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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: [FL,USA] I signed a lease than 24 hours ago, how if at all can I break the lease?
POST: Hello r/legaladvice, I'm moving to a new town for college in Florida and signed a lease yesterday for a room within a 4/4 Apartment in a larger apartment complex for students, through a private company/corporation.
I was given the last available room within that floorplan but was refused disclosure of who my room mates are until after signing (dumb idea, I know). I was assured they were "random people" which is in fact not the case, it's a group of 3 people who know each other and come from a different culture, I already contacted them and it was made clear to me that they'd rather not have me there. There are several other problems with the apartment/room that are now starting to show also, such as a lack of power outlets in the walk in closet (I was told I could put a fridge in there) and a few other things.
I haven't taken possession of any keys yet and my lease doesn't officially start until August, all I really did was sign off on the lease, a few addenda and a guarantor form. What's my legal standing in this instance and is there a way I can break my lease? If need be I can pay some fines but there's no way I could pay off the whole lease or something to that extent.
Any help appreciated!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Just signed a lease 24 hours ago for an apartment, several verbal agreements have already been violated, I haven't taken possession of keys or anything else yet. What are my options in the state of Florida? | Just signed a lease 24 hours ago for an apartment, several verbal agreements have already been violated, I haven't taken possession of keys or anything else yet. What are my options in the state of Florida? | 1,262 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25F] with my boyfriend [32M] and I no longer like his caress.
POST: I'm sorry if this in the wrong sub. My boyfriend and I are in a dead bedroom. We used to have great sex like six times a week. It was passionate, hot and heavy. It was wonderful and amazing. I don't think I've ever "made love" until I was with him. We have a great relationship. He is so caring and sweet. He always wants to cuddle, cooks for me, surprises me with gifts, and just other nice things. When I'm with him I feel like the only person in the world to him (lame I know).
Sex now has been dwindling. And now it's four times a month, or three times a month. This month it has only been once and the month is almost over. I feel bad for counting but I this is something that I have been deprived of for almost a year. We have talked about it a few times on why his sex drive is down. He now has a stressful job with is very understaffed. I understand that but he masturbates so much. Now, I know it is much easier just to have wank than to have sex. I'm guilty of it, you the reader probably is to. I've tried many things to try and initiate sex, sexy outfits, new sexy underwear, some role play. I'm tired of masturbating and I'm now so irritable. Lots of little things just set me off and I know I need some sexual relief.
Now I've come to the point where his touch no longer excites me. I actually don't want him to touch me. He usually grabs me. He'll grab my ass, my tits, and my whole body in a sensual way but it always goes nowhere. Now I don't want him to touch me. I don't like when he does, I almost always pull away.
My question is how do we get back to normal? Is this normal that I don't want him to touch me? Is the only solution to break up? I don't want to break up, we just signed a lease together. Everything is so great, he's so much more than my lover, he's my best friend.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm in a dead bedroom situation. Perfect relationship except for sex. His touch is no longer wanted by me, is this normal? | I'm in a dead bedroom situation. Perfect relationship except for sex. His touch is no longer wanted by me, is this normal? | 1,839 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[22 M] with my two friends[22 F], one interfered in my friendship with the other
POST: So I am friends with Betsy and Robin. Betsy and Robin have been friends for longer than I have been with them and they always hang out. Robin and my friendship is slowly winding down.
Anyways, whenever I've asked Robin to hang out, it usually hasn't worked out. She says yes, then something comes up and then it's cancelled. I asked her to hang out on my birthday, she said yes then something came up. I was sad, definitely, but it wasn't unexpected.
However, Betsy was annoyed on my behalf. When Robin asked her to go to a party, Betsy asked her why she didn't invite me. I don't know what they said exactly, but Robin then invited me.
Now I feel extremely embarrassed for Betsy's involvement. I feel that *Robin knows I exist* and whatever reasons she has for not inviting me or whatever flaky reasons she has for not coming to my invites is valid to her and it's way too confrontational to ask her why she doesn't really want to hang out with me. Also, I've hung out with Robin before a couple times.
I feel that it reflects badly on me that Betsy had to ask Robin to ask me to hang out. Like I asked or manipulated Betsy into getting Robin to ask me to come out. Also, Betsy doesn't know that what she's done has made it awkward for me.
I just wonder, what should I do about this situation? Should I apologize to Robin about Betsy making it an issue? Should I just do nothing cause Robin and I don't really vibe anymore and it's just the end anyway?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | A friend got another friend to invite me to an event, but I feel it was forcing an invite from someone who has their own reasons for not inviting me. I feel awkward and don't know what to do about the situation. | A friend got another friend to invite me to an event, but I feel it was forcing an invite from someone who has their own reasons for not inviting me. I feel awkward and don't know what to do about the situation. | 2,115 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My [19F] friend [19M] wants to hang out with me tonight, but I already have plans...
POST: I've made plans with a group of friends yesterday for New Year's Eve. Today, my close friend, let's call him Josh, wants to hang out. Josh and I have only started being close for about half a year - but during that time we've gotten really close. If I tell him that I'm hanging out with my friends, he'll probably want to join in, because I sometimes include him with my other friends, but this hangout was supposed to be a bit more intimate. Josh has hung out with them before - only once - so he's not as involved in this group. I don't want to purposely exclude him, but I'm not quite sure how to handle this situation. Am I being unreasonable?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Friend wants to hang out with my friend group, which I was supposed to be having a more intimate get together with. Don't want to exclude him, but don't know how to let him down. | Friend wants to hang out with my friend group, which I was supposed to be having a more intimate get together with. Don't want to exclude him, but don't know how to let him down. | 4,292 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] with my boyfriend [25 M] for 2 years, didn't do too much for our two years. Am disappointed. How can I view this situation from a fair perspective?
POST: Hello.
I'm 24 [m] with my boyfriend. Leading up to our 2 years was pretty awesome. It's the longest relationship I've ever had and I am generally happy with my 25 y/o bf. He has a lot of quirks that I can't tolerate well at this time. He has a lot of good qualities that will benefit him greatly in most aspects of his life. He views the world from a more clinical perspective, null & void of the emotion that I'd rather be there, and plans **everything**!
My issue a lot is that sometimes I don't want to hear clinical advice about **our** relationship. I tend to be more free spirited and emotional than him. I'm also more spontaneous and don't particularly like to plan hang outs with any friend (SO or not) too far in advance. I'm ok with just doing something and seeing how it turns out.
I get we're different. Being different's good in a relationship. I just wish we were more bit more similar.
Long story short, we did nothing for the day of our 2 year anniversary. I'm cheesy to the point that it means something to me to do something special on a milestone like an anniversary.
**Anniversary plans**: We were going to go biking, but rain canceled that. I suggested we go to Monterrey Bay Aquarium. He didn't want to due to having no plan. I understand where he was coming from. As a result, I was feeling somewhat defeated that he wasn't too excited to conjure up any different plans.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I was being a bitch about our anniversary. I understand his side and know my side as well. Am I justified to feel bummed? | I was being a bitch about our anniversary. I understand his side and know my side as well. Am I justified to feel bummed? | 4,869 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M 18] just found a girl [F 18] whom I've only met a few times on FB recently-after two years of not talking.
POST: So the first time I met this girl about 2 years go at church- I felt an instant connection with her. I finally found her on Facebook and we've been talking. She's ok with hanging out-and I dont think I'm in the friend-zone because she's so open to go out. But she just posted a relationship update to make it "Facebook" official. What would be a good plan? We're getting together in a little over a month to shop around at a record store, a hippie shop, etc. I just feel like even though I don't know her that well it was like a spiritual and emotional connection. But she's in a relationship which I assume is serious. Should I assert my feelings for her when we meet up? I'm not sure what to do-in my mind she's life partner/wife material because she seems perfect for me. At this point in y life I really don't want a girlfriend or children but she makes me think otherwise.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl feels like soulmate, in a relationship-meeting up soon to hang out for a whole day. What do I do? | Girl feels like soulmate, in a relationship-meeting up soon to hang out for a whole day. What do I do? | 545 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [25F] boyfriend [25M] of 3 months refuses to go down on me even though he did it frequently with his ex [24F]
POST: My boyfriend refuses to go down on me. This isn't a problem as far as sexual satisfaction goes, he gets me off just fine during intercourse. And I go down on him because he enjoys it and I like it as well. But ever since we first got together he simply will not go down on me.
A few days ago I asked him why he wouldn't and he says he doesn't enjoy it. I asked him if he has ever done it before and he told me he did it almost all the time with his ex. If I were him I probably wouldn't have mentioned that but he values honesty to an extreme. Anyway it made me really mad that he would always go down on her but never on me so I asked him why. He said in the period after his breakup but before he met me (about a year, he did a few casual hookups during that time) he realized he didn't enjoy it anymore and stopped doing it.
This isn't an issue about him leaving me sexually unsatisfied or unfulfilled. He always gets me off but never goes down on me. And I don't know if this makes me insecure or jealous or whatever but it pisses me the hell off that he would always go down on his ex but not even entertain the thought with me. I feel it's unfair that I'm willing to go down on him but he won't return the favor. I'm reluctant to give him blowjobs now since I know he will never go down on me yet he did it dozens of times for his ex.
If it's relevant, he doesn't have any communication with his ex.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend doesn't go down on me but did it all the time for his ex. Is it wrong of me to be upset about this? | Boyfriend doesn't go down on me but did it all the time for his ex. Is it wrong of me to be upset about this? | 3,467 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [21/F] need help crafting a message ending a friendship with [22/M] because my fiancé [20/M] isn't comfortable with it.
POST: I have a very co-dependent relationship by nature with an old friend from high school. We never dated, but he was generally always in my life for about four years (15-19 years old). I would classify him as a best friend at that time, but it was volatile, and we ended up both getting hurt and cutting ties.
Two years later, we reconnect on Facebook, and my fiancé expresses that he isn't comfortable with me talking to him because I'm in a very unstable place of my life, and he (the friend) has a tendency to be cruel and manipulative.
I agree with my fiancé, but after having talked to my friend for a few weeks now, we already have a daily banter established- and he does seem to have changed his ways since being in college.
I'm struggling crafting a message, and feel guilt for simply "not replying" for about three days now. I just don't know what to say without seeming... Invalidating, or offensive, or dismissive.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | What should I say to a reconnected friend explaining why I'm terminating our seemingly meaningful friendship over my fiancé's concerns about past issues that don't appear to be issues anymore? | What should I say to a reconnected friend explaining why I'm terminating our seemingly meaningful friendship over my fiancé's concerns about past issues that don't appear to be issues anymore? | 1,507 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How can I meet girl friends in College?
POST: Dumb question, i know. I am just a spoiled/depressed 21 year old college student. Lost my job and gf about a month or two ago and removed a ton of contacts on facebook and in my phone of people I never talk to. There are a lot of cute girls at my college but I still have some shyness left from high school. I think I am pretty good looking compared to most guys and the way I dress looks good as well. I came off as a creeper in high school and have stopped since I started college. I need more friends because I only have a couple that I actually talk to often. I always go to this game room at my college where people come in to either hangout or work on homework and usually sit in the massage chair for a good half an hour. I want to talk to some of the girls in there but my shyness just gets in the way and I feel like I am invisible to everyone. I don't know how to strike up a conversation and I don't want to come off as a creep. Most of the girls i notice are either doing homework or messing around on their laptops and I don't want to bother them. I do love giving compliments but have yet to give them to any girls. I would also love a girlfriend with the same interests as me but I have tried dating website and only young girls or unattractive girls are into me which i think is weird. Even the nerds that talk about really geeky stuff have friends that are girls. Am i missing something?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want more friends but I am just a shy/depressed/spoiled 21 year old with no job and hardly any close friends. | I want more friends but I am just a shy/depressed/spoiled 21 year old with no job and hardly any close friends. | 4,881 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Whats the best prank you've ever pulled or had pulled on you?
POST: I'll start with one that was pulled on me today. Currently in Italy and I wanted to go a club later this evening to flirt with gorgeous Italian girls, needless to say I should of known this would backfire. However, I asked a man how to say "You are beautiful" in italian and he told me "Vendisi"
Well I went to the club and approaches a beautiful woman and said "Vendisi" in which she glared at me and stormed off. Confused, I tried again, in which the next woman started screaming at me in Italian, the bouncers came over, they exchanged words and I was thrown out of the bar.
I was confused and so upon returning to the hotel I asked the person at the front desk what I did wrong. Apparently "Vendisi" means "For sale" and I asked it in a tone that seemed more a question. In other words I accidentally just asked beautiful women if they were prostitutes and for sale...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Accidentally asked women in another language if they were for sale and got kicked out of a bar for soliciting sex. | Accidentally asked women in another language if they were for sale and got kicked out of a bar for soliciting sex. | 4,047 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28 M] have been in a relationship with my girlfriend [28 F] for a little under a year. I come from a very large family and am very family oriented, my cousins are like brothers and sisters. She is not very close with her family. This is creating problems.
POST: In our relationship, we have had a rocky Summer and it is becoming an even rockier Fall. There have been a lot of important life events happening between myself (grad school), my friends (bachelor party/5 weddings) and my family (observing anniversaries of deaths in the family). For her, she wants me to compromise in the relationship by not seeing my family so much. I live about 30 miles from my parents and often have family visiting town. She feels like I'm not compromising, since I am often visiting family or they are visiting me. My girlfriend and I spend every day together during the week, but on the weekends we share time as a couple with our friends or family.
Her family lives far away and we have spent a few weekends to visit them. My family is very important to me and she makes me feel like they are a burden or an obstacle to our relationship. But I feel like she doesn't make an effort to get to know them or to get close with them which is something important to me. I've about had it with this argument because we have been going back and forth all Summer about it. Am I being bull headed? I'm thinking this could be a deal killer.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | For my gf, she wants me to compromise in the relationship by not seeing my family so much. However, I am a family oriented guy and I feel like this shouldn't be a big deal and could be deal killer. | For my gf, she wants me to compromise in the relationship by not seeing my family so much. However, I am a family oriented guy and I feel like this shouldn't be a big deal and could be deal killer. | 2,431 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [17m] My [17f] Girlfriend had sex at a party with another guy, should i forgive her?
POST: We've only been going out for a month, but as cliche as this sounds we just click. Anyway she threw a party at her house on saturday night and things were going fine, i spent most of the night with her and things were a-ok.
A bunch of us crashed at her place and whilst i was asleep she had drunk sex with another guy. It pisses me off knowing i was probably next door. Next morning she's acting all weird (claims she can't remember much) but she told me that she had sex with him.
What makes it worse is that we haven't even gone that far yet.
She knows she's screwed up big time but i respect the fact she had the guts to tell me. I told her i needed some time to think about things and i want to forgive her but it'll always be in the back of my mind that she cheated on me, and it'll quite possibly happen again unless i watch her like a hawk at all times, which i really don't want to do.
She tells me she is truly sorry and that she only has feelings for me, and i can tell she's being sincere. She has a knack for f*cking things up when things are looking up for her.
So now i'm stuck here, i told her i need some time apart and i'll call her later with how I feel, but i'm just unsure if i should forgive her or not. I really like her but then again it's still really early days and if i let her go i'm sure i'd be over her reasonably quickly.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend had drunken sex with another guy at a party, she seems to really regret it and told me, should i forgive her or move on? Any advice/suggestions appreciated :) | Girlfriend had drunken sex with another guy at a party, she seems to really regret it and told me, should i forgive her or move on? Any advice/suggestions appreciated :) | 5,243 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20M] with my Girlfriend [18F] of a little over a year are long distance and I need some advice on what to do.
POST: So, I'm 20 and my girlfriend is currently 18 and I live in California and she lives in Chicago. We've never met before but we've been talking to each other every day for the past year or so now and we both know we're real people, so there's no doubt about that. We've FaceTimed and have had phone calls with each other just about every night we can.
As a 20 year old male I have recently started my career and wish to see her as soon as I possibly can. Would this be a smart idea? I was later down the road planning to move out there while she finishes up college and such since I've already finished my schooling and I've wanted to leave California anyways. It's going to be somewhat costly to go out there and pay for a round trip plane ticket, a room and food. I've estimated that the trip will cost just about around $500-$600 but I really think she's worth every penny of it.
Would this be smart to do at my current age?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | in love with a girl 2020 miles away and need help deciding if it would be smart to go and see her for 3 days. | in love with a girl 2020 miles away and need help deciding if it would be smart to go and see her for 3 days. | 4,871 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[19 M] am going to counseling to get help with my insecurities over my Girlfriend's [18F] past
POST: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 8 months. We met over the summer before university started, and I fell head over heels. We started texting, but I did't think she was interested, and she didn't think I was either. We started talking again after uni started, and we fell in love.
I lost my virginity to her. Later in the fall semester she told me about her sexual past, which was mainly over the summer when we met. She told me how ashamed of it she was because she let multiple guys use her to get attention because she was going through depression, and she never enjoyed it. She tells me I'm the best she's ever had, and she never knew sex could be as loving as what we have.
For the record, I was raised conservative(gigantic liberal now), so I still have some conceptions about promiscuous women from how I was raised, but she challenges everything I ever thought about women like that. However, I still get very insecure over her past. I envision the other guys still having sex with her. I know it's not rational, and I have realized that I would be this way with any other girl I date unless she's a virgin, which I don't particularly care for. It makes me worry about the future of the relationship, so I decided I wanted to get counseling.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm insecure over my girlfriend's past, and I'm going to get help. Is this the right thing to do? Is there any hope for my relationship? | I'm insecure over my girlfriend's past, and I'm going to get help. Is this the right thing to do? Is there any hope for my relationship? | 630 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27F] live with my mother [63F], I need your help. My relationship with my mother is deteriorating.
POST: Reddit, I need some advice. My mother and I have been really close my whole life. A couple months ago she started a long distance relationship with an old friend. He is a really cool guy and I really want this relationship to succeed for her. She was with my dad for many years and their divorce a few years ago was a long time coming.
She has invested herself entirely into this new relationship. She spends hours on the phone with him. She drops everything as soon as he calls. She revolves all of her waking hours around him and when he will be calling her. She has charged several thousand dollars on her credit card to go on trips to see him. She makes enough money to support this kind of spending but she has never wanted to charge anything before. She hates having credit card debt.
My problem with all of this is that I feel like it is not healthy for her to give up so much of her own identity. She is making the relationship her identity. We have always been very close and we are really like best friends. Ever since this relationship started I feel like I am being disrespected a lot. If we are in the middle of a conversation, which is rare these days, she will literally walk away from me in the middle of a sentence if her phone rings. She will often cancel plans with me or not do something she said she would do because he called. She is even considering leaving her very good job to go live with him on his farm. We have a lease together and I could not afford both halves of the rent.
Any time I try and bring up these issues with her, she just thinks I am jealous of the time she spends with her boyfriend. I am worried that she is investing too much of herself into this relationship too early. Honestly, the worst part about all of it is that she used to be the most reliable person in my life and now I can't count on her at all.
Do you think I'm overreacting and I'm not being supportive, or is she getting out of control?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My mom got a new boyfriend. Now her whole life revolves around him. Am I justified in feeling like she's getting out of control? | My mom got a new boyfriend. Now her whole life revolves around him. Am I justified in feeling like she's getting out of control? | 2,313 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Any interesting hospital stories?
POST: Yay for a hospital story.. My cousin and I were being fucking retarded and were punching each other and kicking each other. I hid behind the island in our kitchen and she came up behind me and kicked my hip. It hurt a bit, but I got over it. FOUR DAYS LATER I guess I bruised my hip muscle and apparently I also cut myself and got a Staph infection in my blood (I guess you can get it even through a paper cut?) and it went right to that bruised hip muscle and I couldn't even walk. I went to the doctor and he didn't know what the fuck was wrong with me, so we had blood work done and my white cell count was normal. Well, shit. I started having leg spasms and once my fever reached 103.2, I went to the Emergency Department and was admitted to the hospital. Oh, and I had more blood work done later, and it turns out the inflammation in my hip was like 210 instead of a normal 5 or below or something. It took them like three days to figure out I had an abscess (lol puss pocket thing) in my right hip muscle and they had to drain it with a needle. They drained 1 cc of puss and after I was so sore I couldn't move but FUCKING PHYSICAL THERAPY THE NEXT DAY MADE ME. I had to use a walker, and I could barely fucking move the wheels an inch. I had to learn to walk again, and after another day and a half of the walker they put me on crutches. The disease lady wanted me to stay for 2 weeks, but fuck that, I had a concert to go to in like eight days. Four days of crutches (finally back at home) and some pain killers later, I was walking okay I guess but I still can't do a fucking sit up right yet and after running I can't walk that great.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Cousin and I were being retarded, I bruised my hip muscle, got a Staph infection, and an abscess later I'm good now! Yay for walls of text! | Cousin and I were being retarded, I bruised my hip muscle, got a Staph infection, and an abscess later I'm good now! Yay for walls of text! | 3,235 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: She's pregnant and so was I.
POST: I've been friends with him for 13 years, since I was 14. He proclaimed his undying love to me when I was 17, yet I friend-zoned him. At 22 I gave in and we dated for a year. The relationship ended when I got pregnant. I told him I was pregnant and he said he wasn't ready to be a dad and asked me if "you want to keep it?" I asked him if he was ready to man up and be a dad and he said no. I was in no shape to be raising a kid on my own. I made minimum wage and lived in a shitty part of town and had no hope of a raise at my job. So I made the appointment at the abortion clinic in Pittsburgh, and he drove me there, waited til it was over, and drove me home. We never talked again.... Until... I got a new job, and what do you know, his Mom is the hostess. His aunt is my boss. AND his girlfriend at the time is a fill in waitress. WELL, over summer he married his girlfriend and today I just found out she's pregnant. Also his other aunt and two cousins work there and everyone is bouncing off the walls about their pregnancy and I'm supposed to be so fucking happy for them as well. Yeah I fake it well, but on the inside I just want to scream. What the fuck was wrong with me!?!? Her family has money and mine doesn't, and he's hinted as to that was the reasoning, but really, to be fine with an abortion and then TRY because her family has money. FUCK YOU. He actually told me he would have married me if it wasn't for her rich parents and their guaranteed vacations every year.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I work with my ex's family and he told me to abort our child and I did. I now have to work with his pregnant wife. And be nice about it. | I work with my ex's family and he told me to abort our child and I did. I now have to work with his pregnant wife. And be nice about it. | 628 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I have an older neighbour who I think is being neglected by her daughter and son-in-law, what would you do to help?
POST: I don't know if she has dementia, but what I do know for sure is her memory isn't fully there anymore. She lives with her daughter (who looks to be in her 50's) and her son-in-law, and they leave her there all day every day by herself. She takes her walker and goes on about an hour to walk to the end of our street (a 2 minute walk at most) and back, but more often than not she doesn't remember which house is hers, so she comes to ours. More than once we've come home and she's sitting by our front door on her walker, or we'll look out our window and she'll be walking towards our house. Our houses look nothing alike. We've always done our best to help her out, she tried to get into my car thinking it was her daughters car, and we've had to convince her that she didn't have to feed the cattle (we live in a neighbourhood by a school). But today, we found out that she was sitting in a car parked way back in their driveway with all of the windows up and a winter sweater and hat on for a few hours and it was sweltering hot. We had to convince her to go inside, all the while she was telling us she was waiting for her daughter. It's now almost 8pm and no one has been home since early this morning. If we hadn't been there, she would probably still be sitting in the car waiting for them. What is also scary, is that we knew she was there because we heard the dinging of the door, because the keys were in the ignition. What do we do? We're afraid for her safety, what if she tries to make food and turns on the oven and forgets? Our other neighbour tried to tell her daughter once, but she doesn't seem to listen/care.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Very old neighbour who barely even remembers where she lives sat in a boiling hot car for hours until we told her to go inside, and no one has been home to see her since early this morning. | Very old neighbour who barely even remembers where she lives sat in a boiling hot car for hours until we told her to go inside, and no one has been home to see her since early this morning. | 4,001 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19F] with my BF [20M] of a year, and he keeps Facebook creeping other girls
POST: So a few days ago I stumbled upon his Facebook search history. I scrolled down to see the list, and there are about 3 girls (friends) that keeps coming up. Every month there'd be a few times where it says "___ searched for CuteGirlA " . but one girl got more searches than the other ones...
I then confronted him. He lied about it at first until i showed him the proof. and he said that he has a "creeping addiction"? and that he feels bad every time he does it but can't stop himself.. But he said its merely for entertainment and not lust..is there such thing?
He apologized many times, and said he really does love me. and he would do anything to earn back my trust, and he even deleted Facebook for me. but I feel very betrayed and I don't know what to do that'll make me feel better.. can i trust him again?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | he has a "creeping addiction" on Facebook for a few particular girls (one more than the other). he apologized and deleted his Facebook. but I still feel betrayed, can i trust him? | he has a "creeping addiction" on Facebook for a few particular girls (one more than the other). he apologized and deleted his Facebook. but I still feel betrayed, can i trust him? | 1,129 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hi, Reddit. Today was my eighteenth birthday, and even though I'm a well liked, nice, fun person, none of my friends seemed to give two shits about my birthday . Why?
POST: Even though I got the trillion Facebook notifications from all my casual friends saying "Happy birthday!" and "Hope you have a great day!" none of my really close friends even called or texted me, much less offered to hang out or even wanted to see me. My best friend of six years spent the day with her new boyfriend and my other best friends spent it either doing nothing, or being with someone else.
I'm always really really into doing big grand gestures for my friends for their birthdays, and I would never even think about letting my friends feel lonely or upset on their special day. I always go out of my way for everyone, and then they never do the same for me. That's not to say my friends never hang out with me, in fact, they're almost always up my butt, hanging out at my house at every opportunity, or texting/calling incessantly wanting to talk because "I'm so awesome and funny and blahblahblah". Why is it that on the one day I wanted them to pay attention without me begging for it, they totally forgot? This sucks.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My friends are always up my butt, but the one time I actually really want them around, they abandon me without even caring. | My friends are always up my butt, but the one time I actually really want them around, they abandon me without even caring. | 3,587 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my new girlfriend [18 F] of 2months, I feel so much towards a girl until we become an item, then i instantly emotionally detach and feel trapped.
POST: So i've never been in a relationship for longer than 8 months, obviously hit the dating scene pretty late compared to some at roughly 19 years old, my first girlfriend was obsessive over me and very lovey, she said "i love you" at roughly 3 weeks into dating, but me being the conflict avoiding person i am, said it back.
eventually i felt guilty because of my lack of connection and broke it up. The dating game for me has been very easy, lots of tinder hookups and dating sprees etc.. but i never really liked the emotional detachment of one night stands.
Then i met this girl on tinder, We share the same profession so we connected on that immediately, lots of shared hobbies and some good chemistry between us. She has been very forward with her feelings since about 3 weeks into our dating life, and we together decided to partner up.
Ever since we made this decision i've been freaking out and needing a lot of "alone time" just because i feel trapped, she's introduced me to several friends and i've done the same, everyone thinks we're perfect for each other, and i agree.
My only problem is that i just don't feel anything towards her now, since the initial chase/rush from that has worn off i just feel distant, and with that distance i feel immense guilt because i know how she feels about me.
I've begun to think i might just be a single-type person.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | every time i take a relationship out of dating phase i just feel way too much pressure from the girl and feel like it becomes one sided, (i feel nothing towards them) is there something wrong with me? | every time i take a relationship out of dating phase i just feel way too much pressure from the girl and feel like it becomes one sided, (i feel nothing towards them) is there something wrong with me? | 5,343 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: 3D modeling - Avoiding the use of editorial licenses while providing real world / analogous 3D models?
POST: So selling 3d models with an editorial license is a drag, because using 3d models that have an editorial license is a drag... (you have to get permission from original rights owners before you can use it in games).
I'm trying to find a way to rationalize the process selling 3d analogues of real world items without invoking anything. Obviously, some cars in Grand Theft Auto have real world analogs, like Ferrari... beyond simply removing trademarked and copyrighted symbols, you can't argue that a 96% accurate 3d model somehow represents a knockoff or counterfeit, can you?
Or a real world case, this doesn't translate well should still be applicable to 3d models. You list a Zippo lighter on ebay, Zippo sents you a C&D and ebay removes the listing automatically (happened to me). Am I allowed to re-list that item under a generic name? Or is my only resort to simply destroy the item since it's irrefutably a knockoff or counterfeit. Or can I just re-list it titled "Generic Lighter".
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Is there some "generic - for purposes of real world analog" rationale for using and selling 3d models depicting real world products (without having to limit it to editorial license, but full-use instead). | Is there some "generic - for purposes of real world analog" rationale for using and selling 3d models depicting real world products (without having to limit it to editorial license, but full-use instead). | 4,019 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (29f) kicked out my bf(26m) of 3 years. I regret it, it was probably for the best though.
POST: Super long tedious story short. We have a child together, we also have ridiculously frequent arguments where we are both verbally abusive to one another. I am by no means an easy person to live with and neither is he. He is also increasingly physically abusive to me. We've separated twice in the past, this time around I had threatened to kick him out if he hit me again. He called my bluff several times. The other day was the last straw and I made good on my threat and kicked him out.
I don't want our child to grow up in the mess that our relationship was. The house is so calm without him here. I'm thinking about seeing someone to work through the feelings I have over this whole thing.
I'm worried about him though, he doesn't have a cell phone so I can't call him, and he doesn't know many people where we live.
The whole shit show has my head spinning.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I kicked my abusive bf out, I don't want all of the negativity around our kid. I'm still worried about him, but us being over is for the best. | I kicked my abusive bf out, I don't want all of the negativity around our kid. I'm still worried about him, but us being over is for the best. | 3,614 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: How do I [24M] move forward with live-in SO [34F]?
POST: The points:
* I work in IT and am a pretty solitary guy, having her in my life makes me so much more at ease. I have general anxiety so this is important.
* I've never really felt "love" from anyone but her, I had a messed up childhood so having someone this close to me is new and exciting
* My college days were relatively intense, I'm yearning for the excitement of being single again but don't want to hurt SO, I'm constantly thinking about peers my age, eyes always wandering, not sexually attracted to SO anymore
* She's from another country on a student visa, been living with me for 8 months. she moved in because she was living with 6 other girls in a 2br place, all worked at the same whip-wielding restaurant to pay for school
* Obviously hurting someone sucks and the feeling of being alone is terrifying (new city, no close friends)... but I do feel trapped, like I could be growing a lot more. Was formerly polyamorous, jumped into this on impulse.
* I told her I never intend on getting married or having kids. She accepted that, we've been monogamous for 18 months
* she doesn't know many other people so I offer some level of security, but taking that away by breaking up would ruin a big part of her life, she might go back home
TL;DR: . Assistant: | feeling trapped/antsy/cheaty with live-in SO, I want to go out and mingle and make mistakes and experiment, but I don't want to ruin this girl's life | feeling trapped/antsy/cheaty with live-in SO, I want to go out and mingle and make mistakes and experiment, but I don't want to ruin this girl's life | 150 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by saving a little girl from harm
POST: This happened a few months ago but regardless.... I was on a field trip with some business classes when we went to the mall to eat in the food court. It was the middle of the day and of course the mall was packed with people. I left my friends at the table while they ate so I could get a hot pretzel. Halfway there, I see a little girl about 3 or so try to spin a type of game spinning wheel. Here's where everything went wrong. It was a tripod type wheel, on a table, and it was at least twice her size. She hit it and it fell towards her. I sprinted over and used myself to block her as I tried to catch it. Needless to say, it fell on the flow with a loud bang and I asked the girl if she was okay as her mother came over from across the way. I fix the wheel before the saleslady came over to do so. That's when I notice that the whole food court stopped and stared. I made eye contact with my teacher and she laughed so loud. She was the only one who saw what happened in full. Everyone else, including my friends, thought I had walked into the table, knocked stuff over and caused a huge commotion.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | shielded a toddler from what could have been a serious injury, got laughed at by hundreds of people because they thought I made a huge blunder | shielded a toddler from what could have been a serious injury, got laughed at by hundreds of people because they thought I made a huge blunder | 2,446 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [25\M] heard through the grapevine that my FWB [24\F] has three more FWBs. Not sure if I want to continue
POST: A while back I moved to a new city because I got a job there, and I visit my old town a few times per year. In my old town I have a FWB (friend with benefits) that I ocassionally hook up with. Now I'm back in my old time for Christmas and I heard through the grapevine that my FWB has had sex with 5 people since I was here in november, and that she has sex with 2 or 3 of those 5 people on a regular basis.
Now I'm not really sure that I want to see her anymore. I know she is very careful with protection and checks herself for STDs after every encounter. But it still feels wrong to be a part of a harem, or whatever it would be. If it's true that I'm the 4th guy who bones her I don't know if I'm fine with that.
Is it wrong of me to end my FWB arrangement with this girl because I don't want to be nr. 4? She has pursued a relationship with me in the past but I rejected her because I couldn't see a future with her, so it's not because of jelousy. If I wanted her all for myself, I could have that. But with her, I really just want sex so. Body tells me to continue, Brain tells me No.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | People in my old town are talking about my FWB, she has apperently 3 more guys that she has sex with and I don't feel comfortable being number 4. What would you do? | People in my old town are talking about my FWB, she has apperently 3 more guys that she has sex with and I don't feel comfortable being number 4. What would you do? | 3,382 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm (18M) jealous of other guys flirting with my (18M) girlfriend on social media. Help?
POST: My jealousy is starting to become a problem in this relationship. Actually, it has always been. Last year, a boy my girlfriend was friends with had kept walking her to class, writing her cute notes (something boyfriends do) and asking her if she's sure about being with me. I threatened to break up with her if she never stopped talking to this guy, because he was obviously trying to make a move. Now that she's in college, she's hanging out with more guys! 75% of her friends are guys, always hanging out with her, and after the "friend" she had last year, I can't stop being jealous or mad about her friends. The social media part about this, guys put heart eyes on her photos on instagram, and I tell them to back the fuck up, and my girlfriend gets mad at me for confronting them! "You don't know what they meant by them, it doesn't mean they're flirting with me." I understand that she is right, she doesn't respond back but she obviously likes the attention she gets. My jealousy is also fueled by my friend group. My friends have dated my exes, I've been apart of closed door conversations about how some of my friends want to fuck my other friend's ex, visa versa. I would never do that to my friends, and in my world, most guys in college or highschool just want to take my girlfriend if they hang out with her. Or want to fuck her. She has already encountered a guy trying to flirt, and she gave him her number just to talk when we were arguing and on a break from our relationship. I have influenced her as well to be jealous with how i act with my anger and jealousy, but a big break up caused her to stop being clingy. Now i'm stuck being mad and jealous towards guys around her, and now I feel overprotective.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm a jealous boyfriend and I need help to understand how NOT to be jealous. I don't want the "Oh you should feel LUCKY guys want her!" FUCK THAT. | I'm a jealous boyfriend and I need help to understand how NOT to be jealous. I don't want the "Oh you should feel LUCKY guys want her!" FUCK THAT. | 10 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Fallen off the wagon, I think...
POST: Hi everyone - I see some people post here when they feel like they've fallen off the wagon in terms of dieting and exercise and the amazing community here is able to pick them right back up.
I've been incredibly stressed recently, and when I am stressed I tend to eat. Luckily I normally only have "healthy" food in my house (save for a few items, such as some cereals, etc). But the problem is that I end up binge eating to the point where I'm uncomfortable.
This has been going on a about a week now (big job interview, broke up with my girlfriend, unfulfilled in other aspects of my life). I feel like I am easily stressed and I still turn to food for comfort, and since I've been busy (and to be honest, unmotivated) I haven't been going to the gym consistently.
Over the past couple days I have gained a few pounds back (I was very close to my target weight) and I would like to nip this in the bud before it gets any worse. Has anyone been in my situation before and how did you overcome the stress and the almost overwhelming desire to stuff your face until you felt sick and terrible about yourself?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Was doing well; loads of stressful events occured; turn to food for comfort; want to deal with this before it gets out of hand. | Was doing well; loads of stressful events occured; turn to food for comfort; want to deal with this before it gets out of hand. | 5,707 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21F] with a date [22M], mixed signals, is he into me?
POST: We met at New Year's and got each other's numbers. He is a bit quiet/shy but followed me around the house all night, we got along because we were the only smokers at the party and had our smoke breaks together.
I went away for school for four months and we never talked. Eventually I came back to my hometown where we both live. He responded to a post I made on my facebook wall inviting friends to watch Cosmos. We started chatting via text.
A few days ago we watched the Canadiens v. Bruins game together, went out for drinks and had a great time. No goodnight kiss or anything, though. After, he said we should do it again some time, and that we should keep our Cosmos date.
However, I've been inviting him out all weekend and he is always busy. Our texting is less frequent now (in general we don't click well while texting).
He seemed enthusiastic about getting together to watch Cosmos in a recent message, and even offered to fix my laptop at one point, but I've invited him out 4-5 times already and have been turned down every time.
Now I feel a bit rejected and am kind of afraid to keep asking him out. I don't want to smother him. I just really dig this guy, and have better feelings about him than I've had about anyone else in almost four years.
I just can't tell if he is actually into me or not. We make plans but he can't find time. I don't know if he's busy, shy, or just not feeling it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Guy got my number. Went on one "date." We keep making plans but he doesn't have time to hang out. He's bad at texting. Not sure if he is into me. | Guy got my number. Went on one "date." We keep making plans but he doesn't have time to hang out. He's bad at texting. Not sure if he is into me. | 5,396 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17f] cannot figure if crush [19m] is interested in me or just bored. How can I ask?
POST: So I've been chatting on fb almost weekly for substantial periods of time (20 min - 1 hr) with a boy who graduated from my school last year for almost a year now and I can't tell if he actually enjoys our conversations or feels obligated to respond and wishes I would leave him alone. I've been able to see him in person a couple of times since he left for college (once when I visited his city and asked and once when he came back and said he'd try to see me, which he did.) over Christmas break I tried to see him and he was busy (legitimately so, I believe, but there was no mention of trying another time) and when I messaged him he took much longer than usual to reply so I decided not to try contacting him in case he was trying to get rid of me (I almost always start the conversation.) A little over two weeks later, he messaged me and we talked for about an hour. I messaged him about a week after to say our school had posted a baby photo of him (he's the son of two teachers, that's why it was posted) and we talked for a while. There wasn't a clear ending to the conversation as we seemed to miss when the other was online but we were having a good conversation when he just stopped responding. It's been three days and he hasn't even read the message.
I can't figure out what's going on here. Does he actually want to be friends or does he just like talking to me when he's bored or am
I the annoying girl who can't take a hint? Can I ask about it? I'm worried to say anything because it'll probably come off as needy (and maybe it is) and I'll look extremely insecure but at the same time I'm tired of constantly wondering about this. I hate that I get worked up waiting for him to reply and I'd just like to know what he's thinking so I know if it's even worth it to continue making an effort to be friends.
What should I do? Is there any eloquent way to approach this or should I just let it be?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to know where I stand with a guy but his spotty replies are making it really difficult to find out. Do I ask? | I want to know where I stand with a guy but his spotty replies are making it really difficult to find out. Do I ask? | 568 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: How much attention is too much attention?
POST: Ok, here's the deal... I (37F) was in a long term relationship (5 yrs) and we broke up about 3 years ago. I wanted to give myself time to get over the person before dating someone new and pretty much threw myself into work and anything else non-dating related.
Fast forward to the present -I met a guy last week (46M) at a party and we totally hit it off. We've been talking and texting everyday since then. The problem is that it's been so long since I've dated someone I'm afraid I'm going to fuck it up. I really like this guy and don't want to scare him off with too much attention.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | getting back into the dating scene after a few years, met a guy and I'm worried that I'm going to scare him off with too much attention. | getting back into the dating scene after a few years, met a guy and I'm worried that I'm going to scare him off with too much attention. | 2,097 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is there something to worry about? Or am I just overreacting?
POST: Hi, so I've been dating my current girlfriend for close to two months now. I'm 23 and she is 24. I've always known she has lots of guy friends, however, there is one guy in particular who is starting to really annoy me. He is constantly texting her and constantly asking her to hangout with him. Two weeks ago he tried to pull a move on my girlfriend, which she rejected and later told me about. Since then I've met this guy and he seems to be intimidated by me (will never look me in the eye, won't come near my gf when I'm around, stopped posting publicly on her facebook wall (which he constantly used to do)). However, his actions behind my back have not changed. He still texts her almost every hour and tried to take advantage of my gf last weekend (invited her over to his place and gave her super strong alcohol).
For the record (and I'm not trying to gloat or be mean), I'm very muscular and good looking. This guy is short, fat, and balding. I've talked briefly with my gf about him and she said she made it clear to him that she is not attracted to him and doesn't want to do anything sexual with him. However, he is not taking "no" for an answer and is constantly trying to have his way with her behind my back.
I've controlled myself every time I've seen him but I'm starting to lose patience. Should I confront him? Should I tell my girlfriend I don't want her to go to his place anymore? Or should I sit back and trust she will continue to reject his advances?
Thanks everyone
TL;DR: . Assistant: | One of my gf's friends keeps making moves on her behind my back and I'm starting to lose patience. What should I do? | One of my gf's friends keeps making moves on her behind my back and I'm starting to lose patience. What should I do? | 6,297 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27 M] with my girlfriend [24 F] of just over 2 years, insecure about my past experiences? Also a personal issue of mine?
POST: My girlfriend and I have been together for just over 2 years now. Every once in a while, something about my past will come up and she'll start making claims about how I must have enjoyed everything I did during a depressive phase where I was pretty careless. She is a bit more conservative in ways, and was raised in a neighborhood where she didn't really have a chance to explore or even consider dating. She's always been a bit more responsible than all her peers.
I had a bit of a depressive phase where I was quite alone and such and wanted to find a way out and slowly did. For some reason, all the things I did back then (persuing a girl and failing, girls having a "crush" on me, me writing crappy poetry for one of these girls, etc..) This spanned from 12 years ago until about 4 years ago when I finally started to go out of my comfort zone...as if that matters much. She also seems to be upset about how I lived in a very secluded area (small town) with a lot of people marrying right out of high school, where I clearly didn't fit in--possibly where some of my issues stemmed from in the first place, back then.
The main issue with myself in this situation, I think, is that I would rather forget about the past and focus on doing even better for myself and those in my life, while she is reminded of something about my past and gets upset about it and won't let it go. I can get pretty defensive about my past, because I don't want to be reminded and I don't want her to feel bad about it--but I end up defending myself as she makes it sound like I enjoyed those several years of me being extremely unhappy, and is jealous of it for some reason. She sees a therapist once a week, but refuses to bring this issue up even after admitting it is an issue.
Me getting defensive about this can't be healthy either, and i'd like to get some perspective to this if I could.
I'll clarify any of the above if necessary. I would just like some perspective.
Thank you!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend knows of some past stories from a depressed/careless time that I'd like to forget about and she gets jealous/upset about not having experienced the same "fun" times, not able to let it go. | Girlfriend knows of some past stories from a depressed/careless time that I'd like to forget about and she gets jealous/upset about not having experienced the same "fun" times, not able to let it go. | 2,844 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What is the biggest cringe that has ever happened to you?
POST: When you think back, what memory of you brings the biggest cringe to mind? I know friends and family can see this, but fuck throwaways. This was back in my teenage years(like 7 years ago but I don't remember.) when I first discovered masturbation. It was the weekend and I was home alone. When ever I need to finish, I found the nearest piece of cloth and blew my load. What piece of clothing was that? Some dirty pair of shorts that needed to be washed anyway. I probably fapped 10 times in the past 4 or so hours. My mother worked with special needs kids, and one of them was having a birthday party at the mall. There was one party room place inside of an arcade that had UV lights. You probably now know where this is going.
My ma came home to tell me to get ready to go. I agreed and threw on a new shirt and without realizing it, that pair of shorts. When we arrived I played the role and met the kid and their parents. After a short speech, we were allowed to free roam the place with around 20 bucks worth of quarters. After an hour, we went into this UV room where pizza and cake was available. Being 13 at the time and not knowing what secrets UV can show, I was in for a surprise. Being jacked up on Mountain Dew, I ran around just being hyper. The parents saw the horror. My millions if not billions of my future kids were covering my once beige shorts with whiteness. I mean it literally looked like bird shit covering a black car. It was that fucking obvious.
My mom got the word about my jizzed shorts and was embarrassed. She took me home in a hurry and didn't say a word. I only found out about it recently this Christmas. When ma thought it would be frickin' hilarious to share it my entire family. Needless to say, a good laugh and a cherry faced me sank low in my seat.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 13 year old me wore jizzed stain shorts to a party lighted by UV lights. People knew and told my mother. 7 years later it was realized at a Christmas party to ALL of my family members. | 13 year old me wore jizzed stain shorts to a party lighted by UV lights. People knew and told my mother. 7 years later it was realized at a Christmas party to ALL of my family members. | 2,743 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [19M] There's this girl [19F] I like. Does she likes me back?
POST: We go to german lessons together, I met her a week ago. Our 'german group' is really small (only 6 people) and we're actually the only people talking to each other.
She is very kind and friendly towards me and tries to initiate chat. She laughs hysterically(!) at some of my jokes (she doesn't laugh at ALL of them). She says "hello" in a very seductive way, yeah I know that's a stupid thing to say but I've never been greeted by a girl this way.
Note that this girl is BEAUTIFUL. And I mean perfect 10/10 and probably gets any guy she wants. I gotta say I'm an average looking guy, slightly above average in best case. I'm really not that funny guy, I don't lack social skills but I'm a bit weird, in a positive way.
In normal circumstances, I'd say she's into me. But I really have nothing to show her what other guys don't already have!
Is she maybe pranking me?
Or does she genuinely likes me?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I don't know if this girl likes me or not. She's very hot and I'm average by all means. | I don't know if this girl likes me or not. She's very hot and I'm average by all means. | 756 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [18/M] too stubborn to let go
POST: *I really need therapy. Something's wrong with me.*
So a year after the break up, I'm still trying to find excuses to talk to my ex [18/F], even though she already told me she feels uncomfortable about it. The most recent example is asking her to draw on my newly-bought phone casing because there are stains on it (she's quite an amazing artist btw).
# \*insert facepalm here\*
The f\*\*k is wrong with me? Am I too obsessed with her? Am I just f\*\*king horny (especially at this age)? WHY DO I NEED HER SO BADLY?!
> #### Quick summary of the relationship:
>
> Started off as friend, then to best friends, then to a couple. No major issues with each other. Lasted for about 10 months. Broke up due to disapproval from her parents.
A few people around me really did suggest that I seek therapy. I would love to, except I'm not exactly oozing out money to be able to afford the fee. I've tried distracting myself. I've attended special programmes where we work on projects similar to the ones in the industry. I've started a ton of projects. My life is MUCH busier than during the relationship.
Help, /r/relationship?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Trying to at the very least communicate with my ex even when she's feeling uncomfortable. Not sure what's wrong with me. | Trying to at the very least communicate with my ex even when she's feeling uncomfortable. Not sure what's wrong with me. | 6,068 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Bad Cop/Good Cop Altercation early Sunday morning
POST: So, Saturday I went to a buddies house down the road(same subdivision) to drink, eat and watch football. Well, about 2AM-ish, I decided that instead of driving, I would walk the mile-ish home.
So about 3 blocks from my house, I get hit up with the spotlight on one of those new Ford police cars. I was on the phone, so I told her I would call her back. This really young officer hops out, pistol in hand, then he proned? me out, cuffed & searched me. Then took my wallet and cellphone and went back to his car. I have a Concealed Weapons Permit (Obviously, I wan't carrying), but he didn't know that until he took my whole wallet. He got out again at gunpoint, and asked me where my weapon was. I told him that I wasn't carrying, and he super searched me again. A few minutes later another car pulls up, and it's an older officer(50's I'd assume).
He starts talking to me, asks me where I'm walking from, and if "I knew where I was." I of course told them, and pointed out that my house was blocks away. He uncuffed me and told me to give him a minute. He had a convo with the first officer, and came back with my wallet and cellphone.
I was ready to get home and asked if I could continue my walk home, and he told me to "wait a few more mins", as he had "more questions to ask." When the younger guy drove off, the older officer told me to hop in, he'd give me a ride to my house down the road.
He told me the rookie(idk if he was or not, honestly) wanted to book me for drunk in public, obstructing traffic, and something else I don't really remember. He told me that in his opinion, walking home was 100x better than driving home; and since it was in the same neighborhood, he really had no problems with it.
He even waited outside my house and pointed his spotlight so I could see the walkway and front porch.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Got kinda drunk, walked home instead of driving, got stopped, was about to probably go to jail, Good Guy Cop pulls up and saves my night and bank account. | Got kinda drunk, walked home instead of driving, got stopped, was about to probably go to jail, Good Guy Cop pulls up and saves my night and bank account. | 5,024 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Please advice, and more of it!
POST: Ive spent a couple years in college since graduating high school, but I haven't accomplished anything. I had always wanted to take a year off, but was too afraid to.
This last semester I had a little meltdown and dropped out mid way through. I've known the whole time what I want to major in, and am now transferring to a university (was a community college) to pursue a BS in applied physics, but I never applied myself while at the community college and after 6 full term semesters have roughly 40 credits and a hair short of a gpa of 2.0
Now my parents who had been paying for my community college tuition want to actually see my grades, but they're terrible and they don't know about me dropping mid term this last semester, I feel like lying and forging my transcript so it's not as bad ( they know I've done poorly and am depressed about it) but I feel like being irresponsible is what got me into a depressed funk... I'm afraid of the ensuing fallout when they find out though, they had been pushing for me to take time off and are against (not unsupportive ) me continuing to try...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | poorly applied myself in community college leading to depression which made applying harder now trying to improve myself to prevent depression but have family wanting to know the truth on my very poor (mostly) grades over the past 3 yrs | poorly applied myself in community college leading to depression which made applying harder now trying to improve myself to prevent depression but have family wanting to know the truth on my very poor (mostly) grades over the past 3 yrs | 1,783 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm a 31 year old guy in love with a 20 year old girl on the other side of the ocean. Anyone have any tips to make something like this work?
POST: I met a beautiful 20 year old girl from Spain earlier this year. Haven't felt as intensly connected to another person for 10 years. She's fun, very down to earth and pretty low maintenance. I've slept with between 30-40 girls total and had 4 long term relationships over a year. This girl effects me in ways I've forgotten existed.
On the negative side of things, she's 11 years younger and immature in a few regards. Drinks more than I do and needs attention from other people to make her feel sexy/special/important/center of attention. Not good with money and doesn't have a stable job.
I've been with her for 6 months now and I'm starting to have a hard time with the distance thing. I haven't been with her in 5 weeks and it's starting to feel too distant. I know she cheated on other boyfriends and I've cheated on exes too, but I'm wanting to do this right.
Anyway, going for months without seeing each other is hard. I guess my question is this:
Has anybody found themselves in a situation like this and made it work? Either with a age-gap like that or a loooong distance relationship like US/Spain?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm in love with a younger girl but she lives in another country (and is really young and kind of an attention whore) What should I do? | I'm in love with a younger girl but she lives in another country (and is really young and kind of an attention whore) What should I do? | 2,325 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [39/F] with my long distance BF [36/M] 3 months, can this relationship work?
POST: I am a 39 divorced woman, and have tried online dating. Have some OK dates, plenty of bad messages, and of course some from men overseas, specifically India. I am American, but look Indian, maybe one reason i get these messages. And of course just foreign men wanting to correspond with American women. I have Indian friends IRL, so I am familiar with the culture. I don't usually reply to these messages but there was one that caught my attention so I did, and it's been great.
The man's name is "Sunny", he is a doctor in India. We started talking and he is just awesome. We talk about everything. We share the same values. His family doesnt believe in the caste system so that is not an issue. We starting off with messages on WhatsApp and now use IMO video chat, so I know what he looks like in real life. On IMO I have also seen his workplace, talked to his very nice colleagues who are pretty funny, his friends when they are out, talked to his sister, seen his apartment, his city, so I am pretty sure he is who he says he is. We have been talking/video chatting daily for 3 months. We have actually talked about marriage.
The plan is he comes on a tourist visa, we see if we hit it off IRL, and if we do, he returns to India and we apply for a fiance visa. We both understand this is a long and hard process. I cannot travel to India for personal reasons. I had him talk to my Indian friends and they think he is nice and apparently he comes from a good family name they know. The only thing that gives me pause is the whole online long distance dating thing. Can this really work? Has anyone been through this/ know someone who has? Did it work out? Advice please.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Am I crazy for calling in love with a man on the other side of the world? Can this relationship work out? | Am I crazy for calling in love with a man on the other side of the world? Can this relationship work out? | 105 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Did my girlfriend cheat on me?
POST: For the past two months my girlfriend (who I have been dating for the past year) has been studying abroad and doing a service trip in a foreign country. It's been pretty smooth sailing until yesterday. Last night my girlfriend sent me this message over facebook "We had a thank you dinner tonight for the people who helpes while we were here which was fun but then a bunch of the girls wanted to go to a bar since its our last opportunity to do something like that so we all went but I hated it. The guys there kept grabbing me and pulling me into dance. Some like sandwhiched me inbetween them and another just brushed his fingers across my chest. It was honesetly the worst experience ive had here. Thanks for never pressuring me into anything or being forceful. I love you" Then I sent a long and lenghty response and asking her what I could do, how to make her feel better, etc. and she responded with "Theres nothing you can do until Im home and with you. I know im probably just paranoid and its nothing but why didn't she just tell the guys to stop? or say no to dancing? and if she wanted them to stop it would have been fairly easy to stop them in a bar full of people right? Please let me know what everyone thinks and that it is nothing and im paranoid. We are both 20 years old and have been dating for a year.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlferiend has been studying abroad and went to a bar and I think she might have made an excuse for cheating on me | My girlferiend has been studying abroad and went to a bar and I think she might have made an excuse for cheating on me | 3,708 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [30 M] with my wife [30 F] of 4 years, we worked thing out after her infidelities, but not sure that I love her anymore...
POST: A little over a year ago I discovered that my wife had been having a months long affair.
During the time that she was sleeping with another man, her and I rarely had sex ourselves. She explained to me that this was due to a loss of libido and eventually started to see a sex-therapist over it.
It turns out she was seeing the therapist in order to figure out what she wanted...me or the guy on the side/divorce. I eventually discovered the affair (Had my suspicions and snooped on her phone).
Not much of an argument occurred, but she was obviously sorry and upset. I was hurt and pissed. At the time she was a stay-at-home mom to our infant son. I told her to leave and go to her parents while I sorted things out. After several days I was even more miserable...I missed our son... and even her little bit. We went to counseling and "worked things out."
Today, many, many month later, what I thought was a marriage on the mend has turned stale. We rarely have sex (Despite my consistent come-ons and attempts to make her life around the house easier.)...just like when she was cheating...as a result I am constantly suspicious. She claims she is not cheating, and really has given me no reason to suspect her, despite the lack of sex. However, our marriage has started to feel more like roommates. I love her a lot, but more in a "caring way" and not the "I can't imagine my life with out you!" way. And as a result, I often fantasize about a life without her.
I guess I'm just curious if there are others out there in a similar spot. I don't know if it's the rarity of sex, or the fact that I can forgive her cheating but not forget, or what, but I m feeling anxious and don't know what to do next. Do I tough it out for my amazing son, who I see so much less if we separated, and hope/work to make things better?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Wife had a months long affair. I forgave her, but can't forget. Just don't know what to do and feel lost. | Wife had a months long affair. I forgave her, but can't forget. Just don't know what to do and feel lost. | 5,085 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by bubble-bathing the toilet..
POST: This happened about 45m ago..
So as I was the last person to use the toilet in regulation time, shall we say, as in the last person before everyone goes to bed, it was my task to bleach it to make it lovely and clean for the first user tomorrow morning.. simple!..
Uh-uh..
In my infinite wisdom I decide that, to aid said cleaning process, a cocktail of bleach, Wilko's Rhubard and Vanilla Fragrance Explosion Bath Foam (enticing, I know) and Head and Shoulders would be applicable.. apparently not!..
Mere seconds after the flush, toilet explodes with suds and bubbles going everywhere, overflowing and basically looking like some sort of bubble bath monster has crawled through the depths of the plumbing system and then sloth-ed itself all over my bathroom floor.. honestly more bubbles than a standard 15y/o girl having a bath.. madness..
Then entered a disturbed mother, who quickly turned from sleeping standard to the Incredible Hulk.. going to leave it overnight and hope the bubbles clear.. but just in case..
Anyone know how to clear vast quantities of bubble-bath?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | decided to clean toilet using bubble-bath and Head + Shoulders, suds monster arrived up through the bowl pretty quickly, bathroom now looks like Ibiza foam party.. | decided to clean toilet using bubble-bath and Head + Shoulders, suds monster arrived up through the bowl pretty quickly, bathroom now looks like Ibiza foam party.. | 4,455 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [31F] problems with my SO's [26M] past relationships
POST: Hi r/relationships. This is a throwaway because my SO knows my account. I've [31F] been with my SO [26M] for just under 2.5 years now and I'm starting to feel really upset about our relationship. My SO is the sweetest guy in the world. He's handsome, smart, passionate, and caring. One part of our relationship bothers me though.
Throughout our relationship, we have kept things fairly low key in terms of expenses. We go out on a date maybe once per week to just any restaurant, which I appreciate. On special days, like birthdays, Christmas, and Valentine's Day, we exchange thoughtful gifts. Now all of this sounds perfectly fine to me; however, I found out through mutual friends how his previous relationships were. He would take his girlfriends out to expensive restaurants and shower them with lavish gifts, not just on special days. Now I am absolutely not a gold digger, but this does feel off-putting, knowing what he did for his exes while putting in the bare minimum for me.
We have talked about this since I found out, and his explanation does make sense. Back then, he first started making serious money and was not shy to use it and did not think much about saving for the future. In his mind, he had the money, so why not use it to make his girlfriends at the time happy? This makes sense to me, but it still does hurt. I know it isn't rational, but I don't know if I can get over it. How can I deal with this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My [31F] SO [26M] used to spend lavishly on his exes but is very conservative in his spending on me. Not sure how to feel. | My [31F] SO [26M] used to spend lavishly on his exes but is very conservative in his spending on me. Not sure how to feel. | 3,438 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [25M] finally grew to balls to ask my GF [26F] of 5 to try and get a better job.
POST: Ever since we graduated from college, I've worked in my STEM field and she worked in minimum wage retail, part time (thanks art degree). She has the dream of working in videogame design, which I hoped that she would get into someday.
Since I make 80% of the household income, I pay for 66% of the bills. I was okay with this, because I didn't think she would *still* be working minimum wage this long after school. Every now and again she can't pay her share, so I end up paying 100% of the bills those months.
This month I told her that I wanted her to apply to jobs in the field she wants this month in lieu of rent, even if she didn't think she was qualified. Then I said that it wouldn't be a bad idea to get more relevant schooling in her desired field (her degree, though relevant, isn't a perfect fit).
She seemed pissed about this, we haven't spoken since (less than 24hrs and I'm away from home right now). This has been building up in me, she complains about not having enough money but doesn't apply to jobs she can't get because of lack of experience, even when she has an in through our friend network. I don't think it's a laziness thing, but an honest to god depression due to the job market.
Am I being unreasonable or too reasonable? What do you make of this, and depending on her reasponse, how would you proceed. I don't want to break up, I could marry her someday. There are other stressors in the relationship, like my beig away due to work, our non-agreement on children, lowering of sex frequency, and fear of becoming our parents (hers an eternal stay at home mom and my dad a Social introvert)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Sick of GF's deadens career, I asked her to apply for jobs even if she doesn't expect to get them in lieu of her share of the rent this month - which has lead to radio silence. What do? | Sick of GF's deadens career, I asked her to apply for jobs even if she doesn't expect to get them in lieu of her share of the rent this month - which has lead to radio silence. What do? | 5,051 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: Cut me off? Your feet will pay!
POST: Everyday I spend a minimum of 2 hours using public transport, with a minimum of 2 transfers from train/bus/subway.
Because of the size of the stations and going from bus to subway or subway to train, there is quite a distance to walk and I want to cover it quickly.
Now, I'm fairly tall compared to most people in this country and hence I walk with a large stride. I also walk quite quickly (much to my wife's annoyance haha).
But what irks me to the upmost is when these little people with their short legs cut me off and walk slowly in front of me, especially when talking loudly (they are like macaws here) to their friends or on the phone. So my petty revenge for these people is to either step, heavily, on the back/heel of their shoe or kick underneath their shoe so they take an extra large step.
The look of pain/surprise is amazing.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | people cut me off when walking in public transport stations, I step on the back of their feet or kick their feet to have my petty revenge. | people cut me off when walking in public transport stations, I step on the back of their feet or kick their feet to have my petty revenge. | 508 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Rather odd tax question concerning dependents
POST: This year, I remarried and the woman I am married to has a son. He lives with us and I treat and support him as if he was my own son. I have also been supporting him financially for more than 6 months out of the year and know that I am allowed to claim him as a dependent. My wife and her son are both from the philippines and not yet U.S. Citizens. Haven't even filed the adjustment yet (doing it this month) to have them changed to permanent residents.
Anyway, the thing I'm wondering is if that $1000 business applies in this situation. I'm also not sure how that benefit works. I have a daughter from a previous marriage and I know the first year I had her, it seemed like when I added her in TurboTax, $1000 was immediately added on to the amount of my return.
Is that how this is supposed to work or is it supposed to be a $1000 credit against the amount I am being taxed on? Do you get this benefit every year? Do you get it for each child? Does it apply to me with my new step-son even though there has been no legal adoption or anything?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Remarried and have a step son that I haven't legally adopted, but have supported for more than half the year. Does the tax credit/benefit for children apply to me? | Remarried and have a step son that I haven't legally adopted, but have supported for more than half the year. Does the tax credit/benefit for children apply to me? | 3,517 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I, 19[f], am in love with my best friend 20[m]. How can i get him to fall for me?
POST: I have been in love with my best friend since year 2 of our friendship. He is the only person i trust in this world.
Whenever he describes his perfect girl, he describes me, i don't even think he realizes it. He even goes so far to say "I want to marry my best friend".
Its confusing, because he shows no interest in me thus-far. We get along great, we joke about & have fun.
I've loved him for the past four years, when i first realized it, i let him know. But he said didn't want to ruin our friendship. Ever since then I've acted like my feelings aren't there. I even give him helpful realtionship advice.
He is the only person i know i could trust in this world.
What i want to know is how can i make him fall for me too? How can i show him I'm right for him?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I, 19[f] have been in love with my best friend 20[m] for the last 4 years. how can i show him im right for him? | I, 19[f] have been in love with my best friend 20[m] for the last 4 years. how can i show him im right for him? | 646 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Form 18 Worker's Compensation in North Carolina
POST: So I strained my back on the job and was not able to work for a week. My employer happily sent me to a doctor and got prescribed some meds to help with the pain. A week later I received a letter in the mail asking for my medical information to be released that pertained to the injury. Also the form 18 was sent and form 25T which covers mileage and travel compensation.
I'm just a part time employee about 20 hours a week, 4 hrs a day, 5 days a week.
I don't want to claim the compensation. I just want them to take care of the x Ray and the doctor visit. The doctors office is like 3-4 miles down the road from my work place. And it seems they have already done that since I did not pay anything for the meds or the doctor visit.
I am not looking to claim any lost wages, I was able to return to work on light duty but I just asked for the week off since I didn't feel like working the rest of the week.
I will gladly release my medical information that pertains to the injury since its not that serious of a issue to me. Never been hospitalized in my life or had any health issue so I do not mind.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Got hurt, didn't have to pay for doctor visit or the meds prescribed, I do not want to pursue anything else, do I need to fill these forms out? (Form 18 and 25T) | Got hurt, didn't have to pay for doctor visit or the meds prescribed, I do not want to pursue anything else, do I need to fill these forms out? (Form 18 and 25T) | 3,623 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] and my freind[18F]: Should I still ask her to date me with college around the corner?
POST: Hi guys, little bit new to reddit and this side of it so let me know if I did something wrong with my post.
A little info about us:
We both just graduated high school, she is going out of state, I'm staying in state. I met her because she was one of my mom's best students at her school. Lost touch for about two months then reconnected on her accord, went out a few times, texted a lot, decided we would go to prom together.
A little info on me: I enjoy focusing on fitness and am a pretty active person overall, but I am a nerd in terms of gaming and movies/tv etc. I have never kissed a girl before (you know where that goes).
A little info on her: Studious (valedictorian of her school), kind to everyone, hard to read (in terms of feelings). I'm unsure about how strong her feelings are for me. I am usually the one to ask her if she wants to do something. Not sure if she has dated anyone in the past.
Here's the catch: She has already told me that she does not want to date anyone before college, but she is the first person I have had strong feelings for in the past couple of years. College for us starts in August.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Should I still ask her to date me with the chance of rejection and losing her freindship forever or should I wait until next year when everybody is settled in and perhaps feelings have changed? | Should I still ask her to date me with the chance of rejection and losing her freindship forever or should I wait until next year when everybody is settled in and perhaps feelings have changed? | 6,351 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23f] with [23m] 2.5 years LD. In what circumstances is it acceptable to go dark?
POST: I've been dating my SO for 2.5 years, all long distance. I don't want to emphasis our issues as I've already made my decision. But I don't know how to execute.
He's been emotionally abusive and manipulative to me for the last 6 months. It's become unbearable. He plays mind games. He's emotionally and physically cheated on me. He would ignore me for days, weeks as punishment. He would break up with me and when I would plead, he'd take me back. Long story short, it's a very unhealthy relationship.
I've been through some traumatic experiences with men, particularly him. I'm wondering if it's okay if I just disappear. I don't have the courage nor the strength to officially end things with him. I will get pulled back in. He doesn't love me. He doesn't care about me. He just likes the affection, my attention, and the feeling of control. He wants me to chase. I quit. Is it okay if I just block everything without saying a single word about it? He would never come to look for me. He really doesn't give a damn. He's never come to see me. I'm the one who did the traveling.
Last night, I got my clarity. He broke up with me again and recanted it. I told him okay and went to sleep. He texted me this morning with a cute message. I really don't want to respond. I know a lot of people on Reddit believe that's unfair and will tell me to "woman up" but I don't trust myself. I need help and I need to get away from him. I love him but he's toxic. He's toxic to me and I need out.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Is it ever okay to not officially end things? emotionally abusive LDR. When is it okay to just stop responding? | Is it ever okay to not officially end things? emotionally abusive LDR. When is it okay to just stop responding? | 1,614 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by getting angry at bagels
POST: Today I woke up late and home alone so I decided to make homemade bagels for the upcoming week. They took awhile to make and I was wanting to do something else, but they turned out really hard and horribly stuck on the pan. dammit. So being me I grab a butter knife to pry them off.
I spent the next couple minutes stabbing the bottom on the pan and cursing aloud, and eating the leftover bits stuck on the pan. Then the door leading into my house (which is right next to the kitchen) opens and my roommate comes in and finds me yelling and frantically tearing the leftovers off the pan and shoving them into my mouth.
He hasn't come out of his room yet, I don't know what to do
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Woke up, decided to make next week's snack, my roommate comes into the house to find me going caveman on the leftover bagel pieces on the pan, now feel fat and embarrassed in my ways | Woke up, decided to make next week's snack, my roommate comes into the house to find me going caveman on the leftover bagel pieces on the pan, now feel fat and embarrassed in my ways | 2,788 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: [Funny] More conversations from the FH
POST: My beloved FH is working from home today, drat his eyes, while I'm an hour away in the office. While thinking longly of my bed, I realize that the save the dates that I'd designed & had printed should be coming in today, so I send him a quick message so he'd keep an eye open for them.
>**Me**: Oh hey--We should be getting STDs today
>**FH**: I don't want them!
>**Me**: lol
>You sure?
>I paid a lot of money to get some...
>**FH**: what are you referring to
>**Me**: Save the Dates lol
>**FH**: you spend too much time on that subreddit
>and if you keep it up, I'm going to only speak to you in programming jargon
>**Me**: :'(
I mean, really--who doesn't want STDs?! ;)
Hope this story made you smile today!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am threatened with jargon when FH decides I spend too much time on /r/weddingplanning. | I am threatened with jargon when FH decides I spend too much time on /r/weddingplanning. | 6,038 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I (25f) ask my boyfriend (27M) of 2 years about his stance on marriage?
POST: I want to talk to my boyfriend about marriage **but not about getting married**. I just want to know where he stands on the subject.
We've never talked about realtionship goals before or what we want for the future. So I was completely caught off guard after he said that we would be engaged if he "cared" for marriage. He then continued "that we were better off without", and when initailly asked why all he talked about was his only married friend's wife and how he doesn't like her.
I want to bring up the subject again, but I don't know how to go about it. I don't want to make it seem like I'm upset, because I'm not. Obviously, I know he's not for marriage, but the reason he gave for why makes no sense to me. I want a more logical answer so I know what to expect out of our relationship.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | wants to ask bf what his view of marriage is, tried already after *he* brought it up, but all he talked about was a friend's wife | wants to ask bf what his view of marriage is, tried already after *he* brought it up, but all he talked about was a friend's wife | 5,843 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I just give up?
POST: So my (F21) recent ex (M20) have decided to try and work things out but aren't back together yet.
I know taking things slow is a good idea and we are (not texting or hanging out as much as we used to) but when we do get together it's like nothings changed; we still hold hands, kiss, cuddle, ect.
We do argue less which is nice.
We're going to a party tonight with a group of friends who don't know about the split (or that we're currently trying) I told him this and he said that I don't have to act like I'm in a relationship....even though that's basically what we do without the label.
He also encourages me to date people and not to hold back on account of him...is the normal for someone who wants to make things work?
On one hand I appreciate it since technically I am single but on the other hand I want him to want us to have dates and be together--not with other people.
I don't really know what to think. Advice please?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My ex and I are trying to work things out but I'm worried he actually doesn't want to and need advice. | My ex and I are trying to work things out but I'm worried he actually doesn't want to and need advice. | 3,211 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 F] with my bf [22 M] of a year and a half don't seem the same for me.
POST: My bf, 22/M, and I, 23/F, have been dating for a year and a half and things seem to be going downhill for me while everything is going uphill for my him. In the beginning of the relationship, I was more into it posting pictures on social networks, introducing him to my friends, etc. He seemed like he didn't really want our relationship to be known. He's a marine and his friends are back home in the states. I've met his friends here, but I've never met his actual friends. His lack of expressing our relationship made me feel like he was ashamed of me and didn't want anybody to know.
We've had arguments and he started hiding things on his facebook, especially posts from his other females friends, so I automatically lost my trust for him there. I even brought up breaking up after that. He didn't want to break up and we're still trying it out, but honestly, the relationship seemed to have died down for me since then.
Now, he is the one who's really into the relationship. Always saying lovey dovey stuff, him wanting to take me home with him to meet his family and close friends back home, wanting to match outfits, taking pictures, and all that stuff. He's even been bringing up marriage a lot lately.
I just feel overwhelmed and feel as if he's all of the sudden become over attached.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | boyfriend who showed no interest in our relationship has become overly attacked in the last couple of months. I'm not too sure how to feel about this. | boyfriend who showed no interest in our relationship has become overly attacked in the last couple of months. I'm not too sure how to feel about this. | 6,106 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [F26] have no friends and I'm getting jealous of [M23] husband's friends and acting clingy.
POST: So yeah, pretty much the title. We've been been together for about 5 years, married for 1.5 years. I moved in with him to a small military town when we got married, and so far I haven't really been able to make friends. He just got out of the military and we have decided to stay here, but I'm getting really lonely.
Don't get me wrong I try, but it just hasn't worked out for me. I've tried looking for a job but there's not a lot of opportunities here and I don't have a degree. I've tried meeting up with people on reddit, going to parties, getting involved in the vape community, meeting my SO's buddies' wives and girlfriends but no luck. I've been here almost 2 years and I have absolutely no one I can call up to go hang out with or go to lunch.
I just sit at home by myself every day, waiting for him to come home just so I can have some human interaction. Then I get irrationally sad that my husband doesn't spend all his time with me. He also plays a lot of video game and has his own friends, and I'm not sure how to deal with that. I've been getting clingy, needy, and jealous that's he's logged into his game every other day for hours talking and laughing with his friends while I just sit alone on the couch and surf reddit. Does anyone have any advice at all? I don't want to force him not to game or have a life just because I don't have one. :/
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Husband plays lots of online games, and I have no friends. I try to put myself out there but nothing, I'm getting clingy and jealous of his friends. Any advice? | Husband plays lots of online games, and I have no friends. I try to put myself out there but nothing, I'm getting clingy and jealous of his friends. Any advice? | 3,558 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: Being alone used to be nice...
POST: ...but now that I've experienced what I thought was a happy relationship, I can't enjoy the things I used to anymore. Hours of gaming, spontaneous biking trips, weekend movie marathons, etc. I used to be fine spending all my free time in solitude because I loved having control of everything, but after my last relationship I want so badly to be with someone, to share and do all those things with them, that being alone just isn't fun anymore.
Not enough time has passed yet, and I hate waiting to feel normal again. Some days are better than others. I finish a big project at work, I buy something nice for myself, I exercise and feel good, I eat muffins my mom sent me, all for a temporary contentedness. Then I want to share my successes with someone, and remember that I have no one. I tell my friends, and they congratulate me, but they don't really care because they're busy with their own lives.
Then the sadness creeps back in, starting quietly and building up as I remember I can't tell the one person I want, and worse, he doesn't want to share his stories with me. He doesn't want to see me or talk to me. He doesn't want me in his life anymore. My love for him wasn't good enough.
I couldn't keep from crying if I tried, it hurts so much. A deep, clenching ache that fills my chest where the love used to be. This is all I have now, and all I will have for an indefinite amount of time. Rather than sobbing, hunched over on the floor like I was a few weeks ago, now the tears stream silently down my face, making the world a blurry, cold place as I feel my love, the greatest gift I could ever give someone, slowly slipping away into nothingness. It's such a waste, and it breaks my heart into pieces that will remain scarred long after I move on.
Sorry for the ranting, I'm just writing out how I feel in an attempt to release some depressing thoughts. Any reassuring words about the way life goes on are welcome.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Not over recent breakup, things that used to be enjoyable aren't anymore, keep getting set back because I want my other half to share life with. | Not over recent breakup, things that used to be enjoyable aren't anymore, keep getting set back because I want my other half to share life with. | 5,351 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is he actually interested?
POST: I'm 21/f and I met a 22/m about 2 months ago. We didn't really start talking until a month ago. He would text me almost every weekend asking to hang out, but I was always busy.
Finally I agree, and we go to a movie, but I'm 99% sure that was just as friends. We bought our tickets separately and met inside the theater. Nothing happened there.
Well, after that, we started texting/chatting online a lot. We had a lot of interesting conversations and he kept mentioning that I was really nice and that I gave good advice. Somehow we got on the topic of sex one day and since then, things kind of got stuck there? We ended up sexting a few times.
He tends to flirt with anything with breasts, so I was weary of his flirting. But at one point i asked him why he had to go after so many women. That one is enough. He responded saying if one were to take him, that would be enough. I told him that shouldn't be hard to find, and he simply replied with "Who? You?". I said I couldn't answer that, and he didn't pursue much further. Then we just ended up sexting..
I don't know if I'm assuming things because of the sexting or if it's valid to think he might be interested in more than just "sexting buddies" (if that's a thing.. I don't know). I've never done that before so I don't know the procedure.
Like I said, he is the kind of guy that flirts with anything with breasts, but when talking to him privately, I've kind of figured that it's all kind of a muse to hide insecurities. I just don't know if he's doing this with me because I'm a female and willing, or if he actually likes me and wants more than that.. I'm not the most attractive person, so I can only assume he's actually genuine and not in it just to get in my pants, because no one wants that.. not in 3 years.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I don't know if the guy I've been sexting is actually interested in me or just a horny guy looking for nothing other than a sexting buddy | I don't know if the guy I've been sexting is actually interested in me or just a horny guy looking for nothing other than a sexting buddy | 5,009 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Is this emotional blackmail ?
POST: Hi all, need some advice.
I've been going out with a girl for about a year on and off. When we started going out I wasn't keen at all, but she kept texting me and inviting me round to her place and one night we had sex after a night at the pub. We got on reasonably well as friends but we had nothing in common. I think we were both lonely and were just keeping each other company. Anyway as time went on I discovered she was a borderline alcoholic, which made me split up with her several times. But she took counseling, promised to sort it out and said she loved me. I don't love her. She's very messy, forgetful and dirty, has no interests, doesn't look after herself, but she's caring and generous. I can't stand her taste in clothes, furniture, music or art. I kept bouncing back to her, until recently when I just had enough and left her for good. Now she's ringing me in tears saying I've been cruel and heartless, that her life is a mess (it is), that I'm all she's got (not true, she's got many friends). She's wailing down the phone. She cries about all these other things wrong with her life, and all these reasons why her life's so bad (never her fault, always someone else). I just want to be left alone and get on with my life (I don't want to be in a relationship atm). On the other hand I feel sorry for her and feel like I should help her, even though somehow I know I can't.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | we split, she's crying, wants me back, i don't want to because she drinks too much, isn't clean & tidy, we have nothing in common. | we split, she's crying, wants me back, i don't want to because she drinks too much, isn't clean & tidy, we have nothing in common. | 5,270 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: BF [25M] of 9 months refuses to be in photos with me [25F]
POST: (I'm not actually a redditor, but my friend recommended using her account to post about my issue...)
I have been seeing Daniel for about 9 months and things have been awesome. We have a lot in common, and it's always a great time when we're together. Even though it hasn't quite reached a year yet, I see things going well in the future. However, one incident from about 6 weeks ago is still bothering me and I don't know if I should bring it up, or even how.
A little bit of context: Like most people my age, I'm on social media. But it also isn't that big of a deal to me & I don't spend that much time obsessing over it or posting too much. For example, if I'm on vacation, I'll post a photo or two with friends, but not necessarily document every moment for everyone. I much prefer to keep my personal life private, and especially don't post about my relationship. Daniel isn't hugely into social media either, aside from snapchat where he posts to "his story" pretty frequently.
In April, Daniel & I went to a local music festival together featuring a bunch of our favorite artists. I was dancing and having a good time, and pulled out my phone to take a video selfie of me dancing. Daniel was dancing behind me, and you would've thought he hit the dab with how fast he moved his face out of the frame. I was surprised, and realized that after all this time we haven't taken any photos or videos together.
I'm about 99% sure that it isn't an issue of him having a side-chick or whatever. Our relationship isn't a secret, and I've spent plenty of time with his friends. This isn't even about posting it to Instagram and letting the world know about my relationship. The fact that he doesn't want to have any documentation of our relationship seems like a red flag. And frankly, it hurts.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | BF of 9 months jumped out of the frame when I was taking a video, and we've never taken a video or pic together. Is this worth bringing up, and if so, how do I go about it without sounding insecure? | BF of 9 months jumped out of the frame when I was taking a video, and we've never taken a video or pic together. Is this worth bringing up, and if so, how do I go about it without sounding insecure? | 4,462 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22M] after [22F]- Commitment Issues
POST: Hey so I've known this girl about a month now, shes really nice we like alot of the same things we get along well together, the first few weeks we talked alot hung out once just the two of us and twice with her friends at the bar we met at, one of the times her friend approached me and asked if I liked this girl and I said I did and I find her interesting, to which she replied that I should make a move and we didnt have this conversation
We got outside and I didnt really make a move but after a long hung we both sort of just went for a kiss and ended up making out, anyway since then a few things happened in her life, she was ill and her close friend ended up losing somebody etc, Ive been very understanding offering my support just as you should, one other time we hung out we sort of had a small heart to heart I told her about my ex and everything ive been dealing with and shes sorry ive been having to deal with that.
I saw her out last night and we just generally chatted a little bit but she left because her and her friends were tired, I wanted to say to her face but because she left I couldnt so instead of just text her saying I thank her for being there to listen to me talk about my ex because its been hard and she said its fine shes everybodys vent at the moment, I went onto say thats not exactly what I meant I said that she actually cares and shes fantastic and its hard to find in people these days.
She went onto say that this is why she avoids ruining things, when I questioned her about that she simply said, she has commitment issues, so many of her friendships have been ruined from getting close, so she panics.
Im just not sure where to go from her, shes the first person ive actually felt attracted to since my ex girlfriend, I think she does like me shes just afraid to make that next step incase it messes up another good friendship, any advice would be great!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boy meets girl, get along together, makeout, heart to heart, girl too afraid of commitment values friendship of friends alot, not sure if next step on the cards? | Boy meets girl, get along together, makeout, heart to heart, girl too afraid of commitment values friendship of friends alot, not sure if next step on the cards? | 1,397 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I don't know why I'm paranoid over her not texting back? But I am.
POST: So I'm 22, not very experienced in relationships really, been single since I was 18 and haven't really attempted proper dating until recently.
Anyway, I meet this girl through OKcupid and we've been on 8 dates since the end of January and things have been going good, we've have kissed at the end of most dates and I've really started to like her.
We've typically texted everyday since we've met, on our last date we hung out at mine house, cuddled and kissed at the end of the evening, and I set up the next time we should hang out (her day off). I texted the next day, just a casual, "Hey, hows it going?" text, she never got back that day, or the next day, or today up to this point, it's not unusual for her to take her time to text back, we both take our time but it's never been this long, usually only a few hours or next morning. I've started to over think that I've possibly done something wrong that I'm not aware of or she realised she's not that into me.
I never realised how paranoid I've got about it until today, maybe it's just because we met on a dating site and that she could have easily have found something else. The more I write the more this sounds ridiculous, but I'm stumped, really what I'm looking for is the next course of action, should I wait it out or text her again, if so what should I say?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Going out with girl for 1 1/2 months, typically text everyday, she hasn't texted back in almost 2 days, what should I do r/dating_advice? | Going out with girl for 1 1/2 months, typically text everyday, she hasn't texted back in almost 2 days, what should I do r/dating_advice? | 934 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: How do I approach this girl I want to be with?
POST: Here's the situation: I've only every been in one "relationship" with a girl, and I use quotations because it was never even a real relationship. I invested years into it, and it crashed and burned about a year ago. The problem is, ever since her, I can't approach a girl I'm attracted to and ask her out! There's this stunning girl at my school that I have a real attraction to, but I just have no idea where to start. Every idea I run through in my head just ends up with me looking stupid, and her rejecting me. My question is this: How can I approach her, and get to know her?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Pretty socially awkward/shy around girls, would really like some advice on how to approach an intimidatingly attractive girl. | Pretty socially awkward/shy around girls, would really like some advice on how to approach an intimidatingly attractive girl. | 2,316 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: we are broken up im [24m] shes [25f] is it inappropriate to do this?
POST: hey everyone, i just made this throwaway (first time) and i dont usually post much. basically, my ex and i broke up in january (together for 2 years) and remained in touch for a few weeks after that because it was hard. but then we started doing the space thing. few weeks after that we saw each other again at a party and it got complicated when we got drunk. we spoke after that, but then gave each other space again. so we're looking at about 2-3 weeks since the last time we saw each other.
the reason i'm here is because she's in a show and her last performance is tomorrow night. ive always supported her and i wanted to be there for her, but we arent together. it took a lot for me not to text her good luck and all that. but i got a ticket for the last show tomorrow night. i was wondering whether it would be awkward to buy flowers and give them to the box office to give to her anonymously? i spoke with the box office and they said it's cool, so i'm really just wondering what you guys think of it?
i'm not trying to win her back with it, but i know this is her most important performance to date and i just want her to feel special. i wouldn't have my name or anything attached to it and i'm leaving after the show ends (not waiting around for her to come out)
of course i'd love to get back together, but that's if and only we both feel ready at some point. it's been too soon, but i still support her. so, is this okay to do? good or bad? hit me with the criticism please.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | broke up in january 2 year relationship, shes in a big show saturday and i wanted to get her flowers anonymously. good or bad? | broke up in january 2 year relationship, shes in a big show saturday and i wanted to get her flowers anonymously. good or bad? | 4,867 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Can a girl love you and still date somebody else? Story time.
POST: So I was meaning to get this off my chest for a while, here it goes.
In December 2009, I started talking to this girl I met online. I didn't think anything of it, and all we did was just talk online, or text. Soon after, she called me on the phone, and we became pretty serious. She is an amazing person with an addictive personality after talking countless hours with her. The problem? She is 35 with 2 kids and I'm 21 studying to become an Accountant. For the longest time we both wanted a relationship so badly, but I told myself it would never work because we are both in 2 completely different stages of our life. I wanted kids and she already had kids. So after fighting her desire for a relationship, we became best friends, and we are both extremely happy.
She broke up with her ex boyfriend (who is around my age), and after a year and half, they recently got back together. I feel a little be crappy about it, but I keep reminding myself that I was the one who didn't want a relationship. She is forever grateful that I came into her life, and says I was the best thing to ever happen to her life. She had a dark time where she fell into depression and she tells me that I am the reason for her getting out of that depression period.
Even after she got back with her ex, she still tells me she loves me, and will forever do so because of all the things I helped her with to get rid of her depression. She goes on further by saying that given the opportunity, she would spend the rest of her life with me because she knew I was the one. I feel the same way. You may call me an idiot for thinking that way, but it's how I feel, i'm entitled to have my heart express the feelings I have for this girl.
Anyways, how would you feel if the girl you were dating was just dating you because the guy she really wanted told her it could never happen?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm 21, she is 35. She got back with her ex, and tells me she still loves me. Given the opportunity, she would spend the rest of her life with me, but I told her it could never happen. | I'm 21, she is 35. She got back with her ex, and tells me she still loves me. Given the opportunity, she would spend the rest of her life with me, but I told her it could never happen. | 5,572 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: (21f) wondering if my feelings for my (22m) boyfriend are lessening or if it's caused by depression
POST: Hi /r/relationships.
For a bit of backstory, I've had a really difficult time recently - deaths of loved ones, family drama/tension, breakup with an abusive ex boyfriend, just an overall awful year.
I've been with my boyfriend about 9 months. We were friends for years before we dated and developed an interest in each other. Our relationship has been pretty happy so far, a couple of blips/arguments but nothing too significant.
Lately I've been feeling more depressed than I ever have in my life. I used to be pretty easy-going and cried maybe three times a year. Now I cry every few days and everyday tasks are hugely difficult. I've lost interest in a lot of my favourite things - example, I'm a classical pianist who has practiced 2 hours every single day since I was five years old, and I haven't touched my piano in months. I am going to counselling regularly and don't often tell friends and family about my feelings, instead preferring to just deal with it on my own.
Last week I did break down and tell my boyfriend just how bad it was. He was amazing and kind and comforting and even cried with me while I told him what was going on. One thing I can't tell him, though, is that sometimes I feel like I don't feel anything for him at all. Sometimes I feel a lot of love for him, sometimes I feel like I just don't care. This isn't just limited to him, though - lately I've been feeling almost no affection for my parents or sister and I have very little interest in seeing my friends.
What do I do, Redditors? With this cloud of depression hanging over my head I just can't trust my feelings at all. I'm seeing a counsellor regularly but it just doesn't seem like enough to deal with all this. Anyone ever been in a similar situation?
Also, feel free to ask questions and I'll try to answer them, I'm not sure if I left any important details out.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Had a rough year and have been experiencing some depression. Not sure if my feelings for my boyfriend of 9 months are diminishing or if it's the depression. Me (21f) him (22m) | Had a rough year and have been experiencing some depression. Not sure if my feelings for my boyfriend of 9 months are diminishing or if it's the depression. Me (21f) him (22m) | 2,274 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should my BF [26/M] have stood up for me [25/F] against his friends?
POST: Back story: My bf (26/M) and I (25/F) have been together off and on for almost two years now. The reason for the break was because I left to go teach for a year abroad and to kind of find myself. I'm back now and we got back together.
**UPDATED BACKSTORY** - The break up wasn't me breaking up with him to go abroad. We had talked about me going, staying together for the process, and having him come over on a visa for the last two months to stay with me. Three months into my journey **HE** dumped **ME**. Not the other way around. This was a job opportunity trip that helped me in my field of profession. I didn't cheat on him nor did I talk/sleep with someone after the break up. I focused on my job.
Last night while out with my guy (26/M) at a bar we ran into some of his old coworkers. After some chatting the coworkers realized that I was the girl who left the country. They proceed to tell my BF, in front of me, that he should dump me, asked him why he was with me, told him I was a bitch and that I'll probably leave again. The straw that broke the camel's back for me was when one of them stated "Well, at least she lost some weight while she was gone."
My guy, though definitely uncomfortable with the situation, failed to say anything or stick up for me. I was left trying to change the conversation onto anything else that I could. They were drunk so I can look past the remarks but I can't seem to shake the fact that my guy didn't say anything to them to try and make them stop. He did apologize for their remarks afterwards but the damage was done. I'm not looking for him to fight my battles but I was very disappointed in how he handled the situation. Should he have stood up for me or should that be something I should do for myself when it comes to his friends and coworkers?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | BF's friends talked shit about me in front of my boyfriend and he didn't do anything. Should I be mad? | BF's friends talked shit about me in front of my boyfriend and he didn't do anything. Should I be mad? | 3,042 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: First time filling taxes as a student, where to start?
POST: Typically in the past my parents file my taxes with their accountant, but he takes for ever and I typically don't see that glorious check until late May. This year as I'm graduating my undergraduate I wanted to file my taxes on my own to save my parents some money (No point in being charged several hundred dollars when I receive a little less than $1000 back) and see that check a lot earlier. the 1040EZ form seems simple enough (I've done 2 paper versions over the last two week to ensure I'm filling it out right before I go to an electronic version for submission), but it seems that I would have to claim myself as independent if I'm understanding correctly, which would mess with my parents taxes as they want to claim me as a dependent until I've moved out.
Am I correct with this understanding, and if so how do I progress such that I can file separately (time wise) from my parents, ensure I receive my maximum amount back as a student (I will be returning for post-Grad study in the fall), without messing up my parents taxes.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Want to file my taxes without going through parents account since he's slow (and usually late); they file me as a dependent. | Want to file my taxes without going through parents account since he's slow (and usually late); they file me as a dependent. | 6,017 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: In need of advice for college finances
POST: Im going to try to keep this short but please let me know if I left out any important information. I am a high school senior and am considering going to the university of Alabama for a STEM to MBA program. I would have a full tuition scholarship with only about 8k/year expenses for room and board. I would prefer to get a degree in software engineering with the MBA. I was wondering if it would be worth it to go to a top-tier university for the same credentials or if saving the money is a better option in the long run.
-Alabama~32k total for education
-Prestigious university- 80-200k+ depending on scholarships available.
-I have 34 ACT/ 2250 SAT and 3.9 unweighted GPA if it matters
-I will have $70k at my disposal to use for college
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Is getting certification from a more "prestigious" university worth the insane amount of debt I would be getting myself into? | Is getting certification from a more "prestigious" university worth the insane amount of debt I would be getting myself into? | 3,632 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[23/F] with my bf [50/M] have been dating for 9 months and I don't know if he takes our relationship as seriously as I am, due to our age difference.
POST: So we met at Starbucks, and he asked me to be his girlfriend 2 weeks later. Now we've been dating for 9 months. Every time I'm with him, I have so much fun.
I've only had 3 ex in the past, and I've never been so attracted to someone like this before. Honestly, he even gave me my first orgasm! He's smart, mature, and very attractive. I notice all the little things about him and I'm in love. The only problem is, I haven't told him yet due to many reasons.
* his age. I can't tell what's going on his head.
* He's been around the block with the dating scene. He was married for 20 years before going through a hard breakup with his ex wife. That happened 5 years ago. Then he's been in a few serious relationships and "multiple" online dates. So obviously he's experienced. I've only had 3 ex and had sex with 2 of them.
* if I tell him I love him, I'm scared he won't feel the same way and our relationship
TL;DR: . Assistant: | bf is older than I am, don't know if I should confess myself to him because I don't know what to expect. | bf is older than I am, don't know if I should confess myself to him because I don't know what to expect. | 5,241 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [17m] girlfriend [18f] of six months cheated on me in June. A few days ago I found out that she lied.
POST: Back in June I had been seeing my girlfriend seriously for about six months. She was a senior and I was a junior so she graduated a week earlier than I did. During that week I stayed in school taking my final exams while she and the rest of the seniors went to a rented house and spent the week partying. I'll admit that I was nervous at first because I knew people would be hooking up and I knew that there would be alcohol involved. When she came back home, she told me that she had gotten drunk and kissed her ex boyfriend and that she felt very guilty about it to the point where she thought she could no longer Be a "good girlfriend." I explained that I no longer wanted to see her. The reason I mention this is because she wanted to meet in person so that she could get closer. I accepted it and started to try and move on. A few days ago, I found out that she did not only cheat on me with her ex-boyfriend but she cheated on me with anywhere between 2-4 guys on a regular basis on multiple nights. I then found out that she has been hooking up with a lot of my friends and going to a lot of parties. I understand that we are broken up and that she can do whatever she likes but it still stings and has caused me a good deal of pain. So, what do I do about her lying? How do I move on? Any advice?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriend of six months cheated on me. She told me it was with one guy. I found out it was with anywhere between 2-4. She has also been hooking up with some of my friends over the summer. | girlfriend of six months cheated on me. She told me it was with one guy. I found out it was with anywhere between 2-4. She has also been hooking up with some of my friends over the summer. | 2,096 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I'm (M/16) who is having trouble finding out if a girl (F/17) is interested, I have no skill at this, any help appreciated!
POST: So, obviously I'm young, but hey, I'm still a junior going to a high school with this girl, let's call her Jenny. I've been friends with her since the start of this school year so ~6 Months. She got out of a relationship with her boyfriend around two months ago. She texted me and talked to me about it until she finally got over it.
A couple weeks pass by and Jenny starts getting closer to me in class, we have class with each other every day. We start sitting next to each other, yeah no big deal. Another week passes and we're walking in the hallway and she grabs my arm, she interlocks it and I brush it off as nothing, she does the same thing after our next class and I start wondering.
Over the next week, she starts hanging out with me more, I play lacrosse so I have practice all the time. On game day, Jenny takes my practice jersey and wears it around all day and then waits in the locker room for me, and we go hang out for a bit. We're sitting on a bench with a couple other mutual friends and she rests her head on my shoulder.
Now, my doubts mostly come from the fact that Jenny is very outgoing and always makes up some lame excuse to ditch me when I ask to just hang out as friends on the weekends.
I've always been really shy, and have only had one girlfriend before this and she approached me about going out. The few friends I've talked to about this have no idea how to help me. I like to be pretty sure that a girl likes me before I ask her out, any advice and commentary will be appreciated!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Strongly believe an outgoing girl who I've been friends with for a few months has a thing for me, a shy and nervous guy, looking for any advice Reddit is willing to give me, thanks in advance! | Strongly believe an outgoing girl who I've been friends with for a few months has a thing for me, a shy and nervous guy, looking for any advice Reddit is willing to give me, thanks in advance! | 742 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Doubts about getting married
POST: I want to start by saying I met my fiancé almost a year ago and we immediately clicked. I felt like I've known the guy forever, and that I could say anything to him. I've never felt that way about anyone before. We ended up getting engaged 5 months after we started dating. He was definitely ready to get married before I was, because we are relatively young (24 years old) and I had always planned to get married later in life, but decided there was no point in waiting if I already met "the one"
I feel like I'm having doubts about getting married. When we argue about small things, the arguments turn huge. Im not as "loving" or emotional as my fiancé would like. He's been amazing about communicating that with me and I'm very proud of him for doing so, because I understand that's difficult. And I agree I am not as romantic as he is, and agree to work on it.
The thing is, sometimes when we fight, he is so stubborn. At first I was hoping it was just my point of view that was skewed and I was just afraid of being wrong, but now when we argue I often sit there quietly just to listen to the things he says. The way he fights isn't fair- even if I apologize for something, he says I'm not apologetic enough. If I stay quiet, he accuses me of wanting to fight and not trying. If I try and tell my point of view, he says I don't listen to him enough. He's wonderful and thoughtful when we arent arguing, and I know everyone argues, but when we argue I feel so helpless to the point where I can't get my point across and we stop talking for hours, sometimes even a day or two. I've only been in two relationships before this, but those weren't nearly as serious. Is this normal?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My fiance and I don't fight fair, and it results in us not talking for hours or even days and me doubting our relationship altogether. Is this normal? | My fiance and I don't fight fair, and it results in us not talking for hours or even days and me doubting our relationship altogether. Is this normal? | 2,402 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24M] with my girlfriend [23F] of 7 years have a good relationship, but I feel like I want to meet other people
POST: So as I'm nearing my second quarter of a century, I'm starting to have a little "quarter-life crisis".
I love my gf of 7 years (maybe not as passionate as in the beginning) and we mostly get together pretty good. Some minor stuff here and there, but nothing we can't get over. We were each other's first, lost our virginities to each other. But I can't shake the feeling that I'd like to know other girls, that I don't want her to be the only girl I've been with for the rest of my life, or maybe try being independent for a while.
At the same time, I don't want to lose her and I feel like I'd make a big mistake if I decide to leave her just for this (I know she won't accept me going solo for a year to try things out and then come back to her). And I also don't want to have the same question in another 7 years.
Have you ever been in my situation? What did you do? How do you decide what to choose?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | want to meet other people, but relationship is not that bad as to leave it without remorse. can't decide what to do and the ambiguity is making me unhappy | want to meet other people, but relationship is not that bad as to leave it without remorse. can't decide what to do and the ambiguity is making me unhappy | 1,178 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: PetSmart Adoption Weekend
POST: So... PetSmart is having a national adoption event this weekend. I was this close: >< to getting a special needs cat last weekend (she had that shaky kitty syndrome and no balance) but I think this weekend I might get a companion for my current fur ball, Squeaky.
Squeaky has been alone for about 12 years (I had adopted two cats, but the other one was bat-shit crazy and wouldn't stop spraying my house, unnecessary factoid,) and I'm not sure how he'll take it.
I've read a lot, a LOT! about introducing new cats, but would love some input from you folks about introducing a new cat to a really well settled in cat.
If it matters, I'll most likely get an older cat as I appreciate their mellow demeanor.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | may be getting a new (older) cat this weekend and would appreciate any feedback on getting my current (senior-ish) cat acquainted with the newbie. | may be getting a new (older) cat this weekend and would appreciate any feedback on getting my current (senior-ish) cat acquainted with the newbie. | 3,064 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I need some help with a girl I think I love.
POST: Ok so we're both sophomores in high school and we're pretty good friends. We talk a lot and we are completely open to eachother. We say what's on our minds,etc. But here's the deal. I told her how I felt about her and that I liked her and basically asked her out. She said that she likes this senior that she went out with last year; but they broke up (he broke up with her). She said she doesn't know why she still likes him and she hates it but she likes him. I kinda guessed that was going to happen when I asked her but I just had to. Nut the thing is I love her with all my heart and I can't stop thinking about her. I was going to tell her in like a week but then I thought that would just make things more awkward...so I just don't know what to do? Should I wait and see what happens with her and the senior? Oh yeah, I'm also pretty good friends with the senior, so that's even worse. Any help is appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I like this girl but he likes someone elso Jo doesn't like her. I told her I like her... She kinda turned me down but wasn't sure....what should info now? | I like this girl but he likes someone elso Jo doesn't like her. I told her I like her... She kinda turned me down but wasn't sure....what should info now? | 1,674 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by fucking up an air pass in basketball and making the school get a new fire alarm system
POST: Obligatory: this happened 10 years ago when I was 17 (2006); when I was a high school senior; when I was on the school's senior ball team.
Now at that time, my high school had fire alarm pull handles in the gym which protruded, were of a curved design, and had clear plastic covers over them.
Let's just say that, during a game, I missed the teammate I was trying to pass to, who was just inches away from out of bounds; the ball went into the OOB zone and then knocked the clear plastic cover of the fire alarm pull switch which somehow activated the alarm (something I never knew until then as I thought you had to pull it; TIL).
The game stopped when the alarm started to go off. Luckily for me and probably all of us, the school principal was watching the game and saw what happened, so he went to explain to the firefighters who just rolled in and hopped out of their truck, and they left after shutting it off.
Needless to say, the school got for the gym some new, flat-design pull handles, made recesses in the walls so their fronts would be flush with the wall when mounted, and put metal doors over them that balls couldn't knock open **and** couldn't activate the alarm. At least I (or anyone else on the team, or even the whole team) never had to pay as it was just an accident and "shitty design" (exact words of the principal).
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Fucked up an air pass during a game of ball, activated fire alarm, firefighters came, made the school get a new system for the gym | Fucked up an air pass during a game of ball, activated fire alarm, firefighters came, made the school get a new system for the gym | 1,809 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Weird situation, best way to approach this?
POST: Ok so I never use online dating, but I recently checked out a website that caters to my ethnic group, which is pretty tiny where I live. I found a profile of this girl who seems awesome, and I really think we'd hit it off. After a little bit of sleuthing I found out her family owns a local restaurant, and our parents actually know each other.
So basically, my problem is this, should I try to go about this in a way where I arrange a situation where we meet IRL, say by dropping into the restaurant where I know she spends a lot of time, or should I just go for it through the website?
As I see it, the pros for the IRL route are that it's just a hell of a lot smoother and more spontaneous/romantic/whatever. I feel pretty confident that I could sweet talk her into a casual date in person, but I have no idea how I might come across on the internet.
The cons of this situation are that our parents might figure out what's up, start getting nosey and being a pain in the ass/fuck up my game. Also, I'm worried I could just strike out by going into the restaurant repeatedly and somehow failing to encounter the girl, at which point asking her out online would come across as way too creepy and would be off the table since her family would eventually tip her off to the fact I've been coming around.
The online route seems straightforward, basically guaranteed that I reach her, but there's the risk of just being ignored or her not really being interested, which I'm confident is less likely in person. Also, the IRL route is off the table if I get ignored/denied online, as that too would come across as extremely creepy.
FWIW we're both 28, comfortably employed professionals, and I'm looking for something serious/long-term (partly why I'm so reluctant to go the internet route, really seems to fuck with the narrative)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Saw a profile of a girl online and figured out she's the daughter of some family friends. Do I ask her out online or attempt to arrange an encounter in person to ask her out? | Saw a profile of a girl online and figured out she's the daughter of some family friends. Do I ask her out online or attempt to arrange an encounter in person to ask her out? | 6,435 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, would you give this final an A?
POST: For my final project in World Politics 116 we are required to author a blog about international relations. I think it stands very well on it's own in regards to quality and effort, but the blogs are graded in four parts, one being "diversity and quality of readership as seen in the comment section of your blog." Unfortunately blogging is hard, yo, and although I am extremely proud of the content and hard work I put into this project, I am not skilled at all when it comes to marketing and distributing a blog. (This is my first try ever.)
If you appreciate my view, analysis or writing skills, please leave your appreciation / opinion in a comment. If you don't, please let me know! Also by leaving a comment, constructive criticism ftw.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Help me do well in class by reading current events and telling me how much my writing sucks/has changed your life. Thank you reddit brothers and sisters! | Help me do well in class by reading current events and telling me how much my writing sucks/has changed your life. Thank you reddit brothers and sisters! | 5,887 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Gf troubles I (m18)recently found out something about my (18F) gf that is really bothering me
POST: My gf and I have been dating for about a year and 4 months. We have had a good relationship with only a few hiccups, she is my first gf and I am her first bf. Lately I have been hitting the gym with my friend and I have grown close to him and is now my best friend. In recent time we have been talking about masturbation, she has been comfortable about talking about it with me. She was very upset that I watched porn but she would let me, that same day I found out through another friend that she masturbated to the thought of my best friend which in result really angered me and hurt in a way. I thought I was over reacting but I can't seem to get over it. When I asked if it was true she said it was true and I cussed at her through text and told her to leave me alone, because I just was really upset because he is my best friend. After this I texted her and we were back to normal but then we started to sext and the thought of what happened haunts me and now I can't bare the thought of her. So I told her that I needed space to think and to leave alone for a while, I said this politely and she understood. Now she called me and left a voicemail because I was busy and she said that she was bad at giving me space and was hoping to hear my voice, but that she will leave me alone until I text or call her. So my question is that was my behavior bad? Over reaction? Also what should I do from here?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | In short my gf has masturbated to the thought of my best friend and I had to find out through another friend, I have mixed feelings about the whole thing.I want to know what I should do from this point on. | In short my gf has masturbated to the thought of my best friend and I had to find out through another friend, I have mixed feelings about the whole thing.I want to know what I should do from this point on. | 87 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Another customer service FAIL from Cocks Communications. Reddit: does anyone out there work for a cable company? Why do they all seem to suck at customer service?
POST: After clicking around on the website for Cocks Communications and reaching multiple 404 errors for the gazillionth time (the "pay your bill" links always work flawlessly, of course), I sent this brief communique:
*Why do so many of your links go to 404's? It's been like this forever.
It's as if you don't know about the problem or don't care. If you don't
know about the problem, maybe it's the TWELVE required fields a customer
has to fill out just to send you an email (like this). You should make
it easier to contact your company... if you care about feedback. What
the hell am I saying? You're Cox. You don't care at all. It shows in
everything you do. Why am I bothering to write this?*
The crack customer service team over at Cocks Communications sent me this remarkably unhelpful response (text wall ahead):
*Thank you for your e-mail. I understand you are currently experiencing
connectivity difficulties. I am sincerely sorry for this inconvenience.*
*Under these circumstances, it is somewhat effortful to determine the
cause of your connectivity issue, since we are not able to troubleshoot
your computer directly. You might encounter isolated hardware
difficulties on your end, not visible from our side. I suggest you
perform cable modem troubleshooting, by accessing the link below:*
*<snip 3 pages of utterly useless advice>
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I send Cocks Communications a complaint about broken links on their site, and they send me a pre-fabbed text wall about checking my modem's connectivity. Why are cable companies like this? | I send Cocks Communications a complaint about broken links on their site, and they send me a pre-fabbed text wall about checking my modem's connectivity. Why are cable companies like this? | 3,818 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How can I get a relatively sensitive issue through to a sibling?
POST: Now this might sound like a joke but it is honestly quite an issue, I have a little brother who seems to have a bit of an odour problem only it isn't a simple body odour problem, I'm quite sure he has a very smelly umm... rear. I have another sibling that bothers him about everything constantly so if I try to tell him something or give him advice he usually gets really mad and chalks it up as me bullying him like my other sibling. Now he isn't the most hygienic person, in the summer he really only showered every few days when he had to and has terrible oral hygiene but, now that school is back in he is clean once again (thank god) yet his smelly bottom is still an issue. I love hanging out with my brother but honestly everytime he hangs out in my room he leaves behind an absolutely rancid smell, somewhat of a mixture of sweat and poop, not just in the air but my chair that he sits in literally smells like shit after he gets up. I have tried to tell him but like I said before he thinks I am just making fun of him, he just started high school and even telling him that girls don't like smelly guys has no affect. This is in no way a joke but I have to make it clear it smells like shit.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My little brother has a *really* smelly bottom and I can't get it through to him even though I try to tell him in a nice way. How can I get my message through to him? | My little brother has a *really* smelly bottom and I can't get it through to him even though I try to tell him in a nice way. How can I get my message through to him? | 4,861 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Denied rental application due to being a graduate student engaged to a medical student what are my options?
POST: Hello,
First time poster here. Here are the basic parts of what I'm trying to figure out. My fiance and I live in an apartment now for about 450/month and we just got rejected from an apartment in another town for about 100 more per month. We both have savings and great credit and live now on student loans and contribute equally to rent and other expenses. Our current landlord even offered to write us a letter of recommendation as we have never missed a payment.
The apartment in question didn't even seem to understand what we were talking about when we told her about our allotment for the year being about 2x how much they were even charging for rent. We can be allotted about 600 each for housing and we would only need less than 300.
Between the two of us we could pay rent just off of savings for the next year and a half, but now they won't talk to us.
I know what they are doing isn't illegal (at least I don't think it is,) but is there a way that I can show them our student loan packages as income so that they will understand that we can very much so afford the place? We are both very interested in the location because it was so cheap and we are careful of our finances, and the next option next to that apartment is about 690/month which we don't really want to pay if we don't have to.
Honestly if I were a landlord I would almost prefer student loans from a med student and grad student because it's basically a guarantee of having rent money with little to no volatility. I guess I'm just confused about why the landlord would not accept us or even understand the concept of loan package housing.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | We are students that can afford to move into a cheap apartment, but are being denied because they do not consider student loans to be income. Is there a way to present student loans as income or possibly go another route to bypass this? | We are students that can afford to move into a cheap apartment, but are being denied because they do not consider student loans to be income. Is there a way to present student loans as income or possibly go another route to bypass this? | 5,507 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] feeling frustrated with my friend [20 F]
POST: I asked out this girl at work. Was the first girl i ever asked out, she said no. Which felt like "your not good enough" each time i saw her, so I tried to put distance while still being her friend, didn't work too well, still fell for again.
So tried putting more space while showing no hard feelings, but doing this is causing her to say stuff like "I need you in my life". When we are talking on our work phones i hear people in the background teasing her about the way she is talking to me. There are other things she does that is making me feel she is interested and start to fall for her again.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How do I tell her that I thought i could be friends, but i can't it just feels like the worst kind of tease? | How do I tell her that I thought i could be friends, but i can't it just feels like the worst kind of tease? | 4,928 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I need your help - met a 94 y/o woman who is awesome! but she does not have a shower!
POST: I was at the grocery doing some trading and while waiting for a friend started some idle conversation with an elderly lady. (my friend thought I had already gone, so we talked for a bit). Her parents lived till they were 105 - both of them! She is still kicking so much ass at life- She cooks her own meals, dresses her self, has a great short term and long term memory, still opens the window to yell at the punk kids w/ their loud music. This 94 y/o gal has been through depressions, wars, technological revolutions. she is so happy and sharp, so being a young man I asked her a few questions (how was your teens, travel, work,) one of which was "is there anything you miss" and she said well taking a shower. WTF! "I have a shower but dut to my arthritis I cant get my legs over the side of the tub, so I just use a warsh cloth... you get use to it after a few years" (she didn't smell so I guess she did a good job of it)... but this made me really sad. I talked to a guy who said if I can find out who owns the building he would call him and make the shower thing happen (walk in shower w/chair and hand rails etc). He knows most every one in town and can call in some favors. so thats where I intend to start - and if the landlord is a slum lord then I'll will find a way to acquire a walk in shower and install it myself! Can you help me find out who owns these apts? I've looked and asked around and... nothing. its gotta be public info some wheres... right?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | shes 94, lives alone in section 8 (public housing) with a fixed income. Her daughter just passed away (at 80!) | shes 94, lives alone in section 8 (public housing) with a fixed income. Her daughter just passed away (at 80!) | 197 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I'm looking for some creative ideas for some good ol' fashioned epic mother FUCKING REVENGE!
POST: Looking for some creative revenge ideas, the more epic the better.
**Back story**: I live and work in South Korea. Due to ridiculous cellphone texting capabilities, anyone in Korea is able to send text messages under the guise of someone else and have it show up as that other person (i.e.: you send a text to your boss from someone else's phone saying you quit.... internal corporate shit-storm ensues.... you get the idea.) Someone somewhere thought that this was a good option to have on all Korean cellphones in the country.
***The REAL story***: This past Sunday morning finds me waking up to a text message from a cute girl at work I am currently seeing. It reads: "im sorry, but i think you should get tested for herpes. ive got it." The next few minutes sorta pass by in a haze as I frantically search the internet for clinics, hospitals and centers that will be able to test me (btw, hard to find an open clinic on a Sunday in Korea.)
Eventually I calm down, take a hot shower, and sort of reevaluate my life with my new "herpy derp." I decide to text the cute girl who sent me the message. Maybe she can shed some light. I write: "thnx for the info. where can I get checked out?" Not five minutes pass when she responds with "???". Reddit, I've never been more happy to see three question marks in my life.
Now I call the cute girl, we talk for a few minutes about how she didn't send it to me, and my brain realizes you can send fake text messages. I immediately suspect a fat bitch at work. In fact we both suspect fat bitch as our number one suspect. Today is Thursday (in South Korea) and we just got back from the SK office and we have proof undeniable that it was the fat bitch.
So reddit, I ask for creative ways to seek my revenge. I'm also asking on the part of cute girl, so two part-players in this revenge story would be even more sweet.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | got a fake text saying I had herpes, discovered it was fake and, found out who sent it... seeking REVENGE! | got a fake text saying I had herpes, discovered it was fake and, found out who sent it... seeking REVENGE! | 5,007 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] of 2 years, issues after moving in together.
POST: So me and my boyfriend have been living together for about 4 months. We live with my daughter and we are both employed full time.
He is a good person and I love him, he gets along well with my 5 year old daughter. He is hard working, driven, and independent which are traits I value in a person.
I'll get straight to the point and say we have had problems ever since moving in together. It started out as what I viewed as strange quirks and now his behavior has actually started offending me.
I moved in to his home so naturally all of his things were here. I barely brought anything from my parents house. I brought one picture I wanted to hang and he was so weird about it. He said he didn't like the picture so it just sat on the floor for a couple months until I finally just hung it up. I just feel so uncomfortable/unwelcome in what is supposed to be my home.
I cook, clean, and do all the grocery shopping/meal planning, most of the laundry and I pay half (I don't think he has cleaned the bathroom once since I've been here) on top of taking care of my daughter and working a full time job. If I don't do it the mess just stays there. I've told him about this, he says he will do it and help out but doesn't deliver.
He constantly wants to hang out with friends. We will go on a "date" and then almost immediately after he wants to make plans with friends. He invites me but sometimes it just gets old. I would like to hang out with him alone for a night for once but he always has to be drinking and getting rowdy. I've addressed this issue and he just says he doesn't want to do those things. I'm adventurous and like to explore and try new things sometimes that don't involve drinking and he is just so negative towards my ideas and doesn't help to make them happen.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend is very aloof about relationship. He's not great but he's not terrible either./ Is it worth it to stay? I have all the bad things that come along with living with a partner but none of the perks. | Boyfriend is very aloof about relationship. He's not great but he's not terrible either./ Is it worth it to stay? I have all the bad things that come along with living with a partner but none of the perks. | 1,754 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [M17] I saw my GF's Sister (24) full making out with a man Not her fiancee at my work. I'm confused what to do?
POST: I work at a coffee shop and I saw my girlfriend's sister full on making out with this guy. They were all over each other. We were really busy and I never would have noticed them except that my co-workers pointed them out cause they were all "they need a room, this is a coffee shop." I immediately recognized her and she's supposed to get married in July to another guy.
They could not see me. I didn't want to get involved. But after they left I came out to clean some tables thinking the coast was clear. She came back in for something. I think to use the restroom, or she forgot something. She saw me and flipped and started begging me to tell her what I saw. I said I didn't see anything but she somehow knew.
She left but told me that we weren't "done" and that we had to talk. I just got home and my girlfriend texted me asking me what's going on with me and her sister. I don't know what she told her but I said I don't know. She keeps texting me that her sister is upset and that I should come over. Not to sound like a little kid but I'm not allowed to leave the house at this time. I texted her that my parents won't let me go there. She said they will drive to my house if I sneak out to meet them. I said that would be hard. She said Please!
What can I do? What should I do? I'm a little freaked out right now.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I saw my GF's sister cheating on her fiancee. Now my girlfriend and her sister want to meet me. Not sure how to handle this. | I saw my GF's sister cheating on her fiancee. Now my girlfriend and her sister want to meet me. Not sure how to handle this. | 4,936 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28M] met a girl [20F] who has a baby. She wants to bring her baby to our first date. Not sure how I feel about it.
POST: So I met her over the Halloween weekend, she's a friend of a friend of mine. We got along well and she didn't hide the fact that she has a kid (1 year old) despite being so young. I got her number and we agreed to meet up and go out on a date sometime. Cool. Now I asked her yesterday when she's available, she said thursday but she has to bring her baby.
Now I'm not sure how I feel about this. If I was in her situation, I wouldnt want to expose my baby to a random date I would go on and sorta "check" the guy first. To be honest I dont know how about this whole baby thing. I really like her, but I'm not sure if I could handle the baby situation if we would take this any further.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Met a girl who has a kid, asked her out on a date and she already wants to bring her baby along. Not sure how I feel about this. | Met a girl who has a kid, asked her out on a date and she already wants to bring her baby along. Not sure how I feel about this. | 2,748 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: (Moral Question) Should I include my 1/8-1/16 Cherokee heritage on college and scholarship forms?
POST: I feel extremely conflicted. I know that some scholarships don't even require that much heritage in order to give some money or take some cost off of tuition, but I don't know whether I would be taking money away from people who are legitimately oppressed or have experienced negative things because of their heritage. My family is asking me to find as much money for college as I can (I have a job, my mom is on disability with a muscular disease, and my dad doesn't want to support me in the way he should attempt), but I'm in constant worry that I won't have enough money to get a start even with scholarships. However, I am still conflicted about putting this on forms, as I don't want to hurt people in different situations. Please help, reddit.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am primarily white in heritage, but have enough Cherokee heritage to qualify for some scholarships, but don't want to harm people in worse situations | I am primarily white in heritage, but have enough Cherokee heritage to qualify for some scholarships, but don't want to harm people in worse situations | 3,000 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girlfriend said she doesn't want to be exclusive, but begins treating me exclusively. Wat do?
POST: Alright, so, **I've known this girl for about 3 and 1/2 years.** **I'm 21, she's 20,** both at the same college that we commute to, and live about 15 minutes away from each other. We went on dates on and off casually over time, and then **recently we made it official.** We are very natural together and are very easygoing with each other as a part of that. A couple weeks ago we had "the talk" and she said **she didn't want to be exclusive with me.** I said I was fine with that and she seemed pleased. Over the next few weeks though, **she began treating me more and more exclusively**, intentionally calling me her boyfriend, her other half, etc. We compliment each other very well, she enjoys my family, we have similar life goals, etc.
She has plenty of other guy friends and I respect her and have no problem with that, I'm not overbearing or trying to control with whom she can or can't spend time. (She's not one to be pressured into things.) We've spent time together with her and her other friends and **I've had time to witness how she interacts with these other guy friends, definitely not the same way she treats me.**
Then, **last Saturday things got a bit steamy,** if you know what I mean, and we ended up sharing our first kiss. After this, however, we had a dead time (just small communication), and didn't spend time together until today (A week later). It went alright and she assured me that things were still great between us, she just needed a little time after so many emotions. She held me close and looked me straight in the eyes as she told me this, as well as gave me a reassuring squeeze. (This is the kind of assurance I'm talking about.)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | get in relationship with girl, she asks not to be exclusive, but treats me exclusively most of the time. Not sure what to do! | get in relationship with girl, she asks not to be exclusive, but treats me exclusively most of the time. Not sure what to do! | 5,664 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I think my boss is stealing tips from me at work... What should I do, Reddit?
POST: So I work at a small pizza shop on a college campus as an assistant manager. Yesterday was gameday (our biggest days sales wise) and I opened the shop at 9 as usual, left at 2, and then came back at 5 to work until 9 again. Now when I left at 2 there was $4 in the tip jar (I think no big deal, I'll just grab that at the end of the night), however, once the end of my night shift came and went, I had forgotten to grab my tips. So I text the GM to put all my tips from my shifts into an envelope so I can get it this morning when I came into work. He said he would do that, but when I got here today there was only $4 in the tip jar (no envelope). Obviously I was pissed. The store was packed pretty much all night, so there's no way that there were no tips from 2 to 9. To futher my case, I checked the numbers from last night and found that the GM fudged the numbers. We came out $45 over what we should have had (basically the tips on credit cards that hadn't been pulled that night due to how busy we were). The GM wrote down that the books came out even, when I really think he took the tips I worked my ass off for... So Reddit, how should I confront this situation? Has anybody else faced a situation like this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | found evidence of my boss taking my tips at work. I work too hard for bullshit like this. Any advice, reddit? | found evidence of my boss taking my tips at work. I work too hard for bullshit like this. Any advice, reddit? | 5,901 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Co worker relationship [25/m] my girlfriend [24/f] my coworker [30/f]
POST: Hello all! Just a quick heads up this is a throw away for obvious reasons. Basically I want/need to talk about this situation I been having at work. Here is the back story. I currently live with my girlfriend we been together for about 3 years and been living with each other for the last 1.5. We moved in together to deal with the high rent of living in a big city. Things with us are overall great but we just don't have sex enough. I tired having many open talks about this but it seems to never change. It's frustrating and getting to the point where I question our relationship. So I been dealing with these personal issues but then something came up at work. This coworker of mine and I have recently developed this weird relationship where we talk dirty to each other. It started off small but has gotten very graphic over the last few weeks. We text each other every day during work about all types of things but never after work. She also has a boyfriend that she lives with. We have certain rules like: we will never have physical contact and like previously stated, no contact after work. It is only just talking but it gets us off because we shouldn't be doing it. Now it's getting to the point where I don't know where to turn. Should I dump my girlfriend whom I live with to find someone more sexually active. Or should I stay with her and keep this type of innocent/ naughty conversations on the side. I never dealt with something like this and it's really getting to me. Any input will help .
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have a girlfriend I live with who doesn't put out and j have a horny coworker who talks dirty to me | I have a girlfriend I live with who doesn't put out and j have a horny coworker who talks dirty to me | 2,030 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: (CAN) How screwed am I?
POST: So back in April I financed a new car, spent roughly 40k on it and what not. Come into May and I lost my job, and now I have no way to afford the payments that I have. The day after I lost my job I contacted my bank and told them the situation and what not.
Fast forward to today, still jobless, I've only been able to pay them a few hundred towards the growing debt (roughly $2000 IIRC), but I look outside and my car is gone. Both sets of keys are here with me in my house, I have an alarm system on my car so I know it wasn't stolen and judging by the stack of letters from them saying action will be taken I assume it has been repo'd.
I live in Alberta, and I guess I'm asking what there is to do in my situation.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Bought a car, got laid off, couldn't afford payments, car got repo'd. Looking for advice on what I can do from here, or rather what I should do. | Bought a car, got laid off, couldn't afford payments, car got repo'd. Looking for advice on what I can do from here, or rather what I should do. | 4,779 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I, [28M] with my girlfriend [23F], have been together for six years, I don't know where to go with this relationship.
POST: We've been together for years, we have lived together for the past 15 months.
I went round a mates house a few nights back and was hanging out with a few people, lots of drinking and there was a girl there [30F] who tried to get things going with me.
I told her I had a girlfriend and nothing happened, in the end I put her in a bed upstairs, she asked that I sleep in the bed with her and she assured nothing would happen. I said no and went downstairs and fell asleep on the sofa.
That was two days ago and I haven't stopped thinking about her, I'm in a bind, was this just a drunken evening thing with no real substance to it? I didn't do the whole go out and sleep around thing when I was younger, I've only slept with three women all of which were when I was in a relationship with that woman.
The excitement of the other night I felt was really good and it may be even more so because my current relationship is kind of stagnant, we don't really have much sexual contact.
The other part of the relationship I am in is that I can't really plan my future because my girlfriend says that she doesn't know if she wants to get married or wants to have kids because she is too young to think about it. I know my stand point on these two things and I don't want to be wasting my time if this relationship isn't leading anywhere.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Should I try and move on from my current girlfriend, maybe play the field a bit and try to find someone who wants the same as I do rather than wait a few years to find out? | Should I try and move on from my current girlfriend, maybe play the field a bit and try to find someone who wants the same as I do rather than wait a few years to find out? | 2,726 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] with my Ex [20 F] together for 7 months, I believe she has BPD
POST: I believe my ex has BPD. She matched much of the criteria on various sources I researched. She would always lash out but then regret it later. I felt like I was walking on egg shells around her. She always felt like I had abandoned her. One moment everything is fine, next moment she might be packing her bags and leaving my place.
I was always so afraid to commit myself fully to her because I noticed her BPD tendencies really early on. Obviously, I didn't really know what I was experiencing. I very likely didn't handle things the right way.
There was no telling how unpredictable her reactions would be. She would always feel abandoned by me. Obviously there were lots of different cases of this happening, but there is one that definitely stands out. This one hurt me the most. She had been drinking a lot one night with her friends and I told her I was going to bed. I genuinely just wanted to sleep; it was late. She ofcourse took it the wrong way and got upset, thinking that I was mad at her. She sent me lots of texts immediately expressing anger.
That night, she cheated on me with a guy she met down town. She told me the next day. Her reasoning was that she felt like she was losing me and that this was the only way she could address her feelings. She said she had been "falling hard" for me and didn't know how to control her feelings. I forgave her. I continued to stay with her for another 4 months.
I broke up with her last month. I have been dealing with regret because I essentially quit on her. I feel like I did the best thing for myself and her own growth. However, I still wonder if it could've been handled, if things could improve. Lord knows the good times were great.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | After further research, I believe my ex has BPD, she matched an overwhelming amount of the criteria; broke up with her a month ago. Should I move on or is this something that we can work things out on? | After further research, I believe my ex has BPD, she matched an overwhelming amount of the criteria; broke up with her a month ago. Should I move on or is this something that we can work things out on? | 3,931 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by making a short NSFW video in my landlord's kitchen.
POST: School is almost over . . . So very close to freedom. I should be studying, that would be the responsible thing to do seeing as I have an exam tomorrow morning at 8:30, but . . .
Naturally, I decide to make a short "sexy video" for my boyfriend who I won't be seeing for a week (only a week, I know). My landlord is out of the country for 2 weeks, my roommates have class until 3:30 and the only one who will know my shame is the poor dog, who is now currently laying on the couch with her big brown eyes looking at me, saying "you dun fucked up."
So I decide to do a few takes of this recording where I pull my yoga pants down and then pull them back up slowly, thus accentuating my ass.
I'm on take 3, playing around with how low I should pull my pants, when suddenly my landlord's granddaughter (age 5) comes running through the front door (the house is open-concept, so you can see the kitchen if you take even two steps into the house). I fumble while pulling up my pants, but I'm too slow. The young girl is scarred for life.
She yells "look Mommy, a bum!!" but by then I have my pants pulled up. I think quickly, and say to the Mom when she comes in: "Oh, sorry, I was watching a music video and couldn't close YouTube in time! It has an explicit scene or two."
Thankfully she laughed it off, but I fear her daughter will be traumatized.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | assumed I'd be home alone all day, made a video which included my bare ass exposed, landlord's granddaughter ran in the house and caught me. | assumed I'd be home alone all day, made a video which included my bare ass exposed, landlord's granddaughter ran in the house and caught me. | 5,805 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [15F] friends [14-16F] and parents [43M, 40F] constantly diss me for my looks
POST: So, sorry if this sounds kind of superficial but it really bothers me at the moment. Changed some names as well for privacy reasons.
I'm a fairly average 15 year old in terms of looks, awkwardly shaped, a few spots here and there, features are a little off, whatever. My friends, on the other hand, are legitimately gorgeous, long hair, even skin tone, nice bodies etc. My parents and brother are also quite good looking themselves (for context, my father is Indian, my mother is Irish/Spanish). Which is great, I'm happy for them and that's not what bothers me.
What bothers is me is that they take every chance that they get to bring me down when it comes to my appearance. On Valentine's day, my friend, Anna, was bitching about how no one in our group received a rose and the gist of what she said was basically, "I mean, Kylie's face is gorgeous, Olivia has a hot body, I can be a solid 7 if I tried. But I guess with you, I can understand."
Anna also bitched about the fact that I have been asked out by guys a few times, while she has not, "I mean, you're not even attractive, lets be real."
That hurts like hell, but they're teens, I can understand. But my parents are like that as well.
I'm quite self conscious about my weight and proportions and my parents are very aware of that. I am quite underweight at <50kg and 168 cm. But my parents take every opportunity they can to prod at my stomach, make comments like, "Oh, you're gaining weight." etc. These comments have actually driven me to a mild eating disorder which I hate with all my heart.
They also love to point out my pimples and "butch" haircut (I do have a pixie cut) and overall teenage weirdness.
I'm really bitter about it and it would be great if you guys could give me some tips on how to confront them. Thank you so much in advance.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | People around me constantly make negative comments about my appearance. Getting sick of it, please offer suggestions on how to confront. | People around me constantly make negative comments about my appearance. Getting sick of it, please offer suggestions on how to confront. | 6,433 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28 F] with my ex [26 F] duration 5.5 years, Using same accounts and still following activity!
POST: Hello Reddit World!
After dating for five years and six months then being broken up for the past three months we still use the same Starbucks and Costco account.
Whenever one of us buys coffee the other person gets a notification on our iPhone. Well as of last Wednesday I quit texting and replying to her messages because I hate to be the one waiting. In the meantime I go to Starbucks and study.
This has been our text log since Wednesday:
Weds: I get a retake but idk [her], Thursday: Hi [her], Sunday: Who do u always buy coffee for on the bux card? Just saying [her].
I know I need to stop using the Starbucks app but after five years I feel like it be difficult to cut out of my life.
What do you think?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | After dating for five years and six months then being broken up for the past three months we still use the same Starbucks and Costco account. | After dating for five years and six months then being broken up for the past three months we still use the same Starbucks and Costco account. | 5,905 |
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