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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Visiting Eastern China on a Budget
POST: I'm an Australian setting out in a few weeks to backpack around Asia, starting in Japan and then flying to Hong Kong. I was intending to apply for a Chinese visa in Hong Kong and spend some time there however I'm on a shoestring budget (which is fine, I stay in hostels and eat street food regardless).
I don't mind paying for the visa to get into China but I've noticed (because China is so massive) trains between many of the major cities cost ~$80 one way which is pretty steep for me. I only have 30 days so I feel there's plenty for me to do in China on the Eastern side, just wondering if anyone has any recommendations?
I'd love to go up to Shanghai but that's the furthest up from Hong Kong I'd like to go, I've heard Yunnan is nice and I'm considering starting in HK, up to Shanghai, then work my way down to Yunnan and ultimately enter Laos at the end of my visa. Is this reasonable? Where is worth stopping at on the trip? And roughly how much should I expect to spend on a cheap as possible month in China if you don't mind me asking? (I budget usually around $40 AUD per day)
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Going to China from HK, too stingy to pay for trains everywhere, what's worth seeing in the south-east?
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Going to China from HK, too stingy to pay for trains everywhere, what's worth seeing in the south-east?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I (kind of) saved my older brother's life
POST: Okay so I know this isn't like the most major thing, but I just feel good about listening to my gut and stuff, and doing a good thing. So we're both in our early 20s. Me and my older brother haven't had the best relationship for most of our lives, and though it has been getting better lately we still are kind of figuring out how to be open with each other and stuff, and he hasn't said anything about it. Not that I would really expect him to, as it really wasn't that big of a deal.
Anyways, I just feel good and want to tell someone without being all high-and-mighty and whatnot.
We were just on vacation, and we were swimming in the ocean. We had rented out a paddle board, but the winds were kind of strong so we only got one good run in a small bay, then decided to go to a different beach. This beach had bigger waves, and just as much wind.
We get there and he just gets right in on the paddle board and was out there for just a minute or so before I decided to go swimming. After a few minutes I noticed that he wasn't up on the board anymore so I looked around and saw some flailing arms with a paddle and figured it was him. He steadied up though and began swimming back to shore. I had a thought that he might be struggling but I figured he would be fine.
After a minute or two I realize that he's still trying to get back to shore but hasn't made any real progress, so I decide to swim over and see if he needed any help. I get over there and ask if he needed help, but he was too winded to say anything. I asked if he was okay and he still didn't respond. So I just grabbed the board and swam him to the shore while he just hung on and dragged behind. He was tired out of his mind.
He was totally fine, just tired. Although with the wind that day, who knows what would have happened otherwise. I didn't do anything that crazy, but I helped my brother out, and that feels pretty good.
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Big bro went out with paddle board in the windy wavy ocean, got really tired and couldn't make it back to shore, I went out and swam him back
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Big bro went out with paddle board in the windy wavy ocean, got really tired and couldn't make it back to shore, I went out and swam him back
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Naive lady seeking your dating advice
POST: Hi there! I'm a 22 year old girl who recently started seeing a 26 year old dude and desperately need your sound opinions!
We've only been seeing each other about 3 weeks but it's has been pretty serious from the get go. We talk everyday and FaceTime just about every night because he lives an hour away. He's really been working hard to get me to trust him because I have issues with trust which has resulted in me never having a serious relationship before; hence why I need all of your advice :)
This last Wednesday was my birthday and he was scheduled to come up and take me out to dinner. I told him it wasn't necessary because I'm not the kind of girl who expects that sort of thing, but he insisted. He called me on Tuesday to cancel because he got a call about a job interview. I totally understood and we made plans to see each other Friday. Thursday rolls around and I text him in the afternoon to find out about the interview, no response. I call him later that evening, no return phone call. I send another text asking if everything is okay, no response. Today (Friday) I send him another text after seeing he had shared some story on Facebook and told him good luck with everything in the future and still no response. I don't understand what happened. Why work on gaining my trust only to end things by not speaking to me? Is silence a hint as I was thinking? Was I too quick to tell him good luck with everything?
All advice welcome.
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I started seeing a new guy very seriously and now he's gone completely silent and won't return my calls or texts.
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I started seeing a new guy very seriously and now he's gone completely silent and won't return my calls or texts.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 F] trying to lend an ear to my friend [17 M] about a failed relationship
POST: I can't really go into too much detail as he asked me to keep all the details on the down low and I would feel guilty going against it, but he's basically been in an on/off relationship with this girl for the last eight-ish months. She was extremely emotionally abusive and manipulative, and he still wants to believe that she is a nice person. He doesn't want to let go. She ended up dumping him for someone else. He's extremely devastated and has basically let his life go and I hate seeing him like this. It's incredibly upsetting to hear about all this stuff she's done to him. I've been in a similar situation before, but I don't know how to handle it. How can I help him? I am listening, but I also don't really know how to respond to a lot of the stuff he's saying (but I want him to know I am still there after he types the long blocks of text.)
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My friend was dumped by someone extremely emotionally abusive/manipulative. He is devastated. How can I help him/offer my support?
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My friend was dumped by someone extremely emotionally abusive/manipulative. He is devastated. How can I help him/offer my support?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25F] with my friend [30F] of about a year, her relationship is unhealthy and I'm not sure what to do.
POST: I [25F] met my friend [30F] last year, and quickly realized that her relationship that I assumed was healthy (we have mutual friends) is really codependent and toxic. She acknowledges that she's a shell of her former self, he verbally abuses her, manipulates her in weird/unhealhthy ways, and has isolated her from all of her friends. A few of our mutual friends think it is abusive.
I was really happy to be friends with her, until her drunken boyfriend lashed out at me for no reason. He randomly started telling me I was a worthless person. I'm sure he was just jealous she had a friend. I managed to be patient with the scenario since I wanted her to have support, but eventually I was too blunt about my disapproval which upset her, and our relationship kind of faded out.
I'm not sure what to do. I valued her as a friend, and at the least would like to be supportive. But I think her boyfriend is an abusive asshole. I don't want to hang out with someone who would personally insult me, and I don't really want to talk about him either. We haven't talked for a few months, I'm not sure how to start things again.
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Friend is in unhealthy relationship. Not sure how to be supportive but also avoid her abusive jerk of a boyfriend, so we haven't talked in months. How can I help her?
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Friend is in unhealthy relationship. Not sure how to be supportive but also avoid her abusive jerk of a boyfriend, so we haven't talked in months. How can I help her?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (17M) just broke-up with my GF(17F) of 6months. Feeling confused and lost.
POST: Met this girl at school 6 months ago. I asked her out after leading a strong friendship with her.
Background info: She regularly went to parties and clubs where she would get drunk. I have never been to a party or gotten drunk. We lead different lifestyles. However, we were really close.
The break-up: About two weeks ago she began acting odd in my company, not going in for hugs and not wanting to go out as much. We haven't had any form of sexual contact (I'm still a virgin) but we were planning on having intercourse in the near future. 2 days ago she texted me out of the blue saying that we had to chat. She says that she doesn't feel like she is ready for a relationship and that she is sorry. I asked why and she went on a rant about how her ex hurt her and she is scared it will happen again. I said that i understood and agreed that we wont be seeing each other anymore.
Why am I writing this?: i don't know what to do. I used to speak to her daily, I'm feeling a little lonely and hurt by it all. She is going out clubbing on Monday night with her friends and i feel that maybe there is a reason underlying the break up other than what was said. I want to move on but there is a little voice saying i gave in too easy and just let her go when I shouldn't have. I don't know what to do.
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broke up with girlfriend of six months. I'm suspicious as to why she broke up with me as I feel her reason is a cover up. Now I feel hurt, lonely and lost. What should i do?
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broke up with girlfriend of six months. I'm suspicious as to why she broke up with me as I feel her reason is a cover up. Now I feel hurt, lonely and lost. What should i do?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend [19F] of 3 months stopped talking to me [20M] as often now that we're long distance.
POST: We've been together for three months but I recently left our city to go back home and study abroad for a total of 2 months. Until almost a week before I left we would talk and text often most days and it wouldn't take long for either of us to reply, but since then I would send her a message and it can take upwards of 6 hours for a reply and she often cancels our Skype "dates."
I understand that she can be a busy person and I don't want to be smothering, but at the same time I feel that our level of communication is not enough for me to be satisfied in a long term relationship. How do I express my concerns without coming off as creepy/possessive?
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My gf and I don't talk as much as I'd like, but I don't know how to talk to her about it
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My gf and I don't talk as much as I'd like, but I don't know how to talk to her about it
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Marchman Act (Florida) Help for Sibling
POST: Hello,
I am seeking help information and understanding of how to use the Marchman Act to involuntarily send a sibling to a substance abuse facility. I just came across the statute through a google search and it seems like the only possible route. My sibling is in Broward County Florida.
Background of situation: Sibling is a severe alcoholic to the point of urinating and deficating self. Sibling has repeatedly fallen and has been emitted to local hospitals 7-8 times in the past 4-6 months. He has gone through DT's and withdrawal symptoms each time. During one of the hospital stays the Baker Act was put on my sibling, but after the 72 hour hold he was released.
My sibling is retired. He was just divorced and lost his house due to debt. He is in denial of the alcoholism and will not voluntarily go to into a substance abuse program. I was able to get my sibling an apartment, but I live out of state. I attempted to get my sibling to move to where I live, but he refused. I am concerned for my sibling's well being and don't believe my sibling is capable of independent living. My sibling has already been emitted to the hospital once since I left a week and a half ago.
Is the Marchman Act a viable option for this situation?
Is there a way to enact the Marchman Act without going to court?
Any help is greatly appreciated.
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Sibling is severe alcoholic. I am concerned for my sibling's well-being. I need help and information on whether the Marchman Act is a viable option to get my sibling substance abuse help.
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Sibling is severe alcoholic. I am concerned for my sibling's well-being. I need help and information on whether the Marchman Act is a viable option to get my sibling substance abuse help.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19M] began to recently speak to my new interest [19F], receiving signals but need help on clarification.
POST: So before I go into details, let me paint the picture. I started the spring semester without any intention of looking for an SO, but the moment this girl walked into my class and sat next to me, I couldn't help but think she was attractive as hell(I'll go ahead and call her E). It was the first day of class, so the professor is explaining the syllabus and other crap, and as the professor continues, out of the corner of my eye I find E just completely looking at me and smile at one of my remarks. I make an effort to turn and talk to her but she quickly avoids eye contact and looks at her phone.
Fast forward to February and I decide to strike a conversation, so I decide to ask her about her running apparel, and we end up talking for bit before she says she has to go for track practice. We shake hands, exchange names and smiles and part ways. Over the next 4 weeks I don't see E because of what I think is a busy track schedule. Then this past week, on Wednesday she actually showed up to class, and I made conversation after class again. We start talking about how her recent out of state competition was, and our majors, and just exchanging laughs as I walked her to her dorm. When we arrived at her dorm, E initiated a hug and thanked me for walking with her to her dorm. As E was walking away, I decided to call out her name, and she turned around with an obvious smirk on her face, and I asked if she wanted to go to concert with me, because I had an extra ticket. E said that she would've liked to go with me, but that she already had plans for that day. We smile and go our separate ways again, only to remember that I forgot to ask for a number. I decided to go for it yesterday, but unsurprisingly, she didn't show up for class.
I feel like I'm getting signals of interest from her, but I can't help but think that she is merely being polite. I also think I have a really small sample size of our one to one conversations, to act accordingly. Anybody got some input for a fellow single college student?
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Single college student who may or may not be getting signals from fellow classmate (who's athletic schedule keeps her busy), but can't seem to think of it as anything more than kindness.
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Single college student who may or may not be getting signals from fellow classmate (who's athletic schedule keeps her busy), but can't seem to think of it as anything more than kindness.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by closing my bedroom door.
POST: I am 22 years old but have old-fashioned parents. My boyfriend was visiting for this past weekend but was not allowed to stay in my room despite me living away for the past five years and my parents being completely aware that I stay in his room at his apartment when I visit. We were actually just laying in bed redditing but my dog was barking ferociously downstairs so I made the executive decision to close the door to my room so we could hear the TV in the background and continue relaxing while on the Internet. My mom comes upstairs and sees my bedroom door closed... immediately assumed we're having sex... immediate bitch session.
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Today, I got bitched at for having sex when I was just innocently redditing in bed with my boyfriend and didn't want to be disturbed by my miniature, annoying dog.
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Today, I got bitched at for having sex when I was just innocently redditing in bed with my boyfriend and didn't want to be disturbed by my miniature, annoying dog.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit: Today I almost walked out on my job due to a mentally sound customer who threw his food on the floor because he didn't like it. Anyone have any good, "Fuck this, I quit" moments?
POST: Granted, I know I didn't quit, but I seriously considered it. This "gentleman" who was with his toddler daughter and girlfriend/wife?, ordered Fish and Chips (asked if the fish had bone in them, what kind of fish it was, if it came with fries--told him no bones, cod, and that yes, our "chips" are fries), but he didn't like his meal after one nibble off one of the edges of the fish. So instead, he wants a quesadilla, but he doesn't want that because it had sour cream and guac on the plate....not even touching the quesadilla. Take it back, bring him a brand new plain one, without any sour cream or guac, bites into it and then throws it onto the floor.
Throughout this whole ordeal, he almost never looked me in the eye, was extremely rude with his responses to such questions of,"What would you like to drink?" and "How are you today?". I ended up having my manager handle the rest of the situation and he finally left. Oh, he also wanted our lemonade, with light ice, but after he found out it was free refills, he asked for a new glass of it, with more ice, and kept sucking them down. I think I counted 6 refills in thirty minutes.
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Customer did not like any of the food brought to him, is extremely rude, and decides to throw his food on the floor to make his point. Almost threw the food back at him.
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Customer did not like any of the food brought to him, is extremely rude, and decides to throw his food on the floor to make his point. Almost threw the food back at him.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend [18/M] and I [17/F] have realised we are both controlling and want to sort it out to save the relationship.
POST: So to begin with, we have been in a relationship for almost a year. Before this, we were close friends through highschool for about four years and have always had a thing for eachother. We began our relationship last year when he left school, and I'm still finishing.
So, at the start of our relationship, we knew and established we are both very jealous people. In previous relationships, we felt really jealous of our respective partners, and often came to comfort of eachother to vent. We are both aware, too, of our past's, which arn't really full of clean track records (we've both been unfaithful to some extent in previous relationships, however, not that serious and we were both like 14).
This isnt to say that this effects us now, we have both moved past that - but, it has left us both quite controlling. And at the start, it worked. If I was uncomfortable with something, he wouldn't do it. If he was uncomfortable with something, I wouldn't do it. But it's gotten to the point now where we feel like we are missing out on things. And we both WANT to change, I cannot stress that enough. This isn't a post asking for reasons to end it, I just really need advice for both of us to sort out our feelings and what steps we can take to learn from this and move on.
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Boyfriend and I have identified we are both controlling; want some strategies we can put in place to control our feelings before they are out of hand.
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Boyfriend and I have identified we are both controlling; want some strategies we can put in place to control our feelings before they are out of hand.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by giving a girl my number.
POST: Today I was on my commute back home when a really attractive girl sat across from me. In my eyes she had exactly what I would hope a potential girlfriend would have.
Glances are mutually exchanged and she even gives me a small smile at one point, I start picturing our lives together just sappy shit... this and that... we are going to live happily ever after etc. I soon come to realize my stop is next and my dreams of my soulmate come crashing down. In a moment of desperation of not only never seeing her again, but not having the courage to do anything about it I decide to take action.
Having less than a minute of time left before the doors open I just say fuck it and (don't know how) manage to pull out a tiny piece of paper out of my bag. Write just my number on it all shaky/scratchy stand up and just throw it at the girl and run out. My quick burst of confidence lasted just enough to take the paper out.
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beautiful girl exchanges looks with me on the train, seconds before my stop manage to write my number, throw it at the girl, and run out like a little bitch.
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beautiful girl exchanges looks with me on the train, seconds before my stop manage to write my number, throw it at the girl, and run out like a little bitch.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How Do You Walk Away From That!?
POST: Me 27M and my ex 25F. Best friends for 9 yrs serious relationship for 7 yrs. Broke up with me because she started liking another guy. After, she regretted sleeping with him. All he wanted was to hit and quit but he sucked in bed.
She literally left the best sex she's ever had. I gave her her first orgasm and after that it was rare for her to not get an orgasm when we had sex. Sometimes she would get two. She left her best friend. We had a connection where we could really just be ourselves and be comfortable, talk about anything. She left her cat. She loves my cat and still misses her a lot. She left a less stressful lifestyle. She became a manager, high stress and lots of hours for lower pay.
I'm not exaggerating any of this. Honestly I'm not looking to get her back but sometimes when I think about it or my friends bring it up it just baffles me how she really left all that.
I'm just bored and curious. She's contacted me a few times before. Do you think she'll try to come back or nah?
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Ex left a loving LTR with her best friend and the best sex she's ever had. Do you think she'll try to come back to that? (Not trying to get back together people...)
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Ex left a loving LTR with her best friend and the best sex she's ever had. Do you think she'll try to come back to that? (Not trying to get back together people...)
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: (m23) got sort-of semi-friendzoned, not sure how to interpret situation.
POST: So I met a very cool girl a couple weeks ago, asked her out, got two dates (Which went fantastic) and then got sort-of friendzoned.
She basically said that she's in an on-again-off-again relationship of 3 years with an ex boyfriend. He treats her like absolute shit, but I guess that's besides the point. She said she's not sure about dating, although she admitted to being attracted to me, and maybe considering dating me in the future.
I told her I couldn't wait around for her and that I also couldn't just be friends. We decided to keep it friendly with the understanding that I'm still attracted to her, we're not going to hang out one-on-one anymore, and I'm going to pursue other women.
So I was quite distraught for a couple days (I had basically become deeply infatuated with her over the course of a week.), then I started calming down, got my groove back and nabbed three dates for this weekend.
So earlier today she texted me and asked what I was doing on the weekend. I told her I had some dates. She immediately seemed to get distant and cold, then admitted "I'm a little jealous." In her words.
I'm really hopeless when it comes to relationships and I'd love some help figuring this out. What is my best move here? I know I have three dates, but to be honest I'm still much more interested in her. She's a much higher caliber woman in every way than the dates I have lined up, and I have endless fun when I'm with her.
What I DO know is that no matter what I'm going to go on my dates this weekend. What I'm not sure is how to deal with this girl. Even now that my infatuation has faded somewhat she remains one of the most beautiful, intelligent and interesting women I've ever met and I would be very glad to at least have the opportunity to date her and see how it works.
I appreciate any comments and help in this matter.
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Asked girl out, got friendzoned, now girl is flirting more and jealous that I have more dates. Wat do?
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Asked girl out, got friendzoned, now girl is flirting more and jealous that I have more dates. Wat do?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by Restarting my Computer
POST: I'm in Afghanistan, and been here for almost three months. I was happily torrenting old shows and old computer games converted to run on my 2010 Macbook Pro, and up until yesterday it was running like a champ.
Now last night, my computer was running a little slow, with the spinning beachball coming up almost every time I moved the mouse, so I say to myself, "meh, I need to go to sleep anyway. Maybe a solid restart will do the computer some good." Fast forward to today, I try booting up my Mac several times to no avail; it freezes at the apple logo and grey screen. So I boot up in safe mode. I get an error on startup and Google it using my phone.
My hard drive failed.
Fanfuckingtastic. I'm in buttfucknowhere with the nearest Apple store being a sweatshop down some random alley in China, and even if I wanted to send my Mac via postage to some Apple repair shop and wait for a month to get it back, I CAN'T SHIP COMPUTERS DUE TO THE BATTERY being a restricted item for international shipments.
Great.
But wait, I'll just reformat or replace my hard drive and reinstall my operating system with my startup disk. NOPE. My copy sf OS 10.7 Lion is back in a storage container in the States, and even if I order one, the data on my hard drive is irreplaceable meaning that I ABSOLUTELY need a new hard drive to avoid reformatting my files into oblivion; all my college files, resumes, projects, fan fiction that I lovingly and thanklessly authored, ALL OF IT COULD BE LOST. Fuck me for being unprepared and not having backups of everything, right?
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Afghanistan doesn't have Apple Stores or Genius Bars for people having hard drive failures with their expensive-ass Macbook Pros. I should have bought a Dell or Asus netbook to bring over here.
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Afghanistan doesn't have Apple Stores or Genius Bars for people having hard drive failures with their expensive-ass Macbook Pros. I should have bought a Dell or Asus netbook to bring over here.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What's the strangest question you've been asked that you answered honestly?
POST: My strangest question actually wasn't that strange, yet somehow the circumstances made it weird.
I was babysitting a four year old boy who asked me what happened when you die. At this moment I was very surprised because I didn't expect a four year old asking this question. I decided to answer him as honestly and openly as I could, of course in terms that he was able to understand. We sat there talking half an hour about this, I told him that no one actually knows what happens, that some people believe in a form of afterlife while other people don't, that he doesn't need to be afraid because it happens to everyone eventually and that it's an inevitable consequence of living.
I was very surprised how he reacted to this, he seemed happy and he slept well. Somehow it still is strange that he asked, though... But I was glad to answer him as honestly as I could.
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A four year old boy asked me about death and I answered honestly. When did you receive strange questions (maybe even normal questions in strange situations) that you answered faithfully to?
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A four year old boy asked me about death and I answered honestly. When did you receive strange questions (maybe even normal questions in strange situations) that you answered faithfully to?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [18 M] Ex [18 F] of 3 months says she misses me but doesn't love me. Can I start feelings again?
POST: My ex broke up with me because she lost feelings. She tells me that it was a good relationship and she wishes she didn't lose feelings but she had to do what was right and not stick around just for my sake, which I understand and am thankful she didn't.
My Ex and I still talk almost every day, and recently I sent her a snaphat of one of 'our songs' with a funny caption. She texted me almost immediately saying that she is upset and misses me heaps, but she still has no feelings so we won't be able to date again.
My question is, how to I start those feelings up again? I miss her too and wish we didn't break up so I want to try and get her to catch feelings again but I don't know how to go about it especially when it seems like she is rejecting the idea of trying?
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Ex says she misses me, says she wants to get back but doesn't act that way. How can I reignite feelings?
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Ex says she misses me, says she wants to get back but doesn't act that way. How can I reignite feelings?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: New makeover, new perspective, need help getting started (20M)
POST: Story is I'm a 20M, never had a girlfriend. I used to not care much about myself, but that changed very recently. I just turned 20, so for a late birthday / new year's celebration, my best friend took me out to get a makeover (new clothes, nice shoes, new glasses, nice haircut, dyed the hair). For the first time in my life, I finally realized "Wow, I'm a good looking guy!" Quite eye-opening for me.
I now feel motivated to become more social and start dating. I think my issue now is that most people assume a good-looking well-dressed person is very popular and social and has lots of friends, but I'm still the same, socially awkward guy, the exact opposite. I'm worried about being "that guy" who drops significantly on the attractiveness scale the second they open their mouth.
Also the fact that I am 20 and have no dating experience seems problematic to me. I'd assume it would be a red flag to most people, as they would expect someone my age to already know and experience certain things within relationships. I assume they think there is something wrong with me. I'm also not old enough to go to bars or clubs yet, which seem like good places to socialize. Anyway, this is all so new to me but it seems like there's so much to see, learn and do in the dating world. I don't know where to start.
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20M Recently got a makeover, got new perspective, motivated to date. I have no dating experience at all and don't know where to start.
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20M Recently got a makeover, got new perspective, motivated to date. I have no dating experience at all and don't know where to start.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [16 F] with my ex-BF [16 M] of close to 1 year, First love/First heartbreak
POST: First of all, I apologize for any/all spelling and grammar mistakes and sloppy writing. This whole situation has made me a crying, emotional wreck and my writing has suffered sufficiently.
I'm sixteen and dealing with my first heartbreak. Now, I am a very logical and analytical person. I know my fears and worries are stupid. However, I just can't shake the feeling that I'm never going to find someone like him. I feel like I don't deserve to be treated like he treated me. He was the first guy to treat me well, and the only guy to ever make me feel loved.
Well, we met on reddit. We facebooked, PM'd skyped, texted, everything. We talked almost all day everyday. I loved him and he loved me. He was the only person I trusted enough to tell everything to (self-esteem/body image/ depression issues), he was the only one to make me feel happy. He would always tell me that I was it for him. That he wanted to marry me and I was his soul-mate.
Well, we broke up. He told me he would fight for me and that he'd make me trust him again, but he never did. Instead he "fell for" my now ex-best friend. Less than a week after we broke up. He's already moved on and I'm miserable wishing that we could be back together. Now I feel worthless and like I meant nothing to him. That our year meant nothing to him.
It's like being treated like crap for all your life, then suddenly finding that one person who treats you like a queen or goddess. Then, having that person stomp on you then wiping you off of their shoes like the piece of crap you truly are.
How do I move on from this?
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Ex-BF (first love) told me I was his soulmate. Now he wants my friend. I feel completely worthless and I have no idea how to move on.
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Ex-BF (first love) told me I was his soulmate. Now he wants my friend. I feel completely worthless and I have no idea how to move on.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: Young adults/reddit parents: how have you found ways of asking a parent to loan you money and figure out a way of paying it back? Diplomatically.
POST: I know this question has a lot to do with the kind of relationship one has with each parent and at what stage in life you are personally and professionally.
I'm 27, moved two states away for grad school, and i'm living strictly off loans. It's my first semester and I'm taking 12 hours. I'm an ex-teacher, so I have some professional background. No savings. I've travelled quite a bit though. Shooting for an assistantship/internship in the Spring. I've never been this low on funds. It's also scary realizing how much deeper I am putting myself into the dark debt hole of student loans.
I'm pretty much living on a credit card for the next two months and I am too ashamed to ask my parents for any money. I can nanny here or there, but it takes time and effort (yes, like everything) to find families needing a babysitter in a giant college town. I will get organized enough to pay my father back, of course. He's already loaned me close to $1,000 in the past four or five months and I feel a little disgusting since he has a hard time making any income himself. Mother is another story--she's got a really tight grasp on her pocket and is a little aggressive when it comes to financial advice. So I never approach her.
My dad is the kindest man I know and has the cleanest reputation among his contacts, which is why people trust him and partner with him so much. His kindness does get the best of him however, sometimes to his detriment. In other words, people have walked all over him in the past. Mom, on the other hand, is constantly reminding me about payments, asking me about my loan, really approaching things in a way that push me far from wanting to face finances. Fabulous parenting. It's always been this way, with anything growing up. Dad never seemed to say no, he always gave me options/choices. Mom was a straightforward, dry, clear, British NO. She has always said I don't have my feet firmly grounded. I'm getting off on a tangent now so I'll stop.
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I have great respect for each of my parents and they are both very different in their approach to finances. I want some first-hand experience advice.
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I have great respect for each of my parents and they are both very different in their approach to finances. I want some first-hand experience advice.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 F] with my boyfriend [27 M] of two months, how do I slow down?
POST: I recently started seeing someone exclusively, and it seems we are having a lot of communication issues and I'm not sure how to approach them.
I have been in romantic relationships pretty consistently since the age of 15. They are not always serious, but the casual ones are always casual because I am usually seeing a few people at once. When I get into exclusive relationships, they seem to progress very quickly. If I've made up my mind that someone is worth investing in, I go all-in (to an extent, I mean - I've never planned to marry anyone or anything like that - but I do take monogamous relationships seriously once I decide to be in them).
The person I am dating now was last in a relationship two years ago with someone he dated for 6 years. He is really sweet and fun and we get along great. The trouble is, he's sort of taciturn and seems disconnected. I've asked him about it in the past and he was pretty passive in his response but still insisted that he wants to be dating me. I just feel like right now, we should be very excited about each other and everything should be romantic and nice. Instead, I feel sort of unwanted and bummed out. He went out of town for 5 days and didn't call me once. I got a few texts, but he didn't seem excited to come back at all. I don't know how to express my expectations and the like without seeming like I am expecting too much from him or something. We are supposed to go on holiday together in two days and I am feeling very apprehensive. I really want to go on the trip we've planned, but don't want to spend the whole time feeling insecure and bad. Best course of action?
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Boyfriend of two months couldn't seem more disinterested in our relationship, not sure how to bring it up. Going on holiday together in two days. When/how should I handle our communication issues?
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Boyfriend of two months couldn't seem more disinterested in our relationship, not sure how to bring it up. Going on holiday together in two days. When/how should I handle our communication issues?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by pretending to be Australian
POST: This fuck up happened last weekend.
I have been doing accents since I was 10(24 now)and become extremely good at Australian. Good enough to trick Brits and even a few Aussie's. I'm hangin out with a few mates pre-gaming and I decide I'm going to be Australian at the club tonight. They agree to go along with it and we come up with a back story of how we all met.
Were at the club and everything is going great nobody suspects a thing. People are cracking jokes and trying to get me to use my best American accent. I play along and they think it's hilarious. I go up to grab another drink and this girl says to me, "Hey my friend thinks you're cute, and keeps talking about you. Go so hi to her." I look over at her friend and she is stunning. At this point I'm thinking she's probably just interested in meeting an Australian guy. So I approach her still in character and she had no idea that I was "Australian." We immediately hit it off and by the end of the night she was looking at nothing but my eyes.
I ended up going home with her and had lots of amazing sex, that night and in the morning. After, she drives me home and we talk. I'm still using my fake accent because I don't know what else to do. Let me tell you, it was a long ass ride. I for sure thought I'd be discovered. She tells me how she's never done anything like this before and she just started trusting men again after a horrible experience. She didn't say what, but she didn't have to. we talked about other things and it hit me, I actually like this girl. And i know she really like me.
She drops me off at "my mates place" and kisses me goodbye. We've been talking ever day since and I don't know how to tell her the truth. I feel bad deceiving her, but I'd I tell her I don't think she'd see me again.
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pretended to be Australian, hot girl took me home, end up liking hot girl, feel like a dick. Haven't told her the truth.
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pretended to be Australian, hot girl took me home, end up liking hot girl, feel like a dick. Haven't told her the truth.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I [21f] talk to my boyfriend [24m] about the extreme emotional/physical abuse I suffered as a child?
POST: Basically some really awful stuff went down in my childhood and while it doesn't really affect me outwardly, it is sort of important to know and some things do kind of set me off. He has a vague idea, at least I think so becasue I've mentioned it in passing but I don't think he really understands because lately he's sort of been berating me for things that I'm afraid of that kind of stem from those issues or whatever but I don't think he really understands that.
How do I explain everything to him without making it sound like I'm looking for a pity party or without completely turning him off to me for being an emotionally high-maintenence mess with slight PTSD?
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How do I talk about my issues without sounding like a nutcase and making my boyfriend afraid he's sticking his dick in crazy?
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How do I talk about my issues without sounding like a nutcase and making my boyfriend afraid he's sticking his dick in crazy?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by forgetting that yesterday was the 6th of the month
POST: My girlfriend who I have been dating for 2 months had lost her father 5 months ago and overall very shortly before I had met her online. All in all she has not taking been taking it well as one can imagine and it's been a struggle on all fronts. The tragedy took place on the 6th of the month, 3 months prior to meeting her so it really was so fresh. IN addition to having a lot of trouble with it all and every 6th of the month is extremely difficult on her.
Yesterday was the 6th and after a super long and busy day I got caught up in my own plans and life. We didn't talk much that day and I had obviously forgotten the date so at the end of the day I received a nasty drunk text message from my girlfriend telling me how badly I fucked up. Sadly when she drinks she gets emotionally abusive and despite me apologizing the conversation got super heated and after a bunch of "fuck yous" thrown my way it was clear things were not going well.
We've had a rocky two months and this isn't the first time her alcohol tendencies tend to be taken out on me. I definitely fucked up but what happened last night was totally uncalled for and now...both of us don't know where this is all leading.
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Forgot to be there for my girl on the monthly anniversary of her father's death, huge drunk fight may be the last straw in our relationship.
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Forgot to be there for my girl on the monthly anniversary of her father's death, huge drunk fight may be the last straw in our relationship.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (22m) need some advice about my current gf (20f) of 7 months :(
POST: I'm at the end of my rope here and I could really use some advice on what to do. My girlfriend of 7 months is making me extremely unhappy and all talks to her about it pretty much end up with her telling me too, "Stop being so emotional". It really hurts when she says stuff like that. Now I'm not a pussy, in fact I hardly ever share my emotions but it was her idea to start with that I "express myself". So it's like what the fuck, you wanted me to be more open and now you don't wanna hear about it? But there's more. She won't touch me, kiss me and barely ever hugs me unless I instigate it and all attempts of me doing any of the latter end up with her shirking away or telling me to quit it. Sex is non-existant now while it used to be uncontrollable in the beginning. Every time I try to start something she says it's creepy, I'm being gross, or she's not in the mood. It fucking hurts to hear your significant other tell you your fucking disgusting to her. I really don't know what happened. When the relationship first started she was all over me and now it seems like she gives two shits. What am I supposed to do? I thought about ending it but we JUST signed a lease for a new apartment so I can't just up and leave for awhile.
Not only that but money is HUGE to her. I recently moved in with her after transferring from my store back home to this location so I'm fiscally wiped out. And yes I did warn her about me not having a lot of money. She told me not to worry about it :(. Yet she rubs it in my face ALL THE TIME that she pays the majority of rent and bills. She also uses it as an argument ender, which is why it's so hard for me to even talk to her about this stuff. Hell she treats the Goddamn dog better than me, even if he is super adorable.
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Girlfriend is a being a money grubbing bitch and all talks with her end up with me being called a pussy. Please help.
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Girlfriend is a being a money grubbing bitch and all talks with her end up with me being called a pussy. Please help.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Stay put, or explore?
POST: So, Reddit, I have a query for you. I am twenty years old, I have worked for the same company building high voltage electrical components for two years, I have good job security here, my employer, and the owner of the company like me personally, and are satisfied with my work. It's somewhat of a dead-end however. The best paid technicians, which is what I am, only make $35-40k a year. I could stay there and be financially secure, and make enough to get by, and facilitate some lesser hobbies of mine, but I don't think i'd ever truly be happy working there, as my co-workers make it somewhat high-stress.
I've lived in mid michigan my entire life, A close friend of mine has been on a few different internships to Aspen Colorado over the past few years, and she asked if i'd like to move out there with her. She says i'd love it, and quite frankly, I think that I would. I would love a fresh start in a new place, with new people, I'm a generally well liked enough person, and would have little to no problem making friends anywhere new. Should I seek employment there, and move on out to colorado on a whim, or should I stay here and continue to work for the same company, and not experience any other areas?
I would like advice on this from anyone who's ever made a big move, to a new place, with little or nothing to go on. I have about six thousand dollars in cash saved up, that I could use for the initial move and expenses, but is it worth it? Should I pick up and move half way across the country simply on a hunch? I know i'll never be truly happy at my current job, but for all I know this whole thing could go crashing down in flames, and I would be broke, jobless, and a hell of a long ways from home, and the little close family that I have. This plan has just started forming today, I apologize for the lengthy post.
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Should I stay at the same relatively dead-end job, or move across the country on a whim, to experience other things while i'm young?
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Should I stay at the same relatively dead-end job, or move across the country on a whim, to experience other things while i'm young?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by going to hard in a moshpit.
POST: So it's Rockville weekend here in JacksonVille, Florida and me and some friends(more accurately my brothers friends) travelled all the way from Pennsylvania to see our favorite bands. Took lots of pictures, wonderful weather, sights, and having a blast. So now here's where my fuck up begins. It was 90° Fahrenheit today. We were at hatebreed's set getting the hell down to it. Now I'm a 6"1in 160lb male. 20yrs old. I consider myself what some know as skinny fat. And ya see I'm one of those guys who displaces fat in not so masculine areas...aka my lower body/man booty. So after we do our best to tear it up in a hatebreed moshpit, we sit down to rest and to my shame and horror I have a huge sweat puddle on the ass of my shorts. I panick and realize I NEED to fix this so I tell my big bro I don't feel good and am going to the porta potty. I half run there praying no-one looks at my sweaty, fat rear. Cue me in the hot stall desperately trying to soak the sweat in cardboard toilet paper for like 15 minutes, my confidence all the while quickly sinking. I've given up and realize I should just take my retarded, fat, sweaty ass back to the hotel where my "friends" will probably have more fun without me. It was a mistake me even coming.
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It was unsurprisingly hot in Florida and my skinny fat man ass got soaked in sweat during a hatebreed concert So I left and now I want to die.
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It was unsurprisingly hot in Florida and my skinny fat man ass got soaked in sweat during a hatebreed concert So I left and now I want to die.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm a 24 year old male and can't keep an erection during sex, even with medicine. Help!
POST: I have been going out with this girl for the last few months and asked her to spend the night a few nights ago. I have had issues in the past with maintaining an erection so I asked the doctor for some medicine to be prepared. I took 15 mg of Cialis before she came over. When we went to bed things started getting hot and heavy. She was rubbing her ass on me and I told her I was getting pretty hard. We made out for a while, and I was completely into the moment and thought I was enjoying it. I wasn't concerned about maintaining an erection because I thought the Cialis would take care of it. She then she asked if I had a condom. It was about this time I noticed that my erection was gone. She stimulated me directly, but I wasn't able to get a full erection again. Sex was not had, and needless to say the night ended badly. She left pretty quickly in the morning.
I think I have confidence issues/performance anxiety. When I'm masturbating, I have no problem getting hard or orgasming. However, this was an issue in the past with my previous girlfriend as well. I would get hard, start having sex, and then basically fake it. I thought the issue was that I wasn't that attracted to my previous girlfriend, but this new girl is drop-dead sexy so I don't think that's it. I really don't understand what's going on with me, and how I can move past it.
The new girl blamed herself. She said she thought she just doesn't turn me on. I assured her that it wasn't her and made up an excuse saying that I thought that I had taken too much of the medicine the night before and that it had made me feel sick. I don't know if she bought it. I really like this girl, we get along amazingly, and I don't want my sexual issues to end this relationship, but I just don't know how to move forward with this. Is there any advice anyone has that might be able to help me, both with the sexual issue and how to handle this relationship in particular? I don't think I'll ever be able to have a relationship without resolving this.
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Having a hard time maintaining an erection probably because of confidence/performance anxiety, and I think it's going to kill my new relationship.
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Having a hard time maintaining an erection probably because of confidence/performance anxiety, and I think it's going to kill my new relationship.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My ex and I just broke up 2 weeks ago and shes in another relationship.
POST: m/23, f/22
It's whatever. But she still has all of our pictures up on facebook while she's posting status's with him. Saying she loves him and stuff, while all of our pics are up. The same friends that like her new status's are the ones that used to like our pictures. The whole thing is pretty disgusting.
I don't want to give her the satisfaction of me being angry. Does she look like more of a low life with my pictures still up? Or should I tell her to take them off out of courtesy.
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Ex gf of two weeks is all over facebooks saying she loves this guy. But my pictures are still on her page.
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Ex gf of two weeks is all over facebooks saying she loves this guy. But my pictures are still on her page.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28F] with my ex [27F] of 5 years, wants to know about my status but won't ask.
POST: We broke up in June over text then made it official in Sept of this year. We broke up because of long distance after college opportunities separated us.
Now that we are in a transitional phase of our lives we still text (only) about what we are doing and what is next in our lives. Well I have gone out of state to be with family and friends considering it is the holiday season.
When I tell her I am hanging out with a friend she always jump the gun and thinks I am seeing someone special. In her round about way she has told me that if I am seeing someone that she won't text me anymore.
Also, for some odd reason she chooses not to communicate via phone, Skype, or in person. We have met twice in person and both visits ended well with a warm hug and great conversations. I'm not sure what is going on considering we still share two dogs, share a few accounts, and we both have not deleted the thousands of pictures we have.
I want to be with her but I feel like we are too far apart and I guess I don't know what to think because I don't talk to anyone about it. Please be kind with your words/comments.
Thank you.
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I want to be with her but I feel like we are too far apart and I guess I don't know what to think because I don't talk to anyone about it. Does she want to stop texting or is this finally it?
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I want to be with her but I feel like we are too far apart and I guess I don't know what to think because I don't talk to anyone about it. Does she want to stop texting or is this finally it?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (30f) don't know where to go for support
POST: I'm a 30 year old female. Cut my parents out of my life and have a strained relationship with my brother and sister.
I still talk to some of my aunts and uncles (mom's sisters and brothers). They don't push me to restore contact with my mom, they completely understand why I have to do what I have to do.
One of my family members had a baby die in utero 2 weeks before she was to be born. My immediate family has experience with this situation and i'd like to be there for my aunts and cousins at the funeral.
I know my mom will be in attendance. I know I cannot face her alone, if she's cold, if she wants to talk, I'm not interested in any of it.
My live in bf (also 30) and i have been together for 10 months. He just started a new job that is admittedly cool, but he is absolutely obsessed with it. All conversations, all errands we run, are related to his job. Anything not related to the job he doesn't have bandwidth for. I've tried asking for support. Asking for hugs. Asking him to come to the funeral, and he says I need to deal with my family on my own. He doesn't have time to take off work (the funeral is Tuesday).
I don't know where I can go for support or who to talk to. I have a few casual friends but no one who would let me vent like I feel I need. No one to come with me. Do i look internally for the support?
Any advice would be great. Thanks reddit. (yep, it's a throwaway, no gw posts).
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strained family, death in the family, can't go to the funeral alone. need advice on how to become a support for myself, because i can't trust anyone else in my life to help.
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strained family, death in the family, can't go to the funeral alone. need advice on how to become a support for myself, because i can't trust anyone else in my life to help.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18M] with my girlfriend [19F] of 3 month. I asked her about her past hook ups/relationships. Don't know how to feel.
POST: Im currently long distancing with my girlfriend for only around 3 months. I asked her about her past hooks up/relationships cause I wouldn't want to hear it from someone else. What she told me was quite distressing. When she was with her last boyfriend, whenever they would fight they would break up and eventually get back together in a few weeks or months.
But during that temporary break up she would hook up with people that she knows, friends friend, brothers boss, etc. Her reasoning was that her "ex" or I guess temporary ex was trying to hook up with girls too. She told me she didn't even like any of the guys she hooked up with. She said she felt she was "getting even" or it was to make her self feel better.
It doesn't seem like a big deal but now I feel like every time we fight or if something happens between us she would just hook up with a random guy. She keeps telling me how she really loves me and would never do that to me. She also said that she promised herself that after she officially broke up with her ex boyfriend that her next relationship will be different and that she wont hook up with guys.
Every time I think about it my gut wrenches and it feels like my organs just dropped. Was it wrong for me to ask her this? I feel like id rather know the truth than living a lie. I almost feel disgusted thinking she hooked up with her brothers boss, or some 25 year old college student.
I really care for this relationship and I keep trying to think about something else but it seriously bothers me. I usually never get bothered by a lot of things for some reason this seriously gets to me.
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Girlfriend used to hook up with random guys when she fought/temp brake up with her past boyfriend. Worried, feeling disgusted, and don't know what to feel/do.
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Girlfriend used to hook up with random guys when she fought/temp brake up with her past boyfriend. Worried, feeling disgusted, and don't know what to feel/do.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [25M] My girlfriend [25F] is still friends and keeps in contact with past crushes and former FWB's. I do not suspect any foul play, but I still feel weird.
POST: We've been together for 8 months, she has been with 11 guys sexually before me, and me 10, and she'll still keep in contact with former FWB's or crushes. She's very low maintenance, and sometimes I'll actually meet some of these guys. I can put on a good face and be cordial, but afterwards, I feel all weird. Like insecure as if she would run away from me for these guys. I feel I am in the right for feeling this way, but I do not want to be needy with her and tell her she has to stop talking to these guys once in a while. Is she just looking for attention? She'll talk to at least one of them a few times a month, but mostly not more than that.
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25M] My girlfriend [25F] is still friends and keeps in contact with past crushes and former FWB's. I do not suspect any foul play, but I still feel weird.
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25M] My girlfriend [25F] is still friends and keeps in contact with past crushes and former FWB's. I do not suspect any foul play, but I still feel weird.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [29M] girlfriend [29F] is emotionless
POST: We've been dating for about 2 months and I'm beginning to notice something troubling about her. She's a self-proclaimed "robot". She doesn't cry. She's got a 'tough-guy-exterior'.
She's only had two previous long term relationships since she was a teenager. Both of her exes treating her poorly. I think that she's been emotionally scarred, and the way she deals with it is by putting up walls. She won't let herself be vulnerable.
When I told her I had a dream about my dad dying, her response was "are you disturbed? Why are you dreaming about death, you sicko?"
It worries me that she's unable to let herself feel.
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My girlfriend has been scarred by previous relationships and put up walls. I love her and want to help her break those walls down. What should I do?
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My girlfriend has been scarred by previous relationships and put up walls. I love her and want to help her break those walls down. What should I do?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, have you ever tried to do something nice for someone and have it completely blow up in your face? Tell me about it.
POST: I work as a medical assistant in an eye clinic, and I have a pretty good reputation at being good at what I do. A little proof: I am the "nurse" cited in this story [notalwaysright.com](
Well, I had a patient recently that was left unattended in our contact lens area. Usually, this never happens, but another assistant dropped her off in there and had to go tend to a phone call.
In the 15 seconds she was left alone, she managed to pick up the ONLY bottle in the entire room that could injure her; a hydrogen peroxide based contact cleaning solution called Clear Care. It's safe for contacts, but bad news for your eyeballs.
She picks up this bottle and ejects this solution straight into her eye (Note: The bottle has a red label that tells you not to put it into your eye, along with a red top that typically indicates BAD NEWS). I'm on lunch at this point, reading a Magic:The Gathering novel and indulging in a leftover Halloween sucker. 2 assistants come running from the front of the office and tell me the story.
I abandon my book and run up front, sit the lady down and start flushing her eye as much as I can. Finally I'm able to get it washed out enough to check for corneal damage and it seems she's a'ok. I lean back to tell her this and notice her glaring at me.
"Is everything alright?" I asked, noting that "is everything alright" was probably a stupid question 25 seconds after a severe burning sensation to the eyeball.
The lady picks up her purse, stands and pushes past me, eyeballing my forgotten Halloween sucker. I had forgotten I was eating it and did the entire procedure with it in my mouth. "That's really gross, and totally unprofessional." She snaps before walking out to the reception area and filing a complaint with my doctor ABOUT ME.
I was absolutely dumbfounded, I couldn't believe this had really happened.
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Lady burns her eye with hydrogen peroxide and calls me unprofessional for eating a sucker while I cleaned her eye out.
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Lady burns her eye with hydrogen peroxide and calls me unprofessional for eating a sucker while I cleaned her eye out.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By moving in with the leader of a cult.
POST: So the realization of the fuck up is today, while it actually happened a week and a half ago.
As I was reading through the roommate lease to make the check out to, I thought the named looked a little different than what the ad said her name was. "Well, maybe I'm just tired from work and such." So I grab the lease to make sure and look at the original ad and sure enough, the names are different. This is where I start realizing the fuck up:
I type the name on the lease into Google and it explodes with all this information (including her personal site) about this type of cult, how she communicates while the "lizzards" and "aliens" on the other planets. It goes way, way deeper than I can even explain here. What really got me, was she isn't just a local hit..she's international. I was even listening to this podcast where they were talking about how we have robots living among us pretending to be human beings and such. Really fucking weird.
So now I'm kind of nervous being around the house and what not. I've noticed it seems like she goes through my room as I've noticed curtains open when I know for sure I closed them. I asked about that and it was "to let the air flow free in the house." Okay I said...I'm a guy...I workout...probably a hint I stink. Well, I think it's some supernatual stuff instead as other things have been out of place.
I've really no idea what to do at this point, but hoping since it's just a 3 month lease I can survive and move on. The biggest problem is that on her website, she has her HOME address (also her office) so anyone can mail in payments. Well, what if someone wants to bash in a window? Again, I'm a little freaked out.
I probably didn't include everything in here, so feel free to ask if you've any questions.
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Signed a lease and Googled the name of my roommate, found out she's a huge cult leader. A little freaked out.
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Signed a lease and Googled the name of my roommate, found out she's a huge cult leader. A little freaked out.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [16F] with my Mom: 32F. She decided she doesn't want to be a mom anymore. Sending me to live with my aunt.
POST: My mom told me that she wishes she never had kids. I am 16. She has pretty much decided she cannot stand to be a mom anymore and has asked my aunt to let me attend high school where she lives. My aunt cannot have kids, so she was willing to take me.
This means I have to move 200 miles away, to a good school but not the one I grew up with. I am a junior in high school this year and it will mean I have to do all my work over again (making friends with people, getting to know teachers). Not only that, I have been in Drama for the past two years and I was supposed to be a Drama Director this year.
My mom is ruining my life with this. I feel like I will not be able to do all the things I worked for and thus put on my college report. I will be the nobody, like they will let me be class treasurer if they don't know me. I have a job here, with good hours and an understanding boss.
I am not sure what to do. I have tried talking to my mom, but my dad divorced her and I have not spoken or seen him in 9 years, so she says I need to let her live her life. She signed up to go back to school, quit her job and is on student loans. She sold the car I was supposed to use to get to work and has been giving me boxes. I am supposed to move in a week, right before school starts at my aunts.
I need help.
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My mom decided to send me to live with my childless aunt. It is going to ruin my chances for college.
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My mom decided to send me to live with my childless aunt. It is going to ruin my chances for college.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Dating my sister's doppelganger, Is this weird? [late twenties]
POST: The first thing a family member said to me when they first met her was, "She looks like exactly like trill_away's sister!"
Now, we started dating via OKCupid. Both upper twenties and looking to settle down and start a family (not ASAP, but eventually.) She messaged me first, so it's not like I saw her across a room and thought, "this girl looks like my sister. Let me go pick her up." Far from it. We do, however, get along *really* well
We've been dating for two weeks, roughly. After the first date, I was a little weirded out about the whole situation, but after the second date, I could see enough differences between them that I got comfortable with the idea of dating her. I do get these weir moments though when we're talking where their mannerisms are exactly the same.
We get along great. My family, however, after first meeting her, is concerned about the psychological effects of dating someone that looks exactly like my sister.
I'm also afraid that if they ever get in the same room together, my sister and girlfriend looking at each other face-to-face might create some sort of deep universal chasm that will destroy the earth.
What do I do Reddit? Has anyone been in a similar situation? What happened?
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My sister's doppelganger might be "the one," but I'm afraid her doppelgangerness will poison our relationship.
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My sister's doppelganger might be "the one," but I'm afraid her doppelgangerness will poison our relationship.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Not sure what to do..
POST: *I apologize for the shitty, nondescript title*
Girlfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months now, both early 20s.
She was in a LDR with a guy for 2 years, and cheated on him a few times with these two different guys. She dated both of them separately for a bit, broke up, but still hung out with them afterwards.
She maintains an awkward relationship with them, and they clearly want to hang out with her still (and are most definitely still into her). She wants to hang out with them too. I do not get along with these two guys, they are shady as all hell.
We have a good relationship now, but lately these guys have been popping up a lot more often and it has been causing me problems big time.
Is this normal? Am I being overly jealous, or is hanging out with guys you've cheated on your ex boyfriend with okay? I also will be away from her for a few months pretty soon, and I'm worried something might happen while I'm gone.
I'm at a loss, I don't want to lose her but I really can't handle the stress this is bringing me.
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Girlfriend wants to hang out with ex boyfriends that she has shady past with. Don't want to limit who she hangs out with, but it's driving me crazy.
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Girlfriend wants to hang out with ex boyfriends that she has shady past with. Don't want to limit who she hangs out with, but it's driving me crazy.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (41F) don't have the energy to break up with my boyfriend (40m).
POST: He is currently at RIDOC (please don't judge) but I did not meet him there. There was so much familiarity in all of this and comfort. His mom died not too long ago so he really has nowhere to live when he gets out. Most of all our dating and romance has in fact been done throughout his prison sentence(s) (he got out and then quickly went back in bc his mom died and he was drinking a lot etc).
In some ways my life has gotten better. I went back to work. I'm so afraid of so many things though. I don't really have the energy for a live in boyfriend especially knowing or always thinking he is there bc he has nowhere else. He has assured me he is not many times but I'm not comfortable with all this pressure. I keep thinking maybe he can do better and I don't want to wait until that happens. I'm tired of feeling lousy about myself. He has some narcissistic tendencies. Even his mom said sometimes he can be so sweet and other times he can be the devil. So it's a lot to deal with.
I couldn't really function that well at work on Saturday. I was so stressed out about going through this break up that I keep prolonging it. I don't know how to get out. I've broken up with him before only to miss him terribly and then chase him again. In fact I can take accountability that I chased him from the beginning. I'm very attracted to him and he is a mechanic too. That's how we met I put an ad on craigslist bc my heater core in my cadillac was broken.
What should I do? Is there any way to ease into it so that it's not so overwhelming? Should I give it a chance? I know no one can really tell me what to do but I can't keep posting on PTO either and I could use some advice.
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Boyfriend has no where to live and I'm so use to living alone and it's hard enough for me to take care of myself, my apartment, my pets, and work.
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Boyfriend has no where to live and I'm so use to living alone and it's hard enough for me to take care of myself, my apartment, my pets, and work.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: REDDIT! please help me! Local gun store sold me a stolen gun. wtf now?
POST: I bought a glock as my first gun in july 2011 from a shop in LAS VEGAS, nevada. a month later i realized im not responsible enough to have a gun around the house. I sell it to a friend under the condition that he pay me at the end of the summer. He stops talking to me for 3 weeks and i finally get a hold of him. From what he tells me he was pulled over by highway patrol, they ran the serial number from the glock, it came up stolen. He was in jail for 3 days. filled out a bunch of paper work about how he got the gun. There is now a local and ATF investigation.
I dont know what the fuck to do. The gun store screwed us over. He talked to someone at the police station and they mentioned that theres nothing the local gun store is liable for. I think thats totally bs, considering they sold hot merchandise.
someone help me.
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fuck face local gun store sold a hot gun. Friend was detained for 3 days. Cops say there's nothing we can do. out of $700 bucks from gun
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fuck face local gun store sold a hot gun. Friend was detained for 3 days. Cops say there's nothing we can do. out of $700 bucks from gun
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: 19 year old college student need help approaching parents
POST: Hello all,
My problem lies in what I want to do with my future and essentially letting my parents know what I want and need to do. I'm currently a college student going through the Air Force ROTC program. However, I don't believe the military life is the life I want to live anymore.
For those who aren't very familiar with ROTC, it's a college program that introduces and trains students to the military to become officers right out of college. The first year is an introduction to the military lifestyle and the second is the training year for Field Training (more or less basic training for officers). The second year is the most intense and miserable time.
I am entering my second year. While I have no doubt that I can get through the training and become an officer, I can't stop this gut feeling that reminds me over and over again that this just isn't the place for me. Over the past year, I can say I've enjoyed parts, but the only motivation I had were my classmates and encouragement from a long time friend. It almost felt as though I was going through a honeymoon period where I'd be motivated to go, but it soon turned into a chore and I was no longer interested or invested.
The problem I encounter isn't leaving, but telling my parents. They continually tell anyone they meet about me joining the military one day. They are very proud of the fact that I joined this program, and I can't help but feel that I will break their hearts if I said this isn't the future I want anymore. I just don't know how to approach them.
As of late, I've been getting the idea to tell them I've been medically disqualified. While it would disappoint them, I believe that it will not break them. However, I can't stand lying to them.
I need advice on this situation.
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I want to quit ROTC, but parents are too invested. I don't want to break their hearts. Should I lie or try to approach them? How do I approach them?
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I want to quit ROTC, but parents are too invested. I don't want to break their hearts. Should I lie or try to approach them? How do I approach them?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Am I being a bad person?
POST: Trying to keep this short, also apologies for spelling as this is all off my poor Nokia phone!
Basically, I (18) met a girl on okcupid (22) . I have been on 4 dates with this girl and we got on great from the start and by the second date were acting as if we were a couple almost, the hand holding, kissing, cuddling etc. The problem is I have recently realised as much as i do like this girl the chemistry isn't there for me. Im not how i have been in previous relationships where at the beginning i cant stop thinking about them, or i skip a beat when her name appears on my phone ect.
Now, i can tell this girl likes me alot and she has said so herself, and i worry that by continuing to see her (even though i do enjoy it and want to continue) , i may be misleading or leading her on as she may continue to like me more whereas i dont see my feelings increasing for her and i feel maybe i am simply continuing to see her as i don't have a lot of friends due to moving house alot, and i like having somebody to spend my weekends with.
So is it wrong or if were both having fun should i let it continue?
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i enjoy seeing this girl, but can't see myself in a serious relationship with her, do i continue seeing her?
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i enjoy seeing this girl, but can't see myself in a serious relationship with her, do i continue seeing her?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: GF [25] broke up with me [M/28] one week after telling me I'm the one.
POST: We met a month ago. Everything went awesome. We were "official" two weeks later. Everything began fast and furiously. She told me she loved me and said she was SURE, more sure than anything else in her life that I was "the one". She trusted me enough to meet and hang out w/ her son. She met my daughter. Everything was great, even the sex.
So, last Tuesday, I stayed at her house and everything was fine until we got in bed. She went cold. Didn't touch me at all, no sex. Wednesday night, same thing, even sleeping fully clothed this time. Saturday night, same thing once again. I texted her the next morning and asked her to tell me what's going on. She said: "Maybe we moved to fast. You're such an amazingly sweet guy... I'm just not feeling it as much as I was wanting it to work"...
I text her and say well let's talk about this because I don't believe you just aren't feeling me; you wouldn't allow me to meet your son if you weren't into me. Told your family about me, etc. She's FIERCELY protective of her son, I can't see her introducing me into his life if she wasn't into me, only to dump me a week later.
She agreed to dinner but due to somethings we didn't get to meet. She said "let's talk tomorrow when I'm thinking clearly. I'm overwhelmed. I'm sorry." I'm going over her house tonight to talk about it.
What do you guys think is going on here?
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GF said I was the one after 3 weeks of dating and said she loves me. One week later she dumps and tells me she's "not feeling it".
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GF said I was the one after 3 weeks of dating and said she loves me. One week later she dumps and tells me she's "not feeling it".
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Seeking kind words of wisdom, girlfriend just broke up with me after a year.
POST: So my girlfriend [F 26] and I [M 25] have been together for a year and today was our anniversary. The past two weeks we were both on each others backs about random crap, sorta a mutual stressed out sensitive mesh.
Last night we talked on the phone about what we need to do/change to make things better and by the end of the night we've both found our peace and was ready for things to get better. But this morning, out of the blue, she dumps me saying "I turned her into a terrible person" and "Everything you say hurts me."
In this relationship I invested all of my available time and money into her and she was able to give up all the good times we had together for a crummy 2 weeks. I don't feel too good right now Reddit so any type of comment is appreciated, I just feel alone.
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Serious Girlfriend dumped me and I feel alone so please comment anything (i.e. a joke, advice, support, your favorite pie, etc.)
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Serious Girlfriend dumped me and I feel alone so please comment anything (i.e. a joke, advice, support, your favorite pie, etc.)
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Not sure about dating etiquette for me [22F] after a really bad break up. When is it appropriate to move on?
POST: The details of my previous relationship are on a separate post, but in brief my ex, a thirty four year old ex con single dad (how could it go wrong?!) took me for a ride and I accidentally found out a month after I stopped all contact (following a miscarriage and finding out I had HPV among other things) that he's currently grooming a sixteen year old girl. In short, I rebounded from an emotionally abusive ex [22M] to that charmer.
I've had enough breathing space to excise some of my demons, certainly enough to know it'll take time on my own to figure things out. The break up was in July, and since then I've been invited out on a couple of dates in the last few weeks, and it's gotten me thinking. I set myself a rough target of not entering anything romantically exclusive until at least next year to make sure I have some distance, but I don't know what happens from there.
I feel like I owe it to anyone I would be entering a relationship with at the very least to talk about the HPV. I don't know how I'd feel when entering a relationship, but I know I'm certainly afraid of hurting someone else if being intimate drags out any emotional damage I've had from the last few years. My problem is I don't really know what's appropriate to bring up or when.
Learning to trust myself and someone else feels like one thing, but I wouldn't want to start anything new with either secrecy or horror stories. How is any of that even brought up? I don't want to feel like a social recluse or 'damaged goods', but I hardly want to turn any new person in my life into a therapist.
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After a very messy romantic past and HPV, when is it appropriate to move on and/or bring up such things, if ever?
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After a very messy romantic past and HPV, when is it appropriate to move on and/or bring up such things, if ever?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I Have Feelings For a Coworker with a Boyfriend
POST: I'm an introvert guy and usually I'm happy alone but for the past few weeks, I've been very lonely. I don't have any close friends so I don't have anyone to talk to most of the time. Last 3 or so weeks, a coworker of mine asked me to hang out with her after work and I went with her. I think she's also a bit lonely since she's new to the city and doesn't have friends yet. Her boyfriend is temporarily in another city for a contract job. Our cubicles at work are pretty much beside each other so we see each other a lot during the day.
I found that I enjoyed talking to her and she said that she enjoyed hanging out with me as well. So, we've been hanging out a lot after work since then. We would go take a walk in the park, watch a movie, etc and we talk about pretty much anything. She talks about her boyfriend a lot too and I'm genuinely interested in hearing about it --their story, triumphs, and problems as well.
I was happy about all this until lately I've started having feelings for her. What kind of feelings? I'm starting to really really like her and I even get sad and a bit jealous when she hangs out with someone else a lot. There, I realized I am totally fucked. I want her to just be a friend, nothing more, out of respect to her man as well.
What the hell do I do now? My mind is just flat: "No, this is stupid, nothing will ever happen to us, not in a million years, not fucking ever." But my emotions can't be controlled.. I don't know how to deal with this. Will I kiss her if she offers right now? Absolutely not. But I think about her a lot when I'm not at work and it just saddens me. Can I get some advice?
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Have feelings for a coworker with a boyfriend, don't how to deal with these feelings because I just want to be friends with her.
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Have feelings for a coworker with a boyfriend, don't how to deal with these feelings because I just want to be friends with her.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend (19/F) is afraid to do go against her parents wishes. Thoughts?
POST: My girlfriend and I (22/M) have been dating for about 2 months. I just graduated and she is still in school, staying on campus. I am going on a overnight trip to the beach next weekend and really wanted her to come with me.
She asked her parents and they said no. This then became a much bigger issue of independence and I really encouraged her (or pressured) to tell her parents instead of ask, as she is an adult and I would like an adult relationship.
The conversation finished by me saying that I viewed her independence as a threat to our relationship, and that because I really care about her and don't want to get hurt, I would like to get this straightened out.
Am I being unreasonable and any other ideas on how I should approach it?
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Girlfriend (19/F) has parents that won't allow her to stay over anywhere with me. I am concerned about how independence plays a role in our future relationship. Am I being unreasonable and any other approaches I could take?
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Girlfriend (19/F) has parents that won't allow her to stay over anywhere with me. I am concerned about how independence plays a role in our future relationship. Am I being unreasonable and any other approaches I could take?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Considering restarting school...?
POST: Hey Reddit,
I have a problem. Basically, I am thinking of going back to school. I'm 23years old and have already graduated from a 3yr program (Computer Programmer Analyst program, got me an adv.diploma. I'm in Canada, this came from a college. It's roughly equivalent to a bachelors... I said roughly).
My issue is, I don't really know what to go back for =/ Like, I have ideas but I can't see any practical use out of them. For example, I would love to go back for theological studies (World religions to be specific, I just love religion and the history and mytho) but I can't think of anything I could do with this other than become a teacher... Which is fine, but... That's the best I can come up with as an outcome. I'd be interested in doing journalism but... There's already a bunch of journalists and all that... Media studies essentially I guess... But again, I don't know really what I could do with that stuff...
There's other things I'm interested in, but I just can't figure shit out, so help me reddit!
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Realized I don't like what I'm doing. Want to go back to school, don't know what for. I am also a giraffe
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Realized I don't like what I'm doing. Want to go back to school, don't know what for. I am also a giraffe
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Am I overreacting?
POST: My boyfriend is going on a trip to visit a friend who is currently overseas. She is already there, and will meet up with him when he arrives. They have been good friends since before we dated, and I found out they had a relationship (again, before I knew him). He once told me he had very strong feelings for her, second only to me.
I have no problem with the visiting, but I asked that they don't share a room just the two of them. I wouldn't mind them being in a large, dorm style room, but otherwise prefer they sleep separately. She got upset and asked if he was joking, saying it was going to cost more money etc. He stuck firm (maybe because I was there) and said no. I really don't want to come between them, but I am incredibly uncomfortable with the thought of someone that's had sex with him sleeping with him. It is not a matter of trust, as he once cheated on me before, and I seriously doubt he would do it again.
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my boyfriend is going overseas to stay with an exgirlfriend (now platonic friends). I asked them to sleep in separate rooms as I wasn't comfortable with them sleeping next to each other. Am I overreacting?
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my boyfriend is going overseas to stay with an exgirlfriend (now platonic friends). I asked them to sleep in separate rooms as I wasn't comfortable with them sleeping next to each other. Am I overreacting?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24F] just found out I have herpes and told my BF [29M] of 2 months
POST: Throwaway, of course.
I noticed some bumps down there and decided to get it checked out by my lady doctor. After a blood test, she told me I have HSV 1 (normally oral, but mine is genital) that I could have gotten any time in the past. I freaked out about it for a few days and just told my pretty new boyfriend about it tonight, when we were together in person. I was SO NERVOUS, almost cried, but told him all the info I know from researching like crazy since I found out.
He was understandably shocked, asked me how I found out (thought I had ingrown hairs that didn't go away), if I know who gave it to me (nope), etc. etc. And then I told him to do some research himself and take a while to figure out how he feels about it, and he went home. I encouraged him to get tested himself, too. It seems like he really has no idea how to feel about it, since he didn't have much to say and only hugged me before leaving.
I have no reason to think I got it from him (unless he didn't know he had it). He's given me no reason not to trust him about STIs/cheating/whatever. In fact, I'm more scared of passing it on to him if he wasn't a carrier in the first place. My doctor gave me so much info about how so many people have it and don't have symptoms and never know it. She says since it's type 1, I probably won't even have frequent outbreaks.
I've been a nervous wreck the last hour since he left and I'm terrified he's going to think less of me or think the risk is too high to keep seeing me. I like him so much and I want to be able to work around it, but I'm so scared he's going to reject me. How do I go about this after dropping what seems like a huge bomb? I don't want to freak him out even more, since I've read a lot of other threads on here and it seems like a really manageable thing, but I don't want to down play that it's serious and gonna be around forever for me now.
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I have herpes, freaking out about what my bf thinks after telling him tonight. What do I do from here?
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I have herpes, freaking out about what my bf thinks after telling him tonight. What do I do from here?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Crushing on a total stranger I see everywhere
POST: M/21/gay over here.
So a few months ago I took notice to this one guy I see on campus a lot, though always in passing. One day my friend and I were scrolling through an invite list on facebook to a pretty large (gay) party (that no one actually cared about, i.e. no one went) and I recognized the face in one of the profile pictures on the invite list. Turns out it was this guy. I thought he was pretty cute from his profile, but there wasn't really anything to work with, so it just kind of faded throughout the semester.
Fast forward to this semester, and a friend, who was aware of my little crush, tells me out of the blue one day that this guy started work as a campus tour guide with him, though they never have the opportunity to interact. After that I noticed that I also have a class adjacent to this guy at the same time, so I see him two to three times a week when we're both walking into our classrooms. I also ended up seeing him at this bar I go to every now and then a few weeks ago, but I was rather inebriated, and he clearly wasn't, so I decided it was against my better judgment to say anything to him.
Basically, I don't have the balls to talk to him because we're never really in the same space for more than a few seconds at a time. We do have a few mutual fb friends, though I don't know many of them personally -- they're just some gay folk that I happen to know through the gay social web at my university. My university's in a college town, so it's likely to run into the same person everywhere. I feel totally creepy because I probably am, but I can't really avoid seeing this guy on campus. I figure I should try to talk to him once or something, but I'm not sure how to go about it...advice?
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I have a crush on a stranger I see everywhere and have vague friend connections with, but don't necessarily have the right opportunities/balls to talk to him. What to do?
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I have a crush on a stranger I see everywhere and have vague friend connections with, but don't necessarily have the right opportunities/balls to talk to him. What to do?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit: Do you check for photo Id's on credit card purchases? If so, have people ever gotten upset because of it?
POST: Today, I checked out a guy and he payed with his credit card. I then proceeded to ask for his ID in which he said "My signature is on the back of the card and when I sign it will look exactly like it." I thought to myself "Anyone can look at a signature and replicate it on a electronic signature machine." so I proceeded to tell him that I would prefer an actual photo ID. He then stumped me with "Visa has a merchant agreement in which if the back of my card is signed then I don't have to show you my ID." Touche sir. Just proceeded with the purchase and he was on his way. But seriously, you'd think that people would be happy that you're at least checking IDs on credit cards to catch potential stolen cards. Whats your story?
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Checked out guy, asked for ID, got pissed and pulled merchant agreement card, made me feel like a douche.
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Checked out guy, asked for ID, got pissed and pulled merchant agreement card, made me feel like a douche.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27F] pregnant with my boyfriend's [27M] baby. Cannot afford the baby, but terrified of abortion due to PCOS. What if I can never conceive again?
POST: As the title suggests, I found out today I am pregnant (not planned) with my boyfriend's baby. I told him immediately, and he offered his support regardless of my decision. From a financial point of view, I know the answer but emotionally I am a mess.
A bit of background. I suffer from PCOS, and have worked hard in the last two years to better my condition as much as possible through diet and exercise. I am currently attending graduate school, which is very stressful and pays very little. My boyfriend, "Leo" works full time and is doing his undergrad, both of which are very stressful situations for him. Money wise, the two of us are ok, but no way could we afford a baby in this situation.
We briefly discussed that the best option is to terminate and while I know that to be the best course, I am so afraid of the consequences. One of my life dreams is to be a mother, and I thought maybe I never would be (naturally) due to my condition. Now that it has happened, I am floored. Because we are thinking of terminating, I can't talk to anyone about this so I am using this space to just vent and get my thoughts out there.
Has anyone here experienced PCOS, got pregnant and terminated, and went on to have another pregnancy to term? I should note I do not know how long I am, (took the hCG test, found out today) and will be meeting with my doctor to find out more details. Is there anything I should bring up to her? I am sorry if this isn't the right place for this.
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Pregnant, suffer from PCOS and afraid to terminate though it is the best financial decision. I just need some advice, life experiences, anything. Thank you.
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Pregnant, suffer from PCOS and afraid to terminate though it is the best financial decision. I just need some advice, life experiences, anything. Thank you.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Burned the carpet! I desperately need your help Reddit!
POST: So heres the story. My mom and I live in an apartment, and I will be going off to college in a few short months. My mom plans to move in with her fiancee once I leave for college, so we will be leaving the apartment shortly. Now, as it approaches our problem-free move-out, tragedy struck. I was smoking a hookah in my room and the charcoal fell off and onto the carpet. I tried to clean it up as best as I could and as fast as I could, but the carpet did get burned in two spots pretty close together. My concern is that now we will have to pay to apartment complex to fix the carpet, and we don't know how much that will be. Mom has already made it clear that it will be me who comes up with the money for this, but before all the shit finishes hitting the fan, I could use your help in two ways, Reddit.
1) Do you think, based on the size of the burns, they will charge us to re-carpet the entire room? Or will they only charge us for the patch that is damaged that they can replace? And how much do you think each would cost?
2) Is there anything I should do before they come to check out the damage (we havent told them it happened yet, just did last night) that might help it look better or not damaged at all?
I appreciate any help, I'm sorry if its really long but I wanted to make sure I covered the details. Please help me out, brothers and sisters!
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accidentally burned my apartment's carpet and need to get it fixed. how much will it cost/what could I do to make it cost less/fix it?
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accidentally burned my apartment's carpet and need to get it fixed. how much will it cost/what could I do to make it cost less/fix it?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Travelling with a cochlear implant
POST: (X-post with [r/deaf] )
So this might be a long shot, but I'm looking for a little advice. I'm going to be taking a 2 month trip through Europe with my boyfriend. We are hostelling/airbnb-ing with our backpacks and doing europe on the cheap (as possible).
I am hard of hearing with one hearing aid (left) and one cochlear (right). I've traveled extensively with hearing aids before and it's pretty low maintenance. However, I've only had a cochlear for 3 years now and have yet to travel outside of the Us with one. I'm fairly able to communicate without sign language and my speech is quite good.
I am wondering the following:
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1. How should I keep my battery charged: bring my charger / disposable individual batteries / both? It generally takes 1-1/2 hours to charge a battery with the charger. They last for 2.5 days. Batteries where you replace individually them are 2 at a time and disposable and last as long but generally are more expensive than using the rechargeable
2. Do you suggest I bring up my back up cochlear or leave it at home. I'm thinking at home, but bringing some basic things like hooks because they are cheap
3. Are people in Europe generally open and friendly towards disabled persons / hard of hearing members?
4. Is it easy to pick up 675 zinc air blue tab batteries in stores in Europe? I ask because I wonder how easy it'll be to get more if they are stolen / lost / etc
5. Anything else I should consider while travelling with a cochlear implant?
Also in case it helps, my itinerary: The Netherlands > Belgium > West Germany > France > Switzerland > Austria/Hungary > Czech > Poland > Germany > Denmark
We are spending at least 3 days in each place.
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I am travelling to Europe with a cochlear, any advice? Or am I just a little too worried about it.
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I am travelling to Europe with a cochlear, any advice? Or am I just a little too worried about it.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by accidentally groping a stranger.
POST: Earlier today, I decided to go to the school basketball game. Everyone was having fun and we were all hyped up. There was also the school mascot who ran around getting people pumped for the game. In earlier games, a good friend of mine was the mascot and he often poked me to get my attention. Anyways, I was enjoying the game when the school mascot decided to come over and start touching my face. Assuming it was my friend, I told him to stop but he kept going so I thought it would be funny if I put my hand on his chest and stare passionately into his eyes.
The person in the mascot suit was not my friend. I quickly realized this after staring into the eye mesh of the mascot hemlet. The mascot quickly realized what was happening, shoved my hand away and took off behind the bleachers. Realizing what had just happened, I started to ask people who was in the mascot. Not only was it not my friend, but it was a girl. I had just accidentally groped a random girl who I have never met in my life. After returning home, all I could think about was how I'm probably going to be known as a pervert who sexually harasses strangers.
I have never met this person but I know her name. I don't even know what she looks like. How do I fix the situation?
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went to a basketball game, thought my friend was the mascot, groped the mascot, and realized my friend wasn't the mascot.
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went to a basketball game, thought my friend was the mascot, groped the mascot, and realized my friend wasn't the mascot.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by comparing someone to Hitler at a Jewish wedding.
POST: Okay so this actually happened last night, but still in the last 24 hours. Although I wish it wasn't, this story is 100% real.
So I attended my boyfriend's boss's Jewish wedding last night. It had an open bar, lots of dancing - pretty much a good time was had by all. At one point my boyfriend left me alone, so I did what anyone else would do surrounded by a bunch of people they don't know: hop on Reddit. I read the article on the philosophy of killing baby Hitler, which talks a little about how depriving the Nazi party of such a charismatic leader could have been enough to nip WWII in the bud. My boyfriend returns and I get up to dance, still pondering Hitler's infamous charisma.
Let me mention here that the company my SO works for is all Russian guys, save him and this other guy, who we'll call Phil, because that's his name. Now Phil doesn't really fit in with everyone else (as a young, tattooed, black kid he stands out in a room full of Russian Jews) but is literally one of the most charming people I've ever met. He's dancing with grandma, playing with the kids, flirting with the ladies and everyone's eating it up. He's just one of those "it-factor" people; EVERYONE loves Phil.
Anyways, we get done dancing the Hora (I think that's what the chair dance is called?) and my boyfriend asks if I want to go down to the hotel's lobby and smoke a cigarette. We're both laughing about how enthusiastic Phil was during the chair dance as we approach the elevator. We stand there with a group of older guests waiting for the elevator, talking about Phil when I say, "Phil is so charismatic... like he has a Hitler level of charisma." It was like fucking slow motion as I turn to see all these old Jewish people just staring at me in disbelief. My boyfriend mouths *what the fuck* and I decide there's no way in hell I'm going to ride the elevator 15 floors with these people. I turn around and book it as fast as my stilettos would take me to the bathroom and hid.
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Went to a wedding. Reddit made me think about Hitler. Compared someone to Hitler positively in front of a bunch of old Jewish people.
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Went to a wedding. Reddit made me think about Hitler. Compared someone to Hitler positively in front of a bunch of old Jewish people.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Writing here so I don't talk to him
POST: I'm out of a 3-year relationship with the love of my life. We have been on and off more times than I can count. It just doesn't work. We love each other fiercely. But apparently that doesn't mean we can be together. In all of my Disney, Nicolas Sparks, doe-eyed optimism, even I have come to accept we will never work together.
He has moved across the country, which I'm grateful for. It means we can stop self destructing by seeing each other every time we're feeling weak. We agreed to no contact because it's just going to be excruciating for one or both of us to attempt a friendship and then eventually find out the other is moving on with someone else.
He was my best friend. I miss him so much. He loves football. I hate it. I want to talk to him about the superbowl and how I was forced to watch it with my coworkers. I want to tell him about my insane cat that he couldn't stand, and how he's become crazier somehow. I want to tell him about how I cried during a sad puppy commercial but not a child-abuse commercial because he knows my heart is made to love animals, and I don't have that same soft spot for people. I ache for him every fucking day. It's only been a week. What the fuck am I supposed to do? I feel like I'm dying.
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This is me talking to you instead of texting him, so thank you for existing. Even if nobody reads this....I didn't text him. I got it out here. That's a good step I guess.
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This is me talking to you instead of texting him, so thank you for existing. Even if nobody reads this....I didn't text him. I got it out here. That's a good step I guess.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What should I say to my boss about missing my first day of work?
POST: So a little background, I have two jobs already, I was hired at this new job, that is also full time were my other jobs are both part time. I missed my first day of work today because my cell phone died in the night which is my alarm. I would like to still have a chance to keep the job when I go in tomorrow. I've been thinking of saying that I had bad service and misheard what day she said to come in and say I thought it was Wednesday or that I had a family emergency and didn't have my phone all day.
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I need a good and believable excuse to give to my boss at my new job tomorrow for missing my first day cause my phone died. Read last sentence for my idea's.
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I need a good and believable excuse to give to my boss at my new job tomorrow for missing my first day cause my phone died. Read last sentence for my idea's.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I F(22) am dating M(21) for about 3 continuous years, five years overall, and wondering when it's appropriate to discuss the future?
POST: We dated in for two continuous high school and broke up for my freshman year of college. The fall after that, we got back together and have been happily together ever since. We discuss things well, are very compatible, and we seem to want similar things out of our future lives.
However, neither of us have very settled future plans, which is mainly why I haven't brought up what will happen after I graduate in May. He's a year behind me in college. I'm applying to jobs in varied, varied places, some local, some not (my field does not justify the cost of graduate school at this time). He will go to graduate school when he graduates, and is unsure of exactly where. I also realize we're both very young.
However, we've both matured greatly over the course of our relationship. He has qualities that I really want in my partner, and I work to make sure that I have the same. I don't want to get married right now, but I absolutely want to marry him when I do.
While we discuss every problem that has come up, we've never discussed the future before, except in a "Do you want to go to this concert in six months?" way. I'm afraid that a discussion will reveal that while he's invested in the relationship at the moment, he has never considered anything beyond that.
Does it seem appropriate to bring up, in a very non-pressured way, to at least see where it's going? With our ages, is it even reasonable to explore ways to stay in the area for a year or so, and see where he goes to graduate school, if there are jobs for me there?
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In a serious relationship, both young and unsure of future plans, should I bring up the possibility of the future or is it assumed that this is a serious relationship that has a necessary expiration?
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In a serious relationship, both young and unsure of future plans, should I bring up the possibility of the future or is it assumed that this is a serious relationship that has a necessary expiration?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: In a relationship because he loves me [24/f, 28/m]
POST: I've been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for 3 years. He's a fantastic guy. He's loving, caring, and would never hurt me. We've been through so much together. I honestly cannot even find things I dislike about his personality. The only thing that irks me is that he's not very motivated financially and IF we do ever decide to get married/have kids, he will need to step in more. Besides that, I cannot really think of anything wrong and we lived together for over a year. Here's the problem. I believe that I am only in this relationship because I don't want to break his heart. I love him but I am not IN LOVE with him. Thinking about him with other girls doesn't bother me. Him breaking up with me doesn't bother me. If he cheated on me, I can honestly say that I wouldn't care. But he loves me more than anyone ever would and I don't want to do that to him. Before I get judgement, I have told him this. Hundreds of times. But he doesn't want me to leave. He said he's okay with it as long as I stay. I haven't cheated. I wouldn't cheat. But I feel like I'm staying because I care for him like I would my parents and can't break his heart. So, should I leave anyway?
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Can't break up with boyfriend because I don't want to break his heart. I love him but not like I should.
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Can't break up with boyfriend because I don't want to break his heart. I love him but not like I should.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, What ridiculous dares or bets have you gotten your self involved in for the sake of money or "balls".
POST: A few years ago a work mate was complaining about packaging waste in the office, Being my usual sarcastic self I suggested he eat the box, in a effort to use intentionally abstract logic to rationalize him eating it , I said for the right amount of money I would eat it, He started shouting numbers at me trying to find my price and after some co-workers overheard our discussion I ended up eating a a [corrugated card board box] similar to that image for 1,000 Euro.
They did not stipulate the way in which to eat it , but they did say I had to finish it before the work day was over, I cut it into small chunks and softened it with boiling water and a small amount of sugar to make it less bland, I completed the bet but I didn't shit right for a good while.
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ate a box for 1,000 (1,500$ at the time) what ridiculous thing have you done for money or a dare?
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ate a box for 1,000 (1,500$ at the time) what ridiculous thing have you done for money or a dare?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 M] with my GF [24F] of 5 years (living together for 2) have very different sex drives and have no clue what to do about it.
POST: Alright guys - hoping that I can get some helpful advice here because I'm really struggling.
I'm 25, my gf is 24. We met in college, have been together nearly 5 years (not married yet, and I'm very on the fence about whether or not that's where we're headed), and have lived together for the last 2. My situation is a bit odd - she absolutely loves sex. Whenever we have a chance to do it, it's on.
Outside of sex (and I mean actual PIV intercourse), she has 0 libido, 0 desire to be intimate in any way. She had to have an operation "down there" at one point which meant we couldn't have sex for 2 months, and in that time we basically never did anything sexual - there was one time that I feel guilty about because it took a lot of convincing on my part. She also has had to change birth controls multiple times this year so far, and each time it messes with her hormones and she ends up on her period for 2-3 weeks out of the month. Same store each time - if we can't have sex, nothing is going to happen.
I don't like thinking about it this way, but everything leaves me with the impression that she's extremely selfish in the bedroom. I've always been a bit of a giver - I'm generally not just happy, but eager to go down on her and I legitimately enjoy it when she gets off - to the point that sometimes when she's on her period I'll still do things to get her off, and she almost never returns the favor (at most, once every 3-4 months). On the flip side, if she's out of commission for one reason or another though, there's nothing I can do to get her in the mood to fool around at all. I hate the cliched "I have needs too" statement, but it's true.
I don't know what to do - I really, really love her and love being with her, but the lack of intimacy leaves me feeling more often than not that she's more of a great roommate than a romantic partner.
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My sex drive and willingness to take care of her needs is significantly disproportionate to hers, and I don't know what to do about it.
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My sex drive and willingness to take care of her needs is significantly disproportionate to hers, and I don't know what to do about it.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by telling a girl I really liked about my recent ex
POST: This happened last Saturday. I had recently broken up with my GF of 3 years, and we still talk and she's been trying to push me onto the dating scene to 'move on'.
So, I oblige in the hopes it might help with the break up and stuff, and I recall a girl I was speaking to a few weeks before the break up (nothing bad, just in class at college). She seemed really nice, so I thought "Why not talk to her?". So I did the only thing I could now that college had finished, I found her on FB and messaged her. Things were going well, we hit it off and had even set up a date. A couple of days after she was at a party and stayed on the phone to me drunk for most of the night, so she was obviously into me.
Then the fuck up happened.
It isn't dramatic, just stupid. I felt pretty bad for trying to date so soon, and I told her this, explained that I'd just broken up with my GF, and that I still had feelings for her etc, but that I thought she was a really lovely girl and that I'd really like to get to know you more. She didn't see it that way and saw herself as a rebound. So I lost out on getting to know a really nice person who I clicked really well with because I tried being honest.
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Broke up with GF of three years, tried dating, fucked up by telling new girl I still had feelings for ex.
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Broke up with GF of three years, tried dating, fucked up by telling new girl I still had feelings for ex.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23 M] have a girlfriend [20 F] of 2.5 years, that doesn't want to kiss or have sex
POST: I don't want to sound like typical i-wanna-sex-guy. Me and my girlfriend are together for about 2.5 years and most of it was very long distance relationship. We love each other, i can confirm that, but i feel like something is wrong.
I was poor as hell and we couldn't meet each other very often. First it was one time a week for a whole day. Later on when i was even more far away to visit her i needed to pay for a place to sleep, train and in my country it was very expensive for me.
But let's back to the problem. In the whole relationship i kissed her only ONCE, while she always want to cuddle/hug/look at me. While we slept together, she had only pants on her so it was even more provoking. She likes to talk about sex, she isn't shy at all and i'm her first boyfriend ever. But everytime i want to delicate touch her in private parts or just kiss her after few hours of cuddling, she just tells "i dont want to" and move her head. I'm not forcing anything, just trying slowly every .. month?
I'm the guy that is happy with just giving her pleasure but i feel so unatractive at the moment that sometimes i don't even want to meet her to avoid that. I tried to talk about it, but she is completely silent and waits with a sad face. She didn't had any problems with it in past that could block her.
Recently after so much hard work i moved out close to her. Thought that she don't wanna start till that day, but nothing changed. Am i a bad guy that want sex and can't deal with it? I just can't break up with her after everything we gone through :(
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After 2.5 years my girlfriend still doesn't want to kiss or have sex (and even talk about it) and it's very hard for me.
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After 2.5 years my girlfriend still doesn't want to kiss or have sex (and even talk about it) and it's very hard for me.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: hung out with a female freind in vegas , took a nap in same bed. Declined a kiss from her. How to tell my SO?
POST: I 25 (M) in a relationship with a 21 (F) for about 3 month now. every things been going very well. I really care for her.
But recently like the title suggest, I went on a trip with a handfull of freinds some close and some new to vegas for the weekend.
meet another female that likes to gamble and drink as do i myself.
hung out quite a bit over the trip. I said i was in a committed relastionship didnt see the harm in having a drinking buddie for the weekend.
nothing happened between us, at one point we did take a nap in the same bed, her under the sheets and me above the sheets, her and i both had all are cloth on and there was no fooling around or anything. slept for about 2 hours and went back to drinking and gambling.
at one point over the weekend she did ask for a kiss and i politely declined saying i was in a relasoinship. After that we still hung out, drank and gambled, walked the strip. But she understood that I had no intention of perusing her.
I haven't yet mentioned any of this to my SO (I plan to tonight when I see her) and I want to be open and honest with her. Are relationship means the world to me. I know she's going be upset with me I understand that, but i feel that being honestly and open in a relationship is key.
where do I go from here reddit ?
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hung out with a female freind in vegas , took a nap in same bed. Declined a kiss from her. Where do I go now?
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hung out with a female freind in vegas , took a nap in same bed. Declined a kiss from her. Where do I go now?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Trying to move forward after the kiss.
POST: Okay so this is a throwaway account. But I really need some help. Theres a girl and we have been good friends for about over a year now. Nothing more then friends, anyways she is really good looking and I want to start talking to her but don't know how to start it or whatever. About a week before new years we were at a party and we were just together as friends nothing really, the thought about trying with her didn't really cross my mind until my friend and her friends asked me if i was going to kiss her. By the end of the night I had made up my mind, grabbed her away from the party and finally kissed her. After we finished she said this was always going to happen. I don't really know what she meant by that and i am a little confused. I've tried texting her but i haven't really gotten many replies or enthusiasm. Definitely need help where to go next.
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Finally kissed the girl, she said it was always going to happen, she has gone a little cold but not to much and need help to get further.
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Finally kissed the girl, she said it was always going to happen, she has gone a little cold but not to much and need help to get further.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22m] with my girlfriend [19 F] of 1 and a half years, has been having communication and trust errors as of late
POST: Everything in our relationship up until about a month ago was fantastic. We never fought, we understood each other and acted like the bests of friends and lovers through it all. Recently, I went back to school and our communication has been a bit strained, since I didn't do so well in last semester and have been focusing more on my studies.
Last weekend, I could tell something was definitely wrong. She was constantly on the phone texting, conversation seemed strained and she seemed more engrossed with her phone and because of this there were problems during sex which made it not enjoyable at all. We confronted each other and she told me she felt as if she doesn't feel as if we're in a relationship when I'm up here because I don't text as often as I used too.
On my end, I'm worried because a new guy friend has come into her life and she seems to be putting more time into talking to this guy than to me. I told her I would change and nothing was threatened in terms of a break up or anything, we both agreed we want this to last. However, I can't shake this feeling that something is up and the more and more I think about it it makes me more and more paranoid and depressed.
I just need someones outside opinion before I do anything or say anything irrational. I truly don't want my relationship to end with her, but with all the signs I'm getting, I just don't want to get dragged through the mud for months before something bad happens to me.
Note-my girlfriend was a lesbian before I met her. Failed relationships with men and a bad upbringing led her to hate men for a long time and I was the first guy she dated in years. Doubt this has any relevance but I'm just trying to put all the facts out there.
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My girlfriend has been texting another man and has seemed more interested in him than in me. At what point should I call it quits before I try and stay to long and end up getting hurt?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [21/F] husband [23/M] is always on his phone, getting me super irritated. Advice?
POST: (Sorry if this is rambly, I'm just super annoyed!)!My husband (24) and I [21/F] have been together 5 years. Lately, he has been really irritating me lately with his excessive phone use, and it's starting to get under my skin! He is constantly on his phone, either playing his stupid game or on Facebook or God knows what else.
We have a 1 year old son, and it's gotten to the point where he'll sit on the couch and play on his goddamn phone while my son tries to play with him. And it's ALL night. I am mainly the one playing and taking care of our son. He wasn't this bad before, he would put his phone down while our son was awake, but lately it doesn't matter.. I rarely have my phone. My son is usually throwing it around or it's on the floor. I only really use it when my son is napping or at night when my son is in bed. I DONT want to be one of those parents who's always on their phone, that's why I rarely have it on me when my son is awake. Plus, he's a handful enough already lol. Anyway, my husband is really irritating me with his phone use. And sometimes he can get a little weird with me touching it too. it always has to be in his reach. It's starting to make me wonder if maybe he's doing more than being on FB :-/
Ive tried talking to him so many times about it. I've tried to talk to him about it nicely, and not so nicely. I bring up my concerns, but he usually stops for a couple hours or maybe one day, than goes right back. Tonight, I told him to please get off his phone and help with J (our son, he has a really bad cold) and he got mad, tossed his phone and just sat there and was all mad. It's getting ridiculous and I don't know what else to do.
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Husband always on phone, will barely help me with our son, wont let me touch it, unsure what to do.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: Do you have to love your wedding dress?
POST: This might seem like an odd question, but hear me out. I decided to wear my mom's wedding dress. I found a reputable seamstress in my city that actually specializes in revamping vintage dresses, and last week I had my second fitting.
Why I want to wear the dress:
- I really do love several details about the dress (the sleeves, the Queen Anne neckline, the flattering waist).
- I love the idea of wearing my mom's dress. She's pretty awesome and has been low-pressure about it, but I can tell it means a lot to her too.
- I had such a hard time figuring out what to kind of dress I wanted to wear. This way, problem solved!
- Cost - not a good reason in itself because it's definitely not cheap (about $700 when all is said and done), but cheaper than most wedding dresses, especially ones with lots of lace (maybe? I could be wrong on this).
The only reason I'm doubting is because I just don't "love" it. I don't have a Say Yes to the Dress moment, I'm not overwhelmed when I step into it and if I imagined a perfect dress, this dress probably falls short.
Now, it's not finished yet, so maybe I'll feel differently when it's all fixed. But even if I don't, does it matter?
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Can you have a wedding dress that you like, not love? I know the answer is, of course, you can do whatever you want, but I really want to hear opinions from this lovely subreddit.
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Can you have a wedding dress that you like, not love? I know the answer is, of course, you can do whatever you want, but I really want to hear opinions from this lovely subreddit.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend? [26 M] has been giving me mixed signals about the status of our relationship [27/F].
POST: Me and my boyfriend of about 2.5 years broke up around Thanksgiving last year. It all started because we had always talked about taking the next logical step and moving in together, I was ready and waiting for him to be "ready" and want it together. Then one morning he said to me that he wanted to move out on his own, but not with me. He couldn't give me any real reason, except that he was "too young" to settle down. He broke it off and we stopped seeing each other. I started dating other people, but he still always tried to contact me. Over the past month or two since he moved we started talking again. I've always loved him and wanted a life together, if I had to wait for him to be ready, then I was willing to sacrifice what I wanted at this point for him to be happy too.
We never officially "got back together". He never asked me to, and any time I brought it up he brushed me off. I didn't want to sound petty, asking why we aren't friends/adding each other on Facebook/instagram, and putting a label on it. I did find out however that he was lying to his friends about still seeing me.
I'm just ready to move on at this point. I've never felt so used. Am I being unreasonable? I'm trying to be understanding and so badly wanted us to work, but he just doesn't give a shit about anyone but himself.
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I don't even know where my "relationship" stands at this point. Do I cut him off and move on?
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I don't even know where my "relationship" stands at this point. Do I cut him off and move on?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: HELP! Toddler [3yo] not sleeping through the night.
POST: This has been going on for about the past two weeks. I've tried everything and I'm coming up extremely short.
My wife and I both work full time and we need to sleep at night. I'm in the military and regularly work anywhere between 10-15 hours a day and I end up getting about 5 hours of sleep a night, so when I sleep I sleep like a rock. My wife ends up waking to assist him, and she isn't used to the lack of sleep so she ends up more sleep deprived.
Ok, well here's the issue. My 3yo son has been waking up around the same time for at least a year, 9am. He normally naps at about 1pm for 2 hours and then we put him to bed at 9-10pm after everything is said and done.
Lately he's been treating his bedtime as a nap, wakes up several hours in and continues to stay up all night. He'll then proceed to leave his room and trash the entire house. He knows how to open the child proof cabinets, doors etc. He'll go into the kitchen, fashion steps out of randomly placed object in the kitchen [chairs, boxes, garbage can, etc] and get into the higher cabinets.
Last night, for example, he thought it would be a great idea to break several eggs on the floor and mix them with flower.
Anyway, what can I do to set my child's sleep schedule straight.
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My son is waking up while wife and I sleep, trashing the house, and ending up with about 6 hours of sleep a night.
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My son is waking up while wife and I sleep, trashing the house, and ending up with about 6 hours of sleep a night.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M42] met an attractive & smart 45 year old woman who has zero dating experience. Need some advice on how to proceed.
POST: A friend told me about this woman who I will call Krista and introduced us through Facebook. She and I have a lot in common, and especially a lot of things that you don't find very often in common.
Krista and I have been on 2 dates in the past 2 weeks (and have a third tomorrow) and she has been giving me no signals about what's going on. So last weekend, I struck up a conversation over text which lead to that topic indirectly.
She never dated as a teenager apparently and married a guy she had known since childhood, who she divorced in 2007. She has dated very little if any since then and not at all for the past 2 or 3 years. She's 45 and really seems to have no dating experience. She said "Dating is so hard for me. Meeting new people and getting to know them is new to me."
Has anyone been in a similar situation, especially her side of it, and can give me some advice on how to proceed? I don't think we are going to be able to go with the normal flow of dating and may have to be somewhat deliberate at first. Is that a good idea? We both want to try to see if something can work between us.
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I met a woman who is 45 years old with virtually no dating experience. We seem to be a great match. Need advice on how to proceed.
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I met a woman who is 45 years old with virtually no dating experience. We seem to be a great match. Need advice on how to proceed.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Dear reddit, my blog suddenly got a insane pageview boost since last august. They are all google image search hits. What to do?
POST: As the title suggest, I have a blog that suddenly became successful... on paper. I started it last year as a place to vent my mind. I didn't need to get a lot of visitors, but if people would actually read what I had to say, I would be a very happy camper.
Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago, I checked the stats to a youtube video I made and found out 1/3 of the views came from my blog. That was great! So I checked the stats from my blog and found out that since last august the pageviews are steadily increasing. Last month alone I recieved around 1200. Thankfully the blog gave me the links that viewed my blog most and then I got sad.
The links are almost all to stock pictures I use to brighten up my posts. I don't know if I should be happy for the views or feel down, because my posts are probably not read.
Now there are people reading my blog, I've had a comment on one post and I got some great reactions of people I know who heard about it from other friends. The problem is they get drowned under all these google image hits.
What to do? Should I remove the pictures? Should I just take mother Mary's advice and let it be? Is there a good way to generate traffic to my blog aside from posting links on reddit?
Thanks in advance for your help.
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My blog gets visited by people who want other people's images and not my blog posts. What can I do to turn the tide?
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My blog gets visited by people who want other people's images and not my blog posts. What can I do to turn the tide?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [M20] tell her [F26] that she got Chlamydia from me?
POST: So yesterday my SO called me and said she needed to talk about some serious stuff and I should see her in person. Relationship is 4 1/2 months old.
When I came to her flat, she said that we shoul first eat, because afterwards if she told me, I might not be hungry anymore...
Ok, i thought to myself, thinking she would wanna break up with me because of age difference..(she's 26 and 6 years older)
Than I asked if she would wanna share a J with me after dinner. She said that I would probably need it after the news...
Now I was kind of nervous that it would be something serious...
Then she told me that she accompanied a friend to the urologist a month before and that she did a test as well.
The results came in and she had Chlamydia.
She was kind of surprised that I didn't make a big deal out of it, and that I showed a very mature response ;)
She wanted me to take a test as well asap..
She told herself that she must be at fault because she was messing around in the summer on xtc with some guy. Idk
This happened 4 months before we started dating.
I didn't tell her that before we started dating and in the beginning phase of the relationship, I had some burning when urinating and there was yellowish-light greeny stuff every end of the day in my underpants. But now it's gone since 2 months.
I never had unprotected sex until this relationship, but that one time 1 1/2 month before starting dating, i had a ONS with protection, but in the morning after in the shower with her, I didn't use protection.
I might suspect that it is then when I caught it.
Should I tell my SO that she isn't at fault and that I had a ONS without protection before dating?
It's not that chlamydia is for life...
Should I let her wallow in her self-pity or should I take the blame?
I mean, if I don't say anything, she will always think that she gave me that.
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My SO has been tested on Chlamydia and I'm afraid I have it too. She thinks she gave it to me whereas I surely know I gave it to her.
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My SO has been tested on Chlamydia and I'm afraid I have it too. She thinks she gave it to me whereas I surely know I gave it to her.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24M] not understanding if [20F] Wants to date me.
POST: I met this girl we had a drink and really liked each others we stayed hours talking on the first date.
Then for a month we werent able to see each other because both had stuff but we texted from time to time like once a week.
Then second date we had a drink, she kissed me before I dropped her home before I tried to do it.
Third date two days after we had a drink and kissed her again and she smiled like if she was happy then dropped her home again. And she said smth like "we keep in touch bye".
But if I dont text this girl first she doesnt text me, and I really like her so I don't want to text her too much to be annoying, I really want to.
The thing is that now she has lots of exams and is studying all the time. The summer is coming soon also and I want to understand whats going on before we leave.
I dont understand if she really likes me or not that much since she doesnt text me if I don't. Its been 5days since we last texted and she told me how much she was studying from 9am to 2am.
Maybe we just started dating or maybe we were just playing around, I'm not understanding. The lack of communication is killing me, I really like her so I dont want to ruin things by looking obsessed about her.
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I had 3 dates with this girl, I really like her but she never textes me first, We text 1 a week usually. I dont understand if she really likes me.
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I had 3 dates with this girl, I really like her but she never textes me first, We text 1 a week usually. I dont understand if she really likes me.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [34 M] wife [35 F] of 12 years has been cheating on me for 3 months. I don't know what to do.
POST: Long story short, my wife and I have been having troubles for several years.it started when I went back to school 4 years ago and I preoccupied with my studies due to the intense workload. She believes that I pushed her away, which I may have due to stress and school requirements which meant I had to be away from home frequently for class and clinical hours.
We have 2 children together and I never in my life thought it would come to this. We were best friends when we got married.
I just found out today as I was plugging my phone in to charge and noticed a text notification from her new boyfriend addressing her as 'lover'. I confronted her and she admitted to sleeping with him several times.
I don't know what to do. I don't want our relationship to end like this but I also don't know if I'll ever be able to trust her again if we do stay together.
I guess I just need some advice on how to handle the situation, both rebuilding trust if we stay together and also how to handle divorce with kids involved if it comes to that.
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Wife of 12 years has been cheating on me for at least 3 months. We have 2 kids together and I don't know what to do.
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Wife of 12 years has been cheating on me for at least 3 months. We have 2 kids together and I don't know what to do.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Need birthday present ideas for BF. 22. Only 2 weeks left. Help!?
POST: First off all I would like to clear up: **Sexytimes will be provided.**
I know you guys are brilliant, so I need some ideas. I will list all the criteria below.
- Turning 22.
- Relationship = 6.5 years
- We are both mature. Graduated university and recently completed professional exams.
- Working full time (office).
- My budget: ~$300
What he is into…
- He is not crazy about video games. Only PC games that he gets himself.
- He is very mature, and if he needs something he will get find a way to get it himself.
- He LOVES technology…and he is well covered.
- He likes the finer things…which tends to be a little pricey/hard to find.
Presents to date:
- 16: Turtles (real ones, because he wanted them)
- 17: Lego. He loves Lego.
- 18: Blender (inside joke) – it was useful.
- 19: Good scotch (Legal drinking age in Canada)
- 20: Safety Razor + essentials
- 21: Belt, leather gloves, wallet, professional accessories.
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BF turning 22, and he pretty much has everything he needs/wants. I need ideas for gifts that are useful, grown up, and fun!
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BF turning 22, and he pretty much has everything he needs/wants. I need ideas for gifts that are useful, grown up, and fun!
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My brother[19] has an unbelievably jealous girlfriend[19] who is now his only friend.
POST: My brother Tim (fakename) and his gf Jill (likewise) have been dating for a little over a year now and things have been steadily getting worse for them both.
Firstly: they seem to be bad for each other. 1 in 4 times I hear them talking she's crying her eyes out about how he is "always" doing this or "always" doing that, arguing about past mistakes and taking things out of context. She lies about past promises he made to get her way (and he doesn't argue with her) and tries to manipulate him. I could (and can) provide tons of examples but I'm on mobile right now and can follow up later if anyone's interested.
Tim seems to love her very much despite all of this. He drives nearly 100 extra miles a day to bring her to and from college, (despite her having a working car) buys her food every day, and even helps her financially because she has a bad homelife and a deadbeat mom. (Who has punched him in the face, but that's another story.) I don't know if it's because she's scared of losing all of this, but she won't allow him to hang out with anyone, not even me. I called him on the phone yesterday wondering when he'd be home (we had plans) and Jill exploded all over him, demanding to know if he was going to "ditch" her to hang with me...
So that prompted me to come to you guys. I've got to talk to Tim about this and I don't know what to say. She's driven away every one of his friends(and is trying to drive away me), he's spending money on her that he should be spending on school stuff for himself, and he seems absolutely miserable.
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jealous gf taking his money, friends, GPA and sanity, and I don't know what to do or say.
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jealous gf taking his money, friends, GPA and sanity, and I don't know what to do or say.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: My friend (18f) and I (18m) have know each other for about 6 months. Over the last month or so she has begun remarking out loud how amazing my eyes and smile are. What's this mean? If anything
POST: So this girl and I (both 18) have known each other since the start of the summer, we were introduced by being in the same "friend group" at school. Over the last month or so, she repeatedly (at least once a week, like, 5 times last week) makes comments about how "beautiful" my eyes and smile are and says she loves looking at my eyes and it is at this point she'd proceed to stare for a little more than a few seconds (words like gorgeous, amazing, and beautiful have all been used by her to describe my eyes). I've never thought of her as someone that likes me, but a friend of mine pointed these things out to me. What's your guys/girls take on the situation? I'd like to note that these comments are always made with our other friends around, there is never any one on one conversation going on here.
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Girl says guys eyes and smile are beautiful and she loves staring at his eyes, what's this mean? I don't think she likes me or anything, just confused cause no one else says things about me like that.
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Girl says guys eyes and smile are beautiful and she loves staring at his eyes, what's this mean? I don't think she likes me or anything, just confused cause no one else says things about me like that.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Been swapping messages with cute guy, but is his interest waning?
POST: Me: F, 21, grad student. Him, M, 25, grad student.
We met through swing dancing, as I was one of the few girls who was really good at his favorite style. He started FB messaging me in a flirtatious manner about two weeks ago and I flirted right back. We sent silly messages for a week straight, and on Monday had a little silly touch-flirting and chatted in depth between dances.
Now, my messages are getting quick, "Hahaha that's funny. Later!" notes. He's still being goofy on the dance floor and I'm getting lots of deep dips (:D) but I'm not sure if he's just a dancefloor flirt.
I understand that he might be busy, but I was intending to Make A Move^TM and don't want to lose my good swing partner to awkwardness if he's backing off.
Advice?
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He's cute but I'm not sure if he's interested. Should I ask him out anyway? Or should I do a few more litmus tests?
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He's cute but I'm not sure if he's interested. Should I ask him out anyway? Or should I do a few more litmus tests?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28 F] with my boyfriend [29 M] have be together 9 months I pretty sure he's racist
POST: Me and my bf have have an amazing life together right now. Everything is perfect! Except I think he is racist my mother adopted her friends child when her friend died, hes 2 and Asian. My bf went with me to see my mom to have dinner, and the moment she left the room with with my brother he says "Never through you had chinks in the family at lest she did not pick her self up a nigger" He keeps telling me he was joking. I kicked him out of the house.I will never allow someone to talk that way about my brother I love him or say the n word around me. I haven't spoken to him in 2 weeks he keeps texting me asking me to forgive him, but I just don't think I can. What should I do guys? Am I handing this right?
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my bf called my adopted brother a chink in my mothers house and I kicked him out and haven't talked to him since
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my bf called my adopted brother a chink in my mothers house and I kicked him out and haven't talked to him since
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [36F] with my spouse [40 M] of 18 years. And two kids. Expensive long-distance family vacation/visit planned in August with my dear in-laws. Breakup may be imminent. How to proceed?
POST: I love him and he loves me. But I think we're headed for divorce, either in the immediate future or within a year. Nothing is set in stone yet. Nobody outside the relationship knows. We can put a good face on it. When school starts in fall the amount of other business to attend to will skyrocket, and therefore it will be a bad time to be seperating. Also I am not 100% sure. Not 100% sure, and he is very very clear that there will be no trial separation. Once the trigger is pulled, there is no turning back. We have time to be civilized about it now. I want to go on the trip as planned, because we have been looking forward to this and plan to be ticking off a few items on my bucket list. If I don't, I will probably never see my in-laws on this side again. I like them a lot.
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One last family vacation, the four of us? Or make it the very first kids and dad trip, so soon after dropping a bomb on everyone?
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One last family vacation, the four of us? Or make it the very first kids and dad trip, so soon after dropping a bomb on everyone?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [f,22] boyfriend [m,23] keeps making baby hints?
POST: My boyfriend and I have been together a few years. He has a 3 year old daughter from another relationship whom I love as if she was my own, and she loves me in return.
We have always talked about having children one day, but pretty soon as we are aware I may become infertile. HOWEVER, when we talk about the possibility of kids around his family, he has also always said "I don't need any more babies" which confuses me a fair amount.
Last week, his daughter was staying at our house - for no reason, completely out of the blue, my boyfriend tells us both that he wants lots of kids (2 more girls and 3 boys, he later specified), and asked his little girl if she wanted a brother or sister. At this point, she was pretty excited, running around saying "yes daddy, I want a brother and sister!" and he then asked her how soon she wanted a brother or sister, to which she didn't reply, but he told her "anything for you princess, daddy and confusedbabygirl will see what we can do!" Since then he has continued to be very blunt when i've talked about wanting a child or saying the usual "I don't need any more babies."
Reddit - how do I get him to tell me what he's really thinking? I've tried being direct and asking him if he wants kids, but he's really vague and confusing! I'm sorry if this doesn't make any sense, i'm not very good with words.
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My boyfriend told me he wants kids. He also promised his 3 year old daughter that we'd give her a brother or sister soon, but he's so blunt and vague whenever I bring up the topic with him.
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My boyfriend told me he wants kids. He also promised his 3 year old daughter that we'd give her a brother or sister soon, but he's so blunt and vague whenever I bring up the topic with him.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I [22 F] have come to the realization that I am going to be alone for the rest of my life. Any advice on how to be happy with that?
POST: *I'm not really sure if this belongs here, because its more about anti-dating (so to speak), so if I should put it somewhere else please just let me know!*
I've never been kissed, been asked out, had sex, in a relationship, etc. I've been through college and am almost done with grad school, live in a city, have a large social circle, have a job, and am constantly doing fun things and yet I've never met anyone who's been remotely interested in me romantically.
I'm assuming that I give off bad vibes that people find unappealing from a romantic standpoint. Additionally I know that I'm extremely unattractive (or so I've been told), which I'm sure doesn't help anything. I have a pretty strong feeling that I'm never going to be loved romantically, and I'm tired of being miserable about it.
**So, does anyone have any advice on how to accept that you're going to be "forever alone"? And, furthermore, does anyone have advice on how to be happy and content with that knowledge?**
I should mention that I don't have *any* single friends, which means relationships are a constant part of my social interactions (which is totally fine because I adore all of my friends' significant others, but hard because it reminds me that I'll probably never have that). This makes it even more important to me that I be happy knowing I'll be alone - I don't want to be that bitter, single friend.
Any advice?
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I'm beginning to understand that I'm going to be "forever alone," and need advice on how to be happy with that.
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I'm beginning to understand that I'm going to be "forever alone," and need advice on how to be happy with that.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Men of reddit: How do you prefer your partners pubic hair?
POST: I recently went to a bachelorette party and while playing a drinking game of "never have I ever", one of the questions was "never have I ever shaved off all my pubic hair". Which then lead a bunch of mid-twenty year old women to discuss our preferences for shaving our own pubic hair. I was generally shocked about how different we all were (never shaved, full shave, landing strip, Brazilian, etc). It's lead me to think about it for the past few weeks, do men really have a large preference in how women take care of their hair down there?
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bunch of girls got drunk and talked about their pubic hair and now I'm curious what the consensus of men prefer.
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bunch of girls got drunk and talked about their pubic hair and now I'm curious what the consensus of men prefer.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My SO's [M 25] constant self-pitying is becoming a major problem for me [F 26].
POST: I guess what I am mainly looking for is some advice for how I can help him (age 25) cope or how I (age 26) can be supportive without getting annoyed/frustrated. I personally try to always be grateful and look for the best in situations.
When my fiance and I met he was working a job he wasn't thrilled with (I think most of us can relate). His employers were very shady and encouraged unethical business practices. The entire year he was working there he was searching for a new job so I was glad to see that he was not just complaining, but taking action to rectify the situation.
However after taking a stand against the employer's requests to cheat people out of money, they told him to hit the road.
He job searched for several more months complaining the whole time that there are "no good jobs where we live" which is partially true if you ask me, but I encouraged him to take anything to pay the bills since crappy income is better than no income.
Finally it got to a point where he needed health insurance and was "forced" to start working at a family business as a last result (His parents are in the middle of a divorce because his Dad cheated so he has a horrible relationship with his father).
Now he comes home miserable every night with a "woe is me" pouty face on and barely wants to talk. When I push him to talk about what's bothering him he says "You know my situation, I'm miserable in my job..." It doesn't help that he's making no extra money beyond what's necessary to pay his bills.
Now I want to be sympathetic since I know what it's like to get up each day and do something you hate, but at the same time there is only so much pity-party observing I can take.
Other relevant info: We are planning to move across the country in about 4 months for a transfer with my job so he doesn't want to start something new for that short amount of time.
Anyway, how do I help get him out of his funk or how do I keep his miserable mood from making me constantly miserable as well?
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Fiance hasn't been happy with his job/career situation since we've began dating and it's affecting his attitude so much that it's starting to take a toll on our relationship (from my point of view).
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Fiance hasn't been happy with his job/career situation since we've began dating and it's affecting his attitude so much that it's starting to take a toll on our relationship (from my point of view).
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me bisexual [17M] looking for dating/hook up advice [dating romantic and non-romantanic]
POST: I only know how to ask people out and all I get is no!
I know am not ulgy, dumb, or unattractive in general, but no one wants to go out with me!
I can hold a conversion and in my opinion am very good in the sack!!!!
I've only had three girlfriend's all ending because I eventually lose contact with them (relationship ending on a good note in way!)!
I've never been with a guy. I know that am emotionally attracted to them but I don't know if am sexually. That is a huge problem not knowing because if I get into a relationship and I am not sexually attracted to my partner then what's the point of being in that romantic relationship? If there was a just to sleep with a guy without starting a relationship?
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I THINK I AM BISEXUAL AND I DONT KNOW HOW TO CONFIRM IT WITHOUT STARTING A RELATIONSHIP! AS WELL HOW DO I HOOK UP WITHOUT ASKING PEOPLE OUT STEP?
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I THINK I AM BISEXUAL AND I DONT KNOW HOW TO CONFIRM IT WITHOUT STARTING A RELATIONSHIP! AS WELL HOW DO I HOOK UP WITHOUT ASKING PEOPLE OUT STEP?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by shooting a friend 2 Times in the head by accident
POST: So, this happend not today, but on the weekend. We went out to play football (if you're American, you'll call it soccer) on a field nearby. The game was quite even, noone scored. So we decided to take penalty shots to determine the winner. I went for the shot, kicked it hard and hit my friend straight in the face. His nose startet bleeding and he went deep into rage, while I was feeling sorry and the rest laughed thier ass of. Anyways, later that day, we played counterstrike together. He went out mid, I was playing awp, he walked into my shot, boom teamkill headshot. His rage in Teamspeak went over 9000 while our team (same guys from the football game) died laughing. My friend however got so pissed he ragequitted the game and we lost. This way I lost a good friend and my CSGO rank.
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Played soccer, delivered the ball with highspeed to his face, played CS afterwards, shot him in the head with an awp. Lost CSGO match, rank and good friend.
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Played soccer, delivered the ball with highspeed to his face, played CS afterwards, shot him in the head with an awp. Lost CSGO match, rank and good friend.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: 22 YO Male seeking advice!
POST: Hey guys, I'm a 22 year old college male. I'm currently working full-time, making a steady income of 39,519 a year, hourly. I got a car loan recently for a new car, granted it wasnt NEEDED but I wanted it. I am not responsible for housing right now. Hopefully this is enough information, I am currently paying 430/mo for car, 100/mo for student. I'm also now paying for school using my employer's tuition reimbursement, so that should rid of anymore student debt.
I'm seeking advice to see what the most financially intelligent thing to do would be.I'm wondering if it would be wise to just do monthly payments on my loans (slightly higher than the minimum) and keep my savings as a rainy day or if I should just use it all on my loans, also looking for investment advice or just general advice really.
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Slightly increased monthly payments on loans or use my funds to get rid of or chunk one? Any general financial advice for a 22 year old guy to become more financially stable?
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Slightly increased monthly payments on loans or use my funds to get rid of or chunk one? Any general financial advice for a 22 year old guy to become more financially stable?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: [Nsv] tried p90x and didn't actually die!
POST: First time reddit post ever. Been creeping on this sub for 3 weeks now. Thank you everyone who has posted! You got me out of my denial stage.
F/23/276-264 . More than 10 lbs in I decided to try p90x again. I made it about 20 minutes in and had pushed myself too hard and had to pause it to throw up. Once I stopped seeing spots I got right back in and made it 5 more minutes! Then I started seeing spots and threw up again. Luckily I didn't really have anything to come out either time.
At that point though, I temporarily gave up. In a good way though! Instead I think I'll start with something "easy" like c25k before the butt kicking of p90x.
The NSV is that a couple weeks ago I would have been in the mindset to go eat something horribly fattening and give up all together. Today I'm 100% "oops, I'll start slower, heh heh". AND that after setting my alarm early enough for a workout before work for 2 weeks, I ACTUALLY got up and tried instead of sleeping in! That is HUGE for me!
So far I'm losing weight from the most simple explanation I've found yet. Eat less, move more. Not counting calories but being aware of them. Eating a small breakfast so that I don't binge out at lunch. Eating slower so I feel it when I'm full then STOPPING. Parking a little further out. Cutting down on soda intake. Drinking more water. When I feel hungry and it's not meal time I first have a glass of water and wait 10 minutes to make sure I wasn't just thirsty. Tiny little adjustments here and there. Something new added every couple of days. Taken from what other users have said here and molding it to something I know I can do.
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actually got up early to work out! Tried p90x and failed. However, not giving up! Starting with c25k instead. Making small changes to lose weight :)
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actually got up early to work out! Tried p90x and failed. However, not giving up! Starting with c25k instead. Making small changes to lose weight :)
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I've failed at IT, should I do interior design? If so, HOW? (Career advice)
POST: Dear Reddit,
I've been working on getting into Information Technology for all my working life (about five years). It's what I've always wanted to do, but it really seems that I'll never manage despite it being my passion. I started a distance education course to get a bachelor of tech, but haven't managed to keep going on it due to various life things (job being crap, not having/making enough time, motivation fail).
Now that I'm out of work, I've been trying to find a job. I've worked in call centers, and will kill myself if I have to do it any more. I've done a lot of support, and am naturally pretty good with computers. I just can't get a start.
So now, I think I've pretty much given up. I think I have to do something else (have been out of work for three months, and the partner can't support me anymore.)
Done some "career prospecting" questionnaires online, and one of the things that keeps coming back is interior design/decorating. I don't know if I have a flair for it, but I enjoy it, and think that my idea of what "works" and doesn't is pretty good. I've managed to decorate our apartment nicely, and people seem impressed by it. I've talked a lot about it, watch all sorts of interior design shows, and have defined ideas about what is "right" and "wrong". I've discussed it with friends, and it seems pretty attractive to me. So, I'm thinking that's a possibility.
I've been wondering about it for a while, and now I have a chance to do it.
So, should I give it a whack, or should I continue trying to get into IT which seems thankless and impossible? If I should, how do I go about it? Take some courses, look online, or just present ideas to people?
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Trying to get into IT, and failing. Having an early midlife crisis. Should I do interior design, if so, how do I get started?
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Trying to get into IT, and failing. Having an early midlife crisis. Should I do interior design, if so, how do I get started?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Married couple in our twenties looking to console a friend whose wife left him
POST: Our friend is about the same age. They were married for 2 years, together for about 3 years before that. We found out only after the wife left the husband (about 6 weeks ago) that they've been struggling for at least a year. The husband was incredibly stressed out with work and doesn't have good communication skills and had been taking it out on her, to the point that everyone involved now acknowledges he was verbally abusing her for at least this past year. She left and has no intention of coming back, and wants to speak to him minimally except about logistics of the divorce.
He's already made changes (read multiple books about verbal abuse, started seeing a therapist), and believes if he could just convince her to try that things would be better because he now understands that he was mistreating her. She's fully convinced that she doesn't want to try to fix things and feels relieved to be out of the marriage.
Now that I've spoken with the wife a couple of times, I'm realizing that there's very little hope of reconciliation, and I'm trying to help the husband move on. He's stuck on the fact that she's not willing to try and that she's only talked to him for several hours total about the dissolution of their 5 year relationship. He believes he'll never be happy without her. I don't know how to help him!
My husband and I are the closest friends to them and are the main support system of the husband. We get together with him 1-2 times a week, and a lot of it is spent talking about their relationship (understandably). The other concern here is how to be helpful without also getting myself depressed, because it's been an extremely stressful year for me and I'm having my own struggles with optimism and being the main support system for someone whose life is crashing down around him is leading me to my own internal freakouts (e.g. when I first found out about their impending divorce, I was so affected that I cried a lot the next day and had had to take a personal day from work to deal with my new feelings about the fact that the optimistic beliefs I tend to hold about life might be irrational).
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How do I be a support system for my friend whose wife left him, and do so without sending myself into a tailwind of depression too?
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How do I be a support system for my friend whose wife left him, and do so without sending myself into a tailwind of depression too?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I am 21/M my co-Worker 21/F sending mixed signals how do I react?
POST: Me and my co-worker (21 F) started talking recently more and more, there's clearly signs of flirting going on at work and when we hangout out of work. She has sent me texts Like "My moms out of town we can do whatever we want ;)" Makes constant sex jokes to me like "I love being on top" while saying it is not the laughing "Thats what she said tone" while saying this she will make eye contact with a flirtatious smile. But then she will out of the blue say comments like "It's stupid to date your friends."
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Co-Worker makes comments suggesting to come over and have sex then will say...I wont date my friend last time it went horribly.
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Co-Worker makes comments suggesting to come over and have sex then will say...I wont date my friend last time it went horribly.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: I (F/22) need some help motivating my (M/27) boyfriend to drop some weight.
POST: We have been together over a year. He's probably 50lbs or so overweight, and it's all belly. I run 5ks, I'm training for my first Triathlon next month so I am always doing something to help us try and motivate each other. For the past 6 months we have eaten quite healthy- low carbs, whole grains, quinoa or brown rice, lots of vegetables, mostly lean ground chicken or turkey and lots of salad, beans, ect.
We never order takeout, eat fast food, can't tell you the last time we had pizza, fried food, no pasta dishes or heavy sauces on anything. It's hard to notice if all these things we are doing have had any effect on him, he hasn't said much about his clothes fitting better, ect.
He has two full time jobs A) Full Time Firefighter working 48 hours then off 96 B) He owns and maintains a landscaping business that has 50 accounts, working 10-12 hour days to get it all done on his 4 days off.
Needless to say, I understand when he gets home he's tapped out exhausted and sometimes going for a walk/bike ride is the last thing he wants but where is this extra weight come from? Maybe he's binge eating at the firehouse? Or eating crappy food on his lawn breaks? I carefully told him that only he can make a change, I will support him and help as he wants me to but at the end of the day if he doesn't have the drive; I cannot force it and do it for him.
It also concerns me, as we are quite a serious relationship that if we ever had kids they would think it is OK to be over weight, if that makes sense. Any advice?
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Boyfriend is sort of trying to lose it, however he is so exhausted from working it gets put down on his priorities.
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Boyfriend is sort of trying to lose it, however he is so exhausted from working it gets put down on his priorities.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: [x-post from r/AskReddit] Every day I see a kid getting bullied, and I don't know what to do.
POST: I get the bus to work most days, and each time I'm on it, there's this group of rowdy schoolboys sitting in the back seats, shouting and swearing and generally being teenage boys.
They get off at the stop that this sweet little boy (let's call him Fred) gets on at, even though they all go to the same school. Fred is tiny, only about 4'6", whereas these others boys are well over five feet tall. When they get off, they push him and shove him around, laugh at him and shout his name and cat-call and whistle at him. Every day, he gets on the bus close to, or in, tears.
I realise this isn't the full extent of the bullying, it's only the tiny portion I see, and nothing makes me angrier than a group of bullies ganging up on some defenseless kid.
I really, utterly detest the thought of just being another onlooker, watching the mob and doing fuck all to help the victim, but I have absolutely no idea what to do. I know Fred's first name and his and the bullys' school, so realistically I could call them up and do something about it, but I feel like that would be interfering and I'm worried it might make matters worse for Fred. I've considered talking to him on the bus, but again I don't want to interfere and I don't think Fred would appreciate knowing just how visible his pain is to people.
Should I just let it slide and mind my own business, or should I try to take action?
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little kid is getting bullied by big kids, I'm a bystander and don't know if I should get involved.
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little kid is getting bullied by big kids, I'm a bystander and don't know if I should get involved.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19/m] with my ex girlfriend [19/f] of two weeks. We're getting back together, can I tell her to stop talking to a guy who's been flirting with her?
POST: My ex and I split up after being together for around nine months and good friends for a year before. It was a rocky relationship with some very good parts and some very bad parts. After being away from each other for two weeks, we're both going to try and get back together.
Except in this time she met a new guy at work, who has been flirting with her heavily for two weeks, calling her 'Stunning' and 'Gorgeous' and messaging her every day. She got a lift home with him during this time and he tried to hold her hand, where she apparently told him no and that she just got out of a relationship. She didn't tell me about any of this during the two weeks we were apart and said she wasn't flirting back, but there may have been some "innuendos" at points. In our early relationship history she had a history of flirting with other men when we were fighting or bad, and rarely being truthful about it. That improved to a certain extent.
My question is, can I tell her to stop speaking to this guy? To remove him off facebook and say she doesn't want to speak anymore? Am I being overly controlling or I am justified because we shouldn't be starting a relationship together when she has another man on the side lines like that? It makes me feel pretty terrible and I don't feel like she should continue having any contact with him apart from the saturday (on and off) they have to spend together working.
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split with ex of 9 / 10 months. Guy flirted with her heavily during the two weeks we were apart. We're getting back together. Can I tell her to stop speaking to him?
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split with ex of 9 / 10 months. Guy flirted with her heavily during the two weeks we were apart. We're getting back together. Can I tell her to stop speaking to him?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [20/f] I think I'm friend-zoning my best friend. (20/m) What do I do?
POST: So we've been good friends for almost 9 months and talk A LOT. Mostly online, but we hang out in person when we get the chance and we chatted on the phone a bit over the summer. However, sometimes stuff he has said has made me wonder if he actually likes me, or he's gotten more comfortable with the fact we're friends and isn't afraid of me misunderstanding. And before you ask, yes, we have actually talked about what happened if unreciprocated crushing/love were to occur, and we basically agreed that we can't really predict what may or may not have in the future. However, neither of us want to lose the other's friendship, so if this situation were to occur, I assume no one would confess.
But now I think this may actually be happening. If it is, what do I do? Do I pull away and give him space so he can get over me (because I do not foresee myself anytime wanting to be with him)? Do I confront him? I really think I'm just going to ignore it and let him do what he wants. If he doesn't want to confess and just go on as everything's normal, then I will too. I don't want to screw up our friendship, and he's strong enough to handle this, I think. But what do you guys think?
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My best friend may have a crush on me, but he knows I'm not attracted to him nor wish to date him. If he does like me, should I do something about it?
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My best friend may have a crush on me, but he knows I'm not attracted to him nor wish to date him. If he does like me, should I do something about it?
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