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I'm close to getting at it again
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It's been almost 3 years since I stopped sh but lately I've been having the urge to do it again, just now I got a blade "just in case" or whatever and almost cut myself, please tell me how do you guys deal with the temptation 'cause I don't know if I can keep the streak going
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One months self harm free
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After 3 months of continuous self harm I have made it to 1 month self harm free. I am glad to be back to getting better again
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TW: SH- how long will these take to heal and will any of them scar
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How to help and not offend.
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Hopefully I'm in the right place, if not, my apologies.
I am aware that my daughter has SH in the past and at some point transitioned to cutting. It hurts to see her scars but I avoid calling attention to them when they are exposed. However, today I saw they are somewhat fresh and very large and to me just look awfully inflamed and painful. I just don't know how to respond. What are the wrong and right things to say/do?
Update: I appreciate all who responded. I didn't get too far in conversation as she seems so distant and I don't want to be pushy. I'm really struggling with how to approach her and feeling guilty for whatever is upsetting her and I don't want to create a wider gap. I did leave her some first aid items.
Upon reflection I am wondering if she was triggered by her broken glass tabletop. I didn't think it was a big deal and was in no hurry to fix/replace, but now I can see how it might affect someone who has a history with cutting. I will be removing the tabletop from her room.
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I relapsed after 7 months
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I know relapses happen but i cant tell anyone in my life because they’ll be so upset and disappointed, i was doing so well and then after the past week I couldn’t cope, i just needed to tell someone so i thought id come here and i will continue to try and get clean
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idk i’m just done
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i posted on here a couple nights ago about a potential infection from my burning. Everyone suggested i go to the hospital and today, i decided to as i woke up to a 101.8 fever. i asked my friend to come with my so i wouldn’t get 5150 and he picked me up, but they wouldn’t let him in. i just left. i couldn’t do it alone and i couldn’t risk them putting a hold on me. I hate having BPD so much. i got so so angry that they wouldn’t let him in i had to do everything to control myself in front of him because i’m terrified of him seeing me like that. i truly wanted to beat the lady to a pulp and it took everything i had to control myself until i got home, where i proceeded to destroy my room. i had him take me home despite his pleas to go home with him or see the doctor and i fuckin destroyed my room. i had to hold it in so long it just made everything fucking worse. he probably hates me now and he’s like the only friend i have left, despite my attempts to push him away. i told him i’m sorry i wasted his time and at this point, i hope the infection kills me. i can’t do it anymore. i’ve been here for 2 months for other people and it has been the worst 2 months of my life. i should have never chickened out on that bridge. idk what decision i will come to today but i needed someone to hear my feelings.
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What do I do about scars at the doctors office?
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I have pretty noticeable scars on my arm and I have an appointment to see a doctor for a shoulder injury but I’m worried about them seeing my scars. They are all healed but I don’t want them to ask me about them I guess? What do I do?
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idk please help
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idk what to do. i’ve run out of space on my arm and i definitely have an infection. i think is cellulitis from the burning but i’m terrified to go to the doctor bc i don’t wanna get 5150. i covered my entire arm and i’m panicking bc idk where else i’m supposed to do it. idk what to do. any help is appreciated.
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A picto-representation on Self development
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The Body Keeps the Score
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Has anyone else read this book? Any thoughts? For me it explained a lot of my behaviors and symptoms. CPTSD is explaining a lot for my whole life up to and including now. If you are into reading it might be worth your time, but there is a lot of triggering stories and talk because it is about trauma.
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I've been SH for 20 years now but it is getting a lot better. I had a relapse at the beginning of the year (literally the first week of January). I was wondering if anyone else felt like thier SH was more of an OCD behavior than something impulsive or otherwise? Thank you hope you all have a safe day.
Edit: Sorry I'm really bad at setting up TW right
Edit 2: I can't get the TW right. I'm very sorry 😔
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10 days clean
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I used to harm myself by scratching myself, but then I switched to minor cuts.
It was never enough, never, never.
Up to the point where I went deeper, with small styro cuts but even those weren't enough.
Up to the point where I went deeper, with small styro cuts but even those weren't enough.
In a moment of despair I watched a documentary that tells the story of a young father who lost 4 limbs due to necrotizing fasciitis.
Despite everything, he lives his life to the fullest now, and this has given me strong feelings of guilt.
I looked at my arm and said to myself "but what are you doing? You who are lucky enough to have arms and legs, do you disfigure them like this?"
"So many people are ashamed of their scars and you want to create them?"
And I started thinking about how sometimes we collapse from difficulties that may seem insurmountable at the moment, but aren't. Dealing with them with permanent injuries is not worth it.
Now I've been clean for 10 days.
I'm trying to be strong, but the real problem is that I never feel strong enough.
Part of me tells me that I was only able to make it because I was in the beginning of the behavior..
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Not today
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Today’s my wife’s birthday and I am trying my best not to sh today. I want to get better I know I do. If you have any advice how to stay clean today I would greatly appreciate it.
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Is an electric razor worth it?
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I can’t keep razors around the house because I will use them as a self harm tool. I don’t like waxing so that’s out of the question. I was thinking of getting an electric razor and just wondered if anyone has any input or other suggestions for hair removal.
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Thoughts on a tattoo?
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Hi all! Hope you are all doing well and taking good care of yourselves. I have been self harm free for about 6 years now, after self harming from ages 14-23. My worst scars are on my hip, and I’ve been considering covering them with a tattoo. Something meaningful to me that represents this journey of healing I’ve been on.
However, Im hesitating. These scars are part of me and tell a story, should I cover them? There’s also a part of me that feels scared because getting a tattoo feels like closing the door on any future opportunities to self harm if I “really needed it”.
What are your thoughts on tattoos to cover self harm? Thanks :)
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12 years SH free and struggling
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i really hope this post doesn't discourage anyone from trying to get better. i just need to vent.
i haven't cut myself in 12 years. most of the time i don't even think about hurting myself but when i'm doing bad mentally it's all i can think about. i can't believe it's been 12 years and i still have urges/cravings. i still miss it. i miss the comfort and release it brought me. but i still won't do it. i'll make it to year 13.
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Understanding Anxiety Causes And Symptoms And Treatment Options
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Anxiety is a normal part of life, but it can become overwhelming for some. It’s important to understand the causes and symptoms of anxiety so you can recognize it in yourself or someone else, as well as know what treatment options are available. In this article, we’ll take an in-depth look at understanding anxiety – from its causes and symptoms to the various approaches to treating it.
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When faced with stressful situations such as work deadlines or personal issues, many people experience feelings of worry or fear that can lead to physical sensations like tightness in their chest or increased heart rate. These are all common signs of anxiety, something that everyone experiences on occasion. However, when these feelings become chronic and interfere with everyday tasks, they may be indicative of an anxiety disorder.
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There are numerous treatments available for those suffering from anxiety disorders ranging from lifestyle changes to psychotherapy and medication if needed. Learning more about how your body responds to stressors and triggers can help you manage your own emotions better and make informed decisions when seeking professional help. By exploring the different aspects of understanding anxiety through this article, you will gain valuable insight into managing your own mental well-being. This can help you to develop healthy coping mechanisms and better communication skills that will benefit you in the long run.
[https://beautyaal.com/understanding-anxiety-causes-and-symptoms-and-treatment-options/](https://beautyaal.com/understanding-anxiety-causes-and-symptoms-and-treatment-options/)
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⛔️ Self-harm. My short story.
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When I self-harmed, I always thought the physical pain helped me to cope with my emotions by 'covering them up'. Physical pain is something 'real', you know. Cause we can see it while feeling it.
I'm struggling with self-harm and sometimes I return to it again.
That night I had a disturbing dream, about me attempting suicide. It was only a dream, but when I woke up I was flooded with negative feelings. My hands were trembling like my whole body was. I wanted to take medicine; suddenly realized my pills had finished and the new ones would be delivered only the next day.
In around 1 hour I had already cried and couldn't breathe well.
So I did it. Again. I hurt myself to release the stress.
While I was looking at my new scratches and old scars, I understood; I love them.
These scratches and scars are something that happened to my heart.
My arm scratches were treated and healed; they don't hurt anymore.
So my heart would be, would do.
One day I will think the same way but without self-harm; and it's okay even this day still is not today.
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I left marks on my face
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I have anger issues and I was triggered by something my friend said and I just sat there seething until we were done hanging out and he left then I went in my room (we were at my place) and just beat the fuck out of myself, bad. Really bad. Worse than I have in a long time. So badly that I left awful bruises on the sides of my eyes and gouges on the side of my head from just clenching and hyperventilating. I shave my head too so the gouges were very visible, I wore a hat at work so no one would see. Unfortunately I work in the medical field so there are very astute medical personnel around me who noticed my bruises yesterday. I harmed Thursday night and so they're healing to the point of being really colorful now. I didn't cut so I consider that a small victory but this was a brutal beating and I gave it to myself. I'm so ashamed and I feel like such a garbage person. I'm 35 years old ffs, I have a master's degree. I shouldn't be like this. Part of me wants to know what's wrong with me but part of me just can't be bothered to care since I'm worthless anyway what does it matter if I'm broken.
Anyway thanks to this community for giving me a space to air that out.
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I've been self harming since I was fourteen and I dont know how to stop
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Ive been self harming for four years, I don't know why I do it. In a sick way I guess it calms me. I want to stop but I don't know how to. Whenever I manage to stop something happens in my life that upsets me and sends me over the edge. Im not in the best living situation and sometimes the only way I can stop my self from offing myself is to redirect the feeling and inflict pain instead. I think I'm crazy
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can you describe me?
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I used compasses to cut my hand
I didn't hide because I thought the more I hide, the more people noticed
People ask me why did I do that
I lied, I feel I'm manipulating them just for attention same as cry out loud
I even called them art
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Fade scars?
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I have a big trip planned at the end of May and I really want to be able to have my arms showing without super obvious scars… mine have faded a lot but they’re still red. I try to use either bio oil or silicone scar gel twice a day but I forget a lot. Is there a better method? I tried the silicone patches but they itched, potentially from the adhesive
I want them to fade so badly so I can be more comfortable but part of me doesn’t want them to fade… it’s like I want to look sick but I also do not want to look sick and I don’t want my friend im traveling with to look at me think of me differently
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Set a goal for yourself
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Setting goals is an important part of life that helps us take control and strive toward achieving success. It’s a great way to stay motivated and on track – no matter what your goal may be. But how do you set the right kind of goal for yourself? This article will provide tips on how to find motivation, create achievable objectives, and adjust your plan when needed.
If you’re constantly feeling overwhelmed or frustrated with where you are in life, it might be time to figure out what exactly it is that you want to accomplish. Making a clear goal can help you focus on the bigger picture and narrow down tasks that need completing along the way. Whether it’s getting better grades or saving money for a large purchase, having something concrete to work towards can make all the difference.
Choosing a goal requires research and dedication, but once you have identified one that works best for you, don’t give up! With enough structure and discipline, anything is possible; so let’s get started by taking a look at different strategies for setting effective goals!
[**https://beautyaal.com/set-a-goal-for-yourself/**](https://beautyaal.com/set-a-goal-for-yourself/)
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Question: I have scars and I don't know if it's okay to go into public
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I'm 2 weeks clean and have scars on my thighs and upper arms. I really want to wear the short sleeve uniform shirt to school but it shows my scars. They don't have scabs anymore and they are pink.
Is it okay to go into public with them or do they need to heal more?
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Yooooooooo fellas I got to a full week clean (after trying for like, two months but fuck it, it still counts-)
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Sooo, it‘s been a while, since I wanted to write here once I‘m one week clean, buuuut it took a while. I kept relapsing and relapsing, going a day or two without cutting, then relapsing, then two or three days clean, and then doing it every hour or so in one day. The feeling is constantly there. But as weird as this sounds, that urge for self-harm actually helped me, and possibly saved me.
I was on day six, just a day away from completing the goal that I set for myself. There was so much going on. The self-harm, maladaptive daydreaming getting out of control, gaining weight I lost, wanting to go to chemistry university and having so many holes, no, craters in my overall knowledge because of covid and quarantine online classes, driving school, national competition (not sure if national is a good word to use but it‘s a competition where schools from around the country send their best students to compete) - I was feeling so shit, the urge was so strong I felt like couldn‘t function properly.
My parents came home, I tried playing it off like I always do. But they still noticed somethings up. They thought it was the driving school and my driving test coming up, so dad was all like ‘‘it‘s okay if you fail, nobody is perfect blah blah‘‘ and I just broke down. I don‘t even know why. I couldn‘t stop crying for an hour, fuck, maybe an hour and a half. They were trying to figure out what was wrong with me, and I wanted to scream everything that was wrong with me as loud as I could, but I just locked up and just silently cried. Then mum took me to the bathroom. After some talking (mostly done by her), I heard what I wanted to hear years back: ‘‘I have my therapy appointment this Tuesday, but instead of me, your gonna be the one talking to her‘‘. (She's been going to therapy for years).
Thank. Fuck. I‘ve been asking them to see someone for years but they were like ‘Nah, you‘re just in puberty, you‘ll be fine‘‘ or ‘‘they‘ll just give you pills, take your money and send you on your way, you need to solve your stuff on your own, no one else can help you‘‘. So, I went to therapy, and wow, shocker, absolute mystery – it turns out I‘m not some lazy fucked up lunatic that has really messed up thoughts, I just have severe OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) that went untreated for the minimum of 6-7 years and EXTREMELY sevier anxiety/social anxiety. Who would've guessed? I was ,huff, when I read the diagnosis I was surprised, shook, just plain flabbergasted (sarcasm).
The therapy session went amazingly, better than expected. I was so worried she was gonna think I‘m faking it all, or that I‘m just wasting her time, or that I‘m just a freak but no. I didn‘t even have to finish my sentience, she already knew EXACTLY how I felt. I know it‘s her job and all, and she heard all sorts of stuff over the years (she‘s really old) but - For the first time in my life, someone heard my feelings and didn‘t invalided ‘em or thought I was just being overdramatic. And I wanted to cry tears of joy, someone finally understood. I told her everything. She wanted to start with some casual convo but I was like ‘‘sis we need to cut to the chase, there‘s a shit tone wrong with me, and we only have 30min‘‘. I told her about maladaptive daydreaming, self-harm, all the possible triggers I could think of, some of my hopes and dreams, no friends, paranoia, intrusive thoughts, scary mental images, bad memory – fucking anything and everything I could think of.
She was so sweet. Since I told her my parents only think I get nervous sometimes, and that I don't want them to know, she wrote a diagnosis that way that it still says what‘s wrong with me, but not outright. For example: Maladaptive daydreaming, having a need to have an excuse for everything even tho no one's gonna ask/care and violent messed up intrusive thoughts = obsessive behavior. Or self-harm = auto aggression. Or very socially anxious and constant feelings of guilt with no source = sensitive (since I told her I feel so guilty from doing something that might hurt my mum‘s feelings a bit that I would punish myself...heavily).
A few days ago, I broke down again and told my parents everything. They were...can't really explain it well, but I feel like they weren't understanding what I was saying. I kept telling them how I was fighting this by myself for years and I felt like they were just ignoring me, and they kept saying ''nah just pills won't help you, you need to fight''. Like. Am I talking in Spanish incorrectly or somethin'? I've been fighting for YEARS, I tried for YEARS to fix myself by myself, and it didn't work. I tried EVERYTHING. Why do you still- what do I have to do for you to stop invalidating my feelings? This is why I never tell them things, I just felt worse. Didn't relapse tho, came close but I powered through it.
I can finely use the phrase ''My therapist will hear about this'', because I have my next therapy session in two weeks. She gave me 4 types of meds. One antidepressive, one for ‘‘daily‘‘ anxiety, one before bed to calm those intrusive thoughts (‘‘night‘‘ anxiety meds), and vitamin B6. It took me some time to adjust, but I feel like they helping. I feel like the convo with her helped me more, but these meds are also helping. I don‘t know if it‘s just the placebo effect, but I don‘t care, it‘s working. I wanted to relapse yesterday, so I took the night anxiety med and drew on my thigh (where I cut), and managed to avoid relapsing. I think I‘m gonna do that tonight as well, maybe read a book or something.
Sorry for the long post but, I wanted to post here for a long time, but new shit just kept on happening, and I connected posting here with the successful clean week, so I got a little carried away- Sorry haha. Anyway, stay safe everybody, and good night/morning! <3
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How to be supportive
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Hi guys, I needed some advice on how to support someone I care for a lot. We're long-distance and in entirely different time zones, so I cannot physically be there for him. Some backstory on him is that he used to self-harm and be physically violent back maybe around 3/4 years ago due to a bad breakup and toxic relationship. Over the years, I've seen him develop, and he seemed happier overall until recently he went abroad for further studies. He's had more breakdowns in the last few months than in all the years I've known him. I've tried to talk him through his feelings and his thoughts, but he is unable to really describe what he's going through. I'm also not in the best position in terms of my own mental health, so I try to be patient with him while also trying to be careful with myself. Recently, he has started self-harming, which started off with him hitting hard objects, to now he has used objects to make incisions. He mentions he is okay, and then suddenly, he'll go numb and just break down crying, which escalates to self-harm. Truthfully I don't know how to be there for him, and I don't know what to say or how to proceed. I want to help, and I don't want to do anything to cause him to feel even worse.
Please let me know if there are some things I should be doing or saying to be supportive. For anyone in a similar situation, is this something that I will always have to be wary of, or will he recover with time?
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Idk what to do
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For the first time in a year I’m having thoughts of self harming again
A couple years ago I was extremely depressed and was hurting myself regularly that was until last year when I stopped an my mental health improved
But recently my mental health has pretty much plummeted to the point where most days I just want to lay in bed and most nights I hope that I don’t wake up and I can’t find anything to help me so I’ve started having thoughts about starting again and the thing is I know it’s not a good idea I know it’s not a good coping mechanism and I know it becomes a cycle very quickly but for some reason my brain is just telling me to do it and I don’t know why.
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Provide feedback on mobile app for self-injury - earn $25 [Research opportunity]
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You are invited to participate in a Northwestern-sponsored online research project aimed at developing a **mobile app to support young adults in managing NSSI urges and behavior**. The study consists of a short **online survey** and a **45-minute** interview, where you'll provide feedback on an early version of the app.
If you are interested, please click this [link](https://cbitshealth.northwestern.edu/tdoyas/) to learn more about the study, and to answer questions to see if you are eligible. We are looking for young adults (18-24), with a smartphone, and who have injured two or more times in the past month.
Thanks in advance for your consideration!
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First time in a while
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Hi friends,
I haven't SH/cut in about 3 years, but I did today. It surprised me (maybe I should have been more intelligent about cutting into my upper arm where it can be more damaging, according to the urgent care clinic)
I went to urgent care and got patched up with glue to hopefully mitigate scarring, but I have to tell my husband what I did. I don't know if anyone has any advice or kind words, but any of that would be appreciated.
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Effective Relaxation
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Are you feeling overwhelmed and stressed out? You’re not alone. The fast-paced lifestyle of modern society can be exhausting, leaving many people struggling to keep up with the demands of their time. But it doesn’t have to be this way! Effective relaxation is the key to managing stress levels and improving overall health and well-being. By learning how to relax your body and quieten your mind, you too can enjoy a life of greater balance and harmony.
In this article, we’ll look at some simple yet effective methods for achieving true relaxation. We’ll explore why relaxation is so important and discover what happens in the body when we are able to let go of tension and worries. Finally, we’ll uncover several ways that you can easily incorporate relaxation into your daily routine – no matter how busy or hectic things may seem!
So if you’re ready to take control of your stress levels and find inner peace, then read on as we unlock the secrets of effective relaxation!
[https://beautyaal.com/effective-relaxation/](https://beautyaal.com/effective-relaxation/)
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Tw- sh⚠️⚠️
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Im a female and I don’t know how to cover my cuts I have it on my hand there’s little cuts but they are very noticeable and I don’t know how to cover them please help people have started noticing
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Please tell me why: you chose to stick around.
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whenever I'm enraged i can't be satisfied until i punch things until my knuckles bleed
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it's always on my mind when I'm angry and my hands get bruised and bloody but it's the only way i can satisfy and come down or else I'm just penting it up
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Keep trying
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I have been struggling for years and have been hospitalized twice.
I can’t keep doing this to my family. But I just can’t stop the thoughts of self harm. I’ve been in therapy for almost twenty years and I am in my early thirties (not that numbers count). If anyone has realistic ways to cope with daily or routine thoughts, please help.
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just looking for honest advice
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i know it’s bad, i don’t need to hear anything about that. i think maybe i’m just hoping someone who has been able to stop can give me some advice on how they did it. when i was 15, i started cutting a bit but it wasn’t really for me. i’m now 20 and have recently picked up old habits but this time, i tried burning. i’m honestly afraid because i have never felt anything like this before and i’m not sure what to do. i’ve used pills, alc, weed, etc to cope in the past but none of it compares to this. i have never felt anything that has given me such peace. i don’t know how to stop and every night i do more and more. i guess it feels like now that i’ve started, i’ll never be able to stop until everything is burned. Does anyone have any advice on any alternative methods? or how to maybe stop?
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Self Respect
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Self respect is something we all want, yet it can be hard to achieve. It’s an essential part of our identity and happiness that enables us to feel confident in ourselves and content with life. But what exactly is self-respect? And how do you go about cultivating it? In this article, we will explore the meaning of self-respect and offer tips on ways to boost your own sense of self-worth.
[https://beautyaal.com/self-respect/](https://beautyaal.com/self-respect/)
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Almost a year and a half clean - quite proud of my progress
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Law of attraction
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Have you ever wished for something and it came true? Many people believe in the power of manifestation, otherwise known as the Law of Attraction. This law is based on the idea that our thoughts become reality and that what we focus on will come back to us. It suggests that if we want something, all we have to do is think about it and visualize it happening—and then take action toward making it happen. In this article, we’ll explore the science behind the Law of Attraction and how it can be used to help manifest positive outcomes in life.
[https://beautyaal.com/law-of-attraction/](https://beautyaal.com/law-of-attraction/)
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Contribute to research on self-harm so mental health professionals can help patients better!
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You are invited to participate in a research study on what factors contribute to people hurting themselves or having suicidal thoughts or behaviors.
To participate, you must 1) have a history of self-harm, 2) be between the ages of 18 and 24, 3) be located within the United States and, 4) be able to read in English. This survey should take about 30-45 minutes.
Each participant who completes the survey will have the chance to enter a raffle for one of five $20 Amazon gift cards!
If you want to participate, please click [Here](https://southdakota.sjc1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_e8q35AsA6kPiG7Y).
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nothing's working
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My urges have been mega bad lately. Life is just kicking my butt. None of my usual coping methods are giving me enough support. I don't want to bother someone. Why is this so much harder than last time?
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pls send some positive vibes
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really really going through a shitty time right now and i’m trying really hard not to sh again. please, if you have any words of advice or kindness, please send them my way—i feel so alone and i’m not sure where else to turn
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Spiraling
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How to build confidence
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Building confidence can seem like a daunting task, but it doesn’t have to be! With the right attitude and approach, anyone can start building their own self-confidence. This article will explore different strategies that can help you gain confidence in yourself and your abilities.
[https://beautyaal.com/how-to-build-confidence/](https://beautyaal.com/how-to-build-confidence/)
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TW TALKING ABOUT CUTTING AND AND DEEP CUTS
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Strengths and Weaknesses
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We all have our strengths and weaknesses, no one is perfect. Knowing your own unique strengths and weaknesses can be a difficult task that takes time to figure out, but it’s worth the effort. Although we may not like thinking about them, understanding these qualities allow us to become better versions of ourselves. In this article, we’ll explore how to identify your individual strengths and weaknesses and why it’s important for personal growth. So let’s get started!
[https://beautyaal.com/strengths-and-weaknesses/](https://beautyaal.com/strengths-and-weaknesses/)
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need cover up advice TW
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i had a bit of a psychotic/bpd episode and of course i know this was dumb and a bad idea but i’m already disappointed in self and won’t do it again i was just literally acting psychotic (not in a hyperbolic or misused sense of the term) and i sh’d all on my face and need to cover it cause I have school and work and need to interact with humans in general …. any tips on covering scabbed wounds that can’t be covered with clothes?
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Sense of fear
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Have you ever felt a sense of fear that seemed to take over your body and mind, leaving you feeling helpless? Fear can be a paralyzing emotion, preventing us from moving forward in life. But what if there was something you could do about it? What if there were ways to get rid of the sense of fear?
In this article, we will explore practical tips and techniques for overcoming feelings of fear. Whether your fear is rooted in an event or situation from the past or stems from current worries and anxieties, these strategies may help you ease your fears so that they don’t control your life.
We’ll discuss how to identify triggers, use self-talk to reframe thoughts, practice relaxation methods such as meditation and deep breathing exercises, reach out for support when needed, and more. So let’s dive into learning how to manage fear and gain peace of mind:
[https://beautyaal.com/get-rid-of-fear/](https://beautyaal.com/get-rid-of-fear/)
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I've hated my body but I took up sh in the new year *tw*
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Looking for advice *trigger warning ⚠️*
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I’m back to SHing again. I would appreciate any advice on stopping my urges. It’s hard for me once I start back up again, I feel like it’s 2012 again and I’m just a mess. I’m going to try to quit. It’s also been two days of me hurting myself again. I been off and on again since I was a teenager.
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Newbie here. TW sexual assault
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I’m new here and it was suggested by a close friend that I reach out here. About a month ago I was with a friend. Consented to some sex stuff (kissing and oral) and he attacked me. He put me in hospital for two weeks. I have internal and external stitches. They all got infected and now I have pelvic inflammatory disease and there’s an infection in all of my reproductive organs. Hes ruined any chance of me being able to have kids. The infection has also killed my pancreas. I’m now insulin dependent as well as being on creon. I’m being monitored to see if I need an insulin pump. Ontop of this, I have also contracted HSV2. All of this has been a lot to deal with and I’ve started harming again. I managed to go 2 years since I last cut. I’m feeling a lot of ways about it.
I’d love to know what you’ve done to try and stop. People who haven’t experienced self harm don’t seem to understand that it’s an addiction. I don’t know who to turn to or how to pick myself up out of this ditch. I’m in therapy, which has helped a lot. Just with everything I’ve been through in the last month, it’s been hard to find motivation to reach out.
I appreciate you reading this 💜
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It just doesn’t stop…
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Hi. I made a commitment to myself to stop cutting after getting tattoos on my upper arms. Now instead I’m bruising myself. I can’t seem to get a handle on the self-harm, it always seems to come out in one way or another. And when I do harm myself, I don’t take it seriously. That’s it. I just needed to share my experience. Thank you for reading. 💕
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Back to start again.
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I think I was around 300 days SH free but today for literally no reason I’m back to start again. I actually felt nice and relaxing. (It’s frustrating)
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Stress Management
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Stress is an inevitable part of life. It can be caused by a variety of factors, such as work pressures, finances, relationships, and more. But learning how to manage stress effectively is essential for our well-being. In this article, we’ll explore the key elements of effective stress management so that you can start living a healthy and balanced life.
[https://beautyaal.com/stress-management/](https://beautyaal.com/stress-management/)
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Inspiration
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Part of my recovery plan for getting out of the hospital consisted of being on the right meds and giving them time to work, then choosing three goals; I wanted to be more consistently happy, stop self harming and quit drinking. They told me those goals were too vague Instead I needed to pinpoint why I'm unhappy, why I self harm, and why I drink.
So I thought about it for a bit I wrote down all the reasons and my new goals were to work on all the reasons one by one. I found that the side effects of achieving those smaller goals was that I was consistently happier, since I was happier I stopped drinking, since I was happier and not drinking I got control of self harming. Being unhappy, self harming, and drinking were all just side affects of what was really going on. It was a domino affect and it all started with one tiny goal. It is important to work on one at a time with full attention, all at once can be overwhelming. Working on mental health and healing is a process and a journey. Setbacks will happen, you're not starting over, now you have all this knowledge and all these tools. Ask your self what are the reasons why you had a setback, and achieve those little goals and you'll see that you didn't fall down you just stumbled a little bit. I believe in you all.
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fading scars
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My most visible scars are pretty much invisible at this point. My other ones are following suit. I just want to cut somewhere visible. Wrist, shoulder, legs. Idk why. It wasn't this hard getting clean last time. Ugh.
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400 days!! I can't believe it 🥲
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is there any pencil sharpeners that are cheap and u cant remove the blade from?
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99 days :’)
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I am amazed. I had some intense urges but here I am on day 99 still free
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Things are going... Good, I guess?
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Look, I've been clean for 2 weeks. Pretty long time, for me! I wasn't having ANY urges at all. Actually, I realized that since I've been caring for my mental health, and ignoring my friends opinions(my friends are toxic) I've been 100000x happier!! But tonight, I was making bracelets. I NEEED to stop doing stuff with scissors😭 the memories kind of flooded back. I rolled up my sleeves to see if my scars and cuts had faded yet, which they mostly had. Now I'm having a constant urge. What can I do in the moment to stop myself?
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An app-based study exploring protective factors against suicidal thoughts in daily life (UK, 18+)
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Hello,
We are currently looking for people who have experienced suicidal thoughts in the past two weeks to be involved in our app-based study exploring protective factors against suicidal thoughts.
This study involves downloading our study app which will send you (i) a demographic and baseline survey (linked below), (ii) then, daily notifications at random times between 9am and 9pm 3x per day for 7-days with questions on your current mood and suicidal thoughts and behaviours, and finally (iii) a follow-up survey asking for feedback on the study.
To be eligible, you need to:
* Be aged 18+,
* Be fluent in English,
* Currently live in the UK,
* Have access to a smartphone and the internet,
* Have experienced suicidal thoughts in the past 2 weeks, and
* Have time to be involved.
You will have the opportunity to be entered into a prize draw to win 1 of 10 £10 Amazon vouchers for being involved in the study in the final follow-up survey.
If interested, please follow this link for the survey and more information:
[https://tinyurl.com/Protective-factors-study](https://tinyurl.com/Protective-factors-study)
Thank you,
Rosie
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how do I tell my therapist I relapsed
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this shit is mad fuckin silly and I'm tired of having to reset my sh day counter. I was 66 days clean and I really need something or someone to ground me
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A kid I work with self harms. not sure how to help.
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I tutor as a side gig, & I've worked with the kid in question for about two years now. They've been wearing long sleeves for a few months which I didn't question since we've been having a brutal winter. However, during our last session, they rolled up their sleeves, & I could clearly see self harm marks. I didn't address it at the time as we were around several other kids, & I didn't want to embarrass them. This kid & I have a pretty good relationship, & they've come to me about personal matters in the past (they came out to me, told me about family struggles, etc.).
I'm not sure if or how I should address it. For context, they've mentioned being in therapy to me, & I also self harmed as a teenager, though I've been clean for almost a decade at this point. I care about this child, & I want them to feel safe & make sure they get the help they need, but I also don't want to make them uncomfortable. Any advice is welcome. Thank you for reading.
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I brought my blades with me to work tonight, I feel powerless.
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I haven’t relapsed again in probably like 3 weeks to a month now. I almost did 3 days ago, but I utilized my support system and avoided it, barely. But I won’t lie, I brought all my things to work with me tonight. My blades, the bandages, ointment, wrap, and gauze. I feel so alone. I’ve lost everyone recently. I don’t feel like I can talk to anyone about my feelings without being some type of burden. I’m tired and weak, I dunno if I can fight off this relapse alone tonight. So here I am.
Edit: I ended up relapsing as I found out some awful news on top of already feeling this way. No more advice needed, thanks though.
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I want to get bad again
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8 months clean, i miss it and its hard right now. Broke my no smoking streak so my doing well w/ sh is all i have rn, but i want to do it and not care and just sleep. Ive been trying and doing well to get my shit together lately and im just tired of struggling with myself all the time. I cant justify getting a bunch of tattoos i dont really want just to get them cause ik if i go back to cutting i’ll spiral and it’ll be a whole thing. Oh yeah and my therapist quit practicing and she was the only one of my slew of therapists who actually helped me and was comfortable with so yeah. Ty for reading my tldr if youre here.
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My friends say its okay to cut, is that a healthy mindset?
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Background: I (18M) was talking to two of my friends (18M and 18F), one being my girlfriend. They both cut, and have for a 1-2 years now. I personally have never cut or done any sort of self harm before. They were saying how people who don't understand SH see it as a very serious thing, and that when you actually do it it's not as bad as it seems, and that it shouldn't be seen as something so serious.
I've never done SH so I don't want to make any assumptions without a better perspective. I would like my to help my friends, but I don't know what the right move is. Any advice? Should SH be seen as something that I shouldn't be concerned about? Or should I try to get my friends help from a professional?
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8 days clean and feeling pretty good :)
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TLDR- it's just me talking about doing yoga lmao
i finally got to see my therapist again after like 4 weeks so that was good!!
i was talking about how i have no motivation to put in effort towards recovery bc it's too much work, or keep up with forming habits (or do anything really), so she told me i should start doing yoga and just try not to think about it. it's a simple, healthy activity that's relatively easy to make a habit out of.
i'm always overly self aware and analytical and it causes a lot of the motivation issues for me. since i know exactly why i feel the way i do and why i'm doing whatever coping skill i'm doing, i get really frustrated when it doesn't fix things because it should work since i already know the reason behind everything.
so my therapist said i should do yoga just because it's good and it gets me to move my body a little, nothing more.
so i decided to try it and just accept where i'm at emotionally instead of thinking about how it's supposed to change me, and it was actually really nice. i think it's definitely gonna be good for me to form a healthy habit just because and not think too hard about it. plus it could potentially lead to other healthy habits. that is not what im focused on though,, there doesn't have to be a long term end goal.
it seems small and insignificant, but i usually don't actually follow through on stuff like this. i'm trying my best not to think about it too hard now lmao. she said just do the damn yoga bc it's a good habit, nothing else right now. it makes me happy that it's so simple.
maybe it sounds stupid but it's something relatively new and i'm proud of myself for giving it a try and making a plan to stick with it
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Question about scars.
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I have 2 actually, first one being. Why is there a couple white bumps deadass in my scar tissue? It looks white it’s very small, it doesn’t hurt. But it’s literally in my scar tissue. Second question, why can’t I feel my scar or the area around it on the places I got stitches? I didn’t think stitches would cause me to lose that feeling in that spot? Like it’s permanently numb? It’s super odd. Anyways, thanks for answering my questions.
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So...this was new for me.
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So, this is my first time posting here.
I just got done with a Shakespeare performance weekend after a dress rehearsal week and teaching as well. On Saturday, after that night's show, we went to a restaurant to get dinner. They are a very extroverted crowd. While we were waiting to be seated, I could see that one of our party was talking loudly right next to one of the workers that seemed annoyed (to me.) Then, we went to sit down, noticed we wouldn't have enough seats and room for people coming, so they asked me to go get a table to put at the end. By that time, I was already self-conscious of offending the staff any more. And I figured moving tables without the staff knowing would do exactly that. So I ignored it. Another person pops up and says, "I'm not afraid of being yelled at!" and two more get up to help, making me move to fit the new table in, which was a handicapped table (which made it feel worse due to "what if they needed that" syndrome,) and at this point something in my mind snapped. I went to the restroom visibly, then snuck out the door afterwards. I no replied to two people that asked what was up.
The next day, I forget my anti-depressant and anti-anxiety pills. I get to the theatre, still feeling off from the night before. Said extroverted crowd starts talking in the theatre area loudly, with occasional random singing of loud sustained notes for some reason. The next thing I knew, I was laying face down and punching myself in the head. Someone came up and physically restrained me from doing it. When showtime came, I masked and got through it. Then I went home. Today, I have had a headache pretty much all day.
I need to be tested because this is the first time I have physically hurt myself. I don't understand why I did it.
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One monthhhh
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I'm clean for a week!
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This is the longest I have been clean since I started! Hopefully I can stop relapses and get my counseling and psychiatry back on board. Just an achievement I thought I'd share!
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Lowkey proud of myself :3
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Guys, y'all can do it, I'm proud of you, all of you, even if you're clear for 1 minute, that's still one minute closer to STAYING clear <3
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THE WHOLE IDEA OF Am I VaLiD Or DeEp EnOUgh?
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I have joined this community of r/selfharm almost a couple months ago. so i have seen like atleast 10 such posts. the whole idea is that someone doing sh wouldnt really seek validation or tutorials online, its weird because the community should be regarding help but its more likely motivating other people.
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help
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how do i deal with partner telling me “who could love someone who does *harm* or wants to *off* themself?”
i know it was said out of a bad fight but this comment really is getting to me. please help me.
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8 months
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8 months clean (f23) This is the first winter since my first long quit attempt that i have not relapsed. But damn i want to rn. Not much of a better choice but i suddenly find myself making more than i have in years, so I’m just gonna get more tattoos until i feel better.
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i'm 80 days clean today
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honestly i can't believe i made it this far. i've been so so close several times, like literally seconds away from relapsing. but i guess i'm stronger than i thought! i hope i can keep it up.
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STOP THE COMPETITVENESS
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Today i decided to make bread instead of relapsing, and it worked!
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I've been free from self harm for 50 days tomorrow, and today was a difficult one to get through. I've been struggling a lot both mentally and financially, and honestly didn't think I'd pull though - then i remembered bread exists. So I made some bread, and it was very fun! It tasted ok (I think I can do better next time), but by the time I was done I'd managed to avoid any urges to relapse.
I feel like it's not a big deal, but i often find it extremely difficult to resist urges so I was pretty proud of myself :)
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I’m nearly thirteen months clean
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But I can’t afford to see my doctor or get my meds recently and the urge to harm is coming back so strong. It’s just so present and real. I don’t know what to do sometimes. I guess I just needed to write it out and let somebody know.
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Had an urge so strong it had me catch my breath - quit so many years but inclination still here
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My heart is fluttering I’m so anxious I think I have to do something. Just to calm me.
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How can I track my triggers?
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I know that there are certain things that set me off, but I'm not sure how I can tell what they are. I think keeping a journal might help, so I can track what happens before, durring, and after my sh, but that's all I could think of. Any suggestions?
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fuck I can't even stay clean for a day.
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Idk why but I just can't it's too hard and I don't hide my razor (for some reason) so it's honestly too hard not too.
Please give advice (if you have any)
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I was clean for a week
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Wow. I thought I had it this time. Turns out, this is one of the SHORTEST times I've remained clean. I was doing great. Then, I saw my scissors, and right on time my mom yelled at me. After that, my best friend wouldn't stop talking about her other friend group, and how amazing they are. I'm being replaced. I asked myself why they should care about me, anyways. It would just make them worry too much. I tried to smile it off, cause she's happier this way. Well, that didn't work. I was alone in my room, and I was using my sharpest scissors to cut string for bracelets, and I noticed the bits of dried blood on the ends, and remembered the calming feeling of the pain. I did a weeks damage in a couple minutes. I feel calm now, and I'm wondering if I shouldnt quit. The cuts and scars fade, and I wear long sleeves all the time anyways! Who's it hurting in the long run?
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I recently relapsed for the first time in my new relationship and he's taking it really hard.
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So I've been clean for a while and been doing really good since I started dating this guy but we got really drunk and I went home early because I was too gone and feeling really down and instead of communicating this I decided to go home and self harm. He came home to me passed out in a pool of my own blood. He knew I did it before, it's obvious from my scars, and he's seen the aftermath before we moved in together but never that much. He's taking it so hard because we had a small argument before I left and blames himself. He is really struggling with the fact that its not his fault and no amount of love or support will totally stop this happening. I've been self harming for 10 years now and its not a habit that will go away easy but I'm really trying. I got drunk and in a lapse of best judgement near a difficult anniversary for me I slipped. I feel terrible because I don't want him to feel responsible for my bad decisions and the argument we had had nothing to do with why I did what I did. I've explained this but he is still struggling with believing it. Any help would be amazing thank you x
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I relapsed now I’m stuck
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I was 2 months self harm free and I relapsed and then the next day I self harmed again but needed stitches that time and now I’m stuck in a self harm cycle and can’t get out. I don’t know what to do but I want it to stop
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After staying clean for awhile I did it again and i feel calm
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I had a rough day today and I have pretty much decided to distance myself from everyone from now onwards, everyone around me has similar patterns and I can't escape the sort of dynamics i have with my family or friends, initially I felt so overwhelmed, I wanted to bawl scream and cry, I did abit of all that, i felt emotionally and i don't really why physically overstimulated so I did it, I took some razors from my drawer and I started doing it, I no longer feel anything. I broke my three month streak.
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today marks 1000 days sh free and i couldn't be more proud if your out there thinking it cannot be done I am gere to tell you it is possible
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How do I stop myself?
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I'm a teen, and I started cutting myself when I was 12. I started because it was sort of a distraction from the mental pain, but after a while I kind of just couldn't stop. I'm not sure how I can push back the intrusive thought of self harm. Any advice?
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I was clean
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I was clean for close to 2 years. A few days ago I did 2 years worth of damage in 3 days. I went deeper than I’ve ever. I don’t care anymore.
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In 10 hours I would've been 5 months clean...
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I relapsed. I just could control it anymore, I've been thinking about it all day. I tried waiting the feeling out, I tried distracting myself with video games, youtube, studying, and drawing, didn't work, I tried to fall asleep but I couldn't and I realpsed. Only this time, there is actual blood. Ever since I started dealing with this ('bout two years ago), there was never blood. I used rather dull scissors and only made long pink lines that would quickly disappear even if I went over the same spot more the once. Now, I used way sharper scissors and there's actual blood. I mean there's not much of it, but holy shit there's blood! But it's okay, it'll heal! I don't really have anything to sterilize the cuts with other than water, but it's fine I'm going to the shop first thing in the morning since it's 4 am now. The bleeding mostly stopped except on some small spots/dots but it's ok, there's not enough blood to even pass through my clothing. And they're on my thigh so I don't have to worry about anyone seeing the and the pink lines that are on my arms will probably disappear in the morning like they always do, and if they don't, I'll be wearing long sleeves since it is winter - I'm sorry honestly I'm just trying to make myself feel a bit better and look on the bright side since I'm a bit scared of blood and it's making me anxious so I'm just rambling a bit haha...
But ummm yeah, there goes 4 months and 30 days of hard work!
Guess I'll try again tomorrow....or, ummm, well, technically today since it's 4 am- ykwim.
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I cant seek therapy and I dont know what to do
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I have stayed clean for two to three months I believe yet over time my mental state has gotten worse, I have absolutely no regard for my life anymore and the only reason I won't do something to myself anymore is because I am scared it will escalate to something worse, I feel so drained I have no idea what to do, I zone out and think of different scenarios where objects around me could be used in a different manner. Any advice?
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Iam 27 and i've been suicidal since age 12
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Iam in therapy, iam actively trying to work this life out however it never gets better. temporarily yes, but crying myself to sleep because at the end of the day, everyday, iam scared, alone, abandoned and conditionally accepted in my family & society.
I wish i had the choice to hatch some grand plan of erasing who/where i am and live this short course of my life in happiness, authenticity and love.
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One year clean!!! This is the longest I've ever gone without cutting. I can't believe it.
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I don't know how to stop it feels like the only thing that helps I can't think or sleep or calm down without it I don't know if I even want to stop how do I fix these cycles of sh
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anniversary struggle
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I started SH at age 17. I made it to six years clean. Last January, the day after my birthday, I relapsed. I'm 10 months clean now. I'll be working on my birthday. My boss wants to do something for me. I've made it clear to my family I don't want to celebrate this year. I'm really struggling with the memory of what happened and how bad things got. I don't really want my boss to know what happened. But I'm absolutely not in the mood for people giving me gifts and singing me Happy Birthday.
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I cheated a little, but I proud of myself regardless
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A podcast of people in mental health recovery | Ep. 7 “Inner Peace” | Take it easy everyone
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This really resonated with me-- "I'm ready for new experiences that I don't need to heal from. - Ehime Ora"
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help??
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i accidentally scrolled across a “988twt” (shtwt) tweet, and i’m feeling pretty triggered, i’m in recovery (almost 200 days clean!). all my scars have faded, seeing that tweet made me feel like i need to make new ones to be more valid, idk what to do now.
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Gosh, time really does fly by
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3 weeks SH clean! Tw:// R@zor Bl@des, Sh
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I am now 3 weeks clean from sh and I threw all my razor blades away today im proud of myself :)
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