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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 26[f] who has never had children or married, dating 30 year old man who has divorced and 2 children. Part 2.
POST: [Backstory]:( He has been divorced and has two children. I've never experienced any of those. I also realize that it takes a lot to be part of a broken family.
I don't feel that my emotional needs are being met. I feel like I'm always listening to his problems, but he never hears mine. He also likes to go to strip clubs, a lot, and has all of these women who just randomly give him their numbers, etc. I'm concerned about one friend in particular of his. He says she's just a friend, but he's admitted to me before that she has a crush and she has also text me from his phone pretending to be him before. He never did anything about it and got mad at me for "over reacting about it".
Recently things have changed though. He's been calling every day and showing a lot of improvement. I want to fall for him, but I keep having that nagging feeling in the back of my head. I did tell him that we would give this "relationship" one last try and then just let it all go if it didn't work. Since then there hasn't been a lot of fighting and there hasn't been any issues with his "female friends".
I want to say I care about him, but I don't think he feels the same way towards me. He has made improvement, but it still just feels strange. I'm not sure where to go from here.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to give into him, but I keep having a bad feeling in the back of my head. He acts like he has changed, but it doesn't feel like love to me or anything else. | I want to give into him, but I keep having a bad feeling in the back of my head. He acts like he has changed, but it doesn't feel like love to me or anything else. | 15 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by accidentally breaking an old man's hip
POST: I was walking around my college town procrastinating an important homework assignment when I stumbled upon an antique shop I'd never seen before. I'm an absolute crazy for old stuff, so I walked in and a seeminlgly harmless old man greeted me.
"What're you looking for pretty lady?"
"I'm just looking around" I said.
"Okay, I'll be up front if you need anything."
Little did I know this motherfucker was quiet as a goddamn cat on a carpet. As I was walking around, I got that creepy feeling like "you know someone is behind you, but every time you turn around, nothing is there" type stuff. I did this about four times before I caught the bastard snapping pics of my bum when I would stoop down to look at something.
"What the fuck are you doing?"
He made a run for it around a corner and dodged me around some antiques before I caught the sleeve of his sweatshirt. I thought to myself, *I got him now, I'll just make him delete them and leave!* I spoke too soon. Trying to steady myself, while still holding onto his sleeve, I accidentally slipped on some old magazines laying on the floor and he came down with me.
Crack. Something definitely broke.
*oh fuck oh fuck oh fuck*
Called an ambulance and turns out he fractured his hip during the fall, but he'll live. He took his phone with him. He still has pictures of my ass.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | wore a skirt to an antique shop, elderly owner took pics of my butt, tried to escape and I accidentally fracture his hip. | wore a skirt to an antique shop, elderly owner took pics of my butt, tried to escape and I accidentally fracture his hip. | 2,593 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by trying to use an air horn
POST: So last night, I was over at a friend's house to celebrate the New Year and had brought over an air horn that I would blast when it was midnight. I had already used the horn to scare some of my friends earlier, and was planning to use it again as a joke for when a couple of my friends finished their game of Smash Bros. Right as they finished the match, I raised it and pressed down on the button. Instead of being met with the screeching noise, however, a large PFFFFFT came out of the nozzle. A lot of the gas used in the can then came out of the sides in between the can and the actual horn, which sprayed right onto my hand. I yelled "OH, SHIT!" and ran to the bathroom to wash my now freezing hand and get rid of the chemicals.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My last screw-up of 2014 involved the death of my air horn and it spraying bad stuff onto my right hand. | My last screw-up of 2014 involved the death of my air horn and it spraying bad stuff onto my right hand. | 1,699 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21f] think I have feelings for a school friend [20?m] but don't know how to understand emotions and such.
POST: Hi there Reddit, I'm a nerdy college gamer who has a hard time with feelings. I realized I might have some after having a dream about one of my gaming/school friends. After digging deeper, I realized I'm jealous when other girls are around him, I find myself thinking about him at irrelevant times, and when we game together, I'm always getting myself killed trying to keep him alive, ignoring everything else that's going on. I think those are probably bad signs.
If he were to ask me out, I'd say yes for sure because he's a really great guy. He's funny and kind, patient with me, interested in a lot of the same things I am, seems to find what I have to say interesting, stands up for me, loves memes and games and anime like I do... Sleep is one of my favorite things and now I stay up late to play games with him, and sometimes my other friends.
I just don't know how to proceed. I can try to just bottle it up forever, which is hard because I'm a bad secret keeper. I could just randomly blurt it out in chat one day and then change the subject. I don't even know what he thinks about me. I want to know what he thinks.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I think I might be in like with my friend, what the heck do I do? How do you actually know if someone might like you (especially if you don't see them physically, school isn't back yet)? | I think I might be in like with my friend, what the heck do I do? How do you actually know if someone might like you (especially if you don't see them physically, school isn't back yet)? | 5,642 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Long distance BF of 3 years (18M) doesn't seem that excited to see me (18F)
POST: My long-distance boyfriend is home for the weekend but he doesn't seem that excited to see me. I met him on his way back from the coach station yesterday evening, after I'd been at college and work. I just wanted to hug him and kiss him straight away, but he kind of just ignored that / didn't reciprocate. Example: I pulled him towards me and kissed him when we were walking up my street, just because I haven't kissed him for 3 weeks and I wanted to. It wasn't forced or anything, but then he kept saying we should stop because we're in the middle of the street (it was 10:30pm, no one else around) and we should 'save it for later' (I'm at college/work 'later').He also said the same thing, and that I was getting 'carried away', when we were kissing after he walked me home. Isn't that a good thing?
He is pretty shy and does tend to internalise a lot, but we're very close and open with each other.
We've only been apart 3 weeks this time but found it more difficult than other times. It was all 'I miss you' texts, but now he's home... I don't know.
I don't know if I've just got unrealistic expectations of what his reaction 'should' be. I kind of want him to jump on me and hug me and kiss me. I guess I just didn't feel that wanted. BUT I don't know if I'm just over romanticising / idealising the situation.
Note: we've been together 3 years and have been long distance for 4 months.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my long distance boyfriend doesn't seem that excited to see me. Are my expectations of what his reaction 'should be' unrealistic? Thanks in advance x | my long distance boyfriend doesn't seem that excited to see me. Are my expectations of what his reaction 'should be' unrealistic? Thanks in advance x | 512 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (19M) have a friend (19/20ish F) who asked me over for dinner. Both single (she recently), is it just dinner or could this lead to more?
POST: Hi reddit, I have the following situation, and I don't want to be rude or sound like an asshole by asking her, so I'm asking you for advice.
I am a 19 yo dude, still living with my parents, and broke up the last time rougly one and a half year ago (which was also the last time I had any physical contact with girls, not counting my mother).
Friend of mine, 19 or 20ish girl, broke up recently/is still breaking up/she's not sure either, living on her own.
I am in my 2nd year of university, she is in her 1st year of college (different studies).
So there is this girl, a friend of mine who is also a colleague (only in the summer) of mine, and we both study in the same city (however I still live at home, 2hr drive; she lives on her own).
Lately (3 months back) she broke up with her then-bf, and she and I started talking from time to time, then she got anther bf, and apparently they haven't been talking for the past 5 weeks so they probably broke up as well...
Now I've gone through a nasty breakup too, so I said if there's anything I could do then she should just ask, asked how she was doing, if she still managed to get through the days allright. Then she asked if I could come over for dinner somewhere next week, and I said yes of course.
Now, I'm a 19yo dude, she's a 19/20 ish girl, both single, and both (at least) straight... You understand where I'm going: is it going to be just dinner and chatting, or do you think there's a reasonable possibility of me spending the night in whatever way over at her place (and should I pack a clean pair of underwear and maybe condoms just in case) ?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 19M and friend 19/20F, she invited me over for dinner. Both single, both straight: is this just going to be dinner and chatting, or could this lead to more? | 19M and friend 19/20F, she invited me over for dinner. Both single, both straight: is this just going to be dinner and chatting, or could this lead to more? | 3,743 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Help me Reddit! I don't know how to fully trust my boyfriend again.
POST: Really long, sorry.
I have been with him for over two years and I love him to death. We're best friends and lovers. Anyhow, he has cheated on me twice in the past two years that I know of. Nothing physical, but he invited some girl over after I left his house (she didnt go over) & recently he contacted his ex and got naked pictures from her. He denied both even after I had the proof in front of me. He said he didn't know what he was thinking, but could never give me an answer as to why he did it. A friend of his, who became a better friend to me, told me that she is pretty sure he has cheated on numerous girlfriends. He's super protective when guys he isn't friends with talk to me. I love him more than anything, but lately hes become kinda closed about who he talks to and erases all his stuff before handing me his phone. Idk, maybe im paranoid. He has made many many changes for me & he knows I feel like this because I talk to him about it & all he does is cry & say that I'm his world & if I leave he'll start drinking again (he's an alcoholic) & hate his life. The trust is still lacking & it's really hard for me to get it back. He seems to think that I should be over it because he said he was sorry. What do you guys think? Am i wasting my time? He's 24 & i'm 21.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my boyfriend of two years has cheated twice, nothing physical, & im wondering if im wasting my time or if he really is sorry. | my boyfriend of two years has cheated twice, nothing physical, & im wondering if im wasting my time or if he really is sorry. | 3,021 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 M] with my GF [22 F] of 2 years. She's been sick for almost a year and I'm exhausted.
POST: She's been sick almost a year (of something the doctors haven't spotted yet) and she lives alone (family's not around). I've been taking care of her for most of my time (I work mon through fri, office) and I'm worried 24/7 about her condition and there's nothing I can do. I'm exhausted cause of it.
Honestly I don't know if I'm attracted to her anymore. I love her, but we haven't been intimate for a while and that's a problem for me I feel like a dick for that.
Haven't cheated or anything, and we're not married but still it makes feel like garbage feeling sex it's so important that might destroy what we have.
I tried my best helping even buying stuff for her everyday cause she can't get out of the house. Stopped going to the gym and hanging out with my friends cause she needed someone by her side.
But I'm losing strengths and I don't know how to talk to her about this; this situation also put her on a deep depression and every comment I make blames it on herself. Anyone on a similar situation that may spare an advice?
English is not my first language, sry for the possible mistakes.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | She's been sick for a year, we still don't know what disease is, been taking care of her, i'm exhausted and don't know if I'm attracted to her anymore. Don't know what to do. | She's been sick for a year, we still don't know what disease is, been taking care of her, i'm exhausted and don't know if I'm attracted to her anymore. Don't know what to do. | 4,923 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] confused after going on a pretty good date.
POST: I recently went for a coffee with a girl I didn't really know, to get to know her and that. It went really good, she was talking more than me, and there were no awkward pauses or that, and it felt pretty good.
So, I was away to ask to meet her again in the future, but she did that before me and went for a hug. At this point, I was thinking that this is pretty damn great :D
But... it's been a while since then and I haven't heard back at all, and I had no reply to my text asking to meet up again. Situation has left me a little confused because she seemed interested, but I guess not really? Why say meet up again?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | went on a date with a girl, went great, she asked me to meet again, haven't spoke since. Confused! | went on a date with a girl, went great, she asked me to meet again, haven't spoke since. Confused! | 4,958 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28 M], severe health problems, starting to feel like I'm running out of time.
POST: I just turned 28, and I've had a really hard life. As a child, I was sexually, physically and mentally tortured by my mom. As a result, I was diagnosed with severe depression, OCD, PTSD and pretty much the works, which I've been dealing with my whole life. Also have lupus.
I live with my dad who is extremely supportive, and is frankly keeping me alive. I see a therapist, and take 5 different medications. I honestly feel like I haven't made much progress. I don't have a job (therapist says it's not a good idea for me to be working at the moment) and don't have a car (too afraid to drive, and I don't think that'll change ever). I weigh 250 pounds (was 300 at one point), so I'm obese as well. I do get SSI, so I'm covered on health insurance / and some allowance.
I've been playing catch up my entire life, and lately, I've been wanting a relationship with someone. I do have friends (online only), but I also want to date. As far as experience, I haven't held a girl's hand or even had a kiss. I've tried okcupid, and even had a date which I thought went well, until she messaged me later saying I was too fat to find anyone.
With my situation, how do I get out there and meet people? I know this is a therapist question, but she's been at a loss at what I should do as well.
My dad insists I'm charming, and have a great personality, but I seriously doubt he'd tell me otherwise.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 28, horrible health problems, wondering how I can break free and find a relationship. Virgin, no car, no job, live at home, lupus. Need some support and suggestions on what to do. | 28, horrible health problems, wondering how I can break free and find a relationship. Virgin, no car, no job, live at home, lupus. Need some support and suggestions on what to do. | 4,375 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24F] with my friend with benefits [22M], met family this week. Are we dating?
POST: Last year I [24F]met my friend, let's call him Finn [22M]. Finn works full time in the Navy and was home for leave around Thanksgiving last year.
We met at a mutual friend's house and immediately hit it off. He added me on Facebook and asked me to visit one more time (on his last day of leave). I made the trip and it was a great night. I figured that was the last of it. A few weeks go by and Finn messages me on Facebook, inviting me to visit him. He is stationed in Hawaii. I agreed. I mean, Hawaii?! Fuck yeah! I stayed with Finn for 10 days in which I was wined and dined. Yes there was a lot of sex, but there was a lot of personal interaction I never anticipated.
Fast forward almost a year to this week. I visited Finn at his parents' house for a few days. Not only did I meet his family and have dinner with them, but I was also given a present. From conversation with his brother I knew he had told them about me previously. To top it off, his mom added me on Facebook. I like to believe if I were in a relationship, I would know, and it would be established. However, my friends think what Finn and I have is more than a friend's with benefits arrangement. What's really going on? I'm really confused.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I met my friends with benefits' family this week and received a Christmas present. Worried we might actually be dating. | I met my friends with benefits' family this week and received a Christmas present. Worried we might actually be dating. | 4,531 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Pappy's 60th- Help me Reddit, you're my only hope.
POST: Well you're not, but your help would be appreciated nonetheless.
My dad's turning 60 at the start of the Easter holidays.
He's had a rough couple of years (has only one fully functioning kidney, lost both parents- yes they were in their late 80s, but I'm guessing it doesn't get easier with age- a major heart attack and one of his brothers died recently during surgery).
I know it's expected, given that I'm the fruit of his loins, but he really is my hero. He came from a rural background (and I mean FUCKING rural- no electricity in the middle of a forest in India where the majority of his siblings still are) and with no support (there was nothing his family could give- 8 kids and that) managed to become a doctor, relocate to the UK and build a life for his family. All by himself.
Anyway, my mum and I were discussing what to do for his birthday seeing as it's a pretty big milestone, and he could do with cheering up since losing his brother, so we were thinking about taking him abroad for a couple of days.
The thing is, I can't think of where to look into.
So far, my ideas have been:
Barcelona
Blue Lagoon
..and that's it.
Despite being in the UK for almost 30 years, my folks only recently acquired their UK passports and so far we've checked out Paris and Rome, so other Europe-based locations would be good.
He likes 'things of interest' so just sitting on a beach probably isn't his idea of a huge amount of fun, and he's still recovering from a serious bout of gout so lots of walking's out as well.
So Reddit- any ideas? Thanks in advance.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My pa's turning 60 after a shit couple of years. Need short break ideas to cheer him up and show him how much we love him. | My pa's turning 60 after a shit couple of years. Need short break ideas to cheer him up and show him how much we love him. | 3,741 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] is sick of my GF [19 F] best friend [20 M], dealbreaker? Need advice!
POST: Hey reddit, I will do my best to keep it short:
I am dating a girl for a couple of months now and we harmonize perfectly in every aspect expect one: her fucking best friend.
They spend a lot of time together (shit like watching movies in bed etc.) and talk about intimate details of our relationship (like our sex life and when we have an argument etc.). In fact when they hang out, they are like a couple expect they don´t have any sex (at least what I know). He also has a girlfriend and from what I heard a few broken relationships because the girls could not deal the fact of him spending so much time with his "best girl-friend". He is also protective as shit about her.
My girlfriend always claim that she has absolutely zero sexual interest in him and thats why it works so well and the same for him (which I call 100% bullshit since they are both very attractive 19 year olds with hot bodies).
So now we are dating for quite a time and it starts to get serious but I am thinking about ending this because of her best friend. I tried to talk to her many times about this and every time it ends in tears and "please don´t let me choose between you both" and "you are both so important to me". But honestly I am not ok with sharing my girlfriend with another dude and to know that every time we hang out all together he knows every little detail about our bedroom stories and problems. I would not have a problem if she talks to a girl best friend about this (since I also talk about everything with my best buddy).
So either I am full of complexes and lack self esteem because I feel intimidated by her best friend or this is not normal and not worth the drama. Please reddit give me some opinion and advice on this, I feel bad about breaking up with her but I am afraid that the drama will go on the more serious our relationship goes.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl I date has a very very close bestfriend which she shares everything about our relationship etc.. I don´t feel ok with another dude being so close to her. Need advice on how to handle the situation. | Girl I date has a very very close bestfriend which she shares everything about our relationship etc.. I don´t feel ok with another dude being so close to her. Need advice on how to handle the situation. | 751 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend (21/M) of 1 year was invited to birthday dinner and told me (21/F) to join.
POST: Just last week, a mutual friend of ours invited people through a Facebook message asking them if they could come to her birthday dinner. My boyfriend was part of the Facebook chat, however, I wasn't part of it. He told me it would be fine if I went because I am also friends with the birthday girl, and with the others that are coming. I feel like I wasn't invited though because she didn't add me to the chat. I am scared that she made a reservation and that she will have some trouble getting her table because she has one extra person. My boyfriend told me to not worry about it because she probably assumes that I will be coming with him. Reddit, I'm worrying. Any ideas? Also, her birthday was actually yesterday and I texted her, in hopes she will say something about the dinner. My boyfriend also joked saying "Maybe she will invite you". But she didn't mention anything. Am I thinking too much?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Mutual friend invited people to birthday dinner through Facebook chat, boyfriend was invited but I wasn't . He told me to go and not worry because she probably assumes I will becoming. But I'm worried. What should I do? | Mutual friend invited people to birthday dinner through Facebook chat, boyfriend was invited but I wasn't . He told me to go and not worry because she probably assumes I will becoming. But I'm worried. What should I do? | 4,573 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Current situation involving a girl I have known for a long time.
POST: So this is mostly just to vent and to end my feelings. I feel like I have to tell someone I am done. I have known this girl for over a year. When i first met her we had a connection even though she had a boyfriend. I did nothing but tried to be friends. We became close. When they broke up (due to his constant cheating) I got drunk and asked her out 2 days after (it was a mistake I know). Fast forward a month and I go over for one of her roommates going away parties. It was a set up to get me and her alone together so she could kiss me and tell me she like me a lot. We set up a time to go on a date after I went to a wedding for my cousin. During the time I was gone she got back together with her ex. She said she was confused and didn't want to through away a 3 year relationship. Even though I had feelings I agreed to be friends for now. Tonight I go to a party at her house she invited me to. I leave to go to the bars and she asks me to come back after they close. I do. The short of the rest of the story is a guy who is friends with one of her friends friends, ends up going to bed with her. I have put myself out there more times than I should of and I am done. I do not have the time or patience to wait on her to make a good decision. I do feel bad about it but I cannot and will not keep putting my heart on the line only to see it trampled on. It has been a long time since I have had these feelings towards someone but unrequited love is not worth it. Sorry to be venting so much but I wont go to my close friends with this due to the fact that they do not need more drama in their lives and so far I have been drama free for 3 years.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl goes back and forth between me and her ex. When she has the chance she picks some guy she just met over me. | Girl goes back and forth between me and her ex. When she has the chance she picks some guy she just met over me. | 3,403 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: my inability to take action is resulting in some major regrets now...
POST: I'll try to keep it short. One night this past year, a close female friend of mine came on to me. We had been talking about our views on friends with benefits, and I assumed that's all she wanted. However, it continued, and I think we both developed feelings for each other. I know I did. I was worried that if I asked her about it, and she didn't return my feelings, then our friendship would be ruined. So I said nothing, and we acted like nothing had ever changed. The end of the school year came (we go to the same college), and we both went back to our homes very far apart.
My inaction and lack of balls resulted in me never asking the burning question of whether she felt something, too. Is it too late? Are any opportunities that we had now long gone? Would it be seen as weird and clingy to call her and talk about it once and for all? I have a feeling that I missed my chance, and it's just something that I'm going to have to painfully get over, but I really like her, I'm hurting because I feel like I missed something wonderful, and it would help to at least hear you guys weigh in on it.
Thanks, and feel free to treat this kind of like an AMAA if you need more deets.
**EDITS**: me, male, age 20. her, female, age 20.
About AMAA...i lied a little. it's getting very late, time for bed. i'll keep checking back tomorrow, thanks for the answers so far!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | friends turned into fwb, turned into developing feelings. i was a wuss and didn't acknowledge or ask if she felt the same. gonna be apart for the next 3 months. is it too late?? | friends turned into fwb, turned into developing feelings. i was a wuss and didn't acknowledge or ask if she felt the same. gonna be apart for the next 3 months. is it too late?? | 1,868 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my ex-girlfriend [21 F] of seven months, I have feelings again?
POST: To be clear: this is a throwaway account not owned by Matt Damon: I couldn't think of any other name. anyways...
So, for a bit of backstory, and fake names will be used...I dated this girl Sam. Great girl, sweetest ever. My parents loved her, and still do. Truly the best girl I ever dated. But I was far from the best guy. I flirted with other women, I went out on a date once, I talked to other women and tried to sleep around but never did. I cheated because I found out I wasn't ready for a relationship yet, but didn't want to lose her. It's selfish, I know. It's terrible, I know. I'm not posting this for reddit to evaluate my morals, or lack thereof. I broke up with her because I was sick of living a lie, but never told her I cheated.
Fast forward a month after we broke up. We start talking again, as friends. First time was kinda awkward and we tried casual conversation but our breakup was brought up and i just froze, second time we hung out and we had sex. Every time after that, we hang out and do friend stuff, we act like we're in a relationship (really sweet to each other and whatnot, couple stuff), and we have sex. We both are talking to other people, though, but not committed to anyone.
Lately I've been thinking about her, and what I did. I was an asshole, no doubt about it. But this girl was truly the best thing that could ever happen to me, and the nicest. Just...perfect, I can't really describe her without filling up entire books. She told me (she's a senior in college, I graduated this spring) she's strongly considering going out of state for grad school. She doesn't know this, but it kind of screwed me up a bit, because I was thinking to try and rekindle the relationship, try on a blank slate this time, and going long distance is not what I have in mind for the future. We have something going on, some kind of connection, but i'm not sure what to do now.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Was an asshole, broke up, now realized she was the best thing to happen to me. Try to get back together, or let it go? | Was an asshole, broke up, now realized she was the best thing to happen to me. Try to get back together, or let it go? | 3,364 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My bike was stolen; I need some help proving there's good in the world (and just need some cheering up)
POST: Reddit, my fiancee bought me a shiny new red bike as a present last Saturday, and yesterday it was stolen from me. I was using it to commute to work all this week. I had it locked up on a bike rack in SoHo by the R-train, and it was stolen in broad daylight. While I feel angry that this happened, I've always believed that karma has a way of evening things out. Maybe someone's need was greater than my own. My fiancee, however, is really upset. She asks, "what's the point of doing good in this world, if this kind of shit happens to nice people?" That hurt. I still believe in the good in people, but I'm having trouble explaining it to her.
Reddit - can you tell me some of the good things you've done? I'll start: last month, I found an iPhone in a zipcar. I took it home, charged it to turn it on, and emailed the owner to return it to her. She said it was stolen from her a while back and she didn't ever think she'd see it again. When she offered me money, I told her that her smile was reward enough.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My bike was stolen; need some stories of redditors doing good to prove to fiancee that people are generally good. | My bike was stolen; need some stories of redditors doing good to prove to fiancee that people are generally good. | 5,419 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girlfriend (22F) spending 1on1 time with random guy i've (23M) never seen or heard of before while I'm out of town. Do I make anything of it?
POST: I'm out of town for about 2 weeks. A few days ago my girlfriend posts pictures of her and some random guy that I've never heard her mention and that I've never met. No idea who he is. But they're out on a hike together, clearly just them two. We've been talking every day since I've been gone but she's neglected to mention any of this to me, but she is obviously comfortable enough to post pictures etc on facebook knowing I'd see them. Just wondering if you guys think if I should mention anything or if I'm being overbearing. We never really hang out 1on1 with anyone else of the opposite sex and I don't think I'd ever feel comfortable doing so without giving my SO a heads up... let alone while she's out of town for an extended period...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriend is spending 1on1 time with an unidentified male while i am out of town, neglected to tell me anything about it but posted pictures on facebook* | girlfriend is spending 1on1 time with an unidentified male while i am out of town, neglected to tell me anything about it but posted pictures on facebook* | 1,796 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [18M] have lost all my girlfriends [16F] trust and don't think I can get it back
POST: Lately me and my girlfriend of a year have been having a rough time. She had a pregnancy scare, she is stressed about school and wasn't sure if she would be happier focusing on herself or not. She broke up with me and I being sad and wanting to be comforted texting an old friend of mine in which I used to have interest. I reminded this friend how I used to feel about them and that I'd like to hang out to be comforted, they agreed and said they used to feel the same. I told them I wouldn't be able to move on for a while and that I still love my girlfriend.
However, my girlfriend decided she wanted to be back together the following day. I told this girl who was planning on seeing me that I could no longer see her that day and me and my girlfriend ended up going on a fun date. It was a great time but on the way back home, while my girlfriend had my phone in her hand she got a text from this girl and got curious as to what she was talking about. She saw this and got terribly upset, wondering why I wouldn't just ask her to comfort me. I told her that I tried but she wanted nothing to do with me at the time and that I was looking for something similar to her, to recreate the feel of cuddling with her in hopes that I could feel a little better. She went hysterical and started crying like crazy, I felt bad, she no longer trusts me and decided that the only was we can stay together is if she forces herself to care less. I know this will make her eventually break up with me. I decided to delete my Facebook and all my phones contacts so I do not do this again, I know I won't and I now hate myself for being disloyal even in the slightest way. My low self esteem and need for contact has ruined my relationship and I do not know what to do to regain the trust I once had. Any advice?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my girlfriend saw my texts I sent to a girl while we were broken up and fighting and got really upset and thinks I do not care for her or love her, don't know how I could fix this | my girlfriend saw my texts I sent to a girl while we were broken up and fighting and got really upset and thinks I do not care for her or love her, don't know how I could fix this | 4,644 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 M] with my crush [20 F] Did I do something wrong? Attraction killed?
POST: Long story short, I approached a classmate at college, really cute girl. Because of my initial confidence she agreed to give me her number after 10 mins of talking.
Later that day sent a short follow up text and she seemed really excited and even called me later that night. But after she called I texted kind of forcing her to pick a time to go on a date with me this weekend. I was afraid she was trying to friendzone me so I forced her hand and she agreed amd picked a time on Sunday.
Well today I sent some texts saying I had special plans for Sunday and telling her my roommate was in the hospital. She replied a bit then totally stopped... and sent a very short text 12 hours later. The vibe feels so different.
Our date is Sunday. Do you guys think I showed way too much investment and put pressure on our date Sunday? Will she bail totally.. or just not talk much to me until Sunday to let her attraction recover a bit?
What can I do? Will I recover her attraction?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My crush/classmate agreed to date, but is taking long time to recent texts. Did I say too much too soon? Is she about to bail on date? | My crush/classmate agreed to date, but is taking long time to recent texts. Did I say too much too soon? Is she about to bail on date? | 4,917 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (26F) boyfriend's (26M) mother (63F) made him choose between us. He chose me but I'm scared she'll come back.
POST: This is such a confusing story, thanks for reading. I've been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years, we are both 26. We dated casually to start but fell in love and both think this is going to last for a long time. We're very happy together.
Around 8 months ago I met his mother. She doesn't live near us, so I have only met her a couple of times, over a short period. I thought we got on well. She loved me, because I am "rich and pretty" (her words - I'm not rich, and pretty is subjective). My boyfriend and I went on an expensive vacation that we'd both saved up for. It was amazing. It was then that she started making derogatory comments. Saying that it was a waste of money etc. Then suddenly I was no longer invited to family events. If he would go to visit her, I wasn't welcome. It got worse. To summarize the next couple of months: it got worse until she ended up making him pick between me or her. I have no clue why. Long story short we are happy together and he has cut her off, but it wasn't without a lot of hassle including death threats to us both, and I think my boyfriend is very traumatized by what happened, although he won't talk about it.
Since then we have had no contact apart from she sent him a Christmas card. However. I am SO scared she will come back. I worry that she will manipulate him into leaving me, and do terrible things to us. What can I do to get over this? What can I do to prevent this happening? What do I do if she comes back? Also, what can I do to support my boyfriend? My family has welcomed him but I worry it's not the same.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend's mom made him choose between me or her, he chose me, I'm scared we haven't seen the last of her. | Boyfriend's mom made him choose between me or her, he chose me, I'm scared we haven't seen the last of her. | 5,655 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Can someone take back something they gave to you as a gift?
POST: My uncle was staying with my grandfather for about a year. He was slowly throwing away my grandfather's old things (television sets, bath towels, etc) and replacing them with new things he bought and gave to my grandfather as gifts.
He suddenly gathered up *everything* he ever purchased in my grandfather's house (even if it was a Christmas gift from 30+ years ago) and left with it. My grandfather is in a tight spot now because he's missing a lot of items he's come to depend on.
One of my friends said that if something is given under the agreement of a gift and then it is taken back, that can be considered property theft. I know so little about all this, but I can't help but feel it's wrong (at least on a moral level). Is there any legal backing, or is my grandfather just out of luck for accepting gifts?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Uncle threw away grandfather's things, slowly replaced them with new things; recently took every purchased item and moved out without warning. | Uncle threw away grandfather's things, slowly replaced them with new things; recently took every purchased item and moved out without warning. | 1,857 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Redditors who have picked up and moved across the country, what advice do you have for someone who wants to do the same?
POST: I am 22 and live in Michigan, and I am giving myself a year to save up and move to California. I took a road trip there when I was younger and loved the Pacific Coast Highway and Yosemite, and I need a change of scenery, so why not? I just don't know how to get started besides planning a route and calculating the cost of gas.
The rough plan right now is for me to sell my car and motorcycle next summer, buy a truck, sell all my furniture/non-essentials, pack up whats left, and head west after Labor Day. I have relatives I can stay with in Kansas and Colorado, and I will probably spend a week or two staying at my grandparents farm in Kansas since I don't see them very often. My roomate wants to join too, and he's never been to the west coast. Once I get there I want to get a job in Yosemite during the spring, but that isn't set in stone, and I'd need a job over the winter (maybe working at a resort in Lake Tahoe?) And I have an 8 year old husky, which should make finding a place to stay interesting.
How do I start the planning, or do I just have a few thousand dollars saved up and wing it?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Saving money for a year, selling everything, buying a truck, and move to California with my dog and roomate. What should I know/consider/plan for? | Saving money for a year, selling everything, buying a truck, and move to California with my dog and roomate. What should I know/consider/plan for? | 4,393 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I want to lose weight; bf likes me how I am. Please help! (Throwaway)
POST: I (F21) and my Boyfriend (M23) have been going out for 2 years, and its my first serious relationship.
I am a bit overweight (61kg/132lbs on a 5 ft 5in frame), and am taking measures to remedy this. It was mainly caused by myself going to university, and though I walk everywhere in the city it hasn't been enough to keep the weight off.
I've started cutting out unhealthy foods, eating smaller portions and swimming 2-3 days a week. I only started about 2 weeks ago and so it hasn't really made an impact visually, but I am feeling a lot livelier after the change in diet. (If anyone can give me any advice or point me to useful subreddits it would be truly helpful!)
The problem is my boyfriend. I should start by say that I realise how lucky I am to have a boyfriend who appreciates me as I am and doesn't pressure me into doing anything, I love that about him.
The problem is that whenever I mention losing weight he gets kind of pouty and says that he likes me the way I am. He says he likes my 'curves', but all I see is fat that needs to go. I'm scared that he won't like me as much if I lose weight.
I would really like his support in this. I don't want to lose much, only 10kg/20lbs; but it would make a world of difference to my confidence. How can I get him to see that? I don't want him to find me unattractive, but I don't find myself sexy at the moment. Please help?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Want to lose weight, boyfriend says he likes me the weight I am. Would really appreciate his support in losing weight, please help! | Want to lose weight, boyfriend says he likes me the weight I am. Would really appreciate his support in losing weight, please help! | 4,614 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [24/F] My boyfriend's friend [26/M] is maybe a little too friendly?
POST: I have a boyfriend of.. I want to say maybe 3 months now. Relatively recently (within the past month or so) he introduced me to one of his closest friends. He's a man who's been in a relationship with a woman for the past 8 years. Within the time we've been introduced up until today, I've become fast friends with him, enough of one to the point where we have each others' phone numbers and IDs for various gaming stuff.
From my past experience, and I realize it might be different for others depending on the situation, it's usually good to get along with your SO's friends, but I've never had someone like that send me so many messages throughout the day and want to do stuff with me. Moreso than my SO. Text messages all the time, game invites after work.. I just don't know what to think of it. His girlfriend also does these things, but it seems like he's excluding her almost every night. There's nothing sexual at all exchanged in the messages, but he does have a tendency to bring up a ton of inside jokes. Should I be worried?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend's friend (who's been in an 8-year relationship) is messaging me constantly and wanting to spend time with me almost every day at night... what gives? | Boyfriend's friend (who's been in an 8-year relationship) is messaging me constantly and wanting to spend time with me almost every day at night... what gives? | 6,442 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Guys, what are your thoughts on virgins?
POST: I'm almost 20 years old and still a virgin (mainly because I haven't had the opportunity to bang anyone I actually *like*) and I'm not entirely sure how I feel about it. I'm not saving myself or anything, but I don't want to sleep with the first guy that's probably hitting on me either. You know?
Anyhow, I've seen plenty of questions asking the reverse, but I am really curious about the male perspective. Mainly because so many guys I've spoken to have said things like "Yeah, she was a virgin so I had to take one for the team there" and "I don't understand the whole 72 virgins thing... who wants a virgin anyway?" etc. To be completely honest, it makes me a little bit self-conscious. (They probably don't know I haven't had sex; I usually know what I'm talking about and am pretty comfortable with the topic, even if I don't know first-hand)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | There isn't anyone on the immediate horizon, but if I am going to sleep with a guy and I tell him I'm a virgin, will he secretly be thinking about how horrible I will probably be? | There isn't anyone on the immediate horizon, but if I am going to sleep with a guy and I tell him I'm a virgin, will he secretly be thinking about how horrible I will probably be? | 4,988 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 F] is torn between my passive BF [24M] and aggressive guy [22M]
POST: I have been in a serious relationship with my best friend for the past 6 years now. Lets call him Mr Deer. Everything about him is great, hes kind, hes supportive, sweet, caring, kinda romantic in his weird way but nonetheless, hes great.
The thing about him is that hes too passive. Sure, he holds me when we go out, gives me plenty of kisses, gives me sweet loving sex. But he just doesnt seem to hold any sort of aggression. Hold it, i know its a good thing. The thing is, i love rough sex. Spanking, domination, Whips and just all round rough sex. Think 50 Shades of Grey without the bad literature. I did talk to him about it, but he just cant bring himself to do it. Its really sweet, but sex in the bedroom is getting quite boring.
I met a new guy a year back and we have been chatting recently. Well, yeah you guessed it. Hes a kind of a bad boy. Unlike Mr Deer, hes quite the manly man. Muscles, the great hair- just imagine a lion. yeah. hes quite like that. After dating a passive male for the past 6 years, i was drawn to him like a moth to a flame. For the whole year, we have been talking on and off, but the UST (underlying sexual tension for those people who dont know) Has been super intense and one day i did the unthinkable and i slept with Mr Lion. but OH MY GOD. it was the best sex i ever had.
The thing is, i never really was ready for a serious relationship but somehow Mr Deer and i just kinda escalated way too fast. I honestly dont think things would work out with Mr Lion. So i'm just sitting over here, behind my screen feeling like a slut while two men shower their love over me.
What should i do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Should i stick to passive sex ( Mr Deer) for the rest of my life or go for aggressive sex ( Mr Lion) ? | Should i stick to passive sex ( Mr Deer) for the rest of my life or go for aggressive sex ( Mr Lion) ? | 3,238 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Every time I [20F] start getting romantically involved with someone the attraction disappears - only to come back quickly once I've ended things
POST: It's becoming a bit of a problem for me that no matter how much I am attracted to a guy, the moment he begins returning my affections in an explicit way I suddenly find almost everything he does annoying - this includes everything from the music he listens to, to him asking how my day was.
It's been a reoccurring pattern, although one I originally pinned on moving too fast with guys I didn't really now etc. However, in the last year or so I've been involved with two guys who I felt very very strongly about initially but for whom feelings quickly dissipated, which made me wonder whether there was something slightly deeper.
A few months ago I went on a some dates with one of my best friends (20M) who I'd been hung up on for about half a year. He was super super keen, but within a couple of weeks I felt so frustrated by everything he did I blew him off. Within a month, I was infatuated again. This happened in almost exactly the same way with my previous (sort-of) boyfriend (21M), with almost exactly the same gripes of trying to take up too much of my attention/time, sending me too many messages, asking to meet up over holidays etc. - things which I have no problem with in principle and really appreciate when coming from my friends. Likewise, very soon after breaking up I started to feel really attracted to him again.
This is maybe perfectly normal?? A sign of immaturity?? I've never been in an even remotely serious relationship and feel jealous of my friends who manage to maintain them, but can't seem to sustain attraction for long enough. If this is something I'll grow out of, fine, but it doesn't seem to be a major issue for anyone I know and its affected my relationship with anyone I've ever started to get serious with. Why do I feel like this and is there anything I can do?
(Sorry if this seems like a bit of a petty issue, but my friends are crap at relationship advice and I'm not sure where else to ask!)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Keep getting involved with guys only for any attraction to quickly dissipate once things start to look more slightly more serious. Two recently in particular I felt very strongly towards, and those feelings quickly returned a short while after ending things. | Keep getting involved with guys only for any attraction to quickly dissipate once things start to look more slightly more serious. Two recently in particular I felt very strongly towards, and those feelings quickly returned a short while after ending things. | 1,562 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my "girlfriend" [17 F] trying to find out what the hell is going on
POST: Ok so I have been "dating" this girl L for about 3 weeks. We have been hanging out we went to see a dance recital watched movies and just general hanging out stuff. However I have no idea what i'm doing and thus i'm not sure if this is actually a relationship. Or how to make it an official one without being insanely awkward.
Why can't I tell?
To summarize last year she got asked to prom with some guy she barley knew so we ended up hanging out at after prom then hanging out and wandering the town until 3AM. During this time I had opened up about my depression(I had burns on my arms) which stemmed largely in part about me being confused about my sexuality.
So now i'm wondering if all this hanging out just makes me her "gay friend" or if we are unofficially dating, And what I should do in either situation?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | In a "relationship" trying to make it official, but I have no idea what i'm doing and am hoping i'm not just her "gay friend". | In a "relationship" trying to make it official, but I have no idea what i'm doing and am hoping i'm not just her "gay friend". | 1,775 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My husband [28M] has anger problems that scare me [28F], how can I make him see the problem?
POST: I've been with my husband for 10 years, married for 4. Overall we're very happy. No infidelity or money issues and we're both on the same page for the big stuff like kids, home ownership and where we'd hideout if there was a zombie apocalypse. There's just one thing that I can't cope with and it's getting worse.
He has real anger issues when things don't go his way.
He screams, shouts and throws things when he loses in a video game or if his sports teams concede a goal. If the playstation won't connect with the TV or the gadget he's trying to fix won't go back together he'll swear and hiss and generally become very unpleasant.
I'll say now that I have no fear for my personal safety. Although he can be violent, it's never to me or any living thing. That isn't the source of my concern.
I grew up with a very violent and abusive father. The whole family walked on eggshells around him because you never knew what would set him off. I have mental and physical scars from my childhood and one of them is a deep fear of angry men.
I have explained this to my husband in every way I can think of. I've spoken to him when he is calm, pointed it out to him when he is getting angry and, unproductively, engaged in long arguments about it when he is in a full blown rage. Nothing I can say or do seems to stop him, he won't remove himself from the things that make him angry. He won't turn off a game when he starts to get mad, he refuses to step away from his triggers and just calm down. If I point out that he's getting angry, he just gets worse and will swear nastily at me.
His anger causes anxiety attacks in me, I can't help but be reminded of a time when I had to fear a man I should have been able to trust. He knows this and yet refuses to change.
What can I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | SO of 10+ years gets incredibly angry, knows I have anxiety issues because of it but won't stop. What do I do? | SO of 10+ years gets incredibly angry, knows I have anxiety issues because of it but won't stop. What do I do? | 6,048 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Last week one of my closest friends and life-long neighbors stole all of my and my roommates rent money to support his gambling problem I didn't even know he had. How have people surprised you in the worst way possible?
POST: About 2 weeks ago my wallet went missing with about $500 cash in it. I tend to misplace things constantly so I went about searching for it. After a few days I humbly ask my parents to spot me the money and I would pay them back once I found my wallet. Fast-forward to this past Sunday. While I'm at work I check my bank account to make sure I have enough money and there are $400 dollars worth of charges made with my ATM card in the town around my house. I cancel the card and immediately call the police to start filing a report. Since all the money was taken out at ATM's I figured we would find whoever did it pretty quick because of that nifty little camera that looks at people's face as they take money out. I go back to working and finish my shift with my buddy. We leave with the intention of stopping at the police station to finish filing the report. On the way there he reveals that he had taken the money off the card to "help get out of some trouble with a bookee." I flip out and scream at him for about 10 minutes. We get to the police station and I tern him in. They charge him for the full amount in the wallet and off the card. I don't know why he rode with me to the station. I guess he thought since we were best friends and my feelings about police I wouldn't tern him in. He guessed wrong. So reddit, what ways have people surprised you in the worst way possible?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Best friend, life-long neighbor, and co-worker stole roughly $900 dollars from me and then rode with me to the police station not thinking I would tern him in. He was wrong. | Best friend, life-long neighbor, and co-worker stole roughly $900 dollars from me and then rode with me to the police station not thinking I would tern him in. He was wrong. | 2,179 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] with my Girlfriend [23 F] 3 Months, How can I earn her trust if she's been hurt before?
POST: I've been dating this girl for a few months. We've taken things very slow, because every guy she's dated before has just used her for sex.
Our relationship is lacking most things physical to say the least. We hug and peck-kiss goodbye, but she told me she doesn't want to make-out or have sex yet, because she's been hurt before. She says she's trying to get over this problem, and that she's in therapy for it.
Also, whenever she talks about her future plans after college, I'm not in them, which makes me feel like she doesn't think we'll last. These plans include moving to another country.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | She's been hurt before, what can I do to earn her trust? And why does she not see me in her future? | She's been hurt before, what can I do to earn her trust? And why does she not see me in her future? | 2,527 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: Should I say something to her?
POST: So I've known this girl for a about 4 months now and helped her through a breakup...or at least what I thought was a breakup. She has cried to me down the phone about 5 times, saying how much of a dick this guy was and she doesn't know why she still likes him. He treated her like shit but she still kept speaking to him and still does to this day albeit slightly less.
So when they *broke up* she was extremely happy and we went to my friends house and had a good night. Long story short we ended up kissing and I thought everything was going to be good. So we get speaking and we go for days out and spend nights together with my friends but nothing else has happened since the first kiss which I don't mind since she has just gone through a breakup and I know it takes time. But as we speak on the phone she keeps mentioning how her Ex is messaging her saying he misses her and how she should go to his house. Then she tells me that he has been ringing her trying to apologise but she tells him that she wants nothing to do with him. This just really starts to piss me off now since I like this girl and I think she likes me back from what I can tell and how we are together when we are around other people.
But, on Saturday we were at my friends house with around 6 other people...one of them being one of my best friend who just happens to be good friends with her Ex. We are partying all night and drinking when my friend tells me that the girl I like still speak to her Ex regularly and he thinks there Is still something there.
Now I can't get this feeling out of my stomach that I am just chasing nothing If she still likes this guy. I don't know whether to just ask her or leave it and hope that she stops speaking to him if we hang out more.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl I like and who likes me is still speaking to her Ex sometimes; don't know whether to confront her or leave it. | Girl I like and who likes me is still speaking to her Ex sometimes; don't know whether to confront her or leave it. | 5,799 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: (M/17) How to let go of a shitty friend (F/15)?
POST: I been friends with this cute girl for about a 2 years now. Although I am somewhat a little romantically in love with her (we hold hands, cuddle at home, give light kisses to each other but not in the lips), I still get jealous when she hangs around with guys and does stuff without me. Although I care for her deeply.
So far she's been doing stuff that I don't agree with which includes doing illegal drugs, drinking alcohol excessively, having sex with other girls, and hanging out with the wrong type of people like the druggie, gang-banger, shady type of people. I feel like telling her parents or reporting her to the police for drug possession so that she can stop endangering herself with these type of people, since she is and acts far too young to be doing all this.
Even though she is one of my best friends and I tell her to stop doing these things but she goes on how I'm being a too much of a "goody goody" in her words, I no longer want to be associated with this type of person, but I cannot help my self to break contact with her since I see her everyday at school, we talk almost everyday, she lives near me, and she is the closest I ever had to a girlfriend.
What can I do to ensure that I can successfully break away from her? And should I tell her parents about his?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | One of my best friend keeps doing illegal activities, how do I take her out of my life? and should I contact her parents about it? | One of my best friend keeps doing illegal activities, how do I take her out of my life? and should I contact her parents about it? | 244 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [21F] break up with my boyfriend [21M] of 1yr if my overly pious Muslim parents may prevent us from seeing each other? I feel guilty that he has to go through this.
POST: I was born in and live in the US, raised by immigrant Pakistani-Muslim parents. Although I was raised Muslim, I don't believe in or follow the religion. For the past three years, I've lived away from home during the school year. During this time, I met my current boyfriend (white, non-religious). We have a great relationship, no serious issues, and we're definitely serious about each other.
This year, my parents decided to move me back home so that I can get closer to my religion and "learn how to be a good wife for my future husband". Also, they've started looking for a husband for me and have no idea that my boyfriend exists. Yes, it's ridiculous. I don't know exactly how this will play out, but I generally need to get permission before leaving the house, usually can't sleep outside the house, can't stay out late, etc. We'll probably be able to see each other occasionally but all of this is obviously going to interfere with my relationship.
My parents would not approve of my relationship and I'm pretty sure my dad would get violent if I admitted to having a boyfriend. I currently am not financially ready to move out and live on my own. (this will hopefully change after I graduate in spring 2016)
Should I end my relationship so that my boyfriend can find someone who isn't so complicated? I feel so guilty that he has to be with someone who he has to jump through hoops to see. We do love each other a lot and he doesn't want to break up, but I'm afraid that staying with me isn't what will make him happiest. At the same time, I really need him, especially now while I'm dealing all of this stupidity at home. The thought of letting go of someone that gives me so much happiness and piece of mind seems impossible.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My religious parents are going to make my relationship difficult. Should I just end it before my boyfriend has through put up with too much? Is there any way I can maintain my relationship while living at home? | My religious parents are going to make my relationship difficult. Should I just end it before my boyfriend has through put up with too much? Is there any way I can maintain my relationship while living at home? | 896 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I need help keeping the type of girls i like.
POST: I'm a genuinely nice, considerate, and polite guy. I'm not a pushover by any means, but i find that being this way is what i'm most comfortable with. I'm kind of proud with the level of awareness i have when it comes to other peoples feelings. That said, i'm into girls that are kind of the opposite. Like bad girls, who might dress kind of gothy, have raunchy humor, and are assertive.
The problem is that when i go for these types their personality "adapts" to mine. They maybe try to seem nicer or polite than they really are, even though that's not their true personality. I think they see how i am and they fear i might judge them for not being like that. That's not true, and i know any kind of relationship won't really work if everybody's trying to be something they're not.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How do i go about making them feel more comfortable being tmeselves, without them turning overly self-conscious of how they act around me? | How do i go about making them feel more comfortable being tmeselves, without them turning overly self-conscious of how they act around me? | 1,126 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: I keep pushing friends away. I Like hanging out in groups, but not 1 on 1.
POST: I need help/advice. I'm 22 now, so most of my friends are in different states for college. I am anxious most of the time, crave alone time when I'm out with a friend, and can be very introverted. I like hanging out with large groups of friends, as almost anything can be made fun this way. However, due to my location, this is hardly ever the case.
I haven't seen or talked to any of my friends in a very very long time now. The only person I see regularly is my girlfriend. I have friends I talk to, but no actual close friends. I complain of feeling lonely, but if a friends asks to hang out, I feel almost sick just thinking about it. This leads my friends to think I'm being distant, or that I don't value their friendship.
It's just so awkward when it's me and 1 other friend alone. Nothing fun to do. Mostly quiet awkward talks.
Any advice?...anything? Not sure what's wrong with me.
Thank you,
-Heather
TL;DR: . Assistant: | lonely/bored. like groups of friends. hate 1 on 1. Only get 1 on 1 offers b/c most friends are far away for college. | lonely/bored. like groups of friends. hate 1 on 1. Only get 1 on 1 offers b/c most friends are far away for college. | 3,017 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by rolling out my hip flexor
POST: so I play a lot of sports mostly ultimate frisbee, and i recently injured my hip, more specifically, my hip flexor. apparently, this is a common injury for ultimate players, so my coach told me to take some ibuprofen, then stretch it out by using a hard ball of some kind and to put it on the floor. then i would have to put my body weight onto it right where my hip flexor was, then roll it out, however he didn't tell me how ridiculous i would look, so when i actually did it, it looked like i was humping/grinding the ground.
today i decided to roll it out; i grabbed a baseball, went upstairs to the guest room, put some headphones in and started doing my thing. since i was getting a bit bored, i started browsing 9gag in attempts to find something entertaining (i know.. i know.. i should have gone on reddit instead). everything was cool until i was loading a gif of a girl doing something stupid, then i feel a kick to my side. I look up and to my horror, it's my dad and he literally has the weirdest look on his face. he doesn't say a word to me, and just leaves the room.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my dad walked in on me stretching out my hip on the ground while i was looking at a picture of a girl on my phone and now he thinks i was humping the ground whilst staring at my phone | my dad walked in on me stretching out my hip on the ground while i was looking at a picture of a girl on my phone and now he thinks i was humping the ground whilst staring at my phone | 4,777 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend [25m] won't brush his damned teeth. I'm [22f]
POST: My boyfriend just doesn't care about brushing his teeth. His teeth are rotting, he has several cavities. And his breath is horrid in the morning, more than the average persons. I refuse to kiss him when his breath is like that and it hurts his feelings. But it tastes so gross. I havve told him why i hate it, and i asked him how would he feel if he could taste what seems like vomit in my mouth every time he kissed me. I have to pester him and basically be a mom to him until he brushes his teeth. If I'm lucky i can get him to do it once a day several hours after waking up.
He didnt used to be like this but depression + not taking care of yourself will sometimes have tis effect on people and their teeth. I get it. But goddamn it, I want to be able to kiss him and not feel sick.
Just last night i told him to brush his teeth before bed, but he had already laid down and said "But I'm comfortable. I can do it tomorrow." When he woke up, his breath was horrid as usual and i asked him to brush his teeth. He said sure but was trying to snuggle and his face was near me and his breath is just dreadful. I covered up his mouth with the blanket, he turned over and started pouting, saying i was being mean, and went back to sleep after ignoring me.
Im tired of this. His has tooth decay and i just want him to at least brush his teeth since his work makes it difficult for him to get to a dentist. Im not sure what im looking for here. I just want some assurance that I'm not being unreasonable here. He doesn't get that I hate the smell and I do not like kissing him when his breath is bad and it tastes like shit. I love him dearly. This is literally the only complaint I have.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my boyfriend wont brush his teeth and i think its gross. He thinks im just being mean, and just doeesnt see my side of it | my boyfriend wont brush his teeth and i think its gross. He thinks im just being mean, and just doeesnt see my side of it | 1,386 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by eating sushi
POST: Alright so I love spicy foods so whenever I eat sushi I make sure it's spicy.
I make like a sushi sauce kinda thing when I eat it, it's ghost peppers, wasabi, olive oil and soy sauce mixed (it's really good and spicy) so I'm making my sauce, cutting up the ghost peppers without gloves (idiot), then I started adding it in wth the wasabi, olive oil and soy sauce. I start mixing it and then cleaning up some of the mess I had made.
So here is where the fuck up begins. I usually use my fingers to spread the sauce onto the top of my sushi, so I'm spreading it on the tops of all my sushi and i have this massive fucking urge to scratch my eye. So immediately without thinking, I start going to town at scratching my eye, the lovely feeling of relieving a scratch, then it burns. This shit burns like a fucking whore with a yeast infection. My eyeliner began to drip down the one side of my face and the one eye is swelling and red. I look like a raccoon that just took 50 tokes. so now I'm sitting here with a paper towel soaked with milk on my eye, after rinsing it out for at least 1 hour.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | made hot sauce for sushi, spread it in the tops of each sushi and itched my eye. left with raccoon eye, and burning yeast infection sensation. | made hot sauce for sushi, spread it in the tops of each sushi and itched my eye. left with raccoon eye, and burning yeast infection sensation. | 147 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Can't convince my girlfriend that not eating isn't the right thing to do to lose weight. I need help, I'm desperate.
POST: I'm am 18 year old Male and my 18 year old girlfriend of 1 year and 3 months is overweight and wants to stop eating to lose weight, and she can't take it off her mind and that that is the right thing to do because nothing she ever tried before worked.
In reality, what she has tried before works, the problem is that she can't keep up with it. She says she just wants to be "normal" and enjoy a "normal life" like other people, eating what she wants and not be fat, and that that is unfair for her. Then, she falls into a hole of self pitty and guilt and demotivation, and stops making progress like she has done before and always ignore. She used to go to appointments at a nutricionist, and that doctor kept track of her weight month after month, after giving my girlfriend a list of what is most recommend for her to eat during breakfast, lunch and dinner (basicly, things that give her enough energy to go through the day and make her lose weight. It's about calory intake).
She keeps saying things to me like "I'm such a piece of s***, I should just die to end my suffering. Maybe if I stopped eating I wouldn't be such a whale, nobody wants to look at me" and it breaks my heart so much to listen to such things, I just want to grab her and shake her to make her head stop telling her those things, but I know that will only make it worse, and I don't know what else I can do. Please help me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Basicly what the title says. Gf wants to stop eating to lose weight, can't convince her that is wrong and for her to keep her diet plan that was actually working. | Basicly what the title says. Gf wants to stop eating to lose weight, can't convince her that is wrong and for her to keep her diet plan that was actually working. | 6,234 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I'm creating a comprehensive list of terrible office small talk. What's your least favorite thing people say when trying to make small talk?
POST: Here's the scenario: I've found myself in a new position in an office job. Being the new guy I've found that I have very little to talk to people about. Enter the terrible small talk. I like to take things that other people say and use them inappropriately or in the wrong context. For example, I heard "At least it's not Monday!" on a Tuesday probably 10 times yesterday. I like to take that phrase and say it on a Friday. Or also saying "At least it's not Friday!" on a Monday. I can't explain it, but this makes me incredibly happy.
I have various categories ranging from the day of the week, time of the day, weather, upcoming holidays, etc. I have about 70 entries right now, but I know there is so much more awful small talk out there that I'm missing out on.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I like extremely cheesy bad small talk, and I'm building a comprehensive list. What small talk phrases drive you crazy? | I like extremely cheesy bad small talk, and I'm building a comprehensive list. What small talk phrases drive you crazy? | 5,606 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Starting a new job on Monday... earlier today I setup a callback for the dream job.... HALP.
POST: OK, so I've been out of work since December 3rd. I applied at many many places and put out of my resume in a lot of good places. Including my Dream Job at Company "Huge People"
I actually have been turned down by Huge People's automated hoop jumping 4 times now... but I'm really qualified for the job. I have in depth background and it was literally my life for three years. (they are asking for people with 5-7 years experience)
Now, I have a job at Small People, I interviewed with them last week, they checked my references and made me a good offer that was right about the same amount of money that I was making before I departed my last job.
So an old friend send me an email today to say that a recruiter from "Huge People" had emailed him and he was going to check if it was OK to send to me. About an hour later I get the email forwarded to me and I replied back with a quick cover letter and my resume/references. One of my references works for "Huge People". Oh and Huge People would probably be double the pay of Small People.
So I'm looking for some advice... What do I do?
(I guess the more important question is if "Huge People" offers me a Job how do I handle "Small People"?)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I've taken an offer for a job from one company and a bigger company has now asked me for a phone interview tomorrow. How do I handle the situation? | I've taken an offer for a job from one company and a bigger company has now asked me for a phone interview tomorrow. How do I handle the situation? | 2,410 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Gf(21) broke up with me (m20) 3 days ago. We finally talked about how getting back together would work out.
POST: Basically, one of the reasons we broke up was she felt I wasn't maturing along with her. I am in college and have been putting off getting a job. We live 2 hours and 30 minutes away, and I was worried we wouldn't get to see each other. I realize now that's extremely stupid and we need to plan for our futures if we want a good one together.
She said she needs to see I've matured and am serious. She also says I need to do it for myself and not for her. I absolutely want to better myself but in the long run, I need her back and it's one of my motivators for this. How can I go about doing this? How do I prove to her I've grown up (besides getting a job) and not make it seem like I'm just doing it to get her? Any advice is welcome.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Gf broke up with me, and if I want to get back together I have to prove I've grown up and am serious about my future. | Gf broke up with me, and if I want to get back together I have to prove I've grown up and am serious about my future. | 2,503 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19 M] am finding that when I meet a girl, I get turned off if I find out that they are in a sorority
POST: So I'm in college and trying to meet as many people as possible. For some reason, I tend to immediately get turned off if I find out that a girl is in a sorority. I am personally not the most social person and don't really like going out to many parties, but that is exactly what a lot of these girls love to do.
Specifically, there is this girl in one of my classes that I like and we get along really well, but she's in a sorority. Let's say, for example, we started to date. I don't know how comfortable I would be knowing that she would be at these party's, while she, and many other guys, would be drunk.
Is it in my best interest to not pursue girls who are in a sorority? Or do I have a false sense of what some of these frat and sorority parties are like and give it a shot?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Tend to get turned off when I find out a girl is in a sorority, mainly because I dont necessarily enjoy parties very much and that's what a lot of sorority girls love to do. | Tend to get turned off when I find out a girl is in a sorority, mainly because I dont necessarily enjoy parties very much and that's what a lot of sorority girls love to do. | 792 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (17F) boyfriend (18M) has seemed to have shut down lately...
POST: He's just become very... mechanical. We've been friends for about 3 years now, and we've been together for about 3 months (not a very long time, I know.) I think we're reaching the point where everything is settling down in the relationship. It's lost some excitement.
Now don't get me wrong, I still absolutely want to be with him and we still love each other, but I'm just beginning to feel neglected. He isn't as sweet as he used to be, doesn't compliment me like he used to, and it's nearly impossible to hear him say "I love you" without being prompted. He'll be sitting at the computer on Reddit or something and I'll ask him to come sit with me on the couch, but most of the time he won't anymore (or I have to practically drag him from the computer to get him to.) He hardly ever holds my hand or puts his arm around me anymore unless I initiate it, and it's just a bunch of things like these that make me feel unwanted.
That being said, when he's not acting like this our relationship is great and we have really good chemistry. Our sex life is good, we still go out on dates, he's not shy at all about bringing me around his family (hell, I'm pretty much part of the family by now,) and we're just all around happy together.
But any time I try to bring up his neglectfulness, he always counters it with "no, I did xyz the other day" (referring to one of his "nice" bouts.) And I can't argue with it... Or at least I don't know how to. It's more of a general feeling that specific instances, so it's hard to come up with specific examples. He always asks for proof to back up my feelings/opinion on the subject.
So how do I get him to understand what is happening? How can I rekindle the initial feelings from the beginning of the relationship?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My boyfriend has become increasingly mechanical and neglectful lately, and has a hard time believing me when I point it out. How can I fix this? | My boyfriend has become increasingly mechanical and neglectful lately, and has a hard time believing me when I point it out. How can I fix this? | 2,215 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: Is going to David's Bridal *JUST* to look a terrible idea?
POST: So, my wonderful /r/weddingplanning people (my new family, now that I'm engaged...ahhhh!), I need some advice.
As I stated, I am newly engaged, as of yesterday. We aren't planning on getting married until 2016, so I have plenty of time to plan. However, we've been discussing our plans for our wedding for quite awhile, so I already know basically what I want on most levels, and just need to find the realistic options.
This includes my dress. I know the exact style I want, the fabric, and the color, the choice will just come down to how much detail is on the dress itself.
I don't plan on going dress shopping seriously for about a year, but I am going down to visit my mom in a few weeks, and she wants to go dress "looking" with me while I'm there.
I already told her if we go I don't want to go for very long, because my fiance will be at home with me, and I don't want to leave him alone with no one to hang out with for forever.
SO! My idea is to go to David's Bridal with my mom for an hour or two. I don't plan on buying from them, because of all the horror stories I've heard, and I figure they have enough of a selection that I can show her the basic style I'm looking for.
Is this idea idiotic? Am I going to randomly fall in love with a dress from a store I never want to give money too just because I'm emotional and with my mom and then freak out because I didn't want to buy it yet?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Is it stupid to go dress shopping at David's Bridal when I have no intention or ability to buy a dress just yet?* | Is it stupid to go dress shopping at David's Bridal when I have no intention or ability to buy a dress just yet?* | 6,027 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23,F] want to call off my wedding to my Fiance [24,M] 3 months prior to the wedding, Advice!?
POST: So kind of a long story, but I am in desperate need of some advice.
I am supposed to be getting married in just over 3 months, but lately I have not been feeling the same about my fiance as I did when he proposed.
I have been falling out of love with my SO for quite some time, but tried and prayed that it would get better the closer we got to the wedding. I am not attracted to him anymore, the thought of kissing him makes me sick, and I barely even listen to him when he goes off on boring work rants. He's also got some issues he needs to work on.. I don't know how many times i've been called a stupid bitch, to calling me a asshole, etc.
Anyways, last night I broke the news to him that I do not think this wedding should take place. He cried for what felt like forever and tried to convince me that we just need some counselling. Honestly, I don't even want to try that as I just want to move on and do things for myself and not anyone else.
My biggest worry is his family finding out and hating me forever. They are religious and my SO is very much their little boy - they spoil the shit out of him. My family, on the other hand, has been supportive with my decision and said not to worry about the thousands of dollars deposits we've put down.
I need advice on how to handle this, I feel like I am going to have a mental breakdown just thinking about it. Do I give counselling a shot? or do I cut the relationship off at the knees completely? Any advice is appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My wedding is in 3 months and i'm in the process of calling the whole thing off - about to have mental breakdown please help! | My wedding is in 3 months and i'm in the process of calling the whole thing off - about to have mental breakdown please help! | 4,700 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Given all the talk about copyright lately, do you think that copyright hinders quality?
POST: This is a thought I've had recently. The entertainment markets are so flooded with mundane, average media. From music, to movies, to [books](
I've been trying to figure out why so many people are trying to be authors, musicians, or make indie films. It's not just because they think they have good ideas. I think it has to do with getting paid to do something you don't hate, or even love, even if you're only mediocre at it.
Back before the internet, the cream still rose to the top because of how difficult distribution was. Only the best stood out. Fewer choices, but better quality. Now anyone can call themselves a musician with a webcam and some guitar lessons. Anyone can distribute a book online. Anyone can shoot a movie and edit it on their Macbook.
I have a hard time finding good quality entertainment, especially music. It's not that the good ones aren't making music; it is that I don't have the spare time to hunt them down through the hordes of the average.
Do you think that we have so many people trying to make a quick buck because of the way the copyright laws are written? If you you could only only own a copyright for 14 years, would you put in the effort to make a mundane one-hit wonder?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I know the issue is multi-faceted, but do you think a big reason for the entertainment market being flooded is the way copyright law is written? | I know the issue is multi-faceted, but do you think a big reason for the entertainment market being flooded is the way copyright law is written? | 6,207 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should i feel selfish for feeling this way?
POST: Background Story:
For the past 6 months my best friends sister and I decide to start dating. Ive been friends with her too, we've known each other since we were kids and hang out all the time. So in all, we have known each other for 10 years. There is an age difference between us (her 19 and im 25). I see her as an equal maturity wise, hell shes more so than I am. We have seen each other at our worst, we always laugh and have a good time. Plus, we didnt feel comfortable dating other people because we didnt have as much fun as we do with each other, hence why we both decided to see where this would go.
Now to the issue:
I hardly hear from her. We are both so busy with college and working, we just see each other on the weekends. I work about 50-60 hours a week along with being a full time college student. She works like 20 hours and is also a full time student. I always find time to ask her how her day is and how shes doing, but she never asks how im doing, even randomly or after I ask her. I dont see myself as "needy", I dont feel like I have to talk to her every second of the day. A few weeks ago she had an allergic reaction to something and had to be taken to the hospital. I found out about it via facebook. Alot of the times I find out whats going on through her mom. Hell when we are together in person, everything is alright. Ive talked to her about it saying "well, just let me know whats up from time to time." and she agreed (this was before the trip to the hospital). Shes admitted this is the furthest shes been in a relationship.
Also, I feel like if I asked her to let me know whats up or see how things are going is like asking someone to care. I think caring should be common knowledge, and not bound to how much dating experience you have. It only takes a couple seconds to type out a text message.
Thanks ahead of time for the advice.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend does not let me know how she is doing or ask how I am doing, Doesnt know whether to feel selfish or not | Girlfriend does not let me know how she is doing or ask how I am doing, Doesnt know whether to feel selfish or not | 2,471 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23 M] want to restore a set of old friendships [23 M/F] that fell apart for various reasons. Is it worth it? How can I do it?
POST: Back in high school, I was in a fairly tight-knight group of friends. We were nearly inseparable until about two years ago when things kind of hit the fan. Basically, my ex started dating one of my close friends in this group. I didn't really care very much but she decided she wanted nothing to do with me and refused to be in my presence, so as they started hanging out more with my other friends, I started seeing them less and less.
So people took sides and about half of my friends at that time stuck with me and the other half stuck with them. It wasn't really a conflict, just that she wouldn't see me and it kind of created a rift. Now, they've broken up; in fact, there's been pretty much a full turnover of romantic relationships on their side of things, and I want to try and rebuild bridges. I feel the bridges weren't burned so much as abandoned and neglected.
But I don't know how to do this. It's been two years and I've had very little contact with them. I miss them sorely and want to hang out with them again. How do I do it? Should I even try?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Old, close friendships fell apart for silly reasons two years ago, don't know how/if I should get them back together | Old, close friendships fell apart for silly reasons two years ago, don't know how/if I should get them back together | 5,118 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What is one event or action you thought was insignificant, but later realized it changed your life?
POST: For me, drivers' ed not too long ago. There were only 3 other kids in my class, and 1 never showed up, so that leaves 2 other students just wanting to get a permit and get out. I can't remember the first girl's name, but the second girl - Sarah. I remember her name because I see her everyday. It started with having to go with her on driving practice (because the teacher was male and apparently there had to be another person in the vehicle to prevent rape or something), then eating lunch with her at actual school, and since she sat with all her friends, I was introduced to a new group of people I had only heard the names of, but never met. They are the most funny, smart, and nicest people to be around. I'm so glad that I took drivers' ed when I did. The ironic part is that after drivers' ed one day, I went to a friend's house. After getting to know Sarah and her friends (who became my friends as well), I no longer hang out with that one friend anymore. (I moved on basically, nothing like "we're no longer friends" ever happened, we just stopped hanging out.) I told her that if it wasn't for her, I wouldn't have the friends I have now, and that I'm thankful for her. I don't know if she truly understood the significance.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I met a girl in drivers' ed, and from there I met her friends, some of whom became my best friends in the world. (Some of them are redditors!) | I met a girl in drivers' ed, and from there I met her friends, some of whom became my best friends in the world. (Some of them are redditors!) | 6,206 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17 M] just read a comment that makes me feel quite hopeless.. /r/relationships, is it true that it's always the same experience you have with someone you like?
POST: >Those who have dated a lot (and the people who made Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind) will tell you that you end up desiring the same type of person over and over again. It's the same restaurants, the same conversations, the same jokes, the same view of familiar places, the same stories of your childhood told to a slightly different person with slightly different looks and habits. A slightly obscure author said, "I like young girls. Their stories are shorter."
Is this true? Because it makes me lose all hope of ever having a meaningful relationship with anyone if all I'm ever gonna find in someone else is just some lesser version of [this](
Hell, I got depressed watching Her because the main character seemed to be doing and saying things almost exactly the same as I did. So if she (a girl I liked ) is all that I'm gonna see in someone else, then what's the point in any of this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | In your experience, does it always feel the same when you like someone, as in do you act the same way? Say the same things? | In your experience, does it always feel the same when you like someone, as in do you act the same way? Say the same things? | 555 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I think my SO (20M) is making a mistake with his future and I (22F) don't know how to be supportive
POST: I have been in a relationship for about a year or so. It is currently LD but I am concerned with my parters choice. His current major in university is psychology which is a field that he is genuinely interested. However he has been feeling pressure to find a field that is more... flashy and money grabbing than research in psychology. This pressure mainly comes from his father who has already called his major and future degree a waste of money.
So my SO's idea was... law school. A field that he has no real genuine interest in. When I have asked him why he wishes to pursue law school, he says it's primary due to the prestige and money that comes with law school. I have quite a different vision of law school, I imagine large amounts of debt, stressful years of law school, and then miserable 60 hour week at some law firm.
Now, if he was truly interested in law and justice, then I would be all for pursing his dreams! But whenever we talk about it, he says he just wants it to be an decision that sounds like a possible future. It worries me because I want him to be happy but I think that his decision wont make him happy. He complains about all of his current classes all the time and complains about law school. When I expressed my concerns that being a lawyer is not just daisies and millionaires, he shut down and said that it's not what he wants to hear. (To be fair, I did it a bit harsh. I said that I want him to be happy and I don't want him to be complaining all his life about how unhappy he is with his job/school/yaddayadda).
Did I overstep my boundaries with expressing that I don't think law school will make him happy? How can I be supportive of him?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | SO doesn't have a concrete plan for his life (father is overbearing and overcontrolling) so he picked law school to get prestige and money. I worry that it will make him unhappy since he doesn't like it. | SO doesn't have a concrete plan for his life (father is overbearing and overcontrolling) so he picked law school to get prestige and money. I worry that it will make him unhappy since he doesn't like it. | 6,227 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: she doesn't know i know -- girlfriend's adderall prescription
POST: Well. I feel like an asshole due to the invasion of privacy but I'll explain that in a second...
It all goes back to when I was driving her car because I didn't have one at the time. I was looking for some kind of chapstick and found a bottle of adderall in the storage between the driver and passenger seat.
I didn't say anything for a couple weeks because I had no idea how to approach it. I finally brought up the subject in a "general" way and she told me that she had taken it a couple times when she lived in NYC (1.5 or 2 years ago) but does not take it currently. I THEN brought it up a week later, telling her I FOUND IT by accident, and she said that her therapist had prescribed it but she won't be taking it and won't be getting it refilled.
Here's the horrible part:
I looked at her text messages because part of me didn't trust her. What did I find? A text message to her therapist from this past weekend asking the therapist to refill the prescription for adderall.
How the hell do I approach this? I only ask because I'm not sure if I should be worried. Do I even say anything or do I just respect privacy? We live together. I'm aware this is amazingly hypocritical but shouldn't she be sharing this with me? Or no? This is the best relationship that's ever happened to me... curious if anyone else has experienced something similar.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriend told me she wasn't taking adderall, then I found text message to her therapist asking for a refill of adderall this weekend | girlfriend told me she wasn't taking adderall, then I found text message to her therapist asking for a refill of adderall this weekend | 650 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 2 years together, and we never fight. I'm going crazy.
POST: My boyfriend (26M) and I (26F) have been together for 2 years. We bought a house together, have a dog, and are on the fast track to the chicken dinner.
Here's my problem... We never fight. Barely even argue. Can this actually be normal?
I have always been very open, and I'm partially this way because I don't mind conflict. If he does something, I don't sit and let it stew until one day I freak out, I usually say it right away. I know this helps, but there are times I just want to have a good argument. Usually he kills it by apologizing or doing something to calm the storm. Next thing you know, it's over before it even started. And, for the most part, the issue somehow is resolved. When we first got together, I was amazed by this, but how can this still happen?
Also, he never starts anything with me. There's no way I've gone 2 years without pissing him off. When I confront him about this, he claims the things I do are never bad enough to start something. I'm afraid he's holding in everything he hates about me, and one day, he will just blow up. Is this just how guys are?
All of this is driving me nuts. So can not fighting in a serious relationship actually happen? Am I just searching for conflict? Does anyone have a relationship like this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | We've been together 2 years and have not had that "big fight" or any fights for that matter. Can this actually be normal or am I just searching for conflict? | We've been together 2 years and have not had that "big fight" or any fights for that matter. Can this actually be normal or am I just searching for conflict? | 3,584 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Me: 24/m. My divorced friends M/24 F/23. Clean-up?
POST: I'm friends with this couple that recently got divorced (about 2 months ago). I met her fiance-at-the-time through her and I was a groomsmen in their wedding. I hang out with him more than I hang out with her, but they were usually together anyway. The girl was VERY adamant about trying to hook up with me even while they were together. I never did, even though she's a solid 8.5/10 (redhead). Now that they're divorced, I was curious if there was a time frame before I let myself get a little bit more friendly. Note: I don't necessarily want to/ have to have sex with her, but it seems like that's what she wants. She's coming down from where she lives (about 2 hours North) to come hang out in my city, as she has family here. She wanted to spend the night at my house, which I ok'd because we have a spare bedroom and they've hosted me on myriad occasions. I guess I just wanted to know if it was ok to LET something happen. My male friend had told me that he'd prefer I didn't but if I did, he didn't want to know about it. Aghhhh
TL;DR: . Assistant: | A (girl)friend of mine just recently got divorced from one of my good friends as of two months ago. She wants it, can I give it to her? | A (girl)friend of mine just recently got divorced from one of my good friends as of two months ago. She wants it, can I give it to her? | 3,898 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Watched Monday Night's Colbert Report, and it hit me with a thought about Islam...
POST: Background: Like Colbert said, "Instead of fear, we ignored Muslims, like God intended". But WHY!?! Christianity and Islam has butt heads plenty, it's a HUGE religion, and is not only is it vast, but it incorporates numerous ethnic groups all over the place that seem completely distinct. I remember going on wikipedia and finding a bunch of ethnic groups in Europe being Muslim. And then I remember going on to another link through reddit (surprise, surprise) and found this photo journal of a man going through the world, and he photographed a people that lived on boats off of the Philippines (I think) that refused to live on land, and they happened to be Muslims also. Turks, Bosnians, Arabs, Somali's, Filipinos, to random converts. All Muslims. Please Reddit, if you're going to downvote, give me some damn reasons that matter in this situation.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Why don't we acknowledge that Islam affected the world so much in the West, even though a lot of things I read up to connects to Muslims somehow, some way. | Why don't we acknowledge that Islam affected the world so much in the West, even though a lot of things I read up to connects to Muslims somehow, some way. | 4,323 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Did I get stood up and if so what should I do now?
POST: This might be a bit of a rant but I'm just really confused at this point and I don't know what to do. So here's to start off I'm friends with this female who I've known for years and I never made a move on her. Recently she gave me what I assumed to be hints like direct eye contact and a smile out of the blue. A couple days ago I finally gained the nerve to ask her out to go eat together and she said yes and told me to message her. (Neither of us suggested a friend coming along or anything so I assume it was just one on one). So on the next day it's the go out day and I message her in the morning to meet up with me at ____ later and no response. Later I go there being the hopeful idiot I am and I just wait. Some more waiting.... I message her to ask her if she does plan on coming, no response. I'm pretty sure she was just ignoring my messages at this point... And I eventually go home. Hours later she messages to me that she has a boyfriend and I just... "Uh ok." Next day she greets me and smiles at me like nothing ever happened. At this point I have no idea how to react cause I sorta end up seeing her everyday and yea...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I ask girl out, she says message her, I do, I wait, she tells me she has boyfriend after a long time of waiting, she pretends nothing ever happen wit plans for outing | I ask girl out, she says message her, I do, I wait, she tells me she has boyfriend after a long time of waiting, she pretends nothing ever happen wit plans for outing | 6,276 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [25/f] my boyfriend [26/m] of 2 yrs doesnt put out and im having trust issues
POST: I mean what kind of guy doesnt want sex? I constantly have to initiate, and even when I do I get shut down the majority of times. We've talked about it many many times and he always says he will try harder but its good for like 2 weeks and then goes back to nothing. Ive asked him to go to the doctor and he says he will but never follows through.
now for the trust part- I know he looks at reddit gone wild and in the past ive found things- I hacked his reddit account (which i know is shitty of me) and found conversations with many girls who post naked pics. He posted for a casual encounter, which made us break up last year but we've since gotten back together. i also found fb messages asking to meet with a girl he had a one night stand with before he met me.
I know I shouldnt go looking through his stuff but everytime I do I find something.
now im scared to look again in case I do. We've talked about all this and he said he doesnt have a reddit account anymore and doesnt do that stuff anymore but I just cant regain my trust in him. I will always feel like hes emotionally cheating on me. We got back together a year ago and I havent looked at anything since then but im always going to wonder if he is still doing it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I dont know why my bf is searching for something else when im right here practically begging for sex. How do I trust that he isnt emotionally cheating? | I dont know why my bf is searching for something else when im right here practically begging for sex. How do I trust that he isnt emotionally cheating? | 2,766 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by Killing a bunch of guys in the Two Towers.
POST: So this didn't happen today but thought it was about time to share on this sub and I got bored at work so here we go.
So back in either 3rd or 4th grade I had got a present from my mom who was a fanatic of the Lord of The Rings series and knew I was getting into it as well and that I liked video games. So she bought the LOTR two towers game for Xbox and we played it all day and it was great. The FU happened the next day when I was in class and talking about my time in the two towers and how I was unstoppable, saying things like "I killed hundreds of bad guys" and got the secret level that allowed me to climb one of the towers killing people as I went on fought on the top. Well unfortunately one of my classmates had overheard the conversation and started crying and then went to the teacher. Then I got sent down to the office and had to wait for my mom to have a chat with the principle. Apparently the student thought I was talking about the September 11th attacks and that I was crazy saying that I killed a bunch of people. When I explained to the principle what the Two Towers was a game about the Lord of The Rings movie that I had played a lot with my mom yesterday.He seemed confused but my mom was much better explaining then a 10 year old but apparently the student who I offended had been affected by the September 11th attacks in some way. I apologized to the student and explained my FU but I never really got back onto talking terms ever with them and it was kind of weird in class for me for the next week or so.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Played the LOTR Two Towers game and was mistakenly overheard that I assaulted the twin towers in September 11th and killed a bunch of people. | Played the LOTR Two Towers game and was mistakenly overheard that I assaulted the twin towers in September 11th and killed a bunch of people. | 3,963 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: How concerned should I be about making sure a new business name is available?
POST: About 2 years ago I took up homebrewing as a hobby and recently I've been thinking about giving my operation a name and investigate possibly going pro a few years down the road if everything goes well.
I recently thought of a name I love, but a short Google search shows that some homebrewer has already used the brewery name on untappd.com and brewshuttle.com. It appears that the only person interacting with him/her are friends and family. Neither account has been used in at least 12 months. I've already checked the surrounding states for similar businesses or trademarks and came up with no results. Should the few uses on the websites be enough to make me rethink the name? Or is this worth pursuing?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | If someone used a business name on some online websites a year ago but hasn't registered it with a state authority, is it worth investigating using that name for a new business? | If someone used a business name on some online websites a year ago but hasn't registered it with a state authority, is it worth investigating using that name for a new business? | 1,166 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I'm thinking of applying for Pharmacy Technician position in San Antonio, TX
POST: However, I wonder if it's worth it.
Apparently certification is obligatory in Texas, so in order to even apply for the job, you will need to be certified and registered prior to applying (at least that's what I was told by a Walgreens technician).
Looking around I see books for $40 as a review for the test, $125 for the test, and a recurrent $40 every 2 years to maintain your registry status. Whilst the pay is around $9~$14 (I'm assuming you get $14 only if you have worked for a long period of time). Oh, and taking the test and getting registered seems to take almost if not over 2 months since you have to apply for the exam, take it, get results back, apply for registration, and then 2~3 weeks for it to be processed.
This makes me wonder if it's even worth the trouble.
I graduated from a university and have a bachelor's degree in Biology with a sad 2.5 GPA which hinders my ability to find a job in my field (or I suppose I lack a good understanding of my field, I've only worked as a research assistant before and that was work-study).
I thought of applying for a pharm tech position because I want to get a good understanding of what it entails to be a pharmacist from a hands on point of view. I considered the possibility of continuing my education (after accumulating some experience since with just the GPA will make me a laughing stock for the registrar office) in pharmacy, but question whether I am up for the job.
Don't get me wrong though, I actually do need a job. 20k in student loans isn't easy to pay off without some dough. Granted, my parents paid off most of it already but now I get to pay my parents.
I'm mostly hoping for advice, or you know, a job if you happen to have one laying around.
I'm also looking at research assistant jobs (I've mostly worked with budding yeast) but haven't received any replies yet or the job postings require experience I don't have.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Pharm Tech certificate required in TX, cost quite a bit, salary not much better than cashiers, is it worth it? I fail at college. I need a job. Cover letters suck. | Pharm Tech certificate required in TX, cost quite a bit, salary not much better than cashiers, is it worth it? I fail at college. I need a job. Cover letters suck. | 2,287 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: What's the best plan of attack for making up the 4 years I wasn't able to make money? (Age:19/Location:US/SC)
POST: Like with all of my threads, if there is any info you would like to know, just feel free to comment, I love answering questions.
Basic info:Live in South Carolina, out in the country, and make 8 dollars an hour doing clean-up work.
This might just be me overthinking things, and possibly making it sound worse than it is, but do you guys have any advice for someone who wasn't able to save any cash/work until he was 19?
i'm trying to put as much away as I can, taking as many side jobs/yards as I can handle, but I feel like it might not be enough. I do plan on doing some self investing (i.e. college) but not sure if I should start looking to do some actual investing (for example, mutual funds and the like)
In any case, I don't have any small/medium purchases, and some people and friends suggested a money market account for the time being, since i don't plan on doing anything too crazy.
I know a lot of people will say, Look at the sidebar! And you would be right, but I just like asking around for more personalized advice.
For anyone who'se curious, the reason I wasn't able to work/save money involves a parent who I no talk to, and their annoying tendency to raid my bank account for stuff she didn't need. Which is why I just gave up, and decided to focus all of my spare time into schoolwork.
Now that this is over, I currently make 8 or so dollars an hour, have about 350-360 USD in the bank, and not sure what to do with it. I've taken on extra hours, and hopefully plan on getting the max part time hours allowed.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 19 year old male worried about losing 4 years of earning potential, and wondering if I should just take it easy for the college years, or try and put a tiny bit away for intrest/ investing. | 19 year old male worried about losing 4 years of earning potential, and wondering if I should just take it easy for the college years, or try and put a tiny bit away for intrest/ investing. | 4,009 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Saw something I WISH I hadn't on family friend (65M)'s phone.
POST: So at a dinner we decided to google some lyrics on Terry's(65M) phone after his wife leads a sing-along and not everyone can join.
He begins texting some strange number that answers your query, so I think I'll be helpful and use safari and google to show him how to get an immediate answer as he is not the most technologically adept.
Problem is, the first thing that pops up on Terry's browser is a bright red font declaring 'COME DOGGING' and what is obviously a site used solely for dogging practises. I had enough time to remember the url (it's legit) and he seemed visibly shaken after I hurriedly exited the browser and pretended to see nothing.
My question is; should I tell anyone about this or not tell a soul?
We aren't particularly close, just good family friends. But it would absolutely crush me to know I was potentially allowing his wife to be exposed to his risky behaviour in regards to STIs...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | found dogging site on family friend's husbands phone, feel torn about saying anything or keeping my mouth zipped. What should/can I do? | found dogging site on family friend's husbands phone, feel torn about saying anything or keeping my mouth zipped. What should/can I do? | 3,239 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18F] am getting sick of my mom's shit regarding my boyfriend [19M].
POST: I didn't want to post this anywhere else. I'm devastated. I'm absolutely frazzled over why she does not wrap her head around me being capable of making good decisions. I'm 17. I get it. But I'm not an indignant teenager.
I'm in my 7th month of a relationship with someone wonderful. He is absolutely fantastic to me, treats me perfectly, and I love him with everything in me. I have a boyish demeanor and personality. I'm one of the guys. I could refer to multiple instances in which my status was confirmed, but that's not the point here.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Is it in any way a "red flag" if my SO agrees that gender-swapping is fucking hot? Before answering, go back and read the damn post. | Is it in any way a "red flag" if my SO agrees that gender-swapping is fucking hot? Before answering, go back and read the damn post. | 3,548 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M23] slept in another girl's [F24] bed after a night out, should I tell my gf [F23]?
POST: My GF of two years and I are going through a bit of a rocky patch. I was out drinking with some old college friends last week and got talking to a friend of a friend who turned out to be going through much the same situation, and ended up going back to her place.
I'm not proud of it, the only positive of the situation is that we didn't kiss/have sex, we just chatted and then crashed out fully clothed in her bed.
I feel really guilty now, as I'd obviously hate if she did the same to me, and have no idea what to believe if she confessed a similar incident to me. Nobody knows that we went back to her place together, as we live in the same area. If she asks, should I tell her the truth?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | slept in the same bed with a girl who's not my gf in drunken foolishness, luckily nothing happened, should i tell my gf if it comes up? | slept in the same bed with a girl who's not my gf in drunken foolishness, luckily nothing happened, should i tell my gf if it comes up? | 537 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28 M] am having doubts about my relationship with my GF [25 F] after 4 years.
POST: Hi,
I have been in a relationship for 4 years now.
My GF and I moved in together 2 years ago, because she was living at home and her mother was abusive to the extent that she was crying everyday.
She could not afford a place on her own and probably cannot now.
Over the past year, i have noticed that i have gone done in priority for her (behind job and friends) even though she claims otherwise.
She is very chaotic, so that the apartment looks terrible. I am not nit-picky about this, but when it gets to dirty dishes standig around for days it is obviously too much.
She basically cancels every appointment we have, when something else comes up and we have not been intimate for months probably.
I have talked to her about this before and was actually about to quit, but she convinced me it would get better with tears in her eyes. Obviously, it does not.
Even though I am afraid I might end up alone, I feel like it is time to end this.
However, I dont want her to have to go home to her mother again. I dont know how to proceed. Should she be able to stay for a while? Should I maybe wait with all this?
Am I maybe wrong with all of this?
I feel like I am too nice, but I am always trying my best for everyone.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Need to end my 4 year relationship. We are living together. I got her out of her "broken home" and I am hesitant to send her back. Any advice or even encouraging words would help me a lot. | Need to end my 4 year relationship. We are living together. I got her out of her "broken home" and I am hesitant to send her back. Any advice or even encouraging words would help me a lot. | 5,489 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Question regarding learning/teaching.
POST: I apologize in advance if this is not the right sub reddit for this kind of question.
for the past 2 years, i've been slowly but surely developing my illustration skills. I am 18, recently out of high school, and will be going to college for a bachelors in illustration in likely 1-2 years.
Despite teaching my self to be better, by using resources from the internet/library ext, but improvement has been slow. It can be seen, but I still feel i am behind where i should be at my age, and for how long i have been drawing/painting.
I've met many artists who are self taught, and never went to college at all for what they do, yet i have it in my mind that college will help me greatly, since i learn faster when taught by another, rather then myself.
My question is, is this actually possible? do some people just have a harder time of teaching theirself? I have the dedication and interest to pursue education, but i respond so much better to being instructed, rather than instructing myself. Is this normal?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Do some people just learn better when being taught, rather than teaching themselves? Is it normal to not be able to learn as effectively by yourself? | Do some people just learn better when being taught, rather than teaching themselves? Is it normal to not be able to learn as effectively by yourself? | 2,248 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17/m] recently broke up with my [17/f] girlfriend. I regret my action deeply and want her back. We've been together for almost 2 years.
POST: I just couldn't stand her being so cold hearted to me during the holidays. I really wanted to meet her during holidays as it was around christmas but she refused to meet me because those are family days for her and she doesn't want that to interfere with me. so I'll make it short and say that I eventually broke up with her because she was not treating me as I wanted to be treated. right now I really regret my decision and for several weeks I can't do anything but think about her and it's driving me crazy. all the good things that happened between us, all the positive experiences just everything came back to me.
I'm not really a person that talks about feelings face to face so I decided to write her a letter and tell her that I still love her, that I was sorry for my past behaviours and want to be together with her again. I am actually willing to talk with her face to face because obviously a letter is not enough but right now she doesn't even want to talk about talking these things.
I'm seeing her everyday as we have 50% of our classes at school together and we're not really treating each other very well as ignoring each other or being unfriendly and things like that.
the thing is she once texted me that she also loves me, that she is also missing me and I thought that if I tell her about my feelings she might want to be together with me again and might be willing to forgive me.
I'm just really confused right now, I don't even know if I really love her but I just can't stop thinking about her and all the memories I had with her. is there anyone who was experienced something similar? could you guys give me some advice as to what to do right now? thanks in advance.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | broke up with my girlfriend and regret my decision right now even though I don't really know what I am truly feeling. looking for advice as to what to do right now. | broke up with my girlfriend and regret my decision right now even though I don't really know what I am truly feeling. looking for advice as to what to do right now. | 4,414 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] results with "date" with [19 F]
POST: [Original Post](
Turns out it wasn't a "date". So no-go on the physical contact/ kiss lol. So we met at the dining hall, she grabbed a booth, and we sat down and all. She then excused herself and invited a friend(male) to come sit with us who was sitting alone. Then a moment later, another friend of hers(girl) came to sit with us. I'm confused as to why she did this- instead of wondering why, getting back up and going back out there. Talked with her and her friends, but I distanced myself from the conversation thinking it would just be us two. The previous 3 dates it was just me and her, exception to one meeting on V-Day where her friend joined us for lunch. But anyway, First time dating a girl overall- first time ever in college, it's been good, gained some confidence and I could apply that to the next girl out there. No one said it was easy unfortunately. I'll keep the window open, but the chase with them ends.
*Thought about it: might ask her where we stand, dating over a month, could be she might want me to get me to meet her friends?- I'm probably overreacting.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Thought dinner with girl would be a date as with previous meetings, was not. Decided to stay optimistic and continue the search for other girls, throw girl on back burner, advice for the future to prevent this from happening? | Thought dinner with girl would be a date as with previous meetings, was not. Decided to stay optimistic and continue the search for other girls, throw girl on back burner, advice for the future to prevent this from happening? | 5,813 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (28/m) half brother's dad (50's/m) just passed away
POST: My mom had my half-brother when she was 17. She got married to his dad (Kevin) but after a couple years they got divorced. My mom kept custody, and both my mom and Kevin eventually remarried. My mom married my dad, and had myself and my brother. Kevin remarried and had a couple more kids as well.
My half-brother lived with us until he moved out for college, and had a family of his own. I'm pretty close with him and his family, and we see each other several times a year along with holidays and things like that. I've met his dad and their family a couple times, but never really got to know any of them that well.
Anyway, my half-brother's dad just passed away and I'm not really sure what the etiquette is for attending the visitation and funeral and stuff like that. I want to be there to support my brother and his family, but I don't really know anything about who his dad was or what he was like.
I'm thinking I'll attend the visitation, but skip the funeral. Any thoughts?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My half-brother's dad just died. Him and my brother were close, but I never really knew him. Should I attend the visitation/funeral? | My half-brother's dad just died. Him and my brother were close, but I never really knew him. Should I attend the visitation/funeral? | 5,124 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Potentially Schizophrenic Parent attacked by "Bugs" need help...
POST: To begin, I'm here because I'm at a complete loss of options.
I live in a single parent house hold, the parent is now around 62 years old. In the last 2 years she had begun seeing "insects." she described them as small, black, sometimes white, and vicious. She describes them as always attacking her, leaving her with wounds all over her body and causing her a lot of pain.
I came home today to find her with her neck bleeding a lot. She was covered in a white powder, I believe, diatomaceous earth, which she believes helps repel the insects. The surrounding of her eyes are yellowed ans she looks in very obvious pain.
The problem becomes, that no one else in our family is affected by any "small black insects" at all. She believes them to be microscopic or as big as termites. At her age, she is unable to small print at all, so how she is able to see "microscopic" insects is incredibly unbelievable. The fact that no one else in the family has been attacked by any "insects" is troubling.
Everything that has happened has lead me to believe that my parent may have schizophrenia and I was looking for second opinions on the topic or if anyone else has had a parent or knows of someone who was in a similar situation.
My parent however, refuses to believe she has schizophrenia. She feels in pain over the fact that no one else feels her suffering is is agonized over the fact that she's the only one being attacked by these "insects".
The wounds that she ends up with I believe are self-inflicted. I had heard that schizophrenics will occasionally injure or tickle themselves and be completely unaware that it was themselves. I believe that this might be the case with my mother, however, not having her under a 24 hour supervision, I'm unable to prove that.
I digress though... Has anyone here on reddit had a family member with schizophrenia or like symptoms and what did they do to resolve it?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Mother has been attacked by "insects" that no one else in the same household has been attacked by. Leads to believe she may have schizophrenia in her later years. Looking for help. | Mother has been attacked by "insects" that no one else in the same household has been attacked by. Leads to believe she may have schizophrenia in her later years. Looking for help. | 566 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is it okay to talk to a dead friend's family members about him?
POST: I had a friend who died in a plane crash a few years ago. He was a pretty young guy, though 8 years older than me. It was very tragic and unexpected. His family has been good friends with my family for many years, and since we met when I was around 10 I had considered him a mentor to me -- he taught me a lot of things related to programming (which I was interested in as a teenager), helped instill a love of learning in me, and gave me a ton of life lessons in general all while making me feel that it was coming from a friend. All in all, he was a great guy.
His parents still visit mine quite a bit. One time when his mom was at my parents' I brought him up, thinking I would tell her some of my memories of him and basically telling her how much I admired and respected him. She started bawling inconsolably. This was maybe a year ago. This weekend, they were at my parents' place again. Me, my girlfriend, my sister, and his sister were sitting and talking. My girlfriend's socially awkward, high-functioning autistic 15 year old brother has started very much getting into learning about computers, and I try and emulate my friend towards him. My girlfriend's brother somehow became the subject of conversation, and I brought up my friend. I'm not sure how his sister took it -- there was a fleeting instant of very strong emotions on her face, but she shrugged it off and kept the conversation going.
My questions is, is this a big faux-pas? Should I avoid bringing him up in the future? Reddit, what do you think?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | A friend of mine died in a plane crash. I brought him up to his mom once making her cry. The reaction from his sister was very brief, but also strong. Should I avoid him as a topic of conversation | A friend of mine died in a plane crash. I brought him up to his mom once making her cry. The reaction from his sister was very brief, but also strong. Should I avoid him as a topic of conversation | 1,808 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 M/] with my GF [26 F] 4 months, I lied about my education
POST: We've been dating for 4 months, and this is eating at me. I lied about having my bachelors in chemical engineering. It was too hard and I dropped out of college. When we started dating, just to play it cool, I told her I had my bachelors since she is working on her Master's thesis.
I thought more of it as a fling and never thought this relationship would develop into anything serious. The more we spend time with each other, I uttered the words of love to her. And I actually want a serious relationship with her. I've made up stories and jokes about why I'm not doing anything with my (fake) degree.
It's actually bothering me constantly, and honestly I have no idea how she would take it, if I tell her the truth. I am back in school, but taking some general classes slowly trying to find out what I want to get a degree in.
Did I really ruin this entire relationship because of this lie?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Lied about college education, I dropped out of college, but now taking classes again. We've been dating for 4 months. | Lied about college education, I dropped out of college, but now taking classes again. We've been dating for 4 months. | 758 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My girlfriend was raped and it's affecting our relationship.
POST: I'm gonna make this somewhat vague in the event she sees this so bear with me.
I love my girlfriend very much. And 90 percent of the time, things between us are great. But we have a reoccurring issue of her bringing up me breaking up with her. Essentially, I broke up with her, we remained friends, and we got back together because I never really stopped loving her. During the time the we were apart she was raped in a situation she would not have been in had we still been together. Despite the fact that the breakup was some time ago, she still brings up how alone and hurt she felt every now and then.
Recently she brought up the point that if I had never broken up with her she wouldn't have gotten raped and she feels this is the reason she can't get over our initial break up. She says she doesn't blame me but I can't help but blame myself for what happened. I try to be there for her as much as possible and I realize rape isn't something you can just forget, but the fact that it manifests itself in her occasionally guilting me for our break up hurts. And I know she's right that the rape would not have happened if I didnt break up with her. I'm losing sleep over it and even though things are normally good, I just want to know if there's anything i/we can do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriend was raped before we got back together, I blame myself and she can't stop trying to hurt me about the break up because of it. | girlfriend was raped before we got back together, I blame myself and she can't stop trying to hurt me about the break up because of it. | 3,559 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19 M] am in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend [20 F]. Together for two, long distance is nearing one. I told her how unhappy I'm getting and that there's a possibility of us not being together
POST: I told my girlfriend yesterday that our long distance relationship was becoming extremely difficult for me. I suffer from depression and thoughts of self-harm but before she left, she acted as my escape. When I opened up to her, I finally felt like I had someone there for me. I couldn't be happier. But then she decided to leave for a college across the state. I was beyond devastated on the inside. I still congratulated her though and decided to stay together since we are so in love.
Unfortunately, I caved into my depression and cut myself today. After growing so close to her, it's hard for me to spend time with anyone else now. I find it exhausting. I'm seeing a therapist and have been taking meds but nothing seems to work... Self-harm is something I still think about day in and day out. It's only made worse by this feeling of being alone.
To summarize our conversation yesterday, she just started crying and asked me not leave her. While it's sweet to know that she cares about me, I think she missed my point. This relationship is now furthering my depression... What do I do? I want to be with her but I don't think she knows what to do either...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Long distance relationship making me more depressed than I already am. Tried talking to my girlfriend but didn't feel like I got much out of the conversation. | Long distance relationship making me more depressed than I already am. Tried talking to my girlfriend but didn't feel like I got much out of the conversation. | 2,771 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (21 m) was dumped by my girlfriend who I had a kid with after 2 years.
POST: It's been a month now and she's moved on but I still love her and it's hard for me to accept. I wish I could just move on myself but being the way I am, it's hard to meet new people and open up. Our son is 8 months old so things in the relationship moved rather quickly. I can help but feel worthless over this. I guess I'm not sure what to do, I've been trying and trying but every time I go to pick up my son it just gets harder and harder to see her. I'm afraid my son will think of her new boyfriend as his dad instead of me, even though I'm doing my best to see him overt day and take him over night. It just hurts so fucking much. I guess I don't know who to turn to to get these feelings out so I guess I'll just post it here and hope for the best. I'm here asking if you guys have any advice for moving on in my situation, considering my son and everything.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriend left me after two years, we have an 8 month old son together, she moved onto a new boyfriend, I'm struggling with my feelings for her. Need advice for moving on considering the situation. | girlfriend left me after two years, we have an 8 month old son together, she moved onto a new boyfriend, I'm struggling with my feelings for her. Need advice for moving on considering the situation. | 5,752 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of a year, she wants to include others in the bedroom and I'm a little concerned.
POST: So a bit of background; I am currently away at college, and my girlfriend, "Elise," back home is going to a different school. She and I have had discussions about the limitations on our sexual relationship and have agreed that we can push them, but now I'm confused.
I woke up this morning to a text message telling me that a few of her close friends from her school, "Dina" and "Jim," who are currently engaged, have invited the two of us to have four-way sex with them.
Now, I've always been interested in something like this, the idea of sex with a group has always turned me on. But, I'm not okay with other men being involved with Elise--in fact, the idea kind of makes me upset. So we preliminarily agreed to make it a kind of sex at the same time and place deal, where there will be no touching between the couples, but there is watching and talking between them.
Normally, I'd be very okay with this idea, but we've never done anything like this before and I don't really know Jim or Dina very well at all. I'm also scared that involving others in the bedroom is a bad idea regarding the health of my relationship with Elise, or the relationship of Jim and Dina.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend wants to watch another couple have sex and maybe take it further from there. What limitations should I set down and/or should we even do this at all? | My girlfriend wants to watch another couple have sex and maybe take it further from there. What limitations should I set down and/or should we even do this at all? | 1,384 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28F] have been asked to be a bridesmaid for my sister's [25F] wedding. Only problem is ex boyfriend's [28M] current girlfriend [25F] has been asked as well.
POST: So about 5 years ago I ended a 4 year long relationship with ex due to him having feeling for my younger sister.
His behavior was sleazy/flirty with my sister and he admitted he had feelings for sister to a mutual friend.
I ended it after I found out that he was a compulsive liar, verbally abusive, physically destructive and after hearing about this infatuation with my sister.
I met a guy a few years later and eventually we got married.
Sister stayed at my mum's house and would have my ex over to play games with her and her boyfriend.
Which made it awkward for my partner and I to visit my mum as he was almost always there.
Mum refused to put her foot down so we stopped visiting her.
Fast forward a couple years my sister has a new boyfriend now and they are planning to get married.
She has told me she is not sure if she will invite the ex and his gf or not.
Mind you they all hang out every weekend and are very close.
I do not see her excluding them and feel that most people out there would not have to be put in an awkward situation such as this because a breakup is final.
Am I being stupid?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | sister is super retarded. Befriended my abusive ex boyfriend and wants everyone to play happy families at her wedding. | sister is super retarded. Befriended my abusive ex boyfriend and wants everyone to play happy families at her wedding. | 3,925 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What's your most memorable high school moment/story? I'll start.
POST: A friend of mine ran into class and on the top of his lungs yelled, "EVERYONE! THERE'S A GIANT MAMMOTH SHIT IN THE WASHROOM" and then darted back out. Naturally, my response was "wtf? A mammoth sized shit? No way, this definitely needs to be checked out." Before my teacher could say otherwise I ran out the door and to the boy's washroom.
There was a lineup snaking across the hallway when I arrived. The teachers even gathered to witness this monstrosity. The anticipation was killing me. After hearing several, "it's so huge" "wow, how did that come out of someone's ass?" comments, I knew this was going to be good.
What I saw was a Guinness book world record size shit. This thing was at least 3 feet in length and around eight inches in diameter. It was as if King Kong himself had taken a shit. We stood there perplexed, wondering how such a shit was possible. The best part was that it couldn't be flushed. So our janitor had to haul out this massive one piece dyno-core shit and burn it outside in a remote part of the track and field. Needless to say the story spread like wild fire and the shit became known as "The Log."
TL;DR: . Assistant: | A Massive King Kong size shit was discovered in the bathroom of my former high school and to the amusement of students and teachers it became known as "The Log" | A Massive King Kong size shit was discovered in the bathroom of my former high school and to the amusement of students and teachers it became known as "The Log" | 4,036 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Tip: When in doubt, just ask.
POST: Short story time.
I made a goof recently with paying my credit card bill. I always pay in full the week prior to it being due. I don't do auto pay for this card because often times I have things being refunded back to it or credited to it and would rather calculate how much I need to pay to hit $0 balance myself. Whereas with auto pay it would likely overpay and I would have account credits. Not a big deal, but something that bothers me.
Anyways. I was going out for the weekend. So I quickly jumped on, figured out what I needed and hit pay, got up and ran out the door without even looking back. Didn't check my email for confirmation and overall just screwed up.
Today I got an email from my creditor (Chase) saying that I was late in paying and was hit with a $25 Late fee. Obviously I was distraught.
I immediately got in contact with them and asked if there was an off chance that since I have never been late before and use this card a lot if they could waive the late fee and interest charges I would likely incur. Without hesitation they said "No Problem". They credited me the late fee and are waiving interest for 2 months.
Needless to say, I was relieved. Even though it wasn't a lot of money, it was stressful. I haven't paid interest in nearly a year and dread the thought of ever doing so again.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | When in doubt. Give a call, or at least send a message. Even if its only over a few dollars. These places love your business and will lend a hand. | When in doubt. Give a call, or at least send a message. Even if its only over a few dollars. These places love your business and will lend a hand. | 1,736 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm (25,m) confused about my relationship with my ex (23,f), who I dated 7 years ago.
POST: This girl (we'll call her Claire) was my first gf ever back in hs. We dated for about a year but distance drew us apart. Our breakup was a little messy and for a few years we didn't talk. Fast forward and we began texting again 'as friends'. We both moved back to our hometown after college and I expected us to have a great friendship, as that's what we both wanted. In my eyes a friendship would consist of hanging out, doing things together, etc.
Ever since she moved home she refuses to hang out with me one on one, as she believes it's 'too close to bf/gf'. As much as I would try to get closer with her she would equally push me away. However, her and I text all day every day, she tells me all of her closest secrets and innermost thoughts, we talk on the phone about her problems etc.
I'm really confused about all of this. She treats me 'like a boyfriend' via text/phone but she treats me as LESS THAN a friend in person. I finally decided to bring my frustrations up to her and mention that 'it's our last year possibly ever in the same state (before grad school) and that I wished things went differently etc. She took this as me confessing my love and told me 'too bad but I don't feel the same way.' Basically a generic 'friend-zone' response that she has sent to multiple guys before.
I really don't know what to do anymore but it's wearing on me. I have tried to bring things up to talk about what relationship we have and she completely blows me off month after month. And yet I'm still there anytime she needs to talk about issues or even other bf issues (which i told her to not bring up to me multiple times) On one hand I feel like I need to do what's best for me. Which includes slowly cutting her out of my life. On the other hand we've been 'friends' for so long now that I'd feel awful 'abandoning her'. I feel like I love this girl and it sucks. Idk what to do anymore.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | dated girl for a year, she came back into my life as a friend. Refuses to treat me like an actual friend. Maybe it's because I'm in love with her? Please help | dated girl for a year, she came back into my life as a friend. Refuses to treat me like an actual friend. Maybe it's because I'm in love with her? Please help | 462 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by destroying a $1200 laptop with all my school work on it
POST: Short and sweet. I just finished my 2nd year of college so i finally have time to myself so i decide to re sub to wow and chat with some old friends. I'm playing it enjoying it when i get the thought...."i should totally get a coffee". So naturally i did..... i'm sipping my coffee finishing some quests when i put my coffee onto the coaster. See this is where it gets good my dad has these super shitty coasters that are barley the size of the bottom of the cup. I misplaced this cup by an eighth of an inch and it tips over, all over the right hand side of my laptop. I freak the fuck out i pull the power cable slam down the power button like i was trying to suffocate an M&M and run downstairs. I grab a towel and blanket this thing while tipping it upside down to ensure all the coffee could escape. My mom lysols the fuck out of the keyboard which i feel could have caused some damage to it on its own. We use compressed air and ensure everything is gone. After waiting 30 or so minutes my mom insists we turn it on and it does. I turn it on to ensure the keys are working and everything is, its as good as the day i got it. I originally wanted to turn it on see if everything works then immediately off but some guildies needed help with shit so i got back into the game. Not even 20 minutes in the screen blacks out and stops working. The computer continues to try and boot itself back up again only to fail at the dell logo. I pressed the power down to ensure it was off. I waited another hour i go to turn it on and nothing its dead and so are my dreams.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Poured coffee all over my laptop and due to ignorance i fucked it up.....WoW ruining my life againnnnnnn. | Poured coffee all over my laptop and due to ignorance i fucked it up.....WoW ruining my life againnnnnnn. | 1,033 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [19/m] Unsure what to do. Girl I'm very interested in doesn't want to commit (19/f).
POST: So, I'm very interested in a girl that I have some strong feelings for. But the problem is, she does not want to be in a committed relationship. This girl and I go way back. We've been on a few dates recently and had a lot of fun. She had even told me that there was a good chance we could be in a committed relationship. Since then, she has proceeded to also go on dates with numerous other people, including some of my good friends whom I reintroduced her to.
Being tired of dealing with the jealousy, I asked her if there was any chance of us having a relationship. She said yes, but that it was so miniscule that it was irrelevant. I then asked if she was interested in one in the near future to which she replied: no. I'm not the kind of person that wants to play games, so I told her that I was done emotionally, and that we had to stop going on dates and texting. She still wants to hang out and be friends which I think is a good idea, but it's going to be tough.
You see Reddit, I am a really really nice guy. I'm not a douchebag. If I'm going to do something, I'm going to do it right. If I'm going to pursue a girl, I'm going to try to have a committed relationship with her after we go on a few dates, are really close, and have a lot of fun.
So my question is this: Should I just abandon this altogether? It kind of seems weird to me that as the guy I am the one wanting commitment, while she just wants to be emotionally involved with everybody. Is there anything I can do that will make her want to commit? She's told me before that I'm the nicest and sweetest guy she's met, but at this age I also believe that to be a curse. Girls my age don't want to be with nice guys. She has told me that there is a very small window in life where you can enjoy being single, and that she doesn't want to lose that.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girl I really like doesn't want to commit to me. How can I change this situation, or should I just get out now. | girl I really like doesn't want to commit to me. How can I change this situation, or should I just get out now. | 5,235 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I (22M) tell my friend (23F) and her boyfriend (23M) that they're too heavy to both sleep on my pull-out couch?
POST: I haven't seen my friend Amy for a few months, and she finally got the time off to visit me. When I told her she could sleep on my pull-out couch, I meant her. The next day, she tells me her on-again off-again boyfriend Jim (loser) is also coming, which I wasn't prepared for. The thing is, the weight limit on my pull-out couch is 350 pounds. Both of them combined probably weigh 450 pounds+, more than enough to break the damn thing (the legs at the bottom are super flimsy).
They can't afford to get a hotel in Las Vegas over the weekend, and are banking on sleeping on my couch. And NO, I am NOT taking the couch and letting them sleep on my bed. I told them they should bring an air mattress because 'the pull-out bed is small', but they said they don't own one, and they'll manage on the pull-out just fine.
Amy and Jim are coming to visit in a few days. How do I tell them they're just too overweight to both sleep on the couch? What alternative solutions should I offer them?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friend and boyfriend are visiting in a few days. How do I tell them they're too fat to both sleep on the pull-out couch? | Friend and boyfriend are visiting in a few days. How do I tell them they're too fat to both sleep on the pull-out couch? | 1,106 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [16M] and my girlfriend [15F] have been in a long distance relationship for 3 months now and exactly two weeks from now I'm going to meet her for the first time! Advice please!
POST: So exactly two weeks from now I will be physically meeting my girlfriend who lives in a different state about 13 hours away from me for the first time!
I first met her in a Skype call that I was in with some of my friends. I added her and we started talking and then eight months later progressed to flirting and having witty conversations with each other and now here we are!
Words cannot express how excited and nervous I am at the same time. I have had physical relationships before but I have never been able to connect on the same level with anyone before as I feel like I can with her! Even though we have only been together for 3 months and there is quite a large physical distance that separates us I care for her very deeply and since I met her I have felt the happiest I've ever been!
I was wondering if anyone would have any advice for me before I meet with her in person whether it be things that I should discuss with her before meeting her or anything else that you guys can come up with. I am incredibly excited and cannot wait to meet her!
Any responses will be greatly appreciated!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I will be physically meeting my long distance girlfriend of three months in two weeks and would like to hear any advice that you can give me before I meet her! | I will be physically meeting my long distance girlfriend of three months in two weeks and would like to hear any advice that you can give me before I meet her! | 4,256 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] Don't know if I should break up with her
POST: Hi everyone, thank you in advance for any advice you can give me!
My girlfriend and I are almost done with our sophomore year in college. We have been dating for 1 1/2 years since we started college. She is my first for everything including kissing. I think she is a great person and I do love her but I just don't know what to think.
We talk about the future and we have many similarities in what we want in our future but I am having doubts about our relationship. My biggest thing is that I have not dated or done anything with any other girl. I feel like even though I love her, I need a break to experience college, both by myself and with other people. I am always thinking about other girls and I don't know if I'm ready to commit for life without testing the waters. It's just so hard to give up something very good that we've had for over a year.
Life after college with her could be both what I want and don't want. I have some things that make me feel insecure about our relationship after college and I don't want to make this too long but it pretty much involves her mother and my job which I get to choose if I want to move around a lot or stay in one spot. I can explain further if anyone wants.
Thanks again!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend and I have been dating a while now. She's the only one I've ever had. Do I stay with her or experience new people/things. | My girlfriend and I have been dating a while now. She's the only one I've ever had. Do I stay with her or experience new people/things. | 5,000 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22F] with a guy [25M] I've been talking to less than a month, is it bad to "ghost"?
POST: Hi everyone. Thanks for reading!
I've been on one date with this guy and he was fun to hang out with. Previous to the date, I told him I wanted to take anything physical very slowly. He seemed understanding, and I reiterated this again after the date. A few days later, he tried sexting with me, which made me uncomfortable especially since I had just told him I really wasn't interested in anything physical yet, and I find it presumptuous of him to assume that I will have sex with him at all, given we have only hung out once. I also found it kind of disrespectful, since I hadn't been unclear about my opinions on that.
My question is, can I just like...stop talking to him completely? I haven't answered his texts since that conversation. Can I just keep doing that, or should I explain myself.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | can I just completely stop talking to a guy who I've only been talking to for less than a month or is that rude? | can I just completely stop talking to a guy who I've only been talking to for less than a month or is that rude? | 3,746 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Question about Fair Use related to using copyrighted music. Can I use this music in a video that I make for the purposes of reviewing/ commenting on said music? (Re-post from self.AskAcademia)
POST: I am just starting a website for a project I am doing where I am listening to music albums that I normally wouldn't listen to and trying to appreciate them, and basically doing a review of what I thought of them, if I liked them, etc. Doing this to expand my music library, practice writing reviews, learn about different types of music, and just to have fun. Since I'm not really that familiar with Fair Use Laws in the USA, my question is this: Can I use portions of the music from the albums I listen to in a "video review," type thing? What is or is not Fair Use in this type of situation? Any knowledge on Fair Use is appreciated. I'm finding limited information out there, but I know there are people in the Reddit community who know this stuff so I'm putting it out there. Come on Reddit! Will you help me out?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | See title -OR- Looking for any information on Fair Use related to using Copyrighted Music in a "Video Review," type video. | See title -OR- Looking for any information on Fair Use related to using Copyrighted Music in a "Video Review," type video. | 1,077 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] Feeling lost. Vent! [20F]
POST: Hi, I'm 23, recently I've lost a lot weight (85lbs). People have been telling I look great and at work friends tell me how I'm blowing up.
Always avoided girls before in general (especially at work), until this girl at work introduced herself and offered rides. She and I had a good amount of things in commons and i definitely felt something as we first started to get to know each other. I Started to enjoy taking to her at work later even fb messaging.
Never before tried messaging a girl to start convos but I did with her and she would engage in the conversation. Got to the point where she was stressing about a test and I tried reassuring her she will do great. She replied if your right I'll buy you lunch.
I really thought she was interested in general and so did few friends.
So the next time we were working together I decided to ask her out.
She seemed to be in a great mood, she was trying to make sure I notice her ever chance she got in our large retail store. She came to ask for my help and it was just two of us in the back half of store with an awkward silence for a second thought to myself now or never. Told her "I have to tell you something that might be weird" she said "if its weird don't say it" "I have to in order to get this off my chest" I said quickly. Then just asked her if she wanted to go out sometime to which obviously she said she was too busy.
I should've known she wasn't interested especially since she told me a while ago about another guy who treats her really rude after she said no to him asking her out and I was the only one starting conversations on fb.
I don't hate her for saying no, it just hurts when I'm around her. What hurts more is we don't engage in conversation like we used. I don't message her fb but still talk her in person every chance I can. The worst is how her end of the store seems to treat me differently.
Feels like I lost a friend even though she still offers rides and trys her best to engage in conversation
TL;DR: . Assistant: | i know i have to move on, so Now for the first time in my life I want someone who is interested in me the way i was with her. But I Have no idea how? | i know i have to move on, so Now for the first time in my life I want someone who is interested in me the way i was with her. But I Have no idea how? | 3,949 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: Hair/Make-Up Advice When Booking
POST: Ok, I booked my make-up artist months ago and got my times for the photographer this week. When I updated my make-up artist, she had a fit and told me that she could not prepare me for the time I wanted and told me to MOVE MY WEDDING TIMES. I'm not moving my wedding for a make-up artist!
Here is what happened: She TRIPLE booked herself! Three weddings! In hindsight, she would have been late to her time with me anyway. How could she do me and 4 other women in time for my wedding based on our original time? Bye, bye deposit! Ultimately, she was very unprofessional and made rude comments about the hairdresser she was working with...my hairdresser is a VERY good friend of mine (a guest at my wedding!) and my wedding was going to be the last that they work together. It was worth the loss of the deposit to get this woman out of my friend's life.
I have a new make-up artist. I'm her only wedding. To sweeten the deal, since she knew my hairdresser friend, she said she trusted me to follow through and did not make me sign a contract.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Just a little advice. Ask your hair and make-up people if they are doing other weddings the same day. Extra advice: ask your photographer early about the times they need you ready. | Just a little advice. Ask your hair and make-up people if they are doing other weddings the same day. Extra advice: ask your photographer early about the times they need you ready. | 5,418 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [28F] girlfriend[28F] of 2 years found out her sister's boyfriend is cheating on her, she wants to tell her. What do?
POST: Long story short, my girlfriend is the eldest in her family. Mama Bear through and through. Three younger siblings, Kay (21F), Jay(19M), and Bee(17F). Recently, she came into the knowledge that Bee had been seen in bed with Kay's boyfriend(21M) while Kay was at work.
Long story long, Brother comes down to visit recently and walks into the family home where Kay, the boyfriend, and Bee still live. He's looking around and walks past Bee's open door where he sees two people clearly having sex under the blankets. Figures Bee has a guy over and goes into the kitchen for a while looking for others in the house. Turns out there are only two people in the whole house. No other cars.
He then realizes that it was Bee and Kay's boyfriend in the bed together. He confronts Bee saying what she's doing is messed up. She says she has no idea what he's even talking about.
He lets it go because there is family trip planned and all the siblings are going north to visit family together. And pulling all this drama out right before the trip would be a seriously terrible idea. So he tells their Dad about it after the trip is over. And my girlfriend's dad tells her about it. She immediately calls Jay to verify and get details.
Details are verified. This is bad.
She wants to tell Kay or find a way to get them to break up. I don't want Kay to be with someone who cheats on her but I know that if my girlfriend tells her then the relationship between all the siblings is going to suffer greatly.
But the boyfriend lives in that house with both sisters. This could have happened a bunch of times or just the once. There is no real proof and everything is circumstantial.
So neither of us know what to do now. Any advice?
Disclaimer: In my state, 17 is the legal age of consent, so there is no laws being broken.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend's brother caught their sister's boyfriend cheating on her with the youngest sister. Should my girlfriend tell her that her boyfriend is cheating on her? | My girlfriend's brother caught their sister's boyfriend cheating on her with the youngest sister. Should my girlfriend tell her that her boyfriend is cheating on her? | 5,267 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23/f] with my bf [23/m] 2 years, he won't stop mentioning other girls?
POST: I was hanging/studying on campus with my boyfriend yesterday between classes. All was well and everything's been really good between us for as long as I can remember. We were chatting a bit over lunch and he told me he had a 'problem'. That he can't help but check girls out and asked if I have any advice on how to stop that and not let his mind wander into sexual territory with them. I took it fine, I told him some things I did to help my own similar issues when I first started going to the gym regularly then left it at that. He always teases me about him being into other girls so I didn't take it to heart too much.
I just got a text from him this morning saying just '2'. I asked him '2... what?' and he replied saying that's 'the count'. So I'll assume he means girls he checked out and wondered what they'd be like sexually.
What the fuck is his problem? Like why is he even doing this? A bit of teasing is fine, I do it to him too. But I think him texting me just for that purpose is crossing the line.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend frequently brings up other girls or will comment on specific ones around us who are hot- what's his aim with that and how do I get him to realize that jokes get old fast? | Boyfriend frequently brings up other girls or will comment on specific ones around us who are hot- what's his aim with that and how do I get him to realize that jokes get old fast? | 1,665 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [21M] What to do for a date this weekend with [21F] friend?
POST: So I plan on asking this girl out today that I work with. The only thing is, I'm not sure what to do for the date. Essentially, she goes to the college right next to mine (they're pretty close, like sometimes people from her college will go to the bars around here, etc), and I know her from work since we have the same fall internship. I asked her to a date night at my fraternity a couple weeks ago (pumpkin carving and beer) and she came by--we carved a pumpkin, had a few drinks, and generally hit it off before her roommate came by to pick her up. Now I'd like to ask her out for a legit date of some sort, but I'm unsure of what. Dinner seems a bit formal, and since I don't have a car (although I might be able to potentially borrow one to pick her up/drive somewhere) it's hard to think of a place that works transportation wise (unless she drives her car, but that seems kind of lame on my part), plus I suck at thinking of casual date ideas. Help? Thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | need ideas for a date idea with this girl, have already done one casual thing with her, have no car and she goes to the neighboring college so transportation logistics are annoying. | need ideas for a date idea with this girl, have already done one casual thing with her, have no car and she goes to the neighboring college so transportation logistics are annoying. | 3,160 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24M] with my ex [23F] of 3 years, she sent me a big bag of bad etiquette.
POST: After the breakup, I sent her, via mutual friends, a bag of her stuff that she left at my house. She sent in return, a bag of gifts I gave to her, including a t-shirt which still stunk of her sweat. Couldn't even launder it before sending it back. I know I didn't send her any dirty clothes.
Furthermore, she didn't send ALL the gifts I gave to her, just, I guess, the ones she didn't want.
Is she trying to make me feel even worse? Does she not understand breakup etiquette? Do I not understand it? Am I missing something here? Am I warranted in feeling so insulted or am I just looking for something to be mad about because I'm so hurt by the breakup itself?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | ex sent me a big bag of gifts I gave to her over the years, including a dirty t-shirt (no, it wasn't dirty when I gave it to her). | ex sent me a big bag of gifts I gave to her over the years, including a dirty t-shirt (no, it wasn't dirty when I gave it to her). | 1,177 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18 M] just want to confess to her [18 F] but just need a push
POST: (Throwaway because she uses Reddit as well)
I have been crushing on a girl, we'll call her Amy, for a while now. Amy and I met while participating in the same school club over a year ago, and started getting closer a few months.
At first I didn't think much about Amy, but after we started meeting up outside of club activities, I started to develop feelings for Amy. I never really thought it would happen (because I never thought Amy would be my type) but it happened. I guess the heart knows best.
A few weeks ago while Amy and I were out drinking, she came back to my place and spent the night. We didn't do anything besides hold hands the whole way back (because it would be wrong since we were drinking)
The school club is very important to the both of us, and I don't want to ruin that for us, however I feel like if I don't tell her how I feel, I will regret it for an extremely long time. Is it greedy for me to confess?
I guess what I'm looking for is just some advice, inspiration, a push, or just guidance on this, I really care about her and like her. Thank you!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Got close to a girl in the same school club, started liking her, don't want to ruin club-relationship, but feel the need to confess. | Got close to a girl in the same school club, started liking her, don't want to ruin club-relationship, but feel the need to confess. | 5,744 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I Feel Like I'm A Problem...
POST: Hello everyone, 20 (F) here and 26 (M) SO of 6 months now.
I'm going to try and keep this as short as I can.. I'm sorry if it turns into a bit much heh but I could really use some outside perspective and will appreciate any input I receive.
**Background:** Met my SO about 9 months ago and as corny as it sounds we clicked instantly but waited to enter a relationship. This is my 3rd serious relationship and his second.
**The Problem** I feel sad or frustrated almost all the time lately.. He makes me laugh and cuddles me at night and does all those great things that make me smile but I just can't help but feel really depressed.
I'm frustrated because I feel like I can't talk to him about anything. If something is bothering me I can't talk with him because 'hes not my therapist' and whenever we talk about us it turns into a conversation about him and his ex.. Its also frustrating that he lies to me about his past and won't admit it. I just honestly feel like he doesn't care or doesn't know how to deal with any emotional thing.
I'm becoming visibly upset and depressed, today I cried when he left the room and I just feel so out of control. I'm adult but I feel like I'm acting like a child, I feel like I am becoming a problem and making drama.. I don't want to be a burden and I don't want to make waves.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Feel alone while going through a hard time and can't talk to my SO. I feel like a burden and that my emotions are causing problems and making waves. Reddit, what do? | Feel alone while going through a hard time and can't talk to my SO. I feel like a burden and that my emotions are causing problems and making waves. Reddit, what do? | 2,533 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/college
TITLE: Definitely wanting to change my major but I would like some opinions
POST: Apologies in advance for the length and I would like to note that I do have plans to talk to various people at my university but I would like to hear from fellow Redditors who have perhaps been in similar situations.
Anyways, here's my situation:
I am currently a sophomore graphic design major. When I graduated high school I thought for sure that graphic design was what I wanted to do but after getting a little farther into the program and looking ahead, I've decided that it's not something I want to continue with.
For those wondering why I don't want to continue, I'm honestly just not as passionate about graphic design and the time commitment is causing me a lot of stress. I hate to sound lazy, but I want a major/to take classes that will allow me to have a life. I've even found myself wishing I had papers to write.
With that being said, I am not 100% what I would want to switch majors to, but I do have some ideas. At the same time, I don't want to completely switch to another major only to find out that once again it's not what I like. I am definitely finishing out this semester in my graphics classes and I plan on putting forth effort, but I'm not as concerned about whether or not my projects are "portfolio-material."
Here is what I am thinking about doing for next semester:
I have not taken a ton of general education courses so I am wanting to take a variety of classes that interest me and also fulfill general education requirements. Of the possible majors I am thinking of switching to, some of these general education classes do apply to them or fit in the same category. Is this a good idea? Like I mentioned before, I don't want to completely throw myself into a different major in the event that it's not what I'm interested in.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | wanting to switch majors but uncertain as to what I want to switch to; should I take a variety of general education classes that interest me next semester? | wanting to switch majors but uncertain as to what I want to switch to; should I take a variety of general education classes that interest me next semester? | 1,785 |
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