the rest of your hair sit on your head.\\nMove on to braid the next small section of the front section of your hair. Make the braid vertical and tight, leaving the remaining hair from the braid loose once you reach the top of your head.\\nRepeat these steps, moving from section to section of your hair. The braids should all be vertical and in line with each other. Keep the hair at the end of the braids lose and let it sit on your head. This hair will act as the top mohawk.\\nOnce you have finished braiding your hair into vertical braids, you should have a row of 9-10 braids on each side of your head. You can then style the mohawk using hair oil and your fingers for a fun look.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Many traditional braids are difficult to create with short hair, but there are a few braiding styles that work remarkably well with long pixies, bobs, and other shoulder-length or shorter hairdos. Braiding short hair can be a tricky, messy process even with the right style, but with enough practice, you can master several cute braids to sport during special occasions or everyday outings.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Creating a Simple Side Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Part your hair down the center.\", \"描述\": \"Use a comb to draw a part down the center of your hairline. Brush the hair flat on either side of this part.\\nFor this style, you'll need to create two standard braids along the front sides of your head. These braids should roughly mirror one another in position, width, and length.\\nThis style is good for very short hair, as you can decide to braid only a portion of your short hair if you do not have enough hair to put it all back in a braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Grab a section of hair on the right.\", \"描述\": \"Gather approximately 3 inches (7.6 cm) of hair toward the front of your face, working to the right of the part.\\nIf you have short bangs that you wish to keep out of the braid, begin the section immediately behind the right end of your bangs.\\nIf you have long bangs that you want to include in the braid, split the bangs in half down the center. Include the right half of your bangs in this first section and the left half of your bangs in the second section.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Divide the section into three portions.\", \"描述\": \"Split the gathered section of hair into three portions. 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The previous left portion now becomes the new middle portion.\\nCross the right portion over the new middle portion to complete one full braid.\\nRepeat as many times as needed until the braid reaches your desired length.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Tie and pin the braid in place.\", \"描述\": \"Tie the end of the braid with a small hair elastic, then use a bobby pin the tack the loose end to the unbraided hair at the side of your head.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Repeat on the left.\", \"描述\": \"Create an identical braid on the left side of your part by following the same steps used to create the first braid.\\nSeparate the section into three portions, then braid those portions down toward the back of your ear.\\nNote that the two braids don't need to be exactly identical, but they should look very similar to one another to maintain enough symmetry.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Flaunt your braids.\", \"描述\": \"Check your braids in the mirror and redo them if necessary. Once they look the way you want them to look, the style is done and ready to show off.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Styling a Waterfall Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Part your hair along the side.\", \"描述\": \"Use a comb to draw your part along either side of your head. Brush the hair on both sides of this part to keep it smooth.\\nTo create this look, you'll create a partial French braid that drapes down along one side of your head. As you form the braid, though, you'll leave some hair hanging down from beneath it, creating a “waterfall” effect.\\nThis style may be better for individuals with short hair that comes to at least their shoulders or just above their shoulders. Alternatively, if your hair is very short you can try to do a waterfall braid on a section of your hair, not your entire head.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Grab a section of hair.\", \"描述\": \"Gather approximately 2 inches (5 cm) of hair toward the front of your face. This section of hair should be taken from the wider side of your part.\\nIf you have long, sideswept bangs, your first section of hair will mostly consist of your bangs. If not, draw the section from the hair closest to your part and at the front of your face.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Create a few braids from this section.\", \"描述\": \"Split the section of hair into three equal portions, then braid those portions together into one or two full braids.\\nTo form a single braid, cross the left portion of hair over the middle portion, then cross the right portion of hair over the new middle portion (previous left portion).\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Gather new hair into the braid.\", \"描述\": \"Gather a new portion of hair into the braid by drawing it from the top of your head.You'll add this hair to your braid using a traditional French braiding technique.\\nPick up a section of hair directly next to the topmost section of your braid. The section should be roughly one-third as thick as the overall braid.\\nDraw the new portion together with the current topmost piece, essentially forming one large portion.\\nCreate another single braid using this newly joined portion of hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Pick up a new section from the bottom.\", \"描述\": \"Gather a new portion of hair into the braid from beneath. Instead of incorporating it into a standard French braid, however, you'll use this new section as a substitute for an old section.\\nPick up the second new portion will from directly beneath and behind the braid. Draw together a portion of hair roughly one-third as thick as the overall braid.\\nDrop the current bottom portion of the the braid and allow it to hang loose down the side of your head.\\nCreate one new braid using the new bottom portion. Leave the previous bottom portion alone.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Repeat to desired length.\", \"描述\": \"Continue drawing new hair into the braid using the same technique as before. Braid the hair in this manner until you reach the back of your head.\\nEach new portion of hair taken from above the braid should be woven into the braid with the previous top portion.\\nEach new portion of hair taken from beneath the braid should be woven into the braid instead of the previous bottom portion.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Secure the braid.\", \"描述\": \"Tie the loose end of the braid off with a small elastic hair band. Allow the loose ends to hang down naturally off the back of your head.\\nCarefully brush the loose hair hanging from beneath your braid to remove any tangles and smooth out any frizz.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Sport your new braid.\", \"描述\": \"Check your braid in the mirror. If you like the way it looks, the braid is done and ready to show off. If not, unbraid and redo until you have the desired look.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Doing a Halo Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Part the hair.\", \"描述\": \"Draw your desired part using a comb. This style works with both center and side parts alike.\\nRegardless of which part you choose, brush your hair flat on either side of the part after defining it.\\nFor this style, you'll create one French braid on either side of the part and along the lower hairline. Afterward, you'll secure the two braids together, forming the shape of a crown. This style is also known as an “around the world” braid.\\nThis style may be best for individuals with short hair that is at least to their shoulders or above their shoulders as it works best with more hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pick up three portions of hair.\", \"描述\": \"Gather together three sections of hair along one side of your part. These sections should be roughly equal in length and width.\\nEach section should be about 1 inch (5 cm) wide. If you have long bangs, the front section will include hair from your bangs.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Braid the sections together.\", \"描述\": \"Create one or two full standard braids from your original three sections of hair.\\nA single full braid includes all three sections of hair. Cross the back portion over the middle, turning the previous back portion into the new middle in the process. Complete the braid by crossing the front portion over the new middle, turning the front into the newest middle.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Gather new hair into a French braid.\", \"描述\": \"Draw two new portions of hair into the current braid. Create one full braid with each new section to begin your French braid.\\nThe first new section should come from the top of your head and further back along your part. Combine this new section with the current topmost section of your braid, then create one new braid using the newly combined portion.\\nThe second new section should come from in front of your braid and just beneath it. Combine this section into the current bottom section of the braid, then create one new braid using the combined portion.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Repeat around the hairline.\", \"描述\": \"Continue French braiding down the side of your head. Work around the entire lower hairline, drawing in all of the hair from beneath your braid as you do.\\nPay special attention to the hair around your ear. This hair will need to be braided tightly to create the most flattering appearance possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Braid down the loose ends.\", \"描述\": \"Once you reach the center back of your head, braid any remaining loose hair on that side into a standard braid. Tie off the end with a small hair elastic.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Repeat on the other side.\", \"描述\": \"Braid the hair at the other side of your part by following the same steps used for your first braid.\\nPick up three equal portions of hair along the other side of your part.\\nFrench braid the hair on the opposite side of your head, leaving no loose-hanging hair in the process. Continue along the lower hairline in this manner.\\nBraid down as much of the loose ends as possible into a standard braid, then secure the end with an elastic hair tie.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Tuck in the ends.\", \"描述\": \"Crisscross the hanging ends, then tuck them beneath the braids to hide them from view.\\nDepending on how tight your braids are, tucking in the ends can be a difficult challenge. Work carefully to avoid pulling out the braid, and hide the unbraided ends and hair ties as best as possible.\\nNote that you'll probably need to insert a few bobby pins through the tucked ends to help hold them in place.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Add volume to the braid.\", \"描述\": \"Use your fingers or the handle of a rat-tail comb to carefully pick up and loosen each individual braid.\\nOnly pull on each braid enough to give it a little more body. Do not pull hard enough to completely undo the braid.\\nSkip over the sides and focus on the front and back of the braid. Doing so will add volume to the braid without sacrificing an appealing face shape.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Adjust and enjoy.\", \"描述\": \"Check your halo braid in the mirror and make any desired adjustments. Once you're satisfied with the way it looks, you should be ready to show it off.\\nIf the top of your head looks too flat or slick, carefully swipe your hand over the hair, working it back and forth several times. Doing so should gently loosen and volumize the hair there, making it messy and natural without destroying the braid.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Braiding Afro-Textured Hair\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Use hair oil before you braid.\", \"描述\": \"To make styling easier, you should use natural hair oil on your scalp and massage the oil into your hair. Use natural oils like jojoba or coconut and avoid heavy oils like lanolin, petroleum, and mineral oils. These oils will clog up your scalp and attract dirt and dust. \\nYou can also use a boar bristle brush to brush the oil into your hair to make it easier to braid. If you have very thick, afro-textured hair, you can skip this step as it can make your hair more frizzy.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Braid your hair in sections.\", \"描述\": \"It will be easier to work with your hair if you divide it into sections using a rat-tail comb. Divide your hair into two sections and clip each section with a hair clip. You can then focus on one section at a time. \\nYou can then decide if you are going to do simple braids where you braid each section into simple braids, creating two side braids or a more elaborate design like a top mohawk with braids.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Do side braids.\", \"描述\": \"This is an easy option for afro-textured hair as it only requires you to know how to do simple braids. Because afro-textured hair can be very thick and tricky to work with, many people do small side braids in a row rather than two big side braids.\\nStart with one section and do a small braid with 1/4 of the hair on one side. Start the braid just above your ear, at the top of your hairline. Collect hair as you braid, forming a small braid that lies flat against your scalp. Pull the hair so it is taunt but not too hard, as you do not want to damage your hair or your scalp. Once the braid is done, use a bobby pin to secure it.\\nThen, make another small braid above the braid you just created. Make sure the braid starts right at your hair line and is parallel to the first braid. Secure this braid with a bobby pin.\\nFinish with one more small braid above the second braid. It should start at your hair line and move parallel to the second braid. There should now be three braids on one side of your hair, forming diagonal lines.\\nRepeat these steps on the other side of your head. You should now how small braids on either side of your head, framing the rest of your hair. You can then leave the rest of your hair natural or finger curl it using your fingers and hair oil.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Try a top mohawk with braids.\", \"描述\": \"This option is a more elaborate braided hair style and may require a second set of hands or help from a professional hair dresser who knows how to work with afro-textured hair. If you are experienced with braiding your hair type, you may be able to do this one at home.\\nDivide your hair into four sections and pin each section with a hair clip. Then, unclip the section at the front end of your hair, right above your ear. You will then braid a small section of the hair above your hair moving upward. Pull the hair taunt but not too tight as you braid upward. You want the braids to be as vertical as possible. When you reach the top of your head, pin the braid and then let the rest of your hair sit on your head.\\nMove on to braid the next small section of the front section of your hair. Make the braid vertical and tight, leaving the remaining hair from the braid loose once you reach the top of your head.\\nRepeat these steps, moving from section to section of your hair. The braids should all be vertical and in line with each other. Keep the hair at the end of the braids lose and let it sit on your head. This hair will act as the top mohawk.\\nOnce you have finished braiding your hair into vertical braids, you should have a row of 9-10 braids on each side of your head. You can then style the mohawk using hair oil and your fingers for a fun look.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Preparing Your Hair For Braids
1-1. Wash your hair with shampoo and conditioner.
Make sure to wash your scalp with a non-sulfurous clarifying shampoo to get it as clean. Use a moisturizing conditioner to fortify your hair and make it as soft as possible before you braid it.
Read the label on the shampoo and conditioner and make sure that it's intended for your hair texture.
You can read the ingredients label to make sure that it doesn't have sulfur.
Sulfur can dry out and damage your hair, especially if your hair is naturally dry or coarse.
1-2. Detangle your hair with a brush or comb.
Brush your hair right after you wash it to get all of the knots and tangles out. Opt for a wide-toothed comb if your hair is more coarse and/or curly. If your hair has dried since you've washed it, you'll need to re-wet it with water by misting it with a spray bottle. Continue brushing or combing until your hair is smooth and there aren't any knots in it.
Getting the knots and tangles out of your hair with a brush or a comb will make braiding it much easier.
To remove stubborn knots and tangles, begin at the ends of your hair and work your way up to the roots.
1-3. Create a center part in the middle of your head.
Use the teeth of a comb to create a part, from the front of your hair to the back. Drag the teeth of the comb across your head so that it separates the hair into two portions. When done correctly, you'll see a line where your scalp is. Make sure to make this part as straight as possible, as it will affect the placement of the other braids.
From here on out, braiding your hair will be difficult to do yourself, so you may want to get someone to help.
1-4. Part your hair into sections.
Use your comb to create additional parts that run parallel to the center part that you created. The hair in between these parts will be the hair that makes up your braids, so keep this in mind as you're parting it.
Decide how many braids you want and how large you want the braids to be as you create your parts.
1-5. Moisturize your hair.
As you create the parts, hair will start bunching up in one area. Grab these strands of hair and put moisturizer in it. This will soften the strands and make them easier to work with as you braid.
Shea butter, argan oil, hair butter, leave-in conditioners, and olive oil can all be used as hair moisturizers.
You can purchase moisturizers online or at the salon.
1-6. Clip up the different sections of hair.
Take the bunched up hair that you just moisturized and hold it in place with a hair clip or bobby pin. Do this with the rest of your hair after it's been moisturized. Once you're done, you should have several visible parts and the hair in between them should be pinned with bobby pins or hair clips.
1-7. Choose a braiding style.
The braiding style will depend on how long your hair is. Use a two strand twist if your hair is 1 inch (2.5 cm) or shorter, as creating a Dutch braid is difficult with shorter hair. If you have more than 1 inch (2.5 cm) of hair, you can try a dutch braid style.
2. Doing a Two Strand Twist
2-1. Take two portions of hair on the front of your head and separate them.
The two portions of hair that you grab should be next to each other and along the edge of a part. The amount of hair that you grab will determine the size of the braid.
2-2. Twist one strand of hair over the other strand of hair.
Twist one portion of hair over the other. Then, twist the other portion of hair over and around it. Tighten the braid by pulling on both ends of your hair.
2-3. Continue to twist your hair to the back of your head.
Grab more hair and add it to the braid after every twist. Continue to twist the strands over each other and work towards the back of your head along the part that you created. Every time you make another twist, you should grab a little more hair along the part so that you can extend the braid back.
The more hair you grab, the thicker your braid will be.
2-4. Continue twisting the braid to the back of your head.
Continue twisting your hair all the way to the back of your head until you don't have any more hair to grab. The braid should be along the part and run across the entire top of your head.
2-5. Secure the end of the braid with a rubber band if necessary.
Depending on your hair's texture, you may need a rubber band to secure the braid. If your braided hair tends to unravel on its own, take a small hair rubber band and wrap it around the end of the braid until the rubber band is tight.
2-6. Braid the rest of your hair.
Create as many braids as you want over your head until you're satisfied. Look in the mirror and see if the braids look good. It may take some practice until you can braid your hair the way that you want.
3. Making Cornrows
3-1. Grab and separate three portions of hair along the part.
Separate the hair into three small but equal pieces--a left portion, a middle portion, and a right portion. This hair will make up your braid.
3-2. Cross the left section under the middle section.
Once you do this the left section will become the middle section because you crossed it under. Continue to hold all three sections separately with your fingertips and make sure that they don't come undone.
3-3. Cross the right section under the middle section.
Once you cross the right section under the middle section, the braid should start to form. Pull on the ends of your hair to tighten the braid.
3-4. Continue to braid from the front to the back of your head.
Repeat the process and grab more hair as you continue braiding. Make sure that the amount of hair you're adding to the braid is the same each time so that it looks uniform.
3-5. Tie a rubber band around the end of the braid if necessary.
Tying a rubber band around your hair will hold the braid in place and ensure that it won't come undone. Wrap the rubber band enough times so that it's tight on your braids.
You may not need to use rubber bands if your braids stay in tact without them.
3-6. Braid the rest of your hair.
To get the traditional cornrow look, you'll want to create several braids that run across the top of your head. Each braid should be placed ⁄2–1 inch (1.3–2.5 cm) apart from one another. Once you're done, look in the mirror and make sure that the braids are straight.
4. Creating Different Styles
4-1. Make wavy parts for wavy braids.
Instead of creating straight parts, try to create wavy parts by moving the teeth of the comb side to side as you create the part. Then, braid your hair as you normally would along the part. This will dictate the shape of the braids and can create a cool, wavy effect.
4-2. Get creative with your part placement.
Braided hair isn't limited to cornrows that run from front to back. Once you become proficient at tying braids, try to mix up your part placement. Create parts that run horizontally across your head instead of front to back, or create parts that make shapes on your head for an interesting style.
For example, you can create zig-zag braids or braids that form an X.
4-3. Create a man bun if you have longer hair on the top of your head.
If your head isn't entirely covered in braids, comb your non-braided hair back and tie it to the end of the braid with a rubber band. This will create a topknot, or man bun on the top of your head and will give your braid a fresh and trendy look.
This style works best for hair that's longer than 2–3 inches (5.1–7.6 cm).
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Continue brushing or combing until your hair is smooth and there aren't any knots in it.\\nGetting the knots and tangles out of your hair with a brush or a comb will make braiding it much easier.\\nTo remove stubborn knots and tangles, begin at the ends of your hair and work your way up to the roots.\\n1-3. Create a center part in the middle of your head.\\nUse the teeth of a comb to create a part, from the front of your hair to the back. Drag the teeth of the comb across your head so that it separates the hair into two portions. When done correctly, you'll see a line where your scalp is. Make sure to make this part as straight as possible, as it will affect the placement of the other braids.\\nFrom here on out, braiding your hair will be difficult to do yourself, so you may want to get someone to help.\\n1-4. Part your hair into sections.\\nUse your comb to create additional parts that run parallel to the center part that you created. The hair in between these parts will be the hair that makes up your braids, so keep this in mind as you're parting it.\\nDecide how many braids you want and how large you want the braids to be as you create your parts.\\n1-5. Moisturize your hair.\\nAs you create the parts, hair will start bunching up in one area. Grab these strands of hair and put moisturizer in it. This will soften the strands and make them easier to work with as you braid.\\nShea butter, argan oil, hair butter, leave-in conditioners, and olive oil can all be used as hair moisturizers.\\nYou can purchase moisturizers online or at the salon.\\n1-6. Clip up the different sections of hair.\\nTake the bunched up hair that you just moisturized and hold it in place with a hair clip or bobby pin. Do this with the rest of your hair after it's been moisturized. Once you're done, you should have several visible parts and the hair in between them should be pinned with bobby pins or hair clips.\\n1-7. Choose a braiding style.\\nThe braiding style will depend on how long your hair is. Use a two strand twist if your hair is 1 inch (2.5 cm) or shorter, as creating a Dutch braid is difficult with shorter hair. If you have more than 1 inch (2.5 cm) of hair, you can try a dutch braid style.\\n2. Doing a Two Strand Twist\\n2-1. Take two portions of hair on the front of your head and separate them.\\nThe two portions of hair that you grab should be next to each other and along the edge of a part. The amount of hair that you grab will determine the size of the braid.\\n2-2. Twist one strand of hair over the other strand of hair.\\nTwist one portion of hair over the other. Then, twist the other portion of hair over and around it. Tighten the braid by pulling on both ends of your hair.\\n2-3. Continue to twist your hair to the back of your head.\\nGrab more hair and add it to the braid after every twist. Continue to twist the strands over each other and work towards the back of your head along the part that you created. Every time you make another twist, you should grab a little more hair along the part so that you can extend the braid back.\\nThe more hair you grab, the thicker your braid will be.\\n2-4. Continue twisting the braid to the back of your head.\\nContinue twisting your hair all the way to the back of your head until you don't have any more hair to grab. The braid should be along the part and run across the entire top of your head.\\n2-5. Secure the end of the braid with a rubber band if necessary.\\nDepending on your hair's texture, you may need a rubber band to secure the braid. If your braided hair tends to unravel on its own, take a small hair rubber band and wrap it around the end of the braid until the rubber band is tight.\\n2-6. Braid the rest of your hair.\\nCreate as many braids as you want over your head until you're satisfied. Look in the mirror and see if the braids look good. It may take some practice until you can braid your hair the way that you want.\\n3. Making Cornrows\\n3-1. Grab and separate three portions of hair along the part.\\nSeparate the hair into three small but equal pieces--a left portion, a middle portion, and a right portion. This hair will make up your braid.\\n3-2. Cross the left section under the middle section.\\nOnce you do this the left section will become the middle section because you crossed it under. Continue to hold all three sections separately with your fingertips and make sure that they don't come undone.\\n3-3. Cross the right section under the middle section.\\nOnce you cross the right section under the middle section, the braid should start to form. Pull on the ends of your hair to tighten the braid.\\n3-4. Continue to braid from the front to the back of your head.\\nRepeat the process and grab more hair as you continue braiding. Make sure that the amount of hair you're adding to the braid is the same each time so that it looks uniform.\\n3-5. Tie a rubber band around the end of the braid if necessary.\\nTying a rubber band around your hair will hold the braid in place and ensure that it won't come undone. Wrap the rubber band enough times so that it's tight on your braids.\\nYou may not need to use rubber bands if your braids stay in tact without them.\\n3-6. Braid the rest of your hair.\\nTo get the traditional cornrow look, you'll want to create several braids that run across the top of your head. Each braid should be placed ⁄2–1 inch (1.3–2.5 cm) apart from one another. Once you're done, look in the mirror and make sure that the braids are straight.\\n4. Creating Different Styles\\n4-1. Make wavy parts for wavy braids.\\nInstead of creating straight parts, try to create wavy parts by moving the teeth of the comb side to side as you create the part. Then, braid your hair as you normally would along the part. This will dictate the shape of the braids and can create a cool, wavy effect.\\n4-2. Get creative with your part placement.\\nBraided hair isn't limited to cornrows that run from front to back. Once you become proficient at tying braids, try to mix up your part placement. Create parts that run horizontally across your head instead of front to back, or create parts that make shapes on your head for an interesting style.\\nFor example, you can create zig-zag braids or braids that form an X.\\n4-3. Create a man bun if you have longer hair on the top of your head.\\nIf your head isn't entirely covered in braids, comb your non-braided hair back and tie it to the end of the braid with a rubber band. This will create a topknot, or man bun on the top of your head and will give your braid a fresh and trendy look.\\nThis style works best for hair that's longer than 2–3 inches (5.1–7.6 cm).\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Braiding your hair can be the perfect solution if you want to change up your hairstyle. Two of the most common styles of braids for short hair are the two strand twist and cornrows, otherwise known as the Dutch braid. Sometimes braiding your hair yourself can be difficult, so it's a good idea to have someone there to help you. To braid short hair, you'll need to wash and comb it first, then follow the right steps to braid it in the style that you want.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Preparing Your Hair For Braids\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wash your hair with shampoo and conditioner.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure to wash your scalp with a non-sulfurous clarifying shampoo to get it as clean. Use a moisturizing conditioner to fortify your hair and make it as soft as possible before you braid it.\\nRead the label on the shampoo and conditioner and make sure that it's intended for your hair texture.\\nYou can read the ingredients label to make sure that it doesn't have sulfur.\\nSulfur can dry out and damage your hair, especially if your hair is naturally dry or coarse.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Detangle your hair with a brush or comb.\", \"描述\": \"Brush your hair right after you wash it to get all of the knots and tangles out. Opt for a wide-toothed comb if your hair is more coarse and/or curly. If your hair has dried since you've washed it, you'll need to re-wet it with water by misting it with a spray bottle. 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Make sure to make this part as straight as possible, as it will affect the placement of the other braids.\\nFrom here on out, braiding your hair will be difficult to do yourself, so you may want to get someone to help.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Part your hair into sections.\", \"描述\": \"Use your comb to create additional parts that run parallel to the center part that you created. The hair in between these parts will be the hair that makes up your braids, so keep this in mind as you're parting it.\\nDecide how many braids you want and how large you want the braids to be as you create your parts.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Moisturize your hair.\", \"描述\": \"As you create the parts, hair will start bunching up in one area. Grab these strands of hair and put moisturizer in it. This will soften the strands and make them easier to work with as you braid.\\nShea butter, argan oil, hair butter, leave-in conditioners, and olive oil can all be used as hair moisturizers.\\nYou can purchase moisturizers online or at the salon.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Clip up the different sections of hair.\", \"描述\": \"Take the bunched up hair that you just moisturized and hold it in place with a hair clip or bobby pin. Do this with the rest of your hair after it's been moisturized. Once you're done, you should have several visible parts and the hair in between them should be pinned with bobby pins or hair clips.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Choose a braiding style.\", \"描述\": \"The braiding style will depend on how long your hair is. Use a two strand twist if your hair is 1 inch (2.5 cm) or shorter, as creating a Dutch braid is difficult with shorter hair. If you have more than 1 inch (2.5 cm) of hair, you can try a dutch braid style.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Doing a Two Strand Twist\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take two portions of hair on the front of your head and separate them.\", \"描述\": \"The two portions of hair that you grab should be next to each other and along the edge of a part. The amount of hair that you grab will determine the size of the braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Twist one strand of hair over the other strand of hair.\", \"描述\": \"Twist one portion of hair over the other. Then, twist the other portion of hair over and around it. Tighten the braid by pulling on both ends of your hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Continue to twist your hair to the back of your head.\", \"描述\": \"Grab more hair and add it to the braid after every twist. Continue to twist the strands over each other and work towards the back of your head along the part that you created. Every time you make another twist, you should grab a little more hair along the part so that you can extend the braid back.\\nThe more hair you grab, the thicker your braid will be.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Continue twisting the braid to the back of your head.\", \"描述\": \"Continue twisting your hair all the way to the back of your head until you don't have any more hair to grab. The braid should be along the part and run across the entire top of your head.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Secure the end of the braid with a rubber band if necessary.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on your hair's texture, you may need a rubber band to secure the braid. If your braided hair tends to unravel on its own, take a small hair rubber band and wrap it around the end of the braid until the rubber band is tight.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Braid the rest of your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Create as many braids as you want over your head until you're satisfied. Look in the mirror and see if the braids look good. It may take some practice until you can braid your hair the way that you want.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Making Cornrows\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Grab and separate three portions of hair along the part.\", \"描述\": \"Separate the hair into three small but equal pieces--a left portion, a middle portion, and a right portion. This hair will make up your braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Cross the left section under the middle section.\", \"描述\": \"Once you do this the left section will become the middle section because you crossed it under. Continue to hold all three sections separately with your fingertips and make sure that they don't come undone.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Cross the right section under the middle section.\", \"描述\": \"Once you cross the right section under the middle section, the braid should start to form. Pull on the ends of your hair to tighten the braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Continue to braid from the front to the back of your head.\", \"描述\": \"Repeat the process and grab more hair as you continue braiding. Make sure that the amount of hair you're adding to the braid is the same each time so that it looks uniform.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Tie a rubber band around the end of the braid if necessary.\", \"描述\": \"Tying a rubber band around your hair will hold the braid in place and ensure that it won't come undone. Wrap the rubber band enough times so that it's tight on your braids.\\nYou may not need to use rubber bands if your braids stay in tact without them.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Braid the rest of your hair.\", \"描述\": \"To get the traditional cornrow look, you'll want to create several braids that run across the top of your head. Each braid should be placed ⁄2–1 inch (1.3–2.5 cm) apart from one another. Once you're done, look in the mirror and make sure that the braids are straight.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Creating Different Styles\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make wavy parts for wavy braids.\", \"描述\": \"Instead of creating straight parts, try to create wavy parts by moving the teeth of the comb side to side as you create the part. Then, braid your hair as you normally would along the part. This will dictate the shape of the braids and can create a cool, wavy effect.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get creative with your part placement.\", \"描述\": \"Braided hair isn't limited to cornrows that run from front to back. Once you become proficient at tying braids, try to mix up your part placement. Create parts that run horizontally across your head instead of front to back, or create parts that make shapes on your head for an interesting style.\\nFor example, you can create zig-zag braids or braids that form an X.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Create a man bun if you have longer hair on the top of your head.\", \"描述\": \"If your head isn't entirely covered in braids, comb your non-braided hair back and tie it to the end of the braid with a rubber band. This will create a topknot, or man bun on the top of your head and will give your braid a fresh and trendy look.\\nThis style works best for hair that's longer than 2–3 inches (5.1–7.6 cm).\"}]}]}}",
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1. Braiding Your Natural Hair
1-1. Part and section your hair for braiding.
Use a comb with a rattail end for parting and sectioning—this will help you make super clear, precise parts for clean and distinct braids. Start by making a middle part starting at your forehead and going all the way down the back of your head. Then, create additional sections on each half of your head parallel to your middle part (one section makes one braid). Make your sections about 1 inch (2.5 cm) or so wide for thinner, clean braids (if your hair is longer than 2 inches (5.1 cm), you can try larger sections for larger braids).
Leave enough hair in each section for you to comfortably grip and braid. Make sure the parted section of hair is the same thickness throughout to keep the braid even.
It’s tempting to make big sections (after all, that means less braiding and less time!). However, wide sections make for thicker braids that are more likely to come loose and need to be redone.
Use butterfly or duckbill clips to hold back the sections of hair you aren’t actively braiding.
1-2. Create strands for braiding within a section of hair.
Start with a section on the side of your head closest to your ear. For a traditional braid or cornrow, separate your hair in this section into 3 braiding strands, starting at the edge of your hairline. Braids and twists that hug your scalp will get thicker as you braid since you have to continually add more hair, so make slightly thinner strands than you think you need.
If your hair is thin, you don’t have to braid your edges. Begin the braid about 0.5 inches (1.3 cm) away from your hairline. Use an edge styling brush to clean up your edges if needed.
1-3. Grip your braiding strands and begin braiding.
Use the same braiding pattern you’d use for long hair—the only difference is that your strands will be very short and you’ll gather more hair for each repetition, similar to a French braid:
Grab the outer right strand of hair in your right hand and the other 2 strands in your left hand.
Begin braiding your hair by grabbing the outer left strand with your right index finger and thumb and pulling it under the middle strand (the middle strand can rest on top of your index finger while you do this).
What used to be the middle strand should now be on the outer left, and the original outer left should now be in the middle.
1-4. Complete your first braiding repetition.
Grab the outer right strand with your left index finger and thumb. Pull it under the new middle section to complete your first braid repetition. Grab additional hair every time you grab an outer strand to bring into the middle (just enough to keep your braiding strands the same thickness—about ⅓ of the section’s worth).
Try to grab the same amount of hair each time you move an outer strand to the middle for a uniform braid thickness.
Let the middle strand of hair rest on top of your index fingers during each repetition so you can keep a firm grip on the 2 strands underneath. This helps keep the braid tight and clean and prevents loose hairs from sticking out.
1-5. Keep repeating this process until you run out of hair.
Depending on the length of your natural hair, this could be near the nape of your neck or slightly above. If you notice your strands are getting uneven near the end, gradually add hair from a longer strand into a shorter one as you wrap up.
If needed, tie the ends of each braid with a hair elastic, like a hair tie or tiny rubber band, to prevent them from unraveling.
2. Adding Braided Extensions
2-1. Buy packs of synthetic hair for braiding.
The number of packs you buy depends on how long and thick you want your braids to be (bigger braids mean more hair). Usually, 6 to 8 packs is enough. If you’re not sure how much you need, buy extra packs (you can always save leftover hair for future braids or other styles).
Buy pre-stretched hair to save yourself some prep time.
Buy synthetic hair for braiding online or at most beauty stores.
2-2. Part and section your natural hair into 4 equal quadrants.
Using a rattail comb, start with a middle part from your forehead to the nape of your neck. Then do another part going across the top of your head from ear to ear. Once you have these, section off your hair within each quadrant into equal size sections. Make square-shaped sections about 1.5 inches (3.8 cm) wide for medium-size braids.
Smaller sections result in many thin braids that are close together. Bigger sections will end up as thicker braids that are more spaced out.
The size and number of the smaller sections is up to you—make them as big or small as you like!
Use butterfly or duckbill clips to keep your hair sections secure while you braid.
2-3. Split your synthetic hair into equal-size braiding strands.
Grab a strand of synthetic hair and pull out about ⅓ of it to make a separate strand—this leaves you with a thin strand (the hair you just removed) and a thick strand that is twice as thick as the thin strand. Drape the thin strand over the thick strand and bring the ends of the thin strand together so the thin strand is looped over the thick strand. The end result is 3 braiding strands of equal thickness.
The longer the synthetic hair, the longer the braid. If you want your braid to be shorter than the synthetic hair, trim the end with scissors before you section off the strands.
Thicker braiding strands result in thicker braids.
2-4. Integrate your natural hair into the synthetic braiding strands.
Choose a section of your natural hair and split it into 2 equal strands of hair. Bring your synthetic braiding hair up to your scalp and add your 2 strands of natural hair to 2 of the 3 strands of synthetic hair. You now have 3 strands of hair to braid—1 that’s fully synthetic, and 2 that have your natural hair incorporated.
The 3 strands of braiding hair should be about equal in size.
To help grip the synthetic hair, try twisting your natural hair strands into “U” shapes around the synthetic strands. Keep firm tension on the strands while you do the first several braid repetitions to secure the extension.
If your hair is thin, you don’t have to braid your edges in the sections near your hairline. Begin the braid about 0.5 inches (1.3 cm) away from your hairline. Use an edge styling brush to clean up your edges if needed.
2-5. Begin braiding your synthetic hair firmly and close to the scalp.
The shorter your natural hair is, the more tight and precise your first few braid repetitions need to be so that the synthetic hair can latch on. Use a standard, 3-strand braiding pattern. Continue braiding all the way to the end of the synthetic hair:
Hold 2 strands of hair in one hand and grab the third with your index finger and thumb in the other. Pull the third strand under the middle strand. What used to be the middle strand should now be on the outside, and the original outer strand should now be in the middle.
Then pull the outer strand from the other side underneath the new middle strand.
Keep repeating this process until you run out of hair.
Be careful not to start your braid too tight. You want it to be firm and secure, but braiding too tightly can cause breakage, pain, or other damage to your natural hair.
2-6. Use a hair elastic to secure the end of your braid if needed.
If you bought pre-stretched hair and didn’t cut the ends, you probably don’t need elastic—the ends are already feathered, so they should taper away nicely and stay braided.
Once the first braid is complete, repeat the entire process for each section of hair until you have a full head of beautiful braids!
2-7. Dip your braids in hot water to seal them.
Boil some water and pour it into a large bowl. Carefully dip the ends of your braids in the water while it’s still hot to remove frizziness and prevent the ends of the braids from unraveling. If you used hair elastic to keep your braids together, you can remove them after this sealing treatment.
Hold the braids in the hot water for about 15 seconds—any longer and you risk melting or damaging the synthetic hair.
Use scissors to cut any wispy or frizzy ends off of the extensions.
Synthetic braids normally last about 6 to 8 weeks. Even if they still look great after 8 weeks, take them out to let your natural hair rest and heal.
3. Prepping Your Hair for Healthy Braids
3-1. Wash and condition your hair the day before braiding.
Once your hair is braided, you won’t be able to clean most of your natural hair for several weeks (or until you de-braid). Make sure your natural hair is clean and nourished before styling to keep it healthy while it’s braided.
If you have weak hair or dandruff, treat your hair with protein or dandruff shampoo for about 2 weeks before braiding for maximum health.
Use a clarifying shampoo to get rid of any buildup on your hair. Shampoos with sulfates (SLS) might strip too much moisture from your hair, so look for products with natural ingredients like apple cider vinegar instead.
3-2. Deep condition your hair to add extra strength and moisture.
This is your last chance to give your hair any nutrients it might need to stay strong before you braid. You don’t have to use an overnight conditioner—as long as you let it sit for at least 20 minutes, you’re good to go.
If you want to skip this step, try a leave-in conditioning treatment a few hours before you braid.
This step adds extra slip to your hair strands, which makes installing synthetic braids easier.
3-3. Detangle your hair thoroughly before braiding.
Detangled hair is easier to work with during braiding and is easier to detangle while you take your braids out, too. Use a wide-toothed comb while your hair is damp (not too wet or completely dry) to prevent breakage.
Comb your hair in separated sections to further prevent breakage. Condition your hair before combing to reduce friction, too.
If your hair is long enough to hang, start detangling at the ends and work your way up toward the scalp.
3-4. Stretch your hair out to prevent frizz.
If your hair has natural curls, straighten them out to make your braids super smooth. After washing, blowdry your hair in sections with a paddle brush to stretch it out. Treat your hair with a heat protector beforehand—look for products with avocado, coconut, grape seed, olive, or sunflower oil.
If you don’t want to use heat and your hair is long enough, moisturize your hair after washing and then style it into loose braids or buns and let it air dry.
Tips
If you add spray-on or leave-in moisturizer or conditioner before braiding, use a wide-toothed comb to evenly distribute the product all over your hair. Make sure the ends are totally covered.
If you’re installing synthetic braids, use a water-based hydrating spray all over your hair (from root to ends) to maintain your braids. Apply light oil to your scalp as needed and sleep with a silk headscarf to keep everything in place.
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However, wide sections make for thicker braids that are more likely to come loose and need to be redone.\\nUse butterfly or duckbill clips to hold back the sections of hair you aren’t actively braiding.\\n1-2. Create strands for braiding within a section of hair.\\nStart with a section on the side of your head closest to your ear. For a traditional braid or cornrow, separate your hair in this section into 3 braiding strands, starting at the edge of your hairline. Braids and twists that hug your scalp will get thicker as you braid since you have to continually add more hair, so make slightly thinner strands than you think you need.\\nIf your hair is thin, you don’t have to braid your edges. Begin the braid about 0.5 inches (1.3 cm) away from your hairline. Use an edge styling brush to clean up your edges if needed.\\n1-3. Grip your braiding strands and begin braiding.\\nUse the same braiding pattern you’d use for long hair—the only difference is that your strands will be very short and you’ll gather more hair for each repetition, similar to a French braid:\\nGrab the outer right strand of hair in your right hand and the other 2 strands in your left hand.\\nBegin braiding your hair by grabbing the outer left strand with your right index finger and thumb and pulling it under the middle strand (the middle strand can rest on top of your index finger while you do this).\\nWhat used to be the middle strand should now be on the outer left, and the original outer left should now be in the middle.\\n1-4. Complete your first braiding repetition.\\nGrab the outer right strand with your left index finger and thumb. Pull it under the new middle section to complete your first braid repetition. Grab additional hair every time you grab an outer strand to bring into the middle (just enough to keep your braiding strands the same thickness—about ⅓ of the section’s worth).\\nTry to grab the same amount of hair each time you move an outer strand to the middle for a uniform braid thickness.\\nLet the middle strand of hair rest on top of your index fingers during each repetition so you can keep a firm grip on the 2 strands underneath. This helps keep the braid tight and clean and prevents loose hairs from sticking out.\\n1-5. Keep repeating this process until you run out of hair.\\nDepending on the length of your natural hair, this could be near the nape of your neck or slightly above. If you notice your strands are getting uneven near the end, gradually add hair from a longer strand into a shorter one as you wrap up.\\nIf needed, tie the ends of each braid with a hair elastic, like a hair tie or tiny rubber band, to prevent them from unraveling.\\n2. Adding Braided Extensions\\n2-1. Buy packs of synthetic hair for braiding.\\nThe number of packs you buy depends on how long and thick you want your braids to be (bigger braids mean more hair). Usually, 6 to 8 packs is enough. If you’re not sure how much you need, buy extra packs (you can always save leftover hair for future braids or other styles).\\nBuy pre-stretched hair to save yourself some prep time.\\nBuy synthetic hair for braiding online or at most beauty stores.\\n2-2. Part and section your natural hair into 4 equal quadrants.\\nUsing a rattail comb, start with a middle part from your forehead to the nape of your neck. Then do another part going across the top of your head from ear to ear. Once you have these, section off your hair within each quadrant into equal size sections. Make square-shaped sections about 1.5 inches (3.8 cm) wide for medium-size braids.\\nSmaller sections result in many thin braids that are close together. Bigger sections will end up as thicker braids that are more spaced out.\\nThe size and number of the smaller sections is up to you—make them as big or small as you like!\\nUse butterfly or duckbill clips to keep your hair sections secure while you braid.\\n2-3. Split your synthetic hair into equal-size braiding strands.\\nGrab a strand of synthetic hair and pull out about ⅓ of it to make a separate strand—this leaves you with a thin strand (the hair you just removed) and a thick strand that is twice as thick as the thin strand. Drape the thin strand over the thick strand and bring the ends of the thin strand together so the thin strand is looped over the thick strand. The end result is 3 braiding strands of equal thickness.\\nThe longer the synthetic hair, the longer the braid. If you want your braid to be shorter than the synthetic hair, trim the end with scissors before you section off the strands.\\nThicker braiding strands result in thicker braids.\\n2-4. Integrate your natural hair into the synthetic braiding strands.\\nChoose a section of your natural hair and split it into 2 equal strands of hair. Bring your synthetic braiding hair up to your scalp and add your 2 strands of natural hair to 2 of the 3 strands of synthetic hair. You now have 3 strands of hair to braid—1 that’s fully synthetic, and 2 that have your natural hair incorporated.\\nThe 3 strands of braiding hair should be about equal in size.\\nTo help grip the synthetic hair, try twisting your natural hair strands into “U” shapes around the synthetic strands. Keep firm tension on the strands while you do the first several braid repetitions to secure the extension.\\nIf your hair is thin, you don’t have to braid your edges in the sections near your hairline. Begin the braid about 0.5 inches (1.3 cm) away from your hairline. Use an edge styling brush to clean up your edges if needed.\\n2-5. Begin braiding your synthetic hair firmly and close to the scalp.\\nThe shorter your natural hair is, the more tight and precise your first few braid repetitions need to be so that the synthetic hair can latch on. Use a standard, 3-strand braiding pattern. Continue braiding all the way to the end of the synthetic hair:\\nHold 2 strands of hair in one hand and grab the third with your index finger and thumb in the other. Pull the third strand under the middle strand. What used to be the middle strand should now be on the outside, and the original outer strand should now be in the middle.\\nThen pull the outer strand from the other side underneath the new middle strand.\\nKeep repeating this process until you run out of hair.\\nBe careful not to start your braid too tight. You want it to be firm and secure, but braiding too tightly can cause breakage, pain, or other damage to your natural hair.\\n2-6. Use a hair elastic to secure the end of your braid if needed.\\nIf you bought pre-stretched hair and didn’t cut the ends, you probably don’t need elastic—the ends are already feathered, so they should taper away nicely and stay braided.\\nOnce the first braid is complete, repeat the entire process for each section of hair until you have a full head of beautiful braids!\\n2-7. Dip your braids in hot water to seal them.\\nBoil some water and pour it into a large bowl. Carefully dip the ends of your braids in the water while it’s still hot to remove frizziness and prevent the ends of the braids from unraveling. If you used hair elastic to keep your braids together, you can remove them after this sealing treatment.\\nHold the braids in the hot water for about 15 seconds—any longer and you risk melting or damaging the synthetic hair.\\nUse scissors to cut any wispy or frizzy ends off of the extensions.\\nSynthetic braids normally last about 6 to 8 weeks. Even if they still look great after 8 weeks, take them out to let your natural hair rest and heal.\\n3. Prepping Your Hair for Healthy Braids\\n3-1. Wash and condition your hair the day before braiding.\\nOnce your hair is braided, you won’t be able to clean most of your natural hair for several weeks (or until you de-braid). Make sure your natural hair is clean and nourished before styling to keep it healthy while it’s braided.\\nIf you have weak hair or dandruff, treat your hair with protein or dandruff shampoo for about 2 weeks before braiding for maximum health.\\nUse a clarifying shampoo to get rid of any buildup on your hair. Shampoos with sulfates (SLS) might strip too much moisture from your hair, so look for products with natural ingredients like apple cider vinegar instead.\\n3-2. Deep condition your hair to add extra strength and moisture.\\nThis is your last chance to give your hair any nutrients it might need to stay strong before you braid. You don’t have to use an overnight conditioner—as long as you let it sit for at least 20 minutes, you’re good to go.\\nIf you want to skip this step, try a leave-in conditioning treatment a few hours before you braid.\\nThis step adds extra slip to your hair strands, which makes installing synthetic braids easier.\\n3-3. Detangle your hair thoroughly before braiding.\\nDetangled hair is easier to work with during braiding and is easier to detangle while you take your braids out, too. Use a wide-toothed comb while your hair is damp (not too wet or completely dry) to prevent breakage.\\nComb your hair in separated sections to further prevent breakage. Condition your hair before combing to reduce friction, too.\\nIf your hair is long enough to hang, start detangling at the ends and work your way up toward the scalp.\\n3-4. Stretch your hair out to prevent frizz.\\nIf your hair has natural curls, straighten them out to make your braids super smooth. After washing, blowdry your hair in sections with a paddle brush to stretch it out. Treat your hair with a heat protector beforehand—look for products with avocado, coconut, grape seed, olive, or sunflower oil.\\nIf you don’t want to use heat and your hair is long enough, moisturize your hair after washing and then style it into loose braids or buns and let it air dry.\\nTips\\nIf you add spray-on or leave-in moisturizer or conditioner before braiding, use a wide-toothed comb to evenly distribute the product all over your hair. Make sure the ends are totally covered.\\nIf you’re installing synthetic braids, use a water-based hydrating spray all over your hair (from root to ends) to maintain your braids. Apply light oil to your scalp as needed and sleep with a silk headscarf to keep everything in place.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Braids are a fun, flattering, and low-maintenance hairstyle, but how can you make them work when your natural hair is short? Braids are super versatile—you can use them to make eye-catching patterns with your natural hair or add braided extensions to play with longer styles. Whether you want to rock scalp-hugging braids like cornrows or attach long, luscious synthetic locks to your natural hair, this is the article for you! Read on to learn to prepare your hair for braiding, braid short hair without adding extensions, and attach long synthetic braids to your natural hair.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Braiding Your Natural Hair\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Part and section your hair for braiding.\", \"描述\": \"Use a comb with a rattail end for parting and sectioning—this will help you make super clear, precise parts for clean and distinct braids. Start by making a middle part starting at your forehead and going all the way down the back of your head. Then, create additional sections on each half of your head parallel to your middle part (one section makes one braid). Make your sections about 1 inch (2.5 cm) or so wide for thinner, clean braids (if your hair is longer than 2 inches (5.1 cm), you can try larger sections for larger braids).\\nLeave enough hair in each section for you to comfortably grip and braid. Make sure the parted section of hair is the same thickness throughout to keep the braid even.\\nIt’s tempting to make big sections (after all, that means less braiding and less time!). However, wide sections make for thicker braids that are more likely to come loose and need to be redone.\\nUse butterfly or duckbill clips to hold back the sections of hair you aren’t actively braiding.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Create strands for braiding within a section of hair.\", \"描述\": \"Start with a section on the side of your head closest to your ear. For a traditional braid or cornrow, separate your hair in this section into 3 braiding strands, starting at the edge of your hairline. Braids and twists that hug your scalp will get thicker as you braid since you have to continually add more hair, so make slightly thinner strands than you think you need.\\nIf your hair is thin, you don’t have to braid your edges. Begin the braid about 0.5 inches (1.3 cm) away from your hairline. Use an edge styling brush to clean up your edges if needed.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Grip your braiding strands and begin braiding.\", \"描述\": \"Use the same braiding pattern you’d use for long hair—the only difference is that your strands will be very short and you’ll gather more hair for each repetition, similar to a French braid:\\nGrab the outer right strand of hair in your right hand and the other 2 strands in your left hand.\\nBegin braiding your hair by grabbing the outer left strand with your right index finger and thumb and pulling it under the middle strand (the middle strand can rest on top of your index finger while you do this).\\nWhat used to be the middle strand should now be on the outer left, and the original outer left should now be in the middle.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Complete your first braiding repetition.\", \"描述\": \"Grab the outer right strand with your left index finger and thumb. Pull it under the new middle section to complete your first braid repetition. Grab additional hair every time you grab an outer strand to bring into the middle (just enough to keep your braiding strands the same thickness—about ⅓ of the section’s worth).\\nTry to grab the same amount of hair each time you move an outer strand to the middle for a uniform braid thickness.\\nLet the middle strand of hair rest on top of your index fingers during each repetition so you can keep a firm grip on the 2 strands underneath. This helps keep the braid tight and clean and prevents loose hairs from sticking out.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Keep repeating this process until you run out of hair.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on the length of your natural hair, this could be near the nape of your neck or slightly above. If you notice your strands are getting uneven near the end, gradually add hair from a longer strand into a shorter one as you wrap up.\\nIf needed, tie the ends of each braid with a hair elastic, like a hair tie or tiny rubber band, to prevent them from unraveling.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Adding Braided Extensions\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Buy packs of synthetic hair for braiding.\", \"描述\": \"The number of packs you buy depends on how long and thick you want your braids to be (bigger braids mean more hair). Usually, 6 to 8 packs is enough. If you’re not sure how much you need, buy extra packs (you can always save leftover hair for future braids or other styles).\\nBuy pre-stretched hair to save yourself some prep time.\\nBuy synthetic hair for braiding online or at most beauty stores.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Part and section your natural hair into 4 equal quadrants.\", \"描述\": \"Using a rattail comb, start with a middle part from your forehead to the nape of your neck. Then do another part going across the top of your head from ear to ear. Once you have these, section off your hair within each quadrant into equal size sections. Make square-shaped sections about 1.5 inches (3.8 cm) wide for medium-size braids.\\nSmaller sections result in many thin braids that are close together. Bigger sections will end up as thicker braids that are more spaced out.\\nThe size and number of the smaller sections is up to you—make them as big or small as you like!\\nUse butterfly or duckbill clips to keep your hair sections secure while you braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Split your synthetic hair into equal-size braiding strands.\", \"描述\": \"Grab a strand of synthetic hair and pull out about ⅓ of it to make a separate strand—this leaves you with a thin strand (the hair you just removed) and a thick strand that is twice as thick as the thin strand. Drape the thin strand over the thick strand and bring the ends of the thin strand together so the thin strand is looped over the thick strand. The end result is 3 braiding strands of equal thickness.\\nThe longer the synthetic hair, the longer the braid. If you want your braid to be shorter than the synthetic hair, trim the end with scissors before you section off the strands.\\nThicker braiding strands result in thicker braids.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Integrate your natural hair into the synthetic braiding strands.\", \"描述\": \"Choose a section of your natural hair and split it into 2 equal strands of hair. Bring your synthetic braiding hair up to your scalp and add your 2 strands of natural hair to 2 of the 3 strands of synthetic hair. You now have 3 strands of hair to braid—1 that’s fully synthetic, and 2 that have your natural hair incorporated.\\nThe 3 strands of braiding hair should be about equal in size.\\nTo help grip the synthetic hair, try twisting your natural hair strands into “U” shapes around the synthetic strands. Keep firm tension on the strands while you do the first several braid repetitions to secure the extension.\\nIf your hair is thin, you don’t have to braid your edges in the sections near your hairline. Begin the braid about 0.5 inches (1.3 cm) away from your hairline. Use an edge styling brush to clean up your edges if needed.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Begin braiding your synthetic hair firmly and close to the scalp.\", \"描述\": \"The shorter your natural hair is, the more tight and precise your first few braid repetitions need to be so that the synthetic hair can latch on. Use a standard, 3-strand braiding pattern. Continue braiding all the way to the end of the synthetic hair:\\nHold 2 strands of hair in one hand and grab the third with your index finger and thumb in the other. Pull the third strand under the middle strand. What used to be the middle strand should now be on the outside, and the original outer strand should now be in the middle.\\nThen pull the outer strand from the other side underneath the new middle strand.\\nKeep repeating this process until you run out of hair.\\nBe careful not to start your braid too tight. You want it to be firm and secure, but braiding too tightly can cause breakage, pain, or other damage to your natural hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Use a hair elastic to secure the end of your braid if needed.\", \"描述\": \"If you bought pre-stretched hair and didn’t cut the ends, you probably don’t need elastic—the ends are already feathered, so they should taper away nicely and stay braided.\\nOnce the first braid is complete, repeat the entire process for each section of hair until you have a full head of beautiful braids!\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Dip your braids in hot water to seal them.\", \"描述\": \"Boil some water and pour it into a large bowl. Carefully dip the ends of your braids in the water while it’s still hot to remove frizziness and prevent the ends of the braids from unraveling. If you used hair elastic to keep your braids together, you can remove them after this sealing treatment.\\nHold the braids in the hot water for about 15 seconds—any longer and you risk melting or damaging the synthetic hair.\\nUse scissors to cut any wispy or frizzy ends off of the extensions.\\nSynthetic braids normally last about 6 to 8 weeks. Even if they still look great after 8 weeks, take them out to let your natural hair rest and heal.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Prepping Your Hair for Healthy Braids\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wash and condition your hair the day before braiding.\", \"描述\": \"Once your hair is braided, you won’t be able to clean most of your natural hair for several weeks (or until you de-braid). Make sure your natural hair is clean and nourished before styling to keep it healthy while it’s braided.\\nIf you have weak hair or dandruff, treat your hair with protein or dandruff shampoo for about 2 weeks before braiding for maximum health.\\nUse a clarifying shampoo to get rid of any buildup on your hair. Shampoos with sulfates (SLS) might strip too much moisture from your hair, so look for products with natural ingredients like apple cider vinegar instead.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Deep condition your hair to add extra strength and moisture.\", \"描述\": \"This is your last chance to give your hair any nutrients it might need to stay strong before you braid. You don’t have to use an overnight conditioner—as long as you let it sit for at least 20 minutes, you’re good to go.\\nIf you want to skip this step, try a leave-in conditioning treatment a few hours before you braid.\\nThis step adds extra slip to your hair strands, which makes installing synthetic braids easier.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Detangle your hair thoroughly before braiding.\", \"描述\": \"Detangled hair is easier to work with during braiding and is easier to detangle while you take your braids out, too. Use a wide-toothed comb while your hair is damp (not too wet or completely dry) to prevent breakage.\\nComb your hair in separated sections to further prevent breakage. Condition your hair before combing to reduce friction, too.\\nIf your hair is long enough to hang, start detangling at the ends and work your way up toward the scalp.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stretch your hair out to prevent frizz.\", \"描述\": \"If your hair has natural curls, straighten them out to make your braids super smooth. After washing, blowdry your hair in sections with a paddle brush to stretch it out. Treat your hair with a heat protector beforehand—look for products with avocado, coconut, grape seed, olive, or sunflower oil.\\nIf you don’t want to use heat and your hair is long enough, moisturize your hair after washing and then style it into loose braids or buns and let it air dry.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If you add spray-on or leave-in moisturizer or conditioner before braiding, use a wide-toothed comb to evenly distribute the product all over your hair. Make sure the ends are totally covered.\\n\", \"If you’re installing synthetic braids, use a water-based hydrating spray all over your hair (from root to ends) to maintain your braids. Apply light oil to your scalp as needed and sleep with a silk headscarf to keep everything in place.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Braid String
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1. Making a Basic 3-Strand Braid
1-1. Decide your braid's length.
Figure out the length of your braid. Add on an extra 1/3 of that measurement to get your cutting length. This is how long you'll need to cut your string. For example:
Desired length: 24 inches (61 cm)
24 divided by 3 = 8 inches (20 cm)
24 + 8 = 32 inches (81 cm)
32 inches (81 cm) = cutting length
1-2. Cut 3 pieces of string based on your measurements.
Use the same color for each strand of string, or use different colors. For a fancier braid, cut 6 or 9 strings instead, then divide them into 3 groups. For example, you can do 3 pink strings, 3 purple strings, and 3 magenta strings.
Embroidery floss is a popular choice, but you can use other types of string, such as yarn or leather cording.
1-3. Knot your strings together.
Gather the ends of your strings together. Treating them as a single strand, coil them into a loop, then pull the ends through the loop. This will make the knot. Keep the knot 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) from the string end.https://www.wikihow.com/Braid-String Tape the string above the knot to a flat surface, such as a table.
1-4. Separate your string into 3 strands or groups.
1 strand to the left, 1 in the middle, and 1 on the right. With multiple strands of color, group the strands by color instead. For example, place the pink strings to the left, the purple strings in the middle, and all the magenta strings to the right.
1-5. Start the braid.
Take the left string and cross it over the middle string. Take the right string and cross it over the new middle string. Again, if you have multiple strings of each color, treat that color group as a single string.
For example, if you have 3 pink, 3 purple, and 3 magenta strings, cross all of the pink strings over all of the purple strings.
1-6. Maintain a consistent tension.
Give the strings a gentle tug to tighten the strings as you braid. Repeat the process until you reach the length you want, or until you have 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) left.
1-7. Fasten the braid end into a knot.
Coil the braid end into a loop, then pull the tails through the loop. Tug on the tails to tighten the knot, then trim off the left over strands,
1-8. Remove the tape from the start of the braid.
You can now use the braid for the craft project you created it for. If this is a bracelet, wrap the braid around your wrist and tie the ends together into a double-knot.
2. Creating a 4-Strand Braid
2-1. Decide your braid's length.
Add an extra 1/3 of that measurement. to get your cutting length. For example:
Desired length: 12 inches (30 cm)
12 divided by 3 = 4 inches (10 cm)
12 + 4 = 16 inches (41 cm)
16 inches (41 cm) = cutting length
2-2. Cut 4 pieces of string based on your measurement.
Embroidery floss is a great choice here, but you can use other types of string, like jute or yarn. Use the same color for all 4 strands, or you can use different colors.
For a wider 4-strand braid, cut 8 to 12 strands. These strands are divided into 4 groups later on.
2-3. Knot the strings together, then tape them to a flat surface.
Gather the strings together, then tie an overhand knot 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) from the end. Tape the strings to a flat surface, like a desk, just above the knot.
An overhand knot is formed when you coil the string into a loop, then pull the end through the loop.
2-4. Divide the strings into 4 groups.
2 strings to the left and 2 strings to the right. With 8 to 12 strings, you still divide the strings into 4 groups. Each color group is worked as a single strand from now on.
2-5. Begin braiding.
Starting from the left, mentally number the strings 1 through 4. Cross the 1st string on the left over the 2nd string.
2-6. Continue the braid.
Cross the last string on the right under the 3rd string. Re-number your strings 1 through 4. Take string number 4, and cross it under string number 3.
2-7. Cross the 3rd string over the 2nd string.
Re-number your strings one last time. Take string number 3, and cross it over string number 2. This process is a little bit like weaving.
2-8. Repeat the process, starting from the 1st string on the left.
Cross the 1st string over the middle string. Cross the 4th string under the 3rd string. Cross the new 3rd string over the new left string. Continue until your braid is the length you want, or until you have 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) left.
Every so often, give all of your strings a tug so that your braid comes out nice and neat.
2-9. Knot the end of the braid, then cut the rest off.
Just like the braid start, tie the end of your braid into an overhand knot. If a lot of string is leftover, cut it off.
2-10. Remove the tape from the start of the braid.
To wear this as a bracelet, wrap the braid around your wrist, then have someone tie the ends together into a double-knot for you.
3. Doing a 5-Strand Braid
3-1. Cut 5 pieces of 32-inch (81-cm) length of string.
Use the same color for each string, or use different colors. For a wider braid, cut 10 pieces of string; you will still be creating a 5-strand braid, but using 2 strings for each strand..
You can use this method to create a 7-strand braid.
Embroidery floss works great for this, but you can also use yarn. Thicker string, such as jute or leather, is not recommended because of its bulk.
3-2. Knot your strings together.
Gather the ends of your strings. Treating them as a single strand, coil them into a loop, then pull the ends through the loop. This will make the knot. Keep the knot 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) from the string end. Tape the string above the knot to a flat surface, such as a desk or table.
3-3. Divide your string into 5 groups.
When using 10 strings for a thicker braid, divide them into 5 groups of 2 strands each. Treat each group as a single strand.
3-4. Weave the first string under and over the next 2 strings.
Take the 1st string on the left. Cross it under the 2nd and over the 3rd string. Drop it between the 3rd and 4th strings.
For a dovetail look, cross the first strand over the next 2 strands and drop it in the center.
If working a 7-strand braid, do the step above, then cross the string over the 4th string.
3-5. Weave the last string under and over the previous 2 strings.
Number your strings 1 through 5. Take string number 5, and weave it under string number 4. Cross it over string number 3, and drop it between strings 2 and 3.
For a dovetail look, cross the last strand over the previous 2 strands and drop it in the center.
For a 7-strand braid, complete the above step, then cross the string under the fourth string.
3-6. Repeat the process until you get the length you want.
Alternate between weaving the left and right strings towards the middle. Always start with the first string on the left and the last string on the right. Keep the strings flat and do not let them twist.
You can braid all the way to the end of the string, or you can stop whenever you want to.
If using all the string, leave 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) at the end for tying the knot.
3-7. Tie the end of the braid into an overhand knot.
This is the same knot that is used at the start of the braid. If any extra string is left over, you can cut it off.
3-8. Peel the tape off.
You can now use the braid for whatever craft project you made it for. You can even wrap it around your wrist and tie the ends into a double-knot.
Tips
Embroidery floss is a popular choice, but you can also use hemp, jute, leather, ribbon, rope, strips of cloth, or yarn.[19]
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Research source
When using multiple strings per strand, be careful not to let them twist. Keep the strands flat so that they are visible at all times.[20]
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Add beads to the outer strands before you cross them over for a fancier look.
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Keep the knot 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) from the string end.https://www.wikihow.com/Braid-String Tape the string above the knot to a flat surface, such as a table.\\n1-4. Separate your string into 3 strands or groups.\\n1 strand to the left, 1 in the middle, and 1 on the right. With multiple strands of color, group the strands by color instead. For example, place the pink strings to the left, the purple strings in the middle, and all the magenta strings to the right.\\n1-5. Start the braid.\\nTake the left string and cross it over the middle string. Take the right string and cross it over the new middle string. Again, if you have multiple strings of each color, treat that color group as a single string.\\nFor example, if you have 3 pink, 3 purple, and 3 magenta strings, cross all of the pink strings over all of the purple strings.\\n1-6. Maintain a consistent tension.\\nGive the strings a gentle tug to tighten the strings as you braid. Repeat the process until you reach the length you want, or until you have 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) left.\\n1-7. Fasten the braid end into a knot.\\nCoil the braid end into a loop, then pull the tails through the loop. Tug on the tails to tighten the knot, then trim off the left over strands,\\n1-8. Remove the tape from the start of the braid.\\nYou can now use the braid for the craft project you created it for. If this is a bracelet, wrap the braid around your wrist and tie the ends together into a double-knot.\\n2. Creating a 4-Strand Braid\\n2-1. Decide your braid's length.\\nAdd an extra 1/3 of that measurement. to get your cutting length. For example:\\nDesired length: 12 inches (30 cm)\\n12 divided by 3 = 4 inches (10 cm)\\n12 + 4 = 16 inches (41 cm)\\n16 inches (41 cm) = cutting length\\n2-2. Cut 4 pieces of string based on your measurement.\\nEmbroidery floss is a great choice here, but you can use other types of string, like jute or yarn. Use the same color for all 4 strands, or you can use different colors.\\nFor a wider 4-strand braid, cut 8 to 12 strands. These strands are divided into 4 groups later on.\\n2-3. Knot the strings together, then tape them to a flat surface.\\nGather the strings together, then tie an overhand knot 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) from the end. Tape the strings to a flat surface, like a desk, just above the knot.\\nAn overhand knot is formed when you coil the string into a loop, then pull the end through the loop.\\n2-4. Divide the strings into 4 groups.\\n2 strings to the left and 2 strings to the right. With 8 to 12 strings, you still divide the strings into 4 groups. Each color group is worked as a single strand from now on.\\n2-5. Begin braiding.\\nStarting from the left, mentally number the strings 1 through 4. Cross the 1st string on the left over the 2nd string.\\n2-6. Continue the braid.\\nCross the last string on the right under the 3rd string. Re-number your strings 1 through 4. Take string number 4, and cross it under string number 3.\\n2-7. Cross the 3rd string over the 2nd string.\\nRe-number your strings one last time. Take string number 3, and cross it over string number 2. This process is a little bit like weaving.\\n2-8. Repeat the process, starting from the 1st string on the left.\\nCross the 1st string over the middle string. Cross the 4th string under the 3rd string. Cross the new 3rd string over the new left string. Continue until your braid is the length you want, or until you have 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) left.\\nEvery so often, give all of your strings a tug so that your braid comes out nice and neat.\\n2-9. Knot the end of the braid, then cut the rest off.\\nJust like the braid start, tie the end of your braid into an overhand knot. If a lot of string is leftover, cut it off.\\n2-10. Remove the tape from the start of the braid.\\nTo wear this as a bracelet, wrap the braid around your wrist, then have someone tie the ends together into a double-knot for you.\\n3. Doing a 5-Strand Braid\\n3-1. Cut 5 pieces of 32-inch (81-cm) length of string.\\nUse the same color for each string, or use different colors. For a wider braid, cut 10 pieces of string; you will still be creating a 5-strand braid, but using 2 strings for each strand..\\nYou can use this method to create a 7-strand braid.\\nEmbroidery floss works great for this, but you can also use yarn. Thicker string, such as jute or leather, is not recommended because of its bulk.\\n3-2. Knot your strings together.\\nGather the ends of your strings. Treating them as a single strand, coil them into a loop, then pull the ends through the loop. This will make the knot. Keep the knot 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) from the string end. Tape the string above the knot to a flat surface, such as a desk or table.\\n3-3. Divide your string into 5 groups.\\nWhen using 10 strings for a thicker braid, divide them into 5 groups of 2 strands each. Treat each group as a single strand.\\n3-4. Weave the first string under and over the next 2 strings.\\nTake the 1st string on the left. Cross it under the 2nd and over the 3rd string. Drop it between the 3rd and 4th strings.\\nFor a dovetail look, cross the first strand over the next 2 strands and drop it in the center.\\nIf working a 7-strand braid, do the step above, then cross the string over the 4th string.\\n3-5. Weave the last string under and over the previous 2 strings.\\nNumber your strings 1 through 5. Take string number 5, and weave it under string number 4. Cross it over string number 3, and drop it between strings 2 and 3.\\nFor a dovetail look, cross the last strand over the previous 2 strands and drop it in the center.\\nFor a 7-strand braid, complete the above step, then cross the string under the fourth string.\\n3-6. Repeat the process until you get the length you want.\\nAlternate between weaving the left and right strings towards the middle. Always start with the first string on the left and the last string on the right. Keep the strings flat and do not let them twist.\\nYou can braid all the way to the end of the string, or you can stop whenever you want to.\\nIf using all the string, leave 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) at the end for tying the knot.\\n3-7. Tie the end of the braid into an overhand knot.\\nThis is the same knot that is used at the start of the braid. If any extra string is left over, you can cut it off.\\n3-8. Peel the tape off.\\nYou can now use the braid for whatever craft project you made it for. You can even wrap it around your wrist and tie the ends into a double-knot.\\nTips\\nEmbroidery floss is a popular choice, but you can also use hemp, jute, leather, ribbon, rope, strips of cloth, or yarn.[19]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nWhen using multiple strings per strand, be careful not to let them twist. Keep the strands flat so that they are visible at all times.[20]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nAdd beads to the outer strands before you cross them over for a fancier look.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Braided string creates a strong, thin cord to use in jewelry or other crafts. Learning to braid with string is a great way to test out new types of braids before working it with other materials like hair, rope or ribbon. Try your hand with 3-, 4-, and 5-strand braids and in multiple colors once you master the technique.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Making a Basic 3-Strand Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Decide your braid's length.\", \"描述\": \"Figure out the length of your braid. 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Again, if you have multiple strings of each color, treat that color group as a single string.\\nFor example, if you have 3 pink, 3 purple, and 3 magenta strings, cross all of the pink strings over all of the purple strings.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Maintain a consistent tension.\", \"描述\": \"Give the strings a gentle tug to tighten the strings as you braid. Repeat the process until you reach the length you want, or until you have 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) left.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Fasten the braid end into a knot.\", \"描述\": \"Coil the braid end into a loop, then pull the tails through the loop. Tug on the tails to tighten the knot, then trim off the left over strands,\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Remove the tape from the start of the braid.\", \"描述\": \"You can now use the braid for the craft project you created it for. If this is a bracelet, wrap the braid around your wrist and tie the ends together into a double-knot.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Creating a 4-Strand Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Decide your braid's length.\", \"描述\": \"Add an extra 1/3 of that measurement. to get your cutting length. For example:\\nDesired length: 12 inches (30 cm)\\n12 divided by 3 = 4 inches (10 cm)\\n12 + 4 = 16 inches (41 cm)\\n16 inches (41 cm) = cutting length\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Cut 4 pieces of string based on your measurement.\", \"描述\": \"Embroidery floss is a great choice here, but you can use other types of string, like jute or yarn. Use the same color for all 4 strands, or you can use different colors.\\nFor a wider 4-strand braid, cut 8 to 12 strands. These strands are divided into 4 groups later on.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Knot the strings together, then tape them to a flat surface.\", \"描述\": \"Gather the strings together, then tie an overhand knot 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) from the end. Tape the strings to a flat surface, like a desk, just above the knot.\\nAn overhand knot is formed when you coil the string into a loop, then pull the end through the loop.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Divide the strings into 4 groups.\", \"描述\": \"2 strings to the left and 2 strings to the right. With 8 to 12 strings, you still divide the strings into 4 groups. Each color group is worked as a single strand from now on.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Begin braiding.\", \"描述\": \"Starting from the left, mentally number the strings 1 through 4. Cross the 1st string on the left over the 2nd string.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Continue the braid.\", \"描述\": \"Cross the last string on the right under the 3rd string. Re-number your strings 1 through 4. Take string number 4, and cross it under string number 3.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Cross the 3rd string over the 2nd string.\", \"描述\": \"Re-number your strings one last time. Take string number 3, and cross it over string number 2. This process is a little bit like weaving.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Repeat the process, starting from the 1st string on the left.\", \"描述\": \"Cross the 1st string over the middle string. Cross the 4th string under the 3rd string. Cross the new 3rd string over the new left string. Continue until your braid is the length you want, or until you have 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) left.\\nEvery so often, give all of your strings a tug so that your braid comes out nice and neat.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Knot the end of the braid, then cut the rest off.\", \"描述\": \"Just like the braid start, tie the end of your braid into an overhand knot. If a lot of string is leftover, cut it off.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Remove the tape from the start of the braid.\", \"描述\": \"To wear this as a bracelet, wrap the braid around your wrist, then have someone tie the ends together into a double-knot for you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Doing a 5-Strand Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Cut 5 pieces of 32-inch (81-cm) length of string.\", \"描述\": \"Use the same color for each string, or use different colors. For a wider braid, cut 10 pieces of string; you will still be creating a 5-strand braid, but using 2 strings for each strand..\\nYou can use this method to create a 7-strand braid.\\nEmbroidery floss works great for this, but you can also use yarn. Thicker string, such as jute or leather, is not recommended because of its bulk.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Knot your strings together.\", \"描述\": \"Gather the ends of your strings. Treating them as a single strand, coil them into a loop, then pull the ends through the loop. This will make the knot. Keep the knot 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) from the string end. Tape the string above the knot to a flat surface, such as a desk or table.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Divide your string into 5 groups.\", \"描述\": \"When using 10 strings for a thicker braid, divide them into 5 groups of 2 strands each. Treat each group as a single strand.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Weave the first string under and over the next 2 strings.\", \"描述\": \"Take the 1st string on the left. Cross it under the 2nd and over the 3rd string. Drop it between the 3rd and 4th strings.\\nFor a dovetail look, cross the first strand over the next 2 strands and drop it in the center.\\nIf working a 7-strand braid, do the step above, then cross the string over the 4th string.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Weave the last string under and over the previous 2 strings.\", \"描述\": \"Number your strings 1 through 5. Take string number 5, and weave it under string number 4. Cross it over string number 3, and drop it between strings 2 and 3.\\nFor a dovetail look, cross the last strand over the previous 2 strands and drop it in the center.\\nFor a 7-strand braid, complete the above step, then cross the string under the fourth string.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Repeat the process until you get the length you want.\", \"描述\": \"Alternate between weaving the left and right strings towards the middle. Always start with the first string on the left and the last string on the right. Keep the strings flat and do not let them twist.\\nYou can braid all the way to the end of the string, or you can stop whenever you want to.\\nIf using all the string, leave 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) at the end for tying the knot.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Tie the end of the braid into an overhand knot.\", \"描述\": \"This is the same knot that is used at the start of the braid. If any extra string is left over, you can cut it off.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Peel the tape off.\", \"描述\": \"You can now use the braid for whatever craft project you made it for. You can even wrap it around your wrist and tie the ends into a double-knot.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Embroidery floss is a popular choice, but you can also use hemp, jute, leather, ribbon, rope, strips of cloth, or yarn.[19]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"When using multiple strings per strand, be careful not to let them twist. Keep the strands flat so that they are visible at all times.[20]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"Add beads to the outer strands before you cross them over for a fancier look.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Braid Wire Rope
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1. Steps
1-1. Know how many strands of wire you'll be braiding.
The complexity of the braiding process will depend on the number of strands of the wire. The number of strands to be used will also depend on the nature of the application in question. Generally, wires with more strands which have been braided together will be stronger and thick in diameter.
Before you begin this process put on your gloves and separate the strands of wires you would wish to braid. Clamp one end of the wire strands and ensure that they have been secured properly in preparation for the braiding process. Attach a clamp to the top of all the strands and use a screwdriver to tighten the screws in the clamp. This is to ensure that all the strands are secured firmly. The strands of wires will be attached together to one end point. To braid wire rope, you will begin from that end where all the wire strands diverge from.
1-2. Separate the strands of wire.
With all the strands of wires separated and the hands fully protected with the gloves you can begin to braid the wire rope.
Three strands of wires; assuming that you have started with the left strand, place it in between the other two strands of wires such that the strand of wire which was initially on the left becomes the strand at the middle. Then, place the right strand in between the other two strands such that it becomes the middle strand of wire. Then, pull and return the old middle stand, which will now be on the left side over again to be the middle strand again. Continue with this process as you tighten them each time to make a tight braid.
Five strands of wires; this is a more advanced technique of the braiding process. To braid wire rope with five strands, you must be well conversant with the process involved in braiding the three and the four wire strands first. As the number of strands increase, the process becomes more and more complicated. First, you have to separate all the five stands of wires. Take the three middle strands of wires and do only one stitch of a three strand braid. That is, assuming you start with the one on the left; place it to the center to become the middle strand, take the one on the right and put it to the center to be the middle strand and finally, the one which was initially the middle strand and now the left strand should be taken back to be the middle strand.
1-3. Pull the wire strands correctly.
With the two outside strands of the previous step’s braid; pull the strand which was on the left and pull it over the outside strand on the left. Again, pull the one which was on the right and pull the strand over one outermost strand on the right side. This process may seem complicated as the number of wire strands increase. As a rule of thumb; begin with the three strands since it is easier to follow before proceeding to the next level. You can begin by practicing with thread which is softer to turn and twist before opting for wires.
Similarly, it is advisable to begin the process by doing it for wires with smaller diameters before going for wires with slightly thicker diameters. It is such a simple process though if you master the basic concepts. During this process, other equipment such as pliers also become essential since you use it to tighten the braid by pulling the strands each time.
1-4. Secure loose ends.
After you have reached the desired length of the wire rope, you must secure the loose ends. Generally, this is a simple DIY procedure. The process in industrial set up is not different from the DIY procedure. The only difference comes in the kind of machines which are used to accomplish the process. Most braiding machines have been automated with the advancement in technology. The DIY procedure is really tiresome if you have to braid a very long peace of wire.
Moreover, different metals have different strength which may make it cumbersome when it comes to braiding stronger wire ropes. In fact, the DIY process is not just suitable for most wires with thicker diameters.
Tips
The choice of equipment and tools will depend on the size of wire rope you would wish to braid. Wires with thicker diameters will require robust tools and equipment. There are quite a number of wire braiding machines which are available in the market and each braiding machine is recommended for a specific application.
A good machine should guarantee high output, come with low maintenance operations, should offer continuous operation and should also be versatile i.e. suitable to braid steel wires, copper wires and aluminum wires just to mention a few.
Equal strands of wire rope which can be twisted in the same way. That is, they can be left hand twisted or right hand twisted. The wires should be of the same diameter. That is to say, they should all be ¼ inches or 5⁄16 inch (0.8 cm) in diameter. To braid a three strands wire rope, one will require three different strands of wires of equal diameter.
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Separate the strands of wire.\\nWith all the strands of wires separated and the hands fully protected with the gloves you can begin to braid the wire rope.\\nThree strands of wires; assuming that you have started with the left strand, place it in between the other two strands of wires such that the strand of wire which was initially on the left becomes the strand at the middle. Then, place the right strand in between the other two strands such that it becomes the middle strand of wire. Then, pull and return the old middle stand, which will now be on the left side over again to be the middle strand again. Continue with this process as you tighten them each time to make a tight braid.\\nFive strands of wires; this is a more advanced technique of the braiding process. To braid wire rope with five strands, you must be well conversant with the process involved in braiding the three and the four wire strands first. As the number of strands increase, the process becomes more and more complicated. First, you have to separate all the five stands of wires. Take the three middle strands of wires and do only one stitch of a three strand braid. That is, assuming you start with the one on the left; place it to the center to become the middle strand, take the one on the right and put it to the center to be the middle strand and finally, the one which was initially the middle strand and now the left strand should be taken back to be the middle strand.\\n1-3. Pull the wire strands correctly.\\nWith the two outside strands of the previous step’s braid; pull the strand which was on the left and pull it over the outside strand on the left. Again, pull the one which was on the right and pull the strand over one outermost strand on the right side. This process may seem complicated as the number of wire strands increase. As a rule of thumb; begin with the three strands since it is easier to follow before proceeding to the next level. You can begin by practicing with thread which is softer to turn and twist before opting for wires.\\nSimilarly, it is advisable to begin the process by doing it for wires with smaller diameters before going for wires with slightly thicker diameters. It is such a simple process though if you master the basic concepts. During this process, other equipment such as pliers also become essential since you use it to tighten the braid by pulling the strands each time.\\n1-4. Secure loose ends.\\nAfter you have reached the desired length of the wire rope, you must secure the loose ends. Generally, this is a simple DIY procedure. The process in industrial set up is not different from the DIY procedure. The only difference comes in the kind of machines which are used to accomplish the process. Most braiding machines have been automated with the advancement in technology. The DIY procedure is really tiresome if you have to braid a very long peace of wire.\\nMoreover, different metals have different strength which may make it cumbersome when it comes to braiding stronger wire ropes. In fact, the DIY process is not just suitable for most wires with thicker diameters.\\nTips\\nThe choice of equipment and tools will depend on the size of wire rope you would wish to braid. Wires with thicker diameters will require robust tools and equipment. There are quite a number of wire braiding machines which are available in the market and each braiding machine is recommended for a specific application.\\nA good machine should guarantee high output, come with low maintenance operations, should offer continuous operation and should also be versatile i.e. suitable to braid steel wires, copper wires and aluminum wires just to mention a few.\\nEqual strands of wire rope which can be twisted in the same way. That is, they can be left hand twisted or right hand twisted. The wires should be of the same diameter. That is to say, they should all be ¼ inches or 5⁄16 inch (0.8 cm) in diameter. To braid a three strands wire rope, one will require three different strands of wires of equal diameter.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Like other materials which can be braided, wire cables or ropes can also be braided for a wide range of applications. They are widely used for heavy duty tasks and high capacity lifts due to their superior strength and flexibility. They are also easy to handle since they are flexible besides ensuring superior load control due to their wide surface area. Braided wire ropes are available in a wide range of configurations which may include 6, 8 or 9 part braided wire rope slings.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know how many strands of wire you'll be braiding.\", \"描述\": \"The complexity of the braiding process will depend on the number of strands of the wire. The number of strands to be used will also depend on the nature of the application in question. Generally, wires with more strands which have been braided together will be stronger and thick in diameter.\\nBefore you begin this process put on your gloves and separate the strands of wires you would wish to braid. Clamp one end of the wire strands and ensure that they have been secured properly in preparation for the braiding process. Attach a clamp to the top of all the strands and use a screwdriver to tighten the screws in the clamp. This is to ensure that all the strands are secured firmly. The strands of wires will be attached together to one end point. 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To braid wire rope with five strands, you must be well conversant with the process involved in braiding the three and the four wire strands first. As the number of strands increase, the process becomes more and more complicated. First, you have to separate all the five stands of wires. Take the three middle strands of wires and do only one stitch of a three strand braid. That is, assuming you start with the one on the left; place it to the center to become the middle strand, take the one on the right and put it to the center to be the middle strand and finally, the one which was initially the middle strand and now the left strand should be taken back to be the middle strand.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pull the wire strands correctly.\", \"描述\": \"With the two outside strands of the previous step’s braid; pull the strand which was on the left and pull it over the outside strand on the left. Again, pull the one which was on the right and pull the strand over one outermost strand on the right side. This process may seem complicated as the number of wire strands increase. As a rule of thumb; begin with the three strands since it is easier to follow before proceeding to the next level. You can begin by practicing with thread which is softer to turn and twist before opting for wires.\\nSimilarly, it is advisable to begin the process by doing it for wires with smaller diameters before going for wires with slightly thicker diameters. It is such a simple process though if you master the basic concepts. During this process, other equipment such as pliers also become essential since you use it to tighten the braid by pulling the strands each time.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Secure loose ends.\", \"描述\": \"After you have reached the desired length of the wire rope, you must secure the loose ends. Generally, this is a simple DIY procedure. 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How to Braid Your Bangs
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1. Styling Your Bangs with a French Braid
1-1. Part and section your hair.
Use a comb to create a deep side part in line with the outer edge of your eyebrow. There should be more hair on one side of your head than the other. Section off your bangs from the rest of your hair with the comb. Pull the rest of your hair back in a low ponytail or secure the hair to your head with a duck bill clip.
Your part can be to the right or the left.
1-2. French braid your bangs.
If you are looking for a stylish way to keep your bangs out of your eyes, consider a French braid.
Create a one inch section of hair at the top of your bangs.
Divide this 1 inch section into three even strands.
Twist the back strand over the center strand, and then he front strand over the center strand. Repeat this process two or three times.
Add a small amount of hair from the back of the bangs to the back strand. Bring the newly thickened back strand over the center strand. Add a small amount of hair from the front of the bangs to the front strand. Bring the newly thickened front strand over the center strand. Repeat this step until your bangs are secured and you are satisfied with the length of the french braid.
1-3. Secure the braid.
There are several possible ways to finish the French braid.
You may pin the braid directly to your head. Insert bobby pins in an “X” pattern to lock them in place.
You may secure the braid with a rubber band.
You may braid the remainder of the section in a French, traditional, or mermaid style braid. Secure the ends of the hair with a rubber band.
2. Styling Your Bangs with a Dutch Braid
2-1. Part and section your hair.
Create a deep side part that is in line with the outer edge of your eyebrow—the part may be on the right or left side. With a comb or your fingers, separate your bangs from the rest of your hair. Pull the remainder of your hair into a low ponytail or secure it to your head with a duck bill clip.
If you have slippery hair, spray your bangs with dry shampoo. This product will remove any excess oil from your tresses and add texture to your locks.
2-2. Braid your hair.
Like a French braid, a Dutch Braid will sufficiently prevent your bangs from falling over your eyes.
Grab a small section of your bangs along your deep side part.
Divide this section into three equal strands.
Pull the back strand under the center strand.
Pull the front strand under the right strand.
Add a small amount of hair from the back of the bangs to the back strand. Bring the back strand under the center strand. Add a small amount of hair from the front of the bangs to the front strand. Bring the front strand under the center strand.
Repeat the above step until your bangs are secured in a Dutch braid and the braid reaches the top of your ear.
2-3. Secure and stretch the Dutch braid.
Once you have completed the braid, secure it in place with a small rubber band or clips. To create the illusion of a thicker braid, carefully separate the individual strands of the braid.
Choose a tool that is clear or matches color of your hair.
3. Styling Your Bangs with a Basic Braid
3-1. Section off your bangs.
Use a comb to divide your bangs from the rest of your hair. Comb through your bangs to remove any snarls or kinks.
If you are in a pinch, use your fingers instead of a comb.
3-2. Braid your bangs.
Pull your bangs straight up from your head. Twist the hair away from your face. Twisting your bangs will ensure that your braid will rest along your hairline instead of across your forehead. Divide your bangs into three equal sections and then proceed to braid your hair. Stop once the braid is 4 to 5 inches long.
3-3. Secure the braid in place.
With one hand, hold the braid in place against your head; with the other hand, insert one bobby pin downwards through the braid. Retrieve a second bobby pin and insert it into the braid so that it forms an “X” with the first pin. This will prevent the pins from slipping.
4. Styling Your Bangs with a Twist Braid
4-1. Part and section your hair.
Use a comb to part your hair on either the left or right side. Section off your bangs from the rest of your hair with the comb. Pull the rest of your hair back in a low ponytail or secure it to your head with a duck bill clip.
If you would prefer a thicker twist braid, you can include more hair in the section.
4-2. Tease the bang section.
Retrieve a long tail comb and backcomb the entire section of bangs. Place the comb three to four inches from the roots and pull it up the hair shaft towards your scalp. Once you reach the roots, remove the comb and repeat the process. After the section is thoroughly teased, comb through the top layer of your tresses to mask the teased section with smooth hair.
4-3. Twist your hair and secure it in place.
When creating a twist braid, you will need to divide your hair into two sub-sections instead of three. Like a french braid, you will continue to add more hair to each sub-section as you progress towards the end of the shafts.
Use your comb to create a ¼ inch section of hair along the inner edge of your side part.
Divide this thin sub-section in half so that there is a front strand and a back strand.
Twist the front strand over and around the back. The back strand is now in front.
Grab another small sub-section of hair, similar in size to the first, and it to the strand currently in front. Twist the front strand over and around the back. Repeat this step until you are satisfied with the length of the twist braid.
Insert several pins into the end of the braid to secure it in place.
4-4. Finish
Tips
You should also make sure that your hair is well-brushed and free of knots before beginning your braid.
Before you braid your bangs, make sure your hair is prepped and ready to be worked with. Tame dry, frizzy bangs with mousse or anti-frizz serums before you try to style them. Otherwise, you run the risk of having a messy braid.
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Add a small amount of hair from the front of the bangs to the front strand. Bring the newly thickened front strand over the center strand. Repeat this step until your bangs are secured and you are satisfied with the length of the french braid.\\n1-3. Secure the braid.\\nThere are several possible ways to finish the French braid.\\nYou may pin the braid directly to your head. Insert bobby pins in an “X” pattern to lock them in place.\\nYou may secure the braid with a rubber band.\\nYou may braid the remainder of the section in a French, traditional, or mermaid style braid. Secure the ends of the hair with a rubber band.\\n2. Styling Your Bangs with a Dutch Braid\\n2-1. Part and section your hair.\\nCreate a deep side part that is in line with the outer edge of your eyebrow—the part may be on the right or left side. With a comb or your fingers, separate your bangs from the rest of your hair. Pull the remainder of your hair into a low ponytail or secure it to your head with a duck bill clip.\\nIf you have slippery hair, spray your bangs with dry shampoo. This product will remove any excess oil from your tresses and add texture to your locks.\\n2-2. Braid your hair.\\nLike a French braid, a Dutch Braid will sufficiently prevent your bangs from falling over your eyes.\\nGrab a small section of your bangs along your deep side part.\\nDivide this section into three equal strands.\\nPull the back strand under the center strand.\\nPull the front strand under the right strand.\\nAdd a small amount of hair from the back of the bangs to the back strand. Bring the back strand under the center strand. Add a small amount of hair from the front of the bangs to the front strand. Bring the front strand under the center strand.\\nRepeat the above step until your bangs are secured in a Dutch braid and the braid reaches the top of your ear.\\n2-3. Secure and stretch the Dutch braid.\\nOnce you have completed the braid, secure it in place with a small rubber band or clips. To create the illusion of a thicker braid, carefully separate the individual strands of the braid.\\nChoose a tool that is clear or matches color of your hair.\\n3. Styling Your Bangs with a Basic Braid\\n3-1. Section off your bangs.\\nUse a comb to divide your bangs from the rest of your hair. Comb through your bangs to remove any snarls or kinks.\\nIf you are in a pinch, use your fingers instead of a comb.\\n3-2. Braid your bangs.\\nPull your bangs straight up from your head. Twist the hair away from your face. Twisting your bangs will ensure that your braid will rest along your hairline instead of across your forehead. Divide your bangs into three equal sections and then proceed to braid your hair. Stop once the braid is 4 to 5 inches long.\\n3-3. Secure the braid in place.\\nWith one hand, hold the braid in place against your head; with the other hand, insert one bobby pin downwards through the braid. Retrieve a second bobby pin and insert it into the braid so that it forms an “X” with the first pin. This will prevent the pins from slipping.\\n4. Styling Your Bangs with a Twist Braid\\n4-1. Part and section your hair.\\nUse a comb to part your hair on either the left or right side. Section off your bangs from the rest of your hair with the comb. Pull the rest of your hair back in a low ponytail or secure it to your head with a duck bill clip.\\nIf you would prefer a thicker twist braid, you can include more hair in the section.\\n4-2. Tease the bang section.\\nRetrieve a long tail comb and backcomb the entire section of bangs. Place the comb three to four inches from the roots and pull it up the hair shaft towards your scalp. Once you reach the roots, remove the comb and repeat the process. After the section is thoroughly teased, comb through the top layer of your tresses to mask the teased section with smooth hair.\\n4-3. Twist your hair and secure it in place.\\nWhen creating a twist braid, you will need to divide your hair into two sub-sections instead of three. Like a french braid, you will continue to add more hair to each sub-section as you progress towards the end of the shafts.\\nUse your comb to create a ¼ inch section of hair along the inner edge of your side part.\\nDivide this thin sub-section in half so that there is a front strand and a back strand.\\nTwist the front strand over and around the back. The back strand is now in front.\\nGrab another small sub-section of hair, similar in size to the first, and it to the strand currently in front. Twist the front strand over and around the back. Repeat this step until you are satisfied with the length of the twist braid.\\nInsert several pins into the end of the braid to secure it in place.\\n4-4. Finish\\n\\n\\nTips\\nYou should also make sure that your hair is well-brushed and free of knots before beginning your braid.\\nBefore you braid your bangs, make sure your hair is prepped and ready to be worked with. Tame dry, frizzy bangs with mousse or anti-frizz serums before you try to style them. Otherwise, you run the risk of having a messy braid.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"One of the swiftest changes we can make to our hair is to add bangs. Reversing the process, however, is not a quick process. As your bangs grow out, you may tire of the look or grow increasingly annoyed with the errant strands that fall into your eyes. While you could simply use a headband or pins to tuck your bangs away, why not braid your bangs instead? 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Repeat this process two or three times.\\nAdd a small amount of hair from the back of the bangs to the back strand. Bring the newly thickened back strand over the center strand. Add a small amount of hair from the front of the bangs to the front strand. Bring the newly thickened front strand over the center strand. Repeat this step until your bangs are secured and you are satisfied with the length of the french braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Secure the braid.\", \"描述\": \"There are several possible ways to finish the French braid.\\nYou may pin the braid directly to your head. Insert bobby pins in an “X” pattern to lock them in place.\\nYou may secure the braid with a rubber band.\\nYou may braid the remainder of the section in a French, traditional, or mermaid style braid. Secure the ends of the hair with a rubber band.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Styling Your Bangs with a Dutch Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Part and section your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Create a deep side part that is in line with the outer edge of your eyebrow—the part may be on the right or left side. With a comb or your fingers, separate your bangs from the rest of your hair. Pull the remainder of your hair into a low ponytail or secure it to your head with a duck bill clip.\\nIf you have slippery hair, spray your bangs with dry shampoo. This product will remove any excess oil from your tresses and add texture to your locks.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Braid your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Like a French braid, a Dutch Braid will sufficiently prevent your bangs from falling over your eyes.\\nGrab a small section of your bangs along your deep side part.\\nDivide this section into three equal strands.\\nPull the back strand under the center strand.\\nPull the front strand under the right strand.\\nAdd a small amount of hair from the back of the bangs to the back strand. Bring the back strand under the center strand. Add a small amount of hair from the front of the bangs to the front strand. Bring the front strand under the center strand.\\nRepeat the above step until your bangs are secured in a Dutch braid and the braid reaches the top of your ear.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Secure and stretch the Dutch braid.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have completed the braid, secure it in place with a small rubber band or clips. 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Stop once the braid is 4 to 5 inches long.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Secure the braid in place.\", \"描述\": \"With one hand, hold the braid in place against your head; with the other hand, insert one bobby pin downwards through the braid. Retrieve a second bobby pin and insert it into the braid so that it forms an “X” with the first pin. This will prevent the pins from slipping.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Styling Your Bangs with a Twist Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Part and section your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Use a comb to part your hair on either the left or right side. Section off your bangs from the rest of your hair with the comb. Pull the rest of your hair back in a low ponytail or secure it to your head with a duck bill clip.\\nIf you would prefer a thicker twist braid, you can include more hair in the section.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Tease the bang section.\", \"描述\": \"Retrieve a long tail comb and backcomb the entire section of bangs. Place the comb three to four inches from the roots and pull it up the hair shaft towards your scalp. Once you reach the roots, remove the comb and repeat the process. After the section is thoroughly teased, comb through the top layer of your tresses to mask the teased section with smooth hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Twist your hair and secure it in place.\", \"描述\": \"When creating a twist braid, you will need to divide your hair into two sub-sections instead of three. Like a french braid, you will continue to add more hair to each sub-section as you progress towards the end of the shafts.\\nUse your comb to create a ¼ inch section of hair along the inner edge of your side part.\\nDivide this thin sub-section in half so that there is a front strand and a back strand.\\nTwist the front strand over and around the back. The back strand is now in front.\\nGrab another small sub-section of hair, similar in size to the first, and it to the strand currently in front. Twist the front strand over and around the back. Repeat this step until you are satisfied with the length of the twist braid.\\nInsert several pins into the end of the braid to secure it in place.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Finish\", \"描述\": \"\"}], \"小提示\": [\"You should also make sure that your hair is well-brushed and free of knots before beginning your braid.\\n\", \"Before you braid your bangs, make sure your hair is prepped and ready to be worked with. Tame dry, frizzy bangs with mousse or anti-frizz serums before you try to style them. Otherwise, you run the risk of having a messy braid.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Braiding Your Hair
1-1. Comb
First, decide where you want the braid. Use a comb to section off a neat square 1–2 centimeter (0.4–0.8 in) across. It's advisable to position the braid a few centimeters away from your parting so that the top will not be visible.
Make sure to wash your hair with shampoo and conditioner before you start braiding—this helps it to not tangle. If it's still tangled after washing, use a detangler while brushing from the tips to the roots of your hair.
1-2. Tie the rest of your hair back with the scrunchie.
You can also use a hair band if that’s easier for you. This will make it easier to focus on your braid. As you do this, it’s a good idea to secure any wispy strands around your sectioned hair out of the way with bobby pins.
1-3. Braid
Divide it into 3 sections, cross the right section over the middle section, then the left section over the middle section, and repeat to the end. Secure with a dab of hair gel. You can also use a hair elastic to secure the braid.
1-4. Make your braid last longer by using an extra hair elastic.
If you want your braid to last as long as possible (a few months), take an extra hair elastic and tie it about 1 centimeter (0.4 in) from the top of the plait. Hold the plait flat against your head as you do this, or your braid will stick up in the air. If you only want to keep it a short while, don't use the hair elastic.
2. Adding the Thread
2-1. Hold the 3 strands of embroidery floss by their ends.
Pass the ends through the hair above the elastic, or through the top of the plait next to the scalp. Pull them through until the same length of thread hangs on each side.
The length of the strands depends on the length of your hair. You should use enough floss so that it extends several inches (cm) past your own hair.
2-2. Count 6 strands next to your braid.
You should now have 6 strands of thread next to your plait. Select 2 (different colors will create a striped effect), pull them to the left of the plait, and smooth the other 4 down next to it.
2-3. Begin braiding the threads.
Hold them so you can see strand A on the left, strand B in the middle, and the plait with the rest of the thread on the right. Pass B over the plait and bring it back to the middle. Then, pass A underneath B, then over the plait, and into the middle position. Next, pass B underneath A, over the plait, and into the middle position. Repeat these steps until you reach the end of your hair.
You must wrap the thread as tightly as possible, so that it sits horizontally across the plait, leaving no visible hair.
You can either stop braiding at the end of your hair, or continue past it, keeping the 4 unused strands on the right hand side.
2-4. Add beads to the end if you wish.
If you wish to add beads, just slip them over the end of the braid. Then, tie an overhand knot at the bottom of the braid. Make sure it's big enough that the beads won't slip off.
2-5. Cut off any excess thread.
Make sure not to cut off any hair when you cut off the excess thread. If there’s enough thread left, you can save it for a future craft project.
3. Removing the Braid
3-1. Cut off the thread's knot with scissors.
To remove your braid, take a pair of sharp scissors, and cut off the knot. This will cause the thread to fall away from the plait. Then cut off the elastic if used, or just pull the thread away from the top of the hair.
3-2. Separate the thread.
When undoing the braid, you will need to separate the different bits of thread. You can begin undoing the braid once the strands of thread have been separated. Continue until your braid is completely undone.
3-3. Wash your undone hair.
This is especially important if your hair has been under the thread for more than a few weeks. First, comb out your hair thoroughly, as it may have become knotted during the unbraiding process. Then, wash, condition, and dry your hair as normal.
Tips
Limit the use of hairspray and styling if you plan to keep your braid in for more than a few days.[13]
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When you wish to change color, simply knot the left hand strand around the plait, and pick up 2 new strands. Continue as above, alternating colors to create patterns as you wish.
Warnings
Be careful when brushing your hair, as the bristles may snag in the braid if it gets in the way.
If the braid is left in for a long time, your hair will grow at the top, and this is prone to matting. Once you've removed the braid, gently work out the tangles with a comb. Shampooing and conditioning your hair will help with this.
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You can also use a hair elastic to secure the braid.\\n1-4. Make your braid last longer by using an extra hair elastic.\\nIf you want your braid to last as long as possible (a few months), take an extra hair elastic and tie it about 1 centimeter (0.4 in) from the top of the plait. Hold the plait flat against your head as you do this, or your braid will stick up in the air. If you only want to keep it a short while, don't use the hair elastic.\\n2. Adding the Thread\\n2-1. Hold the 3 strands of embroidery floss by their ends.\\nPass the ends through the hair above the elastic, or through the top of the plait next to the scalp. Pull them through until the same length of thread hangs on each side.\\nThe length of the strands depends on the length of your hair. You should use enough floss so that it extends several inches (cm) past your own hair.\\n2-2. Count 6 strands next to your braid.\\nYou should now have 6 strands of thread next to your plait. Select 2 (different colors will create a striped effect), pull them to the left of the plait, and smooth the other 4 down next to it.\\n2-3. Begin braiding the threads.\\nHold them so you can see strand A on the left, strand B in the middle, and the plait with the rest of the thread on the right. Pass B over the plait and bring it back to the middle. Then, pass A underneath B, then over the plait, and into the middle position. Next, pass B underneath A, over the plait, and into the middle position. Repeat these steps until you reach the end of your hair.\\nYou must wrap the thread as tightly as possible, so that it sits horizontally across the plait, leaving no visible hair.\\nYou can either stop braiding at the end of your hair, or continue past it, keeping the 4 unused strands on the right hand side.\\n2-4. Add beads to the end if you wish.\\nIf you wish to add beads, just slip them over the end of the braid. Then, tie an overhand knot at the bottom of the braid. Make sure it's big enough that the beads won't slip off.\\n2-5. Cut off any excess thread.\\nMake sure not to cut off any hair when you cut off the excess thread. If there’s enough thread left, you can save it for a future craft project.\\n3. Removing the Braid\\n3-1. Cut off the thread's knot with scissors.\\nTo remove your braid, take a pair of sharp scissors, and cut off the knot. This will cause the thread to fall away from the plait. Then cut off the elastic if used, or just pull the thread away from the top of the hair.\\n3-2. Separate the thread.\\nWhen undoing the braid, you will need to separate the different bits of thread. You can begin undoing the braid once the strands of thread have been separated. Continue until your braid is completely undone.\\n3-3. Wash your undone hair.\\nThis is especially important if your hair has been under the thread for more than a few weeks. First, comb out your hair thoroughly, as it may have become knotted during the unbraiding process. Then, wash, condition, and dry your hair as normal.\\nTips\\nLimit the use of hairspray and styling if you plan to keep your braid in for more than a few days.[13]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nWhen you wish to change color, simply knot the left hand strand around the plait, and pick up 2 new strands. Continue as above, alternating colors to create patterns as you wish.\\nWarnings\\nBe careful when brushing your hair, as the bristles may snag in the braid if it gets in the way.\\nIf the braid is left in for a long time, your hair will grow at the top, and this is prone to matting. Once you've removed the braid, gently work out the tangles with a comb. Shampooing and conditioning your hair will help with this.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Braiding your hair with thread, also called a hair wrap, is an easy way to add some temporary fun to your hair. All you need is hair long enough to braid, embroidery floss, and an elastic band. 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How to Braid Your Hair with a Ribbon
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1. Steps
1-1. Wash your hair if it's not clean.
If clean, brush it.
1-2. Add your parting where you would like it to be.
A parting will work best if it's in a place where it has been parted before, so as not to pull your hair or look askew.
1-3. Split your hair into three almost equal sections.
The thickness of the sections will depend on which braid you are doing, for example, a fishtail, Dutch braid, etc., just be sure you know how to braid the type.
Have your ribbon at the ready, and also a bobby pin.
1-4. Place the ribbon by one section of hair.
Clip it into place on a part of your top hair that you won't be braiding.
It is also possible to braid in a ribbon for each strand. If you decide to do this, it's best to try with just one ribbon first, to get the hang of it, then try the three strands. Also, be sure to either use all the same color of ribbon for each strand of hair, or match the colors so that they don't clash.
1-5. Begin braiding in the way that you would usually do.
Again, braid according to the type of braid you have chosen. As you braid, keep the ribbon aligned at all times with the same section of hair you chose to begin with.
If you've added a ribbon to each of the sections of hair, keep each ribbon aligned with that section of hair.
1-6. Continue braiding until you reach a good place to finish, or you have run out of ribbon/hair.
Secure it tightly with a hair band/bobble to ensure that it doesn't fall out.
You could add a cute hairband to finish off your look, or maybe even a bit of holding spray to fix in any unwanted flyaways. If you want it to be a bit messy, just leave it be.
1-7. Use a clip, if wished.
If you perhaps wanted to hide the bobby pin, or even the hair bobble, you could retrieve a prettier clip from somewhere, or wrap a bit of left over hair around the bobble and clip that into place, too.
1-8. Done.
The braided hair now contains a strand of ribbon running through it. At each upturned interval of the hair section that contains the ribbon, the color will show outward for everyone to see. It's a very effective look, especially when paired with your clothing color scheme.
Tips
You may want a tight look. If so, as you braid your hair, pull it tightly whilst you are braiding it. This method works well for a fishtail, as it brings out more clearly what the pattern is meant to look like.
To achieve a 'cute overload' you could pull out a few baby hairs from around your face and by your ears, as well.
Warnings
Hairspray might spoil the ribbon, depending on what it's made from. Test a small area on the ribbon before spraying with the ribbon in your hair. It might also be worth checking that the hairspray washes out easily from the ribbon, using normal washing methods. If so, then you don't need to worry. If not, don't repeat!
Be careful not to 'pull' hair or begin a new parting where it hasn't been before. This can quickly and very easily damage your hair.
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Begin braiding in the way that you would usually do.\\nAgain, braid according to the type of braid you have chosen. As you braid, keep the ribbon aligned at all times with the same section of hair you chose to begin with.\\nIf you've added a ribbon to each of the sections of hair, keep each ribbon aligned with that section of hair.\\n1-6. Continue braiding until you reach a good place to finish, or you have run out of ribbon/hair.\\nSecure it tightly with a hair band/bobble to ensure that it doesn't fall out.\\nYou could add a cute hairband to finish off your look, or maybe even a bit of holding spray to fix in any unwanted flyaways. If you want it to be a bit messy, just leave it be.\\n1-7. Use a clip, if wished.\\nIf you perhaps wanted to hide the bobby pin, or even the hair bobble, you could retrieve a prettier clip from somewhere, or wrap a bit of left over hair around the bobble and clip that into place, too.\\n1-8. Done.\\nThe braided hair now contains a strand of ribbon running through it. At each upturned interval of the hair section that contains the ribbon, the color will show outward for everyone to see. It's a very effective look, especially when paired with your clothing color scheme.\\nTips\\nYou may want a tight look. If so, as you braid your hair, pull it tightly whilst you are braiding it. This method works well for a fishtail, as it brings out more clearly what the pattern is meant to look like.\\nTo achieve a 'cute overload' you could pull out a few baby hairs from around your face and by your ears, as well.\\nWarnings\\nHairspray might spoil the ribbon, depending on what it's made from. Test a small area on the ribbon before spraying with the ribbon in your hair. It might also be worth checking that the hairspray washes out easily from the ribbon, using normal washing methods. If so, then you don't need to worry. If not, don't repeat!\\nBe careful not to 'pull' hair or begin a new parting where it hasn't been before. This can quickly and very easily damage your hair.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Braiding ribbon into your hair is a neat way to improve upon an already fantastic hairstyle. 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How to Braid Your Hair: The Easiest Braids for Beginners
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1. Classic 3-Strand Braid
1-1. Brush your hair
Before you start braiding, you want to make sure there are no tangles in your hair. Run a brush or a comb (whichever works best for you) through your hair until it’s smooth, starting at the ends of your hair and working your way up to the roots.
Use a detangling spray to help brush out stubborn knots.
1-2. Part your hair
The beauty of the classic 3-strand braid is that it’s versatile. You can have a side braid, braid that falls down your back, or pigtail braids on either side of your head—the possibilities are endless!
Opt for a side part for a side braid, gathering the most hair on the side where the braid will fall.
Stick with a middle or side part for a braid that falls along your back.
Do a middle part for pigtail braids, so each braid is even.
1-3. Divide your hair into 3 sections.
Gather all of your hair into your hands. Then, run your fingers through it to create 3 even sections. We’ll call these Section A, Section B, and Section C.
Look in the mirror as you do this to ensure that your sections are even.
1-4. Cross Section A over Section B.
To start braiding, bring Section A over Section B with your right hand, so Section A moves to the middle. Use your left forefinger and middle finger to hold Section A in place.
If starting with your left hand doesn’t work, no worries! Start with whichever hand and hold works for you.
1-5. Bring Section C over Section A.
Now, guide Section C over Section A with your left hand, pulling it in place with your right forefinger and middle finger. Pull Section C tight.
Use your right thumb to move sections in and out of the middle as you work.
1-6. Move Section B over Section C.
Bring Section B over Section C with your right hand, so Section B moves to the middle. Use your left middle and forefinger to hold Section B in place.
1-7. Follow this weaving pattern until you reach the end of your hair.
Continue pulling Section A over Section B, Section C over Section A, and Section B over Section C. Pull the outside sections tight after each move to keep the braid in place.
Find whatever hold works best for you. There’s no right or wrong way to braid as long as you stick to the pattern.
1-8. Secure your braid with a hair elastic.
Once you reach the ends of your hair, hold the end of your braid tightly with one hand. Use your other hand to carefully wrap a hair elastic or tie around the end, just as you would when making a ponytail.
2. French Braid
2-1. Brush your hair back until it’s nice and smooth.
Braiding is much easier when there aren’t any knots in the way, so make sure your hair is tangle-free before you begin. Swoop your hair back and away from your face with the brush to get it in position for a single French braid.
If your hair is extra fine, try spritzing it with dry shampoo, as this gives your hair more texture and makes it easier to braid.
Making French braid pigtails is another way to do this classic hairstyle, but for the sake of this beginner’s tutorial, we’ll be taking you through the process of a single French braid.
2-2. Create a section of hair at the front of your scalp along the top of your head.
Unlike a traditional 3-strand braid, a French braid starts on your scalp rather than at the base of your neck. Use your fingers or a comb to section off a small area of hair on top of your head, as if you were creating a half-up top knot.
Use your temples as a guide when creating your section, dragging your fingers or comb from the end of your eyebrows to the top of your head.
2-3. Divide the section of hair into 3 more sections.
Similarly to a 3-strand braid, a French braid requires 3 sections of hair. Use your fingers to form 3 even sections. We’ll call these Section A, Section B, and Section C.
It can be helpful to hold 2 sections of hair in your left hand and 1 in your right.
Hold the sections firmly, keeping them separated by an index finger.
2-4. Cross Section C over Section B.
Take the section on the left and pull it over the middle section and under the section on the right, as if you were doing a traditional 3-strand braid. Secure Section C with your left index and forefinger, and grab Section B with your right hand.
If you get stuck, remember that the middle piece always goes over when making a French braid.
Alternatively, you can make a Dutch braid by bringing the middle piece down and under when weaving.
If starting with the left-most section doesn’t work for you, no problem! Start with whatever section feels the most natural.
2-5. Pull Section A over Section C while adding hair to Section A.
Use your left hand to scoop a small section of hair from the outside of your braid and add it to Section A. Cross this thicker section over Section C so it’s in the middle.
Adding hair as you braid is what makes a French braid different than a classic 3-strand braid.
2-6. Add hair to Section B and cross over Section A.
Repeat the same process of adding hair and moving it over into the middle of the sections with Section B. Try to add the same amount of hair you did before to help keep your braid even.
2-7. Continue braiding until you reach the base of your head.
Alternate from left to right, adding hair to each outer section before moving it into the middle. Keep going until you’ve run out of hair to add to your braid.
2-8. Use a 3-strand braid to finish your French braid.
Follow the same pattern as before, but skip adding new hair to each section. Keep braiding up and over until you reach the ends of your hair. Secure the braid with a hair elastic, and you’re good to go.
3. Fishtail Braid
3-1. Brush your hair until it’s free of tangles.
Like any other braid, it’s important to make sure your hair is nice and smooth before you begin braiding. The fewer knots there are, the easier braiding will be.
Use a detangling product before you brush if you have stubborn knots or your hair tangles easily.
3-2. Part your hair into 2 even sections.
Use a hair pick or comb to divide your hair down the middle to create 2 sections of hair (one on either side of your neck). Hold the right section of hair with your right hand and the left section with your left.
Unlike other braids, the fishtail braid uses 2 sections rather than 3.
We’ll be teaching you how to do a fishtail braid that falls down your back in this tutorial, but you can easily pull your hair to one side and section it from there to create a side-swept fishtail.
3-3. Pull a section of hair from the left section over to the right.
With your left fingers, grab a small section of hair (about ⁄2 inch (1.3 cm) thick) from the outer side of the left section. Guide this strand of hair over the left section and into the right section.
Keep the added strand towards the middle of your head, so you don’t accidentally add it back into the braid.
Practice this braided hairstyle in the mirror, so you can see what you’re doing.
3-4. Cross a section of hair from the right over to the left.
Take your right hand and grab a ⁄2 inch (1.3 cm) thick section of hair from the outside of the right section. Pull this small section up and over the right section and into the left, just as you did with the left section.
3-5. Continue this alternating crossing pattern until you reach the end of your hair.
Grab hair from the left and pull it over to the right, and then grab hair from the right and pull it over to the left. Keep doing this until there’s no more hair to braid.
As you braid, your 2 sections of hair will get smaller and smaller, so it’s okay to cross the same strand of hair over more than once.
3-6. Tie your hair off with an elastic.
Once your braid is formed, secure it with a hair tie. Now all that’s left to do is rock your hair-do and show off your amazing braiding skills!
For a tousled and more voluminous look, gently pull on the outside strands of the braid to make it wider.
4. Rope Braid
4-1. Slick back your hair with a brush or comb.
As with any braid, it’s important that your hair is knot-free before you start braiding. Brush your hair over to one side for a braid that’ll fall over your shoulders, or comb your hair back for a braid that’ll fall down your neck.
If this is your first time trying this hair style, we recommend going for an over-the-shoulder braid, as this will make it easier for you to practice and see what you’re doing in a mirror.
4-2. Split your hair into 2 even sections.
Rope braids are perfect for beginners because they only require 2 sections of hair and no weaving. So, to get started, divide your hair into 2 equal parts, holding the left section with your left hand and the right section with your right.
4-3. Twist the 2 sections of hair to the right.
Use your fingers to twirl your hair into tight “ropes.” Try to keep the twists as tight as possible.
4-4. Cross the right section over the left strand.
Always cross the sections in the opposite way of their twist. Since you twisted the hair to the right, you’ll pull the sections over each other from the left.
4-5. Wrap the sections around each other until you reach the end of your hair.
Continue crossing the left-hand section over the right. Twist the sections to the right as you wrap if they start coming loose. When you reach the end of your braid, tie it off with an elastic.
Tips
Practice makes perfect, so don’t be discouraged if your braid doesn’t come out perfectly on the first try! Keep practicing, and soon braiding will become second nature.
The braids we’ve mentioned work well on straight or curly hair, but you may have to braid your hair a bit differently if you’re African American.
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We’ll call these Section A, Section B, and Section C.\\nLook in the mirror as you do this to ensure that your sections are even.\\n1-4. Cross Section A over Section B.\\nTo start braiding, bring Section A over Section B with your right hand, so Section A moves to the middle. Use your left forefinger and middle finger to hold Section A in place.\\nIf starting with your left hand doesn’t work, no worries! Start with whichever hand and hold works for you.\\n1-5. Bring Section C over Section A.\\nNow, guide Section C over Section A with your left hand, pulling it in place with your right forefinger and middle finger. Pull Section C tight.\\nUse your right thumb to move sections in and out of the middle as you work.\\n1-6. Move Section B over Section C.\\nBring Section B over Section C with your right hand, so Section B moves to the middle. Use your left middle and forefinger to hold Section B in place.\\n1-7. Follow this weaving pattern until you reach the end of your hair.\\nContinue pulling Section A over Section B, Section C over Section A, and Section B over Section C. Pull the outside sections tight after each move to keep the braid in place.\\nFind whatever hold works best for you. There’s no right or wrong way to braid as long as you stick to the pattern.\\n1-8. Secure your braid with a hair elastic.\\nOnce you reach the ends of your hair, hold the end of your braid tightly with one hand. Use your other hand to carefully wrap a hair elastic or tie around the end, just as you would when making a ponytail.\\n2. French Braid\\n2-1. Brush your hair back until it’s nice and smooth.\\nBraiding is much easier when there aren’t any knots in the way, so make sure your hair is tangle-free before you begin. Swoop your hair back and away from your face with the brush to get it in position for a single French braid.\\nIf your hair is extra fine, try spritzing it with dry shampoo, as this gives your hair more texture and makes it easier to braid.\\nMaking French braid pigtails is another way to do this classic hairstyle, but for the sake of this beginner’s tutorial, we’ll be taking you through the process of a single French braid.\\n2-2. Create a section of hair at the front of your scalp along the top of your head.\\nUnlike a traditional 3-strand braid, a French braid starts on your scalp rather than at the base of your neck. Use your fingers or a comb to section off a small area of hair on top of your head, as if you were creating a half-up top knot.\\nUse your temples as a guide when creating your section, dragging your fingers or comb from the end of your eyebrows to the top of your head.\\n2-3. Divide the section of hair into 3 more sections.\\nSimilarly to a 3-strand braid, a French braid requires 3 sections of hair. Use your fingers to form 3 even sections. We’ll call these Section A, Section B, and Section C.\\nIt can be helpful to hold 2 sections of hair in your left hand and 1 in your right.\\nHold the sections firmly, keeping them separated by an index finger.\\n2-4. Cross Section C over Section B.\\nTake the section on the left and pull it over the middle section and under the section on the right, as if you were doing a traditional 3-strand braid. Secure Section C with your left index and forefinger, and grab Section B with your right hand.\\nIf you get stuck, remember that the middle piece always goes over when making a French braid.\\nAlternatively, you can make a Dutch braid by bringing the middle piece down and under when weaving.\\nIf starting with the left-most section doesn’t work for you, no problem! Start with whatever section feels the most natural.\\n2-5. Pull Section A over Section C while adding hair to Section A.\\nUse your left hand to scoop a small section of hair from the outside of your braid and add it to Section A. Cross this thicker section over Section C so it’s in the middle.\\nAdding hair as you braid is what makes a French braid different than a classic 3-strand braid.\\n2-6. Add hair to Section B and cross over Section A.\\nRepeat the same process of adding hair and moving it over into the middle of the sections with Section B. Try to add the same amount of hair you did before to help keep your braid even.\\n2-7. Continue braiding until you reach the base of your head.\\nAlternate from left to right, adding hair to each outer section before moving it into the middle. Keep going until you’ve run out of hair to add to your braid.\\n2-8. Use a 3-strand braid to finish your French braid.\\nFollow the same pattern as before, but skip adding new hair to each section. Keep braiding up and over until you reach the ends of your hair. Secure the braid with a hair elastic, and you’re good to go.\\n3. Fishtail Braid\\n3-1. Brush your hair until it’s free of tangles.\\nLike any other braid, it’s important to make sure your hair is nice and smooth before you begin braiding. The fewer knots there are, the easier braiding will be.\\nUse a detangling product before you brush if you have stubborn knots or your hair tangles easily.\\n3-2. Part your hair into 2 even sections.\\nUse a hair pick or comb to divide your hair down the middle to create 2 sections of hair (one on either side of your neck). Hold the right section of hair with your right hand and the left section with your left.\\nUnlike other braids, the fishtail braid uses 2 sections rather than 3.\\nWe’ll be teaching you how to do a fishtail braid that falls down your back in this tutorial, but you can easily pull your hair to one side and section it from there to create a side-swept fishtail.\\n3-3. Pull a section of hair from the left section over to the right.\\nWith your left fingers, grab a small section of hair (about ⁄2 inch (1.3 cm) thick) from the outer side of the left section. Guide this strand of hair over the left section and into the right section.\\nKeep the added strand towards the middle of your head, so you don’t accidentally add it back into the braid.\\nPractice this braided hairstyle in the mirror, so you can see what you’re doing.\\n3-4. Cross a section of hair from the right over to the left.\\nTake your right hand and grab a ⁄2 inch (1.3 cm) thick section of hair from the outside of the right section. Pull this small section up and over the right section and into the left, just as you did with the left section.\\n3-5. Continue this alternating crossing pattern until you reach the end of your hair.\\nGrab hair from the left and pull it over to the right, and then grab hair from the right and pull it over to the left. Keep doing this until there’s no more hair to braid.\\nAs you braid, your 2 sections of hair will get smaller and smaller, so it’s okay to cross the same strand of hair over more than once.\\n3-6. Tie your hair off with an elastic.\\nOnce your braid is formed, secure it with a hair tie. Now all that’s left to do is rock your hair-do and show off your amazing braiding skills!\\nFor a tousled and more voluminous look, gently pull on the outside strands of the braid to make it wider.\\n4. Rope Braid\\n4-1. Slick back your hair with a brush or comb.\\nAs with any braid, it’s important that your hair is knot-free before you start braiding. Brush your hair over to one side for a braid that’ll fall over your shoulders, or comb your hair back for a braid that’ll fall down your neck.\\nIf this is your first time trying this hair style, we recommend going for an over-the-shoulder braid, as this will make it easier for you to practice and see what you’re doing in a mirror.\\n4-2. Split your hair into 2 even sections.\\nRope braids are perfect for beginners because they only require 2 sections of hair and no weaving. So, to get started, divide your hair into 2 equal parts, holding the left section with your left hand and the right section with your right.\\n4-3. Twist the 2 sections of hair to the right.\\nUse your fingers to twirl your hair into tight “ropes.” Try to keep the twists as tight as possible.\\n4-4. Cross the right section over the left strand.\\nAlways cross the sections in the opposite way of their twist. Since you twisted the hair to the right, you’ll pull the sections over each other from the left.\\n4-5. Wrap the sections around each other until you reach the end of your hair.\\nContinue crossing the left-hand section over the right. Twist the sections to the right as you wrap if they start coming loose. When you reach the end of your braid, tie it off with an elastic.\\nTips\\nPractice makes perfect, so don’t be discouraged if your braid doesn’t come out perfectly on the first try! Keep practicing, and soon braiding will become second nature.\\nThe braids we’ve mentioned work well on straight or curly hair, but you may have to braid your hair a bit differently if you’re African American.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Tired of having the same hair style every day? Well, you’re in luck because we’ve put together a guide on the best and most versatile braids! Whether you’re running errands, heading to the office, or going to the gym, braids are a fun way to spice up your look and keep your hair looking fresh. 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Start with whichever hand and hold works for you.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Bring Section C over Section A.\", \"描述\": \"Now, guide Section C over Section A with your left hand, pulling it in place with your right forefinger and middle finger. Pull Section C tight.\\nUse your right thumb to move sections in and out of the middle as you work.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Move Section B over Section C.\", \"描述\": \"Bring Section B over Section C with your right hand, so Section B moves to the middle. Use your left middle and forefinger to hold Section B in place.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Follow this weaving pattern until you reach the end of your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Continue pulling Section A over Section B, Section C over Section A, and Section B over Section C. Pull the outside sections tight after each move to keep the braid in place.\\nFind whatever hold works best for you. There’s no right or wrong way to braid as long as you stick to the pattern.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Secure your braid with a hair elastic.\", \"描述\": \"Once you reach the ends of your hair, hold the end of your braid tightly with one hand. Use your other hand to carefully wrap a hair elastic or tie around the end, just as you would when making a ponytail.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"French Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Brush your hair back until it’s nice and smooth.\", \"描述\": \"Braiding is much easier when there aren’t any knots in the way, so make sure your hair is tangle-free before you begin. Swoop your hair back and away from your face with the brush to get it in position for a single French braid.\\nIf your hair is extra fine, try spritzing it with dry shampoo, as this gives your hair more texture and makes it easier to braid.\\nMaking French braid pigtails is another way to do this classic hairstyle, but for the sake of this beginner’s tutorial, we’ll be taking you through the process of a single French braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Create a section of hair at the front of your scalp along the top of your head.\", \"描述\": \"Unlike a traditional 3-strand braid, a French braid starts on your scalp rather than at the base of your neck. Use your fingers or a comb to section off a small area of hair on top of your head, as if you were creating a half-up top knot.\\nUse your temples as a guide when creating your section, dragging your fingers or comb from the end of your eyebrows to the top of your head.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Divide the section of hair into 3 more sections.\", \"描述\": \"Similarly to a 3-strand braid, a French braid requires 3 sections of hair. Use your fingers to form 3 even sections. We’ll call these Section A, Section B, and Section C.\\nIt can be helpful to hold 2 sections of hair in your left hand and 1 in your right.\\nHold the sections firmly, keeping them separated by an index finger.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Cross Section C over Section B.\", \"描述\": \"Take the section on the left and pull it over the middle section and under the section on the right, as if you were doing a traditional 3-strand braid. Secure Section C with your left index and forefinger, and grab Section B with your right hand.\\nIf you get stuck, remember that the middle piece always goes over when making a French braid.\\nAlternatively, you can make a Dutch braid by bringing the middle piece down and under when weaving.\\nIf starting with the left-most section doesn’t work for you, no problem! Start with whatever section feels the most natural.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Pull Section A over Section C while adding hair to Section A.\", \"描述\": \"Use your left hand to scoop a small section of hair from the outside of your braid and add it to Section A. Cross this thicker section over Section C so it’s in the middle.\\nAdding hair as you braid is what makes a French braid different than a classic 3-strand braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Add hair to Section B and cross over Section A.\", \"描述\": \"Repeat the same process of adding hair and moving it over into the middle of the sections with Section B. Try to add the same amount of hair you did before to help keep your braid even.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Continue braiding until you reach the base of your head.\", \"描述\": \"Alternate from left to right, adding hair to each outer section before moving it into the middle. Keep going until you’ve run out of hair to add to your braid.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Use a 3-strand braid to finish your French braid.\", \"描述\": \"Follow the same pattern as before, but skip adding new hair to each section. Keep braiding up and over until you reach the ends of your hair. Secure the braid with a hair elastic, and you’re good to go.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Fishtail Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Brush your hair until it’s free of tangles.\", \"描述\": \"Like any other braid, it’s important to make sure your hair is nice and smooth before you begin braiding. The fewer knots there are, the easier braiding will be.\\nUse a detangling product before you brush if you have stubborn knots or your hair tangles easily.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Part your hair into 2 even sections.\", \"描述\": \"Use a hair pick or comb to divide your hair down the middle to create 2 sections of hair (one on either side of your neck). Hold the right section of hair with your right hand and the left section with your left.\\nUnlike other braids, the fishtail braid uses 2 sections rather than 3.\\nWe’ll be teaching you how to do a fishtail braid that falls down your back in this tutorial, but you can easily pull your hair to one side and section it from there to create a side-swept fishtail.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pull a section of hair from the left section over to the right.\", \"描述\": \"With your left fingers, grab a small section of hair (about ⁄2 inch (1.3 cm) thick) from the outer side of the left section. Guide this strand of hair over the left section and into the right section.\\nKeep the added strand towards the middle of your head, so you don’t accidentally add it back into the braid.\\nPractice this braided hairstyle in the mirror, so you can see what you’re doing.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Cross a section of hair from the right over to the left.\", \"描述\": \"Take your right hand and grab a ⁄2 inch (1.3 cm) thick section of hair from the outside of the right section. Pull this small section up and over the right section and into the left, just as you did with the left section.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Continue this alternating crossing pattern until you reach the end of your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Grab hair from the left and pull it over to the right, and then grab hair from the right and pull it over to the left. Keep doing this until there’s no more hair to braid.\\nAs you braid, your 2 sections of hair will get smaller and smaller, so it’s okay to cross the same strand of hair over more than once.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Tie your hair off with an elastic.\", \"描述\": \"Once your braid is formed, secure it with a hair tie. Now all that’s left to do is rock your hair-do and show off your amazing braiding skills!\\nFor a tousled and more voluminous look, gently pull on the outside strands of the braid to make it wider.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Rope Braid\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Slick back your hair with a brush or comb.\", \"描述\": \"As with any braid, it’s important that your hair is knot-free before you start braiding. Brush your hair over to one side for a braid that’ll fall over your shoulders, or comb your hair back for a braid that’ll fall down your neck.\\nIf this is your first time trying this hair style, we recommend going for an over-the-shoulder braid, as this will make it easier for you to practice and see what you’re doing in a mirror.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Split your hair into 2 even sections.\", \"描述\": \"Rope braids are perfect for beginners because they only require 2 sections of hair and no weaving. So, to get started, divide your hair into 2 equal parts, holding the left section with your left hand and the right section with your right.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Twist the 2 sections of hair to the right.\", \"描述\": \"Use your fingers to twirl your hair into tight “ropes.” Try to keep the twists as tight as possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Cross the right section over the left strand.\", \"描述\": \"Always cross the sections in the opposite way of their twist. Since you twisted the hair to the right, you’ll pull the sections over each other from the left.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Wrap the sections around each other until you reach the end of your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Continue crossing the left-hand section over the right. Twist the sections to the right as you wrap if they start coming loose. When you reach the end of your braid, tie it off with an elastic.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Practice makes perfect, so don’t be discouraged if your braid doesn’t come out perfectly on the first try! Keep practicing, and soon braiding will become second nature.\\n\", \"The braids we’ve mentioned work well on straight or curly hair, but you may have to braid your hair a bit differently if you’re African American.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Preparing
1-1. Choose the amount of string.
When determining the amount of strands to use for a bracelet, consider how many colors you are using. Aim to use at least 2-4 strands per color, to ensure that one color will not run out before the rest. As a general rule, each bracelet should use about 6 strands of floss. The more strands, the thicker the bracelet.
1-2. Measure and cut the materials.
After you have decided the color and amount of string to use, measure and cut each strand about 18 inches in length, or roughly the distance from your wrist to your shoulder. This will allow you to make a bracelet that is long enough to wrap around your wrist.
To speed up this process, use the first strand that was measured and cut as a basis for the rest of the string. Rather than measuring out 18 inches of each string, hold the previously cut strand to the remaining strings and cut them to be the same length.
The more complex the knotting system is, the longer the string should be due to extra knots at every row. Remember, it’s better to cut the string too long rather than too short.
1-3. Tie the strings together.
After cutting the strands, gather one end of each piece of string and bundle them together in your hand. Tie a knot approximately three inches below the ends of the string. This will give you plenty to work with when tying the finished product around your wrist.
1-4. Secure bracelet to a stable surface.
There are several ways to secure the bracelet. The simplest way is to tape the bracelet (above the knot) to a table or counter. However, if not taped well enough, the bracelet might slide out. Nonetheless, there are other options to consider:
Safety pinning the bracelet through the knot and to a pillow, blanket or the pants that you are wearing is the best way to ensure that the bracelet will stay in position.
You can also try clipping the bracelet to a clipboard, as this too will provide sufficient and stable control.
1-5. Separate the strands.
Before starting the knotting process, separate each thread and make sure that none are knotted together. For this spiral bracelet, choose one strand of the color that you would like to begin with and pull it to the left side. This will be your active color. Group the remaining strands together and place them on the right side. These will be your inactive colors.
This step seems tedious and unnecessary when make a spiral bracelet, however, when making more advanced bracelets, this step will prove to be crucial in determining the color placement and string location.
2. Knotting
2-1. Make a left knot.
Hold the bundle of strands with your left hand. Take the active color in your right hand and starting from the left and moving right, pass it over the bundle of strings and loop it under and back through the opening. Pull up and to the left to tighten the knot.
To make this process easier, try using your left pointer finger as an aid. Stick out your left pointer finger and hook the active color on it, proceed to loop it under and through the center opening.
Make sure you are knotting over the bundle of strings, because knotting beneath them will result in a different type of knot.
2-2. Make a right knot.
Switch the process above from the left knot above and use opposite hands. (Every time you see left, use your right hand and every time you are told to use right, use your left hand.)
3. Braiding a Spiral Bracelet
3-1. Begin knotting the bracelet.
To make this spiral bracelet, it is just continual left knots using various colors. Use the active color to create a chain of knots of a desired length. Typically, 15 knots will be done with each color, but this amount can be adjusted based on your preference for the desired length of that color block.
3-2. As you are knotting, these knots will begin to spiral around the bundle of strings.
This is as expected, so with each knot, pull the string in the direction that the spiral is moving in. Since this bracelet is composed of strictly left knots, tightly pull the active color up and to the left.
If this bracelet is done with right knots instead, the spiral will be moving in the right direction instead.
3-3. Switch colors when you're ready.
After the desired length has been reached, switch colors by putting the now inactive color back in the bundle of strands, and removing a new active color to begin knotting with.
3-4. Repeat this braiding process until your bracelet has reached the desired length.
Once this length has been reached, tie a knot at the bottom of your completed bracelet pattern, to ensure that these knots will not unravel.
3-5. Cut about 3 inches below the knot, so the strand lengths are all equivalent.
3-6. Tie the result around your wrist and your bracelet is complete!
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Nonetheless, there are other options to consider:\\n Safety pinning the bracelet through the knot and to a pillow, blanket or the pants that you are wearing is the best way to ensure that the bracelet will stay in position. \\nYou can also try clipping the bracelet to a clipboard, as this too will provide sufficient and stable control.\\n1-5. Separate the strands.\\nBefore starting the knotting process, separate each thread and make sure that none are knotted together. For this spiral bracelet, choose one strand of the color that you would like to begin with and pull it to the left side. This will be your active color. Group the remaining strands together and place them on the right side. These will be your inactive colors.\\nThis step seems tedious and unnecessary when make a spiral bracelet, however, when making more advanced bracelets, this step will prove to be crucial in determining the color placement and string location.\\n2. Knotting\\n2-1. Make a left knot.\\nHold the bundle of strands with your left hand. Take the active color in your right hand and starting from the left and moving right, pass it over the bundle of strings and loop it under and back through the opening. Pull up and to the left to tighten the knot.\\nTo make this process easier, try using your left pointer finger as an aid. Stick out your left pointer finger and hook the active color on it, proceed to loop it under and through the center opening.\\nMake sure you are knotting over the bundle of strings, because knotting beneath them will result in a different type of knot.\\n2-2. Make a right knot.\\nSwitch the process above from the left knot above and use opposite hands. (Every time you see left, use your right hand and every time you are told to use right, use your left hand.)\\n3. Braiding a Spiral Bracelet\\n3-1. Begin knotting the bracelet.\\nTo make this spiral bracelet, it is just continual left knots using various colors. Use the active color to create a chain of knots of a desired length. Typically, 15 knots will be done with each color, but this amount can be adjusted based on your preference for the desired length of that color block.\\n3-2. As you are knotting, these knots will begin to spiral around the bundle of strings.\\nThis is as expected, so with each knot, pull the string in the direction that the spiral is moving in. Since this bracelet is composed of strictly left knots, tightly pull the active color up and to the left.\\nIf this bracelet is done with right knots instead, the spiral will be moving in the right direction instead.\\n3-3. Switch colors when you're ready.\\nAfter the desired length has been reached, switch colors by putting the now inactive color back in the bundle of strands, and removing a new active color to begin knotting with.\\n3-4. Repeat this braiding process until your bracelet has reached the desired length.\\nOnce this length has been reached, tie a knot at the bottom of your completed bracelet pattern, to ensure that these knots will not unravel.\\n3-5. Cut about 3 inches below the knot, so the strand lengths are all equivalent.\\n\\n3-6. Tie the result around your wrist and your bracelet is complete!\\n\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Braided bracelets are made with a variety knot combinations and colors, allowing for endless types of different bracelets. This beginner guide provides a fun way for you to learn how to braid bracelets using an easy and versatile technique.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Preparing\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Choose the amount of string.\", \"描述\": \"When determining the amount of strands to use for a bracelet, consider how many colors you are using. Aim to use at least 2-4 strands per color, to ensure that one color will not run out before the rest. 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How to Braid a Woman's Hair on a Date
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1. Offering to Do Her Hair
1-1. Pick the right time.
Wait for a quiet moment when you’re together. If she’s self-conscious about public displays of affection, choose a time when the two of you are alone. Ideal moments could be:
Sitting on the couch while watching TV.
Lounging on a blanket outside in the sun.
Waiting for an outdoor concert to begin.
1-2. Set the tone.
Attempting intimacy always feels awkward when you could fit a car between the two of you, so sit close to her and get cozy. Put your arm around her. Start stroking or playing with her hair. Pay her a compliment about its texture, look, or scent. Be natural about it, so you don’t look like you're trying to force a rehearsed move on her.
Keep your eyes on the TV or whatever the two of you are watching at first.
Play with her hair absentmindedly, as if you don’t even know what your hand is doing.
Then act as though whatever it is you compliment suddenly woke you up to what your hand is up to.
1-3. Suggest braiding her hair.
If she’s worn it braided for you before, tell her how much you like it that way. If not, tell her how great you think she’d look. Or, if you know that she enjoys having other people braid her hair as a way of relaxing, simply offer to do it yourself.
If you’re confident about your skill, just offer to do it, plain and simple, to show your confidence, like: "Hey, how about I braid this for you?"
If you’re unsure, just ask her to teach you. This way she probably won’t mind any mishaps, and you’ll still have an intimate moment together. Say something, "Hey, why don't you show me how to braid your hair? I always wondered how you do that."
If you’re confident but want to make this even more of a bonding experience, play dumb and ask her to teach you so she feels like she’s sharing something with you.
2. Braiding Her Hair
2-1. Comb her hair.
Sit behind her with enough space between you so you have room to work. Start from the bottom of her hair and work your way up to gently loosen any tangles. Go slowly, being careful not to pull. Smooth her hair with your palms a few times once you’ve finished.
Use your fingers if there isn’t a comb handy, or if you’d just rather have a more hands-on experience.
2-2. Make a basic braid.
Your main goal here is only to have an intimate moment with your lady, so don’t worry about doing anything too complex. First, separate her hair, or a section of her hair, into three even strands. Let’s call them 1, 2, and 3, from left to right. From there, you can start with either the leftmost strand (1) or the rightmost (3), but let’s say you start with the right strand:
Take the rightmost strand (3) in one hand, then cross it over the middle strand (2). Now the strands are arranged like this: 1-3-2, with the original right strand ending up in the middle.
Now cross the left strand (1) over the new middle strand (3). Now the original left strand is in between the others, so they appear as 3-1-2.
Continue crossing the strands in this pattern (right over middle, then left over middle) until you reach the end of her hair.
Always use one hand to handle the strand that you're moving, and your other hand to keep the other two strands separated from it. This way hairs from one strand won't become tangled with another’s.
This may be hard to visualize, so watch a video tutorial if needed to better see how to use your fingers and arrange each strand.
Practicing with three different colors of yarn or similar material is an easy way to master braiding.
2-3. Be gentle.
Remember, you’re just trying to show your partner you care, not rushing a customer in and out of a salon so you can move on to the next. Take your time. Be careful not to pull too hard or tightly on her hair. Work slowly and methodically.
Watch her neck and shoulders to make sure she’s relaxed.
If they tense up, this might mean she’s not enjoying this, or she may be nervous.
2-4. Build on the mood.
As long as she’s enjoying herself, follow the spirit of the moment. This is casual, not hairdressing, so keep it light and playful. Draw it out by taking your time, braiding several sections of hair, and/or undoing your work and starting all over.
If she’s talkative, keep chatting to show off your skill and confidence by doing two things at once.
If she’s relaxed and falls silent, keep quiet as well so she can focus on the sensation.
2-5. Wind it down.
Leave her hair braided if she wants. If not, undo it by reversing the technique. Then use your fingers to comb her hair out. To keep the physical intimacy going, try:
Moving on to a shoulder or neck massage.
Planting a kiss or two on her head, neck, or shoulders.
Stroking or grazing her fingers over her back or arms.
3. Making Her Feel Comfortable with Being Touched
3-1. Ease into it.
If the two of you have already become physically intimate, this is less of a concern. But if you are on a first date or taking things slowly, respect her personal space and body. Don’t spoil the mood by rushing or forcing physical contact. Wait until the two of you have both grown comfortable with small touches before suggesting something as involved as braiding her hair.
How long this takes will depend on the woman in question. She may welcome physical signs of affection right away, or she may need several dates before she feels like she can trust you.
However long it takes, don’t force the issue. Be respectful and don't rush physical intimacy before she’s ready.
3-2. Start with small touches.
Asking her if she’d like you to braid her hair will probably come across as a strange idea if the two of you haven’t made any sort of physical contact, so set some precedent. When you’re with her, touch her “by chance” or with polite, respectful gestures. Use these moments to judge how comfortable she feels with you. For example, you could:
Share an armrest with her in a movie theater so your arms rest against each other.
Tap her arm to direct her attention to something you’re pointing out.
Lightly touch her shoulder to announce your presence if she doesn’t see you coming.
3-3. Stick to neutral areas at first.
When you start off making small, incidental touches, aim for parts of her body that aren’t too personal, like her hand, arm, or back. Of course, you’re not entitled to touch any part of her unless she’s okay with it, but consider these areas as an innocent place to start trying. As long as she’s fine with it, continue finding excuses to make contact there so she grows accustomed to it without feeling threatened, like:
Emphasizing a point you’re making in your conversation by touching her hand.
Guiding her through doors with your hand in the small of her back.
Cupping her elbow to let her know you’re about to turn left or right as you walk together.
3-4. Start early.
Make physicality a part of your date right from the get-go. Don’t put if off, because this will only build it up into something “big” that will feel more awkward once you do start trying. Start testing the waters at the very start of your first date so touching each other feels perfectly natural.
Briefly take her hand between yours as part of your greeting.
Guide her by the elbow for a moment once you start walking.
Offer your hand to help her out of the car.
Tips
Don't use brushes, clips, elastics or other equipment unless your partner asks you to.
Make sure that you keep the braid separated at the bottom or it will get tangled and won't help your relationship .
Long hair is far easier to braid than short hair, unless you're pretty skilled. If your woman has short hair, consider giving her a scalp massage instead.
Warnings
Curly hair can break easily! Be gentle!
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Offering to Do Her Hair\\n1-1. Pick the right time.\\nWait for a quiet moment when you’re together. If she’s self-conscious about public displays of affection, choose a time when the two of you are alone. Ideal moments could be:\\nSitting on the couch while watching TV.\\nLounging on a blanket outside in the sun.\\nWaiting for an outdoor concert to begin.\\n1-2. Set the tone.\\nAttempting intimacy always feels awkward when you could fit a car between the two of you, so sit close to her and get cozy. Put your arm around her. Start stroking or playing with her hair. Pay her a compliment about its texture, look, or scent. Be natural about it, so you don’t look like you're trying to force a rehearsed move on her.\\nKeep your eyes on the TV or whatever the two of you are watching at first.\\nPlay with her hair absentmindedly, as if you don’t even know what your hand is doing.\\nThen act as though whatever it is you compliment suddenly woke you up to what your hand is up to.\\n1-3. Suggest braiding her hair.\\nIf she’s worn it braided for you before, tell her how much you like it that way. If not, tell her how great you think she’d look. Or, if you know that she enjoys having other people braid her hair as a way of relaxing, simply offer to do it yourself.\\nIf you’re confident about your skill, just offer to do it, plain and simple, to show your confidence, like: \\\"Hey, how about I braid this for you?\\\"\\nIf you’re unsure, just ask her to teach you. This way she probably won’t mind any mishaps, and you’ll still have an intimate moment together. Say something, \\\"Hey, why don't you show me how to braid your hair? I always wondered how you do that.\\\"\\nIf you’re confident but want to make this even more of a bonding experience, play dumb and ask her to teach you so she feels like she’s sharing something with you.\\n2. Braiding Her Hair\\n2-1. Comb her hair.\\nSit behind her with enough space between you so you have room to work. Start from the bottom of her hair and work your way up to gently loosen any tangles. Go slowly, being careful not to pull. Smooth her hair with your palms a few times once you’ve finished.\\nUse your fingers if there isn’t a comb handy, or if you’d just rather have a more hands-on experience.\\n2-2. Make a basic braid.\\nYour main goal here is only to have an intimate moment with your lady, so don’t worry about doing anything too complex. First, separate her hair, or a section of her hair, into three even strands. Let’s call them 1, 2, and 3, from left to right. From there, you can start with either the leftmost strand (1) or the rightmost (3), but let’s say you start with the right strand:\\nTake the rightmost strand (3) in one hand, then cross it over the middle strand (2). Now the strands are arranged like this: 1-3-2, with the original right strand ending up in the middle.\\nNow cross the left strand (1) over the new middle strand (3). Now the original left strand is in between the others, so they appear as 3-1-2.\\nContinue crossing the strands in this pattern (right over middle, then left over middle) until you reach the end of her hair.\\nAlways use one hand to handle the strand that you're moving, and your other hand to keep the other two strands separated from it. This way hairs from one strand won't become tangled with another’s.\\nThis may be hard to visualize, so watch a video tutorial if needed to better see how to use your fingers and arrange each strand.\\nPracticing with three different colors of yarn or similar material is an easy way to master braiding.\\n2-3. Be gentle.\\nRemember, you’re just trying to show your partner you care, not rushing a customer in and out of a salon so you can move on to the next. Take your time. Be careful not to pull too hard or tightly on her hair. Work slowly and methodically.\\nWatch her neck and shoulders to make sure she’s relaxed.\\nIf they tense up, this might mean she’s not enjoying this, or she may be nervous.\\n2-4. Build on the mood.\\nAs long as she’s enjoying herself, follow the spirit of the moment. This is casual, not hairdressing, so keep it light and playful. Draw it out by taking your time, braiding several sections of hair, and/or undoing your work and starting all over.\\nIf she’s talkative, keep chatting to show off your skill and confidence by doing two things at once.\\nIf she’s relaxed and falls silent, keep quiet as well so she can focus on the sensation.\\n2-5. Wind it down.\\nLeave her hair braided if she wants. If not, undo it by reversing the technique. Then use your fingers to comb her hair out. To keep the physical intimacy going, try:\\nMoving on to a shoulder or neck massage.\\nPlanting a kiss or two on her head, neck, or shoulders.\\nStroking or grazing her fingers over her back or arms.\\n3. Making Her Feel Comfortable with Being Touched\\n3-1. Ease into it.\\nIf the two of you have already become physically intimate, this is less of a concern. But if you are on a first date or taking things slowly, respect her personal space and body. Don’t spoil the mood by rushing or forcing physical contact. Wait until the two of you have both grown comfortable with small touches before suggesting something as involved as braiding her hair.\\nHow long this takes will depend on the woman in question. She may welcome physical signs of affection right away, or she may need several dates before she feels like she can trust you.\\nHowever long it takes, don’t force the issue. Be respectful and don't rush physical intimacy before she’s ready.\\n3-2. Start with small touches.\\nAsking her if she’d like you to braid her hair will probably come across as a strange idea if the two of you haven’t made any sort of physical contact, so set some precedent. When you’re with her, touch her “by chance” or with polite, respectful gestures. Use these moments to judge how comfortable she feels with you. For example, you could:\\nShare an armrest with her in a movie theater so your arms rest against each other.\\nTap her arm to direct her attention to something you’re pointing out.\\nLightly touch her shoulder to announce your presence if she doesn’t see you coming.\\n3-3. Stick to neutral areas at first.\\nWhen you start off making small, incidental touches, aim for parts of her body that aren’t too personal, like her hand, arm, or back. Of course, you’re not entitled to touch any part of her unless she’s okay with it, but consider these areas as an innocent place to start trying. As long as she’s fine with it, continue finding excuses to make contact there so she grows accustomed to it without feeling threatened, like:\\nEmphasizing a point you’re making in your conversation by touching her hand.\\nGuiding her through doors with your hand in the small of her back.\\nCupping her elbow to let her know you’re about to turn left or right as you walk together.\\n3-4. Start early.\\nMake physicality a part of your date right from the get-go. Don’t put if off, because this will only build it up into something “big” that will feel more awkward once you do start trying. Start testing the waters at the very start of your first date so touching each other feels perfectly natural.\\nBriefly take her hand between yours as part of your greeting.\\nGuide her by the elbow for a moment once you start walking.\\nOffer your hand to help her out of the car.\\nTips\\nDon't use brushes, clips, elastics or other equipment unless your partner asks you to.\\nMake sure that you keep the braid separated at the bottom or it will get tangled and won't help your relationship .\\nLong hair is far easier to braid than short hair, unless you're pretty skilled. If your woman has short hair, consider giving her a scalp massage instead.\\nWarnings\\nCurly hair can break easily! Be gentle!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Whether you’re trying to build physical intimacy with a new girlfriend, or simply trying to have a special moment with a woman you’ve been seeing for a while, braiding her hair is a great way to start. And since it’s more about having a special moment together, you don’t have to worry about being a master braider or doing anything fancy! However, if you just started dating, keep in mind that you may have to work your way up to it if she’s not accustomed to a lot of physical contact with you yet.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Offering to Do Her Hair\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pick the right time.\", \"描述\": \"Wait for a quiet moment when you’re together. If she’s self-conscious about public displays of affection, choose a time when the two of you are alone. Ideal moments could be:\\nSitting on the couch while watching TV.\\nLounging on a blanket outside in the sun.\\nWaiting for an outdoor concert to begin.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Set the tone.\", \"描述\": \"Attempting intimacy always feels awkward when you could fit a car between the two of you, so sit close to her and get cozy. Put your arm around her. Start stroking or playing with her hair. Pay her a compliment about its texture, look, or scent. Be natural about it, so you don’t look like you're trying to force a rehearsed move on her.\\nKeep your eyes on the TV or whatever the two of you are watching at first.\\nPlay with her hair absentmindedly, as if you don’t even know what your hand is doing.\\nThen act as though whatever it is you compliment suddenly woke you up to what your hand is up to.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Suggest braiding her hair.\", \"描述\": \"If she’s worn it braided for you before, tell her how much you like it that way. If not, tell her how great you think she’d look. Or, if you know that she enjoys having other people braid her hair as a way of relaxing, simply offer to do it yourself.\\nIf you’re confident about your skill, just offer to do it, plain and simple, to show your confidence, like: \\\"Hey, how about I braid this for you?\\\"\\nIf you’re unsure, just ask her to teach you. This way she probably won’t mind any mishaps, and you’ll still have an intimate moment together. Say something, \\\"Hey, why don't you show me how to braid your hair? I always wondered how you do that.\\\"\\nIf you’re confident but want to make this even more of a bonding experience, play dumb and ask her to teach you so she feels like she’s sharing something with you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Braiding Her Hair\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Comb her hair.\", \"描述\": \"Sit behind her with enough space between you so you have room to work. Start from the bottom of her hair and work your way up to gently loosen any tangles. Go slowly, being careful not to pull. Smooth her hair with your palms a few times once you’ve finished.\\nUse your fingers if there isn’t a comb handy, or if you’d just rather have a more hands-on experience.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make a basic braid.\", \"描述\": \"Your main goal here is only to have an intimate moment with your lady, so don’t worry about doing anything too complex. First, separate her hair, or a section of her hair, into three even strands. Let’s call them 1, 2, and 3, from left to right. From there, you can start with either the leftmost strand (1) or the rightmost (3), but let’s say you start with the right strand:\\nTake the rightmost strand (3) in one hand, then cross it over the middle strand (2). Now the strands are arranged like this: 1-3-2, with the original right strand ending up in the middle.\\nNow cross the left strand (1) over the new middle strand (3). Now the original left strand is in between the others, so they appear as 3-1-2.\\nContinue crossing the strands in this pattern (right over middle, then left over middle) until you reach the end of her hair.\\nAlways use one hand to handle the strand that you're moving, and your other hand to keep the other two strands separated from it. This way hairs from one strand won't become tangled with another’s.\\nThis may be hard to visualize, so watch a video tutorial if needed to better see how to use your fingers and arrange each strand.\\nPracticing with three different colors of yarn or similar material is an easy way to master braiding.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be gentle.\", \"描述\": \"Remember, you’re just trying to show your partner you care, not rushing a customer in and out of a salon so you can move on to the next. Take your time. Be careful not to pull too hard or tightly on her hair. Work slowly and methodically.\\nWatch her neck and shoulders to make sure she’s relaxed.\\nIf they tense up, this might mean she’s not enjoying this, or she may be nervous.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Build on the mood.\", \"描述\": \"As long as she’s enjoying herself, follow the spirit of the moment. This is casual, not hairdressing, so keep it light and playful. Draw it out by taking your time, braiding several sections of hair, and/or undoing your work and starting all over.\\nIf she’s talkative, keep chatting to show off your skill and confidence by doing two things at once.\\nIf she’s relaxed and falls silent, keep quiet as well so she can focus on the sensation.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Wind it down.\", \"描述\": \"Leave her hair braided if she wants. If not, undo it by reversing the technique. Then use your fingers to comb her hair out. 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1. Creating Your Road Map
1-1. Look at your goal.
Before you look at what you want to do, think about what you're trying to achieve. This can give you a good starting point, a sort of light at the end of the tunnel.
Do you want to brainstorm for your business?
Are you trying to make a big decision or life change?
Are you trying to come up with an idea for your next work of art?
Maybe you're trying to come up with an idea for an article you have to write?
1-2. Understand any requirements.
If you have a teacher, boss, client, or someone that will be evaluating your work, find out what they're expecting or what they need. If not, just think about the limitations you must work within and what the final product should accomplish. While breaking requirements can sometimes result in a better experience and final product, knowing all of the limitations will give you a good framework to start working in.
For example, do you need to keep to a certain budget?
Do you need to use only certain materials?
Does the project need to be done by a certain time?
Do you need to do more research to better understand the needs and limitations of the project?
1-3. List out and evaluate your assumptions.
You'll naturally be assuming some things about your project. What are people looking for? What are your limitations? What is acceptable or normal? What should it generally look like? List these assumptions so that you can play on them later.
For example, with an art project, we might assume that people are looking for a particular color scheme that fits with the theme of a gallery show.
For a business project, we might assume that customers are wanting a particular something that our competitor's product does not provide.
If you are focusing on making a life change, list out the things you want to change and why. This may help you get to the heart of what you really want or need.
1-4. Evaluate what you have to work with.
Take a hard look at what you've done in the past, what you've done already, and what you have available to you in terms of resources. This will help give you some boundaries to work with.
What kind of tools do you have to use?
What materials or people have you not made use of in a long time?
What was something you tried last year and how could it be better?
Ask others for their opinions.
2. Getting Inspiration
2-1. Do some research.
Do some research on what people working on similar projects have been doing. Google is your friend in this adventure. You should not be looking at what others are doing in order to copy them. Instead, you should be seeing where their ideas fall short or what pieces of their project might fit into yours.
2-2. Look at what the innovators are doing.
Once you see what run-of-the-mill folks are doing, find out what the innovators are doing. Seek out the cutting edge and fringe ideas or techniques that other people are experimenting with. You might want to similarly experiment! Such innovation can set you apart, making what you do unique, memorable, and appealing.
2-3. Go somewhere.
Get outside of your usual environment. This is a great way to break yourself out of the standard creation loop and think of things that you've never thought of before. Go for a walk, go to a local artisan or farmer's market, or work in a cafe for a while. Any change of environment can help you think in different ways.
2-4. Keep a journal next to your bed.
Always have a journal next to your bed. You'll also want to keep a waterproof note-taking option in your shower area. Good ideas often sneak up on us when we're doing these other activities, but then get lost as we get distracted with whatever else it is we're doing. By having a pen and paper nearby, you'll be able to quickly jot down the things you think of before they fly away!
2-5. Take breaks!
It's important to take breaks, to keep your mind clear of negative response loops. A lot of the time, when you're thinking and coming up with nothing, you get too focused on the fact that you're coming up with nothing, making it impossible to really think.
Try having a healthy snack, catch up with a coworker, or do a quick chore (such as cleaning up your mess from dinner).
2-6. Shut out criticism.
During the brainstorming process, criticism isn't helpful. You'll need the freedom of minimal boundaries in order to get to new ideas. Leave criticism for once you have a long list of possibilities.
If you're brainstorming with other people, you might need to remind some people to keep negative opinions to themselves until the brainstorming activity is done.
Try to frame your brainstorming as your time to collect new ideas and materials. You can and should sort through them later, but allow your brainstorming time to be dedicated simply to taking them in.
3. Brainstorming Techniques
3-1. Warm up.
Don't try to brainstorm with just a cold start. This is like breaking out into a full run without a light jog first! Do a quick exercise that gets your head in that space, such as making a menu for your next week's worth of dinners, or coming up with a wish list of things you'd like to accomplish in work, school, or whatever it is you're doing.
3-2. Change your perspective.
Put yourself in the shoes of your competitor, looking at what you're doing now and trying to figure out how to be better than you. How would they look at what you're doing and do things better? What would they change? Where would they go next?
3-3. Introduce roadblocks.
Giving yourself new roadblocks to reaching your goals, such as a lower budget, a new deadline, or a specific material to be used, can make you more creative and innovative. It may even give you an idea if you couldn't come up with one before.
3-4. Make a mind map.
Mind maps are one of the most popular brainstorming techniques. This is where you write down an idea (or several!) on a notecard. Pin the notecard to a wall and then build on the idea. Write down every little thing you think of and start connecting the ideas.
3-5. Create idea categories.
Create three categories: easy ideas, tough ideas, and crazy ideas. Try to come up with at least five ideas for each category. Usually, in coming up with ideas we think we can't or shouldn't actually carry out, we find ourselves with ideas that we actually can use.
3-6. Write a poem
Write a poem that describes what you're trying to do. You can also write a theoretical analysis or review of the thing you're hoping to create. By outlining what you're hoping to get out of the project, you may have an easier time thinking of ways to do it.
3-7. Bring an old technique into the new age.
Take something you've done before, a long time ago, and find a way to update it. You can also take old concepts that aren't yours and find a way to bring them into this era. For example, Twitter was basically telegrams for the internet. Some of the most popular products right now make use of classic designs.
3-8. Use an online idea generator.
Online idea generators can be really helpful in getting you started, even if it's just used as a warm-up. Don't feel burdened by or tied to the ideas that it gives you, but try to use them as a jumping-off point. Try this:
http://ideagenerator.creativitygames.net/
3-9. Keep asking questions.
Always ask questions. Ask questions of yourself. Ask questions of the people you're brainstorming with. Ask questions of your friends and family members. Questions lead us to really think through things that we might have glazed over in our minds. Ask detailed questions and questions that really get at the heart of the issue. And don't go for the short, obvious answer.
Why do I want to paint with oils?
Why does my customer want this product?
You can even incorporate these questions into your mind map. You won't have all the answers yet because you're just starting your project, but you will be able to chart your thoughts.
3-10. Don't waste time.
There are lots of little exercises, like mind maps, that can be really useful. But a lot of the time they're also a distraction and can hold you back from really getting work done. Don't waste too much time on brainstorming activities, and instead try to just get down to business as quickly as possible.
3-11. Do some free-writing.
Freewriting is where you start writing and you just don't stop. This also involves some free association, where you naturally follow the course that your thoughts take instead of trying to direct the current. Just write down a sentence that deals with the topic you're trying to brainstorm on and then follow your brain, writing down every word that ambles through your internal dialogue without stopping to think. You never know where it will lead you!
Tips
While brainstorming, it can be helpful to listen to classical or jazz music, or any music without lyrics (you don't want their words to distract you and get in the way of yours).
Try brainstorming with a friend or peer. They might have different ideas and your collaboration could end up with the perfect result and you could help them too. If you work well together, keep doing it.
Save your brainstorming papers, as you never know when you may need them.
Warnings
Brainstorming is not guaranteed to break the toughest writers' block, but it should give you a mental warm-up and an idea of where you are going with your writing process.
Brainstorming can be very frustrating at times, so remember to take a break every so often.
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While breaking requirements can sometimes result in a better experience and final product, knowing all of the limitations will give you a good framework to start working in.\\nFor example, do you need to keep to a certain budget?\\nDo you need to use only certain materials?\\nDoes the project need to be done by a certain time?\\nDo you need to do more research to better understand the needs and limitations of the project?\\n1-3. List out and evaluate your assumptions.\\nYou'll naturally be assuming some things about your project. What are people looking for? What are your limitations? What is acceptable or normal? What should it generally look like? List these assumptions so that you can play on them later.\\nFor example, with an art project, we might assume that people are looking for a particular color scheme that fits with the theme of a gallery show.\\nFor a business project, we might assume that customers are wanting a particular something that our competitor's product does not provide.\\nIf you are focusing on making a life change, list out the things you want to change and why. This may help you get to the heart of what you really want or need.\\n1-4. Evaluate what you have to work with.\\nTake a hard look at what you've done in the past, what you've done already, and what you have available to you in terms of resources. This will help give you some boundaries to work with.\\nWhat kind of tools do you have to use?\\nWhat materials or people have you not made use of in a long time?\\nWhat was something you tried last year and how could it be better?\\nAsk others for their opinions.\\n2. Getting Inspiration\\n2-1. Do some research.\\nDo some research on what people working on similar projects have been doing. Google is your friend in this adventure. You should not be looking at what others are doing in order to copy them. Instead, you should be seeing where their ideas fall short or what pieces of their project might fit into yours.\\n2-2. Look at what the innovators are doing.\\nOnce you see what run-of-the-mill folks are doing, find out what the innovators are doing. Seek out the cutting edge and fringe ideas or techniques that other people are experimenting with. You might want to similarly experiment! Such innovation can set you apart, making what you do unique, memorable, and appealing.\\n2-3. Go somewhere.\\nGet outside of your usual environment. This is a great way to break yourself out of the standard creation loop and think of things that you've never thought of before. Go for a walk, go to a local artisan or farmer's market, or work in a cafe for a while. Any change of environment can help you think in different ways.\\n2-4. Keep a journal next to your bed.\\nAlways have a journal next to your bed. You'll also want to keep a waterproof note-taking option in your shower area. Good ideas often sneak up on us when we're doing these other activities, but then get lost as we get distracted with whatever else it is we're doing. By having a pen and paper nearby, you'll be able to quickly jot down the things you think of before they fly away!\\n2-5. Take breaks!\\nIt's important to take breaks, to keep your mind clear of negative response loops. A lot of the time, when you're thinking and coming up with nothing, you get too focused on the fact that you're coming up with nothing, making it impossible to really think.\\nTry having a healthy snack, catch up with a coworker, or do a quick chore (such as cleaning up your mess from dinner).\\n2-6. Shut out criticism.\\nDuring the brainstorming process, criticism isn't helpful. You'll need the freedom of minimal boundaries in order to get to new ideas. Leave criticism for once you have a long list of possibilities.\\nIf you're brainstorming with other people, you might need to remind some people to keep negative opinions to themselves until the brainstorming activity is done.\\nTry to frame your brainstorming as your time to collect new ideas and materials. You can and should sort through them later, but allow your brainstorming time to be dedicated simply to taking them in.\\n3. Brainstorming Techniques\\n3-1. Warm up.\\nDon't try to brainstorm with just a cold start. This is like breaking out into a full run without a light jog first! Do a quick exercise that gets your head in that space, such as making a menu for your next week's worth of dinners, or coming up with a wish list of things you'd like to accomplish in work, school, or whatever it is you're doing.\\n3-2. Change your perspective.\\nPut yourself in the shoes of your competitor, looking at what you're doing now and trying to figure out how to be better than you. How would they look at what you're doing and do things better? What would they change? Where would they go next?\\n3-3. Introduce roadblocks.\\nGiving yourself new roadblocks to reaching your goals, such as a lower budget, a new deadline, or a specific material to be used, can make you more creative and innovative. It may even give you an idea if you couldn't come up with one before.\\n3-4. Make a mind map.\\nMind maps are one of the most popular brainstorming techniques. This is where you write down an idea (or several!) on a notecard. Pin the notecard to a wall and then build on the idea. Write down every little thing you think of and start connecting the ideas.\\n3-5. Create idea categories.\\nCreate three categories: easy ideas, tough ideas, and crazy ideas. Try to come up with at least five ideas for each category. Usually, in coming up with ideas we think we can't or shouldn't actually carry out, we find ourselves with ideas that we actually can use.\\n3-6. Write a poem\\nWrite a poem that describes what you're trying to do. You can also write a theoretical analysis or review of the thing you're hoping to create. By outlining what you're hoping to get out of the project, you may have an easier time thinking of ways to do it.\\n3-7. Bring an old technique into the new age.\\nTake something you've done before, a long time ago, and find a way to update it. You can also take old concepts that aren't yours and find a way to bring them into this era. For example, Twitter was basically telegrams for the internet. Some of the most popular products right now make use of classic designs.\\n3-8. Use an online idea generator.\\nOnline idea generators can be really helpful in getting you started, even if it's just used as a warm-up. Don't feel burdened by or tied to the ideas that it gives you, but try to use them as a jumping-off point. Try this:\\nhttp://ideagenerator.creativitygames.net/\\n3-9. Keep asking questions.\\nAlways ask questions. Ask questions of yourself. Ask questions of the people you're brainstorming with. Ask questions of your friends and family members. Questions lead us to really think through things that we might have glazed over in our minds. Ask detailed questions and questions that really get at the heart of the issue. And don't go for the short, obvious answer.\\nWhy do I want to paint with oils?\\nWhy does my customer want this product?\\nYou can even incorporate these questions into your mind map. You won't have all the answers yet because you're just starting your project, but you will be able to chart your thoughts.\\n3-10. Don't waste time.\\nThere are lots of little exercises, like mind maps, that can be really useful. But a lot of the time they're also a distraction and can hold you back from really getting work done. Don't waste too much time on brainstorming activities, and instead try to just get down to business as quickly as possible.\\n3-11. Do some free-writing.\\nFreewriting is where you start writing and you just don't stop. This also involves some free association, where you naturally follow the course that your thoughts take instead of trying to direct the current. Just write down a sentence that deals with the topic you're trying to brainstorm on and then follow your brain, writing down every word that ambles through your internal dialogue without stopping to think. You never know where it will lead you!\\nTips\\nWhile brainstorming, it can be helpful to listen to classical or jazz music, or any music without lyrics (you don't want their words to distract you and get in the way of yours).\\nTry brainstorming with a friend or peer. They might have different ideas and your collaboration could end up with the perfect result and you could help them too. If you work well together, keep doing it.\\nSave your brainstorming papers, as you never know when you may need them.\\nWarnings\\nBrainstorming is not guaranteed to break the toughest writers' block, but it should give you a mental warm-up and an idea of where you are going with your writing process.\\nBrainstorming can be very frustrating at times, so remember to take a break every so often.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Brainstorming is one of the most common types of informal idea invention. Brainstorming comes in handy in many situations where creative, cognitive thinking is required. Whether you're coming up with an idea for a new product for your business or you want to come up with a concept for your next oil painting, this wikiHow article can help you get those creative juices flowing.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Creating Your Road Map\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Look at your goal.\", \"描述\": \"Before you look at what you want to do, think about what you're trying to achieve. This can give you a good starting point, a sort of light at the end of the tunnel.\\nDo you want to brainstorm for your business?\\nAre you trying to make a big decision or life change?\\nAre you trying to come up with an idea for your next work of art?\\nMaybe you're trying to come up with an idea for an article you have to write?\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Understand any requirements.\", \"描述\": \"If you have a teacher, boss, client, or someone that will be evaluating your work, find out what they're expecting or what they need. If not, just think about the limitations you must work within and what the final product should accomplish. While breaking requirements can sometimes result in a better experience and final product, knowing all of the limitations will give you a good framework to start working in.\\nFor example, do you need to keep to a certain budget?\\nDo you need to use only certain materials?\\nDoes the project need to be done by a certain time?\\nDo you need to do more research to better understand the needs and limitations of the project?\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"List out and evaluate your assumptions.\", \"描述\": \"You'll naturally be assuming some things about your project. What are people looking for? What are your limitations? What is acceptable or normal? What should it generally look like? List these assumptions so that you can play on them later.\\nFor example, with an art project, we might assume that people are looking for a particular color scheme that fits with the theme of a gallery show.\\nFor a business project, we might assume that customers are wanting a particular something that our competitor's product does not provide.\\nIf you are focusing on making a life change, list out the things you want to change and why. This may help you get to the heart of what you really want or need.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Evaluate what you have to work with.\", \"描述\": \"Take a hard look at what you've done in the past, what you've done already, and what you have available to you in terms of resources. This will help give you some boundaries to work with.\\nWhat kind of tools do you have to use?\\nWhat materials or people have you not made use of in a long time?\\nWhat was something you tried last year and how could it be better?\\nAsk others for their opinions.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Getting Inspiration\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Do some research.\", \"描述\": \"Do some research on what people working on similar projects have been doing. Google is your friend in this adventure. You should not be looking at what others are doing in order to copy them. Instead, you should be seeing where their ideas fall short or what pieces of their project might fit into yours.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Look at what the innovators are doing.\", \"描述\": \"Once you see what run-of-the-mill folks are doing, find out what the innovators are doing. Seek out the cutting edge and fringe ideas or techniques that other people are experimenting with. You might want to similarly experiment! Such innovation can set you apart, making what you do unique, memorable, and appealing.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Go somewhere.\", \"描述\": \"Get outside of your usual environment. This is a great way to break yourself out of the standard creation loop and think of things that you've never thought of before. Go for a walk, go to a local artisan or farmer's market, or work in a cafe for a while. Any change of environment can help you think in different ways.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Keep a journal next to your bed.\", \"描述\": \"Always have a journal next to your bed. You'll also want to keep a waterproof note-taking option in your shower area. Good ideas often sneak up on us when we're doing these other activities, but then get lost as we get distracted with whatever else it is we're doing. By having a pen and paper nearby, you'll be able to quickly jot down the things you think of before they fly away!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Take breaks!\", \"描述\": \"It's important to take breaks, to keep your mind clear of negative response loops. A lot of the time, when you're thinking and coming up with nothing, you get too focused on the fact that you're coming up with nothing, making it impossible to really think.\\nTry having a healthy snack, catch up with a coworker, or do a quick chore (such as cleaning up your mess from dinner).\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Shut out criticism.\", \"描述\": \"During the brainstorming process, criticism isn't helpful. You'll need the freedom of minimal boundaries in order to get to new ideas. 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1. Generating Ideas
1-1. Write down your goals and problems.
At the top of a sheet of paper or Microsoft Word document, write down what you want to achieve during the brainstorming session. This will help focus your ideas. You may even want to list a few different objectives.
Your goals may be very vague such as “find a new career” or “write a short story.” They may also be very specific, such as “increase profits by 10%” or “start a flower garden in my backyard.”
1-2. Do word association.
Think of your central idea or problem. Write down a few words that you immediately associate with those ideas. Look over these new words and write down any words that you think are related. As the words pop into your head, write them down, no matter how silly or strange they might seem.
For example, if you are writing a paper for English class, you can write down the names of the novels you read in class. When you think of Jane Eyre, you may write down mystery, romance, madwoman, or governess. The word governess might make you think of strong female character, working women, or education. Continue writing down associated words until you have a strong concept in mind.
If you don't have a central idea yet, you can just write down a random word. Put down whatever comes into your head first. This is effective for creative activities.
1-3. Freewrite.
Sit down for fifteen minutes, and write down whatever comes across your mind. Do not let your pen leave the page until the fifteen minutes are up. This will help you start processing ideas. While you might begin with no good thoughts, you may find you have stumbled upon some new ideas by the time your fifteen minutes are up.
A good way to start is to state your goal, and write "I want..." statements after it. For example, "I want to give a talk on effective brainstorming. I want this talk to be twenty minutes. I want to discuss in this talk how to freewrite." As ideas come to you, you may start writing naturally.
Even if you are thinking “I have nothing to write about,” jot it down. The goal is to start writing. Through the process of writing, you will think of new ideas.
1-4. Draft a list.
Create a list of every idea that comes through your head. You can write this on a piece of paper or on a bulleted list in a word document. Include ideas that you think are silly or stupid. Keep going until you have at least fifteen or twenty ideas. Once you are done, you can go back over your list and cross out the ideas you don't like.
1-5. Doodle pictures.
If you like to draw, doodling may help you come up with some ideas. Start drawing a general vague idea of your main purpose or goal. Slowly refine it with your pen. If you come up with a different idea, sketch it down too. Try to draw pictures as ideas come to you. They won't be perfect, but they will help you visualize where you want to go.
You can try starting off by drawing a representation of how you are feeling. What does your current mental state look like?
You can also draw the shapes that you associate with the ideas you are having.
2. Organizing Your Thoughts
2-1. Write ideas down on notecards.
Take all of your ideas, and write each one down on a notecard. On a clean table, lay out each notecard facing up so that you can see all of your ideas spread out. Move around ideas into a logical order. Remove any cards that are no longer productive, and add new cards to fill in gaps. This will help you visually order your ideas. When you are done, stack the cards in their proper order, and keep them safe until you are ready to make your ideas reality.
2-2. Make a mind map.
Write your main idea down in the middle of a sheet of paper. Trace a circle around it. Draw related themes, ideas, or solutions around the central idea. Next to these smaller ideas, write other concepts, thoughts, or word associations. As more ideas comes to you, connect the ideas with lines. Lines can interconnect, zigzag, or even branch off into other circles.
Allow your mind map to develop into any shape that occurs naturally.
2-3. Break the problem down into individual steps.
You may know where you want to end up, but you may not know how to get there. If you are struggling to fill in the gaps, try thinking of the major steps that will help you get to your goal. Next, divide those big ideas into more manageable tasks. Continue to become more and more specific in your steps until you have a plan of action.
For example, if you are brainstorming ways to make your office environmentally friendly, your first steps may be to identify office waste, educate your employees, and invest in clean energy products. You will then want to come up with four or five steps for each category. To invest in clean products, you may decide to buy LED lightbulbs, install solar panels, put in low-flow toilets, and recycle your paper.
2-4. Cube the problem.
Cubing is a process where you sit down with a general idea or problem and write about it from six different angles. Cubing can help you flesh out weak ideas or develop strong supporting evidence. Write down the following six headings, and answer each prompt with at least a paragraph.
Describe the problem.
Compare it to other situations.
Associate the problem with similar topics.
Analyze the problem and its solutions.
Apply it to real world situations.
Argue for and against it.
3. Getting Over Mental Block
3-1. Go for a walk.
Walking can boost your creativity and help you work through problems. Take a short walk outside to help think through your ideas. You may or may not choose to think about your problem. If you find that ideas are starting to come to you, work them out as you walk. If you are still stumbling, clear your head, and do not think about it until you return.
3-2. Take a break.
After about twenty or thirty minutes, you should stop brainstorming, and do another activity for five to ten minutes. You can get a snack, read a few news articles, or make a phone call. Do something that will take your mind off your brainstorming session. This will help refresh your mind, and give you new ideas when return to the brainstorming activity.
3-3. Talk to yourself.
Talking can help you process ideas and generate new ones. Even if you are alone, you can still talk out your problems. Pretend that you are discussing your ideas with someone. Explain to yourself what you need to get done and what roadblocks you are facing. You may find yourself coming to the solution as you describe your problem.
If it helps, you can record yourself speaking to save any ideas that you might develop. Or you can listen to yourself to reflect on what you said.
3-4. Listen to music.
Before you start brainstorming or during breaks, you can listen to music to help boost the creative process. Choose upbeat music that you enjoy. When you are ready to start brainstorming, turn the music off. While listening to music before a task can boost creativity, trying to listen to music during brainstorming can distract you.
Tips
Using pictures is another way to brainstorm.
When in doubt, look things up. You can use reference books, the Internet, etc.
Warnings
This may be hard if you don't focus or concentrate.
If you are distracted, stop for a few hours. Do another activity before returning to the problem.
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When you think of Jane Eyre, you may write down mystery, romance, madwoman, or governess. The word governess might make you think of strong female character, working women, or education. Continue writing down associated words until you have a strong concept in mind.\\nIf you don't have a central idea yet, you can just write down a random word. Put down whatever comes into your head first. This is effective for creative activities.\\n1-3. Freewrite.\\nSit down for fifteen minutes, and write down whatever comes across your mind. Do not let your pen leave the page until the fifteen minutes are up. This will help you start processing ideas. While you might begin with no good thoughts, you may find you have stumbled upon some new ideas by the time your fifteen minutes are up.\\nA good way to start is to state your goal, and write \\\"I want...\\\" statements after it. For example, \\\"I want to give a talk on effective brainstorming. I want this talk to be twenty minutes. I want to discuss in this talk how to freewrite.\\\" As ideas come to you, you may start writing naturally.\\nEven if you are thinking “I have nothing to write about,” jot it down. The goal is to start writing. Through the process of writing, you will think of new ideas.\\n1-4. Draft a list.\\nCreate a list of every idea that comes through your head. You can write this on a piece of paper or on a bulleted list in a word document. Include ideas that you think are silly or stupid. Keep going until you have at least fifteen or twenty ideas. Once you are done, you can go back over your list and cross out the ideas you don't like.\\n1-5. Doodle pictures.\\nIf you like to draw, doodling may help you come up with some ideas. Start drawing a general vague idea of your main purpose or goal. Slowly refine it with your pen. If you come up with a different idea, sketch it down too. Try to draw pictures as ideas come to you. They won't be perfect, but they will help you visualize where you want to go.\\nYou can try starting off by drawing a representation of how you are feeling. What does your current mental state look like?\\nYou can also draw the shapes that you associate with the ideas you are having.\\n2. Organizing Your Thoughts\\n2-1. Write ideas down on notecards.\\nTake all of your ideas, and write each one down on a notecard. On a clean table, lay out each notecard facing up so that you can see all of your ideas spread out. Move around ideas into a logical order. Remove any cards that are no longer productive, and add new cards to fill in gaps. This will help you visually order your ideas. When you are done, stack the cards in their proper order, and keep them safe until you are ready to make your ideas reality.\\n2-2. Make a mind map.\\nWrite your main idea down in the middle of a sheet of paper. Trace a circle around it. Draw related themes, ideas, or solutions around the central idea. Next to these smaller ideas, write other concepts, thoughts, or word associations. As more ideas comes to you, connect the ideas with lines. Lines can interconnect, zigzag, or even branch off into other circles.\\nAllow your mind map to develop into any shape that occurs naturally.\\n2-3. Break the problem down into individual steps.\\nYou may know where you want to end up, but you may not know how to get there. If you are struggling to fill in the gaps, try thinking of the major steps that will help you get to your goal. Next, divide those big ideas into more manageable tasks. Continue to become more and more specific in your steps until you have a plan of action.\\nFor example, if you are brainstorming ways to make your office environmentally friendly, your first steps may be to identify office waste, educate your employees, and invest in clean energy products. You will then want to come up with four or five steps for each category. To invest in clean products, you may decide to buy LED lightbulbs, install solar panels, put in low-flow toilets, and recycle your paper.\\n2-4. Cube the problem.\\nCubing is a process where you sit down with a general idea or problem and write about it from six different angles. Cubing can help you flesh out weak ideas or develop strong supporting evidence. Write down the following six headings, and answer each prompt with at least a paragraph.\\nDescribe the problem.\\nCompare it to other situations.\\nAssociate the problem with similar topics.\\nAnalyze the problem and its solutions.\\nApply it to real world situations.\\nArgue for and against it.\\n3. Getting Over Mental Block\\n3-1. Go for a walk.\\nWalking can boost your creativity and help you work through problems. Take a short walk outside to help think through your ideas. You may or may not choose to think about your problem. If you find that ideas are starting to come to you, work them out as you walk. If you are still stumbling, clear your head, and do not think about it until you return.\\n3-2. Take a break.\\nAfter about twenty or thirty minutes, you should stop brainstorming, and do another activity for five to ten minutes. You can get a snack, read a few news articles, or make a phone call. Do something that will take your mind off your brainstorming session. This will help refresh your mind, and give you new ideas when return to the brainstorming activity.\\n3-3. Talk to yourself.\\nTalking can help you process ideas and generate new ones. Even if you are alone, you can still talk out your problems. Pretend that you are discussing your ideas with someone. Explain to yourself what you need to get done and what roadblocks you are facing. You may find yourself coming to the solution as you describe your problem.\\nIf it helps, you can record yourself speaking to save any ideas that you might develop. Or you can listen to yourself to reflect on what you said.\\n3-4. Listen to music.\\nBefore you start brainstorming or during breaks, you can listen to music to help boost the creative process. Choose upbeat music that you enjoy. When you are ready to start brainstorming, turn the music off. While listening to music before a task can boost creativity, trying to listen to music during brainstorming can distract you.\\nTips\\nUsing pictures is another way to brainstorm.\\nWhen in doubt, look things up. You can use reference books, the Internet, etc.\\nWarnings\\nThis may be hard if you don't focus or concentrate.\\nIf you are distracted, stop for a few hours. Do another activity before returning to the problem.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Brainstorming is a process of creating and fleshing out ideas so that you can create new concepts, solve problems, and increase productivity. While you can brainstorm in groups, sometimes you will have to come up with your ideas all by yourself. You can generate ideas through creative activities that get your mind pumping. If you already have some ideas, you can arrange them so that they are more detailed and cohesive. While brainstorming, you may face some mental blocks, but you can overcome those easily.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Generating Ideas\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Write down your goals and problems.\", \"描述\": \"At the top of a sheet of paper or Microsoft Word document, write down what you want to achieve during the brainstorming session. This will help focus your ideas. You may even want to list a few different objectives.\\nYour goals may be very vague such as “find a new career” or “write a short story.” They may also be very specific, such as “increase profits by 10%” or “start a flower garden in my backyard.”\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Do word association.\", \"描述\": \"Think of your central idea or problem. Write down a few words that you immediately associate with those ideas. Look over these new words and write down any words that you think are related. As the words pop into your head, write them down, no matter how silly or strange they might seem.\\nFor example, if you are writing a paper for English class, you can write down the names of the novels you read in class. When you think of Jane Eyre, you may write down mystery, romance, madwoman, or governess. The word governess might make you think of strong female character, working women, or education. Continue writing down associated words until you have a strong concept in mind.\\nIf you don't have a central idea yet, you can just write down a random word. Put down whatever comes into your head first. This is effective for creative activities.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Freewrite.\", \"描述\": \"Sit down for fifteen minutes, and write down whatever comes across your mind. Do not let your pen leave the page until the fifteen minutes are up. This will help you start processing ideas. While you might begin with no good thoughts, you may find you have stumbled upon some new ideas by the time your fifteen minutes are up.\\nA good way to start is to state your goal, and write \\\"I want...\\\" statements after it. For example, \\\"I want to give a talk on effective brainstorming. I want this talk to be twenty minutes. I want to discuss in this talk how to freewrite.\\\" As ideas come to you, you may start writing naturally.\\nEven if you are thinking “I have nothing to write about,” jot it down. The goal is to start writing. Through the process of writing, you will think of new ideas.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Draft a list.\", \"描述\": \"Create a list of every idea that comes through your head. You can write this on a piece of paper or on a bulleted list in a word document. Include ideas that you think are silly or stupid. Keep going until you have at least fifteen or twenty ideas. Once you are done, you can go back over your list and cross out the ideas you don't like.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Doodle pictures.\", \"描述\": \"If you like to draw, doodling may help you come up with some ideas. Start drawing a general vague idea of your main purpose or goal. Slowly refine it with your pen. If you come up with a different idea, sketch it down too. Try to draw pictures as ideas come to you. They won't be perfect, but they will help you visualize where you want to go.\\nYou can try starting off by drawing a representation of how you are feeling. What does your current mental state look like?\\nYou can also draw the shapes that you associate with the ideas you are having.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Organizing Your Thoughts\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Write ideas down on notecards.\", \"描述\": \"Take all of your ideas, and write each one down on a notecard. On a clean table, lay out each notecard facing up so that you can see all of your ideas spread out. Move around ideas into a logical order. Remove any cards that are no longer productive, and add new cards to fill in gaps. This will help you visually order your ideas. When you are done, stack the cards in their proper order, and keep them safe until you are ready to make your ideas reality.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make a mind map.\", \"描述\": \"Write your main idea down in the middle of a sheet of paper. Trace a circle around it. Draw related themes, ideas, or solutions around the central idea. Next to these smaller ideas, write other concepts, thoughts, or word associations. As more ideas comes to you, connect the ideas with lines. Lines can interconnect, zigzag, or even branch off into other circles.\\nAllow your mind map to develop into any shape that occurs naturally.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Break the problem down into individual steps.\", \"描述\": \"You may know where you want to end up, but you may not know how to get there. If you are struggling to fill in the gaps, try thinking of the major steps that will help you get to your goal. Next, divide those big ideas into more manageable tasks. Continue to become more and more specific in your steps until you have a plan of action.\\nFor example, if you are brainstorming ways to make your office environmentally friendly, your first steps may be to identify office waste, educate your employees, and invest in clean energy products. You will then want to come up with four or five steps for each category. To invest in clean products, you may decide to buy LED lightbulbs, install solar panels, put in low-flow toilets, and recycle your paper.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Cube the problem.\", \"描述\": \"Cubing is a process where you sit down with a general idea or problem and write about it from six different angles. Cubing can help you flesh out weak ideas or develop strong supporting evidence. Write down the following six headings, and answer each prompt with at least a paragraph.\\nDescribe the problem.\\nCompare it to other situations.\\nAssociate the problem with similar topics.\\nAnalyze the problem and its solutions.\\nApply it to real world situations.\\nArgue for and against it.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Getting Over Mental Block\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Go for a walk.\", \"描述\": \"Walking can boost your creativity and help you work through problems. Take a short walk outside to help think through your ideas. You may or may not choose to think about your problem. If you find that ideas are starting to come to you, work them out as you walk. If you are still stumbling, clear your head, and do not think about it until you return.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take a break.\", \"描述\": \"After about twenty or thirty minutes, you should stop brainstorming, and do another activity for five to ten minutes. You can get a snack, read a few news articles, or make a phone call. Do something that will take your mind off your brainstorming session. This will help refresh your mind, and give you new ideas when return to the brainstorming activity.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Talk to yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Talking can help you process ideas and generate new ones. Even if you are alone, you can still talk out your problems. Pretend that you are discussing your ideas with someone. Explain to yourself what you need to get done and what roadblocks you are facing. You may find yourself coming to the solution as you describe your problem.\\nIf it helps, you can record yourself speaking to save any ideas that you might develop. Or you can listen to yourself to reflect on what you said.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Listen to music.\", \"描述\": \"Before you start brainstorming or during breaks, you can listen to music to help boost the creative process. Choose upbeat music that you enjoy. 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1. Setting Up Your Brainstorming Session
1-1. Define the objective of your brainstorming session.
You need to know what you hope to gain from brainstorming. Whether you hope to clarify a business model, come up with a business idea or product, or find a solution to a customer need, you have to be absolutely clear about the purpose of your discussions. What do you want to have in the end? A completed business plan? A product design? Write this objective down and place it prominently in your brainstorming space to keep you and your team on track.
1-2. Come up with a starting point.
Regardless of whether or not you have an actual business idea yet, you need a starting point from which your other brainstorming ideas can flow. Small business ideas typically start as something the founder notices, like some kind of unmet need in his or her community or an idea that they have to improve a process. These can be sudden insights or the result of noticing small things through years of work in a certain industry or profession. Whatever idea you have that has caused you to bring people together and think up a small business, define it, and then move forward from there.
It is also important to clearly and succinctly define the starting point or the impetus for the brainstorming session so that everyone is focused on the same input and outcome.
The most successful companies started with a combination of a recognized need in the market and a new technology. For example, Google combined people's need to find things easily online with their proprietary search technology. A good starting place could be either one or both, of these two parts.
1-3. Decide what you want from your business idea.
Your starting point doesn't necessarily have to be a solid business or product idea. Instead, it can be a goal, like making money, creating a unique product, or gaining market share. This is more difficult to start with, as you have no guidance on deciding what exactly your future business will do or make. However, this also opens up limitless possibilities. And even if you do have a solid idea, determining what you want from your business can help you with long-term planning.
1-4. Brainstorm with a group of people.
Do not invite people who will think the same way as you. Successful brainstorming comes from different opinions and perspectives. Allow these people to share their own viewpoints, problems, and experiences. For example, you could brainstorm with small business experts or set up a meeting with a mentor or a business leader who you respect and admire.
Pitch your ideas to the expert and welcome any feedback. Be willing to hear positive comments and negative criticism.
Express your gratitude to everyone who helped. Few people brainstorm on their own, so be sure to say thanks to the team who brainstormed with you. Time is a valuable resource, and people will appreciate your acknowledgment of their help and insight.
1-5. Set up your brainstorming location.
Your brainstorming location is almost as important as the team that you select. Make sure to choose a relatively quiet location, free of outside distractions or noise. Then, remove all electronic devices from the room, except for computers used for research. Provides team members with individual notepads to write down ideas. Have a whiteboard, chalkboard, or large pad in a central location to keep track of everyone's ideas.
Consider playing music to enhance creative thought. Try using classical music without words.
Provide drinks, like water or coffee, to keep your team hydrated and focused.
It may help your team to get out of the area where you usually meet, like going on a retreat or simply going outside to a park. Changing your surroundings can help you see new perspectives and change your thought patterns.
2. Developing Ideas
2-1. Research relevant subject matter.
Read articles, search the Internet and watch videos about subjects that are relevant to the business ideas you are brainstorming. The more information you have, the better decisions you can make. You should also look at any past attempts you or anyone else has made to solve the problem you are addressing or fix the product you are focused on. What did they do right? Where did their attempt go wrong? Bringing this type of context to your discussions can help shape your own ideas.
Learn about the industry you are hoping to get into. Look at its organization, major players, and relevant government regulations.
You can also reach out to business connections of yours who are involved in this industry to get their thoughts on certain aspects of the market.
2-2. Think independently.
Have your group members brainstorm the idea individually and then collect their notes in a Google doc or dropbox folder. Then, have everyone review everyone else's ideas individually and come up with new thoughts. Finally, come together as a group and share these new ideas. That way, you start off with a broader base of ideas.
2-3. Question market assumptions.
Many successful startups are disruptive in that they offer something completely new to the market that eventually changes how that market functions. Think about Uber or Airbnb, which have perfected new solutions to common problems. These were solutions that no one was sure would work in practice and that stood against the current status quo of their respective markets.
To start, try breaking down a consumer need or imperfect product into its essence. What service is being provided? Ignore current solutions to think of news ways that the problem can be solved.
Address current assumptions about that product or service directly by writing them down. Then, think of ways around those assumptions or ways to replace them.
Some successful new companies simply make a change to the prevailing business model of their industries, not necessarily changing the product offerings or need to be addressed. Don't focus so much on your offering that you forget the potential benefits of a better business model.
2-4. Honor all suggestions and ideas.
Brainstorming cannot work if limitations are put on the creative process. Treat every idea by each member of the brainstorming idea the same way, developing it and asking questions until it is either deemed impractical or it graduates to the "good idea" list. Agree to consider all ideas, regardless of how impossible they seem.
In fact, coming up with terrible ideas can be beneficial to your creative process. Try coming up with the worst ideas you can think of (illegal, impractical, or expensive ideas).
Then, try to change those ideas to make them better ideas. This process can help you think of your problem in new ways.
2-5. Ask questions.
Brainstorming requires that you ask specific and general questions about every aspect of each idea. Try to ask questions that force your team to consider alternatives, rethink assumptions, or continue with their current train of thought. Leave your questions open-ended and allow your team members ample time to think and respond.
2-6. Document your brainstorming session.
Assign a group member to be the secretary or scribe for the meeting. Have them record everything discussed, ideas that you choose to move forward with, and your progress or stopping point. This will allow you to pick up where you left off when you have your next session.
2-7. Repeat your brainstorming session.
It's not likely that you will come up with your million-dollar idea on your first try. Be persistent and meet regularly with your brainstorming group or with different groups to come up with new ways of thinking. Your idea may come to you in a later session or at a completely unexpected time. Just make sure to save your notes from previous sessions so that you don't lose any progress.
Be sure to evaluate your process. When you finish your brainstorming, take some time to note what worked well and what did not work for you in coming up with small business ideas. This will help you in future brainstorming and strategy sessions.
3. Focusing Your Idea
3-1. Assess your ideas.
The best ideas are useless if you can't see a way to develop them into a fully-functioning business. When you've come up with several of them through brainstorming, assess your ideas using the following criteria:
Are you the right person to build on this idea? Do you have the experience or technical know-how required to solve this problem better than your competitors?
Will customers want this product or service? A product can be useful in theory, but not enough to make customers actually pay for it.
Does this idea solve a problem that the customer has? Does it do so effectively and efficiently?
Is the market ready? Consider your potential competitors and the barriers to entry that they may present. Also, think about whether there are enough prospective customers to keep your business afloat.
Consider your operations. Can you make a business structure to build or provide this product or service? More importantly, can you gather the capital required to develop and build it?
3-2. Define all the factors and details that need to be considered.
Be prepared for the challenges and opportunities that come with the small business ideas you are brainstorming. For example, think about the following:
The money you will need to start. Brainstorm how much capital will be required to start your small business. Talk through the best ways to raise that money, whether through loans or investors.
The logistical factors that are involved. List the operational aspects of your small business that will need attention, including staff, inventory, physical space for the business and marketing costs.
Your timeline. Figure out how much time it will take to start the small business and turn it into a success.
Your long-term plan. Figure out what needs to be done first, then the next steps after that.
3-3. Choose the best idea.
The best idea can be chosen according to a few important criteria. First, assess the cost. Can you come up with the money needed to pursue this idea? Then, consider your business's ability to create this product or service. Do you have the expertise, capability, and capacity needed? Finally, look for a competitive advantage in your ideas. Can you create this idea faster, better, or more cheaply than your competitors? Only once an idea passes these criteria should you move forward with it.
3-4. Create a business plan.
Once you have completed your brainstorming and you have a vision for your small business, write it down. This will be an abbreviated business plan, which is simply a framework for your business with as much information as you currently have, rather than a full business plan. Start with a one-sentence description of your idea. What do you do and what will the effect of this product or service be? Then, write a short description of this product or service, using the information you have thus far.
Write out what you know about your business organization, such as your management structure, distribution model, and pricing plan.
Determine what it might cost to develop and produce your product or prepare to provide your service. Include all potential start-up costs.
Then, include what you know about the market, from competitors and market share to trends and potential customer base.
3-5. Get started.
The only way to know if your business plan will work is to try it. Start asking around to your colleagues and connections to form a team to make your idea happen. Begin networking with people to the industry you are trying to enter. Come up with ways to finance your business. Most importantly, continually refine your idea or product until it is good enough to take to market.
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These can be sudden insights or the result of noticing small things through years of work in a certain industry or profession. Whatever idea you have that has caused you to bring people together and think up a small business, define it, and then move forward from there.\\nIt is also important to clearly and succinctly define the starting point or the impetus for the brainstorming session so that everyone is focused on the same input and outcome.\\nThe most successful companies started with a combination of a recognized need in the market and a new technology. For example, Google combined people's need to find things easily online with their proprietary search technology. A good starting place could be either one or both, of these two parts.\\n1-3. Decide what you want from your business idea.\\nYour starting point doesn't necessarily have to be a solid business or product idea. Instead, it can be a goal, like making money, creating a unique product, or gaining market share. This is more difficult to start with, as you have no guidance on deciding what exactly your future business will do or make. However, this also opens up limitless possibilities. And even if you do have a solid idea, determining what you want from your business can help you with long-term planning.\\n1-4. Brainstorm with a group of people.\\nDo not invite people who will think the same way as you. Successful brainstorming comes from different opinions and perspectives. Allow these people to share their own viewpoints, problems, and experiences. For example, you could brainstorm with small business experts or set up a meeting with a mentor or a business leader who you respect and admire.\\nPitch your ideas to the expert and welcome any feedback. Be willing to hear positive comments and negative criticism.\\nExpress your gratitude to everyone who helped. Few people brainstorm on their own, so be sure to say thanks to the team who brainstormed with you. Time is a valuable resource, and people will appreciate your acknowledgment of their help and insight.\\n1-5. Set up your brainstorming location.\\nYour brainstorming location is almost as important as the team that you select. Make sure to choose a relatively quiet location, free of outside distractions or noise. Then, remove all electronic devices from the room, except for computers used for research. Provides team members with individual notepads to write down ideas. Have a whiteboard, chalkboard, or large pad in a central location to keep track of everyone's ideas.\\nConsider playing music to enhance creative thought. Try using classical music without words.\\nProvide drinks, like water or coffee, to keep your team hydrated and focused.\\nIt may help your team to get out of the area where you usually meet, like going on a retreat or simply going outside to a park. Changing your surroundings can help you see new perspectives and change your thought patterns.\\n2. Developing Ideas\\n2-1. Research relevant subject matter.\\nRead articles, search the Internet and watch videos about subjects that are relevant to the business ideas you are brainstorming. The more information you have, the better decisions you can make. You should also look at any past attempts you or anyone else has made to solve the problem you are addressing or fix the product you are focused on. What did they do right? Where did their attempt go wrong? Bringing this type of context to your discussions can help shape your own ideas.\\nLearn about the industry you are hoping to get into. Look at its organization, major players, and relevant government regulations.\\nYou can also reach out to business connections of yours who are involved in this industry to get their thoughts on certain aspects of the market.\\n2-2. Think independently.\\nHave your group members brainstorm the idea individually and then collect their notes in a Google doc or dropbox folder. Then, have everyone review everyone else's ideas individually and come up with new thoughts. Finally, come together as a group and share these new ideas. That way, you start off with a broader base of ideas.\\n2-3. Question market assumptions.\\nMany successful startups are disruptive in that they offer something completely new to the market that eventually changes how that market functions. Think about Uber or Airbnb, which have perfected new solutions to common problems. These were solutions that no one was sure would work in practice and that stood against the current status quo of their respective markets.\\nTo start, try breaking down a consumer need or imperfect product into its essence. What service is being provided? Ignore current solutions to think of news ways that the problem can be solved.\\nAddress current assumptions about that product or service directly by writing them down. Then, think of ways around those assumptions or ways to replace them.\\nSome successful new companies simply make a change to the prevailing business model of their industries, not necessarily changing the product offerings or need to be addressed. Don't focus so much on your offering that you forget the potential benefits of a better business model.\\n2-4. Honor all suggestions and ideas.\\nBrainstorming cannot work if limitations are put on the creative process. Treat every idea by each member of the brainstorming idea the same way, developing it and asking questions until it is either deemed impractical or it graduates to the \\\"good idea\\\" list. Agree to consider all ideas, regardless of how impossible they seem.\\nIn fact, coming up with terrible ideas can be beneficial to your creative process. Try coming up with the worst ideas you can think of (illegal, impractical, or expensive ideas).\\nThen, try to change those ideas to make them better ideas. This process can help you think of your problem in new ways.\\n2-5. Ask questions.\\nBrainstorming requires that you ask specific and general questions about every aspect of each idea. Try to ask questions that force your team to consider alternatives, rethink assumptions, or continue with their current train of thought. Leave your questions open-ended and allow your team members ample time to think and respond.\\n2-6. Document your brainstorming session.\\nAssign a group member to be the secretary or scribe for the meeting. Have them record everything discussed, ideas that you choose to move forward with, and your progress or stopping point. This will allow you to pick up where you left off when you have your next session.\\n2-7. Repeat your brainstorming session.\\nIt's not likely that you will come up with your million-dollar idea on your first try. Be persistent and meet regularly with your brainstorming group or with different groups to come up with new ways of thinking. Your idea may come to you in a later session or at a completely unexpected time. Just make sure to save your notes from previous sessions so that you don't lose any progress.\\nBe sure to evaluate your process. When you finish your brainstorming, take some time to note what worked well and what did not work for you in coming up with small business ideas. This will help you in future brainstorming and strategy sessions.\\n3. Focusing Your Idea\\n3-1. Assess your ideas.\\nThe best ideas are useless if you can't see a way to develop them into a fully-functioning business. When you've come up with several of them through brainstorming, assess your ideas using the following criteria:\\nAre you the right person to build on this idea? Do you have the experience or technical know-how required to solve this problem better than your competitors?\\nWill customers want this product or service? A product can be useful in theory, but not enough to make customers actually pay for it.\\nDoes this idea solve a problem that the customer has? Does it do so effectively and efficiently?\\nIs the market ready? Consider your potential competitors and the barriers to entry that they may present. Also, think about whether there are enough prospective customers to keep your business afloat.\\nConsider your operations. Can you make a business structure to build or provide this product or service? More importantly, can you gather the capital required to develop and build it?\\n3-2. Define all the factors and details that need to be considered.\\nBe prepared for the challenges and opportunities that come with the small business ideas you are brainstorming. For example, think about the following:\\nThe money you will need to start. Brainstorm how much capital will be required to start your small business. Talk through the best ways to raise that money, whether through loans or investors.\\nThe logistical factors that are involved. List the operational aspects of your small business that will need attention, including staff, inventory, physical space for the business and marketing costs.\\nYour timeline. Figure out how much time it will take to start the small business and turn it into a success.\\nYour long-term plan. Figure out what needs to be done first, then the next steps after that.\\n3-3. Choose the best idea.\\nThe best idea can be chosen according to a few important criteria. First, assess the cost. Can you come up with the money needed to pursue this idea? Then, consider your business's ability to create this product or service. Do you have the expertise, capability, and capacity needed? Finally, look for a competitive advantage in your ideas. Can you create this idea faster, better, or more cheaply than your competitors? Only once an idea passes these criteria should you move forward with it.\\n3-4. Create a business plan.\\nOnce you have completed your brainstorming and you have a vision for your small business, write it down. This will be an abbreviated business plan, which is simply a framework for your business with as much information as you currently have, rather than a full business plan. Start with a one-sentence description of your idea. What do you do and what will the effect of this product or service be? Then, write a short description of this product or service, using the information you have thus far.\\nWrite out what you know about your business organization, such as your management structure, distribution model, and pricing plan.\\nDetermine what it might cost to develop and produce your product or prepare to provide your service. Include all potential start-up costs.\\nThen, include what you know about the market, from competitors and market share to trends and potential customer base.\\n3-5. Get started.\\nThe only way to know if your business plan will work is to try it. Start asking around to your colleagues and connections to form a team to make your idea happen. Begin networking with people to the industry you are trying to enter. Come up with ways to finance your business. Most importantly, continually refine your idea or product until it is good enough to take to market.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Creative and entrepreneurial ideas for small businesses often come about after a series of brainstorming sessions. Brainstorming can be an effective way to think without limitations or restraint. It works well when there are several people doing it together because it will allow you to bounce ideas back and forth and stimulate comments and consideration. Large companies and corporations often hire expensive consultants to imagine and develop their ideas. Small businesses may not have the same budgetary resources, but they can still tap into the creativity of their leaders. Brainstorm small business ideas by getting smart and creative people together to share thoughts on how you can initiate and maintain a successful new business.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Setting Up Your Brainstorming Session\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Define the objective of your brainstorming session.\", \"描述\": \"You need to know what you hope to gain from brainstorming. Whether you hope to clarify a business model, come up with a business idea or product, or find a solution to a customer need, you have to be absolutely clear about the purpose of your discussions. What do you want to have in the end? A completed business plan? A product design? Write this objective down and place it prominently in your brainstorming space to keep you and your team on track.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Come up with a starting point.\", \"描述\": \"Regardless of whether or not you have an actual business idea yet, you need a starting point from which your other brainstorming ideas can flow. Small business ideas typically start as something the founder notices, like some kind of unmet need in his or her community or an idea that they have to improve a process. These can be sudden insights or the result of noticing small things through years of work in a certain industry or profession. Whatever idea you have that has caused you to bring people together and think up a small business, define it, and then move forward from there.\\nIt is also important to clearly and succinctly define the starting point or the impetus for the brainstorming session so that everyone is focused on the same input and outcome.\\nThe most successful companies started with a combination of a recognized need in the market and a new technology. For example, Google combined people's need to find things easily online with their proprietary search technology. A good starting place could be either one or both, of these two parts.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Decide what you want from your business idea.\", \"描述\": \"Your starting point doesn't necessarily have to be a solid business or product idea. Instead, it can be a goal, like making money, creating a unique product, or gaining market share. This is more difficult to start with, as you have no guidance on deciding what exactly your future business will do or make. However, this also opens up limitless possibilities. And even if you do have a solid idea, determining what you want from your business can help you with long-term planning.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Brainstorm with a group of people.\", \"描述\": \"Do not invite people who will think the same way as you. Successful brainstorming comes from different opinions and perspectives. Allow these people to share their own viewpoints, problems, and experiences. For example, you could brainstorm with small business experts or set up a meeting with a mentor or a business leader who you respect and admire.\\nPitch your ideas to the expert and welcome any feedback. Be willing to hear positive comments and negative criticism.\\nExpress your gratitude to everyone who helped. Few people brainstorm on their own, so be sure to say thanks to the team who brainstormed with you. 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How to Braise Beef
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1. Getting the Essentials
1-1. Select an inexpensive cut of meat to braise.
While it may seem contrary to usual meat-buying logic, tougher or less-tender cuts of meat are perfect for braising. Pot roast, chuck roast or any inexpensive cut may be used. The muscle fibers and connective tissue that make these cuts stringy or tough are broken down by braising, which gelatinizes the collagen into a more palatable texture. Low heat and long cooking times are used to make a tough cut of any kind of meat moist, tender, and delicious, when cooked properly. Common cuts of beef for braising include:
top blade roast
eye roast
seven bone, or center-cut pot roast
shank
ribs or short ribs
brisket
It's unlikely that you would ever want to braise any kind of lean steaks or loin. You could, but because these meats are tender already, it'd be a bit of a waste.
1-2. Select a braising liquid.
Other than a pot and your cut of beef, the only other absolutely essential ingredient is a liquid in which to simmer the meat. Because this is an opportunity to add a dash of flavor to the dish, it's most common to use wines, stocks, or other flavorful liquid, as opposed to water. Common braising liquids include:
. You can match the stock to the dish by using a beef-based broth or stock, although using chicken stock would is universal for braising any type of meat, and might add a nice complexity to your braised beef. Stock is just broth that hasn't been seasoned, so stock is generally better for braising, since it allows you to control the salt-levels, but either is acceptable. Just go easy on the salt if you use broth.
. Dry red wine can add a nice acidic note to beef, especially when combined with another braising liquid, like stock. The alcohol cooks off, resulting in a rich and fragrant dark sauce. Especially fruity or sweet red wines would be less desirable, but fine if paired with an equal amount of stock to cut the sweetness. The fruitiness of a white wine would pair better with chicken or pork. Since it'll season your dish, make sure it's something you'd like to drink--pour yourself a glass for "research."
. English cooking at its finest. Stouts, porters, or black lagers all lend a rich sweetness to beef, and a malty depth of flavor. The darker the better, when it comes to beef. Some Belgian ales might also work nicely, but experiment and find a beer you with a nice flavor. In general, lighter pilsners and lagers are more appropriate for chicken or pork.
How much liquid you'll need will depend on the amount of meat you're braising, and the addition of extra vegetables. As a rule of thumb, you'll want enough liquid to cover the vegetables at the bottom of the pot and come up just to the level of the meat. You're not boiling the meat, or stewing it, so you won't submerge it in the braising liquid. It won't take much, and you can always add additional water to the pot if you didn't have enough wine left in the bottle.
1-3. Start with a mirepoix or some mix of finely minced vegetables.
Sounds fancy, but it's not. In French cuisine, braised beef and many other meat dishes will always start with a vegetable base of finely minced carrot, onion, and celery, called mirepoix, which is used to pair with the meat and enrich the sauce. After searing the meat, the mirepoix is added and browned briefly before adding the braising liquid to the pot.
For a proper braising, there needs to be something at the bottom of the pot other than the liquid, to give the sauce fragrance, substance, and character, as well as to keep it from drying out. When minced very small, the mirepoix will mostly disintegrate into the liquid over the course of the long cooking time, to flavor the sauce, though you could leave larger chunks to do more of a "pot roast" style braised beef.
Depending on the cut of meat, you might use around 2-3 carrots, 2-3 celery stalks, and a small white onion.
1-4. Choose additional vegetables to add as well.
Depending on what you want to do with the beef you braise, you might elect to make a one-pot meal with the addition of vegetables. In most braising, some variety of aromatic vegetable will always be used to keep the moisture consistent in the bottom of the pot, as well as to release other flavors and aromas. Cooking beef low and slow is a great opportunity to cook vegetables as well.
Other vegetables like potatoes, cabbage, peas, mushrooms, greens, leeks, or other root vegetables can be added to the pot later, about 45 minutes before the meat is done cooking. Some fruits, like apple or pear, can also pair nicely with braised beef, depending on the season. Use firm, slightly under-ripe fruit, if you want to experiment.
Aromatic herbs like rosemary, sage, bay leaf, or thyme can kick your braised beef up several notches. If you've got access to an herb garden, or just want to buy some fresh herbs from the store, tie up a bundle of a few stalks in twine and add at the same time you add the braising liquid.
1-5. Always use a heavy-bottom stew pot or dutch oven.
Braising starts on the stove and moves into the oven, making it important that you start in a pot that's oven-safe. Enameled cast-iron pots are perfect for braising, featuring the heat-retention of cast iron and the hefty weight of a good baking dish.
Skillets aren't generally big enough to hold all the braising liquid, meat, and vegetables required for a good braising, while thinner sauce-pans won't hold the heat as effectively as cast iron. If you don't have a cast iron dutch oven, though, anything you can cover and put in the oven will do in a pinch.
If you don't have an oven-safe stew pot, but have a heavy-bottomed saucepan, it's perfectly fine to braise meat on the stove-top as well. Some cooks prefer the oven method because it more evenly-distributes heat throughout the meat, while others prefer the simplicity of braising on the stove. Both methods result in tender and delicious beef.
2. Braising Technique
2-1. Prepare the meat for braising.
Season the meat on all sides with an even coating of salt and pepper. Go easy if you're going to braise the meat in broth, which will also be seasoned. If you want to add other spices to the dish, wait to add them until after the braising liquid has been added. Don't worry about trimming off fat or connective tissue, which will be broken down during the cooking process, providing great flavor.
Some cooks like to dust the meat with a light coating of flour before browning it, while others choose not to. Flour can help to create a nice attractive crust on the meat during the browning, and it will work to thicken the sauce. Additionally, it helps to dry out the surface of the meat to promote browning. If you don't dust with flour, dry off the meat before you attempt to fry it. Damp beef won't brown.
Depending on the cut of meat you're using, you may want to trim up the beef into manageable pieces, or leave it whole to braise the entire roast. Either method is perfectly fine, and will only majorly affect the presentation of the dish after it's done.
In general, braised beef will be left whole, while "stewed" beef (which is submerged in liquid) will be cut into smaller chunks. The techniques are largely similar, so go with what you like best. If you'd like bite-sized chunks, go ahead and cut up your roast ahead of time. If you'd rather leave it whole and fork it apart later, that's fine too.
2-2. Brown the roast and then remove it from the pot.
Put your pot on the stove over a medium-high heat, coating the bottom with about two tablespoons of olive oil. When the oil starts to smoke, add your meat and let it brown on each side, until you've created a nice dark crust on the outside. Turn the meat periodically and be very careful not to scorch.
You need to brown meat over high heat to cook the outside, not the inside. You'll cook the meat through in the liquid, so the browning is just used to create that tasty outer-layer of crust, as well as to season the bottom of the pot with drippings and little burned-on bits. The inside should still be very pink after you've browned it. Remove the meat from the pot and set it aside.
2-3. Add the mirepoix and sauté over medium-high heat.
In the drippings and browned bits stuck at the bottom of the pan, add your finely-minced carrot, onion, and celery. Stir the vegetables around as they brown, taking care not to let them scorch.
2-4. Add about an inch of your braising liquid.
When your vegetable base is browned, add a small amount of braising liquid to deglaze the bottom of the pot. Use a wooden spoon to scrape up the stuff stuck to the bottom, which will help to flavor the sauce and the meat. Add enough liquid to cover the vegetables and bring it to a simmer.
The difference between stewing and braising is the amount of liquid you add to the pot. Although they're very similar processes, technically-speaking, braised beef requires only the smallest amount of liquid, enough to cover the vegetables and create a humid environment in which to cook the meat. If you add a bit too much, don't worry, it'll be just as good.
2-5. Return the meat to the pot, cover it, and place in the oven at 325 °F (163 °C).
Once you've got the braising liquid up to a gentle simmer, add the beef back into the pot, settled gently on top of the vegetable/liquid mixture. Cover the pot securely and put it in the oven.
If you want to braise on the stove, reduce the heat immediately to low and cover the pot securely. To keep things from drying out, it might be helpful to add a bit more liquid than you normally would, more like you would for a stewing, and to leave the cover on the pot as much as possible. Every time you remove it, the moisture will be released, causing it to get drier.
As the meat cooks the liquid should condense and intensify, but the pot shouldn't dry out because you have the lid on. As it condenses on the top of the pot, it'll drip back down on top of the meat, basting it and keeping everything moist. Because you're creating a little cooking climate in the pot, you shouldn't remove it and mess with it. Let the pot and the heat do the work.
The braising liquid should not be boiling. If the lid of your pot is rattling because the bubbles are aggressive, turn the heat down some. Anywhere between 250 and 350 F is appropriate for braising. The lower the temp, the longer the cooking time.
2-6. Add additional vegetables 45 minutes to 1 hour before the meat is done.
To make sure everything finishes cooking at roughly the same time, you should add vegetables to the equation later in the cooking process, depending on what you want to add.
like parsnips, turnips, carrots, potatoes, and beets can and probably should be added earlier in the cooking process. Add root vegetables to the pot when you return the meat, and cut into uniform bite-sized pieces.
like greens, mushrooms, beans or peas should be added quite near the end, no more than an hour before you remove the braised beef from the oven. These may be added whole.
you'd like to add before adding them to the braising pot. Adding frozen vegetables can bring down the temperature considerably, and they won't need to be cooked for very long anyway.
2-7. Remove the meat when fork-tender.
Depending on the size and variety of the cut you're braising, it should cook between 2 and 4 hours to reach its most tender state, and reach an internal temperature of around 160 F. When the beef is done, it should literally fall apart with very little pressure from a fork.
As the meat cooks, moisture will be forced out, drying it out. When it reaches 160 F, it'll technically be "done" at this point, but it won't be as good as it can and should be for a proper braising. Since you've gone to all the trouble to braise it, really braise it. After a bit more time in the oven, the fibers will relax and reabsorb the gelatinized collagen, making the meat very tender.
You shouldn't need to worry about under- or overcooking a braised beef dish. Cooking it longer only makes it better, and there's almost no risk of over-cooking it. If you're in doubt, cook it longer. It's not a dish to rush.
3. Finishing the Dish
3-1. Remove the beef from the pot and let it rest.
When the beef is done cooking, remove it from the braising liquid, set it on a plate or a carving board, and cover it with foil to retain the heat. Braised beef should rest for at least 10 or 15 minutes before you carve it.
You can carve braised beef however you wish to serve it, depending on the particular cut. Slices are appropriate for brisket, while short ribs will likely be left whole. Fork-pulling some roasts might be appropriate, as well, if you want more of a BBQ-style dish.
If you've added additional vegetables, you can remove them as well, if you want to reduce the liquid to create a sauce or gravy. Spoon into a serving bowl, cover, and set aside.
3-2. Reduce the remaining liquid to create a sauce.
After you've removed the beef, put the pot back on the stovetop over medium-high heat to reduce the amount of liquid by half, or until it reaches the consistency you desire. Season the sauce to taste with salt, pepper, and a dash of Worcestershire.
If you want to make gravy, you can also thicken the sauce by mixing a slurry of about a tablespoon of flour and a quarter-cup of sauce in a separate bowl. When the slurry is mixed thoroughly, with all the lumps whisked out, add it to your sauce slowly, whisking as you go. If you dusted the meat with flour before browning it, the sauce might thicken on its own by reduction. Cook it down some to check for the thickness before you worry about starting a slurry.
Other additional aromatics like ginger, lemongrass, grated citrus rind, or garlic can be added to the liquid as it reduces for the sauce.
3-3. Pair with an appropriate side.
Most commonly, you'll see braised beef paired with the vegetables it was braised with, if you chose to include any, and a potato dish of some sort. Braised beef is excellent with the following side dishes:
mashed potatoes or mashed sweet potatoes
hash browns
sweet parsnips
turnips or "neeps"
greens like mustard, collard, turnip, or beet
3-4. Finish the dish with chopped herbs or other additions and garnishes.
A bit of chopped flat-leaf parsley, rosemary, or fresh herb of your choice can liven up the braised beef. Arrange on a platter, spooning over the reduced sauce or gravy you made from the leftover braising liquid.
In many parts of the world, braised beef is a common Sunday supper, especially in the cold winter and autumn months. After slowly simmering the meat in the oven, the whole house smells rich and warm.
4. Making Variations
4-1. Marinade roast beforehand to braise sauerbraten.
A German variation on a basic braised beef, sauerbraten involves marinating a browned round roast in a mixture of vinegar and aromatic spices for up to three days before adding sugar and braising the beef in the marinade.
, heat a cup of apple cider vinegar and red wine vinegar in a saucepan, with about two cups of water, over medium-high heat. To this, add one small chopped white onion and a half cup each of chopped carrot and celery. Toss in a teaspoon each of mustard seeds and whole clove, 2-3 bay leaves, and salt and pepper to taste. Simmer, covered, for about 10 minutes while you brown the roast. After about 10 minutes, turn it off and let it cool to room temperature.
before removing and placing in a pot suitable for holding the meat and all the marinade. When the marinade has cooled slightly (you don't want it to cook the meat) pour it over the beef and let it sit in the refrigerator for about three days, turning it once a day to make sure the meat is equally submerged.
for about four hours after adding about a third of a cup of sugar to the marinading liquid. After braising, crushed-up gingersnaps and raisins are commonly whisked into the juice to thicken and add sweetness to the sauce, which is then poured over the sauerbraten.
4-2. Use sliced bottom round to make braised swiss steak.
While it has absolutely nothing to do with Switzerland, swiss steak involves the "swishing" process, by which one flattens fabric (in this case meat) with rollers or hammers. The tough meat is then braised in a rich sauce made from tomatoes, until fork-tender and delicious. Combined with mashed potatoes and fresh corn, there's nothing better than a properly cooked swiss steak.
, cut round roast along the grain to form steaks roughly one half inch thick. Dredge each steak in flour, then pound out with a meat tenderizer until the steak flattens by half. Dredge the steaks again in flour and brown them on the skillet, over medium-heat in your dutch oven, or other oven-ready pot, on both sides. When the steaks turn golden brown on both sides, remove them from the pot and set aside.
, fry a small white onion, chopped, two or three cloves of garlic, and two large celery stalks in your pot. Sauté until the vegetables are browned slightly. To this, add a tablespoon of tomato paste and a can of diced tomato (or two medium fresh tomatoes, chopped), and about a cup of beef broth. Stir and bring to a simmer, adding some chopped oregano, Worcestershire sauce, and a tablespoon of lemon juice to the sauce.
and braise in the oven for about an hour and a half, covered, at 325 F. The meat should be done when it's fork-tender.
4-3. Make carbonade flamande.
Served with crusty bread, sweet-sour carbonade flamande is a deceptively simple Flemish flavor bomb, and a great way to mix up a traditional pot roast or braised chuck roast.
into bite-sized chunks and browning them in the dutch oven. Remove them from the pot, then crisp up about 3 or 4 strips of chopped bacon, turning down the heat when the fat renders out into the skillet. To the pot, add a whole white onion, chopped, and slowly caramelize the onion adding about 2 tablespoons (30 ml) of butter to the mix.
, adding a cup of beef stock, and two tablespoons each of brown sugar and apple cider vinegar. Season the braising liquid with chopped tarragon, parsley, thyme, or whatever green herbs you prefer, and salt and paper to taste.
, then cook on the stove over low heat, covered, for about two hours, until he beef is fork-tender. Some recipes call for the braised meat to be topped with slices of bread for the last bit of the cooking time, which is broken down and stirred into the sauce to thicken. Often, this dish is served beside Belgian fries, or french fries.
4-4. Make the ultimate comfort food with beef bourguignon.
The technique is easy and the flavor is classic French haute cuisine. It doesn't need to be complicated to be good.
, then remove it and sauté the mirepoix. Stir in a tablespoon of tomato paste and add about 20 white pearl onions and a pound of white button mushrooms. Add salt and pepper to taste, while gently stirring the mushrooms and onions to coat. Deglaze the skillet with 2 or 3 cups of dry red wine, preferably Burgundy, and a cup of beef or chicken stock. Season with two bay leaves, and whole leaves of sage, rosemary, and oregano.
and braise at 325 F for about 3 or 4 hours until the meat is fork-tender. If the sauce is a little thin, remove the meat and cook it over medium-high heat on the skillet to reduce and thicken. Serve with roast potatoes.
Tips
For some meats, fruit juice might be suitable for use in the liquid.
Beef stew may be cooked by braising. Large pieces, 2" cubes, yield good results.
Pork chops may be braised in a covered skillet. Thin chops tend to curl; one inch chops are better for braising.
Warnings
Be sure the lid and handles of the Dutch Oven, including the handle on the lid, are oven safe.
Use good quality, clean, dry pot holders or mittens when handling the Dutch Oven.
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Select a braising liquid.\\nOther than a pot and your cut of beef, the only other absolutely essential ingredient is a liquid in which to simmer the meat. Because this is an opportunity to add a dash of flavor to the dish, it's most common to use wines, stocks, or other flavorful liquid, as opposed to water. Common braising liquids include:\\n\\n. You can match the stock to the dish by using a beef-based broth or stock, although using chicken stock would is universal for braising any type of meat, and might add a nice complexity to your braised beef. Stock is just broth that hasn't been seasoned, so stock is generally better for braising, since it allows you to control the salt-levels, but either is acceptable. Just go easy on the salt if you use broth.\\n\\n. Dry red wine can add a nice acidic note to beef, especially when combined with another braising liquid, like stock. The alcohol cooks off, resulting in a rich and fragrant dark sauce. Especially fruity or sweet red wines would be less desirable, but fine if paired with an equal amount of stock to cut the sweetness. The fruitiness of a white wine would pair better with chicken or pork. Since it'll season your dish, make sure it's something you'd like to drink--pour yourself a glass for \\\"research.\\\"\\n. English cooking at its finest. Stouts, porters, or black lagers all lend a rich sweetness to beef, and a malty depth of flavor. The darker the better, when it comes to beef. Some Belgian ales might also work nicely, but experiment and find a beer you with a nice flavor. In general, lighter pilsners and lagers are more appropriate for chicken or pork.\\nHow much liquid you'll need will depend on the amount of meat you're braising, and the addition of extra vegetables. As a rule of thumb, you'll want enough liquid to cover the vegetables at the bottom of the pot and come up just to the level of the meat. You're not boiling the meat, or stewing it, so you won't submerge it in the braising liquid. It won't take much, and you can always add additional water to the pot if you didn't have enough wine left in the bottle.\\n1-3. Start with a mirepoix or some mix of finely minced vegetables.\\nSounds fancy, but it's not. In French cuisine, braised beef and many other meat dishes will always start with a vegetable base of finely minced carrot, onion, and celery, called mirepoix, which is used to pair with the meat and enrich the sauce. After searing the meat, the mirepoix is added and browned briefly before adding the braising liquid to the pot.\\nFor a proper braising, there needs to be something at the bottom of the pot other than the liquid, to give the sauce fragrance, substance, and character, as well as to keep it from drying out. When minced very small, the mirepoix will mostly disintegrate into the liquid over the course of the long cooking time, to flavor the sauce, though you could leave larger chunks to do more of a \\\"pot roast\\\" style braised beef.\\nDepending on the cut of meat, you might use around 2-3 carrots, 2-3 celery stalks, and a small white onion.\\n1-4. Choose additional vegetables to add as well.\\nDepending on what you want to do with the beef you braise, you might elect to make a one-pot meal with the addition of vegetables. In most braising, some variety of aromatic vegetable will always be used to keep the moisture consistent in the bottom of the pot, as well as to release other flavors and aromas. Cooking beef low and slow is a great opportunity to cook vegetables as well.\\nOther vegetables like potatoes, cabbage, peas, mushrooms, greens, leeks, or other root vegetables can be added to the pot later, about 45 minutes before the meat is done cooking. Some fruits, like apple or pear, can also pair nicely with braised beef, depending on the season. Use firm, slightly under-ripe fruit, if you want to experiment.\\nAromatic herbs like rosemary, sage, bay leaf, or thyme can kick your braised beef up several notches. If you've got access to an herb garden, or just want to buy some fresh herbs from the store, tie up a bundle of a few stalks in twine and add at the same time you add the braising liquid.\\n1-5. Always use a heavy-bottom stew pot or dutch oven.\\nBraising starts on the stove and moves into the oven, making it important that you start in a pot that's oven-safe. Enameled cast-iron pots are perfect for braising, featuring the heat-retention of cast iron and the hefty weight of a good baking dish.\\nSkillets aren't generally big enough to hold all the braising liquid, meat, and vegetables required for a good braising, while thinner sauce-pans won't hold the heat as effectively as cast iron. If you don't have a cast iron dutch oven, though, anything you can cover and put in the oven will do in a pinch.\\nIf you don't have an oven-safe stew pot, but have a heavy-bottomed saucepan, it's perfectly fine to braise meat on the stove-top as well. Some cooks prefer the oven method because it more evenly-distributes heat throughout the meat, while others prefer the simplicity of braising on the stove. Both methods result in tender and delicious beef.\\n2. Braising Technique\\n2-1. Prepare the meat for braising.\\nSeason the meat on all sides with an even coating of salt and pepper. Go easy if you're going to braise the meat in broth, which will also be seasoned. If you want to add other spices to the dish, wait to add them until after the braising liquid has been added. Don't worry about trimming off fat or connective tissue, which will be broken down during the cooking process, providing great flavor.\\nSome cooks like to dust the meat with a light coating of flour before browning it, while others choose not to. Flour can help to create a nice attractive crust on the meat during the browning, and it will work to thicken the sauce. Additionally, it helps to dry out the surface of the meat to promote browning. If you don't dust with flour, dry off the meat before you attempt to fry it. Damp beef won't brown.\\nDepending on the cut of meat you're using, you may want to trim up the beef into manageable pieces, or leave it whole to braise the entire roast. Either method is perfectly fine, and will only majorly affect the presentation of the dish after it's done.\\nIn general, braised beef will be left whole, while \\\"stewed\\\" beef (which is submerged in liquid) will be cut into smaller chunks. The techniques are largely similar, so go with what you like best. If you'd like bite-sized chunks, go ahead and cut up your roast ahead of time. If you'd rather leave it whole and fork it apart later, that's fine too.\\n2-2. Brown the roast and then remove it from the pot.\\nPut your pot on the stove over a medium-high heat, coating the bottom with about two tablespoons of olive oil. When the oil starts to smoke, add your meat and let it brown on each side, until you've created a nice dark crust on the outside. Turn the meat periodically and be very careful not to scorch.\\nYou need to brown meat over high heat to cook the outside, not the inside. You'll cook the meat through in the liquid, so the browning is just used to create that tasty outer-layer of crust, as well as to season the bottom of the pot with drippings and little burned-on bits. The inside should still be very pink after you've browned it. Remove the meat from the pot and set it aside.\\n2-3. Add the mirepoix and sauté over medium-high heat.\\nIn the drippings and browned bits stuck at the bottom of the pan, add your finely-minced carrot, onion, and celery. Stir the vegetables around as they brown, taking care not to let them scorch.\\n2-4. Add about an inch of your braising liquid.\\nWhen your vegetable base is browned, add a small amount of braising liquid to deglaze the bottom of the pot. Use a wooden spoon to scrape up the stuff stuck to the bottom, which will help to flavor the sauce and the meat. Add enough liquid to cover the vegetables and bring it to a simmer.\\nThe difference between stewing and braising is the amount of liquid you add to the pot. Although they're very similar processes, technically-speaking, braised beef requires only the smallest amount of liquid, enough to cover the vegetables and create a humid environment in which to cook the meat. If you add a bit too much, don't worry, it'll be just as good.\\n2-5. Return the meat to the pot, cover it, and place in the oven at 325 °F (163 °C).\\nOnce you've got the braising liquid up to a gentle simmer, add the beef back into the pot, settled gently on top of the vegetable/liquid mixture. Cover the pot securely and put it in the oven.\\nIf you want to braise on the stove, reduce the heat immediately to low and cover the pot securely. To keep things from drying out, it might be helpful to add a bit more liquid than you normally would, more like you would for a stewing, and to leave the cover on the pot as much as possible. Every time you remove it, the moisture will be released, causing it to get drier.\\nAs the meat cooks the liquid should condense and intensify, but the pot shouldn't dry out because you have the lid on. As it condenses on the top of the pot, it'll drip back down on top of the meat, basting it and keeping everything moist. Because you're creating a little cooking climate in the pot, you shouldn't remove it and mess with it. Let the pot and the heat do the work.\\nThe braising liquid should not be boiling. If the lid of your pot is rattling because the bubbles are aggressive, turn the heat down some. Anywhere between 250 and 350 F is appropriate for braising. The lower the temp, the longer the cooking time.\\n2-6. Add additional vegetables 45 minutes to 1 hour before the meat is done.\\nTo make sure everything finishes cooking at roughly the same time, you should add vegetables to the equation later in the cooking process, depending on what you want to add.\\n\\n like parsnips, turnips, carrots, potatoes, and beets can and probably should be added earlier in the cooking process. Add root vegetables to the pot when you return the meat, and cut into uniform bite-sized pieces.\\n like greens, mushrooms, beans or peas should be added quite near the end, no more than an hour before you remove the braised beef from the oven. These may be added whole.\\n you'd like to add before adding them to the braising pot. Adding frozen vegetables can bring down the temperature considerably, and they won't need to be cooked for very long anyway.\\n2-7. Remove the meat when fork-tender.\\nDepending on the size and variety of the cut you're braising, it should cook between 2 and 4 hours to reach its most tender state, and reach an internal temperature of around 160 F. When the beef is done, it should literally fall apart with very little pressure from a fork.\\nAs the meat cooks, moisture will be forced out, drying it out. When it reaches 160 F, it'll technically be \\\"done\\\" at this point, but it won't be as good as it can and should be for a proper braising. Since you've gone to all the trouble to braise it, really braise it. After a bit more time in the oven, the fibers will relax and reabsorb the gelatinized collagen, making the meat very tender.\\nYou shouldn't need to worry about under- or overcooking a braised beef dish. Cooking it longer only makes it better, and there's almost no risk of over-cooking it. If you're in doubt, cook it longer. It's not a dish to rush.\\n3. Finishing the Dish\\n3-1. Remove the beef from the pot and let it rest.\\nWhen the beef is done cooking, remove it from the braising liquid, set it on a plate or a carving board, and cover it with foil to retain the heat. Braised beef should rest for at least 10 or 15 minutes before you carve it.\\nYou can carve braised beef however you wish to serve it, depending on the particular cut. Slices are appropriate for brisket, while short ribs will likely be left whole. Fork-pulling some roasts might be appropriate, as well, if you want more of a BBQ-style dish.\\nIf you've added additional vegetables, you can remove them as well, if you want to reduce the liquid to create a sauce or gravy. Spoon into a serving bowl, cover, and set aside.\\n3-2. Reduce the remaining liquid to create a sauce.\\nAfter you've removed the beef, put the pot back on the stovetop over medium-high heat to reduce the amount of liquid by half, or until it reaches the consistency you desire. Season the sauce to taste with salt, pepper, and a dash of Worcestershire.\\nIf you want to make gravy, you can also thicken the sauce by mixing a slurry of about a tablespoon of flour and a quarter-cup of sauce in a separate bowl. When the slurry is mixed thoroughly, with all the lumps whisked out, add it to your sauce slowly, whisking as you go. If you dusted the meat with flour before browning it, the sauce might thicken on its own by reduction. Cook it down some to check for the thickness before you worry about starting a slurry.\\nOther additional aromatics like ginger, lemongrass, grated citrus rind, or garlic can be added to the liquid as it reduces for the sauce.\\n3-3. Pair with an appropriate side.\\nMost commonly, you'll see braised beef paired with the vegetables it was braised with, if you chose to include any, and a potato dish of some sort. Braised beef is excellent with the following side dishes:\\n\\nmashed potatoes or mashed sweet potatoes\\nhash browns\\nsweet parsnips\\nturnips or \\\"neeps\\\"\\ngreens like mustard, collard, turnip, or beet\\n3-4. Finish the dish with chopped herbs or other additions and garnishes.\\nA bit of chopped flat-leaf parsley, rosemary, or fresh herb of your choice can liven up the braised beef. Arrange on a platter, spooning over the reduced sauce or gravy you made from the leftover braising liquid.\\nIn many parts of the world, braised beef is a common Sunday supper, especially in the cold winter and autumn months. After slowly simmering the meat in the oven, the whole house smells rich and warm.\\n4. Making Variations\\n4-1. Marinade roast beforehand to braise sauerbraten.\\nA German variation on a basic braised beef, sauerbraten involves marinating a browned round roast in a mixture of vinegar and aromatic spices for up to three days before adding sugar and braising the beef in the marinade.\\n\\n, heat a cup of apple cider vinegar and red wine vinegar in a saucepan, with about two cups of water, over medium-high heat. To this, add one small chopped white onion and a half cup each of chopped carrot and celery. Toss in a teaspoon each of mustard seeds and whole clove, 2-3 bay leaves, and salt and pepper to taste. Simmer, covered, for about 10 minutes while you brown the roast. After about 10 minutes, turn it off and let it cool to room temperature.\\n before removing and placing in a pot suitable for holding the meat and all the marinade. When the marinade has cooled slightly (you don't want it to cook the meat) pour it over the beef and let it sit in the refrigerator for about three days, turning it once a day to make sure the meat is equally submerged.\\n for about four hours after adding about a third of a cup of sugar to the marinading liquid. After braising, crushed-up gingersnaps and raisins are commonly whisked into the juice to thicken and add sweetness to the sauce, which is then poured over the sauerbraten.\\n4-2. Use sliced bottom round to make braised swiss steak.\\nWhile it has absolutely nothing to do with Switzerland, swiss steak involves the \\\"swishing\\\" process, by which one flattens fabric (in this case meat) with rollers or hammers. The tough meat is then braised in a rich sauce made from tomatoes, until fork-tender and delicious. Combined with mashed potatoes and fresh corn, there's nothing better than a properly cooked swiss steak.\\n\\n, cut round roast along the grain to form steaks roughly one half inch thick. Dredge each steak in flour, then pound out with a meat tenderizer until the steak flattens by half. Dredge the steaks again in flour and brown them on the skillet, over medium-heat in your dutch oven, or other oven-ready pot, on both sides. When the steaks turn golden brown on both sides, remove them from the pot and set aside.\\n, fry a small white onion, chopped, two or three cloves of garlic, and two large celery stalks in your pot. Sauté until the vegetables are browned slightly. To this, add a tablespoon of tomato paste and a can of diced tomato (or two medium fresh tomatoes, chopped), and about a cup of beef broth. Stir and bring to a simmer, adding some chopped oregano, Worcestershire sauce, and a tablespoon of lemon juice to the sauce.\\n and braise in the oven for about an hour and a half, covered, at 325 F. The meat should be done when it's fork-tender.\\n4-3. Make carbonade flamande.\\nServed with crusty bread, sweet-sour carbonade flamande is a deceptively simple Flemish flavor bomb, and a great way to mix up a traditional pot roast or braised chuck roast.\\n\\n into bite-sized chunks and browning them in the dutch oven. Remove them from the pot, then crisp up about 3 or 4 strips of chopped bacon, turning down the heat when the fat renders out into the skillet. To the pot, add a whole white onion, chopped, and slowly caramelize the onion adding about 2 tablespoons (30 ml) of butter to the mix.\\n, adding a cup of beef stock, and two tablespoons each of brown sugar and apple cider vinegar. Season the braising liquid with chopped tarragon, parsley, thyme, or whatever green herbs you prefer, and salt and paper to taste.\\n, then cook on the stove over low heat, covered, for about two hours, until he beef is fork-tender. Some recipes call for the braised meat to be topped with slices of bread for the last bit of the cooking time, which is broken down and stirred into the sauce to thicken. Often, this dish is served beside Belgian fries, or french fries.\\n4-4. Make the ultimate comfort food with beef bourguignon.\\nThe technique is easy and the flavor is classic French haute cuisine. It doesn't need to be complicated to be good.\\n\\n, then remove it and sauté the mirepoix. Stir in a tablespoon of tomato paste and add about 20 white pearl onions and a pound of white button mushrooms. Add salt and pepper to taste, while gently stirring the mushrooms and onions to coat. Deglaze the skillet with 2 or 3 cups of dry red wine, preferably Burgundy, and a cup of beef or chicken stock. Season with two bay leaves, and whole leaves of sage, rosemary, and oregano.\\n and braise at 325 F for about 3 or 4 hours until the meat is fork-tender. If the sauce is a little thin, remove the meat and cook it over medium-high heat on the skillet to reduce and thicken. Serve with roast potatoes.\\nTips\\nFor some meats, fruit juice might be suitable for use in the liquid.\\nBeef stew may be cooked by braising. Large pieces, 2\\\" cubes, yield good results.\\nPork chops may be braised in a covered skillet. Thin chops tend to curl; one inch chops are better for braising.\\nWarnings\\nBe sure the lid and handles of the Dutch Oven, including the handle on the lid, are oven safe.\\nUse good quality, clean, dry pot holders or mittens when handling the Dutch Oven.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Braising is a simple technique that allows you to transform the cheap, tough cuts of beef into tender and delicious meals. Perfected by the French and synonymous with American \\\"pot roasting,\\\" braising involves slow-cooking beef roasts in the oven, simmering them in a rich sauce for a period of several hours. With the right ingredients, technique, and a bit of creativity, you can create a hearty meal to feed a whole family. See Step 1 for more information.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting the Essentials\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Select an inexpensive cut of meat to braise.\", \"描述\": \"While it may seem contrary to usual meat-buying logic, tougher or less-tender cuts of meat are perfect for braising. Pot roast, chuck roast or any inexpensive cut may be used. The muscle fibers and connective tissue that make these cuts stringy or tough are broken down by braising, which gelatinizes the collagen into a more palatable texture. Low heat and long cooking times are used to make a tough cut of any kind of meat moist, tender, and delicious, when cooked properly. Common cuts of beef for braising include:\\ntop blade roast\\neye roast\\nseven bone, or center-cut pot roast\\nshank\\nribs or short ribs\\nbrisket\\nIt's unlikely that you would ever want to braise any kind of lean steaks or loin. You could, but because these meats are tender already, it'd be a bit of a waste.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Select a braising liquid.\", \"描述\": \"Other than a pot and your cut of beef, the only other absolutely essential ingredient is a liquid in which to simmer the meat. Because this is an opportunity to add a dash of flavor to the dish, it's most common to use wines, stocks, or other flavorful liquid, as opposed to water. Common braising liquids include:\\n\\n. You can match the stock to the dish by using a beef-based broth or stock, although using chicken stock would is universal for braising any type of meat, and might add a nice complexity to your braised beef. Stock is just broth that hasn't been seasoned, so stock is generally better for braising, since it allows you to control the salt-levels, but either is acceptable. Just go easy on the salt if you use broth.\\n\\n. Dry red wine can add a nice acidic note to beef, especially when combined with another braising liquid, like stock. The alcohol cooks off, resulting in a rich and fragrant dark sauce. Especially fruity or sweet red wines would be less desirable, but fine if paired with an equal amount of stock to cut the sweetness. The fruitiness of a white wine would pair better with chicken or pork. Since it'll season your dish, make sure it's something you'd like to drink--pour yourself a glass for \\\"research.\\\"\\n. English cooking at its finest. Stouts, porters, or black lagers all lend a rich sweetness to beef, and a malty depth of flavor. The darker the better, when it comes to beef. Some Belgian ales might also work nicely, but experiment and find a beer you with a nice flavor. In general, lighter pilsners and lagers are more appropriate for chicken or pork.\\nHow much liquid you'll need will depend on the amount of meat you're braising, and the addition of extra vegetables. As a rule of thumb, you'll want enough liquid to cover the vegetables at the bottom of the pot and come up just to the level of the meat. You're not boiling the meat, or stewing it, so you won't submerge it in the braising liquid. It won't take much, and you can always add additional water to the pot if you didn't have enough wine left in the bottle.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Start with a mirepoix or some mix of finely minced vegetables.\", \"描述\": \"Sounds fancy, but it's not. In French cuisine, braised beef and many other meat dishes will always start with a vegetable base of finely minced carrot, onion, and celery, called mirepoix, which is used to pair with the meat and enrich the sauce. After searing the meat, the mirepoix is added and browned briefly before adding the braising liquid to the pot.\\nFor a proper braising, there needs to be something at the bottom of the pot other than the liquid, to give the sauce fragrance, substance, and character, as well as to keep it from drying out. When minced very small, the mirepoix will mostly disintegrate into the liquid over the course of the long cooking time, to flavor the sauce, though you could leave larger chunks to do more of a \\\"pot roast\\\" style braised beef.\\nDepending on the cut of meat, you might use around 2-3 carrots, 2-3 celery stalks, and a small white onion.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Choose additional vegetables to add as well.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on what you want to do with the beef you braise, you might elect to make a one-pot meal with the addition of vegetables. In most braising, some variety of aromatic vegetable will always be used to keep the moisture consistent in the bottom of the pot, as well as to release other flavors and aromas. Cooking beef low and slow is a great opportunity to cook vegetables as well.\\nOther vegetables like potatoes, cabbage, peas, mushrooms, greens, leeks, or other root vegetables can be added to the pot later, about 45 minutes before the meat is done cooking. Some fruits, like apple or pear, can also pair nicely with braised beef, depending on the season. Use firm, slightly under-ripe fruit, if you want to experiment.\\nAromatic herbs like rosemary, sage, bay leaf, or thyme can kick your braised beef up several notches. If you've got access to an herb garden, or just want to buy some fresh herbs from the store, tie up a bundle of a few stalks in twine and add at the same time you add the braising liquid.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Always use a heavy-bottom stew pot or dutch oven.\", \"描述\": \"Braising starts on the stove and moves into the oven, making it important that you start in a pot that's oven-safe. Enameled cast-iron pots are perfect for braising, featuring the heat-retention of cast iron and the hefty weight of a good baking dish.\\nSkillets aren't generally big enough to hold all the braising liquid, meat, and vegetables required for a good braising, while thinner sauce-pans won't hold the heat as effectively as cast iron. If you don't have a cast iron dutch oven, though, anything you can cover and put in the oven will do in a pinch.\\nIf you don't have an oven-safe stew pot, but have a heavy-bottomed saucepan, it's perfectly fine to braise meat on the stove-top as well. Some cooks prefer the oven method because it more evenly-distributes heat throughout the meat, while others prefer the simplicity of braising on the stove. Both methods result in tender and delicious beef.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Braising Technique\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Prepare the meat for braising.\", \"描述\": \"Season the meat on all sides with an even coating of salt and pepper. Go easy if you're going to braise the meat in broth, which will also be seasoned. If you want to add other spices to the dish, wait to add them until after the braising liquid has been added. Don't worry about trimming off fat or connective tissue, which will be broken down during the cooking process, providing great flavor.\\nSome cooks like to dust the meat with a light coating of flour before browning it, while others choose not to. Flour can help to create a nice attractive crust on the meat during the browning, and it will work to thicken the sauce. Additionally, it helps to dry out the surface of the meat to promote browning. If you don't dust with flour, dry off the meat before you attempt to fry it. Damp beef won't brown.\\nDepending on the cut of meat you're using, you may want to trim up the beef into manageable pieces, or leave it whole to braise the entire roast. Either method is perfectly fine, and will only majorly affect the presentation of the dish after it's done.\\nIn general, braised beef will be left whole, while \\\"stewed\\\" beef (which is submerged in liquid) will be cut into smaller chunks. The techniques are largely similar, so go with what you like best. If you'd like bite-sized chunks, go ahead and cut up your roast ahead of time. If you'd rather leave it whole and fork it apart later, that's fine too.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Brown the roast and then remove it from the pot.\", \"描述\": \"Put your pot on the stove over a medium-high heat, coating the bottom with about two tablespoons of olive oil. When the oil starts to smoke, add your meat and let it brown on each side, until you've created a nice dark crust on the outside. Turn the meat periodically and be very careful not to scorch.\\nYou need to brown meat over high heat to cook the outside, not the inside. You'll cook the meat through in the liquid, so the browning is just used to create that tasty outer-layer of crust, as well as to season the bottom of the pot with drippings and little burned-on bits. The inside should still be very pink after you've browned it. Remove the meat from the pot and set it aside.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Add the mirepoix and sauté over medium-high heat.\", \"描述\": \"In the drippings and browned bits stuck at the bottom of the pan, add your finely-minced carrot, onion, and celery. Stir the vegetables around as they brown, taking care not to let them scorch.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Add about an inch of your braising liquid.\", \"描述\": \"When your vegetable base is browned, add a small amount of braising liquid to deglaze the bottom of the pot. Use a wooden spoon to scrape up the stuff stuck to the bottom, which will help to flavor the sauce and the meat. Add enough liquid to cover the vegetables and bring it to a simmer.\\nThe difference between stewing and braising is the amount of liquid you add to the pot. Although they're very similar processes, technically-speaking, braised beef requires only the smallest amount of liquid, enough to cover the vegetables and create a humid environment in which to cook the meat. If you add a bit too much, don't worry, it'll be just as good.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Return the meat to the pot, cover it, and place in the oven at 325 °F (163 °C).\", \"描述\": \"Once you've got the braising liquid up to a gentle simmer, add the beef back into the pot, settled gently on top of the vegetable/liquid mixture. Cover the pot securely and put it in the oven.\\nIf you want to braise on the stove, reduce the heat immediately to low and cover the pot securely. To keep things from drying out, it might be helpful to add a bit more liquid than you normally would, more like you would for a stewing, and to leave the cover on the pot as much as possible. Every time you remove it, the moisture will be released, causing it to get drier.\\nAs the meat cooks the liquid should condense and intensify, but the pot shouldn't dry out because you have the lid on. As it condenses on the top of the pot, it'll drip back down on top of the meat, basting it and keeping everything moist. Because you're creating a little cooking climate in the pot, you shouldn't remove it and mess with it. Let the pot and the heat do the work.\\nThe braising liquid should not be boiling. If the lid of your pot is rattling because the bubbles are aggressive, turn the heat down some. Anywhere between 250 and 350 F is appropriate for braising. The lower the temp, the longer the cooking time.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Add additional vegetables 45 minutes to 1 hour before the meat is done.\", \"描述\": \"To make sure everything finishes cooking at roughly the same time, you should add vegetables to the equation later in the cooking process, depending on what you want to add.\\n\\n like parsnips, turnips, carrots, potatoes, and beets can and probably should be added earlier in the cooking process. Add root vegetables to the pot when you return the meat, and cut into uniform bite-sized pieces.\\n like greens, mushrooms, beans or peas should be added quite near the end, no more than an hour before you remove the braised beef from the oven. These may be added whole.\\n you'd like to add before adding them to the braising pot. Adding frozen vegetables can bring down the temperature considerably, and they won't need to be cooked for very long anyway.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Remove the meat when fork-tender.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on the size and variety of the cut you're braising, it should cook between 2 and 4 hours to reach its most tender state, and reach an internal temperature of around 160 F. When the beef is done, it should literally fall apart with very little pressure from a fork.\\nAs the meat cooks, moisture will be forced out, drying it out. When it reaches 160 F, it'll technically be \\\"done\\\" at this point, but it won't be as good as it can and should be for a proper braising. Since you've gone to all the trouble to braise it, really braise it. After a bit more time in the oven, the fibers will relax and reabsorb the gelatinized collagen, making the meat very tender.\\nYou shouldn't need to worry about under- or overcooking a braised beef dish. Cooking it longer only makes it better, and there's almost no risk of over-cooking it. If you're in doubt, cook it longer. It's not a dish to rush.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Finishing the Dish\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Remove the beef from the pot and let it rest.\", \"描述\": \"When the beef is done cooking, remove it from the braising liquid, set it on a plate or a carving board, and cover it with foil to retain the heat. Braised beef should rest for at least 10 or 15 minutes before you carve it.\\nYou can carve braised beef however you wish to serve it, depending on the particular cut. Slices are appropriate for brisket, while short ribs will likely be left whole. Fork-pulling some roasts might be appropriate, as well, if you want more of a BBQ-style dish.\\nIf you've added additional vegetables, you can remove them as well, if you want to reduce the liquid to create a sauce or gravy. Spoon into a serving bowl, cover, and set aside.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Reduce the remaining liquid to create a sauce.\", \"描述\": \"After you've removed the beef, put the pot back on the stovetop over medium-high heat to reduce the amount of liquid by half, or until it reaches the consistency you desire. Season the sauce to taste with salt, pepper, and a dash of Worcestershire.\\nIf you want to make gravy, you can also thicken the sauce by mixing a slurry of about a tablespoon of flour and a quarter-cup of sauce in a separate bowl. When the slurry is mixed thoroughly, with all the lumps whisked out, add it to your sauce slowly, whisking as you go. If you dusted the meat with flour before browning it, the sauce might thicken on its own by reduction. Cook it down some to check for the thickness before you worry about starting a slurry.\\nOther additional aromatics like ginger, lemongrass, grated citrus rind, or garlic can be added to the liquid as it reduces for the sauce.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pair with an appropriate side.\", \"描述\": \"Most commonly, you'll see braised beef paired with the vegetables it was braised with, if you chose to include any, and a potato dish of some sort. Braised beef is excellent with the following side dishes:\\n\\nmashed potatoes or mashed sweet potatoes\\nhash browns\\nsweet parsnips\\nturnips or \\\"neeps\\\"\\ngreens like mustard, collard, turnip, or beet\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Finish the dish with chopped herbs or other additions and garnishes.\", \"描述\": \"A bit of chopped flat-leaf parsley, rosemary, or fresh herb of your choice can liven up the braised beef. Arrange on a platter, spooning over the reduced sauce or gravy you made from the leftover braising liquid.\\nIn many parts of the world, braised beef is a common Sunday supper, especially in the cold winter and autumn months. After slowly simmering the meat in the oven, the whole house smells rich and warm.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Making Variations\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Marinade roast beforehand to braise sauerbraten.\", \"描述\": \"A German variation on a basic braised beef, sauerbraten involves marinating a browned round roast in a mixture of vinegar and aromatic spices for up to three days before adding sugar and braising the beef in the marinade.\\n\\n, heat a cup of apple cider vinegar and red wine vinegar in a saucepan, with about two cups of water, over medium-high heat. To this, add one small chopped white onion and a half cup each of chopped carrot and celery. Toss in a teaspoon each of mustard seeds and whole clove, 2-3 bay leaves, and salt and pepper to taste. Simmer, covered, for about 10 minutes while you brown the roast. After about 10 minutes, turn it off and let it cool to room temperature.\\n before removing and placing in a pot suitable for holding the meat and all the marinade. When the marinade has cooled slightly (you don't want it to cook the meat) pour it over the beef and let it sit in the refrigerator for about three days, turning it once a day to make sure the meat is equally submerged.\\n for about four hours after adding about a third of a cup of sugar to the marinading liquid. After braising, crushed-up gingersnaps and raisins are commonly whisked into the juice to thicken and add sweetness to the sauce, which is then poured over the sauerbraten.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use sliced bottom round to make braised swiss steak.\", \"描述\": \"While it has absolutely nothing to do with Switzerland, swiss steak involves the \\\"swishing\\\" process, by which one flattens fabric (in this case meat) with rollers or hammers. The tough meat is then braised in a rich sauce made from tomatoes, until fork-tender and delicious. Combined with mashed potatoes and fresh corn, there's nothing better than a properly cooked swiss steak.\\n\\n, cut round roast along the grain to form steaks roughly one half inch thick. Dredge each steak in flour, then pound out with a meat tenderizer until the steak flattens by half. Dredge the steaks again in flour and brown them on the skillet, over medium-heat in your dutch oven, or other oven-ready pot, on both sides. When the steaks turn golden brown on both sides, remove them from the pot and set aside.\\n, fry a small white onion, chopped, two or three cloves of garlic, and two large celery stalks in your pot. Sauté until the vegetables are browned slightly. To this, add a tablespoon of tomato paste and a can of diced tomato (or two medium fresh tomatoes, chopped), and about a cup of beef broth. Stir and bring to a simmer, adding some chopped oregano, Worcestershire sauce, and a tablespoon of lemon juice to the sauce.\\n and braise in the oven for about an hour and a half, covered, at 325 F. The meat should be done when it's fork-tender.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make carbonade flamande.\", \"描述\": \"Served with crusty bread, sweet-sour carbonade flamande is a deceptively simple Flemish flavor bomb, and a great way to mix up a traditional pot roast or braised chuck roast.\\n\\n into bite-sized chunks and browning them in the dutch oven. Remove them from the pot, then crisp up about 3 or 4 strips of chopped bacon, turning down the heat when the fat renders out into the skillet. To the pot, add a whole white onion, chopped, and slowly caramelize the onion adding about 2 tablespoons (30 ml) of butter to the mix.\\n, adding a cup of beef stock, and two tablespoons each of brown sugar and apple cider vinegar. Season the braising liquid with chopped tarragon, parsley, thyme, or whatever green herbs you prefer, and salt and paper to taste.\\n, then cook on the stove over low heat, covered, for about two hours, until he beef is fork-tender. Some recipes call for the braised meat to be topped with slices of bread for the last bit of the cooking time, which is broken down and stirred into the sauce to thicken. Often, this dish is served beside Belgian fries, or french fries.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Make the ultimate comfort food with beef bourguignon.\", \"描述\": \"The technique is easy and the flavor is classic French haute cuisine. It doesn't need to be complicated to be good.\\n\\n, then remove it and sauté the mirepoix. Stir in a tablespoon of tomato paste and add about 20 white pearl onions and a pound of white button mushrooms. Add salt and pepper to taste, while gently stirring the mushrooms and onions to coat. Deglaze the skillet with 2 or 3 cups of dry red wine, preferably Burgundy, and a cup of beef or chicken stock. Season with two bay leaves, and whole leaves of sage, rosemary, and oregano.\\n and braise at 325 F for about 3 or 4 hours until the meat is fork-tender. If the sauce is a little thin, remove the meat and cook it over medium-high heat on the skillet to reduce and thicken. Serve with roast potatoes.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"For some meats, fruit juice might be suitable for use in the liquid.\\n\", \"Beef stew may be cooked by braising. Large pieces, 2\\\" cubes, yield good results.\\n\", \"Pork chops may be braised in a covered skillet. Thin chops tend to curl; one inch chops are better for braising.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Be sure the lid and handles of the Dutch Oven, including the handle on the lid, are oven safe.\\n\", \"Use good quality, clean, dry pot holders or mittens when handling the Dutch Oven.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Braise Meat
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1. Preparing to Braise
1-1. Choose the meat.
Braising is a great technique for tough and inexpensive meat. When selecting a meat, don't choose tender or quality cuts. Cuts of meat with the bone in also work well for braising.
Braising beef works well with: chuck pot roast, shoulder steak, short ribs, rump roast, round steak, and brisket.
Braising pork works well with: chops, cutlets, cubes, pork shoulder, Boston butt, sirloin roast, and ribs.
Lamb shanks and shoulders are great for braising.
For chicken, try legs and thighs. Keep the bone in to get the fat and tissue; don't braise boneless chicken breasts.
Try braising large, firm fish fillets, like shark, swordfish, or tuna. Don't braise tender fish like tilapia and cod. It'll fall apart.
Don't limit yourself to meat. You can also braise fruits and vegetables. Go for firmer vegetables, like squash, sweet potatoes, leeks, carrots, beets, and cabbage.
1-2. Choose a liquid.
Part of the braising process is cooking the meat for a long time in a liquid. Be creative with the liquids you choose. There is no right or wrong liquid to use. Think about the flavor palette you want to create, what flavors will go well with your meat, and what flavors will go well with the seasonings and vegetables.
Try beef, chicken, or vegetable broth. You can also use stock. Try to match the meat with the broth or stock.
Use wine or beer. For pork, try lighter lagers, which will give the meat a nice sour taste. Try imported stouts or dark lagers for beef. Wine gives the dish a bit of an acidic taste. Stick with a dry wine and one that you would drink. For a variety of flavor, mix your wine with your broth. You can also try balsamic vinaigrette.
For something a little sweeter, try apple juice, cranberry juice, orange juice, or pineapple juice. Use tomato juice for something a little more tart. Ciders, fresh or fermented, go really well with poultry and pork for a bit of sweetness.
Use water for the liquid if your meat, seasonings, and vegetables have strong flavors.
You can even braise with milk.
1-3. Decide on the seasonings.
Like liquids, the seasonings you choose can be creative and exciting. Match the herbs and spices to the liquid to make a complimentary flavor palette. You can use dried or fresh herbs when braising.
Try basil, Italian seasoning, oregano, mint, or thyme. Sage, rosemary, dill, bay leaves, and cilantro can also be used. Salt and pepper can also be added.
Garlic and onions are great flavorful additions to your braising liquid.
Try capers, lemon zest, lime zest, or orange zest. For something a bit sweet yet spicy, go for ginger. Lemongrass also adds a nice citrus sweetness to the dish.
For something spicier, try chili powder, peppers, cayenne pepper, or any other spice. Throw in some cumin and turmeric for an Indian flavor.
You can also try liquid seasonings, like barbecue sauce, Dijon mustard, soy sauce, steak sauce, Worcestershire sauce, duck sauce, or sweet chili sauce.
1-4. Cook in the correct pot.
No matter what meat you are braising, you need a large, deep heavy pot with a tight lid. This keeps the moisture in, which is required to braise properly.
Use a Dutch oven if you have one. You can also use an ovenproof skillet for smaller cuts of meat, like pork chops or chicken.
1-5. Finish with vegetables.
When you braise meat, you don't just add meat, but vegetables, too. Classic choices are onion, carrots, and celery. However, you can add just about any vegetables you want. Just remember to match your flavor palette.
Try mushrooms. They give your dish a woodsy flavor.
Potatoes and sweet potatoes make a great addition that will turn the braised meat into a full meal.
Try different variations of squashes, parsnips, turnips, rutabaga, or other root vegetables.
Any kind of onion is a great addition to a braise.
2. Braising the Meat
2-1. Prepare the meat.
Preheat the oven to 350 degrees. While the oven is heating, season the meat with salt and pepper and any other seasonings you desire. Trim any excess fat from the meat.
Keep the chunks of meat large. Try to keep the edges smooth instead of ragged, and don't pierce the edges. Smooth edges with no pierced places helps to absorb and keep the juices in.
If the cut of meat you're using has a bone, then there may be tiny bone chips left behind. To remove, carefully run the meat under warm running water, rubbing it gently to dislodge any bone chips. Then, dry the meat with a paper towel and season it .
2-2. Sear the meat.
Place 2 tablespoons of oil in a pot over medium-high heat. When the oil is hot and rippling, add the meat allowing it to brown in the oil. Then turn it to an unbrowned side. Continue in this fashion until the meat is browned all over. Set the meat aside when it's finished browning.
Make sure your pan is very hot. If the pan is smoking, that is a good thing. It should also be uncovered. Just make sure you open a window or use your exhaust fan.
As you are browning, look for the outside to get caramelized and crispy. Remember, you aren't cooking the meat, just searing the outside.
Don't crowd your pot. Make sure there is enough room for the meat so it can properly sear.
2-3. Sauté the vegetables.
Add any combination of vegetables to the hot pan. Allow the vegetables to cook quickly until they're browned on the outside and fragrant. This should take 3 or 4 minutes.
Sauté the vegetables until they are a caramel brown color. Stir them often to keep them from searing.
2-4. Deglaze the pan.
Caramelized brown bits should be left on the bottom of the pan. Pour in a splash of your liquid while still on medium heat. Then, use a wooden spoon to remove the caramelized bits from the bottom of the pan. You want to keep these brown bits because they add to the flavor.
2-5. Combine the ingredients.
Place the meat back in the pot with the vegetables. Add the braising liquid so that it comes up to about halfway up the meat. Bring to a boil, then decrease the temperature so the dish can simmer.
Once the dish is simmering, add the seasonings.
Don't add too much liquid. The meat shouldn't be completely covered by the liquid. Instead, only fill it so the meat is halfway covered. If you add too much liquid, it can decrease the flavor.
If the pan you seared your meat and vegetables in isn't suitable for the oven, place the ingredients in another dish, such as a crock pot or oven-safe casserole dish. Add the vegetables and deglazing liquid.
2-6. Cook the meat.
Tightly cover the pot with the lid. Place the pot in the oven at 350 degrees. Cook for 1.5-6 hours. You want to cook the meat until it is tender and falls apart with a fork. Don't overcook, because then the meat will become dry.
You can cook anywhere between 250-350 degrees.
If cooking on the stovetop, set the heat to low. A crockpot should be set to high.
2-7. Finish the dish.
If you want to add more vegetables, add them 45 minutes before the meat is done. Add a bit more liquid if it's lower than an inch.
If you want to make a sauce or gravy, remove the meat and vegetables when the meat is fork-tender. Skim off the surface fat. Allow the sauce to simmer so it can reduce down until it coats the back of your spoon. Return the meat and vegetables to the pot and heat.
To make a thicker sauce, try adding flour or cornstarch.
Let the meat sit in the sauce for 10-20 minutes after you take it out of the oven. This helps the juices absorb into the meat.
Tips
When you cut the meat, cut against the grain instead of with it. Cutting with the grain will tear the meat.[30]
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Research source
Try marinating your meat for hours or even days before you braise it. This can help add extra flavor.
Braising time will range between 1 to 3 hours, depending on the cut. You'll know it's done once the meat can easily pull apart using a fork.
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Choose a liquid.\\nPart of the braising process is cooking the meat for a long time in a liquid. Be creative with the liquids you choose. There is no right or wrong liquid to use. Think about the flavor palette you want to create, what flavors will go well with your meat, and what flavors will go well with the seasonings and vegetables.\\nTry beef, chicken, or vegetable broth. You can also use stock. Try to match the meat with the broth or stock.\\nUse wine or beer. For pork, try lighter lagers, which will give the meat a nice sour taste. Try imported stouts or dark lagers for beef. Wine gives the dish a bit of an acidic taste. Stick with a dry wine and one that you would drink. For a variety of flavor, mix your wine with your broth. You can also try balsamic vinaigrette.\\nFor something a little sweeter, try apple juice, cranberry juice, orange juice, or pineapple juice. Use tomato juice for something a little more tart. Ciders, fresh or fermented, go really well with poultry and pork for a bit of sweetness.\\nUse water for the liquid if your meat, seasonings, and vegetables have strong flavors.\\nYou can even braise with milk.\\n1-3. Decide on the seasonings.\\nLike liquids, the seasonings you choose can be creative and exciting. Match the herbs and spices to the liquid to make a complimentary flavor palette. You can use dried or fresh herbs when braising.\\nTry basil, Italian seasoning, oregano, mint, or thyme. Sage, rosemary, dill, bay leaves, and cilantro can also be used. Salt and pepper can also be added.\\nGarlic and onions are great flavorful additions to your braising liquid.\\nTry capers, lemon zest, lime zest, or orange zest. For something a bit sweet yet spicy, go for ginger. Lemongrass also adds a nice citrus sweetness to the dish.\\nFor something spicier, try chili powder, peppers, cayenne pepper, or any other spice. Throw in some cumin and turmeric for an Indian flavor.\\nYou can also try liquid seasonings, like barbecue sauce, Dijon mustard, soy sauce, steak sauce, Worcestershire sauce, duck sauce, or sweet chili sauce.\\n1-4. Cook in the correct pot.\\nNo matter what meat you are braising, you need a large, deep heavy pot with a tight lid. This keeps the moisture in, which is required to braise properly.\\nUse a Dutch oven if you have one. You can also use an ovenproof skillet for smaller cuts of meat, like pork chops or chicken.\\n1-5. Finish with vegetables.\\nWhen you braise meat, you don't just add meat, but vegetables, too. Classic choices are onion, carrots, and celery. However, you can add just about any vegetables you want. Just remember to match your flavor palette.\\nTry mushrooms. They give your dish a woodsy flavor.\\nPotatoes and sweet potatoes make a great addition that will turn the braised meat into a full meal.\\nTry different variations of squashes, parsnips, turnips, rutabaga, or other root vegetables.\\nAny kind of onion is a great addition to a braise.\\n2. Braising the Meat\\n2-1. Prepare the meat.\\nPreheat the oven to 350 degrees. While the oven is heating, season the meat with salt and pepper and any other seasonings you desire. Trim any excess fat from the meat.\\nKeep the chunks of meat large. Try to keep the edges smooth instead of ragged, and don't pierce the edges. Smooth edges with no pierced places helps to absorb and keep the juices in.\\nIf the cut of meat you're using has a bone, then there may be tiny bone chips left behind. To remove, carefully run the meat under warm running water, rubbing it gently to dislodge any bone chips. Then, dry the meat with a paper towel and season it .\\n2-2. Sear the meat.\\nPlace 2 tablespoons of oil in a pot over medium-high heat. When the oil is hot and rippling, add the meat allowing it to brown in the oil. Then turn it to an unbrowned side. Continue in this fashion until the meat is browned all over. Set the meat aside when it's finished browning.\\nMake sure your pan is very hot. If the pan is smoking, that is a good thing. It should also be uncovered. Just make sure you open a window or use your exhaust fan.\\nAs you are browning, look for the outside to get caramelized and crispy. Remember, you aren't cooking the meat, just searing the outside.\\nDon't crowd your pot. Make sure there is enough room for the meat so it can properly sear.\\n2-3. Sauté the vegetables.\\nAdd any combination of vegetables to the hot pan. Allow the vegetables to cook quickly until they're browned on the outside and fragrant. This should take 3 or 4 minutes.\\nSauté the vegetables until they are a caramel brown color. Stir them often to keep them from searing.\\n2-4. Deglaze the pan.\\nCaramelized brown bits should be left on the bottom of the pan. Pour in a splash of your liquid while still on medium heat. Then, use a wooden spoon to remove the caramelized bits from the bottom of the pan. You want to keep these brown bits because they add to the flavor.\\n2-5. Combine the ingredients.\\nPlace the meat back in the pot with the vegetables. Add the braising liquid so that it comes up to about halfway up the meat. Bring to a boil, then decrease the temperature so the dish can simmer.\\nOnce the dish is simmering, add the seasonings.\\nDon't add too much liquid. The meat shouldn't be completely covered by the liquid. Instead, only fill it so the meat is halfway covered. If you add too much liquid, it can decrease the flavor.\\nIf the pan you seared your meat and vegetables in isn't suitable for the oven, place the ingredients in another dish, such as a crock pot or oven-safe casserole dish. Add the vegetables and deglazing liquid.\\n2-6. Cook the meat.\\nTightly cover the pot with the lid. Place the pot in the oven at 350 degrees. Cook for 1.5-6 hours. You want to cook the meat until it is tender and falls apart with a fork. Don't overcook, because then the meat will become dry.\\nYou can cook anywhere between 250-350 degrees.\\nIf cooking on the stovetop, set the heat to low. A crockpot should be set to high.\\n2-7. Finish the dish.\\nIf you want to add more vegetables, add them 45 minutes before the meat is done. Add a bit more liquid if it's lower than an inch.\\nIf you want to make a sauce or gravy, remove the meat and vegetables when the meat is fork-tender. Skim off the surface fat. Allow the sauce to simmer so it can reduce down until it coats the back of your spoon. Return the meat and vegetables to the pot and heat.\\nTo make a thicker sauce, try adding flour or cornstarch.\\nLet the meat sit in the sauce for 10-20 minutes after you take it out of the oven. 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Throw in some cumin and turmeric for an Indian flavor.\\nYou can also try liquid seasonings, like barbecue sauce, Dijon mustard, soy sauce, steak sauce, Worcestershire sauce, duck sauce, or sweet chili sauce.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Cook in the correct pot.\", \"描述\": \"No matter what meat you are braising, you need a large, deep heavy pot with a tight lid. This keeps the moisture in, which is required to braise properly.\\nUse a Dutch oven if you have one. You can also use an ovenproof skillet for smaller cuts of meat, like pork chops or chicken.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Finish with vegetables.\", \"描述\": \"When you braise meat, you don't just add meat, but vegetables, too. Classic choices are onion, carrots, and celery. However, you can add just about any vegetables you want. Just remember to match your flavor palette.\\nTry mushrooms. They give your dish a woodsy flavor.\\nPotatoes and sweet potatoes make a great addition that will turn the braised meat into a full meal.\\nTry different variations of squashes, parsnips, turnips, rutabaga, or other root vegetables.\\nAny kind of onion is a great addition to a braise.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Braising the Meat\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Prepare the meat.\", \"描述\": \"Preheat the oven to 350 degrees. While the oven is heating, season the meat with salt and pepper and any other seasonings you desire. Trim any excess fat from the meat.\\nKeep the chunks of meat large. Try to keep the edges smooth instead of ragged, and don't pierce the edges. Smooth edges with no pierced places helps to absorb and keep the juices in.\\nIf the cut of meat you're using has a bone, then there may be tiny bone chips left behind. To remove, carefully run the meat under warm running water, rubbing it gently to dislodge any bone chips. Then, dry the meat with a paper towel and season it .\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Sear the meat.\", \"描述\": \"Place 2 tablespoons of oil in a pot over medium-high heat. When the oil is hot and rippling, add the meat allowing it to brown in the oil. Then turn it to an unbrowned side. Continue in this fashion until the meat is browned all over. Set the meat aside when it's finished browning.\\nMake sure your pan is very hot. If the pan is smoking, that is a good thing. It should also be uncovered. Just make sure you open a window or use your exhaust fan.\\nAs you are browning, look for the outside to get caramelized and crispy. Remember, you aren't cooking the meat, just searing the outside.\\nDon't crowd your pot. Make sure there is enough room for the meat so it can properly sear.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Sauté the vegetables.\", \"描述\": \"Add any combination of vegetables to the hot pan. Allow the vegetables to cook quickly until they're browned on the outside and fragrant. This should take 3 or 4 minutes.\\nSauté the vegetables until they are a caramel brown color. Stir them often to keep them from searing.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Deglaze the pan.\", \"描述\": \"Caramelized brown bits should be left on the bottom of the pan. Pour in a splash of your liquid while still on medium heat. Then, use a wooden spoon to remove the caramelized bits from the bottom of the pan. You want to keep these brown bits because they add to the flavor.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Combine the ingredients.\", \"描述\": \"Place the meat back in the pot with the vegetables. Add the braising liquid so that it comes up to about halfway up the meat. Bring to a boil, then decrease the temperature so the dish can simmer.\\nOnce the dish is simmering, add the seasonings.\\nDon't add too much liquid. The meat shouldn't be completely covered by the liquid. Instead, only fill it so the meat is halfway covered. If you add too much liquid, it can decrease the flavor.\\nIf the pan you seared your meat and vegetables in isn't suitable for the oven, place the ingredients in another dish, such as a crock pot or oven-safe casserole dish. Add the vegetables and deglazing liquid.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Cook the meat.\", \"描述\": \"Tightly cover the pot with the lid. Place the pot in the oven at 350 degrees. Cook for 1.5-6 hours. You want to cook the meat until it is tender and falls apart with a fork. Don't overcook, because then the meat will become dry.\\nYou can cook anywhere between 250-350 degrees.\\nIf cooking on the stovetop, set the heat to low. A crockpot should be set to high.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Finish the dish.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to add more vegetables, add them 45 minutes before the meat is done. Add a bit more liquid if it's lower than an inch.\\nIf you want to make a sauce or gravy, remove the meat and vegetables when the meat is fork-tender. Skim off the surface fat. Allow the sauce to simmer so it can reduce down until it coats the back of your spoon. Return the meat and vegetables to the pot and heat.\\nTo make a thicker sauce, try adding flour or cornstarch.\\nLet the meat sit in the sauce for 10-20 minutes after you take it out of the oven. This helps the juices absorb into the meat.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"When you cut the meat, cut against the grain instead of with it. Cutting with the grain will tear the meat.[30]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"Try marinating your meat for hours or even days before you braise it. This can help add extra flavor.\\n\", \"Braising time will range between 1 to 3 hours, depending on the cut. You'll know it's done once the meat can easily pull apart using a fork.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Brake Properly on a Motorcycle
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1. Coming to a Controlled Stop
1-1. Start braking at the proper time depending on your speed.
Your average reaction time before you apply the brakes is around 0.62 seconds. When you use your brakes, it will take more time to come to a complete stop if you’re going faster. If you’re going 30 mph (48 km/h), it will take approximately 2.39 seconds to stop but the distance you travel equals about 66 ft (20 m). Always apply your brakes to maintain a safe distance between you and any vehicles in front of you.
Always stay aware of your surroundings and other traffic so you can brake when you need to.
If your bike has an anti-lock braking system (ABS brakes), then your stopping time and distance may be slightly shorter.
Your braking distance can also be affected by road conditions. Slippery roads, like those made from gravel or covered in rain, will increase the distance it takes to stop.
1-2. Ease off the throttle.
The throttle is located on the right handlebar and twists toward you to accelerate. Slowly turn the throttle toward the front of the bike when you want to decelerate or come to a stop. When you disengage the throttle, your bike will start to slow down naturally since you aren’t giving the engine any gas.
If you keep your throttle twisted toward you while you brake, it will cause stress on your transmission and brake pads.
1-3. Press down on the rear brake with your right foot.
The rear brake lever is located in front of your right foot on your motorcycle. When you want to reduce your speed, use your toe to gently press the rear brake lever. Don’t apply too much force or your rear tire will lock up and could cause you to lose control.
Avoid only using your rear brakes since it can cause your bike to skid and increase your stopping distance.
1-4. Squeeze the front brakes at the same time with 2 fingers to ease into the stop.
The front brake control is the handle directly above the throttle on the right handlebar of your motorcycle. As you press down on the rear brake lever, use your index and middle finger to slowly squeeze the front brake controls.
Your front brake controls about 75% of your stopping power and will be the most effective when braking.
Avoid squeezing the front brake with all 4 fingers since you might lock the tire and cause you to lose control.
1-5. Hold the clutch to help slow down.
The clutch is the lever on the left handlebar on your motorcycle. As you decelerate, squeeze on your clutch. This will help slow you down even more and allows you to shift into lower gears.
Even though holding the clutch in will help you slow down, it will not activate your brake lights. Make sure to always apply your brakes when slowing down so other drivers are aware.
1-6. Shift into first gear before you get to your stop.
As you slow down, use the shifter lever near your left foot to downshift to first gear. Putting your bike into its lowest gear helps you get a smooth start and stop while you’re riding.
If you were already in first gear before slowing down, you don’t need to make any changes.
1-7. Plant your left foot when your bike stops moving.
Once your bike comes to a complete stop, take your left foot and put it firmly on the ground. This will help you keep your balance and prevents the bike from falling over. When you want to start moving again, begin slightly accelerating before putting your foot back in its place.
2. Slowing Down for a Turn
2-1. Ease off of the throttle before you start your turn.
As you approach your turn, slowly twist the throttle away from you to decelerate. Reduce your speed so you’re still able to make your turn, but not so you come to a complete stop.
If you’re going too fast into your turn, you may cross into a different lane or into oncoming traffic.
If you’re going slow enough to make your turn and you don’t need to use your brakes, slightly press on the rear brake to flash your brake lights. This lets other traffic know that you’re going to slow down more.
2-2. Apply the brakes before your turn if you need to slow down more.
Easing off your throttle should be enough to slow you down during a turn, but you might need your brakes if it’s a tight corner. Gently press your right foot on the rear brake control and squeeze the front brake control with your right hand. Make sure the bike doesn’t come to a complete stop unless you need to make one.
If you apply either of the brakes too hard, you may lose traction and lose control.
2-3. Lean into your turn.
Squeeze your knees against your bike’s body to help maintain your balance. Look toward your turn and press the handlebars in that direction. As you make your turn, lean toward that side of the bike to keep your balance. Your bike will start to lean into the turn so you can maintain control.
During a regular turn, lean your body and the motorcycle at the same angle.
During slow tight turns, keep your body as straight as you can and only lean the motorcycle to maintain your balance.
2-4. Accelerate as you come out of the turn to stay balanced.
While you’re in your turn, maintain the same speed by holding onto the throttle. At the end of the turn, twist the throttle toward your body to speed up and keep your bike stable.
3. Braking in Different Road Conditions
3-1. Use both brakes when coming to a stop no matter the conditions.
When you’re riding, it’s best to always use both of your brakes when you need to slow down or stop. That way, you don’t have to change anything during an emergency situation. Apply both brakes evenly to come to a controlled stop in the shortest distance.
3-2. Brake sooner than you normally would on slippery surfaces.
Roads made of gravel or pavement that is wet can cause your bike to lose traction while it’s stopping. If you’re on a road that isn’t smooth, stay aware of your surroundings and other traffic on the road. Apply your brakes early to avoid any collisions.
Ride in another vehicle’s tire tracks if you can to avoid slipping.
3-3. Ease off the throttle when riding through standing water if you need to.
Going fast through standing water on the road can cause you to aquaplane, where you lose tire traction on the road. If the road ahead of you looks shiny, twist the throttle away from you and keep your bike as straight as possible to slow down.
Do not apply the brakes if you lose control of your bike this way since it may make the problem even worse.
3-4. Hold your brakes down if you’re stopping on a slope.
If you come to a stop while you’re riding either uphill or downhill, your bike will start to roll down the slope. When you stop, keep your bike pointing as straight up the hill as possible to keep your balance. Plant your left foot on the ground and keep the front and rear brakes activated so your tires don’t slip.
You can also try to plant both feet on the ground and only use your front brake, but it may lose traction on steeper hills.
Tips
Practice riding and braking on a street without traffic or in a parking lot until you’re comfortable.
Many motorcycle safety courses can help teach you how to brake in different situations. Consider signing up for one if you haven’t taken one already.
Warnings
Never pull the front brakes hard by themselves since you could flip your bike.
Try to keep your bike vertical instead of falling on your side in an emergency stop. Your tires have more stopping power than the bike’s body.[16]
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How to Brake and Stop a Car in the Shortest Distance
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1. Braking and Stopping a Car with ABS
1-1. Press down the brake firmly and smoothly.
If you push your foot down on the pedal in a car with ABS, you will feel the brake pulsating under your foot, sometimes violently. Don't be afraid of this or let go -- that just means the brakes are doing their job. Depress your brake pedal rapidly, but not instantly. This is essential to maximize the braking potential of your car. The goal is to bring the vehicle's tires just shy of breaking traction. It is important, though, to avoid "squeezing" down on the brakes if your car has ABS.
The key is to apply the brakes quickly and deeply, while applying pressure with the left foot against the footrest to stabilize the body.
As the car's speed is being scrubbed off, you can progressively and gently ease off the brakes to keep them at the point of maximal efficiency.
1-2. Don't brake and swerve the car at the same time.
Gentle turning while braking can help you avoid a collision. However, don't ever swerve or jerk the steering wheel, as this can cause the vehicle to go out of control. It is not uncommon for people to swerve to miss a small animal and end up colliding with a tree or another car. In some circumstances, such as if a child jumps in front of your car, it is prudent to turn while you apply your brakes. You should practice this in a safe environment so you'll get an idea of how the vehicle will react. Here are some different ways to brake your car:
Brake-turning. Turning the wheel into the corner while still lightly on the brakes. This causes the car to lean forward, pressing the front tires to the ground, giving them more grip for steering. This is a basic technique, and no corner should be made without it.
Trail braking. This is a method of feathering the brakes while turning into the corner and it will provide the best and safest control over the vehicle as it is leaning on the front tires, allowing for more traction to those tires.
An emergency stop. If a need to stop quickly is due, you should not fear using the brakes, even mid-corner: With ABS, depress the pedal all the way down. Without ABS, brake moderately hard (70%) while taking off a bit of steering.
1-3. Avoid using your transmission for quick stops.
The transmission is designed to accelerate the vehicle not slow it down. The design of the load points on the transmission gears are not designed for this. It is not a component of the braking system. If you operate a tractor trailer, it is a different story. They are equipped with air brakes and engine brakes for a reason that is irrelevant for cars. However, it is a good practice to use engine braking for maintaining or decreasing speed on long downhill stretches.
The heat generated is absorbed by the engine and removed efficiently by its coolant, radiator, and fan, which prevents the brakes from overheating so they will be most effective when needed for maximum braking.
1-4. Focus on where you want to go, not what you want to avoid.
It's very difficult to steer away from something that you're looking at directly, and many people have a tendency to focus on what they are worried about colliding with. Instead, concentrate on where you want the car to go (to the side of the object) and pay attention to how the car feels—whether you're at OSP or locking up.
2. Braking and Stopping a Car without ABS
2-1. "Squeeze" the brakes.
If your car does not have ABS, then you shouldn't hit or slam the brakes. Instead, you should squeeze the brake pedal firmly with your foot to stop the car as quickly as possible. You should squeeze the pedal down until right before the tires begin to skid, which will reach the limit of the traction of the tires. If you push down on the pedal too hard, you will lock the brakes and will lose control of your vehicle.
2-2. Brake at the limit before the brakes lock up.
This is called "threshold braking" and will make your car stop as quickly as possible. Listen for a faint howl from the tires, which will tell you that you haven't reached the limit and that you're doing the right thing. If the wheel locks up and you've lost control of the car, then you've gone too far and have to let go and reapply the brakes again.
2-3. Don't look at the object that you are colliding with.
Look to either side of the object and try to aim the car away from it instead of colliding with the object head on. If you're mesmerized by the object that you're about to hit, then you won't be able to focus on threshold braking, which will require your full concentration.
2-4. Press your left foot against the floor.
Pressing your left foot against the rest pad area will help you brace your body against the damage and will make you for sensitive to knowing how you should modulate the brake pedal.
2-5. Practice threshold braking.
It takes time and practice to master this type of braking, and spending some time doing it in an empty parking lot can improve your chances of success if the time ever comes. Also, practicing squeezing the brakes both firmly and lightly in your everyday driving can help you improve your braking skills -- and can save your life when the time comes.
You can measure this by setting up markers as to when to start braking and when you stop the car, and you can visually see the difference between your tires locked up and not.
Extra practice: Purposely lock up your brakes. Now practice reducing pressure on the pedal until it stops locking up, then apply pressure again to the OSP (optimal squeeze point) again. Inevitably, you will go over your OSP, or you will change surfaces while braking, that is why this practice is essential.
Take note: each surface and speed will have different OSPs. This is why you should practice while it is dry, then while it is raining, and then when it is snowy, if it's possible.
Tips
If your rear brakes are stronger than your front, stop driving the car. Although a perfectly balanced front/rear bias will stop the car the quickest, all car manufactures engineer with front bias. A bit of front bias is the safest condition. If your rears keep locking up first, then something is wrong. Stop driving the car. It needs to be inspected by some competent in diagnosing and repairing brake systems. The repair may be as simple as using a more aggressive pad compound in the front or less aggressive pad compound in the rear. If your rear brakes lockup, back off the brakes until they are no longer locking. Braking with rear brakes locked will likely result in a spin.
Some times a good cleaning is all they need. The easiest way to clean them is to accelerate to highway speeds (65-70MPH) (in a safe area) and stop very quickly (do not lock up the brakes).
If you experience poor front-to-back balance during a situation where you cannot check/change/clean them: if the front brakes are stronger than the rear, brake normally (while you will stop slower than with balanced brakes, this is still your best option).
Warnings
Just because you are well-acquainted with your brakes doesn't give you an excuse to make it a habit of making sudden stops or tailgating. Always be aware of the road, keeping a safe distance from pedestrians and other cars.
Repeated or extended application of your brakes at high-speed can heat up the brake system and cause glazing, or brake fade.[8]
X
Research source
Brake fade will reduce stopping power. If during the braking practice, you notice increased stopping distances or a spongy brake pedal feel, allow the brakes to cool down before continuing.
If you overstep the OSP you may lose the ability to steer. While braking (as stated above) steering should be kept to a minimum, but losing traction could make the vehicle go in a direction which is not desired. Be sure to be comfortable with the extra practice on step 3
Always drive safely. Be observant of pedestrians and other vehicles.
Never break the law! Obey speed limits, research state and local laws, and be sure to obey all the laws.
Any practicing you do should not be done on public streets! Your own private property is the best.
Practicing panic stops that results in leaving rubber on the pavement may rotate the tire on the rim. This will make the tire unbalanced which will result in a rougher ride. Tire balance will need to be checked after such an exercise.
Don't put an automatic transmission in reverse attempting to slow the car down. There's a chance it will stall the engine and you will lose power steering and braking.
Panic stops may cause rotors on disk brakes to pulsate and vibrate the steering wheel under braking. This is commonly inaccurately described as "warping" the rotors. Even on race cars, the rotors don't warp. What causes this is the brakes being overheated. When the pads become overheated, they leave residue on the rotor. Typically, this happens after a panic stop or at a stop light when the brakes remain depressed. They are not allowed to cool naturally. Pad material is transferred to the rotor at the location it is being held tightly. This uneven buildup of material will be noticed whenever the brakes are applied again.
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Don't brake and swerve the car at the same time.\\nGentle turning while braking can help you avoid a collision. However, don't ever swerve or jerk the steering wheel, as this can cause the vehicle to go out of control. It is not uncommon for people to swerve to miss a small animal and end up colliding with a tree or another car. In some circumstances, such as if a child jumps in front of your car, it is prudent to turn while you apply your brakes. You should practice this in a safe environment so you'll get an idea of how the vehicle will react. Here are some different ways to brake your car:\\n\\nBrake-turning. Turning the wheel into the corner while still lightly on the brakes. This causes the car to lean forward, pressing the front tires to the ground, giving them more grip for steering. This is a basic technique, and no corner should be made without it.\\nTrail braking. This is a method of feathering the brakes while turning into the corner and it will provide the best and safest control over the vehicle as it is leaning on the front tires, allowing for more traction to those tires.\\nAn emergency stop. If a need to stop quickly is due, you should not fear using the brakes, even mid-corner: With ABS, depress the pedal all the way down. Without ABS, brake moderately hard (70%) while taking off a bit of steering.\\n1-3. Avoid using your transmission for quick stops.\\nThe transmission is designed to accelerate the vehicle not slow it down. The design of the load points on the transmission gears are not designed for this. It is not a component of the braking system. If you operate a tractor trailer, it is a different story. They are equipped with air brakes and engine brakes for a reason that is irrelevant for cars. However, it is a good practice to use engine braking for maintaining or decreasing speed on long downhill stretches.\\nThe heat generated is absorbed by the engine and removed efficiently by its coolant, radiator, and fan, which prevents the brakes from overheating so they will be most effective when needed for maximum braking.\\n1-4. Focus on where you want to go, not what you want to avoid.\\nIt's very difficult to steer away from something that you're looking at directly, and many people have a tendency to focus on what they are worried about colliding with. Instead, concentrate on where you want the car to go (to the side of the object) and pay attention to how the car feels—whether you're at OSP or locking up.\\n2. Braking and Stopping a Car without ABS\\n2-1. \\\"Squeeze\\\" the brakes.\\nIf your car does not have ABS, then you shouldn't hit or slam the brakes. Instead, you should squeeze the brake pedal firmly with your foot to stop the car as quickly as possible. You should squeeze the pedal down until right before the tires begin to skid, which will reach the limit of the traction of the tires. If you push down on the pedal too hard, you will lock the brakes and will lose control of your vehicle.\\n2-2. Brake at the limit before the brakes lock up.\\nThis is called \\\"threshold braking\\\" and will make your car stop as quickly as possible. Listen for a faint howl from the tires, which will tell you that you haven't reached the limit and that you're doing the right thing. If the wheel locks up and you've lost control of the car, then you've gone too far and have to let go and reapply the brakes again.\\n2-3. Don't look at the object that you are colliding with.\\nLook to either side of the object and try to aim the car away from it instead of colliding with the object head on. If you're mesmerized by the object that you're about to hit, then you won't be able to focus on threshold braking, which will require your full concentration.\\n2-4. Press your left foot against the floor.\\nPressing your left foot against the rest pad area will help you brace your body against the damage and will make you for sensitive to knowing how you should modulate the brake pedal.\\n2-5. Practice threshold braking.\\nIt takes time and practice to master this type of braking, and spending some time doing it in an empty parking lot can improve your chances of success if the time ever comes. Also, practicing squeezing the brakes both firmly and lightly in your everyday driving can help you improve your braking skills -- and can save your life when the time comes.\\nYou can measure this by setting up markers as to when to start braking and when you stop the car, and you can visually see the difference between your tires locked up and not.\\nExtra practice: Purposely lock up your brakes. Now practice reducing pressure on the pedal until it stops locking up, then apply pressure again to the OSP (optimal squeeze point) again. Inevitably, you will go over your OSP, or you will change surfaces while braking, that is why this practice is essential.\\nTake note: each surface and speed will have different OSPs. This is why you should practice while it is dry, then while it is raining, and then when it is snowy, if it's possible.\\nTips\\nIf your rear brakes are stronger than your front, stop driving the car. Although a perfectly balanced front/rear bias will stop the car the quickest, all car manufactures engineer with front bias. A bit of front bias is the safest condition. If your rears keep locking up first, then something is wrong. Stop driving the car. It needs to be inspected by some competent in diagnosing and repairing brake systems. The repair may be as simple as using a more aggressive pad compound in the front or less aggressive pad compound in the rear. If your rear brakes lockup, back off the brakes until they are no longer locking. Braking with rear brakes locked will likely result in a spin.\\nSome times a good cleaning is all they need. The easiest way to clean them is to accelerate to highway speeds (65-70MPH) (in a safe area) and stop very quickly (do not lock up the brakes).\\nIf you experience poor front-to-back balance during a situation where you cannot check/change/clean them: if the front brakes are stronger than the rear, brake normally (while you will stop slower than with balanced brakes, this is still your best option).\\nWarnings\\nJust because you are well-acquainted with your brakes doesn't give you an excuse to make it a habit of making sudden stops or tailgating. Always be aware of the road, keeping a safe distance from pedestrians and other cars.\\nRepeated or extended application of your brakes at high-speed can heat up the brake system and cause glazing, or brake fade.[8]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\\n\\n\\n Brake fade will reduce stopping power. If during the braking practice, you notice increased stopping distances or a spongy brake pedal feel, allow the brakes to cool down before continuing.\\nIf you overstep the OSP you may lose the ability to steer. While braking (as stated above) steering should be kept to a minimum, but losing traction could make the vehicle go in a direction which is not desired. Be sure to be comfortable with the extra practice on step 3\\nAlways drive safely. Be observant of pedestrians and other vehicles.\\nNever break the law! Obey speed limits, research state and local laws, and be sure to obey all the laws.\\nAny practicing you do should not be done on public streets! Your own private property is the best.\\nPracticing panic stops that results in leaving rubber on the pavement may rotate the tire on the rim. This will make the tire unbalanced which will result in a rougher ride. Tire balance will need to be checked after such an exercise.\\nDon't put an automatic transmission in reverse attempting to slow the car down. There's a chance it will stall the engine and you will lose power steering and braking.\\nPanic stops may cause rotors on disk brakes to pulsate and vibrate the steering wheel under braking. This is commonly inaccurately described as \\\"warping\\\" the rotors. Even on race cars, the rotors don't warp. What causes this is the brakes being overheated. When the pads become overheated, they leave residue on the rotor. Typically, this happens after a panic stop or at a stop light when the brakes remain depressed. They are not allowed to cool naturally. Pad material is transferred to the rotor at the location it is being held tightly. This uneven buildup of material will be noticed whenever the brakes are applied again.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Braking is a lost skill. With so many cars having anti-lock brakes (ABS), many people just slam on the brakes without making any other necessary adjustments. If you want to know how to brake and stop your car in the shortest distance while maintaining control of your vehicle, just follow these steps.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Braking and Stopping a Car with ABS\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Press down the brake firmly and smoothly.\", \"描述\": \"If you push your foot down on the pedal in a car with ABS, you will feel the brake pulsating under your foot, sometimes violently. Don't be afraid of this or let go -- that just means the brakes are doing their job. Depress your brake pedal rapidly, but not instantly. This is essential to maximize the braking potential of your car. The goal is to bring the vehicle's tires just shy of breaking traction. It is important, though, to avoid \\\"squeezing\\\" down on the brakes if your car has ABS.\\nThe key is to apply the brakes quickly and deeply, while applying pressure with the left foot against the footrest to stabilize the body.\\nAs the car's speed is being scrubbed off, you can progressively and gently ease off the brakes to keep them at the point of maximal efficiency.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't brake and swerve the car at the same time.\", \"描述\": \"Gentle turning while braking can help you avoid a collision. However, don't ever swerve or jerk the steering wheel, as this can cause the vehicle to go out of control. It is not uncommon for people to swerve to miss a small animal and end up colliding with a tree or another car. In some circumstances, such as if a child jumps in front of your car, it is prudent to turn while you apply your brakes. You should practice this in a safe environment so you'll get an idea of how the vehicle will react. 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How to Brake on Ice
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1. Avoiding an Emergency Braking Situation
1-1. Keep a safe distance from other cars.
While tailgating is always a bad practice, it’s especially dangerous in icy conditions. Stay at least 8 seconds behind the vehicle ahead of you. If you’re not used to winter driving, stay 10 seconds behind.
To measure your following distance, pick a fixed point ahead of the vehicle you’re following. Street signs work best for this. Keep an eye on the car ahead, and start counting once its nose crosses the fixed point you chose. Count until the nose of your car crosses this same point. If you’re in the 8-10 range, you’ll know you’re maintaining a safe distance.
Not all icy conditions need the same stopping distance. At 0° Fahrenheit (-18° Celsius), you need twice as much stopping distance as you would at 32° Fahrenheit (0° Celsius).
1-2. Purchase the right tires.
If you’re in an area that sees a lot of snow and ice, having winter tires on your vehicle will make driving less dangerous. They’re specifically designed to help your car maintain traction in winter conditions; the grooves are typically deeper and angled diagonally.
If you live in a warmer climate, but you’re concerned about icy roads, you should at least get all-season tires.
1-3. Slow down.
You could have the best winter tires on the market, but you still need to use caution. If you’re driving on icy roads, you shouldn’t go any faster than 45 mph (72 kmh), even on the highway. Driving more slowly gives you more time to react, giving you more distance to immobilize your vehicle.
2. Using ABS Brakes
2-1. Confirm that your car has ABS brakes.
You can usually do this by checking your car’s specifications, whether on the internet or with a dealer. The more recent your vehicle, the more likely it is to have ABS brakes. If you’re really unsure, you can always check with a mechanic the next time you get your car serviced.
2-2. Keep a firm grip on your steering wheel.
Because ABS brakes do most of the work preventing your wheels from locking, they make it easier for you to steer when you need to brake on ice. Rather than keeping your hands fixed at the 10 and 2 positions, you should shuffle your hands so they always stay on their side of the steering wheel. This means that, even if you need to turn the steering wheel harshly, your arms never cross, giving you more control.
This is very similar to the grip many race car drivers use.
2-3. Brake as soon as possible.
While they do a great job of preventing your wheels from locking, ABS brakes don’t work as well on ice and snow as they do on pavement. As such, it’s important to react quickly, then let the system work. It’s crucial to stay alert and always keep your eyes on the road.
2-4. Push firmly on the brakes.
With ABS brakes, you don’t have to worry about pumping the brakes or applying steady pressure. Just push the brake pedal hard. You might feel the pedal shudder and push back against your foot slightly. This is normal; the ABS is kicking in, relieving some of the pressure from the wheels to prevent them from locking. Don’t remove your foot or pump the brakes, let the system work.
2-5. Steer carefully to avoid obstacles.
Sometimes braking isn’t enough, and you might need to steer away from a possible collision. If you need to steer, make smooth, precise movements. Jerking the steering wheel can cause your car to skid and slide. The wheels will lose their traction and you’ll lose control of your vehicle.
3. Using Threshold Braking
3-1. Check if your car has an anti-lock braking system (ABS).
Threshold braking is used with vehicles that don’t have ABS. This system prevents the wheels from locking in an emergency braking situation, so you might end up locking your wheels if your car doesn’t have ABS. This can make the car slide or skid.
Using threshold or squeeze braking allows the car to slow down as much as possible without the wheels locking.
Check your owner’s manual or ask your mechanic if your car has ABS.
While most modern vehicles have ABS, older cars don’t.
3-2. Stay calm.
While this is difficult to do in an emergency situation, panicking is a sure fire way to lose control of your vehicle. It’s important to keep your cool if you need to brake on ice.
If you’re worried about how you’ll react in an emergency situation, you can try your hand at driving on ice at certain driving schools.
3-3. Keep your heel on the floor as you push the brake pedal.
Keeping your heel to the floor lets you use the muscles in your foot to push the brakes rather than the muscles in your leg. This gives you more control.
Avoid slamming the brakes. This will cause the wheels to lock and your car is likely to lose traction and start skidding.
3-4. Push steadily with your foot.
This is the key to threshold braking. Apply firm, steady pressure to the brake pedal. Your car should slowly start decelerating as you push the brakes. Keep the pressure even, and stop just short of causing your wheels to lock.
You’ll feel feedback in the brake pedal, a certain threshold as you brake. This is when you can get the most deceleration out of your brakes; if you go past this your wheels will lock and you’ll lose traction.
3-5. Slowly stop braking if you feel the car start to skid.
If you pass the threshold, your wheels may lock and the car may start to skid. To stop the skid, you’ll want to relieve just a bit of pressure from the brakes by curling your toes up. Once you feel the car starting to gain traction, you can smoothly apply pressure to the brakes until you reach the threshold.
If your car has front wheel drive, it will usually go into a front skid, with the car’s nose skidding away from the direction you want to go. With rear wheel drive vehicles, the back of the car will start skidding first.
3-6. Steer in the direction you want to go.
If your car skids and you’re not able to correct it with application of the brakes, you’ll need to steer very carefully. Remain calm, as jerking the wheel will just make the situation work. Whether you’re in a front or rear skid, just steer the car towards the direction you want to go with small, controlled movement of the steering wheel.
Tips
The best way to avoid an emergency braking situation on ice is to drive extra carefully.
If you regularly have to drive in snow and ice, it’s best to equip your vehicle with winter tires.
Warnings
Don’t hit the brakes if your car starts sliding or fishtailing. It will make you more likely to lose control.
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Purchase the right tires.\\nIf you’re in an area that sees a lot of snow and ice, having winter tires on your vehicle will make driving less dangerous. They’re specifically designed to help your car maintain traction in winter conditions; the grooves are typically deeper and angled diagonally.\\nIf you live in a warmer climate, but you’re concerned about icy roads, you should at least get all-season tires.\\n1-3. Slow down.\\nYou could have the best winter tires on the market, but you still need to use caution. If you’re driving on icy roads, you shouldn’t go any faster than 45 mph (72 kmh), even on the highway. Driving more slowly gives you more time to react, giving you more distance to immobilize your vehicle.\\n2. Using ABS Brakes\\n2-1. Confirm that your car has ABS brakes.\\nYou can usually do this by checking your car’s specifications, whether on the internet or with a dealer. The more recent your vehicle, the more likely it is to have ABS brakes. If you’re really unsure, you can always check with a mechanic the next time you get your car serviced.\\n2-2. Keep a firm grip on your steering wheel.\\nBecause ABS brakes do most of the work preventing your wheels from locking, they make it easier for you to steer when you need to brake on ice. Rather than keeping your hands fixed at the 10 and 2 positions, you should shuffle your hands so they always stay on their side of the steering wheel. This means that, even if you need to turn the steering wheel harshly, your arms never cross, giving you more control.\\nThis is very similar to the grip many race car drivers use.\\n2-3. Brake as soon as possible.\\nWhile they do a great job of preventing your wheels from locking, ABS brakes don’t work as well on ice and snow as they do on pavement. As such, it’s important to react quickly, then let the system work. It’s crucial to stay alert and always keep your eyes on the road.\\n2-4. Push firmly on the brakes.\\nWith ABS brakes, you don’t have to worry about pumping the brakes or applying steady pressure. Just push the brake pedal hard. You might feel the pedal shudder and push back against your foot slightly. This is normal; the ABS is kicking in, relieving some of the pressure from the wheels to prevent them from locking. Don’t remove your foot or pump the brakes, let the system work.\\n2-5. Steer carefully to avoid obstacles.\\nSometimes braking isn’t enough, and you might need to steer away from a possible collision. If you need to steer, make smooth, precise movements. Jerking the steering wheel can cause your car to skid and slide. The wheels will lose their traction and you’ll lose control of your vehicle.\\n3. Using Threshold Braking\\n3-1. Check if your car has an anti-lock braking system (ABS).\\nThreshold braking is used with vehicles that don’t have ABS. This system prevents the wheels from locking in an emergency braking situation, so you might end up locking your wheels if your car doesn’t have ABS. This can make the car slide or skid.\\nUsing threshold or squeeze braking allows the car to slow down as much as possible without the wheels locking.\\nCheck your owner’s manual or ask your mechanic if your car has ABS.\\nWhile most modern vehicles have ABS, older cars don’t.\\n3-2. Stay calm.\\nWhile this is difficult to do in an emergency situation, panicking is a sure fire way to lose control of your vehicle. It’s important to keep your cool if you need to brake on ice.\\nIf you’re worried about how you’ll react in an emergency situation, you can try your hand at driving on ice at certain driving schools.\\n3-3. Keep your heel on the floor as you push the brake pedal.\\nKeeping your heel to the floor lets you use the muscles in your foot to push the brakes rather than the muscles in your leg. This gives you more control.\\nAvoid slamming the brakes. This will cause the wheels to lock and your car is likely to lose traction and start skidding.\\n3-4. Push steadily with your foot.\\nThis is the key to threshold braking. Apply firm, steady pressure to the brake pedal. Your car should slowly start decelerating as you push the brakes. Keep the pressure even, and stop just short of causing your wheels to lock.\\nYou’ll feel feedback in the brake pedal, a certain threshold as you brake. This is when you can get the most deceleration out of your brakes; if you go past this your wheels will lock and you’ll lose traction.\\n3-5. Slowly stop braking if you feel the car start to skid.\\nIf you pass the threshold, your wheels may lock and the car may start to skid. To stop the skid, you’ll want to relieve just a bit of pressure from the brakes by curling your toes up. Once you feel the car starting to gain traction, you can smoothly apply pressure to the brakes until you reach the threshold.\\nIf your car has front wheel drive, it will usually go into a front skid, with the car’s nose skidding away from the direction you want to go. With rear wheel drive vehicles, the back of the car will start skidding first.\\n3-6. Steer in the direction you want to go.\\nIf your car skids and you’re not able to correct it with application of the brakes, you’ll need to steer very carefully. Remain calm, as jerking the wheel will just make the situation work. Whether you’re in a front or rear skid, just steer the car towards the direction you want to go with small, controlled movement of the steering wheel.\\nTips\\nThe best way to avoid an emergency braking situation on ice is to drive extra carefully.\\nIf you regularly have to drive in snow and ice, it’s best to equip your vehicle with winter tires.\\nWarnings\\nDon’t hit the brakes if your car starts sliding or fishtailing. It will make you more likely to lose control.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Winter driving requires extra patience and attention, especially for the uninitiated. Snowfall and ice can limit visibility and make for dangerous driving conditions. It’s much harder for tires to grip ice than pavement, especially if they don’t have the deep grooves of winter tires. If you’re not used to driving in these conditions, it’s best to avoid driving altogether. If you can’t avoid driving on icy roads, it’s important to know whether your car has an anti-lock braking system or not. 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At 0° Fahrenheit (-18° Celsius), you need twice as much stopping distance as you would at 32° Fahrenheit (0° Celsius).\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Purchase the right tires.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re in an area that sees a lot of snow and ice, having winter tires on your vehicle will make driving less dangerous. They’re specifically designed to help your car maintain traction in winter conditions; the grooves are typically deeper and angled diagonally.\\nIf you live in a warmer climate, but you’re concerned about icy roads, you should at least get all-season tires.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Slow down.\", \"描述\": \"You could have the best winter tires on the market, but you still need to use caution. If you’re driving on icy roads, you shouldn’t go any faster than 45 mph (72 kmh), even on the highway. Driving more slowly gives you more time to react, giving you more distance to immobilize your vehicle.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Using ABS Brakes\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Confirm that your car has ABS brakes.\", \"描述\": \"You can usually do this by checking your car’s specifications, whether on the internet or with a dealer. The more recent your vehicle, the more likely it is to have ABS brakes. If you’re really unsure, you can always check with a mechanic the next time you get your car serviced.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep a firm grip on your steering wheel.\", \"描述\": \"Because ABS brakes do most of the work preventing your wheels from locking, they make it easier for you to steer when you need to brake on ice. Rather than keeping your hands fixed at the 10 and 2 positions, you should shuffle your hands so they always stay on their side of the steering wheel. This means that, even if you need to turn the steering wheel harshly, your arms never cross, giving you more control.\\nThis is very similar to the grip many race car drivers use.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Brake as soon as possible.\", \"描述\": \"While they do a great job of preventing your wheels from locking, ABS brakes don’t work as well on ice and snow as they do on pavement. As such, it’s important to react quickly, then let the system work. It’s crucial to stay alert and always keep your eyes on the road.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Push firmly on the brakes.\", \"描述\": \"With ABS brakes, you don’t have to worry about pumping the brakes or applying steady pressure. Just push the brake pedal hard. You might feel the pedal shudder and push back against your foot slightly. This is normal; the ABS is kicking in, relieving some of the pressure from the wheels to prevent them from locking. 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This can make the car slide or skid.\\nUsing threshold or squeeze braking allows the car to slow down as much as possible without the wheels locking.\\nCheck your owner’s manual or ask your mechanic if your car has ABS.\\nWhile most modern vehicles have ABS, older cars don’t.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Stay calm.\", \"描述\": \"While this is difficult to do in an emergency situation, panicking is a sure fire way to lose control of your vehicle. It’s important to keep your cool if you need to brake on ice.\\nIf you’re worried about how you’ll react in an emergency situation, you can try your hand at driving on ice at certain driving schools.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keep your heel on the floor as you push the brake pedal.\", \"描述\": \"Keeping your heel to the floor lets you use the muscles in your foot to push the brakes rather than the muscles in your leg. This gives you more control.\\nAvoid slamming the brakes. 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1. Steps
1-1. Wear non-flammable clothing, gloves, and safety goggles before you begin the brazing process.
1-2. Clean all dirt, oil, paint, or other residue from the area to be repaired by aluminum brazing.
Use a degreasing solvent to get rid of oil and grease. Depending on the size of the repaired area, you may need to sandblast the area or use an emery cloth, grinding wheel, or file.
1-3. Clamp or support the piece to be brazed.
1-4. Use a brush to apply the flux appropriate to the temperatures and the metal.
An all-purpose flux covers a wide range of temperatures and is beneficial to have on hand for general purpose brazing. Add flux by dipping the filler rod into the flux. You may also use flux-coated rods to eliminate this step. The flux-coated rods apply the flux during the aluminum brazing process.
1-5. Heat the repaired area with a propane or acetylene torch until the aluminum shows an orange bloom.
This happens when the metal gets very hot. Once you apply a flux, it should change colors or turn clear throughout.
1-6. Apply the filler metal by running a brazing rod along the crack or the joint.
The heat of the metal will melt the filler into the area needing the repair. Move the flame of the torch on and off as needed to melt the rod.
1-7. Remove the flux after the filler material has solidified by dipping the part or pouring hot water on the repair.
The flux will flake off. If it does not come off, use a wire brush to gently scrub the brazed area while wet or still in the hot water.
1-8. Polish the area with an emery cloth after the metal has cooled completely.
1-9. Coat the area with a rust-resistant coating if you are not immediately finished with the area.
Tips
Heat the entire piece of material and not just the repair area to avoid warping the aluminum.
Add flux by dipping the filler rod into the flux when brazing aluminum.
If the filler clumps, run the flame of the torch across the brazed area and remelt it and smooth with the rod.
Warnings
Flux becomes difficult to remove if the metal was overheated or if too little was applied.
Corrosion, must be use Fluoride Flux not Chloride Flux
Do not apply heat directly to the joint area. Because brazing works by capillary action, heat must be applied uniformly to a broad area surrounding the joint, allowing braze alloy to become fluid and be drawn into the joint area.
Be careful to have good ventilation wherever you are brazing. Fumes from the brazing process can be harmful.
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Heat the repaired area with a propane or acetylene torch until the aluminum shows an orange bloom.\\nThis happens when the metal gets very hot. Once you apply a flux, it should change colors or turn clear throughout.\\n1-6. Apply the filler metal by running a brazing rod along the crack or the joint.\\nThe heat of the metal will melt the filler into the area needing the repair. Move the flame of the torch on and off as needed to melt the rod.\\n1-7. Remove the flux after the filler material has solidified by dipping the part or pouring hot water on the repair.\\nThe flux will flake off. If it does not come off, use a wire brush to gently scrub the brazed area while wet or still in the hot water.\\n1-8. Polish the area with an emery cloth after the metal has cooled completely.\\n\\n1-9. Coat the area with a rust-resistant coating if you are not immediately finished with the area.\\n\\nTips\\nHeat the entire piece of material and not just the repair area to avoid warping the aluminum.\\nAdd flux by dipping the filler rod into the flux when brazing aluminum.\\nIf the filler clumps, run the flame of the torch across the brazed area and remelt it and smooth with the rod.\\nWarnings\\nFlux becomes difficult to remove if the metal was overheated or if too little was applied.\\nCorrosion, must be use Fluoride Flux not Chloride Flux\\nDo not apply heat directly to the joint area. Because brazing works by capillary action, heat must be applied uniformly to a broad area surrounding the joint, allowing braze alloy to become fluid and be drawn into the joint area.\\nBe careful to have good ventilation wherever you are brazing. Fumes from the brazing process can be harmful.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Knowing how to braze aluminum can be a useful skill for anyone who is faced with a variety of at-home repairs. Brazing aluminum is a quick and inexpensive option for repairing leaks, cracks, or holes in aluminum and is often found in air-conditioning repairs. When compared to welding equipment, aluminum brazing equipment is inexpensive, portable, and does not require high amounts of voltage.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wear non-flammable clothing, gloves, and safety goggles before you begin the brazing process.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Clean all dirt, oil, paint, or other residue from the area to be repaired by aluminum brazing.\", \"描述\": \"Use a degreasing solvent to get rid of oil and grease. 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If it does not come off, use a wire brush to gently scrub the brazed area while wet or still in the hot water.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Polish the area with an emery cloth after the metal has cooled completely.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Coat the area with a rust-resistant coating if you are not immediately finished with the area.\", \"描述\": \"\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Heat the entire piece of material and not just the repair area to avoid warping the aluminum.\\n\", \"Add flux by dipping the filler rod into the flux when brazing aluminum.\\n\", \"If the filler clumps, run the flame of the torch across the brazed area and remelt it and smooth with the rod.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Flux becomes difficult to remove if the metal was overheated or if too little was applied.\\n\", \"Corrosion, must be use Fluoride Flux not Chloride Flux\\n\", \"Do not apply heat directly to the joint area. 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How to Bread Chicken
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1. Making Dredged Chicken Breasts
1-1. Prepare the chicken breasts.
Rinse the chicken breasts first, then cut away any visible fat. Pat them dry with paper towels, then pound them flat with a mallet.
Cover the chicken with plastic wrap before using the mallet, to prevent contamination.
1-2. Place the flour, eggs, and bread crumbs into separate dishes.
Pour the flour onto a rimmed plate or shallow dish. Crack the eggs into a rimmed dish, and beat them with a fork until they turn pale yellow. Finally, pour the bread crumbs onto another plate. Line the three dishes in the following order: flour, eggs, then bread crumbs.
1-3. Pat the chicken breasts into the flour.
Pick up a chicken breast and place it into the flour. Flip it over, and place it into the flour again to coat the back. Lift it out, and shake off any excess flour.
Work on just one chicken breast for now.
1-4. Dip the chicken breast into the beaten egg.
Place the chicken breast into the rimmed dish with the beaten eggs. Flip it over, and dip the other side into the eggs as well. Lift the chicken breast out, and let any excess egg drip back into the bowl.
1-5. Press the chicken breast into the bread crumbs.
Once again, press one side of the chicken breast into the bread crumbs. Flip it over, and press the other side into the bread crumbs.
Handle the chicken by the tip so that you don't remove any of the bread crumbs.
1-6. Repeat the process for the other chicken breasts.
Set them down onto a plate or baking sheet as you finish them. Do not let them touch.
1-7. Bake or fry the chicken according to your recipe.
Most people will fry breaded chicken breasts as cutlets, but it is possible to bake them as well. Remember to thoroughly cook your chicken; unlike beef, chicken must be fully cooked and cannot be eaten rare. You can tell if it's fully cooked by the following:
Stick a meat thermometer into the chicken. It should read 165°F (74°C).
Poke the chicken with a skewer or cut it open. The juices inside should be clear, not pink.
Cut the chicken open. The meat should be white inside, or close to it.
2. Making Shaken Chicken Breasts
2-1. Prepare the chicken breasts.
Rinse the chicken breasts, cut away any excess fat, then pat them dry with a paper towel. Pound them into cutlets or cut them into smaller pieces, depending on your method of cooking and recipe.
2-2. Place the chicken breasts into a re-sealable plastic bag.
Get a large, sturdy, Ziploc bag that's large enough to hold 1 gallon (3.8 liters). The bag must be sturdy, otherwise it may rip during the next few steps.
2-3. Add 2 beaten eggs into the bag.
Crack the eggs into a small cup first, then beat them with a fork until they turn pale yellow. Pour the beaten eggs into the bag right over the chicken breasts.
2-4. Seal and shake the bag.
Zip the bag shut firmly, then shake the bag to coat the chicken. You can also move the chicken breasts around with your fingers, turn the bag upside down, or toss it around. Make sure that the chicken breasts are evenly coated.
2-5. Add the bread crumbs and other seasonings.
Plan on using about 1½ cups (135 grams) of bread crumbs. It is better to use too much and have some left over than not using enough and getting a clumpy mess. If you want fancier breaded chicken, add in some seasonings, such as salt, dried herbs, or grated Parmesan cheese.
2-6. Seal and shake the bag again.
Be careful not to touch the chicken breasts too much during this step, even through the bag. This will prevent the bread crumbs from accidentally rubbing off. Keep shaking the bag until the chicken breasts are evenly coated with bread crumbs. Don't worry if you have some crumbs left in the bottom of the bag.
Discard any left over mixture. Do not reuse it.
2-7. Cook the chicken breasts according to your recipe.
Use a pair of kitchen tongs to pull the chicken breasts out of the bag. You can cook them by frying or baking. Make sure that you could them thoroughly; chicken is not like beef and must be fully cooked.
3. Frying Breaded Chicken Breasts
3-1. Fill a large, cast iron skillet with your desired cooking oil.
Choose a neutral-tasting cooking oil that has a high cooking point. The following oils are great choices: canola, peanut, or vegetable. Fill the skillet with ¼ inch (0.64 centimeter) of your chosen oil.
Don't use extra-virgin olive oil; it'll give the chicken a bitter taste.
Use two skillets at the same time to speed things up.
3-2. Heat the oil over high heat.
You are ready for the next step when the oil is simmering and almost smoking. It should read about 375°F (191°C) on an instant-read thermometer.
3-3. Place the breaded chicken breasts into the oil.
It's best if you do this with a pair of tongs, but you can use your fingers if you are careful. To prevent the oil from splattering onto you, lay the chicken away from you.
3-4. Fry the chicken for about 3 minutes.
Gently swirl the pan to help distribute the oil. If you need to, rotate the cutlets around to help them brown evenly. Keep the oil at a steady bubble, and fry the chicken until it is browned and crispy on the bottom. This will typically take about 3 minutes.
3-5. Flip the chicken and continue frying it for another 3 minutes.
You can do this with a pair of tongs or a spatula. Keep cooking the chicken until it is brown and crispy on both sides, about 3 minutes. The juices should run clear if you stick a skewer into it.
3-6. Drain the chicken on a wire cooling rack.
You can use paper towels, but this will make the chicken soggy. If you want to keep the chicken nice and crispy, set it down onto a wire cooling rack. Slide a foil-lined baking sheet under the rack to catch any drips and protect your counter.
3-7. Serve the chicken.
Tartar sauce, ketchup, and lemon wedges are all popular garnishes, but you can serve the chicken however you like.
Tips
Mix 1 teaspoon of dried basil and ⅔ cups (65 grams) of Parmesan cheese into 1 cup (90 grams) of bread crumbs.[11]
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For a cheesy flavor, try 1 cup (90 grams) of bread crumbs with 1 ounce (30 grams) of grated Parmesan or Parmigiano-Reggiano cheese.[12]
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Try seasoned bread crumbs. You can buy them pre-made from the store, or mix up your own using plain bread crumbs and dried herbs.[13]
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Making Dredged Chicken Breasts\\n1-1. Prepare the chicken breasts.\\nRinse the chicken breasts first, then cut away any visible fat. Pat them dry with paper towels, then pound them flat with a mallet.\\nCover the chicken with plastic wrap before using the mallet, to prevent contamination.\\n1-2. Place the flour, eggs, and bread crumbs into separate dishes.\\nPour the flour onto a rimmed plate or shallow dish. Crack the eggs into a rimmed dish, and beat them with a fork until they turn pale yellow. Finally, pour the bread crumbs onto another plate. Line the three dishes in the following order: flour, eggs, then bread crumbs.\\n1-3. Pat the chicken breasts into the flour.\\nPick up a chicken breast and place it into the flour. Flip it over, and place it into the flour again to coat the back. Lift it out, and shake off any excess flour.\\nWork on just one chicken breast for now.\\n1-4. Dip the chicken breast into the beaten egg.\\nPlace the chicken breast into the rimmed dish with the beaten eggs. Flip it over, and dip the other side into the eggs as well. Lift the chicken breast out, and let any excess egg drip back into the bowl.\\n1-5. Press the chicken breast into the bread crumbs.\\nOnce again, press one side of the chicken breast into the bread crumbs. Flip it over, and press the other side into the bread crumbs.\\nHandle the chicken by the tip so that you don't remove any of the bread crumbs.\\n1-6. Repeat the process for the other chicken breasts.\\nSet them down onto a plate or baking sheet as you finish them. Do not let them touch.\\n1-7. Bake or fry the chicken according to your recipe.\\nMost people will fry breaded chicken breasts as cutlets, but it is possible to bake them as well. Remember to thoroughly cook your chicken; unlike beef, chicken must be fully cooked and cannot be eaten rare. You can tell if it's fully cooked by the following:\\nStick a meat thermometer into the chicken. It should read 165°F (74°C).\\nPoke the chicken with a skewer or cut it open. The juices inside should be clear, not pink.\\nCut the chicken open. The meat should be white inside, or close to it.\\n2. Making Shaken Chicken Breasts\\n2-1. Prepare the chicken breasts.\\nRinse the chicken breasts, cut away any excess fat, then pat them dry with a paper towel. Pound them into cutlets or cut them into smaller pieces, depending on your method of cooking and recipe.\\n2-2. Place the chicken breasts into a re-sealable plastic bag.\\nGet a large, sturdy, Ziploc bag that's large enough to hold 1 gallon (3.8 liters). The bag must be sturdy, otherwise it may rip during the next few steps.\\n2-3. Add 2 beaten eggs into the bag.\\nCrack the eggs into a small cup first, then beat them with a fork until they turn pale yellow. Pour the beaten eggs into the bag right over the chicken breasts.\\n2-4. Seal and shake the bag.\\nZip the bag shut firmly, then shake the bag to coat the chicken. You can also move the chicken breasts around with your fingers, turn the bag upside down, or toss it around. Make sure that the chicken breasts are evenly coated.\\n2-5. Add the bread crumbs and other seasonings.\\nPlan on using about 1½ cups (135 grams) of bread crumbs. It is better to use too much and have some left over than not using enough and getting a clumpy mess. If you want fancier breaded chicken, add in some seasonings, such as salt, dried herbs, or grated Parmesan cheese.\\n2-6. Seal and shake the bag again.\\nBe careful not to touch the chicken breasts too much during this step, even through the bag. This will prevent the bread crumbs from accidentally rubbing off. Keep shaking the bag until the chicken breasts are evenly coated with bread crumbs. Don't worry if you have some crumbs left in the bottom of the bag.\\nDiscard any left over mixture. Do not reuse it.\\n2-7. Cook the chicken breasts according to your recipe.\\nUse a pair of kitchen tongs to pull the chicken breasts out of the bag. You can cook them by frying or baking. Make sure that you could them thoroughly; chicken is not like beef and must be fully cooked.\\n3. Frying Breaded Chicken Breasts\\n3-1. Fill a large, cast iron skillet with your desired cooking oil.\\nChoose a neutral-tasting cooking oil that has a high cooking point. The following oils are great choices: canola, peanut, or vegetable. Fill the skillet with ¼ inch (0.64 centimeter) of your chosen oil.\\nDon't use extra-virgin olive oil; it'll give the chicken a bitter taste.\\nUse two skillets at the same time to speed things up.\\n3-2. Heat the oil over high heat.\\nYou are ready for the next step when the oil is simmering and almost smoking. It should read about 375°F (191°C) on an instant-read thermometer.\\n3-3. Place the breaded chicken breasts into the oil.\\nIt's best if you do this with a pair of tongs, but you can use your fingers if you are careful. To prevent the oil from splattering onto you, lay the chicken away from you.\\n3-4. Fry the chicken for about 3 minutes.\\nGently swirl the pan to help distribute the oil. If you need to, rotate the cutlets around to help them brown evenly. Keep the oil at a steady bubble, and fry the chicken until it is browned and crispy on the bottom. This will typically take about 3 minutes.\\n3-5. Flip the chicken and continue frying it for another 3 minutes.\\nYou can do this with a pair of tongs or a spatula. Keep cooking the chicken until it is brown and crispy on both sides, about 3 minutes. The juices should run clear if you stick a skewer into it.\\n3-6. Drain the chicken on a wire cooling rack.\\nYou can use paper towels, but this will make the chicken soggy. If you want to keep the chicken nice and crispy, set it down onto a wire cooling rack. Slide a foil-lined baking sheet under the rack to catch any drips and protect your counter.\\n3-7. Serve the chicken.\\nTartar sauce, ketchup, and lemon wedges are all popular garnishes, but you can serve the chicken however you like.\\nTips\\nMix 1 teaspoon of dried basil and ⅔ cups (65 grams) of Parmesan cheese into 1 cup (90 grams) of bread crumbs.[11]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nFor a cheesy flavor, try 1 cup (90 grams) of bread crumbs with 1 ounce (30 grams) of grated Parmesan or Parmigiano-Reggiano cheese.[12]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nTry seasoned bread crumbs. You can buy them pre-made from the store, or mix up your own using plain bread crumbs and dried herbs.[13]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Breaded chicken has a crisp outer layer and a moist interior. It is easy to make, and it tastes absolutely delicious. The most popular way of breading chicken is by dipping it into flour, beaten eggs, and bread crumbs, but you can shake it in a bag as well. Whichever method you choose, you are bound to end up with something truly scrumptious!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Making Dredged Chicken Breasts\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Prepare the chicken breasts.\", \"描述\": \"Rinse the chicken breasts first, then cut away any visible fat. Pat them dry with paper towels, then pound them flat with a mallet.\\nCover the chicken with plastic wrap before using the mallet, to prevent contamination.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Place the flour, eggs, and bread crumbs into separate dishes.\", \"描述\": \"Pour the flour onto a rimmed plate or shallow dish. Crack the eggs into a rimmed dish, and beat them with a fork until they turn pale yellow. Finally, pour the bread crumbs onto another plate. Line the three dishes in the following order: flour, eggs, then bread crumbs.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pat the chicken breasts into the flour.\", \"描述\": \"Pick up a chicken breast and place it into the flour. Flip it over, and place it into the flour again to coat the back. Lift it out, and shake off any excess flour.\\nWork on just one chicken breast for now.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Dip the chicken breast into the beaten egg.\", \"描述\": \"Place the chicken breast into the rimmed dish with the beaten eggs. Flip it over, and dip the other side into the eggs as well. Lift the chicken breast out, and let any excess egg drip back into the bowl.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Press the chicken breast into the bread crumbs.\", \"描述\": \"Once again, press one side of the chicken breast into the bread crumbs. Flip it over, and press the other side into the bread crumbs.\\nHandle the chicken by the tip so that you don't remove any of the bread crumbs.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Repeat the process for the other chicken breasts.\", \"描述\": \"Set them down onto a plate or baking sheet as you finish them. Do not let them touch.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Bake or fry the chicken according to your recipe.\", \"描述\": \"Most people will fry breaded chicken breasts as cutlets, but it is possible to bake them as well. Remember to thoroughly cook your chicken; unlike beef, chicken must be fully cooked and cannot be eaten rare. You can tell if it's fully cooked by the following:\\nStick a meat thermometer into the chicken. It should read 165°F (74°C).\\nPoke the chicken with a skewer or cut it open. The juices inside should be clear, not pink.\\nCut the chicken open. The meat should be white inside, or close to it.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Making Shaken Chicken Breasts\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Prepare the chicken breasts.\", \"描述\": \"Rinse the chicken breasts, cut away any excess fat, then pat them dry with a paper towel. Pound them into cutlets or cut them into smaller pieces, depending on your method of cooking and recipe.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Place the chicken breasts into a re-sealable plastic bag.\", \"描述\": \"Get a large, sturdy, Ziploc bag that's large enough to hold 1 gallon (3.8 liters). The bag must be sturdy, otherwise it may rip during the next few steps.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Add 2 beaten eggs into the bag.\", \"描述\": \"Crack the eggs into a small cup first, then beat them with a fork until they turn pale yellow. Pour the beaten eggs into the bag right over the chicken breasts.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Seal and shake the bag.\", \"描述\": \"Zip the bag shut firmly, then shake the bag to coat the chicken. You can also move the chicken breasts around with your fingers, turn the bag upside down, or toss it around. Make sure that the chicken breasts are evenly coated.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Add the bread crumbs and other seasonings.\", \"描述\": \"Plan on using about 1½ cups (135 grams) of bread crumbs. It is better to use too much and have some left over than not using enough and getting a clumpy mess. If you want fancier breaded chicken, add in some seasonings, such as salt, dried herbs, or grated Parmesan cheese.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Seal and shake the bag again.\", \"描述\": \"Be careful not to touch the chicken breasts too much during this step, even through the bag. This will prevent the bread crumbs from accidentally rubbing off. Keep shaking the bag until the chicken breasts are evenly coated with bread crumbs. Don't worry if you have some crumbs left in the bottom of the bag.\\nDiscard any left over mixture. Do not reuse it.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Cook the chicken breasts according to your recipe.\", \"描述\": \"Use a pair of kitchen tongs to pull the chicken breasts out of the bag. You can cook them by frying or baking. Make sure that you could them thoroughly; chicken is not like beef and must be fully cooked.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Frying Breaded Chicken Breasts\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Fill a large, cast iron skillet with your desired cooking oil.\", \"描述\": \"Choose a neutral-tasting cooking oil that has a high cooking point. The following oils are great choices: canola, peanut, or vegetable. Fill the skillet with ¼ inch (0.64 centimeter) of your chosen oil.\\nDon't use extra-virgin olive oil; it'll give the chicken a bitter taste.\\nUse two skillets at the same time to speed things up.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Heat the oil over high heat.\", \"描述\": \"You are ready for the next step when the oil is simmering and almost smoking. It should read about 375°F (191°C) on an instant-read thermometer.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Place the breaded chicken breasts into the oil.\", \"描述\": \"It's best if you do this with a pair of tongs, but you can use your fingers if you are careful. To prevent the oil from splattering onto you, lay the chicken away from you.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Fry the chicken for about 3 minutes.\", \"描述\": \"Gently swirl the pan to help distribute the oil. If you need to, rotate the cutlets around to help them brown evenly. Keep the oil at a steady bubble, and fry the chicken until it is browned and crispy on the bottom. This will typically take about 3 minutes.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Flip the chicken and continue frying it for another 3 minutes.\", \"描述\": \"You can do this with a pair of tongs or a spatula. Keep cooking the chicken until it is brown and crispy on both sides, about 3 minutes. The juices should run clear if you stick a skewer into it.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Drain the chicken on a wire cooling rack.\", \"描述\": \"You can use paper towels, but this will make the chicken soggy. If you want to keep the chicken nice and crispy, set it down onto a wire cooling rack. Slide a foil-lined baking sheet under the rack to catch any drips and protect your counter.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Serve the chicken.\", \"描述\": \"Tartar sauce, ketchup, and lemon wedges are all popular garnishes, but you can serve the chicken however you like.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Mix 1 teaspoon of dried basil and ⅔ cups (65 grams) of Parmesan cheese into 1 cup (90 grams) of bread crumbs.[11]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"For a cheesy flavor, try 1 cup (90 grams) of bread crumbs with 1 ounce (30 grams) of grated Parmesan or Parmigiano-Reggiano cheese.[12]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"Try seasoned bread crumbs. You can buy them pre-made from the store, or mix up your own using plain bread crumbs and dried herbs.[13]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Bread Fish
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1. The Basics
1-1. Prepare your ingredients.
A basic breading involves fish, flour, egg, and coating. If you're using frozen fish, defrost it thoroughly. It's also good to rinse the fish in cold, clean water to remove any scale-bits or other stuff that might be stuck to it. If you're using crackers or need to make your own bread-crumbs, take some time to crunch them up as thoroughly as possible. The smaller the crumb, the better the crust will be eventually. Beat 1-2 eggs into a bowl with a small amount of milk or water to smoothen out the mixture. For a basic breaded fish, prepare the following ingredients:
Fish fillets of your choice. A white fish like tilapia or cod is usually better for breading.
Flour
Bread crumbs or cracker crumbs, seasoned
1-2 eggs, beaten
Milk or water
1-2. Pour ingredients into separate bowls.
Pour cracker crumbs or other breading into one bowl, your flour into another bowl, and the beaten egg into yet another. It's usually helpful to have them in the order they'll be used. To one side of your skillet, line up the flour, then the egg, then the coating, which should be closest to the skillet.
Take a minute to season your coating, if it isn't seasoned already. A pinch or two of salt and pepper are good additions, as well as cayenne pepper, seasoned salt, dill, or Old Bay seasoning. Use the kind of flavors you like and season the coating to your taste. Alternatively, you can season the flour.
1-3. Coat the fish in the flour.
Take your fish fillets and dredge them in the flour thoroughly, using your hand to work flour into the nooks and crannies. This step is important to filling in the gaps in the cracker crust, working with the breading to form a nice and even coating.
1-4. Dip the dredged fish in the egg mixture, then coat it with the breading.
Don't drop it in to the egg mixture and soak it. Instead, dip it quickly and take it as cleanly and quickly as you can to the next "station" with the coating in it. Dip the fish into your seasoned coating and use your other hand to spread the coating over the fish evenly.
1-5. Place coated fish into a frying pan.
To fry your breaded fish, heat a half-inch or so of cooking oil on medium-high heat and fry the fish in it, turning once, about 3-5 minutes on each side. Turn the fish over when the crust has turned a golden brown color. It won't take long, so watch carefully.
Wait until the oil is hot enough (about 350 degrees) before adding the fish. It should feel hot with your hand 3–5 inches (7.6–12.7 cm) above it, and spit when you throw a drop of water into it. Avoid over-loading the frying pan with too many pieces of fish, or you'll drop the temperature considerably. Frying at a lower temperature results in oily and soggy fish.
Alternatively, you can bake the fish. To bake your breaded fish, place your breaded fillets into a baking dish or onto a baking sheet. Bake at 375 °F (191 °C) for 15-20 minutes, turning halfway through.
1-6. Finish and serve.
Breaded fish goes well with a squeeze of lemon, tartar sauce, malt vinegar, or all of the above. Prepare with fried potatoes for a classic fish-and-chips, or opt for a healthier option and serve with wild rice and green vegetables.
2. Some Alternatives
2-1. Experiment with different breading combinations.
Fish is versatile and amenable to all sorts of breading and combinations. You can use crunched up potato chips, potato flakes, cornmeal, or even corn flakes cereal, depending on what's available. Experiment some to see what you like best.
Skip the crumbs and dip twice in flour. If you're out of bread crumbs and don't feel like crunching up a bunch of crackers, feel free to do two coatings in seasoned flour instead of the regular one coating.
The breading of choice for a southern-style fish-fry is definitely cornmeal. It makes a golden brown super-crunchy crust that's hard to argue with. If you've got some cornmeal or corn-flour on hand, give it a try.
2-2. Bag up your dredging mix.
Typically, when deep-frying fish, people will skip the egg batter and elect to head straight from the flour mix to the fryer. If you're doing a big batch, or just want to make the clean-up process easier, consider putting your seasoned flour AND your other breading mixture into a paper or plastic bag, adding your fish fillets, and closing the bag securely. Shake the bag until the fish are coated evenly and put immediately into the deep fryer.
2-3. Try a beer-batter for a thick and crunchy crust.
The batter used for deep-fried fish in Europe and elsewhere is commonly a wet batter, rather than a dry breading, and is delicious and easy to make. To create a wet batter for dipping fish into, mix together:
One half-cup of flour
One tsp. baking soda
One-half tsp. salt
Half-can or bottle of beer
Seasoning, to taste
2-4. Add lemon juice to lessen the "fishy" taste.
If you're cooking a stronger fish like catfish or salmon in breading, or don't particularly like the taste of fish, adding a bit of lemon juice to the beaten egg can help to mask it slightly. Consider adding a squeeze of lemon to the egg when cooking for picky fish eaters.
2-5. Finished.
Tips
Try dipping the fish in mayonnaise or tartar sauce and then in crumb mixture as an alternative.
You can also bread almost any other food using the following steps listed for the fish.
Try to use one hand for dipping and the other hand for rolling the fish in the crumb mixture. It helps keep hands clean.
Warnings
Keep your face away from the pan when you add the fish and be very careful of "spitting" oil. It's very hot, so use extreme caution. Turn it down some if it starts smoking.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. The Basics\\n1-1. Prepare your ingredients.\\nA basic breading involves fish, flour, egg, and coating. If you're using frozen fish, defrost it thoroughly. It's also good to rinse the fish in cold, clean water to remove any scale-bits or other stuff that might be stuck to it. If you're using crackers or need to make your own bread-crumbs, take some time to crunch them up as thoroughly as possible. The smaller the crumb, the better the crust will be eventually. Beat 1-2 eggs into a bowl with a small amount of milk or water to smoothen out the mixture. For a basic breaded fish, prepare the following ingredients:\\nFish fillets of your choice. A white fish like tilapia or cod is usually better for breading.\\nFlour\\nBread crumbs or cracker crumbs, seasoned\\n1-2 eggs, beaten\\nMilk or water\\n1-2. Pour ingredients into separate bowls.\\nPour cracker crumbs or other breading into one bowl, your flour into another bowl, and the beaten egg into yet another. It's usually helpful to have them in the order they'll be used. To one side of your skillet, line up the flour, then the egg, then the coating, which should be closest to the skillet.\\nTake a minute to season your coating, if it isn't seasoned already. A pinch or two of salt and pepper are good additions, as well as cayenne pepper, seasoned salt, dill, or Old Bay seasoning. Use the kind of flavors you like and season the coating to your taste. Alternatively, you can season the flour.\\n1-3. Coat the fish in the flour.\\nTake your fish fillets and dredge them in the flour thoroughly, using your hand to work flour into the nooks and crannies. This step is important to filling in the gaps in the cracker crust, working with the breading to form a nice and even coating.\\n1-4. Dip the dredged fish in the egg mixture, then coat it with the breading.\\nDon't drop it in to the egg mixture and soak it. Instead, dip it quickly and take it as cleanly and quickly as you can to the next \\\"station\\\" with the coating in it. Dip the fish into your seasoned coating and use your other hand to spread the coating over the fish evenly.\\n1-5. Place coated fish into a frying pan.\\nTo fry your breaded fish, heat a half-inch or so of cooking oil on medium-high heat and fry the fish in it, turning once, about 3-5 minutes on each side. Turn the fish over when the crust has turned a golden brown color. It won't take long, so watch carefully.\\nWait until the oil is hot enough (about 350 degrees) before adding the fish. It should feel hot with your hand 3–5 inches (7.6–12.7 cm) above it, and spit when you throw a drop of water into it. Avoid over-loading the frying pan with too many pieces of fish, or you'll drop the temperature considerably. Frying at a lower temperature results in oily and soggy fish.\\nAlternatively, you can bake the fish. To bake your breaded fish, place your breaded fillets into a baking dish or onto a baking sheet. Bake at 375 °F (191 °C) for 15-20 minutes, turning halfway through.\\n1-6. Finish and serve.\\nBreaded fish goes well with a squeeze of lemon, tartar sauce, malt vinegar, or all of the above. Prepare with fried potatoes for a classic fish-and-chips, or opt for a healthier option and serve with wild rice and green vegetables.\\n2. Some Alternatives\\n2-1. Experiment with different breading combinations.\\nFish is versatile and amenable to all sorts of breading and combinations. You can use crunched up potato chips, potato flakes, cornmeal, or even corn flakes cereal, depending on what's available. Experiment some to see what you like best.\\nSkip the crumbs and dip twice in flour. If you're out of bread crumbs and don't feel like crunching up a bunch of crackers, feel free to do two coatings in seasoned flour instead of the regular one coating.\\nThe breading of choice for a southern-style fish-fry is definitely cornmeal. It makes a golden brown super-crunchy crust that's hard to argue with. If you've got some cornmeal or corn-flour on hand, give it a try.\\n2-2. Bag up your dredging mix.\\nTypically, when deep-frying fish, people will skip the egg batter and elect to head straight from the flour mix to the fryer. If you're doing a big batch, or just want to make the clean-up process easier, consider putting your seasoned flour AND your other breading mixture into a paper or plastic bag, adding your fish fillets, and closing the bag securely. Shake the bag until the fish are coated evenly and put immediately into the deep fryer.\\n2-3. Try a beer-batter for a thick and crunchy crust.\\nThe batter used for deep-fried fish in Europe and elsewhere is commonly a wet batter, rather than a dry breading, and is delicious and easy to make. To create a wet batter for dipping fish into, mix together:\\nOne half-cup of flour\\nOne tsp. baking soda\\nOne-half tsp. salt\\nHalf-can or bottle of beer\\nSeasoning, to taste\\n2-4. Add lemon juice to lessen the \\\"fishy\\\" taste.\\nIf you're cooking a stronger fish like catfish or salmon in breading, or don't particularly like the taste of fish, adding a bit of lemon juice to the beaten egg can help to mask it slightly. Consider adding a squeeze of lemon to the egg when cooking for picky fish eaters.\\n2-5. Finished.\\n\\nTips\\nTry dipping the fish in mayonnaise or tartar sauce and then in crumb mixture as an alternative.\\nYou can also bread almost any other food using the following steps listed for the fish.\\nTry to use one hand for dipping and the other hand for rolling the fish in the crumb mixture. It helps keep hands clean.\\nWarnings\\nKeep your face away from the pan when you add the fish and be very careful of \\\"spitting\\\" oil. It's very hot, so use extreme caution. Turn it down some if it starts smoking.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Breading fish to broil, bake, or fry is a delicious way of cooking white fish. Once you know that basics of preparing a dredging mixture to coat the fish, you can experiment with your own variations and seasonings.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"The Basics\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Prepare your ingredients.\", \"描述\": \"A basic breading involves fish, flour, egg, and coating. If you're using frozen fish, defrost it thoroughly. It's also good to rinse the fish in cold, clean water to remove any scale-bits or other stuff that might be stuck to it. If you're using crackers or need to make your own bread-crumbs, take some time to crunch them up as thoroughly as possible. The smaller the crumb, the better the crust will be eventually. Beat 1-2 eggs into a bowl with a small amount of milk or water to smoothen out the mixture. For a basic breaded fish, prepare the following ingredients:\\nFish fillets of your choice. A white fish like tilapia or cod is usually better for breading.\\nFlour\\nBread crumbs or cracker crumbs, seasoned\\n1-2 eggs, beaten\\nMilk or water\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pour ingredients into separate bowls.\", \"描述\": \"Pour cracker crumbs or other breading into one bowl, your flour into another bowl, and the beaten egg into yet another. It's usually helpful to have them in the order they'll be used. To one side of your skillet, line up the flour, then the egg, then the coating, which should be closest to the skillet.\\nTake a minute to season your coating, if it isn't seasoned already. A pinch or two of salt and pepper are good additions, as well as cayenne pepper, seasoned salt, dill, or Old Bay seasoning. Use the kind of flavors you like and season the coating to your taste. Alternatively, you can season the flour.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Coat the fish in the flour.\", \"描述\": \"Take your fish fillets and dredge them in the flour thoroughly, using your hand to work flour into the nooks and crannies. This step is important to filling in the gaps in the cracker crust, working with the breading to form a nice and even coating.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Dip the dredged fish in the egg mixture, then coat it with the breading.\", \"描述\": \"Don't drop it in to the egg mixture and soak it. Instead, dip it quickly and take it as cleanly and quickly as you can to the next \\\"station\\\" with the coating in it. Dip the fish into your seasoned coating and use your other hand to spread the coating over the fish evenly.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Place coated fish into a frying pan.\", \"描述\": \"To fry your breaded fish, heat a half-inch or so of cooking oil on medium-high heat and fry the fish in it, turning once, about 3-5 minutes on each side. Turn the fish over when the crust has turned a golden brown color. It won't take long, so watch carefully.\\nWait until the oil is hot enough (about 350 degrees) before adding the fish. It should feel hot with your hand 3–5 inches (7.6–12.7 cm) above it, and spit when you throw a drop of water into it. Avoid over-loading the frying pan with too many pieces of fish, or you'll drop the temperature considerably. Frying at a lower temperature results in oily and soggy fish.\\nAlternatively, you can bake the fish. To bake your breaded fish, place your breaded fillets into a baking dish or onto a baking sheet. Bake at 375 °F (191 °C) for 15-20 minutes, turning halfway through.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Finish and serve.\", \"描述\": \"Breaded fish goes well with a squeeze of lemon, tartar sauce, malt vinegar, or all of the above. Prepare with fried potatoes for a classic fish-and-chips, or opt for a healthier option and serve with wild rice and green vegetables.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Some Alternatives\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Experiment with different breading combinations.\", \"描述\": \"Fish is versatile and amenable to all sorts of breading and combinations. You can use crunched up potato chips, potato flakes, cornmeal, or even corn flakes cereal, depending on what's available. Experiment some to see what you like best.\\nSkip the crumbs and dip twice in flour. If you're out of bread crumbs and don't feel like crunching up a bunch of crackers, feel free to do two coatings in seasoned flour instead of the regular one coating.\\nThe breading of choice for a southern-style fish-fry is definitely cornmeal. It makes a golden brown super-crunchy crust that's hard to argue with. If you've got some cornmeal or corn-flour on hand, give it a try.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Bag up your dredging mix.\", \"描述\": \"Typically, when deep-frying fish, people will skip the egg batter and elect to head straight from the flour mix to the fryer. If you're doing a big batch, or just want to make the clean-up process easier, consider putting your seasoned flour AND your other breading mixture into a paper or plastic bag, adding your fish fillets, and closing the bag securely. Shake the bag until the fish are coated evenly and put immediately into the deep fryer.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Try a beer-batter for a thick and crunchy crust.\", \"描述\": \"The batter used for deep-fried fish in Europe and elsewhere is commonly a wet batter, rather than a dry breading, and is delicious and easy to make. To create a wet batter for dipping fish into, mix together:\\nOne half-cup of flour\\nOne tsp. baking soda\\nOne-half tsp. salt\\nHalf-can or bottle of beer\\nSeasoning, to taste\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Add lemon juice to lessen the \\\"fishy\\\" taste.\", \"描述\": \"If you're cooking a stronger fish like catfish or salmon in breading, or don't particularly like the taste of fish, adding a bit of lemon juice to the beaten egg can help to mask it slightly. Consider adding a squeeze of lemon to the egg when cooking for picky fish eaters.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Finished.\", \"描述\": \"\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Try dipping the fish in mayonnaise or tartar sauce and then in crumb mixture as an alternative.\\n\", \"You can also bread almost any other food using the following steps listed for the fish.\\n\", \"Try to use one hand for dipping and the other hand for rolling the fish in the crumb mixture. It helps keep hands clean.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Keep your face away from the pan when you add the fish and be very careful of \\\"spitting\\\" oil. It's very hot, so use extreme caution. Turn it down some if it starts smoking.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Bread Meat
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1. Classic Breaded Cutlets
1-1. Flatten meat into cutlets using a tenderizing utensil.
Follow recipe specifications, which usually call for half-inch or thinner pieces of meat.
1-2. Pour flour into a pie pan.
1-3. Beat eggs in a shallow bowl big enough to hold 1 cutlet.
1-4. Place breadcrumbs in another pie pan, if your recipe calls for them.
1-5. Dredge cutlets, 1 at a time, first in flour, then in eggs and then in either flour or breadcrumbs, to bread meat according to your recipe.
1-6. Set each breaded cutlet aside on a plate or rack, allowing them to rest for 10 to 15 minutes before cooking.
2. Breading Chops and Chicken Pieces
2-1. Season either the flour or the breadcrumbs as per your recipe.
Common seasonings for fried chicken or meat breading for pork chops include salt; black pepper; dried thyme, marjoram, basil and paprika; and garlic powder.
2-2. Place flour in a pie pan or paper bag.
2-3. Beat eggs in a shallow bowl large enough to fit all your meat pieces.
Some fried chicken recipes suggest adding milk or water to eggs and allowing the meat to soak in this mixture for 5 to 10 minutes.
2-4. Pour breadcrumbs into another pie pan, for pork or oven-fried chicken.
2-5. Dredge chops or chicken in the pan of flour or shake them in a bag to make sure they’re well coated.
2-6. Dip your meat in the eggs and then dredge it again in either the flour or seasoned breadcrumbs specified by your recipe.
Use your hands to press the coating onto the meat flesh or skin.
2-7. Let the chops or chicken rest so the meat breading starts to solidify before cooking.
2-8. Finished.
Tips
For a crunchier texture, buy Japanese-style panko crumbs, whose larger, irregular shapes allow for greater surface contact with hot cooking oil.
Shake breaded cutlets after dredging in each ingredient, to achieve a thin layer of breading that won’t soak up too much oil during cooking.
For a finer texture to meat breading, pulverize commercial breadcrumbs or homemade breadcrumbs by running a rolling pin over a layer of crumbs spread beneath a sheet of waxed paper. Alternatively, you could also pulse them in a food processor for a few seconds.
Warnings
Heat your cooking oil to a high enough temperature to cause immediate sizzling when you drop in the breaded meat. This will keep the breading in place and make it crispy.
Don’t leave any bald spots on breaded cutlets, which produces a spotty texture that absorbs more oil and encourages slabs of breading to fall off while cooking.
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Beat eggs in a shallow bowl large enough to fit all your meat pieces.\\nSome fried chicken recipes suggest adding milk or water to eggs and allowing the meat to soak in this mixture for 5 to 10 minutes.\\n2-4. Pour breadcrumbs into another pie pan, for pork or oven-fried chicken.\\n\\n2-5. Dredge chops or chicken in the pan of flour or shake them in a bag to make sure they’re well coated.\\n\\n2-6. Dip your meat in the eggs and then dredge it again in either the flour or seasoned breadcrumbs specified by your recipe.\\nUse your hands to press the coating onto the meat flesh or skin.\\n2-7. Let the chops or chicken rest so the meat breading starts to solidify before cooking.\\n\\n2-8. Finished.\\n\\nTips\\nFor a crunchier texture, buy Japanese-style panko crumbs, whose larger, irregular shapes allow for greater surface contact with hot cooking oil.\\nShake breaded cutlets after dredging in each ingredient, to achieve a thin layer of breading that won’t soak up too much oil during cooking.\\nFor a finer texture to meat breading, pulverize commercial breadcrumbs or homemade breadcrumbs by running a rolling pin over a layer of crumbs spread beneath a sheet of waxed paper. Alternatively, you could also pulse them in a food processor for a few seconds.\\nWarnings\\nHeat your cooking oil to a high enough temperature to cause immediate sizzling when you drop in the breaded meat. This will keep the breading in place and make it crispy.\\nDon’t leave any bald spots on breaded cutlets, which produces a spotty texture that absorbs more oil and encourages slabs of breading to fall off while cooking.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"A perfectly breaded pork chop, cutlet of veal, or fried chicken leg starts with the right preparation and ends in a hot frying pan. Your goal is ensure that a thin layer of crispy breading adheres to your meat after it is cooked. Avoid trouble spots such as bland taste, greasy coatings and separation of ingredients by setting yourself up for success before you bread meat.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Classic Breaded Cutlets\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Flatten meat into cutlets using a tenderizing utensil.\", \"描述\": \"Follow recipe specifications, which usually call for half-inch or thinner pieces of meat.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pour flour into a pie pan.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Beat eggs in a shallow bowl big enough to hold 1 cutlet.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Place breadcrumbs in another pie pan, if your recipe calls for them.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Dredge cutlets, 1 at a time, first in flour, then in eggs and then in either flour or breadcrumbs, to bread meat according to your recipe.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Set each breaded cutlet aside on a plate or rack, allowing them to rest for 10 to 15 minutes before cooking.\", \"描述\": \"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Breading Chops and Chicken Pieces\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Season either the flour or the breadcrumbs as per your recipe.\", \"描述\": \"Common seasonings for fried chicken or meat breading for pork chops include salt; black pepper; dried thyme, marjoram, basil and paprika; and garlic powder.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Place flour in a pie pan or paper bag.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Beat eggs in a shallow bowl large enough to fit all your meat pieces.\", \"描述\": \"Some fried chicken recipes suggest adding milk or water to eggs and allowing the meat to soak in this mixture for 5 to 10 minutes.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Pour breadcrumbs into another pie pan, for pork or oven-fried chicken.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Dredge chops or chicken in the pan of flour or shake them in a bag to make sure they’re well coated.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Dip your meat in the eggs and then dredge it again in either the flour or seasoned breadcrumbs specified by your recipe.\", \"描述\": \"Use your hands to press the coating onto the meat flesh or skin.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Let the chops or chicken rest so the meat breading starts to solidify before cooking.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Finished.\", \"描述\": \"\"}], \"小提示\": [\"For a crunchier texture, buy Japanese-style panko crumbs, whose larger, irregular shapes allow for greater surface contact with hot cooking oil.\\n\", \"Shake breaded cutlets after dredging in each ingredient, to achieve a thin layer of breading that won’t soak up too much oil during cooking.\\n\", \"For a finer texture to meat breading, pulverize commercial breadcrumbs or homemade breadcrumbs by running a rolling pin over a layer of crumbs spread beneath a sheet of waxed paper. Alternatively, you could also pulse them in a food processor for a few seconds.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Heat your cooking oil to a high enough temperature to cause immediate sizzling when you drop in the breaded meat. This will keep the breading in place and make it crispy.\\n\", \"Don’t leave any bald spots on breaded cutlets, which produces a spotty texture that absorbs more oil and encourages slabs of breading to fall off while cooking.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Break Away from Sleeping Medication
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1. Stopping the Medication
1-1. Speak to your doctor
If you're currently taking sleeping medication and it's wreaking havoc with your sleep and general health and wellbeing, notify your doctor and explain what is happening. Your doctor will be able to advise you as to whether or not you can quit the pills outright or whether there needs to be an adjustment period.
Don't presume you're stuck taking pills!
Discuss lifestyle changes that can help improve your sleep.
You can ask about weaker sedatives or natural alternatives like valerian tea, or melatonin supplements.
Speak to your doctor before trying weaker sedatives and natural sleep aids since they can interact with other medications.
1-2. Make a plan to stop taking the sleeping medication.
Don't throw the pills away just yet; they are insurance to prevent you from panicking and they are still available for those terrible nights when you really do feel like you need them. At the same time, you need to commit to giving them up permanently as carefully and as thoroughly as possible.
If your doctor has suggested a gradual withdrawal program, stick with it.
A gradual taper will increase your chances of success, since quitting sleeping medication too suddenly can throw your body totally out of balance.
1-3. Believe in your own ability to sleep naturally and accept your own sleep needs.
Some people need more sleep while others need less hours of sleep in order to function optimally; know your own needs and nurture them.
Pair this mindset with practical tips for regaining control over your sleep routine.
1-4. Know what to expect.
Depending on the type of sleep medication, withdrawal symptoms can occur. You may feel anxious, edgy, irritable, and depressed, and you may find yourself sweating, experiencing tremors, and increased heart rate, and nausea. You may experience "rebound insomnia," which means you may experience great difficulty falling asleep after you come off the sleeping medication — possibly worse than what caused you to start taking sleeping pills in the first place. Rebound insomnia often causes people to relapse and start taking sleeping meds again, but you must remember that is it temporary, and side effects should go away after about two weeks. Speak with your doctor about how to handle rebound insomnia, or if you are experiencing depression or anxiety that lasts several weeks or months after you stop.
You may also experience vivid, strange, and disturbing dreams. Again, this is a normal part of withdrawal and it will go away.
Implementing self relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or progressive muscle relaxation can assist you in getting through this time.
Remember any withdrawal symptoms are temporary.
2. Practicing Sleep Hygiene Strategies
2-1. Get into a regular sleep routine.
When you break away from your sleeping medication, the most important thing you can do for yourself is to set up a healthy, regular sleeping routine. Although you will still likely experience withdrawal symptoms from the medication in the first few weeks, practicing what is called "sleep hygiene" can help to counterbalance the withdrawal and to set you up for lasting success with your new sleep pattern.
Set a wake-up time that is the same every day. Even on weekends, you should be getting up at the same time that you do on weekdays.
If you find that you are tired, the best strategy is to go to bed earlier rather than changing your wake-up time.
When your alarm goes off, make sure you get up.
Eliminating the option to sleep past your alarm forces you to listen to your body's signal to go to sleep when you get tired in the evening.
If you remain fatigued throughout the day, go to bed earlier and eventually your body will adapt. Try making your bed time earlier in 15-minute increments.
2-2. Avoid using the bedroom for activities other than sleep or sex.
Many people have a television in their bedroom, or use their laptop computers, their tablets, or their cellphones in the bedroom prior to falling asleep at night. This is one of the most counter-productive things you can do for your sleep, because the light from the screens (called "blue" light) changes the chemistry in your brain and causes you to be more awake and less likely to fall asleep.
Your body produces melatonin (the natural chemical that regulates sleep) in larger quantities prior to falling asleep.
Bright light from computer, television, or cellphone screens counters the effects of melatonin, since your brain regulates melatonin based on natural light or darkness.
Diminish (or cut out altogether) screen time right before bed.
Try to avoid using electronic devices in the bedroom. You want your bedroom to be associated with just sleep.
If you use your phone as your alarm to wake up, purchase an actual alarm clock so you're not tempted to spend time on your phone before bed.
2-3. Avoid mentally or emotionally engaging activities right before bed.
For instance, avoid having a difficult or frustrating conversation with anybody in person or over the phone or Internet. Also, resist the temptation to start anything that requires fired-up thinking processes, such as trying to solve a work problem at 11pm at night. Your best bet is to leave it until the morning.
2-4. Go to bed immediately when you're feeling drowsy and when you have the need to sleep.
Avoid forcing yourself to stay awake. Unfinished chores can be completed the next day after a refreshing night's sleep. Your body breaks away from the natural cycle when its sleepy state is overcome by other distractions, and it can become very difficult to fall asleep again.
2-5. Ensure that adequate amounts of darkness are present in your sleeping space.
Any light source from the outside creates a distraction and can easily awaken you. Block out these light sources if they create a distraction when you are trying to fall asleep. Heavy curtaining and blankets will do the trick.
The same is true for external noise. Use earplugs or close the window to prevent external noises from filtering in.
"White noise" (like the sound of a fan) can help you fall asleep because it masks other sounds, like car alarms or people moving around.
2-6. Exercise regularly
Exercise will help induce nightly sleep through giving your body a proper workout. Aim for at least 30 minutes of moderate aerobic exercise five days a week and include one to three days of strength training.
2-7. Avoid drinks and beverages high in sugar and caffeine.
Any foods high in sugar will increase your energy levels thus making it difficult to fall asleep naturally. Caffeine is also a stimulant that makes sleeping difficult. If you are thirsty, warm milk or plain drinking water is the best option for getting a good night's sleep.
Avoid having caffeine after mid-day. Make all drinks caffeine-free from this point until you awaken the next morning.
Remember that chocolate contains caffeine and sugar, so try to avoid eating it too close to bedtime.
2-8. Take a hot bath
A hot bath or shower works wonders and is known to relax and soothe tired and aching muscles. A relaxed body is able to sleep better. Add soothing scents such as lavender, neroli, rose, frankincense or sandalwood essential oils to calm the mind.
If you plan on washing your hair, allow sufficient time to for your hair to dry.
Choose lavender or similar scented shower gels to help you find a calm state.
2-9. Seek cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) remedies if you're still experiencing an inability to break from sleeping medication through practical modifications to your lifestyle.
CBT can make a difference in how you view the utility of the pills and can help you to discover your own way of overcoming insomnia.
Tips
Most sleeping medications are highly addictive. Many cannot sleep without them as the body becomes dependent on these narcotics in order to fall asleep.
Keep a sleep diary; this can help reassure you that you're on track.
Warnings
Never quit any medications without a doctor's supervision.
Deal with the stress in your life. Stress impacts sleep and brings about insomnia. Improvements in managing stress will often result in sleep improvements too.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Stopping the Medication\\n1-1. Speak to your doctor\\nIf you're currently taking sleeping medication and it's wreaking havoc with your sleep and general health and wellbeing, notify your doctor and explain what is happening. Your doctor will be able to advise you as to whether or not you can quit the pills outright or whether there needs to be an adjustment period.\\nDon't presume you're stuck taking pills!\\nDiscuss lifestyle changes that can help improve your sleep.\\nYou can ask about weaker sedatives or natural alternatives like valerian tea, or melatonin supplements.\\nSpeak to your doctor before trying weaker sedatives and natural sleep aids since they can interact with other medications.\\n1-2. Make a plan to stop taking the sleeping medication.\\nDon't throw the pills away just yet; they are insurance to prevent you from panicking and they are still available for those terrible nights when you really do feel like you need them. At the same time, you need to commit to giving them up permanently as carefully and as thoroughly as possible.\\nIf your doctor has suggested a gradual withdrawal program, stick with it.\\nA gradual taper will increase your chances of success, since quitting sleeping medication too suddenly can throw your body totally out of balance.\\n1-3. Believe in your own ability to sleep naturally and accept your own sleep needs.\\nSome people need more sleep while others need less hours of sleep in order to function optimally; know your own needs and nurture them.\\nPair this mindset with practical tips for regaining control over your sleep routine.\\n1-4. Know what to expect.\\nDepending on the type of sleep medication, withdrawal symptoms can occur. You may feel anxious, edgy, irritable, and depressed, and you may find yourself sweating, experiencing tremors, and increased heart rate, and nausea. You may experience \\\"rebound insomnia,\\\" which means you may experience great difficulty falling asleep after you come off the sleeping medication — possibly worse than what caused you to start taking sleeping pills in the first place. Rebound insomnia often causes people to relapse and start taking sleeping meds again, but you must remember that is it temporary, and side effects should go away after about two weeks. Speak with your doctor about how to handle rebound insomnia, or if you are experiencing depression or anxiety that lasts several weeks or months after you stop.\\nYou may also experience vivid, strange, and disturbing dreams. Again, this is a normal part of withdrawal and it will go away.\\nImplementing self relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or progressive muscle relaxation can assist you in getting through this time.\\nRemember any withdrawal symptoms are temporary.\\n2. Practicing Sleep Hygiene Strategies\\n2-1. Get into a regular sleep routine.\\nWhen you break away from your sleeping medication, the most important thing you can do for yourself is to set up a healthy, regular sleeping routine. Although you will still likely experience withdrawal symptoms from the medication in the first few weeks, practicing what is called \\\"sleep hygiene\\\" can help to counterbalance the withdrawal and to set you up for lasting success with your new sleep pattern.\\nSet a wake-up time that is the same every day. Even on weekends, you should be getting up at the same time that you do on weekdays.\\nIf you find that you are tired, the best strategy is to go to bed earlier rather than changing your wake-up time.\\nWhen your alarm goes off, make sure you get up.\\nEliminating the option to sleep past your alarm forces you to listen to your body's signal to go to sleep when you get tired in the evening.\\nIf you remain fatigued throughout the day, go to bed earlier and eventually your body will adapt. Try making your bed time earlier in 15-minute increments.\\n2-2. Avoid using the bedroom for activities other than sleep or sex.\\nMany people have a television in their bedroom, or use their laptop computers, their tablets, or their cellphones in the bedroom prior to falling asleep at night. This is one of the most counter-productive things you can do for your sleep, because the light from the screens (called \\\"blue\\\" light) changes the chemistry in your brain and causes you to be more awake and less likely to fall asleep.\\nYour body produces melatonin (the natural chemical that regulates sleep) in larger quantities prior to falling asleep.\\nBright light from computer, television, or cellphone screens counters the effects of melatonin, since your brain regulates melatonin based on natural light or darkness.\\nDiminish (or cut out altogether) screen time right before bed.\\nTry to avoid using electronic devices in the bedroom. You want your bedroom to be associated with just sleep.\\nIf you use your phone as your alarm to wake up, purchase an actual alarm clock so you're not tempted to spend time on your phone before bed.\\n2-3. Avoid mentally or emotionally engaging activities right before bed.\\nFor instance, avoid having a difficult or frustrating conversation with anybody in person or over the phone or Internet. Also, resist the temptation to start anything that requires fired-up thinking processes, such as trying to solve a work problem at 11pm at night. Your best bet is to leave it until the morning.\\n2-4. Go to bed immediately when you're feeling drowsy and when you have the need to sleep.\\nAvoid forcing yourself to stay awake. Unfinished chores can be completed the next day after a refreshing night's sleep. Your body breaks away from the natural cycle when its sleepy state is overcome by other distractions, and it can become very difficult to fall asleep again.\\n2-5. Ensure that adequate amounts of darkness are present in your sleeping space.\\nAny light source from the outside creates a distraction and can easily awaken you. Block out these light sources if they create a distraction when you are trying to fall asleep. Heavy curtaining and blankets will do the trick.\\nThe same is true for external noise. Use earplugs or close the window to prevent external noises from filtering in.\\n\\\"White noise\\\" (like the sound of a fan) can help you fall asleep because it masks other sounds, like car alarms or people moving around.\\n2-6. Exercise regularly\\nExercise will help induce nightly sleep through giving your body a proper workout. Aim for at least 30 minutes of moderate aerobic exercise five days a week and include one to three days of strength training.\\n2-7. Avoid drinks and beverages high in sugar and caffeine.\\nAny foods high in sugar will increase your energy levels thus making it difficult to fall asleep naturally. Caffeine is also a stimulant that makes sleeping difficult. If you are thirsty, warm milk or plain drinking water is the best option for getting a good night's sleep.\\nAvoid having caffeine after mid-day. Make all drinks caffeine-free from this point until you awaken the next morning.\\nRemember that chocolate contains caffeine and sugar, so try to avoid eating it too close to bedtime.\\n2-8. Take a hot bath\\nA hot bath or shower works wonders and is known to relax and soothe tired and aching muscles. A relaxed body is able to sleep better. Add soothing scents such as lavender, neroli, rose, frankincense or sandalwood essential oils to calm the mind.\\nIf you plan on washing your hair, allow sufficient time to for your hair to dry.\\nChoose lavender or similar scented shower gels to help you find a calm state.\\n2-9. Seek cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) remedies if you're still experiencing an inability to break from sleeping medication through practical modifications to your lifestyle.\\nCBT can make a difference in how you view the utility of the pills and can help you to discover your own way of overcoming insomnia.\\nTips\\nMost sleeping medications are highly addictive. Many cannot sleep without them as the body becomes dependent on these narcotics in order to fall asleep.\\nKeep a sleep diary; this can help reassure you that you're on track.\\nWarnings\\nNever quit any medications without a doctor's supervision.\\nDeal with the stress in your life. Stress impacts sleep and brings about insomnia. Improvements in managing stress will often result in sleep improvements too.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Due to the high stress levels of our current times, sleeping pills and other forms of sleeping medication have become a norm. Most prescribed medication is highly addictive and it is only a matter of time before you risk becoming dependent and unable to sleep without it. Sleep is important to keep the body and the mind adequately rested. Working on improving sleep hygiene and getting help from your doctor can help you ease off of sleeping aids and get a good night's sleep on your own.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stopping the Medication\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Speak to your doctor\", \"描述\": \"If you're currently taking sleeping medication and it's wreaking havoc with your sleep and general health and wellbeing, notify your doctor and explain what is happening. Your doctor will be able to advise you as to whether or not you can quit the pills outright or whether there needs to be an adjustment period.\\nDon't presume you're stuck taking pills!\\nDiscuss lifestyle changes that can help improve your sleep.\\nYou can ask about weaker sedatives or natural alternatives like valerian tea, or melatonin supplements.\\nSpeak to your doctor before trying weaker sedatives and natural sleep aids since they can interact with other medications.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make a plan to stop taking the sleeping medication.\", \"描述\": \"Don't throw the pills away just yet; they are insurance to prevent you from panicking and they are still available for those terrible nights when you really do feel like you need them. At the same time, you need to commit to giving them up permanently as carefully and as thoroughly as possible.\\nIf your doctor has suggested a gradual withdrawal program, stick with it.\\nA gradual taper will increase your chances of success, since quitting sleeping medication too suddenly can throw your body totally out of balance.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Believe in your own ability to sleep naturally and accept your own sleep needs.\", \"描述\": \"Some people need more sleep while others need less hours of sleep in order to function optimally; know your own needs and nurture them.\\nPair this mindset with practical tips for regaining control over your sleep routine.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Know what to expect.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on the type of sleep medication, withdrawal symptoms can occur. You may feel anxious, edgy, irritable, and depressed, and you may find yourself sweating, experiencing tremors, and increased heart rate, and nausea. You may experience \\\"rebound insomnia,\\\" which means you may experience great difficulty falling asleep after you come off the sleeping medication — possibly worse than what caused you to start taking sleeping pills in the first place. Rebound insomnia often causes people to relapse and start taking sleeping meds again, but you must remember that is it temporary, and side effects should go away after about two weeks. Speak with your doctor about how to handle rebound insomnia, or if you are experiencing depression or anxiety that lasts several weeks or months after you stop.\\nYou may also experience vivid, strange, and disturbing dreams. Again, this is a normal part of withdrawal and it will go away.\\nImplementing self relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or progressive muscle relaxation can assist you in getting through this time.\\nRemember any withdrawal symptoms are temporary.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Practicing Sleep Hygiene Strategies\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get into a regular sleep routine.\", \"描述\": \"When you break away from your sleeping medication, the most important thing you can do for yourself is to set up a healthy, regular sleeping routine. Although you will still likely experience withdrawal symptoms from the medication in the first few weeks, practicing what is called \\\"sleep hygiene\\\" can help to counterbalance the withdrawal and to set you up for lasting success with your new sleep pattern.\\nSet a wake-up time that is the same every day. Even on weekends, you should be getting up at the same time that you do on weekdays.\\nIf you find that you are tired, the best strategy is to go to bed earlier rather than changing your wake-up time.\\nWhen your alarm goes off, make sure you get up.\\nEliminating the option to sleep past your alarm forces you to listen to your body's signal to go to sleep when you get tired in the evening.\\nIf you remain fatigued throughout the day, go to bed earlier and eventually your body will adapt. Try making your bed time earlier in 15-minute increments.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Avoid using the bedroom for activities other than sleep or sex.\", \"描述\": \"Many people have a television in their bedroom, or use their laptop computers, their tablets, or their cellphones in the bedroom prior to falling asleep at night. This is one of the most counter-productive things you can do for your sleep, because the light from the screens (called \\\"blue\\\" light) changes the chemistry in your brain and causes you to be more awake and less likely to fall asleep.\\nYour body produces melatonin (the natural chemical that regulates sleep) in larger quantities prior to falling asleep.\\nBright light from computer, television, or cellphone screens counters the effects of melatonin, since your brain regulates melatonin based on natural light or darkness.\\nDiminish (or cut out altogether) screen time right before bed.\\nTry to avoid using electronic devices in the bedroom. You want your bedroom to be associated with just sleep.\\nIf you use your phone as your alarm to wake up, purchase an actual alarm clock so you're not tempted to spend time on your phone before bed.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Avoid mentally or emotionally engaging activities right before bed.\", \"描述\": \"For instance, avoid having a difficult or frustrating conversation with anybody in person or over the phone or Internet. Also, resist the temptation to start anything that requires fired-up thinking processes, such as trying to solve a work problem at 11pm at night. Your best bet is to leave it until the morning.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Go to bed immediately when you're feeling drowsy and when you have the need to sleep.\", \"描述\": \"Avoid forcing yourself to stay awake. Unfinished chores can be completed the next day after a refreshing night's sleep. Your body breaks away from the natural cycle when its sleepy state is overcome by other distractions, and it can become very difficult to fall asleep again.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Ensure that adequate amounts of darkness are present in your sleeping space.\", \"描述\": \"Any light source from the outside creates a distraction and can easily awaken you. Block out these light sources if they create a distraction when you are trying to fall asleep. Heavy curtaining and blankets will do the trick.\\nThe same is true for external noise. Use earplugs or close the window to prevent external noises from filtering in.\\n\\\"White noise\\\" (like the sound of a fan) can help you fall asleep because it masks other sounds, like car alarms or people moving around.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Exercise regularly\", \"描述\": \"Exercise will help induce nightly sleep through giving your body a proper workout. Aim for at least 30 minutes of moderate aerobic exercise five days a week and include one to three days of strength training.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Avoid drinks and beverages high in sugar and caffeine.\", \"描述\": \"Any foods high in sugar will increase your energy levels thus making it difficult to fall asleep naturally. Caffeine is also a stimulant that makes sleeping difficult. If you are thirsty, warm milk or plain drinking water is the best option for getting a good night's sleep.\\nAvoid having caffeine after mid-day. Make all drinks caffeine-free from this point until you awaken the next morning.\\nRemember that chocolate contains caffeine and sugar, so try to avoid eating it too close to bedtime.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Take a hot bath\", \"描述\": \"A hot bath or shower works wonders and is known to relax and soothe tired and aching muscles. A relaxed body is able to sleep better. Add soothing scents such as lavender, neroli, rose, frankincense or sandalwood essential oils to calm the mind.\\nIf you plan on washing your hair, allow sufficient time to for your hair to dry.\\nChoose lavender or similar scented shower gels to help you find a calm state.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Seek cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) remedies if you're still experiencing an inability to break from sleeping medication through practical modifications to your lifestyle.\", \"描述\": \"CBT can make a difference in how you view the utility of the pills and can help you to discover your own way of overcoming insomnia.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Most sleeping medications are highly addictive. Many cannot sleep without them as the body becomes dependent on these narcotics in order to fall asleep.\\n\", \"Keep a sleep diary; this can help reassure you that you're on track.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Never quit any medications without a doctor's supervision.\\n\", \"Deal with the stress in your life. Stress impacts sleep and brings about insomnia. Improvements in managing stress will often result in sleep improvements too.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Selecting Your Words
1-1. Work through your own reaction.
Before preparing yourself to tell someone else, take care of yourself. The news may impact you, too. Or, it may disturb you considerably even if it doesn't impact you directly. It is important for you to have given yourself a chance to recover your feelings before you try to explain things to someone else.
Perhaps have a cup of coffee, take a shower, meditate or do deep breathing for a few minutes, or simply sit in a quiet dark place for some moments to give yourself the chance to pull together. Once you've moved past the initial shock, it'll be less intimidating to tell the other person but it's important to acknowledge that it may still be hard.
1-2. Decide on the narrative.
Before you break some bad news, it's important to have an idea of how much you're willing and able to share. Be gentle and share information about the new development that can help shed more light for the person.
Don't ramble or make small talk. This is easier on the person receiving bad news than beating around the bush. Provide the story of what has happened (the narrative) to explain the events. Look the person(s) straight in the eye and calmly tell them what has happened.
1-3. Practice what you're going to say.
This can help you to formulate the words you'd like to use, but be prepared to remain flexible and ready to adapt to the other person's cues. The words and your style of delivery are dependent on who you are, your relationship to the person you're breaking it to, and the context of the news.
If there has been an accident and someone has died, practice saying so directly, but gently: "I'm so sorry to tell you this; Michael was in a terrible car accident."
Aim to give the person a little time to emotionally prepare for what you might tell them, and after they take a breath to collect themselves, they'll say, "What happened?" or "How is he?" Then follow up directly with, "I'm so sorry, but he was killed."
If you lost your job, say something like: I'm really sorry to have to say this but the company has been taken over by a bigger network. Then you follow up with, And I have unfortunately been made redundant.
2. Choosing the Right Context
2-1. Determine if you're the right person to break the news.
If you're a casual acquaintance who has just happened to learn early about some breaking bad news, possibly you should not be the bearer of that news. But if you are the sister of a woman who has been rushed to hospital, then you are probably the right person to break the news to the rest of the family.
It's insensitive to blast personal or sensitive information all over social media, for example, just because you know something. If the news relates to a death or other serious circumstance, give the family and close friends time to call or visit people personally before you jump in and get involved.
2-2. Ensure that the physical setting is comfortable and private.
The worst thing that you can do is to blurt something out in a public space with nowhere for the recipient to turn or even sit down to cope with the aftermath of hearing it. Choose an area that has somewhere to sit or rest. Also, consider taking the person to a location that has a low likelihood of being intruded upon by other people. Other things to do to improve the environment include:
Turn off all electronic distractions such as the TV, radio, music, etc.
Pull the blind or curtains if this will improve privacy but don't shut out too much light if it's daytime.
Shut the door or pull across a screen or other item to create a private space for the two of you.
If you think it would be helpful, have a family member or friend also accompany you.
2-3. Choose the right time if possible.
Sometimes waiting isn't possible because the news has to be delivered immediately, before rumors start. However, if it is possible, delay the bad news until a time when the other person is available and receptive.
In other words, delivering bad news as a person is coming in the door from a day of work or school, or after you've just had a huge row with your partner is not likely to be the best of times. While there is not "good" time to tell bad news, there is a point to waiting until a person is not in the middle of arriving or similar.
If the news is of such import and urgency that it can't wait for a "better time," just take a deep breath and break in to whatever is going on with something like, "I need to speak with you, Jane, and I'm afraid it can't wait."
The sense of urgency can also be imparted over the phone, but it is helpful to ask if it's possible to meet up quickly so that you can share the news face-to-face. If this isn't possible, or if the person really needs to know now, you're best asking the recipient if they're sitting down as you need to tell them something unpleasant. If you're worried about how they might cope alone, also suggest that they have someone else in the vicinity for support.
2-4. Assess how the recipient of the news is feeling beforehand.
It is also important to find out what the person already knows, in order to avoid repeating things or prolonging an already difficult situation. This step is important because it will help you to tailor the words and approach you'll use to initiate the telling of the bad news.
Things to look for include whether the other person already seems to have an inkling that something bad is up, the presence of fear, anxiety, or worry, and whether or not this news is going to come from "out of the blue" (like a death in a car accident) or is something inevitable although not yet faced (like failure of a cancer treatment).
Consider what the bad news is. How bad is it? Are you trying to tell someone that their cat died, or that you lost your job? Has a family member or close friend died? If the bad news relates to you (such as you losing your job) the effects will be different than if the problem relates to them (such as their cat dying).
3. Delivering Bad News Effectively
3-1. Signal the bad news before you dive in.
A transitional statement can help the person get ready for unexpected bad news. Although you want to get to the point right away instead of beating around the bush, you do want to at least prepare the person for the prospect of upsetting news.
You can use phrases such as: "I have some sad news to tell you", "I've just received a call from the hospital: there has been an accident and..."; or "I've been talking to your specialist and...", "There is no easy way to say this but..." or "There's some really bad news you need to know..." etc.
3-2. Offer comfort to the person, if appropriate.
As you narrate the events, react to the emotions of the other person as they arise by acknowledging and addressing them. The most important part of breaking news is how well you respond to the other person's emotions.
Make the connection between the identification of the emotions and the cause, and make it clear to the recipient that you get the connection. Do this by acknowledging their response, such as "This is a clearly a terrible shock" or "I can see that you're really upset and angry about what has happened", and so forth.
Doing this lets the person know you get their pain or other reaction and that you've tied it to the news you've just relayed, without passing any judgment, making any assumptions, or trying to minimize their emotions.
3-3. Accept silence as a possible response.
Everyone won't ask questions or demand answers after hearing upsetting news. Some people may just sit there in shock. It may take time to let the news sink in. If he or she does that, place your arm around the person’s shoulders and simply sit with him or her in a display of sympathetic solidarity.
When comforting the person, keep in mind social and cultural conventions to avoid making the situation worse.
3-4. Decide what to do next.
It's all very well delivering bad news but there must be a strategy for after delivery of it. Action can help prevent a person from going into a state of shock, and can give them a sense of being involved or doing something to resolve, manage, deal with, or face the results of the bad news. Help to decide how to handle the news. If a person has died, how will the friend or relative cope? If a cat died, how will the owner honor it? If someone lost their job, how will they find a new one?
Perhaps you can offer to take the recipient somewhere, such as visiting a hospital, gathering belongings, seeing a counselor, going to the police, or whatever is needed.
Make it plain what is likely to happen next, especially with relation to your own involvement. If you're a doctor delivering bad news about treatment, for example, you might outline the next steps for the patient continuing to visit you. Simply letting the person know when you'll be around or back again to check on them can be a help in and of itself.
Whatever promises you make to assist the person who has received bad news, be sure to follow through on what you've said you'll do.
Give the person your time where possible, and be accepting of their need to grieve where relevant.
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Be gentle and share information about the new development that can help shed more light for the person. \\nDon't ramble or make small talk. This is easier on the person receiving bad news than beating around the bush. Provide the story of what has happened (the narrative) to explain the events. Look the person(s) straight in the eye and calmly tell them what has happened.\\n1-3. Practice what you're going to say.\\nThis can help you to formulate the words you'd like to use, but be prepared to remain flexible and ready to adapt to the other person's cues. The words and your style of delivery are dependent on who you are, your relationship to the person you're breaking it to, and the context of the news.\\nIf there has been an accident and someone has died, practice saying so directly, but gently: \\\"I'm so sorry to tell you this; Michael was in a terrible car accident.\\\"\\nAim to give the person a little time to emotionally prepare for what you might tell them, and after they take a breath to collect themselves, they'll say, \\\"What happened?\\\" or \\\"How is he?\\\" Then follow up directly with, \\\"I'm so sorry, but he was killed.\\\"\\nIf you lost your job, say something like: I'm really sorry to have to say this but the company has been taken over by a bigger network. Then you follow up with, And I have unfortunately been made redundant.\\n2. Choosing the Right Context\\n2-1. Determine if you're the right person to break the news.\\nIf you're a casual acquaintance who has just happened to learn early about some breaking bad news, possibly you should not be the bearer of that news. But if you are the sister of a woman who has been rushed to hospital, then you are probably the right person to break the news to the rest of the family. \\nIt's insensitive to blast personal or sensitive information all over social media, for example, just because you know something. If the news relates to a death or other serious circumstance, give the family and close friends time to call or visit people personally before you jump in and get involved.\\n2-2. Ensure that the physical setting is comfortable and private.\\nThe worst thing that you can do is to blurt something out in a public space with nowhere for the recipient to turn or even sit down to cope with the aftermath of hearing it. Choose an area that has somewhere to sit or rest. Also, consider taking the person to a location that has a low likelihood of being intruded upon by other people. Other things to do to improve the environment include:\\nTurn off all electronic distractions such as the TV, radio, music, etc.\\nPull the blind or curtains if this will improve privacy but don't shut out too much light if it's daytime.\\nShut the door or pull across a screen or other item to create a private space for the two of you.\\nIf you think it would be helpful, have a family member or friend also accompany you.\\n2-3. Choose the right time if possible.\\nSometimes waiting isn't possible because the news has to be delivered immediately, before rumors start. However, if it is possible, delay the bad news until a time when the other person is available and receptive.\\nIn other words, delivering bad news as a person is coming in the door from a day of work or school, or after you've just had a huge row with your partner is not likely to be the best of times. While there is not \\\"good\\\" time to tell bad news, there is a point to waiting until a person is not in the middle of arriving or similar.\\nIf the news is of such import and urgency that it can't wait for a \\\"better time,\\\" just take a deep breath and break in to whatever is going on with something like, \\\"I need to speak with you, Jane, and I'm afraid it can't wait.\\\"\\nThe sense of urgency can also be imparted over the phone, but it is helpful to ask if it's possible to meet up quickly so that you can share the news face-to-face. If this isn't possible, or if the person really needs to know now, you're best asking the recipient if they're sitting down as you need to tell them something unpleasant. If you're worried about how they might cope alone, also suggest that they have someone else in the vicinity for support.\\n2-4. Assess how the recipient of the news is feeling beforehand.\\nIt is also important to find out what the person already knows, in order to avoid repeating things or prolonging an already difficult situation. This step is important because it will help you to tailor the words and approach you'll use to initiate the telling of the bad news.\\nThings to look for include whether the other person already seems to have an inkling that something bad is up, the presence of fear, anxiety, or worry, and whether or not this news is going to come from \\\"out of the blue\\\" (like a death in a car accident) or is something inevitable although not yet faced (like failure of a cancer treatment).\\nConsider what the bad news is. How bad is it? Are you trying to tell someone that their cat died, or that you lost your job? Has a family member or close friend died? If the bad news relates to you (such as you losing your job) the effects will be different than if the problem relates to them (such as their cat dying).\\n3. Delivering Bad News Effectively\\n3-1. Signal the bad news before you dive in.\\nA transitional statement can help the person get ready for unexpected bad news. Although you want to get to the point right away instead of beating around the bush, you do want to at least prepare the person for the prospect of upsetting news. \\nYou can use phrases such as: \\\"I have some sad news to tell you\\\", \\\"I've just received a call from the hospital: there has been an accident and...\\\"; or \\\"I've been talking to your specialist and...\\\", \\\"There is no easy way to say this but...\\\" or \\\"There's some really bad news you need to know...\\\" etc.\\n3-2. Offer comfort to the person, if appropriate.\\nAs you narrate the events, react to the emotions of the other person as they arise by acknowledging and addressing them. The most important part of breaking news is how well you respond to the other person's emotions.\\nMake the connection between the identification of the emotions and the cause, and make it clear to the recipient that you get the connection. Do this by acknowledging their response, such as \\\"This is a clearly a terrible shock\\\" or \\\"I can see that you're really upset and angry about what has happened\\\", and so forth.\\nDoing this lets the person know you get their pain or other reaction and that you've tied it to the news you've just relayed, without passing any judgment, making any assumptions, or trying to minimize their emotions.\\n3-3. Accept silence as a possible response.\\nEveryone won't ask questions or demand answers after hearing upsetting news. Some people may just sit there in shock. It may take time to let the news sink in. If he or she does that, place your arm around the person’s shoulders and simply sit with him or her in a display of sympathetic solidarity.\\nWhen comforting the person, keep in mind social and cultural conventions to avoid making the situation worse.\\n3-4. Decide what to do next.\\nIt's all very well delivering bad news but there must be a strategy for after delivery of it. Action can help prevent a person from going into a state of shock, and can give them a sense of being involved or doing something to resolve, manage, deal with, or face the results of the bad news. Help to decide how to handle the news. If a person has died, how will the friend or relative cope? If a cat died, how will the owner honor it? If someone lost their job, how will they find a new one?\\nPerhaps you can offer to take the recipient somewhere, such as visiting a hospital, gathering belongings, seeing a counselor, going to the police, or whatever is needed.\\nMake it plain what is likely to happen next, especially with relation to your own involvement. If you're a doctor delivering bad news about treatment, for example, you might outline the next steps for the patient continuing to visit you. Simply letting the person know when you'll be around or back again to check on them can be a help in and of itself.\\nWhatever promises you make to assist the person who has received bad news, be sure to follow through on what you've said you'll do.\\nGive the person your time where possible, and be accepting of their need to grieve where relevant.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Breaking bad news to someone is never a pleasant task. But, breaking it at the wrong time or in the wrong way can be even worse. It's important to know the best approaches to breaking bad news. The real difficulty (besides the content of the bad news) is that it is just as hard for the person breaking the bad news as it is for the person receiving it. Learn some methods to help you break bad news with the least amount of aggravation for both parties.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Selecting Your Words\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Work through your own reaction.\", \"描述\": \"Before preparing yourself to tell someone else, take care of yourself. The news may impact you, too. Or, it may disturb you considerably even if it doesn't impact you directly. It is important for you to have given yourself a chance to recover your feelings before you try to explain things to someone else.\\nPerhaps have a cup of coffee, take a shower, meditate or do deep breathing for a few minutes, or simply sit in a quiet dark place for some moments to give yourself the chance to pull together. Once you've moved past the initial shock, it'll be less intimidating to tell the other person but it's important to acknowledge that it may still be hard.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Decide on the narrative.\", \"描述\": \"Before you break some bad news, it's important to have an idea of how much you're willing and able to share. Be gentle and share information about the new development that can help shed more light for the person. \\nDon't ramble or make small talk. This is easier on the person receiving bad news than beating around the bush. Provide the story of what has happened (the narrative) to explain the events. Look the person(s) straight in the eye and calmly tell them what has happened.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Practice what you're going to say.\", \"描述\": \"This can help you to formulate the words you'd like to use, but be prepared to remain flexible and ready to adapt to the other person's cues. The words and your style of delivery are dependent on who you are, your relationship to the person you're breaking it to, and the context of the news.\\nIf there has been an accident and someone has died, practice saying so directly, but gently: \\\"I'm so sorry to tell you this; Michael was in a terrible car accident.\\\"\\nAim to give the person a little time to emotionally prepare for what you might tell them, and after they take a breath to collect themselves, they'll say, \\\"What happened?\\\" or \\\"How is he?\\\" Then follow up directly with, \\\"I'm so sorry, but he was killed.\\\"\\nIf you lost your job, say something like: I'm really sorry to have to say this but the company has been taken over by a bigger network. Then you follow up with, And I have unfortunately been made redundant.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Choosing the Right Context\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Determine if you're the right person to break the news.\", \"描述\": \"If you're a casual acquaintance who has just happened to learn early about some breaking bad news, possibly you should not be the bearer of that news. But if you are the sister of a woman who has been rushed to hospital, then you are probably the right person to break the news to the rest of the family. \\nIt's insensitive to blast personal or sensitive information all over social media, for example, just because you know something. If the news relates to a death or other serious circumstance, give the family and close friends time to call or visit people personally before you jump in and get involved.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Ensure that the physical setting is comfortable and private.\", \"描述\": \"The worst thing that you can do is to blurt something out in a public space with nowhere for the recipient to turn or even sit down to cope with the aftermath of hearing it. Choose an area that has somewhere to sit or rest. Also, consider taking the person to a location that has a low likelihood of being intruded upon by other people. Other things to do to improve the environment include:\\nTurn off all electronic distractions such as the TV, radio, music, etc.\\nPull the blind or curtains if this will improve privacy but don't shut out too much light if it's daytime.\\nShut the door or pull across a screen or other item to create a private space for the two of you.\\nIf you think it would be helpful, have a family member or friend also accompany you.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Choose the right time if possible.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes waiting isn't possible because the news has to be delivered immediately, before rumors start. However, if it is possible, delay the bad news until a time when the other person is available and receptive.\\nIn other words, delivering bad news as a person is coming in the door from a day of work or school, or after you've just had a huge row with your partner is not likely to be the best of times. While there is not \\\"good\\\" time to tell bad news, there is a point to waiting until a person is not in the middle of arriving or similar.\\nIf the news is of such import and urgency that it can't wait for a \\\"better time,\\\" just take a deep breath and break in to whatever is going on with something like, \\\"I need to speak with you, Jane, and I'm afraid it can't wait.\\\"\\nThe sense of urgency can also be imparted over the phone, but it is helpful to ask if it's possible to meet up quickly so that you can share the news face-to-face. If this isn't possible, or if the person really needs to know now, you're best asking the recipient if they're sitting down as you need to tell them something unpleasant. If you're worried about how they might cope alone, also suggest that they have someone else in the vicinity for support.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Assess how the recipient of the news is feeling beforehand.\", \"描述\": \"It is also important to find out what the person already knows, in order to avoid repeating things or prolonging an already difficult situation. This step is important because it will help you to tailor the words and approach you'll use to initiate the telling of the bad news.\\nThings to look for include whether the other person already seems to have an inkling that something bad is up, the presence of fear, anxiety, or worry, and whether or not this news is going to come from \\\"out of the blue\\\" (like a death in a car accident) or is something inevitable although not yet faced (like failure of a cancer treatment).\\nConsider what the bad news is. How bad is it? Are you trying to tell someone that their cat died, or that you lost your job? Has a family member or close friend died? If the bad news relates to you (such as you losing your job) the effects will be different than if the problem relates to them (such as their cat dying).\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Delivering Bad News Effectively\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Signal the bad news before you dive in.\", \"描述\": \"A transitional statement can help the person get ready for unexpected bad news. Although you want to get to the point right away instead of beating around the bush, you do want to at least prepare the person for the prospect of upsetting news. \\nYou can use phrases such as: \\\"I have some sad news to tell you\\\", \\\"I've just received a call from the hospital: there has been an accident and...\\\"; or \\\"I've been talking to your specialist and...\\\", \\\"There is no easy way to say this but...\\\" or \\\"There's some really bad news you need to know...\\\" etc.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Offer comfort to the person, if appropriate.\", \"描述\": \"As you narrate the events, react to the emotions of the other person as they arise by acknowledging and addressing them. The most important part of breaking news is how well you respond to the other person's emotions.\\nMake the connection between the identification of the emotions and the cause, and make it clear to the recipient that you get the connection. Do this by acknowledging their response, such as \\\"This is a clearly a terrible shock\\\" or \\\"I can see that you're really upset and angry about what has happened\\\", and so forth.\\nDoing this lets the person know you get their pain or other reaction and that you've tied it to the news you've just relayed, without passing any judgment, making any assumptions, or trying to minimize their emotions.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Accept silence as a possible response.\", \"描述\": \"Everyone won't ask questions or demand answers after hearing upsetting news. Some people may just sit there in shock. It may take time to let the news sink in. If he or she does that, place your arm around the person’s shoulders and simply sit with him or her in a display of sympathetic solidarity.\\nWhen comforting the person, keep in mind social and cultural conventions to avoid making the situation worse.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Decide what to do next.\", \"描述\": \"It's all very well delivering bad news but there must be a strategy for after delivery of it. Action can help prevent a person from going into a state of shock, and can give them a sense of being involved or doing something to resolve, manage, deal with, or face the results of the bad news. Help to decide how to handle the news. If a person has died, how will the friend or relative cope? If a cat died, how will the owner honor it? 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How to Break Bedrock in Minecraft
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1. Switching to Creative Mode
1-1. Start a game of Minecraft.
Click or tap the icon that resembles a grass block on your device. This launches a Minecraft on your device.
When switching to Creative Mode, you will not gain any more achievement points or trophies for your game.
1-2. Click Play.
It's the green button at the bottom of the Minecraft launcher (Java Edition) or the button at the top of the page (Windows 10, Mobile, Xbox, Nintendo Switch).
1-3. Click Single Player or Multiplayer (Java Edition only).
If you are playing the Java Edition of Minecraft, click multiplayer or singleplayer to see a list of saved games.
1-4. Click a survival mode game.
Click or tap a survival game to load the game in survival mode.
On the Playstation 4 Edition of Minecraft, you can select Creative Mode on the menu before loading your game.
1-5. Open the menu.
To open the menu, press Esc on PC and Mac. Tap the icon with two vertical lines at the top of the screen on mobile. Press the Menu button on Xbox One, and press the button on Nintendo Switch.
1-6. Select Settings.
It's in the menu on the Minecraft Bedrock Edition (Windows 10, mobile, Xbox One, and Nintendo Switch).
On Minecraft: Java Edition, select .
1-7. Click or tap the toggle switch next to "Activate Cheats".
This will allow cheats in your game.
On Minecraft: Java Edition, click .
1-8. Click or tap Continue.
This will allows cheats in your game.
On Minecraft: Java Edition, click
1-9. Return to your game.
Click the back arrow and then click to return to your game from the menu.
1-10. Open the chat.
To open the chat, press T on PC or Mac. Tap the icon that resembles a chat bubble at the top of the screen on mobile. Press the right button on the D-pad on Xbox One and Nintendo Switch.
1-11. Type /gamemode creative and press ↵ Enter.
This switches your game from Survival to Creative mode. In creative mode, you have unlimited resources and can break any block easily (including bedrock).
1-12. Click or press the left trigger on the block you want to break.
In creative mode, you should be able to easily destroy bedrock.
2. Building a Bedrock Smasher (Advanced/Java Edition Only)
2-1. Place a block on top of the piece of bedrock you want to break.
It can be any block. This serves as a marker to mark the block you want to break.
This method only works in Minecraft Java Edition 1.14.
2-2. Place a piston on one side of the marker block.
Place the piston on its side so that the head of the piston is against the marker block.
2-3. Place a sticky piston perpendicular to the other piston.
Again make sure the head of the piston is facing the marker block.
2-4. Remove the marker block.
Now that the pistons are set, go ahead and break the marker block. You should have two pistons with the heads perpendicular over the block you want to break.
2-5. Add 5 obsidian blocks to the left of the piston.
Obsidian is found where lava meets water in caves. You need a diamond pickaxe to mine obsidian.
2-6. Place 5 more obsidian blocks perpendicular at the end of the last obsidian block.
You should have a total of 10 obsidian blocks forming an L-shape. The heads of the pistons should be facing the large edge of the inside of the L.
2-7. Place a lever outside the last obsidian block.
The lever should go outside the L on the last obsidian block at the end.
2-8. Place an activator rail on the other end of the block with the lever.
The activator rails are the minecart tracks that are powered with redstone.
2-9. Place 10 redstone repeaters along the outside of the obsidian blocks.
The redstone repeaters should be placed on the outside of the obsidian blocks shaped like an L, starting with the obsidian block next to the lever and continuing all the way to the obsidian block next to the piston.
2-10. Set the redstone repeaters to their max setting.
To set each redstone repeater to their maximum setting, right-click each redstone repeater 3 times.
2-11. Connect the two sets of redstone repeaters with redstone.
Place redstone in the corner area in between the two sets of redstone repeaters outside the obsidian blocks to connect the two sets of redstone repeaters.
2-12. Place a minecart with TNT on the activator rail.
Use a crafting table to craft a minecart and TNT. Then use the crafting table to craft a minecart with TNT and place it on the activator rail.
2-13. Place a stone block behind the piston next to the obsidian blocks.
This will ensure that the piston extends.
2-14. Activate the lever and get to safety.
This will activate the TNT in the minecart giving you a short time to get to safety before it explodes. The obsidian blocks will shield the redstone repeaters from the blast. The redstone repeaters will delay the time until the piston extends. It should extend as the minecart explodes. This should destroy the head of the piston leaving you with a headless piston.
Do not turn the lever after the explosion. If you do, it will reset the piston and you will have to repeat the detonation once again.
On occasion the blast may destroy the entire piston. If this happens, you will need to set a new piston and try again.
2-15. Place a redstone block on top of the headless piston and turn the lever off.
The redstone block will keep the piston extended when you turn the lever off. After placing the block, turn the lever off.
2-16. Use redstone to connect the redstone repeaters to the other piston.
You can either break the block behind the headless piston, or you can place redstone around it. Place redstone on the ground to connect the last repeater to the second piston.
2-17. Place another minecart with TNT on the activator rail.
Craft another minecart with TNT and place it on the activator rail. This time you're going to blast the head off the second piston.
2-18. Activate the lever and get to safety.
This will detonate the minecart with TNT and blast the head off the second piston. Be sure to stand back a safe distance.
2-19. Place a block of redstone on top of the second piston.
This will prevent the piston from retracting and resetting when you turn off the lever.
2-20. Turn off the lever and remove the repeaters and obsidian blocks.
Once you have two headless pistons extended. You can remove the redstone repeaters and the obsidian blocks. They are no longer needed.
2-21. Place a piston over the block you want to break.
The head should extend facing upwards.
2-22. Stack 4 blocks next to the piston facing up.
Stand next to the piston and stack four solid blocks below you.
2-23. Remove all but the top block.
Use a pickaxe to delete all but the top block. You should have one block floating in the air.
2-24. Place a piston below the top block.
The head of the piston should be facing down towards the ground.
2-25. Hold shift and place another piston below the piston facing down.
You will need to hold shift to duck and place another piston under the piston you just placed. Again, the head of the piston should be facing down.
2-26. Place a redstone block next to the piston on top.
This will cause that piston to extend with the piston below it attached. You'll have a piston with the head against the ground.
2-27. Remove the top block, top piston, and the redstone block attached to it.
The top piston and redstone block are no longer needed. Go ahead and remove them.
2-28. Place a cobblestone block on the floor next to the piston.
Place a solid block on the ground next to the piston facing down across from the piston facing up.
2-29. Place three slime blocks in an L shape after the cobblestone block.
The last slime block should be to the left of the rest of other blocks and pistons.
2-30. Place a sticky piston next to the cobblestone block.
The head of the sticky should be facing the slime blocks.
2-31. Place four solid blocks behind the sticky piston.
You can use cobblestone or any other solid block.
2-32. Place two redstone comparators and two redstone repeaters in front of solid blocks.
While facing the blocks place the comparators and repeaters in front of the solid blocks in the following order from left to right: Comparator, repeater, comparator, repeater.
2-33. Place two more redstone comparators and repeaters in front of the other ones.
While facing the redstone comparators and repeaters you just laid down, place two more redstone comparators and repeaters in the following order: Repeater, repeater, comparator, comparator.
2-34. Place redstone in front of the redstone comparators and repeaters.
Place redstone on the ground in front of the front row of redstone comparators and repeaters so that they are connected.
2-35. Place a lever next to the redstone.
You can place it on the floor or any location that is connected to the redstone circuit.
2-36. Use redstone to connect the two headless pistons to the lever.
If the two headless pistons aren't still connected. Place some redstone on the ground to connect the two headless pistons to the lever.
2-37. Activate the lever.
This will power the redstone circuit and extend the sticky piston, connecting it to the green slime.
2-38. Remove the redstone blocks from atop the two headless pistons.
While the redstone circuit is still active. Remove the redstone blocks from atop the two headless pistons.
2-39. Deactivate the lever.
This will deactivate the circuit and retract the sticky piston and resetting the two headless pistons. If all works well you should end up with a hole in the bedrocks where the piston facing up was located.
This is not guaranteed to work every time. If it does not work. Unfortunately, you will have to do it all over again.
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Tap the icon with two vertical lines at the top of the screen on mobile. Press the Menu button on Xbox One, and press the button on Nintendo Switch.\\n1-6. Select Settings.\\nIt's in the menu on the Minecraft Bedrock Edition (Windows 10, mobile, Xbox One, and Nintendo Switch).\\nOn Minecraft: Java Edition, select .\\n1-7. Click or tap the toggle switch next to \\\"Activate Cheats\\\".\\nThis will allow cheats in your game.\\nOn Minecraft: Java Edition, click .\\n1-8. Click or tap Continue.\\nThis will allows cheats in your game.\\nOn Minecraft: Java Edition, click\\n1-9. Return to your game.\\nClick the back arrow and then click to return to your game from the menu.\\n1-10. Open the chat.\\nTo open the chat, press T on PC or Mac. Tap the icon that resembles a chat bubble at the top of the screen on mobile. Press the right button on the D-pad on Xbox One and Nintendo Switch.\\n1-11. Type /gamemode creative and press ↵ Enter.\\nThis switches your game from Survival to Creative mode. In creative mode, you have unlimited resources and can break any block easily (including bedrock).\\n1-12. Click or press the left trigger on the block you want to break.\\nIn creative mode, you should be able to easily destroy bedrock.\\n2. Building a Bedrock Smasher (Advanced/Java Edition Only)\\n2-1. Place a block on top of the piece of bedrock you want to break.\\nIt can be any block. This serves as a marker to mark the block you want to break.\\nThis method only works in Minecraft Java Edition 1.14.\\n2-2. Place a piston on one side of the marker block.\\nPlace the piston on its side so that the head of the piston is against the marker block.\\n2-3. Place a sticky piston perpendicular to the other piston.\\nAgain make sure the head of the piston is facing the marker block.\\n2-4. Remove the marker block.\\nNow that the pistons are set, go ahead and break the marker block. You should have two pistons with the heads perpendicular over the block you want to break.\\n2-5. Add 5 obsidian blocks to the left of the piston.\\nObsidian is found where lava meets water in caves. You need a diamond pickaxe to mine obsidian.\\n2-6. Place 5 more obsidian blocks perpendicular at the end of the last obsidian block.\\nYou should have a total of 10 obsidian blocks forming an L-shape. The heads of the pistons should be facing the large edge of the inside of the L.\\n2-7. Place a lever outside the last obsidian block.\\nThe lever should go outside the L on the last obsidian block at the end.\\n2-8. Place an activator rail on the other end of the block with the lever.\\nThe activator rails are the minecart tracks that are powered with redstone.\\n2-9. Place 10 redstone repeaters along the outside of the obsidian blocks.\\nThe redstone repeaters should be placed on the outside of the obsidian blocks shaped like an L, starting with the obsidian block next to the lever and continuing all the way to the obsidian block next to the piston.\\n2-10. Set the redstone repeaters to their max setting.\\nTo set each redstone repeater to their maximum setting, right-click each redstone repeater 3 times.\\n2-11. Connect the two sets of redstone repeaters with redstone.\\nPlace redstone in the corner area in between the two sets of redstone repeaters outside the obsidian blocks to connect the two sets of redstone repeaters.\\n2-12. Place a minecart with TNT on the activator rail.\\nUse a crafting table to craft a minecart and TNT. Then use the crafting table to craft a minecart with TNT and place it on the activator rail.\\n2-13. Place a stone block behind the piston next to the obsidian blocks.\\nThis will ensure that the piston extends.\\n2-14. Activate the lever and get to safety.\\nThis will activate the TNT in the minecart giving you a short time to get to safety before it explodes. The obsidian blocks will shield the redstone repeaters from the blast. The redstone repeaters will delay the time until the piston extends. It should extend as the minecart explodes. This should destroy the head of the piston leaving you with a headless piston.\\nDo not turn the lever after the explosion. If you do, it will reset the piston and you will have to repeat the detonation once again.\\nOn occasion the blast may destroy the entire piston. If this happens, you will need to set a new piston and try again.\\n2-15. Place a redstone block on top of the headless piston and turn the lever off.\\nThe redstone block will keep the piston extended when you turn the lever off. After placing the block, turn the lever off.\\n2-16. Use redstone to connect the redstone repeaters to the other piston.\\nYou can either break the block behind the headless piston, or you can place redstone around it. Place redstone on the ground to connect the last repeater to the second piston.\\n2-17. Place another minecart with TNT on the activator rail.\\nCraft another minecart with TNT and place it on the activator rail. This time you're going to blast the head off the second piston.\\n2-18. Activate the lever and get to safety.\\nThis will detonate the minecart with TNT and blast the head off the second piston. Be sure to stand back a safe distance.\\n2-19. Place a block of redstone on top of the second piston.\\nThis will prevent the piston from retracting and resetting when you turn off the lever.\\n2-20. Turn off the lever and remove the repeaters and obsidian blocks.\\nOnce you have two headless pistons extended. You can remove the redstone repeaters and the obsidian blocks. They are no longer needed.\\n2-21. Place a piston over the block you want to break.\\nThe head should extend facing upwards.\\n2-22. Stack 4 blocks next to the piston facing up.\\nStand next to the piston and stack four solid blocks below you.\\n2-23. Remove all but the top block.\\nUse a pickaxe to delete all but the top block. You should have one block floating in the air.\\n2-24. Place a piston below the top block.\\nThe head of the piston should be facing down towards the ground.\\n2-25. Hold shift and place another piston below the piston facing down.\\nYou will need to hold shift to duck and place another piston under the piston you just placed. Again, the head of the piston should be facing down.\\n2-26. Place a redstone block next to the piston on top.\\nThis will cause that piston to extend with the piston below it attached. You'll have a piston with the head against the ground.\\n2-27. Remove the top block, top piston, and the redstone block attached to it.\\nThe top piston and redstone block are no longer needed. Go ahead and remove them.\\n2-28. Place a cobblestone block on the floor next to the piston.\\nPlace a solid block on the ground next to the piston facing down across from the piston facing up.\\n2-29. Place three slime blocks in an L shape after the cobblestone block.\\nThe last slime block should be to the left of the rest of other blocks and pistons.\\n2-30. Place a sticky piston next to the cobblestone block.\\nThe head of the sticky should be facing the slime blocks.\\n2-31. Place four solid blocks behind the sticky piston.\\nYou can use cobblestone or any other solid block.\\n2-32. Place two redstone comparators and two redstone repeaters in front of solid blocks.\\nWhile facing the blocks place the comparators and repeaters in front of the solid blocks in the following order from left to right: Comparator, repeater, comparator, repeater.\\n2-33. Place two more redstone comparators and repeaters in front of the other ones.\\nWhile facing the redstone comparators and repeaters you just laid down, place two more redstone comparators and repeaters in the following order: Repeater, repeater, comparator, comparator.\\n2-34. Place redstone in front of the redstone comparators and repeaters.\\nPlace redstone on the ground in front of the front row of redstone comparators and repeaters so that they are connected.\\n2-35. Place a lever next to the redstone.\\nYou can place it on the floor or any location that is connected to the redstone circuit.\\n2-36. Use redstone to connect the two headless pistons to the lever.\\nIf the two headless pistons aren't still connected. Place some redstone on the ground to connect the two headless pistons to the lever.\\n2-37. Activate the lever.\\nThis will power the redstone circuit and extend the sticky piston, connecting it to the green slime.\\n2-38. Remove the redstone blocks from atop the two headless pistons.\\nWhile the redstone circuit is still active. Remove the redstone blocks from atop the two headless pistons.\\n2-39. Deactivate the lever.\\nThis will deactivate the circuit and retract the sticky piston and resetting the two headless pistons. If all works well you should end up with a hole in the bedrocks where the piston facing up was located.\\nThis is not guaranteed to work every time. If it does not work. Unfortunately, you will have to do it all over again.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"In Minecraft, Bedrock is supposed to be unbreakable. It lines the bottom of the overworld and top and bottom of the Nether. In creative mode, you can easily break bedrock the same as you would any other block. In Survival Mode, the only way to break bedrock is to find glitches in the game to exploit to break bedrock. Unfortunately, Mojang keeps patching these exploits out of the game. This wikiHow teaches you how to break bedrock in Minecraft 1.14. This only works in Minecraft Java Edition.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Switching to Creative Mode\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Start a game of Minecraft.\", \"描述\": \"Click or tap the icon that resembles a grass block on your device. This launches a Minecraft on your device.\\n When switching to Creative Mode, you will not gain any more achievement points or trophies for your game.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Click Play.\", \"描述\": \"It's the green button at the bottom of the Minecraft launcher (Java Edition) or the button at the top of the page (Windows 10, Mobile, Xbox, Nintendo Switch).\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Click Single Player or Multiplayer (Java Edition only).\", \"描述\": \"If you are playing the Java Edition of Minecraft, click multiplayer or singleplayer to see a list of saved games.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Click a survival mode game.\", \"描述\": \"Click or tap a survival game to load the game in survival mode.\\nOn the Playstation 4 Edition of Minecraft, you can select Creative Mode on the menu before loading your game.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Open the menu.\", \"描述\": \"To open the menu, press Esc on PC and Mac. Tap the icon with two vertical lines at the top of the screen on mobile. Press the Menu button on Xbox One, and press the button on Nintendo Switch.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Select Settings.\", \"描述\": \"It's in the menu on the Minecraft Bedrock Edition (Windows 10, mobile, Xbox One, and Nintendo Switch).\\nOn Minecraft: Java Edition, select .\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Click or tap the toggle switch next to \\\"Activate Cheats\\\".\", \"描述\": \"This will allow cheats in your game.\\nOn Minecraft: Java Edition, click .\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Click or tap Continue.\", \"描述\": \"This will allows cheats in your game.\\nOn Minecraft: Java Edition, click\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Return to your game.\", \"描述\": \"Click the back arrow and then click to return to your game from the menu.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Open the chat.\", \"描述\": \"To open the chat, press T on PC or Mac. Tap the icon that resembles a chat bubble at the top of the screen on mobile. Press the right button on the D-pad on Xbox One and Nintendo Switch.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Type /gamemode creative and press ↵ Enter.\", \"描述\": \"This switches your game from Survival to Creative mode. In creative mode, you have unlimited resources and can break any block easily (including bedrock).\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Click or press the left trigger on the block you want to break.\", \"描述\": \"In creative mode, you should be able to easily destroy bedrock.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Building a Bedrock Smasher (Advanced/Java Edition Only)\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Place a block on top of the piece of bedrock you want to break.\", \"描述\": \"It can be any block. This serves as a marker to mark the block you want to break.\\nThis method only works in Minecraft Java Edition 1.14.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Place a piston on one side of the marker block.\", \"描述\": \"Place the piston on its side so that the head of the piston is against the marker block.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Place a sticky piston perpendicular to the other piston.\", \"描述\": \"Again make sure the head of the piston is facing the marker block.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Remove the marker block.\", \"描述\": \"Now that the pistons are set, go ahead and break the marker block. You should have two pistons with the heads perpendicular over the block you want to break.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Add 5 obsidian blocks to the left of the piston.\", \"描述\": \"Obsidian is found where lava meets water in caves. You need a diamond pickaxe to mine obsidian.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Place 5 more obsidian blocks perpendicular at the end of the last obsidian block.\", \"描述\": \"You should have a total of 10 obsidian blocks forming an L-shape. The heads of the pistons should be facing the large edge of the inside of the L.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Place a lever outside the last obsidian block.\", \"描述\": \"The lever should go outside the L on the last obsidian block at the end.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Place an activator rail on the other end of the block with the lever.\", \"描述\": \"The activator rails are the minecart tracks that are powered with redstone.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Place 10 redstone repeaters along the outside of the obsidian blocks.\", \"描述\": \"The redstone repeaters should be placed on the outside of the obsidian blocks shaped like an L, starting with the obsidian block next to the lever and continuing all the way to the obsidian block next to the piston.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Set the redstone repeaters to their max setting.\", \"描述\": \"To set each redstone repeater to their maximum setting, right-click each redstone repeater 3 times.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Connect the two sets of redstone repeaters with redstone.\", \"描述\": \"Place redstone in the corner area in between the two sets of redstone repeaters outside the obsidian blocks to connect the two sets of redstone repeaters.\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Place a minecart with TNT on the activator rail.\", \"描述\": \"Use a crafting table to craft a minecart and TNT. Then use the crafting table to craft a minecart with TNT and place it on the activator rail.\"}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Place a stone block behind the piston next to the obsidian blocks.\", \"描述\": \"This will ensure that the piston extends.\"}, {\"编号\": 14, \"标题\": \"Activate the lever and get to safety.\", \"描述\": \"This will activate the TNT in the minecart giving you a short time to get to safety before it explodes. The obsidian blocks will shield the redstone repeaters from the blast. The redstone repeaters will delay the time until the piston extends. It should extend as the minecart explodes. This should destroy the head of the piston leaving you with a headless piston.\\nDo not turn the lever after the explosion. If you do, it will reset the piston and you will have to repeat the detonation once again.\\nOn occasion the blast may destroy the entire piston. If this happens, you will need to set a new piston and try again.\"}, {\"编号\": 15, \"标题\": \"Place a redstone block on top of the headless piston and turn the lever off.\", \"描述\": \"The redstone block will keep the piston extended when you turn the lever off. After placing the block, turn the lever off.\"}, {\"编号\": 16, \"标题\": \"Use redstone to connect the redstone repeaters to the other piston.\", \"描述\": \"You can either break the block behind the headless piston, or you can place redstone around it. Place redstone on the ground to connect the last repeater to the second piston.\"}, {\"编号\": 17, \"标题\": \"Place another minecart with TNT on the activator rail.\", \"描述\": \"Craft another minecart with TNT and place it on the activator rail. This time you're going to blast the head off the second piston.\"}, {\"编号\": 18, \"标题\": \"Activate the lever and get to safety.\", \"描述\": \"This will detonate the minecart with TNT and blast the head off the second piston. Be sure to stand back a safe distance.\"}, {\"编号\": 19, \"标题\": \"Place a block of redstone on top of the second piston.\", \"描述\": \"This will prevent the piston from retracting and resetting when you turn off the lever.\"}, {\"编号\": 20, \"标题\": \"Turn off the lever and remove the repeaters and obsidian blocks.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have two headless pistons extended. You can remove the redstone repeaters and the obsidian blocks. They are no longer needed.\"}, {\"编号\": 21, \"标题\": \"Place a piston over the block you want to break.\", \"描述\": \"The head should extend facing upwards.\"}, {\"编号\": 22, \"标题\": \"Stack 4 blocks next to the piston facing up.\", \"描述\": \"Stand next to the piston and stack four solid blocks below you.\"}, {\"编号\": 23, \"标题\": \"Remove all but the top block.\", \"描述\": \"Use a pickaxe to delete all but the top block. You should have one block floating in the air.\"}, {\"编号\": 24, \"标题\": \"Place a piston below the top block.\", \"描述\": \"The head of the piston should be facing down towards the ground.\"}, {\"编号\": 25, \"标题\": \"Hold shift and place another piston below the piston facing down.\", \"描述\": \"You will need to hold shift to duck and place another piston under the piston you just placed. Again, the head of the piston should be facing down.\"}, {\"编号\": 26, \"标题\": \"Place a redstone block next to the piston on top.\", \"描述\": \"This will cause that piston to extend with the piston below it attached. You'll have a piston with the head against the ground.\"}, {\"编号\": 27, \"标题\": \"Remove the top block, top piston, and the redstone block attached to it.\", \"描述\": \"The top piston and redstone block are no longer needed. Go ahead and remove them.\"}, {\"编号\": 28, \"标题\": \"Place a cobblestone block on the floor next to the piston.\", \"描述\": \"Place a solid block on the ground next to the piston facing down across from the piston facing up.\"}, {\"编号\": 29, \"标题\": \"Place three slime blocks in an L shape after the cobblestone block.\", \"描述\": \"The last slime block should be to the left of the rest of other blocks and pistons.\"}, {\"编号\": 30, \"标题\": \"Place a sticky piston next to the cobblestone block.\", \"描述\": \"The head of the sticky should be facing the slime blocks.\"}, {\"编号\": 31, \"标题\": \"Place four solid blocks behind the sticky piston.\", \"描述\": \"You can use cobblestone or any other solid block.\"}, {\"编号\": 32, \"标题\": \"Place two redstone comparators and two redstone repeaters in front of solid blocks.\", \"描述\": \"While facing the blocks place the comparators and repeaters in front of the solid blocks in the following order from left to right: Comparator, repeater, comparator, repeater.\"}, {\"编号\": 33, \"标题\": \"Place two more redstone comparators and repeaters in front of the other ones.\", \"描述\": \"While facing the redstone comparators and repeaters you just laid down, place two more redstone comparators and repeaters in the following order: Repeater, repeater, comparator, comparator.\"}, {\"编号\": 34, \"标题\": \"Place redstone in front of the redstone comparators and repeaters.\", \"描述\": \"Place redstone on the ground in front of the front row of redstone comparators and repeaters so that they are connected.\"}, {\"编号\": 35, \"标题\": \"Place a lever next to the redstone.\", \"描述\": \"You can place it on the floor or any location that is connected to the redstone circuit.\"}, {\"编号\": 36, \"标题\": \"Use redstone to connect the two headless pistons to the lever.\", \"描述\": \"If the two headless pistons aren't still connected. Place some redstone on the ground to connect the two headless pistons to the lever.\"}, {\"编号\": 37, \"标题\": \"Activate the lever.\", \"描述\": \"This will power the redstone circuit and extend the sticky piston, connecting it to the green slime.\"}, {\"编号\": 38, \"标题\": \"Remove the redstone blocks from atop the two headless pistons.\", \"描述\": \"While the redstone circuit is still active. Remove the redstone blocks from atop the two headless pistons.\"}, {\"编号\": 39, \"标题\": \"Deactivate the lever.\", \"描述\": \"This will deactivate the circuit and retract the sticky piston and resetting the two headless pistons. If all works well you should end up with a hole in the bedrocks where the piston facing up was located.\\nThis is not guaranteed to work every time. If it does not work. Unfortunately, you will have to do it all over again.\"}]}]}}",
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How to Break Big Rocks
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1. Using a Sledgehammer
1-1. Place the rock onto a flat surface, if possible.
If you can manage to move the rock, try and move it so that it's in on a flat surface where it has little chance of moving once you hit it a few times.
As a point of safety you should always try and prevent stray pieces of large rock rolling out of your control, such as down a hill where it may pose a danger to others.
Before you begin you should also examine your sledgehammer to make sure there are no cracks in the shaft or head. If there are, there's a chance the head may detach, becoming a potential safety hazard.
1-2. Pick a point on the rock to hit.
The key to breaking a rock with a sledgehammer is to apply repeated pressure to a specific point of its surface, forcing it to crack. Pick a spot that is close and you think you can hit multiple times in a row.
It doesn't particularly matter whether the spot you choose is flat or rounded, as long as it's a location that you are sure you can hit it several times with little difficulty.
1-3. Hold the sledgehammer correctly.
Pop culture has generally misinformed us on how to hold a sledgehammer. Make sure to hold the butt end of the sledgehammer shaft with your non-dominant hand and just below the head of the sledgehammer with your dominant hand.
This technique ensures maximum safety and control in the swing. Your dominant hand will control the accuracy, your non dominant hand provides balance in the swing and the rest of your body provides the power of the swing.
1-4. Swing the sledgehammer a full 180 degrees to hit the rock.
Starting slow, swing the sledgehammer above your head and down onto the rock using your arms and legs to do the majority of the lifting. Keep hitting the same spot again and again. Eventually, a small fault line will appear on the surface of the rock. Once it does, you are close to breaking it in two.
Take a few practice swings with little force to make sure you're confident with the weight of the sledgehammer.
Be patient and persistent, there is no set amount of times you'll need to hit it.
2. Breaking Rocks with a Regular Hammer
2-1. Put the rock inside a heavy canvas bag.
If the rock you wish to break is small enough to fit inside a large canvas bag or even a pillowcase, place it in slowly and tie it closed on the open end.
2-2. Lay the case with the rock in it onto solid ground.
You will be applying strong pressure to the rocks, so you want to be sure that the bag doesn't move around or that you may damage the surface underneath the bag.
A garden lawn, gravel or most ground outside is ideal as it is unlikely to be damaged by a hammer.
2-3. Knock the rock gently with the hammer.
Get a feel for where the rock is within the casing and make sure you can visually see it. Practice the swinging motion on the rock with little force to get an idea for what you're going to do.
2-4. Break the rocks with the hammer by hitting the casing accurately.
Bring the hammer down progressively harder onto the covered rock so that it will eventually crack.
Don't worry if it doesn't fall apart immediately, it's more important that you consistently hit the same spot repeatedly.
If you decide not to use a heavy case or a pillowcase, make sure you are using a specialised rock hammer which is specifically made for this job.
2-5. Lay the broken rock onto a tray.
Once the rock is broken to a point where you are satisfied, undo the open end of the bag and pour the rock fragments into a tray.
Take a deep breath in before you open the bag. There's a strong chance dust will pour out once you tip the case downwards which you want to avoid breathing in.
When finished, wash the bag out thoroughly with hot water if you intend to reuse it.
3. Splitting an Embedded Boulder
3-1. Remove the dirt around the boulder.
With a boulder that's embedded within soil, it's important that you have a good idea of how large or small the boulder is. With a shovel, dig away all the dirt around the boulder the expose its general shape and size.
3-2. Drill several ⁄2 inch (1.3 cm) diameter holes into the surface of the rock and remove dust.
While wearing goggles, drill a series of evenly spaced holes across the surface of the rock.
Then, use a bulb-type syringe to remove the excess dust within the small holes.
3-3. Drive the chisel and feathers into the holes.
Ease a chisel into each drilled hole with two 'feathers' on either side that will help insert it. Use a small hammer to lightly tap on the top of the chisel to make sure that it's firmly implanted in the rock.
3-4. Hammer on the chisels to break the rock.
Depending on the size of the rock, use a hammer or sledgehammer to hammer in the chisels into their respective holes, alternating between them on each swing.
After a while, a large crack should appear within the rock.
3-5. Pry open the rock with a crowbar.
Using a long crowbar, jam the slanted edge into one of the fissures and pry the rock apart to speed up the process.
The rock may not pry apart on the first attempt. If you need to, try hammering in the chisels a little further to increase the fracturing of the rock then try prying it open again.
Warnings
Wear gloves and goggles. Appropriate safety gear is vital when dealing with heavy tools or objects, especially as shards of rock or dust can be propelled from the rock at great speed. If anyone is observing you ask them to step back to a safe distance so that there is no risk of injury.
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Pick a spot that is close and you think you can hit multiple times in a row.\\nIt doesn't particularly matter whether the spot you choose is flat or rounded, as long as it's a location that you are sure you can hit it several times with little difficulty.\\n1-3. Hold the sledgehammer correctly.\\nPop culture has generally misinformed us on how to hold a sledgehammer. Make sure to hold the butt end of the sledgehammer shaft with your non-dominant hand and just below the head of the sledgehammer with your dominant hand.\\nThis technique ensures maximum safety and control in the swing. Your dominant hand will control the accuracy, your non dominant hand provides balance in the swing and the rest of your body provides the power of the swing.\\n1-4. Swing the sledgehammer a full 180 degrees to hit the rock.\\nStarting slow, swing the sledgehammer above your head and down onto the rock using your arms and legs to do the majority of the lifting. Keep hitting the same spot again and again. Eventually, a small fault line will appear on the surface of the rock. Once it does, you are close to breaking it in two.\\nTake a few practice swings with little force to make sure you're confident with the weight of the sledgehammer.\\nBe patient and persistent, there is no set amount of times you'll need to hit it.\\n2. Breaking Rocks with a Regular Hammer\\n2-1. Put the rock inside a heavy canvas bag.\\nIf the rock you wish to break is small enough to fit inside a large canvas bag or even a pillowcase, place it in slowly and tie it closed on the open end.\\n2-2. Lay the case with the rock in it onto solid ground.\\nYou will be applying strong pressure to the rocks, so you want to be sure that the bag doesn't move around or that you may damage the surface underneath the bag.\\nA garden lawn, gravel or most ground outside is ideal as it is unlikely to be damaged by a hammer.\\n2-3. Knock the rock gently with the hammer.\\nGet a feel for where the rock is within the casing and make sure you can visually see it. Practice the swinging motion on the rock with little force to get an idea for what you're going to do.\\n2-4. Break the rocks with the hammer by hitting the casing accurately.\\nBring the hammer down progressively harder onto the covered rock so that it will eventually crack.\\nDon't worry if it doesn't fall apart immediately, it's more important that you consistently hit the same spot repeatedly.\\nIf you decide not to use a heavy case or a pillowcase, make sure you are using a specialised rock hammer which is specifically made for this job.\\n2-5. Lay the broken rock onto a tray.\\nOnce the rock is broken to a point where you are satisfied, undo the open end of the bag and pour the rock fragments into a tray.\\nTake a deep breath in before you open the bag. There's a strong chance dust will pour out once you tip the case downwards which you want to avoid breathing in.\\nWhen finished, wash the bag out thoroughly with hot water if you intend to reuse it.\\n3. Splitting an Embedded Boulder\\n3-1. Remove the dirt around the boulder.\\nWith a boulder that's embedded within soil, it's important that you have a good idea of how large or small the boulder is. With a shovel, dig away all the dirt around the boulder the expose its general shape and size.\\n3-2. Drill several ⁄2 inch (1.3 cm) diameter holes into the surface of the rock and remove dust.\\nWhile wearing goggles, drill a series of evenly spaced holes across the surface of the rock.\\nThen, use a bulb-type syringe to remove the excess dust within the small holes.\\n3-3. Drive the chisel and feathers into the holes.\\nEase a chisel into each drilled hole with two 'feathers' on either side that will help insert it. Use a small hammer to lightly tap on the top of the chisel to make sure that it's firmly implanted in the rock.\\n3-4. Hammer on the chisels to break the rock.\\nDepending on the size of the rock, use a hammer or sledgehammer to hammer in the chisels into their respective holes, alternating between them on each swing.\\nAfter a while, a large crack should appear within the rock.\\n3-5. Pry open the rock with a crowbar.\\nUsing a long crowbar, jam the slanted edge into one of the fissures and pry the rock apart to speed up the process.\\nThe rock may not pry apart on the first attempt. If you need to, try hammering in the chisels a little further to increase the fracturing of the rock then try prying it open again.\\nWarnings\\nWear gloves and goggles. Appropriate safety gear is vital when dealing with heavy tools or objects, especially as shards of rock or dust can be propelled from the rock at great speed. If anyone is observing you ask them to step back to a safe distance so that there is no risk of injury.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Rocks are infamously durable and can be an eyesore in a garden, in a landscaping project or it may just be in the way. The problem usually is that the rock is too heavily embedded or it's simply too heavy to lift or roll out of the way. By breaking a rock you can decrease the load and remove it in a safer manner.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Using a Sledgehammer\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Place the rock onto a flat surface, if possible.\", \"描述\": \"If you can manage to move the rock, try and move it so that it's in on a flat surface where it has little chance of moving once you hit it a few times.\\nAs a point of safety you should always try and prevent stray pieces of large rock rolling out of your control, such as down a hill where it may pose a danger to others.\\nBefore you begin you should also examine your sledgehammer to make sure there are no cracks in the shaft or head. If there are, there's a chance the head may detach, becoming a potential safety hazard.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pick a point on the rock to hit.\", \"描述\": \"The key to breaking a rock with a sledgehammer is to apply repeated pressure to a specific point of its surface, forcing it to crack. 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How to Break Boards with Your Bare Hands
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1. Choosing and Situating the Board
1-1. Wrap boards with foam or canvas to condition your hands.
Before trying to break a board, you need to start toughening up your hands. Punching a slab of wood for the first time may only result in bloody knuckles, so it’s best to prepare your hands before attempting the break. You can do this by wrapping a post or wooden board with foam.
For a tougher surface, wrap the board in canvas or twine.
1-2. Practice your speed using a punching bag at first.
When you break a board, you want your hands aligned correctly and your speed to be fast so that the board will definitely break. Before using boards, practice striking a punching bag to develop the right technique. Practice hitting faster and stronger each time, and hold your hand in the correct position depending on which strike you’re using.
1-3. Use boards made out of pine without any knots.
Pine is a very soft type of wood, making it ideal for splitting in half with your hand. Look for a pine board that is 0.75 to 1 inch (1.9 to 2.5 cm) thick, with a 1 foot (30 cm) diagonal. Choose a piece of pine that doesn’t have any knots in it, as hitting the knots could hurt your hand.
You can also buy rebreakable boards to practice on that will snap back together once they break. These can be found online and cost $20-$80.
1-4. Secure the board so that it doesn’t move.
To prevent any hand injuries, you want your piece of pine to stay still when you go to break it. Either have someone hold the board steadily with 2 hands, or place the board evenly on concrete blocks so that the board is stable.
If someone is holding the board for you, they should have 1 hand on either side of the board, gripping the edges while keeping their fingers out of the way. Their feet should be positioned one in front of the other to provide better stability.
Spread the concrete blocks out so that there’s 0.5 inches (1.3 cm) of board on each block, and make sure the blocks are tall enough so that you don’t hurt your hand when striking through.
1-5. Situate the board so that it breaks along the wood’s natural grain.
A board will split in half much more easily if it’s hit along its natural grain. The type of strike you plan on using will dictate how the board should be held.
For a knife hand strike or straight punch, the grain should be positioned horizontally, being secured on the top and bottom of the board.
For a palm heel strike, the grain should be going vertically with support on either side.
1-6. Position your body correctly.
Your stance is important for making sure your strike is successful. Both of your feet should be planted firmly on the ground, with them spread slightly apart, 1 foot ahead of the other. Your back foot should be supporting 70% of your weight. With correct footwork, your strike will maintain its speed and strength.
You should be twisting your hips into the strike.
1-7. Measure the distance needed between you and the board.
To make sure you’re not too close or too far away, check to see if you have a good distance between you and the board. Stand firmly on the ground and then practice throwing out your arm while someone is either holding the board or it’s secured on cement blocks.
When you extend your arm as you would when striking, your hand should reach a few inches beyond the board. If you extend your arm and it just touches the board, you need to move up a couple of inches.
Make sure your hand is aimed at the center of the board.
2. Choosing a Strike
2-1. Use a palm heel strike for your first board break.
Palm heel strikes are the best for beginners, as they’re easiest on your hands and shouldn’t result in any injuries. When using a palm heel strike, tilt your wrist back so that the heel of your palm is out and hold your fingers up to keep them out of the way.
Be mindful about bending your fingers inwards when doing a palm heel strike — this could cause them to break.
The board should be held with the grain running vertically and a hand on each side.
2-2. Choose a knife hand strike to break the board with the side of your hand.
To do a knife hand strike, hold your hand flat so that it looks like the edge of a knife. Squeeze the sides of your fingers together so that they’re touching one another and bend them inwards slightly. You’ll strike with the outside edge of your hand, near where your palm is.
The grain of the board should be running horizontally.
2-3. Opt for a straight punch to break the board with your knuckles.
If you want to go with a regular punch when breaking the board, you’ll need to line up your wrist so that it’s even and you’re using the right knuckles. When creating a fist, your palm should be facing downwards. If you bend your wrist inwards too far or strike using just your outer knuckles, you’ll end up injuring your hand.
Don't keep your thumb in the middle of your palm. Place it on the outside of your hand to avoid breaking or injuring it.
For a straight punch, the grain should be positioned horizontally.
3. Breaking the Board
3-1. Release all fears and commit to breaking the board.
If you’re scared of injuring yourself when you hit the board, you aren’t going to be successful. Clear your mind and tell yourself that you will break the board. If you believe this, your hand won’t hesitate when it gets close to the board, and your speed shouldn’t slow down, resulting in a clean break.
3-2. Focus on speed, not power.
While having strong hands won’t hurt, the key to a successful board break is your speed. You want to hit the board as fast as possible, as this is what causes the board to break. Practice striking over and over again on either a bag or a board wrapped in foam. Increase your speed each time, striking faster and faster.
3-3. Aim at a point beyond the board.
You shouldn’t think of the board as your final target — otherwise, your hand will slow down once it gets close to the board, and the board won’t break. Focus at a point beyond the board and aim for that spot when you strike. This will keep your momentum going as you strike through the board instead of at it.
Since you’re aiming beyond the board, make sure your distance is set up to reflect this. Your body shouldn’t be set up to only reach the board, you should be reaching through beyond the board.
3-4. Yell as you strike to release more energy.
The kiai that martial artists often emit when striking is not just for show or to startle the opponent. The contraction of the diaphragm and torso muscles can be used to put more power in your strike. When you yell as you strike, you’re releasing stored energy, giving your strike more strength.
3-5. Maintain your follow-through.
Once you make contact with the board, you need to keep your momentum going and finish the strike all the way through. If you stop as soon as you feel the board, you might not end up breaking it completely, and you could injure your hand.
3-6. Keep trying if you don’t immediately break the board.
Not everyone breaks a board on their first try, so don’t give up. If you’ve conditioned your hand, practiced the right technique, and feel confident that you can break the board, you’ll be able to. Try not to feel discouraged by failed attempts and keep trying.
Tips
To learn more details behind breaking boards with your bare hands, as well as proper demonstrations and help, enroll in a martial arts class.
Get cheap, fragile wood that are easy to break
You can wear safety equipment like wrist guards/boxer's crepe for hand techniques and anklet for a foot technique if you are new to breaking. Do believe in yourself, stay focused and enjoy the moment. Breaking boards are fun!
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Choosing and Situating the Board\\n1-1. Wrap boards with foam or canvas to condition your hands.\\nBefore trying to break a board, you need to start toughening up your hands. Punching a slab of wood for the first time may only result in bloody knuckles, so it’s best to prepare your hands before attempting the break. You can do this by wrapping a post or wooden board with foam. \\nFor a tougher surface, wrap the board in canvas or twine.\\n1-2. Practice your speed using a punching bag at first.\\nWhen you break a board, you want your hands aligned correctly and your speed to be fast so that the board will definitely break. Before using boards, practice striking a punching bag to develop the right technique. Practice hitting faster and stronger each time, and hold your hand in the correct position depending on which strike you’re using.\\n1-3. Use boards made out of pine without any knots.\\nPine is a very soft type of wood, making it ideal for splitting in half with your hand. Look for a pine board that is 0.75 to 1 inch (1.9 to 2.5 cm) thick, with a 1 foot (30 cm) diagonal. Choose a piece of pine that doesn’t have any knots in it, as hitting the knots could hurt your hand.\\nYou can also buy rebreakable boards to practice on that will snap back together once they break. These can be found online and cost $20-$80.\\n1-4. Secure the board so that it doesn’t move.\\nTo prevent any hand injuries, you want your piece of pine to stay still when you go to break it. Either have someone hold the board steadily with 2 hands, or place the board evenly on concrete blocks so that the board is stable.\\nIf someone is holding the board for you, they should have 1 hand on either side of the board, gripping the edges while keeping their fingers out of the way. Their feet should be positioned one in front of the other to provide better stability.\\nSpread the concrete blocks out so that there’s 0.5 inches (1.3 cm) of board on each block, and make sure the blocks are tall enough so that you don’t hurt your hand when striking through.\\n1-5. Situate the board so that it breaks along the wood’s natural grain.\\nA board will split in half much more easily if it’s hit along its natural grain. The type of strike you plan on using will dictate how the board should be held.\\nFor a knife hand strike or straight punch, the grain should be positioned horizontally, being secured on the top and bottom of the board.\\nFor a palm heel strike, the grain should be going vertically with support on either side.\\n1-6. Position your body correctly.\\nYour stance is important for making sure your strike is successful. Both of your feet should be planted firmly on the ground, with them spread slightly apart, 1 foot ahead of the other. Your back foot should be supporting 70% of your weight. With correct footwork, your strike will maintain its speed and strength.\\nYou should be twisting your hips into the strike.\\n1-7. Measure the distance needed between you and the board.\\nTo make sure you’re not too close or too far away, check to see if you have a good distance between you and the board. Stand firmly on the ground and then practice throwing out your arm while someone is either holding the board or it’s secured on cement blocks.\\nWhen you extend your arm as you would when striking, your hand should reach a few inches beyond the board. If you extend your arm and it just touches the board, you need to move up a couple of inches.\\nMake sure your hand is aimed at the center of the board.\\n2. Choosing a Strike\\n2-1. Use a palm heel strike for your first board break.\\nPalm heel strikes are the best for beginners, as they’re easiest on your hands and shouldn’t result in any injuries. When using a palm heel strike, tilt your wrist back so that the heel of your palm is out and hold your fingers up to keep them out of the way.\\nBe mindful about bending your fingers inwards when doing a palm heel strike — this could cause them to break.\\nThe board should be held with the grain running vertically and a hand on each side.\\n2-2. Choose a knife hand strike to break the board with the side of your hand.\\nTo do a knife hand strike, hold your hand flat so that it looks like the edge of a knife. Squeeze the sides of your fingers together so that they’re touching one another and bend them inwards slightly. You’ll strike with the outside edge of your hand, near where your palm is.\\nThe grain of the board should be running horizontally.\\n2-3. Opt for a straight punch to break the board with your knuckles.\\nIf you want to go with a regular punch when breaking the board, you’ll need to line up your wrist so that it’s even and you’re using the right knuckles. When creating a fist, your palm should be facing downwards. If you bend your wrist inwards too far or strike using just your outer knuckles, you’ll end up injuring your hand.\\nDon't keep your thumb in the middle of your palm. Place it on the outside of your hand to avoid breaking or injuring it.\\nFor a straight punch, the grain should be positioned horizontally.\\n3. Breaking the Board\\n3-1. Release all fears and commit to breaking the board.\\nIf you’re scared of injuring yourself when you hit the board, you aren’t going to be successful. Clear your mind and tell yourself that you will break the board. If you believe this, your hand won’t hesitate when it gets close to the board, and your speed shouldn’t slow down, resulting in a clean break.\\n3-2. Focus on speed, not power.\\nWhile having strong hands won’t hurt, the key to a successful board break is your speed. You want to hit the board as fast as possible, as this is what causes the board to break. Practice striking over and over again on either a bag or a board wrapped in foam. Increase your speed each time, striking faster and faster.\\n3-3. Aim at a point beyond the board.\\nYou shouldn’t think of the board as your final target — otherwise, your hand will slow down once it gets close to the board, and the board won’t break. Focus at a point beyond the board and aim for that spot when you strike. This will keep your momentum going as you strike through the board instead of at it. \\nSince you’re aiming beyond the board, make sure your distance is set up to reflect this. Your body shouldn’t be set up to only reach the board, you should be reaching through beyond the board.\\n3-4. Yell as you strike to release more energy.\\nThe kiai that martial artists often emit when striking is not just for show or to startle the opponent. The contraction of the diaphragm and torso muscles can be used to put more power in your strike. When you yell as you strike, you’re releasing stored energy, giving your strike more strength.\\n3-5. Maintain your follow-through.\\nOnce you make contact with the board, you need to keep your momentum going and finish the strike all the way through. If you stop as soon as you feel the board, you might not end up breaking it completely, and you could injure your hand.\\n3-6. Keep trying if you don’t immediately break the board.\\nNot everyone breaks a board on their first try, so don’t give up. If you’ve conditioned your hand, practiced the right technique, and feel confident that you can break the board, you’ll be able to. Try not to feel discouraged by failed attempts and keep trying.\\nTips\\nTo learn more details behind breaking boards with your bare hands, as well as proper demonstrations and help, enroll in a martial arts class.\\nGet cheap, fragile wood that are easy to break\\nYou can wear safety equipment like wrist guards/boxer's crepe for hand techniques and anklet for a foot technique if you are new to breaking. Do believe in yourself, stay focused and enjoy the moment. Breaking boards are fun!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Learning how to break boards with your bare hands can be done right at home. Start by conditioning your hands to get them ready for striking, and make sure your board is set up properly and safely. By having confidence in your ability to break the board and following some simple strategies, you'll soon master the martial arts stunt of board-breaking.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Choosing and Situating the Board\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wrap boards with foam or canvas to condition your hands.\", \"描述\": \"Before trying to break a board, you need to start toughening up your hands. Punching a slab of wood for the first time may only result in bloody knuckles, so it’s best to prepare your hands before attempting the break. You can do this by wrapping a post or wooden board with foam. \\nFor a tougher surface, wrap the board in canvas or twine.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Practice your speed using a punching bag at first.\", \"描述\": \"When you break a board, you want your hands aligned correctly and your speed to be fast so that the board will definitely break. Before using boards, practice striking a punching bag to develop the right technique. Practice hitting faster and stronger each time, and hold your hand in the correct position depending on which strike you’re using.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Use boards made out of pine without any knots.\", \"描述\": \"Pine is a very soft type of wood, making it ideal for splitting in half with your hand. Look for a pine board that is 0.75 to 1 inch (1.9 to 2.5 cm) thick, with a 1 foot (30 cm) diagonal. Choose a piece of pine that doesn’t have any knots in it, as hitting the knots could hurt your hand.\\nYou can also buy rebreakable boards to practice on that will snap back together once they break. These can be found online and cost $20-$80.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Secure the board so that it doesn’t move.\", \"描述\": \"To prevent any hand injuries, you want your piece of pine to stay still when you go to break it. Either have someone hold the board steadily with 2 hands, or place the board evenly on concrete blocks so that the board is stable.\\nIf someone is holding the board for you, they should have 1 hand on either side of the board, gripping the edges while keeping their fingers out of the way. Their feet should be positioned one in front of the other to provide better stability.\\nSpread the concrete blocks out so that there’s 0.5 inches (1.3 cm) of board on each block, and make sure the blocks are tall enough so that you don’t hurt your hand when striking through.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Situate the board so that it breaks along the wood’s natural grain.\", \"描述\": \"A board will split in half much more easily if it’s hit along its natural grain. The type of strike you plan on using will dictate how the board should be held.\\nFor a knife hand strike or straight punch, the grain should be positioned horizontally, being secured on the top and bottom of the board.\\nFor a palm heel strike, the grain should be going vertically with support on either side.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Position your body correctly.\", \"描述\": \"Your stance is important for making sure your strike is successful. Both of your feet should be planted firmly on the ground, with them spread slightly apart, 1 foot ahead of the other. Your back foot should be supporting 70% of your weight. With correct footwork, your strike will maintain its speed and strength.\\nYou should be twisting your hips into the strike.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Measure the distance needed between you and the board.\", \"描述\": \"To make sure you’re not too close or too far away, check to see if you have a good distance between you and the board. Stand firmly on the ground and then practice throwing out your arm while someone is either holding the board or it’s secured on cement blocks.\\nWhen you extend your arm as you would when striking, your hand should reach a few inches beyond the board. If you extend your arm and it just touches the board, you need to move up a couple of inches.\\nMake sure your hand is aimed at the center of the board.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Choosing a Strike\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Use a palm heel strike for your first board break.\", \"描述\": \"Palm heel strikes are the best for beginners, as they’re easiest on your hands and shouldn’t result in any injuries. When using a palm heel strike, tilt your wrist back so that the heel of your palm is out and hold your fingers up to keep them out of the way.\\nBe mindful about bending your fingers inwards when doing a palm heel strike — this could cause them to break.\\nThe board should be held with the grain running vertically and a hand on each side.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Choose a knife hand strike to break the board with the side of your hand.\", \"描述\": \"To do a knife hand strike, hold your hand flat so that it looks like the edge of a knife. Squeeze the sides of your fingers together so that they’re touching one another and bend them inwards slightly. You’ll strike with the outside edge of your hand, near where your palm is.\\nThe grain of the board should be running horizontally.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Opt for a straight punch to break the board with your knuckles.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to go with a regular punch when breaking the board, you’ll need to line up your wrist so that it’s even and you’re using the right knuckles. When creating a fist, your palm should be facing downwards. If you bend your wrist inwards too far or strike using just your outer knuckles, you’ll end up injuring your hand.\\nDon't keep your thumb in the middle of your palm. Place it on the outside of your hand to avoid breaking or injuring it.\\nFor a straight punch, the grain should be positioned horizontally.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Breaking the Board\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Release all fears and commit to breaking the board.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re scared of injuring yourself when you hit the board, you aren’t going to be successful. Clear your mind and tell yourself that you will break the board. If you believe this, your hand won’t hesitate when it gets close to the board, and your speed shouldn’t slow down, resulting in a clean break.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Focus on speed, not power.\", \"描述\": \"While having strong hands won’t hurt, the key to a successful board break is your speed. You want to hit the board as fast as possible, as this is what causes the board to break. Practice striking over and over again on either a bag or a board wrapped in foam. Increase your speed each time, striking faster and faster.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Aim at a point beyond the board.\", \"描述\": \"You shouldn’t think of the board as your final target — otherwise, your hand will slow down once it gets close to the board, and the board won’t break. Focus at a point beyond the board and aim for that spot when you strike. This will keep your momentum going as you strike through the board instead of at it. \\nSince you’re aiming beyond the board, make sure your distance is set up to reflect this. Your body shouldn’t be set up to only reach the board, you should be reaching through beyond the board.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Yell as you strike to release more energy.\", \"描述\": \"The kiai that martial artists often emit when striking is not just for show or to startle the opponent. The contraction of the diaphragm and torso muscles can be used to put more power in your strike. When you yell as you strike, you’re releasing stored energy, giving your strike more strength.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Maintain your follow-through.\", \"描述\": \"Once you make contact with the board, you need to keep your momentum going and finish the strike all the way through. 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How to Break Bulletproof Glass
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1. Firing Multiple Handgun Rounds to Shatter Bulletproof Glass
1-1. Keep at least 30 yards (27 m) from the glass when firing a handgun at it.
Bullets that ricochet off of the bulletproof glass can bounce back in the direction from which they’re fired. Maintain a safe distance from the target to avoid being hit by a ricocheting bullet. Make sure to also wear eye and ear protection when firing a handgun.
If you’re firing a high-powered handgun, increase this distance to 40–50 yards (37–46 m).
1-2. Shoot 3–5 rounds of handgun ammunition at the glass.
Some types of relatively thin bulletproof glass are designed to only withstand a single round of gunfire from a firearm. So, keep shooting, since multiple bullets impacting in the same location may be enough to break through a thin sheet of bulletproof glass.
If you’re shooting a mid-power handgun like a 9 mm, you may need to fire 3-5 rounds to break through thin bulletproof glass. However, a high-power handgun like a 44 magnum may penetrate with 2 shots.
Be sure to wear noise-blocking earplugs and eye protection to avoid damaging your hearing or vision when firing a handgun.
1-3. Keep your aim steady
Aiming well is relatively straightforward whether you’re shooting a handgun or a rifle. Line up the firearm’s sights on the target and exhale slowly when you aim to keep the sights steady. Gently squeeze the trigger while shooting. Never jerk the trigger, or you’ll ruin the shot.
If you fire 8 rounds (a full magazine for most handguns), but they all hit different spots on the bulletproof glass, it’s unlikely that the glass will break. Aiming accurately will prevent this from happening.
1-4. Fire 2–3 magazines of ammo at the glass if it doesn’t shatter after 1 magazine.
If you empty a full magazine into the glass and it’s still holding together, keep on firing. Thicker bulletproof glass can withstand quite a few rounds fired into it, so try emptying multiple magazines into the glass.
The number of rounds needed to penetrate bulletproof glass can vary widely with the thickness and type of glass.
2. Using Rifles and High-Power Ammo
2-1. Keep at least 50 yards (46 m) away from the target to avoid ricochets.
Many of the rounds you fire at the bulletproof glass will not pass through it, and some may ricochet. To avoid these bullets, keep a safe distance from the target. Also wear eye and ear protection whenever you’re firing a gun, no matter the caliber.
If you’re shooting a rifle with a scope, you may be able to fire at the glass from as far as 100–200 yards (91–183 m) away. This will increase your safety.
2-2. Fire .308 or .30-06 rifle rounds to break most bulletproof glass panes.
While high-powered handguns, like a .44 magnum or a .45, are more powerful than smaller handgun calibers, even these can’t match the power of a rifle. Try using a standard rifle round like a .308 to break the glass. You’ll certainly need a rifle to break tough polycarbonate or glass-clad polycarbonate glass.
These rounds can be purchased at most gun or sporting goods stores. You could also shoot rounds of comparable power including the .270 Winchester and the .30-06.
When you purchase polycarbonate or glass-clad polycarbonate bulletproof glass, look to see what caliber of ammunition it’s rated to deflect. For example, if your glass will repel a .44 magnum round, rifle rounds more powerful than a .44 handgun should break the glass.
Bulletproof glass is manufactured in 3 different types: acrylic, polycarbonate, and glass-clad polycarbonate. To make glass-clad polycarbonate, manufacturers laminate sheets of glass on either side of a sheet of polycarbonate to produce a heavy, effective material. You can identify this material by looking for the thin, laminated layers of plastic and glass that make up the composite polycarbonate.
2-3. Try using a high-powered .50 caliber rifle to break bulletproof glass.
If a moderately powerful caliber rifle bullet like the .308 doesn’t break bulletproof glass, try something a little more powerful. For example, a powerful .50 caliber rifle could penetrate thin bulletproof glass with 1 round, and could break thicker glass with several rounds. This should penetrate any type of polycarbonate glass.
Other high-powered rifle calibers include the .460 Weatherby Magnum, the .700 Nitro Express, the .475 A&M Magnum, and the .338 Winchester Magnum.
Polycarbonate glass is a type of plastic. You can identify polycarbonate by its transparency and weight. It’s clear and weighs only about half as much as both acrylic and glass-clad polycarbonate.
2-4. Use armor-piercing rounds to maximize your rifle’s power.
Armor-piercing rounds are commonly used by military and police personnel and are designed to blast through thick, protective armor. While bulletproof glass isn’t the same as armor, the armor-piercing rounds will still be more likely to break it than ordinary bullets.
You can purchase armor-piercing rounds at a local gun or sporting goods store.
2-5. Shoot an explosive round to break multiple layers of thick bulletproof glass.
As their name suggests, military-grade explosive rounds detonate on impact and will shatter the object they’re fired into. This type of super high-power ammunition will break through even the thickest 5-pane bulletproof glass.
Other types of armor-piercing or explosive rounds will also be more effective in shattering bulletproof glass than ordinary rounds. Experiment with various types of high-powered rounds to see what’s most effective.
Explosive rounds are harder to acquire than armor-piercing rounds. A gun or sporting-goods store may be able to special order a box.
3. Shattering Bulletproof Glass without Firearms
3-1. Hit acrylic bulletproof glass for 5 minutes with a sledgehammer.
Due to differences in their construction, some types of bulletproof glass are vulnerable to blunt objects, while others aren’t. Blunt objects like sledgehammers will not be able to break through polycarbonate or glass-clad polycarbonate bulletproof glass, but can break through acrylic material.
If you’re purchasing your own piece of bulletproof glass to break, you should be able to choose the type and thickness of the glass.
Otherwise, you can identify acrylic glass by its location and appearance. Acrylic glass is actually made of very hard plastic. It’s most commonly used indoors (e.g., to shield bank tellers) and has a dark, almost tinted, color.
3-2. Fire a rocket-propelled grenade (RPG) at bulletproof glass to blow it apart.
While bulletproof glass is great at stopping handgun rounds, it’s ineffective against explosive grenades. So, if you hit the glass with an RPG or any other type of hand-launched explosive device, it’s sure to be utterly destroyed. The RPG can blast through as many as 16 separate layers of bulletproof glass.
Unless you’re in the military, there is most likely no safe, legal way to acquire an RPG.
3-3. Break bulletproof glass with explosives like dynamite or C4.
Most varieties of detonating materials will almost certainly break through many layers of bulletproof glass. Set these explosives within about 3 feet (0.91 m) of the glass to maximize their effectiveness. While some types of bulletproof glass are rated “Blast resistant,” they’re likely not strong enough to withstand C4 or dynamite exploding only a few feet away.
These types of explosives are also difficult—and often illegal—to come by. Unless you’re in a position to legally and safely use dynamite or C4, stick to breaking glass with firearms.
Use extreme caution when detonating explosives. After lighting the fuse (or before detonating C4), make sure you’re at least 250 feet (76 m) away from the blast site.
Tips
The toughness of bulletproof glass depends on the material’s thickness. Thin glass—usually about 3 centimetres (1.2 in)—will break more easily than will a very thick pane. At its thickest, bulletproof glass reaches 8 centimetres (3.1 in).[17]
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Warnings
Remember to always take the necessary safety precautions when using firearms. Always treat firearms as if they’re loaded and keep the muzzle pointed down-range and away from people.
Only attempt to shoot through bulletproof glass in a safe testing setting.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Firing Multiple Handgun Rounds to Shatter Bulletproof Glass\\n1-1. Keep at least 30 yards (27 m) from the glass when firing a handgun at it.\\nBullets that ricochet off of the bulletproof glass can bounce back in the direction from which they’re fired. Maintain a safe distance from the target to avoid being hit by a ricocheting bullet. Make sure to also wear eye and ear protection when firing a handgun.\\nIf you’re firing a high-powered handgun, increase this distance to 40–50 yards (37–46 m).\\n1-2. Shoot 3–5 rounds of handgun ammunition at the glass.\\nSome types of relatively thin bulletproof glass are designed to only withstand a single round of gunfire from a firearm. So, keep shooting, since multiple bullets impacting in the same location may be enough to break through a thin sheet of bulletproof glass.\\nIf you’re shooting a mid-power handgun like a 9 mm, you may need to fire 3-5 rounds to break through thin bulletproof glass. However, a high-power handgun like a 44 magnum may penetrate with 2 shots.\\nBe sure to wear noise-blocking earplugs and eye protection to avoid damaging your hearing or vision when firing a handgun.\\n1-3. Keep your aim steady\\nAiming well is relatively straightforward whether you’re shooting a handgun or a rifle. Line up the firearm’s sights on the target and exhale slowly when you aim to keep the sights steady. Gently squeeze the trigger while shooting. Never jerk the trigger, or you’ll ruin the shot.\\nIf you fire 8 rounds (a full magazine for most handguns), but they all hit different spots on the bulletproof glass, it’s unlikely that the glass will break. Aiming accurately will prevent this from happening.\\n1-4. Fire 2–3 magazines of ammo at the glass if it doesn’t shatter after 1 magazine.\\nIf you empty a full magazine into the glass and it’s still holding together, keep on firing. Thicker bulletproof glass can withstand quite a few rounds fired into it, so try emptying multiple magazines into the glass.\\nThe number of rounds needed to penetrate bulletproof glass can vary widely with the thickness and type of glass.\\n2. Using Rifles and High-Power Ammo\\n2-1. Keep at least 50 yards (46 m) away from the target to avoid ricochets.\\nMany of the rounds you fire at the bulletproof glass will not pass through it, and some may ricochet. To avoid these bullets, keep a safe distance from the target. Also wear eye and ear protection whenever you’re firing a gun, no matter the caliber.\\nIf you’re shooting a rifle with a scope, you may be able to fire at the glass from as far as 100–200 yards (91–183 m) away. This will increase your safety.\\n2-2. Fire .308 or .30-06 rifle rounds to break most bulletproof glass panes.\\nWhile high-powered handguns, like a .44 magnum or a .45, are more powerful than smaller handgun calibers, even these can’t match the power of a rifle. Try using a standard rifle round like a .308 to break the glass. You’ll certainly need a rifle to break tough polycarbonate or glass-clad polycarbonate glass.\\nThese rounds can be purchased at most gun or sporting goods stores. You could also shoot rounds of comparable power including the .270 Winchester and the .30-06.\\nWhen you purchase polycarbonate or glass-clad polycarbonate bulletproof glass, look to see what caliber of ammunition it’s rated to deflect. For example, if your glass will repel a .44 magnum round, rifle rounds more powerful than a .44 handgun should break the glass.\\nBulletproof glass is manufactured in 3 different types: acrylic, polycarbonate, and glass-clad polycarbonate. To make glass-clad polycarbonate, manufacturers laminate sheets of glass on either side of a sheet of polycarbonate to produce a heavy, effective material. You can identify this material by looking for the thin, laminated layers of plastic and glass that make up the composite polycarbonate.\\n2-3. Try using a high-powered .50 caliber rifle to break bulletproof glass.\\nIf a moderately powerful caliber rifle bullet like the .308 doesn’t break bulletproof glass, try something a little more powerful. For example, a powerful .50 caliber rifle could penetrate thin bulletproof glass with 1 round, and could break thicker glass with several rounds. This should penetrate any type of polycarbonate glass.\\nOther high-powered rifle calibers include the .460 Weatherby Magnum, the .700 Nitro Express, the .475 A&M Magnum, and the .338 Winchester Magnum.\\nPolycarbonate glass is a type of plastic. You can identify polycarbonate by its transparency and weight. It’s clear and weighs only about half as much as both acrylic and glass-clad polycarbonate.\\n2-4. Use armor-piercing rounds to maximize your rifle’s power.\\nArmor-piercing rounds are commonly used by military and police personnel and are designed to blast through thick, protective armor. While bulletproof glass isn’t the same as armor, the armor-piercing rounds will still be more likely to break it than ordinary bullets.\\nYou can purchase armor-piercing rounds at a local gun or sporting goods store.\\n2-5. Shoot an explosive round to break multiple layers of thick bulletproof glass.\\nAs their name suggests, military-grade explosive rounds detonate on impact and will shatter the object they’re fired into. This type of super high-power ammunition will break through even the thickest 5-pane bulletproof glass.\\nOther types of armor-piercing or explosive rounds will also be more effective in shattering bulletproof glass than ordinary rounds. Experiment with various types of high-powered rounds to see what’s most effective.\\nExplosive rounds are harder to acquire than armor-piercing rounds. A gun or sporting-goods store may be able to special order a box.\\n3. Shattering Bulletproof Glass without Firearms\\n3-1. Hit acrylic bulletproof glass for 5 minutes with a sledgehammer.\\nDue to differences in their construction, some types of bulletproof glass are vulnerable to blunt objects, while others aren’t. Blunt objects like sledgehammers will not be able to break through polycarbonate or glass-clad polycarbonate bulletproof glass, but can break through acrylic material.\\nIf you’re purchasing your own piece of bulletproof glass to break, you should be able to choose the type and thickness of the glass.\\nOtherwise, you can identify acrylic glass by its location and appearance. Acrylic glass is actually made of very hard plastic. It’s most commonly used indoors (e.g., to shield bank tellers) and has a dark, almost tinted, color.\\n3-2. Fire a rocket-propelled grenade (RPG) at bulletproof glass to blow it apart.\\nWhile bulletproof glass is great at stopping handgun rounds, it’s ineffective against explosive grenades. So, if you hit the glass with an RPG or any other type of hand-launched explosive device, it’s sure to be utterly destroyed. The RPG can blast through as many as 16 separate layers of bulletproof glass.\\nUnless you’re in the military, there is most likely no safe, legal way to acquire an RPG.\\n3-3. Break bulletproof glass with explosives like dynamite or C4.\\nMost varieties of detonating materials will almost certainly break through many layers of bulletproof glass. Set these explosives within about 3 feet (0.91 m) of the glass to maximize their effectiveness. While some types of bulletproof glass are rated “Blast resistant,” they’re likely not strong enough to withstand C4 or dynamite exploding only a few feet away.\\nThese types of explosives are also difficult—and often illegal—to come by. Unless you’re in a position to legally and safely use dynamite or C4, stick to breaking glass with firearms.\\nUse extreme caution when detonating explosives. After lighting the fuse (or before detonating C4), make sure you’re at least 250 feet (76 m) away from the blast site.\\nTips\\nThe toughness of bulletproof glass depends on the material’s thickness. Thin glass—usually about 3 centimetres (1.2 in)—will break more easily than will a very thick pane. At its thickest, bulletproof glass reaches 8 centimetres (3.1 in).[17]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nWarnings\\nRemember to always take the necessary safety precautions when using firearms. Always treat firearms as if they’re loaded and keep the muzzle pointed down-range and away from people.\\nOnly attempt to shoot through bulletproof glass in a safe testing setting.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Bulletproof glass (known more accurately as ballistic glass) is designed to absorb the force of a bullet rather than breaking apart. If you’re determined to break through the glass, you can do so by shooting the glass multiple times in the same location or by shooting the glass with a high-powered rifle. If you’re breaking through multiple layers of bulletproof glass, try using a high-powered rifle round.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Firing Multiple Handgun Rounds to Shatter Bulletproof Glass\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep at least 30 yards (27 m) from the glass when firing a handgun at it.\", \"描述\": \"Bullets that ricochet off of the bulletproof glass can bounce back in the direction from which they’re fired. Maintain a safe distance from the target to avoid being hit by a ricocheting bullet. Make sure to also wear eye and ear protection when firing a handgun.\\nIf you’re firing a high-powered handgun, increase this distance to 40–50 yards (37–46 m).\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Shoot 3–5 rounds of handgun ammunition at the glass.\", \"描述\": \"Some types of relatively thin bulletproof glass are designed to only withstand a single round of gunfire from a firearm. So, keep shooting, since multiple bullets impacting in the same location may be enough to break through a thin sheet of bulletproof glass.\\nIf you’re shooting a mid-power handgun like a 9 mm, you may need to fire 3-5 rounds to break through thin bulletproof glass. However, a high-power handgun like a 44 magnum may penetrate with 2 shots.\\nBe sure to wear noise-blocking earplugs and eye protection to avoid damaging your hearing or vision when firing a handgun.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keep your aim steady\", \"描述\": \"Aiming well is relatively straightforward whether you’re shooting a handgun or a rifle. Line up the firearm’s sights on the target and exhale slowly when you aim to keep the sights steady. Gently squeeze the trigger while shooting. Never jerk the trigger, or you’ll ruin the shot.\\nIf you fire 8 rounds (a full magazine for most handguns), but they all hit different spots on the bulletproof glass, it’s unlikely that the glass will break. Aiming accurately will prevent this from happening.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Fire 2–3 magazines of ammo at the glass if it doesn’t shatter after 1 magazine.\", \"描述\": \"If you empty a full magazine into the glass and it’s still holding together, keep on firing. Thicker bulletproof glass can withstand quite a few rounds fired into it, so try emptying multiple magazines into the glass.\\nThe number of rounds needed to penetrate bulletproof glass can vary widely with the thickness and type of glass.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Using Rifles and High-Power Ammo\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep at least 50 yards (46 m) away from the target to avoid ricochets.\", \"描述\": \"Many of the rounds you fire at the bulletproof glass will not pass through it, and some may ricochet. To avoid these bullets, keep a safe distance from the target. Also wear eye and ear protection whenever you’re firing a gun, no matter the caliber.\\nIf you’re shooting a rifle with a scope, you may be able to fire at the glass from as far as 100–200 yards (91–183 m) away. This will increase your safety.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Fire .308 or .30-06 rifle rounds to break most bulletproof glass panes.\", \"描述\": \"While high-powered handguns, like a .44 magnum or a .45, are more powerful than smaller handgun calibers, even these can’t match the power of a rifle. Try using a standard rifle round like a .308 to break the glass. You’ll certainly need a rifle to break tough polycarbonate or glass-clad polycarbonate glass.\\nThese rounds can be purchased at most gun or sporting goods stores. You could also shoot rounds of comparable power including the .270 Winchester and the .30-06.\\nWhen you purchase polycarbonate or glass-clad polycarbonate bulletproof glass, look to see what caliber of ammunition it’s rated to deflect. For example, if your glass will repel a .44 magnum round, rifle rounds more powerful than a .44 handgun should break the glass.\\nBulletproof glass is manufactured in 3 different types: acrylic, polycarbonate, and glass-clad polycarbonate. To make glass-clad polycarbonate, manufacturers laminate sheets of glass on either side of a sheet of polycarbonate to produce a heavy, effective material. You can identify this material by looking for the thin, laminated layers of plastic and glass that make up the composite polycarbonate.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Try using a high-powered .50 caliber rifle to break bulletproof glass.\", \"描述\": \"If a moderately powerful caliber rifle bullet like the .308 doesn’t break bulletproof glass, try something a little more powerful. For example, a powerful .50 caliber rifle could penetrate thin bulletproof glass with 1 round, and could break thicker glass with several rounds. This should penetrate any type of polycarbonate glass.\\nOther high-powered rifle calibers include the .460 Weatherby Magnum, the .700 Nitro Express, the .475 A&M Magnum, and the .338 Winchester Magnum.\\nPolycarbonate glass is a type of plastic. You can identify polycarbonate by its transparency and weight. It’s clear and weighs only about half as much as both acrylic and glass-clad polycarbonate.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Use armor-piercing rounds to maximize your rifle’s power.\", \"描述\": \"Armor-piercing rounds are commonly used by military and police personnel and are designed to blast through thick, protective armor. While bulletproof glass isn’t the same as armor, the armor-piercing rounds will still be more likely to break it than ordinary bullets.\\nYou can purchase armor-piercing rounds at a local gun or sporting goods store.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Shoot an explosive round to break multiple layers of thick bulletproof glass.\", \"描述\": \"As their name suggests, military-grade explosive rounds detonate on impact and will shatter the object they’re fired into. This type of super high-power ammunition will break through even the thickest 5-pane bulletproof glass.\\nOther types of armor-piercing or explosive rounds will also be more effective in shattering bulletproof glass than ordinary rounds. Experiment with various types of high-powered rounds to see what’s most effective.\\nExplosive rounds are harder to acquire than armor-piercing rounds. A gun or sporting-goods store may be able to special order a box.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Shattering Bulletproof Glass without Firearms\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Hit acrylic bulletproof glass for 5 minutes with a sledgehammer.\", \"描述\": \"Due to differences in their construction, some types of bulletproof glass are vulnerable to blunt objects, while others aren’t. Blunt objects like sledgehammers will not be able to break through polycarbonate or glass-clad polycarbonate bulletproof glass, but can break through acrylic material.\\nIf you’re purchasing your own piece of bulletproof glass to break, you should be able to choose the type and thickness of the glass.\\nOtherwise, you can identify acrylic glass by its location and appearance. Acrylic glass is actually made of very hard plastic. It’s most commonly used indoors (e.g., to shield bank tellers) and has a dark, almost tinted, color.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Fire a rocket-propelled grenade (RPG) at bulletproof glass to blow it apart.\", \"描述\": \"While bulletproof glass is great at stopping handgun rounds, it’s ineffective against explosive grenades. So, if you hit the glass with an RPG or any other type of hand-launched explosive device, it’s sure to be utterly destroyed. The RPG can blast through as many as 16 separate layers of bulletproof glass.\\nUnless you’re in the military, there is most likely no safe, legal way to acquire an RPG.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Break bulletproof glass with explosives like dynamite or C4.\", \"描述\": \"Most varieties of detonating materials will almost certainly break through many layers of bulletproof glass. Set these explosives within about 3 feet (0.91 m) of the glass to maximize their effectiveness. While some types of bulletproof glass are rated “Blast resistant,” they’re likely not strong enough to withstand C4 or dynamite exploding only a few feet away.\\nThese types of explosives are also difficult—and often illegal—to come by. Unless you’re in a position to legally and safely use dynamite or C4, stick to breaking glass with firearms.\\nUse extreme caution when detonating explosives. After lighting the fuse (or before detonating C4), make sure you’re at least 250 feet (76 m) away from the blast site.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"The toughness of bulletproof glass depends on the material’s thickness. Thin glass—usually about 3 centimetres (1.2 in)—will break more easily than will a very thick pane. At its thickest, bulletproof glass reaches 8 centimetres (3.1 in).[17]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Remember to always take the necessary safety precautions when using firearms. Always treat firearms as if they’re loaded and keep the muzzle pointed down-range and away from people.\\n\", \"Only attempt to shoot through bulletproof glass in a safe testing setting.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Break Down Clay Soil Fast
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1. Aerating Clay Soil
1-1. Wait to aerate your soil until it’s completely wet or dry.
Since one of the biggest problems with clay soil is poor drainage, it’s most difficult to work with when the ground is partially damp. Hold off on turning the soil until it either dries out to the point of cracking or softens up enough to get your shovel or tiller through easily.
The fall months are a good time to aerate your soil, as conditions tend to be drier.
If you attempt to work clay soil while it’s still wet, you’ll most likely just end up with a sticky, impenetrable mess on your hands (and shovel).
1-2. Turn the soil thoroughly before adding your amendment of choice.
Thrust the tip of the shovel or trowel blade into the ground, scooping up a small amount of soil as you pull it back out. Repeat this churning action over every part of your garden where you intend to put down plants. You can turn your soil as often as needed, provided you follow up with an application of high-quality amendments, or materials used to condition the soil and improve its physical properties.
Avoid working your soil without adding amendments immediately afterwards. Doing so will only cause you to end up with a mass of oversized soil clumps that are still unsuitable for planting.
You can also use a push tiller to cover more ground in less time, if you have one.
1-3. Remove any large rocks you come across.
If you happen to uncover a pocket of large rocks while working your soil, stop and pull them out by hand. Rocks are a pain for many reasons—they act as a barrier for water, take up valuable space that could be used to incorporate nutrient-rich amendments, and can even damage your aeration tools if they make contact at just the right angle.
Make it a point to remove all rocks bigger than about 6–8 inches (15–20 cm) in diameter.
Rather than just discarding the rocks you find, you might use them to build a small retaining wall, ring a pond, or line an outdoor walkway.
2. Adding Fast-Acting Amendments
2-1. Work organic compost into your freshly-turned soil.
After loosening surface of the soil, pile on 2–3 inches (5.1–7.6 cm) of compost and use your shovel to spread it around until it’s distributed evenly. Compost comes highly recommended by experienced gardeners for improving clay soil due to its soft texture and abundance of organic nutrients.
Not only will compost introduce vital nutrients to the soil to feed your plants, the decaying plant matter will also help break up the clay particulate surrounding them.
Consider starting your own compost heap or bin somewhere near your garden. That way, you’ll always have a ready supply on hand.
2-2. Add 1 pound (450 g) of biochar for every 10 pounds (4.5 kg) of soil.
The term “biochar” refers to organic material that’s been burnt at a low temperature to form charcoal. Charred plant matter has a light, porous structure that’s perfect for promoting drainage while also infusing a generous amount of healthy carbon and nitrogen into the soil.
You can make your own biochar at home by slow-burning sticks, leaves, weeds, and other brush under a thin layer of soil, then collecting the remnants.
The ashes from your fireplace, fire pit, or wood burning stove can also the serve many of the same functions as biochar.
2-3. Spread manure over planned planting sites that are lacking in nutrients.
As you probably already know, manure is one of the best fertilizers there is. Like compost and biochar, it’s useful for filling dense soil with beneficial organic compounds, but it may also be cheaper and more accessible if you own livestock or grazing animals, or know someone who does.
Purchase bags of manure at your local gardening center or plant nursery, or ask a friend who keeps animals if they would be willing to share a portion of their stock with you.
2-4. Use a commercial soil conditioner as a quick and easy alternative.
If you don’t feel like going to the trouble of amassing your own organic matter, another option is to simply buy a few bags of perlite, greensand, or a similar soil conditioner. Fold these products into your soil the way you would any other amendment, making sure to use no more than the amount specified on the product packaging.
Soil conditioners are specially formulated to deliver micronutrients to poor-quality soil while creating tiny channels to encourage runoff.
3. Overcoming the Difficulties of Planting in Clay Soil
3-1. Bring in a new layer of topsoil if your plants are struggling.
Even after loosening the compacted soil and adding amendments, you may discover that your plants are growing slowly or not at all. One immediate solution is to purchase a fresh supply of topsoil from your local gardening center and lay it down over the clay. You can then transfer your plants to the new soil, where they’ll be exposed to better growing conditions.
You can also haul over healthy topsoil from another part of your yard or garden to cover patches of clay soil in prime growing areas.
Another benefit of putting down new topsoil is that it will gradually filter into the clay, acting as its own amendment and improving the quality of the underlying soil over time.
3-2. Plant cover crops to protect your soil during the off season.
After you’ve harvested your fruits and vegetables or your flowering plants have entered dormancy, use your vacant beds to sew small grazing crops like alfalfa, clover, or buckwheat. These plants will improve your soil’s physical properties by filling up space, introducing new organic materials, and keeping it dry.
Other cover crops include field peas, hairy vetch, and cereal grains like rye, barley, and millet.
3-3. Build a raised garden or flower bed if you’re still not having any luck.
There’s no guarantee that your clay soil will ever produce the kind of flourishing plant life you’d like. If all of your previous efforts have failed, a few raised beds may be just what you need. Growing your plants on top of the bad soil rather than in it will allow you to make use of your existing garden space without the need for a lot of time-consuming aeration or amendment applications.
You can buy premade, ready-to-install beds at any major gardening center, or make your own out of scrap lumber, stones, plastic containers, or wooden crates.
Raised beds can be used to cultivate all of the same sorts of plants you would grow in open soil. Due to their inherent size limitations, however, it’s best to reserve one or two species to a single bed.
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You can turn your soil as often as needed, provided you follow up with an application of high-quality amendments, or materials used to condition the soil and improve its physical properties.\\nAvoid working your soil without adding amendments immediately afterwards. Doing so will only cause you to end up with a mass of oversized soil clumps that are still unsuitable for planting.\\nYou can also use a push tiller to cover more ground in less time, if you have one.\\n1-3. Remove any large rocks you come across.\\nIf you happen to uncover a pocket of large rocks while working your soil, stop and pull them out by hand. Rocks are a pain for many reasons—they act as a barrier for water, take up valuable space that could be used to incorporate nutrient-rich amendments, and can even damage your aeration tools if they make contact at just the right angle.\\nMake it a point to remove all rocks bigger than about 6–8 inches (15–20 cm) in diameter.\\nRather than just discarding the rocks you find, you might use them to build a small retaining wall, ring a pond, or line an outdoor walkway.\\n2. Adding Fast-Acting Amendments\\n2-1. Work organic compost into your freshly-turned soil.\\nAfter loosening surface of the soil, pile on 2–3 inches (5.1–7.6 cm) of compost and use your shovel to spread it around until it’s distributed evenly. Compost comes highly recommended by experienced gardeners for improving clay soil due to its soft texture and abundance of organic nutrients.\\nNot only will compost introduce vital nutrients to the soil to feed your plants, the decaying plant matter will also help break up the clay particulate surrounding them.\\nConsider starting your own compost heap or bin somewhere near your garden. That way, you’ll always have a ready supply on hand.\\n2-2. Add 1 pound (450 g) of biochar for every 10 pounds (4.5 kg) of soil.\\nThe term “biochar” refers to organic material that’s been burnt at a low temperature to form charcoal. Charred plant matter has a light, porous structure that’s perfect for promoting drainage while also infusing a generous amount of healthy carbon and nitrogen into the soil.\\nYou can make your own biochar at home by slow-burning sticks, leaves, weeds, and other brush under a thin layer of soil, then collecting the remnants.\\nThe ashes from your fireplace, fire pit, or wood burning stove can also the serve many of the same functions as biochar.\\n2-3. Spread manure over planned planting sites that are lacking in nutrients.\\nAs you probably already know, manure is one of the best fertilizers there is. Like compost and biochar, it’s useful for filling dense soil with beneficial organic compounds, but it may also be cheaper and more accessible if you own livestock or grazing animals, or know someone who does. \\nPurchase bags of manure at your local gardening center or plant nursery, or ask a friend who keeps animals if they would be willing to share a portion of their stock with you.\\n2-4. Use a commercial soil conditioner as a quick and easy alternative.\\nIf you don’t feel like going to the trouble of amassing your own organic matter, another option is to simply buy a few bags of perlite, greensand, or a similar soil conditioner. Fold these products into your soil the way you would any other amendment, making sure to use no more than the amount specified on the product packaging.\\nSoil conditioners are specially formulated to deliver micronutrients to poor-quality soil while creating tiny channels to encourage runoff.\\n3. Overcoming the Difficulties of Planting in Clay Soil\\n3-1. Bring in a new layer of topsoil if your plants are struggling.\\nEven after loosening the compacted soil and adding amendments, you may discover that your plants are growing slowly or not at all. One immediate solution is to purchase a fresh supply of topsoil from your local gardening center and lay it down over the clay. You can then transfer your plants to the new soil, where they’ll be exposed to better growing conditions.\\nYou can also haul over healthy topsoil from another part of your yard or garden to cover patches of clay soil in prime growing areas.\\nAnother benefit of putting down new topsoil is that it will gradually filter into the clay, acting as its own amendment and improving the quality of the underlying soil over time.\\n3-2. Plant cover crops to protect your soil during the off season.\\nAfter you’ve harvested your fruits and vegetables or your flowering plants have entered dormancy, use your vacant beds to sew small grazing crops like alfalfa, clover, or buckwheat. These plants will improve your soil’s physical properties by filling up space, introducing new organic materials, and keeping it dry.\\nOther cover crops include field peas, hairy vetch, and cereal grains like rye, barley, and millet.\\n3-3. Build a raised garden or flower bed if you’re still not having any luck.\\nThere’s no guarantee that your clay soil will ever produce the kind of flourishing plant life you’d like. If all of your previous efforts have failed, a few raised beds may be just what you need. Growing your plants on top of the bad soil rather than in it will allow you to make use of your existing garden space without the need for a lot of time-consuming aeration or amendment applications.\\nYou can buy premade, ready-to-install beds at any major gardening center, or make your own out of scrap lumber, stones, plastic containers, or wooden crates.\\nRaised beds can be used to cultivate all of the same sorts of plants you would grow in open soil. Due to their inherent size limitations, however, it’s best to reserve one or two species to a single bed.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Hard, dense, compacted clay soil types can be a nightmare to get a shovel through, let alone raise healthy plants in. There’s no reason to give up on your garden just because of a little stubborn dirt, though. Wait to aerate your clay soil until it’s thoroughly dry or wet, when it will be at its most manageable. Then, follow up by working in a quality amendment like compost, biochar, or manure to make it more hospitable for emerging plant life. It’s not an overnight fix, but it’s faster than waiting for traditional solutions like repeated applications of gypsum to get the job done.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Aerating Clay Soil\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wait to aerate your soil until it’s completely wet or dry.\", \"描述\": \"Since one of the biggest problems with clay soil is poor drainage, it’s most difficult to work with when the ground is partially damp. Hold off on turning the soil until it either dries out to the point of cracking or softens up enough to get your shovel or tiller through easily.\\nThe fall months are a good time to aerate your soil, as conditions tend to be drier.\\nIf you attempt to work clay soil while it’s still wet, you’ll most likely just end up with a sticky, impenetrable mess on your hands (and shovel).\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Turn the soil thoroughly before adding your amendment of choice.\", \"描述\": \"Thrust the tip of the shovel or trowel blade into the ground, scooping up a small amount of soil as you pull it back out. Repeat this churning action over every part of your garden where you intend to put down plants. You can turn your soil as often as needed, provided you follow up with an application of high-quality amendments, or materials used to condition the soil and improve its physical properties.\\nAvoid working your soil without adding amendments immediately afterwards. 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Rocks are a pain for many reasons—they act as a barrier for water, take up valuable space that could be used to incorporate nutrient-rich amendments, and can even damage your aeration tools if they make contact at just the right angle.\\nMake it a point to remove all rocks bigger than about 6–8 inches (15–20 cm) in diameter.\\nRather than just discarding the rocks you find, you might use them to build a small retaining wall, ring a pond, or line an outdoor walkway.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Adding Fast-Acting Amendments\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Work organic compost into your freshly-turned soil.\", \"描述\": \"After loosening surface of the soil, pile on 2–3 inches (5.1–7.6 cm) of compost and use your shovel to spread it around until it’s distributed evenly. Compost comes highly recommended by experienced gardeners for improving clay soil due to its soft texture and abundance of organic nutrients.\\nNot only will compost introduce vital nutrients to the soil to feed your plants, the decaying plant matter will also help break up the clay particulate surrounding them.\\nConsider starting your own compost heap or bin somewhere near your garden. That way, you’ll always have a ready supply on hand.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Add 1 pound (450 g) of biochar for every 10 pounds (4.5 kg) of soil.\", \"描述\": \"The term “biochar” refers to organic material that’s been burnt at a low temperature to form charcoal. Charred plant matter has a light, porous structure that’s perfect for promoting drainage while also infusing a generous amount of healthy carbon and nitrogen into the soil.\\nYou can make your own biochar at home by slow-burning sticks, leaves, weeds, and other brush under a thin layer of soil, then collecting the remnants.\\nThe ashes from your fireplace, fire pit, or wood burning stove can also the serve many of the same functions as biochar.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Spread manure over planned planting sites that are lacking in nutrients.\", \"描述\": \"As you probably already know, manure is one of the best fertilizers there is. Like compost and biochar, it’s useful for filling dense soil with beneficial organic compounds, but it may also be cheaper and more accessible if you own livestock or grazing animals, or know someone who does. \\nPurchase bags of manure at your local gardening center or plant nursery, or ask a friend who keeps animals if they would be willing to share a portion of their stock with you.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Use a commercial soil conditioner as a quick and easy alternative.\", \"描述\": \"If you don’t feel like going to the trouble of amassing your own organic matter, another option is to simply buy a few bags of perlite, greensand, or a similar soil conditioner. 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How to Break Into Professional Wrestling
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1. Training to Become a Wrestler
1-1. Attend a wrestling school.
If you want to become a professional wrestler, you have to learn how to wrestle properly. Do an online search to find wrestling schools in your area. Look for schools that are run by former professional wrestlers. Additionally, these schools should have former students that have gotten into the WWE or the TNA. Ask questions such as:
“How much does it cost to attend your school?”
“Have any of your graduates ever joined the WWE or the TNA?”
“Does the instructor have professional wrestling experience?”
If possible, find a school that hosts matches for the trainees. This will give you valuable performing experience.
1-2. Eat a protein-rich diet.
If you want to be a professional wrestler, you have to be strong. Build and maintain your muscle mass by eating a lot of protein. Eat one gram of protein daily for every pound of body mass that you have. For example, if you weigh 160 pounds, you should eat at least 160 grams of protein every day.
Greek yogurt (23 grams of protein per serving), whey protein powder (24 grams of protein per scoop), ground beef (18 grams of protein per serving), and chicken breasts (24 grams per serving) are all high in protein.
For example, if you ate two chicken breasts, a cup of broccoli, and drank a protein shake for lunch, you would have eaten 74.6 grams of protein.
1-3. Do strength training exercises.
These exercises build your muscles and increase your strength. Strength training exercises usually involve repetitive lifting of heavy weights. For example, bicep curls are a strength exercise that builds up your biceps. Other examples include:
Deadlifts to increase your overall strength
Push ups to build upper-body strength
Calf raises to improve your leg strength
1-4. Add cardio to your workout
Many people who want to build muscles skip cardio training because they think it’s unnecessary. However, it will increase your endurance and help you stay active for long periods of time. If you do cardio often, you won’t get tired out quickly when you’re wrestling. Cardio exercises include:
Running on a treadmill
Going for a jog
Using an exercise bike
2. Creating Your Character
2-1. Decide on a persona.
Professional wrestlers often use a persona while competing. First, choose whether you’ll be a “good guy” or a “bad guy.” Next, create a heavily exaggerated personality for your character. For example, if you’re a bad guy, you could be a loud, angry clown with an unreasonable love for flamingos.
Give your character a crazy backstory to help you craft a memorable persona.
Alternatively, create your persona by exaggerating aspects of your existing personality. For example, Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson plays a more intense version of himself on stage.
2-2. Choose a name.
Your character’s name should reflect their personality. Think of what kinds of names would be meaningful to your character. For example, the angry, flamingo-loving clown might be called “Pinkie.” Other great names include:
“The Ogre” for a large, unpleasant-looking bad guy
“Sir Lancelot” for a charming, medieval-themed good guy
“Earthquake” for a large, powerful man of few words.
2-3. Create a signature pose or gesture.
Many famous wrestlers have signature movements that set them apart from their peers. Stand out from the crowd by inventing character-specific poses that you can strike throughout a wrestling match. For example:
“The Ogre” might shout insults at the crowd every time he hurts the “good guy”
“Sir Lancelot” may throw roses out into the crowd as he enters the ring
“Earthquake” might stomp his feet and yell before each match
2-4. Choose an outfit.
Contact a wrestling outfit manufacturer when you’re ready to choose an outfit. Do an online search to find a manufacturer or talk to your instructor for recommendations. These manufacturers will be able to help you design a good outfit based off of your name and your persona. However, be prepared to wait a few weeks for your costume to be finished.
These costumes are often expensive. However, if you use a ready-made costume, your look won’t be unique or memorable.
3. Getting Signed With the WWE
3-1. Move to Orlando, Florida.
Many professional wrestlers and coaches advise serious wrestlers to move to the U.S. state of Florida. Orlando, FL is the home of the WWE Performance Center and has a huge wrestling circuit. If you’re lucky, you may meet a great booking agent or get to wrestle against a developing WWE wrestler.
A developing WWE wrestler is a wrestler that is being considered for the WWE. Any match they compete in will be watched by WWE officials.
3-2. Network at wrestling shows.
Attend as many wrestling shows in Orlando as you can. Make an effort to talk with any booking agents, trainers, or wrestlers that you see. This is called networking. Many professional wrestlers believe that knowing the right people can open doors that would otherwise be closed to you.
For example, if you meet a trainer and they like you, they may call you if a show opens up.
3-3. Find a manager or agent.
A manager, also known as a booking agent, will help you find wrestling matches and work to further your career. Do an online search to find reputable agencies in your area. Alternatively, talk to your wrestling instructor or an experienced wrestler for help finding a good manager.
It may be hard to get a good manager early on in your career. If so, continue finding matches on your own to build a name for yourself.
Avoid people who want to take advantage of you. For example, don’t give a stranger money to book you.
3-4. Build a following on social media.
The best way to become a famous wrestler is to draw attention to yourself. There are many social media websites that are the perfect platform for online attention. First, create a professional Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram. Next, stay active on your social media accounts to keep your audience interested in what you have to say. For example:
Post some lighthearted jokes to make your fans laugh.
Create posts announcing your upcoming matches and their results.
Post pictures of yourself in your wrestling outfit on your Instagram. Use a variety of poses to make the pictures interesting.
3-5. Continue training.
Keep yourself in peak physical condition by lifting weights, doing cardio, and participating in wrestling matches. To participate in matches, join a wrestling gym or wrestling club. Alternatively, talk to wrestling venues and tell them that you’re willing to wrestle for free. This will give you a great training session as well as performing experience.
Find wrestling gyms near you by doing an online search or talking to a trainer.
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How to Break Into Your House
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1. Through a Window
1-1. Break in through an open window.
First floor windows will be easiest and safest, but these are also the most likely to be locked. You’ll have better chances of finding a second floor window left open, but exercise caution - you don't want to fall!
If a ladder isn’t available, you may have to get creative to reach a second story window. Is there a fire escape you could climb? A trellis? A tree? Whatever you use, make sure it’s stable before climbing.
Casement windows (side-hinged windows) may be easy to pry open with your fingers or a thin tool if they aren't locked.
1-2. Borrow a screwdriver from a neighbor.
You don’t have to feel shy or embarrassed. Most everyone has an “I locked myself out” story, so they’ll likely understand your predicament.
A flathead screwdriver will work best, but if you’re handed a Phillips head (cross slot) screwdriver, give it a shot anyway.
This technique can be effective for removing or partially prying open door windows. Even a small gap may allow you to reach inside and open the lock.
1-3. Remove the window beading.
The beading is the plastic or metal strip around the window frame. Insert your screwdriver into the beading channel at one corner and pry it out a little bit at a time. Work your way to the opposite corner. When the beading has been completely loosened, pull it free with your hands.
Check the corner of the window to see whether the vertical (up and down) beading overlaps the horizontal (left and right). Remove the overlapping beading first.
Removing the beading may deform it. In some cases, beading can be quite expensive. Keep this in mind before attempting entry in this way.
Depending on your situation, you may be able to leave the beading in place and still lever the window free. Some windows may not even have beading.
1-4. Pry open the window pane from the bottom.
Insert your screwdriver between the glass and frame. When prying, use light force while working your tool in between the mounting and glass to lever the glass out of its mounting. The window should come out relatively easily.
1-5. Remove the window pane.
Support the glass with your free hand so it doesn’t fall and shatter when it comes free. Slide the glass free of its mounting, place it off to the side, and enter your house through the empty window.
If your window has only partially popped free of the mounting, try to reach either a set of keys, the lock, or the door handle.
If there's any broken glass, be incredibly careful. Jagged glass may be sharper than you think.
In the event of a deep cut, treat the wound as best you can and see a doctor, if necessary.
2. With a Plastic Card
2-1. Check the lock.
The card technique will only work on a spring latch. Spring latches are generally the kind that move with the handle when it is turned. Turn the handle to make sure that the spring lock is engaged. If it doesn't turn, it's locked.
A dead bolt is often located above or below the handle. If the handle moves but the door doesn’t open, the dead bolt is locked and you'll need to try a different method.
This method will be much less likely to work on modern locks, which are designed to be less vulnerable to unlocking with a plastic card.
Handles attached to a spring latch will "spring" back to their original position after you turn them.
2-2. Select an unimportant plastic card to open the lock.
When opening a door with a plastic card, the card may be damaged. Because of this, you should avoid using important or frequently used cards, like credit cards. A library card or point card will be less of a big deal to replace.
Laminated cards tend to work best. These cards are bendy and can be inserted more easily between the door and its frame.
2-3. Wedge the card in the space between the door and the frame.
Press on the door with moderate force with your non-dominant hand. This will create some extra space between the door and frame, making it easier to insert your card. Work your card into this gap just above the doorknob on a downward angle.
If there's molding on the frame, there will be less space between the door and frame, making this process more difficult. In these cases, you may want to try another method to prevent costly damage.
2-4. Locate the lock mechanism with your card.
Your card is wedged between the door and frame, right? Wiggle it deeper into the space between the doorknob and doorjamb until you meet resistance. This is the lock mechanism, which you’ll need to force back to disengage.
Feel around with the bottom corner of your card a little bit. You should feel the angled part of the latch facing towards you.
If the sloped side of the latch isn't facing you, you'll need to slide a long piece of plastic behind the latch to work it from the angled side.
2-5. Lever the latch with the card to disengage it and open the door.
Press the card away from the knob to apply greater pressure to the latch. It’s unlikely you’ll be able to completely disengage the latch this way, but when you feel it start to give, push on the door and it should open.
This may take a bit of maneuvering. Try different positions until you find one that allows the card the most purchase on the lock mechanism.
Although this won’t be necessary for some latches, it may help open the door if you turn the knob lightly with your free hand disengaging the latch.
3. By Removing the Doorknob or Door
3-1. Lay hands on tools.
A lock can be manually disengaged by taking the knob apart, and even quality locks won’t stop you if the door is off its hinges. Doorknobs will require a screwdriver or paperclip; hinges will need a nail and a pounding tool, like a hammer or rock.
Borrow these items from a neighbor or snag them from your tool shed. If your car is open, you might have some emergency tools there, too.
The kind of screwdriver you need will depend on the kind of door you have. Knobs and hinges are often fastened with Phillips head (cross slot) screws.
Even if you don’t have a screwdriver available, you may be able to remove fasteners with a suitably thin, sturdy tool, like a butter knife or a bent pin.
3-2. Remove the knob by unfastening the mounting screws.
Ideally, you’ll be able to see mounting screws connecting the knob to the door. These can be simply unfastened with your screwdriver to take apart the knob. Pull the knob free of the door, and disengage the latch with your fingers.
Depending on the kind of lock installed in your door, you may be able to disengage the lock immediately after removing the knob, or you may need to remove a secondary mounting plate.
Some knobs may only have a screw fastening the knob to the spindle that both knobs are attached to. To remove these, loosen the screw on the metal connecting the knob to the door.
3-3. Take off knobs without obvious mounting screws with a paperclip.
Some knobs may have a pin-size hole in the front of the knob instead of mounting screws. Insert a thin piece of metal, like a straightened paperclip, as deep into the hole as possible while twisting the knob and pushing on the door to open it.
In some situations, you may find that fastening hardware for knobs, like screws and bolts, are only accessible from the inside.
3-4. Pop doors off their hinges when possible.
The hinges are usually the most vulnerable part of a door, requiring only a nail to bypass. Place a nail (or a similar item) at the bottom of the opening for a hinge pin. Then hit the nail with a tool (like a hammer or rock) to push the pin out. Do this for all hinges.
The hinge pins may be stiff when you remove them, even after they’ve been partially pushed out with a nail. For easier removal, use a screwdriver like a chisel under the rim of the pin head to pop it free.
Much like knobs, doors that are well-installed may not have outside accessible hinge pins. You won’t be able to easily pop the door off its hinges if this is the case for you.
3-5. Jump sliding glass doors off their track to gain access.
Most sliding glass doors, opposed to traditional hinged doors, are not directly fastened to your home's structure. Many rest in a track and are locked in place, and by jumping the door out of the track, you can easily bypass it.
You may be able to jump a light sliding glass door by prying up and outward with a flathead screwdriver (or two), but a prybar or crowbar will work best.
Be careful when trying to get your door to jump its track. If it falls, it could cause expensive damage.
To make sliding doors in your home less vulnerable to break ins, you may want to secure your door with a security bar, like a wooden dowel.
4. Through the Garage Door
4-1. Obtain a wire hanger.
You may have a spare hanger in your car or in outdoor storage, but if not you’ll have to go door-knocking until you find a pleasant neighbor who can give you one. Really, any piece of sturdy yet moldable wire will do.
Even thin wire, like the kind use in electrical work, can be doubled up for improved stiffness and used to open your garage door.
4-2. Bend the hanger into a long rod that ends in a hook.
The rod needs to be as long as possible. If you find that the reach of your hanger is insufficient, wrap the non-hook end around an extension, like a branch.
If possible, double up the wire of the coat hanger to make it sturdier. This may only be possible if you have an extra hanger or leftover wire.
4-3. Insert the rod through the top of your garage.
For some garages, this may be impossible. But if your garage has a gap at its top, you should be able to snake in the rod hook-end first.
You may find it easier to insert the rod from the sides, but it’ll need to be in the center of the door to disengage its lock.
Be careful when doing this if there is a soft plastic molding around the door. Inserting your rod between the molding and the door could cause damage it, which can be expensive to replace.
4-4. Hook the door release latch and yank to disengage it.
The manual release latch is located just below where the arm for the opener attaches to the garage door track. Maneuver the hook around the latch and pull with firm, steady pressure until the latch disengages. Now you can slide the door up and open.
Many garage door releases have a string attached so you can pull and disengage the release from inside the garage. Use this string as a point of reference when looking for the release.
If you can't see into your garage, feel along the door's metal track toward the opener motor. When you feel a ridge poking out of the track to the rear of the motor, you’ve found the release.
5. Seeking Help
5-1. Contact a friend, family member, or some other key holder.
If you've entrusted a key to a friend, family member, or neighbor, now's the time to retrieve it. If you don't have your phone on you, head to a neighbor to call a key holder to help you out of this bind.
5-2. Reach out to your landlord.
This is generally a last resort. Having your landlord come unlock the door oftentimes costs a fee. And that's if they answer the phone. If your landlord isn't answering, or if you can't find their number, this option may lead to a dead end.
5-3. Call a locksmith.
Locksmiths are trained in techniques and equipped with tools that will, in most cases, help you break into your home without doing any damage. The cost of a locksmith varies widely depending on location, and can range from as low as $15 and as high as $75 (or more, depending on the lock).
Tips
A small person may be able to fit inside a doggy door and unlock the door for you from the inside. However, if it’s a tight fit, don’t force it. You don’t want to accidentally damage the door (or get the person stuck).
Keep a spare key outside somewhere safe, or leave one with a trusted neighbor to avoid this situation.
A screwdriver can be a lifesaver when you’re locked out. This tool can also be easily hidden in an inconspicuous place for emergencies (like when you need to break into your home).
Warnings
Technically, you can be arrested for breaking into your own home, but it is highly unlikely that charges will be pressed, especially if you can prove you are the lawful resident.
Any damage you do to your house/door/lock will need to be fixed later, especially if you rent your home. Some of these repairs (like damaged woodwork) can be costly. When in doubt, call a locksmith.
Professional security companies explicitly warn against even attempting to break into your own house. Ideally, your home should be too secure for anybody to forcibly gain access.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Through a Window\\n1-1. Break in through an open window.\\nFirst floor windows will be easiest and safest, but these are also the most likely to be locked. You’ll have better chances of finding a second floor window left open, but exercise caution - you don't want to fall!\\nIf a ladder isn’t available, you may have to get creative to reach a second story window. Is there a fire escape you could climb? A trellis? A tree? Whatever you use, make sure it’s stable before climbing.\\nCasement windows (side-hinged windows) may be easy to pry open with your fingers or a thin tool if they aren't locked.\\n1-2. Borrow a screwdriver from a neighbor.\\nYou don’t have to feel shy or embarrassed. Most everyone has an “I locked myself out” story, so they’ll likely understand your predicament.\\nA flathead screwdriver will work best, but if you’re handed a Phillips head (cross slot) screwdriver, give it a shot anyway.\\nThis technique can be effective for removing or partially prying open door windows. Even a small gap may allow you to reach inside and open the lock.\\n1-3. Remove the window beading.\\nThe beading is the plastic or metal strip around the window frame. Insert your screwdriver into the beading channel at one corner and pry it out a little bit at a time. Work your way to the opposite corner. When the beading has been completely loosened, pull it free with your hands.\\nCheck the corner of the window to see whether the vertical (up and down) beading overlaps the horizontal (left and right). Remove the overlapping beading first.\\nRemoving the beading may deform it. In some cases, beading can be quite expensive. Keep this in mind before attempting entry in this way.\\nDepending on your situation, you may be able to leave the beading in place and still lever the window free. Some windows may not even have beading.\\n1-4. Pry open the window pane from the bottom.\\nInsert your screwdriver between the glass and frame. When prying, use light force while working your tool in between the mounting and glass to lever the glass out of its mounting. The window should come out relatively easily.\\n1-5. Remove the window pane.\\nSupport the glass with your free hand so it doesn’t fall and shatter when it comes free. Slide the glass free of its mounting, place it off to the side, and enter your house through the empty window.\\nIf your window has only partially popped free of the mounting, try to reach either a set of keys, the lock, or the door handle.\\nIf there's any broken glass, be incredibly careful. Jagged glass may be sharper than you think.\\nIn the event of a deep cut, treat the wound as best you can and see a doctor, if necessary.\\n2. With a Plastic Card\\n2-1. Check the lock.\\nThe card technique will only work on a spring latch. Spring latches are generally the kind that move with the handle when it is turned. Turn the handle to make sure that the spring lock is engaged. If it doesn't turn, it's locked.\\nA dead bolt is often located above or below the handle. If the handle moves but the door doesn’t open, the dead bolt is locked and you'll need to try a different method.\\nThis method will be much less likely to work on modern locks, which are designed to be less vulnerable to unlocking with a plastic card.\\nHandles attached to a spring latch will \\\"spring\\\" back to their original position after you turn them.\\n2-2. Select an unimportant plastic card to open the lock.\\nWhen opening a door with a plastic card, the card may be damaged. Because of this, you should avoid using important or frequently used cards, like credit cards. A library card or point card will be less of a big deal to replace.\\nLaminated cards tend to work best. These cards are bendy and can be inserted more easily between the door and its frame.\\n2-3. Wedge the card in the space between the door and the frame.\\nPress on the door with moderate force with your non-dominant hand. This will create some extra space between the door and frame, making it easier to insert your card. Work your card into this gap just above the doorknob on a downward angle.\\nIf there's molding on the frame, there will be less space between the door and frame, making this process more difficult. In these cases, you may want to try another method to prevent costly damage.\\n2-4. Locate the lock mechanism with your card.\\nYour card is wedged between the door and frame, right? Wiggle it deeper into the space between the doorknob and doorjamb until you meet resistance. This is the lock mechanism, which you’ll need to force back to disengage.\\nFeel around with the bottom corner of your card a little bit. You should feel the angled part of the latch facing towards you.\\nIf the sloped side of the latch isn't facing you, you'll need to slide a long piece of plastic behind the latch to work it from the angled side.\\n2-5. Lever the latch with the card to disengage it and open the door.\\nPress the card away from the knob to apply greater pressure to the latch. It’s unlikely you’ll be able to completely disengage the latch this way, but when you feel it start to give, push on the door and it should open.\\nThis may take a bit of maneuvering. Try different positions until you find one that allows the card the most purchase on the lock mechanism.\\nAlthough this won’t be necessary for some latches, it may help open the door if you turn the knob lightly with your free hand disengaging the latch.\\n3. By Removing the Doorknob or Door\\n3-1. Lay hands on tools.\\nA lock can be manually disengaged by taking the knob apart, and even quality locks won’t stop you if the door is off its hinges. Doorknobs will require a screwdriver or paperclip; hinges will need a nail and a pounding tool, like a hammer or rock.\\nBorrow these items from a neighbor or snag them from your tool shed. If your car is open, you might have some emergency tools there, too.\\nThe kind of screwdriver you need will depend on the kind of door you have. Knobs and hinges are often fastened with Phillips head (cross slot) screws.\\nEven if you don’t have a screwdriver available, you may be able to remove fasteners with a suitably thin, sturdy tool, like a butter knife or a bent pin.\\n3-2. Remove the knob by unfastening the mounting screws.\\nIdeally, you’ll be able to see mounting screws connecting the knob to the door. These can be simply unfastened with your screwdriver to take apart the knob. Pull the knob free of the door, and disengage the latch with your fingers.\\nDepending on the kind of lock installed in your door, you may be able to disengage the lock immediately after removing the knob, or you may need to remove a secondary mounting plate.\\nSome knobs may only have a screw fastening the knob to the spindle that both knobs are attached to. To remove these, loosen the screw on the metal connecting the knob to the door.\\n3-3. Take off knobs without obvious mounting screws with a paperclip.\\nSome knobs may have a pin-size hole in the front of the knob instead of mounting screws. Insert a thin piece of metal, like a straightened paperclip, as deep into the hole as possible while twisting the knob and pushing on the door to open it.\\nIn some situations, you may find that fastening hardware for knobs, like screws and bolts, are only accessible from the inside.\\n3-4. Pop doors off their hinges when possible.\\nThe hinges are usually the most vulnerable part of a door, requiring only a nail to bypass. Place a nail (or a similar item) at the bottom of the opening for a hinge pin. Then hit the nail with a tool (like a hammer or rock) to push the pin out. Do this for all hinges.\\nThe hinge pins may be stiff when you remove them, even after they’ve been partially pushed out with a nail. For easier removal, use a screwdriver like a chisel under the rim of the pin head to pop it free.\\nMuch like knobs, doors that are well-installed may not have outside accessible hinge pins. You won’t be able to easily pop the door off its hinges if this is the case for you.\\n3-5. Jump sliding glass doors off their track to gain access.\\nMost sliding glass doors, opposed to traditional hinged doors, are not directly fastened to your home's structure. Many rest in a track and are locked in place, and by jumping the door out of the track, you can easily bypass it.\\nYou may be able to jump a light sliding glass door by prying up and outward with a flathead screwdriver (or two), but a prybar or crowbar will work best.\\nBe careful when trying to get your door to jump its track. If it falls, it could cause expensive damage.\\nTo make sliding doors in your home less vulnerable to break ins, you may want to secure your door with a security bar, like a wooden dowel.\\n4. Through the Garage Door\\n4-1. Obtain a wire hanger.\\nYou may have a spare hanger in your car or in outdoor storage, but if not you’ll have to go door-knocking until you find a pleasant neighbor who can give you one. Really, any piece of sturdy yet moldable wire will do.\\nEven thin wire, like the kind use in electrical work, can be doubled up for improved stiffness and used to open your garage door.\\n4-2. Bend the hanger into a long rod that ends in a hook.\\nThe rod needs to be as long as possible. If you find that the reach of your hanger is insufficient, wrap the non-hook end around an extension, like a branch.\\nIf possible, double up the wire of the coat hanger to make it sturdier. This may only be possible if you have an extra hanger or leftover wire.\\n4-3. Insert the rod through the top of your garage.\\nFor some garages, this may be impossible. But if your garage has a gap at its top, you should be able to snake in the rod hook-end first.\\nYou may find it easier to insert the rod from the sides, but it’ll need to be in the center of the door to disengage its lock.\\nBe careful when doing this if there is a soft plastic molding around the door. Inserting your rod between the molding and the door could cause damage it, which can be expensive to replace.\\n4-4. Hook the door release latch and yank to disengage it.\\nThe manual release latch is located just below where the arm for the opener attaches to the garage door track. Maneuver the hook around the latch and pull with firm, steady pressure until the latch disengages. Now you can slide the door up and open.\\nMany garage door releases have a string attached so you can pull and disengage the release from inside the garage. Use this string as a point of reference when looking for the release.\\nIf you can't see into your garage, feel along the door's metal track toward the opener motor. When you feel a ridge poking out of the track to the rear of the motor, you’ve found the release.\\n5. Seeking Help\\n5-1. Contact a friend, family member, or some other key holder.\\nIf you've entrusted a key to a friend, family member, or neighbor, now's the time to retrieve it. If you don't have your phone on you, head to a neighbor to call a key holder to help you out of this bind.\\n5-2. Reach out to your landlord.\\nThis is generally a last resort. Having your landlord come unlock the door oftentimes costs a fee. And that's if they answer the phone. If your landlord isn't answering, or if you can't find their number, this option may lead to a dead end.\\n5-3. Call a locksmith.\\nLocksmiths are trained in techniques and equipped with tools that will, in most cases, help you break into your home without doing any damage. The cost of a locksmith varies widely depending on location, and can range from as low as $15 and as high as $75 (or more, depending on the lock).\\nTips\\nA small person may be able to fit inside a doggy door and unlock the door for you from the inside. However, if it’s a tight fit, don’t force it. You don’t want to accidentally damage the door (or get the person stuck).\\nKeep a spare key outside somewhere safe, or leave one with a trusted neighbor to avoid this situation.\\nA screwdriver can be a lifesaver when you’re locked out. This tool can also be easily hidden in an inconspicuous place for emergencies (like when you need to break into your home).\\nWarnings\\nTechnically, you can be arrested for breaking into your own home, but it is highly unlikely that charges will be pressed, especially if you can prove you are the lawful resident.\\nAny damage you do to your house/door/lock will need to be fixed later, especially if you rent your home. Some of these repairs (like damaged woodwork) can be costly. When in doubt, call a locksmith.\\nProfessional security companies explicitly warn against even attempting to break into your own house. Ideally, your home should be too secure for anybody to forcibly gain access.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The door clicks shut behind you only for you to realize it's locked. Don't panic! When you're locked out, you’re not powerless. You can get back inside through an open window, by prying a window open, by forcing a spring lock with a plastic card, or by removing the doorknob—all without breaking anything. Keep reading to find out how.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Through a Window\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Break in through an open window.\", \"描述\": \"First floor windows will be easiest and safest, but these are also the most likely to be locked. You’ll have better chances of finding a second floor window left open, but exercise caution - you don't want to fall!\\nIf a ladder isn’t available, you may have to get creative to reach a second story window. Is there a fire escape you could climb? A trellis? A tree? Whatever you use, make sure it’s stable before climbing.\\nCasement windows (side-hinged windows) may be easy to pry open with your fingers or a thin tool if they aren't locked.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Borrow a screwdriver from a neighbor.\", \"描述\": \"You don’t have to feel shy or embarrassed. Most everyone has an “I locked myself out” story, so they’ll likely understand your predicament.\\nA flathead screwdriver will work best, but if you’re handed a Phillips head (cross slot) screwdriver, give it a shot anyway.\\nThis technique can be effective for removing or partially prying open door windows. Even a small gap may allow you to reach inside and open the lock.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Remove the window beading.\", \"描述\": \"The beading is the plastic or metal strip around the window frame. Insert your screwdriver into the beading channel at one corner and pry it out a little bit at a time. Work your way to the opposite corner. When the beading has been completely loosened, pull it free with your hands.\\nCheck the corner of the window to see whether the vertical (up and down) beading overlaps the horizontal (left and right). Remove the overlapping beading first.\\nRemoving the beading may deform it. In some cases, beading can be quite expensive. Keep this in mind before attempting entry in this way.\\nDepending on your situation, you may be able to leave the beading in place and still lever the window free. Some windows may not even have beading.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Pry open the window pane from the bottom.\", \"描述\": \"Insert your screwdriver between the glass and frame. When prying, use light force while working your tool in between the mounting and glass to lever the glass out of its mounting. The window should come out relatively easily.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Remove the window pane.\", \"描述\": \"Support the glass with your free hand so it doesn’t fall and shatter when it comes free. Slide the glass free of its mounting, place it off to the side, and enter your house through the empty window.\\nIf your window has only partially popped free of the mounting, try to reach either a set of keys, the lock, or the door handle.\\nIf there's any broken glass, be incredibly careful. Jagged glass may be sharper than you think.\\nIn the event of a deep cut, treat the wound as best you can and see a doctor, if necessary.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"With a Plastic Card\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Check the lock.\", \"描述\": \"The card technique will only work on a spring latch. Spring latches are generally the kind that move with the handle when it is turned. Turn the handle to make sure that the spring lock is engaged. If it doesn't turn, it's locked.\\nA dead bolt is often located above or below the handle. If the handle moves but the door doesn’t open, the dead bolt is locked and you'll need to try a different method.\\nThis method will be much less likely to work on modern locks, which are designed to be less vulnerable to unlocking with a plastic card.\\nHandles attached to a spring latch will \\\"spring\\\" back to their original position after you turn them.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Select an unimportant plastic card to open the lock.\", \"描述\": \"When opening a door with a plastic card, the card may be damaged. Because of this, you should avoid using important or frequently used cards, like credit cards. A library card or point card will be less of a big deal to replace.\\nLaminated cards tend to work best. These cards are bendy and can be inserted more easily between the door and its frame.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Wedge the card in the space between the door and the frame.\", \"描述\": \"Press on the door with moderate force with your non-dominant hand. This will create some extra space between the door and frame, making it easier to insert your card. Work your card into this gap just above the doorknob on a downward angle.\\nIf there's molding on the frame, there will be less space between the door and frame, making this process more difficult. In these cases, you may want to try another method to prevent costly damage.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Locate the lock mechanism with your card.\", \"描述\": \"Your card is wedged between the door and frame, right? Wiggle it deeper into the space between the doorknob and doorjamb until you meet resistance. This is the lock mechanism, which you’ll need to force back to disengage.\\nFeel around with the bottom corner of your card a little bit. You should feel the angled part of the latch facing towards you.\\nIf the sloped side of the latch isn't facing you, you'll need to slide a long piece of plastic behind the latch to work it from the angled side.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Lever the latch with the card to disengage it and open the door.\", \"描述\": \"Press the card away from the knob to apply greater pressure to the latch. It’s unlikely you’ll be able to completely disengage the latch this way, but when you feel it start to give, push on the door and it should open.\\nThis may take a bit of maneuvering. Try different positions until you find one that allows the card the most purchase on the lock mechanism.\\nAlthough this won’t be necessary for some latches, it may help open the door if you turn the knob lightly with your free hand disengaging the latch.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"By Removing the Doorknob or Door\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Lay hands on tools.\", \"描述\": \"A lock can be manually disengaged by taking the knob apart, and even quality locks won’t stop you if the door is off its hinges. Doorknobs will require a screwdriver or paperclip; hinges will need a nail and a pounding tool, like a hammer or rock.\\nBorrow these items from a neighbor or snag them from your tool shed. If your car is open, you might have some emergency tools there, too.\\nThe kind of screwdriver you need will depend on the kind of door you have. Knobs and hinges are often fastened with Phillips head (cross slot) screws.\\nEven if you don’t have a screwdriver available, you may be able to remove fasteners with a suitably thin, sturdy tool, like a butter knife or a bent pin.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Remove the knob by unfastening the mounting screws.\", \"描述\": \"Ideally, you’ll be able to see mounting screws connecting the knob to the door. These can be simply unfastened with your screwdriver to take apart the knob. Pull the knob free of the door, and disengage the latch with your fingers.\\nDepending on the kind of lock installed in your door, you may be able to disengage the lock immediately after removing the knob, or you may need to remove a secondary mounting plate.\\nSome knobs may only have a screw fastening the knob to the spindle that both knobs are attached to. To remove these, loosen the screw on the metal connecting the knob to the door.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take off knobs without obvious mounting screws with a paperclip.\", \"描述\": \"Some knobs may have a pin-size hole in the front of the knob instead of mounting screws. Insert a thin piece of metal, like a straightened paperclip, as deep into the hole as possible while twisting the knob and pushing on the door to open it.\\nIn some situations, you may find that fastening hardware for knobs, like screws and bolts, are only accessible from the inside.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Pop doors off their hinges when possible.\", \"描述\": \"The hinges are usually the most vulnerable part of a door, requiring only a nail to bypass. Place a nail (or a similar item) at the bottom of the opening for a hinge pin. Then hit the nail with a tool (like a hammer or rock) to push the pin out. Do this for all hinges.\\nThe hinge pins may be stiff when you remove them, even after they’ve been partially pushed out with a nail. For easier removal, use a screwdriver like a chisel under the rim of the pin head to pop it free.\\nMuch like knobs, doors that are well-installed may not have outside accessible hinge pins. You won’t be able to easily pop the door off its hinges if this is the case for you.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Jump sliding glass doors off their track to gain access.\", \"描述\": \"Most sliding glass doors, opposed to traditional hinged doors, are not directly fastened to your home's structure. Many rest in a track and are locked in place, and by jumping the door out of the track, you can easily bypass it.\\nYou may be able to jump a light sliding glass door by prying up and outward with a flathead screwdriver (or two), but a prybar or crowbar will work best.\\nBe careful when trying to get your door to jump its track. If it falls, it could cause expensive damage.\\nTo make sliding doors in your home less vulnerable to break ins, you may want to secure your door with a security bar, like a wooden dowel.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Through the Garage Door\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Obtain a wire hanger.\", \"描述\": \"You may have a spare hanger in your car or in outdoor storage, but if not you’ll have to go door-knocking until you find a pleasant neighbor who can give you one. Really, any piece of sturdy yet moldable wire will do.\\nEven thin wire, like the kind use in electrical work, can be doubled up for improved stiffness and used to open your garage door.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Bend the hanger into a long rod that ends in a hook.\", \"描述\": \"The rod needs to be as long as possible. If you find that the reach of your hanger is insufficient, wrap the non-hook end around an extension, like a branch.\\nIf possible, double up the wire of the coat hanger to make it sturdier. This may only be possible if you have an extra hanger or leftover wire.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Insert the rod through the top of your garage.\", \"描述\": \"For some garages, this may be impossible. But if your garage has a gap at its top, you should be able to snake in the rod hook-end first.\\nYou may find it easier to insert the rod from the sides, but it’ll need to be in the center of the door to disengage its lock.\\nBe careful when doing this if there is a soft plastic molding around the door. Inserting your rod between the molding and the door could cause damage it, which can be expensive to replace.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Hook the door release latch and yank to disengage it.\", \"描述\": \"The manual release latch is located just below where the arm for the opener attaches to the garage door track. Maneuver the hook around the latch and pull with firm, steady pressure until the latch disengages. Now you can slide the door up and open.\\nMany garage door releases have a string attached so you can pull and disengage the release from inside the garage. Use this string as a point of reference when looking for the release.\\nIf you can't see into your garage, feel along the door's metal track toward the opener motor. When you feel a ridge poking out of the track to the rear of the motor, you’ve found the release.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Seeking Help\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Contact a friend, family member, or some other key holder.\", \"描述\": \"If you've entrusted a key to a friend, family member, or neighbor, now's the time to retrieve it. If you don't have your phone on you, head to a neighbor to call a key holder to help you out of this bind.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Reach out to your landlord.\", \"描述\": \"This is generally a last resort. Having your landlord come unlock the door oftentimes costs a fee. And that's if they answer the phone. If your landlord isn't answering, or if you can't find their number, this option may lead to a dead end.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Call a locksmith.\", \"描述\": \"Locksmiths are trained in techniques and equipped with tools that will, in most cases, help you break into your home without doing any damage. The cost of a locksmith varies widely depending on location, and can range from as low as $15 and as high as $75 (or more, depending on the lock).\"}], \"小提示\": [\"A small person may be able to fit inside a doggy door and unlock the door for you from the inside. However, if it’s a tight fit, don’t force it. You don’t want to accidentally damage the door (or get the person stuck).\\n\", \"Keep a spare key outside somewhere safe, or leave one with a trusted neighbor to avoid this situation.\\n\", \"A screwdriver can be a lifesaver when you’re locked out. This tool can also be easily hidden in an inconspicuous place for emergencies (like when you need to break into your home).\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Technically, you can be arrested for breaking into your own home, but it is highly unlikely that charges will be pressed, especially if you can prove you are the lawful resident.\\n\", \"Any damage you do to your house/door/lock will need to be fixed later, especially if you rent your home. Some of these repairs (like damaged woodwork) can be costly. When in doubt, call a locksmith.\\n\", \"Professional security companies explicitly warn against even attempting to break into your own house. Ideally, your home should be too secure for anybody to forcibly gain access.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Break Into Your Locked Android Device
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1. Using Find My Device
1-1. Open the Find My Device website.
Go to https://www.google.com/android/find in your computer's web browser.
If you have a Samsung phone or tablet, you'll need to use Samsung's website instead.
1-2. Log into your Google account.
When prompted, enter your Gmail address, click , enter your password, and click .
If you don't know your Google account's password, you'll need to recover it before proceeding.
1-3. Select your Android.
If your Android isn't currently selected upon opening Find My Device, click it in the left-hand menu.
1-4. Click Lock.
It's on the left side of the page, just below your Android's name. Doing so will open a pop-up window.
1-5. Enter a new password.
Type a new password into the top text field, then repeat the password in the following text field.
1-6. Click Lock.
It's at the bottom of the page. This will replace your Android's lock screen password with your new password.
1-7. Unlock your Android with the new password.
Open your Android, then type in the password you just set. Doing so should prompt your Android to unlock.
2. Using Samsung's Find My Mobile Tool
2-1. Understand when this method will work.
If you have a Samsung Galaxy (or other Samsung Android) which you've registered with Samsung, you will be able to use Samsung's version of Find My Device to unlock your Android.
If you don't have a Samsung Android or you haven't registered your Android with Samsung, you can't use this method.
2-2. Open Samsung's "Find My Mobile" site.
Go to https://findmymobile.samsung.com/ in your computer's web browser.
2-3. Sign into your Samsung account.
If prompted to sign in, click , then enter your email (or phone number) and password and click .
2-4. Click Unlock my Device.
It's on the left side of the page.
If you have more than one Samsung Galaxy item, you may have to select the correct one by clicking the item name in the top-left corner of the page and then selecting the correct one in the drop-down menu.
2-5. Re-enter your Samsung password if prompted.
If asked, you'll need to type in your Samsung account password again. This should unlock your Samsung Galaxy, though you may need to wait for a few seconds before the item recognizes the unlock.
After the screen is unlocked, you should be able to set a new password from the menu.
3. Using a Factory Reset
3-1. Know what this method entails.
Factory resetting your Android will remove all settings—including your lock screen password—along with any contact and app information from your Android.
Unfortunately, if your data isn't backed up, you won't be able to recover the information deleted by the factory reset.
3-2. Find your Android's "Recovery" combination.
Every Android has its own combination of buttons which must be pressed in order to open the recovery menu; checking your Android's manual or online documentation should help you find this combination.
For example, Samsung users will typically use the Power, Home, and one of the Volume buttons to access the recovery menu.
3-3. Power down your Android.
Press and hold the Power button, then tap when prompted. This will cause your Android to shut down.
3-4. Press and hold the "Recovery" combination.
Holding down your Android's recovery keys will prompt your Android to begin booting into the recovery console.
If you see a "No command" error message appear on-screen, keep holding the recovery combination for another 15 to 20 seconds.
3-5. Select Recovery mode.
Once the recovery menu appears, use the Volume Down button to scroll down to the option, then press the Power button to select it.
If you don't see , skip this step.
See the next step if you're instead met with a "No command" screen.
3-6. Bypass the "No command" screen.
If you're on a Pixel Android, press and hold the Power and Volume Up buttons at the same time until the recovery screen opens.
3-7. Select Wipe data / factory reset.
Scroll down to highlight this option, then press the Power button.
3-8. Select Yes -- delete all user data.
It's in the middle of the screen. Doing so will prompt your Android to begin factory resetting.
3-9. Wait for your Android to finish wiping.
Your Android should take under 10 minutes to completely erase.
3-10. Set up your Android.
Once your Android finishes restarting, you can set it up as though it were a new phone or tablet.
This will usually include selecting a language and a Wi-Fi network.
3-11. Sign into your Google account.
When prompted, enter the email address and the password for the Google account with which you were previously signed into your Android.
If you don't know the password for your Google account, use a computer to recover it before proceeding.
3-12. Complete your Android setup.
After logging into your Google account, you can proceed with setting up the rest of your Android.
4. Using a Custom Recovery
4-1. Know when to use this method.
If you have a custom recovery such as CWM or TWRP already installed on your Android, you may be able to use the custom recovery's file manager to delete the files which maintain the Android lock screen, thus removing the password in the process.
You cannot use this method if your Android doesn't already have a custom recovery installed.
4-2. Turn off your Android.
Press and hold the Power button, then tap in the pop-up menu.
4-3. Press and hold the "Recovery" combination.
This button combination will vary from Android to Android, but will usually involve holding down some combination of the Power button, the Home button, and/or the Volume button(s).
Check your phone's documentation for the proper recovery combination if you don't know it.f
4-4. Open the Mount menu.
You'll find this on the main custom recovery page.
4-5. Enable all locations.
Check the box next to any folder location on your Android.
Do not enable the "Mount system partition read-only" option if available.
4-6. Download and transfer the AROMA file manager.
Tap the "Back" button, then do the following on a computer:
Click the AROMA download link.
Wait for the ZIP folder to download.
Connect your Android to your computer via a USB cable.
If you're on a Mac, you'll first need to install Android File Transfer.
Place the ZIP folder in your Android's "Download" folder.
4-7. Install AROMA file manager.
This file manager will allow you to delete system files:
Open the menu.
Open the folder.
Select the AROMA file manager's ZIP folder.
Swipe the "Install" slider right or select the option, then wait for a confirmation.
4-8. Navigate to the lock screen files' location.
To do so:
Open the folder.
Open the folder.
Scroll down to view the system files below the list of folders.
4-9. Delete the lock screen files.
Any files starting with "gatekeeper", "locksettings", and/or "lockscreen" pertain to your Android's lock screen, and thus must be deleted:
Long-press a file name to select it.
Repeat with other lock screen file names.
Tap the button.
Tap
Confirm your choice if prompted.
4-10. Reboot your Android.
Return to the main custom recovery screen, then select the option. Once your Android finishes rebooting, you should be able to open your Android without needing to enter a password.
5. Removing a Third-Party Lock Screen
5-1. Understand when to use this method.
If you know your Android's regular passcode but can't unlock due to a third-party lock screen app, you can use Safe Mode to delete the lock screen app.
Some apps will install malware apps which password-protect the lock screen. Using Safe Mode will allow you to delete these apps.
Keep in mind that you'll need to know your Android's regular lock screen combination or passcode in order to complete this method.
5-2. Press and hold your Android's "Power" button.
It's usually on the right side of the Android's housing. A menu will appear.
5-3. Long-press Power off.
Doing so will prompt another pop-up menu to appear after a few seconds.
On a Samsung Galaxy, you'll instead tap , then hold down the button while the Android reboots. You can skip the next two steps.
5-4. Check the "Reboot" box.
It should be at the top of the menu.
5-5. Tap OK.
It's at the bottom of the menu. Doing so will prompt your Android to begin restarting.
5-6. Wait for your Android to reboot.
Once your Android finishes rebooting, you should see "Safe mode" in the bottom-left corner of the screen.
For Samsung Galaxy Androids, remember to hold down the button while rebooting to open Safe Mode.
5-7. Unlock your Android.
Your third-party lock screen app won't load, so you'll just need to know your Android's usual lock screen passcode or password.
5-8. Open Settings.
Swipe down from the top of the screen (you may need to use two fingers), then tap the gear-shaped {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/6\/68\/Android7settings.png","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/6\/68\/Android7settings.png\/30px-Android7settings.png","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":460,"bigWidth":30,"bigHeight":30,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>I edited this screenshot of an Android icon.\n<\/p><p>License: <a target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noreferrer noopener\" class=\"external text\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Fair_use\">Fair Use<\/a><br>\n<\/p><\/div>"} icon in the drop-down menu.
5-9. Tap Apps.
It's near the middle of the screen.
5-10. Select your third-party lock screen app.
Scroll through the list of apps on your Android until you find the app which was locking your screen, then tap the app in question.
5-11. Tap UNINSTALL.
It should be near the top of the screen.
5-12. Tap OK when prompted.
This will prompt the app to uninstall without requiring a passcode.
You can restart your Android back into the normal mode by holding down the Power button and tapping (or tapping and then pressing the Power button again).
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Unlock your Android with the new password.\\nOpen your Android, then type in the password you just set. Doing so should prompt your Android to unlock.\\n2. Using Samsung's Find My Mobile Tool\\n2-1. Understand when this method will work.\\nIf you have a Samsung Galaxy (or other Samsung Android) which you've registered with Samsung, you will be able to use Samsung's version of Find My Device to unlock your Android.\\nIf you don't have a Samsung Android or you haven't registered your Android with Samsung, you can't use this method.\\n2-2. Open Samsung's \\\"Find My Mobile\\\" site.\\nGo to https://findmymobile.samsung.com/ in your computer's web browser.\\n2-3. Sign into your Samsung account.\\nIf prompted to sign in, click , then enter your email (or phone number) and password and click .\\n2-4. Click Unlock my Device.\\nIt's on the left side of the page.\\nIf you have more than one Samsung Galaxy item, you may have to select the correct one by clicking the item name in the top-left corner of the page and then selecting the correct one in the drop-down menu.\\n2-5. Re-enter your Samsung password if prompted.\\nIf asked, you'll need to type in your Samsung account password again. This should unlock your Samsung Galaxy, though you may need to wait for a few seconds before the item recognizes the unlock.\\nAfter the screen is unlocked, you should be able to set a new password from the menu.\\n3. Using a Factory Reset\\n3-1. Know what this method entails.\\nFactory resetting your Android will remove all settings—including your lock screen password—along with any contact and app information from your Android.\\nUnfortunately, if your data isn't backed up, you won't be able to recover the information deleted by the factory reset.\\n3-2. Find your Android's \\\"Recovery\\\" combination.\\nEvery Android has its own combination of buttons which must be pressed in order to open the recovery menu; checking your Android's manual or online documentation should help you find this combination.\\nFor example, Samsung users will typically use the Power, Home, and one of the Volume buttons to access the recovery menu.\\n3-3. Power down your Android.\\nPress and hold the Power button, then tap when prompted. This will cause your Android to shut down.\\n3-4. Press and hold the \\\"Recovery\\\" combination.\\nHolding down your Android's recovery keys will prompt your Android to begin booting into the recovery console.\\nIf you see a \\\"No command\\\" error message appear on-screen, keep holding the recovery combination for another 15 to 20 seconds.\\n3-5. Select Recovery mode.\\nOnce the recovery menu appears, use the Volume Down button to scroll down to the option, then press the Power button to select it.\\nIf you don't see , skip this step.\\nSee the next step if you're instead met with a \\\"No command\\\" screen.\\n3-6. Bypass the \\\"No command\\\" screen.\\nIf you're on a Pixel Android, press and hold the Power and Volume Up buttons at the same time until the recovery screen opens.\\n3-7. Select Wipe data / factory reset.\\nScroll down to highlight this option, then press the Power button.\\n3-8. Select Yes -- delete all user data.\\nIt's in the middle of the screen. Doing so will prompt your Android to begin factory resetting.\\n3-9. Wait for your Android to finish wiping.\\nYour Android should take under 10 minutes to completely erase.\\n3-10. Set up your Android.\\nOnce your Android finishes restarting, you can set it up as though it were a new phone or tablet.\\nThis will usually include selecting a language and a Wi-Fi network.\\n3-11. Sign into your Google account.\\nWhen prompted, enter the email address and the password for the Google account with which you were previously signed into your Android.\\nIf you don't know the password for your Google account, use a computer to recover it before proceeding.\\n3-12. Complete your Android setup.\\nAfter logging into your Google account, you can proceed with setting up the rest of your Android.\\n4. Using a Custom Recovery\\n4-1. Know when to use this method.\\nIf you have a custom recovery such as CWM or TWRP already installed on your Android, you may be able to use the custom recovery's file manager to delete the files which maintain the Android lock screen, thus removing the password in the process.\\nYou cannot use this method if your Android doesn't already have a custom recovery installed.\\n4-2. Turn off your Android.\\nPress and hold the Power button, then tap in the pop-up menu.\\n4-3. Press and hold the \\\"Recovery\\\" combination.\\nThis button combination will vary from Android to Android, but will usually involve holding down some combination of the Power button, the Home button, and/or the Volume button(s).\\nCheck your phone's documentation for the proper recovery combination if you don't know it.f\\n4-4. Open the Mount menu.\\nYou'll find this on the main custom recovery page.\\n4-5. Enable all locations.\\nCheck the box next to any folder location on your Android.\\nDo not enable the \\\"Mount system partition read-only\\\" option if available.\\n4-6. Download and transfer the AROMA file manager.\\nTap the \\\"Back\\\" button, then do the following on a computer:\\nClick the AROMA download link.\\nWait for the ZIP folder to download.\\nConnect your Android to your computer via a USB cable.\\nIf you're on a Mac, you'll first need to install Android File Transfer.\\nPlace the ZIP folder in your Android's \\\"Download\\\" folder.\\n4-7. Install AROMA file manager.\\nThis file manager will allow you to delete system files:\\nOpen the menu.\\nOpen the folder.\\nSelect the AROMA file manager's ZIP folder.\\nSwipe the \\\"Install\\\" slider right or select the option, then wait for a confirmation.\\n4-8. Navigate to the lock screen files' location.\\nTo do so:\\nOpen the folder.\\nOpen the folder.\\nScroll down to view the system files below the list of folders.\\n4-9. Delete the lock screen files.\\nAny files starting with \\\"gatekeeper\\\", \\\"locksettings\\\", and/or \\\"lockscreen\\\" pertain to your Android's lock screen, and thus must be deleted:\\nLong-press a file name to select it.\\nRepeat with other lock screen file names.\\nTap the button.\\nTap \\nConfirm your choice if prompted.\\n4-10. Reboot your Android.\\nReturn to the main custom recovery screen, then select the option. Once your Android finishes rebooting, you should be able to open your Android without needing to enter a password.\\n5. Removing a Third-Party Lock Screen\\n5-1. Understand when to use this method.\\nIf you know your Android's regular passcode but can't unlock due to a third-party lock screen app, you can use Safe Mode to delete the lock screen app.\\nSome apps will install malware apps which password-protect the lock screen. 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Unlock your Android.\\nYour third-party lock screen app won't load, so you'll just need to know your Android's usual lock screen passcode or password.\\n5-8. Open Settings.\\nSwipe down from the top of the screen (you may need to use two fingers), then tap the gear-shaped {\\\"smallUrl\\\":\\\"https:\\\\/\\\\/www.wikihow.com\\\\/images\\\\/6\\\\/68\\\\/Android7settings.png\\\",\\\"bigUrl\\\":\\\"\\\\/images\\\\/thumb\\\\/6\\\\/68\\\\/Android7settings.png\\\\/30px-Android7settings.png\\\",\\\"smallWidth\\\":460,\\\"smallHeight\\\":460,\\\"bigWidth\\\":30,\\\"bigHeight\\\":30,\\\"licensing\\\":\\\"<div class=\\\\\\\"mw-parser-output\\\\\\\"><p>I edited this screenshot of an Android icon.\\\\n<\\\\/p><p>License: <a target=\\\\\\\"_blank\\\\\\\" rel=\\\\\\\"nofollow noreferrer noopener\\\\\\\" class=\\\\\\\"external text\\\\\\\" href=\\\\\\\"http:\\\\/\\\\/en.wikipedia.org\\\\/wiki\\\\/Fair_use\\\\\\\">Fair Use<\\\\/a><br>\\\\n<\\\\/p><\\\\/div>\\\"} icon in the drop-down menu.\\n5-9. Tap Apps.\\nIt's near the middle of the screen.\\n5-10. Select your third-party lock screen app.\\nScroll through the list of apps on your Android until you find the app which was locking your screen, then tap the app in question.\\n5-11. Tap UNINSTALL.\\nIt should be near the top of the screen.\\n5-12. Tap OK when prompted.\\nThis will prompt the app to uninstall without requiring a passcode.\\nYou can restart your Android back into the normal mode by holding down the Power button and tapping (or tapping and then pressing the Power button again).\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"This wikiHow teaches you how to unlock your Android if you don't know the lock screen passcode or pattern. There are a few ways to do this, ranging from using Find My Device to unlock your Android to factory resetting your Android. Keep in mind that you will need to know your Google account's email address and password in order to log back into your Android if you factory reset it.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Using Find My Device\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Open the Find My Device website.\", \"描述\": \"Go to https://www.google.com/android/find in your computer's web browser.\\nIf you have a Samsung phone or tablet, you'll need to use Samsung's website instead.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Log into your Google account.\", \"描述\": \"When prompted, enter your Gmail address, click , enter your password, and click .\\nIf you don't know your Google account's password, you'll need to recover it before proceeding.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Select your Android.\", \"描述\": \"If your Android isn't currently selected upon opening Find My Device, click it in the left-hand menu.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Click Lock.\", \"描述\": \"It's on the left side of the page, just below your Android's name. Doing so will open a pop-up window.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Enter a new password.\", \"描述\": \"Type a new password into the top text field, then repeat the password in the following text field.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Click Lock.\", \"描述\": \"It's at the bottom of the page. This will replace your Android's lock screen password with your new password.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Unlock your Android with the new password.\", \"描述\": \"Open your Android, then type in the password you just set. Doing so should prompt your Android to unlock.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Using Samsung's Find My Mobile Tool\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Understand when this method will work.\", \"描述\": \"If you have a Samsung Galaxy (or other Samsung Android) which you've registered with Samsung, you will be able to use Samsung's version of Find My Device to unlock your Android.\\nIf you don't have a Samsung Android or you haven't registered your Android with Samsung, you can't use this method.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Open Samsung's \\\"Find My Mobile\\\" site.\", \"描述\": \"Go to https://findmymobile.samsung.com/ in your computer's web browser.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Sign into your Samsung account.\", \"描述\": \"If prompted to sign in, click , then enter your email (or phone number) and password and click .\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Click Unlock my Device.\", \"描述\": \"It's on the left side of the page.\\nIf you have more than one Samsung Galaxy item, you may have to select the correct one by clicking the item name in the top-left corner of the page and then selecting the correct one in the drop-down menu.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Re-enter your Samsung password if prompted.\", \"描述\": \"If asked, you'll need to type in your Samsung account password again. This should unlock your Samsung Galaxy, though you may need to wait for a few seconds before the item recognizes the unlock.\\nAfter the screen is unlocked, you should be able to set a new password from the menu.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Using a Factory Reset\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know what this method entails.\", \"描述\": \"Factory resetting your Android will remove all settings—including your lock screen password—along with any contact and app information from your Android.\\nUnfortunately, if your data isn't backed up, you won't be able to recover the information deleted by the factory reset.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Find your Android's \\\"Recovery\\\" combination.\", \"描述\": \"Every Android has its own combination of buttons which must be pressed in order to open the recovery menu; checking your Android's manual or online documentation should help you find this combination.\\nFor example, Samsung users will typically use the Power, Home, and one of the Volume buttons to access the recovery menu.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Power down your Android.\", \"描述\": \"Press and hold the Power button, then tap when prompted. This will cause your Android to shut down.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Press and hold the \\\"Recovery\\\" combination.\", \"描述\": \"Holding down your Android's recovery keys will prompt your Android to begin booting into the recovery console.\\nIf you see a \\\"No command\\\" error message appear on-screen, keep holding the recovery combination for another 15 to 20 seconds.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Select Recovery mode.\", \"描述\": \"Once the recovery menu appears, use the Volume Down button to scroll down to the option, then press the Power button to select it.\\nIf you don't see , skip this step.\\nSee the next step if you're instead met with a \\\"No command\\\" screen.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Bypass the \\\"No command\\\" screen.\", \"描述\": \"If you're on a Pixel Android, press and hold the Power and Volume Up buttons at the same time until the recovery screen opens.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Select Wipe data / factory reset.\", \"描述\": \"Scroll down to highlight this option, then press the Power button.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Select Yes -- delete all user data.\", \"描述\": \"It's in the middle of the screen. Doing so will prompt your Android to begin factory resetting.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Wait for your Android to finish wiping.\", \"描述\": \"Your Android should take under 10 minutes to completely erase.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Set up your Android.\", \"描述\": \"Once your Android finishes restarting, you can set it up as though it were a new phone or tablet.\\nThis will usually include selecting a language and a Wi-Fi network.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Sign into your Google account.\", \"描述\": \"When prompted, enter the email address and the password for the Google account with which you were previously signed into your Android.\\nIf you don't know the password for your Google account, use a computer to recover it before proceeding.\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Complete your Android setup.\", \"描述\": \"After logging into your Google account, you can proceed with setting up the rest of your Android.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Using a Custom Recovery\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know when to use this method.\", \"描述\": \"If you have a custom recovery such as CWM or TWRP already installed on your Android, you may be able to use the custom recovery's file manager to delete the files which maintain the Android lock screen, thus removing the password in the process.\\nYou cannot use this method if your Android doesn't already have a custom recovery installed.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Turn off your Android.\", \"描述\": \"Press and hold the Power button, then tap in the pop-up menu.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Press and hold the \\\"Recovery\\\" combination.\", \"描述\": \"This button combination will vary from Android to Android, but will usually involve holding down some combination of the Power button, the Home button, and/or the Volume button(s).\\nCheck your phone's documentation for the proper recovery combination if you don't know it.f\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Open the Mount menu.\", \"描述\": \"You'll find this on the main custom recovery page.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Enable all locations.\", \"描述\": \"Check the box next to any folder location on your Android.\\nDo not enable the \\\"Mount system partition read-only\\\" option if available.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Download and transfer the AROMA file manager.\", \"描述\": \"Tap the \\\"Back\\\" button, then do the following on a computer:\\nClick the AROMA download link.\\nWait for the ZIP folder to download.\\nConnect your Android to your computer via a USB cable.\\nIf you're on a Mac, you'll first need to install Android File Transfer.\\nPlace the ZIP folder in your Android's \\\"Download\\\" folder.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Install AROMA file manager.\", \"描述\": \"This file manager will allow you to delete system files:\\nOpen the menu.\\nOpen the folder.\\nSelect the AROMA file manager's ZIP folder.\\nSwipe the \\\"Install\\\" slider right or select the option, then wait for a confirmation.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Navigate to the lock screen files' location.\", \"描述\": \"To do so:\\nOpen the folder.\\nOpen the folder.\\nScroll down to view the system files below the list of folders.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Delete the lock screen files.\", \"描述\": \"Any files starting with \\\"gatekeeper\\\", \\\"locksettings\\\", and/or \\\"lockscreen\\\" pertain to your Android's lock screen, and thus must be deleted:\\nLong-press a file name to select it.\\nRepeat with other lock screen file names.\\nTap the button.\\nTap \\nConfirm your choice if prompted.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Reboot your Android.\", \"描述\": \"Return to the main custom recovery screen, then select the option. Once your Android finishes rebooting, you should be able to open your Android without needing to enter a password.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Removing a Third-Party Lock Screen\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Understand when to use this method.\", \"描述\": \"If you know your Android's regular passcode but can't unlock due to a third-party lock screen app, you can use Safe Mode to delete the lock screen app.\\nSome apps will install malware apps which password-protect the lock screen. Using Safe Mode will allow you to delete these apps.\\nKeep in mind that you'll need to know your Android's regular lock screen combination or passcode in order to complete this method.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Press and hold your Android's \\\"Power\\\" button.\", \"描述\": \"It's usually on the right side of the Android's housing. 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How to Break Into a Car
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1. Breaking Electric or Automatic Locks
1-1. Find your tool of choice.
The basic method for breaking into a car with automatic locks without damaging anything is to wedge a space in the door and use a long poker to hit the lock button. It may be crude, but it's more or less exactly what a locksmith will do if you call one, except doing this won't waste you $80 bucks for five minutes of work. To do this, you'll need one wedge and one poker. Possibilities include:
can include putty knives and door stops, the thinner the better. Ideally, you want to open up only as much space as is necessary to insert your poker. Locksmiths use an inflating balloon to pump air and create space.
include the antenna from the car, unscrewed, and a straightened wire hanger. You might need a pair of pliers to straighten out the hanger, and consider doubling it up to have better control and pushing power when you get to the lock button. Pretty much any tool that is narrow enough to fit through the window crack and long enough to reach the lock button will work. These "pokers" are usually improvised tools to simulate the long reach tools sold in professional opening kits.
1-2. Wedge the door open.
Jam a doorstop or equivalent wedge-like tool into the space between the upper part of the door and the car. Firmly tap the wedge into the door/car space using the heel of your hand.
If you are concerned about damaging your car's paint, cover the wedge with cloth or some kind of felted surface to protect the paint before beginning.
1-3. Insert your rod.
The jammed wedge will create a gap between the door and the car body. Insert your rod into the space between the door and the car body. Guide the rod towards the lock button.
1-4. Press the button and unlock.
Firmly press the button with your rod. It may take a few tries to get at it, but once you do, you'll have successfully broken into your car. Open the door and retrieve your keys.
2. Breaking Manual Locks
2-1. Lasso the lock with a coat hanger.
The biggest difference between breaking into a vehicle with manual locks is that you have to pull up on the locking pin once you get in if you want to do it manually. Follow the same directions, wedging and poking through the space you create, but then you'll have to carefully pull up to unlock the car.
Pushing a button is one thing, but lassoing the pin is much more difficult. You'll have to slip the loop over the head of the lock nub like a noose and pull up to unlock the car. It may take a few tries to get it.
2-2. Consider using a slim jim, or fashioning your own.
A slim jim, otherwise called a lockout tool, is a car tool commonly issued to police officers to help open doors with manual locks. It's used by wedding into the door mechanism itself, between the window and the weather stripping, hooking the locking pin, and pulling it from the inside. If you've got access to a slim jim, it can be a quick fix.
Create your own by straightening out a coat hanger, leaving only the curved (hook) end in its original shape. You may need to use needle nose pliers to unwind the coat hanger to straighten it out, and double it over to reinforce it.
Note that this method is not recommended for cars with automatic windows and locks. Those cars have a lot of wiring in their doors, which might get damaged in this breaking in process.
2-3. Pick the passenger side door.
There is usually less wiring on the passenger side than on the driver's side door, making it somewhat easier to break in.
2-4. Insert your tool.
Identify the black rubber weather stripping along the lower edge of your car window. The locking mechanism is generally lined up with the lock itself, usually toward the back of the door itself.
With your fingers, peel back this rubber strip back from the window slightly to expose the gap between the window and the outer part of the car door. Gently insert your straightened coat hanger, curved end first, into the gap between the window and the weather stripping.
2-5. Lower the coat hanger in.
You should be able to lower the coat hanger into this gap a few inches without resistance, then start feeling for the pin.
If you can look at the vehicle's shop manual, you'll be able to have a great sense of where the locking pin will be and how to access it. If you blindly dig around in the door, you do risk messing up the wiring and causing damage. Try to find out where the locking pin is before you insert the slim jim.
2-6. Find the pin.
Move the coat hanger around in the gap until you feel a small pin. This pin can be pulled to disengage the door lock. It will usually be located about 2 inches (5 cm) below the bottom of the window, near the interior door handle.
2-7. Gently pull the pin towards the rear of the car.
When you find the pin, hook it and gently pull. If successful, you will feel the pin move and hear the door unlock. After successfully unlocking the door, gently pull the coat hanger out and open the door to get your keys back.
3. Breaking in Through the Trunk
3-1. Find the emergency cord.
If your trunk is unlocked by any chance, but the cab is locked with your keys inside, open it and look around inside for the emergency open trunk cord that opens into the car. It is often in the trunk "door" or the roof of the trunk.
3-2. Pull the cord.
Once you find the cord, pull it. This will unlock the back passenger seats allowing them to fall forward in some models of car. This is a common feature in some sedans.
3-3. Crawl in.
Once the passenger seats are unlocked, push them forward. Now you can climb into the car through this new entry, and unlock a back passenger door yourself manually.
Tips
If dealing with a more serious issue such as an accident victim or an infant alone in a hot car, it is almost always more appropriate to break a window.
Be careful not to damage your car's paint or weather stripping while breaking in.
Before breaking into your locked car yourself, consider calling a locksmith or AAA to come and professionally unlock your door with a "slim jim". You can go it alone, but you risk damaging the car lock, car door or door seal; which will ultimately cost you more than hiring a professional to begin with.
Warnings
Burglary and auto theft is a crime. This information is intended solely for the purpose of opening locked doors on cars that belong to you.
Higher end vehicles will lock themselves down if the process is not done in a very specific way. Proceed at your own risk.
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How to Break Links in Excel
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1. Steps
1-1. Open your document in Excel.
You can either open your project within Excel by going to or you can right-click the Excel file in your file browser.
This method works for Excel for Microsoft 365 and Excel 2019-2007 (Mac and Windows).
1-2. Click the Data tab.
You'll see this above the document editing space with Home, Formulas, and View.
1-3. Click Edit Links.
You'll find this in the "Queries & Connections" grouping.
If you don't see this button, the Excel sheet you're working on does not have any active links.
1-4. Click the link you want to break.
You'll see a list of links that are active in your spreadsheet, single-clicking one will highlight it.
If you want to select more than one link from the list, hold the (Windows) or (Mac) key.
If you want to select all the links, press (Windows) or (Mac).
1-5. Click Break Link.
You'll need to confirm that you want to break the link to continue.
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How to Break Nicotine Gum Addiction
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1. Breaking the Habit on Your Own
1-1. Wait out cravings.
You’re hopefully not smoking anymore if you’re chewing nicotine gum. But, you are still addicted to nicotine and its stimulant effects. That means cravings. Physical cravings usually last less than five minutes, so try to wait them out by distracting yourself, delaying the urge, or engaging in an activity. Try out coping mechanisms and find one that works for you.
One tip is to take 10 deep breaths (or count to 10), walk to the sink for a glass of cold water, and slowly drink it until the craving passes.
Try going for a walk, washing dishes, cleaning, or gardening. Call a friend for support or meditate.
Alternatively, keep an interesting book with you. Pick up the book with a pen or highlighter and read when you feel a craving, taking notes and occupying your mind.
1-2. Find a substitute for gum.
You might be surprised to learn that only a small number of nicotine gum users meet the standard of physical addiction. This doesn’t mean you don’t have a habit, and some users do get withdrawal symptoms. But it’s more likely that your habit is psychological. You might be chewing because you feel anxious, nervous, or out of sorts without it.
Constant chewing of nicotine gum may be an oral fixation for you. Try something else in its place, like gum without nicotine or a peppermint.
Try chewing on ice shards, mastic gum (made from plant resin), or honeycomb.
You can also engage your mouth by eating a healthy snack. Chew on some carrots, celery, or cucumber.
Keep in mind that chewing tobacco is NOT a good alternative, as it has many of the same cancer-causing ingredients as cigarettes.
1-3. Learn to spot and reject rationalizations.
The human brain is crafty and can justify just about anything. You may find yourself thinking, “What’s the harm in just one piece today?” This is a rationalization and can derail your efforts to quit. Learn to spot these thoughts and suppress them.
A rationalization is an excuse. It is an attempt to create reasons for doing something you know, deep-down, you really shouldn’t do. It is a form of self-deception.
Watch out for rationalizations like, “What’s the harm in just one?” “I’m in control; I can stop any time I want,” “Today is an exception, I’m having a really stressful day,” or “Chewing is my only way of coping.”
When you recognize a rationalization, remind yourself why you want to quit chewing in the first place. Review your reasons. Write them down and carry them in your pocket, if need be.
1-4. Exercise regularly.
Studies show that regular exercise can reduce the negative effects of nicotine withdrawal. Working out will blunt your cravings and release feel-good endorphins, but also focus your mind on the activity and away from the gum. Aim for at least 150 minutes of moderate exercise per week or 75 minutes of vigorous exercise.
Do exercises you enjoy. This might be walking, running, swimming, cycling, or weight training.
Consider joining an exercise class, like yoga, pilates, or aerobic dance.
You might even take up a team sport in a rec league, like basketball, hockey, or softball.
1-5. Avoid high-risk situations.
Everyone who’s hooked on nicotine knows that they have weak moments — things, experiences, places, or people that will trigger your craving for nicotine. And certain times and places are worse than others. Do you have more cravings when you’re with smoker friends, for example, or socializing at a bar? These are your high-risk situations.
These triggers could cause you not only to chew gum when you're trying to quit, but even start smoking again.
Avoid, avoid, avoid. Spend your work breaks somewhere else if you get cravings while your friends smoke. If you get cravings at bars, go out less frequently or find alternate venues like coffee shops.
Do you have the urge to chew after meals? Since you still have to eat, consider chewing on a toothpick instead.
If you find you want to chew or smoke when you're stressed, bored, or anxious, it is important you find more productive ways to relieve these feelings. Try journaling about how you are feeling to relieve anxiety. Pick up a new hobby to prevent boredom and keep your brain occupied so you don't have time to think about cravings.
2. Coping and Getting Support
2-1. Have a network in place.
Talk to trusted friends and family and ask them to be there for moral support and encouragement. Let them know what you’re going through. They should be only too happy to help you.
You might ask your supporters for specific things. For instance, you could ask them not to smoke or use nicotine products around you. They might be able to have your favorite healthy snack around whenever you visit.
You may also just want a sympathetic ear. Ask if you can vent or call them if you’re in a moment of weakness.
2-2. Join a support group.
Arm yourself with more support than just family and friends. There are plenty of smoking and nicotine cessation support groups available. Find one and share your experiences with other people who know exactly what you’re going through.
Look online or in the phone book for smoking and nicotine support groups in your area. Call for more information or go to a first meeting in person. There may also be online support groups held in chat rooms if you can't physically get to a meeting.
For example, Nicotine Anonymous is a non-profit, 12-step program on the lines of Alcoholics Anonymous.
Organizations like the American Cancer Society, the National Cancer Institute, and the National Institutes of Health can also provide you with listings of support groups.
2-3. Get counseling.
Your nicotine gum habit is either a psychological or physical dependence, maybe both, and might qualify as an addiction. Try setting up an appointment with a therapist or counselor who deals with addiction if you are serious about quitting, and she can help you kick it once and for all.
A counselor will offer you strategies to cope. For example, she might have you try Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT. This will teach you to recognize your problematic behavior and to learn better alternatives.
Your therapist might have you talk about how gum chewing affects your life, for example, and its pros and cons. She can also teach you to moderate your cravings and avoid those “high-risk” situations to avoid a setback.
3. Weighing the Risks
3-1. Talk to your doctor about the risks of nicotine gum.
Doctors prescribe nicotine gum as a short-term smoking cessation aid. They normally do not advise anyone to use it for more than one to two months. Even as part of longer treatment for ex-smokers, nicotine gum is not designed for use beyond 12 months.
People who chew for long periods of time often report chronic jaw pain.
Nicotine gum still has stimulant properties that narrow blood veins, raise your heart rate, and increase your blood pressure. Users may therefore be at higher risk for heart palpitations and chest pain.
Nicotine affects your immune system, increases risk of cardiovascular, respiratory and gastrointestinal disorders. It can predispose you to metabolic syndrome (which increases your risk of diabetes), affect your reproductive health, and more.
3-2. Know about the possible cancer risks.
We definitely know that smoking cigarettes causes cancer. So can chewing tobacco, another product that contains nicotine. Some studies with lab animals suggest that long-term use of nicotine in general and in gum may elevate your risk of cancer, too.
Nicotine gum is quite different from smoking, however. It delivers the drug slowly through the tissue in your mouth and enters your bloodstream much more slowly, at much lower doses, and doesn’t contain the same ingredients as tobacco.
The risk of cancer from gum is also not proven. While nicotine is very addictive and even poisonous in high doses, scientists haven’t shown so far that it can cause cancer by itself.
Be aware that the science is unclear. Chewing nicotine gum may be harmful, but we really don’t know yet. However, the risk on the whole is lower than in smoking.
3-3. Do what’s best for you.
Many people who chew nicotine gum aren’t necessarily addicted, at least physically. They do it because they are afraid of having a setback and going back to smoking. This is a pretty good reason to continue to chew. In the end, though, you’ll have to decide for yourself.
Ask yourself whether you are ready to give up chewing nicotine gum and feel safe that you won’t fall back on cigarettes.
Weigh the pros and cons. If need be, write them down to map out how nicotine gum affects your life, positively and negatively.
Above all, know that, according to what we know, smoking cigarettes is far more dangerous than chewing nicotine gum.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Breaking the Habit on Your Own\\n1-1. Wait out cravings.\\nYou’re hopefully not smoking anymore if you’re chewing nicotine gum. But, you are still addicted to nicotine and its stimulant effects. That means cravings. Physical cravings usually last less than five minutes, so try to wait them out by distracting yourself, delaying the urge, or engaging in an activity. Try out coping mechanisms and find one that works for you. \\nOne tip is to take 10 deep breaths (or count to 10), walk to the sink for a glass of cold water, and slowly drink it until the craving passes.\\nTry going for a walk, washing dishes, cleaning, or gardening. Call a friend for support or meditate.\\nAlternatively, keep an interesting book with you. Pick up the book with a pen or highlighter and read when you feel a craving, taking notes and occupying your mind.\\n1-2. Find a substitute for gum.\\nYou might be surprised to learn that only a small number of nicotine gum users meet the standard of physical addiction. This doesn’t mean you don’t have a habit, and some users do get withdrawal symptoms. But it’s more likely that your habit is psychological. You might be chewing because you feel anxious, nervous, or out of sorts without it.\\nConstant chewing of nicotine gum may be an oral fixation for you. Try something else in its place, like gum without nicotine or a peppermint.\\nTry chewing on ice shards, mastic gum (made from plant resin), or honeycomb.\\nYou can also engage your mouth by eating a healthy snack. Chew on some carrots, celery, or cucumber.\\nKeep in mind that chewing tobacco is NOT a good alternative, as it has many of the same cancer-causing ingredients as cigarettes.\\n1-3. Learn to spot and reject rationalizations.\\nThe human brain is crafty and can justify just about anything. You may find yourself thinking, “What’s the harm in just one piece today?” This is a rationalization and can derail your efforts to quit. Learn to spot these thoughts and suppress them.\\nA rationalization is an excuse. It is an attempt to create reasons for doing something you know, deep-down, you really shouldn’t do. It is a form of self-deception.\\nWatch out for rationalizations like, “What’s the harm in just one?” “I’m in control; I can stop any time I want,” “Today is an exception, I’m having a really stressful day,” or “Chewing is my only way of coping.”\\nWhen you recognize a rationalization, remind yourself why you want to quit chewing in the first place. Review your reasons. Write them down and carry them in your pocket, if need be.\\n1-4. Exercise regularly.\\nStudies show that regular exercise can reduce the negative effects of nicotine withdrawal. Working out will blunt your cravings and release feel-good endorphins, but also focus your mind on the activity and away from the gum. Aim for at least 150 minutes of moderate exercise per week or 75 minutes of vigorous exercise.\\nDo exercises you enjoy. This might be walking, running, swimming, cycling, or weight training.\\nConsider joining an exercise class, like yoga, pilates, or aerobic dance.\\nYou might even take up a team sport in a rec league, like basketball, hockey, or softball.\\n1-5. Avoid high-risk situations.\\nEveryone who’s hooked on nicotine knows that they have weak moments — things, experiences, places, or people that will trigger your craving for nicotine. And certain times and places are worse than others. Do you have more cravings when you’re with smoker friends, for example, or socializing at a bar? These are your high-risk situations.\\nThese triggers could cause you not only to chew gum when you're trying to quit, but even start smoking again.\\nAvoid, avoid, avoid. Spend your work breaks somewhere else if you get cravings while your friends smoke. If you get cravings at bars, go out less frequently or find alternate venues like coffee shops.\\nDo you have the urge to chew after meals? Since you still have to eat, consider chewing on a toothpick instead.\\nIf you find you want to chew or smoke when you're stressed, bored, or anxious, it is important you find more productive ways to relieve these feelings. Try journaling about how you are feeling to relieve anxiety. Pick up a new hobby to prevent boredom and keep your brain occupied so you don't have time to think about cravings.\\n2. Coping and Getting Support\\n2-1. Have a network in place.\\nTalk to trusted friends and family and ask them to be there for moral support and encouragement. Let them know what you’re going through. They should be only too happy to help you.\\nYou might ask your supporters for specific things. For instance, you could ask them not to smoke or use nicotine products around you. They might be able to have your favorite healthy snack around whenever you visit.\\nYou may also just want a sympathetic ear. Ask if you can vent or call them if you’re in a moment of weakness.\\n2-2. Join a support group.\\nArm yourself with more support than just family and friends. There are plenty of smoking and nicotine cessation support groups available. Find one and share your experiences with other people who know exactly what you’re going through.\\nLook online or in the phone book for smoking and nicotine support groups in your area. Call for more information or go to a first meeting in person. There may also be online support groups held in chat rooms if you can't physically get to a meeting.\\nFor example, Nicotine Anonymous is a non-profit, 12-step program on the lines of Alcoholics Anonymous.\\nOrganizations like the American Cancer Society, the National Cancer Institute, and the National Institutes of Health can also provide you with listings of support groups.\\n2-3. Get counseling.\\nYour nicotine gum habit is either a psychological or physical dependence, maybe both, and might qualify as an addiction. Try setting up an appointment with a therapist or counselor who deals with addiction if you are serious about quitting, and she can help you kick it once and for all.\\nA counselor will offer you strategies to cope. For example, she might have you try Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT. This will teach you to recognize your problematic behavior and to learn better alternatives.\\nYour therapist might have you talk about how gum chewing affects your life, for example, and its pros and cons. She can also teach you to moderate your cravings and avoid those “high-risk” situations to avoid a setback.\\n3. Weighing the Risks\\n3-1. Talk to your doctor about the risks of nicotine gum.\\nDoctors prescribe nicotine gum as a short-term smoking cessation aid. They normally do not advise anyone to use it for more than one to two months. Even as part of longer treatment for ex-smokers, nicotine gum is not designed for use beyond 12 months.\\nPeople who chew for long periods of time often report chronic jaw pain.\\nNicotine gum still has stimulant properties that narrow blood veins, raise your heart rate, and increase your blood pressure. Users may therefore be at higher risk for heart palpitations and chest pain.\\nNicotine affects your immune system, increases risk of cardiovascular, respiratory and gastrointestinal disorders. It can predispose you to metabolic syndrome (which increases your risk of diabetes), affect your reproductive health, and more.\\n3-2. Know about the possible cancer risks.\\nWe definitely know that smoking cigarettes causes cancer. So can chewing tobacco, another product that contains nicotine. Some studies with lab animals suggest that long-term use of nicotine in general and in gum may elevate your risk of cancer, too.\\nNicotine gum is quite different from smoking, however. It delivers the drug slowly through the tissue in your mouth and enters your bloodstream much more slowly, at much lower doses, and doesn’t contain the same ingredients as tobacco.\\nThe risk of cancer from gum is also not proven. While nicotine is very addictive and even poisonous in high doses, scientists haven’t shown so far that it can cause cancer by itself.\\nBe aware that the science is unclear. Chewing nicotine gum may be harmful, but we really don’t know yet. However, the risk on the whole is lower than in smoking.\\n3-3. Do what’s best for you.\\nMany people who chew nicotine gum aren’t necessarily addicted, at least physically. They do it because they are afraid of having a setback and going back to smoking. This is a pretty good reason to continue to chew. In the end, though, you’ll have to decide for yourself.\\nAsk yourself whether you are ready to give up chewing nicotine gum and feel safe that you won’t fall back on cigarettes.\\nWeigh the pros and cons. If need be, write them down to map out how nicotine gum affects your life, positively and negatively.\\nAbove all, know that, according to what we know, smoking cigarettes is far more dangerous than chewing nicotine gum.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Nicotine use, including smoking, smokeless tobacco and inhaled e-cigarettes, is one of the most prominent causes of health-related anomalies and disease. Smoking/nicotine cessation is a preventative measure to reduce burden of disease as well as prevent cancer, lung disease, heart disease, vascular complications, stroke, and numerous other health complications. Nicotine gums like Nicorette or Nicoderm are smoking-cessation aids. They're designed to wean smokers off cigarettes by giving them a low dose of nicotine, without the carcinogens of tobacco. Unfortunately, some people kick one habit for another and become addicted to this gum. Be brave if you want to break your chewing habit – combat the cravings, seek support, and know the risks of long-term use.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Breaking the Habit on Your Own\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wait out cravings.\", \"描述\": \"You’re hopefully not smoking anymore if you’re chewing nicotine gum. But, you are still addicted to nicotine and its stimulant effects. That means cravings. Physical cravings usually last less than five minutes, so try to wait them out by distracting yourself, delaying the urge, or engaging in an activity. Try out coping mechanisms and find one that works for you. \\nOne tip is to take 10 deep breaths (or count to 10), walk to the sink for a glass of cold water, and slowly drink it until the craving passes.\\nTry going for a walk, washing dishes, cleaning, or gardening. Call a friend for support or meditate.\\nAlternatively, keep an interesting book with you. Pick up the book with a pen or highlighter and read when you feel a craving, taking notes and occupying your mind.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Find a substitute for gum.\", \"描述\": \"You might be surprised to learn that only a small number of nicotine gum users meet the standard of physical addiction. This doesn’t mean you don’t have a habit, and some users do get withdrawal symptoms. But it’s more likely that your habit is psychological. You might be chewing because you feel anxious, nervous, or out of sorts without it.\\nConstant chewing of nicotine gum may be an oral fixation for you. Try something else in its place, like gum without nicotine or a peppermint.\\nTry chewing on ice shards, mastic gum (made from plant resin), or honeycomb.\\nYou can also engage your mouth by eating a healthy snack. Chew on some carrots, celery, or cucumber.\\nKeep in mind that chewing tobacco is NOT a good alternative, as it has many of the same cancer-causing ingredients as cigarettes.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn to spot and reject rationalizations.\", \"描述\": \"The human brain is crafty and can justify just about anything. You may find yourself thinking, “What’s the harm in just one piece today?” This is a rationalization and can derail your efforts to quit. Learn to spot these thoughts and suppress them.\\nA rationalization is an excuse. It is an attempt to create reasons for doing something you know, deep-down, you really shouldn’t do. It is a form of self-deception.\\nWatch out for rationalizations like, “What’s the harm in just one?” “I’m in control; I can stop any time I want,” “Today is an exception, I’m having a really stressful day,” or “Chewing is my only way of coping.”\\nWhen you recognize a rationalization, remind yourself why you want to quit chewing in the first place. Review your reasons. Write them down and carry them in your pocket, if need be.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Exercise regularly.\", \"描述\": \"Studies show that regular exercise can reduce the negative effects of nicotine withdrawal. Working out will blunt your cravings and release feel-good endorphins, but also focus your mind on the activity and away from the gum. Aim for at least 150 minutes of moderate exercise per week or 75 minutes of vigorous exercise.\\nDo exercises you enjoy. This might be walking, running, swimming, cycling, or weight training.\\nConsider joining an exercise class, like yoga, pilates, or aerobic dance.\\nYou might even take up a team sport in a rec league, like basketball, hockey, or softball.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Avoid high-risk situations.\", \"描述\": \"Everyone who’s hooked on nicotine knows that they have weak moments — things, experiences, places, or people that will trigger your craving for nicotine. And certain times and places are worse than others. Do you have more cravings when you’re with smoker friends, for example, or socializing at a bar? These are your high-risk situations.\\nThese triggers could cause you not only to chew gum when you're trying to quit, but even start smoking again.\\nAvoid, avoid, avoid. Spend your work breaks somewhere else if you get cravings while your friends smoke. If you get cravings at bars, go out less frequently or find alternate venues like coffee shops.\\nDo you have the urge to chew after meals? Since you still have to eat, consider chewing on a toothpick instead.\\nIf you find you want to chew or smoke when you're stressed, bored, or anxious, it is important you find more productive ways to relieve these feelings. Try journaling about how you are feeling to relieve anxiety. Pick up a new hobby to prevent boredom and keep your brain occupied so you don't have time to think about cravings.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Coping and Getting Support\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have a network in place.\", \"描述\": \"Talk to trusted friends and family and ask them to be there for moral support and encouragement. Let them know what you’re going through. They should be only too happy to help you.\\nYou might ask your supporters for specific things. For instance, you could ask them not to smoke or use nicotine products around you. They might be able to have your favorite healthy snack around whenever you visit.\\nYou may also just want a sympathetic ear. Ask if you can vent or call them if you’re in a moment of weakness.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Join a support group.\", \"描述\": \"Arm yourself with more support than just family and friends. There are plenty of smoking and nicotine cessation support groups available. Find one and share your experiences with other people who know exactly what you’re going through.\\nLook online or in the phone book for smoking and nicotine support groups in your area. Call for more information or go to a first meeting in person. There may also be online support groups held in chat rooms if you can't physically get to a meeting.\\nFor example, Nicotine Anonymous is a non-profit, 12-step program on the lines of Alcoholics Anonymous.\\nOrganizations like the American Cancer Society, the National Cancer Institute, and the National Institutes of Health can also provide you with listings of support groups.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get counseling.\", \"描述\": \"Your nicotine gum habit is either a psychological or physical dependence, maybe both, and might qualify as an addiction. Try setting up an appointment with a therapist or counselor who deals with addiction if you are serious about quitting, and she can help you kick it once and for all.\\nA counselor will offer you strategies to cope. For example, she might have you try Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT. This will teach you to recognize your problematic behavior and to learn better alternatives.\\nYour therapist might have you talk about how gum chewing affects your life, for example, and its pros and cons. She can also teach you to moderate your cravings and avoid those “high-risk” situations to avoid a setback.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Weighing the Risks\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Talk to your doctor about the risks of nicotine gum.\", \"描述\": \"Doctors prescribe nicotine gum as a short-term smoking cessation aid. They normally do not advise anyone to use it for more than one to two months. Even as part of longer treatment for ex-smokers, nicotine gum is not designed for use beyond 12 months.\\nPeople who chew for long periods of time often report chronic jaw pain.\\nNicotine gum still has stimulant properties that narrow blood veins, raise your heart rate, and increase your blood pressure. Users may therefore be at higher risk for heart palpitations and chest pain.\\nNicotine affects your immune system, increases risk of cardiovascular, respiratory and gastrointestinal disorders. It can predispose you to metabolic syndrome (which increases your risk of diabetes), affect your reproductive health, and more.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Know about the possible cancer risks.\", \"描述\": \"We definitely know that smoking cigarettes causes cancer. So can chewing tobacco, another product that contains nicotine. 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How to Break Soul Ties through Prayer
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1. Prayers for Breaking Soul Ties
1-1. Current or past sexual relationship:
According to many believers in soul ties, a new soul tie is formed whenever two individuals engage in sexual intercourse for the first time. This soul tie is a key part of the unification of a married couple, but also means unhealthy soul ties can form from any sexual encounter outside of marriage. In your prayer, name and renounce the soul ties specifically and ask for forgiveness and strength.
“In the name of Jesus Christ, I hereby renounce and break any and all soul ties formed between myself and [person’s name] due to fornication [or adultery]. I likewise cancel all destructive effects of these ungodly soul ties. I ask for the Lord’s forgiveness for my transgressions, and that He will grant me the strength to avoid destructive soul ties from this point forward. Amen.”
1-2. New sexual or physical encounter:
If you’ve just had a sexual encounter that you know was a mistake—like an alcohol-aided one night stand—try praying to break the soul tie while it's in its infancy. If you didn’t engage in sexual intercourse but did have a heavy “make-out session” or similar physical encounter, pray to snuff out the spark of a new soul tie before it can take hold.
“Lord Jesus, I humbly pray that you will help me to break [or prevent] any soul ties between myself and [person’s name] due to our sexual [or physical] encounter. Help me to follow in your righteous path and seek out only those soul ties that will nourish my spirit and bring me closer to you. In your holy name I pray, Amen.”
1-3. Sexual urges toward another person:
Even if you haven’t engaged in sexual intercourse with a person, holding inappropriate sexual urges—such as for a married person or for someone other than your own spouse—may result in the formation of soul ties. So, instead of ignoring the unhealthy attachment you feel toward someone else simply because you’ve never had sex with them, pray to break the bonds before they lead to sexual intercourse.
“Dear Heavenly Father, in your name I reject and sever all soul ties between myself and [person’s name]. I have committed fornication [or adultery] in my heart and ask for your forgiveness for my sinful thoughts. I renounce all harmful effects of these ungodly soul ties from now on, with the help of my Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.”
Some people believe that viewing pornography, especially if accompanied by masturbation, creates soul ties between the viewer and the person(s) viewed—despite the lack of personal knowledge or connection. From this point of view, it’s no different from developing lustful urges for a neighbor.
1-4. Non-consensual sexual act:
It can be hard to accept—and not all believers do accept—that soul ties form between the perpetrator and survivor of rape or other sexual assault. But, if you think of soul ties as impediments to breaking free of damaging thoughts and feelings brought about by trauma, you might come to see how prayer can help break the unconscionable bond that was forced upon you.
“In the name of Jesus Christ my Savior, I hereby reject and renounce all soul ties caused by the abuse perpetrated upon me by [person’s name, if known]. With your strength I am able to forgive them and fervently hope that they will choose repentance and renewal under your care. I will not forget what happened, but I will break any and all bonds between this person and myself. I do this with your help and in your name, Amen.”
1-5. Harmful family relationship:
Not all soul ties are sexual in nature, so positive or negative bonds can form between close family members or friends as well. If, for example, you have a controlling family member who lures you into sinful ways or harmful choices, making a clean break—including through prayer—may be necessary.
“Jesus my eternal Lord and Savior, in your name and through your power I hereby break all harmful ties between myself and [person’s name and their relation to you]. I renounce and reject their ungodly influence upon my life, and I thank you, Lord Jesus, for your saving grace and compassion. Amen.”
1-6. Deep but toxic friendship:
The soul ties you form with a close friend may be toxic because the other person manipulates and takes advantage of you for their own selfish reasons. Or, the friend may provide an example of a sinful or ungodly lifestyle that you struggle to resist. In any case, prayer can help you break the bonds and end the friendship that is harming you.
“Almighty God, relying on your strength I hereby cut any and all ungodly soul ties between myself and [person’s name]. I ask your forgiveness for allowing myself to be led astray as a result of a false friendship, and I ask for wisdom in choosing friends in the future. In your name I pray, Amen.”
2. Other Strategies for Breaking Soul Ties
2-1. Write about your unwanted soul tie and your feelings.
Putting things down on paper really helps bring clarity to your situation. It’ll help you identify and define the harmful soul tie in your life and express your plan and your desire to break free from it. Here are a couple of helpful writing strategies to try:
Keep a journal in which you can freely express your thoughts and feelings about your soul ties. Your journal entries can be very structured or completely unstructured—what’s truly important is putting things down on paper so you can reflect and respond.
Write a letter to the person you have the undesirable soul tie with. The act of writing down your experience and your desire to break the bond will give you greater clarity and comfort. Burn or tear up the letter afterward instead of actually sending it to the other person.
2-2. Get rid of items that are connected to the person.
Return, donate, sell, or destroy gifts, mementos, photos, and any other reminders of the other person. Doing so can help you break the unhealthy soul tie now and avoid an unwanted reattachment in the future.
Getting rid of the items—maybe even ritually burning them—may directly help to break the soul tie. Plus, clearing away these reminders will definitely help you to move forward with your life.
2-3. Cut off contact with the other person completely.
This action, just like getting rid of mementos in your home, helps you to leave the person behind and focus on a new future without them. Remove them from your contacts, don’t follow them on social media, and do your best to avoid situations in which you’re likely to run into them. Make sure the broken soul tie stays broken!
It’s not always possible to completely break off contact—for instance, if you’re breaking a soul tie with a co-parent to your child. In this case, reduce the contact to the bare minimum necessary.
2-4. Imagine yourself literally cutting the cord that binds you.
Close your eyes and picture a physical cord that connects you to the other person. Visualize yourself grabbing scissors and completely cutting the cord—you may even want to pantomime the cutting motion or even use real scissors to cut an actual cord stretched out in front of you.
To take the imagery even further, visualize yourself and the other person on individual life rafts connected by a rope. Cut the rope and watch as your rafts drift ever further apart on the open sea.
2-5. Forgive yourself as well as the other person.
If the other person harmed you in some way, forgiving them can help you break free and move on. It’s also important to forgive yourself if you feel at fault or ashamed for your part in the unhealthy soul tie. Continuing to hold a grudge against the other person or even yourself will make it that much more difficult to break the bond between you.
In some cases it may be appropriate and cathartic to forgive the other person directly, but forgiving them privately in your own heart often provides the release and relief you’re seeking. For instance, if you’ve already broken off contact with the person, don’t feel as though you need to resume it in order to forgive them.
Encourage yourself to find and offer forgiveness, but don’t rush the process. Forgive others and yourself on your own timetable.
You might say something like the following to yourself: “I forgive Kathy for pursuing me even though she knew I was engaged, and I forgive myself for succumbing to her advances. We both were wrong, but I am ready to let go and look forward.”
2-6. Talk to a religious/spiritual advisor or mental health professional.
If you have a religious or spiritual advisor who can help you recognize and break free of your soul tie, meet with them. Alternatively, meet with a mental health professional—ideally someone who’s familiar with soul ties and overcoming them. In either case, discuss your feelings and needs and work together to formulate strategies for moving forward with your life.
If you’re feeling isolated or ashamed, remember that you are far from the first or the last person to be trapped by a harmful soul tie. Get the help you need, and be confident that you can and will break this soul tie!
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Note: This article includes Christian prayers because the concept of soul ties is often associated with Christianity, based in part on Bible passages such as Genesis 2:24, I Samuel 18:1-3, and Mark 10:9-12. However, the prayers can be adapted to suit other religious or spiritual traditions.
When it comes to soul ties, prevention is definitely the best cure. Not all soul ties can be avoided, but you can certainly pray for the wisdom and strength to steer clear of those that are avoidable.
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New sexual or physical encounter:\\nIf you’ve just had a sexual encounter that you know was a mistake—like an alcohol-aided one night stand—try praying to break the soul tie while it's in its infancy. If you didn’t engage in sexual intercourse but did have a heavy “make-out session” or similar physical encounter, pray to snuff out the spark of a new soul tie before it can take hold.\\n“Lord Jesus, I humbly pray that you will help me to break [or prevent] any soul ties between myself and [person’s name] due to our sexual [or physical] encounter. Help me to follow in your righteous path and seek out only those soul ties that will nourish my spirit and bring me closer to you. In your holy name I pray, Amen.”\\n1-3. Sexual urges toward another person:\\nEven if you haven’t engaged in sexual intercourse with a person, holding inappropriate sexual urges—such as for a married person or for someone other than your own spouse—may result in the formation of soul ties. So, instead of ignoring the unhealthy attachment you feel toward someone else simply because you’ve never had sex with them, pray to break the bonds before they lead to sexual intercourse.\\n“Dear Heavenly Father, in your name I reject and sever all soul ties between myself and [person’s name]. I have committed fornication [or adultery] in my heart and ask for your forgiveness for my sinful thoughts. I renounce all harmful effects of these ungodly soul ties from now on, with the help of my Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.”\\nSome people believe that viewing pornography, especially if accompanied by masturbation, creates soul ties between the viewer and the person(s) viewed—despite the lack of personal knowledge or connection. From this point of view, it’s no different from developing lustful urges for a neighbor.\\n1-4. Non-consensual sexual act:\\nIt can be hard to accept—and not all believers do accept—that soul ties form between the perpetrator and survivor of rape or other sexual assault. But, if you think of soul ties as impediments to breaking free of damaging thoughts and feelings brought about by trauma, you might come to see how prayer can help break the unconscionable bond that was forced upon you.\\n“In the name of Jesus Christ my Savior, I hereby reject and renounce all soul ties caused by the abuse perpetrated upon me by [person’s name, if known]. With your strength I am able to forgive them and fervently hope that they will choose repentance and renewal under your care. I will not forget what happened, but I will break any and all bonds between this person and myself. I do this with your help and in your name, Amen.”\\n1-5. Harmful family relationship:\\nNot all soul ties are sexual in nature, so positive or negative bonds can form between close family members or friends as well. If, for example, you have a controlling family member who lures you into sinful ways or harmful choices, making a clean break—including through prayer—may be necessary.\\n“Jesus my eternal Lord and Savior, in your name and through your power I hereby break all harmful ties between myself and [person’s name and their relation to you]. I renounce and reject their ungodly influence upon my life, and I thank you, Lord Jesus, for your saving grace and compassion. Amen.”\\n1-6. Deep but toxic friendship:\\nThe soul ties you form with a close friend may be toxic because the other person manipulates and takes advantage of you for their own selfish reasons. Or, the friend may provide an example of a sinful or ungodly lifestyle that you struggle to resist. In any case, prayer can help you break the bonds and end the friendship that is harming you.\\n“Almighty God, relying on your strength I hereby cut any and all ungodly soul ties between myself and [person’s name]. I ask your forgiveness for allowing myself to be led astray as a result of a false friendship, and I ask for wisdom in choosing friends in the future. In your name I pray, Amen.”\\n2. Other Strategies for Breaking Soul Ties\\n2-1. Write about your unwanted soul tie and your feelings.\\nPutting things down on paper really helps bring clarity to your situation. It’ll help you identify and define the harmful soul tie in your life and express your plan and your desire to break free from it. Here are a couple of helpful writing strategies to try:\\nKeep a journal in which you can freely express your thoughts and feelings about your soul ties. Your journal entries can be very structured or completely unstructured—what’s truly important is putting things down on paper so you can reflect and respond.\\nWrite a letter to the person you have the undesirable soul tie with. The act of writing down your experience and your desire to break the bond will give you greater clarity and comfort. Burn or tear up the letter afterward instead of actually sending it to the other person.\\n2-2. Get rid of items that are connected to the person.\\nReturn, donate, sell, or destroy gifts, mementos, photos, and any other reminders of the other person. Doing so can help you break the unhealthy soul tie now and avoid an unwanted reattachment in the future.\\nGetting rid of the items—maybe even ritually burning them—may directly help to break the soul tie. Plus, clearing away these reminders will definitely help you to move forward with your life.\\n2-3. Cut off contact with the other person completely.\\nThis action, just like getting rid of mementos in your home, helps you to leave the person behind and focus on a new future without them. Remove them from your contacts, don’t follow them on social media, and do your best to avoid situations in which you’re likely to run into them. Make sure the broken soul tie stays broken!\\nIt’s not always possible to completely break off contact—for instance, if you’re breaking a soul tie with a co-parent to your child. In this case, reduce the contact to the bare minimum necessary.\\n2-4. Imagine yourself literally cutting the cord that binds you.\\nClose your eyes and picture a physical cord that connects you to the other person. Visualize yourself grabbing scissors and completely cutting the cord—you may even want to pantomime the cutting motion or even use real scissors to cut an actual cord stretched out in front of you.\\nTo take the imagery even further, visualize yourself and the other person on individual life rafts connected by a rope. Cut the rope and watch as your rafts drift ever further apart on the open sea.\\n2-5. Forgive yourself as well as the other person.\\nIf the other person harmed you in some way, forgiving them can help you break free and move on. It’s also important to forgive yourself if you feel at fault or ashamed for your part in the unhealthy soul tie. Continuing to hold a grudge against the other person or even yourself will make it that much more difficult to break the bond between you.\\nIn some cases it may be appropriate and cathartic to forgive the other person directly, but forgiving them privately in your own heart often provides the release and relief you’re seeking. For instance, if you’ve already broken off contact with the person, don’t feel as though you need to resume it in order to forgive them.\\nEncourage yourself to find and offer forgiveness, but don’t rush the process. Forgive others and yourself on your own timetable.\\nYou might say something like the following to yourself: “I forgive Kathy for pursuing me even though she knew I was engaged, and I forgive myself for succumbing to her advances. We both were wrong, but I am ready to let go and look forward.”\\n2-6. Talk to a religious/spiritual advisor or mental health professional.\\nIf you have a religious or spiritual advisor who can help you recognize and break free of your soul tie, meet with them. Alternatively, meet with a mental health professional—ideally someone who’s familiar with soul ties and overcoming them. In either case, discuss your feelings and needs and work together to formulate strategies for moving forward with your life.\\nIf you’re feeling isolated or ashamed, remember that you are far from the first or the last person to be trapped by a harmful soul tie. Get the help you need, and be confident that you can and will break this soul tie!\\nTips\\nNote: This article includes Christian prayers because the concept of soul ties is often associated with Christianity, based in part on Bible passages such as Genesis 2:24, I Samuel 18:1-3, and Mark 10:9-12. However, the prayers can be adapted to suit other religious or spiritual traditions.\\nWhen it comes to soul ties, prevention is definitely the best cure. Not all soul ties can be avoided, but you can certainly pray for the wisdom and strength to steer clear of those that are avoidable.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"While a positive soul tie—a powerful spiritual bond that unites two people—is one of life’s greatest treasures, unwanted or harmful soul ties can cause a lot of emotional pain. Breaking a soul tie is difficult but definitely possible, and many people find that prayer is a key part of cutting the bond. We’ve gathered a list of prayers you can recite (or adapt) to break specific types of soul ties, followed by a list of complementary strategies you can use as well. So don’t wait another minute to break that negative soul tie!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Prayers for Breaking Soul Ties\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Current or past sexual relationship:\", \"描述\": \"According to many believers in soul ties, a new soul tie is formed whenever two individuals engage in sexual intercourse for the first time. This soul tie is a key part of the unification of a married couple, but also means unhealthy soul ties can form from any sexual encounter outside of marriage. In your prayer, name and renounce the soul ties specifically and ask for forgiveness and strength.\\n“In the name of Jesus Christ, I hereby renounce and break any and all soul ties formed between myself and [person’s name] due to fornication [or adultery]. I likewise cancel all destructive effects of these ungodly soul ties. I ask for the Lord’s forgiveness for my transgressions, and that He will grant me the strength to avoid destructive soul ties from this point forward. Amen.”\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"New sexual or physical encounter:\", \"描述\": \"If you’ve just had a sexual encounter that you know was a mistake—like an alcohol-aided one night stand—try praying to break the soul tie while it's in its infancy. If you didn’t engage in sexual intercourse but did have a heavy “make-out session” or similar physical encounter, pray to snuff out the spark of a new soul tie before it can take hold.\\n“Lord Jesus, I humbly pray that you will help me to break [or prevent] any soul ties between myself and [person’s name] due to our sexual [or physical] encounter. Help me to follow in your righteous path and seek out only those soul ties that will nourish my spirit and bring me closer to you. In your holy name I pray, Amen.”\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Sexual urges toward another person:\", \"描述\": \"Even if you haven’t engaged in sexual intercourse with a person, holding inappropriate sexual urges—such as for a married person or for someone other than your own spouse—may result in the formation of soul ties. So, instead of ignoring the unhealthy attachment you feel toward someone else simply because you’ve never had sex with them, pray to break the bonds before they lead to sexual intercourse.\\n“Dear Heavenly Father, in your name I reject and sever all soul ties between myself and [person’s name]. I have committed fornication [or adultery] in my heart and ask for your forgiveness for my sinful thoughts. I renounce all harmful effects of these ungodly soul ties from now on, with the help of my Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.”\\nSome people believe that viewing pornography, especially if accompanied by masturbation, creates soul ties between the viewer and the person(s) viewed—despite the lack of personal knowledge or connection. From this point of view, it’s no different from developing lustful urges for a neighbor.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Non-consensual sexual act:\", \"描述\": \"It can be hard to accept—and not all believers do accept—that soul ties form between the perpetrator and survivor of rape or other sexual assault. But, if you think of soul ties as impediments to breaking free of damaging thoughts and feelings brought about by trauma, you might come to see how prayer can help break the unconscionable bond that was forced upon you.\\n“In the name of Jesus Christ my Savior, I hereby reject and renounce all soul ties caused by the abuse perpetrated upon me by [person’s name, if known]. With your strength I am able to forgive them and fervently hope that they will choose repentance and renewal under your care. I will not forget what happened, but I will break any and all bonds between this person and myself. I do this with your help and in your name, Amen.”\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Harmful family relationship:\", \"描述\": \"Not all soul ties are sexual in nature, so positive or negative bonds can form between close family members or friends as well. If, for example, you have a controlling family member who lures you into sinful ways or harmful choices, making a clean break—including through prayer—may be necessary.\\n“Jesus my eternal Lord and Savior, in your name and through your power I hereby break all harmful ties between myself and [person’s name and their relation to you]. I renounce and reject their ungodly influence upon my life, and I thank you, Lord Jesus, for your saving grace and compassion. Amen.”\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Deep but toxic friendship:\", \"描述\": \"The soul ties you form with a close friend may be toxic because the other person manipulates and takes advantage of you for their own selfish reasons. Or, the friend may provide an example of a sinful or ungodly lifestyle that you struggle to resist. In any case, prayer can help you break the bonds and end the friendship that is harming you.\\n“Almighty God, relying on your strength I hereby cut any and all ungodly soul ties between myself and [person’s name]. I ask your forgiveness for allowing myself to be led astray as a result of a false friendship, and I ask for wisdom in choosing friends in the future. In your name I pray, Amen.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Other Strategies for Breaking Soul Ties\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Write about your unwanted soul tie and your feelings.\", \"描述\": \"Putting things down on paper really helps bring clarity to your situation. It’ll help you identify and define the harmful soul tie in your life and express your plan and your desire to break free from it. Here are a couple of helpful writing strategies to try:\\nKeep a journal in which you can freely express your thoughts and feelings about your soul ties. Your journal entries can be very structured or completely unstructured—what’s truly important is putting things down on paper so you can reflect and respond.\\nWrite a letter to the person you have the undesirable soul tie with. The act of writing down your experience and your desire to break the bond will give you greater clarity and comfort. Burn or tear up the letter afterward instead of actually sending it to the other person.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get rid of items that are connected to the person.\", \"描述\": \"Return, donate, sell, or destroy gifts, mementos, photos, and any other reminders of the other person. Doing so can help you break the unhealthy soul tie now and avoid an unwanted reattachment in the future.\\nGetting rid of the items—maybe even ritually burning them—may directly help to break the soul tie. Plus, clearing away these reminders will definitely help you to move forward with your life.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Cut off contact with the other person completely.\", \"描述\": \"This action, just like getting rid of mementos in your home, helps you to leave the person behind and focus on a new future without them. Remove them from your contacts, don’t follow them on social media, and do your best to avoid situations in which you’re likely to run into them. Make sure the broken soul tie stays broken!\\nIt’s not always possible to completely break off contact—for instance, if you’re breaking a soul tie with a co-parent to your child. In this case, reduce the contact to the bare minimum necessary.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Imagine yourself literally cutting the cord that binds you.\", \"描述\": \"Close your eyes and picture a physical cord that connects you to the other person. Visualize yourself grabbing scissors and completely cutting the cord—you may even want to pantomime the cutting motion or even use real scissors to cut an actual cord stretched out in front of you.\\nTo take the imagery even further, visualize yourself and the other person on individual life rafts connected by a rope. Cut the rope and watch as your rafts drift ever further apart on the open sea.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Forgive yourself as well as the other person.\", \"描述\": \"If the other person harmed you in some way, forgiving them can help you break free and move on. It’s also important to forgive yourself if you feel at fault or ashamed for your part in the unhealthy soul tie. Continuing to hold a grudge against the other person or even yourself will make it that much more difficult to break the bond between you.\\nIn some cases it may be appropriate and cathartic to forgive the other person directly, but forgiving them privately in your own heart often provides the release and relief you’re seeking. For instance, if you’ve already broken off contact with the person, don’t feel as though you need to resume it in order to forgive them.\\nEncourage yourself to find and offer forgiveness, but don’t rush the process. Forgive others and yourself on your own timetable.\\nYou might say something like the following to yourself: “I forgive Kathy for pursuing me even though she knew I was engaged, and I forgive myself for succumbing to her advances. We both were wrong, but I am ready to let go and look forward.”\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Talk to a religious/spiritual advisor or mental health professional.\", \"描述\": \"If you have a religious or spiritual advisor who can help you recognize and break free of your soul tie, meet with them. Alternatively, meet with a mental health professional—ideally someone who’s familiar with soul ties and overcoming them. In either case, discuss your feelings and needs and work together to formulate strategies for moving forward with your life.\\nIf you’re feeling isolated or ashamed, remember that you are far from the first or the last person to be trapped by a harmful soul tie. Get the help you need, and be confident that you can and will break this soul tie!\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Note: This article includes Christian prayers because the concept of soul ties is often associated with Christianity, based in part on Bible passages such as Genesis 2:24, I Samuel 18:1-3, and Mark 10:9-12. However, the prayers can be adapted to suit other religious or spiritual traditions.\\n\", \"When it comes to soul ties, prevention is definitely the best cure. Not all soul ties can be avoided, but you can certainly pray for the wisdom and strength to steer clear of those that are avoidable.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Break and Mine Stone in Valheim
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1. Getting Started
1-1. Craft a hammer.
When you first start out in Valheim, the first thing you need to craft is a hammer. This is used to build other tools, weapons, and building materials. All that is required to craft a hammer is 3 wood and 2 stone. Once you have the materials needed to craft a hammer, open the crafting menu, select the hammer and click .
You can find wood by punching trees and picking up branches. You can find stone by picking up small black stones on the ground.
To open your inventory and crafting menu, press on the keyboard.
1-2. Craft a workbench.
A workbench is needed to craft nearly everything else in the game. It requires 10 pieces of wood to craft. Once you have enough pieces of wood to craft a workbench, equip your hammer and open your crafting menu. Select the workbench option and place the workbench.
To protect the workbench from the elements, you will want to place the workbench inside of a shelter. You can find abandoned shelters all throughout Valheim. You can also craft a shelter around your workbench after you place the workbench. You'll want to craft a shelter big enough for a bed, a chest, a fire, and a workbench. If you place a workbench next to an abandoned shelter, you can quickly dismantle the shelter and gain wood, which can be used to rebuild the shelter or other items.
1-3. Craft some weapons.
After you have a workbench, you can craft more advanced weapons and tools. You'll need to craft some weapons in order to survive and beat Eikthyr. You can craft melee weapons, such as an ax or spear, or you can craft a bow and arrow for long-range combat.
1-4. Craft some armor.
Before you decide to take on Eikthyr, it's recommended that you craft and equip some armor. Hunt deer to gather deer hide, which can be used to craft a leather helmet, leather tunic, and leather pants at a workbench.
If you are using a melee weapon, you may want to craft a wooden shield out of wood.
2. Finding and Defeating Eikthyr
2-1. Interact with the glowing red stone next to the sacrificial altar.
When you first spawn in the world, you will find a large red stone next to the sacrificial altar. Interact with the glowing red stone to have Eikthyr's location marked on your map.
Press on the keyboard to interact with objects.
Eikthyr's location can only be found in meadow biomes.
2-2. Gather two deer trophies.
You can get deer trophies by hunting deer. It's considered an uncommon drop, so you may have to hunt several deer in order to obtain 2 deer trophies.
2-3. Rest and eat food.
Before you head into battle with Eikthyr, you'll want to make sure you have full health and stamina. It's recommended you eat 3 different types of food and rest. The resting effect gives your character 50% health regen, 100% stamina regen, and a 50% boost to all skills. You can rest by sitting in a shelter or next to a fire.
2-4. Go to Eikthyr's marked location.
Go to the location that was marked on your map when you interacted with the glowing red stone. When you get there, you will find a sacrificial stone in the middle of the meadows.
2-5. Place 2 deer trophies on the sacrificial stone.
Place the 2 deer trophies in your action bar and then place them on the sacrificial stone. This will trigger a cut scene in which Eikthyr is summoned.
2-6. Defeat Eikthyr.
The three main attacks you need to watch out for are his ranged lightning attack, his close-range spherical lightning attack, and his charge attack. If you are using a melee weapon and a shield, you should be able to use the shield to block most of his attacks. Avoid taking damage and defeat Eikthyr.
2-7. Collect the hard antlers.
After defeating Eikthyr, he drops hard antlers and the Eikthyr trophy. The hard antlers are one of the ingredients needed to craft an antler pickaxe.
3. Crafting Pickaxes
3-1. Craft an antler pickaxe.
The antler pickaxe is the first pickaxe you get in the game. It can be used to mine stone, copper, tin, and muddy scrap piles. It is also repairable on a workbench unlike other pickaxes. You need 1 hard antler, and 10 pieces of wood to craft an antler pickaxe. After you get the antlers from Eikthyr, gather 10 pieces of wood. Then use the workbench to craft an antler pickaxe.
3-2. Use pickaxes to mine stone.
Once you have crafted a pickaxe, place it in your action bar and equip it. Attack large boulders with the pickaxe to break them and mine stone.
3-3. Craft a forge.
If you want to craft stronger pickaxes than an antler pickaxe, you need to craft a forge in order to get the materials needed. To craft a forge, you need 4 stone, 4 coal, 10 wood, and 6 copper.
Coal can be found in random chests, by defeating Surtlings, and burning meat. Copper can be found by mining copper ore with a pickaxe.
3-4. Craft a bronze pickaxe.
A bronze pickaxe is the second pickaxe you can get in the game. It is more durable and has a stronger attack than an antler pickaxe. To craft a bronze pickaxe, you need 10 bronze, and 3 core wood.
Core wood is found by chopping down pine trees in the black forest biome using an axe. You can get bronze by processing 2 copper and 1 tin in a forge.
3-5. Craft a smelter.
A smelter is needed to smelt the iron needed to craft an iron pickaxe. To craft a smelter, you need 20 stone, and 3 surtling core, which is dropped by defeating surtlings. Once you get the materials needed, use the workbench to craft a smelter.
3-6. Craft an iron pickaxe.
The iron pickaxe is the most durable pickaxe with the strongest attack. In addition to stone, copper, tin, and muddy scraps, it can also be used to mine silver and obsidian. In order to craft an iron pickaxe, you need 3 wood core and 20 iron. Once you have the materials needed, craft an iron pickaxe using a workbench.
You can get iron by smelting iron scraps mined from muddy scraps in a smelter.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Getting Started\\n1-1. Craft a hammer.\\nWhen you first start out in Valheim, the first thing you need to craft is a hammer. This is used to build other tools, weapons, and building materials. All that is required to craft a hammer is 3 wood and 2 stone. Once you have the materials needed to craft a hammer, open the crafting menu, select the hammer and click .\\nYou can find wood by punching trees and picking up branches. You can find stone by picking up small black stones on the ground.\\nTo open your inventory and crafting menu, press on the keyboard.\\n1-2. Craft a workbench.\\nA workbench is needed to craft nearly everything else in the game. It requires 10 pieces of wood to craft. Once you have enough pieces of wood to craft a workbench, equip your hammer and open your crafting menu. Select the workbench option and place the workbench.\\nTo protect the workbench from the elements, you will want to place the workbench inside of a shelter. You can find abandoned shelters all throughout Valheim. You can also craft a shelter around your workbench after you place the workbench. You'll want to craft a shelter big enough for a bed, a chest, a fire, and a workbench. If you place a workbench next to an abandoned shelter, you can quickly dismantle the shelter and gain wood, which can be used to rebuild the shelter or other items.\\n1-3. Craft some weapons.\\nAfter you have a workbench, you can craft more advanced weapons and tools. You'll need to craft some weapons in order to survive and beat Eikthyr. You can craft melee weapons, such as an ax or spear, or you can craft a bow and arrow for long-range combat.\\n1-4. Craft some armor.\\nBefore you decide to take on Eikthyr, it's recommended that you craft and equip some armor. Hunt deer to gather deer hide, which can be used to craft a leather helmet, leather tunic, and leather pants at a workbench.\\nIf you are using a melee weapon, you may want to craft a wooden shield out of wood.\\n2. Finding and Defeating Eikthyr\\n2-1. Interact with the glowing red stone next to the sacrificial altar.\\nWhen you first spawn in the world, you will find a large red stone next to the sacrificial altar. Interact with the glowing red stone to have Eikthyr's location marked on your map.\\nPress on the keyboard to interact with objects.\\nEikthyr's location can only be found in meadow biomes.\\n2-2. Gather two deer trophies.\\nYou can get deer trophies by hunting deer. It's considered an uncommon drop, so you may have to hunt several deer in order to obtain 2 deer trophies.\\n2-3. Rest and eat food.\\nBefore you head into battle with Eikthyr, you'll want to make sure you have full health and stamina. It's recommended you eat 3 different types of food and rest. The resting effect gives your character 50% health regen, 100% stamina regen, and a 50% boost to all skills. You can rest by sitting in a shelter or next to a fire.\\n2-4. Go to Eikthyr's marked location.\\nGo to the location that was marked on your map when you interacted with the glowing red stone. When you get there, you will find a sacrificial stone in the middle of the meadows.\\n2-5. Place 2 deer trophies on the sacrificial stone.\\nPlace the 2 deer trophies in your action bar and then place them on the sacrificial stone. This will trigger a cut scene in which Eikthyr is summoned.\\n2-6. Defeat Eikthyr.\\nThe three main attacks you need to watch out for are his ranged lightning attack, his close-range spherical lightning attack, and his charge attack. If you are using a melee weapon and a shield, you should be able to use the shield to block most of his attacks. Avoid taking damage and defeat Eikthyr.\\n2-7. Collect the hard antlers.\\nAfter defeating Eikthyr, he drops hard antlers and the Eikthyr trophy. The hard antlers are one of the ingredients needed to craft an antler pickaxe.\\n3. Crafting Pickaxes\\n3-1. Craft an antler pickaxe.\\nThe antler pickaxe is the first pickaxe you get in the game. It can be used to mine stone, copper, tin, and muddy scrap piles. It is also repairable on a workbench unlike other pickaxes. You need 1 hard antler, and 10 pieces of wood to craft an antler pickaxe. After you get the antlers from Eikthyr, gather 10 pieces of wood. Then use the workbench to craft an antler pickaxe.\\n3-2. Use pickaxes to mine stone.\\nOnce you have crafted a pickaxe, place it in your action bar and equip it. Attack large boulders with the pickaxe to break them and mine stone.\\n3-3. Craft a forge.\\nIf you want to craft stronger pickaxes than an antler pickaxe, you need to craft a forge in order to get the materials needed. To craft a forge, you need 4 stone, 4 coal, 10 wood, and 6 copper.\\nCoal can be found in random chests, by defeating Surtlings, and burning meat. Copper can be found by mining copper ore with a pickaxe.\\n3-4. Craft a bronze pickaxe.\\nA bronze pickaxe is the second pickaxe you can get in the game. It is more durable and has a stronger attack than an antler pickaxe. To craft a bronze pickaxe, you need 10 bronze, and 3 core wood.\\nCore wood is found by chopping down pine trees in the black forest biome using an axe. You can get bronze by processing 2 copper and 1 tin in a forge.\\n3-5. Craft a smelter.\\nA smelter is needed to smelt the iron needed to craft an iron pickaxe. To craft a smelter, you need 20 stone, and 3 surtling core, which is dropped by defeating surtlings. Once you get the materials needed, use the workbench to craft a smelter.\\n3-6. Craft an iron pickaxe.\\nThe iron pickaxe is the most durable pickaxe with the strongest attack. In addition to stone, copper, tin, and muddy scraps, it can also be used to mine silver and obsidian. In order to craft an iron pickaxe, you need 3 wood core and 20 iron. Once you have the materials needed, craft an iron pickaxe using a workbench.\\nYou can get iron by smelting iron scraps mined from muddy scraps in a smelter.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Do you need to break stone in the viking-inspired survival/exploration game Valheim? Breaking large boulders with a pickaxe is a much easier and quicker way to get stone than gathering rocks found on the ground. You need a pickaxe to mine stone. Unfortunately, you can't craft a pickaxe until after you defeat the first boss, Eikthyr. After that, you get the materials needed to craft an antler pickaxe, which can be used to mine stone, copper, tin, and iron, which can be used to craft stronger pickaxes. This wikiHow article teaches you how to mine stone in Valheim.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting Started\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Craft a hammer.\", \"描述\": \"When you first start out in Valheim, the first thing you need to craft is a hammer. This is used to build other tools, weapons, and building materials. All that is required to craft a hammer is 3 wood and 2 stone. Once you have the materials needed to craft a hammer, open the crafting menu, select the hammer and click .\\nYou can find wood by punching trees and picking up branches. You can find stone by picking up small black stones on the ground.\\nTo open your inventory and crafting menu, press on the keyboard.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Craft a workbench.\", \"描述\": \"A workbench is needed to craft nearly everything else in the game. It requires 10 pieces of wood to craft. Once you have enough pieces of wood to craft a workbench, equip your hammer and open your crafting menu. Select the workbench option and place the workbench.\\nTo protect the workbench from the elements, you will want to place the workbench inside of a shelter. You can find abandoned shelters all throughout Valheim. You can also craft a shelter around your workbench after you place the workbench. You'll want to craft a shelter big enough for a bed, a chest, a fire, and a workbench. If you place a workbench next to an abandoned shelter, you can quickly dismantle the shelter and gain wood, which can be used to rebuild the shelter or other items.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Craft some weapons.\", \"描述\": \"After you have a workbench, you can craft more advanced weapons and tools. You'll need to craft some weapons in order to survive and beat Eikthyr. You can craft melee weapons, such as an ax or spear, or you can craft a bow and arrow for long-range combat.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Craft some armor.\", \"描述\": \"Before you decide to take on Eikthyr, it's recommended that you craft and equip some armor. Hunt deer to gather deer hide, which can be used to craft a leather helmet, leather tunic, and leather pants at a workbench.\\nIf you are using a melee weapon, you may want to craft a wooden shield out of wood.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Finding and Defeating Eikthyr\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Interact with the glowing red stone next to the sacrificial altar.\", \"描述\": \"When you first spawn in the world, you will find a large red stone next to the sacrificial altar. Interact with the glowing red stone to have Eikthyr's location marked on your map.\\nPress on the keyboard to interact with objects.\\nEikthyr's location can only be found in meadow biomes.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Gather two deer trophies.\", \"描述\": \"You can get deer trophies by hunting deer. It's considered an uncommon drop, so you may have to hunt several deer in order to obtain 2 deer trophies.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Rest and eat food.\", \"描述\": \"Before you head into battle with Eikthyr, you'll want to make sure you have full health and stamina. It's recommended you eat 3 different types of food and rest. The resting effect gives your character 50% health regen, 100% stamina regen, and a 50% boost to all skills. You can rest by sitting in a shelter or next to a fire.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Go to Eikthyr's marked location.\", \"描述\": \"Go to the location that was marked on your map when you interacted with the glowing red stone. When you get there, you will find a sacrificial stone in the middle of the meadows.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Place 2 deer trophies on the sacrificial stone.\", \"描述\": \"Place the 2 deer trophies in your action bar and then place them on the sacrificial stone. This will trigger a cut scene in which Eikthyr is summoned.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Defeat Eikthyr.\", \"描述\": \"The three main attacks you need to watch out for are his ranged lightning attack, his close-range spherical lightning attack, and his charge attack. If you are using a melee weapon and a shield, you should be able to use the shield to block most of his attacks. Avoid taking damage and defeat Eikthyr.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Collect the hard antlers.\", \"描述\": \"After defeating Eikthyr, he drops hard antlers and the Eikthyr trophy. The hard antlers are one of the ingredients needed to craft an antler pickaxe.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Crafting Pickaxes\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Craft an antler pickaxe.\", \"描述\": \"The antler pickaxe is the first pickaxe you get in the game. It can be used to mine stone, copper, tin, and muddy scrap piles. It is also repairable on a workbench unlike other pickaxes. You need 1 hard antler, and 10 pieces of wood to craft an antler pickaxe. After you get the antlers from Eikthyr, gather 10 pieces of wood. Then use the workbench to craft an antler pickaxe.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use pickaxes to mine stone.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have crafted a pickaxe, place it in your action bar and equip it. Attack large boulders with the pickaxe to break them and mine stone.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Craft a forge.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to craft stronger pickaxes than an antler pickaxe, you need to craft a forge in order to get the materials needed. To craft a forge, you need 4 stone, 4 coal, 10 wood, and 6 copper.\\nCoal can be found in random chests, by defeating Surtlings, and burning meat. Copper can be found by mining copper ore with a pickaxe.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Craft a bronze pickaxe.\", \"描述\": \"A bronze pickaxe is the second pickaxe you can get in the game. It is more durable and has a stronger attack than an antler pickaxe. To craft a bronze pickaxe, you need 10 bronze, and 3 core wood.\\nCore wood is found by chopping down pine trees in the black forest biome using an axe. You can get bronze by processing 2 copper and 1 tin in a forge.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Craft a smelter.\", \"描述\": \"A smelter is needed to smelt the iron needed to craft an iron pickaxe. To craft a smelter, you need 20 stone, and 3 surtling core, which is dropped by defeating surtlings. Once you get the materials needed, use the workbench to craft a smelter.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Craft an iron pickaxe.\", \"描述\": \"The iron pickaxe is the most durable pickaxe with the strongest attack. In addition to stone, copper, tin, and muddy scraps, it can also be used to mine silver and obsidian. In order to craft an iron pickaxe, you need 3 wood core and 20 iron. Once you have the materials needed, craft an iron pickaxe using a workbench.\\nYou can get iron by smelting iron scraps mined from muddy scraps in a smelter.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Reaching Your Decision
1-1. Avoid making a rash decision.
It’s important to consider your decision when you are not emotionally upset and able to think clearly. This can help you avoid making an impulsive decision that you may regret or hurt the other person.
It’s more difficult to problem solve when you are emotionally upset, and this may contribute to irrational decisions.
1-2. Clarify why you want to break up.
It’s important to gain clarity as to why you want to break up. This can help you distinguish between the simple road bumps in a relationship and more serious and irreconcilable issues between you and your partner.
Only you can define what are irreconcilable issues and those that you can overcome. For example, if your partner doesn’t treat others well or doesn’t want children, these are often factors that cannot be changed. On the other hand, a person’s unwillingness to help around the house may be something they can amend.
Every couple has arguments, but if those spats are constant and ugly, it may suggest deeper issues and incompatibility.
If you're in an emotionally or physically harmful relationship, this is usually a clear sign to end the partnership.
1-3. Compose a list of positives and negatives.
Consider writing a list of reasons you want to end your relationship. You may also want to include positives and negatives about your partner and the interactions and relationship you share.
Seeing the positive parts of your relationship on paper may help you to focus on these instead of the negativity that may come along with the feelings you currently have.
A list may also help you avoid ending the relationship based on the feeling “it feels like the right thing to do.”
Remember that any type of abuse is a clear reason to end a relationship.
Looking at the list and thinking it through, ask yourself if the relationship is more destructive to your life than enhancing it.
1-4. Decide if change is possible.
If you're simply upset with your partner, consider if there is a way to change the dynamic in your relationship. Before making a final decision, you may want to focus on resolving issues, rather than simply ending the relationship as the first solution. If change is an option, see whether or not your partner is willing and able to change.
If the issue in question has already been discussed without experiencing any changes for the better, and you keep feeling unsatisfied, hurt, or betrayed, then breaking up might be the only way to end the pattern.
1-5. Communicate your frustration.
Before you decide to make a final break, discuss your frustrations and considerations with your partner. Give him the chance to make changes for the better. If you eventually decide to end the relationship, this may make it seem less abrupt and soften the blow because you'll have already voiced your frustration.
Bottling up your frustration and feelings often leads to blowing up or expressing your emotions in inappropriate ways.
Try to respectfully and calmly tell your partner what is bothering you. Avoid shouting, abuse, or blaming.
If your partner has cheated on or harmed you in some way, you may consider these irreconcilable differences that don’t deserve communicating your frustration or giving the person a chance to change.
1-6. Establish a reasonable timetable for change.
You want to avoid getting into an endless chain of hoping for your partner to change and then experiencing disappointment. Setting a limit on timing for your partner to change can help make your decision easier in the long run.
You may or may not tell your partner about your timetable. Issuing "ultimatums" by saying "If you quit smoking by next month we can stay together" can lead partners to agree in the short term before going back to the old ways in the near future.
Make sure that the ultimatum is helpful. In most cases, ultimatums don’t work. However, it may be necessary for your relationship to remain tenable. For example, you can say “I need to see you make an effort to quit or significantly reduce your smoking habit for this to work.” Issuing ultimatums such as “You need to want to have children” will likely never work and only cause harm and feelings of guilt.
For some people, it can take a long time to change long-established behaviors. For example, it can take smokers months or years to quit their habit. Give your partner time to make a concerted effort to change their behavior.
1-7. Confide in a trusted person.
If you are having a difficult time getting any clarity, talk about your feelings with a person you can trust. This can help you talk through your feelings and more effectively clarify where you stand. The trusted individual may also be able to add some perspective to your or your partner’s behavior as well.
Your trusted person can be a friend, family member, a counselor, or health professional.
Make sure that the person won’t betray your confidence and discuss the issue with any outside parties. You may also want to ensure that he or she doesn’t treat your partner any differently, either.
1-8. Render your final decision.
After you’ve considered the various dynamics of your relationship, discussed them with your partner, and given your relationship a second chance if applicable, make a final decision on the fate of your relationship. This can help you begin to move on and plan for a respectful and honest break up with your partner, or focus on healing your relationship further.
Remember that your decision is based on what is best for you—and no else.
2. Ending the Relationship
2-1. Schedule time to have the breakup discussion.
It’s best and most respectful to end your relationship in person and discuss your reasoning. Scheduling some time in a quiet place that will allow you and your partner to be alone can help make the process easier and minimize intrusive interruptions..
Consider scheduling time that is not during the work or school week so the person can begin to mourn the relationship in private and without having to face others immediately.
You may want to signal your partner or significant other about the nature of the conversation so that they can prepare themselves and don’t feel blindsided. For example, you can say something like “I’d like to talk about the status of our relationship in a calm and peaceful manner.”
2-2. Choose an appropriate location to break up.
You may want to have the conversation in private to prevent the risk of embarrassing yourself or the other person. In addition, pick a place that you can leave easily so that you don’t get into a protracted or circuitous conversation.
If you feel unsafe with your partner, break up in public or bring a person who can back you up without being confrontational.
If you and your significant other live together, breaking up can be particularly problematic and stressful. It is up to you whether or not you want to move out immediately or take your time.
If you don't feel safe or would feel uncomfortable staying in the home you share with your partner, make sure to have a place where you can stay. You can move all of your stuff while she is not home and then break up when she comes home, or break up and leave with some of your things, with the intention to come back when things have calmed down.
2-3. Plan the breakup conversation.
Consider what you want to say to the person. Having a basic plan of your conversation can minimize becoming over-emotional and help keep you on track. It may also make it easier for you to not hurt the person any more than necessary.
The actual conversation during which you break up with this person can last a lot longer than it should, especially if your partner is devastated or completely surprised by your decision. Many conversations may go around in circles, so consider giving it a time limit.
Be honest with the person, but not mean or brutal. You may want to consider telling the person what first attracted you to him or highlight some of his good qualities as you discuss why you no longer want to stay in the relationship.
For example, you can say “I was really attracted to your outgoing personality and kindness when we were first together, but I am afraid we have different goals in life that make it difficult to continue as a couple.”
2-4. Break up in person.
Although it may be easier to break up with someone if you don't have to look the person in the eye, ending a relationship by phone, text or email is impersonal and disrespectful. Unless you're a long distance away and choose not to wait until you see the person again, or you're afraid of the other person, give the person the respect she—and your former relationship—deserves.
Breaking up in person can also help the person realize you are serious about ending the relationship.
2-5. Maintain composure and respect.
Sit down with your partner and let him know that you've decided to end the relationship. Approach the break up as calmly and respectfully as you can, with a sense of resolution, which may help make a bad situation seem slightly less negative and devastating.
Don’t badmouth the person or say things you may regret. Remember that this can come back and hurt you in the long run. For example, you wouldn’t want to say “I think your personal hygiene is terrible and it disgusts me to be with you.” Instead, you can say “I think we just have different styles of living that are not compatible with one another.”
Avoid being overly emotional if you can. This can help minimize any feelings of guilt you may have and can also help you stay resolute to your decision.
You can say “I think you’re a fine person with many really great qualities that will make someone happy, but they’re just not compatible with what I envision in a relationship.”
2-6. Focus on the relationship issues, not the person.
Talk about what isn't working for you in the relationship, rather than telling the other person what is wrong with him. Talking about him personally can make what is likely a devastating situation even worse.
For instance, instead of saying "You're clingy and insecure," try saying "I need a lot of independence and freedom in my relationships."
Don’t put the reasons for breaking up on the person, either. For example, saying “You deserve more” gives your partner an opportunity to say that you are perfect for him and that there is no reason to split up. Instead, you can say “I feel like we’re on different paths in life. I want a career in academia that requires a lot of travel and time alone.”
2-7. Try to avoid creating false hope.
Certain open-ended phrases and words can leave false hope with the person about getting back together. Leaving the door open for her can only hurt her and you more.
Making statements such as “we’ll talk later” or “I want to be friends/ I want you in my life,” leave the door open for the person to hope that things will work out in the end, even if they won’t in your mind.
You’ll need to nicely tell her that you cannot have any contact going forward. You may want to tell her this is the best thing for both of you to heal.
In the event that you do want to stay friends, set the parameters for this in your conversation. You may both realize that breaking up is the best thing for your relationship. However, be very clear in your expectations and needs for the friendship.
2-8. Anticipate your partner's reaction.
Prepare yourself to counter your partner's arguments, reactions, and outbursts. This can help you stick to your decisions and may minimize potential manipulation by the person. Prepare for:
Questions. Your partner will likely want to know why you don't want to be with him anymore and whether there was anything he could have done to prevent the breakup. Answer the questions as honestly as possible.
Crying. Your partner may be very upset and show it. You can offer comfort, but don't allow yourself to be manipulated into changing your decision.
Arguing. Your partner may dispute anything you've said during the break up, including dissecting examples you used in your reasons for breaking up. Don't get dragged into a fight about petty details that don't matter to the bigger picture. Let your partner know that arguing isn't going to change your decision. If the person tries to argue with you, you can simply say “I’m not going to get involved in an argument and will walk away if you continue.”
Bargaining or begging. Your partner may offer to change, or to do things differently in order to preserve the relationship. If the person didn't change when you've discussed your problems in the past, it's too late to expect him to truly change now.
Lashing out. Your partner may say hurtful things and "push your buttons" as a way of feeling better. For example, if your partner calls you a nasty name, simply acknowledge it and move on. You can say “I can tell you are very angry with me, but I will not tolerate being called nasty names, so maybe we need to end this conversation.” Threats of physical harm or escalations are serious. If this happens, leave immediately.
2-9. Distance yourself.
This is one of the most difficult, but important, parts of a breakup. Try and minimize contact with your ex and his friends to help minimize feelings of guilt or giving them false hope.
If you have children with the person, you may not be able to distance yourself altogether. Keep your relationship as civil as possible and put the well-being of your children first.
It may help to delete the person’s number from your phone and email from your computer.
If you live together, move as quickly as possible. If you can't move permanently, find somewhere to keep your stuff and somewhere to stay. Prolonging the entanglements of "stuff" can make the process too complicated.
After a while, you may find you are able to be friends with the person. If this is the case, make sure to set parameters for the friendship and any future relationship.
Tips
If you're sure you want to break up with somebody, it's best done sooner rather than later. However, if your partner has had a particularly bad day already, you may want to consider waiting for a better moment. Breaking up with them when they're already down will make the breakup much harder for both of you.
Never break up in the heat of the moment. If the relationship is already broken beyond repair, that won't change once the argument is over and the anger has passed. Break up when you're both calm and can talk it over peacefully. That's when you have the best chance of closure.
Warnings
Always take physical threats and violent relationships seriously. Remove yourself from the situation if possible or contact the authorities if necessary.
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On the other hand, a person’s unwillingness to help around the house may be something they can amend.\\nEvery couple has arguments, but if those spats are constant and ugly, it may suggest deeper issues and incompatibility.\\nIf you're in an emotionally or physically harmful relationship, this is usually a clear sign to end the partnership.\\n1-3. Compose a list of positives and negatives.\\nConsider writing a list of reasons you want to end your relationship. You may also want to include positives and negatives about your partner and the interactions and relationship you share.\\nSeeing the positive parts of your relationship on paper may help you to focus on these instead of the negativity that may come along with the feelings you currently have.\\nA list may also help you avoid ending the relationship based on the feeling “it feels like the right thing to do.”\\nRemember that any type of abuse is a clear reason to end a relationship.\\nLooking at the list and thinking it through, ask yourself if the relationship is more destructive to your life than enhancing it.\\n1-4. Decide if change is possible.\\nIf you're simply upset with your partner, consider if there is a way to change the dynamic in your relationship. Before making a final decision, you may want to focus on resolving issues, rather than simply ending the relationship as the first solution. If change is an option, see whether or not your partner is willing and able to change.\\nIf the issue in question has already been discussed without experiencing any changes for the better, and you keep feeling unsatisfied, hurt, or betrayed, then breaking up might be the only way to end the pattern.\\n1-5. Communicate your frustration.\\nBefore you decide to make a final break, discuss your frustrations and considerations with your partner. Give him the chance to make changes for the better. If you eventually decide to end the relationship, this may make it seem less abrupt and soften the blow because you'll have already voiced your frustration.\\nBottling up your frustration and feelings often leads to blowing up or expressing your emotions in inappropriate ways.\\nTry to respectfully and calmly tell your partner what is bothering you. Avoid shouting, abuse, or blaming.\\nIf your partner has cheated on or harmed you in some way, you may consider these irreconcilable differences that don’t deserve communicating your frustration or giving the person a chance to change.\\n1-6. Establish a reasonable timetable for change.\\nYou want to avoid getting into an endless chain of hoping for your partner to change and then experiencing disappointment. Setting a limit on timing for your partner to change can help make your decision easier in the long run.\\nYou may or may not tell your partner about your timetable. Issuing \\\"ultimatums\\\" by saying \\\"If you quit smoking by next month we can stay together\\\" can lead partners to agree in the short term before going back to the old ways in the near future.\\nMake sure that the ultimatum is helpful. In most cases, ultimatums don’t work. However, it may be necessary for your relationship to remain tenable. For example, you can say “I need to see you make an effort to quit or significantly reduce your smoking habit for this to work.” Issuing ultimatums such as “You need to want to have children” will likely never work and only cause harm and feelings of guilt.\\nFor some people, it can take a long time to change long-established behaviors. For example, it can take smokers months or years to quit their habit. Give your partner time to make a concerted effort to change their behavior.\\n1-7. Confide in a trusted person.\\nIf you are having a difficult time getting any clarity, talk about your feelings with a person you can trust. This can help you talk through your feelings and more effectively clarify where you stand. The trusted individual may also be able to add some perspective to your or your partner’s behavior as well.\\nYour trusted person can be a friend, family member, a counselor, or health professional.\\nMake sure that the person won’t betray your confidence and discuss the issue with any outside parties. You may also want to ensure that he or she doesn’t treat your partner any differently, either.\\n1-8. Render your final decision.\\nAfter you’ve considered the various dynamics of your relationship, discussed them with your partner, and given your relationship a second chance if applicable, make a final decision on the fate of your relationship. This can help you begin to move on and plan for a respectful and honest break up with your partner, or focus on healing your relationship further.\\nRemember that your decision is based on what is best for you—and no else.\\n2. Ending the Relationship\\n2-1. Schedule time to have the breakup discussion.\\nIt’s best and most respectful to end your relationship in person and discuss your reasoning. Scheduling some time in a quiet place that will allow you and your partner to be alone can help make the process easier and minimize intrusive interruptions..\\nConsider scheduling time that is not during the work or school week so the person can begin to mourn the relationship in private and without having to face others immediately.\\nYou may want to signal your partner or significant other about the nature of the conversation so that they can prepare themselves and don’t feel blindsided. For example, you can say something like “I’d like to talk about the status of our relationship in a calm and peaceful manner.”\\n2-2. Choose an appropriate location to break up.\\nYou may want to have the conversation in private to prevent the risk of embarrassing yourself or the other person. In addition, pick a place that you can leave easily so that you don’t get into a protracted or circuitous conversation.\\nIf you feel unsafe with your partner, break up in public or bring a person who can back you up without being confrontational.\\nIf you and your significant other live together, breaking up can be particularly problematic and stressful. It is up to you whether or not you want to move out immediately or take your time.\\nIf you don't feel safe or would feel uncomfortable staying in the home you share with your partner, make sure to have a place where you can stay. You can move all of your stuff while she is not home and then break up when she comes home, or break up and leave with some of your things, with the intention to come back when things have calmed down.\\n2-3. Plan the breakup conversation.\\nConsider what you want to say to the person. Having a basic plan of your conversation can minimize becoming over-emotional and help keep you on track. It may also make it easier for you to not hurt the person any more than necessary.\\nThe actual conversation during which you break up with this person can last a lot longer than it should, especially if your partner is devastated or completely surprised by your decision. Many conversations may go around in circles, so consider giving it a time limit.\\nBe honest with the person, but not mean or brutal. You may want to consider telling the person what first attracted you to him or highlight some of his good qualities as you discuss why you no longer want to stay in the relationship.\\nFor example, you can say “I was really attracted to your outgoing personality and kindness when we were first together, but I am afraid we have different goals in life that make it difficult to continue as a couple.”\\n2-4. Break up in person.\\nAlthough it may be easier to break up with someone if you don't have to look the person in the eye, ending a relationship by phone, text or email is impersonal and disrespectful. Unless you're a long distance away and choose not to wait until you see the person again, or you're afraid of the other person, give the person the respect she—and your former relationship—deserves.\\nBreaking up in person can also help the person realize you are serious about ending the relationship.\\n2-5. Maintain composure and respect.\\nSit down with your partner and let him know that you've decided to end the relationship. Approach the break up as calmly and respectfully as you can, with a sense of resolution, which may help make a bad situation seem slightly less negative and devastating.\\nDon’t badmouth the person or say things you may regret. Remember that this can come back and hurt you in the long run. For example, you wouldn’t want to say “I think your personal hygiene is terrible and it disgusts me to be with you.” Instead, you can say “I think we just have different styles of living that are not compatible with one another.”\\nAvoid being overly emotional if you can. This can help minimize any feelings of guilt you may have and can also help you stay resolute to your decision.\\nYou can say “I think you’re a fine person with many really great qualities that will make someone happy, but they’re just not compatible with what I envision in a relationship.”\\n2-6. Focus on the relationship issues, not the person.\\nTalk about what isn't working for you in the relationship, rather than telling the other person what is wrong with him. Talking about him personally can make what is likely a devastating situation even worse.\\nFor instance, instead of saying \\\"You're clingy and insecure,\\\" try saying \\\"I need a lot of independence and freedom in my relationships.\\\"\\nDon’t put the reasons for breaking up on the person, either. For example, saying “You deserve more” gives your partner an opportunity to say that you are perfect for him and that there is no reason to split up. Instead, you can say “I feel like we’re on different paths in life. I want a career in academia that requires a lot of travel and time alone.”\\n2-7. Try to avoid creating false hope.\\nCertain open-ended phrases and words can leave false hope with the person about getting back together. Leaving the door open for her can only hurt her and you more.\\nMaking statements such as “we’ll talk later” or “I want to be friends/ I want you in my life,” leave the door open for the person to hope that things will work out in the end, even if they won’t in your mind.\\nYou’ll need to nicely tell her that you cannot have any contact going forward. You may want to tell her this is the best thing for both of you to heal.\\nIn the event that you do want to stay friends, set the parameters for this in your conversation. You may both realize that breaking up is the best thing for your relationship. However, be very clear in your expectations and needs for the friendship.\\n2-8. Anticipate your partner's reaction.\\nPrepare yourself to counter your partner's arguments, reactions, and outbursts. This can help you stick to your decisions and may minimize potential manipulation by the person. Prepare for:\\nQuestions. Your partner will likely want to know why you don't want to be with him anymore and whether there was anything he could have done to prevent the breakup. Answer the questions as honestly as possible.\\nCrying. Your partner may be very upset and show it. You can offer comfort, but don't allow yourself to be manipulated into changing your decision.\\nArguing. Your partner may dispute anything you've said during the break up, including dissecting examples you used in your reasons for breaking up. Don't get dragged into a fight about petty details that don't matter to the bigger picture. Let your partner know that arguing isn't going to change your decision. If the person tries to argue with you, you can simply say “I’m not going to get involved in an argument and will walk away if you continue.”\\nBargaining or begging. Your partner may offer to change, or to do things differently in order to preserve the relationship. If the person didn't change when you've discussed your problems in the past, it's too late to expect him to truly change now.\\nLashing out. Your partner may say hurtful things and \\\"push your buttons\\\" as a way of feeling better. For example, if your partner calls you a nasty name, simply acknowledge it and move on. You can say “I can tell you are very angry with me, but I will not tolerate being called nasty names, so maybe we need to end this conversation.” Threats of physical harm or escalations are serious. If this happens, leave immediately.\\n2-9. Distance yourself.\\nThis is one of the most difficult, but important, parts of a breakup. Try and minimize contact with your ex and his friends to help minimize feelings of guilt or giving them false hope.\\nIf you have children with the person, you may not be able to distance yourself altogether. Keep your relationship as civil as possible and put the well-being of your children first.\\nIt may help to delete the person’s number from your phone and email from your computer.\\nIf you live together, move as quickly as possible. If you can't move permanently, find somewhere to keep your stuff and somewhere to stay. Prolonging the entanglements of \\\"stuff\\\" can make the process too complicated.\\nAfter a while, you may find you are able to be friends with the person. If this is the case, make sure to set parameters for the friendship and any future relationship.\\nTips\\nIf you're sure you want to break up with somebody, it's best done sooner rather than later. However, if your partner has had a particularly bad day already, you may want to consider waiting for a better moment. Breaking up with them when they're already down will make the breakup much harder for both of you.\\nNever break up in the heat of the moment. If the relationship is already broken beyond repair, that won't change once the argument is over and the anger has passed. Break up when you're both calm and can talk it over peacefully. That's when you have the best chance of closure.\\nWarnings\\nAlways take physical threats and violent relationships seriously. Remove yourself from the situation if possible or contact the authorities if necessary.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Breaking up with a significant other can be upsetting for both parties, but there are ways to go about it that will prevent you from feeling unnecessary stress. Taking time to consider your partner's feelings and then communicating your decision in a rational, respectful, and composed manner will minimize the pain either of you may feel. 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You may also want to include positives and negatives about your partner and the interactions and relationship you share.\\nSeeing the positive parts of your relationship on paper may help you to focus on these instead of the negativity that may come along with the feelings you currently have.\\nA list may also help you avoid ending the relationship based on the feeling “it feels like the right thing to do.”\\nRemember that any type of abuse is a clear reason to end a relationship.\\nLooking at the list and thinking it through, ask yourself if the relationship is more destructive to your life than enhancing it.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Decide if change is possible.\", \"描述\": \"If you're simply upset with your partner, consider if there is a way to change the dynamic in your relationship. Before making a final decision, you may want to focus on resolving issues, rather than simply ending the relationship as the first solution. If change is an option, see whether or not your partner is willing and able to change.\\nIf the issue in question has already been discussed without experiencing any changes for the better, and you keep feeling unsatisfied, hurt, or betrayed, then breaking up might be the only way to end the pattern.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Communicate your frustration.\", \"描述\": \"Before you decide to make a final break, discuss your frustrations and considerations with your partner. Give him the chance to make changes for the better. If you eventually decide to end the relationship, this may make it seem less abrupt and soften the blow because you'll have already voiced your frustration.\\nBottling up your frustration and feelings often leads to blowing up or expressing your emotions in inappropriate ways.\\nTry to respectfully and calmly tell your partner what is bothering you. Avoid shouting, abuse, or blaming.\\nIf your partner has cheated on or harmed you in some way, you may consider these irreconcilable differences that don’t deserve communicating your frustration or giving the person a chance to change.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Establish a reasonable timetable for change.\", \"描述\": \"You want to avoid getting into an endless chain of hoping for your partner to change and then experiencing disappointment. Setting a limit on timing for your partner to change can help make your decision easier in the long run.\\nYou may or may not tell your partner about your timetable. Issuing \\\"ultimatums\\\" by saying \\\"If you quit smoking by next month we can stay together\\\" can lead partners to agree in the short term before going back to the old ways in the near future.\\nMake sure that the ultimatum is helpful. In most cases, ultimatums don’t work. However, it may be necessary for your relationship to remain tenable. For example, you can say “I need to see you make an effort to quit or significantly reduce your smoking habit for this to work.” Issuing ultimatums such as “You need to want to have children” will likely never work and only cause harm and feelings of guilt.\\nFor some people, it can take a long time to change long-established behaviors. For example, it can take smokers months or years to quit their habit. Give your partner time to make a concerted effort to change their behavior.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Confide in a trusted person.\", \"描述\": \"If you are having a difficult time getting any clarity, talk about your feelings with a person you can trust. This can help you talk through your feelings and more effectively clarify where you stand. 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1. Removing a Whole Slab
1-1. Call your utility companies.
Always call your local utility companies to make sure there aren't any underground utilities beneath the concrete. Hire a professional if there are. Digging above a utility line like gas or electric can be very dangerous.
1-2. Use safety equipment.
Concrete removal creates hazardous dust and sharp fragments, so protect yourself and your coworkers with safety goggles, dust masks or respirators, steel toe or other heavy boots, thick gloves, and thick clothing that covers your arms and legs.
If you're going to be using power tools, especially a jackhammer, use ear protection.
1-3. Cover the slab with plastic sheets to protect fragile items.
Be careful when using plastic sheets, as they can sometimes create a slipping or tripping hazard. However, sheeting can be worthwhile if you're breaking up concrete near fragile items or structures.
If you're breaking up concrete in a wide open area away from structures and other breakables, it's unlikely you'll need sheeting.
Fragments of concrete can be launched great distances by the force of your hammer and tools. When in doubt, use a cover to protect the surrounding area.
If you don't use plastic sheeting, protect any nearby windows and breakable objects with plywood sheets to protect the glass from concrete fragments.
1-4. Obtain a large pry bar.
Whether you're using a sledgehammer or jackhammer, you'll likely need to pry apart the pieces of concrete as you break them apart. Concrete removal generally goes quickest if you have one person breaking apart the concrete and another following along and prying the pieces apart.
1-5. Use a sledgehammer for thin slabs.
If your concrete is 4 in (10 cm) thick or less, try using a sledgehammer. Start at any existing cracks or at a corner or edge, and keep in mind that thick concrete will be easiest to break closer to its outer edges.
Don’t try to swing the sledgehammer or lift it above your head; hold it at shoulder-height and let it fall onto the concrete, instead.
Use the pry bar to pull apart the chunks of concrete after you break them apart. Then, move them out of the way to eliminate trip hazards.
If after 10 minutes you've failed to make significant cracks or you are exhausted, you may want to try a demolition hammer.
1-6. Dig underneath slabs that are difficult to break.
"Undermining," or removing soil beneath the slab, will make the cement break more easily. Use a shovel to clear out the soil beneath the lip of the concrete, then strike it with your hammer.
The more you undermine a slab, the easier it'll be to break. However, even undermining a little can significantly decrease the difficulty of breaking concrete.
After you’ve begun to undermine, use a garden hose to loosen the dirt and wash it out from underneath the slab.
1-7. Use an electric demolition tool.
A 60-pound (27.2-kg) breaker should be sufficient for most home jobs. Only rent a heavy duty pneumatic jackhammer for extremely thick or difficult to break concrete.
Only use a chisel point bit to break up concrete. This concentrates force, allowing the tool to break up the concrete more efficiently.
Let the weight of the machine do the job; it's not necessary to add force by pushing down. Forcing the bit may damage the tool or possibly wedge the bit.
If the concrete doesn't crack immediately, stop hammering and move over a few inches. More hammering could get the drill bit stuck.
Break pieces 2-3 inches (5-8 cm) away from each other to minimize chances of a stuck drill bit.
Use the pry bar to pull apart chunks of concrete after you crack them apart.
1-8. Deal with any mesh or reinforcing bars you encounter.
You may encounter supports inside the concrete after you start cutting. Deal with them as you separate the chunks of concrete:
If the concrete is held together by wire mesh or heavy, welded wire fabric, you'll need bolt cutters to snip it apart. Number 10 wire can be cut with side cutting pliers.
Metal reinforcing bars will take much longer to cut apart. Use a reciprocating saw or an angle grinder with a cutoff blade.
1-9. Pull apart jammed together chunks with a mattock.
If chunks of concrete remain locked together, making it hard to break the surrounding area, clear the surrounding rubble. After that, you're ready to use a heavy mattock to pry locked chunks apart:
Swing the pointed end into the crack between the two chunks and pry.
Once the crack is wide enough, switch to the larger flat end and pry it fully apart.
Pry up the opposite side of each chunk if they still won't budge.
2. Removing a Small Portion
2-1. Determine where you need to break the concrete.
If you are looking for a broken water or drain line and you can figure out its general location, you'll save a lot of effort and expense. Here are some things to look for:
For plumbing problems, try to determine the location and depth of the underground pipes. Look for an outdoor faucet, sewer cap, or use a line locator.
For water problems, look for areas where water is either bubbling up through cracks in the concrete or seeping out around the edges of the slab.
For electrical lines, you may find you have to locate the conduit outside the slab area and dig up a length of it to determine where it runs.
For other types of repairs, look up the construction blueprints with your municipal government or request them from the contractor who built your home.
2-2. Mark the location of the portion of the slab you intend to remove.
You may wish to measure distances from the slab's edge to make an even, parallel hole for less visible repairs. Use a pencil or chalk to mark off the location.
Since you don’t know what is under the concrete, allow for plenty of room around your repair area to avoid causing further damage.
2-3. Shut off all relevant utilities.
If you are digging toward a specific line or pipe, shut off the power or water before you begin. You don't want to risk electrocution, flooding, or a gas leak.
Always call the utility company to find out the location of power lines and other dangerous items before beginning projects that involve digging.
2-4. Saw
Rent a concrete cutoff or demolition saw. Cut the line evenly to create a clean edge when your work is complete. If you are searching for a broken water pipe, you may have to enlarge the hole after the initial break is done.
Be very cautious while sawing. These saws are powerful and can cause serious injury, property damage, or death if used incorrectly.
Always wear a respirator or face mask to protect your lungs from cement dust and always follow the tool's user instructions carefully.
Whenever possible, use a wet saw and a steady flow of water to prevent airborne dust and damage to the saw blade.
2-5. Chip the concrete near the cut.
Use a heavy duty hammer drill or a breaking chisel attachment in a rotary hammer to chip the concrete next to the line you sawed. Tilt the chisel so the side you will be removing cracks loose, not the side you're keeping.
2-6. Gradually deepen the hole.
Using the same tool, work the area around the cut, penetrating deeper each time until you've reached the bottom of the slab. This is the hardest part of the job, since the pieces you break off cannot come free until there is a space for them to drop into.
You may need to leave tightly wedged pieces of concrete until the adjacent concrete is broken and removed.
2-7. Chip inward to make the gap wider.
Once a gap has been created between the concrete you're removing and the concrete that's staying, chip further with the same tool. Widen it to at least 3 inches (8 cm), or enough to fully remove the broken pieces.
Keep your chisel point slanted toward the beginning hole while you work around the perimeter of the hole, so it doesn't try to penetrate straight down.
If the chisel goes too deep, the bit will become lodged in its hole and will be difficult to remove.
If a bit is truly stuck, you may need to use a new drill bit to break the concrete around it and free it.
2-8. Break larger pieces using a sledgehammer or electric jackhammer.
Once there is a wide enough gap to avoid damaging the concrete you wish to keep, you can use the techniques described in the section on removing a whole slab.
Use a pry bar as you go for the quickest and most effective results.
Do not use a jackhammer or similar power tool if you are near a water pipe, electrical line, or gas line.
Remove the broken chunks of concrete from the hole as it becomes larger so you can work more comfortably and spot pipes or electrical wires more easily.
Use bolt cutters to snip reinforcing mesh and an angle grinder to cut through reinforcing bars.
2-9. Clean up the walls of the hole.
Once all the concrete is removed, chip the vertical walls of the hole to make them smooth and even. This will ensure a stronger repair (or a more attractive edge if you don't plan on replacing the concrete).
2-10. Search for the damaged pipe (if applicable).
If you're trying to find a damage utility such as a water pipe, look for signs as you go, such as water puddles or stains. Once you find the pipe, you may need to continue breaking concrete along its length until you find the damaged section.
As you approach the depth and location of the damaged line or pipe, slow down and swing your hammer more precisely to prevent further damage.
To protect pipes and lines, refrain from hitting your hammer on the concrete directly above their suspected location underground.
Avoid hitting cast iron or PVC pipes with the breaking hammer, as these are especially brittle and can easily become damaged.
3. Disposing of Broken Concrete
3-1. Use the rubble as fill.
If you have a large hole in your yard, use some of the rubble to fill it back again. Cover any pipes or other objects with soil first to avoid damaging them with backfilled concrete.
3-2. Use a heavy-duty wheelbarrow or hand truck.
Move the rubble to a larger disposal container using a heavy-duty wheelbarrow. Concrete is very heavy and can break light wheelbarrows. As an alternative, you can use a hand truck. You’ll only need to move the pieces a few inches, rather than lifting them into the wheelbarrow.
Do not overload the wheelbarrow, or it could fall over and create additional work. Taking more trips with smaller loads will prevent you from overdoing it.
Consider renting a power wheelbarrow.
3-3. Rent a dumpster from a disposal company.
If you want to get rid of a large amount of concrete, this is your best bet. Many disposal companies have a reduced rate for disposing clean broken concrete.
Ask in advance how full you can load it, or you'll be forced to remove the excess concrete or pay them to do so.
3-4. Contact landfills about the cost of disposal.
In some locations, only landfills that accept "C&D" (Construction and Demolition) materials will accept concrete. The fees for landfills like this can be pricey, so it's best to check beforehand.
3-5. Drive the cement to the landfill.
Be careful - your truck will not carry as much concrete as you think. Use a powerful pickup truck and fill the entire bed. Half full will likely be fine for full-sized trucks, though a quarter full would likely be best for smaller ones.
You can also use a utility trailer for your truck, but be especially cautious in that case. An overly heavy trailer could smash into your truck or spill.
Building supply companies may take your old concrete for free if you call them in advance and agree to deliver it yourself.
3-6. Upcycle broken concrete in another home project.
Broken concrete can be used to make a raised planting bed. You can also use pieces of concrete similar to pavers to create a footpath or stepping stones. Chunks with an interesting shape can be painted and used to make garden ornaments, too.
You could also arrange the pieces into a circle to create a backyard fire pit.
Tips
If you’re breaking up a sidewalk or walkway, cut into the expansion joints on either side. Not only are these areas thinner, it will be easier to pour the new concrete into the clearly-defined area.
Look for specialized concrete breaking tools and accessories at tool and equipment rental stores if you only need them for a single job, as these machines are very expensive.
For an area larger than 15-20 square feet (1.4-1.9 square meters), renting a jackhammer or contracting the job out to a qualified demolition person may be easiest.
Warnings
Rotary hammers have a lot of torque. Be sure to use any auxiliary handles that it is equipped with.
Read all manufacturer information on tools and follow safety rules. Do not use a piece of equipment until you fully understand how to operate it safely.
Wear a dust mask or respirator when dry cutting concrete and, if possible, use a wet cut system. Concrete contains silica and can harm your respiratory system. Older concrete can also contain asbestos; test before you start working if there is any doubt about its makeup.
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However, even undermining a little can significantly decrease the difficulty of breaking concrete.\\nAfter you’ve begun to undermine, use a garden hose to loosen the dirt and wash it out from underneath the slab.\\n1-7. Use an electric demolition tool.\\nA 60-pound (27.2-kg) breaker should be sufficient for most home jobs. Only rent a heavy duty pneumatic jackhammer for extremely thick or difficult to break concrete.\\nOnly use a chisel point bit to break up concrete. This concentrates force, allowing the tool to break up the concrete more efficiently.\\nLet the weight of the machine do the job; it's not necessary to add force by pushing down. Forcing the bit may damage the tool or possibly wedge the bit.\\nIf the concrete doesn't crack immediately, stop hammering and move over a few inches. More hammering could get the drill bit stuck.\\nBreak pieces 2-3 inches (5-8 cm) away from each other to minimize chances of a stuck drill bit.\\nUse the pry bar to pull apart chunks of concrete after you crack them apart.\\n1-8. Deal with any mesh or reinforcing bars you encounter.\\nYou may encounter supports inside the concrete after you start cutting. Deal with them as you separate the chunks of concrete:\\nIf the concrete is held together by wire mesh or heavy, welded wire fabric, you'll need bolt cutters to snip it apart. Number 10 wire can be cut with side cutting pliers.\\nMetal reinforcing bars will take much longer to cut apart. Use a reciprocating saw or an angle grinder with a cutoff blade.\\n1-9. Pull apart jammed together chunks with a mattock.\\nIf chunks of concrete remain locked together, making it hard to break the surrounding area, clear the surrounding rubble. After that, you're ready to use a heavy mattock to pry locked chunks apart:\\nSwing the pointed end into the crack between the two chunks and pry.\\nOnce the crack is wide enough, switch to the larger flat end and pry it fully apart.\\nPry up the opposite side of each chunk if they still won't budge.\\n2. Removing a Small Portion\\n2-1. Determine where you need to break the concrete.\\nIf you are looking for a broken water or drain line and you can figure out its general location, you'll save a lot of effort and expense. Here are some things to look for:\\nFor plumbing problems, try to determine the location and depth of the underground pipes. Look for an outdoor faucet, sewer cap, or use a line locator.\\nFor water problems, look for areas where water is either bubbling up through cracks in the concrete or seeping out around the edges of the slab.\\nFor electrical lines, you may find you have to locate the conduit outside the slab area and dig up a length of it to determine where it runs.\\nFor other types of repairs, look up the construction blueprints with your municipal government or request them from the contractor who built your home.\\n2-2. Mark the location of the portion of the slab you intend to remove.\\nYou may wish to measure distances from the slab's edge to make an even, parallel hole for less visible repairs. Use a pencil or chalk to mark off the location.\\nSince you don’t know what is under the concrete, allow for plenty of room around your repair area to avoid causing further damage.\\n2-3. Shut off all relevant utilities.\\nIf you are digging toward a specific line or pipe, shut off the power or water before you begin. You don't want to risk electrocution, flooding, or a gas leak.\\nAlways call the utility company to find out the location of power lines and other dangerous items before beginning projects that involve digging.\\n2-4. Saw\\nRent a concrete cutoff or demolition saw. Cut the line evenly to create a clean edge when your work is complete. If you are searching for a broken water pipe, you may have to enlarge the hole after the initial break is done.\\nBe very cautious while sawing. These saws are powerful and can cause serious injury, property damage, or death if used incorrectly.\\nAlways wear a respirator or face mask to protect your lungs from cement dust and always follow the tool's user instructions carefully.\\nWhenever possible, use a wet saw and a steady flow of water to prevent airborne dust and damage to the saw blade.\\n2-5. Chip the concrete near the cut.\\nUse a heavy duty hammer drill or a breaking chisel attachment in a rotary hammer to chip the concrete next to the line you sawed. Tilt the chisel so the side you will be removing cracks loose, not the side you're keeping.\\n2-6. Gradually deepen the hole.\\nUsing the same tool, work the area around the cut, penetrating deeper each time until you've reached the bottom of the slab. This is the hardest part of the job, since the pieces you break off cannot come free until there is a space for them to drop into.\\nYou may need to leave tightly wedged pieces of concrete until the adjacent concrete is broken and removed.\\n2-7. Chip inward to make the gap wider.\\nOnce a gap has been created between the concrete you're removing and the concrete that's staying, chip further with the same tool. Widen it to at least 3 inches (8 cm), or enough to fully remove the broken pieces.\\nKeep your chisel point slanted toward the beginning hole while you work around the perimeter of the hole, so it doesn't try to penetrate straight down.\\nIf the chisel goes too deep, the bit will become lodged in its hole and will be difficult to remove.\\nIf a bit is truly stuck, you may need to use a new drill bit to break the concrete around it and free it.\\n2-8. Break larger pieces using a sledgehammer or electric jackhammer.\\nOnce there is a wide enough gap to avoid damaging the concrete you wish to keep, you can use the techniques described in the section on removing a whole slab.\\nUse a pry bar as you go for the quickest and most effective results.\\nDo not use a jackhammer or similar power tool if you are near a water pipe, electrical line, or gas line.\\nRemove the broken chunks of concrete from the hole as it becomes larger so you can work more comfortably and spot pipes or electrical wires more easily.\\nUse bolt cutters to snip reinforcing mesh and an angle grinder to cut through reinforcing bars.\\n2-9. Clean up the walls of the hole.\\nOnce all the concrete is removed, chip the vertical walls of the hole to make them smooth and even. This will ensure a stronger repair (or a more attractive edge if you don't plan on replacing the concrete).\\n2-10. Search for the damaged pipe (if applicable).\\nIf you're trying to find a damage utility such as a water pipe, look for signs as you go, such as water puddles or stains. Once you find the pipe, you may need to continue breaking concrete along its length until you find the damaged section.\\nAs you approach the depth and location of the damaged line or pipe, slow down and swing your hammer more precisely to prevent further damage.\\nTo protect pipes and lines, refrain from hitting your hammer on the concrete directly above their suspected location underground.\\nAvoid hitting cast iron or PVC pipes with the breaking hammer, as these are especially brittle and can easily become damaged.\\n3. Disposing of Broken Concrete\\n3-1. Use the rubble as fill.\\nIf you have a large hole in your yard, use some of the rubble to fill it back again. Cover any pipes or other objects with soil first to avoid damaging them with backfilled concrete.\\n3-2. Use a heavy-duty wheelbarrow or hand truck.\\nMove the rubble to a larger disposal container using a heavy-duty wheelbarrow. Concrete is very heavy and can break light wheelbarrows. As an alternative, you can use a hand truck. You’ll only need to move the pieces a few inches, rather than lifting them into the wheelbarrow.\\nDo not overload the wheelbarrow, or it could fall over and create additional work. Taking more trips with smaller loads will prevent you from overdoing it.\\nConsider renting a power wheelbarrow.\\n3-3. Rent a dumpster from a disposal company.\\nIf you want to get rid of a large amount of concrete, this is your best bet. Many disposal companies have a reduced rate for disposing clean broken concrete.\\nAsk in advance how full you can load it, or you'll be forced to remove the excess concrete or pay them to do so.\\n3-4. Contact landfills about the cost of disposal.\\nIn some locations, only landfills that accept \\\"C&D\\\" (Construction and Demolition) materials will accept concrete. The fees for landfills like this can be pricey, so it's best to check beforehand.\\n3-5. Drive the cement to the landfill.\\nBe careful - your truck will not carry as much concrete as you think. Use a powerful pickup truck and fill the entire bed. Half full will likely be fine for full-sized trucks, though a quarter full would likely be best for smaller ones.\\nYou can also use a utility trailer for your truck, but be especially cautious in that case. An overly heavy trailer could smash into your truck or spill.\\nBuilding supply companies may take your old concrete for free if you call them in advance and agree to deliver it yourself.\\n3-6. Upcycle broken concrete in another home project.\\nBroken concrete can be used to make a raised planting bed. You can also use pieces of concrete similar to pavers to create a footpath or stepping stones. Chunks with an interesting shape can be painted and used to make garden ornaments, too.\\nYou could also arrange the pieces into a circle to create a backyard fire pit.\\nTips\\nIf you’re breaking up a sidewalk or walkway, cut into the expansion joints on either side. Not only are these areas thinner, it will be easier to pour the new concrete into the clearly-defined area.\\nLook for specialized concrete breaking tools and accessories at tool and equipment rental stores if you only need them for a single job, as these machines are very expensive.\\nFor an area larger than 15-20 square feet (1.4-1.9 square meters), renting a jackhammer or contracting the job out to a qualified demolition person may be easiest.\\nWarnings\\nRotary hammers have a lot of torque. Be sure to use any auxiliary handles that it is equipped with.\\nRead all manufacturer information on tools and follow safety rules. Do not use a piece of equipment until you fully understand how to operate it safely.\\nWear a dust mask or respirator when dry cutting concrete and, if possible, use a wet cut system. Concrete contains silica and can harm your respiratory system. Older concrete can also contain asbestos; test before you start working if there is any doubt about its makeup.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"You may need to break up a section of concrete to reach an underground utility in need of repair, or perhaps you're ready to turn a paved area into a green space. Whether you need to remove a whole slab or a smaller section, with the right tools and some elbow grease, you'll be able to break up the concrete and clear it out. After that, all you have to do is load up the broken concrete and take it to a suitable landfill.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Removing a Whole Slab\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Call your utility companies.\", \"描述\": \"Always call your local utility companies to make sure there aren't any underground utilities beneath the concrete. Hire a professional if there are. Digging above a utility line like gas or electric can be very dangerous.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use safety equipment.\", \"描述\": \"Concrete removal creates hazardous dust and sharp fragments, so protect yourself and your coworkers with safety goggles, dust masks or respirators, steel toe or other heavy boots, thick gloves, and thick clothing that covers your arms and legs.\\nIf you're going to be using power tools, especially a jackhammer, use ear protection.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Cover the slab with plastic sheets to protect fragile items.\", \"描述\": \"Be careful when using plastic sheets, as they can sometimes create a slipping or tripping hazard. However, sheeting can be worthwhile if you're breaking up concrete near fragile items or structures.\\nIf you're breaking up concrete in a wide open area away from structures and other breakables, it's unlikely you'll need sheeting.\\nFragments of concrete can be launched great distances by the force of your hammer and tools. When in doubt, use a cover to protect the surrounding area.\\nIf you don't use plastic sheeting, protect any nearby windows and breakable objects with plywood sheets to protect the glass from concrete fragments.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Obtain a large pry bar.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you're using a sledgehammer or jackhammer, you'll likely need to pry apart the pieces of concrete as you break them apart. Concrete removal generally goes quickest if you have one person breaking apart the concrete and another following along and prying the pieces apart.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Use a sledgehammer for thin slabs.\", \"描述\": \"If your concrete is 4 in (10 cm) thick or less, try using a sledgehammer. Start at any existing cracks or at a corner or edge, and keep in mind that thick concrete will be easiest to break closer to its outer edges.\\nDon’t try to swing the sledgehammer or lift it above your head; hold it at shoulder-height and let it fall onto the concrete, instead.\\nUse the pry bar to pull apart the chunks of concrete after you break them apart. Then, move them out of the way to eliminate trip hazards.\\nIf after 10 minutes you've failed to make significant cracks or you are exhausted, you may want to try a demolition hammer.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Dig underneath slabs that are difficult to break.\", \"描述\": \"\\\"Undermining,\\\" or removing soil beneath the slab, will make the cement break more easily. Use a shovel to clear out the soil beneath the lip of the concrete, then strike it with your hammer.\\nThe more you undermine a slab, the easier it'll be to break. However, even undermining a little can significantly decrease the difficulty of breaking concrete.\\nAfter you’ve begun to undermine, use a garden hose to loosen the dirt and wash it out from underneath the slab.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Use an electric demolition tool.\", \"描述\": \"A 60-pound (27.2-kg) breaker should be sufficient for most home jobs. Only rent a heavy duty pneumatic jackhammer for extremely thick or difficult to break concrete.\\nOnly use a chisel point bit to break up concrete. This concentrates force, allowing the tool to break up the concrete more efficiently.\\nLet the weight of the machine do the job; it's not necessary to add force by pushing down. Forcing the bit may damage the tool or possibly wedge the bit.\\nIf the concrete doesn't crack immediately, stop hammering and move over a few inches. More hammering could get the drill bit stuck.\\nBreak pieces 2-3 inches (5-8 cm) away from each other to minimize chances of a stuck drill bit.\\nUse the pry bar to pull apart chunks of concrete after you crack them apart.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Deal with any mesh or reinforcing bars you encounter.\", \"描述\": \"You may encounter supports inside the concrete after you start cutting. Deal with them as you separate the chunks of concrete:\\nIf the concrete is held together by wire mesh or heavy, welded wire fabric, you'll need bolt cutters to snip it apart. Number 10 wire can be cut with side cutting pliers.\\nMetal reinforcing bars will take much longer to cut apart. Use a reciprocating saw or an angle grinder with a cutoff blade.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Pull apart jammed together chunks with a mattock.\", \"描述\": \"If chunks of concrete remain locked together, making it hard to break the surrounding area, clear the surrounding rubble. After that, you're ready to use a heavy mattock to pry locked chunks apart:\\nSwing the pointed end into the crack between the two chunks and pry.\\nOnce the crack is wide enough, switch to the larger flat end and pry it fully apart.\\nPry up the opposite side of each chunk if they still won't budge.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Removing a Small Portion\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Determine where you need to break the concrete.\", \"描述\": \"If you are looking for a broken water or drain line and you can figure out its general location, you'll save a lot of effort and expense. Here are some things to look for:\\nFor plumbing problems, try to determine the location and depth of the underground pipes. Look for an outdoor faucet, sewer cap, or use a line locator.\\nFor water problems, look for areas where water is either bubbling up through cracks in the concrete or seeping out around the edges of the slab.\\nFor electrical lines, you may find you have to locate the conduit outside the slab area and dig up a length of it to determine where it runs.\\nFor other types of repairs, look up the construction blueprints with your municipal government or request them from the contractor who built your home.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Mark the location of the portion of the slab you intend to remove.\", \"描述\": \"You may wish to measure distances from the slab's edge to make an even, parallel hole for less visible repairs. Use a pencil or chalk to mark off the location.\\nSince you don’t know what is under the concrete, allow for plenty of room around your repair area to avoid causing further damage.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Shut off all relevant utilities.\", \"描述\": \"If you are digging toward a specific line or pipe, shut off the power or water before you begin. You don't want to risk electrocution, flooding, or a gas leak.\\nAlways call the utility company to find out the location of power lines and other dangerous items before beginning projects that involve digging.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Saw\", \"描述\": \"Rent a concrete cutoff or demolition saw. Cut the line evenly to create a clean edge when your work is complete. If you are searching for a broken water pipe, you may have to enlarge the hole after the initial break is done.\\nBe very cautious while sawing. These saws are powerful and can cause serious injury, property damage, or death if used incorrectly.\\nAlways wear a respirator or face mask to protect your lungs from cement dust and always follow the tool's user instructions carefully.\\nWhenever possible, use a wet saw and a steady flow of water to prevent airborne dust and damage to the saw blade.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Chip the concrete near the cut.\", \"描述\": \"Use a heavy duty hammer drill or a breaking chisel attachment in a rotary hammer to chip the concrete next to the line you sawed. Tilt the chisel so the side you will be removing cracks loose, not the side you're keeping.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Gradually deepen the hole.\", \"描述\": \"Using the same tool, work the area around the cut, penetrating deeper each time until you've reached the bottom of the slab. This is the hardest part of the job, since the pieces you break off cannot come free until there is a space for them to drop into.\\nYou may need to leave tightly wedged pieces of concrete until the adjacent concrete is broken and removed.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Chip inward to make the gap wider.\", \"描述\": \"Once a gap has been created between the concrete you're removing and the concrete that's staying, chip further with the same tool. Widen it to at least 3 inches (8 cm), or enough to fully remove the broken pieces.\\nKeep your chisel point slanted toward the beginning hole while you work around the perimeter of the hole, so it doesn't try to penetrate straight down.\\nIf the chisel goes too deep, the bit will become lodged in its hole and will be difficult to remove.\\nIf a bit is truly stuck, you may need to use a new drill bit to break the concrete around it and free it.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Break larger pieces using a sledgehammer or electric jackhammer.\", \"描述\": \"Once there is a wide enough gap to avoid damaging the concrete you wish to keep, you can use the techniques described in the section on removing a whole slab.\\nUse a pry bar as you go for the quickest and most effective results.\\nDo not use a jackhammer or similar power tool if you are near a water pipe, electrical line, or gas line.\\nRemove the broken chunks of concrete from the hole as it becomes larger so you can work more comfortably and spot pipes or electrical wires more easily.\\nUse bolt cutters to snip reinforcing mesh and an angle grinder to cut through reinforcing bars.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Clean up the walls of the hole.\", \"描述\": \"Once all the concrete is removed, chip the vertical walls of the hole to make them smooth and even. This will ensure a stronger repair (or a more attractive edge if you don't plan on replacing the concrete).\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Search for the damaged pipe (if applicable).\", \"描述\": \"If you're trying to find a damage utility such as a water pipe, look for signs as you go, such as water puddles or stains. Once you find the pipe, you may need to continue breaking concrete along its length until you find the damaged section.\\nAs you approach the depth and location of the damaged line or pipe, slow down and swing your hammer more precisely to prevent further damage.\\nTo protect pipes and lines, refrain from hitting your hammer on the concrete directly above their suspected location underground.\\nAvoid hitting cast iron or PVC pipes with the breaking hammer, as these are especially brittle and can easily become damaged.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Disposing of Broken Concrete\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Use the rubble as fill.\", \"描述\": \"If you have a large hole in your yard, use some of the rubble to fill it back again. Cover any pipes or other objects with soil first to avoid damaging them with backfilled concrete.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use a heavy-duty wheelbarrow or hand truck.\", \"描述\": \"Move the rubble to a larger disposal container using a heavy-duty wheelbarrow. 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How to Break Up Easily
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1. Tell your partner as soon as you know it’s over.
Have the breakup conversation once you’re sure it’s what you want.
It’s easy to put off breaking up with someone because—let’s be real—breaking up can feel terrible. You might really care about this person, even if you’ve realized you two aren’t a match. To respect their feelings, it’s better to end the relationship than to string them along when you know it’s not working.
Remind yourself it’s better for both of you not to be in a relationship than to be in a relationship that’s not healthy or not making you happier.
2. Avoid breaking up over text—except in a few specific cases.
Breaking up over text usually isn't the way to go.
Breaking up with someone in person really is the respectful thing to do. It gives the other person the chance to ask questions and get more closure, and it shows them you respect them enough to break the news face-to-face. However, there are a few circumstances where a break-up text might make sense:
If you've only gone on a few dates and things aren't super serious yet. In that case, you might text them something like, “I've had a great time getting to know you more, but right now I'm not interested in pursuing this any further.”
If your partner always convinces you not to break up with them when you try to do it in person. A break-up text might be the best way to end things if you know your partner is going to pressure you into staying in person.
If you’re worried about your safety. It's completely fine to break up with someone over text and then cut off contact with them if you're concerned about them becoming verbally or physically abusive.
3. Choose a private location where you can talk.
Find a place where you can take your time to break up respectfully.
Choose somewhere that’s open but also gives you privacy to talk such as a park or a quiet coffee shop. If you don’t live together, you could break up with them at their place so you can leave when it’s done.
If you’re worried about your partner becoming verbally or physically abusive, you may want to break up with them in a public location and have a friend nearby. You could even do it over the phone. Your safety is the most important thing, so do what makes you feel comfortable.
4. Be honest and tell them how you feel.
It’ll hurt them more if you’re vague or don’t talk about your feelings.
Explain why you’ve been unhappy or dissatisfied with your relationship. Talk about the problems that you’ve been struggling with and how your relationship makes you feel. If you’re unhappy, hurt, angry, or if you feel betrayed, say so. Give your partner context for why you want to break up so there isn’t any confusion.
Try using “I” statements to keep your partner from feeling attacked. For instance, you could say something like, “I haven’t felt happy in a long time and I think I need to make some changes in my life.”
5. Tell them that you want to break up.
Take responsibility and admit that it’s what you want.
When it comes time to do the deed, the best way is to be direct and clear. Tell your partner that breaking up is the best thing to do and you’re committed to the idea. Rip off the band-aid and get it over with. You’ll feel much better once you finally get it off of your chest.
Breakups are always tough, but you can make it as easy as possible by being straightforward and clearly stating what you want to do.
For example, you could try saying something like, “I want to break up and spend some time with myself.”
6. Answer any of their questions honestly.
Explain your reasons for breaking up so they understand.
Your partner may simply accept what you say and not have any questions, but it’s common for people to want to know why you want to break up. They may also ask if there’s something they did wrong or if there’s anything they can do to change your mind. Don’t brush off their questions. Take your time and answer all of them as clearly as you can so they don’t get the wrong impression or have false hope that you can still be together.
For instance, if they ask something like, “Are you sure this is what you want? What did I do wrong?” You can say something like, “Yes, I’ve thought long and hard about this and it’s what I want. I haven’t been happy in this relationship, and breaking up is the best thing to do.”
7. Discuss the logistics if you live together.
Come up with a plan of where you’ll stay and how to divide your belongings.
Breaking up can be a little more tricky if you share a home as well as things like bank accounts together. Talk about who will go where following the breakup and come up with a way to organize and separate your belongings. You may also need to contact your bank to start the process of dividing your accounts.
If you’re worried about your partner becoming abusive, you don’t have to tell them where you plan to stay. If you feel unsafe, leave as soon as you can.
8. Stick to your guns no matter how they respond.
Stand by your decision so you don’t give them false hope.
Your partner may react with anger or sadness. They may beg you to change your mind and make all sorts of promises to change. Don’t give in. Trust that you’ve made the right decision and stand by it. Try not to be wishy-washy and give them false hope. Tell them that it’s over and you want to move on.
If they beg or start crying, you can be empathetic but firm and say something like, “I know this may be painful, but I think it’s the right thing to do.”
If your partner gets angry and aggressive, remove yourself from the situation after you’ve said what you needed to say.
9. Accept that breakups can be uncomfortable.
Just because it’s unpleasant doesn’t mean it’s not the right thing to do.
No matter what you do, breakups are never fun. By knowing and accepting the reality that you may feel uncomfortable during and after the breakup, you can mentally prepare for it, which can make the process a little easier for you to handle.
10. Cut contact with your ex.
Give yourselves time to heal.
Ending communication for a while helps to prevent confusion by signaling the relationship is really over. Even though you might want to support your ex or stay friends, giving them space is actually the healthiest way to let them move on.
Set clear boundaries for communication: “I want us both to have time to get over this. I think it’s best if we don’t talk for a while.”
If you share mutual friends, try to limit the amount of time you hang out with your ex in group settings.
You don’t have to unfollow them, but you can consider muting their posts so you don’t see them or get notifications.
11. Use healthy distractions to help yourself move on.
Breaking up can leave you with a lot more time on your hands.
Spend your new free time hanging out with friends and family. Pick up an old hobby or pastime you haven’t gotten to in a while. Do things that you enjoy and that make you happy.
You could also try something new like taking yoga classes or going hiking. Find something you’ve always wanted to do and use your newfound time to do it!
If you find yourself really struggling with your feelings after a breakup, consider talking to a therapist or a counselor about it. They’ll help you find ways to cope and move on.
Tips
Your friends may be able to help you commit to the breakup as well. They’ll be able to remind you how you felt while you were in the relationship.
Warnings
If your partner makes you feel unsafe or like they may physically harm you, leave as soon as you can. Contact the police if they’re threatening you with violence. You don’t have to put up with it alone.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Tell your partner as soon as you know it’s over.\\nHave the breakup conversation once you’re sure it’s what you want.\\nIt’s easy to put off breaking up with someone because—let’s be real—breaking up can feel terrible. You might really care about this person, even if you’ve realized you two aren’t a match. To respect their feelings, it’s better to end the relationship than to string them along when you know it’s not working.\\nRemind yourself it’s better for both of you not to be in a relationship than to be in a relationship that’s not healthy or not making you happier.\\n2. Avoid breaking up over text—except in a few specific cases.\\nBreaking up over text usually isn't the way to go.\\nBreaking up with someone in person really is the respectful thing to do. It gives the other person the chance to ask questions and get more closure, and it shows them you respect them enough to break the news face-to-face. However, there are a few circumstances where a break-up text might make sense:\\nIf you've only gone on a few dates and things aren't super serious yet. In that case, you might text them something like, “I've had a great time getting to know you more, but right now I'm not interested in pursuing this any further.”\\nIf your partner always convinces you not to break up with them when you try to do it in person. A break-up text might be the best way to end things if you know your partner is going to pressure you into staying in person.\\nIf you’re worried about your safety. It's completely fine to break up with someone over text and then cut off contact with them if you're concerned about them becoming verbally or physically abusive.\\n3. Choose a private location where you can talk.\\nFind a place where you can take your time to break up respectfully.\\nChoose somewhere that’s open but also gives you privacy to talk such as a park or a quiet coffee shop. If you don’t live together, you could break up with them at their place so you can leave when it’s done.\\nIf you’re worried about your partner becoming verbally or physically abusive, you may want to break up with them in a public location and have a friend nearby. You could even do it over the phone. Your safety is the most important thing, so do what makes you feel comfortable.\\n4. Be honest and tell them how you feel.\\nIt’ll hurt them more if you’re vague or don’t talk about your feelings.\\nExplain why you’ve been unhappy or dissatisfied with your relationship. Talk about the problems that you’ve been struggling with and how your relationship makes you feel. If you’re unhappy, hurt, angry, or if you feel betrayed, say so. Give your partner context for why you want to break up so there isn’t any confusion.\\nTry using “I” statements to keep your partner from feeling attacked. For instance, you could say something like, “I haven’t felt happy in a long time and I think I need to make some changes in my life.”\\n5. Tell them that you want to break up.\\nTake responsibility and admit that it’s what you want.\\nWhen it comes time to do the deed, the best way is to be direct and clear. Tell your partner that breaking up is the best thing to do and you’re committed to the idea. Rip off the band-aid and get it over with. You’ll feel much better once you finally get it off of your chest.\\nBreakups are always tough, but you can make it as easy as possible by being straightforward and clearly stating what you want to do.\\nFor example, you could try saying something like, “I want to break up and spend some time with myself.”\\n6. Answer any of their questions honestly.\\nExplain your reasons for breaking up so they understand.\\nYour partner may simply accept what you say and not have any questions, but it’s common for people to want to know why you want to break up. They may also ask if there’s something they did wrong or if there’s anything they can do to change your mind. Don’t brush off their questions. Take your time and answer all of them as clearly as you can so they don’t get the wrong impression or have false hope that you can still be together.\\nFor instance, if they ask something like, “Are you sure this is what you want? What did I do wrong?” You can say something like, “Yes, I’ve thought long and hard about this and it’s what I want. I haven’t been happy in this relationship, and breaking up is the best thing to do.”\\n7. Discuss the logistics if you live together.\\nCome up with a plan of where you’ll stay and how to divide your belongings.\\nBreaking up can be a little more tricky if you share a home as well as things like bank accounts together. Talk about who will go where following the breakup and come up with a way to organize and separate your belongings. You may also need to contact your bank to start the process of dividing your accounts.\\nIf you’re worried about your partner becoming abusive, you don’t have to tell them where you plan to stay. If you feel unsafe, leave as soon as you can.\\n8. Stick to your guns no matter how they respond.\\nStand by your decision so you don’t give them false hope.\\nYour partner may react with anger or sadness. They may beg you to change your mind and make all sorts of promises to change. Don’t give in. Trust that you’ve made the right decision and stand by it. Try not to be wishy-washy and give them false hope. Tell them that it’s over and you want to move on.\\nIf they beg or start crying, you can be empathetic but firm and say something like, “I know this may be painful, but I think it’s the right thing to do.”\\nIf your partner gets angry and aggressive, remove yourself from the situation after you’ve said what you needed to say.\\n9. Accept that breakups can be uncomfortable.\\nJust because it’s unpleasant doesn’t mean it’s not the right thing to do.\\nNo matter what you do, breakups are never fun. By knowing and accepting the reality that you may feel uncomfortable during and after the breakup, you can mentally prepare for it, which can make the process a little easier for you to handle.\\n10. Cut contact with your ex.\\nGive yourselves time to heal.\\nEnding communication for a while helps to prevent confusion by signaling the relationship is really over. Even though you might want to support your ex or stay friends, giving them space is actually the healthiest way to let them move on. \\nSet clear boundaries for communication: “I want us both to have time to get over this. I think it’s best if we don’t talk for a while.”\\nIf you share mutual friends, try to limit the amount of time you hang out with your ex in group settings.\\nYou don’t have to unfollow them, but you can consider muting their posts so you don’t see them or get notifications.\\n11. Use healthy distractions to help yourself move on.\\nBreaking up can leave you with a lot more time on your hands.\\nSpend your new free time hanging out with friends and family. Pick up an old hobby or pastime you haven’t gotten to in a while. Do things that you enjoy and that make you happy.\\nYou could also try something new like taking yoga classes or going hiking. Find something you’ve always wanted to do and use your newfound time to do it!\\nIf you find yourself really struggling with your feelings after a breakup, consider talking to a therapist or a counselor about it. They’ll help you find ways to cope and move on.\\nTips\\nYour friends may be able to help you commit to the breakup as well. They’ll be able to remind you how you felt while you were in the relationship.\\nWarnings\\nIf your partner makes you feel unsafe or like they may physically harm you, leave as soon as you can. Contact the police if they’re threatening you with violence. You don’t have to put up with it alone.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"You may have heard that breaking up with someone is never easy. While it may be uncomfortable, if you’re unhappy in your relationship, sometimes breaking up is the best thing to do, and it doesn’t have to be super difficult to do it. To help you figure out how to best go about it, we’ve put together a list that you can use to break up with your partner as easily as you can.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Tell your partner as soon as you know it’s over.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have the breakup conversation once you’re sure it’s what you want.\", \"描述\": \"It’s easy to put off breaking up with someone because—let’s be real—breaking up can feel terrible. You might really care about this person, even if you’ve realized you two aren’t a match. To respect their feelings, it’s better to end the relationship than to string them along when you know it’s not working.\\nRemind yourself it’s better for both of you not to be in a relationship than to be in a relationship that’s not healthy or not making you happier.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Avoid breaking up over text—except in a few specific cases.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Breaking up over text usually isn't the way to go.\", \"描述\": \"Breaking up with someone in person really is the respectful thing to do. It gives the other person the chance to ask questions and get more closure, and it shows them you respect them enough to break the news face-to-face. However, there are a few circumstances where a break-up text might make sense:\\nIf you've only gone on a few dates and things aren't super serious yet. In that case, you might text them something like, “I've had a great time getting to know you more, but right now I'm not interested in pursuing this any further.”\\nIf your partner always convinces you not to break up with them when you try to do it in person. A break-up text might be the best way to end things if you know your partner is going to pressure you into staying in person.\\nIf you’re worried about your safety. It's completely fine to break up with someone over text and then cut off contact with them if you're concerned about them becoming verbally or physically abusive.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Choose a private location where you can talk.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find a place where you can take your time to break up respectfully.\", \"描述\": \"Choose somewhere that’s open but also gives you privacy to talk such as a park or a quiet coffee shop. If you don’t live together, you could break up with them at their place so you can leave when it’s done.\\nIf you’re worried about your partner becoming verbally or physically abusive, you may want to break up with them in a public location and have a friend nearby. You could even do it over the phone. Your safety is the most important thing, so do what makes you feel comfortable.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be honest and tell them how you feel.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"It’ll hurt them more if you’re vague or don’t talk about your feelings.\", \"描述\": \"Explain why you’ve been unhappy or dissatisfied with your relationship. Talk about the problems that you’ve been struggling with and how your relationship makes you feel. If you’re unhappy, hurt, angry, or if you feel betrayed, say so. Give your partner context for why you want to break up so there isn’t any confusion.\\nTry using “I” statements to keep your partner from feeling attacked. For instance, you could say something like, “I haven’t felt happy in a long time and I think I need to make some changes in my life.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Tell them that you want to break up.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take responsibility and admit that it’s what you want.\", \"描述\": \"When it comes time to do the deed, the best way is to be direct and clear. Tell your partner that breaking up is the best thing to do and you’re committed to the idea. Rip off the band-aid and get it over with. You’ll feel much better once you finally get it off of your chest.\\nBreakups are always tough, but you can make it as easy as possible by being straightforward and clearly stating what you want to do.\\nFor example, you could try saying something like, “I want to break up and spend some time with myself.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Answer any of their questions honestly.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Explain your reasons for breaking up so they understand.\", \"描述\": \"Your partner may simply accept what you say and not have any questions, but it’s common for people to want to know why you want to break up. They may also ask if there’s something they did wrong or if there’s anything they can do to change your mind. Don’t brush off their questions. Take your time and answer all of them as clearly as you can so they don’t get the wrong impression or have false hope that you can still be together.\\nFor instance, if they ask something like, “Are you sure this is what you want? What did I do wrong?” You can say something like, “Yes, I’ve thought long and hard about this and it’s what I want. I haven’t been happy in this relationship, and breaking up is the best thing to do.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Discuss the logistics if you live together.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Come up with a plan of where you’ll stay and how to divide your belongings.\", \"描述\": \"Breaking up can be a little more tricky if you share a home as well as things like bank accounts together. Talk about who will go where following the breakup and come up with a way to organize and separate your belongings. You may also need to contact your bank to start the process of dividing your accounts.\\nIf you’re worried about your partner becoming abusive, you don’t have to tell them where you plan to stay. If you feel unsafe, leave as soon as you can.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Stick to your guns no matter how they respond.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stand by your decision so you don’t give them false hope.\", \"描述\": \"Your partner may react with anger or sadness. They may beg you to change your mind and make all sorts of promises to change. Don’t give in. Trust that you’ve made the right decision and stand by it. Try not to be wishy-washy and give them false hope. Tell them that it’s over and you want to move on.\\nIf they beg or start crying, you can be empathetic but firm and say something like, “I know this may be painful, but I think it’s the right thing to do.”\\nIf your partner gets angry and aggressive, remove yourself from the situation after you’ve said what you needed to say.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Accept that breakups can be uncomfortable.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Just because it’s unpleasant doesn’t mean it’s not the right thing to do.\", \"描述\": \"No matter what you do, breakups are never fun. By knowing and accepting the reality that you may feel uncomfortable during and after the breakup, you can mentally prepare for it, which can make the process a little easier for you to handle.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Cut contact with your ex.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Give yourselves time to heal.\", \"描述\": \"Ending communication for a while helps to prevent confusion by signaling the relationship is really over. Even though you might want to support your ex or stay friends, giving them space is actually the healthiest way to let them move on. \\nSet clear boundaries for communication: “I want us both to have time to get over this. I think it’s best if we don’t talk for a while.”\\nIf you share mutual friends, try to limit the amount of time you hang out with your ex in group settings.\\nYou don’t have to unfollow them, but you can consider muting their posts so you don’t see them or get notifications.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Use healthy distractions to help yourself move on.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Breaking up can leave you with a lot more time on your hands.\", \"描述\": \"Spend your new free time hanging out with friends and family. Pick up an old hobby or pastime you haven’t gotten to in a while. Do things that you enjoy and that make you happy.\\nYou could also try something new like taking yoga classes or going hiking. Find something you’ve always wanted to do and use your newfound time to do it!\\nIf you find yourself really struggling with your feelings after a breakup, consider talking to a therapist or a counselor about it. They’ll help you find ways to cope and move on.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Your friends may be able to help you commit to the breakup as well. They’ll be able to remind you how you felt while you were in the relationship.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"If your partner makes you feel unsafe or like they may physically harm you, leave as soon as you can. Contact the police if they’re threatening you with violence. You don’t have to put up with it alone.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Break Up Fights Between Chinchillas
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1. Stopping the Attack
1-1. Wear an oven mitt when pulling the chinchillas apart.
The thick material will protect your hands from being bitten or scratched by teeth or claws in the midst of the fight.
1-2. Pick up one of the chinchillas by supporting their whole body.
Grabbing a chinchilla up by their tail can hurt them. Instead, firmly hold the base of their tail to keep them still and lift their entire body at once.
1-3. Separate the 2 chinchillas immediately.
Chinchilla fights are fast and furious and can last for mere seconds. Because chins have sharp teeth and nails, these fights can unfortunately result in very serious injuries or even death. Make sure you wear something to protect your hands. If you don't have an oven mitt, thick rubber gloves will work.
Always stay in the room where you can see both chins and get to them quickly should an issue arise. Letting them out of your sight for just a couple of minutes could be extremely dangerous.
Because of the quick nature of chinchilla fights, you shouldn't put two unfamiliar chins together in a confined space like a cage. Instead, keep them in an open area where one could escape if being attacked.
1-4. Cover 1 chinchilla in a blanket or towel.
Think of this as a time-out. Blocking them from the sight of the other chinchilla can calm them down enough (or at least momentarily surprise them) for you to remove the other chin from the room without injury.
You may also be able to distract your chinchilla with raisins, one of their favorite treats.
1-5. Put them in separate rooms to let them cool down.
If your chinchilla is overly agitated, simply putting space between them and the other chin might not be enough to reduce stress. Even just the scent of the other chinchilla can induce anger so return each chin to their cages in different rooms.
If no blood was drawn, the two chinchillas could still become friends. Give them time to recover in their separate rooms, then reintroduce them to each other in a couple of days if you're comfortable.
1-6. Take your chinchilla to the vet if there's an injury.
If your chinchilla was bitten or if you notice blood, contact your vet immediately. Even what looks like a minor scratch could become infected if not taken care of properly so have a vet check it out.
Chinchillas are not often biters, so if your chinchilla was the one who did the biting, you should also consult your vet. That kind of behavior could be a sign of a more serious health issue.
2. Preventing a Future Fight
2-1. Get male chinchillas neutered.
To reduce aggression in a male chin, take him to your vet to be castrated. This will especially help if you want to introduce a female into your household.
2-2. Keep chinchillas in separate cages.
While individual living spaces will prevent any physical fights, you can keep the cages side by side to help your chins get acclimated to each other. Sometimes it just takes them getting used to the smell of the other chin over the course of a few weeks to feel more comfortable.
Leave about 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) in between the cages so that the chinchillas can't scratch or bite each other.
2-3. Pair an older chinchilla with a younger one.
This combination tends to be the most successful at living together. Same-sex cage mates can also happily share a space. However, avoid putting two male chinchillas together if there’s a female nearby as they will most likely fight to show dominance and win over the female for breeding.
If you do have 2 chinchillas in a cage together, make sure the cage is big enough. Overcrowding is one of the biggest triggers for fighting between chins. The minimum cage size for a pair of chinchillas is about 3.5 by 5 by 4 feet (1.1 by 1.5 by 1.2 m).
2-4. Listen for barking noises or angry calls.
How do you know if chinchillas are fighting or just playing? Barking from one or both chins usually means that they are unhappy with one another. Consider this a signal to take them away from each other.
A chinchilla has 4 different calls they use when feeling defensive or angry. The next time you notice your chinchilla is in one of these moods, listen closely to the noises they’re making so you can identify them.
High-pitched squeals are often emitted when the chin is frightened or in pain.
2-5. Accept that your chinchilla might not want to socialize with others.
While chinchillas live in colonies in the wild, they can get enough social interaction as pets from quality time spent with you, their owner. Your chinchilla doesn't need a rodent companion to be happy.
Frequent interaction with humans can reinforce positive behavior towards other chinchillas. Play with your chinchilla during the evening hours when they're most alert and energetic since they are nocturnal creatures.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Stopping the Attack\\n1-1. Wear an oven mitt when pulling the chinchillas apart.\\nThe thick material will protect your hands from being bitten or scratched by teeth or claws in the midst of the fight.\\n1-2. Pick up one of the chinchillas by supporting their whole body.\\nGrabbing a chinchilla up by their tail can hurt them. Instead, firmly hold the base of their tail to keep them still and lift their entire body at once.\\n1-3. Separate the 2 chinchillas immediately.\\nChinchilla fights are fast and furious and can last for mere seconds. Because chins have sharp teeth and nails, these fights can unfortunately result in very serious injuries or even death. Make sure you wear something to protect your hands. If you don't have an oven mitt, thick rubber gloves will work.\\nAlways stay in the room where you can see both chins and get to them quickly should an issue arise. Letting them out of your sight for just a couple of minutes could be extremely dangerous.\\nBecause of the quick nature of chinchilla fights, you shouldn't put two unfamiliar chins together in a confined space like a cage. Instead, keep them in an open area where one could escape if being attacked.\\n1-4. Cover 1 chinchilla in a blanket or towel.\\nThink of this as a time-out. Blocking them from the sight of the other chinchilla can calm them down enough (or at least momentarily surprise them) for you to remove the other chin from the room without injury.\\nYou may also be able to distract your chinchilla with raisins, one of their favorite treats.\\n1-5. Put them in separate rooms to let them cool down.\\nIf your chinchilla is overly agitated, simply putting space between them and the other chin might not be enough to reduce stress. Even just the scent of the other chinchilla can induce anger so return each chin to their cages in different rooms.\\nIf no blood was drawn, the two chinchillas could still become friends. Give them time to recover in their separate rooms, then reintroduce them to each other in a couple of days if you're comfortable.\\n1-6. Take your chinchilla to the vet if there's an injury.\\nIf your chinchilla was bitten or if you notice blood, contact your vet immediately. Even what looks like a minor scratch could become infected if not taken care of properly so have a vet check it out.\\nChinchillas are not often biters, so if your chinchilla was the one who did the biting, you should also consult your vet. That kind of behavior could be a sign of a more serious health issue.\\n2. Preventing a Future Fight\\n2-1. Get male chinchillas neutered.\\nTo reduce aggression in a male chin, take him to your vet to be castrated. This will especially help if you want to introduce a female into your household.\\n2-2. Keep chinchillas in separate cages.\\nWhile individual living spaces will prevent any physical fights, you can keep the cages side by side to help your chins get acclimated to each other. Sometimes it just takes them getting used to the smell of the other chin over the course of a few weeks to feel more comfortable.\\nLeave about 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) in between the cages so that the chinchillas can't scratch or bite each other.\\n2-3. Pair an older chinchilla with a younger one.\\nThis combination tends to be the most successful at living together. Same-sex cage mates can also happily share a space. However, avoid putting two male chinchillas together if there’s a female nearby as they will most likely fight to show dominance and win over the female for breeding.\\nIf you do have 2 chinchillas in a cage together, make sure the cage is big enough. Overcrowding is one of the biggest triggers for fighting between chins. The minimum cage size for a pair of chinchillas is about 3.5 by 5 by 4 feet (1.1 by 1.5 by 1.2 m).\\n2-4. Listen for barking noises or angry calls.\\nHow do you know if chinchillas are fighting or just playing? Barking from one or both chins usually means that they are unhappy with one another. Consider this a signal to take them away from each other.\\nA chinchilla has 4 different calls they use when feeling defensive or angry. The next time you notice your chinchilla is in one of these moods, listen closely to the noises they’re making so you can identify them.\\nHigh-pitched squeals are often emitted when the chin is frightened or in pain.\\n2-5. Accept that your chinchilla might not want to socialize with others.\\nWhile chinchillas live in colonies in the wild, they can get enough social interaction as pets from quality time spent with you, their owner. Your chinchilla doesn't need a rodent companion to be happy.\\nFrequent interaction with humans can reinforce positive behavior towards other chinchillas. Play with your chinchilla during the evening hours when they're most alert and energetic since they are nocturnal creatures.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Chinchillas are adorable pets but they can also be very territorial. While chins don’t need to be social to be happy, there may come a time when you want to have playdates with other chins or introduce a new chin into your family. As a chinchilla owner, not only must you know how to stop a fight between chinchillas, you should know how to prevent it from happening again.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stopping the Attack\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wear an oven mitt when pulling the chinchillas apart.\", \"描述\": \"The thick material will protect your hands from being bitten or scratched by teeth or claws in the midst of the fight.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pick up one of the chinchillas by supporting their whole body.\", \"描述\": \"Grabbing a chinchilla up by their tail can hurt them. Instead, firmly hold the base of their tail to keep them still and lift their entire body at once.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Separate the 2 chinchillas immediately.\", \"描述\": \"Chinchilla fights are fast and furious and can last for mere seconds. Because chins have sharp teeth and nails, these fights can unfortunately result in very serious injuries or even death. Make sure you wear something to protect your hands. If you don't have an oven mitt, thick rubber gloves will work.\\nAlways stay in the room where you can see both chins and get to them quickly should an issue arise. Letting them out of your sight for just a couple of minutes could be extremely dangerous.\\nBecause of the quick nature of chinchilla fights, you shouldn't put two unfamiliar chins together in a confined space like a cage. Instead, keep them in an open area where one could escape if being attacked.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Cover 1 chinchilla in a blanket or towel.\", \"描述\": \"Think of this as a time-out. Blocking them from the sight of the other chinchilla can calm them down enough (or at least momentarily surprise them) for you to remove the other chin from the room without injury.\\nYou may also be able to distract your chinchilla with raisins, one of their favorite treats.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Put them in separate rooms to let them cool down.\", \"描述\": \"If your chinchilla is overly agitated, simply putting space between them and the other chin might not be enough to reduce stress. Even just the scent of the other chinchilla can induce anger so return each chin to their cages in different rooms.\\nIf no blood was drawn, the two chinchillas could still become friends. Give them time to recover in their separate rooms, then reintroduce them to each other in a couple of days if you're comfortable.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Take your chinchilla to the vet if there's an injury.\", \"描述\": \"If your chinchilla was bitten or if you notice blood, contact your vet immediately. Even what looks like a minor scratch could become infected if not taken care of properly so have a vet check it out.\\nChinchillas are not often biters, so if your chinchilla was the one who did the biting, you should also consult your vet. That kind of behavior could be a sign of a more serious health issue.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Preventing a Future Fight\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get male chinchillas neutered.\", \"描述\": \"To reduce aggression in a male chin, take him to your vet to be castrated. This will especially help if you want to introduce a female into your household.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep chinchillas in separate cages.\", \"描述\": \"While individual living spaces will prevent any physical fights, you can keep the cages side by side to help your chins get acclimated to each other. Sometimes it just takes them getting used to the smell of the other chin over the course of a few weeks to feel more comfortable.\\nLeave about 2 to 3 inches (5.1 to 7.6 cm) in between the cages so that the chinchillas can't scratch or bite each other.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pair an older chinchilla with a younger one.\", \"描述\": \"This combination tends to be the most successful at living together. Same-sex cage mates can also happily share a space. However, avoid putting two male chinchillas together if there’s a female nearby as they will most likely fight to show dominance and win over the female for breeding.\\nIf you do have 2 chinchillas in a cage together, make sure the cage is big enough. Overcrowding is one of the biggest triggers for fighting between chins. 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1. Using a Blender or Food Processor
1-1. Transfer your lumpy powder into a blender or food processor.
For food that is especially chunky, use your fingers or a tool, like a wooden spoon or ice pick, to break your powdered food into chunks that will fit easily in your blender or processor. After breaking up your powdered food, its ready to be blended/processed.
If your powdered food is less clumpy and more powdery, it may be difficult to transfer it to your blender/processor. In this case, use a funnel to prevent spilling good powder.
Use a tool, like a normal or wooden spoon, to guide your powdered food into the blender/processor from its container.
1-2. Blend
Reattach the lid of your blender or processor and fasten it tight. A poor lid seal could send your powdered food flying! Then you'll have to select the right blending/processing mode for your powder.
Powdered food that is very lumpy might benefit from a lower speed setting, first. On some blenders/processors, this might be indicated as the "Stir" function.
Your powdered food shouldn't require more than a short time at a medium speed to refine it back to its original, lumpless form.
It is generally recommended, when using a blender/processor, to keep a hand on its top when running to prevent it coming loose.
1-3. Return your powdered food to a clean container.
You should prioritize a container that is airtight, as these will prevent opportunities for moisture cause more clumping. If you live in a humid climate or have regular issues with clumping, you might also want to store your powdered food in the freezer.
The cold temperatures in your freezer will create a dry environment for your stored powdered food and reduce the formation of lumps.
1-4. Use your powdered food.
You can use your powdered food straight from the freezer. However, when baking, you may want to allow powdered ingredients to come to room temperature before using. Many times these recipes are created assuming all ingredients are at their normal temperature (e.g. - refrigerator cold milk/eggs, room temp sugar/flour, etc.).
The temperature of the ingredients you use can influence the outcome of your recipe. If you're concerned the temperature of your powdered food might affect the outcome, it may be best to allow your ingredients to sit until they are room temperature.
2. Straining Your Powdered Food
2-1. Break up your powdered food.
If moisture has made your powdered food blocky and chunky, you'll first need to break up the powder into smaller pieces. You may want to use a tool, like a wood spoon, metal spoon or ice pick to do this.
Try to get the lumps in your food as small as possible. Aim to have no chunks larger than roughly the size of a marble. This will make the straining process easier on you.
2-2. Strain your powdered food into a clean, dry container.
Hold a thick tined, sturdy strainer over a clean, dry container. Then, a little bit at a time, add your lumpy powdered food to the strainer. Sift loose bits into the container and use a clean, dry tool, like a wooden spoon, to push lumps against and through the mesh of your strainer.
Try not to be too forceful when pushing lumps through the strainer. This could cause damage to the strainer.
Some lumps may not break apart easily. In many cases, these will be unsalvageable and can be thrown away.
Tiny lumps that are small enough to fit through the spaces of your sturdy strainer may remain in the mixture. This is ok.
You may need to sift with your sturdy strainer a few times before your powdered food becomes consistent throughout. When you reach this point, you're ready to move on.
2-3. Strain again with a fine mesh strainer.
Take a fine mesh strainer and position it over a clean, dry container. Pour your powdered food a little bit at a time into the strainer and sift loose powder into the container below. Then, using a tool like a wooden spoon, push remaining clumps through the fine mesh to break them apart.
Fine mesh strainers are usually a little more delicate than the thicker variety you used previously. Use light to moderate force to prevent breaking your strainer.
If you notice lumps that stubbornly resist breaking up in your strainer, you should remove these and throw them away.
You may need to strain your powdered food several times in your fine mesh strainer before it is consistent throughout and your lumps are broken up.
Depending on how find your mesh strainer is, you may have very small lumps remaining in your powdered food. In this case, you can repeat the process with an even finer mesh strainer until all lumps are gone.
2-4. Store your powdered food in a clean, dry container.
Moisture is the major culprit that causes most clumping and lumping in food powders, so you may want to use an airtight container. Your powdered food is now ready for use.
3. Preventing Clumping
3-1. Add a moisture absorber to your mix.
As moisture causes most lumping in your powdered food, adding a moisture absorber, like dried rice or beans, to your mix prevents lumps from ever happening. Rice and beans are also relatively large, which means they'll be easy to pick out or can be caught easily in a shaker or strainer and separated from your food powder.
While rice and beans are common moisture absorbers, many other things might be used, like unpopped popcorn.
3-2. Sift your powdered food regularly.
You don't have to wait until lumps have formed to start sifting. Sifting aerates your food powder, releasing moisture that may be trapped inside it. Sifting your powdered food monthly and returning it to a clean, dry, airtight container will reduce occurrences of lumping.
If your powdered food has not started lumping yet, simply passing it through a fine mesh strainer and into a fresh, dry, airtight container should help keep it lumpless.
3-3. Avoid applying powder over pans of hot food.
Cooking food in a pan usually gives off steam, and steam is a form of moisture in the air. This moisture can rise from your pan to your shaker/container and get trapped there, creating future lumps.
To prevent this from happening, you may want to first put your food powder in your hand or a spoon and then sprinkle it onto the food you are preparing.
Tips
Sugar benefits from having a terracotta shape placed in with it during storage. These are sold in most stores that sell kitchenware.
Try to keep stored food away from moisture. If your spices are above a hot stove, the hot air will likely carry moisture up to your spices and cause clumping.
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1. Make sure you're ready to end it for good.
Take time to reflect on your relationship before making your decision.
You may already have your mind up your mind, but remember that once you say those words, there’s no taking them back. Think back about the concerns and doubts you have with the relationship and see if they’re something you can resolve. If you’re still certain about your feelings, then it might be the right time to end it. Try pondering questions like:
Does your partner make you a better person?
Do they make you happy?
Do they bring something amazing to the table?
Avoid breaking up while you’re in the middle of an argument or as a threat to your partner.
2. Call in the evening or on the weekend.
Telling someone when they have time and space after helps them unwind.
You don’t want to go to work or stress the entire day after a breakup, so try to pick a time where you both have free time afterward. Nights and weekends usually give the other person a little bit of time to decompress after the phone call and come to terms with the breakup.
You can also try calling after the other person gets done with class or work.
3. Wait until they’re somewhere private.
Breaking up is super emotional and the person will want some privacy.
Avoid breaking up when either of you are in a public place since you won’t be able to have as deep of a conversation. Wait until you know they’re at home or in a place where they feel safe and comfortable. If you aren’t sure where they are, just send them a text and ask where they are and if they can take a phone call.
For example, you could send a text that says, “Hey, are you home? I want to talk about something,” and wait for a reply before contacting them again.
4. Tell them directly.
Prolonging the discussion could hurt the other person even more.
Even though it’s a really tough thing to say, it’s going to feel a lot better if you tell them as soon as you can. Give the other person the reason why you’re breaking up and tell them that you want to end things between you.
For example, you could say something like, “We’ve been really close for a few months and you’re important to me, but I’m not ready to continue this as a serious relationship. So I want to break up.”
5. Be honest with your feelings.
Giving your point of view helps the other person understand your decision.
It’s okay to tell the other person why you were attracted to them in the first place, but let them know what’s changed in your head. Express how you feel using kind words and without any insults so the other person sees where you’re coming from.
For example, you could say, “I really love your sense of humor and all the time we’ve spent together, but I’ve noticed we’re arguing a lot more recently, and I don’t know if we’re going to be a good match as life partners.”
Only say as much as you need to. Nit-picking all the qualities you don’t like about the other person will only make them feel worse.
6. Use “I” statements.
Avoid accusing the other person.
Even though it might feel easy to shift the blame off of yourself, be respectful and only address how you feel. Since you’re the one who decided to break up, discuss why you want to break using “I” or “me” in the sentence instead of “you.”
For example, instead of saying, “You spend too much time going out with your friends,” you could say, “I don’t enjoy going out very much and I’d rather enjoy time together at home.”
As another example, instead of saying, “You don’t like my family,” you could instead say, “I enjoy spending time with my family and I want someone that I can feel comfortable with around them.”
7. Ask them about their thoughts.
Give the other person a chance to open up about how they feel.
Even though you’re the one breaking up, the other person might have questions or want to respond to your thoughts. Ask an open-ended question about how they’re feeling and let them respond. Listen to them without cutting in or defending yourself to show that you still respect them.
For example, you could ask, “How do you feel about this decision?” or “What’s on your mind right now?”
If they have questions for you, try to answer them as honestly as you can so they know how you’re feeling.
8. Prepare for the worst reactions.
Even if you do everything right, a breakup still hurts the other person.
The other person might be understanding if they agree with what you’re saying, but they could also get angry or sad. If they’re mad, stay calm and ask if they need to take a break for a few minutes before continuing the conversation. If they feel sad, empathize with them and let them know their feelings are valid.
If the person gets really angry, threatening, or abusive, tell them their behavior isn’t appropriate and end the call. You shouldn’t feel pressured by them to stay in the relationship.
Some people will promise to change, but you can tell them that you don’t want them to change just for you and that you’re firm in your decision.
9. List some positive outcomes from the relationship.
Let the other person know what you’ve appreciated to end on a better note.
Even though the main point of the breakup is to end the relationship, tell the other person a few things that you learned from them. Thank them for all the good times you had and reassure them with a kind sentiment.
For example, you could say, “I really enjoyed the time we spent together, and I’m a kinder and more patient person because of you. I know there’s another lucky guy out there that’s going to be a better match for you.”
10. Break it off completely.
You’ll both have a tougher time moving on if you keep in contact.
It can be really tempting to try and be friends again right after a breakup, but you need some time to process your feelings. At the end of your conversation, say goodbye and avoid calling or texting the person again. Try to avoid contact as much as you can so you have time to move forward.
Avoid leaving your relationship open-ended since it could give your ex false hope about what to expect in the future.
11. Let yourself grieve the relationship.
Breakups are tough, so it’s okay if you feel sad or hurt.
Even though you’re the one who wanted to break up, you may still feel like you lost a big part of your life. Know that it’s okay to be angry or sad, and allow yourself to go through the emotions. Once you feel comfortable, try opening up to others about how you’re feeling and reach out for support from your friends and loved ones.
Try exploring new hobbies and interests to distract your mind from the relationship.
Avoid using any drugs, alcohol, or food to cope with your feelings since they’re unhealthy in the long run.
Remember—the sooner you end a relationship that isn't right for you, the more time you potentially have to spend with your perfect partner.
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Even though a breakup might hurt someone’s feelings, remember that it’s okay to do if it’s what feels right.[21]
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If you have concerns about the relationship, talk through them with the other person before considering a breakup. You may be able to work through them, or at the very least, the other person won’t feel as surprised if you do split up.[22]
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If you're afraid of a person because you've been in an abusive relationship, get support. If you need to remove items from the house you were sharing, have other people accompany you when you do so.
Never break up in the heat of the moment. If the relationship is already broken beyond repair, that won't change once the argument is over and the anger has passed. Break up when you're both calm and can talk it over peacefully. That's when you have the best chance of closure.[23]
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Don’t be disrespectful during or after your breakup since it can hurt someone’s feelings even more.[24]
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Nights and weekends usually give the other person a little bit of time to decompress after the phone call and come to terms with the breakup.\\nYou can also try calling after the other person gets done with class or work.\\n3. Wait until they’re somewhere private.\\nBreaking up is super emotional and the person will want some privacy.\\nAvoid breaking up when either of you are in a public place since you won’t be able to have as deep of a conversation. Wait until you know they’re at home or in a place where they feel safe and comfortable. If you aren’t sure where they are, just send them a text and ask where they are and if they can take a phone call.\\nFor example, you could send a text that says, “Hey, are you home? I want to talk about something,” and wait for a reply before contacting them again.\\n4. Tell them directly.\\nProlonging the discussion could hurt the other person even more.\\nEven though it’s a really tough thing to say, it’s going to feel a lot better if you tell them as soon as you can. Give the other person the reason why you’re breaking up and tell them that you want to end things between you.\\nFor example, you could say something like, “We’ve been really close for a few months and you’re important to me, but I’m not ready to continue this as a serious relationship. So I want to break up.”\\n5. Be honest with your feelings.\\nGiving your point of view helps the other person understand your decision.\\nIt’s okay to tell the other person why you were attracted to them in the first place, but let them know what’s changed in your head. Express how you feel using kind words and without any insults so the other person sees where you’re coming from.\\nFor example, you could say, “I really love your sense of humor and all the time we’ve spent together, but I’ve noticed we’re arguing a lot more recently, and I don’t know if we’re going to be a good match as life partners.”\\nOnly say as much as you need to. Nit-picking all the qualities you don’t like about the other person will only make them feel worse.\\n6. Use “I” statements.\\nAvoid accusing the other person.\\nEven though it might feel easy to shift the blame off of yourself, be respectful and only address how you feel. Since you’re the one who decided to break up, discuss why you want to break using “I” or “me” in the sentence instead of “you.”\\nFor example, instead of saying, “You spend too much time going out with your friends,” you could say, “I don’t enjoy going out very much and I’d rather enjoy time together at home.”\\nAs another example, instead of saying, “You don’t like my family,” you could instead say, “I enjoy spending time with my family and I want someone that I can feel comfortable with around them.”\\n7. Ask them about their thoughts.\\nGive the other person a chance to open up about how they feel.\\nEven though you’re the one breaking up, the other person might have questions or want to respond to your thoughts. Ask an open-ended question about how they’re feeling and let them respond. Listen to them without cutting in or defending yourself to show that you still respect them.\\nFor example, you could ask, “How do you feel about this decision?” or “What’s on your mind right now?”\\nIf they have questions for you, try to answer them as honestly as you can so they know how you’re feeling.\\n8. Prepare for the worst reactions.\\nEven if you do everything right, a breakup still hurts the other person.\\nThe other person might be understanding if they agree with what you’re saying, but they could also get angry or sad. If they’re mad, stay calm and ask if they need to take a break for a few minutes before continuing the conversation. If they feel sad, empathize with them and let them know their feelings are valid.\\nIf the person gets really angry, threatening, or abusive, tell them their behavior isn’t appropriate and end the call. You shouldn’t feel pressured by them to stay in the relationship.\\nSome people will promise to change, but you can tell them that you don’t want them to change just for you and that you’re firm in your decision.\\n9. List some positive outcomes from the relationship.\\nLet the other person know what you’ve appreciated to end on a better note.\\nEven though the main point of the breakup is to end the relationship, tell the other person a few things that you learned from them. Thank them for all the good times you had and reassure them with a kind sentiment.\\nFor example, you could say, “I really enjoyed the time we spent together, and I’m a kinder and more patient person because of you. I know there’s another lucky guy out there that’s going to be a better match for you.”\\n10. Break it off completely.\\nYou’ll both have a tougher time moving on if you keep in contact.\\nIt can be really tempting to try and be friends again right after a breakup, but you need some time to process your feelings. At the end of your conversation, say goodbye and avoid calling or texting the person again. Try to avoid contact as much as you can so you have time to move forward.\\nAvoid leaving your relationship open-ended since it could give your ex false hope about what to expect in the future.\\n11. Let yourself grieve the relationship.\\nBreakups are tough, so it’s okay if you feel sad or hurt.\\nEven though you’re the one who wanted to break up, you may still feel like you lost a big part of your life. Know that it’s okay to be angry or sad, and allow yourself to go through the emotions. Once you feel comfortable, try opening up to others about how you’re feeling and reach out for support from your friends and loved ones.\\nTry exploring new hobbies and interests to distract your mind from the relationship.\\nAvoid using any drugs, alcohol, or food to cope with your feelings since they’re unhealthy in the long run.\\nRemember—the sooner you end a relationship that isn't right for you, the more time you potentially have to spend with your perfect partner.\\nTips\\nEven though a breakup might hurt someone’s feelings, remember that it’s okay to do if it’s what feels right.[21]\\nX\\nTrustworthy Source\\nHelpGuide\\nNonprofit organization dedicated to providing free, evidence-based mental health and wellness resources.\\nGo to source\\nIf you have concerns about the relationship, talk through them with the other person before considering a breakup. You may be able to work through them, or at the very least, the other person won’t feel as surprised if you do split up.[22]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nWarnings\\nIf you're afraid of a person because you've been in an abusive relationship, get support. If you need to remove items from the house you were sharing, have other people accompany you when you do so.\\nNever break up in the heat of the moment. If the relationship is already broken beyond repair, that won't change once the argument is over and the anger has passed. Break up when you're both calm and can talk it over peacefully. That's when you have the best chance of closure.[23]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nDon’t be disrespectful during or after your breakup since it can hurt someone’s feelings even more.[24]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Are you having doubts about your relationship but feel a little nervous about talking to the other person face to face? There are a lot of reasons why you might not want to see the other person, but breaking up over the phone is still a safe way to let them know how you feel.\\n\\nHere are 11 tips for breaking up with someone on the phone that will help the conversation go as smoothly as possible.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make sure you're ready to end it for good.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take time to reflect on your relationship before making your decision.\", \"描述\": \"You may already have your mind up your mind, but remember that once you say those words, there’s no taking them back. Think back about the concerns and doubts you have with the relationship and see if they’re something you can resolve. If you’re still certain about your feelings, then it might be the right time to end it. Try pondering questions like:\\nDoes your partner make you a better person?\\nDo they make you happy?\\nDo they bring something amazing to the table?\\nAvoid breaking up while you’re in the middle of an argument or as a threat to your partner.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Call in the evening or on the weekend.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Telling someone when they have time and space after helps them unwind.\", \"描述\": \"You don’t want to go to work or stress the entire day after a breakup, so try to pick a time where you both have free time afterward. Nights and weekends usually give the other person a little bit of time to decompress after the phone call and come to terms with the breakup.\\nYou can also try calling after the other person gets done with class or work.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Wait until they’re somewhere private.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Breaking up is super emotional and the person will want some privacy.\", \"描述\": \"Avoid breaking up when either of you are in a public place since you won’t be able to have as deep of a conversation. Wait until you know they’re at home or in a place where they feel safe and comfortable. If you aren’t sure where they are, just send them a text and ask where they are and if they can take a phone call.\\nFor example, you could send a text that says, “Hey, are you home? I want to talk about something,” and wait for a reply before contacting them again.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Tell them directly.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Prolonging the discussion could hurt the other person even more.\", \"描述\": \"Even though it’s a really tough thing to say, it’s going to feel a lot better if you tell them as soon as you can. Give the other person the reason why you’re breaking up and tell them that you want to end things between you.\\nFor example, you could say something like, “We’ve been really close for a few months and you’re important to me, but I’m not ready to continue this as a serious relationship. So I want to break up.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be honest with your feelings.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Giving your point of view helps the other person understand your decision.\", \"描述\": \"It’s okay to tell the other person why you were attracted to them in the first place, but let them know what’s changed in your head. Express how you feel using kind words and without any insults so the other person sees where you’re coming from.\\nFor example, you could say, “I really love your sense of humor and all the time we’ve spent together, but I’ve noticed we’re arguing a lot more recently, and I don’t know if we’re going to be a good match as life partners.”\\nOnly say as much as you need to. Nit-picking all the qualities you don’t like about the other person will only make them feel worse.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Use “I” statements.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Avoid accusing the other person.\", \"描述\": \"Even though it might feel easy to shift the blame off of yourself, be respectful and only address how you feel. Since you’re the one who decided to break up, discuss why you want to break using “I” or “me” in the sentence instead of “you.”\\nFor example, instead of saying, “You spend too much time going out with your friends,” you could say, “I don’t enjoy going out very much and I’d rather enjoy time together at home.”\\nAs another example, instead of saying, “You don’t like my family,” you could instead say, “I enjoy spending time with my family and I want someone that I can feel comfortable with around them.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Ask them about their thoughts.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Give the other person a chance to open up about how they feel.\", \"描述\": \"Even though you’re the one breaking up, the other person might have questions or want to respond to your thoughts. Ask an open-ended question about how they’re feeling and let them respond. Listen to them without cutting in or defending yourself to show that you still respect them.\\nFor example, you could ask, “How do you feel about this decision?” or “What’s on your mind right now?”\\nIf they have questions for you, try to answer them as honestly as you can so they know how you’re feeling.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Prepare for the worst reactions.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Even if you do everything right, a breakup still hurts the other person.\", \"描述\": \"The other person might be understanding if they agree with what you’re saying, but they could also get angry or sad. If they’re mad, stay calm and ask if they need to take a break for a few minutes before continuing the conversation. If they feel sad, empathize with them and let them know their feelings are valid.\\nIf the person gets really angry, threatening, or abusive, tell them their behavior isn’t appropriate and end the call. You shouldn’t feel pressured by them to stay in the relationship.\\nSome people will promise to change, but you can tell them that you don’t want them to change just for you and that you’re firm in your decision.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"List some positive outcomes from the relationship.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Let the other person know what you’ve appreciated to end on a better note.\", \"描述\": \"Even though the main point of the breakup is to end the relationship, tell the other person a few things that you learned from them. Thank them for all the good times you had and reassure them with a kind sentiment.\\nFor example, you could say, “I really enjoyed the time we spent together, and I’m a kinder and more patient person because of you. I know there’s another lucky guy out there that’s going to be a better match for you.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Break it off completely.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You’ll both have a tougher time moving on if you keep in contact.\", \"描述\": \"It can be really tempting to try and be friends again right after a breakup, but you need some time to process your feelings. At the end of your conversation, say goodbye and avoid calling or texting the person again. Try to avoid contact as much as you can so you have time to move forward.\\nAvoid leaving your relationship open-ended since it could give your ex false hope about what to expect in the future.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Let yourself grieve the relationship.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Breakups are tough, so it’s okay if you feel sad or hurt.\", \"描述\": \"Even though you’re the one who wanted to break up, you may still feel like you lost a big part of your life. Know that it’s okay to be angry or sad, and allow yourself to go through the emotions. Once you feel comfortable, try opening up to others about how you’re feeling and reach out for support from your friends and loved ones.\\nTry exploring new hobbies and interests to distract your mind from the relationship.\\nAvoid using any drugs, alcohol, or food to cope with your feelings since they’re unhealthy in the long run.\\nRemember—the sooner you end a relationship that isn't right for you, the more time you potentially have to spend with your perfect partner.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Even though a breakup might hurt someone’s feelings, remember that it’s okay to do if it’s what feels right.[21]\\nX\\nTrustworthy Source\\nHelpGuide\\nNonprofit organization dedicated to providing free, evidence-based mental health and wellness resources.\\nGo to source\\n\", \"If you have concerns about the relationship, talk through them with the other person before considering a breakup. 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Getting Rid of Scar Tissue: Treatment & Management Tips
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1. What is the best way to break up scar tissue?
Massage performed by a physical therapist heals scar tissue effectively.
This method promotes gentle stretching of the scar tissue, so the wounded area can tolerate the same level of stress and movement pre-injury. It’s usually performed 2 weeks after surgery, taking 6-8 weeks to fully remodel the scar tissue.
Before a massage, physical therapists apply a small amount of baby oil, vitamin E oil, or lotion directly to the scar. This lubricates the scar by softening the scar tissue and surrounding skin.
Be sure to speak with your healthcare provider before beginning any scar tissue massage. If your wound isn’t healed, massaging it can tear the skin and lead to infection.
2. Types of Massage for Scar Tissue
2-1. Cross friction massage
This treatment involves using one or two fingers to gently knead the scar in a direction perpendicular to the scar line. Usually performed for 5-10 minutes, this technique ensures proper alignment of the collagen fibers so the scar heals into healthy tissue.
This method is often used to treat traumatic and surgical scars, joint contractures, ligament tears, and tendon tears.
2-2. Myofascial release
In this technique, physical therapists use their hands to slowly massage the skin and underlying tissues around the scar. They massage in various directions to feel for tissue restrictions (fascia), and then focus on improving movement in those areas.
This treatment is ideal for patients experiencing pain or stiffness in the scar tissue area.
This treatment isn’t recommended for people taking blood-thinning medications or those with weak bones, so contact your healthcare provider to discuss possible health risks.
After myofascial release therapy, you may feel brief soreness in the stretched areas, but it should subside naturally in 24 hours.
2-3. Instrument-assisted scar tissue massage (IASTM)
This is a recently-adopted technique that physical therapists use to massage and mobilize scar tissue. It involves rubbing the scar tissue with stainless steel instruments, breaking up built-up collagen cells and reducing pain.
IASTM is mainly used to treat surgical and traumatic scars.
This massage is frequently used in athletes because it improves range of motion and reduces pain quickly, shortening rehabilitation time.
2-4. Stretching exercises
Another common treatment to break down scar tissue is stretching and flexibility exercises. To help mobilize and elongate injured tissues, physical therapists prescribe a specific routine consisting of several slow, prolonged stretches.
Many physical therapists also use kinesiology tape to hold the skin in a specific stretched position, increasing blood flow and promoting tissue remodeling.
Stretches are often performed in conjunction with scar tissue massages, regardless of the type of scar.
3. Scar-Minimizing Procedures
3-1. Laser therapy
This procedure is often used to treat stable or faded scars, including acne, bite, burn, and C-section scars. With this treatment, a resurfacing laser creates microscopic holes in the scar tissue, allowing the tissue to heal in a healthy, normal function. This treatment can help decrease pain, improve mobility, and even relieve minor itching.
Depending on the severity of the scar, it usually takes 3-12 monthly visits to completely minimize the appearance of the scar.
Laser therapy works best in conjunction with other treatments, such as steroid injections.
3-2. Steroid injections
Steroid injections are excellent for healing hypertrophic scars and keloids because they minimize the burning, itching, and redness that typically accompany these scars. Steroids are directly injected into the scar tissue to help soften and decrease the size of the scar.
Steroid injections may lead to atrophy, skin ulcers, and discoloration, so discuss this treatment in-depth with your healthcare provider before trying it.
3-3. Shock wave therapy
Extracorporeal shock wave therapy (ESWT) is a noninvasive treatment that breaks down injured tissue at the cellular level. Through compressed air or electromagnetic pulses, shock waves are delivered to the tissue directly, promoting healing and minimizing pain.
This treatment improves the symptoms and appearance of post-burn hypertrophic scars.
This treatment isn’t recommended if you’ve had a steroid injection less than 6 weeks ago.
3-4. Topical treatments
Silicone gel is proven to treat scar tissue and minimize the appearance of scars over time. When applied to the scar, silicone prompts the body to repair damaged blood vessels and shrink excess collagen, so it’s an ideal treatment for small hypertrophic and keloid scars.
Many topical silicone gels are available without a prescription, but see a board-certified dermatologist to evaluate your scar before treating it at home.
Apply silicone gel directly for 3-6 months for the best results.
To avoid hyperpigmentation, avoid sun exposure while your scars are healing. Use sunscreen with an SPF of at least 35, and wear protective clothing when you go outside.
4. What is scar tissue?
Scar tissue is the body’s method of healing injured tissue.
After an injury or surgery, collagen cells form over the wound site (scar tissue). Since these cells don’t know how to function normally, massage remodels them into healthy, mobile tissue. If your scar is over 2 years old, scar revision surgery is needed. Common types of scar tissue include:
Keloids: thick, bumpy, red scars that commonly appear on chest, shoulders, and upper back
Hypertrophic scars: thick, raised scars that commonly appear after a cut or scrape
Contracture scars: tight scars that often occur after a burn injury
Atrophic scars (depressed scars): tiny holes/pits in the skin, usually caused by cystic acne or chickenpox
Adhesions (internal scar tissue): internal scars that form due to surgery, a muscle tear, or a broken bone
Stretch marks: external scars that appear when people lose or gain weight rapidly, frequently seen on the upper arms, thighs, stomach, and chest area
Flat scars: pinkish-red or purple scars that eventually blend into your normal skin tone
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Usually performed for 5-10 minutes, this technique ensures proper alignment of the collagen fibers so the scar heals into healthy tissue.\\nThis method is often used to treat traumatic and surgical scars, joint contractures, ligament tears, and tendon tears.\\n2-2. Myofascial release\\nIn this technique, physical therapists use their hands to slowly massage the skin and underlying tissues around the scar. They massage in various directions to feel for tissue restrictions (fascia), and then focus on improving movement in those areas.\\nThis treatment is ideal for patients experiencing pain or stiffness in the scar tissue area.\\nThis treatment isn’t recommended for people taking blood-thinning medications or those with weak bones, so contact your healthcare provider to discuss possible health risks.\\nAfter myofascial release therapy, you may feel brief soreness in the stretched areas, but it should subside naturally in 24 hours.\\n2-3. Instrument-assisted scar tissue massage (IASTM)\\nThis is a recently-adopted technique that physical therapists use to massage and mobilize scar tissue. It involves rubbing the scar tissue with stainless steel instruments, breaking up built-up collagen cells and reducing pain.\\nIASTM is mainly used to treat surgical and traumatic scars.\\nThis massage is frequently used in athletes because it improves range of motion and reduces pain quickly, shortening rehabilitation time.\\n2-4. Stretching exercises\\nAnother common treatment to break down scar tissue is stretching and flexibility exercises. To help mobilize and elongate injured tissues, physical therapists prescribe a specific routine consisting of several slow, prolonged stretches.\\nMany physical therapists also use kinesiology tape to hold the skin in a specific stretched position, increasing blood flow and promoting tissue remodeling.\\nStretches are often performed in conjunction with scar tissue massages, regardless of the type of scar.\\n3. Scar-Minimizing Procedures\\n3-1. Laser therapy\\nThis procedure is often used to treat stable or faded scars, including acne, bite, burn, and C-section scars. With this treatment, a resurfacing laser creates microscopic holes in the scar tissue, allowing the tissue to heal in a healthy, normal function. This treatment can help decrease pain, improve mobility, and even relieve minor itching.\\nDepending on the severity of the scar, it usually takes 3-12 monthly visits to completely minimize the appearance of the scar.\\nLaser therapy works best in conjunction with other treatments, such as steroid injections.\\n3-2. Steroid injections\\nSteroid injections are excellent for healing hypertrophic scars and keloids because they minimize the burning, itching, and redness that typically accompany these scars. Steroids are directly injected into the scar tissue to help soften and decrease the size of the scar.\\nSteroid injections may lead to atrophy, skin ulcers, and discoloration, so discuss this treatment in-depth with your healthcare provider before trying it.\\n3-3. Shock wave therapy\\nExtracorporeal shock wave therapy (ESWT) is a noninvasive treatment that breaks down injured tissue at the cellular level. Through compressed air or electromagnetic pulses, shock waves are delivered to the tissue directly, promoting healing and minimizing pain.\\nThis treatment improves the symptoms and appearance of post-burn hypertrophic scars.\\nThis treatment isn’t recommended if you’ve had a steroid injection less than 6 weeks ago.\\n3-4. Topical treatments\\nSilicone gel is proven to treat scar tissue and minimize the appearance of scars over time. When applied to the scar, silicone prompts the body to repair damaged blood vessels and shrink excess collagen, so it’s an ideal treatment for small hypertrophic and keloid scars.\\nMany topical silicone gels are available without a prescription, but see a board-certified dermatologist to evaluate your scar before treating it at home.\\nApply silicone gel directly for 3-6 months for the best results.\\nTo avoid hyperpigmentation, avoid sun exposure while your scars are healing. Use sunscreen with an SPF of at least 35, and wear protective clothing when you go outside.\\n4. What is scar tissue?\\nScar tissue is the body’s method of healing injured tissue.\\nAfter an injury or surgery, collagen cells form over the wound site (scar tissue). Since these cells don’t know how to function normally, massage remodels them into healthy, mobile tissue. If your scar is over 2 years old, scar revision surgery is needed. Common types of scar tissue include:\\nKeloids: thick, bumpy, red scars that commonly appear on chest, shoulders, and upper back\\nHypertrophic scars: thick, raised scars that commonly appear after a cut or scrape\\nContracture scars: tight scars that often occur after a burn injury\\nAtrophic scars (depressed scars): tiny holes/pits in the skin, usually caused by cystic acne or chickenpox\\nAdhesions (internal scar tissue): internal scars that form due to surgery, a muscle tear, or a broken bone\\nStretch marks: external scars that appear when people lose or gain weight rapidly, frequently seen on the upper arms, thighs, stomach, and chest area\\nFlat scars: pinkish-red or purple scars that eventually blend into your normal skin tone\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Scarring is an unfortunate and sometimes uncomfortable side effect of many surgeries and injuries. Luckily, most scars aren’t permanent, and there are several options to help speed up the healing process. 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They massage in various directions to feel for tissue restrictions (fascia), and then focus on improving movement in those areas.\\nThis treatment is ideal for patients experiencing pain or stiffness in the scar tissue area.\\nThis treatment isn’t recommended for people taking blood-thinning medications or those with weak bones, so contact your healthcare provider to discuss possible health risks.\\nAfter myofascial release therapy, you may feel brief soreness in the stretched areas, but it should subside naturally in 24 hours.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Instrument-assisted scar tissue massage (IASTM)\", \"描述\": \"This is a recently-adopted technique that physical therapists use to massage and mobilize scar tissue. 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To help mobilize and elongate injured tissues, physical therapists prescribe a specific routine consisting of several slow, prolonged stretches.\\nMany physical therapists also use kinesiology tape to hold the skin in a specific stretched position, increasing blood flow and promoting tissue remodeling.\\nStretches are often performed in conjunction with scar tissue massages, regardless of the type of scar.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Scar-Minimizing Procedures\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Laser therapy\", \"描述\": \"This procedure is often used to treat stable or faded scars, including acne, bite, burn, and C-section scars. With this treatment, a resurfacing laser creates microscopic holes in the scar tissue, allowing the tissue to heal in a healthy, normal function. 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1. Talking with the Person
1-1. Emphasize that you care about the other person.
Tell your boyfriend or girlfriend that they are still important to you, even though you're breaking up. Let them know that you don't want them to hurt themselves.
Say something like, “I still really care about you, and I'm sorry this is so hard for you.” You might also say, "It hurts me to hear you say you'll hurt yourself. Even though our relationship isn't working out, I still believe you are a wonderful person."
Understand that they may not believe you when you say this. Let them know what you are willing to do for them, but do not feel pressured to do something you're not comfortable with.
1-2. Avoid getting into an argument.
Don't challenge or argue with your boyfriend or girlfriend about their suicide threats. If they feel like you aren't taking them seriously, they may hurt themselves just to prove you wrong.
For instance, avoid saying something like, “You don't really mean that,” or, “You're just saying that to make me feel bad.” Instead, you might say, "I'm sorry that you are thinking this way."
You can also avoid an argument by using "I" statements, such as "I am unhappy in this relationship" rather than "You don't make me happy," which may make the person defensive.
Keep your tone of voice soft and low. Maintain open body language with your arms and legs relaxed at your sides. When you raise your voice and use intimidating body language (e.g. crossed arms or balled fists), an argument is more likely to occur.
1-3. Maintain your boundaries.
Let your boyfriend or girlfriend know that you're not going to change your mind. Restate the reason why you want to break up. Be as kind as you can, but don't be wishy-washy.
You could say something like, “I can't sacrifice my long-term goals to stay in this relationship, even though I think you're a great person with a lot to offer.”
1-4. Remind the person that their choices are their own.
Tell your boyfriend or girlfriend that you can't control whether they kill themselves or not. Don't let them push the blame onto you.
For instance, if your soon-to-be ex says, “When I'm gone, it will be your fault,” you could reply, “I don't want you to kill yourself, but that's your choice to make, not mine. I can't control what you do.”
1-5. Tell the person they are defined by more than a relationship with you.
Remind your boyfriend or girlfriend of their good qualities, their talents, and their interests. Tell them they don't need another person to define or complete them.
For example, say something like, “I know it's hard to think about now, but you're a lot more than just half of our relationship. You're going to go to veterinary school and do good things with your life. In time, you'll even be happy with somebody else.”
Remind them that other people care about them too. When you do this, list specific people who can support them during this time.
1-6. Help the person find the resources they need.
Find a suicide hotline that your boyfriend or girlfriend can call for support. Encourage them to talk to a therapist or counselor, and help them find contact information for mental health services in your area.
In the U.S., the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline can be reached at 988. This hotline is free, confidential, and staffed around the clock. This number can also be reached via text.
Crisischat.org is an online text-based alternative to phone hotlines. Trained experts are available from 2 PM to 2 AM, Monday through Sunday.
Wikipedia has a list of suicide crisis lines for countries outside the U.S.
2. Keeping Everyone Safe
2-1. Take the person's threat seriously.
Don't ignore your boyfriend or girlfriend's threat or assume they're bluffing. They could be, but it's always better to be safe than sorry. Assume they are serious and act accordingly.
If you the person makes vague threats of suicide, offer to take them to the local emergency room or call/text the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 988.
Call a friend or family member to come be with the person.
Don't leave them unsupervised, but don't think you have to be the one with them. You don't want them to think that suicide threats are the only way to get your attention.
2-2. Call 911
If you think your boyfriend or girlfriend is in immediate danger of hurting themselves or someone else, call the police immediately. Don't worry about whether you might have misread the situation – it's always better err here on the side of safety.
Try to find out their location before you call the police. Do not let them know that you are calling the police when you do so. This will help the police reach them in a timely manner.
2-3. Alert the person's family or friends.
If you are fearful of your partner's safety, make sure someone will look out for your ex after you break things off. Contact one or two of their family members, friends, or roommates, and tell them about your concerns. Ask them to be present in the household so they can offer extra support after the breakup.
Say something like, “Hey, I know this isn't a fun thing to talk about, but I'm going to break up with Emily tonight. She's threatening to hurt herself, and I'm worried. Will you come over so she has support once I leave?”
Avoid leaving until others have arrived so that you can be sure the person is safe.
Choose people you know are close to your soon-to-be-ex boyfriend or girlfriend.
2-4. Get to a safe place if you feel endangered.
Sometimes threats of self-harm can be a sign that a person has a bigger problem with violence. If you feel threatened at any point during your breakup, leave the situation. Finish breaking up on the phone if you need to.
If your boyfriend or girlfriend has a history of violence, break up with them over the phone or in a public place.
Put your own safety first in a dangerous situation, even if you're afraid for the other person.
3. Dealing with Your Emotions
3-1. Remind yourself why the breakup is necessary.
If you feel your resolve wavering, remember that no good will come out of staying in an unhealthy relationship. You'll only feel trapped and resentful if you stay. Someone who tries to manipulate you by threatening self-harm will eventually find other ways to manipulate you, too.
3-2. Avoid holding yourself responsible for whatever the person does.
Your boyfriend or girlfriend is putting you in a terrible emotional position by threatening suicide if you break up, but that doesn't make their actions your fault. Remind yourself that they are their own person. You can't control them or make decisions for them.
If you are struggling with guilt after the breakup, it may be helpful to talk to a counselor.
3-3. Make the breakup final.
After you end the relationship, move on and don't look back. Avoid getting back together with your ex, even if you miss them. Both of you need time and space to grieve the loss of the relationship, and dragging the breakup process out will only make healing more difficult for both of you.
You should remove them from your social media profiles.
Ask mutual friends not to talk to you about your ex.
If you need to communicate with your ex, choose one way that they can reach you, such as by text or by email.
3-4. Rely on your friends and family for support.
You do not have to go through this breakup alone. Reach out to friends and family members for help and support. Ask them if they are willing to talk with you when you are feeling down. If you have second thoughts, they can convince you that breaking up is for the best.
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1. Getting Ready to Break Up
1-1. Check your friendship.
Some friends may be fake, but some friends may be shy or have a real difficulty connecting with others. If they are real friends, they may have the following characteristics.
They might not always say the right thing, but are willing to listen to you if you are struggling.
They make you feel comfortable being yourself around them.
They support you.
They keep in contact with you all the time and not just when they want something.
They stick around during the hard times, not just the fun times.
They care about your well-being and safety.
1-2. Determine if they are in fact, a fake friend.
Try and determine if they are a fake friend. If they are, consider what they might be trying to gain from pretending to be friends with you. If they are a fake friend they may:
Talk about you behind your back.
Use you to climb up a particular social chain.
Use you to get close to someone you are close to.
Copy your work or use your intelligence.
Try to get some sort of information from you.
Only talk to you when they need something.
Embarrass you or make you feel humiliated in public.
1-3. Don't fight breaking up with a friend.
If you feel that your friend has changed, or that you are growing distant from each other, it may be a sign that your friendship is fading out. Even if you used to be close friends, people grow apart. Don't fight that growth, just be glad for the good times you spent together. If you feel you are growing apart as friends, you may not have to proceed through a formal break-up. You may choose to just let the friendship naturally fade.
This may be a good alternative option to take if you feel like there is no strong reason you don't get along. Especially, if it's just that you have developed different interests and different groups of friends.
1-4. Remove the benefit for the fake friend.
Removing the benefit may go against your nature or personality if you tend to be a “people-pleaser,” but your fake friend may be taking advantage of you. Additionally, they might leave you alone after they know they can't get what they want from you.
If you think they are trying to copy your work, make it impossible for them by moving your seat or not letting them see your work.
If you believe they are using you to get to someone else, keep contact with the person while the fake friend isn't around.
If they only call you when they want something, deny whatever their request is. You could even tell them that you won’t be able to fulfill their request in the future either. For example, “Jenny, I know I’ve been giving you rides to work for the past month, but I’m not able to do that anymore.”
1-5. Keep contact minimal.
As you are preparing to end your friendship, distance yourself from the fake friend as much as possible. Politely decline invitations to hang out by saying “I'm sorry, I can't right now.” The purpose is to give yourself a little space free from the stress of a fake friendship, while you figure out how to end the relationship with them.
Try to avoid outright ignoring them or giving them the “silent treatment.” Those are perceived as immature and will likely cause an angry reaction from the fake friend and drama with any mutual friends you have.
1-6. Ask for advice from people you trust.
Talk to your family, close friends, or your support system; and see what they say about the situation. Maybe they will be able to offer you an alternate perspective or advice on what is going on. If you don't feel comfortable talking to close friends, or if you are not particularly close with your family members, seek advice from a school counselor or therapist.
School counselors have added experience in dealing the relationships and friendships in a school setting that you might find helpful.
1-7. Make sure you want to end this friendship.
Going through with the termination of a friendship is a big deal. It is hard to come back from if you regret your decision later. Try to consider other options if you are currently in a fight, or if you are just trying to get them to do something specific. If you really want to end the friendship, you should be able to think of several reasons why this friendship makes you unhappy and why you think you would be healthier without this friend around. Consider writing a pro and con list of your friendship and see how it weighs out.
2. Breaking Up
2-1. Break up with them face to face.
If you have decided you would like to end your friendship, make sure to do it right and give it the attention it deserves. You may be dreading it, but try and rise above those emotions and face the situation with maturity. Remember that at one time you were friends, and you may have to interact with this person in the future, so try and be as respectful as possible throughout this process.
Avoid breaking up with them over the phone. The only way this is acceptable is if you cannot see the person face to face for a long time, or if you are concerned about violent behaviors or your safety.
Don't end your friendship with them over text or e-mail. It sends the wrong message about you as a person and how you deal with your friends. Additionally, it risks more misunderstandings in communication.
2-2. Ask to meet with them.
Schedule a time and place to meet with your friend to talk about ending the friendship. Even if you are planning to have the conversation over the phone, schedule it so that you know you can both set aside some time to focus on this and nothing else. Try not to wait too long, chances are your friend can feel that something is up and waiting may make everyone unnecessarily anxious.
Make the request simple and straightforward. Try “Hey, I think we should talk. When would be good for you?”
2-3. Pick a time and a place to meet.
There are several things to consider when planning your conversation with your friend. The goal is to create the space for the conversation to go as smoothly as possible. The following may help.
Have the conversation in a private place. It can potentially be a very emotional time and that shouldn't have to occur somewhere where you could draw an audience.
Make sure you are both calm and that you are not having the conversation right before something very important such as a test or a performance review at your job.
Keep a time limit in mind and avoid meeting somewhere, like over a meal, where you could potentially get stuck for longer than you would like.
2-4. Plan what you are going to say beforehand.
It is a good idea to sit down and prepare what you want to say to someone during any break up, but especially a break up as complex as this. Organizing your thoughts beforehand allows you be clear, firm, and thorough.
Make sure you are clear in your communication with your friend. There should not be any doubt in their minds about what you were trying to say after meeting with you.
Be firm about what you want and what you don't want in your friendships, and in this friendship going forward.
Be thorough and make sure you are communicating everything you want to say and everything you feel during this conversation. Planning this out will help you avoid the instance of “I should have said this!” later on.
When planning what you are going to say, find a good balance between being honest, and being kind. Try to avoid blaming or being unnecessarily mean to your soon-to-be-ex friend.
2-5. Talk with them.
This is the potentially anxiety-inducing part, but hang in there. You have done all the preparation, so it is time to have the conversation that you have planned and prepared for with them. Explain how you feel, and why you think you should not be friends any longer. Be honest and straightforward but try and remain as nice as possible.
Start the conversation by acknowledging that this is difficult. “This is going to be really hard to say, and probably hard to hear.”
Get to the point as quickly as possible. “I've been really unhappy in our friendship, and I don't think it is a good idea for us to be friends anymore.”
2-6. Have a good reason.
As you get further into the conversation, you will reach a point where an explanation of why you want to end the friendship is necessary. Explain why you have been unhappy, with the least amount of blame possible. What ever your reason is try and start with the phrase, “I feel...” Here are some examples.
If your boyfriend cheated on you with your friend, “I feel like I cannot trust you, and I'm hurt that someone who considered themselves my friend would do that to me.”
If they constantly make fun or you, or make you feel bad about yourself, “I feel like spending time with you is not healthy for me and my self-esteem because of some of the things you say about me.”
2-7. Finish what you want to say.
You have explained why you think it is a good idea for you both to go your separate ways. Now, you can begin to end your part of the talk. You'll want to make sure you are kind and you mention some of the good parts of being friends as well. Try to:
Explain to them that you have an appreciation for the good times you have had together. “I've really enjoyed spending time with you. I'll always keep those good memories close to my heart. Like that time we...”
Split the blame, if you can. “I don't know, maybe we are just not compatible as friends. Or maybe I wasn't the best friend I could have been either.”
2-8. Give them a chance to talk.
You have said your side of things, give them a chance to respond to what you say. Be prepared for the fact that your friend may have many different emotional reactions. They may apologize profusely, they may get defensive or angry, or they may just be very sad. It is possible that they may experience all three. Try and hear them out. Address anything that might come up like any misunderstandings or anything that might change the way you feel about breaking up with them.
Avoid getting into an argument with them at this point. If they respond with anger, they are likely to begin to say hurtful things to you or to try and blame you. Don't engage with them, simply tell them “I'm sorry you feel that way.”
2-9. End the conversation.
The way you end the conversation will depend on how they react to what you have said. Again, prepare for a variety of responses on their behalf, then no matter how the conversation goes, you have an exit strategy for yourself.
If they react with anger and begin raising their voice, don't engage with them and instead say, “I'd like to talk to you about this calmly, but if you continue to yell at me I'm going to leave.”
If they react with sadness, allow some time to continue to talk and then when they are calm again try saying, “Thank you for taking the time to talk with me. I'm sorry this worked out this way.”
If they are apologetic, see how you feel and consider whether or not you might want to try to repair the friendship. If you need some time to process what they say, tell them that. “I need some time to think about what you said. Can we talk again tomorrow?”
2-10. Set up boundaries.
Decide ahead of time what kind of contact you want from this person, if any, going forward. Make sure you are certain of your decision and communicate that to them at the end of your conversation. Be clear that this is what you want and ask them to respect it. Having your boundaries set before hand will make it easier to stick to them later on.
If you have mutual friends, suggest that maybe you two should only hang out in groups.
If you would prefer to never have contact with them again, than that is fine too. Let them know that you would prefer they do not contact you going forward.
If it is a toxic friendship, make sure for your own health you make a clean break with no contact.
3. Dealing With the Aftermath
3-1. Stick to the boundaries you set.
You may notice a small backlash from the break up with your friend. Your ex-friend may try and get back on your good side or get back in touch with you. If they do, remind them of the boundaries you set and ask that they respect them. They may be dealing with a lot of anger and may lash out at you in person, online, or within your group of mutual friends. Your ex-friend is just trying to get a reaction out of you or just blowing off steam. Don't respond to this type of behavior at all. It may take some time, but they will accept it.
3-2. Ignore rude, immature, or passive aggressive behavior.
Know that this is probably easier said than done. Remind yourself that you ended the friendship for this exact reason, because you did not want to have to deal with the drama they bring into your life. This behavior is part of the reason they made a fake friend in the first place. Take comfort in the fact that your decision to end things was the correct one. Watch out for the following behaviors:
Constant texts, calls, emails, or social media messages.
They may say mean things about you to others or try to turn mutual friends against you.
Making fun of you or gossiping about you.
Making you feel as though you are responsible for their choices or behavior.
3-3. Deal with the emotions of losing a friend.
Even though you were the one to end the friendship, realize that a friendship still ended. You may be feeling a mix of emotions including relief, freedom, guilt, sadness, anger, or hopelessness. Let yourself grieve the end of the friendship and cope with whatever emotions or mix of emotions come your way.
One good way to deal with the emotions is to write about them. Spend some time writing all the things you are thinking and feeling about the break up, and why those might be coming up for you. Journaling about what you are going through will help you identify how you feel as well as help you process through the emotions and constructively get them out.
Suppressing and avoiding your emotions will only make you feel worse in the long run. It's important to acknowledge how you're feeling and express that in a healthy way.
3-4. Address any other friendships it might have affected.
Especially if you are in school, you may have mutual friends that you share with your ex-friend. Breaking up your friendship potentially puts these mutual friends in an awkward position. They may feel that they have to pick sides, or they may not know how to act around you in regards to the other friend. In an informative way, talk to them about what happened. Don't gossip, and avoid going into detail if you can.
Try something like, “I know you and Ashley are friends and since you and I are also friends, I just wanted to let you know what happened. Ashley and I are not friends any longer. We talked about it and I think we each got to say what we needed to say. I'm only telling you this because I don't want you to feel uncomfortable about it, or put in the middle.”
Tips
Develop a self-care routine after you break up with your friend. You can meditate, journal, practice gratitude, or do anything else that helps you feel good and grounded. You might feel like you don't have control over your emotions after a break-up, but you do have control over your routine.[25]
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Expert Source
Amy ChanRelationship Coach
Expert Interview. 1 May 2019.
Warnings
Fake friends may often have fights with you for a stupid or unknown reason.
If at any time your fake friend's behavior becomes aggressive, you may need to contact an authority figure. Do not put yourself in danger just to end things with your fake friend. Tell your parents, a teacher, or a boss at work who can help you safely deal with the relationship.
Avoid the bad habit of “ghosting” out of your friendship.[26]
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Research source
Ghosting refers to ignoring someone or disappearing on them until they get the idea that you no longer want to be in contact with them. Consider how that would make you feel if the situations were reversed, and end the friendship the mature way.
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We talked about it and I think we each got to say what we needed to say. I'm only telling you this because I don't want you to feel uncomfortable about it, or put in the middle.”\\nTips\\nDevelop a self-care routine after you break up with your friend. You can meditate, journal, practice gratitude, or do anything else that helps you feel good and grounded. You might feel like you don't have control over your emotions after a break-up, but you do have control over your routine.[25]\\nX\\nExpert Source\\n\\nAmy ChanRelationship Coach\\nExpert Interview. 1 May 2019.\\nWarnings\\nFake friends may often have fights with you for a stupid or unknown reason.\\nIf at any time your fake friend's behavior becomes aggressive, you may need to contact an authority figure. Do not put yourself in danger just to end things with your fake friend. Tell your parents, a teacher, or a boss at work who can help you safely deal with the relationship.\\nAvoid the bad habit of “ghosting” out of your friendship.[26]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\\n\\n\\n Ghosting refers to ignoring someone or disappearing on them until they get the idea that you no longer want to be in contact with them. Consider how that would make you feel if the situations were reversed, and end the friendship the mature way.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Fake friends can be more difficult to identify or differentiate from real friends. If you have a someone you feel is only friends with you for a particular reason, you may have a fake friend. Real friends support you, love you as you are, forgive you, and have your back. Fake friends can make you feel like you have to look or act a certain way to be friends with them. Also if you feel like you cannot be yourself around them, you may be dealing with a fake friend. Fake friends tend to only cause drama for you and are not healthy for you to keep around. To break up with your fake friend, get yourself ready for ending your friendship with them. In the process of breaking up, have a conversation about ending your friendship. Afterwards, work towards having a support group of healthy real friends going forward.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting Ready to Break Up\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Check your friendship.\", \"描述\": \"Some friends may be fake, but some friends may be shy or have a real difficulty connecting with others. 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Maybe they will be able to offer you an alternate perspective or advice on what is going on. If you don't feel comfortable talking to close friends, or if you are not particularly close with your family members, seek advice from a school counselor or therapist.\\nSchool counselors have added experience in dealing the relationships and friendships in a school setting that you might find helpful.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Make sure you want to end this friendship.\", \"描述\": \"Going through with the termination of a friendship is a big deal. It is hard to come back from if you regret your decision later. Try to consider other options if you are currently in a fight, or if you are just trying to get them to do something specific. If you really want to end the friendship, you should be able to think of several reasons why this friendship makes you unhappy and why you think you would be healthier without this friend around. 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Additionally, it risks more misunderstandings in communication.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Ask to meet with them.\", \"描述\": \"Schedule a time and place to meet with your friend to talk about ending the friendship. Even if you are planning to have the conversation over the phone, schedule it so that you know you can both set aside some time to focus on this and nothing else. Try not to wait too long, chances are your friend can feel that something is up and waiting may make everyone unnecessarily anxious.\\nMake the request simple and straightforward. Try “Hey, I think we should talk. When would be good for you?”\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pick a time and a place to meet.\", \"描述\": \"There are several things to consider when planning your conversation with your friend. The goal is to create the space for the conversation to go as smoothly as possible. The following may help.\\nHave the conversation in a private place. It can potentially be a very emotional time and that shouldn't have to occur somewhere where you could draw an audience.\\nMake sure you are both calm and that you are not having the conversation right before something very important such as a test or a performance review at your job.\\nKeep a time limit in mind and avoid meeting somewhere, like over a meal, where you could potentially get stuck for longer than you would like.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Plan what you are going to say beforehand.\", \"描述\": \"It is a good idea to sit down and prepare what you want to say to someone during any break up, but especially a break up as complex as this. Organizing your thoughts beforehand allows you be clear, firm, and thorough.\\nMake sure you are clear in your communication with your friend. There should not be any doubt in their minds about what you were trying to say after meeting with you.\\nBe firm about what you want and what you don't want in your friendships, and in this friendship going forward.\\nBe thorough and make sure you are communicating everything you want to say and everything you feel during this conversation. Planning this out will help you avoid the instance of “I should have said this!” later on.\\nWhen planning what you are going to say, find a good balance between being honest, and being kind. Try to avoid blaming or being unnecessarily mean to your soon-to-be-ex friend.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Talk with them.\", \"描述\": \"This is the potentially anxiety-inducing part, but hang in there. You have done all the preparation, so it is time to have the conversation that you have planned and prepared for with them. Explain how you feel, and why you think you should not be friends any longer. Be honest and straightforward but try and remain as nice as possible.\\nStart the conversation by acknowledging that this is difficult. “This is going to be really hard to say, and probably hard to hear.”\\nGet to the point as quickly as possible. “I've been really unhappy in our friendship, and I don't think it is a good idea for us to be friends anymore.”\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Have a good reason.\", \"描述\": \"As you get further into the conversation, you will reach a point where an explanation of why you want to end the friendship is necessary. Explain why you have been unhappy, with the least amount of blame possible. What ever your reason is try and start with the phrase, “I feel...” Here are some examples.\\nIf your boyfriend cheated on you with your friend, “I feel like I cannot trust you, and I'm hurt that someone who considered themselves my friend would do that to me.”\\nIf they constantly make fun or you, or make you feel bad about yourself, “I feel like spending time with you is not healthy for me and my self-esteem because of some of the things you say about me.”\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Finish what you want to say.\", \"描述\": \"You have explained why you think it is a good idea for you both to go your separate ways. Now, you can begin to end your part of the talk. You'll want to make sure you are kind and you mention some of the good parts of being friends as well. Try to:\\nExplain to them that you have an appreciation for the good times you have had together. “I've really enjoyed spending time with you. I'll always keep those good memories close to my heart. Like that time we...”\\nSplit the blame, if you can. “I don't know, maybe we are just not compatible as friends. Or maybe I wasn't the best friend I could have been either.”\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Give them a chance to talk.\", \"描述\": \"You have said your side of things, give them a chance to respond to what you say. Be prepared for the fact that your friend may have many different emotional reactions. They may apologize profusely, they may get defensive or angry, or they may just be very sad. It is possible that they may experience all three. Try and hear them out. Address anything that might come up like any misunderstandings or anything that might change the way you feel about breaking up with them.\\nAvoid getting into an argument with them at this point. If they respond with anger, they are likely to begin to say hurtful things to you or to try and blame you. Don't engage with them, simply tell them “I'm sorry you feel that way.”\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"End the conversation.\", \"描述\": \"The way you end the conversation will depend on how they react to what you have said. Again, prepare for a variety of responses on their behalf, then no matter how the conversation goes, you have an exit strategy for yourself.\\nIf they react with anger and begin raising their voice, don't engage with them and instead say, “I'd like to talk to you about this calmly, but if you continue to yell at me I'm going to leave.”\\nIf they react with sadness, allow some time to continue to talk and then when they are calm again try saying, “Thank you for taking the time to talk with me. I'm sorry this worked out this way.”\\nIf they are apologetic, see how you feel and consider whether or not you might want to try to repair the friendship. If you need some time to process what they say, tell them that. “I need some time to think about what you said. Can we talk again tomorrow?”\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Set up boundaries.\", \"描述\": \"Decide ahead of time what kind of contact you want from this person, if any, going forward. Make sure you are certain of your decision and communicate that to them at the end of your conversation. Be clear that this is what you want and ask them to respect it. Having your boundaries set before hand will make it easier to stick to them later on.\\nIf you have mutual friends, suggest that maybe you two should only hang out in groups.\\nIf you would prefer to never have contact with them again, than that is fine too. Let them know that you would prefer they do not contact you going forward.\\nIf it is a toxic friendship, make sure for your own health you make a clean break with no contact.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Dealing With the Aftermath\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stick to the boundaries you set.\", \"描述\": \"You may notice a small backlash from the break up with your friend. Your ex-friend may try and get back on your good side or get back in touch with you. If they do, remind them of the boundaries you set and ask that they respect them. They may be dealing with a lot of anger and may lash out at you in person, online, or within your group of mutual friends. Your ex-friend is just trying to get a reaction out of you or just blowing off steam. Don't respond to this type of behavior at all. It may take some time, but they will accept it.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Ignore rude, immature, or passive aggressive behavior.\", \"描述\": \"Know that this is probably easier said than done. Remind yourself that you ended the friendship for this exact reason, because you did not want to have to deal with the drama they bring into your life. This behavior is part of the reason they made a fake friend in the first place. Take comfort in the fact that your decision to end things was the correct one. Watch out for the following behaviors:\\nConstant texts, calls, emails, or social media messages.\\nThey may say mean things about you to others or try to turn mutual friends against you.\\nMaking fun of you or gossiping about you.\\nMaking you feel as though you are responsible for their choices or behavior.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Deal with the emotions of losing a friend.\", \"描述\": \"Even though you were the one to end the friendship, realize that a friendship still ended. You may be feeling a mix of emotions including relief, freedom, guilt, sadness, anger, or hopelessness. Let yourself grieve the end of the friendship and cope with whatever emotions or mix of emotions come your way.\\nOne good way to deal with the emotions is to write about them. Spend some time writing all the things you are thinking and feeling about the break up, and why those might be coming up for you. Journaling about what you are going through will help you identify how you feel as well as help you process through the emotions and constructively get them out.\\nSuppressing and avoiding your emotions will only make you feel worse in the long run. It's important to acknowledge how you're feeling and express that in a healthy way.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Address any other friendships it might have affected.\", \"描述\": \"Especially if you are in school, you may have mutual friends that you share with your ex-friend. Breaking up your friendship potentially puts these mutual friends in an awkward position. They may feel that they have to pick sides, or they may not know how to act around you in regards to the other friend. In an informative way, talk to them about what happened. Don't gossip, and avoid going into detail if you can.\\nTry something like, “I know you and Ashley are friends and since you and I are also friends, I just wanted to let you know what happened. Ashley and I are not friends any longer. We talked about it and I think we each got to say what we needed to say. I'm only telling you this because I don't want you to feel uncomfortable about it, or put in the middle.”\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Develop a self-care routine after you break up with your friend. You can meditate, journal, practice gratitude, or do anything else that helps you feel good and grounded. You might feel like you don't have control over your emotions after a break-up, but you do have control over your routine.[25]\\nX\\nExpert Source\\n\\nAmy ChanRelationship Coach\\nExpert Interview. 1 May 2019.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Fake friends may often have fights with you for a stupid or unknown reason.\\n\", \"If at any time your fake friend's behavior becomes aggressive, you may need to contact an authority figure. Do not put yourself in danger just to end things with your fake friend. 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1. Using Water to Separate Fighting Cats
1-1. Fill up a plastic spray bottle with water.
A standard sized spray bottle (16 fluid ounces) works fine. Ensure the water and the bottle are clean. Do not use bottles that had bleach or other chemicals in them.
1-2. Aim the plastic nozzle at the cats.
You can aim the bottle at one or both cats. If your cat is familiar with the spray bottle and what it does, the very sight of it is likely to send it running and end the conflict.
1-3. Pull the plastic handle.
With the spray bottle's nozzle leveled at the cats, open fire. Spray two to three times rapidly from a safe distance away. The cats will likely saunter off to groom themselves. If your cats continue fighting, squirt another two to three times. Continue as many times as necessary to end the fighting.
Do not get too close or attempt to manually separate two fighting cats. You will get scratched or bitten.
1-4. Use a garden hose on the fighting cats.
If you're outside and the weather is warm, you could turn the garden hose on your cats. If your hose has a nozzle and handle on it, use it in the same way you would the water bottle inside. Aim the nozzle at the cats from a distance of three or four meters, squeeze the handle a few times, and enjoy the peace and quiet again. Collect your cat and bring it inside.
If your hose doesn't have a spray nozzle on it, place your thumb partially over the hole where the water comes out. This builds up a bit of pressure behind the hole and will cause the water that does come out to travel a greater distance. Use this technique to spray water on the fighting cats just as you would if you had a spray handle on your hose.
1-5. Squirt your cats with a squirt gun.
As an alternative to using a hose, you could also use a squirt gun for cats that are fighting outside. Fill the squirt gun with water, aim it at the fighting cats, and fire a three to four second stream at the cats. If they do not stop fighting, spray another three to four second burst. Continue until the conflict ends.
Do not use water to break up a cat fight outside during winter. Cats can easily develop hypothermia and die.
You could substitute a small, less powerful squirt gun for a spray bottle, as well.
2. Making Loud Sounds to Stop Two Cats From Fighting
2-1. Yell loudly.
You could say things like “Hey! What are you doing?” in a loud, irritated way. You should also clap your hands together rapidly several times. Alternately, if you have a kerchief handy, wave it around your head to gain the attention of the fighting cats while you tell at them. All of these things will distract them from each other and end the fight.
2-2. Bang pans together.
Get two sturdy pans and knock them together several times in the general area where your cats are fighting. They will both likely be startled by the sound and scamper off in different directions. If you have only one pan handy, strike it with a metal object like a large metal ladle or pair of tongs repeatedly to achieve the same effect.
2-3. Shake a can of pennies.
If you have a tin can with a resealable lid, you can fill it with pennies to distract the fighting cats from each other and end their fight. Small coffee tins are great for this, as are cans of sriracha peas and small tins of cookies or toffee. Fill the can with a handful of pennies, dimes, or other small coins and give it a few vigorous shakes for about five seconds from a distance of three to four meters.
2-4. Sound an air horn.
An air horn is a hand-held can of pressurized air that passes through a horn, creating a loud sound. Point the horn away from you and press the button on top of the can. Hold it for just a second or two. Your cats will run off when they hear the sound.
Air horns can be extremely loud, so use it from at least three to four meters away from the fighting cats.
2-5. Use a portable vacuum cleaner.
If the cats are near your house and you have a charged portable vacuum cleaner, you can grab that and turn it on near the cats. Many animals including cats and dogs dislike the loud noise that vacuum cleaners make. This will be sure to break up the cat fight in no time, as the cats will immediately run off, even if they already had their claws dug into each other.
3. Throwing Things to Distract the Cats
3-1. Throw a blanket over the cats.
The sudden disorientation the accompanies being covered by a blanket will get the cats to stop fighting and focus on escaping from under the blanket. You could also use a large jacket or a towel to achieve the same effect.
3-2. Toss small, soft pillows near the cats.
You can include a few exclamatory remarks like, “Hey! Break it up!” along with your pillow-throwing for added effect. With a barrage of pillows raining down on them, both cats will be eager to exit the area.
You should aim for the area around them, but if they don't heed your presence right away, don't hesitate to throw pillows at them with moderate force. Take care not to hit either cat in the face.
3-3. Throw a toy near the cats.
If one cat sees its favorite toy, it may be inclined to leave the conflict and instead play with the toy. If you suspect the other cat will pursue the cat that left the fight, give both cats their favorite toys.
You could also try tossing two cat treats in opposite directions. Rustle the bag and make a big show of removing the treats for your cats. This will ensure they see the treats being tossed.
4. Preventing Cat Fights
4-1. Look for signs of aggression.
Before the fight starts, you'll typically see your cat and/or another cat hissing menacingly, each with its hair bristling along its back and its ears pinned down. At this point, move to take your cat out of the situation before a tussle begins. If the cats seem determined to fight, confine one or both cats to separate rooms.
4-2. Discover why your cat is fighting.
Has one cat recently reached sexual maturity? Is your cat in a new home where it needs to establish its territory and tussle with other cats to do so? Think about recent changes in your cat's lifestyle or biology to figure out why it might be fighting.
Once you've figured out why cats are fighting, you can take steps to prevent it. For instance, if a cat has recently reached sexual maturity, it's probably experiencing a tidal wave of hormonal changes. Spaying and neutering your cats can reduce or eliminate this cause of cat fights.
4-3. Keep your cat indoors.
The cat that stays inside is the cat that never engages in a cat fight with other cats (unless the other cat also lives in your home). Keep your windows and doors closed. Stay mindful when opening the door. If necessary, have a family member close the cat in a certain room before you or another family member leaves the house. Then, let the cat out to resume its normal activities around the house. This will ensure your cat never gets the chance to escape outside and fight another cat.
If your cat fight is between two of your cats, confine them to separate rooms until they've calmed down.
4-4. Pay equal attention to all your cats.
Cats, like people, can become jealous of each other. If you're fawning over a new cat or kitten, your existing cat might resent that. Certain breeds (such as Siamese) are more susceptible to jealousy than others. Spend time praising and playing with all your cats to lay their fears of being replaced to rest.
4-5. Create positive associations between two cats that don't get along.
When two cats make a habit out of conflict, you need to break this negative behavior pattern by replacing it with a positive one. When the two cats are present in the same room, give each some tasty treats. Feed them their treats at the same time out of separate bowls placed reasonably far apart so that they don't feel threatened. Be sure to give each the same amount of treats and attention, or they will only become more jealous of one another.
4-6. Give each cat its own space.
Multiple cats in one household should not eat out of a single common food bowl. Provide each cat with its own food and water bowls, and provide adequate space between each bowl. Similarly, provide multiple cat scratch posts, cat houses/perches, and litter boxes if you have multiple cats.
The general rule is that however many cats you own, you should have that many litterboxes, plus one.
For example, if you have two cats, you should have three litter boxes.
4-7. Do not invest in a grown cat of the same gender as the one you already have.
If your adult cat has lived on its own for all or most of its life, it is used to being the dominant cat of the house. Introducing a kitten -- especially a kitten of the opposite gender as your current cat -- will minimize the possibility that the cats will engage in conflict. Cats of the same gender will see the other as competition for potential mates, and their likelihood of conflict will increase.
You could decrease conflict among cats of the same gender by spaying or neutering your cats.
Tips
Monitor your cats carefully after they've fought. If you suspect they will engage with each other again, confine one or both to separate rooms for a half hour or so.
Never hit your cat when it is fighting, or after it's done fighting to punish it.
Once the cats are separated, pick up your cat. This will prevent it from re-engaging with the other cat.
Warnings
If you do get scratched, treat it immediately with disinfectant and keep an eye out for cat scratch disease.
Never allow your cats to fight it out. Always break up a cat fight between them when you encounter one, or your cats could be badly injured.
Don't touch cats during a fight. You could get scratched.
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Use a garden hose on the fighting cats.\\nIf you're outside and the weather is warm, you could turn the garden hose on your cats. If your hose has a nozzle and handle on it, use it in the same way you would the water bottle inside. Aim the nozzle at the cats from a distance of three or four meters, squeeze the handle a few times, and enjoy the peace and quiet again. Collect your cat and bring it inside.\\nIf your hose doesn't have a spray nozzle on it, place your thumb partially over the hole where the water comes out. This builds up a bit of pressure behind the hole and will cause the water that does come out to travel a greater distance. Use this technique to spray water on the fighting cats just as you would if you had a spray handle on your hose.\\n1-5. Squirt your cats with a squirt gun.\\nAs an alternative to using a hose, you could also use a squirt gun for cats that are fighting outside. Fill the squirt gun with water, aim it at the fighting cats, and fire a three to four second stream at the cats. If they do not stop fighting, spray another three to four second burst. Continue until the conflict ends.\\nDo not use water to break up a cat fight outside during winter. Cats can easily develop hypothermia and die.\\nYou could substitute a small, less powerful squirt gun for a spray bottle, as well.\\n2. Making Loud Sounds to Stop Two Cats From Fighting\\n2-1. Yell loudly.\\nYou could say things like “Hey! What are you doing?” in a loud, irritated way. You should also clap your hands together rapidly several times. Alternately, if you have a kerchief handy, wave it around your head to gain the attention of the fighting cats while you tell at them. All of these things will distract them from each other and end the fight.\\n2-2. Bang pans together.\\nGet two sturdy pans and knock them together several times in the general area where your cats are fighting. They will both likely be startled by the sound and scamper off in different directions. If you have only one pan handy, strike it with a metal object like a large metal ladle or pair of tongs repeatedly to achieve the same effect.\\n2-3. Shake a can of pennies.\\nIf you have a tin can with a resealable lid, you can fill it with pennies to distract the fighting cats from each other and end their fight. Small coffee tins are great for this, as are cans of sriracha peas and small tins of cookies or toffee. Fill the can with a handful of pennies, dimes, or other small coins and give it a few vigorous shakes for about five seconds from a distance of three to four meters.\\n2-4. Sound an air horn.\\nAn air horn is a hand-held can of pressurized air that passes through a horn, creating a loud sound. Point the horn away from you and press the button on top of the can. Hold it for just a second or two. Your cats will run off when they hear the sound.\\nAir horns can be extremely loud, so use it from at least three to four meters away from the fighting cats.\\n2-5. Use a portable vacuum cleaner.\\nIf the cats are near your house and you have a charged portable vacuum cleaner, you can grab that and turn it on near the cats. Many animals including cats and dogs dislike the loud noise that vacuum cleaners make. This will be sure to break up the cat fight in no time, as the cats will immediately run off, even if they already had their claws dug into each other.\\n3. Throwing Things to Distract the Cats\\n3-1. Throw a blanket over the cats.\\nThe sudden disorientation the accompanies being covered by a blanket will get the cats to stop fighting and focus on escaping from under the blanket. You could also use a large jacket or a towel to achieve the same effect.\\n3-2. Toss small, soft pillows near the cats.\\nYou can include a few exclamatory remarks like, “Hey! Break it up!” along with your pillow-throwing for added effect. With a barrage of pillows raining down on them, both cats will be eager to exit the area.\\nYou should aim for the area around them, but if they don't heed your presence right away, don't hesitate to throw pillows at them with moderate force. Take care not to hit either cat in the face.\\n3-3. Throw a toy near the cats.\\nIf one cat sees its favorite toy, it may be inclined to leave the conflict and instead play with the toy. If you suspect the other cat will pursue the cat that left the fight, give both cats their favorite toys.\\nYou could also try tossing two cat treats in opposite directions. Rustle the bag and make a big show of removing the treats for your cats. This will ensure they see the treats being tossed.\\n4. Preventing Cat Fights\\n4-1. Look for signs of aggression.\\nBefore the fight starts, you'll typically see your cat and/or another cat hissing menacingly, each with its hair bristling along its back and its ears pinned down. At this point, move to take your cat out of the situation before a tussle begins. If the cats seem determined to fight, confine one or both cats to separate rooms.\\n4-2. Discover why your cat is fighting.\\nHas one cat recently reached sexual maturity? Is your cat in a new home where it needs to establish its territory and tussle with other cats to do so? Think about recent changes in your cat's lifestyle or biology to figure out why it might be fighting.\\nOnce you've figured out why cats are fighting, you can take steps to prevent it. For instance, if a cat has recently reached sexual maturity, it's probably experiencing a tidal wave of hormonal changes. Spaying and neutering your cats can reduce or eliminate this cause of cat fights.\\n4-3. Keep your cat indoors.\\nThe cat that stays inside is the cat that never engages in a cat fight with other cats (unless the other cat also lives in your home). Keep your windows and doors closed. Stay mindful when opening the door. If necessary, have a family member close the cat in a certain room before you or another family member leaves the house. Then, let the cat out to resume its normal activities around the house. This will ensure your cat never gets the chance to escape outside and fight another cat.\\nIf your cat fight is between two of your cats, confine them to separate rooms until they've calmed down.\\n4-4. Pay equal attention to all your cats.\\nCats, like people, can become jealous of each other. If you're fawning over a new cat or kitten, your existing cat might resent that. Certain breeds (such as Siamese) are more susceptible to jealousy than others. Spend time praising and playing with all your cats to lay their fears of being replaced to rest.\\n4-5. Create positive associations between two cats that don't get along.\\nWhen two cats make a habit out of conflict, you need to break this negative behavior pattern by replacing it with a positive one. When the two cats are present in the same room, give each some tasty treats. Feed them their treats at the same time out of separate bowls placed reasonably far apart so that they don't feel threatened. Be sure to give each the same amount of treats and attention, or they will only become more jealous of one another.\\n4-6. Give each cat its own space.\\nMultiple cats in one household should not eat out of a single common food bowl. Provide each cat with its own food and water bowls, and provide adequate space between each bowl. Similarly, provide multiple cat scratch posts, cat houses/perches, and litter boxes if you have multiple cats.\\nThe general rule is that however many cats you own, you should have that many litterboxes, plus one.\\nFor example, if you have two cats, you should have three litter boxes.\\n4-7. Do not invest in a grown cat of the same gender as the one you already have.\\nIf your adult cat has lived on its own for all or most of its life, it is used to being the dominant cat of the house. Introducing a kitten -- especially a kitten of the opposite gender as your current cat -- will minimize the possibility that the cats will engage in conflict. Cats of the same gender will see the other as competition for potential mates, and their likelihood of conflict will increase.\\nYou could decrease conflict among cats of the same gender by spaying or neutering your cats.\\nTips\\nMonitor your cats carefully after they've fought. If you suspect they will engage with each other again, confine one or both to separate rooms for a half hour or so.\\nNever hit your cat when it is fighting, or after it's done fighting to punish it.\\nOnce the cats are separated, pick up your cat. This will prevent it from re-engaging with the other cat.\\nWarnings\\nIf you do get scratched, treat it immediately with disinfectant and keep an eye out for cat scratch disease.\\nNever allow your cats to fight it out. Always break up a cat fight between them when you encounter one, or your cats could be badly injured.\\nDon't touch cats during a fight. You could get scratched.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Cats are usually sweet and gentle, but when they go at it, things can get ugly. Breaking up cat fights quickly is crucial to prevent either cat from getting hurt. Figuring out what causes your cats to fight should be your next priority. Take proactive steps to ensure your cats stay healthy and happy if you want to prevent cats from fighting.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Using Water to Separate Fighting Cats\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Fill up a plastic spray bottle with water.\", \"描述\": \"A standard sized spray bottle (16 fluid ounces) works fine. Ensure the water and the bottle are clean. Do not use bottles that had bleach or other chemicals in them.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Aim the plastic nozzle at the cats.\", \"描述\": \"You can aim the bottle at one or both cats. If your cat is familiar with the spray bottle and what it does, the very sight of it is likely to send it running and end the conflict.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pull the plastic handle.\", \"描述\": \"With the spray bottle's nozzle leveled at the cats, open fire. Spray two to three times rapidly from a safe distance away. The cats will likely saunter off to groom themselves. If your cats continue fighting, squirt another two to three times. Continue as many times as necessary to end the fighting.\\nDo not get too close or attempt to manually separate two fighting cats. You will get scratched or bitten.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Use a garden hose on the fighting cats.\", \"描述\": \"If you're outside and the weather is warm, you could turn the garden hose on your cats. If your hose has a nozzle and handle on it, use it in the same way you would the water bottle inside. Aim the nozzle at the cats from a distance of three or four meters, squeeze the handle a few times, and enjoy the peace and quiet again. Collect your cat and bring it inside.\\nIf your hose doesn't have a spray nozzle on it, place your thumb partially over the hole where the water comes out. This builds up a bit of pressure behind the hole and will cause the water that does come out to travel a greater distance. Use this technique to spray water on the fighting cats just as you would if you had a spray handle on your hose.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Squirt your cats with a squirt gun.\", \"描述\": \"As an alternative to using a hose, you could also use a squirt gun for cats that are fighting outside. Fill the squirt gun with water, aim it at the fighting cats, and fire a three to four second stream at the cats. If they do not stop fighting, spray another three to four second burst. Continue until the conflict ends.\\nDo not use water to break up a cat fight outside during winter. Cats can easily develop hypothermia and die.\\nYou could substitute a small, less powerful squirt gun for a spray bottle, as well.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Making Loud Sounds to Stop Two Cats From Fighting\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Yell loudly.\", \"描述\": \"You could say things like “Hey! What are you doing?” in a loud, irritated way. You should also clap your hands together rapidly several times. Alternately, if you have a kerchief handy, wave it around your head to gain the attention of the fighting cats while you tell at them. All of these things will distract them from each other and end the fight.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Bang pans together.\", \"描述\": \"Get two sturdy pans and knock them together several times in the general area where your cats are fighting. They will both likely be startled by the sound and scamper off in different directions. If you have only one pan handy, strike it with a metal object like a large metal ladle or pair of tongs repeatedly to achieve the same effect.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Shake a can of pennies.\", \"描述\": \"If you have a tin can with a resealable lid, you can fill it with pennies to distract the fighting cats from each other and end their fight. Small coffee tins are great for this, as are cans of sriracha peas and small tins of cookies or toffee. Fill the can with a handful of pennies, dimes, or other small coins and give it a few vigorous shakes for about five seconds from a distance of three to four meters.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Sound an air horn.\", \"描述\": \"An air horn is a hand-held can of pressurized air that passes through a horn, creating a loud sound. Point the horn away from you and press the button on top of the can. Hold it for just a second or two. Your cats will run off when they hear the sound.\\nAir horns can be extremely loud, so use it from at least three to four meters away from the fighting cats.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Use a portable vacuum cleaner.\", \"描述\": \"If the cats are near your house and you have a charged portable vacuum cleaner, you can grab that and turn it on near the cats. Many animals including cats and dogs dislike the loud noise that vacuum cleaners make. This will be sure to break up the cat fight in no time, as the cats will immediately run off, even if they already had their claws dug into each other.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Throwing Things to Distract the Cats\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Throw a blanket over the cats.\", \"描述\": \"The sudden disorientation the accompanies being covered by a blanket will get the cats to stop fighting and focus on escaping from under the blanket. You could also use a large jacket or a towel to achieve the same effect.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Toss small, soft pillows near the cats.\", \"描述\": \"You can include a few exclamatory remarks like, “Hey! Break it up!” along with your pillow-throwing for added effect. With a barrage of pillows raining down on them, both cats will be eager to exit the area.\\nYou should aim for the area around them, but if they don't heed your presence right away, don't hesitate to throw pillows at them with moderate force. Take care not to hit either cat in the face.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Throw a toy near the cats.\", \"描述\": \"If one cat sees its favorite toy, it may be inclined to leave the conflict and instead play with the toy. If you suspect the other cat will pursue the cat that left the fight, give both cats their favorite toys.\\nYou could also try tossing two cat treats in opposite directions. Rustle the bag and make a big show of removing the treats for your cats. This will ensure they see the treats being tossed.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Preventing Cat Fights\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Look for signs of aggression.\", \"描述\": \"Before the fight starts, you'll typically see your cat and/or another cat hissing menacingly, each with its hair bristling along its back and its ears pinned down. At this point, move to take your cat out of the situation before a tussle begins. If the cats seem determined to fight, confine one or both cats to separate rooms.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Discover why your cat is fighting.\", \"描述\": \"Has one cat recently reached sexual maturity? Is your cat in a new home where it needs to establish its territory and tussle with other cats to do so? Think about recent changes in your cat's lifestyle or biology to figure out why it might be fighting.\\nOnce you've figured out why cats are fighting, you can take steps to prevent it. For instance, if a cat has recently reached sexual maturity, it's probably experiencing a tidal wave of hormonal changes. Spaying and neutering your cats can reduce or eliminate this cause of cat fights.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keep your cat indoors.\", \"描述\": \"The cat that stays inside is the cat that never engages in a cat fight with other cats (unless the other cat also lives in your home). Keep your windows and doors closed. Stay mindful when opening the door. If necessary, have a family member close the cat in a certain room before you or another family member leaves the house. Then, let the cat out to resume its normal activities around the house. This will ensure your cat never gets the chance to escape outside and fight another cat.\\nIf your cat fight is between two of your cats, confine them to separate rooms until they've calmed down.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Pay equal attention to all your cats.\", \"描述\": \"Cats, like people, can become jealous of each other. If you're fawning over a new cat or kitten, your existing cat might resent that. Certain breeds (such as Siamese) are more susceptible to jealousy than others. Spend time praising and playing with all your cats to lay their fears of being replaced to rest.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Create positive associations between two cats that don't get along.\", \"描述\": \"When two cats make a habit out of conflict, you need to break this negative behavior pattern by replacing it with a positive one. When the two cats are present in the same room, give each some tasty treats. Feed them their treats at the same time out of separate bowls placed reasonably far apart so that they don't feel threatened. Be sure to give each the same amount of treats and attention, or they will only become more jealous of one another.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Give each cat its own space.\", \"描述\": \"Multiple cats in one household should not eat out of a single common food bowl. Provide each cat with its own food and water bowls, and provide adequate space between each bowl. 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1. Planting the Seeds of Mistrust
1-1. Consider the consequences.
Though you may not think there's anything objectionable about breaking up the person you like and their significant other so both of you will be happier, the world may not see it that way. Also, mature and intelligent couples can see your motives clearly and easily, especially if you have exhibited any jealousy towards one of the partners, claim to be a close friend, or are an ex.
If this is your goal, make sure you're completely certain it's the right thing. Are you willing to sacrifice your dignity? If the breakup is caused by an outside force (you), and not a natural problem in the relationship, the couple may still harbor feelings for each other which might grow stronger over time.
1-2. Be sure of the person you want to be with.
If you want to break up the person of your dreams and their significant other, then, like Othello's Iago (but far less devious), you have to get in the middle of the couple, slowly but surely. To do this, you have to get the person you like to trust you and to begin to open up to you. Be understanding, agreeable, and sympathetic, and show that you're a good listener. At first, the person may not open up to you about their relationship, but that time will come.
Just one warning: there's a difference between being the confidant of your love interest, and falling into the Friend Zone with that person. Make sure you don't act too buddy-buddy or friend-like with the person or they won't ever be able to see you as a love interest. If one of the partners finds out, you are sure to fail. This does not work 99 percent of the time.
1-3. Let the person open up about the flaws in their relationship.
Every relationship has flaws, and the chances of a couple past the honeymoon stage and dating for a few years breaking up is low. The worst thing you can do is openly criticize the person's relationship, criticize the person's partner, or generally make the person feel like they are in a doomed relationship. This will make the person feel angry, defensive, and more determined than ever to make things work. No one wants to admit to a failure, especially not in a relationship, so you have to wait for the person to naturally admit a problem on their own.
You can start by just letting the person talk about the relationship. Ask innocent questions. For example, if you know that her band was playing at a local venue the night before but that her boyfriend didn't show up, innocently ask if he liked her show.
Ask questions about how the person's night went. If they seem kind of upset, just say, "How was your weekend?" and wait for them to reveal the rest.
Ask, "How did that make you feel?" Keep it broad with general questions that encourage the person to keep talking -- and to start seeing the cracks in their relationship.
Unfortunately, you may be trying to break up a couple that is in a great relationship, which would make it difficult for the person to reveal anything negative. But if you've made yourself the person's confidant, it's less likely that the relationship is in great shape.
1-4. Keep them talking.
Once the person does start revealing the flaws with their relationships and all of the problems with their partner, the worst thing you can do is to completely agree or to say, "You deserve so much better than that." This will make the person see that you have ulterior motives. Instead, act a bit withdrawn or confused, forcing the person to talk for longer and explain why they are really unhappy -- and why their partner isn't perfect.
If the person has to explain their frustration further and you keep them talking, then they will notice the problems even more.
Just keep the person talking any time something negative comes up. Questioning their thoughts will make the person explore them even further.
Not criticizing their relationship will also make things better down the line. If you do end up together, no one can tell them that you sabotaged the previous relationship. When you ever openly criticize one of the partners, especially if your plan has failed, it proves you were trying to screw up the relationship.
2. Making the Break-Up Inevitable
2-1. Be the person that the object of your affection wants.
Without completely changing your personality, you can try to be the person that the person you like is looking for in a relationship. If she complains that her boyfriend never asks about her feelings, make sure to do that. If he wishes his girlfriend shared more of his interests, go hiking or check out the new vegan cafe he was raving about with him.
This isn't as manipulative as it sounds. If you want to be with the person for a good reason, then you should want to be a good partner to them, right?
Don't make a big deal about it. If they complain that their partner never does them favors, bring them lunch or coffee when they're having a busy day at work. This may backfire, however, because they might just be using you as an emotional dump.
Don't go over the top with this. Doing these things and being a good person for the person you like will naturally make you start to fall into the role of a significant other, but don't do anything too extreme, like get them flowers, or tell them how beautiful they look. It becomes obvious if you do something romantic like buying extravagant things, and the person may take advantage of this and use you for the gifts.
2-2. Make yourself more present.
This doesn't mean that you should be at the person's beck and call or to be a lap dog. It just means that slowly, you should start hanging out a little more...and then a lot more. Offer to give them a ride to class, grab a casual bite, and propose an innocent game of tennis and until you've become a part of their everyday routine. Make sure you're not getting obsessive and that your love interest is making some of the calls.
Don't be too dependable. The person should see that you have a life of your own -- beyond trying to break up the relationship.
Being more present will help the person see what it would be like to be in a relationship with you. This should give them a good and more certain feeling about you.
2-3. Exploit the couple's weaknesses.
Every couple has its own weakness. Let's say they're the kind of people who tend to fight when you're out at big, drunken occasions. Perfect - invite them to your next party. Let's say the person of your affection's boyfriend spends too much money - tell him about a new gadget he can't live without. Let's say you like a person with a girlfriend who is too obsessed with her appearance; take her on a shopping trip.
Once you pinpoint whatever is wrong with the couple - and there may be many, many, things - you can go about making it so much worse. Turn that little crack into a gaping hole until they can't help but fall in.
If one person in the relationship wants to get married and the other is reluctant, find ways to bring up the subject of marriage. Talk about your parents' anniversary, invite them to an engagement party, even send them a diamond ring catalog through the mail.
2-4. Try to separate the members of the couple.
Nothing will make a couple lose interest faster than having a good time hanging out separately. Invite your love interest's partner out for a fun night -- or better yet, introduce them to a person they'd click with even more. Do what you can to keep the two people apart as much as possible, making sure they actually like what they're doing when they're apart.
Don't be obvious. Just casually introduce some activities that would naturally keep them away from each other.
2-5. Befriend those in your potential partner's circle.
If you really think that the person you like is in a terrible relationship and that they'd be better off with you, then chances are that their buddies feel the same way. If that's the case, then you should be friendly with their friends without making a spectacle of yourself, just making them think you're a cool person. This may lead them to ask your love interest, "Why are you still with that loser? Why don't you go out with [insert your name here] instead?"
When you're hanging out with the friends of your love interest, don't hang on to your love interest too much. Don't make them think that you're out for their friend; just make them notice that you'd make a great match with their friend.
2-6. Don't be needy.
There's a difference between becoming a closer friend and being available, and acting like you want to hang out with the person you like all the time, in spite of their relationship. Don't try to hang out on obvious date nights, special occasions, or times when you know the couple is spending time together. This will make the person you like suspect that you'd be needy and clingy if you were together - and nobody wants that.
You can make yourself available without texting or calling the person you like every five minutes. Set your trap and wait for them to come to you.
2-7. Create jealousy.
Nothing will make the person you like realize what they'll be missing faster than seeing you with another potential partner by your side. This doesn't mean you should use somebody to make the person jealous; just spend more time with a close friend of a gender you're attracted to, or go on a few harmless dates and report back about it. You'll be surprised by how quickly you'll be seen in a new light, and the situation will grow more desperate. It's good to remind the person that you won't be around forever.
This will make the person think, "Oh no! This great friend I have may get snatched up...oh wait, why should I care? Could this mean that I have feelings for them?"
2-8. React appropriately during the breakup.
Unless it's very obvious that the person is ending the relationship for you, you should not swoop in immediately and start trying to date the person. Instead, you should be a good friend, a sympathetic listener, and just a shoulder to cry on as the person deals with the sad feelings that naturally accompany any breakup - even if it was meant to be.
Tell the person you're always there if they need to talk, and that you can't imagine what they are going through.
Still, don't bad-mouth the other person. Calling the person's ex a jerk or worse right after the breakup might make the person angry.
Know what would cheer up the person. Give them a silly stuffed animal or take them out to a comedy. Just don't do anything too romantic yet.
3. Making Your New Relationship Last
3-1. Don't jump in right away.
Though you may have waited months (or longer!) for the relationship to finally end so you can be with the person you like, this doesn't mean that you should move in all of your things, start hooking up, and introduce the person of your dreams to your parents and fifty closest friends. Instead, give it time. Even if you have decided to date right away, don't spend every moment of every day together -- just see the person a couple times a week, giving them time to heal.
The best thing to do is to give the person time to heal and not to date at all until they are ready. But if feelings are serious, this is easier said than done.
A lot of times, a breakup is kind of a form of death. There's a part of us that has lost something that we had with somebody and that's completely normal. You might have to wait a bit, leaving some space so the other person can shift their heart and spirit before they can start loving again. Be patient.
3-2. Avoid talking about the ex.
Though you and your new partner might have initially spent hours dissecting the previous relationship, this is not the time to rehash it. Though you shouldn't pretend the person's ex doesn't exist, you should avoid talking or asking about them, until the person has had enough space -- this could take months, or even over a year.
Of course, if the person really wants to talk about the past relationship, you shouldn't change the subject. But you can say that you think, in order to focus on your new relationship, you should leave the past behind as much as you can until you have firmer footing.
3-3. Enjoy your new relationship on its own terms.
Don't get stuck in the past, and don't worry so much about being the perfect person for your new partner - just be yourself. If you were really meant to be together, then you'll find a routine that works for you and will find a path to true happiness. Don't compare yourself to the ex, try to be the opposite of the ex, or try to be something you're not.
Sure, you might have used some devious tactics to make your new relationship happen, but if you want it to last, you should think only about the two of you being together - and nothing else.
Even if you had a deep friendship before, you should find new things for you to do together as a couple that can define you as an item, not make you think of the past.
3-4. Don't be paranoid about the past.
You may find yourself in a hard position. Your new love interest has broken up with an ex for you -- who is to say it won't happen again if they find a person who is even more right for them than you are? Well, no one can promise that it won't happen, but to stay sane and have an amazing relationship, you have to tell yourself that the previous breakup was meant to be, and that you and the person you're with really belong together. It won't happen again.
If you always ask about what the ex is up to or act jealous when the person spends time with others, you'll be dooming your relationship to failure.
If it's really meant to last, then in the long run, you'll find that you'll stop worrying about the ex or the previous relationship. But this could take months - or even years. If you're meant to be together forever, burying the past will be worth it.
Tips
If a relationship is already falling apart, it'll fall apart without any help. Consequently, you might not have to do anything. Maybe you shouldn't do anything because it is morally wrong to get involved in other people's affairs.
If you are friends with the couple you are breaking up, you will be forced into a secret relationship.
You have to hang out with one of them (never the other). Make sure you always bust into their conversations! Never let them talk to each other alone. Always text one of them so they won't be able to talk to the other.
Warnings
It's extremely hard to break up a couple that has just gotten together and is still in the honeymoon phase.
Be careful not to get caught in the middle of a lover's quarrel.
Someone may discover your plot.
This is considered morally wrong, but you may not feel guilty.
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Be sure of the person you want to be with.\\nIf you want to break up the person of your dreams and their significant other, then, like Othello's Iago (but far less devious), you have to get in the middle of the couple, slowly but surely. To do this, you have to get the person you like to trust you and to begin to open up to you. Be understanding, agreeable, and sympathetic, and show that you're a good listener. At first, the person may not open up to you about their relationship, but that time will come.\\nJust one warning: there's a difference between being the confidant of your love interest, and falling into the Friend Zone with that person. Make sure you don't act too buddy-buddy or friend-like with the person or they won't ever be able to see you as a love interest. If one of the partners finds out, you are sure to fail. This does not work 99 percent of the time.\\n1-3. Let the person open up about the flaws in their relationship.\\nEvery relationship has flaws, and the chances of a couple past the honeymoon stage and dating for a few years breaking up is low. The worst thing you can do is openly criticize the person's relationship, criticize the person's partner, or generally make the person feel like they are in a doomed relationship. This will make the person feel angry, defensive, and more determined than ever to make things work. No one wants to admit to a failure, especially not in a relationship, so you have to wait for the person to naturally admit a problem on their own.\\nYou can start by just letting the person talk about the relationship. Ask innocent questions. For example, if you know that her band was playing at a local venue the night before but that her boyfriend didn't show up, innocently ask if he liked her show.\\nAsk questions about how the person's night went. If they seem kind of upset, just say, \\\"How was your weekend?\\\" and wait for them to reveal the rest.\\nAsk, \\\"How did that make you feel?\\\" Keep it broad with general questions that encourage the person to keep talking -- and to start seeing the cracks in their relationship.\\nUnfortunately, you may be trying to break up a couple that is in a great relationship, which would make it difficult for the person to reveal anything negative. But if you've made yourself the person's confidant, it's less likely that the relationship is in great shape.\\n1-4. Keep them talking.\\nOnce the person does start revealing the flaws with their relationships and all of the problems with their partner, the worst thing you can do is to completely agree or to say, \\\"You deserve so much better than that.\\\" This will make the person see that you have ulterior motives. Instead, act a bit withdrawn or confused, forcing the person to talk for longer and explain why they are really unhappy -- and why their partner isn't perfect.\\nIf the person has to explain their frustration further and you keep them talking, then they will notice the problems even more.\\nJust keep the person talking any time something negative comes up. Questioning their thoughts will make the person explore them even further.\\nNot criticizing their relationship will also make things better down the line. If you do end up together, no one can tell them that you sabotaged the previous relationship. When you ever openly criticize one of the partners, especially if your plan has failed, it proves you were trying to screw up the relationship.\\n2. Making the Break-Up Inevitable\\n2-1. Be the person that the object of your affection wants.\\nWithout completely changing your personality, you can try to be the person that the person you like is looking for in a relationship. If she complains that her boyfriend never asks about her feelings, make sure to do that. If he wishes his girlfriend shared more of his interests, go hiking or check out the new vegan cafe he was raving about with him.\\nThis isn't as manipulative as it sounds. If you want to be with the person for a good reason, then you should want to be a good partner to them, right?\\nDon't make a big deal about it. If they complain that their partner never does them favors, bring them lunch or coffee when they're having a busy day at work. This may backfire, however, because they might just be using you as an emotional dump.\\nDon't go over the top with this. Doing these things and being a good person for the person you like will naturally make you start to fall into the role of a significant other, but don't do anything too extreme, like get them flowers, or tell them how beautiful they look. It becomes obvious if you do something romantic like buying extravagant things, and the person may take advantage of this and use you for the gifts.\\n2-2. Make yourself more present.\\nThis doesn't mean that you should be at the person's beck and call or to be a lap dog. It just means that slowly, you should start hanging out a little more...and then a lot more. Offer to give them a ride to class, grab a casual bite, and propose an innocent game of tennis and until you've become a part of their everyday routine. Make sure you're not getting obsessive and that your love interest is making some of the calls.\\nDon't be too dependable. The person should see that you have a life of your own -- beyond trying to break up the relationship.\\nBeing more present will help the person see what it would be like to be in a relationship with you. This should give them a good and more certain feeling about you.\\n2-3. Exploit the couple's weaknesses.\\nEvery couple has its own weakness. Let's say they're the kind of people who tend to fight when you're out at big, drunken occasions. Perfect - invite them to your next party. Let's say the person of your affection's boyfriend spends too much money - tell him about a new gadget he can't live without. Let's say you like a person with a girlfriend who is too obsessed with her appearance; take her on a shopping trip.\\nOnce you pinpoint whatever is wrong with the couple - and there may be many, many, things - you can go about making it so much worse. Turn that little crack into a gaping hole until they can't help but fall in.\\nIf one person in the relationship wants to get married and the other is reluctant, find ways to bring up the subject of marriage. Talk about your parents' anniversary, invite them to an engagement party, even send them a diamond ring catalog through the mail.\\n2-4. Try to separate the members of the couple.\\nNothing will make a couple lose interest faster than having a good time hanging out separately. Invite your love interest's partner out for a fun night -- or better yet, introduce them to a person they'd click with even more. Do what you can to keep the two people apart as much as possible, making sure they actually like what they're doing when they're apart.\\nDon't be obvious. Just casually introduce some activities that would naturally keep them away from each other.\\n2-5. Befriend those in your potential partner's circle.\\nIf you really think that the person you like is in a terrible relationship and that they'd be better off with you, then chances are that their buddies feel the same way. If that's the case, then you should be friendly with their friends without making a spectacle of yourself, just making them think you're a cool person. This may lead them to ask your love interest, \\\"Why are you still with that loser? Why don't you go out with [insert your name here] instead?\\\"\\nWhen you're hanging out with the friends of your love interest, don't hang on to your love interest too much. Don't make them think that you're out for their friend; just make them notice that you'd make a great match with their friend.\\n2-6. Don't be needy.\\nThere's a difference between becoming a closer friend and being available, and acting like you want to hang out with the person you like all the time, in spite of their relationship. Don't try to hang out on obvious date nights, special occasions, or times when you know the couple is spending time together. This will make the person you like suspect that you'd be needy and clingy if you were together - and nobody wants that.\\nYou can make yourself available without texting or calling the person you like every five minutes. Set your trap and wait for them to come to you.\\n2-7. Create jealousy.\\nNothing will make the person you like realize what they'll be missing faster than seeing you with another potential partner by your side. This doesn't mean you should use somebody to make the person jealous; just spend more time with a close friend of a gender you're attracted to, or go on a few harmless dates and report back about it. You'll be surprised by how quickly you'll be seen in a new light, and the situation will grow more desperate. It's good to remind the person that you won't be around forever.\\nThis will make the person think, \\\"Oh no! This great friend I have may get snatched up...oh wait, why should I care? Could this mean that I have feelings for them?\\\"\\n2-8. React appropriately during the breakup.\\nUnless it's very obvious that the person is ending the relationship for you, you should not swoop in immediately and start trying to date the person. Instead, you should be a good friend, a sympathetic listener, and just a shoulder to cry on as the person deals with the sad feelings that naturally accompany any breakup - even if it was meant to be.\\nTell the person you're always there if they need to talk, and that you can't imagine what they are going through.\\nStill, don't bad-mouth the other person. Calling the person's ex a jerk or worse right after the breakup might make the person angry.\\nKnow what would cheer up the person. Give them a silly stuffed animal or take them out to a comedy. Just don't do anything too romantic yet.\\n3. Making Your New Relationship Last\\n3-1. Don't jump in right away.\\nThough you may have waited months (or longer!) for the relationship to finally end so you can be with the person you like, this doesn't mean that you should move in all of your things, start hooking up, and introduce the person of your dreams to your parents and fifty closest friends. Instead, give it time. Even if you have decided to date right away, don't spend every moment of every day together -- just see the person a couple times a week, giving them time to heal.\\nThe best thing to do is to give the person time to heal and not to date at all until they are ready. But if feelings are serious, this is easier said than done.\\nA lot of times, a breakup is kind of a form of death. There's a part of us that has lost something that we had with somebody and that's completely normal. You might have to wait a bit, leaving some space so the other person can shift their heart and spirit before they can start loving again. Be patient.\\n3-2. Avoid talking about the ex.\\nThough you and your new partner might have initially spent hours dissecting the previous relationship, this is not the time to rehash it. Though you shouldn't pretend the person's ex doesn't exist, you should avoid talking or asking about them, until the person has had enough space -- this could take months, or even over a year.\\nOf course, if the person really wants to talk about the past relationship, you shouldn't change the subject. But you can say that you think, in order to focus on your new relationship, you should leave the past behind as much as you can until you have firmer footing.\\n3-3. Enjoy your new relationship on its own terms.\\nDon't get stuck in the past, and don't worry so much about being the perfect person for your new partner - just be yourself. If you were really meant to be together, then you'll find a routine that works for you and will find a path to true happiness. Don't compare yourself to the ex, try to be the opposite of the ex, or try to be something you're not.\\nSure, you might have used some devious tactics to make your new relationship happen, but if you want it to last, you should think only about the two of you being together - and nothing else.\\nEven if you had a deep friendship before, you should find new things for you to do together as a couple that can define you as an item, not make you think of the past.\\n3-4. Don't be paranoid about the past.\\nYou may find yourself in a hard position. Your new love interest has broken up with an ex for you -- who is to say it won't happen again if they find a person who is even more right for them than you are? Well, no one can promise that it won't happen, but to stay sane and have an amazing relationship, you have to tell yourself that the previous breakup was meant to be, and that you and the person you're with really belong together. It won't happen again.\\nIf you always ask about what the ex is up to or act jealous when the person spends time with others, you'll be dooming your relationship to failure.\\nIf it's really meant to last, then in the long run, you'll find that you'll stop worrying about the ex or the previous relationship. But this could take months - or even years. If you're meant to be together forever, burying the past will be worth it.\\nTips\\nIf a relationship is already falling apart, it'll fall apart without any help. Consequently, you might not have to do anything. Maybe you shouldn't do anything because it is morally wrong to get involved in other people's affairs.\\nIf you are friends with the couple you are breaking up, you will be forced into a secret relationship.\\nYou have to hang out with one of them (never the other). Make sure you always bust into their conversations! Never let them talk to each other alone. Always text one of them so they won't be able to talk to the other.\\nWarnings\\nIt's extremely hard to break up a couple that has just gotten together and is still in the honeymoon phase.\\nBe careful not to get caught in the middle of a lover's quarrel.\\nSomeone may discover your plot.\\nThis is considered morally wrong, but you may not feel guilty.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Though breaking up a couple is a dangerous endeavor, if you think you really belong with a person who is in a relationship with someone else, then it's worth giving it a shot. To break up a couple, you have to proceed with caution by first planting the seeds of doubt before making the break-up inevitable. If you want to know how to do it, just follow these steps.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Planting the Seeds of Mistrust\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Consider the consequences.\", \"描述\": \"Though you may not think there's anything objectionable about breaking up the person you like and their significant other so both of you will be happier, the world may not see it that way. Also, mature and intelligent couples can see your motives clearly and easily, especially if you have exhibited any jealousy towards one of the partners, claim to be a close friend, or are an ex. \\nIf this is your goal, make sure you're completely certain it's the right thing. Are you willing to sacrifice your dignity? If the breakup is caused by an outside force (you), and not a natural problem in the relationship, the couple may still harbor feelings for each other which might grow stronger over time.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be sure of the person you want to be with.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to break up the person of your dreams and their significant other, then, like Othello's Iago (but far less devious), you have to get in the middle of the couple, slowly but surely. To do this, you have to get the person you like to trust you and to begin to open up to you. Be understanding, agreeable, and sympathetic, and show that you're a good listener. At first, the person may not open up to you about their relationship, but that time will come.\\nJust one warning: there's a difference between being the confidant of your love interest, and falling into the Friend Zone with that person. Make sure you don't act too buddy-buddy or friend-like with the person or they won't ever be able to see you as a love interest. If one of the partners finds out, you are sure to fail. This does not work 99 percent of the time.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Let the person open up about the flaws in their relationship.\", \"描述\": \"Every relationship has flaws, and the chances of a couple past the honeymoon stage and dating for a few years breaking up is low. The worst thing you can do is openly criticize the person's relationship, criticize the person's partner, or generally make the person feel like they are in a doomed relationship. This will make the person feel angry, defensive, and more determined than ever to make things work. No one wants to admit to a failure, especially not in a relationship, so you have to wait for the person to naturally admit a problem on their own.\\nYou can start by just letting the person talk about the relationship. Ask innocent questions. For example, if you know that her band was playing at a local venue the night before but that her boyfriend didn't show up, innocently ask if he liked her show.\\nAsk questions about how the person's night went. If they seem kind of upset, just say, \\\"How was your weekend?\\\" and wait for them to reveal the rest.\\nAsk, \\\"How did that make you feel?\\\" Keep it broad with general questions that encourage the person to keep talking -- and to start seeing the cracks in their relationship.\\nUnfortunately, you may be trying to break up a couple that is in a great relationship, which would make it difficult for the person to reveal anything negative. But if you've made yourself the person's confidant, it's less likely that the relationship is in great shape.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Keep them talking.\", \"描述\": \"Once the person does start revealing the flaws with their relationships and all of the problems with their partner, the worst thing you can do is to completely agree or to say, \\\"You deserve so much better than that.\\\" This will make the person see that you have ulterior motives. Instead, act a bit withdrawn or confused, forcing the person to talk for longer and explain why they are really unhappy -- and why their partner isn't perfect.\\nIf the person has to explain their frustration further and you keep them talking, then they will notice the problems even more.\\nJust keep the person talking any time something negative comes up. Questioning their thoughts will make the person explore them even further.\\nNot criticizing their relationship will also make things better down the line. If you do end up together, no one can tell them that you sabotaged the previous relationship. When you ever openly criticize one of the partners, especially if your plan has failed, it proves you were trying to screw up the relationship.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Making the Break-Up Inevitable\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be the person that the object of your affection wants.\", \"描述\": \"Without completely changing your personality, you can try to be the person that the person you like is looking for in a relationship. If she complains that her boyfriend never asks about her feelings, make sure to do that. If he wishes his girlfriend shared more of his interests, go hiking or check out the new vegan cafe he was raving about with him.\\nThis isn't as manipulative as it sounds. If you want to be with the person for a good reason, then you should want to be a good partner to them, right?\\nDon't make a big deal about it. If they complain that their partner never does them favors, bring them lunch or coffee when they're having a busy day at work. This may backfire, however, because they might just be using you as an emotional dump.\\nDon't go over the top with this. Doing these things and being a good person for the person you like will naturally make you start to fall into the role of a significant other, but don't do anything too extreme, like get them flowers, or tell them how beautiful they look. It becomes obvious if you do something romantic like buying extravagant things, and the person may take advantage of this and use you for the gifts.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make yourself more present.\", \"描述\": \"This doesn't mean that you should be at the person's beck and call or to be a lap dog. It just means that slowly, you should start hanging out a little more...and then a lot more. Offer to give them a ride to class, grab a casual bite, and propose an innocent game of tennis and until you've become a part of their everyday routine. Make sure you're not getting obsessive and that your love interest is making some of the calls.\\nDon't be too dependable. The person should see that you have a life of your own -- beyond trying to break up the relationship.\\nBeing more present will help the person see what it would be like to be in a relationship with you. This should give them a good and more certain feeling about you.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Exploit the couple's weaknesses.\", \"描述\": \"Every couple has its own weakness. Let's say they're the kind of people who tend to fight when you're out at big, drunken occasions. Perfect - invite them to your next party. Let's say the person of your affection's boyfriend spends too much money - tell him about a new gadget he can't live without. Let's say you like a person with a girlfriend who is too obsessed with her appearance; take her on a shopping trip.\\nOnce you pinpoint whatever is wrong with the couple - and there may be many, many, things - you can go about making it so much worse. Turn that little crack into a gaping hole until they can't help but fall in.\\nIf one person in the relationship wants to get married and the other is reluctant, find ways to bring up the subject of marriage. Talk about your parents' anniversary, invite them to an engagement party, even send them a diamond ring catalog through the mail.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Try to separate the members of the couple.\", \"描述\": \"Nothing will make a couple lose interest faster than having a good time hanging out separately. Invite your love interest's partner out for a fun night -- or better yet, introduce them to a person they'd click with even more. Do what you can to keep the two people apart as much as possible, making sure they actually like what they're doing when they're apart.\\nDon't be obvious. Just casually introduce some activities that would naturally keep them away from each other.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Befriend those in your potential partner's circle.\", \"描述\": \"If you really think that the person you like is in a terrible relationship and that they'd be better off with you, then chances are that their buddies feel the same way. If that's the case, then you should be friendly with their friends without making a spectacle of yourself, just making them think you're a cool person. This may lead them to ask your love interest, \\\"Why are you still with that loser? Why don't you go out with [insert your name here] instead?\\\"\\nWhen you're hanging out with the friends of your love interest, don't hang on to your love interest too much. Don't make them think that you're out for their friend; just make them notice that you'd make a great match with their friend.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Don't be needy.\", \"描述\": \"There's a difference between becoming a closer friend and being available, and acting like you want to hang out with the person you like all the time, in spite of their relationship. Don't try to hang out on obvious date nights, special occasions, or times when you know the couple is spending time together. This will make the person you like suspect that you'd be needy and clingy if you were together - and nobody wants that.\\nYou can make yourself available without texting or calling the person you like every five minutes. Set your trap and wait for them to come to you.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Create jealousy.\", \"描述\": \"Nothing will make the person you like realize what they'll be missing faster than seeing you with another potential partner by your side. This doesn't mean you should use somebody to make the person jealous; just spend more time with a close friend of a gender you're attracted to, or go on a few harmless dates and report back about it. You'll be surprised by how quickly you'll be seen in a new light, and the situation will grow more desperate. It's good to remind the person that you won't be around forever.\\nThis will make the person think, \\\"Oh no! This great friend I have may get snatched up...oh wait, why should I care? Could this mean that I have feelings for them?\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"React appropriately during the breakup.\", \"描述\": \"Unless it's very obvious that the person is ending the relationship for you, you should not swoop in immediately and start trying to date the person. Instead, you should be a good friend, a sympathetic listener, and just a shoulder to cry on as the person deals with the sad feelings that naturally accompany any breakup - even if it was meant to be.\\nTell the person you're always there if they need to talk, and that you can't imagine what they are going through.\\nStill, don't bad-mouth the other person. Calling the person's ex a jerk or worse right after the breakup might make the person angry.\\nKnow what would cheer up the person. Give them a silly stuffed animal or take them out to a comedy. 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1. Assessing the Situation
1-1. Keep your distance.
There is no need to get involved in a fight if you don't have to. By keeping your distance, this can help to preserve your personal safety. If you're unsure about what to do when faced with a fight, take a step back or find a safe area. This can be the best course of action.
Place your own safety first.
Use non-violent means, before resorting to physical methods for breaking up a fight.
Physical methods for breaking up a fight are a last resort, and are for use when other options are exhausted or non-existent.
1-2. Look for underlying causes.
Conflicts can be about hidden or unconscious beliefs and values. Being able to determine the true cause for a fight can help you to resolve it. Try to think about the personality and cultural aspects at play, before you step in.
Understand the relationship between the two people in a fight. Do these people know each other? Are they family members? Is this about a romantic interest?
Examine possible motivations. Is this random aggression, or is it driven by a specific feeling of being wronged? The differences in motivations can alter how two people in a fight will respond to someone breaking it up. Random, unprovoked aggression is less likely to be responsive to attempts at mediation, as the aggressor may not have a strong grasp on why they're being aggressive.
Ask questions to anyone who will answer.
1-3. Determine the facts.
Fights can start as the result of a misunderstanding. By determining the truth about what is going on, you can give yourself the upper hand when it comes to calming parties involved. Make sure you have the truth about the situation before charging in. It is better not to involve yourself than to make things worse.
Note who, what, where, when, and why. This can help you take in the whole situation, as well as provide useful if the police become involved.
Talk to witnesses.
Ask questions to people involved.
1-4. Take stock of yourself.
You need to make sure you are prepared to handle such a conflict. Take stock of the state you are in. If you are intoxicated, over-tired, or not dressed for such activity, think twice before attempting to break up the fight.
1-5. Evaluate the people involved.
Figure out the position each party involved is in. If they are intoxicated, armed, or clearly a more than capable fighter, it might not be a good situation to get involved in. Understand the people escalating the altercation, before you decide to interfere.
1-6. Find an authority.
Get a teacher, a security guard, or a police officer. In order to prevent yourself from being in harm's way, get someone trained to grapple with this kind of situation. Immediately find someone in a position of authority to manage the violent engagement.
2. Applying Non-violent Methods
2-1. Create a distraction.
When things between two people get heated, sometimes it is possible to calm them down with a distraction. Mention or ask about their family members or the friends they came with. It can make them think about someone they think fondly of, calming them down. There are many quick ways to break the tension.
Give commands in a calm, authoritative voice. Many fights among children can be broken up this way.
Use humor.
Sing a song, loudly.
Do not yell.
2-2. Make a show of calling the police.
If you loudly proclaim you are calling the police, and then make the phone call, this can quickly break up the fight. No one will want to be around when the police come. This is a quick solution. Be prepared: Charges may be filed against the people involved, and you may need to stay around to speak with the officers.
2-3. Empathize.
This means putting yourself in the other person's position. Empathy taps into the emotional nature of aggression, in order to reason with individuals who may not be in a state of mind to accept logical reasoning. By giving yourself the opportunity to understand how the combatants feel, as well as helping them to understand how their enemy feels, you might find greater insight into how to dissolve the conflict. Invoking empathy can help mitigate aggression.
Ask people in the fight to see it from an other's point of view.
Use language that shows you understand how they people in the fight feel.
Use clear, emotional language to elicit empathy.
2-4. Converse.
Often, talking in a calm voice with aggressors can help them to feel calm. Dialogue can give people the ability to vent some of the emotions bringing on the aggression, making it crucial to conflict resolution. It can also help reveal the source of the problem.
Use “I” statements.
I feel...
I'm hearing you say...
Avoid “you” statements that might feel like accusations.
Ask questions.
Be calm.
2-5. Listen.
Aggression can come from frustration, and sometimes these frustrations just need a kind ear. Give the parties involved each a chance to talk, and help them feel that someone is actually listening to how they feel. Sometimes, people feel better when they get their feelings off their chest.
Use verbal signs you're listening, such as saying, “I see your point.”
Nod.
Make eye contact.
2-6. Mediate.
Encourage both parties to see if there is a compromise. Work with them to help make sure no one is getting a bad deal. Do not impose a solution on the parties involved. Remember to be impartial, as this will help both parties feel comfortable.
Actively listen.
Ask questions.
Gradually help the two parties to negotiate the dispute on their own.
2-7. Facilitate reconciliation.
Try to get the parties to recognize what they did to hurt the other, and to forgive each other. This can help ensure future fights don't occur, and it can also assist in calming a situation down. By helping people to reconcile, we enable them to forgive and put the past behind them.
3. Using Physical Means
3-1. Throw cold water.
Sometimes a blast of cold water can cool down a temper. Toss a cup or pot of water on the people fighting, or get the hose. This is a good way to avoid placing yourself directly in contact with the aggressors.
3-2. Place yourself between combatants.
By placing yourself between two people who are fighting, you can interrupt their fight. It is important to recognize this might result in injury to you. Especially if you feel neither person involved will harm you, this can be a successful solution.
3-3. Restrain an aggressor.
Be cautious when restraining anyone. Many kinds of restraining holds can result in bodily harm. Not only can attempting to restrain a violent person result in harm to you, restraining people can seriously harm the person you're holding on to. While combat holds and other manners of restraint can be effective with an adult, they can cause injury or even death, and are only recommended in extreme situations. It is not suitable to restrain children with combat holds, such as a chokehold.
A firm hug is considered, in some states, an acceptable way to break up fights between children when proper training is lacking.
Hugs can also be used for fights among adults.
Choke/strangleholds
Arm/leglocks
Pinning holds
3-4. Use pepper spray.
It is quite common for police to use pepper spray to break up a fight, but if you're a civilian, consider pepper spray in only the most extreme cases. Pepper spray can not only disable the aggressors, it will also keep the fight from starting back up.
Be cautious with pepper spray, as some people are allergic to it, and it can cause severe health problems.
Extra caution should be taken with pepper spray, as it can be illegal to carry, and spraying someone in the face can be a crime.
Tips
Don't take sides.
Don't get involved unless its absolutely necessary.
Don't lose your calm.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Assessing the Situation\\n1-1. Keep your distance.\\nThere is no need to get involved in a fight if you don't have to. By keeping your distance, this can help to preserve your personal safety. If you're unsure about what to do when faced with a fight, take a step back or find a safe area. This can be the best course of action.\\nPlace your own safety first.\\nUse non-violent means, before resorting to physical methods for breaking up a fight.\\nPhysical methods for breaking up a fight are a last resort, and are for use when other options are exhausted or non-existent.\\n1-2. Look for underlying causes.\\nConflicts can be about hidden or unconscious beliefs and values. Being able to determine the true cause for a fight can help you to resolve it. Try to think about the personality and cultural aspects at play, before you step in.\\nUnderstand the relationship between the two people in a fight. Do these people know each other? Are they family members? Is this about a romantic interest?\\nExamine possible motivations. Is this random aggression, or is it driven by a specific feeling of being wronged? The differences in motivations can alter how two people in a fight will respond to someone breaking it up. Random, unprovoked aggression is less likely to be responsive to attempts at mediation, as the aggressor may not have a strong grasp on why they're being aggressive.\\nAsk questions to anyone who will answer.\\n1-3. Determine the facts.\\nFights can start as the result of a misunderstanding. By determining the truth about what is going on, you can give yourself the upper hand when it comes to calming parties involved. Make sure you have the truth about the situation before charging in. It is better not to involve yourself than to make things worse.\\nNote who, what, where, when, and why. This can help you take in the whole situation, as well as provide useful if the police become involved.\\nTalk to witnesses.\\nAsk questions to people involved.\\n1-4. Take stock of yourself.\\nYou need to make sure you are prepared to handle such a conflict. Take stock of the state you are in. If you are intoxicated, over-tired, or not dressed for such activity, think twice before attempting to break up the fight.\\n1-5. Evaluate the people involved.\\nFigure out the position each party involved is in. If they are intoxicated, armed, or clearly a more than capable fighter, it might not be a good situation to get involved in. Understand the people escalating the altercation, before you decide to interfere.\\n1-6. Find an authority.\\nGet a teacher, a security guard, or a police officer. In order to prevent yourself from being in harm's way, get someone trained to grapple with this kind of situation. Immediately find someone in a position of authority to manage the violent engagement.\\n2. Applying Non-violent Methods\\n2-1. Create a distraction.\\nWhen things between two people get heated, sometimes it is possible to calm them down with a distraction. Mention or ask about their family members or the friends they came with. It can make them think about someone they think fondly of, calming them down. There are many quick ways to break the tension.\\nGive commands in a calm, authoritative voice. Many fights among children can be broken up this way.\\nUse humor.\\nSing a song, loudly.\\nDo not yell.\\n2-2. Make a show of calling the police.\\nIf you loudly proclaim you are calling the police, and then make the phone call, this can quickly break up the fight. No one will want to be around when the police come. This is a quick solution. Be prepared: Charges may be filed against the people involved, and you may need to stay around to speak with the officers.\\n2-3. Empathize.\\nThis means putting yourself in the other person's position. Empathy taps into the emotional nature of aggression, in order to reason with individuals who may not be in a state of mind to accept logical reasoning. By giving yourself the opportunity to understand how the combatants feel, as well as helping them to understand how their enemy feels, you might find greater insight into how to dissolve the conflict. Invoking empathy can help mitigate aggression.\\nAsk people in the fight to see it from an other's point of view.\\nUse language that shows you understand how they people in the fight feel.\\nUse clear, emotional language to elicit empathy.\\n2-4. Converse.\\nOften, talking in a calm voice with aggressors can help them to feel calm. Dialogue can give people the ability to vent some of the emotions bringing on the aggression, making it crucial to conflict resolution. It can also help reveal the source of the problem.\\nUse “I” statements.\\nI feel...\\nI'm hearing you say...\\nAvoid “you” statements that might feel like accusations.\\n\\nAsk questions.\\nBe calm.\\n2-5. Listen.\\nAggression can come from frustration, and sometimes these frustrations just need a kind ear. Give the parties involved each a chance to talk, and help them feel that someone is actually listening to how they feel. Sometimes, people feel better when they get their feelings off their chest.\\nUse verbal signs you're listening, such as saying, “I see your point.”\\nNod.\\nMake eye contact.\\n2-6. Mediate.\\nEncourage both parties to see if there is a compromise. Work with them to help make sure no one is getting a bad deal. Do not impose a solution on the parties involved. Remember to be impartial, as this will help both parties feel comfortable.\\nActively listen.\\nAsk questions.\\nGradually help the two parties to negotiate the dispute on their own.\\n2-7. Facilitate reconciliation.\\nTry to get the parties to recognize what they did to hurt the other, and to forgive each other. This can help ensure future fights don't occur, and it can also assist in calming a situation down. By helping people to reconcile, we enable them to forgive and put the past behind them.\\n3. Using Physical Means\\n3-1. Throw cold water.\\nSometimes a blast of cold water can cool down a temper. Toss a cup or pot of water on the people fighting, or get the hose. This is a good way to avoid placing yourself directly in contact with the aggressors.\\n3-2. Place yourself between combatants.\\nBy placing yourself between two people who are fighting, you can interrupt their fight. It is important to recognize this might result in injury to you. Especially if you feel neither person involved will harm you, this can be a successful solution.\\n3-3. Restrain an aggressor.\\nBe cautious when restraining anyone. Many kinds of restraining holds can result in bodily harm. Not only can attempting to restrain a violent person result in harm to you, restraining people can seriously harm the person you're holding on to. While combat holds and other manners of restraint can be effective with an adult, they can cause injury or even death, and are only recommended in extreme situations. It is not suitable to restrain children with combat holds, such as a chokehold.\\nA firm hug is considered, in some states, an acceptable way to break up fights between children when proper training is lacking.\\nHugs can also be used for fights among adults.\\nChoke/strangleholds\\nArm/leglocks\\nPinning holds\\n3-4. Use pepper spray.\\nIt is quite common for police to use pepper spray to break up a fight, but if you're a civilian, consider pepper spray in only the most extreme cases. Pepper spray can not only disable the aggressors, it will also keep the fight from starting back up.\\nBe cautious with pepper spray, as some people are allergic to it, and it can cause severe health problems.\\nExtra caution should be taken with pepper spray, as it can be illegal to carry, and spraying someone in the face can be a crime.\\nTips\\nDon't take sides.\\nDon't get involved unless its absolutely necessary.\\nDon't lose your calm.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"When two people get into a brawl, it can be difficult to know what you should do. There are many steps you can take to calm the aggression, but it is important to keep your own safety first. Before you get involved, have a clear idea what you should do, so that you can choose the best solution. Take all measures to avoid furthering the aggression.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Assessing the Situation\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep your distance.\", \"描述\": \"There is no need to get involved in a fight if you don't have to. By keeping your distance, this can help to preserve your personal safety. If you're unsure about what to do when faced with a fight, take a step back or find a safe area. This can be the best course of action.\\nPlace your own safety first.\\nUse non-violent means, before resorting to physical methods for breaking up a fight.\\nPhysical methods for breaking up a fight are a last resort, and are for use when other options are exhausted or non-existent.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Look for underlying causes.\", \"描述\": \"Conflicts can be about hidden or unconscious beliefs and values. Being able to determine the true cause for a fight can help you to resolve it. Try to think about the personality and cultural aspects at play, before you step in.\\nUnderstand the relationship between the two people in a fight. Do these people know each other? Are they family members? Is this about a romantic interest?\\nExamine possible motivations. Is this random aggression, or is it driven by a specific feeling of being wronged? The differences in motivations can alter how two people in a fight will respond to someone breaking it up. Random, unprovoked aggression is less likely to be responsive to attempts at mediation, as the aggressor may not have a strong grasp on why they're being aggressive.\\nAsk questions to anyone who will answer.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Determine the facts.\", \"描述\": \"Fights can start as the result of a misunderstanding. By determining the truth about what is going on, you can give yourself the upper hand when it comes to calming parties involved. Make sure you have the truth about the situation before charging in. It is better not to involve yourself than to make things worse.\\nNote who, what, where, when, and why. This can help you take in the whole situation, as well as provide useful if the police become involved.\\nTalk to witnesses.\\nAsk questions to people involved.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take stock of yourself.\", \"描述\": \"You need to make sure you are prepared to handle such a conflict. Take stock of the state you are in. If you are intoxicated, over-tired, or not dressed for such activity, think twice before attempting to break up the fight.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Evaluate the people involved.\", \"描述\": \"Figure out the position each party involved is in. If they are intoxicated, armed, or clearly a more than capable fighter, it might not be a good situation to get involved in. Understand the people escalating the altercation, before you decide to interfere.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Find an authority.\", \"描述\": \"Get a teacher, a security guard, or a police officer. In order to prevent yourself from being in harm's way, get someone trained to grapple with this kind of situation. Immediately find someone in a position of authority to manage the violent engagement.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Applying Non-violent Methods\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Create a distraction.\", \"描述\": \"When things between two people get heated, sometimes it is possible to calm them down with a distraction. Mention or ask about their family members or the friends they came with. It can make them think about someone they think fondly of, calming them down. There are many quick ways to break the tension.\\nGive commands in a calm, authoritative voice. Many fights among children can be broken up this way.\\nUse humor.\\nSing a song, loudly.\\nDo not yell.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make a show of calling the police.\", \"描述\": \"If you loudly proclaim you are calling the police, and then make the phone call, this can quickly break up the fight. No one will want to be around when the police come. This is a quick solution. Be prepared: Charges may be filed against the people involved, and you may need to stay around to speak with the officers.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Empathize.\", \"描述\": \"This means putting yourself in the other person's position. Empathy taps into the emotional nature of aggression, in order to reason with individuals who may not be in a state of mind to accept logical reasoning. By giving yourself the opportunity to understand how the combatants feel, as well as helping them to understand how their enemy feels, you might find greater insight into how to dissolve the conflict. Invoking empathy can help mitigate aggression.\\nAsk people in the fight to see it from an other's point of view.\\nUse language that shows you understand how they people in the fight feel.\\nUse clear, emotional language to elicit empathy.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Converse.\", \"描述\": \"Often, talking in a calm voice with aggressors can help them to feel calm. Dialogue can give people the ability to vent some of the emotions bringing on the aggression, making it crucial to conflict resolution. It can also help reveal the source of the problem.\\nUse “I” statements.\\nI feel...\\nI'm hearing you say...\\nAvoid “you” statements that might feel like accusations.\\n\\nAsk questions.\\nBe calm.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Listen.\", \"描述\": \"Aggression can come from frustration, and sometimes these frustrations just need a kind ear. Give the parties involved each a chance to talk, and help them feel that someone is actually listening to how they feel. Sometimes, people feel better when they get their feelings off their chest.\\nUse verbal signs you're listening, such as saying, “I see your point.”\\nNod.\\nMake eye contact.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Mediate.\", \"描述\": \"Encourage both parties to see if there is a compromise. Work with them to help make sure no one is getting a bad deal. Do not impose a solution on the parties involved. Remember to be impartial, as this will help both parties feel comfortable.\\nActively listen.\\nAsk questions.\\nGradually help the two parties to negotiate the dispute on their own.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Facilitate reconciliation.\", \"描述\": \"Try to get the parties to recognize what they did to hurt the other, and to forgive each other. This can help ensure future fights don't occur, and it can also assist in calming a situation down. 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Pepper spray can not only disable the aggressors, it will also keep the fight from starting back up.\\nBe cautious with pepper spray, as some people are allergic to it, and it can cause severe health problems.\\nExtra caution should be taken with pepper spray, as it can be illegal to carry, and spraying someone in the face can be a crime.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Don't take sides.\\n\", \"Don't get involved unless its absolutely necessary.\\n\", \"Don't lose your calm.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Break Up a Long Wall
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1. Define your space with a big piece of wall art.
A large painting or print will make a bold statement.
An oversized piece of art will take command of the room and interrupt a vast wall, making it feel less expansive.
This artwork will set the tone for the entire room. For a more minimalist aesthetic, consider a sober black-and-white piece; a busy, colorful painting will add more vibrance to the room.
2. Hang a large mirror.
No need to limit yourself to paintings or photos.
Display an oversized mirror to give your room depth and movement. Experiment with strategically placing mirrors parallel to a wallpapered wall or an entryway to another room.
Hang a large vertical mirror 8 to 12 inches (20 to 30 cm) off the floor so you can see your entire body when you're looking in the mirror.
Alternatively, hang a large mirror horizontally to reflect light and open up the space.
3. Make a large tapestry the focal point of your wall.
Go for a bohemian look.
Display a large tapestry and give your wall the character it needs, with some added texture and softness.
Not only do tapestries look great, they’re practical: textiles are a lot easier to carry than a large painting or mirror!
4. Make a gallery wall.
Instead of one big painting, curate a wall collage.
This option gives your space a trendy salon feel. And once again, you don’t have to limit yourself to paintings and photos—you can branch out to include tapestries, clocks, mirrors, maps, or even painted ceramic plates or baskets.
Consider making your gallery wall a memory wall: hang photos of loved ones, as well as less traditional decor, like framed ticket stubs, diplomas, and letters.
Pro tip: lay a sheet on the floor and mark off the size of your gallery wall. Then, place your art on the sheet and play around with the arrangement so you know how you want it to look before you start hanging it on the wall.
5. Put tall furniture against the wall.
Tall shelves and cabinets will downplay the length of the wall.
But make sure not to keep all of your furniture pushed up against the wall: it will draw attention to the length of the room.
6. Paint an accent wall.
Define your long wall with a bold paint job.
A sectioned accent will divide the wall into multiple dynamic planes. Or, in a room with a light paint job, you can downplay the expansiveness of your long wall by painting it a dark, rich color to make it feel cozier.
7. Paint a mural.
Take that accent wall a step further.
A mural is sure to add vivacity and personality to your living space. You can hire a professional to create your mural, but don’t be afraid to paint your wall yourself: just like a memory wall, a hand-painted mural can add an extra personal touch.
8. Use wallpaper.
It’s a classic for a reason.
Wallpaper is elegant, fun, and sure to add a pop of boldness to your space, particularly if you only cover your long wall, making this option another variation on the accent wall trend.
Hang wallpaper that is neutral and subdued to create a calming environment, or create a more exciting space with busier patterns and colors.
Want the mural with less hassle? Consider mural wallpaper.
9. Install shelves.
Shelves
You can keep it simple and install a few shelves to display your books and knickknacks, or go nuts and devote the entire wall to shelving for an extreme accent wall.
Consider turning your wall into a living wall by filling every nook and cranny with plants for a verdant, vivacious living space.
10. Install paneling or molding.
Wall paneling
You can get creative with this option and install artificial molding, brickwork, wainscoting, and more to give your wall immediate character. This is also a cheap, simple, and impermanent option if you’re renting your current space or looking to move in the near future.
11. Divide the room with a curtain or a folding screen.
Turn one big room into two distinct spaces.
Hanging a curtain or folding screen partway down the room is an elegant and artistic way to create multiple distinct spaces in your room without building a literal wall. And unlike a wall, a curtain or screen can be folded back to make the room expansive again when you need the space.
Consider different materials to match the desired aesthetic of the room: a transparent lacy or gauzy curtain will give the room a lighter feel, while a heavy velvet curtain will add more drama and privacy between the two spaces.
12. Install a fake wall.
Create another room entirely with a temporary wall.
While you can utilize wall decor to manipulate the illusion of space, a temporary wall lets you manipulate the space itself! You can build a temporary wall to turn a corner of an oversized living room into an office, a closet, or a child’s room—and to create a cozier living room in the process.
Temporary walls are also a great option if you don’t own your living space—or if you just aren’t ready to commit to a real wall.
13. Install a half-wall.
A half-wall is a good compromise between a full wall and a curtain.
A half-wall not only segregates one part of the room—say, an office area or a lounge—from the rest; it can add a lot of extra charm to an otherwise unremarkable space.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Define your space with a big piece of wall art.\\nA large painting or print will make a bold statement.\\nAn oversized piece of art will take command of the room and interrupt a vast wall, making it feel less expansive.\\nThis artwork will set the tone for the entire room. For a more minimalist aesthetic, consider a sober black-and-white piece; a busy, colorful painting will add more vibrance to the room.\\n2. Hang a large mirror.\\nNo need to limit yourself to paintings or photos.\\nDisplay an oversized mirror to give your room depth and movement. Experiment with strategically placing mirrors parallel to a wallpapered wall or an entryway to another room.\\nHang a large vertical mirror 8 to 12 inches (20 to 30 cm) off the floor so you can see your entire body when you're looking in the mirror.\\nAlternatively, hang a large mirror horizontally to reflect light and open up the space.\\n3. Make a large tapestry the focal point of your wall.\\nGo for a bohemian look.\\nDisplay a large tapestry and give your wall the character it needs, with some added texture and softness.\\nNot only do tapestries look great, they’re practical: textiles are a lot easier to carry than a large painting or mirror!\\n4. Make a gallery wall.\\nInstead of one big painting, curate a wall collage.\\nThis option gives your space a trendy salon feel. And once again, you don’t have to limit yourself to paintings and photos—you can branch out to include tapestries, clocks, mirrors, maps, or even painted ceramic plates or baskets.\\nConsider making your gallery wall a memory wall: hang photos of loved ones, as well as less traditional decor, like framed ticket stubs, diplomas, and letters.\\nPro tip: lay a sheet on the floor and mark off the size of your gallery wall. Then, place your art on the sheet and play around with the arrangement so you know how you want it to look before you start hanging it on the wall.\\n5. Put tall furniture against the wall.\\nTall shelves and cabinets will downplay the length of the wall.\\nBut make sure not to keep all of your furniture pushed up against the wall: it will draw attention to the length of the room.\\n6. Paint an accent wall.\\nDefine your long wall with a bold paint job.\\nA sectioned accent will divide the wall into multiple dynamic planes. Or, in a room with a light paint job, you can downplay the expansiveness of your long wall by painting it a dark, rich color to make it feel cozier.\\n7. Paint a mural.\\nTake that accent wall a step further.\\nA mural is sure to add vivacity and personality to your living space. You can hire a professional to create your mural, but don’t be afraid to paint your wall yourself: just like a memory wall, a hand-painted mural can add an extra personal touch.\\n8. Use wallpaper.\\nIt’s a classic for a reason.\\nWallpaper is elegant, fun, and sure to add a pop of boldness to your space, particularly if you only cover your long wall, making this option another variation on the accent wall trend.\\n\\nHang wallpaper that is neutral and subdued to create a calming environment, or create a more exciting space with busier patterns and colors.\\nWant the mural with less hassle? Consider mural wallpaper.\\n9. Install shelves.\\nShelves\\nYou can keep it simple and install a few shelves to display your books and knickknacks, or go nuts and devote the entire wall to shelving for an extreme accent wall.\\nConsider turning your wall into a living wall by filling every nook and cranny with plants for a verdant, vivacious living space.\\n10. Install paneling or molding.\\nWall paneling\\nYou can get creative with this option and install artificial molding, brickwork, wainscoting, and more to give your wall immediate character. This is also a cheap, simple, and impermanent option if you’re renting your current space or looking to move in the near future.\\n11. Divide the room with a curtain or a folding screen.\\nTurn one big room into two distinct spaces.\\nHanging a curtain or folding screen partway down the room is an elegant and artistic way to create multiple distinct spaces in your room without building a literal wall. And unlike a wall, a curtain or screen can be folded back to make the room expansive again when you need the space.\\nConsider different materials to match the desired aesthetic of the room: a transparent lacy or gauzy curtain will give the room a lighter feel, while a heavy velvet curtain will add more drama and privacy between the two spaces.\\n12. Install a fake wall.\\nCreate another room entirely with a temporary wall.\\nWhile you can utilize wall decor to manipulate the illusion of space, a temporary wall lets you manipulate the space itself! You can build a temporary wall to turn a corner of an oversized living room into an office, a closet, or a child’s room—and to create a cozier living room in the process.\\nTemporary walls are also a great option if you don’t own your living space—or if you just aren’t ready to commit to a real wall.\\n13. Install a half-wall.\\nA half-wall is a good compromise between a full wall and a curtain.\\nA half-wall not only segregates one part of the room—say, an office area or a lounge—from the rest; it can add a lot of extra charm to an otherwise unremarkable space.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Decorating your living space is a must in order to feel truly at home in your apartment or house. But that one giant wall can be…a little daunting! However, when you think of that wall as a big blank canvas, it makes the task of decorating a fun challenge. Read on to discover our ideas for breaking up your long wall to help make your home feel…well, like home!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Define your space with a big piece of wall art.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A large painting or print will make a bold statement.\", \"描述\": \"An oversized piece of art will take command of the room and interrupt a vast wall, making it feel less expansive.\\nThis artwork will set the tone for the entire room. For a more minimalist aesthetic, consider a sober black-and-white piece; a busy, colorful painting will add more vibrance to the room.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Hang a large mirror.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"No need to limit yourself to paintings or photos.\", \"描述\": \"Display an oversized mirror to give your room depth and movement. Experiment with strategically placing mirrors parallel to a wallpapered wall or an entryway to another room.\\nHang a large vertical mirror 8 to 12 inches (20 to 30 cm) off the floor so you can see your entire body when you're looking in the mirror.\\nAlternatively, hang a large mirror horizontally to reflect light and open up the space.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make a large tapestry the focal point of your wall.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Go for a bohemian look.\", \"描述\": \"Display a large tapestry and give your wall the character it needs, with some added texture and softness.\\nNot only do tapestries look great, they’re practical: textiles are a lot easier to carry than a large painting or mirror!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Make a gallery wall.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Instead of one big painting, curate a wall collage.\", \"描述\": \"This option gives your space a trendy salon feel. And once again, you don’t have to limit yourself to paintings and photos—you can branch out to include tapestries, clocks, mirrors, maps, or even painted ceramic plates or baskets.\\nConsider making your gallery wall a memory wall: hang photos of loved ones, as well as less traditional decor, like framed ticket stubs, diplomas, and letters.\\nPro tip: lay a sheet on the floor and mark off the size of your gallery wall. Then, place your art on the sheet and play around with the arrangement so you know how you want it to look before you start hanging it on the wall.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Put tall furniture against the wall.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Tall shelves and cabinets will downplay the length of the wall.\", \"描述\": \"But make sure not to keep all of your furniture pushed up against the wall: it will draw attention to the length of the room.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Paint an accent wall.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Define your long wall with a bold paint job.\", \"描述\": \"A sectioned accent will divide the wall into multiple dynamic planes. Or, in a room with a light paint job, you can downplay the expansiveness of your long wall by painting it a dark, rich color to make it feel cozier.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Paint a mural.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take that accent wall a step further.\", \"描述\": \"A mural is sure to add vivacity and personality to your living space. You can hire a professional to create your mural, but don’t be afraid to paint your wall yourself: just like a memory wall, a hand-painted mural can add an extra personal touch.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Use wallpaper.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"It’s a classic for a reason.\", \"描述\": \"Wallpaper is elegant, fun, and sure to add a pop of boldness to your space, particularly if you only cover your long wall, making this option another variation on the accent wall trend.\\n\\nHang wallpaper that is neutral and subdued to create a calming environment, or create a more exciting space with busier patterns and colors.\\nWant the mural with less hassle? Consider mural wallpaper.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Install shelves.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Shelves\", \"描述\": \"You can keep it simple and install a few shelves to display your books and knickknacks, or go nuts and devote the entire wall to shelving for an extreme accent wall.\\nConsider turning your wall into a living wall by filling every nook and cranny with plants for a verdant, vivacious living space.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Install paneling or molding.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wall paneling\", \"描述\": \"You can get creative with this option and install artificial molding, brickwork, wainscoting, and more to give your wall immediate character. This is also a cheap, simple, and impermanent option if you’re renting your current space or looking to move in the near future.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Divide the room with a curtain or a folding screen.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Turn one big room into two distinct spaces.\", \"描述\": \"Hanging a curtain or folding screen partway down the room is an elegant and artistic way to create multiple distinct spaces in your room without building a literal wall. And unlike a wall, a curtain or screen can be folded back to make the room expansive again when you need the space.\\nConsider different materials to match the desired aesthetic of the room: a transparent lacy or gauzy curtain will give the room a lighter feel, while a heavy velvet curtain will add more drama and privacy between the two spaces.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Install a fake wall.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Create another room entirely with a temporary wall.\", \"描述\": \"While you can utilize wall decor to manipulate the illusion of space, a temporary wall lets you manipulate the space itself! You can build a temporary wall to turn a corner of an oversized living room into an office, a closet, or a child’s room—and to create a cozier living room in the process.\\nTemporary walls are also a great option if you don’t own your living space—or if you just aren’t ready to commit to a real wall.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Install a half-wall.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A half-wall is a good compromise between a full wall and a curtain.\", \"描述\": \"A half-wall not only segregates one part of the room—say, an office area or a lounge—from the rest; it can add a lot of extra charm to an otherwise unremarkable space.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Establishing Ground Rules
1-1. Have a talk right away about the logistics of living together.
You do not want to waste any time. It's important to establish boundaries quickly. Without ground rules, resentment for your ex can build up quickly. It may be hard to have a calm, diplomatic conversation after a breakup, but this is vital in the wake of a breakup.
Think about basic responsibilities and interactions, such as household chores and social interactions. Will you still do each other's dishes on occasion? Who sleeps on the bed and who sleeps on the couch? If a mutual friend has a get-together, can you both go? These are questions to ask in the aftermath of a breakup.
It's a good idea to mutually agree to stay out of one another's personal life. If you're living together, this can be difficult. However, you can set a general rule that you no longer get to ask where the other person is going or who they're seeing.
Until you've both moved out, check in regularly. See how the other person is feeling and whether you need to adjust any boundaries and expectations.
1-2. Make a decision about moving out.
Usually, one person will eventually move out. It can be tricky to decide who will make the move. Sit down and have a conversation about who's staying and who's going, as well as financial obligations.
Will the party who moves out still be expected to pay half the rent? It's usually not appropriate to leave the other person hanging financially. Make sure any lingering debts, like utility payments, are taken care of before someone moves out.
If you need a new roommate, you should both agree to find one together. No one should walk away from the lease and leave the other party fully responsible for the extra finances.
It's a good idea to get everything in writing. You want to make sure you come to a clear mutual understanding.
1-3. Try to maintain mutual respect.
There are a lot of emotions involved in a breakup. You may experience feelings of anger or resentment for your partner.
Even if it's hard, do not lash out at your ex. You do not want to create a hostile home environment. Strive to remain calm, even when you're feeling strong emotions.
Keep things cordial between the two of you. You do not have to be best friends in the aftermath of a breakup. In fact, it may be difficult to do so. However, at the very least strive for basic manners.
1-4. Be respectful if you begin dating.
Depending on how long you live together, one or both of you may start dating. This can create an awkward situation. In the event you do begin dating someone while living with your ex, make sure to set respectful boundaries.
It's a good idea not to bring dates home. These situations will likely be uncomfortable for your ex and your date. You should both establish a ground rule that you will not bring dates to the house or apartment you share.
If you are dating someone else, let your ex know. It's a bad idea to hide a new relationship when you're living together. Say something polite like, "I just wanted to let you know, I'm seeing someone. I won't bring him into our home, but I thought you would want to hear it from me and not someone else."
You should also respect the person you're dating. If you meet someone you would like to become involved with, be completely honest with them about your situation. It may be a good idea to wait until your lease is up to start dating.
2. Gaining Adequate Space
2-1. Find another source of emotional support.
If you were living with your ex, you probably relied on them for a lot of emotional support. You likely told your ex about your day, asked them for input when you were stressed, and generally shared most things. It's unhealthy to continue this level of closeness after a breakup, even if you want to eventually be friends. Look for other sources of support so you will resist the temptation of leaning too heavily on your ex.
Talk to close friends and family members instead. If you have a bad day at work, for example, call your best friend on the commute home. This way, you'll have gotten everything out of your system before you get home. You'll be less likely to vent to your ex.
2-2. See if you can stay elsewhere certain nights.
Space is vital after a breakup, and it can be difficult to obtain if you're living together. On certain nights, see if you can stay somewhere else. This will help both of you gain some space.
If you will only be living together for a short period after your breakup, consider staying with a friend until your ex moves out. It probably will not be too taxing for a friend to have a house guest for a week or so.
If you'll be living together longer, you may want to stay at different friends places a few nights each week. You and your ex could also talk about taking turns staying elsewhere. You and your ex could each agree to stay at a friend's place two nights a week, for example.
2-3. Spend time outside your home.
If you really want this to work, stay away from the house or apartment. It can be uncomfortable to relax in a place that contains memories. Actively work on getting out of the house on a regular basis.
You can get out by going to the gym, the library, going for a walk, or just doing anything to get out of the house. The gym can be particularly helpful, as exercise can help you regulate your emotions.
Try to make plans with friends. Good friends will understand why you may need to get out a lot.
2-4. Keep different schedules.
If possible, try to work opposite hours. If your ex works days, you can work evenings, for example. It is possible to live together but rarely see one another.
If different work schedules are not possible, think of other ways to have different schedules. You could, for example, agree to go out with friends different nights of the week. You could also agree to do things like grocery shopping and running errands on different days and times.
3. Regulating Your Emotions
3-1. Practice gratitude.
It can be hard to regulate your emotions during any breakup, but it may be particularly difficult if you see your ex every day. Once a week, remind yourself what you have to be grateful for. This can help alleviate stress and increase feelings of happiness.
Make a list once a week of everything you're grateful for: friends, family, your career, your passions. This can help you put things in perspective. Breakups are difficult, but romantic relationships are not the only route to happiness.
Do not try to do this more than once a week. A daily gratitude list can feel overwhelming. It may be difficult to think of something every day, which can fuel negative feelings.
3-2. Keep up with daily self care.
This is very important. Breakups can cause feelings of sadness, leading to you neglecting your personal care. It's important to keep up with the basics of hygiene, healthy eating, sleep, and exercise.
Sleep can be particularly difficult if you're sleeping on, say, a couch. See if you can find a cheap inflatable mattress or futon after a breakup. This may make sleep easier.
3-3. Stay social.
You should not withdraw completely during a breakup. It's important you have support from those around you. Try to make plans with sympathetic friends who will listen to you vent. In addition to helping you regulate your emotions, this gives you an opportunity to get out of the house. This can provide necessary space from your ex.
3-4. Take it easy for awhile.
It's okay to let go of certain hobbies and extra obligations during a breakup. It's important to give yourself time to grieve and think. You may be inclined to overwork, but this is often a way to avoid emotions. You should confront your feelings instead of burying them in work.
Cut back on extra obligations. Skip a few meetings for organizations you work with, for example. Say no to doing favors for friends.
Make time for self-care, hobbies, and time with friends instead of loading your schedule with extra work.
3-5. Be careful next time you move in with someone.
Strive to learn something from this experience. In the future, make wiser decisions when you decide to move in with a partner.
Do not move in just due to finances or convenience. This can result in you pushing yourself into a situation prematurely.
Wait until the honeymoon phase of a relationship ends before moving in. Strive to date for at least a year or two before cohabitation.
Tips
Be diplomatic. It may be hard, but try not to let emotions like anger, sadness, and resentment control your behavior after the breakup.
Talk to her/him like a friend and not a former lover.
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1. Preparing for the Breakup
1-1. Set up a time to meet with the other person.
Ask them if they have an evening free sometime soon to talk, and pick a date to meet up face to face. It may feel awkward, like there’s never a good time, but try to do it as soon as possible. This will help you avoid drawing things out and hurting the other person even more.
Be respectful about timing as well. As much as you can, try to avoid holidays, birthdays, anniversaries of a loved one’s death, or important career events.
Although it can be tempting to break up with someone over the phone and avoid the pain or discomfort of doing it in person, try to avoid this method as much as possible. Meeting with someone in person shows them that you respect and care for them, gives the relationship some closure, and can help you avoid miscommunications. Try to think about how you would want to be treated if the roles were reversed.
1-2. Choose a quiet, private space where you can talk.
If the relationship is still new and you’ve only been going out for a few weeks, you could choose somewhere calm and low-key, like a coffee shop. If you’re ending a long-term relationship, you’ll want to pick somewhere more private, such as your home or a neutral space.
Avoid loud, crowded spaces, such as parties or bars.
Some good neutral spaces include parks and restaurants.
Choose an open, public place if you're worried about your safety. You can also ask a friend to come along and hang out nearby in case you need help.
1-3. Take time to reflect on your relationship and plan out what you’ll say.
Think about why you want to break up and how you can express that to the other person. Consider what you’ve learned from this relationship, whether about yourself, your likes and dislikes, or how relationships work.
Reflection is the best way to process your emotions and prepare for the breakup itself, rather than jumping right in without giving it any thought and talking in circles.
For example, you may want to break up because your partner easily becomes clingy and jealous. Maybe you’ve lost the spark and don’t feel attracted to them anymore, or maybe your ideas about money, family, or religion are incompatible.
2. Ending the Relationship
2-1. Make the breakup clear instead of just ghosting the person.
Although avoiding them and just letting the relationship fade may seem tempting, this method can be even more painful and confusing for your partner. Take the time to sit down and tell the person that you want to break up. It may feel more awkward or painful in the moment, but clearly ending things will be much better in the long run.
If you find yourself ignoring your partner's calls or pulling away from them physically, think about why you feel that way. Instead of acting distant, you may need to have a serious conversation about ending the relationship.
2-2. Give concrete and logical reasons for why you want to break up.
Be firm and clear with your significant other when you lay out why the relationship isn’t working. This may seem a little harsh, but if you do it with compassion, logic can actually help the other person deal with the breakup more smoothly.
For example, you could say, “I love spending time with you, but ultimately, I want to get married someday. I know you don’t believe in marriage, so I think it’s best if we end things now.”
If you don’t have a very concrete reason, try to center your reasons around the relationship, rather than them as a person. For example, you could say “We seem to have very different goals now” or “Our values just don’t match up.”
2-3. Let them know what you’ve appreciated about the relationship.
At this point, your significant other is probably feeling discouraged and upset. Try to remember and share the positive experiences you’ve had. Tell them something that you’re grateful for about your time together, such as the experiences you’ve both had or something you’ve learned about yourself.
You could say “I’m so glad I met you. Because of you, I’ve learned how to open up to others” or “I’m so grateful for our time together, and I’ll never forget it.”
If you haven’t been dating for very long, you could mention one of their character traits that you appreciate. For example, you could say, “Your sense of positivity has shown me that I really value that quality in others.”
2-4. Express your emotions in a rational way.
Make sure that you say what you need to say in order to avoid carrying it around as emotional baggage. If your emotions turn negative and tempers start to get out of hand, take a few deep breaths and rein it back in.
2-5. Use “I” language to explain your feelings without placing blame.
When you try to explain why you want to break up, it’s easy for the other person to feel attacked or blamed for the problems in the relationship. Using “I” language can help reduce this feeling by naming specific issues and how those issues made you feel, rather than just calling out the other person.
For example, instead of saying “You never came with me to any family dinners,” try changing it to “I felt lonely and frustrated when I had to go to family dinners alone.”
2-6. Be gentle but firm if they try to convince you to stay together.
Rather than let the conversation turn into an argument that goes on and on, just tell them, “I’m sorry, but this is the decision I need to make.” If they don’t respect your decision and continue to push you, then tell them politely that your decision is final, and then leave.
3. Staying Strong
3-1. Don’t feel guilty about breaking up.
Breaking off a relationship when it’s not working isn’t something you should feel guilty about—in fact, it’s a form of self-care. You’re also showing the other person compassion. Odds are, they’re aware of the same issues that you are but they just can’t bring themselves to do it.
3-2. Don’t contact your ex for a few months after you break up.
Give your ex at least a few months to process the breakup before reaching out. This means getting them off of your mind by cutting off communication through social media, texting, calling, or face-to-face interactions. Time apart from each other is necessary and, in the long run, beneficial for both you and your ex.
This may also mean deleting their number from your phone, unfollowing and unfriending them, and deleting photos of the two of you.
If you’re worried about seeming cruel or cold, let the person know that this is something you’ll need following the breakup.
3-3. Take care of yourself and let yourself heal.
Even if you’re the one initiating the breakup, it’ll probably be painful for you, too. Remember to give yourself time to grieve and adjust to the change. Focus on self-care activities and doing things that you enjoy, such as spending time with friends and family, being in nature, exercising, taking bubble baths, and reading.
Don't turn to alcohol or drugs to make yourself feel better. In the end, these things can actually make the healing process more difficult.
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How to Break Up with Someone Gently over Text
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1. When is it okay to break up with someone over text?
Break-up texts get a bad rap, but there are legitimate reasons to send one.
Here’s when breaking up over text makes sense:
If you haven’t made the relationship “official” yet
If you’re unable to see them in person soon
If you’re worried they won’t listen to you or take the news appropriately
2. “I've had a lovely time on our dates so far...”
Tell them how much you loved spending time with them.
While it won’t make them feel all the way better, it can soften the blow of a breakup just a little bit. Start your text out with something nice, like:
“Hey Amber! I really enjoyed spending time with you last week.”
“Hi John, I’ve had a lovely time on our dates so far.”
3. “I didn’t feel a connection this time around.”
Tell them why you’re breaking up, but leave out unnecessary details that might be unkind.
Make it clear that you don’t want to see them again, and explain the reason why. However, there’s no need to be insulting about it. Say something like:
“I just can’t see us working out long-term. We want different things, so it’s probably best we go our separate ways.”
Or, “I don’t think we’re a match since we’re at different stages right now, but I wish you luck out there!”
4. “I’m not ready for a relationship, and that’s not fair to you.”
This puts the fault on you, not the other person.
Instead of blaming your date for how they acted or what they did, tell them why it doesn’t work for you. That way, they’ll feel better about themselves and the breakup. Try something like:
“I just got out of a long-term thing, and so I’m not in a good emotional place to date right now.”
“I’m overwhelmed with work and school right now, and I don’t have the time to commit to someone.”
5. “You seem super cool, but I see us more as friends.”
If the spark isn’t there, you may just want to be friends.
Only use this line if you actually plan on keeping up a friendship with them, though. If you like the person and you genuinely want to hang out platonically, go ahead and tell them that.
Try something like, “I really like hanging out with you, but I’m getting more of a best friends vibe than a romantic one.”
“I’d love to hang out again, but platonically instead of romantically.”
6. “I didn’t quite feel a spark.”
It’s an easy way to let someone down gently.
Sometimes you just don’t want to be with someone anymore because there’s no spark, and that’s okay! Be clear about your reasoning, and don’t leave any room for questions. Say something like:
“I had a really fun time on our date, but I’m just not feeling a connection with you.”
Or, “I had such a good time on our dates, but I just didn’t feel a spark.”
7. “You and I want different things right now, and I think we should both pursue those!”
If you have different lifestyles, this is a good way to put it.
Maybe they’re a big partier and you prefer staying at home, or maybe they want to settle down and have a family and you want to travel the world. You can cut off your relationship by saying something like:
“I’m just not sure I see this lasting long-term. It seems like we have different goals in life, so I’m not sure we’d work out.”
“You have super cool life plans, but I can’t see myself in them. It might be best if we part ways now.”
8. “I need to reconnect with myself and take a break from dating.”
Maybe you just aren’t ready to date anyone, and that’s okay.
If you went out on a few dates and realized you’re not over your ex or you just want to be single, it’s fine to tell them that. Let them know by saying something like:
“I realized that I’m not ready for a relationship yet. I hope you can understand.”
“I need to focus on myself for now, so I think I’m going to stay single for a while.”
9. “I hope you find someone amazing!”
Avoid saying sorry and wish the other person well instead.
You aren’t doing anything wrong when breaking up with someone. Just because you weren’t feeling a connection doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. Although it might be tempting, saying “I’m sorry” to someone as you break up with them can actually make them feel worse.
Saying you’re sorry can send mixed signals or lead your ex to think that you’re in the wrong.
10. “Let me know if you want me to clarify anything.”
They might be confused as to why you’re breaking up.
If they text you back with any questions, answer them as best you can without hurting their feelings. They have a right to know why it’s not working out, so tell the truth.
For instance, they might ask, “I’m confused, didn’t you have a good time?” You could answer with, “I did, but I see you as more of a friend than a romantic partner.”
11. Cut contact afterwards.
Unless you plan on staying friends, it’s best to go no contact.
Texting them or hitting them up on social media could be confusing, and they might think you want to get back together. Focus on moving on and let them move on, too.
If they reach out to you again, it’s probably best to ignore their message.
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Try something like:\\n“I just got out of a long-term thing, and so I’m not in a good emotional place to date right now.”\\n“I’m overwhelmed with work and school right now, and I don’t have the time to commit to someone.”\\n5. “You seem super cool, but I see us more as friends.”\\nIf the spark isn’t there, you may just want to be friends.\\nOnly use this line if you actually plan on keeping up a friendship with them, though. If you like the person and you genuinely want to hang out platonically, go ahead and tell them that.\\nTry something like, “I really like hanging out with you, but I’m getting more of a best friends vibe than a romantic one.”\\n“I’d love to hang out again, but platonically instead of romantically.”\\n6. “I didn’t quite feel a spark.”\\nIt’s an easy way to let someone down gently.\\nSometimes you just don’t want to be with someone anymore because there’s no spark, and that’s okay! Be clear about your reasoning, and don’t leave any room for questions. Say something like:\\n“I had a really fun time on our date, but I’m just not feeling a connection with you.”\\nOr, “I had such a good time on our dates, but I just didn’t feel a spark.”\\n7. “You and I want different things right now, and I think we should both pursue those!”\\nIf you have different lifestyles, this is a good way to put it.\\nMaybe they’re a big partier and you prefer staying at home, or maybe they want to settle down and have a family and you want to travel the world. You can cut off your relationship by saying something like:\\n“I’m just not sure I see this lasting long-term. It seems like we have different goals in life, so I’m not sure we’d work out.”\\n“You have super cool life plans, but I can’t see myself in them. It might be best if we part ways now.”\\n8. “I need to reconnect with myself and take a break from dating.”\\nMaybe you just aren’t ready to date anyone, and that’s okay.\\nIf you went out on a few dates and realized you’re not over your ex or you just want to be single, it’s fine to tell them that. Let them know by saying something like:\\n“I realized that I’m not ready for a relationship yet. I hope you can understand.”\\n“I need to focus on myself for now, so I think I’m going to stay single for a while.”\\n9. “I hope you find someone amazing!”\\nAvoid saying sorry and wish the other person well instead.\\nYou aren’t doing anything wrong when breaking up with someone. Just because you weren’t feeling a connection doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. 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Focus on moving on and let them move on, too.\\nIf they reach out to you again, it’s probably best to ignore their message.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you’ve been on a few dates with someone and you just aren’t feeling it, you might be wondering how you can let them know. Sending someone a breakup text is never easy, but there are a few ways you can let them down gently so you don’t hurt their feelings. Keep reading to learn how you can break up with someone over text kindly, without making them feel bad. This article is based on an interview with our professional matchmaker & dating coach, Patti Novak Williams. Check out the full interview here.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"When is it okay to break up with someone over text?\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Break-up texts get a bad rap, but there are legitimate reasons to send one.\", \"描述\": \"Here’s when breaking up over text makes sense:\\nIf you haven’t made the relationship “official” yet\\nIf you’re unable to see them in person soon\\nIf you’re worried they won’t listen to you or take the news appropriately\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"“I've had a lovely time on our dates so far...”\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Tell them how much you loved spending time with them.\", \"描述\": \"While it won’t make them feel all the way better, it can soften the blow of a breakup just a little bit. Start your text out with something nice, like:\\n“Hey Amber! I really enjoyed spending time with you last week.”\\n“Hi John, I’ve had a lovely time on our dates so far.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"“I didn’t feel a connection this time around.”\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Tell them why you’re breaking up, but leave out unnecessary details that might be unkind.\", \"描述\": \"Make it clear that you don’t want to see them again, and explain the reason why. However, there’s no need to be insulting about it. Say something like:\\n“I just can’t see us working out long-term. We want different things, so it’s probably best we go our separate ways.”\\nOr, “I don’t think we’re a match since we’re at different stages right now, but I wish you luck out there!”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"“I’m not ready for a relationship, and that’s not fair to you.”\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"This puts the fault on you, not the other person.\", \"描述\": \"Instead of blaming your date for how they acted or what they did, tell them why it doesn’t work for you. That way, they’ll feel better about themselves and the breakup. Try something like:\\n“I just got out of a long-term thing, and so I’m not in a good emotional place to date right now.”\\n“I’m overwhelmed with work and school right now, and I don’t have the time to commit to someone.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"“You seem super cool, but I see us more as friends.”\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"If the spark isn’t there, you may just want to be friends.\", \"描述\": \"Only use this line if you actually plan on keeping up a friendship with them, though. If you like the person and you genuinely want to hang out platonically, go ahead and tell them that.\\nTry something like, “I really like hanging out with you, but I’m getting more of a best friends vibe than a romantic one.”\\n“I’d love to hang out again, but platonically instead of romantically.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"“I didn’t quite feel a spark.”\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"It’s an easy way to let someone down gently.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes you just don’t want to be with someone anymore because there’s no spark, and that’s okay! Be clear about your reasoning, and don’t leave any room for questions. Say something like:\\n“I had a really fun time on our date, but I’m just not feeling a connection with you.”\\nOr, “I had such a good time on our dates, but I just didn’t feel a spark.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"“You and I want different things right now, and I think we should both pursue those!”\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"If you have different lifestyles, this is a good way to put it.\", \"描述\": \"Maybe they’re a big partier and you prefer staying at home, or maybe they want to settle down and have a family and you want to travel the world. You can cut off your relationship by saying something like:\\n“I’m just not sure I see this lasting long-term. It seems like we have different goals in life, so I’m not sure we’d work out.”\\n“You have super cool life plans, but I can’t see myself in them. It might be best if we part ways now.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"“I need to reconnect with myself and take a break from dating.”\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Maybe you just aren’t ready to date anyone, and that’s okay.\", \"描述\": \"If you went out on a few dates and realized you’re not over your ex or you just want to be single, it’s fine to tell them that. Let them know by saying something like:\\n“I realized that I’m not ready for a relationship yet. I hope you can understand.”\\n“I need to focus on myself for now, so I think I’m going to stay single for a while.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"“I hope you find someone amazing!”\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Avoid saying sorry and wish the other person well instead.\", \"描述\": \"You aren’t doing anything wrong when breaking up with someone. Just because you weren’t feeling a connection doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. Although it might be tempting, saying “I’m sorry” to someone as you break up with them can actually make them feel worse.\\nSaying you’re sorry can send mixed signals or lead your ex to think that you’re in the wrong.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"“Let me know if you want me to clarify anything.”\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"They might be confused as to why you’re breaking up.\", \"描述\": \"If they text you back with any questions, answer them as best you can without hurting their feelings. They have a right to know why it’s not working out, so tell the truth.\\nFor instance, they might ask, “I’m confused, didn’t you have a good time?” You could answer with, “I did, but I see you as more of a friend than a romantic partner.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Cut contact afterwards.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Unless you plan on staying friends, it’s best to go no contact.\", \"描述\": \"Texting them or hitting them up on social media could be confusing, and they might think you want to get back together. Focus on moving on and let them move on, too.\\nIf they reach out to you again, it’s probably best to ignore their message.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Picking the Right Time & Place
1-1. Choose the right time.
Avoid holidays and special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries at all costs. Do you really want your ex remembering your insensitivity every time that day rolls around? No you don't.
Statistics show that most students break up during summer break. For everyone else, Monday seems to be the most popular day of the week for breaking up.
1-2. Pick an appropriate place.
The less public, the better. Don't do it in a place where the person on the receiving end isn't going to feel especially vulnerable. Avoid these break up locations at all costs:
The office.
At a wedding.
In a car.
At school.
In a restaurant or nightclub.
2. Doing the Right Thing
2-1. Do it in person.
If the relationship is relatively new, maybe you can get away with breaking up over the phone. Maybe. But come on, if you've been out on more than a handful of dates, isn't that kind of harsh? Do the right thing and end the relationship in person.
Having one final talk together is a good way to bring closure to the relationship.
As painful as it may be, a relationship-ending conversation might enable you to learn something about yourself and set the stage for something better in the future.
2-2. Don't lie.
You may try to be sparing their feelings, but it will blow up in your face when you're caught. You will be considered untrustworthy, and your reputation will falter. Your friends might back you up, but that doesn't mean the rest of the world will.
3. Avoiding Insensitivity
Be honest but sensitive.
No one likes to get dumped. But we at least appreciate the truth when it's over. Unless, of course, the truth is you've stopped finding them attractive, you've met someone better, or that you're just plain bored with the relationship.
There's no point being negative. Try to exit with as much decorum as possible. Even if there's bad blood, always take the high road. You'll be glad you did.
4. Keeping Things Civil
4-1. Keep your emotions in check.
Don't seem too happy about the break up: you'll come off as mean-spirited. Just be kind, caring, and considerate.
4-2. Don't react.
Some people don't handle rejection well. Some people yell, scream, or cry. But it doesn't mean you should react to their meltdown. Remember, rejection is tough. You've already got the status of being the dumper. If their tantrum escalates, get out of there! Don't wait around for the messy aftermath. Only try to ignore when the conversation is yelling and screaming, try to be and remain civil in all other situations. Be honest and sensitive and try to listen to their emotions and act upon them.
Pause before reacting to the situation. You can end up saying things you may regret.
Be mindful of your self-talk and how you treat yourself at that moment.
It is through pausing and becoming aware that you can choose how you want to navigate those moments of pain and what is going to be the best way forward.
Tips
Lastly, ask yourself this question. Would you be happier if you aren't together anymore?
The longer the relationship lasts, the harder the breakup is, so don't put it off for long or don't put it off at all.
Never say "I'm dumping you" or "It's over." Let it down more lightly by saying "I think it would be best if we weren't together anymore."
Warnings
Weigh in carefully on your decision to break up, without analyzing it to death. Is this really what your heart wants? You may not be able to reverse your decision once it's made, and you may burn bridges in the process.
Keep yourself safe. If you are afraid of the person you are breaking up with, tell someone you trust, such as your parents, coworkers or friends. Don't put yourself in a dangerous position.
Avoid cliches. If the person has heard it before, it may come off as insensitive.
Never lie about the breakup reasons.
Never tell a third party who is not extremely trustworthy or who is friendly with both partners that you are planning to break up with your relationship partner. If you want to break up with style, it is important that your partner hears it from you first.
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Do the right thing and end the relationship in person.\\nHaving one final talk together is a good way to bring closure to the relationship.\\nAs painful as it may be, a relationship-ending conversation might enable you to learn something about yourself and set the stage for something better in the future.\\n2-2. Don't lie.\\nYou may try to be sparing their feelings, but it will blow up in your face when you're caught. You will be considered untrustworthy, and your reputation will falter. Your friends might back you up, but that doesn't mean the rest of the world will.\\n3. Avoiding Insensitivity\\nBe honest but sensitive.\\nNo one likes to get dumped. But we at least appreciate the truth when it's over. Unless, of course, the truth is you've stopped finding them attractive, you've met someone better, or that you're just plain bored with the relationship.\\nThere's no point being negative. Try to exit with as much decorum as possible. 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You can end up saying things you may regret.\\nBe mindful of your self-talk and how you treat yourself at that moment.\\nIt is through pausing and becoming aware that you can choose how you want to navigate those moments of pain and what is going to be the best way forward.\\nTips\\nLastly, ask yourself this question. Would you be happier if you aren't together anymore?\\nThe longer the relationship lasts, the harder the breakup is, so don't put it off for long or don't put it off at all.\\nNever say \\\"I'm dumping you\\\" or \\\"It's over.\\\" Let it down more lightly by saying \\\"I think it would be best if we weren't together anymore.\\\"\\nWarnings\\nWeigh in carefully on your decision to break up, without analyzing it to death. Is this really what your heart wants? You may not be able to reverse your decision once it's made, and you may burn bridges in the process.\\nKeep yourself safe. If you are afraid of the person you are breaking up with, tell someone you trust, such as your parents, coworkers or friends. Don't put yourself in a dangerous position.\\nAvoid cliches. If the person has heard it before, it may come off as insensitive.\\nNever lie about the breakup reasons.\\nNever tell a third party who is not extremely trustworthy or who is friendly with both partners that you are planning to break up with your relationship partner. If you want to break up with style, it is important that your partner hears it from you first.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"We all know breaking up is hard to do. But unless you're in one of the few teen romances turned happily-ever-after, breaking up is an unavoidable part of life. 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How to Break Up with Someone Who Doesn't Have a Place to Stay
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1. End the relationship as soon as possible.
Don’t drag it out for the sake of your partner.
It’s not a good idea to put it off in the hopes that your partner gets the hint. As soon as you know you want to break up, sit your partner down and let it all out.
Making the decision to break up might leave you feeling guilty, but it’s better for both of you to break up if you aren’t happy in the relationship.
2. Break up in person.
It’s the polite thing to do.
Avoid telling them over text or a phone call, and try to sit down in a private place to talk things out. Emotions are going to run high, and you don’t want to talk about a heavy topic like this around other people.
Your home is probably the best spot to do this.
3. Explain why you’re breaking up.
Give your partner a reasonable explanation for the breakup.
Remember, there are tons of good reasons for breaking up, including the fact that you just aren’t in love with your partner anymore. Try to explain things calmly and clearly, and answer any questions that your partner might have.
For instance, you might say, “I just don’t think I’m happy in this relationship anymore, and it’s not fair to you to stay in something I’m not committed to.”
4. Be kind as you break the news.
Breakups are tough for everyone.
As you two talk, try not to get angry or yell at your ex-partner. You can comfort them if they get upset, but keep yourself slightly removed from the situation so you don’t get coerced into getting back together. Talk about how grateful you are for the time you’ve had together, and emphasize that there’s nothing they can do to get you two back together.
If they truly have nowhere to go, they might use that as a ploy to make you feel sorry for them. Remember that they’re an adult and they don’t need to rely on you to survive.
Your partner might ask if there’s any way you two can stay together. If you’re dead set on breaking up, just tell them that you’ve made up your mind.
5. Give a deadline for moving out.
You can give them as much or as little time as you see fit.
In general, it’s probably nice to give them 2 weeks to 1 month to move out. Let them know that you won’t kick them out right away so they have time to find somewhere else to go.
Any timeline longer than a month is probably too long. Try to keep it less than 4 weeks if possible.
Try to think about how much stuff they have to pack up when considering a timeline.
6. Recommend a few options for them.
If you have any ideas on where they could go, let them know.
They don’t have to take your advice, but it might give them a starting point as they look around. Cheap apartments, family members in another state, and even shelters are all options for your ex-partner.
You might also suggest that they stay with a friend for a little while until they figure out a permanent option.
7. Set boundaries for yourself.
Only help your ex-partner as much as you’d like to.
Keep in mind that you don’t owe your ex anything, even if they try to guilt you into it. You can help them look for new places or apply for jobs if you’d like to, but you don’t have to.
If your ex tries to get you to do something that you don’t want to, say, “I’ve helped you out as much as I can, but you’re going to have to figure out the rest on your own.”
8. Talk about logistics.
You may have to chat about money or bills a few more times.
If you need to talk with your ex about stuff like that, try not to let your emotions take over. Keep things strictly business-like, and try not to let your ex bring emotions into it either.
If you’ve been living together for a while, you might need to take your ex off the lease, switch utilities from their name into yours, or separate your bank accounts.
9. Divvy up your possessions.
Talk about what your ex is going to take with them when they leave.
If they don’t have a place lined up, they might not be able to take anything large, like furniture. If they do manage to land a place, talk about what they can take with them and what’s yours to keep.
Keep in mind that you might also have to talk about your pets if you have them. It’s up to you two to decide who gets to keep which pet or if you’re going to share custody of them.
Try to avoid bickering over the small stuff. It will only prolong the amount of time your ex is in the home.
10. Live together as roommates for a little bit.
It might feel awkward, but it won’t last forever.
As your ex-partner gathers their things and figures out somewhere else to live, you’ll still be living together. Figure out where you’re going to sleep (someone can take the couch or the spare room) and how chores are going to get done as roommates instead of partners.
You can also talk about which days of the week your ex can have friends over or which days of the week you’ll be out of the house.
11. Tell your ex to move out on time.
Don’t let your ex push you into giving more time.
As the date approaches, remind them that they need to be out on this specific day. Remember that they’re an adult, and if they haven’t figured out somewhere else to go in that time period, it’s not your problem.
On the day that your ex is set to move out, you might want to make yourself scarce. Head out for the day to give your ex time to pack their things and leave without a ton of awkwardness.
Tips
If you aren’t happy in your relationship, breaking up is the best thing you can do for the both of you. It can seem tough right now, but your future self will thank you.
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Try to explain things calmly and clearly, and answer any questions that your partner might have.\\nFor instance, you might say, “I just don’t think I’m happy in this relationship anymore, and it’s not fair to you to stay in something I’m not committed to.”\\n4. Be kind as you break the news.\\nBreakups are tough for everyone.\\nAs you two talk, try not to get angry or yell at your ex-partner. You can comfort them if they get upset, but keep yourself slightly removed from the situation so you don’t get coerced into getting back together. Talk about how grateful you are for the time you’ve had together, and emphasize that there’s nothing they can do to get you two back together.\\nIf they truly have nowhere to go, they might use that as a ploy to make you feel sorry for them. Remember that they’re an adult and they don’t need to rely on you to survive.\\nYour partner might ask if there’s any way you two can stay together. If you’re dead set on breaking up, just tell them that you’ve made up your mind.\\n5. Give a deadline for moving out.\\nYou can give them as much or as little time as you see fit.\\nIn general, it’s probably nice to give them 2 weeks to 1 month to move out. Let them know that you won’t kick them out right away so they have time to find somewhere else to go.\\nAny timeline longer than a month is probably too long. Try to keep it less than 4 weeks if possible.\\nTry to think about how much stuff they have to pack up when considering a timeline.\\n6. Recommend a few options for them.\\nIf you have any ideas on where they could go, let them know.\\nThey don’t have to take your advice, but it might give them a starting point as they look around. Cheap apartments, family members in another state, and even shelters are all options for your ex-partner.\\nYou might also suggest that they stay with a friend for a little while until they figure out a permanent option.\\n7. Set boundaries for yourself.\\nOnly help your ex-partner as much as you’d like to.\\nKeep in mind that you don’t owe your ex anything, even if they try to guilt you into it. You can help them look for new places or apply for jobs if you’d like to, but you don’t have to.\\nIf your ex tries to get you to do something that you don’t want to, say, “I’ve helped you out as much as I can, but you’re going to have to figure out the rest on your own.”\\n8. Talk about logistics.\\nYou may have to chat about money or bills a few more times.\\nIf you need to talk with your ex about stuff like that, try not to let your emotions take over. Keep things strictly business-like, and try not to let your ex bring emotions into it either.\\nIf you’ve been living together for a while, you might need to take your ex off the lease, switch utilities from their name into yours, or separate your bank accounts.\\n9. Divvy up your possessions.\\nTalk about what your ex is going to take with them when they leave.\\nIf they don’t have a place lined up, they might not be able to take anything large, like furniture. If they do manage to land a place, talk about what they can take with them and what’s yours to keep.\\nKeep in mind that you might also have to talk about your pets if you have them. It’s up to you two to decide who gets to keep which pet or if you’re going to share custody of them.\\nTry to avoid bickering over the small stuff. It will only prolong the amount of time your ex is in the home.\\n10. Live together as roommates for a little bit.\\nIt might feel awkward, but it won’t last forever.\\nAs your ex-partner gathers their things and figures out somewhere else to live, you’ll still be living together. Figure out where you’re going to sleep (someone can take the couch or the spare room) and how chores are going to get done as roommates instead of partners.\\nYou can also talk about which days of the week your ex can have friends over or which days of the week you’ll be out of the house.\\n11. Tell your ex to move out on time.\\nDon’t let your ex push you into giving more time.\\nAs the date approaches, remind them that they need to be out on this specific day. Remember that they’re an adult, and if they haven’t figured out somewhere else to go in that time period, it’s not your problem.\\nOn the day that your ex is set to move out, you might want to make yourself scarce. Head out for the day to give your ex time to pack their things and leave without a ton of awkwardness.\\nTips\\nIf you aren’t happy in your relationship, breaking up is the best thing you can do for the both of you. It can seem tough right now, but your future self will thank you.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"There’s no doubt about it: breakups are tough. They can be even more tough when your soon-to-be-ex doesn’t have any friends or family they can go stay with. If you’re thinking about breaking up with someone who doesn’t have anywhere to go, there are things you can do to make the breakup period just a little bit easier.\\n\\nHere are 11 tips to help you break up with someone who has nowhere to go (without feeling guilty about it).\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"End the relationship as soon as possible.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don’t drag it out for the sake of your partner.\", \"描述\": \"It’s not a good idea to put it off in the hopes that your partner gets the hint. As soon as you know you want to break up, sit your partner down and let it all out.\\nMaking the decision to break up might leave you feeling guilty, but it’s better for both of you to break up if you aren’t happy in the relationship.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Break up in person.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"It’s the polite thing to do.\", \"描述\": \"Avoid telling them over text or a phone call, and try to sit down in a private place to talk things out. Emotions are going to run high, and you don’t want to talk about a heavy topic like this around other people.\\nYour home is probably the best spot to do this.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Explain why you’re breaking up.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Give your partner a reasonable explanation for the breakup.\", \"描述\": \"Remember, there are tons of good reasons for breaking up, including the fact that you just aren’t in love with your partner anymore. Try to explain things calmly and clearly, and answer any questions that your partner might have.\\nFor instance, you might say, “I just don’t think I’m happy in this relationship anymore, and it’s not fair to you to stay in something I’m not committed to.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be kind as you break the news.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Breakups are tough for everyone.\", \"描述\": \"As you two talk, try not to get angry or yell at your ex-partner. You can comfort them if they get upset, but keep yourself slightly removed from the situation so you don’t get coerced into getting back together. Talk about how grateful you are for the time you’ve had together, and emphasize that there’s nothing they can do to get you two back together.\\nIf they truly have nowhere to go, they might use that as a ploy to make you feel sorry for them. Remember that they’re an adult and they don’t need to rely on you to survive.\\nYour partner might ask if there’s any way you two can stay together. If you’re dead set on breaking up, just tell them that you’ve made up your mind.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Give a deadline for moving out.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You can give them as much or as little time as you see fit.\", \"描述\": \"In general, it’s probably nice to give them 2 weeks to 1 month to move out. Let them know that you won’t kick them out right away so they have time to find somewhere else to go.\\nAny timeline longer than a month is probably too long. Try to keep it less than 4 weeks if possible.\\nTry to think about how much stuff they have to pack up when considering a timeline.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Recommend a few options for them.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"If you have any ideas on where they could go, let them know.\", \"描述\": \"They don’t have to take your advice, but it might give them a starting point as they look around. 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How to Break Up with Someone Who Just Doesn't Get It
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1. Clearing Your Own Head
1-1. Ask for space to allow you to work through your anger and to be certain of your decision.
You are probably angry or hurt, which leads to you wanting to get away from this person whom you either loved or even still love but don't wish to remain with. It's a contradictory thing. If you are angry and still forced to be around this person, it can lead to a blowup. It can also lead to sniping and arguments that bleed out any remaining good from a relationship.
Tell them you are feeling unhappy in the relationship and need some space to think and rid yourself of anger. It might take a firm tone to get this request across but do so and expect the other respects you enough to give you the time to think.
Don't set aside a week to think and then hang out with them the next day. Distance yourself completely. Don't make or accept phone calls or texts. Don't see them, or if you can't avoid that, don't give them too much of your time. Make this time all about you, even if you miss them.
If you miss them too much, try to put it into perspective. Make a pros and cons list. Make a list of what you require out of a relationship. Make a list of what you like about this person and what you dislike. Talk to your friends, go out, and don't change your Facebook status until, you're sure.
1-2. Assess what isn't working in the relationship.
This helps you to be absolutely resolute when telling your boyfriend or girlfriend that it's over. It ensures that you won't cave into pleading to give things another go. Most of all, it'll help you to come across as meaning what you say about the relationship being over. Consider the following:
Did you ask for changes to behavior that was hurting or upsetting you? Only to find that nothing came of it. Did you offer a reasonable cause of action for them to follow but they neglected to even try? In such cases, they've disrespected you and have shown no intention to shape up.
Do you feel that your boundaries are always crossed? Do you feel resentful all the time because you feel as if you're the one giving up or giving in just to maintain the peace? That's not a relationship, it's you are being taken advantage of.
Do you feel suffocated or stifled because this person is always clinging to you, hanging around, checking up on your or acting as if they can't trust you? Do you feel that you can't spend time with friends or other people out of fear of upsetting or angering your boyfriend or girlfriend? Can you spend time alone, just in solitude without them barging in? Clinging, jealous or people who lack trust don't make for good relationships. Until they deal with their low trust issues, they are going to make any relationship feel squeezed.
Do you consider that you're being taken advantage of? Did your partner say they'd change, then refused to do so? In this case, you'll likely find that this becomes a repeated pattern, with you being used all the time.
Are you taking care of yourself, of your own needs? Or is it all about him or her all of the time? Are you transforming yourself just to fit in with their needs and preferences? If this is the case, it's not healthy for you and you'll fail to blossom fully into the person you really are.
1-3. Consider whether or not you're willing to give a second chance.
This will depend on the reason behind why you want to break up. If you've already given plenty of opportunities for this person to change, skip this step. On the other hand, if you feel that you need to do this in order to feel comfortable about having tried your best, perhaps give it one more try. You agreed to be with this person and therefore your judgement must have had some semblance of sanity once upon a time. Trust that judgement and the respect the person your judgement chose. Give them a second chance if you haven't already. It may happen that when you asked for time to think they were thinking too. And perhaps they were thinking about admitting fault or even changing their actions. If you don't have a crucial reason for breaking up, try again. Respect your original choice and give them another chance to measure up.
2. Breaking Up to Really End Things
2-1. Be sure that you've worked through your anger, as outlined in the previous section.
If you're angry, it can be hard to break up firmly but kindly and you really don't want emotions leading the breakup because that leaves you open to persuasion to not break up. After getting yourself some space, you can wait until you've forgiven them. Try to understand things from their point of view. Think about how much you loved/love them. Consider that this is going to hurt them too, maybe even more than you.
That said, don't let guilt change your mind. If you want to break up, if you can't see it working anymore, don't let the guilt of hurting them hurt you more. You must take care of yourself first.
2-2. Talk to your partner about what has led to this.
Refer to the problems, not the personality. Tell them the reasons why the relationship just doesn't work from your perspective. If you still love them, tell them that, it lessens the pain, but be honest. You are breaking up; you don't have to hold your tongue anymore. Tell them the truth about why you were unhappy. Perhaps they will learn from the experience and change for future relationships.
2-3. Confirm the breakup with firmness.
It is necessary to get the point across to them, so they know it's over. Do it gently, preferably right after the talk, but be firm. Let them know there is no more chances and that it is done. Whatever you say ought to make it clear as to how much you've thought things through. This isn't a spur of the moment decision, it's deeply considered, and this goes to helping your partner realize that you're not going to back down. For example:
"I have had a long think about the possibility of us staying together and I just can't see us together in the future. I don't see us sharing the same interests, I don't see us following the same trajectory. I really have thought hard about this because I do care about you, but I just don't consider that we're compatible enough to stay together as a couple."
2-4. Be ready for the possible responses to your firm breakup speech.
Things that you may confront include:
They cry a great deal. This is hard and hugging is okay but nothing more intimate. Don't give in––tears are cathartic and a great form of release, so this is good for them even though it seems awful at the time. Reassure them that they'll be okay because they will be.
They may get angry and shout and call you names. Stay calm and focused on why this is over. Say things such as "I am sorry you feel so upset, I know this isn't easy, but it is over", or "I can understand why you're angry, but anger won't mend what is already broken." In some cases, it's best to say nothing more than "Let's discuss this when you feel less upset. We can't decide anything while you're feeling this way."
They may express relief. This may surprise you, but many people know when the breakup is about to happen, they've sensed it, they know it's on the cards, especially if you've already asked for time out to think. And in that time, they may have reached their own conclusion that it's not worth persevering but didn't want to be the one to initiate the breakup. Don't respond as if you're disappointed with their relief––this is a good outcome for both of you!
2-5. Reiterate your reasons for the breakup if needed.
Maybe the person needs to hear it again, through the tears, shock, or anger. That's okay, it reinforces the message and leaves less room for error. Just continue to be gentle and caring, as you would be with any human being you're talking to. There is absolutely no need to be mean or furious, and every reason to be gentle and considerate; this is a hurtful thing to happen but that doesn't undermine the fact it remains an essential thing to do.
Your partner may keep on saying over and over: "I just don't understand why you'd do this to me." At this point, you can gently let them know that you're not doing it to hurt them, that it is about you realizing that you cannot be a part of a relationship that isn't feeling right to you, that it's about your feelings of incompatibility. Help them to understand that this isn't an act directed at them personally, that they're still a terrific person who deserves a relationship with someone who matches them precisely.
3. Staying Broken Up
3-1. Move on.
Here comes the hard part. Do not remain in contact with your partner over anything other than having them collect their stuff or return things to you. Do not connect via online sites, do not connect via phone or email. Here are some other aspects to consider:
If they keep sending you texts, emails, messages, notes, whatever, then do not respond. It will only give a persistent person hope that there is an opening to get back together again.
If they make use of friends, family, and anyone else to get to you, tell such people firmly that you still care about the well-being of this person but that the intimate relationship aspect is definitely over and that you'd appreciate these people not trying to fix what is essentially your own personal life and choices.
If there are children involved, communicate strictly only about the needs of the children. Continue to see your children or share access to them without entering into discussions about your former love life with your partner. Do not use or allow your partner to use the children as go-between messengers.
Remember—it's very, very normal to feel sad, depressed, or anxious after a breakup. Don't be afraid to reach out to friends, family members, or a therapist to get support and talk about your feelings. Putting a support system in place is vital to your healing process.
3-2. Be kind to your former partner.
Send their things on to them or let them collect these things without being mean about it. You loved this person once, there is no need to smash their record collection or rip up all their photos in a fit of rage. If the relationship was abusive, unkind, or unfaithful, dispose of any memento or image items quickly and quietly without a fuss (a calm ritual is okay) ––remember that this is about your karma too and that while voodooing and burning your ex's items might cause you to feel great in the moment, it feeds the anger. Let go to be happy and treat your former partner as a fellow human being who can go about their life without you now. Best of all, if you don't wreck their goods, back account or anything else they value, there is even less reason for them to keep annoying you or worst still, sue you, which are just more means to keep in touch. Yes, you may be surprised to learn that suing people is a really good way to stay in communication, albeit angrily. Let go in order to be set free yourself.
3-3. Have others intervene on your behalf if your ex won't stop calling and contacting you.
It may be helpful to have friends, family and others inform this person that you really won't respond and that you really meant the breakup when it happened. Sometimes it takes a third party spelling it out to clarify that the relationship truly has ended. It may seem callous but realize that you have already done your best to end things with this person.
3-4. Realize that you may feel weary and shocked for a while.
Even with your thinking things through thoroughly, no longer being part of a couple is a big change in your life and it can take some getting used to. Allow yourself to mourn. It's over but the memories still form a part of who you were at that point in life. It's okay to cry, to perform a calm ritual of letting go (no angry ones) and to feel pain inside. This is all normal. Let go. You're free now.
Even though it feels very intense, you will get through this period and be able to feel good again (and even fall in love)!
Try creating a new routine to support your new life chapter—this can help you feel safe, grounded, empowered, and like you're moving forward and rebuilding your life.
Accepting that the relationship has ended is an important part of creating closure, healing, and peace. It also puts you in a position where you can start opening up to the possibility of what's next.
Tips
Stick to the no phone calls, no texts, no contact, rule if they dog you even after confirming the breakup. Don't allow them to pull you back in.
Date again when you know the baggage has been left where it belongs. Until then, keep working through the issues that hurt you and continue to haunt you, so that you don't repeat the cycle and get yourself into another relationship of the same kind, one that leads to the same outcome. If you give yourself time, avoid rebound dating and let friendships blossom, you'll know when the time is right to start dating again. Until then, enjoy your freedom as an opportunity to grow, mature and become wiser. Rediscover that person you were becoming before this former relationship took over and changed you.
Warnings
If you are afraid that your partner might get or become violent either during or after the breakup, get help. Break up in a public place, contact the police if you are threatened at any time.
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Make this time all about you, even if you miss them.\\nIf you miss them too much, try to put it into perspective. Make a pros and cons list. Make a list of what you require out of a relationship. Make a list of what you like about this person and what you dislike. Talk to your friends, go out, and don't change your Facebook status until, you're sure.\\n1-2. Assess what isn't working in the relationship.\\nThis helps you to be absolutely resolute when telling your boyfriend or girlfriend that it's over. It ensures that you won't cave into pleading to give things another go. Most of all, it'll help you to come across as meaning what you say about the relationship being over. Consider the following:\\nDid you ask for changes to behavior that was hurting or upsetting you? Only to find that nothing came of it. Did you offer a reasonable cause of action for them to follow but they neglected to even try? In such cases, they've disrespected you and have shown no intention to shape up.\\nDo you feel that your boundaries are always crossed? Do you feel resentful all the time because you feel as if you're the one giving up or giving in just to maintain the peace? That's not a relationship, it's you are being taken advantage of.\\nDo you feel suffocated or stifled because this person is always clinging to you, hanging around, checking up on your or acting as if they can't trust you? Do you feel that you can't spend time with friends or other people out of fear of upsetting or angering your boyfriend or girlfriend? Can you spend time alone, just in solitude without them barging in? Clinging, jealous or people who lack trust don't make for good relationships. Until they deal with their low trust issues, they are going to make any relationship feel squeezed.\\nDo you consider that you're being taken advantage of? Did your partner say they'd change, then refused to do so? In this case, you'll likely find that this becomes a repeated pattern, with you being used all the time.\\nAre you taking care of yourself, of your own needs? Or is it all about him or her all of the time? Are you transforming yourself just to fit in with their needs and preferences? If this is the case, it's not healthy for you and you'll fail to blossom fully into the person you really are.\\n1-3. Consider whether or not you're willing to give a second chance.\\nThis will depend on the reason behind why you want to break up. If you've already given plenty of opportunities for this person to change, skip this step. On the other hand, if you feel that you need to do this in order to feel comfortable about having tried your best, perhaps give it one more try. You agreed to be with this person and therefore your judgement must have had some semblance of sanity once upon a time. Trust that judgement and the respect the person your judgement chose. Give them a second chance if you haven't already. It may happen that when you asked for time to think they were thinking too. And perhaps they were thinking about admitting fault or even changing their actions. If you don't have a crucial reason for breaking up, try again. Respect your original choice and give them another chance to measure up.\\n2. Breaking Up to Really End Things\\n2-1. Be sure that you've worked through your anger, as outlined in the previous section.\\nIf you're angry, it can be hard to break up firmly but kindly and you really don't want emotions leading the breakup because that leaves you open to persuasion to not break up. After getting yourself some space, you can wait until you've forgiven them. Try to understand things from their point of view. Think about how much you loved/love them. Consider that this is going to hurt them too, maybe even more than you.\\nThat said, don't let guilt change your mind. If you want to break up, if you can't see it working anymore, don't let the guilt of hurting them hurt you more. You must take care of yourself first.\\n2-2. Talk to your partner about what has led to this.\\nRefer to the problems, not the personality. Tell them the reasons why the relationship just doesn't work from your perspective. If you still love them, tell them that, it lessens the pain, but be honest. You are breaking up; you don't have to hold your tongue anymore. Tell them the truth about why you were unhappy. Perhaps they will learn from the experience and change for future relationships.\\n2-3. Confirm the breakup with firmness.\\nIt is necessary to get the point across to them, so they know it's over. Do it gently, preferably right after the talk, but be firm. Let them know there is no more chances and that it is done. Whatever you say ought to make it clear as to how much you've thought things through. 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That's okay, it reinforces the message and leaves less room for error. Just continue to be gentle and caring, as you would be with any human being you're talking to. There is absolutely no need to be mean or furious, and every reason to be gentle and considerate; this is a hurtful thing to happen but that doesn't undermine the fact it remains an essential thing to do.\\nYour partner may keep on saying over and over: \\\"I just don't understand why you'd do this to me.\\\" At this point, you can gently let them know that you're not doing it to hurt them, that it is about you realizing that you cannot be a part of a relationship that isn't feeling right to you, that it's about your feelings of incompatibility. Help them to understand that this isn't an act directed at them personally, that they're still a terrific person who deserves a relationship with someone who matches them precisely.\\n3. Staying Broken Up\\n3-1. Move on.\\nHere comes the hard part. Do not remain in contact with your partner over anything other than having them collect their stuff or return things to you. Do not connect via online sites, do not connect via phone or email. Here are some other aspects to consider:\\nIf they keep sending you texts, emails, messages, notes, whatever, then do not respond. It will only give a persistent person hope that there is an opening to get back together again.\\nIf they make use of friends, family, and anyone else to get to you, tell such people firmly that you still care about the well-being of this person but that the intimate relationship aspect is definitely over and that you'd appreciate these people not trying to fix what is essentially your own personal life and choices.\\nIf there are children involved, communicate strictly only about the needs of the children. Continue to see your children or share access to them without entering into discussions about your former love life with your partner. Do not use or allow your partner to use the children as go-between messengers.\\nRemember—it's very, very normal to feel sad, depressed, or anxious after a breakup. Don't be afraid to reach out to friends, family members, or a therapist to get support and talk about your feelings. Putting a support system in place is vital to your healing process.\\n3-2. Be kind to your former partner.\\nSend their things on to them or let them collect these things without being mean about it. You loved this person once, there is no need to smash their record collection or rip up all their photos in a fit of rage. If the relationship was abusive, unkind, or unfaithful, dispose of any memento or image items quickly and quietly without a fuss (a calm ritual is okay) ––remember that this is about your karma too and that while voodooing and burning your ex's items might cause you to feel great in the moment, it feeds the anger. Let go to be happy and treat your former partner as a fellow human being who can go about their life without you now. Best of all, if you don't wreck their goods, back account or anything else they value, there is even less reason for them to keep annoying you or worst still, sue you, which are just more means to keep in touch. Yes, you may be surprised to learn that suing people is a really good way to stay in communication, albeit angrily. Let go in order to be set free yourself.\\n3-3. Have others intervene on your behalf if your ex won't stop calling and contacting you.\\nIt may be helpful to have friends, family and others inform this person that you really won't respond and that you really meant the breakup when it happened. Sometimes it takes a third party spelling it out to clarify that the relationship truly has ended. It may seem callous but realize that you have already done your best to end things with this person.\\n3-4. Realize that you may feel weary and shocked for a while.\\nEven with your thinking things through thoroughly, no longer being part of a couple is a big change in your life and it can take some getting used to. Allow yourself to mourn. It's over but the memories still form a part of who you were at that point in life. It's okay to cry, to perform a calm ritual of letting go (no angry ones) and to feel pain inside. This is all normal. Let go. You're free now.\\nEven though it feels very intense, you will get through this period and be able to feel good again (and even fall in love)!\\nTry creating a new routine to support your new life chapter—this can help you feel safe, grounded, empowered, and like you're moving forward and rebuilding your life.\\nAccepting that the relationship has ended is an important part of creating closure, healing, and peace. It also puts you in a position where you can start opening up to the possibility of what's next.\\nTips\\nStick to the no phone calls, no texts, no contact, rule if they dog you even after confirming the breakup. Don't allow them to pull you back in.\\nDate again when you know the baggage has been left where it belongs. Until then, keep working through the issues that hurt you and continue to haunt you, so that you don't repeat the cycle and get yourself into another relationship of the same kind, one that leads to the same outcome. If you give yourself time, avoid rebound dating and let friendships blossom, you'll know when the time is right to start dating again. Until then, enjoy your freedom as an opportunity to grow, mature and become wiser. Rediscover that person you were becoming before this former relationship took over and changed you.\\nWarnings\\nIf you are afraid that your partner might get or become violent either during or after the breakup, get help. Break up in a public place, contact the police if you are threatened at any time.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Sometimes your girlfriend or boyfriend just doesn't get it that it's over. You tell them time and again, but they keep pretending it was simply your emotions talking. It can be quite annoying and even painful to have their non-acceptance thrust in your face all the time. You don't want to hurt them but eventually, you risk blowing up and saying cruel things out of desperation. Here are some ways to be firm, to make it absolutely clear that the relationship is definitely over.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Clearing Your Own Head\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ask for space to allow you to work through your anger and to be certain of your decision.\", \"描述\": \"You are probably angry or hurt, which leads to you wanting to get away from this person whom you either loved or even still love but don't wish to remain with. It's a contradictory thing. If you are angry and still forced to be around this person, it can lead to a blowup. It can also lead to sniping and arguments that bleed out any remaining good from a relationship.\\nTell them you are feeling unhappy in the relationship and need some space to think and rid yourself of anger. It might take a firm tone to get this request across but do so and expect the other respects you enough to give you the time to think.\\nDon't set aside a week to think and then hang out with them the next day. Distance yourself completely. Don't make or accept phone calls or texts. Don't see them, or if you can't avoid that, don't give them too much of your time. Make this time all about you, even if you miss them.\\nIf you miss them too much, try to put it into perspective. Make a pros and cons list. Make a list of what you require out of a relationship. Make a list of what you like about this person and what you dislike. Talk to your friends, go out, and don't change your Facebook status until, you're sure.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Assess what isn't working in the relationship.\", \"描述\": \"This helps you to be absolutely resolute when telling your boyfriend or girlfriend that it's over. It ensures that you won't cave into pleading to give things another go. Most of all, it'll help you to come across as meaning what you say about the relationship being over. Consider the following:\\nDid you ask for changes to behavior that was hurting or upsetting you? Only to find that nothing came of it. Did you offer a reasonable cause of action for them to follow but they neglected to even try? In such cases, they've disrespected you and have shown no intention to shape up.\\nDo you feel that your boundaries are always crossed? Do you feel resentful all the time because you feel as if you're the one giving up or giving in just to maintain the peace? That's not a relationship, it's you are being taken advantage of.\\nDo you feel suffocated or stifled because this person is always clinging to you, hanging around, checking up on your or acting as if they can't trust you? Do you feel that you can't spend time with friends or other people out of fear of upsetting or angering your boyfriend or girlfriend? Can you spend time alone, just in solitude without them barging in? Clinging, jealous or people who lack trust don't make for good relationships. Until they deal with their low trust issues, they are going to make any relationship feel squeezed.\\nDo you consider that you're being taken advantage of? Did your partner say they'd change, then refused to do so? In this case, you'll likely find that this becomes a repeated pattern, with you being used all the time.\\nAre you taking care of yourself, of your own needs? Or is it all about him or her all of the time? Are you transforming yourself just to fit in with their needs and preferences? If this is the case, it's not healthy for you and you'll fail to blossom fully into the person you really are.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Consider whether or not you're willing to give a second chance.\", \"描述\": \"This will depend on the reason behind why you want to break up. If you've already given plenty of opportunities for this person to change, skip this step. On the other hand, if you feel that you need to do this in order to feel comfortable about having tried your best, perhaps give it one more try. You agreed to be with this person and therefore your judgement must have had some semblance of sanity once upon a time. Trust that judgement and the respect the person your judgement chose. Give them a second chance if you haven't already. It may happen that when you asked for time to think they were thinking too. And perhaps they were thinking about admitting fault or even changing their actions. If you don't have a crucial reason for breaking up, try again. Respect your original choice and give them another chance to measure up.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Breaking Up to Really End Things\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be sure that you've worked through your anger, as outlined in the previous section.\", \"描述\": \"If you're angry, it can be hard to break up firmly but kindly and you really don't want emotions leading the breakup because that leaves you open to persuasion to not break up. After getting yourself some space, you can wait until you've forgiven them. Try to understand things from their point of view. Think about how much you loved/love them. Consider that this is going to hurt them too, maybe even more than you.\\nThat said, don't let guilt change your mind. If you want to break up, if you can't see it working anymore, don't let the guilt of hurting them hurt you more. You must take care of yourself first.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Talk to your partner about what has led to this.\", \"描述\": \"Refer to the problems, not the personality. Tell them the reasons why the relationship just doesn't work from your perspective. If you still love them, tell them that, it lessens the pain, but be honest. You are breaking up; you don't have to hold your tongue anymore. Tell them the truth about why you were unhappy. Perhaps they will learn from the experience and change for future relationships.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Confirm the breakup with firmness.\", \"描述\": \"It is necessary to get the point across to them, so they know it's over. Do it gently, preferably right after the talk, but be firm. Let them know there is no more chances and that it is done. Whatever you say ought to make it clear as to how much you've thought things through. This isn't a spur of the moment decision, it's deeply considered, and this goes to helping your partner realize that you're not going to back down. For example:\\n\\\"I have had a long think about the possibility of us staying together and I just can't see us together in the future. I don't see us sharing the same interests, I don't see us following the same trajectory. I really have thought hard about this because I do care about you, but I just don't consider that we're compatible enough to stay together as a couple.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be ready for the possible responses to your firm breakup speech.\", \"描述\": \"Things that you may confront include:\\nThey cry a great deal. This is hard and hugging is okay but nothing more intimate. Don't give in––tears are cathartic and a great form of release, so this is good for them even though it seems awful at the time. Reassure them that they'll be okay because they will be.\\nThey may get angry and shout and call you names. Stay calm and focused on why this is over. Say things such as \\\"I am sorry you feel so upset, I know this isn't easy, but it is over\\\", or \\\"I can understand why you're angry, but anger won't mend what is already broken.\\\" In some cases, it's best to say nothing more than \\\"Let's discuss this when you feel less upset. We can't decide anything while you're feeling this way.\\\"\\nThey may express relief. This may surprise you, but many people know when the breakup is about to happen, they've sensed it, they know it's on the cards, especially if you've already asked for time out to think. And in that time, they may have reached their own conclusion that it's not worth persevering but didn't want to be the one to initiate the breakup. Don't respond as if you're disappointed with their relief––this is a good outcome for both of you!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Reiterate your reasons for the breakup if needed.\", \"描述\": \"Maybe the person needs to hear it again, through the tears, shock, or anger. That's okay, it reinforces the message and leaves less room for error. Just continue to be gentle and caring, as you would be with any human being you're talking to. There is absolutely no need to be mean or furious, and every reason to be gentle and considerate; this is a hurtful thing to happen but that doesn't undermine the fact it remains an essential thing to do.\\nYour partner may keep on saying over and over: \\\"I just don't understand why you'd do this to me.\\\" At this point, you can gently let them know that you're not doing it to hurt them, that it is about you realizing that you cannot be a part of a relationship that isn't feeling right to you, that it's about your feelings of incompatibility. Help them to understand that this isn't an act directed at them personally, that they're still a terrific person who deserves a relationship with someone who matches them precisely.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Staying Broken Up\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Move on.\", \"描述\": \"Here comes the hard part. Do not remain in contact with your partner over anything other than having them collect their stuff or return things to you. Do not connect via online sites, do not connect via phone or email. Here are some other aspects to consider:\\nIf they keep sending you texts, emails, messages, notes, whatever, then do not respond. It will only give a persistent person hope that there is an opening to get back together again.\\nIf they make use of friends, family, and anyone else to get to you, tell such people firmly that you still care about the well-being of this person but that the intimate relationship aspect is definitely over and that you'd appreciate these people not trying to fix what is essentially your own personal life and choices.\\nIf there are children involved, communicate strictly only about the needs of the children. Continue to see your children or share access to them without entering into discussions about your former love life with your partner. Do not use or allow your partner to use the children as go-between messengers.\\nRemember—it's very, very normal to feel sad, depressed, or anxious after a breakup. Don't be afraid to reach out to friends, family members, or a therapist to get support and talk about your feelings. Putting a support system in place is vital to your healing process.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be kind to your former partner.\", \"描述\": \"Send their things on to them or let them collect these things without being mean about it. You loved this person once, there is no need to smash their record collection or rip up all their photos in a fit of rage. If the relationship was abusive, unkind, or unfaithful, dispose of any memento or image items quickly and quietly without a fuss (a calm ritual is okay) ––remember that this is about your karma too and that while voodooing and burning your ex's items might cause you to feel great in the moment, it feeds the anger. Let go to be happy and treat your former partner as a fellow human being who can go about their life without you now. Best of all, if you don't wreck their goods, back account or anything else they value, there is even less reason for them to keep annoying you or worst still, sue you, which are just more means to keep in touch. Yes, you may be surprised to learn that suing people is a really good way to stay in communication, albeit angrily. Let go in order to be set free yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Have others intervene on your behalf if your ex won't stop calling and contacting you.\", \"描述\": \"It may be helpful to have friends, family and others inform this person that you really won't respond and that you really meant the breakup when it happened. Sometimes it takes a third party spelling it out to clarify that the relationship truly has ended. It may seem callous but realize that you have already done your best to end things with this person.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Realize that you may feel weary and shocked for a while.\", \"描述\": \"Even with your thinking things through thoroughly, no longer being part of a couple is a big change in your life and it can take some getting used to. Allow yourself to mourn. It's over but the memories still form a part of who you were at that point in life. It's okay to cry, to perform a calm ritual of letting go (no angry ones) and to feel pain inside. This is all normal. Let go. You're free now.\\nEven though it feels very intense, you will get through this period and be able to feel good again (and even fall in love)!\\nTry creating a new routine to support your new life chapter—this can help you feel safe, grounded, empowered, and like you're moving forward and rebuilding your life.\\nAccepting that the relationship has ended is an important part of creating closure, healing, and peace. It also puts you in a position where you can start opening up to the possibility of what's next.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Stick to the no phone calls, no texts, no contact, rule if they dog you even after confirming the breakup. Don't allow them to pull you back in.\\n\", \"Date again when you know the baggage has been left where it belongs. Until then, keep working through the issues that hurt you and continue to haunt you, so that you don't repeat the cycle and get yourself into another relationship of the same kind, one that leads to the same outcome. If you give yourself time, avoid rebound dating and let friendships blossom, you'll know when the time is right to start dating again. Until then, enjoy your freedom as an opportunity to grow, mature and become wiser. Rediscover that person you were becoming before this former relationship took over and changed you.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"If you are afraid that your partner might get or become violent either during or after the breakup, get help. Break up in a public place, contact the police if you are threatened at any time.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Deciding to Break Up
1-1. Use decision-making strategies
When you are faced with a serious problem, such as whether or not to break up with someone, it can be helpful to use a decision-making process. This will help you to take stock of all of your options and analyze each one before deciding. To make your decision in a structured way, you may want to:
Write a detailed definition the problem. Why do you want to break up with the person? Is it because of something that happened between the two of you? Or is it because of how you feel?
Make a list of your options. Is breaking up the only option? Or do you think there is potential for you and your significant other to work things out? If you are determined to break up with the person, then what are your options for breaking up?
Consider your options. Which option is most likely to bring about the best result? Think about what the risks and benefits of each of the options you have listed might be.
Choose and follow through. After you have analyzed each option, you can choose the one that you think will provide the best results. Then, put your plan into action. Make sure to reflect on the outcome of your decision and consider how you might improve your approach in the future.
1-2. Avoid making a rash decision.
Take enough time to think your decision through, and carefully weigh your reasons for wanting to break up. Make sure your decision is based on logic, not stress or anger. Once you pin down the exact reasons you’re leaving the relationship, you’ll have an easier time following through and defending your choice to your boyfriend or girlfriend.
If your relationship is physically or emotionally abusive, you never need to feel guilty about breaking it off. You deserve safety and respect in your relationships.
1-3. Address feelings of guilt
It’s only natural to feel guilty when you’re breaking up with someone who cares about you, but don’t let your guilt keep you in a relationship that makes you unhappy.
Delaying a breakup might be easier in the short term. But, in the long term, dragging a relationship out wastes everyone’s time and will hurt your partner more in the end.
1-4. Get the advice of someone you trust.
If you’re uncertain about whether breaking up is the right thing to do, an outside opinion can help shed some light on the situation. Ask someone who cares about you for an objective opinion on your relationship.
Use your judgment when asking for advice. Choose someone who will keep your business private. You don’t want your partner to find out about the breakup from somebody else before they hear it from you.
You might bring up the subject by saying “Hey, sis, I wanted to talk to you about something. I love John and he loves me, but we seem to have grown apart. I don’t know what to do…”
1-5. Listen to your gut.
We have gut instincts for a reason. Your subconscious mind often picks up on more information than your conscious mind does, leading to feelings and intuitions you can’t explain. If you just can’t shake the sense that it’s time to break up, it’s probably best to heed your instincts.
2. Doing the Deed
2-1. Schedule a time to talk.
Once you’re certain that you want to break up, it’s best to get it over with as soon as possible. Don’t drag a dying relationship out unnecessarily. Getting the difficult conversation out of the way will put you on the path to recovery faster and save your partner from getting more invested in the relationship than they already are.
Don’t spring “the talk” on your partner without any warning. Say something like, “I need to talk to you about something important. Can we meet up tomorrow evening?”
Do not break up via phone, text, or email unless you are concerned for your safety. Breaking up in person is much more considerate and respectful to your partner.
2-2. Prepare for what you’ll say.
Write out a list of all the points you want to cover if you’re afraid of forgetting something. Ask a trusted friend to role-play the breakup with you so you can rehearse what you want to say out loud.
Breakups usually bring intense emotions to the surface for both people. Your boyfriend or girlfriend may get angry, cry, or try to talk you out of breaking up. Decide ahead of time how you will handle each of these responses, and practice staying firm in the face of these reactions while role-playing with your friend.
2-3. Use “I” statements.
Throughout the conversation, frame things in terms of how you feel and what you need. Avoid blaming your boyfriend or girlfriend for the breakup. This will take some of the sting out of your message and make it harder for them to argue with you.
For instance, don’t say, “You don’t make me a priority in your life.” Instead, try saying something like, “I need a partner who makes time for me, and I don’t feel like you do that.”
2-4. Avoid clichés.
Your boyfriend or girlfriend will probably feel confused and hurt when you tell them you want to break up, and empty platitudes will only add insult to injury. Respect your partner’s feelings and their need for answers, and be straightforward about your reasons for ending the relationship.
Resist the temptation to express your sorrow with a cliché like “It’s not you, it’s me” or something similar. Just say what you mean as directly as possible.
2-5. Answer any questions honestly, but gently.
Your boyfriend or girlfriend will probably have some questions for you, especially if they didn’t see the breakup coming. Don’t lie about anything just to preserve their feelings, but put an optimistic spin on the breakup if you can.
Studies have found that breakups are least painful when the person ending the relationship is kind, honest, and positive about the time they have spent with the other person.
Emphasize ways the breakup benefits both of you. For instance, you might tell your partner, "I think I would be happier if I dated someone whose personality is more compatible with my own."
3. Moving On
3-1. Cut all ties with your ex.
Staying in contact with your ex will only keep feelings alive and prolong the heartache for both of you. Avoid going places you might run into them, delete their number from your phone, and resist the urge to look at their social media accounts. If you have any of their belongings, return them – preferably through a mutual friend – or get rid of them.
Even if you want to stay friends with your ex, remember that you both need time and distance to heal after a breakup. Be respectful of your ex’s feelings and give them space to move on after the relationship ends.
Unfollowing or unfriending your ex on social media may also be a good option to reduce your reminders of them.
3-2. Maintain your routine.
After a breakup, it’s common to feel sad, stressed, and uncertain about the future. It might be tempting to call in sick at work and wallow in your feelings, but you’ll actually feel better if you stay busy and don’t skip your regular activities. Sticking to a routine can help preserve your sense of normalcy.
If you don’t know what to do with yourself, try picking up a new hobby or joining a gym. Sometimes post-breakup pain can be a catalyst for personal development.
3-3. Lean on others for emotional support.
You may have just ended one relationship, but don’t forget about all the other relationships in your life. Family and friends can be a source of strength and comfort while you’re working through the emotional fallout of a breakup.
Don’t hesitate to call up a friend or spend extra time around your loved ones if you’re feeling down. Simply say to a loved one, “I know it was for the best, but I don’t want to be alone right now. Do you want to come over and watch a movie?”
3-4. Be emotionally ready before getting involved with someone new.
It’s usually not a good idea to get into a rebound relationship while your emotions are still raw. Instead, focus on healing and becoming the best version of yourself you can.
If you have any unresolved issues that played a part in your last breakup, work on addressing those before you re-enter the dating world. Becoming emotionally healthy will help you attract a better relationship in the future.
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Think about what the risks and benefits of each of the options you have listed might be.\\nChoose and follow through. After you have analyzed each option, you can choose the one that you think will provide the best results. Then, put your plan into action. Make sure to reflect on the outcome of your decision and consider how you might improve your approach in the future.\\n1-2. Avoid making a rash decision.\\nTake enough time to think your decision through, and carefully weigh your reasons for wanting to break up. Make sure your decision is based on logic, not stress or anger. Once you pin down the exact reasons you’re leaving the relationship, you’ll have an easier time following through and defending your choice to your boyfriend or girlfriend.\\nIf your relationship is physically or emotionally abusive, you never need to feel guilty about breaking it off. You deserve safety and respect in your relationships.\\n1-3. Address feelings of guilt\\nIt’s only natural to feel guilty when you’re breaking up with someone who cares about you, but don’t let your guilt keep you in a relationship that makes you unhappy.\\nDelaying a breakup might be easier in the short term. But, in the long term, dragging a relationship out wastes everyone’s time and will hurt your partner more in the end.\\n1-4. Get the advice of someone you trust.\\nIf you’re uncertain about whether breaking up is the right thing to do, an outside opinion can help shed some light on the situation. Ask someone who cares about you for an objective opinion on your relationship.\\nUse your judgment when asking for advice. Choose someone who will keep your business private. You don’t want your partner to find out about the breakup from somebody else before they hear it from you.\\nYou might bring up the subject by saying “Hey, sis, I wanted to talk to you about something. I love John and he loves me, but we seem to have grown apart. I don’t know what to do…”\\n1-5. Listen to your gut.\\nWe have gut instincts for a reason. Your subconscious mind often picks up on more information than your conscious mind does, leading to feelings and intuitions you can’t explain. If you just can’t shake the sense that it’s time to break up, it’s probably best to heed your instincts.\\n2. Doing the Deed\\n2-1. Schedule a time to talk.\\nOnce you’re certain that you want to break up, it’s best to get it over with as soon as possible. Don’t drag a dying relationship out unnecessarily. Getting the difficult conversation out of the way will put you on the path to recovery faster and save your partner from getting more invested in the relationship than they already are.\\nDon’t spring “the talk” on your partner without any warning. Say something like, “I need to talk to you about something important. Can we meet up tomorrow evening?”\\nDo not break up via phone, text, or email unless you are concerned for your safety. 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This will take some of the sting out of your message and make it harder for them to argue with you.\\nFor instance, don’t say, “You don’t make me a priority in your life.” Instead, try saying something like, “I need a partner who makes time for me, and I don’t feel like you do that.”\\n2-4. Avoid clichés.\\nYour boyfriend or girlfriend will probably feel confused and hurt when you tell them you want to break up, and empty platitudes will only add insult to injury. Respect your partner’s feelings and their need for answers, and be straightforward about your reasons for ending the relationship.\\nResist the temptation to express your sorrow with a cliché like “It’s not you, it’s me” or something similar. Just say what you mean as directly as possible.\\n2-5. Answer any questions honestly, but gently.\\nYour boyfriend or girlfriend will probably have some questions for you, especially if they didn’t see the breakup coming. Don’t lie about anything just to preserve their feelings, but put an optimistic spin on the breakup if you can.\\nStudies have found that breakups are least painful when the person ending the relationship is kind, honest, and positive about the time they have spent with the other person.\\nEmphasize ways the breakup benefits both of you. For instance, you might tell your partner, \\\"I think I would be happier if I dated someone whose personality is more compatible with my own.\\\"\\n3. Moving On\\n3-1. Cut all ties with your ex.\\nStaying in contact with your ex will only keep feelings alive and prolong the heartache for both of you. Avoid going places you might run into them, delete their number from your phone, and resist the urge to look at their social media accounts. If you have any of their belongings, return them – preferably through a mutual friend – or get rid of them.\\nEven if you want to stay friends with your ex, remember that you both need time and distance to heal after a breakup. Be respectful of your ex’s feelings and give them space to move on after the relationship ends.\\nUnfollowing or unfriending your ex on social media may also be a good option to reduce your reminders of them.\\n3-2. Maintain your routine.\\nAfter a breakup, it’s common to feel sad, stressed, and uncertain about the future. It might be tempting to call in sick at work and wallow in your feelings, but you’ll actually feel better if you stay busy and don’t skip your regular activities. Sticking to a routine can help preserve your sense of normalcy.\\nIf you don’t know what to do with yourself, try picking up a new hobby or joining a gym. Sometimes post-breakup pain can be a catalyst for personal development.\\n3-3. Lean on others for emotional support.\\nYou may have just ended one relationship, but don’t forget about all the other relationships in your life. Family and friends can be a source of strength and comfort while you’re working through the emotional fallout of a breakup.\\nDon’t hesitate to call up a friend or spend extra time around your loved ones if you’re feeling down. Simply say to a loved one, “I know it was for the best, but I don’t want to be alone right now. Do you want to come over and watch a movie?”\\n3-4. Be emotionally ready before getting involved with someone new.\\nIt’s usually not a good idea to get into a rebound relationship while your emotions are still raw. Instead, focus on healing and becoming the best version of yourself you can.\\nIf you have any unresolved issues that played a part in your last breakup, work on addressing those before you re-enter the dating world. 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1. Talk to them as soon as possible.
Try not to wait around or drag it out for too long.
When you know you aren’t interested in the person you’re seeing anymore, ask to meet up with them. They’ll appreciate you talking it out with them, and it will leave you both free to move onto other people.
It’s not super fair to either of you to keep seeing each other if you know it’s not going to work out.
Sometimes, the only reason why you don’t want to see someone anymore is because you just aren’t feeling it, and that’s okay.
2. Meet up face to face.
It’s the kindest way to let someone down gently.
While a text might seem easier, it’s much better if you two can meet up in person somewhere. They’ll get the closure they need, and you can explain a little better about why you don’t want to see them anymore.
If you’ve only been on a single date with this person, then a text is probably fine. However, if you’ve seen each other a couple of times, it’s polite to talk to them face to face.
3. Head to a neutral location.
Go to a coffee shop or out for drinks.
Try to pick a shorter activity that you can leave quickly, and don’t go to either of your homes. Invite the person to meet up with you within the next couple of days.
Try not to go out to dinner, as that can drag your conversation on and be a little awkward.
Talking in a semi-public place also ensures that you can both leave quickly if you want to.
4. Be honest, but be kind.
Tell them clearly that you just don’t think it’s working out.
You don’t have to be mean about it, but you shouldn’t leave any room for question, either. Tell them the real reason you don’t want to see them anymore, unless it’s something that could be hurtful.
For instance, you might say, “You’re a really nice person, but I just don’t see us working out long-term. I really wish you luck on your search, though!”
Or, “I just can’t commit to a relationship right now, and it’s not fair to you. I’m splitting myself between my work and spending time with you, and I just can’t do that anymore.”
5. Use “I” statements.
Make sure the other person doesn't feel at fault.
Instead of saying something like, “You were taking up too much of my time,” try, “I’ve been feeling overwhelmed by trying to juggle working and hanging out with you.” That way, the responsibility falls on you, not them.
It’s also a good idea to throw in some positives, too. Tell the other person how much you enjoyed spending time with them before you jump into why you can’t be together.
6. Answer any questions they may have.
Listen to what the other person has to say.
Walk through any questions they might have, and try to answer them as nicely as possible. If this came out of the blue, they might be confused about your reasoning or why you’re doing this now.
Oftentimes, people will say something like, “I don’t understand, I thought we had a good thing going.” You might reply by saying, “We did, but I just couldn’t see this lasting long-term.”
7. Don’t offer to be friends.
It’s an empty gesture that doesn’t mean much.
While it might sound nice (and it feels nice to say), promising a friendship in the future can actually do more harm than good. Cut things off clearly without any room for question.
If the other person asks if you two can still be friends, you could say something like, “In the future, maybe. Right now, I really want to focus on myself.”
8. Leave as soon as you can.
There’s no need to drag out the conversation.
As soon as you feel like you’ve wrapped things up, go ahead and leave. This will let the other person work through their own emotions without you there to watch them.
It's a good idea to have plans afterward, like meeting up with a friend. That way, you'll have someone you can talk to about what happened, but you'll also have a built-in excuse when it's time to leave.
This is especially important if you two met up at a bar (or anywhere that you can get drinks). The other person might be hoping that you two can have one last hookup before you go, which probably isn’t a good idea.
9. Cut contact with them.
Reaching out to them can send mixed signals.
Don’t text, call, or reach out on social media once you’ve broken up with them. Even if you want to check in or be friends with them, it’s much kinder to leave them alone.
If they reach out to you, it’s probably best not to respond.
Tips
Whatever you do, don’t ghost the person you’re casually dating. Avoiding them will probably hurt them more, even though it might sound like the easiest option.[14]
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How to Break Up with Someone You Love
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1. Getting Yourself Ready
1-1. Be sure that you really want to permanently end the relationship.
Never break up with somebody unless you are okay with the possibility that you may never get back together. Even if you do change your mind after the breakup and agree to get back together, you will have created lasting damage to the relationship that may be irreparable.
If you really still love this person and want to make the relationship work but don't know how, consider couples therapy. A therapist can teach you skills that will help you have a healthier relationship.
1-2. Prepare for the possibility that this person might be too hurt to stay friends, at least initially.
Breaking up can be very emotional for everyone involved. Do not expect to be fast friends immediately after the breakup.
1-3. Avoid breaking up for the wrong reasons.
You must decide whether your relationship is worth ending.You have to think about the future for not only yourself, but also your partner.
Never avoid breaking up with somebody because you are afraid of being single. The only way you can find the right person for you is to get out there and be on your own.
Never avoid breaking up with somebody because you are afraid of hurting their feelings. Breaking up may seem cruel, but continuing to be with somebody you are not in love with anymore is even worse.
Don't suggest a "break." Breaks are usually just a segue into a full-on breakup; if you feel that you need a break from the person you're with, then chances are that you actually want to break up but are too afraid of being alone. Rather than asking for a break, wait until you're ready to fully end the relationship and then do it.
1-4. Make the necessary arrangements.
If you live together, then decide on who will move out and who will stay (of course, you may want to leave this open to discussion). If you expect your partner to move out, you will need to allow ample time for them to find other living arrangements, and should find somewhere else to stay during that time.
Ask your parents or close friends whether you can stay with them for a few days, or rent a room at a hotel for a couple of nights.
If you don't live together but see each other daily at either work or school, then you will need to consider whether it's worth re-adjusting your schedule/circumstances. If you think that seeing each other on a regular basis is going to make moving on difficult, then consider changing jobs or rearranging your class schedule to avoid having to constantly interact with this person.
2. Breaking the News
2-1. Choose the right time.
There's never going to be a perfect time to break up with the person you love, but there are definitely certain situations that you should avoid. Among them are the following:
When your partner is dealing with a personal crisis like a death in the family, diagnosis of an illness, or loss of a job. If they are in the middle of a crisis, allow some time to pass before you break up to avoid adding on extra pain.
In the middle of a fight. Never end a relationship in the heat of the moment; you may end up saying things that you don't really mean, and come to regret your decision once the argument is over.
In front of other people. If you choose to break up with them in public, be sure to at least find a quiet table or corner to have the conversation. Remember that one or both of you may become very emotional and need some privacy.
Over text, e-mail, or the telephone. If you really love this person, then you owe it to them to have the discussion face-to-face.
The only exception to this rule is if you are in a long-distance relationship and seeing each other in person is impractical. Even then, try to do it over Skype or the telephone rather than the more impersonal venues of text or email.
2-2. Prepare your partner for the conversation.
In other words, don't surprise this person with the news by blurting it out in the middle of a conversation or while they are busy doing something else.
Pull your partner aside and say "I want to talk to you about something," or "I think that we should talk."
You may want to send an e-mail or text message to your partner asking to talk prior to getting together. This will give them ample time to emotionally prepare for a serious conversation. You do not want to break up with the person through text, but let them know a serious conversation will happen in the near future.
2-3. Use “I” statements.
These statements more effectively deflect feelings of judgement, and concisely get your point across. For example, you may say something like:
"I really feel like kids are not part of my plan." This might be a better way of saying: "You want kids and I don’t."
"I think I need to spend more time on my own right now." This might be a better way of saying: "You want to spend too much time together."
"I need to think about my future." This might be a better way of saying "We are not going anywhere."
2-4. Be honest, but not unnecessarily harsh.
Everybody deserves to be told the truth, but at the same time, there are certain things that will only hurt your partner's feelings without serving any constructive purpose.
If there is something explicitly wrong with the relationship, like having incompatible interests, then you should tell your partner that. Being honest and eliminating some of the mystery may help the person move on more quickly rather than constantly wondering why you ended the relationship and what they could have done differently. This might be something like: "I know you are really into going out all the time, but I just don't enjoy it. I don't think we'll continue to be happy with this incompatibility."
Find a nice way to phrase your criticisms. If you love the person, then you should make an effort to protect their self-esteem. For example, instead of saying "I don't find you attractive anymore," say something like "I no longer feel that there's any chemistry between us."
Try to stay away from any insults or comments that go "below the belt" and would unnecessarily hurt your partner's feelings.
Reassure your partner that you still love and genuinely care for them. This will help ease some of the feelings associated with being rejected. You might say something like: “I think you’re a really great person. You’re very smart and have a lot of ambitions. I just think my ambitions are different.”
2-5. Suggest staying friends.
If you genuinely want to stay friends with this person, then you should express the sentiment at the end of the breakup. Again, be prepared for the possibility that they will be too hurt to stay friends with you, at least initially. Respect your partner's needs and give them space if needed.
Don't continue to call or text your ex on a regular basis once the breakup is over. This will send mixed signals and make moving on impossible. Even if you have decided to stay friends, you should take some time apart just after the breakup during which you don't see or speak to each other.
After some time has passed after the breakup and the feelings are not quite as raw, consider opening up to your ex. This might be a group outing (it might be best to avoid a one-on-one outing to avoid sending mixed signals.) You might want to try and say something like: “Hey, some friends and I are going to watch that new movie. Do you want to come?”
3. Moving on After the Break Up
3-1. Avoid talking to your ex, at least initially.
Though it may seem impossible to totally cut off contact with somebody you love, staying in contact constantly will actually make things a great deal more painful. If you feel tempted, block your partner’s number from your phone. Block their username from social media sites. This will help with the temptation.
3-2. Do not feel guilty for feeling bad.
Even if you were the one to initiate the breakup, you may still feel hurt or loss. These are normal feelings and should be acknowledged to help heal.
3-3. Take some time for yourself.
Love can be complicated. After a breakup with someone that you loved, you may feel a loss. This might be an indication that you should take some time to get to know yourself and to readjust to being single before jumping into a new relationship.
Look at this as a learning opportunity and a chance to grow as a person. Reflect on your relationship and think about what role you played in it not working out. You don't need to blame yourself or feel guilty, but it can be helpful to take an honest look at what happened so you can learn from it.
3-4. Rely on friends and family.
Do not be afraid to seek out emotional support from those in your life. This might include your close friends and family. Chances are, they will empathize with what you are going through and will offer support or advice.
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1. Choosing a Time and Place to Break Up
1-1. Break up
You and your boyfriend have been through a lot together! The best way to respect your relationship and him is to break up face-to-face. If distance is an issue, plan a video call with him instead. If that's not possible, a phone call is the next best option.
Avoid breaking up through text or instant messenger, which is hurtful and impersonal. Only resort to a letter or email if you have tried to break up before and he changed your mind.
If you are in an abusive relationship, breaking up over the phone, through email, or with a letter is okay. Your safety is most important.
1-2. Meet him somewhere that's somewhat private.
Ask him to go for a walk with you, or meet up with him at a park or somewhere similar. That way, once it's done, you can go your separate ways. If you invite him over to your house, it may get awkward or he may be reluctant to leave.
If you are unsure of how he’ll react, schedule the meeting in a more public place, like a coffee shop.
If you're afraid he might have a bad reaction, have a friend come along with you. They can be out of sight, but somewhere in the nearby vicinity, just in case you need them.
1-3. Be considerate when choosing the time of day.
Choose a time when both of you can talk in private without distractions. Wait until the end of the day rather than doing it first thing in the morning before he has to face a full day of school or work. If possible, do it on a Friday so that both of you can have the weekend to deal with your feelings privately.
1-4. Don't rush into it or break up with him during a fight.
In the heat of an argument, it's easy to say things that you don't mean. Give yourself time to think things over before losing your boyfriend. You may realize you want to resolve things with him, or your perspective on the situation may change.
Give yourself a couple of days to think things over to be sure breaking up is what you want.
1-5. Don't wait too long or avoid the situation.
While it's important to give yourself time to think things over, don't put off the conversation once you're sure it's what you want. Dragging it out will be harder on him in the long-run, or the information may leak out and he ends up hearing the news from someone else.
2. Telling Him How You Feel
2-1. Rehearse what you’ll say beforehand.
Go over what you’re planning to say to your boyfriend with someone you trust. Or, you can simply practice by yourself in front of a mirror. Anticipate his reaction and prepare responses based on what you think he’ll say.
Practicing can help you avoid rambling or saying something you regret.
Keep in mind that no matter how well you prepare, he still may react differently than you expect.
2-2. Get to the point.
Breakups are hard enough as it is. Once the conversation has started, there’s no reason to drag it out any longer than necessary. Let your boyfriend know that you want to have a serious talk. You might start by saying something like:
“I’ve been wanting to talk to you about something.”
“I've been thinking about our relationship and I've made a decision."
2-3. State clearly that you want to break up.
Be sensitive but firm with him so that there's no room for interpretation. Don't leave things open-ended or give him false hope. It's often best to very literally state that you want to break up. For instance:
"So, I want to break up."
"I want to continue being your friend, but I don't want to be your girlfriend/boyfriend anymore."
"I'm not happy in our relationship."
2-4. Be straightforward about why you want to break up.
Don't be vague or beat around the bush. It's best to tell him why your relationship isn't working in an honest and straightforward way. You might say:
"I'm not ready for a serious boyfriend right now."
"This doesn't feel right to me anymore. I'm not happy."
"We argue more than we have fun together."
"There's someone else."
2-5. Do not lie to make him feel better about himself.
"I just don't have time for a relationship right now" is not a good thing to say if there are more pressing issues you broke up for. This can be seen as a way of leading him on. He may keep contacting you in hopes of getting back together.
2-6. Tell him that you're sorry if this hurts.
Even though you want to be very clear that you're breaking up with him, it's still best to explain that you're sorry if the situation hurts. Try to put yourself in his shoes and imagine how he might be feeling. You could say:
"I'm sorry if this hurts to hear."
"I'm sorry if this hurts you."
"I know this may be difficult to hear and I'm sorry about that."
2-7. Hear him out.
More than likely, your ex will have some remarks after you do the deed. Be respectful and actively listen to what he has to say. Let him say what he needs to, but if he starts to beg or try to get you to change your mind, firmly restate your choice. Then, tell him you think it’s time for you to leave.
If he becomes rude or violent, say, "I don't feel safe, so I'm leaving." As you're leaving, call a friend and let them know what's happening.
2-8. End the conversation with a kind or positive statement.
Wrap things up quickly, but try to end on a positive note. Try to say something that you honestly feel rather than just saying something to be nice or to make a quick getaway. You might say something like:
"I'll always remember the special times we shared."
"Whoever you go out with next will be lucky to have someone like you."
"I know we'll always care about each other."
"I'm so glad we got to know each other."
3. Moving On
3-1. Cut off contact with him.
After you’ve parted ways, limit any chances of either of you reaching out. Return any items of his promptly to eliminate any reason to make contact down the road. Then, remove his contact info from your phone and delete him as a “friend” on social media.
Make sure you make it a clean break. Don’t get sucked into talking with him again to make him feel better. This may convince him that he has a chance of getting back together with you.
3-2. Give him some space.
If you would like to remain friends, give him some time before bringing that up or approaching him about it. It's unreasonable to expect that right away, especially if he was blindsided by the breakup. It might also be a good idea to avoid places where he normally hangs out, at least for a while.
3-3. Keep any unavoidable interactions short and sweet.
If you and your ex continue to be on speaking terms, you should still tread carefully early on. Too much contact may make him think there's an opportunity to rekindle the romance. Keep any contact brief and to-the-point.
For instance, if you see him socially in a group, you might say "Hi" and then find a seat near some other friends to limit conversation opportunities.
Make sure that you do not ask him about his personal life or tell him about yours during any interactions that you have with him.
3-4. Get support from your family and friends.
Just because you initiated the breakup doesn't mean you aren't hurting. Spend time with supportive friends and tell them how you're feeling. Vent if you need to! Family members may also serve as a source of support after your breakup.
For example, you could have a movie night with your best friends. Choose lighthearted or comedy films to keep things upbeat.
Go to brunch with a parent or sibling. Vent if you need to, or just spend some quality time catching up.
3-5. Change up your routine with new activities and new people.
Ending a relationship can leave an empty hole in your everyday life where you once spent so much time with the other person. Switch things up by adding new activities to your schedule and doing a few things differently.
For instance, if you used to walk to class with your boyfriend, you might start walking with a new group of friends.
Try joining a club or organization. Check out new restaurants or parks. Fill your calendar with exciting activities and social events.
Spend more time on your hobbies, or start a new one that has always interested you. For example, you could take a cooking class, join a recreational sport, or audition for a play.
3-6. Give yourself time before dating again.
After a breakup, you'll want to give yourself time to grieve the relationship before moving on to a new one. Use this time to practice self-care, evaluate what went wrong in the previous relationship, and prepare yourself to get back out there. Dating too soon could be unfair to the new person, if you haven't fully healed.
You are ready to date again when you can calmly and realistically discuss your ex and the old relationship and take ownership for your role in its end.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Choosing a Time and Place to Break Up\\n1-1. Break up\\nYou and your boyfriend have been through a lot together! The best way to respect your relationship and him is to break up face-to-face. If distance is an issue, plan a video call with him instead. If that's not possible, a phone call is the next best option.\\nAvoid breaking up through text or instant messenger, which is hurtful and impersonal. Only resort to a letter or email if you have tried to break up before and he changed your mind.\\nIf you are in an abusive relationship, breaking up over the phone, through email, or with a letter is okay. Your safety is most important.\\n1-2. Meet him somewhere that's somewhat private.\\nAsk him to go for a walk with you, or meet up with him at a park or somewhere similar. That way, once it's done, you can go your separate ways. If you invite him over to your house, it may get awkward or he may be reluctant to leave.\\nIf you are unsure of how he’ll react, schedule the meeting in a more public place, like a coffee shop.\\nIf you're afraid he might have a bad reaction, have a friend come along with you. They can be out of sight, but somewhere in the nearby vicinity, just in case you need them.\\n1-3. Be considerate when choosing the time of day.\\nChoose a time when both of you can talk in private without distractions. Wait until the end of the day rather than doing it first thing in the morning before he has to face a full day of school or work. If possible, do it on a Friday so that both of you can have the weekend to deal with your feelings privately.\\n1-4. Don't rush into it or break up with him during a fight.\\nIn the heat of an argument, it's easy to say things that you don't mean. Give yourself time to think things over before losing your boyfriend. You may realize you want to resolve things with him, or your perspective on the situation may change.\\nGive yourself a couple of days to think things over to be sure breaking up is what you want.\\n1-5. Don't wait too long or avoid the situation.\\nWhile it's important to give yourself time to think things over, don't put off the conversation once you're sure it's what you want. Dragging it out will be harder on him in the long-run, or the information may leak out and he ends up hearing the news from someone else.\\n2. Telling Him How You Feel\\n2-1. Rehearse what you’ll say beforehand.\\nGo over what you’re planning to say to your boyfriend with someone you trust. Or, you can simply practice by yourself in front of a mirror. Anticipate his reaction and prepare responses based on what you think he’ll say.\\nPracticing can help you avoid rambling or saying something you regret.\\nKeep in mind that no matter how well you prepare, he still may react differently than you expect.\\n2-2. Get to the point.\\nBreakups are hard enough as it is. Once the conversation has started, there’s no reason to drag it out any longer than necessary. Let your boyfriend know that you want to have a serious talk. You might start by saying something like:\\n“I’ve been wanting to talk to you about something.”\\n“I've been thinking about our relationship and I've made a decision.\\\"\\n2-3. State clearly that you want to break up.\\nBe sensitive but firm with him so that there's no room for interpretation. Don't leave things open-ended or give him false hope. It's often best to very literally state that you want to break up. For instance:\\n\\\"So, I want to break up.\\\"\\n\\\"I want to continue being your friend, but I don't want to be your girlfriend/boyfriend anymore.\\\"\\n\\\"I'm not happy in our relationship.\\\"\\n2-4. Be straightforward about why you want to break up.\\nDon't be vague or beat around the bush. It's best to tell him why your relationship isn't working in an honest and straightforward way. You might say:\\n\\\"I'm not ready for a serious boyfriend right now.\\\"\\n\\\"This doesn't feel right to me anymore. I'm not happy.\\\"\\n\\\"We argue more than we have fun together.\\\"\\n\\\"There's someone else.\\\"\\n2-5. Do not lie to make him feel better about himself.\\n\\\"I just don't have time for a relationship right now\\\" is not a good thing to say if there are more pressing issues you broke up for. This can be seen as a way of leading him on. He may keep contacting you in hopes of getting back together.\\n2-6. Tell him that you're sorry if this hurts.\\nEven though you want to be very clear that you're breaking up with him, it's still best to explain that you're sorry if the situation hurts. Try to put yourself in his shoes and imagine how he might be feeling. You could say:\\n\\\"I'm sorry if this hurts to hear.\\\"\\n\\\"I'm sorry if this hurts you.\\\"\\n\\\"I know this may be difficult to hear and I'm sorry about that.\\\"\\n2-7. Hear him out.\\nMore than likely, your ex will have some remarks after you do the deed. Be respectful and actively listen to what he has to say. Let him say what he needs to, but if he starts to beg or try to get you to change your mind, firmly restate your choice. Then, tell him you think it’s time for you to leave.\\nIf he becomes rude or violent, say, \\\"I don't feel safe, so I'm leaving.\\\" As you're leaving, call a friend and let them know what's happening.\\n2-8. End the conversation with a kind or positive statement.\\nWrap things up quickly, but try to end on a positive note. Try to say something that you honestly feel rather than just saying something to be nice or to make a quick getaway. You might say something like:\\n\\\"I'll always remember the special times we shared.\\\"\\n\\\"Whoever you go out with next will be lucky to have someone like you.\\\"\\n\\\"I know we'll always care about each other.\\\"\\n\\\"I'm so glad we got to know each other.\\\"\\n3. Moving On\\n3-1. Cut off contact with him.\\nAfter you’ve parted ways, limit any chances of either of you reaching out. Return any items of his promptly to eliminate any reason to make contact down the road. Then, remove his contact info from your phone and delete him as a “friend” on social media.\\nMake sure you make it a clean break. Don’t get sucked into talking with him again to make him feel better. This may convince him that he has a chance of getting back together with you.\\n3-2. Give him some space.\\nIf you would like to remain friends, give him some time before bringing that up or approaching him about it. It's unreasonable to expect that right away, especially if he was blindsided by the breakup. It might also be a good idea to avoid places where he normally hangs out, at least for a while.\\n3-3. Keep any unavoidable interactions short and sweet.\\nIf you and your ex continue to be on speaking terms, you should still tread carefully early on. Too much contact may make him think there's an opportunity to rekindle the romance. Keep any contact brief and to-the-point.\\nFor instance, if you see him socially in a group, you might say \\\"Hi\\\" and then find a seat near some other friends to limit conversation opportunities.\\nMake sure that you do not ask him about his personal life or tell him about yours during any interactions that you have with him.\\n3-4. Get support from your family and friends.\\nJust because you initiated the breakup doesn't mean you aren't hurting. Spend time with supportive friends and tell them how you're feeling. Vent if you need to! Family members may also serve as a source of support after your breakup.\\nFor example, you could have a movie night with your best friends. Choose lighthearted or comedy films to keep things upbeat.\\nGo to brunch with a parent or sibling. Vent if you need to, or just spend some quality time catching up.\\n3-5. Change up your routine with new activities and new people.\\nEnding a relationship can leave an empty hole in your everyday life where you once spent so much time with the other person. Switch things up by adding new activities to your schedule and doing a few things differently.\\nFor instance, if you used to walk to class with your boyfriend, you might start walking with a new group of friends.\\nTry joining a club or organization. Check out new restaurants or parks. Fill your calendar with exciting activities and social events.\\nSpend more time on your hobbies, or start a new one that has always interested you. For example, you could take a cooking class, join a recreational sport, or audition for a play.\\n3-6. Give yourself time before dating again.\\nAfter a breakup, you'll want to give yourself time to grieve the relationship before moving on to a new one. Use this time to practice self-care, evaluate what went wrong in the previous relationship, and prepare yourself to get back out there. Dating too soon could be unfair to the new person, if you haven't fully healed.\\nYou are ready to date again when you can calmly and realistically discuss your ex and the old relationship and take ownership for your role in its end.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Breaking up is hard! If you’re planning to break up with your boyfriend, you may be feeling nervous or unsure. Before having the talk, go over the reasons you want to break up and rehearse what you'll say. When you're ready, do it in person if you can. Be as clear as possible and don't leave things open to interpretation, since this may give him false hope. Try to end with a kind or positive statement before you part ways.sdd\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Choosing a Time and Place to Break Up\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Break up\", \"描述\": \"You and your boyfriend have been through a lot together! The best way to respect your relationship and him is to break up face-to-face. If distance is an issue, plan a video call with him instead. If that's not possible, a phone call is the next best option.\\nAvoid breaking up through text or instant messenger, which is hurtful and impersonal. Only resort to a letter or email if you have tried to break up before and he changed your mind.\\nIf you are in an abusive relationship, breaking up over the phone, through email, or with a letter is okay. 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How to Break Up with Your Boyfriend if You Are in Love with Him
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1. Making the Right Decision
1-1. Ask why you want to break-up with him.
Breaking up with someone is hard. It is no easier when you still have feelings for him. However, sometimes relationships stall, grow apart, and become difficult to manage due to time or space apart. You can be in love with someone and still feel like you need to move on to a new stage of your life. If you're considering a break-up, ask yourself a few questions about yourself and the relationship. If you say no to most of the following, it may be time to move on:
Do you only want to break up because of present circumstances, like a recent fight or money troubles? If not, is it because of long-term problems?
Do you have second thoughts about breaking up, or have you been sure of your decision for a few weeks?
If your partner asked you for a second chance, would you say yes?
Do you see your partner in your life 6 months from now?
Do you genuinely love your boyfriend or do you just love the idea of him?
Do you only want to break up because you don't feel good enough to be with him?
1-2. Write down a list of reasons why you want to break up.
No doubt it may be hard, but if you get down your reasons down on paper, it makes it easier to convince yourself you need to get through with this. Don't worry about hurting anyone's feelings -- this paper is for you and you only. Brainstorm why you need to end things, considering the following reasons:
You can't give him the love he deserves. You may need to move for a new job, want to spend more time with your family, or have a hard time supporting his needs. If you truly love him but know that you can't/don't want be there for him, it's time to end it.
You've fallen in love with someone else. Unfortunately, you can't really control who you love. If you've got deep feelings for another, you need to end things with your current man before moving on.
You don't see yourself spending the rest of your life with him. This is especially important if he seems to plan his future around you. End things now instead of hoping you change your mind -- it won't happen.
You're unhappy. If the bad times outweigh the good, and the relationship weighs on your mind each day, it's time to move on. This isn't a phase -- this is relationship that has begun to go sour.
1-3. Look over your reasons one week later.
Read your reasons for needing to break up with him and see if they still feel true. Did you dash that list off in the spur of the moment, or do you still feel the same way seven days later. If you're still sure of your decision to break-up, you've made the right one.
1-4. Look ahead to an independent lifestyle, not at the temporary pain a break up will bring.
Many people stay in relationships for too long because they're afraid of the emotional whiplash being alone will bring. You may understand that you'll be better in the long run, but the short-term pain makes breaking up seem unbearable. However, you've got to rip off the bandage sometimes, and it will get easier if you remind yourself of several key things:
You will not be alone forever. Being single does not mean you'll never find love again, even if it feels like you'll never find another "perfect" man.
Independence will make you stronger. Being alone is hard, but it forces you to grow in unexpected and important ways. You do not need your guy to be strong and happy.
1-5. Remind yourself why you love him to ensure you're making the right decision.
This may be one of the hardest things to do, especially if you've committed to ending the relationship, but you need to consider the good with the bad. Jot down why you love him, the reasons you're together, and the good times you've had. Remember, you will always have these memories, no matter what happens between you. If you make it through this trip down memory lane, but still know that it would be best to end things, then you'll know for sure that you've made the right decision.
Remember, it may be best to break up even if you still have feelings for him. You just want to be sure that the bad outweighs the good.
1-6. Prioritize your health and happiness.
The final hurdle to a break-up is often your worries about other people. What will our friends think? What will my parents think? How will we sort out our stuff? Most importantly, how will he feel? However, all of these worries are unimportant in comparison to your own happiness and emotional well-being. While this sounds selfish, it is ultimately the most thoughtful perspective you can adopt. If you're in a relationship that isn't working, you're going to take it out on each other with fights and arguments. Friends and family may get dragged in, and worries about your stuff can turn into possessiveness and secrecy. When you're ready to end things, all that matters is your decision to break up. The rest of the details will work themselves out.
Sometimes a gut feeling -- "This just isn't working" -- is a perfectly acceptable reason for breaking up. Remember that you're doing this for you, not someone else.
1-7. End things quickly once you've made you decision.
Know that if you don't break up with him right now - and you keep delaying - the situation you are in may grow worse in the future. You'll regret not taking action while you could have, and end up wasting both his time and yours in a meaningless relationship. It may hurt right now, but once you get this over with, you'll be happy you did. Once you go through with it, both parties can move on, but not before.
Remember -- it is better to be happy alone than miserable on your own.
2. Breaking Up With Him
2-1. Call your boyfriend and ask him to meet you somewhere calm and quiet.
Be sure it is an area with few people where you can have an open, honest conversation. Let him know that you need to have a conversation about your relationship, but try not to elaborate on the phone. Still, preparing him, at least a little bit, is common courtesy.
Refrain from breaking up with your boyfriend on a date. You should make time to end things instead of trying to tack it onto an otherwise happy night.
2-2. Move right into the breakup after you've greeted each other.
Avoid beating around the bush, as this will only aggravate you and increase tension. You may also lose courage and change your mind. Breaking up takes 30 seconds of intense, extreme courage. But, at the end of the day, it's only 30 seconds.
Take a deep breath and count to three in your head. Know that, when you get to "zero," it's time to break up with him.
2-3. Use direct, unambiguous language.
If you're breaking up with him, you need to make it clear that you're breaking up. Do not leave him guessing or open up the floor for conversation. If you've made your decision, it's time to move on. Make sure he knows that you still love him and would love to be good friends, but you can't continue this relationship any longer. There are some good conversation starters in the guides below for specific breakups, but the main idea is to end things with simple and direct language:
"I'm ready to move on from our relationship."
"It's time we saw other people."
"I think we should break up."
2-4. Avoid getting angry, pointing fingers, or assigning blame.
Breaking up is hard enough without having a fight or argument. You may have a laundry list of reasons to break up with him, but that doesn't mean you need to point out all of his flaws and the problems in the relationship. That just adds insult to injury, and it can lead to a fight or argument that makes everyone feel even worse ("what do you mean I didn't support you -- I always support you!" or, "That's not my fault, it's your fault for moving away!"). That said, he'll likely ask you why you are doing this, and it is best to have a calm, truthful, but non-judgmental answer ready.
"I've realized that we're growing apart. We've grown together for so long, and I cherish all of the time, but I need time to grow on my own now."
"I don't feel like we treat each other with the respect we used to. Some of that is my fault. But we still need to move on to people who will treat us how we deserve."
2-5. Stand by your decision, no matter what he says.
If he's still in love, he may ask for a second chance, come up with a way to salvage things (like a temporary break), or convince you to change your mind. But once you've made your decision, you need to stick with it. Remember, what he says now will not change your relationship, or the problems that led you to break up.
"I understand, but I think we need to go our separate ways."
"I don't want to take a break and leave things uncertain. We need to break up."
2-6. Leave once you've said all you need to say.
To soften the blow a little, give him a gentle hug and leave. Don't linger or wait to see what his reaction will be like - you want to avoid tangling yourself up in the emotional fallout of the relationship. Know that this is going to hurt, and there is no way to make it easy or perfect. You will not be happy with each other in the immediate aftermath, no matter how long you stay or what you say. The best thing to do is leave politely.
3. Moving on from the Relationship
3-1. Remind yourself your reasons for ending things when you miss him.
It's not easy breaking up. However, know that your reasons are right and that it's not you - it's him. Convince yourself you have done the right thing. Although you have completed your mission, you still may feel hurt and angry. The recovery process will depend on how much you love him, but don't worry - you will feel better one day soon.
Missing him does not change any of your issues and it is not a reason to get back together. Your bigger issues, the ones you broke up over, will still be there when the dust settles.
3-2. Separate yourself completely for the foreseeable future.
Once you've let go of the one you love, it's going to hurt. You'll miss him at random times, feel like you've made a mistake, and want his advice on what to do next. But you have to resist the urge to text, call, or see him. You can move on and get your life back together, but only if you commit to moving on. Resist the urge to talk to him and work on sorting through your emotions on your own. It will be difficult, but you'll be able to do it with time.
You may be able to be friends one day, but that day is in the future. You need to be completely over your romantic feelings, and the only way to get there is to not see each other.
Packing away photos and items that bring painful memories is a good way to start the healing process.
3-3. Try something new.
As painful as a breakup can be, it also comes with a sense of liberation. You no longer need to make decisions for two -- you can make them only by yourself. You'll notice you have a lot more free time all of a sudden, and events and activities that were difficult to coordinate with a partner are now easily available. Don't spend your time trying to recreate the feeling you had in a relationship -- go out and try something new. Enjoy your newfound liberation and explore the single world.
Do things for you. Take the time to take care of yourself for a bit.
3-4. Turn to your friends and family for support.
Having a great network of other people reminds you that, even without a boyfriend, you are not alone. Spend your time with other people you love to help heal the inevitable hole in your heart.
When you feel like calling or texting your ex-boyfriend, call your best friend instead. Let them know, briefly, that you are still kicking old habits chat out your problems.
Most people are happy to help you move on, but that doesn't mean they want to hear about your ex-boyfriend all day. Avoid bringing him up, instead moving on to other topics.
Tips
Trust your own feelings. Even if you can't think of a good reason to end things, you're own emotions will point you towards happiness.
Warnings
If you're worried your boyfriend might be violent, break up in a public place and let a friend know your plans.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Making the Right Decision\\n1-1. Ask why you want to break-up with him.\\nBreaking up with someone is hard. It is no easier when you still have feelings for him. However, sometimes relationships stall, grow apart, and become difficult to manage due to time or space apart. You can be in love with someone and still feel like you need to move on to a new stage of your life. If you're considering a break-up, ask yourself a few questions about yourself and the relationship. If you say no to most of the following, it may be time to move on:\\nDo you only want to break up because of present circumstances, like a recent fight or money troubles? If not, is it because of long-term problems?\\nDo you have second thoughts about breaking up, or have you been sure of your decision for a few weeks?\\nIf your partner asked you for a second chance, would you say yes?\\nDo you see your partner in your life 6 months from now?\\nDo you genuinely love your boyfriend or do you just love the idea of him?\\nDo you only want to break up because you don't feel good enough to be with him?\\n1-2. Write down a list of reasons why you want to break up.\\nNo doubt it may be hard, but if you get down your reasons down on paper, it makes it easier to convince yourself you need to get through with this. Don't worry about hurting anyone's feelings -- this paper is for you and you only. Brainstorm why you need to end things, considering the following reasons:\\nYou can't give him the love he deserves. You may need to move for a new job, want to spend more time with your family, or have a hard time supporting his needs. If you truly love him but know that you can't/don't want be there for him, it's time to end it.\\nYou've fallen in love with someone else. Unfortunately, you can't really control who you love. If you've got deep feelings for another, you need to end things with your current man before moving on.\\nYou don't see yourself spending the rest of your life with him. This is especially important if he seems to plan his future around you. End things now instead of hoping you change your mind -- it won't happen.\\nYou're unhappy. If the bad times outweigh the good, and the relationship weighs on your mind each day, it's time to move on. This isn't a phase -- this is relationship that has begun to go sour.\\n1-3. Look over your reasons one week later.\\nRead your reasons for needing to break up with him and see if they still feel true. Did you dash that list off in the spur of the moment, or do you still feel the same way seven days later. If you're still sure of your decision to break-up, you've made the right one.\\n1-4. Look ahead to an independent lifestyle, not at the temporary pain a break up will bring.\\nMany people stay in relationships for too long because they're afraid of the emotional whiplash being alone will bring. You may understand that you'll be better in the long run, but the short-term pain makes breaking up seem unbearable. However, you've got to rip off the bandage sometimes, and it will get easier if you remind yourself of several key things:\\nYou will not be alone forever. Being single does not mean you'll never find love again, even if it feels like you'll never find another \\\"perfect\\\" man.\\nIndependence will make you stronger. Being alone is hard, but it forces you to grow in unexpected and important ways. You do not need your guy to be strong and happy.\\n1-5. Remind yourself why you love him to ensure you're making the right decision.\\nThis may be one of the hardest things to do, especially if you've committed to ending the relationship, but you need to consider the good with the bad. Jot down why you love him, the reasons you're together, and the good times you've had. Remember, you will always have these memories, no matter what happens between you. If you make it through this trip down memory lane, but still know that it would be best to end things, then you'll know for sure that you've made the right decision.\\nRemember, it may be best to break up even if you still have feelings for him. You just want to be sure that the bad outweighs the good.\\n1-6. Prioritize your health and happiness.\\nThe final hurdle to a break-up is often your worries about other people. What will our friends think? What will my parents think? How will we sort out our stuff? Most importantly, how will he feel? However, all of these worries are unimportant in comparison to your own happiness and emotional well-being. While this sounds selfish, it is ultimately the most thoughtful perspective you can adopt. If you're in a relationship that isn't working, you're going to take it out on each other with fights and arguments. Friends and family may get dragged in, and worries about your stuff can turn into possessiveness and secrecy. When you're ready to end things, all that matters is your decision to break up. The rest of the details will work themselves out.\\nSometimes a gut feeling -- \\\"This just isn't working\\\" -- is a perfectly acceptable reason for breaking up. Remember that you're doing this for you, not someone else.\\n1-7. End things quickly once you've made you decision.\\nKnow that if you don't break up with him right now - and you keep delaying - the situation you are in may grow worse in the future. You'll regret not taking action while you could have, and end up wasting both his time and yours in a meaningless relationship. It may hurt right now, but once you get this over with, you'll be happy you did. Once you go through with it, both parties can move on, but not before.\\nRemember -- it is better to be happy alone than miserable on your own.\\n2. Breaking Up With Him\\n2-1. Call your boyfriend and ask him to meet you somewhere calm and quiet.\\nBe sure it is an area with few people where you can have an open, honest conversation. Let him know that you need to have a conversation about your relationship, but try not to elaborate on the phone. Still, preparing him, at least a little bit, is common courtesy.\\nRefrain from breaking up with your boyfriend on a date. You should make time to end things instead of trying to tack it onto an otherwise happy night.\\n2-2. Move right into the breakup after you've greeted each other.\\nAvoid beating around the bush, as this will only aggravate you and increase tension. You may also lose courage and change your mind. Breaking up takes 30 seconds of intense, extreme courage. But, at the end of the day, it's only 30 seconds.\\nTake a deep breath and count to three in your head. Know that, when you get to \\\"zero,\\\" it's time to break up with him.\\n2-3. Use direct, unambiguous language.\\nIf you're breaking up with him, you need to make it clear that you're breaking up. Do not leave him guessing or open up the floor for conversation. If you've made your decision, it's time to move on. Make sure he knows that you still love him and would love to be good friends, but you can't continue this relationship any longer. There are some good conversation starters in the guides below for specific breakups, but the main idea is to end things with simple and direct language:\\n\\\"I'm ready to move on from our relationship.\\\"\\n\\\"It's time we saw other people.\\\"\\n\\\"I think we should break up.\\\"\\n2-4. Avoid getting angry, pointing fingers, or assigning blame.\\nBreaking up is hard enough without having a fight or argument. You may have a laundry list of reasons to break up with him, but that doesn't mean you need to point out all of his flaws and the problems in the relationship. That just adds insult to injury, and it can lead to a fight or argument that makes everyone feel even worse (\\\"what do you mean I didn't support you -- I always support you!\\\" or, \\\"That's not my fault, it's your fault for moving away!\\\"). That said, he'll likely ask you why you are doing this, and it is best to have a calm, truthful, but non-judgmental answer ready.\\n\\\"I've realized that we're growing apart. We've grown together for so long, and I cherish all of the time, but I need time to grow on my own now.\\\"\\n\\\"I don't feel like we treat each other with the respect we used to. Some of that is my fault. But we still need to move on to people who will treat us how we deserve.\\\"\\n2-5. Stand by your decision, no matter what he says.\\nIf he's still in love, he may ask for a second chance, come up with a way to salvage things (like a temporary break), or convince you to change your mind. But once you've made your decision, you need to stick with it. Remember, what he says now will not change your relationship, or the problems that led you to break up.\\n\\\"I understand, but I think we need to go our separate ways.\\\"\\n\\\"I don't want to take a break and leave things uncertain. We need to break up.\\\"\\n2-6. Leave once you've said all you need to say.\\nTo soften the blow a little, give him a gentle hug and leave. Don't linger or wait to see what his reaction will be like - you want to avoid tangling yourself up in the emotional fallout of the relationship. Know that this is going to hurt, and there is no way to make it easy or perfect. You will not be happy with each other in the immediate aftermath, no matter how long you stay or what you say. The best thing to do is leave politely.\\n3. Moving on from the Relationship\\n3-1. Remind yourself your reasons for ending things when you miss him.\\nIt's not easy breaking up. However, know that your reasons are right and that it's not you - it's him. Convince yourself you have done the right thing. Although you have completed your mission, you still may feel hurt and angry. The recovery process will depend on how much you love him, but don't worry - you will feel better one day soon.\\nMissing him does not change any of your issues and it is not a reason to get back together. Your bigger issues, the ones you broke up over, will still be there when the dust settles.\\n3-2. Separate yourself completely for the foreseeable future.\\nOnce you've let go of the one you love, it's going to hurt. You'll miss him at random times, feel like you've made a mistake, and want his advice on what to do next. But you have to resist the urge to text, call, or see him. You can move on and get your life back together, but only if you commit to moving on. Resist the urge to talk to him and work on sorting through your emotions on your own. It will be difficult, but you'll be able to do it with time.\\nYou may be able to be friends one day, but that day is in the future. You need to be completely over your romantic feelings, and the only way to get there is to not see each other.\\nPacking away photos and items that bring painful memories is a good way to start the healing process.\\n3-3. Try something new.\\nAs painful as a breakup can be, it also comes with a sense of liberation. You no longer need to make decisions for two -- you can make them only by yourself. You'll notice you have a lot more free time all of a sudden, and events and activities that were difficult to coordinate with a partner are now easily available. Don't spend your time trying to recreate the feeling you had in a relationship -- go out and try something new. Enjoy your newfound liberation and explore the single world.\\nDo things for you. Take the time to take care of yourself for a bit.\\n3-4. Turn to your friends and family for support.\\nHaving a great network of other people reminds you that, even without a boyfriend, you are not alone. Spend your time with other people you love to help heal the inevitable hole in your heart.\\nWhen you feel like calling or texting your ex-boyfriend, call your best friend instead. Let them know, briefly, that you are still kicking old habits chat out your problems.\\nMost people are happy to help you move on, but that doesn't mean they want to hear about your ex-boyfriend all day. Avoid bringing him up, instead moving on to other topics.\\nTips\\nTrust your own feelings. Even if you can't think of a good reason to end things, you're own emotions will point you towards happiness.\\nWarnings\\nIf you're worried your boyfriend might be violent, break up in a public place and let a friend know your plans.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Breaking up with someone you love is hard, but with the right attitude and a lot of confidence, you will be able to burn the fire out. Ultimately, you need to be willing to put your own health, happiness, and future first. If that future doesn't contain your man, then it is time to end things with him, even if you still have feelings.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Making the Right Decision\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ask why you want to break-up with him.\", \"描述\": \"Breaking up with someone is hard. It is no easier when you still have feelings for him. However, sometimes relationships stall, grow apart, and become difficult to manage due to time or space apart. You can be in love with someone and still feel like you need to move on to a new stage of your life. If you're considering a break-up, ask yourself a few questions about yourself and the relationship. If you say no to most of the following, it may be time to move on:\\nDo you only want to break up because of present circumstances, like a recent fight or money troubles? If not, is it because of long-term problems?\\nDo you have second thoughts about breaking up, or have you been sure of your decision for a few weeks?\\nIf your partner asked you for a second chance, would you say yes?\\nDo you see your partner in your life 6 months from now?\\nDo you genuinely love your boyfriend or do you just love the idea of him?\\nDo you only want to break up because you don't feel good enough to be with him?\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Write down a list of reasons why you want to break up.\", \"描述\": \"No doubt it may be hard, but if you get down your reasons down on paper, it makes it easier to convince yourself you need to get through with this. Don't worry about hurting anyone's feelings -- this paper is for you and you only. Brainstorm why you need to end things, considering the following reasons:\\nYou can't give him the love he deserves. You may need to move for a new job, want to spend more time with your family, or have a hard time supporting his needs. If you truly love him but know that you can't/don't want be there for him, it's time to end it.\\nYou've fallen in love with someone else. Unfortunately, you can't really control who you love. If you've got deep feelings for another, you need to end things with your current man before moving on.\\nYou don't see yourself spending the rest of your life with him. This is especially important if he seems to plan his future around you. End things now instead of hoping you change your mind -- it won't happen.\\nYou're unhappy. If the bad times outweigh the good, and the relationship weighs on your mind each day, it's time to move on. This isn't a phase -- this is relationship that has begun to go sour.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Look over your reasons one week later.\", \"描述\": \"Read your reasons for needing to break up with him and see if they still feel true. Did you dash that list off in the spur of the moment, or do you still feel the same way seven days later. If you're still sure of your decision to break-up, you've made the right one.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Look ahead to an independent lifestyle, not at the temporary pain a break up will bring.\", \"描述\": \"Many people stay in relationships for too long because they're afraid of the emotional whiplash being alone will bring. You may understand that you'll be better in the long run, but the short-term pain makes breaking up seem unbearable. However, you've got to rip off the bandage sometimes, and it will get easier if you remind yourself of several key things:\\nYou will not be alone forever. Being single does not mean you'll never find love again, even if it feels like you'll never find another \\\"perfect\\\" man.\\nIndependence will make you stronger. Being alone is hard, but it forces you to grow in unexpected and important ways. You do not need your guy to be strong and happy.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Remind yourself why you love him to ensure you're making the right decision.\", \"描述\": \"This may be one of the hardest things to do, especially if you've committed to ending the relationship, but you need to consider the good with the bad. Jot down why you love him, the reasons you're together, and the good times you've had. Remember, you will always have these memories, no matter what happens between you. If you make it through this trip down memory lane, but still know that it would be best to end things, then you'll know for sure that you've made the right decision.\\nRemember, it may be best to break up even if you still have feelings for him. You just want to be sure that the bad outweighs the good.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Prioritize your health and happiness.\", \"描述\": \"The final hurdle to a break-up is often your worries about other people. What will our friends think? What will my parents think? How will we sort out our stuff? Most importantly, how will he feel? However, all of these worries are unimportant in comparison to your own happiness and emotional well-being. While this sounds selfish, it is ultimately the most thoughtful perspective you can adopt. If you're in a relationship that isn't working, you're going to take it out on each other with fights and arguments. Friends and family may get dragged in, and worries about your stuff can turn into possessiveness and secrecy. When you're ready to end things, all that matters is your decision to break up. The rest of the details will work themselves out.\\nSometimes a gut feeling -- \\\"This just isn't working\\\" -- is a perfectly acceptable reason for breaking up. Remember that you're doing this for you, not someone else.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"End things quickly once you've made you decision.\", \"描述\": \"Know that if you don't break up with him right now - and you keep delaying - the situation you are in may grow worse in the future. You'll regret not taking action while you could have, and end up wasting both his time and yours in a meaningless relationship. It may hurt right now, but once you get this over with, you'll be happy you did. Once you go through with it, both parties can move on, but not before.\\nRemember -- it is better to be happy alone than miserable on your own.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Breaking Up With Him\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Call your boyfriend and ask him to meet you somewhere calm and quiet.\", \"描述\": \"Be sure it is an area with few people where you can have an open, honest conversation. Let him know that you need to have a conversation about your relationship, but try not to elaborate on the phone. Still, preparing him, at least a little bit, is common courtesy.\\nRefrain from breaking up with your boyfriend on a date. You should make time to end things instead of trying to tack it onto an otherwise happy night.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Move right into the breakup after you've greeted each other.\", \"描述\": \"Avoid beating around the bush, as this will only aggravate you and increase tension. You may also lose courage and change your mind. Breaking up takes 30 seconds of intense, extreme courage. But, at the end of the day, it's only 30 seconds.\\nTake a deep breath and count to three in your head. Know that, when you get to \\\"zero,\\\" it's time to break up with him.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Use direct, unambiguous language.\", \"描述\": \"If you're breaking up with him, you need to make it clear that you're breaking up. Do not leave him guessing or open up the floor for conversation. If you've made your decision, it's time to move on. Make sure he knows that you still love him and would love to be good friends, but you can't continue this relationship any longer. There are some good conversation starters in the guides below for specific breakups, but the main idea is to end things with simple and direct language:\\n\\\"I'm ready to move on from our relationship.\\\"\\n\\\"It's time we saw other people.\\\"\\n\\\"I think we should break up.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Avoid getting angry, pointing fingers, or assigning blame.\", \"描述\": \"Breaking up is hard enough without having a fight or argument. You may have a laundry list of reasons to break up with him, but that doesn't mean you need to point out all of his flaws and the problems in the relationship. That just adds insult to injury, and it can lead to a fight or argument that makes everyone feel even worse (\\\"what do you mean I didn't support you -- I always support you!\\\" or, \\\"That's not my fault, it's your fault for moving away!\\\"). That said, he'll likely ask you why you are doing this, and it is best to have a calm, truthful, but non-judgmental answer ready.\\n\\\"I've realized that we're growing apart. We've grown together for so long, and I cherish all of the time, but I need time to grow on my own now.\\\"\\n\\\"I don't feel like we treat each other with the respect we used to. Some of that is my fault. But we still need to move on to people who will treat us how we deserve.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Stand by your decision, no matter what he says.\", \"描述\": \"If he's still in love, he may ask for a second chance, come up with a way to salvage things (like a temporary break), or convince you to change your mind. But once you've made your decision, you need to stick with it. Remember, what he says now will not change your relationship, or the problems that led you to break up.\\n\\\"I understand, but I think we need to go our separate ways.\\\"\\n\\\"I don't want to take a break and leave things uncertain. We need to break up.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Leave once you've said all you need to say.\", \"描述\": \"To soften the blow a little, give him a gentle hug and leave. Don't linger or wait to see what his reaction will be like - you want to avoid tangling yourself up in the emotional fallout of the relationship. Know that this is going to hurt, and there is no way to make it easy or perfect. You will not be happy with each other in the immediate aftermath, no matter how long you stay or what you say. The best thing to do is leave politely.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Moving on from the Relationship\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Remind yourself your reasons for ending things when you miss him.\", \"描述\": \"It's not easy breaking up. However, know that your reasons are right and that it's not you - it's him. Convince yourself you have done the right thing. Although you have completed your mission, you still may feel hurt and angry. The recovery process will depend on how much you love him, but don't worry - you will feel better one day soon.\\nMissing him does not change any of your issues and it is not a reason to get back together. Your bigger issues, the ones you broke up over, will still be there when the dust settles.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Separate yourself completely for the foreseeable future.\", \"描述\": \"Once you've let go of the one you love, it's going to hurt. You'll miss him at random times, feel like you've made a mistake, and want his advice on what to do next. But you have to resist the urge to text, call, or see him. You can move on and get your life back together, but only if you commit to moving on. Resist the urge to talk to him and work on sorting through your emotions on your own. It will be difficult, but you'll be able to do it with time.\\nYou may be able to be friends one day, but that day is in the future. You need to be completely over your romantic feelings, and the only way to get there is to not see each other.\\nPacking away photos and items that bring painful memories is a good way to start the healing process.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Try something new.\", \"描述\": \"As painful as a breakup can be, it also comes with a sense of liberation. You no longer need to make decisions for two -- you can make them only by yourself. You'll notice you have a lot more free time all of a sudden, and events and activities that were difficult to coordinate with a partner are now easily available. Don't spend your time trying to recreate the feeling you had in a relationship -- go out and try something new. Enjoy your newfound liberation and explore the single world.\\nDo things for you. 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1. Confronting the Person
1-1. Arrange a time and place to meet up.
When you don't want to keep the person guessing about why you don't want to be friends, a face to face conversation might be in order. Parks and coffee shops are good stops for breakups because they're neutral, public locations. Even though things might get emotional during your conversation, you'll both be likely to keep things contained if you're in a public place.
Avoid arranging to have a long meal together, since you might be ready to go before the food even arrives.
If you don't want to meet in person, it's fine to break up with your friend over the phone. Avoid doing it over text, since it's harder to express yourself fully and have a real conversation.
Do not break up with your friend in front of people you both know. This can be deeply embarrassing and hurtful.
1-2. Tell your friend why you're ending it.
Be straightforward about why you don't want to be friends. Did your friend cheat with your boyfriend? Does he or she constantly cut you down? Whatever the reason, now is the time to spell it out. Telling your friend exactly what's going on is a brave thing to do, and in the end the person will probably be glad to know what happened.
It's always best to have a conversation, if possible. Ghosting can be devastating to another person.
There is a situation in which being straightforward is not the kindest way to end a friendship. If you just don't like the person anymore, through no fault of his or her own, there's really no reason to say it out loud. If this is the case, go to Method 2 and let the friendship naturally fade.
1-3. Give your friend a chance to talk.
Your friend will either get defensive, apologize, or do a mix of both after your confrontation. You might want to hear him or her out, just in case there's the tiniest chance that you want to stay friends after all. If it's possible there was some kind of misunderstanding, you'll want to know. If that's not possible, continue the breakup process.
1-4. Set boundaries.
Maybe you want to cut things off for good right here and now, or maybe you're fine seeing the person every now and then in a group setting. Whatever the case, be very clear that this is a breaking point, and from now on things will be different. Lay out your boundaries up front so you won't be tempted to back down later.
If you never want to talk again, tell the person you won't be in touch after this and that you don't want to hear from him or her, either.
If you're still fine hanging out in a group but you don't want to have one-on-one talks, it's fine to say that. It's also fine to say that you might be open to renewing the friendship later, but only if you mean it. Otherwise the person might keep trying to get in touch when you just want to be left alone. Just be crystal clear about your expectations so your former friend won't get confused.
If your friend truly respects you, they'll respect the boundaries that you're setting up.
1-5. Stick to your boundaries.
If the person tries to get in touch or win you back over, don't respond. You've said your piece, you've heard the person out, and now your obligation as a friend is over. Just like when you break up with a significant other, breaking up with a friend means you don't have to be responsible for that person anymore.
This is easier said than done. If your former friend is really upset, it might be extremely hard to ignore his or her calls and texts. If you're serious about breaking up this friendship, don't let the person cross your boundaries. You'll just give him or her the wrong impression and make things harder in the future.
Remember—you have nothing to feel guilty about!
2. Letting it Naturally Fade
2-1. If you're growing apart, don't fight it.
The fade-out method is best for a situation in which you and your friend are simply growing apart. Maybe there's no concrete reason you don't like the person anymore; you're just interested in other things and other people. Start spending your time how you want to spend it, hanging out with people and doing activities you enjoy. Chances are, your friend will do the same, and you'll start drifting apart without having to make a big deal about it.
2-2. Stop calling and texting your friend.
To break up a friendship, you need to slow down communication. Stop getting in touch with your friend to make plans or just to talk. Stop initiating chats online, text conversations, and any other contact. You can still chat when you see him or her in person, like if you both go out with the same group of friends, but avoid unnecessary contact.
When two friends are naturally ready to part ways, it's not difficult to be in touch less often. You'd probably both rather be doing other things, anyway, so it won't feel like a big sacrifice not to talk much more than you need to.
On the other hand, if your friend isn't feeling the same way you are about the friendship, being in touch less may hurt his or her feelings. Unfortunately it's really hard to avoid hurt feelings when you're ending a friendship. You'll have to decide whether you still want to end it either way.
2-3. Keep conversations light.
Friends get closer by having deep, revealing conversations during which they get to know each other really well. To pull away from a friend, stop having big heart-to-hearts. When you talk, stick to shallow, surface topics, just like you would with an acquaintance. If you keep talking like friends, it'll be harder for the friendship to fade.
If your friend tends to want to talk about private matters, like her relationship with her boyfriend, steer the conversation in a safer direction. Change the subject so she doesn't get the chance to tell you her deepest feelings.
Eventually your friend will start to notice that you don't talk the way you used to. He or she may call you out on it or decide to withdraw, too. Be prepared for either reaction.
2-4. Politely decline invitations.
It might take awhile for your friend to catch on to the fact that you're just not into the friendship anymore. A sure way to create some distance is to decline invitations politely, but firmly. If the invitation is for a group activity, you might want to participate, but avoid one-on-one outings. You'll just lead the other person on.
Again, if the other person isn't ready for this to end, declining his or her invitations is going to cause some hurt. It's up to you to decide whether the nicer thing to do is be more straightforward about why you keep saying "no" every time he or she invites you to do something.
2-5. Make excuses if you need to.
If you really don't want to tell the person the truth, deflect invitations with excuses. Say you're busy, you have relatives in town, you have too much homework, and so on. This could be seen as the easy way out, since it's not a very honest way to behave toward someone who was a friend. However, if you have a good reason to end the friendship and really don't want to deal with a confrontation, making excuses is pretty effective.
2-6. Gradually let the friendship come to a stop.
Best case scenario, the person catches on that you've moved on from the friendship and decides to go his or her own way. However, if the former friend asks you what's going on, you may want to give him or her an explanation. Be ready for this reaction, since it could be the case that you mean more to your former friend than he or she means to you.
2-7. Consider the silent treatment for an abusive friendship.
If the person you want to break up with has been physically or emotionally abusive or manipulative, you don't owe that person anything; even politeness. Just stop all contact, unfriend the person on your social media accounts, and avoid seeing the person when you don't have to.
If you try to have a conversation with the person about it, he or she may end up making you feel like you are the one who did something wrong. Don't get wrapped up in that drama. If you know the person is going to make things hard for you, just cut it off cold turkey.
3. Handling the Aftermath
3-1. Deal with your former friend's emotions.
Being dumped is not easy, whether you deserve it or not. Be prepared for your friend to cry, beg for you to be friends again, or even get extremely angry. You were strong enough to breakup with your friend, and you're strong enough to deal with the aftermath. Try not to let yourself get wrapped up in the person's emotions. Remember to stick to your boundaries and cut off all contact if necessary.
3-2. Beware of passive-aggressive behavior.
Sometimes a former friend will try to make your life harder in small, passive aggressive ways. This is especially true if you go to school together or work in the same place and have to see each other frequently. The person might try to turn others against you, spread gossip about you, or make you look bad somehow. Stay strong and realize that if someone behaves so horribly, your decision to end the friendship was right on.
If the behavior escalates from passive-aggressive to just plain aggressive, you may need to take further action. Talk to your teachers or supervisors if it's happening at work or school. See if you can provide evidence that you are being targeted.
You may have legal options as well. If the person won't leave you alone and his or her behavior constitutes harassment, you may want to file a restraining order.
3-3. Realize this might affect other friendships, too.
Breaking up with one friend often affects the people you both knew. If you were both part of the same larger friend group, things might be pretty awkward for a while. Hopefully your other friends won't take sides, but if they do, you know who your real friends are.
3-4. Take care of yourself.
You'll probably feel a sense of freedom after breaking up with a bad friend. Even so, breakups are often tough. It's emotionally difficult to let someone down, and the consequences can last much longer than expected. After the friendship is officially over, make a point of spending time with people who make you feel good. Surround yourself with loved ones and try to put the old friendship out of your mind.
You may also feel surprisingly sad to lose the good parts of the friendship with the person you broke up with. After all, you were friends for a reason, even if your relationship eventually turned bad. Sadness is totally normal in this situation.
Tips
Be firm with what you say to avoid confusion.
Don't say it in a rude way because that person also has feelings.
Burn your bridges carefully. It can be very hard to restart a friendship, so be certain you want to end things if that's the path you pick.
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Did your friend cheat with your boyfriend? Does he or she constantly cut you down? Whatever the reason, now is the time to spell it out. Telling your friend exactly what's going on is a brave thing to do, and in the end the person will probably be glad to know what happened.\\nIt's always best to have a conversation, if possible. Ghosting can be devastating to another person.\\nThere is a situation in which being straightforward is not the kindest way to end a friendship. If you just don't like the person anymore, through no fault of his or her own, there's really no reason to say it out loud. If this is the case, go to Method 2 and let the friendship naturally fade.\\n1-3. Give your friend a chance to talk.\\nYour friend will either get defensive, apologize, or do a mix of both after your confrontation. You might want to hear him or her out, just in case there's the tiniest chance that you want to stay friends after all. If it's possible there was some kind of misunderstanding, you'll want to know. If that's not possible, continue the breakup process.\\n1-4. Set boundaries.\\nMaybe you want to cut things off for good right here and now, or maybe you're fine seeing the person every now and then in a group setting. Whatever the case, be very clear that this is a breaking point, and from now on things will be different. Lay out your boundaries up front so you won't be tempted to back down later.\\nIf you never want to talk again, tell the person you won't be in touch after this and that you don't want to hear from him or her, either.\\nIf you're still fine hanging out in a group but you don't want to have one-on-one talks, it's fine to say that. It's also fine to say that you might be open to renewing the friendship later, but only if you mean it. Otherwise the person might keep trying to get in touch when you just want to be left alone. Just be crystal clear about your expectations so your former friend won't get confused.\\nIf your friend truly respects you, they'll respect the boundaries that you're setting up.\\n1-5. Stick to your boundaries.\\nIf the person tries to get in touch or win you back over, don't respond. You've said your piece, you've heard the person out, and now your obligation as a friend is over. Just like when you break up with a significant other, breaking up with a friend means you don't have to be responsible for that person anymore.\\nThis is easier said than done. If your former friend is really upset, it might be extremely hard to ignore his or her calls and texts. If you're serious about breaking up this friendship, don't let the person cross your boundaries. You'll just give him or her the wrong impression and make things harder in the future.\\nRemember—you have nothing to feel guilty about!\\n2. Letting it Naturally Fade\\n2-1. If you're growing apart, don't fight it.\\nThe fade-out method is best for a situation in which you and your friend are simply growing apart. Maybe there's no concrete reason you don't like the person anymore; you're just interested in other things and other people. Start spending your time how you want to spend it, hanging out with people and doing activities you enjoy. Chances are, your friend will do the same, and you'll start drifting apart without having to make a big deal about it.\\n2-2. Stop calling and texting your friend.\\nTo break up a friendship, you need to slow down communication. Stop getting in touch with your friend to make plans or just to talk. Stop initiating chats online, text conversations, and any other contact. You can still chat when you see him or her in person, like if you both go out with the same group of friends, but avoid unnecessary contact.\\nWhen two friends are naturally ready to part ways, it's not difficult to be in touch less often. You'd probably both rather be doing other things, anyway, so it won't feel like a big sacrifice not to talk much more than you need to.\\nOn the other hand, if your friend isn't feeling the same way you are about the friendship, being in touch less may hurt his or her feelings. Unfortunately it's really hard to avoid hurt feelings when you're ending a friendship. You'll have to decide whether you still want to end it either way.\\n2-3. Keep conversations light.\\nFriends get closer by having deep, revealing conversations during which they get to know each other really well. To pull away from a friend, stop having big heart-to-hearts. When you talk, stick to shallow, surface topics, just like you would with an acquaintance. If you keep talking like friends, it'll be harder for the friendship to fade.\\nIf your friend tends to want to talk about private matters, like her relationship with her boyfriend, steer the conversation in a safer direction. Change the subject so she doesn't get the chance to tell you her deepest feelings.\\nEventually your friend will start to notice that you don't talk the way you used to. He or she may call you out on it or decide to withdraw, too. Be prepared for either reaction.\\n2-4. Politely decline invitations.\\nIt might take awhile for your friend to catch on to the fact that you're just not into the friendship anymore. A sure way to create some distance is to decline invitations politely, but firmly. If the invitation is for a group activity, you might want to participate, but avoid one-on-one outings. You'll just lead the other person on.\\nAgain, if the other person isn't ready for this to end, declining his or her invitations is going to cause some hurt. It's up to you to decide whether the nicer thing to do is be more straightforward about why you keep saying \\\"no\\\" every time he or she invites you to do something.\\n2-5. Make excuses if you need to.\\nIf you really don't want to tell the person the truth, deflect invitations with excuses. Say you're busy, you have relatives in town, you have too much homework, and so on. This could be seen as the easy way out, since it's not a very honest way to behave toward someone who was a friend. However, if you have a good reason to end the friendship and really don't want to deal with a confrontation, making excuses is pretty effective.\\n2-6. Gradually let the friendship come to a stop.\\nBest case scenario, the person catches on that you've moved on from the friendship and decides to go his or her own way. However, if the former friend asks you what's going on, you may want to give him or her an explanation. Be ready for this reaction, since it could be the case that you mean more to your former friend than he or she means to you.\\n2-7. Consider the silent treatment for an abusive friendship.\\nIf the person you want to break up with has been physically or emotionally abusive or manipulative, you don't owe that person anything; even politeness. Just stop all contact, unfriend the person on your social media accounts, and avoid seeing the person when you don't have to.\\nIf you try to have a conversation with the person about it, he or she may end up making you feel like you are the one who did something wrong. Don't get wrapped up in that drama. If you know the person is going to make things hard for you, just cut it off cold turkey.\\n3. Handling the Aftermath\\n3-1. Deal with your former friend's emotions.\\nBeing dumped is not easy, whether you deserve it or not. Be prepared for your friend to cry, beg for you to be friends again, or even get extremely angry. You were strong enough to breakup with your friend, and you're strong enough to deal with the aftermath. Try not to let yourself get wrapped up in the person's emotions. Remember to stick to your boundaries and cut off all contact if necessary.\\n3-2. Beware of passive-aggressive behavior.\\nSometimes a former friend will try to make your life harder in small, passive aggressive ways. This is especially true if you go to school together or work in the same place and have to see each other frequently. The person might try to turn others against you, spread gossip about you, or make you look bad somehow. Stay strong and realize that if someone behaves so horribly, your decision to end the friendship was right on.\\nIf the behavior escalates from passive-aggressive to just plain aggressive, you may need to take further action. Talk to your teachers or supervisors if it's happening at work or school. See if you can provide evidence that you are being targeted.\\nYou may have legal options as well. If the person won't leave you alone and his or her behavior constitutes harassment, you may want to file a restraining order.\\n3-3. Realize this might affect other friendships, too.\\nBreaking up with one friend often affects the people you both knew. If you were both part of the same larger friend group, things might be pretty awkward for a while. Hopefully your other friends won't take sides, but if they do, you know who your real friends are.\\n3-4. Take care of yourself.\\nYou'll probably feel a sense of freedom after breaking up with a bad friend. Even so, breakups are often tough. It's emotionally difficult to let someone down, and the consequences can last much longer than expected. After the friendship is officially over, make a point of spending time with people who make you feel good. Surround yourself with loved ones and try to put the old friendship out of your mind.\\nYou may also feel surprisingly sad to lose the good parts of the friendship with the person you broke up with. After all, you were friends for a reason, even if your relationship eventually turned bad. Sadness is totally normal in this situation.\\nTips\\nBe firm with what you say to avoid confusion.\\nDon't say it in a rude way because that person also has feelings.\\nBurn your bridges carefully. It can be very hard to restart a friendship, so be certain you want to end things if that's the path you pick.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Many people have been through a breakup with a significant other, but breaking up with a friend can be even harder. When you have a fight you know you can't resolve or you just don't have that much in common anymore, it's time to pull the plug. You can let the friendship fade out naturally, have a confrontation with your friend, or cut things off cold turkey. 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If this is the case, go to Method 2 and let the friendship naturally fade.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Give your friend a chance to talk.\", \"描述\": \"Your friend will either get defensive, apologize, or do a mix of both after your confrontation. You might want to hear him or her out, just in case there's the tiniest chance that you want to stay friends after all. If it's possible there was some kind of misunderstanding, you'll want to know. If that's not possible, continue the breakup process.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Set boundaries.\", \"描述\": \"Maybe you want to cut things off for good right here and now, or maybe you're fine seeing the person every now and then in a group setting. Whatever the case, be very clear that this is a breaking point, and from now on things will be different. Lay out your boundaries up front so you won't be tempted to back down later.\\nIf you never want to talk again, tell the person you won't be in touch after this and that you don't want to hear from him or her, either.\\nIf you're still fine hanging out in a group but you don't want to have one-on-one talks, it's fine to say that. It's also fine to say that you might be open to renewing the friendship later, but only if you mean it. Otherwise the person might keep trying to get in touch when you just want to be left alone. Just be crystal clear about your expectations so your former friend won't get confused.\\nIf your friend truly respects you, they'll respect the boundaries that you're setting up.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Stick to your boundaries.\", \"描述\": \"If the person tries to get in touch or win you back over, don't respond. You've said your piece, you've heard the person out, and now your obligation as a friend is over. 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How to End a Relationship Respectfully: What to Do & What Not to Do
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1. What Not to Do
1-1. Don't break up with your partner by text, phone, or email.
If it's possible to break up face-to-face, try to do so. In most cases, breaking up over text or email or even over the phone will come across as disrespectful, and for your soon-to-be ex, it can feel like you're being evasive. Do it privately and in person.
You might not realize it, but there are benefits to ending a relationship in person. For one thing, it gives both people a chance to talk and reflect on the situation. And even though it will be harder to do, it will most likely lead to less drama, which is a good thing.
If you're in a long-distance relationship, it might be tricky to end things in person (and you wouldn't want your girlfriend to take a trip to see you only to be broken up with). If you can, arrange a video chat with her at a quiet time, and break up then.
1-2. Don't place blame solely on the other person for the breakup.
Things are rarely that simple. Be prepared to discuss your relationship without pointing your finger. In an effort to be fair, and to not have your ex-girlfriend feel like she is directly responsible for the end of the relationship, consider mentioning the things that you could have changed to make the relationship better.
“I think we could have both tried a little harder to meet each other’s needs.”
“I really like you, but I’m not sure we’re good for one another.”
“In hindsight, I wasn’t as supportive of you as I should have been, and I’m so sorry. But I think it’s at the point where it’s best to end things.”
Of course, in some cases, the blame will be solely on the other person. If your girlfriend is cheating, abusing drugs, manipulating you, or increasingly disrespecting you, you can lay the blame directly on her actions, but be aware that this may cause an argument.
1-3. Don't lead your ex on.
It might be tempting to tell your ex you want to stay in touch or be friends, but if you don't want to be friends afterward, don't leave the door open for that possibility. Even if you do want to stay in touch, it’s often best to take time apart immediately after a breakup while you both get used to life without the other person.
Find a nice way to say it: instead of “Oh yeah, and I don't want to stay friends afterwards, just so you know,” try something like “You know that I care for you. I just don't think it will be healthy for either of us to stay friends immediately after we break up. Hopefully sometime down the road, when we've both figured stuff out, we can get to that place.”
1-4. Don't gossip about your breakup to other people.
Use discretion when telling mutual friends about your breakup. Not only could bragging or gossiping about the relationship hurt your girlfriend, it could encourage your ex to sling some nasty rumors your way, and generally cause some immature behavior.
Tell your close friends and rely on them for support as you heal from the breakup, but don't publicize your breakup to acquaintances or people you hardly know.
It’s possible to inform friends without getting too detailed. You might say: “Hey, I don’t really want to get into it, but Sarah and I broke up yesterday and I thought you should know.”
1-5. Don't be petty during or after the breakup.
It can be hard to break up gracefully, especially if your girlfriend did something to make you want to leave the relationship, such as cheating. Being "petty" can be hard to define, but it usually includes acting in ways that you wouldn't want your girlfriend to act with you if she were breaking up with you. Be graceful and compassionate, sensitive and thoughtful. Realize that just because you no longer want to be with your girlfriend doesn’t mean the situation has to be harder than it already is.
Don't cheat on your ex before you break up with her. If something is simmering between you and another person, really think about your feelings, and break up with your current girlfriend before you do anything with the other person. It will look better to your ex, and feel better for you.
2. What to Do
2-1. Pick a private, low-stress time and place to break up.
Find a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed. Obviously, there's never a perfect time to end a relationship, but right before a celebration, test, or vacation is a bad moment to do it. Give yourself enough time to have a conversation, and try to do it when she doesn't have anything else significant going on afterward. Don’t wait too long, though: it’s easy to find excuses for putting off a breakup, but it’s best to break things off sooner than later.
It's just like ripping off a bandage—if you rip it off all in one go, the pain will be over quickly, but if you do it slowly, it’ll hurt for longer.
2-2. Expect to feel a range of emotions when you break up.
Even if you’ve gotten used to the idea of ending the relationship, when you finally break up, you may feel a lot of strong feelings. You could experience sadness, anger, or even a lack of emotion. It's okay to experience any and all of these feelings during a breakup. If you feel like showing emotion, don't hold back. If the emotion isn't there, for whatever reason, don't force it.
It’s common to feel grief during and after a breakup. It doesn’t mean you’ve made a mistake by ending the relationship—it just means the relationship meant something to you.
2-3. Give her a truthful explanation.
If possible, plan out what you want to say ahead of time. If you can't come up with a legitimate reason for why you're no longer interested in the relationship, try journaling or talking it through with a friend. It doesn't have to be perfect, but make it authentic and thoughtful. After you explain your reasons for wanting to break up, stay with her while she's processing the information, answering any follow-up questions she may have.
When explaining the reasons for a breakup, don't compare your relationship to other relationships. Your relationship is your own, and your reasons for breaking up don’t have anything to do with anyone else's relationship.
“I’ve had such a great time with you, and you’re so special, but we want such different things that I’m not sure we’re really compatible. I’m sorry.”
“I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, and it’s just not working for me. I don’t think we have enough in common.”
“I think our worldviews clash more than I initially realized, and we might both be better off apart.”
2-4. Resist the urge to argue during the breakup.
When someone is being broken up with, there's a good chance they're going to be angry. Don't feed your girlfriend’s anger by provoking, debating, or belittling her. Exes sometimes say very hurtful things when they argue.
Remember that while breaking up can be an extremely emotional time for you, your girlfriend, who hasn’t had time to prepare for the breakup, may feel even more intense emotions, and she may find it hard to manage them in the moment.
2-5. Reassure her.
If it's appropriate, offer hugs and other appropriate signs of affection if your ex looks like she needs it. Talk about the aspects of her personality that attracted you to her in the beginning, and the traits of hers that stayed strong during the relationship. This way, she won't feel as horrible; it could do something good for her confidence, which will probably be shaken by the breakup.
You can reassure her while still being honest about why you want to break up. If you want to break up because of something she’s done, you can say so while still reassuring her you care for her and wish her the best.
“You’re such an amazing girl and I’ve had such a great time with you, but I just think the relationship has run its course.”
“I know this sucks and I’m so sorry. I just know you’re going to find someone who you’re more compatible with soon.”
“You’re brilliant, beautiful, funny, and I really care about you—but I just don’t think I can get past what you did, so it’s best we go our separate ways.”
2-6. Offer to talk with her at a later time if she has any questions.
Unless you've decided that it's absolutely best to not talk after the breakup, give her the option of discussing things when the situation is a little more calm. This will give you both time to think, and may help her feel like she is also given a chance to get things off her chest.
“I know this probably came as a shock and you might not fully process it for a while, so if you want to talk more later, I’m here.”
“Let me know if you’d like to meet up again to talk about this. I don’t want to cut and run, and I want us to both be able to get things off our chest if we need to.”
“I really care about you, and I hope you understand where I’m coming from. But if you want to talk more later, please let me know. I’m around.”
Tips
Realize it’s almost guaranteed that she’ll be hurt by the breakup. She might even resent you for a little while. You can try to be as tactful and respectful as possible, but don’t feel guilty: you aren’t responsible for her pain.
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Be prepared to discuss your relationship without pointing your finger. In an effort to be fair, and to not have your ex-girlfriend feel like she is directly responsible for the end of the relationship, consider mentioning the things that you could have changed to make the relationship better.\\n“I think we could have both tried a little harder to meet each other’s needs.”\\n“I really like you, but I’m not sure we’re good for one another.”\\n“In hindsight, I wasn’t as supportive of you as I should have been, and I’m so sorry. But I think it’s at the point where it’s best to end things.”\\nOf course, in some cases, the blame will be solely on the other person. If your girlfriend is cheating, abusing drugs, manipulating you, or increasingly disrespecting you, you can lay the blame directly on her actions, but be aware that this may cause an argument.\\n1-3. Don't lead your ex on.\\nIt might be tempting to tell your ex you want to stay in touch or be friends, but if you don't want to be friends afterward, don't leave the door open for that possibility. Even if you do want to stay in touch, it’s often best to take time apart immediately after a breakup while you both get used to life without the other person.\\nFind a nice way to say it: instead of “Oh yeah, and I don't want to stay friends afterwards, just so you know,” try something like “You know that I care for you. I just don't think it will be healthy for either of us to stay friends immediately after we break up. Hopefully sometime down the road, when we've both figured stuff out, we can get to that place.”\\n1-4. Don't gossip about your breakup to other people.\\nUse discretion when telling mutual friends about your breakup. Not only could bragging or gossiping about the relationship hurt your girlfriend, it could encourage your ex to sling some nasty rumors your way, and generally cause some immature behavior.\\nTell your close friends and rely on them for support as you heal from the breakup, but don't publicize your breakup to acquaintances or people you hardly know.\\nIt’s possible to inform friends without getting too detailed. You might say: “Hey, I don’t really want to get into it, but Sarah and I broke up yesterday and I thought you should know.”\\n1-5. Don't be petty during or after the breakup.\\nIt can be hard to break up gracefully, especially if your girlfriend did something to make you want to leave the relationship, such as cheating. Being \\\"petty\\\" can be hard to define, but it usually includes acting in ways that you wouldn't want your girlfriend to act with you if she were breaking up with you. Be graceful and compassionate, sensitive and thoughtful. Realize that just because you no longer want to be with your girlfriend doesn’t mean the situation has to be harder than it already is.\\nDon't cheat on your ex before you break up with her. If something is simmering between you and another person, really think about your feelings, and break up with your current girlfriend before you do anything with the other person. It will look better to your ex, and feel better for you.\\n2. What to Do\\n2-1. Pick a private, low-stress time and place to break up.\\nFind a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed. Obviously, there's never a perfect time to end a relationship, but right before a celebration, test, or vacation is a bad moment to do it. Give yourself enough time to have a conversation, and try to do it when she doesn't have anything else significant going on afterward. Don’t wait too long, though: it’s easy to find excuses for putting off a breakup, but it’s best to break things off sooner than later.\\nIt's just like ripping off a bandage—if you rip it off all in one go, the pain will be over quickly, but if you do it slowly, it’ll hurt for longer.\\n2-2. Expect to feel a range of emotions when you break up.\\nEven if you’ve gotten used to the idea of ending the relationship, when you finally break up, you may feel a lot of strong feelings. You could experience sadness, anger, or even a lack of emotion. It's okay to experience any and all of these feelings during a breakup. If you feel like showing emotion, don't hold back. If the emotion isn't there, for whatever reason, don't force it.\\nIt’s common to feel grief during and after a breakup. It doesn’t mean you’ve made a mistake by ending the relationship—it just means the relationship meant something to you.\\n2-3. Give her a truthful explanation.\\nIf possible, plan out what you want to say ahead of time. If you can't come up with a legitimate reason for why you're no longer interested in the relationship, try journaling or talking it through with a friend. It doesn't have to be perfect, but make it authentic and thoughtful. After you explain your reasons for wanting to break up, stay with her while she's processing the information, answering any follow-up questions she may have.\\nWhen explaining the reasons for a breakup, don't compare your relationship to other relationships. Your relationship is your own, and your reasons for breaking up don’t have anything to do with anyone else's relationship.\\n“I’ve had such a great time with you, and you’re so special, but we want such different things that I’m not sure we’re really compatible. I’m sorry.”\\n“I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, and it’s just not working for me. I don’t think we have enough in common.”\\n“I think our worldviews clash more than I initially realized, and we might both be better off apart.”\\n2-4. Resist the urge to argue during the breakup.\\nWhen someone is being broken up with, there's a good chance they're going to be angry. Don't feed your girlfriend’s anger by provoking, debating, or belittling her. Exes sometimes say very hurtful things when they argue.\\nRemember that while breaking up can be an extremely emotional time for you, your girlfriend, who hasn’t had time to prepare for the breakup, may feel even more intense emotions, and she may find it hard to manage them in the moment.\\n2-5. Reassure her.\\nIf it's appropriate, offer hugs and other appropriate signs of affection if your ex looks like she needs it. Talk about the aspects of her personality that attracted you to her in the beginning, and the traits of hers that stayed strong during the relationship. This way, she won't feel as horrible; it could do something good for her confidence, which will probably be shaken by the breakup.\\nYou can reassure her while still being honest about why you want to break up. If you want to break up because of something she’s done, you can say so while still reassuring her you care for her and wish her the best.\\n“You’re such an amazing girl and I’ve had such a great time with you, but I just think the relationship has run its course.”\\n“I know this sucks and I’m so sorry. I just know you’re going to find someone who you’re more compatible with soon.”\\n“You’re brilliant, beautiful, funny, and I really care about you—but I just don’t think I can get past what you did, so it’s best we go our separate ways.”\\n2-6. Offer to talk with her at a later time if she has any questions.\\nUnless you've decided that it's absolutely best to not talk after the breakup, give her the option of discussing things when the situation is a little more calm. This will give you both time to think, and may help her feel like she is also given a chance to get things off her chest.\\n“I know this probably came as a shock and you might not fully process it for a while, so if you want to talk more later, I’m here.”\\n“Let me know if you’d like to meet up again to talk about this. I don’t want to cut and run, and I want us to both be able to get things off our chest if we need to.”\\n“I really care about you, and I hope you understand where I’m coming from. But if you want to talk more later, please let me know. I’m around.”\\nTips\\nRealize it’s almost guaranteed that she’ll be hurt by the breakup. She might even resent you for a little while. You can try to be as tactful and respectful as possible, but don’t feel guilty: you aren’t responsible for her pain.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Splitting up is tough for everyone involved, but if you’re preparing to break things off with your girlfriend and want to do it kindly, the good news is it’s possible to do. No matter how you go about ending a relationship, it’s almost guaranteed you’ll both experience some difficult emotions. However, you can still be honest while letting your soon-to-be-ex down easy. We’ve consulted the experts about how to break up with your girlfriend nicely—check out our guide below.This article is based on an interview with our relationship coach, the founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, Amy Chan. Check out the full interview here.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"What Not to Do\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don't break up with your partner by text, phone, or email.\", \"描述\": \"If it's possible to break up face-to-face, try to do so. 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How to Break Up with Your Girlfriend over the Phone
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1. Sticking to a Script
1-1. Tell her you have something to talk about.
The seriousness of this type of comment will get her attention. It’s important to say this at the beginning of the call, not as a reason for a call. If you tell your partner you’d like to talk about something personal before the call, she’ll likely want to talk in person.
1-2. Start your conversation with a compliment.
Many people utilize a compliment-sandwich, where criticism or harsh news is in between praise. Here are a few great possible choices:
”I think you’re a great person.”
”I’ve been so lucky to have you in my life.”
”We've grown so much together.”
1-3. Inform your soon-to-be-ex of what failed in the relationship.
No matter what it is, there needs to be a concrete reason for the breakup. Without a definite cause, there is a probable argument or a drawn out conversation. Any one of the following possibilities is a great reason to provide.
”You were caught cheating, and I just don’t believe I can ever forgive you.”
”We simply argue too much. The relationship isn’t fun anymore.”
”You’re mean to me, and I’m just not happy.”
”The communication in our relationship is a one-way street. You never listen.”
1-4. Say you want to break up.
Do not preface the sentence with “I think” or “I believe.” Do not use a substitute like, “I think we need space.” Be very blunt. It’s important to get your point across without any interpretation, debate, or argument that will bring about doubt.
”I just don’t see any future between the two of us. We’ll be staying together for no reason.”
1-5. Let your partner know why she is a good catch.
She may not want to hear it, but it’s important to end things as positively as possible. It’s important for both her well-being and yours to minimize whatever emotional stress and trauma there could be. Try one of the following comments:
”You’d be a great girlfriend for anyone. You’re so caring.”
”Anyone would kill to have someone as lovely as you.”
1-6. Listen to final comments.
She may potentially understand the reason for the breakup. There may even be the possibility that your partner has been thinking about the breakup for some of the same reasons you’ve provided. She may even provide examples of why the relationship hasn’t been working.
2. Timing the Breakup Call
2-1. Inform your soon-to-be-ex before telling others.
You don’t want the rumor mill or shared friends to spread the news. Avoid telling your friends and family, because they may say something to another person, and in a matter of no time your partner could find out. With the speed of today’s online information, there is a good chance information will break before you have your discussion.
2-2. Don’t delay the phone call.
Chances are there have been problems for some time. Keeping things going because you don’t want to hurt her feelings may inadvertently cause more attachment, and more pain. When you make up your mind the relationship should end, make the call as soon as feasible. Don’t mess around with further communication.
2-3. Choose the right time.
Think about what would make it most convenient, what would ease the pain. Avoid any specific times when your soon-to-be-ex may be busy, at work, or occupied with anything important.
You don’t want to ruin a location she loves. Find out her schedule and try to plan a day and time that won’t lead to tainted memories of a specific place.
2-4. Select the right day.
Depending on her processing style, it may be kind of you to provide time to mourn. The weekend works as a great emotional buffer, two days for crying, calling friends, and getting over the news.
If your soon-to-be-ex is not that into you, and is likely to shake off the breakup quickly, then breaking the news on a Monday may work just fine. She’ll likely soak it in during free time.
3. Minimizing the Emotional Reaction
3-1. Provide a reason for the breakup.
The reason some lines are more prevalent is that they have been used multiple times and are pretty broad-ranging. They also minimize emotional reaction with just enough vagueness and deflection.
”It’s not you. It’s me.” This is a solid line that places blame on you instead of your girlfriend.
”I’m not ready for a commitment.” Pointing to superior readiness to progress in a relationship places blame on you.
”I need some space and time alone.” You’re essentially calling them clingy, but it could be interpreted as too loving.
3-2. Apologize for any pain you have caused.
You may not be able to cause happiness about the breakup, but you may be able to assuage the feelings by sincerely apologizing and mentioning qualities that will attract new potential partners.
”I’m sorry you’re upset, but I really feel we’re better off without one another.”
”If there were a way to say this without hurting you, I would definitely prefer it.”
”I apologize, but I just don’t see a future for us.”
3-3. Terminate your relationship before starting another.
The last thing you want is for the news to break about a new partner before your phone call takes place. Do not provide reasons to be angrier during the phone call. If you have already tried to fix the relationship, and it’s definitely ending, then break things off before starting another.
3-4. End all interaction.
You don’t want to prolong any lingering thoughts or hopes the relationship may rekindle. You also don’t want things to remain open for potential makeup sex.
Those who have had their hearts broken, generally don't want to see the person who caused the emotional pain.
Your soon-to-be-ex may also want to avoid seeing you because the emotional strain may cause her to sob, turn red, or have emotional reactions otherwise.
3-5. Avoid post-breakup gossip.
Be respectful about the end of the relationship, and try to forget it. You likely have mutual friends who will relay information. Even if your social media profiles are disconnected, friends will still see if you’re badmouthing your ex.
Tips
As always, be kind and gentle, and not to mention classy.
Sometimes, she will try and avoid the break up. If this occurs, just be straight and say it's over, but try to be polite and quick.
If you don't know what you're doing, then get a trust worthy friend to help (its especially helpful if there the opposite gender because they know how your partner might act or feel or even help you with how to say it).
Warnings
Anticipate potentially aggressive counter-arguments. Don’t stoop to a lower level if insults start flying.
You can't change your mind after you've broken the bad news. Stick to your guns.
Expect friendship to cease once you've dumped her. Your ex may be so upset they never want anything to do with you again.
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Any one of the following possibilities is a great reason to provide. \\n”You were caught cheating, and I just don’t believe I can ever forgive you.”\\n”We simply argue too much. The relationship isn’t fun anymore.”\\n”You’re mean to me, and I’m just not happy.”\\n”The communication in our relationship is a one-way street. You never listen.”\\n1-4. Say you want to break up.\\nDo not preface the sentence with “I think” or “I believe.” Do not use a substitute like, “I think we need space.” Be very blunt. It’s important to get your point across without any interpretation, debate, or argument that will bring about doubt. \\n”I just don’t see any future between the two of us. We’ll be staying together for no reason.”\\n1-5. Let your partner know why she is a good catch.\\nShe may not want to hear it, but it’s important to end things as positively as possible. It’s important for both her well-being and yours to minimize whatever emotional stress and trauma there could be. Try one of the following comments: \\n”You’d be a great girlfriend for anyone. You’re so caring.”\\n”Anyone would kill to have someone as lovely as you.”\\n1-6. Listen to final comments.\\nShe may potentially understand the reason for the breakup. There may even be the possibility that your partner has been thinking about the breakup for some of the same reasons you’ve provided. She may even provide examples of why the relationship hasn’t been working.\\n2. Timing the Breakup Call\\n2-1. Inform your soon-to-be-ex before telling others.\\nYou don’t want the rumor mill or shared friends to spread the news. Avoid telling your friends and family, because they may say something to another person, and in a matter of no time your partner could find out. With the speed of today’s online information, there is a good chance information will break before you have your discussion.\\n2-2. Don’t delay the phone call.\\nChances are there have been problems for some time. Keeping things going because you don’t want to hurt her feelings may inadvertently cause more attachment, and more pain. When you make up your mind the relationship should end, make the call as soon as feasible. Don’t mess around with further communication.\\n2-3. Choose the right time.\\nThink about what would make it most convenient, what would ease the pain. Avoid any specific times when your soon-to-be-ex may be busy, at work, or occupied with anything important.\\nYou don’t want to ruin a location she loves. Find out her schedule and try to plan a day and time that won’t lead to tainted memories of a specific place.\\n2-4. Select the right day.\\nDepending on her processing style, it may be kind of you to provide time to mourn. The weekend works as a great emotional buffer, two days for crying, calling friends, and getting over the news. \\nIf your soon-to-be-ex is not that into you, and is likely to shake off the breakup quickly, then breaking the news on a Monday may work just fine. She’ll likely soak it in during free time.\\n3. Minimizing the Emotional Reaction\\n3-1. Provide a reason for the breakup.\\nThe reason some lines are more prevalent is that they have been used multiple times and are pretty broad-ranging. They also minimize emotional reaction with just enough vagueness and deflection.\\n”It’s not you. It’s me.” This is a solid line that places blame on you instead of your girlfriend.\\n”I’m not ready for a commitment.” Pointing to superior readiness to progress in a relationship places blame on you.\\n”I need some space and time alone.” You’re essentially calling them clingy, but it could be interpreted as too loving.\\n3-2. Apologize for any pain you have caused.\\nYou may not be able to cause happiness about the breakup, but you may be able to assuage the feelings by sincerely apologizing and mentioning qualities that will attract new potential partners.\\n”I’m sorry you’re upset, but I really feel we’re better off without one another.”\\n”If there were a way to say this without hurting you, I would definitely prefer it.”\\n”I apologize, but I just don’t see a future for us.”\\n3-3. Terminate your relationship before starting another.\\nThe last thing you want is for the news to break about a new partner before your phone call takes place. Do not provide reasons to be angrier during the phone call. If you have already tried to fix the relationship, and it’s definitely ending, then break things off before starting another.\\n3-4. End all interaction.\\nYou don’t want to prolong any lingering thoughts or hopes the relationship may rekindle. 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If this occurs, just be straight and say it's over, but try to be polite and quick.\\nIf you don't know what you're doing, then get a trust worthy friend to help (its especially helpful if there the opposite gender because they know how your partner might act or feel or even help you with how to say it).\\nWarnings\\nAnticipate potentially aggressive counter-arguments. Don’t stoop to a lower level if insults start flying.\\nYou can't change your mind after you've broken the bad news. Stick to your guns.\\nExpect friendship to cease once you've dumped her. Your ex may be so upset they never want anything to do with you again.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Breaking up over the phone can be tough. Many argue breakups over the phone are in bad taste. Some recent surveys, however, indicate that casual relationship text breakups are approved by the majority. Nearly a quarter of people are even fine with breaking up a serious relationship via text. 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She may even provide examples of why the relationship hasn’t been working.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Timing the Breakup Call\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Inform your soon-to-be-ex before telling others.\", \"描述\": \"You don’t want the rumor mill or shared friends to spread the news. Avoid telling your friends and family, because they may say something to another person, and in a matter of no time your partner could find out. With the speed of today’s online information, there is a good chance information will break before you have your discussion.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don’t delay the phone call.\", \"描述\": \"Chances are there have been problems for some time. Keeping things going because you don’t want to hurt her feelings may inadvertently cause more attachment, and more pain. When you make up your mind the relationship should end, make the call as soon as feasible. 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1. Signs It’s Time to Break Up With Your Therapist
1-1. You’re not making progress.
If you feel that your time in therapy has not helped you to grow or meet particular goals, be honest about that with your therapist. If you continue to feel the same after this discussion, you may need to move on from this provider.
If your therapist responds well to this feedback and your experience improves, that’s great! By resolving an interpersonal issue, working to improve your patient-therapist relationship can actually lead to better therapy results than patient-therapist relationships that have no issues.
1-2. Your therapist can’t meet your treatment needs.
Not all therapists can specialize in every aspect of mental health. You need a therapist that has the training and experience to address the specific issues you want treated. If the type of therapy your current therapist is providing isn't working for you, it's okay to break up with them and find someone that you resonate with more.
They should also be able to understand the role of your identity and experiences in therapy and work with you accordingly.
If your therapist does not specialize in treatment you need or competently address your identity and experiences, then you may do better with someone who does.
1-3. You don’t feel comfortable being vulnerable with your therapist.
In order to have a successful therapeutic experience, you need to be open with your therapist—sometimes about intimate and uncomfortable-to-share feelings. If you continue to feel uncomfortable doing this as you get to know your therapist, you should consider finding someone new.This can also manifest as saying everything's going well when in fact you need more help, but can't be open with your therapist.
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1-4. You can’t schedule appointments regularly.
Consistency is an important part of productive therapy. If it is difficult to schedule appointments with your therapist, consider finding a therapist with more availability.
1-5. They behave inappropriately.
If your therapist is engaging in unprofessional or unethical behavior, stop seeing them and find a new therapist.
1-6. You’ve met your therapy goals.
Sometimes the problem with therapy is no problem at all! If you feel that you have nothing more to address with your therapist, you may want to conclude sessions with them.
2. How to Break Up With Your Therapist
2-1. Protect yourself from harmful or disrespectful therapists.
If your therapist behaves inappropriately toward you, end therapy in whatever way makes you feel most comfortable and safe.
For a therapist that abuses their role to harm or mistreat you, ghosting is perfectly fine.
Reach out to the therapist’s licensing board to report inappropriate behavior.
2-2. Seek closure from a positive relationship.
When you decide to stop seeing a therapist who has respected and helped you—even if they are not the right fit—speaking honestly with them about your desire to move on shows respect for them and helps you to find closure from the relationship.
2-3. Tell your therapist you want to move on at the beginning of the session.
By saying you want to stop at the start of the session, rather than the end, you give you and your therapist time to discuss the decision and address steps to move forward.
Start by showing appreciation for their time and effort, then clearly express that you are going to stop seeing them. For example: “I appreciate you working with me, but I want to stop our sessions together.”
While it may feel intimidating, a good therapist will be open and receptive to the concerns you express. If they respond negatively, it backs up your judgment to end the relationship.
2-4. Give a brief and clear explanation.
You are making a decision for your mental health and growth, so there’s no need to apologize. Focus on your feelings and needs with a simple statement.Here are some simple “I” statements you can use or adapt to begin a conversation with your therapist:
“When you ask me to talk about a traumatic experience, I feel like I can’t be open. I need to meet with a therapist that I connect with more.”
“I would like to see a therapist that focuses on___.”
“I want to try a different approach to therapy.”
“My progress has slowed down, I think I need a change.”
“I don’t think I need to come to therapy anymore.”
2-5. Elaborate as much as you want, or don’t.
If your therapist responds respectfully, you can choose to share more if you want to. Your feedback about what did and didn’t work can help them to best serve other patients in the future.
If they respond defensively, you don’t need to debate your decision with them. Their reaction shows that you’ve made the right choice.
2-6. Ask for a referral.
To continue treatment, your current therapist can be a useful resource for finding a new therapist. Knowing their limitations is an important part of a therapist’s job, so your therapist should be willing to refer you to another therapist that better fits your needs.
Ask: “Could you refer me to a therapist that specializes in treating ___?” or “I think I would do better with a therapist that shares my cultural background or sexual orientation. Is there anyone you can refer me to?”
2-7. Consider additional sessions as a termination phase.
If you have had a positive and successful relationship with your therapist and feel ready to end therapy, your therapist may suggest that you not stop right away but instead plan a termination phase, where you can reflect on your time in therapy and make plans for the future.
The length of a termination phase will vary based on how long you’ve been seeing your therapist, and it may include increasing the time between sessions before stopping altogether.
Therapists are encouraged to plan a termination phase, and ideally, they will have brought it up when you started seeing them. If you trust your therapist and are able to schedule more sessions, a termination phase is normal and can be helpful to get the most out of the experience.
If your therapist insists that you continue seeing them or tries convincing you to change your mind, like by offering an incentive to stay, firmly repeat that you are done and maintain that boundary if they persist.
2-8. Find a new therapist.
Whether or not your current therapist gives you a referral, if you need to continue treatment, find a new therapist that fits your goals, preferences, and needs. Use your past therapy experiences to consider what you want from therapy and from a therapist.
Don’t be afraid to schedule introductory meetings with multiple therapists to decide who will be best for you. Let them know you are exploring your options and be open about your goals and concerns.
There are many resources available to help narrow your search, like if you are looking for an LGBTQIA-friendly therapist or struggling to afford therapy.
Tips
You can always reach out to your therapist again in the future if you need more help. [23]
X
Research source
They may be able to continue regular therapy with you or schedule booster sessions. If they are unavailable, they can refer you to a colleague.[24]
X
Trustworthy Source
American Psychological Association
Leading scientific and professional organization of licensed psychologists
Go to source
Warnings
If they take personal offense at your wish to end therapy, or threaten to have you involuntarily hospitalised, this is a sign you should end therapy with them immediately! Seek support from your primary care practitioner and your next of kin, and consider reporting the therapist to their licensing board.
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1. Approaching the Break Up
1-1. Confide in someone you trust.
It can often be helpful to reach out to a trusted family member or friend for advice. This can help you figure out the best way to end things with your boyfriend. Be careful about who you talk to; you don’t want rumors of your break up to get to your boyfriend before you get the chance to talk to him about it. Sometimes confiding in an immediate family member is less risky.
1-2. Make a plan for the break up.
Go over the break up in your head or write it down in a notebook. Prepare what you’re going to say, and contemplate how he might react. Being prepared makes it easier to properly express and explain in the moment, which will be better for both you and your boyfriend.
Not making decisions about what you’ll say can lead to more confusion for your boyfriend.
It’s an emotional moment, which might make it tough to be clear-headed if you don’t think about what you’ll say beforehand.
1-3. Practice adjusting mentally and emotionally to single life.
Start brainstorming new activities to try and ways to stay busy once the break up has happened. As soon as you go from being in a relationship to single, it can seem like a negative change. Work on seeing the positive aspects of this change so that you’re in a good place when the break up actually happens.
Journaling positive thoughts can help you change your perspective about being single.
2. Breaking Up with Him
2-1. Break up in person.
While it might seem easier to you, breaking up with someone in a text message, in an email, or on the phone isn’t the way to go. Your boyfriend deserves being broken up with face-to-face. This is the considerate thing to do because it allows your boyfriend to freely react, ask questions, and feel less alone. Just as you’re expressing your emotions, you need to let your boyfriend do the same.
2-2. Don’t blindside him.
Instead of bringing it up abruptly and in an uncomfortable location, pick an appropriate time and place to break up. You may have already started separating emotionally from your boyfriend, but consider that he will have some catching up to do. Easing him into the break up as much as possible.
You might say, “Hey, could we meet up today or tomorrow sometime? I’d like to talk with you about something important.”
Avoid breaking up right around birthdays, Valentine’s day, or funerals of loved ones. However, don't continue to put it off and make excuses.
2-3. Start by showing that you care.
It will really soften the blow if you initially communicate that you value your boyfriend.
You might say, “We’ve been close for a long time and you’re really important to me.”
You could also say, “I really like you and I’m glad that we’ve spent time together and have gotten to know each other”
2-4. Use “I” language.
Starting statements with “I” instead of “You” will make your boyfriend feel less blamed and/or attacked.
Consider saying, “I understand where you’re coming from,” if your boyfriend gets argumentative and upset.
2-5. Be emotionally supportive and sensitive.
While breaking up, acknowledge the emotional toughness of the situation.
To be supportive, you might say, “I know this is hard.”
Even if you don’t think you were the reason for the break up, taking ownership for at least some of the blame will make your boyfriend much less prone to depression and stress after the breakup.
2-6. Make it clear that it’s over.
Try to be honest and straightforward without being abrasive. Avoid saying things like “maybe one day we will get back together” or “part of me still loves you.” This is a tough part of breaking up because if you are too harsh, you may come off as heartless, but if you aren’t firm, you’ll give your boyfriend false hope.
2-7. Be ready for a reaction.
Your boyfriend will probably feel confused, angry, and/or sad. Do your best to be comforting and understanding when this happens. Answer any questions that he has while remaining calm and kind.
Make sure to end the conversation if he becomes hostile.
3. Handling the Aftermath
3-1. Give him space.
Even if you want to be friends with him, it’s important that you initially give your boyfriend time to heal. Resist the urge contact him so that he can adjust on his own and without you to lean on. You both need time to reflect, process, and recover from the breakup in order to move on. There’s a chance that later on you’ll be able to be friends, but don’t expect this or attempt to make it any time soon.
3-2. Deal with your guilt and grief.
It’s painful to let go of someone you care about, especially when you’re the one who let them go.
Remember that there was a reason you broke up with your boyfriend. While breaking up might have caused him short term pain, it prevented drawing out the pain between the two of you.
Own your feelings. If you want to cry, let yourself cry. Don’t hold your emotions in, or it will be more difficult to truly move on.
3-3. Move forward with positivity.
Once you’ve grieved, get rid of reminders of your boyfriend. There’s no need to have his old T-shirts and pictures of you two lying around. Then, start a new by keeping busy and socializing with people you care about.
Spend time doing whatever makes you happy--hiking, dancing, cooking, etc.
Consider taking on a challenging new workout routine.
Try volunteering with a friend.
Tips
If you live with your boyfriend, you should start looking for a new place to live before the break up.[15]
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Giving your boyfriend space after the breakup also means on social media. If you can’t resist engaging with him, consider deleting him as a friend.
Warnings
Avoid getting into a rebound relationship before you’ve healed completely from the break up.
If you’re in an abusive relationship, breaking up with your boyfriend is different. Only break up with them in person if you're comfortable with it, and make sure the break up is in a public place.[16]
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You might also want to have someone go with you when you pick up your things.
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How to Break Up with a Gemini Woman
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1. Initiate the breakup yourself.
Because they hate confrontation, Geminis usually prefer to be dumped.
In fact, they’re known for their tendency to break up over the phone or just ghost. Don’t expect her to be the one to call it quits. She’s much more likely to try to drive you away so she doesn’t have to open up about her feelings.
A Gemini will go to great lengths to avoid opening up about how she feels. She’d rather just distract herself until the feelings go away.
2. Tell her in-person or over the phone.
Unlike other signs, she doesn’t need a long in-person conversation.
If she had her choice, she wouldn’t have to talk it out at all. Once your relationship is over, she just wants to move on to what’s next. If you haven’t been together long, you might just break up over the phone.
If you’re dating long-distance, a well-written message or short phone call is definitely the way to go. There’s no need for an awkward video call.
3. Be direct and logical when you tell her it’s over.
Geminis are very intellectual and don’t want a dramatic breakup.
She’ll be super uncomfortable if you get emotional, so just stick to the facts. Tell her your relationship isn’t working out, and you want to break up. She’ll respect your honesty and directness.
Say, “We’ve had a lot of fun together, but I’m not feeling a connection with you anymore. I think it’s best if we break up and go our separate ways.”
You could also try, “You’re such a fun, exciting person, but I’m just not seeing a future together. I think we’ll both be happier if we just end things now.”
Since Geminis are ruled by Mercury, they value good communication. Just tell her point-blank that you want to break up rather than trying to soften the blow.
4. Use I-statements so she doesn’t feel blamed.
A Gemini hates being wrong, so she’ll be really hurt if you blame her.
Your breakup will go much easier if you don’t tell her all of the reasons she’s not the one for you. Fortunately, she’s not the type to confront you about why you want to break up, so it’s easy to make a clean break.
Say, “I don’t feel like this is working out,” not “We’re not working,” or “You’re not the one for me.” This keeps the focus on how you’re feeling, not on her.
5. Listen to her response.
A Gemini might want to complain about your faults during the breakup.
She wants to feel like you're the one to blame. Give her a chance to have her say so she can move on quickly. Unfortunately, she might start complaining about you. It’s okay to excuse yourself if she starts being mean. You could say:
“I’m sorry you’re upset, but I’m not going to listen to insults. Maybe it’s best if I go.”
“I understand you’re hurting, but I don’t think I deserved that. I’m going to leave, but I wish you the best.”
6. Make it clear you won’t change your mind.
Geminis sometimes think you're joking when you're serious.
Worse, she might use her intellect to try to change your mind. Tell her you’ve made your decision and it’s final. You might say:
“I’ll hear you out, but I’m not changing my mind.”
“I’ve thought this through, and I’m not going to change my mind.”
“I know this is the right decision, and I wish you the best.”
7. Expect her to hide her heartache.
Geminis struggle with emotions, so she’ll pretend to be okay.
She may seem like she doesn’t care, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Her heart is hurting, but she doesn’t feel comfortable sharing how she feels. She likely won’t let you see her cry, but she’s hurting on the inside.
Give her space to process her feelings and release them in her own way.
You may see her laughing and smiling, but that’s just how she copes.
8. Assume she’ll move on quickly.
Geminis are social butterflies and need attention from others.
Additionally, she’ll crave a distraction while she’s working through her feelings about your relationship ending. She’s going to be on the prowl pretty much immediately after your breakup. Don’t be surprised if she has a new partner on her arm right away.
Again, this is how a Gemini copes with heartache. It doesn’t mean she’s totally over you or that she wasn’t fully invested in your relationship. She probably was, but she needs someone else to take her mind off her heartbreak.
9. Unfollow her on social media so you can move on.
After a breakup, Geminis post everything they’re doing on social media.
She’s not going to cry into a tub of ice cream after your breakup. Instead, she’ll be seeing friends, having fun, and keeping herself busy. She’s going to post photos of all the fun she’s having. It might be easier to deal with your breakup if you aren’t seeing her in your feed.
Geminis love the single life, so she’s going to live it up.
Even though you know your relationship isn’t working out, breakups are always super hard. Take time to care for yourself right now.
10. Give her space before you try to be friends.
Geminis have trouble being friends with their exes, at least at first.
Remember, she doesn’t want to open up about her emotions or deal with confrontation. She needs time away from you to truly move on. For at least two weeks after the breakup, don’t call or text her and avoid places where you think you might run into her.
In the future, she may be open to reconnecting as friends.
Because Geminis are a mutable sign, they’re able to learn from the past and be super flexible—even with relationships. Sometimes, they’re able to shift their feelings from love to friendship.
11. Be prepared for gossip about your relationship.
A talkative Gemini will tell everyone about your breakup.
She’s going to be spinning stories about what happened immediately after it happens. She might even live tweet it! Since she’s ruled by Mercury, the planet of communication, talking things out is how she processes them. Don’t be surprised if you hear rumors about what happened.
You could always share your version of events if you feel like she’s going too far.
Don’t worry too much about the gossip. It’ll blow over quickly as she moves on to a more interesting topic. Remember, she gets bored quickly.
Tips
Make sure you want to break up because getting a Gemini back is hard work. Even if she still has feelings for you, she’ll never admit it.
Never try to make a Gemini feel jealous. She won’t admit to being jealous, and she might try to one-up you instead.
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I’m going to leave, but I wish you the best.”\\n6. Make it clear you won’t change your mind.\\nGeminis sometimes think you're joking when you're serious.\\nWorse, she might use her intellect to try to change your mind. Tell her you’ve made your decision and it’s final. You might say:\\n“I’ll hear you out, but I’m not changing my mind.”\\n“I’ve thought this through, and I’m not going to change my mind.”\\n“I know this is the right decision, and I wish you the best.”\\n7. Expect her to hide her heartache.\\nGeminis struggle with emotions, so she’ll pretend to be okay.\\nShe may seem like she doesn’t care, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Her heart is hurting, but she doesn’t feel comfortable sharing how she feels. She likely won’t let you see her cry, but she’s hurting on the inside.\\nGive her space to process her feelings and release them in her own way.\\nYou may see her laughing and smiling, but that’s just how she copes.\\n8. Assume she’ll move on quickly.\\nGeminis are social butterflies and need attention from others.\\nAdditionally, she’ll crave a distraction while she’s working through her feelings about your relationship ending. She’s going to be on the prowl pretty much immediately after your breakup. Don’t be surprised if she has a new partner on her arm right away.\\nAgain, this is how a Gemini copes with heartache. It doesn’t mean she’s totally over you or that she wasn’t fully invested in your relationship. She probably was, but she needs someone else to take her mind off her heartbreak.\\n9. Unfollow her on social media so you can move on.\\nAfter a breakup, Geminis post everything they’re doing on social media.\\nShe’s not going to cry into a tub of ice cream after your breakup. Instead, she’ll be seeing friends, having fun, and keeping herself busy. She’s going to post photos of all the fun she’s having. It might be easier to deal with your breakup if you aren’t seeing her in your feed.\\nGeminis love the single life, so she’s going to live it up.\\nEven though you know your relationship isn’t working out, breakups are always super hard. Take time to care for yourself right now.\\n10. Give her space before you try to be friends.\\nGeminis have trouble being friends with their exes, at least at first.\\nRemember, she doesn’t want to open up about her emotions or deal with confrontation. She needs time away from you to truly move on. For at least two weeks after the breakup, don’t call or text her and avoid places where you think you might run into her.\\nIn the future, she may be open to reconnecting as friends.\\nBecause Geminis are a mutable sign, they’re able to learn from the past and be super flexible—even with relationships. Sometimes, they’re able to shift their feelings from love to friendship.\\n11. 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How to Break Up with Your Girlfriend Before College (Learn What to Say and How to Say It)
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1. Ending Things
1-1. Sketch out how you’re going to break the news.
Be as kind and empathetic as you possibly can, and sketch an outline of the points you want to hit. You don’t need to script the whole thing, but having an idea of what you’ll say will help you do this in a respectful way. Here’s a good way to go:
Start with something loving (“I really care about you, and we’ve had some great times together…”)
Explain why you’re doing this. (“But we’re about to go to different schools, hundreds of miles away…”)
Say you want to break up. (“I know this sucks, but I think it’s time to break up…”)
Apologize. (“I’m really sorry. I don’t want to hurt you, but I also have to be honest…”)
Finish with something kind. (“I’m sure you’ll meet someone great at your school, and I hope we can still be friends…”)
1-2. Say what needs to be said.
Unless you’re scared of her lashing out physically, do this in person. Don’t beat around the bush or make small talk. Go through the speech you crafted and just get it out there. You’ll feel so much better once it isn’t weighing on your heart. Maintain an even, soft tone, and be as kind and reasonable as you possibly can.
She’s definitely going to have a reaction, so just brace yourself. Remember, this may suck now, but once this is over, you’re done.
1-3. Let her process the news and allow her to speak.
She’s going to be dealing with a lot of feelings, so if she starts crying or goes quiet, just give her a minute. Then, let her say whatever she wants to say. It may not be exactly what you want to hear, but letting her get things off of her chest is the kind thing to do.
If she immediately starts throwing out a bunch of reasons why she hates your guts, let her get it out.
She may try pleading with you not to end things. It may be tempting to give in, but make it clear that you are ending things for good.
1-4. Answer any questions she has to give her a sense of closure.
You don’t need to be brutal, but you should tell the truth. If she wants to know more about your reason for breaking up, give it to her. Having a partner call the relationship quits can be extremely confusing, but she’ll be able to sleep better at night if you give her the truth.
If she asks, “Is there something I did?” and there was, be open about it but don’t hit her with any cruel details. If she wouldn’t stop talking about how she wanted to stay together in college and that scared you off a bit, don’t say, “You were super clingy and I want to be single in college,” say, “I know you wanted to stay together in college, but I can’t commit to something like that. I’m not ready.”
2. Handling the Aftermath
2-1. Don’t contact her for a while.
If you do want to be friends in the future, let her reach out first. If she ends up needing a lot of time to heal, contacting her before she’s ready may just rub salt in her wounds. Give her some space to process and cope with what’s going on. It may be hard to go no-contact with someone you were super close to, but this is the kind thing to do.
If you do want to reach out after a few months pass and things didn’t get ugly at the end, shoot her an email or text message to check in on her after school has started. It’ll be easier for her to reconnect as friends if she’s had some time to make new friends at college or her workplace.
2-2. Stay off of social media for a while.
Nothing good is going to come of you poking around on social media right now. If you see her posting about how sad she is, you’ll feel terrible. If you see her hanging out with other guys or gals, you’ll feel terrible. Just pump the brakes and stay offline for a while. Either delete your account temporarily or just maintain some self-control and stay offline.
Do not trash talk your ex online, even if the breakup didn’t go super smoothly or you have good reason to be angry. Just keep quiet online—even if she badmouths you.
2-3. Surround yourself with friends and don’t feel bad about feeling bad.
Even if you’re excited by the prospect of being single as you head into college, it’s extremely normal to feel bad after a relationship ends. Even if you initiated the breakup, you may be feeling a little upset. Hang out with your friends and family. Spend your free time pursuing things you care about. Remember, things will get better!
Don’t keep everything stuffed inside. If you’re feeling some nasty emotions, talk it out with a close friend or family member. It can help to get whatever you’re feeling off of your chest!
3. Making Sure This Is What You Want
3-1. Process your motivation for breaking up.
You may have heard that you have to do this, you should do this, or that it will never work out. Forget about all of that. Figure out if you want to break up. If you do, take your time and figure out why. If you’re going to go through with it, knowing why you want to split up will help you do this in an honest, empathetic way. Potential reasons include:
The experience of college. A lot of people want to see what a brand-new setting and experience will bring when it comes to socializing and meeting people. You aren’t a bad person for just wanting to be single in college.
Distance. If the two of you are going to different schools, it may be difficult to even see each other. College students don’t always have cars or bus fare, and it’s hard to make things work if you can’t spend time together.
Trust issues. Everyone hears the stories of crazy college parties and random hookups. It’s okay if you don’t think both of you have the fortitude to stick it out. That’s totally normal.
3-2. Ask yourself if it’s possible to stay together if you want that.
You’re going to grow a lot over the next 4 years, and you’ll meet tons of different people from all over. During this time, you may want to keep yourself available, which is totally fine! However, if you don’t want to break up, you don’t have to. It may be hard, but you can totally keep dating if that’s what you want.
Parents and friends may be pressuring you to go this route, but you shouldn’t let anyone else make decisions for you when it comes to who you do or don’t date.
You may want to stay together because the relationship is going great, distance won’t be a big deal, and you don’t want to be with anyone else.
3-3. Be honest and talk it out with your girlfriend if you’re conflicted.
People aren’t always capable of doing this when they’re still teenagers, but if the two of you are mature for your age, just be straight up. Tell her you’re thinking about ending things before college and walk through the pros and cons with her. If the topic has been broached before, she should be a little emotionally prepared to work through it together.
This is only a good idea if she has hinted that she might not want to stay together going into college and you aren’t really sure whether you want to break up.
For example, you might say, “Hey, I know this might be hard, but I respect you too much to just make a decision without you. Can we talk about what we’re going to do when we go to college?”
You might also try something like, “We should talk about our plans for the future. I know people usually break up before college, but I’m not sure what I want. Can we talk about it?”
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Go through the speech you crafted and just get it out there. You’ll feel so much better once it isn’t weighing on your heart. Maintain an even, soft tone, and be as kind and reasonable as you possibly can.\\nShe’s definitely going to have a reaction, so just brace yourself. Remember, this may suck now, but once this is over, you’re done.\\n1-3. Let her process the news and allow her to speak.\\nShe’s going to be dealing with a lot of feelings, so if she starts crying or goes quiet, just give her a minute. Then, let her say whatever she wants to say. It may not be exactly what you want to hear, but letting her get things off of her chest is the kind thing to do.\\nIf she immediately starts throwing out a bunch of reasons why she hates your guts, let her get it out.\\nShe may try pleading with you not to end things. It may be tempting to give in, but make it clear that you are ending things for good.\\n1-4. Answer any questions she has to give her a sense of closure.\\nYou don’t need to be brutal, but you should tell the truth. If she wants to know more about your reason for breaking up, give it to her. Having a partner call the relationship quits can be extremely confusing, but she’ll be able to sleep better at night if you give her the truth.\\nIf she asks, “Is there something I did?” and there was, be open about it but don’t hit her with any cruel details. If she wouldn’t stop talking about how she wanted to stay together in college and that scared you off a bit, don’t say, “You were super clingy and I want to be single in college,” say, “I know you wanted to stay together in college, but I can’t commit to something like that. I’m not ready.”\\n2. Handling the Aftermath\\n2-1. Don’t contact her for a while.\\nIf you do want to be friends in the future, let her reach out first. If she ends up needing a lot of time to heal, contacting her before she’s ready may just rub salt in her wounds. Give her some space to process and cope with what’s going on. It may be hard to go no-contact with someone you were super close to, but this is the kind thing to do.\\nIf you do want to reach out after a few months pass and things didn’t get ugly at the end, shoot her an email or text message to check in on her after school has started. It’ll be easier for her to reconnect as friends if she’s had some time to make new friends at college or her workplace.\\n2-2. Stay off of social media for a while.\\nNothing good is going to come of you poking around on social media right now. If you see her posting about how sad she is, you’ll feel terrible. If you see her hanging out with other guys or gals, you’ll feel terrible. Just pump the brakes and stay offline for a while. Either delete your account temporarily or just maintain some self-control and stay offline.\\nDo not trash talk your ex online, even if the breakup didn’t go super smoothly or you have good reason to be angry. Just keep quiet online—even if she badmouths you.\\n2-3. Surround yourself with friends and don’t feel bad about feeling bad.\\nEven if you’re excited by the prospect of being single as you head into college, it’s extremely normal to feel bad after a relationship ends. Even if you initiated the breakup, you may be feeling a little upset. Hang out with your friends and family. Spend your free time pursuing things you care about. Remember, things will get better!\\nDon’t keep everything stuffed inside. If you’re feeling some nasty emotions, talk it out with a close friend or family member. It can help to get whatever you’re feeling off of your chest!\\n3. Making Sure This Is What You Want\\n3-1. Process your motivation for breaking up.\\nYou may have heard that you have to do this, you should do this, or that it will never work out. Forget about all of that. Figure out if you want to break up. If you do, take your time and figure out why. If you’re going to go through with it, knowing why you want to split up will help you do this in an honest, empathetic way. Potential reasons include:\\nThe experience of college. A lot of people want to see what a brand-new setting and experience will bring when it comes to socializing and meeting people. You aren’t a bad person for just wanting to be single in college.\\nDistance. If the two of you are going to different schools, it may be difficult to even see each other. College students don’t always have cars or bus fare, and it’s hard to make things work if you can’t spend time together.\\nTrust issues. Everyone hears the stories of crazy college parties and random hookups. It’s okay if you don’t think both of you have the fortitude to stick it out. That’s totally normal.\\n3-2. Ask yourself if it’s possible to stay together if you want that.\\nYou’re going to grow a lot over the next 4 years, and you’ll meet tons of different people from all over. During this time, you may want to keep yourself available, which is totally fine! However, if you don’t want to break up, you don’t have to. It may be hard, but you can totally keep dating if that’s what you want.\\nParents and friends may be pressuring you to go this route, but you shouldn’t let anyone else make decisions for you when it comes to who you do or don’t date.\\nYou may want to stay together because the relationship is going great, distance won’t be a big deal, and you don’t want to be with anyone else.\\n3-3. Be honest and talk it out with your girlfriend if you’re conflicted.\\nPeople aren’t always capable of doing this when they’re still teenagers, but if the two of you are mature for your age, just be straight up. Tell her you’re thinking about ending things before college and walk through the pros and cons with her. If the topic has been broached before, she should be a little emotionally prepared to work through it together.\\nThis is only a good idea if she has hinted that she might not want to stay together going into college and you aren’t really sure whether you want to break up.\\nFor example, you might say, “Hey, I know this might be hard, but I respect you too much to just make a decision without you. Can we talk about what we’re going to do when we go to college?”\\nYou might also try something like, “We should talk about our plans for the future. I know people usually break up before college, but I’m not sure what I want. Can we talk about it?”\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Breaking up with a girlfriend before you start college can be rough. Relationships are super intense when you’re young, but college is a new environment filled with all kinds of new people to meet. It’s reasonable to want to end your relationship before you start out at your new school, especially if the two of you are going to different colleges. You shouldn’t be hard on yourself for choosing to end things before school starts if that’s indeed what you want. At the same time, if you’re considering breaking up because you think that’s what high school couples have to do before they ship off to college, pump the brakes a bit. You may have other options available.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ending Things\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Sketch out how you’re going to break the news.\", \"描述\": \"Be as kind and empathetic as you possibly can, and sketch an outline of the points you want to hit. You don’t need to script the whole thing, but having an idea of what you’ll say will help you do this in a respectful way. Here’s a good way to go:\\nStart with something loving (“I really care about you, and we’ve had some great times together…”)\\nExplain why you’re doing this. (“But we’re about to go to different schools, hundreds of miles away…”)\\nSay you want to break up. (“I know this sucks, but I think it’s time to break up…”)\\nApologize. (“I’m really sorry. I don’t want to hurt you, but I also have to be honest…”)\\nFinish with something kind. (“I’m sure you’ll meet someone great at your school, and I hope we can still be friends…”)\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Say what needs to be said.\", \"描述\": \"Unless you’re scared of her lashing out physically, do this in person. Don’t beat around the bush or make small talk. Go through the speech you crafted and just get it out there. You’ll feel so much better once it isn’t weighing on your heart. Maintain an even, soft tone, and be as kind and reasonable as you possibly can.\\nShe’s definitely going to have a reaction, so just brace yourself. Remember, this may suck now, but once this is over, you’re done.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Let her process the news and allow her to speak.\", \"描述\": \"She’s going to be dealing with a lot of feelings, so if she starts crying or goes quiet, just give her a minute. Then, let her say whatever she wants to say. It may not be exactly what you want to hear, but letting her get things off of her chest is the kind thing to do.\\nIf she immediately starts throwing out a bunch of reasons why she hates your guts, let her get it out.\\nShe may try pleading with you not to end things. It may be tempting to give in, but make it clear that you are ending things for good.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Answer any questions she has to give her a sense of closure.\", \"描述\": \"You don’t need to be brutal, but you should tell the truth. If she wants to know more about your reason for breaking up, give it to her. Having a partner call the relationship quits can be extremely confusing, but she’ll be able to sleep better at night if you give her the truth.\\nIf she asks, “Is there something I did?” and there was, be open about it but don’t hit her with any cruel details. If she wouldn’t stop talking about how she wanted to stay together in college and that scared you off a bit, don’t say, “You were super clingy and I want to be single in college,” say, “I know you wanted to stay together in college, but I can’t commit to something like that. I’m not ready.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Handling the Aftermath\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don’t contact her for a while.\", \"描述\": \"If you do want to be friends in the future, let her reach out first. If she ends up needing a lot of time to heal, contacting her before she’s ready may just rub salt in her wounds. Give her some space to process and cope with what’s going on. It may be hard to go no-contact with someone you were super close to, but this is the kind thing to do.\\nIf you do want to reach out after a few months pass and things didn’t get ugly at the end, shoot her an email or text message to check in on her after school has started. It’ll be easier for her to reconnect as friends if she’s had some time to make new friends at college or her workplace.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Stay off of social media for a while.\", \"描述\": \"Nothing good is going to come of you poking around on social media right now. If you see her posting about how sad she is, you’ll feel terrible. If you see her hanging out with other guys or gals, you’ll feel terrible. Just pump the brakes and stay offline for a while. Either delete your account temporarily or just maintain some self-control and stay offline.\\nDo not trash talk your ex online, even if the breakup didn’t go super smoothly or you have good reason to be angry. Just keep quiet online—even if she badmouths you.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Surround yourself with friends and don’t feel bad about feeling bad.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you’re excited by the prospect of being single as you head into college, it’s extremely normal to feel bad after a relationship ends. Even if you initiated the breakup, you may be feeling a little upset. Hang out with your friends and family. Spend your free time pursuing things you care about. Remember, things will get better!\\nDon’t keep everything stuffed inside. If you’re feeling some nasty emotions, talk it out with a close friend or family member. 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1. Ending the Relationship
1-1. Be kind and honest.
While you may not like your girlfriend anymore, there is still common decency to consider. Treat her as you would like to be treated if the roles were reversed. Maybe you've been dumped before and it felt horrible. Try to avoid making the same mistakes.
It is important to be clear and direct without giving mixed messages. For example, consider saying, "I'm sorry but this isn't working anymore. I did care for you very much, but I don't think we should see each other anymore."
Be truthful with your reasons for breaking up. If it's that you're headed in different directions, then say so. If you have lost interest in the relationship, then say so. Just make sure to be kind, and say some words that show there were good times in the relationship too.
"I think we both want different things. I genuinely care about you, but I don't think we're compatible."
1-2. Listen to her side of the story.
Your girlfriend may be shocked, heartbroken, or possibly understanding. It could be a combination of all or none of these emotions. By talking with her in real time, either over the phone or in person, you give her a chance to say what she needs to say.
Avoid getting into an argument at this point. If you have decided to break up with your girlfriend, you don't need to have this conversation blow up into a blame game.
Be open to listening. Avoid ending the conversation abruptly after you have said that you wanted to break up. Give her time to think and process what is happening.
1-3. Consider breaking up by video chat or phone.
The financial cost of meeting up in person or timing issues can make phone or video chat a good way to have a breakup conversation. This way you can still have a conversation that allows both sides to interact at the same time. There will be less miscommunication than if you try to break up by email or text.
Schedule a time to call or chat when both of you are free to talk for an hour.
Consider a format that is most comfortable for you, but also allows for real-time, voice interaction.
1-4. Avoid using text, chat, email, or other non-direct modes.
While you may be used to texting, chatting, or emailing your girlfriend, this is a less personal form of communication. With a break up, it's important to take action in a personal, kind, and clear way.
Texting back and forth about breaking up will likely feel heartless to your girlfriend. In terms of break up etiquette, it will feel like the relationship wasn't even that important.
While ending a relationship via text after two or three dates may be fine, if you and your girlfriend have been exclusive and dating for many months, then avoid this way of breaking up.
1-5. Break up in person if possible.
This may be trickier if you live 2,000 miles (3,000 km) away or are in another country. But if your long distance relationship has been for over a year or more, and you are able to drive to see your girlfriend, then a break up in person is a more respectable option.
Breaking up in person shows courage rather than cowardice, and shows that you take this relationship seriously--even the breaking up part.
Meeting in person may be more uncomfortable but it can give your girlfriend a better sense of what you're feeling in terms of body language, your words, and your physical presence.
2. Establishing Boundaries After a Break Up
2-1. Talk about boundaries of communication after the break up.
You may say to your girlfriend, "Let's stay friends," but this could send mixed signals to your girlfriend. If she is still interested in a relationship with you, she may read this as an opportunity to get back together later. Instead, try saying something like, “I think that we should stop communicating for now, but maybe we can be friends after we have both moved on a few years from now. For now though, I do not think we should communicate by phone, online, or in person.”
Some relationships end well and amicably. Think about how you and your girlfriend are ending yours.
If you and your girlfriend are already living long distance from each other, there is a better chance that you won't run into each other on a regular basis. But think about how much you want her to interact with you online or via Facebook.
2-2. Tie up loose ends in your relationship.
If you and your girlfriend had been arranging plans to see each other again soon, you may have made purchases or arrangements that need to be addressed. You may also have items that belong to your girlfriend. While you may not be able to tie up these loose ends right after breaking up, be mindful of your part in any pre-made plans.
Honor any obligations you have to cancel arrangements or pay back any money owed.
If you have items that your girlfriend would like back, be respectful and return things promptly that belong to her.
If there are things that are jointly owned, then consider another conversation with your girlfriend after the break up to discuss these items.
2-3. Let go of guilt
Before a break up, you may be worried about telling her. After a break up, you may feel guilt or anxiety about what just happened. It is normal to feel worried about hurting someone's feelings, as well as the guilt afterwards. These feelings will pass with time.
Understand that is better to make a clean break, rather than to have a relationship drag on when you are feeling unhappy or miserable.
With long distance relationships, it's important to see this as an opportunity for growth, change, and renewal. If you have been unhappy in a long distance relationship, you may feel some relief.
3. Evaluating Your Reasons for Breaking Up
3-1. Assess if you look forward to seeing your girlfriend next.
Do your visits with your long distance girlfriend feel fun and interesting, or like an obligation? If you are not looking forward to future visits with your girlfriend, this is a major sign that the relationship may not be working.
If making plans to see each other feels like a chore, then a long distance relationship may not be the best.
3-2. Compare your values with her values.
Sometimes relationships do not work out because your values and goals are not compatible with the other person's values and goals. It's okay to have some differences, but major differences like different religious beliefs, life goals, or other important things may interfere with a harmonious relationship. If you find that you are often fighting because you value different things, then this might be a sign that the relationship will not work out.
For example, if you value time with family and friends more than money and professional success, then this could be a problem if your girlfriend is really focused on her career right now. Or, if one of you wants kids and the other one does not, then this could cause serious problems down the road.
Try making a list of values, beliefs, and goals that you have in common with your girlfriend, and a separate list of values, beliefs, and goals that you do not have in common. If the list of things you do not have in common is longer than the list of things you do have in common, then this may be a reason to break it off.
3-3. Figure out if the relationship is holding you back.
If you're finding yourself interested in someone else, then consider if this long distance relationship is working. Long distance relationships can require a bit more commitment, so be aware of whether this type of relationship is right for you.
You may feel torn if she was your high school sweetheart, and now you're finding new love interests in college. Avoid cheating on your girlfriend as an "out" from the relationship. If you find yourself thinking more about someone else than your girlfriend, talk with your girlfriend first.
Avoid hurting your girlfriend's feelings further by lying or covering up about what's bothering you.
3-4. Evaluate if your lives are heading in very different directions.
Sometimes your life gets in the way of love. If you've been dating your girlfriend for a few months, and now are back to your different lives in different cities, the passion and desire to continue this relationship may have changed.
You may find after dating long distance for a few months that you and your girlfriend are actually headed in very different directions. Maybe the support she needs is different from what you can offer.
For example, let's say you were dating for the summer, and now that school has started again you're in different cities, at different schools, and have different commitments to work or activities. You may feel less connected to your girlfriend now that you have some distance and are back to focusing on your studies and spending time with friends.
3-5. Identify if the long-distance routine is getting too difficult.
Do you feel like you're communicating less and less with your girlfriend? Do you feel like scheduling calls and frequent weekend trips is just too much? It may be time to talk with your girlfriend about this.
A long distance relationship, after only knowing your girlfriend for a few months, is likely to be very difficult.
Be mindful that if you've been dating your girlfriend for a year or more, then you need to assess if it is the long distance part that is the difficulty, the relationship itself, or both.
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Listen to her side of the story.\\nYour girlfriend may be shocked, heartbroken, or possibly understanding. It could be a combination of all or none of these emotions. By talking with her in real time, either over the phone or in person, you give her a chance to say what she needs to say.\\nAvoid getting into an argument at this point. If you have decided to break up with your girlfriend, you don't need to have this conversation blow up into a blame game.\\nBe open to listening. Avoid ending the conversation abruptly after you have said that you wanted to break up. Give her time to think and process what is happening.\\n1-3. Consider breaking up by video chat or phone.\\nThe financial cost of meeting up in person or timing issues can make phone or video chat a good way to have a breakup conversation. This way you can still have a conversation that allows both sides to interact at the same time. There will be less miscommunication than if you try to break up by email or text.\\nSchedule a time to call or chat when both of you are free to talk for an hour.\\nConsider a format that is most comfortable for you, but also allows for real-time, voice interaction.\\n1-4. Avoid using text, chat, email, or other non-direct modes.\\nWhile you may be used to texting, chatting, or emailing your girlfriend, this is a less personal form of communication. With a break up, it's important to take action in a personal, kind, and clear way.\\nTexting back and forth about breaking up will likely feel heartless to your girlfriend. In terms of break up etiquette, it will feel like the relationship wasn't even that important.\\nWhile ending a relationship via text after two or three dates may be fine, if you and your girlfriend have been exclusive and dating for many months, then avoid this way of breaking up.\\n1-5. Break up in person if possible.\\nThis may be trickier if you live 2,000 miles (3,000 km) away or are in another country. But if your long distance relationship has been for over a year or more, and you are able to drive to see your girlfriend, then a break up in person is a more respectable option.\\nBreaking up in person shows courage rather than cowardice, and shows that you take this relationship seriously--even the breaking up part.\\nMeeting in person may be more uncomfortable but it can give your girlfriend a better sense of what you're feeling in terms of body language, your words, and your physical presence.\\n2. Establishing Boundaries After a Break Up\\n2-1. Talk about boundaries of communication after the break up.\\nYou may say to your girlfriend, \\\"Let's stay friends,\\\" but this could send mixed signals to your girlfriend. If she is still interested in a relationship with you, she may read this as an opportunity to get back together later. Instead, try saying something like, “I think that we should stop communicating for now, but maybe we can be friends after we have both moved on a few years from now. For now though, I do not think we should communicate by phone, online, or in person.”\\nSome relationships end well and amicably. Think about how you and your girlfriend are ending yours.\\nIf you and your girlfriend are already living long distance from each other, there is a better chance that you won't run into each other on a regular basis. But think about how much you want her to interact with you online or via Facebook.\\n2-2. Tie up loose ends in your relationship.\\nIf you and your girlfriend had been arranging plans to see each other again soon, you may have made purchases or arrangements that need to be addressed. You may also have items that belong to your girlfriend. 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These feelings will pass with time.\\nUnderstand that is better to make a clean break, rather than to have a relationship drag on when you are feeling unhappy or miserable.\\nWith long distance relationships, it's important to see this as an opportunity for growth, change, and renewal. If you have been unhappy in a long distance relationship, you may feel some relief.\\n3. Evaluating Your Reasons for Breaking Up\\n3-1. Assess if you look forward to seeing your girlfriend next.\\nDo your visits with your long distance girlfriend feel fun and interesting, or like an obligation? If you are not looking forward to future visits with your girlfriend, this is a major sign that the relationship may not be working.\\nIf making plans to see each other feels like a chore, then a long distance relationship may not be the best.\\n3-2. Compare your values with her values.\\nSometimes relationships do not work out because your values and goals are not compatible with the other person's values and goals. It's okay to have some differences, but major differences like different religious beliefs, life goals, or other important things may interfere with a harmonious relationship. If you find that you are often fighting because you value different things, then this might be a sign that the relationship will not work out.\\nFor example, if you value time with family and friends more than money and professional success, then this could be a problem if your girlfriend is really focused on her career right now. Or, if one of you wants kids and the other one does not, then this could cause serious problems down the road.\\nTry making a list of values, beliefs, and goals that you have in common with your girlfriend, and a separate list of values, beliefs, and goals that you do not have in common. 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While you may not be able to tie up these loose ends right after breaking up, be mindful of your part in any pre-made plans.\\nHonor any obligations you have to cancel arrangements or pay back any money owed.\\nIf you have items that your girlfriend would like back, be respectful and return things promptly that belong to her.\\nIf there are things that are jointly owned, then consider another conversation with your girlfriend after the break up to discuss these items.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Let go of guilt\", \"描述\": \"Before a break up, you may be worried about telling her. After a break up, you may feel guilt or anxiety about what just happened. It is normal to feel worried about hurting someone's feelings, as well as the guilt afterwards. These feelings will pass with time.\\nUnderstand that is better to make a clean break, rather than to have a relationship drag on when you are feeling unhappy or miserable.\\nWith long distance relationships, it's important to see this as an opportunity for growth, change, and renewal. If you have been unhappy in a long distance relationship, you may feel some relief.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Evaluating Your Reasons for Breaking Up\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Assess if you look forward to seeing your girlfriend next.\", \"描述\": \"Do your visits with your long distance girlfriend feel fun and interesting, or like an obligation? 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1. Recognizing an Unhealthy Relationship
1-1. Consider how you feel.
A romantic relationship won’t always be perfect, but you should generally feel good about yourself and your partner. If you are in an abusive relationship, such as one where your boyfriend is possessive, you may feel very negative emotions. These are signs that you may be in an unhealthy relationship. You may feel:
Depressed
Lonely
Shameful
Guilty
Isolated or trapped
Anxious
Fearful for your safety or the safety of your children
Suicidal
If you are having suicidal thoughts, call 911 immediately or go to your nearest emergency room.
1-2. Notice if your boyfriend acts like he owns you.
The basis of a possessive tendency in a relationship is rooted in the word “possession.” Your boyfriend thinks of you as something to own and control.
1-3. Count up how often you see your friends or family.
A possessive boyfriend may not allow you to spend time with other people. Instead, he wants to be the center of your universe. He may demand that you cut off contact with friends, family, or coworkers. He is trying to destroy your support network and make you wholly dependent upon him. You likely feel very isolated and alone.
Think about the other people in your life. How often do you see them? When you lose your support network, it can seem harder for you to escape a damaging relationship.
1-4. Consider how your boyfriend reacts when you talk with strangers.
A possessive boyfriend will control who you see and talk to. This can even include strangers, such as waiters, store clerks and grocery store checkers.
1-5. Notice how much your boyfriend tracks your actions.
A possessive boyfriend will keep track of what you do and where you go. He will demand an accounting of where you’ve been, what you’ve done, who you talked to, what you bought, and even what you read. This can get exhausting and many victims might stop doing certain activities in order to avoid being interrogated.
1-6. Notice if your boyfriend controls your access to resources.
Your boyfriend may not allow you access to certain resources, such as the telephone or internet, a car, school, work, or health care and medications. Limiting these resources is another way to make you entirely dependent upon him. This also helps him track and control your actions.
1-7. Consider if your boyfriend accuses you of infidelity.
Many possessive partners will accuse the other partner of cheating or unfaithfulness. You may feel like you can’t even talk to another man because your boyfriend will get jealous. Healthy relationships are built on trust and respect, and you should be able to interact with whomever you want.
1-8. Recognize possessiveness disguised as caring.
Your boyfriend may try to control your actions and behavior by disguising it as caring. He is making the decision for you about how you should act, but he hides it behind a veneer of doing “what’s best for you.”
For example, he may say that you shouldn’t drive your car because the car might break down. But he won’t help you get the car fixed to make it safe.
1-9. Think about how you and your boyfriend communicate with each other.
There should be a healthy amount of respect towards each other. Healthy couples are kind to each other. They do not name-call, put each other down, yell, or exhibit other signs of abusive behaviors. They support each other privately and in public. They also honor their partner’s boundaries. Healthy couples have personal boundaries (expressing their preferences and needs), and they use assertiveness to express these boundaries in a kind and loving way.
When communicating assertively, people in healthy relationships communicate openly and honestly. This means also that healthy couples can share their feelings with the other person, not have a need to be right all the time, and listen to each other in a loving, open, and nonjudgmental way.
1-10. Watch how arguments play out.
Not everyone agrees all the time, even in the healthiest of relationships. Misunderstandings, miscommunications, and conflicts are dealt with promptly and assertively. Assertive communication maintains a level of kindness and respect within the relationship, as well as encourages cooperation in solving problems and issues.
Healthy couples don’t play the “blame game.” Each person takes responsibility for his or her behavior, thinking, and emotions. Each takes control of his or her own happiness and destiny. Both partners also take responsibility for when they make mistakes and do what’s necessary to make it up to the other partner. For example, apologizing is a good start.
1-11. Determine if your partner is gaslighting.
Gaslighting is a method of emotional abuse in which one partner manipulates and distorts events or behaviors so that the other partner doesn’t trust her own judgement and doubts her abilities. This is a way to control the other person so that she cannot function independently.
An example of gaslighting is when your boyfriend recounts an action from the past but he changes some of the details. On the whole, it seems accurate, but the minor details are used to put him in the right and to put you in the wrong
If your partner has been gaslighting for a long time, it can be difficult to determine if it’s happening. You may not trust your judgement and you may have very low self-esteem. Think back to instances where you felt disbelief about the way your boyfriend recounted an event. You may have felt that he definitely remembered things wrong. This might be an example of the start of gaslighting in your relationship.
2. Recognizing Signs of Abuse
2-1. Understand the definition of abuse.
An abusive relationship describes a relationship where one person consistently and constantly uses tactics to psychologically, physically, financially, emotionally, and sexually control and have power over another person. A relationship marked by domestic violence is a relationship where there is an imbalance of power.
2-2. Know what emotional abuse looks like.
This kind of abuse usually involves verbal abuse, where the abuser systematically lowers your self-esteem by calling you names, criticizes you constantly, doesn’t show any trust, acts like you a possession, threatens you, and uses your children against you or threatens to hurt them, among other behaviors.
Possessive behavior is a form of emotional abuse, but it can be accompanied by other forms of abuse.
2-3. Understand what physical abuse looks like.
The actual acts of physical violence might seem like they are self-explanatory or too obvious to mention. But for people who grew up getting hit, they might not realize that this is not a normal, healthy behavior. The following are signs of physical abuse:
“Pulling your hair, punching, slapping, kicking, biting or choking you.”
Denying you the right to meet your basic needs, such as food and sleep.
Breaking your belongings or things in your home, such as throwing dishes or punching holes in the walls.
Threatening you with a knife or gun, or uses a weapon on you.
Physically barring you from leaving, calling 911 for help, or going to the hospital.
Physically abusing you or your children.
Kicking you out of your car and leaving you in strange places.
Driving aggressively and dangerously while you are in the car.
Making you drink alcohol or take drugs.
2-4. Recognize sexual abuse.
This kind of abuse encompasses any unwanted sexual activity. It includes “sexual coercion,” which makes you feel like you are being forced to have sex. It also includes “reproductive coercion,” which means not allowing you to have a choice in pregnancy.
An abuser may control the way you dress, rape you, purposely give you a sexually transmitted disease, drug you or get you drunk to have sex with you, make you pregnant or terminate your pregnancy against your will, make you view pornography, and so on.
2-5. Understand the dimensions of financial abuse.
Financial abuse can entail abusers preventing you from having your own money, even if you earned it. They might also take away your credit cards or they start a credit card in your name and ruin your credit history.
Abusers also might move into your home and not contribute to paying any of the bills or expenses. They might also withhold money for your basic needs, such as prescriptions or groceries.
2-6. Understand what digital abuse looks like.
Abusers utilize technology to threaten, stalk, bully, or harass you. They may use social media to send you harassing messages, or demand to know your passwords. Abusers will also insist you keep your cell phone on you at all times and answer his call the moment it rings.
3. Taking Action
3-1. Be realistic about whether the relationship is worth fixing.
When you’re in a possessive relationship, your partner is responsible for his actions. Many victims of abuse are trained to think, “It’s my fault,” and “If I’d only done this, he wouldn’t do that.” But your partner is the one who decides how he will act. If the relationship is worth fixing, your boyfriend has to really want to change his ways. He has to initiate the change.
If your boyfriend is possessive enough that you’ve become isolated, trapped, depressed, anxious, or fearful, then it’s most likely that you should leave the relationship.
3-2. Get support from a trusted friend or family member.
Often, a person in a possessive relationship will become isolated from friends and family. She may retreat because she feels that she will be judged or stigmatized. But when you realize that you need to leave the relationship, you will need these support networks. Even if you haven’t talked with a friend or family member in a while, he or she is likely willing to support you.
Rally this person’s support. Talk to this person to discuss your strategy for leaving the relationship.
3-3. Find support through a domestic violence hotline.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233 | 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)) is staffed with counselors who can talk you through your options and help you figure out a plan for leaving this relationship.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline also has a website (www.thehotline.com) where you can chat with someone online except for 2:00 a.m. to 7:00 a.m. Central Time. The staff will help you determine what your safest course of action is at this time. They also have a list of 4,000 safehouses around the United States. They can help locate one for you and your children if need be.
3-4. Make your personalized safety plan.
A personalized safety plan is a way to work out exactly what you’ll do when you feel threatened or at risk.
There are personalized safety plans available online, such as this worksheet from the National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence. Print out this form and fill it out.
Store this worksheet in a safe place where your boyfriend can’t find it.
3-5. Leave immediately if you feel unsafe.
If your relationship has become dangerous, you do not need to explain your departure to your boyfriend. Leave immediately and find somewhere safe to stay, such as a safehouse.
Your first priority is to keep yourself (and your children and pets if you have them) safe.
3-6. Trust your instincts.
Your gut may be telling you that the relationship is not working and that your boyfriend does not respect you. It can be a difficult realization to come to. But when you trust yourself and you are honest with yourself, you can make a change that will lead you into a healthier, safer life.
4. Ending the Relationship
4-1. Plan out what you’re going to say.
It is a good idea to practice what you will say to your boyfriend when you break off the relationship. This will help you work through your thoughts to find the best way to express yourself. This can be very hard to do when you are the victim in a controlling relationship. But you deserve to be heard and respected.
4-2. Choose the best place and time.
Breaking up is usually best done in person. But in an abusive relationship, you should carefully anticipate your boyfriend’s reactions and choose the safest way to lose him instead. If you don’t think he will become violent, then you can do this in person. You may want to choose a public place where he can’t hurt you or break your things.
If you think he will get violent, you should just leave the situation without an in-person explanation. You can leave a note if you feel it’s necessary. If you have children or pets, take them with you.
4-3. Bring someone with you.
If you are concerned at all about your safety, bring a trusted friend with you. This person can be a witness and advocate for you.
4-4. Describe how his behaviors make you feel.
You can take this opportunity to tell him how his possessiveness has made you feel. Use assertive communication to tell him what you need from a healthy relationship. Tell him that the relationship is not meeting your needs and that you are leaving.
You can give some specific examples of how he disrespects you, isolates you, or controls you.
4-5. Be wary of his reactions.
Be aware that your boyfriend may not listen to your explanations. He may become very defensive. He may turn violent or apologetic, or he might just ignore you. Stick to your guns and do what’s right for you.
4-6. Ignore the apologies.
Your partner may try begging you to stay and to forgive him. But be extremely wary of promises that he will change. Abuse can “cycle,” in that there is a period of calm, followed by an escalation, and then an attack. After the attack, the entire cycle can begin again. If you’ve reached the decision to leave the relationship, listen to yourself first and foremost. Ignore his apologies and begging.
If he threatens that he’ll hurt himself if you leave, you need to ignore him. His actions are his own responsibility. He is using guilt to try manipulating you into staying. You need to ensure your own safety first.
4-7. Call 911 if you feel unsafe.
If your partner becomes violent, call 911 immediately. Calling 911 can ensure that you will be able to stop any physical abuse that might arise. You can also ensure your safety as you and your kids leave the house.
Tell the police about any physical abuse you experienced. Describe what happened in detail and show where you were hurt. Have the police take photos of the marks right away, as well as the next day when bruising shows up. These photos can be used in court. Ask for the officers’ names and badge numbers. Get a report or case number as well, in case you need a copy of the report. The police might arrest your boyfriend if they determine that you are unsafe.
4-8. Find a safe shelter.
Make a list of all the places you can go. Think about friends or family who are not familiar to your boyfriend. Locate a safehouse. Safehouses are usually maintained by nonprofit organizations. They have a secret location and are usually accessible 24 hours a day, so you can sneak away while your partner is sleeping if necessary. They can help you coordinate with government social services to get benefits to get you started. They can also help you get a personal protection order, and many offer counseling services.
4-9. Don’t answer communications from your ex-boyfriend.
This person may continue trying to contact you on the phone, through social media, or even in person. Don’t respond to his texts.
Delete his number from your phone. Unfriend him on social media. You may want to change your phone number.
If you feel that he is following you around or spying on you, change up your routines. Leave for work or school at a different time and take a different route. If you don’t feel safe, think about getting a personal protection order.
4-10. Get a personal protection order if you think it’s necessary.
A personal protection order (PPO) is issued by the Circuit Court in your region. It offers legal protection for you against a person who is harassing, stalking, threatening or intimidating you. The PPO will prohibit this person from coming to your home or workplace.
Keep a detailed record of any contact that your boyfriend makes. If your boyfriend continues to get in touch with you or stalk you, write down the times, places and details of what happened. This can be used to get a personal protection order if you need one.
5. Moving On
5-1. See a mental health professional.
Depending on the extent of the relationship you just left, you may want to seek counseling to talk through your experiences. It can be a good idea to work with a professional to understand the relationship and your partner’s behaviors.
5-2. Reestablish your sense of safety.
After ending an abusive relationship where you didn’t feel secure, you will need time to feel safe again. This might mean feeling safe physically, feeling safe from criticisms and insults, feeling safe from poverty or other financial abuse, and feeling safe in your actions and behaviors.
You might look to feel safe physically by taking a self-defense class. You might begin to feel safe from financial abuse by getting a job and building up your savings account.
5-3. Allow yourself to grieve.
The end of your relationship can leave you feeling depressed, guilty, lost or anxious. Let yourself express these feelings. Do something creative, like artwork or journaling, to work out some of these feelings.
5-4. Take time for yourself.
After you get out of an unhealthy relationship, it’s a good idea to take time to reconnect with yourself. Do the activities that you enjoy doing, whether it’s cooking or hiking or skiing or watching movies. Focus on what you need to feel healthy again.
5-5. Enter into new relationships cautiously.
When you start thinking about getting into a new relationship, you will likely enter into it with caution and perhaps a little trepidation. Be optimistic about the possibilities for a new relationship. But if you sense you are getting into the same patterns as your previous relationship, break it off immediately. Don’t get yourself into a similar cycle as the previous time.
Identify qualities you want in a partner. After an abusive relationship, take time to figure out your priorities for a successful and healthy relationship. Put yourself as a priority.
5-6. Be strong and believe in yourself.
Breaking off a possessive relationship can be extremely difficult, especially if you’ve been entrenched in it for a long time. Be strong and believe in your ability to heal. Give yourself positive affirmations so that you know you’ve made the right decision.
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Determine if your partner is gaslighting.\\nGaslighting is a method of emotional abuse in which one partner manipulates and distorts events or behaviors so that the other partner doesn’t trust her own judgement and doubts her abilities. This is a way to control the other person so that she cannot function independently.\\nAn example of gaslighting is when your boyfriend recounts an action from the past but he changes some of the details. On the whole, it seems accurate, but the minor details are used to put him in the right and to put you in the wrong\\nIf your partner has been gaslighting for a long time, it can be difficult to determine if it’s happening. You may not trust your judgement and you may have very low self-esteem. Think back to instances where you felt disbelief about the way your boyfriend recounted an event. You may have felt that he definitely remembered things wrong. This might be an example of the start of gaslighting in your relationship.\\n2. Recognizing Signs of Abuse\\n2-1. Understand the definition of abuse.\\nAn abusive relationship describes a relationship where one person consistently and constantly uses tactics to psychologically, physically, financially, emotionally, and sexually control and have power over another person. A relationship marked by domestic violence is a relationship where there is an imbalance of power.\\n2-2. Know what emotional abuse looks like.\\nThis kind of abuse usually involves verbal abuse, where the abuser systematically lowers your self-esteem by calling you names, criticizes you constantly, doesn’t show any trust, acts like you a possession, threatens you, and uses your children against you or threatens to hurt them, among other behaviors.\\nPossessive behavior is a form of emotional abuse, but it can be accompanied by other forms of abuse.\\n2-3. Understand what physical abuse looks like.\\nThe actual acts of physical violence might seem like they are self-explanatory or too obvious to mention. But for people who grew up getting hit, they might not realize that this is not a normal, healthy behavior. The following are signs of physical abuse:\\n“Pulling your hair, punching, slapping, kicking, biting or choking you.”\\nDenying you the right to meet your basic needs, such as food and sleep.\\nBreaking your belongings or things in your home, such as throwing dishes or punching holes in the walls.\\nThreatening you with a knife or gun, or uses a weapon on you.\\nPhysically barring you from leaving, calling 911 for help, or going to the hospital.\\nPhysically abusing you or your children.\\nKicking you out of your car and leaving you in strange places.\\nDriving aggressively and dangerously while you are in the car.\\nMaking you drink alcohol or take drugs.\\n2-4. Recognize sexual abuse.\\nThis kind of abuse encompasses any unwanted sexual activity. It includes “sexual coercion,” which makes you feel like you are being forced to have sex. It also includes “reproductive coercion,” which means not allowing you to have a choice in pregnancy.\\nAn abuser may control the way you dress, rape you, purposely give you a sexually transmitted disease, drug you or get you drunk to have sex with you, make you pregnant or terminate your pregnancy against your will, make you view pornography, and so on.\\n2-5. Understand the dimensions of financial abuse.\\nFinancial abuse can entail abusers preventing you from having your own money, even if you earned it. They might also take away your credit cards or they start a credit card in your name and ruin your credit history.\\nAbusers also might move into your home and not contribute to paying any of the bills or expenses. They might also withhold money for your basic needs, such as prescriptions or groceries.\\n2-6. Understand what digital abuse looks like.\\nAbusers utilize technology to threaten, stalk, bully, or harass you. They may use social media to send you harassing messages, or demand to know your passwords. Abusers will also insist you keep your cell phone on you at all times and answer his call the moment it rings.\\n3. Taking Action\\n3-1. Be realistic about whether the relationship is worth fixing.\\nWhen you’re in a possessive relationship, your partner is responsible for his actions. Many victims of abuse are trained to think, “It’s my fault,” and “If I’d only done this, he wouldn’t do that.” But your partner is the one who decides how he will act. If the relationship is worth fixing, your boyfriend has to really want to change his ways. He has to initiate the change.\\nIf your boyfriend is possessive enough that you’ve become isolated, trapped, depressed, anxious, or fearful, then it’s most likely that you should leave the relationship.\\n3-2. Get support from a trusted friend or family member.\\nOften, a person in a possessive relationship will become isolated from friends and family. She may retreat because she feels that she will be judged or stigmatized. But when you realize that you need to leave the relationship, you will need these support networks. Even if you haven’t talked with a friend or family member in a while, he or she is likely willing to support you.\\nRally this person’s support. Talk to this person to discuss your strategy for leaving the relationship.\\n3-3. Find support through a domestic violence hotline.\\nThe National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233 | 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)) is staffed with counselors who can talk you through your options and help you figure out a plan for leaving this relationship.\\nThe National Domestic Violence Hotline also has a website (www.thehotline.com) where you can chat with someone online except for 2:00 a.m. to 7:00 a.m. Central Time. The staff will help you determine what your safest course of action is at this time. They also have a list of 4,000 safehouses around the United States. They can help locate one for you and your children if need be.\\n3-4. Make your personalized safety plan.\\nA personalized safety plan is a way to work out exactly what you’ll do when you feel threatened or at risk.\\nThere are personalized safety plans available online, such as this worksheet from the National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence. Print out this form and fill it out.\\nStore this worksheet in a safe place where your boyfriend can’t find it.\\n3-5. Leave immediately if you feel unsafe.\\nIf your relationship has become dangerous, you do not need to explain your departure to your boyfriend. Leave immediately and find somewhere safe to stay, such as a safehouse.\\nYour first priority is to keep yourself (and your children and pets if you have them) safe.\\n3-6. Trust your instincts.\\nYour gut may be telling you that the relationship is not working and that your boyfriend does not respect you. It can be a difficult realization to come to. But when you trust yourself and you are honest with yourself, you can make a change that will lead you into a healthier, safer life.\\n4. Ending the Relationship\\n4-1. Plan out what you’re going to say.\\nIt is a good idea to practice what you will say to your boyfriend when you break off the relationship. This will help you work through your thoughts to find the best way to express yourself. This can be very hard to do when you are the victim in a controlling relationship. But you deserve to be heard and respected.\\n4-2. Choose the best place and time.\\nBreaking up is usually best done in person. But in an abusive relationship, you should carefully anticipate your boyfriend’s reactions and choose the safest way to lose him instead. If you don’t think he will become violent, then you can do this in person. You may want to choose a public place where he can’t hurt you or break your things.\\nIf you think he will get violent, you should just leave the situation without an in-person explanation. You can leave a note if you feel it’s necessary. If you have children or pets, take them with you.\\n4-3. Bring someone with you.\\nIf you are concerned at all about your safety, bring a trusted friend with you. This person can be a witness and advocate for you.\\n4-4. Describe how his behaviors make you feel.\\nYou can take this opportunity to tell him how his possessiveness has made you feel. Use assertive communication to tell him what you need from a healthy relationship. Tell him that the relationship is not meeting your needs and that you are leaving.\\nYou can give some specific examples of how he disrespects you, isolates you, or controls you.\\n4-5. Be wary of his reactions.\\nBe aware that your boyfriend may not listen to your explanations. He may become very defensive. He may turn violent or apologetic, or he might just ignore you. Stick to your guns and do what’s right for you.\\n4-6. Ignore the apologies.\\nYour partner may try begging you to stay and to forgive him. But be extremely wary of promises that he will change. Abuse can “cycle,” in that there is a period of calm, followed by an escalation, and then an attack. After the attack, the entire cycle can begin again. If you’ve reached the decision to leave the relationship, listen to yourself first and foremost. Ignore his apologies and begging.\\nIf he threatens that he’ll hurt himself if you leave, you need to ignore him. His actions are his own responsibility. He is using guilt to try manipulating you into staying. You need to ensure your own safety first.\\n4-7. Call 911 if you feel unsafe.\\nIf your partner becomes violent, call 911 immediately. Calling 911 can ensure that you will be able to stop any physical abuse that might arise. You can also ensure your safety as you and your kids leave the house.\\nTell the police about any physical abuse you experienced. Describe what happened in detail and show where you were hurt. Have the police take photos of the marks right away, as well as the next day when bruising shows up. These photos can be used in court. Ask for the officers’ names and badge numbers. Get a report or case number as well, in case you need a copy of the report. The police might arrest your boyfriend if they determine that you are unsafe.\\n4-8. Find a safe shelter.\\nMake a list of all the places you can go. Think about friends or family who are not familiar to your boyfriend. Locate a safehouse. Safehouses are usually maintained by nonprofit organizations. They have a secret location and are usually accessible 24 hours a day, so you can sneak away while your partner is sleeping if necessary. They can help you coordinate with government social services to get benefits to get you started. They can also help you get a personal protection order, and many offer counseling services.\\n4-9. Don’t answer communications from your ex-boyfriend.\\nThis person may continue trying to contact you on the phone, through social media, or even in person. Don’t respond to his texts.\\nDelete his number from your phone. Unfriend him on social media. You may want to change your phone number.\\nIf you feel that he is following you around or spying on you, change up your routines. Leave for work or school at a different time and take a different route. If you don’t feel safe, think about getting a personal protection order.\\n4-10. Get a personal protection order if you think it’s necessary.\\nA personal protection order (PPO) is issued by the Circuit Court in your region. It offers legal protection for you against a person who is harassing, stalking, threatening or intimidating you. The PPO will prohibit this person from coming to your home or workplace.\\nKeep a detailed record of any contact that your boyfriend makes. If your boyfriend continues to get in touch with you or stalk you, write down the times, places and details of what happened. This can be used to get a personal protection order if you need one.\\n5. Moving On\\n5-1. See a mental health professional.\\nDepending on the extent of the relationship you just left, you may want to seek counseling to talk through your experiences. It can be a good idea to work with a professional to understand the relationship and your partner’s behaviors.\\n5-2. Reestablish your sense of safety.\\nAfter ending an abusive relationship where you didn’t feel secure, you will need time to feel safe again. This might mean feeling safe physically, feeling safe from criticisms and insults, feeling safe from poverty or other financial abuse, and feeling safe in your actions and behaviors.\\nYou might look to feel safe physically by taking a self-defense class. You might begin to feel safe from financial abuse by getting a job and building up your savings account.\\n5-3. Allow yourself to grieve.\\nThe end of your relationship can leave you feeling depressed, guilty, lost or anxious. Let yourself express these feelings. Do something creative, like artwork or journaling, to work out some of these feelings.\\n5-4. Take time for yourself.\\nAfter you get out of an unhealthy relationship, it’s a good idea to take time to reconnect with yourself. Do the activities that you enjoy doing, whether it’s cooking or hiking or skiing or watching movies. Focus on what you need to feel healthy again.\\n5-5. Enter into new relationships cautiously.\\nWhen you start thinking about getting into a new relationship, you will likely enter into it with caution and perhaps a little trepidation. Be optimistic about the possibilities for a new relationship. But if you sense you are getting into the same patterns as your previous relationship, break it off immediately. Don’t get yourself into a similar cycle as the previous time.\\nIdentify qualities you want in a partner. After an abusive relationship, take time to figure out your priorities for a successful and healthy relationship. Put yourself as a priority.\\n5-6. Be strong and believe in yourself.\\nBreaking off a possessive relationship can be extremely difficult, especially if you’ve been entrenched in it for a long time. Be strong and believe in your ability to heal. Give yourself positive affirmations so that you know you’ve made the right decision.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you are romantically involved with a jealous or possessive person, you may start to feel that your relationship isn’t as healthy as it ought to be. If this person is controlling your actions, telling you who you can or can’t talk to, and making you feel isolated or depressed, he is emotionally abusing you. What’s more, this type of abuse can rapidly escalate into physically violent forms of abuse. Learn to recognize the signs of abuse and take action to end this controlling relationship.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Recognizing an Unhealthy Relationship\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Consider how you feel.\", \"描述\": \"A romantic relationship won’t always be perfect, but you should generally feel good about yourself and your partner. If you are in an abusive relationship, such as one where your boyfriend is possessive, you may feel very negative emotions. These are signs that you may be in an unhealthy relationship. You may feel:\\nDepressed\\nLonely\\nShameful\\nGuilty\\nIsolated or trapped\\nAnxious\\nFearful for your safety or the safety of your children\\nSuicidal\\nIf you are having suicidal thoughts, call 911 immediately or go to your nearest emergency room.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Notice if your boyfriend acts like he owns you.\", \"描述\": \"The basis of a possessive tendency in a relationship is rooted in the word “possession.” Your boyfriend thinks of you as something to own and control.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Count up how often you see your friends or family.\", \"描述\": \"A possessive boyfriend may not allow you to spend time with other people. Instead, he wants to be the center of your universe. He may demand that you cut off contact with friends, family, or coworkers. He is trying to destroy your support network and make you wholly dependent upon him. You likely feel very isolated and alone. \\nThink about the other people in your life. How often do you see them? When you lose your support network, it can seem harder for you to escape a damaging relationship.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Consider how your boyfriend reacts when you talk with strangers.\", \"描述\": \"A possessive boyfriend will control who you see and talk to. This can even include strangers, such as waiters, store clerks and grocery store checkers.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Notice how much your boyfriend tracks your actions.\", \"描述\": \"A possessive boyfriend will keep track of what you do and where you go. He will demand an accounting of where you’ve been, what you’ve done, who you talked to, what you bought, and even what you read. This can get exhausting and many victims might stop doing certain activities in order to avoid being interrogated.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Notice if your boyfriend controls your access to resources.\", \"描述\": \"Your boyfriend may not allow you access to certain resources, such as the telephone or internet, a car, school, work, or health care and medications. Limiting these resources is another way to make you entirely dependent upon him. This also helps him track and control your actions.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Consider if your boyfriend accuses you of infidelity.\", \"描述\": \"Many possessive partners will accuse the other partner of cheating or unfaithfulness. You may feel like you can’t even talk to another man because your boyfriend will get jealous. Healthy relationships are built on trust and respect, and you should be able to interact with whomever you want.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Recognize possessiveness disguised as caring.\", \"描述\": \"Your boyfriend may try to control your actions and behavior by disguising it as caring. He is making the decision for you about how you should act, but he hides it behind a veneer of doing “what’s best for you.”\\nFor example, he may say that you shouldn’t drive your car because the car might break down. But he won’t help you get the car fixed to make it safe.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Think about how you and your boyfriend communicate with each other.\", \"描述\": \"There should be a healthy amount of respect towards each other. Healthy couples are kind to each other. They do not name-call, put each other down, yell, or exhibit other signs of abusive behaviors. They support each other privately and in public. They also honor their partner’s boundaries. Healthy couples have personal boundaries (expressing their preferences and needs), and they use assertiveness to express these boundaries in a kind and loving way. \\nWhen communicating assertively, people in healthy relationships communicate openly and honestly. This means also that healthy couples can share their feelings with the other person, not have a need to be right all the time, and listen to each other in a loving, open, and nonjudgmental way.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Watch how arguments play out.\", \"描述\": \"Not everyone agrees all the time, even in the healthiest of relationships. Misunderstandings, miscommunications, and conflicts are dealt with promptly and assertively. Assertive communication maintains a level of kindness and respect within the relationship, as well as encourages cooperation in solving problems and issues.\\nHealthy couples don’t play the “blame game.” Each person takes responsibility for his or her behavior, thinking, and emotions. Each takes control of his or her own happiness and destiny. Both partners also take responsibility for when they make mistakes and do what’s necessary to make it up to the other partner. For example, apologizing is a good start.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Determine if your partner is gaslighting.\", \"描述\": \"Gaslighting is a method of emotional abuse in which one partner manipulates and distorts events or behaviors so that the other partner doesn’t trust her own judgement and doubts her abilities. This is a way to control the other person so that she cannot function independently.\\nAn example of gaslighting is when your boyfriend recounts an action from the past but he changes some of the details. On the whole, it seems accurate, but the minor details are used to put him in the right and to put you in the wrong\\nIf your partner has been gaslighting for a long time, it can be difficult to determine if it’s happening. You may not trust your judgement and you may have very low self-esteem. Think back to instances where you felt disbelief about the way your boyfriend recounted an event. You may have felt that he definitely remembered things wrong. This might be an example of the start of gaslighting in your relationship.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Recognizing Signs of Abuse\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Understand the definition of abuse.\", \"描述\": \"An abusive relationship describes a relationship where one person consistently and constantly uses tactics to psychologically, physically, financially, emotionally, and sexually control and have power over another person. A relationship marked by domestic violence is a relationship where there is an imbalance of power.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Know what emotional abuse looks like.\", \"描述\": \"This kind of abuse usually involves verbal abuse, where the abuser systematically lowers your self-esteem by calling you names, criticizes you constantly, doesn’t show any trust, acts like you a possession, threatens you, and uses your children against you or threatens to hurt them, among other behaviors.\\nPossessive behavior is a form of emotional abuse, but it can be accompanied by other forms of abuse.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Understand what physical abuse looks like.\", \"描述\": \"The actual acts of physical violence might seem like they are self-explanatory or too obvious to mention. But for people who grew up getting hit, they might not realize that this is not a normal, healthy behavior. The following are signs of physical abuse:\\n“Pulling your hair, punching, slapping, kicking, biting or choking you.”\\nDenying you the right to meet your basic needs, such as food and sleep.\\nBreaking your belongings or things in your home, such as throwing dishes or punching holes in the walls.\\nThreatening you with a knife or gun, or uses a weapon on you.\\nPhysically barring you from leaving, calling 911 for help, or going to the hospital.\\nPhysically abusing you or your children.\\nKicking you out of your car and leaving you in strange places.\\nDriving aggressively and dangerously while you are in the car.\\nMaking you drink alcohol or take drugs.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Recognize sexual abuse.\", \"描述\": \"This kind of abuse encompasses any unwanted sexual activity. It includes “sexual coercion,” which makes you feel like you are being forced to have sex. It also includes “reproductive coercion,” which means not allowing you to have a choice in pregnancy.\\nAn abuser may control the way you dress, rape you, purposely give you a sexually transmitted disease, drug you or get you drunk to have sex with you, make you pregnant or terminate your pregnancy against your will, make you view pornography, and so on.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Understand the dimensions of financial abuse.\", \"描述\": \"Financial abuse can entail abusers preventing you from having your own money, even if you earned it. They might also take away your credit cards or they start a credit card in your name and ruin your credit history.\\nAbusers also might move into your home and not contribute to paying any of the bills or expenses. They might also withhold money for your basic needs, such as prescriptions or groceries.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Understand what digital abuse looks like.\", \"描述\": \"Abusers utilize technology to threaten, stalk, bully, or harass you. They may use social media to send you harassing messages, or demand to know your passwords. Abusers will also insist you keep your cell phone on you at all times and answer his call the moment it rings.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Taking Action\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be realistic about whether the relationship is worth fixing.\", \"描述\": \"When you’re in a possessive relationship, your partner is responsible for his actions. Many victims of abuse are trained to think, “It’s my fault,” and “If I’d only done this, he wouldn’t do that.” But your partner is the one who decides how he will act. If the relationship is worth fixing, your boyfriend has to really want to change his ways. He has to initiate the change.\\nIf your boyfriend is possessive enough that you’ve become isolated, trapped, depressed, anxious, or fearful, then it’s most likely that you should leave the relationship.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get support from a trusted friend or family member.\", \"描述\": \"Often, a person in a possessive relationship will become isolated from friends and family. She may retreat because she feels that she will be judged or stigmatized. But when you realize that you need to leave the relationship, you will need these support networks. Even if you haven’t talked with a friend or family member in a while, he or she is likely willing to support you.\\nRally this person’s support. Talk to this person to discuss your strategy for leaving the relationship.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Find support through a domestic violence hotline.\", \"描述\": \"The National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233 | 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)) is staffed with counselors who can talk you through your options and help you figure out a plan for leaving this relationship.\\nThe National Domestic Violence Hotline also has a website (www.thehotline.com) where you can chat with someone online except for 2:00 a.m. to 7:00 a.m. Central Time. The staff will help you determine what your safest course of action is at this time. They also have a list of 4,000 safehouses around the United States. They can help locate one for you and your children if need be.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Make your personalized safety plan.\", \"描述\": \"A personalized safety plan is a way to work out exactly what you’ll do when you feel threatened or at risk.\\nThere are personalized safety plans available online, such as this worksheet from the National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence. Print out this form and fill it out.\\nStore this worksheet in a safe place where your boyfriend can’t find it.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Leave immediately if you feel unsafe.\", \"描述\": \"If your relationship has become dangerous, you do not need to explain your departure to your boyfriend. Leave immediately and find somewhere safe to stay, such as a safehouse.\\nYour first priority is to keep yourself (and your children and pets if you have them) safe.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Trust your instincts.\", \"描述\": \"Your gut may be telling you that the relationship is not working and that your boyfriend does not respect you. It can be a difficult realization to come to. But when you trust yourself and you are honest with yourself, you can make a change that will lead you into a healthier, safer life.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Ending the Relationship\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Plan out what you’re going to say.\", \"描述\": \"It is a good idea to practice what you will say to your boyfriend when you break off the relationship. This will help you work through your thoughts to find the best way to express yourself. This can be very hard to do when you are the victim in a controlling relationship. But you deserve to be heard and respected.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Choose the best place and time.\", \"描述\": \"Breaking up is usually best done in person. But in an abusive relationship, you should carefully anticipate your boyfriend’s reactions and choose the safest way to lose him instead. If you don’t think he will become violent, then you can do this in person. You may want to choose a public place where he can’t hurt you or break your things.\\nIf you think he will get violent, you should just leave the situation without an in-person explanation. You can leave a note if you feel it’s necessary. If you have children or pets, take them with you.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Bring someone with you.\", \"描述\": \"If you are concerned at all about your safety, bring a trusted friend with you. This person can be a witness and advocate for you.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Describe how his behaviors make you feel.\", \"描述\": \"You can take this opportunity to tell him how his possessiveness has made you feel. Use assertive communication to tell him what you need from a healthy relationship. Tell him that the relationship is not meeting your needs and that you are leaving.\\nYou can give some specific examples of how he disrespects you, isolates you, or controls you.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be wary of his reactions.\", \"描述\": \"Be aware that your boyfriend may not listen to your explanations. He may become very defensive. He may turn violent or apologetic, or he might just ignore you. Stick to your guns and do what’s right for you.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Ignore the apologies.\", \"描述\": \"Your partner may try begging you to stay and to forgive him. But be extremely wary of promises that he will change. Abuse can “cycle,” in that there is a period of calm, followed by an escalation, and then an attack. After the attack, the entire cycle can begin again. If you’ve reached the decision to leave the relationship, listen to yourself first and foremost. Ignore his apologies and begging.\\nIf he threatens that he’ll hurt himself if you leave, you need to ignore him. His actions are his own responsibility. He is using guilt to try manipulating you into staying. You need to ensure your own safety first.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Call 911 if you feel unsafe.\", \"描述\": \"If your partner becomes violent, call 911 immediately. Calling 911 can ensure that you will be able to stop any physical abuse that might arise. You can also ensure your safety as you and your kids leave the house.\\nTell the police about any physical abuse you experienced. Describe what happened in detail and show where you were hurt. Have the police take photos of the marks right away, as well as the next day when bruising shows up. These photos can be used in court. Ask for the officers’ names and badge numbers. Get a report or case number as well, in case you need a copy of the report. The police might arrest your boyfriend if they determine that you are unsafe.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Find a safe shelter.\", \"描述\": \"Make a list of all the places you can go. Think about friends or family who are not familiar to your boyfriend. Locate a safehouse. Safehouses are usually maintained by nonprofit organizations. They have a secret location and are usually accessible 24 hours a day, so you can sneak away while your partner is sleeping if necessary. They can help you coordinate with government social services to get benefits to get you started. They can also help you get a personal protection order, and many offer counseling services.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Don’t answer communications from your ex-boyfriend.\", \"描述\": \"This person may continue trying to contact you on the phone, through social media, or even in person. Don’t respond to his texts.\\nDelete his number from your phone. Unfriend him on social media. You may want to change your phone number.\\nIf you feel that he is following you around or spying on you, change up your routines. Leave for work or school at a different time and take a different route. If you don’t feel safe, think about getting a personal protection order.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Get a personal protection order if you think it’s necessary.\", \"描述\": \"A personal protection order (PPO) is issued by the Circuit Court in your region. It offers legal protection for you against a person who is harassing, stalking, threatening or intimidating you. The PPO will prohibit this person from coming to your home or workplace.\\nKeep a detailed record of any contact that your boyfriend makes. If your boyfriend continues to get in touch with you or stalk you, write down the times, places and details of what happened. This can be used to get a personal protection order if you need one.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Moving On\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"See a mental health professional.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on the extent of the relationship you just left, you may want to seek counseling to talk through your experiences. It can be a good idea to work with a professional to understand the relationship and your partner’s behaviors.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Reestablish your sense of safety.\", \"描述\": \"After ending an abusive relationship where you didn’t feel secure, you will need time to feel safe again. This might mean feeling safe physically, feeling safe from criticisms and insults, feeling safe from poverty or other financial abuse, and feeling safe in your actions and behaviors.\\nYou might look to feel safe physically by taking a self-defense class. You might begin to feel safe from financial abuse by getting a job and building up your savings account.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Allow yourself to grieve.\", \"描述\": \"The end of your relationship can leave you feeling depressed, guilty, lost or anxious. Let yourself express these feelings. Do something creative, like artwork or journaling, to work out some of these feelings.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take time for yourself.\", \"描述\": \"After you get out of an unhealthy relationship, it’s a good idea to take time to reconnect with yourself. Do the activities that you enjoy doing, whether it’s cooking or hiking or skiing or watching movies. Focus on what you need to feel healthy again.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Enter into new relationships cautiously.\", \"描述\": \"When you start thinking about getting into a new relationship, you will likely enter into it with caution and perhaps a little trepidation. Be optimistic about the possibilities for a new relationship. But if you sense you are getting into the same patterns as your previous relationship, break it off immediately. Don’t get yourself into a similar cycle as the previous time.\\nIdentify qualities you want in a partner. After an abusive relationship, take time to figure out your priorities for a successful and healthy relationship. Put yourself as a priority.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be strong and believe in yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Breaking off a possessive relationship can be extremely difficult, especially if you’ve been entrenched in it for a long time. Be strong and believe in your ability to heal. Give yourself positive affirmations so that you know you’ve made the right decision.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Walk away if there’s no contract.
If you haven’t signed an exclusivity agreement, you’re in the clear.
If you haven’t signed any contracts or agreements and you and the real estate agent have just been working together on a verbal agreement, you’re under no obligation to stick with them. Feel free to break up with them. You won’t face any legal consequences.
Just call, text, or email them something like, “I’m sorry, but I’m going to put a pause on buying a home right now,” or, “I hate to do this, but my partner and I decided to work with another real estate agent.”
Let the agent know you’re going another route as soon as you possibly can. Agent work is time intensive, and it’s a little unfair to take your time breaking the bad news.
2. Expect to pay if you’re selling.
Selling a home involves more work upfront, so you’ll likely pay.
It’s a lot easier to break up with an agent when you’re a buyer. If you already started working with a seller’s agent, they may have staged your home, crafted a listing, and scheduled open houses. As such, there is usually a penalty written into your contract. Read through your contract to see what you’ll need to spend to get rid of them.
Depending on where you live and what your contract says, you may need to pay the seller’s agent you’re breaking up with a 1-2% commission of the sale price or a flat fee.
3. Look for a cancellation clause in the agreement.
If you’ve signed an exclusivity agreement, look for an opt-out clause.
If you remember signing something before you started the home buying or selling process, you probably signed a buyer or seller exclusivity agreement. This document is (usually) legally binding and makes it difficult to switch agents. Read the agreement thoroughly to see if there is an opt-out or cancellation clause.
There may be a clause that says you can break up if your realtor doesn’t fulfill your needs, or if you haven’t found a home you like in a certain number of months.
4. Ask your agent to cancel the exclusivity agreement.
Most agents will tear up an exclusivity contract if you ask nicely.
In the real estate game, an agent’s reputation is everything. As such, agents tend to avoid holding contracts over a client’s head, since the blowback from you making a fuss about it can be incredibly damaging. Email or call the agent and politely request that they release you from the contract. You might say:
“I’ve really enjoyed viewing properties with you, but after careful consideration, my partner and I have decided to put the home buying on pause.”
“Unfortunately, with our work schedules, we’re looking for someone who will be able to set up showings in the evening. We’re going to need to find a new agent.”
“I’ve loved working with you, but I’m going in a different direction.”
5. Apologize for taking their time.
Your realtor did work for you, so acknowledge their effort.
There’s a lot of unseen effort that goes on behind the scenes when a real estate agent starts working with a client, so thank them for all of their work. This is especially important if you’re asking to get out of a contract, since a little humility and appreciation may tip things in your favor. You could say:
“I really appreciate everything you’ve done for me. I know we asked a lot of you and it did not go unnoticed.”
“We’re deeply indebted to you for all of the work you’ve done. I’m really sorry things didn’t work out.”
“I’m sorry we’re putting the search on pause. It just isn’t the right time for us. I do really appreciate everything you’ve done for us, and I apologize for putting you out.”
6. Be honest, but professional.
Your agent may want to know what went wrong, so be genuine.
Why you’re breaking up with your agent may be really important to them. If there’s something they’ve done wrong, knowing about it may help them improve in the future. If they ask you why you’re going with someone else or trying to get out of the contract, politely explain what went wrong in the kindest way possible. Only do this if they ask, though. You might explain:
“We really liked looking at properties with you, but it always felt like we were late to the party when it came to putting bids in. My partner and I want to move quickly.”
“It’s honestly just a scheduling thing. I know you’re super busy in the morning but that’s the only time I can go to look at properties.”
“You didn’t do anything wrong. You were excellent. We’re just putting a hold on the home selling since our moving plans fell through.”
7. Get it in writing that you’re parting ways.
If they agree to let you out of a contract, confirm it via email.
Alternatively, you might send them a text to confirm it, or ask for a written addendum to the contract. So long as you get some kind of receipt proving that your agent is okay with letting you out of the exclusivity agreement, you’re in the clear.
Make sure they agree to a statement like, “I just want to confirm you won’t enforce our exclusivity agreement.”
If you don’t get proof they released you from the contract, you may end up running into legal trouble. The point of an exclusivity agreement is that it’s legally binding to only work with that agent, so it’s key you get proof they’re okay with it.
8. Give them a thank you gift if they let you out of the contract.
Your ex-realtor isn’t getting paid, so get them something tangible.
Real estate agents work entirely on commission, so they’re not getting anything for the work they’ve done for you. As a small token of appreciation, gift the agent something tangible to demonstrate that you’re thankful for them. You could buy them:
A bottle of wine if they’ve mentioned a love of vino.
A gift card to a local restaurant that’s universally loved.
A bath bomb, massage gun, or fancy soap set so they can engage in some self-care.
9. Talk to your agent's boss if they won't let you out of the contract.
If they won’t let you out of the contract, consult their manager.
Agents typically work under the umbrella of a real estate franchise office, like Keller Williams, Caldwell, or Compass. If the agent won’t let you out of the exclusivity offer, call their main office and ask to speak to whoever is in charge. Ask them if there is anything they can do to let you out of the contract. They may be able to force your agent’s hand and let you out.
If the real estate firm thinks you’re going to make a fuss, leave bad reviews, or pursue legal action, they’re probably going to push your agent to drop you without putting up a fight.
10. Switch to another agent at the same firm.
You can often swap agents at the same firm without violating the contract.
There is usually a clause in buyer and seller exclusivity agreements that you can switch to a different real estate agent so long as they’re working with the same firm. If you have a similar clause in your contract, reach out to the main office and explain that you’d like to switch agents.
This is a little bit of a sneaky move, but if your real estate agent isn’t letting you out of the contract and they aren’t trying to meet you halfway, it’s fine to go over their head.
11. Get advice from a real estate attorney.
A lawyer will break down the ramifications of breaking the contract.
If you just can’t find a way out of the exclusivity agreement and you’re thinking about breaking the contract anyway, talk to a real estate attorney. They’ll be able to advise you on what your options are, since there are a lot of local and state laws that likely influence what you can do.
Most of the time, agents won’t pursue any legal action when people break exclusivity deals. However, it’s certainly possible that your agent ends up suing you. Talking to a lawyer will clarify just how risky this move might be for you.
12. Wait for the contract to expire if all else fails.
This may be your only option if the contract is airtight and they’re stubborn.
Buyer and seller exclusivity agreements have expiration dates—usually 3, 6, or 12 months from the start date. If there’s a serious risk that you’ll face legal consequences, you don’t want to pay a termination fee, and the agent won’t let you out of the contract, you’ll have to wait them out. Once the contract ends, you’re free to hunt for a new realtor.
If you’re in a rush to buy or sell a home, you may be better off just working with the agent you’re under contract with.
13. Look for a new realtor who suits your needs.
Reach out to new potential realtors and find someone who works.
Reach out to trusted friends and family members to find a reputable realtor. Alternatively, look online and scan reviews to see if potential realtors might work for you. Meet with your top 3-4 picks over coffee or on the phone and just talk to them to see if the vibe is right before making your final decision.
Look for someone who is highly responsive and doesn’t leave your calls unanswered. In a hot market, you have to move quickly!
You should like and trust your realtor. If someone gives you questionable energy or you’re uncomfortable around them, move on.
Ask potential realtors how many deals they did last year. Ideally, you can find someone who did more than 2-3 deals, but not so many that they’re probably swimming in work right now.
If you’re unfamiliar with the area, you’re best off working with a local who has been in the game in that city or area for a long time.
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If you already started working with a seller’s agent, they may have staged your home, crafted a listing, and scheduled open houses. As such, there is usually a penalty written into your contract. Read through your contract to see what you’ll need to spend to get rid of them.\\nDepending on where you live and what your contract says, you may need to pay the seller’s agent you’re breaking up with a 1-2% commission of the sale price or a flat fee.\\n3. Look for a cancellation clause in the agreement.\\nIf you’ve signed an exclusivity agreement, look for an opt-out clause.\\nIf you remember signing something before you started the home buying or selling process, you probably signed a buyer or seller exclusivity agreement. This document is (usually) legally binding and makes it difficult to switch agents. Read the agreement thoroughly to see if there is an opt-out or cancellation clause.\\nThere may be a clause that says you can break up if your realtor doesn’t fulfill your needs, or if you haven’t found a home you like in a certain number of months.\\n4. Ask your agent to cancel the exclusivity agreement.\\nMost agents will tear up an exclusivity contract if you ask nicely.\\nIn the real estate game, an agent’s reputation is everything. As such, agents tend to avoid holding contracts over a client’s head, since the blowback from you making a fuss about it can be incredibly damaging. Email or call the agent and politely request that they release you from the contract. You might say:\\n“I’ve really enjoyed viewing properties with you, but after careful consideration, my partner and I have decided to put the home buying on pause.”\\n“Unfortunately, with our work schedules, we’re looking for someone who will be able to set up showings in the evening. We’re going to need to find a new agent.”\\n“I’ve loved working with you, but I’m going in a different direction.”\\n5. Apologize for taking their time.\\nYour realtor did work for you, so acknowledge their effort.\\nThere’s a lot of unseen effort that goes on behind the scenes when a real estate agent starts working with a client, so thank them for all of their work. This is especially important if you’re asking to get out of a contract, since a little humility and appreciation may tip things in your favor. You could say:\\n“I really appreciate everything you’ve done for me. I know we asked a lot of you and it did not go unnoticed.”\\n“We’re deeply indebted to you for all of the work you’ve done. I’m really sorry things didn’t work out.”\\n“I’m sorry we’re putting the search on pause. It just isn’t the right time for us. I do really appreciate everything you’ve done for us, and I apologize for putting you out.”\\n6. 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Get it in writing that you’re parting ways.\\nIf they agree to let you out of a contract, confirm it via email.\\nAlternatively, you might send them a text to confirm it, or ask for a written addendum to the contract. So long as you get some kind of receipt proving that your agent is okay with letting you out of the exclusivity agreement, you’re in the clear.\\nMake sure they agree to a statement like, “I just want to confirm you won’t enforce our exclusivity agreement.”\\nIf you don’t get proof they released you from the contract, you may end up running into legal trouble. The point of an exclusivity agreement is that it’s legally binding to only work with that agent, so it’s key you get proof they’re okay with it.\\n8. Give them a thank you gift if they let you out of the contract.\\nYour ex-realtor isn’t getting paid, so get them something tangible.\\nReal estate agents work entirely on commission, so they’re not getting anything for the work they’ve done for you. As a small token of appreciation, gift the agent something tangible to demonstrate that you’re thankful for them. You could buy them:\\nA bottle of wine if they’ve mentioned a love of vino.\\nA gift card to a local restaurant that’s universally loved.\\nA bath bomb, massage gun, or fancy soap set so they can engage in some self-care.\\n9. Talk to your agent's boss if they won't let you out of the contract.\\nIf they won’t let you out of the contract, consult their manager.\\nAgents typically work under the umbrella of a real estate franchise office, like Keller Williams, Caldwell, or Compass. If the agent won’t let you out of the exclusivity offer, call their main office and ask to speak to whoever is in charge. Ask them if there is anything they can do to let you out of the contract. 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1. Getting What You Need
1-1. Purchase a wireless adapter that supports monitor mode and packet injection.
While your laptop computer or smartphone may have a built-in wireless adapter, chances are it does not support monitor mode or packet injection. For this, you will need to purchase a separate wireless adapter. You can order a compatible wireless adapter online. Most range in price from $30 to $70. The following is a list of suitable wireless adapters:
Alfa AWUS036NH
Alfa AWUS036NHA
Alfa AWUS036NEH
Panda PAU09 N600
Panda PAU 06
1-2. Install Kali Linux.
It is highly recommended that you use Linux when trying to break a WEP encryption. Kali Linux (formerly known as Backtrack) is a Linux distribution that is specifically designed for network penetration testing and security research. It comes with all the tools and software you need pre-installed. You can download Kali Linux for free here.
Kali Linux can be installed as your primary operating system, or on a virtual machine. It can also be installed on a Raspberry Pi or on a bootable CD or USB drive.
If you boot Linux from a CD or USB drive, all data will be lost when you reboot your computer, unless you allocate a partition on a USB drive for persistent storage.
1-3. Install Aircrack-ng (if needed).
Aircrack-ng is a suite of software tools used to assess, attack, and crack wireless networks. Kali Linux comes with Aircrack-ng already installed. If you are using a different Linux distribution, such as Ubuntu, you will need to use the following steps to install Aircrack-ng:
Press to open the Terminal.
Type sudo apt-get update
Type sudo apt-get install -y aircrack-ng
Enter your user password.
Press when prompted.
1-4. Get within range of a WEP-enabled Wi-Fi network.
You should be well within range to pick up a strong signal from the network. Additionally, the network should have at least 1 person connected to it. The more people using the network, the more data you will be able to collect in order to break the network encryption. Ideally, the network should have multiple people using the network and connecting and disconnecting their devices.
2. Breaking the WEP Encryption
2-1. Connect your network adapter to your Linux computer.
This should be a network adapter that supports packet injection and monitor mode. You can connect it to any free USB port on your computer.
2-2. Boot into Linux.
If Linux is your primary operating system, simply boot up your computer. If you are using a virtual machine, open your virtual machine software and launch the virtual machine that has Linux installed. If you have a bootable CD or USB drive, make sure your boot order is set to boot from that drive first in the BIOS. Then insert the disk drive and boot up your computer.
2-3. Press Ctrl+Alt+T to launch the Terminal.
On most Linux distributions, the Terminal has an icon that resembles a black screen with a white text cursor. You can click the Terminal icon or use the keyboard shortcut () to open the Terminal.
2-4. Find your network adapter's name.
To do so, type ifconfig and press . This displays all network adapters you have connected to your computer. You will need to know the name of the network adapter you have connected to your computer. It will most likely be named "wlan0," or "wlan1" or something similar.
If you receive an error message that says "Command 'ifconfig' not found" or something similar, type sudo apt install net-tools and press to install the network tools.
2-5. Use Airmon-ng to put your network adapter in monitor mode.
To do so, type sudo airmon-ng start [network adapter name] and press . Replace "[network adapter name]" with the name of your network adapter you got from the "ifconfig" command. This puts the network adapter in monitor mode. It will also likely change the name of your network adapter. Take note of any name changes your network adapter is given.
If you are not sure what the new network adapter name is, simply run the "ifconfig" command again.
2-6. Use Airodump-ng to search for a WEP-enabled network.
To do so, type sudo airodump-ng [network adapter name] --encrypt WEP and press . Replace "[network adapter name]" with the current name for your network adapter. This searches the network for packets sent using WEP encryption using Airodump-ng. If any networks are discovered, they will be listed with "WEP" below "ENC" in the read-out.
2-7. Note the channel number and the BSSID.
Once you discover a WEP network, write down the network MAC address listed below "BSSID" and also the channel number listed below "CH" in the read-out.
2-8. Use Besside-ng to attack the network.
To do so, type sudo besside-ng -c [channel number] -b [BSSID number] [network adapter name] and press . Replace "[channel number] with the channel number you got from the airodump-ng command. Replace "[BSSID number]" with the network MAC address you got from the airodump-ng command. Finally, replace "[network adapter name]" with the current name for your network adapter. This launches an attack against the network using the "Besside-ng" tool. The attack should take about 2 - 10 minutes.
The "Besside-ng" tool first attacks first using packet injection and then by flooding the network. All data that it gathers is saved to a ".cap" file.
Entering the "Besside-ng" command without the proper network parameters will result in the Besside-ng tool attacking all available networks in range.
Launching an attack against a network that you do not have authorization to audit or attack is illegal. Law enforcement will often set up WEP-encrypted networks specifically to catch criminal hackers.
If you get an error that says "Network is down" or similar during the attack, simply run the command again to continue. You can also run the type the command airmon-ng check kill to automatically stop any processes that may be taking your network adapter out of monitor mode.
2-9. Use Aircrack-ng to get the network key.
To do so, simply type sudo aircrack-ng ./wep.cap and press . This reads back the ".cap" file that all the network data that Besside-ng has gathered back to you. It will display a list of networks it has encountered.
2-10. Select the network you want to crack and press ↵ Enter.
When you see the network you want to break, press the number that corresponds to that network and press . Aircrack-ng will start cracking the code. When it is finished, it will display the network key next to "Key Found!" in both hex code format as well as the standard alpha-numeric version next to "ASCII". You can use the "ASCII" key to log into the network.
2-11. Advise the network administrator to change their encryption.
This article demonstrates just how easy it is to break WEP encryptions. Once someone is on your network, they can launch a man-in-the-middle attack, route you to fake websites, and control your internet experience. If you or anybody you know is still using WEP encryption, advise them to immediately change their encryption to something newer and more secure, such as WPA/WPA2 or WPA3.
Tips
Laws concerning network security can differ from place to place. Make sure you know everything you need to know and be prepared to face the consequences of your actions while attempting this.
You can use other programs such as Wireshark (formerly known as Ethereal), Airsnort, and Kismet to sniff packets and break a WEP encryption. They are available as source code. You will need some background in compiling source code for Linux or Windows to use Airsnort or Kismet. Wireshark/Ethereal comes with an installer or you can download the source code.
Warnings
Always be careful of who your target is. It's not smart to walk into your local McDonalds and try to crack their net. The chances of you getting caught increase tenfold.
This information is to be used ethically. Misuse of this information may be illegal both locally and federally.
Breaking into any network you are not authorized to access is illegal.
Law enforcement frequently set up WEP networks as a "honeypot." They know these networks are easy to break into and are low-hanging fruit for new hackers. Make sure you know who the network you are breaking into belongs to.
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You can download Kali Linux for free here.\\nKali Linux can be installed as your primary operating system, or on a virtual machine. It can also be installed on a Raspberry Pi or on a bootable CD or USB drive.\\nIf you boot Linux from a CD or USB drive, all data will be lost when you reboot your computer, unless you allocate a partition on a USB drive for persistent storage.\\n1-3. Install Aircrack-ng (if needed).\\nAircrack-ng is a suite of software tools used to assess, attack, and crack wireless networks. Kali Linux comes with Aircrack-ng already installed. If you are using a different Linux distribution, such as Ubuntu, you will need to use the following steps to install Aircrack-ng:\\nPress to open the Terminal.\\nType sudo apt-get update\\nType sudo apt-get install -y aircrack-ng\\nEnter your user password.\\nPress when prompted.\\n1-4. Get within range of a WEP-enabled Wi-Fi network.\\nYou should be well within range to pick up a strong signal from the network. Additionally, the network should have at least 1 person connected to it. The more people using the network, the more data you will be able to collect in order to break the network encryption. Ideally, the network should have multiple people using the network and connecting and disconnecting their devices.\\n2. Breaking the WEP Encryption\\n2-1. Connect your network adapter to your Linux computer.\\nThis should be a network adapter that supports packet injection and monitor mode. You can connect it to any free USB port on your computer.\\n2-2. Boot into Linux.\\nIf Linux is your primary operating system, simply boot up your computer. If you are using a virtual machine, open your virtual machine software and launch the virtual machine that has Linux installed. If you have a bootable CD or USB drive, make sure your boot order is set to boot from that drive first in the BIOS. Then insert the disk drive and boot up your computer.\\n2-3. Press Ctrl+Alt+T to launch the Terminal.\\nOn most Linux distributions, the Terminal has an icon that resembles a black screen with a white text cursor. You can click the Terminal icon or use the keyboard shortcut () to open the Terminal.\\n2-4. Find your network adapter's name.\\nTo do so, type ifconfig and press . This displays all network adapters you have connected to your computer. You will need to know the name of the network adapter you have connected to your computer. It will most likely be named \\\"wlan0,\\\" or \\\"wlan1\\\" or something similar.\\nIf you receive an error message that says \\\"Command 'ifconfig' not found\\\" or something similar, type sudo apt install net-tools and press to install the network tools.\\n2-5. Use Airmon-ng to put your network adapter in monitor mode.\\nTo do so, type sudo airmon-ng start [network adapter name] and press . Replace \\\"[network adapter name]\\\" with the name of your network adapter you got from the \\\"ifconfig\\\" command. This puts the network adapter in monitor mode. It will also likely change the name of your network adapter. Take note of any name changes your network adapter is given.\\nIf you are not sure what the new network adapter name is, simply run the \\\"ifconfig\\\" command again.\\n2-6. Use Airodump-ng to search for a WEP-enabled network.\\nTo do so, type sudo airodump-ng [network adapter name] --encrypt WEP and press . Replace \\\"[network adapter name]\\\" with the current name for your network adapter. This searches the network for packets sent using WEP encryption using Airodump-ng. If any networks are discovered, they will be listed with \\\"WEP\\\" below \\\"ENC\\\" in the read-out.\\n2-7. Note the channel number and the BSSID.\\nOnce you discover a WEP network, write down the network MAC address listed below \\\"BSSID\\\" and also the channel number listed below \\\"CH\\\" in the read-out.\\n2-8. Use Besside-ng to attack the network.\\nTo do so, type sudo besside-ng -c [channel number] -b [BSSID number] [network adapter name] and press . Replace \\\"[channel number] with the channel number you got from the airodump-ng command. Replace \\\"[BSSID number]\\\" with the network MAC address you got from the airodump-ng command. Finally, replace \\\"[network adapter name]\\\" with the current name for your network adapter. This launches an attack against the network using the \\\"Besside-ng\\\" tool. The attack should take about 2 - 10 minutes.\\nThe \\\"Besside-ng\\\" tool first attacks first using packet injection and then by flooding the network. All data that it gathers is saved to a \\\".cap\\\" file.\\n\\n Entering the \\\"Besside-ng\\\" command without the proper network parameters will result in the Besside-ng tool attacking all available networks in range.\\n Launching an attack against a network that you do not have authorization to audit or attack is illegal. Law enforcement will often set up WEP-encrypted networks specifically to catch criminal hackers.\\nIf you get an error that says \\\"Network is down\\\" or similar during the attack, simply run the command again to continue. You can also run the type the command airmon-ng check kill to automatically stop any processes that may be taking your network adapter out of monitor mode.\\n2-9. Use Aircrack-ng to get the network key.\\nTo do so, simply type sudo aircrack-ng ./wep.cap and press . This reads back the \\\".cap\\\" file that all the network data that Besside-ng has gathered back to you. It will display a list of networks it has encountered.\\n2-10. Select the network you want to crack and press ↵ Enter.\\nWhen you see the network you want to break, press the number that corresponds to that network and press . Aircrack-ng will start cracking the code. When it is finished, it will display the network key next to \\\"Key Found!\\\" in both hex code format as well as the standard alpha-numeric version next to \\\"ASCII\\\". You can use the \\\"ASCII\\\" key to log into the network.\\n2-11. Advise the network administrator to change their encryption.\\nThis article demonstrates just how easy it is to break WEP encryptions. Once someone is on your network, they can launch a man-in-the-middle attack, route you to fake websites, and control your internet experience. If you or anybody you know is still using WEP encryption, advise them to immediately change their encryption to something newer and more secure, such as WPA/WPA2 or WPA3.\\nTips\\nLaws concerning network security can differ from place to place. Make sure you know everything you need to know and be prepared to face the consequences of your actions while attempting this.\\nYou can use other programs such as Wireshark (formerly known as Ethereal), Airsnort, and Kismet to sniff packets and break a WEP encryption. They are available as source code. You will need some background in compiling source code for Linux or Windows to use Airsnort or Kismet. Wireshark/Ethereal comes with an installer or you can download the source code.\\nWarnings\\nAlways be careful of who your target is. It's not smart to walk into your local McDonalds and try to crack their net. The chances of you getting caught increase tenfold.\\nThis information is to be used ethically. Misuse of this information may be illegal both locally and federally.\\nBreaking into any network you are not authorized to access is illegal.\\nLaw enforcement frequently set up WEP networks as a \\\"honeypot.\\\" They know these networks are easy to break into and are low-hanging fruit for new hackers. Make sure you know who the network you are breaking into belongs to.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Wired Equivalent Privacy (WEP) is a security protocol for wireless networks that was introduced in 1997. WEP has many security flaws that make it easy to hack. Wi-Fi Protected Access (WPA) is a much stronger security protocol. It was proposed as a replacement for WEP in the early 2000's and WPA2 became the standard for wireless security by 2004. In spite of the security risks, WEP networks can still be found today. It may be used by older hardware or by people who don't know the best network protocol when setting up their wireless network. This wikiHow article teaches you how to break WEP encryption. Warning: Using these techniques to gain unauthorized access to a wireless network is illegal. Law enforcement will frequently set up WEP networks as a honeypot specifically to catch hackers. The information contained in this article is for educational purposes only. It is to demonstrate the flaws of WEP security and so that you know how to protect yourself against attacks on your own wireless network.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting What You Need\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Purchase a wireless adapter that supports monitor mode and packet injection.\", \"描述\": \"While your laptop computer or smartphone may have a built-in wireless adapter, chances are it does not support monitor mode or packet injection. For this, you will need to purchase a separate wireless adapter. You can order a compatible wireless adapter online. Most range in price from $30 to $70. 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Then insert the disk drive and boot up your computer.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Press Ctrl+Alt+T to launch the Terminal.\", \"描述\": \"On most Linux distributions, the Terminal has an icon that resembles a black screen with a white text cursor. You can click the Terminal icon or use the keyboard shortcut () to open the Terminal.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Find your network adapter's name.\", \"描述\": \"To do so, type ifconfig and press . This displays all network adapters you have connected to your computer. You will need to know the name of the network adapter you have connected to your computer. It will most likely be named \\\"wlan0,\\\" or \\\"wlan1\\\" or something similar.\\nIf you receive an error message that says \\\"Command 'ifconfig' not found\\\" or something similar, type sudo apt install net-tools and press to install the network tools.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Use Airmon-ng to put your network adapter in monitor mode.\", \"描述\": \"To do so, type sudo airmon-ng start [network adapter name] and press . Replace \\\"[network adapter name]\\\" with the name of your network adapter you got from the \\\"ifconfig\\\" command. This puts the network adapter in monitor mode. It will also likely change the name of your network adapter. Take note of any name changes your network adapter is given.\\nIf you are not sure what the new network adapter name is, simply run the \\\"ifconfig\\\" command again.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Use Airodump-ng to search for a WEP-enabled network.\", \"描述\": \"To do so, type sudo airodump-ng [network adapter name] --encrypt WEP and press . Replace \\\"[network adapter name]\\\" with the current name for your network adapter. This searches the network for packets sent using WEP encryption using Airodump-ng. If any networks are discovered, they will be listed with \\\"WEP\\\" below \\\"ENC\\\" in the read-out.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Note the channel number and the BSSID.\", \"描述\": \"Once you discover a WEP network, write down the network MAC address listed below \\\"BSSID\\\" and also the channel number listed below \\\"CH\\\" in the read-out.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Use Besside-ng to attack the network.\", \"描述\": \"To do so, type sudo besside-ng -c [channel number] -b [BSSID number] [network adapter name] and press . Replace \\\"[channel number] with the channel number you got from the airodump-ng command. Replace \\\"[BSSID number]\\\" with the network MAC address you got from the airodump-ng command. Finally, replace \\\"[network adapter name]\\\" with the current name for your network adapter. 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How to Break Your Addiction to Someone: Letting Go & Moving On
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1. Analyzing the Relationship
1-1. Make a list.
Write a column for positive things you get out of the relationship, and another column to list the negative things about the relationship. Dig deep into your life to establish whether connections are socially, mentally, emotionally, or professionally healthy. Here are some aspects of healthy relationships for you to consider:
Open, honest communication. Both people feel able to express their feelings and opinions without fear of being harmed or belittled for them. Both people use kind, caring language to express their feelings and do not use shaming or blaming language. Both people do not make excuses for their actions. Both people acknowledge the validity of the other's emotions.
Fairness and negotiation. Both people are willing to negotiate and compromise in order to find healthy solutions. Neither person always gives in or gives up. Both people attempt to see the situation from the other person's perspective. Neither person is "in it to win it" at the expense of the other.
Shared responsibility and power. Neither person makes all the decisions. If one person usually makes decisions, it is because both people are comfortable with this.
Respect. Both people feel valued for their unique selves. Both people express appreciation for the other. Even when angry or hurt, both people maintain respect and do not use hurtful or violent language or actions.
Trust and support. Both people are supportive of each other. They want the best for the other person. Both people feel like they can rely on the other. Both feel safe to share their emotions, desires, and needs without fear of being judged.
Intimacy. This may be physical affection. It can also be respecting the other person's boundaries or privacy. Truly intimate relationships do not attempt to control or monitor one person's behavior.
Personal integrity. Both people have a sense of self distinct from their relationship. Both have a sense of independence and maintain their own values, tastes, and beliefs. Both partners take responsibility for their words and actions.
1-2. Review past relationships.
Many people who become addicted to people have suffered from inadequate family relationships. Many times these family members were not trustworthy or did not provide basic needs, such as food, shelter or emotional support.
If the person to whom you are addicted reminds you of a past family member or another relationship, you may be looking to compensate for a previous failed relationship through this current relationship. You will need to separate the feelings from the two different relationships to move on.
A hallmark sign of a codependent person is attracting individuals who are unstable. Maybe you always make friends or start relationships with individuals who are emotionally unavailable. Examine previous relationships to see if this is true for you.
1-3. Keep a relationship log.
Write regularly about how the relationship makes you feel and what behaviors, hopes and fantasies you harbor. Writing about a relationship daily can help you avoid glossing over the bad moments and pretending the relationship is always good.
1-4. Take note of your communication and interaction styles.
In addictive relationships, the pair is usually unable to discuss risky issues and often glaze over certain topics with half-truths. If you notice that you and your partner rarely have truly intimate conversations relating to your personal fears or dreams, you may be in an addictive relationship.
Healthy relationships involve intimacy in which conversations go below the surface into areas you would normally not share with the public. These attachments also include give and take from both partners as well as mutual benefit from the attachment.
Unhealthy and codependent relationships generally stay above the surface and have few fulfilling conversations. Maybe you are always pretending to be cheerful around the other person, but, inside, you feel sad or confused. You may only ever feel relaxed and happy when the other person is feeling this way. You fear what would happen if you told your lover or friend how you really feel.
1-5. Accept that a relationship isn’t healthy if you see evidence of obsessiveness, controlling, or abuse.
If your relationship with another has caused you to lose your own identity, lose other relationships, and feel as if you cannot function without the other person, these are signs of an addictive relationship. You need to get out of this relationship before the situation gets worse.
Signs of an obsessive relationship may include delusional tendencies in which your partner or friend exaggerates any interaction you have with others. This person may think a smile with a stranger means something more. They may want to check your phone or email to be sure their relationship with you is priority.
A controlling partner may cause you to feel as if you have lost your individuality. This person may guilt-trip you about time spent away to the point that you find yourself spending almost no time with family or other friends.
Most people think an abusive relationship equates to physical violence. In fact, obsessiveness and controlling behavior can lend to emotional abuse. If your partner or friend isolates you from others, acts possessive, tries to tell you what to do, or puts you down to maintain a position of authority over you, you may be in an emotionally abusive relationship.
2. Breaking the Attachment
2-1. Pinpoint which parts of your addictive relationship are fantasy and which are reality.
It is common in such relationships to see your partner through rose-colored glasses. We have a tendency to maintain fantasies about what a person is like in the hopes of them someday coming true. We also may create fantasy narratives about the relationship that we tell other people.
Accept reality about your partner. Instead of saying, "He's not that bad; he bought me a necklace for my birthday", tell yourself the truth about your partner: "She pretends to be jealous about other people I hang out with so I end up only hanging out with her" or "She often keeps me from seeing my family." If the relationship - platonic or romantic - causes you to feel powerless or controlled, you need to admit this to yourself. Don't pretend everything is going well just to maintain the attachment.
Magnification (blowing things out of proportion) and minimization (seeing things as less important than they are) are common cognitive distortions, unhelpful ways of thinking that we can slip into unawares. If you find yourself constantly looking for excuses or dismissing things as "not that bad," you may be using these distortions to justify staying in the relationship.
2-2. Break the physical connections you have to that person.
Connections may include things such as finances, housing or work projects. Understand that you will need to give yourself extra time to break these connections. Also, ask yourself if your relationship addiction is based on the conveniences available to you by being with that person.
Change your bank account and start receiving paychecks to the new account if you are sharing funds with this person.
Look for a new place to rent or live on a temporary basis if the unhealthy attachment is a roommate.
Remove alcohol, drugs, food, sex or other triggers that may be tempting you to stay in an addictive situation.
2-3. Plan activities with positive people in your life.
In order to counteract the negative energy and feedback you have been getting in an addictive relationship, you must replace it with positive feedback from other sources. Renew connections now and surround yourself with thriving individuals who value what you have to offer.
2-4. Set personal goals.
If you have been ignoring yourself because of a personal addiction, try picking up a hobby, starting to train for a fitness event or going for a promotion at work. If you start working on yourself, you will be able to clearly see how disconnected you have become in an addictive relationship.
2-5. Make a list of your independent desires.
Start each bullet point with “I want...” or “I would like...” so that you can start separating personal desires from relationship desires. These desires can range from wanting to visit Italy to getting a new haircut or color. Focus only on you while you break away from a love addiction.
3. Embracing Independence
3-1. Decide how you will handle the person if they get in touch with you in the future.
Think of a plan or develop a script of how you will respond if you encounter this person. Remember: you should limit contact if the person reduces your self-esteem and makes you feel small or unloved.
For example, if the person wants to talk on the phone, suggest a date and time, and then go to a supportive friend's house to take the call.
3-2. Expect withdrawal symptoms.
In the place of euphoria, excitement and infatuation, you may experience fear, self-doubt, loneliness and panic after an addictive, codependent relationship dissolves. Physical symptoms can mimic those of substance abuse like being unable to sleep or eat, cramping, shaking, and experiencing nausea. These are normal parts of breaking a bond that gave you positive feelings. The symptoms will eventually fade.
3-3. Face feelings of loneliness or depression.
If you feel chronically depressed, seek out the services of a professional counselor. Ending an addictive relationship can make you feel empty inside and make you believe you will never find another person to love. A counselor will help you to understand the importance of working on yourself and making sure you are healthy and whole.
When you're in an addictive relationship, you're trying to get approval, love, acceptance, or belonging from some place other than yourself. To overcome those feelings, you'll have to start looking inward for your own comfort—but there may be some pain and grief throughout that process.
Keep in mind, feelings of worthlessness cannot be stamped out by relationships; you must resolve these feelings in order to ever fully love yourself or another person. Deal with your own self-esteem issues now, before you start dating again.
3-4. Join a support group based on love addiction or codependency.
You may find strength to cope by listening to the triumphant stories of others who have severed ties from an addictive relationship. In conjunction with seeing a counselor for individual therapy, attending meetings with others like you can help you to educate yourself on addictive relationships and learn how to spot such unhealthy relationships in the future.
3-5. Take care of yourself.
It can be easy to neglect yourself when you are feeling down about ending a relationship with someone you cared about. Take extra time to eat and exercise regularly, get quality sleep, and treat yourself gently. Doing a few self-care activities each week can also help you to feel more like yourself and bring some structure to your new-found independence. Relax in a soothing bubble bath, get your hair cut and styled, or visit the spa for a massage. Don't neglect yourself because you're feeling bad.
3-6. Learn how to set appropriate boundaries in relationships and friendship.
Boundaries are significant to you living a healthy, stable life. Many people wrongly assume if they are extremely close to another person when they first meet, it's a sign of a perfect match. Keep in mind, you should have a life beyond your boyfriend/girlfriend or best friend.
The next time you meet a new person be direct about your needs and any limitations you would like to set. In healthy relationships, both partners should have a say in how things work. Don't give up your power in another codependent relationship.
Moving forward, always be mindful and aware of your past relationships/friendships that have been treacherous. Take things slow with any new person that enters your life. Always keep your needs in mind and practice self-care.
Finally, continue to seek outside support from your counselor or a local support group to receive education and encouragement as you form new healthy bonds.
Warnings
If you feel totally alone after ending a codependent relationship/friendship, reach out to family or friends and develop a support system of people who are willing to help you during this difficult time.
If you are in an abusive relationship, you must take measures to protect yourself when leaving. You may have to request a police escort or file a restraining order to ensure your safety when you leave your partner.
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Both people attempt to see the situation from the other person's perspective. Neither person is \\\"in it to win it\\\" at the expense of the other.\\nShared responsibility and power. Neither person makes all the decisions. If one person usually makes decisions, it is because both people are comfortable with this.\\nRespect. Both people feel valued for their unique selves. Both people express appreciation for the other. Even when angry or hurt, both people maintain respect and do not use hurtful or violent language or actions.\\nTrust and support. Both people are supportive of each other. They want the best for the other person. Both people feel like they can rely on the other. Both feel safe to share their emotions, desires, and needs without fear of being judged.\\nIntimacy. This may be physical affection. It can also be respecting the other person's boundaries or privacy. Truly intimate relationships do not attempt to control or monitor one person's behavior.\\nPersonal integrity. Both people have a sense of self distinct from their relationship. Both have a sense of independence and maintain their own values, tastes, and beliefs. Both partners take responsibility for their words and actions.\\n1-2. Review past relationships.\\nMany people who become addicted to people have suffered from inadequate family relationships. Many times these family members were not trustworthy or did not provide basic needs, such as food, shelter or emotional support.\\nIf the person to whom you are addicted reminds you of a past family member or another relationship, you may be looking to compensate for a previous failed relationship through this current relationship. You will need to separate the feelings from the two different relationships to move on.\\nA hallmark sign of a codependent person is attracting individuals who are unstable. Maybe you always make friends or start relationships with individuals who are emotionally unavailable. Examine previous relationships to see if this is true for you.\\n1-3. Keep a relationship log.\\nWrite regularly about how the relationship makes you feel and what behaviors, hopes and fantasies you harbor. Writing about a relationship daily can help you avoid glossing over the bad moments and pretending the relationship is always good.\\n1-4. Take note of your communication and interaction styles.\\nIn addictive relationships, the pair is usually unable to discuss risky issues and often glaze over certain topics with half-truths. If you notice that you and your partner rarely have truly intimate conversations relating to your personal fears or dreams, you may be in an addictive relationship.\\nHealthy relationships involve intimacy in which conversations go below the surface into areas you would normally not share with the public. These attachments also include give and take from both partners as well as mutual benefit from the attachment.\\nUnhealthy and codependent relationships generally stay above the surface and have few fulfilling conversations. Maybe you are always pretending to be cheerful around the other person, but, inside, you feel sad or confused. You may only ever feel relaxed and happy when the other person is feeling this way. You fear what would happen if you told your lover or friend how you really feel.\\n1-5. Accept that a relationship isn’t healthy if you see evidence of obsessiveness, controlling, or abuse.\\nIf your relationship with another has caused you to lose your own identity, lose other relationships, and feel as if you cannot function without the other person, these are signs of an addictive relationship. You need to get out of this relationship before the situation gets worse.\\nSigns of an obsessive relationship may include delusional tendencies in which your partner or friend exaggerates any interaction you have with others. This person may think a smile with a stranger means something more. They may want to check your phone or email to be sure their relationship with you is priority.\\n\\n A controlling partner may cause you to feel as if you have lost your individuality. This person may guilt-trip you about time spent away to the point that you find yourself spending almost no time with family or other friends.\\nMost people think an abusive relationship equates to physical violence. In fact, obsessiveness and controlling behavior can lend to emotional abuse. If your partner or friend isolates you from others, acts possessive, tries to tell you what to do, or puts you down to maintain a position of authority over you, you may be in an emotionally abusive relationship.\\n2. Breaking the Attachment\\n2-1. Pinpoint which parts of your addictive relationship are fantasy and which are reality.\\nIt is common in such relationships to see your partner through rose-colored glasses. We have a tendency to maintain fantasies about what a person is like in the hopes of them someday coming true. We also may create fantasy narratives about the relationship that we tell other people.\\nAccept reality about your partner. Instead of saying, \\\"He's not that bad; he bought me a necklace for my birthday\\\", tell yourself the truth about your partner: \\\"She pretends to be jealous about other people I hang out with so I end up only hanging out with her\\\" or \\\"She often keeps me from seeing my family.\\\" If the relationship - platonic or romantic - causes you to feel powerless or controlled, you need to admit this to yourself. Don't pretend everything is going well just to maintain the attachment.\\nMagnification (blowing things out of proportion) and minimization (seeing things as less important than they are) are common cognitive distortions, unhelpful ways of thinking that we can slip into unawares. If you find yourself constantly looking for excuses or dismissing things as \\\"not that bad,\\\" you may be using these distortions to justify staying in the relationship.\\n2-2. Break the physical connections you have to that person.\\nConnections may include things such as finances, housing or work projects. Understand that you will need to give yourself extra time to break these connections. Also, ask yourself if your relationship addiction is based on the conveniences available to you by being with that person.\\nChange your bank account and start receiving paychecks to the new account if you are sharing funds with this person.\\nLook for a new place to rent or live on a temporary basis if the unhealthy attachment is a roommate.\\nRemove alcohol, drugs, food, sex or other triggers that may be tempting you to stay in an addictive situation.\\n2-3. Plan activities with positive people in your life.\\nIn order to counteract the negative energy and feedback you have been getting in an addictive relationship, you must replace it with positive feedback from other sources. Renew connections now and surround yourself with thriving individuals who value what you have to offer.\\n2-4. Set personal goals.\\nIf you have been ignoring yourself because of a personal addiction, try picking up a hobby, starting to train for a fitness event or going for a promotion at work. If you start working on yourself, you will be able to clearly see how disconnected you have become in an addictive relationship.\\n2-5. Make a list of your independent desires.\\nStart each bullet point with “I want...” or “I would like...” so that you can start separating personal desires from relationship desires. These desires can range from wanting to visit Italy to getting a new haircut or color. Focus only on you while you break away from a love addiction.\\n3. Embracing Independence\\n3-1. Decide how you will handle the person if they get in touch with you in the future.\\nThink of a plan or develop a script of how you will respond if you encounter this person. Remember: you should limit contact if the person reduces your self-esteem and makes you feel small or unloved.\\nFor example, if the person wants to talk on the phone, suggest a date and time, and then go to a supportive friend's house to take the call.\\n3-2. Expect withdrawal symptoms.\\nIn the place of euphoria, excitement and infatuation, you may experience fear, self-doubt, loneliness and panic after an addictive, codependent relationship dissolves. Physical symptoms can mimic those of substance abuse like being unable to sleep or eat, cramping, shaking, and experiencing nausea. These are normal parts of breaking a bond that gave you positive feelings. The symptoms will eventually fade.\\n3-3. Face feelings of loneliness or depression.\\nIf you feel chronically depressed, seek out the services of a professional counselor. Ending an addictive relationship can make you feel empty inside and make you believe you will never find another person to love. A counselor will help you to understand the importance of working on yourself and making sure you are healthy and whole.\\nWhen you're in an addictive relationship, you're trying to get approval, love, acceptance, or belonging from some place other than yourself. To overcome those feelings, you'll have to start looking inward for your own comfort—but there may be some pain and grief throughout that process.\\nKeep in mind, feelings of worthlessness cannot be stamped out by relationships; you must resolve these feelings in order to ever fully love yourself or another person. Deal with your own self-esteem issues now, before you start dating again.\\n3-4. Join a support group based on love addiction or codependency.\\nYou may find strength to cope by listening to the triumphant stories of others who have severed ties from an addictive relationship. In conjunction with seeing a counselor for individual therapy, attending meetings with others like you can help you to educate yourself on addictive relationships and learn how to spot such unhealthy relationships in the future.\\n3-5. Take care of yourself.\\nIt can be easy to neglect yourself when you are feeling down about ending a relationship with someone you cared about. Take extra time to eat and exercise regularly, get quality sleep, and treat yourself gently. Doing a few self-care activities each week can also help you to feel more like yourself and bring some structure to your new-found independence. Relax in a soothing bubble bath, get your hair cut and styled, or visit the spa for a massage. Don't neglect yourself because you're feeling bad.\\n3-6. Learn how to set appropriate boundaries in relationships and friendship.\\nBoundaries are significant to you living a healthy, stable life. Many people wrongly assume if they are extremely close to another person when they first meet, it's a sign of a perfect match. Keep in mind, you should have a life beyond your boyfriend/girlfriend or best friend.\\nThe next time you meet a new person be direct about your needs and any limitations you would like to set. In healthy relationships, both partners should have a say in how things work. Don't give up your power in another codependent relationship.\\nMoving forward, always be mindful and aware of your past relationships/friendships that have been treacherous. Take things slow with any new person that enters your life. Always keep your needs in mind and practice self-care.\\nFinally, continue to seek outside support from your counselor or a local support group to receive education and encouragement as you form new healthy bonds.\\nWarnings\\nIf you feel totally alone after ending a codependent relationship/friendship, reach out to family or friends and develop a support system of people who are willing to help you during this difficult time.\\nIf you are in an abusive relationship, you must take measures to protect yourself when leaving. You may have to request a police escort or file a restraining order to ensure your safety when you leave your partner.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"An addictive relationship is characterized by the need to continue to engage with or 'keep' the person despite obvious negative consequences. This can happen in both romantic relationships and friendships. In these relationships, you may feel as if you give all you have to this person, while getting little fulfillment in return. If you're struggling with an unhealthy attachment, you're in the right place. In this article, we'll show you how to analyze what's going wrong in the relationship and how to break that obsessive attachment once and for all.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Analyzing the Relationship\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make a list.\", \"描述\": \"Write a column for positive things you get out of the relationship, and another column to list the negative things about the relationship. Dig deep into your life to establish whether connections are socially, mentally, emotionally, or professionally healthy. Here are some aspects of healthy relationships for you to consider:\\nOpen, honest communication. Both people feel able to express their feelings and opinions without fear of being harmed or belittled for them. Both people use kind, caring language to express their feelings and do not use shaming or blaming language. Both people do not make excuses for their actions. Both people acknowledge the validity of the other's emotions.\\nFairness and negotiation. Both people are willing to negotiate and compromise in order to find healthy solutions. Neither person always gives in or gives up. Both people attempt to see the situation from the other person's perspective. Neither person is \\\"in it to win it\\\" at the expense of the other.\\nShared responsibility and power. Neither person makes all the decisions. If one person usually makes decisions, it is because both people are comfortable with this.\\nRespect. Both people feel valued for their unique selves. Both people express appreciation for the other. Even when angry or hurt, both people maintain respect and do not use hurtful or violent language or actions.\\nTrust and support. Both people are supportive of each other. They want the best for the other person. Both people feel like they can rely on the other. Both feel safe to share their emotions, desires, and needs without fear of being judged.\\nIntimacy. This may be physical affection. It can also be respecting the other person's boundaries or privacy. Truly intimate relationships do not attempt to control or monitor one person's behavior.\\nPersonal integrity. Both people have a sense of self distinct from their relationship. Both have a sense of independence and maintain their own values, tastes, and beliefs. Both partners take responsibility for their words and actions.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Review past relationships.\", \"描述\": \"Many people who become addicted to people have suffered from inadequate family relationships. Many times these family members were not trustworthy or did not provide basic needs, such as food, shelter or emotional support.\\nIf the person to whom you are addicted reminds you of a past family member or another relationship, you may be looking to compensate for a previous failed relationship through this current relationship. You will need to separate the feelings from the two different relationships to move on.\\nA hallmark sign of a codependent person is attracting individuals who are unstable. Maybe you always make friends or start relationships with individuals who are emotionally unavailable. Examine previous relationships to see if this is true for you.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keep a relationship log.\", \"描述\": \"Write regularly about how the relationship makes you feel and what behaviors, hopes and fantasies you harbor. Writing about a relationship daily can help you avoid glossing over the bad moments and pretending the relationship is always good.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take note of your communication and interaction styles.\", \"描述\": \"In addictive relationships, the pair is usually unable to discuss risky issues and often glaze over certain topics with half-truths. If you notice that you and your partner rarely have truly intimate conversations relating to your personal fears or dreams, you may be in an addictive relationship.\\nHealthy relationships involve intimacy in which conversations go below the surface into areas you would normally not share with the public. These attachments also include give and take from both partners as well as mutual benefit from the attachment.\\nUnhealthy and codependent relationships generally stay above the surface and have few fulfilling conversations. Maybe you are always pretending to be cheerful around the other person, but, inside, you feel sad or confused. You may only ever feel relaxed and happy when the other person is feeling this way. You fear what would happen if you told your lover or friend how you really feel.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Accept that a relationship isn’t healthy if you see evidence of obsessiveness, controlling, or abuse.\", \"描述\": \"If your relationship with another has caused you to lose your own identity, lose other relationships, and feel as if you cannot function without the other person, these are signs of an addictive relationship. You need to get out of this relationship before the situation gets worse.\\nSigns of an obsessive relationship may include delusional tendencies in which your partner or friend exaggerates any interaction you have with others. This person may think a smile with a stranger means something more. They may want to check your phone or email to be sure their relationship with you is priority.\\n\\n A controlling partner may cause you to feel as if you have lost your individuality. This person may guilt-trip you about time spent away to the point that you find yourself spending almost no time with family or other friends.\\nMost people think an abusive relationship equates to physical violence. In fact, obsessiveness and controlling behavior can lend to emotional abuse. If your partner or friend isolates you from others, acts possessive, tries to tell you what to do, or puts you down to maintain a position of authority over you, you may be in an emotionally abusive relationship.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Breaking the Attachment\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pinpoint which parts of your addictive relationship are fantasy and which are reality.\", \"描述\": \"It is common in such relationships to see your partner through rose-colored glasses. We have a tendency to maintain fantasies about what a person is like in the hopes of them someday coming true. We also may create fantasy narratives about the relationship that we tell other people.\\nAccept reality about your partner. Instead of saying, \\\"He's not that bad; he bought me a necklace for my birthday\\\", tell yourself the truth about your partner: \\\"She pretends to be jealous about other people I hang out with so I end up only hanging out with her\\\" or \\\"She often keeps me from seeing my family.\\\" If the relationship - platonic or romantic - causes you to feel powerless or controlled, you need to admit this to yourself. Don't pretend everything is going well just to maintain the attachment.\\nMagnification (blowing things out of proportion) and minimization (seeing things as less important than they are) are common cognitive distortions, unhelpful ways of thinking that we can slip into unawares. If you find yourself constantly looking for excuses or dismissing things as \\\"not that bad,\\\" you may be using these distortions to justify staying in the relationship.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Break the physical connections you have to that person.\", \"描述\": \"Connections may include things such as finances, housing or work projects. Understand that you will need to give yourself extra time to break these connections. Also, ask yourself if your relationship addiction is based on the conveniences available to you by being with that person.\\nChange your bank account and start receiving paychecks to the new account if you are sharing funds with this person.\\nLook for a new place to rent or live on a temporary basis if the unhealthy attachment is a roommate.\\nRemove alcohol, drugs, food, sex or other triggers that may be tempting you to stay in an addictive situation.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Plan activities with positive people in your life.\", \"描述\": \"In order to counteract the negative energy and feedback you have been getting in an addictive relationship, you must replace it with positive feedback from other sources. Renew connections now and surround yourself with thriving individuals who value what you have to offer.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Set personal goals.\", \"描述\": \"If you have been ignoring yourself because of a personal addiction, try picking up a hobby, starting to train for a fitness event or going for a promotion at work. If you start working on yourself, you will be able to clearly see how disconnected you have become in an addictive relationship.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Make a list of your independent desires.\", \"描述\": \"Start each bullet point with “I want...” or “I would like...” so that you can start separating personal desires from relationship desires. These desires can range from wanting to visit Italy to getting a new haircut or color. Focus only on you while you break away from a love addiction.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Embracing Independence\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Decide how you will handle the person if they get in touch with you in the future.\", \"描述\": \"Think of a plan or develop a script of how you will respond if you encounter this person. Remember: you should limit contact if the person reduces your self-esteem and makes you feel small or unloved.\\nFor example, if the person wants to talk on the phone, suggest a date and time, and then go to a supportive friend's house to take the call.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Expect withdrawal symptoms.\", \"描述\": \"In the place of euphoria, excitement and infatuation, you may experience fear, self-doubt, loneliness and panic after an addictive, codependent relationship dissolves. Physical symptoms can mimic those of substance abuse like being unable to sleep or eat, cramping, shaking, and experiencing nausea. These are normal parts of breaking a bond that gave you positive feelings. The symptoms will eventually fade.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Face feelings of loneliness or depression.\", \"描述\": \"If you feel chronically depressed, seek out the services of a professional counselor. Ending an addictive relationship can make you feel empty inside and make you believe you will never find another person to love. A counselor will help you to understand the importance of working on yourself and making sure you are healthy and whole.\\nWhen you're in an addictive relationship, you're trying to get approval, love, acceptance, or belonging from some place other than yourself. To overcome those feelings, you'll have to start looking inward for your own comfort—but there may be some pain and grief throughout that process.\\nKeep in mind, feelings of worthlessness cannot be stamped out by relationships; you must resolve these feelings in order to ever fully love yourself or another person. Deal with your own self-esteem issues now, before you start dating again.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Join a support group based on love addiction or codependency.\", \"描述\": \"You may find strength to cope by listening to the triumphant stories of others who have severed ties from an addictive relationship. In conjunction with seeing a counselor for individual therapy, attending meetings with others like you can help you to educate yourself on addictive relationships and learn how to spot such unhealthy relationships in the future.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Take care of yourself.\", \"描述\": \"It can be easy to neglect yourself when you are feeling down about ending a relationship with someone you cared about. Take extra time to eat and exercise regularly, get quality sleep, and treat yourself gently. Doing a few self-care activities each week can also help you to feel more like yourself and bring some structure to your new-found independence. 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How to Break Your Cat's Cycle of Xenophobia (Fear of Strangers)
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1. Fostering Good Social Skills in Your Cat
1-1. Ask guests not to approach your cat.
When you have guests over, ask them to let your cat approach them, instead of the other way around. Cats are generally curious by nature, so letting them explore new guests without becoming startled can help to socialize them.
Cats may be less likely to approach children, guests who are very tall, or people they've never encountered before.
Be especially patient with your cat when guests of this kind come by.
1-2. Eye contact can be seen as a threat, so ask your guest to simply ignore the cat.
Instead, the person can take a seat and drop a few treats from their hand to help the cat build a positive association.
1-3. Coax him out of hiding.
If you have guests over, but your cat is nowhere to be seen, try shaking his food bag, or (if he eats canned food) running the can opener to coax him from his hiding spot. You may also try jingling a toy that he likes.
If your guests are patient and calm, you may consider bringing your cat out.
However, make sure he has an escape route if he becomes overwhelmed.
1-4. Ask guests to squat or sit.
Cats tend to be afraid of particularly large and/or tall people. Ask your guests to sit down or squat to make your cat feel more comfortable around them.
1-5. Prepare for strangers.
Having planned guests over is one thing; however, sometimes unexpected strangers (like a pizza delivery person, mail carrier, or missionary) may arrive at your door. Strangers are the not right people to use for breaking your cat's xenophobia. Allow your cat to run and hide if he wants to.
1-6. Make sure your cat has places to hide.
It may sound counterintuitive, but if your cat has a safe bolt hole (an empty cardboard box, for instance) then he may be more willing to be brave. Make sure he has access to his hiding places when guests are over.
You can also provide vertical spaces for the cat to escape to if he feels threatened, such as tall cat trees. He can also watch and assess a situation safely, before deciding it's OK and he wants to join in.
Knowing when to hide and protect himself and when to come out and play is an excellent social skill for your cat to develop.
1-7. Encourage him to play.
When guests are over, you (or someone else the cat trusts) can sit with him nearby. You can pet him, offer him treats, and encourage him to play. If you can get him into a positive and playful mood, he’ll be more likely to interact with new people.
1-8. Don't cut off his escape route.
You may be frustrated by your cat's fear or really want him to stay and play, but trapping him can cause him to panic and won't do much to cure his xenophobia. Make sure guests leave a clear route between the cat and the door or his hiding place so he can escape if necessary.
1-9. Try synthetic cat hormones.
When a cat feels safe and comfortable he will rub his face against objects, which leaves a facial pheromone. Products like Feliway mimic these pheromones, which may help reassure your cat that he is in a safe environment.
1-10. Consider anti-anxiety medication.
If your cat is experiencing ongoing anxiety, speak to your vet about including anti-anxiety medication in your method. This may help your cat stay calm enough to gain a critical level of socialization.
Your vet might recommend using zylkene, which can help pets manage stress.
Some people believe that certain flower extracts, such as Bach Flower Remedies' "Rescue Remedy", can help their cats relax. Give the proper dose to the cat before company arrives.
Always consult a veterinarian before administering medication to you cat.
2. Using a “Starting Distance” Method
2-1. Provide a safe area.
If you’d prefer a more methodical approach, you can follow a “starting distance” methodology with your cat. Begin by creating a safe space. Before any guests arrive, provide your cat with a safe area to go. This will be an area where the cat can completely avoid guests. Provide water, food, and a litter box. Place your cat in the safe space (but don’t lock him in) and let him remain there while guests arrive. This will help your cat to stop associating the presence of guests in the home with anxiety.
2-2. Find your cat's "starting distance."
When you have a particularly patient guest, ask them to help you find your cat’s starting distance. When you cat emerges from the safe area, have your guest come as close as they can to your cat before the cat displays any signs of anxiety or aggression. This is your cat’s approximate starting distance.
2-3. Begin with a motionless guest.
The next time a guest comes over, remove your cat from the safe area, and place him at his approximate starting distance from the guest. Ask your guest to remain motionless (standing or sitting), and allow the cat to investigate them.
If the cat remains calm, reward his behavior with treats, play, or petting and attention for a few minutes, then put him back in the safe area.
You can repeat this exercise a few times while your guest is visiting.
If the cat seems uncomfortable, move him further away until he is calm, and reward him as just outlined.
2-4. Decrease the distance by a few inches.
Keep doing these sessions, each time watching your cat carefully. Have the guest move slowly and with gentle motions. Your guest doesn't need to say anything, but they may choose to speak in soothing tones. Eventually, the cat will be calm enough to remain within arm's reach of the guest.
Anti-anxiety medication can help with this process also.
If your cat becomes anxious, simply increase the distance until he is calm.
2-5. Incorporate movement.
Once your cat is fairly comfortable approaching a guest that is still, see what happens if your guest moves around. Ask your guest to pace back and forth or make any movement that you want your cat to get accustomed to. (You may find that the starting distance is longer as some cats are more timid about movement.) Repeat the exercises with your guest moving so that your cat becomes desensitized.
3. Preventing Xenophobia in Kittens
3-1. Know your kitten’s age.
A kitten of any age can benefit from exposure to new people; however, kittens between two and seven weeks old have been shown to benefit immensely from socialization. If you have purchased the kitten from a breeder or pet store, you may not have the kitten until he is six or seven weeks old, so it is important to bring him around people right away.
3-2. Provide a safe environment.
When you bring home a new kitten, give him a little time to become comfortable. (This length will vary from kitten to kitten, but a couple of days is a good rule of thumb). Once he seems comfortable around you and in your home (he is exploring on his own, snuggles with you, and is eating), begin to invite guests over.
3-3. Expose your kitten to diverse people.
Kittens will grow accustomed to people if they are exposed to many different types of people when they are young. Invite over friends of different sizes, shapes, and ages. Invite people of various races and genders. Additionally, it is good for him to encounter people who look “unique” for one reason or another (such as people who use wheelchairs, people with beards, or people who wear hats and/or glasses).
Make sure that the people around your cat are kind and gentle.
Avoid very loud noises.
Be careful with young children, who may not understand how to handle a kitten.
3-4. Reward him with praise.
Anytime your kitten actively approaches a new person and interacts with them, reward the kitten with affection and praise. It is important to teach your kitten that this is a desired behavior. You may even want to offer him a treat.
Warnings
This process can take some time, so be patient.
Do not rush the process, as it might affect the chances of the Xenophobia being broken.
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You may also try jingling a toy that he likes.\\nIf your guests are patient and calm, you may consider bringing your cat out.\\nHowever, make sure he has an escape route if he becomes overwhelmed.\\n1-4. Ask guests to squat or sit.\\nCats tend to be afraid of particularly large and/or tall people. Ask your guests to sit down or squat to make your cat feel more comfortable around them.\\n1-5. Prepare for strangers.\\nHaving planned guests over is one thing; however, sometimes unexpected strangers (like a pizza delivery person, mail carrier, or missionary) may arrive at your door. Strangers are the not right people to use for breaking your cat's xenophobia. Allow your cat to run and hide if he wants to.\\n1-6. Make sure your cat has places to hide.\\nIt may sound counterintuitive, but if your cat has a safe bolt hole (an empty cardboard box, for instance) then he may be more willing to be brave. Make sure he has access to his hiding places when guests are over.\\nYou can also provide vertical spaces for the cat to escape to if he feels threatened, such as tall cat trees. He can also watch and assess a situation safely, before deciding it's OK and he wants to join in.\\nKnowing when to hide and protect himself and when to come out and play is an excellent social skill for your cat to develop.\\n1-7. Encourage him to play.\\nWhen guests are over, you (or someone else the cat trusts) can sit with him nearby. You can pet him, offer him treats, and encourage him to play. If you can get him into a positive and playful mood, he’ll be more likely to interact with new people.\\n1-8. Don't cut off his escape route.\\nYou may be frustrated by your cat's fear or really want him to stay and play, but trapping him can cause him to panic and won't do much to cure his xenophobia. Make sure guests leave a clear route between the cat and the door or his hiding place so he can escape if necessary.\\n1-9. Try synthetic cat hormones.\\nWhen a cat feels safe and comfortable he will rub his face against objects, which leaves a facial pheromone. Products like Feliway mimic these pheromones, which may help reassure your cat that he is in a safe environment.\\n1-10. Consider anti-anxiety medication.\\nIf your cat is experiencing ongoing anxiety, speak to your vet about including anti-anxiety medication in your method. This may help your cat stay calm enough to gain a critical level of socialization.\\nYour vet might recommend using zylkene, which can help pets manage stress.\\nSome people believe that certain flower extracts, such as Bach Flower Remedies' \\\"Rescue Remedy\\\", can help their cats relax. Give the proper dose to the cat before company arrives.\\nAlways consult a veterinarian before administering medication to you cat.\\n2. Using a “Starting Distance” Method\\n2-1. Provide a safe area.\\nIf you’d prefer a more methodical approach, you can follow a “starting distance” methodology with your cat. Begin by creating a safe space. Before any guests arrive, provide your cat with a safe area to go. This will be an area where the cat can completely avoid guests. Provide water, food, and a litter box. Place your cat in the safe space (but don’t lock him in) and let him remain there while guests arrive. This will help your cat to stop associating the presence of guests in the home with anxiety.\\n2-2. Find your cat's \\\"starting distance.\\\"\\nWhen you have a particularly patient guest, ask them to help you find your cat’s starting distance. When you cat emerges from the safe area, have your guest come as close as they can to your cat before the cat displays any signs of anxiety or aggression. This is your cat’s approximate starting distance.\\n2-3. Begin with a motionless guest.\\nThe next time a guest comes over, remove your cat from the safe area, and place him at his approximate starting distance from the guest. Ask your guest to remain motionless (standing or sitting), and allow the cat to investigate them.\\nIf the cat remains calm, reward his behavior with treats, play, or petting and attention for a few minutes, then put him back in the safe area.\\nYou can repeat this exercise a few times while your guest is visiting.\\nIf the cat seems uncomfortable, move him further away until he is calm, and reward him as just outlined.\\n2-4. Decrease the distance by a few inches.\\nKeep doing these sessions, each time watching your cat carefully. Have the guest move slowly and with gentle motions. Your guest doesn't need to say anything, but they may choose to speak in soothing tones. Eventually, the cat will be calm enough to remain within arm's reach of the guest.\\nAnti-anxiety medication can help with this process also.\\nIf your cat becomes anxious, simply increase the distance until he is calm.\\n2-5. Incorporate movement.\\nOnce your cat is fairly comfortable approaching a guest that is still, see what happens if your guest moves around. Ask your guest to pace back and forth or make any movement that you want your cat to get accustomed to. (You may find that the starting distance is longer as some cats are more timid about movement.) Repeat the exercises with your guest moving so that your cat becomes desensitized.\\n3. Preventing Xenophobia in Kittens\\n3-1. Know your kitten’s age.\\nA kitten of any age can benefit from exposure to new people; however, kittens between two and seven weeks old have been shown to benefit immensely from socialization. If you have purchased the kitten from a breeder or pet store, you may not have the kitten until he is six or seven weeks old, so it is important to bring him around people right away.\\n3-2. Provide a safe environment.\\nWhen you bring home a new kitten, give him a little time to become comfortable. (This length will vary from kitten to kitten, but a couple of days is a good rule of thumb). Once he seems comfortable around you and in your home (he is exploring on his own, snuggles with you, and is eating), begin to invite guests over.\\n3-3. Expose your kitten to diverse people.\\nKittens will grow accustomed to people if they are exposed to many different types of people when they are young. Invite over friends of different sizes, shapes, and ages. Invite people of various races and genders. Additionally, it is good for him to encounter people who look “unique” for one reason or another (such as people who use wheelchairs, people with beards, or people who wear hats and/or glasses).\\nMake sure that the people around your cat are kind and gentle.\\nAvoid very loud noises.\\nBe careful with young children, who may not understand how to handle a kitten.\\n3-4. Reward him with praise.\\nAnytime your kitten actively approaches a new person and interacts with them, reward the kitten with affection and praise. It is important to teach your kitten that this is a desired behavior. You may even want to offer him a treat.\\nWarnings\\nThis process can take some time, so be patient.\\nDo not rush the process, as it might affect the chances of the Xenophobia being broken.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Cats are naturally cautious creatures when it comes to human interaction. As a result, cats who were not exposed to many people as young kittens, or who have experienced some kind of traumatic event, may be extremely xenophobic or fearful of strangers. Fortunately, you can work to socialize your cat and minimize his fear by following a few key guidelines, or by taking a more methodical “starting distance” approach. You may also work to prevent this behavior in the first place by socializing a small kitten. No matter which approach you choose, you should always approach this process with patience and care for your cat.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Fostering Good Social Skills in Your Cat\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Ask guests not to approach your cat.\", \"描述\": \"When you have guests over, ask them to let your cat approach them, instead of the other way around. Cats are generally curious by nature, so letting them explore new guests without becoming startled can help to socialize them.\\nCats may be less likely to approach children, guests who are very tall, or people they've never encountered before.\\nBe especially patient with your cat when guests of this kind come by.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Eye contact can be seen as a threat, so ask your guest to simply ignore the cat.\", \"描述\": \"Instead, the person can take a seat and drop a few treats from their hand to help the cat build a positive association.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Coax him out of hiding.\", \"描述\": \"If you have guests over, but your cat is nowhere to be seen, try shaking his food bag, or (if he eats canned food) running the can opener to coax him from his hiding spot. 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Make sure he has access to his hiding places when guests are over.\\nYou can also provide vertical spaces for the cat to escape to if he feels threatened, such as tall cat trees. He can also watch and assess a situation safely, before deciding it's OK and he wants to join in.\\nKnowing when to hide and protect himself and when to come out and play is an excellent social skill for your cat to develop.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Encourage him to play.\", \"描述\": \"When guests are over, you (or someone else the cat trusts) can sit with him nearby. You can pet him, offer him treats, and encourage him to play. If you can get him into a positive and playful mood, he’ll be more likely to interact with new people.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Don't cut off his escape route.\", \"描述\": \"You may be frustrated by your cat's fear or really want him to stay and play, but trapping him can cause him to panic and won't do much to cure his xenophobia. Make sure guests leave a clear route between the cat and the door or his hiding place so he can escape if necessary.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Try synthetic cat hormones.\", \"描述\": \"When a cat feels safe and comfortable he will rub his face against objects, which leaves a facial pheromone. Products like Feliway mimic these pheromones, which may help reassure your cat that he is in a safe environment.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Consider anti-anxiety medication.\", \"描述\": \"If your cat is experiencing ongoing anxiety, speak to your vet about including anti-anxiety medication in your method. This may help your cat stay calm enough to gain a critical level of socialization.\\nYour vet might recommend using zylkene, which can help pets manage stress.\\nSome people believe that certain flower extracts, such as Bach Flower Remedies' \\\"Rescue Remedy\\\", can help their cats relax. 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How to Break Your Water
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1. Having a Doctor Break Your Water
1-1. Have the doctor break your water if you are in active labor.
If your cervix is fully or almost fully dilated, you may be in labor. During a regular exam, your doctor might discover that your are actually in labor. This can happen without your water breaking. In this case, the doctor will likely recommend artificially breaking your water. This is completely normal, and can help get the contractions started.
You likely won't need to make a separate appointment for this procedure. If the doctor decides that they need to break your water, they will likely do it right away, or meet you at the hospital shortly.
1-2. Ask your doctor questions about the procedure.
If your doctor recommends artificially breaking your water, you should ask questions to make sure you understand the procedure. Some good questions include:
Why do I need this procedure?
Will this help my labor progress?
Will it be painful?
1-3. Discuss the benefits and risks.
This might sound scary, but your doctor likely won't recommend the procedure if it won't benefit you. It's normal to be apprehensive, so talk to your doctor so that they can help ease any anxiety. They can explain that risks include higher odds of needing a cesarean section or having higher than average bleeding after the birth.
The benefits typically outweigh the risks. The main benefit is that your labor can progress more quickly, which can be important if you or your baby are dealing with any health issues.
1-4. Soothe your nerves with relaxation techniques.
The good news is that this procedure is generally no more uncomfortable than a regular vaginal exam. It's also very quick! However, it is completely normal to feel some anxiety. You can try some of these relaxation techniques:
Deep breathing
Listening to soothing music
Meditating
1-5. Have your doctor rupture the amniotic membrane artificially.
Once your have discussed the procedure with your doctor, they will begin the procedure of rupturing your amniotic membrane (breaking your water). Your doctor will use a sterile, thin, plastic hook to press on the membrane. This cause your water to break and your contractions to become stronger.
2. Using Natural Methods to Encourage Labor
2-1. Perform nipple stimulation.
In most cases, labor will begin without any encouragement. If you're looking to safely speed up the process, some people recommend nipple stimulation. The idea is that this will release oxytocin, a hormone that causes contractions. Using your fingers, gently rub or roll your nipples.
You can also ask your partner to perform nipple stimulation.
Check with your doctor before you try any methods to encourage labor.
2-2. Have sex unless your doctor has said it is unsafe.
Sex might also release oxytocin, and an orgasm might stimulate the uterus. Unless your doctor has explicitly advised against it, you can try having sex to encourage later. When labor begins, it might cause your water to break.Remember that there is no hard evidence that indicates the effectiveness of sex.
2-3. Go for a walk.
Another option is to engage in some light physical activity. The theory behind this is that it might also release oxytocin. Try taking a brief, gentle stroll. You don't want to overdo it. You'll need your energy for labor.
You should talk to your doctor about how frequently you should walk, and for how long.
2-4. Eat spicy foods if you can tolerate them.
Although there is no scientific evidence to support this, many women report that spicy food helps bring on labor. Be aware, though, that many experts believe that spicy foods release capsaicin, which counteract natural endorphins. This might make labor more painful. If you still want to try something spicy, eat hot peppers or your favorite spicy dish in moderation.
3. Taking Action When Your Water Breaks
3-1. Learn the signs of water breaking.
Your water might naturally break at the beginning or during your labor. A lot of people expect a large gush of fluid, but you might have a different experience. In addition to a gush, you could also experience a feeling of wetness in your vagina or frequent leaking of small amounts of liquid from your vagina.
3-2. Expect labor to start soon, in most cases.
If you're not already in labor, it will likely begin after your water breaks. Get ready to follow your birth plan. If you're going to the hospital, for example, grab your bag and head out the door. Ask for help if you need a ride or other assistance.
3-3. Call your doctor or midwife.
Wherever you plan to give birth, you should let your healthcare provider know that your water broke. They will likely ask you some questions and give you some instructions.
If you're not sure if your water has broken or not, you can still give them a call and describe what you are experiencing.
3-4. Get induced if labor does not begin.
Labor should begin shortly after your water breaks, in most cases. But if it doesn't, your healthcare professional can help you. If labor hasn't begun within 24 hours, you will likely be offered an induction. This might seem scary, but try not to worry. Inducing labor is really common. It can be really helpful because without fluids in the amniotic sac, your baby will be at higher risk for infection. Your doctor might also induce if either you or your baby is suffering from a medical condition such as:
Hypertension
Preeclampsia
Gestational diabetes
Bleeding during pregnancy
Your doctor might induce labor by inserting synthetic prostaglandins into your vagina, which can soften the cervix.
They might also induce by starting an intravenous medication such as Pitocin. This will cause the uterus to contract.
Tips
Do not take herbs such as evening primrose oil or red raspberry leaf. Studies have not shown them to be safe.
Try to be patient. Your labor will eventually begin.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Having a Doctor Break Your Water\\n1-1. Have the doctor break your water if you are in active labor.\\nIf your cervix is fully or almost fully dilated, you may be in labor. During a regular exam, your doctor might discover that your are actually in labor. This can happen without your water breaking. In this case, the doctor will likely recommend artificially breaking your water. This is completely normal, and can help get the contractions started. \\nYou likely won't need to make a separate appointment for this procedure. If the doctor decides that they need to break your water, they will likely do it right away, or meet you at the hospital shortly.\\n1-2. Ask your doctor questions about the procedure.\\nIf your doctor recommends artificially breaking your water, you should ask questions to make sure you understand the procedure. Some good questions include:\\nWhy do I need this procedure?\\nWill this help my labor progress?\\nWill it be painful?\\n1-3. Discuss the benefits and risks.\\nThis might sound scary, but your doctor likely won't recommend the procedure if it won't benefit you. It's normal to be apprehensive, so talk to your doctor so that they can help ease any anxiety. They can explain that risks include higher odds of needing a cesarean section or having higher than average bleeding after the birth.\\nThe benefits typically outweigh the risks. The main benefit is that your labor can progress more quickly, which can be important if you or your baby are dealing with any health issues.\\n1-4. Soothe your nerves with relaxation techniques.\\nThe good news is that this procedure is generally no more uncomfortable than a regular vaginal exam. It's also very quick! However, it is completely normal to feel some anxiety. You can try some of these relaxation techniques:\\nDeep breathing\\nListening to soothing music\\nMeditating\\n1-5. Have your doctor rupture the amniotic membrane artificially.\\nOnce your have discussed the procedure with your doctor, they will begin the procedure of rupturing your amniotic membrane (breaking your water). Your doctor will use a sterile, thin, plastic hook to press on the membrane. This cause your water to break and your contractions to become stronger.\\n2. Using Natural Methods to Encourage Labor\\n2-1. Perform nipple stimulation.\\nIn most cases, labor will begin without any encouragement. If you're looking to safely speed up the process, some people recommend nipple stimulation. The idea is that this will release oxytocin, a hormone that causes contractions. Using your fingers, gently rub or roll your nipples.\\nYou can also ask your partner to perform nipple stimulation.\\nCheck with your doctor before you try any methods to encourage labor.\\n2-2. Have sex unless your doctor has said it is unsafe.\\nSex might also release oxytocin, and an orgasm might stimulate the uterus. Unless your doctor has explicitly advised against it, you can try having sex to encourage later. When labor begins, it might cause your water to break.Remember that there is no hard evidence that indicates the effectiveness of sex.\\n2-3. Go for a walk.\\nAnother option is to engage in some light physical activity. The theory behind this is that it might also release oxytocin. Try taking a brief, gentle stroll. You don't want to overdo it. You'll need your energy for labor.\\nYou should talk to your doctor about how frequently you should walk, and for how long.\\n2-4. Eat spicy foods if you can tolerate them.\\nAlthough there is no scientific evidence to support this, many women report that spicy food helps bring on labor. Be aware, though, that many experts believe that spicy foods release capsaicin, which counteract natural endorphins. This might make labor more painful. If you still want to try something spicy, eat hot peppers or your favorite spicy dish in moderation.\\n3. Taking Action When Your Water Breaks\\n3-1. Learn the signs of water breaking.\\nYour water might naturally break at the beginning or during your labor. A lot of people expect a large gush of fluid, but you might have a different experience. In addition to a gush, you could also experience a feeling of wetness in your vagina or frequent leaking of small amounts of liquid from your vagina.\\n3-2. Expect labor to start soon, in most cases.\\nIf you're not already in labor, it will likely begin after your water breaks. Get ready to follow your birth plan. If you're going to the hospital, for example, grab your bag and head out the door. Ask for help if you need a ride or other assistance.\\n3-3. Call your doctor or midwife.\\nWherever you plan to give birth, you should let your healthcare provider know that your water broke. They will likely ask you some questions and give you some instructions.\\nIf you're not sure if your water has broken or not, you can still give them a call and describe what you are experiencing.\\n3-4. Get induced if labor does not begin.\\nLabor should begin shortly after your water breaks, in most cases. But if it doesn't, your healthcare professional can help you. If labor hasn't begun within 24 hours, you will likely be offered an induction. This might seem scary, but try not to worry. Inducing labor is really common. It can be really helpful because without fluids in the amniotic sac, your baby will be at higher risk for infection. Your doctor might also induce if either you or your baby is suffering from a medical condition such as:\\nHypertension\\nPreeclampsia\\nGestational diabetes\\nBleeding during pregnancy\\nYour doctor might induce labor by inserting synthetic prostaglandins into your vagina, which can soften the cervix.\\nThey might also induce by starting an intravenous medication such as Pitocin. This will cause the uterus to contract.\\nTips\\nDo not take herbs such as evening primrose oil or red raspberry leaf. Studies have not shown them to be safe.\\nTry to be patient. Your labor will eventually begin.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"By the time you reach the end of your pregnancy, you might be really anxious for it to be over. It makes sense that you're ready to meet your new baby! Your water breaking is a sign that you're either in labor or about to be. If you are full term (or overdue), you might want to encourage labor to begin. There are many natural methods to try, but you should be aware that they are not backed by science. Before trying to encourage your water to break, talk to your doctor. You might also need to have a doctor break your water for you.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Having a Doctor Break Your Water\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have the doctor break your water if you are in active labor.\", \"描述\": \"If your cervix is fully or almost fully dilated, you may be in labor. During a regular exam, your doctor might discover that your are actually in labor. This can happen without your water breaking. In this case, the doctor will likely recommend artificially breaking your water. This is completely normal, and can help get the contractions started. \\nYou likely won't need to make a separate appointment for this procedure. If the doctor decides that they need to break your water, they will likely do it right away, or meet you at the hospital shortly.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Ask your doctor questions about the procedure.\", \"描述\": \"If your doctor recommends artificially breaking your water, you should ask questions to make sure you understand the procedure. Some good questions include:\\nWhy do I need this procedure?\\nWill this help my labor progress?\\nWill it be painful?\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Discuss the benefits and risks.\", \"描述\": \"This might sound scary, but your doctor likely won't recommend the procedure if it won't benefit you. It's normal to be apprehensive, so talk to your doctor so that they can help ease any anxiety. They can explain that risks include higher odds of needing a cesarean section or having higher than average bleeding after the birth.\\nThe benefits typically outweigh the risks. The main benefit is that your labor can progress more quickly, which can be important if you or your baby are dealing with any health issues.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Soothe your nerves with relaxation techniques.\", \"描述\": \"The good news is that this procedure is generally no more uncomfortable than a regular vaginal exam. It's also very quick! However, it is completely normal to feel some anxiety. You can try some of these relaxation techniques:\\nDeep breathing\\nListening to soothing music\\nMeditating\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Have your doctor rupture the amniotic membrane artificially.\", \"描述\": \"Once your have discussed the procedure with your doctor, they will begin the procedure of rupturing your amniotic membrane (breaking your water). Your doctor will use a sterile, thin, plastic hook to press on the membrane. This cause your water to break and your contractions to become stronger.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Using Natural Methods to Encourage Labor\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Perform nipple stimulation.\", \"描述\": \"In most cases, labor will begin without any encouragement. If you're looking to safely speed up the process, some people recommend nipple stimulation. The idea is that this will release oxytocin, a hormone that causes contractions. Using your fingers, gently rub or roll your nipples.\\nYou can also ask your partner to perform nipple stimulation.\\nCheck with your doctor before you try any methods to encourage labor.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Have sex unless your doctor has said it is unsafe.\", \"描述\": \"Sex might also release oxytocin, and an orgasm might stimulate the uterus. Unless your doctor has explicitly advised against it, you can try having sex to encourage later. When labor begins, it might cause your water to break.Remember that there is no hard evidence that indicates the effectiveness of sex.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Go for a walk.\", \"描述\": \"Another option is to engage in some light physical activity. The theory behind this is that it might also release oxytocin. Try taking a brief, gentle stroll. You don't want to overdo it. You'll need your energy for labor.\\nYou should talk to your doctor about how frequently you should walk, and for how long.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Eat spicy foods if you can tolerate them.\", \"描述\": \"Although there is no scientific evidence to support this, many women report that spicy food helps bring on labor. Be aware, though, that many experts believe that spicy foods release capsaicin, which counteract natural endorphins. This might make labor more painful. If you still want to try something spicy, eat hot peppers or your favorite spicy dish in moderation.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Taking Action When Your Water Breaks\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn the signs of water breaking.\", \"描述\": \"Your water might naturally break at the beginning or during your labor. A lot of people expect a large gush of fluid, but you might have a different experience. In addition to a gush, you could also experience a feeling of wetness in your vagina or frequent leaking of small amounts of liquid from your vagina.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Expect labor to start soon, in most cases.\", \"描述\": \"If you're not already in labor, it will likely begin after your water breaks. Get ready to follow your birth plan. If you're going to the hospital, for example, grab your bag and head out the door. Ask for help if you need a ride or other assistance.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Call your doctor or midwife.\", \"描述\": \"Wherever you plan to give birth, you should let your healthcare provider know that your water broke. They will likely ask you some questions and give you some instructions.\\nIf you're not sure if your water has broken or not, you can still give them a call and describe what you are experiencing.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get induced if labor does not begin.\", \"描述\": \"Labor should begin shortly after your water breaks, in most cases. But if it doesn't, your healthcare professional can help you. If labor hasn't begun within 24 hours, you will likely be offered an induction. This might seem scary, but try not to worry. Inducing labor is really common. It can be really helpful because without fluids in the amniotic sac, your baby will be at higher risk for infection. Your doctor might also induce if either you or your baby is suffering from a medical condition such as:\\nHypertension\\nPreeclampsia\\nGestational diabetes\\nBleeding during pregnancy\\nYour doctor might induce labor by inserting synthetic prostaglandins into your vagina, which can soften the cervix.\\nThey might also induce by starting an intravenous medication such as Pitocin. This will cause the uterus to contract.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Do not take herbs such as evening primrose oil or red raspberry leaf. Studies have not shown them to be safe.\\n\", \"Try to be patient. Your labor will eventually begin.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Break a Beer Bottle With Your Bare Hands
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1. Steps
1-1. Fill a beer bottle with cold water.
The colder, the better. Bring the water level up to about two inches (5cm) from the top of the bottle. This also works with beer which makes it a little more dramatic.
1-2. Hold on tight.
Wrap the top two fingers of your non-dominant hand (for most of you, that will be your left hand) around the neck of the bottle. This will prevent shards of glass from stabbing you in the palm in case the entire bottle shatters.
1-3. Ready, steady, whack!
Hit the opening of the bottle hard with your dominant hand.
1-4. Did it break?
Check the bottom of the bottle, which should have broken right off.
1-5. Learn how it works.
The bottom of the bottle breaks off due to "cavitation." The bottle briefly and suddenly moves downward when you strike the top. The water inside of it doesn't move as quickly, creating an extremely brief void (vacuum) at the bottom. The water does catch up with the glass, and comes crashing down into the bottom. If the force is great enough, the bottle can no longer support the water crashing down, and cracks or breaks at the bottom. Even if the crack is minor, the inertia and weight of the water will break the bottom out of the bottle.
Tips
Do not be scared while trying this trick. Know you will break the bottom clean off. If you go in soft with your hand it will not break and will sting a bit. Do or do not. There is no try.
You do not need to hit the bottle hard, but you will need to hit it swiftly. Speed is more important than force for this to work well.
Always leave some air at the top to allow "cavitation" to take place. Without this, you're relying upon brute strength to break a bottle, which simply doesn't work (unless you're whacking the furniture with the bottle).
Warnings
Running a disposal with glass in it may damage the blades or the mechanism. Cover the drain so shards can't go down.
Fill the sink with some water to catch the glass chips or shards. Water in the sink will keep glass from bouncing back in your face.
Be very careful when cleaning the sink afterwards; even the smallest chip of glass can cut you quite deeply.
Do not attempt this trick while drunk. This could land you in the hospital for stitches.
Never leave the sink uncleaned, because whoever uses it after you could be cut unexpectedly by a chip.
Do not wear any rings on the hand that you are using to hold the bottle!
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Steps\\n1-1. Fill a beer bottle with cold water.\\nThe colder, the better. Bring the water level up to about two inches (5cm) from the top of the bottle. This also works with beer which makes it a little more dramatic.\\n1-2. Hold on tight.\\nWrap the top two fingers of your non-dominant hand (for most of you, that will be your left hand) around the neck of the bottle. This will prevent shards of glass from stabbing you in the palm in case the entire bottle shatters.\\n1-3. Ready, steady, whack!\\nHit the opening of the bottle hard with your dominant hand.\\n1-4. Did it break?\\nCheck the bottom of the bottle, which should have broken right off.\\n1-5. Learn how it works.\\nThe bottom of the bottle breaks off due to \\\"cavitation.\\\" The bottle briefly and suddenly moves downward when you strike the top. The water inside of it doesn't move as quickly, creating an extremely brief void (vacuum) at the bottom. The water does catch up with the glass, and comes crashing down into the bottom. If the force is great enough, the bottle can no longer support the water crashing down, and cracks or breaks at the bottom. Even if the crack is minor, the inertia and weight of the water will break the bottom out of the bottle.\\nTips\\nDo not be scared while trying this trick. Know you will break the bottom clean off. If you go in soft with your hand it will not break and will sting a bit. Do or do not. There is no try.\\nYou do not need to hit the bottle hard, but you will need to hit it swiftly. Speed is more important than force for this to work well.\\nAlways leave some air at the top to allow \\\"cavitation\\\" to take place. Without this, you're relying upon brute strength to break a bottle, which simply doesn't work (unless you're whacking the furniture with the bottle).\\nWarnings\\nRunning a disposal with glass in it may damage the blades or the mechanism. Cover the drain so shards can't go down.\\nFill the sink with some water to catch the glass chips or shards. Water in the sink will keep glass from bouncing back in your face.\\nBe very careful when cleaning the sink afterwards; even the smallest chip of glass can cut you quite deeply.\\nDo not attempt this trick while drunk. This could land you in the hospital for stitches.\\nNever leave the sink uncleaned, because whoever uses it after you could be cut unexpectedly by a chip.\\nDo not wear any rings on the hand that you are using to hold the bottle!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"So picture this. You're in a bar fight, and you need a broken bottle to intimidate the bad guy. But the furniture is much to nice to smash a bottle on it, so what do you do? You break the bottle with your bare hands, of course! At the very least, Joe Bad Guy is going to be intimidated. Pull this off, and you might even get the girl! Or, just amaze your bar buddies that you can do this! Either way, it's a great party trick. It takes a bit of practice to get it right, but it really will amaze the others watching. Read on!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Fill a beer bottle with cold water.\", \"描述\": \"The colder, the better. Bring the water level up to about two inches (5cm) from the top of the bottle. This also works with beer which makes it a little more dramatic.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Hold on tight.\", \"描述\": \"Wrap the top two fingers of your non-dominant hand (for most of you, that will be your left hand) around the neck of the bottle. This will prevent shards of glass from stabbing you in the palm in case the entire bottle shatters.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ready, steady, whack!\", \"描述\": \"Hit the opening of the bottle hard with your dominant hand.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Did it break?\", \"描述\": \"Check the bottom of the bottle, which should have broken right off.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Learn how it works.\", \"描述\": \"The bottom of the bottle breaks off due to \\\"cavitation.\\\" The bottle briefly and suddenly moves downward when you strike the top. The water inside of it doesn't move as quickly, creating an extremely brief void (vacuum) at the bottom. The water does catch up with the glass, and comes crashing down into the bottom. If the force is great enough, the bottle can no longer support the water crashing down, and cracks or breaks at the bottom. Even if the crack is minor, the inertia and weight of the water will break the bottom out of the bottle.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Do not be scared while trying this trick. Know you will break the bottom clean off. If you go in soft with your hand it will not break and will sting a bit. Do or do not. There is no try.\\n\", \"You do not need to hit the bottle hard, but you will need to hit it swiftly. Speed is more important than force for this to work well.\\n\", \"Always leave some air at the top to allow \\\"cavitation\\\" to take place. Without this, you're relying upon brute strength to break a bottle, which simply doesn't work (unless you're whacking the furniture with the bottle).\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Running a disposal with glass in it may damage the blades or the mechanism. Cover the drain so shards can't go down.\\n\", \"Fill the sink with some water to catch the glass chips or shards. Water in the sink will keep glass from bouncing back in your face.\\n\", \"Be very careful when cleaning the sink afterwards; even the smallest chip of glass can cut you quite deeply.\\n\", \"Do not attempt this trick while drunk. This could land you in the hospital for stitches.\\n\", \"Never leave the sink uncleaned, because whoever uses it after you could be cut unexpectedly by a chip.\\n\", \"Do not wear any rings on the hand that you are using to hold the bottle!\\n\"]}]}}",
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