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ywvpa1 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Late dad’s girlfriend won’t leave house. What are my options? Hello all. To make this short, my(26)father passed away and left his home to me under his will. In this house, we used to live as 4. My dad, his girlfriend, her son, and me. She’s been living here for about 5 years, but I do not have a good relationship with her as I have never had a liking to her. (Destroyed my late mother’s property when she moved in) I want her out, but she is refusing saying I can’t because she is a resident here now and her son is also in her care. What are my options to get her out? I don’t know the situation arrangement of how my late father and her split the bills previously, but since it is under my name now, that shouldn’t matter right? Thank you for your advice and I really do appreciate it and looking for help and guidance.. | iwm4qs3 | iwltqwy | 1,668,620,366 | 1,668,615,909 | 16 | 3 | Get a lawyer. It will be far quicker and cheaper to hire a lawyer to properly evict her. If you fuck up an eviction in a state with tenants rights, you could end up paying quite significantly for it | You can evict her. | 1 | 4,457 | 5.333333 |
ywvpa1 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Late dad’s girlfriend won’t leave house. What are my options? Hello all. To make this short, my(26)father passed away and left his home to me under his will. In this house, we used to live as 4. My dad, his girlfriend, her son, and me. She’s been living here for about 5 years, but I do not have a good relationship with her as I have never had a liking to her. (Destroyed my late mother’s property when she moved in) I want her out, but she is refusing saying I can’t because she is a resident here now and her son is also in her care. What are my options to get her out? I don’t know the situation arrangement of how my late father and her split the bills previously, but since it is under my name now, that shouldn’t matter right? Thank you for your advice and I really do appreciate it and looking for help and guidance.. | iwmimnl | iwmpmf7 | 1,668,625,877 | 1,668,628,621 | 6 | 9 | She is a tenant. Her son is a tenant. Property owner (you assuming title is in your name now) need to evict them. It sounds like she won't do it easily. Get a lawyer who can file to evict her. Lawyer can also negotiate Cash-for-keys to get her to leave voluntarily. | You would have to legally evict her through the court. | 0 | 2,744 | 1.5 |
ywvpa1 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Late dad’s girlfriend won’t leave house. What are my options? Hello all. To make this short, my(26)father passed away and left his home to me under his will. In this house, we used to live as 4. My dad, his girlfriend, her son, and me. She’s been living here for about 5 years, but I do not have a good relationship with her as I have never had a liking to her. (Destroyed my late mother’s property when she moved in) I want her out, but she is refusing saying I can’t because she is a resident here now and her son is also in her care. What are my options to get her out? I don’t know the situation arrangement of how my late father and her split the bills previously, but since it is under my name now, that shouldn’t matter right? Thank you for your advice and I really do appreciate it and looking for help and guidance.. | iwmnoyg | iwmimnl | 1,668,627,865 | 1,668,625,877 | 7 | 6 | If you still live in the property, you'd be considered a live-in landlord. It looks like you'd only need to issue a notice to quit rather than formal eviction proceedings. | She is a tenant. Her son is a tenant. Property owner (you assuming title is in your name now) need to evict them. It sounds like she won't do it easily. Get a lawyer who can file to evict her. Lawyer can also negotiate Cash-for-keys to get her to leave voluntarily. | 1 | 1,988 | 1.166667 |
ywvpa1 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Late dad’s girlfriend won’t leave house. What are my options? Hello all. To make this short, my(26)father passed away and left his home to me under his will. In this house, we used to live as 4. My dad, his girlfriend, her son, and me. She’s been living here for about 5 years, but I do not have a good relationship with her as I have never had a liking to her. (Destroyed my late mother’s property when she moved in) I want her out, but she is refusing saying I can’t because she is a resident here now and her son is also in her care. What are my options to get her out? I don’t know the situation arrangement of how my late father and her split the bills previously, but since it is under my name now, that shouldn’t matter right? Thank you for your advice and I really do appreciate it and looking for help and guidance.. | iwltqwy | iwmimnl | 1,668,615,909 | 1,668,625,877 | 3 | 6 | You can evict her. | She is a tenant. Her son is a tenant. Property owner (you assuming title is in your name now) need to evict them. It sounds like she won't do it easily. Get a lawyer who can file to evict her. Lawyer can also negotiate Cash-for-keys to get her to leave voluntarily. | 0 | 9,968 | 2 |
ywvpa1 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Late dad’s girlfriend won’t leave house. What are my options? Hello all. To make this short, my(26)father passed away and left his home to me under his will. In this house, we used to live as 4. My dad, his girlfriend, her son, and me. She’s been living here for about 5 years, but I do not have a good relationship with her as I have never had a liking to her. (Destroyed my late mother’s property when she moved in) I want her out, but she is refusing saying I can’t because she is a resident here now and her son is also in her care. What are my options to get her out? I don’t know the situation arrangement of how my late father and her split the bills previously, but since it is under my name now, that shouldn’t matter right? Thank you for your advice and I really do appreciate it and looking for help and guidance.. | iwmimnl | iwmbh21 | 1,668,625,877 | 1,668,623,061 | 6 | 5 | She is a tenant. Her son is a tenant. Property owner (you assuming title is in your name now) need to evict them. It sounds like she won't do it easily. Get a lawyer who can file to evict her. Lawyer can also negotiate Cash-for-keys to get her to leave voluntarily. | You can also offer her cash for keys. This is often faster, cheaper, and with less drama than an eviction. | 1 | 2,816 | 1.2 |
ywvpa1 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Late dad’s girlfriend won’t leave house. What are my options? Hello all. To make this short, my(26)father passed away and left his home to me under his will. In this house, we used to live as 4. My dad, his girlfriend, her son, and me. She’s been living here for about 5 years, but I do not have a good relationship with her as I have never had a liking to her. (Destroyed my late mother’s property when she moved in) I want her out, but she is refusing saying I can’t because she is a resident here now and her son is also in her care. What are my options to get her out? I don’t know the situation arrangement of how my late father and her split the bills previously, but since it is under my name now, that shouldn’t matter right? Thank you for your advice and I really do appreciate it and looking for help and guidance.. | iwmpmf7 | iwm9ujh | 1,668,628,621 | 1,668,622,415 | 9 | 6 | You would have to legally evict her through the court. | Did you hire a lawyer to probate the will? Lawyer can also help you with eviction notice to remove her from the home. | 1 | 6,206 | 1.5 |
ywvpa1 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Late dad’s girlfriend won’t leave house. What are my options? Hello all. To make this short, my(26)father passed away and left his home to me under his will. In this house, we used to live as 4. My dad, his girlfriend, her son, and me. She’s been living here for about 5 years, but I do not have a good relationship with her as I have never had a liking to her. (Destroyed my late mother’s property when she moved in) I want her out, but she is refusing saying I can’t because she is a resident here now and her son is also in her care. What are my options to get her out? I don’t know the situation arrangement of how my late father and her split the bills previously, but since it is under my name now, that shouldn’t matter right? Thank you for your advice and I really do appreciate it and looking for help and guidance.. | iwmnoyg | iwmpmf7 | 1,668,627,865 | 1,668,628,621 | 7 | 9 | If you still live in the property, you'd be considered a live-in landlord. It looks like you'd only need to issue a notice to quit rather than formal eviction proceedings. | You would have to legally evict her through the court. | 0 | 756 | 1.285714 |
ywvpa1 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Late dad’s girlfriend won’t leave house. What are my options? Hello all. To make this short, my(26)father passed away and left his home to me under his will. In this house, we used to live as 4. My dad, his girlfriend, her son, and me. She’s been living here for about 5 years, but I do not have a good relationship with her as I have never had a liking to her. (Destroyed my late mother’s property when she moved in) I want her out, but she is refusing saying I can’t because she is a resident here now and her son is also in her care. What are my options to get her out? I don’t know the situation arrangement of how my late father and her split the bills previously, but since it is under my name now, that shouldn’t matter right? Thank you for your advice and I really do appreciate it and looking for help and guidance.. | iwmpmf7 | iwltqwy | 1,668,628,621 | 1,668,615,909 | 9 | 3 | You would have to legally evict her through the court. | You can evict her. | 1 | 12,712 | 3 |
ywvpa1 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Late dad’s girlfriend won’t leave house. What are my options? Hello all. To make this short, my(26)father passed away and left his home to me under his will. In this house, we used to live as 4. My dad, his girlfriend, her son, and me. She’s been living here for about 5 years, but I do not have a good relationship with her as I have never had a liking to her. (Destroyed my late mother’s property when she moved in) I want her out, but she is refusing saying I can’t because she is a resident here now and her son is also in her care. What are my options to get her out? I don’t know the situation arrangement of how my late father and her split the bills previously, but since it is under my name now, that shouldn’t matter right? Thank you for your advice and I really do appreciate it and looking for help and guidance.. | iwmpmf7 | iwmbh21 | 1,668,628,621 | 1,668,623,061 | 9 | 5 | You would have to legally evict her through the court. | You can also offer her cash for keys. This is often faster, cheaper, and with less drama than an eviction. | 1 | 5,560 | 1.8 |
ywvpa1 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Late dad’s girlfriend won’t leave house. What are my options? Hello all. To make this short, my(26)father passed away and left his home to me under his will. In this house, we used to live as 4. My dad, his girlfriend, her son, and me. She’s been living here for about 5 years, but I do not have a good relationship with her as I have never had a liking to her. (Destroyed my late mother’s property when she moved in) I want her out, but she is refusing saying I can’t because she is a resident here now and her son is also in her care. What are my options to get her out? I don’t know the situation arrangement of how my late father and her split the bills previously, but since it is under my name now, that shouldn’t matter right? Thank you for your advice and I really do appreciate it and looking for help and guidance.. | iwmnoyg | iwm9ujh | 1,668,627,865 | 1,668,622,415 | 7 | 6 | If you still live in the property, you'd be considered a live-in landlord. It looks like you'd only need to issue a notice to quit rather than formal eviction proceedings. | Did you hire a lawyer to probate the will? Lawyer can also help you with eviction notice to remove her from the home. | 1 | 5,450 | 1.166667 |
ywvpa1 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Late dad’s girlfriend won’t leave house. What are my options? Hello all. To make this short, my(26)father passed away and left his home to me under his will. In this house, we used to live as 4. My dad, his girlfriend, her son, and me. She’s been living here for about 5 years, but I do not have a good relationship with her as I have never had a liking to her. (Destroyed my late mother’s property when she moved in) I want her out, but she is refusing saying I can’t because she is a resident here now and her son is also in her care. What are my options to get her out? I don’t know the situation arrangement of how my late father and her split the bills previously, but since it is under my name now, that shouldn’t matter right? Thank you for your advice and I really do appreciate it and looking for help and guidance.. | iwm9ujh | iwltqwy | 1,668,622,415 | 1,668,615,909 | 6 | 3 | Did you hire a lawyer to probate the will? Lawyer can also help you with eviction notice to remove her from the home. | You can evict her. | 1 | 6,506 | 2 |
ywvpa1 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Late dad’s girlfriend won’t leave house. What are my options? Hello all. To make this short, my(26)father passed away and left his home to me under his will. In this house, we used to live as 4. My dad, his girlfriend, her son, and me. She’s been living here for about 5 years, but I do not have a good relationship with her as I have never had a liking to her. (Destroyed my late mother’s property when she moved in) I want her out, but she is refusing saying I can’t because she is a resident here now and her son is also in her care. What are my options to get her out? I don’t know the situation arrangement of how my late father and her split the bills previously, but since it is under my name now, that shouldn’t matter right? Thank you for your advice and I really do appreciate it and looking for help and guidance.. | iwltqwy | iwmnoyg | 1,668,615,909 | 1,668,627,865 | 3 | 7 | You can evict her. | If you still live in the property, you'd be considered a live-in landlord. It looks like you'd only need to issue a notice to quit rather than formal eviction proceedings. | 0 | 11,956 | 2.333333 |
ywvpa1 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Late dad’s girlfriend won’t leave house. What are my options? Hello all. To make this short, my(26)father passed away and left his home to me under his will. In this house, we used to live as 4. My dad, his girlfriend, her son, and me. She’s been living here for about 5 years, but I do not have a good relationship with her as I have never had a liking to her. (Destroyed my late mother’s property when she moved in) I want her out, but she is refusing saying I can’t because she is a resident here now and her son is also in her care. What are my options to get her out? I don’t know the situation arrangement of how my late father and her split the bills previously, but since it is under my name now, that shouldn’t matter right? Thank you for your advice and I really do appreciate it and looking for help and guidance.. | iwmbh21 | iwmnoyg | 1,668,623,061 | 1,668,627,865 | 5 | 7 | You can also offer her cash for keys. This is often faster, cheaper, and with less drama than an eviction. | If you still live in the property, you'd be considered a live-in landlord. It looks like you'd only need to issue a notice to quit rather than formal eviction proceedings. | 0 | 4,804 | 1.4 |
ywvpa1 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Late dad’s girlfriend won’t leave house. What are my options? Hello all. To make this short, my(26)father passed away and left his home to me under his will. In this house, we used to live as 4. My dad, his girlfriend, her son, and me. She’s been living here for about 5 years, but I do not have a good relationship with her as I have never had a liking to her. (Destroyed my late mother’s property when she moved in) I want her out, but she is refusing saying I can’t because she is a resident here now and her son is also in her care. What are my options to get her out? I don’t know the situation arrangement of how my late father and her split the bills previously, but since it is under my name now, that shouldn’t matter right? Thank you for your advice and I really do appreciate it and looking for help and guidance.. | iwltqwy | iwmbh21 | 1,668,615,909 | 1,668,623,061 | 3 | 5 | You can evict her. | You can also offer her cash for keys. This is often faster, cheaper, and with less drama than an eviction. | 0 | 7,152 | 1.666667 |
topxq0 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My girlfriends parents are denying any and all physical/mental health problems she has and are refusing to take her to a doctor. She has had a bloody nose basically everyday for the last 4 months straight, severe mental health issues and so many more physical health problems. Shes a minor and I am a minor so I don't know what I can do to help her get the attention she needs. Is it even legal for her parents to deny her any kind of medical attention? P.S. I don't know if this is the right tag for this kind of post | i2749wn | i271s7b | 1,648,306,031 | 1,648,304,884 | 85 | 17 | You can call CPS, or have her speak with a mandated reported (this would mainly be a teacher in her case, I suppose, since she is not in contact with doctors or therapists), who will be required to report medical neglect. What happens from there is dependent on what CPS finds and how they decide to act. | Is it wise to anonymously inform child protection services? | 1 | 1,147 | 5 |
topxq0 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My girlfriends parents are denying any and all physical/mental health problems she has and are refusing to take her to a doctor. She has had a bloody nose basically everyday for the last 4 months straight, severe mental health issues and so many more physical health problems. Shes a minor and I am a minor so I don't know what I can do to help her get the attention she needs. Is it even legal for her parents to deny her any kind of medical attention? P.S. I don't know if this is the right tag for this kind of post | i271s7b | i288n96 | 1,648,304,884 | 1,648,323,646 | 17 | 23 | Is it wise to anonymously inform child protection services? | You can call CPS. It sounds like this is medical neglect. | 0 | 18,762 | 1.352941 |
79dxrp | legaladvice_train | 0.84 | (NY) Coworker attempting to frame me for sexual harassment so he can get my promotion. I work in an office setting. Recently a manager position opened up that I was a great fit for. A coworker was a similarly good fit, but I was confident that I would get it. I have more experience and have been here longer. Unfortunately, before a decision could be made there was a sexual harassment event. A female worker found a large *sex toy* in her drawer in the morning. When I heard the news I knew it would cost me the promotion and maybe my job. The issue was, many years ago when I first started, I had put a similar sex toy in a woman’s drawer as a prank. I got in big trouble and learned my lesson. Everyone knows that it was me, including my rival. I think he staged the new sex toy so everyone would assume it was me again. Walk me through my options. | dpb45ng | dp16v1q | 1,509,744,052 | 1,509,241,283 | 43 | 28 | Troll account don't feed him | Does your office have surveillance cameras? | 1 | 502,769 | 1.535714 |
79dxrp | legaladvice_train | 0.84 | (NY) Coworker attempting to frame me for sexual harassment so he can get my promotion. I work in an office setting. Recently a manager position opened up that I was a great fit for. A coworker was a similarly good fit, but I was confident that I would get it. I have more experience and have been here longer. Unfortunately, before a decision could be made there was a sexual harassment event. A female worker found a large *sex toy* in her drawer in the morning. When I heard the news I knew it would cost me the promotion and maybe my job. The issue was, many years ago when I first started, I had put a similar sex toy in a woman’s drawer as a prank. I got in big trouble and learned my lesson. Everyone knows that it was me, including my rival. I think he staged the new sex toy so everyone would assume it was me again. Walk me through my options. | dp1aqmr | dpb45ng | 1,509,246,762 | 1,509,744,052 | 23 | 43 | Go back in time and don’t do it the first time. If a time machine is not available, it might be time to look for a new job without that in your history. There are certain things that paint people in a particular light no matter how hard they work to change their image, and this is an ugly reminder that you *did* do it once, even if you are innocent this time. | Troll account don't feed him | 0 | 497,290 | 1.869565 |
79dxrp | legaladvice_train | 0.84 | (NY) Coworker attempting to frame me for sexual harassment so he can get my promotion. I work in an office setting. Recently a manager position opened up that I was a great fit for. A coworker was a similarly good fit, but I was confident that I would get it. I have more experience and have been here longer. Unfortunately, before a decision could be made there was a sexual harassment event. A female worker found a large *sex toy* in her drawer in the morning. When I heard the news I knew it would cost me the promotion and maybe my job. The issue was, many years ago when I first started, I had put a similar sex toy in a woman’s drawer as a prank. I got in big trouble and learned my lesson. Everyone knows that it was me, including my rival. I think he staged the new sex toy so everyone would assume it was me again. Walk me through my options. | dp16wn6 | dpb45ng | 1,509,241,346 | 1,509,744,052 | 7 | 43 | Ignore it? If you didn't do it, you didn't do it. | Troll account don't feed him | 0 | 502,706 | 6.142857 |
79dxrp | legaladvice_train | 0.84 | (NY) Coworker attempting to frame me for sexual harassment so he can get my promotion. I work in an office setting. Recently a manager position opened up that I was a great fit for. A coworker was a similarly good fit, but I was confident that I would get it. I have more experience and have been here longer. Unfortunately, before a decision could be made there was a sexual harassment event. A female worker found a large *sex toy* in her drawer in the morning. When I heard the news I knew it would cost me the promotion and maybe my job. The issue was, many years ago when I first started, I had put a similar sex toy in a woman’s drawer as a prank. I got in big trouble and learned my lesson. Everyone knows that it was me, including my rival. I think he staged the new sex toy so everyone would assume it was me again. Walk me through my options. | dpb45ng | dp1pwwu | 1,509,744,052 | 1,509,284,063 | 43 | 7 | Troll account don't feed him | Go talk to your bosses first and tell them it wasn't you and that you learned your lesson the first time around. Don't bring your coworker into it unless you have proof. Good luck. | 1 | 459,989 | 6.142857 |
79dxrp | legaladvice_train | 0.84 | (NY) Coworker attempting to frame me for sexual harassment so he can get my promotion. I work in an office setting. Recently a manager position opened up that I was a great fit for. A coworker was a similarly good fit, but I was confident that I would get it. I have more experience and have been here longer. Unfortunately, before a decision could be made there was a sexual harassment event. A female worker found a large *sex toy* in her drawer in the morning. When I heard the news I knew it would cost me the promotion and maybe my job. The issue was, many years ago when I first started, I had put a similar sex toy in a woman’s drawer as a prank. I got in big trouble and learned my lesson. Everyone knows that it was me, including my rival. I think he staged the new sex toy so everyone would assume it was me again. Walk me through my options. | dp1aqmr | dp16wn6 | 1,509,246,762 | 1,509,241,346 | 23 | 7 | Go back in time and don’t do it the first time. If a time machine is not available, it might be time to look for a new job without that in your history. There are certain things that paint people in a particular light no matter how hard they work to change their image, and this is an ugly reminder that you *did* do it once, even if you are innocent this time. | Ignore it? If you didn't do it, you didn't do it. | 1 | 5,416 | 3.285714 |
un0guo | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Severe accident caused by drunk driver, could have been prevented by Brevard County Sheriff (FL) Last night, I was rear ended by a drunk driver who fled the scene of the accident. During the hour or so I waited for police to locate him, I heard the county Sheriff telling another officer that he’d spoken with the man earlier that night and told him “not to drive.” After calling and speaking with the State Trooper who had arrived on scene of the wreck, I asked for closure on the incident and inquired as to why the drunk driver was not charged with a DUI in court today. During the phone call with the Trooper, he informed me that the county Sheriff had been called to the man’s residence prior for domestic battery. While the police were there, they determined the man was extremely intoxicated and advised him not to drive that evening. Well, he drove anyways and would have killed my spouse, my dog, and myself if it weren’t for the fact we were driving a tank of a truck. So here’s the kicker, our drunk friend was awaiting trial and already on probation (he’s a real piece of work with multiple felony charges). The State Trooper informed that him being intoxicated means the officers should have arrested him on the spot. If their job had been done correctly, my truck wouldn’t be totaled and my family wouldn’t be experiencing severe pain. However, when making a call to the County Sheriff who had responded to the battery call, he informed me that there was “no probable cause” and therefore he didn’t make an arrest. So my question Reddit dwellers is: What legal actions can I take from here? I feel as though the Brevard County Sheriff’s Department failed and it’s directly effected me financially, physically, and emotionally. | i85eyit | i853tjq | 1,652,247,285 | 1,652,240,686 | 523 | 107 | Read up on Castle Rock v Gonzales. Much clearer pattern that law enforcement failing to enforce the law caused direct damage. Court ruled that there's no obligation there to a citizen. Even if he got in his car and drove away in plain view of the officers and they opted to drive away instead of pull him over, they're not liable for any harm he causes. You have no right to be protected from crime by police. If they fail to do so, there is no right they've violated. | He wasn’t driving. If there was no probable cause as to the DV they couldn’t arrest him only for being drunk at home. Were they supposed to sit there all night and make sure he didn’t drive? You’ve got no case. | 1 | 6,599 | 4.88785 |
un0guo | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Severe accident caused by drunk driver, could have been prevented by Brevard County Sheriff (FL) Last night, I was rear ended by a drunk driver who fled the scene of the accident. During the hour or so I waited for police to locate him, I heard the county Sheriff telling another officer that he’d spoken with the man earlier that night and told him “not to drive.” After calling and speaking with the State Trooper who had arrived on scene of the wreck, I asked for closure on the incident and inquired as to why the drunk driver was not charged with a DUI in court today. During the phone call with the Trooper, he informed me that the county Sheriff had been called to the man’s residence prior for domestic battery. While the police were there, they determined the man was extremely intoxicated and advised him not to drive that evening. Well, he drove anyways and would have killed my spouse, my dog, and myself if it weren’t for the fact we were driving a tank of a truck. So here’s the kicker, our drunk friend was awaiting trial and already on probation (he’s a real piece of work with multiple felony charges). The State Trooper informed that him being intoxicated means the officers should have arrested him on the spot. If their job had been done correctly, my truck wouldn’t be totaled and my family wouldn’t be experiencing severe pain. However, when making a call to the County Sheriff who had responded to the battery call, he informed me that there was “no probable cause” and therefore he didn’t make an arrest. So my question Reddit dwellers is: What legal actions can I take from here? I feel as though the Brevard County Sheriff’s Department failed and it’s directly effected me financially, physically, and emotionally. | i85eyit | i852q5r | 1,652,247,285 | 1,652,240,126 | 523 | 58 | Read up on Castle Rock v Gonzales. Much clearer pattern that law enforcement failing to enforce the law caused direct damage. Court ruled that there's no obligation there to a citizen. Even if he got in his car and drove away in plain view of the officers and they opted to drive away instead of pull him over, they're not liable for any harm he causes. You have no right to be protected from crime by police. If they fail to do so, there is no right they've violated. | There’s no legal action to take as to the sheriff here. | 1 | 7,159 | 9.017241 |
un0guo | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Severe accident caused by drunk driver, could have been prevented by Brevard County Sheriff (FL) Last night, I was rear ended by a drunk driver who fled the scene of the accident. During the hour or so I waited for police to locate him, I heard the county Sheriff telling another officer that he’d spoken with the man earlier that night and told him “not to drive.” After calling and speaking with the State Trooper who had arrived on scene of the wreck, I asked for closure on the incident and inquired as to why the drunk driver was not charged with a DUI in court today. During the phone call with the Trooper, he informed me that the county Sheriff had been called to the man’s residence prior for domestic battery. While the police were there, they determined the man was extremely intoxicated and advised him not to drive that evening. Well, he drove anyways and would have killed my spouse, my dog, and myself if it weren’t for the fact we were driving a tank of a truck. So here’s the kicker, our drunk friend was awaiting trial and already on probation (he’s a real piece of work with multiple felony charges). The State Trooper informed that him being intoxicated means the officers should have arrested him on the spot. If their job had been done correctly, my truck wouldn’t be totaled and my family wouldn’t be experiencing severe pain. However, when making a call to the County Sheriff who had responded to the battery call, he informed me that there was “no probable cause” and therefore he didn’t make an arrest. So my question Reddit dwellers is: What legal actions can I take from here? I feel as though the Brevard County Sheriff’s Department failed and it’s directly effected me financially, physically, and emotionally. | i852q5r | i853tjq | 1,652,240,126 | 1,652,240,686 | 58 | 107 | There’s no legal action to take as to the sheriff here. | He wasn’t driving. If there was no probable cause as to the DV they couldn’t arrest him only for being drunk at home. Were they supposed to sit there all night and make sure he didn’t drive? You’ve got no case. | 0 | 560 | 1.844828 |
un0guo | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Severe accident caused by drunk driver, could have been prevented by Brevard County Sheriff (FL) Last night, I was rear ended by a drunk driver who fled the scene of the accident. During the hour or so I waited for police to locate him, I heard the county Sheriff telling another officer that he’d spoken with the man earlier that night and told him “not to drive.” After calling and speaking with the State Trooper who had arrived on scene of the wreck, I asked for closure on the incident and inquired as to why the drunk driver was not charged with a DUI in court today. During the phone call with the Trooper, he informed me that the county Sheriff had been called to the man’s residence prior for domestic battery. While the police were there, they determined the man was extremely intoxicated and advised him not to drive that evening. Well, he drove anyways and would have killed my spouse, my dog, and myself if it weren’t for the fact we were driving a tank of a truck. So here’s the kicker, our drunk friend was awaiting trial and already on probation (he’s a real piece of work with multiple felony charges). The State Trooper informed that him being intoxicated means the officers should have arrested him on the spot. If their job had been done correctly, my truck wouldn’t be totaled and my family wouldn’t be experiencing severe pain. However, when making a call to the County Sheriff who had responded to the battery call, he informed me that there was “no probable cause” and therefore he didn’t make an arrest. So my question Reddit dwellers is: What legal actions can I take from here? I feel as though the Brevard County Sheriff’s Department failed and it’s directly effected me financially, physically, and emotionally. | i8662f3 | i86w1ud | 1,652,268,568 | 1,652,280,731 | 5 | 8 | As said the legal side would be a major uphill battle you would probably not win on the Police/Sheriff side. What you can do is sit down and write out what happened, just the bare facts. Let your insurance company know and also file a claim with the other drivers insurance if you have not yet. Contact a injury attorney if the other person has a policy. Then file a formal complaint in writing with the Sheriff’s office and also local elected representatives. See if they will make a new policy or do something different next time. That’s about the extent of what you can do now. Police have a lot of immunity and court protections. What happened to you is just the tip of what they legally can do. | The Supreme Court has ruled in a number of cases that the police have no duty to protect any individual. The BCSD is in the clear on this. | 0 | 12,163 | 1.6 |
40y2px | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [AL] Roommate refuses to stop smoking inside the apartment and I was sent to the ER with a severe asthma attack. Do I have grounds to recover my medical bills or break my lease? I'm a college student in Alabama. I live in a University affiliated (not university owned) apartment. The apartment has four separate suites in it with a shared kitchen/living room and also a balcony. We do not pick our own roommates, they are assigned to us. When I signed the lease, I was assured that the apartments were non-smoking and that all smoking is required to be done on the balcony. This was mentioned in the lease as well as a clause stating that anyone caught smoking would be fined $250. Last week, a new roommate moved into the apartment. She seemed like a nice girl, but she insisted on smoking inside and refused to go out on the balcony. I told her that I have severe asthma and that she would not be able to smoke around me without causing me severe health problems, but she disregarded this and still refused to go out on the balcony. I went to our leasing office and showed them photos of her smoking, but all they have done is fine her the $250. They said that they cannot evict her and that I cannot switch apartments to live with a different set of roommates. I was assured that I would not be responsible for the fine, but they have refused to intervene in the situation. Two nights ago, I came home from class and the house was full of smoke. I had to study so I locked myself in my room and turned on a fan to air the room out. I woke up in the middle of the night with a severe asthma attack and had to call an ambulance to take me to the hospital. While being treated, the doctor asked me why I smelled like cigarette smoke and he wrote in my records that the asthma attack appeared to be caused by exposure to second hand smoke. My question is, do I have any form of recourse for this hospital bill and/or can I break my lease over this? I have done everything that I can to manage my asthma, but none of that matters if I am exposed to this smoke. She isn't even allowed to be smoking in this apartment and I would not have signed a lease here if I knew that I would be living with a smoker. | cyy07r2 | cyy01jj | 1,452,787,416 | 1,452,787,160 | 141 | 32 | You have questions about money and who owes whom what. But your first priority should be protecting your health. Figure out what you need to do to protect your health and work out the debts as a secondary matter. The first question is whether your roommate will continue to smoke inside, even after you were sent in an ambulance to the hospital. Does she realize you're not making this up now? Has she promised to stop? You should at least ask again for her to stop smoking inside, show her the doctor's report, (and the lease, for good measure) and see if she won't stop doing this. Make it clear that she cannot smoke inside at all without making the apartment uninhabitable for you. Also, tell the leasing office that on days when someone has smoked inside, the apartment is not habitable for you. Inform them about the incident when you were sent to the hospital and tell them that if you have to, you will go to a motel when it's necessary for your health, and that they will be responsible for the costs because you pay them for habitable housing. (Put this in writing too, for good measure). And tell them that if this happens more than three times in the next month you will simply find another place to live and stop paying them rent. Before you actually DO that, though, get legal representation, hopefully you can get that through the college. The idea of this threat is to get them to either (1) move you to another apartment with non-smoking roommates (or at least ones that don't smoke inside), (2) evict your smoking roommate (which they absolutely can do, they just don't feel like it) and move in a roommate that will follow the rules in the lease, (3) pay for a motel now and then, or (4) release you from your lease entirely. | You did say the apartments are not owned by the university, but maybe the school's housing department could point you in the right direction? I know one of the big schools in AL is pretty good with working with off campus housing (from what friends have told me). | 1 | 256 | 4.40625 |
40y2px | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [AL] Roommate refuses to stop smoking inside the apartment and I was sent to the ER with a severe asthma attack. Do I have grounds to recover my medical bills or break my lease? I'm a college student in Alabama. I live in a University affiliated (not university owned) apartment. The apartment has four separate suites in it with a shared kitchen/living room and also a balcony. We do not pick our own roommates, they are assigned to us. When I signed the lease, I was assured that the apartments were non-smoking and that all smoking is required to be done on the balcony. This was mentioned in the lease as well as a clause stating that anyone caught smoking would be fined $250. Last week, a new roommate moved into the apartment. She seemed like a nice girl, but she insisted on smoking inside and refused to go out on the balcony. I told her that I have severe asthma and that she would not be able to smoke around me without causing me severe health problems, but she disregarded this and still refused to go out on the balcony. I went to our leasing office and showed them photos of her smoking, but all they have done is fine her the $250. They said that they cannot evict her and that I cannot switch apartments to live with a different set of roommates. I was assured that I would not be responsible for the fine, but they have refused to intervene in the situation. Two nights ago, I came home from class and the house was full of smoke. I had to study so I locked myself in my room and turned on a fan to air the room out. I woke up in the middle of the night with a severe asthma attack and had to call an ambulance to take me to the hospital. While being treated, the doctor asked me why I smelled like cigarette smoke and he wrote in my records that the asthma attack appeared to be caused by exposure to second hand smoke. My question is, do I have any form of recourse for this hospital bill and/or can I break my lease over this? I have done everything that I can to manage my asthma, but none of that matters if I am exposed to this smoke. She isn't even allowed to be smoking in this apartment and I would not have signed a lease here if I knew that I would be living with a smoker. | cyy01jj | cyy19kc | 1,452,787,160 | 1,452,788,972 | 32 | 65 | You did say the apartments are not owned by the university, but maybe the school's housing department could point you in the right direction? I know one of the big schools in AL is pretty good with working with off campus housing (from what friends have told me). | Be sure to take a picture of her every single time she smokes. If she gets fined $250 per day she will stop, perhaps. | 0 | 1,812 | 2.03125 |
40y2px | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [AL] Roommate refuses to stop smoking inside the apartment and I was sent to the ER with a severe asthma attack. Do I have grounds to recover my medical bills or break my lease? I'm a college student in Alabama. I live in a University affiliated (not university owned) apartment. The apartment has four separate suites in it with a shared kitchen/living room and also a balcony. We do not pick our own roommates, they are assigned to us. When I signed the lease, I was assured that the apartments were non-smoking and that all smoking is required to be done on the balcony. This was mentioned in the lease as well as a clause stating that anyone caught smoking would be fined $250. Last week, a new roommate moved into the apartment. She seemed like a nice girl, but she insisted on smoking inside and refused to go out on the balcony. I told her that I have severe asthma and that she would not be able to smoke around me without causing me severe health problems, but she disregarded this and still refused to go out on the balcony. I went to our leasing office and showed them photos of her smoking, but all they have done is fine her the $250. They said that they cannot evict her and that I cannot switch apartments to live with a different set of roommates. I was assured that I would not be responsible for the fine, but they have refused to intervene in the situation. Two nights ago, I came home from class and the house was full of smoke. I had to study so I locked myself in my room and turned on a fan to air the room out. I woke up in the middle of the night with a severe asthma attack and had to call an ambulance to take me to the hospital. While being treated, the doctor asked me why I smelled like cigarette smoke and he wrote in my records that the asthma attack appeared to be caused by exposure to second hand smoke. My question is, do I have any form of recourse for this hospital bill and/or can I break my lease over this? I have done everything that I can to manage my asthma, but none of that matters if I am exposed to this smoke. She isn't even allowed to be smoking in this apartment and I would not have signed a lease here if I knew that I would be living with a smoker. | cyyu017 | cyya5cu | 1,452,830,984 | 1,452,800,989 | 5 | 2 | Another thing you might consider if she still refuses to stop smoking inside is to talk to your lawyer about filing a police report for reckless endangerment, and use that for a restraining order. If you have a restraining order, they would HAVE to make her move. Personally, I'd have bought a super soaker by now, and told her that if I saw smoke, I would assume she was on fire, and take the appropriate measures. | For the love of Krishna. I'm not a lawyer, but I just want to give some input here. If I were in this situation, this woman could quite literally have murdered me. I'm so severely allergic to tobacco smoke that I would likely die from too much exposure in a short time. Lock me in room with a smoker for five minutes and I'd be dead^1 . Your case doesn't seem to be as bad as mine, but it's still pretty bad. Take care of your health first and foremost because nothing is worse than failing health. Nothing is worth the feeling that you can't breathe. I've been close to death due to this and it's not fun. My recommendation is to never go back to that apartment again while the smoker is present. Perhaps have one of the friendlier roommates help with moving your stuff out to a place where you won't die just for living there. To the lawyers, is OP allowed to vacate the apartment as long as one still pays according to the lease? And would those costs be recoverable should one decide to sure the apartment complex or the woman for breaking the lease? ^1 : I would be dead, if I hadn't stopped the smoker in self-defense. Edit: Formatting. | 1 | 29,995 | 2.5 |
oxznv1 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I have sunbathed nude on my patio for 25 years, thanks to an 8-foot privacy fence, and trees that go even higher. The 1-story house next to me was demolished, and replaced with a 2-story house that has several upstairs windows facing my nude sunbathing area. What are my options? (Lee County, FL). I have enjoyed nude sunbathing on my patio for 25 years, thanks to an 8-foot privacy fence, and trees that go even higher. Recently, the 1-story house next to me was demolished, and replaced with a 2-story house that has several windows with a direct line of sight to my nude sunbathing area. 1. If I continue my nude sunbathing and am seen, is this illegal? They're the ones who built windows looking over my fence. 2. For the sake of my own privacy, can I force them to pay for installing trees or shades to block the view? Why should I have to pay for thirty foot tall trees when they're the ones who built the house? Thanks! | h7pqdbb | h7pn9i1 | 1,628,105,258 | 1,628,103,945 | 346 | 198 | I am not a lawyer Public nudity is not per say illegal in Florida. It requires lewd acts to accompany the nudity, for criminal indecent exposure. Not that your own private back yard is considered public even if it can be seen from public property. So a higher burden exists as well. But no there is no general cause of action that can allow you to force them to give you privacy. | Plenty of places let you be naked in your own back yard. It looks like Florida is (not at all shockingly) one of them. You can be naked. You’re each free to decide whether you want to pay for any shrubbery for privacy, but neither of you can be forced to cover that cost. | 1 | 1,313 | 1.747475 |
oxznv1 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I have sunbathed nude on my patio for 25 years, thanks to an 8-foot privacy fence, and trees that go even higher. The 1-story house next to me was demolished, and replaced with a 2-story house that has several upstairs windows facing my nude sunbathing area. What are my options? (Lee County, FL). I have enjoyed nude sunbathing on my patio for 25 years, thanks to an 8-foot privacy fence, and trees that go even higher. Recently, the 1-story house next to me was demolished, and replaced with a 2-story house that has several windows with a direct line of sight to my nude sunbathing area. 1. If I continue my nude sunbathing and am seen, is this illegal? They're the ones who built windows looking over my fence. 2. For the sake of my own privacy, can I force them to pay for installing trees or shades to block the view? Why should I have to pay for thirty foot tall trees when they're the ones who built the house? Thanks! | h7pqdbb | h7pmpp2 | 1,628,105,258 | 1,628,103,715 | 346 | 121 | I am not a lawyer Public nudity is not per say illegal in Florida. It requires lewd acts to accompany the nudity, for criminal indecent exposure. Not that your own private back yard is considered public even if it can be seen from public property. So a higher burden exists as well. But no there is no general cause of action that can allow you to force them to give you privacy. | I can't answer number 1 but for number 2, it's absurd to think you can force them to put up shades or plant trees to give you privacy so you can go nude. | 1 | 1,543 | 2.859504 |
oxznv1 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I have sunbathed nude on my patio for 25 years, thanks to an 8-foot privacy fence, and trees that go even higher. The 1-story house next to me was demolished, and replaced with a 2-story house that has several upstairs windows facing my nude sunbathing area. What are my options? (Lee County, FL). I have enjoyed nude sunbathing on my patio for 25 years, thanks to an 8-foot privacy fence, and trees that go even higher. Recently, the 1-story house next to me was demolished, and replaced with a 2-story house that has several windows with a direct line of sight to my nude sunbathing area. 1. If I continue my nude sunbathing and am seen, is this illegal? They're the ones who built windows looking over my fence. 2. For the sake of my own privacy, can I force them to pay for installing trees or shades to block the view? Why should I have to pay for thirty foot tall trees when they're the ones who built the house? Thanks! | h7pn9i1 | h7pmpp2 | 1,628,103,945 | 1,628,103,715 | 198 | 121 | Plenty of places let you be naked in your own back yard. It looks like Florida is (not at all shockingly) one of them. You can be naked. You’re each free to decide whether you want to pay for any shrubbery for privacy, but neither of you can be forced to cover that cost. | I can't answer number 1 but for number 2, it's absurd to think you can force them to put up shades or plant trees to give you privacy so you can go nude. | 1 | 230 | 1.636364 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zue3l | e7zq088 | 1,539,867,205 | 1,539,861,495 | 1,282 | 603 | Okay disclaimers. Graduated law school but not a lawyer. What I am is a psychologist who works with inpatient hospitalization and legal questions. Despite that, I am not your psychologist. ​ Here is what you need to know. There are times when, due to mental health concerns, someone can have their ability to make legal/financial/health care/etc. decisions taken away from them. It sounds like you aren't that bad off and hopefully no clinician would come to the same conclusion. The problem, as you've found out, is that other people can call this into question and lie about it. t's also unusual for it to be done for substance abuse issues but all that aside, there is a clear way you can address this. You want to look into having a pre-emptive person already outlined in the case someone has concerns. These are called psychiatric advance directives. It's similar to how you can let doctors know what to do with you if you fall into a coma. Examples of the forms for Illinois can be found here. The actual forms are not as necessary as clearly stating what you want to have happen or not happen. You can specify certain people you want to make choices for you and certain people that you do not want to make choices for you. "In the event that I require any sort of guardianship, power of attorney, or authorized representative to make decisions on my behalf, the following people should be appointed in this order....Under no circumstances should my mother, NAME, be appointed in any capacity. If the above people cannot serve in this function, a court appointed representative should be used in lieu of my mother." Include their contact information and carry it with you. You should still argue that you do not need one in any of these circumstances because you want to make these decisions on your own but this should at least solve your worst case scenario. | Take your mom off all your benefits and put someone else on there so there is no question as to your intentions. Close all joint accounts. Check your credit and freeze it. Lastly make sure she knows there is no money to gain from you, ever. Hopefully her behaviour changes and you can stay there long enough to get back on your feet. If she doesn't change though you need to get out. | 1 | 5,710 | 2.126036 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zqkgt | e7zue3l | 1,539,862,360 | 1,539,867,205 | 249 | 1,282 | So I'm not a lawyer, I'm a computer guy and I've only taken a cyberlaw class, this is not directly related to what you can do to protect yourself legally. I am a recovering alcoholic/drug addict. I pretty much only go to AA or occasionally SMART recovery. I've gone to NA meetings I just didn't like them as much plus there aren't as many compared to AA around me. I also only have a bit over 7 months sober so if someone whose been around longer has different advice feel free to chime in. Call your sponsor and explain your situation. Ask if they know anyone who may be willing to take you in for a bit. Also ask at meetings about housing assistance, half way houses, three quarter houses, sober living homes, etc. Whatever you think you need. The people at the meetings probably have experience with these and many are very willing to help. | Okay disclaimers. Graduated law school but not a lawyer. What I am is a psychologist who works with inpatient hospitalization and legal questions. Despite that, I am not your psychologist. ​ Here is what you need to know. There are times when, due to mental health concerns, someone can have their ability to make legal/financial/health care/etc. decisions taken away from them. It sounds like you aren't that bad off and hopefully no clinician would come to the same conclusion. The problem, as you've found out, is that other people can call this into question and lie about it. t's also unusual for it to be done for substance abuse issues but all that aside, there is a clear way you can address this. You want to look into having a pre-emptive person already outlined in the case someone has concerns. These are called psychiatric advance directives. It's similar to how you can let doctors know what to do with you if you fall into a coma. Examples of the forms for Illinois can be found here. The actual forms are not as necessary as clearly stating what you want to have happen or not happen. You can specify certain people you want to make choices for you and certain people that you do not want to make choices for you. "In the event that I require any sort of guardianship, power of attorney, or authorized representative to make decisions on my behalf, the following people should be appointed in this order....Under no circumstances should my mother, NAME, be appointed in any capacity. If the above people cannot serve in this function, a court appointed representative should be used in lieu of my mother." Include their contact information and carry it with you. You should still argue that you do not need one in any of these circumstances because you want to make these decisions on your own but this should at least solve your worst case scenario. | 0 | 4,845 | 5.148594 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zue3l | e7zs6fq | 1,539,867,205 | 1,539,864,594 | 1,282 | 210 | Okay disclaimers. Graduated law school but not a lawyer. What I am is a psychologist who works with inpatient hospitalization and legal questions. Despite that, I am not your psychologist. ​ Here is what you need to know. There are times when, due to mental health concerns, someone can have their ability to make legal/financial/health care/etc. decisions taken away from them. It sounds like you aren't that bad off and hopefully no clinician would come to the same conclusion. The problem, as you've found out, is that other people can call this into question and lie about it. t's also unusual for it to be done for substance abuse issues but all that aside, there is a clear way you can address this. You want to look into having a pre-emptive person already outlined in the case someone has concerns. These are called psychiatric advance directives. It's similar to how you can let doctors know what to do with you if you fall into a coma. Examples of the forms for Illinois can be found here. The actual forms are not as necessary as clearly stating what you want to have happen or not happen. You can specify certain people you want to make choices for you and certain people that you do not want to make choices for you. "In the event that I require any sort of guardianship, power of attorney, or authorized representative to make decisions on my behalf, the following people should be appointed in this order....Under no circumstances should my mother, NAME, be appointed in any capacity. If the above people cannot serve in this function, a court appointed representative should be used in lieu of my mother." Include their contact information and carry it with you. You should still argue that you do not need one in any of these circumstances because you want to make these decisions on your own but this should at least solve your worst case scenario. | In addition to what others have said, don't sign anything she asks you to sign. She may be trying to get a power of attorney, guardianship, or conservatorship over you. One signature from you could give her immense control over your life and be very hard to undo. On a side note, if someone contacts you telling you they are a guardian-ad-litem, make sure you DO respond and talk to them. A G-A-L is some one appointed by a court make an evaluation when a guardianship or conservatorship has been requested. The G-A-L is there to protect your interests. Be honest with them but be clear that you do not want a guardianship. | 1 | 2,611 | 6.104762 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zqpmt | e7zue3l | 1,539,862,576 | 1,539,867,205 | 153 | 1,282 | The best three things to do as this point are to: -contact your sponsor, without notifying your parents - get away from your mom as soon as possible. She's not overbearing, just greedy. -remove her from your policy. If she has nothing to gain, she'll probably go back to being her old self. | Okay disclaimers. Graduated law school but not a lawyer. What I am is a psychologist who works with inpatient hospitalization and legal questions. Despite that, I am not your psychologist. ​ Here is what you need to know. There are times when, due to mental health concerns, someone can have their ability to make legal/financial/health care/etc. decisions taken away from them. It sounds like you aren't that bad off and hopefully no clinician would come to the same conclusion. The problem, as you've found out, is that other people can call this into question and lie about it. t's also unusual for it to be done for substance abuse issues but all that aside, there is a clear way you can address this. You want to look into having a pre-emptive person already outlined in the case someone has concerns. These are called psychiatric advance directives. It's similar to how you can let doctors know what to do with you if you fall into a coma. Examples of the forms for Illinois can be found here. The actual forms are not as necessary as clearly stating what you want to have happen or not happen. You can specify certain people you want to make choices for you and certain people that you do not want to make choices for you. "In the event that I require any sort of guardianship, power of attorney, or authorized representative to make decisions on my behalf, the following people should be appointed in this order....Under no circumstances should my mother, NAME, be appointed in any capacity. If the above people cannot serve in this function, a court appointed representative should be used in lieu of my mother." Include their contact information and carry it with you. You should still argue that you do not need one in any of these circumstances because you want to make these decisions on your own but this should at least solve your worst case scenario. | 0 | 4,629 | 8.379085 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zt4am | e7zue3l | 1,539,865,758 | 1,539,867,205 | 37 | 1,282 | It sounds like you are making the right decision to continue to seek treatment for your addiction. To put your mind at ease, your mom would not be able to collect on your disability. Disability is only paid to the covered person. She also would not be able to collect on your life insurance unless you died. Also since both of these policies were through your employer, it is likely that you are no longer covered for either disability or life insurance. Normally these types of policies are only for active employee. An exception would be if you were approved for disability benefits prior to being "let go" but from your post it doesn't seem like that happened. It doesn't sound like you applied or were approved for SS disability or any type of state disability from your post. Edit to add it doesn't sound like she was appointed your legal guardian or that you have given her power of attorney over your affairs, which is the only way she could access any approved disability benefits. It really sounds like you need to continue to build your support network through your psychiatrist/therapist and addiction support services. I think it will help you tremendously. Good luck. | Okay disclaimers. Graduated law school but not a lawyer. What I am is a psychologist who works with inpatient hospitalization and legal questions. Despite that, I am not your psychologist. ​ Here is what you need to know. There are times when, due to mental health concerns, someone can have their ability to make legal/financial/health care/etc. decisions taken away from them. It sounds like you aren't that bad off and hopefully no clinician would come to the same conclusion. The problem, as you've found out, is that other people can call this into question and lie about it. t's also unusual for it to be done for substance abuse issues but all that aside, there is a clear way you can address this. You want to look into having a pre-emptive person already outlined in the case someone has concerns. These are called psychiatric advance directives. It's similar to how you can let doctors know what to do with you if you fall into a coma. Examples of the forms for Illinois can be found here. The actual forms are not as necessary as clearly stating what you want to have happen or not happen. You can specify certain people you want to make choices for you and certain people that you do not want to make choices for you. "In the event that I require any sort of guardianship, power of attorney, or authorized representative to make decisions on my behalf, the following people should be appointed in this order....Under no circumstances should my mother, NAME, be appointed in any capacity. If the above people cannot serve in this function, a court appointed representative should be used in lieu of my mother." Include their contact information and carry it with you. You should still argue that you do not need one in any of these circumstances because you want to make these decisions on your own but this should at least solve your worst case scenario. | 0 | 1,447 | 34.648649 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zrg4j | e7zue3l | 1,539,863,626 | 1,539,867,205 | 37 | 1,282 | Remove her from benefits and leave her ass behind. Should be fine with most of this unless you are under 18 lol other wise just kick her off your stuff and move out. Dont live under her name take any help or anything at all from her. | Okay disclaimers. Graduated law school but not a lawyer. What I am is a psychologist who works with inpatient hospitalization and legal questions. Despite that, I am not your psychologist. ​ Here is what you need to know. There are times when, due to mental health concerns, someone can have their ability to make legal/financial/health care/etc. decisions taken away from them. It sounds like you aren't that bad off and hopefully no clinician would come to the same conclusion. The problem, as you've found out, is that other people can call this into question and lie about it. t's also unusual for it to be done for substance abuse issues but all that aside, there is a clear way you can address this. You want to look into having a pre-emptive person already outlined in the case someone has concerns. These are called psychiatric advance directives. It's similar to how you can let doctors know what to do with you if you fall into a coma. Examples of the forms for Illinois can be found here. The actual forms are not as necessary as clearly stating what you want to have happen or not happen. You can specify certain people you want to make choices for you and certain people that you do not want to make choices for you. "In the event that I require any sort of guardianship, power of attorney, or authorized representative to make decisions on my behalf, the following people should be appointed in this order....Under no circumstances should my mother, NAME, be appointed in any capacity. If the above people cannot serve in this function, a court appointed representative should be used in lieu of my mother." Include their contact information and carry it with you. You should still argue that you do not need one in any of these circumstances because you want to make these decisions on your own but this should at least solve your worst case scenario. | 0 | 3,579 | 34.648649 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zqkgt | e7zyz19 | 1,539,862,360 | 1,539,871,718 | 249 | 488 | So I'm not a lawyer, I'm a computer guy and I've only taken a cyberlaw class, this is not directly related to what you can do to protect yourself legally. I am a recovering alcoholic/drug addict. I pretty much only go to AA or occasionally SMART recovery. I've gone to NA meetings I just didn't like them as much plus there aren't as many compared to AA around me. I also only have a bit over 7 months sober so if someone whose been around longer has different advice feel free to chime in. Call your sponsor and explain your situation. Ask if they know anyone who may be willing to take you in for a bit. Also ask at meetings about housing assistance, half way houses, three quarter houses, sober living homes, etc. Whatever you think you need. The people at the meetings probably have experience with these and many are very willing to help. | Its time to talk to the police. Sending nudes without permission is a crime in most areas, nowadays. Also, taking pictures of someone nude is a different crime. Your mother needs to be behind bars. Don't eat anything she feeds you. | 0 | 9,358 | 1.959839 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zs6fq | e7zyz19 | 1,539,864,594 | 1,539,871,718 | 210 | 488 | In addition to what others have said, don't sign anything she asks you to sign. She may be trying to get a power of attorney, guardianship, or conservatorship over you. One signature from you could give her immense control over your life and be very hard to undo. On a side note, if someone contacts you telling you they are a guardian-ad-litem, make sure you DO respond and talk to them. A G-A-L is some one appointed by a court make an evaluation when a guardianship or conservatorship has been requested. The G-A-L is there to protect your interests. Be honest with them but be clear that you do not want a guardianship. | Its time to talk to the police. Sending nudes without permission is a crime in most areas, nowadays. Also, taking pictures of someone nude is a different crime. Your mother needs to be behind bars. Don't eat anything she feeds you. | 0 | 7,124 | 2.32381 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zqpmt | e7zyz19 | 1,539,862,576 | 1,539,871,718 | 153 | 488 | The best three things to do as this point are to: -contact your sponsor, without notifying your parents - get away from your mom as soon as possible. She's not overbearing, just greedy. -remove her from your policy. If she has nothing to gain, she'll probably go back to being her old self. | Its time to talk to the police. Sending nudes without permission is a crime in most areas, nowadays. Also, taking pictures of someone nude is a different crime. Your mother needs to be behind bars. Don't eat anything she feeds you. | 0 | 9,142 | 3.189542 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zyz19 | e7zww43 | 1,539,871,718 | 1,539,869,793 | 488 | 55 | Its time to talk to the police. Sending nudes without permission is a crime in most areas, nowadays. Also, taking pictures of someone nude is a different crime. Your mother needs to be behind bars. Don't eat anything she feeds you. | I’m pretty sure your mother opening mail addressed to you is a crime in and of itself. Not to mention sending a nude if you, and all the other stuff. You could try and get a no-contact order. | 1 | 1,925 | 8.872727 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zyz19 | e7zt4am | 1,539,871,718 | 1,539,865,758 | 488 | 37 | Its time to talk to the police. Sending nudes without permission is a crime in most areas, nowadays. Also, taking pictures of someone nude is a different crime. Your mother needs to be behind bars. Don't eat anything she feeds you. | It sounds like you are making the right decision to continue to seek treatment for your addiction. To put your mind at ease, your mom would not be able to collect on your disability. Disability is only paid to the covered person. She also would not be able to collect on your life insurance unless you died. Also since both of these policies were through your employer, it is likely that you are no longer covered for either disability or life insurance. Normally these types of policies are only for active employee. An exception would be if you were approved for disability benefits prior to being "let go" but from your post it doesn't seem like that happened. It doesn't sound like you applied or were approved for SS disability or any type of state disability from your post. Edit to add it doesn't sound like she was appointed your legal guardian or that you have given her power of attorney over your affairs, which is the only way she could access any approved disability benefits. It really sounds like you need to continue to build your support network through your psychiatrist/therapist and addiction support services. I think it will help you tremendously. Good luck. | 1 | 5,960 | 13.189189 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zyz19 | e7zrg4j | 1,539,871,718 | 1,539,863,626 | 488 | 37 | Its time to talk to the police. Sending nudes without permission is a crime in most areas, nowadays. Also, taking pictures of someone nude is a different crime. Your mother needs to be behind bars. Don't eat anything she feeds you. | Remove her from benefits and leave her ass behind. Should be fine with most of this unless you are under 18 lol other wise just kick her off your stuff and move out. Dont live under her name take any help or anything at all from her. | 1 | 8,092 | 13.189189 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zwqhw | e7zyz19 | 1,539,869,642 | 1,539,871,718 | 15 | 488 | Talk to the hospital and your soonest about a half way house or sober living house that way you will have a safe place to live. Not sure why your spinner and/or hospital and their social worker didn’t mention these when you voices your concerns. They exist you just have to find them. Also do what other commenters have suggested by removing your mom from everything. I would also see if your sponsor has any contacts for legal assistance pro bono or low cost to draw up documents to protect yourself. Also don’t sign anything your mom gives you. She sounds shady and you gut instinct sounds correct about what she wants to do. Not a lawyer but I would seek one out if I were you. | Its time to talk to the police. Sending nudes without permission is a crime in most areas, nowadays. Also, taking pictures of someone nude is a different crime. Your mother needs to be behind bars. Don't eat anything she feeds you. | 0 | 2,076 | 32.533333 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zv268 | e7zyz19 | 1,539,867,935 | 1,539,871,718 | 9 | 488 | Change your beneficiary for your life insurance and disability insurance and SHOW HER you did this. That will kill any incentive she has to hurt you. | Its time to talk to the police. Sending nudes without permission is a crime in most areas, nowadays. Also, taking pictures of someone nude is a different crime. Your mother needs to be behind bars. Don't eat anything she feeds you. | 0 | 3,783 | 54.222222 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zyz19 | e7zwzgk | 1,539,871,718 | 1,539,869,883 | 488 | 7 | Its time to talk to the police. Sending nudes without permission is a crime in most areas, nowadays. Also, taking pictures of someone nude is a different crime. Your mother needs to be behind bars. Don't eat anything she feeds you. | I think all the things that are mentioned are good tips. Perhaps another is to also remove your mother as beneficiary on any legal documents. | 1 | 1,835 | 69.714286 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zs6fq | e7zqpmt | 1,539,864,594 | 1,539,862,576 | 210 | 153 | In addition to what others have said, don't sign anything she asks you to sign. She may be trying to get a power of attorney, guardianship, or conservatorship over you. One signature from you could give her immense control over your life and be very hard to undo. On a side note, if someone contacts you telling you they are a guardian-ad-litem, make sure you DO respond and talk to them. A G-A-L is some one appointed by a court make an evaluation when a guardianship or conservatorship has been requested. The G-A-L is there to protect your interests. Be honest with them but be clear that you do not want a guardianship. | The best three things to do as this point are to: -contact your sponsor, without notifying your parents - get away from your mom as soon as possible. She's not overbearing, just greedy. -remove her from your policy. If she has nothing to gain, she'll probably go back to being her old self. | 1 | 2,018 | 1.372549 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zs6fq | e7zrg4j | 1,539,864,594 | 1,539,863,626 | 210 | 37 | In addition to what others have said, don't sign anything she asks you to sign. She may be trying to get a power of attorney, guardianship, or conservatorship over you. One signature from you could give her immense control over your life and be very hard to undo. On a side note, if someone contacts you telling you they are a guardian-ad-litem, make sure you DO respond and talk to them. A G-A-L is some one appointed by a court make an evaluation when a guardianship or conservatorship has been requested. The G-A-L is there to protect your interests. Be honest with them but be clear that you do not want a guardianship. | Remove her from benefits and leave her ass behind. Should be fine with most of this unless you are under 18 lol other wise just kick her off your stuff and move out. Dont live under her name take any help or anything at all from her. | 1 | 968 | 5.675676 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zt4am | e7zww43 | 1,539,865,758 | 1,539,869,793 | 37 | 55 | It sounds like you are making the right decision to continue to seek treatment for your addiction. To put your mind at ease, your mom would not be able to collect on your disability. Disability is only paid to the covered person. She also would not be able to collect on your life insurance unless you died. Also since both of these policies were through your employer, it is likely that you are no longer covered for either disability or life insurance. Normally these types of policies are only for active employee. An exception would be if you were approved for disability benefits prior to being "let go" but from your post it doesn't seem like that happened. It doesn't sound like you applied or were approved for SS disability or any type of state disability from your post. Edit to add it doesn't sound like she was appointed your legal guardian or that you have given her power of attorney over your affairs, which is the only way she could access any approved disability benefits. It really sounds like you need to continue to build your support network through your psychiatrist/therapist and addiction support services. I think it will help you tremendously. Good luck. | I’m pretty sure your mother opening mail addressed to you is a crime in and of itself. Not to mention sending a nude if you, and all the other stuff. You could try and get a no-contact order. | 0 | 4,035 | 1.486486 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zrg4j | e7zww43 | 1,539,863,626 | 1,539,869,793 | 37 | 55 | Remove her from benefits and leave her ass behind. Should be fine with most of this unless you are under 18 lol other wise just kick her off your stuff and move out. Dont live under her name take any help or anything at all from her. | I’m pretty sure your mother opening mail addressed to you is a crime in and of itself. Not to mention sending a nude if you, and all the other stuff. You could try and get a no-contact order. | 0 | 6,167 | 1.486486 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zww43 | e7zwqhw | 1,539,869,793 | 1,539,869,642 | 55 | 15 | I’m pretty sure your mother opening mail addressed to you is a crime in and of itself. Not to mention sending a nude if you, and all the other stuff. You could try and get a no-contact order. | Talk to the hospital and your soonest about a half way house or sober living house that way you will have a safe place to live. Not sure why your spinner and/or hospital and their social worker didn’t mention these when you voices your concerns. They exist you just have to find them. Also do what other commenters have suggested by removing your mom from everything. I would also see if your sponsor has any contacts for legal assistance pro bono or low cost to draw up documents to protect yourself. Also don’t sign anything your mom gives you. She sounds shady and you gut instinct sounds correct about what she wants to do. Not a lawyer but I would seek one out if I were you. | 1 | 151 | 3.666667 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zww43 | e7zv268 | 1,539,869,793 | 1,539,867,935 | 55 | 9 | I’m pretty sure your mother opening mail addressed to you is a crime in and of itself. Not to mention sending a nude if you, and all the other stuff. You could try and get a no-contact order. | Change your beneficiary for your life insurance and disability insurance and SHOW HER you did this. That will kill any incentive she has to hurt you. | 1 | 1,858 | 6.111111 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zwqhw | e800u0p | 1,539,869,642 | 1,539,873,329 | 15 | 19 | Talk to the hospital and your soonest about a half way house or sober living house that way you will have a safe place to live. Not sure why your spinner and/or hospital and their social worker didn’t mention these when you voices your concerns. They exist you just have to find them. Also do what other commenters have suggested by removing your mom from everything. I would also see if your sponsor has any contacts for legal assistance pro bono or low cost to draw up documents to protect yourself. Also don’t sign anything your mom gives you. She sounds shady and you gut instinct sounds correct about what she wants to do. Not a lawyer but I would seek one out if I were you. | If your benefits were through a job you no longer have then they longer exist. Companies don't provide permament life insurance to workers, just temporary. It stops when you no longer worked there. If you point this out to her maybe she'll back off. | 0 | 3,687 | 1.266667 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e800u0p | e7zv268 | 1,539,873,329 | 1,539,867,935 | 19 | 9 | If your benefits were through a job you no longer have then they longer exist. Companies don't provide permament life insurance to workers, just temporary. It stops when you no longer worked there. If you point this out to her maybe she'll back off. | Change your beneficiary for your life insurance and disability insurance and SHOW HER you did this. That will kill any incentive she has to hurt you. | 1 | 5,394 | 2.111111 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e800u0p | e7zwzgk | 1,539,873,329 | 1,539,869,883 | 19 | 7 | If your benefits were through a job you no longer have then they longer exist. Companies don't provide permament life insurance to workers, just temporary. It stops when you no longer worked there. If you point this out to her maybe she'll back off. | I think all the things that are mentioned are good tips. Perhaps another is to also remove your mother as beneficiary on any legal documents. | 1 | 3,446 | 2.714286 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zv268 | e7zwqhw | 1,539,867,935 | 1,539,869,642 | 9 | 15 | Change your beneficiary for your life insurance and disability insurance and SHOW HER you did this. That will kill any incentive she has to hurt you. | Talk to the hospital and your soonest about a half way house or sober living house that way you will have a safe place to live. Not sure why your spinner and/or hospital and their social worker didn’t mention these when you voices your concerns. They exist you just have to find them. Also do what other commenters have suggested by removing your mom from everything. I would also see if your sponsor has any contacts for legal assistance pro bono or low cost to draw up documents to protect yourself. Also don’t sign anything your mom gives you. She sounds shady and you gut instinct sounds correct about what she wants to do. Not a lawyer but I would seek one out if I were you. | 0 | 1,707 | 1.666667 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zv268 | e8059kt | 1,539,867,935 | 1,539,876,940 | 9 | 14 | Change your beneficiary for your life insurance and disability insurance and SHOW HER you did this. That will kill any incentive she has to hurt you. | I am not a lawyer, but I thought addiction was a protected class, and if you were seeking treatment you employer could not fire you for it. Which it sounds like they did. Since OP ran out of FMLA leave during treatment. | 0 | 9,005 | 1.555556 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e8059kt | e7zwzgk | 1,539,876,940 | 1,539,869,883 | 14 | 7 | I am not a lawyer, but I thought addiction was a protected class, and if you were seeking treatment you employer could not fire you for it. Which it sounds like they did. Since OP ran out of FMLA leave during treatment. | I think all the things that are mentioned are good tips. Perhaps another is to also remove your mother as beneficiary on any legal documents. | 1 | 7,057 | 2 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e80la6l | e80sy95 | 1,539,889,578 | 1,539,895,707 | 11 | 14 | Remove her as beneficiary ENTIRELY! | About a year ago, my uncle died. In the hospital, while he still could do so, he made me his power of attorney and executor should he die though his mom wanted both roles. Under no circumstances did he want her anywhere near having control over his life or estate; he even asked me whether or not I believed giving her his SSN was a good idea. And in the days that followed, I've never seen a person advocate harder for someone else's death than she did (of course in an overly sweet, manipulative way, conjuring up tears whenever she needed to). She practically told the doctors to pull the plug even before there was one to be pulled. ​ All I'm saying is listen to your gut; preemptively and legally give someone else the control who in no way can be manipulated by your mother like u/ghalfrunt recommends. I truly believe my grandmother is...well, I can't diagnose. But she started seeing dollar signs and stopped seeing her son. She saw his estate; she stopped seeing me, she saw the keys to his estate (and most of the time the barrier to it). That kind of person will do anything in their power to get what they want. My uncle saw that and did what he needed not to give her that power. | 0 | 6,129 | 1.272727 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e80sy95 | e7zv268 | 1,539,895,707 | 1,539,867,935 | 14 | 9 | About a year ago, my uncle died. In the hospital, while he still could do so, he made me his power of attorney and executor should he die though his mom wanted both roles. Under no circumstances did he want her anywhere near having control over his life or estate; he even asked me whether or not I believed giving her his SSN was a good idea. And in the days that followed, I've never seen a person advocate harder for someone else's death than she did (of course in an overly sweet, manipulative way, conjuring up tears whenever she needed to). She practically told the doctors to pull the plug even before there was one to be pulled. ​ All I'm saying is listen to your gut; preemptively and legally give someone else the control who in no way can be manipulated by your mother like u/ghalfrunt recommends. I truly believe my grandmother is...well, I can't diagnose. But she started seeing dollar signs and stopped seeing her son. She saw his estate; she stopped seeing me, she saw the keys to his estate (and most of the time the barrier to it). That kind of person will do anything in their power to get what they want. My uncle saw that and did what he needed not to give her that power. | Change your beneficiary for your life insurance and disability insurance and SHOW HER you did this. That will kill any incentive she has to hurt you. | 1 | 27,772 | 1.555556 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e80sy95 | e80g7d8 | 1,539,895,707 | 1,539,885,514 | 14 | 10 | About a year ago, my uncle died. In the hospital, while he still could do so, he made me his power of attorney and executor should he die though his mom wanted both roles. Under no circumstances did he want her anywhere near having control over his life or estate; he even asked me whether or not I believed giving her his SSN was a good idea. And in the days that followed, I've never seen a person advocate harder for someone else's death than she did (of course in an overly sweet, manipulative way, conjuring up tears whenever she needed to). She practically told the doctors to pull the plug even before there was one to be pulled. ​ All I'm saying is listen to your gut; preemptively and legally give someone else the control who in no way can be manipulated by your mother like u/ghalfrunt recommends. I truly believe my grandmother is...well, I can't diagnose. But she started seeing dollar signs and stopped seeing her son. She saw his estate; she stopped seeing me, she saw the keys to his estate (and most of the time the barrier to it). That kind of person will do anything in their power to get what they want. My uncle saw that and did what he needed not to give her that power. | >I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. After reading your post it doesn't sound like you have been sentenced to rehab by the courts. That is really the only situation I can see where you can be told where to go for treatment. You do get to choose, your mom is full of it. ​ | 1 | 10,193 | 1.4 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e80sy95 | e7zwzgk | 1,539,895,707 | 1,539,869,883 | 14 | 7 | About a year ago, my uncle died. In the hospital, while he still could do so, he made me his power of attorney and executor should he die though his mom wanted both roles. Under no circumstances did he want her anywhere near having control over his life or estate; he even asked me whether or not I believed giving her his SSN was a good idea. And in the days that followed, I've never seen a person advocate harder for someone else's death than she did (of course in an overly sweet, manipulative way, conjuring up tears whenever she needed to). She practically told the doctors to pull the plug even before there was one to be pulled. ​ All I'm saying is listen to your gut; preemptively and legally give someone else the control who in no way can be manipulated by your mother like u/ghalfrunt recommends. I truly believe my grandmother is...well, I can't diagnose. But she started seeing dollar signs and stopped seeing her son. She saw his estate; she stopped seeing me, she saw the keys to his estate (and most of the time the barrier to it). That kind of person will do anything in their power to get what they want. My uncle saw that and did what he needed not to give her that power. | I think all the things that are mentioned are good tips. Perhaps another is to also remove your mother as beneficiary on any legal documents. | 1 | 25,824 | 2 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e7zv268 | e80la6l | 1,539,867,935 | 1,539,889,578 | 9 | 11 | Change your beneficiary for your life insurance and disability insurance and SHOW HER you did this. That will kill any incentive she has to hurt you. | Remove her as beneficiary ENTIRELY! | 0 | 21,643 | 1.222222 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e80g7d8 | e80la6l | 1,539,885,514 | 1,539,889,578 | 10 | 11 | >I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. After reading your post it doesn't sound like you have been sentenced to rehab by the courts. That is really the only situation I can see where you can be told where to go for treatment. You do get to choose, your mom is full of it. ​ | Remove her as beneficiary ENTIRELY! | 0 | 4,064 | 1.1 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e80la6l | e7zwzgk | 1,539,889,578 | 1,539,869,883 | 11 | 7 | Remove her as beneficiary ENTIRELY! | I think all the things that are mentioned are good tips. Perhaps another is to also remove your mother as beneficiary on any legal documents. | 1 | 19,695 | 1.571429 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e80g7d8 | e7zv268 | 1,539,885,514 | 1,539,867,935 | 10 | 9 | >I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. After reading your post it doesn't sound like you have been sentenced to rehab by the courts. That is really the only situation I can see where you can be told where to go for treatment. You do get to choose, your mom is full of it. ​ | Change your beneficiary for your life insurance and disability insurance and SHOW HER you did this. That will kill any incentive she has to hurt you. | 1 | 17,579 | 1.111111 |
9p5dye | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Mother is actively trying to get me committed, she thinks she can cash out my life insurance. So, I'll start off here by saying that I do have an alcohol problem. I have gone to a rehabilitation hospital, and I have a sponsor and I'm completing the steps. I've just had a few bumps along the way. When I began my job here in downtown Chicago, I had been going through the process of moving in with my then girlfriend. Our rent is high, but we took what was available in the small town we live in. We eventually broke up amicably, and parted ways. She however left me on the lease, and moved out. This overnight left me with an additional $600 or so in debt, at least. One thing led to another and I sought treatment but that meant missing out on work. I also was very good at my job and loved it there. So work eventually let me go, because I ran out of FMLA time. I did try and work with them, but ended up getting evicted and that really triggered my habit. My mother had gotten a benefits package from my work when I started. (And she opened my mail.) She was listed as a beneficiary to all my disability benefits, including life insurance. So one day, she decided to start gathering documentation. She told my ex girlfriend who had moved out that she wanted me declared disabled. The motivation on her part is monetary only. She actually has been virtually unsupportive of me and my road to recovery. (I understand this is not how things work, she can't cash out on me somehow.) But here we are. I know she's been talking to an attorney and on my latest trip to the hospital for treatment she "petitioned me." which was pretty much them putting me in a room when I asked to leave. I've talked to the social worker that night and she found no reason to keep me. Since then I've decided to go back to rehab to get better. In the meantime, I moved back in with my mom and dad. - My dad has been very supportive. Today when helping me move, she mentioned that she wants me to "sign contracts" before I can stay. I also want to mention, that this isn't the first time she's done things to have me put away. I had talked to a psychiatrist about it who said my best bet is to get an order of protection. So here I am, trying to seek help, trying to recover and I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. I am a fully functioning adult. Today, she told me I shouldn't call my sponsor to talk. My dad thought that she was right somehow and agreed. I'm not sure this is the best environment, but if I leave- there's a possibility I'll either be homeless, or somewhere that I'm far away from the opportunity to work. What would be the best way to approach this. I don't want to burn a bridge with her, and she's done some really serious things that concern me. Example, on a hot summer night I slept in the nude. She took pictures, and sent them to my ex girlfriends. (They were not welcome.) I'm worried about my safety. I also know with the correct support and treatment, I'll be okay. But her negativity is not something I can tolerate for long. Also, my ex girlfriend is out of state, finishing school. She's a psych major, so she knows how to support me. My mom had contacted her, and accused of her of being an enabler and even went to far as to say she gave me pills? It was regular blood pressure medication I had on the counter. It's getting to the point with my mom where she's attempting to control me. I'm 32 years old with a very treatable problem. I know it comes off as "a protective mom." but I've had different people, from police to firefighters that told me to stay away from her. Legally, what can happen- what do I do? What would be the best approach? ​ ​ | e80g7d8 | e7zwzgk | 1,539,885,514 | 1,539,869,883 | 10 | 7 | >I mentioned I'd like to visit the same hospital where I had gotten my inpatient and outpatient treatment. She said that "I may not get to choose." and I'm going to do what my attorney said. After reading your post it doesn't sound like you have been sentenced to rehab by the courts. That is really the only situation I can see where you can be told where to go for treatment. You do get to choose, your mom is full of it. ​ | I think all the things that are mentioned are good tips. Perhaps another is to also remove your mother as beneficiary on any legal documents. | 1 | 15,631 | 1.428571 |
xr4bao | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | can a employer stop you from using the restroom in Texas? Ok I am literally asking for a friend here. Ok so here's the story my girlfriend is a manager (not the store manager she's like a low end manger) for caydes corp.(McDonald's) well one of her employees really had to use the restroom. So the employee asked to go , the store director refused to let her go and the girl ended up urinating all over herself. From what my girlfriend told me the employee was embarrassed. So I told her I think there is a OSHA law or something that her store director breached some where that employee could get the store director fired and the store could be sued. Was I wrong? Or did I tell her correctly? | iqdbhgv | iqcngcl | 1,664,461,047 | 1,664,448,286 | 541 | 171 | Corporate is your friend here. The store has a right to enforce a break policy, including reasonable bathroom breaks. Even when this is the case, exceptions should me made if the rare need arises. It sounds like there was not a predefined bathroom break policy, and if so, preventing an employee from using the bathroom would be an OHSA violation, and would be a big red flag to upper (corporate) management, especially when the result was a serious bio hazard situation within a food prep area (for anyone arguing here - urine is classified as a "bodily fluids biohazard" but unless it contains other fluids like blood, it does not rise to a "bloodborn pathogen biohazard") File a complaint to corporate. | It isn’t OSHA. But it sounds like she wasn’t physically blocked from using the restroom, either. If the employer told her he’d fire her for going to the restroom, she did it anyway, and he then fired her for it, she might have a wrongful termination case. That isn’t what happened, though. | 1 | 12,761 | 3.163743 |
xr4bao | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | can a employer stop you from using the restroom in Texas? Ok I am literally asking for a friend here. Ok so here's the story my girlfriend is a manager (not the store manager she's like a low end manger) for caydes corp.(McDonald's) well one of her employees really had to use the restroom. So the employee asked to go , the store director refused to let her go and the girl ended up urinating all over herself. From what my girlfriend told me the employee was embarrassed. So I told her I think there is a OSHA law or something that her store director breached some where that employee could get the store director fired and the store could be sued. Was I wrong? Or did I tell her correctly? | iqdbhgv | iqd5o68 | 1,664,461,047 | 1,664,458,501 | 541 | 10 | Corporate is your friend here. The store has a right to enforce a break policy, including reasonable bathroom breaks. Even when this is the case, exceptions should me made if the rare need arises. It sounds like there was not a predefined bathroom break policy, and if so, preventing an employee from using the bathroom would be an OHSA violation, and would be a big red flag to upper (corporate) management, especially when the result was a serious bio hazard situation within a food prep area (for anyone arguing here - urine is classified as a "bodily fluids biohazard" but unless it contains other fluids like blood, it does not rise to a "bloodborn pathogen biohazard") File a complaint to corporate. | No. Employees cannot be denied use of a bathroom. | 1 | 2,546 | 54.1 |
xr4bao | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | can a employer stop you from using the restroom in Texas? Ok I am literally asking for a friend here. Ok so here's the story my girlfriend is a manager (not the store manager she's like a low end manger) for caydes corp.(McDonald's) well one of her employees really had to use the restroom. So the employee asked to go , the store director refused to let her go and the girl ended up urinating all over herself. From what my girlfriend told me the employee was embarrassed. So I told her I think there is a OSHA law or something that her store director breached some where that employee could get the store director fired and the store could be sued. Was I wrong? Or did I tell her correctly? | iqdbhgv | iqcqyri | 1,664,461,047 | 1,664,450,696 | 541 | 10 | Corporate is your friend here. The store has a right to enforce a break policy, including reasonable bathroom breaks. Even when this is the case, exceptions should me made if the rare need arises. It sounds like there was not a predefined bathroom break policy, and if so, preventing an employee from using the bathroom would be an OHSA violation, and would be a big red flag to upper (corporate) management, especially when the result was a serious bio hazard situation within a food prep area (for anyone arguing here - urine is classified as a "bodily fluids biohazard" but unless it contains other fluids like blood, it does not rise to a "bloodborn pathogen biohazard") File a complaint to corporate. | The rule is they need reasonable access to a restroom. In a fast food retail environment that’s not whenever you want, but times in the shift it’s slows down to where you can. Some places are busy for an entire shift so they need to figure out times they can. Restaurants do like to blatantly break labor laws so keep that in mind. | 1 | 10,351 | 54.1 |
xr4bao | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | can a employer stop you from using the restroom in Texas? Ok I am literally asking for a friend here. Ok so here's the story my girlfriend is a manager (not the store manager she's like a low end manger) for caydes corp.(McDonald's) well one of her employees really had to use the restroom. So the employee asked to go , the store director refused to let her go and the girl ended up urinating all over herself. From what my girlfriend told me the employee was embarrassed. So I told her I think there is a OSHA law or something that her store director breached some where that employee could get the store director fired and the store could be sued. Was I wrong? Or did I tell her correctly? | iqd5o68 | iqdihx7 | 1,664,458,501 | 1,664,463,952 | 10 | 45 | No. Employees cannot be denied use of a bathroom. | It’s not an elementary school, you don’t have to ask to go to the bathroom. The employee should have informed the employer she was going to the bathroom. The employer can say no all they want, but the employee still could have gone. If the employer then fired her as retaliation - then the legal trouble starts. As it is now, the employee chose to pee herself instead of going to the bathroom. If the employee physically restrained her, then that would also be a different story. | 0 | 5,451 | 4.5 |
xr4bao | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | can a employer stop you from using the restroom in Texas? Ok I am literally asking for a friend here. Ok so here's the story my girlfriend is a manager (not the store manager she's like a low end manger) for caydes corp.(McDonald's) well one of her employees really had to use the restroom. So the employee asked to go , the store director refused to let her go and the girl ended up urinating all over herself. From what my girlfriend told me the employee was embarrassed. So I told her I think there is a OSHA law or something that her store director breached some where that employee could get the store director fired and the store could be sued. Was I wrong? Or did I tell her correctly? | iqdihx7 | iqcqyri | 1,664,463,952 | 1,664,450,696 | 45 | 10 | It’s not an elementary school, you don’t have to ask to go to the bathroom. The employee should have informed the employer she was going to the bathroom. The employer can say no all they want, but the employee still could have gone. If the employer then fired her as retaliation - then the legal trouble starts. As it is now, the employee chose to pee herself instead of going to the bathroom. If the employee physically restrained her, then that would also be a different story. | The rule is they need reasonable access to a restroom. In a fast food retail environment that’s not whenever you want, but times in the shift it’s slows down to where you can. Some places are busy for an entire shift so they need to figure out times they can. Restaurants do like to blatantly break labor laws so keep that in mind. | 1 | 13,256 | 4.5 |
7x47gl | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I received a C&D letter from a law office demanding to stop using my domain name, and sue for the damage Out of blue, I received a letter from a law office in NY and telling me to stop using my domain because that's exactly the product name they have. I registered the domain in August 2002. The domain name is after my daughter's name. When I wanted to have a consistent email address, I registered one, and since then my family is using this domain as email address for over 15 years. The company tried to buy the domain name before. I said no. I don't use the web site much to be honest. On my web site, "if you are interested in domain, sorry. please go away. I'm not interested in selling the domain". This is a .com domain. The company using a different domain name since December of 2013. So, I guess I have to reply to the letter I received. How should I go by? | du5cebz | du5cabx | 1,518,471,539 | 1,518,471,433 | 208 | 40 | "Dear [law firm name], I received your letter demanding that I stop using the domain [youreabunchofidiots.com] because your client happens to have a product called [youreabunchofidiots]. I decline to do so. As you know, or should know if you actually advise your clients on trademark issues, your clients' use of [youreabunchofidiots] on its brand of [gumball machines] does not prevent others from using [youreabunchofidiots] in other ways. See, e.g., Delta Airlines, Delta Power Tools, Delta Faucets, Delta Delta Delta, and 'Delta," the greek letter and mathematical symbol for change. Indeed, your clients' use of that mark ONLY entitles them to prevent others from using it in a way that is likely to create confusion among consumers. Yet, nobody visiting the website [youreabunchofidiots.com] is likely to believe that it has anything to do with your client. Sincerely..... | I am not a lawyer but it sounds like they're trying to intimidate you into selling. If they move ahead with the lawsuit, get a lawyer. Just don't bother conversing with them otherwise. | 1 | 106 | 5.2 |
7x47gl | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I received a C&D letter from a law office demanding to stop using my domain name, and sue for the damage Out of blue, I received a letter from a law office in NY and telling me to stop using my domain because that's exactly the product name they have. I registered the domain in August 2002. The domain name is after my daughter's name. When I wanted to have a consistent email address, I registered one, and since then my family is using this domain as email address for over 15 years. The company tried to buy the domain name before. I said no. I don't use the web site much to be honest. On my web site, "if you are interested in domain, sorry. please go away. I'm not interested in selling the domain". This is a .com domain. The company using a different domain name since December of 2013. So, I guess I have to reply to the letter I received. How should I go by? | du5e33x | du5cabx | 1,518,473,165 | 1,518,471,433 | 50 | 40 | OP, write a letter back to the lawyer saying this issue has been reviewed by the courts before, in the case of Nissan Motors vs. Nissan Computers (thanks to /u/Bob_Sconce for remembering that). The US Supreme Court refused to overturn the 9th Circuit decision that came out favorable to your position. I'm assuming their product is less than 15 years old? | I am not a lawyer but it sounds like they're trying to intimidate you into selling. If they move ahead with the lawsuit, get a lawyer. Just don't bother conversing with them otherwise. | 1 | 1,732 | 1.25 |
7x47gl | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I received a C&D letter from a law office demanding to stop using my domain name, and sue for the damage Out of blue, I received a letter from a law office in NY and telling me to stop using my domain because that's exactly the product name they have. I registered the domain in August 2002. The domain name is after my daughter's name. When I wanted to have a consistent email address, I registered one, and since then my family is using this domain as email address for over 15 years. The company tried to buy the domain name before. I said no. I don't use the web site much to be honest. On my web site, "if you are interested in domain, sorry. please go away. I'm not interested in selling the domain". This is a .com domain. The company using a different domain name since December of 2013. So, I guess I have to reply to the letter I received. How should I go by? | du6007a | du5esdt | 1,518,497,545 | 1,518,473,868 | 29 | 4 | A handful of people are encouraging you to offer to sell the domain to them and/or redirect traffic to them. **Be very, very careful with this**. Making an unreasonable offer to sell can hurt you. This can be used to add weight to the "bad faith" component of the UDRP and can weaken your claims of legitimate interests. In a worst-case scenario, this could mean you lose your domain name. To be clear: offering to sell doesn't guarantee you'll lose a UDRP, just like talking to a police officer doesn't guarantee you'll be charged with a crime. But it may work against you, and needs to be weighed carefully. I'm guessing the law firm doesn't do much work with domains, or is just testing the waters. I would reply simply that the domain is not for sale. You aren't obligated to argue your case with their law firm; the less said, the better. | Is this a big well-established company? Or a well-funded startup? The easiest way out would be to see if they'd be interested in buying it from you. You may not want to sell, obviously, but if there's an amount of money that would change your mind, it might be worth making them an offer. | 1 | 23,677 | 7.25 |
bhd8ur | legaladvice_train | 0.77 | I got a call from the sheriffs office saying my social security number has been tied to a number of felonies and I hung up and called back and it really was the sheriffs office. They say there’s a warrant out for my arrest. What are my first steps legally? | elrvtkk | elrvgy5 | 1,556,223,407 | 1,556,223,192 | 89 | 6 | Are you *actually* sure it was the sheriff's office? Did you just call back the number that showed up in your caller ID? Warrants should appear on your county's records, many of which are accessible online. You can also contact a bail bondsman or a lawyer. You can also try double-checking that you actually reached the sheriff by looking up their number on your state/county/city's website and calling that. If there are warrants, you need to find out what they're for, and then speak to an attorney. | If you have a warrant out, get a lawyer. Did you do anything illegal or is this a mixup? | 1 | 215 | 14.833333 |
bhd8ur | legaladvice_train | 0.77 | I got a call from the sheriffs office saying my social security number has been tied to a number of felonies and I hung up and called back and it really was the sheriffs office. They say there’s a warrant out for my arrest. What are my first steps legally? | elrxcc1 | elrwqfh | 1,556,224,312 | 1,556,223,958 | 43 | 16 | I don't think they would call you about a felony arrest and warn you. I'm pretty sure they are would just show up and arrest you. | Not a lawyer. However. There is a vishing (voice phishing) scam going on right now very similar to this (think IRS scam). You may want to look up the number for the sheriff’s office instead of just hitting redial. It’s incredibly easy to spoof a phone number. | 1 | 354 | 2.6875 |
bhd8ur | legaladvice_train | 0.77 | I got a call from the sheriffs office saying my social security number has been tied to a number of felonies and I hung up and called back and it really was the sheriffs office. They say there’s a warrant out for my arrest. What are my first steps legally? | elrxcc1 | elrvgy5 | 1,556,224,312 | 1,556,223,192 | 43 | 6 | I don't think they would call you about a felony arrest and warn you. I'm pretty sure they are would just show up and arrest you. | If you have a warrant out, get a lawyer. Did you do anything illegal or is this a mixup? | 1 | 1,120 | 7.166667 |
bhd8ur | legaladvice_train | 0.77 | I got a call from the sheriffs office saying my social security number has been tied to a number of felonies and I hung up and called back and it really was the sheriffs office. They say there’s a warrant out for my arrest. What are my first steps legally? | els41oy | elrwqfh | 1,556,228,486 | 1,556,223,958 | 39 | 16 | Absolutely, your first step is to verify that it was really the sheriff's office, by looking up the official number, calling it, and asking about the call you received. Sometimes these callers spoof a real law enforcement offie on caller ID. It says "Whatsit County Sheriff" and if you call back, the real sheriff's office answers. However, if the scammer leaves voicemail, they will tell you to call a different number. If you talk to them, they will tell you to call a different number when you have found the money they are demanding for "a bond." It's unlikely that a sheriff would call and tell you that they have a warrant out for your arrest. | Not a lawyer. However. There is a vishing (voice phishing) scam going on right now very similar to this (think IRS scam). You may want to look up the number for the sheriff’s office instead of just hitting redial. It’s incredibly easy to spoof a phone number. | 1 | 4,528 | 2.4375 |
bhd8ur | legaladvice_train | 0.77 | I got a call from the sheriffs office saying my social security number has been tied to a number of felonies and I hung up and called back and it really was the sheriffs office. They say there’s a warrant out for my arrest. What are my first steps legally? | elrvgy5 | els41oy | 1,556,223,192 | 1,556,228,486 | 6 | 39 | If you have a warrant out, get a lawyer. Did you do anything illegal or is this a mixup? | Absolutely, your first step is to verify that it was really the sheriff's office, by looking up the official number, calling it, and asking about the call you received. Sometimes these callers spoof a real law enforcement offie on caller ID. It says "Whatsit County Sheriff" and if you call back, the real sheriff's office answers. However, if the scammer leaves voicemail, they will tell you to call a different number. If you talk to them, they will tell you to call a different number when you have found the money they are demanding for "a bond." It's unlikely that a sheriff would call and tell you that they have a warrant out for your arrest. | 0 | 5,294 | 6.5 |
bhd8ur | legaladvice_train | 0.77 | I got a call from the sheriffs office saying my social security number has been tied to a number of felonies and I hung up and called back and it really was the sheriffs office. They say there’s a warrant out for my arrest. What are my first steps legally? | elrwqfh | elrvgy5 | 1,556,223,958 | 1,556,223,192 | 16 | 6 | Not a lawyer. However. There is a vishing (voice phishing) scam going on right now very similar to this (think IRS scam). You may want to look up the number for the sheriff’s office instead of just hitting redial. It’s incredibly easy to spoof a phone number. | If you have a warrant out, get a lawyer. Did you do anything illegal or is this a mixup? | 1 | 766 | 2.666667 |
bhd8ur | legaladvice_train | 0.77 | I got a call from the sheriffs office saying my social security number has been tied to a number of felonies and I hung up and called back and it really was the sheriffs office. They say there’s a warrant out for my arrest. What are my first steps legally? | elszoe0 | elrvgy5 | 1,556,249,202 | 1,556,223,192 | 14 | 6 | Sheriffs don’t typically call to say you have warrants. They usually just show up with cuffs. | If you have a warrant out, get a lawyer. Did you do anything illegal or is this a mixup? | 1 | 26,010 | 2.333333 |
bhd8ur | legaladvice_train | 0.77 | I got a call from the sheriffs office saying my social security number has been tied to a number of felonies and I hung up and called back and it really was the sheriffs office. They say there’s a warrant out for my arrest. What are my first steps legally? | elszoe0 | elspqoh | 1,556,249,202 | 1,556,242,684 | 14 | 3 | Sheriffs don’t typically call to say you have warrants. They usually just show up with cuffs. | There are known phone scams where when you hang up, as the call doesnt drop straight away, the scammers play a dial tone down the line and ofc your dialling does nothing, you are still on the same call. So you haven't yet verified it really was the sheriff office. | 1 | 6,518 | 4.666667 |
b88ta2 | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | HVAC Company Owner texted me that my system was unprofessionally installed and he’s worried for me. I got my bank to give me back half. Now he is suing me personally, not his company. I want to countersue. What can I do? [Ohio] This could go on for forever but long story short, I hired ABC company in October to put in a new HVAC system. After 6 weeks they still didn’t finish it and still expected payment. I refused to pay the remaining $750. Then I had my credit card give me back $4,000 that he charged me. He was left with $4,500. I got a quote from 2 HVAC companies that it was done super poorly and needs to be fully replaced. Oversized system, undersized ducts, no dampers, only 1 return, unsupported duct arms, only 1 supply for 1,000 square foot finished basement, etc. He is now suing me for $5,250 under his own personal name in small claims court. Here’s a few things wrong: 1. If he were to win, I would only owe $4,750 so he’s suing for too much. 2. The plaintiff in this case is named as John Doe (Owners name) and not ABC Company. I don’t have a contract with John Doe, I have one with ABC Company. 3. I want to file a counterclaim against ABC Company for the remainder of the money but they’re not the ones suing me. 4. In Ohio, an officer of the company can represent that company without a lawyer but they can’t advocate like a typical person. It seems like he’s making mistakes all over the place. Also he sent me the following text: https://imgur.com/a/lZWmg4y Who do I file the counterclaim against? Should I get a lawyer? I already spent hours making a timeline, summary of damages, pictures of everything, like him driving on my lawn and cutting electrical wires and leaving all of his trash, ducts falling down, quotes from other HVAC companies, etc. I feel like with that text message I have a slam dunk case but I don’t know the intricacies of all of this. He’s been trying to intimidate me and my family for months and I’m ready to stand up for myself. I’m scared for their safety from a dangerous HVAC system. | ejx5bdo | ejx5m6n | 1,554,171,136 | 1,554,171,367 | 16 | 94 | To piggy back, check your states business registration page and see if “Company ABC” is in good standing with the state (ok’d to do business, maybe he isn’t registered properly and not paying adequate state taxes, etc.). Also, contact the company itself and see if they have record of you in their system, he maybe works for Comany ABC but is doing it on the side to pocket a larger chunk. These could both be indicators as to why he is trying to sue you personally. | First of all, don't listen to the other contractors, contact the local building department and inform them of the extent of the work the HVAC contractor did; almost every municipality in Ihio requires a building permit to replace an HVAC system or to alter ducting. Request an inspection, if your HVAC guys work doesn't meet code, the inspector will tell you; they will also force the company to pull a permit in the job and correct their work so it meets code. If the company is unable to pull a permit and bring their work up to code you have a strong chance of legally telling the HVAC contractor to piss up a rope. In Ohio you need to be licensed, bonded and, insured to install a new HVAC system 95% of the time; you are also obligated to do it in a manner that meets code; if you want to win in court you need an unbiased 3rd party to back you up. Not a lawyer, just a guy with plumbing and HVAC licenses in Ohio. | 0 | 231 | 5.875 |
b88ta2 | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | HVAC Company Owner texted me that my system was unprofessionally installed and he’s worried for me. I got my bank to give me back half. Now he is suing me personally, not his company. I want to countersue. What can I do? [Ohio] This could go on for forever but long story short, I hired ABC company in October to put in a new HVAC system. After 6 weeks they still didn’t finish it and still expected payment. I refused to pay the remaining $750. Then I had my credit card give me back $4,000 that he charged me. He was left with $4,500. I got a quote from 2 HVAC companies that it was done super poorly and needs to be fully replaced. Oversized system, undersized ducts, no dampers, only 1 return, unsupported duct arms, only 1 supply for 1,000 square foot finished basement, etc. He is now suing me for $5,250 under his own personal name in small claims court. Here’s a few things wrong: 1. If he were to win, I would only owe $4,750 so he’s suing for too much. 2. The plaintiff in this case is named as John Doe (Owners name) and not ABC Company. I don’t have a contract with John Doe, I have one with ABC Company. 3. I want to file a counterclaim against ABC Company for the remainder of the money but they’re not the ones suing me. 4. In Ohio, an officer of the company can represent that company without a lawyer but they can’t advocate like a typical person. It seems like he’s making mistakes all over the place. Also he sent me the following text: https://imgur.com/a/lZWmg4y Who do I file the counterclaim against? Should I get a lawyer? I already spent hours making a timeline, summary of damages, pictures of everything, like him driving on my lawn and cutting electrical wires and leaving all of his trash, ducts falling down, quotes from other HVAC companies, etc. I feel like with that text message I have a slam dunk case but I don’t know the intricacies of all of this. He’s been trying to intimidate me and my family for months and I’m ready to stand up for myself. I’m scared for their safety from a dangerous HVAC system. | ejyaiyv | ejx5bdo | 1,554,218,322 | 1,554,171,136 | 24 | 16 | Contact your credit card company. Theyre not allowed to sue you after a chargeback its against the merchant rules. Chances are VISA will threaten them and it will get dropped. GL | To piggy back, check your states business registration page and see if “Company ABC” is in good standing with the state (ok’d to do business, maybe he isn’t registered properly and not paying adequate state taxes, etc.). Also, contact the company itself and see if they have record of you in their system, he maybe works for Comany ABC but is doing it on the side to pocket a larger chunk. These could both be indicators as to why he is trying to sue you personally. | 1 | 47,186 | 1.5 |
b88ta2 | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | HVAC Company Owner texted me that my system was unprofessionally installed and he’s worried for me. I got my bank to give me back half. Now he is suing me personally, not his company. I want to countersue. What can I do? [Ohio] This could go on for forever but long story short, I hired ABC company in October to put in a new HVAC system. After 6 weeks they still didn’t finish it and still expected payment. I refused to pay the remaining $750. Then I had my credit card give me back $4,000 that he charged me. He was left with $4,500. I got a quote from 2 HVAC companies that it was done super poorly and needs to be fully replaced. Oversized system, undersized ducts, no dampers, only 1 return, unsupported duct arms, only 1 supply for 1,000 square foot finished basement, etc. He is now suing me for $5,250 under his own personal name in small claims court. Here’s a few things wrong: 1. If he were to win, I would only owe $4,750 so he’s suing for too much. 2. The plaintiff in this case is named as John Doe (Owners name) and not ABC Company. I don’t have a contract with John Doe, I have one with ABC Company. 3. I want to file a counterclaim against ABC Company for the remainder of the money but they’re not the ones suing me. 4. In Ohio, an officer of the company can represent that company without a lawyer but they can’t advocate like a typical person. It seems like he’s making mistakes all over the place. Also he sent me the following text: https://imgur.com/a/lZWmg4y Who do I file the counterclaim against? Should I get a lawyer? I already spent hours making a timeline, summary of damages, pictures of everything, like him driving on my lawn and cutting electrical wires and leaving all of his trash, ducts falling down, quotes from other HVAC companies, etc. I feel like with that text message I have a slam dunk case but I don’t know the intricacies of all of this. He’s been trying to intimidate me and my family for months and I’m ready to stand up for myself. I’m scared for their safety from a dangerous HVAC system. | ejx5bdo | el77d0t | 1,554,171,136 | 1,555,607,502 | 16 | 18 | To piggy back, check your states business registration page and see if “Company ABC” is in good standing with the state (ok’d to do business, maybe he isn’t registered properly and not paying adequate state taxes, etc.). Also, contact the company itself and see if they have record of you in their system, he maybe works for Comany ABC but is doing it on the side to pocket a larger chunk. These could both be indicators as to why he is trying to sue you personally. | Based on that text alone (as well as a complete lack of understanding of law), I'm convinced my ex husband gave up his career and opened an HVAC company. | 0 | 1,436,366 | 1.125 |
4ezugw | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | How does someone give up their Indian status and live as everyone else in the eyes of the law/government? [Manitoba, Canada] If someone was born on a reserve, and both of her parents are status Indians, and she is also a status Indian, how would she go about giving up her Indian status? She doesn't want to be considered an Indian in the eyes of the law or the government and she doesn't want status any more. She no longer lives on a reserve but the government still considers her a status Indian. How can she give up her status or make the government not see her as an Indian? She is okay with living as a non Indian person and this is what she wants. She hasn't been able to figure out how to do this but she doesn't have a legal background so she's unsure what to do. Any help is appreciated. | d24ui7i | d24uevl | 1,460,775,668 | 1,460,775,491 | 19 | 10 | What are the things that the government is doing differently with her because she's an Indian? My experience is limited, but it's things like being tax exempt or not needing a passport to cross the border. But if she wants to pay taxes or get a passport, nobody will stop her. | She can choose to not self-declare but I don't think that she can give up status like that. Is there some specific thing she is trying to accomplish with this? | 1 | 177 | 1.9 |
9eujkp | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | (CA)I paid cash at an EXPRESS retail store and was told I can only receive my change in the form of a gift card... It gets worse. I went to EXPRESS today to buy dress shirts. Due to being 6'5" they didn't have my size in store but they told me they could deliver the correct size to my house. After giving them my info for delivery they give me the total of $242 and change. I give the lady $245 in cash. Apparently, in order for them to complete this trasaction they need to convert the cash into a gift card. She does this but she makes the gift card for the amount of $245 and not the true amount. When she tried to hand me the $2+ back in the form of a gift card (I never wanted a gift card, asked for a gift card, or bought a gift card) I let her know I would prefer to get cash for change instead. She calls her manager over and the manager tells me they can't cash it out and I'll have to just take the gift card with a $2-$3 balance. At this point I ask the manager if I can just cancel my order and get my $245 cash back. She tells me that is possible and that she just needs to make a call. After calling and cancelling the order, the manager finds that she still can't get the cash off of the gift card that I never bought. She makes a few more calls to the store manager and HR and comes to the conclusion that even though the order is cancelled it is impossible for them to give me any cash today, and that if I come back tomorrow they might have a better shot at giving me my cash back. I walk away dumbfounded that I just walked into a retail store, gave them cash, completed no sale, and leave with a gift card for $245 that I never wanted or even tried to buy, with no other options. My feeling is that there is no way this can be legal. How could a retailer as big as EXPRESS have policies that would allow this? Do I have any options or do I just keep going back trying to get cash for a gift card I never bought? | e5ror39 | e5roqnn | 1,536,641,853 | 1,536,641,838 | 330 | 28 | I'm calling it now: this store has been scamming the corporate office by inflating their gift card sales, and you just caught them out quite badly by trying to back out of the transaction after they had already spent your money but before you had completed the original sale. You had every right to back out like that, and _should_ have left with your $245 in cash. First, talk to corporate's customer service department. If I'm right, and this is against company policy, hopefully the corporate customer service folks can make it right. You'll likely have to return the gift card, so keep it around as a show of good faith. You'll also want to make copies of your receipts and other paperwork from the transaction. If the company is unwilling to make this right, you've got two choices: you can decide that it's not worth the hassle and spend the gift card down (or sell it, if the terms allow it), or you can sue the company in small claims. | I don't see how coming back tomorrow was going to change anything, especially if they're just going to complete the same steps again and end up with the same results. Sounds like they just shoo'd you away. I'd call and get their district superior's info asap, and make complaint with them. Keep all your receipts, names of who you talked with, and keep notes in case you have to get legal help. | 1 | 15 | 11.785714 |
9eujkp | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | (CA)I paid cash at an EXPRESS retail store and was told I can only receive my change in the form of a gift card... It gets worse. I went to EXPRESS today to buy dress shirts. Due to being 6'5" they didn't have my size in store but they told me they could deliver the correct size to my house. After giving them my info for delivery they give me the total of $242 and change. I give the lady $245 in cash. Apparently, in order for them to complete this trasaction they need to convert the cash into a gift card. She does this but she makes the gift card for the amount of $245 and not the true amount. When she tried to hand me the $2+ back in the form of a gift card (I never wanted a gift card, asked for a gift card, or bought a gift card) I let her know I would prefer to get cash for change instead. She calls her manager over and the manager tells me they can't cash it out and I'll have to just take the gift card with a $2-$3 balance. At this point I ask the manager if I can just cancel my order and get my $245 cash back. She tells me that is possible and that she just needs to make a call. After calling and cancelling the order, the manager finds that she still can't get the cash off of the gift card that I never bought. She makes a few more calls to the store manager and HR and comes to the conclusion that even though the order is cancelled it is impossible for them to give me any cash today, and that if I come back tomorrow they might have a better shot at giving me my cash back. I walk away dumbfounded that I just walked into a retail store, gave them cash, completed no sale, and leave with a gift card for $245 that I never wanted or even tried to buy, with no other options. My feeling is that there is no way this can be legal. How could a retailer as big as EXPRESS have policies that would allow this? Do I have any options or do I just keep going back trying to get cash for a gift card I never bought? | e5roqnn | e5rxc77 | 1,536,641,838 | 1,536,657,938 | 28 | 160 | I don't see how coming back tomorrow was going to change anything, especially if they're just going to complete the same steps again and end up with the same results. Sounds like they just shoo'd you away. I'd call and get their district superior's info asap, and make complaint with them. Keep all your receipts, names of who you talked with, and keep notes in case you have to get legal help. | https://www.dca.ca.gov/publications/legal_guides/s_11.shtml They're either committing fraud or they're beyond stupid and incompetent. All California retailers must, by state law, offer cash back for store gift card balances under $10. Call the corporate office. That manager made a serious mistake. | 0 | 16,100 | 5.714286 |
9eujkp | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | (CA)I paid cash at an EXPRESS retail store and was told I can only receive my change in the form of a gift card... It gets worse. I went to EXPRESS today to buy dress shirts. Due to being 6'5" they didn't have my size in store but they told me they could deliver the correct size to my house. After giving them my info for delivery they give me the total of $242 and change. I give the lady $245 in cash. Apparently, in order for them to complete this trasaction they need to convert the cash into a gift card. She does this but she makes the gift card for the amount of $245 and not the true amount. When she tried to hand me the $2+ back in the form of a gift card (I never wanted a gift card, asked for a gift card, or bought a gift card) I let her know I would prefer to get cash for change instead. She calls her manager over and the manager tells me they can't cash it out and I'll have to just take the gift card with a $2-$3 balance. At this point I ask the manager if I can just cancel my order and get my $245 cash back. She tells me that is possible and that she just needs to make a call. After calling and cancelling the order, the manager finds that she still can't get the cash off of the gift card that I never bought. She makes a few more calls to the store manager and HR and comes to the conclusion that even though the order is cancelled it is impossible for them to give me any cash today, and that if I come back tomorrow they might have a better shot at giving me my cash back. I walk away dumbfounded that I just walked into a retail store, gave them cash, completed no sale, and leave with a gift card for $245 that I never wanted or even tried to buy, with no other options. My feeling is that there is no way this can be legal. How could a retailer as big as EXPRESS have policies that would allow this? Do I have any options or do I just keep going back trying to get cash for a gift card I never bought? | e5rxc77 | e5rvmb1 | 1,536,657,938 | 1,536,654,026 | 160 | 4 | https://www.dca.ca.gov/publications/legal_guides/s_11.shtml They're either committing fraud or they're beyond stupid and incompetent. All California retailers must, by state law, offer cash back for store gift card balances under $10. Call the corporate office. That manager made a serious mistake. | Probably going to shit on for this but it was honestly likely a mistake on the cashier's part. When I worked for a different department store, to order something in store to be delivered it HAD to be on a card. Didn't matter if it was a credit card or gift card but HAD to be card. Express likely has a similar policy. The cashier SHOULD HAVE sold you a gift card for the exact total of the order and given you change based on that. They didn't. Cause they were dumb. Likely the STORE has no way to refund from gift cards to prevent fraud (buying a gift card with a stolen credit card, getting the money off of it and then the credit card doesn't pay the merchant). Call corporate and see what they can do. But honestly your best case scenario is likely getting the order and being able to keep the loaded the gift card. The cashier fucked up and while no, you shouldn't have to eat $3 for someone else's mistake, it was likely just that, a mistake. | 1 | 3,912 | 40 |
9eujkp | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | (CA)I paid cash at an EXPRESS retail store and was told I can only receive my change in the form of a gift card... It gets worse. I went to EXPRESS today to buy dress shirts. Due to being 6'5" they didn't have my size in store but they told me they could deliver the correct size to my house. After giving them my info for delivery they give me the total of $242 and change. I give the lady $245 in cash. Apparently, in order for them to complete this trasaction they need to convert the cash into a gift card. She does this but she makes the gift card for the amount of $245 and not the true amount. When she tried to hand me the $2+ back in the form of a gift card (I never wanted a gift card, asked for a gift card, or bought a gift card) I let her know I would prefer to get cash for change instead. She calls her manager over and the manager tells me they can't cash it out and I'll have to just take the gift card with a $2-$3 balance. At this point I ask the manager if I can just cancel my order and get my $245 cash back. She tells me that is possible and that she just needs to make a call. After calling and cancelling the order, the manager finds that she still can't get the cash off of the gift card that I never bought. She makes a few more calls to the store manager and HR and comes to the conclusion that even though the order is cancelled it is impossible for them to give me any cash today, and that if I come back tomorrow they might have a better shot at giving me my cash back. I walk away dumbfounded that I just walked into a retail store, gave them cash, completed no sale, and leave with a gift card for $245 that I never wanted or even tried to buy, with no other options. My feeling is that there is no way this can be legal. How could a retailer as big as EXPRESS have policies that would allow this? Do I have any options or do I just keep going back trying to get cash for a gift card I never bought? | e5roqnn | e5sj2mx | 1,536,641,838 | 1,536,683,365 | 28 | 64 | I don't see how coming back tomorrow was going to change anything, especially if they're just going to complete the same steps again and end up with the same results. Sounds like they just shoo'd you away. I'd call and get their district superior's info asap, and make complaint with them. Keep all your receipts, names of who you talked with, and keep notes in case you have to get legal help. | I work in retail and can tell you exactly what happened here. My store does in store orders for customers, which is what they did for you. In order to do this, we have to order on a device that can only be processed with a card (Credit, debit, or gift card). Since you were paying cash, and they had to use a card to place the order, they bought a gift card with your cash and used it to process the order. Then you wanted to do a return, but most systems will not allow a cash return from an item pruchased with a gift card. Even though you weren't trying to use a gift card, that is how they processed the purchase in order to complete the order. They definitely weren't trying to scam you or cheat the system, it's just a stupid work around that we have to use to place orders when the customer has cash. You are going to need to escalate to get your cash back. Ask for the store manager, explain what happened. Tell them you are ABSOLUTELY NOT accepting a gift card back because of their stupid system. Get everyone's name that was involved. Then ask for the District Manager contact info. If they won't give it to you, leave your name and number and ask for a call from the district manager. Then ask them for the company's customer service number. Call customer service every day until they solve this for you. On another note, don't be rude while going through this, it is more of a one of issue of a stupid system than the employee's fault, but let then know you expect them to make it right. We are way more willing to accommodate a reasonable person than someone who is in the store yelling and screaming at us. | 0 | 41,527 | 2.285714 |
9eujkp | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | (CA)I paid cash at an EXPRESS retail store and was told I can only receive my change in the form of a gift card... It gets worse. I went to EXPRESS today to buy dress shirts. Due to being 6'5" they didn't have my size in store but they told me they could deliver the correct size to my house. After giving them my info for delivery they give me the total of $242 and change. I give the lady $245 in cash. Apparently, in order for them to complete this trasaction they need to convert the cash into a gift card. She does this but she makes the gift card for the amount of $245 and not the true amount. When she tried to hand me the $2+ back in the form of a gift card (I never wanted a gift card, asked for a gift card, or bought a gift card) I let her know I would prefer to get cash for change instead. She calls her manager over and the manager tells me they can't cash it out and I'll have to just take the gift card with a $2-$3 balance. At this point I ask the manager if I can just cancel my order and get my $245 cash back. She tells me that is possible and that she just needs to make a call. After calling and cancelling the order, the manager finds that she still can't get the cash off of the gift card that I never bought. She makes a few more calls to the store manager and HR and comes to the conclusion that even though the order is cancelled it is impossible for them to give me any cash today, and that if I come back tomorrow they might have a better shot at giving me my cash back. I walk away dumbfounded that I just walked into a retail store, gave them cash, completed no sale, and leave with a gift card for $245 that I never wanted or even tried to buy, with no other options. My feeling is that there is no way this can be legal. How could a retailer as big as EXPRESS have policies that would allow this? Do I have any options or do I just keep going back trying to get cash for a gift card I never bought? | e5s9m3h | e5sj2mx | 1,536,675,103 | 1,536,683,365 | 22 | 64 | As a retail worker at multiple places over the last ten years, there is something shady going on here. The top comment probably has it right; they're scamming you somehow by using the gift card system, and they probably did refund it- just not back to you. I'd be very surprised if there actually was 245$ on that card. Otherwise, they realized their mistake and put it all back on the gift card and there is something in their system that wont let you refund a gift card for 24hours. Both of those are hypothetical, but I bet itll be something along those lines. Of course, they can't admit ANY of this to you or they'll be found out. I'd call corporate and let them handle the whole thing. I'd also find a way to review their store somewhere online, and detail your experience with them. My bosses all really cared about those reviews, and would read them to us. | I work in retail and can tell you exactly what happened here. My store does in store orders for customers, which is what they did for you. In order to do this, we have to order on a device that can only be processed with a card (Credit, debit, or gift card). Since you were paying cash, and they had to use a card to place the order, they bought a gift card with your cash and used it to process the order. Then you wanted to do a return, but most systems will not allow a cash return from an item pruchased with a gift card. Even though you weren't trying to use a gift card, that is how they processed the purchase in order to complete the order. They definitely weren't trying to scam you or cheat the system, it's just a stupid work around that we have to use to place orders when the customer has cash. You are going to need to escalate to get your cash back. Ask for the store manager, explain what happened. Tell them you are ABSOLUTELY NOT accepting a gift card back because of their stupid system. Get everyone's name that was involved. Then ask for the District Manager contact info. If they won't give it to you, leave your name and number and ask for a call from the district manager. Then ask them for the company's customer service number. Call customer service every day until they solve this for you. On another note, don't be rude while going through this, it is more of a one of issue of a stupid system than the employee's fault, but let then know you expect them to make it right. We are way more willing to accommodate a reasonable person than someone who is in the store yelling and screaming at us. | 0 | 8,262 | 2.909091 |
9eujkp | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | (CA)I paid cash at an EXPRESS retail store and was told I can only receive my change in the form of a gift card... It gets worse. I went to EXPRESS today to buy dress shirts. Due to being 6'5" they didn't have my size in store but they told me they could deliver the correct size to my house. After giving them my info for delivery they give me the total of $242 and change. I give the lady $245 in cash. Apparently, in order for them to complete this trasaction they need to convert the cash into a gift card. She does this but she makes the gift card for the amount of $245 and not the true amount. When she tried to hand me the $2+ back in the form of a gift card (I never wanted a gift card, asked for a gift card, or bought a gift card) I let her know I would prefer to get cash for change instead. She calls her manager over and the manager tells me they can't cash it out and I'll have to just take the gift card with a $2-$3 balance. At this point I ask the manager if I can just cancel my order and get my $245 cash back. She tells me that is possible and that she just needs to make a call. After calling and cancelling the order, the manager finds that she still can't get the cash off of the gift card that I never bought. She makes a few more calls to the store manager and HR and comes to the conclusion that even though the order is cancelled it is impossible for them to give me any cash today, and that if I come back tomorrow they might have a better shot at giving me my cash back. I walk away dumbfounded that I just walked into a retail store, gave them cash, completed no sale, and leave with a gift card for $245 that I never wanted or even tried to buy, with no other options. My feeling is that there is no way this can be legal. How could a retailer as big as EXPRESS have policies that would allow this? Do I have any options or do I just keep going back trying to get cash for a gift card I never bought? | e5sj2mx | e5rxde7 | 1,536,683,365 | 1,536,658,016 | 64 | 10 | I work in retail and can tell you exactly what happened here. My store does in store orders for customers, which is what they did for you. In order to do this, we have to order on a device that can only be processed with a card (Credit, debit, or gift card). Since you were paying cash, and they had to use a card to place the order, they bought a gift card with your cash and used it to process the order. Then you wanted to do a return, but most systems will not allow a cash return from an item pruchased with a gift card. Even though you weren't trying to use a gift card, that is how they processed the purchase in order to complete the order. They definitely weren't trying to scam you or cheat the system, it's just a stupid work around that we have to use to place orders when the customer has cash. You are going to need to escalate to get your cash back. Ask for the store manager, explain what happened. Tell them you are ABSOLUTELY NOT accepting a gift card back because of their stupid system. Get everyone's name that was involved. Then ask for the District Manager contact info. If they won't give it to you, leave your name and number and ask for a call from the district manager. Then ask them for the company's customer service number. Call customer service every day until they solve this for you. On another note, don't be rude while going through this, it is more of a one of issue of a stupid system than the employee's fault, but let then know you expect them to make it right. We are way more willing to accommodate a reasonable person than someone who is in the store yelling and screaming at us. | Call the corporate office, and ask them to get this sorted out. | 1 | 25,349 | 6.4 |
9eujkp | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | (CA)I paid cash at an EXPRESS retail store and was told I can only receive my change in the form of a gift card... It gets worse. I went to EXPRESS today to buy dress shirts. Due to being 6'5" they didn't have my size in store but they told me they could deliver the correct size to my house. After giving them my info for delivery they give me the total of $242 and change. I give the lady $245 in cash. Apparently, in order for them to complete this trasaction they need to convert the cash into a gift card. She does this but she makes the gift card for the amount of $245 and not the true amount. When she tried to hand me the $2+ back in the form of a gift card (I never wanted a gift card, asked for a gift card, or bought a gift card) I let her know I would prefer to get cash for change instead. She calls her manager over and the manager tells me they can't cash it out and I'll have to just take the gift card with a $2-$3 balance. At this point I ask the manager if I can just cancel my order and get my $245 cash back. She tells me that is possible and that she just needs to make a call. After calling and cancelling the order, the manager finds that she still can't get the cash off of the gift card that I never bought. She makes a few more calls to the store manager and HR and comes to the conclusion that even though the order is cancelled it is impossible for them to give me any cash today, and that if I come back tomorrow they might have a better shot at giving me my cash back. I walk away dumbfounded that I just walked into a retail store, gave them cash, completed no sale, and leave with a gift card for $245 that I never wanted or even tried to buy, with no other options. My feeling is that there is no way this can be legal. How could a retailer as big as EXPRESS have policies that would allow this? Do I have any options or do I just keep going back trying to get cash for a gift card I never bought? | e5s4080 | e5sj2mx | 1,536,669,159 | 1,536,683,365 | 9 | 64 | If it was me, I'de go in the next day, ask for $260 to cover my time and expenses of going back and forth and say that if you don't receive your money back immediately, that you'll be filing a police report and taking them to small claims. Also make sure to say you'll contact corporate cause clearly something shady is going on. You paid in cash and didn't even get your change.... any store has to give you back your change in cash, that's how businesses work. Imagine you went to Dave and Busters, just bought $16 of their currency with a $20, and they say they're going to give you your change in their currency.... no, cause then you just bought $20 worth. Not what you ordered. | I work in retail and can tell you exactly what happened here. My store does in store orders for customers, which is what they did for you. In order to do this, we have to order on a device that can only be processed with a card (Credit, debit, or gift card). Since you were paying cash, and they had to use a card to place the order, they bought a gift card with your cash and used it to process the order. Then you wanted to do a return, but most systems will not allow a cash return from an item pruchased with a gift card. Even though you weren't trying to use a gift card, that is how they processed the purchase in order to complete the order. They definitely weren't trying to scam you or cheat the system, it's just a stupid work around that we have to use to place orders when the customer has cash. You are going to need to escalate to get your cash back. Ask for the store manager, explain what happened. Tell them you are ABSOLUTELY NOT accepting a gift card back because of their stupid system. Get everyone's name that was involved. Then ask for the District Manager contact info. If they won't give it to you, leave your name and number and ask for a call from the district manager. Then ask them for the company's customer service number. Call customer service every day until they solve this for you. On another note, don't be rude while going through this, it is more of a one of issue of a stupid system than the employee's fault, but let then know you expect them to make it right. We are way more willing to accommodate a reasonable person than someone who is in the store yelling and screaming at us. | 0 | 14,206 | 7.111111 |
9eujkp | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | (CA)I paid cash at an EXPRESS retail store and was told I can only receive my change in the form of a gift card... It gets worse. I went to EXPRESS today to buy dress shirts. Due to being 6'5" they didn't have my size in store but they told me they could deliver the correct size to my house. After giving them my info for delivery they give me the total of $242 and change. I give the lady $245 in cash. Apparently, in order for them to complete this trasaction they need to convert the cash into a gift card. She does this but she makes the gift card for the amount of $245 and not the true amount. When she tried to hand me the $2+ back in the form of a gift card (I never wanted a gift card, asked for a gift card, or bought a gift card) I let her know I would prefer to get cash for change instead. She calls her manager over and the manager tells me they can't cash it out and I'll have to just take the gift card with a $2-$3 balance. At this point I ask the manager if I can just cancel my order and get my $245 cash back. She tells me that is possible and that she just needs to make a call. After calling and cancelling the order, the manager finds that she still can't get the cash off of the gift card that I never bought. She makes a few more calls to the store manager and HR and comes to the conclusion that even though the order is cancelled it is impossible for them to give me any cash today, and that if I come back tomorrow they might have a better shot at giving me my cash back. I walk away dumbfounded that I just walked into a retail store, gave them cash, completed no sale, and leave with a gift card for $245 that I never wanted or even tried to buy, with no other options. My feeling is that there is no way this can be legal. How could a retailer as big as EXPRESS have policies that would allow this? Do I have any options or do I just keep going back trying to get cash for a gift card I never bought? | e5sj2mx | e5rvmb1 | 1,536,683,365 | 1,536,654,026 | 64 | 4 | I work in retail and can tell you exactly what happened here. My store does in store orders for customers, which is what they did for you. In order to do this, we have to order on a device that can only be processed with a card (Credit, debit, or gift card). Since you were paying cash, and they had to use a card to place the order, they bought a gift card with your cash and used it to process the order. Then you wanted to do a return, but most systems will not allow a cash return from an item pruchased with a gift card. Even though you weren't trying to use a gift card, that is how they processed the purchase in order to complete the order. They definitely weren't trying to scam you or cheat the system, it's just a stupid work around that we have to use to place orders when the customer has cash. You are going to need to escalate to get your cash back. Ask for the store manager, explain what happened. Tell them you are ABSOLUTELY NOT accepting a gift card back because of their stupid system. Get everyone's name that was involved. Then ask for the District Manager contact info. If they won't give it to you, leave your name and number and ask for a call from the district manager. Then ask them for the company's customer service number. Call customer service every day until they solve this for you. On another note, don't be rude while going through this, it is more of a one of issue of a stupid system than the employee's fault, but let then know you expect them to make it right. We are way more willing to accommodate a reasonable person than someone who is in the store yelling and screaming at us. | Probably going to shit on for this but it was honestly likely a mistake on the cashier's part. When I worked for a different department store, to order something in store to be delivered it HAD to be on a card. Didn't matter if it was a credit card or gift card but HAD to be card. Express likely has a similar policy. The cashier SHOULD HAVE sold you a gift card for the exact total of the order and given you change based on that. They didn't. Cause they were dumb. Likely the STORE has no way to refund from gift cards to prevent fraud (buying a gift card with a stolen credit card, getting the money off of it and then the credit card doesn't pay the merchant). Call corporate and see what they can do. But honestly your best case scenario is likely getting the order and being able to keep the loaded the gift card. The cashier fucked up and while no, you shouldn't have to eat $3 for someone else's mistake, it was likely just that, a mistake. | 1 | 29,339 | 16 |
9eujkp | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | (CA)I paid cash at an EXPRESS retail store and was told I can only receive my change in the form of a gift card... It gets worse. I went to EXPRESS today to buy dress shirts. Due to being 6'5" they didn't have my size in store but they told me they could deliver the correct size to my house. After giving them my info for delivery they give me the total of $242 and change. I give the lady $245 in cash. Apparently, in order for them to complete this trasaction they need to convert the cash into a gift card. She does this but she makes the gift card for the amount of $245 and not the true amount. When she tried to hand me the $2+ back in the form of a gift card (I never wanted a gift card, asked for a gift card, or bought a gift card) I let her know I would prefer to get cash for change instead. She calls her manager over and the manager tells me they can't cash it out and I'll have to just take the gift card with a $2-$3 balance. At this point I ask the manager if I can just cancel my order and get my $245 cash back. She tells me that is possible and that she just needs to make a call. After calling and cancelling the order, the manager finds that she still can't get the cash off of the gift card that I never bought. She makes a few more calls to the store manager and HR and comes to the conclusion that even though the order is cancelled it is impossible for them to give me any cash today, and that if I come back tomorrow they might have a better shot at giving me my cash back. I walk away dumbfounded that I just walked into a retail store, gave them cash, completed no sale, and leave with a gift card for $245 that I never wanted or even tried to buy, with no other options. My feeling is that there is no way this can be legal. How could a retailer as big as EXPRESS have policies that would allow this? Do I have any options or do I just keep going back trying to get cash for a gift card I never bought? | e5sj2mx | e5rz8dk | 1,536,683,365 | 1,536,661,966 | 64 | 6 | I work in retail and can tell you exactly what happened here. My store does in store orders for customers, which is what they did for you. In order to do this, we have to order on a device that can only be processed with a card (Credit, debit, or gift card). Since you were paying cash, and they had to use a card to place the order, they bought a gift card with your cash and used it to process the order. Then you wanted to do a return, but most systems will not allow a cash return from an item pruchased with a gift card. Even though you weren't trying to use a gift card, that is how they processed the purchase in order to complete the order. They definitely weren't trying to scam you or cheat the system, it's just a stupid work around that we have to use to place orders when the customer has cash. You are going to need to escalate to get your cash back. Ask for the store manager, explain what happened. Tell them you are ABSOLUTELY NOT accepting a gift card back because of their stupid system. Get everyone's name that was involved. Then ask for the District Manager contact info. If they won't give it to you, leave your name and number and ask for a call from the district manager. Then ask them for the company's customer service number. Call customer service every day until they solve this for you. On another note, don't be rude while going through this, it is more of a one of issue of a stupid system than the employee's fault, but let then know you expect them to make it right. We are way more willing to accommodate a reasonable person than someone who is in the store yelling and screaming at us. | not legal advice, but even if they fix it and do a gift card for the exact amount, you would still wind up with a gift card and no way to cash it out if you wind up returning anything | 1 | 21,399 | 10.666667 |
9eujkp | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | (CA)I paid cash at an EXPRESS retail store and was told I can only receive my change in the form of a gift card... It gets worse. I went to EXPRESS today to buy dress shirts. Due to being 6'5" they didn't have my size in store but they told me they could deliver the correct size to my house. After giving them my info for delivery they give me the total of $242 and change. I give the lady $245 in cash. Apparently, in order for them to complete this trasaction they need to convert the cash into a gift card. She does this but she makes the gift card for the amount of $245 and not the true amount. When she tried to hand me the $2+ back in the form of a gift card (I never wanted a gift card, asked for a gift card, or bought a gift card) I let her know I would prefer to get cash for change instead. She calls her manager over and the manager tells me they can't cash it out and I'll have to just take the gift card with a $2-$3 balance. At this point I ask the manager if I can just cancel my order and get my $245 cash back. She tells me that is possible and that she just needs to make a call. After calling and cancelling the order, the manager finds that she still can't get the cash off of the gift card that I never bought. She makes a few more calls to the store manager and HR and comes to the conclusion that even though the order is cancelled it is impossible for them to give me any cash today, and that if I come back tomorrow they might have a better shot at giving me my cash back. I walk away dumbfounded that I just walked into a retail store, gave them cash, completed no sale, and leave with a gift card for $245 that I never wanted or even tried to buy, with no other options. My feeling is that there is no way this can be legal. How could a retailer as big as EXPRESS have policies that would allow this? Do I have any options or do I just keep going back trying to get cash for a gift card I never bought? | e5rxde7 | e5s9m3h | 1,536,658,016 | 1,536,675,103 | 10 | 22 | Call the corporate office, and ask them to get this sorted out. | As a retail worker at multiple places over the last ten years, there is something shady going on here. The top comment probably has it right; they're scamming you somehow by using the gift card system, and they probably did refund it- just not back to you. I'd be very surprised if there actually was 245$ on that card. Otherwise, they realized their mistake and put it all back on the gift card and there is something in their system that wont let you refund a gift card for 24hours. Both of those are hypothetical, but I bet itll be something along those lines. Of course, they can't admit ANY of this to you or they'll be found out. I'd call corporate and let them handle the whole thing. I'd also find a way to review their store somewhere online, and detail your experience with them. My bosses all really cared about those reviews, and would read them to us. | 0 | 17,087 | 2.2 |
9eujkp | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | (CA)I paid cash at an EXPRESS retail store and was told I can only receive my change in the form of a gift card... It gets worse. I went to EXPRESS today to buy dress shirts. Due to being 6'5" they didn't have my size in store but they told me they could deliver the correct size to my house. After giving them my info for delivery they give me the total of $242 and change. I give the lady $245 in cash. Apparently, in order for them to complete this trasaction they need to convert the cash into a gift card. She does this but she makes the gift card for the amount of $245 and not the true amount. When she tried to hand me the $2+ back in the form of a gift card (I never wanted a gift card, asked for a gift card, or bought a gift card) I let her know I would prefer to get cash for change instead. She calls her manager over and the manager tells me they can't cash it out and I'll have to just take the gift card with a $2-$3 balance. At this point I ask the manager if I can just cancel my order and get my $245 cash back. She tells me that is possible and that she just needs to make a call. After calling and cancelling the order, the manager finds that she still can't get the cash off of the gift card that I never bought. She makes a few more calls to the store manager and HR and comes to the conclusion that even though the order is cancelled it is impossible for them to give me any cash today, and that if I come back tomorrow they might have a better shot at giving me my cash back. I walk away dumbfounded that I just walked into a retail store, gave them cash, completed no sale, and leave with a gift card for $245 that I never wanted or even tried to buy, with no other options. My feeling is that there is no way this can be legal. How could a retailer as big as EXPRESS have policies that would allow this? Do I have any options or do I just keep going back trying to get cash for a gift card I never bought? | e5s4080 | e5s9m3h | 1,536,669,159 | 1,536,675,103 | 9 | 22 | If it was me, I'de go in the next day, ask for $260 to cover my time and expenses of going back and forth and say that if you don't receive your money back immediately, that you'll be filing a police report and taking them to small claims. Also make sure to say you'll contact corporate cause clearly something shady is going on. You paid in cash and didn't even get your change.... any store has to give you back your change in cash, that's how businesses work. Imagine you went to Dave and Busters, just bought $16 of their currency with a $20, and they say they're going to give you your change in their currency.... no, cause then you just bought $20 worth. Not what you ordered. | As a retail worker at multiple places over the last ten years, there is something shady going on here. The top comment probably has it right; they're scamming you somehow by using the gift card system, and they probably did refund it- just not back to you. I'd be very surprised if there actually was 245$ on that card. Otherwise, they realized their mistake and put it all back on the gift card and there is something in their system that wont let you refund a gift card for 24hours. Both of those are hypothetical, but I bet itll be something along those lines. Of course, they can't admit ANY of this to you or they'll be found out. I'd call corporate and let them handle the whole thing. I'd also find a way to review their store somewhere online, and detail your experience with them. My bosses all really cared about those reviews, and would read them to us. | 0 | 5,944 | 2.444444 |
9eujkp | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | (CA)I paid cash at an EXPRESS retail store and was told I can only receive my change in the form of a gift card... It gets worse. I went to EXPRESS today to buy dress shirts. Due to being 6'5" they didn't have my size in store but they told me they could deliver the correct size to my house. After giving them my info for delivery they give me the total of $242 and change. I give the lady $245 in cash. Apparently, in order for them to complete this trasaction they need to convert the cash into a gift card. She does this but she makes the gift card for the amount of $245 and not the true amount. When she tried to hand me the $2+ back in the form of a gift card (I never wanted a gift card, asked for a gift card, or bought a gift card) I let her know I would prefer to get cash for change instead. She calls her manager over and the manager tells me they can't cash it out and I'll have to just take the gift card with a $2-$3 balance. At this point I ask the manager if I can just cancel my order and get my $245 cash back. She tells me that is possible and that she just needs to make a call. After calling and cancelling the order, the manager finds that she still can't get the cash off of the gift card that I never bought. She makes a few more calls to the store manager and HR and comes to the conclusion that even though the order is cancelled it is impossible for them to give me any cash today, and that if I come back tomorrow they might have a better shot at giving me my cash back. I walk away dumbfounded that I just walked into a retail store, gave them cash, completed no sale, and leave with a gift card for $245 that I never wanted or even tried to buy, with no other options. My feeling is that there is no way this can be legal. How could a retailer as big as EXPRESS have policies that would allow this? Do I have any options or do I just keep going back trying to get cash for a gift card I never bought? | e5rvmb1 | e5s9m3h | 1,536,654,026 | 1,536,675,103 | 4 | 22 | Probably going to shit on for this but it was honestly likely a mistake on the cashier's part. When I worked for a different department store, to order something in store to be delivered it HAD to be on a card. Didn't matter if it was a credit card or gift card but HAD to be card. Express likely has a similar policy. The cashier SHOULD HAVE sold you a gift card for the exact total of the order and given you change based on that. They didn't. Cause they were dumb. Likely the STORE has no way to refund from gift cards to prevent fraud (buying a gift card with a stolen credit card, getting the money off of it and then the credit card doesn't pay the merchant). Call corporate and see what they can do. But honestly your best case scenario is likely getting the order and being able to keep the loaded the gift card. The cashier fucked up and while no, you shouldn't have to eat $3 for someone else's mistake, it was likely just that, a mistake. | As a retail worker at multiple places over the last ten years, there is something shady going on here. The top comment probably has it right; they're scamming you somehow by using the gift card system, and they probably did refund it- just not back to you. I'd be very surprised if there actually was 245$ on that card. Otherwise, they realized their mistake and put it all back on the gift card and there is something in their system that wont let you refund a gift card for 24hours. Both of those are hypothetical, but I bet itll be something along those lines. Of course, they can't admit ANY of this to you or they'll be found out. I'd call corporate and let them handle the whole thing. I'd also find a way to review their store somewhere online, and detail your experience with them. My bosses all really cared about those reviews, and would read them to us. | 0 | 21,077 | 5.5 |
9eujkp | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | (CA)I paid cash at an EXPRESS retail store and was told I can only receive my change in the form of a gift card... It gets worse. I went to EXPRESS today to buy dress shirts. Due to being 6'5" they didn't have my size in store but they told me they could deliver the correct size to my house. After giving them my info for delivery they give me the total of $242 and change. I give the lady $245 in cash. Apparently, in order for them to complete this trasaction they need to convert the cash into a gift card. She does this but she makes the gift card for the amount of $245 and not the true amount. When she tried to hand me the $2+ back in the form of a gift card (I never wanted a gift card, asked for a gift card, or bought a gift card) I let her know I would prefer to get cash for change instead. She calls her manager over and the manager tells me they can't cash it out and I'll have to just take the gift card with a $2-$3 balance. At this point I ask the manager if I can just cancel my order and get my $245 cash back. She tells me that is possible and that she just needs to make a call. After calling and cancelling the order, the manager finds that she still can't get the cash off of the gift card that I never bought. She makes a few more calls to the store manager and HR and comes to the conclusion that even though the order is cancelled it is impossible for them to give me any cash today, and that if I come back tomorrow they might have a better shot at giving me my cash back. I walk away dumbfounded that I just walked into a retail store, gave them cash, completed no sale, and leave with a gift card for $245 that I never wanted or even tried to buy, with no other options. My feeling is that there is no way this can be legal. How could a retailer as big as EXPRESS have policies that would allow this? Do I have any options or do I just keep going back trying to get cash for a gift card I never bought? | e5rz8dk | e5s9m3h | 1,536,661,966 | 1,536,675,103 | 6 | 22 | not legal advice, but even if they fix it and do a gift card for the exact amount, you would still wind up with a gift card and no way to cash it out if you wind up returning anything | As a retail worker at multiple places over the last ten years, there is something shady going on here. The top comment probably has it right; they're scamming you somehow by using the gift card system, and they probably did refund it- just not back to you. I'd be very surprised if there actually was 245$ on that card. Otherwise, they realized their mistake and put it all back on the gift card and there is something in their system that wont let you refund a gift card for 24hours. Both of those are hypothetical, but I bet itll be something along those lines. Of course, they can't admit ANY of this to you or they'll be found out. I'd call corporate and let them handle the whole thing. I'd also find a way to review their store somewhere online, and detail your experience with them. My bosses all really cared about those reviews, and would read them to us. | 0 | 13,137 | 3.666667 |
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