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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: We, [22 F] and [23 M/F] having know each other for one week, want to know how fast is TOO fast? Especially for an online (reddit) relationship.
POST: *
TL;DR: . Assistant: | We met on reddit and have only known each other for a week. We want to make sure we're not doing anything crazy here, so... | We met on reddit and have only known each other for a week. We want to make sure we're not doing anything crazy here, so... | 5,818 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: I was ripped off by Hotwire.com
POST: This past September, I decided to spend some time hiking in the Smokey Mountains. While I was there, I would either stay at one of the shelters or I would get a hotel by way of Priceline. On one night, I couldn't get a winning bid on Priceline so I tried on Hotwire.com. I had previously purchased a room through them when I was there in August -- a 3 star that ended up being a nice Holiday Inn with a restaurant. This time, I selected what was presented as a 3-star hotel for the price of $82. When I got there, this is what I found:
3 Star Hotels (according to Hotwire) have pools and restaurants. This was a roadside motel with neither of these. I immediately called Hotwire and informed them this place was not a 3 star hotel. They were no help. "You agreed to stay in whatever hotel we put you in." "And I agreed to do so under the premise that it was a 3 star hotel. This is not a 3 star hotel. This is fraud." I stayed somewhere else to emphasize that I wasn't interested in the ripoff. I tried disputing the charge through Visa and I found out a couple of days that apparently Visa doesn't understand the idea of fraud. As a result, I am going to do a couple of things and that is why I am writing this post. First, I'm spreading my story every place on the internet I know of. I want to make Hotwire lose more than the $94 (after taxes) that I lost as a result of their fraud. Second, I plan to take them to court, but I'm deciding if I'm going to go to small claims or if I am going to go talk to an attorney and seek a class action suit. Thats the reason behind the post. Has anyone else been screwed over by Hotwire?
BTW: I have been using Priceline since 2003. I am currently working a contract out of town and use them every week to book a hotel room. I have never been disappointed with Priceline -- they're great!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Hotwire sold me what they offered as a 3-star hotel room and put me at a 1-star hotel. | Hotwire sold me what they offered as a 3-star hotel room and put me at a 1-star hotel. | 3,924 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/GetMotivated
TITLE: Why did I not come here before?
POST: I was referred here during finals week last semester, but I never actually got around to looking at this sub until today. Seeing all of the posts, I can't help but feel awe and shame. Why do I take each day for granted and not strive for greatness like you do? I used to think myself a perfectionist because I force myself to be discouraged when I am not perfect, but that isn't the point of having the goal of perfection. The point is to keep moving, to welcome the defeat and criticism and just move forward and up. That's why I was reminded of [this,] and I just wanted to thank you all. My rugby club is in the playoffs now, and seeing all of these posts reminded me of what I need to be doing to improve myself and my skills.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | You guys are as awesome as anyone can get, and you reminded me of how I need to be again. Thank you | You guys are as awesome as anyone can get, and you reminded me of how I need to be again. Thank you | 226 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Should I [24/M] be concerned about picture messages on my SO's [26/F] bill?
POST: My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 7 years now, and have been living together for much of that time. We share a phone plan through Verizon. I went on MyVerizon because we are switching plans and I wanted to see how much data/min/txts we actually use. When I was checking out how many txts each of us use it shows what numbers each phone texted and received texts from. I am not the jealous type really, so I don't care who she texts but there was a few numbers that she was sending and receiving picture messages from. One was mine, one was a mutual friend, two were numbers from NJ (where her family lives, so I assume its her father or sister), and one local number.
The latest 3 picture msg exchange with the local number occurred on the very same day that I looked it up (yesterday). I went to check the last local number to see if I have it in my phone and I don't. My first thought was 'ok no big deal it could be a friend of just hers'. I later picked her up from work and joked about how many texts she sends, and I said, "this month alone you've sent or received 20 pic msgs". She said "oh for you or my father or my sister". I then asked when was the last time you sent one or got one, and she said "about a week ago, maybe?". I have proof that it was the same day, I doubt she forgot about that. I feel that if it was a friend she would have just said "oh blah blah sent one today to me".
She has always deleted all her txt/pic msgs, she says its because she likes to keep it clean. When I first found out about it I hated that she deleted them, but I got over it and trusted her with it. She has never really given me reason to believe she cheats or anything, but why would she lie about the pic msgs? I feel like its too late to ask her straight forward who is this number, so I'm not sure what to do. Any advise would be great it is really starting to make me feel paranoid and I consider myself to be pretty trusting.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My gf of 7 years lied about receiving picture msgs that I saw she received through MyVerizon from a number I don't know, and I'm not sure what I should do. | My gf of 7 years lied about receiving picture msgs that I saw she received through MyVerizon from a number I don't know, and I'm not sure what I should do. | 4,774 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girlfriend (21F) wants to smoke, I (21M) get naseous at the smell of smoke. Am I being unreasonable?
POST: I have been with my girlfriend for 5 months, and I love her. I truely do. And I am pretty sure the feelings reciprocated.
But recently we have hit a bump in our relationsship. Before we started dating, she used to smoke, but she stopped a bit before we got serious, partly because I can't stand it, but also for herself I believe.
However the past two days she has started smoking again. Two days ago she snuck a smoke in the bathroom before walking her dogs, hoping I wouldn't notice. But I did. Then yesterday she wasn't feeling well, so after having an argument, in which I really tried to explain to her how I feel about this, she went and smoked a cigarette before going to bed to relax.
Now my problem with smoking is the fact that I can always smell it. And I can't stand it. I feel sick whenever I smell it and I can't stand being around her for at least 12 hours whenever she smokes.
She recently moved in with her mom who smokes, which she claims is the reason why she has suddenly felt the need to smoke again.
I just don't know if it's me being unreasonable or not when I tell her that I don't want her to smoke. I don't want to end things, but I also can't stand having to push her away when we sleep, when I am used to falling asleep with her in my arms.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriend wants to smoke again, I can't stand it. Tried telling her my feelings, she still wants to. What do? | girlfriend wants to smoke again, I can't stand it. Tried telling her my feelings, she still wants to. What do? | 6,068 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[25 M] am having a hard time reading a lady[23 F]
POST: There is a lady I like, but as the title states, I am having some trouble reading her. She recently got out of a long term relationship, and while I don't want to press her into anything, I do feel like we're getting close to one another. I am just no good at figuring a lady out.
Last time we hung out just the two of us, it ended up being very date like. We went out for ice cream, I put my arm around her when we walked, we got some food and played games at a different place, and as we walked back to my car she put her arms around me for a while as it was pretty cold. We talked the whole time, and some of it was about the future and where we see ourselves going. Like I said though, she just got out of a relationship, so I wasn't making any kinds of moves. I admit that I do have a hard time reading these kinds of things in general, but part of me wanted to make some kind of move, I just wasn't sure and didn't want to overstep any bounds.
Anyways, the reason why I say I am having a hard time reading her is because it is always me suggesting we do something together. Almost(95%) all our text conversations are I initiated by myself as well. I don't want to be some guy that always chases after her. I also don't mind it if we end up being only friends or being only friends for a while before she works things out for herself, but I find it a little disheartening when we have great times together, but she never seeks it out.
Part of me thinks I'm just being stupid, and I should just let things happen as they happen. I think the same part is seeking out confirmation that this is indeed the case. I also don't normally seek out a person's attention like this, so it is a pretty strange sensation for me. Any insight would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | A lady and I have a great time when we do hang out, but it's always me asking her to hang out and it feels very one sided. Does she actually like me? | A lady and I have a great time when we do hang out, but it's always me asking her to hang out and it feels very one sided. Does she actually like me? | 5,498 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22F] with my co-worker [22M] - I made it awkward, any advice?
POST: Got a new job. Trained with co-worker, we're friends, he's cool. Hang out sometimes. Drink after work with other co-workers. Briefly think he likes me. No idea if he does. Don't really entertain the thought.
Work there for 3 weeks, briefly see co-worker daily, always nice interactions.
Co-worker invites me over to hang and stay the night. That sounds like code to me, so I mentioned I thought he was cool and that I'm not keen on staying the night because seeing other guy. Never brought up this guy before. Pretty personal to be sharing at work, my dating escapades. Co-worker must not have figured it out or stalked me online enough.
Co-worker is sad. Short sentences, suggests we don't hang out. Feel like I did something wrong. Mention the convo is weird, we "reset" and he invites me over again. This time another friend of his is coming. I've met him, we all get along very well. So everything is fixed right?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Assumed my co-worker liked me, mentioned we couldn't date. I hope I didn't break a friendship. I totally get why girls like to be friends with gay guys. | Assumed my co-worker liked me, mentioned we couldn't date. I hope I didn't break a friendship. I totally get why girls like to be friends with gay guys. | 305 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: My best friend, and beer may have saved my family's lifes last night.
POST: Yeah, so I missed a call from him earlier. When I called back he said he'd call me back in a bit. So I'm farting around, looking for something to do. Watched TV in the basement for a short time and went back upstairs. I was chilling in my bed, messing with my phone when he called. He asked if he could run something by me and I asked if it was beer because I was out of beer. We decided that I'd just go over to his house so I could drink his beer and he could run something by me. When I went outside, I smelled something burning. Not just *something* burning, but it smelled like cigarette butts burning. I had recently smoked a cigarette on the back porch and outside the basement door, so I went to check. Nothing happening on the back porch, but there was a softball size glowing red wad of cigarette butts where I put my cigarette out about 10-15 minutes earlier. I realize now how unsafe our "ash tray" is now because it is just a flimsy plastic thing that a plant would come in, it was over stuffed with cigarette butts AND it was sitting in a bed of pine straw! So I grab the hose and easily extinguish this glowing butt fireball of death and breathe a sigh of relief.
So who knows what would have happened if I hadn't decided to go to my friends house at about that time. I would've come outside within the next half hour or so to smoke, an hour at the most and would have smelled it then if it was still smoldering. But like I said, it was a glowing ball of death in a bed of pine straw, so it could have easily ignited and then who knows what would have happened.
Oh, and my wife is out of town. Imagine making that call. Honey, umm, I uh, I burned the house down. *shiver* Can't even think about the fact that all 4 of my kids were home at this time.
I will absolutely get a can of some sorts to put our butts in to reduce the risk. Should just fucking quit smoking.
Thanks dude. Oh, he was contemplating refininancing his house and wanted to discuss it with me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Out of beer, friend calls at just the right time, I smell smoke outside, house was about to catch fire. | Out of beer, friend calls at just the right time, I smell smoke outside, house was about to catch fire. | 1,278 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Can Reddit help me find a laser?
POST: There exists a nonprofit tattoo removal clinic called Central Texas Tattoo Removal Project ([CTTRP] This is a team of volunteers who, every month for 12 years now, have given up a Saturday morning in order to help people access free (18 and under) or low-cost ($60/treatment; for 19 and up) tattoo removal.
Right now they use an infra-red device, which gives a 2nd degree burn. The laser method is much faster, less painful, and doesn't require nearly as much care to heal well. It also heals much faster. A laser for this process is about $12,000, used, as I understand it. I was hoping maybe, since the organization has been there for so long and has helped so many people with such a degree of consistency, maybe a manufacturer could be persuaded to donate a refurbished model? Or perhaps some Redditor knows of a foundation that makes grants to worth non-profit organizations with no board salaries or wasteful spending? (The building we use is a donation of space, and the board members, doctors, nurses and front desk people are all volunteers. But they never hired a consultant to get 501c3 status, and none of the volunteers ever took the time to get the designation. So the organization is not eligible for a lot of the grant money out there, despite the incredible work they do every month, actually helping people.)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | If you happen to have a spare, working medical grade laser for tattoo removal laying around, please PM me. (And I promise not to tell anyone your true Reddit identity, Batman.) | If you happen to have a spare, working medical grade laser for tattoo removal laying around, please PM me. (And I promise not to tell anyone your true Reddit identity, Batman.) | 587 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: [Help] My dog can't keep his mouth shut and keeps biting me.
POST: Hey guys,
I adopted a now 4 month-old (Newfoundland mix) huge puppy about 4 weeks ago. At first he was behaving he only had trouble understanding the concept of walking on a leash. But recently he seems to be out of control. Digging and stealing stuff I can deal with because all my dogs did this when they were young. My main concern is his biting.
I know he's a puppy and all puppies go through the mouthing phase but he seems more..aggressive in a way. As soon as he notices me he just jumps on me and bites my legs/arms and recently he goes for the face. Now I've never tolerated him even touching his teeth against human skin. I taught my old Pumi the same way and he still takes treats from my hand with surgical precision. But the puppy just doesn't learn. Even when he is behaving and sits still and I pet him as a reward he sometimes just jumps up and bites my chest usually going for the face or the neck.
Any advice on how to teach him more effectively? All the advice I get from people around me is to just slap his nose when he bites but isn't that just encouraging the fighting/more aggressive playing?
Thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 4 months old big puppy keeps jumping on people and biting them. Legs, arms, torso, even goes for the head sometimes.* | 4 months old big puppy keeps jumping on people and biting them. Legs, arms, torso, even goes for the head sometimes.* | 6,191 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (F/19) confused about whether I should stay with him (M/18).
POST: I'm a girl who has only had short term relationships. I just dated people because that was the thing to do in high school... I'm now in University and have met a guy that I would love to try and go the distance. He says he really likes me and we act like we're dating, but he broke up with his long time girl at the beginning of the semester and has episodes of missing her, I'm totally for waiting and not pushing him into anything but it puts a lot of emotional stress on everything because I don't know if I should be there for him as a friend instead. I know what I want, but he doesn't know and I'm confused if I should move on until he figures it out?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Guy breaks up with long time girlfriend. Meets me, we have this dating-type thing, has waves of missing ole girl, doesn't know what he wants and I do. Should I stay or move on? | Guy breaks up with long time girlfriend. Meets me, we have this dating-type thing, has waves of missing ole girl, doesn't know what he wants and I do. Should I stay or move on? | 2,648 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by being too honest
POST: OK this happened yesterday and I am only posting it because my fiance does not have a Reddit account (I am working on it, she is subscribed to Mandatory so yeah, baby steps) and I have "*explicit permission*" from said fiance to post this in her first person, as it was told to me. So I hope you enjoy this as much as I did.
I walked in the back to clock in, and after I did, I realize there was money on the ground - 2 dollars but still, not my money and $2 is still $2. I ask everyone in the back if they had seen anyone come in recently as I had not seen the money on the floor as I went in to clock in, I saw it *after*.
I must have asked 30 people - "is this *your* money?" - finally I decided to go turn it into the manager's office in case anyone lost it. I go in, give the $2 to one of the assistant managers and told her I had asked almost everyone if it was theirs and everyone said no & even if it was just 2 bucks I couldn't keep it because it wasn't my money.
I turn and walk out of the office. About 6 feet down the hallway it hits me: I had just come off break (where I had walked over to the nearby Subway and had a combo meal) and *that was *MY* $2 I had gotten back as change from my sammich!!! I had just turned in *my own money* to the lost and found after pretty loudly stating that it wasn't MY money and "if it were me, I would hope someone would turn it in"...
I didn't go back. I will never tell them that was my 2 dollars. At least it wasn't a *too costly* lesson. I also realized how honest my co-workers are :)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Found money, looked for money's owner frantically, turn money into the office, after leaving office realize the money was actually mine. Can't go back because shame, yall. | Found money, looked for money's owner frantically, turn money into the office, after leaving office realize the money was actually mine. Can't go back because shame, yall. | 2,035 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23F] don't know whether to help my neighbor [70?F] with her problem
POST: To start off with, last Fall I moved to a larger city for school and bought a house. This is the first time I will be living without roommates or parents, so I'm not always sure of how the city works (I used to live in the country).
My neighbor Joy is an elderly woman who lives with her son Mark. Mark is quiet and has helped me with some things, like letting me borrow his ladder, letting me know when trash go out or when leaves get picked up. Mark works 12-14 hour shifts, so Joy is left alone most of the day. The times she has come over to my house she doesn't leave for hours and talks about inappropriate conversations for having just met someone, like politics, religion, sex, and how Obama is ruining the country because Fox News told her so. I have put up with it because I assume she is very lonely and just wants someone to talk to, but she makes me very uncomfortable.
She called me the other day and told me she has cancer and needs someone to take her to doctor appointments. She goes on to say Mark usually does but summer time is when he works even more and she doesn't want him to take so much time off. I told her I have summer classes and work so I am going to be busy. She says the doctors could work around my schedule. I am feeling like I can't say no because I'm helping Mark out with this as well, but I really don't want to spend that much time with her. Additionally, I have no idea how many appointments I would need to take her to, or how often they would be. If it matters, I believe she has skin cancer, and it's not life threatening at all.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Lonely old lady has cancer and wants me to drive her to doctor appointments this summer. I am busy with school and work, but want to help her son who has helped me in the past. | Lonely old lady has cancer and wants me to drive her to doctor appointments this summer. I am busy with school and work, but want to help her son who has helped me in the past. | 1,089 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17M], Picking between long-time friend [17M], her [15F] sister, or her sister's [15F] friend
POST: I'm in Grade 12 at high school, staying for another year next year. I don't get around and have had practically no relationships.
I have known a girl [17F, GR12] for 4 years. Let's call her Jess. We've always gotten along very well but have never been romantically involved. She is really fun to be around. I didn't really notice she was attractive until this year, (eh, big school). I sit with her and a few others at lunch.
I'm in a class for a musical at my school. There are 79 students in the class, including crew and cast. I am playing the male lead.
Jess' sister [15F, GR10] is in the class. Let's call her Jill. She is a nun in the musical. Not a major role, but she does have some solos. I only met her in passing last year. This year, I have gotten to know her better. Whenever we talk, she seems to laugh at all my crappy jokes and might(?) be flirting with me. She started conversations with me on FB. She is really attractive.
Jill's friend [15F, GR10] is also a nun. Let's call her Amanda. I had never spoken a word to her until this year. I like everything about her. I try not to stare. She has a beautiful singing voice, and may have been a female lead if she wasn't busy being a dancer (outside of school) as well. We talk every day during class, and always seem to have fun around each other.
I want a serious relationship, I don't know who to pick. Also, I can't pick one, get rejected, and go for a different girl. Amanda would tell Jill if I asked her out first; Jess would tell Jill if I asked her out first; Jill would tell either if I asked her out first.
Once (if) I decide I will post any updates.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am trying to decide between my [17F] friend, her [15F] sister, and her's sister's friend [15F]. | I am trying to decide between my [17F] friend, her [15F] sister, and her's sister's friend [15F]. | 1,876 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [29 M] am engaged to my fiancé [30 F]. I got drunk at an office function when a co-worker [26 F] and I...
POST: This story isn't about me: I'm actually asking how to navigate a conversation like this emotionally, practically, and intelligently with a friend/colleague - really.
He and I are roughly the same age so when he told me...
* at an office party's **after-party** (that I did not attend)
* he became black out drunk
* and the next morning was told he got handsy with (and seemed to have kissed) another co-worker in a corner of the bar
... I did not know how to respond.
I struggle with the *"being drunk is never an excuse"* POV because I too have done regretful, though reparable, things while very drunk. I also cannot fully side with or against the *"when you're drunk, you're uninhibited, and your true self comes out"* offense/defense.
What is /r/relationships stance on doing things you wouldn't do sober but did when you were [very] drunk?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friend got SUPER drunk at an office party and cheated on his fiancé. I don't know what to say but would like to hear your take on the subject. | Friend got SUPER drunk at an office party and cheated on his fiancé. I don't know what to say but would like to hear your take on the subject. | 4,003 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Mine(M17) sociophobic girlfriend (f16) willingly goes to party while she always refuses to go to my house
POST: Well,my girlfriend(f16) have sociophobia,everytime when we are not outside,we MUST be at her home,she never come to my home,
she tell me that she is afraid of that something will happen (stomach ache,fear,etc. - her symptoms),so i am okay with
that we go to her home.
Until yesterday,at morning she texted me that we wont be together that day because she going to sleep to her friend (f23) and she come today,it first,i was like "Okay honey,take care of yourself),but inside of me,i am "mad" and feel decieved.
Why decieved? Because at my home,when i want to ho to my home with her,we are everytime alone which shoud help her about
that symptoms,but she always refuses,thanks to that she doesnt even know my parents (i know almost all her family because we are always at her home..) after 8 months of being tohether in relationship.
And also, when she went sleep to that friend,there was also a party,maybe 10 people (5f/5m) and one of guys that were there was..well...her earlyer crush (?)..she said that if she was older she would already be with him...and it look like she didnt had any symptoms at that party at all,she even told me how they both had a little perverted talk(if i would do that,a wrangle would be already here...)
P.S.: non-native english here,please dont blame me :)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My sociophobic GF who always refuses to go to my home willingly goes to party and sleep here at night,how should i feel about it or what to do? | My sociophobic GF who always refuses to go to my home willingly goes to party and sleep here at night,how should i feel about it or what to do? | 4,208 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Loseit, I am about to embark (pics). What tips do you have for me?
POST: Loseit, I have for you a success story gone awry.
In my sophomore year of high school, I finally realized I was fat. It had never occurred to me before until I saw myself in a video. I was 180 pounds. I was shocked by how obese I was. I decided to do something about it. I wasn't really sure how to go about it, but started watching what I ate, walking more, took a dance class or two, but didn't get really serious about it until just after high school. a
It was the year after high school I became something of a gym rat. I got addicted to bike riding and would hit the gym every day without fail, just because of how good it felt. I lost a lot of inches (not much weight, what with building so much muscle from dance, running and biking, but I did go from a size 12-14 to a size 10.
I was steadily making my way down to a size 8 and very happy with my progress and how great I felt.
[Cue the "gone awry" part.]
I moved to New York for volunteer work and (long story short) had a nightmarish experience. I gained so much weight that I am now the heaviest I have ever been in my life.
I am at a size 14 and hate everything about that. I am shaking off some PTSD from my experience and I believe in order to be healthy again mentally, I need to lose all the weight I brought back with me.
Help me, Loseit! None of my clothes fit! What tips do you have for a beginner in her early twenties who went from this confident girl:
To this new frightened and unhealthy version:
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Gained LOTS of weight over a year. What are some tips to keep in mind as I lose it all for the second time? | Gained LOTS of weight over a year. What are some tips to keep in mind as I lose it all for the second time? | 4,434 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What is the most worst thing your friend has done to another person?
POST: For me, my friend ( Let's call him... Arthur)was actually asked to Prom by a girl he was friends with since Freshman year. She surprised him with flowers and he responded with "Yeah, sure." Afterwards, when his best friend (Let's call him...Samuel) asked Arthur why he was going (At this point, Samuel just finished venting to Athur that Prom was a waste of money and they could go do other stuff.) Wanting to hang out with his bud instead, he replies "I'm not really going with her lol." So basically, he pretends to say yes to a girl and not even inform her of his change in plans. She had to find out from word of mouth.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friend says yes to girl who asks him to Prom, only to change his mind and hang out with his bud without telling the girl himself. | Friend says yes to girl who asks him to Prom, only to change his mind and hang out with his bud without telling the girl himself. | 2,134 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Using untouched childhood "investment" account funds for other purposes. Is this a terrible plan?
POST: Let me preface this by stating that I know virtually nothing about investing/the stock market, and I have unfortunately not been faced with "real life" yet, therefore I am not too great with money management--but I'm trying.
I am a recent college graduate (graduated with zero student debt) who is currently unemployed. I have an unpaid internship lined up with very good prospects that it will turn into a paid position after I complete it, and am actively searching for other part-time work to supplement income in the mean time. I am currently living off of a monthly allowance that my parents send me until I secure a job (covers rent and utilities, but barely any left over). I have about ~$800 in credit card debt due to me being financially stupid.
Recently I remembered that as a child my parents set aside about 2k in (I think) a Charles Schwab account for me to "invest," but really didn't offer much guidance and it's never actively been invested. I know it existed in my name, but the last time I spoke to my parents about it I was probably ~15 years old (my dad gave me some papers about it, but I don't know where they are).
Anyways, my goal this year is to become fully self-sufficient and pay off my credit card debt in full, as well as building savings and being overall more financially intelligent.
My question is, should I seek out this 2k and use it to pay off my credit debt? I considered withdrawing it all (I've inquired to my dad regarding getting more information about it), paying off my debt, taking care of some car repairs I've been putting off, and then starting a savings/emergency fund. Is this a good idea?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have some money, which has been untouched since childhood, in an investment account. Should I find and withdraw it to pay off some debt and build savings? | I have some money, which has been untouched since childhood, in an investment account. Should I find and withdraw it to pay off some debt and build savings? | 4,251 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My Ex-Husband Wants Me Back After I Have Found Another Man; Is He Genuine or No?
POST: My Ex-Husband, whom is also a redditor as is my new boyfriend hence the new and anon-account, has been alluding to wanting to come back to our home.
Back story; We have three children together, I own the house and he moved out after moving in with his GF in a messed up poly-experiment gone wrong. He told me that he was moving out via a phone call on his lunch break. He just stopped coming home except for the weekends when used the house to see the children until he got his own house.
I am now un-employed and living on FS and CS (woo being a housewife and having your husband leave!) New boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and he moved in about a month ago. He is successful and now off of FS, yay!
Ex-husband sends random IM about a month ago lamenting about how if he came back he'd have to leave his GF. I said yeah that would be a requirement and some other snarky comments about how he'd have to be a real man and husband not a weekend father. I was obviously mad and we aren't exactly best friends any more even though we were together for 10 years and were prior to him leaving out of the blue.
Then he asked me last week when I dropped off the kiddos he invited me in for dinner in front of the kids. I politely declined but that was awkward.
Then I got a message from a friend, used to be mutual, and one of his co-workers saying he has been asking about me and wants to know if he should move back in with his family.
I am so conflicted. I feel like I should and I am saying no for the right reasons but I don't know if it is the right decision.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex-husband seems to be trying to get back in to my house and life. I have a new BF, WTF am I to do? | Ex-husband seems to be trying to get back in to my house and life. I have a new BF, WTF am I to do? | 4,755 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My GF is very depressed and going through a tough time right now. I don't know how to help, and I need guidance
POST: Bare with me, its pretty long.
Alright, so my gf has had a troubled past; she was raped when she was thirteen by a "friend" and as a result, her family completely fell apart. Her father actively despises her for this, her twin brother is an addict, and her parents are seeking a divorce. Her entire life since that incident has been a nightmare, and it shows in her relationships which have ended in her getting used and cheated on. Despite this she is very tough and resilient, but i think that stubbornness has run out.
She is very depressed and tells me how she has had enough and doesn't care anymore. her tumultuous relationship with her father is at the core of this. She dropped out of high school and just recently got her GED to show her dad she is willing to give schooling a second chance. The agreement was she would go to school and he would give her her car back. But he went back on his word and just yells at her and puts her down whenever she brings it up.
So now she's jobless without a car to take her to work and school and basically incapable of sustaining herself because of it. On top of that her dad kicked her out of the house for getting a tattoo, while her twin brother is an addict who comes home fucked up on god knows what. She's been living with my uncle since she is childhood friends with my cousin, but she has become completely depressed and demotivated. She feels like her situation is hopeless and has told me she doesnt care anymore. I don't know what to do or say to help, and its frustrating because i really care for her.
I'm really scared guys.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my girlfriend has a troubled past of rape and a broken family and is at a point where she wants to give up, don't know what to do. | my girlfriend has a troubled past of rape and a broken family and is at a point where she wants to give up, don't know what to do. | 1,778 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my gf [21 F] 6 months, am I being unreasonable with all of this?
POST: I'll start this by stating that me and my girlfriend spend a lot of time with each other, we do nice things for one another, we get along very well and have frequent sex. She told me she loves me about a month ago and I told her I love her as well. We are very affectionate as well with each other.
So my girlfriend offhandedly mentioned the other night after sex that she wishes she could blow me while I fuck her. I agreed that sounds pretty hot but now I can't stop thinking that she is wanting to have a threesome (we agreed not long ago that neither of us would want to see the other have sex with someone else).
Anyways, would it be messed up for me to almost bait her into it just to see if she would want to do it? Like just asking "Hey about what you said the other night, it sounds like you want to have a threesome with another guy?". It would crush me deeply inside if she said yes as I would never want to see another guy doing anything with her and she knows it... I think this would be a deal breaker for me as I have thought about whether we have a future together, because I think we do at this rate. If she says yes to this it essentially means she isn't satisfied with only having sex with me and is seeking more, and I take that as a possibility for future cheating or that I am just wasting my time in this relationship.
This is my first serious relationship so I'm probably sounding like an idiot here but could really use some advice, I really love this girl and have no current plans of leaving her. I don't think I'm being entirely unreasonable though, before we started dating she was sexually 'adventurous', she had sex with 6 guys in the span of a year after breaking up with her two year boy friend, she said she regrets most of them and considering that she waited until 18 to have sex makes me think she does have the will power... But whats stopping her from exploring again? This is eating away at me, advice is extremely appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend makes offhand comment and I might be misinterpreting it and just being jealous... Should I try to get an answer out of her even though I don't want it to be true? | Girlfriend makes offhand comment and I might be misinterpreting it and just being jealous... Should I try to get an answer out of her even though I don't want it to be true? | 1,479 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25/M] dealing with a group of friends ranging 19-24
POST: Hello there, r/Relationships,
I've got kind of a serious question that has been more or less wrecking my life in the last few weeks. I guess I'll start out with a quick back story. Started a study abroad program in January in Tokyo and have met some of the most wonderful people during the first 3 months of the program. We got along just fine and became fast friends. Fast forward to a few weeks ago, half the group has left while the remaining half is still here.
Here's the problem. While I had an interest in one or two girls in the group [ages 23-24] that had remained, it seems that their interests are on the other guys. Now, I never really voiced my interests for the sake of maintaining the status quo of the group, but I knew things were going on. I wanted to give them their space, but because of it, I've grown resentful.
As a result, I feel that they've become more exclusive to themselves and as such, I've told one of the people that I felt really close to my troubles. He says that no, it's not that they're trying to exclude me and that it's all in my head. There shouldn't be any problems between me and the group, but yet I still have that weird feeling that I shouldn't be treading in this territory. They do things on their own and yet, I feel that I'm more or less put on the wayside.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Frustrated that I couldn't get my feelings out and now feel weird trying to get back into the group. How would I go about mending these bonds? | Frustrated that I couldn't get my feelings out and now feel weird trying to get back into the group. How would I go about mending these bonds? | 837 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24M] am having trouble dealing with my GF[23F] breaking up with me, please help
POST: So, my gf and I have been together for almost 3 years. They have not been perfect but who's relationship is? I have had an incredible time and I love her very much though. We broke up about 2 months ago, and have since been still seeing each other and hooking up occasionally, during which, I have been taking the time to really do fun and nice things with her which we didn't do much of before in our relationship like going out on dates etc. Things were going great up until the other day, when out of the blue she said she wants to stop. She says she doesn't see our relationship going anywhere and wants to just be single. Of course, my head goes crazy thinking she's found someone new, has a crush on someone, or is possibly hooking up with my ex-best friend (which is a long shot, even for me to believe but it's still there in my head) I am having a terrible time dealing with this, as my life has been spiraling downward over the past 2 months. We broke up, I lost my living arrangements, lost my friends, and just last weekend lost my job. And now I'm gonna lose her too. I'm so lonely and scared. I'm in a new place with no one to comfort me and be with me and I don't wanna lose her. It's not just the sex either, I don't wanna lose hanging out with her, having fun and experiencing life together. I can't say she's marriage material for me, but I still love what we're doing. I don't know what to do. Part of my head says she's right it may not work out, but the other part of me is screaming to do anything to keep her in my life. Please reddit, any advice or help would mean the world to me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF of 3 years wants to break up for real, having a tough time accepting it while going through a rough time in my life | GF of 3 years wants to break up for real, having a tough time accepting it while going through a rough time in my life | 4,651 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I've [23 M] started dating a lovely woman [23 F], what does she mean?
POST: OK, so I've started to date (4 dates so far) this woman who is really nice. We met at a college extra curricular lecture and things have been going swimmingly. My issue is me I believe, and I really could do with some advice.
So I'm really inexperienced with women and I'm pretty much flying by the seat of my pants right now and just trying to keep my head above the water so I'm doing my best to try and not scare this woman away. In my quest to do this, I've realised that I haven't really initialised any physical contact and it has all come from her. So for instance, at the end of the second date she gave me a peck on the cheek as way of saying good night. After the fourth date, I was still scared of offending her by holding her hand and putting my arm around her (I not a smooth man!) and she ended to date by just gunning for it and sucking my face off (totally not complaining!). Anyway, I decided to text her that I really like her and that the reason I haven't made a move yet is because I wasn't sure she'd appreciate it. She text back saying that she's not looking to rush into anything and moving slowly is maybe the way to go but she really enjoyed the evening as is looking forward to our next date. What does she mean by this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm awkward, woman kisses me, I apologise for being a wimp, she says she's not looking to rush into anything, what does that mean? | I'm awkward, woman kisses me, I apologise for being a wimp, she says she's not looking to rush into anything, what does that mean? | 518 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Unrelated (I hope) question from the eating disorder thread
POST: Reading through (most of) [this] thread, I'm curious if there's a classification of eating disorder not related to perceived attractiveness? More specifically, take that classic skinny nerd who cries 'high metabolism' but only manages around 1500 calories/day of mostly processed crap. Say he/she knows this, is bothered by it, and still can't change it? Not like they don't want to badly enough to do something. But say there's been repeated efforts to increase daily intake (and quality), but meals go unfinished and eventually unprepared. Even writing this I'm thinking 'buck up or stop whining'... but I'm legitimately curious to see if this area has been explored professionally, or at least hear some personal accounts or clever flames.
I've dated a girl and later found out an eating disorder started about the same time of our relationship. There was plenty else going on, but just recently had another tell me she felt too chubby around me to actually date. She has a fantastic body that I would guess falls right into average/healthy.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | version: Can you have an eating disorder without excessive dieting, concern for weight or image, and could it be somehow reversely contagious? | version: Can you have an eating disorder without excessive dieting, concern for weight or image, and could it be somehow reversely contagious? | 4,644 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend is leaving next year for college.
POST: My (17F) boyfriend (17M) is leaving for college next year, however, I'm currently only a junior. We are in a very serious committed relationship, especially for a high school relationship. We've talked about the future, as in when he leaves for college and what will happen as a result... We've come to the conclusion that we'll need to break up as he wants to go out of state for his college education. As a result, we've had a copious amount of problems in our relationship. For example, I harbor feelings of insignificance regarding the relationship because it's so temporary and essentially has an expiration date, which causes me to feel the need to push him away so I'm not attached to him and reliant on him and won't be depressed when he leaves for college. I know it's unhealthy, but neither one of us can end the relationship, we're too attached. At this point, I don't know what to do. Either option is selfish, leave the relationship to protect myself and as a result hurt him, or stay in the relationship when I know I won't ever be completely happy, and end up pushing him away because of this. What do I do? End the relationship and hurt him and myself as well, or stay in the relationship knowing full well I won't be able to be genuinely happy?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend is leaving for college next year, I'm only a junior. Questioning the significance of the relationship and if all the stress is worth it. | Boyfriend is leaving for college next year, I'm only a junior. Questioning the significance of the relationship and if all the stress is worth it. | 6,313 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I[23 M] be mad with my GF [23 F] of 2 months. For something that happened months ago?
POST: okay so me and my gf are great together, we are highly compatible. There is one thing that came to the surface last night and Its really bothering me. Before we were official, me gf and I were seeing each other for a good 4-5 months. Apparently during that time my gf and her coworker kissed. Should I be mad?
Her argument is that we were not official, therefor it should not matter. My argument was that regardless of our status there should have been a mutual level of respect and understanding, and I believed there was until now.
I just feel like she lied to me by not telling me. We were really close (not as friends) during the few months before we were official.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Gf kissed another guy a few months ago while we were "seeing" each other. Should I be upset now? | Gf kissed another guy a few months ago while we were "seeing" each other. Should I be upset now? | 2,278 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By drunkenly making out in someones bathroom
POST: So this literally just happened last night and I am typing whilst recovering on my sofa. I go to pretty intense Uni, UWO, both for work and for partying and last night I went to a friends house warming party. People were chilling music was bumping etc. Essentially I consumed 1/2 a bottle of Jack Daniels and 1/2 a bottle of tequila and somehow managed to chat up a girl, will call her J. One thing lead to another and we headed to the bathroom. As we were furiously making out and taking of our clothes, I somehow managed to slip and fall straight into the tub with her, which would have been fine, if not for the fact my head slammed against the soap holder in the tub.
The thing smashes into pieces and my head starts bleeding. A lot. My entire chest is covered in my own blood in a very short span of time. I can't feel much because of the alcohol and now J is kidda freaking out (understandably). She gets toilet paper and gets we to put pressure on the wound whilst she calls an ambulance. When we are leaving, the whole party is freaking out because they think the cops will show up. I essentially spend all night at the hospital, getting stitches whilst J (bless her) keeps me company. I ended up with 18 stitches on the side of my head. But I did get to stay at Js after I got released from hospital!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Went to a party, got much drunker than I should have, ended up leaving the bathroom looking like a scene from a horror film, now have a new set of scars on my head but potentially wifey material | Went to a party, got much drunker than I should have, ended up leaving the bathroom looking like a scene from a horror film, now have a new set of scars on my head but potentially wifey material | 485 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [20 M] went on a date but was it really a date?
POST: So first a little bit of backstory to put things into context: I recently started university and got along well with a girl. I subsequently asked her out for dinner to which she accepted. It wasn't explicitly mentioned that it was a date but I guess I assumed it was implied which probably was a bad idea. The "date" went extremely well and I did have a wonderful time with her and although I really do like her, I get the impression it's one sided.
During the date, I told her that I considered this a date and whatnot and well I feel like I've put my foot in my mouth. How do I now tell her that I don't really care what happens and I would rather keep her as a friend than be awkward around each other?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Went on a date which may not have been a date in her eyes. Let her know and now it's a little awkward but would prefer it not to be. How do I go about talking about it? | Went on a date which may not have been a date in her eyes. Let her know and now it's a little awkward but would prefer it not to be. How do I go about talking about it? | 270 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23M] want to buy important jewelry (Greek Lavalier) for my girlfriend [22F]. We've been dating a year and I can't afford it because of her metal allergy.
POST: Hi, this is my first post to /r/Relationships!
I have been dating my current girlfriend, who I met in college, for just over a year now. We have fortunately had a very strong relationship with few fights. To add a little background, I am a member of a fraternity in college, and I am graduating this semester. I understand this is a controversial topic, but please see me through. A tradition of greek life is to buy a girl who means a lot to you a "lavaliere", a piece of jewelry containing the greek letters. However, I am unable to completely afford this before I graduate. I have elected to buy her the necklace chain that this charm will go on.
However, she has a metal allergy, which I have not had completely explained by her. From what I know, she is able to tolerate gold jewelry, but not gold plated jewelry. I don't want to ask her because I'd prefer to surprise her.
What I am asking is, does anyone in this sub have any familiarity with this issue, and if so, what karat of gold is reasonable? Must I buy the most pure gold (24K, right)? Or can I skate by on lesser quality? I want to purchase this before I graduate in the next couple weeks.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have about a week to buy my girlfriend a piece of jewelry, but she has an allergy to metals and I don't know what kind of gold is pure enough to not cause irritation but impure enough to not destroy my finances. | I have about a week to buy my girlfriend a piece of jewelry, but she has an allergy to metals and I don't know what kind of gold is pure enough to not cause irritation but impure enough to not destroy my finances. | 1,710 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My Friend is Slowly Being Killed By His Roommate, What Do?
POST: My friend needs your advice.
First off, We are college students at a Tech School in the Pacific Northwest. Our school does not provide dorms so we all have to get our own apartments while we attend.
At first his roommate, let's call him Bill, was a decent guy, kind of socially awkward, but he did his part and they all got along well. Over the last two years Bill slowly started letting the place go. He stopped washing clothes, he stopped cleaning dishes, he stopped doing nearly everything. He puts food in the fridge and forgets about it, hiding it in the back or in the shelves.
Bill has piles of filthy laundry pushed against the wall. Stacks of molding plates, glasses with spoiled milk, bags of month old snacks, half eaten take out surround his bed. Their apartment smells like a landfill, their windows and door have to stay open to ward off the smell.
About three months ago, when semester started again I noticed that my friend, Bob, developed a cough. I figured it was back to school sickness and would go away; it didn't. About three weeks later I took Bob to the urgent care center. They said his cough was caused by some sort of contaminant, that he must have been breathing it for quite some time. And that because of it he had developed a mild Asthma.
Fast forward two months, Bob is still coughing, Bill is still living in his filth. Bob wants to kick him out but is afraid that Bill will not be able to find somewhere to go. He wants to torment Bill, to make his life as 'uncomfortable' as possible. Bob's end goal is to make it so Bill decides to move out and saves him the hassle of forcing him out.
How have you dealt with filthy roommates?
How do we make his life hell?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My friend's roommate is a filthy person, who gave my friend health problems. We need to force him to move out. How have you dealt with people like this? | My friend's roommate is a filthy person, who gave my friend health problems. We need to force him to move out. How have you dealt with people like this? | 1,345 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My mom refuses to talk to me because I compared Jesus Christ to Santa.
POST: I have no kids, but I sometimes pick up my 15-year-old niece from soccer practice. Erin and I are very close, in age and emotionally. We have hung out together a lot. She is only 4 years younger than me.
I am 19, going on 20. I am also female if that helps. Not sure if it does.
My family is all religious, to the point where it seems almost like a mental illness. Jesus is everywhere. Erin and I are agnostic and do not agree.
While I was in the car, my Mom (56f) called Erin, then texted her a shopping list. I told Erin a joke my boyfriend told me about Jesus being like Santa. It was pretty much:
*How is Jesus like Santa?*
*They both watch you when you sleep and have an obsession with Children.*
It was super stupid. Erin sent the joke to her friend Arlyn (18f). Arlyn and Auntie are right next to one another and she accidentally sent it to my mom. When my mom called in a fit, I said I told Erin the joke.
That was three weeks ago and my Mom has not spoken to me or Erin. She says we are going to hell, we might as well be f*ggots. I don't live with my mom, I don't take money from her. My dad pays for some stuff, but he doesn't talk to my mom at all. They are not divorced, but they are also not living like a married couple. He said this is the reason he left and works out of state.
I am just not sure what to do. I love my Mom very much, but my sister (39) and her husband (42) have said I am a bad person. They have not forbidden Erin from seeing me, but she says she got a few talks about not being like me. She laughed about it when they were gone and says she could care less.
What do I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Told my cousin a stupid joke and she accidentally sent it to my mom. Now my mom won't talk to me and my family is mad. Not sure what to do. | Told my cousin a stupid joke and she accidentally sent it to my mom. Now my mom won't talk to me and my family is mad. Not sure what to do. | 6,196 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How long is too long to hate your ex after a break up? [21/f, um, broke up with 20/m like a year and a half ago?]
POST: I broke up with my ex over a year and a half ago. It was not really a good relationship--I felt smothered physically and emotionally, and I just don't think we were compatible. (I could go into all the ways I think he's a douchebag here, but I won't. Or I'll save it for later.) Despite the fact that he painted me as the bad guy, I have great, fulfilling relationships with other people, great sex, and I'm way happier than I've ever been. However, there are moments where I'm just sitting and thinking and I'll suddenly think to myself, "God, I'd like to kick that motherfucker in the testicles over and over with a pair of steel-toed boots."
Besides the fact that I think he's a jerk, I guess the reason I still hate his guts is because 1) I feel like my public image is still something along the lines of "home wrecker Jezebel" despite the fact that this relationship was not serious, and 2) I really don't feel like I ever got a chance to "close that chapter" because I was in a position where I couldn't defend myself and we never really talked about it, and 3) he never listened and didn't really let me talk about my feelings without making it about him.
I recognize that there were points where I should have been more assertive with what I wanted, but I've processed this and I really don't feel like blaming myself any more. I've talked with my therapist and my friends about it, but **I guess I'm just wondering if it's possible to have any catharsis for a break up like this so long after the fact, especially if the other person is a total uncooperative asshole?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm still pissed off at my ex long after I dumped him, how do I get over it if I've already done all the stereotypical "moving on" stuff? | I'm still pissed off at my ex long after I dumped him, how do I get over it if I've already done all the stereotypical "moving on" stuff? | 1,610 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend [22F] says that I [23M] cannot watch porn, but she says it's OK for her to read Fifty Shades of Grey.
POST: My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and she has always maintained that she does not approve of me watching porn. Recently she told me she has started reading Fifty Shades of Grey and has been getting "worked up" when reading it. I told her that I thought it was hypocritical of her considering how adamant she is that I don't watch porn, to which her response was "I think reading is different to watching." I pressed her for more of a reason and she said that "physically staring at other women is different to reading about sex". Personally I feel like this is a huge double standard when the bottom line is both are used for the same outcome, but I'd like to get some second opinions.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend think's it's fine for her to get off to Fifty Shades of Grey but not for me to get off to porn. | My girlfriend think's it's fine for her to get off to Fifty Shades of Grey but not for me to get off to porn. | 3,228 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21M] with my girlfriend [21F] of 2 years decided to go on a "break" due to her being miserable but not with me.
POST: My girl friend of 2 years came over about 2 days ago saying she was miserable for the last couple of months but not as a result of anything I did. She said she does not want to break up because I still make her happy and am able to comfort her. At this point she started crying. She also went on to say she does not know why she is miserable but cited some possible reasons such as some of her friends, not all, saying we are a bad match for each other and some stress over the holidays with her mom being indifferent towards me but her general family liking me. She asked for some space and time to try to figure it all out. I told her if she ever needs anything, even a shoulder to cry on, I am available. We hugged it out till, she stopped crying and I gave her a tissue. Neither of us wants to give up on the relationship but right now i am at a loss as what to do except give her a lot of space think on the order of going from living together to once or twice a week seeing each other. Any suggestions on what I could possibly do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl friend comes into apartment, starts cry and saying she has been miserable for months now but I am not the cause. Should I be worried? | Girl friend comes into apartment, starts cry and saying she has been miserable for months now but I am not the cause. Should I be worried? | 3,485 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: When is a long kept hidden "truth" not worth bringing up with your spouse?
POST: (33 M, 32f, married 5 years)
I'll Keep this short.
Years (YEARS) ago, in college, I was suspended for one semester, because of cheating. I was young, stupid, and STUPID. Happened once, and I reformed my ways.
OK now fast forward. Been married for about 5 years. We both respect each other immensely. I've never lied about my past to my wife, but I've never bothered telling her about my past transgression.
Anyway, lately, for some unknown reason, I've been thinking more and more to those years ago. I feel like I need to get this past history of mine OFF my chest to my wife. But I also know that it might be putting her through stress with no real reason (after all, whats the point of telling her? so I can feel better, at her expense?)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | should I bother telling my wife about a huge character flaw, many years ago (and subsequently rectified), when it has almost no relevance to our current lives? | should I bother telling my wife about a huge character flaw, many years ago (and subsequently rectified), when it has almost no relevance to our current lives? | 6,449 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21F] have decided to stay and work abroad long term, but am not sure how to break it to my parents [50sM/F]
POST: Two weeks ago, I flew from north eastern America to southern Australia to spend a month with my boyfriend and his family. Everything here has been going really well and I'm really liking Australia. I want to get a work permit and stay here longer.
However, I'm not really sure how to tactfully tell this to my parents. They've always been overprotective. For example, they felt uncomfortable about me walking down my own street when I was 20 years old and I only was able to by basically telling them "I'm 20 and I'm going to do it" when I decided to walk home one night. So telling them that I plan to stay abroad on another continent is going to be difficult. I know I could just be blunt, but I'd like to explain it to them in a way that they will feel as least anxious/upset as possible.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Planning to stay on a completely different continent long term with my boyfriend and don't know how to best tell my overprotective parents this | Planning to stay on a completely different continent long term with my boyfriend and don't know how to best tell my overprotective parents this | 3,350 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: How do I get myself motivated to find the right job?
POST: I keep turning down those low paying jobs so I'm available to work when a higher paying job comes along, but it's getting to be very frustrating when I have no income right now.
I'm working with a staffing company who gives me one day jobs so I can have at least a little bit of money and hopefully my unemployment is going to go through soon...still that's not enough to get my own place.
I don't like sitting around the house all day just applying for jobs. I know a couple of people who enjoy sitting at home doing nothing -- I don't know how they do it. It's only been 3 weeks without a real steady job and I'm going nuts while I know someone who has been without a job for months and is okay with it.
I feel like I'll be miserable if I take the lower pay opportunity, and then a higher pay job gets back to me once I started the lower pay job.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I don't want to go through the hassle of taking a low pay job for now and then quit. Has anyone just waited it out, or did you take the low pay job while you wait for a higher pay one? | I don't want to go through the hassle of taking a low pay job for now and then quit. Has anyone just waited it out, or did you take the low pay job while you wait for a higher pay one? | 5,678 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Did I make a mistake in breaking up with my girlfriend?
POST: I just broke up with my girlfriend of about a year and a half a few days ago. I'm 22, she's 23. She moved in to my apartment about a month ago. Today she moved out.
During the christmas break I came to realize that I felt like I needed to be alone for a while. I've felt like this before but it really came out after my mom suggested I think about where my life is going and if I really want to spend my early twenties with a girlfriend who I may or may not end up staying with forever.
So I decided to break up with her. I figured we're both young and I want to focus on my career and she hasn't been as creative as she used to be when we were both in school. I want her to be as creative as possible. We tried writing together but it just didn't work out. The drive to write/do stuff died down (at least for me) when I have the ability to snuggle or have sex with a girl I love.
So it's sort of which is better... focus on a career and creative endeavors, or stay together with the girl I love. I tried both at the same time, and it didn't work.
I'm embarrassed because if my mom hadn't spoken to me about it, I wouldn't have broken up with her. If I didn't go home for christmas I wouldn't have broken up with her. If she came home with me to Christmas, I wouldn't have broken up with her. I'm afraid this annoying sequence of events made me want to break up with her. Maybe it would have happened sooner or later though anyways.
She honestly was my "favorite" gf I've had (3 total), and I am afraid I will never meet another like her.
So my question, do you think this was a mistake to break up with her? I feel as if you're all going to say it wasn't a mistake but I needed to tell someone/the internet, so thanks for reading.
By the way, this is my first time as the breaker-upper so that may have something to do with it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm 22, thought it might be a good idea to break up to pursue my career, now I'm sort of regretting it, was it a mistake to break up? | I'm 22, thought it might be a good idea to break up to pursue my career, now I'm sort of regretting it, was it a mistake to break up? | 6,218 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: [Canada] Legality of gay webcam sex between an 18-year-old and a 15-year-old?
POST: When I was 18, I met someone playing an online game. We had a ton of things in common, one of which is we were both gay. (We're also both Canadian.)
We started talking; one thing led to another and we ended up jerking off on a webcam together. We both willingly did this a few times.
Eventually it occurred to me that I was jerking off with a minor, and might be illegal. Not wanting to end up on a sex-offenders list or spend any time in jail, I quickly ceased all communication with my friend.
Fast forward five years, my now 20-year-old friend manages to e-mail me. He says that he's thought about me a lot and thought I hated him.
So two questions:
Was the stuff I did on a webcam five years ago illegal?
Would it be OK for me (now 23) to renew communications with my friend?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Five years ago, 18M masturbated with a 15M male over a webcam. 18yo ceases communication in fear of legality. Five years later, now 20yo wants renew communications. Legal/Not Legal? | Five years ago, 18M masturbated with a 15M male over a webcam. 18yo ceases communication in fear of legality. Five years later, now 20yo wants renew communications. Legal/Not Legal? | 1,787 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [29F] with my boyfriend [32M] found list of all the things he didn't like about his ex
POST: We have been together for 8 months. I was looking at recipes he has in his kitchen for something to make for dinner. They are just scraps of paper recipes and magazine cut outs. In the middle of all these recipes is this list on a post-it - it's a list of negative things about his ex girlfriend. He must have forgotten it was there.
It has things on it to refer to her like "selfish, dramatic, self-centered, terrible table manners, terrible mother, not very girly" ect. It also has physical things on it that he didn't like "fat arms, strange legs, smelly, hairy ass". He never talks about her in this way to me, he always tries to sound respectful about her. I've seen her picture, she looks quite pretty to me! Her arms don't look any fatter than mine!
It's really unnerved me - I guess because I feel if he could write this list about her, whats to stop him writing one about me? You trust your partner with all the things that might not be perfect about yourself. The idea that someone would take physical flaws I cannot change and use them as reasons not to be with me - this makes me uncomfortable.
What to do? Is this a red flag? Shall I tell him I found it and ask about it?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Found list of all the things bf didn't like about his ex in a bunch of recipes. List including physical flaws. Made me uncomfortable. | Found list of all the things bf didn't like about his ex in a bunch of recipes. List including physical flaws. Made me uncomfortable. | 2,932 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 3 and a half year relationship on brink of disaster.
POST: Hey everyone, first poster here, but coming to you as its the only place that I know that can help me really, so on with the show.
I am male and in a 3 and a half year relationship with a female, we are both 19 seperated by a couple of moths,, and currently living in uni. We live in seperate flats at the moment, but beofr this we virtually lived in the same flat (1 room with a bathroom), I know this probably didnt help the situation.
Our relationship has had some problems in the past with her being paranoid about other people, and that lasted about 6 months before finally everything was sorted out through the help of a counsiler and self help books. We were ok for a while, spendng a lot of time together and everything going fine, until recently things took a down turn.
I have become the slightest bit paranoid with male friends, because it seems that suddendll her only outlook is towards friends, with her only ever talking about friends, and always seemingly to be on her phone. Our relationship is neglected, we barley spend "quality" time with each other (activities, films, ect.) and sex is completely out of the window, being 1-2 months bewteen it. I have moved back out into my own flat by a joint choice, as we feel the room apart will help us become us again. We do talk about it and she feels like she has done wrong in the relationship not being able to forgive her self with the paranoia at the start of our relations, or how she shouts and swears during conversations and discussions.
As well as this her familty has had a few problems, with only yesterday her dad having a heart attack, and her mum finding out he cheater on her a few months ago.
So here is the question /r/, how would i go about fixing this relationship and are we on the right lines to doing this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | relationship has paranoia, gf not forgiving herself about small petty things in the relationship, we have spent to much time together and are arguing, how would we go about fixing it? | relationship has paranoia, gf not forgiving herself about small petty things in the relationship, we have spent to much time together and are arguing, how would we go about fixing it? | 1,747 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How long should you wait before moving in together? [21m/20f]
POST: My girlfriend and I have been together about 6 months. Things have been going well and she hasn't thrown any red flags. I've been dating her a bit cautiously after a catastrophic relationship with my ex-girlfriend, and I'm afraid of making moves too fast.
She's a really good girl however, I thoroughly enjoy her company. She's smart, inspiring, and fun.
Over the last couple of weeks, we've flirted with the idea of living with each other since she basically lives with me already, meaning that she's only at her place when she's going to school. After school, I pick her up, and we spend the rest of our time at my place.
So, how soon is too soon?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I [21m] have been in a relationship with my gf [20f] for 6 months, considering moving the gf in since she is always at my house and I feel really good about her. | I [21m] have been in a relationship with my gf [20f] for 6 months, considering moving the gf in since she is always at my house and I feel really good about her. | 2,553 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU On a field trip.
POST: Actually a couple months ago. Forgot about it until now. I was on my school trip to DC, it was my first time going there so I was pumped. We went to see all of the main touristy attractions (this is day one) then lastly we go on this big yacht. It is pretty popular but I do not remember the name off of the top of my head. At this point I haven't slept for maybe 48 hours, as I can't sleep in vehicles and it is about an 8 hour ride down. I was sitting with my friend and looking out into the river, on the back of the boat. I lean over the railing and look down. My glasses decide to slide off my face. *Shit what do I do now?* I text my mom to tell her my new glasses just fell through the propeller of a huge boat and are now chilling in the Potomac. This was only at the start of the ride and I couldn't see at all for the rest of the time. Remember this is only day one out of two. I missed on seeing about half of the stuff, including Arlington, the Lincoln, Korean, and Vietnam memorials.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | dropped my new glasses through a propeller into a river on day one of two of a school trip that cost over $300 to go on. | dropped my new glasses through a propeller into a river on day one of two of a school trip that cost over $300 to go on. | 2,899 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I [M18] nearly hooked up with my best friend's ex [F18], now I think I really like her and don't know what to do
POST: I got drunk the first night of college and, long story short, I nearly hooked up with my best friends ex. He broke things off with after she hooked up with another one of our good friends. He still cares for her a little, and even though I was ridiculously drunk I managed to tell her I wouldn't do anything with her because I value my friendship with her ex too much. Do you have any idea how hard it is to say this as a virgin with a drunk girl lying on your bed with her boobs out telling you to stop being so nice and be selfish for once and do it? Well I managed to contain myself and we just talked through the night.
I met my friend a few days later for lunch and told him about what happened, he understood. Thing is, because I didn't end up doing anything with his ex, we talked the entire time, I was drunk and confessed my depression to her which I've never told anyone about, we found we had a lot of similarities like unhappy families and depression. I'm confused about my feelings now and can't pursue this because I value my friendship with him too much. I didn't tell my friend about the second part either, so I still feel incredibly guilty.
I guess I'm asking for advice on what to do. My friend says he wouldn't be so mad if I hooked up with her later (I'm dorming in the same building as her, things happen), since he knows I've never hooked up with a girl, but he said don't try to actively pursue it. I don't know how he'd react if I ended up dating her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Never hooked up with a girl before, got drunk and almost did with my best friends ex, ended up talking and connecting. Now I don't know what to do. | Never hooked up with a girl before, got drunk and almost did with my best friends ex, ended up talking and connecting. Now I don't know what to do. | 1,263 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by getting scared for no reason and peeing on myself
POST: (Pre-apology for formatting errors since i'm on my phone)
Well, this was embarrassing and happened a few minutes ago.
I work at a small law office which shares a building with a few other businesses, a dentist's office and a military recruitment center. There is no drinking fountain in the building, so I bring a giant 2L water bottle which I sip on all day to keep hydrated and counteract all the copious amounts of alcohol i drink (after work, of course). Unfortunately, I have been cursed with a small bladder, and have to go pee sometimes 8-10 times a day. Luckily the back door of my office opens up right near the bathroom, so I can usually drain the main vein without embarrassing myself by being frequently seen there.
As I was wrapping up work for the day, I realized I would have to pee one more time before leaving. It was slightly after 5, so when I walked to the bathroom, I wasn't expecting to see anyone in there (it is the kind of bathroom with a urinal and a stall).
Fuckup begins when I open the door and there is a dude who had just finished shitting and was leaving the stall. For whatever reason this terrified me for a split second and I jumped and gasped.
The guy was amused and chuckled and was like, did I scare you? I muttered something like "haha, yeah, a little bit" and I kept my head down, beelined to the urinal and unleashed the krakan.
I was super embarrassed and very preoccupied so I didn't notice that the bottom part of my untucked, button-down shirt had slipped into my urine stream and was getting soaked. I didn't realize it until it began to sort of soak back onto my pant leg and getting my thigh wet.
Well, fuck, i thought. This sucks. Then i remembered my fiancee was coming to pick me up straight from work so we could go grocery shopping. I cleaned up as best as i could, but its still very obvious. Luckily I have a P coat which is long enough to cover my pee-soaked netherregion, so i may get through this unscathed. My girl didn't notice yet...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | got startled for no reason by a normal dude taking a shit and then pissed on my pants and shirt due to embarrassment and now I have to go shopping in my shame-soaked pants. | got startled for no reason by a normal dude taking a shit and then pissed on my pants and shirt due to embarrassment and now I have to go shopping in my shame-soaked pants. | 4 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [29M] with my Wife [25F] of 1 year. She left two months ago and now wants to talk
POST: Throwaway and names changed for privacy. Roughly two months ago my wife up and left me out of no where. We had a brief discussion than where she explained that she was just very unhappy. Her explanation was that I was just not fulfilling her as a person, she had lost her identity, and she was feeling disrespected and unappreciated. After that she also explained that due to some physical altercations we had in the past she felt unable to continue our marriage and wanted a divorce. For clarity the physical stuff was a brief period in our relationship over 4 years ago, I attended extensive counseling and therapy, and have not act in such a manner since. Obviously this does not forgive the actions, but I've done everything possible to change the man I am. She quickly moved out after this, we split our assets, and have not really spoken since then, only short little conversations that were painful for me. I made every attempt to try to rectify the situation, suggest therapy, suggest temporary separation, whatever she needed to work on our issues and move through this together, but she wasn't hearing it.
Now out of the blue she contacts me and tells me that she doesn't believe her options were as narrow as she once believed. She tells me she still loves and cares about me and is unsure of what she wants now. I'm completely lost though because I've spent the last 2 months trying to move on and pick up the pieces of my life. How do i determine if I'm willing to work on things with her, or if this breach of trust is just too much to get past? I still love her and care deeply for her, but this whole situation completely destroyed me. I'm finally start to regain some stability and happiness in my life, and the risk of inviting all of that potential pain back is terrifying. I truly do not believe divorce is ever a great option and never wanted to get one. Now I just don't know what's going to be the best for me.
How do I make this decision?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Wife left 2 months ago, now she wants to get together and talk. Not sure how I feel about the whole thing. Love her, but am badly hurt from her leaving me. | Wife left 2 months ago, now she wants to get together and talk. Not sure how I feel about the whole thing. Love her, but am badly hurt from her leaving me. | 843 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: My explanation of my work gap history retracted my interview?!!?
POST: Okay so I have a work gap which is a year. It all started when I worked as a seasonal sales at Bestbuy and I didn't get placed to part time because the department that I work at was full. Since then I haven't been looking for jobs because my dad said we might be moving out to a different state.
I got a phone call the other day saying that they would like for me to come in the next day for an in-person interview for I'm guessing for an AA job I applied at. But it was through a website that helps you search for jobs called OfficeTeam. The interviewer then asked what's going on with my work gap. So I said along the lines of " My dad told my family that we might be moving to another state so I've withdrew from the job search since I don't want to work for like a month and just quit. But now my dad got a job offer to work overseas and held off on moving, so we might move in a few years or never."
After that the lady said I'm sorry we might not be the resources you need but we will try to help you still blah blah blah. And I said so that means I don't have to show up tomorrow? And she said yes. That was it. I guess I'm no longer considered for the position.
Sorry for the long post I'm just dumbfounded I can't explain any more as it is the truth and I have an interview for a job at Bestbuy tomorrow and I'm not sure how to approach the work gap history. Please I need your help!!!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Got an interview on the phone saying to come in the next day for an in-person interview, explained my work gap and then I suddenly don't have to show up for the interview. | Got an interview on the phone saying to come in the next day for an in-person interview, explained my work gap and then I suddenly don't have to show up for the interview. | 3,666 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [20m] My girlfriend [21f] of two months has told me that she has hooked up with guys in the past. This puts some strain on my otherwise strong feelings for her. How should I deal with this?
POST: We have been friends for a couple years, and this information came up a while before we started dating, simply in conversation as friends. She is an amazing girl and I am completely head over heels for her. She makes me smile all the time, accepts my weirdness while owning hers, is fine being bored with me - the list goes on. Despite all this, sometimes the thought of her hooking up with someone really bothers me, and I hate that something from her past would get to me so much when there are no other issues in our relationship.
I know that she has had long term relationships ( > 1 year) in the past, and I have no issue at all with any aspect of that part of her life. To me anything that happens in a relationship is fine, but I have a hard time coming to terms with sexual relations happening before being in a relationship, or before feeling certain that a relationship will soon form.
I'm worried that if I bring up that it's bothering me, I'll mar our otherwise pristine relationship. Preferably, I'd like input to help me learn how to accept her past and be happy with what we have now. However, I'd also welcome suggestions on how to have a healthy conversation about it if the thought continues to bother me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am bothered that my gf has had hook-ups in the past. How can I accept this or talk to her about this to maintain our otherwise great relationship? | I am bothered that my gf has had hook-ups in the past. How can I accept this or talk to her about this to maintain our otherwise great relationship? | 4,161 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: Ex (21F) is in a relationship one month after ending a 3.5 year relationship
POST: We broke up in mid March after seeing her for Valentines Day. We were in a long distance relationship but I had plans to move back home after college. I was upset over the breakup as anyone might be but I knew that we were both good people just going our separate ways trying to discover ourselves.
Her birthday was yesterday and so I wished her a happy birthday only to receive a text from my friend, shortly thereafter, that according to Facebook she got in a relationship in mid April. My friend sent me a picture and turns out the guy is a name I recognized from her Snapchat and texting all the way back around New Years.
I was going to send her the following but I decided that she is not worth my breath, but it is still nice to vent:
> I pity you and your cowardice.
> To end a long term relationship is something I can accept but to lie when asked if there was another person in the picture and then be in a relationship only a month later, that's distasteful and wrong.
> I can't believe how fake you were, leading me to believe you wanted to try and be friends.
> I thought during our time you grew as a person but you're still the same insecure girl looking for approval from guys and scared to be an independent individual.
> My only regret is second guessing myself when the problem was you.
The pessimistic side of me is pissed I wasted so much time with someone that's so heartless and the optimistic side of me is glad this all came about now instead of down the road when I could've potentially moved in with her.
Let it be noted that I ended all communication with her at the end of March with the exception that I wished her a Happy Easter and a Happy Birthday. Given the events that took place I don't think I will ever speak to her again.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Long term relationship came to an end after 3.5 years. Less than a month later she is with a guy that she was 'friends' with while we were dating. | Long term relationship came to an end after 3.5 years. Less than a month later she is with a guy that she was 'friends' with while we were dating. | 1,839 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: Dog with sore paw.. not a happy pup! Please help?
POST: So tonight I have to take my dog back to the vet, for his wee paw. He has been ill today and keeps 'fighting' with the cone he has on to stop him licking the sore part of his paw. My problem is that i have to get him to the vets tonight, we're getting a taxi but I'm not sure how to get him from our house to the car! basically when i go near him he gets very agitated, so my question is how do i calm him down enough to pick him up ? Because he cant walk on the paw its the only way I'll get him out to the taxi :/
TL;DR: . Assistant: | how do I calm my dog down enough to pick him up so I can safely get him to the vets without further damage to his paw? | how do I calm my dog down enough to pick him up so I can safely get him to the vets without further damage to his paw? | 337 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my ex [19 F] of 2 years, planned to still be friends but she's moved on
POST: Hey guys,
So my ex and I both 19 were together for roughly 2 years both of our first real relationships. Towards the end of the summer this year I had brought up the idea of taking a break. We are both in colleges in separate states and long distance wasn't really working out. So we said our good-byes 4 weeks ago and went to school.
We both tried to stay friends talking to eachother 3 or 4 times a week still via facebook or texting. Very open about how we were both having a hard time with the current situation. Today which is a little more than 4 weeks probably 30 days or so since we broke up I get a text saying she is seeing someone.
This news about her seeing someone I did not take well at all. As far as I knew we were both still slightly hung up on eachother as of a week ago which was ascertained via our conversations. I called her asking if she was serious and if I was that easy to move on from. Turns out 1 year of chasing a girl and 2 years dating them and they can replace you in 4 weeks.
I just need to know if I am overreacting that I think it was way too quick and it shows how much she really cared about me. I feel like an afterthought and after trying to talk to her for 30 minutes I pretty much said I'm all set with this notation of being friends. Everything just blindsided me since we were both being open about what was happening. Just feel easily replaceable and the ex thinks nothing is wrong.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | After 2 years of dating I was replaced in 4 weeks and didn't take the news well want to know how to deal with it and if I am overreacting? | After 2 years of dating I was replaced in 4 weeks and didn't take the news well want to know how to deal with it and if I am overreacting? | 5,797 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I want to romantically apologize to my girlfriend, any ideas?
POST: I did something that was hurtful to her and I hate myself for it. When I apologized before for something else I felt really bad about, I spelled out 'I'm Sorry' in her backyard with candles and lit them up.
I want to win her back again, and obviously I know that this isn't going to make things all better, but I want to try at least.
I was thinking of getting helium balloons and writing on them, floating them up to her window and telling her i'm sorry and that we can work things out and then give her a scrapbook afterwards to show that hopefully all the great times we had/will have are worth it.
help anyone?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I fucked up and I want to apologize with something showy. I have used candles to spell out i'm sorry before, any ideas? | I fucked up and I want to apologize with something showy. I have used candles to spell out i'm sorry before, any ideas? | 5,964 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Why would my (19F) boyfriend (21M) like a girl's revealing selfie and try to hide it from me?
POST: My boyfriend has recently started using Instagram again and there was a girl who very regularly used to like a lot of his selfies until we were in a relationship (We've been together for almost two years) and didn't like any of his pictures again until the other day when he posted a picture of himself doing a sport he likes.
He was scrolling through his Instagram feed and I happened to look over as he went past a picture he had liked, it was the one of this girl wearing a very revealing top. He carried on scrolling past very quickly and I asked who it was, not in an accusatory way, just in a normal tone of voice and he very quickly said it was a girl he knew from school and immediately changed the subject. I'm sure it's nothing but if it was, why would he try so hard to hide it from me?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | He liked a girl's revealing photo, he hadn't liked her posts for a while and she used to like his all the time, he changed the subject as fast as he could. | He liked a girl's revealing photo, he hadn't liked her posts for a while and she used to like his all the time, he changed the subject as fast as he could. | 1,630 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[19 M] with my[23 F] friend who has a LDR, wants to keep hanging out.
POST: I first met this girl through an mmo mobile game, called ingress, where you have to meet others in order to play the game, near March of this year.
When I first saw her, I couldn't believe she was actually playing the game to begin with. In my mind I kept going, "what are you doing here, you are defenitely out of place".
I just shrugged it off and didn't think much of it, because I never thought that I would ever really create a relationship with her to begin with. A few months pass and I decide to chat her up.
Suprisingly, she responds and we end up messaging each other past till one o'clock some nights. Eventually we hang out and we head to an ingress related event in another major city close by.
But, before we leave she hits me with the boyfriend card. So the entire day of the event, I was devastated.
After the event, I´m still talking to her and hang out with her a few more times. It was all fine until, one day her bf, when we were hanging out, flipped out on her and they had a huge arguement about him being jealous.
After that I´ve tried my best to cut down on communicating with her, which is tough because she still plays ingress as much as I do, and avoid hanging out together so her bf won´t get jealous again.
But now, she wants to hang out again, and I´m starting to think that she only wants to hang out to fill that void, that her bf can´t fill since he is somwhere else or she is just trying to make him jealous again.
So I just wanted to ask if I should hang out with her again or bail on any plans that she wants to make.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My attractive friend wants to keep hanging out even though she has a LDR and she knows that he get's jealous. | My attractive friend wants to keep hanging out even though she has a LDR and she knows that he get's jealous. | 1,449 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Many of my [25M] friends [~25Fs] want to cheat with me. What is going on?
POST: First, a little background information about me:
I was never that popular in primary and high school, not a loser mind you, but never super popular.
My parents are pretty religious (I'm not at all) and strict, and I went to all-boys schools. Because of this, the friends that I had were mostly guy friends, and most girls I knew I thought of as acquaintances.
After moving to the big city to attend university I made a decision to not be the weird loner in class, and began the 'fake it til you make it' thing - and I really did make it. I got myself a bunch of really nice close friends and we do lots of stuff together all the time. First time really having female friends.
Now here comes my problem:
Most of my girl friends are in, what I would call, pretty serious comitted relationships, and weirdly enough they want to cheat on their boyfriends with me!
And I'm not misunderstanding any weird signals, they are very direct:
* "My boyfriend isn't home for the weekend, do you want to come home with me tonight and have some dirty fun?"
* "I only asked you to come outside with me to make out with you, if you'd like."
* Etc.
I always turn them down - I never liked the idea of cheating and they know this. One of them even told me the next day that she respected me more now.
I find it really weird that it isn't just one fluke, but many of my friends that try this. And mind you, not the female friends that are single, only the ones in relationships.
What I'm wondering is, why do they do this? Is it some kind of weird test of my ethics?
This isn't normal is it? Am I sending some 'cheaty'-vibes?
Do I just treat it as a compliment?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Many of my girl friends (whom are in relationships) want to cheat with me (single). Why? I'm confused. | Many of my girl friends (whom are in relationships) want to cheat with me (single). Why? I'm confused. | 919 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (16M) am having trouble expressing my true feelings to her (15F)
POST: I (16 M) am a Gr11 Highschool student while she (15 F) is in Gr10. Let's call her Angelina. I really like her and i think she likes me a little bit.
Now we've been friends for the past couple of months and we have the same first period class together, with alot of our mutual friends. We have quite a bit in common with things like music, food, style and fashion.
She's one of those people that you'd do anything for, who's smile brightens up your morning.
Here's my problem. Everytime I try to talk to her (in person even though she gave me her phone number) or try to get her alone so I can really tell her how I feel, I choke up, get distracted (I have ADHD) and make thing painfully awkward and pushing her away from me sending me closer to the 'Friendzone'.
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TL;DR: . Assistant: | Really like this girl but I get extremely nervous everytime I talk to her causing me to somehow avoid expressing my feelings for her. | Really like this girl but I get extremely nervous everytime I talk to her causing me to somehow avoid expressing my feelings for her. | 371 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [Non-Romantic] Me(19/M) has had a crush on a co-worker (19?/F), and after telling her she said she wasn't interested in a relationship. Should I still try to be friends?
POST: This started after last thanks giving when I ( I wasn't really sure of this at the time ) had developed a crush on lets call her Molly. I hadn't been in a relationship up until then so I was really confused about the whole thing. This only got more complicated when a friend of mine lets say Ruby told me she had a crush on me. So somehow i went from 0-2 in two days and was completely terrified. I talked more with Ruby and we ended up dating for the next month. I think I convinced myself i didn't have feeling for Molly and was a little guilty of not liking Ruby back. I dont regret it though, it was the most influential month of my life and it made me a much better person. Ruby decided that we weren't meant for each other and the break up destroyed me for a couple months after but I came to see it too, and we haven't talked since. I lost alot of friends through her and have been more lonely then ever before. Molly and I hadn't seen each other in a while as our shifts hadn't overlapped at all, but she walked into the office one day and all of my old feelings came back at once like a semi truck to the face. I finally was able to tell her and we are getting to be better friends she doesn't want a relationship. I sometimes find it hard not to talk to her but I don't want to lose another friend so soon.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to be friends with my crush even though she doesn't want a relationship, but I dont want to lose anymore friends. | I want to be friends with my crush even though she doesn't want a relationship, but I dont want to lose anymore friends. | 3,065 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: If I only wore a condom...need advice on gf's (un)expected pregnancy
POST: My girlfriend (age 32) and I (age 29) have only been together for five months. After we had sex a few times, she started telling me to finish inside of her. We have always had unprotected sex. Come mid-January I started contemplating ending the relationship. However I wanted to wait until she had her period. Needless to say, we were both happy that she got her period. But, then she texted me the following day saying she no longer had her period. Mentally I was freaking out, looking up pregnancy symptoms, and then sending her links about what a 1-day period could mean. She started to freak too and for the next month she never said anything. She missed February's period and had 1 test several days ago that came up positive.
She's super upset, stressed, and I am too. I'm mad at myself for allowing this to happen. Her and I do not have the means to raise a kid. She just moved back in with her parents and I live with a family member. Most of my paycheck goes to student loans/debt. One of the first things she said when she broke the news was that she was not having an abortion. I tried discussing with her that we need to be smart about this and that it's not right to go forward with a pregnancy when we cannot even care for ourselves.
I respect that this is her choice, but it's really hard for me to support that choice. I come from a broken home and was raised in chaotic environment. I cannot look in the mirror and say that I want to spend the rest of my life with this girl. Though I really do not want to see a child come into this world without a father.
Here's the other thing: I also have another girlfriend of 2 years. I know what I am doing is wrong and it's being addressed with my therapist/psychiatrist. A part of me just cannot be honest with either women and it's something that bothers me greatly. I split my emotions with them and at times I feel like all this is not real. Reality is here though and I am not sure what to do. But if I do anything, I want to do what is right.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Got GF of 5 months pregnant, but also have another GF of 2 years. They also share the same first name. | Got GF of 5 months pregnant, but also have another GF of 2 years. They also share the same first name. | 4,594 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 M] started talking to a woman on OKC [23 F] that used to cut, not sure if I should continue?
POST: I've been on OKCupid for a while and I finally really hit it off with a woman I met about a week ago. We've been texting each other a lot, trading pictures, sharing our interests, etc, (even a little naughty stuff, which was been really awesome haha since it's been a while for me) but last night I found out she cuts. She said her last time was in April, and sent me a picture of her legs so that they weren't shocking for me whenever we met (we plan to meet next week), and I was a bit shocked, needless to say. I cut in my past and tore up my arm pretty bad (people notice my scars), but her legs were disastrous; far worse than my arm is.
I appreciate her being honest with me though, and she did mention she battles depression and anxiety. I myself battle anxiety and bipolar disorder, however I'm on medication and feel pretty stable. She said she just takes vitamins and "refuses" to take medication... so I don't know if that's a red flag or not. I've been reading Relationships for Dummies and I know mental stability is very important, so I just don't know if I should pursue this or not. She also told me she stopped checking her OKC after we started texting; I haven't. Not sure what to make of that either.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Finally hit it off with a gorgeous woman with similar interest on OKC near me, but a bit skeptical of the situation, need some outside input. | Finally hit it off with a gorgeous woman with similar interest on OKC near me, but a bit skeptical of the situation, need some outside input. | 1,804 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[26M] broke up with my gf[24F] because of her sexual history, now she's telling people all kinds of lies about me.
POST: GF and I were together for 8 months. One day we were talking and somehow it came out that she had slept with like 15 people and that 2 of them were one night stands. I told her I wasn't really cool with that and that I wanted to break up. I didn't freak out or get upset or anything, I just told her it wasn't my thing and that we should split. I'll admit that it was pretty terrible timing for this to all go down because she told me she loved me for the first time a week earlier. Given that, I understand why she got so upset. She basically cried, and begged me not to, but I left, got her stuff from my place, dropped it back, and figured that was the end of it.
Well, for like 3 days she proceeded to blow up my phone and social media basically freaking out, going from crying to angry, so I ended up just blocking her on everything and moving forward with my life.
I thought everything was cool and fine until earlier today. I ended up meeting a friend I haven't seen in a few weeks for lunch. She told me that my ex told her, and other people, all sorts of fucked up lies about me. For example, she's heard that we broke up because I cheated with 3 different girls, that I hate black people and visit sites like Stormfront, and that I'm secretly addicted to painkillers. WTF. Literally none of those things are even remotely true, I have no idea where the fuck she even pulled those from.
Now heres the thing, my friend, and I'm sure other close friends of mine, know that its all bullshit and lies and thought it was funny, but I'm genuinely worried that people that only kind of know me will hear this stuff and thing I'm an awful person and overall fuck up my reputation. What should I do to stop her from spreading this bullshit about me?!?!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | broke up with gf, tried to be nice about it, she freaked out and now shes telilng lies about me | broke up with gf, tried to be nice about it, she freaked out and now shes telilng lies about me | 3,893 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23M] Dont know how to handle my girlfriend [21F] having a guy friend that makes me uncomfortable.
POST: Let me say this, I am usually the most secure, relaxed and passive dude when it comes to a relationship. I've never been controlling at all or jealous but their is this one guy whom she is friends with that i know shes hooked up with back when she was like 17.. (21 now) and they were friends before and after. Im now seeing he is liking a lot of her instagram pictures and vice versa with her liking his shit. We've been hooking up for going on 5 years but only serious for 4 months or like 16 weeks.. when I saw a comment on his instagram from her saying "You could just be my baby daddy" as a joke but it is fucking sticking in my head and bothering me. She goes to the gym and told me he was texting her like "Am I gonna get to see you at the gym tonight", stuff along those lines.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend has a dude thats like all over her instagram n shit and im kinda getting jealous, dont know how to handle it. | My girlfriend has a dude thats like all over her instagram n shit and im kinda getting jealous, dont know how to handle it. | 5,472 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I [21M] being lead on by [20F] friend?
POST: Hi guys, I'm losing sleep and think I need an objective viewpoint here.
Earlier this year I met a girl at my college, we instantly hit it off and became quite close friends very quickly. She had a boyfriend when we met, so although I was attracted to her, our relationship was platonic.
Cut forward a few months, she breaks up with her boyfriend, and we become closer and more flirtatious. Eventually (after a few weeks) we confess to liking each other as more than friends. She however was upfront about not wanting to jump into anything so soon after her breakup. Fair enough I said, and I explained I was willing to let her get her head sorted before we moved on.
Cut forward to now, some weeks later. Right now we're temporarily apart by distance, but we still speak daily, and we talk often about how we wish we were (physically) together. Essentially we speak to each other as if we were a couple and I feel for her a great deal.
Here's where things have put worry in me. Today she tells me a few weeks ago she hooked up with one of her friends. She admitted she liked him somewhat, and to some extent still does. She doesn't know what that means, and still isn't ready to commit to anything serious with me.
It hurt me a lot more than I let on to learn this. Part of me wants to give her space and not be pushy, but the other half felt kinda distraught and wanting to ask for a more concrete explanation from her.
Does it sound like she's leading me (and possibly this other guy) on? Should I even be involved with her if she's so confused? Should I just give her space and stick it out?
I'm worried the more I fall for her the harder it will be if nothing comes of it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Me and my friend have grown extremely close, but I find out she also likes someone else - is this a disaster waiting to happen? | Me and my friend have grown extremely close, but I find out she also likes someone else - is this a disaster waiting to happen? | 2,571 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is this irony? And what should I do?
POST: So backstory, my girlfriend and I have been together for almost 15 months now and we're in a long distance relationship (about 2 hours apart). Now I get to see her a few days out of the month and it started getting hard. So I decided to transfer, even if I didn't really want to. She kept telling me to do what I wanted and that I probably wasn't doing the right thing. She always wanted me to transfer but I guess she didn't want to feel guilty about me leaving just for her. And she kind of guilts me into coming home, saying that I like partying more than her. But I am deciding to come home anyway. So anyway she got an email from her guidance counselor tonight about applying for a full year study abroad at Oxford university (another country). And now the only thing holding her back is me. I want to be supportive and tell her that she should follow her own advice. But I really don't want to lose her. I can't help feeling selfish for wanting her to stay.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Only thing holding me back from staying at school is my girlfriend. Only thing holding her back from studying abroad is me. | Only thing holding me back from staying at school is my girlfriend. Only thing holding her back from studying abroad is me. | 6,187 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M27] slept with separated close friend [F26]. She wants more. How do I let her down easy?
POST: I'll try to keep it as short as possible:
Through most of my university years, I was close friends with a beautiful girl who was well out of my league (back then). Yes, I was well and truly in the friendzone. She got married last year to a guy she'd known for only a few months. Last month, she got into a fight with her husband and moved out of their home. During a night of comforting her at my place, one thing led to another and we had sex. Over the next three weeks, we kept at it and spent a lot of time with each other, mostly in the bedroom.
Now, she's started to talk about filing for divorce and about "us" and our future. I have never hinted that I am interested in a relationship or being anything more than FWBs. She seems to be assuming that I would want her as a girlfriend based on my personality she got to know in university, which as since changed a lot.
For a number of reasons, I don't want to get into a relationship, especially not with her. I want her to do what is right for her (divorce vs. no divorce) without factoring me into her decision. I feel like my only choice may be to bite the bullet and risk losing her as a friend by being clear that I don't want a relationship with her. Has anybody else been in this situation? Is there a way to let her down easy and not lose our friendship?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Slept with close friend while she was separated from her husband. Now she wants a relationship and seems to be moving towards divorce based on that. I don't want a relationship. How do I let her down without ruining the friendship? | Slept with close friend while she was separated from her husband. Now she wants a relationship and seems to be moving towards divorce based on that. I don't want a relationship. How do I let her down without ruining the friendship? | 3,121 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by not possessing true wheelchair skills
POST: To fully understand the story you must know that i am bound to an electric wheelchair.
It was a normal day at school, nothing out of the ordinary. Until a teacher came into the class room and told us that we could leave early today (10 am). Now i had a problem because this happened before i got my drivers license. And the way i normally transported myself back and forth was with a taxi. Normally the taxi wouldn't show up till 2.30 pm, so i tried to get the taxi to show up sooner so i didn't have to wait, but i was told that wasn't possible.
And this is where everything went wrong. I went into rage mode, and told myself that just because the teachers couldn't plan their schedule in advance i shouldn't be stuck at school. So i had the brilliant idea of driving all the way home by myself. In my wheelchair. Out on the road. First of all it was pretty scary driving on a road where people were only inches away from hitting me multiple times, but the worst thing happened when i was half-way home. The chair gave out... I remembered, stupid as i was, that i had forgotten to charge the battery on my chair. I just made it past the road sign and was stranded at the sidewalk. So i sat there for an hour, normally that wouldn't be a problem but i also forgot to mention that i didn't bring any warm clothes and it was in the middle of the winter. And to top it all of when sitting there in misery, hating myself for being stupid, one of my friends drove past me in his car waving and smiling like an idiot, because he couldn't see that i was stranded and he just drove on. But my luck finally changed for just a short period of time. I managed to convince someone to come pick me up and drive me home.
Now it would probably seem like this was all over, but because life happened to wanna teach me a lesson i also had to be sick for a week
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Forgot to recharge my wheelchair, thought i could drive home from school. Got stranded in the middle of nowhere, which resulted in my being sad and sick for a week. | Forgot to recharge my wheelchair, thought i could drive home from school. Got stranded in the middle of nowhere, which resulted in my being sad and sick for a week. | 2,420 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: (MA) Laid off but retained as 1099. Can I collect unemployment?
POST: So some brief background - I'm a project engineer at a small engineering consulting firm in MA. I have been with the company for 2.5 years as a salaried W-2 employee.
Today I got into the office and received my letter of termination from the company. The reason for termination is that because of economic downturn and pressure from the bank to pay off a loan, they need to trim expenses in order to keep the doors open. I did see this coming, though I guess it came sooner than expected.
A number of people who work at this company are 1099 employees and work on a consultancy basis. Thus I took my letter of termination and walked to my boss' office to ask how we would be moving forward - is this a complete separation of the company and myself or would I be brought on as a 1099 employee on a more part-time basis? He told me that he wants me to stay with the company on a part-time basis and that I'd be paid as a 1099. He thinks I'll be contributing roughly 20 hrs/week but it's fluid depending upon the company's finances.
Because of job loss, I'll also have to move from my current place in MA back home with parents in ME - I can't afford my place any longer.
How do I move forward? Do I file unemployment? If so, do I file it in MA or ME? Do I need to set up an LLC or an S Corp for my 1099 work? Any advice at all would be appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Can I collect unemployment after being laid off from my W-2 job but retained by the same company for 1099 work? | Can I collect unemployment after being laid off from my W-2 job but retained by the same company for 1099 work? | 3,684 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [27/M] A Frustrating pattern in my dating life - After the third or fourth date, women completely sever all contact with me, despite signs that everything is going really well.
POST: This keeps happening to me: I meet a woman, we go on three or four dates, everything seems to be going really great, and then she completely stops talking to me.
This has happened 4 times in a row with 4 different women I've seen over the past six months. Things are going really well, we have a great time when we go out, she seems really into it - and then out of nowhere, COMPLETELY severs all contact. No explanation, seemingly at random. There doesn't appear to be a triggering event, we can go from planning our next date to utter radio silence at the drop of a hat. I've been on my fair share of bad dates, and these were not bad dates.
Other than this pattern, nothing is really that similar between the women. They're a variety of ages, personality types, and even races. Some of them I've slept with on the second or third date. Some I haven't. All of them I've at least made out with, at least one of them initiated making out with me, in a pub while playing darts no less. It's pretty clear that they're interested in me.
I generally consider myself pretty good at picking up on social cues, body language, etc. I can take the hint when someone doesn't want to talk to me. I usually use the rule of two missed texts and one missed call before I give up trying to maintain contact. I'm very much not a needy or smothering person, I respect distance and personal space, especially at the beginning of a relationship.
I really like these girls, and I get the feeling that they like me. Could I be doing something wrong? Is this some sort of test to see if I'll keep pursuing them? I have a pretty thick shell, but it hurts more and more each time this happens, and it's very discouraging to stay in the dating game. It is 100% fine if you don't want to continue dating, but to shut me out and straight up ignore me? Do I not even deserve an explanation?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | After the third or fourth date, women sever all contact with me, despite signs that everything is going really well. Is it something I'm doing wrong? How can I handle this? | After the third or fourth date, women sever all contact with me, despite signs that everything is going really well. Is it something I'm doing wrong? How can I handle this? | 4,405 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [30F] want to get to meet my half brothers one day [14M and 6M] but their parents most likely won't allow it to happen
POST: My dad divorced my mum when I was 12. I stayed with him every weekend until he met his current wife when I was 15 and then stopped because she said it was painful for her to see me due to her previous miscarriages.
Without saying a word, he stopped seeing me and moved away and got married. He also reversed he vasectomy and had two sons, now 14 and 6 years old.
I still visit my nan on my dad's side and she believes the estrangement is all his wife's doing (and obviously his fault too). She told me my eldest brother knows I exist and *might* be interested in meeting me one day. I look at all their Facebook pages regularly, so I know what they look like. I'm just conscious that I'm likely nothing more than a strange 30 year old woman to him right now.
My nan is now 81 years old and my only connection to them. I've considered contacting my eldest brother, but I realise it'd be a bit much to handle when he's under 18. Also, his mum will likely do anything she can to sabotage any relationship I hope to have with them.
What do I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Want to meet my brothers for the first time, but my dad and his wife don't want me in their lives, most likely. | Want to meet my brothers for the first time, but my dad and his wife don't want me in their lives, most likely. | 5,327 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What is your best/worst craigslist experience?
POST: One time I responded to a want ad and traded a cheap bass guitar and amp for a Massey Furgeson tractor. But when I got to the dudes house (he lived in a trailer on the back side of his ex brother-in-law's apple orchard. still a home nonetheless) at 9am he said he would only do the trade if I went and bought him two cases of Milwaukee's Best in addition to the bass and amp. Ten minutes later I came back with the beer and he immediately cracked one. He started getting loud and amped up and asked me if I wanted one. I said no but he got in my face and was like "whats wrong got a problem with drinking in the morning! hahah just kidding just kidding. But seriously you want one." I agreed and good thing I stayed on his good side. He then went and grabbed his m16, I think from inside his house. Proceeds to tell me all of his Desert Storm stories while pounding beers and cleaning his gun. Then he makes me hold it. After two hours I realize I am not going anywhere for a while and just get into it. He was a sniper in the army so he could shoot anything. It was amazing. Targets were like 500 yards away. By noon the guy is shit faced and I load up the tractor and am out by one.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Traded a bass guitar and practice amp for a tractor to a Desert Storm vet who practically held me hostage until we were friends. | Traded a bass guitar and practice amp for a tractor to a Desert Storm vet who practically held me hostage until we were friends. | 5,530 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Not getting a loving vibe from my girlfriend anymore. Don't know what to think.
POST: I'm 18, she's 18. We've been together for over a year now. Maybe it's because we've both been busy and haven't been able to spend much time talking (we're long distance) but I just don't feel like she's as interested in me as I am in her.
I feel recently that I'm the one that makes any effort to talk at all. She recently got a full-time job. When she comes home though she plays Guild Wars and surfs the internet a lot. On a work day I can understand she's tired and just wants to escape. However, there have been a few times in the past when I've come home after she's had a day off and I text her saying "Hey, how are you?" only to get a response five-six hours later saying "I've been playing Guild Wars all day, lol" My thoughts here are usually "You can't spare five goddamn minutes from this game to check your phone and/or Skype?" but I say nothing of it since she's fully entitled to spending her time alone and away from me on a day off but it's getting on *my* nerves.
I haven't said anything about this to her or how it bothers me for fear it would make me seem clingy but it bugs the hell out of me that she hasn't been taking any initiative lately to talk to me.
Tomorrow she gets her first long weekend off (as in more than a day) so I'll see if it gets better then.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend doesn't seem to like spending as much time with me anymore. Might just be because she's suddenly gotten busier. | My girlfriend doesn't seem to like spending as much time with me anymore. Might just be because she's suddenly gotten busier. | 1,484 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I just turned a sleazy salesman into a guilty, hopefully honest person in five minutes. What have you done that you've felt good about because you've helped others even if it cost you something?
POST: I was filling gas watching this young, sleazy little salesman kid try to persuade other car owners to buy his car cleaning spray put out by a famous racing league. I have a bit of a flashy car so I knew it was just a matter of time before he came to me as I had a lot of gas to fill. When he came up to me, he started with the usual sleaze about how we must be cousins because we both drive BMWs. He had terrible, unprofessional skills and I'm surprised he's ever sold anything in his life if his current behavior was any indication as to how he approaches people.
He proceeded to test it on my car and, yes, it did seem to work but I just wasn't interested. Well, not until he said, "Okay, you know what bro? I'm just gonna give you one. A can for free, on the house." Surprised, I walked over to the table where his setup was and also where a female coworker of his was standing and he then handed me a can and said, "Okay, so it's only $10." Again, I was surprised, and instead of disputing his offer, I went ahead and pulled out my credit card and paid for it. Oh, and there was a $2 tax on the damn thing so it actually came out to $12.
He ran my card, handed me a receipt, and the transaction was over. I'm sure he felt good about having basically hustled me into walking over there under the impression that I'd get a free can and then actually making a sale. I handed him the can back and said, "I want you to give this to the next person you promise a free can to. Now you can actually keep your word," and got back in my car and drove off.
It felt good doing this and I'd love to hear some stories of similar things that you may have done to help others at your cost, perhaps to prove a point or just to flat out pay it forward.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Was promised something for free, bought it anyway and gave it back so the next person told what I was told will actually get something for free. | Was promised something for free, bought it anyway and gave it back so the next person told what I was told will actually get something for free. | 3,861 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (21f) lied to my mom and told her I broke up with my boyfriend (22)
POST: We have dated for over a year now and my mom never really liked him. She would constantly told me to break up with my boyfriend. When she found out that we were sexually active she flipped out and constantly harassed me to end it.( I come from a conservative Asian family. She thinks I am a whore now.) My mom and I have always clashed because she doesn't understand college life (She has never experienced it.) I was harassed by her so frequently-- eventually she told me if I don't break up with him she was going to cut me off and disown me as her daughter. My family is important to me and I didn't want to cause my mother anymore grief and stress.
So I told her I would break up with him. I love my boyfriend and we are important to each other. He understands and knows my stressful times at home but doesn't know I told my family I'm not with him anymore. I don't know what to do because my mom doesn't trust me and asks me if I'm lying to her. However our relationship is much better and I have a happier home to return to. (I live near campus but home is about 40 minute drive away). No one else knows of this big lie. I haven't told any friends or my boyfriend. I know I should tell him but I fear I will hurt and anger him for not standing up for our relationship-- but I just can not win my mother. She seriously believes I have tainted my reputation and my body. I can be paranoid about my mom finding out but that comes and goes. Convincing my mom is not an option. I just got off the phone with her and she threatened to me that if she finds out she has been made a fool of she will never forgive me. I wish she could see that what I do is normal...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Lied to my overly conservative mother that I broke up with my boyfriend when I really didn't. I haven't told any friends nor my boyfriend and I get paranoid. My mother will never forgive me if she finds out. | Lied to my overly conservative mother that I broke up with my boyfriend when I really didn't. I haven't told any friends nor my boyfriend and I get paranoid. My mother will never forgive me if she finds out. | 446 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (20F) boyfriend (24M) said something that I consider to be racist. I don't know where to go from here.
POST: My boyfriend and I have been together for a little bit over three months. He is much more conservative than I am and also more religious but it never affected the way that we interact or influenced the way I felt about him. The other day we were hanging out and we were talking about relationships. I asked him if he dated any women that were not Caucasian and he said that he had dated an Asian woman and a woman who came from a muslim family. He proceeds to ask me the same question and I say no, but that I've always found black men to be attractive but just never had the opportunity to date such a man. This is where it gets insulting; he says "Really? Girls only want to date black men because they have big dicks. Classy white girls only date white, brown or Asian men - not black men" Not only was this racist but it was insulting to me. I told him what he said was seriously wrong and he got defensive saying "It's not racist, but i'm just stating facts, you'll see when you get older" after pressuring him for a few minutes he said "okay, what I said was wrong" and I sort of dropped it. Its been a day and its still bothering me. Should I bring it up again? I really like him but this side of him has me worried... I've always been openly accepting of other people no matter their colour, sexual orientation, socio-economic status etc and I don't know if a relationship can blossom with such different mindsets..
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend made a racist comment when we were hanging out and I don't know how to continue in this relationship. should I confront him again? | Boyfriend made a racist comment when we were hanging out and I don't know how to continue in this relationship. should I confront him again? | 5,502 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: OK PEOPLE LISTEN UP! What do you believe Beauty to be? How do you define Beauty?
POST: Ok people listen up! I am doing a survey about what people perceive beauty to be. So here's the bottom line post a discussion so that I may reap the benefits and generate a discussion.
next, you either PM me or comment. If you can send me a picture/ preferably send me a picture of what you believe beauty to be. anonymously or not, upload a photo or not, do what you wish, as long as as it relates to this question: What do you think beauty is? Maybe it is a little much to ask but I would like to have honest answers. If you don't want to be honest that's fine, I like funny shit.
Here is the kicker, I want you to define what beauty is to you. I don't mean what you think is beautiful but rather what you perceive to be the definition of beauty pertaining specifically to your own life. Please post pictures as that is the main purpose aside from the notion of generating discussion.
you can also submit your photos and videos to the tumblr survey. Although I know how a lot of you feel about tumblr. For those interested it's as follows:
TL;DR: . Assistant: | ?: What the fuck do you think beauty is huh? Tell me about it, no! better yet, show me! fucking show me what you think beauty is. | ?: What the fuck do you think beauty is huh? Tell me about it, no! better yet, show me! fucking show me what you think beauty is. | 225 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] 2 years - told me today that he was (and has been since forever) bi. He thought he'd told me but I didn't know!
POST: Basically, I went to see him today. It was our annual Pride parade, he said he'd completely forgotten and had he known in advance, we could've made plans to go. I said, "What, with your Straight Pride flag?" - we have a lot of gay mutual friends, so it was really just a funny joke, in my opinion.
Any way, so he said, "Errr, no, 'cause I'm not straight."
This completely blindsided me - *he* thought I knew, but it's *never* been discussed. There was actually a perfect opportunity as I'm a gray-asexual (*normally* lacking in sexual attraction, but with a few exceptions) and it was discussed early in the relationship. I'm wondering if he just forgot, because he told me that he never really told his parents because he's never had long-term relationships with other men; they've been with women but... like, I didn't wanna sound like I was shocked/disgusted. (I'm totally not!) It sounds like he'd just had male sexual partners.
Any way. I don't really know how I feel about this? I tried really hard to not think about it whilst I was over there because I tend to overthink these things - basically, I don't know if it's something that he should've mentioned (he definitely *did* not - I don't forget *anything*) or if I should just build a bridge, get over it, etc... Because he's clearly with me, and I have 0 doubts with regards to his faithfulness, so, yeah.
I'd just appreciate some input! Thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend is bi, thought he'd mentioned it. All long-term relationships with women, just male sexual partners. Don't really know how to process/feel. | Boyfriend is bi, thought he'd mentioned it. All long-term relationships with women, just male sexual partners. Don't really know how to process/feel. | 5,668 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/college
TITLE: Got an associate's in psychology. Transferring to 4 year. Want to go into school psychology. Worried about choosing a college and finances.
POST: Ok, so I currently have a 3.5 and a recent grad from CC and I'm not sure if it matters which 4 year school I get a bachelor's from or if I go to the school from which I will get a bachelor's, if that will make it easier to get into the masters or Ph.D. / Ed.S. or what have you at that same school. (Probably, I assumed.) My CC and the local 4 year are pretty buddy-buddy and have credit transfer deals and generally help its local students out. But while they have a general psychology bachelor's program, they only have master's and PhDs in counseling. Also, I hear that you can go directly from a bachelor's into a doctorate program, if you have the GPA, undergrad research or enough experience, and good GRE scores. (I like this idea because I'm a relatively poor student and rely heavily on financial aid and small loans.) I'm also wondering about internships and the stipends that come with some of them? Is that just for doctorate programs? I would prefer to baby step it from a masters to a doctorate, I don't want to do anything I'm not 100% ready for. (Sorry if I sound ignorant, I'm the first in my family to get this far.) A friend of mine in agriculture biotechnology is currently attending grad school for her masters mostly because of her internship / job at the school so she can live cheaply off campus.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Basically I just need advice on how to make sure my academic costs will be covered at least enough to get a masters. (I hear nightmares about ending up with just a bachelor's in psychology.) | Basically I just need advice on how to make sure my academic costs will be covered at least enough to get a masters. (I hear nightmares about ending up with just a bachelor's in psychology.) | 1,054 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: I'm female with the emotional range of a robot and I can't change it.
POST: One of my friends said something today that kind of affected me more than it should have. We were making fun of each other and I jokingly said 'I'm sorry' after dealing a sick burn. He replied with 'You're not sorry, it's not a part of your programming' and then added 'neither are emotions in general'. He meant it as a joke of course but it got me thinking and I can really see where he's coming from.
I often hide my emotions to avoid conflict. I often find drama and petty arguments boring and don't tend to get emotionally invested in them, along with most things in general. I have shows that I love to watch but I've never 'fangirled' or freaked out over something fictional. I have passions, like science and my degree, but I don't like to explain to people *why* I like it so much, because it either takes too much effort to explain or I just can't get the words out right.
That being said, I'm not exactly boring/sad/apathetic, I'm actually quite an optimistic person and I like it when the people I care about are happy. It's just that I can't express that I care for them, I don't really know how to explain it. I *feel* emotions, but I have trouble expressing them.
I think the problem stems from a past relationship I was in. I used to be a really emotionally open person, but I got pretty badly messed up due to emotional abuse etc. I'm over the relationship now and ready to move on but I still feel like not being able to express myself has taken it's toll on me.
The issue, and why I've posted this, is that I'm kind of dating someone at the moment. Not officially, but he's asked me out on a date and we've both made it very obvious that we like each other. He was there when the robot joke was made and I feel like maybe that's not the kind of image I want to be sending to someone who could potentially be in a relationship with me. I'm not really sure what to do, if I should just try and embrace my robot tendencies or try and develop my emotional openness again.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have trouble expressing my emotions, I'm going on a date with a guy, I don't want to have trouble expressing my emotions and I don't know how I can change it. | I have trouble expressing my emotions, I'm going on a date with a guy, I don't want to have trouble expressing my emotions and I don't know how I can change it. | 5,611 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I (f/19) go about reconnecting with an old bestfriend (f/18)?
POST: This friend (Allie) and I were great friends since 7th grade up to last December. I sort of stopped connecting with her since I started college and she was still going to community college in our hometown. I felt like I couldn't relate to her anymore and when I tried talking to her again it felt like she didn't like me.
In December Allie invited me to her brother's concert which I happily brought along my friend. My other friend got a text message from her friend who was helping with the concert that she didn't want me to go. I got dressed and went still since that was what I was going to do. Our interactions were awkward and strained and I have not talked to her since.
Lately, I've been wanting to talk to her and see how she was doing. I thought I wouldn't care but something compels me to see her. So today I contacted her to do a temporary tattoo since she does those in exchange for money. I was hoping to reconnect with her at this time. Does anyone have tips on how I should do this? Or should I just let the leaves fall. Thank you
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How do I reconnect with an old best friend who I lost contact with last year? Tips? Comments? Concerns? | How do I reconnect with an old best friend who I lost contact with last year? Tips? Comments? Concerns? | 5,354 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] Will be required to make friends if I want to do research at university but I'm going into a new dorm so I'm not sure what to do
POST: I got the email from the housing department telling me what dorm I will be in (single because of my disability, new building from last semester) and I won't know any of the people there.
I also got off the phone with my therapist at the school (he's the head of the counseling center and on the student behavioral review committee and probably other things) and he said that the most important thing for me was first grades (but he's not worried about those) and second, making friends, and that he would be talking to my professors to not let me do research until he has confirmation that I have friends because I need to be devoting all my effort to that.
I don't know what kind of research I wanted to do I'm Computer science and engineering and I know a couple programming languages and higher mathematics but.....it doesn't matter but there was probably something for me that I could have done but now I can't because I need to find some fake friends first. I spend almost all my time on the internet asking about how to make friends and when I'm not on the internet I'm trying...to do so. I never made any success last semester (except when I sold some stuff so people pretended to like me) and I don't know anyone at this new place... I really really want to do research but I'm not sure if I'll be allowed to because of this.
I'm going to be realistic and say I probably can't make friends so if I can't figure that out is he even allowed to do this? Can he bar me from working with my professors?
THings I tried last semester: Clubs, events, leaving my door open, Mario party with my door open, interacting with humans on the way to class, interacting with humans on the way from class, interacting with humans before class, creating a study group that I lead, joining more clubs, changing my wardrobe, getting a haircut, working out (somethign something iron church gainz) and probably a lot of other things I don't remember.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I need to make friends as soon as I get to university and I don't know how. Barring my inability to make friends I need to figure out if there is a way to stop my therapist there from doing this. | I need to make friends as soon as I get to university and I don't know how. Barring my inability to make friends I need to figure out if there is a way to stop my therapist there from doing this. | 1,389 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] trying to choose between two girls, and I need advice. [16F and 18F]
POST: I'm a senior in high school, so I'm going to preface this post by saying I'm not looking for something long-term, but I want to have a fun relationship to end the year.
Girl 1 is 16, so she's a little young, but she's very attractive, and we share lots of interests/ have similar hobbies. I've had a bit of a crush on her for a while, but never really did anything. (dating an 8th grader as a sophomore seemed a bit weird)The thing is ,though, I am friends with her older sister, so I don't know if this will end up being a problem.
Girl 2 is 18, and I was told from her best friend that she wants to hook-up with me. She's a very funny girl and also very cute but I've heard from multiple people that she's still not over her ex. She's also much more experienced sexually, which is a positive.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Need help choosing between two girls. Girl 2would be a definite hook up, but possibly nothing more, and Girl 1 would be a relationship, but not a long one. | Need help choosing between two girls. Girl 2would be a definite hook up, but possibly nothing more, and Girl 1 would be a relationship, but not a long one. | 916 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend [22 M] of over a year wants an open relationship with me [22 F] because he needs multiple sexual partners. What do I do?
POST: My boyfriend and I have a wonderful sex life. I am extremely content and happy with remaining loyal to just him. He has mentioned to me while we have been together that he has a "girlfriend sharing" fetish. A lot of his sexual fantasies involve me and another man. He constantly wants to hear if I have any sexual desires for another person. It doesn't bother me, but I honestly have no immediate desire to seek out another sexual partner at the moment.
Recently, I found several emails on his account responding to casual encounters ads on Craigslist and also some concerning Facebook messages.
When I confronted him about it, he told him that he is addicted to the "hunt" and the "rush" of seeking out a woman to have sex with. He admitted to me that he needs multiple sexual partners. He suggested a healthy way to fulfill this drive is for us to have an open relationship.
I have attempted to bring myself to doing a couples swap or swinging type thing, but I just couldn't bring myself to it. For whatever reason, I am just not completely comfortable with the notion of an open relationship. I will admit I experience an immense amount of sexual jealousy and pain...My boyfriend on the other hand, does not. Sex and love are two separate things to him. It's hard for me to come to this viewpoint.
I really want us both to be satisfied with each other. I'm not sure what to do exactly? There is a part of me that wants to be open to the idea of an open relationship, but then there is the other part of me that experiences great pleasure from being loyal and loving to one person...
Should I try to eliminate my sexual jealousy and attempt an open relationship in the future? Or would it be healthier for me to remain monogamous?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My boyfriend really wants an open relationship and thinks it is healthy for our relationship. I am on the fence if I should try it or not. | My boyfriend really wants an open relationship and thinks it is healthy for our relationship. I am on the fence if I should try it or not. | 4,270 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I [24F] handle my sister [17F] and confrontations with family during the last days of my family visit?
POST: My mother had me when she was a teenager. I'm the first to go to college in my family. I have my own place states away from them and a good relationship, so I'd say I'm doing pretty well.
My mom got remarried and had my sister. It's obvious that they've always favored her. I had a hard time fitting in with my new dad's super conservative Catholic family, since I'm technically the bastard child of some other man. I was around the age of seven when they got married. My family is visiting me this week, since I try to see them once a year. I've already had enough of her snarky teenage attitude and my mother's blatant favoritism. My dad kind of checks out and ignores things for the most part, so I don't mind him so much. However, if I ever get into a fight with my mom, he always sides with her (understandable), but he does it in a way where he doesn't care to have a clue as to what the fight is even about and acts authoritative (not cool).
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My sister is the favorite child and I don't know how to deal with her and my mom's snark, help? | My sister is the favorite child and I don't know how to deal with her and my mom's snark, help? | 4,437 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Parents want to give my (F18) room to my little sister when I go away to college, I'd have no room.
POST: So the problem I'm having here is that I'll be going off to college this fall. My two siblings, parents, and I live in a very small, three bedroom ranch with not much of a living room. Currently my brother and sister share a room, and I have one to myself. My situation is that my sister wants my room, step dad told her she could have it, and I'll have no space of my own when I return for 4 months out of the year. I am a very private person and tend to stay tucked away into my room, as the house is small. How do I explain to my parents that I don't want to be displaced and that I feel like I need my privacy? I don't want to share a room with my sister, as we have a 10 year age gap, but they also don't want my siblings to share a room as brother and sister, although they have a one year age gap. My sister is messy and always likes friends over, and I'm quite the opposite and like having my own space to stay in and quietly retreat to. My room is kind of my own quiet happy space, and I hate when people touch my things or are in my space, which I know my sister would invade on all the time. I'm not financially in the position to try to get a space of my own, and my parents seldom give me money for things. How do my parents and I try to work this situation out?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | going away to college, parents want to give my room to little sister, not sure where I'd be staying 4 months out of the year. | going away to college, parents want to give my room to little sister, not sure where I'd be staying 4 months out of the year. | 4,584 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [21m] I am second guessing myself and my choice to break up with my GF [17f]
POST: Don't have to read that; I was just spilling my thoughts, so I'll summarize it:
My girlfriend and I have been dating 3 months. She has a best friend who is a guy who she's known since she was in 5th grade. They regularly hang out with each other and continued to do so throughout our relationship. They are even going to prom together since I'm too old. I confronted her about this and she claimed that she has never liked him, and they are purely friends.
On Sunday she had a fallout with her parents, and said she wasn't able to talk, but would "talk to me soon". I patiently waited 2 days then....I became suspicious, because we've never gone more than 2 days without talking. So last night, I go find her tumblr, and on it, I find this
I'm honestly not sure what I should do. I absolutely should not stay in this relationship, and I know it needs to end. But one of my friends said I should not jump to any conclusions. He suggests this may be a simple short-lived infatuation she has, or any number of other explanations. I know this girl fucking likes me and I feel she does NOT want to have these feelings towards her friend. He suggested I do not break up with her on this tumblr post alone. He made a good point and it made me question what I want to do.
But the logical side of me is screaming to break up with her right now. Call her, tell her what I saw, and end it. But it *does* seem way too sudden. I almost want to wait until she calls me to see what she does or does not do. I really would like to have some closure and I want to find out how long she has had these feelings, and if she cheated on me...
I know I only posted this last night, but I didn't get a lot of responses. There's a lot of possible outcomes and I keep second guessing all of them and i'm clueless. I really like this girl and I'm not good at breakups so I don't know how to handle this...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend might be in love with another guy. I keep second guessing how/if I should break up with her. I need some reassurance. Not negativity, just realistic advice. | Girlfriend might be in love with another guy. I keep second guessing how/if I should break up with her. I need some reassurance. Not negativity, just realistic advice. | 3,644 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Update: I [31 M] let myself into the apartment next to my girlfriends [34 F] to prevent a fire. She is mad I filed a police report about it.
POST: Original Post:
Since we broke up we haven't talked much but agreed to talk about how we are going to handle the Caribbean vacation tomorrow. That wont be happening it looks like. Tonight I get an email that she cancelled my flight. I started doing some digging and was able to find out that she is now going on the vacation with her ex fiance.
You guys called it there was more going on. I am cutting all contact with her so I can have a clean break and move on to the next part of my life.
By the way anyone know of a fun place to travel with my flight voucher from the cancelled ticket? lol (I'm in the US)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Saved girlfriends apartment from burning down, she breaks up with me over something petty, and is now going on what was supposed to be our Caribbean vacation with her ex fiance. | Saved girlfriends apartment from burning down, she breaks up with me over something petty, and is now going on what was supposed to be our Caribbean vacation with her ex fiance. | 4,118 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, Forrest needs your help identifying a genetic disease. Calling those with superb internet skills and a passion for cute things. Pics inside.
POST: Four weeks ago, a mouse I adopted had six babies. All the babies looked like [wrinkly pink jelly beans] Nothing was amiss.
Day 6 or so, we thought it was safe to [begin handling the babies] All babies looked fit and healthy and [were all the same size] It appeared as though they were having trouble moving their hind legs, but I chocked that up to them just learning to walk. I noticed it especially in the dark grey-brown ones, but in hindsight, maybe I had been handling the same mouse every time thinking that they were different. The only female was the white one, the rest were males, which made it even harder to differentiate between the three ones of the same color.
Once they really started growing hair and we handled them for hours at a time, we noticed [this guy] Do you see anything odd about him? How about if we [compare him to his brother] At first we thought he was paralyzed, but it soon became clear that was not the case. He could move his tail and his hind legs freely, but he didn't do it often. When he did decide to move his legs, the movements were stiff. He could curl his toes. He used his whole leg like a flipper to push himself along the table. We named him Forrest, after Forrest Gump, because he is a determined bugger who can't walk or do any mouse things as well as his brothers.
Now, he is one third the size of his family. He developed slower than the others after day 12; his eyes opened about 4 days later, he took the longest to wean, and he is the least adventurous (understandably).
As with most random mouse pregnancies, there is a chance of the litter being a result of inbreeding. His body size makes me think it's not an environmental or physical cause, which leads me to genetic disease. Do his symptoms sound like anything you know about? My google-fu has failed me, but I am only a trainee. Thus, Forrest and I turn to you for help.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Baby mouse is crippled with an atrophied hind end, is 1/3rd the size of his brothers, developed slowly. What disease could this be? | Baby mouse is crippled with an atrophied hind end, is 1/3rd the size of his brothers, developed slowly. What disease could this be? | 699 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (22F) ex (23M) messaged me after 6 months of no contact. Is it dumb if I were to message back? Advice/opinions would be appreciated!
POST: After my ex and I started NC, I really took the time and dedicated it to improving myself. In that regard, I did pretty well. I've confronted (and conquered!) some personal fears and baggage, picked up new hobbies that I love, met new people and created amazing friendships. I'm happy, and I know that I have a bright future ahead of me.
When my ex messaged me yesterday telling me he wants to talk to me and misses me, I realized I didn't really feel anything towards it. I didn't feel like I 'won' or had power over him. I'm honestly just exasperated. I think he only misses me because he's lonely. He spent the past 6 months drinking, partying, and hooking up with a ton of girls. And he probably feels guilty about how we last ended things. Basically I don't think he's trying to initiate a conversation with me for the right reasons.
I want to talk to him because I kind of pity him. I feel sorry that he's not in a great place right now, and I want to help him. On some level, I do miss him, just not romantically. I miss talking to him as a friend. But at the same time, I don't want to risk getting hurt again. I have ZERO desire to get back together with him. I know I can do better than how he was treating me. And he has a lot of personal shit to work out before he's ready for a relationship anyway. I guess I'm just afraid the old feelings I had for him might somehow creep up again.
Should I stick with NC? Or should I respond to him?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex contacted me, I'm not interested in getting back together with him but I do want to talk to him because I miss him as a friend. Is it worth the risk? | Ex contacted me, I'm not interested in getting back together with him but I do want to talk to him because I miss him as a friend. Is it worth the risk? | 1,639 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [22F] boyfriend [21M] of 5 years works too much and does not have time to spend with me
POST: I have bluntly communicated to him several times that I would like to see him more than once per week for two hours. He said he would try to make more time for me but it has not happened yet (I've talked to him twice in a three month period). We've been together five years, and I recently graduated from college and found a job. He literally works everyday and when he's not working he'll hang out with his brother or his friends to smoke weed. I don't smoke anymore, and I don't care if he does but I'm hurt that he barely finds time to spend with me. I don't even text or call to ask him to hang out because he'll usually say he's busy working. I know he's busy and throughout the week I'm busy with work too but we rarely talk. He'll probably send a text every so often, but we usually go 4-5 days without talking. Whenever we do hang out it has to be convenient for him and it's not fair to me. He works at out former high school's garden and does yard work for people which I can understand takes up a lot of time, but then again I don't. Sometimes the one day I do get to hang out with him, he'll cancel if someone calls and I'll be left at dinner/movie theater/wherever alone. I just feel like I'm not wanted and I wonder if I would just be better off single. I just want to re-establish the affection that used to be in the relationship; I feel like it's lacking. I've even told him I feel like I'm not wanted and he says, "It's not that, I'm just busy". I understand working and making money, but working EVERYDAY? I'm sorry I'm ranting, I just have no one to talk to this about. Thank you for reading my rant.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | boyfriend of five years works everyday and does not make much time for me even though I've tried to communicate with him about it. Do not feel wanted in relationship anymore. | boyfriend of five years works everyday and does not make much time for me even though I've tried to communicate with him about it. Do not feel wanted in relationship anymore. | 5,829 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I (22F) weird for not wanting to go on family vacations? (50sMF, 16M)
POST: Using my (kind of) throwaway because why not.
I have come to the realization that I don't like our family vacations. They are always incredibly stressful, and I get enough of my parents yelling at me at home. Tensions always run high on our vacations. There's always arguing, and it sucks because there's nowhere to escape it.
The reason this comes up is because my dad has an opportunity to go to Seattle, and my mom wants to go. It'd be a week long thing. It also happens to fall on my birthday.
Call me crazy but I'd much rather spend it at home chilling out than being stressed out of my mind with my parents. My mom is giving me crap because I'd be "foolish" not to go.
I'd love to go to Seattle, just not with them. (Maybe with my little brother because he's cool)
My mom and I already don't get along at home. She's constantly putting me down and making me feel bad about myself and what not. (I could make a whole post about this)She told me that "Nobody will be in a rush to celebrate your birthday with you. They're all too busy for you." So yeah, that was nice. She also was saying how SHE'D love to be on vacation.
The ONLY reason I ask is that I do love to travel, but like I said not with them(her). So I'm kind of torn. She's also guilt tripping me so that doesn't help.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Dad going out of town, mom wants us to go with, I hate family vacations because my mom and I fight constantly and they're always stressful. But I love to travel so I'm torn. | Dad going out of town, mom wants us to go with, I hate family vacations because my mom and I fight constantly and they're always stressful. But I love to travel so I'm torn. | 5,323 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: need advice - parents are afraid to ask for a favor from my husband
POST: Hi reddit,
i made this throwaway to tell OP the other day how lucky his wife was that he let her keep the adopted cat she rescued, and did it with love
As i had mentioned, my husband sent my cats who we rescued as kittens from my parents yard, back to my parents. The already had three rescue cats and to ahve my two added made 5 - a LOT for two retirees. My sister and her boyfriend have agreed to take one of mine, who i LOVE but who is a little naughty ;), which i so very much appreciate i can't explain it. the other of mine has to be the most well behaved, sweet cat i have ever met. She is small and likes to cuddle, she doesn't eat much, doesn't make any trouble.
My parents are going away for 2 weeks and really need us to temporarily take her back. I have exhausted the argument and shown just how torn up i am every day missing my pets to my husband, but he won't budge.
My dad, (who drives all over NY and LI taking care of anything we need, buying us groceries bc manhattan is expensive, we still owe him THOUSANDS of dollars for our wedding and he is just a retired teacher, he does not have money) is afraid to talk to my husband about it because he "would be too hurt, embarrassed and upset" if my husband says no, as my mom put it.
i feel terrible, and teary, and i want to help my parents and have my sweet kitty, at least one of them, back in my house. it's temporary even!
i thought maybe you'd have some extra ideas for me. I know many people will say "just be like look, we're doing this for my parents, end of story" but i'm afraid that wont work.
no, he's not allergic, we have no other pets etc.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | i love my husband but his stubborn attitude toward refusing to take our cat back from my parents for 2 wks while they're on vacation is tearing my family apart | i love my husband but his stubborn attitude toward refusing to take our cat back from my parents for 2 wks while they're on vacation is tearing my family apart | 5,518 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28F] with my BF [30M] aren't moving forward, but if we do I'm afraid it is because everyone else is getting engaged.
POST: I have always cringed at my girlfriends who awkwardly pressured their boyfriends into proposing. I never wanted that - I wanted someone who was excited enough about being with me to take a chance and pop the question. However, I am afraid I have given mixed signals. I wanted my BF to think for himself, so I put zero pressure on him.
I never wanted to live with a BF unless we were engaged, but the expense of living in our area was insane, so it was either live together or have 3 roommates each (that we have to clean up after). When we moved in together I made it clear that with that situation I would like to see progress in a year. We are now at almost two years.
I wanted him to *want* to propose to me. I think that is something romantic that comes from a shorter courtship - it can mean that a person "knows". However, we have been together for three years and nothing - except almost all of our friends are engaged or married now. I am afraid if he actually asks me it will be because of outside pressure, which is exactly the opposite of what i wanted.
I sound like a brat, but I don't think it should have taken this long. At this point maybe I shouldn't be with him if he hasn't been sure enough to ask me for three years (two of those with shared home and finances with no issues).
TL;DR: . Assistant: | BF and I together for three years and have lived together for two. Afraid if he proposes now it is just because everyone else is and not because he likes me. | BF and I together for three years and have lived together for two. Afraid if he proposes now it is just because everyone else is and not because he likes me. | 3,961 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Help with my part-time job options
POST: I'm currently doing an internship in the field I want to go into, it's unpaid so I have a part-time retail job to help support myself.
The problem is my current job pays just below minimum wage and I don't have many hours (they've been cut recently) and most nights I'm left to close up the shop on my own, which I'm not comfortable doing all the time. The other hangup is the shop is poorly stocked, it is supposed to get better but at the moment it's frustrating.
But there are some pros, there's no uniform which is nice and my boss is extremely flexible because of my internship situation and my permanent job hunt. It's also very close to where I live.
Now, I've been offered a job at a different shop a little bit further from where I live. However this isn't available until October. But I would expect I'd at least be paid minimum wage, however I don't know how flexible the manager will be (although I've got a good rapport with them), and the opening hours are earlier and later than my current job and I'd prefer not to do those sorts of hours.
By the time this problem will arise, hopefully I will have found a permanent job and won't need a part-time job. However I'd like to get a bit of perspective on it now.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | will be offered a better part-time job which won't have any of the negatives of my current job but might not have the benefits. | will be offered a better part-time job which won't have any of the negatives of my current job but might not have the benefits. | 1,548 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 F] with my boss [34 M] does he like me or does he like having power over me?
POST: So here it is. I have a boss who is helping me get a promotion. We spend alone time together and have often talked about personal issues, like family history and childhoods. often getting into personal and vulnerable issues.
The issue is that he has a long time GF who has told me he is not crazy about. he brings her up from time to time. She wants him to get married and have kids. he wants neither. he said he might just stay because he doesn't like change. he tells me he's lonely, even though she lives with him.
But he also listens to me... a lot... he thinks about things i say, and he remembers them. (i'm not sure if he does this with everyone). he has also watched my back in the office and does his best to support me and make sure i get my promotion. he offers tons of advice. sometimes our conversations are moody. I often confess a lot of personal things to him, and he will sometimes do the same. it feels very personal and intimate. these conversations can be dark and intense. sometimes those emotions are clearly written on our faces. He has also asked to spend time (getting lunch) with me out of the office. I have never done this with any of my other bosses.
the other day, i tried to help train a fellow employee and was being kind and nice to the employee. and my boss was upset with me. he lashed out (which he's never done) and asked me if I was bipolar and how i had changed to become such a different and happy person (in front of the new trainee). he then recoiled and withdrew. he asked me to leave his office.
I like my boss. he's taken, but i feel a closeness to him. how can i tell if he is into me - or just likes having a sense of authority and mentorship over me? is there any way to tell ???
please help. any advice is helpful. thank you !!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | think i have sexual tension with my taken boss, but i can't tell. not sure how to approach or what to ask to find out. | think i have sexual tension with my taken boss, but i can't tell. not sure how to approach or what to ask to find out. | 2,440 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My 22F bf of 1 year 23M is deadset on abortion being his option until he has a full time job. I dont know how yo feel.
POST: To start off, I've miscarried before and I know the guilt and blame that comes from that, as well as the anger and the hate. So I have always been very anti-abortion.
My boyfriend and I met four years ago, and started dating last year. We are extremely compatible, except on this front. My stance is "if you do the crime, you do the time". And although I am on birth control and we use condoms, I still feel like knowing what would happen if the possibility ever arose is a good thing. The few times I've asked, he's been deadset on abortion. I myself have a full time job, and I make good money, but he's struggling and working at a fast food restaurant. He says that in order for him to be OK with a baby, he has to have the full time job.
From one point of view, I can see why. Because I have to take unpaid maternity leave. But from the other hand, it begs the question, why would he risk having children just so they can be aborted? When discussing at length, he's made the choice clear- abort a baby, or lose him. And that seems very callous and ludicrous.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | not pregnant, but when talking about the future, boyfriend is deadset on abortion. Is this normal? It makes me sick just thinking about it. | not pregnant, but when talking about the future, boyfriend is deadset on abortion. Is this normal? It makes me sick just thinking about it. | 1,402 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by putting pickles in the fridge
POST: Happened last night.
My girlfriend asked me to put the jar of pickles away as we are getting ready for bed. So I pick up the jar, close it and carry it to the fridge. I open the fridge door, go to put the pickle jar on the door and the bottom of the jar hits the guard, jar slips from my hand, hits the ground and shatters. Glass goes flying into my left big toe, some how making a deep cut on the inside, near the webbing and a couple of scrapes ontop of the toe and on the knuckle of my toe. Girlfriend said she's putting the pickles away from now on.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Went to put jar of pickles in the fridge, the jar slips and shatters, sending glass into my toe. | Went to put jar of pickles in the fridge, the jar slips and shatters, sending glass into my toe. | 5,591 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My best friend [19f] and her boyfriend [20m] are making my life [18f] much harder than it already is. I am in desperate need of advice.
POST: I'll try to make this as short as possible. I live with my dad and am currently dealing with some issues (depression, anxiety, possible bipolar). I recently had to drop out of college because every day is a struggle. About two months ago, my best friend moved in with me because her mother would not allow the lifestyle she adopted thanks to her new boyfriend. Since there's a spare room here, my dad and I had no problem with her staying.
She's not around much (she stays out all night with her boyfriend) but she and him are here every morning until my dad gets home from work (my dad would not allow this, so they're sneaky about it). Now, I have a boyfriend myself, so I understand the rush and need for each other, blah blah. But my mental state is pretty screwed, so I absolutely cannot stand to hear them having sex every day. I want silence and peace. I am VERY irritable and it drives me insane to hear them fucking in her room right next to mine, in the shower, and just recently in the fucking kitchen.
I also hate myself for feeling this way, because I know that they mean no harm. She only knows about my anxiety, but I've made it my mission to hide all of my other issues from her. Not sure why, it just makes me too nervous. She's lovely and she'd do anything for me, so I don't know how to tell her that I go crazy every day when they're here. Please, any advice?? I just want some quiet time in my own damn room.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm dealing with depression/anxiety, my best friend moved in with me and brings her boyfriend over every day, it drives me insane to her them have sex, want them out but I get too nervous to tell her. | I'm dealing with depression/anxiety, my best friend moved in with me and brings her boyfriend over every day, it drives me insane to her them have sex, want them out but I get too nervous to tell her. | 3,078 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: 17/m I'm the other guy, need help.
POST: Hi, I am a 17 year old guy in junior year of highschool, and the other day I might have done something not all that great. I have this friend named (lets call her Patrice) who has this really shitty boyfriend(lets call him Doug) who has forced her to do some really terrible things, for instance he forced her to suck his dick, and when she asked to stop, he told her to shut up and consistently sends dick pics to other girls. To further add details on this, she's extremely dependant on him and fears to be alone which is why she hasn't ended up breaking up with her. So, anyways, my friends have been trying to hook me up with her because they want her to stop dating him, I didn't really know much about her except for that she is really fucking hot, so of course I agreed. I invited a bunch of friends over to my house to have a party. Most of them didn't end up coming, but Patrice did. We were chatting it up, until I made the grave mistake of asking her to make out (don't judge me i'm an idiot). She was hesitant, but looked at her friend for confirmation. She, the friend, said its fine, which then led up to Patrice saying don't tell Doug (I don't really know the name suits him), so we made out. Afterwards, she felt really guilty because she still thought that she still loved him even with all the things he has done. My friends still want me to go out with her, but I don't really know how to approach it. Any advice would be great.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | made out with a girl whose boyfriend is a cunt and in a way abuses her, and I'm really questioning my ethics… Am I in the wrong? Did I mess up? | made out with a girl whose boyfriend is a cunt and in a way abuses her, and I'm really questioning my ethics… Am I in the wrong? Did I mess up? | 956 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Thinking of breaking up with boyfriend M28 who doesn't want to put in more time and effort into our relationship F27.
POST: I have a boyfriend that I love. Even with his shortcomings. Which we all have.
But I feel he is not devoted enough. I'd like to meet more often, chat etc. He knows this, I told him nicely etc. When we meet it's wonderful.
He is content with meeting once a week and if that falls through, he is not particularly upset.
I feel awful because I ask him for more meeting etc and I sometimes get to the point where I sound accusative and horrible. I respect his time and commitment to his son, but I'd like to meet more often when he doesn't have the sweet little boy. No, those weeks he runs, rides his bike, meets friends...etc.
Anyways, I'm fed up. But can't bring myself to break up yet. The question is: if we have a great relationship but I can't get him to invest more, shall I give up?
I feel that there is a big gap between our needs. I understand he has his own life and so do I. But I was hoping for maybe an extra date when he is not parenting. Is it too much to ask for?
E.g yesterday he didn't email me all evening because he was skyping someone for four hours. I don't doubt he did, but I would have appreciated a quick email saying, hey, I'm on Skype with Jessica, talk tomorrow. Am I being unreasonable?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend is not ready to make more time for me. I feel horrible and cry every day. Thinking of ending it. | Boyfriend is not ready to make more time for me. I feel horrible and cry every day. Thinking of ending it. | 4,204 |
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