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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Should i help this person? If so how?
POST: i am a high school student, and i was surfing reddit the other day. i am fairly new to this site so i don't know every single sub-reddit, but my friend told me about the ever so fucked up r/jailbait so being foolish i went there. i was creeped out, even though the girls are my age. but i saw one photo, and it was a facebook photo of a girl that goes to my school. she is 16 and therefore under age. I found the original poster but it was just their porn account. he posted several other photos of her. I don't know if he had her permission, but i doubt it. for the record, i don't exaggerate when i say she is widely believed to be the hottest girl in our grade, and possibly the school. i am a boy who has never spoken to her and i don't want to sound creepy by saying, "oh hey hottest girl at school, i saw some photos of you in a bikini on a porn site! maybe you should do something". what should i do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | there are r/jailbait pics of a girl i know and she didn't post them, what do i do? | there are r/jailbait pics of a girl i know and she didn't post them, what do i do? | 4,323 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: A business is using my residential road for their customer parking, wat do?
POST: Forgive me if this is in the wrong reddit.
A very nice steak restaurant is located down the road from me (not on the same street), and recently they added enough new tables that they have severe overflow onto my neighboring residential street. My street is narrow, hilly, and there's hardly room for the people who live here to park, much less this restaurant's customers. They have a dinner rush, so when I get home at 5:30 there's no place to park because my street is filled with huge, poorly parked, yuppie SUV's.
I have called the police for advice twice and an officer never called me back. Not sure how to go about this, because the restaurant is a mainstay of my city and its owners and clientele are very well connected. Is there anything I can LEGALLY (or gray-area legally) do to stop this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | A nearby business is using a residential street for their overflow to the detriment of the residents who live here. Police won't respond. Wat do? | A nearby business is using a residential street for their overflow to the detriment of the residents who live here. Police won't respond. Wat do? | 5,093 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [20M] My [20F] girlfriend has been texting an ex who made quite a few intense advances, I don't have a clue what to do.
POST: Hey, feeling confused, kinda betrayed and just generally shit. I don't snoop much but I was just fucking about on my girlfriend's phone and wondered what was up, I saw that she'd been texting someone who was apparently an ex.
She was confiding quite a lot in him which felt odd, as I looked back I kept feeling sicker and sicker, I saw that he had been making lots of overtly sexual comments and eventually tried to initiate sexting, she rebuffed him but apologised for doing so. They said goodnight but it seems like they're going to continue their friendship. I know I shouldn't have snooped but I don't know what to do, she's away, and I don't trust this guy even slightly now, I understand being friends with an ex, though I don't personally keep in touch with mine, but this is all too much.
I feel shitty for snooping, but I just don't know what to do about it, I can barely eat and I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest. Please help me dudes. I'm at a loss.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm a dick, I snoop, GF recieves sexting advances via text but apologises for not being able to follow through with them, feel betrayed and generally shitty | I'm a dick, I snoop, GF recieves sexting advances via text but apologises for not being able to follow through with them, feel betrayed and generally shitty | 2,859 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [27M] rekindled a friendship with my Ex-gf [20F] of 1 year after 6mos NC. Now I want to go NC again, amicably. Is this possible?
POST: We fell hard and tried to make a relationship work through difficult odds. Age, LDR, etc. After about a year, we were fighting and stressed and it wasn't a healthy situation. I still cared for her deeply when I broke up with her.
We remained friends at first, but that was strained so we went NC. No discussion really, mutual understanding after some deep talks.
After about 6 months of NC she reached out to confront me after hearing I may have cheated on her. I told her I didn't, (true) and she knows I'm telling the truth. We strike up a conversation and actually warm to each other. We've been friendly for the last 3 months now. Ironically enough she lives less than a mile from me now.
Here's my problem: this friendship is striking up feelings for her that I don't want to follow up on. It's like having a crush, but I do not want to, or have any intention of attempting another relationship at this point. We are friends, and I care for her deeply, but it's starting to affect me poorly.
Should I tell her how I feel and why I want to disconnect? Or should I just let the relationship fade naturally? Any experience/advice is appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Went NC with ex-GF, became friends again, now I want to go NC as amicably as possible. What do? | Went NC with ex-GF, became friends again, now I want to go NC as amicably as possible. What do? | 5,907 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [23M] give my ex [24F] a second chance 6 years later?
POST: So we started going out when I was 15-16, and lasted about 2 years. During that time we fought *a lot*, constantly broke-up made-up and she cheated on me several times with her ex. When I learned that she cheated I ended the relationship.
2 years after that (in college) we were both in relationships with different people. Both relationships were very stable, no cheating, no lying, no fighting.
Now we are both single and still attracted to each other, we´ve talked about going out again, but I'm not sure if it is the correct thing to do. I know that we were both in very bad places 6 years ago, definitely not emotionally mature enough for a relationship. I was a terrible boyfriend, very shy, not a gentleman and I rejected all her sexual advances because I was too nervous. I also wanted to kill myself.
Now I'm a completely different person and from what I've seen she's also changed a lot. I'm sure that a relationship with her now will be very different from what it was before but I'm not sure if I should forgive her for cheating??
Thanks!!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex-gf cheated on me 6 years ago, wants a second chance now that we are much more mature, should I go for it? | Ex-gf cheated on me 6 years ago, wants a second chance now that we are much more mature, should I go for it? | 137 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, someone just robbed my family, and we think we know who. What can we do?
POST: My parents have two houses and a garage. One house they live in, the garage is next door (my dad is a mechanic, so the garage is very large, the size of our house, and not attached to the house), and the house next to it is my great grandmother's, which they've bought and are rebuilding.
One of the guys who was paid to work on the house ended up being a scumbag. Ever since they hired him, they've heard terrible things; he does a lot of drugs, he steals, and sells the stuff to fund his habit. He's told my dad multiple times about missing work because he was "sick" (on drugs or crashing). He owes my dad work, or money he was paid to do the work. He recently asked my dad to borrow a piece of equipment to work on someone else's house. My dad said no, not until he did the worked he owed him. This was a few days ago, and now today they realized probably $5k worth of tools were stolen, and the doors broken so they could easily re-enter to get more. The guy conveniently hasn't spoken to us since the spat.
The police said this guy usually goes and offloads his goods in Baltimore (an hour and a half away) for drugs, but in typical [1] /r/Bad_Cop_No_Donut fashion, they're unconcerned and claim there's little they can do. They have no grounds to search his home.
They've installed cameras, and are afraid to leave the house. What can they do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Parents were robbed, we believe we know who, police say there's little they can do. How can we make the system work the way it should? | Parents were robbed, we believe we know who, police say there's little they can do. How can we make the system work the way it should? | 3,234 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: You're a badass Sysadmin. How do I get you interested in the position, how do I make sure you can hack it? [Xpost from /r/jobs]
POST: I've got two problems at the moment, both inter-related.
* First, The Job Posting:
Thanks to corporate-speak, it's extremely hard to come across as genuine in a business context. I'm looking for people who enjoy IT, and take a lot of pride in what they do. I'm looking for the sort of people to whom "good enough" isn't. How do I let these sort of people that they want to work with me? How do I let them know that my company knows "pride" isn't just a buzzword for "watching the bottom line"?
* Second, The Candidates:
I'm pretty new to management. There are a lot of people who are far more experienced at talking themselves up than I am at figuring them out. It's easy enough to hire someone qualified, you can test for that with a well-executed test environment. The problem is that will only tell you what they're capable of, not how much you have to fight them to do anything.
We're an IT company in the small/medium business market, our clients don't generally have piles of cash to blow on new servers. There are times I'll have to hand someone a 3-year old server and some extra RAM and say "The client's budget fell through this year but they still need an upgrade, see how well you can polish this turd." The kind of person I'm looking for isn't just gonna say "This thing sucks". They're gonna say "This thing sucks, but it's gonna gleam anyway because it's *my* fuckin' turd."
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm looking for people who take pride in their work. How do I get them interested, and how do I separate them from the half-assers? | I'm looking for people who take pride in their work. How do I get them interested, and how do I separate them from the half-assers? | 2,606 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [25/m] How to break up w/ Mental Fragile Person [28,m]
POST: Please give me some advice. I've been with my current bf for over 2 years. Things have not been good quite a while, mostly on my part. I have regrettably stuck by it for all the wrong reasons. I did not want to hurt him, I usually need a big push to make a serious change, and I am afraid of what would become of him if I ended it. He does not have strong relationships with people other than me, he is very co-dependent, can show aspects of depression and anxiety, etc. For the 2nd time in our relationship I have discovered that he has been exchanging dirty messages with other people. I forgave him the first time because I blamed myself for not giving him adequate attention, plus I still corresponded with my ex against his wishes. This time I cannot look past it, mostly because I am looking for a way OUT. I need to end this relationship for my own mental and emotional well-being. Nonetheless I can't help, but worry that he might hurt himself if I leave him.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How to break up with a depressive and co-dependent partner. Additionally, what, if anything, can I do to prevent him from potentially hurting himself if I end it. Any words of advice can help. | How to break up with a depressive and co-dependent partner. Additionally, what, if anything, can I do to prevent him from potentially hurting himself if I end it. Any words of advice can help. | 2,441 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Traveling Europe While Turning 26: Global Pass or Point-to-Point?
POST: In deciding between purchasing a Eurail pass to use during my 6 weeks or travel, or buy each ticket individually, I'm weighing these factors:
1) I will be turning 26 (no longer considered a youth) part way through my adventure.
2) My tentative itinerary is Wroclaw - Berlin - Prague - Budapest - Vienna - Venice - Rome - Florence - Pisa - Barcelona - Paris - Amsterdam, a few of which are expensive as individual tickets.
3) I'm willing to pay a small premium for convenience.
For anyone who has experience with the rail system, would you recommend I get a global pass since I will be able to take advantage of youth pricing, or would it be better to buy each ticket individually?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Is the Eurail Global Pass a better deal if I will be considered a youth my whole trip, or is it much cheaper to purchase rail/other transportation individually? | Is the Eurail Global Pass a better deal if I will be considered a youth my whole trip, or is it much cheaper to purchase rail/other transportation individually? | 3,419 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I [20 M] being an asshole? [20 F] has a boyfriend
POST: I met this girl at a party and we started talking and flirting. At the end she gave me her number, we've been texting since Sunday morning. We got pretty close and kept flirting, and she told me she liked me.
Well, she asks me what I'm doing for Valentine's day, I say that I unfortunately have to work. She replies with "aw that sucks. I'm spending the day with my boyfriend and dinner with my parents" My reaction in my mind is wait, back the fuck up, your boyfriend?
She apologizes for not telling me but says that she didn't expect to fall for me. We both already like each other at this point, and she tells me she wished we had kissed at the party. I tell her that I don't want to be thaat guy, I've been cheated on before and it sucks. I also say if we keep talking, on Saturday valentines day I don't want to say okay have a fun day hanging with/fucking your boyfriend I'll be here to flirt when you get home! That's wrong in my eyes. She said she thinks of me when she's with her boyfriend. Just hanging out and doing sexual things
I have two conflicting emotions. I already like her a lot and it really sucks knowing that the person you like is with another guy. on the other hand though I don't want to be that guy I don't want to break up the relationship or have her cheat on him with me. I don't want to be with someone who is willing to cheat.
Am I being an asshole by talking to her? Its not like she told me straight out that she has a boyfriend, we were already close by the time she told me
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I get close with a girl, she tells me a few days later she has a boyfriend. Am I being an asshole by pursuing her? | I get close with a girl, she tells me a few days later she has a boyfriend. Am I being an asshole by pursuing her? | 609 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I do not want my fiance to invite her "best friend" of seventeen years to our wedding. Am I wrong Reddit? (More info inside)
POST: I was not invited to my fiance's best friend's wedding after dating my girlfriend (at the time we were not engaged) for ten years. I have met her best friend multiple times and always got along, never fought or disagreed on anything. Her friend lives in another state and when she got engaged I assumed my fiance and I would both be invited. Not only was I not invited but her friend also expected my fiance to be the maid of honor and take on all the responsibility of such an important job, all without acknowledging her relationship with me. My fiance protested and let her friend know this was wrong. After the fact her friend invited me, but I felt like damage was already done. I did not end up going. We are now planning our wedding and I refuse to add her to the invite list. Am I wrong for not inviting someone that clearly didn't want me at their wedding?
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TL;DR: . Assistant: | I was not invited to my fiance's best friend's wedding after dating my fiance for ten years. Should we invite her best friend to our wedding? | I was not invited to my fiance's best friend's wedding after dating my fiance for ten years. Should we invite her best friend to our wedding? | 3,681 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Do my (F25) parents need to meet my SO's (M27) parents?
POST: So my SO's mother lives over 5 hours away from us and my family. She is coming to visit and has made a point of saying how she expects that she will be invited for a dinner or something with my parents.
We have been living together for close to a year, probably going to get married, though I'm not really sure yet.
I would prefer to wait until we decide to get engaged for this meeting to happen because his mom is bat-shit crazy and talks endlessly about random shit like stories about people we do not know and never will know.
At the same time she makes no effort to get to know us. She says that "she loves me as her own family" yet really knows nothing about me because on the occasions when we go to visit she doesn't let me get a word in and doesn't seem to want to talk about anything of relevance.
I know my parents' personalities wont jive with her personality, and worry that them getting together is a shit-show waiting to happen. Add this to the fact that I'm not 100% sure on whether I want to marry this guy, I just don't think I should be forced to set up an awkward meeting between my parents and his mother.
We did have a discussion about it before, but he ended up just getting frustrated and dropping it so as to not jeopardize our relationship. But I still feel he is resentful about this and I'm sure it will come up closer to the time when his mother is going to visit.
Am I being fair? How can I explain this to my SO without coming off as being stubborn?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I don't want my boyfriends crazy mother to meet my parents until I'm completely sure he's the one I'm going to marry. | I don't want my boyfriends crazy mother to meet my parents until I'm completely sure he's the one I'm going to marry. | 621 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18M] met the right person [19F] at the wrong time.
POST: So, currently in college (that's our way of saying before university in the UK) and i've been with this girl for a year and a half. I love her, and think she's amazing. But the downside is, i'm 18. I want to go and experience lots of different things in lots of different places, but I can't go and travel and do amazing things with her. I want to go and do these things myself and make new friends.
I'm worried however, that if I approach her with this she'll go for it, but when I come back she'll have moved on with the relationship. We both feel the same way about each other, that's clear. Another point to make is that she has made plans to go and travel around Australia herself.
This may seem like a very selfish post, however I hope you can all understand that i'm young and want to expand my knowledge of the world and have my own individual experiences. For this to happen i'm looking at 2 or so years. Which is a long time I know, but as the title says, I met her too young. I'm not looking for criticism, i'm looking for people's own similar experiences and how they went about dealing with the situation. Thank you for reading, if I don't reply, i'm sleeping.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I met my gf too early, I love her but want to take a break and go travelling for two years and refine myself as person. What are your past experiences and how did you deal with them? | I met my gf too early, I love her but want to take a break and go travelling for two years and refine myself as person. What are your past experiences and how did you deal with them? | 602 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Have you ever fixed someone's life?
POST: I'm not talking about saving your best friend from laser-guided psychic cephalopods. I mean, have you ever done something huge for someone, expecting nothing in return that saved their life in the long run?
For example, I dated a girl for a little over 3 years and we had a really nasty break-up due to me cheating and both of us being addicted to heroin behind eachother's backs. I continued to do heroin and became completely addicted and hit rock bottom, so I moved to a new town where I didn't know where to get junk so I could quit. I came back to that town and she had been kicked out of her parents' house (we were 18-19 at the time) and was squatting at a piece of shit heroin addict's dilapidated trailer in exchange for sexual favors and heroin money. This sickened me to no extent, so I got a hold of her one day. I got her to throw everything emotional away behind us, pack her shit up, and leave. She came to live at my house with myself and my parents for a summer. She got clean, got a good job, her own car, and gained the respect of her parents back. She's now living in a nice apartment in a different state with her boyfriend, whom is rather successful. She got into school and got her shit back together. We're still friends to this day and it kills me to think what would have become of her if she hadn't swallowed her pride and allowed me to help her out of the shit hole that was her life.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I forced my ex to live with me and my parents so she could get clean and move in with her new boyfriend and go to school and get her life on track. Does anyone have any similar stories? | I forced my ex to live with me and my parents so she could get clean and move in with her new boyfriend and go to school and get her life on track. Does anyone have any similar stories? | 4,751 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How does a college student move states?
POST: To begin, and give context, it seems now two years after graduating high school that I am just sick of where I live. (No this isn't a *wah me* post.) So, I have always had the attitude, that if I don't like something in my life, I want to change it.
I don't like being around people I grew up with. I am subscribed to my city's subreddit, and it seems that people only talk about where they would rather be, due to extreme heat and lack thereof things to do.
However, now I am asking you redditors for help and to see how you guys have moved on your own.
Beyond actually *deciding* which city I would want to move to, (I have narrowed down my decisions,) I need help on how to finance the move because right now, it seems completely unrealistic for meand it pains me. I feel somewhat trapped here. Now I have the transportation to move, and I could quite possibly put down one months payment on my lease. However, only being a college student, I don't have the experience to be considered for a job that one could just accept via the telephone. I would need an entry level job. It seems I would need a job previously to moving, because I can't spend weeks without pay scrambling to find a job.
I find myself in a catch 22.
I need success stories. Have any of you redditors out there moved all by yourself without the help of affulent parents or have handy tips for me to make my dream a reality?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | A college student who really feels like he needs/wants to move, however, is unable to make this step financially. | A college student who really feels like he needs/wants to move, however, is unable to make this step financially. | 434 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20M] just found out my girlfriend [26/F] has a second profile she uses to message my friends, what the fuck do I make out of it
POST: Hi.
It all started when she logged into her gmail from my smartphone. It automatically created a google profile of her account and synchronized everything.
One of the things that also got synchronized was the "usernames" or "emails" you use when you login into places and when I wanted to log into facebook a few options popped out from the drop down menu, including an email account I have never seen. Curious, I tried to enter it with her generic password she uses (for random sites, I don't know her other passwords) and boom, I was in.
It was a fake profile of some spanish chick, she added 300 spanish people who accepted her and then procced to add my university friends, started messaging them claiming she is an exhange student, talking with them about all kind of stuff. Nothing harmful, I think she is just trying to spy on me through my friends.
She is very jealous and controling and I believe she made up this profile to have a sense of attachement to my friends (she doesn't want to hang out with them in real life). I do not believe she has malicious intent. But still, what the fuck is this shit I am baffled.
Anyway after seeing this I thought to myself what other shit am I gonna find on her real facebook account and got myself in, only to see nothing in messages, everything deleted a few days back, looks like she does this periodically. Hiding something? I do not know..
So reddit, the fuck do I do now? Confront her? Keep low and monitor the messages? I feel like I should just confront but I want another perspective.
Thanks.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF made a fake profile she uses to write to my friends and talk to them about random shit, I believe with the intent on spying on me. What to do. | GF made a fake profile she uses to write to my friends and talk to them about random shit, I believe with the intent on spying on me. What to do. | 5,651 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Not attracted to my bf anymore, what can I do?
POST: I'm 26 and he's 29 and we 've been together for about 2 years now. When we first met he used to do a lot of sport and go to the gym almost everyday. As soon as we started dating he stopped all activities but kept eating a lot of junk food. After 2 years of inactivity he's gotten big and I'm just not attracted anymore but I feel horrible because he really is a great guy.
I tried taking him to the gym with me since I also go there almost everyday, in those 2 years I managed to drag him with me 3 times. Each time he said he felt great and can't wait to go back there the next day but when the next day comes he just seat on his couch and stares at his television complaining that his muscles hurt and that he will take the "day off". Same thing with food. I've tried to make him eat healthy stuff and to stop drinking sugar drinks but he will still do it in hiding behind my back.
I'm not sure how to approach this anymore. It's come to a point where we joke about his belly and he seems fine with it like that. He even told me "I'm never going to have my abs back, I'm just not 21 anymore". He's 29, if he feels old already I'm really worried.
We're not even having sex anymore. It's been months. I've tried to a few times but he says he doesn't feel good about the way he looks...I'm so confused as to what to do. After 2 years like this I'm about to give up. I fantasize about other men when I masturbate so this can't be a good thing. I used to be so attracted to him, I don't know what happened that he stopped wanting to look good for me as soon as we've been together.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | bf got fat, used to be in great shape, doesn't want to make any efforts despite me trying to motivate him. I'm fantasizing about other guys. | bf got fat, used to be in great shape, doesn't want to make any efforts despite me trying to motivate him. I'm fantasizing about other guys. | 2,852 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28 M] with my Girlfriend [22 F] 1 year, Wants to get married and move in with
POST: I am madly in love with my girlfriend of a year and a half and I would be happy living the rest of my with her. I helped her escape a previous terrible relationship and she has helped me restore focus to my life and bring me out of a funk I found myself in.
We always talked about getting married as it was the obvious next step and I never had an issue with it. She lives with her parents and I on my own as she has conservative christian parents who frown on living together before marriage.
The situation I am having now is that her sister and her husband live in the same house with her and her parents so it's a very crowded home. Recently, her sister was diagnosed with a debilitating condition that is making her home life very stressful and it has been noticeable her normally cheery attitude. She is very tired and stressed out with this combined with her 2 jobs and college course load.
She asked me today If I would marry her and get an apartment together while we save up for a home together. I don't think this is a bad idea but I need to know what I need to do for this to work, My father is absent from my life so I never really had those growing up moments when it comes to relationships.
I'm a little nervous about it mostly on financial reasons, I have about 15k in debt between my car and school but I have a good job. My Credit was ruined at a young age by my father so that's also an issue.
She supports herself with two jobs and has average credit for someone her age and not much debt to speak of.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend wants me to propose to her and get an apartment what do I need to do/confirm before I do it, to make sure it works. | My girlfriend wants me to propose to her and get an apartment what do I need to do/confirm before I do it, to make sure it works. | 3,648 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I have a job interview tomorrow and came across some disheartening information - any advice?
POST: I am applying for a job with a well regarded firm in DC, and while reading online reviews of the place with pros and cons I was coming across stuff that would be familiar to any office - cons were office politics, an old-boys culture among the senior staff, etc. Then I found an entry stating that the place tends to take stock in those who stay latest - is this something that would disqualify me in an interview if I asked about it? I always hear horror stories from people who have to stay until 11 pm at their office jobs even if they have nothing to do just so it appears as if they are working hard and I am trying not to get caught in that culture.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Company cares about who stays latest, would the interviewers disqualify me for asking if it was something that was true? | Company cares about who stays latest, would the interviewers disqualify me for asking if it was something that was true? | 5,839 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Help me think of 8-5 minute workouts I could do in an office.
POST: Hey reddit, my coworkers and I have a deal going on to see who can lose the most weight. 1 got on the adkins diet and the other was a long distance runner so he is going to run 4 mi a day. I plan on losing my weight by limiting myself to 2,000 calories and doing 8 5 minute workouts everyday. On my days off I plan on working on cardio but at work I thought, what the heck. Why not use the downtime to trim my belly.
All I could think about doing is push-ups and sit-ups. And trust me I dont want a lecture on why doing 100 push ups a day would be a bad idea, so help me mix it up a bit.
I will dedicate 5 minutes of every work hour to do each set.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I need 8-5 minute workout ideas to do in an office space environment. Push ups and Sit ups is all I got so far. | I need 8-5 minute workout ideas to do in an office space environment. Push ups and Sit ups is all I got so far. | 3,202 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [25/m] How to deal with nonmonogamous desires in a monogamous relationship?
POST: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. Although our "puppy love" has gone, I love more than anyone. However, I have sexual and (less often) emotional attractions to other people. We have spoken about having an open relationship, but she needs monogamy.
I feel trapped: to leave her would cause me immense pain, but to stay causes me pain on a regular basis.
How common is it to have these desires?
How can I get out of this trap?
I realize this may just be a case where there is no information anyone can give me, but even a little advice on how to come to a decision would be helpful. I've been trying to work it out on my own for months.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | hurts to stay because I get crushes on other people, hurts to leave because I love her. What to do? | hurts to stay because I get crushes on other people, hurts to leave because I love her. What to do? | 2,065 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My sister has very different political views from me, and I feel like she is brainwashing my son. How can I approach this?
POST: I am a single mom of two sons, and my sister is much younger than me. She is a 20-year old college student with very liberal views contrasting my conservative ones and is often very vocal about her opinions. One of my sons is 11 years old and he looks up to her a lot. I feel like sometimes I'm just his old mom, and she's the one he goes to when he needs anything, like help with homework.
With the election being a really big topic recently, my sister often talks to my son about these sort of things and her opinions obviously really differ from what I want him to believe. I feel like she thinks I am raising my own children wrong. We both grew up in the same religious household, but at very different times since she is so much younger. She still goes to church with our parents, but probably just to make them happy. Her religious views are nothing like what I want to instill in my kids. For example, my sons are both in a Sunday youth group at our church. My older son (14) doesn't really mind it too much, but the younger one likes to rebel and complain about it. At one point, I asked my sister if she could explain to my son that it is important to be in this youth group and she said, "No, I don't think I can tell him that because I don't believe it myself. All they are doing in that youth group is telling him how to think, and if that's the way you want to raise him then I'm not going to help."
I am really stuck as to what to do. My younger son has recently come up to me and said, "Mom, why are you voting for Mitt Romney? Auntie says that he would make a bad president and he doesn't care about people who are different from him." It's things that this that I don't know how to answer. My sister and I are not particularly close (she is the youngest sibling and I am the oldest - she's much closer to our other siblings). So how do I approach this? How can I talk to my sister, or to my son?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Younger sister with liberal views does not like the values I teach my son, tells him things I don't really want him hearing. What can I do? | Younger sister with liberal views does not like the values I teach my son, tells him things I don't really want him hearing. What can I do? | 4,612 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18 M] messed up my one year anniversary with my girlfriend [18 F]
POST: I am currently traveling in California, and my girlfriend lives in Minnesota. I was in San Jose the past few days; today I traveled to LA by plane. In San Jose, I did not have WiFi at my hotel, so all our communication was by text and Facebook messenger (her parents are a bit extreme so she can't talk on the phone).
We were talking yesterday on Facebook, and our anniversary is today. I didn't think of our anniversary until this morning, and I decided that telling her over the phone or skype would be best. We talked a bit throughout the day through text, and neither of us mentioned the anniversary. I wasn't able to skype or call her due to our schedules until about 4:00 pm Pacific time.
Just as I was going to ask her to skype, one of her friends texted me telling me that she was sad about me forgetting about the anniversary. I explained to him that I just wanted to make things more meaningful by telling her over the phone/Skype. I then messaged her on Facebook asking her if she could Skype. She then accused me of forgetting about the anniversary. I explained my thinking, but she doesn't believe me. Now she doesn't seem to want to talk to me at all today.
What can I do to make this better? How should I proceed? I just feel really bad if I messed up and made her sad. My intentions were only good. Thanks for the help.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I messed up my one year anniversary by deciding not to mention it prior to trying to call my girlfriend late in the day. Now I am trying to make things better, but she doesn't want to talk. What should I do? | I messed up my one year anniversary by deciding not to mention it prior to trying to call my girlfriend late in the day. Now I am trying to make things better, but she doesn't want to talk. What should I do? | 5,404 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Had a feeling girlfriend was lying to me, but I looked through her phone while she was sleeping, and found out I was correct
POST: Okay so my girlfriend said she had stopped smoking weed. She gets tested, and I basically was trying to guide her to make the right decision. I caught her once before, and she told me she would never do it again. A couple nights ago she went to her friends house with her friends (all if whom smoke weed), and told me she wasn't going to.
I'm not really proud of it, but she was asleep and I looked through her phone and low and behold, she was talking about getting stoned. How do I confront her about this without hinting towards me doing what I did to find out?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | gf said she stopped smoking weed, looked through her phone, ended up she was still smoking. how do I confront her without giving up what I did? | gf said she stopped smoking weed, looked through her phone, ended up she was still smoking. how do I confront her without giving up what I did? | 5,407 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: A conundrum in Georgia: leasing office woes (gift delivery never made it to me)
POST: Hi all! I appreciate you looking at my post. As the title says, I'm dealing with a rather cruddy issue with my leasing office, and I'm not really sure how to proceed. Feel free to let me know if I should be posting this elsewhere.
Basic story: my birthday was in early April, and recently a dear friend hinted that something special might have been dropped off in the office for me. I called the office yesterday to inquire and the lady who picked up immediately asked if I had gotten her voice message about my flowers. Errr, no, sure hadn't. No calls from them on my phone at all. Well, apparently about a week and a half ago a lovely floral arrangement was dropped off for me in the office, and allegedly they tried calling to notify me. The lady even admitted that she might have dialed incorrectly, and also she didn't bother to follow up as I go out of town at times (I have been home the entire month of April except for one night). They let my lovely flowers die and then threw out the remains, including the vase and any cards that might of come with it. I was aghast! I sheepishly asked my friend for the price tag of her nice gift and, including delivery fees, she paid over $80 for the office ladies to have a pretty bouquet to enjoy. I feel cheated, but I really don't know if I can hold them accountable for this debacle. Like, would you, as a neighbor, ignore a time sensitive item such as flowers and just let them wither on the vine? Can I ask them to somehow make amends, or should I just let sleeping dogs lie? My gut feeling is they wouldn't budge an inch. And best believe I'll be refunding my friend for her generosity! Any advice is greatly appreciated, and I even feel better now that I've had a chance to vent. Thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | flowers for me were delivered to leasing office, which only gave bare minimum attempt to get them to me; now the bouquet is dead, I never even saw it, and I'm royally ticked off! | flowers for me were delivered to leasing office, which only gave bare minimum attempt to get them to me; now the bouquet is dead, I never even saw it, and I'm royally ticked off! | 4,534 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by not doing well on the AMC 8
POST: Happy New Years Eve, everyone! I hope your's is more enjoyable than mine. MAA is slowly posting the high scorers(with the scores) for the AMC 8 on their website. They seem to post school by school. My mother got extremely angry when she saw that they posted a score from someone in my, but didn't post my score. (The highest score you can get is a 25, they were posting any score that 19 or above) She has been screaming at me for the last hour about the whole deal. As a middle schooler taking Precalc, my mother and I were expecting me to score 23 or higher. However, according to the website, I am not a high scorer. This will not daunt me, I will do try to get a great score for the AMC 10. This post was relieve some stress. Thank you for reading.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Middler schooler tacking precalc screws up on the AMC 8. Mother screams, middle schooler now determined to do fantastic on the AMC 10. | Middler schooler tacking precalc screws up on the AMC 8. Mother screams, middle schooler now determined to do fantastic on the AMC 10. | 2,504 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Mid-life crisis? [M35] How to deal.
POST: I hope to live past 70, but my wife [34] of 15 years thinks I'm going through such a life-event.
Not long ago, I brought up the idea of divorce and the results were terrible. There was yelling. Smashing of dishes. Now she doesn't even trust me at all. I really wish I could take it back, and go back to the way things were before.
I've never cheated. I don't watch pornography. I don't have female friends because they always seem to get too close.
I've now quit my job and promised to build my own business at home.
I supported her for a decade, but now moved my finances into both names and made myself financially dependent on her. I hope this will show I have no intention of leaving or cheating.
I work out for 2 hours a day, mostly to make myself too tired to consider other relationships or sex. My gym wanted me to model for their promotions, but I knew that would make her uncomfortable so I declined.
I do not go anywhere without her. I even decline when her friends ask me to dance.
She lost her best friend over me and doesn't know it. I feel terrible. We would all three meet together, but she suddenly stopped talking to my wife and started texting me... asking if I would meet her alone. I cut off all ties before anything happened.
I care for my wife very much and don't want to lose her over a stupid phase.
I suppose I worry too much because I regret never having children or sex. I have never had a place of my own. We don't have sex and I have accepted I never will. She is happy just being held, but she has issues with doing anything more and I have never wanted to coerce her into feeling guilty.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to be less selfish. I need practical ways to avoid temptations and to gain my wife's trust. | I want to be less selfish. I need practical ways to avoid temptations and to gain my wife's trust. | 3,250 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [34M] with my separated wife [33F] 14 years, why do i feel nothing?
POST: Quick run down of the relationship:
Whirlwind romance and 6 months later Married young (20 and 19 respectively), together for 14 years, 2 kids over the course of it. In the end a number of issues ended the relationship, to begin with my own inadequacies and addictions, but after the separation thinking about it i came to terms that maybe neither of us were overly happy. 3 days after the separation she asked me back, and i refused, saying we had more issues to work through.
For a long time after this i begged and pleaded and did everything i could to get us back together, but she needed to "evaluate her feelings", as she for a long time felt nothing towards me. A few weeks ago she requested i cut all non-essential contact (so only discussions about kid arrangements etc were to take place). Since then i have taken steps to survive, removing many itmes around my home that reminded me of "us", removing my wedding ring, ive had a sexual experience with someone else (nothing major and no harm done on either side, were both aware of the current situation) and been on my first date in 15 years.
After a recent meet up with my wife, she confessed a number of feelings, such as jealousy, missing me, her heart wants me but her head says its a bad idea etc. The only feelings i'm experiencing are pity for how shes currently doing, and exasperation at how messed around im feeling with her off again-on again contact and physical/mental affection (often not both at the same time).
Is this normal? am i going through a phase where if i tell her i dont feel anything it could change in 2 weeks and by then it will be too late? Or am i finally looking at moving my life on past this relationship?
Should i be open about my feelings and experiences (we made a clause on breakup, she didnt want to know anything i did with other people while we were separated, and told me to lie if i had done anything) or would that just end everything, and if it did is that for the best?
If someone could just live my life for me for a bit and give it back in a few months that would be grand :D
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Wife loved me, didint love me, now possibly loves me again, I loved her, loved her, and now feel nothing... what do i do? | Wife loved me, didint love me, now possibly loves me again, I loved her, loved her, and now feel nothing... what do i do? | 50 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: My [27M] first date with [23F] tonight...help me read the signs please.
POST: My [27M] first date with [23F] tonight, we met online and texted for 4 days before meeting a lot. Lots of similar interests, good conversation both texting and in person. We exchanged pictures before meeting and we discussed her coming back to my house and cuddling to a movie after the bar and she said yes possibly.
So tonight, we had a few drinks at the bar, stayed for 1.5 hours, and she was getting a lot of texts on her phone, she said her room mates were cooking enchiladas and were being very persuasive for her to go home and eat with them...
So she bailed on the cuddling/movie, I asked if she wanted to hangout again and she said "Yes definitely and we should watch Lord of the Rings together since we both love it." I walked her to her car, and got a quick kiss on the lips, no tongue.
Mixed signals it seems like to me right? Could go either way, her liking me or not?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 1st date, mixed signals, quick peck on lips, says yes to 2nd date, but bails on our followup plans on 1st date. Whats the story? | 1st date, mixed signals, quick peck on lips, says yes to 2nd date, but bails on our followup plans on 1st date. Whats the story? | 2,156 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: Trying to get over an abusive Ex-SO and move on with my life, what are some tips?
POST: Here's some backup information:
We're both relatively young (16&17), and we dated for around 3-4 months.
Not that long.
We both have a history of mental illness, though I'm a lot more accepting of mine than he is with his, as he'd often tell me.
Anyway, he was very emotionally abusive while we were dating. I had told him that I wasn't comfortable with sexual things just yet, but he'd often pressure me and make really crude jokes that he knew made me feel uncomfortable purely to watch me squirm.
I ended it, and needless to say he wasn't too happy about it.
He got other parties involved, tried to shit-talk me to my friends, threatened me etc. and all the while I'm trying really hard to just get the credits I needed at school and try to focus on getting into a more stable place in my life.
Fast forward about 5 months, he's gone through two other girlfriends while I'm stuck feeling extremely uncomfortable being around men.
I'm having reoccurring nightmares and I just can't seem to move past this, though try as I might :/
Any tips?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My emotionally abusive ex-SO won't leave my mind, and I want to try and get on with my life. | My emotionally abusive ex-SO won't leave my mind, and I want to try and get on with my life. | 5,723 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: I think my beagle is sick. Can anyone offer any insight/share any similar experiences? (x-post /r/beagle)
POST: So last Friday (March 29th) my 5 and a half year old beagle, Miles, started acting weirdly. He would start shaking and quietly whining. My family and I chalked it up to being in a new environment since we brought him to stay with us overnight at my grandparents' new home. This wasn't too worrying to us, since Miles is epileptic (relatively common among beagles) and we assumed he was having a mild seizure. But the problem persisted through the night and every couple hours he would start shaking again on every inhale. Also, he refuses to jump onto the furniture he knows he's allowed on; he chooses to stay on the floor and whine or I have to pick him up to be on the furniture with me. What I noticed starting yesterday is that he seems to be in pain around his bottom ribs and haunches. I tried lightly poking him in those areas every couple of hours and every time I do, he yelps.
Throughout all of this I noticed what worries me the most. As any beagle owner would know, beagles can't shut up around food. Never before has Miles acted calm around food, let alone slept in his kennel during Easter lunch in a strange environment. He won't run up to snatch a treat out of my hand, either. I have to offer it to him a few inches from his nose, or, if I throw it on the floor he might be bothered to mosey on over and chomp it up very slowly.
Does anyone know what may be wrong with him?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 5 and 1/2 y/o epileptic beagle showing pain and loss of appetite. Never seen symptoms like this in him before | 5 and 1/2 y/o epileptic beagle showing pain and loss of appetite. Never seen symptoms like this in him before | 334 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] wanting to message her [20 F], but unsure how to go about it, or if i should even attempt.
POST: So i lived on college campus last year and hit off with a girl towards the end of it (after 7 months or so living on the same floor of about 40 people), we both liked each other but we kept it secret to avoid everyone talking about it. We have similar friendship groups and will probably bump into one another at many events due to the friendship groups. A whole lot less pressure without your whole floor/friendship group knowing i guess. Im not sure if that makes sense, but we both agreed that people liked to gossip and shit, which would be annoying. I definitely know i do not like that sort of attention.
We both agreed that it probably wouldnt last over break and we would just remain friends. This was due to living too far away from each other, doing it long distance seemed very pointless from both perspectives. But during the second last week of exams, she kind of started to make excuses to not hang out. Which left me quite hurt. Anyway we had a talk towards the end of the semester and she gave a very bleak and "sorry for leading you on" sort of conversation.
After a few weeks of being on break i decided to ask her over facebook what happened. Her reply of "You didnt screw anything up at all. I really enjoyed hanging out with you but I didn't have strong feelings for you to continue anything. I never had any intentions of making it long term anyway I guess. But from what I remember you didnt either".
We havn't talked since. I still have feeling for her though. I'm wondering whether or not its worth sending her a text message saying i miss her, or if i should just drop it. We didnt have a fight at the end, but it was one sided.
If i were to go about messaging her, what do you think would be a good way to approach it?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Was very keen on a girl towards end of University, we had a little thing, that ended when the semester ended. Should i message her? how would one go about this without losing all dignity? | Was very keen on a girl towards end of University, we had a little thing, that ended when the semester ended. Should i message her? how would one go about this without losing all dignity? | 5,870 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, my shit is not together. Any personal advice, experiences, thoughts? Rude jokes at my expense are welcome too!
POST: Long time Redditor here. This is a throwaway, but I'm sure some friends will recognize me. I don't mind though.
I'm 20 years old. I got kicked out of my parents' house recently, with absolutely no money to my name. All I have is this laptop, some clothes, and good friends. I'm staying with a friend for the time being, but I don't want to impede his family for longer than two months. However at the rate of my job search, I may have to stay for longer.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining about getting kicked out really. I wouldn't want to go back to my parents' house at this point. I will have to rise up and make a man of myself at some point in my life... but it just feels like I'm facing tremendous odds. I've applied at almost everywhere possible within a 3 mile radius (Outskirts of NYC), most places aren't hiring at this time (even McDonald's hasn't called me back yet). I'm not the kind of person to be above a minimum wage job (or two even!), but even those aren't hiring at this time.
I managed to get sick right after I got kicked out, so I didn't do stunningly at my first interview. I'm also lacking in the official documents department. All I have is my birth certificate and high school diploma (my mother lost my social security card a while back so uh...).
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Got kicked out, no money, want to be self-sufficient as soon as possible. What would you do in my situation? Or what have you done in a similar situation? | Got kicked out, no money, want to be self-sufficient as soon as possible. What would you do in my situation? Or what have you done in a similar situation? | 2,657 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (27/F) fooled around with a boy(25) that I like, but just met two weeks ago - do we talk about it?
POST: My roommate introduced me to his newest coworker about two weeks ago, and he's become a regular visitor and occasional overnight guest at the house ever since. We get along pretty well, and I think he's really cute. Definitely someone I would love to have in my life in some manner or another. I feel as though he's everything I've been wanting in a guy, but it's also a little early to make that call. Perhaps it's just the loneliness talking. We haven't spent much time with just the two of us.
Anyway, we're all kind of transient in our living situation at the moment - he's camping and I'm sharing an RV with my two roommates (a couple). It was snowy a few nights ago, so he crashed with us. I offered to share the couch bed so he didn't have to sleep on the floor (really just a ploy to cuddle).
Well, I was just planning on cuddling, but the next thing I know he's slyly moving his arm around my waist, and hinted for me to make a move. I didn't object. One thing leads to another and we end up fooling around.
It was great, and I'd totally do it again. I want to have this kid in some way, be it FWB, casual dating, or a long term relationship. Thing is, neither of us have mentioned it yet, and I'm not sure if I should? We've just been carrying on like nothing ever went down, but I'm afraid if it doesn't get brought up, I'll miss my opportunity. I also can't really read how he's feeling about it.
What the hell do I say to him? Anything? Suggest we do it again? Send him a sexy text message? Keep quiet and wait for him? I'm bad at boys.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I messed around with a guy, and I'd like to either do it again or date him, but I don't know if/how to address the elephant in the room. | I messed around with a guy, and I'd like to either do it again or date him, but I don't know if/how to address the elephant in the room. | 769 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girlfriend [22f] has lost all sex drive, but only after she started dating me [25m]
POST: Title says a lot of it.
She was dating a guy when I met her. We became good friends and were able to talk pretty openly.
She would tell me she "needed" to have sex roughly once-a-day, good for her and for the guy.
Winter break of last year comes around and she's unhappy in her relationship and cheats on the guy with me (I, to this day, feel terrible about this and have let the guy know how awful I feel about what I did).
It wasn't just a fling we were very attached to each other and I knew I loved her very quickly into our relationship. I know she loves me as well.
We never had a very good sex life (I bombed the first few times) and it has never recovered. I've tried talking about it, spicing things up, being spontaneous, etc. Nothing works. She says she wants to have sex and that we need to do it more often, but it really doesn't happen. I believe she has sex with me just enough to keep me around and keep me from having the conversation again. (roughly once a month)
I want to fix this because I do love her, but she's already slowed down her sex drive. If we were to get married and have kids it would affect it that much more.
Any advice?
OH, i forgot to mention, her reasoning behind the lack of sex is: "You will pay attention to me even if we don't have sex, he would just roll over and go to sleep if I didn't have sex with him". I'm being punished for being a better bf I guess.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF was a once-a-day girl with her ex, sex is roughly once a month with me. She obviously enjoyed it better with him, and I can't figure out how to fix it. | GF was a once-a-day girl with her ex, sex is roughly once a month with me. She obviously enjoyed it better with him, and I can't figure out how to fix it. | 1,439 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Not even sure if this is the right place for this... but I think I might be confused about my sexuality? [24F]
POST: I was raised Catholic, and even though I'm not religious anymore, I definitely still deal with the Catholic guilt. I also think I have body dysmorphic disorder, as I feel extremely self-conscious about my body (even though my ex assured me that I have nothing to be ashamed of, that I'm very sexy, etc.)
Ok so here's the part I'm confused about: guys that I think are pretty cute and interesting to talk to, whenever it gets to the point where I should probably kiss them or make some other kind of physical move, I shut down and do nothing. In that moment I find myself doubting whether or not I am actually attracted to them or something? It's like the anxiety of taking it to the next level overrides all the other emotions.
Also it's this weird thing where I've never really learned to "flirt" and I think that a lot of my interactions with guys tend to skew towards friendliness rather than... flirting or whatever? So then that's like an added layer of awkwardness where there's this platonic exchange going on but we're supposed to suddenly get "sexy" or whatever.
I didn't have a huge sex drive with my ex. He pretty much wanted it every day, whereas I was closer to once every week or two. At the beginning of our relationship I wanted it more often. We had pretty great sex overall, at least when I was sincerely in the mood.
Does any of this seem to indicate that I'm not heterosexual?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I find myself having sort of platonic relationships with men even when I find them attractive. Hard to initiate the sexual stuff, not sure if it's insecurity/Catholic guilt or cuz I'm not straight. | I find myself having sort of platonic relationships with men even when I find them attractive. Hard to initiate the sexual stuff, not sure if it's insecurity/Catholic guilt or cuz I'm not straight. | 4,410 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by responding to anonymous boob text by sexting.
POST: Technically, this happened last night, but whatever.
I randomly received a text message from an unfamiliar number that was simply a pair of boobs. I was befuddled, because I am single, and never receive pictures of that nature. Off the bat, I could tell that their owner was obese, but they were nice boobs nontheless, so I simply said "nice boobs".
I tried looking through my friends, social media, and Google to figure out the number, to no avail. She then sent me another picture, so I sent back a dick pic. We ended up chatting for a bit, and she explained that she was sad because she "hadn't been appreciated in awhile" to which I replied, "I'm sure you're pretty, and a wonderful person" (I was trying to be nice).
After more texting, I decide to find out who it is. She says she knows me, and I know her, and decides to make me play "guess who" to figure it out. After 20 minutes of failed guessing, she sends a full body selfie in underwear, and I almost threw up. It turns out it's this lady from the bar who I've been trying to avoid, because I find her to be very unattractive and annoying. She had an out-of-state area code when I met her, but she switched to a local area code the night before sexting me. I feel like I have to avoid the bar for awhile.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Got a random picture of boobs, sexted back, realized it was from some local girl who I think is ugly. | Got a random picture of boobs, sexted back, realized it was from some local girl who I think is ugly. | 4,636 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [29M] relatives leave my wife [27F] out of their Christmas giving, but her relatives are so generous to me.
POST: So my wife and I are having a great holiday - we're a little more strapped for cash than usual this year, but we (mostly she, I have to give it to her) have found ways to still make everything work. She is an absolute rockstar at making things special on a budget.
Our issue, or rather, my issue I guess, has to do with in-laws. Her family has welcomed me with open arms. They're loving to her and to me by extension, and I have always been included in holiday gifts. And her family is *very* generous with presents. My family, on the other hand, sends me a couple gifts every year. The only indication that they even remember my wife exists is when they send a Christmas card. For example, my grandmother will buy a card that says, "Merry Christmas to my grandson" and scribble in "and wife" as an afterthought. Sometimes it's smudged and can't even be read.
For a few years, I've tries to casually mention that I think it might be a little more appropriate for them to buy us a joint gift or something so that it is a gift for my wife too. I've mentioned how it feels really nice for me to be included *equally* by my wife's family. I don't think it has had any effect.
What's worse is that they give me home goods type stuff that very well *could* be addressed to both myself and my wife, because we have the same home for cryin' out loud. It's just starting to feel that they're trying to alienate her on purpose. They have made a lot of comments about how it is a "cultural thing" because my wife and her family are Asian and are probably more rich so they are more extravagant.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My family leaves my wife out of their Christmas gifts, even though my in-laws are very generous with *me*. Starting to feel intentional. Should I say something about this to my relatives after Christmas? | My family leaves my wife out of their Christmas gifts, even though my in-laws are very generous with *me*. Starting to feel intentional. Should I say something about this to my relatives after Christmas? | 5,714 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (19F) lied about my brothers to my sort-of boyfriend (23M) to impress him, now I'm feeling bad about it, should I tell him?
POST: Okay so this isn't as bad as I'm making it out to be probably. But on the first date, he asked me about my siblings. I told him their names and ages, which were correct. But then I felt pressured to impress him, so I lied and told him they were both married and have families and careers in other palces. Except really, they both live with my mom and I because they both have disabilities and whatnot that prevent them from living on their own so my mom takes care of them. I feel really bad about it, and the two are supposed to meet for the first time over breakfast tomorrow. I don't want him to find out I lied to him if my mom says something, but I'm really scared he'll think less of me or want to break it off. I really like him and can see this going potentially long term.. Should I wait on them meeting so I can tell him myself? I'm seeing him tomorrow and staying at his place for the night. I don't know if this is a big deal or not, so any advice would be much appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I lied to a potential boyfriend about my brothers' lives to impress him and now he's supposed to meet my mom. Feeling nervous and bad about this, should I tell him? | I lied to a potential boyfriend about my brothers' lives to impress him and now he's supposed to meet my mom. Feeling nervous and bad about this, should I tell him? | 164 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [35 M] dating [36 F] for several weeks, she said "I'm too available"
POST: I recently started dating this woman, or rather started dating this woman again. I asked her out three years ago and we went on a few dates, and we didn't click. We remained friends, and we recently both found ourselves single. So, she asked me out to rekindle what we had going before.
What attracted her to me was how much I had changed. Three years ago I was really immature with no real direction in life. Now, seven months after a devastating break up, I completely turned my life around. I've lost over 50 pounds. I'm exercising, eating clean and all around taking care of myself. Life is going awesome for me now.
So, she's back in the picture. Things are going really great between us. I'm trying new things with her that I haven't done with other women. I used to be a somewhat cold, cerebral person and not very affectionate. Now, I'm taking chances. I'm not overanalyzing and looking for "signs". I got handsy on her on our second date, I took a chance and kissed her. These things would take months in previous relationships.
I've also decided to be more communicative. She likes to text, so I've reciprocated by texting her quite a bit. I've never been really chatty on text, but again, why not, I'm going to text as the mood strikes me, rather than again overanalyzing. We'll probably send each other like ten texts a day, although I find myself texting her more.
She gave some feedback to me which has got me thinking. She said that I'm too available. I'm not much of a challenge. Now I'm getting back into overanalysis mode. I sense I might be beginning to turn her off. How can I adjust my communication pattern with her to not be so "available" and be more "challenging"?
I'm a person who goes all out in self-improvement and my work, where my enthusiasm has brought tremendous results, but I'm sensing this might not be the best approach for relationships.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I think I might be turning my girl off by being too available, but I don't want to turn her off by being too cold. What's the middle ground here? | I think I might be turning my girl off by being too available, but I don't want to turn her off by being too cold. What's the middle ground here? | 598 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19M] with my bf[22M] found messages in his social media account! Help
POST: This is a throw for obvious reasons - he is on reddit too! :(
I am in my second year of Univeristy and he is doing a post grad course at the same uni. We live with mutual friends. I have been with him for about 8 months and in that time I have caught him cheating once before through sending messages and pictures. I was distraught but didn't want to lose the relationship. So I stupidly stuck with him.
Time has passed and we've had our arguments here and there and I came to the conclusion with some help of friends he doesn't know that he is an emotional manipulator. With this in mind, I carried on with the relationship like normal and he seemed to be ok.
About two weeks ago he started acting a bit distant towards me and I had suspicions he was cheating again. He had left his laptop open on a social media account with a conversation open with the guy he cheated on before with talking about sending more pictures and more crude messages.
When he came back in the room I pretended I hadn't seen it. It has now been 3 days and I've not said anything. Obviously I am too scared to say anything since I invaded HIS privacy and went on his facebook. I can't stay with him though since he has now cheated twice. Help!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I had suspicions BF was cheating AGAIN, hacked into his facebook and he was talking to the person he cheated on me with before. | I had suspicions BF was cheating AGAIN, hacked into his facebook and he was talking to the person he cheated on me with before. | 979 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: New to dating. What's considered appropriate intimacy for dates?
POST: Early 20s M.
Obviously, this answer dependent on the people and situations involved, but...what's considered a typical level of intimacy for dates?
Backstory for why I'm even asking:
All my past relationships I've kind of...stumbled into somehow or another. Hard to explain..um...I guess what I mean is I've never just cold asked someone out and did the whole "formal" dating thing. It's always been friends straight into lovers and whatnot.
I met a cute girl through a friend recently, she's interesting and we get along pretty great so I asked her out on a date. It was a pretty informal thing, we just went to a show together. Anyhoo. I had fun, and I know she did too. We danced (near each other, not with each other *awk me*), talked a lot, shared some laughs, and generally got to know each other. Peachy. So when I dropped her off, the awkward hit like a sack of bricks in the face. I suddenly got nerved up and I think I came across as just...completely uninterested. So parting ways I think I said something ambiguous and unromantic like "See you around". There was this instant wipe of disappointment and then she said "Can I at least get a hug?" and I happily obliged but...it kind of threw off my entire view of the night. I mean I am so afraid of being too fast or rushing into anything...but of course I wouldn't mind something a little more romantic myself. Now I'm just wondering what people expect out of these formal dates. What's the norm? I feel like I really let down her expectations or something, and I feel like a dick. I'm going to call her of course and try to go on another, but I don't want to have this happen again.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | New to dating. What do most people expect going into this? What's typical? How do I politely escalate from dating? Merp. | New to dating. What do most people expect going into this? What's typical? How do I politely escalate from dating? Merp. | 5,741 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Difficulties with a different college, long distance relationship
POST: I am finishing up the last week of fall quarter of my second year as an undergrad. I am in a long distance relationship, eight hours apart. The college I attend was my first choice for college, though I never had any real reason to want to attend, I just wanted to. My boyfriend's college is also his first choice. I was accepted into both. They are both fantastic colleges, his even being ranked higher than mine. However, when after talking it over, we decided that me moving away for college, the college I originally wanted to attend would be the best option. I was to go to his school, and we were to break up, I would feel silly choosing a college over a boy, he would feel guilty for allowing me to make that choice, and overall we would feel awful. So we decided on doing the long distance thing.
We have been going out for over three and a half years, and the last year has been difficult. But we have survived and are even better than before. Our relationship seems solid. We do have issues, and they are often exacerbated by the long distance, but we trudge on. However, through it all, I feel so guilty for putting our relationship through this. It seems as though this is a relationship that will last, and it would make life ten times easier if we had been in the same school. He always blames me for the problems we have, because I chose to move away. I dont really know how to deal with it. How can I help him move past the decision, and on to fixing the problems that do arise instead of blaming me for my collegiate decision?
Sorry for the long post. It just keeps getting difficult.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Chose a far away college, how to help bf get over that "selfish" decision to better strengthen our relationship? | Chose a far away college, how to help bf get over that "selfish" decision to better strengthen our relationship? | 2,580 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20M] forgot my girlfriend [20F] of 11month's birthday. How do I fix this?
POST: Hi, this is a throwaway account. I really screwed myself over here and I need advice on how to fix the situation.
I have been dating my girlfriend, fake name Jane, for just about a year now. I truly love her and she's there for me every day when I need it and beyond. Back in February during my birthday, she got me a few vintage game systems because I mentioned that my dream is to own all of the systems. It was an awesome birthday. Honestly one of the best I can remember.
This year has been one of the best yet for me. I know a lot of it is because of her. She's very understanding of my hectic work schedule and still finds time in her crazy life to care for me. So I feel crazy guilty right now about forgetting her birthday yesterday.
I asked when her birthday was to verify the date a month or so back. I wanted to get her a very nice gift that she'd mentioned in passing wanting a while ago. She's never had a birthday celebration before because her step mother never allowed for it. I wanted to make this year special.
However, I forgot about it. Seriously forgot. I work a lot and eventually it slipped my mind. Yesterday I worked the morning, she came over, cooked me dinner, I went to hang out with my friends, and went to bed. She said nothing. This morning I went to her place and her brother asked how yesterday went. I told him about my day. He asked what I got Jane. I asked what he meant, and he also got confused. He asked what I got for her birthday, and I asked when it's happening.
It was yesterday. Now she's at work and so am I. I feel like shit. She hasn't said one thing. She hasn't acted angry or upset or anything. I don't know what to say to her. I feel really bad. She's done so much for me and I didn't even remember her birthday.
How do I bring this up and apologize? Should I do anything to celebrate now without it being awkward? I just have no idea what to even say to her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I forgot my girlfriends birthday and she hasn't mentioned it at all. I feel like shit. How do I bring this up and make things better? | I forgot my girlfriends birthday and she hasn't mentioned it at all. I feel like shit. How do I bring this up and make things better? | 5,797 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Update on my kitty, Attu.
POST: So earlier today, my big boy Attu has a nasty run in with a beading needle. Beading needles are long (at least two inches) and super sharp. I immediately took him to the vet because I was terrified that it was lodged inside of him. They took two x-rays and said there was no swallowed needle.
Here's the deal folks. My cat is usually SUPER friendly and sociable. He greets me at the door when I come home. He asks for noms when his dish is empty. He talks back to me when I ask him questions. Attu has done none of that today. All he's done since I've brought him home is crouch in corners and hide. My cat NEVER does this.
What he has been doing: a worrisome amount of drooling, licking his lips, hacking. He seems unsteady on his feet. Seems to have a hard time getting comfortable. Generally appears to be in alot of pain...keeps his body and tail very low. Will not come when called (he always comes running!).
Of course I am going to call the vet tomorrow. I was just wondering...do you think there is any possibility that the vet might have missed the needle? I haven't found it yet and I have this nagging feeling it's lodged in his throat or the roof of his mouth.
I know there would be some pain from getting stabbed from a big ass needle...but I would have hoped he would have perked up by now...it's already been 12 hours.
Please give me any advice.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My cat is not acting normally after an incident with a needle. Scared that the needle might be stuck in his throat even though a vet x-rayed him. pls2advise. | My cat is not acting normally after an incident with a needle. Scared that the needle might be stuck in his throat even though a vet x-rayed him. pls2advise. | 3,507 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: My girlfriend [18] of five months says that it can be "draining" to be around me [19]? Should I be worried for the future?
POST: Hey there everyone, thanks for reading and any advice you can give here, I'll try and make it brief. At this point, I'll mention we are long distance, and that we've spent an exceptional amount of time together this summer as we're both off college for now. We both spend time with our friends, but lately she's been spending less and less with me, and more with her friends. When I asked her about it, she said that it was draining for her to be around someone for too long, and that she needed some time to breathe.
I'm not so much worried about that, I'm fine with giving her more breathing room, but I guess I'm just concerned that this is going to become a repeat thing, and was wondering if anyone could chime in and give me some advice.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Should I be worried about my girlfriend progressively spending less time with me and saying it can be draining, or do I just need to back off a bit? | Should I be worried about my girlfriend progressively spending less time with me and saying it can be draining, or do I just need to back off a bit? | 3,812 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: How would I(m18) salvage friendship with girlfriend(17f) after breaking up with her after 1-1/2 year relationship?
POST: I've(18m) never had much luck with girls but I've been shaping up my life together and would like to be a little more adventurous when it comes to the relationship world. I broke up with her(17f) after a 1-1/2 year relationship and told her that this was why, ensuring her that it wasn't her. Obviously she was still upset, and now she's giving me a choice of either actually going my separate way and possibly losing her completely, or being with her. I don't want to be in a committed relationship right now, but I also love her still; neither of these options will work. I'm trying to make my own option, where we remain friends and possibly, after college, think about becoming more serious. Is this possible? And if so, how can I do it?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How can I(18m) salvage friendship for possible future relationship with ex(17f) after breakup of 1-1/2 year relationship | How can I(18m) salvage friendship for possible future relationship with ex(17f) after breakup of 1-1/2 year relationship | 467 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: (M19) My girlfriend (20) has kissed more than 30 guys including 2 girls. Including her sex life I feel not very proud of having her, I really like her but still think to break up.
POST: My girlfriend(20) and I(19) are together for 2 months but I feel like I know her for 2 years. I really like her and I think im in love. She is really sweet and says that feels the same way about me. She stays at my place very often and some times even cooks for me. She would have been the perfect girlfriend except from this. We always say the truth between us and this is what I learned about her.
* She regularly meets with her friends to party.
* She lives in a very small town where everybody knows each other.
* She has kissed 30-40 guys. Including a 30 year old.
* Also has kissed 2 girls. Including lesbian sex with one of them.
* She never had a real boyfriend. Just casual flirting/kissing and some times fucking.
* Before me she never had regular sex. Only 10 times with 4 different guys in total.
* But almost none of those times were in a bed.
* She had sex in a park at night. (blowjob/sex).
* In a car. On the floor. In the school....
All of this makes me feel really bad. I dont know which part is annoying me the most but it still does. I cant stop thinking about it and some times I feel like im dating "bad" girl.
I am afraid going to her town, because every encountered male may have kissed/fucked her and that just kills me.
What should I do? Should I break up? How can I forget this?
I tried talking with her but I got nowhere. She says she cant change her past and thats true. Her excuse is that she is young and free and wants to try everything, if she likes someone why not kissing him.
Of cource all of this was before me. Now she is all mine.
No idea what to do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | She has kissed a lot of guys, had sex in public and with girls. I love her and she loves me but I still feel really bad inside. How can I overcome this? | She has kissed a lot of guys, had sex in public and with girls. I love her and she loves me but I still feel really bad inside. How can I overcome this? | 1,976 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22F] am scared to fall in love again
POST: My current boyfriend [24M] and I [22F] have been dating for almost 2 months now and I'm starting to get this familiar feeling in my stomach I felt about my last boyfriend [23M].
I didn't want to admit it was love I was feeling when I was with my ex because I was scared since I had never felt that way. I eventually admitted that I loved him and everything was fine, but we did ultimately end up breaking up after 6 months. I was crushed and very depressed for a couple weeks about the whole situation.
I'm starting to feel the same feelings I had when I was with my ex, and this is about the same time I started feeling them in my pervious relationship too. I'm scared of getting hurt again, it was awful. Both my current boyfriend and I are very immature when it comes to relationships, neither of us has reached past 6 months and he's never been in love.
I'm fearful that I will start to allow myself to love him and he'll A) not return my feelings, B) Break up with me or C) All of the above because he's freaked out.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I had my heart shattered after my first run in with love and now am too scared to allow myself to love my current boyfriend in fear I will be hurt. | I had my heart shattered after my first run in with love and now am too scared to allow myself to love my current boyfriend in fear I will be hurt. | 5,542 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Found out my mother is using drugs again after 2 years, I want to call her probation officer. Advice?
POST: Yesterday I found out my mom has been using cocaine. She's struggled for upwards of 14 years with a variety of drugs: coke, crack, heroin, and xanax. She went to jail and has been clean ever since. She lives with my grandparents, and the family dynamic is basically that my grandparents are my parents and my mother is my sister (no father figure). My grandmother has recently fallen ill, has been in the hospital more this year than she's been home. I know it's been really difficult for my mom to step in and take control of the family, but I can't forgive her for this. She has no job, she basically leeches off of my grandfather's money, and now she's spending that money on drugs. Again. I moved out at 18 (I'm 22 now), but I'm home visiting and caught her yesterday. I'm strongly considering calling her probation officer today to let him/her know that my mother is using again and she should be drug tested regularly again--I believe they stopped testing her a few months ago because she was doing so well. I have to deal with the very real possibility that this may lead to her going to jail again and causing my grandfather to be left in the house without anyone. I know this would hurt both of my grandparents, but maybe going back to jail now will save them a lot of agony if my mother starts using heavily again. Any advice at all would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Mom was clean for 2 years, caught her using again yesterday. Should I call her probation officer even if it means sending her back to jail/leaving my elderly grandfather alone? | Mom was clean for 2 years, caught her using again yesterday. Should I call her probation officer even if it means sending her back to jail/leaving my elderly grandfather alone? | 5,147 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: Me [18m] and my gf [15f] just broke up a few days ago after 2.5 years.. Where do I go now?
POST: I apologize because I'm sure people on this thread have read a ton of "How do I get over her/him" posts, but this was my first serious relationship, and I am not sure where to begin with continuing my life.
Basics: Me and her were dating for 2 and a half years, and we just broke up a few days ago. It wasn't a bad break and we weren't fighting, we had a civil discussion which basicly concluded to the fact that neither of us was truly happy and we needed to move on.
Me and this girl have done everything together for the last two years, she comes on family camping trips and vacations with me, she spends a week or more sometimes living at my house, and now I feel kind of lost.
I'm happy with the break, I know that it's the right thing for me, but I don't want to lose all of the good things that we had in our relationship, and I'm not sure if it's healthy to continue hanging out and enjoying the things we enjoy together as friends instead of as a couple.
So my question is, where do I go next? What is my next step? I have an entire summer vacation ahead of me before I start my first year of college, and I don't want to spend it all trying to get over this girl. She was such a huge part of my life, that without her I feel like I'm missing part of myself.
I'm trying to view this, and college starting, as an entire new beginning. I'm reconnecting with some old friends, I cut my hair, I've started yoga and doing some activities I haven't done in a long time.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | We broke up a few days ago, I feel lost with myself and don't know what I should be doing next to continue my life. | We broke up a few days ago, I feel lost with myself and don't know what I should be doing next to continue my life. | 86 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [34 F] with my partner [36 M] 5 yrs, kinda bored, are we settling?
POST: So we've been together for a bit and we're solid house partners and friends. No drama, v. little fighting. We split housework and financial responsibilities. We're both gainfully employed, me teaching middle school, him teaching college. The small tussles we get into are pretty easily managed--usually just grumpy sniping at one another, pretty infrequent.
Sounds perfect, right? We've been talking about kids-- I'm at the age where I kinda need to fish or cut bait. I'm into it, but not, like, chomping at the bit.
Here's the thing. We're not very, well, INTO each other. We had constant sex when we were first together and now it's infrequent-- though still good when it happens. We spend a lot of free time doing things separately, and sometimes it feels like we're just roommates-with-occasional-benefits. I grew up with parents who were relentlessly practical about relationships and I feel like I've kind of settled into their pattern.
When we talk about kids, sometimes there's this little tiny voice that kind of goes, "Um, do you really want to be in this relationship forever?" I'm the sort that becomes more like the person I'm with than I think is good for me-- being with him is drama-free, but it's also pretty sedentary and not very spontaneous. I had two awesome, adventurous parents and I loved my childhood. I worry that we're sort of bad influences on each other. Also, the thought of co-parenting with an ex sounds awful (no offense to folks who are divorced or had divorced parents).
Am I crazy to complain? At my age, shouldn't I be happy to be with a drama-free friend who's also a good partner? Or if I go into it bored, will it get worse?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Partner and I have a "slowing" effect on each other, though we're solid partners otherwise. Thinking of kids and wondering if it's a good match for the future. | Partner and I have a "slowing" effect on each other, though we're solid partners otherwise. Thinking of kids and wondering if it's a good match for the future. | 1,553 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [20/m] slow moving relationship, how to avoid friendzone?
POST: Been dating this girl recently for almost a month and everything has been going pretty smoothly. Girl seems to be on a conservative side/seems to want to take it slow. I'm fine with that, but I want to avoid heading into the friendzone. We've already had our first kiss(after 2 dates), but not our first makeout session if that makes any sense. We've been holding hands ever since we first started to, but my friend had told me about how he too had been hand holding this girl and things just never escalated...
I feel like I should try to escalate more, but I don't want to be pushy due to her seeming like she wants to take it slow...I've tried steering the conversation before into something sexual but it didn't work(she didn't seem like she wanted to talk about it) so I gave up.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | going out with girl for a month but only kissed once very lightly. girl seems conservative. how to avoid friendzone? | going out with girl for a month but only kissed once very lightly. girl seems conservative. how to avoid friendzone? | 2,721 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Confused by crush. Don't know hot to start conversation
POST: One girl I kinda like etc etc. I have seen her fairly often around highschool (kinda small)
We've made awkward eyr contact a few times, but I've never talked to this girl once, she's 2 grades below m and hangs out with the "shy" group (might have something to do with it?)
Ive Never talked to her, I'm too shy to start a conversation, but she found my Instagram account and followed me ? Out of the blue
I really wanna start a conversation (over dm, that too bad?) But don't know how to say anything without coming off as a crush or sounding mean. I also don't wanna make her feel awkward by saying "why did you follow me"
What should I say? Or do?
Sorry for grammar, in mobile
TL;DR: . Assistant: | crush followed me on instagram out of the blue. Never talked to her before, wanna start a conversation over dm | crush followed me on instagram out of the blue. Never talked to her before, wanna start a conversation over dm | 4,286 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Our[25F,30M] friends and family[20s-60s M/F] demand money because we're "rich", what can we do to make them stop?
POST: My husband and I both make a good amount of money. We're also responsible with money, when I graduated college we spent two years putting all of my salary and 1/3 of his into paying off our loans and now we're debt free for the most part.
Our friends and family ask us for money a lot. They say that it's not fair that we have a live-in maid but they struggle to pay off debt.
That's not our fault. They were the ones that took out private student loans and partied or bought tons of junk.
How can we get our point across without burning bridges?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | We earn a good amount of money and were responsible with student loans/money. Now people think we're rich and demand we help them. | We earn a good amount of money and were responsible with student loans/money. Now people think we're rich and demand we help them. | 6,290 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Dad emails me (28F) and demands I change my name. What to do?
POST: Little background. Im a 28 Asian(vietnamese) female. Born and raised in California. First generation. Only child. My name has always been "asian," never really had a legal american name. Regardless, around the age of 8, due to my name ending in Dai (Pronounded Die), people started calling me Lady or Lady Dai. So for 20 years, my given name correlated with my birth name.
So today I get an email from my dad. He wants to change my birth name to an even harder to pronounce vietnamese name " Thien Kim T. Nguyen" Personally I cant even pronounce the first word. Ive stated " if Im going to change my name to anything, Its going to be Lady or something AMERICAN." due to the fact, I work in a business industry, an even more complexed asian name, will not fit, or make introductions to others any easier.
The problem is my dad is your typical " Im right you are wrong". His reason for changing my name is to change my fate. To make my life better, change the course I am on. I don't agree with this logic, and as he is the most superstitious, demanding asian father, I dont know what to do.
I know I can simply say no. And not go through with the paperwork, but my dad is vengeful. He will make sure my life is a living hell, cutting me off, disowning me. etc. etc. Its all been done before.
Is there a way I can approach him, to get him to understand? Im hoping someone has some insight on dealing with asian parents. As I was more influenced by the American Culture, its hard for myself to speak in a way that could be understood and respected.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Asian father wants me to change my name to something even more "asian" for superstitious reasons. How to approach him? | Asian father wants me to change my name to something even more "asian" for superstitious reasons. How to approach him? | 2,526 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: One (60s?M) of my husband's (38M) work contacts keeps giving him free stuff. (Non-romantic)
POST: My husband is a pro chef. During the last year, he has set up or rehauled the menus of several restaurants. In all of them he has introduced his favourite providers (there might be a different word for this in English; I'm talking about the companies who sell produce) because they offered the best service, price or quality. My husband has NEVER gotten any kickbacks from this: he really chooses the sellers he thinks are best and doesn't get a commission or gifts from them.
One of these sellers is located in the nearest market from our house, so we often buy from him for our own meals. During the last six weeks we have bought from him maybe seven times and out of those seven, three times he has refused to charge us and two other times he has undercharged us (one time he mentioned the discount and the other time he didn't, but I noticed). The first time we were fine with it because it was a small sale, but it's gotten to the point where both my husband and I are uncomfortable with this.
We have told the seller that he shouldn't keep refusing to charge us or we'll be too embarrassed and won't buy from him anymore, but he just laughs it off. I do not want to stop buying from him: his produce is the best in the market! But I don't want him to keep giving us free food. The worst part is that every time he gives us free stuff we feel obligated to go and make a big purchase from him so he'll charge us (he usually charges us for the big purchases, gives us the small purchases for free).
I do not think this can have negative effects in my husband's job, but it's making us uncomfortable and the whole thing is a bit ridiculous. How can we make this guy understand that we really want him to charge us for all of our purchases?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My husband gets new customers for guy. Guy is thankful and gives my husband free food. How do we tell the guy we don't want free food? | My husband gets new customers for guy. Guy is thankful and gives my husband free food. How do we tell the guy we don't want free food? | 4,735 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [29M] with my [27F] girlfriend, reevaluating past events in light of history of sexual assault [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description
POST: Hi Reddit! I previously posted about having caught my girlfriend in several small lies. I was bothered by the fact that she had not "come clean" in either instance, and had instead remained fairly adamant that she was telling the truth until she was more-or-less cornered. That left me feeling very uncertain about what I could and couldn't trust.
I initially posted on Reddit because I wasn't sure how her past history, which includes alcohol- and substance-abusing parents, abusive ex-boyfriends, and sexual assault, was factoring into everything. The general consensus seemed to be that I should break things off in order to prioritize my health and well-being.
Along that vein, my girlfriend and I had a very lengthy conversation about the relationship last night. During that talk, she spoke about her prior sexual assault (which she had not previously opened up about) in greater detail, and knowing what she went through, how she processed the emotions, some of the difficult situations she's faced since then, etc. really helped put some aspects of her dishonestly in perspective for me.
While I maintain that dishonesty is unacceptable in a loving, trusting relationship, I am now more torn than ever about how to proceed. I had planned to break things off with my girlfriend yesterday night, but I couldn't bring myself to do that when she was sitting in front of me bawling, and recounting a very painful memory of being sexually assaulted. In addition, I feel like I can now understand WHY she might have lied in at least one instance. At the same time, I recognize that her issues are not necessarily my issues, and that I can't necessarily "help" her process them and come to terms with them.
Do you think I would be better off ending the relationship? Or do you think I should give her another chance, given that she was brave and honest enough to share a very painful past experience with me to help put her dishonesty in context?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | had planned to break up with girlfriend given inability to accept her dishonesty, but instead had a long talk about her history of sexual assault, which helps clarify why she behaved as she did. Unclear where to go from here. | had planned to break up with girlfriend given inability to accept her dishonesty, but instead had a long talk about her history of sexual assault, which helps clarify why she behaved as she did. Unclear where to go from here. | 4,862 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [28F] miserable in my marriage [to 27M] but not sure if its bad enough to leave.
POST: Well, I think the title says it all. I'm miserable and so is my husband. We're fighting constantly (about EVERYTHING), never do anything together and I have a low libido which he takes personally. We've been married for two and a half years, together for four total. We haven't been to marriage counseling yet but that's the next step.
I love him but am so sick and tired of being sad, depressed and moody. I daydream about being alone constantly and wish I could just move out and leave everything behind. I think we moved into things too quickly and didn't get to know each other first. We're (well mostly him) constantly saying things like "If I knew xxx I wouldn't have married you" or "If you did xxx when we were dating I wouldn't have stayed with you". I want to be happy and I want him to be too, and if that means we separate, I'm okay with that.
We rent, don't have kids and not much in savings so the split would be pretty easy (well, not easy but you know what I mean). I guess what I'm looking for is advice from people who have been in the same situation. I know we made vows to each other but I can't take this much longer.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Miserable with my husband but not sure if I should end this. Just looking for advice and input from people who have been there. | Miserable with my husband but not sure if I should end this. Just looking for advice and input from people who have been there. | 239 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Am I a horrible monster if I (a guy) refuse to wear a dress to work for charity?
POST: This week was declared a casual week at work. One coworker sent out a reply to everyone that she'd be wearing shorts and her bathing suit all week, because she's off all week.
I'm a smartass and had a somewhat boring Friday afternoon, so I sent out an email saying I'd be wearing a dress to work since it's been pretty hot out for the last few weeks and jeans are too hot.
Fast forward to today--I come on and have about six emails in my inbox from coworkers pledging about a total of $200 to charity if I actually go through with this and wear a dress to work until at least noon. I'd just dismiss it as "I can't, it's inappropriate," except that one of the people putting in $20 is my boss--which of course means I have tacit approval to actually show up in drag. Shit just got real.
Thing is, I really would rather not have to do this and I was obviously joking. Now I look like a horrible monster if I refuse, since it'd be depriving some charity of a pretty nice donation. Am I a horrible monster if I don't go through with this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Jokingly said I'd wear a dress to work and have now been asked to put my money where my mouth is. I'd really prefer not to, but now I have a moral dilemma. | Jokingly said I'd wear a dress to work and have now been asked to put my money where my mouth is. I'd really prefer not to, but now I have a moral dilemma. | 5,277 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [18 M]with my girlfriend [17F] 1 month Not sure what just happened to my relationship
POST: i am a senior in high school and I have been dating a junior for almost 2 months now. she is the first person I have ever dated for real and she was also my first kiss. But recently she told me that she doesn't know if she still wants to be In a relationship. I made the mistake of asking her to be official only after 3 dates and we haven't even been able to see eachother since.
We talked on the phone about our relationship toget and she told me that she still liked me but that she doesn't think she wants a relationship right now Because she has things going on in her life that she didn't want to tell me about. I still really care for this girl but I'm unsure of what she wants. We didn't official break up but she did say she didn't want a relationship but we can still talk. She told me she wouldn't be talking to other guys so I told her I wouldn't be talking to other girls. I'm unsure of if she wants us to go back to normal before we became "official" like back to just talking and going on dates or if she really wants me to leave her alone for a while. I don't want her to lead me on to wait for something that will never happen. I'm not sure what to do because I still care for this girl and I don't want to lose her.
Also I already bought her a box of chocolates and a card for Valentine's Day...should I still give it to her?
If I left something out or if this story didn't really make any since please let me know. I'm new to making posts on reddit
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm unsure what to call my relationship and I don't know if I should keep talking to this girl and to just leave her alone. | I'm unsure what to call my relationship and I don't know if I should keep talking to this girl and to just leave her alone. | 2,821 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: So I accepted a position, knowing I might be changing my mind...
POST: I'm soon to graduate, and have had a few interviews with companies all in rapid succession. All have gone well. I got an offer on one very quickly, and feel very confident about the other two.
The one I got an offer on is basically my backup plan. It'd be a fun position, but it's lower pay than what the other jobs would be, fairly significantly (10-15k, if not more). I delayed them as long as I could; I was told by one to expect an answer within 2 weeks, and 2 1/2 weeks later, I've heard nothing (contacting their HR recruiter after the 2 week mark just got me the answer that "they're still deciding").
I can't afford to be unemployed on graduation, so I went ahead and accepted the position on the last day I was given to make the decision; I stalled them as long as I could knowing it wasn't my first choice. I also know I can't count on the other two jobs coming through. That said, if either of the other two come through, I'll almost certainly tell the company I accepted an offer from that I changed my mind and take the other offer.
How badly would this be burning a bridge? Are there other potential negative repurcussions that I'm not considering? I really didn't want to do it, but, from my POV, I didn't have much of a choice if I was going to make sure I had a job lined up.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I felt forced into accepting my backup plan position, knowing I'll be "changing my mind" if I get another offer I'm expecting. Am I shooting myself in the foot here? | I felt forced into accepting my backup plan position, knowing I'll be "changing my mind" if I get another offer I'm expecting. Am I shooting myself in the foot here? | 1,556 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Help Medical Debt
POST: A year ago I was my friend was in a horrendous accident and got some wonderful help at kaiser. While staying with him over night there was a stressful moment asking nurses for painkillers. while my friend was pleading for drugs I passed out infront of the nurse.
She called an emergency code and I was put in a wheel chair and brought to the ER. Once there I caught my breath and felt fine and demanded to be released knowing the test the plained to run in me would cost a pretty Penny. I'm a student with no insurance. they insisted my school would cover me and took my information. 8 months pass and I get a call from debt collection that my debt has already been sold and I owe $1000. since I have savings below double digits I couldn't pay them.
Does anyone know of a program or fund I may qualify for that could absolve.my debt? I've ignored it got almost half a year and I fear our may ruin me if I ignore out longer
TL;DR: . Assistant: | broke student passed out in front of nurses, garnered large debt. Didn't kiaser never contacted me only collection company | broke student passed out in front of nurses, garnered large debt. Didn't kiaser never contacted me only collection company | 2,159 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [Update] Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of 2.5 years, I forgave her but am now having second thoughts.
POST: [Original Post](
So I talked to my girlfriend about it. She understood blah blah that worked out. The problem is: I don't feel any better. I feel so strange about our relationship now because of things she's said to me. I think I want to break it off. Check my post history if you want to see some of our problems.
It's just weird now because she acts so happy. Once again is talking about the future. Booked something for our next anniversary (next February). And misses me on the days I stay home - I finally got the alone time I've been asking for. I'm not sure how to approach this. I don't want it to end but at the same time I hope it does, while wishing things were perfect once again.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Talked to girlfriend about issues. Didn't make me feel better. Things are good but I don't feel excited about the relationship anymore. | Talked to girlfriend about issues. Didn't make me feel better. Things are good but I don't feel excited about the relationship anymore. | 4,668 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [29 M] want to ask out a friend [29 F] even though I'm not sure she's into me, is this a bad idea?
POST: Hey, so there's this girl I've known for a while now. Probably 5 years or so. She's mainly been a friend of a friend, so we never have been super close or anything like that. In the past year or so we've started hanging out occasionally without our mutual friends. The more I've gotten to know her outside of our friends the more I think we'd be a good match. I can barely get a read on her however, my one friend who is usually really perceptive with things like this also has agreed she's tough to read one way or another.
For example, New Years we hung out at a bar. I was next to her at midnight and she didn't even look my way to possibly do the midnight kiss. But we ended up leaving at the same time and she walked arm and arm w me to our train and let me put my arm around her and put her head on my shoulder and fell asleep (she was drunk, it was late). Basically, my question is this, with no real inclination of whether or not this girl is into me would I be making a dumb move by asking her out given our mutual friend circles, could be awkward as hell for all parties involved if I put that out there if she wasn't into it. Also while I'm at it, I've never asked out a long time friend so any stories/advice there would be appreciated as well.
I'm aware I sound like a wuss, it's probably because I haven't like a girl this much in like 5 years. That's probably half (or more) of the problems I'm having.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Developed crush on long time friend, not sure if mutual, fear creating a weird dynamic if it isn't. Should I go for it anyway? | Developed crush on long time friend, not sure if mutual, fear creating a weird dynamic if it isn't. Should I go for it anyway? | 3,162 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by sharing a meme picture in a Facebook group chat
POST: This happened about a year ago, it came up in my mind because I thought this was a good FU.
Anyway, me and my friends made a group chat on Facebook for the three of us. We decided to talk about ridiculous things, like politics, girls, world news, and how was our day etc. Nothing too bad, just a normal chat.
One day, my friend invited my best friend's sister to the group chat (at this time, me and the friend were friends with her on Facebook). As starters, I was not thinking straight and said "What's up X" (X is referring to my best friend's sister). Without realizing, I posted a picture from my computer that had an internet meme that was a sexist joke to girls.
She saw the message and picture, deleted me and my friend and my best friend was not allowed to see me for a while (she showed it to her parents).
I immediately felt like shit and apologized to her parents and her herself. They all accepted and forgave me though. To this day, I'm surprised her boyfriend is not angry at me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friend invited a friend's sibling to a Facebook group chat, I accidentally posted a picture that was inappropriate and mildly sexist. | Friend invited a friend's sibling to a Facebook group chat, I accidentally posted a picture that was inappropriate and mildly sexist. | 1,036 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I (18f) hooked up with my long distance ex bf (18m), and i'm not sure where to go from here...
POST: Last weekend, my ex was in town for a party i was at as well. I spent the whole night helping him because he drank too much, and he ended up passing out at my house.
We hooked up in the morning, completely sober, and acting like we were dating again.
We talked yesterday, but just trivial conversation. I know he's avoiding talking to me because we didn't speak for so long and this is so sudden. I know it brought up old feelings for me, but i'm not sure about him. The way he acted, i figured it was a possibility and that's why he is so awkward.
He's a naturally awkward person though, i was thinking, should i wait for exams to be finished and to see him in person to bring it up and see where it goes? There will be a party next month we will both be at.
or should i just leave it to him to bring up? i know he avoids "feelings" discussions, so idk what to do. I really do want to continue things with him, but honestly this is driving me insane.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | ex bf and i hooked up and he's long distance. not sure how to bring it up again with him, but i want to continue things. | ex bf and i hooked up and he's long distance. not sure how to bring it up again with him, but i want to continue things. | 1,192 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How should I go about dealing with intense social anxiety?
POST: I have been an introvert with social anxiety for as long as I can remember. I am self diagnosed but it's pretty obvious from the way I feel after years of, I guess I could call it, suffering. Anytime I am excluded by my friends, intentionally or not, I become very anxious, somewhat depressed and therefore, angry. It became significantly more problematic this past year. I was bullied, to put it bluntly. I was mocked, harassed, and for no good reason, feared for my health and safety. Being in situations like these gives me an intense sick feeling and I want to, in short, curl up and die. I frequently feel as though life would be easier if I didn't exist (even though that sentence doesn't actually make sense...) I am filled with terror at just the sight of some of these people and am constantly paranoid. I try to adopt an "I don't care" attitude and sometimes it makes me feel better, but I don't know how to relax and put these things out of my mind. It lead to me treating my best friend terribly and losing her, having no friends in the new place I was living, and lead to compulsive emotional eating, skipping classes (and failing exams, sure enough), rarely sleeping, and resorting to non-lethal methods of self harm as well as alcoholism for periods of time. I am seeking professional help, but I'm hoping someone out here can relate and give me some suggestions, or even just tell me that I'm not alone. I can give more information if anyone asks questions but I'm not sure what else to say at this point.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Being bullied makes me feel physically and emotionally sick and wish I wasn't alive. Want to be able to go about my life without constantly thinking of the people I fear and having the thought of them ruin my outlook on life. | Being bullied makes me feel physically and emotionally sick and wish I wasn't alive. Want to be able to go about my life without constantly thinking of the people I fear and having the thought of them ruin my outlook on life. | 2,273 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Help with Wife
POST: My wife and I have found ourselves in a bit of a funk. In the past few years we have had 5 deaths in our families (including immediate), we have been homeless due to our apartment complex going under the day we were supposed to move in, and just other rough things of this sort. That being said, we both love each other dearly, we have simply been stuck in a state of surviving and making it through to the next day that we have forgotten how to enjoy life. The problem is that we are both in our own little worlds when it comes to having fun, but only come together during the bad times.
I have been trying to reach out and do more things that she loves and encourage her to explore the things she enjoys, and we have. She states that she wants to do things that I enjoy, but anytime it comes to actually doing my activity, she finds a reason not to (i.e. she is too tired) and she blames me for the poor timing of what I want to do.
Some of the things I love: hiking, backpacking, camping, rock climbing, any kind of sport, board games (from monopoly to axis and allies to dominion), any kind of videogame, puzzles, watching action/suspense/scary movies, going on spontaneous dates, doing crazy random things just to see what happens (that won't hurt people), or anything random I guess. I just enjoy breaking up the monotony of schedule and rigor.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How can my wife and I learn how to enjoy doing fun things again? What are some ideas I can use to incorporate doing things I really love and not just things she enjoys? | How can my wife and I learn how to enjoy doing fun things again? What are some ideas I can use to incorporate doing things I really love and not just things she enjoys? | 4,475 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[23M] with[20F] for 9 months now. Very healthy relationship, we are both happy. I just have a question.
POST: She and I have been going for 9 months. We were seeing each other for a few months prior to that and have overall been close for about a year now. We are both very happy. We have only had two small arguments, both of which were me saying something dumb without thinking about it, hurt her feelings, apologized, and she has never mentioned either time again. I love her, she loves me. We say that to each other frequently. She means the world to me.
Some nights when I am going to bed, or am alone and thinking about our relationship, when I think about how much I love her I start to cry.
For most of my life I have been pretty in-tune with my emotions and I can tell when things bother me or affect me. I just can't figure out why even though I love her and I am happier than I have ever been, when I think about how much I love her and that I want to do everything for her to be happy, I become overwhelmed and cry. I can't put a finger on what emotion I am feeling, unless it's just how strong love really feels.
I am just wondering if anyone could shed some lights or ask me something to pinpoint why I feel this way.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl and I have been together for 9 months, are both very happy. When I think about how much I love her, I become overwhelmed and cry for a few minutes. | Girl and I have been together for 9 months, are both very happy. When I think about how much I love her, I become overwhelmed and cry for a few minutes. | 2,004 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by accidentally overdosing on dextroamphetamine (ADD medication) on the day of my endwork presentation. [NSFW]
POST: So yesterday was a rough day. I still had a LOT of work to do, things like making the actual scale model of the home design I presented today and the powerpoint presentation.
I was able to make a presentable presentation, but only got 4 hours of sleep because of it. I think the lack of sleep is what caused my body to be incapable of processing my normally prescribed dosage this morning.
So today as I arrived at school I already knew I was sweating a hell of a lot more than I was supposed to. Feeling cold and sweaty is a miserable feeling. Though I assumed it was just a common cold or something. That all changed when I checked my armpits. Seriously I regret wearing a gray shirt today.
My armpits were just *drained* with sweat.
I could feel the sweat drip down my arm pits drop by drop every minute, what just made more nervous. After an hour my sweater was no longer able to contain the sweat, and it was so visible I didn't even need to lift my arms for people to notice. It didn't make me feel awkward towards my friends, I just laugh it off with them.
But then it was time for me to present my design to the external jury. 7 well respected teachers and architects gave me 30 min of their time for me to defend my work.
I just know that they noticed it and it distracted them and it distracted me. Too awkward for them to mention it. Too awkward for me to not ignore it. Yet I accepted the awkwardness and was able to give a somewhat terrible presentation because I got verbal ticks along with the overdose. But they loved the design at least after I explained everything twice.
After school was done I took a piss before I went home, which was also a bad idea. It felt like passing a kidney stone and gave me a throbbing painful erection for a good 30 minutes.
Now here I am, sitting at home because I can't stop sweating, feeling exhausted, heartbeat still around 100.
I'm just having a bad day.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Overdose, Cold and sweaty, Verbal ticks, during and after my cringe-worthy presentation. Having a bad day. | Overdose, Cold and sweaty, Verbal ticks, during and after my cringe-worthy presentation. Having a bad day. | 969 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my SO [17 F] of 6 months, can't decide if I should go to college or stay a year with her.
POST: Me and my SO have been dating for about six months, but have known each other for a long time. Everything's going perfectly, have never met a better girl and could not be any happier. We plan on moving in together next year when she turns 18 because I'll be moving out and she's a junior in high school (dual enrolled at the community college), plus her parents aren't going to support her after high school anyways. (her parents are super strict and don't let her do much of anything. i.e. go on dates alone or have sleepovers).
However, I recently got accepted into my number one choice for a university that is 8 hours away and I'm not sure if I should go and move away or stay back. There's definite pros of sticking around, such as not having to spend as much money to get my AA and being able to stay with my SO, but I don't want to regret my decision in the future. Is the college experience worth moving away and not saving money and being with my SO? On the other hand, will I regret going away and not saving money and being with my SO???
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Dating girl and everything's going perfect. Should I go to college and leave her, or stay here and live with her next year and save money? | Dating girl and everything's going perfect. Should I go to college and leave her, or stay here and live with her next year and save money? | 3,973 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: To Italian Redditors: Wondering about Striscia la Notizia/Berlusconi
POST: I was wondering what the perception of Striscia la Notizia is among the Italian intelligentsia. I realize they must look down upon it, but how many channels out there are not in support of Berlusconi? It seems the liberal voices must be all but completely silenced.
Also, this is just out of curiosity :D. I am a fan of Giorgia Palmas for obvious reasons...and yet, I wonder what the media perception of her is (or at least among the intellectuals of Italy). Is she seen as a "bimbo" or just another attractive woman? She did win Miss Italy, so I do wonder if her image is tamer than that of the other showgirls/veline.
Thanks.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How much non-Berlusconi media is there?/What is the perception of Giorgia Palmas? | How much non-Berlusconi media is there?/What is the perception of Giorgia Palmas? | 1,378 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: Seeking advice for non-traditional co-ed shower
POST: My fiancé and I don't like the notion that the wedding is all about the bride — he's getting married too! So, for instance, we will both be escorted down the aisle.
My mom and some friends are hosting a wedding shower for us. I am adamant that it is not a *bridal* shower — it's for both of us. In keeping with our non-traditional-ness, **we would like to invite people who are important to us, no matter their genitalia**.
My mom thinks we should invite all our friends' significant others, since it's a co-ed shower. But some of these people we haven't met or have only met a few times. They certainly wouldn't make the list of "people most important to us."
Things get a little complicated if we don't invite the SOs, because my mom wants to put "co-ed shower" on the invitation (so she doesn't get inundated with calls like this: "Wait, did you mean to address this to Amy AND John?"), but **I don't want people with long-term SOs to feel shafted because the SO wasn't invited**. We don't exactly want it to be a "couples shower" — just a gathering of people close to us.
Any advice? Maybe an alternate name we could give the event so people still understand it's a shower and that it's okay to come if you're a man? We don't want the guest list to get so big that it's basically another wedding. (Plus, space is an issue; it'll be held at my parents' house.)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | We want to have a co-ed shower, but we don't necessarily want to invite all our friends' SOs. | We want to have a co-ed shower, but we don't necessarily want to invite all our friends' SOs. | 466 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: It's incredibly hard to focus because I have so much on my mind right now. I'm stressed and grumpy all the time.
POST: * Work - it's our busy time of year. My workload has doubled/tripled on a daily basis and I deal with angry customers on a regular basis.
* Social - my friends are hyper competitive, drink a lot and can be total assholes sometimes.
* Boyfriend - he recently became friends with his ex on facebook. This worries me, but I'd feel like I was a stalker if I brought up the fact that I saw this activity happen on a facebook feed. We also haven't told each other we love each other, and we've been together for over a year now. I want to tell him, but I'm too scared to do so. We're also in a LDR. I'm not sure if he loves me. I'm afraid he's talking to his ex now.
* Family - We've been discussing our holiday plans a lot, which is stressful anyway. I don't have a lot in common with anyone in family so it's always awkward to have any kind of conversation with them. Especially since I'm nerdy and shy.
* Moving - I'll be moving to new place in two weeks. I've spent most of my free time packing and throwing things away. Mostly by myself. I'm glad to be moving to a better area, but packing in general is pretty stressful.
* Mental health - I started to see a therapist for symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) for a past abusive relationship and I haven't told anyone about this yet.
* Legal - I had a limited license for reckless driving for the past year, and I will be getting my full license back in less than two weeks. (Don't worry, I've been driving like a saint since the incident). This has been stressful because I've had to depend on others for transportation and it has been expensive.
* Health - I have really bad asthma, and it's been awful this year. I'm on several types of medication and it is difficult to sleep at night.
All of these things combine have made me so stressed out and it's hard to be close to anyone in my life. I find myself becoming more aggressive or defensive around others.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Most facets of my life are extremely stressful to think about, I'm becoming distant and angry towards the people I care about the most. | Most facets of my life are extremely stressful to think about, I'm becoming distant and angry towards the people I care about the most. | 4,987 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 M] with my GF [23 F] for six months, she stopped talking to me
POST: So my girlfriend and I have been together for six months, we used to see each other all of the time until she moved and then neither of us could find time to see each other. No worries, we'll just call and text every day. We kept telling each other that we'd work things out, wanting to see each other all the time but our schedules just always seem to miss each other. We'd talk for hours every night about our days and always finish with the, "I love you's."
Well. A month ago, it seems like she started calling less and less. Her job is seasonal, so I just argued to myself, "Hey she's probably just busy with work, no biggie." And I just let it go.
About two weeks ago, I find out that I'm going to have the 23rd through the 25th off from work. I'm excited. I can finally probably spend some time with her. I call her up, I leave a voice mail, I text her. No response. No text. Nada.
I'm thinking she just has her phone off, or she's not receiving my texts (since this is actually a problem between us) so every day between now and then I send her a little "Hey! :D" Nothing.
Well. Now I'm almost through my break. I feel like I've spent the entirety of the time brooding over her during it. I'm not too sure if she's trying to fade me out, we seemed to be too intimate for her to suddenly dismiss me like that. Like not even the day before she was telling me how she wants to get an apartment together with me.
I'm so confused. Should I just break it off from her? Should I assume that she's trying to break off from me?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend of six months just cold stops talking to me, doesn't return any of my calls or texts. Is she trying to break up from me? | Girlfriend of six months just cold stops talking to me, doesn't return any of my calls or texts. Is she trying to break up from me? | 2,343 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My aunt [50's, F] is obsessed with sending her son [20's, M] to medical school, but nobody else in the family thinks it's a good idea.
POST: My aunt has always wanted her son (my cousin) to go to medical school and become a doctor. In her mind, the only path to "success" in his life (and her's, I suppose) is for him to become a rich doctor. It is unclear what his father thinks.
However, he has already graduated from college and has just finished two years of Teach for America (TFA). He seems to have really enjoyed it, and has gotten a lot of life experience out of it, posting on Facebook and such. We (the rest of the family) think he would make a fine teacher and live a good, happy life as one.
But his mother won't accept this. He's been putting off the medical school application for years, and now that TFA is over, she's pushing him again. According to his mother, he wants to go to medical school, but we think he is afraid of defying his mother's expectations and desires.
We may be seeing him this month. If so, we don't want to scare him off or make it seem like a don't-listen-to-your-own-mother intervention. At the same time, going to medical school is a serious decision we think he and his mother might regret.
And if we don't see him, we can of course call him. Either way, any advice on how we can handle this situation would be appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My aunt wants to send her son to medical school, but nearly no one else in the family thinks this is a good idea, and it is hard for everyone to see what the son really wants. | My aunt wants to send her son to medical school, but nearly no one else in the family thinks this is a good idea, and it is hard for everyone to see what the son really wants. | 4,398 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Misrepresented salary, now job offer is on the line pending proof of salary
POST: I was contacted by a recruiter for a job that is nearly identical to the one I presently hold - same function and same niche industry. I had never talked to a recruiter before, so when asked my current salary, I said the market rate in my area instead of what I am currently making (which is about 20% lower). During the initial call, I also revealed that my company doesn't have bonuses and our equity plan is still being finalized. We did not discuss anything about 401k or vacation, etc. He followed up my discloser with a salary range aligned with/ above market rate.
I then moved on to over half a dozen interviews. During the course of the interview process, I received a title change/increase but with no accompanying salary increase. I told the recruiter that I received a promotion and the compensation increase was still in negotiation.
In a written email, I noted that if I was offered the new position, I would accept the top of the range (~80% increase over my current salary). This is the only number that was ever recorded in writing. I never reported my current/claimed salary in writing.
There is now an offer on the table AFTER background check has been passed - no numbers have been discussed. For the background check, they are requiring the last two W2s and the last two paystubs. They are also requiring that I fill out an online form that lists starting/final salary for all of my previous jobs.
Is there a way I can provide the salary background information they need without discrediting my earlier statements? At this point, I am less concerned with getting the top of the range and more concerned with getting the job (I actually really like the company!).
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Verbally inflated salary to meet current market rate. Requested in writing a salary that is about 80% more than my current rate). HR is requesting paystubs, W2s, and a form that details all previous salaries | Verbally inflated salary to meet current market rate. Requested in writing a salary that is about 80% more than my current rate). HR is requesting paystubs, W2s, and a form that details all previous salaries | 5,874 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19F] don't know how I feel towards him [20M]
POST: I [19f] don't have any experiences with relationships, dating, or even just a proper crush. I am friends with one of my classmates [20m] who's pretty outgoing and friendly. He would often times get touchy and invite me to eat with him during lunch or dinner. If I didn't have an idea on what he's like, I'd probably make some assumptions and get my hopes up. I always try to get my thoughts in control and not jump into conclusions, or take my feelings into some unfamiliar place (I hope you know what I mean).
Anyway, earlier tonight we walked back to our dorms from a org meeting (along with some members) and the street was pretty dark. My friend (20f), who's afraid of the dark, grabbed onto his shirt. He didn't mind, and we did not make an issue out of it because we all know that's just how she is. (She does that to me a lot)
I really did not make an issue out of it, but I feel something. I don't know. I have an idea on what it is but I hope I could get some opinions from you guys because things like this are really unfamiliar to me and I get kinda uncomfortable when I don't at least have a clue on what is going on.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | keeps my feelings on guard so as not to misunderstand guy's actions. saw my friend cling on to guy's shirt. had a weird feeling. i hope it's not what i think it is. | keeps my feelings on guard so as not to misunderstand guy's actions. saw my friend cling on to guy's shirt. had a weird feeling. i hope it's not what i think it is. | 4,916 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17M] am having trouble breaking up with my girlfriend [16F] of nearly two years
POST: I feel like this breakup has been coming for a while. I've had on and off feelings of wanting to break up with her since summer, but until now, they've gone away very quickly. But its not as simple as just breaking up with her, to me.
My issue is that I don't dislike her in any way, I just dont feel the same sort of attraction I did for the first year or so of being together. I still care for her a ton, and I know that any talk of breaking up, even hypothetically, would send her into a terrible spiral and thats the last thing I want. I'm just not into being romantic with her anymore.
She also has issues with self-image and self-worth that are going to be hard to avoid, as she's going to bring that up and blame that for the break up, when simply, I just want to be single right now. I miss being free to hang out with my friends whenever I want without feeling obliged to be with her, and I miss my enjoyment of sports that she inadvertently guilts me out of.
To top that off, I will probably end up losing half my friends over a breakup because their her friends that simply took a liking to me, but we all never got close, so my social life can go in the crapper.
Any advice whatsoever would help a ton.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to be single but also still care for my girlfriend very much and dont want to send her into a downward spiral. | I want to be single but also still care for my girlfriend very much and dont want to send her into a downward spiral. | 4,656 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18 M] just got cancelled on for my second date by [18 F]
POST: Hey guys. I met this girl at an event for incoming first year students. To make a long story short I got her number, we went out on one date a week ago which I think went pretty well (although it only ended in a hug which is fine I guess because I had only known her for a few days). We started texting/calling back and forth and she seemed into me (long thoughtful responses, exclamation marks, the odd emoji). I asked her out on a second date a week ago and she said yes. The date was set to be today, the day after our second freshman meetup so I texted her saying something along the lines of "Aren't I lucky I get to spend two days in a row with you!" to which she responded positively.
Our second date was to be today, the day after another first year meetup. I wasn't particularly flirty with her at the meetup but when I got home I sent her a text saying something along the lines of "I gotta be up early because I'm lucky enough to be spending the afternoon with a special someone! Night!". A short while afterwords she said she couldn't meet up because her sister (who doesn't live with her, she lives alone) grounded her for not finishing her calculus assignments. When I asked her how her sister could ground her if she doesn't live with her she said "she told her everything". I'm not entirely sure if this is bullshit because she is really busy with this course she's taking (she was even doing work at the meetup last night). I said "that's too bad some other time".
Now I'm not really sure what to do. I'm going on vacation tomorrow and likely won't be texting her and she hasn't texted me today. I don't know if I should text her tonight or just give up on her. I'm really not sure why I did wrong because she seemed really into me the night before the meetup. What do I do? Am I pretty much shit out of luck? Why has she suddenly changed her mind?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Met a girl, went on first date and had a good time, seemed into me and got a second date but she cancelled with a lame excuse and haven't spoken since. What do I do now? | Met a girl, went on first date and had a good time, seemed into me and got a second date but she cancelled with a lame excuse and haven't spoken since. What do I do now? | 2,894 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by looking like an asshole at the GreatClips
POST: Today I got a haircut.
I was going to give the Asian lady who cut my hair a tip so I asked her to charge $4 extra on my card like I normally do at this place. Little did I know, they had changed their system to what most consider a normal tipping method where you write your tip on the receipt.
After filling out the receipt and handing it back to her, I asked (referring to the new style of tipping), "How is that for you?" At first she didn't seem to understand so I repeated it louder, "How is that for you?" She looked at the receipt, quickly nodded and said equally loud that the tip was much "good, good!"
I was given weird stares on the way out by the other eight or so people there. I didn't realize my mistake until I closed the door. The worst part is that she gave a really good haircut and probably deserved more of a tip but I am poor.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | While trying to make small talk, I inadvertently asked a foreign hairstylist if my tip was good enough for her while others listened. | While trying to make small talk, I inadvertently asked a foreign hairstylist if my tip was good enough for her while others listened. | 921 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Should I press charges or just let it go?
POST: Monday night I took in a homeless man. A friend had called me and said this person she had met a month ago needed a place to stay and asked if I would let him stay at my place (I've done this before, so she knew she could ask me). I want to be the type of person that is willing to help someone out, so I was happy to agree to it. We picked him up. He's about 40 years old, Scottish, and a really nice guy. We go back to my place, he takes a shower and cleans up, asks to see my guitar, and ends up playing for about a half hour for me, and he's amazing at it. I tell him he's welcome to stay for the week, and we both go to sleep.
The next day I left for work before he was up. He called me when he woke up and asked what to do about locking the door when he left for a hospital appointment. I told him I would bring home a spare key. When I got there about an hour later, he wasn't there.
Instead, there was a note that said "Sorry," and he had taken my netbook, 2 ipods, their chargers and headphones, as well as about $40 in change.
He isn't returning my phonecalls (someone gave him a phone to use). My friend has his email and emailed him how upset she was. He replied and said basically he knows he's being self-destructive but he didn't apologize or mention the stuff.
So I'm torn about what to do and I'm willing to let reddit decide for me. Do I call the police and file a report against him, or just let it go? In the end, the stuff he took isn't the biggest deal in the world, it's more the betrayal that my friend is now feeling because of him.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Let a homeless man stay at my place, he took of with my laptop and a couple of ipods. Should I press charges or just let it go? | Let a homeless man stay at my place, he took of with my laptop and a couple of ipods. Should I press charges or just let it go? | 4,731 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (24 F)ex[26 M] and I dated about 2.5 years and broke up a month ago. He allegedly says terrible things about me.
POST: I got out of a long relationship about a month ago. I knew it was coming and was ready to end it myself, but he initiated the breakup. We haven't really been in contact since then.
The relationship was complex and stressful with many ups and downs. I loved my ex very much and knew that he had some issues as far as his mental health. He talked about feeling poorly-mentally or physically-often.
I've recently been told by a mutual contact that he tells people that I 'gave him depression' and that he is 'so happy' to be without me. I wasn't the perfect girlfriend but I know I did everything I could to support and help him, often at my own emotional expense. I can't believe he would say that about me after all we've been through. Additionally, he told me he had depression issues when we first got together so I don't get how I could have caused it.
Can you guys help me to refocus and not care so much? This hurts. Thanks.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex of 2 years is saying that I am the reason he was depressed, even though he was like that when we got together and I really tried to help him. Just want to find ways to feel less angry and hurt. Thanks. | Ex of 2 years is saying that I am the reason he was depressed, even though he was like that when we got together and I really tried to help him. Just want to find ways to feel less angry and hurt. Thanks. | 5,258 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [26/F] said "I love you" to my boyfriend [25/M] of 6 months first... Now what?
POST: I've been seeing him since August of 2014. We spend the majority of our time together- he sleeps at my apartment, hangs out there most of the day while I'm at work (he's a bartender so we have opposing schedules), we do multiple date-like activities a week, etc. He'll go back to his apartment to shower and hang out with his roommate or just have some "him time", but I can't remember the last time he spent a night at his place.
At any rate, we've been saying things like "I like you" and "I really like you" for about two months now. The other day he went home for a while; we were separated for *maybe* 6 hours before he came back saying he couldn't believe how much he missed me, and that 6 hours was too long to be apart. We're obviously in that stage of our relationship where we're crazy about each other.
The other night he was being incredibly affectionate, telling me how much he likes me and how beautiful I am and so forth, and I ended up responding "I love you" at what felt like a completely organic time. He squeezed me in response and didn't say it back, which is completely fine. I know he cares about me, and some people move at different paces when it comes to using the word 'love'.
I just don't know how I should proceed. Should I keep saying "I love you" because that's how I feel, or switch back to "I like you" so he doesn't feel pressured? Would it be completely weird and unromantic to flat out ask him "Hey, should I not say this anymore until you're ready?" Any advice would be appreciated. Typing this out makes me feel goofy because I'm an adult woman and this seems like a question a high-schooler would have, but I've never been in this situation before.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Told my boyfriend of 6 months that I love him, he hasn't said it back yet. Do I not say it anymore until he's ready, or keep saying it when it feels right to me? | Told my boyfriend of 6 months that I love him, he hasn't said it back yet. Do I not say it anymore until he's ready, or keep saying it when it feels right to me? | 5,039 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What is your worst craigslist experience?
POST: Mine happened very recently and would not probably compare to other people's stories but anyway, I sold a latest generation Kindle for $100 through craigslist (Los Angeles) which included a nice sleeve worth $29 bucks on Amazon. Met the buyer at a coffee shop, at a fairly busy cross-street walkable from where I work. He asked if he can get it for $90. I told him no, because the Kindle is in like-new condition plus I'm giving him the sleeve as well. He then said okay and gave me his money. He counted it in front of me, but I wasn't really paying attention (it was a little distracting since we were outside the coffeeshop and there were lots of people and cars around). So I said thank you and he went away and crossed the street. Before leaving, I decided to recount the money and noticed that this old guy only gave me $90! So I started to follow him and texted him about it, he didn't reply. I called him and saw him looked at his phone and rejected my call. He turned off his phone (or maybe he was rejecting it promptly after that). Anyway, I texted him and told him that what he did was not cool. I mean seriously, who would do shit like that for 10 dollars?! A few minutes, he started replying to me and said that I may have dropped his other ten bucks which of course was a lie. I told him I was walking behind him and saw him reject my call. He didn't say anything about that and insisted that I probably dropped the other ten. Unfortunately, I lost him in the crowd after he 'illegally' crossed the street. It also didn't help that there was a farmer's market on the next street. Anyway, I'm still shocked from this experience. I've sold many things online before and on craigslist in particular; and this is the first time something like this happened. People can be just depressing sometimes. Sorry, throwaway.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | sold a kindle 6" for $100 with sleeve, man gave $90 in cash instead and immediately rushed away and disappeared. man denied giving the wrong amount. wtf right? | sold a kindle 6" for $100 with sleeve, man gave $90 in cash instead and immediately rushed away and disappeared. man denied giving the wrong amount. wtf right? | 6,169 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [33M] cheated my wife [32F] married 8 years with child.
POST: Hi,
I cheated on my wife of 8 years, been together 15 years total. It was with a younger coworker after a party. My wife and I have been having problems for about a year, becoming distant. She's a very non-sexual/affectionate person, while I am certainly am.
I've told her in the past months I've been unhappy, and wanted to seek counseling. My issues are her lack of affection towards me, and often she can be downright mean. Not name calling or insulting, but just cold towards me. It's not uncommon that she would go multiple days without as much as a hug, and if I tried to touch her, I'd be met with "I don't want to have sex".
There was a party over the weekend at our house we hold every year. I invited some people from work, including the girl in question. The party was fine, everyone had some drinks. At the end, a group was leaving to the bar, and I decided to go with, and my wife stayed home. The girl and I got flirty, and we ended up back at her place around 2am. We had sex (with protection), and I went home. My wife was upset I was out late, and had tracked my phone. I was drunk, didn't know what to say, and made up a story and fell asleep. Over the next three days, she kept pressing me on it, telling me she wouldn't be upset, and I finally came clean. I told her everything, and told her it was the truth. She punched me in the eye, and hasn't really been talking to me since.
Now she doesn't believe anything I say, and is accusing me of carrying on a relationship, which is not true. It truly was a one night mistake. I want to stay with her, and move forward. We're scheduling marriage counseling, but can't get anything until tomorrow. Any advice in the meantime to try and calm the situation?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Been unhappy at home, wife doesn't pay attention to me. I cheated once with a coworker, now she doesn't believe anything I say | Been unhappy at home, wife doesn't pay attention to me. I cheated once with a coworker, now she doesn't believe anything I say | 2,151 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [16 M] with my friends was a huge douche for a while. Realize this now, and want to make amends.
POST: Ok. So I started at a new school earlier this year and started off great. I made a bunch of friends and things were going great. Then, around late February, I started doing some weird things. I made comments and acted like a huge douche. I thought I was smarter and better than everyone around me, and showed that. Basically, I was like the people over at /r/iamverysmart. I didn't do this type of behavior for too long, only for a week or two. But I think my friends got kind of sick of me and things seem rocky. What can I do to help repair my relations? We are still on speaking terms, but none of them seem to want to hold a conversation for longer than two or three
minutes because they think I'll go back into douche mode. What can I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I was a douchebag for a couple of weeks, and my friends seem to be annoyed at me. What can I do? | I was a douchebag for a couple of weeks, and my friends seem to be annoyed at me. What can I do? | 6,431 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I [17 M] deal with my ex [17 F] (been together for 2 years and broke up a month ago)
POST: we have been together for 2 years and it was a great relationship, we had intimate relations too, we basiclly lived in each others house and we were so happy, she loved me and I loved her.
one week (a month ago) we had crazy fights since she went to a trip and met a lot of guys and I was jealous, we had a lot of tenstion that week and there was 1 fight that just screwd everything up, we got to my house after that and we broke up, we did a mistake and she spent the night with me (our last night).
after that we fought a lot, we basiclly hurted eachother a lot and she told me things that are really offensive, I guess I did the same to her as well.
now we dont speak, if I try to speak with her she will probably block me (using whatsapp,facebook).
I love her so much and I want to get her back and I think she loves me too but doesnt want to be with me, how do I get her back? I have to I feel, its been a month and nothing has changed, I think she still loves me but she said she doesnt want to be with me.
p.s: we broke up in the past, about4-5 times but always got back together, once she told me that it doesnt matter how much we are mad at each other and we will always get back together because we love each other.
sorry for bad english.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | ex and I broke up a month ago, I love her a lot and want to be with her, I think she still loves me but doesnt want to be or talk to me, How do I get her back? | ex and I broke up a month ago, I love her a lot and want to be with her, I think she still loves me but doesnt want to be or talk to me, How do I get her back? | 5,914 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Found postage, who wants mail?
POST: So yesterday I went to the post office to mail out some packages. I used the APC (Automated Postal Center) like I always do [saves time dealing with the lines]. I purchased some shipping labels and went to grab them below. At first I thought the machine had printed the first label wrong, but then realized it was an extra. Someone had mistakenly left it - I guess they didn't understand how the machine worked. So now I have an extra label/stamp for the city of Syosset, NY (11773). I'd be happy to send a random letter/postcard to anyone in this area. I hate seeing things go to waste. Feel free to P.M. if you'd like. Thanks.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Have $0.65 postage to Syosset, NY (11773). Need to use it. P.M. me if you live there. | Have $0.65 postage to Syosset, NY (11773). Need to use it. P.M. me if you live there. | 950 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18M] with my Ex? [18F] Dated 2 years, Broke up because of college, Wrong decision?
POST: My GF and I were dating for 2 years in High School, sounds ridiculous but i thought i was going to marry this girl. We ended up choosing different schools with enough distance between them that regular visits wouldnt be possible. We talked a bunch about what our plans would be once school started, and decided that breaking it off mutually when we left would be the best idea.
So we left for college and broke up. Basically stopped talking cold turkey because of how busy we were. When we did talk it was weird because we both were living in this fallout of a life where we missed the intimacy and company of each other. So last night we talked about reconnecting, maybe trying the long distance thing.
I dont know if breaking up was the wrong decision, or if trying to reconnect would be.
Im truly lost for the first time in my life and just looking for some guidance.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF and I broke up because of college, we both still have stong feelings and miss each other. Maybe reconnecting for long distance. | GF and I broke up because of college, we both still have stong feelings and miss each other. Maybe reconnecting for long distance. | 5,093 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I'm beginning to think the telecoms are trying to use mobile internet service as a tool to destroy net neutrality...
POST: Just thought I'd throw this out there and see what opinions arise out of it:
Over the past decade our internet usage has been moving rapidly towards a model that utilizes mobility. With the release of the iPad and the mainstream adoption of Android devices combined with the construction of nation wide 4G networks an ever increasing dependency on wireless data services is emerging. My fear is that telcoms will separate this form of data transfer from hardline services such as cable or DSL and will clam that they aren't subject to the same rules concerning Net Neutrality. I know this is bullshit, you know this is bullshit, but little Suzie must have her new iPhone and what does it matter if the telcom charges her just a little more for the internet service because "that phone requires more bandwidth"... it seems, they already do this as the N1 service through TMobile featuring "Android Web Service" is $20/month more expensive than the same plan featuring identical, unlimited web service. Just the fact that they brand it "Android Web Service" raises a red flag for me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Telcoms may use public desire for new gadgetry combined with Cadillac data plan services for smartphones to end-around, and eventually attempt to destroy net neutrality. Agree? | Telcoms may use public desire for new gadgetry combined with Cadillac data plan services for smartphones to end-around, and eventually attempt to destroy net neutrality. Agree? | 1,973 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: Advice needed. Thinking about putting my dog (4.5 YO medium size) up for adoption.
POST: Throw-away here. My ex-boyfriend and I bought a dog together when we were together. We broke up January of 2012 and I received custody of her. We adopted her when she was just 8 weeks old. I've been toying with the idea of putting her up for adoption since we broke up because I feel like I cannot care for her like I used to when I was living with me ex. I would let him have her, except for the fact that he is a sociopath and we did not exactly have a healthy relationship.
I've been living on my own since July of 2012. I feel pretty disconnected towards her, and seem to be getting angry with her. I do not want to be angry with her, and I do NOT hit her (I want to make this very clear), but I find myself getting more and more irritated. She always sleeps on the bed with me, but for some reason especially over the course of this last weekend, I couldn't sleep with her at the end of the bed where she ALWAYS sleeps. I kept having to tell her to get down because I was uncomfortable with her being there and I couldn't sleep.
Is there a way I can fix my relationship with my dog, or would she be happier with another person (maybe family) that can give her happy attention instead of being annoyed of her 80% of the time? I know I'll be sad when she is gone, but it would seem selfish of me to continue to care for her when I feel annoyed with her most of the time.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Been thinking about putting my dog up for adoption after break-up with sociopath ex boyfriend because I've been finding myself becoming irritated of her easily. Can I fix myself, or would she be happier somewhere else? | Been thinking about putting my dog up for adoption after break-up with sociopath ex boyfriend because I've been finding myself becoming irritated of her easily. Can I fix myself, or would she be happier somewhere else? | 5,618 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: Cold? Too bad, I'm in charge of the thermostat from now on.
POST: I work at a dr's office in a building with other tenants. We have three thermostats. One of our exam rooms gets particularly cold, it happens to also be the room we do pap smears in. Whenever my coworker, Maria, notices she has a pap (we don't do them often) she turns the thermostat to 78*. We are in south Texas, it's hot and humid. 78* makes the entire nurses station and 4 other exam rooms hot and gross. The building maintenance came in on Friday to check our air flow, they were getting a complaint that one of the offices (newly leased) was too hot. Turns out that our back thermostat also controls that office. I told Maria that maintenance said not to touch the thermostat. I get to keep it at 70-72* without the whole back office getting hot.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Make the office uncomfortably hot, nobody wants a sweaty pap smear, keep it brisk, get in, get out. | Make the office uncomfortably hot, nobody wants a sweaty pap smear, keep it brisk, get in, get out. | 4,791 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Credit Card Rewards Question
POST: Okie doke, so I'm 21 and just getting into this whole "adult" gig and I have been looking at various credit card options for their rewards programs. I really want the TD Bank cc, but being a whippersnapper they won't quite approve me (great credit, the only real knock on it is that I don't have enough lines of credit). Anyway, so I got another CC that had preapproved me and will be receiving it shortly. Is there any reason not to use it for literally every purchase I would normally use my debit for and pay it off every month? I know the point is they make money when you don't and when you overspend, but I'm super tight with my money, have a few grand saved and a job lined up and literally no expenses that my current graduate assistantship doesn't pay for (with about $400 left over each month). My main point is, am I missing some sort of caveat to credit card usage that would discourage this? My line of credit is up to like $3000 or so and I can't even fathom hitting that, but could cover it easily if I did.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Should I use my credit card for all expenses to build credit and earn pretty decent rewards since I can and will repay them every month before any interest hits? | Should I use my credit card for all expenses to build credit and earn pretty decent rewards since I can and will repay them every month before any interest hits? | 5,160 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23F] with my Fiancee [23F] 9 year relationship, having to choose between relationship and dreams
POST: Background: Me (23F) and my fiancee (23F) have been together 9 years, engaged for almost 5 months (also poly, so I have a boyfriend (M23) of also almost 5 months). We have done the split/take a break and get back together thing twice before.
So my fiancee has always wanted to live in Japan, ever since she was a little girl. I knew this going in but it always remained a far off maybe, a sort of distant amorphous thing, that when we first got together sounded fun (because I was a teenager with nothing resembling foresight). But now it has become a potential reality, she's considering doing a program that would have her over there teaching English for 1-2 years.
Here is the issue: I love her, but I can't do the long distance thing, having her be in the next county over is hard enough (due to work schedules we don't see each other as much as we would like) and I can't move to another country, away from everything and everyone I know and love, to a place where the language and culture are alien. Her dad was in the military, so moving around wasn't weird to her, I've lived in the same city since birth, my whole family is here, almost all my friends, my job that I love, I can't just drop all that and move.
I love her, more than I have words for, but I don't want to stand between her and a dream that she has had since before she was in Kindergarten. I know that if she doesn't go, then she'll regret it, but if she does, then I have to either uproot entirely and leave behind my life, or do the long distance thing (a semester while she was doing study abroad was hard enough) , or end the relationship. I feel like no matter what option I choose one of us or both of us lose. And if we split, that's it, we are done (I told her if we split again that was it, we can't get back together after that, I can't handle that kind of emotional pain).
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Fiancee has a long-term dream of living abroad, but I don't know if I can uproot my life for a relationship. | Fiancee has a long-term dream of living abroad, but I don't know if I can uproot my life for a relationship. | 218 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do you keep your marriage together when the other half of it wants to give up? Me [27F] with my husband [28M]
POST: I've always been told that a marriage can withstand things you can't even imagine, as long as you both don't give up at the same time. I'm trying so incredibly hard to not give up, but I don't know what else to do. My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married for almost 6. We have two beautiful children together, and he really is my best friend. We are so compatible with each other, and are completely content just being around each other. We've had our ups and downs, like all marriages, but I recently found out that the downs in his eyes are starting to outweigh the ups. I suffer from depression, and have our entire relationship. I think he feels partly responsible because his love for me isn't able to bring me out of it. He has been around depression his whole life, and doesn't want to enter the second half of his life feeling miserable. I honestly can't blame him. I know that it's hard to share your life with someone who hates herself as much as I do. He said that we've tried everything to make things better... and that maybe separating will be the key to saving our marriage. When I'm thinking rationally, I'm able to process the idea of a trial separation, knowing that we'll always end up back together. The love is there... I think that's what makes this so hard. I come from a family that believes in staying together no matter what, and he comes from a family that believes the total opposite.
I'm just lost. I don't know if I should keep fighting it, and try to show him that this is a bad idea, or if I should give up and let him go. I'm trying to find the strength, but I'm going through an especially bad period right now emotionally so it's been tough. I feel kind of embarrassed posting this here... I'm just hoping to find some motivation and strength from someone who has been in a similar situation.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Husband wants to do a "trial" separation after 6 years of marriage... don't know if I should give in or keep fighting. | Husband wants to do a "trial" separation after 6 years of marriage... don't know if I should give in or keep fighting. | 5,842 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Idea's for an extremely un-orthodox/non-traditional wedding?
POST: Nothing so crazy we couldn't invite our grammas, but we definitely want to do something different. We both hate damn near everything about traditional American weddings (except the cake, cake is always good). But neither of us is religious, we don't want kids and we've been living together as a couple for several years, so the wedding doesn't really mean much to us.
We've already made the commitment to each other, we don't really care about the symbolism of a ceremony.
The only reason we're even *having* a wedding is because the families have said they'd be crushed if they couldn't see us get married. But they claim they don't care what we do as long as they get to attend. So we've been trying to come up with the weirdest/craziest/funniest way to get married. But CHEAP. We're not rich, we're paying for everything ourselves and we'd rather put money towards a house.
Any ideas?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Families making fiancee and me have a wedding, we don't want one. Need ideas for something non-traditional and fun. | Families making fiancee and me have a wedding, we don't want one. Need ideas for something non-traditional and fun. | 4,158 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Mother [62/f] wants to relocate out-of-state with her half-brother [55?/m] who she recently learned has a mean streak on Facebook
POST: My mother has been getting to know her half-brother (HB) for a couple years. I've met him a few times and he seems like a nice guy. She's looking to retire (HB's already retired) and they've talked about getting a place together out-of-state where cost of living is more affordable. It even sounds like HB is offering to be more than fair with how he's willing to divide expenses. Seemed consistent with my impression of him.
The issue is that my mom recently discovered another side to HB on Facebook. HB is from rural PA and we know he's conservative (not an issue for her; she avoids talking politics), but on Facebook he frequently comments on posts from right-wing clickbait sites (Conservative Tribune seems to be his favorite). HB's comments are typical "bitter-angry-oppressed-white-guy" stuff, but he's expressed some pretty ugly opinions about different groups (mainly blacks, illegal immigrants, gays and sometimes muslims).
My mom's distressed to see HB has this mean streak, and thinks this way about ANY of these groups, but especially because we have a gay family member (whom HB knows about and seems fine with?!). Not only does she feel it may not be possible to live with HB because of this, she also feels a need to confront HB about his attitudes towards gays because she doesn't want to betray our gay family member.
My advice to her at the moment is to talk to him about the gay issue, instead of confronting his entire worldview. HB's opposition to marriage equality seems to be the zero-sum fallacy that gay marriage devalues "traditional" marriage / reduces others' religious freedom. Thankfully, he doesn't seem to quote Leviticus or hurl epithets, so I hope there is the possibility to reach an understanding.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Mom isn't sure she can live with her half-brother who opposes (among other things) marriage equality/gay rights, without betraying our gay family member. | Mom isn't sure she can live with her half-brother who opposes (among other things) marriage equality/gay rights, without betraying our gay family member. | 3,758 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Friend [17 F] likes me romantically but I [17 M] am just not attracted to her at all. How can I let her down but stay friends?
POST: I've had a suspicion for a while that she liked me and it was confirmed a few days ago when her friends told me that she did. She has a bit of a history of mental problems like anxiety and depression, and I don't want her to fall back into that because of me (It happened before with another guy.)
I'm just not attracted to her so I'm not going to start a relationship with her but I want to let her down easy and in a way that we can still be friends. I'm pretty inexperienced with this so I have no idea how to go about that.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Female friend likes me, I'm not attracted to her. Don't want to start anything, want to let her down easy and remain friends. | Female friend likes me, I'm not attracted to her. Don't want to start anything, want to let her down easy and remain friends. | 825 |
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