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Are these thoughts normal?
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j2705g
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prolly just a kink. most people have them, I think it’s called being a sub in your case ( not too sure, please double check ).
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Yes it's normal. You're probably into being dominated.
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Woman here. I think about getting dominated by men like you do with women. Remember it’s normal as long as you just keep it in your head.
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I don't like being beaten. But I do like the thought when a girl takes control. Prob a kink.
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Did I turn gay because of my friends?
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cbpliz
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You didn’t turn gay cause of your friends. You were already gay
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Wait you almost had sex at 12?
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You’re kinda in denial, and that’s okay. But, sounds like you’re gay. And that’s not a bad thing.
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you didn't turn gay, you were already gay. be lucky you figured yourself out at a young age. i didn't fully realise what sexuality i was until 15 (im 16 now)
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My gay boy out here having sex at 12 when i can barely get a bf or gf at 15
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Is it ok to jack off with a friend
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du6zgl
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Its perfectly fine me and my mates used to jack off together to porn
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It’s fine. Ur lucky he did it with u lol
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Id say it depends what you jack off to but idk
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yes i’ve done it before totally normal
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What do I say to my brother?
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wtskaj
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Tell him you heard him and he needs to do it in the bathroom or when you're not in the room.
Say it casually and not in an angry or annoyed tone.
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+1 to previous comment. It's probably a new discovery so he hasn't worked out subtlety or etiquette with it yet. Don't shame him, just quietly mention that you need to come to an arrangement and that you're uncomfortable with him doing that stuff while you're in the room.
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I would say don’t talk to him directly just if he starts doing it again, while your trying to sleep just sit up and say like “wtf is that noise” or something, if you sound genuine he’ll realize you hear and probably stop or at least be quieter
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Just be honest with him. Let him know he needs to do that when no one else is around or when he’s alone since that’s a private thing. It’s gonna be an awkward conversation but just letting him know may help
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Do i have a masturbation addiction?
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oejk46
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Nah. You good
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Ur fine dude
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Like you said it doesn’t get in the way of what you are doing so no issues.
If you want to prevent it from needing excuse because the need becomes too much you could have a routine and do it at specific times of the day where you know you wont be disturbed and keep the horniness under control.
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Which position do you “park” it?
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owji1s
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in my ass (those with the ceo millionaire sigma mindset will understand)
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I usually push it down like you do but I sort of twist it to where it goes behind my leg and points behind me. Mine is very flexible though. Like my brother learned that I did that and said he can't angle his down because it hurts. And apparently the tendons or ligaments in there can be stretched to the point that it makes it hard to point up with your erections. I haven't had that problem, just heard it was a thing.
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If I'm trying to hide it I just put it under my underwear waist band although if I cant I will try to put it down
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Have you tried pulling it up and tucking behind the waistband of your pants?
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How often should I shower?
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qncri9
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I'd personally shower every day, just to keep up a good habit of personal hygiene kind of thing. But every so often have the odd bath too like maybe once a fortnight or something.
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Depends on you, my hair would get really oily and I’d feel uncomfortable if I didn’t shower daily, would smell after 2 days. Whatever works best for you. And always wear deodorant. I usually shower before bed.
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Just aim to shower every day. Some days you might miss it but the goal should still be daily
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Is it ok normal that im pretty much horny 24/7 and watch porn to masterbate
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n0dqmv
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The horny is totally normal. Remember before 2000 porn was only in expensive magazines, so that’s a new thing for teens 24/7. There’s some evidence that 24/7 visual porn is screwing with normal sexual responses by mentally desensitising young ppl to what used to be new and visually exciting when they first begin partnered sex. Just be aware. Some say that reading sexy stories or listening to sexy sounds may be better because they stimulate imagination without being in your face. But there hasn’t been enough time for evidence to grow, one way or the other. Check out “porn induced erectile disfunction” to see what I mean!
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yup
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Will wet dreams be a common thing?
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lejc45
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Only if you don't jerk off very much. It happens when you haven't jerked off in a while.
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Yeah, there’s a fair chance that you will have more. Do you masturbate?
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Jerk off whenever you're horny and they won't happen nearly as often if at all. You'll probably have to do it at least a couple times a week but it's different for everyone.
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That is what you had. It will happen less often if you masterbate.
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I’m circumcised but I rhink uncircumcised are nice. Am I wrong and how do you feel about that?
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there’s nothing wrong with feeling better about one than the other, but it’s still a personal opinion.
ofc it’s better if baby boys were not mutilated, so personally i don’t agree with it, but once you’re born and they cut it off, there’s not a lot you can do about it. there’s no use in shaming others for having one.
i just think the “benefits” do not outway the fact that you’re stealing a part of a persons body, for no reason. there’s no reason for us to have a pinky toe after all, but there’s no reason to cut it off. i feel the same way about foreskin.
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You can restore and do what ever. r/TeenageRestorers
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Should I wait to watch porn?
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jeew6k
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It's fine to watch in moderation. If you use it all the time or even most of the time your brain will become dependent on it, and you will find it much more difficult to get hard and even to finish when you are with a partner without that extra stimulation. Now if you and your partner watch it together then that has the opposite effect and can be a great thing.
Look, no one is going to be able to tell you what to do one way or another. There is always a way to get access to porn if you are determined. It has to be a decision from yourself if you think you don't want to watch it then you have to make yourself. But if you want to watch it, and can keep it from taking over your sex life then go for it bro.
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Just don't watch porn at all, it's cringe.
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Watch porn whenever you want man it doesn't really matter just don't get addicted. People that say it causes low testosterone are bullshitting. If you wanna watch some porn then watch some porn there is no problem with that.
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Dont do it you will get addicted. You will know when autocorrects to porn
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Really horny?
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hqwvtv
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You're not asexual if you desire sexual acts. Some asexuals do have sex but it is more to satisfy the needs of their partner over theirs. Don't give yourself a label and be happy.
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It's normal to feel different at different times, not weird at all.
As you continue to develop and go through life, you might find that you have feelings that don't really line up with your asexual identity. It's okay if you need to keep experiencing new things and reflecting on whether they line up with who you feel you are.
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I don’t think you’re asexual if you’re horny
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May I ask how one is asexual? Meaning does it come from a doctor's diagnosis or is it a self-diagnosis?
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I heard my older sister and her boyfriend having sex and it turned me on. Is that ok or do I have a problem?
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eir1in
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No you don't have a problem. I'm not sure of your age but I am assuming that you are here and going through some life/body changes. As your hormones start kicking in more and more things are going to go from gross to sexual. It is just part of growing up. Just try to limit it to listening and not watching. Depending on how well you can hear what is going on you could possible masturbate to what you hear and give you a more heightened experience.
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Hearing people have sex usually turns other people on. Normal. Also, tell your sister to keep it down. That's super rude.
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It's normal to get turned on my sex. It's a biological function.
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Ways to improve safe sex?
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You need a condom. I know this is the first relationship for both of you probably.
She needs to take it with accuracy. While it is 99% effective in stopping pregnancy, 9 out of 100 women end up getting pregnant because they skipped a day or screwed up. At 15, you can't have a happy accident and condoms handle stds as well.
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You know what people who don't use condoms are called, right?
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Wear a condom!!!!!!
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Just wear a condom. If she insists that you don't then break it off with her.
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How do I clean after cumming
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q7j7uy
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Yo can ejaculate onto tissues or onto your body then wipe it off. Or you can have a personal rag that you clean ejaculation then do the laundry for that yourself. If you want to clean semen stain from clothes you should just wash it as any other stain, I recommend washing the stain immediately as it is way harder to get rid of when dried.
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Sower, toilet, cum in your socks, use any clothes that would be washed anyway, tissues, etc. just in general stuff that will washed anyway.
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on clothes wash it or put water on both sides rub it a bit then just wipe it off and I've never experienced the stomach and cum stains
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Uses toilet paper and just throw it out
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How to have more wet dreams?
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Um.. never masturbate. Think about horny things before bed. Wear extra layers to help soak up the mess.
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Edging, but never cum. It makes your body ready to ejaculate, which well help have wet dreams. The only probably is it will result in ejaculating A LOT
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The only way I know of to get more wet dreams is to stop masturbating. Your body will then need to get rid of the cum by ejaculating in your sleep.
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Dont jerk off and theyll happen
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How do I be less attracted to my crush
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emojrx
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You can’t control what you are attracted to, you have to just accept it. Usually when boys ask out girls, and the girl rejects him the boy loses the attraction towards her unless they are a clingy one.
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r/love
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You can’t control it trust me. If you move away you will still love them if it is true love but you will be reminded of them time to time
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I mean, you could try to create some sort of aversion therapy for yourself, but it's really difficult and not that effective.
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Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way.
Eventually, on their own, your feelings will move on. You can't control it directly.
Good luck!
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how comfortable are most people about theyr body
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y98dfu
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Good question ! I just turned 13 in September! I need to develop more but so far I’m comfortable with myself and my body
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Are you physically developed with everyone else? (yes or no. don't go into detail) I could get down to my underwear without issue. It's the nude thing. I was behind everyone developmentally and in public schools but never had to shower in a gang situation.
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i’m 16. and totally fine with my body. have been using communal showers at the gym with friends and my dad and brother occasionally. i do have a couple friends that will not let anyone see them naked
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People are generally modest. It’s been something that’s changed over years and probably will continue to. You sound like you’re in the minority in your school being so comfortable. Continue to keep your confidence because it’s generally a good attribute in all of life.
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is it normal to be insecure during the years of puberty? 15f
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Yes unfortunately I had horrible depression and ocd and all kinds of stuff. Mood swings. Trying out medication is our friend. Tell our doctor what our bad feelings are and try a new one. Go to sleep on time. It helps. Exercise helps. If we can afford counseling it helps. Mine with blue cross is nearly free. I wish I did counseling way way earlier.
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Somethings but not all. You don't care as much about fitting in and maybe a little less worrying on what other people think of you but insecurities still exist.
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Yes, it’s quite normal. You should still seek help if it becomes too much or negatively impacts you though.
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I have alot of mood swings rn ocd shit feel like I’m behind on everything it’s so stressful tbh
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Are you comfortable naked in public showers
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s1mmsy
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Have not used one and I feel like it would be mad uncomfortable
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Have communal showers in my gym at school after bball practice so it’s no big deal
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I am!😁
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Changing and showering after pe class and sports at school used to be a pretty common routine here in the US. Not so much these days!
If a lot of other people are doing it the discomfort goes away. If you're the only person or one of a few it...takes some guts to do!
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I haven't used one but i would be for sure really comfortable
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What do I do when I get the sex talk?
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When I approached my kids (they’re 40’s now) they both said “Dad, we’ve done all that in sex Ed class”, so I just said “well, you know I’m actually a sex Ed teacher, so if you want to ask me anything, feel free!!” No embarrassment! www.scarleTeen.com is a great site for more details. Wasn’t there back then.
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Have you had sex ed in school?
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You may have some misconceptions about sex despite thinking you're well-versed on the subject, so when they give you the talk, don't be afraid to ask questions you might know the answers to, it might clear up said misconceptions. You don't necessarily need to admit that you've learnt about sex from your friends or the internet if you don't comfortable about it, just say something along the lines of "Well I always thought sex involved...".
Also, the internet's potrayal of sex is often skewed towards being very harsh and having to last very long, where in real life this mostly isn't the case. So, again don't be afraid to ask questions about what you know.
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Just sit there and enjoy the awkward
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Is it normal for me to want to masturbate everytime I look at my d**k?
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No, I do the same.
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I do it too
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Go to horny jail
But yeah it is
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welcome to the h0rny phase
Enjoy your stay
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Is it ok to get 6hrs of sleep?
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fge49s
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It won't effect your height much, but it will hurt your learning, ability to control your emotions, and your overall mood. Pretty much all the science says that people in puberty need 9 hours (well, technically 9 hours and 15 minutes) of sleep each night.
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You should get more sleep, it doesn't only affect your height.
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No because teens need around 8 hours of sleep for their development according to scientists.
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Don’t listen to anyone telling you otherwise, it WILL NOT effect your height.
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You're supposed to get eight at an absolute MINIMUM. But I mean I have insomnia and only get about 4.5 hours so I probably shouldn't be talking...
But you obviously don't have it so get those 8-10 hours!
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Question about Masturbation
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et85jh
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You gotta go for like at least five minutes before the orgasm comes
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It’s the orgasm that’s the best part.
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For me it feels good and then after I hate myself
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Ok now I get that I wasn't doing it long enough to orgasm, thanks all for the comments
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You gotta go reallyyy fast and you'll cum
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When should i lose my virginity?
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until you're at least a wizard Harry
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imo, lose it later on. maybe do it after u get married. maybe do it when ur 14 or 15, but u gotta know the consequences that come from doing it.
sure u may have a condom, but what if it’s not put on properly or if it breaks? bam u got her pregnant
or what if the girl is emotionally upset afterwards? just gotta think ab all this stuff
if u are gonna do it, make sure you use a condom with spermicide in it, make sure she’s on birth control, and be careful.
cheers
as for penis size, 3.5 is fine for your age.
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Um imma girl but I honestly think you should wait till you get older cause what if you get that girl pregnant then what are you going to do?
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Bruh you’re fuckin 13. Wait for two years.
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(15M) feel like I'm addicted to masturbating should I try and stop?
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I wouldn’t call that an addiction
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Yeah that sounds like a normal guys jerking habit, if not a bit less.
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That's not excessive. It doesn't sound like you're addicted
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Two to three a week isnt bad. It's when you start doing it several times a day that it can be bad. It's feelings it releases can become addicting to always crave, and the more you do it the more it starts to just take over your headspace and what you think about every day. That parts not good. Too much of a good thing is a bad thing
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Is it a problem to not wear a bra?
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You should generally wear a bra during the day, if nothing else just for support. But I understand your desire of not wearing bras cuz it's uncomfortable at time.s
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It is not really a problem if you don't want to. Just as long as you are aware that people might be able to tell.
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I never wear bras your safe!
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I also don’t like wearing bra, even they r growing now. They like to be free. For me - no reason to wear !
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Why do I hate the way I look?
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Find something you like to do and maybe go out for a sport. Exercise can be a mood booster. It's okay to be insecure at this age. Find ways to boast your confidence. If you don't like your hair, maybe find a hair style that works for it. It's up to you what you want to do.
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Many people your age have insecurities about their apoearance...many more than you think.
Some people are just better at hiding it than others!
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question about porn
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He is trying to maintain his erection.
You will also see shots of "fluffers" - whose job it is to make sure the star maintains his erection between shots, set-up changes, etc.
Porn distorts what I call "normal erection behavior" in just the way you describe. These guys are normal guys with normal erections. This means they rise and fall during sex.
Many men today believe they have "psychological ED" because their erections are not non-stop hard, "like they are in porn."
One man asked porn stars can ejaculate, and then get hard right away afterwards. He'd tried and tried but couldn't do it.
Porn films like regular films are shot over days, maybe weeks.
And "Yes!" they lose their erections in between shots, takes, technical difficulties, etc.
Learning about sex by watching porn is like learning to drive by watching "The Fast And The Furious" movies!
Not recommended.
Kind Regards,
prperfckr
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Learning more about porn is just learning more about theatre, not about sex.
If you teach 14 year olds about porn, it should be about how unusual the actors are in their anatomy and appearance, their arousal , their physical response, their stamina and their refractory periods, and about how the sex protrayed in porn is of an unusual length, with an unusual proportion of sex vs foreplay, in an unusual number of positions, with unusual sounds and scenarios. You should talk about how the actors are often chemically and surgically enhanced, have attendants servicing them between takes, and about how what is filmed is what looks best on camera, not what the participants would derive the most pleasure from.
I don’t think what a porn actor does with his penis between sets is any more relevant to sex than what a singer does to her lips between sets is relevant to singing.
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Shouldn't be teaching kids sex ed if you only get your facts through porn... Sort of weird dude. Aren't there like, certified and vetted educational books...?
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porn is UNREALISTIC.you shouldn’t be getting ur teachings from porn.
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Question about interracial relationships/sex
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I'm a black man and idk what to say, sounds like a weird race fetish to me, Maybe try r/blackladies for better insight
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tbh I’m not an expert but based off what you said I think he might be a little insecure about you guys being biracial. RACIST&CLOSEMINDED individuals would say black+black is how it’s supposed to be and he wouldn’t be equivalent to a black individual so if someone could’ve polluted his mind w that he could just be wanting to fulfill that insecurity someone out into his head??? idk maybe. goodluck girl
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Need condom help
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Lucky Bloke Samplers!
https://luckybloke.com/collections/buy-best-ultimate-condom-samplers-lube-samplers
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They're one size fits all. You got this
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https://www.target.com/p/skyn-elite-non-latex-lubricated-condoms-36ct/-/A-75663448
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question about masturbation in a bathtub
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Precum? Otherwise idk.
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Heat can do more things to your penis than cold. Masturbating in hot water may widen your venes which makes the penis not hard enough to ejaculate or your heart is kind of busy enough to deal with the heat and prevents you from becoming unconscious or getting a heart attack by refusing an orgasm.
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Should I get blood test to check if I’m pregnant?
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There are many possible reasons for your period to be late, for example stress. But if you are worried and your period is usually on time, it wont hurt to make an appointment with your gynecologist.
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Is it possible that I am Pregnant?
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Nope, nothing to worry about here. I think plan B would be overkill but you could take it if it helps you sleep better.
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There’s no reason to take plan b for this situation. You won’t get pregnant from this.
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Here are a couple of resources if this sort of thing happens again:
Scarleteen: sex ed for the real world. It contains thousands of original sexuality, health and relationship articles, guides, fact sheets and in-depth advice. https://www.scarleteen.com/
Planned Parenthood: answers about pregnancy, birth control, emergency contraception, STDs, and abortion. https://www.plannedparenthood.org/
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Is it normal to feel guilty or ashamed after doing something sexual?
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Is it common? Yes, unfortunately. Society has conditioned people to feel guilty either through taboo or religion.
Is it normal? No. Sex is normal. It isn’t a bad thing. Humans aren’t meant to think of it as bad.
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It is common to feel guilty or ashamed after sexual acts, like a previous commenter said, our society has stigmatized sex in many ways (especially when it comes to women/people socialized femininely) which has caused people to feel unnecessary shame or guilt for engaging in healthy & normal sex lives.
As long as both/all parties are consenting (agreeing/giving permission/excited about) to whatever is happening, there is no real reason to feel ashamed. However, that is something you can talk with your partner about. It may be helpful to set boundaries - for example, if you performed/gave oral sex, but you felt guilty afterwards, maybe you stick to making out for now, until you feel more comfortable moving forward. Also, if you get started doing something with a partner, and you realize part of the way through that you don’t want to do it anymore, you have every right to stop.
That’s just an example, but having sex and engaging in consensual sexual acts (including masturbation) is normal and not shameful. Every person has their own experience with sexuality, sexual desires, and sexual boundaries and you get to decide what makes you feel good and what makes you uncomfortable (again, with consent in mind).
Keep exploring your desires & boundaries, and communicate them to your partner as best as you can.
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Have a look at this group: [https://www.sexpositiveworld.org/](https://www.sexpositiveworld.org/)
They have in-person and online workshops.
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After masturbation it should be normal to feel guilty, but do u mean you feel ashamed after having sex with your "partner"? That's not normal unless you're doing something unusual.
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At what age should you buy condoms and have them available for your kid?
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My father showed me where he stored his condom when I was around 12 or something. He wanted me to know that I could pick some in his stash if ever I was needing one.
It’s when I was 14 that I first needed them.
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I’m 14 (yes, I know that’s young) and me and my girlfriend always have some laying around. I think that it depends on the kid, if he/she isn’t really interested the kid doesn’t have to have them at a younger age. However if they are interested it might be good to have them. Anyway this is just my opinion.
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Speaking for myself, I’m 17 and I’m sexually active with my so. I think it would definitely help if you talked to your kid first and made them understand you just want them to be safe. I think when teens make the decision to be sexually active they are too scared to tell their parents but if you started the conversation, it will most likely help your kid feel comfortable enough to ask. We got them ourselves but it would be nice for someone to let us know it’s ok.
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I had that difficult conversation with my daughter when she started dating. 17/18? I said I know you are probably going to do it, but at least do it safely. PSA keep condoms in a cool place ( not in your wallet if you are a guy) as they seriously deteriorate in the heat.
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My God how times have changed!! I remember my innocent virgin self when I was like 16 or 17 telling my Italian mother I was THINKING about birth control for acne & painful periods. poor thing almost collapsed because she thought our house would be known as the “whore house” 🤣🤣🤣
Even when I buy my own condoms that shit is locked away under the bed same goes for extra pregnancy tests for reassurance 😂😂😂
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Could I be Pregnant?
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🎶Take a pregnancy teeeeest 🎵
No form of protection is 100% effective
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how to control sexual desires?
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Depends. Does she like being touched or is she uncomfortable with it? Sexual desires are normal and healthy but you need to make sure the other person wants it as well.
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It is, but you gotta make sure she actually consents! That's about it really.
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No. Your extreme sexual desires is, probably, the normal male sexual desire. The book *The Myth of Sex Addiction*, by David J. Ley, explains it extensively (recommended).
Some links about sexual desire: [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201007/the-dangers-sex-addiction](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201007/the-dangers-sex-addiction), [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-paradox-sex/202202/responsive-desire-and-erotic-sexuality](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-paradox-sex/202202/responsive-desire-and-erotic-sexuality), [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-power-pleasure/201305/what-predicts-mens-sexual-desire](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-power-pleasure/201305/what-predicts-mens-sexual-desire), [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/think-well/201008/is-sex-addiction-dangerous-myth](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/think-well/201008/is-sex-addiction-dangerous-myth).
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could i be pregnant?
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Happened to me in the past. I stressed over not having my Period so much it didn’t come at all. When in doubt take a pregnancy test
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Could you be pregnant? Yes. Chances are highly unlikely though. Sperm likes moist environments and can’t live outside the body for more than 30 minutes or until it dries up. So, if some of that cum got in to you (highly unlikely) and still made it to an egg (again, not likely) than you could be pregnant. Chances are very unlikely.
>i am just horribly stressed…
Ever think this might be the cause of your late periods? Stress and other factors like diet can impact your period.
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You won’t get pregnant from that. Your period is late because you ovulated late this cycle, making your cycle longer.
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any updates?
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is it okay to take birth control pills only the month when i'll be having sex with my boyfriend?
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No. It's not recommended to go on and off the pill like this. Your cycle will be really unpredictable and all over the place with irregular bleeding. Also, the risk of blood clots is higher the first 3 months on the pill.
Either plan to be on the pill for a while, or use condoms instead.
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ask ur doctor. I think possibly but im not 100% sure. & it’s best to always ask ur doctor what’s best when it comes to ur pills etc
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[This website](https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/ask-experts/can-you-start-taking-the-pill-anytime-or-does-it-have-to-be-the-first-day-of-your-period) might give you some good information.
Basically, it depends on the pill. If you have a combination pill, it depends upon where in your menstrual cycle you are when you start taking it. If you’re able to time it right, it seems OK to only take it when you’ll use it.
**However**, you’re not using the pills as prescribed and you should really take the pill as described unless you’ve discussed it with your doctor.
I am not a medical professional.
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Consider a spermicide like VCF (available without a prescription in most US pharmacies) if you just want occasional birth control
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I sexually fantasize for 8-10 hours a day even when I really don’t want to. How do I stop?
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I would find a medical professional who has both training in sexology and experience with maladaptive daydreaming if I were you.
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Honestly? That sounds like intrusive thoughts and at that level of severity you most definitely need a help of therapist and most likely psychiatrist. Ask your current counselor to refer you to a specialist
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Become an author and write it all down. Sex sells.
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I am not a professional but i had been in that phase before.
Also this might sound a little stupid, but my aunt discovered me in my room a few times and asked me what was wrong, she then recommended me to read erotica novel to keep my hands out of my pants and it keeps working until now.
Sex also helped whenever i got a chance and going out too
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Since you’re in college, I would see what resources they have available for you you first. Seek out counseling. If you’ve never done it before, it’s harmless, confidential, and everyone does it.
You may also consider journaling. Try writing about how the fantasies feel in your body, how they pester you if you don’t appease them, how they are disrupting your life.
You can try to find something to keep you busy when you have these fantasies. Maybe you go to someplace busy like a dining hall and study there when you have the fantasies.
Lastly, it also sounds like you have a lot of sexual energy. Have you considered trying to find a FWB to release some of that sexual tension with? A FWB should be someone you trust and someone you ask consent with. They don’t have to be someone you find attractive, just someone you find safe. Practice safe sex using condoms if you do.
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uncircumcised issue?
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Have you talked to a doctor about it?
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I don't get it, send me a pic
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Do sex drives elevate
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she’s older so your libido will for sure be higher, your stamina may be better too. take her wants and needs into consideration and of course stamina & libido rise when you meet new parts of ur sex life. maybe she can teach you a few things
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It's not an age thing. She might have just become more confident over the years and came to better understand what she wants.
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Should You Give Up Masturbation?
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Very good and useful experience.
I'm a male from Mexico, and I initiated in NoFap approximately 2 years ago. In the LATAM nofap community you will be ashamed for have sexual desires and for watch porn, and I believed that it's the right way to see our sexuality. But recently I discover very much and valuable information in Dr. David Ley's books.
Most of the NoFap groups don't understand that our sexuality is necessary in our lives and much individuals think that being sexually is weak. They don't understand that sex is something normal for humankind.
Thank you for your advice.
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This is one of the best things I have ever red
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Unprotected Sex in a committed relationship: is it okay?
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If you trust your partner not to cheat (including kissing) with anyone else and they are disease free, you are in the clear for diseases and infections.
By being in a committed monogamous relationship, you have effectively closed the path of vectors off that could enter into the relationship.
Just know that there are some diseases your partner may have that STI tests won’t test for. These are things like herpes and HPV. Why? Because they are so common, most people have them and testing isn’t helpful.
[This is a good article from Planned Parenthood about it](https://www.plannedparenthood.org/planned-parenthood-st-louis-region-southwest-missouri/blog/why-cant-i-be-tested-for-all-sexually-transmitted-infections).
So you may close the entry for new STI’s but old ones will still remain possible for you to get.
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> is this okay?
Yes. of course. Everything is ok when everyone involved is ok with it.
> Am I still at risk for diseases/infections?
Diseases no. At least for those that need to be transmitted from 1 person to another.
Infections can happen. Go pee after sex and only use water when wasching yourself down there
Have fun!
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Your partner should get tested too. And as long as you can trust each other for no cheating it’s safe regarding STD.
For pregnancy, birth control is highly effective if taken perfectly and stored in the right conditions, but not bullet proof.
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No. Never unless you are wanting a baby or an std. you can still get pregnant and you can still get diseases.
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Curious - do you think teenagers should have easier access to sex toys
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Most likely, especially for girls. Masturbation often has a stigma against it for various cultural and religious reasons. It's poorly discussed (or not at all) in sex ed and many grow up either clueless about their own bodies or feeling shame for it.
If more teens were taught that it's a natural, healthy, and safe outlet for their budding sexuality, I think they'd be much less inclined to seek out sexual encounters with others. I certainly wish I had access to a vibe during puberty rather than have issues with guilt and an unhealthy body image.
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Yes
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Yes! Masturbation is healthy and normal, and I think a sex toy would be a safe way to explore their bodies without the risk of STIs/unwanted pregnancies. Your hand can only do so much. But they should also have access to information on how to play safely, and how to clean and care for the toys.
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They should be taught safe sex practices as well
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Professional sex education researchers and advisers Dr. Karen Rayne and Dr. Laura Berman believe they’re excellent for teenage girls. They do note that a default age to do this is probably 16 but that each young woman is different and if you have a particularly open daughter at a younger age then it could be appropriate.
I can’t find the article on it but I recall one sex educator with a system for young women that involved getting them a masturbation aide as early as twelve and apparently had very low numbers for teen pregnancy together with statistics suggesting girls on the program had sex later in life and fewer partners than those who didn’t.
With boys it’s generally considered less important as they’re (generally) more easily able to masturbate and achieve orgasm than girls who frequently cannot achieve orgasm without an aide.
Regardless, it’s important to remember that understanding that teenagers have sexual desires is not sexualising them and doesn’t need to involve encouraging them to have sex. It’s just a case of understanding the obvious. Many think that by shielding them from knowledge about sex that they’ll be scared and less likely to explore. But they forget that kids are curious and when you combine that with being horny (yes, even the girls get horny) what you get are kids who are going to seek answers from each other and likely experiment with each other in absence of answers from parents or trusted educators. Worse still is they could seek answers from adults who are not their parents or trusted educators.
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Am I just overthinking too much
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Probably zero, but if you had any pre-cum on the tip that had viable sperm, that can be all it takes to get someone pregnant. Never put an unprotected penis into a vagina unless you are prepared to make a baby,.
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Dont stress bro nothing is going to happen chances are 0,00001
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Here are a couple of websites that might help you understand sexuality better:
Scarleteen: sex ed for the real world. It contains thousands of original sexuality, health and relationship articles, guides, fact sheets and in-depth advice. https://www.scarleteen.com/
Planned Parenthood: answers about pregnancy, birth control, emergency contraception, STDs, and abortion. https://www.plannedparenthood.org/
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If it was as you say ("i immediarely remove it") and you didn't cum just at that moment then i would say the chance is zero.
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How concerned should I be?
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zml1to
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I don't think you should be worried if it's the first time it happens. Just like you said, your skin probably tore somewhere inside. Was there enough lubrication? Just wait a few days for it to heal and if it happens again after a few days then you should be worried.
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r/asktransgender might be a good place to get some feedback, as well.
If you're currently taking hormonal supplements it may alter your previous ovulation cycle, or cause out-of-cycle spotting. You're likely experiencing some minor tearing of soft tissue, which is not uncommon. I would suggest giving yourself a week or so to heal before attempting more penetrative sex, and be sure to check for traces during your normal hygiene routines.
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Possibility of pregnancy?
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You can not get pregnant from anal. The anus is not connected to the womb and ovary organs.
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Even if some leaked down towards her privates, I doubt that there is any chance she is pregnant. Especially since she cleaned herself up so quickly.
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Who are taking birth control pills here? Is it really effective in avoiding pregnancies?
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BC pills do have one of the best "pearl index" of all contraception methods. "Pearl index" says out of 100 women how many of them do get pregnant within 1 year by correct use of the contraception method and "regular sex".
For comparision the pearl index of different methods:
BC pills: 0.1 - 0.9
Kondoms: 2 - 12 (note there is no 0. before)
Coitus interruptus (aka pulling out): 4 - 18
No contraception: 85
That beeing said there are many many many different BC pills. Without going further into detail. When you do notice some side effects like headache or stronger menstrual pain that you cannot stand, swap to pill to another manufacturer.
Hope i could help
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Am I pregnant?
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So where did the sperm go into your vagina? You don't get pregnant from touching your clit.
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No. You can’t get pregnant from that. It’s normal for cycles to vary. Your period is late because you ovulated late.
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Question about my health
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zb2rsx
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Rather than going to the ER, I'd suggest making an appointment with a urologist. When you have a special issue, see a specialist.
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Dayum bro. I have no idea what that is. But what i know is u need some expert to check that. Can be a future threat to ur junior.
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Can't be pregnant right?
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What’s the deal between being circumcised and uncircumcised??
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My issue with circumcision is that is routinely done and body autonomy is denied to many young boys. Parents, although with good intentions, submit their children to it beaded on false information and aesthetics. Basically, it’s plastic surgery.
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No there is just one normal and that's uncircumcised anything else is genitalia mutilation if there's no medical reason for it.
I don't think people should whitewash this.
You cut of extreamly sensitive tissue for no medical reason with no confirmation of the victim. Don't act like this shit is normal, it's not.
I mean would we be so chill if doctors would just cut off peoples nose tips or earlobes?
Proper hygien is taught and learned, you're not born with it.
If you think that circumcised are "cleaner" cause "it's easier since you don't have to peel the skin back" that shows you don't trust that guy to have even basic hygien and you definitly shouldn't let someone like that put any of his bodyparts in you. (That's not ment for you, but aparently you know people who belive this I guess)
Either you trust them to wash up properly or you don't, but then maybe you shouldn't have sex with them.
A circumcised dick doesn't motivate you to soap it up and "water will get it" isn't good enough.
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My only issue is that circumcision is usually forced on us guys so it seems wrong that people would prefer, and therefore support, cutting off part of someone genitals when they couldn’t consent. I wish circumcision wasn’t forced on me
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You’ve seen how a normal penis retracts and how easy it is to clean. Simple as pulling apart the labias.
The difference depends a lot on how much tissue was removed:
You can’t affect the form without affecting the function.
Some cut men can’t get fully erect when there is not enough slack skin to accommodate full erections.
Imagine a world where a woman’s clitoral hood was cut so tight, her clitoris was exposed to her underwear fabric to dry out and roughen up, she cannot schlick her bean as her altered clitoris becomes taut when erect from a tightly induced cut, and she has to purchase lube for the rest of her life to facilitate a comfortable stimulation.
>Yep, that’s what I have going on. I need lube just to jerk off, I used to not use it (because I was a kid) and my dick would just be sore all the time. Using the super small movement method.
>I remember posting about it online and they where basically all just like “you don’t know how to jerk off lol” it was really annoying, or telling me it was because I had rough hands (though that is part of it) but even when my girlfriend jerks me I need lube.
>It sucks.
>I remember when I was a kid I had these rough material boxers and I just didn’t know any better and was to embarrassed to bring it up but the head of my dick would rub on it and chaff and bleed.
>When I’m hard the skin is super tight.
>https://archive.ph/Mlujh
It depends on the style of cut and essentially how much loose skin is left.
There are men who end up with a tight cut style. When erect, their shaft skin is taut and can be painful and prone to tears. The scrotum skin and pubic skin may be pulled up along the shaft to compensate for the erection expanding it.
There are men who end up with a loose cut style. As opposed to tight cut men who require some form of artificial lubrication to facilitate comfortable stimulation, loose cut men have enough slack skin after erection to simply grip and move up and down. This frictionless movement is default for the intact penis, and the potential for how much the shaft skin can extend will depend on the extent of the excision of the foreskin.
The foreskin acts as a plug at the vaginal/anal entrance, to keep lubrication fluid inside, which then gets redistributed by the glans as it re-enters the vaginal/anal cavity.
A loose cut style may retain some of this functionality, but it cannot ever be as fully functionable as in its original form. A tight cut penis essentially acts like a piston with a flared out corona on the glans that scoops out lubrication with each outstroke and dries it out on the shaft.
There is another factor to consider: high vs low style of cuts.
A high style is a cut made further along the shaft, somewhere midway, leaving a lot of sensitive inner foreskin past the glans until the circumcision scar. The frenulum may also be kept mostly intact but will always depend on the surgeon’s performance and preference of circumcising. An exposed frenulum remnant may lead to premature ejaculation as it cannot modulate the stimulation the foreskin previously provided.
A low style tries to remove as much inner foreskin as possible, putting the shaft skin right up to the glans, to almost hide the circumcision scar under the corona. The frenulum and frenular delta are gone.
So, besides the retaining lubrication vs scooping it out to dry, a circumcised penis may be why a circumcised man may prefer a death grip to masturbate and stimulate his only remaining pleasurable part, the corpus cavernosum, through the meaty tissue of his glans and shaft. It may be why he cannot receive stimulations from nerves stolen from him at birth and he must resort to ever intensifying sexual fantasies to drum up mental stimulation. It may be why he must jackhammer as the only way to adequately stimulate his member with a vaginal/anal cavity that provides less grip than he is used to.
An intact penis can jackhammer, but for both partner’s sake, the shorter, gentler, gliding strokes keeps the mons pubis regions in contact more, stimulating the clitoris, as opposed to longer, rougher, rubbing strokes, pulling out lube and warmth, departing the pubis constantly, and madly slamming delicate tissue folds for a crumb of pleasure.
Some men would prefer to feel the touch sensation of their partner's delicate internal parts with all the Meissner's corpuscle nerves they were born with. (What are they? Run a fingernail across the back of your hand. Then run it across your palm. The difference in sensation is due to Meissner’s corpuscle nerves, which are found in the palm, fingertips, lips, and most concentrated in the ridged band and inner foreskin.)
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First off, no two penises are the same. What someone might tell you is a 100% thing for uncircumcised penises could also be true for circumcised penises.
With that caveat out of the way, uncircumcised penises tend to be harder to clean (not all men are as cleanly as you). Some don’t pull the skin all the way back from the head. And the head tends to be more sensitive than circumcised because it’s covered up by the foreskin.
So one reason someone might like them more is because circumcised penises are more… homogenous and less finicky.
Someone might like the way an uncircumcised penis feels inside of them opposed to a circumcised penis.
A third reason is that someone might not like using lube. I think the foreskin allows for less friction and less pain, but I’ve heard of both penis types needing lube to reduce friction. Really depends upon the sensitivity of the penis (see above).
Fourth, someone might like how one type looks or feels. This can be a personal aesthetic. Can also be cultural.
Ultimately, you’re talking about subjectivity. Whenever you talk about something as subjective as why someone likes something, it will ultimately come down to there isn’t a right or wrong. It’s all personal choice.
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Should I be worried
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You didn't know when u cummed? Did you have an orgasm or was it just pre cum?
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If you get sperm in her, she can get pregnant. We have no idea if that happened or not.
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And what about next time? Are you both going to use birth control or go through this worry again?
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any updates??
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am I in risk of pregnancy?
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No chance of pregnancy. Sperm dies the moment it dries, and besides, you didn't even put your fingers up your vagina, right? It might be different if you put your fingers in your vagina and had live sperm on your hands, but neither of those things happened, so you are good.
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Probably not but we can’t tell you unless you take a pregnancy test
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Do I need to put a condom on a vibrator in this situation?
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yj3u7l
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So long as you keep it clean no condom is necessary
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The lube in some condoms may actually degrade the material of the toy. Just keep it clean using mild soap and water or toy cleaner
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The answer depends on the quality of product.
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A silicone toy you can use directly, no condom. If it's a porous material (the softer, translucent plastics, sometimes called "jelly plastic" or blends are porous) you want to use a condom on it to prevent bacteria being trapped in the pores and hard to clean.
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If you use lube, water based is good. Other kinds of lube can damage the toy so again, a condom barrier prevents that.
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But if you get a reputable hard plastic (ABS plastic) or silicone (actual, 100% silicone) toy you can use it without a condom.
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I recommend not buying from Amazon but finding a reputable sex toy seller to buy from.
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Should i get circumcised?
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Nah don’t do it man. Most girls won’t care and the few that do aren’t worth messing around with.
I wish I was uncut
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The tongue in the foreskin is pretty great. Hand jobs are easy for them. You just have to be confident and fun and foreskin peaks interest.
By the first sexual encounter, you wouldn't have this thought.
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As an adult female - no woman will care and if one does make a remark she is not someone you want to have sexual relations with.
If it is not medically necessary, then it's not a problem. Also, while many of the boys around you may be circumcised, most of the world is not. It's very fashionable in North America and in some religious groups, but most of the population is not circumcised.
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Genital mutilation without medical reasons makes zero sense... Just like many other things in the usa (which i assume you live in).
If this would make you feel better and that's the only reason i would do some therapy to figure out why you got these confidence problems and maybe work on that before cutting your pp
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"Everyone around you"?
Since you have this perception, I'm guessing you're here in the US. This isn't 25+ years ago dude. I'd find it extremely unusual if you didn't know guys who aren't circumcised!
Guys aren't commenting on or mocking one another's johnson anymore at your age are they? That's middle school age and back sort of crap. I'm not circumcised...and back when I was your age everyone I knew of actually *was* circumcised. All my friends were, and all the guys I noticed in my pe class were also (we used to change and sometimes shower after pe class and sports...which a lot of schools don't give you time for now). I got a few odd looks, but nobody *said* anything.
I guess there are a few girls who might think it's weird(?). I was nervous about that....but I never encountered one. Most girls really don't care about that...especially when they've had experience with both. And I'm guessing you haven't had a chance to...take it for a spin yet either? Once you do you'll come to appreciate the unaltered johnson a lot more!
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Risk of pregnancy?
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No risk.
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You are safe
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Here are some websites that might help you:
Scarleteen: sex ed for the real world. It contains thousands of original sexuality, health and relationship articles, guides, fact sheets and in-depth advice. https://www.scarleteen.com/
Planned Parenthood: answers about pregnancy, birth control, emergency contraception, STDs, and abortion. https://www.plannedparenthood.org/
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am i being groomed?
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I think you should stop talking to this person. You shouldn't be afraid of how they feel when setting your own boundaries, especially since you yourself are now uncomfortable with the conversations you're having. You also shouldn't feel like you need to keep talking to them because you're lonely. They are probably aware of that and are using it for their own advantage. Absolutely do not tell them where you live, your real name, or send any photos of yourself to them. Never agree to meet them anywhere.
Normal 30+ year olds don't want to be friends with teenagers.
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Hello.
What you are describing sounds very fishy to me. I’m a 44 yo dad. I was groomed and molested by a much older teenager when I was prepubescent. Once the talk becomes more overtly sexual with an adult, then that adult wants more. Your ability to verify important things about them: are they really female?, how old are they?, where do they really live?, why aren’t they looking for another adult 18+?, do they use guilt or shame to try and steer conversations towards sexual outcomes, is the sex talk escalating and making you uncomfortable?
You can answer those questions.
I won’t tell you what to do or think. But as someone who was used and abused at a younger age, please know you are wonderful and deserve love. Find ways to love yourself and affirm yourself. You sound smart and thoughtful. May you be well and find the love and kindness you deserve!
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yes, it seems you have been groomed. it is definitely extremely strange for someone in their 30’s to be talking sexually with a teenager, whether you are of consenting age or not.
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Do you have any proof that this is a woman and not a man pretending to be a woman?
Even if it is a woman, this is really concerning. I'm 34F, and I guarantee you at age 30 the thought of having conversations like that with a teenager is just no. So, so inappropriate. No normal 30yo should think this is ok. No normal 30yo would tell a random internet teenager they love them.
If you can steer the conversation away from sex, do that. Keep it platonic. If you can't keep the conversation away from sex, block this person. Like the other person said, never tell them personal information and don't send photos of yourself.
One lesson you learn as a young woman is that a lot of people want sexual attention from you and to push your boundaries and you need to trust your feelings and say no. If it feels wrong, it is wrong.
Don't worry about hurting her feelings if you choose to end the relationship. She's a grown ass woman, she can handle it.
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Stop talking to them and don't worry about being rude. A lot of women and girls get preyed upon because society teaches us to be nice and polite. People take advantage of that instinct. If you still feel bad, lie and tell them you are moving away and won't have internet access for "a while". Don't use that account again. Hang out somewhere else on the internet.
I sympathize with being the lonely kid. You have to take care of yourself. This situations does sound fishy but the good news is that it is online and you can stop it.
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Do all people get hivs?
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Anyone can get HIV! There is stigma that one gay men can get it, but this is not true.
PrEP is a precautionary preventative. Depending on your lifestyle (such as being a man who has sex with men). I believe it is giving to others as well, depending on their situation.
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1. Everyone can contract HIV or AIDS. **HIV is passed on through blood, semen, vaginal fluid, anal mucus and breast milk, if the person with HIV has a detectable viral load. It's not passed on by spitting, sneezing or coughing.**
2. PrEP is commonly advertised to the most impacted demographics of at-risk individuals. The [presence of HIV is most common](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6217837/) in these groups, and "In the USA, gay and other men who have sex with men and transgender women are disproportionately affected by HIV."
Reasonable medical professionals will look to offer treatment and preventatives where the impact is most significant, but HIV/AIDS ***is not limited to spread among homosexual men, men with men, or men and trans women.*** Used needles and fluid exchange as listed above are the most common vectors, and because penetrative anal intercourse is particularly common among the demographics listed above **and** because the tissue in the region is subject to tearing and mild bleeding, two of the more common transference vectors are found in homosexual intercourse instances.
Yes, straight folks can get it. Yes, straight folks can take PrEP, but it's advertised to the most impacted people.
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Anal sex is a higher risk activity than vaginal sex because anal tissue is more prone to small cuts/tears. This is why we see higher rates of HIV transmission amongst gay men than other sexual demographics. Anyone can contract HIV, but certain lifestyles and circumstances put some groups at much greater risk. PrEP is a great option for people in those groups: people having casual anal sex, sex workers, IV drug users, and people who have an HIV positive partner. PrEP can be extremely effective at preventing transmission when taken as prescribed.
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Anyone can get HIV/aids! The more sexual partners you have the higher the probabillity. USE PROTECTION AND GET TESTED from Time to time.
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Getting tested regularly is a good habit. You can get hiv even without sex, e.g. in dentist office or nail salon or tattoo salon or hospital from improperly cleaned tools.
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am i pregnant?
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y7en6z
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You're fine! Cleaning his hands then letting them dry would have killed any sperm. They don't live very long outside the human body. No need to worry.
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The sperm would have been killed by the hand sanitizer and drying, so I think you are ok. By the way, useful tip: make sure to pee within an hour of having sex, or sooner. It flushes away any bacteria that can get into your urethra (your pee tube) during sex and reduces your risk of urinary tract infections.
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am I pregnant or no?
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The odds (based on what you said) are astronomically low that you are pregnant, like probably better odds of winning the lottery.
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The only way to know is to take a pregnancy test
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Hi! Sex educator over here. The lack of spots is a good sign, you can check also for thicker breast tissue or capillaries. Taking into account what you commented, the chances are very low, you should wait for your period to come and try to relax, stress can also delay your period. Implantation in most cases takes place eight to ten days after ovulation, so although the symptoms that you mentioned can be typical of an implantation, in would be a little too soon. The symptoms can be due to the stress that this situation caused you, that's another option.
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Should I shave my whole body
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xpmeeo
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if you want to just trim it and keep it clean, that's what I do. but it's completely your choice of what to do with your own body hair.
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Remember that body hair and hair from some areas is there for a reason and if you are going to shave it, it will require more attention and hygiene
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Should i stop masturbating?
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xoryhe
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there’s not really any evidence nofap works, however, porn depending on how frequently/intensively you consume it, can be pretty bad for you, but that varied from person to person
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NOFAP is not scientifically tested as it is all anecdotal. It makes most people feel guilty but others are fine.
It's all placebo so there is no pros and cons. You decide for yourself if you want to masturbate or not and your needs.
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Masturbating is normal and healthy. Quitting doesn't have any benefits, so as long as you're having fun and not hurting yourself, there's no actual reason to quit.
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pregnancy risk?
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The odds are non-zero. That's the best you can get from a statistical point of view. Realistically, pretty damn low, but there is never 0% unless she had her tubes tied or you have a vasectomy.
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I get it, felt the same way. Read and follow the directions, it'll be okay. Don't get complacent. Rock on🤘
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Risk of pregnancy?
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xijuvm
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There’s always *a chance* if you’re having unprotected sex, but it’s incredibly unlikely if what you’ve described here is accurate. Reconsider having unprotected sex in the future if you’re not prepared to handle a pregnancy, it’s inherently risky.
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If you put an unprotected penis in a vagina, there is always a risk of pregnancy. The pull out method is NOT a reliable form of birth control. Of 100 couples that rely on the pull-out method for a year, 20 of them will get pregnant. Why would you have unprotected sex?
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Why men concerned not women?
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xftrjn
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Teen boys/men in general have very little understanding of how pregnancy and cycles and ovulation work, especially if they had no sex education in school.
I hang out over on r/birthcontrol and there are plenty of posts by women saying they messed up their contraception and are concerned about pregnancy. So maybe this sub is more popular with boys.
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Sadly enough males are far less educated on sex than females
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Alongside what others have said, no one who can *get* pregnant can do it without biological material from folks with penises. In many common relationships, this means that men are largely responsible for (even unwanted) pregnancy -- especially in a sociopolitical climate like one finds in nations with anti birth control and body autonomy laws.
Men asking about problems they might have caused is a step toward education and responsible pro/recreation.
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We ain’t interested in child support for 18 years
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Is it ok to have sex with my sister if she wants it
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x8h1he
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Even if both of you want it (which is just your bodies reacting automatically to sexual stimuli) doing it will only bring you a hoard of problems in the long run. From the social point siblings aren't allowed to be sexual partners so you both will always be under pressure of potential risk of being judged and possibly even punished.
If you're male, than there's also a risk of pregnancy which would mean either an abortion or baby being born unhealthy, let alone aforementioned social pressure.
All on all, it isn't worth it. You'll be just confusing yourself and her and put both of you at risk.
Be rational about it. Your arousal isn't your boss. You decide. Sex comes with big responsibility, don't dismiss it coz I can promise you you will regret it later.
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No. That’s you guys will regret as you guys get older and if pregnancy happens, baby will come out sick and you’ll also have to deal with family…not worth it IMO
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what the fuck
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NO.
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Why do people criticize men that don't "understand" women so viciously?
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x5hzkd
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Can you give an example of some things that you struggle to understand about women, or that you have been told men ought to know? What has caused you to feel attacked when it comes to discussing these things?
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If you mean why do people gang up on others on reddit, they just do. The snowball gains trajectory pretty fast going downhill in this pseudosphere. Idk if that's what you're meaning, but I will stop going to subs where mods let things like that happen, the bullying. It's counter productive at best. But it's hard to address what you're saying exactly without making assumptions here, I assume you've been criticized online... You've got to remember those that criticize others the most like themselves the least. And if online is getting under your skin it's totally fine to take a break and reset, healthy even.
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Because this is in sexed, I assume you’re talking about sexuality.
And it’s because the information exists, and many men are too lazy/selfish to educate themselves.
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Its normal to be horny all the time right? 16f
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x3gmk7
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It goes away someday but yeah it is normal
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At 16 yrs old, yes very much.
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That's a hormonal influx, it'll pass when puberty ends.
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While it is a lot more intense during puberty, once you reach adulthood it does ease off a little bit for most people. It's not really that the horniness 'stops,' though, you just sort of learn to live with it and control it somewhat over time.
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Yep, it goes away usually.
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Would it be ok to ask a new partner for proof of their birth control, if they say that they are on it?
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Do not have sex with someone if you don’t trust that person to be upfront and honest about their safer sex precautions. Safer sex should be discussed before you have sex, as should be what you would like to happen if there was an accident that resulted in pregnancy. If you don’t agree, you don’t have sex. Asking about birth control is appropriate. Demanding to a prescription for hormonal birth control demonstrates a huge lack of trust and doesn’t actually indicate they’re taking them or taking them appropriately.
Fortunately, birth control is a shared responsibility and you have an affordable and accessible option available to you. Condoms are highly effective if used correctly and leave none of the responsibility to your partner. [Wear a condom every time and make sure you know how to use one appropriately.](https://www.cdc.gov/condomeffectiveness/external-condom-use.html)
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Define proof? I’m on the IUD and there’s no real way to prove that
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Either you trust them or you don't. If you don't, use condoms.
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is my gf pregnant?
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wuhkwo
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Yes she can. There were live sperm in your urethra.
Is it likely? Probably not.
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Yes. The pull out method barely ever works. There is always precum.
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Pregnancy scare ?
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wjutp4
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Just take a pregnancy test.
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Is it ok to masturbate to porn [15M]
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wi0nni
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Just know a few things:
Sex depicted in porn is filmed in a way to show off the acts to the viewers, which makes it not very realistic. That’s problematic for people today who have learned how to have sex by watching porn, and just try to imitate that, rather than learning what feels good for you and your partner without that.
The dopamine rush from masturbating to porn can eventually interfere with your “regular” sex life when you are older. You may condition your body to have an orgasm from certain specific stimulation, and then find that you are unable to replicate those conditions in the bedroom, which can be frustrating for you and your partner.
Beware the death grip. Don’t squeeze too tightly and get used to that.
Some people find that a porn/masturbation habit affects their mood and energy levels, which can interfere with the rest of your life. Just be conscious of it, and be prepared to take a break if you need to
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Masturbating to porn is completely fine! You just need to realise that most of it is fake and that your sexual experiences will probably be completely different. As long as you realise that there is no reason to be worried!
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Masturbation and sex are fine. Masturbating to porn is fine. Doing it daily or multiple times in a day is fine.
Just monitor yourself. You sound like someone who is self-aware so keep it up and just do what you think it healthy. You know your body better than anyone on the Internet.
What I will say as an aside is that real sex is usually unlike porn (there are certain communities that like sex to be more like porn, but that’s a different topic). Why am I telling you this? Well, it’s a trope that a lot of men have sex like they’re in a porno and partners don’t really enjoy that type of sex.
Ultimately, it comes down to talking to your partner about sexual needs and expectations. If you expect sex to be like a porno, then make sure you communicate this to your partner.
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Yea
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Just be sure that you take your time about it. Too many Men train their body to come quickly that way so try to never go for less than 15 or 20 minutes
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[15M] is it normal to masturbate multiple times a day?
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wfz2o8
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We all have do it, dont be worried about it.
You want it ? Do it !
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as long as it's not interfering with your life (skipping school, cancelling meet-ups, being late to places bc you can't stop etc.), there is nothing wrong with masturbating multiple times a day. (interference with day to day life is where they tend to draw the line for struggling with addiction).
it has no harmful effect on your physical health, and in fact has many beneficial effects. you might want to check these videos out from sexplanations (a sex-ed channel on youtube): [masturbation](https://youtu.be/ClbmURYMFew) (a general video on the topic), [masturbation frequency](https://youtu.be/hzdt-Muhs1M), [masturbation q&a](https://youtu.be/PaHudJWwM8I), [another masturbation q&a](https://youtu.be/3U3gA51gXKg) -among many other videos that i think you will find beneficial. i'd really recommend browsing her channel and watching videos on other topics too if you're curious. they're short and to the point videos but also very informative but in a playful and informal way, so it doesn't feel like a medical sex ed class.
it's especially common during teenage years i think, teenagers are kinda notorious for being horny lol.
(some adults are like that too, people have all sorts of frequency preferences when it comes to masturbation or sex.)
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If you want to do it, enjoy it and feel in the mood, go for it! Unless it doesn't hurt you, it's completely fine.
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Omg yes I do it 2-3 times a day.
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Your body will tell you when you have had enough.
See [Masturbation.](https://en.intactiwiki.org/wiki/Masturbation)
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URGENT: Scared to death about my girlfriend being pregnant? Do you think she is pregnant
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wfqi6x
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Nearly 0 chance. But do à test if you want to Be sure !
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Do I have an STD?
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vu56ba
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Monkey pox?
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Any kind of rash or any other unusual presentations are best checked by a doctor
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Yes please go to a doctor.
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could i be pregnant?
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vo2yji
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You're not pregnant. Why? Because, when the "cum" comes in touch with air, it dies real quick. So, no, you're not pregnant
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You’re not pregnant. But considering your family situation, please use a condom whenever you guys decide to have sex. Or even are in a situation that could lead to sex.
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You are not pregnant.
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You are not pregnant. He did not ejaculate inside you. Even if he had it’s only been 2 days and you wouldn’t be pregnant yet. Sex Ed is really failing you kids.
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Pregnancy ?
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vlwsym
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Not high, but not zero. Precome may contain miniscule amount of semen. Semen survives inside vagina for up to 7 days, which by your count is enough to reach her ovulation day. If 72 hours haven't passed yet, it's best to take plan b.
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Does someone else find this uncomfortable?
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vlcrbb
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Yeah, I do. Pre-cum can get the person pregnant. Do your best to clean it and responsibly rub it if there's going to be any. It might be extreme to some, but use a condom even if there will be no intercourse
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you really think i pull any?
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Is it safe for two gay cis men who have both tested negative for std’s to have unprotected sex?
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vj70f2
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If you’re both [actually negative] you can’t give anything to each other. But know:
One, most places don’t do a full battery of tests. Did yours test for herpes? Hepatitis B&C? HIV, gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia?
Two, there are also things like Monkey Pox that generally isn’t tested, and is spreading through the gay community currently, esp in NY area.
Three if you were both tested last month and [tested negative], [one of you could still be positive and you would also have to be] 100% sure that you or they haven’t have sex with anyone else since then.
Good practice is to wrap it up.
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Don't be silly. At least one of you could get pregnant
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Scared to have sex with new people?
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vhgv0i
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This isn't going to work. Some people can emotionally do stuff like that and others can't. I get too emotionally attached. Even as someone much older and male, just doesn't work for me.
It wasn't just sex and you have a better idea of what ended that relationship. Give it a few weeks or as much time as you need. Eventually you will start dating again. Given how you feel, emotionless sex may not be a good idea.
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Thank you for expressing how every single adult feels about being single and dating, striving for a satisfying sex life!
I'm not laughing at you, but with you.
Yes yes yes yes yes, we all feel this way: Self-conscious, inferior, inept, incapable, and generally a massive joke.
I too struggle with allowing myself to have the experiences I want.
I would suggest you take a breath. Slow down. Gain some perspective.
You are not the lowly mollusk you perceive yourself to be.
Wait until you find a connection which is appealing to you.
I assure you that when that happens, your worries and cares will slip away.
Wait until you feel comfortable with someone before getting naked.
One night stands need not be a part of your sex life. Many people these days shirk such experiences for so many reasons.
Don't beat up on yourself! For anything!
If you want to sit on the sidelines for a while, then do so. Eventually you will get your nerve and confidence back.
Until then, it's a good time to reflect, gain new perspective on yourself, and discover what it is you want to experience.
It is also normal to feel these things when fresh out of a long-term relationship and new to the market.
Hitting the wall of reality, vs your fantasies about being single and on your own, does take some adjusting to.
But you will adjust. And you shall find your way.
In your own way. No pushing or shoving of the self.
Allow yourself to flow. Go where you want, if and when you want.
Happy trails!
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cleanup afterwards?
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vdndnj
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Absolutely okay to not wash yourself right away. The only time you should truly worry about washing your hands is before you do it, especially if you can't remember the last time you've washed your hands. As someone with a partner, we tend to have spontaneous moments that don't always allow clean up but if you're comfortable with that person, then how they/you smell shouldn't matter. Do try to pee after sex to prevent infections though (for future advice)
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That's not a weird question at all, don't worry!
It's not a huge problem if you don't wash yourself inmediately after finishing. It may just give a little bit of a smell, but if you regularly clean your sheets its fine. You won't get any infection from it at all. It's also completely fine to do it a few times in a row without cleaning in between.
It's understandable that you started out by just kinda humping or rubbing, but I highly recommend only doing it the 'normal' way. It may take some getting used to at first, but it feels way better after you get used to it. There's plenty of other thinfs you can do to make it feel better as well.
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No, you’re good. Best smell ever btw. 😏
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Vaginal discharge is completely clean. Some smell is natural. Most of it actually comes from sweat, not discharge itself. Pungent or strongly tasting foods will transfer to smell. Some people eat pineapple specifically for that reason.
I highly recommend you visit Scarleteen.com and read up on anatomy and physiology, those are basics you need to know.
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if I take pills regularly, then is it okay not to use condoms anymore?
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v8c6vu
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Pill doesn't protect you from STDs and STIs. If you're truly hell bent on not using condoms, than both you and your partner need to get tested regularly.
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I’d recommend you still use one because the pill can fail.
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Use condoms. The pill is never 100% effective. It’s only like 95% effective if you take it properly which is, I believe, at the same time, every day, and it would take a few months to properly get to that number
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If you are in a serious relationship and know for a fact neither of you have STDs it is ok. The pill isn't 100 percent and if you are ever on an antibiotic please remember your birth control will not work for up to 30 days after the antibiotic is finished.
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What age is it normal to start experiencing sexual thoughts?
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v7er4g
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It is a known scientific fact that children do sometimes masturbate, usually without thinking about sex, they just get aroused, and do what feels nice and don't care about what an older person would care about.
Personally, I started experiencing arousal and sexual thoughts at about 11-12, first watched porn at 12, and first masturbated at 13. But I know one person who've tried masturbating at 4-5 in front of their parents (they just didn't know what it even is, and why parents are suddenly so surprised about it), and another person who's been masturbating since 7, while knowing what it actually is (he's grown to be an incel, but I think it's unrelated)
Anyway, I think there's nothing wrong with you. After all, it's in the past, and what matters is your present and your future
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Physical arousal is a reflex, one we develop already in the womb. If genital area is stimulated, it will react. It's not connected to sexual desire and sexual attraction until puberty, when designated areas of the brain start to develop.
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There is no real answer for this.
From the male perspective, masturbation maybe a little later. Some boys find attraction early and almost know their orientation early. Others don't find it until 12-16. As for fiddling down there, 7 or 8 is early. I recall always getting firm but it's not really long to hold and it didn't have as many sensations yet. Some still did it and it's dry so no cum so most didn't bother or knew. It works better with length which most didn't get until middle school.
I've heard girls humping at a young age so this isn't out of the ordinary. If you started at 5, just sort of be aware that you might have a higher sex drive than your partner.
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How can I educate myself?
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v3v2sk
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Try Sexplanations and Hannah Witton on YouTube.
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A good baseline book that is positive, fun, and a bit goofy (like good sex should be) is 'The Guide to Getting It On' by Paul Joannides. It's been used as a college textbook, so it's pretty thorough.
'Oh Joy Sex Toy' is a good sex positive webcomic.
If you want to explore some of the kinky side and like puns/dorkyness, 'Watts the Safeword' explores sex, kinky stuff, and a small degree of sex history by two gay pornstars. - It sounds weird, but give them a chance and you'll learn a lot from a unique perspective.
I've seen people recommend 'https://www.scarleteen.com' too. I have not explored it myself, but it's really recommended on this board on a regular basis.
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Look up the sexsplanations YouTube channel, that’s my source.
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A absolutely wonderful book is “Let’s Talk About It” by Erika Moen and Matthew Nolan… I recommend to everyone from 12- to adulthood!
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Is there a risk of pregnancy?
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v1ynao
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Semen dies the moment it dries. So no chance.
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Not possible to get pregnant from what you've described.
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Pregnancy likelyhood ?
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v1i0zh
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No chance
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You could still cause pregnancy even without having cummed inside her. It’s unlikely but still can’t say it never happens.
Don’t be unlucky and use a condom the entire time or risk having a kid, those are your choices.
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cant get hard because im nervous
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uzwzdk
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DO NOT THINK SOO MUCH!! You are thinking toooo much about so many other things. Best thing to think about during sex? Thing about all the sexy things you can do to each other. LIVE IN THE MOMENT.
If you're thinking if you will be able to make her orgasm? Dude, there's 200% chances you'll be able to make her orgasm with your hands ;-)) don't have to rely on Mr. Willy Wonka here. As long as you both are doing it and enjoying it, it's Sex! Doesn't have to be intercourse always..
Also more importantly, even you do not wish to take the relationship seriously, there's no shame in discussing the issue with your partner in an elaborate manner and letting them get involved in it(That is if they wish to). This will enable to loosen up the unknown expectations yo think she has and will in turn calm you down.
Bruh sex is something very great.. but it isn't the greatest thing you will experience with another person. Do not put it on a pedestal.
Instead have fun, get naked, get clumsy, have sex in whatever ways that pleasures the two of you..
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Forget about PIV and focus on other ways to give and receive pleasure. Once you're more familiar and comfortable with sex and your partner, anxiety will go away.
Sexplanations on youtube has great sex ed, I recommend you watch it.
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Is hormonal birth control absolutely necessary?
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uycbxz
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Talk to your doctor and let them know your concerns.
For me the Nuvaring didn't cause side effects other than break through bleeding after being on it for 3 years. But no hormonal typical ones like weight gain, nausea, changes in mood etc.
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Is it normal that I don't feel any pleasure while masturbating?
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hek9hj
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Trying to masturbate if you are not already turned on in some way can definitely feel like nothing special. If you aren't already using some sort of stimuli (porn, erotic stories, etc) then maybe try adding that into the mix.
There is also a possibility of being asexual or demisexual, which means that you don't feel arousal or it takes being with another person with whom you have a deep connection for you to feel arousal.
Honestly, everyone's body is different so there is not really a "normal" especially when it comes to sex and sexuality. My philosophy is pretty much "if you like it, do it. If you don't, don't do it."
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If you’ve just started masturbating it’s normal to not orgasm! Learn the right way to masturbate first.
1. EXPLORE- experiment with different things and find out what you like most
2. Try watching porn or just images( it works)
3. Try dimming the light! Go slow and enjoy every moment!
4. DO NOT MASTURBATE IN EXCESS ITS BAD
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I'd rather you stop it
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Why is masturbation such a taboo subject?
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crvomw
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Masturbation is very natural. I think people don't like to talk about it because its somehow seen as sinful and lonely. Which neither is true. But I assume since it's not good in the religious realm and extreme sexually active people don't need it, it is seen as something of a middle ground and taboo.
Masturbation is very healthy and can even help people choose better romantic relationship. Education should encourage it.
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I think the taboo of it is based in religion. I grew up in the church and not only were we taught that only men did that, we were of course taught it was a sin. Being a girl who masturbated and not even having a name for what I was doing but thinking it was somehow evil and that I was somehow perverse to do so was rough.
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Deadass monkeys do that shit all the time
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I read the other answers so far and find them most unsatisfactory. To say that masturbation is taboo because of religion is an insufficient answer. Why did (some) religions make masturbation a sin/taboo? This is a question that needs answering. Also to say "it's natural" is a meaningless comment, many natural things are dangerous and unhealthy and should be avoided. The fact is that masturbation can detract men from dating and mating, from procreation. Masturbation can easily become an alternative to sex and not just something fun and relaxing for people to do until sex is available. Religions stress continuity, the family, community. Religions might see masturbation as taking away from those things. I personally believe they do, not from a religious perspective but from personal experience.
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Sexuality is tied to morality in most religions and even most governments as a way to control the masses. It’s not so much about sex acts/masturbation as it is about holding power over others through emotional manipulation / judgment.
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Can you give me a lesson on sex education?
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jkllx7
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Hi! Of course! This is a good link that explains all about periods and a few methods https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/periods/
Pro’s of tampons and menstrual cups are that you can swim while using them, which you cannot with pads. However, using one without replacing it often enough is a bit riskier, since there is a small risk of toxic shock syndrome. Tampons tend to be a bit easier to use than menstrual cups, especially when just starting out, and I would personally recommend using a tampon with an applicator if you want to try it. Some people love using tampons, and other people prefer pads, it’s all just very personal.
There are a ton of YouTube videos that can help you out on how to use this and on basically anything sex ed related, so that can be a good source of information too! Planned parenthood also had a lot of information on their website, so if, later on, you’d want more information on sex ed, that may help. Good luck!
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Here's a [link to a quick rundown about periods](https://www.scarleteen.com/article/disability_quickies/quickies_periods_and_the_menstrual_cycle)-what they are, how they work, what you can use for them, and links to more information if you have other questions.
It's from a website called [Scarleteen](https://www.scarleteen.com), which is a sex education website aimed specifically for teens and young adults. The whole website is a great resource, and it has information about biology, sexuality, pregnancy and disease prevention, relationships, and even information about mental health and social issues. It's basically the sex education class we all needed and no one ever got.
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Hi!
EchoExodus covered periods/menstrual products very well! The URL they provided goes over all of the 'basics' better than I could! I just want to add a few practical tips/things that aren't covered in a fact sheet:
\- It's okay to only use pads! Some people say that using only pads is childish (at least they did when I was younger, I hope people have gotten less...weird), but it is absolutely not. Each type of menstrual product (pads, tampons, menstrual cups) have their advantages and disadvantages, and it depends on the person, their comfort, and their needs. Don't feel pressured to use tampons before you're ready to try, or if you're uncomfortable with anything being inserted in your vagina.
\- If you decide to use tampons, buy the kind with a plastic applicator to start (there are some with cardboard applicators or no applicator at all). These are the easiest and smoothest to use to make your first time trying easier. I recommend using a hand held mirror to look at what you're doing, as it may help your comfort level.
\- Panty liners!!!! Panty liners are like super thin pads that you can put in your underwear for your 'lighter' days (such as your first and last day) without having the bulkiness of pads. Some people wear them with a tampon or menstrual cup just in case they get full and leak through, so it catches any blood and saves your underwear.
\- You will probably notice your discharge change just before and after your period. It's normal if your discharge is brown and sticky around your period.
\- It is normal to have uncomfortable/painful cramps on your periods, but debilitating pain that gets in the way of activities (i.e. it hurts too much to walk around, go to school) or pain that causes cold sweat, isn't helped by pain killers, and to the point of throwing up is not average. If you experience this level of pain on your periods, you should talk to your doctor. Lots of women are told that periods are painful, so they assume that extreme levels of pain are just what everyone goes through, and it takes many women years of pain to seek medical help because they just thought they had a low pain tolerance. If you experience bad pain (don't worry, it's less likely that you'll just have some discomfort!), please get it checked out! For whatever discomfort you do feel, Midol and ibruprofen help, as do heating pads, hot water bottles, and baths.
As for your body, there are plenty of resources on anatomy and all that, but I want to say that many use very basic diagrams that do not represent the huge diversity in bodies. I usually recommend [The Great Wall of Vagina](http://greatwallofvagina.co.uk/great-wall-vagina-panels) to show the diversity of vulvas - it is an art exhibition of 400 plaster vulva casts displayed in a non-pornographic way. I HIGLY recommend visiting [https://www.thevulvagallery.com/anatomy](https://www.thevulvagallery.com/anatomy) for anatomy education. All pictures are simple illustrations of diverse vulvas, and there is educational explanations of each part of the vulva/vagina/clitoris/labia.
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If you're interested in any other sex education topics, I'm happy to speak to those/find resources for them as well! If you have any follow-up questions don't hesitate to ask :)
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With all the good advice on methods to collect you utherus lining (menstrual blood) in a proper way, i would like to add that a heating pack, chocolate, painkillers, sleeping more, water and a good amount of loving yourself, really helps with the pain! Remember that your favorite tv show probably will be the best entertainment you can get! Keep that menstruating going and shower everyday when its on! This might seem weird, but its acually important to shower when its on! Keep clean and the heat helps with the pain too 😊 it doesnt kill you to skip the shower, but you really should be! Dont wash directly and only use ph save soaps made for it, if you want to use soaps! But keeping yourself feeling clean, can also really help with the shitty feelings😅
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Is this normal not to have desire to masturbate ?
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gfyto6
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It is completely normal!! Many, many people have no desire to masturbate.
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It's completely normal man! Things will become normal when time comes. I have a friend (16M) he says that he finds porn and masturbation disgusting and feels like vomiting while watching porn .....
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How to last longer and stop being insecure about it?
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gz1zkn
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Well, don't masturbate all the time because you are training your body to cum fast. What you can do is when you feel you are close to cum stop and try to control your breathing into a more calm way.
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i know there is a book called the "Tao of love and sex" that has practical advice. anything from Tao or Tantra "philosophies" may help.
I don't have a penis so I can't give you real advice, but from what I've heard, this problem has a lot to do with the relationship, your self confidence and the level of trust and intimacy between you and your sex partner. so, maybe there is no reason to think it will be the same with your next partner!
even more, not all girls enjoy penetration that much. you may find someone who prefers other kinds of sexual interaction and won't see this as an issue at all.
do you speak Spanish? I may recommend a podcast if you do.
best wishes! work on this but don't blame yourself. take care and talk to yourself as you would to a friend
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Why is sex education important?
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j1ywgv
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Well, I never really thought circumcision was a big issue until I recently spoke to guys on Facebook who shared articles that circumcision could be a big issue for all the feelings of less sensitivity and ED in men. Someone went on to claim that foreskin is similar to clitoris on women which is an extremely sensitive organ.
I’m 30 years old as well and I hate being uneducated on SexEd but it’s never too late to learn stuff. Right? Please consult doctors and experts on SexEd before circumcision.
Personally, I’ve always opposed to this idea since foreskin is a natural part of man’s body and is there for some purpose. Every organs and part of our body has some important function to perform (except for vestigial organs, I guess). But, sure, I also understand not everybody has those organs function normally as it is supposed to. A foreskin is naturally supposed to retract without any force. But in people where it don’t function normally, they might need a medical aid to help it function normally.
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I didnt know that girls had two holes
one to pee and one fot sex
UNTIL YESTERDAY !!!!!!!!
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I have the same issue but don’t know how to remedy it.
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Good News: Depending on the severity of the phimosis, you might not need a full circumcision. One of the possible surgeries to fix it is called a frenuloplasty, where they just cut the frenulum to help the foreskin retract properly.
“If an uncircumcised man has a problem with his foreskin (the loose skin that covers the end of the penis) such that it is very tightly attached to the undersurface of the glans of the penis, it can cause difficulty in movement of the skin as well as pain during erections. A foreskin that is tight enough to restrict movement is commonly known as a frenulum breve. This is remedied by a procedure called a frenuloplasty, where the tightness and restriction is removed. While circumcision can help this condition, frenuloplasty is a specialized technique that seeks to treat solely this condition while preserving the foreskin. After a few weeks and the incision healed, the patient will experience reduced or no pain with erections, will have more enjoyable sexual intercourse, and will feel an increase in the range of motion for the penile skin.”
Source: https://www.urologicalcare.com/contents/penile-implant-prothesis/cosmetic-penile-surgery/frenuloplasty-explanation
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Here's some general info on phimosis, which in most men is easily treatable with some patience:
https://urology.ucsf.edu/patient-care/children/phimosis
http://phimosisjourney.com/ (Educational, but contains NSFW images) <- He had pinhole phimosis and made a full recovery, and was able to have a wife and kids before even noticing it was an issue
First step is to identify the type of phimosis, the second website has examples. Next, try Googling "foreskin phimosis stretches" to learn more, typical treatments for phimosis include stretching and topical cream (ex: 0.05% betamethasone) prescribed by a doctor. See what type of phimosis you have, then start stretching. After you get a prescription, the topical steroid creams will accelerate progress. If your doctor makes no mention of a topical cream or stretching exercises, see a different doctor, as this is the first step in treating phimosis.
Not all doctors are properly trained to handle phimosis, especially in the US, and may refer to circumcision first, in this case, find another doctor. Even in the most severe cases, today there are procedures which remove little or no tissue (z-plasty, dorsal slit, etc).
You have a lot of options, good luck!
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Is pressured consent considered rape or sexual assault?
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nili29
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YES yikes it absolutely does. It's called coercion and is both legally and ethically assault.
[https://www.californialegalteam.com/sexual-harassment-lawyers-explain-coercion/](https://www.californialegalteam.com/sexual-harassment-lawyers-explain-coercion/)
Note: "This force can include the use of drugs, alcohol, **emotional manipulation**, and threats of abuse."
Emphasis mine. Threatening to leave you/etc is 100% coercive and makes anything you agreed to that you didn't want to do nonconcensual.
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Consent ONLY counts when it is enthusiastic and informed, and part of that is the ability to say no. If you cannot safely say "no I don't want to" and be left in peace, it wasn't consent.
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That said that doesn't mean she intentionally or maliciously raped you. Many people don't understand consent and don't realize what they are doing is assault. She sounds abusive, manipulated, and toxic, and the experiences you had are NOT examples of consensual or positive sexual activities, but you get to decide how you think about them, and if you consider it a form of rape or not.
You should seek a therapist that specializes in trans people and sexual abuse. You are definitely not alone in these experiences.
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Yes its rape
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I am terribly sorry to hear you went through that experience. I hope you are on the path to happiness now. :)
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Yes, 100%. Pressured consent is sexual assault, I'd even say it counts as rape.
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This is definitely manipulative and traumatic AF - here's the thing...if you feel like you were raped or assaulted...you were. That's kinda how it works. I'm sorry this happened you.
Be forewarned that other people may not agree with my conclusion - it's not for them. It's for you. You should never have to defend your trauma.
YOU have to deal with, carry, and overcome this trauma, not them. (Dont waste time with anyone who tries to deny you your experiences, they are not looking out for you.)
I hope this is affirming. I get that trauma, especially sexual trauma, is hard to process. I suggest therapy and also being selective about the caliber of person you have sex with (easier said than done). But you know if you’re being disrespected, you know?
Proud of you for reaching out.
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Is this considered rape?
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f68v0l
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If he proceeded to have sex with you when you expressed you didn't want it, yes, I'm afraid that is rape. He didn't have to physically hold you down for it to be rape.
Don't be afraid to report him, because if he was in contact with other guys of your age, I wouldn't be surprised if that wasn't the first time.
But please take care of yourself first.
I'm sorry this happened to you and I hope you find the support you need. Much love.
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Hi OP. First of all, I'm so so so sorry that happened! It's awful that the sorry excuse for a human being took advantage of a young you. It's not your fault in any way, to any degree (no matter how naive you were).
Secondly, I think it's up to you to decide if you want to call it rape or sexual assault, etc. I'm not in any way minimising what happened and if you want to call it rape I'll back you up a 100%, this certainly qualifies. (Coercion is not consent!). I'm saying that it's your life and your experience, so you get to decide what to call it, what rings true to you. For some people calling it rape would help them heal, for others it would be traumatising. So I support whatever word you want to use that would help you.
Best of luck! I hope you get to meet people that would earn and deserve your trust and you get to enjoy awesome sex (whatever that is to you). Only if you want it of course (It's ok to not want to have sex too. *Wave to all the asexuals out there*).
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I'm so sorry this happened to you. You should talk with a professional about this. I'm afraid it was rape cause you said no, and he insisted so much to get there.
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Why do we have kinks and fetishes
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czdanh
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There is some science on why but I dont know all of it. From what I understand we start developing fetishes from a very young age. So experiencing someone your brain perceives as attractive wearing a certain article of clothing can imprint it as a sexual object. As we mature and experience new things they can develope further. Sometimes its impressions we get at a young age or images we see that just strike us. Some people think we are even bore with tendencies. Family life, hobbies, and habits can translate into a sexual nature easily. I know trama can greatly affect someone entire sexuality.
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That's a great question. Would love to read up on that.
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