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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [27M] think my dad [60M] sees me as a nerd.
POST: Just to start off, I am a nerd. I spend my time painting models of dragons, designing/playing board games and I love reading on fantasy myths and stories.
However, recently I've been noticing a few comments in which makes me believe that my father doesn't respect me or just sees me as a nerd.
Last night my family was having dinner and people were asking me what I would like for my birthday. (it's coming up in July) and while I was telling people I over heard my dad say to my BIL "my friends introduced me to drinking and drugs, not dragons." Later when talking about my car, he made a comment, again to my BIL, how I'd never actually worked on a car so how would I know what it was like to get actually dirty. He makes comments like this often, have it be my choice in drinks, my hobbies or really anything.
Now, I have always been a mother's boy but I respect my father a lot. He provided well for myself and three siblings. While not the most approachable man, he was there for games, try outs or science fairs. He worked at a job and I grew up in an upper middle class household. I never needed to get a part time job until I graduated, nor did I have to rebuild an engine to get my car running.
I don't know if he's just making a joke but I just feel that I've disappointed my father because of my choice in hobbies. Do I just ignore it or do I talk to him?
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My dad thinks I'm a nerd and I feel that I disappointed him because I'd rather paint minis instead of working on a car.
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My dad thinks I'm a nerd and I feel that I disappointed him because I'd rather paint minis instead of working on a car.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28 M] with my [27F] fiancee, ex of mine [27 f] called off her wedding because she regrets breaking up
POST: ill try to make this short, i love my fiancee, id die without her. ut this ex of mine, we go back. I was ready for a serious thing, she wasn't, so it ended.
I found a beautiful girl. She found a sleaze ball.
Fast forward, ex's fiance is immature and ex leaves him and calls off her engagement. I was with my girl at a party that the ex went to. She hovered all night and seemed like she wanted to talk, but that didn't happen.
Soon after i find out ex was talking to my family, crying, saying she regrets letting me go, she should be his daughter in law, wishing she could rewind the clock and saying she still loved me.
I call the ex and we chat, talk about how the timing was bad for both of us and maybe if thing were different we'd be together. Telling her i knew what she said but i was happy with my fiancee and how im happy with her.
thing is, ex was the first love, since i was 16 i had loved her. Advice? I love my girl, but that "what if" is giving me doubts
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ex gf broke off her wedding, misses me, told my family, part of me is happy, part is mad, part wishes to forget.
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ex gf broke off her wedding, misses me, told my family, part of me is happy, part is mad, part wishes to forget.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Cock blocked by a friend (Who's a girl).
POST: So for the past week there's been this girl in one of my classes I've been talking to, she's pretty cute (dyed red hair, fair skin, a few freckles, not ginger), she loves star wars and I suspect she's a redditor. I was going to ask her for her number today, but a girl i met about a year ago came and sat right where the red head had been sitting, effectively cock-blocking me and driving the girl I was interested in away. Now it seems like the red head thinks I'm uninterested in her and has since found some other guy to talk to. Has anybody been in a similar scenario? Advice?
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Redhead in one of my classes was driven away by a girl I met a year ago, need advice on rekindling my chances with redhead.
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Redhead in one of my classes was driven away by a girl I met a year ago, need advice on rekindling my chances with redhead.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend [M29] is singing to a sold out show on Friday (2000+ people) and doesn't want me [F28] to come.
POST: Please, tell me if I'm being unreasonable here.
There's a popular rock band in our region and they're performing in our area on Friday to a sold out show. My boyfriend went to college with a couple of the guys in the band and they've asked him to "open" for them on Friday. He was also asked to open for them on Saturday for a second show in a neighboring city.
Originally, he was going to decline the offer because he gets major anxiety playing in front of bigger crowds. Normally, he just plays in local bars/clubs every once in awhile for fun. He talked to the guys about being hesitant but they convinced him to do it, so now he's going through with it. He seems a lot more relaxed/comfortable with everything now.
So I was super excited for this Friday, especially since his buddies gave him a couple of tickets for front row seats (for me/friends), which were NOT cheap. However, he's asked me not to come. We've been together for over a year and I've never seen him perform. So I REALLY want to be there to support him but he refuses. He says he'll be a nervous wreck if I'm in the crowd because he'll be focused on me the entire time.
I'm extremely disappointed and hurt. I don't even know what to say. I felt like this was a wonderful opportunity to finally see him perform and he's taking it away from me. My friends are still going though from the sound of it.... so I'm sure they'll record his performance but that's not the same.
Am I being selfish? What can I do to put his mind at ease before Friday so that he'll let me go?
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I've been told not to come to my boyfriend's performance on Friday because he'll have anxiety issues if I'm there.
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I've been told not to come to my boyfriend's performance on Friday because he'll have anxiety issues if I'm there.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by meeting Cinderella.
POST: Not today but last week I went and got some lunch with friends. So naturally we went to a place that has a reputation for destroying peoples insides because their food is cheap and tasty. I knew there would be repercussions but because my parents would be staying at a hotel and I was going to be studying alone all night I didn't care.
Skipping forward to that night I'd done my study and was watching a movie. When a girl I met on tinder texts me saying her plans had been cancelled and she wanted to do something. So it was 11.30, cold and I really didn't want to drive anywhere so I told her to come over (I had never met her in person at this stage) and she said okay.
So as she's on her way she texted me saying she wished she had warmer clothes in her car so I said she could borrow a hoodie blah blah blah. All of a sudden she says she's got a Cinderella costume in her car (for her job) and so I jokingly told her to wear it.
So when she gets to my house she's wearing a Cinderella costume and my mind is blown. So we talk for a bit, watch a movie and it turns out she's a really cool girl and I like her. However at this stage my insides are at full nuclear meltdown and for some reason my nose is blocked(I got really sick a few days later). So however much I wanted to have sex with her I knew it was a bad idea and I was afraid it would end tragically. Especially after reading all the ridiculous shit that has happened to people on here.
She ended up sleeping in my bed and we didn't have sex. I feel like it could have been really awkward if she wasn't such a cool person. She asked me the next day why I didn't make a move and I just made up some bs out being tired and said I'd make a move next time.
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Ate some really cheap spicy food, Cinderella came over, couldn't have sex with her in fear of becoming a today I shat myself post.
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Ate some really cheap spicy food, Cinderella came over, couldn't have sex with her in fear of becoming a today I shat myself post.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[27m] with my Girlfriend [1827F] of 3.5 years, are in a very weird spot and I need advice
POST: I feel like this is more of a sex question, but either way, my relationship needs help.
I proposed back in december and she said yes. Admittedly this was a huge mistake since we never discussed it. We started going through stresses of moving and she was really stressed (er terrified) of having a wedding and didn't truly believe in marriage.
Sex also was near non existant during this time (maybe once a month). A few weeks ago this came to the forefront of her mind and we mutually decided to call it off (although I was devastated), and decided to go back to "normal", they way we were before the proposal. The night it was called off I was upset, hysterical and acted immature and this put her off.
We still live together, hang out, sleep together, and love each other, and things are starting to finally seem normal, except for the fact we dont have sex now. I have tried and she resists, or makes up excuses, or puts herself in a position where it is hard if not possible to have sex. She still kisses me, hold my hand, cuddles with me, tells me she loves me and is still planning our future together. I am going crazy in the mean time, second guessing the relationship, and sex is my ultimate form of validation. I fear I am going to lose interest and end up walking out on what was once the best thing I ever had.
Every time I try to bring up the relationship work needed to repair the damage she gets stressed out, and if I bring up sex she gets even more stressed out and shuts down.
The last time I brought it up she said things were still weird and she wasn't ready. How do I know when she is ready if we cant talk about it. I am sick of putting work in and getting my hopes up just to have them crushed.
Her friends have been talking to her and relay everything back. I know there is no one else in the picture (She is squeaky clean). I know she loves me and doesn't know what she would do if she lost me, and wants everything to go back to normal as much as me...
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My proposal which is now called off killed my sexual relationship with my girlfriend who loves me and wants to be with me (just not married)...Help?
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My proposal which is now called off killed my sexual relationship with my girlfriend who loves me and wants to be with me (just not married)...Help?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [22/f] My family acts disrespectfully towards my [22/m] boyfriend. What's the best thing to do in this situation?
POST: Been together 3 years, living together for 1.5 years. I'm Persian, he's white. My family will invite me (and him by extension) to family events such as birthdays, Shabbat, etc. My boyfriend (let's call him Z) has been treated disrespectfully by them in the past. Examples include them speaking in Farsi in front of him, turning away when Z was going to shake their hand, etc. Z feels that it is a cultural issue that will resolve itself if we give it time. I want to take action but don't know what action to take. We could not attend any events in silent protest but it's not guaranteed that anyone will ask why we continuously don't attend (my family seems to not care a lot about what I have to say). We could attend most events so that the issue eventually resolves itself but I don't want Z to feel uncomfortable while at the events. So... What's the best option here? Speak up, do nothing, something else entirely? So far we have been attending some events but not all.
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Cultural differences make it difficult for my Persian family to treat my non-Persian boyfriend with respect. Should I/we speak up, stay silent, or what?
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Cultural differences make it difficult for my Persian family to treat my non-Persian boyfriend with respect. Should I/we speak up, stay silent, or what?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by paying £120 to take a dump
POST: So this happened last week. It's about toilets so the mods wouldn't let me post until a Saturday.
I fucked up by going to the loo before my client meeting last Thursday morning. I arrived at my clients offices twenty minutes before my meeting was due to start. Realising I had an almighty pre meeting nerves and coffee shit brewing, I decided to relieve myself.
I went into the single toilet off of the hallway and sat down to do my business. Due to the amount of coffee I had consumed earlier I released a satisfying torrent, worthy of any man dealing with low level ibs.
After finishing, I proceeded to start wiping. But my dear reddit I forgot to check that there was toilet paper in the loo. Panic ensued. I looked everywhere. There wasn't any paper towels or even dirty tissues in the bin. Fuck.
I tried to call my colleague to help me but I had no mobile signal. And then it dawned on me. Receipts! I had receipts in my wallet. What I failed to realise was that I'd cleared out my wallet the night before. All that remained were my expenses for client meetings on the previous day.
So reddit. I did what I had to. I wiped my arse with three receipts totalling £120. I can no longer claim that money. I wiped my bum with £120.
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There was no toilet paper so I had to wipe my arse with expenses receipts totalling £120 that I now can't claim from my company.
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There was no toilet paper so I had to wipe my arse with expenses receipts totalling £120 that I now can't claim from my company.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: (20/f)Really needing advice about my boyfriend's (18/m)lack of communication
POST: To start out- I'm using a throwaway to prevent people I know from noticing a request for relationship advice.
Secondly, I know how quick many redditors on here are to suggesting a breakup. That is not on the table for me, I am asking for tools to repair and enhance the relationship car, not advice on how to total it and find a new one.
Also, please do not make the mistake of using our age as a fit reason why this is not a genuine problem. It would insult my emotional intelligence, and I hope for open minded advice. I recently graduated from the same High School that he is currently a Juniour in.
We've been dating for three years now, and are eachother's best friends. We enjoy many of the same things, yet our opposite personalities compliment eachother quite often, and in most ways. I am sensitive and feeling, excitable, and perceptive to when something is bothering him. He is reserved, calm, and I suppose, "logical." My Boyfriend is basically a Vulcan.
He *never* shares his feelings about a problem, like ever. I can sense when he's preoccupied by a problem, and whether or not I inquire, or leave him alone to have space about that sense, he never opens up to share it with me.
Unless it's something trivial, like "I don't like the smell of that Febreeze."
I have told him, when we have argued in the past, that I really need him to open up to me more, if he at all can. Because while I understand that people are different, and don't like to share on every topic, it can definitely be said that cramming every thought and emotion into a bottle is unhealthy. It reduces me to tears to think about how there's problems trapped in his mind that he has not even considered bouncing off of me.
Before anybody asks, no, I have not ever acted in such a way to make him not trust my reactions to his innermost thoughts, were he to try and open up to me once.
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Boyfriend keeps emotions and thoughts locked up, I want to be a comfort to him, and to help him realise that sometimes, talking *can* be a good way to solve a problem or reduce his anxiety.
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Boyfriend keeps emotions and thoughts locked up, I want to be a comfort to him, and to help him realise that sometimes, talking *can* be a good way to solve a problem or reduce his anxiety.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: A question for parents of picky eaters.
POST: Do you sneak in healthy stuff? I cook rice in meat stock and recently started adding protein powder to every sauce I make since my herbivores will only eat meat if it has been shredded, reformed and breaded in another country. I puree veggies into red sauces and sometimes kidney chick or black beans if I think I can get away with it. Veggies? No way. "That's tistusting" as my 3 year old says.
What do you do?
Yes, I've tried offering options in many ways, with dips, raw, cooked, spiced, with ketchup, Bento style, and I still keep trying with no luck so far.
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what do you sneakily add to the food they like to make it more wholesome? What substitutions do you make that go unnoticed.
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what do you sneakily add to the food they like to make it more wholesome? What substitutions do you make that go unnoticed.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Saw problems in marriage. Suggested to wife we fix problems. She ignored. I left. Now she wants to work on things. I said no. Did I do the right thing?
POST: Ok, so here's our story. I've known my wife for almost 9 years. We started as friends with benefits between 2003-2005 on and off and got serious in 2005. Our relationship was always rocky to a point but never was totally unbearable. We went to therapy when things got to a certain point, and things would get better temporarily, but then go right back to the way they were.
After a while we stopped going to therapy due to varying circumstances. Within the last 15 months things have been getting progressively worse. When they were getting really bad I told her she was treating me bad and we should go back to therapy. My words went in one ear and out the other. In October things got physical between us and I was arrested for Domestic Violence. I spent a night in jail and separated from my wife when I got out. Right after we separated, that's when she says she realized all the wrong that she did, and now wanted to work on things.
At first I thought too little too late, but a part of me said what the hell? Maybe this could work. When I tried to interject emotions back into things, whether it was through hugging, kissing, just saying I love you, sex, etc., I always got the same feeling: My heart wasn't going to be in it. So I told her I didn't want to work on things anymore. She believes it's out of anger, still believes I'm going to come back to her, and still tries to talk to me about it and be physical about it. It was to the point where she was trying to kiss me and take my pants down, which I really didn't want her doing. She just can't let go, and won't truly let me go so easy.
So I ask, did I do the right thing by walking away? Don't get me wrong, I will always love her and she will always hold a special place in my heart because she gave me 2 wonderful children, but my heart just isn't in working it out with her.
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Known wife 9 years. I saw problems. Suggested we fix. She ignored. I left. Then she said she wanted to fix things. I said no. Was I right?
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Known wife 9 years. I saw problems. Suggested we fix. She ignored. I left. Then she said she wanted to fix things. I said no. Was I right?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, do you know anyone who you could totally see go into porn (or become a stripper)? I'll go first.
POST: There's a girl I knew from high school who recently turned 18. She flirts with and touches all kinds of guys, loves the attention, and is constantly acting strapped for cash and does random jobs for her friends for cash (despite insisting on going to Victoria's Secret for her bras. Apparently they're the only ones who can fit a bra right). She also talks pretty dirty, referencing sex when the conversation has nothing to do with it. Such as guys talking about "jacking (stealing)" things, she goes "you know, there's another meaning behind that word." She's short, asian, has both mommy and daddy issues, but insists that she doesn't want to date (despite all her flirting). And since she was 15, she's been flirting with grown men in their 20s. I also heard she played strip poker with her older sister's boyfriend when she was in middle school (older sis and bf were 16 i think?) Anyway, she calls herself innocent, but she really straddles the line between innocent and dirty.
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I know a girl who has issues and flirts with too many boys, and complains about not having enough money. I think she's a future porn candidate.
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I know a girl who has issues and flirts with too many boys, and complains about not having enough money. I think she's a future porn candidate.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by trying to be Mr. Fixit
POST: This happened just now. Ok to start things off, last weekend I recieved a broken 3ds from one of my cousin's friends. She had dropped it and as a result broke it in half. It seemed a waste to just let it sit there and corrode so I asked for it and took it home to fix it, mind you this is the first repair job I've done, besides barely opening my ps vita to disconnect and reconnect the battery.
After a couple hourse of reasearch i found that the speaker, lcd, and camera cables were torn, PLUS the wifi antenna. So i ordered the parts on ebay, with smash 4 hoping that I'd be able to play once i fixed it all up.
Fast forward to this afternoon and I've got all the pieces, of course smash 4 isn't here but oh well I'll worry about that later. Everything seems to go smoothly until i have to put the ribbon cables back through the hinge, which took me a couple of hours to figure out, but not without giving the cables a bit of damage. *Pssshhh* whatever they're *supposed* to be bendy, right? So I continue to put the console back together and am excited for the end result. Press the power button, and then *pop!* and then nothing.
I couldn't believe it! The 3ds i spent so much time working on wasn't turning on! Now I'm sitting here saddened that I spent 60+ dollars on 3ds parts and smash and have nothing to show for it.
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Tried to fix up 3ds for my own personal enjoyment despite having no experience. Am now broke. Leave it to the professionals guys.
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Tried to fix up 3ds for my own personal enjoyment despite having no experience. Am now broke. Leave it to the professionals guys.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My[23F] boyfriend [31M] of 1 year cheated while I was out of town
POST: My boyfriend recently confessed to cheating on me while I was away on a research course for two weeks. We had been living together for 6 months at this point. I have now moved to a different city to finish my last 8 months of University.
I spent a week with him after my course and he didn't tell me about his infidelity until I moved back to school (~1hr away). He called me, sputtering, that he couldn't continue to go on living with the lie and guilt of his mistake. He had "fooled around" with a good female friend of his.
This was extremely shocking to me because our relationship was SO GOOD. I had been cheated on in a previous relationship - a relationship that was terrible. It doesn't make sense and I never thought my current boyfriend could do this to me.
I've never been this in-love with someone either. If there is such thing as "the one", he is mine. I can imagine us growing old together, which is something I've never imagined doing with anyone before.
He says he's never regretted anything in his life before this, that it's the biggest mistake he will ever make. He promises that he would never do this to me ever again. How do I believe him? I want to stay with him.
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Boyfriend cheated while I was away for 2 weeks. Now I've moved to a different city, how do I make it work and learn to trust him again?
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Boyfriend cheated while I was away for 2 weeks. Now I've moved to a different city, how do I make it work and learn to trust him again?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [18/m] inexperienced dating with (18/f) - I think the relationship is disintegrating.
POST: I apologize for the sloppy writing and rambling story, I'm a terrible writer when talking about myself but I really need some better advice than my friend are giving me ("dump her and pick some chick up at a party").
So I met this girl three weeks ago and we were hanging out for probably at least six hours a day for about a week and I asked her on a date and we have been on several dates since then. I think we get along very well and our interests and personalities align very closely. I haven't seen her for three days and have no definite plans to see her until next Sunday. Whenever I ask if she wants to meet for a bit or do something that we usually do together (gym, study, etc.) she has been telling me she is busy. I'm not sure if she is legitimately busy and if I'm just overreacting, or she's trying to distance herself from me. A few days ago I told her I was getting mixed signals and asked her if she wanted to date or not, and she told me she did. When I text her it usually takes a really long time for her to respond (5 or 6 hours), but she told me she was going to be really busy and probably unable to do stuff with me for a while. I feel like she might be trying to distance herself from me, but since she is unable to meet I can't get a read on her feelings. Should I ask if the plans for next weekend are still on, or how can I be more subtle about trying to figure out if she's still interested? I have very limited dating experience and this is the most serious relationship (even though it's only been like 4 dates) I've ever been in.
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I'm wrote a really shitty recap of my relationship that is probably incomprehensible to anyone but me. If somehow anyone can make sense of it please give me some advice.
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I'm wrote a really shitty recap of my relationship that is probably incomprehensible to anyone but me. If somehow anyone can make sense of it please give me some advice.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [29/m] My gf (21/f) is deeply angry at me after a fight and she also studying for her exams, how can i save this?
POST: We had a big fight last week because she had problems studying and i asked her to take a break and have a walk to clear up her mind to go on better. She is now deeply angry at me because she says i don't understand her and support her the way she wants to, she is also threatening me with a break up. I can barely speak to her (we are rarely talking via txt in these days) and she has a very stressful exam at school tomorrow. I know this, and in my last txt i said that i am sorry for what happened, that i DO care about her study and that she should focus on her exam instead of thinking about all this situation. I really don't know how to fix things up and i am afraid of losing her just because of some exams stress -_
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my gf is threatening to break up with me because i can't support her the way she wants when she is stressed for her exams
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my gf is threatening to break up with me because i can't support her the way she wants when she is stressed for her exams
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 27F with my coworker, dear friend, long-time crush 29M. He does some drugs, I don't do any.
POST: Wonderful guy 29M who I've worked with forever and who has had my back through thick and thin for many years. I've been harboring strong feelings for him for a long time. We'd discussed dating once years ago but basically he and I have never been single at the same time til now.
He and his friends smoke weed and do coke on the weekends. From our coworker/friendly interactions, that's never been an issue for us. He/his friends have obviously never pressured me to do anything, and he's always sober and fine when it's time for work.
Last weekend he kissed me. I've been over the moon about this, but also nervous that our different stances on drugs will now become a problem. I know I don't want any substances in my house or car. I haven't figured out where else it will come up, but I'd like to anticipate how else this might be a hurdle.
Can anyone share experience/tips/insight with this situation?
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27F kissed friend/long-time crush 29M. I'm clean, he does some drugs. Any chance this can work?
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27F kissed friend/long-time crush 29M. I'm clean, he does some drugs. Any chance this can work?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What ways have you seen people allow a friend or loved one to publicly humiliate themself? I know a former-model-turned-paraplegic-pillhead-uberchristian who...
POST: I know a former-model-turned-paraplegic-pillhead-uberchristian who regularly updates her facebook status to something like "Jesus visited me last night and he told me I will walk again in 23 days. Can you believe it? In 23 days I will be healed, everybody! Who's ready to go dancing?" It's pretty sad/pathetic, but what's worse is that when she's at a bar after she gets nice and drunk, she will start asking guys to let her give them blow jobs, but that usually doesn't work so it turns to begging and finally crying. It's like clockwork, and that clockwork has turned her into a joke. It's a small town, and people know her as 'the crippled blow job girl.' If you see her at the bar, you know it's coming. I'm not really friends with her; I just know her through the bar(yes, I was one of those guys she begged), but I've seen it happen over and over again. The thing is she's always with the same people, so they have to know what's going to happen too, but no one seems to want to tell her that she's embarrassing herself, and they just turn their heads and let her do it. Sometimes people even encourage this behavior, particularly with letting her believe she's going to be healed by a miracle. It's bothered me for a while. I figured someone else has to have witnessed a similar story.
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a crippled bitch regularly announces jesus will heal her within the month. she also begs for sex at bars while crying. her friends/family don't seem to see a problem with this
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a crippled bitch regularly announces jesus will heal her within the month. she also begs for sex at bars while crying. her friends/family don't seem to see a problem with this
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [24M] and have trouble maintaining friendships. How do I make new friends with people with common interests?
POST: I've always been a social person once I become comfortable with the group and am seeking for an adventure. However, the friends I make are not. In fact, I find we have very little in common with my friends. My best friend [24M] for example, who I've known for nearly 20 years, leads a very uneventful and boring life. We meet up every month or so for a lunch and to catch up, but there's very little to catch up on. I knew him his whole life and there's rarely anything new to share or do with each other. It just good to see each other.
I spent the last five years in engineering school and graduated a few months ago. The opportunity to meet new people was always there, but with the stress and workload I was dealing with, I never took the opportunities. Since then, I've become less outgoing, it seems like all the friends [22-24] I've made over my undergrad career were too. We're a close group of friends, but we rarely see each other outside of school. With school over, it seems like so is my social life, and I'm slowly losing touch with my friends with everyone taking a different direction in life. How can I maintain our friendship? It seems like the most I can do is organize a meet up dinner every now and then.
At the same time, how can I meet new friends outside of school with common interests? It seems like this is even more difficult with everyone coming from different walks of life out there. I'd like to meet people coming from larger groups and develop more smaller and stronger social circles. People, who would occasionally get together and to something, like an outdoor hike, grab a meal together, participate in a bit of nightlife, or maybe just have a group chat over a coffee. In short, socially active people.
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I have little in common with my current friends and am seeing them less and less. Any advice on maintaining friendships and developing new friendships with people with similar interests would be appreciated.
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I have little in common with my current friends and am seeing them less and less. Any advice on maintaining friendships and developing new friendships with people with similar interests would be appreciated.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my romantic interest [18 F] 2 weeks, not sure what to do
POST: Hello /r/relationships. I've been dating this girl for 2 weeks (only had one date, we're both in the army so it's kinda complicated), but we've known each other for two years, and been great friends for over a year. We've had a hiatus after some ugly things surfaced, but lately we got in touch, and I decided to ask her out, because I'm 18 and never actually had a girlfriend or even a date before.
So we went out and whatnot, but no touching or whatever occurred. While I'd usually be concerned she's not interested in me, knowing her personality, she's quite shy and somewhat fears touching and whatnot, so it's understandable.
Tomorrow we're going on another date, and I was wondering if to just flow with the situation, or somewhat push forwards and ask her if she wants a more serious relationship, i.e. actually be a couple. While she shies away from contact, when you approach her with these things, she's honest and says whatever's on her mind. So I was wondering if I should or shouldn't do so - because we've been good friends for over a year, we know each other well, so is it worth bothering going on regular dates or should I just try and "force" the issue on her?
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Known her for over two years, been on one date, want to know if to try and force the issue of relationships onto her or not.
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Known her for over two years, been on one date, want to know if to try and force the issue of relationships onto her or not.
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TITLE: My [19M] mum [58F] won't stop drinking, what can I do?
POST: My mum is currently stuck in an unhappy marriage with my father, and had been thinking about divorce since I was about 4 years old (so for 15 years). The situation has been drawn out so long, and it's a bit complicated, so unless you need to know the details I won't go too much into the whole marriage thing.
But my mum, as some form of crutch, drinks heavily almost every night. Both my parents are fond of their drink anyway, so it took me a long time to notice - until my more observant sister brought it to my attention. Now I can't stop thinking about it; pretty much every evening she drinks almost a whole bottle of red wine (my dad will maybe have 2 glasses) and will become almost unintelligible through her slurring, and I'll hear her stumbling up the stairs to her bedroom when I'm in bed. I always want to try and bond with her; watch a film or a tv show with her, but it's like I have a time limit before she becomes so intoxicated that it's pointless and I just find it infuriating.
I've tried talking to her about it, but she only seems apologetic about it *when* she's drunk (she will cry and says she knows she should stop and that she's sorry) but when she is sober, she just seems to find my concern amusing. I've tried hiding bottles, pouring small amounts down the drain (we aren't the most well off so I feel reluctant to do that). I've tried talking to my dad but he just brushes it off as not being his problem.
She even drank my whole bottle malibu I got for a birthday present without asking. I just don't know what to do any more. My mum makes *me* feel guilty for getting on at her because she already feels shit having to stay with my dad (for now).
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Mum is stuck in an unhappy marriage and drinks almost a whole bottle of wine every night as a crutch. And will brush me off when I express my concern.
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Mum is stuck in an unhappy marriage and drinks almost a whole bottle of wine every night as a crutch. And will brush me off when I express my concern.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: me [24 F] with my bff [24 F] disrespectfully bailed on me, hasn't apologized, what does this mean!?!?
POST: Halloween. All week I ask this girl that I've known for 10+ years what she's doing and invited her to my friend's party. At 5 pm, I text her, "are u coming?" she says: "that's the plan isn't it?"
so my other girl and I go to the liqueur store and I pick her booze up, we go to her apt, where she is fake getting ready, then she starts saying weird shit that makes me believe she's about to bail like "my bf is asking who's party we're going to" and I start bitching at her being like "can u not do this to me, like say you're going, make me come here, then change your mind?"
she cuts me off, says she doesn't know what I'm talking about, leaves the room, then yells from her bedroom "can my friend come?" I say yes, then she spews BS about how she will meet us there. I don't even want to fight with her so I just say okay and leave.
She ignored my texts the rest of the night and she hasn't talked to me since. Am I overreacting in thinking that she doesn't give a fuck about our friendship? What do I do if she texts me?
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my bff ditched me on Halloween after she makes me scoop beer for her then ignores my texts and hasn't talked to me since
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my bff ditched me on Halloween after she makes me scoop beer for her then ignores my texts and hasn't talked to me since
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [20F] 6 months,she has been with 10 other sexual partners
POST: I met a really great girls. She is nice, has a really good personality and really likes me. We have a lot in common. We have very similar interests.
I am a little embarrassed to say this, but i lost my virginity to this girl. However, a few nights ago she told me that she has been with 10 guys and she lost her virginity as a young teen. I really like this girl, but i cant help but feel weird about that fact. I hate that i feel like that because i should only care about our future and that shes with me now. Every time i think about it i just get this awful feeling and i keep thinking about it and i just get sad and wonder if i should be with her.
The worst part is that she is self conscious about that part of her and i dont want to make her feel bad. Is there a way to get over this or is this a normal feeling?
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My new girlfriend has had a lot of sex partners and i feel bad about it. Is this normal, how can i get over this?
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My new girlfriend has had a lot of sex partners and i feel bad about it. Is this normal, how can i get over this?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I need advice on how to support my friend after rehab, any suggestions on what to do/say?
POST: In a couple of days my friend gets out of rehab (mostly coke but he uses other drugs as well). I really want to offer him support but I don't know how. Does anyone have experience with this? I want to help keep him motivated to stay sober. What should I say or do? I know it's not my responsibility that he stays sober, I just want to offer love and support and I don't know what to say to someone leaving rehab (Possibly pertinent info: I'm a woman, we've known each other since we were 7, we're mid 20's now, he'll be living in an isolated town where drug and alcohol abuse are fairly prevalent but I'll be living pretty far away).
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What should I say or do for my friend getting out of rehab? What are the best ways to support friends in difficult times?
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What should I say or do for my friend getting out of rehab? What are the best ways to support friends in difficult times?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My roommate's GF [23F] has the flu and now practically lives at our apartment. If I get sick, do I have the right to be mad?
POST: I [23M] need advice on how to handle this situation. My roommate [23M] and I live in a small two bedroom apartment. He has his GF over probably 5 nights a week. It doesn't bother me. But now she has the flu and has pretty much not left our apartment for more than a couple hours for the past 6 days. She lives on a boat that I've never seen but I think is in disrepair - hence her staying over so much. I get that staying in his bed is probably the best place for her recovery (as opposed to on the boat) but I feel like I'm starting to come down with something. Do I have the right to be pissed at him if I catch what she has?
I've been good friends with my roommate since childhood and I get along with his (relatively new) GF pretty well too. If she had her own apartment I wouldn't feel bad telling him that she needs to stay away until she's better, but since she's living on a unfinished boat, I feel like telling him she has to go would be like throwing her out on the street. Every twenty minutes I can hear her coughing up a lung. I know the flu virus doesn't transmit via surfaces very well, but I don't think she covers her mouth when she coughs. She also doesn't work so is here 24/7 and smokes weed multiple times a day - which I can't imagine helps her coughing get better faster.
What should I do?
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Roommates GF is very sick and is now living at our apartment. I am worried I am going to get sick and want her out, but she has a poor living situation, what should I do?
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Roommates GF is very sick and is now living at our apartment. I am worried I am going to get sick and want her out, but she has a poor living situation, what should I do?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23 M] want to leave my wife [20 F] of 2 years, Can't bring myself to tell her.
POST: As the title suggests, I want to leave my wife.
Backstory: I am in the military and get out soon-ish. She is on her way into the military (different branch) and when I get out I want to go back home (Big City in CA) to go to a university and she wants me to go with her wherever she might get stationed. Now I see this as kind of selfish. She can get stationed in just about any shit-hole in the US. I don't want to be dragged along for the ride. Granted she does live with me and I got stationed in America's asshole in NC. In reality she didn't have anything going on for her back home. No car, no licence, and had just been kicked out of her mom's house.
I don't want to sound arrogant but I am pretty much the best thing that has ever happened to her and I feel bad for wanting out. I honestly think we rushed into this marriage (the benefits the military gave me didn't help)
I do love her, but I think we love different. She craves constant affection and attention. I find that annoying as all hell, especially while I am deployed, and when i don't give it to her she gets angry or cries like I just told her that I killed her brother. She makes things that don't matter into such big deals! I like affection as much as the next guy but I also don't like to smother people or be smothered.
How can I let her go without destroying her? I do care for her and would like not to cause emotional damage to and already emotional wreck?
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I don't think my wife is right for me and I want out. How can I let her know without hurting her too much?
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I don't think my wife is right for me and I want out. How can I let her know without hurting her too much?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [26 F] of 3.5 years has been supporting me financially and emotionally since losing my job a few months ago. How can I show her how much I appreciate her?
POST: Today was a tough day in particular, after waiting three months on what I thought was a very positive interview, I realized I did not get an offer to my top choice of jobs. I have been applying to many jobs, as many as I can, with a few bites but nothing especially promising. We didn't know me being unemployed would last this long, which has been taxing on both of us.
My girlfriend has been here for me: financially, emotionally, and everything in between. I know it must get frustrating for her, especially after so many negatives on my job front. I clean around the apartment, go grocery shopping, do laundry, and do my best to make sure she comes home after work and is able to relax.
How can I show her how much I care about her, and how much I appreciate everything that she's done and is doing for me? I want her to know, especially after being dealt this particularly huge blow. Lord knows she deserves to feel special.
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Didn't get my top choice of job, girlfriend has been supporting me along the way, and want to show her I care.
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Didn't get my top choice of job, girlfriend has been supporting me along the way, and want to show her I care.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[22/F] suspect my guy-friend[24/M] who wants to sleep with me is still taken and using me to sleep around with
POST: My friend 'Sean' and I have known each other for a little over three years. We're fairly good friends, but somewhat fell out of contact a while ago when he graduated from our university. We share a pretty large friend group, though, and they usually know how he's doing and trying to invite him to our outings. Through the group I knew that Sean was dating 'Maggie', a younger girl(19) from out of town.
But last April, Sean contacted me out of the blue and started striking up conversations over messenger, ostensibly to seehow I was. I enjoyed talking to him again after a few months of no contact, and soon after our conversations started he told me he had been thinking about me and wanted to sleep together at some point. I asked if he was still with Maggie, and he said he had broken up with her the past month.
We continued to banter the following months, and eventually scheduled our first 'date' for this upcoming Saturday. I was pretty excited, and was hanging out with some of the guys from our friend group today. Sean's best friend, 'Matthew', didn't seem to know that Sean and I were seeing each other, which struck me as weird since Sean tells Matthew everything. Later that day, Matthew also offhandedly mention that he had been hanging out with "Sean and his girlfriend" last weekend.
I'm not sure if it's a misunderstanding or if I'm overreacting, but I'm worried that Sean may still be seeing Maggie and trying to sleep with me behind her back. I had a big crush on him a year or so ago(which he knew about and did not return at the time), and I'm worried he might just be trying to take advantage of me and my feelings. How do I broach this subject with him without sounding accusatory?
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I suspect my friend[24/M] might be taking advantage of my[22/F] crush on him to cheat on his girlfriend, and I'm not sure how to get the truth out of him.
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I suspect my friend[24/M] might be taking advantage of my[22/F] crush on him to cheat on his girlfriend, and I'm not sure how to get the truth out of him.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19F] cannot stop acting shy/awkward around the guy [19M] that I'm interested in.
POST: Honestly, I've always had this problem with guys. I'm not typically a shy person but for some reason I can BARELY look at a guy when I'm attracted to him. I've overcome about 95% of the situations that normally trigger my social anxiety, but I haven't quite mastered talking to crushes yet. Eye contact is pretty much a no-go and I even find it difficult to speak normally.
The guy that I'm currently interested in is very attractive to me, and it just makes it difficult for me to look at him/talk to him without feeling self-conscious. I feel like this either makes it extremely obvious that I'm interested in him, or it just makes me seem standoffish. Neither of these things are things that I want.
I'd really like to be able to be my animated, talkative self around this guy, but I can't stop feeling extremely self-conscious whenever he's looking at me. I so badly want him to find me appealing, and I suppose this causes me to be over-aware of every little thing about myself. I want there to at least be a little bit of a chance of him being attracted to me as well, and I highly doubt that's going to happen if I keep acting like an awkward mess around him. Any advice?
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I [19F] can't stop acting shy around the guy [19M] I like and I want to overcome it.
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I [19F] can't stop acting shy around the guy [19M] I like and I want to overcome it.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I (F33) Accept I may never have kids?
POST: Yeah, I know many women have kids well into their 40s, but most don't. I'm almost 34 and I feel like there's no prospects in sight. I've been with a guy (37) for 4 years, but we're still not engaged. There's still no commitment. He won't even add me as a friend on Facebook, not to mention his status is still 'single'. I feel like a damn teenager here caring about stupid things like diamond rings and Facebook status, but what am I supposed to do? Date him until all my eggs are gone?
I can't afford to ever freeze my eggs. I could possibly use a sperm donor if I move in with my parents... but then I'll have a kid but no man, possibly ever.
I know the answer is to leave him, but it's almost like, why bother? I'll probably never find anyone to have kids with soon enough.
I let him know when we got together that I wanted to get married and have kids... he pretended to be on the same page. Then he just kept leading me on. And I feel like it's too late now.
I am so scared I will never have a kid.
I don't know the point of this post. I'm just really sad. I wish men would realize exactly what they were doing when they lead women on this late in life. It's cruel.
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getting old, boyfriend of 4 years still won't commit. i feel like it's too late to start over to try to have kids.
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getting old, boyfriend of 4 years still won't commit. i feel like it's too late to start over to try to have kids.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Just got hired to teach social studies. They asked me to create/teach an elective of MY CHOICE. What elective does reddit think I should teach ?
POST: I'm a social studies teacher with a background in acting, making films, obsession with hidden history/conspiracies, photography, current events, etc.
My school asked me to create a FUN and EXCITING elective class to teach 9-10th graders for one period a day.
So far I'm thinking about...
Living History - a class focused on historical simulations, reenactments, role playing, hands on activities (butter churning, etc best example off top of my head)
History Through Film - Analyze historical Hollywood films and other films; determining what is accurate and what is not. Students can also create their own short films which they believe are more accurate in terms of the facts.
Historiography (study of what, who, why of history) & Hidden History - Examine multiple sources (text books with different views) to determine what really happened, what's been omitted, etc.
History of film.
History of NYS.
I'd like to weave in some sort of lesson about Tesla! And all that other stuff we should have learned about in HS. I want my students to crave more and more. I want them to QUESTION EVERYTHING. Anyway I appreciate any feedback I can get.
Right now I'm overwhelmed but excited. Let's hear those ideas! Thanks.
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New teacher asked to teach/create new elective class. Ideas: hidden history, history through film, movie making, media, etc. Looking for more ideas.
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New teacher asked to teach/create new elective class. Ideas: hidden history, history through film, movie making, media, etc. Looking for more ideas.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: What's this girl's deal??
POST: I've know this girl (17f) for a few months, let's call her Holly. We've been talking pretty much non stop for those few months. Last month, she told me she loves me (18m). We're not in a relationship necessarily, but I really like her, but we are pretty far away, about 200km. For a girl who claims to be "in love" with me, her actions seem very strange to me.
So she's been going to parties, texting a few guys, having kissed them at parties and whatnot, being very open telling me this. I don't really mind considering we're by no means in a relationship. But here's where I'm a little confused. She tells me she loves me, she has a tinder account and is texting this other guy that lives near her. Does she just like the attention? She's adamant that she loves me and she sees no problem with it. But the guy doesn't know that! He thinks she's only texting him, needless to say she doesn't tell all her tinder matches that she's "in love". She's really nice whenever we FaceTime and chat, and I really like her then, but this stuff is just crazy to me. I want to pursue something with her, but really, is it ever worth it?
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Girl I've been talking to tell me she loves me. Continues to "hook up"/text a couple guys around her and use tinder a lot. Jump ship?
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Girl I've been talking to tell me she loves me. Continues to "hook up"/text a couple guys around her and use tinder a lot. Jump ship?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [30 M] Ex[25 F] and I have been broken up for 3.5 years with next to no contact, shes now coming to visit me - Advice/Help Please
POST: Me and my ex have been broken up now for about 3.5 years. About 3 months ago she re-established contact and things were going great, but she started getting mad at me when I couldn't talk because I was at work or busy with other things, so I cut contact again.
In the last week she has left her fiance, and texts or calls me regularly; at present I am just ignoring them. But now she left me a message saying she is planning a trip to come visit me. We live across the country from each other.
I know I still love her, and that I probably always will, but I just don't know what to do in this situation. I would love to see her, but I think that whatever happens it will end up hurting one or both of us. I can not see a future where we can be together, no matter how much I want that.
Do I re-establish contact to tell her don't come? What if she still comes? Do I embrace what shes doing? I am at a complete loss.
Any help or suggestions are appreciated
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That I love my Ex and dont know how to deal with her anymore. After extended non contact it seems that we are drawn together, but I dont know what to do.
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That I love my Ex and dont know how to deal with her anymore. After extended non contact it seems that we are drawn together, but I dont know what to do.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [21/M] Ex [22/F] has emailed me out of the blue. How does one respond to something like this?
POST: Sorry if this is a bit of a ramble. I just want to make sure anyone who gives an answer has enough context to help if they can:
A year ago, a girl I was really into dumped me and strung me along for a while after that. Now she's sent me an email simply saying "How have you been?" I feel this is inappropriate for two reasons. First of all, the break was really bad. We both said some pretty hurtful things and I was definitely the one worse off for it. I've spent a lot of time trying to be more emotionally open to relationships since then, and it's always failed miserably. She, on the other hand, has been dating another man since two days after we officially broke things off. Secondly, for the last 14 months she, at least, has been content to pretend as though I don't exist. Any time in passing we've seen each other, for instance, would be as though a complete stranger had walked by me. I can't deny that it hurt a little, because of course it does, and this email just reminds me of all the hurt I felt.
I am at a loss of how to handle this. I feel like she's definitely sending this because she's graduating and not because she actually cares about my feelings. She was never shy about having me aroundto comfort her after the breakup/whatever she said she was going through and then tossing me aside once a new guy was in the mix. I was totally used and completely devastated.
Should I email her a brief update tomorrow morning? What has anyone else's experience with this been? Is there any way I'm not looking past my old hurt and being stupid by NOT wanting to respond? Is there actually a healthy solution to this that I'm possibly overlooking because of my feelings? I don't want to regret doing nothing, but then again I'm afraid this could just open up old wounds, and I really don't want that.
Thanks for reading if you made it this far! I really appreciate any and all advice :)
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Ex emailed me out of the blue. The break-up really damaged me and I'm not sure if responding is a good idea. Any advice?
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Ex emailed me out of the blue. The break-up really damaged me and I'm not sure if responding is a good idea. Any advice?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my gf [23 F] of 9 months need some advice about how to approach an issue.
POST: I'll try to keep this decently short. My girlfriend and I are at a great spot in our relationship; however, at 9 months in I'm starting to notice something that probably isn't a big issue to most but it is something that kind of matters to me.
One could say I'm the romantic type, (flowers, surprises, letters, that sort of thing) not every day but about once a month or after maybe an especially bad day I'll do something like to surprise her. She loves it. I also am the kind of guy who will make the extra effort to see her, or go out of my way to do stuff like pick up something at the store she needed on the way over or something.
The problem is that she does absolutely nothing of the sort. She tells me she loves me and is great when we hang out, and is really an amazing all around girlfriend, except she doesn't really ever make any effort to surprise me, or do anything special for me (she didn't even get me anything for christmas, even though I let her know I was getting her a few things). She even talks about stuff she wants to do with me, for Me, or get me...it just never happens. Or if it's kind out of her way or inconvenient she will just not see me or expect me to go to her most of the time.
I guess it puts me in a mental bind, I love this girl and she does everything expected of a girlfriend, is it fair to be upset that she doesn't go above and beyond? I guess maybe for me personally those things aren't above and beyond, but *are* expected. Should I bring this up and talk to her about it? I don't think it's a deal breaker, but it makes me feel like I may be more into this relationship than she is. I don't really know how to address not getting what most people could consider just extra benefits in a relationship, I feel like I would sound like a whiny child if I told her that.
I also want to end this with saying that this is literally the only flaw with my girlfriend. I really do love her and she is absolutely amazing in every other way.
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I go the extra mile in the relationship, girlfriend doesn't reciprocate. Is it fair to expect her to do special things for me? How could I even address it?
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I go the extra mile in the relationship, girlfriend doesn't reciprocate. Is it fair to expect her to do special things for me? How could I even address it?
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TITLE: Me [20M] with my [21F] ex of 4 years is talking to me again after her failed relationship, wants to be friends.
POST: Long story short my ex of our 4 year relationship wanted to have the single life kind of put me on the back burner, so we broke up, she jumped into a relationship, i went NC immediately and tried to move on and live my life. Her relationship failed, she messaged me telling me if we could be friends again, i don't think much of it so i say yes.
She tells me how good i was to her and how some lucky girl is going to get me and she wishes me the best. I say thank you and i tell her i hope to find that lucky girl.
She invites me to hang out with her and a friend of hers, and later he friend told me she was worried my ex would make it weird by bringing up our old relationship.
Does she want a friendship or something more?
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ex of 4 years breaks up with me, gets crushed in her new relationship, tells me how good i was to her and wants to be friends. What does she expect from me?
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ex of 4 years breaks up with me, gets crushed in her new relationship, tells me how good i was to her and wants to be friends. What does she expect from me?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend of 6 months (20F) is having a hard time thinking she's not good enough for me (21M) (in reality I'm nothing special, she's the special one)
POST: Sorry if I'm a little absent minded or write things that make no sense.
Basically, my girlfriend has slept with a lot of men and she regrets it all, we met six months ago and instantly clicked, she was trying to shove me away at the beginning because she thinks she is dirty and used. I told her that I loved her all the same.
Regardless it's been a constant thing in our relationship, always hanging in the air. She just repeats how amazing I am and how lucky she is to have me all the time(I'm completely average, not that good looking not that special I have nothing amazing).
Today she just broke down saying she doesn't find herself "worthy" of me and that she feels like she's hurting me and that I deserve better.
No matter what I tell her she won't change her mind, I managed to convince her to cool down and wait until tommorow but I'm worried since she's very emotional and attached she will disappear from my life.
Please, help me Reddit. I love her so much.
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Girlfriend things I'm amazing and things she's not worthy of me when actually she's the amazing one and I'm basically average joe.
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Girlfriend things I'm amazing and things she's not worthy of me when actually she's the amazing one and I'm basically average joe.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [21/M] can't seem to stay out of trouble.
POST: I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 3.5 years now and practically every year, we've ran into the same problem. I've always been a talkative, flirty guy and I've always gotten along well with girls, and she's caught me multiple times talking or flirting with them. One occasion was flirtatious raunchy texts to a friend, another was just finding that a girl was my #1 friend on snapchat who she had never heard of, and hanging out with a girl without telling her where I was. Despite all this I've never had any physical/sexual interaction with any of these women.
I know that I'm at fault for doing this behind her back, and I partially blame it on the fact that we're both at two different schools so seeing each other is tough. I can't necessarily explain my motives in the moment, but I guess I've always seen these other girls as people who come and go, and that my future was going to be with my girlfriend. Could it be that I'm in college, which makes me more prone to do stupid things? I've always thought that once we graduated and moved in together and worked real jobs, I'd be able to put this all behind us.
I'm looking for advice on how to address this problem. We are actually on a break right now because I wanted some time to really look at myself and access what I've done, and hopefully self-reflect on my mistakes. Despite what I've done I value this relationship more than anything in the world (it obv. doesn't seem like it to her), but I can't help but seek attention from other women when my girlfriend isn't around. My friends have told me that I simply take our relationship for granted, and that I don't realize how lucky I have it or how much she does for me. They've told me to write a list of things I'm thankful for my girlfriend for, and hopefully it'll open my eyes to seeing that she's better than all the other girls I talk with. I just don't know how I'm going to regain her trust back after the 3rd time.
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I'm kindof an asshole who talks to other girls behind my girlfriend's back, but I really just want her at the end of the day. How can I stop myself from getting in these situations?
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I'm kindof an asshole who talks to other girls behind my girlfriend's back, but I really just want her at the end of the day. How can I stop myself from getting in these situations?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23 M] miss [23 F] ex, but only after 8+ months of being broken up and seeing a new girl...why?
POST: I broke up with my ex of 2.5 years last may (about 8-9 months ago) and although it was difficult I felt I was making the right choice - I needed to date around/experience other women, things we were way too stale (she can be really quiet and sedentary). We completely stopped talking ~3 months ago.
I felt a lot better about myself after this, was really happy and even recently started dating a girl I am really into. However, now that I started dating this new girl, I have started thinking a lot about my ex. I find myself comparing the two and it has me missing my ex/romanticizing my old relationship. I have no idea why these feelings have just surfaced and they're bothering me. How do I get them to stop?
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Broke up with ex 8 months ago, haven't thought of her in a while until recently starting new girl, think about her/old relationship a lot now. Why? How to stop?
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Broke up with ex 8 months ago, haven't thought of her in a while until recently starting new girl, think about her/old relationship a lot now. Why? How to stop?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: Probably will be nothing but I'm a little freaked.
POST: I took River to the vet this afternoon for vomiting more than once this morning (about 5-6 times i think). Vet said she has tapeworms, prescribed her flea medication and tape worm medication and gave her a shot for nausea. She was still okay this morning even with the vomiting, but now since we've been back home she hasn't moved much, is drooling excessively from the mouth, won't eat, won't drink, and just kind of sits upright and stares into the blue until she gets tired and lays down curled up. I'm going to call tomorrow if the drooling doesn't stop. It's getting way out of hand. So much so that for her to stay inside I'm going to be wiping her mouth with a towel all night.
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any ideas why River might be drooling like this and being really lethargic after taking her to the vet for vomiting and tapeworms? She wasn't doing either of those things before the medication.
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any ideas why River might be drooling like this and being really lethargic after taking her to the vet for vomiting and tapeworms? She wasn't doing either of those things before the medication.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How to end a toxic friendship between me (25/F) and former best friend (24/F)
POST: My former best friend I'll call her Jenny used to hang out with me all the time. We always got dinner together at least once a week and she was really close to my parents as well. Lately I've noticed since she got another new bf (she's had a string) that she's stopped responding to any texts I've sent her or trying to hang out. It seems her only focus is on said boy.
[break] However, she will come back into my life if the boy breaks up with her for comfort and then will go away again as soon as she finds someone else. She's done this before and admittedly it was my fault for letting her do it, but I'm just sick of being used whenever she needs comfort from being dumped. Do you guys have any suggestions how to end this toxic friendship?
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My friend only wants to hang out when she's dumped and not when she has a bf and I'm sick of it.
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My friend only wants to hang out when she's dumped and not when she has a bf and I'm sick of it.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I wrong to get mad?
POST: I (17/f) have been dating my SO (19/m) since the last 3 years. He's a great guy, always there for me and very supportive. Things were going extremely well in our relationship and we esteemed ourselves because we were better off than the rest of the couples around us. Our relationship was perfect! Until his best friend walked in. Let's call her Amy. So Amy and my SO used to hate each other back in high school. One day she accidentally sent him a message, and the both of them started talking and wouldnt stop! They would talk till 4 am, go out for movies blah blah blah. I was fine with it, really. I was indifferent to Amy.
Also I should mention that I really hate threesomes because they make me insecure like hell and I made that very clear to my boyfriend. Yet he "joked" that he'd want to have a threesome with Amy. I obviously had a problem with this and I lashed out at him, and he knew this made me upset and begged for forgiveness and promised that he'd never say anything like that ever again. I should probably mention that Amy is really hot.
There was a time when he became all dismissive me, and became closer to Amy. He realized it was wrong though.
One day my boyfriend told me that he digs OAG's. He also told me that making me jealous is a huge turn on for him. I jokingly asked him to make me jealous and he said that Amy called him sexy and said she'd love to have a threesome with him and her crush. I felt nauseated and decided to shut up because I didn't want another fight. And also because he calls me over-sensitive. Our relationship has been going downhill ever since Amy entered his life but he refuses to acknowledge it. Am I being a clingy or am I right to be mad?
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relationship's going downhill ever since female friend walked into SO's life. He refuses to acknowledge it. Should I tell him it's wrong or am I just insecure?
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relationship's going downhill ever since female friend walked into SO's life. He refuses to acknowledge it. Should I tell him it's wrong or am I just insecure?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Visiting Clearwater Beach, Florida and having a kickass time at the beach. What are some beach stories you have?
POST: This one comes from the beach down in Corpus Cristi, TX: We were there on a band trip during my freshman year. We decided to have a game of beach ultimate and split up basically seniors versus freshmen.
Late into the game, one senior guy is streaking up the beach toward the endzone and the disc gets hucked to him. It flies out over the water, where my friend Charlie proceeds to lay out parallel to the ground, and make a spectacular flying swat to save the point.
Sorry if that had a little too much Ultimate jargon in it.
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Playing Ultimate on the beach when the disc gets thrown long, and Charlie saves the day, puts his body on the line, and prevents seniors from scoring
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Playing Ultimate on the beach when the disc gets thrown long, and Charlie saves the day, puts his body on the line, and prevents seniors from scoring
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My[17F] bf[7M] is getting braces and I'm wondering if it will take away from his appearance.
POST: My boyfriend is not 7, excuse my typo ha.
So my boyfriend of roughly 6 months is getting braces in a couple of days, like I said, and I'm scared I'll find him less attractive. He doesn't have very crooked teeth as is and I really like his smile. He's already kind of dorky looking, in a way that I find extremely attractive ofc, so I think they'll enhance his dorkiness. I'm not gonna break up with him or anything if I think he looks weird. Just wondering if anyone else has felt that way? I know I'll probably just have to get used to him having them, he's probably going to have them for over a year. In addition, i know this can be an uncomfortable experience, what can I do to help him deal with the pain for the first few days? Is there anything I can buy him and stuff to make him feel better?
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bf getting braces, scared I'll think he looks weird, also what can I do to ease the pain for him?
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bf getting braces, scared I'll think he looks weird, also what can I do to ease the pain for him?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/college
TITLE: Is it worth moving away from home for college?
POST: I am a freshmen currently transferring from community college to a 4 year university. I did very well on my GPA and love what I am planning to study. I am fortunate by having my tuition paid for with scholarships. My only expenses would be room and board, and books. I live at home with my mom and sisters. I would miss them extremely but I feel leaving would help me grow as an individual.
Now there is a local university close to me, I am majoring in physics and the local uni I feel doesn't provide as many options as the big name schools here. UT and Texas AM. That is another big reason for me to move on. I still feel conflicted as I love being home, but community college social life sucks. Most of my friends are 5-8 years older than me and have other priorities than hanging out with a 20 year old. I feel an environment with kids around my age paired with the distance from home would be a good experience. How nervous were you when going to college away from home?
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Does it matter where you get your bachelors degree? And is the college experience hyped up to what it seems?
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Does it matter where you get your bachelors degree? And is the college experience hyped up to what it seems?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by trying to climb a tree
POST: So I had just bought a brand new drone to fly around and do drone stuff with and I had been practicing in my house to get the hang of it. My kid says that I should fly it outside and I agree that it's time. So we go outside and I get it started and I was flying low because it was windy(probably not the best time to fly it). My kid says fly it higher and in my head I said, "Fuck it, why not." So I did and the wind pushed it away from us and for some reason I stopped making it ascend and tried to let it fall to the ground or close enough so that I could turn it back on but there was a tree that decided to catch it for me. It's a pretty big tree too, like at least 30-40 feet tall, and while my kid is screaming that I did a good job, I'm screaming in my head because it's either I go get it out the tree or I'm just SOL of $110. After about 10 minutes of ranting, I decided to climb the tree and I have never climbed a tree before but I wasn't gonna that stop me because I wasn't about to let that money go to waste. After about another 15 minutes of standing on a trash can(first branch was too high to grab) I managed to get to first branch and was ready to start my adventure to get the drone. Then I realized that I had never climbed a tree before let alone a tree of this tall and start running scenarios in my head about how I'm gonna die if i fuck up and regret my decision and now I can't get down from the one branch I was currently standing on. Luckily my neighbor came by and saw me in distress and not only helped me out the tree, but decided to climb the tree to get the drone down for me. Now we play Smash Bros at his house on the weekends and I'm not out $110.
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Bought a drone and got it stuck in a tree. Tried to climb said tree and got stuck with it. Neighbor saved us both.
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Bought a drone and got it stuck in a tree. Tried to climb said tree and got stuck with it. Neighbor saved us both.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: I'm losing weight really fast, but I'm also very scared.
POST: I've managed to lose 8 lbs. in under TWO WEEKS which I am very proud of, but I fear that my weight loss streak will come to a stop very soon. So far I've been really good with diet, no cravings, no junk, no sugary foods, but I am afraid that I will get a sudden urge to pig out at a fast food place or some greasy buffet. I have not yet encountered an urge like this but since it has been a while I am scared that some stress will hit me in my life and an old habit that I had would come back and causing me to go out and eat junk. If I ever encounter craving what should I do?
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I haven't binged yet but I fear that I will have cravings very soon, how do I prevent from bingeing?
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I haven't binged yet but I fear that I will have cravings very soon, how do I prevent from bingeing?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21M] have a crush on [22F] who is currently dating a friend of mine [22M]
POST: Throwaway because she knows my username.
So I met this girl about a year and a half ago, and we were acquaintances. We didn't really talk to each other much, but we knew each other since we worked at the same place but different departments.
About 10 months ago, a good friend of mine begins dating this girl. I don't really care at the time since I don't know her.
About 3 months ago, I get switched departments at work and we are working very closely together. We immediately click and become best friends overnight. About a month in I start developing feelings towards this girl and I have to tell myself that I should ignore them.
Now its been 2 more months, and when I hang out with both of them together or when I just hang out with her it slowly begins to tear me apart because I want to tell her how I feel. I don't know what to do and I really don't want to risk either relationship and its really beginning to get to me. What should I do?
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I like a girl who is currently dating a good friend of mine. I don't want to lose either one of the relationships or put myself through the emotional pain anymore. What should I do?
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I like a girl who is currently dating a good friend of mine. I don't want to lose either one of the relationships or put myself through the emotional pain anymore. What should I do?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by telling a photographer she makes the same as a hooker
POST: This weekend I was visiting my friend at his university and us and a few other guys decided to go to a bar with a packed dance floor. We waited in line for over an hour to get in because it was frost week, which is the first week back in school after winter break. Once we got in I got settled and danced to the music and ordered a couple drinks. I had already pre-drank with my friends prior so suffice to say I was pretty intoxicated. I saw the bar photographer taking pictures of people so I asked if she could get a pic with me and my friends. Later on in the evening I saw the same girl without her camera and asked her if she was the photographer I saw earlier. She nodded and we started having a pretty good conversation. I could tell she was into me and I started harbouring thoughts that maybe I'd get lucky on this fine Saturday night. After talking for a bit she told me that she had made $150 for about an hour of work. Without thinking I say, "Wow that's like the same as a prostitute." The funny thing is I didn't realize what I said was bad at the time. She gave me a dirty look and said, "how do you know how much prostitutes make?" and "Photography isn't easy it's hard work." I tried defending myself still oblivious to my mistake until she basically asked me to leave. I went to my friend and told him the story and realized after his face palm that I fucked up. The next morning I laughed about it.
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I told a pretty girl who was the bar's photographer that her salary was comparable to that of a prostitute. I went home alone that night.
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I told a pretty girl who was the bar's photographer that her salary was comparable to that of a prostitute. I went home alone that night.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19/F] arrange all of our [19/F] dates with my gf of 7 months
POST: We've been going out for 6 months and we see each other around 1-2 days a week. I always feel the need to propose a time/ place to hangout or else we'll just wont see each other at all. The one time she suggested something is when the place we were suppose to go to was close. She's always happy to see me and when ever shes not free the day I suggest we should go out she'll ask if im free a different day. We've talked about she doesnt arrange dates in month 3 and she did say that she wants to make the plans but since then she never has. Should I refrain from asking her out or talk to her about it again? I so tired of being the one to make plans LIKE im not asking to see her everyday, I just want her to want to see me. I should add that shes super crazy into me. Also, I do have a life outside of her like hanging out with friends, work, sports, uni etc
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Gf of 6 months has not once suggested to hangout either as a date or as a catch up or anything.
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Gf of 6 months has not once suggested to hangout either as a date or as a catch up or anything.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27M] with my [24F] dating for about a month, but have been friends for 2 years. Unsure how I should go about defining the relationship.
POST: Background: I have known this girl that I am currently dating for a little over 2 years. When I met her she was in a relationship that ended up lasting 6 years (they just ended it in July). She is a part of a group of friends that I regularly go out with almost weekly, and over the past few months she had begun to get really flirty with me.
She ended her past relationship (I stayed completely out of this situation, so it was entirely her choice) and was single for a little bit. About a month ago, at my friend's birthday party, she said that she made it goal to be the last one to leave. This was obviously to spend time with me. We talked for hours before she left, then I walked her out to her car and kissed her. She said that it was very unexpected, but also very nice. She came over the next night and we kissed again. After that, she mentioned that she wanted to talk about what our status was. We talked and decided that we were both interested in each other (and had been since we met), but that we really didn't know how we got along romantically, so we decided to date and see where things went.
Ever since then, we have been regularly going on dates, often seeing each other a couple of times every week and texting/calling almost every day. We send good morning and good night texts to each other pretty equally. We have escalated to sex and have done that a couple of times. She is constantly telling me that it's "surreal" that this could happen because of how long we've had feelings for each other.
Things are going great, but I like exclusivity. I know that she is not that type of person that would probably be seeing other people and I'm definitely not wanting to see other people. How should I bring up that I want something a little more serious? Should I bring that up at about a month in? I know it's not a lot of time for dating, but we've known each other for 2 years and have been pretty good friends for that duration.
Thanks for your help!
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Been friends with a girl for 2+ years and dating romantically for about a month. Should I (and how should I) ask for something a little more serious?
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Been friends with a girl for 2+ years and dating romantically for about a month. Should I (and how should I) ask for something a little more serious?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] going to ask [23 F] I've known for 2 months on a date next week on Friday. Here is my plan.
POST: So I took up a ballroom dancing class that meets every week and I met this girl that has a beautiful dance - for the longest time I thought ~~she was an instructor since she knows the dances so well!~~
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I like this girl in a dance class I see every week. I plan to ask her out. Suggestions / remarks/ experience stories would be helpful :)
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I like this girl in a dance class I see every week. I plan to ask her out. Suggestions / remarks/ experience stories would be helpful :)
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What do you think the consequences of the irreparable and reparable damage that humans are doing? Which future do you think will happen due to this: Total destruction of the planet or a massive reset?
POST: To explain:
We all know that not everything that dies will turn into a fossil fuel or fossil or anything like that. However some things do. We also know that the Earth goes to transitions that are normal, some destructive, but through the destruction new branches of evolution come and in some cases go.
My husband and I were talking about this yesterday after a debate on a Justice Files case (lol). If the Earth was to have another huge 'change' would the damage we're doing to it prevent it from doing what needs to be done to ensure the future of the planet? Have we damaged the Earth to the point where it wont be able to make it to the next level of evolution?
At any rate, the question simple is:
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What do you think the consequences of the irreparable and reparable damage that humans are doing? Which future do you think will happen due to this: Total destruction of the planet or a massive reset?
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What do you think the consequences of the irreparable and reparable damage that humans are doing? Which future do you think will happen due to this: Total destruction of the planet or a massive reset?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20M] not sure if/how to tell my SO [21F] of almost 3 years that I have been smoking cigarettes behind her back for over 1 year.
POST: Names changed for obvious reasons. I have been dating Julie for three years. We met in high school, and pretty much kicked it off right away. Went to prom together, family vacations together, etc. I love her like I've never loved any of my past girlfriends and I'm certain we'll get married.
We have been in a long distance relationship while we both study at university. It's been great, but has had minor issues regarding time conflictions, but nothing that really worries either of us.
I started smoking cigarettes during the summer of last year without Julie's knowing. I figured it would be a short thing and didn't expect it to go on this long. Maybe I was stressed, maybe I just wanted to try it.
But ever since I have started, I've wanted them out of my life. Julie comes from a traditional Christian family. Her father abuses alcohol and she is mostly against alcohol and other drugs. Especially cigarettes, because who actually likes those things? Aside from smokers like myself...
I am not sure whether to tell her about my addiction. I never smoke around her, or even when I am home for the summer, vacations, or when we are visiting each other. I feel like if I told her, it would make it much easier to quit. But I have no idea what sort of impact that would have on our relationship. She has asked me about it, and I have explicitly lied that I do not smoke. She knows my friends all do.
I have subscribed to r/stopsmoking, and even tried the patch and electric cigarettes. I know I can do it if I put my brain to it, I just don't know whether or not to tell Julie about it.
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I want to quit smoking, but not sure whether to tell my girlfriend I have been lying to her for a large part of our relationship in the process.
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I want to quit smoking, but not sure whether to tell my girlfriend I have been lying to her for a large part of our relationship in the process.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [22F] moving to another state partially to be with a guy [34M] and now he says he doesn't want a relationship with me.
POST: Throwaway because he's a redditor.
So my freshman year of college, I met a guy on here after posting on the sub for the city I was going to be interning in for the summer. We became friends after he found me a sublease for the summer and checked it out for me, and we and talked for a few months before I got to the city. Once I got there, he really helped me out and showed me around, and next thing you know we were going out on dates, kissing, having sex, etc. We visit each other often, still basically acting like a couple AND he has told me he loves me. Neither of us have dated anyone else over the past 4 years. The last time I saw him was about a month ago where I literally spent all of spring break with him.
Well I'm graduating in a few weeks and I took a job in his city, and I'll be moving there in June. I wanted to move there anyway, but I had further motivation because of him. Last night we were talking on the phone and I mentioned that I was glad my apartment was close to him and that I was happy we could finally be together as a real couple. But then he said "well babe, you know not like that." To which I said "what do you mean? I thought that was always the plan". And he just said "not right now, ok? you're just young and I'm not sure it's ok, or if it's what I want." so I just said "you literally told me you loved me a few hours ago, how could you say you don't want a relationship with me?" then he didn't say anything and I got pretty upset and hung up. He called me again today but I can't even deal with talking to him right now.
I just feel like I am completely stupid and naive for falling for a guy much older than me who all of a sudden seems like he doesn't even want to be with me. Am I crazy for being upset about this?
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guy I've been seeing for 4 years all of a sudden doesn't want a relationship with me even though I'm moving to a new city halfway across the country to start my career and be with him.
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guy I've been seeing for 4 years all of a sudden doesn't want a relationship with me even though I'm moving to a new city halfway across the country to start my career and be with him.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: When/How should I [30M] tell an ex [29F] who I am on good terms with that I'm seeing someone else. Difficulty: it's been a while and getting sort of serious.
POST: I dated a woman for three years who was amazing and, in retrospect, I did not deserve. We had a great time and she saw me through some pretty serious personal shit, but I didn't handle my setbacks well. I drank too much and let myself become chronically under-employed while she excelled at her job and saw the writing on the wall. She dumped me and it hurt. It hurt because I knew it was my actions that lead to me sleeping in motels and couch surfing.
But, I did manage to turn it around after about a year. I screwed my head back on straight as it would go and locked down a new job in a state far, far away. And it's been great. I like my work again, I've made friends and I've met a woman who I really really like. A woman who I like enough that we've met each other's families and plan trips months in advance. Bully for me. However...
My ex and I managed to stay on speaking and eventually friendly terms. We still text each other jokes from time to time and it's nice for to hear that she's doing well. And I really mean that. I truly value her as a friend. But the elephant in the room is our failed and pretty serious relationship. I mean how do you say "Oh, and by the way, I know I said I love you for three years but now I'm seriously into someone else"?
I guess I'm not asking for a way to bring this up without pissing her off so much as I'm asking for the most tactful way to let this information slip.
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Was a terrible boyfriend and got dumped. We became good friends again and I met someone else. It's gotten serious enough that not mentioning her seems like lying by omission. How do I disclose a new relationship tactfully to an ex?
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Was a terrible boyfriend and got dumped. We became good friends again and I met someone else. It's gotten serious enough that not mentioning her seems like lying by omission. How do I disclose a new relationship tactfully to an ex?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 M] and my GF [24 F] of 2 years just broke up because she fell for a guy that persuaded her to join his religion. Am I the only one who thinks that's stupid & immature of her?
POST: We were doing really well as we overcame some difficult obstacles and gone through some rough fights. But everything was going smoothly and we were still in love.
Then, just overnight, she said she wanted to break up because she has been talking to a guy behind my back and she started developing feeling for him. If she wanted to join a religion and be closer to God then that's perfectly fine with me. But the fact that she joined for a guy makes me sick and confused.
I feel like I'm taking crazy pills. Am I wrong for thinking that she is nuts or too immature to be in an adult relationship if she can just jump ship like that? I have a feeling that I'm better off without her.
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GF of 2 years broke up with me because she wants to be "closer to God" with the guy that told her to join his religion.
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GF of 2 years broke up with me because she wants to be "closer to God" with the guy that told her to join his religion.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: (16/m) My girlfriend (15/f) isn't very interesting to text
POST: So I just got hooked up with a girl a couple weeks ago by my friends, the first relationship of my life (hers too) and we're both pretty shy, introverted, and like the same things. After the first date, she warmed up extremely quickly and made the first advances, and was super affectionate in general. We text every day, for hours upon hours but the conversations are rarely interesting. Over texting, her replies are usually only a few words in length and are only replies to questions I ask about her. She's still super affectionate, and frequently makes reference to how "I'm the best decision I've ever made", calls me cute and babe all the time, says she anticipates our next date, will occasionally use some innuendos followed by ";)" yet never asks questions about me or brings up topics of conversation. Her non-flirting replies only answer my question directly, with no intention of moving forward the discussion. Sometimes, I'll take a 5 minute break from texting (she always replies instantly, so points for eagerness?) to see if she'll come up with anything on her own. She invariably doesn't.
To be frank, if it weren't for her frequent references to her attraction towards me, and the fact that she always initiates the conversations, it would appear that she has no interest in me at all.
The way I see it, she's either:
1. Only attracted to me physically and not for my person (interests etc.) which doesn't make much sense considering I'm slightly overweight and not particularly attractive.
2. Doesn't really like me but wants to put in the minimum effort to keep the relationship going, since I'm her first and she likely has no other alternatives, as neither do I
3. Texting just isn't her thing
None of these bode well, but she's a really nice person and extremely pretty and I don't want to lose this opportunity. What do you guys think?
Also, if it's relevant I was recently diagnosed with clinical depression and have a tendency to get paranoid, thinking everyone hates me, and generally overrexaggerate things. Is it a possibility that I'm just delusional and everything's fine?
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my gf isn't interesting to talk to, but not 100% sure it's because of a lack of interest on her part (I'm very socially inexperienced, not very good at picking up cues)
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my gf isn't interesting to talk to, but not 100% sure it's because of a lack of interest on her part (I'm very socially inexperienced, not very good at picking up cues)
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU- by redditing at work
POST: Today i was casually redditing at work. I clicked a link to check out a story that was on an external website, when my colleague called me from across the room to come to lunch. I clicked to a different tab and left with the intention of reading the story when i returned.
When i did return, i walked through the door to hear an almighty battle roar and other such loud noises... it was coming from my computer.
My horror when i noticed my boss stood right next to my computer. His head twisted up to see me walking in and he stared right into my soul. He pointed to the ground as if i were a dog and he was demanding i heel at his feet.
as soon as i got back to my desk he furiously spoke between gritted teeth "alexjbarnett, turn this off right now. it has been disrupting calls with customers for the last 30 minutes".
I try to figure out why this was coming from my computer and realise that it must be an ad on the website i left open. i quickly click the tab and am greeted with a page full of animated girls in bikini's! my boss saw this of course and let off a disapproving grunt. I also noticed that the page had a "Clash of clans" ad on repeat.
I rapidly clicked force quit and it was over.
My boss hasn't said a word to me since but he was definitely pissed that customers had to deal with hearing that shit for so long.
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left a page open that had ads on when i went on lunch, sounds of repeating clash of clans ad filled the room until my return, boss also thinks i look at anime girls in bikini's at work.
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left a page open that had ads on when i went on lunch, sounds of repeating clash of clans ad filled the room until my return, boss also thinks i look at anime girls in bikini's at work.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Am I being unfair or is it the other way around?
POST: So my girlfriend (25) and myself (26) have been together for about 6 months. We fight, we argue, we make up and we have sex. As of late though, she has been wanting a kid. I said I was not ready and she lost her shit. I mean broke up with me, blocked me on Facebook...even posted an ad on Craigslist titled, I want to get married and have a baby. That kinda hurt me a lot. We made up somehow and now I think she feels she can control me. Yesterday my buddy said he was going to propose to his girlfriend on New Years eve. I called my lady and said hey you gotta clear your plate, he is a long time friend and he needs me there for support. She said no, not going, then posted on Facebook I was just leaving her alone on NYE. What can I do about this? Am I being unfair?
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Do I go to my friends on NYE or with her? If I comply with her does she hold all the power
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Do I go to my friends on NYE or with her? If I comply with her does she hold all the power
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Girls of reddit, is it bad to give my gf a non-diamond ring for christmas, if we've already talked about getting engaged?
POST: Ok so, I really wanted to get something special for my gf for xmas this year and last night I bought her blue-topaz ring. But, I've been thinking all day that she might get really excited before opening it, thinking its an engagement ring, and then be super disappointed. We've talked about getting engaged and we both agree that its defiantly going to happen, just not right now, since we're both still in school - she's working on her phd and I just started a 2 year college program in Sept. The plan, in my head, is to propose the day before I graduate, but I really like the ring I bought her and it would look awesome on her, I just dont want her to get the feel-bads after opening it. Top it off with her best friend got engaged last week (lucky me).
what do you think I should do? I really love this girl and I can't wait until we get married and have kids, its just not the right time to actually get engaged, mainly because this ring was like 1/4 of the price of an engagement ring and that's all I can afford right now. The other option is to return the ring and get her a necklace, but she doesn't really wear those often. Help.
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got my girl a ring for xmas, worried she'll think its an engagement ring before opening it and get crushed.
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got my girl a ring for xmas, worried she'll think its an engagement ring before opening it and get crushed.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU because I had a boogie
POST: Happen last night. I just drop this wonderful beautiful girl at home, but I must confess what happen during dinner. We were having a great time. Laughing and playing around. She was just as immature as I am. We were telling stupid jokes and all and when the waiter came by to delivery our food she mention the he looks like a gyarados from pokemon and I lost it.
Now for the record I just got over a cold and my nose was a bit stuffy and I took some cold medicine which in turn dried my nose up. I felt the boogers were loose but I didn't blow my nose like a normal human being. With that said that hard laughter became my down fall. I felt this booger leave my nose and hit her French onion soup. The terror I felt when I saw the splash. The horror when I notice she didn't see it. The relief that I was in the cool. The panic of telling her what just happened. The disgust I felt when I watched her eat the soup. The fuck I gave afterwards because I cannot tell her what happened. I pretended nothing happen and continue our date.
At the end of the night she wanted a kiss. I told her I still felt the affects of my cold and said we will kick it another time.
I will not be calling her again. Woe is me.
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I had a date with this amazing woman. She mad me laugh so for that a booger flew into her soup. Too scared to tell her. Watch her eat it all and will not be seeing her again.
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I had a date with this amazing woman. She mad me laugh so for that a booger flew into her soup. Too scared to tell her. Watch her eat it all and will not be seeing her again.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: I'm kind of (but not really) new to running and am having trouble figuring out my body...
POST: Okay, so, I'm not really new to running. I used to run quite a bit for training for other things, starting with pyramiding 20 minute runs (increasing speed every minute until I reached my peak then restarting). This helped me lose a lot of weight, but I didn't feel like my cardiovascular health was improving much. Then I started boxing, and had to run 2.5 miles 3 days a week. It was brutal on me though, because my stamina was awful and even a half-mile was rough. But I completed the runs because I had my coach following me, and his presence motivated me. Then I had to transfer colleges, and fell out of training since I was so used to having a coach. So, for about a year I didn't train. I put on a lot of weight and when I finally decided to run again, I had a nerve problem with my left leg. It's taken care of now, and I started running again this summer. So that's what I meant by new to running but not really. I'm not a consistent runner, but I've run before. The difference is, this time I'm doing it alone, and don't really have anyone to answer my questions, so here I am.
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I've been on and off with my running for about 3 years now but this summer is the first time I'm running alone and just to run. So I'm new to running on it's own.
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I've been on and off with my running for about 3 years now but this summer is the first time I'm running alone and just to run. So I'm new to running on it's own.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Girl [26/F] I've [30/M] been dating for 3 months just went NC on me without warning.
POST: Just as we had recently gotten intimate, we got into a minor argument (she wouldn't let me kiss her because I had a minor cold, which was a new reaction to me so I was taken back but understood). She called me selfish and needy and I said that hurt a bit and it just takes a bit for me to understand at times. She gave me the silent treatment.
Anyhow, she went distant on her texts to eventually deleting me off her buddy list after I emailed her asking what's the matter and if she wanted to end things. I courted her for 3 months and saw her on average of once a week (so her calling me needy was a shocker). I treated her with the utmost respect. Why would a girl do this? She's 26. I was always initiating to go out, but she'd always accept it and it's not like we talked everyday or texted a bunch.
I'm just hurt and in shock right now that she wouldn't even give me a proper goodbye or "this isn't working out" spiel. I've been on both sides, but I feel that's the right thing to do. It just feels like everything I put in has been discounted and tossed aside like as if my efforts and my being was trash.
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i treat this girl with respect and date her for 3 months. she suddenly goes NC without warning and cuts me off completely. why would she go out like this?
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i treat this girl with respect and date her for 3 months. she suddenly goes NC without warning and cuts me off completely. why would she go out like this?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: my [21F] bf's [22M] brother [25M] with disabilities is living in hoarding situation, and I need advice!
POST: We've been dating for about two years, and only just recently met his family last night, and his adult brother (22 years old) who lives with them and has moderate/severe autism (he has a volunteer job, is communicative at times, but spends a lot of time withdrawn in himself. I'm not sure if he's legally their dependent or not) and both him and his parents are hoarders.
They're not terrible people, they're all kind and generous, but what I saw was horrific, and that was after (I was told via my bf) *an extensive cleaning*. So I know their normal situation is much, much worse. I was afraid to eat or drink anything at their house and was clearly in shock and probably made the worst first impression, but what's more important right now is that I really think Adult Protective Services need to be called.
But I've never been in this sort of situation, and I have no clue what the fallout is going to be from this. Will they help in the form of councilors and clean up, or straight up remove the brother from their home? Should I tell my boyfriend? If I don't, will it be traced back to me? Will calling even *do* anything, as the brother's a hoarder too? The local APS website provides nothing substantial other than their phone number and operating hours.
Does anyone who's gone through something similar have any advice on what will happen when I call? I'm kind of just lost right now.
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boyfriend's autistic adult brother is living in a terrible hoarding situation, and is a hoarder himself. Have decided to call APS, but what's in the future?
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boyfriend's autistic adult brother is living in a terrible hoarding situation, and is a hoarder himself. Have decided to call APS, but what's in the future?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend (27 M) cheated on me (29 F) now we are engaged. Any success stories of relationships with rough starts?
POST: I am deeply in love with my boyfriend and he has had many problematic behaviors in the past. He has cheated on me, lied compulsively and struggled with his drinking. All of this in the first five months of our relationship. He has done a lot to improve himself: going to AA, trying to go without drinking, communicating/being transparent and going to a therapist. He has always had a huge amount of willingness/commitment to staying in our relationship. I have been struggling with pretty serious emotional dysregulation and have tried to leave the relationship so many times. I was previously diagnosed with BPD (have gone through recovery in DBT) but it makes all of this even harder that I am so sensitive emotionally... I am suppose to be happy I am engaged and this is one of my dreams but I feel so sad and doubtful from all the conflict we have been through. I am afraid he is getting tired of my processing all of this stuff and starting to withdrawal a bit too. Feel so uncertain. I would like to move forward and be healthy with him but I am not sure...
Do other people have experiences with rocky starts to a relationship that ended up working out? How did you get through it together? Any tips? Thank you!!
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Turbulent relationship with my boyfriend... now we are engaged. Looking for stories where it worked out after having rocky beginnings with your partner.
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Turbulent relationship with my boyfriend... now we are engaged. Looking for stories where it worked out after having rocky beginnings with your partner.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [26f] Question for guys
POST: When I was 18 there was a group of guy friends I hung out with a lot, mostly for video games.
In this group were 4 guys who were childhood friends, one of whom I was really physically attracted to. I never had a chance cause I wasn't his type. One of the other 4 seemed to really like me over the years. Initially I didn't want to date him since I had a thing for his friend and that seemed weird. When I was 18 I finally tried to give him a chance and found I really liked him.
We hung out alone a few times and there was one moment I remember feeling really connected to this guy, but we didn't really formally date. I found out later I was the only one who didn't seem to think we were officially 'dating'.
I knew I wasn't in a position where I wanted a serious relationship, I was young and had things I wanted to try before settling down and he meant something to me in the settling down way so I dated someone else.
This really hurt him and he told me not to speak to him again after that.
Fast forwarding to 2016, I accepted a marriage proposal from a guy who is basically perfect. Handsome, great job and future, makes me laugh and smile and I know I will have a very happy future with him.
The guy from when I was 18 hasn't spoken to me since, and vice versa, though he has for whatever reason been on my mind since. I wouldn't say I love him, I don't think I could logically speaking, but there is some feeling that I need to do something about before I can feel I can get married.
He is in a relationship as far as I know, though I don't know how serious it is.
My question for guys is how weird would it be for me to try and really contact him again?
This seems to be really bothering me and regardless of what I have done the feeling won't shake. I would feel uncomfortable getting married to my fiancee without having this resolved in some way.
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guy I really liked when I was 18 told me not to speak to him after I didn't date him but now I am getting married at 26 and still have some kind of feelings.
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guy I really liked when I was 18 told me not to speak to him after I didn't date him but now I am getting married at 26 and still have some kind of feelings.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22F] with my boyfriend [21M] of 4 years, tells me I'm only attractive when I'm happy.
POST: I've been struggling with depression and body image issues for years, before we even started seeing each other. A little over a year ago I caught him emailing a girl from high school. The emails included pictures of her in a sexual nature. We fought and he told me his reason for doing it was that we hadn't had sex yet and he was horny.
The reason we hadn't had sex yet was because I was not on birth control and he had never said anything about wanting to so I thought it wasn't that big of a deal. He was always shutting down my advances because "he was tired." He never initiates and hasn't initiated in over two years. He then tells me he doesn't find me attractive when I'm anything but happy.
Great. It's been over a year since all that happened. I'm starting to get feelings of paranoia and mistrust towards him. I never got any help for my depression. I just stopped caring about it honestly. I tried to fake it till I was actually happy. We started having sex, but he still never initiates and is always "too tired." I constantly feel like he's not attracted to me. I feel so unloved and ugly right now. He gets defensive if I try to talk to him about it, or he tells me he'll try more and nothing happens.
I know this is a mixture of my faults and his. I just want him to understand that I'm really hurt by what he said. I don't know how to get over it.
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Told me the reason he's not attracted to me is because I always seem sad. I feel gross and ugly and even more sad.
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Told me the reason he's not attracted to me is because I always seem sad. I feel gross and ugly and even more sad.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [25m] My fiancee [25f] is a sheltered person. We are likely to be living away from home for a while. Looking for advice.
POST: I'm a medical student. In a year, we will be married. In a few more years, we will move to wherever I end up doing my residency (3-4 years). Though staying in our home state is possible, it's unlikely.
She tried to live away from home once. It was a terrible experience and she only lasted a few months. So I asked her, "how do you feel about being away from home for a few years during my residency?" She says she's scared and not sure if she can take it.
Now i'm scared. Residency, especially first year, is time consuming. I'm not sure what to do or think or say. This was something we discussed earlier in our relationship and she just said "it's no big deal; I need to grow up anyway".
Yeah =/
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my woman sucks at being away from home. I will probably be going out of state for residency. What advice do you have for me?
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my woman sucks at being away from home. I will probably be going out of state for residency. What advice do you have for me?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Late Start. Getting life back "on track".
POST: BackStory:
18 years old, just graduated highschool. Father tells me not to bother with college because he taking me as an apprentice for the Electrical/Mechanical Engineering firm he worked for. 3 months later he dies of a heart attack. Loong bout of depression ensues.
Fastforward 2/3 years. Got over depression, Got a (somewhat) steady job. Still living with mother. Used Pay and the small pell grant I qualified for to take GenEd + intro classes at a community college to get a feel for what i may/may not like to peruse as a career. Then I get in an accident which mangles my left leg. Lost the job, and put my classes on hold. Recovered after about 7 months. tried to find another job; Application process goes well but when i show up for an interview and they see me walking with a limp, I'm (more or less) deemed "too risky to hire", despite me saying it isnt really problem. Goes on for years. Unable to continue classes.
Fastforward to now, about another year (24 yrs old). Still living with mother. Had a very rough financial year, last year (lost the house we were living in for the past 7 years - and to move to an.... extremely run down part of town). Managed to land a job a couple ago months only because a friend of mine vouched for me and noone else wanted the job.
Right now, Im not happy with my current situation. I want to get myself back on track. Im just unsure how to do that.
One hand I've friends and family telling me to go back to and finish college.
The other hand has just as many friends and family saying "a degree isnt worth the paper its printed on", urging me to take up a practical hobby (like carpentry or coding) while you work, then looking for an internship somewhere once I'm good enough at it.
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Started working / college late due to family tragedy. several years late. Then an accident delays it even more.. little practical skills, what skills i have are not too useful.
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Started working / college late due to family tragedy. several years late. Then an accident delays it even more.. little practical skills, what skills i have are not too useful.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hey Reddit, is my landlord allowed to evict me? HELP
POST: So recently, my girlfriend and I bought a dog, our lease does not allow this. Our landlord never had visible proof that the dog belonged to us and stayed in the house. He saw him once and may have heard a bark at some point but nothing concrete.
We are planning to move out and have arranged a new place that allows for our dog. We have 1 1/2 months left on our current lease and our landlord (while we weren't home) posted a note (not a legal notice) on our door explaining our breach of lease and said we have 3 days to vacate or fix the default. We've looked online and consulted a few other people that have explained that this isn't the "legal" process for eviction and in reality we have much longer that 3 days/36 hours. We are planning on moving out in exactly 1 week anyway.
Is our current landlord going about the situation incorrectly and trying to take advantage of our assumed ignorance? Can he really kick us out without a court order? Does the "eviction notice" have to be presented by someone other than our land lord?
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We have a dog, it's not allowed, landlord is evicting us by simply putting a typed letter with his letterhead on our front door. Is that allowed?
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We have a dog, it's not allowed, landlord is evicting us by simply putting a typed letter with his letterhead on our front door. Is that allowed?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How to have difficult conversations? (m27, f28)
POST: Long story short - a few rumours went around about my boyfriend cheating on me. Soon after a guy who I know wants to destroy our relationship and keeps putting my hand down his pants told me that it wasn't cheating, that it was such a full blown affair that I was in fact the other woman.
All I want to do is get to the bottom of the situation so we/I can move on with our lives in the fashion most appealing to us (which for me would be to work on our relationship and move forward with that). However, I need the honesty of the situation to do that. But this is difficult. I don't want to go in guns blazing, but I want to protect myself. I'm trying to impress upon him the fact that honesty is the beginning of the healing process, whatever that process looks like. And I don't want my own insecurity to sabotage a good thing.
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How do I impress upon my boyfriend the importance for honesty, while stopping myself from getting pre-emptively defensive when he's trying to give it?
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How do I impress upon my boyfriend the importance for honesty, while stopping myself from getting pre-emptively defensive when he's trying to give it?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: M[21] I am about to ask a F[20] out, but see her rarely in person. Help me out here!!!
POST: So as I mentioned in the title, I have a class with this girl and we hit it off good (from what I can tell). We chat before class begins and text every so often, and we see each other personally in class every Tuesday and Thursday. I really like her and want to ask her out for coffee. But there is a problem, I don't want to ask her in class (i.e. its a strict lecture like class), and the only time I would get a chance to ask her personally is after class. The problem with this is that she always walks out with her friend EVERY SINGLE TIME. I figured that calling her is the next best thing. Is this okay, I need to know if it is or not.
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I rarely see this girl in person, but we talk to each other quite a bit, is asking her out for a date over the phone bad?
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I rarely see this girl in person, but we talk to each other quite a bit, is asking her out for a date over the phone bad?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: TV show argument. Was I really in the wrong?
POST: So my housemate was watching the Philly's game and it was the bottom of the 6th inning and I wanted to watch the new South Park. So I changed the channel and he got pissed that he was missing the 7th inning. Well, by the time South Park was over it became the bottom of the 7th inning. In the end, we ended up watching a good portion of the end of the 6th inning because of commercial break and I missed about 5 minutes of South Park because he wanted to finish the bottom of the 6th inning. And then while South Park was on he ended up missing the top of the 7th.
My argument was that he's got three whole innings to watch and South Park is a measly half hour of the 1.5 hours he has left of the game. Not to mention during every commercial break I switched to the game for him so he could stay updated on what happened. Also, baseball is a slow as fuck game. Like half the time nothing is actually happening, the cameras just zoom in the crowd and players that are preparing to go next.
Anyways, now he's pissed at me because I watched South Park and he missed a little over half an inning where nothing actually happened. He also thinks that because he rarely makes requests that he deserved for this one to be granted. Guy, it's fucking South Park, one of the best shows to ever grace the tube.
So what I want to know is: Am I douchebag for taking over the TV to watch my half hour of South Park? And is there anything I can say/do to smooth the situation over? He's still a little upset about it, I think to him it's now the principle of the situation, but I feel totally differently about it and I just want him to understand that sports are really not that big a deal not to mention he only cared about this team now that it's the playoffs.
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I wanted to watch South Park; housemate wanted to watch Philly's game. I forced South Park and he's pissed because he missed 30 minutes of at least 1.5 hours remaining in a baseball game.
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I wanted to watch South Park; housemate wanted to watch Philly's game. I forced South Park and he's pissed because he missed 30 minutes of at least 1.5 hours remaining in a baseball game.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of 1 year, won't have sex with me before or on his leg day
POST: I have been dating my boyfriend Jake for almost a year. We go to the same school. He competes for our school's powerlifting team, and is very good. Unfortunately for me, his obsession with the sport is starting to take over his life. He gets hurt a lot, and this past month he told me he found that sex irritates his hip. He decided that this meant we can't get have sex on days when he does squats, or the day before. This means no sex on Saturday, Sunday, Wednesday, or Thursday. Because we both have classes and he has trouble staying awake on Friday evenings, our sex life has gone from several times a week to once or twice per week.
I would prefer to have a lot more sex, and this is frustrating to me, but I'm not sure how to approach him about it. How can I talk to him about this? I know I need to communicate my needs to him, but I have never been in a relationship before him and we have never had any problems so I'm new to this. I'm also not sure how to get to him because lifting weights means the whole world to him. It's so important to him that he keeps a framed picture of some Russian guy next to his bed that he claims has his world record, and he skips family events if they keep him away from the gym.
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Boyfriend is obsessed with lifting weights, won't have sex with me on leg day, not sure how to communicate that I won't more sex.
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Boyfriend is obsessed with lifting weights, won't have sex with me on leg day, not sure how to communicate that I won't more sex.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My gf[25/f] and I [28/m] disagree on religion. What to do?
POST: My gf and I have been dating for approximately 1 year 4 months. We click on almost every level, we're both in grad school together and we spend a lot of time together too. She has very strict parents and she basically kept me a secret from them(especially her father) for quite a long time. If you had asked me 6 months ago if I was going to propose, I would have emphatically said yes. However, within the last 6 months one big issue has come up before us.
Her parents are Catholic and she said that unless I was willing to convert than her parents would never accept me. I told her that I wasn't really comfortable with converting. I'm Buddhist myself, but not a strict one. My issue with converting is that my gf is barely catholic as it is. She hasn't gone to Church ever since she moved here for grad school, she even lies to her father about going to Church. Not trying to point out flaws in their religion, but I feel as though the parents are Catholic for face value. The father gambles like crazy, the eldest sons in the family have children out of wedlock. Even my gf said "Just convert so you can make them happy?"
This has caused a lot of tension in our relationship as of late because her father just found out about me and was not happy to find out that I wasn't Catholic. If my gf was super strict and went to church every Sunday... If her parents super passionate about their religion and was understanding then that's something I could get on board with and I would maybe consider converting. It seems as though they just want me to convert for the sake of converting...
Any advice? Anybody go through the same thing? Not trying to make this an anti religion thread so please try to keep things away from that =]
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My gf is catholic. Not really catholic. Her parents want me to convert. I don't want to.
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My gf is catholic. Not really catholic. Her parents want me to convert. I don't want to.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [31 M] am not a desirable romantic partner. I would like to know how to improve myself.
POST: I [31 M] have been in one relationship. We met on Twitter. I dated her [30 F] (This was 4 years ago, I was 27), long-distance, relationship lasted a few months. She broke up with me over Facebook without given a reason; does not talk to me.
I have a fairly small circle of IRL friends [20s/30s M/F], mostly women, and a larger circle of online friends [20s/30s M/F]. I've been increasingly lonely, especially as so many of my friends are getting married/pregnant. I've been trying "everything" to meet someone: Internet dating, speed-dating, asking friends to fix me up, etc. for quite some time now. This isn't working. Nobody is interested in me.
I've decided to quit looking for a relationship for now while I any attempt to find someone to date for now and instead try to work on myself, but I'm not sure what's wrong with me and what I should be focusing on improving or how to set realistic goals so I know I'm actually achieving any change.
I have chronic depression, and anxiety, low self-esteem, and Asperger syndrome (AS).
I hope my post makes sense. Thank you.
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I [31 M] have given up looking for a relationship for now. I need to know how to improve myself but I'm not sure how.
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I [31 M] have given up looking for a relationship for now. I need to know how to improve myself but I'm not sure how.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23F] with my boyfriend [23M] of 3 years, he's traveling overseas without me and I'm FOMOing hard
POST: Throwaway because my boyfriend knows my regular username. So my boyfriend and I have been talking about moving to Germany in a few years and traveling across Europe together (we both live in the U.S.). The company he works for is a Germany-based company, so he has always had hopes of being able to travel there for work. He recently got the news that he will be traveling to Germany, Wales, and London in a month for two weeks through his work.
I am ecstatic for him because I know how badly he has wanted to travel there, but I can't help but have a little FOMO (fear of missing out) because I wanted to experience Europe together for the first time when we went. Now he will be going to many places we wanted to visit without me, so it won't be as much of a new experience for the both of us when we go.
Also, he will be traveling during the time I had planned a very long tattoo appointment which he promised to attend with me so I could have someone's hand to squeeze. Now I have to find someone else to commit to sitting with me for 6 hours while I get tattooed :/
Any advice on how to shake this FOMO I'm feeling would be greatly appreciated. As I previously stated, I am more than excited and happy for him because I know he has wanted to go to Europe more than anything. I just wish we could have experienced it together for the first time.
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Boyfriend will be traveling to Germany, London, and Wales for two weeks for business while I'm wishing I could be experiencing those countries for the first time with him.
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Boyfriend will be traveling to Germany, London, and Wales for two weeks for business while I'm wishing I could be experiencing those countries for the first time with him.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (30+f) and bf (30+m) together 2yr 3m. Lease is up in june want to end relationship but extremely codependent.
POST: Im in a db situation (sex 1x amonth and its lame) ive talked to him many time and his efforts are null. He sold me a dream of a future that I feel was all part of his game. I want to end it.
Im gonna jump to the last straw. This week he had a business trip. He rarely grooms his pubes but 2 days before he naired. We hardly have sex and the only time he groomed was the beginning of our relationship. He only responds to my texts. Isnt asking about my day and didnt call me last night. I get hes busy at the convention but I also feel him nairing was opening for opportunities. what would you think? I cant go on with having suspicions. I cant go on even having no proof of cheating. The lack of sex between us and his broken promises have depleted my self esteem. No man may ever want me and while that does scare me I cant keep making myself crazy. I need words of encouragement.
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bf randomly nairs for a business trip. We are in a deadbedroom (sex about 1x a month) What would you think?
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bf randomly nairs for a business trip. We are in a deadbedroom (sex about 1x a month) What would you think?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M20] dont know how I should feel about my gf [F20] twerking at the club.
POST: We have been together for almost 3 years and she likes to dance at clubs I on the other hand do not like to dance at all we have two very different interpretations of what we consider fun but the idea of what she is doing to other guys at the club makes me feel uncomfortable.
We are an interracial couple she is black and im latino so i am aware that to some degree it is cultural and to me it is a bit of a culture shock but I would just love some insight as to how other people see this situation from a cultural, racial, and relationship perspective because I try to culturally adapt to this but it is a bit of an obstacle for me as I just find dancing in general as awkward
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relationship of 3 years, interracial, wondering from an outside pov how I should feel about gf twerking on random guys at the club
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relationship of 3 years, interracial, wondering from an outside pov how I should feel about gf twerking on random guys at the club
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [21F] brother-in-law [33M] just confessed that I turn him on. How should I approach this?
POST: A couple months ago my family and I went to visit my sister in law for vacation. They have 4 wheelers and we had to go in pairs. I got to ride with my brother in law, who I've always cared about and has never disrespected me to this point. My sister didn't think anything of it either.
Well we leave and they started having issues (nothing to do with me). He was caught cheating among other issues, but my sister loves him and I understand her decision to stick by his side.
Fast forward a couple months to now, I text him asking about a pair of shoes and he brings up the 4 wheeler ride. I try to steer the conversation away, but he then says it turned him on and he knows I had to have felt it! I didn't respond because I didn't know what to say and so he texted again saying never mind.
I don't know if I should respond to him? If I should send screen shots to my sister (I don't want to start more issues)? Should I just avoid visiting for a while? I don't want to get in the middle of this. I love my sister and brother in law and respect their family very much.
(By the way it's important to note I caught my sister cheating once on my brother in law and I was the one that told him about it. My sister and brother in law have a long history together and I don't think they are ever going to break up, regardless it's not my business. Ever since that though, I was looked down on by my sister and family and we finally have a good relationship again and I don't want to ruin it again by sticking my nose where it doesn't belong.)
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Brother in law confessed I turn him on and I'm not sure how to respond and if I should tell my sister or not.
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Brother in law confessed I turn him on and I'm not sure how to respond and if I should tell my sister or not.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: me [17 M] and my Girlfriend [19 F] of 1.5 years are facing issues because of her parents.
POST: I have been dating my girlfriend for 1.5 years. Things have been going great until this past Saturday, when her parents and her got into an argument and her parents blamed me for her being "negative" (A common theme in their arguments, bringing my name up).
(My girlfriend's parents and I have always had a rocky relationship. They don't like me because I do not like to party or drink like they do. They see this as a weird behavior I guess. )
My girlfriend and her parents got into a simple argument and my name was brought up as the cause for my girlfriend's "negative" attitude. My girlfriend later texted me saying she can't handle how her parents hate her because of their not liking me. She wants to break up with me because she can't pick me over her parents. I don't want to lose her, and she doesn't seem like she's fighting for us at all.
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Girlfriends parents don't like me and fight with her over it, she wants to break up so they won't hate her anymore. How do I mend the situation and make sure my girlfriend wants to stay with me?
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Girlfriends parents don't like me and fight with her over it, she wants to break up so they won't hate her anymore. How do I mend the situation and make sure my girlfriend wants to stay with me?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I (21 F) win back my boyfriend (22 M)?
POST: My boyfriend of almost a year recently broke up with me because he felt like I don't trust him. I've been cheated on in the past and the result was me being very protective of my feelings. I do trust him 100% and I'm usually able to remind myself of that but we've had a couple drunk fights where I couldn't and got mad at him for no reason. I don't know what to do but I love him and I just want to be with him. I just need some advice of what I could say to him so he might consider getting back together or making this a break instead of being completely done.
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My boyfriend (22 M) of a year broke up with me (21 F) because he felt like I didn't trust him.
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My boyfriend (22 M) of a year broke up with me (21 F) because he felt like I didn't trust him.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [17M] Guy asked her [17F] for drinks. Any advice?
POST: So, basically here's my situation: We have been going to the same English course for like 3 months now. At first, i didn't know her but i was determined to ask someone out. So there was this blonde and blue eyes. I tried, got rejected even before asking (what a bitch). Then, i was walking down the street with a friend of hers and just happend naturally. I asked her friend to go to Starbucks with me. Her friend got a little nervous and made up an excuse. I didn't went to SB and to my luck we saw each other two blocks ahead. I said i realized i had no money left and she laughed. My intentions were clear here. Almost died of akwardness.
I took like a one month reccess and started over again. Casually, i started going to the same bus stop of this girl (i think you can kinda see my intentions here) and talking to her till her bus came. Last time i saw her we settled to go for a drinks next time we saw each other (1 day before 2 week summer recess)
Now, she came back from a family trip and im seeing her next tuesday.
So, here's the problem: as you read, i didn't asked her out. We are going just for drinks or something. I think it's pretty obvious that i like her.
Anyway, if things go well im planning on walking her home or something and in the end telling her something sweet like she's intelligent for e.x and that i really like her. Then, asking for hee number and a second date to the movies.
What do you think of my "plan"? Any advice?
PD: As you can see im kinda unconfident (maybe because i never kissed nor been in a relationship) so i you could link me media to be more confident with girls that would be great!
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Insecure guy asked her for drinks. She agreed. Im taking her to the dribks and planning on making my intetions clear at the end of the date. Also, link me content to be more confident with girls.
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Insecure guy asked her for drinks. She agreed. Im taking her to the dribks and planning on making my intetions clear at the end of the date. Also, link me content to be more confident with girls.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: I just need to vent. Bullying will not be stopped. Ever. We need to take a different approach to this than 'STOP BULLYING'...
POST: I just need to vent.
Why can't the world realize. You can NOT stop bullying. You CAN however, teach your children and those around you not to take everything so seriously and to the heart.
I am SO sick of everyone losing their shit… over the slightest joke made AT another person, instead of for them. **I got in shit for work for posting a pic of a honey boo boo comparison. They said I was a bully.**
**Bullies are not going to stop bullying. Not now, not ever.** I don't mean bullies can't reform, I'm just saying there will always be a new generation of bullies to pick up the slack.
Kids don't realize how harsh they're being… but no matter how well they're raised… peer pressure will always make them crack… at least once…
I was bullied in public school/ high school. I cried myself to sleep lots of nights. I'm not seeking pity here.. I'm just saying-I'm sure 90% of people were also bullied in a life changing way..
But what my parents taught me.. is 'Don't listen to other people, be better than them, and you will come out as a better person'. .. Tough it out.. you'll be ok.
They didn't baby me and say oh you poor girl here let's go talk to your teachers and get them suspended and have it result in even more bullying for you.
I know social media makes it worse than when I was a kid.. But I think kids will handle bullying better if they're taught that in 5 years from now.. your public bitchfest on facebook is going to look PRETTY lame.. to everyone.. probably even your current group of friends.
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I think the parents/teachers/role models need to cool it on the 'stop bullying' campaign... And seriously consider an action plan for a 'self confidence' and 'how to properly.. and responsibly use social media' campaign
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I think the parents/teachers/role models need to cool it on the 'stop bullying' campaign... And seriously consider an action plan for a 'self confidence' and 'how to properly.. and responsibly use social media' campaign
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Afraid of my (29f) husband (27m) leaving me at his cousins wedding.
POST: Okay well, not *leaving* leaving. I'm not very good with crowds- they make me incredibly anxious to the point where I'll have a panic attack. Knowing my husband will, at least, be there with me usually helps me feel more comfortable around crowds. I'll know a fair bit of people there, so it's not like I won't have anyone to talk to. It's just the sheer amount of people that makes me freak out.
My husband, however, doesn't understand this. He enjoys going from one set of people he likes to another, and usually in ways that would a) be impossible for me to follow him or b) make it very creepy if I were to try. He always tells me I should just try opening up and talking to people without him, but with the amount (even over 20 people) will start to make me nervous.
I don't want to hinder him in any way, and I don't want to be a "ball and chain" to him. But I also feel like he's a little bit obligated to me as his wife to reassure me if I'm scared or anxious. What should I do? Is there a way of explaining this rationally, or am I just being unreasonable.
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Husband and I are going to a wedding with lots of people. He likes moving around and talking to people, and I hate being in crowds. Is there a way we can reconcile these, or am I being unreasonable?
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Husband and I are going to a wedding with lots of people. He likes moving around and talking to people, and I hate being in crowds. Is there a way we can reconcile these, or am I being unreasonable?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: 22 M. I was rejected a couple of weeks ago but still want to ask the girl again
POST: I've been hanging out with a girl I like for the last couple of months and really like her. Two weeks ago we were at a lounge and I told her I was attracted to her and wondering if she shared the same feelings. She said she didn't. It hurt more than usual because I really thought I had a chance since we've been getting along for a while. So it's been 2 weeks and I've tried to get over it by not contacting her, but she has messaged me a couple of times since then to say hi. I've been thinking about asking her again just to be 100% sure that there's nothing there. Should I? How should I go about asking again?
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I asked a friend if we shared mutual attraction. She said she didn't. I want to ask again, but not sure if it's a good idea or should I just accept the rejection and move on.
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I asked a friend if we shared mutual attraction. She said she didn't. I want to ask again, but not sure if it's a good idea or should I just accept the rejection and move on.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Young with terrible credit
POST: Hey PF
I'm 22 years old, and have managed to drop my credit score to below 600. This started with a Best Buy Credit card that my 19 year old self "knew" I would be ok obtaining. I ended up unable to keep up with payments, defaulted, it went to collections, and I was eventually able to pay it off after a generous tax return, but not after taking damage from it.
Also, I am currently in a position where I am unable to make payments on my student loans, and I think this is what has wrecked me so hard. I pay my car, phone, rent, and credit card payments on time (my card is constantly maxed out as well) but my score stays low due to my student loans, which are about $7000 all together.
My reason for posting is this; What are some suggestions to getting back on track? I'm currently trying to save up to get my real estate license to bring in more money (I was offered a partnership with one of the top realtors in my area) But I'm really struggling to even put that much extra money together, which amounts to around $1400.
What info can I give to you guys that would give enough information to get a little advice on how I can better my score and start saving better?
Thanks in advance, and I'm sorry for the length of the post.
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Credit card and a small amount of student loan debt drowning my score, can't afford to keep up. What do I do now?
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Credit card and a small amount of student loan debt drowning my score, can't afford to keep up. What do I do now?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19m] and my girlfriend [19f] recently broke up, I dont want it to end.
POST: Me and this girl were dating for around 3 weeks and things were going really well until I had a crazy as hell week at work that put me over the ringer. I had also just received some bad news from my doctor aswell about my health, so needless to say, my mind was in shambles. During the 4th week of our relationship, I had been texting her a bit asking her schedule and wanting to hang out really bad, to take my mind off of work. I came off a bit creepy/desperate/came on too strong, and I could kinda tell something was going wrong. Her mood towards me that week seemed to change from interested, to putting up with our conversations. Anyway, I made plans for us to go hiking by our local lake, there I had planned to sort of clear the air and explain my recent behaviour a little, but I also felt she would flake on me. The day comes and she ends up flaking. I sent her a text just to see if she still thought we were doin something because I was on my way somewhere else at the time. [She waited 5 hours to text me this text message. ](
So me being tired from work and shopping/trying to disregard her flake, sort of just agreed to her texts without starting any conflicts. [I say this, and i know this is soooo beta, but I was not really thinking at the time.] There were a couple more back and fourths with her saying she was sorry/etc and I told her not to be because it was only a month long. Well its been a week and a half, and I really dont want it to be completely over. We have not contacted eacother since the breakup, and I have no plans to contact her, as that would show great weakness on my part. I was figuring though, her birthday is in 2 months, and I was thinking that might be a good way to sort of "catch up" with her and grab a quick lunch and relaunch things. Idk what to do, im so shit at relationships.
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Me and this girl were dating for a month, I fucked up and made myself look super desperate and scared her off. She didnt seem unpleasant in her "break up" text, and I think I might still have a shot.
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Me and this girl were dating for a month, I fucked up and made myself look super desperate and scared her off. She didnt seem unpleasant in her "break up" text, and I think I might still have a shot.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: A question of character
POST: I (24f) have lived a very sheltered life,have been quite abused (in all categories), and struggle with many health issues. What I am beginning to see in not just my SO of 5 years but others is how different their characters are from mine.
Friends, it does not really bother me much. I mean i sometimes trip out on what they say and their selection of words but I don't seem to judge them as much as my SO (obviously).
I have been noticing that my SO, in various situations would do something that in my opinion would be morally wrong. The thing is, all of them are literally hypothetical. Like we would watch a movie or read about something and he would say, "oh if that was me I would have totally done blahblahblah". Usually the blahblahblah part is something that I find totally the wrong thing to do morally.
I was raised in a very abusive household and yet i'd not hesitate to open doors for elderly, try to help out homeless, and I am not against the world at all. My SO is opposite but he is totally affectionate to me and it just seems like his words do not match his actions towards me and those who are close.
Should I be worried about this? I understand everyone is different and I totally respect people for their choices but it just seems like my SO would be a villain in most hypothetical situations whereas, I would be a hero.
Has anyone ever encountered something like this? Is it a red flag? I mean he has loved me through all my faults, disabilities and handicaps which I think takes someone special to do so. Also, he is not abusive or negative to me or anyone at all.
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My SO is more of a Slytherin whereas i'd be in Gryffindor for lack of better example. His hypothetical choices scare me.
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My SO is more of a Slytherin whereas i'd be in Gryffindor for lack of better example. His hypothetical choices scare me.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[24/m] don't know what the next step should be with my[22/f]
POST: My gf and I have been going out for the past 1.5 years and I don't think she actually cares about me anymore. She describes herself as a "heartless bitch" all the time and I am the one who always says that no she isn't and all that nice stuff. Her roommate hates me for no reason( gf agrees with me on this one) and her other close friends thinks that I am a perfect match for her. At the beginning of our relationship, we would always wake up and first thing we would do is text each other good morning, and now for the past 2-3 weeks its only me texting her and she doesn't ( or if she does its only like once or twice) We are both in college ( same school-same major but i am one year her senior). I am always the one who calls her, and what not. I called her last night and asked her why doesn't she call me and her response is "its cause I thought you were busy with school work". I was upset cause its thanksgiving, it would be nice to get a call from my SO. Whenever I ask my gf to text me sweet stuff, she tells me that she likes me because I am a low maintenance bf so I don't say that anymore. I am the more outgoing of the two, and I definitely could have hooked up with different girls during our break (my neighbor are all girls and they usually invite me and my roomies over for wine night), but I stayed loyal to my girl and even though i did go over for wine, I didn't do anything after.
so what do you guys think, should I break up with my current gf or stay longer?
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gf doesn't put in that much effort into the relationship as I do, yet we are both busy individuals. Break up or no?
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gf doesn't put in that much effort into the relationship as I do, yet we are both busy individuals. Break up or no?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I [19, M] pathetic for having such a hard time moving on from my ex [21, F]?
POST: I've been having a ridiculously hard time moving on from my ex. We had a very unhealthy relationship, with her leaving her ex for me, and then leaving me for her ex, with numerous issues in between. But when things were good, things were incredible. She is being very closed off, although we both admit that we're still in love with each other, but that us together isn't the best thing right now.
The problem is, she has someone (her previous boyfriend of five years, now current boyfriend again) to lead her through this, while I have no one. I fell into the greatest love of my life, and to have my heart broken, and abandoned, is such a soul crushing feeling. But I really loved who I was with her, and the fact that we have to see each other at work never lets the love die. I think about her constantly, and feel so empty without her.
Recently she has been pushing me away (because our talks of missing each other aren't healthy for her relationship, obviously), and although its been two months, I'm still having a really hard time moving on. The two biggest reasons are guilt (flirting with other girls feels like I'm cheating on her), and I just feel I'll never love as much as I did with her.
I guess I just wanted to know if I'm pathetic for being hung onto this for so long, and if there was any advice for fixing this situation. This is all written during a moment where I am very emotional, so I can clarify if ppl have any questions.
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Having a hard time moving on due to feelings of guilt and loneliness, want to know if its normal/how to fix it.
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Having a hard time moving on due to feelings of guilt and loneliness, want to know if its normal/how to fix it.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How and when should I tell my parents I do not believe in what they believe in?
POST: I live in the states, and I am 16. My parents are from Ghana, Africa and are very strict christians. I am an atheist and I have to attend church 3 days a week, which is interfering with my homework and social life. I'd like to be able to not attend and do what I need to do throughout the week.
My parents also want me to go to a University, but don't want to pay for it at all. I've decided I most likely will not go to college due to tuition costs. My parents would be against this because they come from poor families and have worked hard for everything they have. They believe essentially that no matter what the cost a good education will bring in lots of money and make me happy. I do not agree with this at all.
I don't have any fear of ex-communication at all if you're considering it. My dad has essentially had kids to keep my mom from divorcing him, and my mom isn't any better.
So how and when should I go about telling them this?
Should I even tell them seeing since I'm moving out in 2 years anyhow?
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My parents and I have conflicting views. How should I tell them that our views do not agree and keep from the requirements they have set up for me?
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My parents and I have conflicting views. How should I tell them that our views do not agree and keep from the requirements they have set up for me?
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: When did NC start working for you?
POST: first love [24m] and I [20f] broke up 9 months ago but only decided to initiate strict NC 3 weeks ago. I still think about him and miss him constantly and I know he's been seeing another girl so that makes it about 100 times worse. I lost a lot of my social circle due to the breakup so I'm alone a lot while he's with good friends all the time. I just feel crappy a lot and constantly have this lingering pain and him in the back of my mind and I'm scared it'll never go away. Can someone share some personal stories of hardship so I feel less alone? Will NC eventually do what it's supposed to at some point. I don't feel much different now than I did when we initiated it.
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Need some reassurance that NC will do what everyone says it does because I'm afraid this lingering pain and lonliness I have will never leave.
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Need some reassurance that NC will do what everyone says it does because I'm afraid this lingering pain and lonliness I have will never leave.
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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (F/22) am antisocial - go back and forth between wishing I had friends, and not wanting to deal with the hassle/getting easily annoyed at people
POST: I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else is like this or if I'm just weird? I'm pretty antisocial in general, don't have many friends, would rather relax at home then go out etc.
somedays I desperately wish I had a group of friends to do stuff with. Other days I don't want to deal with that. Like if I start talking to someone new and they want to talk every day or ask to hang out a lot I immediately get the feeling they're being clingy, don't want to do anything with them etc and kind of react the same way towards romantic relationships also?
How do I nicely let people know, no I don't want to hang out with you multiple times a week and talk every day, without coming off as a bitch?
As I said don't have many friends, also never been in "a relationship" and am a virgin (part my antisocialness, part haven't tried, part don't want someone hanging on me 24/7).. And I feel really shitty about it. Like I'm way falling behind other people my age in these departments.
I've tried to push myself to "get over it" and just deal/be around people more but ugh. Some days I wish I had someone I was close to and other days it's a relief I don't. I don't think I'm asexual, I have sexual *feelings* but not toward anyone in particular. People just annoy me.
Is there something wrong with me for feeling this way? How do I fix it? It's not that I'm afraid of getting close to people. I do that pretty easily actually. I know this probably comes off as like I am a really SNOBBY person but I'm not. I get along with most people and am friendly.
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am I crazy for being so antisocial and not wanting to deal with the hassle of relationships? I wish I felt differently and feel I'm missing out on a lot in life
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am I crazy for being so antisocial and not wanting to deal with the hassle of relationships? I wish I felt differently and feel I'm missing out on a lot in life
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TITLE: My (22F) boyfriend (22M) wants to go to a twerk contest and invited me to go with him...I feel really uncomfortable already.
POST: There's a group of really trashy people in my area that throw parties that revolve around a bunch of half naked girls acting really trashy and slutty and doing a lot of cocaine off each other's boobs, butts, other body parts... This group is holding a twerk contest at a local bar and my boyfriend is all ecstatic about going. He did invite me to go and I said I would, but I'm a nervous wreck.
Yes he did invite me, but I still feel weird about it. He sarcastically told me not to be jealous of the other girls, just to "grab his boner and everything will be fine." It's all he's been talking about all day. Am I wrong for feeling a little bit down about myself? I do have my share of insecurities, I don't get mad at him for checking out other women, I just feel really uncomfortable already and I'm not even there yet.
He told me I didn't have to go, and not to come if I'm going to be negative the entire time. I would feel even more uncomfortable if I were to let him go alone with his friends. He's going to be staring and gawking at a bunch of trashy girls shake their asses while I stand there feeling uncomfortable and somewhat down. He said not to worry, seeing all those girls will just make him want me?
How can I go and be an awesome girlfriend and feel comfortable with him out and out staring and getting a hard on over these girls? I want to make him happy and I want both of us to have fun.
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my boyfriend wants to go to a twerk contest and invited me to go, however I am somewhat insecure and a nervous wreck about going. How can we go together and both have fun?
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my boyfriend wants to go to a twerk contest and invited me to go, however I am somewhat insecure and a nervous wreck about going. How can we go together and both have fun?
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TITLE: Me [20 M] got left by my girlfriend [18F] of 2.5 years one month ago and having a very bad time.
POST: I'm 20 and for 2 and a half years i was together with the most amazing girl ever. She could make me so happy. Last month she decided she couldn't be with me anymore. I gave her everything she wanted but the reasons she gave for breaking up were:
* I wasn't social enough according to her: Yes i was silent around her friends because they were strange people and i didn't get a good feeling with them. With my friends and random group of strangers that happen to be at house parties i get along just fine and talk to everyone
*I gave up on things: I don't know where she got this from, i usually don't give up on things but it seems she made up for herself that i did.
*future: she thought we wanted different things for the future, even though we had discussed it quite a lot and we seemed to want the same things. and still, she has 5 years of college ahead...way too early to start thinking about things like that, our view would prolly change anyway
right now we still talk everyday...i really need it because i don't have anyone else to talk to. My best friend is busy and every time he has he spends with me, but still i can't stop thinking about her...the way she made me smile, her beautiful eyes...i just... :( i feel broken and alone...my plans thrown off the table...i'm so unsure about everything right now. Everything reminds me off her because she used to be here all the time.
I got 5 exams this week, i'm going to fail most of them. I really don't want to but my mind keeps wandering off into the past and i cry for most of the days , i even cry myself to sleep each night.
we still text all day and thats the only thing keeping me from crying, i feel alone if we aren't.
I really don't know what to do with my life right now, i don't have a lot of money to spend so can't do a lot :( i want to go to the gym and stuff but i simply don't have the funds to do so
thanks for listening to my story!
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girl of my life broke up with me, i can't get over it and don't know what to do with my life
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girl of my life broke up with me, i can't get over it and don't know what to do with my life
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TITLE: My mum and uncle 1 is being threatened by uncle 2
POST: For this I'll call Uncle 1 Harry and Uncle 2 Justin, hopefully this'll make things easier to understand.
Okay, so last night uncle Harry was sent a message from Justin which demanded £10,000 from both my mum and Harry or "There will be hell" and he knows where we both live.
Many years ago Harry and Justin co-owned a shop which they both had a share in but they fell out and Justin left the family a note saying that he had decided to disown the family. Harry could not afford to keep up the shop on his own so he had to remortgage his parents house. Through these years my uncle Justin has not contacted most of the family and we had no idea of what he was doing, where he was living e.t.c.
When he was younger Justin tended to mix with the wrong crowd and at one point he apparently was involved with an organised crime group. He has always had money problems and has had my mum pay for his car in the past because he didn't have the money. He also ran away from him parents home too for a long time when he was younger. I also found out that he has asked my cousin for money too.
I don't know all the details of my mum and uncles' relationships but I know that my uncle mingled with the wrong crowds and disowned the family and I haven't seen him for years. My mum can't walk around the house without looking worried. I've never done a post before so hopefully this all makes sense.
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My uncle has threatened my mum and other uncle demanding £10,000 or "there will be hell". He knows where we live.
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My uncle has threatened my mum and other uncle demanding £10,000 or "there will be hell". He knows where we live.
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TITLE: Do you ever feel that maybe you haven't slept with enough people? (24/f, long-term monogamist.)
POST: (24/f) I have had two boyfriends in my entire life- each lasting 4+ years. Never really got a chance to sleep or date around. I know that men prefer younger women, and I feel the older I get the harder it will be for me to sleep with men I find attractive, and who find me attractive as well. I have always had trouble finding guys I would like to date or sleep with too.
Only problem is I have a boyfriend right now, we've been dating 4 years. I love him a lot but we've had a lot of ups and downs, he treated me poorly in the past, but I had forgiven him. Even though I had forgiven him, it's still never quite the same. I guess the combination of the past plus the fact we've been together awhile, etc. kind of contribute to me feeling bored with him sometimes. I just don't want to wake up one day and feel I missed out.
I don't really know if I want to dump him or if I should. Like I said, he brings me a lot of happiness and I love him and don't want to hurt him. I feel conflicted.
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24/F scared of missing out in life for only having 2 bfs. However, I love my bf. I am conflicted.
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24/F scared of missing out in life for only having 2 bfs. However, I love my bf. I am conflicted.
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TITLE: My girlfriend [20F] and I [21M] want to move in together. Her parents are problematic
POST: First, we've been dating about 7 months now. However, we've known each other personally for 7 years.
Anyway, we decided to move in together because,
1) It would be cheaper
2) We work opposite shifts, so living together would give us more time together
3) We've agreed we wouldn't want to get married before we live together for at least a year, and we feel close enough with our relationship dynamic being perfect right now that it's a very real possibility to happen soon.
Now her parents are very strict Christians. I'm atheist and she's pantheist, so we don't hold the same ideals. However they are extremely against living together before marriage and really controlling on this aspect. She doesn't want to tell them before she moves out, but they want to be involved in the apartment search.
The likely scenario is after we move in together, her whole family stops talking to her for a few years. That's exactly what happened to every other sibling that did the same thing, and she said she would be devastated and wants to wait to say anything for as long as possible. Any suggestions?
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Long time friend, shorter term girlfriend wants to move in together, but if she does her whole family disowns her for a few years or permanently. Suggestions?
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Long time friend, shorter term girlfriend wants to move in together, but if she does her whole family disowns her for a few years or permanently. Suggestions?
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