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v1jg2n | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Amazon sent my father an iPhone he didn’t order, told him he could keep it four times and now wants it back after he gave it away. What is his legal responsibility to retrieve and return it? Location: California A few weeks ago my elderly father received a package addressed to him from Amazon. He doesn’t have an Amazon account and didn’t order it. It turned out to be an iPhone. We contacted Amazon (through my account as this was the only way we knew to contact them) and were able to learned that the phone was sent to him as either a security breach on another account, or system glitch. In any case, when we asked what they wanted us to do with it, Amazon told us that he could keep the phone, and sent an email confirming this. This was confirmed to us three more times by Amazon over the course of a week. After being told the phone was his to keep, my father gifted the phone to another relative. Fast forward to today, I received an email from Amazon saying they had previously told us incorrect information and they want the phone back. Do either of us have any legal obligation to retrieve and return the phone? | ianzogw | iao6sod | 1,654,007,214 | 1,654,010,359 | 6 | 116 | Were they not able to find out who actually ordered it? Is it possible it actually was a gift, sent by someone else? | Reply back and inform them that the phone is no longer available to be returned. Include the earlier email from Amazon confirming to keep the phone. | 0 | 3,145 | 19.333333 |
v1jg2n | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Amazon sent my father an iPhone he didn’t order, told him he could keep it four times and now wants it back after he gave it away. What is his legal responsibility to retrieve and return it? Location: California A few weeks ago my elderly father received a package addressed to him from Amazon. He doesn’t have an Amazon account and didn’t order it. It turned out to be an iPhone. We contacted Amazon (through my account as this was the only way we knew to contact them) and were able to learned that the phone was sent to him as either a security breach on another account, or system glitch. In any case, when we asked what they wanted us to do with it, Amazon told us that he could keep the phone, and sent an email confirming this. This was confirmed to us three more times by Amazon over the course of a week. After being told the phone was his to keep, my father gifted the phone to another relative. Fast forward to today, I received an email from Amazon saying they had previously told us incorrect information and they want the phone back. Do either of us have any legal obligation to retrieve and return the phone? | ianzogw | iaohhyc | 1,654,007,214 | 1,654,014,917 | 6 | 110 | Were they not able to find out who actually ordered it? Is it possible it actually was a gift, sent by someone else? | >Fast forward to today, I received an email from Amazon saying they had previously told us incorrect information and they want the phone back. Forward them the email from them telling you to keep it. | 0 | 7,703 | 18.333333 |
v1jg2n | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Amazon sent my father an iPhone he didn’t order, told him he could keep it four times and now wants it back after he gave it away. What is his legal responsibility to retrieve and return it? Location: California A few weeks ago my elderly father received a package addressed to him from Amazon. He doesn’t have an Amazon account and didn’t order it. It turned out to be an iPhone. We contacted Amazon (through my account as this was the only way we knew to contact them) and were able to learned that the phone was sent to him as either a security breach on another account, or system glitch. In any case, when we asked what they wanted us to do with it, Amazon told us that he could keep the phone, and sent an email confirming this. This was confirmed to us three more times by Amazon over the course of a week. After being told the phone was his to keep, my father gifted the phone to another relative. Fast forward to today, I received an email from Amazon saying they had previously told us incorrect information and they want the phone back. Do either of us have any legal obligation to retrieve and return the phone? | iap7bie | ianzogw | 1,654,026,467 | 1,654,007,214 | 21 | 6 | Sounds like a scam; were you contacted by an actual representative of Amazon or is it from a third party seller? | Were they not able to find out who actually ordered it? Is it possible it actually was a gift, sent by someone else? | 1 | 19,253 | 3.5 |
wjkne3 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | can I refuse to give my brother his keys if he has been drinking heavily? Hi. My brother is extremely drunk and wants to drive. My mom took his keys until he sobers. Will we get in trouble? | ijhuhnl | iji3n1o | 1,659,994,111 | 1,659,997,785 | 139 | 295 | What would he do, call the police and have them make your mother give him the keys? That wouldn't go well for him. | INAL. Yes, you can. Literally nothing criminally will happen to you. He can call the police and/or make a police report, but they will not do anything. No prosecutors would press charges of theft on you for temporarily holding his keys, especially to prevent drunk driving. Also, he could sue you in small claims court, but he would undoubtedly lose that too. Not even sure what damages he could say to try and “recoup”. You are doing the right thing and nothing will happen as a result, other than dealing with your obnoxious drunk brother. | 0 | 3,674 | 2.122302 |
wjkne3 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | can I refuse to give my brother his keys if he has been drinking heavily? Hi. My brother is extremely drunk and wants to drive. My mom took his keys until he sobers. Will we get in trouble? | iji29q7 | iji3n1o | 1,659,997,222 | 1,659,997,785 | 2 | 295 | I’m in the UK but here you have to have a guilty action and a guilty mind, you might not be entitled to hold his keys so that action could be wrong but you have no bad intention. Also for it to be theft you’d need to shown to Permanently deprive your brother of his car, which you’re not trying to do. The Bottom line is you’re doing everyone a favour by keep a drunk off the road | INAL. Yes, you can. Literally nothing criminally will happen to you. He can call the police and/or make a police report, but they will not do anything. No prosecutors would press charges of theft on you for temporarily holding his keys, especially to prevent drunk driving. Also, he could sue you in small claims court, but he would undoubtedly lose that too. Not even sure what damages he could say to try and “recoup”. You are doing the right thing and nothing will happen as a result, other than dealing with your obnoxious drunk brother. | 0 | 563 | 147.5 |
wjkne3 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | can I refuse to give my brother his keys if he has been drinking heavily? Hi. My brother is extremely drunk and wants to drive. My mom took his keys until he sobers. Will we get in trouble? | ijigda8 | ijikhzo | 1,660,003,177 | 1,660,004,939 | 15 | 41 | Not a lawyer but most? (atleast U.K. law) theft definitions include “intent to permanently deprive” which if you’re only keeping his keys while your brother is drunk then that doesn’t satisfy or amount to the mens rea for theft, since you’d be presumably giving them back when he’s sober | The defense of necessity may apply when an individual commits a criminal act during an emergency situation in order to prevent a greater harm from happening. Taking his keys is theft. And the responisble thing to do. As someone who has lost blood relatives to drunk drivers, I would argue beating him unconcious to prevent him driving would be acceptable. | 0 | 1,762 | 2.733333 |
wjkne3 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | can I refuse to give my brother his keys if he has been drinking heavily? Hi. My brother is extremely drunk and wants to drive. My mom took his keys until he sobers. Will we get in trouble? | ijikhzo | iji29q7 | 1,660,004,939 | 1,659,997,222 | 41 | 2 | The defense of necessity may apply when an individual commits a criminal act during an emergency situation in order to prevent a greater harm from happening. Taking his keys is theft. And the responisble thing to do. As someone who has lost blood relatives to drunk drivers, I would argue beating him unconcious to prevent him driving would be acceptable. | I’m in the UK but here you have to have a guilty action and a guilty mind, you might not be entitled to hold his keys so that action could be wrong but you have no bad intention. Also for it to be theft you’d need to shown to Permanently deprive your brother of his car, which you’re not trying to do. The Bottom line is you’re doing everyone a favour by keep a drunk off the road | 1 | 7,717 | 20.5 |
wjkne3 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | can I refuse to give my brother his keys if he has been drinking heavily? Hi. My brother is extremely drunk and wants to drive. My mom took his keys until he sobers. Will we get in trouble? | iji29q7 | ijigda8 | 1,659,997,222 | 1,660,003,177 | 2 | 15 | I’m in the UK but here you have to have a guilty action and a guilty mind, you might not be entitled to hold his keys so that action could be wrong but you have no bad intention. Also for it to be theft you’d need to shown to Permanently deprive your brother of his car, which you’re not trying to do. The Bottom line is you’re doing everyone a favour by keep a drunk off the road | Not a lawyer but most? (atleast U.K. law) theft definitions include “intent to permanently deprive” which if you’re only keeping his keys while your brother is drunk then that doesn’t satisfy or amount to the mens rea for theft, since you’d be presumably giving them back when he’s sober | 0 | 5,955 | 7.5 |
wjkne3 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | can I refuse to give my brother his keys if he has been drinking heavily? Hi. My brother is extremely drunk and wants to drive. My mom took his keys until he sobers. Will we get in trouble? | iji29q7 | ijj0q51 | 1,659,997,222 | 1,660,011,876 | 2 | 6 | I’m in the UK but here you have to have a guilty action and a guilty mind, you might not be entitled to hold his keys so that action could be wrong but you have no bad intention. Also for it to be theft you’d need to shown to Permanently deprive your brother of his car, which you’re not trying to do. The Bottom line is you’re doing everyone a favour by keep a drunk off the road | For a necessity defense, you might have to show there's no reasonable alternative, like calling 911. That said, the likelihood of you actually being prosecuted in this scenario seems pretty low. Interestingly, one of the few actual cases I've heard of on which someone argued necessity at trial was a DUI case where the driver was impaired and claimed to be trying to get another person to the hospital. The defense failed for the same reason as I suggested above, there was a reasonable alternative in just calling 911. | 0 | 14,654 | 3 |
wjkne3 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | can I refuse to give my brother his keys if he has been drinking heavily? Hi. My brother is extremely drunk and wants to drive. My mom took his keys until he sobers. Will we get in trouble? | ijjeak7 | iji29q7 | 1,660,018,459 | 1,659,997,222 | 3 | 2 | Depending on where you live you may even have a lawful duty to prevent him from driving. Not to worry... Provided the facts surrounding the matter are as you stated them, in the extraordinarily unlikely scenario that you're met with any potential penalty for your responsible intervention, just about any attorney would enthusiastically accept your case. | I’m in the UK but here you have to have a guilty action and a guilty mind, you might not be entitled to hold his keys so that action could be wrong but you have no bad intention. Also for it to be theft you’d need to shown to Permanently deprive your brother of his car, which you’re not trying to do. The Bottom line is you’re doing everyone a favour by keep a drunk off the road | 1 | 21,237 | 1.5 |
6ndd34 | legaladvice_train | 0.81 | I work in EMS and my employer recently has been scheduling us to work 4 12hr shifts back to back in a station with no sleeping quarters. Is this legal? Do we have any recourse other than quitting? My state is WV if that is pertinant. | dk8mg49 | dk8mymo | 1,500,083,486 | 1,500,084,285 | 11 | 19 | So you work 12 hours, off 12, on 12, etc...Or are you working 48 hours straight? | Cursory research didn't turn up any statutory maximums that would apply. State-employed firefighters do have a maximum, but I didn't find anything applicable to EMS workers. I suspect that if your employer were willing to pay the overtime, they could schedule for 168 hours a week. This is the sort of thing that used to cause workers to band together and unionize. | 0 | 799 | 1.727273 |
vr739t | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Friend of mine has a recording of a manager telling him they won't hire him because he doesn't believe in god, how strong is his case? I want to keep details sparse. Location is Georgia. In said state 1 party consent on recordings is legally allowed. Friend was interviewing for a job , said job pays approx $75k a year which is about avg for his position. Friend was recording the job interview on his phone as he has recorded several interviews to play back/record later to see how he did it. The company in question employs about 150 people. In the interview the manager asked "how important is faith based decision making to you?" Confused my friend asked "What do you mean?" the manager said "How important is gods opinion in your decision making" My friend said "Well not at all, I make my decision based upon the facts of the situation and whats best for the company" The manager said "So you don't consider god as a part of your process?" Too which my friend said "No, I base the decisions I make on the facts of the situation" The manager then asked "What church do you go too?" my friend confused asked "This is a Mon-Friday job right?" the manager said "yes" then asked "What church do you go to?" My friend asked "Why does it matter what church I go too?" The manager said "Do you believe in god?" to which my friend asked "How that relevant to this job?" the manager then said "I won't work with someone that doesn't believe in god, and I don't believe you believe in god so I think unfortunately I'll need to pass on you" My friend is in fact an atheist. I've listened to the recording, clear as day. I've told my friend his case is super strong that the employer discriminated against him based upon his religion. Also the company/job has NOTHING to do with religion. This isn't a church or some religious organization. Nor does this business have any major affiliations with any religious organizations. How strong is my friends case? Manager is not aware he was recorded. | ieulni6 | ietn34r | 1,656,960,366 | 1,656,945,765 | 418 | 260 | Not a lawyer but work for a firm in GA. Get in contact with a legal firm to handle your case. Your friend has approx 180 days from that interview as his statute of limitations to file with the EEOC. Tell your friend to save the recording, any emails to and from the company, etc. ANYTHING that can be considered evidence should be preserved. Wishing your friend the best! | Don’t hesitate. EEOC complaints are time sensitive. Consult with an attorney that concentrates in this field of law. | 1 | 14,601 | 1.607692 |
vr739t | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Friend of mine has a recording of a manager telling him they won't hire him because he doesn't believe in god, how strong is his case? I want to keep details sparse. Location is Georgia. In said state 1 party consent on recordings is legally allowed. Friend was interviewing for a job , said job pays approx $75k a year which is about avg for his position. Friend was recording the job interview on his phone as he has recorded several interviews to play back/record later to see how he did it. The company in question employs about 150 people. In the interview the manager asked "how important is faith based decision making to you?" Confused my friend asked "What do you mean?" the manager said "How important is gods opinion in your decision making" My friend said "Well not at all, I make my decision based upon the facts of the situation and whats best for the company" The manager said "So you don't consider god as a part of your process?" Too which my friend said "No, I base the decisions I make on the facts of the situation" The manager then asked "What church do you go too?" my friend confused asked "This is a Mon-Friday job right?" the manager said "yes" then asked "What church do you go to?" My friend asked "Why does it matter what church I go too?" The manager said "Do you believe in god?" to which my friend asked "How that relevant to this job?" the manager then said "I won't work with someone that doesn't believe in god, and I don't believe you believe in god so I think unfortunately I'll need to pass on you" My friend is in fact an atheist. I've listened to the recording, clear as day. I've told my friend his case is super strong that the employer discriminated against him based upon his religion. Also the company/job has NOTHING to do with religion. This isn't a church or some religious organization. Nor does this business have any major affiliations with any religious organizations. How strong is my friends case? Manager is not aware he was recorded. | ieulni6 | ietvdic | 1,656,960,366 | 1,656,949,327 | 418 | 216 | Not a lawyer but work for a firm in GA. Get in contact with a legal firm to handle your case. Your friend has approx 180 days from that interview as his statute of limitations to file with the EEOC. Tell your friend to save the recording, any emails to and from the company, etc. ANYTHING that can be considered evidence should be preserved. Wishing your friend the best! | This is from the eeoc website: “Unless it would be an undue hardship on the employer's operation of its business, an employer must reasonably accommodate an employee's religious beliefs or practices.” | 1 | 11,039 | 1.935185 |
vr739t | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Friend of mine has a recording of a manager telling him they won't hire him because he doesn't believe in god, how strong is his case? I want to keep details sparse. Location is Georgia. In said state 1 party consent on recordings is legally allowed. Friend was interviewing for a job , said job pays approx $75k a year which is about avg for his position. Friend was recording the job interview on his phone as he has recorded several interviews to play back/record later to see how he did it. The company in question employs about 150 people. In the interview the manager asked "how important is faith based decision making to you?" Confused my friend asked "What do you mean?" the manager said "How important is gods opinion in your decision making" My friend said "Well not at all, I make my decision based upon the facts of the situation and whats best for the company" The manager said "So you don't consider god as a part of your process?" Too which my friend said "No, I base the decisions I make on the facts of the situation" The manager then asked "What church do you go too?" my friend confused asked "This is a Mon-Friday job right?" the manager said "yes" then asked "What church do you go to?" My friend asked "Why does it matter what church I go too?" The manager said "Do you believe in god?" to which my friend asked "How that relevant to this job?" the manager then said "I won't work with someone that doesn't believe in god, and I don't believe you believe in god so I think unfortunately I'll need to pass on you" My friend is in fact an atheist. I've listened to the recording, clear as day. I've told my friend his case is super strong that the employer discriminated against him based upon his religion. Also the company/job has NOTHING to do with religion. This isn't a church or some religious organization. Nor does this business have any major affiliations with any religious organizations. How strong is my friends case? Manager is not aware he was recorded. | ieu5tnx | ieulni6 | 1,656,953,682 | 1,656,960,366 | 149 | 418 | Think and read before you comment. If you jump into this thread to simply comment, "Call the EEOC!" . . . please don't. Instead, observe the other handful of comments that provide a plethora of information on top of that vague suggestion. Off-topic comments or other comments that violate the subs rules will be removed. | Not a lawyer but work for a firm in GA. Get in contact with a legal firm to handle your case. Your friend has approx 180 days from that interview as his statute of limitations to file with the EEOC. Tell your friend to save the recording, any emails to and from the company, etc. ANYTHING that can be considered evidence should be preserved. Wishing your friend the best! | 0 | 6,684 | 2.805369 |
vr739t | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Friend of mine has a recording of a manager telling him they won't hire him because he doesn't believe in god, how strong is his case? I want to keep details sparse. Location is Georgia. In said state 1 party consent on recordings is legally allowed. Friend was interviewing for a job , said job pays approx $75k a year which is about avg for his position. Friend was recording the job interview on his phone as he has recorded several interviews to play back/record later to see how he did it. The company in question employs about 150 people. In the interview the manager asked "how important is faith based decision making to you?" Confused my friend asked "What do you mean?" the manager said "How important is gods opinion in your decision making" My friend said "Well not at all, I make my decision based upon the facts of the situation and whats best for the company" The manager said "So you don't consider god as a part of your process?" Too which my friend said "No, I base the decisions I make on the facts of the situation" The manager then asked "What church do you go too?" my friend confused asked "This is a Mon-Friday job right?" the manager said "yes" then asked "What church do you go to?" My friend asked "Why does it matter what church I go too?" The manager said "Do you believe in god?" to which my friend asked "How that relevant to this job?" the manager then said "I won't work with someone that doesn't believe in god, and I don't believe you believe in god so I think unfortunately I'll need to pass on you" My friend is in fact an atheist. I've listened to the recording, clear as day. I've told my friend his case is super strong that the employer discriminated against him based upon his religion. Also the company/job has NOTHING to do with religion. This isn't a church or some religious organization. Nor does this business have any major affiliations with any religious organizations. How strong is my friends case? Manager is not aware he was recorded. | ietmwm9 | ieulni6 | 1,656,945,688 | 1,656,960,366 | 114 | 418 | The manager said that he doesn't want to work with someone who believes in god and the company's business is not related to religion. It's likely that the manager is violating company policy. As others have said, gat a lawyer and/or bring the case to the EEOC. I suspect that the company will roll over immediately and also fire the manager. | Not a lawyer but work for a firm in GA. Get in contact with a legal firm to handle your case. Your friend has approx 180 days from that interview as his statute of limitations to file with the EEOC. Tell your friend to save the recording, any emails to and from the company, etc. ANYTHING that can be considered evidence should be preserved. Wishing your friend the best! | 0 | 14,678 | 3.666667 |
vr739t | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Friend of mine has a recording of a manager telling him they won't hire him because he doesn't believe in god, how strong is his case? I want to keep details sparse. Location is Georgia. In said state 1 party consent on recordings is legally allowed. Friend was interviewing for a job , said job pays approx $75k a year which is about avg for his position. Friend was recording the job interview on his phone as he has recorded several interviews to play back/record later to see how he did it. The company in question employs about 150 people. In the interview the manager asked "how important is faith based decision making to you?" Confused my friend asked "What do you mean?" the manager said "How important is gods opinion in your decision making" My friend said "Well not at all, I make my decision based upon the facts of the situation and whats best for the company" The manager said "So you don't consider god as a part of your process?" Too which my friend said "No, I base the decisions I make on the facts of the situation" The manager then asked "What church do you go too?" my friend confused asked "This is a Mon-Friday job right?" the manager said "yes" then asked "What church do you go to?" My friend asked "Why does it matter what church I go too?" The manager said "Do you believe in god?" to which my friend asked "How that relevant to this job?" the manager then said "I won't work with someone that doesn't believe in god, and I don't believe you believe in god so I think unfortunately I'll need to pass on you" My friend is in fact an atheist. I've listened to the recording, clear as day. I've told my friend his case is super strong that the employer discriminated against him based upon his religion. Also the company/job has NOTHING to do with religion. This isn't a church or some religious organization. Nor does this business have any major affiliations with any religious organizations. How strong is my friends case? Manager is not aware he was recorded. | ieu55rq | ieulni6 | 1,656,953,405 | 1,656,960,366 | 8 | 418 | Might be worth an email or call to your district’s OCR. They also have online complaint forms you can submit. Edit—whoops, that’s for education. What you want is the Georgia Bureau of Investigation, civil rights division. | Not a lawyer but work for a firm in GA. Get in contact with a legal firm to handle your case. Your friend has approx 180 days from that interview as his statute of limitations to file with the EEOC. Tell your friend to save the recording, any emails to and from the company, etc. ANYTHING that can be considered evidence should be preserved. Wishing your friend the best! | 0 | 6,961 | 52.25 |
vr739t | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Friend of mine has a recording of a manager telling him they won't hire him because he doesn't believe in god, how strong is his case? I want to keep details sparse. Location is Georgia. In said state 1 party consent on recordings is legally allowed. Friend was interviewing for a job , said job pays approx $75k a year which is about avg for his position. Friend was recording the job interview on his phone as he has recorded several interviews to play back/record later to see how he did it. The company in question employs about 150 people. In the interview the manager asked "how important is faith based decision making to you?" Confused my friend asked "What do you mean?" the manager said "How important is gods opinion in your decision making" My friend said "Well not at all, I make my decision based upon the facts of the situation and whats best for the company" The manager said "So you don't consider god as a part of your process?" Too which my friend said "No, I base the decisions I make on the facts of the situation" The manager then asked "What church do you go too?" my friend confused asked "This is a Mon-Friday job right?" the manager said "yes" then asked "What church do you go to?" My friend asked "Why does it matter what church I go too?" The manager said "Do you believe in god?" to which my friend asked "How that relevant to this job?" the manager then said "I won't work with someone that doesn't believe in god, and I don't believe you believe in god so I think unfortunately I'll need to pass on you" My friend is in fact an atheist. I've listened to the recording, clear as day. I've told my friend his case is super strong that the employer discriminated against him based upon his religion. Also the company/job has NOTHING to do with religion. This isn't a church or some religious organization. Nor does this business have any major affiliations with any religious organizations. How strong is my friends case? Manager is not aware he was recorded. | ietmwm9 | ietn34r | 1,656,945,688 | 1,656,945,765 | 114 | 260 | The manager said that he doesn't want to work with someone who believes in god and the company's business is not related to religion. It's likely that the manager is violating company policy. As others have said, gat a lawyer and/or bring the case to the EEOC. I suspect that the company will roll over immediately and also fire the manager. | Don’t hesitate. EEOC complaints are time sensitive. Consult with an attorney that concentrates in this field of law. | 0 | 77 | 2.280702 |
vr739t | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Friend of mine has a recording of a manager telling him they won't hire him because he doesn't believe in god, how strong is his case? I want to keep details sparse. Location is Georgia. In said state 1 party consent on recordings is legally allowed. Friend was interviewing for a job , said job pays approx $75k a year which is about avg for his position. Friend was recording the job interview on his phone as he has recorded several interviews to play back/record later to see how he did it. The company in question employs about 150 people. In the interview the manager asked "how important is faith based decision making to you?" Confused my friend asked "What do you mean?" the manager said "How important is gods opinion in your decision making" My friend said "Well not at all, I make my decision based upon the facts of the situation and whats best for the company" The manager said "So you don't consider god as a part of your process?" Too which my friend said "No, I base the decisions I make on the facts of the situation" The manager then asked "What church do you go too?" my friend confused asked "This is a Mon-Friday job right?" the manager said "yes" then asked "What church do you go to?" My friend asked "Why does it matter what church I go too?" The manager said "Do you believe in god?" to which my friend asked "How that relevant to this job?" the manager then said "I won't work with someone that doesn't believe in god, and I don't believe you believe in god so I think unfortunately I'll need to pass on you" My friend is in fact an atheist. I've listened to the recording, clear as day. I've told my friend his case is super strong that the employer discriminated against him based upon his religion. Also the company/job has NOTHING to do with religion. This isn't a church or some religious organization. Nor does this business have any major affiliations with any religious organizations. How strong is my friends case? Manager is not aware he was recorded. | ietmwm9 | ietvdic | 1,656,945,688 | 1,656,949,327 | 114 | 216 | The manager said that he doesn't want to work with someone who believes in god and the company's business is not related to religion. It's likely that the manager is violating company policy. As others have said, gat a lawyer and/or bring the case to the EEOC. I suspect that the company will roll over immediately and also fire the manager. | This is from the eeoc website: “Unless it would be an undue hardship on the employer's operation of its business, an employer must reasonably accommodate an employee's religious beliefs or practices.” | 0 | 3,639 | 1.894737 |
vr739t | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Friend of mine has a recording of a manager telling him they won't hire him because he doesn't believe in god, how strong is his case? I want to keep details sparse. Location is Georgia. In said state 1 party consent on recordings is legally allowed. Friend was interviewing for a job , said job pays approx $75k a year which is about avg for his position. Friend was recording the job interview on his phone as he has recorded several interviews to play back/record later to see how he did it. The company in question employs about 150 people. In the interview the manager asked "how important is faith based decision making to you?" Confused my friend asked "What do you mean?" the manager said "How important is gods opinion in your decision making" My friend said "Well not at all, I make my decision based upon the facts of the situation and whats best for the company" The manager said "So you don't consider god as a part of your process?" Too which my friend said "No, I base the decisions I make on the facts of the situation" The manager then asked "What church do you go too?" my friend confused asked "This is a Mon-Friday job right?" the manager said "yes" then asked "What church do you go to?" My friend asked "Why does it matter what church I go too?" The manager said "Do you believe in god?" to which my friend asked "How that relevant to this job?" the manager then said "I won't work with someone that doesn't believe in god, and I don't believe you believe in god so I think unfortunately I'll need to pass on you" My friend is in fact an atheist. I've listened to the recording, clear as day. I've told my friend his case is super strong that the employer discriminated against him based upon his religion. Also the company/job has NOTHING to do with religion. This isn't a church or some religious organization. Nor does this business have any major affiliations with any religious organizations. How strong is my friends case? Manager is not aware he was recorded. | ieu5tnx | ietmwm9 | 1,656,953,682 | 1,656,945,688 | 149 | 114 | Think and read before you comment. If you jump into this thread to simply comment, "Call the EEOC!" . . . please don't. Instead, observe the other handful of comments that provide a plethora of information on top of that vague suggestion. Off-topic comments or other comments that violate the subs rules will be removed. | The manager said that he doesn't want to work with someone who believes in god and the company's business is not related to religion. It's likely that the manager is violating company policy. As others have said, gat a lawyer and/or bring the case to the EEOC. I suspect that the company will roll over immediately and also fire the manager. | 1 | 7,994 | 1.307018 |
vr739t | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Friend of mine has a recording of a manager telling him they won't hire him because he doesn't believe in god, how strong is his case? I want to keep details sparse. Location is Georgia. In said state 1 party consent on recordings is legally allowed. Friend was interviewing for a job , said job pays approx $75k a year which is about avg for his position. Friend was recording the job interview on his phone as he has recorded several interviews to play back/record later to see how he did it. The company in question employs about 150 people. In the interview the manager asked "how important is faith based decision making to you?" Confused my friend asked "What do you mean?" the manager said "How important is gods opinion in your decision making" My friend said "Well not at all, I make my decision based upon the facts of the situation and whats best for the company" The manager said "So you don't consider god as a part of your process?" Too which my friend said "No, I base the decisions I make on the facts of the situation" The manager then asked "What church do you go too?" my friend confused asked "This is a Mon-Friday job right?" the manager said "yes" then asked "What church do you go to?" My friend asked "Why does it matter what church I go too?" The manager said "Do you believe in god?" to which my friend asked "How that relevant to this job?" the manager then said "I won't work with someone that doesn't believe in god, and I don't believe you believe in god so I think unfortunately I'll need to pass on you" My friend is in fact an atheist. I've listened to the recording, clear as day. I've told my friend his case is super strong that the employer discriminated against him based upon his religion. Also the company/job has NOTHING to do with religion. This isn't a church or some religious organization. Nor does this business have any major affiliations with any religious organizations. How strong is my friends case? Manager is not aware he was recorded. | ieu55rq | ieu5tnx | 1,656,953,405 | 1,656,953,682 | 8 | 149 | Might be worth an email or call to your district’s OCR. They also have online complaint forms you can submit. Edit—whoops, that’s for education. What you want is the Georgia Bureau of Investigation, civil rights division. | Think and read before you comment. If you jump into this thread to simply comment, "Call the EEOC!" . . . please don't. Instead, observe the other handful of comments that provide a plethora of information on top of that vague suggestion. Off-topic comments or other comments that violate the subs rules will be removed. | 0 | 277 | 18.625 |
vr739t | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Friend of mine has a recording of a manager telling him they won't hire him because he doesn't believe in god, how strong is his case? I want to keep details sparse. Location is Georgia. In said state 1 party consent on recordings is legally allowed. Friend was interviewing for a job , said job pays approx $75k a year which is about avg for his position. Friend was recording the job interview on his phone as he has recorded several interviews to play back/record later to see how he did it. The company in question employs about 150 people. In the interview the manager asked "how important is faith based decision making to you?" Confused my friend asked "What do you mean?" the manager said "How important is gods opinion in your decision making" My friend said "Well not at all, I make my decision based upon the facts of the situation and whats best for the company" The manager said "So you don't consider god as a part of your process?" Too which my friend said "No, I base the decisions I make on the facts of the situation" The manager then asked "What church do you go too?" my friend confused asked "This is a Mon-Friday job right?" the manager said "yes" then asked "What church do you go to?" My friend asked "Why does it matter what church I go too?" The manager said "Do you believe in god?" to which my friend asked "How that relevant to this job?" the manager then said "I won't work with someone that doesn't believe in god, and I don't believe you believe in god so I think unfortunately I'll need to pass on you" My friend is in fact an atheist. I've listened to the recording, clear as day. I've told my friend his case is super strong that the employer discriminated against him based upon his religion. Also the company/job has NOTHING to do with religion. This isn't a church or some religious organization. Nor does this business have any major affiliations with any religious organizations. How strong is my friends case? Manager is not aware he was recorded. | ieumdi2 | iev0rdy | 1,656,960,673 | 1,656,966,903 | 29 | 46 | Not a lawyer but as I read this, I asked myself this question: is the employer a faith based organization? As everybody has stated on here contacting an attorney would be helpful. Also, another thought, has your friend considered contacting the Freedom From Religion Foundation or a similar organization to help with at least a free consultation. Good luck | Asking about religion is one of the forbidden questions to ask during an interview Unless if the job is at a church or the business is religious based. You are allowed to refuse to answer the question and report the question. The process to is different in each state. I refuse to talk about religion at work. It is no one’s business. I really don’t know what their process is to protect people from lack of religion. Because everyone has a right to their choice even if it’s no religion. One of my My old jobs tried to make me work every Sunday by myself because of my lack of religion. Another manager asked me if I believed in god in front of everyone and put me on the spot and I don’t remember how I replied because it was years ago. As for legal advice, I would go to a free legal advice. There are free legal hotlines that will talk to you for an hour. You can google “free legal advice + your state” “free legal library + in your state” “free legal hotline + your state”. I also received a lot of resources from the office where I filed a civil suit. They were not aloud to provide legal advice but tell me how to file a civil suit and provide me with a lot of resources to call. They had several resources. There was also free lawyers if they can represent you. You can see the Bono, legal aid. Does the job have a legal department ? That should be the last resort. EEOC is a huge resource but I would try to ask for advice because I feel they are the last resort. There is a state and sometimes local resource before them. They might be able to direct you. Start with the local labor board as EEOC will want to know what steps you take before you come to them | 0 | 6,230 | 1.586207 |
vr739t | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Friend of mine has a recording of a manager telling him they won't hire him because he doesn't believe in god, how strong is his case? I want to keep details sparse. Location is Georgia. In said state 1 party consent on recordings is legally allowed. Friend was interviewing for a job , said job pays approx $75k a year which is about avg for his position. Friend was recording the job interview on his phone as he has recorded several interviews to play back/record later to see how he did it. The company in question employs about 150 people. In the interview the manager asked "how important is faith based decision making to you?" Confused my friend asked "What do you mean?" the manager said "How important is gods opinion in your decision making" My friend said "Well not at all, I make my decision based upon the facts of the situation and whats best for the company" The manager said "So you don't consider god as a part of your process?" Too which my friend said "No, I base the decisions I make on the facts of the situation" The manager then asked "What church do you go too?" my friend confused asked "This is a Mon-Friday job right?" the manager said "yes" then asked "What church do you go to?" My friend asked "Why does it matter what church I go too?" The manager said "Do you believe in god?" to which my friend asked "How that relevant to this job?" the manager then said "I won't work with someone that doesn't believe in god, and I don't believe you believe in god so I think unfortunately I'll need to pass on you" My friend is in fact an atheist. I've listened to the recording, clear as day. I've told my friend his case is super strong that the employer discriminated against him based upon his religion. Also the company/job has NOTHING to do with religion. This isn't a church or some religious organization. Nor does this business have any major affiliations with any religious organizations. How strong is my friends case? Manager is not aware he was recorded. | ieu55rq | iev0rdy | 1,656,953,405 | 1,656,966,903 | 8 | 46 | Might be worth an email or call to your district’s OCR. They also have online complaint forms you can submit. Edit—whoops, that’s for education. What you want is the Georgia Bureau of Investigation, civil rights division. | Asking about religion is one of the forbidden questions to ask during an interview Unless if the job is at a church or the business is religious based. You are allowed to refuse to answer the question and report the question. The process to is different in each state. I refuse to talk about religion at work. It is no one’s business. I really don’t know what their process is to protect people from lack of religion. Because everyone has a right to their choice even if it’s no religion. One of my My old jobs tried to make me work every Sunday by myself because of my lack of religion. Another manager asked me if I believed in god in front of everyone and put me on the spot and I don’t remember how I replied because it was years ago. As for legal advice, I would go to a free legal advice. There are free legal hotlines that will talk to you for an hour. You can google “free legal advice + your state” “free legal library + in your state” “free legal hotline + your state”. I also received a lot of resources from the office where I filed a civil suit. They were not aloud to provide legal advice but tell me how to file a civil suit and provide me with a lot of resources to call. They had several resources. There was also free lawyers if they can represent you. You can see the Bono, legal aid. Does the job have a legal department ? That should be the last resort. EEOC is a huge resource but I would try to ask for advice because I feel they are the last resort. There is a state and sometimes local resource before them. They might be able to direct you. Start with the local labor board as EEOC will want to know what steps you take before you come to them | 0 | 13,498 | 5.75 |
vr739t | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Friend of mine has a recording of a manager telling him they won't hire him because he doesn't believe in god, how strong is his case? I want to keep details sparse. Location is Georgia. In said state 1 party consent on recordings is legally allowed. Friend was interviewing for a job , said job pays approx $75k a year which is about avg for his position. Friend was recording the job interview on his phone as he has recorded several interviews to play back/record later to see how he did it. The company in question employs about 150 people. In the interview the manager asked "how important is faith based decision making to you?" Confused my friend asked "What do you mean?" the manager said "How important is gods opinion in your decision making" My friend said "Well not at all, I make my decision based upon the facts of the situation and whats best for the company" The manager said "So you don't consider god as a part of your process?" Too which my friend said "No, I base the decisions I make on the facts of the situation" The manager then asked "What church do you go too?" my friend confused asked "This is a Mon-Friday job right?" the manager said "yes" then asked "What church do you go to?" My friend asked "Why does it matter what church I go too?" The manager said "Do you believe in god?" to which my friend asked "How that relevant to this job?" the manager then said "I won't work with someone that doesn't believe in god, and I don't believe you believe in god so I think unfortunately I'll need to pass on you" My friend is in fact an atheist. I've listened to the recording, clear as day. I've told my friend his case is super strong that the employer discriminated against him based upon his religion. Also the company/job has NOTHING to do with religion. This isn't a church or some religious organization. Nor does this business have any major affiliations with any religious organizations. How strong is my friends case? Manager is not aware he was recorded. | ieu55rq | ieumdi2 | 1,656,953,405 | 1,656,960,673 | 8 | 29 | Might be worth an email or call to your district’s OCR. They also have online complaint forms you can submit. Edit—whoops, that’s for education. What you want is the Georgia Bureau of Investigation, civil rights division. | Not a lawyer but as I read this, I asked myself this question: is the employer a faith based organization? As everybody has stated on here contacting an attorney would be helpful. Also, another thought, has your friend considered contacting the Freedom From Religion Foundation or a similar organization to help with at least a free consultation. Good luck | 0 | 7,268 | 3.625 |
vr739t | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Friend of mine has a recording of a manager telling him they won't hire him because he doesn't believe in god, how strong is his case? I want to keep details sparse. Location is Georgia. In said state 1 party consent on recordings is legally allowed. Friend was interviewing for a job , said job pays approx $75k a year which is about avg for his position. Friend was recording the job interview on his phone as he has recorded several interviews to play back/record later to see how he did it. The company in question employs about 150 people. In the interview the manager asked "how important is faith based decision making to you?" Confused my friend asked "What do you mean?" the manager said "How important is gods opinion in your decision making" My friend said "Well not at all, I make my decision based upon the facts of the situation and whats best for the company" The manager said "So you don't consider god as a part of your process?" Too which my friend said "No, I base the decisions I make on the facts of the situation" The manager then asked "What church do you go too?" my friend confused asked "This is a Mon-Friday job right?" the manager said "yes" then asked "What church do you go to?" My friend asked "Why does it matter what church I go too?" The manager said "Do you believe in god?" to which my friend asked "How that relevant to this job?" the manager then said "I won't work with someone that doesn't believe in god, and I don't believe you believe in god so I think unfortunately I'll need to pass on you" My friend is in fact an atheist. I've listened to the recording, clear as day. I've told my friend his case is super strong that the employer discriminated against him based upon his religion. Also the company/job has NOTHING to do with religion. This isn't a church or some religious organization. Nor does this business have any major affiliations with any religious organizations. How strong is my friends case? Manager is not aware he was recorded. | iev45gv | ieu55rq | 1,656,968,359 | 1,656,953,405 | 15 | 8 | Hire a Civil rights attorney. They will cross-files with EEOC and your state labor board. This is a slam-dunk for your friend. | Might be worth an email or call to your district’s OCR. They also have online complaint forms you can submit. Edit—whoops, that’s for education. What you want is the Georgia Bureau of Investigation, civil rights division. | 1 | 14,954 | 1.875 |
ftaq3u | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | (CA) Got notice of a modification of child support for my children because of a change in custody circumstance. Plot twist: my ex has neither paid any child support OR seen the kids in almost a full year. I have two kids with my ex boyfriend, 13 months old and a newborn baby. I found out I was pregnant with the newborn a few days after we split. The child support and custody order was put in place a couple months after he left, and then modified slightly when the second baby was born. His child support amount was calculated based on his involvement with the children which is 0. He was offered 50/50 custody and I agreed to no child support being paid if he took 50/50 custody. He declined. Literally said he'd rather pay child support than have even partial custody. His current amount in arrears isnt huge, and this isn't really about the money at all, but he never paid child support even once and hasn't seen either child once. He signed the birth certificate for child 2 and saw her then, but I'm not counting that. I got notice that he had filed with updated information stating he was now seeing them 50% of the time (the asshole went as far as to list days of the week) and that there would be a modification of child support to reflect this. I don't really have a lot of concrete evidence that he ISNT seeing them, I have the evidence that he hasn't paid CS but he's claiming he's been doing 50/50 for a few months now, but I was never in the habit of keeping receipts for things I bought for them or anything. I keep the custody stuff off social media too. My question is how difficult is this going to be to fight? Is there something criminal in what he's doing or just really freaking annoying? | fm6g8lv | fm6i8uv | 1,585,793,368 | 1,585,794,662 | 106 | 173 | Do you have pictures of your kids talen at days that he claims to have cared for them? If so, you can prove that he is lying. | >My question is how difficult is this going to be to fight? Not a lawyer, but probably not as hard as you think. If you have a custody order where he gets zero visitation, it's going to be on him to prove you've been letting him have the kids x days per week. >Is there something criminal in what he's doing It's called perjury, and yes it is a crime. 4 year jail sentence in this case, though he probably won't get anywhere near that amount for this. | 0 | 1,294 | 1.632075 |
a30ki9 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Ex-wife's other ex-husband called to tell me to seek full custody of my kids Lorain County, OH, USA ​ I have been divorced \~8 years; we have a shared parenting plan. I am custodial parent for school/medical/legal purposes. Our decree splits all parenting time and responsibilities equally. The kids are to alternate visiting each parent weekly. Each parent has the children from Sunday until the following Sunday. In 8 years, mom has never kept the kids for an entire week, and has on many occasions not visited with them at all. Yesterday, her other ex-husband called to tell me that she "was not in a good place" (and didn't elaborate much), and said that the utilities at her condo will be shut off soon, followed by an eviction. He even said that he would help me in court if needed. I am partially disabled, and at the moment, unemployed. Do I even stand a chance in court? Would seeking child support help or hurt my case? ​ ​ | eb3kqq7 | eb49kg2 | 1,543,963,304 | 1,543,983,633 | 3 | 5 | Contact CPS and let them investigate. | Yes - you stand a chance. You can also parent - clearly - as your custody agreement states. It also looks like you get to make the relevant and important life decisions for your kids. There is probably a reason for that whether you asked for it or a judge granted that to you. "Not in a good place" often means drugs or some kind of cognitive issues but not paying rent or utilities or kids screams drug habit. You may qualify for some short term - or even long term assistance to help with the kids. You will be assigned a social worker if you don't already have one. Take it if offered. I don't mind paying tax payer dollars for these kinds of situations. Your exes ex is in your corner and obviously cares about those kids. Good Luck | 0 | 20,329 | 1.666667 |
z6nugv | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Is it Illegal to put a covid card in your passport? Today as I was going through the border security to go back to the United States I had handed the border guard my passport. In my passport I keep my proof of covid card infront because Canada requires that you show proof of vaccination (as does the US I think?). Either way the border guard took my passport and handed back my covid card and with a Stern look said "Take this and don't ever do that again, it is a federal offense to put something in your passport." This is the only time I've been threatened with that and I've gone through border patrol multiple times and never have been told that. Is there any truth to this or was this guy just being a jerk? | iy3gsvg | iy2lasn | 1,669,643,060 | 1,669,618,787 | 2,798 | 648 | "Border Guard" here (It's Customs and Border Protection Officer, yours are called Canadian Border Services Officers, but I digress). If that's exactly what they said you may want to consider contacting our internal affairs division. You can report the time, date, and crossing location and indicate what the person said to initiate an investigation. It is not, to my knowledge, a federal offense to include your COVID card in your passport. We have, however, been trained to ensure that nothing other than entry documents are present inside the passport book, *as an integrity issue*, since there have been incidents in the past where items such as gift cards, cash, etc have been passed, whether by accident or on purpose, to officers. Obviously those among us keen on keeping our jobs might not take kindly to appearing to be accepting a bribe. This site tells detainees how to report an incident, but the information on this website to contact the JIC is the same regardless of the type of complaint. | This question piqued my curiosity, so I've just finished reading through 18 U.S.C. § § 1541 to 1546 - "Passports and Other Entry Documents". It says nothing about putting your COVID vaccination card in your US Passport. So I would have to say that it's not "a federal offense to put something in your US passport". If it were, then no one would be able to get a paper visa. In my opinion, that border guard was just being an anti-vaxx jerk. | 1 | 24,273 | 4.317901 |
s1fki4 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Hi. Ex-spouse was ordered in divorce decree to quit claim the property as it was awarded to me in the divorce. This was in 2015. He has not done so and refuses. What can I do, and what is the least expensive route? I’m broke and need to refinance or sell and he won’t cooperate. Thanks. | hs97w9w | hs7xqsv | 1,641,933,549 | 1,641,916,665 | 140 | 40 | Not a lawyer but I work in title company and in some states the divorce decree can be used as "deed" in regards to vesting if it clearly states the property goes to you. Some banks and clerk of courts will accept the decree. | You'll have to file for a motion to compel or a motion for contempt. Your divorce lawyer can handle this for you as he or she is most familiar with the case. | 1 | 16,884 | 3.5 |
s1fki4 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Hi. Ex-spouse was ordered in divorce decree to quit claim the property as it was awarded to me in the divorce. This was in 2015. He has not done so and refuses. What can I do, and what is the least expensive route? I’m broke and need to refinance or sell and he won’t cooperate. Thanks. | hs98xsa | hs7xqsv | 1,641,933,928 | 1,641,916,665 | 60 | 40 | Not a lawyer, but I had to do this with my ex. I hired a real estate attorney and sued for 'quiet title', I think it was called. | You'll have to file for a motion to compel or a motion for contempt. Your divorce lawyer can handle this for you as he or she is most familiar with the case. | 1 | 17,263 | 1.5 |
s1fki4 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Hi. Ex-spouse was ordered in divorce decree to quit claim the property as it was awarded to me in the divorce. This was in 2015. He has not done so and refuses. What can I do, and what is the least expensive route? I’m broke and need to refinance or sell and he won’t cooperate. Thanks. | hsb7ios | hsafvag | 1,641,963,503 | 1,641,950,991 | 6 | 4 | If your ex-spouse has not complied with the terms of the divorce decree, you can file a motion with the court to enforce the decree. You can find more information about enforcing court orders on the website of the California Courts. | Contact an attorney and bring it back before the court. | 1 | 12,512 | 1.5 |
47dn91 | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Bought a car that the dealer did not disclose had frame damage. He has since admitted the "mistake" and offered to make it right. How strong is my negotiating position? I bought a 2014 Corolla from a Toyota dealership in Pennsylvania a little over two weeks ago. The car had a clean Carfax, though my rookie ass didn't look before I had signed. I'll come back to that. My insurance company offered to buy out the auto loan to beat the interest rate, but denied it due to the car having frame damage. First visit back to the dealer. Guy pulls up the Carfax, shows it's clean, no accidents. Claims it's not possible and tells me his service department wouldn't have missed that. Basically, he insists the car is clean. I go home, buy the AutoCheck.com report. It was bought at auction 2.5 months and 38mi before I bought it, and was announced as a frame damaged. Carfax also excluded an accident from the year before, too. There's no possible way these guys didn't know. Second visit to dealership. I show them the AutoCheck. Dude immediately admits they bought it from auction, but denies them announcing it as damaged. He says he's going to follow up with the auction about it. I get an email a couple hours later. He states that the auction confirmed it being announced as damaged. Apologized for the mistake and offered to make it right, though he didn't offer anything specific. Tl;dr: they're playing it off like an honest mistake, but I strongly suspect they saw the clean Carfax and tried to capitalize and never expected to get caught. Bare minimum, I get the car refunded, but I'm looking for advice on how strongly I should play my hand considering the dealership committed fraud. Should I be contacting an attorney anyway? All advice welcome. | d0c55xj | d0c57jg | 1,456,334,879 | 1,456,334,939 | 6 | 16 | If you have documentary evidence that they withheld information they knew or should have known, you should be entitled to recission (undo the sale completely) are a minimum. Malice, as required for a fraud claim, eliminates the "should have known" part: your have to have evidence that they *did in fact* know. However, any part of the business having knowledge should be arguable as the company itself knowing. It may be worthwhile to consult an attorney. There may be statutory damages available for a circumstance like yours. Buy at a minimum, they should reverse the sale. | You are absolutely entitled to recover your damages. That means either a reduction in the price of the car to what is fair market value given the damage, or the dealer buying the car back for what you paid (arguably less some amount for your use of the car for 2 weeks). You should ask them to do whichever of those things you prefer. It sounds like you're asking do you have an opportunity for some kind of windfall based on this event? I wouldn't think so. Especially not if you get there and they make an offer that reasonably makes you whole. | 0 | 60 | 2.666667 |
47dn91 | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Bought a car that the dealer did not disclose had frame damage. He has since admitted the "mistake" and offered to make it right. How strong is my negotiating position? I bought a 2014 Corolla from a Toyota dealership in Pennsylvania a little over two weeks ago. The car had a clean Carfax, though my rookie ass didn't look before I had signed. I'll come back to that. My insurance company offered to buy out the auto loan to beat the interest rate, but denied it due to the car having frame damage. First visit back to the dealer. Guy pulls up the Carfax, shows it's clean, no accidents. Claims it's not possible and tells me his service department wouldn't have missed that. Basically, he insists the car is clean. I go home, buy the AutoCheck.com report. It was bought at auction 2.5 months and 38mi before I bought it, and was announced as a frame damaged. Carfax also excluded an accident from the year before, too. There's no possible way these guys didn't know. Second visit to dealership. I show them the AutoCheck. Dude immediately admits they bought it from auction, but denies them announcing it as damaged. He says he's going to follow up with the auction about it. I get an email a couple hours later. He states that the auction confirmed it being announced as damaged. Apologized for the mistake and offered to make it right, though he didn't offer anything specific. Tl;dr: they're playing it off like an honest mistake, but I strongly suspect they saw the clean Carfax and tried to capitalize and never expected to get caught. Bare minimum, I get the car refunded, but I'm looking for advice on how strongly I should play my hand considering the dealership committed fraud. Should I be contacting an attorney anyway? All advice welcome. | d0c55xj | d0c587a | 1,456,334,879 | 1,456,334,963 | 6 | 13 | If you have documentary evidence that they withheld information they knew or should have known, you should be entitled to recission (undo the sale completely) are a minimum. Malice, as required for a fraud claim, eliminates the "should have known" part: your have to have evidence that they *did in fact* know. However, any part of the business having knowledge should be arguable as the company itself knowing. It may be worthwhile to consult an attorney. There may be statutory damages available for a circumstance like yours. Buy at a minimum, they should reverse the sale. | Don't get into another deal with them. Make them rescind the purchase completely. Get your $$ back and go to another dealership. | 0 | 84 | 2.166667 |
393md7 | legaladvice_train | 0.79 | I recently engaged in oral sex with a man who knew he was HIV positive but did not inform me until after. Is this legal? How/can I take legal action? (NY state) I performed oral sex on a guy and came down with a fever after. He pulled out before orgasm but was aware in advance that he was what he describes as "positive undetectable". Whether or not I am infected, I think a man like this with this attitude is dangerous and I want to protect others. What legal action, if any, can I take? And how should I go about doing that? [FYI I live in NY state]. Thanks in advance for any advice on this! | cs06dpz | cs03f0t | 1,433,817,934 | 1,433,812,670 | 21 | 5 | Please do get tested, if you're still in the 48-72 hour period, there is a pill like plan b for HIV. I believe it is called PEP. | Interestingly, there was a military case about this very issue not too long ago the was decided by the COurt of Appeals for the Armed Forces (CAAF, the court just below the Supreme Court for the U.S. Military). Here is a link to their opinion. Essentially, the accused was convicted of assualt for failing to inform his partners that he was HIV positive. The judges decided because expert testimony indicated the risk of transmission through oral sex was "almost zero", it wasn't a means likely to cause death or serious physical injury, and thus not an assualt under the military rules, although prior case law had said that it was. It's a tricky area; no one will be able to say with blanket certainty that his conduct was illegal in all jurisdictions. Each jurisdiction may interpret it differently; some areas it may be considered an assualt, some it won't. You can file a report with the police and with the local department of health, but it's possible it's no longer criminalized to fail to disclose his status prior to having oral sex. Skeevy as hell, and I understand your concern, but at least the risk of transmission is extremely low. | 1 | 5,264 | 4.2 |
yoni0q | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (VT) Can my employer use my saved PTO to round me up to 40 hours every week? I work from open to close, 4 days a week. Most weeks, this means about 36-38 hours (9-9.5 hour shifts). I recently found out my employer is using my PTO time to round my weeks up to 40 hours each week. Because of this, the 40 hours of PTO I started with is already down to 15 hours. Their excuse is “you need to hit 40 hours to make you full time if you want benefits.” Yet at the same time, they refuse to schedule any overtime — so every employee is expected to hit *exactly* 40 hours per week, or risk losing PTO. I’d much rather see a slightly smaller paycheck week to week, and actually have the ability to take days off / take vacation. | ivf8ta1 | ivexo2c | 1,667,834,632 | 1,667,829,776 | 227 | 82 | What would they do if you took "unpaid" time off? Mathematically there's no difference between what you want to do (work 38 hours, get paid for 38 hours, get 2 paid PTO hours later) and what their system would look like if you took unpaid PTO (work 38 hours, get paid 40 hours, take 2 unpaid PTO hours later). You should also ask them what they plan to do about the fact that you won't have enough PTO to cover the total "shortfall" in your scheduled hours by the end of the year. | It’s legal as long as it’s actually being paid | 1 | 4,856 | 2.768293 |
yoni0q | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (VT) Can my employer use my saved PTO to round me up to 40 hours every week? I work from open to close, 4 days a week. Most weeks, this means about 36-38 hours (9-9.5 hour shifts). I recently found out my employer is using my PTO time to round my weeks up to 40 hours each week. Because of this, the 40 hours of PTO I started with is already down to 15 hours. Their excuse is “you need to hit 40 hours to make you full time if you want benefits.” Yet at the same time, they refuse to schedule any overtime — so every employee is expected to hit *exactly* 40 hours per week, or risk losing PTO. I’d much rather see a slightly smaller paycheck week to week, and actually have the ability to take days off / take vacation. | ivf8ta1 | ivf1td7 | 1,667,834,632 | 1,667,831,651 | 227 | 20 | What would they do if you took "unpaid" time off? Mathematically there's no difference between what you want to do (work 38 hours, get paid for 38 hours, get 2 paid PTO hours later) and what their system would look like if you took unpaid PTO (work 38 hours, get paid 40 hours, take 2 unpaid PTO hours later). You should also ask them what they plan to do about the fact that you won't have enough PTO to cover the total "shortfall" in your scheduled hours by the end of the year. | Are you scheduled for 40 hours or are you scheduled for less than 40? If you aren't scheduled for 40 then you have an argument that since you weren't scheduled you shouldn't be forced to use pto. BUT. . . if you need 40 for full time status and you aren't making 40, expect t to lose your full time benefits. | 1 | 2,981 | 11.35 |
yoni0q | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (VT) Can my employer use my saved PTO to round me up to 40 hours every week? I work from open to close, 4 days a week. Most weeks, this means about 36-38 hours (9-9.5 hour shifts). I recently found out my employer is using my PTO time to round my weeks up to 40 hours each week. Because of this, the 40 hours of PTO I started with is already down to 15 hours. Their excuse is “you need to hit 40 hours to make you full time if you want benefits.” Yet at the same time, they refuse to schedule any overtime — so every employee is expected to hit *exactly* 40 hours per week, or risk losing PTO. I’d much rather see a slightly smaller paycheck week to week, and actually have the ability to take days off / take vacation. | ivexo2c | ivfmm9a | 1,667,829,776 | 1,667,840,152 | 82 | 137 | It’s legal as long as it’s actually being paid | Not a lawyer but I work in Payroll Talk to your HR/benefits department about what the hours threshold is to be considered full time and benefits eligible. It should be specifically laid out in the benefits contract. I would also consult the employee handbook you should have been given when you were hired and see if the PTO use policy is laid out. ACA defines a full time employee as someone who works 30 hours or more per week on average, and requires employers with 50 or more employees to offer health coverage to full time employees with 30 or more hours per week. (this does not apply to smaller employers or those who do not meet the IRS criteria) | 0 | 10,376 | 1.670732 |
yoni0q | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (VT) Can my employer use my saved PTO to round me up to 40 hours every week? I work from open to close, 4 days a week. Most weeks, this means about 36-38 hours (9-9.5 hour shifts). I recently found out my employer is using my PTO time to round my weeks up to 40 hours each week. Because of this, the 40 hours of PTO I started with is already down to 15 hours. Their excuse is “you need to hit 40 hours to make you full time if you want benefits.” Yet at the same time, they refuse to schedule any overtime — so every employee is expected to hit *exactly* 40 hours per week, or risk losing PTO. I’d much rather see a slightly smaller paycheck week to week, and actually have the ability to take days off / take vacation. | ivf1td7 | ivfmm9a | 1,667,831,651 | 1,667,840,152 | 20 | 137 | Are you scheduled for 40 hours or are you scheduled for less than 40? If you aren't scheduled for 40 then you have an argument that since you weren't scheduled you shouldn't be forced to use pto. BUT. . . if you need 40 for full time status and you aren't making 40, expect t to lose your full time benefits. | Not a lawyer but I work in Payroll Talk to your HR/benefits department about what the hours threshold is to be considered full time and benefits eligible. It should be specifically laid out in the benefits contract. I would also consult the employee handbook you should have been given when you were hired and see if the PTO use policy is laid out. ACA defines a full time employee as someone who works 30 hours or more per week on average, and requires employers with 50 or more employees to offer health coverage to full time employees with 30 or more hours per week. (this does not apply to smaller employers or those who do not meet the IRS criteria) | 0 | 8,501 | 6.85 |
yoni0q | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (VT) Can my employer use my saved PTO to round me up to 40 hours every week? I work from open to close, 4 days a week. Most weeks, this means about 36-38 hours (9-9.5 hour shifts). I recently found out my employer is using my PTO time to round my weeks up to 40 hours each week. Because of this, the 40 hours of PTO I started with is already down to 15 hours. Their excuse is “you need to hit 40 hours to make you full time if you want benefits.” Yet at the same time, they refuse to schedule any overtime — so every employee is expected to hit *exactly* 40 hours per week, or risk losing PTO. I’d much rather see a slightly smaller paycheck week to week, and actually have the ability to take days off / take vacation. | ivh36bx | ivf1td7 | 1,667,860,675 | 1,667,831,651 | 31 | 20 | Most states consider anything above 32 hours as full time for benefits. PTO is for if you need time off. This seems wrong to me. Might want to look in to what your state requires for benefits. | Are you scheduled for 40 hours or are you scheduled for less than 40? If you aren't scheduled for 40 then you have an argument that since you weren't scheduled you shouldn't be forced to use pto. BUT. . . if you need 40 for full time status and you aren't making 40, expect t to lose your full time benefits. | 1 | 29,024 | 1.55 |
yoni0q | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (VT) Can my employer use my saved PTO to round me up to 40 hours every week? I work from open to close, 4 days a week. Most weeks, this means about 36-38 hours (9-9.5 hour shifts). I recently found out my employer is using my PTO time to round my weeks up to 40 hours each week. Because of this, the 40 hours of PTO I started with is already down to 15 hours. Their excuse is “you need to hit 40 hours to make you full time if you want benefits.” Yet at the same time, they refuse to schedule any overtime — so every employee is expected to hit *exactly* 40 hours per week, or risk losing PTO. I’d much rather see a slightly smaller paycheck week to week, and actually have the ability to take days off / take vacation. | ivfs5s8 | ivh36bx | 1,667,842,304 | 1,667,860,675 | 23 | 31 | What happens when you run out of PTO? | Most states consider anything above 32 hours as full time for benefits. PTO is for if you need time off. This seems wrong to me. Might want to look in to what your state requires for benefits. | 0 | 18,371 | 1.347826 |
yoni0q | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (VT) Can my employer use my saved PTO to round me up to 40 hours every week? I work from open to close, 4 days a week. Most weeks, this means about 36-38 hours (9-9.5 hour shifts). I recently found out my employer is using my PTO time to round my weeks up to 40 hours each week. Because of this, the 40 hours of PTO I started with is already down to 15 hours. Their excuse is “you need to hit 40 hours to make you full time if you want benefits.” Yet at the same time, they refuse to schedule any overtime — so every employee is expected to hit *exactly* 40 hours per week, or risk losing PTO. I’d much rather see a slightly smaller paycheck week to week, and actually have the ability to take days off / take vacation. | ivh36bx | ivgwzwo | 1,667,860,675 | 1,667,858,096 | 31 | 12 | Most states consider anything above 32 hours as full time for benefits. PTO is for if you need time off. This seems wrong to me. Might want to look in to what your state requires for benefits. | There's no federal requirement that employers provide PTO so, as far as the FLSA is concerned, all the employer is doing is 'generously' paying the employee for 2 extra hours a week. Vermont similarly lacks a requirement that employers provide vacation time. However, VT does mandate that employers provide paid sick leave. If your PTO allowance includes the state mandated sick leave, since you're not missing those hours due to covered reasons, the policy may run afoul of VT's paid sick leave law. This is a shitty and dumb policy, but it may not be an illegal policy. | 1 | 2,579 | 2.583333 |
yoni0q | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (VT) Can my employer use my saved PTO to round me up to 40 hours every week? I work from open to close, 4 days a week. Most weeks, this means about 36-38 hours (9-9.5 hour shifts). I recently found out my employer is using my PTO time to round my weeks up to 40 hours each week. Because of this, the 40 hours of PTO I started with is already down to 15 hours. Their excuse is “you need to hit 40 hours to make you full time if you want benefits.” Yet at the same time, they refuse to schedule any overtime — so every employee is expected to hit *exactly* 40 hours per week, or risk losing PTO. I’d much rather see a slightly smaller paycheck week to week, and actually have the ability to take days off / take vacation. | ivfs5s8 | ivf1td7 | 1,667,842,304 | 1,667,831,651 | 23 | 20 | What happens when you run out of PTO? | Are you scheduled for 40 hours or are you scheduled for less than 40? If you aren't scheduled for 40 then you have an argument that since you weren't scheduled you shouldn't be forced to use pto. BUT. . . if you need 40 for full time status and you aren't making 40, expect t to lose your full time benefits. | 1 | 10,653 | 1.15 |
th6lrl | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Employer drug tested me against policy and now I’m facing termination I work for an employer that maintains a “drug-free workplace” in a state where marijuana has been approved for recreational use. I got into a minor accident at work where I swiped the rear end of a car that was parked on the street. The city policy states that in that incidence, an employee would be tested for alcohol or controlled substances if reasonable suspicion exists. My supervisor contacted HR and told them she had no suspicion, but they informed her I was required to immediately submit to a urine screen. I was not under the influence at the time of the incident and did not report to work intoxicated, but my test came back positive for marijuana. They are now saying that I violated their codes of conduct and are recommending termination of my employment. What are my rights in this situation? Would it be better for me to be terminated and try to fight it or resign before they fire me? Please help, I’m so lost and don’t know where to start!! Thank you for reading ♥️ | i16lwc2 | i16nuzo | 1,647,627,175 | 1,647,627,960 | 61 | 137 | I would let them fire me for the unemployment check because legally they are in their right to let you go in this instance. It’s a crappy policy but most companies have this in place especially if you are operating equipment/vehicles for them. Until testing for THC becomes easier and a standard is set they are going to be able to get away with this type of policy for a long time. | Former HR (although not in your state), but we had a similar policy. We were required by insurance to do a urine drug screening, which was “reasonable suspicion”. Until marijuana becomes federally legal and there are better tests, this unfortunately is a common outcome. I’m not saying I agree with their policy ethically, but from a business standpoint I do. File for unemployment. | 0 | 785 | 2.245902 |
th6lrl | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Employer drug tested me against policy and now I’m facing termination I work for an employer that maintains a “drug-free workplace” in a state where marijuana has been approved for recreational use. I got into a minor accident at work where I swiped the rear end of a car that was parked on the street. The city policy states that in that incidence, an employee would be tested for alcohol or controlled substances if reasonable suspicion exists. My supervisor contacted HR and told them she had no suspicion, but they informed her I was required to immediately submit to a urine screen. I was not under the influence at the time of the incident and did not report to work intoxicated, but my test came back positive for marijuana. They are now saying that I violated their codes of conduct and are recommending termination of my employment. What are my rights in this situation? Would it be better for me to be terminated and try to fight it or resign before they fire me? Please help, I’m so lost and don’t know where to start!! Thank you for reading ♥️ | i16nuzo | i16n2kk | 1,647,627,960 | 1,647,627,644 | 137 | 12 | Former HR (although not in your state), but we had a similar policy. We were required by insurance to do a urine drug screening, which was “reasonable suspicion”. Until marijuana becomes federally legal and there are better tests, this unfortunately is a common outcome. I’m not saying I agree with their policy ethically, but from a business standpoint I do. File for unemployment. | Assuming no union/contact: Tokers are not a protected class. They can fire you for testing positive for dope whether or not it's in their code of conduct, just like they can fire you because they don't like the sneakers that you wear or because your choice of football team is not aligned with what management likes. The only way in which I think that the nuance of whether you violated their code of conduct \*might\* matter is if you apply for unemployment. They could make the argument that a violation of the code of conduct means that they fired you for cause and try to deny your unemployment claim on that basis. All of which is moot, of course, if you resign in the first place as, if so, you don't get to collect unemployment anyhow. | 1 | 316 | 11.416667 |
th6lrl | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Employer drug tested me against policy and now I’m facing termination I work for an employer that maintains a “drug-free workplace” in a state where marijuana has been approved for recreational use. I got into a minor accident at work where I swiped the rear end of a car that was parked on the street. The city policy states that in that incidence, an employee would be tested for alcohol or controlled substances if reasonable suspicion exists. My supervisor contacted HR and told them she had no suspicion, but they informed her I was required to immediately submit to a urine screen. I was not under the influence at the time of the incident and did not report to work intoxicated, but my test came back positive for marijuana. They are now saying that I violated their codes of conduct and are recommending termination of my employment. What are my rights in this situation? Would it be better for me to be terminated and try to fight it or resign before they fire me? Please help, I’m so lost and don’t know where to start!! Thank you for reading ♥️ | i16ldjp | i16nuzo | 1,647,626,969 | 1,647,627,960 | 9 | 137 | I think the insurance policies require this for all policies if the company wants to file a claim. | Former HR (although not in your state), but we had a similar policy. We were required by insurance to do a urine drug screening, which was “reasonable suspicion”. Until marijuana becomes federally legal and there are better tests, this unfortunately is a common outcome. I’m not saying I agree with their policy ethically, but from a business standpoint I do. File for unemployment. | 0 | 991 | 15.222222 |
th6lrl | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Employer drug tested me against policy and now I’m facing termination I work for an employer that maintains a “drug-free workplace” in a state where marijuana has been approved for recreational use. I got into a minor accident at work where I swiped the rear end of a car that was parked on the street. The city policy states that in that incidence, an employee would be tested for alcohol or controlled substances if reasonable suspicion exists. My supervisor contacted HR and told them she had no suspicion, but they informed her I was required to immediately submit to a urine screen. I was not under the influence at the time of the incident and did not report to work intoxicated, but my test came back positive for marijuana. They are now saying that I violated their codes of conduct and are recommending termination of my employment. What are my rights in this situation? Would it be better for me to be terminated and try to fight it or resign before they fire me? Please help, I’m so lost and don’t know where to start!! Thank you for reading ♥️ | i16lwc2 | i170czn | 1,647,627,175 | 1,647,633,061 | 61 | 70 | I would let them fire me for the unemployment check because legally they are in their right to let you go in this instance. It’s a crappy policy but most companies have this in place especially if you are operating equipment/vehicles for them. Until testing for THC becomes easier and a standard is set they are going to be able to get away with this type of policy for a long time. | CDL law is Federal. There is very little if any wiggle room for an employer. It doesn't matter what the state or local laws are regarding cannabis. Which is why commercial drivers should stay away from anything cannabis, including ointments Etc. And unfortunately there still is no acceptable testing that test for impairment versus use while off duty. Which sucks because it makes me a heavy drinker. Yes, it's my choice, and my weakness, but you know what I mean. I would much rather take a toke 2 or 3 times a week to achieve what I want. But as long as I drive commercially, and I also work for a municipality, I cannot. | 0 | 5,886 | 1.147541 |
th6lrl | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Employer drug tested me against policy and now I’m facing termination I work for an employer that maintains a “drug-free workplace” in a state where marijuana has been approved for recreational use. I got into a minor accident at work where I swiped the rear end of a car that was parked on the street. The city policy states that in that incidence, an employee would be tested for alcohol or controlled substances if reasonable suspicion exists. My supervisor contacted HR and told them she had no suspicion, but they informed her I was required to immediately submit to a urine screen. I was not under the influence at the time of the incident and did not report to work intoxicated, but my test came back positive for marijuana. They are now saying that I violated their codes of conduct and are recommending termination of my employment. What are my rights in this situation? Would it be better for me to be terminated and try to fight it or resign before they fire me? Please help, I’m so lost and don’t know where to start!! Thank you for reading ♥️ | i170czn | i16n2kk | 1,647,633,061 | 1,647,627,644 | 70 | 12 | CDL law is Federal. There is very little if any wiggle room for an employer. It doesn't matter what the state or local laws are regarding cannabis. Which is why commercial drivers should stay away from anything cannabis, including ointments Etc. And unfortunately there still is no acceptable testing that test for impairment versus use while off duty. Which sucks because it makes me a heavy drinker. Yes, it's my choice, and my weakness, but you know what I mean. I would much rather take a toke 2 or 3 times a week to achieve what I want. But as long as I drive commercially, and I also work for a municipality, I cannot. | Assuming no union/contact: Tokers are not a protected class. They can fire you for testing positive for dope whether or not it's in their code of conduct, just like they can fire you because they don't like the sneakers that you wear or because your choice of football team is not aligned with what management likes. The only way in which I think that the nuance of whether you violated their code of conduct \*might\* matter is if you apply for unemployment. They could make the argument that a violation of the code of conduct means that they fired you for cause and try to deny your unemployment claim on that basis. All of which is moot, of course, if you resign in the first place as, if so, you don't get to collect unemployment anyhow. | 1 | 5,417 | 5.833333 |
th6lrl | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Employer drug tested me against policy and now I’m facing termination I work for an employer that maintains a “drug-free workplace” in a state where marijuana has been approved for recreational use. I got into a minor accident at work where I swiped the rear end of a car that was parked on the street. The city policy states that in that incidence, an employee would be tested for alcohol or controlled substances if reasonable suspicion exists. My supervisor contacted HR and told them she had no suspicion, but they informed her I was required to immediately submit to a urine screen. I was not under the influence at the time of the incident and did not report to work intoxicated, but my test came back positive for marijuana. They are now saying that I violated their codes of conduct and are recommending termination of my employment. What are my rights in this situation? Would it be better for me to be terminated and try to fight it or resign before they fire me? Please help, I’m so lost and don’t know where to start!! Thank you for reading ♥️ | i170czn | i16ldjp | 1,647,633,061 | 1,647,626,969 | 70 | 9 | CDL law is Federal. There is very little if any wiggle room for an employer. It doesn't matter what the state or local laws are regarding cannabis. Which is why commercial drivers should stay away from anything cannabis, including ointments Etc. And unfortunately there still is no acceptable testing that test for impairment versus use while off duty. Which sucks because it makes me a heavy drinker. Yes, it's my choice, and my weakness, but you know what I mean. I would much rather take a toke 2 or 3 times a week to achieve what I want. But as long as I drive commercially, and I also work for a municipality, I cannot. | I think the insurance policies require this for all policies if the company wants to file a claim. | 1 | 6,092 | 7.777778 |
th6lrl | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Employer drug tested me against policy and now I’m facing termination I work for an employer that maintains a “drug-free workplace” in a state where marijuana has been approved for recreational use. I got into a minor accident at work where I swiped the rear end of a car that was parked on the street. The city policy states that in that incidence, an employee would be tested for alcohol or controlled substances if reasonable suspicion exists. My supervisor contacted HR and told them she had no suspicion, but they informed her I was required to immediately submit to a urine screen. I was not under the influence at the time of the incident and did not report to work intoxicated, but my test came back positive for marijuana. They are now saying that I violated their codes of conduct and are recommending termination of my employment. What are my rights in this situation? Would it be better for me to be terminated and try to fight it or resign before they fire me? Please help, I’m so lost and don’t know where to start!! Thank you for reading ♥️ | i16lwc2 | i16ldjp | 1,647,627,175 | 1,647,626,969 | 61 | 9 | I would let them fire me for the unemployment check because legally they are in their right to let you go in this instance. It’s a crappy policy but most companies have this in place especially if you are operating equipment/vehicles for them. Until testing for THC becomes easier and a standard is set they are going to be able to get away with this type of policy for a long time. | I think the insurance policies require this for all policies if the company wants to file a claim. | 1 | 206 | 6.777778 |
th6lrl | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Employer drug tested me against policy and now I’m facing termination I work for an employer that maintains a “drug-free workplace” in a state where marijuana has been approved for recreational use. I got into a minor accident at work where I swiped the rear end of a car that was parked on the street. The city policy states that in that incidence, an employee would be tested for alcohol or controlled substances if reasonable suspicion exists. My supervisor contacted HR and told them she had no suspicion, but they informed her I was required to immediately submit to a urine screen. I was not under the influence at the time of the incident and did not report to work intoxicated, but my test came back positive for marijuana. They are now saying that I violated their codes of conduct and are recommending termination of my employment. What are my rights in this situation? Would it be better for me to be terminated and try to fight it or resign before they fire me? Please help, I’m so lost and don’t know where to start!! Thank you for reading ♥️ | i16n2kk | i16ldjp | 1,647,627,644 | 1,647,626,969 | 12 | 9 | Assuming no union/contact: Tokers are not a protected class. They can fire you for testing positive for dope whether or not it's in their code of conduct, just like they can fire you because they don't like the sneakers that you wear or because your choice of football team is not aligned with what management likes. The only way in which I think that the nuance of whether you violated their code of conduct \*might\* matter is if you apply for unemployment. They could make the argument that a violation of the code of conduct means that they fired you for cause and try to deny your unemployment claim on that basis. All of which is moot, of course, if you resign in the first place as, if so, you don't get to collect unemployment anyhow. | I think the insurance policies require this for all policies if the company wants to file a claim. | 1 | 675 | 1.333333 |
awuzbu | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Who can help a girl trapped in Saudi Arabia? This girl and I are on the same forum and today she posted this - tl;dr she's trapped by abusive family who have hidden her passport. ​ Hello, I don't know if this is the right forum or if there is even a RIGHT forum for this. I'm gonna cut right to the story. I moved to Canada in 2015 on a student visa and my family and I visited our home country, which is Saudi Arabia during each summer vacation. In 2018, my religious saudi parents found out things they religiously don't aprove of about me (i'm 18+ yrs. old) like not wearing a hijab (head scarf) outside the house, posting our pics online, having guy friends... etc. When we arrived to saudi, Mom took away everything i could use to contact anyone, she has access to my social media, lockeed me in the house. And she admitted we aren't ever going back to Canada as she is escaping the physical assault charges pressed on her, she threatened to rat me out to the government for having premarital sex (punishment is 1000 lashes by law) being bisexual (punishment is death) and being an apostate (death, also) i tried to go to a relative's house and mom ended up beating me. The government would give me back to my parents if try to get help. My parents hid my passport outside the house. I'm so desperate and scared of getting honour killed WHICH IS LEGAL HERE. How can mentally survive this.... I feel so alone ​ She just wants to get back to Canada but can't leave the country without permission from her male guardian (her father). Does anyone with knowledge of the Saudi situation have ideas on how to get her out or where to ask for help? Thank you! | ehpkc77 | ehprbvq | 1,551,634,604 | 1,551,639,809 | 35 | 329 | If she’s a Canadian citizen she needs to reach out to the embassy. | OK, real talk time. This is like jumping out of a plane, and posting on Reddit 100ft from the ground asking how to get a parachute. 99.9999% of all this girl's options got used up the instant she returned to Saudi Arabia. **Protip: if you are a bisexual Saudi woman who had premarital sex, you should not return to Saudi Arabia.** She has, broadly, two options. 1.) Openly repent, and hope to marry someone who travels, or hope the parents decided to travel abroad with her. (She should not suggest a thing, because that would be obvious). Once she is outside Saudi Arabia, especially in a western country, she might have options. It's \*possible\* she could get out of Dubai with a Saudi passport and some help from an NGO. 2.) Openly repent, and hope one day SA liberalizes. If you're thinking "Holy shit, those choices are terrible!", you are right. And they suck. But SA law is terrible to women, moreso if they are apostates (and being an apostate isn't hard), bisexual, or having premarital sex. | 0 | 5,205 | 9.4 |
awuzbu | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Who can help a girl trapped in Saudi Arabia? This girl and I are on the same forum and today she posted this - tl;dr she's trapped by abusive family who have hidden her passport. ​ Hello, I don't know if this is the right forum or if there is even a RIGHT forum for this. I'm gonna cut right to the story. I moved to Canada in 2015 on a student visa and my family and I visited our home country, which is Saudi Arabia during each summer vacation. In 2018, my religious saudi parents found out things they religiously don't aprove of about me (i'm 18+ yrs. old) like not wearing a hijab (head scarf) outside the house, posting our pics online, having guy friends... etc. When we arrived to saudi, Mom took away everything i could use to contact anyone, she has access to my social media, lockeed me in the house. And she admitted we aren't ever going back to Canada as she is escaping the physical assault charges pressed on her, she threatened to rat me out to the government for having premarital sex (punishment is 1000 lashes by law) being bisexual (punishment is death) and being an apostate (death, also) i tried to go to a relative's house and mom ended up beating me. The government would give me back to my parents if try to get help. My parents hid my passport outside the house. I'm so desperate and scared of getting honour killed WHICH IS LEGAL HERE. How can mentally survive this.... I feel so alone ​ She just wants to get back to Canada but can't leave the country without permission from her male guardian (her father). Does anyone with knowledge of the Saudi situation have ideas on how to get her out or where to ask for help? Thank you! | ehpqiz2 | ehprbvq | 1,551,639,196 | 1,551,639,809 | 33 | 329 | This might be an early stage of a scam. If she has no way to contact anyone, how is she communicating here? If she has been living in Canada for years, why is she asking total strangers for help. I know this kind of thing happens and it is tragic, but because there was a recent real case like this there may be people trying to capitalize on people’s emotions. | OK, real talk time. This is like jumping out of a plane, and posting on Reddit 100ft from the ground asking how to get a parachute. 99.9999% of all this girl's options got used up the instant she returned to Saudi Arabia. **Protip: if you are a bisexual Saudi woman who had premarital sex, you should not return to Saudi Arabia.** She has, broadly, two options. 1.) Openly repent, and hope to marry someone who travels, or hope the parents decided to travel abroad with her. (She should not suggest a thing, because that would be obvious). Once she is outside Saudi Arabia, especially in a western country, she might have options. It's \*possible\* she could get out of Dubai with a Saudi passport and some help from an NGO. 2.) Openly repent, and hope one day SA liberalizes. If you're thinking "Holy shit, those choices are terrible!", you are right. And they suck. But SA law is terrible to women, moreso if they are apostates (and being an apostate isn't hard), bisexual, or having premarital sex. | 0 | 613 | 9.969697 |
awuzbu | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Who can help a girl trapped in Saudi Arabia? This girl and I are on the same forum and today she posted this - tl;dr she's trapped by abusive family who have hidden her passport. ​ Hello, I don't know if this is the right forum or if there is even a RIGHT forum for this. I'm gonna cut right to the story. I moved to Canada in 2015 on a student visa and my family and I visited our home country, which is Saudi Arabia during each summer vacation. In 2018, my religious saudi parents found out things they religiously don't aprove of about me (i'm 18+ yrs. old) like not wearing a hijab (head scarf) outside the house, posting our pics online, having guy friends... etc. When we arrived to saudi, Mom took away everything i could use to contact anyone, she has access to my social media, lockeed me in the house. And she admitted we aren't ever going back to Canada as she is escaping the physical assault charges pressed on her, she threatened to rat me out to the government for having premarital sex (punishment is 1000 lashes by law) being bisexual (punishment is death) and being an apostate (death, also) i tried to go to a relative's house and mom ended up beating me. The government would give me back to my parents if try to get help. My parents hid my passport outside the house. I'm so desperate and scared of getting honour killed WHICH IS LEGAL HERE. How can mentally survive this.... I feel so alone ​ She just wants to get back to Canada but can't leave the country without permission from her male guardian (her father). Does anyone with knowledge of the Saudi situation have ideas on how to get her out or where to ask for help? Thank you! | ehrkh4h | ehqwa7b | 1,551,707,085 | 1,551,673,257 | 27 | 7 | Don't try something dumb like escaping or seeking asylum at an embassy. While they have the best possible result, they also have a 99% chance of failure. Fake regret, fake repent and pretend to live life normally. Not fun but you won't be killed. If you somehow get to travel to a safe country then run away, but as long as you are in SA don't try anything. | Although I don’t know the details of this person and the forum, this kinda sounds like the beginning of a scam to get you to buy plane tickets or something. If you don’t know this person very well, I’d be careful about doing anything that costs money. | 1 | 33,828 | 3.857143 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhaj2k | duhad0f | 1,519,021,212 | 1,519,020,927 | 895 | 83 | It looks like the US does accept asylum applications from minors: > You may apply for asylum with USCIS as a minor if you: > > * Are under 18 years old; > * Want to have your own case separate from your parents; > * Are not in immigration court proceedings. A substantial risk that you will be injured or killed if you return home _can_ be grounds to apply for asylum. While you're in the US, if your parents beat you, you can also contact child protective services in your state for help. Child abuse is illegal in the US, regardless of your family's country of origin. If you have internet access, you can contact the authorities. That's the good news. The _bad_ news is that these systems generally move slowly, and it's not at all clear to me that asylum will be available to you, or that CPS will move quickly enough to be of much help. If you can get in contact with a local Muslim women's shelter, or an ex-Muslim support group, even over the internet, they'll likely be in a much better position to help you. Searches for "<my city> youth shelter," "<my city> ex-muslim shelter," and the like may turn up an organization you can trust. Be safe. Use an incognito session so that the searches aren't saved to your history. If you find yourself in the airport and absolutely do not want to leave, make the biggest, most embarassing scene you can: shout loudly that you refuse to get on the plane, that you do not want to go anywhere with your parents, and passively resist in whatever ways you can. Do this where airport staff can see you and can intervene, and ideally _before_ security. If necessary, tell the security agent you're being taken to Saudi Arabia against your will. | You need to get in contact with child protective services where you live. Do you go to school? If so you can tell a teacher and they can help. If not send email to a friend and ask them to call, or run to a neighbor and call 911. | 1 | 285 | 10.783133 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhuyo5 | duhj7ym | 1,519,057,602 | 1,519,040,865 | 410 | 307 | Your iPhone can still connect to 911. Call them and tell them “I am a victim of domestic violence. I believe I am about to become a victim of human trafficking. I live at [your address]. I am in fear of my life. I need help immediately. I am locked in my bedroom and they won’t let me out. I need an officer to find me.” Say all of those phrases, because it will help the police establish probable cause to enter your home and find you. Dispatch will get an officer there quickly. Say you want to talk to him in private. Explain the situation and articulate as completely as you can the situation. He will not arrest you. You cannot get in trouble from him. Tell him that if you stay in the house, you will be severely harmed and will be placed in risk of **immediate physical injury.** Request help from CPS. They can help from there. | Email CPS from a new email account and your local police. You should also immediately email your school, CCing every email address that you know of - counsellor, teachers, principle, resource officers, enrollment addresses, whatever you can get your hands on. Get on the school website to skim addresses of you need to. Tell them you are fearing for your life and need 911 assistance but cannot access a phone, have been beaten, and your name and address. They are mandatory reporters. If any member of your family owns a Microsoft subscription, like Microsoft Office 365, install the free Skype app and make a Skype call to 911 as quickly as possible. Edit: Try to call 911 on the phone anyway. If there is still a sim card and the phone can connect to a cell tower, the call will go through, regardless of whether you have service or not. | 1 | 16,737 | 1.335505 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhuyo5 | duhe01p | 1,519,057,602 | 1,519,027,951 | 410 | 233 | Your iPhone can still connect to 911. Call them and tell them “I am a victim of domestic violence. I believe I am about to become a victim of human trafficking. I live at [your address]. I am in fear of my life. I need help immediately. I am locked in my bedroom and they won’t let me out. I need an officer to find me.” Say all of those phrases, because it will help the police establish probable cause to enter your home and find you. Dispatch will get an officer there quickly. Say you want to talk to him in private. Explain the situation and articulate as completely as you can the situation. He will not arrest you. You cannot get in trouble from him. Tell him that if you stay in the house, you will be severely harmed and will be placed in risk of **immediate physical injury.** Request help from CPS. They can help from there. | If you’ve been beaten and have bruises or physical injuries, consider photographing the bruises and emailing them to a secure email account, as they may be helpful later. Then maybe delete the photos from that phone. But if the phone is connected to your dads iCloud account, dont take the photos if they will pop up on his iCloud account and alert him that you have the phone. And obviously, silence the phone and turn off vibration and notifications and alerts so it doesn’t make any noise at all. If you think you may be beaten or threatened again consider having the phone hidden nearby secretly recording. | 1 | 29,651 | 1.759657 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhuyo5 | duhr7cv | 1,519,057,602 | 1,519,053,497 | 410 | 170 | Your iPhone can still connect to 911. Call them and tell them “I am a victim of domestic violence. I believe I am about to become a victim of human trafficking. I live at [your address]. I am in fear of my life. I need help immediately. I am locked in my bedroom and they won’t let me out. I need an officer to find me.” Say all of those phrases, because it will help the police establish probable cause to enter your home and find you. Dispatch will get an officer there quickly. Say you want to talk to him in private. Explain the situation and articulate as completely as you can the situation. He will not arrest you. You cannot get in trouble from him. Tell him that if you stay in the house, you will be severely harmed and will be placed in risk of **immediate physical injury.** Request help from CPS. They can help from there. | Since your father beat you, you can report to CPS and the police and then that will make you eligible to apply for a U Visa. An immigration lawyer can help you - many of the organizations people linked here can hook you up. | 1 | 4,105 | 2.411765 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhuyo5 | duhad0f | 1,519,057,602 | 1,519,020,927 | 410 | 83 | Your iPhone can still connect to 911. Call them and tell them “I am a victim of domestic violence. I believe I am about to become a victim of human trafficking. I live at [your address]. I am in fear of my life. I need help immediately. I am locked in my bedroom and they won’t let me out. I need an officer to find me.” Say all of those phrases, because it will help the police establish probable cause to enter your home and find you. Dispatch will get an officer there quickly. Say you want to talk to him in private. Explain the situation and articulate as completely as you can the situation. He will not arrest you. You cannot get in trouble from him. Tell him that if you stay in the house, you will be severely harmed and will be placed in risk of **immediate physical injury.** Request help from CPS. They can help from there. | You need to get in contact with child protective services where you live. Do you go to school? If so you can tell a teacher and they can help. If not send email to a friend and ask them to call, or run to a neighbor and call 911. | 1 | 36,675 | 4.939759 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhobtr | duhuyo5 | 1,519,049,855 | 1,519,057,602 | 72 | 410 | The organization Ex-Muslims of North America maybe able to help you. Website: https://www.exmna.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/exmna | Your iPhone can still connect to 911. Call them and tell them “I am a victim of domestic violence. I believe I am about to become a victim of human trafficking. I live at [your address]. I am in fear of my life. I need help immediately. I am locked in my bedroom and they won’t let me out. I need an officer to find me.” Say all of those phrases, because it will help the police establish probable cause to enter your home and find you. Dispatch will get an officer there quickly. Say you want to talk to him in private. Explain the situation and articulate as completely as you can the situation. He will not arrest you. You cannot get in trouble from him. Tell him that if you stay in the house, you will be severely harmed and will be placed in risk of **immediate physical injury.** Request help from CPS. They can help from there. | 0 | 7,747 | 5.694444 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhuyo5 | duhbrfs | 1,519,057,602 | 1,519,023,408 | 410 | 42 | Your iPhone can still connect to 911. Call them and tell them “I am a victim of domestic violence. I believe I am about to become a victim of human trafficking. I live at [your address]. I am in fear of my life. I need help immediately. I am locked in my bedroom and they won’t let me out. I need an officer to find me.” Say all of those phrases, because it will help the police establish probable cause to enter your home and find you. Dispatch will get an officer there quickly. Say you want to talk to him in private. Explain the situation and articulate as completely as you can the situation. He will not arrest you. You cannot get in trouble from him. Tell him that if you stay in the house, you will be severely harmed and will be placed in risk of **immediate physical injury.** Request help from CPS. They can help from there. | If you have asylum/immigration questions you can ask them on the /r/immigration subreddit too. I cross-posted this post there. I'm not sure if your visa is derivative of your parents and what your legal basis for remaining in the USA would be if your asylum claim is rejected. I guess there's a risk that you refuse to go back with your parents, you break your relationship with them, you apply for asylum, and it's rejected and you end up deported to Saudi Arabia in a few years. You should look into whether there is some kind of legal/immigrant aid service in your area where you can get assistance on applying for asylum, as there are probably "right" and "wrong" thinks to say in the application and it's something an attorney can help with. You might want to start by googling female saudi asylum and learning about it more. I saw a CNN article saying the USA granted 29 out of 111 asylum petitions from Saudis, so it's not impossible, not sure how many of those were women but I assume you'd have a stronger case than a man and a stronger case if you have renounced Islam. Good luck. | 1 | 34,194 | 9.761905 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhuyo5 | duhslmt | 1,519,057,602 | 1,519,055,077 | 410 | 36 | Your iPhone can still connect to 911. Call them and tell them “I am a victim of domestic violence. I believe I am about to become a victim of human trafficking. I live at [your address]. I am in fear of my life. I need help immediately. I am locked in my bedroom and they won’t let me out. I need an officer to find me.” Say all of those phrases, because it will help the police establish probable cause to enter your home and find you. Dispatch will get an officer there quickly. Say you want to talk to him in private. Explain the situation and articulate as completely as you can the situation. He will not arrest you. You cannot get in trouble from him. Tell him that if you stay in the house, you will be severely harmed and will be placed in risk of **immediate physical injury.** Request help from CPS. They can help from there. | fake getting ill, once at the hospital tell a doctor you are not safe and ask to speak to the police. | 1 | 2,525 | 11.388889 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhuyo5 | duhtjt6 | 1,519,057,602 | 1,519,056,105 | 410 | 38 | Your iPhone can still connect to 911. Call them and tell them “I am a victim of domestic violence. I believe I am about to become a victim of human trafficking. I live at [your address]. I am in fear of my life. I need help immediately. I am locked in my bedroom and they won’t let me out. I need an officer to find me.” Say all of those phrases, because it will help the police establish probable cause to enter your home and find you. Dispatch will get an officer there quickly. Say you want to talk to him in private. Explain the situation and articulate as completely as you can the situation. He will not arrest you. You cannot get in trouble from him. Tell him that if you stay in the house, you will be severely harmed and will be placed in risk of **immediate physical injury.** Request help from CPS. They can help from there. | FYI cell phones without service can still call out to 911 (police/emergency) So even if your cell phone has no working SIM card you can still call police/911! | 1 | 1,497 | 10.789474 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhuyo5 | duhngbq | 1,519,057,602 | 1,519,048,615 | 410 | 23 | Your iPhone can still connect to 911. Call them and tell them “I am a victim of domestic violence. I believe I am about to become a victim of human trafficking. I live at [your address]. I am in fear of my life. I need help immediately. I am locked in my bedroom and they won’t let me out. I need an officer to find me.” Say all of those phrases, because it will help the police establish probable cause to enter your home and find you. Dispatch will get an officer there quickly. Say you want to talk to him in private. Explain the situation and articulate as completely as you can the situation. He will not arrest you. You cannot get in trouble from him. Tell him that if you stay in the house, you will be severely harmed and will be placed in risk of **immediate physical injury.** Request help from CPS. They can help from there. | Are you in public school? Do you have a car? Do you have savings ($250) you can spend? Which adult at school do you trust most? Do you have a counselor (academic or other), nurse, and/or school resource officer? Talk to all of them about this. If you still have bruising, ask the nurse to document it. If there is no bruising, you don’t need evidence you just need to alert those three individuals (counselor, SRO & teacher or other staff who you trust the most). All staff at school are “mandatory reporters”. If they hear of, know of, or suspect that a student is being abused in the Home, they are required by law to alert the appropriate individuals. Moving on, do you have a car that you take to school, or is there a strong public transport system you can use? If not, a close friend’s uber account? If so, while at school you should look for an immigration attorney close to the school. When you talk to your trusted teacher, tell them you want to visit the attorney to figure out your options, but need to do it during a school day. It’s possible they can help you navigate the school’s truancy/attendance red tape to get you off campus for a day without your parents being alerted. If not, they may be able to help arrange an office on-campus where you can meet the local attorney. Doing it on-campus is probably the best option. If and when you meet the attorney, talk Emergency asylum and other options that you might have for obtaining citizenship. Take notes. Keep the notes at school. | 1 | 8,987 | 17.826087 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhuyo5 | duhgc6p | 1,519,057,602 | 1,519,033,512 | 410 | 12 | Your iPhone can still connect to 911. Call them and tell them “I am a victim of domestic violence. I believe I am about to become a victim of human trafficking. I live at [your address]. I am in fear of my life. I need help immediately. I am locked in my bedroom and they won’t let me out. I need an officer to find me.” Say all of those phrases, because it will help the police establish probable cause to enter your home and find you. Dispatch will get an officer there quickly. Say you want to talk to him in private. Explain the situation and articulate as completely as you can the situation. He will not arrest you. You cannot get in trouble from him. Tell him that if you stay in the house, you will be severely harmed and will be placed in risk of **immediate physical injury.** Request help from CPS. They can help from there. | Which state are you in? | 1 | 24,090 | 34.166667 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhuyo5 | duhr1tk | 1,519,057,602 | 1,519,053,317 | 410 | 9 | Your iPhone can still connect to 911. Call them and tell them “I am a victim of domestic violence. I believe I am about to become a victim of human trafficking. I live at [your address]. I am in fear of my life. I need help immediately. I am locked in my bedroom and they won’t let me out. I need an officer to find me.” Say all of those phrases, because it will help the police establish probable cause to enter your home and find you. Dispatch will get an officer there quickly. Say you want to talk to him in private. Explain the situation and articulate as completely as you can the situation. He will not arrest you. You cannot get in trouble from him. Tell him that if you stay in the house, you will be severely harmed and will be placed in risk of **immediate physical injury.** Request help from CPS. They can help from there. | Your 16. it's a problem. Do you have any sympathetic relatives ? Do some research online. Call some women's shelters and speak with them ask them if they can help. Worst case ask your friends if you can run away and stay with them - note they must talk to their parents about this before you take this route. I know what awaits you. If you were my daughter's friend you would be welcome at my house so find a friend and their family willing to support you. | 1 | 4,285 | 45.555556 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhtxbz | duhuyo5 | 1,519,056,514 | 1,519,057,602 | 9 | 410 | Get to a hospital, police station, school, anywhere where there are mandatory reporters and tell then what happened and what could happen to you. | Your iPhone can still connect to 911. Call them and tell them “I am a victim of domestic violence. I believe I am about to become a victim of human trafficking. I live at [your address]. I am in fear of my life. I need help immediately. I am locked in my bedroom and they won’t let me out. I need an officer to find me.” Say all of those phrases, because it will help the police establish probable cause to enter your home and find you. Dispatch will get an officer there quickly. Say you want to talk to him in private. Explain the situation and articulate as completely as you can the situation. He will not arrest you. You cannot get in trouble from him. Tell him that if you stay in the house, you will be severely harmed and will be placed in risk of **immediate physical injury.** Request help from CPS. They can help from there. | 0 | 1,088 | 45.555556 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhe01p | duhj7ym | 1,519,027,951 | 1,519,040,865 | 233 | 307 | If you’ve been beaten and have bruises or physical injuries, consider photographing the bruises and emailing them to a secure email account, as they may be helpful later. Then maybe delete the photos from that phone. But if the phone is connected to your dads iCloud account, dont take the photos if they will pop up on his iCloud account and alert him that you have the phone. And obviously, silence the phone and turn off vibration and notifications and alerts so it doesn’t make any noise at all. If you think you may be beaten or threatened again consider having the phone hidden nearby secretly recording. | Email CPS from a new email account and your local police. You should also immediately email your school, CCing every email address that you know of - counsellor, teachers, principle, resource officers, enrollment addresses, whatever you can get your hands on. Get on the school website to skim addresses of you need to. Tell them you are fearing for your life and need 911 assistance but cannot access a phone, have been beaten, and your name and address. They are mandatory reporters. If any member of your family owns a Microsoft subscription, like Microsoft Office 365, install the free Skype app and make a Skype call to 911 as quickly as possible. Edit: Try to call 911 on the phone anyway. If there is still a sim card and the phone can connect to a cell tower, the call will go through, regardless of whether you have service or not. | 0 | 12,914 | 1.317597 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhj7ym | duhad0f | 1,519,040,865 | 1,519,020,927 | 307 | 83 | Email CPS from a new email account and your local police. You should also immediately email your school, CCing every email address that you know of - counsellor, teachers, principle, resource officers, enrollment addresses, whatever you can get your hands on. Get on the school website to skim addresses of you need to. Tell them you are fearing for your life and need 911 assistance but cannot access a phone, have been beaten, and your name and address. They are mandatory reporters. If any member of your family owns a Microsoft subscription, like Microsoft Office 365, install the free Skype app and make a Skype call to 911 as quickly as possible. Edit: Try to call 911 on the phone anyway. If there is still a sim card and the phone can connect to a cell tower, the call will go through, regardless of whether you have service or not. | You need to get in contact with child protective services where you live. Do you go to school? If so you can tell a teacher and they can help. If not send email to a friend and ask them to call, or run to a neighbor and call 911. | 1 | 19,938 | 3.698795 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhbrfs | duhj7ym | 1,519,023,408 | 1,519,040,865 | 42 | 307 | If you have asylum/immigration questions you can ask them on the /r/immigration subreddit too. I cross-posted this post there. I'm not sure if your visa is derivative of your parents and what your legal basis for remaining in the USA would be if your asylum claim is rejected. I guess there's a risk that you refuse to go back with your parents, you break your relationship with them, you apply for asylum, and it's rejected and you end up deported to Saudi Arabia in a few years. You should look into whether there is some kind of legal/immigrant aid service in your area where you can get assistance on applying for asylum, as there are probably "right" and "wrong" thinks to say in the application and it's something an attorney can help with. You might want to start by googling female saudi asylum and learning about it more. I saw a CNN article saying the USA granted 29 out of 111 asylum petitions from Saudis, so it's not impossible, not sure how many of those were women but I assume you'd have a stronger case than a man and a stronger case if you have renounced Islam. Good luck. | Email CPS from a new email account and your local police. You should also immediately email your school, CCing every email address that you know of - counsellor, teachers, principle, resource officers, enrollment addresses, whatever you can get your hands on. Get on the school website to skim addresses of you need to. Tell them you are fearing for your life and need 911 assistance but cannot access a phone, have been beaten, and your name and address. They are mandatory reporters. If any member of your family owns a Microsoft subscription, like Microsoft Office 365, install the free Skype app and make a Skype call to 911 as quickly as possible. Edit: Try to call 911 on the phone anyway. If there is still a sim card and the phone can connect to a cell tower, the call will go through, regardless of whether you have service or not. | 0 | 17,457 | 7.309524 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhgc6p | duhj7ym | 1,519,033,512 | 1,519,040,865 | 12 | 307 | Which state are you in? | Email CPS from a new email account and your local police. You should also immediately email your school, CCing every email address that you know of - counsellor, teachers, principle, resource officers, enrollment addresses, whatever you can get your hands on. Get on the school website to skim addresses of you need to. Tell them you are fearing for your life and need 911 assistance but cannot access a phone, have been beaten, and your name and address. They are mandatory reporters. If any member of your family owns a Microsoft subscription, like Microsoft Office 365, install the free Skype app and make a Skype call to 911 as quickly as possible. Edit: Try to call 911 on the phone anyway. If there is still a sim card and the phone can connect to a cell tower, the call will go through, regardless of whether you have service or not. | 0 | 7,353 | 25.583333 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhad0f | duhe01p | 1,519,020,927 | 1,519,027,951 | 83 | 233 | You need to get in contact with child protective services where you live. Do you go to school? If so you can tell a teacher and they can help. If not send email to a friend and ask them to call, or run to a neighbor and call 911. | If you’ve been beaten and have bruises or physical injuries, consider photographing the bruises and emailing them to a secure email account, as they may be helpful later. Then maybe delete the photos from that phone. But if the phone is connected to your dads iCloud account, dont take the photos if they will pop up on his iCloud account and alert him that you have the phone. And obviously, silence the phone and turn off vibration and notifications and alerts so it doesn’t make any noise at all. If you think you may be beaten or threatened again consider having the phone hidden nearby secretly recording. | 0 | 7,024 | 2.807229 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhbrfs | duhe01p | 1,519,023,408 | 1,519,027,951 | 42 | 233 | If you have asylum/immigration questions you can ask them on the /r/immigration subreddit too. I cross-posted this post there. I'm not sure if your visa is derivative of your parents and what your legal basis for remaining in the USA would be if your asylum claim is rejected. I guess there's a risk that you refuse to go back with your parents, you break your relationship with them, you apply for asylum, and it's rejected and you end up deported to Saudi Arabia in a few years. You should look into whether there is some kind of legal/immigrant aid service in your area where you can get assistance on applying for asylum, as there are probably "right" and "wrong" thinks to say in the application and it's something an attorney can help with. You might want to start by googling female saudi asylum and learning about it more. I saw a CNN article saying the USA granted 29 out of 111 asylum petitions from Saudis, so it's not impossible, not sure how many of those were women but I assume you'd have a stronger case than a man and a stronger case if you have renounced Islam. Good luck. | If you’ve been beaten and have bruises or physical injuries, consider photographing the bruises and emailing them to a secure email account, as they may be helpful later. Then maybe delete the photos from that phone. But if the phone is connected to your dads iCloud account, dont take the photos if they will pop up on his iCloud account and alert him that you have the phone. And obviously, silence the phone and turn off vibration and notifications and alerts so it doesn’t make any noise at all. If you think you may be beaten or threatened again consider having the phone hidden nearby secretly recording. | 0 | 4,543 | 5.547619 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhad0f | duhr7cv | 1,519,020,927 | 1,519,053,497 | 83 | 170 | You need to get in contact with child protective services where you live. Do you go to school? If so you can tell a teacher and they can help. If not send email to a friend and ask them to call, or run to a neighbor and call 911. | Since your father beat you, you can report to CPS and the police and then that will make you eligible to apply for a U Visa. An immigration lawyer can help you - many of the organizations people linked here can hook you up. | 0 | 32,570 | 2.048193 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhr7cv | duhobtr | 1,519,053,497 | 1,519,049,855 | 170 | 72 | Since your father beat you, you can report to CPS and the police and then that will make you eligible to apply for a U Visa. An immigration lawyer can help you - many of the organizations people linked here can hook you up. | The organization Ex-Muslims of North America maybe able to help you. Website: https://www.exmna.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/exmna | 1 | 3,642 | 2.361111 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhbrfs | duhr7cv | 1,519,023,408 | 1,519,053,497 | 42 | 170 | If you have asylum/immigration questions you can ask them on the /r/immigration subreddit too. I cross-posted this post there. I'm not sure if your visa is derivative of your parents and what your legal basis for remaining in the USA would be if your asylum claim is rejected. I guess there's a risk that you refuse to go back with your parents, you break your relationship with them, you apply for asylum, and it's rejected and you end up deported to Saudi Arabia in a few years. You should look into whether there is some kind of legal/immigrant aid service in your area where you can get assistance on applying for asylum, as there are probably "right" and "wrong" thinks to say in the application and it's something an attorney can help with. You might want to start by googling female saudi asylum and learning about it more. I saw a CNN article saying the USA granted 29 out of 111 asylum petitions from Saudis, so it's not impossible, not sure how many of those were women but I assume you'd have a stronger case than a man and a stronger case if you have renounced Islam. Good luck. | Since your father beat you, you can report to CPS and the police and then that will make you eligible to apply for a U Visa. An immigration lawyer can help you - many of the organizations people linked here can hook you up. | 0 | 30,089 | 4.047619 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhr7cv | duhngbq | 1,519,053,497 | 1,519,048,615 | 170 | 23 | Since your father beat you, you can report to CPS and the police and then that will make you eligible to apply for a U Visa. An immigration lawyer can help you - many of the organizations people linked here can hook you up. | Are you in public school? Do you have a car? Do you have savings ($250) you can spend? Which adult at school do you trust most? Do you have a counselor (academic or other), nurse, and/or school resource officer? Talk to all of them about this. If you still have bruising, ask the nurse to document it. If there is no bruising, you don’t need evidence you just need to alert those three individuals (counselor, SRO & teacher or other staff who you trust the most). All staff at school are “mandatory reporters”. If they hear of, know of, or suspect that a student is being abused in the Home, they are required by law to alert the appropriate individuals. Moving on, do you have a car that you take to school, or is there a strong public transport system you can use? If not, a close friend’s uber account? If so, while at school you should look for an immigration attorney close to the school. When you talk to your trusted teacher, tell them you want to visit the attorney to figure out your options, but need to do it during a school day. It’s possible they can help you navigate the school’s truancy/attendance red tape to get you off campus for a day without your parents being alerted. If not, they may be able to help arrange an office on-campus where you can meet the local attorney. Doing it on-campus is probably the best option. If and when you meet the attorney, talk Emergency asylum and other options that you might have for obtaining citizenship. Take notes. Keep the notes at school. | 1 | 4,882 | 7.391304 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhgc6p | duhr7cv | 1,519,033,512 | 1,519,053,497 | 12 | 170 | Which state are you in? | Since your father beat you, you can report to CPS and the police and then that will make you eligible to apply for a U Visa. An immigration lawyer can help you - many of the organizations people linked here can hook you up. | 0 | 19,985 | 14.166667 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhr7cv | duhr1tk | 1,519,053,497 | 1,519,053,317 | 170 | 9 | Since your father beat you, you can report to CPS and the police and then that will make you eligible to apply for a U Visa. An immigration lawyer can help you - many of the organizations people linked here can hook you up. | Your 16. it's a problem. Do you have any sympathetic relatives ? Do some research online. Call some women's shelters and speak with them ask them if they can help. Worst case ask your friends if you can run away and stay with them - note they must talk to their parents about this before you take this route. I know what awaits you. If you were my daughter's friend you would be welcome at my house so find a friend and their family willing to support you. | 1 | 180 | 18.888889 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhobtr | duhbrfs | 1,519,049,855 | 1,519,023,408 | 72 | 42 | The organization Ex-Muslims of North America maybe able to help you. Website: https://www.exmna.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/exmna | If you have asylum/immigration questions you can ask them on the /r/immigration subreddit too. I cross-posted this post there. I'm not sure if your visa is derivative of your parents and what your legal basis for remaining in the USA would be if your asylum claim is rejected. I guess there's a risk that you refuse to go back with your parents, you break your relationship with them, you apply for asylum, and it's rejected and you end up deported to Saudi Arabia in a few years. You should look into whether there is some kind of legal/immigrant aid service in your area where you can get assistance on applying for asylum, as there are probably "right" and "wrong" thinks to say in the application and it's something an attorney can help with. You might want to start by googling female saudi asylum and learning about it more. I saw a CNN article saying the USA granted 29 out of 111 asylum petitions from Saudis, so it's not impossible, not sure how many of those were women but I assume you'd have a stronger case than a man and a stronger case if you have renounced Islam. Good luck. | 1 | 26,447 | 1.714286 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhobtr | duhngbq | 1,519,049,855 | 1,519,048,615 | 72 | 23 | The organization Ex-Muslims of North America maybe able to help you. Website: https://www.exmna.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/exmna | Are you in public school? Do you have a car? Do you have savings ($250) you can spend? Which adult at school do you trust most? Do you have a counselor (academic or other), nurse, and/or school resource officer? Talk to all of them about this. If you still have bruising, ask the nurse to document it. If there is no bruising, you don’t need evidence you just need to alert those three individuals (counselor, SRO & teacher or other staff who you trust the most). All staff at school are “mandatory reporters”. If they hear of, know of, or suspect that a student is being abused in the Home, they are required by law to alert the appropriate individuals. Moving on, do you have a car that you take to school, or is there a strong public transport system you can use? If not, a close friend’s uber account? If so, while at school you should look for an immigration attorney close to the school. When you talk to your trusted teacher, tell them you want to visit the attorney to figure out your options, but need to do it during a school day. It’s possible they can help you navigate the school’s truancy/attendance red tape to get you off campus for a day without your parents being alerted. If not, they may be able to help arrange an office on-campus where you can meet the local attorney. Doing it on-campus is probably the best option. If and when you meet the attorney, talk Emergency asylum and other options that you might have for obtaining citizenship. Take notes. Keep the notes at school. | 1 | 1,240 | 3.130435 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhobtr | duhgc6p | 1,519,049,855 | 1,519,033,512 | 72 | 12 | The organization Ex-Muslims of North America maybe able to help you. Website: https://www.exmna.org/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/exmna | Which state are you in? | 1 | 16,343 | 6 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhtjt6 | duhslmt | 1,519,056,105 | 1,519,055,077 | 38 | 36 | FYI cell phones without service can still call out to 911 (police/emergency) So even if your cell phone has no working SIM card you can still call police/911! | fake getting ill, once at the hospital tell a doctor you are not safe and ask to speak to the police. | 1 | 1,028 | 1.055556 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhngbq | duhslmt | 1,519,048,615 | 1,519,055,077 | 23 | 36 | Are you in public school? Do you have a car? Do you have savings ($250) you can spend? Which adult at school do you trust most? Do you have a counselor (academic or other), nurse, and/or school resource officer? Talk to all of them about this. If you still have bruising, ask the nurse to document it. If there is no bruising, you don’t need evidence you just need to alert those three individuals (counselor, SRO & teacher or other staff who you trust the most). All staff at school are “mandatory reporters”. If they hear of, know of, or suspect that a student is being abused in the Home, they are required by law to alert the appropriate individuals. Moving on, do you have a car that you take to school, or is there a strong public transport system you can use? If not, a close friend’s uber account? If so, while at school you should look for an immigration attorney close to the school. When you talk to your trusted teacher, tell them you want to visit the attorney to figure out your options, but need to do it during a school day. It’s possible they can help you navigate the school’s truancy/attendance red tape to get you off campus for a day without your parents being alerted. If not, they may be able to help arrange an office on-campus where you can meet the local attorney. Doing it on-campus is probably the best option. If and when you meet the attorney, talk Emergency asylum and other options that you might have for obtaining citizenship. Take notes. Keep the notes at school. | fake getting ill, once at the hospital tell a doctor you are not safe and ask to speak to the police. | 0 | 6,462 | 1.565217 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhslmt | duhgc6p | 1,519,055,077 | 1,519,033,512 | 36 | 12 | fake getting ill, once at the hospital tell a doctor you are not safe and ask to speak to the police. | Which state are you in? | 1 | 21,565 | 3 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhslmt | duhr1tk | 1,519,055,077 | 1,519,053,317 | 36 | 9 | fake getting ill, once at the hospital tell a doctor you are not safe and ask to speak to the police. | Your 16. it's a problem. Do you have any sympathetic relatives ? Do some research online. Call some women's shelters and speak with them ask them if they can help. Worst case ask your friends if you can run away and stay with them - note they must talk to their parents about this before you take this route. I know what awaits you. If you were my daughter's friend you would be welcome at my house so find a friend and their family willing to support you. | 1 | 1,760 | 4 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhngbq | duhtjt6 | 1,519,048,615 | 1,519,056,105 | 23 | 38 | Are you in public school? Do you have a car? Do you have savings ($250) you can spend? Which adult at school do you trust most? Do you have a counselor (academic or other), nurse, and/or school resource officer? Talk to all of them about this. If you still have bruising, ask the nurse to document it. If there is no bruising, you don’t need evidence you just need to alert those three individuals (counselor, SRO & teacher or other staff who you trust the most). All staff at school are “mandatory reporters”. If they hear of, know of, or suspect that a student is being abused in the Home, they are required by law to alert the appropriate individuals. Moving on, do you have a car that you take to school, or is there a strong public transport system you can use? If not, a close friend’s uber account? If so, while at school you should look for an immigration attorney close to the school. When you talk to your trusted teacher, tell them you want to visit the attorney to figure out your options, but need to do it during a school day. It’s possible they can help you navigate the school’s truancy/attendance red tape to get you off campus for a day without your parents being alerted. If not, they may be able to help arrange an office on-campus where you can meet the local attorney. Doing it on-campus is probably the best option. If and when you meet the attorney, talk Emergency asylum and other options that you might have for obtaining citizenship. Take notes. Keep the notes at school. | FYI cell phones without service can still call out to 911 (police/emergency) So even if your cell phone has no working SIM card you can still call police/911! | 0 | 7,490 | 1.652174 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhgc6p | duhtjt6 | 1,519,033,512 | 1,519,056,105 | 12 | 38 | Which state are you in? | FYI cell phones without service can still call out to 911 (police/emergency) So even if your cell phone has no working SIM card you can still call police/911! | 0 | 22,593 | 3.166667 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhr1tk | duhtjt6 | 1,519,053,317 | 1,519,056,105 | 9 | 38 | Your 16. it's a problem. Do you have any sympathetic relatives ? Do some research online. Call some women's shelters and speak with them ask them if they can help. Worst case ask your friends if you can run away and stay with them - note they must talk to their parents about this before you take this route. I know what awaits you. If you were my daughter's friend you would be welcome at my house so find a friend and their family willing to support you. | FYI cell phones without service can still call out to 911 (police/emergency) So even if your cell phone has no working SIM card you can still call police/911! | 0 | 2,788 | 4.222222 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | dui03qn | duhngbq | 1,519,062,747 | 1,519,048,615 | 30 | 23 | You have two angles here to get help: (1) you're being held against your will and have been physically harmed and (2) you're being brought to another country to be forced into marriage. There are resources and organizations set up to help people in just your situation. I have listed a few here: http://preventforcedmarriage.org/get-help/ whose contact email is [email protected] https://www.theahafoundation.org/get-help/ who have a text line and resource directory http://www.unchainedatlast.org/get-help/ who have an online form you can use Email your name and address to every single person you think can help and tell them you are being violently held against your will until the day you fly out to be forced into marriage. **Make sure it is on your own email address so your parents cannot see.** I know you don't have calling on your phone, you can still dial 911 on any cellphone. You can also use iPhones for text messaging over WiFi to other iPhone users. **Set up your own iCloud account on the phone before you send any text messages though because your dad will be able to see them if they're over his account.** As other users have suggested if it does get to the point where you're at the airport, explain to every single person you can that you are being forced to go to Saudi Arabia to be forced into marriage. If you give your location I may be able to find an organization in your area that can provide immediate assistance. | Are you in public school? Do you have a car? Do you have savings ($250) you can spend? Which adult at school do you trust most? Do you have a counselor (academic or other), nurse, and/or school resource officer? Talk to all of them about this. If you still have bruising, ask the nurse to document it. If there is no bruising, you don’t need evidence you just need to alert those three individuals (counselor, SRO & teacher or other staff who you trust the most). All staff at school are “mandatory reporters”. If they hear of, know of, or suspect that a student is being abused in the Home, they are required by law to alert the appropriate individuals. Moving on, do you have a car that you take to school, or is there a strong public transport system you can use? If not, a close friend’s uber account? If so, while at school you should look for an immigration attorney close to the school. When you talk to your trusted teacher, tell them you want to visit the attorney to figure out your options, but need to do it during a school day. It’s possible they can help you navigate the school’s truancy/attendance red tape to get you off campus for a day without your parents being alerted. If not, they may be able to help arrange an office on-campus where you can meet the local attorney. Doing it on-campus is probably the best option. If and when you meet the attorney, talk Emergency asylum and other options that you might have for obtaining citizenship. Take notes. Keep the notes at school. | 1 | 14,132 | 1.304348 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhgc6p | dui03qn | 1,519,033,512 | 1,519,062,747 | 12 | 30 | Which state are you in? | You have two angles here to get help: (1) you're being held against your will and have been physically harmed and (2) you're being brought to another country to be forced into marriage. There are resources and organizations set up to help people in just your situation. I have listed a few here: http://preventforcedmarriage.org/get-help/ whose contact email is [email protected] https://www.theahafoundation.org/get-help/ who have a text line and resource directory http://www.unchainedatlast.org/get-help/ who have an online form you can use Email your name and address to every single person you think can help and tell them you are being violently held against your will until the day you fly out to be forced into marriage. **Make sure it is on your own email address so your parents cannot see.** I know you don't have calling on your phone, you can still dial 911 on any cellphone. You can also use iPhones for text messaging over WiFi to other iPhone users. **Set up your own iCloud account on the phone before you send any text messages though because your dad will be able to see them if they're over his account.** As other users have suggested if it does get to the point where you're at the airport, explain to every single person you can that you are being forced to go to Saudi Arabia to be forced into marriage. If you give your location I may be able to find an organization in your area that can provide immediate assistance. | 0 | 29,235 | 2.5 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | dui03qn | duhr1tk | 1,519,062,747 | 1,519,053,317 | 30 | 9 | You have two angles here to get help: (1) you're being held against your will and have been physically harmed and (2) you're being brought to another country to be forced into marriage. There are resources and organizations set up to help people in just your situation. I have listed a few here: http://preventforcedmarriage.org/get-help/ whose contact email is [email protected] https://www.theahafoundation.org/get-help/ who have a text line and resource directory http://www.unchainedatlast.org/get-help/ who have an online form you can use Email your name and address to every single person you think can help and tell them you are being violently held against your will until the day you fly out to be forced into marriage. **Make sure it is on your own email address so your parents cannot see.** I know you don't have calling on your phone, you can still dial 911 on any cellphone. You can also use iPhones for text messaging over WiFi to other iPhone users. **Set up your own iCloud account on the phone before you send any text messages though because your dad will be able to see them if they're over his account.** As other users have suggested if it does get to the point where you're at the airport, explain to every single person you can that you are being forced to go to Saudi Arabia to be forced into marriage. If you give your location I may be able to find an organization in your area that can provide immediate assistance. | Your 16. it's a problem. Do you have any sympathetic relatives ? Do some research online. Call some women's shelters and speak with them ask them if they can help. Worst case ask your friends if you can run away and stay with them - note they must talk to their parents about this before you take this route. I know what awaits you. If you were my daughter's friend you would be welcome at my house so find a friend and their family willing to support you. | 1 | 9,430 | 3.333333 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | dui03qn | duhtxbz | 1,519,062,747 | 1,519,056,514 | 30 | 9 | You have two angles here to get help: (1) you're being held against your will and have been physically harmed and (2) you're being brought to another country to be forced into marriage. There are resources and organizations set up to help people in just your situation. I have listed a few here: http://preventforcedmarriage.org/get-help/ whose contact email is [email protected] https://www.theahafoundation.org/get-help/ who have a text line and resource directory http://www.unchainedatlast.org/get-help/ who have an online form you can use Email your name and address to every single person you think can help and tell them you are being violently held against your will until the day you fly out to be forced into marriage. **Make sure it is on your own email address so your parents cannot see.** I know you don't have calling on your phone, you can still dial 911 on any cellphone. You can also use iPhones for text messaging over WiFi to other iPhone users. **Set up your own iCloud account on the phone before you send any text messages though because your dad will be able to see them if they're over his account.** As other users have suggested if it does get to the point where you're at the airport, explain to every single person you can that you are being forced to go to Saudi Arabia to be forced into marriage. If you give your location I may be able to find an organization in your area that can provide immediate assistance. | Get to a hospital, police station, school, anywhere where there are mandatory reporters and tell then what happened and what could happen to you. | 1 | 6,233 | 3.333333 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhgc6p | duhngbq | 1,519,033,512 | 1,519,048,615 | 12 | 23 | Which state are you in? | Are you in public school? Do you have a car? Do you have savings ($250) you can spend? Which adult at school do you trust most? Do you have a counselor (academic or other), nurse, and/or school resource officer? Talk to all of them about this. If you still have bruising, ask the nurse to document it. If there is no bruising, you don’t need evidence you just need to alert those three individuals (counselor, SRO & teacher or other staff who you trust the most). All staff at school are “mandatory reporters”. If they hear of, know of, or suspect that a student is being abused in the Home, they are required by law to alert the appropriate individuals. Moving on, do you have a car that you take to school, or is there a strong public transport system you can use? If not, a close friend’s uber account? If so, while at school you should look for an immigration attorney close to the school. When you talk to your trusted teacher, tell them you want to visit the attorney to figure out your options, but need to do it during a school day. It’s possible they can help you navigate the school’s truancy/attendance red tape to get you off campus for a day without your parents being alerted. If not, they may be able to help arrange an office on-campus where you can meet the local attorney. Doing it on-campus is probably the best option. If and when you meet the attorney, talk Emergency asylum and other options that you might have for obtaining citizenship. Take notes. Keep the notes at school. | 0 | 15,103 | 1.916667 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhr1tk | duifm9t | 1,519,053,317 | 1,519,077,887 | 9 | 11 | Your 16. it's a problem. Do you have any sympathetic relatives ? Do some research online. Call some women's shelters and speak with them ask them if they can help. Worst case ask your friends if you can run away and stay with them - note they must talk to their parents about this before you take this route. I know what awaits you. If you were my daughter's friend you would be welcome at my house so find a friend and their family willing to support you. | I'm Muslim and I can tell you it's almost 100% sure this is a fake story written by someone in love with the Women Are Victims myth. But this information might help someone: The Violence Against Women Act provides for an immediate grant of a green card to a victim of a crime. This gives OP a lot of independence from her parents. They may have to fuck right off to Saudi without her. https://www.uscis.gov/humanitarian/battered-spouse-children-parents | 0 | 24,570 | 1.222222 |
7ykn11 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My parents are forcing me to go back to Saudi Arabia, I might die, please help I am a 16 year old girl from Saudi Arabia. Our family came to live here in the US for a year so far but we are not citizens...my dad is moving us back in one month. I have loved this country so much ever since coming here, i had no freedom back in Saudi, I couldn't go out, could rarely see friends, had to stay in burka, etc. Once I saw the way people live in the West I promised myself I would do everything I could to have this kind of life...I don't believe in Islam anymore, I'm a secular person and I just want to be my own woman. Now I am devastated and broken...my chance of having that dream happen is now gone. My parents stole my phone and looked through my texts. They found out I had been texting with a boy from my school and that we had exchanged pictures of our bodies (yes i'm ashamed), and that we have one time had sex, etc. My dad beat me and my mom screamed at me about how I'm going to hell, am a whore, terrible things like that. We are already moving back in a few weeks and they said that once I am back in Saudi Arabia I can never able to leave the country again, they will find a husband for me, and because of the guardian system I can't go anywhere on my own. I am terrified because in Saudi there is a death penalty for adultery, so if word gets out maybe something very bad happens to me. I am so scared. Now my parents make me stay in my room all day - no phone, no going out, only come down for food. My grandpa is staying with us; and he and my mom are always in the house so I can't escape. They say I will be trapped here until the day we go to the airport. I am so scared, I don't know what to do. The only one I can trust is my younger brother, 12 years old, whose still going to school. He is on my side and maybe he could help or contact someone for me, but I don't want to get him in trouble because maybe my parents will do something bad to him to, beat him, etc. I am able to make this post because I have an old iphone of my dad's, he doesn't know I have it. There is no service, only I'm connected to wifi. If anyone finds it they will take it away and I will be truly alone. I have to be careful. Someone please tell me what I can do. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go back to Saudi, I want to escape but I don't know how; or even if I have any right to stay since I'm underage and I'm not a citizen. Please help me if you can I am begging you. I am so scared. | duhtxbz | duifm9t | 1,519,056,514 | 1,519,077,887 | 9 | 11 | Get to a hospital, police station, school, anywhere where there are mandatory reporters and tell then what happened and what could happen to you. | I'm Muslim and I can tell you it's almost 100% sure this is a fake story written by someone in love with the Women Are Victims myth. But this information might help someone: The Violence Against Women Act provides for an immediate grant of a green card to a victim of a crime. This gives OP a lot of independence from her parents. They may have to fuck right off to Saudi without her. https://www.uscis.gov/humanitarian/battered-spouse-children-parents | 0 | 21,373 | 1.222222 |
6sr7u9 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | My family are planing to send me back to saudi arabia for "treatment" after finding out i am gay, what can i do legally?(victoria) Hello I am a 20 year old saudi arabian student, my family who live with me found out recently about my sexual orientation and are now planing to cut all fundings and take me back to saudi for "treatment". I've lived in Melbourne for almost 8years now so I am really scared about what will happen to me if i go back permanently, without my families financial support i wont be able to pay my university fees which will nullify my student visa. I really love living in Australia and would do anything to continue living here | dlf55yu | dlf7dqu | 1,502,360,799 | 1,502,365,815 | 72 | 271 | I would strongly recommend looking into Australias asylum laws. | You must understand that this is literally a life or death situation. You must apply for asylum right away also contact the LGBT support groups they will either know how to guide you through the process or they will find you someone who will. Please don't be shy to mention fear of execution because that is a very legitimate fear. | 0 | 5,016 | 3.763889 |
6sr7u9 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | My family are planing to send me back to saudi arabia for "treatment" after finding out i am gay, what can i do legally?(victoria) Hello I am a 20 year old saudi arabian student, my family who live with me found out recently about my sexual orientation and are now planing to cut all fundings and take me back to saudi for "treatment". I've lived in Melbourne for almost 8years now so I am really scared about what will happen to me if i go back permanently, without my families financial support i wont be able to pay my university fees which will nullify my student visa. I really love living in Australia and would do anything to continue living here | dlf6m8b | dlf7dqu | 1,502,364,256 | 1,502,365,815 | 20 | 271 | So sorry you're going though this, I don't have any professional experience to help you but thought I'd mention The asylum seeker resource centre, they're Melbourne based and may be able to advise. | You must understand that this is literally a life or death situation. You must apply for asylum right away also contact the LGBT support groups they will either know how to guide you through the process or they will find you someone who will. Please don't be shy to mention fear of execution because that is a very legitimate fear. | 0 | 1,559 | 13.55 |
6sr7u9 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | My family are planing to send me back to saudi arabia for "treatment" after finding out i am gay, what can i do legally?(victoria) Hello I am a 20 year old saudi arabian student, my family who live with me found out recently about my sexual orientation and are now planing to cut all fundings and take me back to saudi for "treatment". I've lived in Melbourne for almost 8years now so I am really scared about what will happen to me if i go back permanently, without my families financial support i wont be able to pay my university fees which will nullify my student visa. I really love living in Australia and would do anything to continue living here | dlfa56r | dlf55yu | 1,502,370,386 | 1,502,360,799 | 97 | 72 | DO NOT GO. Absolutely do not go. You're a legal adult. You can stay where you are, at least until your visa expires, and after that you can seek another visa (refugee asylum, perhaps; or get a job in Oz and a job visa). Talk to on-campus and off-campus gay groups. See if you can get a recommendation for an immigration lawyer or a free immigration legal clinic. | I would strongly recommend looking into Australias asylum laws. | 1 | 9,587 | 1.347222 |
6sr7u9 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | My family are planing to send me back to saudi arabia for "treatment" after finding out i am gay, what can i do legally?(victoria) Hello I am a 20 year old saudi arabian student, my family who live with me found out recently about my sexual orientation and are now planing to cut all fundings and take me back to saudi for "treatment". I've lived in Melbourne for almost 8years now so I am really scared about what will happen to me if i go back permanently, without my families financial support i wont be able to pay my university fees which will nullify my student visa. I really love living in Australia and would do anything to continue living here | dlf8tqq | dlfa56r | 1,502,368,375 | 1,502,370,386 | 53 | 97 | Not a lawyer, not Australian and I don't know how their airport security works, but I wonder if OP should think about this type of last resort plan, should s/he get coerced somehow into traveling. | DO NOT GO. Absolutely do not go. You're a legal adult. You can stay where you are, at least until your visa expires, and after that you can seek another visa (refugee asylum, perhaps; or get a job in Oz and a job visa). Talk to on-campus and off-campus gay groups. See if you can get a recommendation for an immigration lawyer or a free immigration legal clinic. | 0 | 2,011 | 1.830189 |
6sr7u9 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | My family are planing to send me back to saudi arabia for "treatment" after finding out i am gay, what can i do legally?(victoria) Hello I am a 20 year old saudi arabian student, my family who live with me found out recently about my sexual orientation and are now planing to cut all fundings and take me back to saudi for "treatment". I've lived in Melbourne for almost 8years now so I am really scared about what will happen to me if i go back permanently, without my families financial support i wont be able to pay my university fees which will nullify my student visa. I really love living in Australia and would do anything to continue living here | dlfa56r | dlf6m8b | 1,502,370,386 | 1,502,364,256 | 97 | 20 | DO NOT GO. Absolutely do not go. You're a legal adult. You can stay where you are, at least until your visa expires, and after that you can seek another visa (refugee asylum, perhaps; or get a job in Oz and a job visa). Talk to on-campus and off-campus gay groups. See if you can get a recommendation for an immigration lawyer or a free immigration legal clinic. | So sorry you're going though this, I don't have any professional experience to help you but thought I'd mention The asylum seeker resource centre, they're Melbourne based and may be able to advise. | 1 | 6,130 | 4.85 |
6sr7u9 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | My family are planing to send me back to saudi arabia for "treatment" after finding out i am gay, what can i do legally?(victoria) Hello I am a 20 year old saudi arabian student, my family who live with me found out recently about my sexual orientation and are now planing to cut all fundings and take me back to saudi for "treatment". I've lived in Melbourne for almost 8years now so I am really scared about what will happen to me if i go back permanently, without my families financial support i wont be able to pay my university fees which will nullify my student visa. I really love living in Australia and would do anything to continue living here | dlfca0x | dlfd759 | 1,502,373,225 | 1,502,374,344 | 90 | 95 | This is going to be as blunt as I can make it. Saudi Arabia isn't going to welcome you back with open arms and just place you in a "treatment" facility and try to pray the gay away. Their treatment for being gay includes Fines, floggings, prison time up to life, torture, chemical castrations, whipping and the death penalty. You will most likely be murdered if you go back with your parents with the best case scenario being that you are either tortured or spend the rest of your life in prison. Do not give into your parents, do not step foot near an airport with them. You are a legal adult and they alone cannot make you do anything. You can work here in Aus on your visa so start looking for work. Before you do anything though you need to go to a department of immigration office and tell them you are seeking Australias protection and you want to apply for a protection visa. You need to do this ASAP. That visa gives you permanent residency. explain everything to them and tell them why this puts your current visa in jeopardy and that because of your sexuality you face the death penalty if returned to Saudi Arabia. While asylum seekers and refugees are in Australian territory (or otherwise engage Australia's jurisdiction), the Australian Government has obligations under various international treaties to ensure that their human rights are respected and protected. These treaties include the International Covenant on Civil and Political Rights (ICCPR), the International Covenant on Economic, Social and Cultural Rights (ICESCR), the Convention against Torture and Other Cruel, Inhuman or Degrading Treatment or Punishment (CAT) and the Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC). These rights include the right not to be arbitrarily detained. Best of luck. | https://www.border.gov.au/Trav/Visa-1/866- We actually have made a commitment to protect people in your situation. Reach out to any LGBT and/or family violence organisations through your uni or community to get out of that house.. and ask your uni if they have a specific person you can talk to for help with the visa paperwork. Good luck | 0 | 1,119 | 1.055556 |
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