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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice TITLE: What can I do legally to restore water to my condominium!? POST: Hi, I live in SE Michigan in a condominium complex. Our water was shut off due to non-payment. (we recieved no notice) and we had to pay all that was due ($1500) We payed this yesterday at 2, they said the water would be turned on immediately. It wasn't. It's now the next day. The lady in our assosciation keeps insisting that the water meter is in another condo. Which we can't access because the person living there is never there (it's being rented) Now we're stuck with no water, no shower, no teeth brushing, no toilets, and no food for certain meals.... Please help us... What can we do? We called the police and they say that we can file a civil report for the lady not doing her job... TL;DR: . Assistant:	Water is shut off in our condo, we pay money, we don't get water back due to meter being in another persons house	Water is shut off in our condo, we pay money, we don't get water back due to meter being in another persons house	2,667
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: Roommate accuses me of stealing. POST: We're both 19f, been living together for 6 months. We were friends at the beginning, always borrowing each others things. We'd always ask first though. Then we went through an awkward faze of not talking. We got over that. During that period though, she would tweet things that I felt were obviously related to me. For example she tweeted "I smell a theif" and then a day later all her food from the kitchen was stored in her room. I have NEVER touched any of her food...ever! And now she'll ask me "hey..do you have my black shirt with the lace.." ex..and I wont have it because I never took it but she'll act like she doesn't believe me. And then she'll tweet.."I strongly dislike people who take my stuff without asking." So I texted her just being like.."Hey, I hope you don't think im holding out on you. I have given all your clothing back that I've borrowed, and I haven't taken anything without asking. I just don't want you thinking im lying to you!" and all she responded was.."lol nah its all good. it will probably show up somewhere. " So I don't know where to go from here. I was then like.."Okay, well I have 5 and I dont where 2 of them anymore, so if you need one you can have one! :)" and she was like.."lol ok." So this is so awkward for me, and I know she's telling her friends its me. I don't know where to go from here. Or if there is anything else I can do. TL;DR: . Assistant:	haven't taken any of my roommates things, yet she hints very strongly that it's me. Tried confronting her about it in a nice way but she just basically ignored me. Not sure where to go from here.	haven't taken any of my roommates things, yet she hints very strongly that it's me. Tried confronting her about it in a nice way but she just basically ignored me. Not sure where to go from here.	1,953
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [26 F] with my boyfriend [27] of two years, I saw a text, asked him about it, text is now gone. POST: Maybe five or six weeks ago, I was sitting with my boyfriend as he was on his phone. I can't remember why, but at one point he went to his texts and gave it a big scroll back (I didn't see how far). As it came to a stop, a text from "Diane" saying "Fo sho" caught my eye. I don't know that name, but I didn't really think anything of it, as my boyfriend works freelance and talks to a lot of people, most of whose names I don't know. Over the next few weeks, I found myself occasionally wondering who Diane was. I didn't want to make my boyfriend feel accused, and I trust him, but after a while I figured what's the harm in asking. I'll ask, he'll tell me she's one of his students' moms or something, and all will be fine. So last night after dinner, we were hanging out and I said as casually and not accusing a way as possible, "hey, I know this is silly and I'm sorry for worrying about something so meaningless, but can you tell me who Diane is? I saw a text from someone by that name while you were on your phone a few weeks ago." He had no idea what I was talking about. Doesn't know any Diane. He pulled out his phone, went to his texts, and searched for "Diane" and the words "fo sho." Zero results. He scrolled back to almost a year, no Diane. He said he was sorry he didn't have an answer but that he hasn't deleted any of his texts. He took me in his arms and promised me he has never lied to me. So I guess either he's lying, or I didn't see that text, right? I'm sort of desperate for a third possibility. We've had a wonderful relationship, I have no reason to suspect him of anything. At the same time, I really value my sanity. The idea that I so firmly grasped onto something that wasn't even there is almost more alarming that the thought of him lying to me. How should I handle this?? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Saw a text from a girl on bf's phone, asked him about it a month later, it's no longer in his phone and he says he didn't delete anything. Need advise.	Saw a text from a girl on bf's phone, asked him about it a month later, it's no longer in his phone and he says he didn't delete anything. Need advise.	4,304
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Is our sex life to far gone to save? (29f) (26m) POST: My husband and I have been married for four years. Our sex life has never been great, even in the honeymoon stages of our marriage. I would ask him things he liked and he was just so vanilla but whatever. I'd go on to tell him things I like (Im really into role playing and bdsm) but he'd always dismiss it and make jokes about it. Throughout our marriage he'd go on to say things like " I don't like going down on women, I don't find it attractive" make fun of my fantasies, call me fat, poke at my stomach, call me a starfish cause all I do is lay down while having sex. But everytime I tried to get better at other positions and want to practice he'd get frustrated cause I suck at sex.. I'm at the point where I feel really insecure to even have sex with him. Plus I'm just not turned on by him and the person he became, if that makes any sense. It's been two months since we've had sex and every time he attempts to try anything it's just to get a blow job. Our we too far gone to save? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Husband and I don't have sex for months at a time. He tells me I suck at sex and always makes me feel insecure	Husband and I don't have sex for months at a time. He tells me I suck at sex and always makes me feel insecure	5,321
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [M22] wasn't invited to a Fourth of July party. POST: I just graduated from college, and in September, I will be moving several state away to begin working. I had originally planned to stay local, and signed a lease with an acquaintance for the year. I then received a job offer I couldn't refuse, and got out of the lease. The landlord was incredibly understanding, but it has left bad blood between my would-be roommate and I, despite the fact that he will have a two bedroom apartment to himself, because my landlord has not forced me to find a replacement for myself before I'm let out of the lease. Incidentally, he is also hosting a 4th of July party at the apartment where we would have lived together. When we thought we were living together we had spoken briefly about the possibility of doing one (our group of friends always has one in the area), but nothing concrete, and that was a month ago. I had my suspicions that he would host one anyway without inviting me, so it wasn't a surprise when I found out through a mutual friend that that is indeed the case. I don't know what to do. Due to some pretty serious insecurities I developed during high school, I generally refuse to invite myself anywhere, even if it I know it was a mistake (I have missed parties because I wasn't added to a Facebook event by mistake). I don't want to impose when I wasn't invited and risk some kind of scene (though he's not the type to cause a scene), but this could also be my last opportunity to see some people in this group before I move. I don't think I can bring myself to just show up without a formal invite, even if that's the right thing to do (legally speaking I still have a room in the apartment until the end of the month, so I could choose to show up and there's nothing anyone could do, but that's not how I roll). I don't want to make a scene or create drama within the group, but the whole thing feels shitty, and it's bringing out some long-held insecurities. I don't know what to do. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I wasn't invited to a party because the host and I had a falling out, and I feel shitty and bad about myself as a result. I don't know what to do.	I wasn't invited to a party because the host and I had a falling out, and I feel shitty and bad about myself as a result. I don't know what to do.	595
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [23 M] with my ex girlfriend [22 F] of 3 years, We broke up last year and it still bothers me a lot POST: So, We were together for 2 years, and I had to move out of city for a job. It lasted 10 months into the job where the relationship got rough, and we broke up. IT was actually pretty rough, and she started dating a guy right away. It hurt me a lot. I thought like "What a bitch". either way, it has caused me a big depression. I was posting on here like crazy at first but someone told me I needed to calm down, so I haven't been on in 4 months. Since then, I graduated college, and I'm going to a new university (my ex goes to this university) and I would like to meet someone new...but I keep meeting girls, and It's either I'm not interested and they like me, or I like them but they're not interested. I would really like to meet someone when school starts, but all these girls I'm meeting I just don't feel it for, and it's causing me to be depressed again. I don't even know how to meet people anymore. My ex girlfriend hurt me a lot. Like a whole lot, after the break up, she said a lot of really hurtful things, and just hasn't talked to me since. I look okay, and I'm pretty smart, and I like to stay fit, and have a job. Although, I'm still probably a 7/10, My personality is very factual though. How do I get over her? and meet someone new that I feel is worthy of dating? TL;DR: . Assistant:	1.How do I get over a depression of a break up? 2. How do I meet a girl who I think would be perfect for me?	1.How do I get over a depression of a break up? 2. How do I meet a girl who I think would be perfect for me?	6,107
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/running TITLE: Those awful hamstrings (advice needed!) POST: I know there are some older posts on here about tight hamstrings and running but they didn't quite apply to my situation. Basically, the past week to two weeks i have significantly (basically, restarted for more than 15/20minutes) running and other various exercises (squats and abs almost exclusively), ans specifically, the past three days really been working at it. Yesterday when I woke up bilaterally both hamstrings weretight, but i was able to just sit and stretch hands to toes for 5 minutes and they were fine. sore but fine. This morning i woke up and literally fell because my legs woulnd't support the weight. they are still very tender now and it takes me around 5 minutes of straight walking to walk without limping. i've been drinking plenty of water to increase my BMR but i am at a loss to really specifically what to do. TL;DR: . Assistant:	EXTREMELY tight hamstrings bilaterally all the way from knee to ankle, having trouble extending completely and bearing weight/walking.	EXTREMELY tight hamstrings bilaterally all the way from knee to ankle, having trouble extending completely and bearing weight/walking.	1,221
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by making a sexist joke in my women's lit class POST: I'm one of two guys in my women's lit class. I usually sit right in front of the other guy, and we're always cracking each other up by making (subtle) sexist jokes. (It's one of those in-the-moment things) Anyways, I'm out of it, having stayed up the whole night before. The professor is talking about the Presidential elections in a few years, how Hilary could be president, etc. etc. He then asks where we were when we found out that Obama was first elected president. A girl raises her hand and says "I was in the kitchen with my family, we all started cheering", or something like that. I turn around to my friend and whisper discretely, "Of course she would be in the kitchen". Except it's not my friend. He's absent. IT'S THE FUCKING PRESIDENT OF THE WOMEN'S RIGHTS CLUB. She stands up and instantly shouts/announces that she'll be dropping the class because there are certain people in the class who are anti-women, and that she's disgusted that people like me exist. (while staring and pointing at me the whole time, I pretty much wanted to dissolve on the spot) TL;DR: . Assistant:	I made a sexist joke to the president of the women's rights club, who proceeded to call me out in front of the class and storm out, now the whole class + professor thinks I'm against women in general.	I made a sexist joke to the president of the women's rights club, who proceeded to call me out in front of the class and storm out, now the whole class + professor thinks I'm against women in general.	2,014
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Am I[15M] being immature or is my dad [54M] Holding on too tight? POST: So first off let me explain that I am an introvert. Throughout my life I have always had a small group of friends but are good friends. I also spend a lot of time on the computer. More than I should but it is how I get enjoyment. I am also my dads only son (take that as you will). I am also the youngest child in my family. Recently he has been getting frustrated with me being on the computer too much and not doing anything with him (parents got divorced a year ago) when i'm with him. So I have realized this and have been trying to do more things with him whenever he wants to. During the summer I been staying up very late playing and talking with friends on the computer (2am-4am) which I didnt think he had a problem with since it was the summer and he never said anything about it. But then when night a couple days ago I ended up staying up until he woke up for work and he wasn't happy..at all. So now he is making me go to sleep around midnight and is thinking about making restrictions for my computer time completely. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Dad not letting me stay up very late in the summer. Not sure if he is holding on too much or if i'm just being immature.	Dad not letting me stay up very late in the summer. Not sure if he is holding on too much or if i'm just being immature.	1,632
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: [Update] Me 22/F I have issues asking someone if they're interested in me. POST: Original story: I was hoping to have a different update than this but here it goes. Backstory of this point in time: I sometimes see my dating interest but since this is the last week of classes, next week being finals week, I have this amount of time to see him and tell how I feel. Well, I haven't been able to run into him yet this week. I hope to run into him, if not then well, I have to wait for him to text me first. Ironic timing, my cell service is dead until I can get more service, which might not be for a while. Awesome. Now here comes the plot twist... Today, there was a guy who is one of my roommate's friends that asked me on a date. For the record...holy mother of god, that was totally not expected. This guy I've only hung out with him 3 times and he's closer to my age (he's 21). He's cool but I'm not sure if he's dating material for me. It's not that he's not attractive, he's attractive in his own way, I don't feel as connected with him as much as the interest. But I wouldn't mind going on date with him for the sake of being single. However, I have to go out of town this weekend so I can't make the date anyway, and now I have no way of telling him that I can't make it. Double awesome. So now what? I'm kind of stuck. This has never happened before. One last thing: The last time I saw my crush was last week before I posted. I was waiting for the bus talking with roommate's friend. The second he says hey how's it going, Que the crush. He kind of butts in on the conversation but not in a rude way. Then Friend leaves after that. My crush asks: who's the guy? I told him that he is a friend. He looked at him with a weird face as friend left then kind of stayed quiet till parting ways. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Plot twist-guy who I dunno asks me out on date that I cannot attend to even though I was planning to tell the dating interesting that I liked him. Help.	Plot twist-guy who I dunno asks me out on date that I cannot attend to even though I was planning to tell the dating interesting that I liked him. Help.	5,900
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [17 M] crushing on a good friend [16 F], need some guidance. POST: I'll keep this post short. I've known this girl, Sarah, for a long time - over 5 years now. We're in the same classes and we both do extracurricular activities that keep us busy. We talk often about school, work, and personal stuff. Although we're both kind of shy, I feel like I can trust talking to her about a lot of things I keep everyone else shut out from, and she does the same. I like to think that she has a thing for me, because over the past few months I've developed feelings for her. She's just a really outstanding, mature, all-around beatiful person and we have a lot in common. However, I've never been in a romantic relationship (she's single). My worry is that I might be getting the wrong signals from her - we've been great friends for a long time and I don't want to do anything to risk that. I really need help with how I can approach telling her how I feel about her without endangering our friendship. Please point me in the right direction! TL;DR: . Assistant:	I have a crush on a girl I've known for over 5 years. How can I tell her about my feelings without ruining our friendship?	I have a crush on a girl I've known for over 5 years. How can I tell her about my feelings without ruining our friendship?	3,501
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My [M, 21] girlfriends [F, 22] farts are the worst I have ever smelled and she doesn't seem to bother. POST: Hi everyone, so this is a bit embarrassing. We started dating almost two years ago. I want to say, I'm used to pretty bad farts. I have lived for three years with a roomie who had lactose intolerance and couldn't give a fuck about it. But her farts smell worse. Like, a lot. At first I thought she had eaten something wrong and I was a little too embarrassed to address it, but her farts continued to smell like a dumpster on fire. So after a week or two I told her that I couldn't bear her farts, that I am concerned that she might be sick, that she should see a doc and that she should leave the room when she feels that she has to fart. Her reaction was... a little demeaning, to be honest. She made it pretty clear that she doesn't see a problem with it and that I should leave the room if I have a problem with her farts. As stupid as it sounds, I thought about breaking up with her because I just can't stomage her farts and I am not willing to seek refuge in the bathroom every ~30 minutes because she ripped one. So, has anyone of you some advice? TL;DR: . Assistant:	GFs farts smells like death, isn't willing to do anything about it, I sit in my bathroom and need help	GFs farts smells like death, isn't willing to do anything about it, I sit in my bathroom and need help	1,713
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dogs TITLE: Does 1 'bad' Puppy ruin a Litter ??? (X-Post /r/GreatDanes) POST: I have been researching endlessly for almost 6 months before deciding on getting a great dane. I am in the vancouver bc area and have found a selection of breeders within BC Alberta and Washington. Ive contacted many breeders and found a few that I feel comfortable with and are having a litter of puppies ready for june/july We have been looking at a litter of harlequins after seeing them at a local show but am worried by some possible red flags. The litter had 7 puppies, 4 with the traditional spotting and 3 almost fully white. The breeder is waiting to have the ears/eyes and other issues that are common with white danes before commiting to any sort of sale. This seems like a responsible thing to do however, Should I be nervous of these imperfections within the litter? is this any sort of indicator on possible genetic flaws I may be paying for in the future? Any help is much appreciated, and feel free to ask any questions. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Buying a great dane puppy, one is pure white and potentially deaf, does this have any effect on the rest of the litter or reflect the quality of the breeder?	Buying a great dane puppy, one is pure white and potentially deaf, does this have any effect on the rest of the litter or reflect the quality of the breeder?	2,301
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [27 M] with my [23 F] on/off gf of 1 year. I need to break up but my head and heart are conflicted. POST: I'll keep this brief. There are a lot of issues in the relationship. Big issues that arent going to resolve anytime soon, and are deal-breakers for me in the long-run. I realized not long ago that I need to let this relationship go. That said, she moved a long way to be with me, and we have a lease together. She still believes in the relationship. Supposedly. I'm not sure how long we can go with almost no-affection either way before she stops believing in it. I'm the only one paying rent and for most things, so I dont want to just leave her homeless. I still do love her, and wish well for her, but I know I cant give her what she needs, and she cant give me what I need. And I feel like an asshole to be turning my back on our shared experiences together. So...please help give me the courage to do what I know I need to. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I need to break up with my gf but it hurts and I'm afraid of being miserable and alone again. What if I dont get another chance after this? I dont want to hurt her.	I need to break up with my gf but it hurts and I'm afraid of being miserable and alone again. What if I dont get another chance after this? I dont want to hurt her.	36
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [15 F] with my crush [15 M], am I oblivious or friendzoned? POST: Just to start off, yes I know I'm only 15, this probably sounds ridiculous. But it's taking up SO much of my mind so... I gotta get it out somehow. Ok, so, there's this guy that I happen to have a huge crush on. Like... huge. My heart hurts for him tbh. We met at school in HPE class during a dance unit, so we've been thrown in pretty close to each other from the start. Slow dancing and all that. Boy, if I could do that again. We've skype called and played various games on steam a few times and we talk on facebook messenger quite a bit, and we make each other laugh heaps, there's never any awkwardness between us. We enjoy each other's company! Yay. Now, here's the real bit: last night, him and I were on a video call late at night, just chilling. It lasted for about three hours but somewhere in the first half hour, his shirt came off. Imagine my surprise/trying to cover myself blushing like an idiot. And he started doing stuff like he got out a sword that he owns (weeeeeeb) and was doing some stereotypical anime poses and stuff, shirtless, and I'm just trying to conceal my face. He played me some stuff on guitar (to which I joked about him serenading me) and just went with it. There was, as per true teenager brain-ness, some good ol' sexual innuendo thrown in there. Now, I have no idea what the hell any of this means. Am I oblivious, is there a tiny possibly that he likes me? Or am I just one of the lads, eternally friendzoned :^( I have no idea what taking your shirt off in front of a chick even means. There was so no reason for it. He was open and relaxed and warm and... yeah. I could go on for years. What do you think reddit? Should I make a move on this boy? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Boy and I video called and he was shirtless and everything was warm and, dare I say, sorta.. romantic. To me :') To make a move or to not make a move?	Boy and I video called and he was shirtless and everything was warm and, dare I say, sorta.. romantic. To me :') To make a move or to not make a move?	1,288
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I 22M recently broke up with one ex 24F and started talking to a different better liked ex 21F. POST: Honestly I don't know where to go from here. Recently was broken up with by one girl I'll call R. R was a very nice sweet girl, but I knew way before she broke up with me that things were going to end. I even tried breaking up with R first a few months before and we both broke down and I couldn't go through with it. I don't really have any feelings left for her and I think being forced to continue a relationship with someone you don't really have much reason to be with can make a break up easier. It's been about a month now and I've been trying to think of ways to get back out there and find someone for me and I think of the last ex that made me really feel good and that was an ex from about two years ago let's call her D. D was an amazing girl and I tried it with her twice but each time it seemed like she had a problem with having a relationship and wanted to be a fuck buddy but I wasn't into that so we broke up, both times for that reason. I still had fun with her as a friend though and decided to see how she was doing and I looked her up and found out she had just gotten out of a serious shitty relationship herself, we've started hanging out a bit though and I feel like I still have feelings for her. Am I an idiot? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Recently broke up and started talking to a fun ex and found out I still have feelings for her, is it a really terrible idea to continue?	Recently broke up and started talking to a fun ex and found out I still have feelings for her, is it a really terrible idea to continue?	1,107
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: [18/M] In person my girlfriend [18/F] is amazing. When texting I feel like there is no relationship. POST: Hi /r/relationship, so I live around 50 miles away from my girlfriend (we go to different universities), I drive up twice or more a week. We have known each other for around 40 days and we've not been in a relationship for long. In my past relationships communication has been fantastic, we have messaged for hours without ever getting bored. But my current gf can't keep up a conversation by text. So because we don't see each other that often I think it is important that we talk a lot. It makes me feel like she isn't that interested, yet she tells me she loves me and in person, it is the best relationship I have ever had. I'll quote the last texts we sent: Me: >Hi sweetie, how's it going? Still lying around watching Breaking Bad? >I just realised that now that we have deleted our profiles then we need a new place for sending our stuff >Can't believe how much I just want Friday and Saturday to fly by for Sunday :3 >How's the weather with you? It's terrible here, so I'm worried about you :c >xxxxxxxxxxxxxx Her reply: >We'll use email instead! ;) hehe >The weather is okay :) Still windy and rainy >xxxxxxxxxx I really like her, an I don't want to lose her.. I just don't know what to do, I feel like she doesn't even like me, yet she says that she does. Or is it normal to not talk much on days where you don't see each other? Am I being a bit clingy? Thanks for any help you give me guys. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Girlfriend doesn't seem interested by text, am I too clingy trying to message to often or is she just disinterested...	Girlfriend doesn't seem interested by text, am I too clingy trying to message to often or is she just disinterested...	4,301
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: [20/F] My boyfriend [21/M] came home bragging about flirting at the bar last night. POST: Last night my boyfriend of about 2 years went out drinking at a bar with some of his friends. Usually I go along with them and have a good time but I was tired and had work early the next morning. He got home at 4:30am and woke me up wanting to tell me about how his night was. I hadn't been sleeping well so I let him go ahead seeing as he was so excited. He told me there was a "cute Swedish girl" at the bar that his single friends wanted to hook up with. He wanted to try out the cold shoulder tactic to see if she really would become more interested in him the more he ignored her, and it seemed to really work. One of the friends left so there was just my boyfriend and one of his friends left. In the end the girl invited them back to a friend's party so they left the bar with her. He told me she was touching his arm and laughing at his jokes, but when he told her he has a girlfriend she started "balling her eyes out". Apparently she just threw a massive tantrum and ran outside (into a huge thunderstorm) and was yelling she didn't think he was that type of guy to lead a girl on and that he was different. After that things got a bit too weird and they left. He said (as a joke) you should be grateful to have me since a girl wanted me so badly she cried. I am a good-looking girl and get hit on all the time at bars but I would never tell him, to spare his feelings and to stay humble. Part of me is absolutely gutted about him shamelessly flirting with this girl and then coming home to brag to me about it. I'm not at all the jealous type but this hit me hard. He explained it just felt good to know he 'still had it' and that it felt good to be wanted, which I can understand I guess. I'm not sure if this was really uncalled for and rude on his part or I'm just overreacting. Can anyone shed some light on this issue for me please?? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Boyfriend came home drunk last night bragging about flirting with a cute Swedish girl saying it was just innocent fun; am I right to think this is just wrong?	Boyfriend came home drunk last night bragging about flirting with a cute Swedish girl saying it was just innocent fun; am I right to think this is just wrong?	3,576
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Redditors in a relationship: if in a dream you had the opportunity to have sex with someone other than your partner, would you? POST: My thought has always been this: say you and another person could have sex and you are 100% certain no one but you and that person would ever know. Most people who consider themselves faithful would decline the opportunity. Now, say the opportunity presents itself in a dream where you could have sex with another person. Most people who consider themselves faithful would say they would do it, but what's the difference? And please don't tell me you can't control yourself in dreams. Sure, you may not be able to run as fast as want to when you're being chased by a storm, but no one has ever claimed they dreamt they were having sex and they couldn't stop. Fun fact: Blue's Clues taught me how to control my dreams. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I don't see much difference between "cheating" on someone by having sex with another person in a dream and cheating on someone by having sex with another person in real life.	I don't see much difference between "cheating" on someone by having sex with another person in a dream and cheating on someone by having sex with another person in real life.	3,710
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Can I (27m) demand my GF (21f) to get an STD test? POST: I've been dating this girl for about 3 months. She's had sex since the last time she was tested. I always use protection but I still asked her to get tested about a month and a half into being exclusive. She still hasn't done it. I've been tested after my last sexual relationship and I've even shown her the results. She's in school still and a bit strapped for cash so I've even offered to pay. She's keeps saying she will go but keeps procrastinating. I know things are really hectic for her right now trying to find a new place to rent and finals to study for, but I feel like squeezing in a test isn't unreasonable. I would rather not ask about her sexual past as I tend to get jealous and over think things when I hear about past experiences. So I figured she could just get the test and I could move on. Is it too much for me to demand she does it immediately? TL;DR: . Assistant:	GF had sex after last being tested but is procrastinating to do it again. Can I demand she does it immediately?	GF had sex after last being tested but is procrastinating to do it again. Can I demand she does it immediately?	5,405
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My girlfriend [25F] broke up with me [21M] After we had dated 3 months. She realized she viewed me as a friend, but I don't view her that way. POST: This was my first relationship, and she is fantastic, we got along together great. Emotionally this is the best relationship she has had. She had a rough week last week and broke up with me on sunday. We didn't have a fallout, was just a very stressful time for her.She said that she felt at this point in her life she was not ready to be in a relationship at all. Heard from a mutual friend (in a caring/motherly type way, wasn't breaking trust for this person to tell me) that it was because she views me as a friend, a great friend. I WANT to be okay with that, but I don't view her that way. I do not want to lose her friendship, but I don't know if I can handle "just" being friends with her. If I try to be friends with her I would probably have the mindset that once she feels she is ready to be in a relationship she will be ready to get back together with me. Not at all saying I should have that mindset, but I don't know what I should do. Besides this I have had a hard week and want to talk to her, have someone I can confide in. (I feel like this was too short but I wasn't sure what to put, first post in this subreddit) TL;DR: . Assistant:	My relationship recently ended because she sees me as a great friend. I want to be okay with that but I don't know if I can, not sure what I should do.	My relationship recently ended because she sees me as a great friend. I want to be okay with that but I don't know if I can, not sure what I should do.	1,323
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [20F] with guy i've been dating [22 M] for a month has pictures of his ex up on his walls POST: I have been dating this great guy for about a month now. We have started seeing each other every weekend now. Last weekend he invited me back to his place. Before i went in he stopped me and said something like: Look i moved in here with my ex and some of her stuff is still here, i know it's weird. I would feel very awkward in your place. I was quite baffled and we went in. The stuff that was left was a coat in the hallway, a few bits and bots in the bathroom and two frame collages of pictures of her and him and who i guess are her friends and family on the wall. As well as some girly candles and bedsheets. There were no signs of her in the bedroom so i am pretty positive she does not still live there. Right now i am kicking myself for not asking why they were still there where she clearly left everything and why hadn't he moved them? Returned them? Cleared them away? It makes me worry he is still hung up over his ex. I really want my questions answered but I felt at the time it was too rude to ask. I am seeing him again this weekend and I want to ask him about it. I was wondering if anyone had any advise about what i should say and how to bring up the subject. I do not want to seem like I'm worried or attacking him! I have no idea how to bring up the subject other than being blunt or waiting for him to explain.. I know this might be considered a red flag, but he is such a nice guy i want to give him the benefit of the doubt and let him explain before i read into it too much. Thank you for reading TL;DR: . Assistant:	Guy i am dating still has his exs stuff around his house, how do I go about asking why they are still there.	Guy i am dating still has his exs stuff around his house, how do I go about asking why they are still there.	6,050
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting TITLE: Do you have any thoughts/advice for a soon to be father (Who happens to be transgender)? Details inside! POST: Hello! Hopefully this is the appropriate subreddit for this matter (and if it isn't just tell me where to go!) Today, I found out that I am going to be a father! I'm so looking forward to the new year :) This post is more "me centered", just to let you know. My situation is a little unusual because I am a transgender man (meaning I was born a girl). ...So with that, I have no ability to impregnate my wife (or anyone for that matter). My brother was willing to be a donor for when we felt the time was right. After going through legal details and lots of medical testing, My wife is now 5 weeks pregnant! We are ages 27 & 28, 4 years married (So close to 5!), financially stable, recently moved from our apartment into a house. We are so thrilled to start a family. Late nights and long talks about parenting have brought out lots of details and plans. Of course we talked about my gender identity and what aspects of it could effect our child, Positive and Negative. We feel a bit stuck. (We both agree that being honest to our child is important) I'm just worried about their future. What if I don't explain things right. The facts are that: dad is transgender, doesn't have boy parts (even though he is hairy, sounds like a boy and doesn't have a chest), dad can't have babies... so .... obviously. Along with trying not to confuse my child, I'm concerned for our safety. I am legally male and apart from my close friends, doctors and family, Nobody knows about my transition. So many bad things happen to transgender people, simply because they are trans. I've lived through a hate based attack, and since then I've been terrified of having people finding out. I now live in more accepting city, but I can never be to sure. Any input or advice you might have on the situation is greatly appreciated. Thanks! TL;DR: . Assistant:	Guy can't have babies due to having been being born a girl, Guy's brother donates sperm, Wife is now 5 weeks pregnant, guy is worried about how being transgender might effect the child (Explaining it, safety),	Guy can't have babies due to having been being born a girl, Guy's brother donates sperm, Wife is now 5 weeks pregnant, guy is worried about how being transgender might effect the child (Explaining it, safety),	4,840
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by bumming a guy two smokes POST: This was about an hour ago, here's some context I'm at a Mini Makers Fair which is a family oriented event that showcases technology, kids programs and other things associated with "makers".. basically creative tech fair for yuppie families. Whatever. I was helping display my friends interactive musical sculpture. My point is I was at a nice family event and not just hanging out on the streets of downtown or somewhere more likely to get swindled. I was taking a cigarette break and piddling around on my phone. A guy cursing, looking into his empty pack spots me and asks if he can "buy a couple smokes off me" On average the going rate for an American Spirit is $0.35, $0.50 if someone is feeling generous. I, out of habit, act put off whenever someone tries to bum smokes off me. This is to give them a chance to rescind their offer without me saying "No" outright. It's something I started doing with my friends who are chronic bums so they realize I'm not an endless free cigarette machine. But, the guy offered to buy right? He had his wallet out, right? I busted out two smokes for him which he takes with a thanks me briefly. I'm still kinda absorbed partially in my phone but notice he pauses and then starts to walk away. "I'll be right back with something for you" he says. I guess I figured he might work at one of the booths that have some cool, silly swag for me? But I remembered thinking it was weird he took his wallet out and then didn't give me any money. Maybe he didn't have any single dollar bills? I waited around for quite awhile after. Just lame because I'm generally pretty generous but it's situations like this that make that generosity go into hiding for awhile. TL;DR: . Assistant:	guy offered to buy smokes off me and then just took off without giving me anything instead. I blame myself for being ignorant of peoples petty greed.	guy offered to buy smokes off me and then just took off without giving me anything instead. I blame myself for being ignorant of peoples petty greed.	463
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance TITLE: ~190k in student loans. Should I refinance? POST: I have around ~$190,000 in federal loans at an average rate of 6.6%. I haven't consolidated yet, so I have loans ranging anywhere from 5% to 7.9%. I work in law and will be making $175k (pre-tax including bonus) my first year (the salary increases lock-step each year). My original plan was to get onto PAYE as a safety net, but aggressively pay down the loans within 4-5 years (focusing on the higher interest rate loans first), while still contributing to a 401K and Roth IRA. I'm wondering, however, whether refinancing is a better call. My credit score is in the mid-700s, so I think I'd be able to obtain a solid rate. I was thinking of going with something like variable over 10 years (given that when the Fed does increase rates, it will be slow and gradual -- plus, I can just refinance to fixed if absolutely needed). Is this a good idea? What rates would this make sense at? I did some quick number crunching, and over a 4-5 year period (assuming the bank allows me to prepay without penalty), it would save me around $12-15k in interest. Moreover, which company is best? For instance, I know SoFi requires that you be admitted to the bar before refinancing, whereas other companies do not. I'm naturally a risk averse person, but if refinancing is objectively the right call, it would hard to pass up. TL;DR: . Assistant:	$190k in debt at 6.6%; $175k salary (pre-tax + bonus; increases every year). Worth it to refinance? If so, where?	$190k in debt at 6.6%; $175k salary (pre-tax + bonus; increases every year). Worth it to refinance? If so, where?	2,540
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [22 M] am feeling burnt out on dating POST: This isn't really looking for advice, more just venting because it's been an annoying few days. So I am in college, 22, regular guy as far as I can tell. I've had a couple long term relationships before but lately it just seems like I've been hitting a serious bump in my dating. Start of fall semester my gf left me for another guy. Then a few months later after I started dating again had 1 girl give me the "I don't wanna date" lie then get a new bf, had 2 girls ghost on me and had another just say no. Start of this year I figured I'd try and turn over a new leaf, had 2 girls I thought were interested. Went on a couple dates with 1, she seemed very interested then randomly she just stopped talking to me. The other also seemed interested, got her number and she just never replied. Truth be told after all of this I am just really sick of dating and trying, since it usually leads to me feeling like crap. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Haven't had much dating luck lately and am feeling done trying for a while. Am I crazy for feeling that way?	Haven't had much dating luck lately and am feeling done trying for a while. Am I crazy for feeling that way?	5,704
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My [18F] "girlfriend" is acting pretty weird with me [18M] lately POST: Hey Reddit! Over the past week or so my SO of 6 months has been acting pretty out of the norm with me... We normally always say goodnight before bed and say we love each other but this past week it just hasn't really happened, I've said it but it's not been reciprocated at all. On top of this there's been this guy she's been talking to [26M] who she says used to be nice but then got weird and sends her nudes all the time but she has never told him to leave her alone. As well as that, she doesn't like being known as my girlfriend or that I'm her boyfriend even though we do all the stuff, spend time together, go on dates etc. But she changes so much around our friends, and this has not just been recently this has been since we started speaking to each other. This comes then today, she was at my house and she tried to initiate sex, after messaging the guy, I said no because I thought something had happened in the messages but she insists all the time that he's the only one being weird. Shortly after I apologised because I didn't want it to seem like I didn't want her and then she broke down crying saying that it was because she was gonna miss me a lot when she went to uni, but the thing is that she's never done anything like it before, whenever I've been upset she's always been comforting and said that we'd still see each other, so that prompted me to think further that something had been said in the messages and she'd acknowledged that I realised. She's now at home and flaming me for apologising and wanting a reason to initiate it, when before she did, nothing was going on, I'd went to get us a drink and we'd actually had sex about 2 hours before and both gotten off. I'm really confused about what's going on, please help. TL;DR: . Assistant:	My SO has been messaging a guy and telling me not to worry, tried to initiate sex after talking to him and then got really upset when I said no and is now ignoring me	My SO has been messaging a guy and telling me not to worry, tried to initiate sex after talking to him and then got really upset when I said no and is now ignoring me	685
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: How can I make it work with a guy who is addicted to video games? POST: I love video games and I love playing them with my boyfriend but I wouldn't call myself a gamer. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years we are both 23 and I'm convinced that he has a gaming addiction to some degree. It seems like no matter how how much he plays he never gets tired of them. He gets home from work and games he wakes up and games his definition of spending time together is either playing something or me watching him play. He's really a good guy otherwise and I love him but i just can't take his constant gaming anymore. I've tried talking to him about it but he says it's just his hobby. I feel like he loves his games more than me sometimes. He's canceled dates and even makes excuses and lies so that he can play. Ive talked to him about this too but he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong. Does anyone have any tips on how to make a relationship work with a video game addict? TL;DR: . Assistant:	My bf is a gaming addict. He breaks dates and lies to play but thinks he's doing nothing wrong. We've been dating for 5 years and are both 23.	My bf is a gaming addict. He breaks dates and lies to play but thinks he's doing nothing wrong. We've been dating for 5 years and are both 23.	6,409
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: I was brought to tears of anger because my boss wanted me to take photos at our Holiday Party. Reddit, what seemingly small things makes you instantly irrational? POST: I've been in love with photography since I was 12, went to school for it, and was a professional for a number of years before I decided to quit to better my quality of life (stopped taking photos for myself + only took photos for money = was miserable). I've been working as a creative director, specializing in video, for a corporation the past 8 months. Our company invites several hundred employees from across the country to our corporate headquarters for a yearly meeting and holiday party, at which time every employee get's a new bio photo. There's also a massive amount of photos taken at the party, and they usually hire a photographer for this. I had heard that a photographer hadn't been hired yet and asked my boss if the higher ups were expecting me to do the photos. I also mentioned that I really did not want to be responsible for this. Today I received an email chain where my boss basically suggested that I take the photos and that I could enjoy the party AND take hundreds of portraits and event photos. I was instantly furious and had to leave for an hour. I know my boss isn't aware of the amount of work something like this involves and probably thought it would just be easier to use me instead of hiring a photographer. Normally I'm a very balanced and understanding person, but anything involving a misunderstanding of photography sends me into a blind rage and all I can do is leave and cool down for a while. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Boss requested I, an ex-photographer, spend our holiday party taking hundred of professional portraits and as well as the party's photos	Boss requested I, an ex-photographer, spend our holiday party taking hundred of professional portraits and as well as the party's photos	4,090
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: How do I do it? Trying to build up the courage to ask a mum at my son's school out POST: Hi guys, Going through my post history, you'll all see I'm a single dad (27) with 3 kids. 2 of which I have full custody and the remaining one is shared custody. I work full time so my boys go to after-hours school care. Most mornings and evenings there's a mum, a nurse for the hospital in the area that drops off and picks up her own two boys the same time I do. We do talk, but not much Now I don't really date. I haven't done much dating since the seperation as I've been focussing on the kids. But this mum, my brain keeps telling me to ask her but I keep refusing to because: 1) Even though I only ever see her and not the dad, I'm afraid I might be asking out a taken mum. It could make her see me in a different light. Do you think I could ask her kids if mum and dad are together? and; 2) Afraid of the rejection 2) I'm a chicken shit sober lol. My last real relationship was with my kids mum. I was with her from when I was 18 until early last year. So I lack any confidence WHY THE HELL DO I CHICKEN OUT?!? Help a redditor out guys! What do I do to get back into the game? TL;DR: . Assistant:	There's a mum at my son's school that I want to bang. But I'm too chicken shit to ask her out	There's a mum at my son's school that I want to bang. But I'm too chicken shit to ask her out	5,794
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [27 M] am currently at final stage interview with one of the leading tech/social companies however if successful it would mean relocating away from my girlfriend [25 F] of 18 months POST: Hey All, So I've been having a hard time at work lately and have been eager to try something new. My girlfriend has been in a similar situation and until recently was also seeking new opportunities. We're both based in London but were considering job opportunities in Dublin. Unfortunately her circumstances recently changed and she now needs to stay in London as she needs to help her family which is totally understandable and she also got a promotion at work. I've been applying for new jobs in London for months but have been getting hardly any responses. Last week I decided to send off 2 final applications for roles in Dublin and have successfully made it to a final stage interview with one of the leading tech/social companies - an opportunity that I don't believe comes around all that often. My girlfriend is absolutely amazing and she knows how ambitious I am and has said that she'd definitely want to give it a try if I was to go there but I'm worried that I may be being selfish or this could end up with me loosing her? Thankfully Dublin isn't too far and I'd plan to come back every few weekends and also fly her out every now and again too but I'm still slightly worried. If this was for any other company then it wouldn't even cross my mind but this opportunity could open up so many doors in the future as well as travel/relocation opportunities that I'm not sure if I should pass it up. Any help or advice here would be greatly appreciated, especially from those that have been in a similar situation. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I'm currently at final stage interview with one of the leading tech/social companies however if successful it would mean relocating away from my girlfriend of 18 months - what do I do?	I'm currently at final stage interview with one of the leading tech/social companies however if successful it would mean relocating away from my girlfriend of 18 months - what do I do?	6,305
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest TITLE: I wanted to jab my x-acto knife into his arm while he was sleeping. POST: I am a male. One of my best friends was over and he was spending the night. He was using my computer earlier in the night to go on facebook and he fell asleep with his account still open.--- Recently I had a hard breakup with someone that meant everything to me. She was very conflicted about ending things and always stayed vague and nebulous about her reasons. The most solid reason she said she couldn't be with me was because of our difference in faith, or rather my lack of faith in contrast to her faith. That I would bring her down in her faith and draw her away from God. I supported her completely in whatever she believed and I made a point not to pester her about it or make any objection/arguments against her faith. Anyway, there always seemed to be something in the way of her expressing her feelings for me completely. ---back to me having access to my friends facebook account... I was curious and I looked at some of the messages between my friend and my ex-girlfriend. I searched the whole of 12,000 messages between them for my name and it turns out that I was a common conversation topic between the two of them. Specifically, my friend telling her that I was wrong for her and that my feelings for her were not authentic. He also made a point to tell her whenever she mentioned her feelings for me that she didn't have any real feelings for me and that she should brush them off and try to create a distance between herself and I. I did all of this while he was sleeping not a few feet away from me in my bed. I didn't fall asleep until 8 something AM and I haven't mentioned it to him at all yet. It was dishonest for me to go snooping at that level but it was relieving in a way to understand what was causing her strange behavior and vague tones. I have no idea what to do. TL;DR: . Assistant:	while I was snooping through my best friends facebook messages with my ex-girlfriend/sweetheart I found out that him talking shit about me and manipulating her feelings for me was the main reason she broke up with me.	while I was snooping through my best friends facebook messages with my ex-girlfriend/sweetheart I found out that him talking shit about me and manipulating her feelings for me was the main reason she broke up with me.	5,006
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: [20/f] Boyfriend (21/m) thinks I'm not sexually attracted to him? POST: Hi, My sex life with my boyfriend is a bit lackluster. We are both in school and we don't end up having free time until very late at night, by the time we are free, I no longer have the energy to have sex. I know that he doesn't like it, but we are very serious with each other and he's able to look past that. I am making an effort to change that and be more aware of our needs. However, he accues me of not being sexually attracted to him because I'm not aroused whenever I see him. He tells me that he is aroused whenever he sees me and probably expects me to do so in return. I'm not sure how to respond to that. But I told him that I am turned on a bit differently - by his touch in private. For example, I can't be turned on in a public setting because I'm not comfortable. This is how I truly feel. He's a great person, we have tons of fun together and we enjoy cuddling very much. Whenever we do have sex once in awhile, we have a great time. It is just that, for whatever reason (maybe birth control), I am not often in the mood for sex. But is it really necessary to be turned on 24/7 whenever I'm with him? Thank you! TL;DR: . Assistant:	Boyfriend thinks I am not sexually attracted to him because I don't get a lady-boner whenever I see him, thus contributing to bad sex life.	Boyfriend thinks I am not sexually attracted to him because I don't get a lady-boner whenever I see him, thus contributing to bad sex life.	3,339
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [32 M] thinks I should divorce my wife [32 F] of 2 years. We're gonna have to do long distance for work and I don't think I can be faithful. POST: I have never cheated on her but I think I may make a big mistake when I leave. We have other issues too. She really wants kids and talks about it daily. I can't see myself having kids with her because I don't think she would be a good mom. She is a really good person but I'm not in love with her. I also have the fear that I'm being too picky and no one out there is going to be perfect. My wife is pretty great all around but I'm just not in love with her. I'm not physically attracted to her anymore. I know she would be happy if we stayed together, I would be much better off financially if I didn't have to go through a divorce. Is there some way to trick my brain into thinking I'm in love with her for eternity? TL;DR: . Assistant:	I feel like a scumbag person with integrity. I want to divorce my wife because I don't think I can stay faithful to her. How do I approach this subject with her?	I feel like a scumbag person with integrity. I want to divorce my wife because I don't think I can stay faithful to her. How do I approach this subject with her?	3,673
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Men of Reddit with female friends, do you never consider them to be just friends? (confused girl about friendzone) POST: Hi, I'm a girl and I've had quite a lot of male friends since childhood (mainly because I'm really into video games aaand my female friends aren't so much :/). I've always considered them as friends and nothing more, to me the line is really clear. We hang out to see a movie, spend afternoons playing video games etc, but I never thought about starting a loving relationship with any of my friends... Now, since I've started being on Reddit, I see tons of posts mentioning "friendzone". And that's quite shocking to me, because it never occurred to me that my male friends could think that way about me...for me they just considered me just as they consider their male friends... if that wasn't the case and that indeed they felt "friendzoned" while they wanted something else, I would feel...betrayed maybe? because that would be like they lied to me about us being just friends... I'm thinking a lot about that right now because I lived an awkward situation last week : an ex-colleague (who wasn't even a "friend", I just talked about video games with him sometimes but he's quite grunchy so I thought he just...tolerated me at best!) started to be quite flirty with me on Skype, saying weird stuff that I tried to brush off as jokes but he seemed really serious about it... that was just horrible, I never thought he saw me like that! I've heard from another colleague that he just dumped his girlfriend, so was he looking for any potential girlfriend in his vicinity? urgh... TL;DR: . Assistant:	my question is : Men of Reddit with female friends, do you consider them as just friends or as "potential" lovers?	my question is : Men of Reddit with female friends, do you consider them as just friends or as "potential" lovers?	258
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: [update] I went bald at a very young age and now resent everyone, especially women POST: original: After battling something (I don't know if it's depression or not)for the past 10+ years, I've finally decided to cave and see a therapist. My mental health is very obviously getting worse and it's getting harder and harder to fool myself. Going bald and being lonely is a large part of it but I can't continue like this. With my mental health deteriorating, it has started to affect me physically. I have small injuries that are not healing, I have chronic pain, and I'm sure a lot of it is mental I was always under the impression that finding a nice job would help at least a little bit. Well I went from being unemployed at 26 to making $80k now at 29 and things are worse than ever. I feel like finding a girlfriend and getting regular intimacy will help me a lot but who knows, it's impossible to find someone at my current state. So my question is, how do I go about finding someone? Therapy is seen as faux pas in my culture so I have to do this on the downlow (especially since I've fooled everyone into thinking I'm this confident guy who has his shit together) Sorry if this is all over the place TL;DR: . Assistant:	caved after 10 years of misery and looking for therapist in LA area, no idea how to go about it and am pretty scared about it	caved after 10 years of misery and looking for therapist in LA area, no idea how to go about it and am pretty scared about it	3,186
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Should I [23F] tell the owner of the dogs I'm sitting that they destroyed my property? POST: I'm babysitting two little dogs through a website called Rover. An owner contacts me online when he is going out of town, I watch the dogs and get paid. These two dogs were with me for 5 nights. I have a full time job. When I went to work, I came home and one of them had completely destroyed my expensive reading glasses, my flats and my EarPods for my iPhone. They did well over $100 worth of damage. A lot more damage then I am getting paid for. They had to jump on a table to get to that stuff, it was not laying on the ground. Do I tell the owner that the dogs damaged my property? If I tell him, should I expect him to pay for it? Or is that the risk I take watching a stranger's dogs? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Dogs I'm babysitting did over $100 worth of damage to my property. I don't know if I should tell the owner and expect him to pay for it.	Dogs I'm babysitting did over $100 worth of damage to my property. I don't know if I should tell the owner and expect him to pay for it.	2,401
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice TITLE: I need advice with the corner I feel like my wife is backing me into POST: My wife and I have been married for a little over a year and we've been together for about 6 years. In the past two years, I've gotten a much better job, worked my ass off, been promoted, and we've been able to enhance our lifestyle as a result. My wife has in the last two years worked a dead end job that she claims to hate. She was recently promoted (big promotion) so we got her the new car she wanted. Now she wants to go back to school. Because she's unhappy with her career, she wants to go back to school to get a masters degree. Ultimately she wants to be a city planner or a city manager. However, in order for her to do this, we have to make some changes in our lifestyle. Things like: live in a much cheaper place, sell things we don't need to drum of some cash, start biking/public trans, etc. Tonight she asked me if I'd consider selling my car (she can't/won't learn to drive stick) and cut back on our expenses so she can do this. I don't really want to budge on this and here's why: She isn't going to make more money. In my mind, if spending all this money on a better degree doesn't net you anything (aside from maybe greater job satisfaction), it's not worth it. We can't afford to have a family now, so things aren't going to get any better. I don't want to sell my car. I've been working my ass off to get where I am and I don't want to compromise on something that I really love (driving) so that we can afford to have her go back to school. She occasionally says things like "I want to run a bed and breakfast" which makes me feel like she doesn't know what she wants to do and this will just lead to more dissatisfaction. I brought up the financials and she got pissed off because she felt I was being selfish because I was focusing on the money. It quickly escalated into a yelling/pissing contest and got us no where. Basically, I'm lost. I don't know what to do or how to handle this situation. Please help. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Wife wants to go back to school to get a similar-paying job and is asking for us to compromise on things in order for her to be able to.	Wife wants to go back to school to get a similar-paying job and is asking for us to compromise on things in order for her to be able to.	2,899
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My (28f) boyfriend (28m) watched porn excessively and was caught. Now I keep looking at his phone and invading his privacy out of insecurity. What do I do? Help! NSFW POST: Back story: we have been dating for 2 years. About a year and a half into our relationship I was checking his internet history just to find an old website with a recipe I made for dinner before. I usually don't mind my boyfriend watching porn. It's completely unrealistic to think guys don't fap. But I found out he had been messaging the girls on the subreddit complimenting them. I flipped out naturally because that was crossing the line. He said he was addicted to porn. He went to talk to a therapist who said he didn't need to be treated. I felt betrayed but still forgave him. Fast forward 6 months: I find myself constantly needing to check his phone and computer to see if he watches it still or messages girls. I feel more insecure than ever. He caught me looking on his phone history. I was honest and told him that I was looking to see if he still is watching porn in random moments like he used to. What do I do? I don't like being like this. I want to trust him. I'm scared he is going to keep on doing it behind my back. Am I overreacting? TL;DR: . Assistant:	my boyfriend messaged girls on sexy subreddits and I caught him. Now I'm wanting to check his phone and I hate myself for being like this. How do I move on?	my boyfriend messaged girls on sexy subreddits and I caught him. Now I'm wanting to check his phone and I hate myself for being like this. How do I move on?	805
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: AskReddit, what advice do you have for a sixteen-year old who just decided to get his shit together and actually try at school/life? POST: Background: I mentor a young man who has made some pretty lazy life decisions in the past. He dropped out of three courses during his sophomore year, and held an incredible 1.5 GPA. He's a smart kid, but kept telling me that he was "lazy" (as if it was a badge of honor). He comes from a low-income household, and so one day I just straight-up asked him: "How are you going to provide for your future family? How are you going to take care of your mom when she becomes too old to take care of herself?" After all, working at fucking McDonalds does not pay the bills, right? That conversation sort of woke him up, and he's really been making an effort to turn his life around and apply himself. He's registered for an online high school (rather than face a third new high school -- his family moves a lot), and wants to get into college. Class doesn't start for a few weeks, so I'm trying to teach him time management, planning ahead, making goals, etc. The problem is, he's been such a slack-ass for so incredibly goddamn long that he doesn't even know how to motivate himself. He has aspirations, but he doesn't know how to carry them through without falling back on his old ways. For instance: he wanted to learn how to type, and started to train himself via a website. I left him for ten minutes, and he was already looking at lolcats or some shit. I really think he wants to do better, but he's currently defeating himself. Anyway, I was hoping some of you might have some perspective to offer. What should his next steps be? What would you do? Are there any college admissions people out there that might have some suggestions for him? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Slacker student is trying to turn life around, too stuck in lazy habits to make the change easy. Need advice on how to change, how to get into college, etc.	Slacker student is trying to turn life around, too stuck in lazy habits to make the change easy. Need advice on how to change, how to get into college, etc.	6,515