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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice TITLE: Online dating embarrassment. 22m, 19f POST: Hey everyone... I met my girlfriend of about 1month on match.com and she is fantastic. She gets along with all my friends and is just everything I'm looking for. The problem is we met online. My friends and family think that is an embarrassing way to meet (every time a commercial advertising it comes on, they insult it and say how embarrassing it would be to actually use a site like that...) I have been telling them that we randomly met at a starbucks, and just hit it off which isn't necessarily a lie but feels pretty damn close. I actually met her online and our first date was in the very public starbucks to get to know each other. I don't know how to break this to my friends and family that I actually met her online and my girlfriend is getting upset because all of her friends and family know the truth and thinks that I am embarrassed about her. My question is, how do I go about doing this without risking the validity of my relationship to my peers and family? Ultimately it is whatever makes me happy, I understand that...but in the interim I don't know what to do. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I met a great girl online but lied about how I met her and don't know how I break it to my family	I met a great girl online but lied about how I met her and don't know how I break it to my family	469
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: I (22/m) have a wonderful (23/f) room mate, but I can't be myself around her because of her (23/m) boyfriend. Am I being silly? POST: I (22/m) just naturally get along too well with my (23/f) room mate whenever I act like myself. We're just two people who have a lot of chemistry and really understand each other. On the very rare occasions I act like myself around her I make her laugh super easily, and get tons of reactions like "Uhh, I know!!!" or "I can't believe you think that too, no one ever thinks that!!!". I don't try to get these reactions, it's already naturally there. While she and I would never do anything inappropriate in regards to her 1 year long-distance relationship (23/m), I worry that when I'm myself there's just a lot of natural attraction that builds up pretty quick and I try to get rid of it. When this starts happening, I always start talking about how cute some other girl I couldn't care less about is, I'll become a bit less friendly, a bit (fake) shy where I mostly avoid eye contact, and I'll purposely pretend not to be on the same page as her. Anyways, I'm worried that if I don't keep parading this visage around her, we're going to end up seriously attracted to each other, even if neither of us would ever act on it by respecting her current relationship. I would love to just be myself around her, but am I doing the right thing by pretending like this Reddit? Thank you in advance for your help. TL;DR: . Assistant:	When I (22/m) act like myself there is a lot of noticeable chemistry with my (23/f) room mate, so I act differently to throw her off because she has a boyfriend. Should I keep doing this?	When I (22/m) act like myself there is a lot of noticeable chemistry with my (23/f) room mate, so I act differently to throw her off because she has a boyfriend. Should I keep doing this?	860
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: I'm only 20, but a rocky, abnormal start to relationships has left me jaded. What do? POST: (20, Male, University, busy with academic work and a couple of hobbies, good friendship circle etc.) It's really hard to describe my feelings towards relationships. I've had plenty of crushes, have acted on them, and have been turned down or used emotionally (I was very naive at the start of university). Now, this isn't going to be some pity-party. That'd be silly. But I must admit that the prospect of relationships is kind of drifting out of my head as a possibility. To me this seems perfectly logical - if the only thing I've experienced has been, at most, girls who really can't decide whether they like me 'in that way' or not, then why would I see things any other way? But here's the kicker. I know plenty of people drift quite seamlessly into relationships, even if these opportunities are rare. I know they're quite simple and straightforward, but my past experiences have left me quite jaded and cynical to the possibility of this being true. I'm not a virgin, and have had a couple of flings earlier in university. When I lost my virginity, it was enjoyable (in a 'finally!' kind of way), but ultimately embarrassing (including her telling me I'm 'weird', then sort of kicking me out of her flat (have no idea what I did wrong...)); and I guess I kind of have a negative experience. The second fling was a bit messed up too (was with a long-time friend), but far more enjoyable/awesome - only her being 'on the fence' made everything really awkward after the fact. What I'm trying to get at is, I have yet to actually have any kind of decent, 'normal', genuinely nice sexual relationship. Coupled with some memories I'd rather forget, I am left probably worse off than having no experience at all. I'm sure all of this doubt will kinda vanish once I'm actually there, in a relationship and I get to find out what the fuss is all about, but naturally, the process of getting there (e.g. meeting new people, and so on) is made harder by a really rocky start to relationships. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Bad sexual experiences make me in a worse position than I would be without any experiences at all - this makes me cynical about what a 'true' relationship would be like. What do?	Bad sexual experiences make me in a worse position than I would be without any experiences at all - this makes me cynical about what a 'true' relationship would be like. What do?	1,892
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Is it ok for the person I'm seeing [38/F] to not respect my [35/M] feelings while she has a very sick pet (cat)? POST: We haven't been seeing each other that long so I'm wondering if this is a serious red flag. She sprung the sick pet news on me in guilt trip fashion and used it as justification for being upset with me over the phone. So I took my time to calmly explain how what she was doing made me feel. There was a long pause. Then she took the conversation in a new direction without acknowledging what I said. After a sentence or two I interrupted her to ask if she was really going to ignore what I just said, which was what I thought to be a pretty mature attempt to resolve a problem I was having with her. Her response to me asking if she was going to just gloss over my statement? "That's right. Because-" Click That's when I hung up. She sent a few texts after that saying how she thinks she's walking on eggshells and that she feels she has to prove she's good. Those texts really surprised me because I don't know how she can say those things. In fact, that's exactly how I feel. Right after those two texts she sent another one saying that she just found out her cat is blind in the last 24 hours. Like, what?! Why didn't you say something a day ago? Why are you just now saying this during a conflict that it has nothing to do with? Here is another example of how I feel like she doesn't respect my feelings: The other night she said I'm funny when I'm not trying to be but am not funny when I am trying to be. Kinda hurtful, right? So I said so. Her response was that at least she was laughing and that was a good thing. I let it go after a small fuss because I'm really trying to be mature and not pick fights but it really hurt. It feels like she's playing dirty, inconsiderate pool. Am I being too high maintenance? Is it all in my head? I'm looking forward to any thoughts or suggestions anyone has. In trying to keep this short I hope I didn't leave out too many details to where I didn't provide enough information. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Woman I just started seeing doesn't seem to respect my feelings. Should I just cut bait or have I not made enough of an effort?	Woman I just started seeing doesn't seem to respect my feelings. Should I just cut bait or have I not made enough of an effort?	5,634
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My [26m] boyfriend of over a year won't get to know my [20f] family. POST: I am constantly begging for him to do anything with my family and he never will. Today was my nieces birthday and I made sure to leave late so he only had to be there for ten minutes but he couldn't even do that. He left early for work to avoid it. He has anxiety but so do I and I still try to get to know his family. My family is so important to me and I feel like I'm becoming a stranger to them. I got home and found he made this status: "I guess I am a shitty boyfriend since I went in to work a bit early so I can get extra shit done so I dont have to stay late instead of sitting at a birthday party where no one will talk to me." My response: "wow way to completely twist that around. I'm really upset because you never go to family functions with me when I want you to and you left early so you didn't have to go with me. Pretty much no one in my family really knows you and that's shitty." He refuses to delete it. We've been arguing about it for a while and I just don't know what to do. Is this even salvagable? We just bought and apartment and I feel like I'm going to have to move back out already because we have this argument every month. TL;DR: . Assistant:	He won't get to know the people I love, he made a facebook status, and I don't know if we should break up.	He won't get to know the people I love, he made a facebook status, and I don't know if we should break up.	5,233
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Girlfriend [25f] going to concert with a male [31m] friend I [24m] have never heard of .. POST: So, we're chilling and out of nowhere she gets a text from a friend of hers I don't recognize. No biggie because I don't know many of her friends, and she knows very little of my friends. She exclaims 'oh shit, Sting is going to be in town'. I asked her if she's going and she said 'yeah, I went to a Sting concert a long time ago and my friend just asked me if I'm down to go again'. An hour later, she told me she just got her Sting ticket. What makes me uneasy is that she admitted (through trickle-truth) that she cheated on her ex boyfriend once, and that this friend she is going to the concert to is from the time when she used to be very promiscuous. Honestly, I don't think she has cheated on me, and I don't think she plans on cheating on me with him. Nonetheless, I am feeling uneasy. Am I right in being uncomfortable with her chilling with a guy alone? Or am I being totally unreasonable? TL;DR: . Assistant:	guy that went to a Sting concert with my gf before I met her texts her asking to go to sting concert again. Gf agrees to go to a concert with him	guy that went to a Sting concert with my gf before I met her texts her asking to go to sting concert again. Gf agrees to go to a concert with him	4,234
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice TITLE: My new employer disclosed my confidential info to my current employer against my wish... AZ POST: I currently work as a physical therapist at a small privately owned clinic. When I signed on for the job I agreed to a 8 mile non-compete clause stating that I would not work in that radius. My dream job at a well known hospital chain finally had a opening and I accepted. I quit current job and was instructed by my future manager (a former employee at the small clinic) to not disclose my future location because they have tried to use legal action against PTs who were leaving due to the clause. In the new hire paperwork, I elected to not have my new employer contact my current employer. That background company called me one day ask asked if they could call my current company to only verify current employment. During the phone conversation, I told the woman that she could, if the name of the facility that she is asking for is not disclosed and if the verification of employment without specifics was the only contact they had. Two days later my current employer emailed me stating "hospital chain (location) contacted me asking confidential information about salary etc, would you like me to disclose or not." I contacted HR and I have had higher ups apologize stating they are "investigating the issue" I realize I should have told the background people no, but the woman assured me the only thing they say when they call is "does employee X currently work at your facility." and that was the end of the conversation. I want to know what I should do? I know I cant ask legal advice but I do not want to be taken advantage from a large company with a legal staff. TL;DR: . Assistant:	told new job's background check people to not disclose my future employer, they did. My current job can possibly initiate legal action due to a location clause for non compete. What advice do you have for my situation?	told new job's background check people to not disclose my future employer, they did. My current job can possibly initiate legal action due to a location clause for non compete. What advice do you have for my situation?	4,120
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My [19F] boyfriend [19M] gets really upset over homework and I want to know how to handle it. POST: Carl and I have been dating for four months now. I love him a lot and he loves me a lot. I think he wants me to he around for a long time and I feel the same way. The only issue with our relationship is school. He's taking a really tough class that just doesn't click with him. Normally you'd think this wouldn't be an issue, but it is. Whenever he's doing homework for this class, he gets really depressed and angry that he can't figure out the problems. Starts saying things like "I hate myself" and "You should just kill me". As someone who has gone through depression, I see some symptoms in him and really wish he would see a counselor. I suggested it to him, but he said he could handle it himself and I'm not going to give him an ultimatum because I know that those aren't healthy. This is the only time he acts that way. He's almost always happier in person. I feel like he's upset because he feels inadequate because he can't do this class. He's not happy with his major. He's looking into other lines of work, but for now he's stuck in this class. I have no idea what to say to him when he gets like this. Humor doesn't work. Telling him that's it's going to be okay doesn't work. Telling him that everyone still loves him regardless doesn't work. He's tried tutoring, talking to the professor, anything. None of it has worked. I get sad whenever he talks this way, and being cheerful and upbeat about it takes energy. I've tried asking him what I should do in these situations, but he doesn't know. I'm a psych major and I don't know the first thing about the topic he's studying. I want to be as supportive as I can, but I'm at a loss here. Anybody know what I should say to him? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Boyfriend gets really dark and upset because he can't do well in a class, I don't know how to support him.	Boyfriend gets really dark and upset because he can't do well in a class, I don't know how to support him.	1,187
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: M[21] unhappy in my relationship with F[22]. POST: I've (M[21]) been in a relationship for a year and a half with F[22] and it really has never gone well. I think we want different things and we are not overly compatible. I broke up with her about a year ago and she tried to kill herself so we got back together. This week I met an F[19] who I think I'm really compatible with. She and I talked for a few hours and we have a lot in common. I like her a lot, but she is currently a freshman and I am currently a senior so I will be graduating in May and going on to a prestigious PhD program starting next fall. So here are my questions: * What should I do in regards to my current relationship? I know I need to end it, but I just don't know how. * What should I do in regards to the other girl? * Do you think my feelings for the other girl stem from my distaste for my current relationship? I appreciate any help you give me. TL;DR: . Assistant:	M[21] Relationship not working and not sure if feelings I have for a new girl are because of my current failing relationship.	M[21] Relationship not working and not sure if feelings I have for a new girl are because of my current failing relationship.	2,568
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Have I been friendzoned? POST: Before I begin, let me tell you that I am a girl to avoid any confusion later. Also, this is the boy I consider(ed?) my best friend. So me and this boy have been friends for 6 years and we're really close. We are both seniors in high school. He asked me out in October and dumped before Christmas. He gave me reasons like "I don't want to be in a relationship that will have to end when we part for college", "I'm done with high school dating", "I need to focus on myself right now" and the infamous "I just don't want to ruin our friendship". As much as it sucked to hear, I accepted it. He kept sending me messages about how much he wanted me but couldn't have me. Fast forward to yesterday when he tells me he's dating someone. An ex-girlfriend. What?We still hang out and talk like we did before we were dating. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Dumped by best friend/ex-boyfriend because he "doesn't want any more relationships", and dates ex-girl friend soon after.	Dumped by best friend/ex-boyfriend because he "doesn't want any more relationships", and dates ex-girl friend soon after.	311
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Am I obligated to respond? POST: I was dating this girl very casually in November/December. She's 23, I'm 26. It kind of died off on its own, though since then we hooked up once, which was last weekend. In the month or so between our 3 or 4 dates and the hook-up, she slept with her ex-boyfriend once, which is of course fine; I'm not interested in dating this girl, and after we hooked up last week I realized immediately that we wouldn't do it again. Here's the thing: she's been emailing me a lot, asking to hang out, etc. I've been politely saying I'm too busy (which happens to be true), hoping she'll get the hint. Then last night, she sends me an email where she's just wasted, talking about how her bday is on Thursday and the anniversary of her father's death was two days ago, and basically all this stuff that I would probably need to be with her there for if we were in any way dating. But we're not. But she's clearly sad (according to this email at least), and going through some stuff. I don't want to just ignore her, but I don't want to get involved in a way that seems like I'm interested in her. And to be honest, and I don't mean to be a jerk, but I'm not really interested in being friends, either. I'm super busy with work and we both have separate groups of friends anyway. What do? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Girl I went on some dates with sent me a drunk email about some shit she's going through. Don't want to be cold but don't want to give her the wrong idea.	Girl I went on some dates with sent me a drunk email about some shit she's going through. Don't want to be cold but don't want to give her the wrong idea.	1,770
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My [22f] girlfriend pays her little sisters 100$ phone bill every month when we can barely pay our own bills. She refuses to bring it up to her parents. POST: I'm 22m and my girlfriend 22f have an apartment together. We have a rent, phone bills etc. Both of us work full time to pay our bills. The problem is my girlfriend has been paying her little sisters bill as well as her own and we never have any extra money. We can't go to a dinner or movie at the end of the month because we have bills and food. Her parents are not the best off but they make at least 5 times as much as we do. They have pot (which I have no problem with ) and do other recreational activities. Her little sister is 13. I understand a cellphone is necessary with buses and stuff but why is my gf fronting the bill. She refused to bring it up to either of them and I've talked to other people in her family and their on my side. I keep telling her to please bring it up to them. I didn't mind before we had all these bills but now that we're trying to start a life every penny counts. I don't want to bring it up to her parents because I'm not exactly in the position too but this is effecting our bills. Not to mention I want her to be on my significantly cheaper service provider. Her mom also does little things like say she's coming over then shows up her, her boyfriend, his son and his sons friend. We have a tiny one bedroom and this ruined my night because I couldn't even sit on my couch and relax after work. She's also told her little sister Her and her friends could stay at our house while they attended a con which we could not house or feed. (They didn't enzd up staying but it's the principal) My girlfriends sister is family but I don't think it's her/our responsibility to care for her. The main issue though is the phone bill. What should I do guys? TL;DR: . Assistant:	my girlfriend is paying 100$ a month for her little sisters phone bill even though her parents can afford to pay it and we cannot.	my girlfriend is paying 100$ a month for her little sisters phone bill even though her parents can afford to pay it and we cannot.	115
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: I [M/22] don't know how to proceed with her [F/19] POST: So I had a good time the other night bonding with a friend I had a crush on. I knew that she was newly single and she had come over to hang out with me and some friends. We ended up alone together on the balcony talking about shared experiences until late at night. We had just finished a bottle between the both of us and I was feeling confident, so I went in for the kiss. We made out and I asked if she wanted to take this to my room once we broke for air. We proceeded to have sex and during the whole fiasco my condom had fallen off without me noticing and so I accidentally came inside her. We got plan B and everything and I apologized profusely. She said she didn't hate me or anything for it and that it was just a bad situation. I haven't talked to her for a few days after it. Should I just shoot her a text and start up casual conversation? Wait till she contacts me? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Had drunken sex with a crush condom slipped off and I came inside her. Plan B was swiftly used, she said she doesn't hate me and now haven't talked to her in a few days	Had drunken sex with a crush condom slipped off and I came inside her. Plan B was swiftly used, she said she doesn't hate me and now haven't talked to her in a few days	4,151
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Immigrants of Reddit: Do you feel closer to your original country or your destination country? POST: So, I have been recently having some serious identity issues. I was born in Pakistan but moved when I was one and lived about 1/2 my life in America and 1/2 my life in Canada (where I currently live). I love Canada to death - to me, it a great nation, great people and undoubtedly, this nation is my home. I feel incredibly safe here. But, a lot of the time, I feel like an outsider looking in. When I talk to other Canadians, usually the first question they ask is where are you from. I answer with Canada. And there is usually some followup like where are your parents from or where were you born. I answer honestly and tell them Pakistan but I don't understand their need to ask and their need to know. I mean, just have a conversation with me and you will know within the first five minutes where I was born. I feel like white people are seen as 'real Canadians' and everyone else (including Aboriginals) are seen as 'immigrant Canadians'. I have no problem being an immigrant - my parents wanted a better life for their kids and I am extremely grateful they decided to move. But something else is that all these other Pakistani immigrants I am around make me feel bad and ashamed for not caring about Pakistan. I know the language and the culture but I mean, I don't give a crap about the human rights issues there, the political issues, etc. For me, Canadian issues - like senate reform and how to reconcile properly with the Aboriginal population - are much more important to me. But someone younger than me said, 'I hope my children don't grow up to be like you and forget their roots.' That stung. But I am Canadian. Fuck being Pakistani-Canadian. Why can't I just be Canadian? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Live in Canada but don't feel Canadian. Is this normal? Am I over reacting? Am I thinking too much?	Live in Canada but don't feel Canadian. Is this normal? Am I over reacting? Am I thinking too much?	5,814
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/cats TITLE: Upcoming cat surgery, non-profit assistance possibility questions POST: So, a little bit of background story. I was recently laid off from work, the business itself shut down unexpectedly with no forewarning from the owners, and in addition to that I don't expect to receive my final two weeks pay and commission check that I'm due. At the same time frame, I had one cat who suffered an infection of her uterus and needed surgery to remove that. I paid for that up front, and it was only a week before I was laid off. Now I've got a second cat, maybe some of you will remember my post from r/aww at Well, Cheshire recently developed a limp for his left hind leg, and I brought him to the vet for x-rays. Vet was honest, she didn't know exactly what it was from the x-rays, so they were sent to a radiologist/specialist for review as what she did see was a bone mass density difference between his two hips. Radiologist confirmed same thing, and I was told Cheshire has a condition which is leading to the deterioration of the ball/cap on his leg bone, putting him in massive amounts of pain. Even with the pain killers the vet gave us for the time being, he still growls and limps every time he stands up and walks around. Despite this, he's still being affectionate so I'd think he's trying to stay positive. Now, after the $1,200 pyometra surgery for one cat, a $300 check/x-rays for Cheshire, the surgery estimate is ~$1,800. My vet was kind enough to volunteer that there is an organization that tries to provide assistance for this kind of situation, and I applied. That was Wednesday the 7th, and as of yet we haven't heard a response. Does anyone have experience with this kind of thing? Maybe chime in with what kind of time frame I could expect? I really don't want to keep Cheshire in this condition, I'd rather get the surgery done ASAP but if I can't get help I'll have to resort to putting the whole thing on a CC and I'm honestly not looking forward to having to pay that interest on it, but if it's what it takes I'll do it. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Has anyone had any experience with a non-profit assistance case for an animals surgery? What was the turn-around time on an application, and any other info you might feel like volunteering regarding the process. Thanks!	Has anyone had any experience with a non-profit assistance case for an animals surgery? What was the turn-around time on an application, and any other info you might feel like volunteering regarding the process. Thanks!	314
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting TITLE: Today my little girl turned four and my mom reminded me how horrid she is. [rant] POST: Today is my daughter's fourth birthday. My mom promised her that this year she would spend the day with her and they would go to the zoo, Monkey Joe's, or Chuck E Cheese. My daughter went to bed early, "so I can wake up sooner!" she told me. After she went to bed, my mom called, all excited. "Hey Bekahbv! I'm at the airport getting ready for my trip to Los Angeles! Wish me luck!" She hung up on me when I reminded her of her promise, saying, "So now I'm a horrible grandma for missing ONE birthday!" I dreaded this morning. I left a note for my husband explaining to him what happened. (He works third shift and can't carry his cell on him at work.) I went to bed, trying not to cry for my little girl. Today has been terrible. My daughter has been crying all day, since 6 AM. My sixteen year old has been trying to cheer her up She even went to the store with her dad, bought doughnuts, bananas and apples. (Ali's favorite foods) Ali just wanted her grandma. I know it's only 11 AM here, but I can't imagine this day could get any better for my baby girl. We are broke and were only able to get her one present and we couldn't afford a birthday party. TL;DR: . Assistant:	My mom decided to go to Los Angeles the day before my daughter's birthday, after promising my birthday girl a day filled with fun and games.	My mom decided to go to Los Angeles the day before my daughter's birthday, after promising my birthday girl a day filled with fun and games.	2,282
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by telling my friend about a feminist. POST: This was today, but began on Friday. Last Friday in theology class, a seminarian came to our class to answer any questions we had. Class began and the feminist in question raised her hand and asked why women can't be priests, he began to respond but she cut him off and began lecturing him about how it was sexist, unfair, doltish, and threatened all the rights of women. She continued lecturing him for the next 40 minutes, he didn't get to say a word. Today, in theology class, she began yelling at our teacher about how everything she believed was wrong and how she was a disgrace against humanity. All because the feminist didn't agree with something the teacher has said. Our teacher is young, just out of college, and really really nice, to the point where you can't even get in trouble in her class because she's to nice and timid to say anything. Well anyway, being yelled at pushed her over the edge, because she was already sad because her cat had just died, and she began crying and left the classroom. The feminist just said "see I was obviously right because she couldn't back up her ideas. Here's the FU. A few classes later I was telling a few of my friends about how she had made our teacher cry, and I suddenly feel a tap on my shoulder, I turn around, and it's her, the feminist I had just been talking about, I had forgotten she was in my class because she had just recently transferred in. Well before I could react when I turned, she smacked me in the face, I had been badly sunburned at a track meet over the weekend so it was the most excruciating pain I had ever felt, like a volcano exploding on my face. Before I could recover she punched me in the nose. My nose broke. Right after punching me she kneed me in the groin. So there I was in fetal position on the ground, my cheek stoning, and the blood from my nose forming a puddle on the ground. She smirked, looked me in the eye and said " That's what you get for disagreeing with me you uncultured swine." Sorry for any formatting issues and grammar, I'm on mobile. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Told my friend how a feminist had made my theology teacher cry, got beaten up and called an uncultured swine by said feminist.	Told my friend how a feminist had made my theology teacher cry, got beaten up and called an uncultured swine by said feminist.	6,411
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My new neighbor (50's(?)/F) can hear everything I (20's/F) do in my apartment, and it's disrupting her sleep. What do? POST: My neighbor moved into the apartment adjacent to me a few days ago. Whilst she's a very nice lady, she seems to be very annoyed by my sound levels, as she can apparently hear every word I say through her walls. I'm not a particularly loud person- the noise I produce consists of chatting on Skype and playing soft music to help me sleep. However, no matter how softly I speak, she still hears me. The thing that makes this particularly problematic is my own sleep patterns; I happen to be most active at night, presumably when she's trying to fall asleep. I'm at an impasse because, while I want to continue living in a way that is comfortable to me, I don't want my neighbor to suffer for it. I'm in an LDR, so the Skype chats are dear to me, otherwise I'd cut them out. Has anyone been in a similar situation or have any advice to give? TL;DR: . Assistant:	My neighbor's life is being disrupted by my noise levels, which would be reasonable if it weren't for the thin wall between us. What do?	My neighbor's life is being disrupted by my noise levels, which would be reasonable if it weren't for the thin wall between us. What do?	76
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice TITLE: (M)Need advice on Dating a Girl with Rheumatoid Arthritis POST: <h4> My Background</h4><br> <p>I am twenty years old I live on my own. I am currently working as a draftsman to save up money for school. I am a very open-minded individual that often feels drawn to help others with their issues. My last relationship I was cheated on and haven't even gone on a date in over a year.</p><lb> <h4>Our relationship<h4><br><p>I had met this girl(23) about two months ago in a very seemingly odd way over the internet. She is going to school to get her certification to work on Airplanes and lives with her parents. When we first started to get to know each other, she told me about her condition and asked me if I was judgmental. Having quite a few issues of my own, and knowing well of the dangers of autoimmune diseases (My dad has MS), I told her it didn't bother me at all because it didn't. We seem to share many of the same thoughts and experiences and things look very promising. I realized at that moment that I was going to need advice over the issue.</p><lb> <h4>Her Condition</h4> <p>She apparently used to run cross country and work as a mechanic while doctors were puzzled over her condition. This badly damaged her joints to where she has to take pain medication often, but can still function normally. She was officially diagnosed with RA a year ago. It already affects her ability to work and might even prevent her from pursuing what she loves ( working on airplanes ). She takes many different kinds of medicine to treat it although she has told me that it makes her miserable.</p><lb><h4>My Questions</h4><br><p> How can I be supportive towards her? What flare up symptoms should I look out for and how can I help her with it? How should I approach intimacy and sex? What should I say and do to make her feel as comfortable as possible? Any advice is appreciated.</p><lb><h4> TL;DR: . Assistant:	</h4><br><p>I a male of 20 need advice on dating a girl of 23 with Rheumatoid Arthritis</p>	</h4><br><p>I a male of 20 need advice on dating a girl of 23 with Rheumatoid Arthritis</p>	2,301
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: [21F] Friend [22F] is Abusive to her BF [22M] and it Pisses Me Off POST: One of my close friends has been dating this guy for like 6 months, she treats him poorly and it bothers me. She talks to him in a really condescending way and she's really demanding, she expects him to do every single thing for her, and she's slapped him several times. And that's just that I've seen, I'm sure she's done it more when I'm not around, and maybe even worse than slapping. I'm a really caring person, probably almost to a detriment, so I'm quite concerned and I have talked to him once before about their relationship and how she treats him. And she found out about that and got pissed at me, accusing me of trying to get him to cheat on her with me and stuff. I want to talk to my friend about it too, maybe she doesn't realize what she's doing? I feel really intimidated by her though and I don't know how to talk to her about it because she'll get defensive and start saying I'm insulting her or something. TL;DR: . Assistant:	My friend is abusive to her boyfriend and it bothers me, I've talked to him about it before and she got mad at me. I want to talk to her about it.	My friend is abusive to her boyfriend and it bothers me, I've talked to him about it before and she got mad at me. I want to talk to her about it.	1,158
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Girlfriend [25f] has absolutely no manners and POST: My girlfriend and I have a fairly decent, average, relationship with about one exception. Her manners are so bad that I'm embarrassed every time we eat with friends/family and I'm starting to get frustrated even when it's just her and I to the point where I have a hard time being "normal" around her eating. I'm not a picky person by any means and in general am very tolerant of people who don't do things "my way" but after three years of listening to her chew with her mouth open, bite her fork/spoon when she takes a bite, play with her food, and shovel it into her mouth bit by bit I'm about at my wits end. I certainly don't expect royal manners or anything of that variety but I am slowly realizing that general manners are a must in my relationship. I know the old adage of "just talk to her" (we really do talk about almost everything, very open) but I have a particularly hard time, I think, because I feel like it's not my responsibility to coach her in proper social manners. It feels a bit father-like and I get the "its not my job to teach her manners" every time I consider talking about it. It's the details that get to me, is it best to try and train her in every nuance that makes up good manners ("don't bite your fork, don't chew with your mouth open, don't pick at your food with your fingers") or should I just generally say "you need to work on your manners" and hope that she gets it? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Girlfriend and I have a fairly healthy relationship but she lacks very basic manners and it's really starting to get to me. I have no idea how to successfully approach her and discuss it because I feel strange taking that role.	Girlfriend and I have a fairly healthy relationship but she lacks very basic manners and it's really starting to get to me. I have no idea how to successfully approach her and discuss it because I feel strange taking that role.	4,705
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [23 F] feel like our club president [21 M] violated our privacy by sending out an email reminder POST: Someone just sent a bulk email to all the members who didn't pay dues in our student organization. They listed each of the member's names, along with how much they exactly owed in the body of the email. To me, it seems like this is a big violation of privacy (thought that he should have used a BCC instead), but I wanted Reddit's opinion to see if I wasn't overreacting? He's a bit of a control freak, so I'm not sure if that's part of it or if it's me overreacting as well (or maybe a bit of both). Depending on what you guys think, I was thinking of sending him an email saying that this is something that he shouldn't have done and how he should BCC everyone's emails instead. Thanks! TL;DR: . Assistant:	private information (including how much money we each owed) and our email addresses were sent out in a club email and I think he shouldn't have done that because it's a violation of privacy. Am I overreacting?	private information (including how much money we each owed) and our email addresses were sent out in a club email and I think he shouldn't have done that because it's a violation of privacy. Am I overreacting?	4,972
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My boyfriend (25m) unexpectedly broke up with me (20f) and I don't know what to do. POST: We were doing great. We never had a big fight or disagreement. The biggest problem was the distance but we still got to see each other at least every other weekend. I know he has struggled with depression but I thought he was happy. He said he was happy and for the most part he acted happy. I was happy, I mean really happy for the first time I can remember. It was the most amazing relationship I could have asked for. Then a few days ago he just called me and ended it. He said he needed space and time to focus on him, that he wasn't happy with himself and that he never felt like he was right. He says I didn't do anything wrong and swears there is nobody else that he just needs time for him to fix himself. I do believe him he, was very upset and crying the whole time. He sounds like he hates himself which I don't understand because he is the most amazing person I have ever known. He really is, he is sweet, hard working, brilliant, giving, loving, great personality, and he is great to talk to about anything...just all around amazing. I want to help him but he just pushes me away. I am devastated. I had no idea that he wasn't happy. I can't understand it, a week ago I would have never thought this would happen. I don't know why I can't make him happy when he makes me so happy. I haven't been able to go more than a few minutes with out crying and I haven't slept since the break up. I just don't know what to do he was my best friend and I feel empty and lost without him. We are still texting some he says he misses me but he just isn't happy. He says he wants us to have a chance later but he doesn't know if we will. I don't know what to do or what he wants me to do. TL;DR: . Assistant:	My boyfriend unexpectedly broke up with me. He says he wants time to focus on himself. I am upset and don't know what to do.	My boyfriend unexpectedly broke up with me. He says he wants time to focus on himself. I am upset and don't know what to do.	6,020
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by emptying the vacuum POST: So my wife and I are adopting two kittens today and have been preparing the kitten room, cleaning thoroughly and setting everything up. Vacuuming was my job, and I was doing a damn good job (IMO). I should inform you that we have one of those Dyson Cyclone vacuums that has the cylinder that you detach and then press the button to empty from the bottom. So I detach the cylinder and hold it over the trash bag to empty. I press the button-dust, dirt and hair ALL OVER the floor while only a small amount made it into the bag. I curse silently, turn the vacuum back on and go to work. I had gotten most of it back into the vacuum when the garbage bag was caught by the vacuum and tipped over, spilling the rest of the vacuum's prior contents onto the floor. I cursed again (not silently this time) and cleaned the rest of it up. Such a simple task and yet, TIFU. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Tried to empty vacuum into garbage bag, emptied onto floor and garbage bag instead, cleaned up, vacuum tipped the garbage over and emptied the rest of it, had to do it again. I need a shower and a drink.	Tried to empty vacuum into garbage bag, emptied onto floor and garbage bag instead, cleaned up, vacuum tipped the garbage over and emptied the rest of it, had to do it again. I need a shower and a drink.	17
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance TITLE: Current job allows for flexibility during work hours and subsidizes travel - looking for a side hustle. Whatcha got, PF? POST: So I recently started a job that has me largely working from home and driving around my metro area. It's a sales job, so I'm paid mileage(when on appointments) and a stipend for my vehicle. I'm going to need to upgrade my car before too terribly long, and I want to put down a significant amount. I'd like to put together the cash for this payment from funds earned through a side gig. Not so much because I couldn't manage to save the cash myself, more as a project and a way to keep myself productive. Given my unique job situation, I'm able to carve out time here and there during business days and also have some of the costs of travel subsidized so it seems wise to take advantage of that. At the moment I don't have any productive hobbies, unfortunately. My first thought was Uber, but I think that would make it way easier to get caught "double dipping". My first venture is going to be thrifting and reselling 100% wool jackets/suits on CL and offering delivery for a small additional fee. I live near an affluent suburb, so I think I could keep a pretty decent inventory on hand and I don't think the time investment will get to be too daunting once I have a couple of templates for listing completed. Any other ideas or pitfalls/opportunities I'm not considering right now? What do you do for additional income? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Looking for a side hustle, travel costs covered by main gig, first attempt will be thrifting suits/jackets and reselling with delivery. Any other ideas?	Looking for a side hustle, travel costs covered by main gig, first attempt will be thrifting suits/jackets and reselling with delivery. Any other ideas?	6,075
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest TITLE: Adoption is the wrong choice for most of the kids I work with... POST: I work in special education, specifically with emotionally disturbed kids. The past 6 months all of my students who were in foster found potential permanent homes. Sounds great right? Even better, all of those homes ended up working out, in each case the new parents were ready to sign the dotted line and take on the responsibility of a victim of trauma. Even better still; all but one of the families were in district, so I would be able to continue working with the students (some of them I've been with for 4 years now). Can this get any better? Yes, my students would finally have someone to call "Mom" or "Dad" or both. Only we discovered a problem, a major problem. Once an adoption is finalized, all funding and resources coming from the state to pay for things like Therapy are completely cut. That means you take a child who from birth to the age of 5 was sexually and physically abused, put them into the system, get them finally comfortable opening up to a therapist, get the ball rolling so they are making serious educational and emotional progress, find them a placement, then cut all those supports out from underneath them. How is that fair to the child or the families who want to adopt those children? Just today I had a meeting with the entire support team for one of these children and, being the case manager I had to inform the potential adoptive parents that the entire financial burden of continued treatment will be solely on them. Basically, I have to help these people cheat the system in order to best serve my students. It feels really unethical to me, and I feel like it really disappoints the students when they're not officially adopted, they crave safe permanency. The only silver lining in this is that in all the cases I've worked with, the county has agreed to allow these new families to be the new foster families and these students DO have a permanent home, and finally someone to call "mom" or "dad," when they're ready to. TL;DR: . Assistant:	In Ohio, if you adopt, financial support for any therapy for your adopted child gets cut immediately upon the paperwork being processed. I have to tell potential adopters this information.	In Ohio, if you adopt, financial support for any therapy for your adopted child gets cut immediately upon the paperwork being processed. I have to tell potential adopters this information.	4,978
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [21M] getting mixed responses from someone I've been flirting and hang out with. [19 F] POST: So, I'm the president of a roleplaying/board game club here at my university, and recently a new girl joined our club a month ago and I've started to grow pretty fond of her. We have a lot of the same interests and she has a very nice, albeit a sarcastic personality, but that's all the better for me because it rolls with my personality as well. Anyways, I started flirting with her and we've gone ice skating together once, but I'm not certain if she is entirely into it. I've asked her to go on a date with me on Valentine's Day to the movies to go see Deadpool, but she said that she had too much homework to do so (Which makes sense, our school gives a lot of work) and I did ask her only two days before Valentine's Day. I asked her if she'd be willing to I did get her a carnation delivered to her door on Valentine's Day (I usually get one for all my close friends so its not too out of the ordinary, although I have only known her for a month) So right now, we still talk and I'm really unsure of where I should go from here. I can't tell her if she isn't interested in me romantically and just want to stay friends, but I'm getting mixed signals so I'm uncertain of what to do here. I don't know whether I should just backoff and just move on, or to proceed. I feel like I put the ball in her court to respond, but these mixed responses are making me confused on where to go from here. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I've been getting mixed responses from the person but I can't tell if she's just really a busy person or if she likes me back.	I've been getting mixed responses from the person but I can't tell if she's just really a busy person or if she likes me back.	5,769
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Is giving receiving a business card bad relationship etiquette? Me (28F) BF (28M) POST: Relationship 4.5 years. Thank you for reading! So I am in sales and have gotten in the habit of exchanging business cards as frequently as possible. I have accumulated a stack which are scattered throughout my purse. I guess you could say it has become a reflex when meeting somebody. I went to a bar with my friend Tabitha several weeks back and we started talking to two guys about the caucus. The conversation then turned to whether we had boyfriends and I said I was in a relationship and that we were getting engaged soon. I talked about this a LOT. I then went to leave and did the whole business card exchange. I did not intend to ever speak to either of them again and have not. I cannot think of a nice way to say this, but neither of these men were attractive. The next day, I had already forgotten their names. My boyfriend found the business card on the floor and got excited because he needed a new mechanic. I didn't remember the guys' names so I said that the card was probably my friend Tabitha's. Later, when I picked it up cleaning, I realized it was probably one of the people we had been talking to and threw it in my purse to join the stack. A few nights ago when we were in bed, my boyfriend asked if I still had the card. I told him that I could get it for him in the morning. That night, however, I couldn't sleep because I started feeling really bad. For the first time, I wondered if taking business cards might be similar to going out and getting numbers. I woke my boyfriend up after several hours of not sleeping and explained to him the story and said that I was sorry. He was fine with it, but was angry that I woke him up. I felt bad that I had said it was probably Tabitha's. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Is it wrong to give out your business card or take one from a single man? I have been doing it because it is a good networking tool, but maybe it leads to too many complications?	Is it wrong to give out your business card or take one from a single man? I have been doing it because it is a good networking tool, but maybe it leads to too many complications?	1,530
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [22 M] with my current GF/EX [22 F] of 3 years. Want to know if breaking up is a good solution to anxiety/distance. POST: I've been in a relationship with my best friend for 3 years. And now we aren't sure how to proceed. Currently, we just finished college in May, and have not been able to see each other (hardly) at all. The biggest problem is that our hours are opposite. She works from at least 5pm to 11pm, Tuesday - Sunday w/ doubles on weekends, and I work an 8-5 M-F job. This might be surmountable, but she has a serious anxiety complication. While I can help her with it when we're together, being unable to communicate really makes it harder on her. Add that to the fact that our intimacy has been flagging, and we're scared that we should break it off. However, we still really care for each other and don't want to lose our best friend. ----- That's where the complications happen, and where I'm requesting advice. If we break it off, we put ourselves in the position of finding other people. That means we can easily hurt each other more, or even hurt the people we are with (like if we aren't fully broken up, or if we decide to get back together with each other instead of the others). If we don't break it off, then we (she especially) feel like we can't know whether we are right for each other, or if we will be able to stick through tough times in the future if we do end up together. ------ I know you can't tell me the "right" thing to do, but I was hoping you could give me your opinions. We've just run this topic ragged in circles, and it isn't helping either of us feel any better about our position. I really just want to hear some things we may not have considered. I'll be happy to provide more description in the comments, but I wanted to keep it short and simple for you. I'll also tell her about this so she can add to it if she wants. Her username is llamaears. Thanks! TL;DR: . Assistant:	Relationship complications brought on by anxiety and distance. We can't figure out if it's better to try to make things better while together or apart.	Relationship complications brought on by anxiety and distance. We can't figure out if it's better to try to make things better while together or apart.	2,552
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [33 F] found out my boyfriend [35 M] of six years created an OkCupid account while I was out of town. POST: The other week I found out that my boyfriend of 6 years created an okcupid account while I was out of town for work. I found out about the account because I saw messages from OkCupid when he logged into his email. Later I went to okcupid.com on his computer and he was logged in. No major detective work here. His profile is fairly bare with no picture, but states that he is single, and I can tell that he has looked at other women's profiles and "liked" them. He has no messages in his inbox, but you can delete those right? I haven't ever used the site. I didn't bring it up to him for a few days because I just didn't want to think about it. When I finally told him that I had found the account, he admitted it to me. He said he had looked at women's pictures but that's it. His reason why was that "I was out of town," which is fucking stupid. We are generally a good couple, and though of course we fight about stupid shit sometimes, this is the first time I've had trust issues with him. He's a bartender and often doesn't come home until 7 am, but I've always just trusted that he just gets off work late and then maybe has a few drinks with his coworkers. I travel often for work and never assumed that he was looking to meet up with other women while I was gone. So, am I being a total fucking shmuck? What would you do? I will be devastated if he cheats on me, and I'm not even sure that he is trustworthy anymore. Can I believe him if he says it was nothing? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Found out my boyfriend of six years started an okcupid account. Wondering if this means our relationship is a sham.	Found out my boyfriend of six years started an okcupid account. Wondering if this means our relationship is a sham.	2,308
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: My Girlfriend [18F] cheated on me [19M] in our LDR the other day, I want to make it work but need advice POST: So my girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half now and we've been doing long distance for the last month and a half. Most of the time we've spent together has been great, although we have had a few rough patches, it's never been anything we couldn't work through. But a few days ago we decided to take some time to ourselves, continue dating, just cut contact for a week to have some alone time to figure things out. We made it very clear that we would stay exclusive and not do anything with anyone else in the meantime. Today was our first day talking again and she immediately told me she had cheated on me the night after we stopped talking. She hadn't been drunk or anything, just made some bad decisions and one thing led to the next, her and this guy, we'll call him Steve, had slept together. She is deeply sorry and hates that she did it, she wants to try to keep our relationship intact, and I do too. Steve was a friend of hers away at school and they haven't talked since. I told her if she wanted things to work between us, that her and Steve could not remain such good friends. I told her it was okay for them to hang out in group settings because I understand that they have the same friend group and to cut contact with him entirely, she would have to cut herself off from almost all of her friends up there. I'm just having a hard time accepting that she would do this, because it's so against everything she stands for. I'm also having a hard time trusting her now because we will have to remain in an LDR for another 2 months, then I will be up there as well and we can be together, but until then I can't bare the thought of her seeing this guy every day or so and I don't know what I can do to just improve this situation in general. Also, Steve will actually be in town where I live over the weekend, and I want to confront him, but I'm not sure that's such a good idea. TL;DR: . Assistant:	My girlfriend cheated on me in our LDR, but we want to make it work, having trust issues and issues proceeding from here in general.	My girlfriend cheated on me in our LDR, but we want to make it work, having trust issues and issues proceeding from here in general.	1,947
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice TITLE: Boss told me I was going to be fired, but haven't heard anything since. POST: Throwaway just in case. Let me preface this by saying I understand why this company would fire me. I know it's nothing personal. I've worked here for two years, and lately I've been getting a little burnt out, so I hit a bit of a lazy streak. Totally understandable; no issues with that. My issue is that on Saturday, my immediate supervisor pulled me into his office, and to make a long story short, told me he had to start the process of termination due to my recent work performance. Tough to swallow, but fair. I messed up. That was the only thing I heard about it on Saturday, and we are closed Sunday. On Monday, Memorial Day in the US, I asked my supervisor if he had any updates on the situation for me (apparently some kind of form has to be sent to corporate, they sign/approve it or whatever, then send it back and you clean off your desk). He said because of the holiday, no one is at corporate. He also said that his supervisor, the GM, was waiting to hear back from someone. That was the last I heard of it on Monday. On Tuesday, I came to work not really knowing if I had a job or not. I came in, did my work, acted normal. I asked my supervisor via text if he had an update. No response. I know he saw the text, though, his phone is always with him and he has one of those smart watches. He saw it. Never hearing anything, I finished out my shift and went home. It's Wednesday, and here I am at the job I was told I'm getting fired from. I've never been fired from a job before. Is this normal? Do I just wait it out? Is what they're doing (telling me I'm going to get fired and not following through) normal? TL;DR: . Assistant:	My boss told me I was getting fired, hasn't done it, and won't answer my questions regarding the matter.	My boss told me I was getting fired, hasn't done it, and won't answer my questions regarding the matter.	6,437
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I'm [19 M] in a relationship that my girlfriend [19 F] and I both know won't work out, but we both love each other. Need advice. POST: So my girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year now, and we're still going strong. We really love each other, and it's a very healthy relationship. Here's the problem: I grew up in a religious household and religion is very important to me and it's something thats a part of me that I would never want to give up, but my girlfriend had a lot of negative experiences with religion (led to her depression, self-harm, bad stuff), so she doesn't want to raise her kids religiously. We both understand each other's views but we can't find a compromise that works. So even though we both really love each other, we know that we're gonna have to break up eventually if we ever want to raise a family (which we both do). Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this, both for now and after a breakup? [ TL;DR: . Assistant:	] My girlfriend and I love each other, but know that our relationship won't last because of religious differences and we want to know how to deal with this.	] My girlfriend and I love each other, but know that our relationship won't last because of religious differences and we want to know how to deal with this.	5,263
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: A new girl [16 F] just started at my work. I [17 M] tried messaging her but she won't answer POST: This girl started at my work last week, she is a pretty girl and we seemed to hit it off. I added her on Facebook and sent her a message. It's been a couple of days now and she's been online a few times but I haven't gotten a reply. She might have seen the message but forgot to reply but it says she hasn't opened it yet. I don't work the same shifts as her and we don't go to school together otherwise I'd ask her number and I don't know how else to get a hold of her. Should I send her another message? What should I say? Or does it seem like I should just forget about it? Thanks for your help TL;DR: . Assistant:	I've got a crush on this girl that started working with me but she won't answer me on Facebook and I don't know what to do	I've got a crush on this girl that started working with me but she won't answer me on Facebook and I don't know what to do	826
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Ex-gf camping trip. POST: Tonight my(20m) ex-girlfriend(18f) is going camping with who knows who and doing who knows what. I broke up with her a few months ago due to substantial trust issues and constant bickering, and because I knew that she wouldn't do it. It was best for both of us. That doesn't mean I don't still love her and care about her, and we decided to remain in contact as friends and kind of lay off on seeing other people. It's worked so far, but new allegations from her friends about me that simply put, aren't true, are causing her to "retaliate" and do this camping thing. For all I know some guy will fuck the closest person to me tonight. A constant cycle of sadness anger, and jealousy is storming through my head and I feel... awful. Not figuratively. It hurts a lot. I don't have many friends, I've pushed most away because of personal issues. And now this is happening. I know this will probably be the end of communication between us but that really just makes me feel even worse, not better. TL;DR: . Assistant:	ex-gf who i'm still very close to may do something cruel tonight. Can't take it. Full post explains much better..	ex-gf who i'm still very close to may do something cruel tonight. Can't take it. Full post explains much better..	5,579
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Do all executors of a deceased family members estate have to agree in order to sell said family members estate? Or do you only need 2 to agree as the majority? POST: I have to provide a bit of a back story. There is a husband and wife. They own a house. The husband dies and the wife has dementia and is put into a home. Due to the wife's lack of mental capacity, 3 of their daughters were appointed as executors. The house that the father and mother lived in is up for sale. The money from this sale would not be made probate, but would go to the mother and pay for her stay at the nursing home. NOW for my question. Do all 3 of these sisters have to agree on the price of an offer in order to be able to sell it or do only 2 need to agree and they majority rule the other sister? Like if there was an offer of $150,000 and the 2 sisters agreed to that but the third sister said she doesn't want to accept any offer unless its $200,000, would it not matter because 2 over power one? TL;DR: . Assistant:	3 sisters are executors. 2 agree on an offer on their fathers house, the third one does not. Do 2 overpower one?	3 sisters are executors. 2 agree on an offer on their fathers house, the third one does not. Do 2 overpower one?	4,465
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: [18M] Asked a girl I knew for a few months to hangout, got denied, not sure what to do next. POST: Yep, despite me being a SAP, I attempted it. I am not really seeking a relationship with this girl anymore, though I was (I guess I still kind of am) mildly interested. However, I'm completely content with just being friends. We used to hangout during breaks at school during those few months I've known her. She said "sorry I have ____ to do today", which means "no". I said "maybe another day" and she responded in the affirmative, but didn't offer another day (something that, according to the Internet, means that she is not interested at all). However, she seemed willing to carry on a conversation after that, albeit it was a bit awkward. I have two issues here. The first one: what do I do now? I feel like I should ask again later (maybe like a week later), but at the same time I don't want to be too persistent. Or should I just leave her alone for good? We don't go to the same school anymore, so that would be pretty depressing. Two: The general rule of me talking to a girl: the more attractive she is, the stupider I sound. I once was able to shut off my feelings for a girl and successfully flirt with them and maintain a conversation, but I seemed to have lost that ability. When I asked this girl to hangout, it was poorly done and I couldn't think of anything to say. How do I regain this ability? TL;DR: . Assistant:	girl I knew for a few months denied my suggestion to go hangout, wondering what to do next, and also how to not sound like an idiot while talking to girls.	girl I knew for a few months denied my suggestion to go hangout, wondering what to do next, and also how to not sound like an idiot while talking to girls.	5,057
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [19 M] with my Girlfriend[18F] of 2.5 years: How do I get her to be less shy? POST: To put it simply, we have been going out for almost three years, and she still can't even say she loves me if anyone can hear. I have talked to her about it, and she said she is working on it. she said this two years ago... This does affect our relationship, I feel like our relationship is some dirty secret, and I don't want that. I don't expect her to full on snog me when her dad can see, but at least hold my hand... Firstly, is this too much to ask, and secondly, if not: How can I get her to just me a little less shy? TL;DR: . Assistant:	My girlfriend is so shy, she can't even hold my hand if anyone can see. How can I get her to be just a little less shy? (It doesn't help to talk to her)	My girlfriend is so shy, she can't even hold my hand if anyone can see. How can I get her to be just a little less shy? (It doesn't help to talk to her)	282
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [22F] & brother [22M] with childhood trauma. Boyfriend said "he's too damaged and beyond anyone's help". I kicked him out. POST: My brother and I (twins) had a nightmarish childhood. Both our parents were criminals and violent. They were angry at everything and everyone and always unleashed that on me and my brother. When we were 16 we ran away from home. We lived on the streets for a while until we were able to rent a room together. When we were 19 our dad was killed by the police. Our mom killed herself a few months later so we got their stuff. We sold their house and bought a new one and that's where we live right now. We focused on getting professional help, trying to heal and moving on. I've been able to do that. Now I have friends, I'm in a relationship for a year with my boyfriend and my life is pretty normal. My brother however has struggled. His progress has been much slower than mine and he still isn't in a great shape. He struggles with making friends and having relationships. Therapy helps and he's getting better but it's a long and slow process for him. My boyfriend hasn't really been helpful to be honest. He thinks I shouldn't help my brother since I don't owe him anything and that he's and adult and responsible for his own problems. Last night we woke up because we heard my brother screaming in his sleep (it sometimes happens, though not often anymore) and I went to his room to help him calm down and go back to sleep. He has nightmares about what our parents did to us. This morning boyfriend told me that my brother is a mess and he belongs in a mental institution. I didn't like what he said so I told him that I don't need his "expert" psychological opinion. He continued that I should cut him lose since he'll never be a good brother for me as he's too damaged and beyond anyone's help. I became angry and told him that he should leave. I'm very upset with the things he said. I find his comments not only out of line and insulting but also very wrong. He texted me a "I'm sorry if I upset you" apology. I don't know what I should do with him. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Boyfriend called my brother "too damaged and beyond anyone's help". I got upset and kicked him out. He's giving me a half apology. Should I forgive him?	Boyfriend called my brother "too damaged and beyond anyone's help". I got upset and kicked him out. He's giving me a half apology. Should I forgive him?	3,407
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My [28 M] self-confidence is very low after many failed relationships. Feel like something is wrong with me. Worried I won't find anyone. POST: I have a lot of good traits. Ironically, all my good traits are currently hurting my self-confidence, because I keep failing in relationships and don't understand what it is that I can improve. From the outside looking in, people assume my love life is effortless. People tell me I'm a good looking guy, I'm into a lot of hobbies (hiking, kayaking, woodworking), I'm in good shape, I have a great job that's allowed me to be financially stable, I volunteer at a retirement home, I'm not overbearing, and I'm not jealous, I try to be genuinely kind... My friend's regularly joke that if they could transfer their "game" into my body and had my life that they would be killing it with the women. I know they're trying to help by telling me I have a lot to offer, but all it really makes me think is: "If I'm so great then what the fuck is wrong with me that prevents me from getting a relationship to work?" I've gotten to the point where I'm afraid to seek out new relationships because it hurts to be rejected. I'm always trying to improve myself, but I don't exactly what to focus on. Currently I'm just working on myself and trying to be happy, but I would also like to start pursuing dating new people. I'm 28 years old and have always dreamed of having a family, coaching my children in sports or just supporting whatever it is they want to do with their lives. I know I'm still young, but I'm starting to feel old. The only problem is that there isn't anyone in sight. I'm beginning to have doubts that it will ever happen. It bums me out. Should I try online dating or something? TL;DR: . Assistant:	After many failed relationships, I feel like something is wrong with me. Friends telling me I'm the "perfect guy" only makes me feel like my personality must be terrible...	After many failed relationships, I feel like something is wrong with me. Friends telling me I'm the "perfect guy" only makes me feel like my personality must be terrible...	2,318