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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] wanting to be with a friend I know [19 F], but I am too paranoid.
POST: I am a 23 year old male named Patrick who has been admiring this girl , Naomi, for at least a year when I met up with her at an anime convention. I hadn't talked to her much, and then this year about a week ago I agreed to do a partner cosplay with her(because I was a guy she knew through another friend). We did the cosplay and we talked and laughed. We had a lot of fun, but I am not adept at seeing signs of when a girl likes you. I have had girlfriends in the past, but they have all approached me so I have absolutely no experience when I am the chaser. I have her number and we have been texting a bit, but nothing too important. I thought she had a boyfriend, but I cannot confirm it. I wouldn't want to infringe on a relationship for sake of karma. I don't want anything sexual from her; I am just genuinely attracted to her and her personality. I am obsessed with her. I cannot stop thinking about her and when I do I go right back. I am very depressed. I am able to function, but all I do is listen to Lana Del Ray all day and cry wishing I could be with her. Now the easy answer is just ask her if she wants to go out/has a boyfriend/etc., but even if I was able to muster up the courage, I wouldn't be able to cope. I am extremely paranoid in relationships sometimes. In the beginning, it is fine...but if I see or hear something that threatens me or my relationship, I lose myself into depression, anger, and pain. I want her, but I don't know if I should have her. Maybe I don't deserve her, but it breaks my heart thinking about it.
I know the obvious choice is to ignore it, but I may never get a second chance... Reddit please help.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am a manic depressive, paranoid person with hopes of dating a girl who I am madly obsessed with, but don't know if it is healthy. What should I do? | I am a manic depressive, paranoid person with hopes of dating a girl who I am madly obsessed with, but don't know if it is healthy. What should I do? | 4,966 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I [F21] have a crush on my superior at work [M25]. Halp.
POST: So I recently started interning at a new place and really hit it off with the guy who is one of my two direct supervisors. By "hit it off" I mean that when we're not busy, we're usually talking on gchat, he says things like "You're the best intern ever" and "I don't know how I got so lucky to have you as my intern," we went out for drinks with a couple other coworkers today and he bought my beer, and he really seems to like my ideas and work. When I was walking into our office building today he ran up behind me and sort of poked me to scare me. That sort of thing. Nothing super flirtatious, but we're more like pals than super professional, stiff coworkers. And I know he's single, too, so there's that.
The thing is, this is a really small office and I want to parlay this internship potentially into a real job. Socializing after hours isn't frowned upon at all (my other supervisor and I just went to a concert a couple weeks ago, but we were friends before I got this job), but I have a feeling dating would be. I know for sure that a full-time employee dating an intern would be. Basically, I have no idea what to do. I click with this guy pretty well (and we're of a similar level of attractiveness, which is cool - I'm almost always crushed out on guys who are way out of my league), but I also *really* like this job. Should I just wait until December and see what happens? But what if the spark goes away before then? I have no idea what I'm even doing but I know all my options are going to be disappointing in one way or another.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I like my coworker, but dating him openly would be bad and also I don't even know if he's interested in me WTF DO I DO. Question mark. | I like my coworker, but dating him openly would be bad and also I don't even know if he's interested in me WTF DO I DO. Question mark. | 1,207 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my [20F] for 3 months, those three big words..
POST: Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.
I've been officially dating my girlfriend for almost three months. Before this we were hooking up for about a month before we put a title on it. I've dated before, but never have had a relationship as serious as this. This is my first "serious" relationship, and i'm not trying to rush anything. This girl just continues to blow my mind. She just bought a plane ticket to come to a wedding I invited her to that several states away. I know most of her extended family, I know her weaknesses and her aspirations, and she knows mine. I'm sure I have feelings for her. I guess what I'm wondering is whether it's normal for the male (given today;s societal roles) to say the three big words first, or if I should hold off and wait until she says them first.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 4 months of relations, 3 months in a relationship, should I be the first to tell her the three big words. | 4 months of relations, 3 months in a relationship, should I be the first to tell her the three big words. | 1,040 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [19 M] not sure if girl [18 F] likes me
POST: We started off as friends about a year ago in college. A few months after I confessed my feelings and she said that she wasn't ready to be in a relationship. So I took it as a rejection and moved on. However, a few weeks before I told her this, she reacted in a very strange way upon hearing news that I would be quitting the club we were both in; she came down to my dorm and started crying hysterically. This really confused me.
Fast forward about almost a year later. I'm taking a year off from school but decide to visit my friends at school. I started texting her again a few weeks prior. So I also meet up with her at one point. We go together (just the two of us) for ice cream, and I decide to pay for the entire thing. She says she will pay next time. I notice that she put on noticeable makeup, which I perceive as a good sign as she doesn't usually wear it. Conversation is flowing, and she is laughing regularly.
Upon her suggestion, we decide to visit some other mutual friends in their dorm. We all hang out for a bit, and I go to dinner with some other friends. I come back later that evening, and upon hearing I'm back in the dorms, she comes over. But she's dressed in her pajamas. So at this point, I'm thinking, she's way too comfortable with me if she isn't concerned about her being seen in her pajamas.
Next day I leave, so I don't get to see her again. I continue to text her though.
I'm not really sure where I stand with her. She's already rejected me once, but our recent interactions have gotten more flirty. There's a lot more I haven't mentioned, but these are the main points.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl wears makeup to one-on-one meetup but then comes in pajamas to group meetup later that same day. | Girl wears makeup to one-on-one meetup but then comes in pajamas to group meetup later that same day. | 2,954 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M22] just broke up with my girlfriend [21F] and feel like a complete asshole
POST: I'm still in an anxiety episode, so forgive my awful typing.
I dated this girl for four months or so. I liked her a lot, but as time went by, I felt like neither of us were able to help the other one's personal issues at all. It hurt my feelings tons that she wouldn't let me see her without makeup, ever, even after months of me telling her truthfully she's beautiful and shouldn't be ashamed to go outside with confidence with herself. In turn, her feelings would get hurt because I'm still hurt and angry towards an ex, mostly from just the trauma of it all, and she didn't know how to address it.
In short, neither of us seemed like we connected in the right way to be able to support each other the right way. She wanted me to not text her for a couple days, so she could think, because I made her upset over the weekend when I ran into a person I used to hang out with my ex with, and he brought her up, and I was upset, and her feelings were hurt because she felt she should be enough to make me forget her.
She texted me again today, and at a point asked me if I knew why she was upset. I told her truthfully I thought she was upset and wanted to break up, and after she said no, I told her I thought we should. She gets angry at me for hurting her and leaving her, and I tell her I thought it needed to be ended before things were dragged on, because we both aren't helping each other heal.
I don't know. I feel like a bad person. I know she's a wonderful person. I hate that I hurt her. But I also don't think that we could be partners since neither of us apparently could support each other.
Did at least anything I do seem like the right thing to do? Or even make sense? Sorry again; I'm still very panicky.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Didn't think my girlfriend and I were going to get better around each other, broke up, feel awful and like an asshole | Didn't think my girlfriend and I were going to get better around each other, broke up, feel awful and like an asshole | 2,176 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by pretty much dancing in front of my teacher
POST: ***This a a re-post due to changing accounts***
So pretty much what happened was:
My friend always gets me food for break (in high school), why? No idea. Just a thing that started happening, anyway. He bought me milk and a doughnut (donut for US) and I got the milk and put it where my fly should be and I went to my band room like that. After getting there I made everyone laugh and then I started laughing and the milk carton went down my leg. Everyone laughed more while I was hoping around the room, kicking my other leg trying to get this milk carton out. I had my back to the door and while I was fucking around my teacher came in and as he did the milk slipped out. I picked it up and turned to leave the room and then I saw him looking quite confused. He asked me "What are you doing?" to which I held up the carton of milk and replied "My water got stuck somehow" and swiftly left the room knowing I had fucked up and looked like a dumbass...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | A milk carton slipped down my leg and I tried to get it out in a 'awkward' way on purpose while my teacher had walked into the room and stood there watching me. | A milk carton slipped down my leg and I tried to get it out in a 'awkward' way on purpose while my teacher had walked into the room and stood there watching me. | 2,732 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/college
TITLE: What are some good extracurriculars I can get into?
POST: I'm looking to get into an elite college. I have good academics but I know that won't help me fly into an elite college easily. I go to a "poor" high school (according to my peers) allegedly, but I see that my options for extracurriculars are very limited.
I want to be a computer science major when I go into college, just keep that in mind.
I want to go into an elite college. Not talking Ivy League, with the opportunities given by our school, that's hardly possible, but I have my eyes set on Cornell University because I believe I can make it if I truly try.
So that's the thing about those top elite colleges, they don't just want academics, they want extracurriculars, so what can I do that'll help me in the admissions process? I'm an open-minded person that loves trying new things, meaning that I'm not asking just for the sake of getting into a good college.
I'm currently a dancer (company/performance level), school tennis player (Varsity division), and policy debater (Varsity division). I volunteer at the local debate league to judge tournaments for middle school students enrolled in their school's debate program, which gets me a few dozen hours but not adequate.
For next year I'm looking to do National Honor Society (community service and tutoring) and math team (might help for my STEM major).
Since my school's ECs are pretty limited I'm preferably looking for something I can do outside of school in my own time. Tennis and debate particularly take up most of my after school time so other school ECs wouldn't work well because of conflicting schedules, but I think I can be well-off with something outside of school.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Give me an EC that'll help me get into an elite college. I'm open-minded so anything is welcome and I'd love to try. | Give me an EC that'll help me get into an elite college. I'm open-minded so anything is welcome and I'd love to try. | 2,713 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How can i[19M] be certaint of a girl's[16F] feelings towards me?
POST: First of all i am sorry if this isn't the right subreddit to post this to,if it's not then just tell me and i'll delete the post righ away.
There's this girl i've been texting to for a few months,we skyped,talked on the phone for countless hours we text eachother everyday until sunset and stuff like that.
We call eachother cute names like ''my love'' ''my angel'' stuff like that she constantly tells me that she loves me and i tell her all the time that i love her too,she always tells me that she miss me and that she want to be in my arms,she always says ''i'm yours''(even though i never know how to respond to that),she wants me to be her first and that she'd love me even with my body (i have a big problem with my physical appeareance)
i really love her,still we haven't met,i'm supposed to go meet her on the 14th of february,you know for valentine's day and i'll bring her a rose and her favorite chocolate..but for some reason i'm unsure about her feelings..
or maybe that's not it but there's definetly something weird about all this and i can't put my finger on it..i have difficulties about trusting people,i try my best to trust her.
she says i'm the one she loves,yet sometime she shows herself to old guys and i don't know how to react..sorry if this post make no sense at all..
TL;DR: . Assistant: | met this girl online a few months ago,been texting and saying cute stuff to eachothers,want to meet her but unsure about her feelings,or maybe that's not it,what do i do? | met this girl online a few months ago,been texting and saying cute stuff to eachothers,want to meet her but unsure about her feelings,or maybe that's not it,what do i do? | 6,346 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/GetMotivated
TITLE: Dear GetMotivated: The cause of procrastination?
POST: Hi,
I'm noticing something interesting today. I'm back to work and have three things I need to do. Two of those things I WANT to do, and one of them I HAVE to do.
So in my mind this puts the "HAVE TO" task at the top of the list of priorities, which also puts *procrastinating* on that task at the top of the list of priorities.
I've hit the end of the day and have achieved neither the "HAVE TO" task, nor the "WANT TO" tasks.
I compare this to the day before when I did my "WANT TO" tasks first, and simply breezed through my "HAVE TO" obligations for the rest of the day.
**Perhaps there is something to this.** When you prioritise things you DON'T want to do, it makes you procrastinate - and procrastination creates a feeling of failure and puts your mind into a "reluctance/apathy" state which carries over into screwing up the things you DO want to achieve.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Perhaps if we work first on the things we want to do, we're better preparing our minds for achieving the things we HAVE to do. | Perhaps if we work first on the things we want to do, we're better preparing our minds for achieving the things we HAVE to do. | 5,263 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Is it creepy if...?
POST: 19F nerdy as half hell interested in this nerdy as all hell 22M
Is it creepy if I message him on facebook to hang out?
We know each other so it's not like getting a message from a random anon or something. We are in a club together at school and almost always talk about our nerdy interests...D&D, favorite video games, pokemon...and things of that nature. He's socially awesome penguin, and I'm totally socially awkward penguin. I suspect that he may be a bit awkward in the way of girls though...
I don't have his phone number, so it's not like I could text him or something. Every time we've been about to exchange numbers something totally interrupts the exchange, and ultimately, it doesn't happen.
So reddit...help me out here. Please.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Nerdy girl interested in this nerdy guy. We know each other and such, but don't have phone numbers. Creepy if I facebook message him to hang out? | Nerdy girl interested in this nerdy guy. We know each other and such, but don't have phone numbers. Creepy if I facebook message him to hang out? | 3,599 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [relationship] Gf[29] wants to do ecstasy for first time at must festival with guy friend without me[32]
POST: Small bit of background seeing girl for close to 18 months. We both have trust issues due to messy breakups with partners who cheated on us but we are getting there. Everything has been great despite my gf still liking to keep her life and our relationship a little separate. She has a pretty large group of guy friends who I've met only once.
So long story short I'm pretty anti drugs. Never a fan and really dislike people on coke or pills. Really not my scene. Gf has told me she is going to a number of music festivals this summer and hasn't invited me. I probably wouldn't have gone but I wasn't given a choice.
At breakfast this morning she told me her and her guy friend had decided over a night out that they were going to do ecstasy at a music festival next month and then she got beyond giddy daydreaming about it. It will be both of their first times but will be with friends who have done it. This is really out of character for her as up to now she has had zero interest or so I thought.
I was stunned and didn't raise the point for half an hour as I didn't know what to say. Her reaction was it's my body my choice. She said she had tried at a music festival last summer and failed to find any but would be doing it this time.
Ive had friends/gfs who have taken E and all they want to do is dance and then hug/kiss/screw. This along with being told we are doing E, it's not really your scene so you are not invited.
Im rattled by this. Dont know this guy, don't know these friends. Should I be ok with this situation? I'm just as frustrated with the drugs as I am with the comment which went with it. Any advice is hugely appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | gf wasn't to try E for first time with guy I don't know at music festival I'm not invited to. | gf wasn't to try E for first time with guy I don't know at music festival I'm not invited to. | 4,582 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Second-guessing my AWESOME relationship and I need help reddit!
POST: I'm a 24/m in a great relationship with a 19/f. We've been together for almost 10 months and things are good. She's WONDERFUL and I couldn't ask for anything more. She's cute, smart, funny, independent and so supportive it's almost scary. However, I find myself second-guessing our relationship. Thoughts almost constantly plague me about whether or not she's "who I'm supposed to be with." To be honest redditors, I'm scared. To make things more complicated she just moved in(after having BIG problems with her previous roommate and not having anywhere else to really go). I want her around, I want her in my life but I just don't know what to do(or not do). I find myself with "grass is greener" syndrome and every other mildly cute girl I see I wonder if it'd be better with them. I have no idea what better would be though. I love her and my family loves her yet I find myself doubting this good thing we have. I want to get out of my own way and be happy. Any suggestions? I REALLY want this to work.. it's the best relationship I've ever had!
Thanks guys
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm in a great relationship but scared that it's not "right." We just moved in together and I find myself full of doubt even though it's a good thing. | I'm in a great relationship but scared that it's not "right." We just moved in together and I find myself full of doubt even though it's a good thing. | 746 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hiring mangers of reddit, is calling more people to interview after conducting some interviews a necessary sign you aren't happy with those you've already interviewed?
POST: Sorry this will be long.
I am about to graduate from law school and applied for a job where they are seeking someone with a J.D. to work as a contract manager. I sent my resume and cover letter and was called within 1-2 hours after emailing it to come in and interview.
As it turns out, the job posting (I am pretty sure at least) only went out to my classmates. I know several people who have applied.
The interview was yesterday and I feel very positive about it. I tend to interview well, and all the signs from the three different people I interviewed with really made me think I have a good shot at this job. My interview concluded at 2:45pm or so.
I was told by HR that they have "a couple more interviews this week" and "one pushed back to next wee" but she will contact me either way with an offer or just to let me know they are going a different direction "soon" and that the contact should happen "pretty quickly" likely within 1 week, and probably not more than 2.
I found out today that a classmate/friend of mine who applied the same day as me (a week ago yesterday) was called yesterday to come in for an interview this week.
I know for sure they conducted at least two interviews yesterday before the call to my friend to ask him to interview. He and I applied the same day, and I was called within 2 hours of applying the same day, but he was called a full week later to interview. And he was called at 3:45pm so definitely after my interview had concluded.
My question is, does calling more people to interview mean that they probably didn't love me and are trying to get a bigger interview pool?
I don't know what to make of it, and I am stressing royally because not only is it my dream job, but the pay is simply amazing. However, the pay was not advertised in the job posting and I only found out from the HR Manager at the end of my interview what the salary is.
Thoughts?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Thought I rocked an interview for a job that is hiring quickly from a limited pool only to find out they called at least one other person to interview after my interview had concluded. | Thought I rocked an interview for a job that is hiring quickly from a limited pool only to find out they called at least one other person to interview after my interview had concluded. | 3,671 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Does he [M23] have feelings for me [F22] even though he's focusing on his career?
POST: I dated a friend a couple summers ago and nothing came of it because he moved abroad for work. His brother passed away shortly thereafter and he didn't end up keeping in touch very much.
He came into town a few weeks ago and immediately wanted to see me. He ended up blowing off all of his friends to spend time with me and we cuddled and talked for several hours. (He tried to kiss me and I didn't let him, but we hung-out for a few more hours after that.)
He apologized several times for not keeping in touch better and for abruptly leaving to start his career. He said that he had a lot of fun last summer and would keep in touch a lot better from now on. I asked him flat out if he would've dated me if he'd stayed local, and he said he definitely would've thought about it because we are compatible in so many ways.
He then proceeded to give me his life plan. He says he wants to spent the next couple years developing his career abroad, but that he eventually wants to come back to the states and start a family. He says he's only had one serious relationship that lasted five years and has only liked two-three girls his whole life. (I was dying to ask whether I was one of those girls, but I resisted the temptation.)
Anyways, he's moving abroad again and is visiting so many exciting places. But he's kept up on his promise to keep in touch. We've skyped once and have plans to skype again next week. He also reiterated that I can text him whenever I want and that it'd be a great way to keep in touch. He answers my text messages fairly quickly whenever I do have something to say to him.
Okay, so I get he's not about to be my boyfriend any time soon. I'm also going to keep dating other people who are more local. But does he have feelings for me? Or am I just a friend who's convenient to cuddle with? I really want to know what he's thinking.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My friend is traveling a lot for work, but seems to show signs of interest in me. Does he have feelings for me, or am I just convenient? | My friend is traveling a lot for work, but seems to show signs of interest in me. Does he have feelings for me, or am I just convenient? | 5,089 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I get my (19M) mother (53F) to stop trivializing my dream job when compared with my brother (22M)?
POST: I'm a 19 year old student about to start my second college at a state university. My brother graduated last year with a business degree and is going on being an accountant. He's already making a substantial wage, and it's clear that my parents are proud of him.
Meanwhile, I'm attending university to get a degree in teaching history. I went into this knowing that I probably won't make close to what my brother makes, and am totally okay with it. The issue is that my mom won't stop making comments here and there about my future lack of money.
There have been multiple times where we've been talking, and she's slid in comments about how different my life is going to be if I get a teaching degree. To put in perspective, we're a rather wealthy family with a large house. She is continuing to try to get me to take business classes and switch majors to one that my brother did. I've already told her before that I find it hurtful when she doesn't appreciate what I want to do, and her ver batim answer was that she didn't have to care about what I thought since she and my dad are paying for it.
I've tried asking my dad to talk with her since he is totally fine with what I'm doing, but he doesn't want to start any more issues and basically tells me to do what I want.
Is there any way for me to get her to see that this is what is going to make me happy, money or not, without cutting her entirely out of my personal life?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Mother not respecting my dream job, keeps comparing my future earnings to older brother. Want her to stop but she's adamant. | Mother not respecting my dream job, keeps comparing my future earnings to older brother. Want her to stop but she's adamant. | 301 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My long time crush(29/m) is single, and I(27/f) WANT HIM.
POST: K, so I've had a bit of a crush on this guy for quite a while. He broke up with a girlfriend about 6 months ago, but before I could make my intentions clear (like, before his ex gf moved out) he started seeing someone else. Thats cool, hes a good guy and I value his friendship but I'm not prepared to pine for him.
Then like a month later he was engaged. Yeah. Anyway, in the last week he's broken up with his fiancée, and is available again, (yay!) but has said he wants a good long break before his next relationship, and I agree he needs one. I'm willing to be patient. (I really don't want to be a rebound. see above where I value his friendship.)
But he got snatched up so quickly last time, he really is quite a catch. I'm worried I'll miss the window of opportunity.
So what do I do? I'm tempted to take him aside, kiss the fuck out of him, and tell him to give me a call when he's next ready for a relationship. But that could get awkward and weird. I suspect he wants a fuck buddy relationship, and my hypothalamus is screaming at me that that's a terrible idea. I've loved someone who didn't feel the same way before, and its not fun.
We're both in the poly/kinky group of our little city, neither of us want a monogamous relationship, (I've been in quite a few, its hard, but fun) so ironically enough, if he was still with someone else I wouldn't worried about my feelings, but the fact that he's single and *available* for a proper romantic relationship... my lizard brain is telling me "there be dragons." HELP MEEEEEEEE!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | He's quite a catch and I have competition. He needs time and space after his last relationship. What the hell do I do? | He's quite a catch and I have competition. He needs time and space after his last relationship. What the hell do I do? | 5,377 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] in relationship with my gf [20F] since 1.5 yrs,gf's family is very stubborn to marry her in same caste
POST: From the past 1 and half years we hav been in a relation, with many difficulties i jst made her mind to b in relation wid me.She kept requesting me that her family wont allow all this,though she loved me too,she fell in love couldnt resist herself.We are very happy together and no issues,just one-FUTURE.
Though one and half year has passed,whenever we talk abt our future,it leaves both of us in a doubt.I dont know how to console her.So evertytime we just hav to change the topic and move on with the joy of being together and we just hav decided to b wid each other as long as we can,as we cant change the mentality of our families.I jst dnt knw wat i wil do without her.Sometimes i feel we would hav been better friends than this love and all,and she was right in the beginning not to b in relation.What should i do?
she says she knws her family well,they wont agree for the marriage as they look for money,land and all!M I just unlucky to get birth in lower cast?(though my fanancial conditions are gud,but my family dsnt own any land )
My self concious doesnt allow me to go against our families and live separate.I dnt want a girl to loose her family,her respect,this happens all around and i m jst fed up from all this,the beliefs,the customs i just dont want her to b harmed in any way and love for her family destroyed and can even sacrifice my love for it.
still there are 3-4 years till marriage comes up(i think so).cant say abt her parents,if we tell them soon ,they will marry here smwhere else wdout a second thought.I cant figure out smthng nd cant do anyhting in my life cause of it,i hav still to achieve smthing and become smthing but if all this goes on i cant give her a life she wants nd i cant get mine.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Should i try to be her freind again and forget our love and try to leave her slowly or should i stand wid her confront her family,and start a separate life away from everyone? | Should i try to be her freind again and forget our love and try to leave her slowly or should i stand wid her confront her family,and start a separate life away from everyone? | 4,939 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [22F] boyfriend [24M] keeps physically hurting me ... am I overreacting?
POST: My boyfriend keeps getting physical with me when he's upset. The first time he really injured me was just a few days ago and it took me until tonight to talk to him about it.
He pinched and twisted my fingers until I started crying and asking him "why would you do this to me?". Yes, I was purposely annoying him while he was driving (touching his face) but I thought I was being playful and goofy.
When I brought it up with him tonight he made it clear he meant to hurt me and offered justification rather than an apology. Finally after I explained "You are my boyfriend. You should never want to hurt me. You should feel awful if you hurt me. You should be upset at the thought of me being hurt" he apologized and I thought it had sunk in.
Just a little while ago I was teasing him and he dug his fingers into the back of my head, pushing me down. He did this in front of a mutual friend which makes me think he doesn't realize the gravity of what he's doing.
We do horse around a lot but if someone expresses they are hurt it stops immediately. This feels different. This feels like he's purposely hurting me, even if it's not overly violent.
Am I over reacting? I've never had a boyfriend behave like this with me before. I don't know how to approach this subject considering we **just** talked about it.
We've been together for 2 years and he's never behaved like this in the past but I have no intentions of putting up with this in the future/letting it evolve.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend is hurting me. I've talked to him. He's still hurting me. Am I over reacting? What do I do? | Boyfriend is hurting me. I've talked to him. He's still hurting me. Am I over reacting? What do I do? | 1,530 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I think I'm dating a female player and I'm not totally sure how to play it, can someone explain? details in text.
POST: Whenever she and I have a fight, I just recently found out she always has a different guy she texts/fb chats about and she mentions reminiscing old times with said guy. She is VERY flirty especially when she drinks.
I found out she was flirting with one of her ex hookups over fb chat yesterday and flipped out saying its bullshit and she shouldn't talk to other guys if she wants to date me. She started crying and has been begging me to take her back... I don't know what to do. I don't necessarily think she'd physically cheat on me, but it seems like she has 101 backup guys that she's always talking to.
Anyways we're in some sort of limbo relationship state right now, I'm not sure if I want to keep dating her bc deep down she seems like a player, but that being said, she cares about me a lot considering she started crying when I told her I've had enough.
I don't know what to do Reddit, help me? (also we've been together for 9 months, but the past month shes been distant and started talking to other guys).
TL;DR: . Assistant: | dating a female player is pissing me off, I broke things off but she says she'll change. Idk what to do. | dating a female player is pissing me off, I broke things off but she says she'll change. Idk what to do. | 5,083 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Word got out that I [M36] bought my uncle [M61] a new truck. Now I've got other relatives asking for help. Going to be an awkward Thanksgiving!?
POST: Well, I've gotten myself into a really difficult situation and now I'm looking for a way out!
My uncle's driven the same truck for the past 10 years. He's a hardworking guy and has never asked for a handout. He did an awful lot for me growing up so I wanted to do something nice for him as a way to say thank you. I received my bonus a little early this year and decided to surprise him with a new truck. In all the years I've known him, it was the first time I've ever seen the man cry. It was awesome and I'm glad I did it. He deserved it.
Three of my relatives heard that I bought my uncle a new truck, so now they're expecting me to help them out as well. Each of them have a sob story and have been regularly calling and emailing me to see how I'm doing. I'm not stupid, I know they're only being nice because they want money. The problem is, I'm not going to help them.
We have a huge family, so I know others are going to approach me as well. (They'll probably ask me face to face at Thanksgiving and/or Christmas). Awkward!
Imagine sitting at a huge dining room table and half of the people at table are pissed at you because you won't give them money. Not my idea of fun!
What's the best way to handle this? It's probably inevitable but I don't want to have half of my family pissed off at me. TIA!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Helped out my uncle, now other relatives want help as well. I have to see all of them for the holidays and I'm not sure how to handle it. | Helped out my uncle, now other relatives want help as well. I have to see all of them for the holidays and I'm not sure how to handle it. | 3,884 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M/15] have a crush on a classmate [F/15] and not sure what to do.
POST: I've been interested in this girl for quite some time now(We'll call her Anne, because that's her real name) but I am only recently starting to want a make a move. As a teenager I obviously have no experience talking to women much less people as I don't exactly have a way with words.
The girl in question is in 3 of my classes and we don't usually talk, nor do we sit close enough to start a conversation. In the halls she usually goes the opposite of my way getting to class and never goes to her locker, instead just class to class, followed by her friends, so I can never get her alone. Even when we walk across each other I freeze up and can never say anything, or even look at her, which is mostly my fault and I'm trying to fix that.
However, we do have play practice together but, again, she is surrounded by friends and we have no parts together (unless its dancing with the entire cast).
Basically, how can I start a conversation with this girl? I'd like to get to know her better, even if it takes baby steps. I know this is probably teenage problems but I can't ask my parents since they will (and have) belittle me about it. I'm comfortable talking to girl friends but initiating conversation with a girl I'm interested in and can never have time to talk during class is a whole other thing.
I'm willing to share more information if more is needed.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm into a girl, but can never get her alone except early in the morning for about 3 minutes. What do? | I'm into a girl, but can never get her alone except early in the morning for about 3 minutes. What do? | 354 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What movie has haunted you for years after watching it?
POST: So when I was 6 (11 years ago) I was staying with my Grandma because my parents had left town for a business trip and we decided to watch a movie. So her and my sister left to go find one. They came back after renting a movie and put it in. Now as a kid I was a huge pussy, like scared of his own shadow kind of thing. Now if you had read the Goosbump stories as a little kid you will know they are actually fucked.. well my sister had gotten the movie "The Werewolf of Fever Swamp" and after about 25 minutes of watching the movie I was fucking terrified. My sister got to scared and went upstairs and it was only me sitting on the couch in a dark room shitting my pants. Now I would of gone upstairs but I was to scared to turn my head (yes I was a pussy) fearing that their was a Werewolf sitting right behind me getting ready to eat me as soon as I looked backwards. Now if you have seen the movie then you would know that their is a scene when the character is running from the Werewolf and the Werewolf falls into a pit of quicksand or something. Well I had recurring nightmares until I was 14 from that scene. I would wake up in a swamp and see a Werewolf running at me and I would start to run away, the Werewolf would easily catch me and then try to eat my face and as it went in for the bite I would wake up sweating and terrified. Eventually these went away after I watched the "Haunting of Connecticut" and yes I did go run into my parents room crying about fucking dead people.. oh god how young and innocent and such a huge pussy I was.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I was a huge fucking pussy and fuck Werewolfs and dead people and most of all fuck you Grandma (Still love her) (Kinda) | I was a huge fucking pussy and fuck Werewolfs and dead people and most of all fuck you Grandma (Still love her) (Kinda) | 2,962 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Roommate's boyfriend is over far too often for my liking.
POST: I'm 20(F), flatmate is 19(F). She and I met through a mutual friend last year, and have gotten along very well since then.
When we decided to live together for university (I couldn't afford to pay for my flat alone), I asked her if she would be having people over a lot, because I get very uncomfortable when guests stay overnight, due to anxiety-related issues. She told me that she didn't have guests over often.
We've only been living together since the start of the semester, so maybe about five weeks? In that time, her boyfriend has been over nearly every week (usually in the middle of the week, and stays 2-4 days). I confronted her about a couple of weeks back, asking her if she could have him over less often. Since the month of October is very busy for both of us, I asked if she could make sure that we could have a few weeks without his company. She promised that she would cooperate, but then today, he showed up, supposedly unannounced (this happened last week as well).
Now, he's a really nice guy, so I don't want to be a bitch about it, but I really can't deal with him being over all the time. I understand that since they live in different cities, they would want to visit each other often, but I find it terribly inconsiderate that she lets him spend so much time here, when we agreed about this issue before moving in together. What should I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Roommate's boyfriend has been over far too often for my liking, and even after talking to my roommate, he still continues to come over several days every week. | Roommate's boyfriend has been over far too often for my liking, and even after talking to my roommate, he still continues to come over several days every week. | 3,475 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I'm currently messaging a girl on facebook, and I need some advice
POST: Hi reddit. I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask this sort of question, but I would like some sort of advice on how to go about this situation.
Long story short, I'm basically getting to know this girl that my co-worker was attempting to hook me up with. Unfortunately every time we tried to meet each other, she'd end up not going (she's incredibly shy). This was a problem since I'm now out of the country and in the middle east for vacation with my family. I wanted to meet this girl before I left, but that didn't happen. However, I knew that she was interested in meeting me, so I added her on facebook.
Through that, we've started messaging each other and getting to know each other. She's a pretty cool chick and seems like an incredible match for me. However, it takes a while for her to reply to my messages.
I recently got in touch with my (now ex) co-worker and she's told me that this girl has been talking about me and says that I'm interesting. But she suggests that I hold out on asking her out due to the fact that she might not be over her previous relationship and is currently only looking for a friend. But she told me to keep talking to her and to ask her out just a little bit before I get back home, which makes sense.
But I'm a bit wary, I get friend zoned a lot when it comes to women. I just have that kind of...personality that only attracts friends and not lovers :P I'm just worried on how I'm gonna keep talking to this girl on facebook and sort of....keep away from the whole friendzone deal. I'm still out of the country for at least a month, so the messaging will go on for a while.
So reddit, what advice could you give me? How can I make myself stay away from the friendzone while chatting with this girl whom I've never actually met?
I'm not sure if I worded this whole thing out well, but if there's any questions needed for clarification, please feel free to ask :)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Messaging a really cool chick who may or may not be ready to go into a relationship yet, but is interested in me, as I am with her. How do I not fuck things up? | Messaging a really cool chick who may or may not be ready to go into a relationship yet, but is interested in me, as I am with her. How do I not fuck things up? | 1,696 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend [21M] and I [21F] broke up five days ago after 2.5 years. Still "in a relationship" on Facebook. How long should I wait to change it?
POST: This seems so stupid, but it's stressing me out a lot. I don't want to change it yet because I'm still sad about the relationship ending and I feel like that's the final straw. I've already cleaned his things out of my room, but I just can't bring myself to change the stupid relationship status on Facebook.
What's the best way to do it? Is it okay to give myself some time before I change it, or is ripping off the bandaid the better way to go? He hasn't changed his yet either. Do I let him know I'm going to change it? Is that considerate or seen as too much? He's the one that broke up with me, by the way, but we both recognized that it had to end, I just could never bring myself to do it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How long should I give myself before I have to change my relationship status on Facebook AND do I give him a heads up that I'm doing it? | How long should I give myself before I have to change my relationship status on Facebook AND do I give him a heads up that I'm doing it? | 4,729 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28 M] with my GF [25 F], duration 9 months, girlfriend is hanging out with a guy who likes her and it's making me really jealous
POST: My girlfriend (25) and I (28) started going out about 9 months ago. We moved in together after about a month or so and it didn't work out. We broke up after about 6 months because neither of us were happy. About a month after we broke up we started hanging out again and found that we both still really cared for each other and became FwB. After a couple of those sessions we had a talk about what we were doing and how we were feeling. Long story short we decided that we wanted to make the relationship work and to take it slow. We also told each other the people that we had hooked up with while we were on break so to be completely honest with each other.
One guy she hooked up with really liked her and asked her out. They knew each other through work and initially she thought he was gay (this was when we were dating the first time).
Fast forward to last night she told me that he'd called around 8.30 and they'd spoken on the phone for about 90 minutes, mostly about work, some about me and some about other stuff. I have been really unsettled by this since she told me. She called and we talked about it on the phone but I still can't shake this feeling of jealousy. Thoughts?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend hanging out with guy and I'm getting jealous because I know he likes her and they've hooked up in the past | Girlfriend hanging out with guy and I'm getting jealous because I know he likes her and they've hooked up in the past | 783 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [23/f] I slept with one of my oldest friends [22/m]...now what?
POST: So, I've known the guy for 18 years. We have a lot of shared moments, went to the same schools, stayed in contact since leaving, have laughed, cried, been drunk, know each others' families, know everything about each other. We have no secrets. Having gone a year or so without meeting up since he had been studying abroad, we had lunch, there was suddenly all this amazing chemistry, he was incredibly affectionate, and, long story short, we ended up having some sort of fling. This lasted a few weeks, then he decided he actually quite wanted to pursue another girl. The only reason I agreed to act on the very blatant sexual tension with him was my understanding, based on a lot of things that he had said/talked about, that this could seriously go somewhere, but timing wasn't right. I was hurt beyond belief - he was the first person I'd been intimate with since a serious sexual assault a couple of years ago, and actually, excepting that experience, only the second guy I've ever been with, which he knew about. I really felt like I could trust him. We talked, I explained all this...he is distraught and genuinely sorry for the hurt he has caused me, and I, whilst acknowledging that hurt, have made my forgiveness clear - I've known him long enough and know him well enough to know that this was not at all intentional.
Now looking for advice on how to take our friendship forward. I really truly forgive him, I'm not angry or bitter - just wanting to protect my heart. I told him I needed a few days cold turkey after the conversation we had but now we are back to texting ALL THE TIME (I mean constantly, all day, every day) and I just don't know how to deal with it!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | slept with one of my oldest friends, he was a bit of a dick (unintentionally) and hurt me, neither of us want to lose the friendship. How do I take things forward healthily? | slept with one of my oldest friends, he was a bit of a dick (unintentionally) and hurt me, neither of us want to lose the friendship. How do I take things forward healthily? | 6,055 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [16 F] broke up after 1 year including 4 months in long distance, trying to move on.
POST: So my (now ex) girlfriend dumped me a month and a half ago. She said she needed space and ignored me for a whole month (even thought after 1 week she told her bestfriends she had dumped me) and i had to wait that long for her to SEND ME a message saying it was over (kinda dick move). Anyways thats not the problem anymore. I want to move on because she also said she moved on. I still love her so much even thought I should probably hate her by now for what shes done. So far I told her I wouldnt talk to her for a while but its not enough, I see pics of her on fb going out and partying and shit like that and its reminding me how much i miss her. Its also not helping that if we had still been together Id be flying over to see her in a week for a few days especially since its valentines day, and her birthday.
So here is my final plan, I wana talk to her one of her friends and ask her to make sure shes alright and to make sure that my exgf understands why im cutting all ties with her (unfriend from fb, delete from skype/snapchat/instagram/messages) because she does have a "hard" time in life and sometimes get depressed, i just dont want to make her feel shittier even though i shouldnt care...
I hope this makes sense, any thoughts?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Want to move on from gf by cutting all ties/ asking her friends to make sure that exgf understands and will be fine, good idea? | Want to move on from gf by cutting all ties/ asking her friends to make sure that exgf understands and will be fine, good idea? | 5,809 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Redditors: What do you consider self-defense must-haves?
POST: Context: I'm a woman, one who does quite a bit of walking around my city. It's not an especially high-crime kind of place, and having lived in scarier climes, there's no significant fear on my part of being assaulted. I take the typical common sense precautions of walking in well-lit, high-traffic areas, etc, etc. That said, in the past month I've been followed for over a mile by a man I passed one evening -- he said some offensive things, and it was away we go until I ducked into a restaurant where the staff knew me. There have been a couple of people since then who made comments as I was walking by, and this morning, a man stopped to ask for the time before invading my personal space close enough to kiss, then started stroking my arm. I went shouty on him -- forgetting cultural and societal gender bullshit for a moment, what makes it okay for *anyone* to get up in *any* stranger's face and then start touching them? How is that acceptable? -- and his response was 'girl, I'm sorry, you just remind me of my girlfriend', then some nasty compliments that I guess I was supposed to like.
So my point here is that I am tired of dealing with this behavior. I'll be calling my local police station today to ask them what are acceptable types of equipment I can carry (pepper spray, et al), but I also wanted to hear some opinions from others' personal experience. It's not my intent to shiv some poor schmuck and let him bleed out on the pavement, mind; I just feel like at this point, it's time to be better prepared than steel-toed boots, a fistful of keys, and a willingness to punch.
And just to nip the inevitable in the bud: No, there has been no 'dressing like a [insert your preferred term here]', no inviting of attention. It's just been a handful of people who think it's okay to be an asshole. (Protip: It's not.)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Dudes have been creepy bastards. I'm looking into how one can be prepared In Case Of Emergency. Would v much enjoy others' feedback. | Dudes have been creepy bastards. I'm looking into how one can be prepared In Case Of Emergency. Would v much enjoy others' feedback. | 2,908 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My Father [55M] hates Me [17M] because i'm not the same skin color as him..
POST: Hello. My father married a Brazilian woman, he is white and she is brown. My mom passed away when I was very young, I had one brother and he was white, he got my fathers skin and I got my mothers skin. Ever since I can think, my dad has supported my brother multitude times more than me, I do better than my brother in everything but football which we are both in varsity.. I do more charitable work, I am nicer to my father, I have never cursed at him once, and I can count by fingers how many times I have raised my voice too him where-as my brother constantly cusses at him, loud arguments occasionally, and gets in trouble more...
He never says he loves me, says he loves my brother though... He calls us both '' son '' but says my name halve of the time in a commanding tone, and his friends I think are racist because whenever they are over my dad and his friends talk about and I quote '' niggers '' and '' wetbacks '', and '' coloreds '' .. I have even heard him say '' master race '' before. He has never said this to me, but I just overhear him.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My father is racist, treats me badly compared to my brother for no reason, doesn't like me around his white friends, looks at me like i'm not his son... | My father is racist, treats me badly compared to my brother for no reason, doesn't like me around his white friends, looks at me like i'm not his son... | 2,187 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Having trouble keeping myself from eating all of my calories early in the day.
POST: Hello, I'm looking for some insight into what exactly is happening to me. I should say that over the last two years, I have lost 108 pounds following a low-carb diet plan. I am still on it, and works fine, but in the last couple of months I am always tempted to just eat everything at once.
I don't overeat; once I have eaten all of what I logged into MFP, I am done for the day but around 9pm or so, I am starving and you could hear my stomach from the room next door I swear but I still abstain from eating and just try to ignore it until it is time for bed.
I am increasingly worried that this sort of behavior will become a habit and I'll eventually cave in and start eating more than I should.
I'll add this to my profile (once I figure out how to) but my stats are: F/5'5/146. I recently hurt myself at the gym so I am taking a week off but normally I work out 6 days a week doing a variation of strong lifts. Because I am not going to the gym, I am eating around 1200 right now; normally, around 1500. I don't think it is the food amount that's the issue, just the overwhelming desire to eat all at once.
Anyone have experience this or have any idea of what is happening? Any help would be great!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to eat all my food for the day at once; after I do, I don't eat again, but I get very hungry later in the day. | I want to eat all my food for the day at once; after I do, I don't eat again, but I get very hungry later in the day. | 5,547 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 F] with my parents [50s M/F]. Father is emotionally abusive to my mother-questions
POST: Sorry for wall of text.
This is an issue that has been ongoing for most of my life. My father, while incredibly successful and a great provider, has always been emotionally abusive to my mother. Luckily it has never turned physical (AFAIK), but whenever I visit home, I hear my father scream at and berate my mother for every little thing. For example, my father is an incredibly reckless driver. Whenever my mother comments on something he did that was unsafe, it turns into 2 hours of him screaming at her for constantly criticizing him. He also screams at me and my siblings about mundane things e.g. not cleaning something properly, dropping something, not using utensils correctly (?? who knows).
I'm at a loss at what to do. I absolutely adore my mother and my father is enjoyable to be around when he is not angry, but I'm tired of seeing her screamed at by him. Whenever I bring up this issue, she always tells me that he is working on his temper and has other good qualities. However, my mother consistently tells me that he wasn't like this when she married him and if she had known how he would turn out, she wouldn't have.
I've already told her that when I have children I will be extremely hesitant to leave them alone with my parents. Their relationship has affected my own views on relationships greatly. Beyond that, I'm not sure what I can do. Cut off all contact until she leaves him? Just continue to ignore it for the rest of my life? I have no idea what the protocol is for situations like this.
Any help would be greatly, greatly appreciated. I'm tired of being a passive bystander.
Summary of what he does: demeans her opinions and beliefs, always believes he is right, yells constantly, doesn't care about feelings, constantly makes threats.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My father is emotionally abusive to my mother, with a ridiculous temper. She won't leave him. Advice on what to do as their child. | My father is emotionally abusive to my mother, with a ridiculous temper. She won't leave him. Advice on what to do as their child. | 229 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, my mother stole money from me to ruin my family. What do I do?
POST: Repost because the last one got caught in the spam filter.
So, in February of 2010 when I was 16-17, I was the victim of a screwup at the pharmacy, which landed me in the hospital for about 4 days. I received a decent amount of money for a settlement for the screwup, and it was placed in a bank account with my mom's name on it, to be transfered to me when I turned 18. Starting in January, before my 18th birthday in March, my mother started behaving very nastily towards my father, and eventually filed a restraining order, saying he had become "violent," and "kicked in her door." I never saw any of this. He never raised a hand towards her, even though they argued frequently. He had been sleeping in the garage in the winter to avoid upsetting her, and was asking to sleep in the house. Turns out, she withdrew almost $5000 from my settlement money, to be used for college, to put a down payment on a divorce lawyer the next Monday. Now she's saying to the court that it was a "loan," even though I wasn't even aware of it until months later. I think I'm going to press charges, but I figured I'd ask what everyone else thinks. Theres a lot more to the story I'm probably missing, so if you have any questions, feel free to ask.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My mother was entrusted with my settlement money, and used it to hire a lawyer to start an unnecessarily harsh divorce against my dad. | My mother was entrusted with my settlement money, and used it to hire a lawyer to start an unnecessarily harsh divorce against my dad. | 853 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [15F] like this guy [16M] in my class, but he might think that I hate him
POST: I've talked to the guy that I like quite a few times, but for some reason, today when I was going to get a paper, he was in front of me and he turned around and said, "What, Bianca?" In a way that he was trying to sound like a tough guy, but I knew he was playing.
I didn't say anything, because I didn't really know what to say and I was in kind of a gloomy mood from something that had happened in my previous class, and my terrible mood probably showed on my face, and his friend (who is a girl and I think that they are possibly together because at every chance they get to be near each other, they do) said, "She really hates you."
'NO I DON'T!!!!!!' I screamed in my mind, but I didn't say anything, because again, I didn't know what to say and I didn't want to make it even more awkward, so I just went and sat down. This put me in even worse of a mood, and I think all future communications with him will be ruined.
I was also trying to talk to him more and try to become his friend, but I always lose my words when it actually comes time to go and talk to him. He goes up to me sometimes, but it's never a long conversation, and I'm afraid he won't even do that anymore because of what his friend said. Please tell me how to fix this and how to start our friendship on the right track!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | The guy I like's friend told him that I hated him after I didn't respond to a joke he made (I mean, tbh, it was a pretty lame joke) | The guy I like's friend told him that I hated him after I didn't respond to a joke he made (I mean, tbh, it was a pretty lame joke) | 3,424 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by falling asleep in my bros bed
POST: Alright, so this happened two days ago, on saturday afternoon. To set the scene, I go to a pretty large school in the south and the weekends pretty consist of drinking a lot and socializing. I got to the house where a few of my bros live at around 4 and to kill the time we decided to through a movie on and chill until it was time to start drinking and go out. HBO recently started carrying Bulletproof Monk so we throw that on. Turns out its fucking awful. I end up falling asleep on the end of his bed laying ~~horizontally~~ like a dog.
Falling asleep was the beginning of my fuck up. I briefly remember a nightmare of being chased by some hellacious creature, I turn back to look at it while running, but cannot find it. I look forward. BANG I hit something.
So I come to stumbling up the stairs of my bud's house with a massive headache, not knowing what the fuck has happened to me. I rub my head (much to my chagrin it feels like its been beaten worse Denver in the super bowl last year) and find my hand covered in blood. I basically fall into the living room where all my friends are drinking and ask what the hell is going on and what happened. I simply can't talk and am concussed as fuck. I walk into the bathroom to find a major gash at the top of my head and blood all down my face. The next thirty minutes is comprised of me being in complete shock, not knowing where I am, and wondering what happened to me. I finally gather myself and start cutting up with my friends. This is when the guy who's room I fell asleep in walks through the front door holding a golf club... Not pointing fingers, but seriously, i'm suspicious now.
**TIFU** by falling asleep on a bed doggy style, having my best friend hit me in the head with his golf club and being majorly concussed.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Fell asleep on the end of a bed, had a nightmare, probably rolled off the bed, split my head open, and got a major concussion. | Fell asleep on the end of a bed, had a nightmare, probably rolled off the bed, split my head open, and got a major concussion. | 531 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hey Reddit, I've got very severe lower back/sciatic nerve pain. Any tips/tricks/help from fellow redditors?
POST: So here's basically what's going on:
I hurt my back about 4 weeks ago by carrying around 50 pounds in a messenger bag slung sideways over my shoulder. I am having very severe and crippling pain which has moved almost 90% from my lower back down into my buttocks/hamstrings. I am going to a chiropractor three times per week and doing physical therapy there and I'm also being hooked up to a muscle stimulus machine (electrode device).
I am in constant pain and can't move/sleep/stand for more than fifteen minutes at a time. I can't bend down, lay down, bend sideways, anything. Nothing I have done has eased the pain in nearly 4 weeks. I'm driving my girlfriend nuts and I feel quite helpless. I haven't been out of the house but only five times (minus the chiropractor visits) in the past four weeks.I also start back to University on Monday and I have absolutely no clue how thats going to go down.
Has anyone else here suffered with this? My mother had sciatica and her episode lasted for nearly three months. There's no way I can endure this for another 8 weeks.
Here's what I've done so far: ice, Advil, physical therapy, rest, pillows under legs and back while resting and laying down. tonight I am trying to sleep in a recliner which perhaps seems to be helping a tiny bit.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have sciatic nerve pain thats awful and is constantly at 8 or 9/10 on the pain scale. Do you have any tips or helpful hints for me to ease the pain and make recover faster? | I have sciatic nerve pain thats awful and is constantly at 8 or 9/10 on the pain scale. Do you have any tips or helpful hints for me to ease the pain and make recover faster? | 34 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what is a good toy to keep a dog happy & quiet?
POST: As a cat person, I do not know much about dogs. Everyday when my neighbors leave for work, they leave their dog outside with food and water and some rope toy. The issue is that my Dad works from home, and the dog barks and whines for the 8 hours his owners are gone, disrupting my Dad's phone conferences. We've nicely asked our neighbors to handle it twice now, and they haven't, so I need your help Reddit. What toy can I buy and throw over the fence for this poor puppy to make him quite and happy? I considered dog treats, but I don't know if he has any specific dietary needs. Thanks for the help!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Neighbors dog barks for 8 hours a day disrupting phone conferences, what toy can I get to make him happy and keep him from barking? | Neighbors dog barks for 8 hours a day disrupting phone conferences, what toy can I get to make him happy and keep him from barking? | 2,691 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I(F23) can't seem to let people get to know me. Beginning to be a problem for a budding relationship with (M27)
POST: This is a bit difficult to explain. I have no problem with anyone getting to know me as a.. concept. I'm completely open about my opinions and general personality traits - but I have a problem sharing anything else. I've never been in a relationship, never really had a loving relationship with my family and have kept all my hobbies, thoughts and feelings to myself since I went through a bout of depression between the ages of 8 and 17.
So basically, I don't really feel like I'm a person to others. My passions, interests, hobbies, everything I do is mine, and I keep it to myself.
Now there's this guy, and I have a feeling it might turn into something. We've been seeing each other for 2 months, and I think he likes most of what he knows about me - but he doesn't really know me. I know him extremely well though, and I like him a lot. Which makes it even harder to let him in - because the more he knows about me, the more is there he might dislike about me.
How do I get over this stupid hangup? I'm totally lost here. And I don't really have anyone to turn to, because no one actually knows me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Never let anyone get to know me as a person, because I've kept everything that makes me a person to myself. Don't want to do that anymore. What do I do? | Never let anyone get to know me as a person, because I've kept everything that makes me a person to myself. Don't want to do that anymore. What do I do? | 6,315 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend (26M) of 3.5 years has cheated on me (21F) three times. I don't know what to do.
POST: My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years and we are each others best friends. We live together in a 1 bed room apartment. And he's just my world. Other than him cheating on me we have a really good relationship. We can talk about anything, and I trust him with everything.
He first cheated on me within the first few months of us being together. There were some girls that he sexted before we got together that he just never stopped sexting. One day he left his email open and I saw all the pictures that he had sent from his phone to his email. I guess to save them for later. I confronted him, he apologized, and said it would never happen again. His explanation for it was that his previous girlfriend wouldn't let him watch porn so he felt like he was still retaliating. I knew we weren't super serious so I decided to forgive him and move on.
After being together for almost 2 years he went out with about 6 of his male friends to a party. Apparently, he spent all night dancing and making out with a chick there. The next day he came clean to me about it. He said that he was really drunk and he felt guilty about it. He said that he wanted to tell me (even though I would have never found out) because I deserved to know. Still, I forgave him, and I just wanted to move past it.
Last night, he told me that a week ago when he was at a bar with his friends he wound up kissing a girl. He said he doesn't know who she was, and that he was incredibly drunk, and kind of out of it.
I just. I don't get it. I try so hard to understand that people make mistakes. I try to be the best girlfriend that I can. He's left me throughout the years of us being together feeling inadequate. I have to struggle with my self esteem because of the things he has done.
I don't know what to do. I just. I'm at such a loss.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Dated 3.5 years. Partner has cheated 3 times. I know I should break up but I don't know if another chance is worth it. | Dated 3.5 years. Partner has cheated 3 times. I know I should break up but I don't know if another chance is worth it. | 3,845 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Help I [23/M] made the worst mistake of my life. GF [23/F](serious)
POST: I fucked up. I have been with my gf for 4 years and I was happy. I just threw all of that away 2 nights ago. I was drinking with some coworkers and it was this one coworker. I instantly regretted it and the morning of I told my gf my mistake. She cried and just ran out. I myself hate cheating too. I have a biological father who did that to my mother and I fucking did the same thing. She's on the other coast right now we were suppose to go together but I fucked up the previous night. We were planning on moving in together in September but I fucked it up. We haven't talked since she left. She said were on a break right now and we'll talk when she comes back in a week. I hate myself so much that I think the only way to make this right is if I just end myself so I can never hurt her again. I tried twice. My biggest fear right now is even if she takes me back it won't be remotely similar to what we had before. I don't think she'll be happy like that. I honestly don't know what will happen and I don't know if I can live with the results.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I cheated on my longtime girlfriend who I saw my future with. I'm scared and hate myself. I love her. | I cheated on my longtime girlfriend who I saw my future with. I'm scared and hate myself. I love her. | 454 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [25f] just found something REALLY disgusting this morning that my boyfriend [26m] left in the living room.
POST: I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we've been living together for the past few months. Now, generally I've come to accept him for being a 'guy' and not cleaning up after himself. He has got a lot better at it though so I'll give him that. Anyway, this morning I went downstairs as usual to clean up a bit and when I went to pick up the remote off the floor I noticed a white mcdonalds cup sitting next to the chair. Thinking it was just a left over drink I went to go dump it in the sink only to realize that there was piss in the cup. I'm not sure how long it was sitting behind the chair but it smelled REALLY bad. It was pretty much full with ashes at the bottom of it [he smokes]. I don't really know how to go about talking to him about this or how to even bring it up. Advice anyone?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Found boyfriends piss cup behind a chair in the living room. Not sure how to ask him about it? REALLY grossed out. | Found boyfriends piss cup behind a chair in the living room. Not sure how to ask him about it? REALLY grossed out. | 3,903 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: I feel responsible for my ex's life decisions, should I?
POST: So about 5 year I dated a girl while I was in collage, things were great and she was a really nice girl. She seemed to have her life set out, finishing collage, getting a job, settling down, etc.
Fast forward 2 years and things arnt going to good anymore, we argue alot, mainly becuase she slowly began to stop me seeing friends, so I do what any sane man does, break up with her.
Im not a dick about it, but I tell her my true feelings, and at the time the break seems fairly well taken, aside from tears (from both of us mind).
Anyway, after the innitial couple days, it must have sunk in more and she takes the break up hard in the end. After a month of skipping classes she drops out of collage to get a job waitrissing, while moving in with her new boyfriend. According to her friends she has started smoking, drinking heavily, and doing drugs.
Of course I dont have any say in what she does, and everyone goes on benders from time to time. Its not until I find out shes pregnant, at the age of 18/19, that I start feeling like this all happened becuase of me.
If I had never broken up with her she would have finish collage, and would probobly be alot better of than she is now. To this day I still feel responsible.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Broke up with my girlfriend, her life went to shit, she is now 23 with a 4 year old kid, waitressing with her fiancé that she hates. Is it my fault? | Broke up with my girlfriend, her life went to shit, she is now 23 with a 4 year old kid, waitressing with her fiancé that she hates. Is it my fault? | 2,949 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (27m) am advancing in life. Fiance (27f) isn't keeping up. Don't know what to do.
POST: I (27/m) have recently graduated college and got a great job in a new city. For the first time in my life I'm actually successful... I make good money, rent out a great place in a good neighborhood and saving for a house now, I stay in shape by working out, everything is going great. However my fiance (27/f) isn't keeping up. She only has her associates degree and since we started dating (3.5 years ago) has only taken one college class. She doesn't have any goals either personally or professionally. I've tried communicating to her the importance of having goals but she won't listen. She sleeps 9 hours a day and just wants to watch Netflix and drink after work, which was cool in college, but not so much now. Now that we live in a more expensive place she can barely pay her half of the rent, I'm stuck with getting food and anything else we need. I've tried telling her that this is a problem but nothing ever changes. I don't know what to do. I really love her but I don't want to live the rest of my life with a partner that acts like this. She's the only gf I've ever had as well, I don't even know how to break up. I don't know what to do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm going after it and building my life, fiance is awesome but not keeping up/ helping herself. PlzHalp | I'm going after it and building my life, fiance is awesome but not keeping up/ helping herself. PlzHalp | 5,796 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: When I die in a dream (such as the typical falling off a cliff) I dont immediately wake up, but rather fully experience the death. Is this common? Is there some psychological explanation?
POST: I have only started experiencing "death" in my dreams in the last year or so. Each time it happens, it's the kind if dream where I have absolutely no idea it's a dream, it feels real. They fascinate me, always the most interesting dreams I have, and I'm curious if they mean anything from a psychological standpoint.
The first time I got shot in the back of the head, which at first felt like a hard impact and warm/hot sensation. In the dream it took me a few seconds to realize I had been shot. I felt blood on my neck and my vision started going black and my thoughts got blurry until everything went quiet and black and then I woke up. I even looked up what getting shot in the head is supposed to feel like, and the descriptions fairly matched mine.
Last week was an interesting one where I was on a charter bus with a bunch of people touring some place with a volcano. The volcano started to erupt, sending lava down the hillside toward us. We tried to drive away, but then a larger explosion started which enveloped us in seconds. I just watched the fire and lava shooting toward me, accepting that I would die in less than a second, simultaneously feeling curious about what it would be like. I remember the moment the wall hit the bus, shattering the glass inward, and obliterating everything, but all I really sensed was a sudden impact too great to register anything else, and then and empty senseless blackness. This time the dream continued. I thought to myself "so I guess I'm dead. I guess there's nothing when you die. Except I'm still thinking, I still have consciousness, that's weird." At which point I started to feel more sensation, my body came back to me, a light started to fill the void, and I thought maybe it was an afterlife, a heaven of some kind I was going to. Turned out I just woke up.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | fascinating and realistic dreams of death and even after death (gunshot to the head, pyroclastic flow of doom), what do they mean? Does anyone else have them? | fascinating and realistic dreams of death and even after death (gunshot to the head, pyroclastic flow of doom), what do they mean? Does anyone else have them? | 2,248 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girlfriend lied to me.. not sure what to do
POST: Hi Reddit.
Me (M 23)
Her (F 19)
Been together for about 6 months.
I'll cut straight to the chase. Yesterday I dropped my girlfriend at the train station so she could go to Melbourne to do some shopping. I received a text message from her a few hours later that she was on the train home and that her aunty would be picking her up and she would be staying at her cousins house as she had had a fight with her mum and didn't want to go home. She said she was in bed and was going to sleep. I said that was fine. This morning, I found that my phone deleted most of my contacts during the night, including my girlfriends number. I messaged her cousin this morning and told her to tell my girlfriend to message me when she woke up. I then found out that my girlfriend wasn't there, and didn't stay there the night at all.
I messaged my girlfriend asking what the fuck was going on and where she really stayed. She then told me that she stayed at another cousins house in Melbourne since her mum had told her to find somewhere else to live and that she didn't want me to worry about it. (I should add that her ex lives in Melbourne, who she still talks to and has a kid with).
I don't trust her, and I have no way of knowing whether she's telling the truth or not. She's lied to me before. Should I get out now? If she really has been kicked out of home, I hate the thought of adding to her troubles by leaving her. I've never broken up with someone, and I hate the thought of hurting someone.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend lies a lot, and last night lied to me about where she was staying. Don't know what to do. | Girlfriend lies a lot, and last night lied to me about where she was staying. Don't know what to do. | 4,994 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: I'm embarking on a journey of fate. Tips? (x-post from AskReddit)
POST: I am a 23 year old who graduated from college in 2010 with no clue about what I wanted to do with my life and have yet to apply for a single job. After spending the last year burdened by family duties and slipping into a deep depression, I am in desperate need for an adventure. I am tired of sitting at home wallowing in depression and letting my family suck what little energy I have left in me. So I'm bustin outta this joint.
I've decided to start in my hometown in California and attempt to hitchhike/CouchSurf/wwoof my way down to South America. I am not making any definite plans and I am open to going just about anywhere while loosely attempting to head south. I hope to CouchSurf as much as possible, but part of the adventure for me is to have the freedom and flexibility of no plans so that may be difficult since I will not have a schedule.
My original plan was to fly to somewhere in Central America and start from there, but I just can't afford the flight. Which brings up another issue: I am leaving with only hundreds of dollars to my name. My plan is to try to find a little work along the way to keep me going when I can't find a free ride, food or place to stay. Any tips on how to do something like that is appreciated. I would also really love to do some volunteer work along the way.
I have never done anything like this so any tips are appreciated. And yes, I do know that it is a crazy idea but I will go mad if I spend another year at home in this useless fog. I plan to read as much as I can on the topic before I go and hopefully I will also find useful advice from Reddit!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Fed up with my current life, hitchhiking South from California to South America going pretty much wherever fate takes me. Tips? Ideas? Advice? | Fed up with my current life, hitchhiking South from California to South America going pretty much wherever fate takes me. Tips? Ideas? Advice? | 2,692 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I (34m) break off engagement with her (24f) over her reaction to my cat's passing?
POST: My fiancee, whom I've been with for just over three years, and I have had a number of fights recently, but I've chalked them up to growing pains, and the fact that she's from an emotionally abusive household. However, I feel that she's been cruel to me now, and I'm not sure if I should try to move past it or if it should be a dealbreaker.
I had a cat, and my fiancee didn't like her. Whatever - some people don't like cats (my mother was terrified of them and would go out of her way to avoid them...something about her having seen an uncle get mauled by one when she was a child...)
The kitty died the day before yesterday, and it's left me very distraught. Not only did I love the cat, but I inherited her from my aunt, who passed away just over four years ago. I'm so sad about it. I told my fiancee about it yesterday morning, and she said she was sorry about it.
I didn't talk to the fiancee all day yesterday, but when we did talk in the evening, she was in a bad mood and just said that she didn't see why I'd get so worked up over a cat. I told her I thought she was being uncaring, and she said, essentially, "I don't need this," and hung up. We talked again, and she told me she thought I was telling her how to feel when I told her that she should try to be a nice, supportive person regardless of how she felt about the cat, or if she understood it or not.
Now I haven't talked to her since then.
What should I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My cat died, and fiancee acted very dismissive and hasn't been remotely comforting. Could she really be marriage material? | My cat died, and fiancee acted very dismissive and hasn't been remotely comforting. Could she really be marriage material? | 4,954 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 F] with my BF [26 M] 5 years, I'm no longer sexually attracted to him
POST: My boyfriend and I have been together 5 years, we met in college and had one year together since then we've been long distance going from seeing each other every month for a weekend to now we have 7hrs between us and we see each other every 4-6 months. I will be graduating (Masters degree) in June and we had planned for me to move down to where he lives.
I truly love my boyfriend but our relationship has become stagnant, he's been depressed for a while and started taking meds for it (relevant in a bit), he seems to think that everything will be great when we're living together but the last two times I saw him (Christmas and Thanksgiving) had me reconsidering my relationship. He got absurdly drunk at two events we attended and it was mortifying, he stated it's because he's stressed, depressed and knew we would be parting soon, again.
Bluntly, I am not attracted to my boyfriend sexually right now. Sex with him was a chore the last two times we saw each other (if I'm completely honest it's always not been the best), he couldn't finish because of his meds. Usually he can't finish inside me for whatever reason and instead jacks off which does nothing to make me feel desirable in this relationship.
I love him but I question how well I know him, he is very closed-off and whenever I have pointed out concerns/issues he says it'll be better when we live together...
How do I fix this? I don't know what to do. My entire adult life so far has been tied up in this guy. I love him deeply but I feel dread at the thought of a lifetime of our current relationship/sex life. I tried to keep this concise, if you have any questions I can answer them in the comments.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I love my boyfriend deeply, we are long distance, barely see each other, our relationship is stagnant and I find myself no longer attracted to him. How do I fix this? | I love my boyfriend deeply, we are long distance, barely see each other, our relationship is stagnant and I find myself no longer attracted to him. How do I fix this? | 445 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Not sure what to do in this situation. Would love some help from Reddit.
POST: Hi reddit. I'm a 20 years old male and I would love some advice, I'm sorry if this is the wrong subreddit to post this.
I will start out with the background info.
I recently got out of a long relationship and the reason it fell apart basiclly was that there was a rumor that said I hooked up with one of my closest friends which is a girl lets call her Emma. This never happend, both Emma and I got a lot of shit because of it in both our reletionships. My relationship failed when my GF was deadset that this rumor was the truth and cheated on me because of it as a sort of payback. I can not deny that there is a attraction between Emma and me, but we have never acted on it. Emma just got out her relationship aswell because she got tired of her BF being a douche about this rumor.
The problem
Emma and I always sort of hanged out with other friends when we both had a partner. But I got a text from Emma tonight asking if we should hang out just the two of us tomorrow night playing video games, watching movies and drink some. This will propbably lead to us hooking up and I would not be far out by saying it will probably lead to sex aswell. I would also not be far out by saying this will lead us to becoming fuck friends aswell. While I can honstley say that I have fantasized about having sex with her, now that the opportunity has presented itself I'm not sure what to do.
One part of me wants to have sex with her and see how it is since it ruined my relationship and I wouldn't mind having her as a fuck friend(she is smoking hot). But another part of me wonders if this will make it akward to stay friends, I really treasure her as one of my best friends and I really don't want to lose her as my friend because of this.
And that is my problem Reddit, what do you guys think I should do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm afraid of losing a friend by becoming fuck friends with her, yet I want to have sex with her to see how it is to have it. What to do in this situation Reddit? | I'm afraid of losing a friend by becoming fuck friends with her, yet I want to have sex with her to see how it is to have it. What to do in this situation Reddit? | 1,598 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] with my GF [22 F] of 3 years, no sex and considering a breakup
POST: This past weekend my girlfriend of three years went to her college homecoming and I spent the weekend at home. On Saturday I found myself extremely bored and all of my friends were busy, so I went for a drive to kill time until one of them could hang later.
During this drive I just listened to music and thought....
I recognized that I hate being home and really want to go live life because I'm 22. I wanna live back in the city (where college was) with my friends and have tons to do again. I'm just becoming very unhappy at home and as I'm applying for tons of jobs, just want to make sure that I don't pass up any decisions or opportunities.
My GF of three years works for her family's business and plans to continue it with no real flexibility on leaving the area. We have been very close friends for around 8 or 9 years now and started dating 3 years ago. I've been starting to get frustrated because we still haven't had sex yet and now that we are both living at home again there is pretty much 0 alone time. I think that the living situation is making me more frustrated about no sex and the entire relationship, but with my new feelings towards my own life, I feel like our relationship has hit quite the standstill and we've grown apart or differently. I'm now noticing major differences with our interests and what's important to us individually.
I love my girlfriend, and care about her a lot. Our relationship has been great, but considering everything I'm feeling, I'm curious if it's still the best thing for me? I don't necessarily want to break up, but I sure as hell don't want to miss opportunities or throw away my 20's in my hometown. Between this and no-sex, I just don't know if I can go on doing this.
The whole thing has me feeling really confused, upset, worried and nervous. I'm not sure what to do or how to handle it. Part of me feels like I should wait and see where I get a job or plan to live before making any decisions because with that might come improvement to our relationship, but I'm just looking for some advice and opinions...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Not sure what to do with my life. Currently living at home but want to move back into a city. GF of 3 years isn't open to re-locating and I'm not sure if this is what I want anymore. | Not sure what to do with my life. Currently living at home but want to move back into a city. GF of 3 years isn't open to re-locating and I'm not sure if this is what I want anymore. | 771 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: [Serious] how to respond to, "why did you leave your last job?"
POST: My wife is leaving her job because she just can't take it any longer. It's a large corporation (10,000+ employees) and they've been doing a ton of downsizing. Her department used to have 8 people and it's down to 2, and the 2 people are expected to do the work of 8. Between that and them harassing her after taking 4 days off for FMLA (we are foster parents and had a newborn placed with us) she tried contacting HR to get some help with all of the bullying. HR said there was nothing they could do, but they would reach out to her bosses. After that things got even worse and she put in her notice. The next day after her notice was put in they informed her it would be her last day, but they would pay her through the last day she put on her notice.
She has a job interview today and you know the question usually comes up: why are you leaving your current job? How on earth does she answer this? She doesn't want to seem like she's going to be a lot of drama, and she doesn't want to say something negative.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My wife was in an environment where bosses were making her miserable. She has an interview this afternoon. How does she respond to, "why are you leaving your current job," without setting herself up for failure during the interview? | My wife was in an environment where bosses were making her miserable. She has an interview this afternoon. How does she respond to, "why are you leaving your current job," without setting herself up for failure during the interview? | 491 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: To what extent are S/O responsible?
POST: Sorry for asking reddit for relationship advice. However this one blows me away and I am not sure what else to do. BACKGROUND:My girlfriend and I have been dating for awhile. We typically see each other every night but on one occasion I hung out with friends an hour later than I had anticipated so we were unable to. I sent a text apologizing for losing track of time and response was sent a picture of the results of her cutting herself.
This has never happened before but obviously makes me question the relationship! At what point are significant others responsible? I care about her but if not hanging out leads to cutting I am scared that what will result from ending the relationship.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Apologized for losing track of time. Received the result picture of cutting herself. I dont know what to do and am scared of what could result if I end it. | Apologized for losing track of time. Received the result picture of cutting herself. I dont know what to do and am scared of what could result if I end it. | 5,778 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Just broke up with my [20F] boyfriend [21M] of three and a half years, I'm lonely and heartbroken. Help?
POST: We were together for three and a half years. Our personalities are both very head-strong and it was the first very serious relationship that each of us had so we lacked communication and argued to the point where it was unhealthy.
Despite all of that, we were each other's best friends. We had so much in common and traveled and made so much memories together. We grew up together and were by each other's sides through the trials and tribulations. We didn't have friends in common because we hung out with different groups of people therefore we spent a ton of time together. I would even say we were codependent on each other. We both drifted apart from our friends until the point where it would just be us two. Maybe we lasted longer than we did because we were both scared of being lonely.
We both agreed that while our love was something very special, it was also extremely unhealthy. I have no ill will towards him and his love was something that was inspiring yet humbling. Wherever life takes me in the future, I will forever blessed to have experienced a love like this. Our relationship just got to the point where it became just a very toxic environment to be apart of.
Now that we're no longer together, it is very lonely. I have so much free time now and so much emptiness that I don't know how to fulfill it with. There are times where I'll hear a song or run across something that we used to do together and I'll feel a pit in my stomach. It's been a month and it hasn't gotten easier.
I don't have many friends. However, I'm moving out of state in six months (another big reason why we broke up) so that is something to look forward to. I'm not in college but will be attending a trade school of sorts. It's just the time between now and then that is so crippling for me to think of. What can I do to get rid of this pain?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | had my first serious relationship, it became toxic so we ended it on good terms but now i'm dealing with missing him and lack of friends so a lot of loneliness. how do i deal? | had my first serious relationship, it became toxic so we ended it on good terms but now i'm dealing with missing him and lack of friends so a lot of loneliness. how do i deal? | 6,137 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [26M] broke up with my girlfriend [32F] several weeks ago, am still fine about it but today something strange happened.
POST: So I have been single again for some weeks now and recently made some improvements in my life that really lifted my spirits the last 2 - 3 weeks.
To clarify, I broke up with her because I didn't reciprocate the feelings she had towards me in the same way and felt it would have been dishonest to continue the relationship on that basis.
I was actually really fine with the breakup and the few times that I thought about it I never regretted my decision.
Today this strange thing happened: I was walking on the sidewalk when I saw her riding past me on her bike (without noticing me, I think) and the good mood that I had maintained for some time now seemed to just drain away and leave me feeling kind of empty. Suddenly all the (in my book) vast improvements in my life and attitude towards myself lost their shine, so to speak.
It is not like I wanted her back or anything, I am still sure breaking up was the right thing and I feel still fine with it.
Where is this coming from?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Broke up with gf, was fine with it, turned parts of my life around for the better, seeing her again made positive changes feel meaningless. | Broke up with gf, was fine with it, turned parts of my life around for the better, seeing her again made positive changes feel meaningless. | 2,532 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: HOA vs. street parking at my in-home daycare
POST: Hi all,
My son attends a fabulous in-home daycare. Apparently, however, his wonderful, sweet caregiver is being harassed because I *gasp* parked on the street (as opposed to in the driveway) for (I timed it) ...108 seconds this morning. Less than 2 minutes. There was already a car in the driveway dropping off another child and I didn't want to block her in, as I know the mom and I know we both have the same time requirement for when to be at school. My husband with a more flexible schedule typically drops my son off, so it's not usually a big deal to wait. Anyhoo...it's not a gated community. It's a public street. Is that even legal for this guy to call and harass her? (Apparently this has happened with other parents and I mean, dude, get a life. Like does he stare out his window and just look for cars parked on the street? He must have. Total glassbowl, apparently.) Add to this the fact that there are *always* work trucks parked on the street because they're doing someone's lawn, or it's someone's housecleaning service. Right, OK, so it's cool for lawn guys to park huge-ass trucks on the street for hours at a time but my 4 door sedan being parked for less than 2 minutes is a crisis.
He apparently threatened to call the county to complain about her not paying proper taxes (which she does) and all kinds of other nonsense. Seriously, he's off his rocker about this. But is it legal? He's a realtor, so his info is publicly available. I really want to contact him and tell him that if my car is so terribly inconveniencing to him, he should speak to *me* about it instead of cowering behind stupid threats and harassing a sweet woman who watches babies all day.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Glassbowl neighbor of my in-home daycare provider is harassing her because I parked on the street for less than 2 minutes this morning. Can he seriously do this? | Glassbowl neighbor of my in-home daycare provider is harassing her because I parked on the street for less than 2 minutes this morning. Can he seriously do this? | 4,525 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20M] with my mother [41F] , We always fight at home. Did moving out repair your relationship with your parents?
POST: My mother and I always fight. I guess it's just her nature to be irrational and extremely dramatic. If things don't go her way she throws a fit like a child. She gets angry really quickly and once she has made an assumption she refuses to hear any explanation. Once I burnt a pancake while making breakfast. She emerges from the room angry+screaming + crying and tells me if the house gets burnt down she will make sure I go to jail.This one time when I was a kid she punched and slapped me in front of everyone because I didn't do homework. That night she "mocked kick out" me. She threw call my clothes in the backyard and I slept there until my dad arrived and saved me. I still get nightmares from that. There is a LOT more instances that I cannot enumerate. It would take me forever.
I am moving out for college this Saturday. School starts September but I am leaving early. Despite this week being my last,the fights never died down. This time dad isn't around to be the referee since he currently works in a different city. As always I am the bad guy again and she is the good. I still love her but we cannot live together in the same house. Our personalities don't click. I am hoping that moving out will repair what we have since we will be on equal footing and I won't be subbordinate to her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Mother and I fight a lot and don't click living in thecsame house. Did moving out help you repair your relationship with your parent? | Mother and I fight a lot and don't click living in thecsame house. Did moving out help you repair your relationship with your parent? | 1,344 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: When has your day turned out least like you have expected?
POST: Today I thought I was just going to go to class and write a paper. However, my day went wild from the very beginning.
The first crazy thing that happened was the seizure. I was sitting in 8 am class with everyone really tired when I look across from me and see that this girl is sleeping. She looks really into it, leaning all the way back in her chair, head flopped back and everything. It even sounds like she's snoring.
However, when one of my classmates tries to wake her up, nothing happens. Meanwhile the snoring is getting more and more guttural. It starts to sound less like snoring and more like a growling dog. Suddenly her head snaps up and she starts staring right into my eyes, with the most contorted face I have ever seen. Her hands are knotting and her skin is going blue. She snapped out of it after about 30 seconds, but during that time I saw why people used to think epilepsy was caused by possession.
After that I come back to my room and try to do homework. However, physics is a bitch, and I can't get her face out of my mind. It was easily one of the scariest things I have ever seen. I decide to go on reddit to distract myself. After a couple hours of wading through delicious blue links, I hear a really loud banging on the door. The person across the hall was practically falling onto my door. He had just started to lose hearing and sight, as well as feeling incredibly dizzy. I walk him downstairs to the RAs, but no one is there. Then we try to go to the health center, but they are closed as well. Finally I have to call the campus police to get help. Then I walk back to my room and just sat around wondering at what was going on. Needless to say, my paper has not been finished.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I started today expecting to write a paper and ended up with one seizure and having to help one person to campus safety. Didn't even start the paper. | I started today expecting to write a paper and ended up with one seizure and having to help one person to campus safety. Didn't even start the paper. | 1,840 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [23F] jealousy is ruining my relationship with my SO [27 M]... or do I actually have a reason to be concerned?
POST: My SO and I have been together almost a year. Right before we met, he had a very bad breakup with his ex. They dated and lived together for 2 years and she cheated on him multiple times. She was very manipulative, and he's actually teared up when talking about their relationship because of how much it hurt him. He basically had to uproot from the city they both lived in and move to another state because he couldn't be that close to her anymore.
Fast forward to now, a year later. He and his ex have reconciled their differences and talk frequently. I have never considered myself to be a jealous person, but there's something about her that makes me sick. When I see he's been on the phone with her, I just get so unbelievably upset. He tells me time and time again that it's over between them, but I just can't figure out how he could have forgiven her this fast for everything. They text frequently, g chat at work, and talk on the phone at least once a week. I've met her once, and he had to ask her permission if it was okay to bring me to a party that she would be attending.
I really don't want to be a jealous and controlling girlfriend.... but I can't help but feel there's something going on that I don't know about? He always seems so excited to talk to her. He praises how funny she is and how she just totally gets him. Whenever he has a big issue, he talks to her and not me.
Every time I've mentioned this to him, he gets defensive and mentions how he just needs someone to talk to every once in a while. I talk to my roommates when I'm having a relationship problem, so why can't he talk to his friends?
I feel totally stuck.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My SO still talks frequently to his exGF, who cheated on him multiple times. Am I being crazy that this upsets me? | My SO still talks frequently to his exGF, who cheated on him multiple times. Am I being crazy that this upsets me? | 4,399 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Charles Schwab vs Vangaurd Target Retirement
POST: Long story short - I recently started investing into a Roth IRA account. To be specific a Target Retirement Fund that will mature over time as I grow closer to retirement age. Due to a recommendation from a coworker, I opened up the account through Charles Schwab and have already transferred an invested $3,000 into the Target Fund.
However, I've since learned that Vanguard has an identical account as the one I chose through Schwab, and the fee's are less and the YTD returns are more. Here are the number differences:
*Charles Schwab 2055 (SWORX) Net Expense Ration 0.73% / YTD Earnings 2.97%
*Vanguard 2055 (VFFVX) Fees & Expenses 0.18% / YTD Earnings 6.95%
My question is - how easy is it to switch from one fund to the other, and is it even worth the hassle?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Got a Schwab Target fund instead of Vanguard for IRA, but the Vanguard has better year to date returns and less fees associated with the fund. How do I switch, and is it even worth it? | Got a Schwab Target fund instead of Vanguard for IRA, but the Vanguard has better year to date returns and less fees associated with the fund. How do I switch, and is it even worth it? | 3,113 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [24 M] girlfriend [23 F] of five months lied to me about her previous sexual experiences.
POST: I've been dating my girlfriend for five months and things have generally been going well. When we first began dating, my girlfriend told me that she had slept with another guy "recently". I was okay with it since it was all in the past.
We recently got into a small argument and it came up that she had actually slept with him only a few days before we met. I was slightly more jealous but again, it all happened in the past, so I let it go.
HOWEVER, after some investigation and asking her again, I discovered that she actually slept with him during the first week we met (we went on dates for a week and began officially dating the second week). I was furious. She profusely apologized and promised never to lie again. She said she lied because she was afraid I would get angry and break up with her. She also says she cut off all contact with him and never really wanted to sleep with him in the first place (since she had just met me) but he just kept insisting and they had been FWB in the past. I don't know what to think. Should I let it pass? Do I have a right to be angry?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend says she slept with guy before she met me. Turns out, she slept with him the first week we met. How should I react? | Girlfriend says she slept with guy before she met me. Turns out, she slept with him the first week we met. How should I react? | 2,311 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: Tifu by going to work today
POST: Okay, so this is my first post and I'm doing it from my phone.
I work at an animal clinic and I had to work Saturday which is where this tifu starts, I guess. These two dogs came in Friday afternoon to board and their parents brought them a bed each. They were super nice and expensive beds. Saturday around noon, one of the receptionists called me into the kennel to show me that one of the dogs had destroyed one of the beds. We had a few laughs, I took some pictures, and then I cleaned it up and didn't think about it again. Today their parents came to get them and the same receptionist that worked the weekend with me pulled me to the front to show the parents the picture of the massacred bed.
This is where I fucked up.
I have a boyfriend that lives in Australia. Sometimes, I like taking naughty pics and sending them to him. I also have an android phone that let's you see some of the pictures that were taken at the same time of a specific picture.
I clicked on the picture of the torn up bed and showed it to the mom. Immediately, she tapped the screen so the other pictures showed up at the bottom. One of those pictures was of my butt. I quickly turned my phone away and covered it by showing them a different picture of the dogs/beds. In my haste to pull my phone away, I showed the butt pic to the receptionist. Nobody mentioned it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | took a picture of some dogs, took some pics of my butt. Accidentally showed some people the butt pics while showing them the dog pics | took a picture of some dogs, took some pics of my butt. Accidentally showed some people the butt pics while showing them the dog pics | 1,589 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25/F] just broke up with my BF [26/M] of a year and half. Why do I feel like I broke my own heart?
POST: My (now) ex and I have been through a lot in the past year and a half. We broke up for a bit but then got back together to see if maybe we had made a mistake. After about a month I realized that nothing had changed and we were back into the same bad groove we were in before.
He was ready to start getting serious (house, ring, kids) and I wasn't sure I wanted any of those with him so I decided to break up with him. I knew I wasn't going to marry him and I didn't want to just "be in a relationship" to make him happy (which is what I felt like I was doing.)
I broke up with him face-to-face and told him honestly how I felt and I could just see the heartbreak in his eyes. He called me every name in the book as I walked to my car, and though that should have been a sign that it wasn't a good relationship, I still ended up crying later that night because I felt so terrible.
This was our second attempt at this relationship so I know breaking it off was the right thing to do but why do I feel so fucking terrible? Will this go away? My friends tried to set me up on a date the day after the break up and I felt like it was WAY too soon to even start thinking about another relationship but they don't understand why since I was the one who broke up with him.
Have any of you gone through this? How long did it take you to start feeling normal again and not like a complete asshole?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Made the correct decision to dump my boyfriend but why do I feel like shit now? Will it get better? What are your experiences? | Made the correct decision to dump my boyfriend but why do I feel like shit now? Will it get better? What are your experiences? | 3,611 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Should a small business take a chance by turning down a long-term customer in the name of "policy"?
POST: Hey, all. I'm hoping to get some opinions and see if any others have dealt with similar situations. I've been shopping at this local record store since I was in high school. Nearing the end of college, I've spent at least a couple hundred dollars at this shop. That being said, I bought some shirts and a record the other day. I wore one of the shirts for half a day, washed it, put it on this morning, and noticed that there were holes all along the bottom of the shirt's design. I brought the shirt to the store to talk to the owner and manager to try to resolve the issue. These people know me. They know my special orders, which I could have simply picked up at Best Buy. I even got the, "I want to help you because you shop here all the time..." speech, but unfortunately, that was followed by, "but the shirt was washed and once it's washed, either you're stuck with it, or we are." I asked if there was anything I could do to get any sort of replacement and I was turned down. My family spends a lot of money on records at this store, so it upsets me that they don't appreciate my continued business. I don't understand how a small business can just throw away their capital in this economy. Thoughts? Similar experiences?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Tried to return a fault product to a frequently visited, locally-based record shop, was turned down in the name of "policy". Considering not returning, which I would hate to do. | Tried to return a fault product to a frequently visited, locally-based record shop, was turned down in the name of "policy". Considering not returning, which I would hate to do. | 482 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: How can I see her again?
POST: So I don't think I've seen a question like this yet (or the Reddit search is just crap), so here goes.
Last month, we had to hire a new bartender at our restaurant, and I was in charge of training her. In the first night of training, I found out she was engaged. A swing and a miss!
The next day of training, her fiancé came in to the bar area to get some food and to see how she was doing. He had mentioned that her friend was running late, and wanted to come check out her new place of work. After making some small talk with the fiancé, in walks in the friend. She's cute as hell. I let the new girl talk to her friend a bit, and she introduces me.
I wish I could meet more girls when I'm at work. I'm in "my element" (I've been there the longest, and am practically managing the bar), I'm confident, and I'm typically happy. I feel like I left a good impression, too. I initiated contact (I told her I didn't catch her name, because I was busy, and shook her hand and "greeted" her), I made her laugh, I suggested sushi to order (which she liked), I taught her how to use chop sticks (she said many have tried to, and she finally got the hang of it when I showed her. + a little more contact!), and helped her with a problem she was having at the moment (how to hook up a Nintendo through a VCR (text message)).
Overall, I think I did well.
Problem is, how do I see her again? I've told the new girl that I thought she was very cute, which she responded with a slightly excited "She's single!" (which I guessed kind of strangely when she was talking about her new kitten to the new girl.)
So, with my only channel of my coworker, how can I see her again to possibly ask her on a date without it being strange?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Cutie-pie friend of coworker enters restaurant. OP thinks he did well. How does OP see her again without weird feelings between coworker or cutie-pie friend? | Cutie-pie friend of coworker enters restaurant. OP thinks he did well. How does OP see her again without weird feelings between coworker or cutie-pie friend? | 5,663 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20F] with my boyfriend [20M] 2 years, excitement is gone
POST: My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 years and have lived together since we met (College halls). He's a great guy and I honestly have very little to complain about.
The issue lies where I just don't find 'us' exciting anymore. It's not the sex, it's just the relationship as a whole. Everything is repetitive and bland, and I really just don't know what to do about it.
We are going on holiday in a few months and are also living with each other for another year which makes matters somewhat more difficult.
I know he is absolutely besotted by me and it makes me feel like a terrible person but I'm torn between letting him know or just riding it out. Either way we have no way out of a contract with an apartment, just the 2 of us.
I have approached the subject of breaking up before and I'm normally told that "If we break up, I can't be friends with you" or he starts crying.
I have no real reason as to why I don't feel the same, I think it's just what has happened over the time we've spent together and I know he wouldn't accept that. He is possessive and would most likely think that if I was breaking up with him, it would be for someone else, which is absolutely not the case.
Essentially I'm looking for advice on the next steps and if need be, how to go about ending things on good enough terms to spend the next year in close proximity. I don't want to have to keep lying and making things worse for the both of us in the long run. I want to stay friends with him.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My boyfriend loves me but I don't feel the same anymore, we're living with each other for another year. Help. | My boyfriend loves me but I don't feel the same anymore, we're living with each other for another year. Help. | 4,005 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My ex [23 M] of 2 years emailed me [22 F] "Happy Birthday" despite my cheating on him a year prior
POST: I dated my ex for around 2 years. We met at college and essentially lived together during the entirety of our relationship.
Towards the end of our relationship, I cheated on him with another man. We broke up and haven't talked since. This happened around my birthday in 2014.
My birthday came a couple days ago, and that evening I checked my email to find he emailed me saying "Happy Birthday" (subject line, no text in the body of the email). I responded and said "Thanks. Sorry I forgot about yours [his had been a month prior]. Hope your birthday was enjoyable and hope you're doing well." He hasn't responded.
I'm confused as to why he wished me a happy birthday despite betraying him a year prior. I don't plan on dating him again, but is this a sign he wants to be friends?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My ex wished me a happy birthday via email, despite my forgetting about his birthday - is this significant in any way? Anything I can/should do? | My ex wished me a happy birthday via email, despite my forgetting about his birthday - is this significant in any way? Anything I can/should do? | 1,128 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: (27f) Should I spare my boyfriend (30m) the trouble of dealing with me?
POST: I have never been diagnosed with anything, but I am an extremely anxious person. On the plus side, it has made me very high-achieving; on the negative side, I am generally pretty unhappy and minor setbacks are extremely hard for me to deal with. I have recently started seeing a therapist, but I think she can probably only do so much.
Today is a good example. I made a minor mistake at work, and have spent the entire day fighting back tears and tearing myself up. I am completely miserable and nothing is going to make me feel better.
I love him, and I love our relationship. But he is nothing like this, and I feel like he should not have to deal with my horrible moodiness forever. I am terrified that when we have kids it will only get worse (have had bad reactions to hormonal birth control in the past).
Should I just spare him the trouble? I feel like he deserves so much better.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I drive myself crazy with my anxiety, wondering if it's unfair to inflict it on my boyfriend for the rest of his life. | I drive myself crazy with my anxiety, wondering if it's unfair to inflict it on my boyfriend for the rest of his life. | 1,833 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [20 M] meeting my girlfriend's [19 F] parents, and I have no idea what to expect.
POST: A couple months ago, I matched with a girl on Tinder, right before I went on a two week vacation. We've talked everyday, and eventually decided to meet up. When I came back, we've been hanging out every weekend, usually on short hiking trips. This past weekend I finally had the courage to ask her out, to which she said yes. Unfortunately, she mentioned that her father isn't too pleased that we're together fairly early on.
I decided the best thing to do would be to meet with her parents, but I am now very nervous about making a good first impression. I have already decided on bringing a gift for the house and some nice flowers for her mom, but have no clue what to do / what to expect next.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | First time meeting girlfriend's parents, pretty nervous and her father feels it's too early to be dating. No idea what to expect. | First time meeting girlfriend's parents, pretty nervous and her father feels it's too early to be dating. No idea what to expect. | 2,524 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: [GA] Eviction notice listed on ex-girlfriend's record despite this not being the case.
POST: I live in Nevada, so I apologize in advance that I don't know what Georgia's laws are like in regards to renters' rights.
My ex-girlfriend (*who currently lives with me*) just applied to rent a condominium, but she got a call back this afternoon from the property management company that she has an eviction notice on her record which now puts the whole moving situation into jeopardy.
When my girlfriend was living in Atlanta, she put in her 60-day notice at the apartment she was leasing on August 1st, 2014, as her lease was set to expire on October 12th, 2014. As we've been reaching out to see what's going on, we've discovered:
1. The apartment complex in question never received my ex's notice to not extend the lease agreement. They have it on record that she agreed to renew her lease which is not the case considering she left the country to do fieldwork in Mexico.
1. The apartment complex wants her to pay $1700 for a mixture of items such as for not paying rent, movings furniture out of the apartment (*which is false*), cleaning fees, etc.
After trying to argue her case, the apartment complex is unwilling to help my ex out, we're at a loss to what her next steps would look like. How does she fight this despite being thousands of miles away?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Apartment complex in Georgia "lost" my ex-girlfriend's notice of not renewing her lease agreement; put an eviction notice on her record. Loss at what next steps are. | Apartment complex in Georgia "lost" my ex-girlfriend's notice of not renewing her lease agreement; put an eviction notice on her record. Loss at what next steps are. | 797 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I'm [17M] with a girl [17F] (1.5 Months) that isn't verbally expressive. I like her and want to overcome this.
POST: I find that in my relationship with this girl, conversation doesn't flow too well and there are often gaps and long silences. This is fine for both of us as we enjoy each others company.
However, since we haven't seen each other much over the summer we have resorted to texting, and I've been getting a lot of short, if not, one worded responses. I know this is a sign of disinterest but I'm fairly certain that she likes me and doesn't want to get rid of me, because by now -- she would have. I often get tired of trying to think up an engaging response to short and to the point texts, and give up most of the time. Probably not the best thing to do but otherwise the conversation drags and becomes forced.
This can sometimes lead to making me feel like she isn't interested in me since I feel I'm neglected from attention, although occasionally there are times when she shows emotions in a very subtle way -- reassuring me she likes me.
I believe this is to do with her past relationship issues, as I know she has been hurt by other guys and even cheated on. I understand that it takes time for someone to warm up to you, but for the majority of the time we have been together I feel like I'm just another guy to her. Her feelings being reciprocated back is very important for me in any relationship as I take them seriously and stride to work things out.
Hence the reason I came here to seek words of wisdom and advice. What is the best possible course of action when dealing with someone who isn't as expressive as you, or someone who is afraid to show feelings?
Any help would be of assistance to me, and thanks for taking the time to read this.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | With a girl that has been hurt before and is less expressive towards me. How can I resolve this issue, and help her show her feelings? | With a girl that has been hurt before and is less expressive towards me. How can I resolve this issue, and help her show her feelings? | 3,955 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [16m] went on a double date today. She left early(will explain in text box) she hasn't responded to my texts. What do I do?
POST: By texts i dont mean a mass sending of texts just 2 texts.We went to the mall today to just walk and get something to eat, we held hands hugged and were really playful. She was with her friend who was with my brother and for some reason her friend brought her little sister.
Her sister had to leave early for a surgery(what I was told and if I remember correctly she told me that her friend's sister had to go to the doctor) and she said she'd be back but she called me and said they have to go too for support.
Now it's understandable that my date had to go as well because her friend was the ride. I texted her after she left saying it was fine I understand.
She asked if we were leaving the mall I said yes and she said "oh ok"
Now she isn't a enthusiastic texter and always texts short and breif messages. I texted back saying "I enjoyed the time we had spent together though and I hope we can do it again."
She said yeah me too and then I texted back and she never answered. It's 12 am here and that was at 3pm. She's probably busy but I have a habit of fucking things up so Im just worried that it may be finished. Should I attempt to text her again in the morning or early afternoon? What should i take from this? Sorry for the long post.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | went on a double date, she left early with her ride because of a doctors apt. We texted for about 5 minutes then she never responded. | went on a double date, she left early with her ride because of a doctors apt. We texted for about 5 minutes then she never responded. | 3,333 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [19F] boyfriend [20M] is failing out of college and I'm not. I have absolutely no idea what to do.
POST: Hi guys. I'm gonna keep this short for privacy reasons. Also throwaway.
My boyfriend is a wonderful, sweet, caring person, but no matter how hard he works, he is just not good at school. We go to a competitive college (his dream school) and he's currently stuggling. If he has one more bad semester, he'll have to transfer to a smaller school and live at home for financial reasons.
On the other hand, my grades are pretty good. I'm no scholar, but I do well.
I have no idea how to be there for him through this without sounding like a jackass. I can't really empathize with him because I've never been through that. I can tell he's frustrated and disappointed, but he also doesn't want to talk about it.
I love him so much and it kills me to see him like this. Anyone have any ideas about how to make him feel better? Should I let him work through it on his own? I'd really rather talk to him about it to show that I care about him and that I'll be there for him.
How do I bring it up? How can I help him to not feel so bad about this? How can I let him know that if he has to transfer it'll be okay? I don't know how to bring it up without sounding like I think he's definitely going to fail out?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend is failing out of the college we met at. It's his dream school. I'm doing fine. I have no idea how to be there for him. | Boyfriend is failing out of the college we met at. It's his dream school. I'm doing fine. I have no idea how to be there for him. | 749 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit...why are many girls attracted to older men? + story
POST: I'm really curious how people feel about this topic. I'm 20 years old and have been in a relationship with a girl of the same age for nearly 4 years. Over such a long period of time, however, we slowly grew apart and went on a "break." We went for a bit over a month without talking after which she soon contacted me. At that point, after doing some research myself, I discovered that she had joined one of those adult sites (she joined within a week of when we broke up). I can't even begin to explain how I felt after finding that out. But that was only the tip of the iceberg. I became a detective and investigated further by creating a fake account and talking to her along with many other things. I basically discovered that she had hooked up with numerous random men that vary in age from 26-37.
This isn't a topic about girls who date or hook up with guys that are several years old. Rather, the question pertains to why girls hook up with or even date drastically older men; people that are practically old enough to be their father. I'm also interested as to why men who are in their late 30's would want to hook up with someone nearly half their age. Is this a normal thing?
If you have any questions in regards to my story I would be more than happy to answer. I hope that we can have a constructive discussion in which people share their own opinions and experiences.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Broke up with girlfriend of same age. Ex went on an adult site and hooked up with guys significantly older than her. Why do some girls do this? And why do the men play along? | Broke up with girlfriend of same age. Ex went on an adult site and hooked up with guys significantly older than her. Why do some girls do this? And why do the men play along? | 5,282 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [29 F] Maybe I'm over reacting and maybe I'm not.
POST: So I'm the type of member to be courteous. I like to have a friendly environment, but the people who seem to act like they're too cool to follow any type of rules always ruin a fun time even on this site or anywhere I go.
The down vote thing always irritates me because it's just annoying how I see people down vote someone (and me) for saying something true. It's ridiculous. [No, this isn't an open invite to down vote me, but I'm sure someone will anyway. They have never failed to not down vote my posts whenever I mention how people abuse the down vote system. Like I'll get way more positive comments agreeing with what I say but the votes don't match up to the people agreeing with me posting.
Does that mean if I talk about up voting I'll get up voted then since some people think mentioning down votes will get you down voted?]
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Anyway, back to my personal issue, do you ever let people who don't follow the rules bother you or you just carry on and keep doing you and find people who do use the site rightfully? | Anyway, back to my personal issue, do you ever let people who don't follow the rules bother you or you just carry on and keep doing you and find people who do use the site rightfully? | 5,008 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: "Why do you try to run my life?" Because you won't get up and do anything with it.
POST: Boyfriend is carless, can't even drive. His family refuses to help him get to any job more than 5 minutes away. & he just graduated high school in June, to go on to do....absolutely nothing. I'm not saying he should rush into college, I'm not saying he should be a constant workhorse. BUT if he wants a car to get a better job, have a car, get out of that toxic household? HE. NEEDS. A. DAMN. JOB. I want better for him, as I love him with all my heart. But I can't stand lazy people who say they want better, but are so picky about the better they want/ don't really do anything about it. There are tons of businesses within walking/bussing distance he hasn't applied to yet, because they are hard, or a "stupid job". Work is work, not easy. ESPECIALLY WITH A HIGH SCHOOL DIPLOMA. When I ask, one simple online application per day is too much for him, a waste of time.
With my hatred of laziness, I feel like I'm rewarding his stupidity by seeing him/being nice/not asking every day what he's done to get a job. He has a weekend job, but for five days of the week? As little productivity as possible. I've planned for a while that if he's still a lazy bum by November, I may ask for a break to spook him. Because I don't know how else to make it clear that I do not want to be with someone so complacent in bad conditions. I don't want to leave him, but I don't want to live in a constant fight zone over "Why do you try to run my life?" "Because you don't get up and do anything with it."
Sorry for block of text.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want better for my boyfriend. He wants to stay in terrible life conditions. Leaving, at least for good, is not an option for me. | I want better for my boyfriend. He wants to stay in terrible life conditions. Leaving, at least for good, is not an option for me. | 139 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [17/M] have been texting a girl [17/F] for months.
POST: I've been texting this girl I'm into for about 4 months, almost daily, and this past month we've really been texting a lot. But the thing is we don't see each other very often, we both have very busy schedules and go to different schools. So I've only seen her about once a month when hanging out with friends (we have a ton of mutual friends). Most recently we went ice skating with some friends, but she didn't really seem that into me (friendzoned I had thought). But last night at work one of her really good friends told me that she likes me but thinks I don't like her. So we both like each other but don't know the other person does. I'm planning on hanging out with her this weekend, just her and I. My friend thinks its a good idea that we get to know each other better in person before dating, so I'm not sure if we should just hang out or if I should go in for a move. Oh and I've never had a girlfriend and I don't think she's ever had a boyfriend, and we both are really awkward around each other. So what do you think, just go out to a movie and grab a bite afterwards, or one step farther? Also, should I pick her up or meet her there?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | just get to know each other, or try to make a move (which I have no experience with at all (HELP)) | just get to know each other, or try to make a move (which I have no experience with at all (HELP)) | 991 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my girlfriend[21 F] of 5 years, I feel exhausted in our relationship. Is this relationship saveable?
POST: I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years. Our relationship has always been me giving my 100% all the time. I feel like I am constantly needing to do something to keep her happy. Whenever she gets in a bad mood for no reason, I stress out over how I can help. The problem is that nothing I ever do seems to help.
We have talked about this too many times. She needs me to provide more in our relationship than i need from her to be happy. It leads to a point where I am doing things because I have to and not because i want to. For anyone out there who has been there, you understand. It is exhausting to be in a relationship where the person you want to please needs so much more than you do to be happy. We talked and she says that "she is selfish and has been taking advantage of what i give". Do I just take her word for it? she is more scared of losing me than she is of changing her personality.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My GF requires more from the relationship than me. I confronted her about it and she said that she will change ( for the 3rd time.) do i take her word for it or do i finally leave her? | My GF requires more from the relationship than me. I confronted her about it and she said that she will change ( for the 3rd time.) do i take her word for it or do i finally leave her? | 2,042 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My Girlfriend (17/f) got raped/sexually assaulted and I (18/m) can't stop thinking about it
POST: Where do I start....
I've been going out with this girl that I really like for a month now, I'm 18 she's 17 we just finished school, every things going great, she likes me, I like her, life couldn't be better. A couple months before we were officially a thing, I'd say 4-5 months ago, she got really drunk at a party and had her first time with some random guy she didn't like and was telling him not to and she hated the whole experience. She said he only put it in for like 1-2 seconds but I don't know. I try and ask her more questions about it here and there, but she doesn't like talking about it at all and I respect that. The problem is I keep thinking about it... this random guy arched over her, having sex, with my girlfriend. I want to know more about the situation but I feel bad asking questions. I feel like finding this guy and beating him to a pulp, for basically raping my girlfriend, and this whole thing makes me sad, angry, and uncomfortable when ever I think about it.
I don't know what to do, how do I stop thinking about it, how do I find closure, how do I make this guy pay? I don't know how I feel
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend got drunk then raped at a party before we were going out, now I feel like beating the shit out of the guy. | Girlfriend got drunk then raped at a party before we were going out, now I feel like beating the shit out of the guy. | 5,415 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Hey r/relationships, my girlfriend [19F] has been ignoring me for no apparent reason. I would really like your advice on this.
POST: First of all, excuse my English, because I'm pretty drunk right now and English is not my native language.
Okay, so, I'm originally not from England, but I've lived there for a couple of months and I met a girl there, who is not from my home country, and I totally fell in love with her. I'm now living in Spain and I really thought we could make it work, but for no reason at all she just started ignoring me. She went from all happy, glee and lovely to ignoring me all of a sudden. She didn't give me a response for two days now, which sounds like a short time, but it's killing me on the inside. I like to think that a healthy relationship is about mutual respect and trust and to be honest, I don't really trust her and she doesn't show me any respect as of late. I really liked it with her in England, but now I'm just making myself crazy.
Should I break-up with or, or should I wait till she responds? Thank you in advance for the advice.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl I met abroad is my gf now, but she is making it really difficult to maintain the relationship. Advice please. | Girl I met abroad is my gf now, but she is making it really difficult to maintain the relationship. Advice please. | 4,200 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I'm not even 18 and I think I've made a mess of my life already.
POST: Warning: long
I used to be a good kid. I had good grades. I told very few lies and I was respectful to everyone. I don't know what triggered it. It's like the part of my brain that made me care about stuff stopped working. I started getting bad grades in school. I mean like really bad. I was lucky enough not to get summer school but i still did awful. The worst part is that they spent a lot of money on tutoring lessons for an ap exam and i ended up getting a 2. I also cheated alot on tests. I started lying to my parents and told them i was studying when i was doing other stuff. Then when they started seeing a decline in grades they grounded me. I would usually learn my lesson and pull myself out of situations like these but i didnt this time. I kept doing bad stuff and I started disrespecting my own parents and my siblings who were just trying to help me. I eventually lost most of my friends and i put on a huge amount of weight and I started doing bad things. I started lying to my mom and said that i was walking home with friends/staying afterschool but i actually withdrew money from my bank account and spent it on junkfood/useless shit and coming home late. I'm suprised they still let me do it for the rest of the school year. I also started stealing money from my family members because i had used all of mine. They never found out, but i feel terrible about it. I've been trying to study/exercise but i can never stick to any of these habits.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm 15 years old, i have no friends, i am a thief, a liar, my GPA/future in education is ruined, i weigh 200 pounds, and I don't know what to do. please help | I'm 15 years old, i have no friends, i am a thief, a liar, my GPA/future in education is ruined, i weigh 200 pounds, and I don't know what to do. please help | 2,643 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [22/F] boyfriend [21/M] of 5.5 years packed up his stuff and left without much warning.
POST: My boyfriend of 5.5 years decided that he needed to leave me with little to no warning. I arrived home to him with all of his stuff packed. It's been 3 days and I have not heard a word from him.
A little back story. We started dating when we were 16 and since then have been head over heals for each other. We moved away from home together about a year ago so that I could finish my 4 year degree. He moved with me to support me financially and the agreement was as soon as I graduated, spring of 2015, I would support him through school. We've been through a lot together and I supported him much of our relationship because his dad was sick and didn't have a job. All of a sudden after almost a year of living here he decides, he can no longer support me because it is too much for him and he feels I am holding him back.
I forfeited going to 4 year school for him and stayed home and went to Community College FOR HIM, I supported him emotionally and financially for 4 years and he can't handle one more year of taking care of me?? I am completely heartbroken. Of course things between us weren't perfect but I never thought they were so bad he would just up and leave me high and dry. I was pretty blindsided. Now I will more than likely have to move out of my apartment and I have no idea how I'm going to make it through the rest of the summer let alone the rest of the year.
I am still in love with him but he crushed my heart when he was already out the door.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | how am I supposed to move on from the person I love when he won't even talk to me? And how do I go on with out him? | how am I supposed to move on from the person I love when he won't even talk to me? And how do I go on with out him? | 6,366 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by being an Insensitive Jerk
POST: So like many others, this happened last year but I am still mortified as our office just recently had a congratulatory card recently that reminded me of the tragedy.
I work in a corporate office building, and many times theres a designated person that walks around getting all the employees to sign a happy birthday, get well, congratulations card.
One day I was extremely busy with audits, reports, reviews, and the girl designated for this card signing approaches me. As I am multi-tasking, she in her ninja ways sneaked up and whispered, "hey sign this". without any saying anything else. I didnt take a very good look at the card, and opened it up, and didnt really read or even glance what other peoples comments are and what they wrote, the girl asking me to sign the card didnt say what its for.
I signed Happy Birthday! Enjoy - My name, gave it back and went about my work.
15 minutes pass by and I get a minute to breathe, I overheard one of my staff members talk to another, saying, its so sad.. I hope they are doing ok... it was then that I noticed I fucked up. I immediately got up and asked them what they are talking about.. and they told me so and so's mother passed away.
It hit me... I just wrote happy birthday on a condolences card...
I told a few specific people in the office hoping they would relay my apologies to the person I decimated with my insensitivity, but I never worked up the courage to apologize to that person face to face. No one has said anything since, but I am sure they hate me deep down.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I was multi-tasking and not paying attention and wrote happy birthday into a condolences card for a co-worker. | I was multi-tasking and not paying attention and wrote happy birthday into a condolences card for a co-worker. | 947 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My Grandad has Alzheimers in it's advanced stage. Does anyone have any tips for things that could help or ideas for activities I could do with him to help him enjoy his final days?
POST: I've run a Google search on things to help with Alzheimer's, I'm not talking about curing it as I know there's nothing that can do that yet, but ways that I can help him to enjoy himself. I didn't find many fantastic or relevant ideas.
Just to give you a bit of background information.
The Alzheimer's is it's more advanced stage
He can't walk very quickly at all
He has the occasional problem with bladder control and doesn't have a fantastic appetite.
He probably won't remember the activity within about 30 minutes after it.
We've tried quite a lot of things, from golf to shopping but we're ever increasingly finding he appears to be enjoying himself less and less each time. Are there any tricks that could lighten his mood and help him enjoy the activities more?
While personal experience would be great I'm open to suggestions from anyone.
Thanks.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Anyone have ideas of how to lighten the mood of someone with advanced Alzheimer's?/Does anyone know of any specific kinds of activities that would be suitable for someone with this condition? | Anyone have ideas of how to lighten the mood of someone with advanced Alzheimer's?/Does anyone know of any specific kinds of activities that would be suitable for someone with this condition? | 5,943 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: "Give the goat head"?
POST: A coworker of mine said, "I'll run some preliminary tests first before I give you the goat head" over AIM.
Should I have corrected him? If so, how should I have responded?
I'm asking reddit because there are a lot of people who have (strong) opinions on grammar nazis and when to behave like one.
My opinion is that so long as the main message is conveyed well enough, I don't say a word. (For example, everyone knows what a grammar nazi is. Should I have taken the time to find out whether "grammer" and/or "nazi" should be capitalized? I don't think so.) But I also wouldn't mind if someone corrected me. It's kind of for my own edification, and I think it improves how well I can express myself with words.
So, in the case with my convo with my coworker, I didn't say anything because I knew what he meant. But I also thought, "What if he uses that phrase incorrectly again? What if someone corrects him later and he thinks that I don't know the correct usage because I didn't say anything?" I might be thinking about this too much.
Anyway, what would you have done?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | A coworker of mine said, "I'll run some preliminary tests first before I give you the goat head" over AIM. Should I have corrected him? | A coworker of mine said, "I'll run some preliminary tests first before I give you the goat head" over AIM. Should I have corrected him? | 630 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Neighbor drove into my patio and his insurance is not helping.
POST: This has been an ordeal for months now and is getting to the point where I may need to get a lawyer involved.
My neighbor drove into my patio door and damaged the patio door, some of the carpeting inside, patio furniture and a large planter. This was a hit and run as the neighbor then left and did not report this. One of my other neighbors noticed damage on his vehicle later that evening and we called the police to come take a look at the vehicle. When questioned, the neighbor with a damaged car admitted fault to the police officer.
His car insurance company is not the greatest, and is only offering a resolution of the actual value of the items and not the replacement value. Therefor, the amount of money they are offering is less than what it would even take to repair the sliding patio door. Side note: when I do email or call, it can take 4 days to get s response via email and I have yet to receive a phone call back even when I have requested it.
Our home owners insurance company is able to put a claim in, but then we would have the issue of our rates going up if we do that.
Can we file a law suit against our neighbor or our neighbors insurance company? Is there anything that can be done with the insurance company to even maybe just push them to give us the replacement value at all? We reside in Illinois.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | neighbor drove into my house. Admitted fault. Neighbors insurance company won't pay up. Anything we can do? | neighbor drove into my house. Admitted fault. Neighbors insurance company won't pay up. Anything we can do? | 3,100 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21M] And My Best Friend [23F]
POST: So I have this problem and I want peoples input on it. So I have this friend who is a girl we have know each other for about six months and have been super close since day one. Both of us were single and talked like every day. Three months after meeting her, she told me she liked me and me being the wimp that I am said we should just stay friends. Lol after a day of weirdness things went back to normal and we stayed best friends. Two months later she met this guy and started dating him. They were happy for about a month but soon the new relationship thing faded and she realized she really does not like him. She is still dating him but all she does is complain about him to me. We are still best friends and recently I realized I am crazy about her. I don't know what to do, I want her to leave him and go out with me but I don't want to put her in a position where she has to choose. What do you guys think? Thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | both single, became best friends, she likes me, friend zone her, she gets bf, now crazy about her, lost | both single, became best friends, she likes me, friend zone her, she gets bf, now crazy about her, lost | 3,402 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: (20M)In a long distance relationship of 4 yrs(20f)(311miles), might be extending it to 1800 miles. IDK WHAT TO DO?
POST: Currently shes in school(austin). Shes got 2 more years in that city then she might be moving to Houston. Another 3 years. After that who knows where shell go! Ive talked to her about this many times to where the subject have become augmentative and tiring.
She doesnt know where shes going. She has family in Houston, where she thinks she could work & stay while going to finish up the 3 years. I dropped out of college after 1 year. I was 30 minutes away by bus. It was great then. Stuff happened that made me unable to continue.
Now im stuck working a dead end job going to school part time in my home town. I dont want to stay here. Im currently living with my father, who also doesnt want to stay here. We recently took a trip to california, where hes from. And I kinda liked it. But recently a job opportunity opened up in Houston and were also planning on opening a business there.
BUT I dont want to make this decision and regret say we dont make it through all this. Something happens. My gf and I started out since we were 16, ive been her only bf, ive been her everything. She has been my everything as well (IS). What frustrates me the most out of all this is that shes getting a whole lot of education to not able able to choose a city where to live.
IDK what to do. A few more details, I visit here every month, the whoel trip costs me about $250 just saturday night & sunday, I drive back monday around 3am. I enjoy my time with her, but each day that were not together, we grow apart (I feel) , One major thing that has come up in the arguments so far is that she thinks her familys approval rating of me has fallen below acceptable since the drop out. Is there any advice yall can give a fellow redditor guy out in the big ol world?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I cant decide whether to move closer to my gf potentially in the same city in 2 years, or leave to California. | I cant decide whether to move closer to my gf potentially in the same city in 2 years, or leave to California. | 5,399 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Really strange muscle issue [Quad]
POST: Long story short, I went into a lengthy, run heavy workout very dehydrated which brought about expected DOMS in my quads for a few days after. It was around 2 days after this workout that I crouched down to pick something up off the floor and was met with an immediate tear/ripping feeling in my left quadricep. Strangely after wrapping it overnight, the pain all but subsided until I tried to run again a few days later and I was met with the same tearing/ripping feeling immediately. Pain goes away within a day, I rested for a week before starting doing incline treadmill and plenty of squats to re-strengthen. Eventually over three weeks of being safe and strengthening it, I got back to the point where I can run again. Here's the strange part. I can run in a straight line no problem (treadmill and neighborhood runs), but for whatever reason as soon as I go to cut while playing field sports it immediately goes to tear again. It feels like it's really deep into the muscle (not on the surface) and only gets aggravated with certain motions. I guess I'm just perplexed as to what to do, because I can go out and run a mile or two without any issue, but if I were to quick make a 90 degree cut it'll re-aggravate and bring instant pain. Strangest injury I've ever had to be honest, and with it being deep into muscle I don't know how to treat it properly. Any advice?
Guess this wasn't too short
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Can run straight fine with no issue, go to make a cut and quad feels like it's tearing, brings about unbearable pain that's gone within 24 hours | Can run straight fine with no issue, go to make a cut and quad feels like it's tearing, brings about unbearable pain that's gone within 24 hours | 4,304 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [30 M] with my fiancé [30 F] 3 Years, I found out she was in a porn movie 7 Years ago, we talked about this and have cleared the air. Ever since I found out I don't find her attractive anymore.
POST: Hi reddit, as the title says I found out that my fiancé did porn 7 years ago, I am pretty chilled out about sex and I know everyone has a past but I simply don't find her sexy at all. Honestly the best thing I liked about her was that she was innocent and cute now I just don't see her in that way anymore, I'm still loving towards her because I thought I just needed time but now I know it's just not happening. Today I told her that I think we should hold off having the wedding and I think she knows what the problem is.
I know it's not her fault because she didn't even know me then but I now know I can't marry her because she just isn't the same person in my eyes anymore, Has anyone been through what I have.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | found out she was in a porn movie 7 Years ago, we talked about this and have cleared the air, ever since I found out I don't find her attractive anymore | found out she was in a porn movie 7 Years ago, we talked about this and have cleared the air, ever since I found out I don't find her attractive anymore | 1,020 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [21,F] long-distance boyfriend [26,M] of two years is struggling with depression.
POST: I want to spend the rest of my life with this man. We met a few years ago while doing some volunteer work, now we live in different countries. We've been long distance for the entirety of our relationship, taking time off of work to meet in different places throughout the U.S. to do volunteer work, or in different countries to adventure.
I recently moved from the U.S. to Latin America; I don't have many friends yet, and my Spanish is pretty limited. I feel very disconnected here, though my experience volunteering is quite rewarding. But, after a long day, all I want is to talk to him. I have limited connections to anyone at 'home' because I'm not too sure where 'home' is for me. He is my home, in a sense.
At year's end, he's leaving his job and meeting me, and we're going to travel for a few months before finding a new home together. He made the decision to go off antidepressants about two months ago, because he felt comfortable, secure and ready. But stressing about 'leaving his life' has caused him to spiral into depression. He wants nothing to do with me, or with anyone for that matter. He doesn't answer my calls. In the past three weeks, we've spoken only a few times, for just a few minutes.
This has me worried that I've put too much pressure on him. I also went from being comfortable and secure in my relationship to anxious
and upset nearly all the time. I feel abandoned. Like I had mentioned, I haven't made many friends yet. I feel that my greatest connection (him) is now lost, and I'm not sure where that leaves me. I don't know how to talk to him about this because 1. he won't speak to me for longer than ten minutes, and 2. I don't know how to approach the topic without blaming him for the way I feel.
I'm afraid our relationship is not as strong as I believed it was because of our own mental health issues: my dependency on him in this state of disconnection from my surroundings, and his depression.
How do I move on from here?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My boyfriend won't talk to me because he is depressed, I am alone in a foreign country and want to talk to him. | My boyfriend won't talk to me because he is depressed, I am alone in a foreign country and want to talk to him. | 1,076 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22M] attempting to get flesh things out with an Ex at a weird point in my life
POST: Hey guys,
Throwaway for obvious reasons.
Basically, i recently rekindled a fling with an ex [21F] that I had previously dated for two years. We broke up about a year ago after things had been pretty sour for a few months beforehand. It seems pretty straightforward and we have decided that as of now we are in an exclusive relationship on campus. However, I am a second semester senior about to start a pretty demanding job in august and am worried that whatever we had is no longer as good. We also do not know if we will be in the same geographic location when I start work. Long distance didnt exactly work well for us last time we tried either. I would rather figure it out before I start this job and potentially move in with her. When we last talked I told her that I was scared that it wouldnt be the same and have voiced my concerns in an honest manner.
Finally, we are super sexually compatible and sometimes its hard for me to distinguish whether I love the sex or I love her. Is it wrong for me to feel this out in an exclusive relationship with my ex to determine if whatever love we had is still there, while still keeping an open mind about other potential partners? (Read: I will not cheat or date other people so long as i am in this exclusive relationship, just keeping an open mind)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Me and ex recently hooked up at a weird time in my life. Is exclusively hooking up with her while keeping an open mind to others (no cheating or dating while in relationship) wrong? | Me and ex recently hooked up at a weird time in my life. Is exclusively hooking up with her while keeping an open mind to others (no cheating or dating while in relationship) wrong? | 1,750 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: When discussing life goals, how would you guys interpret...
POST: Me [25M], her [21F]
Besides the the fact that she was telling me she loved me within the 1st month, talking marriage within 3 months, discussing having kids and living together within 6 months, talking about spending the rest of her life with me on the 8th month, promptly breaking up with me on the 9th month, in a new relationship by the 11th month, and has currently been living with the new guy (who is 32) since the 13 month.
I have heard from so many different people that this is a red flag and that I should have seen it... When discussing life goals, her only ambition was that she only wanted to get married, have a family, and be a stay at home mom.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | What do you think about someone who's only ambition is to get married, have a family, and be a stay at home mom? | What do you think about someone who's only ambition is to get married, have a family, and be a stay at home mom? | 5,951 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [20/M] It's been a year and i'm still not over her [19/F] anyone have any advice?
POST: **Background info** - We only dated for a few months and were starting a relationship, but then things went terribly wrong and it ended. I love her. Her looks and personality were what I looked and dreamt for in a woman. We just clicked from the get go. I tried my hardest to make it work, but she obviously didn't feel the same + she was starting her new life at uni so why would she bother when she's got so many opportunities a head of her.
**My problem** - It hurts so much. The heartbreak is horrible! My heartstrings have been pulled so hard and I've never felt like this before. It fucking sucks! She wasn't even in my life that long yet she's affected it so much! (you can probably tell I haven't been in many or long relationships). I just want to move on with my life! And I know what you're going to say... go out and date new woman but its not that simple for some reason they most woman want nothing to do with me otherwise I would've been in plenty of long lasting relationships and lost my virginity by now. And the funny thing is I'm not even unattractive.
I also want to add how lame I think it is that I cant stop lusting over someone that was in my life for such a short period, when theres no many people out there who've gone through divorce etc and they're doing just fine! my emotions are bullshit!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I just want to know how I can get over the heart ache without dating new woman etc. Any advice would be really appreciated. | I just want to know how I can get over the heart ache without dating new woman etc. Any advice would be really appreciated. | 4,522 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by not getting into a bar
POST: Ok, this happened last night.
It was my best friends 20th birthday, and as per usual, we all went for a night on the town hitting into a few bars. So everything was great, got through the first few bars in no time, consuming a fair amount of alcohol. This as you might have guessed will ultimately be my downfall.
We went to queue up to go into this next bar, in the middle of the main street. I was probably 3rd in line, ahead of me was my best friend and his girlfriend. From earwigging, I can hear him and her joking around with the bouncer that checked everyone's ID's, especially about her female parts. So, a clever idea popped into my head. Then there I was, him checking my ID.
Me: "Do you want to hear the hardest question in the world?"
Bouncer: "Go on then"
Me: "Would you rather sleep with your mum to save your dad's life, or sleep with your dad to save your mum's life?"
Without a doubt, he decided to not let me in, push me to the ground in a forceful manner (with many onlookers), shouting "Don't talk about my mum like that." As a result, there I was, standing outside waiting about an hour outside the bar, like an idiot, on my own for all my friends to come out. They particularly took longer in there because of my presence outside, not to mention it was a cold night. My best friend decided to even say "Thanks for screwing up on my birthday bro" at the end.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | didn't get let into a bar on my best friend's birthday because I told the bouncer a dark humoured joke. | didn't get let into a bar on my best friend's birthday because I told the bouncer a dark humoured joke. | 1,091 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Crushing on friend's(who was a FWB) best friend.
POST: So I met this girl about half a year ago. We got along great. On the third or fourth time hanging out we had sex, I lost my virginity to her. We dated for a little while 1-2 dates. But we established that we're just friends. We did have sex a few more times after that, but have stopped (been a month or 6 weeks or so)
Well I've been crushing on her friend, like I just think about her all different hours of the day. I asked my friend about three months ago if she would be okay with me dating her best friend. She got upset, but she knew I wasn't hers, and did get over it. But she said she would be okay with it, so long as she didn't hear/know about it. Well last night me and her best friend hung out last night. Actually it was the three of us, and she left, leaving me and her friend at the hookah bar together. We just chilled and talked. It was really great, she seemed to have been enjoying herself quite a bit. I feel like its the wrong thing to do, to want her. But I know myself to an extent. And I don't crush like this over any girl. She is someone special, not like she means the world to me, but she did get me to feel about her like most girls don't do. Is dating her wrong? Should I talk to someone about this? Talk to one, or both friends about this? This girl has been on my mind for months, I don't think her place there is going anywhere. Should I suppress my feelings?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Lost virginity to friend, had sex a few times, never had anything serious with her. Interested in dating her best friend. Asking for advice or just a voice that can relate. | Lost virginity to friend, had sex a few times, never had anything serious with her. Interested in dating her best friend. Asking for advice or just a voice that can relate. | 1,570 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Texting charges? USA to europe
POST: Not sure if this is the best subreddit but I'm at a restaurant in Italy on my iPhone and I couldn't find anything better. I have AT&T and paid for 500 texts for while I'm here. I just checked my at&t app and it says I've used 57/500 texts, but I'm pretty sure between sending and receiving its been more. Does it charge for both, or just sending?
I've been texting my boyfriend who is in California, he has Verizon. Does it charge him to text me while I'm here? I figured it would charge me both ways and the 500 I bought would cover it but now I'm concerned since it only says I've used 57. I haven't counted I'm just pretty sure it's more.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | does it charge someone in the US to text someone who is visiting Europe (that is using an american phone)? Even if the person visiting Europe paid for 500 (international?) texts? | does it charge someone in the US to text someone who is visiting Europe (that is using an american phone)? Even if the person visiting Europe paid for 500 (international?) texts? | 346 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [20/M] first time going on a date with another man. I cant shake the anxiety and don't know what to expect
POST: I'm sure I am over analyzing everything about this interaction but I know that talking to some strangers with experience could at the very least calm my anxiety. I'm sorry if the way I say anything offends anyone, I have almost no experience with the gay community and I feel like I have been repressing these feelings for a long, long time because of my upbringing. I am in college now and have been living away from my very religious parents for two years, though I've known I am bi for a lot longer.
I met him [21] on tinder and we flirted a bit (he seems to be a super nice guy, we have a lot in common, and he has been very flattering). We have a coffee date ~~tomorrow~~ Wednesday and I don't expect things to go anywhere really but is there anything I should know? I feel like a fish out of water since I don't have any gay friends I can ask for advice.
* Any men who have gone from dating women to men; is there anything overarchingly different about it?
* Is there anything I should know beforehand about the sex?
* I'm not even that experienced with dating in general (I was in a 6 year LTR that ended a few months ago) so just general tips would be appreciated.
* I am planning on telling him of my inexperience pretty early on, is that the best idea and whats the best way to bring that up? I don't want to make him feel like this is just an experiment to me
TL;DR: . Assistant: | About to go on a date with another man for the first time, I feel even more lost and anxious than I did before my first date. Any advice? | About to go on a date with another man for the first time, I feel even more lost and anxious than I did before my first date. Any advice? | 1,682 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [Update] I am m32 in the UK trying to save my marriage.
POST: [Original post] ( So here's the update. After one short counseling session, therapist was late, and multiple conversations There may be hope for my marriage.
The big thing is She says she still loves me as a friend, but not as a husband right now. This is due to unkept promises about relocating to the UK. Of which I reminded her the only thing that kept me from resigning from my job in the US was her request. I realize most of you advise me against doing this.
She likes to refer to a lot of things as I'm not to let you, meaning me, "Destroy this". To which I've had to also come back and say that this was a 2 Way St., I'm not feeling one who screwed up so I need help fixing it from you.
Today she told me that she bought a house, got the down payment from my in-laws, as long as I was kept off the title of the house. Which I said that's completely bullshit. If anything they should be encouraging us to stay united not encouraging us to be divided. Which got me back to the point of I had a good thing going there before I was called away to do my United States work to which she didn't want me to resign from. That she was criminalizing me (for lack of a better term) For doing what she asked me to do.
When I got here I found out that she spoke to divorce lawyer, and I managed to through open communication back her from that ledge. And she is giving me three months to get my "shit together". I.e. find a job and settle in the UK, which I'm very much actively pursuing.
But my real question is from a group of strangers who know nothing more than the ramblings of this hopeless person what are the chances that I'm able to save my marriage?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Right now cohabitating with my wife managed to convince her not to divorce me just yet is giving me three months to get my "shit together" Hoping for some Reddit insight | Right now cohabitating with my wife managed to convince her not to divorce me just yet is giving me three months to get my "shit together" Hoping for some Reddit insight | 6,132 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What are some moments in your life when you wanted to go "That is utter bullshit!", but couldn't?
POST: For me, it was quite recently. In Sweden, where I live, we have national tests in Swedish, English and Math: Everyone in Sweden in the same age group take the same test at the same time. It's quite a big deal.
Recently, I did mine in Oral English. We were in a group of five, discussing news stories. There is this guy who's a bit shy, and hadn't said anything through the 10 minutes we've been there, and the time is almost up for our group. Suddenly, he starts telling a story, and he's doing it good.
It was about a couple who was in Vegas, entered an elevator in their hotel. After them comes a black man in a hoodie. When he enters the elevator, and the doors are shut, he says "down". The couple dives to the floor, thinking they're getting mugged. The black guy laughs, presses his floor button, rides there and exists, still laughing. The next day, when checking out, the couple receives a bouquet of roses made out of $100 bills. In the bouquet is a note, which reads "Thanks for the laughs! -Eddie Murphy".
however, as any frequent Snopes-visitor knows, this story is complete [bullshit] All while he was telling this story, I just wanted to go "No. That never happened. It's an urban myth." But I couldn't just ruin his last try at a national test.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | A shy kid tells [this myth] as a fact on an important exam, and I can't correct him. | A shy kid tells [this myth] as a fact on an important exam, and I can't correct him. | 5,890 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Not sure if I [28M] should break up with my girlfriend [21F] of over one year because she never does anything for me.
POST: Hello all. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now. I feel like I've done a lot of things for her. We traveled a lot, I take her different places all the time for instance restaurants, museums, show her new things, etc. 95% of the time I pay for everything and everything we do is my idea which I have no problem with. I buy her little presents here and there, when she is sick I bring her medicine/food/soup to her work without her asking. I do small things for her all the time.
However about 4 months ago, I thought about our relationship and I could not really think of a single thing she has ever done for me. I had a talk about it with her and her response was basically "I'm a girl, I don't know what I should be doing." So I told her, "do little things for me from time to time, you don't need to buy me anything. Bring me lunch to work one day and surprise me, that will make me happy, it doesn't need to be anything major." I may be a bit overreacting, but I feel that when you're in a relationship with somebody you should be doing things for them from time to time. 4 months have passed and nothing has happened.
We had another talk, and her response was basically similar to what she told me 4 months ago. I told her that I need to think about things and I haven't talked to her in 3 days.
I'm not sure if I'm overreacting, but I feel like my efforts are not be reciprocated in any way and I feel like this is a one sided relationship. She tells me that she loves me, which I believe, but at the same time I need for that love to be shown in some way. Not sure where to go from here, I was hoping she would change a little bit as the relationship progressed. I understand there's an age difference and that could be part of it, but I think she's old enough to know how relationships work.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend never does anything for me, while I take her to all kind of places and do small things for her. I feel like this is a one sided relationship. | Girlfriend never does anything for me, while I take her to all kind of places and do small things for her. I feel like this is a one sided relationship. | 1,393 |
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