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zt269o | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | VP's wife is threatening me with reputation destruction on the assumption that I was with her husband when she was abroad. I was not. Her husband (the VP), can't be helped to explain to her. I've gone down that road many times. She continues to threaten me. Telling me she's gonna tell the president's wife. She will tell my old manager etc... I feel utterly helpless to put a stop to this. I consider this work related as it relates to an issue with a coworkers relative but my boss (the President) doesn't see it that way. What are my options? | j1c9mdy | j1bvqhj | 1,671,775,041 | 1,671,767,248 | 86 | 8 | I would think you should get ahead of these false accusations and inform everyone she hopes to tell that she has threatened to make false and slanderous allegations against you. Being first to make an impression can make a big difference in terms of people's impressions, if you do it right. But that is different, though related, to your legal recourse in pursuing her for slander. | Not a lawyer. You cannot prevent wife from saying anything to anyone. You can provide her, the president, or any other interested parties with evidence to the contrary of wife’s claims, and explain to wife the legal repercussions of slander. | 1 | 7,793 | 10.75 |
zt269o | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | VP's wife is threatening me with reputation destruction on the assumption that I was with her husband when she was abroad. I was not. Her husband (the VP), can't be helped to explain to her. I've gone down that road many times. She continues to threaten me. Telling me she's gonna tell the president's wife. She will tell my old manager etc... I feel utterly helpless to put a stop to this. I consider this work related as it relates to an issue with a coworkers relative but my boss (the President) doesn't see it that way. What are my options? | j1cgtlb | j1dtenn | 1,671,780,014 | 1,671,810,854 | 8 | 10 | Here's one option. Talk to a lawyer get the to write her a cease and desist letter. These letters are often times a "formal" warning before someone takes legal action. In this letter your lawyer will lay out that her accusations are false and that if she does continue to spread lies you will take her to court and the consequences of this are sever monetary penalties. Ultimately if you're saying the truth stick to it and do not let her spreads lies that have the possibility to impact your career. | Spreading sexual rumors in the workplace is a form of sexual harassment, especially when it's about women because promiscuity in women is judged more harshly than in men which may lead to de facto gender based discrimination. https://www.mcafeetaft.com/sexual-rumors-as-actionable-harassment/ You may want to notify HR that a spouse of a boss has threatened to spread sexual rumors about you in the workplace, so they can be on top of it and nip it in the butt (as in, come down hard on any employee who spreads these rumors further). Going to HR proactively will make them more likely to believe you that the rumors are false. It also sends an implicit message that you are aware of your rights to be protected from sexual harassment and gender discrimination in the workplace. | 0 | 30,840 | 1.25 |
zt269o | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | VP's wife is threatening me with reputation destruction on the assumption that I was with her husband when she was abroad. I was not. Her husband (the VP), can't be helped to explain to her. I've gone down that road many times. She continues to threaten me. Telling me she's gonna tell the president's wife. She will tell my old manager etc... I feel utterly helpless to put a stop to this. I consider this work related as it relates to an issue with a coworkers relative but my boss (the President) doesn't see it that way. What are my options? | j1dtenn | j1bvqhj | 1,671,810,854 | 1,671,767,248 | 10 | 8 | Spreading sexual rumors in the workplace is a form of sexual harassment, especially when it's about women because promiscuity in women is judged more harshly than in men which may lead to de facto gender based discrimination. https://www.mcafeetaft.com/sexual-rumors-as-actionable-harassment/ You may want to notify HR that a spouse of a boss has threatened to spread sexual rumors about you in the workplace, so they can be on top of it and nip it in the butt (as in, come down hard on any employee who spreads these rumors further). Going to HR proactively will make them more likely to believe you that the rumors are false. It also sends an implicit message that you are aware of your rights to be protected from sexual harassment and gender discrimination in the workplace. | Not a lawyer. You cannot prevent wife from saying anything to anyone. You can provide her, the president, or any other interested parties with evidence to the contrary of wife’s claims, and explain to wife the legal repercussions of slander. | 1 | 43,606 | 1.25 |
zt269o | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | VP's wife is threatening me with reputation destruction on the assumption that I was with her husband when she was abroad. I was not. Her husband (the VP), can't be helped to explain to her. I've gone down that road many times. She continues to threaten me. Telling me she's gonna tell the president's wife. She will tell my old manager etc... I feel utterly helpless to put a stop to this. I consider this work related as it relates to an issue with a coworkers relative but my boss (the President) doesn't see it that way. What are my options? | j1cx0ux | j1dtenn | 1,671,792,928 | 1,671,810,854 | 5 | 10 | I am willing to bet this is not the first time she has done this. It seems like your president could care less. Sadly, it appears that you are collateral damage of her latest tirade. | Spreading sexual rumors in the workplace is a form of sexual harassment, especially when it's about women because promiscuity in women is judged more harshly than in men which may lead to de facto gender based discrimination. https://www.mcafeetaft.com/sexual-rumors-as-actionable-harassment/ You may want to notify HR that a spouse of a boss has threatened to spread sexual rumors about you in the workplace, so they can be on top of it and nip it in the butt (as in, come down hard on any employee who spreads these rumors further). Going to HR proactively will make them more likely to believe you that the rumors are false. It also sends an implicit message that you are aware of your rights to be protected from sexual harassment and gender discrimination in the workplace. | 0 | 17,926 | 2 |
zt269o | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | VP's wife is threatening me with reputation destruction on the assumption that I was with her husband when she was abroad. I was not. Her husband (the VP), can't be helped to explain to her. I've gone down that road many times. She continues to threaten me. Telling me she's gonna tell the president's wife. She will tell my old manager etc... I feel utterly helpless to put a stop to this. I consider this work related as it relates to an issue with a coworkers relative but my boss (the President) doesn't see it that way. What are my options? | j1dtenn | j1dt7mb | 1,671,810,854 | 1,671,810,775 | 10 | 3 | Spreading sexual rumors in the workplace is a form of sexual harassment, especially when it's about women because promiscuity in women is judged more harshly than in men which may lead to de facto gender based discrimination. https://www.mcafeetaft.com/sexual-rumors-as-actionable-harassment/ You may want to notify HR that a spouse of a boss has threatened to spread sexual rumors about you in the workplace, so they can be on top of it and nip it in the butt (as in, come down hard on any employee who spreads these rumors further). Going to HR proactively will make them more likely to believe you that the rumors are false. It also sends an implicit message that you are aware of your rights to be protected from sexual harassment and gender discrimination in the workplace. | This sort of situation has come up before and been litigated in the courts. Usually, it ends up in court when the company fires a woman because her boss's wife thinks she's too pretty, thinks she's sleeping with the boss, etc. Does this lady work for the company? If not, how/where is she talking to you? It may be best that you refuse to speak to her about this further. If the company fires you over this, that can arguably be a form on unlawful sex discrimination, since a man presumably wouldn't get fired due to jealousy from the the boss' wife. If you google spouse jealousy discrimination you'll see reports of cases dealing with this scenario. | 1 | 79 | 3.333333 |
7m9cyy | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Can my[23F]husband[26M]divorce me while he is TDY in Guam? Originally posted in r/relationshipadvice but was told to post here. Short backstory: Married for 6 years, together for 7, 4 year old kid. He cheated on me a few times. We tried to work it out. He is all of a sudden with no discussion saying he doesn’t want to be with me. We were young, in love, best friends, and got married. 4 years ago he joined the Air Force, he got a taste of what “single” life is like (constantly on tdy so basically partying with his bros) and ever since he has been emotionally abusive and cheated (a few times). I told him I couldn’t work this out if he stayed in the Air Force. He agreed and decided to change to part time Guard since it’s not full strung active duty. But now he doesn’t want any of it at all, and he’d rather be in the Air Force then be with his wife and son. Anyways, he’s saying he’s going to see the lawyer on base tomorrow where he is in Guam. He won’t even talk about it with me in person first. Just wondering if he can only get advice there or if he can file for divorce? We reside in Florida, by the way. Also, any divorce advice would be appreciated. I have no idea what I’m doing. | drskev0 | drs9ikl | 1,514,326,607 | 1,514,312,922 | 129 | 73 | Air Force JAG here, although I no longer work in the legal office and provide legal assistance. The JAGs at the base legal office can give him advice about what the divorce process looks like and what to expect; they can assist him in filling out the paperwork if he is filing pro se (himself, without an attorney), but they can't fill out the paperwork for him; they can help him find an attorney; and they can provide him legal advice in the interim (like what he is likely to lose in the process, what to do and not to do with property, what he may be on the hook for so far as alimony and child support, etc.); they CANNOT represent him in the divorce proceedings. So this process is by no means starting tomorrow. He still needs to either find a lawyer and file or fill out the paperwork and file himself. He won't be able to file in Guam, he will either likely need to do be in Florida or the state in which you got married (if different). As a dependent of a guard member, you should be entitled to legal assistance from the guard. Because he is TDY and likely on active duty orders, you may be entitled to legal assistance from any active duty base (it will depend what title his orders are under, he needs to be on Title 10 orders to be entitled to legal assistance from an active duty base, and you may need a copy of the orders, that's why I suggest calling the legal office first). My suggestion would be to call the local Guard base and see what they offer, and if they can't help, call the closest regular Air Force base and see if they can provide some legal advice. While they won't be able to do any more for you than him, they can give you a general idea of the lay of the land, and will be able to give you a lot better advice than internet strangers. They will likely also suggest that you get a civilian divorce attorney and can help you with that. If you have trouble finding contact information, let me know what the closes bases are and I can dig up the main line numbers to the respective legal offices. I'm sorry that you are dealing with this, and I wish you the best going forward. | > Just wondering if he can only get advice there or if he can file for divorce? We reside in Florida, by the way. Assuming his orders are actually TDY and not a permanent change of station, he'd need to file in Florida. He can continue to be on TDY in Guam while pursuing the divorce in Florida, however. | 1 | 13,685 | 1.767123 |
7m9cyy | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Can my[23F]husband[26M]divorce me while he is TDY in Guam? Originally posted in r/relationshipadvice but was told to post here. Short backstory: Married for 6 years, together for 7, 4 year old kid. He cheated on me a few times. We tried to work it out. He is all of a sudden with no discussion saying he doesn’t want to be with me. We were young, in love, best friends, and got married. 4 years ago he joined the Air Force, he got a taste of what “single” life is like (constantly on tdy so basically partying with his bros) and ever since he has been emotionally abusive and cheated (a few times). I told him I couldn’t work this out if he stayed in the Air Force. He agreed and decided to change to part time Guard since it’s not full strung active duty. But now he doesn’t want any of it at all, and he’d rather be in the Air Force then be with his wife and son. Anyways, he’s saying he’s going to see the lawyer on base tomorrow where he is in Guam. He won’t even talk about it with me in person first. Just wondering if he can only get advice there or if he can file for divorce? We reside in Florida, by the way. Also, any divorce advice would be appreciated. I have no idea what I’m doing. | drsabz2 | drskev0 | 1,514,313,920 | 1,514,326,607 | 25 | 129 | >Guam Divorce Jurisdiction >§ 8318. Residence of Parties. >(a) A divorce or dissolution of marriage may be granted if one (1) of the parties has been a resident of Guam for at least ninety (90) days immediately preceding the filing of a complaint for divorce, or dissolution of marriage. ***For purposes of this Section, a person shall be deemed a resident if one (1) of the parties has been assigned with the U.S. Military to a unit on Guam or a ship home-ported in Guam for at least ninety (90) days immediately preceding the filing of a complaint for divorce or dissolution of marriage*** or if one (1) of the parties is physically present in Guam for at least ninety (90) days immediately preceding the filing of a complaint for divorce or dissolution of marriage. Physical presence by one of the parties in Guam for a period of ninety (90) days prior to filing of the action for divorce or dissolution of marriage shall give rise to a conclusive presumption of compliance with this Section. >(b) If both parties consent in writing to a divorce or dissolution of their marriage, a divorce or dissolution may be granted if one of the parties has resided in Guam for at least seven (7) days immediately preceding the filing of the complaint. If you think he's going to do this, you should seek out a qualified divorce attorney familiar with military divorce and custody issues, and try and preemptively establish jurisdiction where you are now. The flights to Guam are no joke. The legal assistance office on base won't file any paperwork; they just give advice. | Air Force JAG here, although I no longer work in the legal office and provide legal assistance. The JAGs at the base legal office can give him advice about what the divorce process looks like and what to expect; they can assist him in filling out the paperwork if he is filing pro se (himself, without an attorney), but they can't fill out the paperwork for him; they can help him find an attorney; and they can provide him legal advice in the interim (like what he is likely to lose in the process, what to do and not to do with property, what he may be on the hook for so far as alimony and child support, etc.); they CANNOT represent him in the divorce proceedings. So this process is by no means starting tomorrow. He still needs to either find a lawyer and file or fill out the paperwork and file himself. He won't be able to file in Guam, he will either likely need to do be in Florida or the state in which you got married (if different). As a dependent of a guard member, you should be entitled to legal assistance from the guard. Because he is TDY and likely on active duty orders, you may be entitled to legal assistance from any active duty base (it will depend what title his orders are under, he needs to be on Title 10 orders to be entitled to legal assistance from an active duty base, and you may need a copy of the orders, that's why I suggest calling the legal office first). My suggestion would be to call the local Guard base and see what they offer, and if they can't help, call the closest regular Air Force base and see if they can provide some legal advice. While they won't be able to do any more for you than him, they can give you a general idea of the lay of the land, and will be able to give you a lot better advice than internet strangers. They will likely also suggest that you get a civilian divorce attorney and can help you with that. If you have trouble finding contact information, let me know what the closes bases are and I can dig up the main line numbers to the respective legal offices. I'm sorry that you are dealing with this, and I wish you the best going forward. | 0 | 12,687 | 5.16 |
7m9cyy | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Can my[23F]husband[26M]divorce me while he is TDY in Guam? Originally posted in r/relationshipadvice but was told to post here. Short backstory: Married for 6 years, together for 7, 4 year old kid. He cheated on me a few times. We tried to work it out. He is all of a sudden with no discussion saying he doesn’t want to be with me. We were young, in love, best friends, and got married. 4 years ago he joined the Air Force, he got a taste of what “single” life is like (constantly on tdy so basically partying with his bros) and ever since he has been emotionally abusive and cheated (a few times). I told him I couldn’t work this out if he stayed in the Air Force. He agreed and decided to change to part time Guard since it’s not full strung active duty. But now he doesn’t want any of it at all, and he’d rather be in the Air Force then be with his wife and son. Anyways, he’s saying he’s going to see the lawyer on base tomorrow where he is in Guam. He won’t even talk about it with me in person first. Just wondering if he can only get advice there or if he can file for divorce? We reside in Florida, by the way. Also, any divorce advice would be appreciated. I have no idea what I’m doing. | drskev0 | drs9m8c | 1,514,326,607 | 1,514,313,045 | 129 | 4 | Air Force JAG here, although I no longer work in the legal office and provide legal assistance. The JAGs at the base legal office can give him advice about what the divorce process looks like and what to expect; they can assist him in filling out the paperwork if he is filing pro se (himself, without an attorney), but they can't fill out the paperwork for him; they can help him find an attorney; and they can provide him legal advice in the interim (like what he is likely to lose in the process, what to do and not to do with property, what he may be on the hook for so far as alimony and child support, etc.); they CANNOT represent him in the divorce proceedings. So this process is by no means starting tomorrow. He still needs to either find a lawyer and file or fill out the paperwork and file himself. He won't be able to file in Guam, he will either likely need to do be in Florida or the state in which you got married (if different). As a dependent of a guard member, you should be entitled to legal assistance from the guard. Because he is TDY and likely on active duty orders, you may be entitled to legal assistance from any active duty base (it will depend what title his orders are under, he needs to be on Title 10 orders to be entitled to legal assistance from an active duty base, and you may need a copy of the orders, that's why I suggest calling the legal office first). My suggestion would be to call the local Guard base and see what they offer, and if they can't help, call the closest regular Air Force base and see if they can provide some legal advice. While they won't be able to do any more for you than him, they can give you a general idea of the lay of the land, and will be able to give you a lot better advice than internet strangers. They will likely also suggest that you get a civilian divorce attorney and can help you with that. If you have trouble finding contact information, let me know what the closes bases are and I can dig up the main line numbers to the respective legal offices. I'm sorry that you are dealing with this, and I wish you the best going forward. | He can file for divorce, though he couldn't do it in a court in Guam if he's stationed there but still has another legal residence. He'd have to do it where his domicile is, which is likely FL. You should probably talk to a divorce attorney of your own at this point | 1 | 13,562 | 32.25 |
7m9cyy | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Can my[23F]husband[26M]divorce me while he is TDY in Guam? Originally posted in r/relationshipadvice but was told to post here. Short backstory: Married for 6 years, together for 7, 4 year old kid. He cheated on me a few times. We tried to work it out. He is all of a sudden with no discussion saying he doesn’t want to be with me. We were young, in love, best friends, and got married. 4 years ago he joined the Air Force, he got a taste of what “single” life is like (constantly on tdy so basically partying with his bros) and ever since he has been emotionally abusive and cheated (a few times). I told him I couldn’t work this out if he stayed in the Air Force. He agreed and decided to change to part time Guard since it’s not full strung active duty. But now he doesn’t want any of it at all, and he’d rather be in the Air Force then be with his wife and son. Anyways, he’s saying he’s going to see the lawyer on base tomorrow where he is in Guam. He won’t even talk about it with me in person first. Just wondering if he can only get advice there or if he can file for divorce? We reside in Florida, by the way. Also, any divorce advice would be appreciated. I have no idea what I’m doing. | drsabz2 | drs9m8c | 1,514,313,920 | 1,514,313,045 | 25 | 4 | >Guam Divorce Jurisdiction >§ 8318. Residence of Parties. >(a) A divorce or dissolution of marriage may be granted if one (1) of the parties has been a resident of Guam for at least ninety (90) days immediately preceding the filing of a complaint for divorce, or dissolution of marriage. ***For purposes of this Section, a person shall be deemed a resident if one (1) of the parties has been assigned with the U.S. Military to a unit on Guam or a ship home-ported in Guam for at least ninety (90) days immediately preceding the filing of a complaint for divorce or dissolution of marriage*** or if one (1) of the parties is physically present in Guam for at least ninety (90) days immediately preceding the filing of a complaint for divorce or dissolution of marriage. Physical presence by one of the parties in Guam for a period of ninety (90) days prior to filing of the action for divorce or dissolution of marriage shall give rise to a conclusive presumption of compliance with this Section. >(b) If both parties consent in writing to a divorce or dissolution of their marriage, a divorce or dissolution may be granted if one of the parties has resided in Guam for at least seven (7) days immediately preceding the filing of the complaint. If you think he's going to do this, you should seek out a qualified divorce attorney familiar with military divorce and custody issues, and try and preemptively establish jurisdiction where you are now. The flights to Guam are no joke. The legal assistance office on base won't file any paperwork; they just give advice. | He can file for divorce, though he couldn't do it in a court in Guam if he's stationed there but still has another legal residence. He'd have to do it where his domicile is, which is likely FL. You should probably talk to a divorce attorney of your own at this point | 1 | 875 | 6.25 |
7m9cyy | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Can my[23F]husband[26M]divorce me while he is TDY in Guam? Originally posted in r/relationshipadvice but was told to post here. Short backstory: Married for 6 years, together for 7, 4 year old kid. He cheated on me a few times. We tried to work it out. He is all of a sudden with no discussion saying he doesn’t want to be with me. We were young, in love, best friends, and got married. 4 years ago he joined the Air Force, he got a taste of what “single” life is like (constantly on tdy so basically partying with his bros) and ever since he has been emotionally abusive and cheated (a few times). I told him I couldn’t work this out if he stayed in the Air Force. He agreed and decided to change to part time Guard since it’s not full strung active duty. But now he doesn’t want any of it at all, and he’d rather be in the Air Force then be with his wife and son. Anyways, he’s saying he’s going to see the lawyer on base tomorrow where he is in Guam. He won’t even talk about it with me in person first. Just wondering if he can only get advice there or if he can file for divorce? We reside in Florida, by the way. Also, any divorce advice would be appreciated. I have no idea what I’m doing. | drs9m8c | drsl3gl | 1,514,313,045 | 1,514,327,498 | 4 | 16 | He can file for divorce, though he couldn't do it in a court in Guam if he's stationed there but still has another legal residence. He'd have to do it where his domicile is, which is likely FL. You should probably talk to a divorce attorney of your own at this point | You know enlisted men can be charged with adultery, so if you have any proof of cheating that might be something to do. | 0 | 14,453 | 4 |
udyf4d | legaladvice_train | 0.74 | My husband raped me when I was unconscious and I can't get any help My husband raped me when I was unconscious and he admitted to it in martial therapy and I cannot get any legal help. After he admitted to it in marital therapy he filed for divorce. I called him for help after drinking too much at a concert, I knew I couldn't drive home. He came and picked me up. The next morning he said he "felt guilty about something" He said a after he picked me up I passed out in the car, head down and drooling. He imitated me. He said he took me upstairs, took off my clothes and "had sex with me." I told him that if I was impaired from alcohol and unable to give consent, that's rape. He finally admitted to the crime in therapy and I promptly filed a police report. I cannot get anyone to represent me. I would like him to be punished for this crime and I would like to sue him civilly. Since he admitted to this in therapy I need the therapists notes and he needs to sign a release for that; at least that is my understanding. This man is a sexual predator. He is also a child 'groomer." What can I do to get legal help? He is now my ex-husband and I still want him held accountable for his sexual assault. | i6jwj0w | i6jrj62 | 1,651,164,111 | 1,651,162,080 | 435 | 158 | >I cannot get anyone to represent me. I would like him to be punished for this crime and I would like to sue him civilly. Since he admitted to this in therapy I need the therapists notes and he needs to sign a release for that; at least that is my understanding. Back up a sec. How long ago did you make a police report? Do you know the status of the investigation? Where are you located? | >I cannot get anyone to represent me. You should continue to look for an attorney that would be willing to - your state bar likely has a referral service you can use if you haven't already. You cannot force prosecution of a crime, but I'd certainly follow up on the status of your police report. | 1 | 2,031 | 2.753165 |
udyf4d | legaladvice_train | 0.74 | My husband raped me when I was unconscious and I can't get any help My husband raped me when I was unconscious and he admitted to it in martial therapy and I cannot get any legal help. After he admitted to it in marital therapy he filed for divorce. I called him for help after drinking too much at a concert, I knew I couldn't drive home. He came and picked me up. The next morning he said he "felt guilty about something" He said a after he picked me up I passed out in the car, head down and drooling. He imitated me. He said he took me upstairs, took off my clothes and "had sex with me." I told him that if I was impaired from alcohol and unable to give consent, that's rape. He finally admitted to the crime in therapy and I promptly filed a police report. I cannot get anyone to represent me. I would like him to be punished for this crime and I would like to sue him civilly. Since he admitted to this in therapy I need the therapists notes and he needs to sign a release for that; at least that is my understanding. This man is a sexual predator. He is also a child 'groomer." What can I do to get legal help? He is now my ex-husband and I still want him held accountable for his sexual assault. | i6kwvrj | i6jrj62 | 1,651,178,511 | 1,651,162,080 | 229 | 158 | I am not a lawyer but I am a forensic nurse Who worked with rape victims for 3 1/2 years. If you are in the US you can call any local rape crisis center or Family Justice Center both can connect you to a legal advocate that can help you push your case forward. You do not need to hire a private attorney unless you are suing for damages. This is a case for the DAs office. They also can subpoena to get the therapist notes. The therapist can refuse but they will ultimately go to jail if a judge grants a subpoena and they do not comply. | >I cannot get anyone to represent me. You should continue to look for an attorney that would be willing to - your state bar likely has a referral service you can use if you haven't already. You cannot force prosecution of a crime, but I'd certainly follow up on the status of your police report. | 1 | 16,431 | 1.449367 |
udyf4d | legaladvice_train | 0.74 | My husband raped me when I was unconscious and I can't get any help My husband raped me when I was unconscious and he admitted to it in martial therapy and I cannot get any legal help. After he admitted to it in marital therapy he filed for divorce. I called him for help after drinking too much at a concert, I knew I couldn't drive home. He came and picked me up. The next morning he said he "felt guilty about something" He said a after he picked me up I passed out in the car, head down and drooling. He imitated me. He said he took me upstairs, took off my clothes and "had sex with me." I told him that if I was impaired from alcohol and unable to give consent, that's rape. He finally admitted to the crime in therapy and I promptly filed a police report. I cannot get anyone to represent me. I would like him to be punished for this crime and I would like to sue him civilly. Since he admitted to this in therapy I need the therapists notes and he needs to sign a release for that; at least that is my understanding. This man is a sexual predator. He is also a child 'groomer." What can I do to get legal help? He is now my ex-husband and I still want him held accountable for his sexual assault. | i6kwvrj | i6kgggn | 1,651,178,511 | 1,651,172,109 | 229 | 56 | I am not a lawyer but I am a forensic nurse Who worked with rape victims for 3 1/2 years. If you are in the US you can call any local rape crisis center or Family Justice Center both can connect you to a legal advocate that can help you push your case forward. You do not need to hire a private attorney unless you are suing for damages. This is a case for the DAs office. They also can subpoena to get the therapist notes. The therapist can refuse but they will ultimately go to jail if a judge grants a subpoena and they do not comply. | You should continue looking for an attorney. Whether your psychotherapist could testify to his statement his state-specific. Unfortunately, it is often difficult to find representation for a civil suit based on a single incident of sexual misconduct during a marriage. The defense will make a number of unfair arguments which will likely include that you consented to sexual relations a number of times, he initiated the divorce and you are trying to get back at him, you were not as impaired as you represent and cannot prove otherwise, and that if you were raped, you would have reported it/cut off the relationship immediately at the time. Without hard evidence, juries are often swayed by these arguments, unfortunately, and many attorneys who would take this type of case work on contingency, and will not want to take the risk. Try to find attorneys who have done spousal abuse and sexual assault cases before, they are likely to be most able and willing to represent. | 1 | 6,402 | 4.089286 |
udyf4d | legaladvice_train | 0.74 | My husband raped me when I was unconscious and I can't get any help My husband raped me when I was unconscious and he admitted to it in martial therapy and I cannot get any legal help. After he admitted to it in marital therapy he filed for divorce. I called him for help after drinking too much at a concert, I knew I couldn't drive home. He came and picked me up. The next morning he said he "felt guilty about something" He said a after he picked me up I passed out in the car, head down and drooling. He imitated me. He said he took me upstairs, took off my clothes and "had sex with me." I told him that if I was impaired from alcohol and unable to give consent, that's rape. He finally admitted to the crime in therapy and I promptly filed a police report. I cannot get anyone to represent me. I would like him to be punished for this crime and I would like to sue him civilly. Since he admitted to this in therapy I need the therapists notes and he needs to sign a release for that; at least that is my understanding. This man is a sexual predator. He is also a child 'groomer." What can I do to get legal help? He is now my ex-husband and I still want him held accountable for his sexual assault. | i6kwvrj | i6k9p3b | 1,651,178,511 | 1,651,169,378 | 229 | 7 | I am not a lawyer but I am a forensic nurse Who worked with rape victims for 3 1/2 years. If you are in the US you can call any local rape crisis center or Family Justice Center both can connect you to a legal advocate that can help you push your case forward. You do not need to hire a private attorney unless you are suing for damages. This is a case for the DAs office. They also can subpoena to get the therapist notes. The therapist can refuse but they will ultimately go to jail if a judge grants a subpoena and they do not comply. | What state are you in? There are two separate issues to think about. Confidentiality and privilege. Confidentiality would be an ethics requirement of your therapist. You can find their state licensing board and check their rules on confidentiality in couples' therapy. My guess is that you might be allowed to get the notes for any session that included you. Privilege is when the records are subpoenaed by the prosecutor or court. I don't think that privilege exists in your case: https://law.indiana.edu/instruction/tanford/web/archive/Psypriv.html *10.0. Disputes between co-patients. The privilege does not apply in litigation between two people present at a single counseling session, e.g., if a husband and wife come for joint marriage counseling and then sue each other for divorce.*
I don't know how that shakes out in the criminal matter though... that's not litigation between you and him. | 1 | 9,133 | 32.714286 |
udyf4d | legaladvice_train | 0.74 | My husband raped me when I was unconscious and I can't get any help My husband raped me when I was unconscious and he admitted to it in martial therapy and I cannot get any legal help. After he admitted to it in marital therapy he filed for divorce. I called him for help after drinking too much at a concert, I knew I couldn't drive home. He came and picked me up. The next morning he said he "felt guilty about something" He said a after he picked me up I passed out in the car, head down and drooling. He imitated me. He said he took me upstairs, took off my clothes and "had sex with me." I told him that if I was impaired from alcohol and unable to give consent, that's rape. He finally admitted to the crime in therapy and I promptly filed a police report. I cannot get anyone to represent me. I would like him to be punished for this crime and I would like to sue him civilly. Since he admitted to this in therapy I need the therapists notes and he needs to sign a release for that; at least that is my understanding. This man is a sexual predator. He is also a child 'groomer." What can I do to get legal help? He is now my ex-husband and I still want him held accountable for his sexual assault. | i6k9p3b | i6kgggn | 1,651,169,378 | 1,651,172,109 | 7 | 56 | What state are you in? There are two separate issues to think about. Confidentiality and privilege. Confidentiality would be an ethics requirement of your therapist. You can find their state licensing board and check their rules on confidentiality in couples' therapy. My guess is that you might be allowed to get the notes for any session that included you. Privilege is when the records are subpoenaed by the prosecutor or court. I don't think that privilege exists in your case: https://law.indiana.edu/instruction/tanford/web/archive/Psypriv.html *10.0. Disputes between co-patients. The privilege does not apply in litigation between two people present at a single counseling session, e.g., if a husband and wife come for joint marriage counseling and then sue each other for divorce.*
I don't know how that shakes out in the criminal matter though... that's not litigation between you and him. | You should continue looking for an attorney. Whether your psychotherapist could testify to his statement his state-specific. Unfortunately, it is often difficult to find representation for a civil suit based on a single incident of sexual misconduct during a marriage. The defense will make a number of unfair arguments which will likely include that you consented to sexual relations a number of times, he initiated the divorce and you are trying to get back at him, you were not as impaired as you represent and cannot prove otherwise, and that if you were raped, you would have reported it/cut off the relationship immediately at the time. Without hard evidence, juries are often swayed by these arguments, unfortunately, and many attorneys who would take this type of case work on contingency, and will not want to take the risk. Try to find attorneys who have done spousal abuse and sexual assault cases before, they are likely to be most able and willing to represent. | 0 | 2,731 | 8 |
z9ru18 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Landlord threatening to give 3 day notice for noise complaints during a time frame when both my husband and I are sleeping Our downstairs neighbor has been sending complaints to the property manager about an alarm going off early in the morning. We had previously never received a noise complaint in our history of renting. We are asleep at the times of the complaints and have communicated with the management office that we are asleep during that time and the noise is probably coming from another unit. However since the beginning we have taken them seriously. After the first complaint we changed our alarms to just a flashing light. No sound, no vibration, just a bright flashing light. However, the downstairs neighbors has continued complaining about an alarm going off. The neighbor refuses to speak with us and is very adamant that the sound is coming from our apartment. We have written him a note stating that we sympathize with his plight and we take his comfort seriously. We stated that our alarms make no noise and have not made noise since we have received the first complaint. We also included that we are open to communicating with him directly and will happily work with him to ensure peace. My husband and I both wear our Apple watches to bed and they measure environmental noise while we sleep. The range of decibels from the time of the last complaint was 33-46 dB on my watch and 33-44 on my husband’s watch. I don’t remember the specific ranges for the other complaints, but they were similar and if necessary I can pull up that data. Even with our snoring we are quieter than rain and definitely within our local noise ordinances. We have forwarded all this information to the management office. Yesterday I received another noise complaint note from the management office stating that it is our final warning and if the complaints continue they will go through with a three day notice. During our most recent conversation with the management office they stated our neighbor sent them a video time stamped around 4:30 am and there is a clear vibrating noise in the video. They won’t send us the video and state the only noise in the video is that rhythmic vibrating sound. Again, we have no vibrating alarms. They also stated that they offered to move our neighbor into another unit and he refused. I don’t want to get evicted and at this point I don’t know what I can do further to protect myself. | iyimz9c | iyi8cl3 | 1,669,917,801 | 1,669,912,138 | 47 | 18 | 1 - Your location is relevant here. 2 - Their unwillingness to share the "evidence" is important. I'm inclined to think it doesn't exist because, if it did, they would have no reason not to share it at this point. If they could point out the noise to you, you could take steps to stop it. Also, its not unreasonable for you to have audio alarms if you need to get up at that time. The covenant of "quiet enjoyment" or even quiet hours written into a lease doesn't mean that the people around you can't make reasonable levels of noise. 3 - Some things to check out: Is there a furnace or vent fan that could be kicking on automatically around that time? Does your apartment use central heating like a boiler system that could be kicking on around that time? I had friends who lived in a condo conversion with a boiler, and it would make really weird vibrating noises around 5am as it kicked on in the morning. Is there a possibility that your neighbor could be suffering from dementia or some other mental health condition that might involve hallucinations? If so, call APS and let them check in on them. Their extreme aversion to contact could be an indicator that this person isn't mentally healthy. 4 - At this point, you need to be shutting down accusations rather than trying to be accommodating with your landlord. Be insistent that it's not happening, leave no wiggle room in statements to them, and unless they have evidence they are willing to share, the matter is closed. 5 - It might be a good idea to start lining up help. I would start researching Tenant's Unions in your area, along with possibly seeking legal help. Your landlord's case is EXTREMELY weak, but you don't want to run any risks here. 6 - This would be an extreme step, but you could start recording your bedroom at night. That way if there is a noise you'll hear it. If there isn't one, you'll have evidence of you, being asleep, at what ever time your downstairs neighbors starts having their hallucinations. | Have you asked your landlord if you can move to a different unit? You need to be prepared to do everything and anything to avoid having an eviction on your record. If you can't move to another unit, you should consider speaking to a tenants lawyer about next steps. If you are under lease, read your lease carefully about what conditions the landlord can break the lease, and have an attorney prepared to defend against the eviction in Court. Ultimately, you have to maintain the peace and this means not causing other tenants unreasonable discomfort. This has to be based in fact, but the landlord is able to use reasonable judgement to enforce this. If your landlord wont allow you to move, inquire about breaking the lease and moving on your own. If you think the other tenant might be acting out of malice, you might have a civil case against them for damages, a consult with an attorney could help you with that once the danger of eviction has passed. | 1 | 5,663 | 2.611111 |
z9ru18 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Landlord threatening to give 3 day notice for noise complaints during a time frame when both my husband and I are sleeping Our downstairs neighbor has been sending complaints to the property manager about an alarm going off early in the morning. We had previously never received a noise complaint in our history of renting. We are asleep at the times of the complaints and have communicated with the management office that we are asleep during that time and the noise is probably coming from another unit. However since the beginning we have taken them seriously. After the first complaint we changed our alarms to just a flashing light. No sound, no vibration, just a bright flashing light. However, the downstairs neighbors has continued complaining about an alarm going off. The neighbor refuses to speak with us and is very adamant that the sound is coming from our apartment. We have written him a note stating that we sympathize with his plight and we take his comfort seriously. We stated that our alarms make no noise and have not made noise since we have received the first complaint. We also included that we are open to communicating with him directly and will happily work with him to ensure peace. My husband and I both wear our Apple watches to bed and they measure environmental noise while we sleep. The range of decibels from the time of the last complaint was 33-46 dB on my watch and 33-44 on my husband’s watch. I don’t remember the specific ranges for the other complaints, but they were similar and if necessary I can pull up that data. Even with our snoring we are quieter than rain and definitely within our local noise ordinances. We have forwarded all this information to the management office. Yesterday I received another noise complaint note from the management office stating that it is our final warning and if the complaints continue they will go through with a three day notice. During our most recent conversation with the management office they stated our neighbor sent them a video time stamped around 4:30 am and there is a clear vibrating noise in the video. They won’t send us the video and state the only noise in the video is that rhythmic vibrating sound. Again, we have no vibrating alarms. They also stated that they offered to move our neighbor into another unit and he refused. I don’t want to get evicted and at this point I don’t know what I can do further to protect myself. | iyimz9c | iyi61bu | 1,669,917,801 | 1,669,911,202 | 47 | 3 | 1 - Your location is relevant here. 2 - Their unwillingness to share the "evidence" is important. I'm inclined to think it doesn't exist because, if it did, they would have no reason not to share it at this point. If they could point out the noise to you, you could take steps to stop it. Also, its not unreasonable for you to have audio alarms if you need to get up at that time. The covenant of "quiet enjoyment" or even quiet hours written into a lease doesn't mean that the people around you can't make reasonable levels of noise. 3 - Some things to check out: Is there a furnace or vent fan that could be kicking on automatically around that time? Does your apartment use central heating like a boiler system that could be kicking on around that time? I had friends who lived in a condo conversion with a boiler, and it would make really weird vibrating noises around 5am as it kicked on in the morning. Is there a possibility that your neighbor could be suffering from dementia or some other mental health condition that might involve hallucinations? If so, call APS and let them check in on them. Their extreme aversion to contact could be an indicator that this person isn't mentally healthy. 4 - At this point, you need to be shutting down accusations rather than trying to be accommodating with your landlord. Be insistent that it's not happening, leave no wiggle room in statements to them, and unless they have evidence they are willing to share, the matter is closed. 5 - It might be a good idea to start lining up help. I would start researching Tenant's Unions in your area, along with possibly seeking legal help. Your landlord's case is EXTREMELY weak, but you don't want to run any risks here. 6 - This would be an extreme step, but you could start recording your bedroom at night. That way if there is a noise you'll hear it. If there isn't one, you'll have evidence of you, being asleep, at what ever time your downstairs neighbors starts having their hallucinations. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. 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z9ru18 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Landlord threatening to give 3 day notice for noise complaints during a time frame when both my husband and I are sleeping Our downstairs neighbor has been sending complaints to the property manager about an alarm going off early in the morning. We had previously never received a noise complaint in our history of renting. We are asleep at the times of the complaints and have communicated with the management office that we are asleep during that time and the noise is probably coming from another unit. However since the beginning we have taken them seriously. After the first complaint we changed our alarms to just a flashing light. No sound, no vibration, just a bright flashing light. However, the downstairs neighbors has continued complaining about an alarm going off. The neighbor refuses to speak with us and is very adamant that the sound is coming from our apartment. We have written him a note stating that we sympathize with his plight and we take his comfort seriously. We stated that our alarms make no noise and have not made noise since we have received the first complaint. We also included that we are open to communicating with him directly and will happily work with him to ensure peace. My husband and I both wear our Apple watches to bed and they measure environmental noise while we sleep. The range of decibels from the time of the last complaint was 33-46 dB on my watch and 33-44 on my husband’s watch. I don’t remember the specific ranges for the other complaints, but they were similar and if necessary I can pull up that data. Even with our snoring we are quieter than rain and definitely within our local noise ordinances. We have forwarded all this information to the management office. Yesterday I received another noise complaint note from the management office stating that it is our final warning and if the complaints continue they will go through with a three day notice. During our most recent conversation with the management office they stated our neighbor sent them a video time stamped around 4:30 am and there is a clear vibrating noise in the video. They won’t send us the video and state the only noise in the video is that rhythmic vibrating sound. Again, we have no vibrating alarms. They also stated that they offered to move our neighbor into another unit and he refused. I don’t want to get evicted and at this point I don’t know what I can do further to protect myself. | iyi8cl3 | iyi61bu | 1,669,912,138 | 1,669,911,202 | 18 | 3 | Have you asked your landlord if you can move to a different unit? You need to be prepared to do everything and anything to avoid having an eviction on your record. If you can't move to another unit, you should consider speaking to a tenants lawyer about next steps. If you are under lease, read your lease carefully about what conditions the landlord can break the lease, and have an attorney prepared to defend against the eviction in Court. Ultimately, you have to maintain the peace and this means not causing other tenants unreasonable discomfort. This has to be based in fact, but the landlord is able to use reasonable judgement to enforce this. If your landlord wont allow you to move, inquire about breaking the lease and moving on your own. If you think the other tenant might be acting out of malice, you might have a civil case against them for damages, a consult with an attorney could help you with that once the danger of eviction has passed. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 936 | 6 |
z9ru18 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Landlord threatening to give 3 day notice for noise complaints during a time frame when both my husband and I are sleeping Our downstairs neighbor has been sending complaints to the property manager about an alarm going off early in the morning. We had previously never received a noise complaint in our history of renting. We are asleep at the times of the complaints and have communicated with the management office that we are asleep during that time and the noise is probably coming from another unit. However since the beginning we have taken them seriously. After the first complaint we changed our alarms to just a flashing light. No sound, no vibration, just a bright flashing light. However, the downstairs neighbors has continued complaining about an alarm going off. The neighbor refuses to speak with us and is very adamant that the sound is coming from our apartment. We have written him a note stating that we sympathize with his plight and we take his comfort seriously. We stated that our alarms make no noise and have not made noise since we have received the first complaint. We also included that we are open to communicating with him directly and will happily work with him to ensure peace. My husband and I both wear our Apple watches to bed and they measure environmental noise while we sleep. The range of decibels from the time of the last complaint was 33-46 dB on my watch and 33-44 on my husband’s watch. I don’t remember the specific ranges for the other complaints, but they were similar and if necessary I can pull up that data. Even with our snoring we are quieter than rain and definitely within our local noise ordinances. We have forwarded all this information to the management office. Yesterday I received another noise complaint note from the management office stating that it is our final warning and if the complaints continue they will go through with a three day notice. During our most recent conversation with the management office they stated our neighbor sent them a video time stamped around 4:30 am and there is a clear vibrating noise in the video. They won’t send us the video and state the only noise in the video is that rhythmic vibrating sound. Again, we have no vibrating alarms. They also stated that they offered to move our neighbor into another unit and he refused. I don’t want to get evicted and at this point I don’t know what I can do further to protect myself. | iyjneud | iyjkk1d | 1,669,931,871 | 1,669,930,738 | 14 | 5 | In addition to what others have said, the false noise complaints could be seen as a type of harrassment. If you have digital records proving you are not repsonsible for the noise, and have made these records availabe to the landlord their continue persual of this matter is a breach of your right to quiet enjoyment. You have the right to quiet enjoyment of the property you rent, and by continually pursuing a false claim against you your landlord is in violation of your lease. This might entitle you to damages. If your landlord does pursue this legally you would have a counter claim based on your landlord's breach of lease. | Is it possible for you to setup a webcam to record during the time the neighbor says the disturbances are occurring? Maybe the wall or area closest to where the neighbors bedroom would be. That way you have clear evidence that the disturbance is not coming from your residence. | 1 | 1,133 | 2.8 |
z9ru18 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Landlord threatening to give 3 day notice for noise complaints during a time frame when both my husband and I are sleeping Our downstairs neighbor has been sending complaints to the property manager about an alarm going off early in the morning. We had previously never received a noise complaint in our history of renting. We are asleep at the times of the complaints and have communicated with the management office that we are asleep during that time and the noise is probably coming from another unit. However since the beginning we have taken them seriously. After the first complaint we changed our alarms to just a flashing light. No sound, no vibration, just a bright flashing light. However, the downstairs neighbors has continued complaining about an alarm going off. The neighbor refuses to speak with us and is very adamant that the sound is coming from our apartment. We have written him a note stating that we sympathize with his plight and we take his comfort seriously. We stated that our alarms make no noise and have not made noise since we have received the first complaint. We also included that we are open to communicating with him directly and will happily work with him to ensure peace. My husband and I both wear our Apple watches to bed and they measure environmental noise while we sleep. The range of decibels from the time of the last complaint was 33-46 dB on my watch and 33-44 on my husband’s watch. I don’t remember the specific ranges for the other complaints, but they were similar and if necessary I can pull up that data. Even with our snoring we are quieter than rain and definitely within our local noise ordinances. We have forwarded all this information to the management office. Yesterday I received another noise complaint note from the management office stating that it is our final warning and if the complaints continue they will go through with a three day notice. During our most recent conversation with the management office they stated our neighbor sent them a video time stamped around 4:30 am and there is a clear vibrating noise in the video. They won’t send us the video and state the only noise in the video is that rhythmic vibrating sound. Again, we have no vibrating alarms. They also stated that they offered to move our neighbor into another unit and he refused. I don’t want to get evicted and at this point I don’t know what I can do further to protect myself. | iyi61bu | iyjneud | 1,669,911,202 | 1,669,931,871 | 3 | 14 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | In addition to what others have said, the false noise complaints could be seen as a type of harrassment. If you have digital records proving you are not repsonsible for the noise, and have made these records availabe to the landlord their continue persual of this matter is a breach of your right to quiet enjoyment. You have the right to quiet enjoyment of the property you rent, and by continually pursuing a false claim against you your landlord is in violation of your lease. This might entitle you to damages. If your landlord does pursue this legally you would have a counter claim based on your landlord's breach of lease. | 0 | 20,669 | 4.666667 |
z9ru18 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Landlord threatening to give 3 day notice for noise complaints during a time frame when both my husband and I are sleeping Our downstairs neighbor has been sending complaints to the property manager about an alarm going off early in the morning. We had previously never received a noise complaint in our history of renting. We are asleep at the times of the complaints and have communicated with the management office that we are asleep during that time and the noise is probably coming from another unit. However since the beginning we have taken them seriously. After the first complaint we changed our alarms to just a flashing light. No sound, no vibration, just a bright flashing light. However, the downstairs neighbors has continued complaining about an alarm going off. The neighbor refuses to speak with us and is very adamant that the sound is coming from our apartment. We have written him a note stating that we sympathize with his plight and we take his comfort seriously. We stated that our alarms make no noise and have not made noise since we have received the first complaint. We also included that we are open to communicating with him directly and will happily work with him to ensure peace. My husband and I both wear our Apple watches to bed and they measure environmental noise while we sleep. The range of decibels from the time of the last complaint was 33-46 dB on my watch and 33-44 on my husband’s watch. I don’t remember the specific ranges for the other complaints, but they were similar and if necessary I can pull up that data. Even with our snoring we are quieter than rain and definitely within our local noise ordinances. We have forwarded all this information to the management office. Yesterday I received another noise complaint note from the management office stating that it is our final warning and if the complaints continue they will go through with a three day notice. During our most recent conversation with the management office they stated our neighbor sent them a video time stamped around 4:30 am and there is a clear vibrating noise in the video. They won’t send us the video and state the only noise in the video is that rhythmic vibrating sound. Again, we have no vibrating alarms. They also stated that they offered to move our neighbor into another unit and he refused. I don’t want to get evicted and at this point I don’t know what I can do further to protect myself. | iyjkk1d | iylz6t0 | 1,669,930,738 | 1,669,980,497 | 5 | 6 | Is it possible for you to setup a webcam to record during the time the neighbor says the disturbances are occurring? Maybe the wall or area closest to where the neighbors bedroom would be. That way you have clear evidence that the disturbance is not coming from your residence. | Lots of good advice here. Something to consider, do you have a rent controlled apartment? Would the landlord have an ulterior motive to want to get you out of there? Have rent prices jumped high in the city you live on recently? I know where I live they’re starting to get absolutely insane and even on my decent salary I would struggle to make ends meet. I really think there’s something else going on here…. | 0 | 49,759 | 1.2 |
z9ru18 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Landlord threatening to give 3 day notice for noise complaints during a time frame when both my husband and I are sleeping Our downstairs neighbor has been sending complaints to the property manager about an alarm going off early in the morning. We had previously never received a noise complaint in our history of renting. We are asleep at the times of the complaints and have communicated with the management office that we are asleep during that time and the noise is probably coming from another unit. However since the beginning we have taken them seriously. After the first complaint we changed our alarms to just a flashing light. No sound, no vibration, just a bright flashing light. However, the downstairs neighbors has continued complaining about an alarm going off. The neighbor refuses to speak with us and is very adamant that the sound is coming from our apartment. We have written him a note stating that we sympathize with his plight and we take his comfort seriously. We stated that our alarms make no noise and have not made noise since we have received the first complaint. We also included that we are open to communicating with him directly and will happily work with him to ensure peace. My husband and I both wear our Apple watches to bed and they measure environmental noise while we sleep. The range of decibels from the time of the last complaint was 33-46 dB on my watch and 33-44 on my husband’s watch. I don’t remember the specific ranges for the other complaints, but they were similar and if necessary I can pull up that data. Even with our snoring we are quieter than rain and definitely within our local noise ordinances. We have forwarded all this information to the management office. Yesterday I received another noise complaint note from the management office stating that it is our final warning and if the complaints continue they will go through with a three day notice. During our most recent conversation with the management office they stated our neighbor sent them a video time stamped around 4:30 am and there is a clear vibrating noise in the video. They won’t send us the video and state the only noise in the video is that rhythmic vibrating sound. Again, we have no vibrating alarms. They also stated that they offered to move our neighbor into another unit and he refused. I don’t want to get evicted and at this point I don’t know what I can do further to protect myself. | iyjkk1d | iyi61bu | 1,669,930,738 | 1,669,911,202 | 5 | 3 | Is it possible for you to setup a webcam to record during the time the neighbor says the disturbances are occurring? Maybe the wall or area closest to where the neighbors bedroom would be. That way you have clear evidence that the disturbance is not coming from your residence. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 19,536 | 1.666667 |
z9ru18 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Landlord threatening to give 3 day notice for noise complaints during a time frame when both my husband and I are sleeping Our downstairs neighbor has been sending complaints to the property manager about an alarm going off early in the morning. We had previously never received a noise complaint in our history of renting. We are asleep at the times of the complaints and have communicated with the management office that we are asleep during that time and the noise is probably coming from another unit. However since the beginning we have taken them seriously. After the first complaint we changed our alarms to just a flashing light. No sound, no vibration, just a bright flashing light. However, the downstairs neighbors has continued complaining about an alarm going off. The neighbor refuses to speak with us and is very adamant that the sound is coming from our apartment. We have written him a note stating that we sympathize with his plight and we take his comfort seriously. We stated that our alarms make no noise and have not made noise since we have received the first complaint. We also included that we are open to communicating with him directly and will happily work with him to ensure peace. My husband and I both wear our Apple watches to bed and they measure environmental noise while we sleep. The range of decibels from the time of the last complaint was 33-46 dB on my watch and 33-44 on my husband’s watch. I don’t remember the specific ranges for the other complaints, but they were similar and if necessary I can pull up that data. Even with our snoring we are quieter than rain and definitely within our local noise ordinances. We have forwarded all this information to the management office. Yesterday I received another noise complaint note from the management office stating that it is our final warning and if the complaints continue they will go through with a three day notice. During our most recent conversation with the management office they stated our neighbor sent them a video time stamped around 4:30 am and there is a clear vibrating noise in the video. They won’t send us the video and state the only noise in the video is that rhythmic vibrating sound. Again, we have no vibrating alarms. They also stated that they offered to move our neighbor into another unit and he refused. I don’t want to get evicted and at this point I don’t know what I can do further to protect myself. | iylz6t0 | iykngvj | 1,669,980,497 | 1,669,948,068 | 6 | 5 | Lots of good advice here. Something to consider, do you have a rent controlled apartment? Would the landlord have an ulterior motive to want to get you out of there? Have rent prices jumped high in the city you live on recently? I know where I live they’re starting to get absolutely insane and even on my decent salary I would struggle to make ends meet. I really think there’s something else going on here…. | Contact your bar association, lawyer referral service for referrals to experienced and competent eviction defense attorneys, immediately. It is in your best interest, to be represented by experienced and competent legal counsel, to pro actively intervene, deescalate and/or defend yourself from this situation. Before a Three Day Notice is issued and quickly accelerates into a full blown Unlawful Detainer eviction proceedings. I highly advised against continuing to deal with and interact directly with your neighbor(s) and landlord/agents any further, without legal counsel and representation. Your situation has escalated to a point, way beyond anything you should be handling on your own. Your tenancy, credit rating and ability to rent in the future is in serious jeopardy. Do not delay in obtaining experienced and competent eviction defense attorneys immediately. | 1 | 32,429 | 1.2 |
z9ru18 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Landlord threatening to give 3 day notice for noise complaints during a time frame when both my husband and I are sleeping Our downstairs neighbor has been sending complaints to the property manager about an alarm going off early in the morning. We had previously never received a noise complaint in our history of renting. We are asleep at the times of the complaints and have communicated with the management office that we are asleep during that time and the noise is probably coming from another unit. However since the beginning we have taken them seriously. After the first complaint we changed our alarms to just a flashing light. No sound, no vibration, just a bright flashing light. However, the downstairs neighbors has continued complaining about an alarm going off. The neighbor refuses to speak with us and is very adamant that the sound is coming from our apartment. We have written him a note stating that we sympathize with his plight and we take his comfort seriously. We stated that our alarms make no noise and have not made noise since we have received the first complaint. We also included that we are open to communicating with him directly and will happily work with him to ensure peace. My husband and I both wear our Apple watches to bed and they measure environmental noise while we sleep. The range of decibels from the time of the last complaint was 33-46 dB on my watch and 33-44 on my husband’s watch. I don’t remember the specific ranges for the other complaints, but they were similar and if necessary I can pull up that data. Even with our snoring we are quieter than rain and definitely within our local noise ordinances. We have forwarded all this information to the management office. Yesterday I received another noise complaint note from the management office stating that it is our final warning and if the complaints continue they will go through with a three day notice. During our most recent conversation with the management office they stated our neighbor sent them a video time stamped around 4:30 am and there is a clear vibrating noise in the video. They won’t send us the video and state the only noise in the video is that rhythmic vibrating sound. Again, we have no vibrating alarms. They also stated that they offered to move our neighbor into another unit and he refused. I don’t want to get evicted and at this point I don’t know what I can do further to protect myself. | iyi61bu | iykngvj | 1,669,911,202 | 1,669,948,068 | 3 | 5 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | Contact your bar association, lawyer referral service for referrals to experienced and competent eviction defense attorneys, immediately. It is in your best interest, to be represented by experienced and competent legal counsel, to pro actively intervene, deescalate and/or defend yourself from this situation. Before a Three Day Notice is issued and quickly accelerates into a full blown Unlawful Detainer eviction proceedings. I highly advised against continuing to deal with and interact directly with your neighbor(s) and landlord/agents any further, without legal counsel and representation. Your situation has escalated to a point, way beyond anything you should be handling on your own. Your tenancy, credit rating and ability to rent in the future is in serious jeopardy. Do not delay in obtaining experienced and competent eviction defense attorneys immediately. | 0 | 36,866 | 1.666667 |
z9ru18 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Landlord threatening to give 3 day notice for noise complaints during a time frame when both my husband and I are sleeping Our downstairs neighbor has been sending complaints to the property manager about an alarm going off early in the morning. We had previously never received a noise complaint in our history of renting. We are asleep at the times of the complaints and have communicated with the management office that we are asleep during that time and the noise is probably coming from another unit. However since the beginning we have taken them seriously. After the first complaint we changed our alarms to just a flashing light. No sound, no vibration, just a bright flashing light. However, the downstairs neighbors has continued complaining about an alarm going off. The neighbor refuses to speak with us and is very adamant that the sound is coming from our apartment. We have written him a note stating that we sympathize with his plight and we take his comfort seriously. We stated that our alarms make no noise and have not made noise since we have received the first complaint. We also included that we are open to communicating with him directly and will happily work with him to ensure peace. My husband and I both wear our Apple watches to bed and they measure environmental noise while we sleep. The range of decibels from the time of the last complaint was 33-46 dB on my watch and 33-44 on my husband’s watch. I don’t remember the specific ranges for the other complaints, but they were similar and if necessary I can pull up that data. Even with our snoring we are quieter than rain and definitely within our local noise ordinances. We have forwarded all this information to the management office. Yesterday I received another noise complaint note from the management office stating that it is our final warning and if the complaints continue they will go through with a three day notice. During our most recent conversation with the management office they stated our neighbor sent them a video time stamped around 4:30 am and there is a clear vibrating noise in the video. They won’t send us the video and state the only noise in the video is that rhythmic vibrating sound. Again, we have no vibrating alarms. They also stated that they offered to move our neighbor into another unit and he refused. I don’t want to get evicted and at this point I don’t know what I can do further to protect myself. | iyi61bu | iylz6t0 | 1,669,911,202 | 1,669,980,497 | 3 | 6 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | Lots of good advice here. Something to consider, do you have a rent controlled apartment? Would the landlord have an ulterior motive to want to get you out of there? Have rent prices jumped high in the city you live on recently? I know where I live they’re starting to get absolutely insane and even on my decent salary I would struggle to make ends meet. I really think there’s something else going on here…. | 0 | 69,295 | 2 |
wk3r05 | legaladvice_train | 1 | Parent passed away. How do I handle his house that was in a revocable trust. My father passed away recently and his house was in a revocable trust prior to his passing. My sibling and I are the only heirs for probate as well as documented in trust. He was predeceased by his wife. I did find a quitclaim deed for the house in the name of the trust. I have tried to read up on trusts but get lost in the legalese. My question is what do to get the house in my and my siblings name? Is it part of probate? Do I just have to file a quitclaim deed in our names? Thanks in advance | ijkxgbt | ijkvd5f | 1,660,053,858 | 1,660,052,974 | 24 | 8 | Call the attorney who set up the trust. They've got staff that will walk you through this. Everything that's in the trust should skip probate; that's the point of the trust. It's designed to make things easier for you guys. I'm sorry for your loss. | > Is it part of probate? No > My question is what do to get the house in my and my siblings name? You and your sibling are the beneficiaries, who's the trustee? Entirely dependent on the terms of the trust. If you don't understand the terms for distribution, you may need to review it with an attorney | 1 | 884 | 3 |
c2hwu3 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Parents invested my inheritance in a beach house for themselves Location: Virginia (original issue). I live in California. My mentally ill and abusive parents live in Virginia and I have lived on the other coast for 11 years. My mother is a family law attorney FWIW, and so she knows the ins and outs of the laws pertaining to family money extremely well. Nine years ago, my great-aunt passed away. She had severe mental illness that prevented her from having children. So, her estate (her father was very successful in business) passed directly to my four cousins, my brother, and myself. I didn't learn this until years later, but at that point, my cousins all boosted their savings and began investing the money. My parents purchased land on the beach in Delaware, demo'ed the existing house, and built a 2 million dollar property to vacation at. It wasn't until I spoke with my cousins after the fact that I realized this was the money that should have gone to my savings. I confronted my father about it, and he told me that their beach house is 49% in my name, 49% in my brother's name, and 1% in each of my parents' names. It is clear what they did is shitty. But now my brother and I have a huge amount of money tied up in a home we don't visit or want (I live in California, the house is in Delaware). Neither of us can afford to buy the other one out, and neither of us wants the house; we want to sell it and liquidate the value back into our savings. My parents (who I have been no-contact (mom) and low-contact dad) with for 5 years) regularly vacation at the Delaware home. It is extravagant and as they get older I can't help but fear that they will retire there. Could my brother and I sell the house without their consent? Could we take legal action against them for investing our money for us without informing us we were receiving it (we were both above 18 when my great-aunt died)? Any relevant advice is very appreciated. Happy to add more details if something is missing. Thank you. | erk5bmd | erk5byi | 1,560,955,677 | 1,560,955,683 | 16 | 355 | You can talk to an attorney about how to force the sale of the home and get your % out | Sit down with an estate litigation attorney who practices in Virginia or Delaware and review the facts with them. This kind of litigation is complex, and you're likely to run into all sorts of procedural roadblocks - starting with the fact that the estate was settled nine years ago. There are ways to overcome an applicable statute of repose, but they depend heavily on things like when you were notified, and how old you were at the time. One reasonably likely resolution to this is that you and your brother affirm the distribution of assets and, jointly as 98% owners of the property, buy out your parents (1% going to each of you), then sell the property to recover your money from them. If your parents don't cooperate, then the two of you can pursue a partition lawsuit to force the sale of the property, with the equity split as per the current ownership. | 0 | 6 | 22.1875 |
c2hwu3 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Parents invested my inheritance in a beach house for themselves Location: Virginia (original issue). I live in California. My mentally ill and abusive parents live in Virginia and I have lived on the other coast for 11 years. My mother is a family law attorney FWIW, and so she knows the ins and outs of the laws pertaining to family money extremely well. Nine years ago, my great-aunt passed away. She had severe mental illness that prevented her from having children. So, her estate (her father was very successful in business) passed directly to my four cousins, my brother, and myself. I didn't learn this until years later, but at that point, my cousins all boosted their savings and began investing the money. My parents purchased land on the beach in Delaware, demo'ed the existing house, and built a 2 million dollar property to vacation at. It wasn't until I spoke with my cousins after the fact that I realized this was the money that should have gone to my savings. I confronted my father about it, and he told me that their beach house is 49% in my name, 49% in my brother's name, and 1% in each of my parents' names. It is clear what they did is shitty. But now my brother and I have a huge amount of money tied up in a home we don't visit or want (I live in California, the house is in Delaware). Neither of us can afford to buy the other one out, and neither of us wants the house; we want to sell it and liquidate the value back into our savings. My parents (who I have been no-contact (mom) and low-contact dad) with for 5 years) regularly vacation at the Delaware home. It is extravagant and as they get older I can't help but fear that they will retire there. Could my brother and I sell the house without their consent? Could we take legal action against them for investing our money for us without informing us we were receiving it (we were both above 18 when my great-aunt died)? Any relevant advice is very appreciated. Happy to add more details if something is missing. Thank you. | erkpizt | erkc34u | 1,560,968,566 | 1,560,960,133 | 78 | 41 | I am an Illinois real estate attorney and here are my thoughts. You stated: "So, her estate (her father was very successful in business) passed directly to my four cousins, my brother, and myself." How do you know this? Were you told this by someone? If so, who and why would you believe it? If there was a will, it most likely would have been probated which means you will have access to a copy of it from the county clerk/circuit court (local court reporter companies can be hired to obtain this for you), which I would try to obtain before you meet with a litigator. Also, your Aunt's estate DID NOT pass directly to you because you didn't receive your share. If she held the property in trust and you were named in the trust as a beneficiary, then the successor trustee has a lot of explaining to you as to why your share was not delivered to you. Was there a will or not? Will or trust, unless you gave power of attorney for someone to sign for you, the executor of the will or the trustee of the trust should have made sure that your share of the estate was delivered to you in a check payable to you. "I'm his Mom so it's ok to make the check payable to me" should not be acceptable to an Executor of a will or a Successor Trustee of a Trust unless....someone told the Executor/Trustee that you were a minor at the time your Aunt died (wouldn't the Executor/Trustee require evidence or a written statement regarding your age/being a minor?) Is it possible that a check representing your share of the estate was made payable to you and in your name? You stated: "I confronted my father about it, and he told me that their beach house is 49% in my name, 49% in my brother's name, and 1% in each of my parents' names." Are you absolutely sure about that? Did he show you a copy of the deed? This one's easy. You can do an online search if the county in which your parent's beach house is located allows that or hire a title company to do a title search for a report as to who owns the property. Don't be afraid of the cost, should be under $ 500 and start working on this now. The results you find should be delivered to the litigator. If you and your brother do own 99% of the property, you can a. obtain an appraisal of the property acceptable TO YOU and tell your parents to obtain a loan to buy you out; or b. file a suit to force the sale of the home so that you can get your equity out of the property. And, if anyone did something "bad" regarding the delivery of your share of the estate, that information may make your parent and other parties more willing to cooperate with you regarding the beach property, assuming you really are on the title. Bottom line, there's a paper trail for all this which I find very interesting. Good luck and keep us updated. | you alone, or more powerfully you and your brother together can force the sale of the house. | 1 | 8,433 | 1.902439 |
c2hwu3 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Parents invested my inheritance in a beach house for themselves Location: Virginia (original issue). I live in California. My mentally ill and abusive parents live in Virginia and I have lived on the other coast for 11 years. My mother is a family law attorney FWIW, and so she knows the ins and outs of the laws pertaining to family money extremely well. Nine years ago, my great-aunt passed away. She had severe mental illness that prevented her from having children. So, her estate (her father was very successful in business) passed directly to my four cousins, my brother, and myself. I didn't learn this until years later, but at that point, my cousins all boosted their savings and began investing the money. My parents purchased land on the beach in Delaware, demo'ed the existing house, and built a 2 million dollar property to vacation at. It wasn't until I spoke with my cousins after the fact that I realized this was the money that should have gone to my savings. I confronted my father about it, and he told me that their beach house is 49% in my name, 49% in my brother's name, and 1% in each of my parents' names. It is clear what they did is shitty. But now my brother and I have a huge amount of money tied up in a home we don't visit or want (I live in California, the house is in Delaware). Neither of us can afford to buy the other one out, and neither of us wants the house; we want to sell it and liquidate the value back into our savings. My parents (who I have been no-contact (mom) and low-contact dad) with for 5 years) regularly vacation at the Delaware home. It is extravagant and as they get older I can't help but fear that they will retire there. Could my brother and I sell the house without their consent? Could we take legal action against them for investing our money for us without informing us we were receiving it (we were both above 18 when my great-aunt died)? Any relevant advice is very appreciated. Happy to add more details if something is missing. Thank you. | erkpizt | erk5bmd | 1,560,968,566 | 1,560,955,677 | 78 | 16 | I am an Illinois real estate attorney and here are my thoughts. You stated: "So, her estate (her father was very successful in business) passed directly to my four cousins, my brother, and myself." How do you know this? Were you told this by someone? If so, who and why would you believe it? If there was a will, it most likely would have been probated which means you will have access to a copy of it from the county clerk/circuit court (local court reporter companies can be hired to obtain this for you), which I would try to obtain before you meet with a litigator. Also, your Aunt's estate DID NOT pass directly to you because you didn't receive your share. If she held the property in trust and you were named in the trust as a beneficiary, then the successor trustee has a lot of explaining to you as to why your share was not delivered to you. Was there a will or not? Will or trust, unless you gave power of attorney for someone to sign for you, the executor of the will or the trustee of the trust should have made sure that your share of the estate was delivered to you in a check payable to you. "I'm his Mom so it's ok to make the check payable to me" should not be acceptable to an Executor of a will or a Successor Trustee of a Trust unless....someone told the Executor/Trustee that you were a minor at the time your Aunt died (wouldn't the Executor/Trustee require evidence or a written statement regarding your age/being a minor?) Is it possible that a check representing your share of the estate was made payable to you and in your name? You stated: "I confronted my father about it, and he told me that their beach house is 49% in my name, 49% in my brother's name, and 1% in each of my parents' names." Are you absolutely sure about that? Did he show you a copy of the deed? This one's easy. You can do an online search if the county in which your parent's beach house is located allows that or hire a title company to do a title search for a report as to who owns the property. Don't be afraid of the cost, should be under $ 500 and start working on this now. The results you find should be delivered to the litigator. If you and your brother do own 99% of the property, you can a. obtain an appraisal of the property acceptable TO YOU and tell your parents to obtain a loan to buy you out; or b. file a suit to force the sale of the home so that you can get your equity out of the property. And, if anyone did something "bad" regarding the delivery of your share of the estate, that information may make your parent and other parties more willing to cooperate with you regarding the beach property, assuming you really are on the title. Bottom line, there's a paper trail for all this which I find very interesting. Good luck and keep us updated. | You can talk to an attorney about how to force the sale of the home and get your % out | 1 | 12,889 | 4.875 |
c2hwu3 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Parents invested my inheritance in a beach house for themselves Location: Virginia (original issue). I live in California. My mentally ill and abusive parents live in Virginia and I have lived on the other coast for 11 years. My mother is a family law attorney FWIW, and so she knows the ins and outs of the laws pertaining to family money extremely well. Nine years ago, my great-aunt passed away. She had severe mental illness that prevented her from having children. So, her estate (her father was very successful in business) passed directly to my four cousins, my brother, and myself. I didn't learn this until years later, but at that point, my cousins all boosted their savings and began investing the money. My parents purchased land on the beach in Delaware, demo'ed the existing house, and built a 2 million dollar property to vacation at. It wasn't until I spoke with my cousins after the fact that I realized this was the money that should have gone to my savings. I confronted my father about it, and he told me that their beach house is 49% in my name, 49% in my brother's name, and 1% in each of my parents' names. It is clear what they did is shitty. But now my brother and I have a huge amount of money tied up in a home we don't visit or want (I live in California, the house is in Delaware). Neither of us can afford to buy the other one out, and neither of us wants the house; we want to sell it and liquidate the value back into our savings. My parents (who I have been no-contact (mom) and low-contact dad) with for 5 years) regularly vacation at the Delaware home. It is extravagant and as they get older I can't help but fear that they will retire there. Could my brother and I sell the house without their consent? Could we take legal action against them for investing our money for us without informing us we were receiving it (we were both above 18 when my great-aunt died)? Any relevant advice is very appreciated. Happy to add more details if something is missing. Thank you. | erkpizt | erknk4f | 1,560,968,566 | 1,560,967,332 | 78 | 8 | I am an Illinois real estate attorney and here are my thoughts. You stated: "So, her estate (her father was very successful in business) passed directly to my four cousins, my brother, and myself." How do you know this? Were you told this by someone? If so, who and why would you believe it? If there was a will, it most likely would have been probated which means you will have access to a copy of it from the county clerk/circuit court (local court reporter companies can be hired to obtain this for you), which I would try to obtain before you meet with a litigator. Also, your Aunt's estate DID NOT pass directly to you because you didn't receive your share. If she held the property in trust and you were named in the trust as a beneficiary, then the successor trustee has a lot of explaining to you as to why your share was not delivered to you. Was there a will or not? Will or trust, unless you gave power of attorney for someone to sign for you, the executor of the will or the trustee of the trust should have made sure that your share of the estate was delivered to you in a check payable to you. "I'm his Mom so it's ok to make the check payable to me" should not be acceptable to an Executor of a will or a Successor Trustee of a Trust unless....someone told the Executor/Trustee that you were a minor at the time your Aunt died (wouldn't the Executor/Trustee require evidence or a written statement regarding your age/being a minor?) Is it possible that a check representing your share of the estate was made payable to you and in your name? You stated: "I confronted my father about it, and he told me that their beach house is 49% in my name, 49% in my brother's name, and 1% in each of my parents' names." Are you absolutely sure about that? Did he show you a copy of the deed? This one's easy. You can do an online search if the county in which your parent's beach house is located allows that or hire a title company to do a title search for a report as to who owns the property. Don't be afraid of the cost, should be under $ 500 and start working on this now. The results you find should be delivered to the litigator. If you and your brother do own 99% of the property, you can a. obtain an appraisal of the property acceptable TO YOU and tell your parents to obtain a loan to buy you out; or b. file a suit to force the sale of the home so that you can get your equity out of the property. And, if anyone did something "bad" regarding the delivery of your share of the estate, that information may make your parent and other parties more willing to cooperate with you regarding the beach property, assuming you really are on the title. Bottom line, there's a paper trail for all this which I find very interesting. Good luck and keep us updated. | If you are in fact on the deed, you can petition the court for a partition sale. You'd then be entitled to 49% of the proceeds of that sale. | 1 | 1,234 | 9.75 |
c2hwu3 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Parents invested my inheritance in a beach house for themselves Location: Virginia (original issue). I live in California. My mentally ill and abusive parents live in Virginia and I have lived on the other coast for 11 years. My mother is a family law attorney FWIW, and so she knows the ins and outs of the laws pertaining to family money extremely well. Nine years ago, my great-aunt passed away. She had severe mental illness that prevented her from having children. So, her estate (her father was very successful in business) passed directly to my four cousins, my brother, and myself. I didn't learn this until years later, but at that point, my cousins all boosted their savings and began investing the money. My parents purchased land on the beach in Delaware, demo'ed the existing house, and built a 2 million dollar property to vacation at. It wasn't until I spoke with my cousins after the fact that I realized this was the money that should have gone to my savings. I confronted my father about it, and he told me that their beach house is 49% in my name, 49% in my brother's name, and 1% in each of my parents' names. It is clear what they did is shitty. But now my brother and I have a huge amount of money tied up in a home we don't visit or want (I live in California, the house is in Delaware). Neither of us can afford to buy the other one out, and neither of us wants the house; we want to sell it and liquidate the value back into our savings. My parents (who I have been no-contact (mom) and low-contact dad) with for 5 years) regularly vacation at the Delaware home. It is extravagant and as they get older I can't help but fear that they will retire there. Could my brother and I sell the house without their consent? Could we take legal action against them for investing our money for us without informing us we were receiving it (we were both above 18 when my great-aunt died)? Any relevant advice is very appreciated. Happy to add more details if something is missing. Thank you. | erknozq | erkpizt | 1,560,967,416 | 1,560,968,566 | 2 | 78 | If you don't want to sell it, another option would be for you and your brother to take out a mortgage on the house. How old are you? If your great aunt passed away 9 years ago, and you haven't lived with your parents for 11 years, then it sounds like you were a legal adult when she died. If you were a minor, I would understand your parents handling your estate, but as an adult, someone (like your mother, since she's an attorney!!) owes you an explanation about why you weren't informed of the inheritance. In fact, this could be considered misconduct under the state bar. | I am an Illinois real estate attorney and here are my thoughts. You stated: "So, her estate (her father was very successful in business) passed directly to my four cousins, my brother, and myself." How do you know this? Were you told this by someone? If so, who and why would you believe it? If there was a will, it most likely would have been probated which means you will have access to a copy of it from the county clerk/circuit court (local court reporter companies can be hired to obtain this for you), which I would try to obtain before you meet with a litigator. Also, your Aunt's estate DID NOT pass directly to you because you didn't receive your share. If she held the property in trust and you were named in the trust as a beneficiary, then the successor trustee has a lot of explaining to you as to why your share was not delivered to you. Was there a will or not? Will or trust, unless you gave power of attorney for someone to sign for you, the executor of the will or the trustee of the trust should have made sure that your share of the estate was delivered to you in a check payable to you. "I'm his Mom so it's ok to make the check payable to me" should not be acceptable to an Executor of a will or a Successor Trustee of a Trust unless....someone told the Executor/Trustee that you were a minor at the time your Aunt died (wouldn't the Executor/Trustee require evidence or a written statement regarding your age/being a minor?) Is it possible that a check representing your share of the estate was made payable to you and in your name? You stated: "I confronted my father about it, and he told me that their beach house is 49% in my name, 49% in my brother's name, and 1% in each of my parents' names." Are you absolutely sure about that? Did he show you a copy of the deed? This one's easy. You can do an online search if the county in which your parent's beach house is located allows that or hire a title company to do a title search for a report as to who owns the property. Don't be afraid of the cost, should be under $ 500 and start working on this now. The results you find should be delivered to the litigator. If you and your brother do own 99% of the property, you can a. obtain an appraisal of the property acceptable TO YOU and tell your parents to obtain a loan to buy you out; or b. file a suit to force the sale of the home so that you can get your equity out of the property. And, if anyone did something "bad" regarding the delivery of your share of the estate, that information may make your parent and other parties more willing to cooperate with you regarding the beach property, assuming you really are on the title. Bottom line, there's a paper trail for all this which I find very interesting. Good luck and keep us updated. | 0 | 1,150 | 39 |
c2hwu3 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Parents invested my inheritance in a beach house for themselves Location: Virginia (original issue). I live in California. My mentally ill and abusive parents live in Virginia and I have lived on the other coast for 11 years. My mother is a family law attorney FWIW, and so she knows the ins and outs of the laws pertaining to family money extremely well. Nine years ago, my great-aunt passed away. She had severe mental illness that prevented her from having children. So, her estate (her father was very successful in business) passed directly to my four cousins, my brother, and myself. I didn't learn this until years later, but at that point, my cousins all boosted their savings and began investing the money. My parents purchased land on the beach in Delaware, demo'ed the existing house, and built a 2 million dollar property to vacation at. It wasn't until I spoke with my cousins after the fact that I realized this was the money that should have gone to my savings. I confronted my father about it, and he told me that their beach house is 49% in my name, 49% in my brother's name, and 1% in each of my parents' names. It is clear what they did is shitty. But now my brother and I have a huge amount of money tied up in a home we don't visit or want (I live in California, the house is in Delaware). Neither of us can afford to buy the other one out, and neither of us wants the house; we want to sell it and liquidate the value back into our savings. My parents (who I have been no-contact (mom) and low-contact dad) with for 5 years) regularly vacation at the Delaware home. It is extravagant and as they get older I can't help but fear that they will retire there. Could my brother and I sell the house without their consent? Could we take legal action against them for investing our money for us without informing us we were receiving it (we were both above 18 when my great-aunt died)? Any relevant advice is very appreciated. Happy to add more details if something is missing. Thank you. | erk5bmd | erkc34u | 1,560,955,677 | 1,560,960,133 | 16 | 41 | You can talk to an attorney about how to force the sale of the home and get your % out | you alone, or more powerfully you and your brother together can force the sale of the house. | 0 | 4,456 | 2.5625 |
c2hwu3 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Parents invested my inheritance in a beach house for themselves Location: Virginia (original issue). I live in California. My mentally ill and abusive parents live in Virginia and I have lived on the other coast for 11 years. My mother is a family law attorney FWIW, and so she knows the ins and outs of the laws pertaining to family money extremely well. Nine years ago, my great-aunt passed away. She had severe mental illness that prevented her from having children. So, her estate (her father was very successful in business) passed directly to my four cousins, my brother, and myself. I didn't learn this until years later, but at that point, my cousins all boosted their savings and began investing the money. My parents purchased land on the beach in Delaware, demo'ed the existing house, and built a 2 million dollar property to vacation at. It wasn't until I spoke with my cousins after the fact that I realized this was the money that should have gone to my savings. I confronted my father about it, and he told me that their beach house is 49% in my name, 49% in my brother's name, and 1% in each of my parents' names. It is clear what they did is shitty. But now my brother and I have a huge amount of money tied up in a home we don't visit or want (I live in California, the house is in Delaware). Neither of us can afford to buy the other one out, and neither of us wants the house; we want to sell it and liquidate the value back into our savings. My parents (who I have been no-contact (mom) and low-contact dad) with for 5 years) regularly vacation at the Delaware home. It is extravagant and as they get older I can't help but fear that they will retire there. Could my brother and I sell the house without their consent? Could we take legal action against them for investing our money for us without informing us we were receiving it (we were both above 18 when my great-aunt died)? Any relevant advice is very appreciated. Happy to add more details if something is missing. Thank you. | erle76h | erlcrr8 | 1,560,984,846 | 1,560,983,812 | 7 | 6 | IRS might be interested too. Assuming your parents have been paying the real estate taxes and deducting more than 2% (their ownership %) on their personal return. The IRS frowns upon taking deductions that you are not entitled to. It’s possible that the LLC is paying the property taxes on the house but where is that money coming from? Parents personal account or your trust account? Another scenario is your trusts have been paying the real estate taxes. A K-1, similar to a W-2 but details the income and expenses of a trust, would then have to be distributed to you annually so that you can deduct the expenses on your personal return along with the annual income that the trust makes. Good luck to you. This will be quite the puzzle to unravel. Your mom is the best source of all information. | Talk to a lawyer about how to sue your parents for the money they stole from you. You might also ask your parents how they did this and why they secretly took your money and invested it in something you didn't want. Ask them for a copy of the will. Who was the executor of the estate? | 1 | 1,034 | 1.166667 |
c2hwu3 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Parents invested my inheritance in a beach house for themselves Location: Virginia (original issue). I live in California. My mentally ill and abusive parents live in Virginia and I have lived on the other coast for 11 years. My mother is a family law attorney FWIW, and so she knows the ins and outs of the laws pertaining to family money extremely well. Nine years ago, my great-aunt passed away. She had severe mental illness that prevented her from having children. So, her estate (her father was very successful in business) passed directly to my four cousins, my brother, and myself. I didn't learn this until years later, but at that point, my cousins all boosted their savings and began investing the money. My parents purchased land on the beach in Delaware, demo'ed the existing house, and built a 2 million dollar property to vacation at. It wasn't until I spoke with my cousins after the fact that I realized this was the money that should have gone to my savings. I confronted my father about it, and he told me that their beach house is 49% in my name, 49% in my brother's name, and 1% in each of my parents' names. It is clear what they did is shitty. But now my brother and I have a huge amount of money tied up in a home we don't visit or want (I live in California, the house is in Delaware). Neither of us can afford to buy the other one out, and neither of us wants the house; we want to sell it and liquidate the value back into our savings. My parents (who I have been no-contact (mom) and low-contact dad) with for 5 years) regularly vacation at the Delaware home. It is extravagant and as they get older I can't help but fear that they will retire there. Could my brother and I sell the house without their consent? Could we take legal action against them for investing our money for us without informing us we were receiving it (we were both above 18 when my great-aunt died)? Any relevant advice is very appreciated. Happy to add more details if something is missing. Thank you. | erkx6ia | erle76h | 1,560,973,426 | 1,560,984,846 | 4 | 7 | This seems almost criminally actionable. Talk to an estate attorney | IRS might be interested too. Assuming your parents have been paying the real estate taxes and deducting more than 2% (their ownership %) on their personal return. The IRS frowns upon taking deductions that you are not entitled to. It’s possible that the LLC is paying the property taxes on the house but where is that money coming from? Parents personal account or your trust account? Another scenario is your trusts have been paying the real estate taxes. A K-1, similar to a W-2 but details the income and expenses of a trust, would then have to be distributed to you annually so that you can deduct the expenses on your personal return along with the annual income that the trust makes. Good luck to you. This will be quite the puzzle to unravel. Your mom is the best source of all information. | 0 | 11,420 | 1.75 |
c2hwu3 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Parents invested my inheritance in a beach house for themselves Location: Virginia (original issue). I live in California. My mentally ill and abusive parents live in Virginia and I have lived on the other coast for 11 years. My mother is a family law attorney FWIW, and so she knows the ins and outs of the laws pertaining to family money extremely well. Nine years ago, my great-aunt passed away. She had severe mental illness that prevented her from having children. So, her estate (her father was very successful in business) passed directly to my four cousins, my brother, and myself. I didn't learn this until years later, but at that point, my cousins all boosted their savings and began investing the money. My parents purchased land on the beach in Delaware, demo'ed the existing house, and built a 2 million dollar property to vacation at. It wasn't until I spoke with my cousins after the fact that I realized this was the money that should have gone to my savings. I confronted my father about it, and he told me that their beach house is 49% in my name, 49% in my brother's name, and 1% in each of my parents' names. It is clear what they did is shitty. But now my brother and I have a huge amount of money tied up in a home we don't visit or want (I live in California, the house is in Delaware). Neither of us can afford to buy the other one out, and neither of us wants the house; we want to sell it and liquidate the value back into our savings. My parents (who I have been no-contact (mom) and low-contact dad) with for 5 years) regularly vacation at the Delaware home. It is extravagant and as they get older I can't help but fear that they will retire there. Could my brother and I sell the house without their consent? Could we take legal action against them for investing our money for us without informing us we were receiving it (we were both above 18 when my great-aunt died)? Any relevant advice is very appreciated. Happy to add more details if something is missing. Thank you. | erknozq | erle76h | 1,560,967,416 | 1,560,984,846 | 2 | 7 | If you don't want to sell it, another option would be for you and your brother to take out a mortgage on the house. How old are you? If your great aunt passed away 9 years ago, and you haven't lived with your parents for 11 years, then it sounds like you were a legal adult when she died. If you were a minor, I would understand your parents handling your estate, but as an adult, someone (like your mother, since she's an attorney!!) owes you an explanation about why you weren't informed of the inheritance. In fact, this could be considered misconduct under the state bar. | IRS might be interested too. Assuming your parents have been paying the real estate taxes and deducting more than 2% (their ownership %) on their personal return. The IRS frowns upon taking deductions that you are not entitled to. It’s possible that the LLC is paying the property taxes on the house but where is that money coming from? Parents personal account or your trust account? Another scenario is your trusts have been paying the real estate taxes. A K-1, similar to a W-2 but details the income and expenses of a trust, would then have to be distributed to you annually so that you can deduct the expenses on your personal return along with the annual income that the trust makes. Good luck to you. This will be quite the puzzle to unravel. Your mom is the best source of all information. | 0 | 17,430 | 3.5 |
c2hwu3 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Parents invested my inheritance in a beach house for themselves Location: Virginia (original issue). I live in California. My mentally ill and abusive parents live in Virginia and I have lived on the other coast for 11 years. My mother is a family law attorney FWIW, and so she knows the ins and outs of the laws pertaining to family money extremely well. Nine years ago, my great-aunt passed away. She had severe mental illness that prevented her from having children. So, her estate (her father was very successful in business) passed directly to my four cousins, my brother, and myself. I didn't learn this until years later, but at that point, my cousins all boosted their savings and began investing the money. My parents purchased land on the beach in Delaware, demo'ed the existing house, and built a 2 million dollar property to vacation at. It wasn't until I spoke with my cousins after the fact that I realized this was the money that should have gone to my savings. I confronted my father about it, and he told me that their beach house is 49% in my name, 49% in my brother's name, and 1% in each of my parents' names. It is clear what they did is shitty. But now my brother and I have a huge amount of money tied up in a home we don't visit or want (I live in California, the house is in Delaware). Neither of us can afford to buy the other one out, and neither of us wants the house; we want to sell it and liquidate the value back into our savings. My parents (who I have been no-contact (mom) and low-contact dad) with for 5 years) regularly vacation at the Delaware home. It is extravagant and as they get older I can't help but fear that they will retire there. Could my brother and I sell the house without their consent? Could we take legal action against them for investing our money for us without informing us we were receiving it (we were both above 18 when my great-aunt died)? Any relevant advice is very appreciated. Happy to add more details if something is missing. Thank you. | erlcrr8 | erkx6ia | 1,560,983,812 | 1,560,973,426 | 6 | 4 | Talk to a lawyer about how to sue your parents for the money they stole from you. You might also ask your parents how they did this and why they secretly took your money and invested it in something you didn't want. Ask them for a copy of the will. Who was the executor of the estate? | This seems almost criminally actionable. Talk to an estate attorney | 1 | 10,386 | 1.5 |
c2hwu3 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Parents invested my inheritance in a beach house for themselves Location: Virginia (original issue). I live in California. My mentally ill and abusive parents live in Virginia and I have lived on the other coast for 11 years. My mother is a family law attorney FWIW, and so she knows the ins and outs of the laws pertaining to family money extremely well. Nine years ago, my great-aunt passed away. She had severe mental illness that prevented her from having children. So, her estate (her father was very successful in business) passed directly to my four cousins, my brother, and myself. I didn't learn this until years later, but at that point, my cousins all boosted their savings and began investing the money. My parents purchased land on the beach in Delaware, demo'ed the existing house, and built a 2 million dollar property to vacation at. It wasn't until I spoke with my cousins after the fact that I realized this was the money that should have gone to my savings. I confronted my father about it, and he told me that their beach house is 49% in my name, 49% in my brother's name, and 1% in each of my parents' names. It is clear what they did is shitty. But now my brother and I have a huge amount of money tied up in a home we don't visit or want (I live in California, the house is in Delaware). Neither of us can afford to buy the other one out, and neither of us wants the house; we want to sell it and liquidate the value back into our savings. My parents (who I have been no-contact (mom) and low-contact dad) with for 5 years) regularly vacation at the Delaware home. It is extravagant and as they get older I can't help but fear that they will retire there. Could my brother and I sell the house without their consent? Could we take legal action against them for investing our money for us without informing us we were receiving it (we were both above 18 when my great-aunt died)? Any relevant advice is very appreciated. Happy to add more details if something is missing. Thank you. | erlcrr8 | erknozq | 1,560,983,812 | 1,560,967,416 | 6 | 2 | Talk to a lawyer about how to sue your parents for the money they stole from you. You might also ask your parents how they did this and why they secretly took your money and invested it in something you didn't want. Ask them for a copy of the will. Who was the executor of the estate? | If you don't want to sell it, another option would be for you and your brother to take out a mortgage on the house. How old are you? If your great aunt passed away 9 years ago, and you haven't lived with your parents for 11 years, then it sounds like you were a legal adult when she died. If you were a minor, I would understand your parents handling your estate, but as an adult, someone (like your mother, since she's an attorney!!) owes you an explanation about why you weren't informed of the inheritance. In fact, this could be considered misconduct under the state bar. | 1 | 16,396 | 3 |
c2hwu3 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Parents invested my inheritance in a beach house for themselves Location: Virginia (original issue). I live in California. My mentally ill and abusive parents live in Virginia and I have lived on the other coast for 11 years. My mother is a family law attorney FWIW, and so she knows the ins and outs of the laws pertaining to family money extremely well. Nine years ago, my great-aunt passed away. She had severe mental illness that prevented her from having children. So, her estate (her father was very successful in business) passed directly to my four cousins, my brother, and myself. I didn't learn this until years later, but at that point, my cousins all boosted their savings and began investing the money. My parents purchased land on the beach in Delaware, demo'ed the existing house, and built a 2 million dollar property to vacation at. It wasn't until I spoke with my cousins after the fact that I realized this was the money that should have gone to my savings. I confronted my father about it, and he told me that their beach house is 49% in my name, 49% in my brother's name, and 1% in each of my parents' names. It is clear what they did is shitty. But now my brother and I have a huge amount of money tied up in a home we don't visit or want (I live in California, the house is in Delaware). Neither of us can afford to buy the other one out, and neither of us wants the house; we want to sell it and liquidate the value back into our savings. My parents (who I have been no-contact (mom) and low-contact dad) with for 5 years) regularly vacation at the Delaware home. It is extravagant and as they get older I can't help but fear that they will retire there. Could my brother and I sell the house without their consent? Could we take legal action against them for investing our money for us without informing us we were receiving it (we were both above 18 when my great-aunt died)? Any relevant advice is very appreciated. Happy to add more details if something is missing. Thank you. | erknozq | erkx6ia | 1,560,967,416 | 1,560,973,426 | 2 | 4 | If you don't want to sell it, another option would be for you and your brother to take out a mortgage on the house. How old are you? If your great aunt passed away 9 years ago, and you haven't lived with your parents for 11 years, then it sounds like you were a legal adult when she died. If you were a minor, I would understand your parents handling your estate, but as an adult, someone (like your mother, since she's an attorney!!) owes you an explanation about why you weren't informed of the inheritance. In fact, this could be considered misconduct under the state bar. | This seems almost criminally actionable. Talk to an estate attorney | 0 | 6,010 | 2 |
u7e8t1 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Hello community. Just recently started renting a house, but we had some people visit, saying they saw the house posted for rent still. That they'd been talking to the owner about the house being available next month. I've gotten no indication that they want us to leave or an eviction notice. | i5e09bf | i5e06fe | 1,650,399,047 | 1,650,399,017 | 280 | 11 | It's likely they are being scammed. You have a lease, I presume? Typically, the scammers take photos and ads of recently available properties and repost them with their contact info. | They could be getting scammed. | 1 | 30 | 25.454545 |
u7e8t1 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Hello community. Just recently started renting a house, but we had some people visit, saying they saw the house posted for rent still. That they'd been talking to the owner about the house being available next month. I've gotten no indication that they want us to leave or an eviction notice. | i5f599e | i5fq18y | 1,650,415,774 | 1,650,425,022 | 7 | 11 | Unfortunately with a month to month lease the owner can just refuse to renew it and give you a 30 days to vacate without doing a eviction. Because it's not a eviction it's a nonrenwal of a lease. So you are better off finding a new place ASAP or asking for a 6 or 12 month lease. | If you’re very worried (and it’s hard not to be when you’re trying to provide a home for your family) I would reach out to the landlord from a throwaway email/burner phone and pretend like you’re interested in the property, and see if he’s actually presenting it as available, or telling the truth. | 0 | 9,248 | 1.571429 |
u7e8t1 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Hello community. Just recently started renting a house, but we had some people visit, saying they saw the house posted for rent still. That they'd been talking to the owner about the house being available next month. I've gotten no indication that they want us to leave or an eviction notice. | i5e7q0p | i5fq18y | 1,650,401,836 | 1,650,425,022 | 7 | 11 | If you have a lease they can’t just kick you out. I would keep a copy of the ad just in case something crazy does happen. | If you’re very worried (and it’s hard not to be when you’re trying to provide a home for your family) I would reach out to the landlord from a throwaway email/burner phone and pretend like you’re interested in the property, and see if he’s actually presenting it as available, or telling the truth. | 0 | 23,186 | 1.571429 |
u7e8t1 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Hello community. Just recently started renting a house, but we had some people visit, saying they saw the house posted for rent still. That they'd been talking to the owner about the house being available next month. I've gotten no indication that they want us to leave or an eviction notice. | i5f5q5t | i5fq18y | 1,650,415,974 | 1,650,425,022 | 7 | 11 | If you want more than 30 days notice to leave your month to month tenancy then your legal remedy is to negotiate a lease. | If you’re very worried (and it’s hard not to be when you’re trying to provide a home for your family) I would reach out to the landlord from a throwaway email/burner phone and pretend like you’re interested in the property, and see if he’s actually presenting it as available, or telling the truth. | 0 | 9,048 | 1.571429 |
zxrylr | legaladvice_train | 0.64 | Uncle is dying in prison My uncle(38/M) is in prison in GA (no violent crimes he’s in for drug related charges) We just found out he has terminal cancer he has less than a year to live. We want to bring him home so he can live out his last days with family. What do we do? How do we get him out ? I read somewhere about “compassionate release” Does anyone know the laws about this in the state of Ga? Who do we talk to to get paper work started? Thank you to anyone who replies back to this. My uncle has been in prison for these charges for over 3 years and is set to be released in 2 years. | j224qvz | j21zzfq | 1,672,281,328 | 1,672,279,201 | 32 | 6 | I’m a hospital social worker who once got a prisoner compassionate release for a similar situation (terminal cancer with less than a year left on his sentence). I provided documentation from the oncologist to the prison’s social worker and release coordinator and they did whatever they needed to on their side to get the release approved. I’d suggest trying to get ahold of his social worker or a release coordinator in the prison. Maybe their medical staff if they don’t have either of those. I think it helped that my patient had family willing to take him in upon release and he qualified for our state’s Medicaid. | Compassionate release does exist but it is not easy to get. Maybe try contacting your local sheriff's office to see what the steps are to get the process going. A letter straight to the governor may get ignored without following the proper steps. | 1 | 2,127 | 5.333333 |
zxrylr | legaladvice_train | 0.64 | Uncle is dying in prison My uncle(38/M) is in prison in GA (no violent crimes he’s in for drug related charges) We just found out he has terminal cancer he has less than a year to live. We want to bring him home so he can live out his last days with family. What do we do? How do we get him out ? I read somewhere about “compassionate release” Does anyone know the laws about this in the state of Ga? Who do we talk to to get paper work started? Thank you to anyone who replies back to this. My uncle has been in prison for these charges for over 3 years and is set to be released in 2 years. | j22nker | j21zzfq | 1,672,290,550 | 1,672,279,201 | 14 | 6 | I am not a lawyer, but hopefully this information can help guide your family in the right direction. I’m sorry you are all going through this. I believe in GA your uncle would want to seek a Medical Reprieve, as outlined here: https://pap.georgia.gov/parole-consideration/parole-process-georgia/reprieves-commutations The main website is: https://pap.georgia.gov. It looks like their main contact number is (404) 656-4661. | Compassionate release does exist but it is not easy to get. Maybe try contacting your local sheriff's office to see what the steps are to get the process going. A letter straight to the governor may get ignored without following the proper steps. | 1 | 11,349 | 2.333333 |
yfbd6b | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | [MN] The bank is trying to repo my camper. They have tried 9 times, all failing due not a big enough vehicle. I offered to help but was turned down. Title says it all. They have tried 9 times. The thing weighs 16k pounds. I have no issue with them taking it. Offered to help move it. They keep sending small trucks that nearly break when lower the weight onto it. Am I legally required to do anything? Bank won't take my money at this point ether. I'm just trying be done with the thing, get my bill for the remainder balance and move on. | iu2x7je | iu3z1eg | 1,666,929,037 | 1,666,957,394 | 20 | 28 | It's kinda on them to remove the camper then, sounds like their towing contractor didn't realize how heavy it is. They'll likely turn down offers to help for liability reasons and/or they're used to people trying to fight/attack them. | Bank tells the towing or repo company to go grab the camper. They have all the identifying things about the camper, which any repo company worth their weight in the cost of their towing equipment should know. Its on the bank to give the repo order to a decent, knowledgeable towing company to grab the thing. If the bank doesnt want to hire a tow company that knows wtf theyre doing, thats on them. Just stand out of the way, dont offer advice or to help, or even to tow it yourself. Just stay out of the way as ita now bank and repo company property and none of your business essentially. | 0 | 28,357 | 1.4 |
zv5odb | legaladvice_train | 0.68 | A hotel we staid at had a pet friendly policy on their website. They kicked us out early because we had a cat and changed their policy later to dog only. Is this fraud and anything legal to do with it? Or false advertising? Thanks We have screenshots of their policy before they changed it after they kicked us out and it just specified "pet friendly" and pet size which our car fit into. The manager seemed to have a vendetta against cats and kicked us out when she came in to work one day and they changed their policy on their website a few days later It was in Colorado and the cat is also a emotional support animal if that has any value | j1n89s2 | j1n8zxr | 1,671,999,446 | 1,671,999,775 | 22 | 37 | did you inform the hotel prior that your cat would be with you? | Did you pay for services you didn’t receive? Hotels don’t have to give notice to make changes in the same way a landlord might. | 0 | 329 | 1.681818 |
ug10yj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | US - TX : Bank requires employees with access to funds to take a mandatory unpaid two weeks off. Are we entitled to Unemployment Benefits during that time? I work for a bank in the Fraud department. In some of our operations we have access to funds in accounts that need to be moved. Because of this, the bank forces us to take two weeks off consecutively to perform a forensic accounting of all our transactions. This time off is technically unpaid however they advise you to plan your PTO time to cover this. The rub is that many times the dates you want are not available and they just assign your two weeks off at random. Since the bank is not allowing us to work and not paying us during those two weeks, are we eligible for Unemployment Benefits? Is PTO required to be used prior to applying for UE benefits? What if all your PTO is exhausted prior to the two week period? First time poster - Long time lurker. Let me know if more details are needed. | i6wq6go | i6wqnfr | 1,651,415,541 | 1,651,415,765 | 324 | 1,098 | In theory, sure. With at least one caveat: > Texas law requires us to hold your benefits for the first payable week as the “waiting week.” You will be paid for the waiting week after you have received two times your weekly benefit amount and returned to full-time work or exhausted your unemployment benefits. https://www.twc.texas.gov/files/jobseekers/unemployment-benefits-handbook-twc.pdf But yes, your PTO being used wouldn't allow for filing. And there is no right to NOT use PTO, they can apply it whenever they want. | This is commonly mandated of certain functions in the banking industry and I believe is driven by regulatory requirements. In my experience, it is standard to use PTO and I have never heard of anyone seeking or qualifying for unemployment during block leave. | 0 | 224 | 3.388889 |
ug10yj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | US - TX : Bank requires employees with access to funds to take a mandatory unpaid two weeks off. Are we entitled to Unemployment Benefits during that time? I work for a bank in the Fraud department. In some of our operations we have access to funds in accounts that need to be moved. Because of this, the bank forces us to take two weeks off consecutively to perform a forensic accounting of all our transactions. This time off is technically unpaid however they advise you to plan your PTO time to cover this. The rub is that many times the dates you want are not available and they just assign your two weeks off at random. Since the bank is not allowing us to work and not paying us during those two weeks, are we eligible for Unemployment Benefits? Is PTO required to be used prior to applying for UE benefits? What if all your PTO is exhausted prior to the two week period? First time poster - Long time lurker. Let me know if more details are needed. | i6x8gi9 | i6writp | 1,651,423,634 | 1,651,416,171 | 160 | 62 | The FDIC recommends that employees be given two uninterrupted weeks of leave. This has been mutated by your employer into "unpaid" leave. https://www.fdic.gov/news/financial-institution-letters/1995/fil9552.html | This may be something you want to cross post over in r/AskHR You'd get some helpful answers there too. | 1 | 7,463 | 2.580645 |
ug10yj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | US - TX : Bank requires employees with access to funds to take a mandatory unpaid two weeks off. Are we entitled to Unemployment Benefits during that time? I work for a bank in the Fraud department. In some of our operations we have access to funds in accounts that need to be moved. Because of this, the bank forces us to take two weeks off consecutively to perform a forensic accounting of all our transactions. This time off is technically unpaid however they advise you to plan your PTO time to cover this. The rub is that many times the dates you want are not available and they just assign your two weeks off at random. Since the bank is not allowing us to work and not paying us during those two weeks, are we eligible for Unemployment Benefits? Is PTO required to be used prior to applying for UE benefits? What if all your PTO is exhausted prior to the two week period? First time poster - Long time lurker. Let me know if more details are needed. | i6yg9uv | i6xce68 | 1,651,442,684 | 1,651,425,338 | 16 | 8 | To qualify for unemployment benefits in Texas, you must be either unemployed or working reduced hours through no fault of your own. Examples include layoff, ***reduction in hours or wages not related to misconduct,*** being fired for reasons other than misconduct, or quitting with good cause related to work. Your situation is a reduction in hours (to zero) through no fault of your own, so it appears you qualify for unemployment benefits. Note there are ongoing eligibility requirements in addition to the initial eligibility requirements. You can find more info here: https://www.twc.texas.gov/jobseekers/eligibility-benefit-amounts | This is very common but I don’t think you can get unemployment. Most just use PTO. I’d plan a trip and go enjoy | 1 | 17,346 | 2 |
ug10yj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | US - TX : Bank requires employees with access to funds to take a mandatory unpaid two weeks off. Are we entitled to Unemployment Benefits during that time? I work for a bank in the Fraud department. In some of our operations we have access to funds in accounts that need to be moved. Because of this, the bank forces us to take two weeks off consecutively to perform a forensic accounting of all our transactions. This time off is technically unpaid however they advise you to plan your PTO time to cover this. The rub is that many times the dates you want are not available and they just assign your two weeks off at random. Since the bank is not allowing us to work and not paying us during those two weeks, are we eligible for Unemployment Benefits? Is PTO required to be used prior to applying for UE benefits? What if all your PTO is exhausted prior to the two week period? First time poster - Long time lurker. Let me know if more details are needed. | i6yg9uv | i6xrz1d | 1,651,442,684 | 1,651,432,028 | 16 | 5 | To qualify for unemployment benefits in Texas, you must be either unemployed or working reduced hours through no fault of your own. Examples include layoff, ***reduction in hours or wages not related to misconduct,*** being fired for reasons other than misconduct, or quitting with good cause related to work. Your situation is a reduction in hours (to zero) through no fault of your own, so it appears you qualify for unemployment benefits. Note there are ongoing eligibility requirements in addition to the initial eligibility requirements. You can find more info here: https://www.twc.texas.gov/jobseekers/eligibility-benefit-amounts | If they're advising you to use your PTO but then not allowing you to book it as a holiday because that block is too full (when no one is allowed in the office), they need to fix that so that you can be paid during the unrequested two weeks off. Have you brought this issue to the attention of HR? or even to your immediate supervisor or manager? That would be my first step, get the issue of actually receiving your vacation pay during this PTO period. However, if they are expecting you to use your holiday pay during these two weeks then they cannot force you to take a vacation period during the rest of the year as you've already expended your vacation pay and can not afford it. Typically, where I live in Canada, people receive an extra 4% on their pay that is held in a vacation bank - 2% of your yearly income equates to one week of PTO vacation. 4% equates to two weeks paid holiday, 6% is three weeks etc. If you are only receiving 4% then they cannot force you to take more time off that is not paid. For unemployment benefits there is almost always a waiting period of two weeks (ours has went away temporarily as a result of the pandemic) so you typically wouldn't be able to apply for EI unless you had more time off than the waiting period. I would look into that before considering it. Also, some employment benefits make you pay back every penny if you make over x amount of money. | 1 | 10,656 | 3.2 |
ug10yj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | US - TX : Bank requires employees with access to funds to take a mandatory unpaid two weeks off. Are we entitled to Unemployment Benefits during that time? I work for a bank in the Fraud department. In some of our operations we have access to funds in accounts that need to be moved. Because of this, the bank forces us to take two weeks off consecutively to perform a forensic accounting of all our transactions. This time off is technically unpaid however they advise you to plan your PTO time to cover this. The rub is that many times the dates you want are not available and they just assign your two weeks off at random. Since the bank is not allowing us to work and not paying us during those two weeks, are we eligible for Unemployment Benefits? Is PTO required to be used prior to applying for UE benefits? What if all your PTO is exhausted prior to the two week period? First time poster - Long time lurker. Let me know if more details are needed. | i6yf8k7 | i6yg9uv | 1,651,442,218 | 1,651,442,684 | 6 | 16 | This is all regulatory.. your compensation should cover these scenarios already.. | To qualify for unemployment benefits in Texas, you must be either unemployed or working reduced hours through no fault of your own. Examples include layoff, ***reduction in hours or wages not related to misconduct,*** being fired for reasons other than misconduct, or quitting with good cause related to work. Your situation is a reduction in hours (to zero) through no fault of your own, so it appears you qualify for unemployment benefits. Note there are ongoing eligibility requirements in addition to the initial eligibility requirements. You can find more info here: https://www.twc.texas.gov/jobseekers/eligibility-benefit-amounts | 0 | 466 | 2.666667 |
ug10yj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | US - TX : Bank requires employees with access to funds to take a mandatory unpaid two weeks off. Are we entitled to Unemployment Benefits during that time? I work for a bank in the Fraud department. In some of our operations we have access to funds in accounts that need to be moved. Because of this, the bank forces us to take two weeks off consecutively to perform a forensic accounting of all our transactions. This time off is technically unpaid however they advise you to plan your PTO time to cover this. The rub is that many times the dates you want are not available and they just assign your two weeks off at random. Since the bank is not allowing us to work and not paying us during those two weeks, are we eligible for Unemployment Benefits? Is PTO required to be used prior to applying for UE benefits? What if all your PTO is exhausted prior to the two week period? First time poster - Long time lurker. Let me know if more details are needed. | i6yg9uv | i6xzs63 | 1,651,442,684 | 1,651,435,384 | 16 | 3 | To qualify for unemployment benefits in Texas, you must be either unemployed or working reduced hours through no fault of your own. Examples include layoff, ***reduction in hours or wages not related to misconduct,*** being fired for reasons other than misconduct, or quitting with good cause related to work. Your situation is a reduction in hours (to zero) through no fault of your own, so it appears you qualify for unemployment benefits. Note there are ongoing eligibility requirements in addition to the initial eligibility requirements. You can find more info here: https://www.twc.texas.gov/jobseekers/eligibility-benefit-amounts | I work for a bank and we have a 1 week of consecutive PTO requirement. 2 seems extreme but I guess it’s understandable. Personally, I’d be scheduling those 2 weeks right at the start of the year so I don’t end up with a random time. | 1 | 7,300 | 5.333333 |
ug10yj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | US - TX : Bank requires employees with access to funds to take a mandatory unpaid two weeks off. Are we entitled to Unemployment Benefits during that time? I work for a bank in the Fraud department. In some of our operations we have access to funds in accounts that need to be moved. Because of this, the bank forces us to take two weeks off consecutively to perform a forensic accounting of all our transactions. This time off is technically unpaid however they advise you to plan your PTO time to cover this. The rub is that many times the dates you want are not available and they just assign your two weeks off at random. Since the bank is not allowing us to work and not paying us during those two weeks, are we eligible for Unemployment Benefits? Is PTO required to be used prior to applying for UE benefits? What if all your PTO is exhausted prior to the two week period? First time poster - Long time lurker. Let me know if more details are needed. | i6xrz1d | i6za522 | 1,651,432,028 | 1,651,457,338 | 5 | 7 | If they're advising you to use your PTO but then not allowing you to book it as a holiday because that block is too full (when no one is allowed in the office), they need to fix that so that you can be paid during the unrequested two weeks off. Have you brought this issue to the attention of HR? or even to your immediate supervisor or manager? That would be my first step, get the issue of actually receiving your vacation pay during this PTO period. However, if they are expecting you to use your holiday pay during these two weeks then they cannot force you to take a vacation period during the rest of the year as you've already expended your vacation pay and can not afford it. Typically, where I live in Canada, people receive an extra 4% on their pay that is held in a vacation bank - 2% of your yearly income equates to one week of PTO vacation. 4% equates to two weeks paid holiday, 6% is three weeks etc. If you are only receiving 4% then they cannot force you to take more time off that is not paid. For unemployment benefits there is almost always a waiting period of two weeks (ours has went away temporarily as a result of the pandemic) so you typically wouldn't be able to apply for EI unless you had more time off than the waiting period. I would look into that before considering it. Also, some employment benefits make you pay back every penny if you make over x amount of money. | I work in IT in Finance and they require that we take 5 consecutive business days off per year, with no access to any system. The thing that seems strange here is that they are specifying exactly what days you are supposed to be off. In every occurrence I have heard of, you get to choose when you take the time off. They only care that it happens every 12 months (or calendar year). I would push back on the 'assigned two weeks off at random' part. They should be working with you to match up the two weeks with when you already have PTO planned. But, on your side, you need to plan to take 2 weeks of PTO and not use up your time with a few days here and there. | 0 | 25,310 | 1.4 |
ug10yj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | US - TX : Bank requires employees with access to funds to take a mandatory unpaid two weeks off. Are we entitled to Unemployment Benefits during that time? I work for a bank in the Fraud department. In some of our operations we have access to funds in accounts that need to be moved. Because of this, the bank forces us to take two weeks off consecutively to perform a forensic accounting of all our transactions. This time off is technically unpaid however they advise you to plan your PTO time to cover this. The rub is that many times the dates you want are not available and they just assign your two weeks off at random. Since the bank is not allowing us to work and not paying us during those two weeks, are we eligible for Unemployment Benefits? Is PTO required to be used prior to applying for UE benefits? What if all your PTO is exhausted prior to the two week period? First time poster - Long time lurker. Let me know if more details are needed. | i6yf8k7 | i6za522 | 1,651,442,218 | 1,651,457,338 | 6 | 7 | This is all regulatory.. your compensation should cover these scenarios already.. | I work in IT in Finance and they require that we take 5 consecutive business days off per year, with no access to any system. The thing that seems strange here is that they are specifying exactly what days you are supposed to be off. In every occurrence I have heard of, you get to choose when you take the time off. They only care that it happens every 12 months (or calendar year). I would push back on the 'assigned two weeks off at random' part. They should be working with you to match up the two weeks with when you already have PTO planned. But, on your side, you need to plan to take 2 weeks of PTO and not use up your time with a few days here and there. | 0 | 15,120 | 1.166667 |
ug10yj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | US - TX : Bank requires employees with access to funds to take a mandatory unpaid two weeks off. Are we entitled to Unemployment Benefits during that time? I work for a bank in the Fraud department. In some of our operations we have access to funds in accounts that need to be moved. Because of this, the bank forces us to take two weeks off consecutively to perform a forensic accounting of all our transactions. This time off is technically unpaid however they advise you to plan your PTO time to cover this. The rub is that many times the dates you want are not available and they just assign your two weeks off at random. Since the bank is not allowing us to work and not paying us during those two weeks, are we eligible for Unemployment Benefits? Is PTO required to be used prior to applying for UE benefits? What if all your PTO is exhausted prior to the two week period? First time poster - Long time lurker. Let me know if more details are needed. | i6za522 | i6xzs63 | 1,651,457,338 | 1,651,435,384 | 7 | 3 | I work in IT in Finance and they require that we take 5 consecutive business days off per year, with no access to any system. The thing that seems strange here is that they are specifying exactly what days you are supposed to be off. In every occurrence I have heard of, you get to choose when you take the time off. They only care that it happens every 12 months (or calendar year). I would push back on the 'assigned two weeks off at random' part. They should be working with you to match up the two weeks with when you already have PTO planned. But, on your side, you need to plan to take 2 weeks of PTO and not use up your time with a few days here and there. | I work for a bank and we have a 1 week of consecutive PTO requirement. 2 seems extreme but I guess it’s understandable. Personally, I’d be scheduling those 2 weeks right at the start of the year so I don’t end up with a random time. | 1 | 21,954 | 2.333333 |
ug10yj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | US - TX : Bank requires employees with access to funds to take a mandatory unpaid two weeks off. Are we entitled to Unemployment Benefits during that time? I work for a bank in the Fraud department. In some of our operations we have access to funds in accounts that need to be moved. Because of this, the bank forces us to take two weeks off consecutively to perform a forensic accounting of all our transactions. This time off is technically unpaid however they advise you to plan your PTO time to cover this. The rub is that many times the dates you want are not available and they just assign your two weeks off at random. Since the bank is not allowing us to work and not paying us during those two weeks, are we eligible for Unemployment Benefits? Is PTO required to be used prior to applying for UE benefits? What if all your PTO is exhausted prior to the two week period? First time poster - Long time lurker. Let me know if more details are needed. | i6xrz1d | i6yjb0l | 1,651,432,028 | 1,651,444,071 | 5 | 7 | If they're advising you to use your PTO but then not allowing you to book it as a holiday because that block is too full (when no one is allowed in the office), they need to fix that so that you can be paid during the unrequested two weeks off. Have you brought this issue to the attention of HR? or even to your immediate supervisor or manager? That would be my first step, get the issue of actually receiving your vacation pay during this PTO period. However, if they are expecting you to use your holiday pay during these two weeks then they cannot force you to take a vacation period during the rest of the year as you've already expended your vacation pay and can not afford it. Typically, where I live in Canada, people receive an extra 4% on their pay that is held in a vacation bank - 2% of your yearly income equates to one week of PTO vacation. 4% equates to two weeks paid holiday, 6% is three weeks etc. If you are only receiving 4% then they cannot force you to take more time off that is not paid. For unemployment benefits there is almost always a waiting period of two weeks (ours has went away temporarily as a result of the pandemic) so you typically wouldn't be able to apply for EI unless you had more time off than the waiting period. I would look into that before considering it. Also, some employment benefits make you pay back every penny if you make over x amount of money. | This is known as a mandatory vacation. It is used by financial institutions to detect and prevent coercion and fraud. It’s pretty common for banking compliance requirements (i.e., FFIEC, NCUA, etc.) | 0 | 12,043 | 1.4 |
ug10yj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | US - TX : Bank requires employees with access to funds to take a mandatory unpaid two weeks off. Are we entitled to Unemployment Benefits during that time? I work for a bank in the Fraud department. In some of our operations we have access to funds in accounts that need to be moved. Because of this, the bank forces us to take two weeks off consecutively to perform a forensic accounting of all our transactions. This time off is technically unpaid however they advise you to plan your PTO time to cover this. The rub is that many times the dates you want are not available and they just assign your two weeks off at random. Since the bank is not allowing us to work and not paying us during those two weeks, are we eligible for Unemployment Benefits? Is PTO required to be used prior to applying for UE benefits? What if all your PTO is exhausted prior to the two week period? First time poster - Long time lurker. Let me know if more details are needed. | i6yjb0l | i6yf8k7 | 1,651,444,071 | 1,651,442,218 | 7 | 6 | This is known as a mandatory vacation. It is used by financial institutions to detect and prevent coercion and fraud. It’s pretty common for banking compliance requirements (i.e., FFIEC, NCUA, etc.) | This is all regulatory.. your compensation should cover these scenarios already.. | 1 | 1,853 | 1.166667 |
ug10yj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | US - TX : Bank requires employees with access to funds to take a mandatory unpaid two weeks off. Are we entitled to Unemployment Benefits during that time? I work for a bank in the Fraud department. In some of our operations we have access to funds in accounts that need to be moved. Because of this, the bank forces us to take two weeks off consecutively to perform a forensic accounting of all our transactions. This time off is technically unpaid however they advise you to plan your PTO time to cover this. The rub is that many times the dates you want are not available and they just assign your two weeks off at random. Since the bank is not allowing us to work and not paying us during those two weeks, are we eligible for Unemployment Benefits? Is PTO required to be used prior to applying for UE benefits? What if all your PTO is exhausted prior to the two week period? First time poster - Long time lurker. Let me know if more details are needed. | i6xzs63 | i6yjb0l | 1,651,435,384 | 1,651,444,071 | 3 | 7 | I work for a bank and we have a 1 week of consecutive PTO requirement. 2 seems extreme but I guess it’s understandable. Personally, I’d be scheduling those 2 weeks right at the start of the year so I don’t end up with a random time. | This is known as a mandatory vacation. It is used by financial institutions to detect and prevent coercion and fraud. It’s pretty common for banking compliance requirements (i.e., FFIEC, NCUA, etc.) | 0 | 8,687 | 2.333333 |
ug10yj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | US - TX : Bank requires employees with access to funds to take a mandatory unpaid two weeks off. Are we entitled to Unemployment Benefits during that time? I work for a bank in the Fraud department. In some of our operations we have access to funds in accounts that need to be moved. Because of this, the bank forces us to take two weeks off consecutively to perform a forensic accounting of all our transactions. This time off is technically unpaid however they advise you to plan your PTO time to cover this. The rub is that many times the dates you want are not available and they just assign your two weeks off at random. Since the bank is not allowing us to work and not paying us during those two weeks, are we eligible for Unemployment Benefits? Is PTO required to be used prior to applying for UE benefits? What if all your PTO is exhausted prior to the two week period? First time poster - Long time lurker. Let me know if more details are needed. | i6yf8k7 | i6xrz1d | 1,651,442,218 | 1,651,432,028 | 6 | 5 | This is all regulatory.. your compensation should cover these scenarios already.. | If they're advising you to use your PTO but then not allowing you to book it as a holiday because that block is too full (when no one is allowed in the office), they need to fix that so that you can be paid during the unrequested two weeks off. Have you brought this issue to the attention of HR? or even to your immediate supervisor or manager? That would be my first step, get the issue of actually receiving your vacation pay during this PTO period. However, if they are expecting you to use your holiday pay during these two weeks then they cannot force you to take a vacation period during the rest of the year as you've already expended your vacation pay and can not afford it. Typically, where I live in Canada, people receive an extra 4% on their pay that is held in a vacation bank - 2% of your yearly income equates to one week of PTO vacation. 4% equates to two weeks paid holiday, 6% is three weeks etc. If you are only receiving 4% then they cannot force you to take more time off that is not paid. For unemployment benefits there is almost always a waiting period of two weeks (ours has went away temporarily as a result of the pandemic) so you typically wouldn't be able to apply for EI unless you had more time off than the waiting period. I would look into that before considering it. Also, some employment benefits make you pay back every penny if you make over x amount of money. | 1 | 10,190 | 1.2 |
ug10yj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | US - TX : Bank requires employees with access to funds to take a mandatory unpaid two weeks off. Are we entitled to Unemployment Benefits during that time? I work for a bank in the Fraud department. In some of our operations we have access to funds in accounts that need to be moved. Because of this, the bank forces us to take two weeks off consecutively to perform a forensic accounting of all our transactions. This time off is technically unpaid however they advise you to plan your PTO time to cover this. The rub is that many times the dates you want are not available and they just assign your two weeks off at random. Since the bank is not allowing us to work and not paying us during those two weeks, are we eligible for Unemployment Benefits? Is PTO required to be used prior to applying for UE benefits? What if all your PTO is exhausted prior to the two week period? First time poster - Long time lurker. Let me know if more details are needed. | i6yf8k7 | i6xzs63 | 1,651,442,218 | 1,651,435,384 | 6 | 3 | This is all regulatory.. your compensation should cover these scenarios already.. | I work for a bank and we have a 1 week of consecutive PTO requirement. 2 seems extreme but I guess it’s understandable. Personally, I’d be scheduling those 2 weeks right at the start of the year so I don’t end up with a random time. | 1 | 6,834 | 2 |
w3769o | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Property owner of vacant land damaged a private road my neighbors and I just paid to have professionally redone The dead end road I live on connects four properties, including mine, to the main road. One of the properties is a mostly undeveloped lot with an old barn containing numerous abandoned vehicles. The area around this barn was massively overgrown with blackberry bushes and other vegetation, making the barn inaccessible. The beginning of March of this year, our dirt road needed to be repaired. A contractor was hired and the bill was split between myself and my two neighbors who live on the road. The vacant property since went on the market. On June 8th, the apparent son-in-law of the property owner and another man began to clean up the vegetation around the property. We were told by the realtor that the property was pending and they had to clean out the barn and remove the vehicles. Their work continued for multiple weeks in which they towed out numerous vehicles and subsequently damaged our road, leaving ditches and offsetting the drainage and gravel that was professionally placed. I spoke to the son-in-law regarding the damage, and he offered to rake the gravel to fill the hole, however because of the acceleration of the tow truck and pickup truck they frequently used in attempt to pull out old, sunken vehicles, much of the road has been kicked up and displaced completely. I have since then contacted the realtor twice to get in contact with the property owner regarding the damage and has not heard back. Where do I go from here? Do I send a certified letter? Get an estimate for the new repair and send it to them? I know I’ll need to get a paper trail together and have taken photos of the damage. I’ve been lucky to not have to deal with “uneighborly” behavior up until now. I live in Washington state, if that matters. Thanks for any advice! | igwq019 | igwz3sb | 1,658,320,214 | 1,658,324,539 | 11 | 12 | > The dead end road I live on Who owns the road? Who is required to maintain said road and where is that documented? > A contractor was hired and the bill was split between myself and my two neighbors who live on the road. The vacant property since went on the market. The vacant property was always owned by someone or some entity. You should send them a bill for their share of the maintenance of the (assumed) shared road. Now. When you get payment you can credit the neighbors who chipped in to cover it. > the apparent son-in-law of the property owner and another man Now you know who to send the invoices to for the original maintenance and repair costs. Do it now and don't wait. Talk to a real estate lawyer, as you may also be able to place a lien on the property for the costs that are owed to you all. But a lot of this will depend on who owns the road and who is required to maintain the road. You say you are in Washington State, I assume you get snow, who plows the driveway when needed? | If a sale is pending - threatening a lawsuit can be a great motivator and potentially need to be disclosed to the potential buyer causing all sorts of issues. | 0 | 4,325 | 1.090909 |
w3769o | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Property owner of vacant land damaged a private road my neighbors and I just paid to have professionally redone The dead end road I live on connects four properties, including mine, to the main road. One of the properties is a mostly undeveloped lot with an old barn containing numerous abandoned vehicles. The area around this barn was massively overgrown with blackberry bushes and other vegetation, making the barn inaccessible. The beginning of March of this year, our dirt road needed to be repaired. A contractor was hired and the bill was split between myself and my two neighbors who live on the road. The vacant property since went on the market. On June 8th, the apparent son-in-law of the property owner and another man began to clean up the vegetation around the property. We were told by the realtor that the property was pending and they had to clean out the barn and remove the vehicles. Their work continued for multiple weeks in which they towed out numerous vehicles and subsequently damaged our road, leaving ditches and offsetting the drainage and gravel that was professionally placed. I spoke to the son-in-law regarding the damage, and he offered to rake the gravel to fill the hole, however because of the acceleration of the tow truck and pickup truck they frequently used in attempt to pull out old, sunken vehicles, much of the road has been kicked up and displaced completely. I have since then contacted the realtor twice to get in contact with the property owner regarding the damage and has not heard back. Where do I go from here? Do I send a certified letter? Get an estimate for the new repair and send it to them? I know I’ll need to get a paper trail together and have taken photos of the damage. I’ve been lucky to not have to deal with “uneighborly” behavior up until now. I live in Washington state, if that matters. Thanks for any advice! | igwt01r | igwz3sb | 1,658,321,717 | 1,658,324,539 | 2 | 12 | I don’t know where you are, I’m guessing in a jurisdiction completely different to Victoria, Australia where I am. But here if a notice is served on a property after the contracts are signed but before the sale goes through, it will hold up settlement until it’s resolved. The new owners won’t generally settle knowing they could be taking on the liability. You need to work out who owns the road. Is it commonly owned private property, therefore subject to owners corp rules (even if no owners corp is established)? Is it crown land you guys just voluntarily fixed up? | If a sale is pending - threatening a lawsuit can be a great motivator and potentially need to be disclosed to the potential buyer causing all sorts of issues. | 0 | 2,822 | 6 |
s7jxma | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | Bought first home. Part of fence 6" over property line. Owner claiming $400k in damages. I recently bought a home in Seattle and I have lived in the house for about 4 months. Recently, I received 50+ page envelope from a law firm claiming that I owe the owner next to my home $400k in damages because part of my fence was built on their property. They said I need to contact them in 30 days or would face legal action.They are claiming I owe them payment under the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act (FDCPA). I don't have debt to them so I don't know how that act applies. I talked to our realtor, escrow company, and called King county. Nothing was in my buying agreement of a easement or lien, the title was clean, and no formal complaint has been filed to King County. I am not sure what to do. Do I need a real estate lawyer? Or if our fence is on their property, can I just move it? My real estate agent says I have nothing to worry but we might need a lawyer...so that makes me worry. Any help or advice is greatly appreciated. | htag802 | htahkim | 1,642,576,293 | 1,642,577,229 | 805 | 1,858 | Look up the attorney/firm online, get the phone # and call them to verify the document/mailing is their doing (do not use the # printer on the docs themselves). If they confirm, then hire your own real estate layer, might also be worth reaching out to your title company as well to see if they will defend this suit. If they deny, then ignore the paperwork and provide the firm with your neighbors into so they can take appropriate action. | Sounds like a shakedown. If you actually get served paperwork, get an attorney. In the meanwhile, call the law firm that is listed on the letterhead of the letter. DO NOT just call the phone number that's listed on the letterhead; you don't know for sure that it doesn't go to the cell phone of some random dude who's pretending to be an attorney. Google the firm name and check the state bar association website. Call the number that you turned up by doing these things, not the number on the letter itself. If you get through to an actual legal firm, ask to speak to the attorney who signed the letter. S/he or their secretary should be able to confirm that they did in fact write a demand letter for your neighbor. If they say yes, politely thank them and hang up. Don't try to negotiate with your neighbor's lawyer, and don't ask them for advice: they don't represent you, they represent someone who's suing you. They have no incentive to give you good advice. If it turns out that your neighbor has "borrowed" the identity of a particular lawyer or law firm and is pretending to be represented by them, then the lawyer and/or firm will be very interested in that, and things won't go well for the neighbor. Getting an immediate land survey to find out where the property line actually is might be a smart move. If the fence is built on the neighbor's side of the property line, they can probably demand that you move it; but it's hard to see how you would have any debt to them besides an obligation to correct the problem. It's hard to imagine, based on what you've written, that you personally have caused them $400k in damages and that a court would order you to pay that to make them whole. | 0 | 936 | 2.308075 |
s7jxma | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | Bought first home. Part of fence 6" over property line. Owner claiming $400k in damages. I recently bought a home in Seattle and I have lived in the house for about 4 months. Recently, I received 50+ page envelope from a law firm claiming that I owe the owner next to my home $400k in damages because part of my fence was built on their property. They said I need to contact them in 30 days or would face legal action.They are claiming I owe them payment under the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act (FDCPA). I don't have debt to them so I don't know how that act applies. I talked to our realtor, escrow company, and called King county. Nothing was in my buying agreement of a easement or lien, the title was clean, and no formal complaint has been filed to King County. I am not sure what to do. Do I need a real estate lawyer? Or if our fence is on their property, can I just move it? My real estate agent says I have nothing to worry but we might need a lawyer...so that makes me worry. Any help or advice is greatly appreciated. | htbkm9r | htbbx1s | 1,642,602,624 | 1,642,598,581 | 741 | 360 | So, the initial contact was 50+ pages, claiming an absurd amount of money, and citing a law that has nothing to do with the supposed claim? To me, this sounds a lot like Sovereign Citizen nonsense. Step one would be to look up the law firm that supposedly sent the papers, and find out if they're actually even a law firm. Then, contact them (using contact info you find online, not from the papers you got), and ask if they sent the papers. Don't try to argue your case, just find out whether they sent the papers. If not, you should offer to meet with them and give them copies of the papers, because they'll be very interested that somebody is sending out bogus claims under their letterhead. If it's not a real law firm, then at least you'll know that one of your neighbors is crazy. In that case, you'll want to file a police report about the false legal papers. I really doubt you'll reach this point, but if it's a real law firm, and they really sent those papers, you'll need to get a consultation with a real estate attorney. You might have to pay to move (or remove) the fence, but I doubt that'll be anywhere near $400K. | OP I’m a real estate attorney, I am not your attorney and this is not the beginning of an attorney client relationship. You’ve got some real, relevant advice here but I want to reiterate from a Real Estate perspective. I personally fall in line with the theory that this is some sort of scam. I don’t know of any attorney that would sign off on this letter, especially because you just purchased the house. I would take the advice of looking up the law firm on google and calling them. It is feasible that your neighbor stole letterhead from a local firm or had a friend that works at a law firm type this up (which is a fireable offense at most firms). I am also suspicious that you received 50+ pages as this is not typical of a law firm demand letter. I’ve written many demand letters and they rarely exceed one page. All in all, call the firm from a number you find on google or your state bar website (state bar website is the best bet), if it turns out they did actually send the package then call your title insurance. They will provide you with a defense attorney which is what you will likely need and not a real estate attorney since real estate attorneys do not normally defend cases. | 1 | 4,043 | 2.058333 |
s7jxma | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | Bought first home. Part of fence 6" over property line. Owner claiming $400k in damages. I recently bought a home in Seattle and I have lived in the house for about 4 months. Recently, I received 50+ page envelope from a law firm claiming that I owe the owner next to my home $400k in damages because part of my fence was built on their property. They said I need to contact them in 30 days or would face legal action.They are claiming I owe them payment under the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act (FDCPA). I don't have debt to them so I don't know how that act applies. I talked to our realtor, escrow company, and called King county. Nothing was in my buying agreement of a easement or lien, the title was clean, and no formal complaint has been filed to King County. I am not sure what to do. Do I need a real estate lawyer? Or if our fence is on their property, can I just move it? My real estate agent says I have nothing to worry but we might need a lawyer...so that makes me worry. Any help or advice is greatly appreciated. | htbkm9r | htak130 | 1,642,602,624 | 1,642,579,032 | 741 | 257 | So, the initial contact was 50+ pages, claiming an absurd amount of money, and citing a law that has nothing to do with the supposed claim? To me, this sounds a lot like Sovereign Citizen nonsense. Step one would be to look up the law firm that supposedly sent the papers, and find out if they're actually even a law firm. Then, contact them (using contact info you find online, not from the papers you got), and ask if they sent the papers. Don't try to argue your case, just find out whether they sent the papers. If not, you should offer to meet with them and give them copies of the papers, because they'll be very interested that somebody is sending out bogus claims under their letterhead. If it's not a real law firm, then at least you'll know that one of your neighbors is crazy. In that case, you'll want to file a police report about the false legal papers. I really doubt you'll reach this point, but if it's a real law firm, and they really sent those papers, you'll need to get a consultation with a real estate attorney. You might have to pay to move (or remove) the fence, but I doubt that'll be anywhere near $400K. | Not a lawyer, FDCPA doesn't apply, they've gotta be blowing smoke. >"The FDCPA does not protect debtors from those who are attempting to collect a personal debt. If you owe money to the local hardware store, for example, and the owner of the store calls you to collect that debt, that person is not a debt collector under the terms of this act. The FDCPA only applies to third-party debt collectors, such as those who work for a debt collection agency" Going on your account there are no debts involved: It sounds like they've just listed the property owner as the collector, which isn't allowed. More importantly perhaps is that the FDCPA merely restricts how collectors reach debtors, it's not a citation that defines damages. Sheesh. If anything get a lawyer to pursue them for fraud. Also support RXisHere to cover the legal bases of your property of course https://www.investopedia.com/terms/f/fair-debt-collection-practices-act-fdcpa.asp | 1 | 23,592 | 2.883268 |
s7jxma | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | Bought first home. Part of fence 6" over property line. Owner claiming $400k in damages. I recently bought a home in Seattle and I have lived in the house for about 4 months. Recently, I received 50+ page envelope from a law firm claiming that I owe the owner next to my home $400k in damages because part of my fence was built on their property. They said I need to contact them in 30 days or would face legal action.They are claiming I owe them payment under the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act (FDCPA). I don't have debt to them so I don't know how that act applies. I talked to our realtor, escrow company, and called King county. Nothing was in my buying agreement of a easement or lien, the title was clean, and no formal complaint has been filed to King County. I am not sure what to do. Do I need a real estate lawyer? Or if our fence is on their property, can I just move it? My real estate agent says I have nothing to worry but we might need a lawyer...so that makes me worry. Any help or advice is greatly appreciated. | htb48f8 | htbkm9r | 1,642,594,242 | 1,642,602,624 | 72 | 741 | Sounds like neighbor wants to rent you those six inches for 400k. Spendy for sure. I smell fraud or an undisclosed, ongoing easement issue. If that is true, I’d want your attorney (that helped you buy the property) to explain how an encroachment wasn’t found when they reviewed the survey. I went through this when I bought a house and the surveyor didn’t note an iron fence that encroached six feet across the front of my house. Instead of fighting it out legally, I had another survey done - noting the property lines - went out with a grinder and removed the fence. Neighbor went ballistic but it was my fence on my property at that point. He had no easement from me. He is still salty about it. (Note: I gave him fair warning about removing the fence but he doubled- down on it being there so long, why should I care? Clearly I did/do and Tom-Foolery like that serves nobody.) | So, the initial contact was 50+ pages, claiming an absurd amount of money, and citing a law that has nothing to do with the supposed claim? To me, this sounds a lot like Sovereign Citizen nonsense. Step one would be to look up the law firm that supposedly sent the papers, and find out if they're actually even a law firm. Then, contact them (using contact info you find online, not from the papers you got), and ask if they sent the papers. Don't try to argue your case, just find out whether they sent the papers. If not, you should offer to meet with them and give them copies of the papers, because they'll be very interested that somebody is sending out bogus claims under their letterhead. If it's not a real law firm, then at least you'll know that one of your neighbors is crazy. In that case, you'll want to file a police report about the false legal papers. I really doubt you'll reach this point, but if it's a real law firm, and they really sent those papers, you'll need to get a consultation with a real estate attorney. You might have to pay to move (or remove) the fence, but I doubt that'll be anywhere near $400K. | 0 | 8,382 | 10.291667 |
s7jxma | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | Bought first home. Part of fence 6" over property line. Owner claiming $400k in damages. I recently bought a home in Seattle and I have lived in the house for about 4 months. Recently, I received 50+ page envelope from a law firm claiming that I owe the owner next to my home $400k in damages because part of my fence was built on their property. They said I need to contact them in 30 days or would face legal action.They are claiming I owe them payment under the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act (FDCPA). I don't have debt to them so I don't know how that act applies. I talked to our realtor, escrow company, and called King county. Nothing was in my buying agreement of a easement or lien, the title was clean, and no formal complaint has been filed to King County. I am not sure what to do. Do I need a real estate lawyer? Or if our fence is on their property, can I just move it? My real estate agent says I have nothing to worry but we might need a lawyer...so that makes me worry. Any help or advice is greatly appreciated. | htayr7o | htbkm9r | 1,642,590,484 | 1,642,602,624 | 43 | 741 | If this was an existing fence couldn’t OP just say “not my fence” if it is on the neighbors property? | So, the initial contact was 50+ pages, claiming an absurd amount of money, and citing a law that has nothing to do with the supposed claim? To me, this sounds a lot like Sovereign Citizen nonsense. Step one would be to look up the law firm that supposedly sent the papers, and find out if they're actually even a law firm. Then, contact them (using contact info you find online, not from the papers you got), and ask if they sent the papers. Don't try to argue your case, just find out whether they sent the papers. If not, you should offer to meet with them and give them copies of the papers, because they'll be very interested that somebody is sending out bogus claims under their letterhead. If it's not a real law firm, then at least you'll know that one of your neighbors is crazy. In that case, you'll want to file a police report about the false legal papers. I really doubt you'll reach this point, but if it's a real law firm, and they really sent those papers, you'll need to get a consultation with a real estate attorney. You might have to pay to move (or remove) the fence, but I doubt that'll be anywhere near $400K. | 0 | 12,140 | 17.232558 |
s7jxma | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | Bought first home. Part of fence 6" over property line. Owner claiming $400k in damages. I recently bought a home in Seattle and I have lived in the house for about 4 months. Recently, I received 50+ page envelope from a law firm claiming that I owe the owner next to my home $400k in damages because part of my fence was built on their property. They said I need to contact them in 30 days or would face legal action.They are claiming I owe them payment under the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act (FDCPA). I don't have debt to them so I don't know how that act applies. I talked to our realtor, escrow company, and called King county. Nothing was in my buying agreement of a easement or lien, the title was clean, and no formal complaint has been filed to King County. I am not sure what to do. Do I need a real estate lawyer? Or if our fence is on their property, can I just move it? My real estate agent says I have nothing to worry but we might need a lawyer...so that makes me worry. Any help or advice is greatly appreciated. | htbkm9r | htb3z7h | 1,642,602,624 | 1,642,594,080 | 741 | 30 | So, the initial contact was 50+ pages, claiming an absurd amount of money, and citing a law that has nothing to do with the supposed claim? To me, this sounds a lot like Sovereign Citizen nonsense. Step one would be to look up the law firm that supposedly sent the papers, and find out if they're actually even a law firm. Then, contact them (using contact info you find online, not from the papers you got), and ask if they sent the papers. Don't try to argue your case, just find out whether they sent the papers. If not, you should offer to meet with them and give them copies of the papers, because they'll be very interested that somebody is sending out bogus claims under their letterhead. If it's not a real law firm, then at least you'll know that one of your neighbors is crazy. In that case, you'll want to file a police report about the false legal papers. I really doubt you'll reach this point, but if it's a real law firm, and they really sent those papers, you'll need to get a consultation with a real estate attorney. You might have to pay to move (or remove) the fence, but I doubt that'll be anywhere near $400K. | Things you need to figure out first. When was the fence built? What is the length of time for adverse possession in your state? Did you have a survey prior to purchasing the house? (If no title insurance most likely will NOT cover this and you'll be on your own to pay for a lawyer). If no survey what is the last recorded survey and does it show said fence? | 1 | 8,544 | 24.7 |
s7jxma | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | Bought first home. Part of fence 6" over property line. Owner claiming $400k in damages. I recently bought a home in Seattle and I have lived in the house for about 4 months. Recently, I received 50+ page envelope from a law firm claiming that I owe the owner next to my home $400k in damages because part of my fence was built on their property. They said I need to contact them in 30 days or would face legal action.They are claiming I owe them payment under the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act (FDCPA). I don't have debt to them so I don't know how that act applies. I talked to our realtor, escrow company, and called King county. Nothing was in my buying agreement of a easement or lien, the title was clean, and no formal complaint has been filed to King County. I am not sure what to do. Do I need a real estate lawyer? Or if our fence is on their property, can I just move it? My real estate agent says I have nothing to worry but we might need a lawyer...so that makes me worry. Any help or advice is greatly appreciated. | htbkm9r | htb5zak | 1,642,602,624 | 1,642,595,323 | 741 | 15 | So, the initial contact was 50+ pages, claiming an absurd amount of money, and citing a law that has nothing to do with the supposed claim? To me, this sounds a lot like Sovereign Citizen nonsense. Step one would be to look up the law firm that supposedly sent the papers, and find out if they're actually even a law firm. Then, contact them (using contact info you find online, not from the papers you got), and ask if they sent the papers. Don't try to argue your case, just find out whether they sent the papers. If not, you should offer to meet with them and give them copies of the papers, because they'll be very interested that somebody is sending out bogus claims under their letterhead. If it's not a real law firm, then at least you'll know that one of your neighbors is crazy. In that case, you'll want to file a police report about the false legal papers. I really doubt you'll reach this point, but if it's a real law firm, and they really sent those papers, you'll need to get a consultation with a real estate attorney. You might have to pay to move (or remove) the fence, but I doubt that'll be anywhere near $400K. | Are you sure it's even your fence? And not the neighbor's fence? | 1 | 7,301 | 49.4 |
s7jxma | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | Bought first home. Part of fence 6" over property line. Owner claiming $400k in damages. I recently bought a home in Seattle and I have lived in the house for about 4 months. Recently, I received 50+ page envelope from a law firm claiming that I owe the owner next to my home $400k in damages because part of my fence was built on their property. They said I need to contact them in 30 days or would face legal action.They are claiming I owe them payment under the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act (FDCPA). I don't have debt to them so I don't know how that act applies. I talked to our realtor, escrow company, and called King county. Nothing was in my buying agreement of a easement or lien, the title was clean, and no formal complaint has been filed to King County. I am not sure what to do. Do I need a real estate lawyer? Or if our fence is on their property, can I just move it? My real estate agent says I have nothing to worry but we might need a lawyer...so that makes me worry. Any help or advice is greatly appreciated. | htbbx1s | htak130 | 1,642,598,581 | 1,642,579,032 | 360 | 257 | OP I’m a real estate attorney, I am not your attorney and this is not the beginning of an attorney client relationship. You’ve got some real, relevant advice here but I want to reiterate from a Real Estate perspective. I personally fall in line with the theory that this is some sort of scam. I don’t know of any attorney that would sign off on this letter, especially because you just purchased the house. I would take the advice of looking up the law firm on google and calling them. It is feasible that your neighbor stole letterhead from a local firm or had a friend that works at a law firm type this up (which is a fireable offense at most firms). I am also suspicious that you received 50+ pages as this is not typical of a law firm demand letter. I’ve written many demand letters and they rarely exceed one page. All in all, call the firm from a number you find on google or your state bar website (state bar website is the best bet), if it turns out they did actually send the package then call your title insurance. They will provide you with a defense attorney which is what you will likely need and not a real estate attorney since real estate attorneys do not normally defend cases. | Not a lawyer, FDCPA doesn't apply, they've gotta be blowing smoke. >"The FDCPA does not protect debtors from those who are attempting to collect a personal debt. If you owe money to the local hardware store, for example, and the owner of the store calls you to collect that debt, that person is not a debt collector under the terms of this act. The FDCPA only applies to third-party debt collectors, such as those who work for a debt collection agency" Going on your account there are no debts involved: It sounds like they've just listed the property owner as the collector, which isn't allowed. More importantly perhaps is that the FDCPA merely restricts how collectors reach debtors, it's not a citation that defines damages. Sheesh. If anything get a lawyer to pursue them for fraud. Also support RXisHere to cover the legal bases of your property of course https://www.investopedia.com/terms/f/fair-debt-collection-practices-act-fdcpa.asp | 1 | 19,549 | 1.400778 |
s7jxma | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | Bought first home. Part of fence 6" over property line. Owner claiming $400k in damages. I recently bought a home in Seattle and I have lived in the house for about 4 months. Recently, I received 50+ page envelope from a law firm claiming that I owe the owner next to my home $400k in damages because part of my fence was built on their property. They said I need to contact them in 30 days or would face legal action.They are claiming I owe them payment under the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act (FDCPA). I don't have debt to them so I don't know how that act applies. I talked to our realtor, escrow company, and called King county. Nothing was in my buying agreement of a easement or lien, the title was clean, and no formal complaint has been filed to King County. I am not sure what to do. Do I need a real estate lawyer? Or if our fence is on their property, can I just move it? My real estate agent says I have nothing to worry but we might need a lawyer...so that makes me worry. Any help or advice is greatly appreciated. | htb48f8 | htbbx1s | 1,642,594,242 | 1,642,598,581 | 72 | 360 | Sounds like neighbor wants to rent you those six inches for 400k. Spendy for sure. I smell fraud or an undisclosed, ongoing easement issue. If that is true, I’d want your attorney (that helped you buy the property) to explain how an encroachment wasn’t found when they reviewed the survey. I went through this when I bought a house and the surveyor didn’t note an iron fence that encroached six feet across the front of my house. Instead of fighting it out legally, I had another survey done - noting the property lines - went out with a grinder and removed the fence. Neighbor went ballistic but it was my fence on my property at that point. He had no easement from me. He is still salty about it. (Note: I gave him fair warning about removing the fence but he doubled- down on it being there so long, why should I care? Clearly I did/do and Tom-Foolery like that serves nobody.) | OP I’m a real estate attorney, I am not your attorney and this is not the beginning of an attorney client relationship. You’ve got some real, relevant advice here but I want to reiterate from a Real Estate perspective. I personally fall in line with the theory that this is some sort of scam. I don’t know of any attorney that would sign off on this letter, especially because you just purchased the house. I would take the advice of looking up the law firm on google and calling them. It is feasible that your neighbor stole letterhead from a local firm or had a friend that works at a law firm type this up (which is a fireable offense at most firms). I am also suspicious that you received 50+ pages as this is not typical of a law firm demand letter. I’ve written many demand letters and they rarely exceed one page. All in all, call the firm from a number you find on google or your state bar website (state bar website is the best bet), if it turns out they did actually send the package then call your title insurance. They will provide you with a defense attorney which is what you will likely need and not a real estate attorney since real estate attorneys do not normally defend cases. | 0 | 4,339 | 5 |
s7jxma | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | Bought first home. Part of fence 6" over property line. Owner claiming $400k in damages. I recently bought a home in Seattle and I have lived in the house for about 4 months. Recently, I received 50+ page envelope from a law firm claiming that I owe the owner next to my home $400k in damages because part of my fence was built on their property. They said I need to contact them in 30 days or would face legal action.They are claiming I owe them payment under the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act (FDCPA). I don't have debt to them so I don't know how that act applies. I talked to our realtor, escrow company, and called King county. Nothing was in my buying agreement of a easement or lien, the title was clean, and no formal complaint has been filed to King County. I am not sure what to do. Do I need a real estate lawyer? Or if our fence is on their property, can I just move it? My real estate agent says I have nothing to worry but we might need a lawyer...so that makes me worry. Any help or advice is greatly appreciated. | htbbx1s | htayr7o | 1,642,598,581 | 1,642,590,484 | 360 | 43 | OP I’m a real estate attorney, I am not your attorney and this is not the beginning of an attorney client relationship. You’ve got some real, relevant advice here but I want to reiterate from a Real Estate perspective. I personally fall in line with the theory that this is some sort of scam. I don’t know of any attorney that would sign off on this letter, especially because you just purchased the house. I would take the advice of looking up the law firm on google and calling them. It is feasible that your neighbor stole letterhead from a local firm or had a friend that works at a law firm type this up (which is a fireable offense at most firms). I am also suspicious that you received 50+ pages as this is not typical of a law firm demand letter. I’ve written many demand letters and they rarely exceed one page. All in all, call the firm from a number you find on google or your state bar website (state bar website is the best bet), if it turns out they did actually send the package then call your title insurance. They will provide you with a defense attorney which is what you will likely need and not a real estate attorney since real estate attorneys do not normally defend cases. | If this was an existing fence couldn’t OP just say “not my fence” if it is on the neighbors property? | 1 | 8,097 | 8.372093 |
s7jxma | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | Bought first home. Part of fence 6" over property line. Owner claiming $400k in damages. I recently bought a home in Seattle and I have lived in the house for about 4 months. Recently, I received 50+ page envelope from a law firm claiming that I owe the owner next to my home $400k in damages because part of my fence was built on their property. They said I need to contact them in 30 days or would face legal action.They are claiming I owe them payment under the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act (FDCPA). I don't have debt to them so I don't know how that act applies. I talked to our realtor, escrow company, and called King county. Nothing was in my buying agreement of a easement or lien, the title was clean, and no formal complaint has been filed to King County. I am not sure what to do. Do I need a real estate lawyer? Or if our fence is on their property, can I just move it? My real estate agent says I have nothing to worry but we might need a lawyer...so that makes me worry. Any help or advice is greatly appreciated. | htbbx1s | htb3z7h | 1,642,598,581 | 1,642,594,080 | 360 | 30 | OP I’m a real estate attorney, I am not your attorney and this is not the beginning of an attorney client relationship. You’ve got some real, relevant advice here but I want to reiterate from a Real Estate perspective. I personally fall in line with the theory that this is some sort of scam. I don’t know of any attorney that would sign off on this letter, especially because you just purchased the house. I would take the advice of looking up the law firm on google and calling them. It is feasible that your neighbor stole letterhead from a local firm or had a friend that works at a law firm type this up (which is a fireable offense at most firms). I am also suspicious that you received 50+ pages as this is not typical of a law firm demand letter. I’ve written many demand letters and they rarely exceed one page. All in all, call the firm from a number you find on google or your state bar website (state bar website is the best bet), if it turns out they did actually send the package then call your title insurance. They will provide you with a defense attorney which is what you will likely need and not a real estate attorney since real estate attorneys do not normally defend cases. | Things you need to figure out first. When was the fence built? What is the length of time for adverse possession in your state? Did you have a survey prior to purchasing the house? (If no title insurance most likely will NOT cover this and you'll be on your own to pay for a lawyer). If no survey what is the last recorded survey and does it show said fence? | 1 | 4,501 | 12 |
s7jxma | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | Bought first home. Part of fence 6" over property line. Owner claiming $400k in damages. I recently bought a home in Seattle and I have lived in the house for about 4 months. Recently, I received 50+ page envelope from a law firm claiming that I owe the owner next to my home $400k in damages because part of my fence was built on their property. They said I need to contact them in 30 days or would face legal action.They are claiming I owe them payment under the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act (FDCPA). I don't have debt to them so I don't know how that act applies. I talked to our realtor, escrow company, and called King county. Nothing was in my buying agreement of a easement or lien, the title was clean, and no formal complaint has been filed to King County. I am not sure what to do. Do I need a real estate lawyer? Or if our fence is on their property, can I just move it? My real estate agent says I have nothing to worry but we might need a lawyer...so that makes me worry. Any help or advice is greatly appreciated. | htb5zak | htbbx1s | 1,642,595,323 | 1,642,598,581 | 15 | 360 | Are you sure it's even your fence? And not the neighbor's fence? | OP I’m a real estate attorney, I am not your attorney and this is not the beginning of an attorney client relationship. You’ve got some real, relevant advice here but I want to reiterate from a Real Estate perspective. I personally fall in line with the theory that this is some sort of scam. I don’t know of any attorney that would sign off on this letter, especially because you just purchased the house. I would take the advice of looking up the law firm on google and calling them. It is feasible that your neighbor stole letterhead from a local firm or had a friend that works at a law firm type this up (which is a fireable offense at most firms). I am also suspicious that you received 50+ pages as this is not typical of a law firm demand letter. I’ve written many demand letters and they rarely exceed one page. All in all, call the firm from a number you find on google or your state bar website (state bar website is the best bet), if it turns out they did actually send the package then call your title insurance. They will provide you with a defense attorney which is what you will likely need and not a real estate attorney since real estate attorneys do not normally defend cases. | 0 | 3,258 | 24 |
s7jxma | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | Bought first home. Part of fence 6" over property line. Owner claiming $400k in damages. I recently bought a home in Seattle and I have lived in the house for about 4 months. Recently, I received 50+ page envelope from a law firm claiming that I owe the owner next to my home $400k in damages because part of my fence was built on their property. They said I need to contact them in 30 days or would face legal action.They are claiming I owe them payment under the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act (FDCPA). I don't have debt to them so I don't know how that act applies. I talked to our realtor, escrow company, and called King county. Nothing was in my buying agreement of a easement or lien, the title was clean, and no formal complaint has been filed to King County. I am not sure what to do. Do I need a real estate lawyer? Or if our fence is on their property, can I just move it? My real estate agent says I have nothing to worry but we might need a lawyer...so that makes me worry. Any help or advice is greatly appreciated. | htb48f8 | htayr7o | 1,642,594,242 | 1,642,590,484 | 72 | 43 | Sounds like neighbor wants to rent you those six inches for 400k. Spendy for sure. I smell fraud or an undisclosed, ongoing easement issue. If that is true, I’d want your attorney (that helped you buy the property) to explain how an encroachment wasn’t found when they reviewed the survey. I went through this when I bought a house and the surveyor didn’t note an iron fence that encroached six feet across the front of my house. Instead of fighting it out legally, I had another survey done - noting the property lines - went out with a grinder and removed the fence. Neighbor went ballistic but it was my fence on my property at that point. He had no easement from me. He is still salty about it. (Note: I gave him fair warning about removing the fence but he doubled- down on it being there so long, why should I care? Clearly I did/do and Tom-Foolery like that serves nobody.) | If this was an existing fence couldn’t OP just say “not my fence” if it is on the neighbors property? | 1 | 3,758 | 1.674419 |
s7jxma | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | Bought first home. Part of fence 6" over property line. Owner claiming $400k in damages. I recently bought a home in Seattle and I have lived in the house for about 4 months. Recently, I received 50+ page envelope from a law firm claiming that I owe the owner next to my home $400k in damages because part of my fence was built on their property. They said I need to contact them in 30 days or would face legal action.They are claiming I owe them payment under the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act (FDCPA). I don't have debt to them so I don't know how that act applies. I talked to our realtor, escrow company, and called King county. Nothing was in my buying agreement of a easement or lien, the title was clean, and no formal complaint has been filed to King County. I am not sure what to do. Do I need a real estate lawyer? Or if our fence is on their property, can I just move it? My real estate agent says I have nothing to worry but we might need a lawyer...so that makes me worry. Any help or advice is greatly appreciated. | htb48f8 | htb3z7h | 1,642,594,242 | 1,642,594,080 | 72 | 30 | Sounds like neighbor wants to rent you those six inches for 400k. Spendy for sure. I smell fraud or an undisclosed, ongoing easement issue. If that is true, I’d want your attorney (that helped you buy the property) to explain how an encroachment wasn’t found when they reviewed the survey. I went through this when I bought a house and the surveyor didn’t note an iron fence that encroached six feet across the front of my house. Instead of fighting it out legally, I had another survey done - noting the property lines - went out with a grinder and removed the fence. Neighbor went ballistic but it was my fence on my property at that point. He had no easement from me. He is still salty about it. (Note: I gave him fair warning about removing the fence but he doubled- down on it being there so long, why should I care? Clearly I did/do and Tom-Foolery like that serves nobody.) | Things you need to figure out first. When was the fence built? What is the length of time for adverse possession in your state? Did you have a survey prior to purchasing the house? (If no title insurance most likely will NOT cover this and you'll be on your own to pay for a lawyer). If no survey what is the last recorded survey and does it show said fence? | 1 | 162 | 2.4 |
s7jxma | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | Bought first home. Part of fence 6" over property line. Owner claiming $400k in damages. I recently bought a home in Seattle and I have lived in the house for about 4 months. Recently, I received 50+ page envelope from a law firm claiming that I owe the owner next to my home $400k in damages because part of my fence was built on their property. They said I need to contact them in 30 days or would face legal action.They are claiming I owe them payment under the Fair Debt Collection Practices Act (FDCPA). I don't have debt to them so I don't know how that act applies. I talked to our realtor, escrow company, and called King county. Nothing was in my buying agreement of a easement or lien, the title was clean, and no formal complaint has been filed to King County. I am not sure what to do. Do I need a real estate lawyer? Or if our fence is on their property, can I just move it? My real estate agent says I have nothing to worry but we might need a lawyer...so that makes me worry. Any help or advice is greatly appreciated. | htb5zak | htbmr97 | 1,642,595,323 | 1,642,603,540 | 15 | 16 | Are you sure it's even your fence? And not the neighbor's fence? | Real Estate law question: If OP is the new purchaser of the property and the fence truly is on the neighbor's property, then wouldn't OP simply not own that section of the fence, since their purchase would have only included the land sold and structures on the land sold? | 0 | 8,217 | 1.066667 |
um3pnp | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | CEO sending nudes in company email as a joke, what should I do? Title pretty much says it all. There was no context, it just looked like a link to something work related. There is a constant theme of inappropriate jokes but this has crossed the line in my opinion. It's a pretty small business so there is no real HR department and anyway it's the CEO so I doubt they would help even if they existed. I'm not even sure if I would want to sue for harassment or anything like that but if I did try it would likely be played off as an accident or a compromised account. Throwaway account for privacy reasons. Thanks in advance. | i7zg056 | i8089z4 | 1,652,139,426 | 1,652,152,387 | 160 | 338 | Is the CEO the owner? Is there a board of directors? Either of these people(if there is an owner) would likely not like this news very much. | https://dhr.ny.gov/workplaceharassment If there's fewer than 15 employees federal protections won't apply, but New York doesn't have a minimum amount of employees for state protections. | 0 | 12,961 | 2.1125 |
um3pnp | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | CEO sending nudes in company email as a joke, what should I do? Title pretty much says it all. There was no context, it just looked like a link to something work related. There is a constant theme of inappropriate jokes but this has crossed the line in my opinion. It's a pretty small business so there is no real HR department and anyway it's the CEO so I doubt they would help even if they existed. I'm not even sure if I would want to sue for harassment or anything like that but if I did try it would likely be played off as an accident or a compromised account. Throwaway account for privacy reasons. Thanks in advance. | i7zay5k | i8089z4 | 1,652,137,091 | 1,652,152,387 | 50 | 338 | What state are you in, that will determine if it's illegal Edit :link retracted, do not apply | https://dhr.ny.gov/workplaceharassment If there's fewer than 15 employees federal protections won't apply, but New York doesn't have a minimum amount of employees for state protections. | 0 | 15,296 | 6.76 |
um3pnp | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | CEO sending nudes in company email as a joke, what should I do? Title pretty much says it all. There was no context, it just looked like a link to something work related. There is a constant theme of inappropriate jokes but this has crossed the line in my opinion. It's a pretty small business so there is no real HR department and anyway it's the CEO so I doubt they would help even if they existed. I'm not even sure if I would want to sue for harassment or anything like that but if I did try it would likely be played off as an accident or a compromised account. Throwaway account for privacy reasons. Thanks in advance. | i7zg056 | i7zay5k | 1,652,139,426 | 1,652,137,091 | 160 | 50 | Is the CEO the owner? Is there a board of directors? Either of these people(if there is an owner) would likely not like this news very much. | What state are you in, that will determine if it's illegal Edit :link retracted, do not apply | 1 | 2,335 | 3.2 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixrajkd | ixr8unx | 1,669,401,133 | 1,669,400,389 | 1,405 | 204 | Report him to the police in advance so they know there is a pending threat incase he follows through | What state are you located? | 1 | 744 | 6.887255 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixrb6p2 | ixr8unx | 1,669,401,413 | 1,669,400,389 | 994 | 204 | There's not much the Maryland cops can do until he actually arrives, but a report wouldn't be out of line. You may be able to get a restraining order, as well, though again - not much use until he's in the jurisdiction. His conduct may also justify a peace bond under Canadian criminal law or a provincial domestic violence restraining order. Ordinarily it's hard to get one if you're not in the province, as people are usually not an imminent threat to anyone thousands of miles away, but there are exceptions, and his conduct could be over the line regardless. He can always ignore a protective order. Protective orders aren't magic. What they _do_ mean is that you can take further action to protect yourself before he actually commits a crime - if he continues to contact you in violation of a no-contact order, for example, he can face charges for that. In the meantime, take practical steps, as well. If your ex knows your address and intends on visiting soon, do you have a friend you can stay with for a week or two, for example? It's likely also worth reaching out to a local domestic violence shelter, as they may have resources or a place you can stay if things get dicey. | What state are you located? | 1 | 1,024 | 4.872549 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixri9c7 | ixr8unx | 1,669,404,557 | 1,669,400,389 | 833 | 204 | He's threatening violence to compel your return. If you do return, then that just means more threats of violence because he will then know that it works. Complying with this just make it easier for him to eventually murder you. If he is going to try to kill you either way, and it very much does sound like that, then why make it easy? Talk to the police. There's nothing magical that will prevent him from trying to kill you, but if you start the paper trail now then the police will respond faster and you can put up substantially more practical barriers that he might not be able to overcome. | What state are you located? | 1 | 4,168 | 4.083333 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixrc0hb | ixri9c7 | 1,669,401,772 | 1,669,404,557 | 36 | 833 | What country is he a citizen of? | He's threatening violence to compel your return. If you do return, then that just means more threats of violence because he will then know that it works. Complying with this just make it easier for him to eventually murder you. If he is going to try to kill you either way, and it very much does sound like that, then why make it easy? Talk to the police. There's nothing magical that will prevent him from trying to kill you, but if you start the paper trail now then the police will respond faster and you can put up substantially more practical barriers that he might not be able to overcome. | 0 | 2,785 | 23.138889 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixree4f | ixri9c7 | 1,669,402,812 | 1,669,404,557 | 31 | 833 | Any evidence you can find of threats, make copies. Any family member who has witnessed the threats (like hearing or receiving them) or any past violence can write an a very specific account of what they witnessed, in their own words. May as well tack on “I affirm that the above statements are a true and complete reflection of the facts as I know them” before signing, or take it to a notary and sign it there and get the notary stamp. In many states, you’d be able to use these statements to get the restraining order. Temporary restraining orders don’t last long, but they often can be put in place very quickly. Maybe try the local police station first, saying your husband is threatening to travel to you and harm you. If no help, try to look up any special “domestic violence unit” that may exist in your county, perhaps in the prosecutor’s office | He's threatening violence to compel your return. If you do return, then that just means more threats of violence because he will then know that it works. Complying with this just make it easier for him to eventually murder you. If he is going to try to kill you either way, and it very much does sound like that, then why make it easy? Talk to the police. There's nothing magical that will prevent him from trying to kill you, but if you start the paper trail now then the police will respond faster and you can put up substantially more practical barriers that he might not be able to overcome. | 0 | 1,745 | 26.870968 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixr8unx | ixrlcb1 | 1,669,400,389 | 1,669,405,895 | 204 | 589 | What state are you located? | If he does show up in Maryland, do NOT open the door to him. Not even if he "just wants to talk", or if he says he has something for you. You are a whole lot safer behind a locked door. If he really just wants to talk he can yell through the door. | 0 | 5,506 | 2.887255 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixrkzg8 | ixrlcb1 | 1,669,405,747 | 1,669,405,895 | 149 | 589 | You can get a free 15-minute consult with BC-based lawyer. See if he is breaking any laws in Canada with the threats. | If he does show up in Maryland, do NOT open the door to him. Not even if he "just wants to talk", or if he says he has something for you. You are a whole lot safer behind a locked door. If he really just wants to talk he can yell through the door. | 0 | 148 | 3.95302 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixrc0hb | ixrlcb1 | 1,669,401,772 | 1,669,405,895 | 36 | 589 | What country is he a citizen of? | If he does show up in Maryland, do NOT open the door to him. Not even if he "just wants to talk", or if he says he has something for you. You are a whole lot safer behind a locked door. If he really just wants to talk he can yell through the door. | 0 | 4,123 | 16.361111 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixrlcb1 | ixree4f | 1,669,405,895 | 1,669,402,812 | 589 | 31 | If he does show up in Maryland, do NOT open the door to him. Not even if he "just wants to talk", or if he says he has something for you. You are a whole lot safer behind a locked door. If he really just wants to talk he can yell through the door. | Any evidence you can find of threats, make copies. Any family member who has witnessed the threats (like hearing or receiving them) or any past violence can write an a very specific account of what they witnessed, in their own words. May as well tack on “I affirm that the above statements are a true and complete reflection of the facts as I know them” before signing, or take it to a notary and sign it there and get the notary stamp. In many states, you’d be able to use these statements to get the restraining order. Temporary restraining orders don’t last long, but they often can be put in place very quickly. Maybe try the local police station first, saying your husband is threatening to travel to you and harm you. If no help, try to look up any special “domestic violence unit” that may exist in your county, perhaps in the prosecutor’s office | 1 | 3,083 | 19 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixrkzg8 | ixrc0hb | 1,669,405,747 | 1,669,401,772 | 149 | 36 | You can get a free 15-minute consult with BC-based lawyer. See if he is breaking any laws in Canada with the threats. | What country is he a citizen of? | 1 | 3,975 | 4.138889 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixree4f | ixrkzg8 | 1,669,402,812 | 1,669,405,747 | 31 | 149 | Any evidence you can find of threats, make copies. Any family member who has witnessed the threats (like hearing or receiving them) or any past violence can write an a very specific account of what they witnessed, in their own words. May as well tack on “I affirm that the above statements are a true and complete reflection of the facts as I know them” before signing, or take it to a notary and sign it there and get the notary stamp. In many states, you’d be able to use these statements to get the restraining order. Temporary restraining orders don’t last long, but they often can be put in place very quickly. Maybe try the local police station first, saying your husband is threatening to travel to you and harm you. If no help, try to look up any special “domestic violence unit” that may exist in your county, perhaps in the prosecutor’s office | You can get a free 15-minute consult with BC-based lawyer. See if he is breaking any laws in Canada with the threats. | 0 | 2,935 | 4.806452 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixsqbme | ixrn2ar | 1,669,425,315 | 1,669,406,624 | 105 | 80 | You may want to temporarily store your passport with another party. It would be difficult to take you out of the country without one. Also, start keeping good records of every interaction. Keep a diary. Dates, times, summary of what was said with direct quotes. In lieu of actual audio recordings, courts will look more seriously at allegations that are backed by organized thorough records. | Assuming that the husband is not a U.S. citizen, would it be possible to make a referral to ICE or U.S. Border Patrol? | 1 | 18,691 | 1.3125 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixsqbme | ixsd6ll | 1,669,425,315 | 1,669,418,637 | 105 | 42 | You may want to temporarily store your passport with another party. It would be difficult to take you out of the country without one. Also, start keeping good records of every interaction. Keep a diary. Dates, times, summary of what was said with direct quotes. In lieu of actual audio recordings, courts will look more seriously at allegations that are backed by organized thorough records. | Call a domestic violence hotline, explain the situation, and ask for help. They’ll know what resources are available in your area. | 1 | 6,678 | 2.5 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixrc0hb | ixsqbme | 1,669,401,772 | 1,669,425,315 | 36 | 105 | What country is he a citizen of? | You may want to temporarily store your passport with another party. It would be difficult to take you out of the country without one. Also, start keeping good records of every interaction. Keep a diary. Dates, times, summary of what was said with direct quotes. In lieu of actual audio recordings, courts will look more seriously at allegations that are backed by organized thorough records. | 0 | 23,543 | 2.916667 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixsqbme | ixree4f | 1,669,425,315 | 1,669,402,812 | 105 | 31 | You may want to temporarily store your passport with another party. It would be difficult to take you out of the country without one. Also, start keeping good records of every interaction. Keep a diary. Dates, times, summary of what was said with direct quotes. In lieu of actual audio recordings, courts will look more seriously at allegations that are backed by organized thorough records. | Any evidence you can find of threats, make copies. Any family member who has witnessed the threats (like hearing or receiving them) or any past violence can write an a very specific account of what they witnessed, in their own words. May as well tack on “I affirm that the above statements are a true and complete reflection of the facts as I know them” before signing, or take it to a notary and sign it there and get the notary stamp. In many states, you’d be able to use these statements to get the restraining order. Temporary restraining orders don’t last long, but they often can be put in place very quickly. Maybe try the local police station first, saying your husband is threatening to travel to you and harm you. If no help, try to look up any special “domestic violence unit” that may exist in your county, perhaps in the prosecutor’s office | 1 | 22,503 | 3.387097 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixsqbme | ixrr5sf | 1,669,425,315 | 1,669,408,440 | 105 | 24 | You may want to temporarily store your passport with another party. It would be difficult to take you out of the country without one. Also, start keeping good records of every interaction. Keep a diary. Dates, times, summary of what was said with direct quotes. In lieu of actual audio recordings, courts will look more seriously at allegations that are backed by organized thorough records. | Make a police report today or ASAP. Call the nonemergency number if you need instructions on how to do this or just show up at the station. Save all texts and communication and provide those with the report. You may want to take screenshots and print those pictures. Usually, a local library can help you with this. Don't be shy about clearly stating to the police that you believe your life is in danger. Don't let them convince you otherwise and push for a restraining order. Consider security where you are staying. Do you have an alarm system and/or cameras? Could you get them, if not? Evidence is key in these cases. In the least, make sure that everyone in the house is aware of the situation, keep doors locked, keep windows locked, don't answer the door to ANY unknown people, keep an eye our for suspicious vehicles since he'll likely be driving a rental. It's also a good idea to tell neighbors to be on the lookout too. If he does show up, immediately call the police (911) and DON'T answer the door. Again, tell the cops/dispatcher you believe your life is in danger. I'm so sorry you are going through this. Hang in there and look forward to calmer times. | 1 | 16,875 | 4.375 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixsqbme | ixru111 | 1,669,425,315 | 1,669,409,689 | 105 | 12 | You may want to temporarily store your passport with another party. It would be difficult to take you out of the country without one. Also, start keeping good records of every interaction. Keep a diary. Dates, times, summary of what was said with direct quotes. In lieu of actual audio recordings, courts will look more seriously at allegations that are backed by organized thorough records. | Not a lawyer. Since he's in Vancouver and you are in the Maryland, you should file a restraining order/protective order or police report (threats he's made) ASAP. Give your husband's full name (seen on passport and driver's license), ssn (if American citizen) or the Canadian equivalent, and address. If he flies into Maryland, he might be flagged and held for a bit at airport. They might ask him about this protective order or police report. At least, it will be a warning to your husband there are legal consequences to his actions. In the meantime, document and record everything (check if 1 or 2 party state). Put up security cameras. Tell people you trust were you are and your situation. That way they too can be vigilant. | 1 | 15,626 | 8.75 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixsmf06 | ixsqbme | 1,669,423,250 | 1,669,425,315 | 12 | 105 | I am not a lawyer and Im on the wrong side of this (aka Canada) but I know CBSA has a Border Watch Line where you can preemptively report someone planning to cross into the country to either commit immigration fraud, a crime, etc. Perhaps the United States has something similar? Since uttering threats is illegal in both countries you may be able to have him flagged to prevent his ability to cross into the country at all. At the very least he would have to cross under false pretences because entering the country to threaten your STBex doesn’t exactly fall under something you’d admit to customs and I’m sure he’ll misrepresent his intentions at the border. As others have said you also want to report to the police and make your intentions crystal clear to him ie “do not come here. Do not speak to me any longer. Leave me alone and any further contact needs to go through my lawyer.” Once you do that you meet the standard necessary by BC law to start filing reports with the VPD/RCMP for criminal harassment for a paper trail. | You may want to temporarily store your passport with another party. It would be difficult to take you out of the country without one. Also, start keeping good records of every interaction. Keep a diary. Dates, times, summary of what was said with direct quotes. In lieu of actual audio recordings, courts will look more seriously at allegations that are backed by organized thorough records. | 0 | 2,065 | 8.75 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixsqbme | ixspscj | 1,669,425,315 | 1,669,425,027 | 105 | 9 | You may want to temporarily store your passport with another party. It would be difficult to take you out of the country without one. Also, start keeping good records of every interaction. Keep a diary. Dates, times, summary of what was said with direct quotes. In lieu of actual audio recordings, courts will look more seriously at allegations that are backed by organized thorough records. | Make sure that your paperwork (Passport, Drivers Licence, etc.) Are in an area he cannot easily get to. Might suggest a safety deposit box that your parents control. | 1 | 288 | 11.666667 |
z4jhr3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Left my husband. He’s threatening to fly to me if I don’t return. What can I do? My husband is in a foreign country. I left him and came to live with parents. He will not accept that I’m not coming back and has started threatening me and my family, blaming them for the state of our relationship. He said either I come back or he’s coming here and will make things bad. Even if I file a restraining order, can’t he still fly here..? Plus doesn’t it take a while to get it approved? Does it take money? (I don’t have much.) And he’s also in another country so how would that work? I’m pretty freaked out because my “deadline” to return or not according to him is soon. | ixsqbme | ixso0h0 | 1,669,425,315 | 1,669,424,084 | 105 | 8 | You may want to temporarily store your passport with another party. It would be difficult to take you out of the country without one. Also, start keeping good records of every interaction. Keep a diary. Dates, times, summary of what was said with direct quotes. In lieu of actual audio recordings, courts will look more seriously at allegations that are backed by organized thorough records. | I think what he is threatening, would fall under terroristic, threats, have the police write up a report and file charges now! I’m pretty sure this can get him put on a no-fly list | 1 | 1,231 | 13.125 |
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