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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [31F] with my fiance [48M] of 2 years, finding it more and more difficult to work together at our job.
POST: We met at our job, with him being a supervisor and I, an entry level worker. I have worked there for seven years while he has been there for four years. We fell in love quickly and have went strongly together ever since.
However, a few months ago I was promoted to supervisor, too. I was happy because it meant more money for us to accomplish our goals. I thought he was happy as well. Only now he takes to arguing with me at work and shaming me when I make a mistake or take too long to complete a task. I kindly let him know that I feel he isn't addressing me respectfully and he says nothing in response.
A few of those blow up times have been in front of other coworkers, which I find embarrassing and unprofessional. The next day, of course, it's like it never happened.
It makes me feel like a complete failure and my heart breaks every single time because this is the person I love more than anyone else in this world. I don't want our work arguments to affect our relationship together but he literally gets so mad at me he stops talking to me altogether.
He has been married twice. I'm a late bloomer. This is the first (and I'm hoping the last) long-term relationship I've ever had. So I'm having trouble understanding how someone who loves you can speak so harshly and get mad so quickly for the tiniest things.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Fiance/coworker makes me feel horrible at our job and I'm afraid not finding a solution to the issue will hurt us both inside and outside of work. | Fiance/coworker makes me feel horrible at our job and I'm afraid not finding a solution to the issue will hurt us both inside and outside of work. | 429 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My ex [19F] randomly asks me if I [22M] want to get with one of her friends. Advice?
POST: So I briefly dated a girl, and she broke things off with me a month ago. Basically, she was super into me and wanted a serious relationship with me, but felt like I was too distant, didn't care about her, and took her for granted. Anyways, today we were texting, and I told her that I really did like her and would be open to giving it another shot. She says that she now has a new boyfriend that she started seeing after breaking things off with me. So I tell her that it was nice knowing her, best of luck with everything, etc.
A couple hours later, she texts me, "Hey want to get with my friend" with some pictures of her friend. Tells me that it was her idea, not her friend's. I honestly don't know what to think of this situation. Should I go for it? Is this girl fucking with me? Opinions would be great.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl broke things off with me a month ago, gets new boyfriend, and randomly asks if I want to fuck her friend | Girl broke things off with me a month ago, gets new boyfriend, and randomly asks if I want to fuck her friend | 2,753 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Gf(23,F) of two years "fell out of love" with me (24,M) soon after starting a strong birth control regiment. What should I do?
POST: I'm completely at a loss & could use some advice.
Basically, my girlfriend started taking a new, significantly stronger birth control pill to regulate her period about 3 months ago. 3 weeks ago she said she feels she's fallen out of love with me & wants to end things. She said it's nothing I've done & that she's "afraid of hurting me" & she's had "an uneasy feeling about the relationship recently".
Our relationship had been amazing up until this point. Everyone in her life has told her how amazing we are for each other & she's always agreed. Friends she hasn't seen in years can immediately tell that she's happier than she's ever been because of me. This came out of nowhere & completely blindsided me.
We didn't officially "break up" 3 weeks ago, but we haven't been in contact since, until yesterday. I'll be meeting with her tomorrow to talk. If she still insists it's nothing I've done...what should I say?
I honestly think it's due to the hormonal changes the pills are causing. If something comes up tomorrow like another guy or something, I don't bring it up. But if it's nothing like that, how do I approach the subject gracefully? Nobody wants to hear, "Hey, your emotions aren't your actual emotions, the drugs you're on are causing them". I'm so scared of losing her over something that can be fixed. Help?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF wants to end things because she has "an uneasy feeling" & thinks she doesn't love me anymore. I think it's due to the strong birth control she recently started taking. How to approach the subject? | GF wants to end things because she has "an uneasy feeling" & thinks she doesn't love me anymore. I think it's due to the strong birth control she recently started taking. How to approach the subject? | 6,033 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: How should I (20 M) re-establish communication with an ex (19 F) after not speaking for a year?
POST: We dated for over a year. She was an exchange student here in the US and my family hosted her after she got kicked out of her original host family. We were best friends and then a relationship happened. We continued to date long distance after she left for about 6 months until I went to visit her in her country over Christmas break for an entire month. She decided she couldn't keep doing long distance so we decided to break it off when I left. Then I made an ass of myself when I got back and realised I still wanted to be with her. I would get drunk and send her stupid messages on facebook and skype that were either hurtful, immature, desperate, angry or a combination of these. Then we just stopped talking, she because I was a dick, and I because I was embarrassed. We haven't spoken in over a year. Now, however, she is coming back during this summer to see old friends and such and she is staying with my family, being that we hosted her, and I am living here over the summer during my university's break. I have no idea what to do. I figured it would be best to try to re-establish communication to avoid awkward moments where we just play hide and seek trying to avoid the other. But... I haven't the slightest idea how to do this. I feel like just saying "Hey! how are you" is too casual and not in the right place for how things were left off.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex is coming to visit. Haven't spoken in a year. How do I start speaking to her again before she gets here? | Ex is coming to visit. Haven't spoken in a year. How do I start speaking to her again before she gets here? | 3,722 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, do you need help spiffying up your resume?
POST: Hi folks,
I want to give back to Reddit.
Reddit has given me so much and I just want to give back to the community.
Im thinking about setting up a designated email address to provide you guys with, and when I have time I will just spiffy up your resume (I am a hiring manager) and give you tips on the Application Process.
Before I do this I just wanted to ask you guys, what do you think? Would this help you or would I be wasting my time?
There is also the ethical issue of me giving you the upper hand for a short part of any given Application Process- but if you truly are not a good fit for a position then I believe the hiring manager can determine this at the personal interview stage.
I want to get you guys interviews. And hopefully jobs.
99% of the resume's that come in to my business are crap. I hate seeing this, because who knows if this person would be a great hire but they just dont know how to express that on paper? And most people are not to blame, because most people were never properly taught how to write a resume.
I do the hiring for my restaurant, although Ive been told by others in the field that our Application Process trumps most large corporations and research firms and is way more technical than most Application Processes.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am a hiring manager and I want to give back to the reddit community by editing resumes and dishing out advice straight from the source. | I am a hiring manager and I want to give back to the reddit community by editing resumes and dishing out advice straight from the source. | 5,474 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by putting some coca-cola in a water bottle
POST: Tonight I decided I was going to stay up late so I could catch up on some TV shows and watch a couple of movies.
I went to the kitchen to get the food and drink I wanted to take to my room so I wouldn't have to walk through the house during the night and take the risk of waking anyone up. I found a big bottle of cola in the fridge and decided to fill up a smaller bottle (the bottle can hold more than any of the glasses I have in my house).
After playing some video games, I decided to settle down and start up the first movie. About 10 minutes into the movie I heard this noise, just like when you open a bottle of cola and the gases release but it was continuous, so I pause it and go investigate. At first I couldn't quite work out what it was and started to get paranoid (I don't know why, I just did). I started looking around my room to find the source of the strange noise. I checked my xbox, because I thought it could have been the fan, I checked my PC to see if it was turned off, I checked the window to see if it was closed properly, but everything was ok.
All of a sudden I heard this POP behind me and nearly had a heart attack. I turned around and saw that the lid of the bottle had popped off. I guess it was the gases in the cola which had expanded the bottle causing the lid to pop off. This happened about 10 minutes ago and my heart is still beating really fast.
Note to everyone: If you're thinking of putting coca-cola in a bottle, don't screw on the lid!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Put coca-cola in a bottle and screwed on the lid, gases built up and popped the lid off, nearly giving me a heart attack. | Put coca-cola in a bottle and screwed on the lid, gases built up and popped the lid off, nearly giving me a heart attack. | 2,825 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23M] don't know how to end things with my girlfriend [21F] of six years without breaking her heart.
POST: So here's a little background.
I've been with my girlfriend for six years. We met in high-school while I was a senior and her a freshman. I love her but I don't want to spend the rest of my life with her, and telling her something like that would break her heart.
We don't have nearly as much in common now as we did six years ago, or even two years ago, and I just don't feel the "magic" anymore. I've been feeling this way for about a year now, and I haven't changed anything because I'm afraid and don't want to devastate her.
We haven't been intimate for about a month now, and she keeps asking if anything is wrong, but I say no every time because I'm a coward.
Over the last few months I've grown more distant, and I've started to slip into a mild case of depression. I know that I don't want to be with her any more, but I still respect and love her. I understand that there will be pain in any scenario like this, but I can't think of a good way to end things without just destroying her.
Any advice would be welcome, and I can supply more information upon request.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years and don't feel the love anymore. Not sure how to end things without breaking her heart beyond repair. | I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years and don't feel the love anymore. Not sure how to end things without breaking her heart beyond repair. | 915 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Recent break up of 1 week, together for 10 months with ex boyfriend. Just found out there may be chance I am pregnant.
POST: Recently just broke up with my boyfriend of 10 months. It was out of the blue and the break up was one sided. It was entirely his decision to end it. Apparently its the same old cliche line "it's not you its me". He needs to "sort his shit out".
And now adding on to be even more cliche things there is a high chance I am pregnant. I took a home pregnancy test and it came back positive. In the mornings the past week I have felt extremely nauseous and have thrown up on multiple occasions and by the afternoon I'm fine. I'm going to make a doctors appointment tomorrow to go get a blood test to see if it is definite or not.
Do I tell him or do I not tell him? He has made it pretty clear that he does not want to be with me but at the same time I know he still cares. I don't have any idea what to do. A large part of me doesn't want to tell him.
Any advice please would be appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My boyfriend and I just recently broke up, to add to a shitty situation there may be a chance I'm pregnant. I don't know whether to tell him or not. A large part of me wants to not tell him. | My boyfriend and I just recently broke up, to add to a shitty situation there may be a chance I'm pregnant. I don't know whether to tell him or not. A large part of me wants to not tell him. | 4,445 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Should I [23 m] break up with my gf [24 f]?
POST: I have been dating my gf for just over 3 years and we currently live together. Over the last few weeks we have been having discussions about breaking up. Neither of us have done anything extensive like cheating or anything, but things just haven't been clicking lately.
Over the last few months we fight almost every week about small things. Most fights consist of me not paying her enough attention in her mind and me getting frustrated that she's mad at me over small things like not texting her updates when I'm out with my friends after she falls asleep.
I also have not really had the desire to have sex with her any more. Often feeling obligated to do so. Something we used to do almost every day but recently we do it maybe once a week.
I have been told that I am more fun when I am without her, and I feel like i have more fun without her. But I really do care for her and love her. And our talks have been civil and logical about breaking up but we are both afraid to both break up and regret it later or both be in a relationship that isn't working for either of us.
Are these normal problems in a relationship this long or are these really red flags. If it is normal, what advice do you have to make it better?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | me and my gf are not clicking. Is it time for us to move on, or are there changes we can make to be better. | me and my gf are not clicking. Is it time for us to move on, or are there changes we can make to be better. | 5,969 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Stranger returned lost phone and refused reward, asking that I consider donating to charity instead. Anyone have a "faith restored in humanity" experience to share?
POST: Longer version: I lost the phone while biking on a trail yesterday. Trail is pretty wide and I was sure that I'd be able to find it when I backtracked. I didn't.
I rushed home and changed every password I had. Tried using the "find my iphone" app, but had no luck since there is no signal avail on the trail after the first mile or so.
Called Verizon, explained the situation, but had no luck there either. They could suspend the phone's service temporarily but said my only option for getting another phone was to pay full price for one at the Apple store. That's roughly $600. They said I should've had insurance on the phone but wouldn't retro the insurance to help me out in this case.
I woke up this morning planning to cancel my Verizon account ($175 termination fee) and just go to Sprint where I'd get a similar plan and a new phone for only $199. That would put me ahead of the $600 bill for a new phone and Verizon would have one less angry customer, I thought. Then I saw an email in my inbox.
Subject read "LOST IPHONE."
A college student found the phone while running the trail and wanted to get it back to me. "I hope this email gets to you and you start having a better day," he wrote.
We emailed a bit more and I offered to send him an iTunes gift certificates as a thank you (he found my email address bc it was associated with the iTunes account on the phone, so I assumed he'd be into iTunes bucks). He declined, stating that if I really wanted to thank him, I could consider a donation to the Boy Scouts.
I live in a big city and run into a lot of rotten people on a daily basis. When I lost the phone I assumed that if someone found it, they'd take whatever info they could and just sell the phone.
I was happy to be proven wrong and it made my day. Anyone else have a moment like that to share?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | version: Guy that assumes everyone is rotten is proven wrong and has faith restored in humanity by a good samaritan. | version: Guy that assumes everyone is rotten is proven wrong and has faith restored in humanity by a good samaritan. | 2,092 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by answering honestly to my little brother
POST: My little brother is 8 years old. I have always taught him to ask me any questions and that I'd promise to always answer to the best of my ability with no consequent.
So there we were, shopping in the mall when he randomly asked me "What does prostituted mean?". I was taken aback since I know what type of books and videos he watches, so I wouldn't expect him to hear this word. But nonetheless, I begin to explain to him what 'prostituted' and 'prostitution' mean.
I start to explain to him that people really love sex and what 'sex' actually is. I continue to expound that some people love sex a lot but don't have girlfriends/boyfriends/SO/etc to have sex with. Therefore, there are people who offer themselves in return for money or other favors for sex in return. And therefore, they're prostituting themselves.
He has a dumbfounded look on his face after... He then asked me Why would people be "prostituted" to the fullest extent of the law for stealing then. I then notice the sign across from us stating 'you will be prosecuted to the full extent of the law for theft'.
I lose my cool here. I yell at my brother "YOU LITTLE SHIET, ITS PROSECUTED, NOT PROSTITUTED. LEARN TO READ DIPSHEIT!"
TL;DR: . Assistant: | TIFU by having the sex talk with my little brother because he asked me what 'prostituted' mean when he actually meant 'prosecuted'. | TIFU by having the sex talk with my little brother because he asked me what 'prostituted' mean when he actually meant 'prosecuted'. | 1,826 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: A younger friend was diagnosed with situational depression and asked me to be his mentor. What advice do you have for when we hang out?
POST: I'm currently a junior in college and am part of an (christian affiliated) organization that hangs out with high school kids. A new kid started coming recently that I could tell right away was a little shyer than others. Tonight he told me that he was recently diagnosed with situational depression and was wondering if I could be the older guy he can hangout with, talk with, and rely on.
Done deal, I'm honored.
What advice do you have, Reddit? I can already tell we have a lot of the same interests (nerd stuff), but what do I really **need** to tell him or let him get off his chest? I assume to just straight up listen is step one, but there has to be some y'all who might have been in the same situation as him and know what I should say. Thank you.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | What advice do you have for me with I hang out with my younger (highschool) friend who has situational depression? | What advice do you have for me with I hang out with my younger (highschool) friend who has situational depression? | 677 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28 F] with my [30M] are surprise pregnant with first kid, don't know how and when to tell him!
POST: My husband and I recently got married a few months ago and we have always talked about starting a family but were planning to start in 1-3 years.
Well surprise... we've been going at it like rabbits since we moved in lol.
Anyway, I do consulting work and visit the sites for about 3-5 weeks at a time. I am away right now and I have a bit more than 3 weeks left until I go home.
Should I tell him now - over the phone? Or should I wait until I get back? I would love to do this in person, as it's both of our first child.
I would love to see his face when I tell him, but I don't know if I can hold it in! Gentlemen, what would you prefer? Ladies, could you keep this in for a month? Help!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm pregnant with our first child but I won't see husband til a month, how and when should I tell him? | I'm pregnant with our first child but I won't see husband til a month, how and when should I tell him? | 1,594 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: Dog fell into elevator shaft (faulty door), complex claims to look..didn't, dog found alive a week later, complex now being difficult about paying the vet bill..how do I approach this?!
POST: Monday November 11th our dog escaped out of her harness as the elevator went up. We ended up on the 3rd floor and the dog ended up outside the elevator on level 1 where the door opened and the dog fell into the elevator shaft about 30 feet...fracturing her pelvis and messing up he hips as well. We asked the complex to check the elevator shaft and they claimed to have looked 3 separate times with no sight of the dog.
A week later, the following Monday another resident heard whining and there was the dog in the elevator shaft with less than a foot to live under. We told them they need to pay for the vet bill and they agreed and are now being difficult. The phone calls of them claiming they looked are recorded by the complex...what can we do?!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | dog falls into elevator shaft, complex claims to look 3 times, dog found week later alive with fractured pelvis. Complex agrees to pay vet bill, now being difficult. What do? | dog falls into elevator shaft, complex claims to look 3 times, dog found week later alive with fractured pelvis. Complex agrees to pay vet bill, now being difficult. What do? | 2,804 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [16 M] won't be with my Girlfriend [16 F] of 5 months, for valentines day and I'm feeling depressed
POST: So about 3 weeks ago I got caught trying to sneak over to my girlfriend's house when her parents weren't home. I'll admit, I wanted to have sex (we've done it twice before) and just have some alone time together with her for a while. We live about 45 minutes away from each other and neither of us have our licence so we usually depend on our friends, or our parents to take us from house to house
Any way long story short we got caught. She got grounded for a month and I got grounded till "I don't know when". I'm missing a lot of things because of this and I don't know when It's going to stop.
We had a Mardi gras balle (Yes, I live in Louisiana) at school two weeks after and my girlfriend got court! She was allowed to attend and I was not. Come to find out she got voted queen but I still felt terrible because she had to go without a date because of my actions.
Now it's valentines day and I made her an awesome present she won't get to see on valentines day because I am forbidden to see her at all. Not to mention I got my phone taken away so now I have no way to talk to her at all! I feel like I disappointed her and it's killing me inside.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Can't see or talk to my girlfriend on valentines day and I feel depressed. I don't know what to do. | Can't see or talk to my girlfriend on valentines day and I feel depressed. I don't know what to do. | 116 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I know the Nazis were terrible and all but...
POST: I know the Nazis were terrible and all but how do they compare to other occupying military's through history? Sometimes I feel like we have been encouraged to hate them for obvious reasons. But at the same time I wonder how brutal they are compared to other regimes.
I think to fairly compare them we should only look at the 'normal soldiers.' From what I heard the SS is mostly responsible for carrying out the Holocaust. Yet in movies and pop culture it seems like regardless of what kind of infantry/soldier/position the German guy is in he's always raping and pillaging.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Have we been born into a Nazi hating culture where they aren't so different from most historical armies or were they really as bad as we make them out to be? | Have we been born into a Nazi hating culture where they aren't so different from most historical armies or were they really as bad as we make them out to be? | 3,291 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: The local fire department tried to block my wife and me in a local park parking lot. Redditors, what defining moment in your life made you lose hope in humanity?
POST: So my wife and I finally had the night to ourselves with the kid at a sleepover. We drive to the local park for a romantic(ish) walk together. When we get back to the car and try to exit the parking area from the main exit we find it blocked off for a "Movie in the park" night. This parking lot has two entrances/exits so we drive to the other one to find it also blocked off...this time by a fire truck and some of the local firemen. As I motion to them that I need to exit, they wave me back in the direction of the turnabout that leads to the blocked main exit. Never mind that this would be something of a hazard, there were plenty of other people who had parked before this whole blockade had been put into place. I nicely ask the fireman to let us out and the following was out discussion:
Me: Sir, we need to get out of the parking lot.
Fire man (FM): Use the other exit, this one is blocked off.
Me: You guys blocked the other exit off, too.
FM: (gives me a blank stare for a few seconds then calls over 3 of his fellow fire fighters).
It is a good 2 or 3 minutes for them to come to the stunning conclusion that "Hmm, this *could* be a problem".
Eventually they decided it was best to let us and others out to return to our homes but I think I lost the last of my faith in humanity. I also hope they never try this approach with a burning house.
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TL;DR: . Assistant: | Firemen blocked off the only two exits of a parking lot and had to form a council of 4 to deduce that it *may* cause a problem somehow. | Firemen blocked off the only two exits of a parking lot and had to form a council of 4 to deduce that it *may* cause a problem somehow. | 3,691 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I'm great at small talk, but how do I move past that?
POST: Reddit, I'm great on first and second dates when a lot of it is asking questions and getting to know about the other person. In fact, I love meeting new people because I'm pretty decent at small talk. After the first or second date though, I seem to run into a wall about what to talk about.
Is this a problem of just 'chemistry' (fuck, how does it work)? I'm great hanging out with friends and with girls that are in that damned friend zone. I just can't seem to make it work on a one-on-one setting with a girl I'm interested in, in a date situation. I'm just wondering if anyone had any tips out there. Thanks!
(Note: I have been in relationships before (21 years old), but I feel that this seems to be part of the reason why they don't go anywhere and just kind of fizzle out.)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How do I come up with stuff to talk about when dating a girl once all the small talk introductory stuff is out of the way? | How do I come up with stuff to talk about when dating a girl once all the small talk introductory stuff is out of the way? | 292 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Best friend(22F) and I (23M), don't know what kind of responses I'm expecting, just wanted to get it off my chest
POST: I've seen other stories and read some opinions but I really just wanted to get this out there somehow because I'm not good at talking to actual people about things
So I'm in a situation that I don't know what to do about, currently my plan of sailing along and ignoring it is doing fine(ish) for fora while, but every so often like today I just can't stop thinking about it
I(23M) have some pretty strong feelings for my best friend(22F)
It's regularly commented that we have amazing chemistry together and that what we have is a kind of best friendship different from what other people have. Were totally inseparable, do everything together and can barely go a day without talking to each other
another friend of mine only last night said that she wanted to bash out heads together and make us talk about our feelings.
Her and I have actually admitted to having some feelings for each other, we once came close to sleeping together, and earlier this year we kissed a few times on various occasions.
However she has said to me a few months ago that she was confused about the feelings she had for me and because we are so damn close she's affraid of risking what we have in pursuit of something more,
And if I'm honest the thought of it scares the hell out of me as well, as much as I want something more to happen I think we are both too scared to do anything about it.
I could be totally wrong and she might not actually feel the same way about me, despite what our mutual friends have said
I mean like, she has gone on other dates whilst this has been going on between us, and so have I, but for me it always boils down to fact that none of the girls I've talked to are anything like her.
This has pretty much been going on since January and it's all just so confusing and I guess any input is welcome from you guys, I just wanted to vent
Thanks for reading my stereotypical story of a boy pining after his best friend
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I like her, I've been told she like me, both seem to affraid to act on it, mutual friends want to knock our heads together | I like her, I've been told she like me, both seem to affraid to act on it, mutual friends want to knock our heads together | 257 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Girl I was dating very suddenly stopped being interested, what might I have done and is there anything I can do?
POST: I met a girl about a month ago at a gig and she made it clear to my friend that she liked me a lot.
I got it together and sorted it out to meet with her to get to know her, met with her a couple of times and it went really well both time and she showed the usual good signs that she was into me. After the second time I think I made the mistake of not texting her after which in hindsight I should have (I was seeing if she would text me first which wa s probably a stupid thing to do). Since then it seems like she's now suddenly uninterested, I don't know.
I think its probably best that I move on to someone else but for the future can anyone say what I might have done?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl who I was interested in said to my friend she really liked me, went on a couple of dates which seemed to go really well, suddenly seemed not interested, what might I have done? | Girl who I was interested in said to my friend she really liked me, went on a couple of dates which seemed to go really well, suddenly seemed not interested, what might I have done? | 4,262 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I, [24 F] am afraid that my boyfriend, [28 m] might not be attracted to me. What should I do?
POST: I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year. A little background - he's a very handsome guy, and I'm cute but not exactly a head-turner. We met on an online dating site and originally I had gotten a vibe that he wasn't interested physically, just something about his body language, but we hit it off really well and eventually things turned physical and we became a couple. Like most new relationships, the sex was frequent and passionate but it dwindled down to once a week and eventually about once a month. I've tried talking to him about it and he says that he's just tired and depressed, but nothing has really changed in his life and he doesn't seem depressed. The most recent time I brought it up he said that he doesn't know why he doesn't want to have sex and that he feels bad that I want to and he doesn't. It's gotten to the point at which I don't even want to be around him despite the fact that he's my best friend because it hurts too much.
I already have body image issues and I have a medical condition that causes me to be underweight no matter what I do so it's not like I can improve my appearance for him. I also am insecure because I was previously with someone who withheld sex for months and told me I wasn't attractive in order to abuse and manipulate me. My current boyfriend is a wonderful person and I don't want to lose him because of this.
Also, I should add that I haven't had any reason to suspect that there's anyone else so that doesn't really factor into this situation.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend has stopped being interested in sex, I'm paranoid that he isn't attracted to me. How can I talk to him about it? | Boyfriend has stopped being interested in sex, I'm paranoid that he isn't attracted to me. How can I talk to him about it? | 5,371 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskDocs
TITLE: Should I be worried about getting a blood clot?
POST: Hello,
I'm writing this because of several factors, I'm not usually the paranoid type, but basically:
First an intro about me, I'm 21 years old male, 5'7, I'm in decent physical shape (used to be obese, now a little overweight and losing weight at a decent pace). I don't have any major illnesses, except depression, I take 10g of cipralex daily.
1. My family has a history of blood clot (my father had one in his leg and required an operation etc etc)
2. I have some kind of depression, which gives me physical symptoms, so sometimes I feel pain in one of my my legs, and it always makes me anxious about having a blood clot, I have no idea what to do, since it's obviously not a good idea to go to a doctor to check for blood clot every time depression shows physical symptoms. (I am getting treated for depression, the treatment is going well, but I believe i'm always going to get these "physical" symptoms every now and then)
3. How can I stop being worried about this? And how can I make sure to prevent it happening to me?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | family has history of blood clot, depression expresses physical pain in legs which makes me anxious, how can I stop being worried? | family has history of blood clot, depression expresses physical pain in legs which makes me anxious, how can I stop being worried? | 209 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend's [18] ex [17F] hates me. [16F]
POST: Throwaway with a relevant name, as that's what she wants to do me funnily enough. Also we're from the UK, just in case some worry about ages.
It started in the summer, two months after she (let's call her Green) broke off their relationship due to 'exams'. Green was insistent that she did not care for my now boyfriend (let's call him Red). So Red and I met up one day and we ended up sleeping together. It was just casual. I decided to be honest with Green, to gain her blessing, I suppose, and it's been a downward spiral since then. She claimed to be happy for us, then took an extremely sour turn.
Since the end of June, she has been increasingly antagonising towards me, tells others how much she hates me (though in October she actually had sex with me, never again... Apparently she didn't hate me then?) and how much she isn't over Red, going so far to admit it to Red himself a few days ago. We've been officially a couple for a couple of weeks, but essentially (acting like one, exclusivity) for a couple of months, and Green is driving me crazy. Her devotion to him is so clear, she brings him up in conversation but screeches to a halt when I do so myself...
She reacted oddly happily when I told her we were a couple and it has me worried, especially taking her prior behaviour into account. We were both skeptical of her happiness, considering what happened last time she said she was "happy" for us.
Sorry if this was confusing or lacking in detail. Any advice is appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My boyfriend's ex said she didn't care after breaking up with him, now she does, and hates me for "stealing" him. What should I do? | My boyfriend's ex said she didn't care after breaking up with him, now she does, and hates me for "stealing" him. What should I do? | 1,357 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: (GA/WI) Questions on Paternity/Contacting Biological Father
POST: Hello all - I'll try to be brief.
I live in Georgia. Thirteen years ago (when I was 17) I reached out to the man my mother has always stated is my biological father (I also happen to look identical to him...scary identical). His work address was readily findable online (I wanted to contact him at work, because I didn't want to jeopardize his existing family dynamic) and I wrote him a letter by certified mail, letting him know I existed and that there was a chance I could be his biological son (he resides in Wisconsin). I also sent pictures of myself to show him how it was fairly obvious from an aesthetic stand point that I was his. In response he called my mom (whose work information was also readily searchable online) to verify that she thought I was his. She said yes, and also made clear that I wasn't looking for money or anything just to let him know I exist. He ceded that I was probably his son, and they hung up.
A few weeks later I received a letter in the mail from a law office stating that I was to no longer have any direct contact with the man I had written the letter to and that any future attempts at communication must go through the law office. I was upset. In my haste and hurt I threw away the letter, deciding then that I would never have a reason to reach out to him.
Now I'm 30. I'm older and a little wiser and I'd like to try to reestablish that contact even if it is only through the lawyer (for medical history purposes, etc. etc.).
My question: I no longer have that law office's information. How would I go about reestablishing contact without legal repercussions? At this point, could I face legal consequences if I call his office and say "what was that law office again?"? I don't want to step on his toes, and I'm not trying to get sued - so I'd like to know if I could be held legally liable if I just shot him an email or called asking for the info for the law offices that previously sent a letter to me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | if someone sends you a letter from their lawyer saying all future contact must go through said lawyer, but then you lose that lawyer'sinformation, what are your legal options to try to reestablish contact? | if someone sends you a letter from their lawyer saying all future contact must go through said lawyer, but then you lose that lawyer'sinformation, what are your legal options to try to reestablish contact? | 2,838 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm 24, no jobs, no qualifications, no assets and living with my parents. What should i do?
POST: I am still studying in college, but it is just for a qualification for a job that i might not enjoy.
I want to invest in property, but currently i have no cash flow at all to apply for loans. what's your thoughts on this?
I've applied for a few jobs, paying around $600 per month with my high school qualifications, but college takes the majority of my time so i couldn't hold on to a job for more than a month.
I want to be able to be financially free from my parents as soon as possible. they are financially stable but at my age, i want to be able to support myself instead of depending on my parents.
what can i do now which can provide me with a steady cash flow so i can save up for a deposit for a property and apply for a loan, in a (*relatively speaking*) short amount of time?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Assume i have nothing, what can i do so i can have a constant income and be financially independent from my parents? | Assume i have nothing, what can i do so i can have a constant income and be financially independent from my parents? | 730 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My office has started Prank Wars. It is crucial my group wins... Ideas?
POST: The office I work in has a group of six interns, three girls and three boys. Originally, we started playing pranks on each other when one person was out of the office. It started off simple with things like turning everything in the cubicles backwards, tilting computer screens, etc, until last week when my group (the girls) completely wrapped everything in the boy's cubicles in tinfoil and saran wrap (computer moniters, chairs, speakers, printers, pens, staplers, cups, literally everything) while they were all out of the office, so they were unable to get into their cubes the next day. They are now planning something big to get us all back (probably on Friday since all of the girls will be gone), so we need to start planning ways to retaliate. Please help us Reddit!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | We've started intern prank wars. My group struck first, completely saran wrapping the boys' cubicles. We're patiently waiting for their prank which will happen Friday, meanwhile we need to start planning our next attack. | We've started intern prank wars. My group struck first, completely saran wrapping the boys' cubicles. We're patiently waiting for their prank which will happen Friday, meanwhile we need to start planning our next attack. | 3,846 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: When asked about salary expectations during my interview I said 38k to 45k. Was just offered the position with 38k. Should I try and negotiate?
POST: So I interviewed for a position last week, and before the interview I saw online that the industry average for this position was $41,000. During the interview, they asked me my salary expectations, I said between $38,000 and $45,000 hoping it'd land somewhere in the middle. I received my offer today, and it was for $38,000. I can't help but wonder if I had just said $41,000 they probably would've offered it...
Anyways, so what I know is they are hiring 3 other people for this same position... I either got lucky and guessed exactly what salary they were planning on paying all of us to begin with, or we're all getting paid differently. As for the job, it is the ideal entry level position for me right now, and is a great company with benefits etc so I actually wouldn't mind working there for the 38k salary.
But it would be nice to get an even 40 at least, so my question is, is it common practice to negotiate salary after receiving an offer already? I also must say that I don't have any leverage as this is entry level and I would have probably still accepted had the offer been even as low as 30k. As such, I'm very afraid the offer may be retracted if I do try and negotiate, if that sort of thing happens?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Said 38k to 45k salary expectation during interview, was offered 38k. Have no leverage, and overall its a great entry level position and company. Should I negotiate? | Said 38k to 45k salary expectation during interview, was offered 38k. Have no leverage, and overall its a great entry level position and company. Should I negotiate? | 4,419 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How do I tell this girl i like her?
POST: Hello, fellow redditors. Like many of you, I like a girl. But not like so many of you probably, I have never told a girl before that I like her. I am a 20 year old guy, good looking from what i've been told, funny and with lots of pros on my side, and obviously, cons as well.
I had some girlfriends already, and they were girls that came after me. I never really went after a girl, nor liked a girl enough to tell her.
But here I am, right on the age where i that it would start to be difficult to find a girl that fits my 'requirements'.
I am really nervous about this, because despite not knowing her for long (we are both freshers from the same university course), i get along with her pretty well, we've hanged out with the same group of people, and we talk freely and have a good time when together. I never had the chance to be alone with her so far.. but the other day I went out for dinner with her and another friend. She complimented me sometimes throughout the night about my clothes, and even that i have a nice voice to sing. This may sound too cliché, but despite knowing many girls.. she has this way of being herself that is quite genuine (and i love it). and well.. she's quite cute too :)
Sorry if this is
TL;DR: . Assistant: | for you guys.. but I would really appreciate your opinion on this.. I want to tell her i like her.. but I don't know how, and in what circumstances ! | for you guys.. but I would really appreciate your opinion on this.. I want to tell her i like her.. but I don't know how, and in what circumstances ! | 1,487 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How do I handle my POS neighbor who is now deliberately blasting surround sound/etc?
POST: My husband, 7 year old and I live in a 100 year old building on the third floor. It's casual, rent by owner, not corporate. There is a landlord on site, but he is a puss and is rarely here anyway. Our new downstairs neighbors have a surround sound system they play video games and watch tv on until 4-5 am. It shakes our apartment so bad, and it is so loud we can't even hear our tv. Last night they were hammering on the walls at 3 am. I knocked on the floor to let them know, hey, not cool. They decided to make hammering song like crap for an hour as retaliation. I asked the landlord to talk to them and he said he would go right up, but they still do it, and louder I might add, plus the banging on the walls and you can hear them laughing. I'm at my wits end, and need advice. My husband wants to silently get them back like getting deer urine at the hunting store and pouring it in their door frame or something along those lines. I'm afraid if I show my face, they will key my truck or something of that nature.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My asshole neighbors deliberately have their surround sound on and bang the walls till 4am and the landlord talking didn't help. | My asshole neighbors deliberately have their surround sound on and bang the walls till 4am and the landlord talking didn't help. | 1,919 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: He (19, m) is refusing to accept that it's over and I'm (16, f) afraid to break him more.
POST: It's been almost exactly 2 months since I broke up with my now ex. I explained my reasoning, and he seemed to accept it okay. I tried my best at no contact, but I did end up sending a few emails along the way to see how he was, explaining a bit more, etc.
I am not sad about this anymore. Not in the slightest. I don't even really miss him, which kinda tells me I did the right thing.
Now, I haven't emailed him in over two weeks and he continues to send an email almost everyday. They're so desperate. I want to tell him to stop, that it's over, seriously. I'm not replying and he's sending more and more, manipulating me in shitty ways.
I feel like I should tell him to stop, but he's said that he'll die trying or that he has nothing else but me. He isn't in a good place in his life and I'm afraid what me telling him to back off will do to him.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | He's still desperate after 2 months. Should I tell him to back off, or just ignore every email he sends completely? | He's still desperate after 2 months. Should I tell him to back off, or just ignore every email he sends completely? | 5,576 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Examples of casual dining?
POST: Generally, I choose either coffee, lunch, or drinks for my dates. Or, if I know the person a bit, something that is relevant to them.
Recently, my schedule has been shying towards weeknights being free. Which means I don't want to be drinking, and it's a bit late for lunch.
Obviously, fast food is (generally) a poor date choice unless you know the person gets wet for McDonalds. Fine dining is both expensive and over the top, but I'm wondering if anyone can give me some examples of casual dining. Is this like, Denny's kinda stuff? Tony Roma's or Boston Pizza?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm completely lost when it comes to dinner places, and would love a few examples of places so I know what I'm looking for. | I'm completely lost when it comes to dinner places, and would love a few examples of places so I know what I'm looking for. | 2,157 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Not sure if correct sub, but any advice would be greatly appreciated
POST: I, m(26), work once a week at a restaurant/bar. There is a bartender, f(24), there who I work with/see once every few weeks. I always was interested in her but didn't spend enough time around her to try and get her number etc.
I friended her on facebook about a month ago and she never accepted. I understand people forget to accept, I am guilty of this myself from time to time.
Last week she was bartending while I was serving and she was being pretty flirtatious and giving me the eyes (I used to be completely oblivious to this stuff, but I think I am more aware now).
I may not see her again for a few weeks or maybe more. I want to ask her to hang out sometime but have no idea how to go about it. Any advice would be greatly appreciated
TL;DR: . Assistant: | don't know how to go about asking this co worker out. I do not have her number/facebook and rarely see her | don't know how to go about asking this co worker out. I do not have her number/facebook and rarely see her | 3,446 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: So Reddit, what was your most embarrassing moment to do with your body?
POST: When I was around 12, for our P.E group, we all had to do the high jump as part of our olympic topic. I was average at best at this, and I had a weird run. When I say weird, it was kind of like I was running with a boner. All the time. So I was getting ready for the high jump, there were around 7 or so people left. I was getting really into it, I was pumped. Today would be the day I kicked there asses, the day that I became BETTER at P.E.
So about five minutes later, my turn rolls around. I was last but one to go. The other kids were cheering me on. I was gunna destroy it. Well, I didnt get anywhere near it. I slipped on one of the plastic cones, (they were in the direction of a path we had to run across, as you may know you have to run at an angle for the high jump) and hit my foot on the soft mat we had to land on. I broke my ankle. Yep, broke it. I was on crutches for a while and when I got back to school, that was the top of the gossip list. People sometimes still go on about it today. Needless to say, I am oh so careful when doing the High jump now.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Doing High Jump in our P.E topic, slipped on plastic cone, hurt ankle and broke it on a soft mat. | Doing High Jump in our P.E topic, slipped on plastic cone, hurt ankle and broke it on a soft mat. | 2,794 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I need some advice on improving my living situation and my life in general.
POST: I graduated from highschool in 2012. I am now 20 years old (21 in June). So about 3 years ago my mom finally won custody over my sister and me after about 10 years of custody battles. The only problem is that all the years before took such a financial toll on my mom. So the past years she's basically been struggling to even be there for us at all. About 2 years ago she lost the apartment that we were living in. I had to live with my bestfriend for the last months of Highschool. My mom and sister stayed with one of her friends from the area. After Highschool we all moved in with my mom's parents. It's a mess really. I don't like going into detail on the living situation, but let's just say its very messy. I really don't like living like this although I have for the past couple of years.
I have a pretty nice job at a high end computer retailer and I'm looking to continue education for a better career. The only problem is I really don't have the drive to do anything significant at the moment. What I would like to do is get my own apartment (Don't care about the size) and start again on my own. I feel like I've been dragged into a pit with the rest of my family that I cannot get out of. I just need some advice on how I can move forward.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have a terrible living situation at the moment. My current goals are simple: Get my own place to stay and a way to get back and forth to work. That's all I want right now. | I have a terrible living situation at the moment. My current goals are simple: Get my own place to stay and a way to get back and forth to work. That's all I want right now. | 4,209 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: This is ruining my life and I don't know who to talk to. Any thoughts?
POST: Okay for about 2 months I've been having anxiety attacks because for some reason it feels like I'm disconnected from my body. My arms and legs don't feel like they are there anymore sometimes and it freaks me out really bad. It's really hard to explain but it's like the exact opposite of having a phantom limb. Instead of it showing up, it just feels like it goes away. Sometimes it feels like like I'm not even here anymore because my whole body just disappears. I can still use everything like normal, but it feels like everything is missing. I've talked to a psychologist a few times and they said they have no idea what's wrong with me. I'm losing hope and am very scared. Is there anyone else who feels like this or has any idea who else I could talk to? If you need more information I'll reply as soon as I can, still have school and everything.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My body is missing but still here at the same time. Don't know who to talk to or how to explain it. Need help bad. :( | My body is missing but still here at the same time. Don't know who to talk to or how to explain it. Need help bad. :( | 952 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'd [16 M] hate to have feelings for her [16 F].
POST: I know, I know, it is generic. We have known each other for about 5 years now, and in that time we have become the best of friends. We've established that no matter what happens in our friendship, that we will never cuddle, kiss, or have feelings for each other.
But recently we have been communicating non-stop and sometimes I just feel like I may have feelings for this person. But I am afraid to say something about it or point it out in the event that she won't continue being my friend, which is what's more important to me than dating her. We were talking the other day about what we look for in a partner, and I listed some things, (I am [trait], enjoy [verb], and have [noun].) and her response to that was basically, "But dude, I am [trait], enjoy [verb], and have [noun].", with the EXACT same things I listed. It made me pause and think that maybe she said that in the hopes I would get a mother fucking hint. But I dunno. She told me she did some stuff with this guy, and for some reason it really set me off.
And now I can't stop thinking about her, but at the same time, I know I shouldn't think about her in this way. I wish I could simply tell her how I feel. It's basic Middle school bullshit, but it's driving me nuts and starting to stress me out. It's like this little guy tugging at my shirt telling me to be sad about it and stuff, telling me to not be able to enjoy my life without her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm afraid I'm falling for my best friend, sometimes I feel like she feels the same way but if I told her how I feel, I may lose her as a friend. | I'm afraid I'm falling for my best friend, sometimes I feel like she feels the same way but if I told her how I feel, I may lose her as a friend. | 1,242 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20F] and my SO [23 M] have been dating for about 6 months and I'm emotionally drained...
POST: Here's some background:
I've been told multiple times that I'm unsupportive, I don't care, and that I don't put in any effort into the relationship. Mind you, I've given my SO permission to use my car to drive to X, Y, and Z places without much complaint, picked him up from work, brought him home, and always gave him money regardless of the financial situation I was in due to the burdening costs of commuting to school every day. During the semester I did not work because of my schedule, and the money I had to spend on supplies (Visual Arts major), food and gas was fairly limited. Therefore, I've always squeezed pennies and sacrificed many things that I needed to foot the bill for my partner.
In addition to the stress of not having money to spend in general, my partner would put pressure on me to get to certain places on time and rarely took my schedule into consideration before berating me for being late. I often found myself becoming very tense and uneasy when we made plans because I felt like I was walking on eggshells if I didn't arrive on time, or if I had to cancel at last minute. If plans were cancelled, all hell broke loose. I was constantly told that I was wasting his time and that I messed up and everything was my fault, even if it was out of my control. Keep in mind that the average time it takes to travel from my house to his was about 45 minutes without traffic. This meant I had to get up extremely early and commute at odd hours of the night as he was dropped off and went to bed as soon as he got home.
I've addressed the topic of inconsideration several times, but of course, I am wrong and I'm selfish for only thinking about myself.
In addition, I've put up with my partner intentionally ignoring me for long periods of time as he was engrossed in his phone and seemed to be bothered if I made any attempt to engage in conversation. Of course, I was generally upset by his behavior and have put up with this longer than the duration of his past relationships.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My partner thinks I'm unsupportive and defines me as a terrible girlfriend although I sacrifice a lot for the sake of his needs. Am I wrong for feeling emotionally drained/upset? | My partner thinks I'm unsupportive and defines me as a terrible girlfriend although I sacrifice a lot for the sake of his needs. Am I wrong for feeling emotionally drained/upset? | 1,948 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [34 M]: I am really bad at casual physical contact... please help!
POST: This problem has plagued me all my off. I just carry myself in a stiff, awkward, kind of clumsy way and I'm bad when it comes to physical touch.
Sitting next to someone on a couch? My shoulders are hunched, my hands are clasped, my muscles tense like a puma ready to strike!
Someone goes to pat me on the back or touch my shoulder? I instinctively dodge out of the way.
Hugs? Initially met with a fighting stance before I finally loosen up.
This has been a problem in every serious romantic relationship I've ever had (I've had five serious relationships total). I hear things like: "Do you not like me? Are you embarrassed to be seen with me?"
To make up for it, I have to be very conscious of touch, which is also awkward. I can't just naturally hold a girl's hand. I feel like my body language is saying in a robotic way: "I am going to hold your hand now." Same with putting my arm around my sweetie or whatever.
Here's the thing: I like to touch, and I like being touched! In my brain I have no qualms with it at all and love physical contact. You know how some people hate it? Not me! Love it. But my body and brain do not agree on this, somehow.
I'm in the very early stages of a new relationship and I don't want this to be a problem. I don't want her to think I'm a weirdo because I'm bad at hand holding in public. I want to get over this somehow... ehhhh help?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm super awkward when it comes to touching/being touched, even though mentally I don't have any hangups with it. | I'm super awkward when it comes to touching/being touched, even though mentally I don't have any hangups with it. | 2,963 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [24M] gf [20F] sent me a really cryptic message about something she wants to talk about, but won't talk right now
POST: I'm currently long distance with my gf for about two months since she's interning elsewhere. Last Friday I went to a workshop in another city (and am still here), and I noticed she just ceased all communication over the weekend. I sent her some messages asking what's going on, and she finally responded last night with the following sequence of messages.
her: Ill talk to u when u get back from dc
me: huh why
her: I have something i want to talk to u about but not while youre there so ill wait for u to come back first
me: i can Skype you now
her: No, ill talk to u when youre back
me: why does it matter where I'm at
her: Oh, didnt see this
Ill just talk to u when u get back, i dont want to talk about it right now
me: you said that already
her: I dont have anything else to say atm
I'm going back home in two days (to my place, not where she's currently at), but I can't stop thinking about this today, and it's distracting me from other things. I don't really want to press her further if she's unwilling to talk, but on the other hand I need a better understanding of what's going on right now.. if someone can help me decipher the cryptic messages she sent, it would be much appreciated.
We've been apart for nearing two months now but I have a flight to visit her in a little under two weeks.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | long distance for two months, visiting her soon, but she suddenly stopped communicating over the weekend and now says she has something she wants to talk about but won't talk about it right now | long distance for two months, visiting her soon, but she suddenly stopped communicating over the weekend and now says she has something she wants to talk about but won't talk about it right now | 250 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [30 F] with my husband [33 M] of 10 years. He's Thoughtless and Forgetful about Special Occasions **tl;dr**: How do you get them to care about gift buying?
POST: Married ladies, I'm having what seems to be a long term issue and I'd like to know if this is common. My husband of 10 years seems to have real trouble remembering our special life occasions (anniversary, birthdays, etc). In the event he does remember, he seems to put little thought into the gifts he gives to me.
I'm certain that I'm not alone in this. However, it feels like if he cared more that he would try harder and want to bring that extra spark to our relationship we had when dating (he was great then).
I have the following questions for all of you married couples:
1) Who tends to be the one that remembers these occasions you or your spouse? (Please provide genders)
2) Do they typically find you a gift that is something you really wanted or do you find most of the time it misses the mark?
3) How do you go about making this better? Would you consider it 'cheating' if you gave them hints or helped them understand what you are looking for?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How do you get your significant other to care enough to put thought into what they get you for your special life celebrations? | How do you get your significant other to care enough to put thought into what they get you for your special life celebrations? | 1,100 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How the *Hell* do I (23M) tell if I'm in love with her? (19F)
POST: We've been dating since early December. She loves me. A lot. It's the giddy, clear light in her eyes when she looks into mine that let's me know. When she says those three words, she *means it.* I'm older than her, and more than just chronologically. She was a virgin, I wasn't by a long shot. Neither of us are terribly experienced in the relationship game, though I've had my fair share of utter disasters. One real long-term relationship, and a couple of spectacular failures. She's had a good life, and I, well, it's been weird. She's definitely known pain, but she's been *happy* in a way that I've never experienced. Blah blah mental illness, pills, therapy, hospitalization, etc.
When I look at her, I feel content in a way that is completely alien to me. The ever-present anger and fear and twisted up sadness kind of melt away when she nuzzles my neck, and it's fucking terrifying. I'm so, so scared to be in love with her, and if I am, it's the most *bizarre* thing I've ever experienced. It's like being high. I hate being high. Gah.
So, my questions: How do you know if you're in love? And what do you do if that's the most frightening thing you can think of? Do I stick it out, or do I run away? I don't want to hurt her. I could use some advice.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have no idea what I'm doing in a relationship, scared of myself, scared of her, scared I'm going to fuck her up, but she's the first thing to make me happy in as long as I can remember. | I have no idea what I'm doing in a relationship, scared of myself, scared of her, scared I'm going to fuck her up, but she's the first thing to make me happy in as long as I can remember. | 4,167 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [34 M] doesn't know how to deal with my father[65 M].
POST: Hi All,
I really don't know where to begin, so I'm sorry if I'm just rambling on. My father and mother migrated to the US from India in 1988. He always had drinks, but usually after work. But ever since he lost his job in 2002 he started to drink a lot (whisky). He even got fired from work once because he came to work drunk. Around 2007, he got a brain seizure because he tried to quit cold turkey.
After he retired (2014), all he does is stay home and drink (beer) but lately for the last few weeks he's back to drinking liquor. His doctor has advised him to stop drinking and smoking as his liver and lungs are in bad shape.
I really think he has some sort of depression issue and I don't know how to address it or deal with it. No one can talk to him about his drinking problem. He thinks everyone is against him and he doesn't want to hear anyone's advise, because he thinks everyone is trying to ruin his life. He also has a habit of being abusive to my mother both physically and verbally. He blames everything on either my mother or my sister and I. He keeps telling us that we didn't live up to his expectations and we let him down.
Everyone in my family has asked him to get some help, but he refuses. He's planning on going to India in July for three months and I don't think he's coming back alive. In India there is no one to control him and anyone to watch over him. Last year when he was in India, he was admitted to the hospital for about 20 days because he was drunk all day everyday and once he starts drinking he refuses to eat any sort of food. I'm planning on visiting him in July before he goes to India and I feel like this might be the last time I see him alive.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My father has drinking problem and I think he also has depression. Don't know how to deal with him. Might not be alive much longer. | My father has drinking problem and I think he also has depression. Don't know how to deal with him. Might not be alive much longer. | 6,233 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Credit cards and Credit History. Is it safe to close old accounts?
POST: Hello!
I hope that someone can lend me some advice for a situation that I find myself in. Here's my situation:
About 10 years ago as I was traveling, I applied for my first credit card which was an AMEX delta card. For the years after, I traveled often, and got benefits from this card.
Now, after I have recently graduated college, and landed a full time job, I no longer have time to travel as much, and therefore have no need to use the Delta card. Last year I paid off my balance with the card, and haven't used it since.
Recently, I had to pay the $95 annual fee, and realized that I should perhaps consider another credit card. I thought about closing this account and applying for a cash rewards card.
Now my issue is that this is my ONLY and OLDEST credit card account. I would like to close the account and apply for a Bank of America cash rewards card as my checking/savings accounts are with them. However, I am concerned with how this will affect my credit report.
Will closing this account greatly affect my credit score?
I even spoke with the reps at AMEX about downgrading to a cash rewards card with no annual fee, and apparently I cannot do this as my AMEX card is linked with the Delta account. I do not want this card, I'm stuck in a pickle...
Any advice would be appreciated!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to close my oldest credit card account for another credit card that offers cash back rewards. Not sure if this will negatively impact my credit score. Is it worth it? | I want to close my oldest credit card account for another credit card that offers cash back rewards. Not sure if this will negatively impact my credit score. Is it worth it? | 594 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: My mom may have screwed me out of my settlement money.
POST: Hey guys,
I'm a 22 year old and when I was about 15 I received a lawsuit settlement for roughly 100k after lawyer and insurance fees.
I've never spent any of it with plans on paying for my school then investing it for my future. But I had plans on receiving it this past December.
But my mom, who managed everything for me since I was 15 at the time, said it was sent to the wrong address and has been deposited/cashed already by someone at the wrong address. And now she says a claim is open and they're investigating it.
The reason I don't believe my mom is my aunt was scammed by an online dating scam and then lied to my mom to get more money to send to him, but my mom claims she didn't touch my settlement fund.
She said she invested it through tiaacref. Should I believe it was sent to the wrong address and then deposited by the wrong people?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my mom was previously duped by a family member, claims she didn't touch my settlement, now my settlement is gone. | my mom was previously duped by a family member, claims she didn't touch my settlement, now my settlement is gone. | 3,653 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Studying in Madrid this July, have a free week after. What should I do?
POST: Basically, as the title says, I'll be studying in Madrid this coming July through a program with my (American) university.
I have a free week after and am trying to figure out how I would best spend it. I realize it's not a lot of time, but I'd like to hear what you would do if you had an extra week.
I'll probably have seen enough of Spain (and a little bit of Portugal, probably) to be happy, so I'm thinking of traveling elsewhere in Europe. However, I'm a Brazilian citizen, which probably doesn't affect much, but it's worth considering if I have to cross borders.
I don't expect to go backpacking/hiking/scuba-diving or anything like that in such a short amount of time, but I'd be very happy being a "fish out of water." I love beaches and mountains, really any scenery or cities would be cool with me.
Basically, this would just be a good way for me to whet my appetite with a little bit of Europe. Probably I have enough time to explore maybe two cities or so counting travel, maybe see a good museum or two and eat some interesting food.
If you have suggestions (anybody know anything about getting into the Paris tunnels?) about any thing that I just **need** to see/visit/eat/dance or something, I'd love to hear it. Also, my birthday falls during this free week, and I don't know if I'll have any companions with me as of yet, but anything I could do to celebrate my birthday would be cool as well.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Have a free week July 28-Aug 4, will have been studying in Spain, want to see cool/interesting stuff and celebrate my birthday. | Have a free week July 28-Aug 4, will have been studying in Spain, want to see cool/interesting stuff and celebrate my birthday. | 238 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (24F) just started seeing a guy (31M) that considers himself polyamorous. I don't know what to do.
POST: So I've been talking with this guy online for a few months, and things have been going really well. I have some intimacy issues, but it's amazed me how able I was to be upfront about my issues with him (as he has been with me) before even having met him. I have definitely been developing feelings for him.
I finally met him last night, and it was amazing. We cuddled all night long, had amazing sex, and I just felt so safe and content. I am developing feelings for this guy fast. The problem is, he confessed that he's polyamorous, meaning that he doesn't feel fulfilled unless he is able to have several 'committed' relationships. I don't have any problem with this idea in theory, but in practice, in my own life, I'm struggling with it.
It might help to know that I shut out dating due to trauma and those intimacy issues for a long time, and I've only recently started dating. I've had nothing but horrible luck up to this point in the guys I've seen, and this guy feels like something different. Like I could actually see something develop. But due to my deep insecurities and intimacy issues, I don't know if/how I could do this. I am already in therapy for these issues, by the way.
Has anyone been in a similar boat? Would you be able to do this in my shoes? I want to hear whatever your input is, because I'm totally lost.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Don't know if/how I can start a relationship with someone who is polyamarous. Any input is greatly appreciated! | Don't know if/how I can start a relationship with someone who is polyamarous. Any input is greatly appreciated! | 1,234 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my step-sister of 2 years [19 F], she is having a child and is choosing a terrible name. She asked my opinion and is now pissed at me.
POST: My step-sister and I have never been close. She has been in trouble with the law several times, is a known meth addict, and constantly borrows money from my dad. Furthermore, she has become pregnant and the family is 99% sure her husband is not the father, as he was locked up around the time the baby would of been conceived. However, my step mother is the enabling type of parent, and sees nothing wrong with how she lives her life.
Recently, after her husband came home from jail, they have announced the name of the baby. They are naming the soon to be baby girl Jenisus, pronounced like the book of the Bible.
Normally, I would roll my eyes, but my step-sister begged the family for criticism. She wanted us to tell her what we really thought. Most of the family just enabled her, but I was honestly sick of her living in such a fantasy world.
I told her that the name makes no sense, has no known origin, is hard to pronounce, and will cause social issues for the child. She definitely did not like my answer, and is now telling the family what a terrible person I am. Furthermore, my open criticism has sparked a fight between my step-mother and father. She wants him to make me apologize, but he has held his ground in requiring me to do so.
In the interest of saving face and helping my father, how do I placate my step-sisters ego and still not seem like a wuss?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Step-sister asked for open criticism on her childs name. I told her it was a terrible name and now she is pissed at me. | Step-sister asked for open criticism on her childs name. I told her it was a terrible name and now she is pissed at me. | 511 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I handle this?
POST: I (23m) and my ex-gf (20f) of almost 2 years broke up about a month ago. She had a really hard time with it at the time but has slowly been recovering. I miss her and I feel like we might be able to fix the issues we were facing.
Last night I was having a really hard time imagining what I would do without her and I texted her for the first time since the breakup and asked her to meet up this weekend to talk to which she agreed.
So now I'm torn because on one hand I really want her back, I still love her. On the other hand, I'm afraid that maybe it still won't work and I'd end up putting her through the pain of the breakup again, which makes me sick thinking about.
Does anyone have any similar experience or advice to help me out? I'm really lost.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm meeting up with my ex gf of 2 years and I don't know whether to go back to her or not | I'm meeting up with my ex gf of 2 years and I don't know whether to go back to her or not | 4,972 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by farting at will
POST: This TIFU happened literally 5 minutes ago, and there have been mixed emotions in my house...
So as I was laying on my bed, after eating my mums 3 bean extra spicy chilli, I felt a good hearty fart brewing that could easily be used to start world war 3. I was browsing TIFU at the time and was laughing so much that I had completely forgot about the fart, and it had seemed to go away... Or so I thought.
I quickly hopped into the shower and then suddenly felt the nuclear bomb brewing in my arse, but didn't let rip as I didn't want to turn my shower into a gas chamber, so I held it in till it went away.
Once I got out I went and laid down on my bed, but dropped my phone, which was plugged into my speakers which were blaring out music. Just then as I perched myself on my hands and knees to reach down and grab my phone, I heard a voice from above tell me this was the right time to unleash havoc from my arse, so as I mustered up the courage to release the fart, I grasped hold of the side of my bed, and let rip.
This was a fart like none other that I have encountered. It lasted for a good 15-20 seconds and sounded really wet and sloppy but stank so horrendously bad, I had to cover my nose with one hand. As I came round to finishing, I smiled at the work of art I had just created, to then have my gleefulness shattered by a scream.
My mum had walked in with my washing, hadn't seen I was perched unleashing this shit storm and had walked right behind my arse and got full wind of it. She quickly ran out of the room as soon as I realised what had actually happened...
I had followed through with a literal shot storm, and it had sprayed all over my mum. And now I can no longer look her in the eye
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I ate spicy chilli, held in almighty, world ending fart for too long, finally released it, and shat all over my poor mum | I ate spicy chilli, held in almighty, world ending fart for too long, finally released it, and shat all over my poor mum | 2,767 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Why do I [20 M] still miss with my ex [20 F], 2 months after breaking up with her, knowing that I didn´t love her?
POST: I broke up with my ex 2 months ago, as we were constantly fighting, for feeling I wasn´t good enough for her, for starting to feel I didn´t want her anymore. Even our sex life was affected in the final moments of our relationship, due to the lack of attraction I, by that time, had for her.
Two months have passed, and I´m doing good things for me, I´ve created good memories, I´ve been working on loving myself, on not being dependent on anyone else but me, my self confidence is better than ever and still improving. I feel like I can change any aspect I consider to be negative about me, through motivation and work.
I have great memories with her though. I guess that is the difficult thing about having break up with her, because every time I remember what It used to be when we were together, only beautiful memories pop up in my mind:
- Her house, under the sun;
- Her beautiful family;
- Her funny little brother;
- Our laughs and crazy stuff we did together..
How can I miss so much someone I didn´t love for sure?
I don´t want to be friends with her though, It would surely hurt me a lot.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I broke up with my ex knowing I didn´t love her, but after 2 months without talking to her, I miss her and still get bothered when I know she´s probably having fun with other guys and stuff like that. | I broke up with my ex knowing I didn´t love her, but after 2 months without talking to her, I miss her and still get bothered when I know she´s probably having fun with other guys and stuff like that. | 5,810 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 F] with my ?? [27/28 M] 5mo, I like him more and it sucks.
POST: I think I need a kick in the pants.
A few months ago I started having sex with a (not close at all) friend and everything was good. We were both recently out of relationships and it was fun. I caught the feels and things started going downhill from there. At that point we discussed it and concluded there were feelings on both ends but unsure about starting an actual relationship (he didn't want to, I didn't know).
But now it's obvious I like him more and it sucks. When we're together it's good but when we're not it's not good at all. We used to hang out a lot but lately not much at all, due to him. When he doesn't want to, I get upset. Often I hide it but occasionally it bubbles out and I ask him to just tell it like it is if he doesn't like me anymore. It makes me feel insane but I can't seem to help it. After a while, I calm down, but as soon as I think I'm okay, I get sucked right back in.
Ironically I've been casually dating another guy about the same amount of time and we're in opposing positions - he likes me more and I'm on the fence. It makes me feel guilty when I'm upset about the first guy and don't have the energy to give the second any attention.
Just in case of questions, neither knows about the other, but both know we're not exclusive.
I'm not sure what I want out of this or either of them. I wish things were back to earlier in the summer when everything was just for fun, or that I could take a step back emotionally.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm in two casual relationships that are very different from each other. One I like more and invest way too much of my emotions into while he pulls away and the other is exactly the opposite. | I'm in two casual relationships that are very different from each other. One I like more and invest way too much of my emotions into while he pulls away and the other is exactly the opposite. | 83 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Dogtraining
TITLE: How to teach my 3 year old shih tzu not to bite
POST: My shih tzu has always been difficult to train, but I acknowledge in the beginning it was human error. Mia was our second dog (our first dog practically trained himself) and neither or my parents had previously had dogs. We tried to do what we did with out first dog, but she didn't learn. It has taken her 2 years to be house trained (and even now she only does it 90% of the time, and if she is left alone with out our other dog she will have an accident because seperation anxiety). There is a lot we have to work on with her (she is very stubborn and not always the brightest). **Right now my biggest problem is biting.** She was always a nippy puppy but so was our other dog. She started by nipping as a puppy during play time, well it's not really nipping, she would just put her teeth on us. Eventually she started doing this harder and once I would end up with small scratches after play time, I realized we had to change what we were doing. I started the no bite rule (which my sister has a hard time abiding by but she finally is listening). Mia is not allowed to bite, when she is excited she puts her teeth on you, she does this every time I come home, I started ignoring her unless she brought a toy (this started to become less of a problem now). I thought all was going well until my brother came home to visit (after a few days in) he went to give her a kiss she bit his lip breaking the skin. I am really worried because if she does this to some random stranger on the street it can be grounds to put her down (I realize this doesn't happen often with a small dog but its always a possibility). Also she doesn't show warning signs of when she's upset or doesn't want us to do something. She doesn't growl as a warning and there are no body signs (my brother worked in an animal shelter and learned all about body signs and he didn't see anything). When she bites I will yelp and say no sternly, sometimes I bop her nose. What else can I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my dog bit my brothers lip and broke the skin. Her biting diminished recently and she was doing very well before this in terms of biting. What can I do to get her to stop? | my dog bit my brothers lip and broke the skin. Her biting diminished recently and she was doing very well before this in terms of biting. What can I do to get her to stop? | 4,836 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [24/M]I am having anxiety over the girl I'm seeing (24/F) because she's afraid to take the next step.
POST: Hello people, I am in need of some relationship advice. To preface this I have to start by saying I've been cheated on in the past by 2 different girls one of which I was just shy of getting married to before she came clean...so I'm not the most trusting person in the world anymore.
I have been seeing this girl for about 3 months now and when I first met her roughly 4.5 months ago she still had a boyfriend. I am aware that this looks like a rebound thing but he was a long distance bf and we've taken things very slow because I wanted to ensure that I was not a rebound. Things have been going smoothly with us and we get along very well. Over the summer she got another job and is moving to a new place (which is closer to her work and to me coincidentally) so she has not had as much free time to spend with me the last few weeks. Here is my problem, she is afraid of commitment especially since she just got out of a 2 year long distance relationship and she does not want to commit to becoming official. Another reason is that she has very little free time lately because of the new job and getting her house ready for the move. I have a growing fear that she doesn't want to commit because she wants to "shop around" I have this anxiety even though we have had the exclusive talk.
So how do I bridge this gap of where we are in the relationship?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | She won't commit, I am having anxiety over the possibility she is "shopping around" even though I really don't think that's the case. | She won't commit, I am having anxiety over the possibility she is "shopping around" even though I really don't think that's the case. | 456 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm (17m) not sure if I still love my gf (17f), and I think I have a crush on our good mutual friend (17f)
POST: So my gf (let's call her Amy) and I have been dating for over 3 years. We've gone through a lot of things together, good and bad. She was my first kiss, first gf, and I lost my virginity to her. We have had many talks about the future and getting married to each other.
We regularly hang out with the same group of friends in and out of school. It consists of roughly 10 people. Around 3 of them are guys. The thing is we are all very close and hang out pretty much all the time. I've been getting very close to one of the girls in the group (let's call her Nancy). I was friends with her before I started dating Amy. Recently, I've gotten very close to Nancy. I've told her many things that I wouldn't even tell Amy. Some people have accused us up of "flirting" and have told Amy, who easily gets upset. Now, I'm a friendly person to begin with. I'm fine with making contact with all of my friends and I mess around with all of them, so I don't think of it as flirting.
This has put me under a lot of pressure recently though. Since our group is mainly girls, I talk to girls pretty much everyday. But I feel like I have to act differently due to my gf. I feel like I can't laugh as much or talk as much, so Amy won't get jealous.
Nancy trusts me and I trust her. We're pretty much best friends. But I think I might be developing a crush on her.
I've started to care for Amy a little less, but I'm pretty sure I still love her. Breaking up with her would also be very awkward because we hang around the same group of people and our class is very small (97). Thank you.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm not sure if I still love my girlfriend. I might have a crush on a mutual friend. Breaking up would be awk because we have the same friends. | I'm not sure if I still love my girlfriend. I might have a crush on a mutual friend. Breaking up would be awk because we have the same friends. | 182 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Person I'm dating (both 24[f]24[f]) broke our exclusivity rules. Worth saving?
POST: Been together approximately one month, however have not firmly spoken about the boundaries of the relationship apart from deleting dating apps and saying we weren't seeing anyone else. We decided we weren't ready to use any form of labels or terms yet
It's been going well, met each other's friends etc except today she discloses that she slept with someone approximately 1 week ago. It's someone who she previously was interested in a romantic relationship but rejected her. She stated that she was enjoying what we had etc, and she feels this person would not have a relationship with her,
At the moment I have let her cool off (she's feeling a lot of guilt, confusion) and have told her to have a think. I think I'm happy to continue if she is able to prioritise and choose me, and really work on this. This might involve having to drop contact with the person she cheated with However it feels so early to be having to work on our relationship. I feel like if she doesn't immediately know then it's not worth it
What would you do? Say? Would you even consider continuing? Under what conditions?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | been together less than a month, she cheated and is appropriately remorseful. However has a soft spot for the person she cheated on and I've no idea what to do | been together less than a month, she cheated and is appropriately remorseful. However has a soft spot for the person she cheated on and I've no idea what to do | 368 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girlfriend wants to find herself
POST: My (21M) girlfriend (19F) wants to find herself.
Backstory
With been on and off for about 4 years and have been on for a solid 1 year now and it's the best it's been. She's recently gone away to work in the snowfields and decided that she doesn't want to be with me anymore, it was great before she left and it's only taking 6 weeks for her to make this decision. It was a pretty rough 6 weeks on the relationship.
She's been madly in love with me for the last 4 years and would of done anything for me and now it's like she doesn't want anything to do with me. I've just visited her at the snowfields and she was distant from the moment I got there, didn't want to be seen with me or introduce me to any of her friends there.
She swears there's no one else and she's never been the type of person to cheat, she's always obsessed over me and wanting me back during the off time in our relationship.
We also lived together so when comes back in a months time it's gonna be hard and I know she's gonna regret what she's done. We were gonna spend the rest of our lives together and now she wants to move away to a different city and go work in the snowfields all over the world to find herself.
I guess my question is what do I do?
Do I fight for her to not do this, give her the time she wants to find herself or just accept it and move on?
I don't want to lose her :(
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend was madly in love with me for 4 years, went away to work in snowfields, now doesn't want me and wants to find herself. Don't know how to deal with it. | Girlfriend was madly in love with me for 4 years, went away to work in snowfields, now doesn't want me and wants to find herself. Don't know how to deal with it. | 4,949 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: First Date Question - Need Opinions!
POST: Hey, looking for some opinions. I'm M 23, she's F 22.
I met a girl on OkCupid and took her out last night (Jan 6). We met up at a bar and had a great time. We went through 3 rounds of drinks, sharing the last two rounds. I really had a great time and felt very comfortable talking to her. We agreed that the date was going really well and that we would see each other again. The date lasted just around 2 hours.
Now, I would have gone in for a kiss, or developed some kino, but I got the impression from her that she would want to move slower. She had brought up an ex boyfriend (red flag, but the discussion was more about what we had learned from our past relationships). We also discussed casual sex, and how we weren't interested in it. Again, I was very comfortable talking to her about these issues, which is uncommon for me. These topics suggested to me that moving slower would be best.
So, today, I text her for a second date. But she replies that she got a "friend vibe" from the date. So, now I'm kicking myself in the foot for not going for that kiss or developing some kino.
I'm very tempted to email/text her and explain my outlook and how I feel. I very much enjoyed the date and felt that we could have had something. I feel like I screwed up. =/ Is this a good idea?? If not, I just need to rant...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Had a great date. No kiss/kino because discussion led me to believe she wanted to move slower. Got friend zoned, no second date. Kicking self in foot, want to win her back | Had a great date. No kiss/kino because discussion led me to believe she wanted to move slower. Got friend zoned, no second date. Kicking self in foot, want to win her back | 4,349 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Would cutting contact be a good idea or should I stay friends with (F) co-worker. Stuck in a weird situation and not sure what to do.
POST: I'm a 27 year old male and work at a store with a 19 year old female. Over the past few months, she's been very flirty to me specifically but I did not express any interest in her at first due to the age gap. She would find ways to team up with me on projects and we would be together every day at work until all the co-workers just assumed there was something going on between us but neither of us addressed it.
I am starting to like her but don't know what to do. She texts me a lot and we chat on skype, mostly just joking around and flirty shit. I'm pretty sure she has a thing for me from the hints she's dropped but I'm also pretty sure she has a boyfriend but whenever I try to bring it up she changes the subject or vaguely says he's a friend.
A few days ago I saw her randomly with a guy holding hands. She didn't see me and later she texted me asking something and I replied and asked what the did that day. She said something along the lines of "just hung out with a friend shopping". Now I'm stuck in a weird situation where I'm not sure what's happening. I'm still having reservations about the age gap so this might be a good thing. Should I not pursue anything? Cut contact? (difficult...we work together and everyone there sorta knows what's happening so they usually team us up anyway) Stay just friends? She doesn't seem to be the type of person who would cheat but then again...I've only known her 4 or 5 months and have been serious friends 2 or 3 months so I wouldn't say I know her TOO well. Sorry for the rambling post. sorta drunk...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Falling for co-worker who might already have a possible boyfriend. Hard to cut all contact since we work together. What to do? | Falling for co-worker who might already have a possible boyfriend. Hard to cut all contact since we work together. What to do? | 6,149 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My mum [41f] wants me [18m] to live with her after uni and get a house together.
POST: I'm 18 and live with my mum along with my sister who is 19. My mum is divorced and receives a relatively low salary every month but does get plenty of benefits and has quite a bit in savings.
I love my mum, she has literally provided me with everything I want and need (within limits ofcourse). However she has certain 'rules' that I must follow like never drinking alcohol due to previous experience and her upbringing and also no drugs. These I understand but I do not agree with so I do not follow (without her knowledge)
Anyway the point is, my lovely mother who has raised me with everything I want, wants me to stay with her after uni, and into adulthood. When I start earning, she wants us to get a house together so if I ever get married my wife would have to come live with us which is really not what I want. I feel so bad for saying this as she has given me plenty throughout my childhood, she always let me go out, hardly ever said no to anything I wanted to do/get. Yet I don't really want to do this. She is a Hindu and still has a few traditional viewpoints on life, however I am an athiest. It is relatively normal in our culture for younger kids to take care of their parents after they start working and live with them, but personally I prefer to live alone; she sort of just expects me to live with her after uni?
I know plenty of you may be wondering why I am worrying about this considering I have not even started uni yet, but I just need to know how to handle this now and let her know my feelings without offending her. I don't want to be stuck in a situation where I have no choice :(
By the way I have no problem in living on my own and providing for her separately, but I have no idea about how to go on having this conversation with her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Mum want's me to stay with her into adulthood, I don't want to but don't know how to go on about it talking to her because I feel like absolute shit. | Mum want's me to stay with her into adulthood, I don't want to but don't know how to go on about it talking to her because I feel like absolute shit. | 3,667 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [16M] in a tough spot with my coworker [21F]
POST: I posted here a couple weeks ago about how I thought my coworker might be interested in me. Turns out that I was right. Just two days ago she went ahead and kissed me. I went along with it because I didn't know what else I could do.
She told me she doesn't care that I'm younger than her. But I do slightly feel bothered that she's much older. I'm supposed to be meeting her for lunch in a few hours but I also feel hesitant about going. I don't want to hurt her or use her for anything. I don't feel comfortable about starting a relationship with her either since I'm still recovering from a break up that happened a few months back. She's a really good person and there's nothing wrong about her. But I'm not over my ex completely yet. I feel like a horrible person for kissing her back, but I really didn't want to hurt her feelings in any way.
I can't end everything with her either, or else it'll be too awkward at work. I just don't know what to do or what to say. What would you guys do in a situation like this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My coworker is interested in me but i dont know how to tell her that I dont want a relationship without hurting her feelings. | My coworker is interested in me but i dont know how to tell her that I dont want a relationship without hurting her feelings. | 1,148 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Stuck in a bad cycle, how to get out?
POST: He is 24, and I am 21. We've been seeing each other for around half a year now. We both agreed on that we're in stages of our lives where we're not ready to be "boyfriend/girlfriend" because we are both total messes, yet we do everything like a couple would. Now don't get me wrong, this isn't one of those "He just isn't into you" situations because I'm the one refusing to be his "girlfriend"
I know he's loyal, ready to be in a relationship, and will never wrong me. But the same problems we've talked about still exist: He has no passion about anything - I can't let him only passion be me. He is unmotivated and can't fight for what he wants. The list could go on and on but he's basically not what I'm looking for in a partner.
He's already said I love you, I've said it a few times before as well and I really felt it too when I did. But after we spend time together, I always feel so empty. Like something's missing. I know I shouldn't even be questioning what love is if what I was feeling was really love.. I catch myself Google-ing for answers. I see posts telling me love means seeing past the other's flaws. I know I haven't, and not only that but his flaws are starting to irritate me more and more.
I've tried ending things with him but both of us are too weak to let go. We rely on each other too much and he isn't able to let go. I'm honestly so miserable most of the time, even though we don't fight. He's understanding, sensitive, sweet, and most things a girl would wish for. Part of me just wishes he would cheat on me or do something outrageous so I could break it off with him. I don't know what's wrong with me, why can't I just live in the moment and enjoy it? How do I get out?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | In a relationship but something's missing. Don't want to hurt him but don't know how to get out either. I'm miserable. | In a relationship but something's missing. Don't want to hurt him but don't know how to get out either. I'm miserable. | 2,628 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20M] with my GF [20F] for 4 years, she wants to explore the outside world but I still love her so much
POST: My girlfriend who has been with me for 4 years since we were 16 started showing signs of lost interest, her texts are short and short and simple despite me sending long texts and she sometimes find me clingy and annoying although I didn't do anything different from the past 4 years. I txted her my feelings and she said we should give each other some time and space, and that she doesnt want to commit to anything for her life because we're only 20 and she wants to explore since we're both each other's first.
I still love her a lot and we agreed to just give each other a week but I cannot resist myself from sending her our memories or wanting to talk to her. My heart stings really bad because she was a big big part of my life for a long time and now my life feels meaningless when I go to work or school.
I feel horrible every minute especially when I wake up and when I'm at home alone, what should I do about this? Should I wait at her house or txt her today ( its been 3 days )? I feel so helpless, lonely and sad and all I want is her..
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF for 4 years since 15 wants to explore the outside and doesnt want to commit to me forever yet, I still love her a lot but not sure what I can do | GF for 4 years since 15 wants to explore the outside and doesnt want to commit to me forever yet, I still love her a lot but not sure what I can do | 515 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Suspect wife (40F) of cheating tonight...help me (42M) stay sane.
POST: UPDATED:
My wife has been traveling more for work the last 2 years, and frankly, our relationship has been up and down. She's working on the east coast this week, and we live on the west coast.
We share an Apple family account, and as a result, she shares her location. She is supposed to come home tomorrow, but had to do dinner with her work colleague this evening. I was texting her at midnight ET/9 PT about kids/pets issues, and I checked her location. She frequently complains about being tired, so I am little surprised to see she is not in her hotel. I figure the dinner ran late. About an hour later (1:30 am ET/10:30 PT), I again check her location and she's in a residential neighborhood. I check on Google maps, and there's not a hotel around...just houses.
I called her several times (figuring maybe the Do Not Disturb function was enabled) trying to reach her, and she does not pick up.
So, here I am, seeing her location at some house in the city that she often travels to. She was texting me not long ago. I am not sure what to do now...
Do I wake up early and see where the phone is? Just ask when she gets home why her phone was in a strange place?
I don't want to jump to conclusions, but I am obviously uneasy about all this.
What's my plan of action?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Wife traveling for work across country. Checked her location via Apple. She's in a residential neighborhood no where near a hotel. It's 2 am where she is. What should I do? | Wife traveling for work across country. Checked her location via Apple. She's in a residential neighborhood no where near a hotel. It's 2 am where she is. What should I do? | 6,004 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Would you give up a great job / future career to move to be with your friends?
POST: Obviously a throwaway account but honestly need some advice (and probably in the wrong subreddit).
I'm currently (24/M). I am studying to become a CPA (working on passing the exams). My dad owns a very successful CPA firm in a very small town. I usually drive to a city about an hour and half on the weekends to hang out with my buddies.
My question is, after I get my CPA licenses should I just move to the city to be with my buddies or stay in my small town and make a guaranteed 6 figure job working for my dad.
BY NO MEANS, am I trying to be arrogant in any way whatsoever. I just need honest advice. I personally DO NOT like living in this small town, hardly any friends, and there are seriously no girls to date. Or do I move to a city where I can hang out with my buddies on a regular basis but have no connections as far as a job goes. I understand there are many people in this world who would do anything for my opportunity, I just don't know what to do.
Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Live in a small town with a great job or move to the city with no job connections but all my buddies live there. | Live in a small town with a great job or move to the city with no job connections but all my buddies live there. | 5,107 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21M] think I'm a bad, egocentric, narcissistic, person, but my friends and family think I'm a great person. I feel angry towards them
POST: Throwaway because some people know my account. I'm nice and loyal to others and I really enjoy the company of others but my thoughts are completely different than what I do, say and what people think of me. People think I'm loyal to everyone (based on that I've helped friends out through tough times and that I've been a good person to them), but believe me I'd ditch my friends if I got 'better'. People think I'd be nice and friendly to everyone (based on selfless things that I've done), but in my mind I wouldnt mind stepping on others to get higher up, and in my mind I help others to egoistically feel better about myself. People think I'm a very strong guy mentally because I've faced - long story short - addictions, bullies, my illness and deaths of others close to me, and even though I'm over it all I still think I'm weak and I want to give into my addictions every day. The compliments I get from the people who know me, sometimes better than I know myself, are - objectively seen - extremely nice... but I feel like I don't deserve it and I'm angry at them for not seeing the thoughts behind it and seeing how I feel. Most of the times I want to shout at them for it, but I don't. I know objectively I'm a great guy. But I feel all alone in the thoughts I have, and I've talked to others about it and then I only get compliments on how 'humble' I am. Fuck that. I feel like I want someone to hate me at those parts where I hate myself, because that feels more valid.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm angry and alone when people say I'm a good guy, because in my thoughts behind my good actions I'm a bad guy. | I'm angry and alone when people say I'm a good guy, because in my thoughts behind my good actions I'm a bad guy. | 3,757 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21/M] don't know what to do about my Brother [24/M] and his fiance's [26/f] marijuana abuse.
POST: Throw away because my Brother and some of his friends are redditors, and I don't really want him seeing this unless I choose to show him.
My Brother has been using for a long time, basically since he was 17 or so. It doesn't really affect our relationship too much, and he's able to hold down a job, so he seems to have that all sorted. Mostly what's concerning me is that both he and his Fiance seem to be permanently intoxicated. All hours of the day and night. One of the kickers being that he has trouble sleeping, and his Doctor has told him laying off for a little while might help. My main concern, however, that his relationship with his Fiance seems to be almost entirely defined by the fact that they smoke as much as each other. They do both love to cook, but most of the time they spend together seems to be spent getting high and watching T.V. They've been smoking ever increasing amounts since they met around 3 years ago, and I'm worried what their relationship will/would be like if one or both of them had to quit using. I don't think it's sustainable. So both my parents and I have suggested taking a break from it for 1-3 months, and seeing what happens. His response was pretty dismissive, saying he knows he can stop any time, he just doesn't want to. Should I even be concerned? Their relationship isn't really my business, except that I want him to be happy. The thing that really gets me is that if it was the same situation, except with alcohol, no one would deny there is a big problem. The way I see it, they're kind of like high functioning alcoholics. (Though obviously with weed.)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Brother and Fiance use an ungodly amount of weed, I'm not sure what their relationship is like without it. Is there anything I can/should do? | Brother and Fiance use an ungodly amount of weed, I'm not sure what their relationship is like without it. Is there anything I can/should do? | 3,825 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My mother [45F] wants to use me [16M] to force her religion onto my girlfriend of 18 months[16F]
POST: My girlfriend is Catholic, my mother is a conservative evangelical Christian, and I'm an atheist (Though I'm not telling my mother that until she no longer has power over me). My mother pesters me to invite her to our church, and has been growing increasingly forceful and is making veiled threats to forced to break up with her.
I can't exactly reason with her. She will never entertain the possibility that I'm right about something and will shout and bully people into silence. She vents her anger onto the people around her, which is problematic given that people disagreeing with her pisses her off like nothing else. I recognize that she's a toxic person, as awful as I feel for thinking that.
She resorts to screaming insults at me if she gets too upset. She belittles me, She has a tantrum, reduces me to tears, and then when she calms down she begs for forgiveness. It's not because she's genuinely sorry. It's not about me. It's about her and how she feels like a bad mother. So she pretends to be sorry and I pretend to forgive her. I feel guilty for being this bitter towards her.
My girlfriend is a rather liberal catholic. She views Catholicism as a cultural identity mostly, in actual religious terms she's more of a universalist. Breaking up with her is not an acceptable course of action. I've grown far too close to her to accept losing her.
I've been getting by with saying that denomination is insignificant, but I doubt she'll accept that for too long. I have no qualms about lying to her to get her to leave me alone. I just want her to drop it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My mother is borderline emotionally abusive and a religious fanatic, how do I get her to stop caring that my girlfriend doesn't agree with her religiously? | My mother is borderline emotionally abusive and a religious fanatic, how do I get her to stop caring that my girlfriend doesn't agree with her religiously? | 5,517 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: (14/M) Feeling lonely. Parents won't let me get a gf.
POST: I started high school about 5 days ago. I made a bunch of new friends. I'm enjoying high school so far.
Things at home aren't so good. My parents are running out of money, they won't admit it.
I applied to over 200 jobs this summer, I got a couple of interviews but, once they asked for my age, things went downhill from there.
Having no money limits me from my social life, I can't hang out with friends because they go to the movies and eat which I can't afford.
I laugh, socialize and I appear to be happy. At the end of the day, I'm not happy, I feel lonely... I'm empty.
I met this girl yesterday who's in the same grade as me. She's sweet, funny, smart and gorgeous.
We exchanged numbers, and we've been texting/flirting back and forth ever since.
I would love to ask her out but...
I asked my parents about the whole dating shebang and they really don't want me to get involved. They say it's going to bring my grades down and I might get her pregnant...
Also, I have little to no money so I don't have anything to offer her.
That's about it. I don't know what to do. I can either go behind my parents back or just ignore my feelings and go back to studying...
Advice?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | There's a girl I like but, my parents don't want me to get involved. Also, I have no money. | There's a girl I like but, my parents don't want me to get involved. Also, I have no money. | 223 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (23F) keep getting asked out by random creepy (50s?M). Don't know how to politely turn him down without making him mad.
POST: So to get my bus home I have to walk through a shopping area on the edge of the main town. It's a well known area for a lot of homeless/immigrants as there's a few shelters and help centres around there.
For the past few days I keep running in to the same guy, who, from his accent, has moved over from a different country. He keeps asking me out for coffee or food and I'm finding it hard to find a way to say "no, I'm not interested" as I'm afraid it will make him mad.
I ran into him again on the way today, and he asked me for my phone number. I tried to give him a fake one but he rang it straight away so the gig was up. I ended up giving him my real number because I honestly didn't know how to get away from the situation, but obviously now I'm worried he'll ring me.
I have thought of messaging him and just saying "sorry if I gave you the wrong impression but I am not interested" (though I had already slipped in I had a boyfriend meeting me on the hope that would put him off). Or I don't know if it's best to just ignore him, but then what do I do if I run into him again?
I have met people like him before, from the same area and it seems like a cultural thing, not that he's intentionally being creepy. I'm sure he's probably just after friendship (but it's still uncomfortable). Sadly, I'm a teeny tiny woman, so it all comes across as creepy to me.
Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys
TL;DR: . Assistant: | been asked out for coffee by randomer. Now he has my number. How do I politely tell him I'm not interested? | been asked out for coffee by randomer. Now he has my number. How do I politely tell him I'm not interested? | 617 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: When applying for jobs, is it OK to say I was hired as a temp. worker when really I was let go before probationary period ended?
POST: I wouldn't think to put it on my resume except the experience is extremely relevant for my field. I imagine I will end up talking to my future employer/interviewer about certain experiences that I had and knowledge that I gained from this past job. I actually loved the job and wish that it had worked out better.
Unfortunately, I was essentially set up for failure - it was a sink-or-swim type training where management was largely uninvolved. Any sort of outline of job duties/ time management/ expectations were "in the process of being organized" and there were several different supervisory personnel who all had conflicting advice/directions on how to do the job. If I asked a question, I was criticized for not knowing already. If I did things without asking questions and tried to figure it out, I was criticized for not doing things a certain way. Finally, the other employees always cut corners and did crap work in order to finish on time. I have a hard time leaving work without my job being done so I would regularly stay later than others not only because I was actually completing my duties but also because I was completing things that others wouldn't finish.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I was fired because I didn't work as fast as other employees and I was having a hard time learning how things work (chaos). | I was fired because I didn't work as fast as other employees and I was having a hard time learning how things work (chaos). | 2,833 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Just found out the guy (29) I've (25f) been dating is living with an ex girlfriend
POST: She needed a place to stay and he let her live with him temporarily. Supposedly she's moving this month.
He's referred to her as his friend every time he's mentioned her. We even hung out together once. I don't think he ever would have told me the truth had it not come out. We were with his family and his mom mentioned her as an ex.
I'm just really disappointed and worried about his hiding it. A) he either lied just because he's a liar, or B) there's something to hide. We've only dated a handful of times, so I'm not trying to be dramatic. It's just unnerving and seems like a red flag. Is that justified reasoning?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | guy referred to his female roommate as a friend. His mom let it slide that she's an ex. Am I being emotional/too jealous o or is this a red flag? | guy referred to his female roommate as a friend. His mom let it slide that she's an ex. Am I being emotional/too jealous o or is this a red flag? | 4,550 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Long term partner will barely have sex with me, I'm on business in another state and have someone putting pressure on me... HELP?
POST: 24f 29/m Relationship 2 years. I'm on a scouting trip for about 6 weeks in another state, and my boyfriend just doesn't want to have sex. I'm lucky if I can get it out of him about once every two weeks, and I'm going nuts. I've sat down with him and told him that I would like/need more sex, and he has acknowledged me, but I still have to initiate everything. I asked him if he would initiate more, and he said he would when he feels like it but he NEVER does. Our relationship has always been like this. I really do love him, but this one thing is killing me.
I have a business contact who is putting some serious moves on me, and the deep ache I have desperately wants me to give in. No emotions, no connections, just sex.
I could never understand what would drive anyone to cheat, the horror it is to me is still just that: horrific. But I'm 24 and sexually starved.
What the fuck do I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 24/f barely getting laid in a committed relationship. Have a chance for a fleeting encounter, NSA, want to do it, but my god it's wrong. What do I do? Please help. | 24/f barely getting laid in a committed relationship. Have a chance for a fleeting encounter, NSA, want to do it, but my god it's wrong. What do I do? Please help. | 4,721 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20F] don't feel mentally stable enough to keep a relationship with my SO [19M]
POST: As of late I haven't been myself and am very mentally self destructive. I have been together with this guy for six months but have been seeing eachother for a year. I am head over heels for him and he is for me.
The reason I do not feel mentally stable enough to be with him is because I will get into these weird moods where I don't even want anything to do the world. I get ridiculously sad and will ignore everyone and sit and stare at a wall for hours. I feel like I'm doing it purposely to him but I don't want to hurt him. I can't even explain it properly. I am just generally an ubhappy person 90% of the time and don't think I shouls destroy someone like I do myself.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I subconsciously try to hurt my boyfriend by ignoring him and it may be a cry for attention, I don't know. | I subconsciously try to hurt my boyfriend by ignoring him and it may be a cry for attention, I don't know. | 3,934 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[19F] don't know if this is healthy [20M]
POST: I'm in college and I have a FWB. We have sex maybe 3 times a week. I've always kind of had feelings for him, but I know that he's not interested in a relationship, so I never told him. Plus, I didn't want things to end because I really, really enjoy the sex.
We've known each other for a year now.
He's really respectful and nice to me, and I feel safe around him. We rarely talk/hang out besides having sex. Plus, I think that he doesn't want a relationship to form so that might be another reason. We did talk about our relationship a while back and he basically said that he just doesn't want a relationship right now but that he did care about me and that I'm his only long-term hook up. I told him that I understood that and that I enjoyed his company and that I was fine with the arrangement.
However, I think my feelings for him are just too strong now. I am constantly thinking about him. Sometimes he won't reply to my texts, and I just get really, really sad (it basically ruins my mood). I'm in college as I mentioned, and I used to be a huge party animal...I would go out every weekend with my friends and meet new guys every weekend and I loved it. But now, I don't even feel like going out. All of my friends are starting to notice my antisocial behavior. My roommates always invite me to go out with them at nights, but I simply just don't feel like it. But I know that if the guy texted me, I would pretty much drop everything and go.
I'm just confused and don't know what to do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I like my FWB way more than he likes me. I don't feel like doing anything anymore, unless it's seeing him. It's ruining my life and I'm not sure what to do. | I like my FWB way more than he likes me. I don't feel like doing anything anymore, unless it's seeing him. It's ruining my life and I'm not sure what to do. | 1,574 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by being thirsty.
POST: This happened over the summer and ive been meaning to get this off my chest but having no close-close friends, its been quite difficult so ill just dump this here. i dont expect anyone to read this so lolkek
-Begin Rant-
Background story: I am currently a high school senior enjoying my winter break. Starting with a little about me, ive never had a girlfriend except for one a while back in middle school (god knows when). Since forever, ive never found someone ive liked based on their personality, not how hot or cute they look or whatever. This changed dramatically when i had a suddenly realization, an epiphany of sorts, after i got high. I go to a high school with a fairly small class group (1200 students in the school between 4 grades). Having never met anyone in my league worth chasing with a good personality, i finished junior year with nothing really notable. And then i got high. Something about after hitting the trees, i realized something. There was this one girl in my AP English class. Lets call her Shelly. Shelly was not the top of the top, but was fairly cute and her quirky personality, artistic capabilities, and fairly decent academic standards landed her an unseen bookmark in my mind. I havent known her for that long, having only had 2 classes with her junior year, sitting with her and getting to know her and became friends, but that was about it. Sometime after reaching the sky, i realized that i liked Shelly. It was a random spontaneous thought and i thought, hey, i kinda like her. Following this thought, i proceeded to try and text her (facebook, phone, etc). just small talk, etc. I started to get annoying without realizing it, and suddenly, yolo moment, asked her out in the most unofficial, anticlimactic way: over **text**. I had thought it over but now i feel stupid as hell. Now back in school, we still talk and all but i still really like her and now its probably damn near impossible to go out with her after this fuck up. And yet here i am here, trying to get her a christmas gift.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | realized i liked a girl over the summer when i couldn't see her, asked her out in the worst way possible, annoyed her over text, and still like her. killed any chance of going out with a girl i like. | realized i liked a girl over the summer when i couldn't see her, asked her out in the worst way possible, annoyed her over text, and still like her. killed any chance of going out with a girl i like. | 5,383 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19M] am having trouble dealing with my girlfriends [19F] helicopter parents and could really use some advice.
POST: So we are both college freshman and have a fantastic relationship (almost half a year in). But the only problem I have found in our relationship is her parents. College to me seems like when we become more independent and on our own. For me that is for sure the case and I love it. But **her parents are literally in everything she does**. She calls them and tells them about every class and assignment and then they usually and way to mean and tell her to study harder and do better. She sends them assignments to look over before submission. They shove religion down her throat when she doesn't want to be part of it. For Valentines day they send a few candies and the job listings section from a paper...
**They treat her like a child and make me feel like I am dating a child.**
^ That is pretty much the main problem. I feel like I am becoming an adult and moving to the next stage and then there is her parents pretty much babying her through everything. **I know for a fact if we want to move into together in a couple years it will be a matter of asking for their permission rather than "We decided to move in" which is insane to me.** An important factor I think is that they are rather well off and pay for all her things, including all college expenses. She has never had a job. I am from a poor family and worked my way here which makes me feel like we are different somehow. Any advice could help me so much, thank you.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Her rich parents baby her; me coming from poor background feel like she is being treated like a child and am finding it difficult to handle. We have to ask permission to do things together which drives me crazy. | Her rich parents baby her; me coming from poor background feel like she is being treated like a child and am finding it difficult to handle. We have to ask permission to do things together which drives me crazy. | 701 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23M] have had a crush on [21F] for 2 months without having met or seen her at all. Can it count?
POST: As title says, I've only been in contact through text (I don't know how she looks). I've known her for around 2 years, but a lot of time has passed within those 2 years without us talking. We recently began communicating more often, and related to that, I fell in love. I've been in love before, but only with girls who I've seen and talked to the "normal way". I mean love as in "I'm prepared to spend my meager student savings to fly across half of the world just to meet her for a day and hold her hand for a second" love.
If you asked me what I love/dislike about her, I would be able to list things that I don't love, but they seem irrelevant to me at this moment, and most importantly I dont want to turn this into a study of her, since I would unavoidably skew it to get the answer I want.
She knows how I feel but highly doubts that I love the "real" her in any relevant way. I have my reasons to believe that personal reasons she previously revealed to me before I confessed shapes her opinion in the matter (which is why I'm here for a second opinion). Reasons that are private and really not relevant as long as you accept the premise. Her feelings are ultimately equally irrelevant for this specific question.
My question is: Am I LIKELY loving someone that only exists in my head? In a way I guess we all love/hate people based on personal perceptions, but you get what I mean. I know she isn't a reflection of me, it's her differences that excite me the most (I think).
I know 2 months is a drop in the ocean, and I could just wait and see if my feelings disappear as quickly as they came (previous experiences hint towards years of feeling like this before it fades).
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Fell in love with someone I've only communicated with through text. Should I listen to my feelings or should I get over someone who doesn't exist? | Fell in love with someone I've only communicated with through text. Should I listen to my feelings or should I get over someone who doesn't exist? | 915 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: Sit in my seat? Cheat off of me? NO.
POST: Since I'm heading into my senior year of college, I thought I would share this story that happened to me during my freshman year. I took a general psychology class that was pretty easy. The professor would literally give us a study guide that had the exact questions on the exam and we would just need to cram the answers the night before. I would sit in the same spot in the back every single class. Then, the day of the final came. As my friend and I were about to sit in our seats, some fraternidouche and his dopey ass friend took our spots. Excuse me? No. We ended up sitting in the seats next to the frat guy and the TAs handed out the exam packets that were different colors so that it would be hard to cheat. So, I'm doing the exam and halfway through, I hear the guy start saying, "... the answer is C...#6 is A..". He keeps going on and I realize he has the fucking audacity to cheat off of my answers and read my friend's answers off to his friend. I thought about just raising my hand and tell on him for cheating but it's a hassle to go through the process of reporting it and I just wanted to eat a burger after the final. Honestly, it was so obvious that I wondered why no one could hear him do it. I circled my actual answers in my exam packet and began bubbling in the wrong answers on my bubble sheet. Slowly, I erased my already bubbled-in answers while filling in the fake ones and replaced them with the wrong answers. He filled them in exactly. Dumbass. I remember one question asked, "Who founded psychoanalysis?". One of the answers was, "Your mom". He didn't even bother to go through the exam pages! Obviously, no one would actually bubble in that answer. The final was 40% of our overall grade, meaning if you failed the final, you failed the class. Karma's a bitch, you douche.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Guy steals my seat and tries to cheat off my test. Don't want to make a scene, so I give him 100% wrong answers. Guy fails test because of "Your mom.". | Guy steals my seat and tries to cheat off my test. Don't want to make a scene, so I give him 100% wrong answers. Guy fails test because of "Your mom.". | 5,028 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: We [M27/F25] kept breaking up but we want to try this one last time
POST: This is a followup to this situation:
We had been together for nearly 1.5 years, and it has been a very rocky relationship. We're both graduate students with very limited time. We both dealt with depression and supported each other through it.
We didn't always used to be rocky. But somewhere down the line we started arguing about the same things. We broke up 3 times over the same cycle of arguments. As he's said before -- when we argue it's when he needs space at the exact same time that I need closeness.
I fear that he's not emotionally available, and sometimes I'm afraid that he might not love me. And I suspect that he fears I'll never be content with this relationship, that my expectations are unrealistic, and that I demand too much of him.
Neither of us are clearly in the wrong or right. I take full responsibility for the fact that I didn't give him enough space in those times when he really needed it. I take full responsibility for stressing him out over my upsets. I'm not sure that he wants to hold some accountability for the ways he's abandoned me when I asked for emotional support.
A month since the breakup, we're still talking, and recently we've talked about trying one last time. He says that he's willing to try something different -- he's willing for us to go to couples counseling to figure out whether or not we can become better communicators to each other. He says he can't promise me that he's not going to walk out again, and he can't promise that he's not going to hurt me to the point that I'll be done for good. But he says he's still with me for a reason. In fact, besides our communication issues, we are compatible in every other way. I love this man deeply.
Reddit, I'm asking for your help to figure out what I need to do. I want to make this work, I want us to work towards a healthy relationship, and I want to have a stable, happy life with him. What can we do? What can we work on? How can we move forward?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 1.5 year relationship, rocky and on/off due to arguments. We want to put our all into trying this last time, and we want to stop our argument dynamics. What can we do to have a healthy relationship? | 1.5 year relationship, rocky and on/off due to arguments. We want to put our all into trying this last time, and we want to stop our argument dynamics. What can we do to have a healthy relationship? | 711 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: Question about wedding day photography and timing
POST: For all you brides and grooms who've tied the knot, I have a question about the photography timeline. My FH and I are not doing a first look. We will be walking with our bridal party and family about 5 minutes to get pictures in the park while everybody else heads up for the cocktail party. Like most couples we REALLY want to get to that cocktail party!! We want pictures with the bridal party and family and of course of us BUT we don't want 50 different angles of him kissing my ear and me smiling at the camera. I am trying to put together my day of timeline including specifics about picture taking, who is in which picture and how long should each take. But I have no idea. I want to make sure I can put together a realistic timeline for the picture so I don't get my hopes up too high about being at most of the cocktail hour and so I can figure out how to do which pictures so we can realistically make the last 10 minutes. The internet is full of timelines for people who want first looks and 2 hour long couples photos and elaborate bridal party pictures which just isn't our style. How long did your pictures take? How many pictures was that? How did you run through family pictures with grandparents, parents, and siblings (like what kinds of family groups). How did you deal with live-in-long-term-relationship-but-not-engaged SOs of your siblings in pictures? I'm set to talk with my photographer soon about day of but I'd like to have some idea of what other people have been able to accomplish. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm trying to put together the photography timeline, how long did your pictures take and how many groups did that cover? | I'm trying to put together the photography timeline, how long did your pictures take and how many groups did that cover? | 5,732 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Just graduated college [23F] and having doubts about moving to another state for my boyfriend [26M].
POST: We just recently got back together - I've posted about the breakup with this throwaway account a few months back.
After a three month break-up and dealing with a loss of trust (he initiated the breakup), I'm having such a hard time feeling confident about relocating for him. I love him with my entire heart and I want it to work, but all of the romance between us has gone completely out the window. Once he won me back, he has gone back to being "comfortable". A huge part of me feels like I can't risk moving my entire life for him to have my heart broken again. On the other hand, long-distance will not work for us.
What should I do?/What would you do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm in love with my boyfriend but he has hurt me in the recent past. Romance seems non-existent and I'm having doubts about moving for him. | I'm in love with my boyfriend but he has hurt me in the recent past. Romance seems non-existent and I'm having doubts about moving for him. | 4,454 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [M21] not over anything
POST: So I'm not over either of my exes. The first ex was a girl I dated towards the end of highschool . I lost my v card to her cause I knew for a fact she was the one . We were together for 3 years but she made my life hell. She accused me of raping her the day we lost it. She treated me like she was better then me in everywhere. Making fun of my ideas and my passions. Lying to me about a lot of things. Getting mad at me for seeing my friends that she hated for no reason. Even through all of that I still loved her. So after the three year marked pass , a few days after thanksgiving we had a serious agreement that ended in sex and after sex she wanted time alone to think about us . Honestly, I kept texting her telling her I'm sorry and that I loved her . During this time she was with her best friend cause he wanted to give her advice . I could go on with more detail but you guys know the end. She left me completely and started to date her best friend . I was heart broken for awhile. Didn't show up for work for a week. I tried dating other girls but I couldn't do it and I would just leave the girls and never talk to them . After 6 months of being miserable and just feeling nothing for relationships , I met the girl that changed it all. I met her at work and she was the perfect girl. She treated me amazingly and she made me forget all about my ex. I was happier then I ever was with my ex. Then shit hit the fan after 3 months . I found out she was cheating on me. She was talking to other guys while with me and tried her best to keep me a secret. It's been 4 months since that happened and I've talked to girls but I wouldn't go anywhere with it cause I'm scared I'll just get hurt again. I'm also not over either of my two exes. Each of them had something I loved that I can't find in anyone else. Everything is just making me depressed and feel alone. I don't know what to do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Pretty much not over my exes and because of them I'm scared to get close and have a relationship with someone again. | Pretty much not over my exes and because of them I'm scared to get close and have a relationship with someone again. | 219 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hair Stylists of Reddit: Was there ever a time in your career that a customer was dissatisfied with their haircut/dye job and freaked out? If so, how did you deal with the situation?
POST: I am always scared to go to the hair salon to get even a trim. I have been growing out my hair for about 4 years now and want it to be super long. One time I went to the stylist to get a trim and he cut it into this weird "v" shape without my permission (every trim I got was always a straight across trim). He was taking an unusually long time but I didn't really notice what he was doing because I didn't have my glasses on. I thought he was just being really careful because I have long hair. When he was done, I put my spectacles back on and was shocked at what a shitty job he did. I should have said something to him but I was in too much shock. I didn't tip him and went to another salon begging someone there to fix the damage. I ended up losing another 4 inches to get my hair back the way I wanted. This sounds very vain but I was so devostated. I spent a long ass time trying to grow out my hair only to chop off so much of what I spent growing.
I never went back to the shitty salon. I knew I should've said something but I was just so shocked.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Got a shitty haircut, was passive aggressive and went somewhere else to fix it, lost more hair than I wanted, never went back to the shitty salon. | Got a shitty haircut, was passive aggressive and went somewhere else to fix it, lost more hair than I wanted, never went back to the shitty salon. | 5,134 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] of 2 years, was planning of mutual break up but now everything has changed.
POST: Okay I probably know what your thinking after reading my title. No she's not pregnant. I wouldn't going to you guys if that was the case. It's actually this, my girlfriend of two years graduated high school a couple months back and was to go away at college. Since I'm still in college but was close to her house (cuz I go to community college near her house) so that was what made it work but the original plan was that she would be away at college. Basically 30 minutes north of my house but an hour away from my college. I wanted to release some pressure of having a relationship and be mutual friends and we were planning on doing that until this morning. She has been having this chronic headache condition and she went to go see a neurologist to see any options and this ended that she will have to have brain surgery to prevent her from becoming blind in the future. So I have no fucking clue to do cuz I need to have less pressure in my life to finish college but I don't want to be the douche bag of century and break up after brain surgery. So guys if you can, some advice would be very appreciative.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend is having brain surgery but I want to be pressure free of having a relationship for me to finish out college and focus on me but don't want to break up and not be there for her. | My girlfriend is having brain surgery but I want to be pressure free of having a relationship for me to finish out college and focus on me but don't want to break up and not be there for her. | 1,702 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I've [23 F] kind of been hooking up with a guy [23 M] 1 month, having trouble reading his intentions
POST: A month ago I met a guy and we immediately hit it off. We do have a lot of shared interests, but we ended up hooking up the first week and the sexual chemistry is like nothing I've ever felt before. Now every time we hang out we have sex and I was ok with a purely sexual relationship at first, but some of his actions have got me second guessing myself.
He insists I stay the night, he likes to cuddle the entire time we sleep and for hours after we wake up, he always kisses me goodbye and randomly when we hang out (sometimes just on my head or hand), he always responds to my texts promptly and he sends me snap chats throughout the day while we are at work to wish me a good day. Hanging out is usually watching movies and playing video games with or without his friends. At the same time he rarely initiates texting, his texts are mostly one word, and we haven't been on a "real" date.
I was content with letting this ride out in whatever direction it may since I was having fun, but when I left this morning I found a piece of a condom wrapper on a table in his room that wasn't the kind we have ever used. We haven't really had a talk about being exclusive and we've only been seeing each other for a month so I'm not upset with the idea that he is having sex with other people, but it really got me thinking about where the relationship is going.
I'm not sure if it's too soon to have the talk, but I feel like we should since we are sleeping together. All of the (very few) other relationships I have been in were much more straightforward so I have never been in a situation like this. I really do like him a lot, I need some advice. What would I even say?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I started hooking up with a new guy, found evidence that he was hooking up with other people too, and I don't know if/how to have the "where is this going" talk. Need advice. | I started hooking up with a new guy, found evidence that he was hooking up with other people too, and I don't know if/how to have the "where is this going" talk. Need advice. | 3,336 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (28m) just moved in with my gf (27f) of 14 months and have second thoughts daily. Is this a sign of issues to come or just my commitment adversion?
POST: For almost all my post-high school life, I've been single or at the most simply dated. There were a myriad if reasons for this, but for the most part, it never bothered me.
I started dating my current gf 14 months ago, although we worked together and had been acquaintances for approx 3 years before we started dating. She knew who I was and seems to accept my habits like the fact that I smoke pot each night, dedicate alot of time to my new profession as a brewer, watch sports all the time, etc.
Now that we're living together, I can't help but think I may have made a mistake. We get along great and aren't constantly fighting. But part of me still can't shake this feeling of, "what the hell have I gotten myself into?".
For example, my gf is very picky about certain things around the house and for the most part I'm not, but when I do assert myself she gets pretty bent out of shape very easily. She'll get over it quickly when I explain why it's not a big deal, but the fact that she gets all pissy for 10-15 minutes about me wanting to add more pasta sauce to MY raviolis concerns me as it seems like the kind of thing that doesn't warrant a second thought.
This kind of stuff doesn't happen all the time, but I'm noticing that she sweats the small stuff too much in general, gets stressed out easily it seems and kinda shuts down (quiet, not very responsive, seems sad). Is this something to be worried about or am I just making excuses since I'm not use to such commitment?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Been single most my adult life, just moved in with gf and can't help but wonder if I made the right decision due to gf not letting small stuff slide off her back. | Been single most my adult life, just moved in with gf and can't help but wonder if I made the right decision due to gf not letting small stuff slide off her back. | 4,284 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: FWB relationship got too serious and we will be in the same class in a few weeks. How to deal?
POST: A little background: I (M 31) met up with a woman my age a few months ago in a class we were taking in preparation for going to the university (yes, a bit late for both of us, different topic). We got along *really* well and she ended up confessing to me and we became a couple. There was a catch: She is married and they have a kid, but her husband is abusive and she has been planning on leaving him. Because I didn't want to be a "pulling factor" on her relationship more than I already was, we agreed on keeping it FWB.
Obviously we fell head over heels for eachother, though her moreso than I, I think. Yesterday she started fishing for what I would do if I could choose and if it was up to me, and I suspect she wanted me to say she should leave her husband. I said that ideally, I wish she managed to get things working with her husband and for their kid's sake, and maybe I could find someone who could measure up to her. Perharps not the most elegant way of putting it, but it's what I said in the moment as I still thought we were keeping it casual FWB. It was then it became more apparent how attached to me she was as she was absolutely devastated.
A second catch: We have both signed up for a year-long class this year, related to the one we met in. It's too late for any of us to change or go to a different place.
Honestly I would be fine just distantiating myself while being around her. I care for her a lot but have managed to keep it FWB and would be fine degrading it to just friends again. It's different for her though. She's still in tears every time she calls me, says it's best if she never sees me again, how nobody wants her, and gets upset at the notion of staying friends since it's no cure for her broken heart.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | FWB with a married woman turned too serious and she doesn't want to see me, we have a one year long class lined up together. | FWB with a married woman turned too serious and she doesn't want to see me, we have a one year long class lined up together. | 4,162 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Where do I stand with her?
POST: I realize that I'm probably in the friend zone, but I can't quite tell, because occasionally I get very mixed messages, here's the situation:
I (24M) dated her (23F) in college, and we've just started talking to each other again recently, after I screwed up the previous relationship by cheating on her (not proud of that). I've been going through a kind of hard time at work recently, and we had been talking about that.
When she was upset a few days ago, she called me, because she wanted to talk to me about it, which kind of threw me off a bit. Yesterday, I tried to give her the real apology I always felt like she deserved for me screwing up before, and she said that it meant a lot to her, and then said that she was really happy to have me back in her life, then said that she was really glad that I answered when she called me, because I was the only person she wanted to talk to.
However, despite those things, which would make me think she might be interested in a relationship, she's said a few times now that she wants to be friends. What's going on here?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | She's been calling me, and saying things that seem to indicate she's interested, but also mentioned a few times that we're friends, what does she really want? | She's been calling me, and saying things that seem to indicate she's interested, but also mentioned a few times that we're friends, what does she really want? | 4,213 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Not sure if I'm [18/f] being used in my new relationship by my boyfriend [19/m]
POST: My boyfriend [19] and I [F/18] have been officially dating for almost 2 months now but have been together for almost 3 or 4 months unofficially. We have quite a bit in common including the fact that neither of us are very conservative people and so we are already very sexually active together. This didn't bother me until recently. I mean, I enjoy sex and he does too and I am happy to go out of my way to please him but the amount of sex has escalated significantly recently. He always seems to be aroused and while it tends to be a bit of a joke I've started to get a hunch that he might just be using me for his sexual satisfaction. There is never a time when we are together that we don't have sex.
I'm not sure if I should be concerned about this at all or whether or not I should bring it up with him and if so, how? Do I just put it down to the fact that he's a teenage boy? We've already had to iron out some significant kinks in our relationship to get this far and I *really really* like him. I just don't know what to do. Especially when he's so forthcoming and reassuring in telling me that he likes me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | been dating boyfriend for two months, starting to become worried about how much sex we're having and whether or not I should tell him that I'm feeling kind of used. | been dating boyfriend for two months, starting to become worried about how much sex we're having and whether or not I should tell him that I'm feeling kind of used. | 2,056 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Autopay Accident - How to Best Handle?
POST: Hey all -
Apologies if already posted - on mobile. Have heard good things about yall. Maybe yall can help a newb in need of advice.
So, I'll jump right to it. I have multiple accounts at the moment. A "bills" account with checks, which is used for bills. A savings (with weekly deposits of $25 - not much but trying to save). And a "fun money" account through simple for spending/short term savings.
I apparently left an autopay for my car payment turned on in my main bills account and it is posting as we speak. I had already paid the bill manually and didn't get any sort of reminder this autopay was happening until this evening when according to the bank it was "too late to cancel" and it will take them 45-90 days to refund the money. The issue is: rent will be paid this week out of my bills account and I hate to pull so much out of savings to be waiting in limbo to be repaid. Should I a) pull out money from my savings to pay for expenses and bills and keep paying extra on bills due (such as loans and credit cards) or b) reduce payment on my credit cards (from $100 over minimum balance to just minimum) for the next few months and put things as needed on them to be repaid in 45-90 days? Aiming to make the best situation happen in this rock and hard place scenario. Hope this makes some sense. It's late and I'm tired and slightly frustrated at myself. :/
TL;DR: . Assistant: | autopay error. Not enough in account. Pull from savings or pay less on bills to balance until money is refunded to account in 2-3 months? | autopay error. Not enough in account. Pull from savings or pay less on bills to balance until money is refunded to account in 2-3 months? | 3,937 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [34 F] with my husband [34 M] 5 years, he cheated, I left, I'm feeling emotionally abused by everyone in my life about it
POST: By my ex, by therapists, friends. Everyone is managing to make me feel like some kind of egomaniac or something for having a problem with being cheated on. Because "its not about me", he was struggling with his own issues. He couldn't have chosen me over his affair at the time that I demanded he do so, because he wasn't in his right mind essentially, and he needed to grieve his affair. He was genuinely confused about whether or not he wanted me (due to completely self-inflicted issues) and that by focusing on the cheating I'm not dealing with the REAL problem and I'm just "running away". That in the right conditions anyone can cheat and I'm being pompous or something for thinking I never would.
I'm sure my ex fucking loves this narrative, it makes everything all about him 24/7. They have me thinking I'm the disordered person for not being able to grasp all this.
I mean Jesus, can't a girl have some standards? Can't cheating simply hurt too much and cause me to lose all interest? I saw everything about how this other relationship developed, what the other woman was doing, can't I just not be interested in being with a self-involved idiot? I feel like this narrative has been set up about how it worked that I simply don't buy into, and it bothers me that that seems to be what the story is. That my inability to forgive, and my demands for respect, are coming from a place of insecurity rather than strength. And I'm just being too black-and-white in my thinking.
All in all I made more concesssions than I'm even willing to make normally, in the interests of giving our marriage a chance. But I never mattered. And I'm told that's just how it is with the kind of crisis he's having, and he wants me now and wants to work on his problems that caused this crisis so whats the big deal?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Husband indulged in an affair, I don't care what his issues are, that apparently makes me lazy or something | Husband indulged in an affair, I don't care what his issues are, that apparently makes me lazy or something | 2,397 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend is angry and confrontational. I'm a doormat
POST: My boyfriend (26) is the kind of guy who doesn't put up with crap. He calls out people when they're wrong, yells at bad drivers, and uses the word "dumbass" very liberally. I should clarify that it's never excessive, violent, or directed at me. I kind of admire his assertiveness sometimes. A lot of people would probably see this as a reasonable level of emotion, but I have some problems dealing with it.
As I mentioned, I (24) am a doormat. I very, very rarely get angry at anything. My usual response to conflict is to curl up into a ball and cry. I was also physically abused by my father as a kid, because of his anger management issues. When other people are angry, I feel awkward and terrified. I'm working with a therapist to try to get over some of my emotional problems. So far I can successfully deal with anger from/get angry at my sister and my best friend without it being a big deal. With other people, any form of conflict just sits in my mind and scares me.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months. He knows all about my issues, accepts them, and is always very kind and collected when we're working out minor problems together. But he still gets very angry at other people, and himself. We have similar interests, and I feel more comfortable talking to him than to anyone else. Our relative anger levels just seem incompatible.
I've talked to him about how people getting angry scares me, and he's very understanding of that. I know it's not right to want someone in a relationship to change. I know that's part of who he is and I admire it a bit, but I don't really want to have to become agressive to accept it either. Most of all, I'm terrified of either one of us becoming angry with each other. I know it probably has to happen eventually, and I don't want to get scared and end the relationship.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Agression scares me. Boyfriend is on the agressive side. How to productively deal with conflict without getting scared? | Agression scares me. Boyfriend is on the agressive side. How to productively deal with conflict without getting scared? | 1,577 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: First Text Question!
POST: So I started talking to this girl on tinder today. It was probably the best that a tinder convo has ever gone for me. Eventually I had to go, so I asked for her number which she gave me.
I texted her like 20 minutes later with my name and said it had been nice talking to her. Nothing warranting a reply directly, but I guess I was kind of expecting one. It's been a good few hours since the initial text.
My plan was to text her tomorrow and ask her to do something, but I feel as though I should refrain from contacting her again until she's sent me something in reply?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | What should I do if there's no reply to my "Hi, this is jazzbee. Was great talking with you, hope you have a nice evening" text within 24 hours? | What should I do if there's no reply to my "Hi, this is jazzbee. Was great talking with you, hope you have a nice evening" text within 24 hours? | 4,925 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Highschool Senior male (me) dating Freshman Girl?
POST: So there is this freshman girl who moved into the house right across the road from me just over a year ago. I've actually had my eye on for a little bit, and actually had the courage to walk up to her in the morning on Tuesday whilst walking to the bus stop. We seemed to have hit it off, though I've only talked to her to and from the bus since Tuesday and Today (Wednesday), but so far everything is well. We've only had small talk, such as how we're doing in school, how she likes the neighborhood, and other general school stuff. I actually switched my seat from mine to hers on the bus ride to school which she seemed to be OK with.
**Now here's what my question is**: How will I be able to tell if this 14 year old girl is interested in me (17)? I'm willing to be that there's other guys that are probably interested in her though, but I am not sure if she has a boyfriend. I have been told by other girls that I am cute / attractive, so I think I have that going for me, but I'm not sure if she is interested in me.
I have yet to get her phone number, and I don't think she has a facebook, but she seems pretty chill so far. And another plus is that she lives right across the street, so I would be able to see her whenever. I haven't had any relationships my whole High School career, so I was hoping you guys could help me with this! Thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How can I tell if this freshman girl is interested in me and not some of her other guy friends that she has already made? | How can I tell if this freshman girl is interested in me and not some of her other guy friends that she has already made? | 1,982 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [30 F] tell him [32 M] I've had a crush on him for years?
POST: At one point years ago, we went to the same school. We had a class together and I learned his name and found him online. I wanted to talk to him back then, or just send a message, but never had the nerve. So, we never actually had a conversation. School ended, I moved away, had multiple relationships and jobs...
But I never forgot him.
A few times a year I would google him to see what he was doing. I found his blog which went as far back as to when we were in school together, and found out we had a lot more in common that I originally thought. If only I had known then what I know now, I definitely would have tried to talk to him. "If I ever see him again, I'll march right up and start a conversation like a normal person!" I've been telling myself. Yeah right, I'd probably lose my nerve again. :(
I'm going to be in his city for a few days during the holidays to visit friends. There is a tiny chance that he will be at a bar at the same time that I am, but a bigger chance he won't be. I live far away now and don't go back for visits often.
Reddit, should I message him and confess everything?
I don't want him to feel creeped out, and if he wasn't interested then I would respect that. A flat-out rejection might be just the thing to finally get him out of my head.
Has anyone else ever gone through this? I've read a lot about "limerance" and it sounds pretty close to my situation. I don't know what else to do to get over it though.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I've had a secret crush on this guy for years. I'll be in his city for the holidays. Should I tell him? | I've had a secret crush on this guy for years. I'll be in his city for the holidays. Should I tell him? | 4,340 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [16 M] with my may or may not be GF [17 F] one date but known for a couple months, getting some weird vibes from her
POST: I met her about two months ago and have been texting her for the past month, I grew a pair and asked her out last week, we saw a movie a few days ago and after the movie we walked around the mall holding hands. The thing that worries me is that though she went on a date with me and held my hands, I feel she might be uninterested. The times we were together before the date and while texting I would compliment her, but she never returned the favor. Even when I asked for her birthday she never asked for mine. I don't know what to think of the situation. How should I play this out reddit?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl went on date with me but has seemed maybe uninterested before and after the date. How should I play this out? | Girl went on date with me but has seemed maybe uninterested before and after the date. How should I play this out? | 4,613 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: The Epiphany that changed Pinky and the Brain... Also first post :)
POST: Reddit, I have decided to emerge from the shadows where lurkers lie to impart some very valuable knowledge upon you. Brace yourselves, for this may change your entire sense of being... The other day while sitting in my room staring at the wall and avoiding my textbook's gaze, I realized something about a show that I'm sure some of you have heard of... Pinky and the Brain!
Throughout our lives, most - if not all - of us have always assumed a few things about the two protagonists in the show, Pinky and the Brain. The biggest and most important assumption that the show falsely presents is that "Brain" is more intelligent than "Pinky"
In fact, if you think about the show it is not a conflict between two mice of varying degrees of intelligence at all. It is actually a battle between good and evil. Pinky is far more cunning than Brain and successfully halts Brains plans to "take over the world" without Brain ever suspecting foul play.
The benefits that both mice enjoy thanks to Pinky's elaborate plans are threefold. Brain continues to feel good about himself. Pinky enjoys company in his otherwise lonely cage, and Brain's potential victims are kept safe by the hero of the story: Pinky.
So next time you watch the show... listen carefully to the tall, gangly mouse. You might even learn a thing or two from him.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Pinky is actually the smarter of the two mice. He represents all that is good and holy and saves the world from Brain in every episode... Think about it! | Pinky is actually the smarter of the two mice. He represents all that is good and holy and saves the world from Brain in every episode... Think about it! | 835 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Unfriending her from Facebook?
POST: So I was seeing this girl for a few months up until a two weeks ago when she cut it off due to her feeling as if she didn't have time for a relationship at the moment.
I wasn't too bothered by it, but it still wasn't easy because I really liked her. However, tonight I was on a night out with my friends and I saw her for the first time since (not entirely sure if she saw me) talking to some guy, a minute later, I look back and they're kissing a few meters away from me. I had to leave the club at that moment and it was then that I realised that I'm not over her in the slightest and think that the best course of action would be to unfriend her from Facebook to avoid that constant reminder of our time together and the searing image of her with someone else lodged up in there too.
Is this a typical thing to do to someone you were dating for a short period of time? I don't want to come off as a dick or anything, as I generally liked her as a person, I just feel it's a necessary action if I'm to move on easily.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Dating girl for few months, she broke up with me 2 weeks ago, saw her tonight kissing another guy, is it a standard response to delete them from Facebook? | Dating girl for few months, she broke up with me 2 weeks ago, saw her tonight kissing another guy, is it a standard response to delete them from Facebook? | 2,847 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[24M] met this girl [23M] at a Physiotherapy clinic I go to. We have been talking for a few months. What do I do?
POST: So as the title suggests, I met this girl at a Physiotherapy clinic I go to for my back. I go there around 3 times a week. We started talking there and sooner or later I added her onto fb (turns out, we have a few friends in common). So we end up talking for a while, like 4 months. I talk to her a LOT on fb and at the clinic, and we've chilled like once outside the clinic. We open up to eachother and start telling each other a lot of personal stuff. I would have asked her out sooner, but for health reasons, I wasnt able to go out too often. My health has gotten better though.
But lately, I've noticed that she is becoming a little bit distant, and doesnt talk as much as we used to. I end up initiating the conversation more and more often. In the past two weeks, Ive asked her to hang out, but she said she is busy. Whether she is bullshitting or not, I dont know. My friends say that I'm giving her wayyyy too much attention, and I agree. Im sure she knows that I have the hots for her. And as a result, I've have gotten friendzoned, or something similar, because when we do talk, she really likes to get into it. Hell, I asked her to chill today, and no dice.
Now people are saying that I should stop talking to her for a week or so. Just to show that Im not dependant on her. Thing is, I would like to date her eventually, later on. Did I mess things up completely? or is it salvageable? Some tips or opinions would really help.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl I met may be losing interest. Is there any way to turn it around? or should I pull the chute? | Girl I met may be losing interest. Is there any way to turn it around? or should I pull the chute? | 2,021 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [20/F] concerned that my boyfriend [23 M] of 2 months might be scared of investing too much into our relationship.
POST: A little background. I have known my boyfriend for a year next month, but we've been dating for the last 2 months. Before we started going out, he had been in a bad relationship. Basically, he was a FWB with a girl he worked with who already had a boyfriend. He got really attached to her and when she ended it he got hurt a lot. That was right before the summer started. He's told me that, and he's told me about his mother too.
From what he's told me, it sounds like every time her romantic relationships turn sour she starts dating another man before even breaking up with the first. The most recent happened in the last couple months apparently, when his mom and stepfather separated and she started dating a new guy. Granted, I can't really say anything to him on the matter because I haven't really been involved until recently. He seems to be dealing with the changes pretty well, or maturely, but sometimes I think he may be projecting the fear of failing relationships onto our relationships. It sometimes seems like he's holding himself back because of that fear.
Fortunately (unfortunately?), I have been exposed to mostly healthy, or at least lasting relationships. I can't really relate to his fears, because I never had to deal with the divorce of my parents, or the adjustments that come along with a step parent. It sometimes seems like he's jealous that I have a "perfect" family, even though I try to assure him that my family has its own problems. Is there some way that I can assure him that I care about him, and that I want our relationship to last? I don't want him to hold back, I'd rather see him living in the moment without having that underlying fear.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How do I assure my boyfriend that I am not like his mother, and that our relationship is not like his mother's romantic relationships? | How do I assure my boyfriend that I am not like his mother, and that our relationship is not like his mother's romantic relationships? | 4,888 |
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