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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit TITLE: NSV, I now take a bike and the stairs to work. POST: As far as my weight goes, the short story is that I somehow got to be over 260 pounds at 5'9"-ish, and then lost about 80 pounds. That was a few years ago. I was in damn good shape. Could run, was thinking about joining the armed forces. Everything was awesome... A few years later, and I fell off. I turn 24 next week, and I was recently juuuuust over 300 pounds. I live almost exactly 100 miles north of New York City. Last semester IU started commuting to the city for work and school. I still live up north, because I have another job up there. Train tickets got expensive, so I saved money by biking instead of taking the subway. I only just started eating healthier a couple weeks ago, but I'm down about 10-15 pounds right now. Just hit 286, and I'm very happy. I know it isn't really progress, but it's nice to know that it's all improvement from here. I've done it before, and I can do it again. I know I won't let myself fall off. So the first few times I took a bike a few miles from Grand Central Terminal to my job, only a few miles, I was so tired the next day. Mostly just my legs (Coat + Backpack didnt help >.<). Anyway, it has been getting easier, and I think now that it's warm I'll take up some weekend leisure rides. :) Also, about 20 minutes ago, I took the elevator down to street level to go buy some food, and realized I forgot my wallet, which means I forgot my elevator key. I could have asked the door man, but instead just took the stairs 21 floors up. I was almost out of breath at the top, and I'm sure I will get muscle cramps tomorrow, but it was so worth it. :) TL;DR: . Assistant:	I bike a few miles to work now, and finally took the stairs 21 flights up. Mostly just an "I'm excited" kinda post.	I bike a few miles to work now, and finally took the stairs 21 flights up. Mostly just an "I'm excited" kinda post.	99
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [29 M] found a great place to live, with a small catch. The house is owned by a 80 year old woman who lives downstairs and sublets two big bedrooms upstairs. POST: Hello folks, I relocated to Boston and have been searching for a place to live in Greater Boston for the last few weeks. Last night, I found a place through a friend. It is an old colonial house in a very upscale neighborhood. The house is owned by an 80 year old woman whose husband just passed away. She is spending most of the pension going to Rabbinical school and is renting out two bedrooms on the second floor of the house. Not overtly religious, former English teacher and a very very nice person with good neighbors. She is offering me one of the bedrooms upstairs (they are both pretty big) and full access to every amenity in the house for a competitive rate. My question mostly comes down to: 1. Should I, as a single 29 year old male live in a house that is owned by an 80 year old woman? 2. Living with someone and having a nice friendly conversation are two completely different things. This lady hasn't lived with roommates in her life and I am not sure if she would be up to it. Also, I don't want to end up being bossed around by the "owner" regarding rules, guests, etc. She says that she has no problems with any of those things, but I am not sure she understands that there might be some adjustment required on her end too. 3. Finally, if something were to happen to her (she's pretty old), what would be my responsibility as a tenant? Would I be expected to take care of her to some extent? That is a dealbreaker, I can't do that for various reasons. Any advice is appreciated. If someone has lived with an older adult with a huge age gap, personal experiences would be invaluable here! TL;DR: . Assistant:	29 M found a place to life with 80 F for competitive rate, but not sure if it is a good idea.	29 M found a place to life with 80 F for competitive rate, but not sure if it is a good idea.	4,290
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [23M] with my girlfriend of nine months [22F] unsure what to think about her hanging out with a guy friend POST: So my girlfriend of 9 months recently moved away for college. She is a 4 hour drive away so it's a bit long distance but we've seen each other most weekends. Recently a guy she previously knew started talking to her again and they've begun to hang out a bit. I not sure how two feel cause this guy has previously told her that he had feelings for her (previous to our relationship). When we began our relationship he stopped talking to my girlfriend until recently (she lived away from him in the same town I'm in) . They caught up for coffee and had a chat. My girlfriend told me he stayed away because he didn't want to sabotage our relationship. They have hung out twice both times just the two of them at coffee shops. I'm just not sure how to feel.. It makes me a bit uncomfortable (which I've communicated with her) but not sure if I should be more worried. I trust her completely... But him not so much. Guess I'm just asking how I should approach the situation. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Girlfriend is hanging out with a guy who previously said he had feelings for her and I'm not sure how to feel	Girlfriend is hanging out with a guy who previously said he had feelings for her and I'm not sure how to feel	5,665
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: [21M] here. GF [19F] who I've been dating for 2 months is now acting strange. What to do? POST: Hello everyone. I've been dating this girl for about two months and I liked her very much (still do). From what I understood she liked me very much too (even maybe more). From the very beginning she was super friendly, almost always texted me first, and so on. She even initiated our first kiss herself. Now here's the problem. About a week and a half ago she started to act weirdly. When asked why, she said she's exhausted because of the things in her university and lessons at the choir she's singing in. And yeah, she's been really busy, a lot of concerts and blahblah. She also said, that she's sad or something, springtime sadness she called it. 6 days ago I asked her (through text, because she has a free week and is at family's home in different city) to tell me if she still liked me or is she tired of me, because I'm not a fan of her being like that. She said, that she's confused, kind of isolated from people or from communication and doesn't know why is she like that. I was told by her to relax because she's thinking about things and doesn't want to do a mistake and that everything will be clear after that free week of hers. Then I told her "I kind of sense where this is going. Tell me when you're finished thinking. See you don't know when". She said "OK, see you soon". It's been about 6 days without any contact and that free week is ending tomorrow. Sorry for the long text and for my bad english, but I'm feeling really sad and confused, trying hard not to text her. What should I do? Have anyone ever dealt with something similar? PLEASE HELP. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Girl which I really clicked with became distant, strange and said she's confused and doesn't want to do a mistake. No contact for six days. Help please?	Girl which I really clicked with became distant, strange and said she's confused and doesn't want to do a mistake. No contact for six days. Help please?	1,244
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: (23/M) need to move on from feelings for friend, advice? POST: Last year I (23/M) struck up a friendship with a married coworker (20s/F). We both had some issues going on in our lives and it felt really good to have someone to talk to. It stayed friendly for a few months until we both admitted that it was starting to become more than a friendship. Neither of us were interested in having an affair but after another month we started spending a lot of time together. Eventually she felt that we should have some space from each other, which I reluctantly agreed with. Looking back now I see that it was the right decision but at the time it really hurt. I've done my best to keep my distance, but things have been awkward since then because I still feel strongly about her. I know that it's best for her to stay committed to her marriage, but I'm just having a really tough time moving on from how I feel. Any advice is appreciated. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Married friend and I developed feelings for each other, ended up hurting our friendship and I'm having a hard time moving on.	Married friend and I developed feelings for each other, ended up hurting our friendship and I'm having a hard time moving on.	2,227
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: I [19/ M] lack the social skills to talk to anyone online and it is not helping my long distance relationship with a [18/F] POST: I can not talk to anyone online like in a call on skype besides one person and this person is my best friend. When I talk to him I get more confidence when I talk to him. Well a few months ago I met a girl while I was on a trip I got her kik and stuff and we started talking and we started dating. I was not until later in the relationship however that we we started to talk on skype. Now here is where my problem starts because I don't know how to talk to someone online, I can do it in person, but online its different the only person I am able to do that with is the friend I talked about earlier. So my question basically is how do I talk to my girlfriend online? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Met this girl in real life we talked on skype and I cant talk to her or anyone else online because of my social skills and I need help trying to fix this.	Met this girl in real life we talked on skype and I cant talk to her or anyone else online because of my social skills and I need help trying to fix this.	5,049
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice TITLE: I (16f) have just started talking to this guy (17) and I'm trying not to overthink things while still figuring out if he's interested POST: So we met last Sunday and we're planning on going longboarding this coming Sunday with a couple friends. We've been texting since then and we've exchanged probably like 250 messages back and forth. We talk a lot about longboarding but we also occasionally ask the other what they're up to and stuff like that. Any ideas on if he's interested or not? TL;DR: . Assistant:	I've been talking to this guy my friend wants to set me up with for almost a week and want to know if he's interested in a relationship or just friendship	I've been talking to this guy my friend wants to set me up with for almost a week and want to know if he's interested in a relationship or just friendship	5,533
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by inviting the locals to hang out with the hairy twins POST: Ok as is quite common, this didn't happen today, this happened many years ago in the far north Australian town of cooktown Cooktown, was a great place, heaps of Sun, good fishing etc. But just my luck as a young boy, I ventured into the Bush to get my fishing line (my bad for a terrible cast) and disturbed some local natives, I didn't notice anything at the time. The hours passed and I was enjoying fishing on the jetty, my body began to succumb to urinary urges and I went in search of a place to Pee, which as a guy is easy. Anyway, for some reason I couldn't feel myself peeing, again, didn't think much of it. Later in the day I needed to take a Shit, and I couldn't feel my Ass when sitting on the toilet seat, at this time I brought it to my parents attention. We went to cooktown hospital, or medical clinic, I don't really remember. The doctor had a look, specifically my rear end, and I remember the doctor quite well, he was a very chatty person and at the moment his eyes laid upon my rear end he went quiet, and after a few seconds of awkward silence he uttered words I'll never forget "oh Shit". A paralysis tick had found it's way to the back of my scrotum, that little bloodsucking demon, it's head buried deep within my manlyhood, after 4 hours of the doctor trying to extract the tick with the conventional methylated spirits way, and by the way, metho on your balls feels unusual. In the end I was anesthetised and a portion of my scrotum, including the bulbous little monster was removed. I couldn't Pee without crying like a little Bitch for a month and I cannot Pee straight anymore, on top of that I now have a tight shiny scarred scrotum. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I wandered into the forest, picked up a vampiric hitchhiker that ruined my ability to urinate for the rest of my life and had lost part of my scrotum.	I wandered into the forest, picked up a vampiric hitchhiker that ruined my ability to urinate for the rest of my life and had lost part of my scrotum.	95
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Is it ok to text of ex of 2 years to text to see how she is? POST: Hey, so its been two years, she met new guys, I met new women. When we see each other we talk casually about work, how we've been and so on. We didnt remain friends, which is totally fine by me, but still we care. A couple of weeks ago, we met at a business event, she mentioned that she had a lots of stress at work, up to the point where she got sick at the beginning of the year. We also talked about a mutual friend who got seriously ill. My question is, is it ok to text her to ask her how shes doing now? If everything turned out fine? Whats you opinion? The problem is, I suspect that she is thinking I never got over her, and I dont want to make that impression. I still care, but not like that. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Should I text ex? Sorry for the title. I dont know how i messed it up that bad :) can't change it though	Should I text ex? Sorry for the title. I dont know how i messed it up that bad :) can't change it though	888
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by buying a phone POST: I just got a job, got a source of income. My first job, I'm 18. I am intelligent- you can't say this without appearing pompous- for my age, and usually avoid mistakes people make. But by believing this, I thought it was true, I never make the mistakes, which was the mistake in itself. I bought a $720 phone- I won't advertise anything, or endorse any product, without receiving money- and well.. I have it. Yes, it's sitting next to me charging as I type this, mocking me. See I already had a phone, but it was 2 generations old. I'm upgrading for the sake of upgrading. My aunt talked to me about this, decision. Bringing up the marshmellow experiment, long term gratification. I myself am a psychologist enthusiast, this resonated deep within me. She's right, I am the kid who just licked the marshmallow, holy fuck. But by realizing this poor decision, as I am a college student with debt accumulating. This was a horrible choice!! I am becoming a consumer, but it doesn't stop there. Now it's a phone, then it's a smart watch charger, then god forbid an ice-cream! I'm out of control, but get this. This was a chain reaction. By realizing this, I remember about GIRL ( no name, pseudonym). She was into me, but I didn't realize it, because I was an idiot. Now, it relates to this TIFU (well, it was 2 days ago, when I bought it) But I remembered the expression every poor person uses, "Money doesn't buy happiness" I agree, but it makes it easier. I was buying my happiness, I realized I was buying this phone for momentarily happiness. I will need more, tomorrow. God I realized this so young, before it got bad. I need to get back with GIRL, because I have a hole in my heart. Happiness, she will fulfill my desire, leaving me sane again. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I just got my first job, spend paycheck immediately. Thinking I was better than americans spending money, I was doing the exact same thing, driving me into debt.	I just got my first job, spend paycheck immediately. Thinking I was better than americans spending money, I was doing the exact same thing, driving me into debt.	3,840
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: I [22/M] haven't had many relationships need advice on how to make and progress a healthy one POST: Ok so to start here's a brief synopsis of my past relationships: my first official one was about a year ago she [20/F] (I was 21 at the time) was shy and lived in the next state over, and didn't have a car but worked with me to find good times to meet and I made an effort to visit her regularly. It was both our first real relationship so things didn't go very far in the physical department. when the fall semester started we were able to meet more frequently and I though things had been going well but suddenly it ended with her saying that she doesn't have romantic feelings for me after some introspection on her part. I reacted badly and too emotionally (crying and asking why, similar bs) mostly due that being my first real breakup. My second relationship went better [21/f], we hung out a bit during summer (we lived closer and met more often and played some online games frequently) and got comfortable being close to one another but when college started back up I barely saw her. I tried every other week to set aside time for us but she consistently replied that she was too busy with work and school, I told her we could meet any time I wasn't in class but she rarely (once in 2 months) worked with me to find a good time. At this point I became rather dejected but kept it to myself and felt like she either didn't really like me and just wasn't telling me or I had done something wrong, but she said I hadn't done anything. So after a few weeks and only texting, with her changing the subject every time I tried to tell her how I was feeling and going out of my way to make time for us even if it was minimal and non romantic I broke up with her by basically saying that if she couldn't put any more effort into the relationship than she already was that we should just be friends. I was mad at her but I kept it to myself. I feel I should also say that I'm a high functioning autistic (NLD/NVLD) who has adapted well but still has a lot of trouble interpreting body language and nonverbal cues. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I want a healthy relationship but am unsure how to best progress to that point, my previous relationships did not get to the point where we were emotionally or physically comfortable with one another.	I want a healthy relationship but am unsure how to best progress to that point, my previous relationships did not get to the point where we were emotionally or physically comfortable with one another.	1,184
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by vomiting in church. POST: As you all have probably guessed by now, no this did not happen today, but when I was twelve. The day is Easter Sunday, and my sister is sick. I'm not a religious man but when I was younger my family insisted on going to church, so as usual my mother and I attended Easter mass. I felt fine for the whole hour and a half or so before communion, and then we line it up to collect our jeezit cracker. I put it in my mouth and my stomach rolls, and I tell my mom I'm gonna be sick. I remember her asking if I can wait just a little longer as we enter the pew but she couldn't even finish her sentence before my twelve year old self projectile vomited the body of Christ all over God's workshop. Everybody gasped and whispered to one another and I never realized until I was older that they all probably thought I was the antichrist or something. They never made me go back to church after that, or Sunday school for that matter so I was chill. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Projectile vomited the body of Christ on his rebirth day, was thought to be an antichrist and got to skip out on church for the rest of forever	Projectile vomited the body of Christ on his rebirth day, was thought to be an antichrist and got to skip out on church for the rest of forever	3,193
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I've [31/m] got some interesting questions about my platonic friend [26/f] POST: I've moved to a city, I'll be here temporarily. Through OKCupid, I've made a friend here who's about five years younger than I am. She and I are good friends, and other than a drunken kiss (For context, we were drunk, but I'm not comfortable with pursuing things with drunken women, so I paid for a cab to get her home safe). Shortly after, she made it quite clear that we're better as friends, and in balance, that was a better thing to do. I am, however, having an issue with some of the ways she crosses lines – If she's not attracted to me, I'm pretty uncomfortable with the fact that she puts her head in my lap when she comes by to watch movies. I have spoken to her about it, and she sees that it's a space-and-signals thing. She also has no problem telling me about guys that she's slept with, albeit in oblique ways I'm less and less attracted to her because of some maturity issues she has, but she's a nice person to be around. At this point, I would really like to know a few things, and would appreciate opinions: 1) Why tell me who you're sleeping with? 2) There's a clear maturity gap. I don't make friends very easily, and it's a pattern of behaviour which I've been trying to break, as it's important to have a diverse group of friends around. That being said, would it be a good idea to continue the friendship? TL;DR: . Assistant:	1) Is it worth keeping the friendship when the maturity levels don't match? 2) She's not interested, but keeps pushing boundaries. What's up with that?	1) Is it worth keeping the friendship when the maturity levels don't match? 2) She's not interested, but keeps pushing boundaries. What's up with that?	535
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My ex?-girlfiend [35F] physically assaulted me [28M] during an argument for the first time, why do I feel guilty? POST: My partner woke me up this morning after I muttered a patients name during my sleep (I work as a medical dispatcher) she assumed I was cheating on her and demanded to check my phone, I complied since I had nothing to hide. She found a video of me at the clubs last year which I did not tell her, it was a video of just the club and I was with my boys with no girls present. I refused to speak about this since I was not in the right mind set to talk about this since I was still half asleep, I went into the lounge and tried to ignore the situation until later on. She did not agree to this and tried to wake me up and confront me about this, I was upset and I did tell her to "f*ck off, I'll speak to you when I'm awake". She demanded to to talk about this and grabbed me by the wrists, I still refused to talk about it as I was furious and did not want to make the situation worse. She then got extremely upset and decided to punch me in the arm and slap me in the face numerous of times, I pleaded her to stop and told her it was not the right thing to do, I threaten to call the police and she kept going for 30 mins I called the cops to come and I did not lay a single finger on her. The took her away and advised she was not to come back until tomorrow and I refused to press an charges. She is an international student from Japan and English isn't her first language, I'm born in Australia so my English is fluent. We have been dating for 1 year, I understand there is some communication problems at times but we enjoy each others company and have not had major arguments in the past. We just moved out together 1 month into an apartment and invested a lot of time and money into it. Do I try and make it work? Should I leave? Why do I feel like I was responsible and guilty? TL;DR: . Assistant:	moved into apartment with partner after 1 year of dating for 1 month and she assaulted me for the first time after an argument because I refused to communicate, where do I go from here?	moved into apartment with partner after 1 year of dating for 1 month and she assaulted me for the first time after an argument because I refused to communicate, where do I go from here?	3,288
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: Do I [25F] risk losing the friendship I've formed with ex [35M] and sleep with him? POST: My ex boyfriend and I dated for 7 or so months. He was always really busy and I felt neglected, so much so that I ended the relationship. We had the best sex I have ever had in my life though. We've remained friends. Then I began to date this other guy, Tom. Tom and I were together for two and a half years. We lived together and everything was great until it wasn't anymore. He is 28 and I'm 25 and he just stopped being attracted to me I guess, because he would never try to sleep with me. I had to initiate everything and half the time he would reject me because he was on adderall or something. We didn't click sexually. In fact, when I told him how I wanted rough sex, he replied about how he "isn't into rape" and made me feel really shitty. I broke up with him last Thursday (it was very civil, he didn't try to get me to change my mind, it's very obvious he's no longer interested) and he is in the process of moving out. He's not staying at my house, he is just packing on the weekends (while i stay at my sisters) and should be out by the end of this weekend. I have been talking to my ex lately about my breakup and he's really been supportive. Not like a "I want to get in your pants" supportive, but just a really great listener. He's probably one of my best friends, but I really want to fuck him. In fact we've talked about it. Neither of us want to date again, we just both agreed it was like the best sex ever. My question is - do I go down the sticky friends with benefits road with my ex? I don't want to "ruin" our friendship, but we've already had sex before and I kind of feel like this would make our friendship stronger. He's the most open person ever sexually, we explore all kinds of fantasies. Of course I won't be sleeping with anyone until all of Tom's shit is out of my house because I need to make sure I close that door for real. Keep in mind I haven't have sex for about 5 or so months. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I am super fucking horny and am getting out of a relationship with a guy who never wanted to have sex. Do I have sex with the guy who I dated before him, who is now my close friend?	I am super fucking horny and am getting out of a relationship with a guy who never wanted to have sex. Do I have sex with the guy who I dated before him, who is now my close friend?	2,390
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice TITLE: Protecting my brand - question POST: I'm starting a business (only local and online at first, no brick and mortar) and at first this will only be selling apparel. I have a name of the business, a name of the apparel line, and a logo. I've check trademarks and everything is fine - do I need to trademark the name before I sell anything? The trademark (I believe has to be done separate since the names are slightly different between company name and apparel line name) is expensive I think (700 up front maybe?) - didn't know without doing that if I had any protection if someone stole my name and or logo. TL;DR: . Assistant:	if I start an apparel line and don't trademark the name or logo, do I have any protection against someone stealing my name/logo? [USA] [Pennsylvania]	if I start an apparel line and don't trademark the name or logo, do I have any protection against someone stealing my name/logo? [USA] [Pennsylvania]	267
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My mom [51F] acts like a toddler and it's driving me [23F] nuts. POST: My mother [51] and I [23F] used to have a fantastic relationship. We would go shopping together, we called each other every day if we were apart, and I could tell her anything. Then she got into a car accident which nearly scalped her. Ever since then, she has changed. She focuses solely on herself and acts like a toddler or teenager. She only buys name brand clothes, always wears heavy amounts of makeup, and frequents the local tanning salon. Needless to say, I find it increasingly more difficult to be around her. I am now forced to be a mother figure to my sister [19] because of her ideals. Now, my fiancé [24M] and I are planning our wedding and my mother's attitude is intolerable. She has taken it upon herself to look into the catering, but has become so focused on this, that she no longer cares about the rest of the wedding. She told me, "I want the food to be perfect because I'm going for the food because I don't dance." I am constantly getting bombarded by my mother about the catering and she is concerned with nothing else. I feel as if she has lost sight of her family and is stressing me out about the wedding. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Advice needed on fixing the relationship between me [23F] and my mom [51F] who acts like a toddler.	Advice needed on fixing the relationship between me [23F] and my mom [51F] who acts like a toddler.	2,620
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice TITLE: Am I wasting my time with her? Need advice POST: Let me explaine my situation (Sorry if I make mistakes, english isn't my first language). So I'm a 20yo male, been dating this girl for 3-4 months and it's my first relationship. I've known her for 3 years and she has been treated like shit by her 2 other boyfriends in the past, I should also mention that she is on heavy anti anxiety meds and has depression (this will seems like an important detail) Anyway hear is why i'm asking this - everything was just perfect until about 3 weeks ago, at first the contact was constant, we would text everyday and with time it became more rational and we'ed text a bit through the week before we saw each other. This all stopped after one date where she told me the L word for the first time - one week no contact, and when i texted she replied 1 week later. The thing is, we still saw each other on a date, and she was affectionate and all, but then BAM she goes cold on me by text again but a week and a half latter we see each other again and it's all normal in person again. I have confronted her about this, asked if everything was ok but she gave me very vague answers like "I'm the kind of person who needs to think about there problems before asking for others people's oppinions" and "You can talk about anything with me" (In my head I was like : wtf, you never answer your phone and text when the planets are aligned) I should also add that I left the country for a month and a half 4 days ago (maybe that has somthing to do with her distance? but shouldn't it be the opposit?) TL;DR: . Assistant:	My girlfriend's words contradict her actions, this could be her messed up head (or just mine) or somthing else, some advice would be lovely	My girlfriend's words contradict her actions, this could be her messed up head (or just mine) or somthing else, some advice would be lovely	3,740
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [22/F] with my bf [25M] 10 months, is it wrong that I want to talk to his ex to find out why they broke up? POST: His ex lives in a different city, and I've never met her, but I found her on Facebook and have gotten into the bad habit of checking up on her every day to see what she's up to. She seems perfect, and she and my bf dated for like 5 years and he really loved her. A part of me thinks he still does because the relationship ended abruptly after she was unfaithful to him. He doesn't talk about their relationship. I know he shouldn't, but I'm so curious to know what he was like with her, and what caused her to cheat on him. I'm insecure of their relationship because I've never dated before I met him, but he loved someone else. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Boyfriend dated girl for 5 years. Is it wrong for me to contact her on facebook to see what bf was like in their relationship?	Boyfriend dated girl for 5 years. Is it wrong for me to contact her on facebook to see what bf was like in their relationship?	1,630
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My GFs [20 F] birthday today and I [21 M] feel really bad POST: My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for nearly a year now and it is her birthday today. I wanted to spend some time with her but she didn't bother to reply. I'm not proud of it but I logged onto her facebook and she was chatting with this guy continuously. I always figured when 2 people are really in love, they'd spend their best days with the other as well as their worsts. I had a lot planned for her and it hurt me when she didn't bother chatting with me. I didn't say anything because I didn't want to fight with her on her birthday. I know on my birthday, I'd love to spend every minute talking to her. It kinda feels like she doesn't really care that much and she has other people and when things go to shit with them, she'll come back to me. Or am I really stupid and I should let her enjoy her day? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Girlfriend ignoring me on her birthday because shes too busy chatting with other guys. Am I stupid to feel bad about it?	Girlfriend ignoring me on her birthday because shes too busy chatting with other guys. Am I stupid to feel bad about it?	2,271
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: [17/f] I caught my brother [16/m] in my room wearing my clothes, he confesses to me that he has always been gay and wants to be a girl, how can I support him further? POST: About 2 weeks ago, I came home one day from school earlier than usual because my teacher let us go early, and when I got home, I heard moaning noises in my bedroom. Right there and then I thought things aren't gonna be good, I found my brother masturbating while wearing my panties, clothes and heels. Immediately shit turns awkward and at first I was creeped out like no tomorrow. But we sat down and he begged me to hear him out. He basically came out saying he is gay or bi but he doesn't know? His exact words were "I want to become a pretty girl like you sis". I kind of understood that my brother has been hiding all this and him finally coming out made me a bit happy and I want to support him 100%. Obviously he didn't tell anyone else, and our parents are honestly the biggest obstacle because they are the strict Asian types (we are 2nd generation Viet). So my brother has never told anyone until now. I want to help him and support him, so I promised him that I'll lend him some of my clothes and undies and even help him buy feminine stuff for him. I don't really know what else I could do for him considering our parents will likely kick him out of the house if they found out about his sexual orientation. I want to be the best big sister and be there for him, ever since he came out (about 2 weeks ago) we started hanging out more and connecting on a more personal level. At night when our parents are asleep he would just sneak over and we would have "girl talk" and play dress up, I know it might sound weird but it makes him happy and I am happy for him too, knowing that the only time he can be himself is with me. How can I help him further, I know its hard for him to hide it and he just seems to enjoy life so much more whenever hes in my room being himself? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Caught brother wearing my clothes, turns out he is gay and has always wanted to be a girl. I support him 100% but our parents are super strict Asian parents. What else can I do for him?	Caught brother wearing my clothes, turns out he is gay and has always wanted to be a girl. I support him 100% but our parents are super strict Asian parents. What else can I do for him?	6,454
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Am I crazy? POST: Dear Reddit, On the Global Reddit Meet-up Day June 19th I met a few new people and friended 2 of them on Face Book. Not long after that I broke up with the man who introduced me to Reddit and started talking to one of my new friends. We set up 2 dates, and preempted one by watching fireworks on July 3rd before a cookout at his friends place on the 4th. We have seen each other nearly every day since then, its been 2 and 1/2 weeks. In the first few days he gave me a computer. We had a wonderful time on all the planned dates and even just watching movies at his place and eating pizza was fantastic fun. On the 16th he gave me a key to his apartment so I could lock the door after sleeping in and since then I can come and go as I please. I had found an apartment to live in from August 2010 to 2011, and he said if I needed help getting together the first months rent and security deposit that he could help me, also he could borrow a truck to help me move, and at that point he jokingly said that I could just rent his other room. Now its not joking, it would be economically beneficial for us both if I simply moved in with him and he is serious in his offer. We have future plans for a 4 day camping trip and if I do move in we will save enough money that I can go with him on a trip to Jamaica in November. TL;DR: . Assistant:	We met because of Reddit, and have been dating 2 and 1/2 weeks. Am I crazy for even thinking of moving in with him?	We met because of Reddit, and have been dating 2 and 1/2 weeks. Am I crazy for even thinking of moving in with him?	5,648
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: [EX] Me [23 M] with my Ex[22 F] 3.5 years, i want her back. POST: Ok fellow redditors, here we go; 6 months ago my ex broke up with me because "she didn't feel the way she was supposed to feel anymore" but.. As stated in the title, i want my ex back, probably sounds pretty generic but i cant help it. We broke up 6 months ago, i was fucking pissed and got into a new relationship, thought it was a good idea at first i had great sex and great talk with my new girlfriend but something was missing all the time. Found out my "new" girlfriend was a just a rebound to my ex so i decided i should end the relationship between us.. Also as a matter of fact i thought about my ex every single day during our relationship, about how it would be if she didn't break up with me and hearing all the voices of friends and relatives inside my head at the breakup; "its a shame, thought you would get married soon and get children and such" and all that crap. After all, i miss her every day so god damn bad i'm thinking of asking her out just to check out her interest in me, maybe its something and we could start over again? right? After all its the only person ever in my life i felt comfortable with in a relationship, in my eyes she was perfect. So yeah, maybe its my head messing with me or maybe she is the one.. i don't really know anymore i feel that this post doesn't even make sense to you guys. I still have about weekly (friendly) contact with her at the moment What do you think? I'm just so fucking confused.. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Broke up, got new GF, broke up again because cant stop thinking of the love of my life; my ex.	Broke up, got new GF, broke up again because cant stop thinking of the love of my life; my ex.	1,121
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: How do I [26M] break up with my girlfriend [28F] of one year and minimize the impact on her? POST: I have been dating my girlfriend for just over a year. The relationship has been more than great. It is the best relationship I have ever been in. She is caring, loving, respectful and loyal. There isn't a thing she wouldn't do for me. Unfortunately I have issues. Lately, I have been thinking about the commitment. I don't think I'm ready to be committed to someone at this stage in my life. I need a few years to get certain things out of my system. Like sleeping around, meeting and dating more people. I know this sounds terrible, but I can't be dishonest with my girlfriend. When I go out with my guy friends, all I want to do is talk to women and hook up with them. I have not cheated on my girlfriend at all, but I am concerned that eventually I may slip. She deserves better than this. How do I go about this without totally crushing her heart? I am so upset and hurt even thinking about breaking up with her. I'm the verge of crying as I'm typing this. She has been so wonderful to me, yet I am the asshole that wants to break up. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I'm not ready to be committed to my amazing girlfriend at this point in my life. I don't know how to tell her this without crushing her heart.	I'm not ready to be committed to my amazing girlfriend at this point in my life. I don't know how to tell her this without crushing her heart.	4,108
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [33F] with my boyfriend [31M] of 6 months, I am curious about something but don't know how, or if I should, approach it with him. POST: My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months and things are really great. I had some trouble opening up to him at first but I'm getting better at it, and things are going really well. The only thing that sometimes bothers me is our sex life. It used to be more adventurous but it seems to be a lot of the same old same old now. We definitely don't sext anymore and it's dropped off a bit, where we have sex maybe once a week. And he only seems to be able to finish half the time. I don't want to ask him about it since I don't want to put pressure on him or seem like I'm bitching, but I'm kinda curious as to why it's happening. I know I shouldn't let it bother me but it's started to a little. I want to feel like enough for him and when it happens I don't. Also, I might add that he's incredibly lazy and also that I don't think sex is the most important part of a relationship for him. Any thoughts, especially from men or women who have been in this situation before, would be appreciated. TL;DR: . Assistant:	My boyfriend only seems to be able to finish half the time we have sex. Seemed like a lot more in the beginning. Things are better than ever so I'm not sure why.	My boyfriend only seems to be able to finish half the time we have sex. Seemed like a lot more in the beginning. Things are better than ever so I'm not sure why.	6,175
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: [22F] Girlfriend is leaving honeymoon phase and now I [22M] want out POST: Together for 5 months. Dated for 2. I've never been in a relationship longer than ~3 months while she's been a few LTRs. During the "honeymoon phase" when we made it official between us, we were extra affectionate. We wanted to see each other every day, would text and Snapchat often, and would have sex all the time. After a while though, feelings faded. Hers faster than mine. Dates became dull. Texts became less enthusiastic. Pillow talk after sex would be brief. She says she's in the comfortable stage. Where she's secure enough in the relationship that she can be herself. I was left behind in the honeymoon phase. I would still get excited to see her. I miss the sweet texts of "thinking of you". I miss the pillow talk after sex. She still tells me she likes me when we're together. It's gone from "I really really really like you" to "I like you" though. Now I want out. I want another honeymoon phase. I want her to want me as much as I want her. Am I looking for too much in a relationship? It's the first time I've been in a relationship this long. I understand the honeymoon phase can't last forever. Maybe I just want a more affectionate girl. Or that I enjoy the security of knowing she likes me as much as she does. TL;DR: . Assistant:	No longer in honeymoon phase. I miss the affection and want to move on. First time I've made it this far. Not sure if I'm expecting too much from relationships.	No longer in honeymoon phase. I miss the affection and want to move on. First time I've made it this far. Not sure if I'm expecting too much from relationships.	3,945
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps TITLE: 18 year old guy, first relationship. Please help. POST: We split up in the middle of the summer because she was leaving for the semester, and she wasn't into me anymore (or so she claimed). We got back together at the end of the summer temporarily when our families stayed at the same hotel for a week during vacation. She left for the semester, started hooking up with a douche who eventually cheated on her and got expelled. I made a terrible decision and hooked up with one of her friends and had a brief fling with another one. I was incredibly depressed and looking for someone to cling to for support. She had a brief fling with another guy and is currently pursuing a third. We talk a lot over email and chat, although it's mostly me who initiates contact. Towards the beginning of the semester I asked several times if she wanted to get back together and she said it was too early to tell. The last time, I pressed her for an answer (was a month or two ago), and she rejected me pretty brutally. She came back for thanksgiving break and didn't particularly want to see me, although she wasn't totally opposed to it. She went to a random party and hooked up with several guys but apparently they weren't particularly desirable. She posted a bunch of shit on her tumblr about lost love and missing someone. She could mean me, or could mean the guy she's currently pursuing. I have no idea. She posted a picture with the caption: "You used to be alright. What happened?" and said "[name], lovie, this is for you." Those are the facts and I have no idea what to make of them. I think she still has feelings for me, but is also angry/disgusted with my hooking up with her friends. I've apologized and explained myself to her, and I don't know how best to help the situation now. I would really like to get back with her when she gets back, but I don't know if that's possible or how best to go about doing that. My idea was to give her some space for a month (aka no contact) and seeing how she feels when she gets back. Am I an idiot? What should I be doing? I have no idea what to do. Please please help. TL;DR: . Assistant:	my girlfriend and I broke up for the semester, I got with 2 of her friends briefly (huge mistake), but she may still have feelings for me. Is it even possible to salvage something?	my girlfriend and I broke up for the semester, I got with 2 of her friends briefly (huge mistake), but she may still have feelings for me. Is it even possible to salvage something?	567
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My [20M] second date with a girl [20F] ended with a hug, not a kiss. But she said she wanted to see me again after finals/winter break end? POST: Last night I went on a really great second date with a girl. Despite it being reading period, with finals approaching next week, we went to see a comedy show, and then got hot chocolate at a coffee shop afterwards and talked until closing. I walked her home afterwards. At the end of the date I really wanted to kiss her, and I started moving my hands towards her waist to hold her, but before I could do anything else she leaned in and gave me a tight hug, and told me she wanted to hang out with me again after winter break. Did she not want to kiss? Or did she just misread it as a hug? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Second date was really good, tried for a kiss at the end but got a hug instead, and an invite for a third date. Rejection or miscommunication??	Second date was really good, tried for a kiss at the end but got a hug instead, and an invite for a third date. Rejection or miscommunication??	4,520
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by not making sure my rats couldn't escape. POST: A little background, I have 4 rats; 2 albino, 2 black and white ones. In the last week or so, one of the albino ones (mind you, they are practically blind) has been learning to jump from her cage, which is three feet up, and then explore our room. We've tried a bunch of solutions that didn't work, but yesterday we switched out the table and thought now she wouldn't be able to jump down, and she didn't for about three hours. This morning we wake up to find the glass of water on my desk (which is about 15 feet away from her cage, and about 3 feet off the ground) is tipped over and the water spilled onto my gaming pc. We found her under the bed and put her back. Now, I open my PC and dry off the parts with a q-tip, the wires, everything is dry it seems. I turn it on, motherboard, GPU, CPU, TL;DR: . Assistant:	Didn't do a good job of not letting rat escape, she spilled my glass of water and fried my gaming pc hard drive.	Didn't do a good job of not letting rat escape, she spilled my glass of water and fried my gaming pc hard drive.	1,509
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [16F] really miss my dog, but there is absolutely no way I can see him. POST: Recently, my birth family acquired a puppy. Cute little bugger of a Frenchie that would brighten my day immensely when I saw him. However, I managed to get away from my abusive birth family by going to the police, and since then a contract has been in place that I am not to go home. I don't want to go home either, but I haven't seen my dog in months and I really,really miss him. How do I cope with this? Is there any polite way to ask my new guardians if it's possible to bring the dog over for a little while? I'm not even sure if my pup's around anymore. :( TL;DR: . Assistant:	Miss my dog at home, but home is abusive and there is a contract by CPS that states I am not to go home under any circumstances. How to ask guardians if I can see the dog?	Miss my dog at home, but home is abusive and there is a contract by CPS that states I am not to go home under any circumstances. How to ask guardians if I can see the dog?	5,527
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Redditors of Western NY, is a move to the Rochester area right for me? POST: I am happy to comment and add information as you ask for it (less the intimate details of my exact geographical location), and encourage references where you feel you can offer any. Just a little background on myself, to help you get familiar with my situation, and maybe try to sympathize: I am a 21 year old college student living south of the Mason-Dixon. I have attended two different universities as of now, and have just ended my third year (it will take at least one extra semester for me to graduate due to a number of major changes, and the current degree I'm seeking isn't anything I plan to use. Fuck me, right?). I'm not happy at my current uni for a variety of academic and social reasons, and have considered applying to RIT to finish my schooling. My pull for this is that if I finish my last year of undergrad in the state I plan on attending grad school in, I won't be paying out of state tuition. Grad school is kind of an "IF" though, as my career goals lay with training thoroughbred racehorses and getting a well rounded education with different aspects of farm operations (breeding, foaling, medical treatment, etc.). Finding a place / places to work in this field around the Rochester area is a vital part of the decision I would make to move to the area. If I can't work with horses, I can't make the move. Other areas of concern as I weigh the pros and cons of such a life change are finances, the fact that I know very few to no people there, and complete unfamiliarity with the area. Why do I want to leave where I am now? The place I've called home and spent the last 11 years of my life? Plainly- I hate it. The people, the economy, the school. I feel like an outsider in my own hometown. And though I'm not exactly spiritual, I've felt the Empire State has been calling to me for a long time. I just don't know if it's the right choice for the path I want to take. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I hate my life where I'm living now, and feel like I'll never get ahead here. I'm thinking about moving to NY. Good idea or bad for an aspiring equestrian who needs to finish school?	I hate my life where I'm living now, and feel like I'll never get ahead here. I'm thinking about moving to NY. Good idea or bad for an aspiring equestrian who needs to finish school?	3,279
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: Is this relationship one sided, Or am I being shallow? POST: Our car broke down in another state, and long story short we got jobs, found an apartment, started a new life here. At first, I didn't have a job, and he paid for everything. Then, I got a job, worked my ass off and got promoted to full time. His contract was over and now he's looking for work again. I pay for everything now, with the deal that he will pay me back his half later. He said he would pay half of the rent out of his savings. He's applied for about two hundred jobs, with no leads. He's been late giving me rent for the last two months, and he still owes me one hundred from last month. When I tried to explain that I was worried he didn't respect how important rent is, he quickly got upset, and stormed off into the night to find an ATM. Over the phone, i've begged him to come home- it's about 2am here- but he maintains that I just want his money, and "everything is about money" to me. For the record, it's not, I would pay all of the rent if he told me ahead of time he couldn't afford it. I'm worried about him walking for miles in a strange city so late. His ego has been wrecked lately, because of lack of work and unhappiness with his appearance. He dislikes how he looks because his hair has gotten shaggy, but he doesn't have money to cut it, and refuses my offer to pay for one. I think I may have hit a sore spot when I asked about the rent. He has been feeling inadequate lately, and this may have rubbed salt in his wounds. How can I go about his better in the future? How do I know if i'm being taken advantage off? I don't know anyone here, so thanks in advance for reading dear redditors. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I'm paying for almost everything for my S.O and I. How Do I know if I'm being taken advantage of, or if I'm being shallow and money oriented?	I'm paying for almost everything for my S.O and I. How Do I know if I'm being taken advantage of, or if I'm being shallow and money oriented?	4,724
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice TITLE: (SOMEWHAT URGENT) Training a worker that doesn't respect my authority. POST: I got in to work today to find that I will be training someone to take over someone else's shift. I've only been here an hour and so far, he's shooed me away from things, taken things out of my hands, interrupted me to boss customers around, and every time he does something the owner would kill him for (i.e. using the wrong soap or cups) I would let him know how he was supposed to do it, to be cut off by "yeah yeah yeah, I know how to do it." Hes apparently worked at a different location previously and has forgotten a lot but insists on doing everything himself. When I try to tell him I need him to do something else he flat out says 'no.' Hes been in a phone call for the last 15 minutes. Its just his first shift. I know I have to put my foot down. But how do I do so without starting an argument? I'm stuck here with him until 10 and will probably be training him again after today, but I need to make it clear that he DOES have to listen to me sometimes. TL;DR: . Assistant:	new guy in training. Im training him. He wont listen to anything I say. How to professionally tell him to step off	new guy in training. Im training him. He wont listen to anything I say. How to professionally tell him to step off	36
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I'm a little uneasy about the number of sexual partners my girlfriend has had. Am I being dumb? POST: So my girlfriend and I have been together for about 6 months, we are both 21 years old. The relationship has been awesome, we have had minor differences but no huge fights. I know that we are still a fairly young couple, but bear with me. I'm not a very promiscuous guy (I've slept with only one other person before my current girlfriend, and the other person was a girl who I dated for a year). Basically, I don't really sleep around. This weekend, for some reason, I asked my girlfriend for the first time how many guys she has slept with. She told me I was the 9th guy. I was expecting around 3 or 4. To me, she doesn't seem to be the type of girl who sleeps around (I don't even know if 9 guys qualifies as sleeping around). Even in our relationship, being comfortable sexually is something we have had to work on. That's why I was kind of shocked when she told me I was the 9th guy she's slept with. She told me that she used to view sex as not very meaningful, but that it is very different with me. She's told me numerous times that I mean a lot more to her than any other guys ever have. I'm not mad at her, because I know that I can't be mad at her for doing stuff before we even knew each other. I'm just a little uneasy/put off by the number of guys she's been with. Am I being stupid for feeling like this? My apologies for the big block of text, I don't really know how to format these posts well. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I've slept with 1 other person, my girlfriend has slept with 8 other people, and I feel weird about it. Am I being dumb?	I've slept with 1 other person, my girlfriend has slept with 8 other people, and I feel weird about it. Am I being dumb?	6,151
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by getting run over by an ice cream truck POST: So, obligatory this did not happen today. You should know I'm a guy with his pride. So when my SO started mocking my coordination for tripping over stuff, I got pretty mad and decided to prove to her that my coordination is perfect. Needless to say, just a few days later I was roaming the neighbourhood on my brand new unicycle while juggling some tennis balls (3, to be exact). That's where the fuckup begins. One sunny day I was riding around the area when suddenly this ice cream truck appears from behind the corner and heads for me. I could do nothing but watch the kid behind the steering wheel desperately try to stop the truck - luckily, at the last moment he realised he can simply turn the wheel, so he did not break every single one of my bones, just a few ribs and a hip dislocation. Turns out was also the time when a lot of illegal immigrants began to come over here - god bless you, Merkel - so some employers felt like it was a perfect opportunity and 'hired' many those people for some shitty money without any contract or training. What's even worse is that the kid driving was quite literally this - a kid. We finally agreed not to call the police after he promised me a free vanilla scoop every time he was around. My SO was super mad and my unicycle went straight to the garbage can, but damn me if it wasn't worth it. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Recently got hit by an ice cream truck that was driven by an under aged illegal immigrant while I was riding my unicycle and juggling tennis balls.	Recently got hit by an ice cream truck that was driven by an under aged illegal immigrant while I was riding my unicycle and juggling tennis balls.	484
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU because of Kobe Bryant POST: This happened last night, didn't realize it was a FU until a few mins ago: I was playing 2K15 on my gaming desktop PC. I am the home team (Lakers, of course), and am down by 2 with 2.5 seconds left and have the ball. I take the ball out of bounds and pass it to Kobe who was wide open standing at the 3point line. I shoot, the shot meter was almost perfect, just not quite, and the ball hits the front of the rim and I lose the game... Without thinking about it I kick my desk hard as hell, and everything just shakes, my speakers fell down, and the game freezes. Im too pissed so I just force shutdown and go to bed. Now I have to do some very important, design-intensive work and come to realize that my GPU is dead and my pc will only boot with the integrated one, which is not powerful enough to work with. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Kobe missed a game-winning shot and made me mad enough to kick the life out of my PC. Thanks a lot, Kobe Bryant.	Kobe missed a game-winning shot and made me mad enough to kick the life out of my PC. Thanks a lot, Kobe Bryant.	3,173
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice TITLE: Stereotypical post school, university dilemma POST: So I've been going out with this girl for a year and a half during sixth form. We went to the same school for two years and now we've both gone to university. The main problem with the situation is that she has remained in the home country but I've gone abroad and my degree is for 6 years, so I'll be here for a while. Now, we'd previously decided to just break it off soon as summer was over and just stay friends, but now I've been regretting that decision. My question is if any of you think that an open-ish relationship is a good idea? Basic principle of it is that when we are separate, we talk to each other etc but what any of us does on nights out doesn't matter. Then, when we're back together for xmas easter and summer we date like normal. If not feasible, are there any suggestions? I'm basically just looking for any advice. TL;DR: . Assistant:	dating in sixth form, now in very distant university for long time. Decided to split, changed mind now trying to see if an open relationship is a feasible option.	dating in sixth form, now in very distant university for long time. Decided to split, changed mind now trying to see if an open relationship is a feasible option.	6,387
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I just realize I'm sexist towards women. I'm going to have a daughter very soon. What can I do to stop this train of thought before she is born? POST: I'm M(27). I recently have discovered I have a very narrow mind towards certain topics regarding women. Whenever I hear women complaining about their partners in a relationship, I can't help but always take the man's side. I slut-shame. I refer to women as "bitches", or "sluts", or whatever other derogatory word. I have a belief that women are biologically inferior to men and as such, it takes a tremendous amount of talent and intellect to be shown before I will respect them. I get turned off from TV shows or movies where there is a strong female lead trying to portray a role that would have been better suited for a man, i.e. being an over the top badass. I believe you get my point here, I'm sexist and not proud of it. I don't know why I am and I don't know how to stop thinking like this. I fear because of this attitude I have towards women, I will discriminate against my soon-to-be-daughter and will treat her differently than I would if I have a son. I fear that this type of behavior could very easily damage my relationship with her and I do not want that. What can I do to get out of this mindset? TL;DR: . Assistant:	I am sexist towards women. I feel this mindset will ruin my relationship with my unborn daughter. How can I get over this mindset?	I am sexist towards women. I feel this mindset will ruin my relationship with my unborn daughter. How can I get over this mindset?	5,541
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My [26] bf [28m] wants me to verbally acknowledge everything he says. POST: I'm not the best communicator in the world. I have ADD and sometimes that makes it nearly impossible to focus on more than one thing at once. My bf frequently gets mad at me for not listening. Part of the problem is that I'll be reading something when he comes in the room and sits down, then he just starts talking. I literally can't always hear him when he does this because I'm so engrossed in what I'm already doing. This morning he said something that I didn't have anything to contribute to really. I was looking directly at him when he said it, but he still got mad because apparently I'm still not listening if I don't have anything to say. I know I have to work on my part but how do I get him to understand that I can't drop everything all the time to pay attention to and verbally acknowledge every single thing he says. I've explained to him several times that he needs to get my attention before he speaks and I've been working extra hard on keeping my ears open and paying attention. How can I get him to realize that his expectations are unrealistic? TL;DR: . Assistant:	bf says I never listen because I don't verbally acknowledge everything he says and doesn't understand that I can't.	bf says I never listen because I don't verbally acknowledge everything he says and doesn't understand that I can't.	5,542
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Pets TITLE: Anyone have problems with a vet that jumps to the "surgery" conclusion without really examining your pet? POST: So we just got back from the vet. We took our 10-month old Plott Hound/Boxer pup in because he seems to have a fluid sac behind his right elbow. It hasn't caused him any pain but it's been there for almost 2 weeks and when we called the vet's office to ask about it, the nurse suggested we bring him in to get it looked at. She warned me that our regular vet wasn't in today and we would be seeing another vet. I can't get off work next week and I figured anyone taking the place of our awesome vet would be just as awesome. We go in, the guy takes one look at our dog, doesn't touch him once and says "Oh yeah, that's a hygroma. You'll need to have that surgically drained. We'll have to put him out, drain it, then he'll have to have drainage tubes in for the next week. Oh, and you'll have to keep him completely inactive for 2 weeks." Our dog has a hard time holding still for 5 minutes... there's no way he's going to go more than a day without running and playing without heavy sedatives. At this point, we were like, "uh ok, well if the swelling doesn't go down in a week we'll bring him back in." Cool, $54, have a nice day. I got home and did some searching about [hygromas] The accepted treatment seems to be "make sure they stop damaging the area, put heat on it, take him back to the vet for correction if it gets really big." A lot of sites say that surgery is rarely done and, if it is, it's done when the dog is older and the hygroma has gotten large and/or infected. So we're going to make sure he has a lot of padded areas to rest and we'll put heat on it. We'll even take him to see our regular vet before too long to get his opinion. I guess I'm just irked that the vet jumped immediately to expensive surgery without even really examining the dog or discussing with us what would happen if we don't get surgery. Has anyone else had a similar experience? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Our dog has a common condition that shouldn't require surgery, but the substitute vet we went to jumped immediately to surgery as the answer.	Our dog has a common condition that shouldn't require surgery, but the substitute vet we went to jumped immediately to surgery as the answer.	2,889