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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 22(F) and 29(M) Casually seeing each other, but he keeps asking me to go on romantic dates?
POST: Hi Reddit, long time lurker, first time poster. Throwaway account. I am a 22 year-old female and he is a 29 year-old male. We have been casually seeing each other for about six weeks now.
We initially met through a friend at a bar, and things were awkward at first, but we ended up going for a late meal and hitting it off. After we met we began texting quite frequently (maybe once a day) and went on a few dates. We first slept with each other on the third date and it was great. Since then, we have gone on a few dates, that almost always end with us sleeping together. I consider all of this to be casual and we have never discussed a relationship or anything more.
But here is my issue: he keeps asking me to go on all of these really nice, fancy dinner dates. I do enjoy his company but I do not want to pursue anything more than what we currently have going. He is attractive, generous, and sweet; but we do not seem to have an engaging connection and I got out of a very long and intense relationship at the beginning of the year (so I want some time to be single), among other reasons.
My question is: when would it be an appropriate time for me to bring up my concerns? He invited me to go on a date this week. Should I go and tell him there? Or should I decline and tell him right away that I think these dates are a bit much for our given situation? My personal philosophy has always been don't discuss being serious unless the other person brings it up. He has not brought it up. I guess my biggest concern is that he pays for our dates (I try to pay for my half or my drinks and he never lets me) and it seems unfair if I don't want to be official in the end. He is a great guy and I would like to continue seeing him without any strings attached.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Casually seeing someone, we have never discussed a relationship, I don't want one. He keeps inviting me out on fancy dates. Should I tell him that I am not interested in a relationship and want to keep things unofficial? | Casually seeing someone, we have never discussed a relationship, I don't want one. He keeps inviting me out on fancy dates. Should I tell him that I am not interested in a relationship and want to keep things unofficial? | 715 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 10+ yrs of relationship, 2 kids. Trust?
POST: First time on here. I (m28) with my girlfriend (f28) for 10yrs+. We broke up for about a year a couple of years back (1 kid at this stage) obviously both went off on the single scene.
We got back together and had another kid together. Recently I found out she was with a guy that she worked with years ago. They had been "friends" and texting each other on and off over the years. But when we weren't together she ended up sleeping with this guy. He had a girlfriend at the time, think he still does.
I recently confronted my partner about this and she told me that she didn't see any harm in texting him when we were together originally because "nothing happened". I'm finding it hard to believe that a guy would keep interest after 8 yrs (when they originally met) if he wasn't getting anywhere (unless they were just friends)
Usually if this was one of my friends in this situation, I'd say fuck her. But the problem is we have 2 children and I can't bear the thought of not seeing them everyday. Or them growing up in a broken home.
I don't know whether to believe what she is telling me or what to do. I can't think properly about the whole situation, I'm lost!
To make it worse, I found out where the guy lives and the temptention to fuck him up is going through my head. Have thought about finding his girlfriend and telling her. (They have been in a longterm relationship aswell as far as I know)
Sorry if this read seems a bit all over the place but I've never had to do anything like this before. Any advice would be great
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Don't know if I can trust longterm girlfriend, worried about leaving my 2 kids. my head is in a bad place, need advice plz | Don't know if I can trust longterm girlfriend, worried about leaving my 2 kids. my head is in a bad place, need advice plz | 1,065 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Why do I [22f] keep dreaming about cheating on my boyfriend [24m]?
POST: For the past month or so, I have been having vivid dreams nearly every single night. These dreams almost *always* involve me at least kissing, and sometimes banging, a dude who isn't my boyfriend. Sometimes it's someone I actually know, other times I've never seen him before. The dream always ends with me waking up in a moment of panic, thinking "oh my gosh, what have I done?!" until a few seconds later when it sinks in that it was just a dream and I didn't actually cheat on my perfect, wonderful boyfriend.
I don't understand where this is stemming from. I'm an incredibly faithful woman and I would never dream (well, figuratively I guess) of cheating on my boyfriend. I love him and he completely satisfies me sexually, although I only get to see him once a month or so because we're long distance.
Any idea why this might be going on?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Keep having dreams every single night where I get physical with men who aren't my boyfriend. Wake up in a panic thinking I really cheated on him. Is getting annoying. Why is this happening? | Keep having dreams every single night where I get physical with men who aren't my boyfriend. Wake up in a panic thinking I really cheated on him. Is getting annoying. Why is this happening? | 4,800 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By underestimating a woman
POST: This happened a few days ago. I fight recreationally with the local american pit fighters in town i was scheduled to have an exhibition with a fellow fighter in the gym i train at to test if i am ready to have my first real matches we get in the cage and are circling each other for a bit and "feeling" each other for weak spots. After a bit he attempted to give me a right hook that i saw coming so i grabbed his arm spun behind and put in an elbow leading to a submission. Heres where it gets hairy...we shake hands and he steps out quickly. After being congratulated a bit more i step out too immediately i am approached by a super-hot blond chick who seemed really excited. I said hi (my 19 y/o hormones raging) and she starts babbling on about the fight. I just keep on smiling and nodding as she leaned in and put her hands on my waist. Then she whispers in my ear "you embarrased my boyfriend in there" and scorpion kicks me in the face knocking me out for in front of everyone.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | i fought a local guy in the gym i train in and won then got kicked in the face by his gf afterwards knocking me out | i fought a local guy in the gym i train in and won then got kicked in the face by his gf afterwards knocking me out | 3,776 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26M] with my girlfriend [24F] of 3 years is afraid of losing her job
POST: Hey reddit.
Love my girl. She graduated from college two years ago, but did get her current job like 3 months ago. The thing is... the field of her profession is very competitive in the country that we live. So she is very afraid of losing her job and be unemployed with all the bills to pay (she lives alone and pay for all her bills, no support for her dad, only I lend some money once in awhile). I felt like that in my first employment, but since there are a lot of open spots in the field that I work, that fear went away very quickly.
How can I support her in this situation? I always tell her that she is a very talented professional (and she is, indeed), but I'd like to know if anyone has put through the same feeling and if you would like to hear something else. Thanks in advance.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriend is afraid of losing her current and first job. How can I confort her that's not going to happen? Or, if it happens, she is safe and will succeed in another job? | girlfriend is afraid of losing her current and first job. How can I confort her that's not going to happen? Or, if it happens, she is safe and will succeed in another job? | 2,120 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My (26M) girlfriend (22F) just started dating, at first I insisted on paying for most dates. Is it too late to shift the balance more equally now?
POST: *shit, title should be: My girlfriend and I just started dating*
We started dating about a month ago and have hit it off extremely well. I seriously adore everything about her, and I don't mind paying for most things we do together as I like to spoil her. She is definitely very caring and offered to pay several times for our first few dates but I declined. Now she hasn't offered, which isn't a huge problem, but I'd like her to pay for some things a little more often.
This is a factor because we go out together 4-5 times a week. I don't care (nor want) for it to be 50/50 but instead maybe 70/30. Right now it's 95/5
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Is it too late to ask her to pay more often sometimes, without coming off as an ass? What do I say? | Is it too late to ask her to pay more often sometimes, without coming off as an ass? What do I say? | 2,630 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my [20 F] together 3 years, fell out of love.
POST: So I've been dating this girl for 3 years and had a perfect relationship. We hung out almost everyday and truly loved each other more than anything. Recently I haven't had as much time to spend with her and she started hanging out with a friend. Then she tells me that se doesn't have the same feelings for me anymore and it isn't fair to me.
After the break up she still texts me and wants to hang out with me but doesn't wanna get back together for that same reason. What should I do?I really care about this girl and it's killing me inside to lose her
TL;DR: . Assistant: | dated a girl for 3 years, perfect relationship, haven't hung out as often, tells me she fell out of love, we breakup, she still talks to me | dated a girl for 3 years, perfect relationship, haven't hung out as often, tells me she fell out of love, we breakup, she still talks to me | 3,926 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Why the number 12?
POST: I have a theory about where the idea of a "dozen" came from and I'm wondering if anyone knows if it's correct. A search just brings up lots of information about bakers dozens, but I can't find anything on my theory.
My parents grew up in India and I always see them counting on their knuckle segments. If you use your thumb as a marker, you can count 12 knuckle segments on that hand. I always assumed that this is where we got a dozen from.
The number 60 also comes up a lot (60 minutes, etc.). I always assumed that that was because the other hand was used to count five cycles of 12, giving us 60.
Anyone know if that's correct?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 12 knuckle segments on the fingers of one hand (excluding thumb), other hand has 5 fingers and 5x12 = 60 (another prominent number) | 12 knuckle segments on the fingers of one hand (excluding thumb), other hand has 5 fingers and 5x12 = 60 (another prominent number) | 4,133 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Questions about a girl I asked out on a date - please help
POST: I'm male, 17, and for about 10 months, I've known this girl who I developed feelings for over time. I'm naturally VERY shy, and as such, I haven't made any advances or anything of the sort, and have remained friends with her for the entire time. We used to not talk as much, but for the past month or two, I have been talking to her very much, and after much self-confidence boosting and contemplation, I decided to just go for it and ask her out on a date this friday, to see Paranormal Activity. This is the first time I have ever asked a girl out on a legitimate date, since my other times were "hanging out," and getting to know a person.
To my surprise, she responded yes, but with a twist, I suppose. The other part of her response was that she's "definetly not in the mind set to be in a relationship right now." I understand where she is coming from, from my perspective ofc, that she has many things to deal with, such as school and some issues with other friends who are, lets say, immature.
Her type of personality, as I've known, is that she truly wants a working, real relationship, not a sexual one, which is what I want too. She doesn't hook up with guys, and she is very kind, honest, and knows how to make a person smile. :)
The questions I wanna ask are follows:
-Is this a typical response, in that they are not yes/no, but a "yes but ___" response? Is there ever the possibility that there could be more, or should I not get too attached?
-How do dates usually go? I'm super-inexperienced with dating. I'm shy, but I can talk to people I know, but sometimes not to people I'm really attracted to. =x I've only dated one girl, and that was one of those young highschool freshman flings, that didn't teach me anything. Do you guys and gals have any tips for me?
Anything is really appreciated. I'm really proud that I finally stood up and asked someone out on a date, and it worked. :)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My first time asking a girl out on a date, she said yes with an interesting "twist," nervous about date and looking for pointers or anything. | My first time asking a girl out on a date, she said yes with an interesting "twist," nervous about date and looking for pointers or anything. | 665 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm a [23 M] and coincidentally met a great [21 F] girl over the weekend. The problem? She lives far away. Help me out Reddit!
POST: Over this weekend I was able to meet a remarkable girl. Pretty much from the get go it was obvious that at least I was interested (I drunkenly gave her a flower at a cocktail party to start off our first conversation), but she also ended up hanging out with me the next night as well at my house, albeit with her friend. She knows I have a crush on her. I know she is interested in me at the least as a friend, but I am not fully confident if she is interested as anything more (we've only met a couple days, I'm about 60-70% sure she's interested in me beyond friendship - I thought I heard her asking her friend if it was okay to sleep over at my place but I'm not sure).
I don't have a problem with LDRs provided they are serious but to be honest, I have my own life and school to focus on now anyway. I don't think I want a relationship as of the current moment. I'm more interested in down the road - this is the first girl that I met that is astoundingly pretty, captivating, and is part of my exact same culture (families are pretty much the exact same which I value a lot). Practically speaking, it's perfect material for a serious relationship save for the fact that she lives far away. Which pretty much renders the whole thing impractical as of the moment.
I want to continue talking to her but I'm not sure where or how to gear the relationship. I'd like to get to know her better but also be in a place in the future where she knows I'm (likely) seriously interested and I can figure out if she is seriously interested in a relationship.
I know I've only met her a couple days, but I've just got a feeling on this one...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Met a girl who lives far away, need to know what to do to keep a relationship on the table for the future. | Met a girl who lives far away, need to know what to do to keep a relationship on the table for the future. | 51 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I need to find a way to gain money for this month's rent. Only this month!
POST: hello I'm not sure if this is the appropriate subreddit. I am 19 years old and a full time student in college. Just some background. I was planning on getting a summer job but I got swamped with summer school. Unfortunately my school crammed two summer semester and I could no longer work due to the amount of homework and studying I had to commit to. I took summer A which has already ended and now I am in summer break. I decided since I've worked extremely hard to gain a gpa of 3.2 ( doesn't sound that high but it took me a lot of work) that I deserve a break. My mom how ever does not agree. She got mad at the idea and will now charge me rent. Should I apply for a job? I'm already getting work study for this coming fall semester which starts august 29. I need to gain money for just this month. She is asking for approximately $500.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | finished my summer semester. My mom doesn't like that I'm not doing anything and is now charging rent. I'm getting work study starting aug 29. How can I gain money for just this month? | finished my summer semester. My mom doesn't like that I'm not doing anything and is now charging rent. I'm getting work study starting aug 29. How can I gain money for just this month? | 895 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [24f] BF [28M] of three months only wants to hang out 1-2x a week, which means we only have sex once a week. I need more. What do I do?
POST: BF and I have been dating for a few months. at first we hung out all the time and had sex every day, sometimes twice a day.
For the past two months we've been hanging Out less and less. Probably 1-2x a week max now. Usually if we hang out a second time it's with other people so we don't have sex, meaning that we've been having sex literally once a week.
I can't really handle it. I need it 3-4 days a week ideally. I've told him before that he can hit me up for sex whenever but he has never done that. We also used to have sexy convos by text all the time but now we basically never do. I finally told him some time back that I want to start doing that again and he agreed but we haven't. A few times I've tried to start something naughty over text and he didn't really go for it.
I think the big problem is just not hanging out enough, but I don't think he wants a relationship where we're seeing each other every other day.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | BF and i don't have enough sex because we don't see each other all that often and don't have sexy convos via text in between. I need more sex but don't know what to do. | BF and i don't have enough sex because we don't see each other all that often and don't have sexy convos via text in between. I need more sex but don't know what to do. | 882 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: Stupid and Clumsy
POST: I'm stupid and clumsy which almost makes me worthless as a human being. A few months ago, I was breaking up a slushie with a knife, because I'm stupid, and it slipped into my finger cutting my flexor tendon.. I'm still waiting on surgery for that. Then, last night I tripped and stepped onto a Christmas present I bought for my best friend, breaking one of the stir sticks. I went in the garage to try to find some glue to glue it back together. I picked up a can of spray paint, and took the top off with great difficulty and the little sprayer thing popped off. I don't even know why I did it, I guess I was just curious. I picked up the sprayer thing to put it back on and then the whole can exploded. It exploded all over my hands, the garage floor, the inside of the garage door, and the back end of my mom's car. I immediately ran inside and tried to wash some of it off my hands and then ran back out side with bleach and threw it on the garage floor, only on the garage floor not my mom's car. It got some of it up, but not all. I then saw that there was paint on my mom's car and mixed car wash solution and got some sponges to take off the paint. It took me about 3 hours, and I did tell her what happened and she knew I was trying to clean it up and it was an accident. (She was frustrated, but didn't yell.) Well, this morning she texted me that I took the finish off of her car by scrubbing it and it's on the garage door. She's still not yelling which almost makes it worse. I just feel like a useless human being. I do stuff like this all the time. I'm about ready to stop existing and causing so much grief.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I accidentally exploded a can a spray paint on my my mom's car and garage and then took the finish off my mom's car trying to clean it up. | I accidentally exploded a can a spray paint on my my mom's car and garage and then took the finish off my mom's car trying to clean it up. | 4,387 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by playing with thumb tacks in my bed.
POST: First post after lurking for a few years now. Figure I'll give being a real Redditor a try.
So this was actually when I was about 10 years old. It is one of those burried memories that you recall once every 3 years. So here it is:
My grandpa was visiting over Thanksgiving one year and being that we didn't have a spare bedroom it was routine that I, the youngest sibling, was relocated to the couch and my Grandpa would take over my room. The day before he arrived an intense G.I. Joe battle was in progress. The fight that particular day took place on the harsh terrain of my bed comforter. Finding a package of thumb tacks in the office supplies earlier that day was the true cause of war. See, I wasn't very imaginative as a kid, so the idea came without delay. Gunshots = holes. So, fast forward through what would be concerning to watch as an adult seeing this demon child practicing Voodoo. Two days later at breakfast after my grandfather has spent his first night, my dad comes into the kitchen. "Morning, did you sleep okay?". To which my grandfather replies quickly "I did, until I rolled over on a thumb tack and it stuck me in the pecker". Busted. No more access to office supplies for quite awhile after that.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I played with thumb tacks in my bed. Grandpa took one to the pecker. (Not molestation related, grandfather is a great guy) | I played with thumb tacks in my bed. Grandpa took one to the pecker. (Not molestation related, grandfather is a great guy) | 3,085 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20M] seek some advice about a crush [19F] what to do next?
POST: I've known this girl for a few years now, and when we first met we almost went out with each other. We talked often, were affectionate to each other and later down the line shared a kiss or two. For a reason I'm not sure of, we talked less as the days went by, then we just became friends.
After a couple of years of general chat every week or so, and after moving back to where I used to live, I bumped into her at a bar, and we talked for a while and I was attracted to her again. We've talked since then via FB, now I'm thinking I should get her number and ask her out.
BUT since I bumped into her, I asked her to go out on a date and she didn't give me an answer, instead asking something else. If you guys want to know what she said, I'll gladly oblige.
I really like this girl. And from what signals she's given me, she likes me too, but, I'm not sure how much. I want to push for a date, but I feel asking outright will make her weird about things. How can I subtly ask her out? And how can I come up with an engaging conversation via FB chat?
Thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I like this girl, I want to ask her out, but in an indirect way. Had past attraction, but there were some long periods without contact. | I like this girl, I want to ask her out, but in an indirect way. Had past attraction, but there were some long periods without contact. | 4,252 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: What should my next move be?
POST: Sorry for the wall of text, it's hard to summarize..
I (21F) met this guy (21 or 22M) back in March visiting my friends at their college. We spent the night together. We didn't have sex, but we did fool around a bit. He seemed genuinely interested in me and sweet and even walked me back to my friend's apartment in the morning. While talking we figured out that he's moving to the same city I currently attend college in for a really good job.
Fast forward to now, he's here and texted me. I live in a suburb not too far away and am going back to school for the semester on Wednesday. I texted him a couple times since March, but he only reached out once in July to tell me he was here. I asked him out, I thought it went well, but he insisted he was too busy to see me before I went on a 2 week vacation abroad. I just got back yesterday. So.. do I text him? Or wait for him to come to me? I don't want to scare him off, but I am interested in pursuing this further. He seems really great despite us only having met once. It's rare I crush on someone that would actually probably be good for me. Please help.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Met a guy back in March, he moved to the city I go to school in and live near by, we've texted, but haven't hung out yet.. now what? | Met a guy back in March, he moved to the city I go to school in and live near by, we've texted, but haven't hung out yet.. now what? | 1,093 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Girlfriend (19F) broke up with me (22M) of 1.5 years last Sunday after a heated argument. Still talk a lot and not much has changed other then not seeing each other.
POST: We started talking the day of again that night, but she still wants to talk to me and doesn't want to lose me. She states she needs time and doesn't know how long it will be but just needs a friend right now and too take time. I graduate in May and I believe that may be the time she is aiming for because that will take the long distance strain from us when I move back home. I know that may not be that long but just this week is killing me.
To add more we talk as if we are still together; love you, babe, gorgeous etc. Also she really likes to talk about our future and things we want to do together. Also I brought up a movie that comes out next month she wants to see and said she would see it with me. Then other times she gets upset and states that I am pushing her and not giving her the time she needs. She does not like too hear serious talk and says she wants a friend to talk to, but on the other hand we talk about things that friends wouldn't talk about. Its just hard for me to talk this way and her say she misses me and then not want to.
I stupidly asked if I could come see her today and she got upset again saying I was pushing so fast, but its hard not to think its ok by the way we talk.
Also I know she hasn't found someone else or trying to find someone else, I trust her on that and I know how she is. I would just really know if someone could give me a inside look of what may be going on and what time of time frame she is looking at.
PLEASE ADVISE
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend broke things off, still wants to talk a lot but doesn't want to get back together right now. Overall really confusing for me. | Girlfriend broke things off, still wants to talk a lot but doesn't want to get back together right now. Overall really confusing for me. | 3,525 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: What should I do with my current bf?
POST: Ages: Mine 20, His 21.
Gender: Female.
Relationship: 3 months
So...my fin aid is currently cancelled for college and I went through an appeal. I wasn't able to finish some SAP policies because of my sexual assault(took my out of class, had to drop a class due to harassment) and I told my SO because I thought he had the right to know what was going on. He already knows about my assault.
Anyways, that was a week ago and it seems like he's dropped off the planet. He's told me everything is okay with us but his actions are stating otherwise. We haven't talked in a week and I understand he's busy and I understand I've been emotional lately but I don't know how to get through to him.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Pretty much everything has been going great up until this week and I'm not sure if this is just an off week or his freak out mode. Advice, please? | Pretty much everything has been going great up until this week and I'm not sure if this is just an off week or his freak out mode. Advice, please? | 1,700 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: New to dating.. what's the definition?
POST: Me (27f) and him (29m)
So its been almost a year from my last relationship that was 2 years long, and I'm a little out of the loop as far as getting back into the dating scene. I've been seeing a guy for about a month so far. He's a really sweet guy, takes me out on dates, still opens car doors and seats me when we go out to eat, and just over all well mannered and a bit chivalrous (which is adorable). We get along great so far, have a lot of things in common and all that jazz... But the other day I got the feeling that he was hinting at the "what are we" talk. We had aleady established that we are very monogamous people, but haven't really defined what we are. We sleep over at eachother's places, and see eachother almost every day, but that's about it. I'm pretty sure I've started to have some strong feelings for him so far, but not really sure what to call us yet.
I wouldn't mind being his girlfriend... Honestly I'm secretly hoping for it, but I don't want to be the first person to admit my feelings. Not sure if its because I'm scared of rejection (though I highly doubt he'd reject me at this point), if one month is sufficient enough in time to justify my secret feelings, or if I'm just not cut out for this kind of thing.
So guys, I'm just looking for a little advice here. Play it cool and see if/when he brings it up again? Or would it be completely off base for me to flat out bring it up instead of beating around the bush for who knows how long?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | wondering when is the right time to have the "what are we" talk and what justifies the admission of these feelings. | wondering when is the right time to have the "what are we" talk and what justifies the admission of these feelings. | 2,369 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hey reddit, do you think looking at cam-whore girls is wrong if you have a girlfriend?
POST: My girlfriend asked me what I look at when I masturbate. I told her I either click on a few videos on redtube or youporn, or I go to livejasmin or cam4 and watch the cam chat girls. She was ok with watching traditional porn, but when i mentioned that I go to camming websites, she was saddened. I read an askreddit post about communicating with girls on /r/gonewild, and that most people thought this was worse than simply viewing porn, since you can private message the girls on gonewild, and possibly chat with them. The reason I watch cam girls is because the traditional 'porn' look is pretty gross IMO. I find normal/amateur girls more attractive than girls with fake tits and way too much makeup. In any event, I told her (and I plan to stick to this) that I will refrain from visiting camming websites.
What do you guys think?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend is upset that I view cam girl sites when masturbating, but I only go there because 'porn' girls are ugly IMO. | Girlfriend is upset that I view cam girl sites when masturbating, but I only go there because 'porn' girls are ugly IMO. | 3,147 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Asked her out, all is going well, then BOOM, she's seemingly afraid to commit to more-than-friends. Advice?
POST: I (21M) have known her (21F) for quite some time through mutual friends but we'd never really been introduced until recently. We go to different universities, only about an hour apart, but we spent some time together over winter break after I formally introduced myself and politely asked her out, etc. After our third date or so, I talked to her in person about how she felt about us. She seemed caught off-guard a bit and said she really liked me. I mentioned that maybe we could be more serious than just friends and she side-stepped it tactfully. Fast forward a few days, we go see a hockey game or something and when I'm dropping her off after, she mentions that she's afraid to commit with us going back to school soon for the semester. Her words, IIRC.. "I always come away from spending time with you feeling very positively. I just don't know if I can commit to much for now. I do enjoy you very much."
She's mentioned that she has never been in a serious relationship and she is very conservative, even more so than I am (and I consider myself to be pretty conservative). Based on how well we get along, I get the feeling that she really likes me but is afraid to take the step into the relationship zone as it is relatively new ground for her.
Since January we've talked a bit through text and facebook, and we met up for a bit during a weekend where we were both home, but I still have feelings for her and I want to know how she honestly feels. We're both mature adults and I don't want to play games. I want to just be honest with her and tell her how I feel and get her input. Would a facebook message or a text be too informal? I don't really want to take her out again just to find out that she isn't interested because I'd be a little embarrassed after putting so much thought and effort into our relationship.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | We're both conservative young adults, she's not been in a serious relationship. I have feelings for her but she seems afraid to commit. I feel like it's a delicate situation and I'd love a little input. | We're both conservative young adults, she's not been in a serious relationship. I have feelings for her but she seems afraid to commit. I feel like it's a delicate situation and I'd love a little input. | 2,621 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My girlfriend thinks she's better than me. How do I nicely tell her that she is not?
POST: Hello, long time reader first time poster.. My situation is this, My fiance and I are graduate students at different schools with equal credibility. I am a masters student in geophysics while she is a PhD student in social work. she constantly tells me that her program is far more rigorous than mine is even tho I have seen the work she does and I fell like I honestly can do that work in my sleep, I however tend to hide my work from her. I am in no way trying to slam any majors here. I believe that every program in college has challenges equal to the next, but it really ticks me off when she claims that I should have more time than her, and that my program is easier than hers because Im in a masters program and she is in a PhD program. I'm currently researching and writing my thesis, and she is in her first year of the program (she went through the non-thesis option for her masters btw). Also when I finish this I highly doubt that I will do this school s**t again, and when we are married and she is addressed with Dr instead of Mrs (my last name) I am afraid she will disrespect me further. How do I get her to understand that I am working just as hard as she is (probably harder but I'll settle for equality)?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my fiance is in a PhD program and I am in a masters and she constantly tells me that I'm not working as hard as she is and that is soooooo not the case. how do I let her know? | my fiance is in a PhD program and I am in a masters and she constantly tells me that I'm not working as hard as she is and that is soooooo not the case. how do I let her know? | 6,123 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Dear Reddit, I made a decision today on which I would like other people's perspectives.
POST: I am president of the study association that is linked to my university. We're rather small time, but we're there in public view for all to see.
Recently, a teacher of ours suffered a fatal myocardial infarction(heart attack). I did not know the man, he teaches a course that isn't in my Major. We never exchanged words on the hallways nor did I knew who he was when I heard the news until I saw his picture.
Now, my peers(read; the school's supervisor to our association) who would abandon us if it would give them another euro to spend on free iPads for all teachers, are pressuring me into attending his funeral.
I consider a funeral a rather sacred thing, though I am not religious. It is the final chance for friends and family to say their farewells to the person on display and I do not consider myself the right person to be part of such an intimate and private undertaking over a person that I did not know. I am told that I should "represent the students as a whole". I am eager to reply that "If the students wish to pay their respects to the good man, they should come them-fuckin'-selves instead of using me as an excuse for their friday-night hangover". I volunteered for the function on a free-will basis and I will not be pressured into feeling guilt over something I have no say in.
I have already made my decision and I will not attend.
My only question for you, as a generally unbiased community, is; What is your view on this whole situation?
Shed a light on the matter that has a different wavelength than mine.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Not attending teachers funeral on account of not knowing the man. Peers pressuring me to attend. Me pressuring them to fornicate a cactus. Your opinion? | Not attending teachers funeral on account of not knowing the man. Peers pressuring me to attend. Me pressuring them to fornicate a cactus. Your opinion? | 6,112 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By projectile vomiting all over the Bathroom.
POST: Unlike most TIFU mine literally happened about 5 hours ago and I'm writing this hungover as shit so bear with.
Just to give you a bit of a background I live in a shared house with 1 girl and 2 guys. Me and this girl are around the same age and we get on pretty well (our house isn't very sociable so she pretty much the only person I see).
Well my story starts when my housemate, we'll call her S, comes in from a work night out. It's like two in the morning and she comes in knocking on my door. She's a bit drunk and just being a usual girl. After chatting a bit we both went downstairs and went through a bottle of red wine...Fuck..where did that go?
We talked for hours about personal things and even agreed to do something together on Sunday. It's a bit of a deal 'cause as you may have guessed, I like this girl.
Coming up to 5AM and we're both fucked. My other housemate came in from work so we hit the bong...That was the mistake.
After running upstairs and attempting to reach the toilet (I ran like fucking Usain Bolt) I then proceeded to be sick. Not just in the toilet but everywhere.
It was on the wall. It was on the ceiling. I even managed to ruin a 9 pack of toilet rolls in the process.
My red wine infused vomit, packed full of undigested veg from my previous meal, coated the pristine white bathroom like something out of a Saw film. Bearing in mind S and I share a bathroom she wasn't happy.
On your hands and knees at 5AM wasted in the bathroom looking like I'd just taken my tampon for a walk is not a good look.
Now I don't know what to do. I've just woken and not seen her yet and I've probably ruined any chance with her. Who want's to be seen with the guy who looks like he's just gone down on an menstruating bear.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Got drunk and high as shit and coated my female housemates toilet with a coat of insides. With fruit overtones of Plum and cherry. | Got drunk and high as shit and coated my female housemates toilet with a coat of insides. With fruit overtones of Plum and cherry. | 4,743 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [21M] kind of confused about my feelings for this girl [22F], maybe you guys can give me a run-down
POST: Basically there's this girl I've been friends with for years now. She's always really sweet, nice, cute, the whole bit. When we go out in public, I notice guys checking her out, and even though we're friends, I like them admiring.
Now, to make it sound less creepy, we are intimate. We're just friends but we do more than what typical friends do, I'm sure you guys understand what I mean.
A couple years ago, she told me she wanted a relationship with me and after we talked it out (I didn't want one due to my own issues) she said that was okay and we went about our usual business.
A couple months later, she went off to college ~140mi away. After she left, we've both been with other people, but neither of us can find anyone like the other.
The other night I got back from a party and I was laying in bed and she called me on Skype. She was all done up for her soro formal and wanted to show me. When we hung up, I realized that every time she hangs up, I miss her.... A LOT. Moreso than I've ever missed anyone and I find myself thinking about her almost daily. I told her how much I missed her last night over Skype and she blushed and said she felt the same exact way. She asked me why I don't tell her that and it's because I don't like people to know how I feel.
I told my bud all of this and he thinks I'm in love with her but I just haven't accepted that yet. I don't feel like I'm in lover with her, but she does pretty much come first in my book. She does more for me than anyone else and is my best friend, so don't think I do everything for her, if anything, she does far more for me.
What do you guys make of it? Am I just missing my best friend or is there more to it?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Met girl at party. She asked for tree fiddy. It was about that time I realized, this was no ordinary girl. She stood about 40 feet tall... | Met girl at party. She asked for tree fiddy. It was about that time I realized, this was no ordinary girl. She stood about 40 feet tall... | 4,788 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Helping GF 27 get over her trust problems.
POST: I(27) have been with my girlfriend(27) for about 10 months now. Even though the relationship is going great, my girlfriend is afraid that I'm going to leave here. I have no plans of doing that because she's great and I want to marry her one day. I've told her that and she's alright but every once in a while, she starts saying "what if you leave me, I don't want that. I love you so much it hurts, etc" and she thinks that her breaking off the relationship would be better. I talk to her and calm her most of the time and it's alright. It only happens when she's not with me, hence over the phone which is hard for me to control as I can't physically comfort her.
Alright, it's happened again while I was typing this. She says she can't "do me any more harm by being negative like this and hopes I have a good life. She loves me and misses me always" (I don't get annoyed or harmed, I just want us to be happy. She's amazing and I love her tonnes and she's just amazing)
I don't want to leave her. Any suggestions on what can be done?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF thinks I'm going to break off with her and is sad. I have no plans of doing it. Halp ? | GF thinks I'm going to break off with her and is sad. I have no plans of doing it. Halp ? | 195 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[M24] am dating an woman[F19] and friend's with an an ex's family.
POST: I have seen a lot of posts on here about being the ex-gf in these situations, and none of them are too positive on the bf.
What are your thoughts on not only having both of these relationships, but the fact that they will likely meet each other? I do not see/associate with the ex-gf at all, but am very close to everyone else (brothers[8,14,22], father[42], mother[41]). It is probable we'll hang out and do things together in the future, without the ex[f25].
Is this a receipt for disaster and I'm just not seeing it? People around me haven't been able to properly describe why this would or wouldn't end well. Just that "it's..." with no follow-up. Am I worried about nothing?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friend's with an ex's family, especially mother, and they've all shown interest in wanting to meet my new gf. I have no contact with the ex. | Friend's with an ex's family, especially mother, and they've all shown interest in wanting to meet my new gf. I have no contact with the ex. | 3,829 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24/M] with newly single her [26/F]... what do I do now?
POST: I have been secretly seeing a girl who was engaged. Her situation was basically that she was very unhappy with her fiancée but stayed with him due to them having a child together.
Now I don't normally get involved with people in relationships and I felt like an asshole for doing it but I really adore this women so I stuck it out to see if anything would happen.
Recently we have been talking about a future together. Little things like who would do the dishes and who would do the drying. What side of the bed she would have and also bigger things like the fact that I would love to have her son in my life. She also tells me that her son mimics me and he knows how to say my name better then hers. (I have met him before and talked to him over the phone a few times)
We have been sleeping together for a few months now and other then a few stupid fights we get along really well. Recently she said I love you and I also said it back and it was cute. She also wants to be a big part in my plan to get my own place so I can live by myself.
Less then 24 hours ago her and her fiancée had a talk and they decided to break up, they have a holiday planned together in a few weeks which they still plan to take.
Now comes the hardest part. I know I have to be patient, I know I have to be supportive but I am also unsure what I do and say. How do I act and how long do I wait/ how do I know when she will be ready to commit again?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | A female who was in an unhappy relationship who I was also seeing is now single. How do I act and how long do I wait/ how do I know when she will be ready to commit again? | A female who was in an unhappy relationship who I was also seeing is now single. How do I act and how long do I wait/ how do I know when she will be ready to commit again? | 4,269 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: my [22F] sister [24F] is dating someone who makes me uncomfortable, and he [40somethingM] has essentially moved into our house.
POST: My sister and I both live at home. I just graduated college and I move out again to a different city in August. Hopefully this move will be forever.
My sister's boyfriend is twenty years older than her. He does not have a home (he bounces around between his parents, his sister, and our house). He has been divorced twice, and has three children between the two marriages (whom he has very little custody of -- it's an every other weekend situation). He's a chain smoker. I find him very rude and abrasive and I find that he is disrespectful to his children. I just have a "vibe" about him that says "creepy." If I was about to pass this guy on a sidewalk, I'd cross the street.
I don't really care that my sister is dating someone creepy. We are not close, we are not friends. If she sees something in this guy, fine. Good for her.
My problem is that since he does not live anywhere, he essentially lives here. I come home from work wanting to relax and there he is, reeking of cigarettes and eating the food I bought for my dinner. He makes me feel uneasy. I try to leave the house when he is here, but recently that has started to be all the time. My sister has asked me if I care if he stays over -- I have said yes, that it makes me uncomfortable. In response she just gets accusatory and yells at me for not liking him. I just don't know how to survive these few months living with this guy.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My sister's boyfriend is old, smelly, creepy, and technically homeless, and has recently moved into our house. How do I bare with my sister's deadbeat boyfriend until I move out? | My sister's boyfriend is old, smelly, creepy, and technically homeless, and has recently moved into our house. How do I bare with my sister's deadbeat boyfriend until I move out? | 1,210 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/books
TITLE: I'm going there: I cannot bring myself to finish LOTR.
POST: **Notice: I mean no disrespect to fans so please don't take this the wrong way.**
...but I'm more than open to having my mind changed if someone can explain to me what I'm missing.
My job has an hour-long commute, so I joined the library and have been going through podcasts and audiobooks like crazy.
While sifting through their audiobook collection I saw they had all of the LOTR books, which I've never read -- I wanted to as a teenager but never got around to it. I never watched the movies because I wanted to read the books first because I'm a nerd like that. I knew absolutely nothing about the series other than the brief introduction I had to it while playing the Interplay LOTR adventure game on PC in the mid-90's for half an hour once.
So for the first few discs I found it a little monotonous. Lots of awkward singing by the narrator, lots of painfully long descriptions of the Shire and lots of genealogy for minor characters, which I found odd. But I assumed it'd pick up since I had 14 discs left to go.
I'm currently on disc 9 (right as they're getting to Rivendell) but I absolutely cannot get interested in it, though not for lack of trying. Each commute it gets more difficult for me to keep listening rather than just throw on music or the news. Every time I get to a new disc I feel like I just finished several hours of homework and I have to bargain with myself to start the next one.
It's not that I don't like it. I like Tolkien's style, the characters are ridiculously well-developed and I can appreciate how groundbreaking it was in the 1950's...I just can't figure out what's so interesting and exciting about it to so many people, and I certainly can't imagine spending 50+ more hours finishing out the entire trilogy.
Can someone change my mind before I bail and take it back to the library on Tuesday?
If it matters in your analysis, my normal taste is Philip K. Dick, Kurt Vonnegut, David Sedaris and non-fiction about science, politics and religion. My favorite book is Good Omens by Gaiman/Pratchett.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Can't get into Lord of the Rings but I'm open to giving it another shot if someone can tell me why I should. | Can't get into Lord of the Rings but I'm open to giving it another shot if someone can tell me why I should. | 100 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Somebody help me [24m] move on from my ex [21f].
POST: Our relationship of a year and a half was great while it lasted and I understand why she wanted out. She felt that we don't connect as well as we used to and that things are better off this way. On top of that there were a few occasions where I didn't treat her properly and my negative attitude at the time (I was fairly depressed over the job I had) leaked into the relationship.
It's been 9 months and I've been making gradual progress in moving on (managed to get a new job and picked up a new hobby) but I'm finding it incredibly difficult. It feels like everything I've been doing to keep myself prroccupied has just been burying an issue that I dont want to face. I still care for her a lot. I miss her constantly and it sometimes feels as if thinking of her is the only thing pushing me along. The latest thing that hurts is that I think she's recently started seeing someone else. I know that she's no longer mine and she's very welcome to date anybody she likes. So I left her a message with something along the lines of "hey I know that it's none of my business but if what I've seen is true and that you're seeing someone now, I just want to wish you good luck and that this person can treat you much better."
I sent that message with real honesty and I really want her to find happiness (even if I can't be the one to love her and give that to her). I'd love it if we suddenly got back together but I know that's completely out of the question.
She hasn't talked or replied back to me since April despite my attempts at initiating conversation.
So how do I move on from where I am?...
I've got a new job (3 months in), a new hobby (I picked up cycling to rehab my knee from an injury) and I'm a fairly musical person. Im a fairly good looking guy (as I've been told) however my confidence doesn't always show and I'm always shy when it comes to girls.
I don't feel as though I have many friends and even then I feel a little out casted as sometimes our interests don't always fit.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Need help moving on from ex girlfriend. It's 9 months in and I still have feelings for her despite trying to preoccupy myself with things to move on. Social awkwardness makes it difficult to even attempt to meet someone new. | Need help moving on from ex girlfriend. It's 9 months in and I still have feelings for her despite trying to preoccupy myself with things to move on. Social awkwardness makes it difficult to even attempt to meet someone new. | 5,481 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/books
TITLE: Bought and am reading "THE STAND UNCUT" -- was that a wise move or should I have gone with the original?
POST: I just started "The Stand," by Stephen King. Wanting to get the whole deal, I bought the uncut edition.
Reading the novel's introduction, it looks like this edition has about 500 extra pages. THAT IS CRAZINESS. The copy I have right now is 1054 pages. Holy crap, that much more got added -- wow.
**So has anyone read both the uncut and the much shorter original? If so, how do they compare?** I'm reading this now and just beginning to think "this is long -- this is really, really long," and though I'm only 100 pages in a lot of these details don't seem that necessary. The whole introduction to "The Stand Uncut" basically is him saying "this might be an indulgence." Thoughts?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | if you have read the two, did I make a mistake of getting this version of "The Stand" (plus your thoughts in general on the two editions)? | if you have read the two, did I make a mistake of getting this version of "The Stand" (plus your thoughts in general on the two editions)? | 662 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How can i encourage my boyfriend to explore his sexual side? DAE have experience with this?
POST: Ok, obvious throw away account is obvious because i've found my boyfriend surfing here lately and i don't want him to know i'm asking for your advice about this. Background story; we've been together for around 1&1/2 years now and it's been pretty sweet. We get along great, we spend tons of time together, we're both pretty attractive people (i know he is, and i'd like to think i am) and basically i couldn't ask for a cooler boyfriend. There is only one catch. I consider myself to be a pretty sexual individual. I often let my mind wander to naughty things (mostly about my boyfriend, which i feel good about) and get excited and then want to try those things later. He, on the other hand, does none of this. At the beginning of the relationship there was slightly more sexual interaction, but almost all of it was initiated by me. Since then we've been having less and less sex because i became insecure constantly initiating it, assuming that he either doesn't find me sexually attractive anymore or he is just uninterested in general. I've tried on many occasions to ask him what he found exciting or arousing, even offering risque secrets of my own in order to make him feel more comfortable, but no matter what i do he insists that he just doesn't have any turn ons. I think he feels that he needs to repress his sexuality as a man, but he's done it to a point that he has none. We are to the point now that we have sex MAYBE once a week (we sleep in bed together around 4-6 times a week) and i just don't know what to do. He insists that he finds me sexually attractive and he enjoys the sex when we have it, but he has no desire to initiate. Can anyone help? Does anyone have experience with this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am in an amazing relationship with a kickass guy who happens to have an incredibly low libido. He doesn't care about doing it much, and i want to 24/7. | I am in an amazing relationship with a kickass guy who happens to have an incredibly low libido. He doesn't care about doing it much, and i want to 24/7. | 5,482 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My gf [24] and I [23] of 5 months are having problems and idk what to do...I feel like I'm losing a girl I've completely fallen in love with.
POST: Been together for 5 months and after about 3 months I basically moved in with her. Not officially but slept over pretty much every night for the past 2 months and only going home once a week. She loved me a lot and would kiss me too much but it was fine. I could handle it. But the past two weeks she's been acting different. Seemed to me like she wasn't really acknowledging my presence. Had to ask for a hug and kiss and she would sigh like it was inconvenient. I've asked what's wrong and she would say she doesn't know. She just needs time and space. So for a week I pondered on that and gave her space. Now two days ago she goes out after work with friends and doesn't tell me. She didn't get home til 6am. So I was really upset but I let it go til we woke up and she said she doesn't know what's going on. She still loves me but needs space. So I told her I'd move the few things I had there (tv clothes food) back home. She said whatever at first but then I explained idk what to do and She seemd okay with it. It was sad and we were both upset..I didn't wanna move home but I feel it was needed. Idk how this is gunna work out. I may be over reacting? But I feel like I'm gunna lose her over this. We've been texting a little bit but haven't talked much. Stopped by to drop something off and didn't get a hug or a kiss or anything. Just a hi thanks and bye. Idk What to do reddit.. :(
TL;DR: . Assistant: | shes been acting different lately so imoved home after staying at my gfs for 2 months. Feel like I'm losing her. | shes been acting different lately so imoved home after staying at my gfs for 2 months. Feel like I'm losing her. | 6,170 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [25F] feeling burnt out from bf's [27M] lack of kind reciprocation
POST: I feel like I put a lot of effort into the relationship. I dote on him a lot. Massages for his back (he has a back injury), cook dinner most nights, He's in school and does not have a lot of money. I have a decent job and like to use my disposable income on both of us. I told him that he can do things for me like write sweet notes or foot rubs that would mean much more than gifts. He will offer to do things, but wants to do them on his own time. He also gets really angry if I ask him to do the thing he offered to do upfront. He agreed to make dinner once a week, but is inconsistent with it or makes dinner so late at night I end up just going to bed. He told me that he wanted to give me a massage every day that I worked (my field is very taxing on my body). I worked for three days straight and complained in passing my shoulder was acting up again. Instead of offering to help, he brought up that he felt he was too ambitious in offering to massage my shoulders every day I worked. Instead, he said he'd "try for once a week and go from there." I really don't do things for him so I'll have a list of "you owe me"s. I genuinely enjoy taking care of people I care about. I just feel like he is very lazy in our relationship when it comes to follow through or reciprocation. I find myself becoming burnt out. When I try to stop accommodating his needs or doting on him, I feel anxious because that's not who I am. I feel guilty about not bringing him home something to eat or helping him if he needs it. I just wish he could see how uneven the give and take is in our relationship. My birthday is November and I'm going to see if he does anything to make me feel special. I'm already anticipating being disappointed, but I hope that is enough time for me to realize if I want to continue in this relationship. I just wish I felt like he cared for me as intensely as I do for him. I don't really know what to do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I do a lot for my boyfriend because I genuinely enjoy it. However, I'm beginning to feel burnt out from a lack of reciprocation. | I do a lot for my boyfriend because I genuinely enjoy it. However, I'm beginning to feel burnt out from a lack of reciprocation. | 2,185 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Help with underemployment in MI
POST: Hey reddit,
I used to work between 32-40 hours at a hotel with Marriott. Marriott sold that hotel, and I transferred to another hotel with Marriott as well. I thought that I would be able to work full time there since I worked mostly midnights, but they don't have the same availability and want me to work afternoons.
I cannot work afternoons as I have school and I tutor for a practicum in education in the afternoon...
Consequently I filed for unemployment to supplement my income. Marriott has blocked my claim saying that if I wasn't in school, I could work full time and I shouldn't get benefits. I'm looking at the "fact-finding form" right now. I need to respond in 10 days. What should I say or do to get my underemployment?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I can't work full time at my new hotel job, filed for unemployment and was blocked by my new hotel job. Need advice on how to handle this. | I can't work full time at my new hotel job, filed for unemployment and was blocked by my new hotel job. Need advice on how to handle this. | 398 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (21F) losing sense of self in relationship with my (20F) bipolar gf
POST: She is my best friend but I've lost all friends outside of her and our friend group has melded to a few people. She wants me to do everything with her from grocery shopping to every minute of my free time. She is also very suspicious and jealous. Example: Our male friend flirts with both of us and after we hang out wiyh him she'll be upset for hours thathe flirted with me.I love her but can't confront her or tell her how I really feel most of the time because she loves confrontation and I am deeply effected by it--I have depression/dysthymia and mild aspergers and am incredibly sensitive.
We just signed a lease to live in the same apartment for a year (this time with separate rooms) and I'm concerned. She needs constant noise and stimulation and as the more introverted one, I need silence. My center of focus in the environment is politeness towards others and not imposing on them, hers is making herself comfortable and disregarding the feelings of others. This manifests as her forcing me into PDA at inappropriate times, me cleaning up after her, apologizing for her, and generally catering to her needs while she disregards mine (loud music, bright lights, constant motion).
Also, this is my first relationship.
I love her but need advice.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend is bipolar, dominating, way more extroverted, and generally gives less fucks than me (depressed, overly polite). How can I be happy in this relationship? | My girlfriend is bipolar, dominating, way more extroverted, and generally gives less fucks than me (depressed, overly polite). How can I be happy in this relationship? | 6,276 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My Uncle is getting catfished by a con artist. What should I do?
POST: I hope this is the right sub, I searched a few, and couldn't figure out the appropriate one.
I am female, age 30. Uncle male, 62, paralyzed from the chest down for the last 44 years. Other individual age and gender unknown, but claims to be female and 32.
I am the primary care provider for my disabled Uncle. He lives in my house. Last night, he told me that he has been in an online relationship with a woman is Ghana. She says she is in love with him, but in a bind, and needs money. He is asking me to go purchase a money order (a few hundred dollars) to send to her. Obvious scam.
He is lonely. He has been single for decades because of his disability. The woman makes him happy, even if she is just a con artist. Part of me just wants to just give in because its not worth getting in between my Uncle and his happiness even if he is getting used. If I don't do this, it will cause a big rift in my relationship with my Uncle. On the other hand, F--k that b--ch. Nobody uses my Uncle with my consent.
I don't know what to do. Help? Advice? Experience?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My Uncle is getting catfished by a con artist that is asking for money, and I am the one that has to send his cash. Do I? If I don't, how do I tell my Uncle no? | My Uncle is getting catfished by a con artist that is asking for money, and I am the one that has to send his cash. Do I? If I don't, how do I tell my Uncle no? | 6,003 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Pets
TITLE: Couch cushions have gone from things to sleep on to the favorite tug-of-war toy...
POST: When my husband and I used to leave for the day for work, we used to confine our two dogs to the laundry room in which resided their water dish and their dog door (which lets them out into the dog run on the side of the house).
As they're both a bit older now (Colt is a little over 2 and River is almost 2), and are much better behaved in the house, we have started just letting them stay inside the house when we leave. For the first several months this was not a problem at all. Nothing eaten or gone to the bathroom upon.
However, we took our first long trip a few weeks ago (gone for 5 days, had friends come over 2-3 times a day for food/playing), and when we came back, they had ripped apart one of the couch cushions from our older couch upstairs. We thought maybe we didn't leave all their toys out or something. No big deal, accidents happen. Figured they just got bored and played tug-of-war with a nice giant brown cushion.
Now time #2 has happened - husband wasn't home yet and I dipped out for about 40 minutes to grab some groceries, and when I came home, yet another cushion was in sad little pieces. I know I left all their toys out, they had plenty of water, and have been played with earlier today, though not as much as usual since we seeded our lawn in the backyard two days ago so they can't go on it.
Any ideas why they're suddenly ripping apart couch cushions when they're home alone? Thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Older couch upstairs has gone from a place to sleep, to the dogs ripping apart the cushions. Never used to be an issue. Only happens when they're home alone, and all their toys, water, etc are available | Older couch upstairs has gone from a place to sleep, to the dogs ripping apart the cushions. Never used to be an issue. Only happens when they're home alone, and all their toys, water, etc are available | 114 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Recent university graduate looking for advice
POST: I am posting here in hopes that I can get some advice from anyone who has gone through or is in the same situation as I am. Here is the basics:
I graduated university about 1 year ago with a Bachelors degree in Mathematics. After graduating I looked for a jobs for about 3 months with no success.
I have a minor in Computer Science, so I was searching for jobs in the technical area. Anything from web developer, to IT desk, to QA analyst.
At that point I literally had no relevant job experience (Only working part-time and summer jobs as a student)
After applying to 80+ jobs and getting less than 5 responses I went back to my old summer job as a landscaper. I was then able to find a small start up company that I could volunteer at as a web developer.
Fast-forward 6 months, I am still at the start-up full-time, but I cannot go much longer without any income. I also don't feel like the experience I am getting is very valuable. This company is very unstructured and I have no "mentor" in terms of programming, I am often the go-to guy when it comes to problems. I continue to apply for jobs, but with no success.
My question is, what are my options? I have enough money saved up I could go back to school but which program? Should I go to college, try and get into a Master program? or even a 2nd bachelors?
(I'm from Canada, so college is like a lower tier University here, usually with more practical courses while Universities offer more theoretical courses)
Should I stick it out in hopes this experience will land me a new job?
It's not the worst situation to be in, but I feel like I will have to do something soon.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Recent university grad having no lucking finding a job, asking for anyones advice who is in or gone through a similar situation | Recent university grad having no lucking finding a job, asking for anyones advice who is in or gone through a similar situation | 4,738 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Friend that i have feelings for just got into a relationship. Do i tell them how i feel, or forever hold my silence?
POST: So, i'm crazy about a person who also happens to be a good friend. In the beginning, we really hit it off and most of our friends thought we would definitetly get together, just a matter of time. But i've known him for over a year now and nothing doing...we are both quite shy. We talk a lot and share stuff, whenever we're together there's a lot of accidentally-on-purpose physical content...tension etc...friends who didn't even know i had feelings for him would always say he was being really obvious...you get the picture. recently, i found out that he was seeing someone casually, but he told me that he wasn't that into her, he just knew she liked him and he wanted to be with someone...i was bursting to tell him that she wasn't his only option...but i didn't. he was still being very affectionate with me and i thought he might still choose me. now they are together and i'm gutted. i feel he has led me on. do i confront him? what do i say?
Reddit, thanks so much for reading this - please give me some advice!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | guy i'm friends with and have feelings for gave me loads of signals that he felt more than friendly toward me, now he's with someone. do i tell him the truth? | guy i'm friends with and have feelings for gave me loads of signals that he felt more than friendly toward me, now he's with someone. do i tell him the truth? | 2,041 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Advice needed!
POST: In need of a little advice here. Back in 2009 my current girlfriend and I graduated from college, me with a degree in accounting and her with a degree in marketing. It took me roughly a year to land a job in my career field; my girlfriend, however, was not so lucky. Taking menial and tedious jobs she tried to make the most of it.
Fast forward to 2012, she accepts a part-time job and makes the decision to return to school. This time, however, to take courses for her to able to attend Pharmacy school.
Enrolling as a part-time student, she takes the necessary classes she needs to meet her Pharmacy prerequisites. However, because of the weird curriculum of her university, one of her classes doesn't meet the Pharmacy requirements and so ultimately she drops it in favor of a class that does.
Twist occurs when it turns out the class that met her Pharmacy prerequisite does not meet her university's prerequisite for the upper level classes she needs. So now she has to take additional classes just to meet those prerequisites. This of course means that it will take her longer to take her PCATs and ultimately longer to get into Pharmacy school. She doesn't want to be in school the rest of her twenties nor does she want to be burdened with additional debt/expenses while reaching her goal.
I guess I'm unsure of what to do; I try to be supportive as possible, hearing her out, letting her express her frustrations but it doesn't seem to work. What are her or my options here? I don't wanna be useless.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriend heads back to school after 3 years of unsuccessful job opportunities. Takes classes need for her goal only to get sidetracked by her shitty university's scheduling. | girlfriend heads back to school after 3 years of unsuccessful job opportunities. Takes classes need for her goal only to get sidetracked by her shitty university's scheduling. | 4,955 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Fast Food Addict
POST: Hello everyone my name is Blitz and I am a fast food addict. I don't know what to do anymore. I live in a small town and the main street is only about a block from my house which conveniently has all the fast food restaurants on it. I have to drive by 7 everyday to get to work in a town that only has 9. My doctor recently started me on phentermine because I am constantly hungry. It has actually helped a lot. I can eat a granola bar and be full whereas before I could eat 12 granola bars. I have actually managed to lose 24lbs in the past 2 months but cannot stop eating fast food. It has become so bad I lay in bed in the morning trying to decide what fast food I want for breakfast. I don't even like the taste of it and I feel sick and fat afterwords. My wife always packs me an amazing and healthy lunch and it has been awhile since I have ate that early and drove to town for 2nd lunch so I have won that battle. I read a post a while back where the person said anytime they wanted fast food they immediately transferred the money yo savings. I might actually give this a try but does anyone else have any other recommendations?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am fat and can't stop eating fast food. Even though I am not hungry I still think about it constantly. | I am fat and can't stop eating fast food. Even though I am not hungry I still think about it constantly. | 2,264 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How many Americans would have to refuse to pay taxes to effectively protest military action in Syria?
POST: Between the government's hypocritical treatment of whistleblowers, intrusive domestic surveillance, failures of oversight, various fiascoes in the Department of Justice (ineffective "War on Drugs" prosecutions, botching of Project Gunrunner with the ATF, aggressive targeting of journalists, etc), one of the most unproductive Congresses in decades, and the usual partisan infighting, grandstanding and military-cooperate masturbation, I no longer feel any sense of representation, affiliation, or allegiance to the Federal government. Military action in Syria on shaky-at-best grounds is the last straw for me.
I want to stop paying taxes. But given my small income, this would ultimately be a ceremonial gesture that gets me fined or jailed to no avail. My question is, is there a critical mass of citizens whose refusal to pay tax would result in an inability of the government to effectively prosecute for and/or seize the withheld tax, and would this be an effective form of protest? Does such action have historical precedent?
I should point out that I am not opposed to tax. Were I to participate in such a coordinated protest, I would (and would advocate to others) give what money I would have paid in tax directly to public services, to fund education, infrastructure, healthcare, etc. and would inform the IRS I had done so.
I am open to being told I am naive and uninformed, but I want to be explained why. If "the government has always been this ___", I think this is deadly apathy we need to do something, and I will gladly "march around your City Hall" and "write to your representative" but let's not pretend that will get us out of another unwinnable, uninformed, unaffordable war.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I feel supporting the government with taxes would be immoral. I would rather directly support public services, research and education. Would enough people taking this action be an effective form of protest, and does protest by mass tax refusal have precedent? | I feel supporting the government with taxes would be immoral. I would rather directly support public services, research and education. Would enough people taking this action be an effective form of protest, and does protest by mass tax refusal have precedent? | 2,973 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [21/f] suspect my boyfriend [25/m] is lying to me about how well he is doing in school. Would you leave your SO just because of poor academics?
POST: I have been dating my SO for a year and a half now. He is the sweetest guy and we have much in common.
I am almost done with my UG degree. He took a two year break from college so he is a little behind. But I think he is not doing as well as he claims because he is very vague about his classes. I think he feels insecure because I am almost done with school and when he was on academic probation before we got into a HUGE argument about it. I feel like if he does not get a degree we can't have a secure future together.
I feel awful for thinking that way. Am I being a total a$$ about this? What should I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I [21/f] suspect my boyfriend [25/m] is lying to me about how well he is doing in school. I don't know how to confront him about it. | I [21/f] suspect my boyfriend [25/m] is lying to me about how well he is doing in school. I don't know how to confront him about it. | 5,759 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, My military contract ends in 145 days and I am seriously considering getting out despite not having a clear plan. Have any of you taken huge career risks? How did it turn out?
POST: I like the military for the fact that I get paid pretty decent money for the amount of work I do. I also get medical, dental, life insurance, free (though not very reliable) flights to almost anywhere and am able to retire after 20 years. The thing is though, is that I want something different. I get bored with things pretty quick and I am starting to get pretty bored with my career. Also, 20 years in the military can really take it out on a person and once I'm done, then what? I suppose I could get a job doing that working for the military as a civilian doing pretty much the same thing. I would like to go into business for myself, and I figure if I am going to make a move, I should make it now before I have too much time invested into the military.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm tired of the military and want get out to do something else but I don't know what yet. Have you taken a leap of faith career-wise? How did it work out? | I'm tired of the military and want get out to do something else but I don't know what yet. Have you taken a leap of faith career-wise? How did it work out? | 2,989 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: What would you do in my situation? (Interracial feelings with another)
POST: A few months ago my group of friends and I started partying with this girl (She's white and 19, I'm a black male and 19) my friend had invited with us one weekend. She had fun with us and her and I started talking. I started to develop feelings for her and asked her to be my date to my track championship after party. She agreed, we went, and we had a great time and all (this is taking place at college around late April). I didn't have the chance to tell her how I felt before school ended, on top of us ending on an unrelated bad note, so I figured any shot I had was over.
However we texted throughout the summer, on a nightly basis even! Hope wasn't lost! But I was lacking in the confidence department when it came to women so I still had no idea if I had a shot. Eventually she invited us down to her place for a weekend at the beach (VA Beach, I live right below DC). We went and had a hell of a good time, and after a weekend of finding the courage, I decided to make my move...
The next morning when our friend(same one who introduced us) had gone to the bathroom, we hugged innocently enough, and I went in to kiss her. She pulls away telling me that we can't. Turns out she felt the same way I did, we both really liked each other!
However it wasn't that simple. She said we couldn't date, her father wouldn't let her date outside her race. I said I was ok with that, just to know that she liked me was good enough (and it was). We shared a kiss anyway, a few steamier ones in honesty. And she agreed to let me take her out once we got back to school, to pay her back for the weekend.
So we've got a date set up even though we shouldn't, we have feelings for each other that we can't act on (officially) and we're both spending 8 months out of the year away from home and her father, do you think we should still try to pursue a relationship? What would you do, or has this ever happened to you and what did you do about it?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl and I aren't allowed to be together because of race and we still both really want to date, what should we do/ what would you do? | Girl and I aren't allowed to be together because of race and we still both really want to date, what should we do/ what would you do? | 2,746 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (26F) might be dating a "Good Luck Chuck" (30M)?
POST: If you have seen the movie Good Luck Chuck, you know what I'm talking about: any woman who sleeps with this guy Chuck would soon get married.
I've been with my boyfriend "Chuck" for almost a year, and just recently realized that I know of 5 of his ex-girlfriends: all of them are now either married or engaged to the person they dated right after Chuck.
Some of the ex-girlfriends are from around 10 years ago, some are more recent, including his most recent girlfriend (they broke up less than 2 years ago). This is too much of a coincidence.
I asked about Chuck about it. He think it's because he's "husband material" for them, so when their relationship didn't work, they know exactly what to look for -- a guy as similar to him as possible. He even commented on the fiance of his most recent ex, saying that guy looks just like him, but less handsome.
This is really weird. On the one hand, **all I want is that my boyfriend to love me for me, not because his other options (the ex-es he clearly have a very deep connection with) are not available.** He clearly still pines for a few of them: keeps Facebook and phone connect with them; keeps a lot of souvenirs and private photos of their time together. (I didn't poke around, they sort of just lie around in his house. )
On the other hand, it makes me want to try out the "Good Luck Chuck" charm: if we break up, I might meet someone whom I will marry.
What do you think?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Every ex-girlfriend of my boyfriend "Chuck" got married/ engaged to the person she dated immediately after Chuck. Shall I keep dating him? | Every ex-girlfriend of my boyfriend "Chuck" got married/ engaged to the person she dated immediately after Chuck. Shall I keep dating him? | 2,771 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by talking too loud
POST: Whatup /r/tifu?
So I fucked up by talking too loud publicly. I was standing with a classmate at the busstation and was talking about the next few weeks. The next few weeks are pretty tough for the students in Switzerland, because we're getting closer to the finals. In addition to that our teachers decided to give us a shit load of homework.
So we both were complaining about how annyoing this is and out of the conversation I dropped the phrase: "We're getting fucked harder than in an american prison!" My classmate got the metaphor, but a man who always is on the same bus in the moring like I am probably just heard this one sentence. After I've said the last word I saw him kinda disturbed looking at me. So he will probably remember me as the "getting fucked in a american prison guy".
TL;DR: . Assistant: | spoke too loud at the busstation, now will be remembered as the guy who got fucked in an american prison. | spoke too loud at the busstation, now will be remembered as the guy who got fucked in an american prison. | 1,852 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Are you self-conscious about how you appear to others on Facebook/Twitter? Are your social media profiles an accurate representation of you as a person?
POST: I'm in a college course about Digital Media and Culture and I'm doing a project examining how we represent ourselves on social media and how social media impacts our understanding of our own identity.
As part of my project, I'm making a satirical Twitter where, instead of tweeting what I normally would tweet, I'm tweeting the self-conscious inner monologue that goes on in my brain when I use social media.
So I need your help. **Are you self-conscious about how you appear to others on social media?** I'm guilty of deleting a Facebook post if it doesn't get any likes so I don't seem like a loser. Do any of you do things like that?
Also, **what goes into your mind when you Tweet or post a Facebook status? Do you worry about whether or not people will like it/think it's funny? How are you self-conscious about your social media presence?**
Thanks for your help and I'm interested in hearing your input!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Doing a project on how we present ourselves on social media. Are you self-conscious about what your "Friends" and Followers think of you? Tell me what your inner monologue is like when you use Facebook/Twitter. | Doing a project on how we present ourselves on social media. Are you self-conscious about what your "Friends" and Followers think of you? Tell me what your inner monologue is like when you use Facebook/Twitter. | 1,732 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: What can I [21M] do about my little brother [18M] who is playing way too many video games?
POST: My brother is a freshman in college, and isn't doing well in his classes. He is failing one of them. He was blaming this on a bad professor, but I've recently discovered through a friend that he's put 30 hours into a PC game that came out four days ago, and 100 hours total over the past two weeks (the service he uses tracks usage).
I am worried that his gaming is affecting his not just education, but his social and physical well-being as well. If you're putting 50 hours of gaming in a week, on top of school work, how do you have time for friends or staying physically active? He was always with friends and staying fit (he was a swimmer) in high school, so I'm worried he's on a decline that is for the worst.
How can I talk to him about this? I am concerned he's going to do poorly in his classes and am also concerned for his general well-being. Any advice is appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Brother is playing lots of video games, very possibly to the point that it is impacting aspects of his life. How I can talk to him about this? | Brother is playing lots of video games, very possibly to the point that it is impacting aspects of his life. How I can talk to him about this? | 2,492 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My long-distance girlfriend's [21/F] parents are too strict and she doesn't do anything about it. Is it okay to tell her to rebel against them ?
POST: Hi,
So we've been together for 3 years now and we live in different countries. We've known each other since we were 5 in elementary school, then we lost track of each other when my family and I left my native country. It is important to mention that our mothers were very close friends. So, we got back in touch 5 years ago when she was very good friends with my best friend over there. 3 years ago when I went to my native country to visit friends and family, I met her and we saw each other twice. Ever since that time, I flew to my native country twice to surprise her but she never saw me because her parents are too strict and they don't let her leave the house. I know this to be true for 100%. The problem is she never stands up to her parents, she always listens to them and never defies them when they refuse that she goes out with friends.
Now, she came with her family to my present country, and she still can't go out 5 minutes to see me...when she asked her parents, her mother was okay with the idea but her father refused. She then stormed out and locked herself in the room. Her father came a few hours later to apologize and offered that he takes her shopping... and that was it, she was no longer mad at him. I miss her so very much and I know I won't be able to go to my home country for at least 4 years, and I don't know if I'll be able to handle not seeing her for so long. They are leaving my present country in a few days and I want to see her for at least a few minutes. I want to tell her to not listen to her parents but I feel that it is wrong to tell someone to rebel in my own interest. Any help please ? I really don't know how to handle this.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I haven't seen my long-distance girlfriend in 3 years even though we are in the same city right now. Her parents are too strict and she never stands up for what she wants. Should I tell her to rebel against them ? | I haven't seen my long-distance girlfriend in 3 years even though we are in the same city right now. Her parents are too strict and she never stands up for what she wants. Should I tell her to rebel against them ? | 3,237 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20F] am invited to Thanksgiving dinner after my parents disowned me over a year ago.
POST: This is a terribly long story, so I'll try to shorten it and will add follow-up information if needed.
To start, my parents disowned me at 18 due to religious reasons and the fact that they didn't like my boyfriend (this is the part of the story I'm shortening). They told me to go pack my things, neither me or my boyfriend were ever allowed there, and that I wouldn't be able to talk to my younger siblings until they were 18. At the time my sister was 16 and little brother was 13.
I have since seen my younger siblings a few times, but only while my older sister and/or mother was there. I've emailed my mother a few times and though things aren't peachy, they are certainly better than they once were. If it weren't for my siblings though, I wouldn't speak to her at all.
Her and (more so) my father have been emotionally and verbally abuse to me and the rest of my siblings for as long as I can remember. I no longer have a desire to fix the relationship I have with them, because I have tried many times and it's at the point where I have to stop subjecting myself to the hurt they spread.
I got an email from my mother yesterday asking if I wanted to come to Thanksgiving dinner and I have no idea if I should go. I want to go for my younger siblings, because I love them and love when I do get to see them. However, I don't want my parents to think they are allowed to pretend like nothing has happened and that they've been good parents (they still refuse that they've ever been anything but good parents or see how they've done anything wrong). I also don't want to give them the wrong idea that there's a salvageable relationship between us.
Should I go? Any and all advice would be appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My parents who disowned me want me to come to Thanksgiving dinner. Not sure if I should go or not. | My parents who disowned me want me to come to Thanksgiving dinner. Not sure if I should go or not. | 1,051 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What are your experiences with breaking up with an SO you still loved because you thought it was best for them?
POST: I met my girlfriend during the first day of high school around this time four years ago. We became best friends and eventually started dating. We've been a couple for a little bit more than a year now.
I'm a really shy guy. I don't have a really outgoing personality and I can enjoy my time alone. My girlfriend is very outgoing and she's already gone to a ton of parties and she's only been in college for 2 weeks. She plans on joining a sorority and everything.
Over the course of her first two weeks in college, she's told me that she's turned away 3 guys already and has gotten drunk several times. But last night, she told that she accidentally kissed a guy while she was drunk on Sunday night.
I try not to think too much about it since she said it was an accident, but the thought that I'm not the best for her keeps coming to mind. She has guys coming to her and she's always out and about while I don't really like crowds or flirt much. I've been thinking that maybe I'm holding her back from finding someone that's more like her and has more in common with her. I still love her, but maybe I'm not the best guy for her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I guess what I'm looking for in this thread are experiences and advice from anyone who broke up with someone they still loved because they wanted what they think is best for their now ex. | I guess what I'm looking for in this thread are experiences and advice from anyone who broke up with someone they still loved because they wanted what they think is best for their now ex. | 3,549 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[26/F] on day 5 of break up. What day are you on and how are you doing today?
POST: My boyfriend and I broke up 5 days ago, as the title says. We had a rough relationship and as much as I wanted to make things better he wanted to stay who he is which caused a road block.
Yesterday I text him 4 times, he text me back by the 4th text. It made me happy so I showed him how happy it made me, he didn't seem to understand. He was still very confused as to why i was being so silly even after telling him I was acting happy because talking to him made me happy.
Before going to bed last night I emailed him about the dreams ive been having and somehow that broke down part of his wall but he wont talk to me about what hes going through. It may have broken down his emotional wall but it didnt break down his "I dont want to open up" wall. You would think that someone who went through 4 years of therapy treatment would be able either talk this out or properly manipulate the situation, he instead shuts down even though im right here, with open arms, wanting to help him through OUR break up. Sadly no one else can help him through it because his friends aren't those type of people.
Either way my day is a little bit crappier than yesterday but a bit happier because he did something hes never done before and that was text me back after breaking up.
I wrote this to sort of break the ice a bit. Im a bit tired of talking about my breakup, I want to hear about someone elses.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | asking people how they are doing during their breaking, wrote a little essay about my break up to hopefully help some people open up | asking people how they are doing during their breaking, wrote a little essay about my break up to hopefully help some people open up | 920 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M27] have been seeing my girlfriend [F32] for four months. Did some snooping on her phone and found questionable messages... Help please?
POST: My girlfriend has a lot of guy friends, some of whom she has had sex with, others she hasn't. There is a guy friend in particular she always speaks fondly of... I'll call him Chris. She has assured me before that he has never slept with him, that they are simply good friends.
Today I committed a no-no and decided to snoop on her phone. I've told her previously that I would never look through her phone, but I had a funny feeling and chose to break my promise.
A few days ago I had told her that I may be working out of town for the weekend. Apparently she texted Chris and told him that I would be leaving town for the weekend, and he should come over one of those nights and "watch a movie or just hang out, lol."
One thing to note is that I've never actually met this dude. She is just constantly texting him.
I'm sitting here, confused.I've always trusted her, and I don't want to jump the gun and assume the worst. It could be that she wanted to hang out with him just as friends, and knew that the best opportunity would be while I'm busy out of town... But it seems incredibly shady.
Any advice? For me to confront her would be admittance of me snooping through her text messages. I understand that she's friends with him, but how crazy would it be for me to text a female friend and ask her to come over some night when my girlfriend is out or town? I would never do that.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I broke a promise and snooped through my girlfriend's phone... She tells a male friend to come over some night while I'm out of town | I broke a promise and snooped through my girlfriend's phone... She tells a male friend to come over some night while I'm out of town | 2,455 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Going on a date but my friend just managed to put me off! (22F, 20M)
POST: I got chatting with this guy in a bar about a week ago and he asked for my number. He seemed really nice and knows a few of my friends, so I agreed to go for a drink with him soon.
I just told my friend that I'm meeting up with him tomorrow and she laughed and mentioned that he was being quite clingy while I was chatting to a (male) acquaintance outside the bar; apparently he said that there "wasn't much point in him being there" (presumably he thought I was 'interested' in the acquaintance).
We've been texting and he seems really genuine and nice...I was looking forward to seeing him until my friend said that, but now I feel all weird and put off! I don't know how to stop feeling awkward about it.
Any advice on how to forget about my friend's input would be great; as much as I love her, I wish she hadn't said it! I never go on dates (since I got out of a six year relationship a year ago) and I don't want to end up with a bad experience because I went into it with a weird mindset.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Going out with a guy tomorrow but my friend just said something to put me off him. How do I forget about what she said? | Going out with a guy tomorrow but my friend just said something to put me off him. How do I forget about what she said? | 2,956 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by winning the raffle.
POST: This happened back in Highschool. Grade 10, to be exact; I'm Canadian, so that should be 16? Anyways, I was in PhysEd when our gym teacher gave us raffle tickets and told us to sell them.
Well, I procrastinated hard, to the point that I didn't try selling anything in the two weeks, until just the night before. I started freaking out, and after managing to sell half my lot, I said "Screw it, I tried." Well, just before giving the remaining tickets, and money to the teacher, I got nervous, so I bought three more tickets. ($2 a pop)
The next day is the day of the Highschool basketball game. I don't care for it, so I head home. I come back the next day and all my classmates are giving me dead pan stares. The teacher stares through my soul and in the most serious voice, he asks, "Where were you yesterday?" I'm confused, and told him the truth.
I find out that of the three prizes, I won two. The first being courtside seats on a freaking couch they pushed into the gym, as well as a private box of pizza and sodas for myself and one friend. Second prize was an authentic, Vince Carter signed basketball.
I lost the couch prize, but the teacher saved the ball for me. The entire class was pissed, and the teacher just exclaims, "You're fucking lucky as hell, you know that?" (He was a chill dude)
I was leaving the school, and was about to tear apart the packaging to play with the basketball, when the same teacher and a few others exclaimed and ran to me. They started having a betting war right in front of me. The price went as high as $100.
I declined the offers, and just took the ball home and showed my parents. They offered to keep it stored.
I didn't want to, I know Vince Carter would have wanted me to play with it, but when everyone makes a big deal about it, what can you do as a kid? I'll take a picture of the ball when I can, it's still with my parents. I've moved out when I married.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I cheated and ended up winning the majority of the prizes, getting pretty much everyone mad at me. I now have a sweet basketball. | I cheated and ended up winning the majority of the prizes, getting pretty much everyone mad at me. I now have a sweet basketball. | 1,894 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Need advice regarding 2 vehicle accidents.
POST: Hey reddit,
Ill get right to the point. 5 weeks ago i was involved in an accident where a state trooper rear ended me. It took a very long time to deal with their insurance but my vehicle was drivable (rear bumper and trunk pushed in) ive received a check from them and had an appointment to fix my vehicle this thursday 07/02/15. Fast forward to Monday 06/29/15.... I was rear ended again. This accident pushed my rear bumper and trunk in more, possibly sustained more damage. I just dropped it off at repair facilty. What happens next? Does the insurance from car accident #2 cover all of the damages? What do I do with the check received from car accident #1? Thanks again for all your help reddit!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Got rear ended twice. Did not fix the first accident in time. Now have check for 1st accident and vehicle at repair facility for the 2nd accident. What do I do? | Got rear ended twice. Did not fix the first accident in time. Now have check for 1st accident and vehicle at repair facility for the 2nd accident. What do I do? | 1,731 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: College and Mortgaging a Home
POST: Hello everyone,
I'm currently a 19-year-old college student and I'm finishing up my Associate's degree at a local community college in New York. Because this is a college within the SUNY system, my credits transfer almost perfectly to any of the other institutions within it, which is what I plan on doing.
The only problem is, campus housing is incredibly expensive. The university I was looking at has relatively inexpensive tuition ($10k/year) but housing will be appx. $1,000/month plus $500/month for the university's mandatory meal plan.
I have a brief credit history (720, ~6 months) but don't plan on moving for about 10 months or so. Mortgages near the university run about $350-$400 a month for smaller, 2 bedroom homes. Obviously, I'd need to pay for insurance, food, electricity, internet, and save money for repairs, but would it be wise or even possible to do this at my age and with my credit history?
I'd rather buy than rent, since it would feel much less like throwing money away, and I plan on staying in the area indefinitely even after I've earned a Bachelor's or Master's degree.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 19-year-old college student, short credit history, can I mortgage an inexpensive home rather than rent on-campus? | 19-year-old college student, short credit history, can I mortgage an inexpensive home rather than rent on-campus? | 5,926 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (29m) think I need to go NC from friend (22f) need advice
POST: Okay so my friend and I have hung out once in the last few months since I moved back to my hometown.
My friend of 4 years is constantly on a carousel of people in her life helping her out and then wearing out her welcome, to move on to more friends or family that "stick by her no matter what". She has been kicked out of her parents house three times I know of. Her friends always seem to take her in after she "changes her ways", only to allow more drama and her to move around amongst them, only to return home and start the cycle again.
My wife and I (22f) both feel sorry for her as she suffered a violent sexual assault in 2012 and has a history of substance abuse. She is seeing a counselor and getting professional help. Still during the holidays I have got a sudden burst of text messages from her and I suspect she is looking for a fresh crutch. We are broke as hell and I am very reluctant to even offer her shelter because I have seen her go to friends and family alike after every single helping hand and bitch non-stop about how bad of people they are.
The last time I heard from her prior to Christmas was end of November where she wanted me to go to her house and move her out late at night (she said landlord was harassing her, but she hinted that she was about to dodge the rent/lease- a detail she was not forward with.)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | feeling sorry for someone but feeling like they are a perpetual victim looking for a new friend to take advantage of. No contact too harsh or just what I need? | feeling sorry for someone but feeling like they are a perpetual victim looking for a new friend to take advantage of. No contact too harsh or just what I need? | 5,284 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: Three weeks on from first breakup(24m)
POST: I've posted before about what happened in the relationship. We both screwed up, probably because it was both our first relationship. I'm realizing more and more that WE screwed up though, not just me. We couldn't communicate effectively. I was afraid of commitment, and she didn't attempt to understand that or ask about it. I never even got out the words "I love you". And I did, just I never could say it.
I hadn't grown up enough for her, I think. I still live at home and use a family car. She had moved out and had just purchased her first car. No questions were asked about our future, no plans for it made outright. And we never really talked about it.
I think we could have a future together if we could have gone into this better. If we had a more typical beginning, instead of being forced together through friends. If we had both had a little more experience at managing a relationship. If we had talked more about what was wrong. I hope that we can try again in the future, after we've both had space and been able to move on.
Thanksgiving was hard without her. It felt like someone was missing. My family has been great throughout, and so have my friends. My support network has really helped me through the worst parts.
I've learned a lot from this relationship. It's caused me to be much more introspective than I usually am. I just bought my first real car. I've been concentrating in my classes much more. I've reigned back on the video game habit. I've started hanging out with my wonderful friends more. I'm going to the gym again.
This breakup is helping me become a better, more mature person. I'm thankful for that. And thankful for the times we had together.
Thanks for reading, Just needed to write down some thoughts.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Introspective, trying to mature as a person. Bought a car, best retail therapy ever. It gets better, slowly but surely. | Introspective, trying to mature as a person. Bought a car, best retail therapy ever. It gets better, slowly but surely. | 3,076 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20M] with my two [30ish F] friends. Unsure how to feel after incident
POST: Just wanted to know if what I'm feeling is right. Basically there are two women I'll call one Cara and the other Steph. I arranged to have a dinner with Steph (she is an awesome cook), Cara was the driving force since they haven't seen each other in a while. This was 2 weeks ago. A few other people were invited, Cara asked Steph to make her favorite dish.
Day of the dinner, Cara doesn't show. We were hanging out earlier but needed to do other things so we went our separate ways (3 hrs before the dinner). She didn't answer any calls or texts. Steph was upset but she said it was fine (probably isn't but I'm talking her through it).
I was worried and called and next day (it was close to 24hrs since I last heard from her) and her friend picked up saying they're out bike riding. He puts Cara on the phone and she said she was sick and she currently doesn't have her phone on her.
I've talked with Steph and Cara hasn't called or texted, nothing. I'm a bit upset. I honestly didn't think Cara would act this way, and frankly I'm disappointed. We hang out more often than Steph due to distance, but now I feel like she is just being rude. Cara is feeling a bit of tension from me since I've barely responded to her or talked to her (I help her with business for free when I have free time).
Should I tell Cara my opinions?
- That I think it was quite rude to stand people up
- Not contact anyone involved at the dinner for over 22hrs (only being reached by someone contacting her) causing us to worry
- Being "sick" with no phone but still well enough to go out? (I call bull but purely speculation)
- And finally not even contacting Steph after missing a dinner planned for her
Or am I wrong since it's her life (she and her friend sounded annoyed/tense? when I called)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | One friend doesn't show to a dinner after she was the one suggesting it, sketchy reason given after no one hears from her for 20+ hrs, and no apology to the friend/cook who was asked to host | One friend doesn't show to a dinner after she was the one suggesting it, sketchy reason given after no one hears from her for 20+ hrs, and no apology to the friend/cook who was asked to host | 5,179 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: He [22] ended it before it started. I [20F] want to show him it could work.
POST: Hi guys. Need help here. I am an exchange student, and teaching my native tongue to a guy who was considering going for a year abroad in my uni. We...started dating. (This was not even two months ago.) We have wonderful chemistry, he makes me laugh and really started opening up to me.
Two weeks ago, he started considering other options for his year abroad. Not leaving, for instance. Or another place. And he told me-a few days ago- that he doesn't want to feel pressured to go to my uni because of me. That he had a girlfriend last year who was also an exchange student and that he had made serious plans to follow her, but they ended it and he changed everything at the last minute. He told me "better now than later, trust me"; "the less I see you, the better".
So, basically, I'm sorry he was hurt. But I really think this could work, and that we could be happy even if only for a while -and I'm trying to work up the courage to tell him, but I need advice : is this even a good idea? Any chance this could work? How can I word it?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | scared shitless at fighting for a guy I barely know who is trying to not get hurt by avoiding a relationship with a necessary expiry date. | scared shitless at fighting for a guy I barely know who is trying to not get hurt by avoiding a relationship with a necessary expiry date. | 865 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend [M26] and I [F24] are about to be long-distance and I'm scared of our future.
POST: So I have been dating my current boyfriend for a year and a half and we are about to be long distance (3 hours away) starting mid-july. The basic plan is to be long distance until he graduates with his PhD sometime next year (probably in May). Now, I currently have a job back home and won't be making much (27k) and will be living with my parents. I have a MA degree, but I am currently trying to enter a field unrelated to that degree. Now, onee my boyfriend graduates, he said he would most likely want to get a job in St. Louis or Kansas City (a different state than I'm from). Now, I told him I'm fine with moving wherever he gets a job, but he told me yesterday he didn't plan on being engaged until after we lived together. Now, to me, that's super scary to move to a new city where I may have trouble finding a job and then not even being engaged. He also mentioned he is not worried about me finding a job and we'd figure out finances since he will most likely be making enough to cover both of us and he could "loan" me the money in the meantime. Now, I'm not sure what that means.
I guess, this is a year from now, but I'm freaking out a bit about the idea of moving to a new state, not engaged, not being able to find a job in my field easily (I'll have a year experience in it at that point but again, the unrelated degree). Do you have any advice? He mentioned that he's serious about us and sees a future with us but also that he is scared to think about committing his whole life with marriage right now.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Dating for a year and a half now, about to be long-distance for a year, freaking out about our future if we end up moving to a new state after he gets a job. Any advice? | Dating for a year and a half now, about to be long-distance for a year, freaking out about our future if we end up moving to a new state after he gets a job. Any advice? | 4,469 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: I like this girl.
POST: So in high school I asked a girl out. She turned me down. I still crushed on her for a while but eventually I graduated and went to college. I thought I wouldn't see her again so I gave up. She was different than previous crushes I've had because we still talk on Facebook from time to time.
Fast forward 4 years, I'm starting my third year at college and she just graduated high school and came to the same college as me. It's an art school so we are both doing some form of art. We like a lot of the same stuff. I'm crushing on her again but even more so than in high school.
Her and her friend sat down with me and my friend the other day in the lounge while waiting for our next classes. We talked for a while. We talked about a bunch of stuff from video games to what she planned on doing when she graduates. from what I can tell, she is not interested in me at all though because I'm unattractive and she is very attractive. I don't know what to do. I am going to ask for her number when I talk to her next week but I don't want to make things awkward. She probably already knows I like her which could be awkward enough. What should I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I really like a girl who turned me down years ago. She now goes to the same college as me. We talk but she doesn't seem interested in me | I really like a girl who turned me down years ago. She now goes to the same college as me. We talk but she doesn't seem interested in me | 2,400 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [20m/22f] How often does the "s/he loves you but doesn't know it" scenario actually happen?
POST: Hello all!
The background:
I (22f) have been dating a special someone (20m) for about a month now. Everything is going really well and we make each other very happy-- of course, we're probably still in the honeymoon phase! We haven't spent a night apart since we started dating and one could argue that we spend too much time together (a question for another time!) We've could be moving too fast, but everything feels good and natural so we're throwing caution to the wind and just going with it.
The situation:
I tend to talk a lot in my sleep and as I hover on the half-asleep edge of consciousness. Apparently for the last week I've been telling him that I love him, which I don't remember doing. I doubt this is a reflex or instinctual thing from previous relationships since I call him out by name and I haven't said (or even wanted to say) "I love you" to anyone in years, and I've been in other relationships since then. This is also the first time I've ever said it in my [half-]sleep, to my knowledge.
I've heard somewhere that the subconscious doesn't tell lies, so is this a case of "I love him but I don't know it?" Personally I find the notion a little silly, but I wont rule it out. I definitely like him a lot, but being in love after four weeks? That's silly too.
Disclaimer: I'm not stressing about this-- whenever it happens, it happens. I'm just curious about the whole thing, and I'd be interested to see what others think about it! Thanks for your thoughts!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I say "I love you" to my boyfriend in my sleep. Is the "s/he loves you but doesn't know it" scenario a thing that actually happens in real life? | I say "I love you" to my boyfriend in my sleep. Is the "s/he loves you but doesn't know it" scenario a thing that actually happens in real life? | 1,870 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend (26) moving in with me (20f) for convenience?
POST: My boyfriend and I have known each other for almost 2 years now, been dating for almost 3 months of that time.
His truck just broke down and he can't afford a new one, so he's been bicycling to his current job. He was just offered a better job that is only a couple miles from my place, but way too far for him to bike to from his house (25-30 miles).
I told him he could just crash at my place to get to his new job, but he said he might as well just live with me full time because it made no sense to pay rent at his place and only be there a couple days a week. I totally agree with that. He also said he didn't want to invade my personal space or be a nuissance and would only move in if I was 100% sure about it.
I'd love to be able to spend more time with him that living together would allow because right now we both work 60 hour weeks and it's hard to find time to do anything but fall asleep together watching a movie. And I do see myself with him in the long run, although I wouldn't say I love him yet.
My concern is that it's too much, too soon. I don't want to ruin the mystery, get too comfortable, wear each other out, or rush things in any way that could put a damper on the relationship.
Anybody have advice or personal stories about living with an SO? Too soon or otherwise.
I should mention that we're having a sit down talk about it tomorrow, I just really need to discuss it a little beforehand to get my thoughts straight.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend (26) and I (20f) have known each other for 2 years, been together for 3 months. Is it a terrible idea to move in together in order for him to take a better job? | Boyfriend (26) and I (20f) have known each other for 2 years, been together for 3 months. Is it a terrible idea to move in together in order for him to take a better job? | 3,347 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (28/m) like this girl (18/f) that I work with but my life isn't really in order....
POST: I've been working with this girl for 6 months now and we get along great. We don't talk or hang out outside of work, but I really enjoy spending time with her.
It is only recently that I have started thinking about her as more than a friend and I would like to get to know her more outside of work and such, but there are some issues I am worried about.
As I said, my life is not exactly in order. I got out of a relationship a year ago and at the end I had no car, lost my savings, and am now living with her step-dad(paying rent though) so that may not be such a great thing. But I have a vehicle now too at least but its not that great.
The age thing is weird. I mean, my parents met at 18 and 28, so it happens, but it is something to consider. Her level of maturity, life experience, etc.
That being said though, as of now I wouldn't be expecting a huge thing from it such as us building a life together, getting, married, etc.
No, I was just thinking of it as someone to get to know, go out with, and see what happens. Especially since I've only had one seriously girlfriend in my life.
I have no idea if I would be her type or how she feels at all. I'm not in the best shape but I wouldn't say I am ugly. Who knows what her opinion is.
So am I worried about rejection? No I cant say that is what I'm worried about. I could handle that, but I wouldn't want to ruin what we do have as co-workers/friends. I wouldn't change how I treat her if she said no, but I don't know about her.
Basically I don't know how to go about it or if it's worth it at all. Ive never had to deal with this before lol. My last and only relationship was one that lasted 7 years and just kinda happened.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Crushing on a co-worker but my life isn't exactly going that great so not sure if it is worth asking her out. | Crushing on a co-worker but my life isn't exactly going that great so not sure if it is worth asking her out. | 1,503 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend (20M) is by definition, a pothead. I (20f) am not. Am I overreacting?
POST: We have been dating for 8 months. We have a pretty good relationship. No real arguments until now.
Lets start out by saying im not against pot. I do not know why im having such an issue with this so bare with me kind of long explanation.
My boyfriend, about a month ago crashed my car. He wasnt high, I was with him. So we decided to pay for a new car together and call it ours. I was fine with that. I told him all I care about is him not having weed in the car or drive high. The reason id because the car is under my nsme. He agreed. Everytime he takes the car I remind him not to have weed in the car. Keep in mind, we've had the car less than a week now.
Now he keeps getting mad I keep reminding him. I told him why I keep reminding him . A while ago I asked him not to smoke one day because for 2 whole weeks whenever I saw him, he would be high. He was incredibly high when I saw him. To me that was him choosing weed over me. I had explained to him why I asked him that and explained why I was upset.
Now I do not know if I am being over bearing. But most times I do not see him rejecting a high. Ive had to wait for him for about an hour while he got high with his friends after work even though we can only see eachother after work. He has 2 jobs. I have a fulltime job and go to school. To me thats choosing weed but he doesnt think so. Now he gets mad because according to him im jumping to conclusions because of one mistake.
So I need to know, am I being irrational? Tell me the honest harsh truth.
Sorry I typed this on my phone.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I think boyfriend chooses weed over me. He gets mad because keep telling him not to smoke in the car, he gets mad. We cannot see eye to eye. Am I overacting or is playing victim? | I think boyfriend chooses weed over me. He gets mad because keep telling him not to smoke in the car, he gets mad. We cannot see eye to eye. Am I overacting or is playing victim? | 3,196 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: My dog has swollen salivary glands. Anyone have any experience with this?
POST: Noticed around noon that my greyhound had two tiny lumps within her mouth, and by 2pm they had swollen up to about the size of a golf ball. We took her to the emergency vet since our regular one was booked for the day, and they told us basically just to keep her on the Rimadyl and Tramadol she was already on and there was nothing they could do without surgery.
I'm a little concerned; they said she'd be fine until we were able to take her the our normal vet on Monday, but the medicine doesn't seem to be doing anything and her mouth is just as swollen as it was before. The vet seemed very rushed and mostly just looked at her bloodwork and that was it. Is there a way they could drain some of the fluid to make her more comfortable? She can't eat because it's so swollen and I'm afraid it's going to make it hard for her to drink as well.
I just feel really unsatisfied with the way that the emergency vet handled this and I'm looking for advice. Does anyone know how much this surgery tends to cost/other treatments? She's really old and I'd love to avoid major surgery if at all possible.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Dog has golf ball sized mass under tongue. Vet said to wait until Monday, but I'm still worried. Looking for advice. | Dog has golf ball sized mass under tongue. Vet said to wait until Monday, but I'm still worried. Looking for advice. | 2,280 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How necessary is a bachelor's degree?
POST: I'm a 18yo girl with good grades. (4.3 GAP on a 4.0 scale, 30 on my ACT) I love Spanish and all my language/ grammar classes, but I'm not interested in teaching. I hate seeing so many people get degrees in something they never use. I'm considering moving out and going to a community college for free, saving what money I can and trying to find a practical job with an associate's degree instead of continuing on to a 4yr university.
Is this a good game-plan? Traveling and being bilingual are my two biggest interests, but I think that a job such as a physical therapists assistant would be a good option simply because the job market is high and it requires little college.
I should mention that I have a job and am willing to continue working a lot, however my family has very little money, and I don't want debt from student loans. Any advice or comments would be appreciated!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | good student, want to travel, is a 4yr degree necessary or would it be better to just get an associate's degree and save up money? | good student, want to travel, is a 4yr degree necessary or would it be better to just get an associate's degree and save up money? | 3,655 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend (21M) doesnt want to come to my(22F) grandma's funeral
POST: I am on my phone so sorry about the formatting.
My grandmother was told earlier this year that she had stage four kidney failure, she was expected to last till later on in the year but her health declined very suddenly and she died last sunday. During the time she was sick I asked my boyfriend of just over a year if when she died he would come to the funeral with me, he said he would. I asked him two more times, once on the day she died and once a couple of days ago, and he said he would every time so I asked my parents yesterday if he could come as they were booking a house to stay in over the time of the funeral.
Earlier this morning he messaged me that he doesnt want to go anymore because he feels it will be awkward as he hasnt met most of my family and he doesnt want to sit around for a couple of days (the funeral is being held in her home town five hours away from where we live) with people he barely knows. I feel really upset that he waited till yesterday to tell me he didnt want to go after we had already discussed it a few times, I kinda want him to just tough it out and go regardless but now he has told me he doesnt want to I dont want to drag him to a small town a hours away for the weekend.
Am I justified in being upset with him? Or am I overreacting and should just let him not go?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | boyfriend said he would go to my grandma's funeral multiple times but thought it through more and decided it would be too awkward and doesnt want to go anymore. | boyfriend said he would go to my grandma's funeral multiple times but thought it through more and decided it would be too awkward and doesnt want to go anymore. | 2,217 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend [25/m] slept over my house for or anniversary and it went bad.
POST: Not that our relationship went bad. But my boyfriend moved back home because rent went up to 800 a month to which he couldn't afford with school, car payments, and a job unwilling to give him a raise. He slept over my house for our anniversary and when I took him home he asked me to stay and watch an episode of breaking bad with him - his mother came in and started calling him disrespectful and immature for not calling her throughout the day to tell her where he was or what he was doing. I asked him why he didn't tell her you were sleeping over if that's what it took to get her off his ass - his reply was that she wouldn't let him go because she doesn't believe in people sleeping together unless they're married.
What do I do with someone who has traditional parents? I don't want to let that affect us or anything.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | boyfriend's mom flipped on him for sleeping over, he's 25, she called him immature. what do I do? I don't want it to affect us. | boyfriend's mom flipped on him for sleeping over, he's 25, she called him immature. what do I do? I don't want it to affect us. | 3,410 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by enjoying Legend of Zelda music and Clock Town.
POST: This is pretty minor, but it nearly gave me a (not literally) heart attack, so I think it's worth posting here.
I like Zelda games. A lot. I finished Majora's Mask 3D last week, and today during school I was in the mood for some Majora, but, you know, school. So I decided to listen to the soundtrack by searching first for the Clock Town theme.
I have a crappy phone, so the touchscreen isn't very accurate most of the time. I typed in "Clock" but somehow resulted in me missing the "l" and typing "Cock" instead. I rolled my eyes in frustration, tried to hit the backspace, but what do you know, I hit search.
I thought at the time that I was using my school's free wifi (Which you have to sign up for using your school account that is given to you, and is monitored) so I completely freaked out and gasped really loudly, basically everyone in the room stared at me for a few seconds. I knew I was screwed at this point, there would have been no way out of facing that punishment. How do you explain to the AP why you were searching "cock" in the middle of the school day? You can't.
But, thank you, hindsight. I had turned off my wifi and switched to my network just a minute before. So, luckily, I don't have to explain why I was searching for the slang term for male reproductive organs in the middle of school. Still, people probably now think that I have some kind of hypersensitivity to my phone...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Accidentally searched "cock" instead of "clock town" while I thought I was using the school's monitored wifi, had a freak out in the middle of class and everyone looked at me weird. | Accidentally searched "cock" instead of "clock town" while I thought I was using the school's monitored wifi, had a freak out in the middle of class and everyone looked at me weird. | 4,748 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [31F] with my husband [39M] together 11 years. He used to have sex with me while I was sleeping and I can't get over it.
POST: My husband (39m) and I (31f) have been together since I was a young adult and we have three kids. For a while, in addition to any other issues I might have had with him, he would only want to have sex with me after I had already been asleep. I would wake up to him fingering me or even as he was starting to penetrate me. Each time this happened I would tell him it made me feel terrible and please don't do it again. But he would still do it. His excuse was that he didn't know I was asleep and he thought I was into it.
There are some other issues aside from this, but generally he is a kind, supportive, encouraging person. He wants me to be happy. He never talks to be in a bad or mean way. Lately he's finally stopped doing the sex while I'm sleeping, but I realize I'm not really attracted to him anymore. In fact, when he kisses or touches me I'm almost repulsed. I feel horrible because he tells me how much he loves me and how good sex feels, I'm honestly not sure I love him anymore.
Anyway, I guess my question to you guys is--Do you think I'm being ridiculous in letting this get to me as much as it has? I know we should do counseling, but we just can't afford the copay for each session right now. Is there anything I can do to get over this while we're waiting to go to counseling?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Husband used to have sex with me while I was asleep, now doesn't. How do I get over it and make the marriage good again? | Husband used to have sex with me while I was asleep, now doesn't. How do I get over it and make the marriage good again? | 2,421 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what's the WORST thing that's happened to your brother or sister (if you're an only child, neighbor or something)?
POST: I'll start. It happened many years ago, on a cruise ship. I was around 8 or 9, and I was just testing out my new independent powers - my parents let my brother and I roam the entire ship, as long as we were with my slightly older (12-14) cousins. We whoooped and hollered through the decks, pressing elevator buttons, just being little obnoxious tween kids. On an elevator ride up, there's something missing that tugs at my mind.... Suddenly, I realize my brother disappeared completely. We had never bothered to do a head-count; we were too ignorant and foolish. So for over 4 hours, my cousins and I split up, shouting his name for the entire ship to listen to. The captain even made an announcement over the PA and did personal rounds himself, looking for my lost brother. He couldn't have been older than 6. By now, we're all hyperventilating, I'm so scared I crapped my pants, and we're exhausted from sprinting down endless hallways. Finally, he shows up - ice cream in hand, and in the care of an elderly couple that found him wandering. By now, it's well past 6 hours. He had been wandering, and the elderly couple saw him and took him with him because he "looked lonely." I was happy, but from that day on (and still today) I can't go out without telling my mommy and daddy first.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | brother lost in cruise ship, whole ship went to find him, he's safe and sound with elderly couple. Agh. | brother lost in cruise ship, whole ship went to find him, he's safe and sound with elderly couple. Agh. | 1,311 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My cat was stolen yesterday. Is there anything I can I do to get her back?
POST: Ok Reddit, here's my sketchy story. I've been living in the same apartment for almost three years with the same asshole downstairs neighbors(mother and daughter in 60s and 30s). A little over a year ago, a stray cat started coming around our building, we knew right away she wasn't ferrel because of how friendly she was. My roommate and I have grown to LOVE this cat. We, along with my downstairs and other neighbors, kept her fed. My roommate and I would sometimes let her in on cold nights, and it was always our deck she chose to sleep on when she was outside. We had food and water bowls, toys, etc. We would have kept her inside however she always wanted out after a while and she also had fleas and ear mites. Anyway, TWO days ago my roommate was approached and informed by downstairs that they were calling a "friends for felines"(?) place that would take her and have her treated and brought back when they were done. I thought, "oh how nice, now we can let her sleep inside!"...a day later(yesterday), we were again approached by downstairs saying that "last night a woman from a few buildings over came up to me looking for her cat"...yeah. So, with that being said, as far as I know this random woman(who claims it's her cat) picked the cat up and is taking her to Petco tomorrow to be adopted. Am I the only one who finds something wrong with this story? This woman lives not even a 2 minute walk away, hasn't even been worried/looking for her cat for over a YEAR, but now wants it back, just so she could have it adopted at Petco? I'm at a loss.. I'm so heartbroken and don't have the money to pay for adoption fees and vet bills. Help reddit!! What can I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I've fed an outside cat for over a year, fell in love with her, and yesterday somebody claiming to be the owner took her away and is bringing her to Petco tomorrow to put her up for adoption. | I've fed an outside cat for over a year, fell in love with her, and yesterday somebody claiming to be the owner took her away and is bringing her to Petco tomorrow to put her up for adoption. | 5,863 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Help! I think I really messed up
POST: I am going to begin with sorry for grammical errors and spelling. I am a 19 year old female and was currently in this 2 year relationship with 20 year old male. We really had the best relationship in the beginning and it was so much fun, then I started having really big issues with family. Right after I turned 18 years old my parents stopped doing everything, so this kid knowing me maybe 3months really started helping me a lot with rides to work, school, ect. But after 2 months got really annoyed with it even if I offered money he still thought of me as a nusense. So finally I just quit my job, well my parents got pissed about that too. So I would say maybe about four months and they kicked me out of the house, so my boyfriend's family took me in. I got a job and worked about 70 hours a week and my boyfriend would get upset that he wouldn't see me. So I would try and make time for him anyway I could and ask him to go on dates. The issue there is he would get embarrised because he had no money, he didn't work and I would accidentally bring it up. He started to really hate me for this. Finally he kicked me out so I lived with my sister in another state, he started to miss me and would drive up to see me. So I finally moved back, then around 3 months same issue came up and I came home to find all my stuff packed up. So I moved back with my parents but still saw him every week. Then we came into some issues with one of his friends (this kid always needs attention and does anything to get it). He was saying a lot of stuff about me, which got back to me and I assumed my boyfriend said it. I lost it and wrote a mean Facebook status (I know ,childish). The status said " I can't wait to have a boyfriend who doesn't constantly treat me like shit with a job". This really hurt the kids feelings and now won't even talk to me, even though I'm very sorry about it. I just don't know what to do, I need some advice.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Had a boyfriend, I had some family issues. He let me live with him got kicked out twice. Had issues financially , wrote a mean status and now he won't talk to mean | Had a boyfriend, I had some family issues. He let me live with him got kicked out twice. Had issues financially , wrote a mean status and now he won't talk to mean | 66 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [29f] left my SO [28f] and feel like a terrible human being
POST: I'll try to keep this short. I was together with her for 6 years. It was a really shitty 6 years for me. She has A LOT of psychological issues. Was unemployed, can't show love, hates to cuddle... this list goes on. Basically, I gave her everything and she improved a lot, now she is in therapy, has a job and doesn't completely freak out when someone touches her. I feel we made real progress and we both grew as humans through this relationship.
However, I am moving for a job out of the country. and I know this relationship will not work out being so far apart. She is not that far to keep a relationship healthy on that distance. i don't hold it against her, I really do not. Also I tend to get really really jealous (ramains as my previous guy cheated on me and she did in the first year but never since, I am not proud of it). I am just convinced that it will not work out and when I spoke to her, she agreed. So we broke off and decided to stay good friends, since I am also her main source of trust. Now we have this awkward relationship where we discuss really really intimate things and I know she feels terrible although she plays fine (I learned to read her subtext). And I feel horrible like I left her alone and I also still love her. To make everything worse a good friend is hitting on me and thinks now is his chance. I'm sexually frustrated because I have not had sex in years (due to her condition) but I am still emotionally attached to my last SO. On top of moving, getting to the new job, finishing my degree and stuff, I kind of lost track on everything. Help?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Had a SO with psychological issues. Worked on it together. Left her because I am moving and it is draining me. Feel like I failed her. I am a horrible friend and wife. | Had a SO with psychological issues. Worked on it together. Left her because I am moving and it is draining me. Feel like I failed her. I am a horrible friend and wife. | 3,833 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, I've never job hunted for anything besides a teaching position--any suggestions?
POST: I've taught for two years (in two different schools) as an English teacher. Both times I've had to leave because of budget cuts, but left with excellent recommendations. This last summer I foolishly only applied to private schools for a change, and now it's October and I'm essentially unemployed.
I have a few part time jobs that help pay the bills, but I want a big boy job. I've never job hunted aside from teaching jobs, and I have no idea if my degree will help me get a job anywhere else. I would be eternally grateful for suggestions of what kind of positions I could look into or where to find them.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | What jobs can I apply for that an English Teaching degree and a skill set from two years of teaching experience can get me? | What jobs can I apply for that an English Teaching degree and a skill set from two years of teaching experience can get me? | 1,953 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I am a 22 year old male taking 3 different psych meds for different things. can someone give me some wisdom and strength? I feel I could use some help.
POST: MY STORY- I have been battling with psychological problems for 4 years now and, though the problems have been getting less and less problematic, i am still burdened with the prescriptions that i take. I take DEPAKOTE RISPERDAL and was recently prescribed CELEXA. Reasoning behind it was the psychotic episode I had during my stressful senior year. (With SATs and an unplanned pregnancy scare and college applications) making my first prescription Risperdal. 3 years with minimal psychotic behavior, on and off risperdal, gaining and losing weight... I didn't feel 100% psychologically stable like ever... Then I had a trip to an inpatient facility because i smoked weed, which i think was the reason i had to go. That was when they prescribed me Depakote. I went a good 8 months with Risperdal and Depakote while they were trying to reduce it before I smoked weed again and went back to the nut house. i was very violent and impulsively breaking things. (this time i checked myself in). Someone just happened to think to prescribe me Celexa and it is like a miracle, I feel like a normal person agian. It's been about a month and a half now and i'm just trying to get off of Risperdal and Depakote. I did just get a job and with Celexa kicking in I have been very productive all around.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Was prescribed Celexa, Risperdal and Depakote over a 4 year period because of stress and a little marijuana use. | Was prescribed Celexa, Risperdal and Depakote over a 4 year period because of stress and a little marijuana use. | 5,811 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [16M] Need some help with a girl [15F]
POST: Alright, to start of i'm going to say that i've always been a pretty awkward guy, this is really the first year that i've gotten away from that.
So there's a girl that I like, and I *think* that she likes me as well. I have a couple of reasons to think this, and I'll list them out here.
The first one is that we did go to homecoming together, my second is that when we were watching a movie with some friends, she was kind of like leaning against me basically for the entire thing (I think this was more as a friendly thing, but again I don't know). The last one is that pretty much all of our mutual friends want me to ask her out, but I just don't know.
Any questions that anyone wants to ask i'll be happy to answer, i'm just looking for some help here, thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Want to ask out girl i've known for about ~1 year, only started developing feelings after about 6 months, need some help. | Want to ask out girl i've known for about ~1 year, only started developing feelings after about 6 months, need some help. | 4,120 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, I need help with a friend gone wrong.
POST: So this post is about a friend I've had for about 4 years or so and he will be called Tyler for the remainder of this post. Tyler has been going through some rough shit; he broke up with his first (and only) girlfriend during the summer that he'd been dating for 2 years and hasn't really gotten over it, he's convinced his parents hate him, and he's feeling very guilty over other breakups that have happened in our circle of friends.
So he's kind of turned into a dick.
Since the summer, about 2 months after I started dating my current girlfriend, he told me she's not good enough for me and I should dump her. Since he was drunk off his ass I didn't really pay it any mind, however recently it's gotten worse; whenever he's drunk he constantly wants to fight me and telling me I should break up with my girlfriend since she "isn't good enough." And I'm getting really fucking sick of it.
So I need help. The last thing I want to do is be yet another bad event in his life, but at the same time it's gotten to the point where I'm not really comfortable around him anymore. Worse still is that he acts like he's never said any of the stuff he's said while drunk and expects me to act like I don't care.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friend turned into a dick, tells me to break up with gf constantly, want to tell him to stop being a dick without jeopardizing friendship. | Friend turned into a dick, tells me to break up with gf constantly, want to tell him to stop being a dick without jeopardizing friendship. | 4,010 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18M] with my girlfriend [17 F] 6 months, Girlfriend wants to break up if I go to another college but there's still a year left
POST: So I'm going to college in about a year while leaving my girlfriend behind. I have two options right now which is to stay in my state and go to an okayish college or go somewhere else to a better college. She doesn't really want to do a long distance relationship and neither do I. The problem comes up in what I chose. I already know I want to go out of state to the better college but I haven't broken this news to my girlfriend yet. She believes that I'll stay in state and stay with her through college. Now I love her a lot and I care about her a lot but I know I need to value my education more right now. However when we've talked about me going to college she's made it clear that if I decide to go to the far away college she rather just have us break up now so she won't get her self more attached/in love with me.
Now I've made my decision already but I'm not ready to lose her and I don't want to lose her when I still have almost a year before I leave. I know I need to tell her soon that I'm leaving and I don't want to drag this out and make this hurt her more but at the same time I know telling her will make her want to break up. My dream situation is to tell her now and get her to understand and want to stay with me for the year before I leave and have an amazing year with each other. I just don't know if that can happen. We love each other a lot both and she tells me that I'm the only guy who has ever made her this happy and stuff and we both deeply care about each other. I know we'll probably both meet a lot more people in our life and we won't end up getting married or anything unrealistic but I just want to have at least my remaining year left with her.
Any Advice? Thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Going off to college but girlfriend wants to break things off now (still a year left) if I leave to go somewhere else. | Going off to college but girlfriend wants to break things off now (still a year left) if I leave to go somewhere else. | 4,608 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Can someone please help me find a PA job in Los Angeles?
POST: This is a complete shot in the dark, but I'm bordering on desperate so here goes:
If any redditors in the L.A. area need a PA, please please consider me. I'm a college grad with lots of multi-media knowhow (AVID, FinalCut, CS4) and I need steady work badly. I had a temp job with Google that lasted 2 years, and I assumed (wrongly) that it would look good enough on a resume to land me another job. I'm running on empty, I moved back home and it's clearly becoming a financial strain on my parents. I'll work infinite hours, and work hard. I'll start at the bottom and work my way through smiling. I have no ego, I have no attitude. I just want to work, earn enough to move back out, and get my life going.
Thanks to anyone who takes the time to read this.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm running out of options and I need work, I'll work infinite hours, I'll be happy to do just about anything. And once I have the ability, I will plan to pay it forward to another redditor. | I'm running out of options and I need work, I'll work infinite hours, I'll be happy to do just about anything. And once I have the ability, I will plan to pay it forward to another redditor. | 439 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girlfriend claims that her "sexual nature" is an excuse for letting her friend finger her. Full story inside.
POST: 18/M, in relationship for 1 year.
My girlfriend has a friend. Let's call him "Tom." Tom (18/M) likes my girlfriend and dislikes me. Now, one day, I decide to buy my girlfriend, let's call her "Meredith," her first vibrator. Meredith (18/F) is very sexually inexperienced with this stuff, is a virgin, hasn't came her entire life. But she IS into some things that are "kinky." Mostly bondage where she claims the role of submissive. Tom was there when we bought the vibrator and decided to stay the night at her house. I was unaware of this but hey, Tom seems like a cool guy. Anyways, what transpired during that night is Tom groped Meredith and used the vibrator on her for around 6 minutes. This gave her her first orgasm.
Now, I talked to Tom about this. He said she put up no resistance and seemed to enjoy it. She said she put up no resistance because it's her "sexual nature" to "be submissive" like that.
Should this be a valid excuse?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend was kind of molested (and kind of cheated on me) but went with it, enjoyed it, came. All because she's "submissive." | Girlfriend was kind of molested (and kind of cheated on me) but went with it, enjoyed it, came. All because she's "submissive." | 5,011 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Is it offensive, when given signs, to not make a move or show interest?
POST: There was this babe who apparently is into *BATTLESTAR GALACTICA* and *FIREFLY* in my lab class this past semester who kept giving me the looks and body language that she was probably interested. We never actually spoke, because in that class I actually enjoyed the material, and was working with all the dudes on the opposite side of the room; my persona was pretty alpha because all the guys liked me and sort of looked up to me (this isn't normal), they listened when I spoke, I helped them with their work since the subject is kind of my thing, laughed at my jokes, etc.
The class only met a total of 7-8 times, some of them she didn't show up so even fewer opportunities, but between the work, exams, scheduling, and most of all me bitching out, we never spoke to each other. It took a couple of weeks but eventually I started to forcefully forget about her.
I'm taking a summer course now, and a couple of weeks ago I saw her in the hallway, we made brief eye contact, I ignored it because I was in an important meeting/conversation with faculty and stuff, but mostly again because I bitched out. She passed by a few more times and I still didn't step out.
I tried to man up and sent her a facebook friend request, but she ignored it. Is this because she's offended or otherwise not interested in me? I'm pretty sure she's single.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ignored a chick giving me signs, sent a facebook request *way* later, she ignored it. Is she upset with me or something? | Ignored a chick giving me signs, sent a facebook request *way* later, she ignored it. Is she upset with me or something? | 1,009 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I (23F) get over ex's (23M) new relationship?
POST: I'm friends with my ex whom I no longer have any feelings for and who currently has a new girlfriend. It didn't bother me at first but now I notice that he does things with her that I had always wanted to do with him but he wouldn't want to. For example, I would have to beg to spend time with him sometimes and with his new gf he'll be there at a drop of a hat if she asks. It's really taking a beating to my self esteem and I keep wondering why he's such a good bf to her and why he wasn't to me. I know it's irrational but how can I shake it off? I keep trying but the feeling that I wasn't good enough creeps back in.
Also, keep in mind that he was my first relationship and this is the first time I'm dealing with a situation like this.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How do I shake the feeling that I wasn't good enough when my ex does things with his new gf that he wouldn't do with me? | How do I shake the feeling that I wasn't good enough when my ex does things with his new gf that he wouldn't do with me? | 5,894 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [Update] Me [23 M] with my ex-girlfriend [23 F] dated for 8 months after a 3 year break, and 3 years before, broke up after revelation that I had lied about my past
POST: [Original link
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So it's been a month since my last post and we decided to take a little break, which was nice. She then contacted me about a couple ago and told me that she was ready to forgive me and we met up and had dinner which was great. It was nice being able to laugh and talk without the resentment on either side. Throughout the dinner, though, she made comments about how "I'm getting what I want" and that no matter what I do, "she's still here." I obviously told her this isn't what I want, and that she hasn't been there, which I completely understand why she wasn't.
We hung out the next night and she spent the night. A few days later she says that though she isn't angry at me, she doesn't think she can be with me and get over it. I say I understand, but that means that we shouldn't talk. Surprise, surprise, that doesn't last long and we start talking again. I'm being the guy I want to be with her, doing nice things and actually being thoughtful in hopes that she'll realize I'm not the piece of shit that she thinks I am.
At this point, I plan on letting her make the moves. Letting her suggest hanging out and talking, and hopefully let that transition into something. I know I want to be with this girl, but I just don't know at what expense? She never wants to hang out with me because she claims that anytime she does, she knows how right it feels and doesn't have the courage to stay broken up and that if we consistently see each other she knows it would turn into a relationship. One thing, though, is that I don't want to jump into a relationship. Our old relationship is dead, and for good reason, and I want to court her again. Take her out on dates, not have it end up with us at each others place for the night, etc.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex-girlfriend (at the time girlfriend), found out I lied about something in our past and ends the relationship. She is having trouble deciding and I am not sure what to do. | Ex-girlfriend (at the time girlfriend), found out I lied about something in our past and ends the relationship. She is having trouble deciding and I am not sure what to do. | 4,008 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21/F] with my girlfriend [22/F]. 1 year together. Haven't been getting along lately but I want to fight for this relationship -- help?
POST: So my girlfriend "Kyla" and I have been together for about a year now. Our relationship has been great from the start, we always got along super well and had the best of times together. I often tell her she is me in a different body -- we complete each others' sentences and are very affectionate and in love. The sex is great, she's my best friend, everything's awesome. Or it had been, for the past 11 months or so.
Around a month ago I felt that we kind of reached a rough patch. We were fighting over silly things (well, not really fighting, more like having talks about it), one little thing she said would make me mad and vice versa. We always apologized and made up before going to sleep, but we still argued quite a bit.
I'm not sure what to do. Lately I've found myself wondering if I'd be happier if I was single. I love Kyla and she's my life, but there are days when I look at her and think that I'm not really that attracted to her anymore. And then that thought leaves just as fast as it came. So we have our great days, days where I'm head over heels for her, and then we have our off days, when I start to question why we're still together and if we should break up.
I'm not sure if this is because the honeymoon phase is finally over or what, but I don't want to give up on our relationship. I love this girl. I could see myself long-term with her, buying a house and getting a dog and everything. What can I do to make our relationship go back to what it was? Is there any hope? If I work at it, can I make these little fights stop or is it hopeless?
Any advice would be really appreciated. I'm kind of at a loss right now, she's the first person I've ever fallen in love with and I want to work through this rough patch really badly. Thank you.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Hitting a rough patch with girlfriend of a year. Little fights breaking out, me not being that into her anymore. Don't want to give up on relationship. How to make it better? | Hitting a rough patch with girlfriend of a year. Little fights breaking out, me not being that into her anymore. Don't want to give up on relationship. How to make it better? | 143 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 F] with my parents [50s M/F], they want to come to the company picnic.
POST: I just got done with my first year of university and I am living back with my parents for the summer (because moneys and stuff. It's just easier). I got a summer internship with a construction management company and received an invitation yesterday to their company picnic. It was mailed to me at home, so my parents immediately knew about it. They started asking if they could come. I originally said I'd ask, but now I'm thinking it would be really awkward and unprofessional for my parents to come to the company picnic.
Am I right in thinking it would be really weird? If so, how should I tell my parents that they can't come? Also, I'm planning on taking my SO [20 M] of three years instead, and so I need help telling them that he's coming and they're not...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Parents think they're coming to the company picnic for my internship. I'd really rather just bring my SO. Awkward situation. | Parents think they're coming to the company picnic for my internship. I'd really rather just bring my SO. Awkward situation. | 2,395 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Got into a car accident.. need legal advice
POST: This happened in California while I was driving on a local street to home. I was driving in the left lane on a main street that no where close to an intersection. The other car was in the middle lane and I guess the guy didn't check his blind spot because next thing I know he hits me. The damage on my car is on the passanger's side (behind the front wheel but in front of the side mirror) & the damage on his car is on his left bumper.
There was no police report and the guy is apparently claiming that I was trying to make a left turn on an intersection when he hit me..? Apparently he has an attorney & I'm not sure if I should get a lawyer also. His son called me today & asked me to re-email him the insurance information because the information I gave him was apparently wrong. However, I talked to my insurance and they had already talked to the guy's insurance company so I'm not sure if he's lying or not. He also wants me to send me pictures of my car's damages because his father didn't take pictures of the damages. I know I shouldn't agree to that but is it safe to even send him the insurance information when it seems that our insurances are already talking?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Should I bother interacting with this guy and should I ask for legal advice from a lawyer because this guy is lying? Or should I wait until the insurance companies have a final answer. | Should I bother interacting with this guy and should I ask for legal advice from a lawyer because this guy is lying? Or should I wait until the insurance companies have a final answer. | 5,475 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: three weeks into the break up with my ex-gf (long)...
POST: New to reddit here, so hello. A friend of mine told me this was the place to go to when you're dealing with unwanted emotions.
Alright, straight to the issue. I'm stuck in introspective mode. I (age 21) broke up with my gf (age 23) a few weeks ago and i'm going through the motions; guilt, longing, acceptance, " fuck it, i'm free!"-mode, etc. We were together for around two years and it was a long distance relationship. Our relationship was never easy. Three months after my previous (1 yr) relationship i initiated the relationship. I was looking for something casual because my previous relationship didn't end on the best of terms and she was looking for something more serious. I told her from the beginning that I wasn't ready for anything serious but I felt like if i didn't tell her what she wanted to hear I'd lose her. She's one of those brilliant shy types. Here's where it gets complicated. Right after we start this relationship I have to move. I couldn't afford my place, wasn't getting enough hours, wasn't in school, not really going anywhere in life,etc; so I moved back in with my family. We both had bad experiences with LDR, the answer seemed pretty obvious. We remained friends, I went back to school & figured out my major, our relationship became one of those on and off relationships. We would break up, then see each other and get back together. We kept breaking up because of the problems that come with a LDR. Everyone-including the participants,was getting sick of it.
As i said before, i ended up breaking it off a few weeks ago. She kept telling me that we could make it work but nothing was changing. I felt, and feel, like our relationship was preventing the other person from enjoying our youth. It was exhausting. The unnecessary jealousy, the constant dream of eventually being physically together, etc.
When we had problems i would reassure her, and myself, by saying " In __ years we'll be able to be together. Other couples have done it!! That could be us!".
Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu. I probably sound like a douche.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 3 weeks into a LT/LDR break up with an amazing chick. Feeling emo/venting/trying to buck up. | 3 weeks into a LT/LDR break up with an amazing chick. Feeling emo/venting/trying to buck up. | 6,440 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Cat stressed out by moving to a smaller apartment
POST: Well I'm at a loss. I've had cats all my life and they've always been perfect and not obnoxious in the slightest. Unfortunately that's not really the case anymore, and I don't know what to do about it.
I got a kitten when I was in college, about 6 years ago (making her about 6 years old). She's been spayed etc, and has always behaved in an apartment setting. She's moved three times with me to progressively bigger apartments (600 sqft to 800 to 1100, every time with roommates) and has been great! However, 5 months ago I moved in with my girlfriend to an 800 sqft apartment, and the poor kitty is completely inconsolable. The only time she doesn't cry (and loudly) is when she's tired. We play with her, we cuddle with her, let her get fresh air on the balcony, and she's never acted aggressively towards anyone, but she just cries and cries and cries. I think it might be stress from the smaller apartment and the large chunks of day when no one is at home, but I don't know. Any ideas on how to fix this behavior? I'm worried about neighbors complaining.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Cat meows loudly and often despite being played with/paid attention to/taken care of. Unsure if it's the new smaller Apt, living with girlfriend, or something else. | Cat meows loudly and often despite being played with/paid attention to/taken care of. Unsure if it's the new smaller Apt, living with girlfriend, or something else. | 5,942 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [16M] with my Possible Crush/Friend [14F] of a few weeks is upset with someone, what should I say?
POST: Emily and myself were at a swim practice. We were working out with the team, talking and laughing occasionally, when coach writes up a very difficult set on the board. It starts out fine, but since Emily has shoulder problems, she gets out periodically to stretch.
Coach has a history of not really putting himself in Emily's shoes when it comes to understanding her limitations. He talks to her at the end of practice about "not putting in enough effort" and "taking too many breaks." This, obviously, was very upsetting to her. I am at a distance getting ready to leave, while she walks to the door talking to her friend about what happened.
*Here's the tough part,* on the way out I just WALKED BY while she talked to her friend without saying anything. Didn't stop to listen or ask if she was ok. Kicking myself for not stopping, but I don't even know what I would have said if I did.
My question is, what do I say now!? I have the option to text her now or tomorrow. If I do, I can ask if she's ok, but she'll remember I totally ignored her before. I just don't want to loose a friendship here, she's really an all around inspiring, kind, and great person I'd love to know better.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Emily is upset at coach after swim practice, I don't ask if she's ok, she leaves upset. I don't know what to say to comfort/encourage her via text, or even if I should say anything. | Emily is upset at coach after swim practice, I don't ask if she's ok, she leaves upset. I don't know what to say to comfort/encourage her via text, or even if I should say anything. | 3,315 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24F] am thinking about reaching out to my ex [24M] as a friendly gesture and need advice
POST: My ex and I dated for over 5 years. We were best friends and had a lot of mutual friends. He was my first love and then started having an emotional affair with a girl in his class. The break up went on for months and it was really messy. We haven't talked in over a year and now I have a new boyfriend that has been living with me and things are going well.
One of our mutual friends has been my friend for the last decade. Recently, he was saying that I should reach out to my ex, that we should be friends or at least friendly and that he won't reach out to me because he thinks I still hate him (I told him I did when we were breaking up and that was one of the last things I said to him). The mutual friend is also thinking about having a birthday party in September and ex would be there. I hadn't thought about reaching out to ex in a long time, and am fine with us not talking. But I feel like maybe I should reach out just to be on friendly terms because it would be the adult thing to do. But I'm also scared that my current boyfriend would be upset by this. Idk I guess this mutual friend just got me thinking that maybe it's wrong to not at least be civil with each other after all the time we spent together. I can see from looking now that the girl he had the emotional affair with is still his top friend on his snapchat (I don't know if this should affect my decision). I really need advice.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Basically just asking if I should reach out to my ex just for the sake of being friendly or if it's better to let it be. | Basically just asking if I should reach out to my ex just for the sake of being friendly or if it's better to let it be. | 5,594 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I(15M) asked out my crush (15F), confused about her answer...
POST: I've been into this girl for a few weeks. I've seen her around the hallways a few times, but we've never really talked. Recently, I've gotten to know her a bit better, and started to notice she was kind of cute. So, today, I decided to ask her out after class.
I pulled her aside after we had class today, and asked if she'd like to have lunch together sometime, and she just kind of looked at the ground and started giggling, saying, "I don't know, I don't know,.."
I was hoping for a ***real*** answer, but this is worse than a yes OR a no. A yes would've been great, and no would've stung, but I'd have been over it in a day or two. But this feels like some sort of weird limbo. I told her, "If you want to say no say it, you're not going to hurt my feelings." But she kept saying, "I don't know, I don't know". I feel like this is some sort of weird way to spare my feelings, even though I don't need them spared, I just want an answer.
I had class with her after that again today, and she seemed very, stiff, I guess the word would be. Just kind of staring down blankly at her book, not really moving her head or body, and seemed to(at least to me, although I must admit I wasn't paying much attention)rush out of class a bit quickly.
I don't want things to be awkward between us, but would it be weird if I asked her tomorrow if it was a definitive "no"? Or should I just tell her not to worry, and that it's only awkward if we make it awkward.
I **do** want to handle this like adults, and continue to have a friendship with her, but I'm not sure how to make this happen without asking her what, "I don't know means". Is this something all girls do, did I do something wrong?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Asked out crush of a few weeks, she repeated, "I don't know" quite a few times, not sure what to do. | Asked out crush of a few weeks, she repeated, "I don't know" quite a few times, not sure what to do. | 2,153 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: This subreddit has made me lose trust in everyone and in turn ruining my relationship.
POST: Just like the title says. I read these posts daily because it was automatically added to my front page (on mobile).
My(20M) gf (20) has never done anything in our relationship that has led me to believe she would do something that could hurt me but these posts have made me lose faith in people. I see posts daily of cheaters and how terrible some people can be about it; it makes me think any one of my friends is capable of anything.
As I said before my gf has never given me any hint of infidelity but this subreddit makes me think anything is possible. She is avidly against cheaters so I always assumed that she would never do anything like that but I say a comment earlier today that said, "people hate about others what they hate the most about themselves". I think I need to stop looking at these posts.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have seen posts about all sorts of infidelity on this subreddit that has led me to lose trust in my friends and gf for no reason. | I have seen posts about all sorts of infidelity on this subreddit that has led me to lose trust in my friends and gf for no reason. | 5,034 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/GetMotivated
TITLE: An inspiring anecdote for shy guys out there
POST: My boyfriend and I went to an indoor climbing gym today. It was my first time and I had to go through an intro course about how not to kill the person you're climbing with. Since my BF has experience, I went through it with a bunch of strangers.
Within this group was a couple. They clearly hadn't known each other long. The guy was pretty… Reddity for lack of a better term. He had really long hair in a ponytail, was overweight, and wasn't handsome in the face either. The chick he was with was fucking hot. I mean, they were both young, but she was quite pretty for her age.
I'm not really sure what their deal was, but they seemed to be on a first date. This guy was super friendly and nice to everyone and really encouraging to her, she was pretty nervous. After our little intro class was over, he spent the whole time hanging out with her, helping her out, and generally being a boss. I mean, he was so calm and content with the situation, I can't imagine he would have been flustered or upset if this date was all that their relationship came to. They were both just having a good time.
I guess my point is, if any of you guys out there think that your looks are a dealbreaker, they **are not**. Chicks dig dudes who are awesome to hang out with, don't take every interpersonal interaction really seriously, and want to go do fun shit.
You like a biddy? Invite her to go do some fun shit. Who cares if she is physically out of your league. Go take her to do something fun where you can help her and teach her shit. Cultivate some fucking skills. Live your fucking life.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I got inspired by this awesome dude, and I just thought I had to share it with some people who might be motivated by it. Go seize your fucking weekend. | I got inspired by this awesome dude, and I just thought I had to share it with some people who might be motivated by it. Go seize your fucking weekend. | 5,951 |
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