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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: She seemed so interested and couldn't seem to stop texting me. Now, the night we're supposed to hang out, she's suddenly MIA. What's going on?
POST: I (25) met a girl (22) at a party.
Basically, we hit it off. Starting texting constantly and found out how similar we are. We tried to meet up last weekend, but she got sick (actually got sick) and she seemed super bummed about having to skip.
She says things to me like "I can't believe you exist", "I feel like I've known you a long time", "this is so exciting and scary at the same time", so I thought she liked me.
Today, I ask her to meet up tonight and she seems excited and she'll keep me posted. I wait hours and hours, and text her "are you up for tonight?" with no response. I see she is liking photos on Facebook, so I know she saw it.
What the hell? I'm actually angry right now. She would text me like, every day and if I ended a conversation she would text me again several hours later. I really like her, and I thought she really liked me. At 25, I'm able to tell when a girl is just being polite or if she actually likes you.
Should I call her? Just move on without asking what happened? Should I lay it out (say "hey, that kind of hurt when you ignored the text to hang out, because you've really been giving me a different impression")?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl really seems to genuinely like me and says she can't wait to meet up. Comes the night of, and she isn't responding to texts. | Girl really seems to genuinely like me and says she can't wait to meet up. Comes the night of, and she isn't responding to texts. | 4,922 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of 6 month..she kinda broke up with me on saturday after a small fight
POST: So on saturday my girlfriend came over to sleep at my place, she got everything with her and i did not think everything was bad at all. We got a fight on friday evening and didnt talked much the first minutes she was with me, after some time passed she started crying and said she wants so leave..
I started asking what that means and she wasnt really sure, she said i constrict her freedome and shes not sure if she is feeling 'it' anymore. Honestly i cant believe her, we were together the whole last weekend and had sex for the first time. On Thursday i was at her place and everthing was fine, we had dinner together and everything was just as it always was.
Yesterday, on sunday, she asked me over the phone how i am, and we both talked about how we are feeling and whats different in our relationship compared to relationships our friends have, everything seems to be normal. Just the normal talk we have after we had a argument.
I dont know how to interpret this whole situation, its the first relationship for both of us, if she really wants to break up with me, dont you plan on do it and not come with all your sleepover things and contact the person the next day. Im not sure what i should do at the moment, im still in love and for me it seems as she loves me too..
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF kinda broke up with me although in the week before everything was fine. A day after the 'break up' she contacts me and we talk again. I dont know what to do and how to interpret this whole thing. | GF kinda broke up with me although in the week before everything was fine. A day after the 'break up' she contacts me and we talk again. I dont know what to do and how to interpret this whole thing. | 2,344 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] 10 months, love boyfriend, but feeling conflicted
POST: I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months, and even though it's a short time, I still love him so much. There is no one else I feel more comfortable with, and I can see myself being with for a very long time.
But recently, I've been wanting to be with other people. There was one guy, who is actually a mutual friend of ours, that I've been attracted to and wanted to hook up with. We kept hanging out because I never thought I would cheat on my boyfriend. We drank and did hook up. Nothing beyond kissing. He doesn't know. Neither of us want to say anything because we don't want to hurt him or for things to get weird.
I regret it, but also enjoyed it, which I feel worse about. I'm afraid it could happen again and I wouldn't want to stop myself. I felt this way before over the summer but thought it was just because we weren't together as often. Those feelings went away, but are clearly back again. I don't want to have these feelings because I do love him so much, but they don't seem to be going away.
I don't know if I should end things and potentially lose someone that I love and might not find someone else that could ever compare to him, or I should refocus myself and maybe talk to him about things and work on my relationship.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I love my boyfriend. Keep having thoughts of wanting to be single/with other people. Cheated. Don't know whether to stay or go. | I love my boyfriend. Keep having thoughts of wanting to be single/with other people. Cheated. Don't know whether to stay or go. | 3,015 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: FWB Problems 14 FM
POST: My FWB has feelings for me and my best friend her ex... she got upset at both of us at the same time because she saw me by myself because I was on my phone and then she got mad/upset and my best friend because he was dancing with a girl... and I'm a millionaire and no one knows but my best friend and we have talked about going out because we like each other and almost inlove with each other and she said it herself we've been together as fwbs for about 4 weeks and best friends for a year
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My FWB has feelings for my best friend/ex and I'm a millionaire and no one knows and I'm scared she might find out | My FWB has feelings for my best friend/ex and I'm a millionaire and no one knows and I'm scared she might find out | 4,390 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [21 M] and My ex [20 F] broke up after [6 months] a few weeks ago. She kissed my roomate last week.
POST: I dated a girl for a little over 6 months. She broke up with me because I wasn't able to open up and be normal. I have always found it hard to express my feelings to people (friends, family, etc). We have to see eachother a lot becasue she is still friends with my friends and me I suppose.
A week ago I had a suspicion that her and my roomate did something. I wasn't sure what though. I asked them about the night in question but didn't explicately ask them if they did anything. Neither of them said anything. Yesterday my friend told me that he heard something about it. I aske my roomate and he told me no he didn't. I then asked my ex she said they kissed when they were drunk at a party. My roomate finally came up to me and wants to talk tonignt.
This entire time I have been feeling like asking any of these questions to her would ruin her day, which it sounds like it did. My roomate want's to talk to me tonight over a beer to fully explain how it happened. And the fucked up thing is this entire time I still love my ex and still want to be with her. Sorry this has become a wall of text I guess.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex and roomate kissed, I'm pissed and want to know If i still should try with her and any other advice about the subject would be helpful. | Ex and roomate kissed, I'm pissed and want to know If i still should try with her and any other advice about the subject would be helpful. | 4,294 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [29F] with my bf [31M] together for 6 years. been broke up for 5 weeks and I just called him. Please help me.
POST: My ex broke up with me 5 weeks ago telling me he didn't love me anymore. He was a horrible person at all in the relationship and there was no other reason for the breakup.
During the break up he did say some horrible things. I was doing the NC but have had a really bad weekend and I ended up speaking to him a second ago. I didn't know what I was going to achieve by this but I asked if he missed me. He Hesitated and then said sometimes. Basically this is really no.
I feel so awful for what I've done to my self. I've no deleted his number and crossed it out where I written it. Why did I do it? What did I think this would achieve?
I'm being so weak, I'm trying to carry on but why doesn't my mind stop thinking about him? Why when after 6 years he doesn't care why do I care so much? I shouldn't be wasting my time on him when he doesn't want to be in my life, so why am I?
I'm so scared it won't get better and I won't be strong enough to get through this. I feel stupid because I know I shouldnt let this rule my life and I can be me without him.
Please can anyone offer a little help I feel like I'm going out of my mind. even doing different things I'm still thinking about him I feel this to much to handle every day.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 5 weeks since break up and really struggling to pull through. Know what I should do but can't make my mind strong enough to do it. Any help would be appreciated. | 5 weeks since break up and really struggling to pull through. Know what I should do but can't make my mind strong enough to do it. Any help would be appreciated. | 2,600 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: FAFSA Parent Plus Buyout
POST: I took 5 years to get a bachelor's degree in Electrical Engineering. I am now gainfully employed (around 65k), but I have to pay off these loans. They added up to *quite* a bit since I had to attend school out of state for most of it.
My personal portion was only 30% of the loans. Parent Plus had to do the rest, since my folks look *great* on paper. In reality, they are in a sea of debt caused by medical hardships (cancer, kidney failures, etc, which had to come out of pocket).
I told my parents that I would pay them once I had a job, and **I am doing so.** The problem is, now I am taxed at 28% of my income, and don't get any writeoffs for the interest I have been paying on the Parent Plus. I want to consolidate my loans with the Parent Plus, and take the debt into my name. I could build amazing credit by paying these off, but as far as credit companies or banks are concerned, the nearly 50% of my take-home pay that vanishes to the Parent Plus is just being "spent." Is there a way out of this one, or am I just stuck?
The Parent Plus loans consist of seven separate loans ranging from 6.4 to 7.9%. My personal loans consist of four separate loans ranging from 3.4% to 6.8%. I feel that there should be some way to consolidate these all reasonably.
A Wells Fargo Banker told me that banks won't give me a loan to pay this off, since it would be paying a government loan with a private loan. Is there some way around this?
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I also posted this on /r/askreddit, but after about ten seconds of googling, I found this subreddit, which seems much better suited to my needs.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I took FAFSA Parent Plus loans out through my parents and I want to buy them out. Is there a way to do this at all? | I took FAFSA Parent Plus loans out through my parents and I want to buy them out. Is there a way to do this at all? | 4,962 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] with my boyfriend [17 M] going out for 4 weeks and are crazy for each other, then suddenly cuts it off for seemingly no reason.
POST: So me and this guy have been going out for a few weeks, and we were both as happy as could be. We were always talking, and when we were together it was amazing. We were so grateful for each other.
The other day I was over to his place, and we were alone. We were just cuddled up on the couch and we were having a great time. Then his mother comes home without warning, and we scatter (this was low-key).
I'm pretty sure she caught a glimpse of us together, then he went upstairs for about 10 minutes and comes back down and takes me home, and I thought nothing of it. On the way, he says we should take a bit of a break, and I thought okay, it was a close call, I get it.
Then today he breaks up with me. I was blindsided. This is very sudden and I'm confused and angry (not at him) and crushed. He said he just doesn't feel the same way about me but still want's to be good friends.
How can someone go from wanting to never let go to not interested in 24 hours? I'm just so confused, I wish I knew what was really happening. What do you guys think?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend who was crazy for me broke up with me after his mom came home and possibly caught us in 24 hours. He went upstairs to talk I guess and now we're back to friends and I'm feeling crushed and very confused. | Boyfriend who was crazy for me broke up with me after his mom came home and possibly caught us in 24 hours. He went upstairs to talk I guess and now we're back to friends and I'm feeling crushed and very confused. | 6,152 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: My fiancé is in the U.S. illegally, and I've pressed domestic violence assault with child abuse charges (case pending). Will he get deported?
POST: [CO] Finally left my increasingly abusive fiancé of 2 1/2 years (by getting him arrested on 3rd degree domestic violence assault and child abuse charges, along with getting him served a permanent protection order, which is now pending the domestic violence case's resolution). Fiancé and I have a child, and after he's convicted and serves his sentence, I fear he will try to file to see her. He has out of control anger issues (destroyed a bunch of stuff and bruised me up on several occasions) and has control issues (isolated me from friends and family stopped me from going to a self help group because he said I was turning into a bitch). This is his second domestic violence offense (the former was 9-10 years ago with a previous significant other).
I thought ICE would put a hold on him when he was initially in custody, but he has bailed out and is out working. I've heard every answer possible from victim advocates, DA, Guardian ad litem. No one has any idea. I called the local immigration detention office more than once, no one ever returned my call. He tells friends that we'll get back together when this is all said and done, I never want to hear from him again, nor do I want him to have any contact with our daughter. Does anyone know (at least) the chances of him getting deported, or even to help him get deported?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have a pending domestic violence case and a pending permanent protection order against my fiancé (who's in the U.S. illegally). What are the chances of him getting deported? | I have a pending domestic violence case and a pending permanent protection order against my fiancé (who's in the U.S. illegally). What are the chances of him getting deported? | 3,594 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [24M] gf [24F] is visiting an ex [24M] that she considers just a friend
POST: I met this amazing girl a 2 months back and things have never been better. She also has this friend, I'll call Matt, who she used to date a couple years ago in college. She was going through some tough times and became super close with his family, and her and Matt ended up breaking up but still staying close.
Recently she went out of state to visit him for a few days, then see his family for the rest of the trip. The whole trip was set up before we met, and she's mentioned many times about him just being like a brother now. I have no issue with her being friends with him, or even visiting. Matt has roommates and she's sleeping in his room on the floor on an air mattress. She sends me snaps of her helping him with physical therapy and he's shirtless. I just don't want to see that. Again, I 100% trust her, and believe her when she says it's platonic, but it still makes me uncomfortable. How do I talk to her about this and express my feelings without coming off as a jealous boyfriend-type?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | gf is spending time with an ex that she assures me is just like a brother. I want to be okay with it, how can I? | gf is spending time with an ex that she assures me is just like a brother. I want to be okay with it, how can I? | 6,247 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: The dad of a sexting buddy (21F) of mine (26M) responded to me
POST: This isn't too long or complex, just curious is all. There's a girl I've known for a few years through an event we do. She's cute, shorty, has always had a thing for me. We flirt on snapchat and send sexy texts and pictures. Typical shit, we live several hours away from one another, are both busy working and she's told me flat out she doesn't want a serious thing.
Well this morning instead of her replying to me, her dad did :D! Said I was a "coward," that I "didn't love her," that I wasn't man enough to take her to lunch (???), all I wanted was sex (all true accusations, I assure you all).
In any other situation I'd kind of just laugh and move on. There's not much negotiating to do here. But I know her family well enough, we've all worked together, I enjoy them in the brief spurts I've associated with them, and it would make going to this event in the future slightly strained, but not otherwise uncomfortable.
It's strange to me that he's looking through his 21 year old daughter's phone, but I digress because who knows how protective I'd feel of my daughter? It's not my place to say if he was out of line, because it really doesn't matter. I'm not really offended this happened. In fact, I'm literally just now remembering she mentioned something like this happened before!
Anyway, I guess I'm wondering how, or if, I should respond to all of this. Do I apologize? I'm not particularly remorseful, but I guess I'm sorry he saw something he didn't like. I feel like no matter how I answer paints her in a light he'd find unflattering, which is more unfair to her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 21 year old girl's dad responds to she and I sexting and calls me a coward for not being in love with her. OP is at a loss for words. | 21 year old girl's dad responds to she and I sexting and calls me a coward for not being in love with her. OP is at a loss for words. | 2,958 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Caught wife dirty-texting with co-worker. How do I get past this?
POST: 41M, married 2 years to 35F. She's pregnant and had started a new job when we found out a few months ago.
About 6-7 weeks ago we were sitting on our couch talking and she gets a text asking if she's the type of girl that likes to "make love" from a number I didn't recognize. I busted her then, she peddled bullshit for a bit but eventually admitted the whole thing and said she would stop. I wanted to believe her so I did, but my trust was shaken.
About a week later I noticed she wasn't messaging me during the day as often as she had been and wasn't responding in her normal, flirty way. I popped into her IM account (we each have each other's passwords) and saw a slew of messages between the two of them. I let this go on for a few weeks, for a few reasons: while she was definitely flirting with him, she constantly reminded him she was married and would never do anything. I believed she would be faithful even if she was playing out of bounds. He kept pressing, flattering her and teasing, and they started having lunch together a couple of times a week.
Then last Friday she crossed the line. They went out to lunch and she got tipsy on a glass of wine, and when they continued their IM conversation later in the day she finally relented to his teasing and told him she had fantasized about sucking his cock or being taken from behind by him. When I picked her up that night, I immediately confronted her about it and we talked it out. She agreed not to continue and I really, really want to believe her, but it's driving me nuts. She cried, she apologized, but I don't trust her anymore and I'm not sure I'll be able to continue in our marriage. Help me fix this, Reddit.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | wife has been IM'ing with a co-worker after she said she'd stop, then she crossed the line between friendly flirting and pursuit. | wife has been IM'ing with a co-worker after she said she'd stop, then she crossed the line between friendly flirting and pursuit. | 1,386 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [M23] gf [F22] is going on a day trip with a male coworker, I trust her but I'm still bothered by it. Have you been in a situation like this with your SO? What do you do?
POST: My gf is working abroad right now. I trust my gf 100% not to do anything. I'm just bothered, almost jealous, that she is going with this male coworker.
She has been to a few new cities and is exploring the surrounding areas. She was supposed to go on an overnight trip with a group but most of them bailed. So her and this coworker plan to do a day trip to a different city.
She asked me and I said its fine, I trust her after all. But in reality, I'm bothered by this. I just don't want to become a jealous, controlling partner that restricts her freedom. I have a feeling I'm just really paranoid/self conscious that I get jealous. Is this correct?
I should add that this particular male coworker has invited her out to activities before (one on one).
Have you been in a situation like this before? How did you handle it? What do you think I should do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | gf is going on a day trip with a male coworker. I'm jealous and don't think I should be. Looking for insight on how to properly handle this situation. | gf is going on a day trip with a male coworker. I'm jealous and don't think I should be. Looking for insight on how to properly handle this situation. | 4,474 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I (27m) suck at talking and am insensitive to her (27f) feelings, unintentionally. (the song)
POST: When we started I was your dream person, but every now and then you say I'm such a mean person, crying time apart torn up hearts leave dreams worsened, now I'm lost to wonder if you're just gonna leave this person.
Saying that it's too late to communicate, and that every time I'd try to communicate it always turns to hate, yet in the same hour your claims are that life's great, and I'm the most amazing person you'd ever had the chance to date, turn around twice find crystallized salt dried on your face.
Oh foolish fate, boosting the edge to jump, I'm fucked in the head, you're done, what have I said, I'm dumb, we sleep in a bed of crumbs, made from shattered dreams to come, so we sit it silence, well practically silence, the only escapable sound is the tears dripping from your eyelids, I can't fumble for the right thing to say I'm fully blind and guide less, too far for any advices trust me I've already tried then, overall just hoping the end won't come, just off of something as stupid of what I've said or done, when all in comparison it's my bad with good being a million to one, pondering who's right or wrong.
Or if there is even a difference, when it comes down to it its two lovers different opinions, you say that you love, but wait, I know that I love, but hate, the extrapolation of what I say, twisted word shrapnel blowing up in my face, but I know with all certainty it's worth it all, every branch that I hit its still worth the fall, if only my words were better phrased when you heard them call, than you could keep your love and it wouldn't hurt at all.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | It seems no matter how good things are the bad always trumps the good in the end and now I feel like I'm unintentionally ruining a beautiful relationship, and that we both most likely need psychiatric help. | It seems no matter how good things are the bad always trumps the good in the end and now I feel like I'm unintentionally ruining a beautiful relationship, and that we both most likely need psychiatric help. | 3,633 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: [NSV][PIC] Frustration, determination and the perfect pair of pants.
POST: So, I started running.
More specifically, I started the C25k program in hopes of becoming a *runner*. Sometimes, it still feels like I might not make it through those last intervals of week 3. However, after week 1, I learned how tolerable running could be if I just never looked at the timer. *("I still have THAT much time left? Fff.")* Instead, I would zone out, not look at the clock and think about awesome, motivating things.
Since starting on this road, every Monday I would muster up the courage to step up to the scale and be faced with my destiny, my frustration, watching the numbers move in tiny increments or sometimes, not at all. The numbers shouldn't have mattered so much to me, but they did. I would get discouraged and lose focus on the fitness goals I was truly trying to achieve.
I stopped looking at the scale, too.
If I'd had to guess at what the scale would've said then, it wouldn't have been much different from 2 months ago... and then my capris humbled me.
So, I bought these awesome capris a while ago that had sadly been stretching out in the wash over time. I loved these capris. (When you find bottoms you like, you never let them go.) Hoping to find another pair, I go back to the store and there they are... one last pair tucked away in a sale rack, but the tag reads 2 sizes too small. Perfect for "goal" clothing!
In the modesty of my bedroom, I try on these capris to see how far I have to go to get into these babies. I don't know which emotion was stronger, dismay or delight, when they fit slightly loosely around my giddy little self. My happy dance quickly turned into: *"Ergh... now I have to find something else that fits me this well..."* Which subsequently turned back into a happy dance after I realized how much easier it's going to be to find clothes that FIT now...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Stopped relying on the scale to determine my feeling of progress, kept up with my regimen, and now the perfect pants are too big. Sometimes, ignorance really is bliss. | Stopped relying on the scale to determine my feeling of progress, kept up with my regimen, and now the perfect pants are too big. Sometimes, ignorance really is bliss. | 914 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How would I connect Rumble Fish and Brave New World together through a common theme?
POST: I need to write a paper for English and I'm not sure what exactly to write about. I could write about Identity and the dangers that come from when you don't find yours. (John's death, and Rusty-James lack of belonging somewhere) or Perspective/Perception about seeing or in Rusty-James' case not seeing what is right in front of you. I could write about not becoming what you fear, but I don't see where I could get a lot of evidence form that to support the idea. I could also write about not allowing other people to control your perspective as they do in Brave New World, but I don't know how I would connect that with Rumble Fish.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have a few ideas but I don't know how to properly go about using them, and if any of you have any ideas it would be nice to hear about them. | I have a few ideas but I don't know how to properly go about using them, and if any of you have any ideas it would be nice to hear about them. | 6,138 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [25f] needs help with text etiquette with the guy I'm seeing [25]
POST: Hi everyone! I'll keep this short. Also I'm on mobile so please excuse mistakes.
This guy and I dated for 5 years. We broke up this past December and moved 2hrs away from each other. Last month we decided to try again and take things extremely slow.
I texted him yesterday morning asking him if he wanted to go watch Jurassic World in the town my sister is in (about an hour away so it'll require some coordination and planning) this weekend. No day was set yet. That was at 10am.
I texted him back to try to see if he wanted to hike and do the movie after in the town because the area is known for being great for hikes. He replied, asking if it would be a whole day thing. I replied that it would be. Then I hear nothing back until I am putting my phone down because I'm about to pass out. This morning I check my phone and he texted me back over 12hrs later asking what time would we leave and that he was okay with my hike+movie plan.
The problem is that during this entire day's worth (over 12hrs!) of silence from him, my friends start making plans for stuff this weekend that I would like to take part in.
So my dilemma is this. Am I in the wrong for not holding out for him to reply? Should I not try to make any plans with friends when something may possibly have the potential of happening with him at some point in the future? I know people can get busy but I personally don't want to feel like I'm waiting by the telephone for a guy to respond...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Guy I'm seeing doesn't respond to questions about plans until an entire waking day's worth of hours have passed. | Guy I'm seeing doesn't respond to questions about plans until an entire waking day's worth of hours have passed. | 2,881 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is there a way to run mac programs on a pc??
POST: I figured you guys would know. I have an 08 Sony vaio with vista (blech) and really really want to download gamesalad to create iPhone games (Its a dream, perhaps misguided, of mine to create games and this seems like an ideal first step, my brain has been racing with ideas for games since I discovered this program the other day and no bs have been drinking nyquil so I stop popping up and writing down more ideas, for example: an Italian plumber who battles a dinosaur for a blonde monarch who can't hire security!!) and it only runs on mac, so is there a way to either install the new os for mac on my piece or maybe just get a program to run that on my comp??
TL;DR: . Assistant: | can I either dl macs new os on my vaio vista laptop or run it via some emulator? | can I either dl macs new os on my vaio vista laptop or run it via some emulator? | 3,821 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [20F] Overprotective, not Comfortable with my Little Brother [14M] Dating
POST: I'm a 20 year old girl, I have a 14 year old brother who's in his very first relationship. He's been dating this girl for 3 months, I'm quite protective of him, and he's my only male sibling so this situation of having a brother dating, is totally new to me. I have a 15 year old sister who's had a couple boyfriends, but I never felt nearly as worried about that. Is that normal? I don't mean to me sexist but I think might be just because of the opposite sex thing, I'm far more protective of him than my sister, like it sounds stupid but I just have that "I know how girls are" feeling, so I'm leery about his girlfriends. And I have fears of being replaced, I've always been the one he goes to for advice, to vent to, and everything. But now he has a girlfriend to confide in and I'm worried he'll want more independence from me and he won't really need me anymore.
She hasn't done anything particularly bad and there aren't really any red flags but I find myself losing sleep over it. I admittedly snoop a bit through his phone and computer to read their conversations, I feel guilty about doing so but it just puts my mind at ease knowing there's nothing bad going on. Is it okay to be this protective of him? Is how I'm feeling normal and does this sorta thing just subside with time? Is it wrong to snoop if I'm doing it with good intentions of just wanting to make sure he doesn't get hurt?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My little brother has a girlfriend, she's his first and I'm quite protective of him. I worry about him so much and I read through some of their conversations to make sure there are no red flags. Is this normal? | My little brother has a girlfriend, she's his first and I'm quite protective of him. I worry about him so much and I read through some of their conversations to make sure there are no red flags. Is this normal? | 3,451 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [23 M] friend's [18 F] mom just asked me to break up her relationship with her boyfriend of 6 months.
POST: Hey everyone, I hope someone can give me some advice on how to approach this problem.
About 8 months ago I met this awesome girl in class and we became really close friends, to a point where I was gonna ask her out but then she found a boyfriend.
She is Armenian, I am Armenian but her boyfriend is Mexican and in Armenian culture, there is this very strict (and stupid imo) tradition that says Armenians have to marry Armenians. But it's 2014 for fucks sake. My friend has been with this guy for 6 months now and her parents think it's just a classmate kind of relationship but they are together as in girlfriend and boyfriend and I'm happy for her that she's not with an Armenian cause I'm totally against that "rule". She goes out with him secretly because she knows if her parents find out, she will be in big trouble.
Today, I was at the subway and saw her mother there. She started getting a bit upset and asked me if I knew about her daughter's and her boyfriend's relationship. I said I only met the guy once (which is true) and that's it, I didn't tell her that they are boyfriend and girlfriends. She started telling me that it is not right to be with a non-Armenian guy blah blah. She told me to talk to her and not let her get in a relationship with the Mexican guy but they already are so I don't exactly know what to tell her. Her mom asked me not to tell her daughter that this is coming from her mom.
This is totally not my business to get involved in her relationship with other men but her mom asked me to talk to her and I'm going to do so but only because I respect her mom. So what do you guys think I should do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My Armenian friend's mom wants me to break up her relationship with her Mexican boyfriend but I don't know what to tell her. | My Armenian friend's mom wants me to break up her relationship with her Mexican boyfriend but I don't know what to tell her. | 1,888 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Hit a wall, or fell off a cliff, during my marathon training
POST: I have a problem with running and am hoping to hear that my problem is fairly common and that there's an easy solution. I'm not sure.
I am currently training for my first half- and full-marathons, in Chicago this September and October. I have been running consistently for the last few months. Maybe not as much as I should, but running 8 miles at 80 minutes was no problem and something I did a few times per week. I had a 14 miler that had some walking, and many shorter ones.
Two weeks ago I left to do some traveling. I packed my gear and intended to do some serious running while away. But I was quickly frustrated because I couldn't seem to run more than 2 miles without losing all steam. At first I thought I just had a bad day. But it's been two weeks now, and not once have I managed three straight miles.
These are all my guesses:
1. Switched time of day that I run: I was running late mornings, early afternoons. During my trip, I had to shift to the early mornings. I figure this was needed anyway, since the half and full marathons are morning runs.
2. Change of bed?
3. Stress due to travel? This was all in the northern midwest, though, so I wasn't grappling with significant climate or elevation changes.
4. Change of diet? I had been eating fairly lean before, but then was wiped out by a hard run for days at a time. A friend told me I should be eating a lot more. I increased my diet, and my running plummeted.
5. Reduction in alcohol consumption. Yeah, this one is weird. I was drinking too much and cut way back, down to nothing for a week (which is a long time for me). Energy plummeted a few days later.
Any thoughts? Anyone have a similar experience? Should I be worried?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Could run 8 miles with no problem, often more. Some changes happened, can't run 3 miles. Not sure why. | Could run 8 miles with no problem, often more. Some changes happened, can't run 3 miles. Not sure why. | 517 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Fresh out of college and can't seem to land a programming job
POST: I graduated in Dec. 2010, and since then have been unable to get a programming job in my area. Since my area is the state of Mississippi I decided to look elsewhere. New Orleans is close by but all my attempts have given me nothing. I have a friend in San Francisco and have started looking for work there, but so far nothing. I haven't applied to many places in SF though because I'm unsure of the quality of many of the places.
I'm worried that no REAL work experience is hurting me. Only experience I've got under my belt is fixing computers and setting up networks for local businesses. I did that for money since high school. I've placed in two competitions for innovative design for two projects at school -- one of which won first place ($3500). Other than these things I don't really have much else.
If anyone has any pointers or knows of some places to submit a resume to I'm ALL EARS. I'm currently working a minimum wage job helping out a friend, and am getting tired of looking like the town idiot who has a degree but no job.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Graduated Dec. 2010 (Computer Science), can't find a tech job in MS, New Orleans, or San Francisco. Looking for tips/places to apply. | Graduated Dec. 2010 (Computer Science), can't find a tech job in MS, New Orleans, or San Francisco. Looking for tips/places to apply. | 130 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do you overcome self consciousness after a breakup or constant failure with relationships? [25m]
POST: Hi Reddit.
I recently fell deeply for a girl who I really thought was the right one for me. Everything was fine and dandy but our relationship eventually took a turn once we realized that there were incompatibility issues. Only a short time period after she eventually found someone new and that struck an ugly chord towards my self confidence.
While I've accepted that we were incompatible, I can't help but amplify my self awareness of my own flaws. Was I too serious about our relationship? Was I too demanding relative to her own limitations? Was I too insecure, therefore not self confident enough which ultimately makes me unattractive? Was I too cheesy?
And my friends will encourage me saying "she just wasn't right for you" or "you deserve better." But in my heart I feel that I don't deserve better and that there's something fundamentally wrong with me. I start thinking if only I had done this or that better, everything would've worked out - but now she's with another person who can provide that for her. Who is in other words, relative to the context, "better than me".
It's discouraging because I've never officially had a girlfriend before. I've only fallen for a select few girls in the past which never went beyond casual dating. I've never had a significant other really go out of there way for me. And the more I see other guys swooping up girls that once meant a lot to me, the more I beat myself up.
But I know and keep telling myself that I need to love myself or at least be confident with who I am and what I want to overcome this. Yet, why am I still recognizing these flaws when I should try not to?
Sorry, I guess I'm not really asking for a specific question - but would love any insights or even sympathy right now. Cheers.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I feel extremely self conscious about my own flaws and abilities after I find out an ex is dating someone else. Been happening for years across multiple girls - trying to find the right mindset to be at ease with myself. | I feel extremely self conscious about my own flaws and abilities after I find out an ex is dating someone else. Been happening for years across multiple girls - trying to find the right mindset to be at ease with myself. | 5,213 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: She is in love with me but I am faking this relationship. Is this wrong?
POST: I treat her better than any other gf I have had. We do all sorts of romantic stuff, go on hikes, have pikniks, cuddle after sex, when I wake up at her house I make her breakfast, clean shit up around her place, let her sleep in. We have been together for two years and broken up thrice. I have never cheated on her. She drunkenly kissed a guy once but she came to me crying the next day and kissing isn't that big of a deal for me. I listen to her problems and give her solid advice when she asks for it. I am very helpful with her family: doing yard work, cleaning, making dinner when nobody else wants to. And on top of all that I give her 3-5 hour long massages a month (I'm a massage therapist by trade). The only thing is I am faking this entire relationship. I've gotten very good at it. I know exactly what she wants and expects most of the time and am good at delivering. The reason I know I am not ever going to fully commit to this relationship is because she suffers from depression. I take into account that one week of every month is 'that' week and should be treated with caution, every other week she will suffer a major debilitating headache that will spiral her down into a pit of depression lasting at the very least 3 days most I've seen it go is a week. Conservatively that is 4 days every other week where shit goes down the toilet. That comes out to a MINIMUM of 13 days of the month where no matter what happens she will be in a bad mood. I know not to bother her when this happens and she knows not to expect me around. I love her but am not in love with her. I can not live with her and her depression. Is it wrong to fake this relationship for the sake of casual sex until something better comes my way?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My gf of 2yrs loves me but I cannot stand her half the time and am faking this relationship until I have something better to do, advice? | My gf of 2yrs loves me but I cannot stand her half the time and am faking this relationship until I have something better to do, advice? | 5,342 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Water weight.
POST: Hi loseit. I've been a lurker here for a while, it's a great place to come to when you feel like you need some motivation to keep on track. I'm not looking to lose as much weight as many people here I think, but the method is the same.
I'm a 5'10", 19 year-old female, and since last August I've gone from my highest weight of 164 and dropped around ~12 lbs using myfitnesspal. It's been rather slow-going for me since every so often I tend to go over my calorie limit for a couple days before getting back on track, but I think overall I end up with more days where I've eaten my goal amount or I'm under my maintenance calories rather than over.
However, it's started to get to the point where I'm getting frustrated, because I just can't seem to get any lower. For nearly the past 2 months I've been wavering between ~154-152 lbs, and it seems that any time I just start to think I'll be making progress, I regain those couple pounds I think I've dropped.
This morning was very discouraging, because after weighing in at 152.4 lbs last week, I stepped on the scale to have it declare I was at 155.4.
Now, I know that this is kind of silly, since in order to re-gain 3 whole pounds of fat, I would have to eat an excess of 10,500 calories, which I am *quite* certain I haven't done. I know it has to be water weight, but at the same time, it's really disappointing that all this water weight is being added onto my real weight. I mean, last week I must have had some water weight too, right? Yet it still said I was 3 lbs lighter. And the fact that it says so means that I probably haven't lost any fat either, otherwise even with water weight my overall weight would probably be less.
I always weigh myself in the morning, after using the washroom and before eating anything, so that's not the problem. I just don't know what to do anymore to get myself out of this plateau I've been in. Does anybody have any advice or words of wisdom? I'd really appreciate it. :/
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Have been plateauing for almost 2 months after losing weight really slowly and now water weight is just making it look like I'm gaining again. Wat do?? | Have been plateauing for almost 2 months after losing weight really slowly and now water weight is just making it look like I'm gaining again. Wat do?? | 4,884 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Taking an entry level job for an early-to-mid-stage tech startup that isn't offering immediate compensation... How do I make sure I'm making the right moves when negotiating a contract?
POST: So, this is a very small tech startup (around 5 employees so far), that will probably receive more funding within the next few months through a few different means. I won't start receiving a paycheck until the company starts making enough money to justify paying me.
They're offering me a position in exchange for *either* equity in the company, which will be based on my earned "salary" as a proportion of the value of the company, or simply as a deferred salary that would be added onto my paycheck once I do start to make money. The equity could turn out to be pretty high as a percentage, simply based on the current (low) value of the company and the low number of partners so far.
I won't try and sugarcoat it: The idea of working hard for zero pay doesn't sit well with me right away. But it is experience and I've been struggling to find an entry level job for a while, so it would inherently be a mistake to not take it. Since there's also no job security, I can't imagine there would be any significant downsides to quitting if a better (keyword: paying) opportunity comes along for me.
So, how can I make sure that I'm making a safe decision here when negotiating the contract? Obviously taking the equity option is a pretty big risk that could pay off MASSIVELY based on the amount of equity I could build up. But, I'm just worried that the wording of the contract could screw me out of a lot of money depending on what happens with the company. What if the company gets bought out before I make any money? What if I decide to leave the company before I make any money? What if the company isn't even able to raise enough money to pay me (assuming I take the deferred salary)?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Taking a non-paying job that will eventually become a paying a job, but want to make sure I'm covering all possible bases to make sure I make a good decision. | Taking a non-paying job that will eventually become a paying a job, but want to make sure I'm covering all possible bases to make sure I make a good decision. | 2,290 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How exactly would you cope?
POST: Tomorrow is going to be my sixteenth birthday. My dad lost his job of 22 years the week before Thanksgiving of this past year (2013), and it's been entirely tearing my family apart. My parents have been married for an entire 30 years and due to my father's attitude towards this whole thing, I think they're about to call it quits. I will not go into detail about how actually shitty of a dad my father is, but I will say that I never actually expected them to get divorced. I figured that since they've been married for so long, they'd figure something out.
Now I still haven't seen any divorce papers or anything, but I actually think they're about to do it.
My dad has been smoking for over 20 years, and both my parents have been drinking for over 30. My mother has always been able to control herself when it comes to drinking, and she really does care about my brother and I. My father, on the other hand, is practically the opposite. I actually feel empathy towards my brother because he basically grew up without a dad. I don't know if I'd be able to do it. It would be like me growing up without my mom, and that just fucks with my head.
My dad has since stopped eating almost all together. Some days he won't eat anything, other days he'll hardly eat a half of a sandwich or a very small amount of his dinner. He's honestly dying before my eyes and I don't really know how to cope.
There's so much left of the entire story that I plan to leave unknown, but my entire situation is beyond my control and, I guess, understanding. Basically I would love to know how someone else would most likely cope in this situation.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My parents of 30 years of marriage are about to split due to my drunk dad who lost his job recently. I don't really know how to cope. How would you? | My parents of 30 years of marriage are about to split due to my drunk dad who lost his job recently. I don't really know how to cope. How would you? | 5,355 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [20/m] been dating for 2 1/2 years with (20/f), and we are starting to loose interest(decently complex situation). What is a good way to spice things up in a relationship?
POST: A little back story to understand my predicament:
me and my girlfriend have been dating for two and a half years. We started out long distance about 5 hours away when we were both around 18. We saw each other every now in then when we could via greyhound(shitty bus service). We disliked the long distance and made plans to move in with each other for college after high school. We did this for 2 years and recently have moved back up to her house. However, the past several months including before the move she has been seeming less interested. This reached its peak when we our now not living together and I am living with her brother of 21, 30min away(I am good friends with him). Their is pros and cons to this situation such as i was able to get a job, her house is kinda shit, and the school up here is allot closer, but the bottom line is we are not living together anymore due to her feelings of disconnect. It may be a good thing because we are young and living together can take its tole.
We still have sex, but not as much. What I mean is we use to have allot of sex sometimes three times a day everyday(yes, it was good times), and this was mostly because of her wants I suppose mine as well. Now its about two to four times a week, and they all seem to be brought on by me not her. She also seems less interested in conversation, and many of my attempts seem to be shot down due to lack of interest. This was only somewhat true before as allot of the shit I talk about is random, but she would humor me basically all the time if she didn't care. I was perfectly fine with that.
Alright, well that got a bit lengthy. Anyhow, I really don't want the relationship to be over and she still seems to want to be with me, but i feel this relationship may not last if things don't change.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Went from long distance, to living together, to living separate but short distance, and the relationship has been dwindling the past couple of months. | Went from long distance, to living together, to living separate but short distance, and the relationship has been dwindling the past couple of months. | 4,527 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: I feel like my vet is shilling for big pharma... Help?!
POST: My dog is a one and a half years old mutt. He's been strugling with bad skin problems ever since he was a baby.. He is itchy all the times and sometimes will make himself bleed for scratching too much... I saw the vet many times for that reason and tried many different treatments. I personally believe that my dog might have allergies and I asked a new vet for a scratch test.
She wasn't enclined to do that and told me she wanted to treat him (and my two cats) for parasites. I explained to her that we already did that less than a year ago and it didn't help. She kept on insisting and since she's a proffessional I kept on nodding and agreeing on her treatment plan.
She took samples of his skin on many different areas to check for parasites and the results came back negative... I had a 300$ bill and went back home with antihistamines and lots of worries. She still insist we should start the treatment this month even though they didn't find Anything.
The treatment is "advantage multi". I'm wondering why she wasn't inclined to do the scratch test right away and if she's pushing the meds just because she might get a bonus at the end of the year for selling a certain amount... Do vets get that for animal medecine? Should I stand up to her and ask for what I think is the best treatment for my dog?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My vet is pushing meds that I don't think my dog needs and I wonder if she would do that just to receive money from the company that produces those meds. Ever heard of vets doing that? | My vet is pushing meds that I don't think my dog needs and I wonder if she would do that just to receive money from the company that produces those meds. Ever heard of vets doing that? | 3,460 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25F] with my boyfriend [25 M] 5 years, scared to end it.
POST: I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now, and throughout our relationship I've been very happy but I've always had this nagging feeling that he wasn't the one. He is everything I ever wanted, but there is something missing.
When I first started dating him I didn't have that immediate attraction to him. (He is very good looking - just not my type.) I would ask people around me if that could grow, and I was always reassuring myself that he is the one I wanted because he is "perfect."
We are planning our 5 year anniversary weekend for two weeks from now, and we have a trip coming up in May for a wedding. I keep having these nagging thoughts that I need to get my shit together and just end it. I'm so worried about breaking his heart and making a huge mistake. I've brought it up a few times that I've been having doubts (just over the past few months) and now I feel like he is walking on egg shells. I don't want to do this to him.
I think he is planning on proposing some time soon too... possibly this summer after the wedding. I really can imagine my life with him, he would be an amazing husband, and father and I genuinely do love him. I don't know if I'm missing out on something more, someone who I have that spark and intensity with. Maybe I am being naive...and should just be happy with what I have and not make a huge mistake.
The thing that scares me the most is starting over... we have lived together for 3 years, share everything, we have a dog, and almost all of my friends are "our" friends. I'm so confused...I don't want to leave him and never find someone to makes me happy, but I also don't want to stay with him and always wonder "What if?"
If anyone has been in a situation like this, maybe you could help me out. Did you do the right thing, or did you feel like you made a mistake? Also...how to did get through the courage to finally end it and start over? I don't want to break his heart.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend of 5 years makes me happy, but something is missing. Terrified to make a mistake, and start over alone. | Boyfriend of 5 years makes me happy, but something is missing. Terrified to make a mistake, and start over alone. | 5,315 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [20/m] I annoyed my crush [21/f], to whom I have never confesed my feelings, with a ploy gone terribly wrong
POST: I've a huge crush on this one girl who is way out of my league.
We've met maybe twice last year, talked on facebook quite a bit, but she had a boyfriend, so I kind of abandoned all hope.
This year, however, we went to a concert together in March, and she broke the news to me that they aren't together anymore. We've met once again a month ago, and spent almost the whole day together. Nothing intimate has come out of it. These were the only few successful attempts to meet with her-there were plenty invitations that she dismissed (although mostly for legitimate reasons.)
So, here's where I decided to try a little ploy: I purposefully put myself in a position where I needed her specific skills to get me out of it. And she did help me out a few times, at first. But then I got too needy, and she outright refused to help me. Now, I don't know what to do. I think of giving her a present, as a token of gratitude for the help, and finally make my intentions clear.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | never admitted my true intentions (although they should be more than obvious, given the persistence with which I invited her to random things,) tried to use Ben Franklin effect on her, it backfired. | never admitted my true intentions (although they should be more than obvious, given the persistence with which I invited her to random things,) tried to use Ben Franklin effect on her, it backfired. | 1,729 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: Unsure of how to connect with girls.
POST: I am a 21 year old male college student and have never had a serious girlfriend. It's not a problem of looks or even meeting people. Honestly, girls give me their numbers all the time and I have a nasty habit of sloppily making out with random girls on weekends (which I have made a point of not doing anymore).
Lately I just can't help but feel kind of lonely. I just have a problem connecting with people. I don't know how to talk to them after I've met them. I always have really shallow text conversations with the girls who I meet and it all just feels forced to me.
There's always a "haha" thrown in there even if nothing funny was said. I don't ever know how to initiate conversation that isn't just a random "Hey, what's up" and even after I send that text I never know where to go from there. I really don't know how to show a girl that I'm interested in her without feeling like a creep.
Now, there's a girl I met last week at a concert who gave me her number. We've had one or two text conversations but nothing too extensive. I've gotten to this point with a lot of girls and I always just stop talking to them because I feel like I have nothing interesting to say. I just don't know where to go from here, any advice would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I meet a lot of girls out, they give me their number, I stop talking to them because I feel like I have nothing interesting to say. | I meet a lot of girls out, they give me their number, I stop talking to them because I feel like I have nothing interesting to say. | 4,282 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (22F) with my boyfriend (22M) - broke up, getting back together, need advice
POST: Boyfriend and I dated for about 7 years and he broke up with me two months ago. He said he needed to find himself outside of our relationship and see what's out there for him.
The last two months have been awful for me and I finally decided that I need to move on whether I want to or not, then he asked to meet/talk and said he wants to try being in a relationship with me again.
I want to be with him, but I'm afraid that getting back together will be awkward or weird. We spent the past two months with very limited contact, so I'm not sure how we can be normal again? How do I work this out? How do I go back into the relationship?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend of 7 years broke up with me for 2 months, wants to get back together; I'm afraid getting back together will be awkward/weird. | Boyfriend of 7 years broke up with me for 2 months, wants to get back together; I'm afraid getting back together will be awkward/weird. | 6,261 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: (MO) My ex-roommate owes me over 2 months in back rent. I'm getting worried he won't pay up.
POST: I rented a room in my house to a friend through an oral agreement back in August. He ended up meeting a girl and living with her in that room without notifying me. Now we are almost at the end of the year and all his empty promises to pay me my money have been an echo of what I think will happen with these last two months he owes me. He moved out on Wednesday on his own accord. I did say I was going to evict him for the 2 months of rent he owed me a couple of weeks before which sped up the process of the move out. We agreed to have a promissory drawn and signed by a notary for the money he owes me. I didn't have the Promissory Note ready when he moved out but I do have some text messages where he agrees to meet me today, Friday, to sign the note. Now he states he won't be able to meet me until Monday. I've tried time and time again to get this note sign and have evidence of non-compliance. If he refuses to sign my note what steps can be taken so that I can come close to getting my money or at least making sure he doesn't do this to someone else.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Roommate started renting in July 2013, broke oral agreement to pay rent each month. Owes me two months rent, having trouble getting a promissory note signed. | Roommate started renting in July 2013, broke oral agreement to pay rent each month. Owes me two months rent, having trouble getting a promissory note signed. | 6,483 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19m] am currently unsure whether I am officially in a relationship with a [19f].
POST: I met a girl two thursdays ago and we've been talking ever since despite distance issues and we spent Sunday and Monday together talking, being intimate, and watching movies. We were talking about our future and I asked "Do you want to do this? Because I really want to." and she said yes and she does. I felt like we had a mutual understanding of what I meant by that. But now that I look back I felt like I should have been more forward about it.
I've never really been in a real relationship before so does this mean we are officially in a relationship or still talking?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Unused to dating and used a poor choice of words so unsure whether or not me and this girl are currently in a relationship or still talking. | Unused to dating and used a poor choice of words so unsure whether or not me and this girl are currently in a relationship or still talking. | 3,484 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Best Friend [19m] is way too chatty with my girlfriend [20f], how do I proceed to make him back off a little?
POST: My girlfriend and I [19m] have been dating for almost a year and a half. I met her in high school and we ended up going to different schools in the same town. We started dating before my freshman year/her sophomore year. Everything has been amazing, except my suitemate has also taken a strong interest in her over the last semester. They met last year but really only started to hang out this year, which is great because I want all of my friends to like my girlfriend, and I want her to like them. What isn't great is he has begun to text/fb message her constantly. He has even called her a few times out of the blue with no real reason for calling. Also he has also done more boyfriendish things with her such as picking her up from the bus stop while I was at work, then inviting her up to our room while I wasn't around (she politely refused). He has a history of doing this to other people's significant others, so this isn't out of jealousy, it's more to look for a way of creating a boundary and hopefully helping him move on to girls who don't have boyfriends.
I'm not worried about my girlfriend cheating on me and there isn't anything that she does to lead him on. She is just nice to him, like she is with everyone.
My girlfriend and I both agree that we need to do something, so we were wondering if there is a better way to approach this.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Suitemate/friend is becoming more and more clingy with my girlfriend of 1.5 years. What is the best way to approach this situation? | Suitemate/friend is becoming more and more clingy with my girlfriend of 1.5 years. What is the best way to approach this situation? | 2,374 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is it wrong for professors to grade on handwriting?
POST: Let me start this off by saying that [I have dysgraphia] aka, my handwriting just isn't that good and there's nothing I can do about it.
In the past I've had a few professors try to comment on my handwriting, but I've always made sure to let them know that there really is little I can do about it.
Unfortunately, I told one of my professors about it recently as he was calling me out in front of the class over my bad handwriting, and he said "Dyscrapia? What's that, something you made up? hahaha".
I mean, I tried to explain it's a real thing, blah blah blah, but that shit is pretty insensitive to call me out in front of the whole class simply because my handwriting isn't up to par, let alone the fact he told me he was going to stop collecting my work if "You don't start writing better."
Note, this was not an English teacher or anything of the sorts, it was an engineering class.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My handwriting is bad, I can't do anything about it, professor is giving me shit for it, should I see student disability over this? | My handwriting is bad, I can't do anything about it, professor is giving me shit for it, should I see student disability over this? | 2,315 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: my (28M) friend is in an abusive controlling relationship (22F). how can we make him see the big picture
POST: So my (28M) friend is in a controlling abusive relationship with (22F). She doesn't like any of his friends and does everything in her power to keep him from hanging out with any of us. She will tell him she's cool with whatever plans at first, then day of comes and she makes him cancel. He's now bailed on three best friend birthday parties(one tonight), 13 dinner parties that we throw as a group twice a month, isn't allowed to come and hangout at any of our homes, and now isn't even allowed to text or call us. If he does go against her and go out, she will call him 100 times throughout the night to guilt him into going home. She did this on my birthday- she's been invited also to all of these events- and I ended up confiscating his phone for the evening so he could enjoy himself for once.
Two weeks into their dating my bf, this friend and I went on a road trip to another province for two weeks we'd planned a year prior. She called him 100 times a day tryin to guilt him into coming home. She even booked a plane ticket to come join our trip but couldn't get a babysitter nor time off- thank god because that would've been awkward when she'd show up and we'd have no room for her in either the car or the three man tent we were using.
Also she will trash talk him to anyone who'll listen. My bestie and I brought her out on girls night and she spent all night telling us how she's embarrassed by him, he has such a small dick, he's bad in bed.. Goes on and on. I should've recorded it and shown him.
You can tell he is truly miserable, but thinks he loves her so he won't leave. How can we make him realize how unhappy he really is and how psycho she is?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my (28M) friend is in a relationship with a controlling psycho(22F). How can we make him realize how miserable he is in the relationship and how controlling she really is. | my (28M) friend is in a relationship with a controlling psycho(22F). How can we make him realize how miserable he is in the relationship and how controlling she really is. | 5,925 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: Just want to be loved by my wife again. Insights welcomed!
POST: Me (M29) and my wife (F29) have been married for just one year, and had dated for four prior. Over this past year, we were lacking in the intimacy department. This was my fault, I foolishly thought that our emotional connection was enough and didn't need sex as much. I was quite wrong and now understand that.
Anyway, this led my wife to feel rejected by me and she fell out of love. After this came to my knowledge, I have changed the way I look at our relationship, and have readjusted my priorities in it. I want nothing more than for us to work things out.
Recently she had an affair with her boss (who is 50 years old and also engaged), and says she has real feelings for him. This sounds bad I know. But I understand how it got to this point. She is trying to give us a chance, and things are getting better (sleeping in the same bed again, I get a kiss goodbye in the morning, spend time together after we get home from work etc), but she still has feelings for him, and seemingly slightly less feelings for me. We had a fight about it, I yelled (which I have never done in an argument during my adult life), but I told her that I forgive her even though it hurts.
She says she cares a great deal about me, but is having a hard time loving me again after being rejected so many times.
We're starting marriage counseling next week, and she seems optimistic about it. I guess I wanted to get other women's thoughts on my situation. What do I need to communicate to her, is there anything I can do to salvage our marriage.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I was a bad husband, which led my wife to cheat, wanting to save our relationship and looking for advice/insights. | I was a bad husband, which led my wife to cheat, wanting to save our relationship and looking for advice/insights. | 1,942 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By nearly paralyzing myself
POST: While this fuck up didn't occur today, I have finally found a community to share my stupidity with.
Several months ago I decided to join the gym in an attempt to get in shape before my 30s(I'm 26 now) and my body no longer wants to cooperate. Over the course of trying to find a routine that worked for me I had observed several people using the roll out ab wheel. Looks easy enough I thought foolishly. So, on a slow day at the gym I found a quiet spot in the yoga room and decided to attempt ab roll outs.
There was one problem, and so began my fuck up, I couldn't recall if the people I observed started the exercise in a standing position or on their knees. After deciding starting on my knees sounded too easy I chose to the standing position. With my back against the wall, I bent over with the roll out wheel at my feet and began to slowly roll forward. Only then did I realize my core couldn't support my weight and as I hurriedly rolled onto my face I heard my entire spine crack. It sounded like someone ran their hand from key to key along the length of a piano. I laid face down with my arms outstretched still clutching the roll wheel wondering if I had just become a paraplegic. After a minute or two of lying there I wiggled my toes and let out an embarrassed chuckle because by now more people had trickled into the yoga room. Although I am not paralyzed, every time I step off the curb too hard I feel jolts of pain in my spine as if someone is tazing me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I tried to use ab roll out wheel and cracked my spine from tailbone to my neck and thought I became a paraplegic | I tried to use ab roll out wheel and cracked my spine from tailbone to my neck and thought I became a paraplegic | 4,054 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: So confused..
POST: I guess I just would like to talk about how I feel and see if this is normal.
Quick back story, I am 24/m and GF is 22, we have been dating for 2 years 7 months, this is my third long term GF and I am her first. This is my longest relationship and I always do the breaking up. Things just start irritating me more, I start thinking about how I could be happier and I notice that I start to project what my PERFECT girl qualities would be on other women, just women I see on the street or at work and imagine how I would be so much happier with that person, and how I am so unhappy with my current GF which lead me to the eventual break up. I never look back either.
It is happening now with my current GF. She is amazing and like no other girl I dated, she is so smart (3.89 GPA and a Bio major from a good school and will be in med school next year), driven, funny, and BEAUTIFUL!
But lately I have started to get those feelings and we have been fighting more. She is a very, idk how to put it, cold hearted? Not very emotional towards me, constantly takes things out on me during school (we barely talk during finals week for her because she is so stressed) and she has been saying things that make me think she really isn't that nice of a person inside. I am in grad school with a BA in sociology, and many times before she has said rude/condescending remarks about my schooling and career goals (law enforcement after grad school). She gets this behavior from her parents, mainly her mother, just very fake and mean spirited people, but extremely nice on the outside.
I feel guilty thinking like this because I do love her and don't want to leave her, but then another part of me does and I am so torn apart.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Getting feelings like I want to move on, but i also want to stay together... curious on why i always get like this in relationships. | Getting feelings like I want to move on, but i also want to stay together... curious on why i always get like this in relationships. | 799 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Been dating him [25m] for 7 months. Now he cut off all communication with me [20f]. What do I do?
POST: I'll make this short. He and I have been dating for 7 months, and I am absolutely in love with him. He moved 5 hours away about a month into our relationship, but I had been driving to see him every few weeks. We had been discussing moving in together next year (2014, because I like to plan ahead). We've had some problems, but nothing that would indicate that this was going to happen.
On Monday, he texted me asking if I knew how wonderful I was, how much he loved me, etc. On Tuesday he and I were talking and texting before I went into work. When I got off work, I was blocked on facebook, skype, and he wasn't answering my calls.
I finally texted him saying that he has my pets (which he does, because he volunteered to watch them for me) and he said that he needed time and that he would watch them until someone came to get them.
So, am I dumped? It feels like it, but I really don't know if it's just time apart or not. I also don't know if I want him back if he's going to pull this kind of act, but I love him and it hurts. I kept asking him if he was breaking up with me, and received no response.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend and I live apart. Were texting one morning and it was fine, that afternoon he blocked me. What do I do? | Boyfriend and I live apart. Were texting one morning and it was fine, that afternoon he blocked me. What do I do? | 1,277 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by trying to cheer up a friend after her apartment caught fire.
POST: TIFU by trying to cheer up a friend after her apartment caught fire. Mandatory "this wasn't today but a few years ago"
A good friend of mine's apartment had caught fire and they had lost most of their stuff and the apartment wasn't ever going to be livable again. So needless to say she was very upset and she already has depression as it is. So being the "good" friend I am I set to cheering her up as best I can. I realize there's only so much you can do for someone who just lost everything so we talk and I let her know I'm going to send her and her fiance some money to help them. I also think about how I can entertain her and distract her, even if just for a few minutes, from her situation.
Here's the FU - I had just played through Portal 2 and there is a character named Cave Johnson. I thought him hilarious, and he has one particular rant about "when life gives you lemons" and I thought it quite fitting. So I pulled up a link to [Cave Johnson's Lemon speech] and sent it to her and began to watch it myself. At about 25 seconds ( she had started just about 5 seconds behind me) I remember what is coming next, Cave Johnson shouting "I'M GONNA BURN YOUR HOUSE DOWN!!", and try my best to tell her "WAIT WAIT PAUSE IT DON'T WATCH!" too late... There was a long... looooong moment of silence. After which she teased me and called me a few names I won't mentioned here she began to laugh about the whole situation. We were on good terms still but I couldn't help but feeling like the worst kind of person in the world.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friend's apartment burnt down, rubbed salt in the wound by getting Cave Johnson tell her he was going to burn her house down with lemons. | Friend's apartment burnt down, rubbed salt in the wound by getting Cave Johnson tell her he was going to burn her house down with lemons. | 4,762 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Crime is getting pretty bad around my school, and not really sure what to do about it.
POST: So I go to a college in a small town; the town is not the wealthiest of places, but muggings have gotten really common both on campus and off. Last night a friend of mine was walking home at about 1 am, where he was confronted by five males, and he didn't have any money on him, so they all just beat him up pretty badly. Last weekend there were some armed muggings as well. I am just seeing if anyone has any suggestions as to how to deal with this because I am not feeling completely safe anymore. I am afraid of my girlfriend walking the seven minuted from her house to my house, and just do not feel safe going anywhere after dark. Is there even anything I can do about it? If I happend to be mugged, what should I realistically do? Should I just book it and run as fast as possible or give them my money and hope they dont stab me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Muggings have gotten pretty bad around my school and I dont know how to deal with it. Also, if I am mugged, how should I act? | Muggings have gotten pretty bad around my school and I dont know how to deal with it. Also, if I am mugged, how should I act? | 5,487 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [26 M] boyfriend broke up with me [25 F] boyfriend unexpectedly. Help me with what to say to get some closure.
POST: People of Reddit please help me with what to say. So almost a month ago my boyfriend broke up with me. We had been dating for 5 months.
Some backstory: We met when I was at Uni and he lives in Sydney and I in Melbourne. At first I thought the distance wouldn't work but we spoke every day and I frequently traveled to Sydney for my course. He traveled down to Melbourne also. I met his sister and all his Sydney friends. We had never had a fight. Everything seemed to be going perfect. Then one day he came home and said 'I don't see a future' 'this isn't working'. I told him if it was the distance I was planning to move to Sydney since I also had a job opportunity. He said it would change things and he had made up his mind.
It was such a surprise, there were no warning signs and it seemed to just come out of nowhere. It has really broken my heart. I am trying really hard to move on but I keep thinking what was the 'real' reason he suddenly changed his mind. I haven't spoken to him since two days after the breakup when I returned to Melbourne.
I know there wasn't another woman, the sex was amazing, we got along incredibly well. I'm going to contact him via facebook chat.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to know why he did it. What should I stay to start a conversation that would help me get some piece of mind. | I want to know why he did it. What should I stay to start a conversation that would help me get some piece of mind. | 2,221 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: A question for guys: Do you do these things when you are interested in someone?
POST: I have a guy friend who I made recently and he asks to hang out a lot and whenever we go grab a bite he offers to pay. I always say no but sometimes he is very persistent. He also tries to hug me a lot and texts me rather often. I've just recently met him at work so I find his behaviour a bit odd because even though we're friends, I'm still getting to know him and I don't feel close enough to him to be so touchy feely. Also, I think he may be interested in me, which if he is, I don't want to lead him on but I also don't want him to think I don't appreciate his friendship. I do enjoy hanging out with him but just as a friend.
How do I know if he likes me or is just being friendly? How do I set boundaries without being rude? He is fun to hangout with but I'm not a sentimental person and I don't like being touched. I am also not attracted to him at all.
Thanks in advance!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | If a new guy friend asks to hang out a lot and pay for things does he like you? How do I make it clear I don't like him and can't accept his gifts? We are both 19. | If a new guy friend asks to hang out a lot and pay for things does he like you? How do I make it clear I don't like him and can't accept his gifts? We are both 19. | 2,206 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24M] and friendship question about helping and receiving.
POST: Basically I have a friend who I have spent lots of time helping work on their car mechanically, and car audio projects, and a few other things, for free. They now have a motorcycle project but seem to think my time is just abundant and free.
I do this type of stuff to put food on my table, but they offer me no compensation. Friends should help friends but I feel Im the only one who really puts in any investment to the friendship.
So I kinda hesitated to help on this motorcycle project.
This friend has a little business of his own, which I have given him tons of business. Knowing he taxes me on all of purchases because hes got to make some money for his efforts and time.
Well he broke something on the motorcycle, something somewhat important and all hell broke loose and it somewhat blamed on me because he asked to borrow a torque wrench and I lent it to him, but he didn't have the right socket to match up so he winged it. And broke shit.
Poetic justic?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Peer loves to tax me on everything, but when my help is needed it is just assumed my time and services/tools are free. | Peer loves to tax me on everything, but when my help is needed it is just assumed my time and services/tools are free. | 3,469 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Misterious woman tells me misterious phrase. Reddit, can you help me understand what the hell happened?
POST: Ok, backgroud story. I'm an Italian student that this summer went on a 10 day trip around europe. We visited Amsterdam, Copenaghen and Munchen...but this is not the point.
While we were in Copenaghen, something quite unexplainable happened to me. I and two friend of mine were waiting outside a supermarket controlling our backpacks while two other friends were inside buying food for everyone. Mind you, we are Italians in Denmark, we were travelling by ourselves and we didn't knew anyone there. I was talking to my friend about nothing in particoular (how to properly put things inside a big backpack, if I remember), when we saw this woman.
She was probably around 35/40 years old, was wearing worn out clothes and was riding this old bicycle with lots of shopping bags full of empty plastic bottles (later we learned that some homeless people search plastic bottles in the dumpsters to take them to recicle points were they are given money for it). We, obviously, didn't bother...until she went near us. We were quite puzzled, but she didn't seem dangerous so we weren't worried. Then, she approached me, leaned toward me (I was sitting on the sidewalk) and in perfect italian wispered to my ear "Allow me to congratulate you for the willfulness and strenght of your opinions" ("Le faccio i complimenti per la caparbietà e solidità delle sue opinioni", if some fellow italian has a better translation please tell me!).
What. The. Fuck. I looked at her, mumbled "thank you" and then she took her bike and went her merrily way without giving me an explanation. I don't know who she was, why she speaked perfectly italian and most of all I don't know if that phrase has some deeper meaning. This happened the 10th of August; today, I had an illumination: why don't I ask Reddit, that most of the times has an explanation for anithing? This is my last chance to solve this mistery. Thank you for the attention!.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | misterious woman I've never seen before spoke to me in my language in Copenaghen, telling me a phrase I could not explain y any means. | misterious woman I've never seen before spoke to me in my language in Copenaghen, telling me a phrase I could not explain y any means. | 413 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: When I (19/M) think about asking girls out, I'm more afraid that they'll say yes
POST: I know that I am holding myself back from having a nice relationship because I'm afraid that when I ask this girl out, she'll say yes. Basically, I know that she likes me and I like her, but whenever I think about asking her out I convince myself not to. I really don't like making small talk, so I'm worried that if/when she does say yes and we go out, it'll just be awkward.
I have felt this way my entire life, and as a result, I have never even been on a date or kissed a girl. I know that girls have liked me and some have asked me out before, but the fear of having nothing to say is crippling.
I know I shouldn't let this stand in my way!! What can I do to avoid what I perceive is inevitable awkwardness if I go on a date?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | To paraphrase NFG- "Did you notice I was afraid, I thought I'd run out of things to say" | To paraphrase NFG- "Did you notice I was afraid, I thought I'd run out of things to say" | 5,395 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: i could really use some advice from someone who either currently works for or has worked for Safeway..
POST: WARNING! WALL OF TEXT!
i am 23 years old. i have worked at safeway for about 1 1/2 years now. i was a courtesy clerk for 3 months, and then i worked in the floral department, then a little bit in the bakery. i had to get a second job because i was being paid minimum wage and my hours were being cut. the new job i got was extremely stressful, but it had more secure hours and the pay was more. i was going to give my two weeks notice to my safeway job when the manager offered me a position in File Maintenance. they said that i would be making 8.90/hr with over night (night shift) rates on top of that after i finished a weeks training. he said that once i was in file maintenance, i would earn raises more quickly, get more hours, and that i could be management within a year. he also said that i would have to quit my second job because they would need me to work weekends. i thought about it for a day, and decided to quit my higher paying job and take the position in file maintenance. i have worked in the new position for almost six months now, and i had to go to the union for him to change my job title and to get the numbers to clock over to the department (i had never clocked over to floral or even bakery before). even after that my title was only changed to GM clerk and my rate of pay is 8.40. i get scheduled about 22 hrs a week on average. i just feel like such an idiot. i hate the new job, i make the same amount of money i did before (except technically less since i quit my other job for this position) and i feel like i'm going insane working the night shift. is this a common thing to do in safeway? i feel like this can't possibly be personal, right? i work really hard, and i don't really understand why the manager would lie to me about a better position when i was going to leave the company. i didn't really find the union helpful when i went the first time. what should i do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | quit second job to accept supposedly higher paying position at current company with opportunity for more hours/raises. turns out that the new position only offered sleep deprivation. feeling fucked. | quit second job to accept supposedly higher paying position at current company with opportunity for more hours/raises. turns out that the new position only offered sleep deprivation. feeling fucked. | 6,318 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How to tell my current S/O (m30) that I (f27) want to meet up with my ex?
POST: I (f28) love my boyfriend (m30) of 18 months and we plan to get married. I know i want to spend the rest of my life with him. There is no doubt in my mind. But because of where I work, there is a chance I may run into my ex (m29) that I once had very strong feelongs for. I actually want to talk to him to clear some air that was left foggy when we ended things 2 yrs ago. I think talking to him and getting something off my chest would officially allow me to move forward in my current relationship. But I don't know how to bring it up to my boyfriend. Part of me thinks he will understand if I tell him and he will appreciate me being honest with him because that is how he is. But I'm also worried he'd be upset and that's the last thing I want.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | what is the best way to approach this situation? Do I confront my ex or am I setting myself up for a mess? | what is the best way to approach this situation? Do I confront my ex or am I setting myself up for a mess? | 2,836 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: think I got gipped? [ex post from /r/relationship_advice]
POST: Alright, I maybe exaggerating but I have to vent. So a few days ago, I broke up with my gf of 11 months [18/f] and got into a small depression. But then it hit me, the next day I started talking to a new girl, she seemed pretty legit and everything, I kinda edged on that she was pretty chill and got to the point that day we started saying "Oh you're cute" and all that mushy shit. She seemed a bit girly saying I was lovely, adorable, etc etc, but the here and now, the next day, started with a good morning text, she said it back, then we talked for a bit there jokingly saying to come over here and make both of us food so we don't starve since she had no power, then it stopped there. Tonight, I decided to text her a goodnight message then I got a text back saying goodnight.. jokingly, I said "Oh, forgot about me already huh?" she said "Nah, I'm just easily distracted" Now I can't determine whether or not if she's bullshitting or not
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Talked to this girl the whole day then barely talked the next, any conclusion whether or not she's bullshitting? | Talked to this girl the whole day then barely talked the next, any conclusion whether or not she's bullshitting? | 2,167 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18 M] am in my first serious relationship with my [18F] girlfriend of 4 months and I think I'm out of the honeymoon period so I'v just got some questions.
POST: So I met my girlfriend earlier this year. We were actually friends originally which is good because I find her interesting on an intellectual level and not just attractive.
I'm not going to go into detail but after a while we decided to start dating and after a few dates we happily became a couple.
We are still very happy, but at the beginning it was such an insane high, I remember on our first date I felt sick from emotions and first time doing anything sexually we couldn't keep our hands off eachother.
Now things have finally came down and there's more of a comfortable feeling than a high of butterflies and etc.
I understand that its biologically impossible to be on such a high 24/7 and I do still get the odd case of butterflies so there's nothing to worry about but I'm just wondering is this all normal?
I'v never been in a serious relationship before, only short high school ones so I don't have much experience after this far into a relationship (if it is far at all)
What can I do to make things interesting so we still get the odd rush?
Is this all normal?
What pros come after the honeymoon phase? (I'v noticed Im not as worried about what I say/how I look now in front of her now)
Does anybody have any advice for a couple who have just ended there honeymoon phase?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I think I'm just after ending the honeymoon phase in my first relationship and I'm wondering is what I'm feeling all normal? | I think I'm just after ending the honeymoon phase in my first relationship and I'm wondering is what I'm feeling all normal? | 2,109 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I am in love with someone I hardly know.
POST: I knew this person in high school and we were both interested in each other. It never worked out although I have had dreams about this person ever since (8 years of dreams). They aren't sexual dreams, but this is really, really wearing on me. In the dreams I am very happy to be with her and when I wake up I am devastated. The worst part is that I am currently in a relationship and know that this other girl is single. I went for lunch with her a little over a year ago to see how she was doing and we seemed to both enjoy ourselves. I have not pursued this relationship because I am in a fairly good relationship and feel delusional thinking this "dream" relationship could work out.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am currently in a relationship of three years and I am secretly in love with a girl I knew 8 years ago. I literally dream about her. | I am currently in a relationship of three years and I am secretly in love with a girl I knew 8 years ago. I literally dream about her. | 4,233 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [22F] with my [24 M] boyfriend 5 months, broke up with me, but still has feelings and is "in love with me"
POST: He called me over to his house and told me he wants to break up but he still has feelings for me and loves me. He texted me that night and I did no contact him back.
He texted me three days later telling me he loves me and wonders why I don't matter to him and hurt him. I've told small lies and he wants that to change.
I talked to him last night and I told him to tell me he doesn't love me anymore just so I can bury the hatchet and move on. He said he can't do that because it isn't true. I told him I won't get over him if he keeps telling me that. After we got off the phone he texts me he misses me and loves me. Then I called him back to ask why he did that. He said because it's true. I busted out crying like a crazy cat lady telling him I hated him and I was going to pretend like we never met and he shouldn't think about me or talk to me ever again.
Why would he say those things to me? How can I move on from this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | it's like he wants me to keep hanging on, but if he doesn't want to be with me... what's his reason. | it's like he wants me to keep hanging on, but if he doesn't want to be with me... what's his reason. | 5,268 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: I feel weird that there are 0 FB pics in which my ex [24f]and I [27m] are both tagged. Am I wrong?
POST: We dated for about 2.5 years, and the break-up, (about 5 months ago) was both mutual and heartbreaking. Neither of us have been active on Facebook since we started dating, but I decided to log-on tonight and looked at some of my pictures and hers (not my intention, but it happened).
As I was going through our respective pictures I noticed that not one time were we both tagged in the same photo, despite the fact that we both appear in at least 12 pictures (there are more pictures of us, but apparently they haven't been uploaded).
I've accepted (still don't like it) that ending the relationship was the right choice for us then and that staying apart is still the right decision, but it feels strange that there are no Facebook tags of the both of us.
Am I wrong in feeling like this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex and I broke up 5 months ago, there are 0 pics on FB where we're both tagged. Am I wrong in thinking that's weird? | Ex and I broke up 5 months ago, there are 0 pics on FB where we're both tagged. Am I wrong in thinking that's weird? | 3,465 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Not receiving pay promised for 3 months now (US)
POST: I'm not really sure where to go with this but this seems like a good place to start. In 9/2015 I received an email from my project mgr that I was getting a raise effective 10/1. I am paid bi-monthly and received my first paycheck with the new rate on 10.22. However, the pay rate was listed lower than what I was promised by 4 cents an hour. I work from home and have no in person contact with anyone from the company, so I emailed my direct supervisor who found a contact in HR for me to email.
I sent that person an email on 10/23, and received a reply a day later that the pay rate on my paycheck was a mistake and "we don't know why some paychecks were off cents on the dollar but it is definitely a mistake and will be fixed retroactive to October 1st." I have not heard a single thing from this woman since that time.
I waited a month and emailed her again asking why it was not fixed. I did not receive any response from her so I emailed my boss. She immediately emailed the project manager (who emailed me the raise info to begin with) and was told he would "run it to the ground" which she forwarded to me. Still no response directly to me from either of them or anyone else, and no explanation as to why the pay rate was off cents on the dollar.
12/22 I emailed my boss yet AGAIN. I have now received 5 paychecks with the incorrect rate and no one from the company has contacted me in any way to fix the problem or apologize or even make any kind of excuse. There is no reason why it would take this long to fix.
The minimal amount of the discrepancy is irrelevant to me. I'm just pissed that I'm clearly not valued as an employee. Any amount should be enough to warrant at least a response. Obviously it's not enough money to warrant me consulting a lawyer, but isn't what's happening here fraud? I received a written confirmation of pay rate increase and have not received the pay rate promised.
What should my next step be in trying to solve this issue?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Was promised a raise, got my paycheck and it's a few cents an hour lower than I was told in writing. Company refuses to even respond to my requests for an explanation or fix. | Was promised a raise, got my paycheck and it's a few cents an hour lower than I was told in writing. Company refuses to even respond to my requests for an explanation or fix. | 2,061 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I need a costume for my works theme night, any ideas?
POST: Ok so my place of work occasionally has theme nights, I make very little effort for these and get in trouble for it every time.
*So* hopefully with your help, I can make a better impression this time around.
**Theme**: ***Movies***
**My restrictions**
* I moved to the other hemisphere and only took what I *really* needed with me.
* I got a shit low paying job which means I haven't bought anything new since I got here.
* Sad as it is to say, being female drastically lowers my options on the character front, I've searched things like the 100 greatest movie characters and most of them are male >.<
I have been raged at by coworkers for not making an effort on nights such as "School Uniform" night, I tried explaining that when I was packing to move to the other side of the world, a school uniform i'll never ever wear again wasn't exactly top of my priority list but alas i'm still lazy and didn't make an effort despite my disadvantages.
So any ideas for a famous film star or character that just wore jeans and a top but did something iconic with their hair, or their make up or something?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Need a female film star/character that is/was a normal boring person so I can actually be seen to be "making an effort" at my work theme night. | Need a female film star/character that is/was a normal boring person so I can actually be seen to be "making an effort" at my work theme night. | 2,010 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Gf [26f] mentioned last night that she doesn't feel that I'm attracted to her [26m] and claimed it 'was as good as over' after sex...
POST: Registered to make this post, so hello I guess.
A bit of context:
-Long distance relationship (7 months, 1.5 hrs away from each other)
-I live in the country she lives in in the city
-She is currently stressed from having to move out and find a new place
-We both share the same career and share many interests, which is the initial reason I fell for her
-I've been burned by high-maintenance model-tier women before so I was looking for something a bit more homely, but she's not unattractive at all
Basically after sex the other night I couldn't 'arrive', and she got really upset claiming that 'this has been happening for weeks now'. She's been getting orgasms where as I haven't, and she basically assumed that I was no longer attracted to her. She made all sorts of threats about breaking up, cheating while I was away etc and when I called her on her BS manipulation she started crying.
I'm not the most emotionally accessible guy, I take a LONG time to climax even with very attractive women, I still like her a lot and she's extremely useful to me.
Need a female perspective more than anything
TL;DR: . Assistant: | can't orgasm with GF she thinks it's because I'm not attracted to her, that's not true, advice? | can't orgasm with GF she thinks it's because I'm not attracted to her, that's not true, advice? | 5,343 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I(16M) made fun of my teacher(33M)because he couldn't win me in a race and it turns out he had lung cancer
POST: Hello, a few weeks ago I saw my teacher(I consider him an older brother rather than a teacher, and let's call him "J") in the swimming pool I usually go to so I greeted J and he asked if I wanted to race so I accepted. I won because him ran out of breath and couldn't continue so I asked if he was alright then continued my routine swimming. A few days later at school I saw him and reminded him of his loss and said: "dead lungs, haha"(Yes, that sounded horrible and I don't know why I said that AT ALL). Then around a week later I heard a few teachers talking and saying that J has lung cancer! I confirmed that by asking certain people. Now I feel guilt every single day because J PROBABLY thinks I knew about his condition and I knowingly mocked him for it. He hasn't changed the way he treats me, but I feel genuinely bad. What should I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Won race with teacher, made fun of him for running out of breath(Made a direct comment about lungs), turns out he has lung cancer, I feel horrible because he probably thinks I made fun of his condition KNOWINGLY. | Won race with teacher, made fun of him for running out of breath(Made a direct comment about lungs), turns out he has lung cancer, I feel horrible because he probably thinks I made fun of his condition KNOWINGLY. | 2,609 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20 M] asked a girl [20 F] to coffee, then she told me she had a boyfriend.
POST: Hi all, so, as the title says, I asked a girl from one of my classes to coffee. She responded by saying that, while she doesn't drink coffee, she would like to do something with me. This is around the second or third day we had known each other and so I felt like my intentions were clear as it is a common thing on my campus. Afterwards we texted for quite a while into the late night.
In the midst of the conversation, she passingly said 'my boyfriend'. I'm not trying to step on toes or read too far into this, nor do I want to break up a relationship or anything like that, but I'm very confused.
Of course there is only so much the internet can get from my description, and I'd be happy to describe it more, but how do I read this? Or handle it? I'm just trying to get back into the dating game so I'm behind the curve, haha.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl I asked to hang out with passingly mentioned a boyfriend, how do I read this/what do I do. | Girl I asked to hang out with passingly mentioned a boyfriend, how do I read this/what do I do. | 1,712 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (27m) relationship questions!
POST: Hi reddit. I have been doing a lot of self reflection lately, having just come out of a 1.5yr relationship 2 months ago.
There's something about myself I developed during this relationship that I don't like and I think it's unhealthy. It's hard to explain but I became very attached to this person, so much so that I would get very anxious when they were away from me. It made me uneasy when ever she was out or away. I kept thinking she would meet someone else. I felt as though she is wasn't really interested in me, and I would do things to make her jealous.
I had really high self esteem going into the relationship, but it got lower and lower during my time with her. It felt as though she always kept me at an arms length, saying she has to maintain her independence. She kept secrets, and didn't really communicate to me. She would flirt with other guys. When I told her my feelings that I don't appreciate that, she said that she can do what ever she wants that she's a grown woman.
It's confusing me because with my ex-ex-gf, it was different. I loved when she would go away and I had time to myself. I missed her still, but it wasn't crippling and playing on my mind all the time. I could still relax and look forward to having her come home.
Can anyone identify what is going on here? I don't want this to carry on into future relationships. Any more info needed or questions I'll be sure to answer! Thanks
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I would enter a state of anxiety when apart from my ex. Very unhealthy. What can I do to not carry this over into future relationships. | I would enter a state of anxiety when apart from my ex. Very unhealthy. What can I do to not carry this over into future relationships. | 404 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21M] with my friend [21F] who knows I have feels for her, wants to hang out while dating some other guy
POST: I have been good friends with this girl through college and just started to grow feelings for her. It just so happens that she starts dating this guy at about the same time, and whenever they are not together, she comes to me for someone to hangout with.
I usually try and play it off that I am busy because, honestly, I think I am just hurting myself by hanging out with her. Is it bad that I am basically lying, most of the time, to get myself out of a situation I don't want to be in? I have no idea how to be straight up with her about this because I may come off to her as slightly crazy and i don't want to ruin the friendship we have.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girl I have feelings for gets boyfriend, wants to hangout with me, i don't want to hang out with her because the situation sucks | girl I have feelings for gets boyfriend, wants to hangout with me, i don't want to hang out with her because the situation sucks | 2,649 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27 M] with my wife[26 F] of 3 years, my aunt[60sF] just started a relationship with my wifes' mother......my mom is pissed
POST: Ok so I never thought I'd have to post here but here I am. So a little back round. My mom and dad have never been supportive of my aunt and her "life style choices" as my mom calls it. However they have always been polite and nice to her at family gatherings. I constantly have to point out their bigotry but they just throw the bible in my face.
Ok so Last night I got a text from my mom stating that her and my dad got an email from my aunt that she is now in a relationship with my wifes mother. She was super pissed and basically told me that they will be cutting my aunt out of there lives for her "poor choice in a mate". I love my aunt and really love having her in my life. I feel more comfortable talking about important things with her than I do my parents so cutting her out of my life is not an option. However I don't want to estrange my parents because even though they are backwoods bigots they are still my parents and I love them very much.
My wife is struggling with it cause well, It's her mom and my mother just called her mother a "poor choice in a mate". So she is pissed at my mom. Which I totally understand.
So my question is. How do I defuse the situation without losing any family members? is it possible? or is it a lost cause? Clearly my mom and dad are in the wrong. I am just baffled at the whole situation. I just need some advise
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My mom and dad are not supportive of my gay aunt. She is dating my wifes mother. mom called MIL a bad choice of mate. wifes pissed. I'm baffled. how to defuse the situation? | My mom and dad are not supportive of my gay aunt. She is dating my wifes mother. mom called MIL a bad choice of mate. wifes pissed. I'm baffled. how to defuse the situation? | 3,696 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: On/Off partner [18 F] broke up with me [18 M] again. Now only wants to be friends.
POST: Okay so my friend and I developed a physical and romantic friendship at the beginning of the year. We discussed dating, but put it off, given that as long as I've known her she has been unable to date someone for more than a week or so. Her reasoning is that she doesn't feel like herself while in a relationship. However, emotions got the best of us and we started dating a few weeks after it began.
After about two months, she broke up with me, saying she didn't feel like herself. I was upset but I came into it knowing it would happen. We continued talking after it, and about a week later I invited her over to my house to see a movie. While we were watching the movie, I kissed her, much to her surprise. It grew more heated and I ended up becoming her first time that night. She later told me that she had expected us to watch the movie as friends and didn't think that was going to happen, but was alright with how it turned out given that she was still attracted to me.
For about a month after that we began dating again, not as boyfriend/girlfriend, but as "monogamous romantic partners" as she called it. It continued like this until the prom, where she asked me out again. For a few weeks it was fine, but I noticed she was starting to get stressed out about it again. We had a talk about it and decided it would be better if we broke up.
Now she doesn't want to hang out with me for awhile, and is more distant than the first time this happened. According to her close friends (theyre also good friends of mine), this is because she still has feelings for me. She knows something will happen between us if we hang out and she doesn't want to go through another break up again.
So Reddit, I need some help. I don't want to date my friend again, given that it doesn't turn out well, but I want to get back into that position of romantic friends. Any thoughts?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | On/Off romantic partner wants to distance herself from me because she still has feelings for me and doesnt want to be hurt by the break ups again. | On/Off romantic partner wants to distance herself from me because she still has feelings for me and doesnt want to be hurt by the break ups again. | 1,466 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] 6 months, just broke up with me and I don't know what to do
POST: I work an engineering job making a decent salary, I contribute to my 401k, IRA, and also have a savings account in hopes that someday I will be able to buy a house. My girlfriend works in a sales position with commission and does not make very much money.
We've lived together for about 4 months and our main point of argument is that she doesn't have any long-term plans for the future. She doesn't save any money and won't commit to going back to college to learn a new skill and get a 9-5 job that provides stable income.
I've been pretty much paying for everything and today I told her how stressed out it was making me that she wouldn't even try to think about our future. It was probably the 4th time I've said this during our relationship and she basically called it off.
I just spent the last hour crying and begging her to stay telling her I was wrong and that I would try harder at work to cover both of us in the future but she still moved everything out of my apt and left.
I don't know what to do. Should I try to get her back or move on?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my gf and I fight about money, I tell her that she needs to think about the future and get a stable job and she breaks up with me | my gf and I fight about money, I tell her that she needs to think about the future and get a stable job and she breaks up with me | 3,249 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21M] with my GF [19F] 3.5 months LDR communication issues.
POST: So I've been going out with this girl since last July, and in October we decided to make it 'official'. She said she wanted to be my girlfriend (prior to that we defined our relationship as an 'open' one). I asked her if she was sure, and then I told her that I would love it if she was my girlfriend.
We are both in University approximately 150 miles away from each other, so we don't get to see each other that often.
She isn't your typical 19 year old who is glued to her phone all day, however she does check it once and a while but rarely replies to my messages. I don't know how to address this issue. We send a couple of texts a day and on weekends we chat on the phone. During the week we may send a couple of snapchats, but that's the extent of it.
I'm her first boyfriend and I'm not sure if that is why she is so bad at communicating. She is very inconsistent and I don't feel like she communicates with me as her boyfriend. Occasionally she'll call me 'hot stuff' or 'babe' but usually it's 'dude' or 'man'. Her inconsistency in communicating makes me feel like she is not taking this seriously, or making an effort. Sometimes I worry that there is someone else and I asked her once but she said no. I want to trust her, but given my past experiences it is difficult. Especially with the lack of communication on her behalf. Sometimes I think she's just worried we're going to run out of conversation topics and that's why she replies so sporadically.
Am I overthinking this? Is this normal in early phases of relationships, especially long-distance ones? Maybe I'm just used to clingier girls?
Any help, advice, or input is greatly appreciated!!!
Thanks guys!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF is very inconsistent in communicating. I'm afraid she's cheating. Is it because she is new to the whole 'relationship' thing? Maybe I'm overthinking this? | GF is very inconsistent in communicating. I'm afraid she's cheating. Is it because she is new to the whole 'relationship' thing? Maybe I'm overthinking this? | 2,642 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [19F] girlfriend is leaving me [20M] because she is unhappy
POST: Hello ! I'm trying really hard to not text her right now, so here I am.
She's leaving me because she says she is unhappy. In her defense, I had become a shitty boyfriend the last few months. It wasn't always like that I know we're young, but that's not what I want to hear. We lived with each other, and we loved each other. However, she feels as if maybe she didn't love me, and that she doesn't know what love is. We've been together three years, we almost got married.
She says maybe in the future we can try again. I know everyone says no contact, but is it a good thing to try again? I still love her. She also feels as if she needs to work on herself a bit. I want to work it out. Why couldn't she stay and work it out? Am I wrong for having some feels of hate for her not working it out? She wants to put herself first more instead of others.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriend leaving because she's unhappy. Doesn't want to stay to work it out, wants to work on herself. Maybe try again down the road. | girlfriend leaving because she's unhappy. Doesn't want to stay to work it out, wants to work on herself. Maybe try again down the road. | 4,835 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Medical Bill Help
POST: So I'm new to reddit so please be kind! My boyfriend suggested I ask for help here.
Background - about a year ago I was in a bad car accident (rear ended a semi on the freeway doing 60mph because he cut me off). Well I'm paying monthly to multiple places, hospitals & doctors, for the exams and tests I had done.
I went to the dentist for my checkup and was told that I need a root canal and crown but my insurance covers almost nothing - I would still need to pay $1200+ out of pocket. I cannot afford this on my income currently.
I have a credit card that I use for small purchases and pay off every month, would it be a smart idea to get another credit card with lower interest rate put my dental work on it and then pay it off monthly?
Or is there a better solution I'm missing? I have tried care credit and they won't approve me :(
TL;DR: . Assistant: | i need $1200+ dental work. Is putting it on a credit card and paying monthly a good idea or is there another solution? | i need $1200+ dental work. Is putting it on a credit card and paying monthly a good idea or is there another solution? | 4,160 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20F] with dad's girlfriend [40-50?F] of 6 months. She is critical, racist, and difficult to be around. Help me!
POST: I'm going to be home over the holidays starting tomorrow and will have to deal with my dad's girlfriend who I find very difficult to be around. She and my father have been dating for 6 months and he seems happy, despite everything. I would never interfere with their relationship, and though I would prefer he dated someone else, I know that's not in my control. But I need help surviving the holidays with her.
She is critical of me ("why did you choose this nail polish color? its such an old lady color"/"you need to smile more in pictures, this ISNT working for you"), super racist (legitimately thinks that all muslims need to be "eliminated," loves Donald Trump) and has even done stuff like thrown away my makeup and shower gels without asking. (She said they were "too old" which they totally weren't, but even if they WERE she should have asked me). She also smacked my dads butt while making eye contact with me. HOW am I supposed to react to that sh*t?? Thankfully I'll be over at my mom's house for the most part.
How do I firmly but kindly reject her comments and advice? She says stuff like "honey, don't you want to change before going to the restaurant?" when I'm wearing something perfectly nice and presentable. Also any tips on minimizing my time over there/escaping their guilt tactics ("ohhh we wanted to see you more!") would be great.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My dad's girlfriend is racist, hyper-critical, and weird. How do I respond to the things she does...with grace? | My dad's girlfriend is racist, hyper-critical, and weird. How do I respond to the things she does...with grace? | 947 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21F] cheated on my boyfriend [24M], it meant nothing to me, I was totally honest with him about it and he didn't mind.
POST: I don't quite know how to feel about it. I feel like shit about what I did. I got drunk and just ended up fooling around with a guy I barely know because he was interested and cute and nice.
I don't have the perfect relationship with my boyfriend, I often feel inadequate and unattractive because of how he treats me and how he still is infatuated with his ex. I don know if I was just trying to feel wanted by hooking up with this guy, but it is no excuse. I got a ride home from a friend and told my boyfriend as soon as I got home- before I even kissed him or hugged him because I didn't want to deceive him as he has done to me when he cheated on me (he lied about it for over a week about what actually happened- it just got worse and worse when the truth came out. I forgave him, obviously) but maybe subconsciously I did this to "get back at him". I don't think I did, but I can't imagine why I'd do this to him otherwise.
When I told my boyfriend he said "it's okay" and I asked "are you sure?" and he said "of course, baby, I love you, it's fine".
I'm both relived and even more guilty because of his reaction. I would be so mad if it was him (even knowing that in my slip up it meant nothing) and I feel like I don't deserve his forgiveness. I was SO hurt when he cheated on me, it almost feels off that he isn't hurt... As in- does he not care as much about the relationship as I do?
Am I over thinking this? Should I just let this incident fade into obscurity and move on, or should I try to talk more in depth about this?
Thanks in advance. It is really complicated and awful and I feel like the shittiest person alive despite his forgiveness. I think maybe it is because I still haven't forgiven him 100%?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | cheated on bf who cheated on me, he forgave me, but I'm not sure how I feel about his forgiveness and now I'm questioning if I've forgiven him as completely as I thought. | cheated on bf who cheated on me, he forgave me, but I'm not sure how I feel about his forgiveness and now I'm questioning if I've forgiven him as completely as I thought. | 3,724 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [22 M] almost one year, broke up- how do I get him to talk to me again?
POST: My boyfriend broke up with me last week because he said he is dealing with depression and could not be in a relationship with me anymore.
I was extremely hurt because I had no idea he was feeling depressed and the breakup was so sudden and out of the blue to me. Also I am taking my MCAT on April 1st, so the sudden breakup just seemed like the worst thing to happen before my exam.
I feel regretful that he did not tell me earlier when he started feeling depressed, because recently we have had fights mostly because of stress from college- but obviously if I knew he was dealing with depression I would not have fought with him at all. I really did not want the break up to happen.
After the breakup, he said he wanted to remain friends. However, I got angry with him- feeling that he was messing up my future by choosing to break up with me before my MCAT. so I blocked him on facebook. Afterwards, I immediately regretted it because I knew that he would be very hurt by it.
Now, I want him to know that I want to be there for him, but I am not sure how to make him talk to me. His friend told me he is very hurt and not talking to anyone. I have sent texts saying that I apologized for blocking him on facebook, but he has not replied. Should I re-add him on facebook? Send another text? I just don't know what to do to get him to talk to me...
This is my first relationship, so I really don't know what is best to do.
I really want to just see if he's okay. I want to be there for him.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | boyfriend broke up with me before mcat, I blocked him, now i regret it and don't know what to do next. | boyfriend broke up with me before mcat, I blocked him, now i regret it and don't know what to do next. | 2,025 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [30 M] with my ex-gf [30 F]. We dated a year, I cheated and we broke up. I want to apologize or do I let sleeping dogs lie?
POST: I ended up cheating on my girlfriend during a business trip and she found out. She understandably broke up with me as she was completely trusting of me going on this trip with a female co-worker who was always flirty with me. I messed up bad and beyond repair.
I know the trust is gone and we're not going to get back together, but I want to apologize to her for my shitty actions. I wanted your opinion, is it sensible to apologize or would it just dig up bad memories?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Cheated on my g/f of 1 year. Was rightly dumped and want to apologize. Let sleeping dogs lie or apologize? | Cheated on my g/f of 1 year. Was rightly dumped and want to apologize. Let sleeping dogs lie or apologize? | 3,039 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: How motivation changes.
POST: I wanted to tell my story of motivation so far, and maybe it will help some folks who aren't sure what/where their motivation comes from.
A few months ago, I had someone I loved very much go away. My heart was broken. Our situations were the cause, so it wasn't something that either would have chosen if they were different. This set something off in my brain. This is when I started my weight loss journey. At first, it was the only thing that distracted from my broken heart. As time went on, I also questioned if my motivation to lose weight was JUST because of this.
Recently, I was able to reconnect with her. It is nothing like it was, but it's what I desperately wanted that whole time. But today, I had a realization that my weight loss path and the road to a healthier version is more important to me now. I still want to reconnect with that person, but I know now, I am only getting healthy for myself. It was a great feeling. I know I will keep going with or without them in my life. She was the catalyst to start, but not the fuel to keep going. I found that in myself.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | If you have doubts about your motivations, sometimes the spark that caused the change doesn't matter. It's what fuels you along the path that matters. Find your fuel and trust in it. | If you have doubts about your motivations, sometimes the spark that caused the change doesn't matter. It's what fuels you along the path that matters. Find your fuel and trust in it. | 2,291 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my date[20 F] of 1.5 months, she has feelings for me and her ex
POST: So I've been dating this girl for a month (casually) and it's been great. We are both friends with our exes, both of us broke up with them not the other way around. Anyways yesterday I started talking to her about her ex and her reluctance to go exclusive right away (she doesn't want to be insensitive to him). Long story short, during the conversation I got this text from her:
Her:
"I'm so sorry if you feel like you are the side line guy or something. I hate that you felt that way. You should never feel that way and I feel terrible sorry. I'm going to be honest and say that I like both you guys, but you're not my backup in anyway. I really like you, that is why I've been so confused about thus. If I hadnt met you I prob would have gone back to my ex by now, but I seriously think your awesome and you make me not want to".
So it was kind of a punch to the stomach, but I like this girl and we have been spending alot of time together. How can I handle this? I do want to be with her but I feel this is a very touchy subject.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl i've been dating still has feelings about the ex she broke up with, but is dating me now and isn't sure what to do. | Girl i've been dating still has feelings about the ex she broke up with, but is dating me now and isn't sure what to do. | 6,445 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] of 4 months, I lied to her
POST: I lied to my girlfriend about going to a party and she is very hurt about it. I didnt do anyhting at the party or anything but we had been fighting that day because i went to an event earlier that day that my ex showed up to. I did not invite my girlfriend to the event and she obviously felt bad and she felt like i was excluding her from a family event but the only reason i didnt invite her was because I didnt even know about till last minute. Now that situation has been resolved as I have made it clear to my ex that she repulses me in every way. But yes I did lie and I feel like an asshole. She asked me about it yesterday and I came clean, needless to say she was furious and I understand but I never meant any harm by it. I lie, a lot, to get me out of sticky situations, I try to not lie to her about anything but this one time that I did I feel so guilty I just want her to be happy but I feel like Im always letting her down. What can I do to fix this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Lied to my girlfriend and she found out. How do I apologize genuinely and how do I start gaining her trust again? | Lied to my girlfriend and she found out. How do I apologize genuinely and how do I start gaining her trust again? | 2,331 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My[25f] aunt[46f] might make the bank repossess my car because I am not sharing my wifi connection.
POST: I am a freelancer and being one in my country, I basically cannot take up loans under my name because I can't provide proof I have a stable income even though my salary is higher than the average in my field. I wanted to buy a car for my parents to help them with their small business. So I asked my aunt to put the car loan under her name. She agreed and I got the car last year.
Then I was eating dinner last night when I received a text from my aunt asking me:
>wifiproblem001, why are you not sharing your wifi anymore? We're paying for it promptly but why are you so selfish when I did you a favor of using my name and credentials so that you can buy a car?
I have two internet connection at home from different provider so that I can have a backup just in case my main connection fails. My work heavily relies on the internet so I cannot really afford to lose internet connection. I am sharing the backup connection with my aunt as I rarely use it. We both agreed before that we'll split the cost but the last payment that my aunt gave me was last January and they dont really pay on time. Sometimes they skip months or whenever they feel like paying(these were even before I asked her for the car loan). So I told her that the last payment they had was last January and I thought they don't want to use the wifi anymore because I kept on asking her daughter and she kept on saying she don't know and they're not paying anymore.
Now what I am afraid to happen is that my aunt will ask the bank to cancel the loan and have the car repossessed. I can totally see her doing that because she's quite bitchy(a lot of people hate her). All the money that I already paid in advance to the bank + the downpayment I initially paid will all go to waste. What should I do??
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My bitchy aunt is mad at me because I am not sharing my wifi anymore. And because of that, she might ask the bank to cancel the loan for my car that is under her name. | My bitchy aunt is mad at me because I am not sharing my wifi anymore. And because of that, she might ask the bank to cancel the loan for my car that is under her name. | 5,365 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, would you date a Juggalette?
POST: So, long story short. We met through mutual friends who are non-juggalos and we hit it off. She is actually very intelligent, is drop dead gorgeous, and just finished school to be a CNA. I'm conflicted because she is covered with stupid juggalo, dead lotus, and Kotton Mouth King tattoos, has her ears stretched and a ton of piercings. Not a lot but enough to make me hesitant, says whoop whoop a lot, and is coming off a pill addiction, doesn't want to cover or remove her jewelry to get a job either. She is trying to better herself as a person but still wants to stick to the family. Do you think it's possible to be a juggalette and not trash or if it's possible to unbrainwash her? lol
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Meet gorgeous and intelligent girl who happens to be a juggalette. Confused on what to do because she constantly puts herself back two steps with me when her juggalo side comes out. | Meet gorgeous and intelligent girl who happens to be a juggalette. Confused on what to do because she constantly puts herself back two steps with me when her juggalo side comes out. | 5,334 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is it a requirement that you dont shower or wear deoderant to show at Wholefoods?
POST: Ok, so I started going into Wholefoods because one opened near me and they have a pretty damn good menu in the Wholefoods cafe. Over the past few weeks I have noticed that people shopping here do not practice proper hygene. I have encountered some rank clouds of BO, the kind of smell you get when you pass a homeless person kind of BO. Until this experience in Wholefoods the only other place I have seen these types is at the Apple Store or at the Comic Con or E3. Is it that hard to hop in the shower a few times a week and use some fucking antiperspirent?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Why do people that shop at Wholefoods not practice proper hygene and leave horrid cloud of BO in their wake? | Why do people that shop at Wholefoods not practice proper hygene and leave horrid cloud of BO in their wake? | 476 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21 M] am in love with my best friend's lover [21 F], help me!!!
POST: My best friend and her have been on and off for the last 18 months. I have had feelings for her since I first met her, but could never act on it as they were together during that time. One week they are together, the next they're not.
During the previous summer, when everybody was home from Uni, she invited me stay at her family home and then confessed that she has feelings for me too. For the next month we might as well have been a married couple!! It was the happiest time of my life and I'm pretty sure she was happy too.
But since we've been back to Uni, she claims to have broken up with my friend. But she spends more time with him and judging from my friend's reaction (no one in our group of friends have any idea what happened) he clearly thinks they are still together.
I'm pretty sure they are still sleeping together, even if they are not "a couple". I confronted her about this, but she tells me to stop talking about it. Only last week, we spend an amazing couple of hours together and I'm nearly 100% sure she feels the same way about me.
I'm just scared she's going to tell me one day, that we were a mistake, and that she is going to give it another go with my friend. Am I being a crazy paranoid controll freak? Or the scumbag who slept with his best friend's gf? There is no one in the world that I care more about than her, and this whole situation had made me loss weight, become a recluse and downright depressive.
I just hope the reddit community can help in whatever way possible.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Slept with my friend's gf, madly in love with her, but I'm scared she's screwing me over | Slept with my friend's gf, madly in love with her, but I'm scared she's screwing me over | 3,200 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What's the worst thing that's happened between you and your boss that made you think you would be fired, but ended up okay?
POST: So I work in a restaurant and today while quartering chickens my boss, operating manager and restaurant owner tried to show me a better way to cut, I slipped, cut his index finger near clean off, and ended up sending him to the hospital for seven stitches... Pretty much thought I'd be getting fired after he stopped cussing, but instead he told me to make sure everything got done and to watch 'the yahoos' (my fellow workers), before driving himself to the hospital.
If this wasn't enough he came back to work to finish out the day several hours later (and probably to make sure we all hadn't burned the place in his absence.) He isn't the type to congratulate anyone, but he told me I did a great job, even though I pretty much knifed him.
No photo evidence yet, was pretty freaked by the whole situation as it happened, and when my boss returned he had gauze, double vinyl gloves and then taped it like he was working with Ebola.
So that's my story of thinking I'd no longer have a job, what's the worst that you've done to your boss reddit?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | nearly cut my boss' index finger off at work, instead of getting fired I was put in charge, then congratulated on a job well done. | nearly cut my boss' index finger off at work, instead of getting fired I was put in charge, then congratulated on a job well done. | 3,286 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28 M] with my [24 F] girlfriend moved to a new city. She hasn't found a job yet and is running out of money. How do I gently motivate her?
POST: We moved across the country because I got a really great job offer and we agree'd we needed a change of pace from our home city/state. She is waiting for her final credits for her masters degree to go through inorder to apply for a specialized license in her field (thus allowing her to apply to places - you need this license to get a job in her medical field) She has a few weeks left before she can even start applying for full-time work, and is slowly running out of her savings since she has no income currently.
I pay for most things (which I don't mind about, rent, internet, utilities etc.) and wasn't sure if by doing so I was enabling her to not get a part time job. She is very comfortable day-to-day, has no worries or bills, but has recently been complaining about overwhelming feelings of anxiety, worthlessness, and a slight depression.
I try to remain positive and suggest going out and doing things/going to events, but during the week while shes home all day, she reverts back into not having any fire under her. I have been suggesting getting a part time job, and have friends that gave me numbers and places that they know of or have friends at that would interview her, but she seems completely removed from it all.
She will simultaneously complain about not having the money to do anything, and also that she's not sure about a part time job because it might complicate her job search for full-time work when she starts. I was contemplating asking her to pay for more, to kind of pressuring her into having to have an income. Anyone else have any tips or anything for dealing with this? I don't want to offend her, I just want her to get on her feet and not feel so overwhelmed. I think getting a part time job would solve a lot of that for her, it would get her out, meet people, have some money, give her a goal towards getting out of it to her full-time job in the field she went to school for.
Thank you in advance!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend and I moved across country, she is waiting to get a full-time job because of credits transferring, but now is running out of money and is feeling depressed. Trying to figure out how to motivate her. | Girlfriend and I moved across country, she is waiting to get a full-time job because of credits transferring, but now is running out of money and is feeling depressed. Trying to figure out how to motivate her. | 4,993 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I'm being harassed over the phone by collectors looking for someone who's not me. What do I do?
POST: Reddit, for months now I have received calls from different companies looking for a "Kimberly Doyle," I have no idea who this woman is. I am a 19 year old male. These are all loan companies, and I get the impression that they are the kind of shady loan companies that appear in pop up ads. The only name I can recall is "Bill Me Later" or something like that.
At first, it would be a call a week. Lately, I've been getting upwards of 15 calls a day, all from different companies, asking me for Kimberly Doyle. Clearly she is signing up for loans and putting my number down. I thought it was funny at first, but now it's extremely frustrating and I feel like I'm being harassed. I have NO IDEA what to do here though! Call the police? Is there a way to make this stop?
I tell every company that calls that I want to be taken off the call list, but many just keep calling, or if they don't there's always a new company that springs up and calls. I can't understand what any of the companies are anymore, most of the callers don't speak English well.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Shady loan companies are calling me 15 times a day thinking I'm someone I'm not, how do I make this stop? | Shady loan companies are calling me 15 times a day thinking I'm someone I'm not, how do I make this stop? | 1,764 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19/f] Don't Like How my Friends Talk about my Boyfriend [19/m]
POST: I've been with him for 7 months and when we first started dating my friends would make comments about how hot he is (not to him, but to me and to eachother) and I was okay with it then but I expected thrm to stop once things got serious, and they didn't. They still make comments about him all the time and it makes me uncomfortable, one of them even tries flirting with him sometimes. She also comments like little emoji things on his pictures on instagram. He doesn't flirt back or anything but it still pisses me off, a lot. How can I tell them I'm not okay with this without seeming like a bitch? I'm a passive person in general so I've never even mentioned that it bothers me, but it really like eats away at me and I want them to stop.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My friends talk about my boyfriends looks and even try flirting with him, I don't like it, I want them to stop but I don't want to seem like a bitch | My friends talk about my boyfriends looks and even try flirting with him, I don't like it, I want them to stop but I don't want to seem like a bitch | 1,391 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Best friend started getting really flirty with me, but she's in a relationship M20 F20
POST: So, my best friend, who I've had a crush on for about 2 years, has started getting really flirty with me. There are a couple of reasons why this is weird to me.
First, we've been friends for about 3 years, and has never seemed interested in me. When I first told her about my crush on her, she got really distant, and it took a while just to be comfortable around her again, but now our relationship is as strong as ever.
Second, she's really involved with another guy, who I personally think is below her standards. However, I try and stay out of the relationship as much as possible and just let them do their thing. However, she has gotten more and more flirty with me as she has been dating this guy.
She is very, very uncomfortable with touching other people, but recently (as in last weekend), began to put her arm on my shoulder, tickle me, hit me playfully, and is allowing me to do the same. This morning in class, i was tickling her, and she was perfectly fine. Then another of her friends put their hand on her shoulder to ask her a question, and she freaked out.
I've also noticed that she has started talking really quietly around me, forcing me to move my head in closer so I can hear her. When I do this, she flits her eyes between my eyes and my lips. I've also caught her looking at me from across the room quiet often, and even though we are good friends, she looks away as if she's really shy or embarrassed.
I think she may be developing a crush on me, but maybe I'm just becoming really close with her, and she is just becoming more comfortable with me. Any thoughts? Also, if it becomes obvious that she does indeed have feelings for me, is it appropriate to make a move while she is with this other guy (their relationship is about 7 months now)?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Old friend is being really flirty with me. The feeling is definitely mutual, but shes in a serious relationship with someone else. How should I respond? | Old friend is being really flirty with me. The feeling is definitely mutual, but shes in a serious relationship with someone else. How should I respond? | 2,098 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18M]with girlfriend [17F] of a month, I hurt her feelings and have now split, but I want to reconcile
POST: Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.
So me and my girlfriend (If you can call it that) have been going out for a month now, but I was somewhat uncertain about me feelings for her.
So there came a day when she called for a talk (Friday) and here I tried to express my true feelings about not being too sure, so then we left it at that and a few days. I was pretty down because of the pain I caused her. She asked if I was okay but I sort of brushed it off while feeling down. I was out of character, and many people realized how I was. (Its really hard to bring yourself up, any advice to cope)
Fast forward to Monday, we have a brief exchange of returning her belongings, and the following day we spoke. She said she was hurt and even more so about the fact I never tried to contact her, and it appeared to her that she did not mean much to me, which is quite the opposite. This day (Tuesday) we were talking to each other for a few hours, but most of it was like our regular banter talking about random stuff like it was sort of normal. Towards the end, we went back into business and she said she was willing to see how this went through since she didn't know how much she liked me. Day ended, texts were a little out of character.
Wednesday, nothing much really happened, texts here and there. She was busy and I wanted to talk to her. In the end, I told her I would be there for her even if things did not work out. She said she didn't want to lose a friend over this, and also stated it would take a while to actually forgive me. Then we went into somewhat friendly banter and end of day.
Through this duration, I have been feeling like poop, and this is a new feeling for me (First semi-relationship if you will). I would like to try and reconcile with her but is it worth trying or not? Have I gone too far?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Dating a girl for a month, unsure feelings lead to upset girlfriend and now split. But I would like to try and reconcile if that is a possible option. | Dating a girl for a month, unsure feelings lead to upset girlfriend and now split. But I would like to try and reconcile if that is a possible option. | 4,992 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [32M] with my GF [31F] of 10 years, broke up last night, need some advice on how to advance from here
POST: My GF and I have had a rocky unstable relationship for years. Last night, we had tentative plans that I broke due to an argument we had that morning.
I went out to have some drinks with friends and vent. The GF shows and threatens to cause a scene. I leave with her, but on the way home, I tell her that she can't do what she's doing and needs to leave me alone. She refuses. I repeat this over and over, but she either ignores or refuses.
I strong arm her and walk away, and she follows quickly, grabbing my arm. I push her and start running the other direction. She pulls out her mace and sprays towards me. Luckily, I was already running away and didn't get hit.
Maybe I shouldn't have pushed her, but she sure are hell shouldn't have tried to mace somebody who was trying to get away.
I proceeded to get drunk with the aforementioned friends and crashed on one of their couches.
Now what? I gotta work in a few hours. I can probably find a couch to crash on tonight and crash at my mom's after that. I'm really kinda lost.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Fight ends with pushing and attempted macing, now I'm single for 1st time in 10 years. Halp. | Fight ends with pushing and attempted macing, now I'm single for 1st time in 10 years. Halp. | 1,995 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend (M20) has more or less lost his sex drive and I (M19) don't know what to do...
POST: So the title is a bit misleading... He's not my boyfriend, but its more serious than just FWB. We've been together since last May, but took a 2 month break last summer (due to long distance) so we've been together for 9-11 months. Anyway, he seems to have recently lost his sex drive. We haven't had sex in about a month and I don't know what to do. Even when I try making out with him he either doesn't seem into it or participates for a bit and then just wants to sit there with me holding him. I have a very high sex drive, and I'm getting increasingly frustrated that my only release is masturbation (which is happening sometimes twice a day at this point, because it provides some release but doesn't really leave me fulfilled). We've talked about this a bit but it seems like nothing's changed since then. What should I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | the guy I'm with has lost his sex drive, I'm becoming increasingly horny/frustrated. We've talked but nothing really changed. What do I do? | the guy I'm with has lost his sex drive, I'm becoming increasingly horny/frustrated. We've talked but nothing really changed. What do I do? | 3,290 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Leaving the nest.
POST: Hi there Personal finance,
Long time reader first time poster here so I'm in the midst of a very monumental stage of my life. I'm leaving the nest at 24 and me and my girlfriend are getting a place together, I would have done it sooner but with paying out of pocket for school it made it almost impossible to do that. So me and the girlfriend have set a move out date for April and are currently looking around for apartments in the 7-800 price range we both are trying to save about 2-3000 before we do go just in case of emergency which is easier for her but not so easy for me being a cook at a restaurant only getting $10 an hour an working 40+ hours a week. So I've come here to ask for your advice on how to save for this big move. I don't have any major bills right now other than a $380 a month car payment and I'll hopefully be getting a promotion at the restaurant soon and will be making anywhere between 13-15 an hour. So yeah help me out what should I do to save better? What should I do to prepare for the move and living somewhat on my own? How screwed am I?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Moving out with girlfriend on my own for first time, need help on how to save money better and taking any advice on how to prepare for this move. | Moving out with girlfriend on my own for first time, need help on how to save money better and taking any advice on how to prepare for this move. | 5,544 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (21F) boyfriend(27M) of just over a year joined a social/dating website a month ago. I don't know what to do.
POST: Ok, so I know my boyfriend has a fetish for thicker, curvy women and with round stomachs (pregnant included). At first I wasn't too worried about it because everyone has things they're into but I'm a slender girl and always have been.
Just this morning, I saw an email pop up on his screen for a social/dating site called Feabie and the email was for account activation... and he did activate it last month according to the welcome invite.
I automatically feel betrayed and angry, why would he need to join a social/dating site of any nature? I'm not comfortable with the fact that he's most likely on there to get off or make new 'friends'.
I don't want to appear like I was snooping, because I wasn't, it just popped up on the screen. But I also feel I need to address this because it's already starting to brew negative feelings towards him. He makes comments way too often about how much he dislikes fat, and how he wouldn't date a fat girl but here he is on a new "feeding" social/dating site... wtf?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | BF has fetish for round stomachs/curvy/thick women. He recently joined a social/ dating website for this. Should I be angry or concerned? How do I talk to him about this? | BF has fetish for round stomachs/curvy/thick women. He recently joined a social/ dating website for this. Should I be angry or concerned? How do I talk to him about this? | 1,083 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28f] need advice to give to my friend [28f] about her bf[29m] of 4 years.
POST: My lifelong friend, K, has been in a four year relationship with D. They have a really good relationship except for that he won't talk about commitment. She says the times she brought it up (not very often, maybe 3-5 times in their entire relationship) she felt she communicated that she wasn't expecting a proposal, just wanting to know the status of the relationship.
They've lived together for about 2 1/2 years in a home that he officially owns. They act like a married couple in every other sense (no kids or shared bank accounts, though) and I feel that he loves her and is "all in" their relationship. She wants kids and he says he does, too, but they're not making plans to have them together.
Recently, her mother got engaged to her bf (both late 50's) after losing K's father to cancer in 2007. It's hard for her because she wants the security of marriage and helping her mom with wedding stuff is drudging up emotions she ignores before in he name of not being "one of those girlfriends."
I've secretly felt that he wants the benefits of a marriage without any of the responsibility, but I want to make sure that I'm giving her the best advice. Personally, I think she should end it. Yes, he's wonderful in most ways, but he refuses to talk about the future and is making her feel like a placeholder. To me, not talking about it is the problem. It will be hard, but I think she needs to end it before he (IMHO) uses her any longer. Am I missing something to consider?
Just to let everyone know, D's parents are still together and seem to have a good marriage. As for as she knows, they never had any "big" issues; yeah, no marriage is perfect but as far as she knows (and she knows the family pretty well at this point), they always had a good marriage.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my friend's boyfriend refuses to even talk about settling down after 4 years together, 2 1/2 living together. What advice should I give her? He's a great boyfriend otherwise, but I feel he's stringing her along. | my friend's boyfriend refuses to even talk about settling down after 4 years together, 2 1/2 living together. What advice should I give her? He's a great boyfriend otherwise, but I feel he's stringing her along. | 6,295 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [M/18] go back [F/18] with my ex?
POST: So we broke up due to I haven't showed her much affection. She brought it up, she lost hope. And then after, I talked to another girl, but we talked and she got all flirty, I stopped talking to her cause I know she'll get too attached. She's attractive yes.
After that, I realized I still need to get over my ex. However, in some way we managed to talk, Reddit, do I love her? Yes I do, I still have some feelings for her. She's gorgeous and the personality is gold. But she broke up with me for some reason, I wasn't showing affection. I'm scared of that, I wont be able to give her that, I don't feel like I would go in full heartily. Because the last of couple of months, I've been stressed about school, work, what college to go to (it will be distance if we get back together) and most importantly, I am not myself for this past month.
I feel like I've lost myself. And that I am tired of relationships, I feel like burned out, I don't know what to do. I love her yes, maybe not like before, and she's great yeah. Should I get try to get her back and build it slowly there or just break it off? I'll be meeting her later today.
And I feel a little guilty of wanting to talk to the other girl, maybe cause I miss talking but I'll ignore that for now.
I'm just trying to fill everything up right now so you guys understand, but any thoughts? Questions?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | We've talked back and forth, I know she loves me, I know that I love her, but I don't feel like the way it used to do. Butterflies and shit. What should I do. | We've talked back and forth, I know she loves me, I know that I love her, but I don't feel like the way it used to do. Butterflies and shit. What should I do. | 1,230 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My psycho ex left a message last night saying to watch my children and those I hold dear to me, any advice?
POST: Back story: We have two kids together, he last saw the oldest when she was 2 (she's 6) and has never met the youngest, who is 3 now. When we broke up, he said if he couldn't have me, he didn't want any of us. We broke up because he was a violent alcoholic and I asked him to quit drinking or leave.
He has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and told me once that he had been diagnosed with schizophrenia. I don't know the difference between the truth and lies, as I believe him to be a pathological liar as well.
The obvious answer is go to the police. At this point, I don't have his address. I believe I know what state he is in, but that is about it. Also, if I do manage to get a restraining order, and have him served, it will give him my address. This terrifies me.
Things said in the message: I love you, I hate you, it is your fault my mother killed herself, watch your children and those you hold dear, blatant threats to my mother, my father, and my "little husband" (my fiance,) "I'm closer than you think," "I will kill you" and some babble that makes little sense.
As I type this, I become more and more scared that he's on reddit and will see it. He has gotten me that paranoid.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My ex may kill me and our children, but if I go to the police he will get my address, making it easier for him to kill us. | My ex may kill me and our children, but if I go to the police he will get my address, making it easier for him to kill us. | 4,347 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Dear Reddit, did any of you change your college or major late in the game (Junior or Senior year)?
POST: I am a college junior who was pushed into going to a Liberal Arts college by my parents (I am very thankful for their help with paying for college). I am a biology major, and after every test I take I am reminded about how much I suck at this stuff! I really wanted to go to art school and pursue a career in fine arts photography (I won many national awards in High School).
If I switch schools, that will cost a lot of money (extra years on college) and finding a job with a Bachelor in Fine Arts will most likely be harder than finding a job with a Bachelors degree in Biology.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Did you change your major or school late in the game? Why? And if you didn't did you think about it? | Did you change your major or school late in the game? Why? And if you didn't did you think about it? | 3,479 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M/F] with my ex [23 M/F] of 3 yrs, want to cut ties but I still have his stuff, and he owes me money
POST: So me and my BF of three years broke up, he's currently living out of town (a few hours away) I'm better off but I still need time (long relationship)
a week after I told him he had to pick up his stuff next saturday, (he saw the message but did not reply), that sat at like 8pm he said he could not come that sat I told him to get somebody else to pick it up then. (he left 4 boxes and owes me about $200 for rent and tickets) Nobody came to pick up the stuff. Finally a Day or two ago I had a friend tell him to pick up his stuff and pay me back, he said he would but I'm wary he won't for a long time.
I want to get his stuff out of the house so I can stop thinking about it, move on etc. I also want to start dating again but feel like this is holding me back 'cause I can't move out of this chapter til it's all over.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex: won't pick up the stuff he left at my place or give me back the money he owes me, and I feel Like it's getting in the way of my "moving on" | Ex: won't pick up the stuff he left at my place or give me back the money he owes me, and I feel Like it's getting in the way of my "moving on" | 3,018 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27 M] with a low sex drive my GF [24 F] with a high sex drive are having issues
POST: I've been dating my GF for a little over a year now, we have been living together for about a year. Everything has been a crazy whirlwind of a relationship and everything just clicked! We fell in love instantly, we are best friends and we are madly in love with each other. We spend almost every moment together (except for work) and we are just happier than anything... except in the bedroom...
I (27 M) have a relatively low sex drive. I've always known I was a victim of it. She, on the other hand, has a very high sex drive. If it were up to her, we would be intimate at least once a day. In the early stages of our relationship we would be intimate several times a day, and at least once everyday. Now that we've been together for a while it has dropped to maybe a few times a week and it's all because of me.
My GF is smoking hot, in great shape and really tries hard to get me in the mood (dressing up, kissing, touching, etc...). However, more times than not I'm not interested or unable to preform. This is really driving a wedge in our relationship. We have fought on multiple occasions over this and it seems silly because we get along so well with everything else. Is there an easy solution to this problem? Have other people experienced this? Do relationships work if the partner's sex drive differs greatly? Do relationships end on the premise of sex alone??
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Smoking hot [24 F] GF has a high sex drive and I, [27 M] has a really low sex drive. It's driving a wedge in our relationship. What should we do? | Smoking hot [24 F] GF has a high sex drive and I, [27 M] has a really low sex drive. It's driving a wedge in our relationship. What should we do? | 6,434 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I recently hooked up with a friend, now she is very clingy. How to let her down easy?
POST: I knew her vaguely from a previous job I worked at and hung out with her a couple times last year before she left for college. She visited for Christmas break and we hung out, expressed interest in each other, and ended up hitting it off and had sex.
I made plans to visit her school on new years and stay for a couple nights.
But today she has been texting me from morning to night, twice asked me to get on facebook to chat even though I said I was busy/didn't feel like it.
We had occasional contact before and she has now changed to hitting me up like crazy and seems like she's really into me.
I was honestly just looking for a friend with benefits type thing and thought she would be ok with this as she said she was about to be a FWB to some guy in the past.
And plus I guess I'm only the 2nd guy she's hooked up with. And she mentioned she has some self esteem issues.
But I don't really don't even like her that much... Idk what to do. I really don't wanna be a jerk and nail and bail cause I don't want to hurt her.
I told her she was freaking me out with the constant messaging and asked what she was looking for. She said she didn't know and asked what I was looking for so I told her mostly just friends with maybe some more.
Ugh well that's where I am right now. Comments on how to kinda cushion this for her, me being an idiot, how to escape the soon upcoming 2 day visit I planned, and avoiding this type of thing in the future all appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Hooked up with acquaintance hoping for FWB, she is very into me now but I don't feel the same but don't want to hurt her (more than necessary.) | Hooked up with acquaintance hoping for FWB, she is very into me now but I don't feel the same but don't want to hurt her (more than necessary.) | 5,661 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [19M] ex [18F] has just entered a new relationship, and it's tearing me apart.
POST: So, my first ever real relationship started when I was about 14, and me and her were together for nearly four years.
We lost our virginities to each other, and we thought we'd be together for ever, etc. We split up about eight months ago due to our relationship falling apart quite a bit, and the fact that I was moving away to university acted as a catalyst as well.
Now I've been at university for around six months, and I thought I'd moved on completely, until now, when she told me she is now in a new relationship. It feels horrible knowing that she's being intimate with someone other than me. I don't think I'm still in love with her, but I don't know why I'm feeling like this, I've been sitting in my room feeling sorry for myself all day, and I just can't shake it off.
Our break up was by now means clean and simple, and it took a while after we broke up officially to actually stop seeing each other and having sex etc.
Another relevant detail could be that the guy she is currently seeing, she had a slight thing with at a festival when we were together, and there was always a bit of tension about him when we were together.
Can anyone help me with trying to get over her? Or working out why I'm feeling like this? I know this isn't a huge issue, and it's probably really common, I just don't know where else to go for help. Thanks.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My first (and only real) grlfriend is in a new relationship, and I don't know how to deal with it. Help? | My first (and only real) grlfriend is in a new relationship, and I don't know how to deal with it. Help? | 1,672 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [23M] sister [20F] got engaged 4 months after I did, am I wrong for being upset?
POST: My sister and her boyfriend have been dating for almost 4 years and lived together all through their 2 years of college (canada), and my fiancee and I have been together for 2 1/2 years. We got engaged 4 months ago after living together for 1 year. My sister brought it up to me that she wanted to know if I had any problems with her getting engaged since I just got engaged, at first I told her I was happy for her and then before it happened I told her I'm mad about it because I feel like they are going to take away our moment and showing off our engagement. When I told her I was mad she apologized and said there is nothing she can really do and that she doesn't want to or plan on taking away from their our engagement, but i'm still upset and feel like they only got engaged to one up us and because we got engaged.
Am I in the wrong for being upset about it or is she being a terrible sister?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My sister and her boyfriend[20M] got engaged 4 months after my fiancee[21F] and I did, and I'm not happy about it. | My sister and her boyfriend[20M] got engaged 4 months after my fiancee[21F] and I did, and I'm not happy about it. | 399 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: The guy (25 male) I've (24 female) been seeing for a month went through my ipod (the photos) after I accidentally forgot it in his car, how upset should I be?
POST: I had given him the passcode the day before while I was driving so he could change the music.
Prior to this I had been very clear about having trust issues and really enjoying my privacy. He claims that if the tables had been turned and I looked through his photos he wouldn't have cared in the slightest.
In his defense he was slightly sleep deprived...and although he apologized he thought most people he knew wouldn't react the way i was and thought I was being overly sensitive.
For the record, there were no inappropriate pics but there were some embarrassing selfies i had taken while drunk, lol. So I'm pretty mortified and honestly that's contributing to my anger. The bottom line is that I feel it was an invasion of privacy and it says a lot about him, what do you guys think?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Guy I've been dating went through the pics on my ipod after I forgot it in his car, should I end it?****** | Guy I've been dating went through the pics on my ipod after I forgot it in his car, should I end it?****** | 381 |
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