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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [220 M] with my girlfriend [20 M/F], she has no life other than me and work and it's killing me
POST: We've been together for a while, I'm technically unemployed but looking for a job, I've just come out of uni like last month.
She's had a job for about 6months, she doesn't really go out, even with the work lot, she just cant be bothered, she gets too tired and going out isnt really for her... this leads to the problem where she wants to be with me 24/7. I have my own friends, who I would do anything for, I can honestly say I wouldn't be alive if it wasn't for them, let alone graduating uni. I have my family and I'm looking for jobs and have very limited money until I get one.
She always whines when I'm not there, and wants to be with me 24/7 and it feels very suffocating. she has a few friends, not many, but doesnt really see them or go out that much. I do encourage her, to go out with work lot (they go out quite often) but she doesn't bother, is too tired or makes up some excuse. I encourage her to have a hobby or sport or see friends or go home and see friends, but she makes it seem like it's a personal attack or I don't want to be with her.
I do try to do things with her, shopping, dates, cinema, my passions and interests and try new things, again most the time she cant be bothered to actually go out. I get she's tired but it feels really close and she's on top of me sort of thing
Any advice?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriend has no other life but me and her work, I do try to encourage going out and doing hobbies and sports but she always has an excuse. It feels very suffocating to me. | girlfriend has no other life but me and her work, I do try to encourage going out and doing hobbies and sports but she always has an excuse. It feels very suffocating to me. | 5,246 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: So I bumped into a homeless guy and he spilled his drink... am I an asshole?
POST: I'm walking down the street in New York, and there's a steady stream of foot traffic going in either direction. Out of the corner of my eye, I'm watching people coming at me when I bump shoulders with a guy and hear a splat of what sounded like some kind of drink behind me. Recalling what I had previously seen, it looked to be an emaciated man carrying an old black plastic shopping bag that I had bumped shoulders with. Thinking nothing of it, I keep walking. Then I hear someone say "excuse me" from behind, and realize that I may have knocked the plastic bag out of the homeless-looking man's hand by mistake. Two thoughts pop into my head about what might have happened: 1) this guy is trying to scam me, and probably "accidentally" bumps into people and drops things all the time, hoping that they'll overcompensate him for what they've "damaged" 2) I genuinely knocked something out of this guy's hand. In the case of the latter scenario, my response is still going to be something like "well, you should really carry your things away from oncoming traffic if they're that important to you," but I figure this homeless guy isn't the type who's going to listen to that kind of reasoning. So I ignore him. I pick up my pace to walk quickly like someone who's in a hurry, but not quickly enough that he could accuse me of trying to evade him. Then I hear "excuse me" again. At this point I'm thinking "fuck, this guy is persistent, and he's definitely not the kind of person I want to get into an argument with on the street." I also note that I'm only one block away from the subway station, so I decide to keep my pace up and continue to ignore him. I duck into the underground pathway leading to the turnstile and I hear it again, with heightened urgency: "excuse me." So I make a dash for the turnstile, swipe my card, and jump on the first train out of there.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I knocked a homeless guy's stuff out of his hand by accident, and I essentially ran away from him when he wanted to make a big deal out of it. | I knocked a homeless guy's stuff out of his hand by accident, and I essentially ran away from him when he wanted to make a big deal out of it. | 940 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Can someone help me find a video for my environmental geology class?
POST: In my class, we're discussing greenhouse gases, and how humans are affecting the planet/climate. I saw a video a few months ago (I think it was from BBC?) about the permafrost beginning to melt in Russia, releasing tons of methane. I found the BBC video explaining that, but I saw a really awesome video about one scientist who has attempted to reverse the permafrost melt in one area and has succeeded. He bought a lot of herd animals that trampled the snow into the ground, and cut down some of the vegetation, and it has helped keep the permafrost cool enough to prevent methane release in that area. Does anyone remember that video, and if so, can you help me find it? I'm not having much luck.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | looking for a video about a scientist that has reversed permafrost melt in a part of Russia by buying a lot of animals and removing vegetation. | looking for a video about a scientist that has reversed permafrost melt in a part of Russia by buying a lot of animals and removing vegetation. | 6,330 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by jokingly asking my girlfriend to message me a shirtless pic
POST: Hey there. I am a 15 year old boy who miraculously has managed to keep a girlfriend for nearly 8 months now. I love her very dearly.
About two hours ago I decided to sent her a picture of myself in pajama pants just before going to bed. After she responds I say, "Do you feel obligated to send a complimentary shirtless picture back?". Normally, I would never say this seriously. It was just a joke, and I thought she saw that.
Jokingly, I push the request a bit. After that bit she isn't responding so I let her know it was all a joke. She didn't find it funny; she thought I was being real.
She has been mad and crying while I have been trying to clean after my insensitive, dick move. I was actually quite astonished to see her respond this way and this harshly. For the past hour I have been apologizing, and I have been trying to console her. Nothing has been helping.
In the end I feel horrible, regretful, helpless, and disgusted with myself.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I joking ask my SO to send me shirtless pics, she thinks I was serious, gets mad, cries, I ~~feel like~~ am a huge smelly butt. | I joking ask my SO to send me shirtless pics, she thinks I was serious, gets mad, cries, I ~~feel like~~ am a huge smelly butt. | 2,936 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] and my girlfriend [16 F] are going to sleep together for the first time. I'm anxious.
POST: I'm a very anxious person in general, sometimes to an obsessive degree.
We've been together for over two years without having sex. At first she was too young (14) and now she wants a time when she is free of stress so she can be relaxed and not have to worry about anything else. The.. event itself will take place in about a month, after she finishes her exams. We've considered it now and then through the time we've been together but always decides to wait.
Now it isn't being put off any longer. And, while it has been a TORTUROUS wait for me (worth it, to be with someone like her), it suddenly seems... rather sudden and immediate.
God knows I want to, and I definitely don't want to wait any longer, but at the same time I don't know how I'm going to be fully ready by the time it happens.
I understand on an intellectual level that it is not that big a deal. Just sex, right? But emotionally it seems like a great deal more than that.
And I know that it is for her. We're very open in discussing these matters. To her this is a really big deal; her virginity is something she can only ever give to one person and she wants it to be meaningful. It's sharing a more intimate part of herself than she ever has before.
I understand and even agree with her. But that kind of adds pressure to the situation. I don't want to screw up and make her first time something she doesn't want to remember. And I don't know if worrying about it will just make it more likely to happen.
I'm not even sure what I'm asking here. As much a chance to just talk about it as possible,I guess; my only confidante aside from my girlfriend is asexual, and as such she can't give much input here. But do I really have anything to worry about? Just how badly CAN I screw this up? And is there anything I definitely, definitely shouldn't do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | there's a lot of buildup and pressure surrounding my first time and I don't know how to think about the situation. | there's a lot of buildup and pressure surrounding my first time and I don't know how to think about the situation. | 286 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: There is NOTHING special about that girl.
POST: I don't know what it is with you two, but how is it that both my ex-boyfriend and my ex-flame-of-three-years and I end things and you both immediately make a beeline for this girl like she's water and you're dying in the desert.
Her pseudointellectualism is the least of her worries. I'm not sure what's so wildly attractive about having a Bachelor's degree so worthless that you have to live at home and the only car you choose to drive is a crappy 80s Beemer because it's just hipster enough for you, but apparently, this girl is the fucking tits, because there isn't a picture on Instagram or a stupid, existential status on Facebook that the two of you haven't liked. You two boys don't even know each other, but your obvious worship of a girl who doesn't even give two shits that you exist is grinding on my nerves so endlessly that I'd rather claw my eyes out with a rusty spoon than continue to follow any of you on Instagram.
Sure, she's somewhat attractive, thanks due in part to her mother's full Spanish blood. Her skin tone is a naturally white girl caramel and while her hair is a normal shade of brown, you can't really beat those hazel eyes...here's a news flash, boys: *she's too tall for you.* She literally towers over both of you, even in her ugly Urban Outfitters lace up flats. Get a grip, you two. She's not into you, and you look pathetic.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | two guys from my past that I still have feelings for simultaneously constantly like statuses and Instagram pics from a girl we all know...and I'm jealous. | two guys from my past that I still have feelings for simultaneously constantly like statuses and Instagram pics from a girl we all know...and I'm jealous. | 5,190 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Quick Please- I have to be at work in 30 minutes, but yesterday I made too many mistakes and was told to go home with 45 minutes left on my shift. Was I fired? Should I go in today?
POST: There was a rush, and the shake machine broke thus things got laggy and I screwed up. I was trying to fix it, but I just made a mess using a broken shake machine and I couldn't explain quick enough why this food was in this bag and how so-and-so thought it was order X but it was order B and B has been waiting for so long b/c of the machine being broken and that's why it's messed up etc. Yeah... so She told me to just go home, and I left.
Am I fired? I don't wanna be... but I know they hate me there b/c I'm not fast enough. I feel like such a fuck up. I gotta be at work in 30, so it'd be nice to know what to expect.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Co-Boss told me to go home with 45 minutes left on the clock because I kept on screwing up. Am I fired? Should I go in today? | Co-Boss told me to go home with 45 minutes left on the clock because I kept on screwing up. Am I fired? Should I go in today? | 6,082 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Florida - Can a store owner take away the tips of someone making at least minimum wage?
POST: Hey guys. I know I just asked another question this morning, but I have a second hypothetical...
I make minimum wage plus tips. The owners play this out as being generous to us. So we collect tips, and they disperse it to us through our bi-weekly paychecks.
I put in my two weeks notice after a very tense discussion with my boss, and I'm wondering... if he collects tips from customers, is he obligated to disperse them to workers, or is he allowed to say fuck you to someone he doesn't like, and exclude them from receiving any tips on their last paycheck?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Do tipping laws only apply to tipped workers making 2.15 an hour, or do they apply to anyone making tips? | Do tipping laws only apply to tipped workers making 2.15 an hour, or do they apply to anyone making tips? | 5,910 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [20/f] Friend [20/m] Has a Girlfriend [21/f] Now, I might Like Him?
POST: There's this guy who I'm very close friends with, we've been friends for about 4 years and he's been dating this girl now for 2 weeks. I've never had romantic feelings towards him before, until now. Ever since he's been dating her I feel like I've been developing a crush on him. Is it maybe just that there's a new girl in his life and I'm being territorial and not wanting her to take his attention from me? Or do you think it's an actual crush? How do I differentiate? Because it's weird that I've never had any sort of romantic feelings for him until he's dating her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My guy friend has a new girlfriend and ever since they've gotten together I've felt like I have a crush on him. | My guy friend has a new girlfriend and ever since they've gotten together I've felt like I have a crush on him. | 4,464 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20F] with my [18F] sister, isn't considerate about my past relationships or others, not sure how to address without cutting her out of my life?
POST: My sister recently came down to visit me in college over the weekend. Long story short, my ex boyfriend (21M) and I have a rollercoaster relationship that should've ended completely a long time ago but whatever reason we still hookup which I agreed to (I'm the one with feelings) as long as I was the only one he was hooking up with. My sister wanted to meet him still though. So we (sister and I) hang out with him and his fraternity this weekend, go drinking, I notice hickeys and as I get more drunk--I get more upset and when we get home, I kind of lock myself in my room to cry for a bit.
Now, my sister is still in high school and I am responsible for her this weekend. So while I'm crying, she decides to head over to my ex-boyfriend's apartment building and go to their pool party and hooks up with this guy who I had told her earlier has a girlfriend (who I know personally). She doesn't tell me where she is, I have to text my ex to find out this information.
Her actions really hurt me because I expected her to be there for me (we are/were? really close) and instead she went to hang out with the person who hurt me and decided to participate in cheating (I guess not actively but she knew). My sister recently got out of her awkward phase and is now super gorgeous, but all the attention sort of went to her head which is I suspect part of the reason why she did all this. What do I do? She hasn't apologized and told me she can't talk to me because she'll say something mean (meanwhile I've been like hysterically crying...rough day). I care about my sister so much and it feels like my life has been full of people I care about hurting me recently. Do I keep her in my life? How do I proceed with this? My family is really tight-knit and I've (sort-of, without some details) told my parents and they say I should just get over it and it was partially my fault for leaving her by herself for an hour while I cried.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Sister participates in cheating. Hangs out with ex-boyfriend who hurt me. Honestly, I love her as my sister but I have no idea how to resolve this/deal. Am I overreacting? | Sister participates in cheating. Hangs out with ex-boyfriend who hurt me. Honestly, I love her as my sister but I have no idea how to resolve this/deal. Am I overreacting? | 2,816 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20/M] with my girlfriend [20/F] 6 months, met girlfriend on night out she's with her (guy/girl) friends, she tells me to go back t0 my friends, blames me for not wanting to see her
POST: Ok so I go with my friends on a night out, girlfriend goes with hers (both are friendship groups have girls/boys in), I bump into her by accident early on in the night, we have small talk for a few minutes, both of us are laughing (having fun), then she tells me to go back to my friends. I haven't offended any of her friends or anything, there's nothing me or my friends have done wrong - just to get that straight.
'You should go back to your friends', I keep the conversation going, wanting to stay with her a bit longer, replying 'yeah in 5 minutes (etc. etc.)'. Eventually I just go back, respecting what she told me to do and not wanting to question her in front of friends (I always avoid getting friends involved in disagreements with relationships - we both do).
On top of this she has introduced me to her friends like once - I always respect peoples privacy and keeping friendships separate, but when my girlfriend doesn't want me top hang around with her and her friends, feel devalued by her.
At the end of the night, I question why, apparently it's my fault as she didn't think I wanted to see her. I make it clear that she was the one who told me to go back to my friends.
We've also had an issue with meeting each others friends too, she has met all of mine, knows them well etc. But I have barely met hers. I told her a couple of weeks ago, that I wanted to meet her friends. She told me that she would let me meet them etc. etc. It's not like it would be hard for me to meet them - she hangs out with them all the time.
Opinions on why she is doing this? Where do I go from here?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Meet girlfriend on night out with her friends, she tells me to go back to my friends, then blames me for not wanting to see her - I haven't met her friends more than once. | Meet girlfriend on night out with her friends, she tells me to go back to my friends, then blames me for not wanting to see her - I haven't met her friends more than once. | 1,879 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How shitty of a person am I?
POST: This is a throw-away, and as kind and respectful as you are Reddit, I want your honest opinions.
Over the weekend, I ended up sleeping with two different girls within about a 14 hour period.
The first girl was early in the day, maybe 1-2pm. I was talking to her and asked her to come over and get lunch and make out. Her and I have sort of dating the last year. I say sort of because it has never been official, we've discussed it numerous times and never decided to make it exclusive. We have sort of a cutesy relationship in terms of how we act around each other, so it's not a clean pump and dump. She lives about an hour and a half away, and I see her maybe once a month if that. We're kind of on the tail-end of whatever it was we've been doing for the last year or so.
Then later that night another girl called and asked to hang out. She has a thing for me, and I'm conflicted. She's cool, and a solid friend, but sometimes attractive to me, sometimes not. Everything was normal, and we watched a couple episodes of LOST, and then I told her I wanted to go to sleep (asleep sleep). Then jokingly asked her if she wanted to start drinking, somehow we ended up drinking, and 2 hours or so later, she told me she was tired and we needed to go lay-down. We have a slight history of hooking up. Like twice in a couple of months. Anyway, she obviously stayed the night, and we ended up sleeping together. How should I feel about myself for doing this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I slept with two different girls within 12 hours of each other. Both have feelings for me, and have a vague sort of ending relationship with one. Am I shitty person? | I slept with two different girls within 12 hours of each other. Both have feelings for me, and have a vague sort of ending relationship with one. Am I shitty person? | 338 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Who is wrong her or me ?
POST: Hey guys, i'm posting here to see the opinion of other people to see what they think about this.
So yesterday I was moving homes, for that I called 1 friend so he could come and help me out. He had another friend with him (guy) and 2 girls. One being his girlfriend and the other one the sister's girlfriend which his already in a relationship. So to sum it up we were 3 guys and 2 girls to help me move out.
Oh and btw, my girlfriend was unable to come as she had to work.
So I told my girlfriend that only my one friend was coming as I did not know the rest were coming.
After we finished moving, I told her that I was going to drop off everyone who helped me out. So she asked who helped me and I told her the names of all those persons.
That's were she got upset. She got angry to the fact that I did not tell her that the other 2 girls were coming as soon as I saw them. But I did tell her when we finished.
So from that on she as been arguing and arguing. Because she says that I hid it from her..
Who is in the right and who is in the wrong here?
Like those she have a reason to get angry about that..?
If you need any clarification about something feel free to ask.
We are both 20 years old and have been together for almost 2 years now.
Thank you.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | (She got mad because 2 girls came out to help me move and I didn't tell her until we finished because I didn't even know they were coming.) | (She got mad because 2 girls came out to help me move and I didn't tell her until we finished because I didn't even know they were coming.) | 5,570 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: So reddit, there's this girl...
POST: This is what I get for being a gentlemanly, classy guy.
At my college the gender ratio is about 7:1 (guys:girls) and so what happens a lot is that a girl will draw an inordinate amount of attention. This leads to guys (desperate because of the awful ratio) to be generally creepy and stalker-like. So my dilemma is that I, being one of the non creepers, have started attracting girls that want a guy that doesn't creep on them.
Specific occurrence: At the beggining of this semester while I was at the school's dining hall, this girl (that I know) comes up to me and pretty much demands my phone number and gives me her's. I didn't think this was too strange, but my friends who were eating with me said it was pretty obviously a "Let's get together." move by her. Over the next couple of days she sent me mundane texts in a flirty fashion, smiley faces that didn't belong, over blown care about my feelings for being interrupted etc.
This morning during my chem 2 lecture one a girl that I know in an ok way, who, on many previous occasions (we work on homework together and have had classes in the past together) said she HATED when people touched her (in any way). So this morning she said she wasn't feeling well and demanded that I feel up her Lymph nodes in her neck. This story doesn't properly portray the amount of aggressiveness that I am feeling from her.
Would I mind getting to know her better? No, I think she is nice.
I am freaking out about how she is going about it. YES!
Holy mother of god, I have had girls come onto me before, but never from this direction, and it is starting to put me off.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | There is this girl after me (she likes me), but she is coming on *WAY* too hard, how do I make her calm down? | There is this girl after me (she likes me), but she is coming on *WAY* too hard, how do I make her calm down? | 4,019 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: Here again I return to this field of nightmares.
POST: Owner to a party this weekend. It was pretty fun, but I do have some qualms about something's that happened there.
My friend asked me if I was trying to hook up with a mutual female friend of ours. The thing is that I am pretty sure everyone knows my love life is dead (or in the very least catatonic). I wonder what prompted him to ask.
I do have to admit that I have a little crush on her, but none of my friends would know(directly) because I haven't divulged that sort of information to any of my friends in a long time.
The other problem I hae with the party is that I spent like an hour chatting to a female friend of mine about a rap artist we both happen to like. And of course,being me, I developed a little crush on her after reading way to far into her communications with me. I am guessing that what I did read from her was wrong so I throw it all out of my mind and must painfully convince myself that she is just a friend.
Furthermore I have elaborated the fact that I , being monogamous in nature, find that my ability the have a crush on two women can only lead to the conclusion that I am fucking lonely. And the type of relationship I would have wouldn't be the type of long lasting relationship I want.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I can't tell them how I feel, but it's for the best because I tend to fuck up in relationships anyways. | I can't tell them how I feel, but it's for the best because I tend to fuck up in relationships anyways. | 747 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what's the worst way you've been cock-blocked? NSFW
POST: Alright, no one really knows this because I'm so ashamed to tell the story of it; but here goes.
When I was 14, I had a 16 year old girl come over to hang out with me. We were actually really good friends and I didn't intend on anything to happen. Going on, we were in my basement talking about random stuff that's been going on, but then we decided to go into my room to watch a movie (I have a flat screen at the end of my bed).
At this time, my 14 year old tendencies are kicking up and my hormones are starting to cause me to think with my other head. We get into watching the movie and we're laying down on our stomachs facing the screen. We start getting into the movie and she starts complaining how she's cold, so I put my arm around her and got close. The proceeds to me rubbing her back, hand in shirt, hand in pants etc. etc. I'm having a grand old time because this was the first time I'd done anything like this.
So it progresses and I move my hand in her shirt and around to the opposite side and grab her boob. She glances over at me and makes a little smirk and kisses me on the lips. NOW, be aware that I had never kissed a girl until this point. I was stunned. I just looked back at her with a stunned face; she leans in and takes a couple more smooches like she wanted to start making out... I didn't move, or kiss back. I just sat there not knowing what to do.
She kind of got the idea after the second time that I had no idea what I'm doing and she stopped trying. However, I still tried. She wasn't too fond of me feeling her up after I straight-faced her. She pulled my hand out, switched positions and laid down on her back under the covers, and I just sat there. We finished watching the movie, her parents came and picked her up and she went home.
I haven't talked to her since.
*So close..
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I cock blocked the shit out of my 14-year-old self by straight facing a girl who tried to make out with me. | I cock blocked the shit out of my 14-year-old self by straight facing a girl who tried to make out with me. | 6,241 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: i [24 M] am not romaticly interrested in my friend [22 F]. she started seeing someone and i feel super jealous and want to ruin it.
POST: I meet this girl at a party last year and we sorta just connected. She seemed like a nice girl so i got her number and we started talked. We really had nothing in common, but could still talk hours on end. For the last year we have been talking a couple times a week. In that year i have dated 2 girls, both i meet through her. Shes my opposite, nothing in common, but for some reason we still connect. We both pretty early on knew that we wouldn't ever be involved romantically. Which might have taken our friendship to a place it wouldn't otherwise have been.
Recently she started going out with this guy she meet online. She seems really happy when i talk to her and i am happy for her, but heres my problem. I feel super jealous. We talk less, which is getting to my head, and i am starting to get mad at her for no reason. Shes my friend, i should feel happy for her, but instead i am thinking of way to ruin their relation ship. Like what the fuck is wrong with me. Shes been dating for a while now, and i was helping her giving her tips all along the way, and then when she finally finds someone i want to ruin it??
I never really saw my self as a jealous person, but i guess i know better now.
What do i do to get rid of this. I should be happy for her, like she was happy for me when i was with someone. How do i stop feeling jealous? I am not really sure jealous is even the right word to use here.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friend i have no romantic interest in started dating a guy. I should be happy for her, but instead i feel jealous and want to ruin their their relationship. How do i get rid of these selfish feelings and feel happy for her. | Friend i have no romantic interest in started dating a guy. I should be happy for her, but instead i feel jealous and want to ruin their their relationship. How do i get rid of these selfish feelings and feel happy for her. | 4,860 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend (24M) had sex with 4 ex-girlfriends, and I (22F) as a virgin can't get over it.
POST: Hi guys, I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year, and I've always known he wasn't a virgin and kind of tolerated this. However, I recently found out that he had sex with four girls total, two of them were long term relationships, and two were short term relationships. I don't know exactly why, but this hurts me a lot. I feel like he shared an extremely intimate thing with four other people, whereas he's the only person I've ever shared this with (we had sex a few months into the relationship). I guess I feel like it's not fair? I don't know. I know this isn't really rational, but I can't stop myself from being so sad about it.
How do I get over this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I was a virgin until my current boyfriend, but he's had sex with four ex-girlfriends. I'm not sure why I'm so sad about it. Help. | I was a virgin until my current boyfriend, but he's had sex with four ex-girlfriends. I'm not sure why I'm so sad about it. Help. | 1,305 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: I feel my mom treats me and my younger brother differently, looking for explanation.
POST: I [F25] am the oldest kid in the family with a younger brother who is three years younger than me. Now I have grown up and look back into the past, I feel that my parents, especially my mom, has different treatments to me and my brother. She loves us dearly, I am sure. But I kinda sense that she is more protective of my brother.
My mom NEVER guide me throughout my life. She always told me that as a human, I am capable of learning anything on my own. So I learned most of the things on my own, through friends, through reading for example. What's interesting about my mom is, she always criticizes everything I do, like I am never good enough for her. I know that learning something on my own, without guidance from parents, I won't be perfect for the first time but still, she always says I am never good enough. Like for example, graduated in 4 years with two degrees with 3.7 GPA is not as good as my cousin's achievement. These kind of things cause our relationship to be not as close as between my mom and my brother.
On the other hand, my mom never criticizes my brother and is always protective of him. But when there is a problem, even for the smallest one like "changing facebook setting", she seeks my help, not my brother's.
So for parents out there, could you tell me why my mom is tough on me but still when there is problem she seeks my help not my brother's regardless the fact that she has closer relationship with my brother?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My mom is tough on me but not on my brother's but she relies on me more on solving her problems. Why? | My mom is tough on me but not on my brother's but she relies on me more on solving her problems. Why? | 2,804 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: He's [19M] just not that into me [19F]?
POST: I met a really nice guy last semester and finally got up the nerve to ask him out just as he was leaving the country for a month; he said yes to a date when he returned and we talked almost every day while he was abroad. We got really close, so much so that neither of us really consider ourselves to be single any more even though we've yet to go out.
He got back home, to a city about an hour away from mine, a little over a week ago. We each had prearranged plans so I knew I wouldn't be able to see him until this weekend at the earliest. Knowing that he lives a distance away I assume that any trip up he makes isn't going to be spontaneous. I finally got up the nerve (or lost my patience waiting) to ask him if he would like to meet tomorrow. I'm thinking that if both parties are really eager to see each other (as he has seemed to be and I am) it would happen on the first available day. WRONG.
He said he might have some other obligations (picking someone up from the airport) but he'll try, I told him not to bother. I just feel like if he really wanted to see me wouldn't he have made arrangements in his schedule to do so?
Was this just an internet-summer-fling and now he's not interested? Should I just stop talking to him or should I continue to try to see him?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I've been in an internet romance with a boy from school and now he doesn't seem to want to meet up in real life. What should I do? | I've been in an internet romance with a boy from school and now he doesn't seem to want to meet up in real life. What should I do? | 4,437 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [19 M] having trouble forgetting my [19 F] ex of 2 years at same small college.
POST: I've been dating this girl since my junior year of high school and we always had each other in mind when going off to college.
Now we go to the same school and I broke things off with her after 2 years because I started to realize she didn't care about my personal interests and I did not get to enjoy a lot of things with her.
However, she has been my best friend for 5 years now and I just can't forget about her. I went to a party at another school and met someone else but I had to stop talking to her because my ex is still on my mind. She has also been telling me about the great times she has been having since we broke up and she's "living life." Maybe it's jealousy, but these thoughts never escaped my mind.
I've been very frustrated with her trying to tell me how great her life is. I tried talking to her last week about this, but she saw a physical mark on my neck from said party and she refused to talk to me for a week until I begged her to let me explain.
Now that she listened to me, I don't know what to do with myself. She sort of hates me but I'm still craving the relationship we used to have or even just to have her friendship back.
I know most people on here and other people I've talked to say let her go, never speak to her again, but I see her everyday and my emotions get the best of me.
So my question here is what should I do about where I stand with her and what should I do to move on?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Broke up with gf of 2 years, been best friends for 5 years, see her everyday and can't get her off my mind. Help? | Broke up with gf of 2 years, been best friends for 5 years, see her everyday and can't get her off my mind. Help? | 1,481 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I(18m) like a girl(17f) who is dating a friend of mine(18m). Last night I did something super embarrassing and I need advice.
POST: I am 18 in highschool, there is a girl, let's call her Lena, she transferred in, and I liked her immediately. I showed her to my friend, let's call him John. John proceeds to go behind my back and go after Lena. John and I have been friends for about 9 years or so, but he has always been a bit of a dick.
I've been really salty about it for weeks now, and last night he even invited her to out karaoke night that we do. So I took this chance, and spend the whole night singing songs about how I liked her, Jesse's girl, Mr steal yo girl, he will never love you like I love you etc. I knee John would be mad at me, but he did me wrong 1st right? He actually tried to fight me earlier today.
Here's where it gets interesting, Lena messages me on fb, and asked me what was going on. I told her I had to tell her in person, so she met me at a park near my house and I spilled the beans, I told her how I liked her all year, and how I told John about it and John went after her anyway. We sat at the park and talked for like an hour and a half. When she was leaving she gave me an extra long hug, I could be reading too much into it but it seems that she might like me back. She also told me to call her or text if I wanted to talk. What should I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I like a girl, who my friend is dating, I saw her 1st, and I sang to her, she might also like me back. | I like a girl, who my friend is dating, I saw her 1st, and I sang to her, she might also like me back. | 5,084 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I am a [25]M and my fiancée [25]F of 5 years has suddenly decided she wants a break, no idea what to do next.
POST: Hey everyone, just looking for some advice on what to do in my current situation. My fiancée and I are both 25 years old, have been together for 5 years and have a daughter together who will soon be 4 years old. We both work and go to school full time, have always been crazy about each other, are constantly doing things as a family, however until this past week she has been growing distant and seems to be avoiding me. I finally confronted her last night and after a long and winded session of tears, she basically told me she was no longer happy because she felt suffocated, that she didn't know what she was going to do after college, and that maybe the path she has been walking hasn't been the correct one. She told me she still loved and cared for me and that this didn't mean the end of our relationship, it's just that she needs some space for herself. I've always been a good father and faithful partner, and this feels like its coming completely out of nowhere. I'm trying to save our relationship and family, but I don't know what to do. Any advice would be appreciated, maybe from someones whose been in this same situation or possibly the perspective of the one who requested the break.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Fiance wants to have a break so she can figure things out, and I'm not sure what to do next. | Fiance wants to have a break so she can figure things out, and I'm not sure what to do next. | 5,308 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (m17) Girlfriend's (f18) of 4 months family is poor... What do I do?
POST: Should I even get involved? My girlfriend comes from a family of two little sisters, mother and father. Her parents are separated, (her father seems fine) but her mother is really poor off... We went to her mother's house today and there was a notice from the water company, saying they owe hundreds and their water will be shut off soon. They have a hard time putting food on the table, but her mother just bought a new car.
What I'm confused about is whether or not this is an issue of her mother not being able to budget/prioritize properly, or if she just doesnt make enough money...She's a high school teacher and also picks up hours at Home Depot when she can. My girlfriend has a job, and her mother takes nearly all of the money she makes from her bank account without asking. Her mother also seems to be housing a "boyfriend", I use that term lightly, because I don't think he adds any income to the house and is mooching; he sleeps there, and when he is not in the house, he has their car. My girlfriend has found marijuana in their car after he's been smoking in it (something no one in that house does). Her mom hasn't commented on this guy's situation yet.
I really worry about the safety of the girls in their house, because their front door doesn't lock and the "boyfriend" refuses to talk to the girls or me, which only leads me to believe he's shady.
Got any ideas as to what I should do? I want to make sure the girls are safe, and I don't want their water shut off. I'm in no position to give them money, and that's not what I want to do, but this situation really is putting stress on our relationship. I'm very ok with her venting about the situation, but I would like some answers or advice to give her. I'm really trying to be a man here, but I don't want to get too involved and take on responsibilities that I can't handle.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend's mom is poor, can't pay the water bill, and is letting a "boyfriend" who smokes pot to live there without paying rent or helping with the bills. What do I do, if anything? | My girlfriend's mom is poor, can't pay the water bill, and is letting a "boyfriend" who smokes pot to live there without paying rent or helping with the bills. What do I do, if anything? | 1,130 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[18M] with my girlfriend[18F] 6 months, best friends for 2 years before this. Day after she breaks up with me gets hammered and kisses other guy.
POST: So My ex broke up with me on July 4th because she viewed me more as a friend than a lover. The night after she broke up with me she went to a party and got super hammered and made out with a guy I know. I had to find out through a friend from work, I confronted her about it, she admitted it... The thing is, she doesn't even feel bad about it, she doesn't think that she's done anything wrong. Am I wrong to think that what she did was hurtful and generally not something you should do to your best friend?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex made out with guy right after we broke up. Doesn't feel bad about it at all. (we were best friends for nearly two years, didn't end on too bad of terms.) | Ex made out with guy right after we broke up. Doesn't feel bad about it at all. (we were best friends for nearly two years, didn't end on too bad of terms.) | 5,635 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [22M] new girlfriend [21F] may be schizophrenic.
POST: My girlfriend of two months acts much like an average anime obsessed, introverted millennial. We hit it off immediately from our first date, and my friends all think she's awesome.
On New Year's eve, I invited a few people over to drink in the new year. 3am rolled around and we all called I a night. We went to bed and she immediately passed out. Being the drunk idiot I was, I tried to wake her up to get some lovin' on...
She woke up and started crying, hugging her knees, and saying, "I'm dead. I'm dead. I really should be dead. Why don't you just kill me?" My brother had night terrors when we were little, so I figured that's what it was... I just held her and told her everything was all right and I was there. I never told her about that.
A few nights ago, I had everyone over drinking again. I passed out on the couch and she stayed up... And apparently went through another one of those episodes with only my friends, clueless, thinking she might be on drugs.
After I heard about it, I asked her if she had night terrors or sleep walked or even talked in her sleep. She said she didn't.
My friend who's in the mental health field says it looked like a schizophrenic episode... And I don't know what to do about it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend has episodes when she's drunk. I honestly don't know what they are or more importantly how to approach them with her. | My girlfriend has episodes when she's drunk. I honestly don't know what they are or more importantly how to approach them with her. | 3,471 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: 26/m This girl [24/f] I'm dating wants to take it slow. Can someone elaborate on how to do that?
POST: So I took this girl out on a date. The next day she told me that she wants me to take it slow with her, but doesn't want me to be scared off. She said she has been hurt too many times. Whatever that's fine. We continued to talk for a few days before i asked her out again. she agreed. We have since had 3 dates out and the last 2 saturdays, she has had me to her place to hangout. We have a group date scheduled on friday with 2 other couples.
Clearly she likes me, so how do I take it slow with her? Are we moving at a good pace? Only thing that has me worried is that I haven't kissed her on the lips yet. I kiss her on the cheek every time... I only do this because she wanted to move slow. Am I moving too slow? I really like this girl
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 1st date she said she wants to move slow. We've been on 3 dates since and have another scheduled for Friday. What's too slow? | 1st date she said she wants to move slow. We've been on 3 dates since and have another scheduled for Friday. What's too slow? | 2,048 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: i don't give a rat's ass about your "rage" life story
POST: I want to tell you something that pretty much everyone over the age of 35 knows (or at least should know): We all suffer, we all go through shit we shouldn't have to. Whatever you're going through, plenty of us have gone through it as well. We survived without spilling our guts into the interwebs with crappy copy/pasted comics. Man the fuck up and deal with your shit! I swear if I read one more "i told my mom i was and atheist, it went ok" rage comic, i'll fucking shit on your house until it collapses in a poo tsunami and then I'll have to look at 30 pages of "heroic derpaderpaland survivor" pics on imgur.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | EVERYONE HAS TO DEAL WITH ADVERSITY! STRENGTH = DEALING WITH IT WITHOUT BEGGING FOR APPLAUSE. | EVERYONE HAS TO DEAL WITH ADVERSITY! STRENGTH = DEALING WITH IT WITHOUT BEGGING FOR APPLAUSE. | 6,371 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I[18M] and my friend[18M] are interested in the same girl[18], and I don't know how to move forward. Can any of you offer any advice?
POST: To recap, my friend, the girl, and I hung out in the first few days of college. I've liked the girl since 7th grade, and he met her during their orientation. I met him several weeks ago when I first moved in. I panicked when my friend asked me if I was interested in her and told him no and that he should go for her. I know that I made a major mistake here. The girl and I are very good friends.
I confronted my friend a few weeks later after I learned he was flirting with her. More strikes against me, I know, but he was surprisingly supportive of my situation. He offered me one chance to ask her out, and after that he would pursue her.
Since the confrontation, which was very awkward but calm, I have gone with her to a rally for Herman Cain, and have hung out in her dorm. It was really unclear whether or not the Herman Cain rally was a date. However, another one of my friends was at the rally and said that she seemed interested and was flirting with me.
My question to you is, is there a correct way to move forward out of the friend zone with the girl? I want to make the most out of my one shot.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Told my friend I didn't like a girl, I lied. He gives me a shot to ask her out, and I don't know how. | Told my friend I didn't like a girl, I lied. He gives me a shot to ask her out, and I don't know how. | 3,514 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [18/f] Says she's in love with me [18/m] but isn't ready for a relationship, even though we basically are in one.
POST: So I've been seeing this girl for a little while now and lately it's been almost everyday. 3 months ago she broke up with her boyfriend of one year and we were friends and talking during that time but since they broke up we have been talking more and more and now it feels pretty serious.
So last night we went out again and I asked her what she wanted out of this whole thing and she basically told me all the good things about me and that I'm the best guy she's ever dated and she doesn't want to stop hanging out with me, but she isn't ready for another relationship. Afterwards she messaged me and told me she thinks she's in love with me.
She tells me she likes me all the time and doesn't hide her feelings about me.
My question is, it already feels like a relationship so I don't get why she wouldn't want to put the label on it because it's not like we're hiding what we're doing from our friends and family. We are always messaging and whenever we have the chance we are together and we kiss and hold hands and act like boyfriend and girlfriend, even in front of our friends. I really like her and want her to be my girlfriend so I'd really appreciate any advice you have to give me on what I should do!
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TL;DR: . Assistant: | ] She says I'm the perfect guy and she's in love with me but isn't ready for a relationship, even though we basically are in one. | ] She says I'm the perfect guy and she's in love with me but isn't ready for a relationship, even though we basically are in one. | 4,563 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Paying for an apartment while in college
POST: I'm currently 21 years old, live with my parents and little brother in a small apartment. Never had my own room and living with them has become stressful in the recent years. I go to a university but will be attending an off campus site for the next two years thats 30 minutes away from it. I don't have my own car, I use the car my dad pays for so I dont consider it mine and if I left I definitely would not take it with me.
There is a bus that goes directly from the main campus to the off campus site so I was considering finding a cheap apartment near the main campus. I have about $1000 that is usable for this. I know its not a lot, barely affords rent for a month, but I'm really considering this. People go to college and somehow are able to afford going to school and live on their own, how can I do this without any help from my family?
I do work part time but I might have to give up that job if I move since its about a 30 minute ride there from campus. This job gives me different hours each week so its hard to really depend on a stable income and with going to school full time in the fall, I'm not sure if getting a second or new job is a good idea. Any advice would be great, thanks.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Want to move out, have a part time job with unstable hours, go to school full time in the Fall and Spring, no car, and not sure how to do it, any advice would be appreciated. | Want to move out, have a part time job with unstable hours, go to school full time in the Fall and Spring, no car, and not sure how to do it, any advice would be appreciated. | 6,152 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Question about how to handle myself after a break up. Me [22M] and my [22F] ex girlfriend
POST: Hey, first time post on here and I'm unsure how to handle myself.
About last October (in 2013) I broke up with my long time girlfriend. We dated for about 6 years, throughout most of high school and a large portion of college. She was the first girl I dated and I really did care for her. I broke up with her because we were both abusive towards each other, physically (nothing extremely drastic but I have a scar on my arm because of her) and verbally.
We decided to stay friends after the break up and all seemed to be going well. However, I noticed that almost immediately (within like 2 weeks) after we broke up this guy she met from a club started hitting on her. She claims to have no attraction towards him but anyone with a pair of eyes can see there's a mutual attraction. Now I don't like this guy because he was hitting on her while we were still dating. I just got onto Facebook today to see her and a picture of him together celebrating his 21st birthday.
I know I'm the one that broke it off and it's my fault for doing so, but I can't help but feel...betrayed? Is that normal? How should I handle myself? I feel like I want to punch something, as I still find myself caring for her, but that would only break my hand. I'm at a loss as to what to think/feel and I don't have anyone else around I can talk to about this. So, anyone have any thoughts?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex girlfriend of a long term relationship almost immediately starts flirting with another guy after I end the relationship. I am confused and feel betrayed and would welcome any kind of input. | Ex girlfriend of a long term relationship almost immediately starts flirting with another guy after I end the relationship. I am confused and feel betrayed and would welcome any kind of input. | 6,374 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Kansas. Guy seeking damages for a car accident in a shady way.
POST: Hi. First off, I've already made an appointment with a lawyer but I figured as much information as possible couldnt hurt.
In february, I rear-ended a car after skidding on water. The car accident was pretty minimal honestly (my airbags didn't deploy/car function fine/only cosmetic damage). A cop was called and took accounts and photos. The guy seemed irritated but not hurt in the least. I gave him/the police my insurance and contact information. As far as I knew he took care of it and I hadn't heard from him.
Apparently, the cop miswrote my cell number (making a 1 look like a 7) and the guy had been trying to contact me. I found out my insurance policy that had been in effect was cancelled due to lack of payment (I was on my parents insurance and I was unaware they hadn't paid/they did not inform me). I got my own insurance asap but I found out I was basically boned because I technically didn't have insurance during the time the accident occurred.
This morning I received a manila envelope on my car windshield addressed to me. In it, the guy wrote me a letter describing his attempts to contact me. Additionally, he included a large amount of my information he could find online (facebook photos, employee page, white pages info, etc.). He also included the incident report and two quotes for repairs to his damages. He's seeking me to pay him in a cash order for the full repair of his car or he will seek more, including damages for "whiplash and a concussion" although as far as I can tell he has no proof of either. Basically, what is my best option here.
Also, while I know he had active insurance, am I responsible for the full amount or for whatever the deductible would be?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I rear ended a guy, discovered my insurance had expired without my knowledge. Months later he's seeking money for damages in form of a cash order for full repair of his vehicle. | I rear ended a guy, discovered my insurance had expired without my knowledge. Months later he's seeking money for damages in form of a cash order for full repair of his vehicle. | 6,091 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend [30] introduced me [31f] to his female friend [31], we really hit it off, and are now good friends, then yesterday I found out they used to date.
POST: I have been dating this guy for about three months. Last month I went to his buddies [M] house and the three of us were hanging out when their friend [F] showed up crying and upset. I talked to her about things and we really hit it off, and I was super happy to make a new friend as well as get along with my BF's friends. I have texted with her and hung out with her, and I genuinely feel she is a real friend.
Then yesterday my friend since childhood [30F] came over and we were celebrating the end of a string of long shifts at work. We were pretty drunk. So my BF and the female friend came over, started drinking too. My childhood friend asked new female friend if her and my BF went to school together, or how they met, just making drunk meeting new people conversation. They neither one will say, until finally they admit they used to date.
My problem is figuring out how to be grown up about this. I don't distrust either of them, I have no thoughts whatsoever that they are going to hook back up... I just don't like it and can't sift through my feelings to find the actual reason why I'm so upset about this. At this point I just don't want to see or hang out with either of them.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend introduces me to gal pal. I become friends also. Find out they're exs. Now feel shit city over the whole thing. | Boyfriend introduces me to gal pal. I become friends also. Find out they're exs. Now feel shit city over the whole thing. | 3,050 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [m/16] looked into my best friend's [f/16] eyes at a party and my heart dropped because I never fully expressed all my feelings for her
POST: I know I'm young and I have a lot to learn about relationships and love entirely, but I know her for about 12 years. I really do have feelings for her.
Got really close to and at a party we were just chilling so now one or two friends are asking me what are we...and honestly I can't say myself
It feels like I'm in the friend-zone, but I don't want to classify what we have between us as something so shallow..,because at times it feels like we're a couple(to me, but I tend to over analyze things a lot) .
This post is mainly because recently she talks to me a little....different than she usually does (playful ily's, kiss emojis)
What should I do? And what you think I should do, should it be in person or text?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl, like here, 'friendzone phase', the point where it feels like more than that, what should I do? | Girl, like here, 'friendzone phase', the point where it feels like more than that, what should I do? | 3,177 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] with my Long distance Girlfriend [16 F] 6 months, wanting to break up but im also supposed to go and see her this upcoming weekend..
POST: Found someone online and we hit it off and we have been a "thing" since september 2013
Im supposed to go and visit her, she lives about 6 hours away, for the first time. But i dont want to be with her anymore.. I dont like not being able to hold the person or kissing or any of that stuff..
Ive been with her through her mom dieing, her sister getting seizures and she always has people leaving her.
I know it will hurt her either way but should i go and visit her or should i call it off before then, and how do leave things better than how i found them?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to break up with my long distance girlfriend of over 6 months, and im not sure if i should break it off before or after the first visit | I want to break up with my long distance girlfriend of over 6 months, and im not sure if i should break it off before or after the first visit | 1,723 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (29F) ex (29M) followed my sibling on social media. Why?
POST: Hello everyone!
About 8 years ago, I dated this fantastic dude. I was head over heels for him. The time we spent together was fantastic and to this day I have only fond memories.
Unfortunately, our relationship came to an end when he broke up with me unexpectedly. We went NC and I didn't hear from him for many years after that.
Several years later, he friended my sister on FB. Many months after that, he friended me. Me and him had a pleasant, friendly, catch up chat and he did express some remorse for our relationship ending, but that was pretty much it. It was pretty platonic. After that, there were some "likes" on random photos, but that was it.
A year ago I got rid of my FB account because I hate FB.
A few days ago, he once again friended my sister on IG and "liked" an older photo of me and her in it. He has not requested a connection with me and has not reached out to me at all.
I told my current SO about this because it's such a weird situation.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | An ex from 10 years ago keeps trying to make a social media connection with my sister and I. Why? Why is he doing this? Why is he just creeping and not saying anything? Should I say something to him? | An ex from 10 years ago keeps trying to make a social media connection with my sister and I. Why? Why is he doing this? Why is he just creeping and not saying anything? Should I say something to him? | 1,879 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I wrong in my convictions about jealousy?
POST: 24,M / 23,F
In two of my previous relationships, I was the jealous type and have greatly learned my lesson from being that way. I am currently in a 2 year relationship in which my girlfriend and I live together. I love her, but because of things I've experienced, I am no longer the jealous type. I won't let myself behave like that again. She gets upset with me because I don't get jealous. Don't get me wrong, if a guy were to touch her I'd knock him out. But she tells me that it makes her feel like I don't take pride in her or value her because I don't get jealous that another guy might think she's attractive or something. Am I downplaying jealousy too much? I don't feel that there is anything healthy about jealousy in a relationship, but it seems she does.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend thinks I should display jealousy. Due to past experiences with it, I don't display petty jealousy and feel it's nothing but harmful in a relationship. | Girlfriend thinks I should display jealousy. Due to past experiences with it, I don't display petty jealousy and feel it's nothing but harmful in a relationship. | 141 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [44 F] mother needs a soulmate [40+ M] after years of emotional abuse from my father.
POST: Hello, I am here to give Reddit a chance to make my mom happy for the first time in nearly 20 years. I know the internet is full of people who will try to scam or the ones who are only here for their libidos, however I am tired of seeing my mother unhappy and I would appreciate it if you left now if you happen to be one of those people.
I will try to explain what has been going on and hopefully someone here can help me. My mother is 44 and she has been married to basically a psychopath for about 20 years. He is antisocial, and after living with him we are quite sure he suffers from the paranoid personality disorder, but I am unable to help him because he is very ignorant and hateful when it comes to him being the troublemaker. My mother and him had one child, here I am trying to find someone who will respect my mother and show her that she can also be happy.
My father has been emotionally abusing me and my mother ever since I was very little (abusive lang, making us feel worthless) and also used to sometimes physically abuse my mother where I remember her thumb being broken and many bruises. My mother however has always supported him in every way just because she had thought he would make her happy in the end, also because she didn't have support from anyone else and she couldn't afford to leave him with me. My father has now made her work in another country for 4 years simply because he doesn't want her to be with him. And I am just in the middle, hoping for a miracle for my mothers happiness.
If you know someone or if you are the one who can help me, please feel free to do so. It would be much appreciated. Also leaving comments such as "Why doesn't she just divorce?" Really doesn't help. We are not financially strong enough and it takes too long to get what we deserve. We are trying but we are unsure how things will turn out.
Thank you for reading.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My mother has been emotionally/physically abused for years and now left alone away from me by my dad. I am looking for someone who can pick her up from the mess and help us be happy. Thank you. | My mother has been emotionally/physically abused for years and now left alone away from me by my dad. I am looking for someone who can pick her up from the mess and help us be happy. Thank you. | 1,073 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20F] with my boyfriend [27 M] of 1 year, on a break because of his lost desire for sex.
POST: We went a few days without talking at all so I finally ask him what's up. He keeps saying he can't explain it but he's sorry and that the fire is gone from the relationship. We meet up to talk about it in person and he says he lately has no sex drive, asks me why we need to have sex every time we hang out (2-3 times per week usually).
This made me feel really insecure and took my self-esteem down a notch but told him I wanted to fix it. His solution was to keep on doing everything else the same but just take a break from sex to see if that fixes things. I feel that there is an underlying issue with the relationship such as him just losing interest because we've been together for a while. So I suggested a break from seeing each other/talking entirely and see how it feels.
On my end it feels like shit. I want to call him just to talk about our day or to say I miss him. I don't want to sound pathetic or desperate to him. It gets a little easier each day so I'm wondering if I should break it off completely so there's no lingering hope of getting back together. That's the only way I see myself truly moving on.
Should I stay in a relationship where he is confused about his feelings and physically uninterested? Or should I break things off and try to move on?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | No sex drive on his end, wondering if this is underlying emotional problem and whether I should stay in the relationship at all. | No sex drive on his end, wondering if this is underlying emotional problem and whether I should stay in the relationship at all. | 367 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: Don't tailgate me
POST: Background: There is a road in my area where the speed limit drops from 50 to 35 as the road goes from 4 lanes to 2 as it goes through a residential area. This road is kind of a by-pass for a crowded section of Highway 9 (think of Bruce Springstein) in central NJ and also crosses a major east/west state highway so the local police hang out on that road to get speeders who don't bother to slow down. Locals are aware the police are usually there, somewhere on the road, and keep an eye on the speed limit.
So, one day, I am driving on that road to pick up my son from his karate class and notice the police car hanging out in a parking lot for a park about a half mile from where the speed limit decreases, hidden from the road (I usually look to see if a car is there or not). About 15 minutes later I am coming back with my son and slow down as the speed limit drops to 35. Of course some BENNY from NY (think of the cast of Jersey Shore) starts tailgating me and flashes his lights to go faster and gets increasingly frustrated as I refused to go faster. And then I remember the police officer and wondered if he was still in the park. Well, one way to find out.
Just before the park, the road widens slightly to allow space for a left turn lane into the park. Just before we get to the park entrance I move my car ever so slightly onto the shoulder making the temptation too great for the BENNY. He seizes this opening to fly by me through the left turn lane. As I pass the park I notice that not only is my friend still there but his lights just popped on. He comes out of the park, I pull over like a driver is supposed to when an emergency vehicle has his lights on and watch him quickly close the distance between him and the BENNY.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I clicked my oil releasing switch and caused a tailgater to spin out and get thrown from his car as he crashed into some trees. | I clicked my oil releasing switch and caused a tailgater to spin out and get thrown from his car as he crashed into some trees. | 3,374 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My [28/M] ex-fiancee [23/f] left me for soul searching and partying..
POST: We dated for a little over 4 years and she initially said she needed a break from me because I didn't understand how important school was to her and that she wanted to do well this past semester. I agreed. She started acting really distant and cold towards me and eventually after almost a week of NC called me up and told me how horrible of a boyfriend I had been and that I just don't understand her and never will. I listened to all her complaints and told her I would do everything I could to give her space and work on myself at the same time. She told me that she needed another month to decide whether she wanted to be with me. About 2 weeks in (some days we wouldn't talk at all, other days she would send me "i love you so much" texts) I told her that I've waited 2 months to figure out what exactly is going on between us and It's taking an emotional toll on me. She called me up about 4 hours later crying hysterically telling me that as much as she loves me, she feels like she needs time to decide whether I'm the one she wants to marry. She told me that there was no other guy and this wasn't about sex or me personally, just that she never really got to experience being single and wants to get the most out of her last year of college. She got upset when I told her I was going to pawn the engagement ring and that I was thinking of moving back to New York since I don't really have any friends here. Since that conversation (about 2 weeks ago) I have initiated zero contact and she has texted me a few times just to say that she is sorry and that she feels like she failed me. I'm so confused with what to do here.. I love this girl more than anything and would kill to get back with her..
TL;DR: . Assistant: | ex fiancee left to find herself and enjoy her last year of college, made tons of excuses and gave many reasons. Looking to see if there is a chance we are going to get back.. | ex fiancee left to find herself and enjoy her last year of college, made tons of excuses and gave many reasons. Looking to see if there is a chance we are going to get back.. | 6,512 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Should I encourage my boyfriend to exercise and eat better or is this his own issue to deal with?
POST: When I met my boyfriend almost two years ago, he was fit and in shape. We used to run together and go hiking all the time. He was stressed out for awhile and drank a lot, and six months ago he had to move away for a different job. His new location doesn't have nice places to exercise outdoors, and he hates exercising indoors. He has gained about 30lbs since I met him and I know it affects his self-esteem. He recently found out that he is "overweight" and he constantly calls himself fat. I tell him that I love him and that if he is unhappy with his body image, he should exercise. But, he always makes excuses. I wonder if I should encourage him more. Is this a good idea or should I let him deal with this issue on his own. I don't want him to take my encouragement as "I love you less because you're overweight." That's not the case. However, I do worry that if he continues to gain weight he could suffer health consequences since his family members have Type II Diabetes. I also just want him to feel better about himself. Any suggestions?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend complains that he's fat but won't do anything to get back to his healthy weight. Should I encourage him or let him deal with this alone? | Boyfriend complains that he's fat but won't do anything to get back to his healthy weight. Should I encourage him or let him deal with this alone? | 561 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend [20] is offended because I [M-19] wouldn't be attracted to her IF she was overweight... help!
POST: Ok my girlfriend texted me asking whether I'd be attracted to her **IF** she was fat. [Conversation] I'm not attracted to fat women, she knows this because I've never dated anyone fat, I'm not fat and above all, SHE isn't fat.
I've told her before that I would love her but I wouldn't be sexually or physically attracted to her because I don't like fat women. She got upset, saying I'm shallow. I'm not shallow, there's nothing wrong with not being attracted to fat women, at all. It's just who I am.
She then went on to say that I should be because she's still the same person and my reply would simply be that it's not always the personality that counts, you have to be attracted to somebody who looks good to you and if you were fat, you wouldn't look good to me.
But one point you guys have to understand is that my girlfriend is not fat, she is nowhere near. She's absolutely fine in my eyes.
How can I deal with this?!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend asks me every 3-4 months or so (pattern) if I'd be attracted to her if she was overweight, how do I deal with her so that I don't sound horrible? | My girlfriend asks me every 3-4 months or so (pattern) if I'd be attracted to her if she was overweight, how do I deal with her so that I don't sound horrible? | 3,499 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Where's the best place you've ever worked and why?
POST: I worked for Superstore when I was 15. I was hired onto the grocery department, and was trained by a guy named Kyle on my first day of work. Let's just say that him and other guys weren't the best influences.....
Here's a list of what we did that made this job awesome:
* First day of training Kyle takes me into the back and shows me how to use my knife to cut open bags of chips and candy so that we could eat the "damaged merchandise" .
* Jalapeño pepper eating contest (won $20 bucks then puked EVERYWHERE)
* Water fights: We'd use the hoses to soak each other unexpectedly. Best memory I have is when the manager on duty came into the back produce area to see me soaked from head to toe...turns around and walks out the door without saying a word. Hilarious.
* Palet jack relay races: We had manual, electric, and lift jacks in our warehouse. So we'd race the electric ones down the back hall, jump off and ride the manual ones back to the main warehouse area, then jump on the electric one and find a way to lift ourself to the top shelf to grab the flag. I won by pressing the emergency stop button on my buddy's electric jack. ;)
I loved working in the back fridge alone at times, just stocking shelves. It was peaceful. And the rowdy times were awesome too. For a 15 year old guy who didn't have many friends at the time and was very strict to the rules, I gotta thank these guys for showing me how to have fun. Best first job ever.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Worked at a grocery store when I was 15 and had an awesome time eating food, and hanging out with older guys who were a terrible influence. | Worked at a grocery store when I was 15 and had an awesome time eating food, and hanging out with older guys who were a terrible influence. | 4,996 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: Dog ownership for travelers: yay or nay
POST: Me: 23yo nomadic journalist (postgrad has consisted of three writing fellowships in three states), weekend shelter dog walker and socializer. I've been surrounded by dogs my whole life, and spending lots of time at the shelter has helped fill that doggie void—but I've been fighting the urge to have my own pup for more than a year and I'm wearing thin.
A dog is a HUGE responsibility, and as an adventure travel writer (whose ideal job situation might require her to be up and at 'em at a moment's notice), I worry that I can't give a dog a more-than-adequate life—I also worry that I might resent a dog that limits my flexibility, and I'd HATE myself for resenting a dog because of my mistake (b/c dogs are pretty much the best).
So what I'm wondering is, is it possible to live a travel-filled life with a dog that doesn't completely break the bank or make you wish you'd never adopted/bought? Can I hostel and backpack and train ride through Europe, for instance, without having to pay 200/night for a dog bed? Will I totally destroy a dog's sense of security by not giving it a steady home?
That said, I haven't PLANNED a huge backwoods excursion yet, but I want to, and likely will, and think that should factor into my adoption decision. I've worked in office environments (though, granted, casual offices) thus far and even then, worry that I might not be able to bring my dog to work. I've lived with people who caged their escape-prone animals during the day and it BROKE MY HEART.
I read than New Yorker article recently about Emotional Support Animals, and while it's a really sleazy evasion of the lacking legal system for most people, I'm so tempted to try and get 'certification' for a dog so I can take it on planes (the dog I've got my eye on is 40lbs, and I've emailed some airlines to check their ESA weight/size limits if they don't already list them, which some do) and to work, regardless of company policy.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | People who've successfully done the dog travel thing, tell me how you did it and if you're glad you did it; devil's advocates, come at me. | People who've successfully done the dog travel thing, tell me how you did it and if you're glad you did it; devil's advocates, come at me. | 4,662 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Furniture suggestions...long term project
POST: Hi there Just moved from NY to SF with my wife and we are going to start out on our first place together since we stopped being broke-2nd-hand-ikea-furniture users. Starting out so on a budget and honestly, have no idea how to think of interior design so looking for help.
This intends to be a long term project, one where i post pictures of before and after, compile a list of stores and design ideas!
Description: live in SF victorian apartment (well, plan on, once we find it! still in a sublet), not terribly large
So, first task: what are the core pieces of furniture in each room? For instance, in the bedroom, i am guessing its the bed that would decide the color and kind of accessories like chest of drawers? And in the living room, i suppose i should get a couch before anything else?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | new house, building it out from scratch, looking for help from reddit, will post all advice/pictures i collect over time...long term project | new house, building it out from scratch, looking for help from reddit, will post all advice/pictures i collect over time...long term project | 175 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what are some situations from childhood where you went to great lengths and stress to hide something from parents/teachers, only for it to be way less of a big deal than you thought?
POST: When I was 9, my dad never recycled anything our huge laserjet churned out.
The computer room was part of my bedroom. One night I was on a cot near the computer since I had a friend sleeping over in my bed. I got up to pee, but being unfamiliar with the new bed, couldn't find the door in the dark. I panicked, and just peed against the nearest wall. I turned on a desk lamp and saw that I'd pissed all over my dad's precious pile of printer paper. And the wall. And carpet. I was sure he'd be furious. Since he was saving those papers, and this was his office, I figured they must be important documents.
With piss-stained pyjamas (I couldn't change because I didn't want to risk waking up my friend by opening the closet), I frantically cleaned up my piss and tried to copy by hand all the text on those pages onto new paper with a pencil. But there was no hiding the fact that I'd pissed all over several hundred pages of white paper.
I gave up and went to bed crying, struggling to keep quiet because my friend was a few feet away and I didn't want to wake him and see what I'd done.
My dad never noticed the next morning, my stomach in knots. Months went by, until we were moving to a new house. He picked up the pile of papers while packing, I froze. He said it looked like they'd gotten water damage somehow. He shrugged, and threw them all in the trash without ever bothering to save any of the information on them. All worthless. FML.
I still recycle paper frequently due to the scar this left.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 9 year old me accidentally pissed all over a pile of my dad's "important documents", found out months later they were just garbage. | 9 year old me accidentally pissed all over a pile of my dad's "important documents", found out months later they were just garbage. | 2,100 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: FWB suddenly lost interest?
POST: So, I [20 f] had plans to hang out with my fwb [19 m] of about a month last night, which he blew off. When I asked him about it he said we could hang out today instead which I was fine with. He was ignoring me for a while and then just said he didn't want to see me anymore, totally out of the blue, because we "never had much in common." (???) I kind of pressed him a little bit because I was confused and he gave me the whole it's not you thing, saying he just had no desire to hang out anymore but didn't know why. I really don't understand, as I saw him just a few days ago and we had sex and hung out for a long time it seemed fine. When I asked him about that he said he felt similarly then as well, which was pretty upsetting, and made me feel used and just generally pretty shitty. I just don't understand what's going on here and my efforts to talk about it have been ignored. My own insecurities make me feel like it's something I did or maybe he's not attracted to me. Is he being honest with me?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | fwb says he's suddenly lost interest but doesn't know why; is he being honest and is there anything I can do to salvage this? | fwb says he's suddenly lost interest but doesn't know why; is he being honest and is there anything I can do to salvage this? | 3,984 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: My mother (F/45) has turned to food to cope with her stress.
POST: This post is not meant to body shame, or make anyone feel insecure about their weight. I'm just worried for my mother.
My mother works a very high paced stressful job, on top of that, she's going back to school. When she's not working her long hours at her job, (she works overtime all the time, she can't say no to her work or else she feels somehow guilty) she is slaving away at her desk writing long essays. She gets very little sleep, and often pulls all nighters to complete her essays. Through all this stress, she has put on about 20 pounds, and was not "thin" before that. My mother has taken to food to cope with her stress. Cookies in the morning, high calorie meals at night, I'm very worried my mother is going to eat herself sick. My whole family is getting concerned, and my other parent confided in me that she is becoming increasingly depressed. How do I talk to my mom, without offending her, that I'm worried about her weight? She often calls herself a "fat cow" or a "whale", my goal isn't to make her feel insecure, but if she keeps eating like this she WILL get sick. How do I approach this as kindly as gently as I can while getting my point across? Any advice is welcomed.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My mother's stress has caused her to turn to food, how do I tell her I'm worried about her weight without sounding like an asshole? | My mother's stress has caused her to turn to food, how do I tell her I'm worried about her weight without sounding like an asshole? | 5,201 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22M] with my SO [19 F] of 6 months, went out came back with hickey in neck. How to bring up
POST: This happened a couple of weeks ago. She went out on a night out with friends, a mixture of guys and girls.
We went on holiday together the day after. In the evening of that first day, she brings up that she got a hickey the night before from one of the guys. She tells me that this guy, while drunk, came up behind her and bit her neck, leaving the mark. She was completely open about this, and didn't try to hide any of the details as far as I can tell. At the time, this seemed plausible and I didn't think anything more of it.
However, having had time to think about this, I am aware that it would take some time to give someone a hickey. As far as I am aware, it could not just happen from a guy biting her neck randomly.
I was just wondering if you could give me some advice of the best way to bring this up with her in a non-accusatory way, as I do trust her completely, just need some questions answering I guess.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend went out one night, came back with hickey, claimed a drunk guy friend gave it to her by biting her neck, but nothing happened and she pushed him away. How to bring this topic up again? | Girlfriend went out one night, came back with hickey, claimed a drunk guy friend gave it to her by biting her neck, but nothing happened and she pushed him away. How to bring this topic up again? | 5,060 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (M17) need advice on asking out a girl with severe social anxiety (F17)
POST: A little backstory, I am a high school senior that had to switch from public school to a home school program because of family reasons, and I generally don't get to meet new people so I asked a (female) friend of mine who is a bit of a social butterfly if she could point me in the direction of some fun people to talk to. One of the people she recommended (based off of my interests) was a girl who doesn't have many friends and suffers from social anxiety (doesn't like going out or generally feel comfortable around people)
Anyways, i messaged this girl, lets call her kate, and we've been talking for about a week. We have very similar tastes, mostly in books, fairly obscure "underground" music, and the sciences. We're (in my view) hitting it off quite well, she messages me after school if i don't get to her first, is generally very quick to respond, funny, kind, thoughtful. i got her phone number.
Moving to the main point, I am interested in possibly forming a relationship with her, but I don't quite know exactly how to go about it. I asked our mutual friend, and she said she'd only had one boyfriend in her freshman year who got bored with her and left her for a different girl, she also said that she had no idea how she would react if i asked her out, and was kinda protective of her.
(For backstories sake I also have not dated since my freshman year).
Anyways (again) I want to ask her out, but i don't know what to say to her at all. I'm not super obsessed or anything, i just think she's sweet and it's very rare for me to find anyone who shares even a few of my tastes, and would love to get to know her better, but I don't want to wait too long to the point where she just sees me as a friend and I make her think I was being dishonest with my intentions the entire time.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to ask out a girl I've been texting for a week that has social anxiety but I don't know how to go about it* | I want to ask out a girl I've been texting for a week that has social anxiety but I don't know how to go about it* | 6,356 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: A question for all of you winners who have reached your goal weight.
POST: I'm currently on my way down from my all-time high weight of 175.8. I'm 5'6 so I know that doesn't sound all that high, but I felt like crap and I was eating terribly and not working out. I've been running 3-4 times a week for about 30 minutes and just finished my first 5K today!
I'm down ten pounds since the end of May with 10-15 more to go, and I'm motivated and confident now, eating about 1600 calories a day and tracking all of my food, but I'm really concerned about what will happen when I hit my goal weight. I've lost a little weight in the past but as soon as I got stressed, I gained it all right back. How have you managed to keep the weight off once you've reached your goal?
Also, I've been researching how many calories I'd need a day to maintain my weight and finding that that number falls around 2100 calories per day. Wouldn't eating that many calories make me regain all of the weight I'd have lost? It seems like a lot to me! How many calories do you eat a day to maintain your weight, and has eating your so-called "maintenance number" caused you to regain?
Any wisdom would be greatly appreciated!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Lost weight, more to go, concerned that "maintenance calorie level" will cause me to regain when I reach my goal | Lost weight, more to go, concerned that "maintenance calorie level" will cause me to regain when I reach my goal | 4,131 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25F] & BF [27 M] (1.5 yrs together) are in a x-country relationship; how do we get together without destroying our balance? Someone has to make a sacrifice and we both know it won't be his pursuit of his passion.
POST: There is no doubt we have a great relationship. Shortly after we started dating though, he let me know that he would be moving across the country in a year to pursue a life in music. I said I was open minded to a long distance relationship. Now we are in our 4th month apart and it sucks. Yes, there are some cool parts (getting independence and control of my own time) but ultimately, I'm excited for this phase to end.
How do we end it? There are two options. One, I leave my job, family, friends, and home behind and begin an adventure out there. Two, he gives up on pursuing music the way he originally had in mind (and probably with the best odds of success). The problem is, this is his life's passion and he has been planning this for years so I can't exactly get in the way now. Not to mention, I want it for him.
I've been trying to forge my own adventure to look forward to out there by applying to grad school which I want to do anyways. However, I wouldn't have picked this location if it were not for him so it feels like a really grand gesture for him/our relationship. It makes me terrified that I am some silly girl throwing my life away for a boy. I want to see myself as more independent and in charge of my own life.
It feels like it boils down to feeling like I would do this for him but he would not do it in return for me. That's not the whole picture but I do feel like it is throwing off the balance in our relationship that I move for him. I've asked him what he can do for me to show me the balance is there but it's been sort of a stump-er for both of us.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How do I leave my friends, family, home, and job behind in order to be with the person I love and still feel a sense of balance and Independence in our relationship? | How do I leave my friends, family, home, and job behind in order to be with the person I love and still feel a sense of balance and Independence in our relationship? | 3,479 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [25F] husband [26M] is lying to me constantly
POST: We've been married for almost 7 months. Even while we were dating, his family has been a constant source of drama and conflict. We even went to couples counseling before we got married and the advice we were given was that we needed to establish boundaries between his family and our relationship.
Lately he has been lying to me about things related to his family. When they all try to make plans about things, he never tells me what's going on and I only hear the final plan once it has been decided (and then I'm the bitch because I can never attend because no one has asked me what my schedule is like). He even lied to me about his student loans, which I only discovered because I made him pull a credit report and the numbers did not match the information he had given me. And then I saw in his texts that he told his mother 'I'm telling her X, if she asks you for some reason, back me up.'
Last night things came to a head, when his mother sent out an email scheduling an event saying "after many back and forth emails." I had not been included on any of these back and forth emails, and my husband swore he was also excluded from the conversation. I picked up his phone, went through his texts, and found the text his mom sen him in the hours before her email, saying "I'm sending you a separate email to discuss scheduling." He STILL denies lying to me, saying that what I saw wasn't what I thought, and he shouldn't have to defend himself to me. AND he's mad that I betrayed his trust and looked at his phone.
What am I supposed to do... I feel so lost.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | There is no trust left in my marriage. My husband keeps lying to me, even when he's caught red handed. At a loss for what I'm supposed to do now. | There is no trust left in my marriage. My husband keeps lying to me, even when he's caught red handed. At a loss for what I'm supposed to do now. | 4,412 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17 m] need help
POST: I don't know what to do. I feel like while I'm good looking I can never find any one who cares enough to get to know me for me. I have 5 best friends that are girls, I had a thing with one, but she always said she doesn't know what to feel so I stopped talking to her. I guess my biggest issue is when I talk to girls I get to know them and they get to know me and we do stuff.
I'm just tired of this high school bull shit, I just want someone to love. Someone to cuddle without having sex, without thinking that sex makes are relationship serious, I mean I just want a girl who doesn't think that all guys want is sex. I need help finding the kind of girl whose beauty lies within and not only on the outside, a girl i can give flowers to randomly and she'll realize how special she is, a girl I can lay on my roof with and look up at the stars and fall asleep on each other. I guess I really just wanna know how to find great girls who want those amazing relationships and I need help find myself a bit.t
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I really need help in being able to better my relationship and finding myself so I can truly give all of myself to my eventual significant other | I really need help in being able to better my relationship and finding myself so I can truly give all of myself to my eventual significant other | 6,198 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is something making people smaller/mature later?
POST: Preface: Let me know if this fits better in r/askscience, I feel like it's too speculative for the subreddit and didn't want to get e-lynched.
I'm now a senior in high school and I feel like my class and the classes below me look prepubescent still compared to those of my parents and even siblings. I'm not sure if it's just that when I was younger I thought that seniors in high school looked older than they actually did and that my class looks just the same as the other class but I'm wondering. I know that a class of 500 students is not a huge sample size, but when my brother was a senior five years ago he was probably the fifth to tenth tallest person in his class at 6'6". In my class, there is one kid who is over 6'6"- he's 6'8". Yes 6'8" is tall but I've gone to school with him for many years and know that both of his grandfathers are over 7'0 tall, his father is over 7'0 tall, and his mother is 6'8". He suspects that he is done growing since he's been the same height since freshman year- so this 6'8" seems short for his genetics (note that I know nothing about genetics past punnet squares). I also realize that five years is not nearly long enough time for such a drastic change to be taking effect, and that this may just be all coincidental. Now, I look back at my parents' yearbooks and see kids with full beards, at my school it is common to sport a beard if you're able to grow one (ie my hideous chinstrap). There are only a few kids with more than peach fuzz it seems. I'm not trying to be "lol I'm so manly and everyone else is prepubescent" (my noodle arms would like to disagree)- I feel like if I were placed in high school ten years ago that I would look like a completely average senior, and yet people tell me I look like I'm 25.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Are people getting smaller and maturing at a later age or is it the same as it has always been and I just feel that way because of how I perceived older kids while I was a younger kid? | Are people getting smaller and maturing at a later age or is it the same as it has always been and I just feel that way because of how I perceived older kids while I was a younger kid? | 4,236 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [19F] BF [25 F] of 4 months has not talked to me in almost 2 weeks and I dont know what to do.
POST: I met my Bf online. He is in Ireland and I am in the US. We have plans to meet when I study abroad in the UK I love him so much, and he loves me. There are no red flags in this relationship, except that he hasn't talked to me in a while. Id rather not my family know of our relationship until I see him, so at home we use Kik and Facebook to talk and Skype when I am in Uni. I have had times when he didnt talk to me for a few days, but he is poor so he cant afford a non glitchy phone.
We haven't had a proper conversation since the 4th of july, and the last time he responded to me was 10 days ago. He has made the excuses that "he isn't online much" despite it being the only way we can communicate. Its confusing to me because on kik and Facebook my messages were delivered, but he hasn't read them (despite being online Facebook recently).
I try to understand that he cant be online all the time, but at least some communication would be nice. I am at my wits end with this. I am not sure if I should break up with him.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | BF isnt responding to my messages on social media for weeks, despite being online, he hasn't read any messages. Feeling frustrated and lost about how to proceed. | BF isnt responding to my messages on social media for weeks, despite being online, he hasn't read any messages. Feeling frustrated and lost about how to proceed. | 905 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 F] having trouble trusting my boyfriend [21 M]
POST: I recently found out that for a majority of my six month relationhsip with my boyfriend, he's been on and off chatting up other girls on facebook and okcupid.
He says he never intended to cheat and that he couldn't have and what's more he says he realizes now that he loves me, he told me for the first time a couple weeks ago. He says he didn't realize what he had and he took me for granted. He says he doesn't deserve me but that he's so lucky I've forgiven him. He says he thought he doesn't deserve to be happy and that he was afraid to fall in love again.
All he ever did was chat with other girls, flirt, and ask them to hang out or hookup. He hung out with two girls but says nothing happened and I completely believe him on that.
I'm wondering if maybe it could be true that he was just cheating because he was scared of a serious relationship? I really want to believe he won't cheat again and he's completely changed in the way he treats me since he realized he loves me, but I've just heard so many stories about how people never really stop cheating. But he never physically cheated so I'm wondering if my situation is different?
Any advice would be much appreciated! Thank you so much!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My boyfriend had thoughts of cheating but never actually did anything sexual. Is it possible he truly loves me now and won't be tempted again? | My boyfriend had thoughts of cheating but never actually did anything sexual. Is it possible he truly loves me now and won't be tempted again? | 2,570 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22 M] am about to propose to my girlfriend [22F] of almost 2 years, and I can't calm myself down
POST: Alright, so I am preparing to propose to my girlfriend of almost 2 years
(we were friends for double that beforehand) in a couple days and I am starting to get EXTREMELY anxious/nervous. We have talked about this for months, and I know she will say yes, but I can't seem to relax.
The other day I bought the ring, which I fell in love with myself and know she will too. And then two days ago, I asked her dad's blessing. Everything has gone great so far, but now leading up to it I can't think about anything else. I can't sleep. I am anxious as hell, and all I want to do is pop the question now, but I have to wait since I don't see her until Thursday.
I know how I am going to do it. I have thoroughly planned it out and I am more than prepared. But, at the same time, I am freaking out. I asked my best friend for advice since he just got married recently, and all he could say was "It will feel 10x worse right before you do ask."
Any suggestions on how to relax leading up to it? I would like to be able to sleep...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am about to ask the love of my life to marry me, and I am getting EXTREMELY anxious. Advice on how to relax leading up to popping the question? | I am about to ask the love of my life to marry me, and I am getting EXTREMELY anxious. Advice on how to relax leading up to popping the question? | 2,583 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girlfriend doesn't want me smoking weed, I've been smoking recreationally for 6 years.
POST: Hi reddit, I've been with my girlfriend for about a month now, im 18 and shes 16 and I have a problem.
She doesn't want me smoking weed. I have never been addicted and have never needed weed, it's always just been a great way to spend a night with friends, since I'm in a relatively new relationship with my girlfriend, she's wanted me to completely go cold turkey and I don't think I can do this anymore.
I love smoking weed with my buddies and some of the best times come from this.
The reason she doesn't want me smoking weed is because of some family history where weed caused trouble in her family, gona leave it at that.
She says she hates the idea of me smoking weed even though there is no logical reason, I think that's really dumb, but that's just me. I have always gone along with it saying I will do anything to make her happy, she says she gets really depressed and upset when I do it. I don't know what to do.
I don't want to give this part of my life up, am I in the wrong here, I just need help please.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend doesn't want me to smoke weed because of issues that it's caused her family in the past, I don't want to quit smoking weed though. | Girlfriend doesn't want me to smoke weed because of issues that it's caused her family in the past, I don't want to quit smoking weed though. | 2,088 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (25m) need advice with a girl (23f) I really like on how to maintain a healthy relationship.
POST: I find myself in this stupid cycle with every girl I date. We hit the ground running and everything goes great for a while. Then as if a stupid switch is turned on in my brain I begin to find myself tripping over my words, making shitty conversation, and ultimately screwing up. I'm fairly introverted and one-track minded and I mainly blame this as the culprit. I'm a full time student who works two jobs so time to sit down and talk is not a luxury that I have most of the time. This makes me bad at maintaining frequent text conversations which in this day and age seems to be pretty much a deal breaker.
So the girl that I have been dating recently is amazing, an artist, loves to travel, funny, pretty much the whole nine yards. One thing that does suck is that she lives out of state, we have maintained what I view as healthy contact for the past month or so and we have visited each other a few times. But mentioned earlier I'm beginning to find myself in the same situation I always do. Making shitty conversation or saying something that makes me sound stupid. I don't know what to do. I know I need to be confident and relax I usually start out like this but I just lose it when I start having real feelings for someone. I hate it and it makes me want to live in a hole.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm sort of introverted and one track minded. Pretty good at the initial part of dating but I lose it after a while particularly when real feelings get involved. The results are frustrating to say the least. | I'm sort of introverted and one track minded. Pretty good at the initial part of dating but I lose it after a while particularly when real feelings get involved. The results are frustrating to say the least. | 5,598 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Dentists, is this normal?
POST: My daughter is 3, and went in for a dental exam a few months ago. My wife, today, asked me if it was okay for her to switch my daughter to our regular dentist, instead of using the pediatric dentist. I asked her why she thought we needed to switch her.
She explained that when she took our daughter to the pediatric dentist, they told my wife she wouldn't be allowed to come back with our daughter for the exam. She said they insisted on taking my daughter back to the doctor alone.
My wife and I have both been exposed to child abuse issues. So, the second she told me about that, I said 'No, we're not taking her back there again, go ahead and switch her'.
Honestly, I'm not taking her back regardless of your comments on the subject. However, I'm wondering if we're being over-protective. Is that something pediatric dentists do?
The whole thing set off red flags for me. I even was a bit angry with my wife for allowing her to go in alone even once.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Pediatric dentist insists on seeing his 3yr old patients alone, and will not allow the parents in the examination room. Is that an accepted practice? | Pediatric dentist insists on seeing his 3yr old patients alone, and will not allow the parents in the examination room. Is that an accepted practice? | 688 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] interested in a friend [19 F] known for a couple of years, who says we probably wouldn't work out because her parents are racist.
POST: Honestly, this girl is amazing and so far shes already more of a interesting person, than my ex. I like everything about her, and I did confess but what confused me is, she never really rejected me based on her thoughts. She only said she things we could never be more than friends and if we did, become more her racist parents would be a problem. ( I am African American) she is (Trinidadian of Indian descent).
The only issue I have with this is because she never told me what she thought about be besides saying a that I'm an awesome guy before saying the rest.
It also confuses me because I know she is very much an independent woman and a free thinker, so I can't seem to picture her dating a specific type of guy so her parents wont cause problems. Perhaps she has a weak spot for family and I understand.
So am I wasting my time? My best friend told me I should just take it slow (Kind of not focus on it) and see if any thing changes through out time and if not then just move on.
Even after that rejection we still talk perfectly fine as much as we did before.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Amazing girl, I would love to have a chance to date but her only reason that she gave for us not being able to be together is because of her parents' racial views. | Amazing girl, I would love to have a chance to date but her only reason that she gave for us not being able to be together is because of her parents' racial views. | 5,488 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I have failed...
POST: A few days ago I posted a thread about how I wanted to get together with my good friend who's seventeen like me, musician, hipster, etc etc. I was planning on doing something with her when I got back to the states (Reddit gave me some good tips and information). One thing that worried me was that her ex-boyfriend was coming back to town.
I was informed via facebook last night that he went to surprise her at school. I was sort of playing a counseling psychologist asking how she felt and why she thought so etc, and it was all going hunky-dory until she said the words, "and then we sort of touched hands and I'm sort of confused at the moment." At this point I felt a huge knot in my stomach.
I sort of stopped talking to her after that part (my computer battery was dead anyway). Well, I had a hard time sleeping that night, I feel like shit right now, I feel the knot still in my stomach. What is recommended? For the last three nights I've talked to her for about an hour and a half each night, but now I really don't want to talk.
What do I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My good friend, who I want to date, touched hands with her ex-bf after a few months of him being away at college and now I feel like shit. | My good friend, who I want to date, touched hands with her ex-bf after a few months of him being away at college and now I feel like shit. | 4,248 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [20/m] A really good friend (17/f) made a move on me...
POST: Ok, so I am a bit younger, I hope you don't mind.
I am currently 20 and will start Uni in Germany this fall and I have the first time a real problem with a relationship. I always had a really good friend and she helped me all the time with everything, we know each others since early childhood. She is 2 and a bit years younger than I am and she is really important for me, I can talk with her about anything. I am currently single and now she made a move on me and I am crashing.
Her life is currently horrible, and while we both have it not easy, she is really breaking at the moment. This is hurting me, so I started to become sort of like a brother, whenever I see her I just want to protect her from everything bad in life, no matter what happens. I think she saw that as me approaching and just took the chance (she kissed me, nothing so serious). Now I panicked and friend zoned her. I told her I will think about it until Uni starts, but I don't want to friend zone her, because I know friend zone, it sucks! But whenever I see her, I think of the small child that I still remember, not the girl she is right now (she is 17, it is not like I am committing a crime, am I?) What should I do now? I mean I like her, and we understand each other well, and we know everything about the other one, it would be so relaxed with her...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | A girl made a move on me and I still see her as a very good childhood friend. Should I let her go or is there a way in which it will change? | A girl made a move on me and I still see her as a very good childhood friend. Should I let her go or is there a way in which it will change? | 3,745 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I (19f) go to uni with(20m) and can't tell if he is interested
POST: Basically we met at uni, have a few classes together and seem to get on well. When we first met I had boyfriend, but i broke up with him a month ago and have been single ever since. We recently had a uni break and he added me on fb and we have chatted a few times. It all seems pretty good but I just can't read him. I can't tell if he just wants to be friends or more.
I just got out of 2yr relationship and just don't know if i can be bothered to deal with the "game".
Should i be upfront with him? Ask him if he is interested or just wait. I know it's pretty early days, but I just don't like the feeling of waiting around for something that may never happen.
We kind of spoke about what we would want out of relationships, pretty casual/organic flowing but I couldn't tell if he was initiating anything or just for conversation :/
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Met a really cute guy, want to have fun with him, start something casual but can't tell if he wants it back. Should i just be super upfront or just keep waiting | Met a really cute guy, want to have fun with him, start something casual but can't tell if he wants it back. Should i just be super upfront or just keep waiting | 773 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What is a sub-$800 camera that can shoot high quality video ideal for music video-like appearances?
POST: [This is a video of what we're trying to achieve.](
My school currently has a Sony HVR-HD1000u, and compared to that, our videos are nowhere near as good. I understand that things like lighting and color correction play a pretty big role, but even then I feel like our videos are never that clean. I usually can't get 720p clips out of our camera and the slow motion that they have is something we can't even come close to.
One possible *problem* is that for some reason we can't use firewire to connect the camera to the computer so we have to play the tape on this thing that basically plays it and then we capture the tape playing. I feel like this is probably a huge problem because it's like trying to show a friend a movie by screen-capping from Skype.
SO, should we scrap the HVR-HD1000u and get a Canon T2i (a cheaper DSLR which from the samples I've seen on YouTube and clips from that video, seems pretty high quality), or continue trying to use the Sony?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | To get music video quality, would it be better to use our Sony HVR-HD1000u or buy a Canon T2i? Or something else entirely (<$800)? | To get music video quality, would it be better to use our Sony HVR-HD1000u or buy a Canon T2i? Or something else entirely (<$800)? | 2,097 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How should I [18M] go about approaching / reaching out to a friend [18F] of a friend?
POST: So there's this girl that is a friend of one of my female classmates. The girl doesn't go to my school, but lives reasonably close by. I noticed her a little while ago through the abundance of photos of her on Facebook -- she's a photographer and, honestly, has more albums than most people have photos -– and became extremely interested in her as I learned more about her interests.
We've interacted indirectly or inconsequentially a few times, such as when I complimented her on a few of her incredible photographs (sometimes she throws them on Instagram) and she thanked me in response. She has also been "liking" an increasing number of my posts and photos recently, and has "poked" me quite reliably on Facebook.
I am not under the illusion that these social networking interactions are overly meaningful, nor have I drawn any foregone conclusions from our online interactions so far. I describe them here largely as a "she knows I exist" baseline from which to work.
I've only ever seen her in person one time, though I did not have the chance (or the nerves) to approach her on that occasion.
I'm a big believer in first impressions.
I'm unsure if I should bite the bullet and formally initiate communication *online*, or try to orchestrate a *face-to-face* meeting (preferable, but more difficult to bring about in a timely manner) She works at an orchard and I was planning to go there for the apples once it gets warmer and introduce myself if I run into her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | She and I -- fundamentally strangers -- have been beating around the bush but have yet to really "talk" in any respect. Is a Facebook message an acceptable introduction? | She and I -- fundamentally strangers -- have been beating around the bush but have yet to really "talk" in any respect. Is a Facebook message an acceptable introduction? | 5,092 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I resented my brother growing up, now I feel horrible and wish I could build a relationship with him.
POST: I was an only child until I was 12 and always wanted a sibling. I was jealous of my friends who had a live-in playmate and someone to talk to. My mum was a single parent and spent most of her time either at work or on her computer. I used to play Monopoly by myself and pretend to be someone different for each of the 'players'.
My brother was born when I was 12. I was ecstatic - finally I was getting the sibling I had always wanted and I adored that baby. By that time, however, I was old enough that instead of being an older sibling I ended up more like a second parent. Initially this was fine, I enjoyed looking after him because I had always liked babies and it was fun to see him develop.
As we got older, I was left looking after him more often. I looked after him every day after school all through my teenage years while mum was at work. I couldn't go anywhere, I couldn't stay at a friend's, I couldn't make any plans for after school because I had to get home to my brother. I wanted to be a teenager and do normal teenage things, but instead I was stuck at home looking after someone who shouldn't have been my responsibility. I resented him for that.
It made me depressed and angry, and destroyed any chance of building a loving relationship between him and I. He's 11 now and I know nothing about him. I only ever see him when I visit mum, and even then we don't talk. I still see myself as an only child, and him as one too. We didn't grow up together as siblings, we grew up as caregiver and child.
I'd love to build a relationship with him, because I feel horrible when I think about the way I treated him. The way I took my anger out on him and never showed him any love. But I'm pretty sure he that's all he remembers about me, and he won't understand why it was that way.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Was an only child wanting a sibling, got a brother when I was 12, was nothing like what I thought it be and I took that out on him. Worried that I can never form a relationship with him because of it. | Was an only child wanting a sibling, got a brother when I was 12, was nothing like what I thought it be and I took that out on him. Worried that I can never form a relationship with him because of it. | 4,145 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (16F) Mom (42F) blamed me for her failed marriage. Now she's trying to talk to me again.
POST: Background info: My parents (42F and 50M) are divorced. I live with my dad full time.
Mom and I got into a heated argument about college. She claimed she didn't have the money to have me and my 3 sisters in college at the same time. My mom makes good money, she's a surgeon and my dad's a well respected and busy lawyer. I got really heated & careless and said that I didn't ask to be born and maybe she should've been more responsible with birth control. She then said that she and my dad only got married because of me and I'm the reason for her failed marriage.
I believe her because it makes sense. My older sister (19) has a different dad than me. I was at my parents wedding when I was 6 months old.
I haven't spoken to my mom since but I heard from my dad she wants to talk to me. What do I do? I'm incredibly angry and hurt.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Mom got upset with me and told me she only married my dad because she got pregnant with me. It makes sense, and she's trying to reach out to me again. | Mom got upset with me and told me she only married my dad because she got pregnant with me. It makes sense, and she's trying to reach out to me again. | 4,018 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I respond to people I work with asking how old I am? (26f)
POST: I started college when I was 17 and knew what I wanted to do right off the bat, so at this point I've been in my field for nearly a decade (I had a job in college in my field). I also got married at 19 and had my first child at 20, and I'm very good at my job (I'm a graphic designer/marketer) so I am in a position in life that is usually normal for someone about five or more years older than I am.
I feel capable at my job and in my element running meetings with men twice my age, but every once in awhile someone I work with in some capacity will ask me how old I am. Frankly, I don't want to tell people, I'd rather it be ambiguous. I've noticed a marked difference in the way people respond to me once they have confirmed that yes, I'm younger than they think I am and don't just have a fantastic skin care regimen. How do I respond? Do I lie? Do I just live with it? Is there any professional way at all to respond to that question without saying 'none of your business'?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | nosy people want to know how old I am, how do I tell them they're not supposed to ask people that. | nosy people want to know how old I am, how do I tell them they're not supposed to ask people that. | 542 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What should I do? Move back home to a different state, or be homeless/couch surf for a month and a half while I wait for people to move out so I can take over a lease?
POST: My lease is up at the end of the month, and a buddy at work's roommates (a couple) are moving out mid November, when I could take over on the lease. So I would be homeless for a month and a half and forced to beg for couch space from friends, and family who already look down on me.
At the same time, My sister back home in another State has already said that if I want, she would send husband here, rent a uhaul and drive me home and move me in with them. All I have to do is say the word.
I'm torn. I love it here, and have friends I would really miss. I moved here to be closer to my dad and brother, but I haven't made the connection I wanted with them.
I also miss my mom and sister, and I don't have to try with them, the connection is just there. It would also be great to be back around all my friends I grew up with.
I have 2 jobs here, and nothing lined up there, so it would be a nice break from working for a bit while I settled in.
I don't know what to do. No matter who I ask, the people here say to stay and the people there say move back. I need a less biased answer, which is why I left out the names of the States (I'm sure you could go through my history and figure it out). Anything else you need to know to help?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Be homeless for a month and a half till apt. opens up, or move across the country back home and start fresh? | Be homeless for a month and a half till apt. opens up, or move across the country back home and start fresh? | 5,227 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: 6 Months and I'm just not happy. How do I [M20] break up with her, without her [f20] or her friends hating me?
POST: I'm a sophomore in college, and I started dating a girl (Let's call her Jenny) this past August, and we rushed into things.
Now, I don't know what I really want or need out of a relationship, so I don't want to be in a relationship in general right now until I figure things out in my life. She's also not really who I thought she was, not as confident or independent as she first seemed. And I simply don't enjoy being with her anymore.
Why it's complicated: I was her first boyfriend, took her virginity (she'd only ever kissed like 3 guys before me), and we told each other we loved each other. She says it a lot. She's sort of dependent, and doesn't know how a relationship should work. I don't either, I've never been in healthy/happy ones. Only time I "broke up" with someone, I'd been seeing her for 2 months and just stopped responding to calls and texts and defriended her on Facebook (awful I know, we've reconciled since then (it was 3 years ago)) and I've been moving from relationship to romantic interest to relationship since like junior year of highschool.
I want to be able to focus on my own life.
Anyway, all of my friends who are girls are in her sorority, so I don't want all of them to hate me for breaking up with Jenny. There's also an extracurricular club, that Jenny is in with me, and we're going on a 5 day trip for that club in two weeks (Jenny, Me, and 4 other members of club were selected). Our 6 month anniversary will be in a week AND valentine's day is the day before the trip so I don't want Jenny to be alone, hating me right before the trip.
How do I break up with her, without all our mutual friends (her sorority sisters) hating me, and without it being super awkward in committee meetings or when we see each other?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How do I break up with her without it being super awkward after, and without losing friends +should I wait until after 6 month anniversary (1 week away) & Valentine's day (2 weeks away)? | How do I break up with her without it being super awkward after, and without losing friends +should I wait until after 6 month anniversary (1 week away) & Valentine's day (2 weeks away)? | 3,633 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Thoughts on my ex [26M] of 3 years, cheating on his current gf [19F] with me [26F] but here's the kicker.
POST: So my ex of 3 years has cheated on his current gf with me a few times. One time she found out. They fought but are still together in a now rocky relationship. She hates me and won't let us see each other . But he still does and still cheats on her. But here's the kicker I have herpes. Neither of them do. He's putting her as risk all the time. He is ok with the fact I have it and knows the risks. But she is at risk and knew she was the first time she found out he cheated. But he continues. Any thoughts on this. To mean it seams like he doesn't give two shits about her. Thoughts?
I don't think telling her will get any where cus she is a little crazy and will think I'm just telling lies to get her to leave him.
Please no lectures about how I should drop him like a rock because that won't be happening since we are business partners and I would loose way to much to stop working with him and please no lectures on how I should just stop sleeping with him I know this shit.
I just wanna know your thoughts on whats the point of him doing this is.
Also here's a little context to give you an idea of what kind of relationship me and him had.
From the beginning of the relationship we where in an open relationship and we were allowed to sleep with other people any time we wanted, so first of all I don't care if he cheats on her. But she wants a closed relationship with him and he says he will for he but doesn't.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I need your thoughts on why my ex would put his gf at risk for an std by cheating on her with me. | I need your thoughts on why my ex would put his gf at risk for an std by cheating on her with me. | 4,270 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My long-distance GF[17F] wouldn't tell a guy(who apparently has a huge crush on her) that she's in a relationship with me[19M] so he could buy her gifts, and wouldn't tell me of this. Was I crazy to be upset?
POST: My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 6 months now and everything always goes fine between us. We made it a point to always be honest with each other no matter what, and I have always been faithful to that.
I found out from a mutual friend of ours that a guy she knows has a very big thing for her and has been into her for a while now. I was unaware. This mutual friend also told me that this guy bought my girlfriend gifts, and she told me her mother bought them for her. The reason he buys her gifts is because she's not telling him that she's in a relationship with me, so he's been trying to woo her over. Quite frankly, I was hurt she was keeping our relationship a secret, especially to guys who like her.
She lied to me about the gifts and refused to tell me about all this because she wanted to avoid a conversation about it. Was I right or wrong to be upset about this whole ordeal?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF won't tell a guy who likes her that she's with me so he could buy her gifts, and wouldn't tell anything. | GF won't tell a guy who likes her that she's with me so he could buy her gifts, and wouldn't tell anything. | 788 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My ex [20F] is hiding out at mine [21M] because of her flatmates
POST: Long story so here goes. My ex of a month, I told her when she broke it off because her depression was effecting our relationship that if she needs/requires support I will try to help out.
The other day she called asking for help I was hesitant at first but when I found out she had called the ambulance (hospital is next door to me) I thought I'd check on her to make sure she is okay. She is already receiving help and for depression. But obviously sometimes it's a little worse.
Yesterday she ended up in hospital gave us a slight scare when the hospital told us that they had lost her. But as it turned out she was in another section of the hospital. But for what happened yesterday all of her housemates have essentially just given up on and told her she was being unfair on them and that she should just fuck off else where (in one message they actually said that to her)... So I said she can hide out here till the week break that's just a few days away.
I don't know what to do. Obviously we have broken up its recent and I really don't think it's a good idea for her to be hiding out at the same time. I think her so called friends and housemates are being too harsh and unfair on her... :/
I have images of what's happening available at request. In caught in the middle and I'm being contacted by them as well, almost like they are trying to get a reaction and assess where I am with all this so far I've just ignored them. But honestly I think they are going a bit far. Seeing as they won't stop. I told them yesterday to leave it, because she feels like she is being personally attacked but instead they carried on and tried to laugh it off over Facebook.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex hiding at mine because I feel her flatmates are making a mockery of her depression and telling her to fuck off etc. | Ex hiding at mine because I feel her flatmates are making a mockery of her depression and telling her to fuck off etc. | 4,000 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [21M] love interest [22F] has found a new crush, should I give up on her right away or what do I do?
POST: Known her for 5 months, crushed on her for 4 months and revealed mutual feelings for each other after 2, but couldn't commit because of our situations. The last 2 months, in my eyes, we've come quite far and I thought we were finally getting into a decent spot where a relationship could actually start.
Obviously she sees it differently because she has a new "crush". She started acting weird, using her Whatsapp at a certain point in the middle of the night every night and a few others things that I picked up on - eventually I asked her if she had a thing for a certain guy I knew about and she told me yeah. He's abroad at the moment but they've been talking for 3 weeks and she feels "swept off her feet".
Her and I are still in constant contact (texting) and we're still super friendly + quite flirty - things haven't really changed, except I notice she's distant sometimes (obviously when she's talking to this guy).
Naturally I'm hurt because it came as a shock. She hadn't bothered to tell me she no longer saw me as a potential partner (if she no longer does that is) so I've been sat here head over heels for her while she has her eye on someone else.
Do I drop things right now, or should I be playing it cool and hoping she sees a future with me? As I said things haven't changed between us for the most part, and I know for sure nothing has happened between her and this guy (nor can they for quite a while). Haven't really been in this situation before so I'm not sure what to do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My love interest has evidently lost a lot of interest in me and has taken a liking to a new guy. Do I cut "us" off right away or play it out and see what happens? | My love interest has evidently lost a lot of interest in me and has taken a liking to a new guy. Do I cut "us" off right away or play it out and see what happens? | 1,295 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22F] with my boyfriend [22M] (5 months). Told my friends an embarrassing story (about him) that happened 3 years before we actually started dating.
POST: I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months (we are both in our senior year of college). We both love each other and besides small communication issues, we get along great. But I feel guilty about things
We met during our freshman year. We flirted with each other for one week before we kinda hooked up. The night that we almost hooked up ended horribly, in a very embarrassing way for the both of us. I broke off things two days later and for the next three years, we didn't talk/acknowledge each other. After the incident, I told about 5-7 of my close friends the story of my almost hookup.
Anyways, three years later, we meet up again through Facebook and we realize that we were still very attracted to each other. Now we're together. My problem though is should I tell my boyfriend that I told my friends the story of our hookup?
The people that know it was boyfriend who I hooked up with are my best close friends and I told them if they told him they know that I would stop being friends with them. I told them the story because a) I was extremely embarrassed and it helped to talk about it and b) I never thought that we would meet up later in our lives. I was wondering if I should tell my boyfriend that I told my friends this story? He's sensitive about the issue that is involved in the story and I don't want to unnecessarily hurt him but I always feel guilty about it and feel like he should know.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Should I tell my boyfriend that I told my friends the embarrassing hookup story that happened 3 years before we actually dated? | Should I tell my boyfriend that I told my friends the embarrassing hookup story that happened 3 years before we actually dated? | 5,859 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [30 F] with my boyfriend [45 M] 1 month, Hispanic and white couple, cultural norms or narcissistic abuser?
POST: please help. 1.5 years ago ended an abusive relationship with a narcissist. White male, 7 years older. After him, I'm paranoid about getting involved with another. Terrified.
Met new guy online.
Red flags:
rushed things
Deleted dating profile after a week of texting
Confessed he had omitted one of 3 divorces
Says he falling for me
Seems to agree with everything I say
I can do no wrong
We talk for hours and hours and hours
Basic timeline:
He lives out of town since I'm moving to his area for work in 3 months
Met him in person 2 weeks later
Decided to date
Very attentive
Said he wants me to be in his house as often as possible
Fast forward to this week:
Came to stay with him for a week
Passionate first 2 days
I feel nervous now
I feel distance on his end
He seems more genuine when drunk
He can be very self centered
He can be kind of cold and off putting
I'm scared he will turn out to be another narcissist
Howeber he seems to do anything I ask
At the same time, I feel passive aggressiveness
As a result of my abusive relationship I became super Independent
So while here, I'm working and networking as well. Don't need him next to me 24/7.
But physically we are good.
Idk- are white men typically cold and just not as passionate and caring as Hispanic men?? He seems to be super into me but shy in a way.
Is it the age difference?
Or worse yet- sociopath? I can't help but feel worried about that. I kept asking him to tell me about feeling scared or worried about ANYTHING and he's like, nah sweetie I don't freak out :)
That worries the fuck out of me. Help. Should I still keep waiting it out??
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Young Hispanic female dating older white guy and confused about actions./ is it the age difference? Culture? Or sociopath??? | Young Hispanic female dating older white guy and confused about actions./ is it the age difference? Culture? Or sociopath??? | 6,204 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [26 M] am uncomfortable with my girlfriend's [25F] Facebook pictures that include her ex. Is it fair ask her to take them down?
POST: To provide more color, I find it uncomfortable when I randomly click on my girlfriend's Facebook pictures, because her ex is in about half of them. What makes it extra weird is that I knew the guy/was kind of friends with him at one point in time while the two of them were dating. Additionally, the two of them were together for 5 years.
Admittedly, I am a pretty insecure dude, and when I see the pictures I imagine how they were together, and if she said the same things to him she said to me, if they did the same things together that we do, how their sex was, if their sex was better than ours, etc. So I suppose the pictures just trigger all of that.
We don't have any recent pictures of each other on Facebook either. I am fine with this, and that doesn't need to change. However, the most recent pictures she has is of this person with whom she was with for 5 years. So with both of those things in conjunction with one another, it makes me feel weird and kind of sad.
For the record, I always untag myself from pictures with any of my exes. I treat these pictures as my memories, my history, and in the past. Keeping the pictures on Facebook keeps the memories in the present.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Gf's FB pics of ex makes me feel uncomfortable, as it draws up images in my head. Can I ask her to take them down or am I blowing it out of proportion? | Gf's FB pics of ex makes me feel uncomfortable, as it draws up images in my head. Can I ask her to take them down or am I blowing it out of proportion? | 49 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what do you know about Domestic violence and immigration? I'm in urgent need of help.
POST: Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this but I'm hoping to get as much people as possible to see this and I believe it still fits with the rules on the sidebar.
Basically I general advice or people I can contact to receive information about getting a family who is being abused by their step-father out of the house and taking safe haven into mine. Problem is, they have just come to America and therefore have a pending green card. The couple has just gotten married in the united states(although they lived together for several years in their home country) and the wife and her kids still have their green cards pending.
There's so many questions I have and I really want to get them out of that house after hearing the horror stories but I want to make sure that it doesn't jeopardize their chances of having a life in america.
We are consulting a lawyer this weekend but I was hoping someone could point me towards something beneficial before then.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Need any information on helping a family who is being abused but can't escape due to the abuser being the only one with citizenship. | Need any information on helping a family who is being abused but can't escape due to the abuser being the only one with citizenship. | 2,848 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: Suggestions for getting over a long term relationship break up?
POST: My ex girlfriend and I were together for nearly a year and a half, by far the longest time I've spent with someone. We were with each other every day and practically lived together for a time.
It grew to a point where I was being pulled in different directions by the relationship, friends and school and I began to resent each of those things. I realized that I wanted out of the relationship so when it was brought up the two of us talked about it and decided to break up. A break was discussed but she said she didn't like that term because it confuses things.
I've been having issues getting over it though because, first and foremost, the number one person in my life for the last year and a half is gone completely. We've had to talk a couple of times since it happened (it's been only 3 days) because he had a class together but I asked her if she wanted it, too, because she continuously said that we were doing it for me. She cannot give me a straight answer, so I'm assuming that she was wanting it, too.
I know it's selfish and hypocritical, but now when I think about it I get angry, sad and jealous all at once. To know that the one person who actually cared for me for the last year or so (I've had my own series of emotional issues lately and all that I took out of it was that she was the only one there for me) no longer wants to be there for me, or at least she didn't want to.
It makes it that much harder to get over. She says she's been having a difficult time with it, but from what her facebook and twitter say it's quite the opposite. I always felt like she cared more than I did when we were together but now I'm the one still thinking about it all the time, crying and being sad while she seems to be having a great time.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Any suggestions on how to stop feeling upset or how to stop focusing on how she's moved on so quickly? I'd really appreciate it - thank you. | Any suggestions on how to stop feeling upset or how to stop focusing on how she's moved on so quickly? I'd really appreciate it - thank you. | 2,274 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Tell a girl I'm seeing about my criminal record?
POST: I'm a 20 year old boy going into second year in college and am seeing a girl who is in 1st year of college and is 17. We're not in a relationship yet but id like to eventually have that with her.
The problem is though, that almost a year ago, I was in a drunken fight with someone over a girl and I hit him with a bottle of beer and was convicted of assault in april. But I'm only getting my community service done now and to make matters worse, its in the town that she lives in but she doesnt even know about the fight.
It seems likely that she will eventually find out. Many of the people who know, know her too and one or two were there and arent my friends and have told others about the fight to undermine me making friends (this has only happened once I think). I'm afraid that she will be freaked out by what I have done.
since the fight, I haven't attempted to or actually made any kind of emotional connection with a girl, but have been with close to 50 girls in the past year. I saw no reason to want to talk to them after I had gotten them but I've started to care for this one.
I want to eventually be able to tell her about it because it wouldn't be smart to keep a secret this big from someone when it was extremely likely that she will find out, but i want to show her that what I did i'snt a reflection of who I really am before I tell her.
should I leave it sooner or later before telling her or should I just avoid telling her?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | was in a fight over a girl, new girl doesnt know and want to know if I should tell her before or after we start a relationship. | was in a fight over a girl, new girl doesnt know and want to know if I should tell her before or after we start a relationship. | 6,241 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by getting turned on in a hotel room [NSFW]
POST: Well I'm writing this from my phone bc I refuse to go back on my laptop out of embarrassment. Backstory: I'm on a trip with my parents and dog and to my disapproval, I have to share a room with them. Two beds, in an exceptionally small room but hey, there's a kitchen. In all fairness though, a room just for me or even for my dog too would be a lot of money, but I digress. This literally happened about 15 mins ago, when I was just browsing the front page. Now, I wanted to keep it clean bc I don't need to be a horned up 18 year old in the same room as his parents. But, gonewild got the better of me. After a few posts, shit, I started to feel some type of way so I decided to check out that site Reddit is advertising, Thumbzilla (not bad). I found a video and as things started to get heated in it, my hand slipped under the sheets and there was rubbin' galore. This went on for about 5-7 mins before I looked past my laptop screen and saw the glint of my mom's eyes staring me dead. In. The. Face. Instantly, I froze, pretended nothing happened, closed the laptop, and rolled over in the bed. Might as well have been my grave. She hasn't said anything to me and I doubt she will but I don't think she can unsee what she done seen.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Got horny in a room with my parents, started to stroke the monkey, got caught by mom, awkward as hell. | Got horny in a room with my parents, started to stroke the monkey, got caught by mom, awkward as hell. | 2,697 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18M] with my "friend" [18F] ( Duration 5 years on and off..and on ):have started talking a little again bit now, however not sure if I am overreacting? Need opinions
POST: Keep in mind; when I say ' talk ' it usually means through the phone via messaging etc.
A few years back - we dated for like 3 months and things didn't work out well between us ( well for her ). I was really hurt but I moved on trying to get over what had happened between us. However I don't know what my past self was thinking and we ended up becoming friends instead of strangers. This lasted for 3 years.
Just last year - I lost my shit and we got into a huge fight which basically started from her not replying as fast as she used to, it was stupid and I regret it tremendously because since then we have not talked much, like none at all. Which leads us onto this week.
It just came as a shock when she called up through her phone crying because her pet had died ( like on a Thursday night last week )and as a good Samaritan, I comforted her. Then all of a sudden boom ; we're talking again - like "friends". Why did I put quotation marks? Basically "something" feels weird between us - I feel as though I'm only there because she needs comfort and someone to talk to after school, but at the same time I feel like she wants to repair the relationship that was broken. I would also like to mention the conversation we have is 'dry' - we don't have much to talk about really.
Don't get me wrong, she's a lovely, modest person and all but sometimes you cannot really help to wonder if she's putting on a facades to get what she want. I'm saying this because earlier she asked me to mind her folder until we had the next class ( which was during lunch breaks ) as she did not bring her bag to school since she finishes early. Am I being paranoid? When the past few months I swear we have been avoiding each other like the plague!
What do you guys think? Is she manipulating me or is she trying to fix our relationship?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friend stops talking after an argument. Decides to start talking again after a tragic event. I'm lost whether I'm a rebound for her or if she's trying to get close to me as a friend once again? | Friend stops talking after an argument. Decides to start talking again after a tragic event. I'm lost whether I'm a rebound for her or if she's trying to get close to me as a friend once again? | 1,752 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend [19F] & I [20M] have been together for 3 years & have never really dated other people. Should we?
POST: Background: GF & I were each other's first serious relationship & have been together for more than 3 years now. We're both super young to have been in a relationship for so long, but when we met, we clicked really well (& still do!). Our relationship even survived the transition from going to the same high school to different colleges. We're still very much within driving distance though, which helps a lot. We absolutely love each other & are each other's best friend.
GF mentioned to me recently that we should both probably see other people, just to make sure that we've gone on dates with people beside each other. We've kind of progressed from joking about marriage to actually talking about it as a serious option, but neither of us want to go into that with any doubt in our mind. So, I told her how I felt that trying other people out was definitely a good idea for the long run, but that I was also scared. She reassured me that she loves me & that nothing was going to happen & that this is just to make sure that we're right for each other, since we've got practically nothing to compare each other to. I completely believe her & trust her, but I'm terrified of the possibility that we may each come to a different conclusion. At the same time, I am also intrigued by the possibility of dating someone with different interests & experiencing that.
Basically, &
TL;DR: . Assistant: | how do I rationalize how I want to feel (trusting & supportive of this idea, because it seems like the right thing to do) with how I actually feel (jealous, insecure, terrified). | how do I rationalize how I want to feel (trusting & supportive of this idea, because it seems like the right thing to do) with how I actually feel (jealous, insecure, terrified). | 4,754 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Fast way to regain stamina after a run?
POST: Hey /r/running,
Last week my teacher told me the school was organizing a run. Everybody has to take part in a 20 minute run, which is part of an 8-hour relay with everyone from the school. Or if you would like to you can form a group of 6 people and run the full 8 hours with them.
Kind of jokingly I asked a friend of mine if he would like to do the full 8-hour run, he said yes, then someone else said she wanted to join our group, and now we're going to do it... We've decided it would be best to run in segments of 10 minutes so everyone will run eight times for ten minutes.
Here's the thing though, my condition is not that good, at all. Last Thursday I ran 1,8km in 13 minutes and 28 seconds (8,03km/h) and today I ran 2,33km in 14:23 (9,72km/h). There are two things I would like to ask:
-What would be a good strategy to improve my stamina so I'll be able to run for a longer time?
-After I'm done with the first 10 minutes of running, how will I be able to regain stamina as quickly as possible (~50 minutes) to run the next 10 minutes, and then again.
I'm 16y/o, the run will be in two weeks, do you think it's possible? I just keep telling myself to just do it :)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I need to be able to run 8*10 minutes with 50 minute pauzes in between, how do I train for this? | I need to be able to run 8*10 minutes with 50 minute pauzes in between, how do I train for this? | 34 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What are some of your best drive-thru stories at a fast food joint? Either as the employee or the customer?
POST: My side of this story is as the customer. Sort of. The other day, I was riding shotgun with one of my buddies on the way home from one of our other friend's houses. It was getting close to dinner time, so we decide to get some fast food.
My friend pulls into a restaurant and drives up to the little intercom thing where the employee's can take your order. Without even waiting for the voice to ask, "How can I help you today?" or whatever, my friend says, without any hesitation,
"Let me get two McChickens, a big-ass sweet tea, and McFlurry, BOUNCE."
And then immediately drives up to the first window. I'm cracking up at this point, and we are both watching the guy through the window quickly looking around and trying to figure out what happened, as he was somewhat unaware an order had even been placed.
Once the employee saw the kid with the wife beater and backwards snapback hat on staring expectantly at him through the window, he started laughing and then took his order again.
Not exactly the most exciting or rewarding story, but I was laughing uncontrollably throughout the majority of the whole ordeal.
So, what are some of your drive-thru stories?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friend placed an order at a fast food drive-thru lane and drove up to the window before the employee even knew what was going on. | Friend placed an order at a fast food drive-thru lane and drove up to the window before the employee even knew what was going on. | 5,494 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [21/m] Need to know what you would do about this
POST: Hello /r/relationship_advice, this is a throwaway cause friends know my account but I am in need of some help.
So my gf [f/21] and I have been dating for 5 years and are generally ok with not looking through each others phones because we trust each other. She has been known to go through mine, but not to the extent of, "Who is this, what are you talking about, I must know everything!" but just a grab it and scroll through.
Fast forward to yesterday, I run upstairs to use the bathroom and see her iPad on her bed so I grab it to play some games. She has the iPad set to where she can receive messages on it from her phone. I'm not sure even why, but curiosity got the better of me and I started browsing through them. I knew most of the numbers....except 1. So again, I click to see the conversation, and lo and behold its some conversation that I'm sure she would like for me to have not seen.
There are messages from this guy in Pittburgh (we live in TX) saying he has "a hard on" and "I want to see you naked" and things like, "what would you do to me if I was there." I thought the guy was just being creepy until I saw her responses where she said, "I've told you what I would." and other things. Needless to say I was hurt beyond belief. I want to confront her about it and get the truth and break up, but I am one of those people who is too nice and can't seem to bring myself to do it.
I don't want to do something brash or over the top because I really do care for her, but I want her to know I know. So my question to y'all is, how would you go about confronting her?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Found dirty messages on gf's iPad, she seems to have had a relation behind my back, what do I do. | Found dirty messages on gf's iPad, she seems to have had a relation behind my back, what do I do. | 805 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend's [M28] touch no longer feels good and he's lost desire for sex with me [F23]. Help!
POST: We've been together for about two years, largely long distance with semi-monthly visits and some longer periods (2+ months) being together. We've been poly/non-monogamous the entire time, and I have another boyfriend (of 1 year now), he has some casual partners.
Lately, things feel very shaky between us.
We still appreciate and support each other a lot, and there's a lot of affection and humour and enjoying each other's presence, but there appears to be at least three problems:
- He doesn't want sex with me anymore (but does still have sex with others, we're non-monogamous) - if I initiate he might have sex with me, but doesn't come or seem to enjoy it
- Somehow his hugs and kisses, that used to make me feel euphoric, now often has me feeling indifferent or even annoyed sometimes, especially if I'm trying to focus on something else
- He doesn't understand the depression that has crept up on me in the past 3/4 year; the idea of being sad for no particular reason or just because of a general sense of lostness is totally incomprehensible for him, and the lack of understanding feels like a wall between us. When I can't muster up any enthusiasm for any particular activity, he feels rejected and helpless.
To deal with the last point I've tried explaining the feelings I'm having (without much success) and found him some resources for how to deal with a depressed partner and understand symptoms, hoping it might sink in eventually. For the other two points, I feel completely at a loss as to how to fix it...does anyone have any advice or experiences to share about this kind of situation? It hurts quite a bit and feels very scary
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Suddenly I no longer get happy when my boyfriend touches and kisses me. He also doesn't want sex with me (specifically). What do? | Suddenly I no longer get happy when my boyfriend touches and kisses me. He also doesn't want sex with me (specifically). What do? | 4,186 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22 M] only seem to be interested in girls with a red flag. What do I do about this?
POST: I just graduated college and I realizing there is a much smaller dating pool in real life. I'm not unattractive but I seem to go after people who are inaccessible in some way. If they are available and interested, I seem to take less of an interest. However, if they are interested and unavailable, or have some sort of red flag, i am more interested.
For example, the last girl I dated was 3 years ago, and I was not allowed to share it with people because I was an RA and she was one of my freshman residents(which was not allowed). Ever since then I have been forcing myself into weird situations with girls that I just cant be with.
Most recently, I am finding myself interested in a girl who lives in another country. I met her while abroad, and she had a long term boyfriend at the time, which she has no longer. I just need to stop getting myself into situations like this. I am a VERY morally upright person and would never act on these girls that are taken(even if they want me to) but I have to find a way to be interested in other people otherwise I will never find someone.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I like girls with red flags(usually those who are taken). I won't act on my emotions, but how can I stop myself from being this way? | I like girls with red flags(usually those who are taken). I won't act on my emotions, but how can I stop myself from being this way? | 5,532 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 F] with my boyfriend [26 M] have been together for 2 years, love each other very much and plan to marry one day but sex has been becoming more infrequent
POST: My bf and I have been together for about 2 years, in the beginning we took it slow, physically. Not necessarily on purpose, but because we both lived with our parents and our job schedules made it such that we had little time to get intimate.
When we started to get intimate, it was very good. He is the best lover I've ever had. Given our living situation and our work schedules, we only got the opportunity for sex maybe 1x/week, at most 2x/week. He was never a sex-crazed guy who needed it all the time or even more than 1-2x/week. I, in some but not all of my past relationships, was used to sex more often, but in our situation it worked.
Our relationship is really really good. He respects me, is ambitious, has a good job, gets along well with my family, etc etc. The problem is that in the last 6 months maybe, our sex life has really been lacking. Recently it's been 1x/month, and I'm afraid that this will end up ruining what I think is an otherwise perfect relationship. When we do have sex, I enjoy it so much, but I can't say i necessarily feel the need to have sex more often. Maybe that's because I'm so busy that I don't think about sex as much as i used to when I was less busy...
We both still have very different work schedules, he works evenings and I work days, so we rarely have sex at night. Usually it's in the morning but recently it seems that we are too busy even for that. To put into context, he recently started a new job where the hours are longer and we don't see each other as much.
I am worried that we will lose that intimate part of our relationship, to the point where it'll get more platonic. Before him, i was used to having a lot of sex in a relationship, so even to begin with his lower sex-drive was an adjustment. Has anyone else been in a situation similar to this and can give me advice? did everything turn out okay?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Perfect relationship with bf of over 2 years, except sex life has been lacking and I don't want that to ruin the relationship | Perfect relationship with bf of over 2 years, except sex life has been lacking and I don't want that to ruin the relationship | 2,811 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [25 M] of 6 months, he thinks I'm too silly
POST: My boyfriend mentioned to me earlier that he had to improve his running time to be able to run a marathon; I responded that he was close and that he should go for it. He said, "maybe in a few years", and I replied, "what if your legs fall off?" as a joke.
He took offense to this and asked why I always make silly comments or ask silly questions. I told him that I didn't mean anything by it, it didn't mean that I was dismissing him or that I didn't care, it was just me being me. He said he'd like to, "feel like [he's] talking to an adult sometimes".
When something is serious, I don't make jokes or say silly things; in fact, I'm usually the one who initiates discussion when we have an issue to talk about. We also talk about politics and current events constantly, and I don't speak in a silly way during those conversations.
I truly don't mean to be immature, it's just me being "light" in conversation. In this instance, I was really out of things to say; I encouraged him to keep running, he said maybe in a few years, so I made a joke. But that's only my perspective, hence why I am here.
To me, this hurts because I feel like he doesn't accept me for who I am. I am silly. I am a goof ball. But I pay my bills, I'm on my way to grad school, I take care of my dog... I do everything that is expected of a 22-year-old. Am I worried over nothing? Does this sound like a personality flaw that I should work on or should I work on finding someone who likes me the way I am? How would you feel if your SO was "silly"?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend thinks I'm too silly- should I be more serious or should I find someone who likes my silliness? | Boyfriend thinks I'm too silly- should I be more serious or should I find someone who likes my silliness? | 1,519 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What should I do about my husband's friends/family?
POST: Explanation: I've been pregnant twice; once with our son, once I was a surrogate for my best friend. I asked my husband both times if he was ok with it, neither of them were a surprise; pregnancy affects me badly, I get nauseous the entire 9 months, and so tired that I have a hard time moving.
Both times my husband has subsequently had a breakdown, mostly involving the fact that I can't complete household tasks in a timely manner while I'm pregnant. He's threatened to leave me both times, the second time he was actually chatting up his high school sweetheart too, and coming home late from work all the time. At the same time, he was telling his friends and family that I was the one having problems, that I threatened his and our son's life, that I was depressed, that I was always putting him down. I would never threaten either of them, and I was in actuality trying to encourage him and praise him, because I knew he had to take on more tasks and had a lot to do since I wasn't able to.
Since then, not pregnant anymore, husband has since gotten his sanity back, and decided to stay. But now his family and friends still treat me like I was the one that was nuts, when he was on his way to cheating and outright lied about me. He says he's talked to them, but I know for a fact he hasn't told them about talking to his ex, and they still treat me like I was the one who had a breakdown.
Husband and I are trying to make it work, but it's really hard dealing with his friends and family when they treat me like this. I won't tell them about the ex, as husband has asked me not to, and I'm pretty sure it would only seem as a retribution tactic anyway. So what do I do, Reddit?
Toss in the fact that now it scares me to consider having a second child with him because I'm afraid he'll go nuts again, it's quite a convoluted situation.
Thanks for listening, and for any advice.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Husband went nuts and told his friends/family lies about me. We're staying together, so how can I get them to stop treating me like I'm the insane one? | Husband went nuts and told his friends/family lies about me. We're staying together, so how can I get them to stop treating me like I'm the insane one? | 3,437 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20m] have trouble expressing anger towards my girlfriend [20f] of 3 years. Reddit, how do you show you're upset or mad at your SO?
POST: I feel as if I'm having trouble in this area and it is causing some minor to significant damage to my relationship. I just hate fighting, I hate conflict. So I usually avoid it. One of the ways I avoid conflict is just not expressing when something bugs me. I just choose not to. I thought it only disturbed me but my girlfriend recently mentioned to me that it bothers her as well. She stated that it makes her feel as if she has a lot of power in the relationship which she does not want. She wants it even and I agree with her. And I know what the problem is but I just don't know exactly how to do it. How do you show your SO something is bothering you or that you are mad at them?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How do you express anger towards your SO? Not hatred but just things, events, actions etc. that bother you that he or she may do? | How do you express anger towards your SO? Not hatred but just things, events, actions etc. that bother you that he or she may do? | 3,044 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my gf [19 F] of 4 months, thinking I could probably do better and feeling guilty about it.
POST: So I've been with my gf for 4 months now and in the beginning I was so excited to get with her cause we had been friends for a while and I always thought she would be awesome to hook up with. However, things have not gone as planned. She acts very open and adventurous about things so I thought sex would be the same but it's not, the sex is very vanilla.
On top of that, I'm starting to think I could find a more attractive partner. I mean my current gf is cute, but for a long term relationship I would prefer to have a girl that wows me every time I look at her or think about her.
My current gf is a great friend, and gets along well with the guys but she's just not... Sexy I guess is the word. Idk I feel selfish and shallow for writing all this, but I'm being honest. Has anyone experienced something similar? Know if I'm just making something out of nothing or panicking? Any advice or thoughts are welcome.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my gf, although smart ambitious and fun, is pretty bland sexually and I'm starting to think I could find someone far more physically attractive. Is this wrong? | my gf, although smart ambitious and fun, is pretty bland sexually and I'm starting to think I could find someone far more physically attractive. Is this wrong? | 2,200 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] of 4 months, just broke up. Is there a chance in the future?
POST: I'm in need of advice. First off, when I go into a relationship, I give my all. I try to stay strong and don't give up on something easily.
So, I recently had a break up with my girlfriend. Her parents got divorced and she took it really hard. I reassured her that I am there for her and we could get through this in time. Despite my best efforts, she ultimately decided that she wanted to be alone right now and deal with this herself. After hearing of the divorce, she lost all feelings for me. She wasn't affectionate. Before the divorce, everything was great.
We had a lot of common interests and never had a fight or conflict. Her family and friends liked me as well. She told me that I was the best boyfriend she's had. That I treated her very well. We got to the I love you stage before all this happened. But after the break up, my mind automatically starts searching for what I did wrong. But the more I think about it, the more I feel like there's nothing I did wrong. Do you think that her feelings for me could come back over time? Do you think we could get back together after some time has passed? What to do. What to do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend's parents divorced and said she wanted to deal with it alone, so she ended our relationship. Chance of getting back together in the future? | Girlfriend's parents divorced and said she wanted to deal with it alone, so she ended our relationship. Chance of getting back together in the future? | 2,514 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskDocs
TITLE: Small lump on base of skull.
POST: It's very small (like, a couple of mm in diameter) and about 2 cm to the left of the centre of my right ear. Wasn't worried about it, looked it up when I first noticed it like a couple of months ago, checked again and its still there. Pushing it is painless, it's kinda squishy.
Just found another one I think? It's like, less than a mm in diameter, about half a cm from my right ear and also painless and squishy. Think it's near a vein or something, pushing the area down like... does something. I don't like biology much.
I was ill with something a while ago and didn't go to a doctor about it (since I'm in the uk maybe I should've taken advantage of it) and it was the illest I've been in my life that I remember. Kept going to school which didn't help. From what I remember, throat was super painful, and walking home gave me super painful headaches. Also had like, slightly white things in my throat? It was kinda like strep throat I think, but not super like it. Only thing that might be linked somehow. Thing is, the lump appeared a while after it- several months.
No other symptoms with these lumps. Just wanna see possible causes, since googling them isn't giving me super clear choices.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | small painless squishy lump near right ear, been around for 2-3 months, doesn't seem to have grown, possibly another one near it. Also, I'm 16 and female. | small painless squishy lump near right ear, been around for 2-3 months, doesn't seem to have grown, possibly another one near it. Also, I'm 16 and female. | 5,619 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 3 weeks later, my boss still hasn't given me a contract to sign. WTF should I do?
POST: This is a post that first started here:
I like my new job, it's with a respected firm led by a well-regarded local professor . . . but it's been three weeks and I still don't have a hiring contract to sign. I'm not sure what to do. He asked for all other hiring documentation (I9s, proof of insurance, voided check, etc.) but hasn't gotten a proper hiring contract for me to sign. He's been "editing it" since last week. I wrote to him in an informal email that the end of the week (today) is my personal deadline to complete paperwork, and it's almost 11 (Half day) and I don't have anything. I'm confused and hurt - this is not how you treat people, especially build trust with new employees. He's really well-respected, and this could be a lucrative post-graduate career should I stay, but how can I (and him) respect myself if I do without a contract for much longer?
I plan to send an email saying that I've enjoyed the work thus far and am available next week as planned pending the receipt of a contract to sign, etc. Is this too demanding for a newbie? Am I a pushover?
WTF do I do and still hold my head high, here at work and in general?
Also, if I send that email, will it fuck up our relationship as mentor-mentee?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | New job, great job . . except no real hiring process! I'm "on the team," but boss is slow with paperwork. Should I stay? | New job, great job . . except no real hiring process! I'm "on the team," but boss is slow with paperwork. Should I stay? | 541 |
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