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t3_39vrwk | tifu | TIFU trying not to kick the cat. | This actually happened today!
SO and I live in a small apartment with two cats that don't really like each other. They tend to sleep on opposite corners of the bed, getting in the way as cats are wont to do. This evening, after SO and I finished our Netflix binge for the evening, we are lazing about and contemplating actually sleeping. I finally convince SO to turn off the light, as I am both lazy and lucky, at least in my pick of SO.
I decide to get into prime cuddling position, hoping for a pleasant end to a pleasant evening. In order to not disturb gray cat, i perform some ribbon-dancer shit with my legs. Gray cat harrumphs at me for moving, and continues slumber unfazed.
While I was creating new yoga poses, somehow I caught the nail of the big toe of one foot caught on the joint of the other big toe, bending that nail back far enough that everyone on the planet should have winced simultaneously.
But it gets worse.
While SO is laughing hysterically and I am cursing like a sailor, we break out some light.
There is something wrong.
There is something very wrong.
I start cutting down my toenail, since the nail polish is plenty bad at this point, and my entire toe is throbbing.
I turn on some real light.
IT'S BLACK IN THAT BITCH.
SO is mercifully asleep while I finish my probe/damage assessment. By the time I'm uncomfortable going further, the majority of my toenail is gone. The only thing I can think of is the discount place I got a pedicure a while back. I guess it's time to head to a podiatrist. | Discount pedicures ruin the risk of nail fungus. Klutzy girls are Klutzy. Cats are even assholes passively. |
t3_2o1n4k | offmychest | My [F20] boyfriend [M21] is always losing stuff and it drives me crazy | Ok this isn't really serious but it's been getting on my nerves for over a year.
My boyfriend is so forgetful and it's getting absolutely ridiculous now. Just last week we drove an hour to my parent's house and it wasn't till we got home that he realised he'd left his wallet there. So we had to do another 2 hour trip to go and get it again. A couple of days later he "lost" his wallet (it was actually at his dad's house) and he'd cancelled all his cards before we found out where it was.
He leaves stuff at my house all the time and often has to come back to get it. He loses things when we're out all the time. I can't trust him to remember anything, so I try to remind him, but then he gets pissed off at me. I can't afford not to ask him if he's remembered his wallet because past precedent dictated that he hasn't.
If I get angry at him he acts really hurt because he "can't help it" but it's got to a point where I have no sympathy anymore. He is not ill, he has no disability, he can remember random facts and phone numbers really easily. He is just totally absent minded. It costs him a lot of money to replace the things he loses and he always acts super sorry for himself when it happens. I end up turning the room upside down while he sits there and doesn't help me look for his own stuff. It's so annoying! | My boyfriend is always losing his stuff and always acts like it's not his fault, despite never doing anything to help himself, and getting angry when I try to help him. |
t3_2i1axw | tifu | TIFU by unintentionally insulting my boss | I have a tendency to lack a filter between my brain and my mouth, and honestly, even with the best intentions and *thinking* I'm using a filter, I always fuck it up.
This happened about a month ago and I'd been at my new job for about 2 months? 11am I made some comment that I'd been overtaken on the way to work with some guy doing three times the speed limit at least. I said, "man, and the bastard was ginger too, always the angriest" (completely in jest, by the way, I can't entirely remember how this topic came up) - then next to my boss is a family portrait... everyone in his family, including his wife, is ginger. Brilliant.
Then at 3pm, we were chatting whilst working and I said how my girlfriend had come across some spiders the other day and about her huge phobia etc, just shooting the shit and hoping to get to know him better and hopefully fix the stupid comment I'd made earlier. BUT, of course, I mess up. The filter forgets to come into play. My boss is bald. I say "man, it's makes your skin crawl even when you're not there, doesn't it? It's like when someone you know says they think they have head lice, and it makes your... head... *very quietly now* itch".
I need a new filter.
Worst part is the job is awesome and my boss is a total champ, I just say stupid stuff a lot. Yay. | Despite my best efforts I, in the space of a day, inadvertedly insulted my new boss' family for their hair color and then my boss' lack of hair. Brilliant. |
t3_3n7ait | relationships | How can I [41F] convince my daughter [20F] to wait until she's 24 to get married? | My daughter and her fiance have been together for almost 4 years, and are planning on getting married a couple months after they turn 22. It's not like we don't trust the guy she's with, we love him. I just want her to wait until she's at least 24 or 25 before getting married for myself personally. I don't see the problem in her waiting until she's 24 or 25 to get married, i don't see why it has to be when they're 22.
Does anyone agree or disagree that they should wait?
How should I try to convince her that it's a good idea to wait? | Daughter is adamant about getting married at 22, even after I suggested waiting until she's 24 or 25. Not sure how to convince her it's a good idea to wait. |
t3_1elj8y | relationships | I [24F] am about to go on my first vacation with a SO [31M]. What can I do to make this a successful romantic getaway? | My SO [31M] and I [24F] have been seeing one another for nearly a year now and are getting ready to go to Montreal at the end of the month for a weeklong getaway in celebration of my recent graduation from college. Things in our relationship are great, but this is my first serious relationship and my first time going on a vacation with a boyfriend, so I'm nervous.
We already have one dinner reservation set up for a fancy French restaurant, but besides that we don't have many plans set up. I'm already pretty sure this is going to be the most romantic time of my life, I just want to make sure I do everything I can to help it along. | First vacation with first serious boyfriend. Any tips on things I could do to really ramp up the romance while we're away? |
t3_39jpvh | relationships | I [18] worry for my girlfriend's [17] wellbeing. | My girlfriend and I have been together for six months, we've been very happy and things seem to be going fairly well except maybe for the past week. She has had a very rough home life her entire life and I've been trying to support her as much as I can. This past week though, her mother, brother and herself very quickly moved out of her home to get away from her very dominant father. He found out as they were moving and tried to gain custody, but she refused to move with him.
She tells me she is happy to be out of the living situation with her father, but I am having a difficult time wrapping my head around everything. I believe she feels stressed but she won't admit to it. She doesn't seem like herself and I'm finding it very difficult to offer support for something that hasn't surfaced. I can feel a bit of a tension between us and I think it's taking a toll on us. I'm getting stressed out just thinking about it. I don't really know what I should do to address it if at all. | My girlfriend just got out of a bad living situation but I feel like she's still very stressed and it's taking a toll on us. |
t3_xzgyq | relationships | Brother zoned | I've been friends with this girl for 6+ years were like best friends we can tell eachother anything I've liked her for about 2 ish years now she knows I like her but she just says that I'm like a brother to her so it would just be weird, personally I don't see why it would be weird we would be good together everyone thinks that well everyone but her, we're both 14 and I were going to be going to the same highschool (I moved schools for a year) and I want to show her or some how get her to see that we'd be good together how exacly would you think I should do that? | liked this girl for two years but she says I'm like a brother how do I show her that we would be good together? |
t3_527555 | college | Roommate told everyone I died. | Okay I had a seizure event last week and everything turned out just fine. Got medical care and I'm hunky dory.
This week I start making some new great friends who ask how i'm doing after dying last week. WHAT.
Apparently my roommate not only accessed personal medical information about my seizures, she's making up lies about my medical situation. I never died. My heart never stopped. I kept breathing the entire time. AKA NOT DEAD. But she's telling people this!! She is spreading lies that I died and needed to shock me back to life.
Is it wrong for me to be like freaking out pissed or something? Hell I want a room change for god sake. | Roommate is telling people i died and she saved me, she is a big liar. Is it wrong of me to want to change rooms? |
t3_2x6fnh | relationships | I'm (23M) have been going out with a girl (21F) for about a month, and she's a lot more serious than I am | Bit of back story, I've (23m) moved states to go back to uni, and I met her (21f) here, through tinder, been out a couple of times, and have a great time together, we've also spent a few nights together, no sex yet though.
Basically my issue is that I've moved states for university, and she knows this and is quite supportive of university coming first, but one thing I always told myself was no relationships whilst here, limit the distractions and make moving back home all the more easier. She knows all of this, and constantly mentions following me back to my home state, this I find scary, that and talks of meeting parents and all the other stuff that means its moving to a relatively serious thing, particularly being just a month in. Not to sound like an arsehole but she is, from my observations, head over heels for me, and my worry is that I don't feel the same way, and I don't know if I ever will, as I'm trying to mainly focus on my studies. I'm finding it difficult to put in the effort, as this isn't really anything I've wanted, or sought after. Ive been putting off sleeping with her as I feel this will only dig the hole deeper making it harder to get out of, am I right in this?
I guess my main question is to those that have felt that there is a difference in the emotional involvement of each other in the relationship. Will I be able to match it, or should I not lead this girl to believe that this may be something more? Is she just really keen about what this might end up as? Or is this just how some girls operate? | Girl loves me, not sure I feel the same way just yet, or if I will, do I string it along or pull the plug? |
t3_2wb2x9 | relationships | [Update] Me (30F) with BF (32M) of about 1.5 years, living together. I feel like I got blown off for Vday and my birthday. (The day right after) not really sure how to approach this. | Here is the original post for reference:
I came home from work Monday and I could tell he was waiting for a full blown fight mode. He was tip toeing around the subject of falling asleep all day on my actual birthday and told me I looked pissed and that it was in his words "an asshole thing to do" he didn't apologize he just said that, and then asked for a break. Again. Then I calmly and politely asked when he thinks would be a good time to reschedule and try another day for dinner to celebrate he rolled his eyes and said "its probably not going to happen, but we will see" which means he thought he was completely off of the hook and didn't have to do anything. Most likely, wasn't planning to make anything up, at any time.
I didn't tell him in that moment I am going to leave, I didn't want a big scene. I really cant do this one sided, I have to do everything and what is important to me gets disregarded relationship anymore. We didn't yell, he took everything I said personally, but he didn't go into full verbal attack mode due to the way I presented the argument and him easing into it anyways. He now thinks everything is back to normal, but I know in my heart that this is over for me. I don't even want to lay next to him in bed anymore, I am so disappointed in him, in me, in this whole situation. Thank you, everyone for your advice and kind words. Life is too damn short and too damn hard to be used and hurt by anyone. Id rather be alone, I don't need someone else to knock me down a peg or two I do that just fine on my own. Thank you. | Talked to BF next day after work, it was like talking to a brick wall. Have decided that its not working out and will continue my plan of saving money and getting out of a bad situation. |
t3_3x60db | jobs | Given my work experience, what are jobs I can get? | A quick little overview about me: I've been working at this company for close to 3 years. I go to school and work full-time. I started at the bottom and moved my way up pretty quickly but I feel I've hit a wall. Management is not ideal for the pay, and I already sort of do that to an extent, minus the other stuff that comes with it.
I have mostly worked retail (sales, customer service) before this job but have since gained experience in different tasks ranging from warehouse to training new-hires, occasional customer service, overseeing small teams of people, small IT issues, dealing with some small amounts of data, analyzing and catching even the smallest mistakes/details before we complete jobs for our customers. And the list goes on really. I'm pretty much the go-to person when others have questions.
My question is, what would be an ideal change for me given my operational support experience? Ideally i'd like to find a way into a start-up even though they may not be guaranteed to be around for a while. I don't possess a degree for another 2 or so years but I really enjoy helping out in different areas and being a part of growth within a company. | experience in retail and also operations, looking to get a new job perhaps with a start up. What are other jobs I could get with my experience? |
t3_31u1wb | tifu | TIFU by being too open with my aunt | This fuck up actually happened today! I'll just jump right in.
First some backstory... I'm 20 and am just recently getting to know my aunt, as she lives in Colorado and I live in California. We haven't been in contact long, but she seems incredibly excited to get to know me. Unrelated to that (but related to the fuck up, as you'll see shortly), I'm dating a guy who lives in New York. We met online but have since Skype chatted and talked a lot. He's 21 and we've been dating for about a month.
My aunt decided to call me today so we could talk. She started asking me about myself and my life, just general stuff.
And now to the fuck up. See, my parents don't know I'm dating anyone. They're kind of over protective and anyway, I tend to be super private about my personal life which, since I still live with my parents, can get interesting sometimes. It's not that I'm ashamed to be dating this guy, I just feel like my parents' reaction to it would be....not so great.
So my aunt asks if I have a boyfriend. My brain is going *say no, say no* but...I say yes. I can tell she was freaked out by the idea of me dating someone I've a) never met in person and b) who I met online.
It probably doesn't sound like that big of a fuck up, and honestly it's not, but I'll still have to deal with the consequences of opening my stupid mouth. If I could just go back in time and say no when I said yes, that would be ideal. | was talking to my aunt, was honest with her and said I have a boyfriend, said too much and now my parents are going to find out and subsequently freak out |
t3_4s21bz | personalfinance | All savings stolen, how to proceed? (Netherlands) | Hey Reddit,
So long story short: I'm just a regular student with regular expenses and income. I work a parttime job, go to school, I live on my own and I don't have anyone I can depend on financially. I can't borrow from my parents, family or friends. Recently someone I know accessed my bank account and drained up the 5000 euro I had saved up. I went to the bank and they are disputing my claim that the transaction was made illegally.
I didn't know this person had access to my bank account and so they are saying it's my own fault for not being aware. I then went to the police to file a report, which I did. They eventually contacted the bank and told me they could do very little at this point in time and would update me as the situation goes on. They'll be leading me on for atleast a few weeks so until then, I'm kind of screwed.
I had about 4000 euro saved up, they took 5000 so now I'm -1000 euro on my account. I have to pay my bills, I already asked for more hours at work and I started applying for temp fulltime jobs like crazy. If this situation continues into the next few months however, I might have to drop out and work fulltime for the foreseeable future.
That was the story basically, I was wondering if anyone has some tips and advice on how to survive the coming weeks or if the bank (ING Bank) has anything that could help me out.
I'm getting paid about 600 eu from last month's work in a few days so I should have a little room to work with but I'm fearful of the future. | Lost my savings, stonewalled by bank/police. I have to start from scratch, basically no money left. Not looking for a magic solution, just looking for any ideas or advice that could help. |
t3_2tjb7z | personalfinance | I'm 17 from the UK and just received a letter saying that I am in debt £261.28. I have no way of paying it and if I don't I will be taken to court, what can I do? | To cut a long story short: A while ago I got £1000 in savings and ripped it to shreds on my new gaming computer, along with many other unneeded 'luxuries'. I had around £200 already in my account and swiftly spent about £1200 on my computer. I thought that the whole point of a debit card is so that you can't spend money if you don't have it? For some reason amazon (where I got the computer) didn't take out the money until about 2-3 weeks **after** I had purchased and received it.
In this time I was mindlessly using my card on everything from new clothes to kebabs. Not even thinking twice about the consequences. I thought I was safe, I have a debit card and am under 18, apparently not. The letter states that Barclays (my bank) will now no longer accept any communications from me, they have passed my debt on to a debt collecting organisation or something and it seems pretty serious.
First of all, how screwed am I later on in life? Am I going to have a bad credit rating? More importantly, what can I do to pay this off? My parents have said that I got myself into this mess, and that I should be more careful and aware when it comes to money. Surely if there was a risk of me going up to £260 in debt Barclays should have contacted me? I agree I was a fucking idiot but come on...
My only income is a £25 a week Saturday job. Don't have any other bank accounts or anything. Got about £20 on me now, but that's where my wealth ends. Anyone know what I can do? Am I really going to have to go to court up against a bank at the age of 17? Will they repossess my stuff? What can I do? | £260 in debt, got £20 on me now. Going to have to go to court if I don't pay soon, parents won't help. |
t3_148yuc | pettyrevenge | Forking my ex's yard | In high school I confronted my Ex about to cheat on me with another girl. When I did, he broke up with me saying I didn't trust him. I decided to get some (petty)revenge.
I called up two of my most mischievous friends who were known for egging and TPing on the weekends. I didn't want anything that could damage his cars (though I very easily could have since he never parks them in the garage), just something to make him go...wtf?
I bought about 300 plastic forks and in the middle of the night, stuck them all over his yard. We even added a toy vacuum we found on the curb on the way there.
As we were sticking the utensils into the ground, the front door opened. We scattered and my ex's father walked out in his boxers shouting "WHO'S THERE!" I hid in the shadows and watched him look at the odd scene contemplating if he was dreaming or not.
The next day one of my partners in crime gave me a flyer he had printed out with a picture of the vacuum we left in the yard saying: MISSING VACUUM. MOST LIKELY WITH PLASTIC UTENCILS AND OTHER THINGS THAT SUCK. I stuck it in my ex's locker and watched him read it. He crumbled it up and threw it on the floor.
That night a mutual friend of his and mine informed me his parents called the police to report vandalism. When they arrived they laughed and said since nothing was broken or missing, they could do nothing, but suggested they pick up the mess of a yard. | I got back at an ex by placing hundred of plastic forks in his yard. He called the police to report vandalism but got laughed at instead. |
t3_eylpv | self | Just found out my girlfriend of one month is pregnant and she is totally not taking it seriously. What should I do? | Throwaway account, obviously. Never thought I'd make a submission like this... So heres the deal: the fucking FIRST TIME I had sex with my girlfriend, I got her pregnant. We have been dating for almost a month now, so she is about one month along. When she told me she was pregnant, she had been drinking heavily that night (we both had been) and smoking cigarettes. I found out she knew six days ago but didn't tell me, which is totally understandable, EXCEPT she had been drinking and smoking for those six days. Okay, now heres where things get fucked up... I live 600 miles away, and I met her when I was in my hometown on winter break. I go back in a week so we need to decide what to do with this fetus like, now. She says she won't have an answer for at least a week, minimum. I ask her not to drink during that time since she kind of wants to keep the baby and I don't want my child to be fucking retarded. She says no. She intends to drink and smoke for this week because "it'll probably be fine" and "she's stressed". I really don't want a baby right now, Reddit... I'm in my early twenties and I finally just got back into a four year college... this would change everything. One of us would have to move to the others city, I would probably have to get a job and maybe even leave school and everything would just be really hard and I'd be miserable. However, if I have to do it I will. I'm not the type of guy who pulls a runner. I would hate her and life forever if she made my child mentally handicapped because she refuses to stop living this way. I feel like if I have this baby I might be the one stuck with it. She doesn't seem that into the whole baby process... I love kids but I refuse to raise a mentally handicapped kid on my own. What should I say to her? It looks like an abortion is a long shot. I don't think its going to happen... :( How can I protect my kid? And if I can't how do I get her to abort the fetus? Fuck me, Reddit. I want to die. | Party girl girlfriend endangering my genetic stock and quality of life because (though I love her to death) I don't think she is considering the problem realistically |
t3_393uqd | relationships | How do I [M24] emphasize to her [F25] that fitness is important to me? | So, I recently got back in touch with a girl from way back in my past and we've been hitting it off pretty well. Really well actually. We don't live anywhere near each other but will be in the near future. We've both been pretty open about the fact that we're very into each other and intend to go out as soon as we are living in the same city (soon). We've had pretty extensive conversations so far over Facebook/text/phone/etc., so we have a good idea of how well we click.
I'm starting to notice in more and more recent photos that she's been gaining a decent bit of weight. I don't want blowback for coming off as "shallow." I am very into this girl, her personality, a lot of common interests, separate interests that I would like to get to know through her, and her general way of going about things. All things that mesh very well. But at the end of the day, attraction is important and as someone who takes very good care of my body and makes a concerted effort to stay in shape, I'd like someone who does the same.
Based on her past photos she definitely was in great shape, but is much less so now. I don't want to make a distasteful comment about it obviously, but I would like it to be known that being in shape is something very important to me. We won't be seeing each other for 4-5 months so it's not an immediate issue, so I feel like if that general message can get across in the right way, this can work itself out. Can anyone give me some advice here? | Girl I've been having a semi-LDR with is starting to show signs of gaining weight, is there anything I can say to steer her back towards fitness? |
t3_2h7njr | tifu | TIFU by trading in CS:GO | Yesterday I was thinking that I didn't had any FU while reading other people's FU'S, then I managed to fuck up.
I was just chillin at my desk and was trying to trade an item for another,
I don't know if you guys know that you can send "Trade Offers" so the people can acept latter when you're not at the computer.
Thats what I did, but because I'm a smart ass I sended my Offer without adding the other guy items, then i sended him my 100 $ items for free.
I added the guy and he sayed: Ty, bb.
Today I fucked up really well. | Sended a trade offer only with my 100$ items on it, then the guy acepts it says ty bb. |
t3_1yih78 | AskReddit | 26, high school drop out, wanting to fix that and eventually get a bachelor's degree, where do I start? | To keep this short, I was really irresponsible when I was a teenager, and stopped going to high school in my senior year. I'm now 26, and looking to advance my career to the next level, but the barrier for entry to most of these positions seems to be a bachelors' degree in business or higher. I've only gotten as far as I have in life by lying on applications and resumes and saying I have a high school diploma. I consider myself intelligent enough, and could probably pass a GED test without much recap study if need be, but I don't know where to begin.
Considering I was only a few credits shy of graduation, would I be able to somehow get a legitimate high school diploma where I went? Or would a GED class be a requirement? Will any colleges (not looking for prestige, probably community college) accept an intelligent applicant without high school equivalency? I've put this off for such a long time, and it seems very overwhelming to me, but there will never be a better time than now for me to get it over with! Any advice is greatly appreciated! If it helps, I live in Washington State | Washington State resident, dropped out a few credits shy of high school graduation, seeking best course of action to achieve end result of Bachelor's degree in business. |
t3_2kthzr | relationship_advice | Me [20/m] My close friend [19/f] where do I go from here? | Some background: Me and her have been talking for 4 months, after she started to work with me. She has a boyfriend but we sort of flirted back and forth because we both have feelings for each other. I suggested we take a break from each other cause I didn't want to cause problems with her boyfriend of 5 months (which happened any ways)
Over the past week things started to go from normal friendship back to flirting, and sex related conversations. Yesterday things went a bit farther, which we we're both okay with but now she wants to distance herself from me but still wants to be friends. I'm okay with that, since I was the one to suggest it earlier on but I almost feel that I can't go back to being just friends. She almost left her boyfriend for me about a month back but didn't let her.
Should I just back out of the whole thing? Or let her have her time and continue the friendship? (I will be leaving for College next September. She currently goes to a local Uni.)
The only reason I ask is because I tend to push boundaries and don't know if I can continue to be friends when I want nothing more than to be more then that. | Close friend flirts with me etc, but doesn't want to leave boyfriend. Should I continue to be friends or leave while I don't have much into the relationship? |
t3_45vjs1 | relationships | Me [22 M] with my SO [20 F] of almost 2 years, just broke up last Saturday and need some advice/venting | So I met this girl a few years ago and we hit it off really well, we traveled together and were really happy. We were doing long distance for a while due to school. She came to visit me and broke up with me and went back that day. It really was abrupt and caught me by surprise. We have still been trying to text and I know we should stop, but it's really hard for me to not want to text her because I never wanted to stop in the first place. What can I do to help myself not think about her and not want to text her to see how her day was? | GF recently broke up with me and I am finding it hard to not want to text her. What can I do to help myself not text her? |
t3_2j9jbc | relationship_advice | My sister (20/f) just got engaged and I don't know if I approve. How do I talk to her? | My 20 year old sister just got engaged this weekend to a 20 year old guy whom I've never met. They've known each other for less than a year - most of which has been long distance due to him being in the military and he has been stationed across the USA. She is reckless, rebellious, and immature; but she's also an intelligent, passionate, and caring individual. Unfortunately she has never moved away from home, has never been financially independent, and still has yet to "grow up" (in my opinion) - and while you may not need these things to be in love and get married, they are things I wish my sister would have before embarking on marriage. In my honest opinion, she is young, lustful, and still in the honeymoon phase of her first "real relationship", and that is what scares me. But it also scares me that I do not know the man who has asked for her hand in marriage and what his true intentions are. I know it is not my place to change her mind or discourage her from this engagement; however, as her older brother I want to pass on as much meaningful advice as possible. I am seeking advice on how to approach her regarding my concerns while not being overbearing and negative - I realize this is not my life, it is hers. So, any help on how to speak to my younger sister about an engagement of which I don't necessarily approve? | My sister is young/immature and got engaged to a man she's known for less than a year and I still have yet to meet him. How do I talk to her about an engagement of which I don't necessarily approve? |
t3_2pnxz5 | tifu | TIFU by being a responsible nice guy | The Where:
NYC company holiday party at a hip joint in Manhattan(read Open Bar)
The Who:
Many drunk 20 somethings(myself included) and their bosses(including the CEO of the whole damn company)
The What:
Co-worker, lets call her Leslie, gets shitfaced and I see her being brought to the bathroom by the bouncer. I go and check wassup. She is not okay, not hospital trip 'not okay,' but still not good. An hour and a half; 3 glasses of water; several explanations to my studio manager, regional manager, CEO, tech team, manager of the bar, bouncers, and various curious drunkies; and puke covered new pants later I find her coat and get her outside as the place is closing.
Keep in mind I am rather in the cups as well.
Finally manage to get a cab to actually stop(most drove away at the sight of a drunk chick.) I see in despair that it is indeed the dreaded UBER cab. Driver will only take her if someone goes with her. 30 blocks of driving later and a very long confusing conversation of half words from her I manage to get her phone to call her roomie, and its dead.
We arrive at what I hope is her building and I go inside to get the doorman to confirm that she actually lives here. While I am inside she does more of the puking inside the cab. -_-
Get her inside only to realize that I now need to pay for the cab. $60 for a 10 minute cab ride uptown. I also happen to live in a completely different borough so getting home involved a 20 minute walk and some much needed chicken and rice followed by a 1 hr 30 min subway ride. | Girl got Schwasted at the holiday party and I ended up gettin puked on and taking her back to her place and paying for the cab. Then taking another 2 hours to get home. |
t3_l7tu3 | AskReddit | Someone stole me bike. (I'm aware that this seems minor but it gets more interesting.) | Went to the Library today.
Didn't lock up the bike because I was not intending to take too long.
I leave out, bikes gone, call cops, officer arrives, write statement.
Less than 400 dollars so it's only going to be handled my the officer himself.
Write statement, depart, start for home.
(BTW, I didn't get a look at the kid who stole the bike but a man said he saw him taking the bike, didn't get a good look at him+vague description.)
On the way there I overhear a conversation between 3 teens outside their house one of them says "Yeah I can't sell the bike to him for that much" or some variation on that.
I confront them asking what they're talking about kid reply's "I said I was sellin an XBOX, dude"
Ask them more questions, they say I can look in the backyard for my bike.
Look back there and I find ** at least 4 bikes strewn about the yard, along with bike parts laying against the back of the house** after the noticing the anomaly I realize that they have 2 more bikes in the front yard.
Apologize for confronting them and walk off. | On the way home and I find that a neighbor has a collection of bikes and bike parts overhearing him say "Cant sell the bike to them for that much" right after my bike was stolen. |
t3_14kdsz | relationships | I (f 19) am in unrequited love with my best and only friend. (m 19) What should I do? | I am 19, female and have just started at university. My best friend, 19, male, from my previous school is attending the same university. We've been very close for 2 years or so, but about a year ago I confessed to him that I liked him. I used to date a friend of his, so he cited this as an excuse, but I'm pretty certain he rejected me for other reasons (my personality/ appearance.) We remained very good friends. I still had feelings for him, but was beginning to suppress/ get over them. This september we went to university which is far from our home town. At university I have made some casual acquaintances but the only person who I have spent any time with, or feel a proper bond with, is him. We spend 5/6 hours together every day, and the more I hang out with him the more my previous feelings for him return. I think "love" is perhaps a slight overstatement, but this is by far the strongest I've ever felt about a guy. I am not sure whether I should:
a) stop seeing him altogether or very rarely
b) ignore the pain the friendship brings and just carry on being friends with him
c) Stay friends but see less of him and try and make other friends as well.
I know c) is the best option, but I'm not sure I could bear occasionally seeing him. That constant reminder might be harder than "going cold turkey." Also I would be sad to sacrifice our friendship even a little bit because I rarely make close friends, and I massively respect/ like him as a person. I am still in the process of recovering from a "breakdown" caused by unrelated issues and the strain of this relationship is extremely painful for me.
What should I do reddit? | In unrequited love with only friend. Ditch him and be a loner or carry on hanging out with him? |
t3_3zhice | relationships | I [25f] miss an old friend [28?f]. Friendship of about 2 years ended long ago because of her husband's bigotry. Is setting aside pride worth reconnecting? | In my early 20s, I had a friend, we can call her Jane. We had a good group of girls going, we were constantly together, dancing, parties, movie night, dinners, you name it. The other girls I really don't care to reconnect with; we simply grew apart. Jane however... Well, maybe it's my lack of female friends currently but I just miss talking to her, hanging out, just being in touch.
Anyway, homegirl gets married and her husband is suuuuper religious. Like, outspoken against homosexuality and every other topic you could think of. I get into it with him online over some horrible comments he made and Jane, of course, took his side (she was a little religious too, just not as much as he was).
We basically called off the friendship, and out of anger we told each other mean things, yada yada.
So, how do you all feel about setting aside your pride and being the bigger person? Is it even worth it with her husband still in the picture? I just feel like it may or may not be worth the effort to try to reconnect but maybe I just need a different perspective.
Thanks for reading! | ex-friend and I don't talk anymore because of her bigot of a husband. I miss her. Is it worth it? |
t3_54cro5 | relationships | I'm [24 M] starting to fall out of love with my [23 F] girlfriend and I don't know why | Hi all,
So I've recently had a bit of a dilemma. I'm currently in a long distance relationship with a girl who I was up until recently 100% infatuated with (been together almost a year, long distance for 2 months). She felt like my other half and someone I could easily spend the rest of my life with. We can talk for hours about anything, opened up to eachother, finish sentences, and had an amazing sex life. Besides some jealousy issues on my part (her having some ex's that she remained uncomfortably close with) and having been long distance for a few months now, it was really a dream situation. Up until recently, the distance had actually brought us closer and made me feel even more in love with her.
It was really bizarre when 3 days ago I woke up and I didn't miss her. My instinct wasn't to check my phone and text her or see if she'd sent anything. When we talked throughout the day it was the first time I'd ever wanted to hang up and go do something...really anything else other than talk. There weren't any awkward silences and nothing was really different, I just felt a bit disconnected. And now I don't even feel jealousy when thinking of her and her exes...or sadness when I think of breaking up. I just feel ambivalent about the entire thing.
The thing is she hasn't changed at all. She's still the same sweet caring funny and loving girl I fell in love with. But for some reason, that I honestly can't explain, Im not sure if I want this anymore. It's to the point where I almost wish she'd give me a reason to end things.
Is this normal? Does every relationship, no matter how perfect, hit this point? Would seeing her in a few months reignite everything and make me feel better and like we used to be?
Maybe the mature thing would be after giving it a few weeks would be to tell her, but it feels unfair since she hasn't done anything wrong. I legitimately feel guilty feeling this way. | Starting to fall out of love with my long distance girlfriend and don't know why. Want to know if this is normal/healthy |
t3_x1n6r | AskReddit | The store I was working for just shut down without any kind of warning at all, what are my options? | Well the title pretty much says it. I (used) to work for Cold Stone Creamery. Today I got a facebook message from a coworker telling me that I needed to call her immediately and that it was important. I think to myself "great... she's going to bust my balls into getting me to take over her shift."
She tells me that she went to open the store this morning and thought that somebody had robbed the place. Tables, chairs, lots of things were missing or taken down. She called the manager and apparently she had also just found out that morning and our manager was surprised she was even able to get into the store. (not having changed the locks already)
NONE of the employees were given any sort of warning as to the store going out of business. I wasn't aware a company could just suddenly close shop and not even tell anybody. Most people there were new hires apart from me and 2 or 3 other people.
I feel bad for the people who had already bought cakes with us and were pending pick up. Those things are expensive.
And since laws and whatnot vary by location, I'm in Virginia. | Cold Stone Creamery fucked over its employees by closing shop and not telling anyone. Nobody had any idea it was going to happen... (well, except the scumbag owner.) |
t3_1pb0bg | tifu | TIFU by forgetting I keep a lot of fishes. | I am big time enthusiast fish keeper. I have about 5 aquariums in my home, but I have to maintain several other containers as quarantine tanks and breeding tanks. These containers are usually buckets and other pitchers which have their temperature and other parameters maintained.
From the past few days, I could smell a faint but rancid smell near my door. I thought maybe Ive missed the water change on one of the containers. So I checked all the containers beneath a shelf just besides the door. All of them had their water changed according to the schedule, and all the fishes were healthy.
A few more days passed, and the smell became stronger gradually. Today the smell became unbearable, so I decided to change the water in all the containers regardless of the schedule. When I took the containers out, I found my grand fuck up staring at me. It was a large tub that had a breeding pair of Three Spot Gouramis[wiki link] both of these fishes were in pristine condition when they had entered the breeding tank, but when I checked the schedule on the tank, i had somehow managed to push it back behind the [Zebra Danios] and [Pearl Gouramis] and completely forgot about the water change schedules :(
The result, I had to clear out about 14 gallons of fish stew, cooked at about 27C for maybe two weeks. And this wasn't even the worst part of my fuck up. When I was somehow trying to throw the water away, the smell became just too much, and I puked onto my [pet bird] and his cage on the way to the bathroom. | Completely forgot about some pet fish, which turned my room into a gas chamber, then puked on my pet bird while trying to clean up |
t3_pg4m0 | AskReddit | I need to write an exposition to my teacher on why he should forgive me | A couple of days ago, our English teacher asked us to write an exposition on the topic of "It should be illegal to smack children" for homework. Being the slacker I am, I didn't do it. By the time he called my name, I had written down a few points I could elaborate on. Unfortunately, I am a horrible improviser, so this did not help much. This is how it went:
"Should smacking children be illegal? This is a very versatile question... wait, did I use the word versatile right? Wait, let me start again. Smacking children, umm, shouldn't be illegal because it is too hard to define a smack. For one, there is, like, not much of a difference between patting and, umm, smacking. You could just be giving a congratulatory... is that a word? Anyway, you could just be giving a, uh, tap, and then your child could then, like, sue you."
At this point, some of the guys in my class started imitating me. I then kindly told one of them to shut up. The teacher then said that they *did* have a point, and then decided that I should just go back to my seat because I was doing a horrible job.
I actually really like our teacher. I always feel terrible whenever I turn in my homework late, or am late for class (I am very lazy). My friend suggested I write an exposition to him on why he should forgive me for screwing up in class today. It would show him that I know how to write a good exposition, and that I am truly sorry. My teacher's actually a pretty cool guy, so I could write in a joking fashion. I just need ideas. | I didn't do my homework and gave a horrible speech in front of the class. Teacher was not impressed. I am thinking of writing an apology exposition to him, but can't think of anything to write. |
t3_3p5sfl | relationship_advice | My (24/f) "gf" and I [33/m] have been hooking up (mostly) and dating for 1.0 year. Shes keeping it a secret. | I have been seeing a woman much younger than I am, we met at work. At the start I was all full on flirting, trying to win her heart. Most of the time she would have plans or simply tell me she'll see. No plan was ever made well ahead of time, all were made last minute and also in secret, mostly hooking up. The handful of plans made early there were excuses she told her family so we could go somewhere or spend time together. We only get together in secret, she hasn't told anyone and I can understand because of the age gap.
It was fun at first but now I want some stability and reliability. Shes caring and tries to show her care by asking about me and the stuff going on with me, shes supportive and helpful when I'm down and we hang out because we live next to each other (separate buildings). I just feel like shes not ready for the next step. Shes also Indian so her family is more into finding someone of their own religion and culture. I'm Catholic and while not white I'm not Indian, Asian, White or Black. I fit into the Indian general category.
Honestly I'm sick and tired of keeping it a secret from our mutual friends (we work in the same place, not same office). I want to meet my gf and not be like , "oh hey, whats going on". I wanna be like, "hey baby and give her a kiss", but she says she hates P.A.
She always says shes trying and she needs time. I guess I'm answering my own question but what the hell do I do? I want to breakup, I feel guilty cause honestly the sex was the fun part and I'm trying my best to evolve the relationship but sometimes even I find we totally miss the mark on things, likely because shes much younger. Ah life. | I'd like to hear from men and woman who have been in these situations - an older man and younger woman. How did your relationship go, did it last, what did you learn? |
t3_48a71f | relationships | I can't get my [28/F] wonderful boyfriend [27/M] of two and a half years to stop picking his nose all the time when we are at home | I love my boyfriend and I love living with my boyfriend. He's a wonderful guy, incredibly physically attractive, super successful professionally and we are just really happy together. We've been living together the past 8 months or so which has taken a bit of adjustment but has basically been great.
However, he has this one nasty habit: whenever he's spacing out (on his computer, watching TV, reading ect.) his finger is ALWAYS in his nose. Worse, he actually eats it! (He only does this at home or while driving--never around other people.) I just seriously don't understand. I ask him to stop picking his nose around me almost every day and it's driving me crazy. I mean, he's not five years old!! This is crazy, right?!!
He's pretty stubborn, and when I ask him to stop will just mock me with his fingers up his nose and make gross slurping sounds. According to him this is on the same level as me being a little messy around the house and not doing the dishes all the time. I completely disagree and think this is a crazy disgusting habit that is highly unusual in an adult person.
This has been going on for two years and I just don't know what to do. I don't think he will stop but I haven't completely given up hope yet. I've really tried everything I can think of, but I just can't seem to make him care. I think because he's so successful and attractive he just really does not give a crap about his disgusting habit because he's so self-confident.
How do I convince my lovely boyfriend to care about stopping his terrible nose picking and booger eating habit? It's driving me crazy. Is there ANYTHING I can do?? | my awesome boyfriend picks his nose and eats his boogers and won't stop. How do I get him to stop? |
t3_11y9pd | legaladvice | Potentially getting sued due to misunderstanding, how should I proceed? | Hey guys I really need some legal advice from you.
A couple of days ago at my cafe, we had a few customers request to move tables because a woman had been breastfeeding her baby and the customers weren't feeling all too comfortable about it. This is when I spoke to her about the issue (Note; I did not ask her to leave, nor was she breastfeeding anymore so I did not have an issue with it). I was naive and thought all was well when she requested another drink, which was served to her promptly.
A moments after she's finished with her food and drinks she stands up and requests to see the manager. At that time she was infuriated. She then starts making accusations that we were discriminating her and trying to kick her out of the cafe. The manager spoke to her about the issue but she was still unsatisfied with the results. (I don't know how that conversation went down).
This is where all the trouble begins. For the past couple of days we've been getting constant calls from newspaper journalists, T.V. reporters and at one stage had a news crew storm into our cafe and disrupt our business.
So guys, how do you think we should proceed with this issue? I'm really fed up with the constant calls and do not want any disruption in the cafe during trading hours anymore. Please help me | Woman is informed about customers not being comfortable whilst she breastfeeds in the cafe. Massive misunderstanding happens as she thinks we've discriminated her and tried to kick her out. Now we're getting constant calls from newspaper journalists and TV reporters. |
t3_42qjur | relationship_advice | (24/m) My gf(22) of 2 months wants my friend to come along hiking with us cause she misses him. Should I be concerned? | Hello reddit, me and my gf have a great relationship so far. We get along well, she goes out of her way to see me, etc. She's met most of my friends too and she likes them and gets along with them. Me and her were talking about going on a picnic or hiking and she said bring along your friend too, I miss him. She's been out with us before, but that's when we go to a bar or something in a group. She has no problem kissing me/showing me affection when he's there but I just feel uncomfortable that she wants me to bring him along hiking, which I take to be a 1 on 1 activity. Should I be concerned or do girlfriends just wanna be friends with your friends | GF is trustable, shows affection to me when I'm out with my friends together but misses one particular friend and wants him to come out with us hiking. Normal or red flag? |
t3_3pmr7v | relationships | I (21F) am more insecure being in a relationship with my SO (22M) than I was when I was single...is this normal? | I think I've always had quite an insecure personality because of highly critical Asian parents, and being a huge academic and nerd when I was little meant not really focussing on my looks hence was a bit of a wallflower till I graduated etc. I have been lucky enough to be blessed with good genetics and I live a healthy life and now wear makeup and do my hair and wear decent styled clothes, so I think I'm okay physically. I have my hobbies of reading, movies, dance, music and acting, so it's not like I think I'm a boring person.
However, I'm plagued by inadequacy and fear of being left by my boyfriend. How come when I was single I was happier with myself? I think we have a good relationship, and he always praises me and tells me sweet things and is active in my life. But sometimes I see him flick through photos of models on Instagram in front of me, or comment on hot girls and it makes me so sad. I told him that and he said he'll be more aware, but I'm more upset that he has these thoughts at all. I don't even think about other guys. And he's the one who says he's in it for the long term! Is this just a guy thing? He and I are 21 and 22 respectively. | I am more insecure about my adequacy and attractiveness as a person more in a relationship than when I was single. Is this normal? Aren't you supposed to be feel loved and special in a relationship? Am I just really insecure? |
t3_3gskcp | relationships | Me [28/F] with my roommates [28/F] [28/F] together 2 years, one of them cheated, and i don't know what to do. | I live with a lesbian couple. A few weeks ago, one (let's call her Britney) cheated on the other (let's call her Christina). Britney went away with a "friend" for a week, and when she returned she confessed to having spent the entire week cheating with her friend (who she knows from her work). Britney has moved out while they take a break to "figure things out".
Christina still wants to be with Britney. I don't know what to tell her. I know from living with Britney that she's a selfish and immature person who took advantage of Christina. Christina however just sees Britney in a positive light and still hopes that things will work out.
I don't know what to say, or how to comfort her. I'm sad for her, and I know i should just stay out of it, but I can't accept the idea of Britney coming back and continuing to hurt my friend. I've never heard of someone being so brutally cheated on, and still want to have a relationship. What should I do? | Roomie was cheated on, still wants to be with cheater, how can I be a good friend in this situation? |
t3_18mpbd | relationship_advice | I(29) kicked my sons mom(26) to the curb. | Well basically i've been on and off with my sons mother for about 2 years and haven't been with anyone else during the breaks, just doing things with friends. Anyway, about a month ago we committed to working on our relationship and building something we can share. I come from a broken home and it has cause me some depression in my life and my son going through that is something i wished to avoid. Well i get her the standard chocolates and flowers sent to her job but due to my school schedule i couldnt do dinner til tonight(friday). She lets me know she has plans with her bro which is cool cuz they are close so i try to reschedule and her wknd is booked. So about an hour and a half ago i text her that i couldnt sleep and she texts me to call. I call and she is a few blocks down at a 7/11 drunk from her time with her brother. She asked if i can take her home and i do. Its my weekend with our son so i know his morning will b happy. Anyway i get her settled in bed with a bucked and rub her back as she asks. She falls asleep and her phone goes off with texts from some guy asking if shes ok. Thats actually ok but led me to go on her instagram, which all of it i know is wrong, to see her pics. So after all the pics of her new hairstyle(she didnt send me a single one) i saw a pic of a vday note from said nick. I woke her up and asked and she kept trying to put it off and say they arent together and they are just friends but there was a "this has been the best 3 weeks" line in there. I couldnt take it and kicked her ass out in the cold. She got a ride from someone. Now i really cant sleep. Dont know where to go from here. Pretty crushed. | Picked up drunk ex who said she wanted to work things out but her cover got blown and she was kicked to the curb. |
t3_1w9yes | relationships | I [29 M] love my GF [30 F] , but I just don't find her attractive | So we are together since 4 months now,we know each other since 2 years and have been hanging out a lot together, got the same friends etc....
Now we are together, it's the most intense and best relationship I've ever had, lots of deepness & fun & magic & understanding & everything.
But she just doesn't turn me on. I even got erection problems because of this. I aint even hungry for sex like I normally used to be. Normally i'm like horny all the time!
She always says "It's ok, dont worry" and I usually say something like that it's not because of her, but because of my mind beeing clogged with things or something like that... This is really frustrating me.
I also really try to find her hot, but I don't really do.
It's not that she is ugly; I think she is actually quite good looking.
She is an Ex-Lesbian, and when we go out she gets attention not only from men but also from women.
She now even tries to be more "female" for me, she let's her hair grow because I mentioned that I like long hair, she dresses different to appeal more to me.... makes me kind of feel bad..
I like her so much, we are like made for each other, but i just can't get myself to find her attractive.
What should I do? Should I tell her about it? I dont want to hurt her!
Everything else is so much better then I ever experienced in any relationship ever! I want to be with her...
..i dont know what to do... | I really like my Girlfriend but she just doesn't turn me on, ruins my sexdrive, and I don't know what to do. |
t3_ockho | AskReddit | What is your most interesting travel story? | It's a pretty straight forward question.
I'll start then - When I was 14 we went to Tanzania, Africa with my mother and relatives. The flight was 9 hours and most of the time my mother was telling me not to wonder off. So anyway when we arrived to the hotel we went to the restaurant in the hotel. I was chewing some gum what I got from the room so now I had to throw it away. There was no place to throw it away - I just told everybody "be right back" and left the table. I went out of the restaurant and asked from the hotel's administrator where could I throw it to. Then came a couple of guards of the hotel with AK-47s. "Excuse me, where's the trashcans?" "Oh...umm" (There were about 5 employees around me now) and one of the guards just stretched out the hand "Here. No worry."
All this was just pretty much over when my mother ran out and got me back. | When i was 14 I was told not to wonder off in Africa so despite this I wondered off in the first hour to meet a fun guard who had a AK-47 and took my gum. |
t3_szwp2 | AskReddit | Reddit: My brother is clinically depressed, what should my parents and I do to help him? | My bro is enrolled in University, and has had really bad luck at his academics.
The first two terms totalled him, but he scraped by with enough not to be expelled. He moped around for a term since he no longer qualified for co-op. Apparently he cheered up a bit here, but I couldn't see any of it. His third time, he spent the last 2 weeks, during exams, shitting and puking his guts out from food poisoning, and bombed. He has just finished his fourth term, during which time he contacted the school's counsellors and has been diagnosed as depressed, and was prescribed anti-depressants, and will routinely see a counsellor.
My parents are caring people, but they are but human, and my mother has a way with nagging and comparing me with my brother, and can be daft to obstacles in her way. Within the last year, I have come to replace my brother as the 'good son', and having spent my earlier life as the 'bad son', I do not want to see this get worse.
I should have seen the signs(he has a way to analyse objects and scenarios that would make their very existence be a tragedy), but I cannot go back, so I want to know what to do now.
I was thinking of getting him a surprise gift, but I if I should change my relationship with my brother. We are close right now(he told me about the diagnosis before anyone else), and I don't want to make this worse for him by distancing myself off. What should I do to support him through these troubled times? I have read here that normal folk like us have no clue how to help a depressed guy cope, so I want to hear from those who are, or formerly were in my brother's shoes. | My brother dramatically bombs University, and ends up depressed. He is now on anti-depressants and is seeing a counsellor. What should I, and my parents do to help him get better? |
t3_4e16ic | relationships | I [21 M] am not sure if I should tell her [21 F] how I feel about her | A few years ago i started texting this girl from school, we became really close but never really went out or anything like that bar the parties we went to. She ended up getting a boyfriend about a year after all this started and they broke up september of last year. we talked a bit but i gave her some space until January when i finally asked her out but too my luck she had just gotten in a relationship. Now I've tried to see other girls in the time she was in her 1st relationship but something keeps drawing me towards her, like i want to see other women but something about this girl keeps drawing me back. It doesn't help that she doesn't have many friends from our school, so when there is a party of sorts im the person she generally talks to, even if her boyfriend was there which he never liked me so i kept my distance all year last year until they broke up. Ive asked a few friends about this and they said to come clean and tell her how you feel but i dont want this to ruin what we have as a friendship seeing tho she's such an awesome girl. So im not sure how to go about this. | not sure if i should tell my friend how i really feel about her feel pretty lost about the situation and its driving me crazy |
t3_1aaful | relationships | My boyfriend (23M) wants a job that requires a lot of travel and I (20F) am worried about our future. | My boyfriend (23M) and I (20F) have been dating for a year. We're a college couple in India. This is our first serious relationship, and I used to think that we are both equally serious. He is in the final year of university, and the time has come for him to choose what he wants to take up as a career. He is seriously considering joining the administrative services (in India, this involves staying for 2-3 years at a time in small towns). We are both in law school, so regardless of what I decide to do in the future, I know that I won't be able to follow him around.
The thing is, my family is quite conservative, and will pressurise me into getting married as soon as I graduate (in 3 years). So I am not sure if I can afford to "waste" time on this relationship if I know that our futures will certainly head different ways. At the same time, we are both still young and have been together for just a year. So is it too soon for me to initiate a "where is our relationship going?" talk? I am really happy in the relationship otherwise. | College couple, early twenties, dating for a year. Boyfriend wants a career that involves a lot of travel, should I initiate a serious talk about our future? |
t3_3ckpm0 | relationships | Me [28 M] with my GF [35 F] of 4 yrs, she doesn't like me to touch her breasts sometimes [Serious] | I posted something similar to ask women and got hanged for "not respecting my lady."
So I have taken care to re-word, and make clear that I am not asking if it is ok to touch someone when they don't want it, but rather to explore why people's boundaries vary so greatly, even between loved ones.
Specifically, I was trying to find deeper explanation for why women may not like their 'SO' touching their breasts, under what circumstances, and for what reasons.
I find this is OK when we are having sexual relations, but not OK during cuddling, snuggling, or any other time.
I didn't easily find any post about this, everything I stumbled across in my brief search was of a positive nature, such as this:
I found mostly threads with women saying they like their significant other to touch their breasts, that it feels neutral, or positive.
As a man, it isn't naturally obvious why touch wouldn't be liked, since my own internal referience would be that I would like to be touched more by my lover.
So it lead me to wonder why a loving partner would dislike this touch. Of course, before coming to Reddit, we have spoken about this several times. I understand for her she can feel objectified, which I understand, and so we do things to her liking. I still find it curious that many women seem to claim they will enjoy to be touched quite often, whereas for others, they seem to almost dislike most touch.
I get that people have their limits, and I know to understand I cannot control them. I would enjoy to be able to touch my girlfriend more openly, she doesn't find it pleasing to her.
She comes from a fairly patriarchal society, and repressive background. (There is to be no oral sex for me ever. :() | How to know when is touch is good touch, or bad touch, when it seems to be up to her mood? |
t3_3xt5p5 | relationships | Me [18 M] with my gf [18 F] 1 month, she said she needs space to think | My girlfriend is currently on her period which may or may not have something to do with all this. Lately ive been smothering her. It hasnt been long but im.happy. happier.than ive ever been. But for the past few days shes said she needs space.
Dont know how much so i dont.talk.to her for a few hours. Today was okay we were happy and flirting. Then around 1 she went to six flags with her best friend. She didnt text me at all till 10(when they left the park). Ignored me.all day even though i texted her sweet messages.when she got home.she told.me.she needed space and wouldnt text.me.for awhile. That she needed to think.
Yes i am.very scared and i cried from.the time i got the text till now. She told me.she wasnt breaking.up.with me just that she needed space. So i got worried and blee her phone up.... i dont know what to do reddit...my final text said that i love.her and that ill give her the space she needs and wait for her to text me.
Please reddit. Help.me.fix this. I dont want her to leave yet. Tell.me.what to do. Any advice?? How much space does she need?? | how do i get her to stop being stressed out and hurt because of me? How do i fix my mess and.make it all right? |
t3_4rl6qv | relationships | My boyfriend [21 M] can see demons [20 F]? | My boyfriend told me that he can see into another spiritual world. He can see aura's, spirits and demons in a spiritual realm whenever he opens his portal. Most of the time, he likes to keep it closed. Today he told me that he thinks it's demons that are breaking up our relationship. He told me about the demon he saw when he was younger, which would play little tricks in order to break up his dad and his mom. I think he's just using that excuse to avoid taking responsibility in his part of the dissipation of our relationship.
I'm just wondering, what should I tell him? | My boyfriend can see demons and he thinks it's demons that are breaking up our relationship, not his emotional immaturity. What should I do? |
t3_4uz1f8 | relationships | Do I (m26) have the right to feel uneasy about the girl I'm with (f29) to share a hotel room with a "friend" (m28) she has slept with a month before we met and has expressed how much he has liked her through out our 3 months relationship? | I've (m26) been seeing this girl(f29) for about 3 months.we arnt official however we have agreed to be exclusive. She is a flight attendant and flys around a lot and sometimes has to stay at the airport she is based out of because she lives several hours away. Her male friend(m28) had a layover and let her stay in the hotel room his airline provided. I thought "hey this is cool cause she has a bed to sleep in and not some airport chair". Well I just found out that she has slept with this dude a month before we met and that although he has a girlfriend he really likes her. She swears they are just friends and doesn't want anything more but I just feel super uneasy about it. Am I just being immature that I think this is shady? Especially when she didn't tell me the details of the friends ship before hand? | Girl (29f) Ive(26m) been exclusively dating slept in same hotel room with a guy( 28m)and didn't tell me they had sex in the past until afterwards. |
t3_4mxrl9 | relationships | How do I [17F] make my boyfriend [17M] see that he needs to start studying | We have been dating for about 2 months, but we have been friends for almost 4 years, so I'm still not sure how to interact with him in this new dynamic. We both live in a country that is not our own, and plan to study elsewhere, me in our homecountry, and him in other continent.
So, we just finished high school, but we still have the national exams. He didn't pass 2 of the 4 obligatory classes, and needs at least half the score in each exam if he wants to graduate. He still needs to repeat one exam from last year, so he has to do 3 of them in less than two weeks. Two of the exams evaluate the last three years (maths and our native language) and the other evaluates only 2 years (biology/geology).
Otherwise he cannot pass and will have to stay in highschool for another year to repeat the classes, while I go to university 14 flight hours away.
He wants to follow cinema and become a director or something, but he needs to pass highschool either way if he wants to go to uni.
Any tips on how to make him see he needs to study and on how can I help him study without making him feel so stressed he can't think straight?
Thanks in advance | My bf of two months needs to do three exams in less than a week if he wants to leave high school and follow his dreams, didn't do shit this past 3 years. How do I make him study? |
t3_4uyiyc | personalfinance | I'm 19 years old and my parents are in significant debt. What should I do? | Hi Reddit, I am not sure if this is the right place, but I need help.
I'm a 19 year old currently working full time over the summer and going to college during the school year.
I love my parents. They are the most selfless, nicest and hardworking human beings I know. They came to America for the sole purpose of building a better future for their kids and their children's kids.
Everything was fine until a few years ago when my father decided to buy a small business. As a result of the business, my parents got into significant debt and had to take out several loans all of it to totaling to over hundreds and thousands of dollars. Despite this, my parents pressed on and were able to almost pay it off by working and eventually, selling off the business. However, as a result of the recent sale of the business, my parents now have to pay off a sales tax of around $90,000 in the next 3 months. This on top of me and my twin sisters student loans, and previous debt is causing my Dad an immense amount of stress and I am worried.
What should I do? What can I do? I think my father is getting depressed and it hurts me so much to see him like this. My dad doesn't know I know so I can't really talk to him about it yet, only my Mom and my older brother. I am willing to help pay, but I know my parents would not let me give my own money. Hopefully, I'll be able to convince my Mom soon. I really don't want my Dad working till he's 70.
Reddit, please I just need some advice. | I'm a college student and my parent's debt is causing my dad specifically to get depressed. What should I do? |
t3_28uu0v | offmychest | Is this normal sibling behavior? | I feel really strange posting this, but there isn't anyone I can talk to.
I live with my brother. We have an ok relationship despite our 10 year age difference. He tends to get very dramatic at times and I honestly think he's asking for attention at the expense of making me feel uncomfortable.
Sunday he spent the day drinking and watching the USA/Portugal game with some friends while I spent the day home alone. He gets home at 10 pm already acting a bit belligerent, complaining about the game's turnout. I'm not really phased by sport but I agree to watch highlights of the game with him. I watch but since I don't give him the reaction he was looking for he throws a tantrum. He starts throwing things and yelling in my face. At one point he begins to hold down my shoulders. I try to remain calm and asking him to let go but his grip strengthens. I pull myself away from his grip and suggest he go to his room. He starts banging on the fridge and picks up a knife and "jokingly" throws it at me repeatedly. I feel like I'm overreacting but this really freaked me out.
He grumbled to his room and started listening to Let it Go (you know, from Frozen) on repeat. I went to hide in my room but he brought his laptop and started moving it around my face while Let it Go played. He was looking for some kind of reaction but I didn't give it to him so he left after a minute of trying to annoy me with his drama. It was all very strange.
Is this normal behavior for a brother? Do grown men throw tantrums? I need to know if this is a recurring thing because I don't want to be around violent dudes. | My brother is a man-child who throws tantrums due to sports, attempts to crush me and throw knives at me. What gives? |
t3_2ehsea | relationships | I [21/M] am invited to extracurricular events for a club where my ex [21/M] is the president | We dated during our freshman year of college for eight months and have been broken up for like 18. There was very little contact during that time, but recently we had a 5 minute conversation on the sidewalk that didn't seem that tense.
I feel a little guilty because things fell apart based on me losing interest, not from any specific event. This has caused me to try to stay out of his way.
Now, I've made a friend (who is the wrong gender to be a romantic issue) who is part of the subject-club that my ex is in charge of. She has invited me to several of the club's events this next school year. Am I obligated to send a message warning my ex that I will be there? Do I need to give him veto power on my attendance? | I haven't seen my ex in a year and a half but might go to social/academic events where he is involved. Do I need to give him a heads up or vote about my presence? |
t3_23n8vv | tifu | TIFU by trying to put a clamp on my iPhone 5s. | A week ago, I had accidentally dropped my 5S on the ground from my pocket resulting in a hairline crack across the bottom left to the middle right. Hairline cracks on occasionally covered by warranty by Apple depending on the Genius helping.
The next day, I received my brand new warranty covered iPhone 5S after waiting at the Apple Store. The only problem that occurred was that I had to peel the [wood skin] I had off the back of my phone.
That night, I had synced my iPhone up so it was just as it was before it had the hairline crack. To restore it to its complete former glory, I strongly desired to put my old skin on the back, because who would want to waste a $20 skin? The adhesive in the middle of the skin was perfectly fine; reapplying the bottom and top was the hard part. I then believed I had the perfect solution! Clamp the phone between two books! I grabbed two books off my bookshelf that I wouldn't mind using: *Amelia Bedelia* and *How To Make Ballon Animals*.
I [clamped] the iPhone with skin on the back between the two books. I proceeded to tighten the clamp with ungodly strength, later employing a screwdriver for increased torsion until I heard the fragility of my phone. *CRACK*. I attempted to undo the clamp with my palms sweaty but could not due to the sheer strength poured into the tightening. My attempts to loosen the clamp resulted in the clamp [bending] making it further impossible to remove. I pulled the books from the desolation to reveal an iPhone with a [horrifically spiderweb cracked screen] which are definitely not covered by warranty. Oh and the skin did not stay on.
I then ordered a replacement screen on eBay for $49 and a new skin for $19. Bringing us to today. Today, I attempted to replace my iPhone's screen with the eBay screen, to only gain a screen with no response to touch after 2 hours of intensive screen transplanting. | Broke iPhone screen, got it replaced by warranty, wanted to put skin back on to save $20, clamped screen, rekt screen, ordered replacement screen, two hour transplant of screen, screen doesn't work. |
t3_3c629b | relationships | I [19/m] cannot get over an ex girlfriend [18/f] I dated two years ago | Forgive me if the formatting is bad. I'm on mobile.
So I dated this girl in high school, let's call her Erin. Erin was great. She was my first love. Everything I could ask for in a relationship for the most part. We got along really well, she cared a lot about me and I cared a lot about her. Basically it was a great relationship except for the fact that we both had depression and she had a couple weird quirk that bothered me. Really though, it was basically the fact that we both had depression that we weren't properly managing that made it unhealthy in the end. In the end though we really were trying to work on getting better and I wanted to help and her and she the same.
Anyways when we broke up it was really sudden. One of her quirks is that she has this fascination with death and cemeteries that personally I wasn't a part of. We were trying to figure out what to do before we went to the school play and she suggested that we go to a cemetery. I was not a fan of the idea and we argued and I dumped her in the heat of the moment. In hindsight I feel awful about it because I still do care for her and I loved her. It seems cheesy or immature but I honestly haven't felt the way I do for her with anybody else and in the interim since dating her I haven't felt that way with other girls that I've dated. When we broke up we completely cut contact and sometimes I wish I could make it up to her how much I hurt her but I know that will never happen. And now that my personal life is under control I wish I could still be with her sometimes.
I know I was a jerk for breaking up with her the way I did, but is it wrong that I want to fix things and try and have a healthy relationship? And is it weird that I'm still not over her and that i still think of her when I hear certain songs or watch certain shows etc? | Have an ex who I still can't get over. I dumped her, feel regret and wish I could fix things even though it's too late and I don't know what to do |
t3_4fscf5 | relationships | I [20f] self harmed, and my boyfriend [20m] is about to find out. | I'll spare you too many details but I was raped and have been struggling with depression for the past few years. I was in therapy, but it was through my university which I dropped out of.
We are long distance. I usually tell him everything. I told him the first time I cut, which was last summer. I don't do it often. I made a new years resolution to stop and hadn't done it all year... until two weeks ago.
I found some old pictures that brought up a lot of stuff. It was the middle of the night and I cut myself on the leg quite a few times. I realize this is very unhealthy and I should not have done it, and that I need help. I have been looking up therapists and I think i found a place i can afford. I should have, but I did not tell my boyfriend. he's been busy with work and final exams, I didn't want to upset him.
To the current problem, I have cut marks on my leg. I was hoping they would be better by now but they still stand out. I wasn't thinking straight and they are visible if i wear a dress. To be perfectly honest, I think some small twisted part of me was wanting him to see, so he would know that I've been struggling. But now I don't, i wish i hadn't done it at all. He's coming to stay with me for a week, and he is absolutely going to notice.
Obviously we have to talk about it, and obviously I need therapy. What I need advice on is HOW to have the conversation.
Do I send him a message before he gets here, explaining it so he's not surprised? Do I wear pants and talk to him first, before he gets a chance to see? Do I just act normal until he see's and points it out/asks me what happened? | my long distance boyfriend will be here soon and i have cut marks on my leg, don't know how to explain it to him. |
t3_14shhi | relationships | I M[34] am dating a F[25] who professes to have never been truly in love. Told me it was o.k. to sleep with other people, doesn't believe in possessions. | I was going to stick this in dating_advice, but its been about 6 weeks now. The girl F[25] who I have been seeing constantly is reminding me she doesn't fall in love, has never fallen in love, has no feelings, etc.
actions say other wise, and one drunken night she told me she loved something about me, only to redact it and say she "liked" that about me.
we like each other, get along well, have great chemistry. I myself don't rush into using the word "love" but I have a great fondness for her already. In my last relationship I never once told the girl I was with that I loved her, even though I very much did. So, I somewhat get it.
This weekend she told me it was o.k. if I slept with other people, that she doesn't believe in possessions. Honestly this has thrown me for a loop. I feel like its her saying she likes me enough to keep what we have going, but!
I am kind of confused, and a little taken a back by this, I have been thinking about it all week. some of my guy friends are like Dude! thats awesome, but I dont feel so awesome about it.
So people, what do you think? Trap? She found someone else? Truly is polyamorous | Girl I am seeing says she doesn't fall in love, and its o.k. to sleep with other people.. whats up with that? |
t3_1sb3se | relationships | Me [21 M] was hit by my [21 F] and I don't know how to feel | Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a couple years and our relationship has been relatively ok with the occasional arguments.
Yesterday night while we were cuddling on the sofa in the living room watching a movie I had to fart so I held her close, as a joke, and farted on the sofa. She immediately gets up pissed and slaps me in the face three or four times. We didn't talk for 10 minutes but she came to me asking me to take her home to her own place but I was lying on the couch feeling abused. She looked at me and said she wanted a hug so I did but I cried and I didn't feel good about it. I took her back to her place and I went home but I was still mad. So I called her angrily telling her she had to "f*ing apologize" for what she did. She said she was not sorry and to make her say sorry. So I said it wasn't a joke and hung up the phone. She texted me saying she doesn't date girls and I said I felt abused so she said we shouldn't be together anymore and turned off her phone.
Reddit, I personally don't know how to feel about this. Usually I'm a very calm and forgiving person and I let petty things pass but this is one instance where I felt very abused and disrespected and a part of me is DEMANDING her to say sorry. This is the third time she has hit me throughout the course of our relationship, the other two was when she was drunk. It never really hurts but it does hurt emotionally. I don't know if I'm over reacting or how I should approach this. This is especially stressful and I don't want to get in a fight right now because I have a few job interviews coming up and I don't want to be an emotional wreck. I also don't want to end our relationship because of this but I really hate how she always pulls out the "we should break up" card whenever we fight. Please help. | Girlfriend slapped me in the face. I feel abused and I take her home. I ask her to apologize, she calls me a girl, and says we should breakup but I dont want to. Help me! |
t3_3gxwru | relationships | My[15F] best friend[15M] still loves his ex[15F]. Is there anything else I can do to help? | I've known my best friend, Alex (names changed) for about 2 and a half years now. For about 1 and a half of those years, he was in a relationship with a girl named Laura. They were happy as far as I know, but I rarely spent time around them when they were together.
6-7 months ago they broke up. It was complicated, with Laura wanting to break up but he didn't. She thought they were growing apart. When they did break up, they got back together but didn't announce it. It was kept a secret. Laura would ignore Alex at lunch times during school when they were amongst friends, and so he ended it shortly after.
Even now he still loves her, and I'm not sure what to do. I've been there when he needs to rant, although only over the Internet. I've suggested therapy or something of the sort, but it's met with an immediate no. We rarely talk about it in person.
They were both each other's "firsts" so to say. Also, Alex does wish that they would get back together, and messages me about it. He does have half fantasies that it would be like the movies, where when they get back together they'll love each other more.
He is also currently in a relationship with a girl who understands his feelings.
Is there anything I can do? Should I let him grieve for longer, or encourage this? | Best friend still loves his girlfriend 6-7 months later, and I don't know if I can or should do more. |
t3_29nuct | relationships | I [26 M] not sure if girl [22 F] wants to stop seeing me | Met a girl about a month ago, hung out a couple times and had sex two times. I was beginning to get emotionally invested but she has mentioned in passing that she doesnt want an LTR. I am cool with that but she still wants to keep it causal and we havent talked about expectations or whether it is ok to sleep with other people.
Whenever we meet I am the one doing most of the talking which is making me more invested and she just sits there. Whenever I text her she is responsive. Last weekend she was meeting other guy friend one and one and didnt want meet me up but was open to meet Sat/Sun. I asked her to hit me up on Sunday expecting her to not text. She did text me saying "Hey what are you upto" and agreed to meet but cancelled last minute because of some physical issues (she is very fragile and has digestive and other issues).
We meet up later and the usual romp continues where she doesn't talk or share her personal details but just sits there and nods. I am not sure what exactly does she want here?
I expressed my disappointment over text saying "I am confused here, you dont communicate and you are obviously seeing other people so that's my cue to move on". She replied, "I'm sorry I've been distant. I know this is confusing. Let's talk when I'm feeling better.", I say "ok take as much time as you need" and havent heard from her. | Met a girl month ago, girl doesnt want anything serious but doesnt invest at all or talk, not sure what to do? |
t3_3bx6k7 | relationships | Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] 4 years, has been helping me through my parents divorce, and now his just dropped a bombshell | Two years ago this September my dad decided to leave my mother. It's been incredibly hard on my four siblings and I. It nearly destroyed my mother. She's gotten stronger everyday, but we're still right in the middle of an incredibly ugly divorce. I've gotten past the point where I'm sad all the time, but it's still very hard.
Throughout this process I have had my boyfriend of 4 years. He has been amazing and wonderful, and always there when I need him. I know this has been hard on him too, because we are both close with each others families.
This brings me to three days ago, when my boyfriend's father dropped the bombshell on his family that he has been seeing another woman and will be leaving them. His whole family is being destroyed in the same exact way mine was nearly 2 years prior. You would think I would know exactly how to comfort my boyfriend but I don't. I felt angry and upset at first, but now I feel weirdly detached. I almost feel scared of going through this entire process again. And even though he was there for me every step of the way, I am afraid I can't be there for him. A part of me doesn't want to go through the hurt of my family being broken apart again. Because I know exactly what the next 2 years look like for us now, and it's bad. And I feel like a terrible person for feeling this way.
To clarify, I am not leaving my boyfriend, I love him with all my heart. I just want to know how to get rid of these fight or flight feelings. | My parents, 2 years into divorce, his parents are also now divorcing. How do I handle this all over again? |
t3_1y8579 | relationships | Me [23 M] with girl I am seeing [22 F] for a while now, Am I holding onto to something that isnt there anymore? | Backstory, we met a few years ago, dated a while, then broke up and started seeing each other recently (within 6 months)
So I was/am seeing this girl, that i am madly in love with for such a long time. We weren't officially together when this all happened. But, Sh left for about 2 months. Everything was going great before then. She left, my anxiety and depression got the better of me, and i became really distant. I was trying to protect myself incase something happened.
Skip ahead. She comes back, and tells me she fell for someone while she was away. that fact didnt bother me, as we werent officially together. Although, now she cant give me a definitive answer on where we stand. Its literally killing me inside, I cant eat or sleep. I just want to know whether I should see where it goes, or cut my loses and let it all go. | Girl I was seeing left, came back after falling for someone while away. Should I stick around or Just cut my loses? |
t3_3nn0e6 | relationships | Gf(24 f) of 6 years just gave into guilt and told me (26 m) that she cheated on me one year ago. What do I do? | As stated, we've been together for 6 years. At the beginning of last year (2014) she got diagnosed with depression and was perscribed xanax which instantly changed her personality.
I managed to convince her with my help that she could get off the xanax as it was having a very negative effect on her. The past year she reduced her dosage dramatically and has become a much happier person, but something was still off.
She started having a panic attack last night and told me she had to confess to me that she slept with someone else last year during the height of her depression but it was a one off and she regretted it instantly.
I've been left absolutely heart broken and completely lonely and lost.
She keeps saying she loves me more than anything in the world and she wanted to keep it hidden so not to hurt me.
She seems sincere with her apology, and she is a much different person now compared to last year, but she has caused me so much pain I don't know if can forgive her. Help? | Gf(24 f) of 6 years just gave into guilt and told me (26 m) that she cheated on me one year ago. |
t3_2048dh | relationships | Me [25 F] and my fiancee [25 M] have been together for 6 years, just some advice about some hiccups. | To start, I just want to make sure that everyone knows, if he never changes I am still more than happy to be with him for the rest of my life, so breaking it off is not an option.
He asked me to marry him in October of 2013. Naturally I have been super excited ever since. Neither of us are religious so we don't need a big to-do. The night of our engagement we were both so excited, we through out ideas and we were totally in sync. We both wanted an awesome weekend-long party with all of our friends and our closest family with a wedding in there somewhere.
Since then he's been less than enthused. I would bring up some cool idea I thought of and he would just ignore me, literally his tactic is to just talk about something else entirely and not respond to my idea at all.
I asked him about it and he said "I'm just not ready to be excited about it yet." I accepted that, but came to the conclusion that it wasn't fair that i had this awesome reminder on my finger that would simultaneously get me stoked and bummed at the same time, so I stopped wearing it every day.
He didn't notice, so I behaved immaturely (I regret this) and pointed out that my brother noticed I wasn't wearing it. My fiancee got very upset, I immediately was remorseful and told him I was so so sorry and honestly didn't think he'd care if I didn't wear it.
So now I'm wearing it again and all it does is remind me that I can't talk about anything I get excited about. What do I do? How do I handle this? I just don't get it! If he didn't want to marry me why propose? If he did, why not be stoked about it?! | Boyfriend asked me to marry him. I'm stoked I say yes. He doesn't want to get excited about any of my ideas for the wedding. I don't get it. |
t3_24nvzo | relationships | Me [28M] was originally comfortable breaking up and being friends with [28F], but the last week has been horribly frustrating | Before I moved I met a girl (great timing) that was my personality twin. We had a lot of fun, dated for eight months, and even went on a trip together. Distance sparked the breakup, but there was hope for a good friendship. There was one hitch, an ex.
This particular guy has her wrapped around his finger. The first two or three months of our relationship I heard my fair share of stories. He was "a great friend", "always got along", etc. He was a bit of a dick though and played her emotions. Throwing a few fits while we were together early on. I was patient though and always listened.
He lived four hours away and I know she never saw him during our time together. She didn't complain, but expressed disappointment about how close they were and now he won't even talk to her (he deleted her from everything). After the third month though he completely disappeared from her vocabulary. Breakthrough... Her friends were happy about it, I think they were at their wits end too.
Well month eight comes and we mutually agree that the distance has caused stress in the relationship. It was a pleasant talk and we agreed to be friends. It's been a month now and we were comfortable talking about moving on with other dating prospects. I actually didn't mind listening about the other guys. Then this weekend... she goes down to see that ex.
I'm unbelievably frustrated. I feel like I wasted my time and patience on her. We spent months working her through this guy and she finally seemed to let it go. I wanted to be friends, but that sentiment is quickly dissolving.
Any opinions? Is it better to cut ties or be "the bigger man" and just ride it out? | I was ok with being friends with my ex. She has decided to start hanging out with a guy again that she spent months complaining about. I'm losing my patience and am not sure a friendship is worth salvaging. |
t3_1dbchh | relationships | I [25f] want to move in with my white [27m] boyfriend but feel guilty about telling my Asian parents. Advice? | Boyfriend and I have been together for about a year. I spend almost all my time at his place and we want to take the next step in our relationship, so moving in together is an idea we both agreed on.
My parents are very traditional, strict Asian parents. They live out of the country, so it is unlikely they will find out, but I feel guilty about lying to them about moving in with my boyfriend. They also think marriage is still a number of years away for me, which is true, both of us are not ready for that yet. He has met my parents once, and while they like him, they do not consider it serious (i.e. marriage) as it has only been a year.
They have always told me they prefer the truth, so I feel like I would rather come clean and tell them (or at least my mother, who is a little more understanding of my Western ways) that I've moved in with my boyfriend. I don't want to tell them before I move because they will guilt trip me HARD like Asian parents do. However, I also don't want to deal with the drama and am considering lying to them for another year. Should I lie to them and save them (and us) the drama, or should I come clean? | Should I tell my parents the truth about moving in with my boyfriend or lie to them for a year to postpone the drama? |
t3_47265n | relationships | [help][personality issues] I(24m) am able to bond physically with other people, but cant ever bond emotionally. What is wrong with me? | So this occured to me mainly because i slept with someone new a week ago and immediately felt like i was bonding with this girl. We hit it off pretty well and everything was really smooth, it just felt right i guess. Now i would like to go further with this person, but i dont really want to spend time to get to know her better etc etc, although i would love to spend another night/evening with her.
I guess what i just said doesnt really make sense, but maybe if someone can relate to me they could tell me about their experiences. | I feel good with females my age but never feel the desire to get to know them and form relationships( i guess i could say i get bored) even though i get an overwhelming feeling of "bonding" |
t3_1jg8yf | AskReddit | When was the last time you enjoyed a bit of guilt free schadenfreude. | For me this was when I saw my ex from 6 years ago. When she left me she slept with a lot of my friends of the time leaving me feeling isolated. She claimed things weren't working because she wanted a life that was going somewhere (I was a student at the time and we had been dating for 3 years. I was in the last year of a 4 year degree).
When I bumped into her she was unemployed, on benefits, fat and a single mum.
I was employed in a high paying job, driving a new sports car and with a gorgeous girl.
Never before have I felt such joy in someone's misfortune. | bumped into ex who dumped me for going nowhere in life. She's now struggling and I'm doing well. It bought me much joy. |
t3_1qco59 | relationships | My [20m] girlfriend [20f] of 2 years believes I treat her as my second option. I see otherwise. What am I missing? | I've been together with my girlfriend for 2 years now and this always comes up as a problem. For the most part, I always hang out with my girlfriend we do stuff, go out to eat, see movies and whatever. I'm so busy with everything I rarely see my friends any more. But when I do, I tell my girlfriend in advance. Hell, I even don't do something with them because I'm doing stuff with her! The thing is, if my plans fall through with my friends I'll ask her if she wants to do something.
To me I think of it as "Oh poo guess I won't be seeing them tonight. Well I'm dressed, lets see if my girlfriend wants to do something!"
My girlfriend doesn't see it that way. She thinks I'm treating her as my second option, TO EVERYTHING. But I don't! At least I don't think I am. What's baffling, is she does the same thing to me! She goes to lunch with a friend, plan falls through, she asks me where I am to meet up. I've tried talking, but she flat out refuses to see my point because "It's different for her."
Am I missing something here? Am I in the wrong? I just want to get passed this problem. | Girlfriend thinks I am making her my second option, I see her all the time and blow off other plans for her sometimes. I don't understand why she thinks that. |
t3_3gjffe | legaladvice | (CA)Subpoena Duces Tecum . | Hello!
I come to my fellow redditors for help in preparing a SDT against an apartment complex my father and I currently reside in.
Quick context: My dad is 100% disabled (two horribly mangled feet) following a forklift accident 13 years ago. He requires service dogs. He was a homeowner before the crash about 8 years ago. His last dog is passing away and we had certified a new dog.
Upon reading up on the fair housing act, we found out them charging my father a pet deposit and monthly pet surcharges were unlawful- we had made them aware at the time the dog was certified before moving in, so no attempted cash-in here.
He attempted to talk to the property managers- they stated his lease agreement did NOT show he had a pet yet they charged him for a pet anyway.
In any case, he fell ill several months ago and was unable to pay the rent on a timely manner- he had contacted the property manager again and said that, given the circumstances, he had grossly overpaid. While he was in the hospital, they conducted an inspection of the unit's carpets, stating the condition would determine if we were eligible for a return on the deposit.
As you can imagine, the carpets were not in the best of shape. They then served us for unlawful detainer for the rent that was not paid. We have responded, claiming we have overpaid.
As it stands now, my dad has gone back to the hospital with an infection that could very well take his life. I have taken time off of work (I'm a CDL truckdriver) and am currently doing a life-style change so that I can be closer to home and help him through these difficult times.
I have already contacted Project Sentinel, but that's a separate matter.
As it stands, I'm looking at the SDT form and my next step is to subpoena the records of our lease. I've already attended a workshop for our reply so I know where to put the names, where to put the case number, etc but what is my next step in this? | My dad is dying, and cannot defend himself against the unlawful detainer notice- his intuitive son needs guidance to make sure he doesn't fuck up his defense. Please help. |
t3_2cmgdl | tifu | TIFU by taking a lactose-intolerant girl out for some ice cream. | This is probably more her TIFU than mine, but I asked a girl I've already been seeing a little to grab some ice cream and maybe rent a movie after. So we go get ice cream, and are driving to a video store when she kinda halts our progress and asks if I can drive her home for something she forgot she needs to do. At first I was suspicious and thought she was trying to cancel our plans for some reason. But I was like, "Yeah, sure...is everything ok?" Her response was along the lines of "Yeah yeah, I just need to do something." After I guess getting a few red lights in traffic, she's like, "Can you hurry, please?" I tell her yeah but again, "So what's wrong??" I put it together as I'm driving and then I ask, "Do you need to poop or something?" half-joking around. She's like, "SHUT UP!", which I take as an affirmative response. And I'm sorry - I just can't stop laughing at the situation, as I feel like this is more something that would happen to me than my date. She rolls down the window. I ask, laughing, "ARE YOU FARTING??" Again, her response is "SHUT UP!" and she's fanning herself. We park. She gets out and takes my car keys to make sure I can't leave in disgust (which I wasn't anyway). And several minutes later we continue our date, and the topic is now unmentionable.
But I had to just vent about this one. | Took lactose intolerant girl out for ice cream. We ended up having to make an emergency run to her place and she almost shit her pants in my car. |
t3_1l8vfg | jobs | Is there a cakeday for unemployment? | It's been a year. I'm not really complaining, though, cause things are starting to happen and I feel like I kinda needed the time to dick around. Like, I quit smoking and think it's gonna finally stick. I started running. I live with my parents, but I'm only 24.
I think I kinda believed that things had to happen with speed and instantaneously, but that actually just puts me in a bad headspace. Unemployment has been a gift. Anyway, I'm going to dinner tomorrow night with some people who want to help me find something. It's hard to see the stars if you're busy counting every sharp rock that ever stubbed your toe. | I haven't been seriously employed in a year, but I'm coping pretty well with what coulda been a bad depression. I'm fortunate in having a lot of emotional support from friends and family. |
t3_mhbzf | relationships | My wife and I had a birthday misunderstanding, am I at fault? Could I have handled this better? | Throwaway account
So my wife's birthday was earlier this week. Prior to this we had made plans to do something nice this coming Saturday (tomorrow) when my parents could watch our 12 month old.
The night of her birthday we get home and she's expecting me to take her somewhere. I pointed out that we had planned to do something on Saturday (even canceled other plans with friends) but she had expressed the opinion that we should do something on both nights, going so far as to have requested the night off. I knew she had asked for Saturday off in order to do something but I wasn't expecting (nor was it communicated) to have to do something that night.
At this point we had a low-level, passive-aggressive (no yelling) argument and I finally relented and agreed to take her somewhere. I was moody and quiet for the rest of the evening and was quite frankly disappointed with the whole thing since I had bought her a nice gift and was looking forward to giving it to her as well as doing something nice on Saturday.
I won't lie, one of the big issues for me was the added expense. I am currently the primary breadwinner so most of the financial planning (and responsibility) for our family falls on me. We are expecting $3000-$4000 worth of medical (dental) expenses in the next two months as well as the extra expenses that come with the holidays and on top of that we're in the process of buying a house. I should also mention that this sort of thing has happened before, where we make plans to go do something and she starts adding things on to the point where suddenly I'm spending two hundred dollars over the course of 4 hours.
I think the biggest frustration however, was I had actually gone out and bought something really nice (read: I didn't cheap out) that I knew she would like, had something nice planned and it felt like she was almost saying "what else have you got?" (it killed the gift-giving moment).
So what of it r/relationships, am I justified in my frustration or did I overreact?
Feel free to ask follow-up questions. | Wife's birthday just came and went and she wanted to do more that was already planned and agreed upon, am I wrong for being frustrated and disappointed? |
t3_1l5rzl | AskReddit | How well can you describe your best 'had to be there' moment ? As if we were actually there.. | I work in a restaurant/bar kitchen, have been for the past 10 years, now obviously like any job there is lots of joking around and stuff,
The kitchen is semi open wich means the customers can pretty much see and hear us
One day during a rush my coworker dropped a bowl in the pot of gravy and it splashed all over his pants (croth area)
Without hesitation he jokingly screamed " I got gravy on my dick!!"
I immediately looked and started laughing, when I turned around we saw every customer staring at us in disbelief,
Can u imagine eating at a restaurant and hearing that come from the kitchen? Priceless | coworker in kitchen spills gravy on his pants and screams " I got gravy on my dick" customers stare in disbelief ~ Had to be there |
t3_1lt7kw | personalfinance | Government Pensions: Is it worth it financially? | Hey /r/PersonalFinance. I'm a college student with one year left in my degree program (CompSci & Math double major) with very little debt, and am getting to the point where I'll need to search for a job after graduation.
One of the major options I'm considering is working for a government agency (FBI, CIA, etc) as a career path. Both my parents have connections in these agencies, and getting top-level access (to maximize income) seems like a valid possibility, based on personal and family history. My parents were successful in the public sector, and their current pensions combined are well over 100k per year. I've had long talks with my father about his pensions and how it works for him (50% at 20 years, +5% for each following year up to 30), so I think my understanding of the system is reasonable.
I acknowledge that there will likely be changes to the government pension system. People are living longer, and the government has made attempts in the past to offer reduced pension rates for lump sums. Some areas are being financially restructured (the military, for example) to account for this, and it is not unreasonable to assume these organizations will also experience similar changes. Additionally, I acknowledge that the public sector will make considerably less per year than their private sector counterparts.
However, I figure that, with various forms of insurance, and a pension plan that (ideally) is likely to last longer than my employment, it seems like a good option. It's certainly worked well for my relatives, and has given them a very comfortable life in retirement. This doesn't mean I'll forego a 401k/IRA/etc; I'm simply considering all my options.
I'm just wondering if there are any aspects I'm overlooking, statistics I should know, or any general knowledge that would be useful. I tried searching previous examples in this subreddit, but most were not government pensions. Thanks in advance for any advice. | My parent's experience with government pensions lead me to believe it is an financially viable option post-graduation. Do you agree/disagree/have any advice in the matter? |
t3_2ve3d9 | relationships | I [21 m] can't get over a long-term crush on a girl [20 f] that I never even dated | I met her at a party and was introduced by mutual friends about a year and a half ago. I've asked her out several times and she's said no. She told my friends she's not interested at all. And I get it. I'm not trying to ask for advice on how to win her over or something, and I honestly get that it's not going to work out. I just can't put it behind me for some reason.
I've dated multiple people since then, and I just really don't enjoy it all that much, at least on mental/emotional level. I just can't buy in with these other women the same way I did with this random girl. For some inexplicable reason, I'm just underwhelmed by them. There's no spark. And it's not that the girl I have a crush on is outwardly special. From an objective standpoint, none of my friends really get why I think she's so great. If I understood it, I'd explain it. But I don't.
It's not the rejection either, I've been rejected plenty of times. I'm not the type of guy that gets a thrill out of a challenge or any ridiculous bullshit like that. I just want to move on with my life, but at the end of the day, before I fall asleep, that's where my head's at. | What's the hard advice I need to hear on how to forget about this girl? I logically understand that it's never going to go anywhere, but even after dating other girls I'm having trouble leaving it in the past. |
t3_19eidk | AskReddit | Redditors, what's the scariest thing that's happened to you during sex? | My college girlfriend wanted to try anal sex. (Yep, SHE suggested it. If she hadn't turned out to be batshit crazy she would have been a keeper!) So we get some lube, and start playing around. Finally she says "I'm ready, just go slow." So I do, and not more than 15 seconds into it she passes out mid-moan. At first I couldn't tell what happened, but then she started snoring. I freaked out. I tried to wake her up, the whole time thinking "Fuck, I'm going to have to tell her dad how she died!!!" Could you imagine that conversation?
After about 30 seconds her eyes started fluttering and she finally comes around. She was on her stomach, she got back up on all-fours and says "I smell popcorn." She then turned her head back and looked at me dead in the eye and said "Why did you stop?" I was mortified. The look on my face must have been a sight. When I told her what happened she didn't believe me.
Interesting post-script to this story. She dumped me for my best friend, married him, had two kids and then cheated on him. He found out when a co-worker pulled him aside and said "Your wife is cheating on you, and she just asked me to have sex with you so she could "catch us" in the act. Classy broad, 'eh? True story! | Poked my college GF in the tuchus, she passed out and apparently woke up to the smell of popcorn. |
t3_2r2rrc | relationships | I [17 M] feel my girlfriend [17 F] of 7 months isn't considering me in her choices | So, not to go too much into detail, I feel ignored. While many people don't, my girlfriend and I normally reserve our anniversary date each month to do something together. I will frequently give up work and other plans for this. We hang out often but this is a day we reserve typically for when we're just really busy. With her being in high school and working along with me in college and working, it can be difficult.
This time around however, she not only didn't tell me anything, she blatantly planned to go to the movies with a friend, another guy, alone on our anniversary. She told me last minute and was upset at me for being upset about it. I understand having a personal life, and I respect that very much, but I also don't agree with going to the movies with a male friend alone. I wouldn't do that with another girl and I really feel betrayed by it, especially since she told me the day before.
Do I have justification in being upset? I feel betrayed and honestly don't like the idea of her going to the movies alone with another guy, no matter the trust between us. This isn't the first time she's done this. She will often plan things last minute, not ask or talk to me and just go even if it's something we could or should have talked about. | My girlfriend is blowing off "us day" to go to the movies with a male friend alone, am I justified in being upset and what should I do? |
t3_1fxqva | BreakUps | Finally got the courage to [21/F] break up with him [25/M] but I'm sliding back. | We dated for a total of 9 months. It took about 4 months for him to be able to touch me in public, let alone actually associate with me. It seemed like it was like he was hiding me but he was actually incredibly awkward and uncomfortable with PDA. As a result, I let him take the relationship at his pace because I didn't want him to feel pressured. In addition to the awkwardness, he didn't really show much affection, he was distant but said that he really liked me when I tried breaking up with him around 6 months. I'm an independent person, so I wasn't expecting to see him every day, but wanted to try to see him at least once a week (we both work at our universities in housing-- we live less than a mile away). A lot of the time it would be me suggesting dates, or I would be going to his place because he hated coming to mine.
By this time, my self-esteem was rock bottom, I felt like he didn't want people to know about me, that he didn't actually like me but was keeping me around because we got along quite well. I continue to rationalize a lot of the things that upset me. I told myself that I was expecting too much. At 7-8 months I confessed I was miserable, at this point he finally starts trying because he realizes how upset I am. He starts coming up with dates and actively tries to hold my hand in public and even kiss me hello/goodbye. At 9 months, he's trying but my hearts not in it and I get irritated with everything that he does. I end up breaking it off because I get upset at him, which causes him to be frustrated almost every time we're together.
It's been about 2 weeks since. I miss him like crazy because he's the only boyfriend I've been able to fully trust-- but I can't be around him because he doesn't show emotion, thus making me feel like he doesn't care anymore. I feel like I was setting up too high of expectations and was unfair to him. Yet at the same time I feel like I just stretched out something for too long...
I need help figuring out how to get past this... | Dated emotionally distant and seemingly apathetic guy for 9 months, finally take charge and break up with him, now I miss him because I feel like I was expecting too much from him.* |
t3_3fnqg0 | relationships | Am I [22 M] in the wrong with my girlfriend [20 F] with her talking to her EX? | I have been seeing this girl for around 2 month, everything was going great. But now I am in two minds about her.
So, we got onto talking about her ex and how abusive he was for a long period of time and she mentioned how she was sick of him trying to contact her and how she didn't want to speak him at all.
I later found out she had been talking to said EX. What I can't understand is why someone would wanna talk to their EX, let alone an abusive EX.
I confronted her about it, and why she didn't tell me the full truth and how I don't feel comfortable with the situation. She claims she'll stop talking to him, but I'm not sure if I should trust her and end it or just hope for the best.
Am I overthining this and do I owe her an apology? I've never been in this kind of situation some advice would be great! | GF talking to EX after she said she didn't even want to, said she would stop. Not sure if I trust. |
t3_4riuvm | relationships | "It's not you, it's me." At a loss with my [23F] self-proclaimed "shitty boyfriend" [24M]. | I'm just looking for perspective at this point. Our relationship is pretty much over and I recognize that.
We've been together officially about 4 months, but have been friends for over a year before that. He doesn't really text. We only see each other maybe once a week. We have opposite schedules, and while I make time for him, he hasn't really done the same. I've felt like an obligation lately.
We both knew something was up. The gist of our conversation was verbatim "it's not you, it's me." He feels like he's been a "shitty boyfriend" and admitted he's been like this with his past few relationships. That he adores me but doesn't know what's wrong with him, and he doesn't want to keep hurting me.
From my perspective, it sounds like excuses for how he really feels or what's really wrong. When I brought up issues of my own that I'm working on, that I get insecure and upset easily, he insisted that it was not that at all -- it's him. We contemplated a break to give him to figure himself out, but does that ever really work? I don't want to just wait around, and I also feel if we're thinking about a break, we should just end it altogether.
So while we're still together now, I'm focusing on myself and giving him space. But I'm still heartbroken, losing him and not knowing what to think. | I don't know what to take from this relationship and how to move on when I don't know what's really up. |
t3_31bijy | relationship_advice | I [23/m] made out with a friend [23/f] last night, only problem, were both in long distance relationships. Need advice!! | Right, so me and my girlfriend [23] have been dating for 3 years, we started long distance at the start of this year as I moved away for work, my first long distance and things were going OK but recently I have been spending a lot of time with this girl (lets call her Jane) and I have developed a bit of a crush on her. I never thought anything of it because I am in a long distance relationship and so is she with her boyfriend [25/m] of 6 years. However, over the past week Jane and I have been getting closer and while out last night everything finally came crashing together, Jane and I kissed in the club and then left together proclaiming to our friends we were tired, we live in the same direction. At her door we kissed even more and things got more serious, hands in pants etc. Fortunately it didn't lead to sex and she eventually went inside and I walked home. First issue, her boyfriend got here THIS MORNING and they are going to the beach together for the weekend, literally 4 hours after I have my hand down her pants. This means that we are practically out of contact till Monday. I feel very bad for her and don't know what to do. But that's only the half of it, I don't know what to do about my girlfriend. We are planning a trip together to South East Asia in October and I'm horribly nervous about going ahead with tickets and then finding out after Jane's weekend away that she wants to become more than just a one time mistake, because I don't know if I want to. I still love my girlfriend and I don't think I'm ready to ruin it because of a stupid hook up that is practically impossible to amount to anything. But I'm scared telling her will end us, can I just keep quiet about it? Is that an OK thing to do? | I'm in a long distance relationship and made out with a lady friend also in a long distance relationship last night, stuck for what to do. |
t3_2pkiiz | tifu | TIFU by confusing a guy with long hair with a girl | Actually the one who fucked up is one of my friends. Last summer he had a party at his place, and he lives a bit far, so when the party was over he offered to gave us a lift to the city. So here we were, 4 guys in a nice Mercedes.
He was driving in an empty street when he saw a convertible stopped at the red light ahead. Both drivers and passenger had long hair so he thought it was a couple of chicks. He stopped his car next to the convertible and opened the window (I was at the passenger seat, close to the other car), saying: "Hey! How is it going tonight lad...." and at this moment realized the driver was actually a guy, who looked at us half suprised, half pissed off and answered: "We are fine, thanks".
My friend could only say "ahhh... that's cool man" and quickly closed the window. The few seconds before the light turned green seemed to last forever...then my friend drove as fast as he could from the scene while the four of us were laughing crazy about his mistake. It ended up to be a great moment!
I'm not a native speaker so be kind if there are some errors in the text. | My friend tried a pick-up line on a long hair guy while waiting at a traffic light because he confused him with a girl. |
t3_2rauzd | relationships | I (22F) was wondering if there is a chance in the future with him (22M) | We used to have a thing but we broke it off. I asked him if he wanted to restart it and he said he was t sure. He said he doesn't want any attachments, but it was nothing against me. He just wanted to be friends. I asked if there was potential for more, and he said no. Sorry. He kept saying it was nothing against me, so I don't know if he meant it or if he was blowing me off. But we do have a pretty blunt/open communication
It make sense since we graduate college this semester. He's going off to graduate school and doesn't know where he is going. I am moving to one of the cities he applied to, and he is originally from that area.
We are still friends and talk regularly... Sometimes i feel like he still likes me. At a party he kept teasing me like he did when we first met.
He said things like "you always look ridiculous" when I said my shirt looked ridiculous.
I asked why he kept making fun of me and he said "don't feel so special. I'm making fun of everyone", even though I heard his other conversations and he wasn't teasing other people.
And just a bunch of other stuff. He was constantly making fun of me. I laying close to a guy on a futon (college party. Don't ask) and I caught him sneakily staring.
We have talked about some serious topics. He helped me with one of my problems. He also responds to my texts pretty quickly. Even when I was sending him too many snapchats, he said to just text him since I was using too much data.
Its just hard to let him go... Love sucks. I don't plan on waiting on him and wasting my life and missing opportunities, but I just want a little glimmer of hope, I suppose. | broke things off with a guy i met this year due to senior year of college. Wondering if there is a chance for future reconnecting. |
t3_12kk3w | AskReddit | Reddit, lets talk about people behind their backs. What is the most idiotic reason you've seen someone get upset about? I'll start | Backstory: A couple years ago, I had just entered middle school. They have special program where every quarter you have a different elective (e.g. Art, Drama, Technology, etc.). Now this one quarter (I had Technology that quarter) I sit next to this girl who for privacy's sake, we'll call Kristin. Now Kristin was a smart girl and such. Now our teacher gives us an assignment where we build a robot. He tells us that the first 20 people that build a car will have theirs on display. I finish building the car and have mine on display. I look over to Kristin and see that she isn't finished with hers yet. When she finishes her car, our teacher tells her that she had finished her car after the first 20 people had done theirs and can't have her car on display. She then begins to sob. To the point where her eyes get red. **But wait there's more!** About two years after the incident, the entire school got their report cards. I see Kristin sobbing **again**. To the point where her eyes get red. Now I go up to her and ask what was wrong, and she then proceeds to tell me that she got a "B" in Algebra. I try to comfort her by telling her I'm "shitting rainbows" (now what I really) that I didn't fail Algebra and got a "B". A friend of mine comes over and comforts her by telling her that she had the lowest grade in her class but Kristin then tells my friend (who we'll call Ursula) that, and I quote, "Yeah, but you're used to getting bad grades." I've never seen Ursula that sad. | Girl sobs to the point where her eyes are red over not finishing a car before others, getting a "B" in her class, and makes a friend of mine feel bad. |
t3_2izxst | relationships | Me [19M] with my girlfriend [17F] of 2.5 years, left me for someone else a few months ago, back together now | I'll keep this short and sweet. Basically things got tough with my girlfriend and I trying to see eachother as much as we can. We became strangers almost because we were so busy.
Around March, she left me, and dated some guy for 2 months from May to July to get over me. They didn't have sex, but they did some other sexual things together. I myself have never had sex with my girlfriend.
In July, she told me she still loved me, and asked for me to take her back. I did. However, I didn't want to wonder what she did with this guy, I just wanted to know. So I got her to tell me.
She tried giving him oral but didn't like it, so she gave him a handjob. She received oral.
The things she did during always pick at my mind and I can't get over it. She tells me she still loves me and it was a mistake. But how do I get over what she did? I keep dwelling in the past and I can't stop | girlfriend broke up with me, dated someone else, realized she still loved me, we got back together, but they did stuff together. How do over over them doing stuff together? |
t3_4sx0fw | dating_advice | How do I get back out there when stuck in a routine? | 23[M] haven't been on a date or tried in two years. My last ex was verbally abusive towards the end of the relationship so after it ended I just gave up. Basically my life is just work/come home and on weekends hang outwith friends occasionally. I still live with parents because I want to eventually buy a house. I have also dumped a ton of flaky friends and lost a lot of party connections. I also work in IT so even with about 700 people in my building, trying to mingle with someone is hard since I have more of a desk job with little interaction other than phone and walk ups. I did help this one women and when she walked away she smiled back but I doubt that was interest and more of just friendly.
I just feel with my current lifestyle, I could go the rest of my life and not have another date. Everyone says it just happens but I never seem to have one of those "moments" where you meet someone by accident. I have only had two incidents where a women actually showed interest but this being two years ago and a chicken shit at the time not knowing what to do, I never made a move.
Basically where can I meet women if my lifestyle is kinda uneventful? Everybody always says bars, but is that really where something can turn into a relationship? I don't drink coffee. I am not interested in hookups and just want to date. I have tried online dating and those meetup groups you can join online for activities but never meet anyone worthwhile. I am pretty confident and can talk to almost anyone but I'm not one to just hound numbers of women walking through the mall or wherever because the way it makes me feel as you are begging for their interest and are out just getting numbers like a PUA. | Where can I meet women if my lifestyle is kinda uneventful? What can I do and where can I go to deviate from my path to infinite singledom? |
t3_x0g5c | relationships | My boyfriend has told me he can't fall in love with me. What now? | My boyfriend [M21] and I [F20] have been in a relationship for almost three months. I've really been enjoying my time with him.
Last night we had a long conversation (spurred by him) of which the point was to tell me that due to his own confusion about love and his failure to connect on a deeper level with people, he didn't think he would ever fall in love with me. I his past relationships (which lasted 4 years and 1 year respectively) he never felt what he would consider love. His feelings essentially stagnated after he finally "got the girl".
I told him that I suspected his age and lack of desire to settle down, as well as his own self-deprecating nature, were the reasons he couldn't love someone. I also told him I was upset over him asking me to be in the relationship in the first place (irrationally so) and upset that he couldn't fall in love with me, since that was something I had hoped we could have reached together. I told him that knowing what he told me, I don't think I could ever fall in love with HIM.
We're still together as of now within the bounds of a more "fun" relationship. We keep each other company, make each other laugh. I don't know what to think though. I'm not sure if staying with him will hurt me in the long run. Learning that he hasn't developed any deeper caring for me since we started dating was kind of a slap in the face.
What does everything think? | Boyfriend told me he can't fall in love with me. Still together. Don't know what to think. |
t3_38vwnj | tifu | TIFU by owning a Mini | Bought a used Mini on a lot last year. It was the only Mini there and was excited to grab it. I quickly realize that my city has a Mini dealership and they are EVERYWHERE. Understanding this, I also quickly realize that waving to other Mini drivers is a thing (wooo club), and after some awkward moments, I join in because even though it's ridiculous, I'm a happy person and shit.
Here's the FU that happened Friday. For part of my job I drive kids around in a large passenger van. We're heading out and I see a Mini approaching going the other way. I get excited and wave. Frantically. With my best and biggest smile.
The kids start asking if I know them. While starting to explain, the other driver's confused reaction hits me. I'm not driving my fucking car. I'm in a large white van and obvious employee of a business with children inside. I'm an idiot. | Scared some guy who is now trying to figure how he knows me, or just thinks I'm an idiot. It's the 2nd one. |
t3_2k27it | relationship_advice | [17/m] too shy to approach whom I belive is my (also shy) ''soulmate'' [17/f] | She transfered to my class this year, she gave me curiosity ever since I saw her, because I could tell she's shy like me. She sat on the opposite corner of where I sit, and at this point, it would be kind of impossible to switch where we sit. I overheard her talking a bit of her interests in class, and they coincide perfectly with mines, so I decided to add her on facebook to investigate further(yes creepy, I know), to not look ''suspicious'' I added the other new people in my class. Well, I was right, we have about 90% of the same interests (at least from the information I could gather) and we even excel in the same classes!
Well ever since then, knowing how shy I am, I tried updating my facebook more, saying things a bit more out loud, just to tell her that we have the same interests, without actually telling her, hoping that she'd have more balls than me (if the case were where she wants to talk to me); there's no way she doesen't know we share interests, I'm even dubious if she doesen't know that I'm into her, but I'm a man, and stupid, so I can't tell if she feels or how she feels about me.
A few months have gone by, she already has a few (f)friends, although I dont think shes the most comfortable with them. We've NEVER exchanged a single word, ever. Not a single hello, sorry or excuse me. I wouldn't approach any of my other classmates out of the blue for anything, much less this girl.
Sadly I can't change the past, so | How do I approach a girl with my exact same interests, although we've never talked, but we see eachother everyday (and being as shy as I'm)? |
t3_3gj5i7 | cats | Cat Hydration Advice and Weird Idiosyncrasy. | Hey everyone,
I don't know how to put the advice flair, so sorry in advance!
I just got a cat from SPCA (first pet ever). Took him (formerly Mariano now Rorschach) to my fair sized apartment and he is acclimating well! Not tearing up things, exploring well, being extremely friendly, and also eliminating in his new litterbox.
Two things:
He has diarrhea right now (I'm thinking due to stress and currently giving him florifauna or whatever it is called) and so I'm worried he's not drinking enough water when I am gone and barely drinks when I am home. I put a treat in two alternative water bowls to encourage drinking and that has been working to some effect. I am wondering if this is a bad thing?
Also, near every food, water bowl and also after eliminating, whether he eats, drinks, or goes to the bathroom, he paws as if he is covering poop or pee (around water bowls and food bowl too) imaginary or real cat litter "over" the water and food bowl. Odd quirk? Or is Rorschach telling me something? | Cat treat in water to encourage drinking bueno or no bueno? Scooping imaginary litter to cover water bowl and food bowl quirk or symptom? |
t3_uds0u | personalfinance | Potentially brilliant idea to pay off student loans. | My wife and I have an extremely large load in student loans at an average rate of approximately 5%.
We are currently able to pay off all loans in one shot, but that would basically deplete our savings to zero. So I came up with a better idea, and I was hoping to run it by the mad scientists of Reddit:
What if I were to instead purchase a studio apartment using our savings (I reside in a large metropolitan area with exorbitant RE prices and rent) and then take a home equity loan out to borrow money at the current historically low mortgage rates. I would then use the cash to pay off a large chunk of the principal on the student loans. I would proceed to rent the apartment out, and would deduct the mortgage interest against the rental income (my student loans aren't deductible at all due to our income being above the threshold, so this is another point in favor of the proposal -- convert non-deductible interest payments into deductible interest payments). Any proceeds from renting the place out after taxes would go toward paying down the home equity loan. Mortgages and home equity loans are at around 4% now, so I would be saving 1% in interest. Once I pay down the home equity line, I now have a studio apartment that I can resell and recoup my cash (possibly even some appreciation) rather than absolutely nothing, which is what I would have by just paying off my loans. | I would be converting a 5% debt into a 4% debt, and the kicker is some other person will be paying my loans for me. |
t3_x7q6u | AskReddit | My wisdom teeth have been recently removed and now I'm a little worried... | Hello everyone, this is my first post so I hope you guys wont be too harsh. So three days ago I got my four impacted wisdom teeth removed and I've had NO issues. This sounds like a good thing and all but yesterday I was chewing on some chicken nuggets and no pain. Opening and closing my mouth as far as possible, still nothing. Drinking orange juice, not even phased. I didn't bleed much on surgery day, but I can see there are 4 bloody pits where my teeth were. Now the main part I'm worried about is my cheeks are starting to swell and get warm too the touch with still no pain. I was searching online why this would happen and asked a few friends that have had theirs removed and it points to one thing, a dry socket. My friend had two sockets once and she said its worse that when she had her child :X. I don't enjoy pain and I can't take that extreme amount. Does anyone out there know what else I can do to prevent this? I'm already washing my mouth out with slightly salted water (suggested my doctor), brushing my teeth 3 times a day, and keeping a balanced diet with increased water intake. What more can I do? | My removed wisdom teeth show no pain but are swelling at a high rate, all signs point towards a dry socket, what can I do to prevent this? |
t3_z8mra | relationship_advice | Three weeks ago I [19,m] posted about what gifts I should give to my date [18,f]...and I think the results came back positive! | [My last post](
Not to here to boost my karma on anything but I generally think the date went well and I'm just so happy. On the day I was kinda nervous because I haven't seen her for about 3 weeks or so and when I saw her, all feelings of nervousness came away. She wore a beige top with an Aztec wooly jeggings of some sort which looked so pretty on her but my description of her just doesn't do justice. Around lunch time we went and grabbed some milkshakes and that's when I showed her three gifts which were a strawberry shaped lolly, a spider-man duvet and fancy hot chocolate which you melt in a sauce pan.
Out of the lot, I could tell that her favourites was the duvet and hot chocolate, and she said she would use the duvet for uni. The best part of the day was when she said that I should come up and have hot chocolate up at her place in uni and then she gave me a hug and we had a quick kiss.
*We've been fairly intimate these past months with only hugs, kisses and holding hands, and a few nights out cuddling on the couch and bed so I guess that's pretty good.*
At the cinema we watched the dark knight rises (which was **awesome**) and held hands for the majority of the film and I leaned against her at one point where she stroked my hair (also **awesome**).
And for the bus journey we were too tired to talk but held hands for the nearly the whole time. I think the date went well but I just want to clarify what other people think on this. | She loved the presents, has given me an invitation to stay over hers when shes at uni and share some hot chocolate with her and was quite an intimate day. |
t3_36cw2c | tifu | TIFU by arguing about grades and then accidentally punching somebody in the eye | First of all, this actually happened today.
I got my test from networking back, a C, and the teacher really was an asshole. He started by reading out my test loud and making fun out of me. The test itself looked like it was corrected by a drunken whale fucking a birthdaycake, seriously he said a connection is safe decrypted as long as it doesnt fail to send the package, thus making every package safe??
And many more.
Anyway after i argued a lot with him, he told me hes gonna send me to the headmaster, so i stopped..
Later that day, i was trying to show a classmate how to throw a flower in the air buy squeezing it, well instead of throwing the flower i PUNCHED one of my fingers in his eye. Then he got angry as fuck and threw me on the ground, and out of nowhere that fucking networking teacher comes on his bycycle and laughs at me while i lay at the ground, defeated and angry. | Argued about a grade, punched somebody in the eye accidentally and then was made fun of cause i am so damn stupid |
t3_4xuvkl | personalfinance | A shameless brag. Small steps led to some big leaps and 91k debt free(er) | So I know most people come here for help but I really wanted to share my 'lighter debt' high.
Was on track to be debt free by 44. Was drowning in a condo worth WAY less than what I paid for it for 7 years ago. Housing market recovered. Jumped at chance to get out and possibly break even. Decided to make a lot of big changes I twiddled my thumbs on for a while. New job, cut down budget to the extreme, moved out, renovated the place.
8 months of floating. Still hoping to break even. BUNCH of unexpected life hits. Felt it was a big mistake. I got one last offer. Then another. And another. The 3 offers turned into 1 great offer.
Between the new income from the new job to cushion some of the unexpected and the proceeds from the sell, I was able to wipe $91,000 debt (including the condo mortgage) off my plate in one day.
* I no longer have a Mortgage payment.
* I no longer have an HOA payment.
* I no longer have a car payment.
* My 3 student loans are now down to 1.
On track to be debt free before I'm 30 (less than a year). | Hemorrhaged money with big hits only to stick it out with a plan and come out on top by wiping 91k of debt. |
t3_2m8luj | relationships | I [24F] have no idea how to make friends. | I'll keep this short.
I'm 24, and I have one friend. Yes one. I haven't seen him in 3.5 years. We text and talk on the phone occasionally.
I have my SO, he is wonderful. He has "work friends" and refuses to invite me along to hang out with them because it'd be "weird."
I'm cool. I don't drink, so I don't go to bars. I smoke a lot of weed. I'm really laid back, I swear like a sailor, and I like inappropriate jokes.
I do not like hanging out with females, period. I really only like hanging out with guys. I've only ever had one female friend, and she is cool and all, but I haven't seen her in years, and I'm really okay with that. How the heck do I make male friends without being weird?
I have some social anxiety, and I don't like big groups. I wouldn't like one of those "Meetup.com" groups, because it's typically a whole lot of people, and how the fuck do you make friends in one big group of people? Totally not my scene.
My hobbies: dog sports. I'm a certified dog trainer, and I do Competition Obedience, and Canine Nosework with my dog. My classmates are all much older than me (like 30 years my senior). I like to paint, and draw. I love playing video games, specifically PC FPS's.
So, what can I do here? | One friend who I haven't seen in 3.5 years. How do I make male friends without it being weird? HOW? |
t3_4r4ubf | relationships | Brother (29/m) cheated horribly/openly on his wife (23/f) who bore him 3 babies, cut us out of his life. What now? | Brother has just been a terrible jerk. Has been having a (mostly emotional, but some physical making out) affair with a woman 10 years older than him who has been thrice-divorced, homeless, and drinks. In fact they both get shit face drunk together all the time, even in front of her boy (who she is about to lose custody over). She already lost custody of her other kids to one of her exes. He tried to move this classless woman into his house after his wife just had a baby very recently. Of course the poor wife has no backbone but finally had a huge breakdown and left the house. He now ran off with the chick, and wife filed for divorce.
Throughout this open affair, my brother had made repeated remarks that his wife was manipulative and had no sex drive. He said he didn't love her and didn't want to be with her and it's just a matter of papers (despite him never having the balls to file them). Our entire family called him out and he said we were siding with her and against him/not understanding etc. etc. Slowly he stopped talking to everyone of us in the family.
I guess I'm just upset by it all.... he is barely making money, getting drunk each night, and is about to get served with the divorce papers. It's been over a month since I've spoken to him. He used to be a good guy, really a family man, had no friends. Loved to have family bbq's and hang out with us all and his kids. He is now a whole different person, rude and in denial. i feel like he must be suffering, if not now, very soon once he finds out his chick on the side is evil and cruel and not loyal. he lost the best wife of his life. she has even been fair throughout the divorce, so collected etc.
Should I try to reach out to him at all? I want him to wake up but he's not even himself. | brother cheated on his wife and burned bridges with all our family saying we sided with his wife. he has turned rude and angry, drinks a lot and seems like he is suffering deep down and i wonder if i should say anything. |
t3_32dfbo | Advice | How can I get my noisy upstairs neighbor to respect my request when I ask him to turn it down? | On multiple occasions I have asked him to turn down his music and he just goes, "really? again?" and shakes his head. I don't think he realizes just how loud his music really is. If I can hear his music through a concrete floor... then it's too loud. It fills the hallway and the stairwell. I'm not asking him to turn it off... just turn it down. I have work I'm doing in my apt and I don't understand how he doesn't respect that. I feel like even if I message him, he just ignores it now. What can I do? I'm not trying to be a killjoy or a bitch... but it's an apt... Other people live here too. I would imagine that after so many times of asking him, he would realize that he's really too loud. It's usually just during the day and I don't have too many problems with it at night. Am I being unreasonable? | My super lives above me and doesn't realize how loud his music is and doesn't do anything when I ask him to turn it down. What can I do? |
t3_2mpqau | relationships | My friend's sister [20F] with her boyfriend [21M] | I'm writing this for my friend because she doesn't use reddit, and she asked me for help about this situation, but I don't know how to help her at all
Her sister moved out the house six months ago and moved in with a guy in Texas. The sister signed a lease to an apartment, so she has to pay the bills and everything. After living with her boyfriend for sometime, she realizes the boyfriend is a lazy asshole and he is really abusive. Her boyfriend does nothing at home while she works to pay for the bills and everything. The boyfriend spends all their money on nothing useful.
I'm just wondering what legal action can my friend's sister take or what can she do to get out of the hell hole? | Friend's sister moved in with an asshole and she put her name on the lease, and she wants to move out now, so what can she do? |
t3_voffm | AskReddit | What is the grossest sex story you have? (NSFW) | I'll start:
When I was 16, after my football game, me and my best friend at the time, went to my car. I go to drop him off at his place, because he didn't drive, and immediately, I get a text from this Asian girl, Lucy, saying she needs a ride home. My friend told me to ditch him and drop him off at the corner so I can go to the girl.
I drop off my friend, and I get back to the stadium in 13 seconds flat to see her alone in face paint. It was dark and I open the door for her, like a true gent, and drive her home.
We're outside of her apartment, and we have some small talk, then I say, "Well, here's your stop." She looks at me and leans in for a kiss, and I give her one, which immediately becomes a make out and her pants coming half way off in my car.
My pants stayed on, but her pussy was fully exposed. It got really wet, and 16 year old me, I got anxious. So I stuffed my fingers in her pussy, and it made my mind explode. Then the smell came. As she was enjoying my finger fuck, there it was, the smell, that seemed to be a mix between elephant shit and an aquarium, punched the blood in my cock straight back to my brain.
Without hesitation, I tell her I need to go home, and she needs to get out now. I roll down all the windows in my car and I begin driving with my fingers out of the car, sniffing it occasionally to see if the smell vanished, it hasn't. I get to my first stop light, and the street light showed a white thicket of crust, that looked like cottage cheese, lining the outside of my finger.
I drive over the lawn of my house, and bust through the door. I run to the bathroom, and nothing rids the smell, except for a mixture of toothpaste, rubbing alcohol, and baby powder. I run back to my car, and the car smells no better. Febreze? Nope. Glade? Nope. WD-40? Believe it or not, smelt much better in my car than dank pussy. | Picked up cute girl after football game, fingered her, she had a yeast infection, had to use toothpaste and rubbing alcohol to clean my fingers, and WD-40 to rid the smell in my car. |
t3_py6lx | BreakUps | I know someone here must have been in a similar situation. | Me 29M/Her 23F. This happened 3 weeks ago, now I'm finally seeking advice from you guys.
I can provide details for the whole story if you want them. Basically we were never more than fwb for more than 2 and a half years. She led me on the whole time. I fell for her, I let my intentions be known she always acted like she reciprocated, but never made her intentions with me clear. I tried to get over her (I had to move across the country for work) but she still called me with her problems or when she couldn't sleep, always flirted, shared pet-names, etc.
Eventually, she drops the bomb that she is moving across the country as well, to the same state as me. But, with another guy, that she has been seeing basically the whole time. She never mentioned this guy once in the thousands of texts or the hundreds of hours of phone and skype time we shared.
I called her out for being childish and disrespectful to me, which is very unlike me. I poured my heart out to her. The last thing she said to me was "let's please talk later." We haven't spoken since.
I'm heartbroken and we never even had a real relationship. Has anyone else here been in a similar situation? Do I try to get answers or continue no contact? Why did I let myself get into a situation like this?
She was my friend and confidant and I feel so empty sometimes without her to talk to. Any advice is appreciated. Again, there are many more details to the story, but I wanted it to be succinct. | Fell for my fwb that led me on for a long time. She moved in with another guy. Anyone fell for this before? |
t3_vhu8u | AskReddit | Roommate let me borrow car, now it's broken. Do I pay to fix it? | I'm on the fence here on either I am a douche or just stuck in a bad way.
The car has 100,000 miles on it. My roommate went out of town for 2 weeks. She returns in like 15 hours from now. Today, the day of her return, the car started acting stupid. It won't accelerate over 3000 RPM. It just stutters and won't let you accelerate anymore.
So I took it to a mechanic and he told me my VTEC sensor was bad and it needed to be replaced. He wanted $300, he also suggested that maybe the oil system was too pressurized and said for $80 he could flush the system and change the oil
I went with the $80 option, and it didn't solve my problem. Now the mechanic wants to do it for $300. I told him no, :( I can't afford it.
Now my roommate is returning here shortly. I feel so terrible. The car was in good running condition when she gave it to me.
What do I do reddit? | Car was fine, now it's acting up. Paid $80 and it didn't fix it, now they want $300. Not my car, 100,000 miles on it. |
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