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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my SO [19 F] suddenly stops talking to me with no warning sometimes.
POST: We've been really good friends for several years and harbored feelings for each other for most of that time.
We've been "together" for a few months now, and everything has been going very well. We never really fight and when we do we're able to discuss things pretty openly and calmly so we can come to a resolution.
Unfortunately, we live about 8 hours away from each other. She visits her family here often and she has plans to move back home ASAP, but it's still pretty taxing.
The only real problem I have is that occasionally she will just stop talking to me. There's no warning for when it happens. The silence typically lasts 3-5 days. It really sucks and I don't ever know what to do when it happens. I've brought it up to her before, but we never really come to any sort of resolution.
Is it okay for me to be upset by this? I've had a string of very unhealthy relationships prior to this, and I've picked up a bad habit of minimizing my feelings for the sake of other people. She's done a lot for me and I don't want to make a big deal over something that I have no right being upset about.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Long-distance girlfriend stops talking to me with no warning sometimes. Is it okay for me to be upset by this? | Long-distance girlfriend stops talking to me with no warning sometimes. Is it okay for me to be upset by this? | 4,348 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18/M] am wondering if I should ask her [18/F] again.
POST: I dated this girl and it was amazing. She was diagnosed with an apathy disorder earlier this year and...We broke up due to her wanting me not to be troubled with her mental disorder. I said to her that it won't bother me but she really wanted it as she wanted to focus on her studies and because this may be my last year she said she thought hard about it and wanted to break up.
2 Months later we talked about it and I asked her questions. She said she still had feelings for me and that over time it will go away. I confessed and told my feelings. I just wanted to know. I told her I won't bother her about it anymore but...I just can't bare to see the feelings go away over time as it is painful...
I want to get back with her but I have this conflicting feeling of not doing it due to what she said of how she does not want to. Should I atleast tell her how I feel about all this? Right now we are good friends and we enjoy each others company, but due to this complicated scenario I just can't stand the thought of us breaking up not due to incompatibility but due to how she decided that I can't handle her mental disorder.
I would love some advice.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I dated a girl and broke up due to her having a mental disorder. We still both like each other but are not dating each other. Should I ask her out again? | I dated a girl and broke up due to her having a mental disorder. We still both like each other but are not dating each other. Should I ask her out again? | 614 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Fighting open container ticket I received as a passenger in court
POST: Hey guys. This happened in Illinois. I was at a party last night and got a ride home when we were pulled over. I was a passenger in the back seat, there was another passenger in the seat in front of me. The cop (who initially pulled his gun because of an airsoft gun in the car) searched the car and found some open beer bottles, and I received an 11-502B Illegal Transportation of Alcohol ticket, along with the other passenger. Curiously the driver did not receive a ticket of any kind. I did not have any knowledge of the open containers and was just trying to get a ride home, something I communicated to the officer. What are my odds trying to fight this in court? Thanks in advance.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | got aan open container ticket in Illinois as a passenger who didn't have any knowledge of the containers, can I fight this in court? | got aan open container ticket in Illinois as a passenger who didn't have any knowledge of the containers, can I fight this in court? | 3,307 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: When I was 22, I picked up a 15 year old girl on the side of the road and took her to a hotel. What's your best TL;DR that's misunderstood, yet accurate?
POST: I was 22 and driving home at roughly midnight, maybe a bit later. As I pulled into my neighborhood, which was your average middle class neighborhood, I saw a teenage girl sitting on the curb with her head in her hands, obviously crying.
I circled back around, turned my dome light on so she could at least see me, and stopped next to her to ask if she needed anything. Sobbing, she asked to borrow my cell phone, which I handed to her.
Before she could use it, I asked her if she needed a ride anywhere. She gleamed and immediately jumped in my car.
Turns out she had been over at the house of a guy down the street. Apparently he tried to force himself on her, and when she kept refusing he got angry and kicked her out of the house. She had ridden there with him, so had no car, and no cell phone.
I asked her where she needed to go and she told me her mom worked at a hotel across town, so I took her there and dropped her off.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | When I was 22, I picked up a 15 year old girl on the side of the road and took her to a hotel. | When I was 22, I picked up a 15 year old girl on the side of the road and took her to a hotel. | 3,678 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I think my friend wants to go on a date.
POST: we've always had a flirty friendship but to me she has always felt out of my league. although the last 6 months she has started seeing guys who remind me and some of our mutual friends of me. we've gotten a lot closer in the past few months and closer still now we are both home from university for the summer. the other day she text me asking to hang out, but i was already hanging out with a mutual friend so the three of us ended up going out but i could sense that wasnt what she wanted as she was quiet the whole time. we were sat on a bench type seat outside watching the sunset and she came in close and put her head on my shoulder at one point. she has asked to hang out 'just us two' now and we are going down the beach in a few days time. im unsure what her intentions are, i do have feelings for her so may be seeing things that aren't there, as she has always told me about guys shes gone on dates with and i helped her through a difficult breakup 3 years ago which she still talks about sometimes to me now. when out drinking last weekend her best friend out of the blue asked me if i liked her to which i gave a very vague answer that could have been interpreted as yes and since then she has been asking to hang out alone, even though her friend did swear she wouldn't say anything. is this a date or is this to friends just hanging out? i've planned on highlighting how close we've gotten lately in conversation and gage where we are off her response, is that a good idea or am i pushing something that isn't there. ive spoken to two non mutual friends and the boy said go for it the girl said tread lightly. any help would be appriiacted
TL;DR: . Assistant: | a long time friend has started getting close to me and has asked to hang out alone. are we friends or is this some pre curser to a date. | a long time friend has started getting close to me and has asked to hang out alone. are we friends or is this some pre curser to a date. | 4,417 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I (27/f) have a fuck buddy (25/m) and a potential longterm boyfriend (30/m). Need help.
POST: I've been having nsa sex with my fb, who isn't bf material, for the past 6 months. I also date other guys casually, since I'd like to find a longterm bf, but I'm not having sex with them.
I've been dating a new guy for the past two weeks and I'm pretty sure things are going to get serious. We haven't had sex yet and he hasn't asked to make things exclusive. We have another date planned for Monday.
Meanwhile my fb wants to hang out tonight and I haven't gotten laid in a while. He knows I'm dating the other guy and doesn't have a problem with it.
Would it be wrong to sleep with the fb?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have a fb but I think it might get serious with another guy I'm dating. Would it be wrong to sleep with the fb? | I have a fb but I think it might get serious with another guy I'm dating. Would it be wrong to sleep with the fb? | 2,696 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: Don't beep at me when I'm trying to help you.
POST: I used to work near an intersection of a one-way major road and a two-way street. I was waiting by the corner one day, and a guy in an Audi A4 drives up with his indicator on, trying to turn into the one-way street the wrong way. I tried to flag him down initially, when he didn't respond I crossed my arms in an X and shook my head at him, he looked at me and made a snarky face. Sensing an impending head-on collision I jumped out onto the road in front of him (he was going quite slowly for the corner) and put my hands out, yelling STOP! He beeped his horn and flipped me off.
So, instead, I took a step back and politely waved him on, up the one-way major road he was intent on driving around. 30 seconds later he screeches to a stop when he realises he is facing four lanes of oncoming traffic, quickly does a U-turn, and ends up back at the lights, exactly where I was standing. He looked up, and I smiled at him. He put his head down in shame and sped off.
Most satisfying smug grin ever.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | asshole audi driver flips me off trying to stop him from doing something dangerous, resulting in awkward eye contact after he nearly crashes head-on into oncoming traffic. | asshole audi driver flips me off trying to stop him from doing something dangerous, resulting in awkward eye contact after he nearly crashes head-on into oncoming traffic. | 5,952 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: my Feet are rejecting every pair of running shoes I attempt to run in.
POST: Hey guys, I'm going into my 4th year of high school xc and am encountering problems with new shoes. This all started during December/ Jan, when I went to get new shoes for track, I tried 4 pairs from my local running store, putting a weeks worth of miles on each of them but they all still ended up hurting my feet and tightening my legs. So i gave up and ran in Nike Xc flats for the season not encountering problems. fast forward to now my flats are worn out, so I have to buy new shoes again, So i pick up a pair of Nike streak XC flats, after putting on 25 miles om them I'm noticing that my left foot goes numb and my left leg slowly tightens while my right foot starts to hurt on the bottoms of the feet, I should mention that my flats are 11.5 while I wear 11 s they have undesired wiggle room.
I have no idea what to do, I'm at a lost for ideas on how to solve this problem. Any advice AT ALL would much appreciated.I'm going Insane because every time I run i end up in a world of foot pain
TL;DR: . Assistant: | trainers hurt my feet ran a track season in flats no problem fast forward to xc conditioning said flats are unusable need new shoes don't know what to do | trainers hurt my feet ran a track season in flats no problem fast forward to xc conditioning said flats are unusable need new shoes don't know what to do | 2,637 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25F] with my [28 M] boyfriend of 3.5 years - I'm incredibly jealous of his porn/nsfw browsing habits. JEALOUS because he'll get turned on by it then want to be intimate with me.
POST: Not really sure what to say but I am really *jealous* I guess is the right word of bf's porn and Nsfw browsing habits. He will sometimes be in another room and open nsfw links or when I leave he browses stuff.
I'm not comparing myself per se to the women and feeling bad that way, but I have an overwhelming sense of jealousy. It makes me uncomfortable knowing my bf looks at other girls and is attracted to other women. I know I should be fine with this but it makes me uncomfortable a bit, which is fine. BUT I CAN'T GET OVER IT. It's like an obessive negative obsession!
he will sometimes browse nsfw posts on reddit...when I'm around him but in another room..just looking though not fapping. But even something simple as this bugs me.
**I guess its just the fact that he's getting turned on throughout the day by various other women, nsfw pics, etc. and then wanting to be intimate with me later on in the day or he'll just grope me later on....but it makes me feel negative and i'm jealous and I get kind of mad sometimes.**
How do I get over this. It's like a negative obsession I have. :(
TL;DR: . Assistant: | how do i get over bfs nsfw browsing/porn habits. i'm jealous and feel uncomfortable - he gets turned on by various women and it bugs me. | how do i get over bfs nsfw browsing/porn habits. i'm jealous and feel uncomfortable - he gets turned on by various women and it bugs me. | 6,066 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [31M] just found out I have genital herpes. The girl [32F] I've been seeing for 2 months has become distant since I've told her.
POST: I had something that seemed like a genital herpes outbreak early in the year. I was not able to see a doctor at the time, but later my doctor blood tested me for herpes which came back negative. It was a huge relief but he warned sometimes a blood test can show negative up to 12 months after the initial infection.
About 2 months ago I started seeing a girl, and I was honest with her that I'd had a scare, and although I tested negative it was still a possibility I had it. She said she was fine with it and we began a sexual relationship. We used condoms and Valtrex as protection just to be sure.
Last week I tested positive. I told her the news and despite reassuring me when I spoke to her that it was fine, she has since become distant and unresponsive. Her messages have gone from multiple playful messages every day and sweet 'goodnight' texts to bare communication every other day. She has canceled two evenings we planned together and seems reluctant to make new plans.
This is the happiest I've ever been with a girl, she's amazing and we have an incredible connection which I know she feels too. We have each spoken of the intensity of our attraction to each other, and have had such intense and frequent sex we laughed about how we're going to die of exhaustion if we spend too much time together. Before last week I saw a long and happy future with this amazing woman but now I fear I'm going to lose her over this.
I don't know what to do. Dozens of articles point to the fact that with proper precautions the rate of transmission is almost zero. The evidence suggests she has less chance of catching from me than from another guy who's status is unknown and is not taking preventative medication, but at the moment we're not even communicating enough for me to tell her that.
How do I re-establish communication so we can at least talk about this? How can I help her see that this doesn't have to be the end of our relationship?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I just found out I got herpes from my ex-gf. The amazing girl I've been seeing has become very distant since I told her. | I just found out I got herpes from my ex-gf. The amazing girl I've been seeing has become very distant since I told her. | 2,793 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: Me [27 F] with my husband [27 M] 8 year relationship, Husband wants an open relationship, I think it'll go down in flames.
POST: My husband has this bad habit of faking sexual dysfunction whenever his best friends wife(23F) wants to sleep with him. This tends to happen once or twice a year and always leaves our relationship teetering on the brink of collapse.
In the last few occasions we've tried swapping, which sucks, I'm not remotely attracted to the couple so I end up having to be coerced and boozed into it. I shouldn't have to get wasted just to be able to tolerate it.
This time when he brought it up as a "solution" I told him I was absolutely unwilling and if he tried to make me I'd divorce him so fast his head would spin. In response he suggested a completely open relationship, in which I could fuck anyone I want.
Which is appealing for the first time.
It's not appealing in getting to fuck whoever I want, it feels like I'd be shopping for a new husband.(forgive me for how sexist that sounded, oh god it sounds horrid)
I realize that the only reason I'm wanting this as well is that I'm looking for an out, basically I want to stop trying and let it die.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Husband wants an open relationship, I think it'll be the last bullet in the head for our marriage, but I'm sick of fighting him on it. | Husband wants an open relationship, I think it'll be the last bullet in the head for our marriage, but I'm sick of fighting him on it. | 2,243 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [16/f] How to get my friend [16/f] to stop being touchy with my Boyfriend [16/m]
POST: One of my friends is really touchy in general, like while she's talking to people (male or female) she'll touch their arm and stuff, I don't know why, just as habbit I guess. It might sound stupid but it bothers me when she does it to my boyfriend, the three of us hang out fairly often and she always touched his arm or shoulder and stuff when she talks to him. Yesterday we were sitting on a couch and she was talking to him and she put her hand on his leg (upper leg) That made me angry but I didn't say anything. Based on my boyfriends body language I don't think he was comfortable with it but was probably embarassed to say something, and I don't think she noticed when she does it. How do you think I could bring this up to her? I don't want to sound crazy territorial of him or anything, but it really bothers me and I think she should stop. Do you think I'm justified to not be okay with it?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My friend touches peoples (arms/shoulder/etc) when she talks to them, she does it all the time to my boyfriend, and I don't like it. | My friend touches peoples (arms/shoulder/etc) when she talks to them, she does it all the time to my boyfriend, and I don't like it. | 5,444 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Minimum Wage Drones of Reddit, What Are Your Best Customer Harassment Stories?
POST: So I'm home from university for the summer, and I work a summer job at a large music venue directing cars in the parking lots. For some reason a majority of the people that leave the venue find it acceptable to harass the employees working in the parking lot because we only make minimum wage and therefore (in their minds) we're useless. Yesterday, a 40+ year, old beer bellied ginger man, kept telling me and my co-workers he was going to go "Aurora Colorado" on us, because we were "lazy fucks" and wouldn't help him get a cab. The thing is we don't control the cabs, and the guests have to call a cab if they want one, and its completely out of our control when the cabs come. He then started to pick fights with families waiting for cabs and kept calling some dad an "old bitch" in front of his family, because he wouldn't join him in harassing us. This happens almost every time I work at that music venue, for some reason people think A. min wage employees control the organization they work for and everything they don't like is their fault and B. because you're a min wage employee you're worthless and therefore its ok to harass you. So reddit, what are your best customer harassment stories towards you or any of your co-workers?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Middle aged ginger man who should know better told me and my co-worker he was going to kill us because he couldn't find a cab. | Middle aged ginger man who should know better told me and my co-worker he was going to kill us because he couldn't find a cab. | 3,717 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Help me talk sense into my best friend
POST: I've been lurking here for a few months now, and thanks to you guys, I'm meeting a lot of my financial goals. I'm on Mint, I'm saving to pay off my loans, and I'm living below my means. I make under 25K right now but I'm slowly moving up!
This post is for my very stubborn friend. Let's call him Mike.
Mike makes 36K a year. He says he takes home around $2,500 a month after taxes. Pretty good for someone at 27. He has benefits, his car is paid off, and he doesn't even have a phone bill (all thanks to his parents).
His employer offered him a 401K plan, and Mike turned it down, his reason being "I barely take home enough money as it is!"
I know where all of his money goes: he eats out. Twice a day. Every day. I know this because we're roommates. I cook almost every night and go out maybe twice a week. He eats out for lunch and dinner *every day.* He spends every single evening drinking at a local pub. He drops hundreds of dollars on new records. He also spends money on other, more reasonable things - he has a personal trainer and a gym membership, both of which are good ideas, as his eating habits have made him into a very - uhm, unhealthy - guy.
He seems to be host to a whole range of issues related to overindulgence, but I'm afraid that this kind of lifestyle at his age is going to very quickly eat away at some great opportunities.
How can I convince Mike to sign on with his employer's 401K plan? What other tips can I give him about his spending habits? I'm tempted to try and help him set up his own Mint account, but he is beyond stubborn - he thinks he knows it all and has everything figured out. Do folks here have experience approaching someone like my friend? Any tips you have would be much appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My best friend's spending habits are spiraling out of control, and I want to help him figure his shit out before it's too late! | My best friend's spending habits are spiraling out of control, and I want to help him figure his shit out before it's too late! | 3,367 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Does anyone know a manager or worker with keys to a Chuck E. Cheese (in West Michigan) that would do an after hours party for a nice chunk of change? (Please read, it's awesome)
POST: So hopefully this will get upvoted enough where a lot of people will see it, so my odds are better at finding this. I am helping organize a bachelor party for my best friend in the coming months. I don't want to say when it is in this post, nor the exact city for fear that this fellow redditor will see this and be wise to what's happening. (hence the throw away account)
While brainstorming at a bar over delicious beer, my buddy and I have come up with a bachelor party that will consist of strippers (obviously), a clown (the worse, the better) a B or C list celebrity to show up and just sit there (partially stolen from a great Nick Swardson stand up), and 6 goats. The goats will not be for fucking, but will just be roaming around, so when people come in they just say "Whaaatt the fuuucckk?" ....ALL OF THIS TAKING PLACE AT A CHUCK E. CHEESE. I know it will be expensive, but I think I can swing it, and want to throw my best friend the most epic bachelor party ever. I realize there are certain health code violations that will be broken, which is why I need someone who just doesn't give a fuck. You or they will be paid for their services. Staff does not have to be there, we will bring our own food and drink and goats and strippers.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Need a Chuck E. Cheese to throw a stripper, clown, and goat infested bachelor party for my best friend. | Need a Chuck E. Cheese to throw a stripper, clown, and goat infested bachelor party for my best friend. | 4,148 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20/F] with my boyfriend [20 M] of 9 months I'm against his constant cocaine use and I fear nothing will stop it.
POST: He told me last night that he used cocaine and I do not approve of that. However he said he wanted to continue to use it the rest of his life. I would be fine if it was an every now and then thing but the way he talks he sounds like he loves it enough to do it often. He used cocaine to try to forget about me lying to him at the beginning of the year...so it is my fault I feel. I am worried because his parents used cocaine and had many issues resulting in them dying from drugs. I love him and want to stay and help him even though he says he will continue no matter what. The other half of me says leave. I am just afraid he won't fight to keep me. I am afraid of hurting him so much he does something reckless... I am do lost what do I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | bf wants to snort cocaine but I won't have it. We live far away from each other and I don't know what to do. HELP | bf wants to snort cocaine but I won't have it. We live far away from each other and I don't know what to do. HELP | 2,353 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] met an amazing person [32 F] two weeks ago, don't know how to proceed
POST: Some background about me: I've never started a relationship locally as I've dated online my whole life so I'm a bit lost on how to proceed. I've been out of a 4 year relationship for a month and a half and ready to move on, but I feel as if I'm obsessing over this new girl. I don't want to ruin a great friendship by asking her on a date, but I already feel like I'm extremely interested in her.
I met girl [Amanda for throwaway] two weeks ago and we've hung out a few times now. We've also been non-stop texting until two days ago (I accidentally got over-stressed due to other matters and let on about it). We've gone on a few "hangouts", not official dates. Truth be told, I can't tell if she's interested in me or is just super friendly.
First r/relationship post, sorry for mistakes
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Want to ask friend of 2 weeks on a date, but not sure if she's interested and don't want to ruin a friendship. | Want to ask friend of 2 weeks on a date, but not sure if she's interested and don't want to ruin a friendship. | 3,373 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my GF [19F] for two months now, get jealous and makes her upset because she says i'm not trusting her.
POST: Hi,
We've been together for two months now.
On monday she started a new work for a week.
She said it was cool and had 4 coworkers about the same age wich is great.
At the end of the first day i asked her how it went and she kept mentioning one name.
--
I allready thought about something suspiscious.
Yesterday morning i wake up go to work and when i check my FB feed i see that she becomes friend with the guy.
As her phone is broke i can only wait until i see her in the evening to talk about it.
Here comes the evening and i decide to ask about the Guy. She seemed like she knew what was coming but didn't want to talk about it.
In the end after i ask many many questions she finally say that he's been hitting on her during the day but wanted to comfort me and said that she rejected him everytime anyway.
She says apart from that they are getting along together well. She also add that it's her superior so she can't really say anything harsh so she reject him but that it.
All of this made me upset 'cause i had to ask many questions before getting to the point and the story changed etc... She said she didn't want me to worry about it and that's why she tried to avoid it.
It seems that she hates it because according to her i'm not trusting her.
Knowing that it's only her second work day and it's allready getting to that stage, i'm a bit nervous about the rest of the week.
In the end i get upset by the actions of her coworker and she gets upset because i get upset.
It's not the first and that's not gonna be the last so i'm wondering, what should i do ? How to react ?
I know that it's gonna be a vicious circle because if she talk about it and i'm getting upset, she won't talk about it anymore, and i'm afraid getting upset everytime something like that happens gonna make her drift away from me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | coworker is hitting on my gf, don't know how to react because when i get upset she gets upset too because she says i don't trust her. | coworker is hitting on my gf, don't know how to react because when i get upset she gets upset too because she says i don't trust her. | 1,908 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21M] with my girlfriend [21F] - LDR for 3.5 years, we've never fought before
POST: Hello /r/relationships! I'm afraid I don't have anything dramatic to entertain you with, just some minor nagging questions I'm looking for some advice on.
Some background: I've been with my girlfriend for a little over 3.5 years. We started dating right before we both left for university about 7 hours apart. Although long distance hasn't been much fun, we do our best to see each other as much as we can during the summer and winter breaks. The relationship is great, minus the distance -- I feel like I love her more and more every day, I've never felt so connected to someone else in my life. Someday down the road, I think I'd like to ask her to marry me.
Here's the thing: it almost seems *too* perfect sometimes, you know? We have never had a fight, not even a small one, and I can't help but worry about it sometimes. It's probably silly, but I don't know if we're just really good at preempting conflict or if we just naturally always get along or if it's a "calm before the storm" situation or what. Hopefully, we'll be able to move in together in about a year, and I just wonder if suddenly everything will be different. I mean, it will be, obviously, but what if we're not as good at living together as we are at living apart?
So basically, I'd just like to hear from others who've been in peaceful relationships and/or long-term LDRs and how those turned out when the distance dropped to zero.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Never had a fight with long distance girlfriend, wondering if that means anything worrisome or if I should just be grateful. Also wondering about the transition from being long distance to finally moving in together and how that could potentially change the relationship. | Never had a fight with long distance girlfriend, wondering if that means anything worrisome or if I should just be grateful. Also wondering about the transition from being long distance to finally moving in together and how that could potentially change the relationship. | 1,147 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Unsure about my (21M) friend's (21F) intentions inviting me to an amusement park this weekend
POST: Not even sure if this is the best place to post this but here goes:
About 3 days ago I got invited by my friend and classmate (let's call her Katie) to spend this Saturday at an amusement park a few towns (let's call it town A) over, and also to maybe watch some movies. The company (X) she interns at is also located in town A and gives them cheap tickets to the amusement park and movies. I said sure, and asked her if I could invite some friends. She said yes so I did but everyone I invited couldn't go due to prior obligations.
Some background: a lot of my classmates are interning for company X, so I assumed it would be a group get together party type of deal for classmates. Katie and I are good friends, we've had some heart-to-heart but I don't want any kind of relationship with her, nor do I find her really *that* attractive.
About an hour ago I get a call from Katie saying every other one of my classmates in town A has peaced or has other plans for the weekend. She's a little buzzed but we talked and she made plans for a party Friday night, then amusement park and movies the next day. I didn't want to sound mean over the phone but hearing everyone else has basically peaced makes me wonder if she has ulterior motives for inviting me over (to a party on Friday night, of all things). She even admitted that it'd be basically me and her for all of Friday night and Saturday, and overall sounded super eager to see me.
Should I even go at all? Basically if she makes any sort of move I'll have to turn her down. Then it'd be hella fucking awkward for the rest of the time together. I could always jet because I have my own car but that'd be REALLY shitty and hurtful of me. If there's the potential, I'd like to avoid this situation altogether. It is really easy to come up with some last minute excuse why I can't drive 2 hours over to town A.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Female friend who I'm not attracted to invites me a ways over for movies and an amusement park, was supposed to be a group thing but now it's just me and her. Need to decide whether to go through or bail. | Female friend who I'm not attracted to invites me a ways over for movies and an amusement park, was supposed to be a group thing but now it's just me and her. Need to decide whether to go through or bail. | 3,387 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Ex-roommate stole <$100 worth of stuff from my apartment, and I have proof.
POST: So I was renting out a room at my apartment to a friend of a friend, let call him John for about the past year. No lease or anything... But on a month-to-month basis. Early last month he told me he was moving out because he got a job out of state, so I told another friend, lets call her Jane, who was looking for an apartment that she could have the room starting the next month.
Well, John eventually (about 3 weeks later) decided he wasn't taking the out of state job after all and so wasn't moving out anymore. I told him that I'm really sorry, but I already promised the room to Jane, so he would have to find somewhere else to live at the end of the month. I gave him two options, since at the time he had only paid me a third of the months rent: you can either pay me the rest of the months rent a d stay until the end of the month, or you can keep what you owe me and use it to find another place and move out in the middle of the month.
Well he ended up staying until the 25th without paying anymore rent, but I let him because I felt bad.
Anyways... This guy apparently had a huge vendetta against me now, and I've come to find random things stolen from my apartment, including damage he did to the apartment before he left. At least a few of these missing items he's admitted to taking to try to piss me off, so I'm fairly certain everything else was stolen by him too.
So this is my question, is there anything I could do to in this case here? Would cops do anything to help get my stuff back? Or should I just cut it as a loss?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | disgruntled ex-roomie stole from me and damaged my apartment to try to "get back" at me for making him move out. | disgruntled ex-roomie stole from me and damaged my apartment to try to "get back" at me for making him move out. | 152 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [18/m] first date help with (17/f)
POST: So i've known this girl for 6 years and we've always been friends. I asked her out yesterday but her response was, 'we'll have one date but i don't want to lead you on.'
Normally, that probably means i'm in the friendzone or maybe she just doesn't like me and feel pity (i hope not) so she's just agreeing this once. Well, I'm done being down about it. I'm seeing this as a challenge, I have one date to prove to her that I'm worth her while.
So the help i need is, well I got a good list of venues and stuff she likes to do which i also enjoy. I'm just wondering on how grand should i make this date considering it's like my only chance.
*Should I make the date long with multiple venues?*
*Should we do some stuff that'll keep us occupied, but not to the extent of movies? (idk what yet)*
*Should I make it like a simple walk-in-park then grab some coffee?*
*Include dinner or no dinner?*
*Should I spend a lot of money or not? (I won't be able to sustain spending tons of money every date
but yeah this is one-time thing)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I like a girl i've been friends with for 6 years, she's not interested and I have 1 date to make her my gf. Reddit, please answer any or all questions I've put or any other general pointers. | I like a girl i've been friends with for 6 years, she's not interested and I have 1 date to make her my gf. Reddit, please answer any or all questions I've put or any other general pointers. | 4,891 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Just turned 18 and want to build my credit
POST: I have been working since 16 and make around $12,000 annually with a small amount of expenses (gas, car insurance). I literally just turned 18 and felt that it would be a good idea to get a credit card. I honestly don't need it to "make purchases I can't afford" but I really just want one to start building my credit.
I talked with my Dad about it and he said that applying for a store card like Best Buy (where I work actually) would be a good idea or that getting a secured credit card would also be a good idea. I prefer the secured credit card route due to being able to use it anywhere and I can't see myself actually using a store card consistently as I do not shop at one place consistently.
What are some of the best secured Credit Cards to get? I'm not worried about a high credit limit, I just want my credit to go up and be good, for a lack of better words. My current debit card is with a Credit Union and I read that those and Capital One are usually the best route to go with.
I also wanted to know if it is better to with Visa, Mastercard, Discover, AMEX ETC.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Just turned 18 and have had steady income for two year and want to build credit through secured credit card, what is best route for me to take. | Just turned 18 and have had steady income for two year and want to build credit through secured credit card, what is best route for me to take. | 4,355 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[30M] have been dating an amazing [30F] for 6 weeks. Everything was going great but then...
POST: Dear reddit,
I like this girl a lot! She is smart, honest, beautiful. Our relationship was going so well on multiple levels and we both openly discussed possibility to take it one step further. Both of us are 30 and we have very successful careers. For the first time in my life I started feeling like she could be the one. It was wonderful! But then she told me the painful truth...
She used to date her boss for couple of months and they eventually broke up to avoid harming the company. I think he is the one who didn't want to make their relationship public and that triggered the breakup. Since they broke up, they've been working closely together, they hangout frequently as friends and sometime go on business trips together.
I am generally not a jealous guy, and I feel like I could live comfortably with something like that but it turns out that her affection for him is still there. He is a good looking guy with a great sense of humor and they actually seem to get along pretty well. On the other hand, she obviously likes me a lot and wants to be with me. So what is my problem then?
When I told her I feel a little uncomfortable with the fact that their romantic relationship has not completely ended and that I worry that at some point they might hook up again... she did not deny it. She even confirmed that there is a very small chance that might happen in the future.
Today I feel more depressed and miserable than I felt in a very long time (I am generally a happy guy). I am in a complex conflict with my emotions and reason. I know I like her even more because of her openness and honesty but I know this situation will make me very insecure or even jealous in the future and that is something I don't need in my life. I feel like I should break up and at the same time I am afraid that I am letting something really wonderful slip out of my hands.
Please advise,
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I met the most amazing girl and our relationship was wonderful. Then she told me there is a very small chance she might hook up with her ex again (who is also her boss) | I met the most amazing girl and our relationship was wonderful. Then she told me there is a very small chance she might hook up with her ex again (who is also her boss) | 2,688 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What's the biggest act of stupidoty you've witnessed?
POST: I was shopping today in a big busy retail park, walking across the carpark i'd heard a car engine running, lights on etc... As i walked past, I noticed the owner was not in the car, or nowhere to be seen, so I had went to a shop nearby, asked for security and told them the situation (i didn't want to risk going in the car incase I got accused of anything)
The car was a brand new 12 plate renault megane. The owner had took the keycard out of the car, failed to lock the car, failed to stop the engine. Stood a chance of losing a £10,000+ car through stupidity. What other acts of stupidity have you guys witnessed?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | £10,000+ car left in carpark, engine running unattended. Good samaritan doesn't steal it. | £10,000+ car left in carpark, engine running unattended. Good samaritan doesn't steal it. | 1,327 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I make $9/hr and I wish to rent an apartment by next year. How can I make this feasible?
POST: I've turned eighteen a few months back and now desire the freedom of earning my own money as well as living space. Obviously, there's now way now that I could do that as make too little and do not have two important items (license and car). My current job (retail) was a temp job, but my managers told me that I have been working very hard so I have been guaranteed a position with the store still making $9/hr. There will also be a pay raise to $10 next spring.
The next step was a car and license, so I'm already on that as I'm set to obtain one this fall. Hopefully, I do not have to spend as much on it; something like $1500-$2000. I don't need a looker, just a vehicle that can transport me from point A to B.
I was approved for a credit card from Capital One (Platinum) which is excellent because I didn't think I would! Yet, the only thing I have done so far is tie my bills to it and that is it. I hope to have a high enough credit score by next summer.
Finally, I'm enrolled for college as an economics and finance major but will take premed classes for medical school. Some people will try to argue that its better for me to major in a science field but I was told to major in what I like, not what looks good.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have a credit card, a decent job, on my way to obtain a car and license, and plan to go to med school after college. What is some advice you may have for a person to achieve this goal? | I have a credit card, a decent job, on my way to obtain a car and license, and plan to go to med school after college. What is some advice you may have for a person to achieve this goal? | 284 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: I'm sick of this song.
POST: So, I work at a small restaurant, and for the most part me and my coworkers get along. Except when it comes to music.
In the kitchen we have a small stereo with an aux cord so we can listen to whatever we want while we work. My coworker, John, has been hogging it like crazy. It's just me and John in the kitchen. I will ask for a turn playing music, and he'll grant it, but usually within 20 minutes his ipod is plugged back in, playing his music.
Now, I can enjoy pretty much anything. The problem is, he plays the same 20ish-song playlist EVERY DAY. On repeat. As you can imagine, that gets old really fast.
**THE REVENGE:**
For the last week I've been fucking with him. Whenever we're really busy, I'll grab his ipod and change it from "Repeat All" to "Repeat Song". So instead of just looping his playlist, it just starts looping the same song indefinitely.
Since I do this when we're busy, he usually doesn't notice for a good 20 minutes, and when he finally does, he grabs his ipod and goes "WHAT THE FUCK, STOP" -- I'm pretty sure he thinks his iPod's malfunctioning.
However long it takes, I plan on making him so sick of that playlist he never wants to hear it again.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | coworker plays the same playlist on repeat every day. I keep switching it to repeat the same single song when he's not looking, slowly driving him mad. | coworker plays the same playlist on repeat every day. I keep switching it to repeat the same single song when he's not looking, slowly driving him mad. | 3,034 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I just broke up with this girl I'm head over heels for, and it's eating me up inside...
POST: (I'm the m22, she's the f/25)even though I know I can't be the guy she wants or needs. My parents divorced a few months ago, and it hasn't affected me until I went home for thanksgiving. Ever since then, I've projected my shitty attitude onto the relationship I've had with the first girl I've ever felt this strongly about. I've realized that I can't be in a relationship right now, not while I'm having this crazy nervous breakdown. I'm hoping this turns out to be a break instead of a break up, as I can't imagine spending the night with anyone else but her. Unfortunately, I get the feeling that she's ready to move on. The whole thing has been tearing me up inside. I need to learn to not let my guard down, ever, or at least extremely slowly. God, I wish she knew how much I cared about her, but with the way I've been since my parents split, I don't think I could tell her without her taking it in a negative light. I'm afraid I've ended the only opportunity with the girl I love. I guess time heals all scars, but this one will be a hard one to bear. Thanks for reading my stupid, first-world problems. May your lives have more upvotes!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | whining about my inability to keep a solid relationship with the ex-girlfriend I love. I'm a headcase, and I don't know how to deal with it constructivelyl... | whining about my inability to keep a solid relationship with the ex-girlfriend I love. I'm a headcase, and I don't know how to deal with it constructivelyl... | 637 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Good friend has a crush on me, would like advice (details inside)
POST: Two of my new roommates introduced me to a whole new social group that I have been hanging out with a lot since they moved into my house. This is a college house fyi. This girl is good friends with my two roommates and this social circle and they all have a lot of history together that doesn't involve me prior to two months ago when we all met. Since then, we've all been hanging out very regularly and I even have a class with her and two of the other new friends.
Based on her body language, texts, and other forms of verbal/non-verbal communication I am certain this girl has a crush on me. She's a sweet, cute girl and I would hookup/date her if it came down to that, but I recognize that I shouldn't for the sake of our new friendship and for the sake of not disrupting this new social circle I've been immersed in. She's a long term friend of my two roommates and I don't think that would go over all that well.
I'm kinda unsure about what direction to take this in. Nothing decisive has to be determined at this moment, but if someone could share thoughts or similar stories that would be awesome.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Cute, nice girl/good friend of my friends likes me. I *could* get with her, but probably shouldn't. Need advice. | Cute, nice girl/good friend of my friends likes me. I *could* get with her, but probably shouldn't. Need advice. | 2,501 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my crush [21 F], crushin for a few months, she's attention hungry but ignores it, advise?
POST: This girl that I used to work with and I became friends. She's really attractive but she does weird things to get attention. (posting a semi nude to 'mystory' on SC) or other things. I think she does it so boys will get all hot and heavy and start texting her, paying attention to her...
So I don't really know what to do. I obviously give her attention when she does crazy things like that, like I'm sure many others guys are doing. But when shes not doing crazy stuff like that should I work on giving her attention even when she's not asking for it? Sometimes when I do she never texts back or tries to respond and I find that very frustrating, I don't know if I should just drop it or she's playing some kind of small puppy card.
We have allot of fun together and I know that she finds me attractive, and I really want to get with her because it would be really fun for the both of us. I just don't know what I should do. Should I try and quench her attention thirst consistently even if she ignores me, or wait tell she asks for it?
Thanks.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl wants attention, sometimes when I give it to her I get nothing in return. Seeks attention in strange ways. Should I give her attention consistently, even if it means she ignores me, or wait tell she asks for it? | Girl wants attention, sometimes when I give it to her I get nothing in return. Seeks attention in strange ways. Should I give her attention consistently, even if it means she ignores me, or wait tell she asks for it? | 1,965 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I [23/F] overreacting that my boyfriend [26/M] is going on a week-long backpacking trip with his female best friend [24/F]?
POST: Hey, all! Throwaway account time! Here's the story:
My on-and-off boyfriend of two years is going on a week-long backpacking journey to Thailand with his best friend who is female. Before anyone says anything, I have met her before and she has a boyfriend of two years. However, she is very attractive (a much prettier version of myself) and shares the same interests as my boyfriend. They even used to live together with a bunch of other people. It makes me wonder why they haven't dated. Upon asking my boyfriend this, he has told me he has never hooked up with her, has had feelings for her, or is even attracted to her. He even has gone so far to say that he will never date her as she is like a little sister to him.
So lately, he told me that he wants to meet up in Thailand for a week with her alone while she is on her extended backpacking trip to SE-Asia. We have argued about this several times. I continuously told him that this is disrespectful and I don't want him to go. Of course, he goes against my wishes. We recently got back together, so I would understand if he didn't want to go on a vacation with me just yet.
I don't even mind if he went alone to Thailand or with a group, as long as he isn't alone with his female best friend. I find that to be disrespectful. He assures me that they will be staying in hostels with separate beds and he will call me via Skype every single day to make me feel better. We are going on our own vacation later this year. I care about him. I didn't want to give up the relationship, yet. Still, I feel this is crossing way too many boundaries.
Am I overreacting, reddit?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My on-and-off boyfriend who I recently got back together with is going on vacation with his female best friend to Thailand. I am not okay with it, but he still insists to go. | My on-and-off boyfriend who I recently got back together with is going on vacation with his female best friend to Thailand. I am not okay with it, but he still insists to go. | 3,131 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (20f) with bf (20m) texting a mutual friend's wife early in the morning?
POST: I woke up at 4am this morning to my boyfriends phone going off. He read it, and said he didn't know who the message was from. So I pushed for him to ask the person - he really seemed like he didn't want to ask, and kept saying he doesn't care.
Eventually he messaged them back, and we found out it was a mutual coworkers wife.. saying she saw him online and thought she'd message him. He completely got super defensive, said he didn't have a clue why she was messaging him, and that she probably only had his number because our mutual friend never had credit on his phone, so he would call or text off his missus' phone.
They have 4 kids together, and my boyfriend is a lot younger than her, but something just doesn't feel right about the situation. He also mentioned yesterday he'd nip and say hi to her and the kids when he was working in the shop near their house.
Any advice? Am i looking into this too much?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | boyfriend had text off mutual friend's wife at 4am this morning, out the blue? Advice on whether I need to look into it more, or leave it. | boyfriend had text off mutual friend's wife at 4am this morning, out the blue? Advice on whether I need to look into it more, or leave it. | 565 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: How do i live with my ex for a few more weeks
POST: Me 30m and my girlfriend 23f of 4 years just broke up a few days ago. We have dated on and of the entire 4 years.We have lived together for about 3 years off and on. We usually go about 8-11 months and then we lose interest it seems then get back together a month or so later. We had trust issues in the beginning but we both moved past alot and trust was rebuilt.
We have been dating again since may so about 6 months into this. In these six months our communication was 100% better and had some of the best times.
Well up until about 1 1/2 weeks ago.. She started being distant and in turn i reflected the same behavior and became distant as well. Things went south quickly so I start a talk and we admit were mutually unhappy.. But she admits she is emotionally cheating, but its nothing more, and says she doesn't want to break up. But i decide the trust has been broken. And say i cant deal with that anymore. We are on a m2m lease and nether of us can afford our apt alone. We have very minimal contact. I stay away from our home when i know shes there and she does the same. Its very stressful and i have no idea how to deal with this. I didnt expect this to happen at all. It doesnt hurt the worst but its hard for me because of all the stuff we have together. I feel if we are breaking up, this is IT. I need support.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | broke up with my GF of 4 years we still live together for at least another 2-3 weeks.. need tips to keep my sanity | broke up with my GF of 4 years we still live together for at least another 2-3 weeks.. need tips to keep my sanity | 3,128 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend [22M] of almost 2 years, is getting really bummed out and upset that I [21F] like to sleep.
POST: I have been in my relationship for almost 2 years now.
We don't fight or argue and very rarely will we disagree on something.
Lately, he's been getting rather bummed out that I will sleep for an unhealthy amount and will miss out on most of the day or will skip out on activities with my boyfriend because I can't stay awake.
I have a severe depression that I have to control with anti-depressants. I'm always tired or run-down when I forget to take my medication, which leads to me over sleeping. Also, I'm not the most social person on the planet.
I don't have many friends I can hang out with on a regular basis, which leads me to stay at home a lot of the time.
I've always had a thing with sleep and I've always been bad with timing things out when I'm awake.
It used to make my ex furious that I'd sleep in so long and miss out on hanging out with him, I don't want the same to happen with my current boyfriend, although I don't think he'd go to the extreme of getting furious.
How do I go about fixing things?
How do I start getting a better sleep schedule?
I have alarms on my phone, set at the highest volume but I usually end up turning them off in my sleep? I don't know.
Please give me some tips and tricks to staying awake and getting my life back on track!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I sleep too much and end up missing most of the day when I could be spending more time with my bf of almost 2 years. How do I go about fixing this problem of mine? | I sleep too much and end up missing most of the day when I could be spending more time with my bf of almost 2 years. How do I go about fixing this problem of mine? | 4,877 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, I'm having a problem with my best friend. Please help!
POST: My best friend recently started dating this girl. They are really good for each other and I'm glad he finally found an awesome girl. He is an awesome guy, and based on his ex (a monstrosity of a human being- a waste of intelligence if you ask me) he really deserves to have this girl. I'm good friends with the girl so even when I'm a third wheel I feel included. But here is where my problem is.
Whenever I'm with him, he treats me like he always has. We joke, we kid, we argue different viewpoints of stupid crap- what friends usually do.
But, when he is with her, he is CONSTANTLY putting me down, belittling me, and just trying to Make me feel inferior in every way. Im not sure what to make of this.
Has this happened to anyone else? How did you handle it?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my friend got a girlfriend and he is a dick to me whenever I'm around them no matter the location. Is this something I induced or what? | my friend got a girlfriend and he is a dick to me whenever I'm around them no matter the location. Is this something I induced or what? | 3,020 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by moving my paraplegic wife
POST: This happened 4 days ago actually but I was so scared in the past days that i didn't have the hand stability to write on a keyboard
My wife and i had an accident and she's on a wheelchair (she started moving her legs again but still a long way to go) so it was nighttime and she asked me if i can turn her upside down, when i am moving her suddenly the weight of her leg shifts her lower body and i hear a crack... (like when you crack your back) the first thing she says is... I can't feel my legs.. I almost fainted right there, I try to calm her but I know what that means (I am en EMT) so i do the sensible thing... its 1 am and i have to call an ambulance.
Once we arrive at the clinic she's crying because she knows what this means, i speak to the doctor and tell her the situation, the doctor says "uff" confirming my deepest fears, she has X-rays done and an MRI, we had to wait almost 2 days for the specialist to arrive but i had already seen the X-rays and saw no changes on them, after the specialist saw the MRI said there were no changes, and we could breathe.
They sent us home with anti-inflammatory medicine and our regular exercise schedule, a day later (yesterday night) she said "Baby i can feel my legs again... i was happy and today she said, I can move my legs as i used to... I could finally breathe.
(Sorry if english no good, english me not first language)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Tried to move paraplegic wife, cracker her back, sensation in legs gone. Exams show no lesions, 2 days later she is moving her legs again. | Tried to move paraplegic wife, cracker her back, sensation in legs gone. Exams show no lesions, 2 days later she is moving her legs again. | 944 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU at work
POST: TIFU: In the kitchen of the restaurant where I work (today was my 7th day), the county mandates that we have to wear gloves when handling food, no exceptions. So, when trying to fill cups of tartar and sour cream, I have some issues flipping and separating the cups. I thought I had a great idea: since the cups, much less the outside of the cups, are not food, let's not wear a glove; thought that cutting the tips off would be more fun. I neglected to remove my hand from the glove, and snipped the tips off my left index and middle fingers before I transformed my left ring fingerprint forever. That knife, as with all of our knives, are PARTICULARLY dull, so I had breezed that one through the (shitty) carbide pull sharpener a few times when I got in.
When going to get a napkin to staunch the flow and then ask for a bandage, I slipped on the freshly mopped area just outside the doors.
Not 20 minutes later, when returning the bucket of sour cream to the walk-in cooler, I again biffed on the freshly mopped floor of the cooler.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Attempted to make finger-less gloves with my hand in the glove, and fell twice on wet floors, which I had not done in the last 2 years. | Attempted to make finger-less gloves with my hand in the glove, and fell twice on wet floors, which I had not done in the last 2 years. | 1,429 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22M] possibly dating friend [21F] ...can I ask her if we're exclusive/in a relationship etc.?
POST: My friend and I have basically started dating ...the other night I took her out for a drive to the beach late at night, we had a bite of food, some wine ..we ending up making out for a while (we have a long complicated history and she liked me for a while even when she was with her ex boyfriend). I took her back home, we continued to make out by her door and then by my car. I've met her parents we get along fine. The next day we meet up for a walk (we go on walks every week cause we live close by) and towards the end we start making out again. Now the next day I invite her over to my place and we hang out for a bit ...play piano for each other (we've never heard each other play). I walk her to the station and we kiss before she leaves.
Now here is my problem, she has an ex boyfriend that she is still friends with who lives in the city and hence has a place that is convenient to stay at overnight. Now I've already asked her to give me a call before she heads over there but I don't know exactly what to say to her? Should I clarify that we're exclusive? Is that rushing things?
I just want to know how to clarify what is going on between us and that she isn't going to do something with him without sounding insulting ...as if she's going to sleep with him just because she's staying over. Advice is welcome.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | friend and I have started dating (?) and she's staying at her ex's for a night. Should I be worried? How do I bring this up without sounding accusatory? Do I even have a right to be worried? | friend and I have started dating (?) and she's staying at her ex's for a night. Should I be worried? How do I bring this up without sounding accusatory? Do I even have a right to be worried? | 3,256 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What's the strangest/meanest way you've been told you were one of the best?
POST: Three weeks ago I quit my job waiting tables to take a job opening a brand new restaurant in a very nice neighborhood. The restaurant is known nation wide and the new store is 10,000+ square feet, so they hired around 70 servers to help open. Tonight was a dry run for friends and family and before the shift he called out names, including mine, said that he needed to talk to us all outside before the shift. With a frown on his face, the corporate trainer told us, "There's no easy way to do this. We are making some changes, and we've decided to let you all go... HOME FOR THE NIGHT!" He then explains that we are all the top servers there and he wants us to be the ones who wait on the bloggers/critics. I almost threw up all over the place. What's the strangest/meanest way you've been told you were the best?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I was made to believe that I was being fired, and then told I was in the top 15 of the company. | I was made to believe that I was being fired, and then told I was in the top 15 of the company. | 6,535 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I[22f] suffer from social anxiety that affects how I feel in my relationship with my SO [22m]. How do I bring it up?
POST: I suffer from fairly severe social anxiety. My SO knows that I'm very shy, but I don't think he's ever suspected that it's anything more than this. So far, it hasn't caused any real problems in our relationship, at least outwardly. He seems to accept that I'm naturally very quiet and don't like to talk a lot. I still make an effort to spend time with him and his friend group, even though I'm very uncomfortable, and up until I graduated from college recently I had a friend group with whom I would invite him out occasionally as well.
However, I feel like I'm constantly going through an inner struggle because of my anxiety. I have very low self-esteem, for one thing. Participating in activities with his friends is usually an incredibly difficult and painful experience for me, and this makes me not want to go out with his friends even though I often still force myself to. It even makes it difficult for me to spend time alone with my boyfriend sometimes because I often struggle to make normal conversation, and usually feel badly about myself. He doesn't seem to mind my introversion, or at least has never brought it up as an issue in our year together so far, but I'm worried of the long-term effect these issues will have.
Up until now, I've never mentioned any of this to my boyfriend. I'm thinking of going to see a therapist about this, which I know I've put off for far too long. But I don't know if/how I should tell my boyfriend. I know it's something I probably shouldn't keep secret, but I'm afraid of unloading all of my emotional baggage onto him. Any advice on how to bring this up?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have social anxiety, and would like to get help from a therapist soon. How do I talk about this with my SO who I've never told about my anxiety? | I have social anxiety, and would like to get help from a therapist soon. How do I talk about this with my SO who I've never told about my anxiety? | 2,461 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: In response to the recent posts about people overcoming depression:
POST: It's all very nice that people can make changes in their lives to make it go away, but for many or most, that does not help at all. If you have been feeling depressed for a time longer than six months, and/or it interferes with your life, see a counselor AND GP. Sure, many have factors in their lives which cause them to feel this way, but many are genetically predisposed to the condition and no scenery change or 'opening up' will change that.
Go to a counselor (not a psychiatrist) to determine whether your problems are psychological, and a GP to determine whether it is at all related to any physical issues that you may have (allergies, diet, et cetera). Go to a specialist at the recommendation of your counselor and GP. Starting with a specialist can be problematic, first because it may cost you unnecessarily, and second because, at least in my experience, someone who limits their field of work can sometimes limit their field of vision. Unnecessary treatment and incorrect diagnosis kind of suck. So, start out with a wide view, and work your way toward a more focused treatment.
Don't just wait for it to get better, and don't expect the world to get better with a change of location. The worst week of my life, I spent in DisneyWorld.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | It's awesome that some people can make changes to their lives and get over depression. Others can't. See a doctor if there's an issue. | It's awesome that some people can make changes to their lives and get over depression. Others can't. See a doctor if there's an issue. | 2,079 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [M/21] be looking for a relationship of focus on myself?
POST: I've been on vacation for a few days and it gave me some time to clear my mind and give me some time to think about what I could do for me both in terms of self-growth and in terms of relationships.
I feel like I should lay low for a while and focus on me. I am overweight and want to lose a few pounds (hopefully starting before school starts up again in January) and do some things to make me more appealing because even though people think I'm attractive, I'm not considered attractive by a lot of the women at my school mainly because I don't have a six pack. I also wanna be able to save up a bit of cash. I have a little money but not a ton. I'm a student with some bills and a job and wanna try to save a bit here and there when I can.
On the other hand, I wanna be able to make someone happy because I like making people smile and I want to be able to make someone smile and show that I care about them because I like making people smile.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I wanna focus on me, but also want to make someone other than me feel good. What do I do? | I wanna focus on me, but also want to make someone other than me feel good. What do I do? | 2,904 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: [Rant/Spiritual Awakening] My sister said my wedding dress made me look like a sausage. LADIES DON'T LET ANYONE RUIN YOUR ENGAGEMENT GLOW!
POST: Yep, my 28 year old adult sister was watching me try on my wedding dress, and I mentioned that I wanted to lose 5-10 pounds before the wedding. Her response was "Oh good! Then you won't look like a sausage for the wedding!" Uhh..rude?
If any of you remember that AMA a while back about her family shipping her off because she was "demon possessed" that was me, so I'm not at all surprised that someone in my family said something hurtful, but it still hurt. And I panicked. When I found out I was getting a huge bonus from work, I broke down stressing about whether or not I needed to go get a brand new dress because the other one made me sausage-y.
Well, you know what? I love my dress. It looks amazing on me, and if someone thinks I look like a sausage, they can keep their opinions to themselves because it makes me feel AMAZING. Don't you ladies let anyone drag you down, because I promise you they WILL try. They don't even deserve the time it would take you to be concerned about the things they say or do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND WONDERFUL AND YOUR WEDDING WILL BE PERFECT BECAUSE YOU DESERVE IT!!! | YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND WONDERFUL AND YOUR WEDDING WILL BE PERFECT BECAUSE YOU DESERVE IT!!! | 1,921 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [31F] trying to regain sexual attraction to my husband[30M] of 2 years, after an affair. X-post from r/sex
POST: Long story short I had an affair. The man I had the affair with is exactly physically my type. Even before the affair began (we were best friends) every time I was around him I'd be overcome with lust. Every inch of him was perfect in my opinion, and our sex life was amazing. I eventually left my husband for him, but things fizzled before they truly began because he's mentally unstable and he became a danger to himself and others.
Since then my husband and I have been working things out between us (there were deep issues we had before the affair that drove us apart) and it's actually going quite well. We're both ready to forgive, forget and move on, but there is one really big issue that so far I've not been able to overcome.
I am no longer sexually attracted to my husband. Physically he was never truly my type, but because I fell in love with his personality I wound up being very turned on by him. He and I explored our sexuality together and we had an INCREDIBLE sex life full of kinks and orgasms and everything I could ever want.
But now I can't get turned on by him unless I'm drinking and already turned on to an extent. If he tries to initiate it all feels wrong. I can't stop comparing him to my friend. I can be in the mood and my husband will kiss me and there's just nothing there, or worse, I get disgusted. My husband is aware of my feelings and lack of drive toward him and is being very patient with everything.
I don't want to feel this way anymore, I want my intimacy and my sex life back and don't have any idea how to make that happen.
(we are in couple's counseling and individual counseling as well)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I had an affair, have returned to my husband, we have reconciled, but I am not physically attracted to my husband and I want to be. | I had an affair, have returned to my husband, we have reconciled, but I am not physically attracted to my husband and I want to be. | 4,975 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: So me [22 M] just got told from my girlfriend [21 F] this....
POST: Basically i'm hanging out with her this weekend and she is already looking up stuff for us to do... I have kind of been lacking on that end because had work + tons of errands to do today. I basically told her that I felt bad for not looking for things to do this weekend, because she hopped on it before i could.
She THEN replies to me with this: "i just wanna make an effort in this relationship, so you see it <3"
What is she thinking? Does she think i don't see her love and affection??? Should I feel bad about this??? What should I be telling her back right now???? I want to make her feel like I care about her...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend thinks i don't see that she cares about me after a recent talk she kind of had with my mom a few nights ago when i visited. | Girlfriend thinks i don't see that she cares about me after a recent talk she kind of had with my mom a few nights ago when i visited. | 4,283 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22/M] have been with my GF [22/F] for a year and 4 months and I have such an urge to leave her sometimes...
POST: We have our problems, like any other relationship. She has severe social anxiety and OCD. She doesn't enjoy being in rooms with a lot of other people. She doesn't enjoy parties or going out too much, which I do. So it leads to tension.
She doesn't want me to leave her alone but I don't want to stay in the house all the time. When I go to visit friends, she'll text me before I even arrive, asking if I can come home. And when I tell her I'm not ready to come back, she'll get angry and things get even more tense.
She doesn't enjoy sex that much, unless I focus on her. She doesn't want to put forth the effort to do anything for me, which makes me angry and a bit sad. Sad that we can't share in that. She's told me she doesn't get much out of sex so what's the point?
We have our good days. We have our bad days. The bad days seem to outnumber the good. But, however bad it is, when I look at her, I get happy and think, how could I have considered leaving? But then, a short time passes and we're arguing because I haven't done the dishes when she wanted them done or I've done something that aggravated her.
I love her, but I don't know if I can live my life with so much tension and unhappiness. I can't leave my home without her getting mad at me for doing so. I've said that I won't leave someone because they are ill, and she is. She has a mental illness. It's so hard. I don't know what to do or what to think. I really just want someone who can relate and hear what they've done or are doing because I don't know how much longer I can last. Please help..
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF has anxiety and OCD which causes us to have a lot of tension. I'm unhappy but love her. How do I handle this? How can I improve the situation before our relationship explodes? | GF has anxiety and OCD which causes us to have a lot of tension. I'm unhappy but love her. How do I handle this? How can I improve the situation before our relationship explodes? | 1,157 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20F] would like to start a relationship with someone but I don't think he [23M] could see past our differences?
POST: So a little back story. When I was a freshman in highschool I had a friend who was senior. He was nice guy and I kind of had that weird old brother type feeling for him. We shared a few classes and we always had a great time at school. Well, he graduated and started college, we added each other on facebook but never really talked outside that. Recently he's been hinted that he's like to take me out on a date sometime, which I would really like, but I'm afraid he wouldn't be able to see past our differences if he knew how different we really were.
Now, he really doesn't know much about my opinions on things because I'm a little quiet, he however is constantly posting his opinions on facebook, so I know them all too well.
I guess the biggest difference it religion. He's catholic and it's a huge part of his life. I've been an atheist since I was about 14. Now for me personally this isn't a huge deal. My last boyfriend was religious, and we simply avoided the subject, but I'm thinking that this guy is just a little too... uh... devoted to just brush it off.
He's also constantly going on about being pro life and anti gay marriage. He's started several 100+ comment flame wars by being so forward with his opinions. I'm very pro choice, and my believe that everyone deserves to be happy in regards to love. Again, not a big deal to me personally. You believe what you believe, and no one can chance that but you. Again though, he's not like that.
Other than that though we have a lot in common and both obviously are attracted to each other. I'm just wondering if you guys think it's worth it to try and start a relationship.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm wondering if it's worth starting a relationship with someone who doesn't exactly see eye to eye with me on some important topics. | I'm wondering if it's worth starting a relationship with someone who doesn't exactly see eye to eye with me on some important topics. | 2,439 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [34/f] Is this child endangerment, or are we just uptight? Husband(33/m)'s little sister and boyfriend (27/f, 32/m) are moving into a tent with their daughter(3/f) to grow medical marijuana.
POST: My husband's little sister has been "growing" for many years now, but their latest scheme is a curveball. They were propositioned by a stranger to lease land on a reservation on the other side of the state to farm... only there's no house. They're going to put up tents and live there indefinitely. "gonna make a million, pure profit, no taxes!" or something. These guys would be millionaires many times over if a fraction of their grand ideas went as planned, of course! Also, if you want to ~~give them~~ invest some seed money they will pay you back and double your money.
But this little girl... we think she needs more stability. We think she needs some friends, some socializing, running water, pre-school, a bed, to not be surrounded by pot plants all day long in the middle of nowhere. She already seems very lonely without friends at their current house. I'm aware that children can thrive in all kinds of conditions, and they should be with their parents... but this seems like a new low for standard of living, and we're having a hard time accepting it.
My husband is talking with his family (parents 60s/m-f, sister 38/f), none of whom like what's going on, but nobody knows what should be done. His parents are considering taking the daughter "temporarily, until you get settled", they live about 20 hr drive away from the reservation. Do you think that we should force this? I keep thinking, *well... what if I wanted to spend a summer driving around in a motor home, that wouldn't be completely unreasonable to do with my family...* And I can appreciate camping and living simply and off the grid... but this just seems completely unsafe and irresponsible to us. She is very stubborn and the type who will cut off contact if we don't go along with her, but we are also trying to figure out at what point we need to have an intervention.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Husband's doper sister and her doper boyfriend want to create a marijuana commune to get rich quick and they are dragging their 3yo daughter down with them. When/how do we step in and moderate? | Husband's doper sister and her doper boyfriend want to create a marijuana commune to get rich quick and they are dragging their 3yo daughter down with them. When/how do we step in and moderate? | 390 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I dont know how to handle this situation.
POST: I'm a 23 year old female who just ended things with a previous rebound relationship (22m) that lasted about 7 months. A few days after I had finally made the decision to end things, a friend of mine confessed his feelings for me. We will call this friend John (27) . I met John around the same time I started dating the rebounder. We hit it off as friends. I rarely ever saw him, but we would talk here and there. I should also probably mention that John has a girlfriend. When John told me of his feelings, I admitted to my mutual feelings for him. I asked if we could talk about it, and he refused. I saw him this past weekend, and he kissed me. I was extremely intoxicated. This happened multiple times over the course of the night. He even came into bed with me where things continued. I ended things with the rebounder the next day, and John left to talk to his girlfriend. I dont expect him to end things with her, I even told him that. I know that I need to be single right now, and collect my thoughts. I just can't help that thinking that hes everything I've needed and wanted for a long time, and I don't know how to handle this. I know I have to back away and let them work their relationship out, but a part of me wants this.. Reddit, I should just walk away right?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Hooked up with friend who has a girlfriend, while still being in a rebound relationship. I don't know how to handle the aftermath. | Hooked up with friend who has a girlfriend, while still being in a rebound relationship. I don't know how to handle the aftermath. | 5,740 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what are your douchebag cop stories, false accusations, and so on!
POST: So there i was, in the car with my friend while he was doing a doughnut around a blacked out lightpole, in an abandoned mall bothering nobody. He finished and we are about to leave. He steps out and i get in the driver seat and as i was leaving my car stalls. He comes out turns his light on and says "what the fuck are you doing you little dipshit, then proceeds to keep cursing, saying he say me doing doughnuts and calling me names and kept on insisting on seeing me do something he couldnt have possibly seen. I was in the car, tires fresh with burned rubber smell, one of those wrong place in the wrong time moments. He asked for my registration and still caling me names, so i politely said "sir i do not appreciated the name calling, can you please stop. Nope, he responds by slamming me on my car and handcuffing me saying "hows my fucking voice now, and called me something along the lines of faggot or cunt. I forgot, i was to in shock that he was treating me like this when i was nothing but courteous and polite! even the other cop that showed up had a look on her face like wtf? i get put into his buddies car and he continues to go on and belittle me. So he ends me giving me three tickets, which im fighting, and im going to complain, my friends heard and saw it all (friend is a cop, told me the guy was out of line). All in all i could see if i had done something wrong, but even after trying to calmly talk to the guy, he was to busy being a jackass. oh, and i overheard him saying "this is what happens when i have no action except for stupid shit like this"
TL;DR: . Assistant: | douchebag cop was bored and treated me like complete shit for assuming i was doing something i wasn't. arrested, and made fun of. Friends hear and saw it all | douchebag cop was bored and treated me like complete shit for assuming i was doing something i wasn't. arrested, and made fun of. Friends hear and saw it all | 6,401 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How big of a problem do I [29M] have on my hands with an overly attached [30F]?
POST: We've been going out for 2 weeks. Sex is the best I ever had. However, she wants to message me all the time and talk about how good we are together.
I had been on a dry spell for a couple of years, so the first week I played along. And our dating life went as follows:
**1st date:** We had a spark right away and no gaming was necessary. We do foreplay on the theater.
**2nd date:** She demands exclusivity, got uber mad when she saw *Tinder* message popup on my phone.
**3rd date:** Sex on a motel, great sex.
**4th date:** More sex on a motel.
**5th date:** Movie & sex on a motel.
**6th date:** Sex on a motel.
**7th date:** Sex on a motel.
*All in the span of two weeks.*
It's like, everything she talks about is how good we are together, how she wants to become my girlfriend (I told her I'd give it a month before doing that), and how she considers herself mine forever and ever.
She has very few friends, seems a bit forever alone type of person and freaks out if I take too long to message her or don't call her princess, by freakout she sends a message saying I'm acting weird.
I'm feeling overwhelmed and guilty because I played along and told her a lot of bullshit to get laid and keep getting laid (I agreed to exclusivity and told her I planned on making her my girlfriend soon). I do like her a lot, I never had someone like me this much, and I find her deadly attractive.
She says things in the sack like: "Do you like how it feels? Good, because it's yours forever".
How can I break it to her that we should slow down without her freaking out?
She says her last relationship was 4 years ago. I'm beginning to understand why.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Overly attached girl, don't know how to respond. How can I break it to her to be less overly attached and slow things down? | Overly attached girl, don't know how to respond. How can I break it to her to be less overly attached and slow things down? | 3,282 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What is the most awkward and/or interesting way you have ever asked someone out?
POST: Mine actually ends with a "Forever Alone" moment.
A girl I worked with back when I was in college was always on my mind and the best part of having that job. I had always made small talk and casually flirted with her. After about six or so months of this, I decided that I needed to make the move or else.
I was in another co-workers office one day and while meeting with them, I noticed a novelty magnet with an Eleanor Roosevelt quote "Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't. "
When I saw this, in my mind I said "fuck it", pulled the magnet off the file cabinet and walked straight to her desk. I slammed the magnet down and said "Do you want to go out sometime?" Her response was an immediate "Yes"!
I was very excited that my confidence had finally paid off and walked back to my office like a boss. About three hours later, she came by and said "I hope you asked me out as a friend because that is how I perceived it" I tried to recover by saying, "Yeah of course" but we both knew it was awkward and I had failed.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Put my balls on the line by unfairly putting a female co-worker on the spot. Got my balls handed to me. | Put my balls on the line by unfairly putting a female co-worker on the spot. Got my balls handed to me. | 533 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Help me Reddit: What's the best way to help someone through an awkward situation?
POST: So, I was taking a man's order at the cafe I work at. He was pretty overweight, crazy hair, sunglasses with one of the arms broken off, and just seemed generally socially awkward. He orders a cupcake, which is pretty expensive, and I tell him the price is $4.26. He reacts: "Oh wow, $4.26?" And I reply that it will change his life.
The response that floored me: "Oh, well, I'm going to hold you to that, if it doesn't I'll put it on my blog. Yeah, I've already been taking pictures of you with my phone, oh my god what am I saying."
I laugh quietly and just finish the transaction in silence, pretending to not have heard him. But seriously you guys, this shit was hella awkward. And I felt super bad for this dude because it obviously just slipped out, as a joke that just turned out to be really creepy. SO WHAT THE FUCK AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Socially awkward customer makes creepy joke about taking pictures of me with his phone and is completely flustered. I respond with feigned ignorance. | Socially awkward customer makes creepy joke about taking pictures of me with his phone and is completely flustered. I respond with feigned ignorance. | 6,218 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my crush[18 F] , too nervous too talk, too shy aswell
POST: At first I want to say that I have no problems to talk with other women. I may be a little shy when it comes to flirting in clubs, but I'm not a fan of clubs therefor I don't see it as a problem. Now I recently had the chance to have some fun with another girl some time ago, but once I was close I lost interest all of a sudden. My guess is that it was "too easy", sorry I don't want to sound disrespectful.
Now here's the thing with my crush. She does know that there is something, the way she talks and chats with me is not the same like with her other male friends. For example she usually responds on messages only after a few hours, if at all on me. In between the time she is still online (what's app). I never asked why she does this though as I don't want to fail and sound weak or something in that way.
Now when we're in a room together or like today as we were celebrating carnival, I just can't find any topics to talk about. And it's even worse, when she is around I can't talk to other people either. (guess my brain really is depended on her opinion)
I do know quite alot about her, hobbys, plans, etc.
But I just can't talk to her the normal way, make fun of myself, of other people, the simpliest things become a math exam.
What can I do about it? She surely is a challenge, many other guys tried, but as she isn't ignoring me and nor is talking to me like with one in the friendzone I guess I might have a chance.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Have no problems to talk with other women, but when my crush is around I can't talk with her nor with other people. | Have no problems to talk with other women, but when my crush is around I can't talk with her nor with other people. | 1,798 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (24M) live-in GF(25F) has asked for space, need advice.
POST: Some Background: We have been dating for 3 years, 2 living together. Before that we were best friends who were too afraid to say how we felt to each other for a year.
We moved to a new city together a year ago, and are due to start a new lease we signed less than a month ago. I have been working 2 part time jobs and going to grad school (with another unpaid internship as well). I decided to go to grad school so I could give her the kind of life I know that she deserves.
I love this girl with all my heart, and 5 days ago she says she feels like we are back to being just friends. She then asked for space to figure things out. The only thing is we live together, and besides me living in the basement at my own house, I don't see how else to give her space.
Knowing she is only 30 feet away from me while I am in the same house is killing me. Now I know for sure she is the one I want my future to be with, how can I let her know these things while at the same time trying to give her the space she needs?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend says she feels like friends, and needs space, how can I give her that while we both live under the same roof? | My girlfriend says she feels like friends, and needs space, how can I give her that while we both live under the same roof? | 5,209 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my girlfriend Alice [19 F] of over a year, mixed feelings about a threesome.
POST: My girlfriends friend stayed the night with us after a party and for whatever reason we slept in the same bed. In the morning my girlfriend's friend, Jane, and I decided to mess with my girlfriend. After a while it stopped being a joke and it turned into a threesome.
My girlfriend was the focus for most of it but not all of it. After we finished we spent the rest of the day together and everything was fine until my girlfriend started getting mixed feelings about it.
She now thinks that I might leave her for someone else. I don't know how to fix this and I don't understand why she is upset now because she was the one that turned it into a threesome after Jane and I fucked with her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I had a threesome with my girlfriend and her friend and now my girlfriend is afraid I might leave her. I want advice on how to fix this. | I had a threesome with my girlfriend and her friend and now my girlfriend is afraid I might leave her. I want advice on how to fix this. | 3,081 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [29 M] with my SO [24 F] of 4 years, she is a sloppy drunk
POST: Admittedly, we both drink more than average. Almost every night, but only after work/school. I only drink beer, so I can usually have quite a few before I start to feel/show it. She drinks STRONG liquor drinks, almost straight liquor with a splash of mixer, or wine, so it doesn't take her very long to get there. She rips through drinks quickly, too. I've seen her polish off 1/3 handle of liquor in a few hours.
When she is sober, she is shy and relatively quiet. When she's drinking, she interrupts and talks over everyone. She spills drinks all the time. She burns holes with cigarettes and gets ash everywhere except the ashtray or out the car window. She's always losing her belongings. Almost every time we go out, it ends with her barely being able to walk. I have to make her leave before either of us wants to because she falls or does something else to embarrass us. All of our friends, mine and hers, know this about her.
I love her to pieces, we rarely fight, and we want to get married some day. We have a great relationship. But these things are starting to get annoying. I am afraid people are going to stop inviting us places. I often miss out on concerts/events because she gets too drunk too early and I have to "watch" her or get her out of there. She falls asleep on the couch almost every night because she doesn't know when to stop. She has even fallen asleep on the toilet a few times.
I know I have to have a conversation with her about this, otherwise I'm enabling her and it's only going to get worse. The problem is, she is very insecure and I know she is going to hate herself and cry for days if I tell her these things. She asks me all the time if people like her or think she's annoying, and I always tell her what she wants to hear, so as to not upset her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF is a sloppy drunk and doesn't know when to cut herself off. I worry it's starting to affect our relationship and social life. She's too insecure for me to tell her that she's embarrassing. | GF is a sloppy drunk and doesn't know when to cut herself off. I worry it's starting to affect our relationship and social life. She's too insecure for me to tell her that she's embarrassing. | 3,533 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I (24/F) think I need to sever ties with my sister(26/F). Any advice is appreciated.
POST: I am a 24/F, my sister is 26/F. Here is a small background on our relationship:
Our entire lives we have fought. When we were younger it was fist fighting and as we got older it became more verbal. My sister is very manipulative, my parent even admit it. They have said, "We don't know where we went wrong raising your sister." Regardless, they love her and deal with her shenanigans; mostly they because they usually aren't directed at them. Things in our relationship came to a head about a year ago and we had what I call a "come to Jesus meeting." We said our issues, spoke our piece and agreed we wanted a relationship with each other and we would try to get to know each other on the adult level and have a clean slate in regards to our relationship. Since then, she hasn't changed. She uses my strong relationship and feelings of obligation towards my parents as leverage to try to manipulate me. She has hacked my email, puts her friends before me, talks trash about my husband and kicks me when I am down. She is constantly trying to find ways to be superior to me. The events that have happened recently are the straws that have broken the camels back. I feel I should sever ties because this relationship is no healthy and I don't deserve to be treated this way. My parents and my sister always expect I will just get over her drama, but I no longer wish to feed into the cycle. Severing ties will alienate me from my niece and nephew and will upset my parents, but I don't know what else to do. I have debated talking to a family counselor for suggestions. Any input or advice, especially from people who have dysfunctional sibling relationships would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My sister is a narcissist and treats me and our relationship like crap. I want to sever ties with her, but it will alienate me from her kids and will upset my parents. | My sister is a narcissist and treats me and our relationship like crap. I want to sever ties with her, but it will alienate me from her kids and will upset my parents. | 3,349 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19F] have no idea how to read the situation with guys I like, or even ones I want to be friends with
POST: I just became a university student a couple months ago, and due to distance, my long term boyfriend of 2 years and I broke up. I'm pretty introverted, so he was my only friend, and he held a grudge. So here I am, introverted and alone in a STEM school which is guy-dominant, and I don't know how to interact with them. I really think it would be good for me to get out there again, but I've never been good at making friends, let alone the whole dating scene.
I joined a few clubs at the beginning of last semester, and met a group of three guy friends[all 20/M] who live together, and do everything together. I feel comfortable enough around them now, but still get nervous even asking them to hang out, because I get paranoid that I'm a nuisance. I want to become closer friends with all of them, but don't know how to go about doing that.
In particular, one of them I can't help being drawn to. He's extremely passionate, and talented, and just amazing to talk to, and he and I are a lot alike. He's not the kind of guy I usually go for, and I'm not sure what it is about him that makes him stick in my mind so much, but I can't help thinking about him.
My problem is that he also got out of a long term relationship recently, I don't know how to get him alone without scaring him off, and I'm pretty sure he just sees me as one of the guys. One minute he'll be really honest, and be having a pretty deep conversation with me, and the next, he's laughing it up about some joke he made at my expense.
Any advice at all would make me very happy.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm completely stupid and shy when it comes to getting closer to people both romantically and non-romantically and need help, please | I'm completely stupid and shy when it comes to getting closer to people both romantically and non-romantically and need help, please | 843 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [F, 30s] life is much harder than his [BF, M, 30s, together 2 years], the imbalance makes me uncomfortable. What do?
POST: My life is just (or at least seems to be) a lot harder than his. My job is more intense and my boss a lot less flexible than his, thus I work more hours and get less vacation. Although we have the same type of job at different places, mine just seems to come with more responsibility and more demands and expectations. I am also pretty high-up in a field which is mostly men, and I feel I have gotten this far by always being better than the men to be considered equal. I am also an only child taking care of my parents who are both ill. Lastly, I pursue more hobbies and interests and social contact outside of just my boyfriend to feel fulfilled and satisfied. As a result of all this, I am often tired and need a fair amount of care a support. I don't get much time off from my job to recover, either. This imbalance in our relationship makes me uncomfortable,
When this all started, I thought it would be a few months and then we would reach an equilibrium and maybe even he would have some problems and it would be my time to be the supportive one. But his life is still relatively stress free, and things have only gotten more stressful for me now as my job gets more intense (we are dependent on government funding, which just got cut, and means more work and less people) and my parents' health has continued to decline. It's been well over a year of this mess and shows no sign of letting up soon.
I shouldn't always be the one who needs to be taken care of, I feel. His life is pretty great, I guess (except for the over-extended girlfriend), but I feel like I am a parasite.
This is a tricky thing to talk about, especially with him. He knows he is supposed to be a supportive partner so there is really no safe way for him to tell me this is too much for him without making himself look like a bad boyfriend or like some dirtbag that might abandon me in my time of need.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Work and family responsibilities mean I am always over-extended, and less flexible and more frazzled than my boyfriend. He is always taking care of me and I am uncomfortable with this imbalance. What to do? | Work and family responsibilities mean I am always over-extended, and less flexible and more frazzled than my boyfriend. He is always taking care of me and I am uncomfortable with this imbalance. What to do? | 5,784 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17M] need serious help with a girl [17F]
POST: So I was good friends with this girl for about half a year or so and I fell in love with her. Long story short about a week ago I decided to tell her how I felt about her to which she said she does feel like there is something there, but doesn't want to jeopardize our friendship and we should just remain friends.
At the time I thought that was okay and that I would be fine with that, but as the weeks gone on I've realized that I don't think I can see her as just a friend in my eyes anymore. I'm still crazy in love with her, I know I gotta just let the feelings go but I can't, I don't know how to. Whenever I look at her I see a girl that i'm madly in love with, not just a friend.
I really need some advice or something I don't know what to do, I don't want to lose her as a friend, but I'm also still not over her, I love her too much.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Cant see this girl that I used to be good friends with as only friends anymore, but still don't want to lose her as a friend. | Cant see this girl that I used to be good friends with as only friends anymore, but still don't want to lose her as a friend. | 4,395 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Happy, successful people of Reddit, How did you get to where you are now?
POST: I'm 23 years old and I have no idea of what i'm going to do with my life. I went to school for Architecture and i'm not even sure if I made the right choice. I'm working at a small architecture firm near my house, I still live with my parents, and I feel unhappy. My boyfriend is going off to grad school and my friends are either doing the same or having these awesome adventures.
Meanwhile I feel stuck. The happiest I've been is when I studied abroad in Italy for three months. My boyfriend asked me to join him in California, but I know I shouldn't go just for him.
I'm not asking for relationship advice, I'm asking for life advice. I would like to go to grad school but I'm afraid of the costs that would come with that. I want to go to Cali but i'm afraid of making the wrong choices. I feel like I wasted my college years and I feel like I haven't learned enough (not because I partied or anything, I really feel if I didn't have to commute two hours carrying my model and supplies and have a part time job on the weekends and evenings at the same time, I could have made better work)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 23 years old, depressed, wondering if I wasted my time in college by studying the wrong field, not feeling satisfied with life | 23 years old, depressed, wondering if I wasted my time in college by studying the wrong field, not feeling satisfied with life | 6,411 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [16M] am quickly beginning to lose my patience with my Mother [45F] and Sister [20F]
POST: First post, sorry for any fuck ups. Ok, I'm a 16 year old kid and I live with my mother and my sister and for the last 3-4 months I've began to enjoy my home life less and less.
Don't get me wrong, there's by no means any abuse or anything like that but my family are constantly talking (to me and behind my back) about how much I'm a failure, and I'm not going to achieve anything in life.
For example I've wanted to get into a trade (thinking sparky) for about 6 months now, about a month ago she got my report card in the mail (less than good) and absolutely freaked out, stormed into my room at 7 in the morning and told me she was pulling me out of school because I was "too fucking dumb" to go anymore, and also told me that I was to much of a lazy prick to get a trade so I'd have to go work a retail job for the rest of my life (No).
But then, when I began calling some companies about starting an apprenticeship she told me there was no way in hell I was dropping out and I was staying until year 12.
It's gotten to the point where I don't enjoy talking to them, I recently started dating a girl (first girlfriend) and my sister and mother laughed, told me that I was going to realise sex is nothing like porn and that she would leave me.
And so much other shit that would take me hours to write, I love my family, but I don't think I like them and I'm worried that I'm going to say something very stupid very soon.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my family doesn't talk to me anymore, they just tell me I'm a shitty person and I'm at the end of my rope. | my family doesn't talk to me anymore, they just tell me I'm a shitty person and I'm at the end of my rope. | 3,220 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19M] slept with my ex after not seeing her for 9 months [19F]
POST: I havent seen my ex since last july when we broke up. We talked a few times through facebook since them. As of recently, we have been talking more. I ask her if she wants to catch up soon, and she says yes. My parents also happen to be away this weekend, so I invited her over.
We wound up talking for hours about college, life, we also smoked a considerable amount of weed. So, we were watching netflix and I notice out of the corner of my eye that she keeps staring at me. Finally I look at her and then yeah, what happened is history.
We cuddled for a while and talked more, it just felt like nothing really changed since we broke up, like those feelings were still there almost and that we both knew it. She even said she doesnt understand why she keeps ending up in the same place (with me), we've known each other since we were 12. I just dont even know what to make of this, because were hanging out again tonight.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Slept with my ex girlfriend, we clicked and its like the feelings never left. Dont know what to make of this | Slept with my ex girlfriend, we clicked and its like the feelings never left. Dont know what to make of this | 3,265 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: [27 M] with my friend [24 F] of 2.5 years, can't tell if she wants to just be good friends or something else.
POST: My friend has a cheerful and flirty personality, and lately we have been spending more time together. She is usually the one setting up these platonic hang-outs. I genuinely enjoy her company, and am satisfied with being just her platonic friend. However, I've always found her stunningly gorgeous, and have often day-dreamed about what it would be like to make out with her. But I've always held back, not wanting to ruin a meaningful friendship.
Today she asked what my plans were for the evening, and after telling her my two options, she said, "ok I may join you at either place" And recently, she's made it a point to tell me when she's made out with someone, which I suspect might be a move to make me jealous.
Am I being oblivious? Does she want more, or does she just want to be good friends? Would I ruin a friendship by attempting to kiss her if the moment is right?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Can't tell if my female friend wants to be more. I want to make out with her, but don't want to ruin the friendship. What should I do? | Can't tell if my female friend wants to be more. I want to make out with her, but don't want to ruin the friendship. What should I do? | 1,455 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [20F] SO [20M] of seven months (whom I live with), has been emotionally cheating on me for what seems like the duration of our relationship.
POST: A bit of a backstory: was in a shitty relationship for 4 years. Basically verbally/physically abused. Have horrible trust issues. Finally am able to leave this hell hole and meet someone who appears to appreciate me very much, until...
I find myself, and my personality, to be attractive. I have (and still do) had many guys want to date, be in a relationship w/ me, etc.. Which is great and all. However, I finally found someone who I thought I could TRUST and confide in, until about 5 hours ago, when I felt the need to check his Facebook messages (mind you, for the first time in our relationship), to find a shit show of flirtatious remarks to other girls including: "I like your big fake tits" and "send me some pics in lingerie", and of course, "I want to bang you again". I feel like absolute shit, and I've never been so hurt. Basically reamed my SO out and gave him the option to leave me, and he didn't want to. I don't know whether to end it or keep it going longer to see if I can trust him again?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Finally thought I found someone I could trust, turns out he has been emotionally cheating on me the WHOLE time, don't know whether to end it or not. Am I stupid? | Finally thought I found someone I could trust, turns out he has been emotionally cheating on me the WHOLE time, don't know whether to end it or not. Am I stupid? | 2,611 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 20 [M] 19 [F] Its going downhill after 14 months. I need Urgent help.
POST: I'll try to make this short.
I'm currently with a women, whome I've been with for 14 months, she has taken my 2 year old under her wing when we have him (Different relationship with 50/50 care). She lives with me and my parents, her parents live roughly an hour away and the town we live in, she knows barely anyone.
Lately thing have been.. different... when i use to wake up, i would love to wake up beside her and she loved being with me and my son. Lately though, she has been different, here is a list of things.
1. She spends almost all her time on her phone on facebook messaging people when we're around eachother.
2. She complains when i have my son and he has a bad nights sleep because she doesn't get to sleep much (He's in a bed in our room for now).
3. She doesn't trust me to go anywhere on my own (She has verbally said that to me)
4. She doesn't like me talking to anyone.
5. I had a few friends before the relationship. Now no one comes near me, and she's always talking bad about them.
Honestly, i use to love waking up and spending my time with here. Now i try my best to avoid interaction. I keep telling myself i need to leave her so that i can be happy, but i worry that my Son will miss her. I also don't just want to kick her out on the street with no where to go.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Partner "Adopts" my son, I've lost all my friends and don't feel that i love her but i don't want her to have no where to go. | Partner "Adopts" my son, I've lost all my friends and don't feel that i love her but i don't want her to have no where to go. | 2,809 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Partner [F51]just let me know [M37] that she lost a first trimester baby when her ex punched her in the stomach.
POST: Hi :)
This is an LDR of almost 1 year at the moment.
Tonight, in a rather overtired (unable to sleep) and low mood, my partner confessed that many years ago her partner punched her hard in the stomach and killed her ~3 month old baby. (She has two other kids 26 and 28.) She also told her daughter earlier the same night, and her daughter said I would be mad at her.
I'm not mad. I have no reason to be. Perhaps slightly disappointed she told her daughter first, but her daughter kinda forced it out of her whereas I'm happy to wait for when she feels ready to tell me about these things.
She did say it was a gall bladder operation beforehand; but I can understand that the feeling of grief for this must be very hard to bear at times for a mother. I'm just not sure why she is worried about me knowing?
Is there any special advice you may have for how to help support her? We're about to be reunited in a couple of weeks and are feverishly working on our migration applications; which may have triggered this anxiety in her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Partner confessed of losing a baby when punched. Originally said it was a gall bladder operation. Was scared I'd be angry, but I'm not. Not sure why she'd think that. | Partner confessed of losing a baby when punched. Originally said it was a gall bladder operation. Was scared I'd be angry, but I'm not. Not sure why she'd think that. | 1,425 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25M] thinking about ending a seemingly non-problematic relationship with [26F] gf of 2 years
POST: Here's my story:
About two years ago my ex girlfriend of many years broke up with me due to LDR. Naturally I was quite devastated and had this massive hole in me which needed to be filled badly. This is where my current gf comes in. We started seeing eachother a few month after my break up and things started progressing. At this point I wasn't sure if I wanted that but she was somewhat pushy and I accepted it thinking that I'd give it a change and see what happens. Fast forwards 2 years - I don't feel anything special about her. We don't fight, everything is normal and I enjoy her company most of the time, but she might as well be my sister. Furthermore, we live together which means that I have very little personal space and I'm feeling like strangled.
That's why I've been thinking of enidng it for a few months now but I can't gather the courage. What bugs me is the fact that everything is normal between us and when I decide to break up with her it will be like a shock... one day we go outside, meet friend, etc and the other "hey we're breaking up". I just seems weird to me.
I don't know if I'm looking for an advice. Maybe I just wanted to put my thoughts into writing. Thanks for reading.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Thinking of breaking up with gf because I feel nothing for her, but don't know how to bring the topic up. | Thinking of breaking up with gf because I feel nothing for her, but don't know how to bring the topic up. | 2,413 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: The Break Up: Should I have hope or just move on...
POST: So my bf and I have been in a relationship for eight months, friends for a couple of years.
I wasn't happy with how the relationship was progressing so sent him this message:
*I feel like us being together isn't working. I don't think you'll ever like me as much as I want you to. I know I can't change you, but I really thought that by now we would be much more closer to each other.
I feel like I'm a girl you hang around, I don't feel like a girlfriend. I don't feel special and I've been trying to hold back my feelings of love cos I don't want to put them out there and find out that you don't share them.
I just don't see the point. I want a boyfriend who can express his feelings, I know you've been hurt before, but I thought you would get over that, that you would know you could trust me and maybe even fall in love with me.
But I can't wait forever and I don't sense things changing anytime soon.
Please can you tell me how you feel, otherwise we should just go our seperate ways.*
He replies with this:
*To tell the truth i kind of agree with you. I've been thinking about it lately and trying to figure out why i haven't been able to open up and it's certainly not fair on you to let things go on the way they are. I thought that i would, given time, fall in love with you, but you shouldn't have to wait around for that. I do like you a lot and i don't understand why i don't feel the same way as you. You're beautiful, intelligent, funny and you deserve better. I'm sorry if i hurt you and i don't blame you for wanting to break it off.*
We talked on the phone and he said that he really liked me but wasn't in love :(
Do you think I should just stay friends and hope that maybe he will see in my a different light?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Wasn't happy with how intimate relationship was not getting, found out boyfriend wasn't in love with me ... do you think I have a chance in the future. | Wasn't happy with how intimate relationship was not getting, found out boyfriend wasn't in love with me ... do you think I have a chance in the future. | 6,231 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: A friend thinks I'm a better friend than I am, he's also asked me for money
POST: I'm going to try to keep this short, but we'll call my friend Mike (25/M) -- I am also 25, and a male. Mike and I went to school together and he didn't have too many friends. So I was nice to him, I talked to him, and we got a long. But we never hung out outside of school. Now, almost 8 years later -- I haven't seen him since. But he'll occasionally message me online (always the initiator). I stay in touch to be nice.
He's had a hard time. Both parents have died recently, and he's come into some really unfortunate legal troubles. Recently, he's asked me for financial help. If I was a rich person, I'd be happy to help -- because he's been falsely accused of a crime, he's *very* talented at what he does, and I can rapidly see that talent going to waste in the face of financial hardship and stress.
But I *don't* really have the money, and I can't afford to help. Sure, I have money saved up....but I have my own burdens and financial stresses. If this was one of my best friends I would give all I could in a heartbeat, but how do I let Mike down without sounding like a jerk or feeling bad?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Highschool friend thinks I'm his best friend because I was nice to him over the years. Is now asking for money to help with legal troubles. How do I say no without seeming like a dick / Crushing his spirit? | Highschool friend thinks I'm his best friend because I was nice to him over the years. Is now asking for money to help with legal troubles. How do I say no without seeming like a dick / Crushing his spirit? | 5,793 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my [24 F] hopefully more than one date
POST: Recently, I met someone from an smartphone dating app (not tinder, but similar). We talked for a few days and realized we had a lot of similar interests so we decided to meet up yesterday. We both had a great afternoon and she's someone I'd really like to get closer with. Only problem is she lives 60 miles away, so close enough for a day trip but a little too far just to go for dinner or something like that. I dont live in a major city either and 60 miles is a few counties over.
My question is how can I get to the next level with her despite living an hour away? I dont mind driving but at this point we're still getting to know each other and have to be doing some kind of planned activity to feel comfortable, which is difficult to coordinate when you dont live in the same place and are two busy people.
Any advice is appreciated!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Met a girl I really like and get along great with. She lives an hour drive away. How should I go about the initial dating stage? | Met a girl I really like and get along great with. She lives an hour drive away. How should I go about the initial dating stage? | 618 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [17M] having issues with my ex [18F] changing her mind
POST: Me and this girl were best friends for probably a year. I had always had a little crush on her but nothing serious at all. Eventually, things happened and we both started to want more. However, before anything serious happened, she ended it with the stay friends thing. Then she wanted to try it again. Long story short, she did the same thing again after she was actually my girlfriend for a while. I gave her another chance too and the same thing happened again. She's an important person in my life that i dont want to lose but i dont know what else to do besides ignore her. She's also in 4 of my classes too so thats hard.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I really like this girl a lot, but she keeps going back and forth between friends and dating. What do i do? | I really like this girl a lot, but she keeps going back and forth between friends and dating. What do i do? | 2,737 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (22 M) and roommate (22 F) fooled around the last two days. She has a boyfriend, he knows.
POST: I'm completely lost here.
My roommate has been one of my best friends for 4 years now, I used to live with her boyfriend and around that time they started dating, perfect couple since then.
Near the one of last year I realized I probably had some dumb feelings for her, I've been battling with depression and anxiety for a while and she's been the rock that helped me get trough most of it. I might have gotten a bit attached after that.
About a month ago we were talking trough some stuff and I broke. I told her I loved her, how bad I felt for that and stuff like that. We tried to work it out the best we could.
She moved out today (unrelated) and we talked a lot during this past week, she told me that she loved me too but she couldn't do anything about it, she had to think about her boyfriend and how everything affected him. We ended up getting a bit to close and heated, there were some neck kisses, some rubbing, it was definitely not ok. But we liked it. She said she was ok with it, but we should stop, there were other people to think of.
The same thing happened today but apparently our roommate hear something and got suspicious, he heard some of our talks and "accidentally" read some stuff on my Facebook inbox (he uses my PC regularly). He had a talk with her, we don't know what to do.
I love her, I really do, she helped me out with so much and has been the only consistent happy part of my life for a while. I don't want to lose her and she tells me the same, she said she was going to talk to her boyfriend today and hasn't responded my texts for a while now. I don't know what to do, my anxiety is kicking in and I'm in a really bad place with some intrusive thoughts right now.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Fooled around with my best friend and roommate, told her I loved her. She has boyfriend and is probably telling him right now. I am desperate. | Fooled around with my best friend and roommate, told her I loved her. She has boyfriend and is probably telling him right now. I am desperate. | 217 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Help me Reddi-wan Kenobi, you're my only hope :(
POST: Ok, so in the grand scheme of things this may seem like a rather insignificant little problem, but its the most troubling thing for me in my life at the moment apart from my studies.
So I'm in high school, 11th grade, a sophomore basically (not sure if sophomore or senior, Aussie here) and I have a girlfriend. Yeah, I know, how silly of me. The thing is, I really like this girl, but she seems to be way more into this relationship than I am. I am considering breaking up with her but then it would be so awkward for both of us as we are in the same class together for Biology and do our experiments and what-not together. She is also very emotionally unstable at this point, very conscious of her weight, has been known to cut herself and doesnt have a very good relationship with her parents. Anybody who is or has been in a similar situation please, you're my only hope.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have a sort of psycho girlfriend who I dont really fancy as a partner anymore. How do I go about breaking up in the least harmful way? | I have a sort of psycho girlfriend who I dont really fancy as a partner anymore. How do I go about breaking up in the least harmful way? | 1,600 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How is this still such a common problem? (technologically impaired "experts")
POST: I'm appalled by the lack of knowledge that people in consumer electronics and services have. I remember selling TVs over 10 years ago and one time I was explaining to a customer the difference between AV cables and why he wanted component video for the 1080i flat glass hdtv I was trying to sell him since it was the best picture at the time.
I had another customer interrupt us and correct me that s-video was the best. I explained the difference between the two and he still argued that s-video was better than component video for an hdtv and he should know, he works for Time Warner and was trained on this. This went on for 10 minutes. I wanted to beat my head against a wall.
Fast forward a decade to today, and my downstairs neighbor just told me that "a Time Warner guy fixed his hook up." I asked what he meant cus I already set up his whole home theater myself. He said the technician replaced his hdmi cables with component video cables because "hdmi is garbage and component video is the best." *face palm* It's so messed up now, it'll take me forever to fix it all.
How is this possible? How are these "industry experts" so uneducated? It's not even like they're just uneducated on brand new technology. We're talking stuff that's been around for years now.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How many people out there aren't getting the most out of their home theater because of dumb cable company workers and store employees? | How many people out there aren't getting the most out of their home theater because of dumb cable company workers and store employees? | 4,386 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: I (24, female) found out that my boyfriend (23, male) responded to a male seeking male casual encounters ad on Craigslist while out of town. Advice needed!
POST: Background info: He and I have been dating for a little over 6 months. Basically fell head over heels, and moved in quickly together. We had plans to move to a new city in August where I will be starting my first year in law school. We have an apartment reserved and everything is taken care of. I have never had any suspicions and he treats me better than anyone I've ever been with. He makes me feel beautiful and worthy of companionship.
A couple of weeks ago he was sent out of state on a short 5 day business trip. He works for a retail company and was helping to set up a new store.
Since his return, he's just been a little off. I felt horrible (and still do) but I did something shitty and went through his phone.
Found out he had responded to a man looking for man casual encounters ad on craigslist. His email sounded very comfortable, as he knew the acronyms and typical format. He sent it the day he got out of town. The man responded 3 days later, to which my boyfriend offered to host. There is no other communication that I could find.
When I confronted him, he said that he has no idea why he even responded to the ad. He said he didn't want to actually meet up, but had the urge to talk to someone online only. He claims that what I have read is the only communication he had and that he has never physically cheated on me. He also said that this is the only instance where he was interested in talking to a man sexually.
I have no idea what to do. I love and care about him deeply and I have never connected so easily with anyone. I do not know what to believe and whether what he is saying is bullshit.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Caught boyfriend responding to ad for sex with a man while away on business. I am happy for the first time and have no idea whether to work through this or walk way | Caught boyfriend responding to ad for sex with a man while away on business. I am happy for the first time and have no idea whether to work through this or walk way | 584 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I [25/F] go about this when he [29/M] has his heart set on somewhere else?
POST: He is from the Northeast and I am from the South. We started dating December 2012. He is here in the South for medical residency. We got along so well. Had so much in common, laughed at everything, and always wanted to be with each other as much as we could. We just clicked right off the bat. Then we had a misunderstanding in February 2013 and we parted ways.
2 months go by and I contact him again because I still had feelings for him and wanted to know how he was doing. I didn't expect him to agree to hang out with me again but he did. We hung out and picked up right where we left off, laughing, joking, teasing and flirting with each other. Later that night he makes the first move and kisses me and then asks to see me again.
He hangs out with me all day the second time. We are now holding hands and freely showing affection. During this time I find out he has his heart set on living in the West Coast and that he will be in Europe for a month. He then asks me to hang out for the third time.
We hang out the third time and I'm trying to figure out how I was going to tell him I had feelings for him still since he was leaving for Europe the next day. I also saw certification paperwork in his luggage for the West Coast, which I probably wasn't suppose to see. So later that night I tell him how I feel and I'm crying because I'm upset. He feels the same way about me and is tearing up too. Tells me "I don't know what is going to happen between us, we should keep in touch and you can visit me wherever I am." He leaves the next day and says "I miss you and I'll be thinking of you."
I know we didn't date for long but I wouldn't depreciate it because it was short. When you know, you just know. I feel like he'll be the one that got away. I just feel like a month away from someone is enough to make him forget about me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Got in touch again with a guy I had been dating earlier this year because I still had feelings for him. He makes the first move and kisses me and initiates hanging out with me 2 more times. | Got in touch again with a guy I had been dating earlier this year because I still had feelings for him. He makes the first move and kisses me and initiates hanging out with me 2 more times. | 1,389 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: I broke 23 minutes for a 5k on my HS XC team!
POST: I'm a sophomore and this is my first year running cross country so I'm pretty out of shape. In fact, there's freshman runners on my team who are faster/better, but that doesn't matter I suppose. My first 5k time was 23:30 and I felt like I wasn't getting better at all considering I got worse on a meet called Garret Mountain in NJ (My time was 23:57) :(
I told my friend that I was going to go under 23 minutes this race and I did it. About 200 meters before the finish line someone who obviously seemed to want to pass me ran up to me and passed me slowly. I thought to myself that I would let it happen considering how tired I was. My teammates cheered me on and it's probably thanks to them that I ran as fast as I could and past him, getting a time of 22:59.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | been stuck on 23 for too long but then i gave a kid the kick kick giddyup and had 1 second to spare | been stuck on 23 for too long but then i gave a kid the kick kick giddyup and had 1 second to spare | 5,802 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17 M] want to finally ask the girl [17 F] I've been dating for the past month to be my girlfriend. I wasn't nervous until her friends said that I NEED to do something crazy romantic. I'm nervous and don't know what to do.
POST: She knows I'm going to ask, because I told her I would ask very soon. But basically her friends are putting a ton of pressure on me to do something crazy and romantic.
She is absolutely amazing and I want to make it special, but I need some help. Her friends just keep telling stories about how their friends were asked out so they can't help.
She likes cheesy and romantic but I don't want to do cliche because I feel like she's better than just a cliche :)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Need help asking the girl i'm dating to be my girlfriend, can't think of an idea that I think is perfect for her. | Need help asking the girl i'm dating to be my girlfriend, can't think of an idea that I think is perfect for her. | 5,890 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Do airline companies have the ability to customize terminals or does the airport control which stores, restaurants, and other types of amenities are found throughout the building?
POST: My roommates just got into a fight about whether or not airlines are given the right to customize terminals.
One person was arguing that since airlines are leasing the spots, they essentially own the terminal and they are allowed to make whatever changes they desire. For example, they explained that Terminal D in Dallas International Airport (DFW) provided better amenities - such as more stores, better seats, more charging stations, etc. -as a result of the terminal being "owned" by American Airlines.
My other roommate was arguing that those differences in amenities existed only because the airport owners realized that terminals owned by specific airlines might generate more/less traffic than others. While some of the bigger airlines might be housed in terminals with better amenities, they are paying for that right, and were not the ones who provided/created those amenities in the first place. He was also convinced that most airports (such as DFW) amenities such as number/quality of chairs, amount of charging stations, and availability of televisions is pretty much standard across the entire airport.
I have never really thought about this before, and I have no knowledge on the subject since I typically use the same airports for most of my travels and never pay too much attention. However, that being said, I have never really noticed a difference in between terminals, especially at DFW, and I am going to have to believe my first roommate is wrong.
I was wondering if there were any Reddit users out there who could shine some light on this argument? I know this may seem dumb, but after a few drinks, my roommates are not ready to back down until one of them is determined the king.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | One roommate is convinced that airlines provide specific amenities in specific terminals since they "own" their terminals and are in control, while the other believes that those differences are either non-existent or are controlled by airport owners. | One roommate is convinced that airlines provide specific amenities in specific terminals since they "own" their terminals and are in control, while the other believes that those differences are either non-existent or are controlled by airport owners. | 5,679 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [29 M] am thinking of leaving my wife [28 f] but I am not sure if I can.
POST: I love my wife ... I think. I honestly couldn't tell you anymore if I do or not. I know I love my family and my life and sometimes that's enough but sometimes it isn't .
First I am not sure if I really want to leave her or not . When we are fighting It is sometimes all I can think about but I am angry and I try not to make decisions when I am angry. Then when everything is going alright I weigh the pros and cons of leaving and I always end up settling on staying but very rarely because I love my wife .
I don't like the idea of not being a dad everyday. We have two children ages [10 f] and [5 m] and I love being with them everyday so I don't Know if I could handle being an every other weekend dad ( not that there is anything wrong with that). Joint custody would be great but I think would be very hard to get my Wife to agree to.
Also financially it is terrifying I already don't make a huge amount of money so adding child support onto that I would be able to afford an efficiency apartment and that's about it.
I also have absolutely no support I am estranged from my family for reasons to long to get into here but even if i wasn't I am the most well off of any of them so they simply wouldn't be able to afford to help.
lastly I am not even sure if leaving is really what I want. Yes, when things are bad they are VERY bad, not physical but definitely my own personal version of hell. However when things are good the are OK not great but after almost 12 years OK is all I ask. I don't want to leave just to find out that being alone or with someone else isn't what I want either. I am just kind of lost
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I think I want to leave my wife but for parental, financial, and fear I don't Know if I should/could leave | I think I want to leave my wife but for parental, financial, and fear I don't Know if I should/could leave | 111 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19/F] with my mum [39/F], the light bill's in my name but I want to move out. How do I go about that without her freaking out?
POST: So, my mum is kinda bad with money. Like, really, REALLY bad with money. She is hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt thanks to an old house she bought and then stopped paying for completely, and she owes pretty much every company you could possibly think of more money than I can fathom.
We moved out of our house a year ago and into a tiny apartment when the house finally got repossessed. Since my mum owed the electric company several hundred dollars, she convinced me to put the bill in my name, even though I had no job at the time. She said it would help me build credit and that she'd make sure it got paid on time, so, being just barely 18 and stupid, I believed her.
Recently, things have gotten pretty bad at our house, with her letting my older brother move in and live for free and pretty much trash the place, and since I have a job now I was considering trying to get my own place. There's also the matter of her starting to get behind on payments, no matter how much I give her from my paychecks, so I'm worried about her racking up debt on me. I just was wondering, what should I do about the lights? And how would I bring it up to her? She gets a bit vicious at even the slightest mention of me being independent (she flipped when she heard I would start paying for my dogs' food) so I was wondering what the best way to broach the subject would be, if at all?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Mom convinced me to put light bill in my name, started goofing up again, want to move out but don't really know what to do | Mom convinced me to put light bill in my name, started goofing up again, want to move out but don't really know what to do | 5,406 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Break up or open relationship?
POST: Me-20, him 23. Dating for a year. We're both in college and we were just about to move in together this summer. Unfortunately some hidden events during our relationship are coming up. There have been four instances where he's been unfaithful. They go as follows:
1. When we started dating he left out the fact that he was still dating his last girlfriend.
2. He sexted with two of his exes a few months into our relationship after we had established our relationship boundaries about that sort of thing.
3. He slept with one of his exes over our winter break from college (which I just found out about)
4. He used his own money to recently purchase some sex toys for another ex.
I'm at my wits end here. I love this guy a lot and other than those things he really is a great boyfriend. I'm asking you all if an open relationship would solve these issues or if I should just call it quits. I'm just so tired of having my trust broken again and again.
What do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend of a year won't stop cheating, would an open relationship get this out of his system so we can be committed later? | Boyfriend of a year won't stop cheating, would an open relationship get this out of his system so we can be committed later? | 3,827 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: So my best guy friend of about 4 months (20M ) and my best friend of about 1 year/roommate (20, gender queer female), hooked up last night...
POST: I (20,F) am confused about how I should feel...
So after an awkward kickback last night, at which I was the 3rd wheel on the couch, two of my best friends spontaneously hooked up. My roommate has a reputation for being promiscuous, and my best guy friend hasn't had any in awhile. There had never (that I had noticed) been any flirting between them. Of course, both were drunk, and I was kept up all night as they humped the night away.
Strangely, that was not what bothered me the most. I have been in a relatively happy relationship for the past 8 months, and I love my boyfriend (19,M) very much, but I found myself quite jealous.
There are a few reasons why it could be..
* When I first met my guy friend, he was the one who flirted with me. And he has been showing many signs of feelings towards me since we met. Now, all of a sudden, he hooks up with my roommate. I could just be caught off guard.
* My boyfriend, while very sweet and loving, has commitment issues and has struggled to accept the fact that he has a girlfriend. He has gotten much better and treats me well, except he shows a lot of reluctance in the bedroom. I feel like I am always the one initiating sex, and he rarely shows any sign of sexual wanting for me. I am just butthurt that they're getting if off and i'm not.
* I am starting to develop feelings for my best guy friend while in a committed relationship and I am legitimately jealous.
I would love some help trying to sort this out. Thanks, Reddit!!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Best guy friend and best friend/roommate drunkenly and randomly hooked up. I, while in a committed and happy relationship, feel jealous. Need help figuring out why and what to do next. | Best guy friend and best friend/roommate drunkenly and randomly hooked up. I, while in a committed and happy relationship, feel jealous. Need help figuring out why and what to do next. | 3,318 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by hitting on a girl at the gym
POST: This actually happened the other day. I am a regular at the big box gym here in town and have been for years. I also almost invariably go there early in the morning on the same days as I've made friends with a lot of the other guys that are there at the same time.
So over the past few months I've noticed a new girl that seems to be on the same schedule as me. She's very fit and athletic looking. She is often wearing shirts for one of the private universities in the state, so I'm figuring she must be a former college athlete coming in before work. She doesn't really talk to anyone, but I've noticed her looking at me a few times.
The other day, I was finishing up my workout and getting ready to go, when I saw that she was set up behind a booth for one of the health/vitamin stores giving out free samples and what not. So, I stopped by the table before I left and chatted her up a bit. In the end, I said we should hang out sometime and then got her number. Score! Or so I thought.
Now, I should mention that I just turned 30. I do, however, look much younger than that as I'm in really good shape and well, genetics.
Anyways, I was about to text her yesterday to set up a time to hang out, but first out of curiosity I decided to look her up on social media...and here's the fuck up. It turns out she is an athlete. A high school athlete. Needless to say, but I did not text her, and I probably need to find a new gym.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Hit on a cute chick from the gym and got her number. Turns out she's still in high school and now I just feel like a creeper. | Hit on a cute chick from the gym and got her number. Turns out she's still in high school and now I just feel like a creeper. | 5,800 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I (19m) and (23f) have a weird flirty friendship
POST: So I have known my friend (let's call her L) for around a year and a half now give or take a few months, and have gotten on reasonably well apart from a few random fallouts over nothing really that didn't last more than a week or so.
So I never actually noticed it until someone pointed it out to me that she flirts a bit with me and I do back though I don't realise it at all.
Not long after someone pointed it out to me I realised all the things that I had missed, such as: if we on a night out, she'd always want me to come and dance with her, we'd walk to the next place together, sometimes holding hands (never though into that before as I know a few girls that do it to make them feel safe or whatever) but it was only me she would.
Disclosure for this bit: I have no idea if this actually happened, though a few people have said it did. Never bought this up with her since this happened
We were out, met up with L, in a club when she got into town, APPARENTLY we kissed, though I have no recollection of this happening, and nothing has been said since.
Since then, we will talk in work and it's like normal, but outside of work, I hear nothing from her anymore unless I see her. Yet we will go and get lunch together on our own if we have the same break at work.
I do actually like L a lot, but I don't know what's ever going though her head.
One thing of note is she hasn't had a so in a long time for whatever reason, maybe that's why she's so evasive?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | know a girl from work, quite flirty, after apparent kiss nothing has been the same outside of work though in work it's fine. | know a girl from work, quite flirty, after apparent kiss nothing has been the same outside of work though in work it's fine. | 4,153 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My wife [26 F] and I [25 M] are on uneven terms right now, and she wants to seriously discuss getting a divorce.
POST: I've never spoken about the intimate details of my relationship with anyone before, let alone online. My apologies in advance if I'm difficult to make sense of.
My wife and I have been together since I was in high school. Our relationship has never really been easy. Keeping an **extremely** long story short we now have two kids (two and three years old) and have just moved to a new city. Also worth noting, we have both suffered from depression and anxiety for many years, coupled with low self-esteem. My wife had post-partum depression after my eldest was born as well.
Part of the reason we moved was to get away from negative influences where we were living, and to help repair our struggling relationship. So far our relationship has remained stagnant, discussing divorce is coming up more frequently. Usually this is spurred on by me reacting poorly to a situation.
I'm not even sure how I feel about a divorce at this point. I've thought about it a lot over the last few years. I can see myself being a lot happier after a divorce, but I can also see my self becoming a depressed bag of shit. I'm not sure what the best course of action would be at this time.
I'm really worried about my kids too. I love them both so much, and don't want them to get hurt during all of this. It's breaking my heart thinking about what this would do to them.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Is divorce the right option for me? I feel I might be happier after a divorce, but I'm thinking working to keep our relationship going may be a better alternative. | Is divorce the right option for me? I feel I might be happier after a divorce, but I'm thinking working to keep our relationship going may be a better alternative. | 4,694 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [19F] boyfriend [19M] family is wealthy. His family is putting so much pressure on him to take over the company one day that I think he is broken. I found him crying in the bathroom last night going on about how he does not think he can do it.
POST: So Hi Reddit, I have dated my boyfriend for 2 years now and I will be honest I don't like his parents. His mother has openly refereed to me as not good enough for her son because I want to be an elementary school teacher. His father only ever addresses him and it's always about how his studies are going.
He is an only child and his father puts alot of pressure on him. Everything is a competition, everything needs to taken so seriously all the time, his father demanded he study business at college to take over the business and when he graduates he will have an " top position" whatever that means. He puts up with this because he thinks he needs his dad and moms money.
Last night I found him crying in the bathroom and he was acting so bizarre. He was hyperventilating and dry heaving, crying and kept telling me he has to man up, he has to take over the empire, he has to become the man his father is. He does not think he can do it
I really don't know what to do in this situation
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend had a breakdown last night, one of the worst I have ever seen and I don't know what to do about it | Boyfriend had a breakdown last night, one of the worst I have ever seen and I don't know what to do about it | 3,574 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Maybe a dumb question, but does home maintenance count as a reason to use the emergency fund?
POST: Obviously there's context here. Things like a frozen pipe that bursts in the winter are clearly an emergency.
But there's a lot of things I'm not sure how to classify. There are lots of costs of home ownership I *know* I will have to incur, although maybe not *when* I have to pay for them, such as:
* Furnace replacement
* Re-roofing the house
* Replacing major appliances (washer, dryer, etc)
Do these things count? Or should I be saving separately for this?
I ask, because I'm finding myself a bit spread thin; I have money auto-deducted from my paycheque that goes to building my emergency fund, savings for my annual gym membership, my RSPs (I'm Canadian - this is like IRAs), my pension, etc.
Should I be budgeting even more money for the re-roof I'll need to do in ~3-5 years, or is that what the emergency fund is for?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Known expenses of home ownership - do they get paid out from your emergency fund, or should I be saving separately for each of them as well? | Known expenses of home ownership - do they get paid out from your emergency fund, or should I be saving separately for each of them as well? | 2,620 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: After 9 months of unemployment I have been offered two different jobs but I don't know what to pick. Please help a naive graduate.
POST: I have been offered two different jobs in separate medical device companies. One job is Business Development but is basically a travelling sales job (selling lab analyzers) and the other is a Graduate program with four placements over two years.
The sales job is higher paid, with better perks (company car etc), I can work from home so I won't be paying high rent and is a permanent contract. Sales is not something that I had imagined doing in college (Majored in Biochemistry) but I think I could be good at it, however, I have heard that it is a lonely job? The company is undergoing a lot of expansion so there should be good development potential but there is a high turnover of staff and from what I have read there seems to be low morale (may not affect me if I am working from home?)
The graduate program would give me experience in a number of areas (no details yet), it has a fantastic reputation and in general people who come through it become managers within the organisation. It would be more lab based (manufacturing/QC) so probably more related to my degree but I'm not sure if I am suited to the highly regulated environment. The company is an established market leader with an excellent global reputation and treats its employees very well.
The grad program is probably the "safer" option but currently I am leaning towards the Sales job. Financially it is better and it also provides excellent networking opportunities but having said that it could be madness to turn down a really reputable grad program which arguably gives me better long term prospects.
I'm really struggling with the decision reddit. Drop some wisdom bombs on me please. What would you pick?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Got two job offers, one in medical device sales, the other is 4 placements spanning various areas (Manufacturing, QC, Reg Affairs etc) in a different medical device company and I can't pick. | Got two job offers, one in medical device sales, the other is 4 placements spanning various areas (Manufacturing, QC, Reg Affairs etc) in a different medical device company and I can't pick. | 1,745 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm (21M) and my girlfriend (19F) might be pregnant but that's a huge problem.
POST: My girlfriend is 19 and she may be pregnant.
We have been together for a year now.
She has a blood disorder and could die if she gives birth.
She doesn't want kids and I don't want kids so an abortion is highly likely.
The issue for me is that I was about to pack up and leave to go back home to live with my family.
My grandpop who I am really close with has been battling cancer and may not be around much longer.
My girlfriend and I currently live together on the west coast but my family is on the easy coast.
There are mid terms in school right now so she is already stressed out.
She is 3 weeks late on her period.
She will take a pregnancy test in a week.
She has been working out a lot recently, and has been really stressed. We think this is why she missed her period.
But she is showing signs of early pregnancy.
She has decided she is too young and does not want kids regardless of her age.
So what do I do?
Do i go home to support my family financially, mentally, spiritually and be there for my grandpop who is dying of cancer?
Or do I stay with her to support her while she takes abortion pills.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Family is having issues back home and I want to go back across the country to be with them but my girlfriend may be pregnant but will get an abortion. What do I do? | Family is having issues back home and I want to go back across the country to be with them but my girlfriend may be pregnant but will get an abortion. What do I do? | 1,236 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with [21 M] not really sure what to think
POST: I want to apologize in advance if this is in the wrong place or sounds too frivolous/needy. I'm not really sure what to think about my situation and whether I should keep talking to this guy or just let it go.
A month or so ago I started talking to this guy, really nice and he seemed genuinely interested. I probably talked to him more than I talked to my best friends. We exchanged numbers, we hung out, etc. Thing is, we haven't really hung out in person much at all. Once he came over to my house and stayed for several hours, another time we went to see a movie together. That's it. Other than that, we text and snapchat a lot but that's about it. I think it's more to do with our work schedules than anything else, but it always seems like we make plans often but never really follow through with them (playing volleyball together, going swimming, getting coffee, etc.)
Recently he's kind of been more distant though. He goes hours and even days without so much as opening one of my snapchats (he might update his story, snapchat other people, but doesn't even open mine). I also followed him on Twitter a while back and he never did follow me back. The thing is, he always seems genuinely interested in me in person. Despite all of this other stuff he seemed really excited to go to the movies with me, we talked a lot, it was like nothing had changed. Usually when he starts a conversation with me on snapchat or text he sounds like he genuinely wants to talk to me. But halfway through these conversations he just sort of stops responding and ignores me until he starts this whole process again.
Again, I really hope I don't sound too overly-attached or needy. I just don't have much experience with relationships (I've talked to quite a few guys but I've never actually been in a relationship with anyone, they all just stop talking to me after a few weeks) and I'm not sure if I should keep going with this guy or just move on at this point. What do you guys think I should do or say? Any advice you can give me would be really appreciated, thanks in advance.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Getting mixed signals from this guy I've been talking to for a while, not sure if I should keep at it or just move on. | Getting mixed signals from this guy I've been talking to for a while, not sure if I should keep at it or just move on. | 4,346 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I (27F) have a bit of a dilemma with my roommate (30M)...
POST: Throwaway cuz' I have friends on here.
I've lived with my roommate for a month and known him for as long. Long story, but I was in a bad situation and desperate to get out, he was also, so when someone recommended we be roommates, we jumped at the opportunity. Despite not knowing each other before moving in, we've realized we're a lot alike and we've actually become pretty great friends. He's a cool person and I enjoy his company.
Here's where it gets a little complicated. I've slept with him. Three times. And most nights when he gets off work, we snuggle together on the futon and watch a movie and end up falling asleep spooning. I figured we just had FWB type thing going on while we're both between GFs/BFs, so I've tried to not be weird about it and just act normally. Tonight though, while we were snuggled on the futon watching a movie, he laid his head on my lap, kissed my stomach and my thigh, then told me he loves me. I kinda tried to chuckle it off, because I figured he was high/supertired/half asleep (although I don't honestly think that he was) and didn't know what he was saying, but he asked me if I heard him then he repeated it. I just stroked his hair and told him to get some rest and he went to sleep. What do I do now? Do I pretend like he didn't say it or I didn't hear it and wait to see if he brings it up? Should ***I*** bring it up? And what do I say if he does? I seriously don't want to compromise or complicate my living situation, since I have nowhere else to go.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Roommate I've only known a month and slept with a few times said he loves me, I don't now how to react. | Roommate I've only known a month and slept with a few times said he loves me, I don't now how to react. | 1,099 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I(m24) think my newish gf(24) only wants me for sex
POST: My gf(24) if she can be called that anymore have been together bf(24) for 4 months. I have been friends with her for atleast 14 years and only hooked up with her when we both confessed we have had crushes on each other. Dont get me wrong I love sex she is by far the best I've ever had but all she wants to do is have sex and when Im not around she doesnt seem to want to talk to me or return my texts/calls. Before we did it the first time, she was amazing she was always there for me always a shoulder to lean on. Now she rushes me off the phone or doesnt return my texts unless she knows I'm around long enough to take care of her. Now Ive told her that I dont mind being friends with benefits, but she needs to stop leading me on with saying that she loves me and doesnt want anyone else. Also she flips when I hang out with other girls but again never changes her ways. I really do love her and have always figured she would be the one for me even when we were just close friends, and goddam I enjoy the sex (shes fucking amazing and way out of my league in looks and ability). Basically I just need to know what should I do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | New gf(24)/old friend only wants to have sex but doesnt want me(24) to see other people or be with her unless we are fucking. What should I do? | New gf(24)/old friend only wants to have sex but doesnt want me(24) to see other people or be with her unless we are fucking. What should I do? | 5,925 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23F] need help with accepting my [50sM] Dad's new GF.
POST: So here's back story. My mom passed away almost two years ago and it's just been Dad and I since then.
I'm working on getting out of the house soon but due to issues on both sides I've remained at home the past two years. Also felt very lost considering my Mom was my best friend in the universe.
I knew my Dad would start dating again, I just didn't think it would be so soon. Without hardly any thoughts he has taken her out and said they are officially dating the next day just this past week.
So Relationships, this is where I come to you. How can I lessen the resentment I feel? I know I cannot compare this wonderful lady to my Mom but it's very difficult... I know she would want dad to be happy and find someone else but I'm not ready for the change. I'm not sure I can ever accept her at this point.
I'm trying really hard to keep in mind that she can't replace my Mom.
Has anyone else gone through this and if so, how did you get used to the new person? Sorry if it seems silly. I just needed somewhere to go with all of it. It's been stressful on me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Lost my mom, dad is back in the dating game with a rather nice lady. Feeling emotions over this new person and need advice on how to accept them. | Lost my mom, dad is back in the dating game with a rather nice lady. Feeling emotions over this new person and need advice on how to accept them. | 4,393 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: Self-consciousness rant
POST: So I'm 18, male and live in Melbourne Australia. I weigh about 85kg and am always at that weight or +/- 1kg. I've got a bit of fat around and I'm fine with that, makes me more hugable. I know I'm not fat or obese at all, just straight up chubby. Some days I don't even think of how I look and can often go days, even weeks at a time without being self concious.
Then I'll have a change in mood caused by someone or something annoying me then I'll stare in the mirror and thinking of the excess a fat around the belly button and my man boobs. Some days I change my t-shirt just so it's not as revealing but others I couldn't care less.
I eat a pretty balanced diet, veggies almost every day, same with fruit, do quite a bit of walking which is incidental but helps to prevent extra kilos staying on.
Look reddit, I'm one of the lucky ones, I know that, I can not recognise this shit for days at a time but then I lash out on my self and think of how fat I am and blah blah blah.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm chubby and every now and then I become self concious of it and I'm now ranting on the internet to people who will have this worse than I do. | I'm chubby and every now and then I become self concious of it and I'm now ranting on the internet to people who will have this worse than I do. | 4,332 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 F] with my friend [21 F] for 5 months, realized after surgery that our friendship may not be so great after all..
POST: This is my first time posting on reddit, so bear with me!
I moved to the Northeast in August for a post-grad program that has a small class size. I became closer to a certain group of girls, I think mostly because we have similar personalities and live close to each other. I became particularly close to one girl, we'll call her Monica.
Recently I had to go to the ER and underwent emergency surgery, and I let my friends know through group text. Everyone seemed supportive and let me know that if there was anything I needed, they would be there for me. Monica was interviewing out of town the day I was in the ER, but she texted me after I had my surgery and was also supportive. The last text I sent out through the group chat was letting my friends know that I had been discharged.
It's been four days since I was in the hospital and no one, including Monica, has texted to ask how I'm doing or visited me. Maybe they thought the surgery wasn't a big deal? I don't really use text too often outside of making plans with Monica and the others when we go out each week (it's actually mostly me, Monica, and another friend in our group who go out), but I'm surprised that not even Monica has asked me how I've been doing.
My roommate, who is also in our program, asked me if anyone has visited me yet, and I told her that no one has. She felt disappointed for me, and she was surprised that even Monica, who she thought was closest to me, hasn't even texted me since I was discharged.
I understand that since we have two tests (today and tomorrow) this week they may be busy, but I still feel disappointed that none of them have bothered to ask how I am since I've been discharged. Maybe they'll text me or visit after tomorrow?
Maybe I should start becoming someone who texts a lot? But we see each other every day...lol.
Maybe I'm just looking to express my feelings about this, and I've realized that I should definitely make more friends outside of the program.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Had surgery, realized I was not as close to a friend as I thought, and now realize I should make more friends outside of my program. | Had surgery, realized I was not as close to a friend as I thought, and now realize I should make more friends outside of my program. | 2,552 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [2 7F] with my housemate [20's F] communication/space issues
POST: I live with three housemates, going on two months. One I hardly see shares a room with her sister, the housemate in question. I find it hard talking to her sister because she talks a lot about herself and often speaks over me or asks questions without giving me much time to answer them. Lately I have been feeling depressed and to get out of my funk I want to clean or cook, sometimes in unoccupied space. I would want to do things even with her around but her communication style can be a little off putting for me. She can be nice like offering rides but it's strictly based on her schedule, so not much flexibility. Is there some way to tell her that her style of communication is making it uncomfortable for me to function in the apartment?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Housemate's communication style makes me uncomfortable and I find it harder to function around the apartment with her around. Is there something I can say to her to make my stay more comfortable? | Housemate's communication style makes me uncomfortable and I find it harder to function around the apartment with her around. Is there something I can say to her to make my stay more comfortable? | 5,468 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (19m) need to figure out if my (18f) girlfriend is commited to a long term with my 'baggage'.
POST: My girlfriend and I have been together for three of the best years. We've never had a fight that has resulted in anything (i.e. where we couldn't sit down and talk about what's bothering us and either get things worked out or agree to disagree). Basically what I feel is a really healthy relationship.
We've always joked about being old and 'yelling at dumb kids' together, doing crazy things together when we're old, but never talked about getting married or anything of the serious things. However, over the last 4 or 5 months or so, she has been talking somewhat more seriously about the topic, to which I've obliged.
Here comes my problem. I recently took a management job in a field I've been involved with for a long time. This field that I'm in gives me the opportunity to (easily within the next 8-10 years) have a 6+figure income, along with many many other benefits associated with the job. However...the lifestyle is a bit demanding. I can't get into too many details regarding it because it's somewhat on the secretive side, but I can relate it to the life of a rockstar. Basically even though I'm the only one actually 'involved' it requires commitment from spouse/family.
My fears come from how my girlfriend, while supportive of myself in this lifestyle, hasn't ever shown much involvement/desire for it. She has asked lots of questions and came along with me multiple times...but I've never seen the desire to be involved. And then when I gather myself enough to try and ask her I think of how young we both are, and I don't want to 'trap' her without letting her spread her own wings. She is only my second girlfriend and I'm her first 'serious' boyfriend.
All in all, my question is: How can I ask her if she's willing to commit to learning/being involved in my work environment, one that could easily support a family within the decade, without pushing her out of my life?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I (19M) need to ask my girlfriend (18F) of three years if she is willing to commit to being involved in my lifestyle without ticking her off and getting dumped. | I (19M) need to ask my girlfriend (18F) of three years if she is willing to commit to being involved in my lifestyle without ticking her off and getting dumped. | 4,094 |
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