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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: [F24] I cheated on my boyfriend [M32] of 3 years with my coworker [M29]. POST: I had a threesome with my coworker (we'll call Travis) and a close friend of mine [F21] about two years in to my relationship with my boyfriend (we'll call Sam) and kept it a secret. After that, Travis and I kept drunkenly hooking up sporadically over the past year. Most of those hook ups would be after a night of drinking with our other coworkers and he'd bring me back to his house and we'd have sex. I broke it off for a couple of months and then we started up again. All the while, I never said anything to Sam. Eventually, Travis and I started having a semblance of feelings for each other, he more than me (ie he would ask me out to dinner or ask me when he could properly take me out and I would leave as soon as I could or just kind of dodge the question) and so I stopped it once and for all - hooray! I still have to be on talking terms with Travis (he's a decent person and I still work with them) but he's not talking to me. Also Sam is none the wise but Sam and I are getting more serious in our relationship and I think he's the person I want to marry. What do I do? TL;DR: . Assistant:	I had some drunken hookups with a coworker over the past year until it got weird. I never told my boyfriend. What do I do?	I had some drunken hookups with a coworker over the past year until it got weird. I never told my boyfriend. What do I do?	3,809
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice TITLE: Finally ended college studies, what should I do now? Look for work or keep studying? POST: Hi all, first time posting here... I recently ended studying but honestly I feel like I don't know much, even if I have the best grade in the generation of the engineering school where I studied. I studied Software Engineering, and I have an interest in Artificial Intelligence. I could, with my current knowledge, look for work to do stuff like development of applications like management, mobile apps, accounting, etc. A bunch of boring stuff... Or I could keep studying to aim for a bigger goal, I have a strong interest in AI, NASA, AEM, but I feel not smart enough to search for that. I don't know anybody in the field, and I'm not from the US. I'm 25 years old, living with my fiance. If I keep studying, I can try to get a scholarship but it's not guaranteed to get one, and the school I want to go is in another state of my country, so I'll have heavy expences if I go that way, and my fiance just have highschool finished, so he won't get a very good job. My fear is that if I get a job right now, I'll be there more time than I want (settlement, conform), and I'll be condemned to a cubicule for the rest of my life, doing boring stuff (it's really not easy to get a good job here). And if I study, maybe I won't be able to pay the whole thing, and at the end maybe studying AI won't help me at all, and I won't be able to get a job with that, at least not in this country. So here I am, not deciding on what to do. I have until march to decide to actually keep studying. What would you do? There's points in favor of each thing, and I'm confused. :) Thank you in advance. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Keep studying to aim for bigger goals (specialization in a field)? or get a job right now and try to make my way up from there?	Keep studying to aim for bigger goals (specialization in a field)? or get a job right now and try to make my way up from there?	4,591
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [27 M] with my [25 F] 6 years, she seems to hate my friends POST: To preface, in most cases my girlfriend is a sweetheart. She always goes out of her way for me and thinks about me. I love her for that. I get along really well with her friends. My issues stem from the way she treats MY friends. My guy friends typically need to roll the dice as to whether or not they are in her favor. Right now they are, but earlier in the relationship they were the devil. My friends that are girls can't catch a break. They do nothing to offend her (even going out of their way to be nice) and yet they are nailed to the wall for ANY slight towards my girlfriend. I wanted to say jealousy, but most of them are in happy relationships and things are totally plutonic for the rest. I've tried talking to her about it but she tells me that they've done "horrible things", (not necessarily to her) and that I'm always taking their side against her opinion. It's made my outlook on things really sour, as it's extremely difficult to have her hanging around with my friends. My friends have basically all told me in private that it's ok if I bring her around, it just puts a downer on the night. I hang otu with them without her now, but I get complaints from her that I spend more time with them than her. TL;DR: . Assistant:	My girlfriend has caused issues with my friends and now my relationship seems strained, but I love her. What can I do?	My girlfriend has caused issues with my friends and now my relationship seems strained, but I love her. What can I do?	5,203
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [18M] with my "friend" [17M], I don't like him, but he is considering doing the same study as I will next year. How do I tell him I don't want to be friends with him? POST: Firstly, sorry for the title, I couldn't really think of a short way to say this, so I hope this will do. Now for my problem: this guy, Matt, is someone who I really don't want to be friends with. He is annoying, he isn't social, he smells like death and he just isn't a guy I want to hang out with, so I don't. He doesn't really have any other friends either. But here's the problem: Matt thinks we are friends, which I don't want to be. At first I didn't think of it as a problem, because school will only last a few more months and I can put up with him for that time, but now he told me he wants to de the same study as I am going to do. Now, in my country, there are two major universities and I already picked the one I want to go to, while Matt hasn't yet. I am very afraid he will go to the same university as I will. This may sound asshole-ish, but I really don't want to talk to him anymore after this school year, even if he does choose the same uni (which I can't stop in any way and don't want to either, I'm not that much of an asshole). I am very afraid he will be a burden if we are going to the same university, because he is very clingy and I don't really want to be associated with him. So, how do I tell him this without sounding like a giant asshole? TL;DR: . Assistant:	a guy I don't like, but thinks he is my friend, may go to the same university as I will go to. How do I tell him I don't want to be his friend?	a guy I don't like, but thinks he is my friend, may go to the same university as I will go to. How do I tell him I don't want to be his friend?	6,384
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [21/F] having a hard time maintaining friendships. I think I forgot how to have friends? POST: Hi r/relationships! I am a 21 year old female and ever since leaving high school, I feel like it has become impossible for me to keep friendships. Up until age 16/17 I was generally liked in school and had a few extremely close friends. I was loud, childish and loving life. Unfortunately I developed mental issues (I'm bipolar) and scared/pushed most of them away for many different reasons. After getting treatment and leaving for university (age 19) I decided to have a fresh start. New city, new friends right? But since then, I struggle. I do have acquaintances at uni, even some girls that you could call friends. But I am missing these intense friendships from school, people I could completely trust, where I could just let myself go and have fun.. basically some best friends. I am generally liked on my course but I do think most people see me as very serious, too mature, too stiff... People I hang out with often say how "middle aged" I am. Which is fine because I guess it is true and it has its reasons. I would love to be less serious and enjoy life more spontaneously but it scares me and reminds me of some horrible manic things I did. It is hard to sum this up to some precise questions but basically I'd like to know what I can change in order to find true friendship again? How can I let go of my fears and find a middle ground between crazy outgoing and lonely hermit? And this last one just came to me in the process of writing: I've dropped many things that were "classic me" and all that's left is this weird middle aged career-driven me. Do I need to find myself/my passions first before I can go and find people that could be my good friends? TL;DR: . Assistant:	I was a loud obnoxious kid in school, got treated for bipolar and moved away. I've become a quiet old lady and have no close friends. How do I change that?	I was a loud obnoxious kid in school, got treated for bipolar and moved away. I've become a quiet old lady and have no close friends. How do I change that?	1,061
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning TITLE: Can we have a "Post Your Dress" thread? POST: Hello /r/weddingplanning! I am very new to this sub and I am obsessed! I'm not engaged yet myself but SO and I have talked a lot about it and it is in our near future for sure :) ANYWAYS. I'm specifically fascinated by all the wedding dress photos that people have been posting. One thing that I find myself constantly wondering as someone who will be shopping for one is 'WOW, how much does that beautiful thing cost??' So I'm wondering if y'all would be ever so kind as to post photos of you wearing your dress as well as including the following info: dress name, cost, place of purchase, size?, and any other info you'd like to include regarding the dress. I think this will be great to see all the posts in one place (and feed my new wedding planning obsession) :) I realize that there are already subs dedicated to wedding dresses but they are so small. So I'm posting here in the hopes that we can get many people posting their dresses and then we can all gush over them in one place. And a side note on future individual dress posts: Is anyone interested in making a 'requirement' that dress posts include 'stats' in the post title? Similar to how /r/progresspics requires body stats so we understand the context. This would include things that I mentioned above like dress name, price, place of purchase, etc. Can even include dress size for more context (unless poster is uncomfortable sharing that info). What do you think? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Post your a photo of you wearing your dress and include info: dress name, price, place of purchase, and any other info.	Post your a photo of you wearing your dress and include info: dress name, price, place of purchase, and any other info.	533
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Rented a vacation house and the owner is trying to scam us with the security deposit POST: Hey reddit, my gf and I are having an hard time after we rented a vacation home for 4 days in Pocono last week (Memorial day). We paid (by check) the full amount including 150$ of security deposit. The house was supposed to have a working hot tub. When we got there we noticed that the tub was making a loud noise and reported an error (FL1) on the screen. Also, there were stains on the carpets pretty much every 3-4 ft. Those stains were clearly old. So the first day we contacted the owner by email (and phone, but she ignored the calls) letting her know that the hot tub wasn't working. In the contract is written that they would provide maintenance for the hot tub, and they didn't. We clearly told them that we choose this house (more expensive) just because we wanted an hot tub (fun fun fun) so we requested also at least 100$ back from the total rental price. We tried for a week to contact the owners (4 different phone numbers and by email) but they of course ignored us. Today she sent us images (dated 2 DAYS after we checked out of the property) from the cleaning crew showing that the hot tub cover was moved (never touched the thing since it wasn't even working, and there were storms the nights after we left - so it could have been moved by wind/heavy rain) and showing stains that were already there when we got in. Also, those stains pictured are from a bedroom on the second floor which we didn't even use, and opened only the first day to check it out, leaving it closed for the remaining of the trip. So, I checked online for her name and I found other people complaining about the SAME house and SAME owner, doing the same thing to them: scamming the security deposit. I don't care about the 150$ so much, I just want to see those scumbags burn in the fire of the law. What can I and should I do now? I was thinking to call the PA District Attorney, but that's as far as I know about law... Any help, reddit? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Recidive scammer landlord is trying to scam us by not giving us the security deposit back. How can we kick his ass with the law-boot?	Recidive scammer landlord is trying to scam us by not giving us the security deposit back. How can we kick his ass with the law-boot?	1,164
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Need some help finding an old game, 80's and early 90's kids please help! POST: The game I'am trying to find involves a cat and the point of the game was to place traps for the cat (needles is the only trap i remember). I vaguely remember that the cat was purple and the game had neat cartoony graphics (considering how old it would be now graphics were good). I can't for the life of me remember what the point of the game was, but I remember me and my little brother playing this and having a really good time at around the age of 9 to 10. I have spent alot of time on google trying to find this but I can't find what I am looking for, which makes me consider the possibility that this was a "minigame" of sorts, or maybe an old game they sent out with Happy Meals. I am not referring to Rodent's Revenge, although that was a fun game for its time to. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I am looking for an old game that involves needles and various traps you set for a purple cat to fall on. Sounds better than it is :p	I am looking for an old game that involves needles and various traps you set for a purple cat to fall on. Sounds better than it is :p	1,146
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs TITLE: Moving to LA from DC in August/September. When should I start applying for jobs? POST: Background: I am a programmer from the DC area. My wife is going to start grad school next Fall, so we will be packing up and moving to LA at the end of this summer (August/September... about 6 months from now). Problem: I'm afraid that my inability to start the job until the end of this coming Summer will disqualify me from most jobs currently available. I know a lot of companies hire college grads way in advance, but I don't know if companies will hire people this far in advance if they are already in the industry. Question: Do I apply for jobs now or wait (if so, how long)? On one hand, I want to start applying now so I can have a job secured before I get out there. On the other hand, I don't want to disqualify myself by applying to positions too soon. I really need advice on this... TL;DR: . Assistant:	Definitely moving to LA in 6 months. Do I start applying to jobs now or wait? If I should wait, when should I start applying?	Definitely moving to LA in 6 months. Do I start applying to jobs now or wait? If I should wait, when should I start applying?	376
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [16F] with my boyfriend [16] - Problems with Arguing POST: Me and my boyfriend were together for 4 months before we broke up because we argued too much. It had been 1.5 months since we broke up and I decided to contact him again seeing as I was still madly in love with him and missed him so much. It took a while to 'convince' him that we wouldn't argue any more but eventually we got back together. A few weeks have passed now and we were literally so happy being back together; I thought he'd changed because now we talk more and see each other more and generally have fun. However, sometimes he doesn't speak to me for days on end because he feels I'm 'moody' and doesn't want to 'start an argument' which is fair enough, however he doesn't understand that not speaking to me is one of the reasons I get annoyed and feel unwanted. Anyway, we started arguing on Halloween and because I was playing hard to get I decided to text saying 'we both need to change otherwise it's not going to work' and he agreed and unfortunately we broke up yet again. I don't want this at all and I have messaged him a lot of times trying to talk to him and sort the argument out- however he doesn't understand and sometimes will not reply. I know he loves me and we both want to be with each other, however sometimes he can be a little too stubborn and will ignore me and not speak to me for long lengths of time. I want to be with him and 'moving on' is not an option. At this moment in time he is still ignoring my methods to talk to him and will not see sense. Is there anything I can do? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Boyfriend and me broke up for a while because we argue and now we got back together and are arguing again, need help!	Boyfriend and me broke up for a while because we argue and now we got back together and are arguing again, need help!	1,340
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance TITLE: Employment. I have a job where I may have the chance to climb the ladder, but I also have an opportunity at a higher paying more stable job. POST: Okay Reddit. Lets Talk. I started working at this flexible packaging (rotogravure printing) company about two years ago, so far love it! (Small business are the best!) The pay is $4 over minimum and the employees are awesome. Best yet, the founder who is the companies "Packaging Engineer" is old and may retire within <5 years. My direct boss told me that he would be willing to pay for some of my schooling, if I pursue the path of Packaging Engineer, to presumably replace the founder when he retires. I like the job, I don't hate it- I don't love it. It pays okay and it doesn't make me want to kill myself. Is a packaging engineer really what I want to do with the rest of my life? Maybe/Not Really. Incoming curve ball. I have the opportunity to work at the local county. I've heard county jobs are the best! This would pay dramatically more than my current job, however it is definitely not as interesting than what I currently am doing. County Jobs are great because they'll pay for some schooling as well, they offer EXCELLENT retirement benefits and plans and have the best benefits for insurance and all that jazz. So here's my question. Do I risk it on the small company? Should I stick around doing what I enjoy to see if I can climb the ladder and make some actual money? I've been there two years and I've only got a $.50 raise so far. (Remember I'm not making much to begin with). OR Do I say "Thanks for the experience!" and take the higher paying (than currently getting paid, definitely not high paying), more stable county job? I'm so lost reddit, I don't even. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Have a good job. Pays "ok". Opportunity to climb ladder. I can get better government job, pays better. Opportunity to climb is less, perhaps more stable though. What do?	Have a good job. Pays "ok". Opportunity to climb ladder. I can get better government job, pays better. Opportunity to climb is less, perhaps more stable though. What do?	5,451
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My girlfriend of 2.5 years [28F] wants to have kids with me [28M] I don't. I haven't told them I've had a vasectomy. POST: We've always used contraception (her taking the pill) but over the last three months she's forgotten taken her pill three times. She's been taking the pill ever since she was a teen, I can not conclude if they've missed it by accident or not. Since she's forgotten her first pill I've worn a condom since. She has now finished her packet and isn't going to get a prescription so for the foreseeable future (she see's me wearing the condom as good enough, and wants a "break" from artificial hormones). Now recently, more than usual she's been talking more about wanting to have a family. She's known since the start of our relationship that I do not wish to have one (Do I need to explain to Reddit why? Everyone usually demands an explanation). She thinks I'l change my mind about the topic in the future but I'm certain I won't. I've never let them know I've had a vasectomy. Do I tell them? Do I keep it to myself? TL;DR: . Assistant:	We've always been on contraception. She's been hinting about having kids recently. They don't know I've had a vasectomy.	We've always been on contraception. She's been hinting about having kids recently. They don't know I've had a vasectomy.	605
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I[19F] believe I am bi-sexual, should I come out? Identified to bf[20M], and I don't know how to proceed. [x-post from /r/sex] POST: Well. I will start off by saying that I told my SO that I thought I was bi-sexual today, and he seemed to treat it as water off a duck's back. I was thoroughly surprised since he is a little jealous sometimes when it comes to other men, but I guess he could just call it "hot" if he really isn't taking me seriously. Anyways, that's not the point, I was always a little curious, but never acted upon the fantasies I had. I always would think of women giving me oral, or I always thought that breasts were so nice, and kind of got turned on by them. Here is where things get a little complicated. I do believe I am bi-sexual, but never got the chance to act on it. Once when I was in high school me and one of my closest friends got drunkenly dared to kiss each other, and we did. What would she think if I came out as bi? And my best friend is gay, we never did anything, but would this complicate the relationship? I'm pretty scared to tell people- should I? Also, some parts of my family aren't that accepting of non-heterosexual relationships, so if I came out, should I just keep it to my close circle of friends? How would I go about it? I don't know what to do. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I think I'm bi, and although my boyfriend doesn't care, I'm afraid my friends will because of history.	I think I'm bi, and although my boyfriend doesn't care, I'm afraid my friends will because of history.	93
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge TITLE: Your narcissism vs. my ability to ignore you POST: There's this incredibly egocentric and conceited guy in my graphic design class. He's a whiny little ass with a big attitude, thinks he's way better than anyone else (which is definitely not the case), pretends he's the professor sometimes...you get the idea. I sit right behind him, though I'm sure you could practically feel his drab eye-rolling from the other side of the building. Anyway, one day the professor gave us a quick tutorial on a function of Illustrator, and the narcissist interrupted with a surprisingly helpful shortcut to the process. I'll give him props for actually being helpful for once. A few minutes go by and the guy who normally sits next to our little arrogant antagonist arrives to class late, missing both the initial Illustrator tutorial, as well as the new and improved one. Late Guy turns around to ask me what we're doing and how to do it, much to the narcissist's demise, who is always itching to condescendingly show something he's a self-proclaimed master at. I show Late Guy the original method, but then I add "oh, but the professor actually showed us an even easier way of doing this," and taught him the narcissist's shortcut word-for-word, without even giving so much as a sideways glance at the steaming ego three feet to his left. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Narcissist gives insightful knowledge during class, I regurgitate his information verbatim to someone else who had arrived late and give the professor all the credit within earshot of the narcissist.	Narcissist gives insightful knowledge during class, I regurgitate his information verbatim to someone else who had arrived late and give the professor all the credit within earshot of the narcissist.	1,124
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me (24m) and friend (21f) pretty much fucked up our friendship last night. POST: Original post here: So last night we go to the bar and end up talking all night, eventually the conversation turns to where i thought it might, about how she doesn't want to marry the guy and how she wishes we got a shot. I thought she was just gonna go for it, and I would have to do all the resisting, but she started addressing all my red flags and telling me that's why she can't just break up with the current BF for me. Because she'd feel like a piece of shit for cheating on this guys after breaking up an engagement for him. She already feels shitty enough for cheating once, and she said its her own damn fault for rushing into the rebound relationship without being sure it was what she wanted. Plus she said she's happy with him, and has no way of knowing if she'd be happier with me so its best to just let things run their course naturally. The night ended with us looking at the skyline on the beach, and it was bad. Like we didn't do anything at all, but the tension was too thick so we left. So now we're in this odd pseudo relationship where we're trying to be friends, and we both agree it would go well for nobody if anything ever happened, but it is a fucking pain in the ass. I know I'm under her thumb, but I told her we were "breaking up" last night at the beach and that we weren't gonna do this anymore. I know she doesn't mean to lean on me emotionally, its mostly my fault because I haven't had a relationship in about 10 years and I welcomed the company and I can honestly say at worst she's just ignorant of what she's doing. But hot damn, why did one of the hottest girls I've ever met have to do this. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Discussed the emotional cheating nature of relationship and broke it off before it started. How do I stay friends, and feel better about this at the same time?	Discussed the emotional cheating nature of relationship and broke it off before it started. How do I stay friends, and feel better about this at the same time?	1,725
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I[F19] kissed and fell in love with [M29] who is taken. POST: Apologies for my English and spelling, a non-native speaker on a phone here. When we met we immediately hit off. We like the same things and have similar personalities to a point that is crazy. We are so alike and he understands me completely even if I say so little. He is the definition of the one for me, Physically and mentally. We have known each other for quite some time now and I met his SO around the first time I met him. After that I haven't seen her often. The tension around us is so present, flirting is just something that gradually developed. We spoke about our feeling ( that we are so similar and get along so well) and it is on both sides said that it is extraordinairy. We kissed a while ago (while being drunk, this is not an excuse, just for your interest) and it left me confused. We planned to talk about it but it hasn't happened yet. We did, though, kiss again (drunk again) and drunkenly talked about our feelings for each other. He said he loved me but because of the age difference he couldn't chose for me, eventhough he doubts his current relationship and says his gf doesn't make him feel good at all and I do make him feel good and loved. At this point I have fallen in love with him and struggle with my feelings and his betrayal towards his gf ( whom, in my opinion is a controlling bitch who doesn't let him live his life. She checks on him every second and is mad for no valid reasons. I am not the only one who thinks this and this opinion was formed before we kissed the first time). We do plan to talk but it's difficult since there is always someone else around. I am lost. What am I to do? TL;DR: . Assistant:	fell in love with a taken man. We both have feelings for each other and kissed. I have no idea what to do.	fell in love with a taken man. We both have feelings for each other and kissed. I have no idea what to do.	3,682
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Sometimes when my [18M] brother [12M] angers me I hit him, and I want to stop it. POST: It used to happen more frequently when we were younger but its gotten better these last few years. Recently however, it's happened 3 times and I felt bad after every incident. The first time was when I repeatedly told him not to play with a lighter, he kept on playing with it, and I pushed him to the ground and lightly kicked him. Then today I had to pick him up from practice, and he told me the wrong place. I got there, he was nowhere to be found. I then called him, yelling at him and told him I was going to kick his ass when I got there. So he tells me the right place and I see him with 3 other friends of his. I get out the car, start yelling at him and then go to hit him. He goes to defend himself but I still manage to land a few light hits. I then turn around and yell at his friends. I felt so fucking bad afterwards. I hit my brother and embarrassed him in front of his friends. Another time I had to take him to the movies and he said something stupid to me in front of his friends and I gave him one hard slap. I felt like a piece of shit. The thing is I'm also frustrated at some other things and this was the straw that broke the camel's back. I still feel horrible though. How can I stop this? I've noticed he aggravates me when we've been around each other for too long and thankfully I go back to college in 2 weeks. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I've hit my brother on multiple occasions when he hasn't listened to me or did something stupid, I've felt bad afterwards every time, and I want to know how I can stop this.	I've hit my brother on multiple occasions when he hasn't listened to me or did something stupid, I've felt bad afterwards every time, and I want to know how I can stop this.	3,315
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [22M] with my gf [23F] 8 months together, I am most likely leaving for graduate school. My gf thinks this will break us, what do i do? POST: So this is my story: I have been seeing my current gf for around 1.5 years now. When we met i had already planned to go to Australia, however we kept in touch and when i came back when got a relationship. We had this relationship for 6 months, when she decided to go to Australia (for 5 months). It has been going well for quite some time now, but we've started discussing what we plan on doing after she comes back. She has one more year in her current college and i will be finished this year. I am planning on working for a year or moving to a different city for graduate school. I told her about this and she reacted very strangely. Distance has never been a real issue, but now she is saying that she feel unsure and that the distance would be difficult because she will be busy (the distance will be approx. 2h by train). She said that she would support me if i would go, but that she felt that we would grow apart if we would do this. Now I'm really stressing about this. Furthermore she just added that she will most likely go to a different city for her graduate school. Which means that one way or another this distance will happen. I am stressing. Should i just break up to avoid all this stress? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Gf thinks ldr would not work, suggest i go away but she thinks we will break up. I feel different. what now?	Gf thinks ldr would not work, suggest i go away but she thinks we will break up. I feel different. what now?	1,606
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My girlfriend [22F] and I [28M] ended our 2 year relationship. She wants to stay friends but I'm still in love. How do I get over her so we can stay friends? POST: Two weeks ago my girlfriend of the last 2 years and I seperated. Since then we've been trying to stay friends but it's been difficult. She tells me that I am one of her best friends and that the only thing that's changed about her feelings towards me is that she no longer wants a relationship. She still cares about me and we talk all the time. We hang out every few days and have a lot of fun. But she insists that any romantic feelings are gone. I'm still in love with her and didn't want to break up. I've tried mercilessly to get her to give the relationship another shot, but she's adamant that those feelings are gone. She is one of my best friends and I don't want to lose her from my life just because I'm having a hard time accepting that it's over. This is my first long term relationship and it's my first big breakup. I don't know how I'm supposed to get over her. What are some things I can do to help me get over the relationship? How can I accept that she's not coming back and dull the feelings that I have for her enough that we can stay friends? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Girlfriend and I seperated and we both want to be friends but I'm still in love. How do I get over her in order to save our friendship?	Girlfriend and I seperated and we both want to be friends but I'm still in love. How do I get over her in order to save our friendship?	1,969
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I'm [25M] meeting a co-worker [22F] for a movie, I'm not sure if it's a date but if it is what should I do? POST: Honestly I haven't been on a date in a year and a half, and in the past four years I've only had one 3 month relationship and a few failed dates. I'm really nervous and I leave in 30 minutes, so please help me out guys and gals. I caught her checking me out last week (I was checking her out too) at my new job and yesterday I decided to try to talk to her. Things went great, I sat down and the conversation was very smooth and dare I say it... natural? I got her number and we texted a lot yesterday, and today I saw her again and we chatted some more. My friends at work say it seems like she's into me, and thought I should ask her out, so I was going to ask her out after talking on the phone with her tonight, (which she responded with, "Yes, I would like that. =)" but then she hit me up a little bit later asking me if I had plans tonight, and when I said no she invited me to the movies with her and her friend (and her friend is bringing someone, apparently). Also when I said "Hey gorgeous" through a text today she responded with "Hi handsome :3" So I'm not sure if this is a date or not. And if it is (or isn't) I'm not sure if I should make a move. She's one of those drop dead gorgeous girls that don't really realize how gorgeous she really is, so I'm super nervous, especially since I haven't been on a date in a while. I keep wondering if I should try to hold her hand, or bump our hands together in the movie, or if I should lift that armrest between us, if I should give her a hug when I leave (or arrive), I just feel like a high school teenager all over again and have no idea what to do. Crap, I'm taking too long, 25 minutes, hurry! TL;DR: . Assistant:	First date in a while, girl seems like she's interested but it's the first time we are hanging out in public (outside of work) so not sure how to flirt/act.	First date in a while, girl seems like she's interested but it's the first time we are hanging out in public (outside of work) so not sure how to flirt/act.	283
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: How do I handle a FWB POST: * First of all, we are both 22. * Ok, so my situation is pretty messed up. When I graduated high school I had a major crush on this girl and fucked up by telling her I loved her (I was 17, rookie mistake), and she ended up going out with my best friend for a year and a half, which completely WRECKED me. I met her at a party 2 weeks ago and we exchanged number, started texting. Consequently, I fucked her last Tuesday and then on Wednesday. She doesn't want me to tell her ex, or any of my friends for that matter (I did), but whatever I don't think he'd care since he's the one who dumped her, this is not my issue here. * My issue is that I can't get this girl out of my head now. We text every day still, but I get nervous when she doesn't text me for a couple hours and so on... The thing is is there is no way I could actually have a relationship with this girl. It couldn't go go beyond sex, and I wouldn't mind because the sex is amazing, but I REALLY don't want to develop feelings for this girl. We are really different... However, it is going pretty shitty so far since I get a bit jealous and feel like a dick. * Has anyone had a similar fuck friend relation and knows how to handle it? I'm very confused right now. I don't know whether I want her to develop feelings for me as well (which she could be, she is the one who instigated the sex), or if I want to have no strings attached sex with this girl. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I know there's a common saying that friendship and sex don't mix, but could this work out for me or should I walk away from the situation before getting hurt again.	I know there's a common saying that friendship and sex don't mix, but could this work out for me or should I walk away from the situation before getting hurt again.	6,385
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Dogtraining TITLE: Okay--How to help train an anxiety ridden dog aggressive dog? POST: Hey guys. I've posted on here before about my Australian Cattle Dog [Jamba] and his aggression issues. Background: no aggressive behavior until after he was fixed around 6mo--since then it's been hell (He's also ALWAYS lived with another dog except for around 3 months between 8-11mo). Lunging/poofyness/barking/super reactive. I HAVE gotten him to be able to LIVE WITH other dogs as long as he's introduced properly, but he cannot have random dogs spring up on him either on walks or out in public. As a result, can't take him anywhere anymore except for walks in the woods and in my neighborhood. Today: We met for a free consultation is a great trainer in our area who we were interested in working with to help Jamba. However, on top of his flat $750 fee for just training, with his aggression fee it would be close to $1000 which is just entirely unfeasible for me right now (he didn't have payment plan options) unless Jamba and I are both going to be eating tortilla chips only for the next year. How would you train a dog that is reactive both on and off leash? I'm thinking just intense obedience training where that becomes his job as opposed to him thinking his job is to "protect mom from strange dogs". He said that desensitization can work SOMETIMES but that it's very difficult for that to work in some cases with high energy working dogs. However, I have been just using desensitization and also gradual introductions with him and dogs he now lives with and dogs he's lived with in the past. He also noticed that Jamba is very nervous/has some pent up anxiety. He gets pretty chompy and his brain starts going a million miles a minute. Do you guys think I can use Kikopup's "Capturing Calmness" training for this or should I try a few different techniques?? Thanks for reading, I'm open to any suggestions/help/tips. TL;DR: . Assistant:	ACD dog reactive/dog aggressive and has some anxiety--how to train him to be tolerant/calm/switch his job from "protecting mommy" to "just focus on mommy"?	ACD dog reactive/dog aggressive and has some anxiety--how to train him to be tolerant/calm/switch his job from "protecting mommy" to "just focus on mommy"?	3,562
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [20 M] and my old friend[20 M] way back 4 years, burying the hatchet? POST: I had this friend who has been my roommate for four years. It's a long story but, there is a point in our friendship that I ignored him up to now. I got mad at him because when we live together he never pays the bills and never cleans the room. Now I know it is kind of immature for me to ignore him for this but, I was kind of young back then and very childish (I know "I am young back then" is cliche), and I also have this personality that I don't really say what I am feeling but rather keep it to myself. Fast forward, friends of mine say "hey, it's been four years why not you and him apologize with each other". So I had this thought that maybe it is the time to stop this silly situation that I started. Now, I do not want to get selfish that I am doing this because I want to free myself from the past. Because recently, I have been trying to escape from my comfort zone because I want to improve myself as a person. What I wanted to tell him is that, I would like to say sorry/apologize for whatever I did to him back then, I know that he might not accept this but I just wanted to let this thing go between us. I just have this personality where I get a bit childish at some point and it cause us to break our friendship. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Ignored my friend for four years, later has some thoughts of ending this childish nonsense. Should I or just move on from my life?	Ignored my friend for four years, later has some thoughts of ending this childish nonsense. Should I or just move on from my life?	6,470
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [24 F] rejected a long time friend [23 M] before they actually confessed; can we still be friends? POST: I had an inkling in the last few years of our friendship, but chose to ignore / not read into any 'signs' as we have been friends for a long while, and he used to like another friend of mine. A mutual friend recently confirmed he had feelings for me, after I suspected her of purposely inviting him to outings and leaving us alone together on more than one occasion. Apparently it's been a while... And a lot of other mutual friends/acquaintances were aware they had feelings for me all this time... So I messaged him, and turned him down. Without him actually ever confessing. He replied... really politely... but we haven't spoken since. I don't really know what to do. Are we still friends? Do I try to remain friends? Or just leave it be? He's a really great guy, but I'm just not attracted to him... I feel like I've lost a good friend. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I rejected a long time guy friend before he worked up the courage to ask me out (found out from a mutual friend). Can and should we remain friends?	I rejected a long time guy friend before he worked up the courage to ask me out (found out from a mutual friend). Can and should we remain friends?	4,565
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Want to ask girlfriends father for his blessing to ask his daughter to marry me, but I know he is going to bring up religion...I'm atheist. Need advice POST: Pretty much the title says it all. I (M25) want to ask my girlfriend (F27) to marry me. We have been together 2 years, lived together 1, and best friends for 7 years. I really like her family, and want to be respectful to their traditional values...at least with this and ask her dad for his blessing. They are pretty religious, just nondenominational Christian. My girlfriend classifies herself as spiritual, as in she believes in God, but not necessarily in the bible, etc. Her family has hinted at religion with me before. They know I am not religious and that my family isn't either, but don't know that I actually don't believe. I know he is going to bring it up when I talk to him, and I worry that it is going to be an issue. I have spoke to my lady about this sort of thing in the past, and she always just says to not talk about religion with him. I don't really want to bring it up to her now, because I want this to be a complete surprise. What happens if he says that is a prerequisite to marry his daughter? Should I tell him that I am an atheist if he asks? Should I still ask her if he says no? Has anyone had any experience with this? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Want to ask my lady to marry me, but want to respect her parents wish. They are religious, I am not, I am just looking for advice to handle this potentially awkward situation.	Want to ask my lady to marry me, but want to respect her parents wish. They are religious, I am not, I am just looking for advice to handle this potentially awkward situation.	2,498
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/running TITLE: PSA: Don't forget to tape the adjacent toe when taping a blister. POST: I had minor blister trouble on my second toe, got it from rubbing action from the big toe in the past week; the big toe had no blisters on it whatsoever. I usually taped both the big toe and the second toe together in between to avoid friction, but today, leaving for my run in haste, I mindlessly taped the little toe standalone with durable cloth-based medical tape. Around 17km in (10mi) in I felt a stabbing pain in the big toe area and finished the last 3km in agony thinking that the big toenail had just fallen off or cracked. Took my sock off at home to discover the most horrific torn blister on my big toe. Ended up doing 100x more harm than going out untaped at all. NSFW/GOREish: TL;DR: . Assistant:	taped my second toe, tape tore through adjacent untaped toe. Always pay close attention to what you're taping and how you're doing it.	taped my second toe, tape tore through adjacent untaped toe. Always pay close attention to what you're taping and how you're doing it.	4,725
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: AskReddit: What does it take to break into the music industry as an A&R representative? POST: Apologize for the throw away account. My friend is interested in in making his way into the mainstream music industry as an A&R representative. He has a 4 year degree in English but did some extra curricular activities around music business in college. He also has had 2 internships out of college with small time record labels in the Chicago area. He has been trying for a few years now with no success. He lives in Chicago but has moved to LA for a year. He returned recently to Chicago. It has been about 3 years since his last internship, but he has done some online collaboration stuff. Still far and few in between. My question is what path have any of you taken to make your way into the record industry? Is networking the only important thing? Is there a set of skills that are specifically looked for? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Any tips or plans of attack on how to go about getting a job in the music industry as an A&R representative? Any specific skills they look for?	Any tips or plans of attack on how to go about getting a job in the music industry as an A&R representative? Any specific skills they look for?	5,321
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: What is mean't by "Make sure you keep in touch" in response to possible work opportunities? POST: I'm a freelance producer/videographer/editor and recently collaborated with a major national radio station. All the producers involved commended my work and were very pleased with the outcome. One producer (from head office) emailed me: >Make sure you stay in touch, we have plenty of video projects over the year, it's always good to know there is a reliable pair of hands in town and keep me posted on what you're up to. and another producer (from my city) emailed me: >Shoot me through your resume and clips. Let's sort a time for you to come in and have a chat. >I can't promise you any work or a job but I can tell you how to get work at [NAME]. The fact you produced this for us on a deadline and that my bosses have seen that is a great step towards that. So I have email my resume and what not to that one producer but whats the next step for me in "keeping in touch" with the other? What do I update him with and how often? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Producer said to "keep in touch" in regards to possible work opportunities, but what do I keep in touch about?	Producer said to "keep in touch" in regards to possible work opportunities, but what do I keep in touch about?	2,460
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: How do I [25 F] learn to just let go? POST: So, last xmas an old woman knocked on my door saying she'd found some keys and didn't know what to do with them. I said I'd keep hold of them in case anyone claimed them. 6 months went by no one collected the keys so I threw them away. Last night my next door neighbour confronted me screaming that the keys were hers why didn't I give them back. She was absolutely vile. I was so stunned that I just apologised. She threw her hand up at me and turned her back. I walked into my house, shut the door, made dinner, carried on with my night. Problem is I'm bloody fuming. I'm so angry that I'm struggling to just let it go. I'm mad that I apologised, I didn't know they were her keys, I didn't do anything intentionally wrong or bad. I know I can't change her attitude I can only change mine. Having a go at her won't help, I need to ignore her and get on with my life. How do I just drop it now and stop obsessing about "should have" and "why didn't I"? I've had barely any sleep and can't focus on getting on with my day. How do you calm down and move on? TL;DR: . Assistant:	I'm still angry about a minor fall out with my neighbour. I don't know how to just let go and stop being so angry.	I'm still angry about a minor fall out with my neighbour. I don't know how to just let go and stop being so angry.	1,261
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: So a girl I kinda like has tried to cut off contact with me for no reason that I know of. What should i say to her? POST: So this girl and I have a little history together, nothing serious, we knew each other for a little while. Went to a high school dance and we danced the whole night together and kind of hit it off (We never kissed though). Then we kind of lost touch with each other. I don't believe I have done anything to anger her or anything, but I find out today that she has blocked me from accessing her facebook feed and posting to her wall. I kind of like her and would like to talk to her again but am really confused by the fact that she has tried to block me. What should I say to her as I still want to be her friend (at least) and talk to her. What's Reddit's advice on the matter? What should I say since if I message her, she will know, that I know, that she tried to blocked me. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I know a girl that I kinda like, we haven't talked in a while, find out today she blocked me on facebook and I don't know why. What do?	I know a girl that I kinda like, we haven't talked in a while, find out today she blocked me on facebook and I don't know why. What do?	2,777
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: My roommates have terrorized me for 2 years; I'm finally moving in August. Reddit, what flawless victory prank should I attempt as a final goodbye? POST: For 2.5 years I've lived with two guys who make your roommates look like nuns. They are both late twenties and early thirties, cousins, 18 years old in maturity, and surprisingly good friends of mine. In fact, one is a Redditor and I hope he knows the terror that awaits him. We are great friends outside of the home but the internal strain is too much to stomach. They stay up until wee hours of the morning (4 am last night), talk loud and get drunk, disregard my personal things, eat my food, get stoned and leave the gas stove on, give house keys to co-workers, use my body wash and shampoo, forget to pay me for bills, forget to buy communal household items, NEVER clean anything EVER, leave bacon grease all over the kitchen, assume the dishes do themselves, bitch about the lawn guy but never pick up the yard, and put beer boxes on my dog as a "joke". We've had guests at our house clean the toilets before because the boys refused to and I held out. They have made waking up in the morning a nightmare. What food will be gone this time? Will the kitchen stink and have a fine sheen of grease? What new and interesting way can I say, "You are disrespecting me and my money, please stop"? Well, I'm moving out in August and our subtle prank war needs to be won. I will be safely out of harms reach in the north, so I plan to exact the ultimate revenge while hearing of their pain on my flight out. I need the Reddits advice on how to serve these boys something awful without a) damaging the rental property, b) damaging their personal property, and c) making the house a disaster for the new tenant. I'm thinking along the lines of injecting exlax into their food, baby powder in their sugar, or nair in the shaving cream. So, what's your best "get bent" prank? Any tips on giving the proverbial middle finger? I want to say, "I love you guys, but no one fucks with me and gets away with it." TL;DR: . Assistant:	My friends are the worst roommates I've ever had. What can I do to get back at them without damaging any personal or rental property?	My friends are the worst roommates I've ever had. What can I do to get back at them without damaging any personal or rental property?	1,365
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [38 F] with my (ex) husband [40 M] him and he woman he cheated on me with and left me for announced they are engaged. i feel hurt. POST: title is supposed to say the Possible long post. Me and my ex husband were married for 14 years we had 4 beautiful children together. i thought we had a good marriage we were high school sweethearts and best friends. I found out in 2014 that he was having an affair with another woman but that wasn't the worst part. She ended up pregnant with his baby and he left me to be with her. I was so hurt and broken, he was posting pictures of him and her on Facebook and they looked so happy. we have shared custody and despite what he did he was still a good father. its been 2 years since our split and (with my daughters encouragement) have gone on a few dates. i have met a few great guys but don't want to rush anything. today i was on Facebook and just out of pure curiosity checked my ex's page. him and her look so happy together and he looks at her the same way he used to look at me. i continued looking and they announced awhile back that they are engaged and the wedding is soon. i can't help but feel hurt about this after everything he did he gets the happy ending but i feel like i don't. i don't know how to get rid of these feelings. help? TL;DR: . Assistant:	my ex husband and the womn he left me for are getting married. i feel hurt and don't know how to get rid of these feelings.	my ex husband and the womn he left me for are getting married. i feel hurt and don't know how to get rid of these feelings.	5,034
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: In love with my sort-of-step-sister... POST: Ok... Background: My dad met a woman and has been dating her for three years. They don't want to get married until all of her kids and me are out of the house. Anyway, my understood-step mom has a daughter who over three years who I have become in love with. She is best friend and I have no idea how she would respond if she found out. Another problem is she lives in another city a few hours away but I visit every other weekend. She and I are only 16 and we are also kind of physical. We will stay up until 4:00 in the morning talking with our arms around each other lying 3 inches from each other's faces. We tell each other absolutely everything. (except this of course). I'm not sure if she actually cares about me or she is being a huge cocktease because she does not want to lose her problem solving talking friend. This is the most awkward situation ever. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I am in love with my sort-of-stepsister who lives in another city a couple hours away who is also my best friend and I don't know how she would react if she found out.	I am in love with my sort-of-stepsister who lives in another city a couple hours away who is also my best friend and I don't know how she would react if she found out.	1,690
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: uh-oh. crushing on my advisor mega. POST: Dr. X used to be my professor. He is in his 30s. I am 24. I switched my major and he is now my advisor and I am completely crushing. He is single and has asked me to do research with him. I need to know what I should do? Will this work out or is it a bad idea? We seem to have quite a bit in common and our conversations are really easy and flow. I just know we will be working together over the next two years and it will develop if we are into it. I am just at the point where I just want to see him every second and tell him, hey, I like you. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I like my advisor. He likes me, too. How can I move this relationship along, or do I need to?	I like my advisor. He likes me, too. How can I move this relationship along, or do I need to?	4,647
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: After some changes at the office, a coworker from a different department ~ [28M] is now one of my [26F] direct reports. Problem is, we have not gotten along in the past and I don't think respects (or likes) me enough to take me seriously as a leader. POST: So sorry for the length! This is still a relatively new situation, so I'd appreciate some advice before approaching him to set expectations. TL;DR: . Assistant:	My new direct deport and I have not gotten along in the past (because he's demanding, arrogant and uncooperative, in my admittedly subjective opinion). How do I confront him without causing more damage to our work relationship?	My new direct deport and I have not gotten along in the past (because he's demanding, arrogant and uncooperative, in my admittedly subjective opinion). How do I confront him without causing more damage to our work relationship?	6,400
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice TITLE: Friend-Zoned? POST: I am a 16 year old high school sophomore who has liked a girl my age since I met her two years ago, but due to her being in a relationship, I haven't asked her out. She became single several months ago, and came over to my house to watch some movies and chill. I was wondering if I had been friend zoned and if I should ask her out. I noticed she sat close to me, ruffled my hair playfully and asked me for a ride home. Any suggestions? And there's a parade coming up this weekend, so I was thinking I'd ask her to that, and she if she wanted to get coffee before hand at a new cafe that she told me she'd like to try. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Liked girl for awhile, she became single several months ago. She came over recently, and displayed what looked like signs of affection.What should be my next move?	Liked girl for awhile, she became single several months ago. She came over recently, and displayed what looked like signs of affection.What should be my next move?	5,696
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [20 F] with my boyrfriend's [24 M] recent sensitivity. POST: Lately my boyfriend has been sensitive and I don't know how to handle it. Lemme start off by saying I have no issue with him being sensitive, however I have been the cause of the sensitivity which makes me uneasy. The instances: 1. When he was explaining something about me when we first met, I said it was a little weird (he creeped on me a little, but in the end I don't care anymore) 2. He likes to say he itches himself and I said "You scratch yourself not itch yourself (jokingly). He then became distant in conversation after I said these things and brought them up later saying I hurt his feelings. Both nights became awkward even after I apologized. My apologies were sincere as I don't mean to offend him in anyway. However, I don't really understand how what I said were insensitive things to say? He says he hasn't been mentally there this week due to smoking less nicotine, eating better, and working out more. How do I go about taking to him/handling the situation? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Boyfriend is sensitive to what I've said, however I don't really think what I've said is insensitive. Help.	Boyfriend is sensitive to what I've said, however I don't really think what I've said is insensitive. Help.	4,496
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice TITLE: My girlfriend (F/20) can only achieve orgasm through clit stimulation, what do ? POST: I've started dating a girl who has apparently never ever had any orgasm through classic penetration, only clitoral stimulation will do. Somehow, when she's on top, she can just rub herself against me whilst I'm inside her and achieve orgasm, but it's not from me being inside, so she says. I can also achieve the same result if being fast enough during missionary and putting enough pressure on her clitoris. Now I've set on a quest to get her to reach that point as I'm sure it's possible and there cannot be such a thing as a girl who cannot achieve vaginal orgasm. So, i've been googling on the subject and reading all sorts of stuff about how the G spot doesn't exist and there is no such thing as vaginal orgasms, and now I'm just sitting here in front of my screen thinking " well then, what is going on here ? " Please do give me any feedback, advice or personal experience on the matter? TL;DR: . Assistant:	My new girlfriend says she cannot/has never achieve/d vaginal orgasm and I would like to help her get there, any advice ? :)	My new girlfriend says she cannot/has never achieve/d vaginal orgasm and I would like to help her get there, any advice ? :)	2,326
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My Girlfriend [20 F] of 8 months may be attracted to her guy friend. What to do? [21 M] POST: I've been in this relationship for 8 months now and I have to admit I'm insecure. The problem is that recently she has been getting close with her guy friend. Months ago she told me that this guy friend liked her and she only thought of him as a friend. I'm afraid that's no longer the case. Recently, they have been getting close, to the point where they would have deep talks about relationships and other topics. The following are just things I've observed. She would always chat with him online. Whenever I'm with her and she receives a text from this guy, she would smile and concentrate only on texting him back. However, when she gets text from other people(me included) she would take forever to respond. It frustrates me because I catch her on several occasions sneakily hiding her phone when shes texting. Keep in mind that I've never questioned her about the content of their convos. My girlfriend and I went to the club a few days ago and her guy friend was there also. Throughout the night I see her taking glances at him to see if he was having fun with another girl. When this one drunk girl sat on his lap, my girlfriend helped him by pulling her off. Its been 8 months and I feel like I'm being taken for granted already. I just want to know from your perspectives if these observations are deemed as red flags. If they are, what should I do? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Gf has been talking to her guy friend a lot recently. Her guy friend liked her but she told me that he is friend zoned. I think otherwise.	Gf has been talking to her guy friend a lot recently. Her guy friend liked her but she told me that he is friend zoned. I think otherwise.	6,092
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit TITLE: Possibly losing motivation POST: It's what I wanted from the beginning. People are now recognizing my weight loss and I'm not even half way into my journey. The act of people telling me on a regular basis that I look alot better has been giving me some motivation...but it's been giving me something else. Deep in my mind it's been giving me the idea that if I get satisfied with the compliment...if I say "Thanks! I've been working out", that I'm going to feel like I've achieved my goal. Losing fat, to me, has been an asthetic goal all along. I wanted to be seen as something different than just another fat guy. It feels great to be able to run a mile or to see yourself lifting more weights than some other guys in the gym (you know it's true). But when it comes down to it, it's just been about how people see me. Getting this positive attention is what I really wanted. Now that I'm getting it, I feel that I'm going to lose some of my motivation. My stats are SW:335, CW: 290, GW: ~210, 6'0. I've been at this for almost three months now and I feel that this is going to be the deciding point. I can either slip back to where I started, or be a man and push through until I'm satisfied with myself. This is mainly just me venting, I'm sorry to bother with my insecurities. I don't really vent to anyone so at some points it has to go somewhere. Have some of you been in a similar situation? How did you deal with it? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Satisfaction from compliments on my weight loss up to this point may reduce my motivation to keep going. Have you dealt with something similar and if so how did you proceed?	Satisfaction from compliments on my weight loss up to this point may reduce my motivation to keep going. Have you dealt with something similar and if so how did you proceed?	2,644