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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (30f) told my husband (30m) he enjoys his interest and he told me I was wrong
POST: OK so some background: we've been together 10 years, married for 5. 3 kids together.
I'll try to make this quick. Basically my husband watches videos (documentaries, interviews) about a certain topic often. We were discussing it today and I said I don't personally enjoy ___ but I know you enjoy learning about ____.... He cut me off and said "no you're wrong, I have no emotional connection to it at all". Now, this would be OK if it were true. But he has expressed over and over his enjoyment with said interest. Also, he occupies his time with information about it, frequently. So to me it was obvious observation. Hell, he has even *said* he enjoys learning about it.
This is a very simple, stupid thing. I don't understand why he would argue against liking something he so easily expressed interest in before, for years. I guess I am looking for some insight as to why he would behave as if I did something wrong for saying something he himself has said before...?
This is not the first time things like this have happened. It seems he says things one day and says the opposite another day. Then swears up and down he never said anything different. I just don't get it. I feel like I'm going crazy. Insight, advice, tell me I'm crazy... Anything you got, I'll listen.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Husband expresses one thing, then tells me I'm wrong when I say something, and then acts like he never expressed the original thing. | Husband expresses one thing, then tells me I'm wrong when I say something, and then acts like he never expressed the original thing. | 963 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28/m] with my [27/m] friend (2+ years). Did I mess up trust?
POST: So I have a close friend of mine of a few years who was talking to me about his girlfriend, and told me a few things. Said not to repeat it to anyone. Fine, no problem.
However, a random friend I have mentioned something about the girlfriend along the lines of "hey shes cute! What do you think?" (just random guy BS talk), I simply stated that "you wouldn't really like her I think".
He of course, asked why. I replied with "just some things I was told in confidence, cant say".
I feel like I screwed up. My friend of course dropped it, and that was it. It's just I feel I should of said something silly, or stupid, to blow it off, not what I did. It was the first thing I could think of without saying anything I shouldn't. Am I just being stupid here? I just feel bad about it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friend told me a secret. I feel like I indirectly mentioned I "knew a secret" but couldnt say it to another friend. Did I betray his trust? | Friend told me a secret. I feel like I indirectly mentioned I "knew a secret" but couldnt say it to another friend. Did I betray his trust? | 1,494 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18M] am going to a college halfway across the US from my [18F] girlfriend. I know the conventional advice, what are my alternatives?
POST: I want to preface this by saying that I have read enough "We are going to different colleges should I break up" posts to know what the majority of Reddit's wisdom is on the subject. Just break up, you will both be better off.
Anyway. Me and my girlfriend met senior year of high school and hit it off well. We became really good friends, and officially started "going out" and all around 4 months ago. We are going to different colleges that are halfway across the US from each other. We both will be flying back home for most breaks, like fall break, Christmas, spring break and all so it's not like we are stuck at the colleges for the entire school year. I have struggled a lot with what to do, and have completly avoided the subject of "us" post summer. She has too incidentally. Again I know what the "worldly" advice is, and that is breakup now and avoid a Christmas break fiasco type deal. I guess I am just grasping onto what I can to do stay together, and I wanted Reddit's advice on this problem overall. What would it be like in a LDR? If we broke up Christmas break this year or the next would it really be bad? I guess in the end it really depends on the couple, and we will have to have the conversation eventually. This is all assuming she would be willing to do a LDR with me (I'm thinking she will). I just wanted some more ideas in my head going into that talk other than my own and my mom's haha.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Gf and I going to far away colleges. Break up or struggle with LDR. I already know what most will say, so any other Ideas? | Gf and I going to far away colleges. Break up or struggle with LDR. I already know what most will say, so any other Ideas? | 6,003 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: GF [19/f] acting strangely?
POST: I really don't know what's up with her. Last night, round 2 am, I got a text from her asking if I was still awake. I was, so I told her. She asked if she could call me and at the very start of the phone when I asked her what was up she goes "I really, really miss you".
We had a nice conversation and then we went to bed.
Today, she just seems quite off. She had told me she would break up with me if I was late for our Valentine's Date. I asked her if she was serious about it and she said "I'd be really, really upset". I told her I wouldn't - and I really won't be because everything's sorted.
She says she isn't angry... but she just seems really off. Her answers are vague and dull.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I really don't know what's going on. At times I'll feel happy because she'll be telling me how much she misses me and loves me. But then other times I feel unhappy because she texts weirdly or whatever. | I really don't know what's going on. At times I'll feel happy because she'll be telling me how much she misses me and loves me. But then other times I feel unhappy because she texts weirdly or whatever. | 5,669 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18M] with girl I like [18F]; I'm going overseas; she tells me it's okay to get with other girls while I'm gone. I really sincerely like this girl and would love to be exclusive; but how do I express this to her without limiting her?
POST: Hi r/relationships. Some context.
I'd been dating this girl around November last year; it didn't work out initially and we went our separate ways. She contacts again about a month ago and asks if I want to hang out; we do. This time it works out so much better than before; we'd both matured a lot due to finishing school, I'd recovered from depression, and it was really utterly fantastic. I really like this girl, but seeing as the US is cemented; we kinda grudgingly agreed to keep it very low-key and casual seeing as I'm away for so long.
Fast forward past some pretty awesome casual dates to tonight; where after it all she confesses that she really does truly like me (as i do her) and that she'd like us to date properly when I get back, in spite of me going to the US. Now; my dilemma. This girl is perfect for me in every fashion. Banter is on point; she's stunning, great sexual chemistry, and we really like one another.
I wasnt gonna go out of my way to bang my way across US and Europe anyway; but I feel as if seeing I'm away for so long; it'd be bound to happen at some point (and she doesn't want me to put it all on hold for her while im gone). However; I'm kinda fiercely loyal, and I don't want to hurt her; but want it to happen when I get back. I also know that if she was to move on to someone else, it'd break my stupid little heart, despite how reasonable it is from her perspective.
We're not going to cut eachother off (we plan to be in constant contact); but naturally the lack of intimacy is an issue and we're not really suited to Long Distance Relationships. Help me out?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Going overseas, girl I like says its okay for me to get with other people while I'm gone, however I'd rather be with her. How do I express this wish for exclusivity without placing limits on her? | Going overseas, girl I like says its okay for me to get with other people while I'm gone, however I'd rather be with her. How do I express this wish for exclusivity without placing limits on her? | 2,947 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My GF(F21)'s roommates (F21,F22) want me (M21) who doesn't live there to chip in on rent and utilities
POST: *
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriends roommates IMO unjustifiably want me to chip in for rent for a space I do not live in but help maintain at their request and because I like helping out my girlfriend and my's friends . | girlfriends roommates IMO unjustifiably want me to chip in for rent for a space I do not live in but help maintain at their request and because I like helping out my girlfriend and my's friends . | 2,763 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Reddit, I need your help with an over-protective mother.
POST: I'm 17, and recently started seeing a 20 year old. We've become extremely close, and since I met him I've been much happier and more motivated to do well in other areas of my life. I already get good grades at a difficult school, play sports, and have never had problems with drinking or drugs. Our relationship is what keeps me balanced.
My parents have been divorced for several years, and I live with my dad nearly full time. My mother is a bit over-protective, so I anticipated some difficulty, but not like this. She thinks that the age difference is too great for somebody my age, and doesn't want me to date him. This, I understand; it's her prerogative to be concerned. It can be worked around. The real problem is that she is now trying to attack my dad legally for being a bad parent, neglecting my safety, etc. On top of this, she refuses to talk to me about how we can compromise, just insists that this is in my best interest in the long run.
I've been looking for articles about how being in a stable, loving relationship is healthy for young adults (articles seem to be the best way to get through to her), but I can't find many that address the pros of teenage relationships. What I really need is to convince her that this is a healthy thing, something that falls in line with her need to 'shape me into a good young lady'.
Any ideas?
Note: "you're 17, you're too young to be dating, just enjoy life and don't feel like you need to be with somebody..." Yes, yes I know. This boy fell right out of the fucking sky, and I care about him and trust him more than almost anybody. I'm not going to give up on this just because of some age/family issues.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my mother won't support me dating a guy 3 years my senior, is now legally attacking my dad because of it. I need to convince her that relationships like this can be healthy and good, I need her support in this. | my mother won't support me dating a guy 3 years my senior, is now legally attacking my dad because of it. I need to convince her that relationships like this can be healthy and good, I need her support in this. | 391 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskDocs
TITLE: TSH level variation and suggestions for possible medical tests
POST: In June I took a blood test in Belgium, which among other things checked for TSH levels. The level was 2.9. A month later I took another blood test in my home country, Norway (I'm an expat), which had a score of 1. Both tests were taken at around 11 AM, with no food beforehand (don't know if this is relevant at all). Should the TSH level vary this much? The ranges were the same at both laboratories (0.3 - 4.2). The latter laboratory also tested for Free T4 and Anti-TPO, which came back normal (16 (range: 11 - 22) and 97 (range 50 - 150) respectively).
Background info:
26 year old Caucasian male, approximately 70 kg, 182 cm. Not taking any medications. Blood pressure 133/86, taken this Monday. Symptoms in no particular order:
* Night sweats which usually come in "clusters", occurring about three to four nights in the span of about two weeks. I can then have a month or two without it happening.
* Frequent bowel movements (at least four times per day)
* Panic attacks at varying intervals
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Is it normal for the TSH level to vary as much as this? I would also greatly appreciate any suggestions for other possible diagnoses which I can ask my doctor about when I see him next week | Is it normal for the TSH level to vary as much as this? I would also greatly appreciate any suggestions for other possible diagnoses which I can ask my doctor about when I see him next week | 5,207 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: How can I [17f] apologize to my mother and convince her that I'm serious about changing?
POST: My cousin overheard my mother telling my uncle on the phone that she plans to send me to rehab for drugs. She also heard my uncle mention it to my aunt that my mother was planning to do this. I'm not suppose to know that this is happening. My cousin does not yet know what date they will try to do this, but my uncle has implied to my aunt that it will happen this week.
I don't have any plan on how to avoid this at the moment. I'm trying to get my cousin to find out more. I read a few texts off my mother's phone that confirmed that it was happening but did not mention any specific details.
I think I should just make a long apology to my mom tomorrow and tell her that I want to change and I want to be a good person and how sorry I am about everything. I don't think that I should let her know that I know what she's planning though. I'm not sure what to say. I'm sure she'll believe the apology, but I'm less sure that the apology will be enough to make her reconsider sending me to rehab. I think if I say that I want to spend more time with her and "repair our relationship" it might work better.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My mother plans to send me to rehab. What should I say to her to convince her that it is in our best interest that I not go? | My mother plans to send me to rehab. What should I say to her to convince her that it is in our best interest that I not go? | 2,009 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description
POST: My girlfriend caught me with porn on my computer. She was understandably pissed. Not so much that I was looking at it but that I was keeping it from her. We talk work things out. She says it's fine if I look as long as I don't hide it. Great we make up and continue on with our lives.
Later she's on my computer helping me with my resume and finds the file with screenshots of pics I'd taken. I had (wrongly) assumed she'd seen those. She gets pissed all over again. I feel like an asshole again. She is on there looking for something else and finds the download file piled high with stuff I didn't even know was on there including videos. I don't download videos because I don't really find them terribly sexy at all. I don't even know how they got there (I'm not very computer savvy to these things). Some of the sites I was on maybe a bit sketchy?
I feel like a total jerk now and she is understandably upset. I want the relationship to continue and she still tells me she wants me to feel comfortable looking at that stuff if I want. I don't know if I can do that anymore. All that will happen now is that I'll end up feeling guilty about hurting her if I look at it and I won't enjoy it.
I would appreciate your thoughts on the matter.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I hid porn on my computer. Partner is upset that I hid it rather than looked at it. I'm sorry that I hurt her. What do I do now? | I hid porn on my computer. Partner is upset that I hid it rather than looked at it. I'm sorry that I hurt her. What do I do now? | 3,606 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my __bestfriend_ [21 F] so can I really win this girl, my best friend is my dream
POST: So my best friend is bisexual and she just got out of a relationship and it feels weird cuz she talk to me and will text me in the middle of the night saying I miss you and she always uses emogies. When ever she around I get butter flys along with I talk like I don't shut up and I talk to make it worse lol. And I think she sees it and she crackes up also she always leaves her friends to come talk to me. We always go out to eat and movies and other dates and this summer she wants to hang out and I want to tell her how I feel. Quick question anyone got a good date idea something that's a date but something better then movies and dinner. And one last thing she's the hottest girl on my campus and I feel like no chance even though I'm her best friend and everyone be jelly lol so anyone got any advice with me. Also she always tell me how she feels safe with me because one night months and months ago I took her out to dinner after a party and she was so drunk and I took her to dinner and then to her room and put her to bed and left so she trusts me. Also think she knows how I feel ? Ps my names James
TL;DR: . Assistant: | In love with bestfriend but can't find way to pin point it /will I be able to tell her how I feel or bad idea | In love with bestfriend but can't find way to pin point it /will I be able to tell her how I feel or bad idea | 6,500 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I (21/M) think I am falling for my best friend (20/F)
POST: For several months I have been growing closer and closer with my best friend. She has helped me through some of my hardest times. She recently helped me get through a difficult breakup. When we first met, we kind of "friend zoned" each other because I was in another relationship at the time.
The semester recently ended and she and I have been spending a lot more time together. I find myself caring for her so much and I want to protect her, however I think this is because we are such good friends. But when I am with her, I feel so happy and I just can't help but smile.
Last night, we were talking, just the two of us and as I stood up to leave, she said, "Wait. I want to try something. And I think we are good enough friends that we can at least try it". Then, she kissed me! We talked about it after and neither of us felt weird or awkward...it actually felt very good. We kissed again, longer this time, and felt even better. Then I had to leave, so we didn't talk about it anymore after that.
Now I am kind of confused. I got home and I couldn't sleep because all I could do was think about her and that kiss. I don't know if I should pursue it, because I don't want to lose her as a friend. And I don't know what my next steps should be! Thoughts? Advice?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My best friend and I kissed and it felt great, not weird at all, and now I don't know what to do next. | My best friend and I kissed and it felt great, not weird at all, and now I don't know what to do next. | 3,357 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19F] with my LDR Boyfriend [18M] 2yrs, unable to rebuild trust after he lied to me.
POST: This is really a personal problem, and I don't know where else to seek advice/vent/etc too. Also using a throwaway because he knows my Reddit account.
Some pretext: I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. We met online, and we were each others firsts. We only get to see each other about 3 times a year, because of that we have Skype sex pretty frequently. Pretty soon after we began having Skype sex, he was interested in receiving nudes and so was I. I was really hesitant to send them, so I asked him if it would be easier to live without porn or me, and he chose the latter. So I agreed to send nudes on the terms that he would stop looking at internet porn, because to me being in a long distance relationship I'm **EXTREMELY** uncomfortable being "porn" (I hope that makes sense!)
Anyways, we were talking and I had asked when the last time he used porn was, because we had been talking about how long we've been together, it was just a random question. And to my dismay he respond "A week... week and a half ago?" and my blood just ran cold. And I asked if he remembered how I felt about porn, and he responded by saying I was at work. He also mentioned how he didn't tell me about it because he knew it would upset me, and that I should have sent him more pictures.
So like a normal 19 year old girls, I've spent the past 3 days being heartbroken and trying to convince myself that porn isn't a reason to break up a 2 year relationship, but I still feel like I've been cheating on. I told him that I felt betrayed and he just said it wouldn't happen again, unfortunately I don't believe it at all.
What do I do? I love him, but he lied to me, and broke my trust. Is there a way to rebuild trust?
Sorry for the wall of text, I just don't know what else to do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend promises not to look at porn as long as I am sending him nudes, lied about watching porn, and I don't know how to rebuild trust. | Boyfriend promises not to look at porn as long as I am sending him nudes, lied about watching porn, and I don't know how to rebuild trust. | 3,123 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I like a popular girl...
POST: So I met this girl a couple weeks ago and we became friends. We became friends because I would help her with the relationship she was in. She would tell me things about her boyfriend and things she was annoyed with him about... and their sex life. LONG story short they broke up. She would still talk to me then find me walking in the halls. Then sometimes she would text me too. Sometimes I would catch her staring at me.
One thing that is difficult is she is popular. I am an inbetweener. She is also really pretty and I think she is WAY out of my league. But one of my friends (who is a girl) said that she mite be playing hard to get. She also has never asked to hang out with me, but does with her other guy friends. I really don't know. I don't want to make a move then ruin our friendship. So I don't know if she likes me or she is just being friendly. I don't know if I should try to go for her either. Any advise would be helpful. Thank you
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I like a popular girl. I am an inbetweener I really don't know if she likes me. Some people tell me she is playing hard to get, but i don't know. | I like a popular girl. I am an inbetweener I really don't know if she likes me. Some people tell me she is playing hard to get, but i don't know. | 3,120 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by going to my college's dining hall while sick
POST: So I wake up late today, and realize I feel like shit. Nausea, dry heaves, the works. No matter how much water I drink, it's still there. So, I decide to go to the closest dining hall on campus, get some soup, tea, and something like ginger ale to try and ease it.
This particular dining hall does not have a bathroom, and has these tiny garbage cans.
So I'm getting my soup, when I start heaving again. This time I puke in my mouth. Trying to hold it in more, so I can find a garbage can, I clamp my mouth shut and cover it with my hand. It didn't help. A few seconds later and there's a large puddle of my vomit on the floor. And on my hands. And on my face. And on my shoes. And coming out my mouth and nose (remember how I clamped my mouth shut?).
Then, before I can fully register what has just happened, I puke again, this time in the garbage can. I *mostly* hit on target. At that point someone from dining hall staff approaches me with a wet cloth, asking if I'm okay, and people are staring. After trying to clean off the best I can, I hightail it out of there.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I go to crowded college dining hall while sick, and end up puking A LOT all over the floor and myself | I go to crowded college dining hall while sick, and end up puking A LOT all over the floor and myself | 5,150 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [22 M] life-long friends [20s M] constantly make fun of me
POST: I'm in my early 20s and live in the southern United States. I've had the same friends for forever and have had lots of great experiences with them in the past. In the last 2-3 years though they've become increasingly negative towards me.
I'll often see a few of them individually and things will be fine, but in a group setting I'm often excluded, the only one chided, etc. Some of the things they say go out of bounds or they're things that apply to more than just me but I'm the only one who gets shit on for it.
In the past I've said things, but I'm told I'm just too sensitive or they're joking. When I decide not to participate when everyone is chatting online or in-person, they'll use that as an excuse to exclude me. When I make fun of someone, I'm either ignored or basically told to shut it.
I'm not sure what to do. It's become increasingly stressful and these are my only 'friends'. Other people I know don't have friends like mine. We still have good times, but I feel like everything I do I'm being judged.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friends constantly make fun of me no matter what. Speaking up hasn't helped in the past. Still some good times, but not sure what to do. | Friends constantly make fun of me no matter what. Speaking up hasn't helped in the past. Still some good times, but not sure what to do. | 5,307 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [M/22] This is kinda embarrassing, (and painful) which is why I want to stop it
POST: Throwaway account, obviously.
I've not had many girlfriends in the past, my last one that we classed as a relationship was 2012, and that only lasted a few weeks, but now I'm older and relationships get more intimate, there's something I can't stop
Two years ago, I hooked up with a girl who I liked, we slept together and everything was great, but there was one problem. I could NOT get rid of my erection, even just laying in bed with her head on my shoulder seemed to set me off, even the slightest movement.
Now, I'm heading into what will probably be a good relationship and last night we were sat on my bed, just listening to music, her just a few inches from me/with her head on my shoulder, but I still have the same problem, my erection just won't go. When we eventually kissed for the first time it was even worse. She pretended not to notice, and I had skinny jeans on so it might no have been as obvious as it could have been, but I still think she noticed, and it kinda embarrassed me a little, because these kind of actions should, surely be fairly innocent and not get me this turned on.
My question is, is there any way to stop it, or control it at the very least? I saw a thread about flexing muscles to calm it, but it wasn't that effective.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | New girlfriend, I keep getting erections when cuddling or doing innocent actions such as holding hands, and I want to be able to control it. | New girlfriend, I keep getting erections when cuddling or doing innocent actions such as holding hands, and I want to be able to control it. | 5,463 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Different Colleges
POST: My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 & half years. We first got together in Sophomore year of High School and we're now starting college, however we're going to different colleges. I'm afraid of this whole new change. Many people tell me college changes you and creates a while different person, I'm afraid of her losing feelings or just changing on me completely. At the same time I want her to have the best college experience she can have and to not limit herself because of me and to live it up. And breaking up with her is not an option.
We have both talked about this topic many many times, it gets emotional and she understands exactly how I feel because she feels the same way. She's also afraid of me falling for another girl in college that may have the same interests as me or a girl that may be better than her. I do my best at assuring her of that not happening and telling her to think positively not thinking of the worse case scenarios. However we both try to have the confidence in ourselves of getting through college as a couple but still are afraid of what could happen. People say if it's meant to be it's meant to be. I've been trying to not think about this and push it off til it comes to my mind again. I needed to let this out and I need advice. Does anyone have advice on this situation?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend and I are afraid of going to different colleges and are afraid either of us will change and put our relationship at risk. Breaking up isn't an option. Any advice? | Girlfriend and I are afraid of going to different colleges and are afraid either of us will change and put our relationship at risk. Breaking up isn't an option. Any advice? | 1,511 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20 M] posted on another website looking for a blow job and my gf [18 F] saw my post.
POST: We have been dating for 7 months now and overall things have been ok between us. The other night I came across another sub reddit which is used to give blowjobs. Long story short I posted and my gf apparently knows my reddit account and saw.
I would never cheat on her and I love her, but for some reason when posting A thrill comings over me and I just get excited thinking about all the possible responses I will get. I'm not gay, but I've even posted on men seeking men Craigslist before, just because I was horny.
I would never cheat on her, but I just wanted to post because it's a personal fantasy of mine I guess? Maybe even a fetish? I'm not sure, but I think she is going to breakup with me and she still hasn't responded. What should I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | posted looking for a bj because of a personal fantasy and my girlfriend saw. She is now probably going to breakup with | posted looking for a bj because of a personal fantasy and my girlfriend saw. She is now probably going to breakup with | 1,436 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 F]and a new friend [20 M] : He likes me but I definitely don't like him? How do I set boundaries nicely?
POST: I have a guy friend who I made recently and he asks to hang out a lot and whenever we go grab a bite he offers to pay. I always say no but sometimes he is very persistent. He also tries to hug me a lot and texts me rather often. I've just recently met him at work so I find his behaviour a bit odd because even though we're friends, I'm still getting to know him and I don't feel close enough to him to be so touchy feely. Also, I think he may be interested in me, which if he is, I don't want to lead him on but I also don't want him to think I don't appreciate his friendship. I do enjoy hanging out with him but just as a friend.
How do I know if he likes me or is just being friendly? How do I set boundaries without being rude? He is fun to hangout with but I'm not a sentimental person and I don't like being touched. I am also not attracted to him at all.
Thanks in advance!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | If a new guy friend asks to hang out a lot and pay for things does he like you? How do I make it clear I don't like him and can't accept his gifts? | If a new guy friend asks to hang out a lot and pay for things does he like you? How do I make it clear I don't like him and can't accept his gifts? | 3,701 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Dad (M 54) might be cheating on Mom ( F 52) during business trips
POST: They have been married for around 20 years.
Since around 15 years ago, my dad has frequently been going on business trips. Frequently as in he's gone almost half the time.
Two years ago, my sister and I found email evidence from around four years before that that my dad was trying to get into a romantic relationship with a women in the country he travels to. We ended up showing our mom some of the emails. We subtly confronted our dad about it but he just blew it off and we kind of just let it slide since it was such a long time ago.
Recently, after he got back from a business trip, my siblings and I found a box of condom he bought during the trip and some of them were used so we are suspecting he is still having an affair but probably with someone else.
What should I do? I think we should confront my dad about this first before telling my mom and tell him to tell my mom.
I'm afraid of the consequences though because realistically, we are going through college right now and we are financially dependent on our dad right now for almost everything. Shelter, food, tuition etc.
What should I do? And how should I go about it?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 2 years ago, caught evidence dad cheated 6 years ago. Didn't do anything. Recently caught him with used box of condoms. What should we do? | 2 years ago, caught evidence dad cheated 6 years ago. Didn't do anything. Recently caught him with used box of condoms. What should we do? | 5,995 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23F] was seeing a guy [26M] for about 2 weeks. I think he took nudes of me, and may have shared them.
POST: Ok. So I was hooking up with a cowoker (I know, horrible idea) for about two weeks back in August before I broke things off. There were several red flags:
1) I told me he "loved" me after about three days.
2) He didn't understand the word no, and I had to either yell at him to stop trying to have sex with me or physically leave the room for him to get the message (made even worse by the fact that I, myself, have been raped and he was aware of this.
3) There were two/three incidents when I was in bed, naked, mostly asleep, he had his phone out and pointed towards me.
4) When I tried to end things, he grabbed my wrists really freakin' hard and pulled me towards him while yelling "NO!", and that I couldn't break up with him because he loves me (I'm 133, he was like 200? of solid muscle). Super scary.
Now, I don't know for sure if he actually took any photos of me. But he recently switched to working the night shift, where I work middle shift - so I do still have some interaction with the night shift people. Since he started working nights, people at work have started treating me differently.
So, I don't know what to do. The last time I saw him at work, I said we needed to talk, but was running late for the bus, so I had to go. I gave it two days and then texted him about it. No response. Any advice? I am partially hesitant to see him one-on-one as he did scare me a lot...but I feel like I have to know what's going on and if he took any pictures of me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Coworker I hooked up with for 2 weeks may have taken nudes of me. May also be talking about me behind my back at work or something. Have tried to contact him to talk about it, no response. | Coworker I hooked up with for 2 weeks may have taken nudes of me. May also be talking about me behind my back at work or something. Have tried to contact him to talk about it, no response. | 631 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by giving a charity a smoke bomb.
POST: This happened a few hours ago.
Outside one of my local grocery stores today was a charity collecting money to help disabled people find jobs suitable for them. I saw this as a good cause having experience with a, now stable, person who has a mental disorder. I reached into my right pocket and pulled out a few quarters to put in the donation box (similar to those of the Salvation Army).
As I walked away I heard a person behind me say in a semi-loud tone "What the hell?" I immediately turned around and was shocked to see the donation box erupting smoke from the top. At first I was wondering how the hell money catches on fire like that, then my face reddened.
Nervously and cautiously I proceeded to reach into the same pocket from which I pulled the donated quarters. I pulled out another coin and realized it was a special coin that made a very small explosion and released a large amount of smoke.
Now you're probably wondering why the hell would I carry one of these coins around. Well, I am a street magician. I perform tricks and usually carry around a few of my magical items just in case I feel like doing one. It just so happened today I decided to carry some smoke emitting fake quarters in my pocket.
Before I was able to explain to them what was going on, someone had already called the fire and police department. I asked why the police, and they said the donations box looked like a bomb. After the two arrived I explained myself and was asked a few questions about my quarters.
In the end everyone told me that I shouldn't pull that shit, even after I explained to them it was an accident. I am now afraid to show my face in front of the store because everyone knows me as the "guy who made a fake bomb"
I am going to go back tomorrow and explain myself further and hopefully not get any dirty looks from people.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Accidentally donated a magic fake quarter that emits smoke everywhere to a charity in front of a store. The police were called and everyone thought I made a bomb. | Accidentally donated a magic fake quarter that emits smoke everywhere to a charity in front of a store. The police were called and everyone thought I made a bomb. | 3,905 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm not sure what to do about my current situation.
POST: I [25/m] have been dating my girlfriend [21/f] for nearly 10 months. This is my second longest, first being 4 plus years, and her longest currently. When we first got together I had been experiencing severe anxiety and panic attacks and they only got worse. She would always ask of I was ok or feeling alright. At first it was great, but soon turned into me feeling like there was something wrong with me when that's all we talked about. It's another story but the shortened version is I quit drinking, 1 month sober yesterday, and I'm in much better health. The issue is that for a few weeks now she's been really worried and concerned about our relationship and it's progressively getting worse. It's turning into an all the time thing. All I hear is "are we ok?" "We're good right?" "You still love me?" And so on. It's driving me up the wall and I keep telling her to just go with it. That I'm getting over anxiety and a 3 year drinking binge. I also have no clue where this came from. I asked her and she always says she was just checking or it was on her mind. Any tips or input? Male or female perspectives welcomed. I'm not looking to break up cause I love her. Maybe just know what she's going through and all that jazz.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | dating a girl for 10 months. Love her. She's driving me up the wall with her constant questioning on the relationship. | dating a girl for 10 months. Love her. She's driving me up the wall with her constant questioning on the relationship. | 1,629 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27f] don't know how to respond to my ? [32m] blowing hot and cold.
POST: What is going on this guys head?
Me and potential bf are currently long distance, but we have met in RL before but we were just friends back then. We have been in contact every single day through text, calls and Facebook. He always sends me a good morning message as well as wishing me good night too. We talk about everyday life stuff, personal stuff and for the last month there's been lots of flirting and the occasional sexting session.
I have asked him what 'we' are and he has said that he really likes me and can see this going somewhere and he wants to meet up again when he comes to live near me in a few months.
He told me he has difficulty trusting a woman when she shows interest in him because he had a long term emotionally abusive relationship a few years ago where she basically faked the whole thing to get his money and destroyed him emotionally in the process. I told him, I understand and I am happy to let him take the lead so it's at a comfortable pace.
But he blows hot and cold all the time and it's so frustrating. He'll act like a boyfriend one minute and get very platonic. He'll text me all day and phone me then I'll barely hear from him at all apart from maybe a checking in text. He'll open up to me about something and then completely close off for a few days.
When he lets go and acts himself and not so 'in his head', he is an amazing guy and it's that that makes me wan to pursue something with him.
My question is, how do I respond to this? I've just been remaining consistent and not chasing when he pulls away, but being happy to speak to him when he returns. It just makes me confused as to whether he actually is serious about this turning into something and he's just 'rubber banding' or if he is just playing with me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Guy with previous emotionally abusive relationship is blowing hot and cold with me. Is this normal for his situation, how do I respond? Is he even really interested? | Guy with previous emotionally abusive relationship is blowing hot and cold with me. Is this normal for his situation, how do I respond? Is he even really interested? | 1,903 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Feeling a bit under appreciated. How do I hint to him?
POST: So my SO and I have exchanged Christmas gifts quite early this year. I was pretty damn excited about him opening the gifts I got him -- all wrapped and tied with a bow and shit.
Well, he pressured me to open mine. He told me to close my eyes. And at this moment, I'm all excited and shit. Then, he puts my hands around it. I open my eyes and its a little bottle of Honey Jack. Now, I love alcohol as much as the next person, but my heart just fell. I had gotten him something.. more sentimental.
I got him this awesome Indiana Jonesy leather covered flask and a nice bottle of Abercromie & Fitch's Fierce cologne.
Well he opened his gift tonight, and to see his face light up made me feel so happy. But I couldn't help but feel disappointed and not as appreciated. I'm really not a naggy, whiny SO. But this feeling leaves me a little sad and unimportant.
Btw, we've been kinda together for a littler over a year.
What should I do? Should I tell him straight up? If I do and he gets a gift, ill feel like it's only because I told him and that would just defeat the purpose.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | SO and I exchanged gifts. Mine was more sentimental, his a bottle of alcohol. Feeling under appreciated. If I tell him how I feel, how do I do it? | SO and I exchanged gifts. Mine was more sentimental, his a bottle of alcohol. Feeling under appreciated. If I tell him how I feel, how do I do it? | 315 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I , 27M, am having money issues with GF, 24F
POST: Been dating my GF for 2 years now and we share a 1 bedroom apartment. We agreed on a few things before we moved in together.
* I would pay rent, 740/Month
* She would cover utilities and internet 100-200/Month
* We would split groceries
I work almost full time and go to school part time, full time again next semester. She works 1 night a week and spend the rest of her time training her horses. So the money she makes goes to the horses, while the money I make goes towards everything else.
I understand that I make more and as such can contribute more, but 100% doesnt seem fair at all! I've talked to her about this several times, but nothing has changed.
How do I get her to find a second job?! All I can really think of is threatening her, but I don't want to do that. I love her very much, but I am getting very tired of getting up early to go to a job I hate and going to school while she gets to get up late every morning and go about her day as she pleases.
I understand that we are in this together, but I just want to feel like I am being treated fairly.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF isn't contributing to the bills and it is really straining me and I need to find a way to get her to find a second job! | GF isn't contributing to the bills and it is really straining me and I need to find a way to get her to find a second job! | 5,442 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18F] with my boyfriend [18 M] 1 year, would it be awful of me to suggest I'd find him more attractive if he gained weight?
POST: I know this is kind of a shallow question but here goes, my boyfriend and I have been dating for around a year now and I love him a lot - we're young, I have no misconceptions that we'll be "together forever" because shit happens but as it stands I'm very happy with him. My only problem, really, is that he is very, very skinny.
I know he struggles with his weight, he doesn't have an eating disorder but just struggles to eat enough to put on weight. He's nearing severely underweight for his height and age, and honestly I'm worried about him. His face is always really gaunt and angular, he has constant dark circles under his eyes (which are always red anyway, idk what that's about) and honestly, I think his waist thickness is around the same size as my leg, which can't be all that good. So part of this does come from a health standpoint.
However some of it is also, admittedly, my own preferences. I like thicker guys over thinner ones - I'm not expecting him to get ripped or anything, hell I'd prefer a little chub on him over that. I'm kinda fat myself, not grossly overweight but still pretty tubby, and when I want to do anything intimate - like sitting on his lap or something - I feel like I'm going to break him, or that I'm crushing him - which I get is my own insecurity, but I don't think its helped by his weight. He's really bony too - sometimes it genuinely hurts to hug him properly or have sex because his hipbones jut out a lot and hit my thighs.
I just don't know how to approach this topic without coming off like an ass, because I know how shitty it is when people comment on your weight. And especially because its fifty percent me being worried about his health and fifty percent about my actual attraction towards him. So I'm just looking for suggestions on how to bring this up and discuss it in a more "I'm worried about your health and improving your health/weight would also increase my attraction towards you" sort of way
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend is skinny, I'm fat, I'm both concerned about him being underweight and about how much more attracted to him I would be if he was a more normal weight. How to talk to him about it? | Boyfriend is skinny, I'm fat, I'm both concerned about him being underweight and about how much more attracted to him I would be if he was a more normal weight. How to talk to him about it? | 4,215 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [M/21] Went on a date last night with awesome girl [20/F]
POST: So I went on a date with a girl last night. Not really sure how she feels about it today. So we met up at a bar in the town she lives in, and we talked for about an hour, with only slight pauses. She was laughing at my jokes and everything. Then we go upstairs to another part of a restaurant and meet up with her friend. This guy is outgoing and loud, me being the silent type, obviously don't have much to say. My date and I start holding hands and hugging all that stuff. I get a kiss also which is great, but most of the time she is talking to her friend. After the date I asked her if this was going to happen again, which she responded with, "Idk, maybe.." This led me to believe she wasn't interested.
I texted her this morning, saying Goodmorning, and I still haven't gotten a response yet. Is it safe to say she's not interested. Do I ask?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Went out with girl, had great time. Meet up with her friend, I'm quiet most of the night, but she's holding my hand and smiling at me. Don't know if she's still interested. Do I ask? | Went out with girl, had great time. Meet up with her friend, I'm quiet most of the night, but she's holding my hand and smiling at me. Don't know if she's still interested. Do I ask? | 5,271 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I need some relationship advice :(
POST: i am having a confusing relationship with my ex-boyfriend. We had a neutral break-up, and agreed to stay as friends. The cause of the break-up was that, he felt that he was tied-down, and wanted more freedom as we are both just in our teens. I've tried to change his mind, but he was persistent. So right now, we are just suppose to be friends, and I'm okay with that. But now that we are not in a relationship, he treats me really well, and sometimes when we are alone, he will kiss me and hug me. He still shows that he really cares for me and likes me a lot still, but in front of his friends, he is a bit cold to me. I'm really confused, what should I do? Does he still like me more than a friend?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My ex-boyfriend treats me like I'm still his girlfriend but doesn't want to stay in a relationship with me or any other girl for that matter. | My ex-boyfriend treats me like I'm still his girlfriend but doesn't want to stay in a relationship with me or any other girl for that matter. | 872 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [26M] am having a hard time dealing with rejection.
POST: I've been single for about a year and a half now. My last serious relationship ended in May 2014. It had lasted close to four years and I was the one to end it.
I took a few months off from dating to heal and learn to be myself again. After a few months, I started dating again. I got the fade-out or ghosting rejection an awful lot. It drove me absolutely crazy. I wasn't even looking for anything serious and it still drove me up the wall. I tried online dating and had a miserably bad response rate; this really started to bother me. After a while, I decided to take a break again to try to collect myself.
Fast forward to today: I'm finally feeling ready to enter into a more serious relationship again. However, once I made an OkCupid profile again (not even filled it out, just a blank profile), I started to feel triggered again and just overall felt really awful. My past experience was overall pretty bad. It all feels extremely judgmental and shallow. It exacerbates a lot of self-image issues that I have. I have been seeing a therapist for the past two and a half years and we have spoken about this.
It's possible that I'm just not ready to jump back in again, but I really don't know how to prepare myself.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Feeling the sting of rejection and really not sure how to deal with it emotionally. It exacerbates a lot of self-image issues that I have. | Feeling the sting of rejection and really not sure how to deal with it emotionally. It exacerbates a lot of self-image issues that I have. | 1,572 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Car accident advice.
POST: I'm coming here to see if anyone would be willing to give me some advice on my chances of getting the person, who caused my recent car wreck, to pay for the damage to my car. So here's what happened. I was traveling about 30mph about 1 to 1 1/2 car lengths behind the person in front of me. As the driver in front of me was about to pass through our approaching intersection with a red light system, another car (the one who technically caused the accident) blew through his red light which caused the car in front of me to slam on his brakes which didn't give me enough time to stop so I rear ended him. The driver who ran the red light did not hit anyone so he kept on driving. There was no serious damage to the person I hit but my car has some damage to the bumper/hood but not internal damage that I can see.
So we called the cops, got a report, and they gave me a citation which I expected due to the rear end aspect. Here's the kicker. There was a witness who followed the driver which ran the red light and took down his license plate number. He gave all of that information to the police and gave me his contact information. He told me that he would testify on my behalf if I requested him to.
The reason I'm trying to find out is because I only have liability coverage on my insurance policy and since it's a rear end, the damage is considered my fault and probably not covered. What are my chances that I could hold the person who ran the red light responsible for my damages? Does having a witness help my chances or is this just a case of he said she said bs? I haven't gotten a quote on my damage yet so I don't know if it's worth the cost of having to lawyer up. If I had to make an educated guess I'd say around $1500-2000 worth of damage and labor. Is this something my insurance company should pursue?
Thanks in advance for any advice.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Rear ended someone because another driver ran a red light. Have a witness and want to know if I can hold that driver responsible. | Rear ended someone because another driver ran a red light. Have a witness and want to know if I can hold that driver responsible. | 2,289 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my Ex [22 F] of 5 months. How do I build back her trust to be in a relationship with me again?
POST: This is a throwaway.
Background: My ex and I had been dating for 5 months. About a couple of weeks ago, she moved to a college town about 5 hours away. I offered to go with her while transferring my job. Within those 5 months, she broke up with me twice( I had went to a dinner with my ex without informing her very early in the relationship and she saw the photo on FaceBook and she broke up again later due to her not wanting me to uproot my life for her.)
On the 5th, I went up to go see her for the weekend and to do a job interview in her area. At her request, she asked if I can stay the week and I said yes.On the 12th, we get into an argument about a text I had sent to a girl and why I deleted it. At the time I told her it was a friend who had an abortion. The Sunday before I left, we argue about it again. She doesn't believe me when I said it was my friends fling and says that I had cheated on her and got some girl pregnant or had intentions to cheat with the girl that I was texting. We then break up over this. I've tried to tell her that I haven't cheated or done anything in the wrong.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Broke up because my ex thinks I'm hiding something and that she can't trust me. I'm not hiding anything. Is there anything I can do? | Broke up because my ex thinks I'm hiding something and that she can't trust me. I'm not hiding anything. Is there anything I can do? | 1,692 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit Community-Little Sis just left for college. What can you tell her!?
POST: Dear Reddit,
My younger sister just left for college a couple weeks ago. She is attending a legit University far from home and I couldn't be more proud of her.
However, she has never really been away from home and almost ALL of her hs friends stayed at home. She has been having a really hard time dealing with the change. She has been getting anxiety and nervous attacks (which has NEVER happened to her before) and she is making herself sick with it. I want to help her out; help get her through the next hard month or two (I totally know how she is feeling - I just went through it a few years ago).
SO....I am making her a little gift package with some cookies, a good book or two, and I want to make her a little scrapbook or notepad filled with advice from myself (I finished school last year, and lived away at the dorms for a year, away from home for a year, and in DCfor a semester), my parents, and YOU!!!
So besides joining the reddit community, WHAT is something you can tell her about college, life, anything!!!
I will post up pics later of the package I send to her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | younger sister moved away to college; having hard time dealing with the change. Want to make something for her to help her through it. Reddit - your turn to shine!! | younger sister moved away to college; having hard time dealing with the change. Want to make something for her to help her through it. Reddit - your turn to shine!! | 4,615 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [35F] exgirlfriend doesn't want me [24M] to be a part of our, not yet born, child's life and I don't want to be either. Am I making a mistake?
POST: My ex told me on the weekend just gone that she is around 3 months pregnant, I had no idea, and didn't tell me until now that she is pregnant.
We met yesterday to talk about what to do, in which she explained that this was her decision and doesn't want me to be a part of their lives but would feel guilty for not telling me.
Personally I do not want a child for financial and emotional reasons. So, the idea that I am going to be a father never the less, and she really doesn't want me to be a part of it, is putting a lot of strain on my moral compass to whether I actually want a relationship with this child.
I'm just not sure if I'm making a massive mistake and would like advice.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my ex is pregnant but doesn't want me to be a father, I don't want to be either.. am I making a mistake by not | my ex is pregnant but doesn't want me to be a father, I don't want to be either.. am I making a mistake by not | 5,073 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Are some people just incapable of love?
POST: My SO (21) and I (20) have been together for over a year and 6 months. The one thing that really interests me is how difficult he finds it to say I love you, to anyone really. He was bullied a lot as a kid and conditioned himself to stop feeling so the bullies couldn't hurt him.
'Love' hasn't been an issue between us at all because I accept that it's hard for him to say it and when I say it myself, I don't expect him to say it in return.
A year ago he did tell me he loved me and I was shocked but after a while he stopped saying it. I was worried that he stopped having feelings for me, so last night I asked him if he did love me because I've been confused about what his feelings are towards me. He shrugged and told me that he doesn't know what love is and doesn't know if he's feeling it. I then asked why he said it to me earlier in our relationship and he said that he thought that I wanted him to say it. I told him he was crazy for thinking that and that I didn't care if he couldn't say it. But he says he feels guilty that he can't say it because then he feels like everything is one sided (which it isn't).
I thought about us today and realised that although he can't say it, he's shown it. During some off our worst fights (in cases where most guys would up and leave) he couldn't bare to leave me (even though he thought about it) and he was there for me when I was at my worst (he's always tolerant) he'll always want cuddles, be happy to drive me when I need him to (he hates driving), buy me flowers, pay for dinners, cook for me, the list goes on. A word to me doesn't matter because he treats me well. I'm not saying we are perfect, we're probably worse than must when we get into huge fights but will always stick around for the other.
Does anyone have a similar relationship? I don't know what I can do to make him realise saying I love you or thinking you can't feel love towards someone isn't an issue for me?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | boyfriend is incapable of love and it doesn't bother me but he feels guilty about not being as emotionally available as I am. | boyfriend is incapable of love and it doesn't bother me but he feels guilty about not being as emotionally available as I am. | 6,258 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is my bf(M26) behaviour validated towards me (F26) after I made a foolish mistake?
POST: Background: I (F26) Have been in a relationship with my bf (M26) for 10 years. I currently stay at his parents house with him and I have a part-time job, he works full-time.
Today I was suppose to attend an assessment for a job in another city but I didn't go as I felt doubtful about enjoying the job so I missed the assessment. This was a mistake and a terrible reason to not attend a job assessment. I currently work part-time and need a full-time job so not going to this assessment was just childish and wrong. I feel guilty and bad about not going and beat myself up over it. I will not do this again.
My bf was extremely disappointed with me (expectingly so) but also very angry I made that decision. I already feel stupid for not going and it was a mistake but my boyfriend has decided to react with calling me names and making me feel terrible for it.
He had work at 2pm and I told him this news around 8am. By 1pm I asked why he was still angry with me and he responded with ' Im not angry cos I dont give a shit about you any more'. This made me feel horrible.
Before leaving for work, I told him I already feel like shit for it and he responded to this with ' you should feel like shit cos you are a piece of shit". He has told me I am a waste of space, time and money and that I am pathetic. Today I have felt extremely depressed and worthless all day because of his reaction, as well as for the mistake of not attending that assessment.
Is his reaction validated? Should he be behaving like this? I can understand he will feel disappointed with me but I feel it is too extreme.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I foolishly didnt attend a job assessment and feel horrible for it, bf responds with extreme anger and makes me feel worthless for my mistake and calls me names. Is this justified? | I foolishly didnt attend a job assessment and feel horrible for it, bf responds with extreme anger and makes me feel worthless for my mistake and calls me names. Is this justified? | 6,445 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [25M] found out that I carry a trait for a certain condition. My GF [23F] carries it too. 25% chance kids will have the condition. Should I breakup?
POST: Ages have been changed. Throwaway. Together for 3 years.
We're both south-asian and both have been confirmed to carry the beta thalassemia trait. Basically, if we were to have children, there's a 25% chance one of them might end up with Thalassemia Major, and that is something I would never wish on a child, let alone anyone.
My GF is very go lucky, caring and loving. She's the type who takes care of the sick, elderly, and I know she could handle a sick child. I'm not like that. I would never be able to forgive myself if I brought a sick child into this world knowing that I could have done something to prevent it (basically, not staying with my GF). The thing is, it's a 25% chance, but I can just imagine that down the road, if we were to have kids, those pregnancies would be even more stressful for me.
At the same time, I really love my GF and she loves me. We both see us together down the road. We both want kids. I would feel stupid breaking up over a 25% probability. At the same time, we do want 3 kids tops, so the chances go up. If that probability to came true, it would be devastating to me personally.
I feel like I'm in a rut. I know I need to have this conversation with my GF. At the moment, she doesn't seem so bothered by it at all, but it's eating away at me. Should I break up with her now? Are there any other avenues or options to explore? I feel like we might have hit a crossroad, and it's killing me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF and I carry same trait for condition. 25% chance kids will have disease. Would feel guilty if that happened. Breakup over 25%? | GF and I carry same trait for condition. 25% chance kids will have disease. Would feel guilty if that happened. Breakup over 25%? | 5,593 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: So how does your body decide where on your body fat will be burned?
POST: I've wondered this for a long time and am hoping someone with a health background can weigh in... it seems that the areas of your body which at cells get fat are fairly consistent but random, by this I mean you don't get fat from the top down or in some other strange way, it all sort of gets fat at the same rate; I assume this has alot to do with your genetics. So this has me wondering how fat is burned. I assumed for along time that if you walked, you burn fat in your lower body, do sit ups burn fat in your belly etc. But that was always a passing assumption, when I actually thought about it I have no idea.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | You get fat steadily all over your body simultaneously, how does the body decide which area of the body to burn fat from first? | You get fat steadily all over your body simultaneously, how does the body decide which area of the body to burn fat from first? | 2,601 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: an off my chest post ABOUT my chest.
POST: I'm 15 and I have Pectus excavatum,for those of you that don't know what it is it's like having a gap between your pecs A.K.A. the middle of your chest is sunken in and on August the second I'm going with my school AND another school on a 9 day long trip to the beach.I'm not sure if I should be excited or terrified.
A year ago I didn't care because I had a smaller circle of friends and none of them noticed it (or they did but just didn't make a big deal out of it).Now I have a bunch more firends but I also met some assholes that I could see making fun of me.This wouldn't be bad because I have thick skin and I don't get offended easily but that doesn't really work when something is genetic.It's not MY fault i was born like that,so that sucks that I can't defend myself but oh well...
The worst part is my friends that I talked to about the beach were all talking about how they have to atleast bang one chick and I'm here thinking that would be probably impossible considering most of them are in fit shape and I'm...well...me.
Basically,if anyone has been through this situation or has any advice on how I should tackle this please let me know,It would mean a lot to me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have a sunken in chest and I'm going on a trip with 2 schools and I'm terrified of having 9 days of hell over there. | I have a sunken in chest and I'm going on a trip with 2 schools and I'm terrified of having 9 days of hell over there. | 6,117 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I can't get approved for a credit card. How do I build credit?
POST: A little backstory: I'm 27. When I was in my early twenties, I opened a card with a $1,000 limit. Maxed it out and didn't pay it for a few years. I also had a checking account go to collections for being negative too long. Also, stopped attending school and didn't pay my loans for a few years.
Within the last two years, I've paid off everything on my credit report in full, with the exception of my student loans. I've made every loan payment on time for the last two years, (automatic payments) and have about $7,000 left. I bought a car and have made more than the minimum payment and have never been late.
But I still have a low credit score and am wondering how to fix it. I applied for a credit card with Discover and got denied. It says due to outstanding non-payment. I'm worried that there's something on my credit report that I missed, but I don't want to pay another $60 to check all three scores.
Is this just a waiting game, or is there something I can do to build credit in the meantime? TIA
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Messed up my credit, now back on track but still can't get a credit card... How do I fix it? | Messed up my credit, now back on track but still can't get a credit card... How do I fix it? | 4,428 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What is the worst thing a house guest of yours has done?
POST: I'll start.
I should note that I live in a pretty unique setup. I live in the basement of a 3 story house owned by a family friend. The first floor is a communal living space with a kitchen and living room. My friend, his wife, his wife's sister and her fiancé live on the second floor. The third floor is rented out and closed off from the rest of the house.
One thursday night a friend and I decided to go out to the bars and meet up with one of his friends who is in town from grad school. He seemed pretty normal, smart, and friendly, but for some reason (probably a lost bet,) his friend is sporting a [fu manchu] We proceed to get *very* drunk and I decide to grab a cab home at about 4am. His friend is in zombie drunk mode so he hops in my taxi thinking I'm going to a party or something. I let him come along to make sure he doesn't get lost in the city or ends up sleeping in an alley.
When we get back to my apartment, I set him up to sleep on my couch and go to bed myself. I wake up to screaming from upstairs about an hour later. Aparently, this guy who I had met for the first time that night had wandered into the sister and her fiancé's bedroom and stood creepily at the foot of their bed, watching them sleep. When they woke up, he mumbled, "Do you think I'm creepy? I can be way creepier."
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friend of a friend stands at the foot of a housemate's bed and does his best serial killer impression very early in the morning. | Friend of a friend stands at the foot of a housemate's bed and does his best serial killer impression very early in the morning. | 1,059 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Hey r/relationship_advice - first post here, first use of a throwaway account...I've got an awkward situation on my hands, and need your advice!
POST: Hey Relationship_Advice,
So here's the predicament: I've recently been seeing this amazing girl - smart, great body, emotionally stable - she has it all. It's amazing!
We've been dating for a while now, and we've finally progressed into the bedroom phase of the relationship. Here's where it gets...awkward.
One of the first few times we had sex, I was behind her, and I noticed a small bit of, well, crap, still hanging out on her butt. Now, I'm no prude, and we were in the middle of sex, so I honestly didn't care.
Fast forward a week or two - we're going at it again, and as soon as I take off her pants, I *smell* something...but it's the heat of the moment, and so we just go at it, as it were. I won't get into details, but suffice to say she's a squirter, and did her thing. We did it in missionary that night, and it wasn't until the next morning that I noticed a *skid mark* down the middle of my white sheets. D: Ohhhh no.
Fast forward, another few days: Sex again, now I'm worried, I can smell poop, and lo and behold, the next morning, I actually find *crusted shit* on my comforter. :( :(
r/relationship_advice, what do I do? I absolutely adore this girl - her looks, her brain, her calm and cool collected demeanor. What a step up from my ex! BUT - this whole 'my ass isn't clean' thing is **really** getting to me, and I need to know how to break it to her as politely as possible. I'm stuck, and I need your advice!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | New girlfriend doesn't wipe/clean her ass as well as she should, and is oblivious to it. White sheets/comforter post-sex are now proof :( How do I tell her? | New girlfriend doesn't wipe/clean her ass as well as she should, and is oblivious to it. White sheets/comforter post-sex are now proof :( How do I tell her? | 2,669 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hey reddit! Feel like helping a long-time lurker with some inspiration?
POST: As my title said, I'm a long-time lurker at reddit (and especially programming as subreddit) and today I'm actually making my first post a selfish one. Sorry about that.
Nevertheless, I'm a professional programmer (as in; I work as one) and enjoy programming as a craft. I've worked with everything from large-scale game development studios to small-scale consulting firms and the thing that annoys me is that I've completely stopped doing any kind of hobby development. This saddens me. I truly enjoy coding, but I seem to be lacking the inspiration lately (this has been going on for a year or two now).
Inspired by the awesome and intelligent posts here on proggit, I decided to try and ask for help. I'd like to start coding on my spare time again, fighting the good fight.
Can you help me? What I'd like is either personal experiences regarding loss of inspiration (and hopefully how you overcame it) or actual tips on projects that I could start contributing to small-scale. I know this post makes me sound like a lazy douche but I'd really appreciate some help with this. Do you know of (or even manage!) a GitHub/othersocialcodingnetwork project that could use an extra hand, please let me know!
Language, platform or technology are not really barriers but lately I seem to be enjoying work in C++, C# (.NET or Mono), Java or web stuff.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I haven't been coding on my spare time for a few years now and miss it. Please help me get back into the groove by sharing helpful inspirational mantras or directing me to projects that I could start contributing small-scale to. | I haven't been coding on my spare time for a few years now and miss it. Please help me get back into the groove by sharing helpful inspirational mantras or directing me to projects that I could start contributing small-scale to. | 2,318 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [17M] having every girl I end up getting close with, accidentally stolen by my best-friend [17 M]
POST: For the past two years, me and my friend have been close as fuck. We like the same music, we play the same games and we both have similar interests. The main difference is he is the hot, mysterious guy who smokes and I'm his tag-along shadow.
For longer than I can remember, I will start talking to a girl - I will get close to them and start to think something worthwhile is going to come out of it. Then they meet him. It's not his fault, and to be fair to him he doesn't flirt with them or try to steal with them and if he knows I had a thing with them, or I liked them or I dated them has always backed off and told them no.
I don't know what I can do about it, last night at a new years party I had a girl I had been seeing end things with me. I was wondering if she had a reason, and said she just wasn't ready for a relationship and was hoping we could be friends. Today she send my best friend a text saying how much she enjoyed last night, wanted to spend more time with him and implied a sexual interest.
He straight up told me, and apologized/said he wasn't interested in her. But this isn't the first time it's happened, like I said. Girl's love him, and I could have met them that night, been friends with them for months or even been dating them only for them to want him over me upon meeting him.
I don't know what to do, he is a great friend and like a brother to me but I can't help but constantly feel inferior to him whenever I become interested in someone.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My best-friend is better than me, and is having a serious impact on me having any chance with girls I meet. | My best-friend is better than me, and is having a serious impact on me having any chance with girls I meet. | 2,927 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 F] with my best friend [25 M] 3 years, If you're a nervous wreck, is telling someone how you feel about them over text appropriate?
POST: I've liked this same guy for an embarassing amount of time. I've been trying to ask him out, but I get so nervous (in a good way!) around him...plus we both talk a lot so it is hard to get a word in (lol).
We are both very close and are good friends, but I want to be something more. Would it be appropriate to tell him how I feel through a text or private message? Just wondering what opinions others may have about this.
Would you be offended? Would you be doubtful of what the person was telling you? How would you overcome the nerves and tell them in person? Any thoughts/opinions/insights would be very helpful!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I get so nervous it is hard to stay focused on what I want to say. I feel that texting might help, but I am not sure. | I get so nervous it is hard to stay focused on what I want to say. I feel that texting might help, but I am not sure. | 5,554 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: College studen seeking career advice regarding International Business. Is it a good career to major in?
POST: Hi. So i was recently thinking of switching majors to Business and specializing in International Business, and before i do i wanted to get some opinions on the matter. I googled the question online on yahoo answers and i got vague answers on IB being a good/bad major. So if anyone could give me some insight on the matter id appreciate it. If you could answer why IB is or isnt a good career choice. Also if there are any IB majors out there id LOVE to hear where you are now in life and what are some good careers a future IB graduate like myself has out in the world.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | is international business a good major to major in. If so why? Is it easy to find a job as a newly graduated student? Also if there any IB majors out there, explain your experiences as a IB major | is international business a good major to major in. If so why? Is it easy to find a job as a newly graduated student? Also if there any IB majors out there, explain your experiences as a IB major | 357 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (23f) fiance (32m) wants to help support me during college
POST: I'm a full time student and I work part time as a freelance writer. We are engaged and we have a lot of 24/7 BDSM aspects to our relationship (we are kinky fucks, okay?). He has suggested the idea of me stopping working or cutting way back and focusing on school. He will support me during that time and in return I'll get good grades and graduate on time as well as doing all/most chores and cooking (don't mind at all). He also wants me to coupon, and I'm cool with that. I just feel guilty accepting the help. He really seems like he wants to, and his income can definitely allow for this. Together for 11 months. Wedding next fall.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | fiance wants to support me during school. He is sincere an makes more than enough money. I feel guilty accepting. | fiance wants to support me during school. He is sincere an makes more than enough money. I feel guilty accepting. | 1,067 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [21/f] My boyfriend of over 2 years [23/m] who has cheated before still insists on keeping our relationship off of social media? Should I be concerned?
POST: I have caught my boyfriend of two years cheating or displaying shady behavior on more than one occasion, although he swears each time that it is a misunderstanding. He has a specific hangout that he spends a lot of his free time at. And over the past two years, he never takes me there. I know all of his close friends and family, but for some reason it bothers me that he never goes to this one hangout whenever I am with him, but he is there often when I am not with him. There are girls at this hang out, and they all know who I am, but probably do not know that I am still dating my boyfriend. We also do not have each other on Facebook or on instagram. He says he does not want to "broadcast" what is nobody else's business. I know that he truly is a private person, in many different aspects of his life. But it is not okay for me that he has the girl he cheated on me with on Facebook and instagram, and that she probably has no idea that we are still together because on social media we both look completely single. Whenever I have ever brought up the issue about us not being "official" on social media he becomes extremely defensive. I just feel that in order for me to regain trust in our relationship I need everyone to know that we are together.
Is this shady behavior or should I respect his desire for privacy?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend who has cheated before doesn't have me on social media or bring me around certain people. He insists on being private and is generally a very private person. should I be concerned?? | Boyfriend who has cheated before doesn't have me on social media or bring me around certain people. He insists on being private and is generally a very private person. should I be concerned?? | 154 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (M21) and GF (20) of 3 1/2 have what i consider to be a terrible sex life and I'm not happy about it.
POST: When we first started dating, we had a fairly decent sex life, probably having a lot to due with the fact that it was a reconnection after dating for a while and then being apart for a few months.
After about a year things dropped to nothing really quick. We actually went 7 months without any sexual contact (not for my lack of trying)
I got her to talk about it eventually, without any breakthroughs but some intimacy returned occasionally but rarely so I just went with it hoping it would come back gradually.
Fast forward to about a year ago. intimacy was still rare (1, 2, maybe 3 times in a month if i was lucky), but i took a chance and opened up about some rather kinky interests of mine that i wont go into here. She tried to act supportive but never got into them.
Now our sex life is still mediocre at best if im being honest, being about as often as previously stated. When we do have sex, there is no passion on either end; her not being open on what i can do for her to make it better for her and me honestly starting to hate having sex with her because I'm tired of trying. When i try to suggest doing something kinky or anything different (always missionary because that's what she'll do and doggy if I'm lucky), she acts like its the biggest inconvenience ever. Occasionally she'll reluctantly take part in a main fetish of mine but makes it clear the whole time that she hates it and acts very passive aggressive when i try to make the experience better or acknowledge her discomfort and offer to stop.
With the lack of sex and passion I'm left rather unhappy in my situation. All i do recently is picture myself with someone else because of this. I don't want to leave though, I do love her very much, at least i think i still do, but this situation just messes with my head and heart.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Sex life is awful and i want to know how to make things better or if this is it. I love her but im not happy in a relationship with no/terrible intimacy. | Sex life is awful and i want to know how to make things better or if this is it. I love her but im not happy in a relationship with no/terrible intimacy. | 1,324 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend is 13 years older than I am. My parents don't approve and I've been sneaking around to see him. Advice?
POST: Ok, I'm an 18 year old girl. He's 31. I met him at a local restaurant I frequently go to with my mother about 5 months ago. He's the manager there.
He gave me his number and we've been seeing each other ever since. I told my mom about him at first and she said he was very nice, cute and had seen him many times at the restaurant before. When she found out his age however, she immediately disapproved and proceeded to tell my dad. They both came to a consensus that I was not to speak to him because he was too old for me. I was infuriated and told them I was an adult and could speak to or date whomever I please.
After that, there was tension in the house to the point where I decided to move out for a couple of days. Eventually I decided to come back because it was too crazy for me to be living with different friends. When I came back home, my parents told me the only way I could continue living there would be if I stayed away from that guy AND if I couldn't abide by that rule, and decided to leave again, I wouldn't be allowed to take the car they got me. I wanted to act like an adult, I was to be treated like an adult with my own bills, they said. So I agreed.
I still haven't stopped speaking to or seeing him though. I see him as often as I can and am always having to make up the dumbest lies to my parents about where I'm at and who I'm hanging out with. I feel like one of these days, I'm gonna get caught and my boyfriend feels very bad. He feels like he's going to get me in trouble and not only that, wishes we could have a normal relationship. No sneaking around bullshit.
Reddit, should I confess to my parents or wait till I'm more financially stable to move out?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 18 year old girl who's been sneaking around dating a 31 year old man parents don't approve of. They threaten to kick her out if they find out she's dating him. | 18 year old girl who's been sneaking around dating a 31 year old man parents don't approve of. They threaten to kick her out if they find out she's dating him. | 5,588 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description
POST: Hey everyone!
I broke up with my ex approximately one month ago, some 2/3 weeks after I told her I didn´t feel the same for her anymore. I know she loved me, but we were constantly fighting, and after 3 months together, I felt we were to incompatible.
The decision to move on was unanimous, but even knowing we weren´t compatible, not meant to be together and all that, I still had the strongest attachment to her, we were great together, very supportive to eachother, caring and with great chemistry.
I´ve been loyal to the No Contact rule since then, and I usually feel great or absolutely ok and moving on, but knowing about her, having a friend saying he talked to her, knowing that she will be in a particular place in a particular time, I don´t know, she seems to be my fuc*ing kryptonite, I feel sad when something like that happens, and I feel like she´s my weakness.
Because overall I feel ok, I´ve been busy, going out with friends, studying, going to kickboxing, planning my vacations, etc, and as soon as I feel great about myself, the simple knowledge that she talked to a friend of mine, or that she went to a party, or that she is moving on, can really put me down.
Even doing the best for me and even knowing that I feel well most of the times, it seems it´s being hard to really move on. Getting to that state of not giving a fuc* about her or about what she´s doing seems to be a far thing.
Sorry for the long post!! Would be grateful to hear similar stories, and how did you overcame the whole thing.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | One month after breaking up, I feel well and moving on, but knowing about my ex can really put me down again | One month after breaking up, I feel well and moving on, but knowing about my ex can really put me down again | 4,101 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What's your Socially Awkward Penguin moment?
POST: As I was walking to work today, I see a seedy looking character holding a bag running towards me. Roughly 15 meters behind him there was a lady chasing him.
I immediately assumed the bag he was holding was the woman's purse and he was robbing her. Thinking quickly, I attempted a Good Guy Greg and went to stop the guy as he ran past me. However, my best intentions were all for naught, as he completely knocked me over.
Instead of him trying to keep on running, he started yelling at me and repeated that 'he should punch my face in'. Turns out, he was actually running to stop the bus and that the lady behind him was his wife.
I apologized, (still lying on the ground) and got up and went to work. haven't told anyone in person because I'm too embarrassed because I was an idiot, and because I almost got beaten up.
Anyone else have any Socially Awkward Penguin stories?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Tried to stop a running man from stealing a lady's purse. He was running for the buss with his wife and I almost got into a fight. | Tried to stop a running man from stealing a lady's purse. He was running for the buss with his wife and I almost got into a fight. | 1,536 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [30/M] always have a bit of trouble sealing the deal: transitioning from flirty talk and clear signals of interest to actually doing something about it
POST: Let's limit my question to parties where there are a bunch of folks who at least all share the host(ess) in common (as opposed to bars). I have no problem connecting with strangers in this type of situation and love to engage people and talk.
Occasionally, I'll click really well with someone. We'll have had a great conversation, a lot of flirting, and there's clearly some interest. But when it comes time to actually ask the person out/suggest they come home with me, I freeze up and end in a, "Welp! Great talking to you!"
I find this applies both to potential casual hookups and potential dates. Though there is more pressure if it's a potential hookup.
I feel like there is never a good time to ask either question. I feel like everyone around us is watching me and listening in, waiting to hear me ask this person this question and either ready to laugh or shake their heads in solemn shame.
This happened twice this weekend. Saturday party, met a fantastic woman, but could not bring myself to ask her out (though, she is the sister of a friend, so that added a bit of pressure to it). Then, Sunday BBQ at my own apartment, cute girl shows up, is clearly into the idea of maybe sticking around until morning (the hints were not very subtle, and I was totally into the idea), but I just can't make it happen because she's my roommate's girlfriend's friend, and I feel like they'll get all judgy. Even though they'd probably encourage it in the end.
I met my last girlfriend at a party in this sort of situation, but could not bring myself to ask her out in front of people, and instead found her and messaged her on Facebook (which she was surprisingly ok with). I'd like to not have to do that again and just ask someone out like a normal person.
Again, I generally have no social anxieties and can hold myself in a crowd of strangers. But this triggers some sort of fear in me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How can I get over this perception that I'm being watched and judged every time I try to ask a girl out/over? This strikes more fear in me than actually being rejected by the person, honestly. | How can I get over this perception that I'm being watched and judged every time I try to ask a girl out/over? This strikes more fear in me than actually being rejected by the person, honestly. | 1,482 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 F] feel like cheating on my current BF [22 ] of 2 years and I'm feeling conflicted.
POST: before everyone starts judging me and hating on me please help me. I don't want to hurt his feelings, I love him very much and I see myself spending the rest of my life with him.
There is only one problem, he is the only man I've ever been with. I was a virgin when I met him and he is the only person who has ever fuked me (he is pretty good). I just can't help and wonder sometimes what other men are like? Did I fully experience my own sexuality ? Is there more to pleasure and all those mind blowing orgasms? In fact, I orgasm in my sleep thinking of other women and men...
I sort of hinted a threesome with a girl and a guy but he does not want any threesomes whatsoever! Also, he is not into sex as much I am, sometimes it seems to me that he'd rather masturbate than have me. What do I do ? I feel like I'm slowly losing my sexual attraction towards him...all these feelings combined make me want to secretly get a sexual partner to satisfy my need but of course continue dating him. I know this sounds terrible, I just love him so much and I don't know how to approach this issue since I don't want to hurt his feelings and I need my sexual desires satisfied. He makes me feel unwanted and unattractive (im pretty decent looking tho ;) ) . In addition to that, I want to see what other men are like in bed, I'm very curious... And no porn doesn't cut it, I wants real life actions
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Curious about other men's dicks tha I'd like to fuk but I have a bf whom I love and I can't risk losing him. Please help! | Curious about other men's dicks tha I'd like to fuk but I have a bf whom I love and I can't risk losing him. Please help! | 5,908 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: How long is too long?
POST: I (26m) am dating a (31f). We've been seeing each other for about two months now. It's clear, at least to me that we like one another and I've told her I want to move on to the next level and be in a relationship with her. Shw tells me that she's still not sure. One reason being that she wants a man who's ready to settle and succesful etc etc. I tell her that i understand and that for me its only a matter of time before i get to that part of life. We act like a couple. Do things couples do. Yet we arent an official couple...just exclusively dating. Im beginning to feel that this may be a wild goose chase. What are your thoughts? What would you do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | been dating this woman for 2 months now and she keeps telling me she's not sure where she wants to go with this? How long is too long? | been dating this woman for 2 months now and she keeps telling me she's not sure where she wants to go with this? How long is too long? | 2,333 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: To ignore
POST: Today I realize something, I am ignored almost all the time, specially by women. It is not something new, I knew that, you talk to someone, and you never get an answer, or she only answer with monosyllable until you stop by boring. But as I told you, this is not the one thing I discover today.
I guess than from their perspective is something like that: He only wants to fuck me, I am not interested in him, I have better candidates (I am not perfect as most of us, in my case I am not ugly but I need to lose 12kg) and I don't need a new friend so better to ignore him.
As I really hate being ignored, without realizing, I completely stop to talk to girls, and in the last 5 month I almost hadn't talked to anyone.
And this happen, a girl surprisingly makes up her mind to talk to me without any apparent reason, except that automatically I have assumed (as they assume men wanna fuck to every women they talk) that she is going to ask me something. Unconsciously I began to answer using only monosyllables and after 3 minutes she was asking something to me.
I reject it, she was a little surprised I didn't accepted and after she insisted one more time I have answered that she wasn't interested really in how I am, or what I am doing right now, that she hasn't talked to me in months and that I have better things to do that spend my time helping someone that has ignored me all the time.
She didn't know how to answer and I left so,
TL;DR: . Assistant: | You can ignore girls than only talk to you because she want the **F** *(avour)*. And katorce recommends you to do so. | You can ignore girls than only talk to you because she want the **F** *(avour)*. And katorce recommends you to do so. | 6,090 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I[26F], a person in a poly situation, navigate this ridiculous jealousy I feel over my girlfriend [29F] regularly hanging out with her recent ex?
POST: So. Background. I'm [26F] married to a dude [26M]. Been in this second relationship with my girlfriend [29F] for 3 months. I met her days before her most recent ex dumped her. We started 'dealing', as the kids say (...do the kids still say that?) right after. So far, (supposedly) she's only been dating me, but it's an open relationship, so that door is open if she finds someone else to start things with.
Crazy, emotionally abusive ex wants her back. Gf lies about staying over at her ex's house last month....where the ex makes a move and kisses her..... They hang out about once a week since. Each time they hang, the ex tries to get her back and/or asks her for sex and/or tells her she's sure that they would be back together if I wasn't in the picture. Gf insists that she just wants to be friends, is maintaining boundaries, and is just trying to help her ex through a hard time........
I feel like because this is a poly thing that I'm not allowed to be jealous. But...she lied about staying over there. When we got together, I asked her repeatedly if she wanted more time to figure things out with her ex. Offered space. Offered time. Even offered for her to see both of us at the same time. She said she wanted me, only me. So. To me, this ex was the one person in the free world she said she wasn't going to date. She knows how I feel about all of this.
So, Internet, I'm turning to you since I have no unbiased perspectives in my life? Am I a dumb fuck who needs to end this? Am I supposed to get over my jealousy? If so, HOW? If I stick it out and let her figure out what she wants...how long do I wait?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriend won't stop hanging with her ex. Feel guilty for being jealous because this is an open poly thing (aka, I'm the married one). | girlfriend won't stop hanging with her ex. Feel guilty for being jealous because this is an open poly thing (aka, I'm the married one). | 5,997 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: when looking at websites who offer "high income, part time, work from home" kinda stuff, how can I tell if its legit?
POST: Ive been looking for jobs today, and i found this one, that is particularly interesting for me. that being said, they have sent me an email after i sent them my resume, and in the "job description" area, it says;
Work plan
1. our customer/buyer from your region make a payment to your account
2. withdraw money from your account and send it to our customer service office
3. make financial statement on payment
4. receive 5% for every transaction immediately + $1600 per month. (you will get an 800$ every two weeks after the first transaction. the salary will be sent to you via bank account) plus 5% of each payment processing operation. you will receive this percentage every day after payment reception. you will receive 5% from every transaction. you will receive transfers from $500 to $3000 (an average of 3-5 transfers a week.)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | i think the company is a fake, and there is some kind of hidden scam that i am not savvy to, ideas? | i think the company is a fake, and there is some kind of hidden scam that i am not savvy to, ideas? | 3,078 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: [25m] How to know how intimate you two are atm (casual, close, dating, ...)
POST: I've made some significant progress when it comes to social interaction (partially due to this subreddit - thanks!), but I think a lot of my mistakes right now are due to not knowing whether she likes me or not, if so how much she likes me. If she see's me as a friendly stranger, as a casual friend, as a close friend etc.
This is also relevant since for the first time I have a number of female friends and don't want to put them off by being clingy.
So I'm wondering if there are any tips/literature on how to assess this better.
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TL;DR: . Assistant: | ] How do I know if she see's me as a friendly stranger, casual friend, a close friend or a potential date? | ] How do I know if she see's me as a friendly stranger, casual friend, a close friend or a potential date? | 2,949 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [19m] Roommate's [20m] laziness is driving me mad.
POST: About 1.5 years ago I bought myself a house and lived there mostly alone. About 6 months ago one of my good friends left his job in his town about 6 hours away and expressed interest in renting one of my rooms. Although he had no work he had quite a lot of savings and planned on getting a new job down in my city within the first month.
That was in January, it's now July and he very barely looks for work anymore and even worse does little to no house work. He doesn't cook or clean and I am starting to get fed up with cooking and cleaning for a fully grown adult.
The problem is that after 6 months of bills and rent his savings have run to a very minuscule amount, so much so that he can't afford to pay for bills or rent anymore. Being as he is still my best friend I have let him stay for free with the condition that he looks harder for work and cleans up a bit more around the house. That was a week ago now and I have still had too cook every night and spend my days off from my full time job cleaning.
I don't want too have to kick him out. What can I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | = Roommate can't afford to pay rent anymore and does no housework, how can I kick him into gear? | = Roommate can't afford to pay rent anymore and does no housework, how can I kick him into gear? | 4,056 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [19/F] I've outgrown my boyfriend [21/M] and I don't know how to break it to him.
POST: We've been together 3 1/2 years. I'm away at college. He lives with my parents and just got a job (his parents are bad at being people). I feel like...
1) long distance sucks, its keeping me from meeting new people
2) I'm going away for the summer for an internship
3) I feel like we are not on the same level intellectually and this is probably the biggest problem for me, i hate to say.
I've been thinking about this for awhile and I don't know when the right time to tell him would be. I'm coming home for one weekend before going away for the whole summer. Questions I need answered by someone who cares:
1. do I spend the whole day with him like everything is fine and wait till the end of the day or do I tell him right off the bat?
2. what if he wants to have sex?
my mom is telling me to do what I want basically with out him knowing as a "kindness to him" while he gets his shit together to move out of my parents' house and not break up with him. I don't think this is right. He'll still be welcome there till the end of the summer whether or not I break up with him. He has no where else to go and my parents know that.
This is eating away at me. :(
TL;DR: . Assistant: | want to break off long distance relationship with bf that lives with MY parents while I am away at college. when/how? | want to break off long distance relationship with bf that lives with MY parents while I am away at college. when/how? | 4,719 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [17/M] like a [16/F], she is unsure she can handle a relationship. What should I do?
POST: :Beware this is a WALL of text:
So, I have been flirting and hanging out with a girl for quite sometime now (about 2 months). We talk all the time and never run out of things to do. We've also been on a few dates and had what I thought to have been a great time for both of us.
It is also well known by all our friends that we both like each other and just aren't in a relationship yet.
Now here's where I need your help: she sent me a text a few days ago explaining how she doesn't think she can handle a relationship between all the things she does in her life, she is in a local circus, an actor for a Shakespeare Troop, an extremely good student, and is in the Chamber Orchestra for our school. She just doesn't think that she could be in a relationship at the same time. Not that she doesn't like me because she does, she just has a bit much on her plate.
I answered back being all understanding and "it's ok" because I wasn't very sure what to say it all came as quite the shock.
Should I try and do something about this, should I do anything? Or is this a lost cause?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl likes me, I like her. But she is unsure If she can handle a relationship with all the other things she does in life, what should I do? | Girl likes me, I like her. But she is unsure If she can handle a relationship with all the other things she does in life, what should I do? | 5,410 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Crazy ex? [NSFW]
POST: Share your love/dating-stories of pure bullshitery. I'll start.
Out on a date. After we've been to the movies, we hung out at a party, drank a little bit (I got a little tipsy, but she didn't). We go back to my place, and lay down on the couch. She's REALLY horny, and we start getting intimate. I start rubbing her tits and inner tighs, working my way down her pants, and undressing us. She climbs on top of me, and we start making out, still undressing.
Suddenly, she flips the fuck out. She screams at me for not stopping her, and "broke up" with me, whatever relationship we ever had. We had an argument for about an hour, which she just kept telling me I was "using her". 10 minutes after she left, she told me not to take anything she said seriously. What the FUCK.
She apologized, and told me she still wanted us to be friends.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | ex climbed on top of me, and as I was about to put my dick in her, she flipped out, and told me I was using her. We NEVER spoke again. | ex climbed on top of me, and as I was about to put my dick in her, she flipped out, and told me I was using her. We NEVER spoke again. | 2,365 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Dogtraining
TITLE: My dog thinks I should be up at the crack of dawn
POST: I am a recurring problem-haver, it seems. My dog (whose previous issue was ankle-biting) is a 2 or 3 year old lab/basset hound cross. She was adopted from a shelter and has some separation anxiety issues (which we are dealing with), and is generally very very needy.
The trouble I am coming across in recent weeks is this: She sleeps in the bedroom, as she will NEVER be in a different room from me by choice, in her crate beside the bed. (Not closed in; that is just where she likes to sleep.) As soon as it is even sort of light outside, she begins pacing around the bed and whining incessantly.
At first I stuck with ignoring her and waiting for her to settle down and then giving her some attention (I didn't have any treats on hand, though maybe keeping some on the nightstand is not a bad plan). The trouble with that method is that she never actually settles down. She just gets increasingly louder until it reaches the point where she is flat out barking and howling.
I am concerned about this because when I do finally get up (as I have no choice but to do), I am probably indicating to her that whining and barking is the way to get someone out of bed. I know it is not a case of having to go outside, as she calms down immediately when someone gets up.
I am at a loss about the cause of this and how to fix it. Any insight would be much appreciated!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Dog whines like crazy at dawn and just gets louder when I ignore her. I have to get up, but I think this encourages her to whine. Suggestions? | Dog whines like crazy at dawn and just gets louder when I ignore her. I have to get up, but I think this encourages her to whine. Suggestions? | 5,243 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by taking my ten year old son and his two friends to see porn.
POST: Okay so this actually happened five years ago and it was my mom who screwed up, but I'm telling the story.
When Piranha 3D came out my two friends and I pestered my mom to go see the movie. She watched the trailer and found it acceptable.
So we go to the theaters and my friends and I run to the theater entrance where a security guard stops us from entering. My mother eventually catches up and is told this is a rated R movie. She says it's fine and we enter. Due to the trailers, she and my friends and I thought it was just a new Jaws. Just blood and gore.
Little did she know, the movie was full of nude ladies and a very very explicit lesbian scene. At this point she was embarrassed as heck. The security guard and all the others in the theater must have thought of her as a horrible mother.
We leave the theater and my mom rushes us to the car as fast as we can. She bribes my friends into not telling their parents by buying us all McDonald's.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My mom took me and my two friends to see Piranha 3D because she didn't know about the countless nude scenes. | My mom took me and my two friends to see Piranha 3D because she didn't know about the countless nude scenes. | 2,507 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Something happened at work. What should I do?
POST: I work for a retail of a major corporation. I really like my job, and I take the job, my store and my fellow teammates needs seriously. We had a pretty fabulous boss, but he was supplanted by a younger, Hispanic AGM from another, local store. I think the plan was to diversify, ethnically, in an otherwise rural community. To my point..the first or second day of my new manager's first day, a customer to whom I frequently deliver put his hands on me in a way that really made me feel horrified. When I returned to the store, the client in question was waiting on hold to ask for my phone number. I told my new boss. He casually took the name/details and let me know I wouldn't deliver to that location anymore. He also urged me to keep the incident to myself. I was willing to shake it. I mean, I've definitely dealt with bigger violations in my life. Only, a few days later he made a remark that..I don't know, you judge. It was really cold this winter and I frequently wore this big, fuzzy hat from Alaska. I moved to my current location from Houston, TX; so I was inclined to bundle as best I could this winter. Anyway, I was gearing up to make a run when the new boss announced, "You know, you complain about all the attention you get from men, then you wear that hat." I feel violated. My hat does not have a sign that says "feel free to put your hands on my body."
TL;DR: . Assistant: | corporate lvl client touched me inappropriately. Was willing to let it go because the boss was new. New boss, later, suggested that I somehow asked for it. | corporate lvl client touched me inappropriately. Was willing to let it go because the boss was new. New boss, later, suggested that I somehow asked for it. | 4,201 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Going on a date in an hour.. Super nervous need help
POST: I got out of a bad relationship two months ago that lasted almost a year. I haven't been on a first date for over a year.. I met this girl on Tinder and made it clear I wasn't looking to just hook up. We've been talking and share a lot in common, down to the fact we both smoke pot and love cartoons from the 90's. I've been pretty smooth on the phone but in real life I'm very shy. I think I've gotten a little less shy since I got out of my last relationship, but I really wanna wow this girl. We're going to see the new Fast and Furious movie. We're both passive people, as I'm very shy and nice and she seems to be just like me in that she doesn't like to be the one making decisions. I don't like making decisions either, but I made the decision of when and what movie to see. What should I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | going on a date, haven't been on one in a year. What should I do? I'm super nervous for reference I'm 22 and she's 23. | going on a date, haven't been on one in a year. What should I do? I'm super nervous for reference I'm 22 and she's 23. | 674 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My father [M75] let my dog run away and I'm [F22] pissed. How do I repair things?
POST: I just graduated from college and decided to celebrate by adopting a dog. He's a tiny Pomeranian mix who is extremely quiet and well-behaved. I've been spending a lot of time taking him on long walks, enrolling him in obedience classes, and overall bonding with him as much as possible.
My dad wants nothing to do with my boy and is instead focused on our other two dogs. That's fine with me, since I can handle the responsibility. Until... Today.
My dog is normally glued to my side and today was no exception. He was lying at my feet when I was busy working in the dining roon. My dad was making some noise by the front door and he jumped up to go see.
Well, my dad swung the door wide open and my baby ran outside. Rather than chasing him or calling him, my dad finished what he was doing and then came over to me. Our conversation went kinda like this-
Him- *"Oh by the way, your dog ran away."*
Me- *"Wait, WHAT? How did he get outside?"*
Him- *"I opened the door and he ran out. You're responsible for controlling your dog."*
Me- *"He was lying right next to me! Where did he go?"*
Him- *"I don't know, across the street, I think. He's your responsibility, not mine!"*
Long story short, I rushed outside and our neighbor was petting him across the street. Nothing bad happened, but it could've. We live on a busy street and it's not a safe environment for a loose dog.
I recognize that I should be watching him at all times, but I'm only human and it's inevitavle I'll get distracted. In the meantime, I feel like my family should be looking out for him to make sure he doesn't get hurt. I do all the feeding, walking, grooming, training and so forth, and I work from home so he's always with me. How do I set boundaries with my dad to ensure that my pet is safe?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My dad wants nothing to do with my dog and let him run out into the street today. How do I explain that even though the dog is my responsibility, he should care about his well-being to some degree? | My dad wants nothing to do with my dog and let him run out into the street today. How do I explain that even though the dog is my responsibility, he should care about his well-being to some degree? | 5,553 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my girlfriend[20F] of 1+ years; she doesn't know what she wants sexually and its hurting our sex life
POST: I'm just gonna come quick and say it. I come quickly during sex.
Because of this I am much more open and giving in sex in terms of oral and fingering. Unfortunately, my gf isn't too fond letting me do oral or fingering because she's never had a partner whose been good at it. I've done it once or twice to her but because it wasn't perfect she isn't too keen to try again.
This leads to minimal foreplay and short sex. She loves nipple play which I usually start off with. But obviously she doesn't get wet enough from only nipple play so when it comes down to actual sex, its sometimes painful for her. (and when its not I come quickly.)
She doesn't like tongue kissing either so make out sessions don't really work for turning her on. Her sex drive has always been low (2-3 times a month at best) but she hasn't been wet enough recently so everytime we try, its too painful for her to continue.
When I ask her what she likes sexually or what I can do to her that she would like, she always says she doesn't know. I've suggested toys, (she refuses), i've even suggested eating her ass, (she smiles at the thought, but still refuses)
Some extra things about us:
She has never had an orgasm from any of her partners or me.
She's the first girl i've been with so i'm a bit inexperienced.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend won't let me do the common foreplay things and she is obviously sexually frustated. Please give tips/advice | My girlfriend won't let me do the common foreplay things and she is obviously sexually frustated. Please give tips/advice | 4,139 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Me(18M) and My girlfriend (18f) want to get back together after we broke up, but there is a problem.
POST: So my girlfriend and I broke up about 2 weeks ago, but we haven't stopped talking since then. She told me she wanted to be a "thing" which wasn't too serious at all, but meant we would try and only want each other. She goes on vacation to the beach where many of our friends, including my best friend is there. I tell her I can't be just a thing with her because I want more. So the next day she gets drunk and tries to hookup with my bestfriend, he declines thankfully. She calls me about 45 minutes after it happens asking to get back together and then telling me what happened. I blew up on her, and was completely outraged. Then later in the night after a long fight of freaking out on her, I couldn't fight the feeling I still wanted her. Should I forgive her and try to work things out? Let me add she and all her friends said she missed me so much and wanted me back. My best friend was talking to her about our relationship for me, and that's when she asked him from being drunk and her excuse of "missing me" is why she did this. Should I tell her to fuck herself, or keep our love strong?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Gf and I breakup, few weeks later drunkenly tries to hookup with my best friend then instantly calls me wanting me back after. | Gf and I breakup, few weeks later drunkenly tries to hookup with my best friend then instantly calls me wanting me back after. | 1,532 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[20M] broke up with my [21F] girlfriend 2 months ago and I still can't get it out of my head.
POST: We were dating for 1 and a half years and both go to the same school. Things were going really great, but, like in all relationships, that spark had seemed to settle down. Things were really comfortable, don't get me wrong. But I felt like I was missing out. I decided to break up with her. I really didn't have a great reason to do so except for the fact that I wanted to try out the single life again.
Hanging out with her was always fun, but sometimes I was genuinely bored to be around her. We were very open about our feelings and would always let each other know when/why the other was feeling down, so the communication was there. But sometimes the conversations were just the same repeated stuff over and over and over again. I tried to expand on them, but it just seemed to go back to the same boring conversations.
All in all, I felt like being single again and stepping away from the comfort zone. She was very devastated by it and I could barely take it as well. After the initial breakup, it did feel like I had a huge relief lifted off of me, as I had been considering it for about a month or so. A few days later, I was ridiculously upset, but not sure if it was because I had lost HER or lost the RELATIONSHIP.
I deleted myself off of Facebook for awhile, and she did the same. I saw her again today since I reactivated my account and fucking lost my mind and broke down in tears. I feel like an idiot. I really loved this girl and now I feel like I lost her for no fucking reason.
During the course of the breakup, I texted her twice to see how she was doing (I know I broke NC) and I got no response. I understood, but it still hurt.
I feel like I don't deserve to be hurt since I was the one that initiated the breakup.
I'm sorry if this is very vague and scatter minded, I'm just looking someplace to vent and maybe get some good advice on how to get the fuck over it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I feel like shit for breaking up with my gf of 1.5 years for no really good reason. Saw her picture again today after keeping relatively no contact for two months and I lost my shit and began sobbing. | I feel like shit for breaking up with my gf of 1.5 years for no really good reason. Saw her picture again today after keeping relatively no contact for two months and I lost my shit and began sobbing. | 4,658 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: PSA: Endomorphs, ectomorphs, and mesomorphs are not real
POST: In the general weight loss and fitness community, I frequently hear these terms casually thrown around to explain one's ability to lose/gain/maintain weight at a certain rate. From my tattoo artist who is now a competitive bodybuilder to my SO when we started this journey, it has been a consistent cause of frustration for me, as these terms- as well as constitutional psychology in general- has been discredited for years.
Constitutional psychology was developed by a psychologist named William Herbert Sheldon in the 1940's. He asserted that the human body could be split up into three "somatotypes"- the endomorph, ectomorph, and mesomorph. He wrote a book on the topic in the 50's called *Atlas of Men*. Each somatotype was characterized as representing a different temperament, level of intelligence, and overall value. It had/has foundations in racism and antisemitism.
The three types were described as follows (from Wikipedia):
Ectomorphic: characterized as linear, thin, fragile, lightly muscled, flat chested and delicate; described as cerebrotonic inclined to desire isolation, solitude and concealment; and being tense, anxious, restrained in posture and movement, introverted and secretive.
Mesomorphic: characterized as hard, rugged, rectangular, athletically built with well developed muscles, thick skin and good posture; described as somatotonic inclined towards physical adventure and risk taking; and being vigorous, courageous, direct and dominant.
Endomorphic: characterized as round and soft with under-developed muscles and having difficulty losing weight; described as viscerotonic enjoying food, people and affection; having slow reactions; and being disposed to complacency.
I just wanted everyone to recognize that though it would be very convenient to have this wonderful defiance of the laws of thermodynamics to excuse the inability or lack of desire to lose weight, they have long since been disproven and to use these terms is intellectually dishonest. Barring other physical disabilities, your body type does NOT determine your ability to lose or gain weight at a relatively normal pace.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Constitutional psychology has been discredited as a serious scientific theory. With a background in eugenics, mesomorphs, endomorphs and ectomorphs as terms can be damaging in one's ability to achieve their weight loss goals. | Constitutional psychology has been discredited as a serious scientific theory. With a background in eugenics, mesomorphs, endomorphs and ectomorphs as terms can be damaging in one's ability to achieve their weight loss goals. | 428 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [Dating] Me [21 M] with my crush [18 F], Should I ask her out, again?
POST: I asked this girl who I work with out on a date; it was only a simple coffee/drink date and happily she said yes. But that arrangement never happened as she was busy, so I thought I would plan in advance and ask her on Facebook. I asked her on Facebook after having a nice chat but she ignored my message about the coffee date, so I didn't want to be annoying any more so I just stopped asking after that.
But I went out out last night and a couple of people who we were hanging around with noticed she might be interested in me, and told me to buy her a drink. But sadly they told me this when I was leaving so I never got the chance to buy her a drink and confront her again.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Asked a girl out she said yes nothing happened. Asked her again she ignored me. Went out last night, people think she likes me. | Asked a girl out she said yes nothing happened. Asked her again she ignored me. Went out last night, people think she likes me. | 4,027 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21 M] can't seem to get over an event in my gf's [22 F] past.
POST: My roommates, gf included, were talking about our past and she wasn't saying much (she didn't cause as much trouble as her bff, bff's fiance, and I had). But, one sex-story she did tell hit me hard.
She hooked up with a guy twice, once in a hotel, once at his place. At his place, he had been drinking a bit and wanted to try anal. She didn't want to but he played the "you don't know until you try it"-card. After he started, she said she felt sick and he said, "I've already started, I can't stop." And he finished a minute or so later.
It didn't bother me that she hooked up with a guy, I thought it was cool/out of the ordinary for her. The part that hit hard was that he forced her into something she felt she couldn't avoid.
She isn't traumatized over it, she just said that she was sore for a couple days, but I can't get over that it happened.
Other stuff: We've dated for 9 months now, the event occurred last May. She knows it hit me hard and we've talked about it.
Any advice?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Gf of 9 months was forced to have anal by drunk hookup before we met; can't stop thinking about it and it hurts to think about it. | Gf of 9 months was forced to have anal by drunk hookup before we met; can't stop thinking about it and it hurts to think about it. | 2,595 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Where can I get low-cost, cheap or even a free coat or good sweater for winter in NYC?
POST: If your in the city today you can kinda feel the cold coming on...I for alot of reasons, don't have a coat or a good sweater, or lots of clothes period. I live by myself, well in my grandma's house but she is out till January, visiting different places, most recently costa rica, with her old lady friends. I have no job, only job I have held was a 5 month internship at a company that gets grants to set up afterschool programs for schools with a high risk drop out rate, like the 11212 zip code, and that looks good in a resume but in this are most jobs don't look at that. But there are none. I have no one to ask because well my mother lives off, $670, and that has to cover rent, phone bill, and a month of food. My dad got deported early this year, for apparently smuggling illegal immigrants, who I found out he's been letting them use my SS. Anyway most of my money these days I save up to pay for college applications because I can't get fee waivers from my school, cause im not enrolled, and it's also my top priority, because of the support I have from my old principals, not to mention my own goals (I graduated late for alot of reasons, by late I mean last August).
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Life isn't making finding a job in my area easy, no money, it's cold, need a place to find a low-cost, or free coat or sweaters, in NYC. | Life isn't making finding a job in my area easy, no money, it's cold, need a place to find a low-cost, or free coat or sweaters, in NYC. | 2,075 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21F] with my boyfriend [22 M] duration, short-description
POST: My boyfriend (22m) and I (21f) recently broke up from a 3 year relationship because he said he did not see a future and was scared to commit. We love each other and love being around each other but I am scared of being with someone who in the end might not want anything serious from me, which I am ready for. Everyone says I need space, and I know i do but it is so hard to stay away. It wouldve been easier if one of us lost feeling or didnt care, but both of us dont. I make it seem a lot like I want to be with him, but its so hard to feel insecure in such a relationship where you devote all your energy, love and time. We also happen to see each other often because we work within one block of each other in the city. Seeing how everyone I know gives me some biast answer I need the criticism of you fellow redditors. Do I end things completely ( because I too feel like I am leading him on by feeling so happy when I see him) since I do not think we can last with any insecurities or do I give it one more chance and see what happens?? I would appreciate anything anyone sends my way.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My ex and I love spending time together but I had to let him go because he doesnt want to commit, but I cannot stay away. Should I stay away for good or give it another chance if he says he will change?? | My ex and I love spending time together but I had to let him go because he doesnt want to commit, but I cannot stay away. Should I stay away for good or give it another chance if he says he will change?? | 2,310 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [25M] broke up with my first GF [21] of a year, and am a dating neophyte
POST: Hey reddit,
So I broke up with my GF recently. She dumped me (not a blowup, but more of I stopped paying attention), but then couldn't leave me alone, and still wanted me in her life some way. I didn't know what I really wanted, and did not feel like doing the same. Bottom line is we are finally going to be no contact, and she does not want me in her life now she says.
She was my first love and GF, and I was pretty miserable relationship wise before her. I had never really dated, been intimate, or even had sex before her. I learned so much with her about who I am, and what goes into being with another person.
Now with us over (at least for the near term), I am realizing it won't be so simple to get over her. I miss a lot about her, but definitely believe splitting would be good for both us for personal growth.
I have had some girls come onto me since we broke up, and realize that finding someone else can be hard, which is why so many people run back to what they know. I have never really been into dating, but am social enough in casual situations to feel comfortable. I don't use online sites or anything, nor do I want to as I still think digital dating/hookups are kind of weird. How did anyone here deal with meeting someone else/dating after their first breakup? And did you wait a while before trying to get close to someone else?
I believe in the when you stop looking you'll find it philosophy, but know you still have to have your eyes open so to speak.
Any input is helpful, especially from a woman's perspective!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Broke up with my GF, and am now back to the old position of being single and not having done much dating aside from her. Not sure how to go about it. | Broke up with my GF, and am now back to the old position of being single and not having done much dating aside from her. Not sure how to go about it. | 833 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [15m] can't stop touching my friend/gf's [15f] thighs, she tells me to stop but I just can't, and I hate myself for it.
POST: I am in a bit of a dodgy situation with my friend. We both like each other as more than friends, but we are too bogged down in school work to start dating.
She keeps on telling me to stop touching her thighs so much, even when we are alone. I seem to have this constant urge to touch her, not just stroke her thighs, but even just have my hand on them.
Although constantly touching her makes me seem, I don't think materialistic is the right word, but that I only want to be with her for her body. This is not the case.
I don't know why I have always touch her thighs, but I think it has something to do with the fact I am really bad at hugging. Whenever I hug her it just feels really awkward and bad, but I still like physically connecting to her.
I feel really bad because I can't seem to stop touching her, even subconsciously. Due to a lack of sleep, one math lesson I was half asleep, my eyes were open, but nothing was clicking in my brain. I was woken by her nudging me a few times and asking me what I was doing, because as it turns out I was stroking her thigh.
To try and stop myself from doing this, I went for a week without touching her in any way. All this did was make me feel really detached from her. I really feel like she is starting to think I only like her for her body, and is starting to like me less because of it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I can't stop touching her thighs, she is starting to like me less because of it, but I just can't seem to stop. | I can't stop touching her thighs, she is starting to like me less because of it, but I just can't seem to stop. | 4,584 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My (19/f) girlfriend's sex drive dropped off a cliff, and I (25/m) didn't notice
POST: This is probably the most difficult thing I've ever asked, but my mind is in pieces here.
My girlfriend frequently goes away for long periods at a time, but it's amazing when we're together.
The last time she came to visit, we had sex (as we often do). Only this time, she had the strangest look on her face. I couldn't place what it meant: it was honestly like no face I've ever seen her make before. I didn't think anything of it at the time: we were locked in embrace and she seemed as eager as me. She's always been so assertive, the kind of person who'd tell me to fuck off if she didn't want it.
About half an hour into things I hear her say in the quietest, barely audible voice, "leave me alone".
Shocked, I blurt out "what???". And she quickly replied "nothing!", but I knew what I'd heard. I stopped immediately, and we cuddled, I asked if everything was ok, and she said it was.
But then afterwards I started noticing things she's posted online, mentioning or joking about her feeling 'frigid' and uninterested in sex. I started to realise she hasn't been into sex for a long time, which has me taken aback since when we first got together she had a higher sex drive than anyone I knew. In the time we were apart she's lost all interest in sex.
I would never have had sex with her if she told me she didn't want it. I'm pretty clear that she consented as she was pulling off my clothes, pulling our bodies close together, kissing and groping my body.
When she later withdrew consent I stopped, but my head's still spinning about this. I paid her petrol money to come visit (she was broke): did she think that she owed me? Was she afraid of hurting my feelings?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | ? I just realised my girlfriend's sex drive has dropped off a cliff in recent months, and now worry she felt pressured into sex she didn't want. | ? I just realised my girlfriend's sex drive has dropped off a cliff in recent months, and now worry she felt pressured into sex she didn't want. | 1,950 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: About to start my second year teaching
POST: I am about to start my second year of teaching English I and II at a "B" rated school. My administration is wonderful, but teaching multiple preps and co-sponsoring color guard, creative writing club, and being on a positive behavior committee means my hours are closer to 80 hours a week than the 35 I spend actually teaching. Not to mention, a vast majority of the kids I teach do not want to be at school (and are unwilling to learn, no matter how "interesting" I make my lessons) and will probably drop out in the next couple of years.
I spent four years in college knowing this is what I wanted to do with my life. I had a great experience student teaching, but going into my second year, I cry almost daily when I think of having to go back to school.
My husband has been very supportive and says that he thinks I should consider quitting, but I feel like since I've signed a contract for this year, I am committed to teaching for at least another year.
I am not sure if this is not good for my mental health, but I don't feel like I can abandon my administration, who has done nothing but support me.
What should I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | teaching is not what I expected it to be, I am dreading starting my second year, and I am considering quitting. | teaching is not what I expected it to be, I am dreading starting my second year, and I am considering quitting. | 5,799 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22 M] just found out that my GF [23 F] slept with my best friend way before we were together. They've been completely honest with me about it, but I'm still finding the situation really weird? Any advice?
POST: I [22 M] just found out that my GF [23 F] slept with my best friend way before we were together.
This is going to completely sound like a plot from a movie or something but its completely true.
My best friend from school came round for new year and was going to meet my new girlfriend for the first, whom I've been going out with for about 6 weeks. I showed him a picture of her when he got here and he went "Oh, Shit! I know her".
He then told me in their first year of uni that they hooked up together for a few months (so 4 years ago). I then asked her and she confirmed it.
They've been completely honest with me about it and both say it was in the past, and that it doesn't make either of them uncomfortable; but I'm still finding the situation really weird? And honestly makes me wonder if there could be a future for us.
Any advice?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | found out my GF and best friend had a thing 4 years ago, and its really put doubts into my mind. What do people think? | found out my GF and best friend had a thing 4 years ago, and its really put doubts into my mind. What do people think? | 5,016 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] 1 year, LDR trial separation
POST: I need to get this off my chest and get some advice from the community.
My gf and I have been doing long distance for about 5 months and dating for 1 year. We will be living in the same city again come June hence why we decided to give a LDR a try.
The time we spend together has been great and we usually see each other for long weekends every couple of weeks.
A few months ago I found out that my gf cheated on me (she kissed another guy in a club). I decided to give her a last chance but if I'm entirely honest, since it happened I have not taken the relationship as seriously as I used to.
This weekend, I went down to see her (hadn't seen her in 3 weeks). I got her flowers, chocolates and a card for valentine's day. She spent most of the day with her friends and I didn't even get a card in return. In the evening I cooked her a nice dinner, then we had a bit of a fall out and she spent the rest of the evening hanging out with friends.
Needless to say, this morning I was pretty fed up and have initiated a 2 week "trial break-up". She was really upset. We won't be talking for 2 weeks and will then meet up to decide whether to end it or continue.
Am I being perfectly reasonable here or am I just being overly sensitive? Obviously I love her to bits and the text above is only really showing her in bad light - but these are the things I'm picking up on. Our sex life isn't great either. She has a slight cold and so there was no love making this weekend (even after not seeing each other for 3 weeks).
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 1 year relationship, LDR for last 5 months. Things have been going downhill so just initiated a 2 week "trial break-up". | 1 year relationship, LDR for last 5 months. Things have been going downhill so just initiated a 2 week "trial break-up". | 73 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by greeting Captain America
POST: I went to Disneyland in Anaheim. A tad of background: I haven't been there in a while and I discovered the new exhibit featuring Captain America. Now first I saw the other exhibit called *Thor: Treasures of Asgard* which has props, swords actually used in the film that you can check out. After you look at the props Thor does a brief "show" and does a meet and greet with photo op, if you like.
So after seeing the Thor exhibit, I get in line for the Captain America exhibit. We wait in line for what felt like 25 minutes. At the end of the line you turn a corner then you can see the exhibit. After all that waiting, we turn the corner, and we see it's just Captain America and a photographer. My buddy and I thought we were waiting all that time to see movie props, costumes from the movie, etc.! In a New York minute they call us over to take a picture. We did not want a picture with Capt. America. I felt like saying, "uhhh, there's no movie props?" I was shocked, surprised, and trying not to laugh all at once, and my buddy was too.
We greet Capt. America while trying to hide our surprise and save some face, but all he said the whole time was "how's it going?" like four times with little expression on his face! It was like he was stoned or something. I was at a loss for words and all I could muster was, "my friend is visiting from out of state." That usually gets the character to say something different, but Capt. America answered, "oh, how's it going?" Before I left I saluted him military style like I saw in some photos of the Capt. He just looked at me with a blank expression!
As soon as we left the room, we started cracking up at our mistake. We also kept discussing why the Capt. almost couldn't think coherently. We thought the Capt. showed up to work either stoned, exhausted, or maybe he perceived our mistake. I kept laughing about it all afternoon.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I wait in line forever to see movie props & costumes from Capt. America, and it ends up being only a photo and greet with Capt. America who was either stoned or exhausted. | I wait in line forever to see movie props & costumes from Capt. America, and it ends up being only a photo and greet with Capt. America who was either stoned or exhausted. | 3,302 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [21 F] boyfriends [26 M] past haunts me.
POST: Basically I want your opinion on dealing with a significant other's past.
I hate my boyfriend's past. I hate his past relationships, friends with benefits, and friendships with other females that he had before me. I hate the girls he used to be infatuated with, the girls he was attracted to, etc.
I'm the type who asked him for all these details, but ultimately hearing them made me upset and obsessed and filled with hatred.
I snooped on his computer, his old profiles, and found things that I didn't like.
Mind you, this is the PAST. All these things that happened before me, shady or not, are a thing of the past: nonexistent.
What do you think of your partner's past? How do you deal with it? Do you even care about it?
I hate my behavior and would love to hear other people's perspectives on this issue.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to hear other's opinions on dealing with their partner's past/history with other people so I can get some perspective and hopefully mature a bit. | I want to hear other's opinions on dealing with their partner's past/history with other people so I can get some perspective and hopefully mature a bit. | 353 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girlfriend has trust issues, can I salvage us?
POST: My girlfriend (22F) has trust issues with me (25M), which I think stems from her having an immature way of looking at things. She looks at our issues as a her-versus-me problem rather than a relationship problem like I do.
To give an example, a long time ago we were out at a bar and she walked off with a strange guy. At the time I considered it a black and white relationship killer, but she explained herself and I took her word for it. I've forgiven and forgotten. She even makes a nice gesture to show she cares about regaining my trust by cutting off contact with her friend she walked off with.
Contrast this with an example of something I've done that pissed her off. We are out and some lady asks for directions, I lean forward to see around the corner and point, and my girlfriend takes this as me leaning in closer to her because I want her. I explain myself but she doesn't believe me, practically calling me a liar, prodding me to "admit it", telling me I broke her trust, this is why she has trust issues and so on. Telling me that I should know not to do that, that it's common sense, that other people wouldn't treat her like this.
She completely ignores my point of view, and implies I'm lying constantly. We've had a big talk, and she sees it as something I'm doing wrong, that if I loved her I would know how to behave. I see it as a fundamental lack of trust and/or communication on her part. I would love to say things have gotten better over time (we have been going out 5 months) but it seems to not be improving noticeably.
And then there's marriage. She really wants to marry me (when she doesn't want to break up with me). She thinks marriage will improve things between us because I will prove my commitment to her. However I think that things I do to prove my commitment to her, like moving in with her, go unnoticed, and that marriage isn't going to change anything. I think that she will be fine for a month after we get engaged then the trust issues will creep back in, and worse. It needs to be fixed before we get married.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I feel like my girlfriend's lack of trust is not improving, and when I tell her this she is defensive, blames it on me, calls me a liar and accuses me of things I haven't done or thought. | I feel like my girlfriend's lack of trust is not improving, and when I tell her this she is defensive, blames it on me, calls me a liar and accuses me of things I haven't done or thought. | 4,464 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (27F) boyfriend (27M) asked his ex to meet up while I'm away....
POST: My bf has a long history with this girl. They've known each other since high school and have dated/hooked up on and off since then. They talk frequently, and she's been known to admit still having feelings for him (several times).
We've talked about this, and I've insisted that he set clear boundaries with her and explain that her sentiments aren't appropriate while he's in a relationship. We still have had problems, but they've gotten better.
Fast forward to "today": I'm planning on going on vacation with my best friend for a few days. Just hanging out with her and our kids and catching up. He's not thrilled that I'm leaving him on his own, but he'll manage...maybe spend some time with his friends. All's fine and dandy until I see that he's texted his ex, asking her if she's going to be around when I'm gone.
I am, as you can probably guess, NOT happy about this. I think it's a real "dick" thing to do and, frankly, I don't care if they're now "just friends". She's told him she still loves him and misses him several times over the last year and has even said that she believes they'll get back together. He doesn't know that I know he texted her, and while I do seriously doubt they'd meet up when I'm gone, I feel like he's stabbed me in the back.
He was supposed to lessen the number of times he talks to her (not happening), and was supposed to set clear boundaries with her since they're both in live-in relationships. So...what the fuck am I supposed to do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend of 1+ years texted ex asking if she'll be in town when I'm on "vacation". She's made it clear she still loves him/wants him back. WTF? | Boyfriend of 1+ years texted ex asking if she'll be in town when I'm on "vacation". She's made it clear she still loves him/wants him back. WTF? | 5,136 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, you help so many people. Could you please help me re-unite with my long lost teddy bear?
POST: When I was a kid (6 years old) my grandpa went to America and brought me a teddy bear as a gift. I fell in love with him instantly and brought him everywhere I went. I had clothes for him (even some knitted by my mom). My parents even bought him a little backpack and I used to pack him the same stuff I packed in mine for school (little books labeled "math" and such). I used to think of him as my pal and everybody knew him at my school (even the teachers, and they also loved him).
One sad day, when I was 12, I went out to the swimming pool with my grandpa and on the way back I realized I didn't have him anymore. We frantically looked everywhere, but he was gone. We went back to the swimming pool but could not find him. I became a very sad little kid. I put some signs around the neighbourhood but people only laughed at me (which I can now understand a bit). The next 2 years, my mom and dad travelled to America as well (for family reasons) and looked for "Sito" (the teddy bear's name I invented) with no success.
The Christmas after, my grandpa, seeing me so sad, found a teddy bear which was similar (not really) and gave it to me with a letter from Santa saying that "he (Sito) went to the North Pole to meet him (Santa) and to have a change of looks". Of course I knew the truth but I appreciated my grandpa doing that for me.
Nowadays (I'm 28 now) I have (maybe not) got over it, but I still look in ebay every now and then just in case. Until it occured to me that maybe Reddit could help me. It's been more than 15 years but it's worth a try.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I lost my very loved teddy bear as a kid and I need reddit to help me re-unite with him. | I lost my very loved teddy bear as a kid and I need reddit to help me re-unite with him. | 5,210 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (25f) am feeling a bit flustered since my boyfriend (27) admitted that he doesn't want to get married. What should I do?
POST: When my boyfriend and I first started dating (six years ago!) I was convinced that I was never going to get married. My boyfriend, however, was convinced that he was going to marry and live happily ever after. Well, we fell in love and have had a pretty wonderful relationship. We get along well, are on the same page about a whole bunch of the big stuff (kids, religion, politics, whathaveyou), and generally enjoy hanging out with each other.
At some point, some wires must have gotten crossed because I began to think that I would like to get married. Not because I suddenly wanted to don a white dress, but because I could see a happy life with this man. Assuming he was on the same page (as I had no reason to think that he wouldn't be), I started to accept that we would, at some point, get engaged and then married.
Then the other night, he confessed that he doesn't think he wants to get married. He emphasized that he loves me and he wants to be with me (and I don't think I have any reason to not believe him), but it still feels like the floor has dropped out from underneath me. I can't help but feel a little led on. Or that I'm deficient in some important way. I'm heartbroken!
I hate to admit it, but after that blow I've begun to think about what my life would be like if we did decide to part ways. I would be doing a lot of things differently if not for this relationship (which, while stable and pleasant, can feel boring and stifling at times). I want to travel and move someplace where I can achieve my big city dreams, but he seems content staying put.
I honestly don't know what to think at this point. I feel a bit silly being affronted by his decision when I didn't even want to consider marriage when we first got together, but I am. I don't think I'd ever want to marry someone else, but I do think that something has to change. I almost feel as though I've already gone through a breakup. What would you do if you were in my situation?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My boyfriend, who had previously said he wanted to marry me, decided that marriage isn't for him. He still loves me and wants to be with me, but I have other things to do too. Should I stay with him? | My boyfriend, who had previously said he wanted to marry me, decided that marriage isn't for him. He still loves me and wants to be with me, but I have other things to do too. Should I stay with him? | 4,329 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by not translating my airport's name.
POST: So my friend and I had to leave Japan from Osaka, and the writing on the confirmation email was mostly in Japanese. I figured there was only one airport, so I thought it must be Osaka international airport. So we take the last train (at around 11 pm) to Osaka airport from Kyoto the day before, so we can just spend the night there and not pay for a hostel. But, when we arrive, the airport was closed. We were like "oooh no, this is all wrong. It shouldn't be closed." We translated the name in google and found out it was Kansai International Airport, the other airport in osaka which was 2 hours by metro. Unfortunately, since we took the last train, the metro was was closed. We spent the next hour in the 30-degree temperature figuring out our plan until the metros open. We decided to head by taxi to the main Osaka station and wait until it opens at 5 to take the train to the other airport. We arrive at the station expecting a 24-hour restaurant of some kind, but everything around the station was closed. So we were outside in the cold just wondering what to do until we couldn't stand the cold and ended up huddling under an overpass to escape the strong, cold breeze. We stayed under for 2 hours until I got fed up with the cold and told my friend we were going to walk as long as possible to find someplace warm. We ended up at a sushi bar till they kicked us out then at a karaoke room waiting for the metro to open and start running again. The metro ran up again, but unfortunately, I confused a station's name with the one we were supposed to switch on, so we get off only to realize we were going the right way after all. Then we have to wait 30 minutes for the next metro to pass but it is not following the same path which confuses us even more, so we get off on the next stop to realize again we were going the right way. All in all, it was an experience I would rather not relive.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Went to the wrong airport, spent most of the night under an overpass, bar, and karaoke room, then finally got to the metro only to confuse station names. | Went to the wrong airport, spent most of the night under an overpass, bar, and karaoke room, then finally got to the metro only to confuse station names. | 222 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What if Justin Beiber is the next Michael Jackson?
POST: I know a lot of folks hate the little guy, but the other day I was listening to a song he did with Kany West, a remix to Runaway Love. It was pretty interesting, and it got me thinking, what if this kids the next MJ?
In all do honesty, his current music isn't what we're all fans of, but keep in mind, he's young. He can't sing about dramatic life experiences, breakups, or heart ache, because he hasn't experienced that yet. As he matures, so will his music, and once that's combined with his talents he has the potential to be outstanding.
So what does Reddit think, could Justin Beiber, potentially be the next Michael Jackson?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Heard a song with Justin Beiber and Kanye West, thought maybe this kid could be the next MJ. What do you guys think? | Heard a song with Justin Beiber and Kanye West, thought maybe this kid could be the next MJ. What do you guys think? | 575 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [22M] Ex [22F] just asked me to be FWBs after we just reconnected after 3 years. I still love her.
POST: So we broke up when I went to University. I hated breaking up with her but thought it was for the best for her sake as she couldn't deal with me being away at all. I have on year left and am home for the Summer, I posted on here before and was encouraged to reconnect with her.
We met up and it was amazing tbh. She messaged me after saying how great it was and that it felt just like old times. I realised that my feelings for her are still very much real. We then talked on FaceBook through to the early morning after she left (this was last night). We messaged constantly for a couple of days before meeting up.
Well today she messaged me asking if I wanted to be FWBs with her. My problem is I still love her, shes still the same girl I fell in love with all those years ago and seeing her was just incredible. I don't know what to say.
I kind of feel like shes saying this because she knows I still have to go away and do my final year of University (note, it requires a plane journey to visit). I can't just tell her I still have feeling for her because first of all I want to make sure I do that face to face, and secondly I don't know if shes ready to hear it yet. I really broke her heart, at first when we met up she couldn't even look at me she was so nervous. I don't want to scare her off.
I have no idea what to say to her, or what to do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Reconnected with ex, it was incredible. Now she wants to be FWBs but I still have strong feelings for her and don't think I could handle being with her if she was with other guys at the same time. | Reconnected with ex, it was incredible. Now she wants to be FWBs but I still have strong feelings for her and don't think I could handle being with her if she was with other guys at the same time. | 1,400 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (26F) love my boyfriend (25M) of four years. I recently have started having feelings for someone else, but still love my boyfriend. I feel awful and dishonest. What should I do?
POST: I have been in a relationship with (let's call him Bob) for four years. I love him with all of my heart. Lately, I feel that the relationship has become cold. I feel like he does still pay some attention to me, but not like he used to. He is very nice and easy to talk to. I have talked to him about how I feel before, and he has worked on it, but it always seems to steadily drop off.
Now comes the hard part. I work with another man (let's call him Al) with whom I have been friends with for a while. Lately, I have developed feelings for him. I have waited and done nothing for months hoping the feelings I have for Al to go away to no avail. I know he is aware of how I feel and likes me too, and we are both smart people. We have not been intimate in any way, shape, or form. I know now that the feelings aren't going away, and even though I haven't done anything to be physically unfaithful to Bob, I have emotionally. I do still love Bob, but I feel like I am starting to feel for Al more.
I feel like a disgusting human being who should be grateful for whom I have. If I break it off, it could be the biggest mistake of my life. I love Bob's family, and we grew up together as kids, so this wouldn't be easy. I would lose so much, but I feel like staying for him is wrong and hurtful. I know nothing of the turn-out with Al, but I can't live with myself knowing I'm not being honest. I would never cheat on Bob.
I live in an apartment with Bob, have two cats (one his, one mine). I don't want to hurt him, but even if nothing ever happens with Al, I don't think he should be put through this.
WHAT SHOULD I DO?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I love my boyfriend, but not like I used to. I have feelings for someone else and have never acted on them, but still feel unfaithful. I need advice on how to deal with this. | I love my boyfriend, but not like I used to. I have feelings for someone else and have never acted on them, but still feel unfaithful. I need advice on how to deal with this. | 5,372 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: SO and I Can't Agree About Work Outs/Body Image
POST: I'm a 20 year old girl, living in an apartment with my boyfriend. I used to be a lot more physically fit than I am now, and I've gained about 30 pounds since I started college. It's not like I have terrible self esteem over this, but I'd still like to go back to how I used to look. My boyfriend thinks I look fine and don't need to worry about it.
I started a workout routine over the last summer, and am starting to take up running this spring. Today I bought 80 dollar running shoes (Vibrams, to be specific) so that I could run in as healthy a way as possible (I've had knee, ankle and foot injuries all on the same leg in the past and want to play it safe). Also, I wanted motivate myself to dedicate to running by investing something into it.
The issue is, I came home from buying the shoes and my boyfriend was really upset that I spent so much money on something so pointless (since he doesn't think I need to work out in the first place). Do you think he was justified? How can we reach an agreement about my body image, working out etc?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to lose weight, SO doesn't think so. I bought expensive running shoes and he's upset. What do? | I want to lose weight, SO doesn't think so. I bought expensive running shoes and he's upset. What do? | 832 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: You Could Have Just Asked Me
POST: *My Mom tricked me into cashing a savings bond from my deceased Grandmother then stole half the money literally snatching it from my hands. She told it was Christmas money, said it was a present from her and refused to answer any of my questions. I needed the money being a college student with living expenses so I foolishly went along with it thinking that my own mother wouldn't screw me over. We always had a rocky relationship but over the last two years I was beginning to think she really cared. Apparently she cared enough to trick me into cashing 700 in bonds then steal 350 from me betraying my trust in her. She had lost her job (her own fault for being late), something she wasn't even going to tell me if I hadn't guessed but she didn't need it more than me. I thought I could trust her, all she had to do was explain everything and ask me for it and I would have given it to her. All she had to do was ask.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Mom lied and stole $350 from me when all she had to do was ask for it instead of breaking my heart. | Mom lied and stole $350 from me when all she had to do was ask for it instead of breaking my heart. | 6,511 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Odd payment request?
POST: I'm unsure if this would be the correct subreddit, as it didn't seem to fit in elsewhere, maybe askreddit or legal? If not, here goes.
A little background, I'm in the military and looking to buy some car parts. I saw on the Perrin Performance website that they have a "Military and first responder discount" [reddit!] . To be approved for this, you need to email or call the representative listed with a few requirements and also list the parts you wish to purchase.
After sending all of this I received an email this afternoon statin all of the (newly) priced items at about 10-15% discount (awesome!). The email also includes the following text, which I found incredibly off.
> If you'd like to complete an order, feel free to call or email me with your credit card number, expiration date, and 3 digit code OR send a paypal payment to [email protected], just put it to my attention.
I shot the representative an email back asking if he could somehow give me a discount code equalling the amount of the discount I was to receive noted in his email, as it didn't feel right to do either of the options listed. I am also going to call tomorrow to see if he could answer some other questions I may have.
I can't wrap my head around it being a scam, as it is from a reputable company, it just seems odd that the initial payment options listed were what he mentioned.
Any help or suggestions would be great, or maybe someone has used their discounts before? For all I know this is completely normal, but I've never been asked to send my "credit card number, expiration, and 3 digit code" to someone via email.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | want to buy car parts, inquired about military discount, received email back with discounted prices but asked to pay by email/paypal. | want to buy car parts, inquired about military discount, received email back with discounted prices but asked to pay by email/paypal. | 2,417 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: So Reddit, what is the most awkward way you've handled someone asking you out?
POST: So reddit, how have you awkwardly handled being asked out? I think I set the bar pretty high from my awkward and anti-social self:
I was sitting and eating lunch in the cafeteria of my school when a girl I had a huge crush on asked me out. I was super suspicious since I'm known as a smart but nerdy person. I said, "I don't know." and she responded pretty much by saying,"Okay, you can think about it and tell me later" with a surprised look. I was nervous, because I had recently told my friends I liked her, and if I said yes, and it was a prank, then my reputation would be screwed. I ended up saying, "I don't know" for around 3 days when she stopped asking me if I had made up my mind. I still think it was a dare because when I asked, she said it was for "personal reasons". If it was actually genuine, then I hate myself.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girl of my dreams asked me out, I said "I don't know" for three days. She says she wants to date me because of "personal reasons". I thought she was being dared. | girl of my dreams asked me out, I said "I don't know" for three days. She says she wants to date me because of "personal reasons". I thought she was being dared. | 432 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22F]: A lot of my friends live very far away and I'm finding it hard being socially isolated.
POST: I recently graduated from university along with some classmates I was friends with. Expectedly, they went their separate ways and now we are stuck with online correspondence. However, I have all these hobbies and things that are social and I'm going stir-crazy with no one to do them with. It makes me feel like no one cares about me, like I don't have any friends even though I know this isn't true.
I feel jealous when my housemates have their friends over and the prospect of having to return to my parents' house when my lease expires near the end of June is giving me anxiety and I usually end up a little teary knowing that definitely zero people will visit me there. It's 45 minutes into the countryside from my house, which is already >1 hour travel away from my friends.
What are some things I can do to feel a little more like I did when I was younger and enjoyed solitude & single-people activities? What are some hobbies to do alone? I'm not a very crafty/creative person. Thanks for your advice, hope this is the right subreddit.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | All my friends live an hour away and when I possibly move home, they'll live even further away. What are some things I can do alone or what are some ways I can feel less lonely? | All my friends live an hour away and when I possibly move home, they'll live even further away. What are some things I can do alone or what are some ways I can feel less lonely? | 3,922 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [22 M] of 2 years off an on, can't decide if we should break up or try to fix it
POST: My boyfriend and I have been dating (off and on) for 2 years now. It's been 7 months since we've gotten "back together" after a small break. We are in our last semester at college.
My boyfriend believes we should break up so that we don't end up hating each other. I feel that we can fix things, realizing now that much of the fault is mine. About a year ago, my boyfriend did some stupid things while I was abroad and I still haven't completely gotten over them. I feel insecure. He continually feels guilty. However, I'm realizing that I haven't even tried to let go... and am willing to make that effort. I'm asking him to give me a chance to try, to stop blaming him, and to take responsibility for my own actions.
He is torn and as am I. Because we both see the positive in breaking up, but we both want to stay together. We really care about each other, but we have a lot of really tough days where things from the past just haunt us. Sometimes I can be mean, but I want to let go of this resentment. He thinks it's a big picture thing keeping us down, whereas I see it as day to day hardships that can be conquered. Will this go away with work and love? Or would it be best to just end it now, knowing that we'll never overcome this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My boyfriend and I are having a hard time deciding whether to end it or to try to fix things that are rooted in past mistakes and pain. | My boyfriend and I are having a hard time deciding whether to end it or to try to fix things that are rooted in past mistakes and pain. | 1,892 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm 25 and learning how to budget. How much money should go toward enjoying life v. grad school ?
POST: So I am 25 female, I have no student loans and no debt. I previously lived with my parents and worked part time/hourly, so I have 7,000 saved up. I just got a full time job for 37,000$ and since I have moved to a state up north, my relatives have generously offered/begged me to let me live with them for the next two years rent-free. (Also, my dad gave me 1000 dollars to buy winter clothes... which has to be excessive right? Unless the canadian border really is that bad...)
I generally think I am a good saver, but I have been slipping up recently by not setting a concrete budget on leisure activities/ red bull consumption. Also, I spent several thousand visiting several countries but I only hopped on that because I had an opportunity to make it cheaper than it would normally be.
Any way, since I won't be spending 30% of my paycheck towards rent, I thought I would but 10% in my 401(k), and put 20% in regular savings. In a matter of fact, I would like to put more than 20% in regular savings. Because when I finally get my own place, I don't want to be used to spending 70% of my income and not knowing how to save extra.
But the whole thing is confusing me because I now have to pay for my own food, gym membership and one-time purchases like snow tires and office clothes. I can't plan on how much gasoline I will be using because I don't know the state yet and where I will want to drive. I probably need plane tickets to see family because 8-11 hours driving is too much, but I still want to travel internationally. And then I really want to save for a good grad school, but also maybe take french classes this year or buy adobe illustrator.
When I think of all these things my head starts spinning, and I try to divide and separate my income, I keep forgetting to set aside some monthly money for me to grab a beer or buy some lipstick. So this is all sort of a stream of consciousness by now but I will sum it up as follows:
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 37,000 income, no rent. What percentage of my income should go toward saving for grad school/educational tools, and what percentage should go to actually enjoying my life and not worrying about snow-tires. | 37,000 income, no rent. What percentage of my income should go toward saving for grad school/educational tools, and what percentage should go to actually enjoying my life and not worrying about snow-tires. | 2,694 |
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