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How to help my brother
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Hi, so this post isn’t about my or my mental illness but my brother.
I want to start this by saying that I love my brother so much and I just want the absolute best for him. I am asking this for all good reasons.
My (22f) brother (20m) is suffering from what I believe to maybe be slight delusions or a delusional outlook on life, obviously I’m not a therapist so I don’t know exactly what to call it nor do I really want to try and label it. I don’t even know if delusion is the right word. He seems to have a very inflated self worth, which normally I would say being proud of yourself and confident is a good thing, but there is a line. He’s doing really well on the outside he’s in college, he’s in a pretty good financial situation for a college student too. Which is due in part to how hard he’s worked. But he also has had a lot of help along the way. Our father bought him the truck he’s driving and our Dad has done all of the work on it, I think without even charging him, or at least most of the parts were paid for by my dad. Most of the clothes he wears were provided by my mom, and the fact that my parents are divorced and my mom is/was a single mom means we get all of the Pell grant we can based on my moms financial situation. We’ve had pretty great parents who have helped us a lot along the way. They provide us with heath insurance as well.
So the problem is, any time any of us (me, my sister, or especially my mom) do anything he could possibly see as “against” him he runs with it. It can be any tiny little thing and he explodes. He goes on these intense rants about how no one ever helps him, he’s gotten to where his is completely on his own, and somehow we’re all so much less responsible or mature than he is even though I personally would say that of all 3 of us adult siblings are all pretty even. My sister (24f) still lives with our mom but the only reason my brother and I don’t is because we both chose to go to college too far away from home. He seems to think because he has more money in his savings account than my sister and I, that he is somehow better or more mature. He also picks fights and arguments with everyone and then repeatedly says ‘I didn’t say or do anything wrong’ I don’t know if he has ever apologized genuinely for any argument that he causes. He will just ignore the core issue and use any way he’s ever helped any of his family members as means of manipulation to try and guilt them into apologizing to him. Which honestly has been pretty successful up until now on my mom. I think he needs to go to therapy and try to find out why he thinks this way and why he treats people as bad as he does, but he genuinely doesn’t see anything wrong with any of his behavior and because he has previously gone to therapy and been discharged from therapy for anxiety that he’s all good no mental heath issues or disorders at all.
So is there anything I can do to get him to realize that he might need some help and that something isn’t okay here. He doesn’t respond well to us mentioning that we think he should go talk to someone, and he usually resorts to “but I’m better than I used to be” in regards to his anxiety or like today he just accused all of us of being insane and leaving the group chat and threatening to block us if we add him back or say anymore about it. So he stars the argument says a bunch or really mean things and then leaves.
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Im just tired and maybe I’m just broken for good
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3 years ago I (25m) went through a big break up, in these years I work on myself, graduate college got a new job, go to gym, changed up my diet, I travel, I see my friends and getting a motorcycle even go to therapy and I tell my therapist everything yet, I’m still haunted by my past
Backstory 3 years ago my girlfriend broke up with because I didn’t love myself, I didn’t care for myself and I put that burden on her and pushed her away, we both did she wasnt the most mentally healthy either but we had eachother little did I realize how much of it was a bad thing and that went on for aslong we were together for 4 years and close friends for 3 so she was in my life for 7 years. She was good person and got no more negative to say about it
To now, like I said do all these things to make my self better even things I want for myself I do, and I do date, but I never been serious not even to point of bringing anyone home (I don’t hookup) and I realize I don’t feel any connections with anyone anymore because I’m still bothered by my past I don’t if it just can’t forgive myself or I still understand it but I do know now that when the night comes just feel sad I think of her it’s almost comforting that makes me sad and sometimes I feel angry because I should’ve move on by now.
But why I did all the right things someone is supposed to do after a breakup yet I’m still here stuck and tired, and I don’t want to sound cocky it’s not because I’m unattractive either when I go out or when I’m at work or anywhere I get compliments from everyone thay good looking handsome I treat people nicely and respectfully and yet that confidence doesn’t stick with me I still feel not good enough it burdens the connection I feel to have anything intimate with anyone.
it’s just fustrating because I feel no one I talk to about myself feels like they know what I’m talking about everyone tells me you just need to work on yourself and love self or just get with someone already and I feel it doesn’t work and I just want give up on all
It
And I just tell myself “she moved on why can’t i move on… am I realy just that broken”
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i need help. all i ever want to do is sleep.
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waking up; I dread. I overthink about how people want so much from me but never offer to help me… yet I’m always helping someone. I’m tired of being independent. I’m not doing so well financially because I refuse to get up and fulfill my dreams because everything seems so hard.
:(( I can’t hold myself accountable anymore. I feel like a dead corpse. Sometimes I find myself being aggravated for no reason…. sleeping is just so easy to do.
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Splitting emotions? What does it mean?
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Just posting this while in the middle of a mental breakdown trying to see if this is normal or if anyone has advice.
I've realized recently that my brain is in one of two states at any given time:
1. Feeling level headed, able to internalize emotions and feelings, very self aware, very social, as happy as I can get, sometimes euphoric. This is the closest thing I can describe as "me" I suppose but I don't always feel like a real person or that I am "alive". Oddly enough I can pretty much understand exactly what's going on with me when I'm in this "mindset" or whatever you would call it.
2. Crying and feeling angry over rather minor things (example, today my boyfriend didn't want to hang out because he's sick. I shouldn't care but I feel like my heart is ripped out of my chest at the moment and I feel insane. I feel like he doesn't love me, and I feel very irrational). I usually have a panic attack during this as well which makes it more intense. Normally I turn to self sabotage and tend to be more manipulative. I normally don't even realize I'm getting like this until I type something out that's mean or manipulative, and it's only if I catch it before it's too late (which I recently started doing but that's because I've been very down emotionally the past two weeks). This happens at the same time as any immense emotions I feel (normally feeling anxious, sick, or depressed triggers this).
I'm trying to get my life together at the moment and I'm seeing moments of this in my new relationship, and I'm trying to get control of it. My boyfriend's very understanding and loving and I don't want to fuck this up. I feel like this is probably something I've done for a very long time that I'm just realizing. I can remember as a kid saying very manipulative things and losing a lot of friends. Are there any coping mechanisms you guys suggest?
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Reasons to stay alive?
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the title says it all.
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I walked head first into one of my biggest fears and now i dont know what to do
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Last night I was leaving my flat to go meet with my sister and our friends. I noticed my neighbours mail had pilled up more than normal and his light had been on for a while. He lived alone was very shy to the point he would hide if i was in the hall at the same time. I looked through his front window and found him collapsed. He had died alone which is something i struggle with regularly. Just fearing that ill never meet anyone who i can fall in love with or someone i can enjoy my life with. Am i scared of living or am i scared of reaching the end and realising i didn’t live to my full potential.
Ive made decent progress with depression and anxiety over the last couple of years since i told my family. It kind of comes and goes and ill have dark days possibly weeks. Im scared this is gonna set me back years of trying to build some sort of self confidence and acceptance that i have this life and its fleeting so make the most. I feel guilty every time i dont shower or brush my teeth. I never have the energy or motivation and i’m just feeding my demons.
I don’t even know why I’m posting here, i hope at least one person reads it i just needed ti put my emotions into words.
Im angry professional help is locked away. The NHS is overwhelmed and you only end up going to very generic sessions that only last until you can be drugged up enough to function as a part of society. I don’t earn enough to spend money on a private therapist either.
If you read this Thank You. Just by doing that i feel a tiny bit better. I wish you all the best
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I think I'm falling back into depression again
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Last semester, during my second year of college, I started falling into depression, mixed with anxiety. I couldn't even eat because my anxiety would take control of my stomach and basically everything would give me stomach aches. I had started to go to therapy and it kinda helped. Starting this new semester, I was feeling way better. I could eat normal stuff again and my overthinking was way less. I was starting to feel in control of myself and of my life. Now we are in March and I feel totally hopeless again. I barely have any strength to get up in the mornings, I lost my motivation and excitement for most things I loved and for my major( which I know I love but I just feel numb about it). Apart from all of that, my overthinking is getting the best of me and I can't control it anymore. I'm crying myself to sleep half of the week and I assume that the person that cares the most about me really doesn't and that everything he says about being my best friend and caring for me is all bullshit and I end up spiraling and getting mad at him really easily. I just wanna take control of my life again and not hurt my best friend with my overthinking. I went to therapy again but it didn't help. I also tried working out but it doesn't seem to help much either. Please, I really need advice on how to control myself, I wanna be better
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Tips on eating?
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Autistic, having an experience I've only had a few times before but still can't figure out how to handle.
I'm having trouble physically putting food in my mouth. Like I'm hungry, I want to eat, I have safe foods and stuff I know I will like, but I either gag or just hold it in front of my face. I can still drink water and soda, but food will not go in my mouth. I'm worried about my blood sugars, does anyone have any tips on how to trick myself into eating?
(Weed isn't working, just makes me hungrier but not enough to eat)
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Mental Health Care Evaluation Survey
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Hello! My name is Aleen, and I am a student in the Minnetonka Research Program at the Minnetonka High School. I am conducting a survey to assess the quality of mental health care in the U.S. and better understand the impact of mental health stigma.
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Relationship Anxiety/False Memory OCD *Please Help w/ This*
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*Long but detailed post*
Hi everyone,
I (19F) am in a wonderful 7 month relationship with a partner that I love so much. This is the second relationship I have been in (last one was when i was 14 and in HS), and I genuinely love my partner so much. Him (19M) and I are so deeply compatible, our relationship is filled with lots of healthy communication and laughter, and I adore the fact that we feel so comfortable being ourselves around each other. We're a Tinder match gone right. Being in a relationship is something I have always wanted, and though I acknowledge that being with a man is not what is going to complete my life, this kind of relationship we have is something I have always wanted.
Unfortunately, I really do struggle with anxiety and OCD. I was diagnosed with anxiety/depression when I was in 8th grade, and I have been on three different medications (Prozac, Zoloft, and now Cymbalta). Though I currently have a prescription, I haven't been taking it recently because I honestly don't support the idea of taking pharmaceuticals. I have found weed to help, it makes me really simmer in my emotions and opens new doors for my thought process. I have had a lot more "I'm going to be okay" thoughts when high than I have when popping a pill. As I got older, OCD symptoms really started to flourish in me around 17. I would have to do things in increments of three or I was convinced that something bad was going to be happen to me or a loved one. 17 is when I got my car and my license, and then false memory OCD started really come through. If I was driving my car and I heard a sound, I would automatically assume that I hit someone/something or killed someone/something...and didn't remember it. This was hell for me. There was one instance where I was driving home from work, it wasn't dark out, it was literally a three minute drive down the street, and I heard a noise while driving. I was so panicked that when I got home I sat by the window expecting the police to show up to arrest me for a hit and run. There have been times where I would drive around the same spot in loops to double check and make sure that whatever I heard was a noise and nothing more than that to prove to myself I didn't hit or kill anyone because my brain told me I did and didn't remember it. These are examples to really help you understand the situation I will now explain about my relationship.
I am not a disloyal person. Loyalty is a very important trait for me, and it is something I feel like I do a very good job of doing. I'm the type of friend where I will despise someone my friend doesn't like even if I don't know the person. It is a priority to me to show those I love and care for that I am there for them in my entirety. In the beginning of my relationship I went on a family trip without my partner outside the US and on that trip I was drinking. I don't drink frequently, and I prefer weed over alcohol any day. Alcohol for me is a special occasion thing, therefore I drank on this trip as celebration of my birthday. This trip had a lot of nothing to it, just lounging by the pool, walking the beach, and eating amazing food the resort had to offer. The first day of the trip (more like evening since we arrived around 3pm) was just sitting by the view with nice cocktails, dinner, and going to bed. Throughout that, as well as throughout the rest of the trip, I very frequently spoke with my boyfriend on the phone. The first night, after going to bed, I woke up in the middle of the night due to an earthquake and I had a thought "What if I was so drunk last night that I did something with someone and I don't remember it". And thats when I started spiraling. I was texting with my friends about it and they all assured me that there is no way that could have happened, and one of my friends even reminded me of the fact that if I was drunk to the point of memory loss, that means the situation would be sexual assault and not cheating. Then I was freaking out that I was sexually assaulted, didn't remember it, and that my boyfriend wouldn't believe me. This was a lot for me and I was losing my mind. I dwelled on this just about every day for 5 months. I spoke to my boyfriend about it, and he was so understanding and gentle and loving. He reassured me that he trusts me and that I'm okay, and that if it did happen it would be an assault and that I didn't purposefully be unfaithful. I've talked about this anxiety with my partner, my friends, and my therapist. My therapist helped break down my Attachment Style (Anxious Attachment) and I was able to feel a lot more at peace of the situation. I remember that trip and I didn't talk to any men or anything like that because things like that are not of interest to me when I have a boyfriend.
But then.. Now I'm having more anxiety about the same thing in different fonts. I don't have any social media. My contacts are just my friends and important numbers I need to have like family, my dogs groomers etc. I deleted numbers of past flings and the only men in my life other than my boyfriend are my gay besties and two other guys I met my first year of college who are like brothers to me (I even set one up with his now current girlfriend), and my boyfriend has met them and really likes them. I was on my phone the other day and all of a sudden I had this thought.."What if you just did something unfaithful" and don't remember it. But its like..what could I have done? There's nothing I could have done or would have done that was disloyal because that is NOT like me.
So why do I keep having these thoughts??
I don't know if its because I'm finally in a relationship that is happy and healthy and its not something I'm used to so I keep having thoughts that could ruin it or what, but I'm so over it,
I'm really in love with him, he's my best friend. I would never intentionally hurt him. In the beginning of our relationship we were having a lot of problems, and I talked shit about him to my friends. But when things got better, I took the step to tell him about what I said about him to my friends and apologized for my behavior. So being a cheater is not something in my character. Like shit, I have a personal rule I established for myself that if I'm going to have sex with anyone, they need to prove negative STI results, like my current boyfriend and I did to one another when I lost my virginity to him. I don't even like touch or intimacy unless I first really get a feel for someone, so all of these thoughts of me being disloyal or unfaithful and not remembering it just doesn't make any sense, yet I continue to have them! I'll be doing nothing and then these thoughts will come into my head, or if he does something kind for me I'll think to myself that I don't deserve it because theres a chance I cheated but don't remember it.
If you read all of this, thank you so much for taking the time to do so and I would really appreciate your help with this. I love my boyfriend, I love my relationship, but I do not love these thoughts I am having.
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Irrational fear of judgement over normal things prevents me from letting anyone into my home. What is this??
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# I have a couple of normal things that I can't talk about because of a severe irrational fear of judgement.
Books are an example. If anyone asks what I'm reading/what was the last thing I read or what my favourite book or author is, I refuse to answer anything. I'll always just say that I don't want to talk about it, and it's embarrassing. I can't make normal conversation. I can't even invite anyone over, because they would see my books and see what I read, and judge my character somehow, and I just can't bear the thought of that.
I've just now realised how big of a problem this is, because to recover from my severe depression I'm going to need to find someone that can support me, and they would probably need to come to my home for that. I doubt that I'll find anyone, but it's my only hope to survive, so I have to keep believing that it will happen. I daydream about it to cope, but in reality, I couldn't let anyone in even if I had someone to invite.
Maybe if I knew what this was, I could find a way to beat it.
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Need help and advice
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I’m diagnosed with GAD and panic disorder. I am in weekly counseling for family and work issues. Counselor states that I have the “scapegoat” role in my family. I’ve been self mutilating since age 7. I was language impaired and bullied physically and emotionally by my brother. The bullying never ended. Im in my 40s and finally reached my dream of becoming a foster and adoptive parent. I’ve never told my psych about the self mutilation which occurs when I get really upset. Im terrified this will affect my future as a parent. I really need advice. Are there negative consequences to telling the whole truth to get the help and answers you need. Im on lexapro 20 mg for the anxiety and Xanax .25mg for panic as needed. I want to be right in the head. Btw I’m 45, bullying bro is 47 and my parents are highly inconsistent in their emotional support.
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No help for potential school shooters?
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If someone tells a therapist or other professionals they are having very extreme thoughts like wanting to become a school shooter but are looking for help to prevent it they just lock you up apparently instead of helping. How does a potential school shooter get help then? People say school shooters just needed help but there is no help for them. What should someone do if theyre seeking help in this scenario?
(not about me, i am not a threat, this is hypothetical but please help anyone)
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Free eBook on Mental Health (March 17 - March 19)
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Withdrawal Symptoms (Clonazepam)
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I began taking escitalopram (Jovia) and clonazepam (Rivotril) in September 2022. I started with a low dose of 1/4 tablet (10 mg) of clonazepam and 1/2 tablet (10 mg) of escitalopram each night, and gradually increased my dosage to 1/2 tablet and 1 tablet. I have been taking 1 tablet of escitalopram per night up until now. Recently, my doctor has recommended that I slowly reduce my dosage. My last dosage was 1/4 tablet of clonazepam every 3 days, and my psychiatrist has advised me to stop taking it regularly and that I take it "as needed" only.
Lately, I have been experiencing anxiety and depressive symptoms, and although I am managing, I am unsure whether this is a normal part of the withdrawal process, and whether I should try to push through it or take the medicine "as needed". Has anyone else had a similar experience?
Thank you!
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I cant stand my mom anymore
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I have a stomach ache for half a week now. Somehow that is my fault because I am "trying to skip school". Nevermind the fact that yesterday I was sent home by a teacher because ot was visible how sick I was. I cant even remember how I got from the bus stop to home, all that I remember is that Iwas woken up by the sound of the driver saying my stop was next. When I got home, I took some medication that did nothing. I had some analyses done that showed I had some severe vitamyn deficiency intakes. That was also somehow my fault because I "should have tried to not get sick" because "then you would be healthier". My stomach hurts so bad, and I cant anymore with everything being my fault and me trying to skip school.
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I need some advice please I’m begging you
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So I’m currently 14 M living with my mom and brother at home. My father divorced my mom when I was 11 - 12 and when I thought that no more fighting would happen at home, my brother started acting like a real **** at home and is constantly fighting with my mom. At one point their fight almost turned physical and ever since then I’m always on edge when hearing them scream at each other. I hate going to school or leaving the house in general when my mom and brother are home alone and I’m not there to protect my mom who by the way is the most important person in my life. My brother never actually hit or beat up my mom but that one time where it almost escalated into violence was enough to leave a mark on me forever.
I noticed I became more hyper vigilant and anxious but when I’m at home and their fight just ended I just feel numb for days sometimes. When I don’t feel numb I’m filled with hatred towards my brother and I can’t think of anything else but how much I despise him. I’m just so tired, does anyone have any advice please?
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Dealing with having assaulted someone
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So, this is not me but someone I love very much, he had a crush and decided to confess, she said she used to feel the same but not anymore and that they could continue to be friends, she continued to go to his house and ask him to go to hers to get him to help her on homework and they played videogames, she usually said her back hurt from sitting too much and he would offer to give her a back massage multiple times with her agreeing, I have to add he has autism, high functioning, but I've noticed many times he doesn't understand social boundaries too well, usually just doing what he has seen others do in similar situations but doesn't always work because of other variables, i know he is used to give his mom the same back massage since she works long hours and when he does he normally unbuckles her bra and it's fine, because they're family, the thing is he did the same with this girl and a year later after she started therapy one day she went to tell him she felt assaulted because of that and to never talk to her again, understandably so.
He was devastated, I saw him cry for the first time and he couldn't understand why she felt like that, I explained to him that he took her underwear off without asking and it's different from his mom, I kid you not he was so ashamed, scared, and blames himself SO BAD he is also scared he will forever be cast out if she ever tells people close to him, I will never say she shouldn't but I've tried convincing him his life is not over and he thinks it should and he is just constantly blaming himself and torturing himself over it, cutting contact with any female friend or getting so much distance from them, he needs therapy but also thinks he deserves to suffer, he fluctuates between being scared he will not even be able to finish his studies if he gets publicly shamed and saying he deserves it. I'm so scared for him. Please help. I've convinced him to go to therapy and he said he will in his next paycheck but I'm afraid he could have a bad therapy match and never try again.
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LOW DOSE SEROQUEL
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For sleep only is it OK ~ I’ve already been on an antipsychotic & don’t wish to go through the side effects again…does it make you feel numb & unmotivated?
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Someone please tell me what is happening to me
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Im 20 yo when this happened 8 months ago one day I woke up looking and sounding completely different the day before. My neck was stiff I was extremely irritable my vison blurry and static and colors look greyed and lifeless my perception of depth and reality are completely off. Peoples faces for some reason look aggresive to me like there judging me. Going out in public is really difficult for me I get paranoid thoughts. It's extremely difficult to read it's like i just see letters but can't make sense of it and comprehend what I'm reading. I slurr and have difficulty recalling my words. My emotions and sense of empathy have been completely numbed the only thing i feel strongly is anger. My voice is extremely monotone.
I feel like I had a stroke but I got an mri scan of my brain and everything came back completely normal. All the mri showed is a sinus infection and nasal polyp.
This all happened to me in the span of one night. Each morning I wake up and my vision and control over my emotions is better than the day before. Each day I wake up people look less and less threatening and I feel as if I'm maturing physically and mentally. Each day I'm more human and less robot. If anyone is going through anything like this please let me know what condition this is I hate having to wait so long just to be myself again.
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Feeling Inspired by This
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How Joseph stopped GAD and Health Anxiety [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oMeDT7WPkLw](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oMeDT7WPkLw)
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NORTRYPTILINE OR CYMBALTA
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For Anhedonia, avolition & apathy ~ which one is better to help emotions & motivation…what are the SideFX.
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NORTRIPTYLINE OR CYMBALTA
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For Anhedonia, avolition & apathy ~ which one is better to help emotions & motivation…what are the SideFX?
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I’m struggling really bad:(
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Hii 14F this week has been sooo hard today I had a breakdown in math because I don’t know how to do it i feel so freaking dumb:(.I’m also struggling with binge eating on Wednesday I told myself that I was going to cut down on sweets because it one of my goals by summer but it’s so hard when you come home from a really hard and overwhelming day and all you want to do is eat.And I have no one to tell this to because I don’t trust anyone so I’m just stuck here crying about my problems:(
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dunno
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I am so confused on what do do with myself. Right now I am working at a restaurant and I have just dropped out of college. I am somewhat interested in makeup, writing, and video games. I just don't know what do though, or maybe I know what to do I just either don't have the motivation to get there or I do not know how to get there. I am turning 20 next month and just feel lost and unsure. Right now at work I would like to be a server, because I am currently a hostess right now and don't find that much joy in it. This just doesn't seem tangible either, its like the world doesn't want me to succeed, maybe I should just work in a different restaurant, but the thing is I told myself I would work here for at least a year and I want to go through with that but I also find myself struggling to pay my rent. I do not want to get a second job because I feel like that would make me miserable. I am unsure what to do. Is there anyone in a similar place right now?
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I've had depression for years now and haven't sought treatment or help
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I (17y m) have had depression ever since i can remember and has only ever gotten more worse than before and more and more unbearable.
I come from a very stringent and harsh household that doesn't believe in therapy and only in talking it out however when i do talk out they yell at me barading at me with a ton of slurs and insults and often even go psychical and therefore I've largely kept my mouth shut towards them and suppress my feelings but i can only suppress it for so much that eventually the bubble pops and i plead for help but only get the same response i always get "your a idiot" "after everything this is how you repay us" "this hurts me more than it does on you" "your ruining my life" although they work hard it's already gotten to their head and they've largely dismissed my request to take therapy.
The environment doesn't help either, incredibly toxic and dangerous and due to that I've always been the social outcast and weirdo, i dont feel accepted anywhere and i don't even want to be a part of the environment due to how badly it can affect me since it's a ghetto area i reside in currently and trying to get help from them have also largely ostracised me from society that i can't bring myself to talk my feelings out and just make up a completely different personality that thinks speaks and acts differently and not the way i like it.
I've desperately tried to find someone to talk my feelings out especially on my school which had a school Councillor to help me through my pain but instead of giving me useful advice and support they only listened to me like i was a mental pacient and it didn't help that i also talked with teachers about it and asked them to keep it private from my family which they didn't do and thus creating more problems for me, and not only that but also reviewing me as unfit for higher education because of this "behavioural problems" even though all i wanted was help, and now I'm two years behind because of that.
Talking to "friends" did not help either as after any conversation regarding this issue and my problems they've all basically turned their backs away from me and left me on my own. The only place that reached its hand for me was the online world that tried to help me but with the amount of trauma I've had to go through for years without any form of treatment made it harder.
As a result I've been fighting depression, anxiety, paranoia, low self esteem, indecisiveness and much more. All without any useful or helpful advice or help for 17 years, and I'm slowly giving up even sometimes considering my existence in this world and thoughts of just ending it all together to atleast be free from all this pain I'm dealing with daily sometimes crying sometimes vomiting of it and it's become much more frequent that all this is happening.
And after all these episodes, I've largely lost all trust and respect to grown-ups whom i see as "untrustworthy betraying scumbags" and therefore refused any conversation with any of them especially therapists at all and stopped talking about my issues with "friends" ultimately stopped talking to them in general and isolating myself.
Although I've had moments of joy and happiness it's really only short lived and most of the time I'm sad and miserable, i basically go through the same daily routine over and over and over again non stop. I try to cope with it by playing games, eating, drawing, training, masturbation and just beating myself up mentally everytime.
Hope this brief oversimplified story is enough to help me out
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Finally Medicating
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I was diagnosed bipolar 2 at about 13 years old and yesterday I was diagnosed with anxiety and OCD. I’m 24 now and have never really medicated. I started risperedone and Zoloft yesterday and was wondering what your reactions were with this combo?
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Does that ring any bells?
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Does anyone have any idea of what this behaviour could be the symptom of?
Hi, I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 23. We're together for more than 2 years. My boyfriend has had anger issues prior to our relationship and it shows as him getting extraordinarily furious at (for me) small inconveniences. However the thing is no matter how blown out of proportion his reactions were to me they always made some kind of sense. There was a clear trigger and a big reaction. Yesterday though I experienced something for the first time with him because his reaction makes no sense to me at all. I want to know if anybody has an idea of what this could be, because it is abnormal in his behaviour. (After the story I'm going to share my theory)
He came back from work and we were about to watch a TV show together. He was excited to spend time with me for the whole day. He has a box-diet (meals are brought to your house by a company and you have to heat them up) and I don't. At the shop I picked up some groceries just for myself since he has his own food for the next day. He was interested in one protein shake which I bought for myself as work food. I said he cannot take that but I can give him something similar. He's like 'well I don't want that but we could make a deal. I'll give you my dessert (some kind of yoghurt) and take that protein drink.'
I said that I'm not sure because I don't even know what the dessert in question was. He said that I enjoyed it in the past and I can take it to work too. I wasn't sure what I'm looking at so I wanted to grab the box to read the label and I assume he wanted to bring the box closer to me at the same moment resulting in: me accidentally knocking out the plastic box with my elbow (I have coordination issues) and the yoghurt spilling on the floor. Just like when you drop it in the shop. 90% of it was still in the box so my reaction was just 'oh-oh'. Because literally nothing else have happened. No stain on the clothes, the floor is just tiles- easy to clean.
Suddenly he says with the look of disappointment: 'no words....' (this means I'm speechless in a negative way in our language). I try to explain that you can still eat the dessert and he yells 'then FUCKING eat it!'. After some more back and forth interactions i confronted him even though I knew he was still delusional at that point:
-what do you mean by 'fucking eat it', that was an accident and nothing terrible actually happened. What's going on?
-get the fuck away to your hometown if you don't see the issue (something among these lines: I've just came back from a trip to my hometown).
Then he closed himself in 'his' room, watch something on YT while being extremely quiet and fell asleep on the bed with head facing the bed.
And that's it. There is nothing more to this story. My bf got furious at me accidentally knocking over a plastic box.
This felt like him re-enacting a scene from his childhood which was very traumatic. Like a parent yelling at a child for making a mistake. It's like he cannot process that mistakes and accidents are a normal part of life? What do you think?
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burn out
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I get burnt out alot at night, but after I wake up in the morning, I don't feel it anymore, it cycles like that everyday
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Struggling to overcome driving/car anxiety
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TLDR; I think I have ptsd from being in/witnessing so many car accidents and I don’t feel safe or confident being a driver or a passenger. Advice?
I’ve been a passenger in multiple car accidents through out my life. It took me a long time to even get my permit (age 18) and even longer to pass my license test after 3 tries (age 22). I failed my license test multiple times due to panic attacks mid test. Well, I had gotten my license in April 2021. Everything was great, I didn’t need help with transportation anymore! I no longer felt like a burden. Then in October of 2022 I got in my first accident where I was the driver, and my car was totaled. Unfortunately I was at fault. I was at a stop sign and I guess the driver behind me thought I sat for too long and blared their horn at me nonstop until I panicked and hit the gas (loud sounds are a bit triggering and bad sensory for me). I suffered a lot of emotional trauma. Since then I’ve nearly been run off the road 2 times and I’ve had a front row seat to witnessing 3 other car accidents directly in front of me. The most recent being yesterday March 16th around 5pm, 2 cars collided in front of me and came about a foot away from slamming into my car as well. I’m struggling horribly to feel safe and confident when driving, or even just as a passenger. Due to this anxiety I’m the most annoying “back seat driver” and it irritates my husband but he understands. I constantly point out that the light is red, I tell him “you should be in that lane instead”, I get super upset and scared when someone tailgates, honks, recklessly speeds, weaves in/out of traffic, or flashes their headlights at me, I gasp/jump/cringe if I don’t think he’s slowing the car down fast enough when approaching a stop, I get really anxious in heavy traffic, around road work, and unfamiliar areas. It’s often bad enough that I will use google street view to map out exactly what my route looks like, and what the parking situation looks like so I can try to avoid a panic attack (I usually have a panic attack anyways). Also, ever since totaling my car, whenever I hear a car horn or loud sounds while in a car I get vivid flashbacks and an instant headache. I am afraid I will ruin or lose all the progress I’ve made with driving. Tips/advice/coping mechanisms are needed and appreciated, would also like to hear that someone else understands how I feel.
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I've had no choice in going through 3 therapists in less than a year. It's harming me but I can't just jump back in again. I don't know what to do. Advice?
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I know the answer may be simple but I just can't jump right back in. I'm worn out of rehashing everything and I can't do it again right now. The reasons I went through 3 therapists are: i went into a facility recommended by legit the best therapist I've ever had and by the time I discharged she moved up and wasn't a therapist anymore; in the facility I found another great therapist but he's under the facility and doesn't have his own patients outside of it; and my last one (who I was just starting to get *somewhat* comfortable with) also moved up same as the first of the 3 and I'm forced to get someone new.
I've been struggling with my mental health pretty bad since 2017 and only in January of 2022 did I meet the best therapist I've ever had. I'm sure many of you know how difficult it can be to click with a therapist, and once you do, you better hold on because they are so rare. I feel like I broke after being forced to switch again and I just can't go through all of my past.
I'm well aware that it is completely out of my control, and thus there's nothing I can do except move forward, but I struggle to. I don't know what can get me, personally, on that path again. To be honest, maybe this post is more of a venting, but any words might help a little.
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Advice please!
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So the guy I've been talking to for some time now is a victim of schizoaffective disorder.. it took him some time to come out and tell me this.. anywho, so we've had our ups and downs and he battles with this daily.. can someone please give me some advice or tips or anything I can do to be more supportive to him? And what to do and what not to do? I'm trying my best to be there for him and be understanding but it can be difficult at times..
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Feelings of emptiness after masturbation?
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Not sure if this belongs here, but anyways, I have a problem with porn addiction, making me masturbate, but I also get a feeling of not shame, but emptiness afterwards. It all feels so hollow and emotionless, I feel bad for the actors, but not shame. The feelings usually lasts a couple hours and I don’t know what to do about it. Any thoughts on this? It almost feels like a void opens in my stomach filling me with thoughts of suicide and self harm, and draining the happiness. After a few hours and some calming techniques I can stop the feeling.
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I just need some help or advice.
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I don't know what to do anymore. My anxiety has been consuming my life on a daily, and I don't know who to talk to.
I have the constant feeling that others will hate me, or abandon me. I just want to be liked, I don't want anybody to leave me. I think they won't, but I find my mind looping back to this mindset.
I haven't been able to talk with any of my best friends without this constant worry. It's slowly turned into a stream of self-hate, and I can't go anywhere without awful urges to hurt myself. If I wasn't on this Earth, maybe people wouldn't hate me. But I'm just too much of a coward to even do that. Taking up a therapist's time with this stupid thing would be rude, so I'm asking here, on Reddit. Somewhere where someone has the option to help.
I need some sort of advice, I'm falling down a rabbit hole at this point. Or not, it's up to you.
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I keep getting prescribed mood stabilizers
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I feel like I am going to loose it. I have been going to this psychiatric clinic for about 6 months now and it is okay... It is important to note that I was a severely neglected/ abused as a child and when I turned 19 I decided to go on antidepressants to help deal with my mental health and I was on Celexa for about a year and a half and stopped taking it mainly because I felt so emotionally numb from it, I was also going to my Primary doctor and I felt like their knowledge on mental health was limited so I made the switch to a psychiatric clinic.
My first prescription from it was lamotrigine. I made a list of my symptoms and read them to my provider, here they are:
I have the worst memory and I can’t remember anything especially short term
I forget where I put things constantly and loose them
I can’t make a set schedule nor put myself on it
I feel like I’m always doing something wrong
I can’t focus on work
I’m constantly fidgeting like rubbing my feet together hands etc leg bouncing or foot twitching
Can’t sleep or sleep too much
Little to no appetite
BRAIN FOG
Racing heart rate
I will procrastinate severely or in the way of like doing things last minute because I have an appointment to motivate me
I have a hard time listening to people when they’re directly speaking to me because I’m worried I won’t remember what they said and then i start wondering if I should be writing this down
I finish peoples sentences before they’re done and I’m not always right and sometimes I have to do it in my head to let them continue talking
I’m always making a list in my head and it never stops
Little to no sex drive
I was told it was a mood stabilizer and would help me significantly I also did some research on it and found out that it is used to treat Bipolar and while I was a little nervous and never considered myself to be bipolar I trusted my providers judgment. Also I do feel like the need to prescribe me this because my dad is diagnosed bipolar... Anyway a week after taking it I felt suicidal, so I called the clinic and was told to stop taking it and from there I was prescribed Prozac. It worked pretty well for a while, in the sense of depression and anxiety but everything else still seemed like an issue. I stayed at 20 mg and at times I could feel my anxiety wanting to come out and burst or just needed to express it like crying but nothing would. I would just feel this tenseness in my chest. My next appointment I told my provider that and we both thought I should up my dose to 30 mg as a slow introduction. I was on it for a while and I also have a habit of lying how I am feeling especially when it comes to medication. I have all these issues but by the time the appointment rolls around I completely blank on them (hence why I make lists). The first meeting I had about the 30 mg dose it was two weeks after taking the medication and I didn't notice much of a change so we gave it another two weeks and I felt even worse and more severely depressed more than ever so for my next appointment I made a list of my symptoms once again and read them to her.
Here it is:
Can’t sleep
Constantly tired
I don’t get active until it’s later in the afternoon/ evening 6-8 pm
Spacing out / disassociating
No motivation
Mid day lull I get very sleepy and don’t want to do anything
Mope around = just lay there and stare at the wall
Have no desire to do anything
I feel more depressed and useless than I ever have
I don’t feel proactive or present
I even try to make to do lists post it reminders of everything and even try to organize stuff but it never works and with in a few days everything is messy again and I feel so overwhelmed that I don’t do anything to fix it until I get a burst of energy
I have a hard time making it to things on time / getting ready at the right time
Can’t get out of bed I have to lay in it for hours after I get up
Most of the time she doesn't let me finish my list and sort of starts asking me other questions and all that. Anyway long story short we went back down to 20 mg of prozac because she felt that the 30 mg was 'too stimulating' for me and we met again two weeks later nothing really changed and she decided to add Latuda 20mg. She told me it was a mood stabilizer and it should help and also briefed me on all the stuff I should do with it so I don't have negative side effects. I am a rule follower so much so that I red the entire box of tampons when I first got my period... So obviously I am going to do my own research and read the pamphlet that comes with the medication front to back (I am also about to graduate with my BS in psychology and start my masters program (LMFT Program) so I feel like I know what I am doing when it comes to that). Well after my my research I found that it is a 2nd generation antipsychotic typically used for Bipolar 1 or Schizophrenia. My roommate is also in PA school so she helped me with a lot of the research and understanding the biology / chemistry behind it. My roommate was super confused as to why she would prescribe me that in addition to my Prozac and not just try a different SSRI or even an SNRI. But again my roommate said my provider finished school and all that so she must know what she is doing... I have only taken the Latuda twice and to be honest I do not think it is agreeing with me.
I am a Behavior technician for neurodivergent kids so my job is based on connection and what not, during a tantrum with a kid I found myself just disassociating and spacing out and I had to fight so hard to just stay present. My coworker noticed I was off so she took the reigns thank god but after I got off of work I felt so awful because I couldn't help and I had such a bad break down and cried for hours. This isn't really normal for me, I have experienced tantrums before, I have a great connection with this kid as well, and I also have worked/ continue to work on triggering things for me so I things like this don't happen. Normally I can control it ( I have been doing CBT since I was 16 and I am 22 now) but at that moment I wasn't able to. Now on to the second time taking it, I know I have to take it with a 350 calorie meal and at night so I do just that, I even calculate out my meal to make sure it is a little bit above 350 so I don't have to worry about anything, finish getting ready for bed, read a bit and then go to bed when I start to feel sleepy, it is around 11:45 ish. I am trying to settle down and just fall asleep and about 20 minutes or so passes and I am wide awake tossing and turning. I try to do some deep breathing and all that but my anxiety is through the roof and nothing is working so I just lay there wide awake and don't fall asleep until 3 in the morning. Then today rolls around and I wake up and start getting ready for work feeling like absolute ass because I got 4-5ish hours of sleep and figure my nausea is from that and it usually goes away after a while. I eat take my prozac and head to work feeling okay. Towards the end of my shift I am starting to feel nauseous/sick to my stomach and once again very spaced out. I go to the bathroom a few times because I feel like I might need to throw up but nothing just that gross feeling. My shift ends and I head home fighting the feeling of needing to throw up in the car. As soon as I get to my apartment bathroom I am vomiting, my whole body is aching, and once I am done vomiting I have explosive diarrhea, gross I know. So here I am typing all of this because I just got off of the phone with the clinic after taking a nap ON THE BATHROOM FLOOR WITH MY DOG, and my provider verbatim said to continue to take the medication and the only reason that I am throwing up is because I am not eating enough with it....
I am so frustrated and fed up right now. I feel like she is trying to force me into this box of having Bipolar, BPD, or even schizophrenia because my dad is diagnosed Bipolar. I have not once experienced mania or even hallucinations, I have weird ass dreams and nightmares but I know it is from PTSD and I can distinguish reality from them and when I do have an episode caused from my PTSD it is more of a panic attack. I have explained all of this to her along with my childhood and it is really starting to get exhausting because I just feel like I am not being listened to at all. In the beginning when first seeing her I even asked if I could be assessed for ADHD or even Autism because my therapist at the time suggested it (she retired) however my provider said no I am not neurodivergent and that we need to treat my anxiety and depression. We have been trying to for 6 months and I feel like it is just getting worse every time. Any advice helps and I just want to say thank you if you read all of this and for taking time out of your day to.
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Mental support research
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Hello everyone, we are third year students from National Dong Hwa University Department of Counseling and Clinical Psychology. We are exploring social media makes it easier to discuss Mental Health. We are conducting this research under the guidance of associate Professor Theodore Mazarakis. We are recruiting subjects and sincerely invite you to participate in the research. You are welcome to fill out the form to participate.
Purpose of the study
You are being invited to take part in a research study. Before you decide to participate in this study, it is important that you understand why the research being done and what your participation will involve. Please read the following information carefully. The purpose of our study is to find out the effect of use of social media in openness about mental health issue and availability. We are aware that social media is the biggest communication platform today. We always talk about the negative effects of social media on our mental state, but on this occasion, we would like to discuss whether social media can make it easy for us to discuss our mental state. It will be great if you guys could help https://forms.gle/3igieWiqCbSY5LGE7
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Saying Things So They're Not Trapped With Me In My Mind
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Less me asking for support, more me needing a place for a cathartic outpouring.
I'm a broken person. So many of us are, and while we strive to be better we accept the state we exist in currently. I won't apologize for being broken, because it's beyond my control and not something I sought, desired, nor intended. It's a condition I live through.
That said, I am sorry for how my issues impact the people I care about. I've had problems going back as far as I can remember understanding how to relate to others, and how to be a - a person. I can't think of any other way to really put that. I don't understand how to be a normal person. I don't mean the old "no one is normal" or "normal people are the weird ones" type of meaning - I mean, I don't know how to be a healthy normal person in the world around other normal people.
I spend so much time pretending - acting - portraying what I think is a good person, and what I think people expect and want to see of me. I think this has a lot to do with how I was reared, in a chaotic environment with an Alcoholic Mother, a Step Dad who was amazing but overworked, overstressed, and overwhelmed dealing with my alcoholic mother. The rest of my family put on that they cared about me, loved me - they would let me visit and stay with them on occasion, but I developed a massive codependency issue with my Mom both because I felt that she was the only one who would always be there for me if I needed someone, and because I felt if I weren't there for her she'd commit suicide.
In my adult years a lot changed for me. Early on I realized I was gay (thanks Nick News W 5 when I was 9) and immediately withdrew from people. Which is to say... I withdrew more. Even back then, other kids were... scary to me. I didn't understand how to relate to them - the only time I ever made friends, they sought me out - an that basically stopped in Middle School. But College - college was when I thought I finally figured out the whole social skills thing - at least to a degree.
It took me years to realize that I was just playacting - and that it took a long time for me to feel like I could truly open up to people. But even then - I had to pretend so much, just to be the friend I thought they wanted me to be for them. I had to continuously prove my value, to show why I deserved their time. It was exhausting - and required alcohol. I never let myself get like my Mom, but I needed alcohol to be social - and that made me the drunk party guy. A functional alcoholic.
To skip forward quite a bit - let's get to COVID Era. COVID pushed my brain over some sort of threshold - one I still don't understand. I think the added anxiety of the pandemic just... was too much and something snapped. I completely withdrew, and caved into the depression and anxiety. I even withdrew from my roommates, who are arguably the people I'm closest to in the world. I knew I'd reached rock bottom, and was too scared to burden them with my issues - that they would make me the annoying sad pathetic lump, and I'd lose them.
When Lockdown finally ended and the world tried to get back to normal, I was left behind. I felt so broken, so disconnected, so alone - and I felt no way to find my way back. At this point my Mom is gone for over a decade, I have a really great job but other than my roomies, and my old social circles still connected on Social Media... but I still felt utterly alone. I opened up more to my roommates, but they have their own issues and I knew that I couldn't put "rebuild my social life" onto their shoulders.
So comes my 39th birthday. As the crazy drunk party guy, I always tried to throw big parties - show as many people in my life that I love them, that I celebrate them, and that I want them in my life as possible - prove that I'm worthy of another year of friendship. But I'm not that guy anymore. I don't really drink. When I realized that I literally couldn't exist in the world socially without drinking I basically gave up drinking - I now have maybe 1 drink a month. So - I selected a very small group of friends along with my Step Dad to have a lunch get together with. Only...2 people said they'd only go if I changed venue to a bar (I wanted to go someplace that HAD a bar, but lots of food stalls as well) and made it a nighttime get together (my job adjusted over COVID, and I now go to bed by 7 or 8PM at the latest.) Another had to decline due to other plans. I knew I'd have a couple need to bail, but I had my roomies and a person who I counted closer than blood, and I had my Dad. Then my Dad needed to cancel (not going into why, but I understood) - and I broke again. I felt too alone, too ashamed, too pathetic - so I canceled my get together.
The person I was most excited to see was the person who I felt was - soulmate isn't the right word, but soul-kin? He also had mental health struggles, social anxiety issues, trouble relating to others, similar interests to me, and a troubled history with alcohol. I thought if anyone could understand it would be him.
So after my birthday had passed, I reached out and apologized for canceling. Before COVID we didn't hang as often as I wanted, because most of my social activities had to do with drinking and I knew he was sober - so I didn't want to put him into a situation where there was temptation. On the flipside he didn't often reach out to me. And the 2 years leading up to COVID my anxiety started to grow worse, owing to a really emotionally destructive period living with other roommates that was very damaging to my mental health - so I stopped reaching out as much.
When I text him after my birthday I... he told me to not worry about canceling, and that we all have things in our lives that come up. I responded yeah, or anxiety gets in our way. His response was:
"Things only get better when you fix them bud. I have gotten the impression that your anxiety and repression mean more to you than any friendships you've had at this point. I haven't seen you in nearly 4 years now."
Timeline note: This was August 2022, and includes the 3 years or so of COVID and the year or two leading up when my Anxiety had started nosediving - and I did attempt to remain connected via Social and Text, and while I never tried to schedule things with him he rarely if ever did the same with me - we would actually talk about how hard our Social Anxiety made it to reach out to one another - I thought we were in tune, if not always talking and seeing one another...
I then responded "Take care." Because I was instantly shattered. To say that I cared more about my mental health problems than I cared about the people in my life? I recognized he was saying that I would allow my mental health to get in the way but... I did because I couldn't fight past it, no matter how much I wanted to - and I'd already done years of therapy and at the time I felt there was no use trying therapy for the thousandth time...
He then said "Look I'm not attacking you. I'm telling you something I think you need to hear. I have given you my schedule several times in the past few years and it hasn't changed. I've been waiting for that call to hang out but it never came. So I mean you can't expect to be a priority when all you do is hide. But on that note. I'll respect your take care. Hope you have the 40 you dream of. Have a good one."
I responded, "I appreciate your honesty." I typed it while sobbing.
Him: "I am hoping it doesn't come as a discouragement. I am hoping to encourage you to rejoin the world a bit more, go to therapy, try new medications if the old ones aren't working. I want you to be happy."
Me: "My birthday was my attempt to do just that. But I must admit this has broken me really badly. So I'm just going to go recollect myself for a while."
Him: "Take all the time you need, the world will keep chugging along while you do."
That was the last thing he's said to me to this day. He removed me on Social Media... and as much as I want to talk to him, and tell him how much his words had the opposite effect that he seemed to express... I was too heartbroken. That he'd think that I didn't care about him, or the other people in my life enough to try and work past my issues. And if the person who I thought would understand better than anyone else couldn't... then what possible hope did I have to rebuild any of the other relationships I'd pulled together. Add that I knew how very different I'd grown in the interim...
At this point I feel like I died. I really do. I feel like the person I used to be died when COVID hit. I've deleted most of my social media at this point, but kept one open with all of my old connections - instagram. I don't want to just... cut the people who I still love so much, that I care about more than words can express - go live their lives and not know that they're happy, that they're thriving. And I wanted them to see I'm surviving. Sure, surviving just means I'm not dead... but that I'm still here, still trying to... fix myself. But at the same time I don't feel like I HAVE them as part of my life. More than anytime in my almost 40 years... I've never once felt as if... I'm truly on the outside looking in.
I don't really know why I wrote this. Maybe because so much of it I wish I could tell my former friend - but at the same time he's completely justified to have his own feelings over what happened with our relationship, and those feelings are completely valid. From his perspective every word he said is 100% accurate, and I have no right to overrule them. His removing me on social media and never again texting to even ask if I'm doing ok makes it clear he doesn't want communication. And I feel as if I need to respect that. He doesn't owe me anything - I'm not his burden.
Maybe I'm hoping that putting all of this on paper (well, on pixels? On HTML code? Whatever.) will help me find a perspective that I haven't found up to this point. Maybe I'm hoping that someone will see this post and comment the perfect comment that will make me feel good again. Maybe I'm just... tired of repeating the story alone... in my head... never changing... always ending the same way. With me. Alone.
It's soul crushing to watch your life crumbling, to watch the people you love walk away, to know that if you could just be better that things would be different, and to... not know how to... be not broken. If you read this far, forgive me for dumping - I don't know what else to say.
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I feel weird
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I have had a lot of emotional problems since I was 17, I suffered a really bad trauma because I was involved in an accident when I was in high school, I murdered someone by running over them and since then I haven't felt good about myself, I've done a lot of drugs, suffer from alcoholism and I have been involved in situations of abuse. I used to be in medical treatment for anxiety and alcohol abuse and Im not taking it anymore, the last couple of weeks I have been feeling really bad about myself, I feel like nobody wants to be involved with me, and I feel alone, I feel unloved and that I do not deserve love, I don't know what to do about my feelings, I try to stay sober, do exercise but shitty things still happen to me, I don't know what to do anymore
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Howmuchmore
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I'm a guy from Lithuania. I'm 12 years old and I tried suicide and sh. Everything I do I'm just so shit at. I feel empty and drained. I overthink so much I feel like painting the walls red would be good. But well. 1 month ago I got a girlfriend now she's the only thing I have left. Her name is Rusne. It's a Lithuanian name. If I lose her I'm either gonna kxms or go really insane. I feel like as I'm not good enough. Im trying to show as much love as I can. I can't lose her. I really can't. Middle school love might seem cringe but I swear, she's the only thing I have. She's the best person I've ever met. Let me tell you about my backstory or whatever you'd call it. From last year everything went downhill. I felt like I was gonna end it all. It's been almost a year and I still haven't done it. I'm still trying, but I'm really close. I now see the changes in myself. Behaviour, looks, basically my whole personality changed. I mean I like it but some things are bad. Like I don't even give a shit now. My grades are getting worse and shit. But I finnaly couldnt hold it in. Recently I opened up to my parents. At the start it looked like they're acctually helping me and I'm getting better, until... They used it against me. I couldnt believe it. Shit. Next Time you guys wanna open up do it with a person you REALLY REALLY trust.
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Can Being a Germaphobe Be a Mental Illness or OCD?
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I don’t want to be one of those people who claim they have OCD without truly knowing what it is but at this point I cannot tell. I (22F) have been an extreme germaphobe for as long as I can remember. Even as a teen, I would not let myself sit on my bed unless I had a shower. I do this even still—only sitting on my bed if I’ve had a shower (unless it was a quick grocery run or food run). Additionally, my roommate has a dog. I used to love dogs so much I wanted to be a vet, but for some reason I cannot bring myself to pet her dog without washing my hands and I will freak it out if it even steps foot in my room. I feel like my germaphobe-ness is ruining my life. I won’t even let my fiancée come over to my place for fear of the dog touching him. If it does, I would want him to take a shower. I understand how extreme this sounds and it makes me go crazy but I cannot change my mindset. Do I have some sort of mental problem??? I feel like it makes me almost depressed at time (I am not diagnosed with depression, or any mental health issue currently.)
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I need help or advice on what to do
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My family doesn’t feel real and I can’t seem to emotionally connect to them
I’ve had some random symptoms of derealization in the past, but this one is freaking me out the most. Whenever I think or look at my parents, it feels like their not really there. Whenever I try to think about them, I just get a fuzzy feeling and can’t seem to process the thought that they are real. This is also making it hard to feel emotions toward them. What do I do and how do I fix this?
Are there any professionals or people who have had very similar experiences and what I can do to fix this. Usually whenever I have random episodes the thought of talking with my parents always comforted me, but now since I feel detached from them and emotionally I feel alone. I’m only 17 so I’m freaking out. I don’t even know if this is derealization.
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I’m really struggling with being single
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I (24F) have been single for the past 3 years and its really taking a toll on my mental health. I see more and more people around me getting into relationships and every time it makes me feel sick and depressed. I have been online dating for around 2 years now and have had no luck. I don’t feel a spark with about 90% of the men I meet ( and I have met a LOT) and the few that I do feel something for end up breaking my heart. For example, since last November I have been talking to/seeing a guy who I really really like but it’s obvious that he does not want anything serious with me. Since i’ve started talking to him I have also been on around 10 other first dates and didn’t like any of them! I don’t get what I’m doing wrong and why it is working out for everyone but me. It genuinely effects my mental health and I struggle to do much with my life because I’m so sad about a guy who doesn’t feel the same as I do and that friends seem to easily find someone that they like and that like them back. I really don’t know how to cope with this. I’m not one of those people who can’t deal with being alone. I’ve been single for 3 years and until the past year was happy with it. It just feels like time is moving by so quickly and I’ll end up alone. All I ever wanted is love and to be a mother and I feel like it’s never going to happen and its really effecting my daily life. My younger sister is in a relationship, my housemates have no trouble finding someone and everyone around me seem to be finding love but me. I am not unattractive, men tend to be attracted to me and i have no trouble finding matches on dating apps or people who want to go on dates with me. Its always after that that it goes wrong. Most of them do want to see me again but I don’t like them, but when I do like them they end up wanting nothing but a bit of fun. What am I doing wrong? How can I get over this?
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My symptoms are coming back and I have no one to speak to about them.
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After recent losses in my family, my symptoms are coming back. I take medication for them, but they've always been heavily influenced by my emotions. The paranoia, the hallucinations (all types), and altered spirituality. I tried telling my sister, but she dismissed me and acted like I was faking. I just don't know how to feel about it, it mortifies me, worse than they did when it first began. I've ceased contact with my therapist and I am unsure of my next talk with the pharmacy. I'm so scared.
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Why does this happen??
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Ever since covid and isolation, I (17F) haven’t had any motivation to do anything at all. Before schools shut, I was able to just sit down and get things done when I needed to, but I can’t do it anymore. I’ll just sit around and stare at the ceiling or scroll on my phone thinking about how the deadline is getting closer and I really need to start that homework thats due first lesson tomorrow that I had TWO WEEKS to do, but in the end I’ll just go to sleep instead. Even things I enjoy like writing and art just seem like so much effort recently and I can’t seem to find the energy to do them. Every few months I’ll completely freak out and break down about how my life is in shambles and I’m just so stupid I can’t even write that one paragraph that got set for homework, and nothing I’ve tried fixes anything. I’ve tried timing myself when tidying my room to see if I could make a challenge out of it, but I either get distracted or don’t care and stop the timer. I’ve tried listening to all kinds of music and media in the background while I attempt to complete homework, but I either cant find the “right” music or I just stare at the thing I’m meant to be doing. I had to drop a subject in school because I got so distracted and zoned out so much that I couldn’t keep up with the workload, and it was affecting my other subjects because I’d be in other classes thinking about how I don’t know how to do that homework because I wasn’t listening or how I have homework due next period that I haven’t done because I was busy freaking out about the fact that I haven’t done it yet. I spend my weekends wasting away in bed even when I had plans to catch up on all the homework I haven’t done, and either don’t get up at all or stay in bed until dinner time. I have so little energy that I’m chronically late for school in the mornings, and even when I try to hype myself up and tell myself I need to get up NOW or I’ll be late I just can’t make my body move. I’ll go full days without eating because getting up to get something sounds like too much effort or I don’t want to get up and face my parents “she’s alive” comments, so I just don’t, even when I’m starving. I find it difficult to start tasks and then even more difficult to stick to them until they’re finished instead of just stopping and giving up halfway, which is a major problem as I take art as one of my alevel subjects. Working to meet the deadlines is difficult enough without feeling absolutely drained and ready to give up at every stage. I’m more sensitive than I used to be and I feel like a goddamn idiot most of the time, silly things like my teachers feedback makes me upset enough to cry sometimes. November was the peak of my feeling miserable and useless and I actually turned to some questionable coping mechanisms (that I have since stopped) for a while, but it hasn’t really improved since then. I feel like a burden towards my own family and friends and I just want it to stop. I’ve always had trouble with procrastination but it’s just getting worse and worse and worse for the last few years, it’s growing unmanageable and I don’t know how to fix it. I feel stuck and overwhelmed and it’s eating me from the inside out. If anyone knows what’s happening and why or how to help me than please please feel free to respond . Thanks.
I did not expect this to be so long sorry
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everything to lose, but nothing to live for
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i really don't know how to begin getting help, but I've felt like im trapped in the same day for about 4 years now. I've become agonizingly numb to everything going on around me, and i really don't know how to escape this. During this time, I've had multiple deaths in the family, lost two pets (buried my dog Bear of 15 years just 2 weeks ago), and recently was let go from my already dead-end min wage job.
It's not that i wanna give up trying and living, but in a time where it truly feels hopeless in every way (financial especially) i can't find a way out. i can't even cry for others anymore. i hate what ive become and i just want myself back. at least a way forward
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How do i get over her if shes there every day
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Shes in class every day and she wont even just be casual or normal around me, id to just be friends or acquainted at least so that i can socialize again. She hangs out with all our mutual friends. I told her that its too hard for me to be around people when she just ignores me and is obviously resentful to me. She told me its my problem and that i should deal with it on my own. She wont just be nice. Its been almost 5 weeks since we broke up now. I just want to start trying to meet people and have good friends again but i feel cut off from that
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when i see him
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i like him, but since yesterday everytime i see him, it just makes my mood go down, or loke I'm not in the mood anymore, i like him and i like talking to him but why
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Self harm: how to get better?
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I'm in my 40s, happily single parent, and struggling with intense anxiety despite meds (ssri) and weekly counseling. I've tried emdr and really didn't like it though I am going to give it another go.
Biggest sources of anxiety are my job (teacher and it is not a good fit for me) and family stress caused by my older brother bullying me since childhood. The bullying has continued although he is nearing 50. He joined several foster parent groups (he is not a foster parent, I am both a foster and adoptive parent) and bashed my parenting ability and status as a single parent. The bashing was pretty bad--he created aliases to do this and he vehemently denies it. I can stay away from him because he lives out of town but my parents seem to be pushing us to be closer together.
I have been a self mutilator since age 7. Specifically, I punch my legs, bite my hands when in the "red zone" of frustration or anger. Nothing seems to help. I've tried all the ideas and suggestions out there on the internet. I'm afraid to admit the self mutilation to my counselor as I worry that it would affect my status as a foster and adoptive parent.
Any suggestions? I am working on finding a more suitable job, but the family situation really sucks. Parents are old school and just want us to get along. The only thing I can think of is severely limiting the time with them. I wish I didn't take the anger out on myself. Even if my brother or parent are being obvious a-holes, I blame myself.
Any advice would be appreciated. I'm struggling tonight.
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Should I admit myself to a hospital?
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My (F17) life has lost all meaning. All I have any desire to do is get high. I feel like im just waiting around to die. I've been doing a shit ton of drugs and often when I'm high I become really suicidal, but this isn't deterring me from using. I'm shoplifting several times a week to get my drugs. I feel there is pretty much no hope for my future, and I dont see the point in making any effort to change things.
My therapist said to me in session yesterday that it's getting to the point where he feels he may have to break confidentiality and talk to my parents. Also, he didn't say this directly, but he sort of suggested that maybe I would benefit from being admitted.
Even a friend has now told me "i dont think this is a bad idea. it could really help and it would get you away from your parents/house."
I feel like my perception of myself and my mental state is fucked cuz I really feel like all this is not that big a deal, but other ppl are telling me otherwise.
Hoping to get some more opinions on here. feel free to dig through my post history to get a better understanding of where im at lol. Thanks in advance.
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Has anybody had electric shock therapy, and was it worth it ?
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I'm living the dream. Why am I still struggling?
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I'm a stay at home mom. I homeschool my 12 y.o. While we aren't rich, we can pay the bills usually on time. We finally bought a house and have our best friend living with us. My husband is literally the best person in the world. I've cut out people who make me miserable and try to keep those who are of good intent. I've got my picket fence and then some.
I finally got the diagnosis of bipolar 2. I'm on meds for it the past three months. It worked well for a bit, but I'm back to where I was prior.
I hate living. I hate being a mom, but I love my child. I'm having strong ideation. I can't get help due to financials. I've no sense of self even though I keep trying to find/refind it. I just want to sleep. I've been crying off and on for the past week or two. I'm so sad and mad and angry and feeling empty.
I'll have a good day, which will make me hopeful, but then the bad cloud moves in again.
I don't even get my manic phases now, just these stupid depression clouds.
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Requesting insight and/or advice
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I'm a 24 year old male, diagnosed ADHD, but I feel there is a lot more going on than that.
I don't want to come across as looking for pity or sympathy, but here's a quick summary of my mental health situation:
- Racing thoughts 24/7/365
- Extreme highs and extreme lows regarding my mood
- Severe Relationship Trauma
- Minor inconveniences trigger an overreaction
- Unwanted and/or impulsive thoughts
I am very aware that nobody can diagnose me over Reddit and that's not something I desire. However, does anyone have similar symptoms and an ADHD diagnosis that has things figured out?
Trying to find the right solution is exhausting.
Thanks in advance!
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Does my partner have schizophrenia?
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Hi, I could do with some advice on a quite serious matter, my question stemmed from watching an interview with a schizophrenic man, his mannerisms and the way he dealt with the interview under social pressure was very similar to my girlfriend of 6 years? She has always struggled with Mental Health and has always had a problem I don’t fully understand, she has extreme social anxiety and whilst she isn’t always bad, she is sometimes very quiet and difficult to communicate with, she sometimes comes home from work and will just lay in bed and stare at her phone in silence or in the dark for literal hours and almost completely you ignore the things I ask her until I relentlessly request she doesn’t ignore me, when she’s happy or in a good mood she’s great, but she gets in moods and goes very quiet and odd, she also neglects showering sometimes for a few days on end and has mentioned in the past she sometimes sees shadows ect or figures in the dark. She refuses to go to counselling or get any form of help or medication as she insists in makes her worse and it makes it hard for me to fully understand her issues, I must stress, this is not a constant state, she is often sociable and happy, but these symptoms do happen often although I wonder if there can be mild forms of it.
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My inner me at the moment
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I'm an introvert. It's very hard to socialize and talk to someone. Asking help and talking are worst. I am very sensitive with people around me. Overthinking about a lot of things too. It's very tiring and very difficult to avoid or stop as it become instincts. I am not quite aware of my emotions, always hide what I feel in order to please others.
But know what I feel very sad right now. I feel like everything does not make sense. I feel nauseous and my heart is pounding so hard that it hurts. It's like someone is squeezing it. Makes me feel worthless, stupid and naive. I'm tired I just want to be better.
Sorry for writing this. I just want someone to tell me of this is normal or not. And if there's someone or anybody who could give me an advice. I'm so tired.
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I witnessed someone getting hit by a car today
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It happened a few meters from where I was standing. I heard a sudden scream and then saw a woman literally fly a couple meters before she hit the ground. She was conscious the whole time and according to the local news she's alive and going to recover.
Then I just carried on with my day. I feel like it should have affected me a lot more but I've been going through a lot lately and I'm afraid it will hit me at some point later. I should have been more scared for her and helpful on the spot too but I just froze and didn't know what to do. Thankfully two men ran to help her, one of them was wearing a military uniform so I think he was the best person to deal with something like this anyway. But if they hadn't been there I'm not sure I would have been able to do anything.
I guess my point is that it bothers me how I'm not really having any emotions about this. Is this normal?
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Struggling to get out of bed
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So today I struggled to sleep, and I’m skipping my volunteer shift today. I have to clean my apartment, apply for scholarships, and look at registering for courses.
I have to talk to my roommate about how we can just support the house together because it feels like I do most of the work and effort into the home.
I have a doctors appointment today to cover my meds, a hysto, and some other small medical concerns.
I have to put away my laundry and clean my body.
I need to submit a maintenance request for my broken balcony screen door.
And I have to spend at least 30 minutes doing something for mental wellness.
I just want to rot in my bed. But writing this out will hopefully give me the willpower to just get out of bed and start my day.
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I haven’t been feeling myself for a while…I don’t know what to do
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As of lately, I have been feeling really anxious looking at certain parts of my life.
I really just do not feel like myself. I find myself saying things or doing things without thinking and looking back sometimes later in the day or a few days after the fact and can help but to think “what the hell is wrong with me, why would I do that”.
I feel like there could be many things causing this but at the same time I sometimes think that this is who I truly am and if that’s the case I’m disgusted with who I am as a person.
I don’t know, does this make sense?
I am suppose to start counselling in a few days and I wish it would come faster.
I really don’t know what else to do.
Any suggestions, advice, or comments would be much appreciated
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Anxiety - Depression - hit the bottom floor
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I have to let it out. I have been an addict of some kind since I was 16 years old. Now I'm 50 years old. This has been numerous drugs. From Amphetamines when I was in my 20s, after my 20s, it was Alcohol and opiates, I lost a job due to stealing, to support a habit. By my 40s they put me on Methadone, from then until now. The first criminal charge was a class C felony, theft over 10k. That was deferred, then I continued to use of course and simply get another job. I will leave out childhood. For reference addiction runs heavy in my family, always has. Childhood consisted of basically mental, physical abuse, sexual abuse. I don't think that really was an issue, I was able to lock that Away. Later in life, I was cheated on by my wife of 15 years. That was a blow to my mental health, led to more addiction and more drugs, but no changes in life. Then at 48 I was hit with a DUI in my driveway, it was a welfare check because I was hammered drunk at work. I was in my car and that's that. I now was fired for theft again at 50 years of age, I currently see a psychiatrist and two counselors. I stole to buy wax which is expensive in Iowa, dispensary is 75 a gram. So becoming a habitual user becomes a $300 dollar a week habit, now that it happened I have Court today at 1:30pm. I reckon I will plead not guilty and indignant and request a court appointed attorney. They have me taking 7k worth of merchandise, pretty much a low life thief. The sentences can be 6 months to 5 years. I can tell you that when I was doing all the wrong things, I knew it. I knew it would come to a head, or an ending. In my mind I had already envisioned it, they would find out and I would just simply kill myself at that point because it is what it is. So the mindset was way wrong, obviously I was caught, I admitted to the theft to Loss Prevention so I just gave myself up. I was arrested at work, then they let me go with a summons to appear today (2 weeks later). At this point in life I don't know what to do. I am gonna lose my place to live, which puts my wife in a bad spot, my son is 25 and he is still at home, I'm about 16 days from that last rent payment. Then it is what it is. I have talked to my psychiatrist and know I'm waiting to go to Court to see what happens there. First summons to appear is today. I am hoping to take this and get into rehab and change an entire life of addiction, then at times it's like fuck it, it's too far lost, gone. I go back and forth. Sometimes I wish I wasn't such a shit bag with no brains that literally does all the wrong things, even though I know I'm doing all the wrong things. I was wanting to get caught, and now I don't know what will happen. My anxiety is off the charts, depression is bad, can't beat myself up enough, can't find a way to get any motivation to do shit now. I only hope I can make a change and move on, I really don't want to go to jail. I know you can get two deffered sentences in your life, but that's no guarantee and I don't see that happening. Oh well. If you made it this far, I guess I will see what happens today. I wish I would have helped myself a long time ago, then this wouldn't be. However everything happens for a reason, and now it is time to see what happens. You can be the best person in the world , but hiding behind the facade is an ugly thieving, lying, piece of garbage. I have never taken from my family or people, always stole from work, that just makes it worse. I guess looking at it now, I have no idea how it works out. I always think that it's gonna be alright, that doesn't help right now. I don't know if anything will be alright, maybe it can help someone to read this and maybe you will make a change bass on what you read here. It may also help to know that someone always has it worse, I know people have it worse than me. Get help early, wax is a little stronger than weed. It's a lose lose right now in my life. Let everyone down, my mom has dementia too, she doesn't understand what's going on. It's hard. I put myself here though so it is what it is. I don't know why I even put this up.
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Need help supporting family
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Need advice on supporting family with mental illness.
The question is two parts. One regarding coparenting with the other parent and their spouse. It was told to me by a friend of theirs to me (out of friends concern) that there’s several mental illnesses occuring (bpd, bipolar depression, a few others) and our 12 year old son we coparent was instructed to not bring info outside their home. This is gossip but I also know my ex wife was ill when she divorced me.
1- no issues in 1.5 years, however I am at a loss at some of the details we know but only the private nature from the couple. Cordial exchanges. I respect and support privacy - but does anyone have experience at examples that are things we have the right to know? And how to create an environment of support? I am certain my ex wife is fearful (new diagnosis since divorce) and we want to be supportive. We are stuck and would like education and guidance.
2- lastly some of the gossip was vague but entailed drug use and also seeing the spouses have occasional concerning behaviors- paranoid fights etc.
So just looking for guidance so I can give our son the right support and also handle this all for the best of everyone Thanks.
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Can’t hardly take this job much longer
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I don’t know what to do anymore considering this country (us) sucks everywhere you go. But for someone with massive mental health issues including lifelong depression, anxiety and so forth work has always been an issue. But yet I still am one of the hardest working employees at my work and one of the most reliable. I did none stop over time the first year and half I was there, but I was barely holding on. So considering I needed to take care of myself and my family needed me badly I quit working overtime and only worked my 40 hours. Well you’d think Id spit in their face and refused to work while I was at work because omg ever since then it’s been their goal to just harasses me and dangle my job over my head and how grateful I should be and so on and so on. I can’t hardly take it. I tough skin but my god I’m on the edge. What is wrong with work places now a days? It is no longer enough to just work your time and kick but, instead if you don’t work all the overtime they say on a weekly basis you are lazy scum and they will let you know so and how unwanted and worthless you are. Idk what to do. Most jobs are like this now so I don’t want to leave what I know for something the same or worse that I don’t know. On top of that my mental health is so fragile right now idk if I could hold down anything if I made the change and I need the money so apparently I have to just take the abuse while I wait what feels like an eternity for help. Wtf is wrong and going on with this world now. I can’t do this much longer. I need help asap and I’m going to try for temporary disability for like 6 months to a year so I can finally focus on my mental health and get that under control.
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Why do I want to hurt animals sometimes?
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Background info: 22yo female, parents got divorced when I was young and I had a very rocky, at times physically abusive (only two occasions), relationship with step mum. Dad also had rocky relationship with step mum (his new wife). Moved out, or rather got kicked out by step mum, at 17.
Have been diagnosed with OCD about a year ago.
I have NEVER disclosed this info to anyone because I find it disturbing and they would too, hence the throwaway account. Basically, when I was a kid there were a few occasions where I deliberately harmed animals. We had a pond, and once I caught a newt and cut the tip of its tail and some of its toes off with a stone. My grandparents also had a pond, I once took the frogs from the pond (four or five I think) and shoved them down the side of a bed. I think I was around 6-8 years old for those occasions, parents weren't divorced yet I don't think. Then, at around 14 maybe, I would hold one of the cats we have by the scruff and lightly tap them against a wall or other furniture. I'd also hold them by the scruff and slide/throw them across the floor too.
I have my own pets now, and I still get that urge sometimes but in a different way. If one of my pets needs oral medication, the more I have to restrain them the more enjoy it. If one of my pets annoys me then I don't mind pushing them around.
I honestly don't know where the urge to do that comes from within me. I've always loved animals and I love the cats and the pets I have now. When a pet of mine passes away, I get extremely upset because I care about them so much. I don't think I'd ever be capable of fatally hurting any of them. honestly hate that I have this darkness inside of me.
So what the heck is wrong with me? How do I get rid of it? I did a little research and found that animal abuse is seen in people with obsessive compulsive personality disorder, so maybe I don't just have OCD.
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Hotline worker told me I was a bad person/liar hung up on me; dispatched police who when to my job the next day
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Called a hotline crying because I had an argument about covid with a friend, they said it wasn't real, nothing happened, conspiracy stuff. Was questioning why I keeping going when people are so unempathetic and nasty.
Hotline worker told had an angry opinion about it, told me I was a bad person and I lair. They hung up on me.
The next day police came to my job asking about me because they said someone on the hotlime reported me. The traced my call, pulled all my information, including my name, address, employer. I was working from home at the time so the cops didn't find me.
My job emailed me about why they were looking for me. I had to explain the situation to my job which wasn't ideal.
When I called the county to find out what was going on, they refused to tell me anything and have me a bureaucratic run around, saying I would need to submitted a lot of paper work just for them to tell me why the police were dispatched to my job.
I demanded to get more information and eventually they told me the hotline worker reported me to the police as a danger, and that ever time you call a hotline they took notes on what I said, which were kept in county office.
The county would not tell me.if the police were still trying to find me, or what was going on. I was very scared because I just wanted tonvent to someone, I didn't know the cops would come to my job.
I feel disturbed and betrayed that the county keeps notes on everything you say when you call a hotline, and can later use those notes to call the police on you.
Do not call a hotline. I even tried to hide my number and it didn't work. Do not trust the hotlines. They are potentially keeping records of everything you tell them in your county office. In my county they told me they retain the records forever, so from now on I have a file with the county and police that's I am not even able to request access to, about things I told an hotline worker believing it to be in confidence.
There is no help available. I won't ever talk about these things again.
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dm me pleaseeee
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I am m15 looking for female friends not looking for anything romantic just a friendship please dm me I am not having the best day I got beat up twice yesterday
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How to help my friend?
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I think my friend is depressed and suicidal! She doesn't share anything with anyone but her behavior is really worrying me. It's just feels like she is living in a dark place not letting anyone enter. She talks to me but whenever I try to ask her about it she always drops the topic. I want to help her, be there for her, because I care for her like my little sister and she means a lot to me.
Our group of friend is really concerned about her, as she is been shutting everyone out lately and only talks the simple stuffs(that's so unlike her), also she's into compulsive drinking and smoking whenever she gets the chance.
Can anyone suggest how can I make her open up? Also I know we cannot force her to visit any psychologist/psychiatrist. Please help.
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Life feels barren
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My life is like sand. It's dry, fragile, and fragmented. No matter how much effort I put into moistening it, it always ends up going back to its dry state. I know that happiness requires effort and doesn't last forever. That's why I try to work out, meditate, read, spend time with loved ones, and solve problems at work to feel accomplished. But sometimes it feels like all of these temporary fixes aren't enough to make a real difference in the grand scheme of things.
Despite this, I know that sand has its good points too. You can still plant some carrots and feed yourself and your loved ones. So, even though life can feel dry and meaningless at times, there are still small things that can make a big difference.
However, I can't help but wonder if life should be more than just moistening sand and growing carrots. Don't I deserve more than that? Shouldn't I be able to reach my full potential and make a real impact on the world, even if it's just in a small way? Don't I deserve to find people who truly understand and appreciate me for who I am? These thoughts have been weighing heavily on my mind lately, and I feel like a square peg in a round hole.
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What do I do?
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I am a 16 year old. For the past few months I have been feeling, well.. I don't know the word.
Back in 2020, my mental health got terrible (possibly depressed) and everyday was horrible, and this phase lasted till 2022. I hated every bit of it, trust me. I was on antidepressants for a month but i knew I'd get too dependant so I stopped taking them (they were prescribed for only one month too) .But for the last few months, I've been feeling so empty. There's this constant feeling and i don't know what that is but whatever it is, it's not good. I'm not depressed, but I'm not happy or okay either. I have good days occasionally but other than everything in my life is just so dull. And I don't look forward to anything, everything feels meaningless. It's taking so much effort to just exist. This sounds weird but having horrible days was much better than this. But that's because, back in 2020 when my mental health begun to get worse, I knew the reason, i had a problem and eventually, in the time of 2 years (2022) i was able to solve it and that problem no longer affects me. But now I'm not aware what the problem is, i don't know why I don't feel okay when everything is going okay. I mean yeah there are still tiny problems but that's normal. I don't know what I'm trying to say, i just feel....weird. Does anyone know what's going on or how i can get out of this? Apart from seeking professional help, please don't ask me to. I have my reasons and its not possible for me to see a psychiatrist or therapist yet. Help me out if you can please. I don't feel like doing anything at all. Also, I care so much about what people say i keep having bad days just because of what people say/think about me, is there any way to not care about that? Right now, I'm just existing, i want to live but i can't seem to do that.
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I feel like my behavior costs me friendships.
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I have an obsessive and never ending urge to listen to and talk about the latest news or world politics.
I know I should not talk about these subjects all the time, but I cant help wanting to always have deep discussions rather than being fun or joking.
There have been so many times that Ive hanged out with people and just ruined the otherwise fun night by diving into deep discussions about the news or politics.
I REALLY don't want to, I just want to be fun and carefree, but instead my mind is constantly searching to be updated about everything.
I spend 90% of my free time listening to the news or watching educational videos - which I enjoy.
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What makes you feel okay?
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Hello everyone!
The question is simple.
I just want to know as somebody who is struggling what is the thing that make you feel okay?
Or maybe the thought that make you feel a little bit better?
If you have a disorder please mention it :)
Have a good day/night <3
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How to recover from a therapy session ?
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I still feel completely drained from my last therapy session, my brain is foggy and I'm having headaches, the night of sleep didn't seem to help much I'm so tired... How can I relieve my brain ?
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Mom cleaning room without my permission, and I’m getting super upset/having anxiety about it. Need help
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I need to know if I’m alone in this. I feel like I’m going crazy. I (19f) still live with my parents in our house. I have a small room that I try to keep organized, but it does get messy a lot of the time. I have a day to deep clean it on weekends when I’m off work. She has this habit where she likes to come into my room and “reorganize” (take everything from it’s spot and put it somewhere else). Every time she does this and I come home to it, I start having major anxiety; breathing fast, chest tightening, I start crying, and I feel like my skin is crawling because of how different my room is. No matter how many times I try and explain this to her and how it affects me, she tells me “well, should’ve kept it cleaner” and laughs. She and my father think I’m being ridiculous, and that I’m over-dramatic. This has happened more times than I can count, and it seems to be getting worse over time. I have to decline to go out to dinner or events with friends because I start thinking about how I’m going to come back to my room being a completely different space. There’s nothing in my room I’m afraid of her finding or discovering, so I’m not sure why I feel this way. There’s nothing online I can find about this, I’ve tried to do research about what’s wrong with me but to no avail. Could it be some type of undiagnosed OCD? I do indeed have ADHD, which could be somehow contributing, but I’m starting to feel helpless right now because she gets home before I do and doesn’t even give me a chance to clean. Thoughts??
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Advice
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Living with anxiety and depression can be really hard. Im (22F) and I’ve been struggling with it since elementary. I’ve barely got any friends and never had a serious parter. What can I do to put myself out there ? I want to share things and rely on someone and love them as much as I hope they would me. I lack the confidence and because of trauma I’ve locked myself away, i would send days in my house only going out to do the necessary things.
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I think I’m going insane
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So over the past several months I’ve been kinda I guess you’d call it hallucinating basically I’ll be lying down in bed right and I’ll get up head downstairs say hi to mom talk to my brother eat cereal and sometimes I even make it to taking a shower and it all feels real then my head starts hurting like crazy and boom I’m back in bed. This has even happened at school I was just sitting in my AP human geo the bell rings I grab my stuff walk out of the classroom to my locker only for my head to start hurting and boom I’m in the classroom with my teacher staring at me saying I was just “staring at the wall” and that my eyes were”fluttering all over the place”. I tried looking it up online but surprise I found nothing so I’m hoping somebody in here knows what’s happening to me if you do please leave a comment I’d really appreciate it.
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Why won’t I do anything?
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I’m from Ireland but am studying in England. I have 2 contact hours a day, 3 days a week. The rest of the week I spend at work. If I’m not in Uni or at work, I’m in bed. Not doing course work, not tidying the flat or going for walks or hanging out with friends nor doing any of the things I like. Just in bed.
I can’t find the motivation to do anything, the only reason I get up for work is because I will literally be homeless if I don’t. I can’t even enjoy a few pints with friends or have a nice date with my girlfriend or else I feel an enormous amount of shame and dread that I won’t be able to cover my rent and bills. I have no financial support other than asking my parents to help me out every so often. But that just makes me feel worse, they shouldn’t need to bail me out. Even when I spend money on necessary things like groceries or travel fair I feel shame.
And with uni work… we’ll I’m a procrastinator. And not in the fun relatable way. I’m pretty sure what is the equivalent of my dissertation is going to be done in its entirety the night before it is due as well as all of my other assignments. If I fail this course I honestly have no clue what I am going to do with my life. I don’t think I have any applicable skills at all. I wouldn’t be too ashamed to move back in with my parents in Ireland for a little while but I’m getting too old now to not be able to earn any skills that’ll get me a decent job.
That’s another thing. I’m 24, most people in my year are about 20. I know this is just an “age is just a number” thing and I don’t want to make any mature students feel discouraged. But I can’t help but let it get to me. I feel like that time of my life where I am meant to develop is finished. Now my brain is done absorbing information and it didn’t even manage to absorb anything fucking useful. There are people who I know, who I went to school with with small businesses and children. I had my chance, and I chose to sleep in.
It’s not like I haven’t tried anything. I’m just bad at keeping up with anything. I tried cognitive behavioural therapy, to get me more in a productive routine so that when leisure time would come around I wouldn’t feel so bad. Tried that for months to no avail. The only thing to come out of it was my therapist telling me I was depressed. Well at least I know for sure now.
Can’t afford 1 to 1 therapy so I’m just living with it right now, and deadlines are charging me down like a parade of bulls. And bills and rent are sucking me dry. The only thing that doesn’t seem to cost me money or energy is sleeping. It’s a vicious cycle and I want out but I don’t know how.
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I need help!!!
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Hey everyone, I’m really struggling right now. Here’s a little backstory. I’ve had extreme OCD since I was 10. I’m 18 now and for the last year I’ve had crippling health anxiety. The first 6-months of my health anxiety was all physical health related like heart attack’s, cancer, tumors, ect. I probably went to the emergencies 10 times and I had 14 EKGS done, 3 Ct scans and a mri. I would go to the er because I was convinced I was having a heart attack at 18. Eventually I got over my physical health anxiety and haven’t been to the emergencies in 6 months. Sadly things have been much, much worse.
Now my worries are purely mental health related. I switch between schizophrenia, bipolar and borderline personality disorder, and Dissociative Identity Disorder. Ive been sure that I have every one of these at one point or another. Some nights I’ll be sure I have schizophrenia or someone nights I’ll be worried about bi polar. I was prescribed lexapro a year ago but can never get myself to take it for more that a week. I’m suffering so bad, whenever I try to take medicine I get convinced I’m in mania and end up stopping the medicine. I want to take the medicine, but I get so scared that I’ll go into mania and loose my job and my girlfriend.But I need medicine, I spend hours at night researching mental health conditions. But I’m also a health freak and am into dieting and exercising and I try to tell myself that supplements and a large dose of cbd oil will do the trick that lexapro does. I’ve laid down on my floor convinced that I’m going to go into phycosis. l started experiencing dissociation, which made me start worrying I have DID. Im in a constant cycle of pain. I just want to feel better again. I can’t even go to to public highschool anymore. My senior year was ruined by my ocd. Every day I wake up fully convinced I will go insane. Deep down I know I won’t but I just can’t stop thinking it. Im begging for anyone to give me advice, or atleast for someone to talk to about it. My insta is Triston_keifer if anyone can give me some advice.
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i’m getting help
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i’ve been struggling with my depression and anxiety since 6th grade. nothing i ever tried seemed to help. recent it got so bad i got physically sick. i couldn’t eat and i lost over 20 pounds. i finally convinced myself to go on medication and start going to therapy. i’m on day 5 of taking my medication and my first therapy session is in 2 weeks. i also cleaned my depression room today after 4 months. i’m so excited to get better.
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What is something about you that you feel nobody else could understand
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Hello! Tell me a thing about yourself that you feel is so specific that nobody else experience it and see if you can find people with the same way of thinking/doing things :)
be 100% honest even if you think that thing is bad
!! no judging !!
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Idk what to do anymore.
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Tw: In case. Lately I've been feeling like I'm going through so much and idk what to do anymore. My mental health scares me much. I feel like I'm in a constant battle against life and I'm just losing. Idk how to fix the issues I deal with anymore. The main issue that bothers me is my gender identity and sexuality ( I'm lesbian but I really suffer from. Comphet ( which is basically how we live in a hetero normative society and how we're just expected to be straight) and idk how to beat it. Also last year is when I really started having gender issues. ( I feel like I'm non binary/gender fluid ) but I just feel trapped bc I feel as society just sees me as a woman when I just wanna be seen as a person. On top of these issues I face.. I take care of my mom 24/7 bc ( long story short she had a major surgery to remove a tumor back. In 2021and after surgery she got really sick that left her bed bound) and now she's in and out of the hospital with infections and I'm just so afraid of losing her. I have a lot of help from my family but it's still scary. I already feel as for me life is just nothing but trauma bc I already went through something similar with my grandma ( she had brain cancer back in 2013 and passed away the following year) , but it feels as I'm going through the same thing in a way with my mom. On top of this I feel trapped overall bc I don't go anywhere and I don't have any irl friends so I never get to do anything. My family suggests I get out everyday to go walking or to the gym but it's just so hard bc my depression and anxiety is so bad lately. I'm only 23 and there's so much I wanna do in the world like working again and even going to college and. Idek when. I'll be able to. I really don't want to give up bc I know in the end it's not worth it but idk what to do anymore.
Does anyone have any advice on what I can do to get better or try to? Im open to anything.
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Idk how to feel
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I've just realised that I don't think I feel emotions properly. Like none of my emotions are truly genuine and I just want to show whatever emotion I think is appropriate at the time. Really questioning myself, I chose my situation right now but am I in it because I want to be or because I think I should be? Is this a specific mental disorder or am I over thinking what is this, and why can't I feel things enough
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ive never used this app. I felt overwhelmed and felt I needed to write my thoughts down.
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It's been 6 years since I was last in a relationship.
I was still a kid so I pouted about for a year and I got over it. Started working and focusing on myself. Got my own place, my own car.
My own life.
2 years later I'm the most trained and qualified person at my mill.
Spend another year mastering my craft and get plans to move up and on in life.
I get into a accident at work. Almost loose my life. I got myself out of there (with help of others) I was the most calm in the situation as my arm is broken apart and I'm bleeding everywhere
I get no recognition, nor praise for my strength and bravery it took to keep myself alive. When Everyone who had a hand in helping me got praise.
2 years of healing mentality and physically
And here we are. Stuck in a office where I get overlooked for positions im the most qualified for. And I can't move up or use what my experience and knowledge.
I do not get recognized for my work.
I feel under appreciated to a hole other level.
I bust my ass in every way I can to prove I'm worthy of what I deserve.
It's like that everywhere. I'm constantly disrespected, not appreciated, and feel unworthy of much of anything. Even in my own home.
I've never made anyone proud that I know of. Noone says it. I've made myself proud therefor I'm a man of pride. But I've been bottling up these emotions for years. I love myself now. I just want to hear it from someone. For someone to tell me they are proud of me for who I've become. Someone to love me for who I am. I've been so fucking strong for everyone including myself. But It don't seem like anyone even notices. Noone says anything. Therefor I am lonely. I'm the only one telling myself I'm doing a good job. I'm fighting the good fight. And I am capable of anything.
I just need to hear it. I want someone to see me for me. And tell me I'm deserving of love and I'm a good person. I don't want to date. Fuck around and be hurt over and over. I'm overly mature for 24. And I can't get the time of day from Noone.
I've tried dating. I guess I'm too boring? When I'm being genuine. I get ghosted and ignored.
I'm a pressure valve about to explode and I just need someone to hold me to control the release. And tell me it's okay. There's only one I want to be that deep. That intimate with and it's impossible to show her how I feel.
I have 2 people I confide in. *Redacted* is the best bloke I could have met. I appreciate the hell out of him.
*Redacted* She's one of the only lights in my life, anytime I see her I smile, I catch myself just looking at here. Admiring her person and beauty. She's too hard on herself (which I understand completely, I'm the same way)
I watch her struggle the little bit see and talk to her. I don't want to be pushy and force her to hang out with me if she doesn't want to.
The other night I was going to bed and she wanted me to come hang for what little time I had.
I haven't had that good of a time in years. And we just sat on the couch talking and laughing at anything/everything.
I haven't felt that comfortable. That at peace. I think ever in my life. Near death experience really made me want to cut the bullshit and that is what I want. A life with her.
Id give her my everything and anything. We were best friends and she doesn't see me in this way at all.
All these guys just hurt her. Use her. And I'd never do such a thing. I want to hold her and be her pressure release. I want to battle this life with her. One person can hold them off but they will get through.
2 people can fight the world.
I believe we can be the successful power couple capable of anything. But how do I explain and inform her of that without loosing her. Scaring her away. I've loved her since we were kids.
She's my longest going friend I've ever had. And I can't loose her.
But I am content with being just friends. I just want her to be apart of my life in anyway. And I hers.
She works so much and is so hard on herself I feel like a burden if I just show up or ask her to hangout all the time. Because I understand not wanting to do anything. I just don't know what to do.
How do I have this discussion? Or see if it happens naturally?
Sorry I don't get any feedback from anyone I talk to about this in person so.. here I am. There's alot to unpack but idk where to go with any of this nor know where to go for advice. I'd appreciate any feedback or if any further questions I'd be happy to answer. Thanks yall.
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I have everything in life, but my self-esteem does not exist
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First off, I want to say that I (20M) have a relatively good life. I am a graduate student at a university, I have a great graduate assistant job, a great family, and I have a good workout routine. With that being said, my self-esteem and self-worth have been absolutely crushed by the fact that most girls would love to be friends with me, but they would not want an intimate relationship with me (romance; not just sex). It's not like I am brutally unattractive and/or have a bad personality. I am 6'6 235 and I am almost always friendly to people. My experience with girls is that they end up treating me like a teddy bear who is an option to fulfill their emotional needs with comfort. Let me be clear, I am not saying women are the problem. Clearly, that is not the case. This is extremely frustrating and makes me feel like I am unlovable, unattractive, and just not worth it. Outside of this, I have very debilitating OCD that makes functioning in society difficult, but manageable. Because of my OCD, I feel that I am simply lesser than others. I feel like I have done everything to focus on loving myself because you can't solve feeling unloved by others until you love yourself. For me, this entails working out, going to therapy, tackling my weed addiction, hanging with friends who value me, reading about stuff I am interested in, etc. This all sounds great, but at the end of the day I just sit in my room and cry about how bad I feel about myself
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mental hospitals.
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I'm at my wits end. I can't take this. I'm a 15 year old Irish girl. I just can't take this. I can't. There's no fixing me.
Is it good for me wanting to go into a mental hospital... I just need help.. I hate school.. I hate my home... I hate myself. I loved one, but that one is gone.
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what does the world think of this
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[https://youtu.be/pKM8RJQmTHQ](https://youtu.be/pKM8RJQmTHQ)
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I’m falling apart
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In December I left my friend group because I couldn’t stand the emotional abuse I endured. These people who I’ve known for five years and dedicated my entire being to we’re just gone. It was like they were dead yet I saw them walking around me every single day. I had to mourn them and I had to learn to stop loving them. They continued to talked behind my back, saying things like how horrible I am and calling me a fake Jew. Currently, they still ostracize me and there is absolutely nothing I can do about it.
I have had kind of metamorphosis since then I feel like grown and become a healthier person. And yet I am so lonely, the type of loneliness that begs for attention. I have new people around me and it’s like I’m not connected to them. They talk about things that I am pretty on interested in but I listen. I try to assert myself and yet I still know that I am just an acquaintance. I’m nothing more. I wanna have a deep connection again. I want someone that can look into my eyes and I know immediately what I’m thinking.
The worst part is, I am edging towards self mutilation. I’ve always inflicted harm onto myself because it is just so easy to mend physical wounds and ignore anything inside. However, the harm was always tearing up my skin. When I look at sharp objects, I think about hurting myself with them. I just want the relief in the release of all my anxiety. And yet there is a sick part of me that also wants to do it to prove a point to them. To show them how much they hurt. I keep fighting the urge but I’m falling apart
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I feel depressed about my travel trip
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I'm a 13 year old boy who just recently went on a little trip with my mother to Vancouver, BC.
I just came back today and I feel like crying and feel depressed because the city was so nice and the mountains were so beautiful, When I got home I cried because I feel my life is so shitty compared to everyone else's, especially where I live.
I know this sounds very pathetic compared to other things people are going through, I just feel this is something important to me.
I have had a deep depression before and almost committed suicided three times in the past, I feel scared to have a depression episode, and if I do have one I worry that it will last a long time. :(
Any Feedback helps.
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Why am I like this?
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For the past month and a half, I've just had this feeling of emptiness. Like, I don't think there is a reason for this, but maybe there is. My family is well off financially and socially, I'm doing things with friends I love, and I am spending time alone to relax fron these social situations. From this, I can't really find why I feel empty, but I do. Can anyone help me?
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Q: What should I do when I think someone I know is self-harming?
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So, I actually asked this a few days ago, but didn’t get a reply. So I want to ask again. Please help me, this is very important to me.
For context, I am a high school student (16F) who is involved in band. We were recently trying on our uniforms in the change-rooms, when I saw some scars on one of my classmates (16/17F) thighs. From what I could see, they weren’t new, but a part of me was worried that somewhere there could be fresh cuts. Of course, I didn’t want to make my classmate uncomfortable by asking about it, so I just let it go. But the more I thought about it, the more it bothered me.
So, how should I go about this? I’m worried that if I let it be, I might regret it for the rest of my life. But I’m also worried that she’ll think I’m pitying her, or it’ll make her uncomfortable. I’m also worried that me bringing this up might make her relapse.
Please help me figure out what to do. I can’t think of what to do alone. I want to help, but I don’t want to harm.
Should I speak to her about it, or should I maybe leave it alone? Or perhaps I should wait and see if she shows any signs of something wrong? What’s the right course of action?
Please please help me. I am so worried and concerned about it, because as someone who has been there, I want to reach out and help if she needs it.
I just really need some more opinions before deciding. Thank you.
UPDATE:
I messaged her, to not create any pressure, or overwhelm her, etc. She said that she had been struggling last year, but is getting help and is slowly getting better, which is amazing. I’m so happy to know that she’s getting the help she deserves and needs.
I told her that if she ever needs to talk to anyone, or just anything at all, I’m here for her. She said she would keep it in mind. :)
Anyway, everything’s going okay for her, and I’m glad I reached out to her.
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I just want to vent, I don't see the point anymore
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I've only been recently diagnosed with depression and prescribed medication for it. I've just come out of a relationship where I had been cheated on and emotionally manipulated and the relationship before that I was raped and had my money taken from me. I don't know what to do anymore, each day I feel like a walking husk and I'm just watching my life pass by. My family relationships are strained as I'm labelled as a "retard" by my mother, father and sister over wanting to kill myself and that they make me uncomfortable as I don't feel supported by them as they say I'm apparently autistic and take things the wrong way when they invalidate my feelings and for when I hide in my room away from their verbal abuse. I am not diagnosed with autism and have been tested privately for such. I cant move out as the price of living is rising drastically and I feel stuck in a house with strangers while I'm waiting for my next batch of meds as I'm off my antidepressants for over 2 weeks now due to struggling to want to even leave my bed. It just feels like a struggle to find a passion to live when my only support is my friends but even then I'm still stuck feeling lonely. I've already made 3 attempts on my life from jan to now alone via overdose and I'm starting to fall back into self harm.
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Really need help
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So, to recap, I'm 29 years old and on the autism spectrum. I had to drop out of university in 2019 due to financial problems at home, and things weren't going well for me even before that. Since then, I haven't been able to find a job or continue my studies.
In 2021, my father passed away, and it hit me hard. He was my go-to person for help with my issues, including financial ones. After his death, my mother and I had to move in with my grandmother. We're currently living off of her retirement, which is decent money, but it's still a challenging situation for me.
I bought a computer to study programming and try to break into that field, but my anxiety makes it difficult for me to do anything professional. I recently advertised my services on a website and got my first customer, which was a big deal for me. However, when the customer agreed to hire me for the job, I became overwhelmed with anxiety and almost found an excuse to get out of it. It's frustrating because I've been wanting an opportunity like this for a long time.
Right now, I'm struggling financially and can't afford therapy or medication. I haven't bought new clothes in two years, and I feel useless and disappointed in myself. I don't see a way out of my current situation.
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I don't wanna try anymore.
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I'm getting 20 years old next month and I'm faceing hard anxiety and depression since my 13's.
I don't have barely any entusiasm in my life anymore, and my OCD only's getting harder since 2021. I don't wanna go outside home, I already left highschool more than 2 years ago and I'm still not working or going to college, which intensifies my family financial problems, I feel totally useless, and I honestly don't wanna even try anymore, I don't feel comfortable out of my bedroom, but I also get depressed on there, so I'm not okay in anywhere.
I almost don't have friends cuz all of them are in my old town and due to my lack of outside activities I haven't made New friends on my current city since 2020, only have had family meetings in this period and feel really bored.
I don't feel like getting better, just wanted to disappear completely from everyone's lives.
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Looking for some advice. Not sure what to do anymore.
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I’ve been dealing with some mental health issues as of late. I feel like people are watching me and judging me when I go outside and then I have anxiety attacks. It’s made it really hard to leave my home. It’s made it really hard to do simple day to day tasks like getting mail at the community mail box or shovel the sidewalk. I’m not sure what this all is. It’s hard to talk about it, even with family. I want to see a doctor but I can’t muscle the courage to do so. I don’t have a family doctor and I’m not sure how to even go about it. Im depressed, I feel lazy and I feel ashamed. I have not been working because I can’t leave the house. I desperately want to work because my family have been supporting me financially. (they think I’ve been going through a dry spell for work) and it makes me feel even worse about myself that I can’t help myself. I’m also going into debt and it doesn’t help my health either.
I’ve been like this for about 8 months now. I’m 38 male from Canada. Has anybody else experienced this or something similar. Does anyone have any positive advice on how to get through this? TIA.
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My personal advice to people living in dysfunctional families
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So I’m currently 14 M living with my mom and brother at home. My father divorced my mom when I was 11 - 12 and when I thought that no more fighting would happen at home, my brother started acting like a real **** at home and is constantly fighting with my mom. At one point their fight almost turned physical and ever since then I’m always on edge when hearing them scream at each other. I hate going to school or leaving the house in general when my mom and brother are home alone and I’m not there to protect my mom who by the way is the most important person in my life. My brother never actually hit or beat up my mom but that one time where it almost escalated into violence was enough to leave a mark on me forever.
I noticed I became more hyper vigilant and anxious but when I’m at home and their fight just ended I just feel numb for days sometimes.
Here’s my advice to you:
My advice is more of a mindset. Whenever I was going through something like that I started to victimize my self in my head. For example I would ask my self “why did I have to be born into this family” or “why can’t I just have a normal life”.
Although I have some good points it still doesn’t change the fact that it’s how things just are.
I started to feel a lot better when I started saying to myself “You are so much stronger because of this” or “It’s not about what happens to me but how I deal with it”
I hope this helps you if you have any advice on your own I will be very glad :)
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Suicide
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I've known my girlfriend for more than 2 years and we got a couple 5 months ago. I love her more than anything. She's suicidal since about 3 years and she says I'm helping her through a hard time. She says she hasn't got anymore reasons to stay alive . Her grades are bad , she doesn't has a good releationship to her parents( it's really bad tbh) and she doesn't have many friends. She's trying to make it easier for her to kill herself by getting me to hate her. I cannot hate her , i love her more than anything else. I've spoken to her but she doesn't want any help. She just says she wants to end her life and it doesn't make sense to help her anymore. I give her all my love. We're messaging each other every day , i see her every day, give her compliments , cuddle with her, trying to help her... .If someone can help us, please contact me . I don't think i've got much time.
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ok so I am having a super hard time. we just brought home our new 7 wk old baby and I am struggling very badly with PTSD and anxiety we have a 3.5 year old who might be slightly autistic and he's been staying with his grand parents for a while now. I feel like I am failing everyone.
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ANHEDONIA AVOLITION & APATHY
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Caused by antipsychotics ~ what are the best meds to counteract these side effects…I just wish to feel & be motivated enough to care again.
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What to do when the agony is extreme and your mind is on fire?? While also emotionally numb
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Whenever my SI soars I find it difficult to describe how I feel. At night my thoughts race, I have a ball in my stomach, my chest tightens, I feel like I need to cry but can’t, and the world seems incredibly overwhelming. I like the term “mind on fire” because I think it capsulates the emotional psychological pain I’m feeling, urgency to stop it resulting in a desire to die. Does anyone have any suggestions on how else to describe it to my T and how to stop it. Is it normal to be depressed and have high SI that makes you experience immense psychological pain while also feeling numb at the same time? I can’t feel happiness, excitement, joy, only a little anger. It’s like all of my emotions are muted except the agony and anxiety that relentlessly show up every afternoon. Does anyone else have experience feeling this way?
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Emotional numb (?)
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So I haven't felt many emotions in a looong time and there are some I can't place entirely... The only thing describing this feeling, or rather the lack of feelings I found is emotional numbness. Is it just that or could there be something else? Nowadays I pretty much feel nothing except the occasional tiny bit (no sarcasm, it really isn't much) of anxiety, in the past I also felt anger sometimes but that's also gone, I think.
Sry for the rambling maybe someone has an answer... So thanks in advance
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Why do I feel like I should die but I’m getting better?
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So, basically what the title says. I just feel like giving up. Being apart of the trans community isn’t helping either.
I used to be really REALLY depressed for so long, and recently started SH’ing. I made an active plan in 2022.
I feel like giving up and relapsing even though I’m relatively better than I used to be. I also made a post on one mental health subreddit where I have sewerslidal thoughts even though I’m so much better.
So my question is why? Why does this happen?
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I need my dog… please…
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I don’t know if this is the right sub, but I really do need help.
I had to give my dog up because surgery was too expensive. Today, we had no other option than to do the surgery. I’m out of state, and won’t be able to go back home till Spring Break.
Since we have to give him up, Safe Heaven is paying for the surgery and he is no longer my dog. The surgery is risky, so we are playing a waiting game on whether he makes it or not.
If he doesn’t make it, I don’t know what I will do. I already lost five friends, and I can’t lose my dog too. I won’t be able to take this. I can’t take; I won’t be able to handle it. This is the worst year of my life. It hasn’t even been a year and I lost five friends. They can’t take my dog too.
If he does make it, what are the chances of us being able to adopt him again?
Edit: We have him up at our vet and then they took him to the Humane Society. The surgery is an emergency… I’m going to call them again and see if I raise enough money to pay for the surgery if they will allow us to adopt him back if they won’t do so already…
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Healthy Masculinity
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This is a topic that is near and dear to my heart. It pains me to see men behave in a way that makes all men appear self-absorbed, aggressive, and dangerous. For a long time I denied that toxic masculinity existed, I thought it was just another word used to put people in boxes. It is easy to be blind to something that you don’t want to see, but through experience my eyes have been opened. During my years of working with men, women, and children I have been inundated with accounts of bad men. Countless times I have sat with victims and heard their stories of abuse and more often than not the abuser is a man.
I write this post not to attack, defile, or label men. Rather to support men and bring awareness to the issues. I have sympathy for men who act in a deplorable way. Not because I approve of their actions but because I understand that they are a product of their environment. Men like any other group learn from their parents and far too often boys grow into men without fathers in their lives. A boy without a father is like an explorer without a map, lost and tired trying to find their way through life. It is not impossible for a fatherless man to be a good man but it is harder to get there. This problem is not exclusive to the fatherless individual. Many men were raised with fathers in their lives, but were never taught what it means to be a “good man”.
What is a good man? The answer to this question may differ based on your culture, values, and experience. However I have identified three key components that good men have in common
1) First is emotional connectedness, not to be mistake for being “an, emotional man”. Emotionally connectedness is having awareness of your emotions and understanding how they affect your behavior. A man who is emotionally disconnected when confronted with difficult feelings will be quick to anger, slow to forgive, and swift to blame. However a man who is aware of his emotions has patience with those he loves and knows how to process his thoughts before he acts. This trait takes practice and is difficult to master.
2) Second is emotional resilience. Webster’s dictionary defines resilience as, “the capability of a strained body to recover its size and shape after deformation caused especially by compressive stress”. I understand this component as a mans ability to absorb the stress around him and regain his mental composure. I find that often times the violent and aggressive men you hear about were under compounding stress. Rather than processing the stressors and returning to a safe mental baseline they gave into the urge to react without forethought. A truly resilient man understands how to comprehend a difficult situation and calculate his actions instead of prematurely acting on his initial impulses.
3) Lastly is effective communication. It has been difficult seeing men who can not express their wants and needs in a way that is conducive for a healthy relationships. Men who can not accurately describe how they feel and effectively seek feedback are a recipe for disaster. When men who lack emotional resilience and connectedness do not feel heard or understood it can often lead to aggressive outbursts. I don’t believe that most men want to be aggressive or violent, but I do believe that the men who commonly have these traits lack the basic communication skills needed to be happy and healthy in todays society.
In summary I believe that men are falling short in their responsibilities as husbands, fathers, and role models for the next generation. It has become to common for men who lack emotional strength and communication skills to exercise force and coercion to get what they want. I have faith that men can rise to the occasion and with the appropriate support can exceed expectations.
LCSW
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