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Constant anxiety and loss of feelings towards partner?
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Okay so there's a lot for me to go through here, and I have to apologise as it is hard for me to explain things as it's hard for me to even understand what's going on in my brain!
I've been with my partner now coming up to 2 years in May, wonderful healthy relationship where there are no issues whatsoever, I'll preface this by saying I have struggled with mental health on and off throughout my life, mainly being anxiety so I have been on Fluoxetine (anti depressants) for the last 2 years, this has been great for me and has helped me to regulate my emotions and feelings quite well and to what I believe has helped my relationship with my partner to flourish and I have felt genuinely happy.
Anyway, cutting to now... Since the very (very) start of the year, just after new years... (obviously) I noticed a lot of anxiety... although it may of been creeping in a few weeks before, It was as though now I felt it full blast, and my inner voice kept telling me that my boyfriend was interested in someone else, and I was then getting strong feelings of them cheating although there was no indication of this, I think on new years eve I had noticed my boyfriend getting on well with his mates and watching one of his friends who is a girl sing (he's a musician and i know the following sounds daft, believe me) so the next day I kept getting intrusive thoughts of that moment and feeling very sensitive around it, as I'm quite insecure and never sing and I know my boyfriend would love it if I came out my shell more in that way (although he's always telling me how perfect I am) It kept going through my mind that he should be with someone like that...
fast forward a few days, I'm still feeling VERY on edge and feel incredibly anxious when my boyfriend isn't really showing me that much affection, or is in his room for long periods of time... I get very panicky and can't seem to calm myself until I go upstairs to see what he's up to, if he's just sat there on his phone with his door shut I assume that he's not wanting to be with me (even though I think having our own space is healthy and have never had an issue with it before) after seeing him just sat there I'll get incredibly upset and more anxious and feel very emotional, may even start crying and it's difficult to stop, I suddenly view my boyfriend very differently?
I'll also mention now that I was never like this at any other point of our relationship, I just started feeling this intense anxiety since new years, also I'll mention that I'm a very sensitive person and feel as though I pick up on other peoples emotions very easily and that I do that a lot with my boyfriend if he is feeling down about himself etc, I also feel these emotions.
As the days went on I stopped getting these anxious feelings when he wasn't always around, but still felt bad anxiety and feeling depression creeping in, as the days progressed I noticed myself becoming more sensitive to things and even hyperaware? (think that's the word) which would cause more anxiety for me, my boyfriend may say something and I would take it in a negative way and feel offended by it and it would cause a lot of hurt and then anxiety is even worse... I would have a lot of moments of just emotional outbursts of crying and finding it difficult to stop just feeling very overwhelmed and so uncomfortable in how i'm feeling, even gagging from what felt like stress and not being able to eat (I'm feeling this pretty much everyday)
the past month and a bit I've been having internal thoughts such as "I don't love you" and other horrible things directed at my boyfriend which cause me so much anxiety and even more stress as I try to convince myself they are just thoughts and not real, having suddenly no feelings towards him? getting irritated at little things but still feeling intensely sad over the thought of him with someone else, this person is perfect in my eyes and I love all the things about them that are considered imperfections, where have my feelings gone? It's been over a month and I'm scared they won't return because I know this relationship when I'm not feeling this way, is so good for me and has been the best thing for my life.
I'll quickly mention that I'm 23 now and had a relationship when I was 14 that brought a lot of the very same feelings up but this happened very early on in the relationship (a month or so) with much breaking up and getting back together due to my anxiety and depression.
I'm sorry for the essay but it's really hard to fit everything in, but this is just the summary of it...
Please can I get real responses with this, I really want to make this relationship work and stop this anxiety and emotional stress and be able to feel these feelings again for my partner... I'd hate to think that it's over now.
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I’m a slave to my wife’s mental health
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I have been for 15 years now. Never really gets better for a long period of time. It’s the same cycle and I’m sick of it. I’m tired of her not being able to have two appointments in consecutive days. I’m tired of every single day being a struggle. Like the world is falling. I’m tired of the mood swings. I’m tired of her always telling me everything I don’t do. I’m tired of not being able to tell her what she doesn’t do unless I want to see her cut herself. I’m tired of it all. I’ve been empathetic for 15 years. I bust my ass to get us good insurance only to have to beg her to use it.
I’m sorry. I needed to vent.
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Need hospitalization advice
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I have extreme health anxiety, severe depression, OCD, and I am medicated but I find myself desiring suicide. Because I’m in like a complicated area, like I’m not horrifically sad with life but rather like we as people never are able to escape illness and I feel like I’d rather just die. But I keep asking for help and advice and have had no luck. Have any of you been in a mental hospital? Is it a productive stay? Is it as awful as I hear?
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How can I?
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I keep being told by people around me "give yourself a break", "take it easy", "you deserve to rest" etc but... How can I? If I don't do all the things that need to be done, then who will? My washing won't do itself, the things at work that need to be done won't be, my dinner won't cook itself, my house won't clean itself.. You get the point.
I know all of these things aren't life or death, but leaving them and "resting" instead just means it will pile up around me and then I'll feel even more helpless than I already do.
I want nothing more than to take the advice, my body and mind are so tired. I'm struggling. But I have to keep going.
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Question Regarding Yearly Night Terrors Every Halloween Night
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Every year on Halloween night exactly at 3:00AM I wake up screaming due to night terrors. I don't feel scared before I go to bed or after I stop screaming. TBH I don't scare easily. I saw my first horror movie when I was 6, it was called something like The Last Home, it looked like a it was made around the 80s, I remember there was a duo in the movie & I believe they were brother & sister, I also remember there being escaped inmates. Overall it was a good movie, as far as I can remember. My first game I've ever played was some evil dead game, unless you count arcade games, then it was House of The Dead. It's weird, I enjoy horror, but it doesn't make me feel fear, at most it would make me feel amused due to moments that were intended to be funny or just poorly timed & ended up being funny. I remember I was just about the only girl in my elementary school to enter the haunted houses without hesitation & the haunted houses would bore me. I mean there was this one moment that I felt sorry for a kid that the lunch lady put her toddler in the cage that had the animatronic werewolf that would howl, the poor kid was crying so much that by the end of the night he couldn't talk & had difficulty breathing. But for some reason I am scared in those dreams that I have on Halloween night but not when I'm awake. I mean everyone has a fear of something, but my greatest fear is more of a concept rather than an entity or an environment. My greatest fear is that I'll become corrupted & that I'll have power when I become corrupted, I'm afraid that I might end up like BTK or Hitler, but truth is that they might have had targeted their victims based on biases that formed from their past trauma, but the thing is that, I don't blame any one specific type of person for my past trauma, because everyone from all kinds of backgrounds, all kinds of genders, all kinds of races, etc has hurt me bad enough to cause recurring memories, so I know that if I do end up like BTK or Hitler I won't just target one type of person, I'll probably target everyone, & I fear that if that ever does happen then I won't stop until either the entire human race is extinct or until someone kills me. I worry that the description of my fear sounds like plans, just to be 100% clear I DO NOT HAVE PLANS FOR ANYTHING LIKE THAT! IT'S JUST MY FEAR TAKING HOLD OF MY MIND!!! But my dreams on Halloween night isn't about my greatest fear. Anyways, I guess what I'm trying to ask is, is this normal? Also for context I am a 21 year old MtF Trans Woman. Thank you for your time.
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Bullied, ostracized as an adult in a small town, and am having a mental breakdown. I am suicidal. Afraid to have the cops called on me.
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I don't fit in; people are unkind to me. I'm tired of being fake for people who do not respect me. People make fun of my deformity, awkwardness. My job is a dead end. I Lost all my close friends. I can't get a girlfriend. I don't move have enough to move.
I talked to a county crisis line and they send the police to my job for saying I was suicidally ashamed of myself, which as resulted in even more bullying. I have never been so lost, alone, or and hopeless. I am starting to wonder if I could be insane. I am having a lot of trouble socializing.
I am going to tell my therapist. If he tries to have me taken to a facility I guess I will leave town for a while. It feels really horrible that I am afraid to even talk about it. He told me he would have to have me committed if I said I was suicidal. I really do think that would help me; I think it would make everything much, much worse. So I will leave town if that happens.
I'm not sure what is going to happen. I am really frightened and alone. Having the police come to my job has made me understand than in my town, no one is allowed to show they are having a hard time. People here do not sure they're problems, and believe strongly that suicidal thinking is sinful, sick, and evil.
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TalktoAngel: Best online Counselling platform in India
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Am I ok
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I’ve been having this feeling lately it’s almost like being suicidal but not quite it’s more like I want to be Thanosed like I don’t want to die it’s more like I want to stop existing and then begin existing again some other time
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Anyone prescribed Ritalin for Treatment Resistant Depression
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I’ve read some good things about helping with motivation and concentration.
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I hate myself
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really have been just hating everything I do. Any time I do anything I tell myself that I have to do better at it or else im a disappointment to everyone. Even at small things like games or doing homework I pressure myself so hard to do better but I just can't. I feel and see myself deteriorating I really need help getting over this. Any help is greatly appreciated
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I want it to end
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Im tired of everything im tired of my sensitive mind i dont wanna be in this world anymore
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Dealing with Overwhelming Anxiety Episodes
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For the past couple of days, seemingly out of nowhere, this terrible, absolutely horrible goddamn feeling of anxiety has been taking me over, making me have breakdowns, crying, tricking me into thinking that I can’t breathe, etc.
I do not wish this feeling upon even my most despised enemy, and while my SO has been helping me and guiding me on the path to getting better(and I truly do feel like I’m getting better) that gnawing, hellish and overwhelming anxiety feeling still comes back from time to time, and I just don’t know what to do anymore, short of seeing my doctor here soon and getting on a medication routine.
If someone on here can give me any advice on how to conquer this…god I can’t even put into words how fucking awful this feeling of anxiety is, I will forever be in your debt, you will be my hero and I will be proud to call you my friend. Even if we’re only communicating through the internet.
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Pet Grief
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I have SMI and afraid of losing my pet. If you have SMI and have lost a pet will you briefly share your experience? I'm afraid of going into psychosis:(
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How do i learn to love myself
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hi all, i would like some help. i think i hate myself. i nitpick everything i do, and everything i think. i continue to make unhealthy decisions because they’re easier to make than the healthy decisions, and i hate myself for it. i think im either too weak or too pathetic to actually change. i want to lose weight, i got a gym membership, went on monday of last week, i mean to return but going there alone is so stressful, and i don’t have anybody that can go with me. i hope that maybe once ive lost weight i’ll finally be able to love myself. i just want to be loved but before that can happen i have to love myself first, so that way i could love others better. do i just need to suck it up and stay dedicated to the gym, or is there something mental i need to work on. or am i just a pitiful bitch begging for sympathy points? i’m sorry i know this whole paragraph is dumb and has bad grammar. any help is greatly appreciated
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My wife needs help
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She works 40 hrs a week and our biggest hang up with finding help, is finding something for after normal working hours/weekends? Any advice for us?
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Anxiety vs bipolar?
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Is it common or possible for these two conditions to be mixed up or confused for one vs the other in the fact finding process for or by mental health professionals.
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Le burn-out, aussi appelé épuisement professionnel, et son diagnostic
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Renseignez vous sur le Burnout ou l'épuisement professionnel. Le diagnostic peut se faire via une technologie axée sur l'intelligence artificielle.
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I really need someone to talk to
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I really need someone to talk to. I’ve been going through a lot and just need someone to assure me that life gets better and remind me what is worth sticking around for.
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very small insignificant thing gives me uncontrollable anxiety. Help/advice please
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someone in my family accidentally donated my favourite tshirt. They didn’t do anything wrong and I accidentally put the t-shirt in the wrong spot so it seemed like it should be donated. I’m way more devastated than I should be and even though it was a week ago I start crying and breathing uncontrollably when I think about it and getting angry at the person who donated it (even though it’s completely not their fault). I know this is an extreme reaction but I still can’t help it… I feel so helpless not being able to control my emotions like this
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Husband is abused!ve but doesn't think he is.
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For starters so you understand why I may need to be left alone
I have BPD, PTSD, bipolar 1/with psychosis, anxiety NOS.. and a few others.
The other day he hurt my feelings/upset me/made me mad.
He just doesn't care about me and never does anything to show me he does care except necessities like food water etc..
Anyways.
I told him I needed to be left alone. I didn't want to talk. Asked him multiple times. Told him multiple times. He said that he didn't understand why I was upset it wasn't a big deal blah blah
So finally I said did you know that it's abuse when you refuse to leave me alone after I ask for it?
My mom traded me for drug$ at 7-8, my older sister killed my son when I was 16. I grew up in and out of foster care... I ended up leaving home at 17 to get away from my mom and sister and ended up stuck in a 6 year relationship with a man who abused me.
His response to me saying it was abuse: if that's abuse then you don't know what abuse actually is.
I can give way more back story if needed but...
I just didn't want to talk. I didn't want to say or do something I would regret.
I literally wait on this man hand and foot. He says his butt is itchy I jump up undress him and put cream on his booty hole. Like.... He's like a newborn and I'm his mom. I love taking care of him, so hurting him is the last thing I'd ever want to do. I couldn't live with myself if I hurt him physically or mentally.
With my mental problems there's def a chance I could and not mean to so I just needed space.
It's not the first time this has happened. It's the second. The first time he harassed me over an hour trying to make me talk. I cried and begged him to leave me alone.
Am I wrong?
Short version I asked husband to leave me alone because I didn't want to talk while upset and he refused. Is it abuse?
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Lately I’ve been mad and angry for no good reason. My life is getting better but I am more angry than ever. Idk why that is. I need help
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Overcoming Procrastination: Lessons from Famous Figures in History
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Overcoming Procrastination: Lessons from Famous Figures in History
Procrastination is a familiar foe to many of us, even to some of the greatest minds in history.
It's the tendency to put off important tasks until the last minute, even when we know it's not in our best interest.
But despite its prevalence, procrastination can be overcome. In fact, some of the most famous figures in history struggled with procrastination, yet they found ways to push through it and achieve greatness. Today, I want to share their stories and inspire you to do the same.
First up is Leonardo da Vinci, one of the greatest artists and inventors of all time. Da Vinci was notorious for procrastinating, and it's said that he often missed deadlines or took years to complete projects.
But he didn't let his procrastination stop him from achieving greatness. Instead, he found ways to work around it. For example, he would often work on multiple projects simultaneously, switching between them whenever he got bored or stuck.
He also kept a journal where he wrote down his ideas and sketches, so he could come back to them later and build on them. By embracing his procrastination and finding ways to work with it, da Vinci was able to create some of the most iconic works of art and inventions in history.
Another famous procrastinator is Abraham Lincoln, one of the most revered presidents in US history. Lincoln was known for putting off tasks until the last minute, which often led to stress and anxiety. But he didn't let procrastination hold him back.
Instead, he developed a routine that helped him stay focused and productive. He would wake up early every morning and spend several hours reading and studying, which helped him stay informed and prepared for his presidential duties.
He also surrounded himself with a team of advisors who could help him stay on track and provide guidance when he needed it. By developing a routine and relying on his team, Lincoln was able to overcome his procrastination and lead the country through one of its most challenging times.
Finally, we have Maya Angelou, a renowned poet, author, and civil rights activist. Angelou was no stranger to procrastination, but she refused to let it define her. Instead, she developed a mantra that helped her stay focused and motivated: "Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better."
By focusing on doing her best in the moment, Angelou was able to overcome her procrastination and achieve her goals. She also surrounded herself with a supportive community of writers and artists, who helped her stay inspired and motivated.
So are you ready to go from procrastination to power?
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can anyone make sense of my persistent symptoms?
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hello!
i am diagnosed with adhd, but nothing else as far as i'm aware. i think cptsd was also mentioned in my chart when i had a therapist a while back, which makes sense because i do have adverse childhood experiences as pertaining to an abusive parental figure.
i'd like to know why i have these very specific and strange symptoms that happen quite consistently with only breaks of about a few weeks in between, sometimes lasting months. it usually starts with some sort of lack of motivation to leave my room or do any of my work- often questioning the importance of living a life outside of my confines. sometimes this just feels like general depression but also it can be sparked by having an obsession with a certain media. for example: there was a period of two months where i came home everyday and neglected my responsibilities and instead watched encanto (the animated disney movie) as many times as possible before going to bed. it actually got so bad that i genuinely believed that i was bruno madrigal, and that i was taken away from my universe.
this has happened countless other times, often times it's accompanied with pushing my friends away, avoiding general daily responsibilities, and even to a point of self harm and suicidal ideation. i become incredibly territorial about my interests too, and tear apart friendships if they claim to enjoy my media.
also- i should mention that i have long bouts of dissociation as well, forgetting what i've done over long periods of time.
any idea what this might be? i know i should seek help from a professional, i'm working on it, but it's hard in my area to get one.
⚠️ i am not seeking an internet diagnosis to go flaunting around, just ideas because i feel crazy and i haven't seen anyone else experience this.⚠️
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Discharge papers
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I lied to my mom and my job because i was manic can someone help me make discharge papers
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This face is one of trillions of broken sad mentally depressed souls join me in the stand with me movement let us join together and help each other’s mental health
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Where did I go wrong?
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Hello, I’m 17y/o and this isn’t the first time I’ve felt this way before. My life has been pretty dysfunctional since the beginning, my parents were both smokers and drinkers and got into violent fights ever since I could remember, back to back bullying , pressure from my parents to be “academically gifted”, having unstable back and forth living conditions etc.. I don’t have any friends at school, I’m not that good looking so people either ignore me or they use me just for answers but don’t want an actual friendship with me. I’m not particularly good at anything or talented in any way ether. Also I can’t hold down a job. Why is this happening to me? I’m well behaved,quiet and usually a good sport so why can’t anything go great for me? Why am I alone all the time? Why am I a background character to everyone else?
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Tw: SA // I feel someone's hand on my body but i don't remember something like that happening anything at all.. i don't know what to do...
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Recently someone told me about their SA and it shook me for them because i didn't know that and everything, they didn't want me to make a big deal out of it so I respect their wished.
But when they told me that it REALLY triggered me like really bad... (I didn't show or told them that it triggered me)
Now my whole body have been shaking from my inside and i feel hands on my body that aren't there (like ghost hands? I dont know how to explain it, sorry). I also feel like I'm going to throw up. Some time my respiration get hard to get too.
Its like a long and very slow panic attack
I know sometimes the victim forgets everything about their assault but i want a second opinion... Of there's any psychologist here or people who know what their talking about. Can you help me please i feel like I've been faking this for the past days, but faking it for who?! I'm all alone!! I'm really panicking is it just me or did something might have happened?!
(Also, i have autism and emotions are something that is really hard for me too understand, especially mine so I'm sorry if nothing was clear i tried my best..)
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Don't feel like doing anything
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I'm usually very overburdened with work on a daily basis, with 15 things to do at a time (figuratively speaking), but recently some of my responsibilities have ended and I had some free time. Ever since, I feel too lazy to actually do anything. I'm either binging shows or scrolling on Instagram, not even enjoying it much, and all the while feeling guilty about not doing any actual work. I do normally procrastinate until the very last minute to do things, except when I get a sudden surge of energy and do things early, but lately, since my work doesn't have a fixed deadline yet, I can't work up the will to work. Anyone else going through something similar? Any tips on how to get out of this rut?
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What does tik tok do for your mental health more good or bad?
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I am not doing well, please send over cheap or free resources
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Life is feeling harder than usual today. I know I should be in therapy but its expensive and my insurance doesn't cover it. Are there any free or cheap resources like apps or courses or something that people think actually work. I know there is a bunch of stuff out there, but I bet most of it doesn't do anything
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Anyone else just feel numb and unmotivated the day after a work day for whatever reason
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Nothing more I can add to this I just feel very dull every day after a work day and just end up doing nothing all day and feeling nothing
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Feel like I am loosing my mind.
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I have a tendency to overthink, over explain myself. I am a worrier. My stepmom and I just got in a fight over the dishwasher. She asked if I unloaded it. I went in and said I unloaded it last night but restarted it after I reloaded it. It wasn’t the answer she wanted and it frustrated her. We ended up screaming at each other. I feel like I have to over explain myself. That when people question my actions I have to be descriptive to a T.
She said that I just like to hear myself talk which I think is wrong. I just feel like anything I do is wrong.
I don’t know why I am posting here or how to end this. I just need a outlet.
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Just sharing my thoughts
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I’ve got nowhere else to vent, sorry for disturbing
Every day is just a constant battle with my thoughts, It’s gotten worse that I’m losing
The things that helped me can’t serve their purpose, I can’t enjoy it anymore
Can’t sleep
Can’t work properly that I’m becoming a burden to others
I can easily sense their attitude towards me, that it physical hurts and requires me to put more effort into masking that I’m alright
And I was right about my hunch on how they view me during work, I mean I do try my best but I need to double my effort
I can’t help but be slow, I can’t physically be fast
My energy is being used to battle my inner demons, the constant battle of not going to dark areas
I think I’m starting to break
I’m tired of masking
I’m tired of the battle
Just tired
Really tired
I just wanna be okay 😢
Sorry for my rant
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help
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what do i do if i keep dissociating around the person i hate?
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Anyone have any book or video suggestions for improving your mental health?
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Recently I have realized that I have things from my past that I have not effectively dealt with. I have depression, anxiety, and maybe a mood disorder, I’m not sure. I have made the necessary appointments with professionals to help me with these things. In the meantime, I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions for books, videos, etc etc from professionals that can maybe set me on the right path to getting better? Alcohol has also been an involvement. Thanks in advance, everyone
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Is this a sign of PTSD?
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Last year I was put through a very traumatic incident that I still haven't gotten over and feel depressed from.
I am a high-school student, last year someone I believed to be my friend made up a rumor and pinned me as a rascist in front of the whole school. That rumor ended up getting me jumped in the hallway without anyone to help and I was harassed and told to kill myself by many people I once was close with. Just someone mentioning the names of my bullies makes me feel very anxious and on edge. It's immediate and can sometimes I lash out at people. After seeing them in person it can take up to 2 hours before I fully calm myself down. Is this just normal defensive behavior or is it something else?
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I don’t know why I been so emotional lately
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lately I been getting mad at the smallest things. I literally got so badly mad at this thing the other day I started hurting myself. I just feel like i been so overwhelmed with emotions lately and it’s not sadness at all. I been at a dark spot before with life in general trying to OD but this is nothing like that.It’s mostly just anger and frustration but from what I don’t know. I don’t have any built up feelings. I don’t think I do, if I have any I just don’t recognize them as built up feelings. Few seconds ago I got so mad at something and after I got to my room I started hyperventilating and crying.
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I made a terrible mistake and now I'm feeling suicidal.
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How to handle overthinking about future problems?
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Hi! Sorry if this has been already asked but how can one handle overthinking about possible future problems? And I don't necesserily mean heavy concepts like climate change or aging but specific stuff related to work, family etc..
To give you just one example: without going much into details, I found a mistake that can possibly cost my company a huge amounts of money but can also never arise at all. Right now there is just no way of knowing. But so far it's ruining my mental health and keeps me awake sometimes at night.
Is there a solution to just not stress about problems that the future may bring and then face them only when they manifest themselves?
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How do I help my friend
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I (15 m) am coming to reddit for help and advice on how to handle this situation. A good friend of mine (16 f) is in a really difficult situation and I don't know how to help her. She suffers from anxiety and the last 2 intimate relations she had were catastrophic. She suffers from a very bad image of herself, she has really big trust issue and blames herself often for things that are not her fault. School is also difficult for her and she lacks motivation. I try to help her as much as I can but I am not good with that kind of stuff. I fell like I help a bit online because we talk a lot and it looks like it helps her a bit but I fail to help her irl and I don't do anything concreate for her. If you could please tell me how to help her out I would really appreciate it. If you have any questions that you fell could be important to find a solution don't bother asking them.
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Mental health support offered. I'm here if you need a friend 💓
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need someone to talk
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Tips and tricks?
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For the last 20 years I have had anxiety. Growing up in a very religious and somewhat sheltered home I was always told that these feeling were actually guilt for something I had done wrong. So from the time I was 8 until around my late 20s I spent an incredible amount of time wondering “what I had done wrong to feel this way” each time I had anxiety. Around that same time a couple years ago is when I started having panic attacks. Chest pains, numb fingers, tunnel vision, kaleidoscope vision, and feeling like I am high even though I don’t get high. Almost like a dream state where it becomes impossible to function, think, or focus. I have terrible paranoia and get stuck in intrusive thought loops and spiral. It’s like the worst parts of being too high on weed except again. I don’t smoke. It’s cause me to lose multiple jobs because employers don’t understand needing an hour break almost daily to bring myself back to zero. Im a single father and I find myself spending time I should be giving to my son locked away in my own mind trying to overcome a panic attack. And I have spent every day for the last 9 months either on the verge of a panic attack or in the midst of one. My question is. Is there any tips or tricks I can use to bring myself back once im in the thick of it? Or something I can do to bring my anxiety from a 7/10 to at least a 3/10? Im trying very hard to learn how to walk around and function during these so that I can go back to work and give my son more
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Psychology student
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Hello, i’m a first year psychology student conducting a research project on accessibility within mental health resources, i would really appreciate it if anyone could take 5 minutes to complete this document, it’s completely anonymous, thank you
Please delete if inappropriate
https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeIaV2DgqhQALwTez0bvrd5f_qEaIGroQ_IUiUX4syCEXkkLw/viewform
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I want to murder, and i don't feel guilty about it.
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(sorry if my english isn't that good, i'm not native.)
I had these feelings years ago for the first time, around maybe 5 years ago.
My friend got bullied, and that bully said something to me while showing me a butter knife they had.
they threatened me with it, i wasn't scared but i was angry. I thought about taking the 'knife' and shoving it in her eyes. I didn't ofcourse, it would've gotten me in trouble. But i know if nobody would've known it was me, i would've done it.
I get these urges sometimes randomly, and sometimes for a reason or two.
To name an example, about a year and a half ago:
I had a boyfriend, and i despised him. He was overly sexual, unfunny, unattractive, awkward, didn't know what no meant... i could go on. It was an online relationship aswell, so i couldn't have murdered him.. Wich made me wanna do it more. This is an example of reason.
And example of no reason would be:
I got angry for no real reason, atleast no obvious one.
I first felt the urge to destroy something, then it got worse and worse;
First i just wanted to kill a dog, i hate dogs. No, i despise dogs.
They're loud, submissive, annoying, hard to care for.... (sorry not sorry)
Then i wanted to kill a person. nobody in particular, wich is the biggest difference between reason and no reason. i just wanted to kill, torture... stab..
It was getting bad to the point i couldn't stop shaking, or fidgeting.
Don't get me wrong: i fidget and shake all the time, i've gotten used to it. but when this happens its more than usual.
I've been dealing with these thoughts for a while, but not like theyre on my mind 24/7,
but they just come back to me with such intensity every like 1-3 months, hold on for 10 minutes until i distract myself, and then go away. Not completely, and the physical effects take a while to return to normal aswell. And usually, it will come again in either the same day, or next day. It can come multiple times a day or two, then go for 1-3 months, and repeat.
I found out the most common cause of this is relationships, rather it'd be friends or partner.
As i said, i've dealt with this for a few years now, but it got worse around 2019 and continued getting worse and worse. i think the worst it got was 2022 until now, and i got 2 or 3 of these this year, so maybe 2023 will become the next worst year.
What do i want from posting this? Multiple things.
1. I just wanna get these thoughts out of my mind. i never really told anyone about this, due to fear of judgement.
2. I wanna know whats going on with me, this doesn't feel normal.
3. Support, i know if i wanna get better, i need support.
4. Maybe similar stories to help myself understand why i feel this way, and that im not alone.
What do i absolutely NOT want?
Telling me i'm a horrible human being, i know that already. I did a lot of fucked up shit because of my mental health and im not excusing myself or distancing myself from all bad actions i've done, but just understand that im torturing myself with my own thoughts already.
Now , i wanna end this with saying a few things. If there will be any questions - I'll answer them to the best of my ability. If anyone needs support and advice with similar things - I'll do my best to help.
I know others and myself included need a space where they can say every bad thing about themselfs,
Otherwise nobody will become a better human being. It doesn't matter if you're a psychopath, sociopath, if you're neurodivergent, or neurotypical; you should be able to get a space to get better in.
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Every time I start to think of all the things I need to do I feel physically sick.
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My grades are awful, I'm behind in everything, and every time I get a little bit of motivation to actually start trying to climb out of this academic rut, I open up my courses and see all my missed assignments. All the assignments coming up and I feel like I'm going to vomit. So I'll watch youtube videos and ignore them until I don't have any more time to complete them. It helped me to not feel bad in the moment but now it's been piling up and I constantly feel like I want to throw up I want to cry so badly I want to succeed in my classes but it feels so utterly hopeless and impossible.
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How Do You Heal From Past Trauma?
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I wanna heal from my past, I want to get better but I don't know how to do that when I don't know the cause of it all. Everyone always tells me to get to the root of the problem but I don't remember my past trauma. I have small memories of some trauma but not a lot. I know I could go to therapy but I am a minor and I can't tell my family. Well I can, they would help me but I don't want to add more to their plate. I am the oldest out of 6 and my siblings are younger then me, they need and deserve more attention then me. I don't want them to be concerned for me when I have been pretty good for a while but I'm still not better like I should be. I'm not diagnosed with anything professionally but I have self diagnosed myself with depression and anxiety, its a pretty obvious thing for me that even my family knows I have. I don't know how to go about helping myself when I don't even know what the cause of my issues even is or what I even have. I know I have depression, anxiety, and some type of eating disorder. I'm not sure which one but I believe its BED which is Binge Eating Disorder. I think I have ADHD or Autism or both, I have a lot of the symptoms for both but I also know a lot of the symptoms overlap with each other which is why I'm not sure. I think there could also be a possibility of having a mood/personality issue but I'm not even sure what that would be.
Any advice, please?
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Any advice on how to block voices in your head?
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So I'm f29 living in Cambridge (uk). me and my ex (m29) broke up at the beginning of this month, at first the break up was a shock and unexpected but looking back now it was the first thing to do because we wasnt suited and he was a narcissts.
Well, after we broke up, I wanted to have my say from the break up but he did not let me ( like he always did in our relationship, not telling me express or talk about my feelings or how i was feeling). It was very negative break up. I even sent him a plant to say sorry for any pain i coursed him and wrote a letter (4 pages) on how it wasn't all negative and there was positive and to say thank you for the time we shared and try to make it to a positive end and not hold on to all this negative energy.
Well, after getting my plant and letter, he gave my plant to someone else and after my letter he was so nasty with these horrible words and horrible name calling me to the put its been put into my head and given me suidal thoughts. I am seeing a therapist and trying to block out his voice and his cruel words. but is there anything anyone can advice that could help with his nasty words and these horrible thoughts thats been in this situation before?
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anyone can point me in the direction of good mental health criminal lawyers in Alabama ! ngri patient , constantly being denied release bc of judge being bias of the crime .
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I need mental health advice about me and a friend
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So to clarify, I have been self-harming and dealing with suicidal thoughts for years now and have already survived one attempt. Recently I met a group of friends who shared similar struggles to mine. But in that group, one girl has it really bad. Her self-harm cuts are deep to the point of causing nerve damage and she is also suicidal and has also survived an attempt. I am not sure if she is serious but she has told me that she doesn't see herself graduating highschool, nor even living to the next school year. Her parents know about her issues and believe it is just for attention, I have told the school and they seemed to have done nothing either. What should I do, I am genuinely afraid for her life at times.
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Stabbed Myself
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I had a nervous breakdown last night over a disagreement with my sibling and as result, mentally broke down. I don’t know if it’s a combination of many events the last few months that’s caused me incredible stress, but last night pushed me over the edge. I took a kitchen knife and started gently hitting my pants until it ended up stabbing me. I don’t recall if it was intentional that I would pierce my skin, but I mellowed out shortly after. Resting up over the night I feel better, but I have breakdowns a lot but this is the first time I’ve ever in my life self harmed. Appreciate whatever helps
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What's the best way to treat poor mental health at home?
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What's the best way to treat poor mental health at home? I'm interested in journals or workbooks. I have a whole slew of issues (depression (possibly depressive bipolar), anxiety, cptsd, adhd, and possibly autism (I at least present symptoms). I have been to more therapists than I can count and they've never had any long lasting effect. I've tried quite a few different workbooks including dbt and cbt but I can never seem to finish them and what I read I already know. I've taken a dozen psychology classes at college and while there are plenty of definitions, there's very little clear treatment. I'm just tired of feeling broken all the time and want some advice on something I can do or buy that's legitimately helpful because I've tried so many things.
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I have questions...
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1. Have you experienced any side effects when using depression medication? How do you feel when using these antidepressants?
2. Other than antidepressants, are there other ways to heal depressive symptoms?
3. What are the symptoms you feel after stopping the use of antidepressants?
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I’ve been alive for 20 years, and yet somehow I feel like I don’t even know myself
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It wouldn’t make sense to ask someone else “Who am I?” Unless you have amnesia one would assume you know who you are right? Yet somehow even as I write this I can’t seem to understand, I feel as though I’ve been slowly pushed into the backseat, I’m aware of my actions, I know I’m real (Although I still sometimes question my reality) I laugh and have fun with friends yet i some how can’t seem to grasp myself? I feel as though I’ve been watching my life through my eyes as a passenger. How can I know others if I can’t comprehend myself?
Edit: To explain a little more about how I’ve been feeling, sometimes it feels as though the emotions I display aren’t my own, I feel like even though I can experience emotions that they aren’t really there. I fear that one day I won’t even have the chance to experience them at all, I fear that if I were to hurt someone that I wouldn’t feel anything, if I were to kill someone that it wouldn’t effect me. (Don’t worry I don’t plan on harming anyone, I just want to make clear what it is I feel and experience)
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I think I’m Depressed and don’t know what to do
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So, I’m really just posting this here to vent and ask for advice and don’t really want this to go viral or anything like that, so if you see this please don’t share it with others.
I (22M) have been going through a tough time these past few months. I’ve noticed symptoms that would indicate I was depressed but never really considered the fact I could be depressed until a few months ago.
Let me start by saying I was never really one of the popular kids and never really one of the kids that were bullied growing up, but I fell into the category of just kind of being there. That’s kind of how I have felt my entire time through school. I would try and fit into social settings and didn’t really have a tough time finding people to hang out with due to sports and other activities but it always felt like I was just there, I wasn’t wanted there but they could tolerate me for periods of time. So throughout school have accumulated a fair bit of acquaintances, but none that I would consider my close friends. So, I rarely ever get texts from other people asking what I am doing or even how I’m doing, and this has really been weighing on me.
I fell like no one wants to be around me ever and it really sucks. I honestly fell like if I were to drop off the face of the earth there would be 3-4 people outside my direct family that would actually care I was missing. And I know 3-4 people might seem like a lot and I know having a family that loves me is more than some people have but I don’t know how to ask for help.
Currently everyone is on Spring Break and no one texted me they had plans. I know I could have asked, but my anxiety about being the unwanted member wouldn’t let me “barge into their vacation” is how I essentially saw it, and I feared if I did go I would be the one they left everywhere and didn’t inform what they were doing. I’m tired of being the one to reach out all the time. If they wanted me there they would have talked to me about it right? So now I’ve just been sitting in bed the last few days thinking why am I always the afterthought, why don’t they want me around, why am I such a loser, and if I were to die I wouldn’t really care that much anymore because most of the people I thought were my “friend” don’t actually care for or about me.
PS: I wouldn’t commit. I’m too much of a pussy to firstly, and secondly I couldn’t do that to my family. However I really don’t know who to reach out to for help. My mom would worry too much and same with my dad. I don’t even know how to bring up this topic with them, I don’t want them to worry but man do I feel like shit.
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every strange thing that’s happened in the last 24 hours. please read .
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14M. As a bit of background, I am currently in therapy for anxiety , depression OCD and for the last six weeks i have been on 50mg of sertraline a day and 2 lots of 20mg promethazine a day.
since yesterday morning, i haven’t felt great but i atleast thought that the medication was working . was feeling depressed a bit the night before but something was drastically different.
I woke up and felt like i was incoherent but i wasn’t and began to feel very depressed. i put it down to just a bad day and i read online sertraline can cause depressive feelings . i continued on with my day not worrying until the nighttime .
just before i was going to get into bed ,something didn’t feel right. i started to feel strange in ways i can’t describe and I had these 1 second headaches in the same spot every 5-10 minutes . my memory then began to feel weird and i checked my blood pressure which was normal.
I then grabbed my playstation controller and headset and put it by my bedside which i never do . i always leave it on my desk. this freaked me out , but then again that could just be down to tiredness .
I got into bed and checked by blood pressure again. all normal. but something didn’t feel right at all. it felt like i was living in yesterday and then i suddenly got this strange feeling and this is the best way of describing it: it felt like I wasn’t conscious but i was at the same time . like to recall my memory it feels like none of that happened except it did . the world felt deaf and it felt like time was no longer linear . i felt as if i couldn’t process things properly, if at all. and thought brain bleed.
I then went to the bathroom and felt panicked but didn’t show it . I checked my pupils and they were fine . i then went back to my bedroom and began to text people ok reddit for advice and said it all sounds like anxiety.
at this point my brain was telling me that I was forgetting something but i don’t know what, because that’s the whole point of forgetting something . I began to feel like I was in a delirious state and i felt as if i couldn’t hang on to a thought process.
I was worried as this was not normal for me so i woke up my dad and told him what was happening . at this point when I was trying to read something i searched up on google , the words looked jumbled and i had to read it again. this has never been an issue before and i certainly don’t have dyslexia , so this made me worry .
I explained to my dad that the way I was feeling was not normal, so i asked him if I could call 111 (urgent care number) . I explained to them my situation and i was put on call later to a man who literally asked my father what he thought he should do if i was feeling delirious . at this point i realised it was pointless . he basically said it sounds like nothing physically but i disagreed.
Exhausted of all my options , i decided to go to sleep. I got around 7 hours and slept straight through and had vivid detailed dreams .
I woke up around 11am after going to bed around 4am. I still had memory troubles but not nearly as bad as the night before . I tried to convince myself I was fine and realised i still felt strange and the letters looked a bit jumbled still. I’ve tried to brush it off all day but still feeling weird. a recent feeling in the past 6-7 hours i’ve attained is the feeling like i’m waking up and suddenly realising i’m doing something while i’m doing it subconsciously . but if i backtrack and i try to remember it all feels fine. just not in the moment. this is the thing that is freaking me out .
any advice please ? any at all? does this sound like a brain bleed /mental confusion/delirium? or could this be explained by anxiety / derealization /tiredness? so scared honestly don’t know what to do.
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Quick Survey need for class discussion
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https://forms.office.com/r/QCxFYbSFQv
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I’ve never felt so afraid of bad news
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For example, whenever my mom tells me “I have something to tell you”, it portends that something terrible has happened. It gives me a sinking feeling that it has something to do with my nieces or nephews because children going missing is every parents worst nightmare. Anything I should say when I feel anxiety spiking whenever I hear the phrase “I have something to tell you”?
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I need help
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Since I was 16, I've been having really dark intrusive thoughts about SA and killing people. I was sexually abused as a child (7 years old) and I know that this is where it stems from, but I don't have OCD. I am autistic.
What's wrong with me? Is it PTSD?
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hello question about ED
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is counting calories an eating disorder? I do count calories and feel guilty after I eat a big meal. Like a few days ago i had lunch and had a sandwich at a restaurant. It had 700 calories in it and i didn't want to eat anything else.
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does anyone sometimes feel like they should not have survived some things?
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I've gone through some messed up things. My highschool was a nightmare with at least 2-3 fights daily. Middle school was worse and I couldn't defend myself then. I've been beaten up, jumped and alone for a long time. Once I learned how to fight, I was able to defend my closest friends though from a post I made in true off my chest, that didn't end well. Now after so long of being in constant hostility. I'm in college. I got much needed therapy and am working on trusting people again. I've made some good friends here now and I've been getting used to lowering my guard for once. Gotta be honest. It feels great being able to help out people rather than just be ready to fight. Still. I can't help but look back and just think that many people have died where I haven't. How on earth am I alive after all of this? People say I'm a good man and that I'm an extremely tough person but I don't feel that way at all. Honestly I didn't even think I'd make it through highschool and get here. Does anyone else get this feeling sometimes?
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“l want to go outside!”
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That’s what I was screaming when I broke down crying this morning. I was way overly tired, since my body clock is way off and I hadn’t slept all night. And it turned out my chronic pain meds patch had run low, so I wasn’t getting good pain coverage and I may have been going through some withdrawal. Still, it was a very real and painful sentiment, as I have photosensitivity, meaning my skin and body react poorly to sun exposure (skin pain, abdominal pain, worsening of systemic symptoms, etc.) and the warm beauty of the morning coming through my window just reminded me of the hot and humid days that will have me trapped in my house because dysautonomia keeps my body from properly adjusting to either and my connective tissue disorders make my joints into weather stations that only broadcast horror movies every time the barometer shifts. I’m physically in terrible pain much of the time, and it’s weighing on my emotional as well. I know that therapy could help, but I can’t have it on my record. Literally, it would be one more reason for doctors to not give me the pain medicine I need, instead of realizing the pain is making me lose it, not the other way. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone, but sometimes I wish they had a clue. Anyway. I just wanted to be able to say it to someone other than the dust bunnies in my room. Thanks.
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Help me build a sub to share your issues and give advice!
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I don’t know if it’s allowed here, but I am writing this post to make my sub grow. As I struggled a lot finding help, this sub was great for advice, so it inspired me to create my own. I’ll be online pretty much everyday to help people and share my experiences! The sub also has a live chat for immediate help. The sub is r/mentalhealthshare , and whoever wants can join!
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depression worsens at night?
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is it normal for depression, or suicidal ideation to increase when it gets late? is there a reason for it?
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Can depression cause extreme fatigue?
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I’ve been going through it the past few weeks. I think I’m suffering from autistic burn out, but I’m not too sure. Basically for a while now I’ve been not taking a lot of joy in things: I used to watch YouTube/ tv and read a lot but now doing that causes me a lot of anxiety.
This came to a head today. It was my day off and I usually spend those writing and I usually enjoy that but just the thought about sitting there with an open page made me feel really unwell.
So I decided to watch some stuff and still felt crummy so I just turned everything off and went to sleep.
I slept from about 9am to 5pm, picked my roommate up from work and felt so tired again that I went straight to bed.
Part of me is worried that I’m sick, but I also wonder if this is depression. Like. I don’t want to be awake because being awake is too stressful if that makes sense?
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Daily affirmations to nourish the 5 personality domains 🧠
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Openness to Experience "Every day, I embrace the beauty of the unknown, and I am excited to learn and grow. Like a traveler in a new city, I am eager to explore the world around me, uncovering hidden gems and expanding my horizons." Quote: "Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever." - Mahatma Gandhi
Conscientiousness "I am the master of my destiny, and with diligence and perseverance, I achieve my goals. Just as a skilled gardener tends to their plants, I nurture my dreams, cultivating success through organization and dedication." Quote: "Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." - Robert Collier
Extraversion "Today, I radiate warmth and energy, connecting with others and sharing joy. Like the sun's rays reaching out to touch the Earth, I spread my enthusiasm and positivity, lifting others up as I shine." Quote: "The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn't said." - Peter Drucker
Agreeableness "I am a beacon of kindness and compassion, fostering harmony and understanding in my relationships. Like a gentle breeze that soothes a troubled sea, I bring calm and unity, nurturing the bonds that connect us all." Quote: "No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted." - Aesop
Emotional Stability "Grounded and serene, I maintain inner peace and balance in the face of life's challenges. Like a mighty oak tree, I stand firm and strong, weathering the storms with grace and resilience." Quote: "Do not anticipate trouble, or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight." - Benjamin Franklin
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Looking for guidance
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(Posting from my phone, also first post ever and first time visiting this group, so my apologies for anything that is off).
I recently started a new job after being in a two-person department at my previous job for 13 years. My partner-in-crime at my old job was around my age (approaching 40) and we had similar mindsets and experiences growing up. You don't miss work, you struggle through stress, etc.
My new job has me working with a larger team including younger members who have different takes on a number of issues, including mental health, so I'm running into a number of different experiences.
One member of my team recently took a short leave for mental health reasons - I don't want to provide many details as it was abrupt so I don't know exactly what happened.
How should I handle this person's return? Should I just treat it as if the time didn't happen and let them address it when they're comfortable? Should I welcome them back (and doing so, reference the fact they were gone)?
I don't want to cause any kind of stress for my coworker, or any kind of backslide. What's the best way to handle the situation?
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when can i get alone time
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I'm in school everyday and I got my parents who is all over me everyday every minute every hour
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How do I not beat myself up or get down/depressed about talking to women and dating?
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I tend to be very hard on myself when it comes to dating and talking to women. I have had anxiety and social anxiety my whole life and have had some insecurities about myself growing up and still do.
Back story: I was very shy in high school and only spoke to my close friends. I never approached any girls. The girl I lost my virginity to my junior year in high school I only spoke to when I took her home from school. I was afraid to talk to her in school. Then, my senior year of high school, I entered into a relationship with a girl that went to a different high school. That lasted 4.5 years until my last semester of college.
When I got out of college, I was so excited to get out to bars with friends. Little did I know how hard it would be to talk to women being a shy guy. Time went on with no luck from the bars and seeing a few of my friends have luck and taking women home from the bars. Tinder and bumble were also very hard for me. Then Covid hit which made it hard for everyone.
The last couple years starting in 2021, I have gotten a lot better at talking to women and have been on many dates. Hinge dating app has been better than tinder and bumble. I’ve been with a few more women too. No relationships though. I just still get very down on myself. I feel it really messes with my head when I go on a date or two with a woman I find really attractive and then she friend-zones me. Or when I’m texting them and they just ignore me. Women have so many options and can get a guy whenever they want. Since my last girlfriend, only two of the girls I’ve had sex with I was really attracted to, but they both just didn’t work out for a relationship. The other women I had sex with I was kind of attracted to but more just me wanting to have sex. I’d like to attract girls that I’m really attracted to. And I’d like to say I’m a decent looking guy too. I workout and take care of myself.
I feel like I compare myself to other guys and how many women they have gotten or how attractive of a girl they can get. It’s really bad if me to do this and I need to get out of this bad thinking. A lot of the dating advice on YouTube can be helpful, but some of it is just toxic as it says you have to be this kind of guy with this amount of muscle, money, or blah blah blah.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated on how to not be so self sabotaging when it comes to dating and talking to women.
Thanks!
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How have you grown as a person in the last year?
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As this year comes to an end, let us reflect on our growth in the past year before we close another chapter and prepare for new beginnings in the new year! Do you feel you are a changed person or do you feel stagnant?
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I can’t seem to move on
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Recently broke up with my ex. They were avoidant and I am anxious. But I had been going to therapy for about a year now to heal my inner child and become a secured person. My ex after 4 years wanted to see other people. Told me that they didn’t care if I was with other people, had another relationship, and didn’t care if we were exclusive. Which is why I broke up with them since they didn’t care. I keep telling myself that I did what I had to do for myself. That we have different values. I have been reading self healing books. Hanging out with family and friends. Trying to move on. But I keep thinking about them. I loved them so much. I wanted us to share our worlds together. The only thing I looked forward to growing up was spending it with someone I loved. I wanted to grow old with someone. I wanted to have funny moments together. Enjoy the mundane things in life. Travel and take goofy pictures. I saw all that with this person. Then one day they just decided that it wasn’t for them. They didn’t want to push me away but they did. I’m in my early thirties and now I’m back to square one. I guess lessened learned but I really did want them to feel loved. I just wasn’t what they wanted.
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I need help, but not for me
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Hello, I am here because i desperatly need help.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a bit more than a year now, and it became a distance relationship for about 5 mounths now because he had to move out for his studies. Now the thing is is that he is (probably because he hasn't seen any professional) depressive (sry for bad english). He is encountering a lot of different problems and never had any luck in life (trust me he really hasn't, like sometimes it's unbelievable how much bad luck he had). Now, he his going through a lot of stress because of money and job problems, his motivation is going down a lot too. And the thing is that I don't know how to support him through the distance. I'm trying to show as much love as I can, but I'm afraid of giving too much and to overwhelm him, but I'm also afraid of not giving enough. Also, I'm not feeling well too because of the fact that I will soon graduate and go in superior and I'm freeked out about having responsabilitie, not being enough etc. And because of my mental state, I'm not being able to show as much love as usual, and I'm feeling guilty for that. I'm trying my best to show him love, to show him that I will always be at his side no matter what, and I feel like it's not enough. I don't know what to do more that could at least a little bit cheer him up. I'm trying to play games with him, we're having at least 2 phone calls a week... The thing is that for both of us, our love language is physical touch, but I'm not able to give him that because of the distance (he is 700km away from my home). I'm trying to come see him as much as I can, which means about every month and a half (so during each school vacations), but it is not enough for both of us. I just don't know what to do, I don't know how to deal with the fact that he's not feeling well. I feel lost, and not enough because I don't know what to do to cheer him up. I feel like I'm doing the best I can but it also feels like it's not enough and I feel ashamed of that. So, I'm asking for your help, maybe you have some advices of how I could give reassurance to my boyfriend ? How I could at least a tiny bit boost his mental state ?
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I can’t seem to be happy anymore
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This started back around dec 2022, I (14 m) was tryin to get a girlfriend since most of my friends at the time had one and I wanted to fit in. I’ve been going to the gym regularly for a while now so I thought I had a head start on getting a girl. I used to dm girls to try and talk to them and they’d just leave me on open on or delivered. After the first 5 girls I really didn’t think much of it, I kinda just brushed them off. I would be on call with my friends while asking the girls and if they didn’t respond my friend would just tell me “ it’s alright bro, she just ain’t the one” or “it’s just a girl bro”. Stuff along those lines. As I texted more girls and them ignoring me It started getting to my head. Originally I wanted a girl to be around with so I could just talk to, then I went to wanting a girlfriend to be happy. Now i don’t even think getting a girlfriend would even make me happy. I don’t have any thoughts of hurting my self or any bad intentions towards my self, but if I’m in my room by my self at night I just randomly start crying just think that my friends can do it so easily but I can’t. I’m not jealous about my friends or anything like that. I don’t really know what to do at this point anymore.
My bad on this post being so scatted around, this is my first time posting anything to reddit.
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Is there a word for this?
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Sometimes I get a feeling that I’m being watched and have a gun pointed at my head my it’s hidden. I’ll get lots of like flashes of somebody shooting my brains out in my mind and I get really freaked out.
Normally I sometimes feel like every so often people are hiding in my house when I visit home from college, so I’ll look under my bed or whatever, but sometimes I feel like frozen with fear that somebody might be aiming a gun at me.
I KNOW that nobody’s there, and that that’s ridiculous, but it really freaks me out and I’ve been feeling like that for like an hour now and I don’t know how to get it to go away.
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Woke up next to someone claiming to be my boyfriend today.
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I suffer from severe amnesia due to childhood trauma. However, I don’t remember this man at all, despite him having lots of evidence that we have been together for years. I also don’t quite recognize my body, or my name. It feels slightly off to me. I’m supposed to have an appointment with my therapist today, and I’m worried I’ll get put into a psych ward over this. I might cancel. I just honestly don’t know what to do about this.
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I’m 16 and I think something is wrong
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I’m 16 and I don’t get horny around people LOL. I don’t even feel anything I’m not sure if it’s my depression or my anxiety. I broke up with my very first gf 3 months ago she was my very first kiss and eveything LOL. I’ve read that it could be by watching to much porn which I do jerk off and watch a lot LOL. I’m stopped yesterday to see if that helps I’m not sure what’s wrong with me. I just feel so numb. I can’t really get hard without touching myself. When I see a beautiful girl I like LOL I don’t get hard I’m scared actually
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How do I express myself
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Hi this is my first ever post, I’m 19M I’ve been in a relationship with a girl for a year and a half. I made a mistake at the beginning of our relationship and got nudes from another girl. I tried to put it past me but she found out after a year of us together. Ik that I have no room to complain but I feel like she just doesn’t care about me anymore, I feel like I have to work hard to get her trust back and win her love again. Because of this I don’t go with her to my insecurities because she thinks I’m projecting and she thinks that I’m doing something wrong. Ig it’d be good to mention we are doing long distance right now and it makes it so much more tough. I tried to talk to her tonight about how I felt I told her that I feel like she’s been distant and that combined with her partying with her friends every weekend was causing me to spiral. She told me that she doesn’t understand why my problem has to be hers, this hurt and I tried to explain that Ik I’m overthinking and i trust she would never do anything but I’m just insecure. She took a while to respond so I went on tik tok I saw she was active and that hurt so much. I called her out and she didn’t see anything wrong with it she said she was waiting for me to respond and decided to go on tik tok. Some may agree with her that there was no malice behind it but it made me feel like the conversation wasn’t important to her. Even now she’s telling me that by talking about my insecurities it’s taking away from the postive attention I give her and that she wants me to keep the spark alive by making her feel special. LIKE I LITERALLY JUST WROTE MY FINAL ABOUT HOW MUCH LOVE I HAVE FOR HER. I don’t want to go to anyone else cause they don’t know her like I do and everything I’ve written probably paints her in a negative image but I’m so tired of not being comfortable when I’m struggling and it turning back on me for being insecure. I just don’t know how to express how I feel or too who…
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Anyone else been saved by the humour of the utter shittiness that is online suicide help?
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The amount of times I’ve been undergoing the absolute horrors of the human condition, and have ended up being stopped in my tracks by the self awareness of laughing at calling a suicide line just to talk to a bot. LOL.
Bit ironic, I guess.
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A weird experience
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I have had a long history of mental health like dissociating, PTSD, depression and other things. As a child I was taken away by the state from my parents. I eventually found a family that would take me in. I was not treated well when my mom married again to another woman. (I am not against LGBT, just think children should be protected and loved by whoever they are being raised by.) Anyways I was able to work through my trauma to get to a better place. I have always said that my subconscious would protect me even if I was asleep.
Anyways, I was staying at a friends house and I went to sleep around 11:00 pm to 12:00 am. Totally knocked out. Later my friend came down to check on me around 2:00 am and apparently, according to him, when he was making sure I wouldn’t overheat, I had my glasses on and the lights on. I know that before I went to sleep I took off my glasses and turned off all the lights. When he approached me, my body responded by backing up and inching back. He also said my eyes were squinting and he thought it was just me getting used to the light. I have no recollection of any of that. I don’t know what it could be other than a part of me that I developed as a child to protect me from danger.
Has anyone else had something like this? I don’t know what to make of this. It seems like it would only respond if this other side of me is surprised, threatened, in danger or needs to. Is there a name to this?
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Can someone please help me?
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This is gonna be a long post about the things that are possibly or possibly not wrong with me, so bear with me. I’m 16 years old and a while back I was diagnosed with depression. I’m medicated now but I still have a lot of issues that could be unrelated or related. I don’t know.
A quick content and trigger warning for a myriad of issues. Nothing majorly heavy, just a bunch of small issues adding up. (I wasn’t sure if I should tag this but I’m doing it just in case-)
I’m gonna copy paste a list I’ve compiled at the bottom of this post that names all of the things I’ve found wrong with me over time. I have no idea if some of them have been there since childhood (I say childhood, but I’m still just 16. You know what I mean), because for some reason I don’t remember a large portion of my childhood, but I think some of it may have been present since that time?
I do not feel normal whatsoever. All of the neurotypical people I’ve met are nothing like this. I know this is Reddit so I’m gonna take any comments I get with a grain of salt, but I need help. I do have a counselor, but she has told me that I’m completely normal. She said this was on track for kids my age but I don’t really meet people like this, and when I do, they’re neurodivergent. Please help. I’m desperate. I need to know what’s wrong with me. Is this really all normal? It doesn’t feel like it at all.
Also, I’m well aware some of these things could be completely normal, but I feel as if a lot of these are definitely not.
Please help me. If you think I’m normal, tell me. And if you don’t think I am, can you point me in a direction of what it could be? I used to think I had autism but now I think I have bipolar. Ive got a friend who calls me bipolar as a joke and now I worry he’s right. Maybe I’m just a hypochondriac and this is all in my head. I hope not, because I really feel like something is wrong with me.
I want to say that I don’t think there’s anything inherently “wrong” with neurodivergent people. It’s just the word choice I made because I wasn’t sure what other word I could use to get my point across.
I hope this post was at least somewhat clear and concise, as I’m very scatterbrained at the moment and it’s 1AM as I write this. I apologize if there are any mistakes in my grammar or punctuation.
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The list:
1. Talking too much
2. The opposite, talking a minimal amount. It fluctuates
3. Talking about (and thinking about) things I’m hyperfixated on repetitively
4. Forgetting about what things I talked about with what people so I repeat it
5. Interrupting. I think this is more just a me problem than a brain problem, but I’m so bad with interrupting and sometimes I don’t even realize it
6. Fidgety. I feel the need to move a lot
7. Sensory overload. Everything becomes too loud and too much. Goes hand in hand with breakdowns. Sound is too much, I’m I taking too much info, I’m angry and wanna hurt myself, touch is too much. This is like, detrimental to me and it affects me the most out of anything else on this list.
8. Breakdowns. I freak out over the smallest things. The urge to scream and hurt myself are strong, I panic. This goes hand in hand with the sensory overload sometimes.
9. Hyperfixating on certain things for days to weeks to even years until I find no more interest in it. I never get burnout, just keep thinking about said thing until something else piques my interest.
10. Terrible outbursts of anger. I’ve gotten much better at controlling these, though. I think it was just a puberty thing.
11. I talk before I think of what I’ll say. I’m very impulsive.
12. Fluctuating moods. I can be incredibly outgoing and bubbly one second and then quiet and upset the next and vice versa. Sometimes I’ll have a week or so of pure extroverted-ness and then I’ll have a major depressive crash
13. I change the subject multiple times in a few seconds. It’s mostly over text, but a lot of it is irl, too.
14. Intrusive thoughts (ie: I’m gonna hurt this person, I’m gonna hurt myself, what if someone came in here and shot me, someone is in the house, what if we crashed the car and died right now)
15. I absolutely cannot focus on work while people talk. I’ll start getting anxious and frustrated if this happens. (Also goes hand in hand with overstimulation)
16. Overthinking things I didn’t used to overthink (this has drastically increased and has heavily affected my life) (Ex. I hear a noise that’s weird, I think someone has come in and killed my family. I hear weird sounds outside, I think there is an intruder or I think a bomb is being dropped. Not even fucking joking. I fear nuclear attacks way more than I should.)
17. Horrible panic when left alone in public or when I’m asked to do something out of my comfort zone. I can’t ask strangers questions, I can’t ask for help, I can’t DRIVE. It’s just a crippling anxiety.
18. I either eat too much or way too much or way too little. My appetite fluctuates greatly. I switch between overeating and then limiting myself to a meal a day.
19. Constantly changing sleep schedule. I can sleep just fine for a period of time one night and wake up refreshed, and then the next night I’ll go to bed at the same time and be exhausted. Things like that.
20. I can’t tell what other people think of me. I can’t read their emotions so I assume they hate me. I’m so terrible at reading emotions-
21. Constant zoning out, and if I don’t get to zone out when I want, I feel really weird and upset
22. Derealization episodes(?) Not very common, but it sucks anyway.
23. I have a hard time communicating how I feel
24. Sometimes I talk way too fast or way too slow
25. I often find myself slurring and tripping over my words
26. Weird coping mechanisms (rocking body, moving my head in rotations, repetitive motions such as popping bones, tapping, or tearing my nails off)
27. I violently hate the texture of certain things. I can’t stop myself from thinking of rubbing my teeth against them and it makes me sick. (Fuzzy things, clothes, seatbelts)
28. I’m so terrible with dates and numbers and such. I also just have a bad memory in general
29. I don’t understand when a certain thing I’ve said is rude. By the time I realize, its usually too late.
30. I have what I can only describe as manic episodes. It’s like a week of pure euphoria where I’m insanely productive and then a depressive crash. I know I already talked about that but I wanted to go more in depth with it.
31. Huge fluctuations of sexual or romantic attraction
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Reasons to stay?
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TW; su!c¡dal thoughts
Recently, my dad told us his thoughts of su ¡c¡de have returned. He revealed to us a few of the ‘reasons’ he uses to talk himself down when feeling this way. Reasons to live, basically. some examples being myself and my siblings, my mom, their dogs etc.
I’d like to start a journal for my dad. Letters to him along with a list of more ’Reasons’. Some ideas I have include:
Sunrises & sunsets
Future grandchildren
Bella’s (their chocolate lab) goofy grin when her lip gets caught on her teeth.
I was wondering if you all could contribute some more. What are your reasons? What should I add to the list.
Thank you for reading 💛💛
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I feel awful and alone…
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Hi I (17f) am kind of having a hard and complicated time period in my life rn.. so I dropped a ex best friend not to long ago 2 months I believe, anyways my friend group I was in with them was a group of 4 and my other two friends were devastated once they found out what happened between me and them..They felt horrible that the group was breaking up, but I didn’t care. Let me explain what this “best friend” of 2/half years was treating me like. She started being rude to me and i know that she has a fat ego I’ve told her about and I told her that it doesn’t make me feel good when she puts me and the friend group down to lift her self up. When I said things or tried to talk about things that meant something to me she’d put the conversation on herself again. She’d brag about the same shit every day. I felt like I was dumb and useless and that I always told myself she was smarter than me. And she would tell me about all her exes and how they still like her and stuff…especially when a new guy came to school she claimed that he was her ex..which is a lie..he’s never even been to our town and dude was a whole 19 year old. ANYWAY fat ego like i said but her treatment towards me got to me really bad it started causing me pain it got so bad to the point were I started to get into these really dark places mentally and I just felt like shit. And I just could not fucking do it anymore so cut her off. Buttt this comes with some uh idk how to say it. But my nephew went into some depression over the whole thing he didn’t want our group to split. But I just said drop me too, to cause him less stress of trying to be friends with the both of us. But now since then I’ve been kindof distancing myself from everyone and he’s been hanging with her at lunch in school while I’m up in the library. (I have no classes with him I only get to see him at lunch or in passing periods) And i told him I didn’t care that he talks or hangs with her. But I have to admit it hurts me. even the three of us complained about her together and she treated us all like shit. But I tried to be a reallly good friend yknow like I was there when they needed to vent or cry I gave advice on there life stuff. and now that he hangs with her at lunch then still tries to talk to me but protect her at the same time is insane to me. so now I just dont wanna talk to him either. ON TOP OF THIS BULLSHIT I broke up with my manipulative bf. also I don’t talk or even hang out with anyone anymore I feel like shit…I cried over this dumb shit and I feel bad for being pissed about this.-
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Feeling sad
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I had a normal day for the most part. Then as time went on I started feeling sad and more and more and i decided to get more therapy snacks to try and take my mind off the feelings. Feelings of sadness and loneliness and some others. Thinking about people and where I stand with possible annual things happening and if they do or don’t will I do something different or similar like will I stay at this event or not attend or if it doesn’t what will I do
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I feel suicidal because of my parents 3 plus year long toxic manipulation but they provide too much for me to move out that I won't get outside of home if I moved
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My life has been depressing since October of 2019 when I made a mistake and dropped some stuff because I tried to hold too much and forgot to put my phone in my pocket earlier. I start off by explaining my mistake was because I forgot to put my phone in my pocket but my dad ignored me and I pushed him to get him to respond and then he told Mom what I did and made me seem like the instigator and that it is overall only my fault. My mom believed him and made me apologize to him and tried to scare me by telling me that I could get in big trouble. I have pushed him three more times since that incident for different reasons each time and I was forced to apologize by mom each time for acting out of desperation to get him to talk to me due to him ignoring me when I did actually start off by talking to him in October of 2019. I still get taken care of by my parents but that doesn't mean that they aren't toxic and if I move out I would be alone. I can't leave a place that is toxic because I am provided with everything that I need except consistent regular communication outside of asking me what I want to eat or telling me I have food that I have food downstairs that they have just bought for me. I feel like I mishandled being ignored because of my parents toxic manipulation even though I'm only seeking consistent regular communication outside of just being told or asked about food. I also feel guilty for not having the TV on channels my dad normally watch. I have to live where I'm unwanted and can't leave because of my health trouble and lack of money to move because I get fed and taken care of. I can't reach out to others because they would victim blame me and not understand how my depression truly started. My dad has also threatened to kill me and told me there was the door. I have too many disagreements differences with dad overall. My dad also talks about sports and other news and occurrences and stuff that stress me out.
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I know I should seek professional help, but doubt it will work.
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I (32yo male) have been suffering from depression for most of my adult life. The past few years I haven noticed it getting progressively worse. A couple years ago I was diagnosed with anxiety and Major depressive disorder. I am an introverted person with social anxiety which makes it hard to make friends. I can count my friend circle on one hand and a few of them I don't even socialize with often. Two days ago while reading I came across Avoidant Personality Disorder and it describes my brains functioning to a tee and everything seems to make more sense now. I don't have a license due to anxiety, why be anxious? because I don't want to make a mistake and or be embarrassed or cause an accident. I am anxious when shopping because I feel like I am always in somebody's way. I have trouble forming and maintaining relationships because I tend to be distant or cold. I don't go to social gatherings because I am quiet and never have anything to say. I have been labeled "weird" because of that on multiple occasions. I also dislike them because I hate to interject or feel like I am interrupting when I do try to speak. I had a coworker once who said when she first saw me she was actually afraid of me because she thought I was going to be mean and followed it up by telling me I was really nice. Everything about me is just isolating. I also think this is the reason for my depression. I am always lonely, even on the off chance I am with friends. The meaningful romantic relationships I have had ended due to a perceived lack of interest. Others because I got bored or tired of them after a couple weeks to a couple months tops? Is there even any hope for an individual such as myself or should I just resign my self to being lonely for the rest of my time?
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it feels like we never met
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hi guys, so recently i had became friends with this girl who i REALLY liked, i made her valentines cookies, i taught her guitar for a bit, i learned her fav songs but i realized she never wanted to talk to me, or even be around me. i felt lied to so i stopped talking to her about 2 weeks ago. i don’t like her anymore but i have this weird thing, it feels like i never met her, it feels like ive never seen her, like ive never interacted with her, like we were never friends. its like i know nothing about her yet deep in my head i know so much about her. whenever i see her its like she not there. does anyone know what this is ??? im so confused and lowkey scared 😭 i wonder if it’s because it was so one sided, but i dont rlly know. it all happened so fast
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Homework Fatigue
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Every time I go to do homework my body gets so heavy and my brain feels so foggy. I try to push through it but I can't and it makes doing it miserable. Are there any techniques for getting around this?
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Why life is so hard ?
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I am a college student , I get great marks, I got a wealthy family, everything seems perfect. But somehow I feel really sad. From past some time I don’t feel any emotions it’s like I am watching a movie. The only emotion I feel is anger. I hate my mother she’s never emotionally available, today morning she told me I should be more stable, when she’s the one who screams and cries one moment and laughs the next.
I don’t want to come back home, I come back after two weeks, in hostel in my room I cry every night. I really want to be at home but because of her I don’t want to.
I don’t want to live it’s really hard, nobody seems to understand. I feel absolutely numb but since this morning I’ve been crying. My eyes hurt.
Idk I just want to cry and sleep.
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I’m 16 and I don’t get hard around girls or anyone
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I’m 16 and I don’t get horny around people LOL. I don’t even feel anything I’m not sure if it’s my depression or my anxiety. I broke up with my very first girlfriend 3 months ago she was my very first kiss and eveything LOL. I’ve read that it could be by watching to much porn which I do jerk off and watch a lot LOL. I’m stopped yesterday to see if that helps I’m not sure what’s wrong with me. I just feel so numb. I can’t really get hard without touching myself. When I see a beautiful girl I like LOL I don’t get hard I’m scared actually
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I cannot focus and achieve/study
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Hi, this might seem like a rant. But recently (this whole semester has been feeling like a fever dream). I gained like 20ish lbs and have been feeling quite depressed even in happy moments of my life. Every morning I wake up, I am frustrated that I have to start another day.
I have been doing pretty well in my first year at uni grade-wise (my mental health in first year was shit and I was struggling with sleep and got diagnosed with anxiety disorder). I was receiving small scholarships, getting lab opportunities and feeling proud of myself for getting ahead. I am in my second year now, my first-semester grade had been great (4.0 GPA and the averages for those classes are all low 70 ish with over 200 people). But the second semester, I am not feeling myself (depressed, skin breaking out, not working out enough, also got a little kitten whos a lot of work) and I am doing below my expectations for quite a few exams. I feel like I am being too hard on myself because I constantly feel disgusted by my unmotivated self, but I am TERRIFIED of taking exams now because I have been doing really terrible on exams (self-sabotaging during exams) and I am overplaying everything in my head. I am extremely self-aware of my issues and know I need to stop but I just can't.
I have dreams that NEED at least a PhD degree and I am already tired during my undergrad? I will be starting a summer job working in an amazing lab but I am scared I will be incompetent and I totally lack confidence in myself (the other hired summer student is super amazing at what he does).
I am just so sick and tired of myself. Sometimes I can't help but slap myself when I am studying and have self-harm thoughts. I am constantly complaining about my marks to the point where my friends are a little bit upset by them. Yes, school is a major issue because of the exam confidence I've lost, but I am more disgusted with my current state rn (overweight, greasy hair, total lack of confidence, complaining all the time and shitty exam performance).
Yes, I do base my identity on my grade because it has A LOT OF impact on my chosen career. Also, it is an amazing confidence booster when u do better than everyone else.
I have 2 midterms tmr after bombing another important midterm last week. I am judging myself constantly, how do I stop?
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I don't feel like I'm depressed enough for it to count
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For the past 8-ish months, I've felt consistently down and almost hopeless. These feelings seem to waver in their intensity, and seem to back off when I distract myself with something pressing. However, as soon as whatever situation I was in clears up or I have time alone, the sadness and the hopelessness comes right back. About two months ago, I started to wonder if what I've been feeling is normal. I began to look into different types of depression—specifically high functioning—and noticed I share a few symptoms.
1. Very little interest or pleasure in my hobbies
2. Feeling sad and hopeless
3. Inconsistent sleep schedule
4. Feeling incompetent/without meaning
With all of these things in mind, I decided it would be best to ask other people for advice. First, I talked to my mom (who has depression). She said that medication had helped her but therapy was also an option, and that we should probably get a doctor's opinion. Ultimately, she was pretty indecisive about what I should do, and seems to have forgotten about our conversation entirely. I spoke with another friend who experienced clinical depression, and they essentially told me to suck it up because other people have it worse. This puts me where I am today. I feel pretty invalidated by what a few people have said to me, and I'm left wondering about my mental health as a whole. I know the sadness I'm feeling isn't normal, but on the other hand, I feel like I shouldn't be complaining when other people have it so much worse. Does anyone have any thoughts on what I could be going through or suggestions of some kind? Feeling pretty lost right now.
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ive started vaping/smoking to stop self harming
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i don't really know how to fix this. i've been self harming for the past few months and I recently started using nicotine products. ive realised that because of this, ive been able to stop doing sh as frequently as i used to. whenever id think about doing it, id vape or smoke instead to try and take my mind off it and its working but now i don't know what to do. im way too young to be doing this stuff but im scared if i stop ill relapse into hurting myself again but if i keep going ill fuck up my lungs. i dont want anyone to find out either because then ill have to explain to them why I'm doing this and this isn't something i want to speak to anyone about. what do i do?
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Does it get better ?
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All I wanted to all my life was to go to art school a-lot of shit happened and I ended up in business school due to our education system being corrupt every time I see someone drawing i feel sadness and hurt every time i get up go to uni and sit through my lectures I honestly want to die I keep telling myself thats okay and that I am fine and whatever at least that way I can make more money but I am not most of the time I cant even breathe its like I have lost my only chance at happiness fr I keep telling myself it wont matter in a couple of years but I am halfway through my second semester and I cant stop crying when its brought up so does it get better or are ppl who tell you that everything happens for a reason and that god has a plan are saying the truth some might find it very dramatic but it was my life long dream it was the only thing I ever wanted and it doesn’t help that I was already accepted in art school
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Starting to get concerned-avolition?
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I am in my last semester of school before I graduate. I have an F in one class and have not been able to do homework for over three weeks now and barely show up to class. I don't want this to be happening. I try to go to the library to do homework. I try to go to the local cafe to do homework. I try to tell myself I am going to go to class everyday. I care about the things I am studying. But I spend hours every day in bed just panicking about how physically incapable my brains seems to do these things. I don't know what to do and I'm scared I'm going to fuck this up.
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How to support your love ones with mental illness
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My parents, who emigrated from India to the United States, both worked as farmers to provide me with a brighter future and opportunities they never had. However, they were disappointed to learn of the various challenges I have encountered, despite their best efforts. As a bisexual individual coping with mental illness, I found myself feeling isolated, as my family’s conservative beliefs and immigrant work ethic did not lend themselves to discussing these topics openly. I yearned for the day when I could fearlessly introduce myself as “Ria Patel”, embracing all facets of my identity without the fear of judgement or rejection. But my fears proved unfounded when my parents embraced me with open arms and encouraged me to seek help for my mental illlness, recognizing that living in America could offer hope and the promise of a better future. Thus, I sought out treatment and learned that I was suffering from Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Depression-diagnoses that both confirmed and alleviated my struggles. Receiving my diagnosis brought me to tears, not from sadness, but from validation. The Indian community had made me feel like my mental health struggles were a form of madness, but the diagnosis showed that I had a treatable condition. With renewed purpose, I sought help through therapy and medication, which helped me reclaim my well-being. Yet the question always remained, why am I the only Indian that grappled with these challenges? But I wasn’t the only one. I was one of the few willing to openly discuss the topic. To address this lack of dialogue and raise awareness in South Asian communities, I founded a non-profit organization called Project Shakti. Project Shakti aims to combat the stigma surrounding mental health in South Asian cultures, which stems from a lack of knowledge and understanding about mental illness. Many people in these cultures may not recognize warning signs or may be hesitant to seek help due to misconceptions about mental health being a sign of weakness or shame. As part of Project Shakti's mission to promote engaging mental health education, I established a Redbubble account offering merchandise that promotes awareness of mental illness and a donation page supporting the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. Our organization's blog offers multiple perspectives on mental health to combat isolation, while the PS Story podcast shares a teenager's unique perspective on coping with mental illness. Additionally, we are launching a children's book that emphasizes the importance of accepting mental illness at any age. Project Shakti's message of embracing individuality and acceptance deeply resonates with my experiences of navigating the challenges of being diagnosed. I hope to contribute to a community that empowers individuals to celebrate diversity and embrace their unique identities. Because that to me is embracing the American dream.
Here is the link to our website: [https://www.projectshakti.org/](https://www.projectshakti.org/)
Here is the link to our instagram (PLEASE FOLLOW): [https://www.instagram.com/projshakti/](https://www.instagram.com/projshakti/)
The account name is projshakti
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Help helping others with mental health issues
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Hi, I have several people in my life who have bad mental health, and I don't know who to go to or where to go on helping them.
I don't know how to help because I don't have mental health issues myself, and I'd love it if someone offered some advice or pointed me in the direction of where I can get some advice.
Thanks
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I would appreciate some advice
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Hi, I have always had a well being problem mentally but lately it has gotten alot worse. Last night I was having a really bad night and I wrote a letter to my friends and family explaining why i killed myself, if I did it. I now have that letter in a box in the corner of my room and i can feel it there, like there’s a dark energy around it and I don’t know what to do with it, should I throw it away, should I keep it, should I get help?
The thing is tho I don’t trust people and that’s why I came to this point cause I have no one to turn to. I just need some advice. Thank you.
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I feel like I can’t enjoy some things anymore
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Idk I’ve just been feeling like I don’t get as much joy out of a couple of things that I used to enjoy.
Some of the feelings that I used to get when I would do certain things aren’t there anymore. It's mostly just small things like watching a show that I like or playing games that I once enjoyed. I just don’t get as much enjoyment from them as before, I just feel empty, and I’m kinda scared that I will never enjoy them again or that it will just get worse for other things as well.
It’s like I have a bad habit of not enjoying the moment. Like I don’t really notice how happy I was until I no longer feel that way, and then I just end up feeling empty and a little painfully nostalgic, like I want to go back to finding joy in things like I once did.
I try to force myself to enjoy things the same way I once did but for some reason it just feels wrong now, like I'm trying to pretend to feel in a way that I no longer do.
Does it go away on its own and will I be able to enjoy things like I once did or am I supposed to just find new things to enjoy? I don't want to let go of the things I once liked but I'm scared that I'll never be able to enjoy them the same way again, and that I'll just have to keep finding new things to enjoy just for the sake of not feeling empty anymore.
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I'm losing my mind in the mental hospital because of the girl next door
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I've been here for over a week now, and until two or three days ago the room next to mine was empty. Now there's this girl who just bangs her head to the wall between us. It's causing me anxiety because its so loud and honestly its also just so fucking annoying. I've told the nurses, they either go nicely ask her to stop, which she obviously doesnt or they take her away for a while but after a few hours she's back and continues. I've also asked to get a new room but there arent any free. Even listening to music doesn't drown the noise, it's so loud. It wakes me up in the morning and I'm so tired. It's making me so angry and stressed.
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Where do I start?
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I've been wanting to start therapy for a LONG time. I finally have insurance. But I truly don't know where to start... as in. Do I start with therapy? Or psychology? Or a psychiatrist??? What's even the difference? I don't want to go through pills as a form or treatment. No shame, I'm just currently taking birth control and would not like to mix pills and learn the after affects.
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