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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [19/m] Met an amazing girl [20/f] on study abroad who is too good for me, but I don't know how to keep her
POST: So this summer I spent 5 weeks in a traveling classroom with 23 amazing people. I met this one girl on the trip and we spent all 5 weeks always hanging out. We kissed in our second week in Berlin, but never really went from their. It was mostly looking into each other eyes and making jokes with each other.
I didn't tell her how much I liked her until the last day in which we spent the closest together after she told me she liked me just as much, which I was shocked by. We ended up drinking and getting drunk and fighting and she was telling me I wouldn't want to date her because she can never love, which I have heard before.
I am usually anti-social wanting alone time, but every time I went to go for a walk alone, I asked her to come with and she did. We spent 2 1/2 hours walking back from the Eiffel tower, to getting lost in a small town in Italy. Every minute was amazing. Now we are back, we go to the same school but she lives 8 hours away, I don't know what I can do to make sure stays with me. She is amazing, and I just love talking to her but I don't know if she enjoys me just as much. We spent almost everyday next to each other. From sitting on a train for 5 hours, to getting stuck in a train station and falling asleep on each other for 4 hours.
The other problem I run into is her ex. While we were in Europe, she was talking to him and stuff and I think she still likes him.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Met an awesome girl who is too good for me, I like her a lot, but now we are back, we are falling apart and I don't know how to keep her while we wait for the fall semester. | Met an awesome girl who is too good for me, I like her a lot, but now we are back, we are falling apart and I don't know how to keep her while we wait for the fall semester. | 3,515 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My coworkers do not ask me[f21] to go to lunch with them
POST: I am a 21 year old female programmer intern at a very small company. This is my second time working here after interning in a previous semester. I get along well with a majority of my coworkers but I'm timid and I dont know how to say "Can I go to lunch with you guys?" When a group of them leaves to get food together. Every day one of the guys who started working here while I was gone comes in and asks a few of the guys to come to lunch with him. But no one ever asks me if I'd like to join.
There are also 2 other interns. One of them makes it very clear, indirectly, he has no desire to interact with me socially (He was here last time). The other one is new and I havent said more than 10 words to him since we started, but I would like to try to be more social with my coworkers by going out to lunch with them and I dont know how to approach this situation without coming off needy or something?
sorry if this is the wrong place; direct me to the right subreddit if there is a better one?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am too timid and scared of being rejected to show my coworkers I want to go to lunch with them when they go together; they do not ask me if I want to come. | I am too timid and scared of being rejected to show my coworkers I want to go to lunch with them when they go together; they do not ask me if I want to come. | 149 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: M[16] Just started dating F[17]and I'm stupidly worried, but I need a bit of backup here!
POST: Right, don't want to waste a lot of peoples time, so I'll be brief.
I found out the girl I've been hopelessly flirting with for the past few weeks is into me, so I asked her to go out to the city on Saturday, we went, it was awkward but I thought it went well, we went on Saturday because she had a driving lesson on Sunday during the day. She said it was smack dab in the middle of the day and would kill her entire day. After our day out she tells me she's going to bed early so she's awake for her lesson... at 10AM. I was a little suspicious but never brought up anything to her, I texted her asking her how she got on a few hours ago, but she hasn't replied. Why wouldn't she say she's doing anything? Is she trying to hide something? I know I'm being paranoid, give me a break, but I'm new to this and I want to know if I should just let it slide. This is the first day we haven't talked in about 3 weeks. Can someone give me a bit of clearance?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl I'm seeing hasn't replied all day after our first day out together. Is it ok to be a bit paranoid? | Girl I'm seeing hasn't replied all day after our first day out together. Is it ok to be a bit paranoid? | 5,795 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [21 M] Got broken up with by my SO [20 F] of over a year less than a month ago, feeling pretty depressed and could use some people to talk to...
POST: I was broken up with by my girlfriend of over a year a little less than a month ago. We really, really bonded over the time we were dating. She went from having some serious emotional walls to being open, loving, relaxed, and supportive. She made me feel special, attractive, and important in the kind of ways I've so often had trouble with. She really made me take a better look at myself, and realize what a worthwhile, strong, successful person I can be. We connected on a really wonderful, intimate level.
We actually spent a lot of time talking about pretty serious long term plans. She always wanted to see NYC, and over last summer, I got to be with her when we visited. It was a fantastic trip, and a fantastic time. We'd talked about spending some time living in New York. We talked about getting married, about a family. Silly shit, being college kids and all, but stuff that felt... earnest. I've had relationships before, and for the first time, I really, really felt like I could spend the rest of my life with her.
She broke up with me, not over any issue, not because something happened, she just... 'lost that spark', and had a hard time feeling like she loved me properly. She wanted to be honest, and be fair to me. She said I hadn't done anything wrong, that I'd been a wonderful boyfriend, and that she was afraid because she didn't want to ruin such a close bond. We've since been trying to be friends, we hung out a bit, played basketball, grabbed dinner. Tried making new habits to counterbalance the things we weren't doing anymore. Things have been hard because, as of a few weeks ago, she left school to return home due to some outside influences. We haven't really talked like we used to. She's started seeing a good friend of hers back home.
My friends are all doing their own thing right now. Watching shows, going out or whatever. Nobody is really around. And here I am, feeling like I lost one of the closest friends I had, and I don't know what to do...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Got broken up with, but not for any real negative reason. Ex-girlfriend left college and I'm feeling like I lost a close friend. Just need someone to talk to... | Got broken up with, but not for any real negative reason. Ex-girlfriend left college and I'm feeling like I lost a close friend. Just need someone to talk to... | 6,368 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by telling two well dressed guys they look sharp
POST: OK, so I worked at a British supermarket for a few months stacking shelves and stuff. This one day around Christmas the shop got really busy and I had to go on tills. So I walked down along the long line of tills, looking for a free one, when this guy in front of me let off the loudest trumpet/mini brass brand/one-cheek sneak. I sat down at my till, and that guy was at the back of the queue on the next till. No way I was calling him over, so I pretended do fiddle around with something, waiting for someone to come over who I wouldn't have an awkward transaction with. Finally, these cool looking guys dressed in black — probably father and son — came over and started loading the conveyor belt. I mean, they were seriously r/oldschoolcool cool. I thought I'd have some banter with them, so I opened with the first ^^^stupid ^^^stupid ^^^stupid thing that came into my mind: "you guys are looking sharp, are you going out somewhere?". The son turned his head away and the father mumbled something. Completely oblivious to what he was about to say I smiled and said "pardon?" He repeated: "we're at a funeral". ^"oh ^sorry". Of course they fucking were, they were fucking wearing all-fucking-black. I looked dead ahead for the rest of the ordeal. Before they left the dad said "have a good day". WTF am I supposed to say to that? You too?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | These cool looking guys came to my till at a supermarket. I told them they looked cool and asked them if they were going somewhere. They were going to a funeral. A little part of my soul died. | These cool looking guys came to my till at a supermarket. I told them they looked cool and asked them if they were going somewhere. They were going to a funeral. A little part of my soul died. | 286 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How illegal is it to use a cover of the original song, most likely copyrighted, in an amateur interactive game distributed for free.
POST: I'm not too familiar with in-depth copyright laws so I get nervous when I see a strike or cease and desist on Youtube and such.
Right now, I'm making a free choose-your-own-adventure game and I'm not a music composer. I find it super hard to ask someone to compose a whole soundtrack for me for free. So I managed to find a few sites that offer free music, but sometimes it's not enough. I really like a couple of Youtube users' covers on popular songs, both of English and Japanese language, but I'm aware that cease-and-desist or maybe lawsuit could occur from the companies that hold the rights to the original songs.
For example, I like [this] to be one of the endings' theme song and would like to ask the cover artist's permission, but I'm afraid of having to take down the entire game because the company holding copyright will order a cease-and-desist. I mean I could find substitution for those songs targeted as infringement, but it would be less than what I envisioned.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Need further clarity as to how risky it is to use Youtube covers of copyrighted songs even if granted permission by the cover artist. | Need further clarity as to how risky it is to use Youtube covers of copyrighted songs even if granted permission by the cover artist. | 3,406 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Why can't I (22 F) get over my jealousy I have over my boyfriend's (27 M) ex/mother of his son?
POST: God, I feel like I'm ruining my relationship, over fucking Facebook likes. I'm more upset at myself than him over this, but I don't know how to stop this vicious cycle I've put myself in.
A little background... we've been together a total of three years with two breaks in between. I'd rather not go into detail about those because I don't feel it's relevant. He assures me they didn't hook up and I believe him and trust him. I honestly have no reason not to. It's her I don't trust.
She's absolutely gorgeous and the mother of his child. She's also half Japanese, and of course he has a thing for Asian women. How am I supposed to compete with that? I have no confidence, I never had. I don't know how to do that.
I don't trust her because she tried to get him to kiss her while we were together. Nothing happened, and he was mad that she tried that. Also, their relationship ended because she cheated on him, after a 7 year relationship and a baby at home... with his own brother.
He tells me I'm beautiful and that he loves me everyday. He is singlehandedly supporting both of us while I wait to get back into school. He spent tons of money and time moving me in, across the state. I see the way he looks at me, and he tells me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me.
So what do I do? I get mad over stupid fucking facebook likes. He has like dtwo of her photos in the last couple weeks. I get upset because I feel like i can't compare to her, he gets mad at me for getting jealous, I feel worse cause he's mad, my confidence drops, etc. It turns into the dumb cycle. I don't know how to stop. It's a fucking button on a website. It literally means nothing. Why am I tearing myself up over it?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm getting jealous over my boyfriend "liking" his ex's facebook pics. It's dumb and i want to not be upset by it. Help? :( | I'm getting jealous over my boyfriend "liking" his ex's facebook pics. It's dumb and i want to not be upset by it. Help? :( | 3,939 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: A serious question about what could be in heaven, and how we might make the world better.
POST: So when I consider the concept of heaven, as described in nearly every religious doctrine, I think of an endless expanse where the human soul of every living person resides in peace and happiness.
And we can say with certainty that the soul is something other than our body, as it's what drives us but supposedly leaves our body upon death. From this we can reason that the soul has no mass and is able to fit inside any space an infinite number of times.
With the physical logistics covered, now I ask- what would it be like in heaven? We can speculate a thousand different outcomes but what is the common theme across every religious text? It's Good.
Personally when I think of good I think of everyone benefiting each other and no one is hurting and everyone can live and grow in peace. Yet somehow people consider others' actions, that don't directly effect them negatively, are the cause for non-related tragedies. At this point I'm speaking specifically about the extreme Christians' stance on homosexuality. And it's when people consider themselves harmed in any way it's natural that they'll fight back, and so we see blow-back in the middle east and prejudice in the US (unfortunately this is by much more superstitious people that convinced themselves gays hurt others because of personal identification in the same way they can cure cancer through inaction [prayer]). Clearly there are other examples in racial prejudice in the same way and I'm not going to claim expertise in foreign affairs if someone better informed would like to comment. But to me the world would be more like heaven if everyone understood and accepted others' lives for all they're worth, not even that everyone should donate their time and money but at least not force themselves on others in any way.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Would it be better to live to get into heaven, or bring heaven onto earth and live there? And how can we do it? | Would it be better to live to get into heaven, or bring heaven onto earth and live there? And how can we do it? | 3,253 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (M/19) think that my SO (F/19) is having an emotional affair with me. Am I overreacting and being unreasonable, or should I be worried?
POST: We're both in college and during the school year, we hang out all the time. However, we live in different cities and during the summer, the amount of time we spend together gets cut down significantly.
She has guy friends which I don't mind, but she recently met someone from her co-ed sports team and after knowing him for less than two months, I'm a bit worried of how their friendship has progressed. For example, they talk and text to each other every day, talk about their sex lives and other explicit information, their emotions, and other things as well. They make plans to always meet up and work out together, but after they work out, they usually go and get something to eat and they've even seen a movie together at one point.
I've already addressed this to my SO once before that it was making me uncomfortable, but despite that, she continued to talk to this guy and hung out with him one-on-one still. At one point when I was with her, I caught a glimpse of one of her texts saying to him how she was "disappointed" that she couldn't work out with him and see him that day when I was supposed to be hanging out with her that day. The second time I talked to her about this, she admitted to liking him a little bit, but would stop talking to him if I wanted her to. Not wanting to be overbearing and possessive, I'm not going to force her to stop talking to him, but it still irks me a lot. But she did seem to realize that what she did was wrong and she would try to fix it.
And I mean, the guy is moving halfway across the country to go back to school next week, so they're not going to be hanging out anymore. That's not the point though, the fact that she still showed interest in him by the way she talks to him and how they always hung out makes me want to end the relationship, but I'm not sure if that's the emotional side of me saying it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My SO has been talking to a guy a lot, am I being unreasonable in being annoyed at that? Should I break it off? | My SO has been talking to a guy a lot, am I being unreasonable in being annoyed at that? Should I break it off? | 4,307 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Why do people find other's injury's funny?
POST: Is their any physiological explanation as to why people find it amusing? Or is it maybe I am missing something?
Example: I was watching Tosh.0 (only thing on) at my friends house and their was a video of a guy falling out of a tree probably around 30 feet. He then proceeds to cry out in pain, while his stupid friend asks him "Dude, are you OK?" (albeit that part I did find funny). My friend found this video immensely amusing, while I just cringed and basically got angry as to people laughing at this life threatening accident. We get into a heated argument about why that is funny, and basically his whole argument revolved around the guy was videotaping himself climb a tree, he fell, that's funny cause he is stupid.
Please help me understand why some people find this humorous?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Tosh.0 clip, guy gets hurt, friend finds it funny, I don't know why someone would find it funny. | Tosh.0 clip, guy gets hurt, friend finds it funny, I don't know why someone would find it funny. | 529 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [F/23] broke up with my boyfriend [M/24]. Now I've started kind of dating someone else [M/22], but how soon is too soon?
POST: How soon is too soon?
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I [F/23] was dating my boyfriend [M/24] for about three years. We broke up about three weeks ago. Before we broke up (at a time where I had already decided that it was going to happen), I had mentioned to my best guy friend [M/22] that I had often considered us dating but regretted saying anything and we didn't bring it up again.
Fast forward to a week ago, we went out with some friends, got drunk and hooked up. This week we've been hanging out a lot, and it's gone from "I definitely want to be single for a while" to "I don't want to pass this up." He's admitted to feeling the same way.
The thing is, my ex is a great guy. It really just wasn't in the cards at all, and I still care for him as a person. We had different life goals and passions, and I could feel myself slowly becoming resentful towards him because I often felt held back doing things that he would not want to do.
Obviously I want to take the actual dating part very slowly, but what is the minimum amount of time I should take? Especially as I'm still close friends with some of my ex's friends as well and I still care for him as a person? I feel completely moved on from him and it feels as though it was months ago already but I know it's very different for him and I feel terrible for causing him any pain to begin with.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Broke up with boyfriend of three years, three weeks later moved on and basically with my best guy friend. How soon is too soon to "go public" or really start taking dating each other seriously? | Broke up with boyfriend of three years, three weeks later moved on and basically with my best guy friend. How soon is too soon to "go public" or really start taking dating each other seriously? | 5,392 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Do I have the right to feel resentful because my girlfriend [18F] chose her friend over me me [19M] during the basketball game?
POST: Been with my girlfriend for a month. I asked her to come to the semi final basketball game at school (university) and she didn't even know that it was happening. She said yes and said would come after she wrote her midterm so since she heard from me first, it's wouldn't be unreasonable to assume she'd sit with me.
She finished her midterm and by the time she was done, the half time approached. No problem, her midterm comes first. However, I put my sweater on the seat beside me to save it for her, and it did make me look sort of selfish considering the gym was packed and that every seat was needed for this attendance.
She texted me and said that one of her friends was coming. Now I didn't have a problem with that because for the sake of her friend, coming out for a game and being involved is awesome. I only saved one seat though so eventually that friend would have to bug off or at least be close but she wouldn't be able to sit beside us. I understand that my girlfriend wouldn't want to leave her friend alone while she stayed with me, but my gf chose to accompany her rather than me. I was hurt to say the least because I saved that seat, invited her exclusively and now she decided she would rather be with her friend rather than me. If I had known that the friend was coming before the midterm, I would've attempted to save two.
Now for the rest of the game, I have my sweater on my seat and I look like an ass for saving it for my girlfriend who wasn't going to sit there. My friend though it was a douche move. What do you Redditors think? What should I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I exclusively invite my girlfriend to basketball game. Before the basketball game, her friend decides to come and she chooses to sit with friend instead of me. I have a feeling she's not putting in the effort. | I exclusively invite my girlfriend to basketball game. Before the basketball game, her friend decides to come and she chooses to sit with friend instead of me. I have a feeling she's not putting in the effort. | 6,268 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Discouraged applying for jobs after being laid off. How do I get re-motivated to do anything?
POST: In June of 2015 I was laid off from my job. I was lucky enough to be paid out through the end of August and collected unemployment thereafter. Unfortunately, prior to being laid off I had a lot of medical issues (2 endoscopies, an ambulance ride, and a colonoscopy) so needless to say the lay off was really bad timing.
Now I'm totally drowning in debt, and feeling defeated. I've applied for so many jobs had a bunch that went to 3rd and 4th interviews, but nothing has amounted to anything. It's been almost a year since I've had a job and I have a hard time doing anything productive every day now. I just look at my computer and freeze up.
I am lucky enough to have a very supportive girlfriend and parents who are helping me how they can. Even with amazing support, I feel depressed, defeated, and as low as I've every felt.
How do people find the motivation to keep at it after so much failure and financial stress? I'm really reach for any sort of guidance I can get now because I'm completely lost.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Laid off almost a year ago, up to my ears in debt, and trying to figure out how to get motivated every day to do anything productive and find a job. | Laid off almost a year ago, up to my ears in debt, and trying to figure out how to get motivated every day to do anything productive and find a job. | 1,659 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Cat won't stop chewing on her tail! HELP!!
POST: My sweet sweet 1 year old Female Orange Tabby has developed this unfortunate habit of chasing her tail and chewing it up. And there is blood EVERYWHERE. We took her to the vet, they gave her antibiotics, put on an e-collar, gave us Composure chews and sent us our way after a $300 bill for the check up, an x-ray (to check if her tail is broken - it wasn't), and all the medication and treats.
But that was a month ago. Now my baby has an e-collar on day in and day out. I try to take it off when I'm home and supervising but it's still on for the majority of the time. I've tried 'weaning' her off the collar but anytime I've left her unsupervised without the collar I come back to the same scene of blood everywhere. To add to this, the e-collar has given her a nasty case of blackheads under her chin.
I don't know what to do! I can't afford to keep going to the vet for expensive tests and they don't seem to be taking the bull by the horns either. The mentioned starting her on anti-anxiety medication or something for OCD. Is this my only option at this point?
Has anyone else had a similar experience? What did you do?
Also, what do I do about the acne?
Please help, I can't keep watching my sweet girl suffer through all these health issues, it's absolutely breaking my heart because she is truly special and wonderful and I love her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My cat won't stop biting her tail into a bloody mess, and the e-collar we've had to put on her for the last month is giving her acne and is not a long term solution. Please advise. | My cat won't stop biting her tail into a bloody mess, and the e-collar we've had to put on her for the last month is giving her acne and is not a long term solution. Please advise. | 5,159 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Angry people of Reddit, have you ever destroyed, mysteriously disappeared or given away for free some of your SO favorite stuff out of anger?
POST: Last night i went to Walmart to buy my niece a present, on the way out, as I'm walking to my truck i see a giant imperial AT-AT toy (Star Wars fans will know what I'm talking about) along with various other toys, all from Star Wars, disassembled in a shopping cart. As soon as i saw them i walked directly towards the cart, when the parking lot attendant asked me if i wanted to take them, that Some lady took them out of her car, said her husband doesn't need them anymore, all you need to do is put them together. The loot is well worth over 400$ US of Hasbro toys.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | last night i found in a parking lot over 400$ US worth of Star Wars toys a lady wanted to get rid of because her husband didn't need them anymore. | last night i found in a parking lot over 400$ US worth of Star Wars toys a lady wanted to get rid of because her husband didn't need them anymore. | 1,142 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I feel completely helpless! I need advice.
POST: This is a little somber but I am really at a loss here. This is about my Mother. My Mother has helped me and several other people during some really dark times. My Mother is the kind of person that would help anyone in need if was within her means and maybe even when it's not. I call her when I am going through my own crap in life and she's there as a positive light that gets me through it.
We have all heard the saying the bad things happen to good people but my Mother does not deserve this. In the last 3 years she has dealt with the loss of her young niece (my cousin), an ugly divorce from my Father, an abusive evil manipulating asshole ex that practically took her money and house along with ruining her credit and the serious sickness of her Father (my Grandfather). She is raising my youngest brother alone. All her children, including me are spread out hundreds of miles away from each other. She loves us more than anything; she tells us almost on a daily basis.
Out of all the mess in her life, she did find someone that loved her and took care of her. This was her boyfriend who from what I can tell she's in love with. They have been dating for about 3 years now. He passed away last night very unexpectedly of a heart attack. To say my Mother is devastated is a gross understatement.
Right now my Mother needs me more than ever. Like I said before she is separate from her kids. I live in Texas and she lives in California. I am a 25 year old broke college student. What do I say? How do I comfort her from afar? What can I do? I have never seen her like this (or heard since everything was over the phone). I just don't know what to do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My Mother is like a saint and has gone through dark very times. Had a boyfriend to help cope through those times and he passed away very unexpectedly. We are states apart. How do I comfort her from far away? | My Mother is like a saint and has gone through dark very times. Had a boyfriend to help cope through those times and he passed away very unexpectedly. We are states apart. How do I comfort her from far away? | 2,207 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my Girlfriend [19 F] of 1 month. I think it might be me, but she's acting differently. What gives?
POST: I'll keep this brief, but when I had met my girlfriend we would hang out non stop, text often, etc.. Sadly her grandfather had passed, so we put things on hold for a couple weeks.
Now she's been a pain to text, and to try to hang out with. However there are a few days where she'll text me and ask to hang out. I understand that she doesn't like to text much, but say last night; she invited me out to an even with her family, we had a great time and I had texted her that I did last night, and to thank her family for inviting me. I got nothing back, which means she probably was asleep, so I figured I text her and ask her to hang out today since I know we both didn't have work. Yet, 8 hours later still nothing.
What gives? Sometimes she'll text me a lot, so I'm a bit confused. Should I try not to message her until she messages me?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | New girlfriend sometimes goes days without texting me more than a couple of things, which is a complete change from weeks prior. Haven't hung out as much either.(an hour or two a week) | New girlfriend sometimes goes days without texting me more than a couple of things, which is a complete change from weeks prior. Haven't hung out as much either.(an hour or two a week) | 662 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: Boyfriend and I broke up three years ago and he just told me he's still in love with me.
POST: I dated this guy when I was fifteen, and he's just a few months older than I am. We dated for maybe six or seven months and then he cheated on me, so I broke it off.
We stopped talking completely for a year and a half or so and I was alright, I hadn't gotten too attached to him, so it didn't bother me a whole lot. After that point, he got in touch with me and we would talk (as friends) on and off for the next year.
I stopped talking to him again about six months ago and now he's been texting me everyday for the last week. During one of the conversations we had he told me that he was still in love with me and that he hated himself for what he did. I told him that I was pretty much over it and that he should forgive himself too.
He's told me that the girlfriends he's had since then have all reminded him of me and that he has dreams about still dating me.
I told him straight up that we can be friends, but I wont date him again. The only thing wrong with this is that now I feel like I've obligated myself to talking to him whenever he texts me, which opens me up to more conversations about a relationship that happened a really long time ago. It's just awkward and depressing, I feel like I'm holding him back from being happy.
p.s. When we have conversations over text, he still calls me sweetie, honey ect.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I broke up with a guy, he's still in love with me. I think it's terribly awkward that we still talk. | I broke up with a guy, he's still in love with me. I think it's terribly awkward that we still talk. | 2,908 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Need advice about something I did but can't remember
POST: Maybe a dumb question, but here it goes: I was blackout drunk last Thursday and can't remember anything. However, my roommate told me today that I had come in to her room that night and explained everything that happened and that I was really upset about it. All in all, it sounds like I was just really drunk and making an ass of myself in front of strangers at a bar, but I was alarmed by one thing she said. Apparently I ran from the cops. I had been stumbling outside of a bar (I have no recollection of this) and two officers came over to talk to me. We may or may not have not exchanged words because I may or may not have been kicked out of said bar (again, I have no recollection of this). But at some point I took off running. That I ended up at my house means I got away, but could I still be detained now for something like public drunkenness or resisting arrest if the cops recognize me? I really have no idea how serious the situation was and I'm tempted to call them up, tell them what happened, and if they need me to come down to the station. Should I do this? I live in a small town where I recognize people pretty readily, so I would not at all be surprised if the same cop would be walking the same beat next time I'm downtown.
So yes, totally stupid. I feel really awful about it and just want to come clean with whoever I need to and apologize. It's just that I don't have all the facts and it could be nothing...or it could be more serious. I'm leaning towards not calling because the bar certainly knew who I was (they had my ID and card) and nothing has happened. Then again, I wouldn't want to be stopped later.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I just realized that last week I drunkenly ran from the cops, who I suspect wanted to talk to me regarding my drunkenness, but I'm not sure. Should I call them and find out if they are looking for me? | I just realized that last week I drunkenly ran from the cops, who I suspect wanted to talk to me regarding my drunkenness, but I'm not sure. Should I call them and find out if they are looking for me? | 1,534 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is it possible to buy clothes for a classmate without modifying her? [25F] and [20sF] of 2 months
POST: My classmate is morbidly obese, which isnt anything special. My old flatmate was too, but she dressed beautifually. My classmate though, she wears the same outfit of pj pants and a shirt that causes her stomoch to hang out whenever I see her in weekly lab.
Im not rich nor am I thin. I also give to charity already. When I was kid growing up poor I got a lot of clothes for free from donations. Is it possible for me to do the same for my classmate? If so, how can I do it with tact? Maybe a gift card?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Classmate in ohusics lab dresses really poorly. Is there anyway I can help her out? Her size isnt a limitation to her beauty. | Classmate in ohusics lab dresses really poorly. Is there anyway I can help her out? Her size isnt a limitation to her beauty. | 454 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Are my [21 F] feelings for my boyfriend [22 M] of 3 years normal?
POST: A bit of background -
My boyfriend and I have been together since we graduated from high school. What attracted me the most was his incredible sense of humor and how charming he was. He made me feel very special.
Fast forward 3 years and I feel suffocated 90% of the time. He hates my friends.. I can't catch up with them without being constantly questioned or called 2 times (in the space of up to an hour). He expects me to update him on my every movement (I'm on the bus. I'm getting off the bus. I'm walking to college. I'm in my classroom) and if I don't he'll get very cold and short. I can't connect with male college friends on social media accounts because "I shouldn't have to" etc.
I am at the end of my college degree and am desperate for work experience interstate or overseas. I want to experience the world and different workplaces and set up a steady career. He was not interested in college and, while he does work currently, he has no set goals or ambitions for what he wants to do in the future.
He has recently started making friends with horrible people (violent bikies, ex-cons, drug dealers). His mood can switch in an instant - from something as small as me walking too fast or not holding his hand in public. The jokes he makes are no longer funny but offensive and rude.
I can't help but feel stuck, unsure and maybe even deserving of something better and more fulfilling. I feel horrible writing that because I should love him no matter what. I'm just very confused.
Has anyone been in this position? Is this a phase? Any advice would be appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | The dynamics of my relationship have changed and we have grown in different ways. Is this a phase or is it the end of the road? | The dynamics of my relationship have changed and we have grown in different ways. Is this a phase or is it the end of the road? | 3,630 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Can I begin my Australian Working Holiday Visa trip with only £1500 (Around $2800 AUD) in 3 months' time?
POST: Hello, I have just got my Australian Working holiday visa. I have my backpack, my sunnies, and most of everything else I need.
I am planning on landing in Perth in 3 months' time where I have food and board covered. I am staying with my aunt for at LEAST the first month where I will hopefully be able to find employment in Perth, even though I hope to get a job secured before I land. (I have years of bar and restaurant experience, as well as experience in retail, I'm sure somebody, somewhere will have a position for me, I am very employable and very determined.)
So, to begin with, my only expense will be frivolous things such as drinking, and perhaps the odd unforeseen purchase.
My flights to and away from Australia are already covered. I do not need to worry about those.
I know that most people say that you need $5000 in your bank account when you arrive in Australia to prove to immigration that you can look after yourself, that you will not be a burden on the Australian system. However, subtracting food and board, and my return flight from that $5000, will I still be allowed in with only around $3000? I have read around that this number does have some lee way with all factors taken into account. Push comes to desperate shove, I could locate funds from another source to bulk out my bank account when I enter Australia, but I would prefer not to.
Thoughts? Thanks1
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Most people say you need $5000 to enter Australia on a visa, I have $3000, but have room and board and my flight home taken care of from outside sources. Can I still go? | Most people say you need $5000 to enter Australia on a visa, I have $3000, but have room and board and my flight home taken care of from outside sources. Can I still go? | 1,949 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [19M] sister [14F] told me that she has an embarrassing problem that our parents haven't done anything for. I took her to see a doctor and parents are upset.
POST: So last week my sister called me and asked me to come over when our parents aren't home and she has something important to tell me. I went there and she told me that it's embarrassing but basically when she goes to toilet to have number 2 it's very painful. I asked if she's talked to our parents and she said they don't believe her. She asked me to take her to the doctor. So I booked an appointment for her and took her this Monday. Luckily her issue is not as serious as it is painful and hopefully she'll be fine soon.
So somehow our parents learned and are upset that I took her to the doctor without their permission. They say this is me interfering with their parenting. That I'm old enough to make decisions for myself but not to make them for my sister. I really think this is dumb. I mean she's 14 so she can technically go to the doctor herself. She just asked me to drive her there and be there because she was a little afraid. I also think it's stupid for whatever reason to not take her to the doctor when she's not feeling well. Parents say she has a history of calling in sick for no reason and that's why they didn't believe her.
So right now she's grounded for going behind their back by involving me and I'm also banned from seeing her for a while because I went behind our parents back by taking her to the doctor without their permission. They expect me to apologize and promise that this won't happen again but really I in good conscience can't do that because if she asks me again to take her to the doctor I will. But I think they're just going to be mad at me and will ban me until I somehow tell them that I was wrong by doing that.
How I can handle it?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I took my sister to the doctor because our parents refused to, and they're now mad at me that I did and they expect me to apologie and promise that I'll never do it again. | I took my sister to the doctor because our parents refused to, and they're now mad at me that I did and they expect me to apologie and promise that I'll never do it again. | 4,174 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How often should I hang out with my gf and her kid/
POST: I'm 28, she's 25, and he's 5. We've been an item for 6 months.
Someone mentioned that I am spending a lot of time with the kid too soon. I understand he has no dad and I don't mind helping. I just think I still want to get to know the gf, since we barely have our alone dates.
I think we hang out 2-3 times with the kid and only one time at night with the gf which is usually Fri or Sat. Those nights aren't by ourselves either, they are with a group of our friends.
I don't want to tell her that I don't want to hang out with her kid, which I like but sometimes the dates are a little dull when he comes along. I do not want to hurt her feelings.
Also I need to mention, that its hard for her to get a sitter so he comes along.
the thread i made
TL;DR: . Assistant: | i think i go out too much with the gf and her kid. how can I tell her it should be less without hurting her feelings. | i think i go out too much with the gf and her kid. how can I tell her it should be less without hurting her feelings. | 3,546 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: There's a girl [19] who made it known to my Jewish self [23] that she has nothing up on Christmas day, what are some good ways to approach this?
POST: My downfall is overanalyzing everything I think, do and say. There's this girl I like and she likes me. It sounds so simple right? GET TOGETHER WITH HER.
I want to badly because I think it has potential to go somewhere with her, and I don't get that feeling often with most girls. She's really cute, has a good sense of humor and I get along with her well.
I just started texting her the other day, and I asked if she had any extravagant Christmas plans and she said she didn't since she "doesn't have any friends or a boy".
Now as a Jew, my Christmas tradition is Chinese food and a movie with my family since there's nothing else for me to do, plus Santa hates my kind.
I want to spend some time with this girl and know I should, but would love some input on the best way to go about handling this matter. (BTW I live with my family, and she works with my mother)
Thank you much to all, and Merry Christmas and happy holidays!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I like a girl, she likes me. And I'd love to get some advice on how to approach this matter since I get nervous to when it comes to making moves. | I like a girl, she likes me. And I'd love to get some advice on how to approach this matter since I get nervous to when it comes to making moves. | 2,438 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (24, M) went barhopping with some friends (20s, F & M) and a drunk coworker was harassing one of them. He took knowing me as license to harass her even more.
POST: I went out barhopping with some friends for a birthday party. This was my first time doing anything of the sort (barhopping, drinking more than one beer in a night, etc.) Everything was going well until some guy began making unwanted advances toward one of my female friends.
He got in her space, tried to grind on her, etc. She shook her head no, told him to back off, scowled at him, moved away from him, etc. I recognized him as a coworker (works in a building 15 miles away from me, so I only recognized him, didn't know him well.) I acknowledged him, thinking that he would back off if he realized that someone he worked with was witnessing this. He then continued even more aggressively, while my friend thought that she couldn't be as confrontational because I knew the creep.
She told him to back off. I took him aside, told him she wasn't interested and he needed to back off, and he continued. At this point, I had no idea what to do.
My questions are: How do I smooth this over with my friend? (She has said that this happens to her often, but I feel partially responsible) In what way can I confront this coworker the next time I see him outside of work? And if this ever happens again how can I put a stop to it?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Drunk coworker harrasses female friend who is clearly not interested: What do I say to her, how do I confront him, and how do I stop this if it happens again? | Drunk coworker harrasses female friend who is clearly not interested: What do I say to her, how do I confront him, and how do I stop this if it happens again? | 5,132 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: I caught my boss adding extra time to her pay sheet and don't know what to do
POST: I am in charge of checking payroll where I work, and I see how many hours people work during the pay period (2 weeks). We've had a lighter month than usual, and a few people were commenting that they didn't work as much because of it. What should have been 80 hours, was more like 70-75. One person barely broke 60.
I noticed my boss had 80+ hours, even though she took two half-days during this pay period. She over compensated her paid time off (PTO). She added time to her half-days so that she had close to 10 hours for each of her days off, even though she didn't put in more than 8 hours a day at work this whole month (she worked closer to 7 hrs a day). She is constantly complaining about the budget and complains when we (the employees) need supplies (you know, for our jobs). I feel like she's cheating the company by taking extra time off she didn't earn, and even getting some over time when she's pretty much the only one (there is a specialist who has the most work out of everyone regardless). I'm not mad she took PTO, I'm mad because she intentionally set it for more than 8 hours to boost her paycheck.
The problem is, I can't do anything about it. I have a very low position and I hold no sway. I can't tell the higher ups in the company/corporation, because she's in good with all of them and it will just come back to bite me. I can't tell the other employees because that will just start more drama and tension in the office. I'm also not entirely sure if what she did was unethical in taking advantage of the situation, or if anything wrong actually took place.
So, is this unethical or illegal, or am I just not used to office politics?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | – my boss added hours to her work week when there was a lull, and there's nothing I can do or say to keep this from happening again. Advice? | – my boss added hours to her work week when there was a lull, and there's nothing I can do or say to keep this from happening again. Advice? | 5,782 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my girlfriiend [17 F] of 1 year, I realized I've become very manipulative, controlling, and jealous, how do I fix this?
POST: Hello everyone
I ( 18M ) have become to realize that I am an extremely manipulative, controlling, and jealous boyfriend to my girlfriend ( 17 F ). Things were going great until just recently, about 2 months ago, when for some reason I would just get extremely angry, jealous, irritated for little to no reason.
For example, we're both track and field runners ( we go to the same high school ). This is her first year of track and she decided to join the distance running team based off my recommendations ( I'm a distance runner, and she really enjoyed her first year of cross country ) But now she has decided to try pole vault, and for some reason, this is making me unreasonably mad and extremely jealous of the fact that that means she'll be spending time with 3 other males training, although she has 2 other girls with her. I have no idea what is wrong with me..
I realize that I am being irrational and I beat myself up mentally for it, and tell myself I won't do it again, but then it just happens again, and the same cycle begins.
I am leaving for college and will be ~2 hours away from home in a few months while she finishes her last year of high school ( She's a junior, I'm a senior ). My theory is I just want her for myself for the remaining 5-6 months before I leave because I doubt I'd be seeing her much more than once every other week
Yes, I have talked to her about this and she told me she has noticed my behavior changing and told me that I might just be having another bout with depression and anxiety, both of which I've had before. She honestly is the best and told me that "We'd take it one day at a time and get over it together". I want to know what I can do on my side to make this easier for her and myself.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I've turned into a irrational, jealous, angry boyfriend and I'm aware of it, how do I go about fixing this? | I've turned into a irrational, jealous, angry boyfriend and I'm aware of it, how do I go about fixing this? | 2,324 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Dogtraining
TITLE: My dog HATES when people shake hands. How do I desensitize her?
POST: We don't often have guests over to our house, but we threw a party last month and I noticed my dog displaying a weird behavior.
Whenever two people shake hands inside the house, my dog will run over to them, jump up, and try to nip the handshake. She freaks the hell out. At first I thought she was just getting anxious because people were acting excited and loud in the house, but then my husband and I tried shaking hands in front of her when no guests were around, and she did the same thing!
She's an 8- or 9-year-old lab mix. Female, spayed, adopted from the shelter two years ago. She doesn't display any other behavior like this in the house. She's a little leash-reactive, but we've made HUGE progress on that. When we are home with her, she is calm, loving, and well behaved.
So, /r/dogtraining, any ideas on how to get my dog to be calm when people shake hands? I have searched the web and this sub for my problem, but all that I'm seeing are threads on how to teach one's dog to "shake," as in the dog and the human.
What is going on here? Again, if two people shake hands, she runs up to the hands, jumps and attempts to nip the hands that are shaking. If she doesn't make contact, or if me or my husband intervene, she will sit and stare at the shaking hands, making weird yelping noises like she's extremely stressed out.
My dog gets a LOT of exercise, so this is not the problem. I'd appreciate any insight you have.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My otherwise calm dog nips and yelps when she sees two people (including me and my husband) shake hands inside of our house. How do we desensitize her to this? | My otherwise calm dog nips and yelps when she sees two people (including me and my husband) shake hands inside of our house. How do we desensitize her to this? | 1,876 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (26) avoiding daiting in fear of hurting recent ( break up about 2 months ago) ex even more (dated six years)
POST: Long story short I was in a relationship for 6 years. Unfortunately I fell out of love, the sex was no existent for the last year or two and overall it just want not a healthy relationship.
All that aside she still loved me and believed I was the one. She was completely blindsided by the break up ( she said she was but I tried talking about my issues and was never listened too, she must have seriously been in denial).
It's been 2 months since we broke up and I have been dabbling in the online daiting scene and there mutual interest with a few girls, one in particular.
I'm afraid to pursue anything with her because of fear I would really destroy my ex. Even though I'm not romantically invested in my ex anymore I still care about her as a friend/person. Am I stupid for having these feelings and should I just grow the fuck up and do what makes me happy?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to date after ending a 6 year relationship but I'm afraid of my ex finding out and being hurt more. Should I just do what makes me happy? | I want to date after ending a 6 year relationship but I'm afraid of my ex finding out and being hurt more. Should I just do what makes me happy? | 5,803 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Boyfriend [19/m] is very active, I [20/f] am not... Starting to bother me.
POST: My boyfriend and I have never had to fight because everything can be handled rationally, but I don't know how to bring this up, because I know that it's irrational, but it's how I feel! He goes to the gym with his best friends almost every day. He's improving a lot, has a six-pack and can now bench his own body weight, while I have definitely gained my freshman 15 and lost the curve in my hips I was always so proud of (and he used to tell me he loved all the time). He isn't superficial at all though, despite his fitness, he just loves being active, whereas I am not athletically inclined whatsoever. I normally just maintain my bodyweight pretty well, but lately I have been so busy the last thing I want to do with my free time is work out.
The problem is, instead of lying and saying I haven't gained weight, he says "It's no big deal" and "It's just because of the crappy food at school". I tell him I haven't been the gym lately and he says "I love you anyways, you'll get back to it when you have time". He's completely right, and I know he's trying to be supportive, but it doesn't make a girl feel sexy to know her boyfriend acknowledges the weight but "doesn't mind". He still pays attention, still wants me physically, still loves me, and yet all I can think about is how he said I should just get back to the gym when I said I hated my flabbiness, which was good advice, so I know I shouldn't be hurt by it but I am!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend says he doesn't mind that I've gained weight instead of lying about noticing it - I know my feelings shouldn't be hurt but they are | Boyfriend says he doesn't mind that I've gained weight instead of lying about noticing it - I know my feelings shouldn't be hurt but they are | 3,511 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: Need help picking out a new laptop for college.
POST: For most of high school, I've been the go to "computer kid." I'll be the first to admit that I know a lot about how computers work, and often fix things for teachers before the IT guys have a chance to get a whack at them. I worked at a computer repair shop for half a year as a technician. I've done the typical tech guy thing and drooled over new computers that come out (read: Wired/PopSci/2600 articles and centerfolds).
That said, I have NO IDEA what kind of computer to get for college. I've always wanted to buy a ton of parts and build my own "super" desktop, but I for sure need a laptop. If everything goes according to plan, I'm enrolling at Champlain College next Fall to double major in Computer Network Information Security and Digital Forensics.
A lot of you probably already know this, but this major involves a lot of virtual desktops. Essentially I set up entire networks on my own rig and then go in and play around with them, all from one computer. It takes a lot of processing power and hard drive space.
Over the years I've built up several stereotypes about different brands, operating systems, products... Recently, my mind has been opened back up and I'm willing to take a look at anything, even a Dell or an Asus.
It's recently been brought to my attention that Macs are actually pretty good. I've always been a notorious Windows-only-guy. I finally decided to bite my tongue and take a look under the hood, and my god are these things powerful... I guess it really does help making everything but the processor in-house.
Anywho, what I really need is suggestions that might work well for my major, hopefully staying under a budget of $1600. Also, what are the big differences between a MacBook and MacBook Pro?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm double majoring in computer disciplines that involve a lot of virtual desktops. Any suggestions on a powerful, cheap, reliable laptop? | I'm double majoring in computer disciplines that involve a lot of virtual desktops. Any suggestions on a powerful, cheap, reliable laptop? | 1,657 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Somebody reblogged a picture of our baby on a tumblr porn page?!
POST: Dear redditors,
I opened my first Tumblr account about a week ago for sharing pictures of my newborn daughter with family and friends. We disabled google search so that nobody could find us.
Today, I saw something that turned my stomach. A Tumblr user had reblogged a picture of our daughter onto their own page. When I looked at their page it was full of explicit porn. (a la 4chan)
I'm not sure why they reblogged it to their Tumbr and frankly I don't care. I attempted to delete the photos from my page hoping that the link would be dead... but they stayed on the other person's page. I e-mailed Tumblr for help but they have not responded yet.
I'm creeped out by a photo of my newborn daughter being reblogged on a pervy pr0n Tumblr site. Is there anything I can do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Somebody reblogged a family photo of my newborn daughter on their own tumblr. Now my daughter's photo appears on their Tumblr between lemon-party-ish photos. I want it removed. How do I do it? | Somebody reblogged a family photo of my newborn daughter on their own tumblr. Now my daughter's photo appears on their Tumblr between lemon-party-ish photos. I want it removed. How do I do it? | 3,892 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Got into a major university that I didn't apply for, should I accept it?
POST: To give a little background, I just recently graduated from a small college on the East Coast. A few weeks ago, I got a letter from VCU notifying me that I need to turn in my transcripts in order to be considered for acceptance. I didn't think anything of it because I didn't apply. Got home from work today and got package in the mail from the same university letting me know I got accepted for the premed program. Not even close to being interested in it. It has all the paperwork you would get if you had gotten accepted from this university.
I am contemplating on accepting it but calling and saying that I am not interested in that specific program and if I can just switch to another. I've lived in that house for over 8 years so there is most certainly nobody else by that name lived there especially with the same middle name. I live in a pretty small neighborhood so there's nobody around me that would have the same name as me as well. It is addressed to my address as well.
I just don't want to get in trouble for fraud or something.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | A major university sent me an acceptance package and I didn't even apply. Contemplating on accepting it but fearing consequences never being the same and going to jail. | A major university sent me an acceptance package and I didn't even apply. Contemplating on accepting it but fearing consequences never being the same and going to jail. | 4,770 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (18m) would really appreciate relationship advice regarding the girl I am with (18f)
POST: I'm an 18 year old male who has been with a girl for about 3 months now. I should mention that this is the strongest I've ever felt about a girl I've been in a relationship with and that this is probably the most advanced relationship I've ever been in (i.e. It doesn't just feel like one of your typical high school relationships to me, I truly care about her) It's clear that we both really like each other but I constantly worry for a bunch of reasons.
About a week or so ago she brought up the conversation of what our label was (which I was too scared to bring up because I was worried her definition for what we were would be much less than what mine was). We both ultimately came up with the conclusion that we are dating. Fast forward a few weeks, I find out from my friends that she constantly and firmly tells them that her and I are not dating. This made me upset because then I think that she feels differently about me than she says she does.
The back story to her past relationships is that almost a year ago her boyfriend of two years broke up with her because he was going to college. I know she was in love with him and it pains me that no matter what I could never live up to what he was to her. Do you think this may have something to do with her saying we aren't dating behind my back? Maybe dating isn't even the right word, perhaps we are at the point where we are in a relationship. The other thing is that she pretty much freaks out if anyone if thinks that I'm her boyfriend or she's my girlfriend. She insists that she really likes me and really cares about me, but sometimes I just worry. What do you think of all this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl and I come to conclusion that we are dating but she insists to everyone else behind my back that we aren't dating | Girl and I come to conclusion that we are dating but she insists to everyone else behind my back that we aren't dating | 2,634 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: How do I [18/F] ask this guy [19M] if he is willing to wait for me?
POST: I met this guy online and we been on a few dates. The last date we went on went really well. We are both looking for a relationship but the only problem is I went home for the summer and I can not see him over the summer. He seemed like he was opened to the idea of waiting and finding ways for us to see each other over the summer. He seemed very intent on continuing to pursue me. But I think he is losing interest. I know he is still active on the website we were talking on. But before I left he wasn't on there since we started talking.
The last time we hung out I made it clear I wanted to take things slow, he repeatedly told me he was okay with that. Now, when we text he always tells me how hard it is for him to take things slow. I asked if he was still okay with that and he said "he is going to try to be". I don't want to waste my time pinning over someone for a whole summer who does not have any interest in waiting. I want to know his intentions but I do not want to come off as clingy or obsessive, I just want to know whether or not it is worth it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to know how to ask a guy if he is going to wait for me without coming off as clingy. | I want to know how to ask a guy if he is going to wait for me without coming off as clingy. | 892 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Customer service runaround about a simple UI fix. Anyone want to help me demonstrate the utter laziness of their engineers and customer support?
POST: Basically, my company pays $1000's of dollars every year to CapitalIQ for access to their financial database. I use it all the time (have to for my job) and have recently gotten frustrated because their customer service is saying they can't fix a simple bug in their web page.
See here:
Problem I have is that CapitalIQ's website puts a huge notification (advertisements of other services) banner on the home screen that takes up over 20% of the vertical space. You can close the banner, but then if you refresh the page, the banner comes right back.
So basically, my company is already paying them a ton of money to use their software, and they are forcing me to see advertisements of other stuff they want to sell me. And I have to see those ads over and over and over again, every day, multiple times a day in fact (every page refresh).
I've asked them to make each *new* banner go away forever once I close it. And **their response was effectively for me to go fuck myself for asking, it's too complicated, but they have logged my complaint and their engineers *might look at it in September*, but in the meanwhile, again I should continue to go fuck myself for asking.**
I don't know much java script, but it seems like this should be like 2 lines of code to fix. I would really like to send them what the code looks like just to show them how utterly (a) lazy their engineers are and (b) lame and lazy their customer service support is.
I was hoping a couple people on Reddit might be crack programmers or SW engineers who know enough about java and UIs to help me out.
Thanks-
Nazdaq
TL;DR: . Assistant: | SW company is giving me the runaround about a simple fix in their UI and I'm looking for a crack programmer to suggest what the code would look like to fix the bug. See | SW company is giving me the runaround about a simple fix in their UI and I'm looking for a crack programmer to suggest what the code would look like to fix the bug. See | 2,251 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Text/Calling etiquette... am I [36m] being overly needy with gf [31f]?
POST: So I'm in a new(ish) relationship that has gone amazing so far. Yesterday my grandmother passed, and since I was at the gym, I texted my gf to let her know. She called right away to offer sympathy, but she was driving and I was working out so we agreed that I would call her when I was done. I did that, she didn't answer (no big deal), then texted a little later to let me know she would call in an hour. Fast forward to this morning, and she hadn't contacted me at all. No text, no call, nothing. I did see her when I got to work (we actually work together), and at this point I was a little upset. I don't think she knows that, in addition to still being a little sad about my grandmother passing, I'm also upset because I think not making any effort to contact me last evening was inconsiderate.
I found out that she basically got busy with errands/chores, which is fine. Honestly, I don't even care that she didn't call. However, I'm thinking of asking her, in the future, to at least text to let me know that she got busy with things. The thing is, when I don't hear from her at all, all kinds of things run through my head including wondering if something happened to her. It made it difficult for me to get to sleep. Is a request like that overly needy? I'm trying to be "manly" about it, but this kind of thing does hurt my feelings and I do feel at times that she is inconsiderate toward me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF didn't text or call when I was having a tough day, is it overly needy to ask for at least a text in a situation like this (or even just your average day)? | GF didn't text or call when I was having a tough day, is it overly needy to ask for at least a text in a situation like this (or even just your average day)? | 3,856 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my dating [18 F] Unsure what really is going on.(About 4 months)
POST: Hello everyone, well Im kind of confused as if where I am in a relationship with this girl. Problem is, we hangout and go on these random "dates" which we don't really call dates its basically us just going out for dinner or coffee or movie etc. just do all types of stuff the two of us. Now I've like this girl for a while now but I've never actually brought it up I've just ind of tried to show it in my actions and things we do. What do you all think? Im simply confused as where to go from here.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Do a bunch of things with a girl I really like such as go out to dinners and movies and such but not sure what stage our relationship is at. | Do a bunch of things with a girl I really like such as go out to dinners and movies and such but not sure what stage our relationship is at. | 6,072 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: She[19F] broke up with me[19M] after only 3 weeks dating. Now she is hanging out with my friends and its awkward when we hang out. Any advice?
POST: We dated for about 3 weeks. Neither of us had been in anything close to a relationship before, but (I think) we had a really great time for at least 2.5 of those 3 weeks. Then out of nowhere, she breaks up with me the day before Spring Break, but says she still wants to be friends.
It wasn't too bad over Spring Break, because we only knew each other from college. However, once I got back things started to suck. She lives in the same dorm as ~10 of my friends here, so I introduced them and we all hung out while we were together. The problem is, she still hangs out with a few of them after break. The one time I hung out with them and her since break ended, it was pretty awkward and we both just avoided each other (it was at a party so it was easy). My friends don't want to exclude her, partially because they have to see her all the time, but they feel awkward asking me to hang out if shes there (which is often) because they think it will be weird (which it probably will be again).
I've tried talking to her about it a couple of times, but shes blown me off.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Any advice on how I should handle it? Avoiding that group of friends isn't really an option that I want to consider.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Gf broke up with me, still hangs out with my friends but its awkward when we hang out. What do? | Gf broke up with me, still hangs out with my friends but its awkward when we hang out. What do? | 5,098 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [30M] need to help my girlfriend[29F] cope with my daughter's mother (my ex [30F]).
POST: My girlfriend and I have been going out for nearly a year now, and have a great relationship: She's very smart, thoughtful, and strong-willed. She makes me happy, I admire her and what she does, and we have a great sex life.
She seems generally happy with me. However, I have a daughter [3 years] whom she gets along just fine with, but my gf can't seem to cope with my ex. My ex and I were in a 6 year relationship, engaged, had a child, but she cheated on me, as I discovered as I went through her phone. I broke up with her, we never married, daughter now lives with her mom, and one year later, I go on my first date with my now girlfriend.
Unfortunately, my ex will forever be in my life because of my daughter - my gf is always reminded of my terrible ex whenever my ex and I exchange our daughter for visitation, mention my daughter, our whenever she sees a pic of my daughter. My gf questions my judgement as she thinks my ex is the complete opposite of her. In many ways, that's true (with ex, we had a terrible sex life, she had many insecurities, and she often followed her heart more strongly than logic). But my gf keeps bringing her up, and because she views her as trash, makes her question why I choose to be with her.
Not to toot my own horn, but I'm a great guy; I'm very thoughtful, funny to her, extremely good with kids, including my daughter. I get along fine with my ex, and though sometimes thinking about how she cheated gets me angry, I figure it's best for my daughter if we're cordial.
But my girlfriend just isn't getting over my ex. I don't know how to help her even tolerate my ex. Anyone else ever been in this situation?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend hates my daughter's mother (my ex who cheated on me), and I need advice on how to help her cope. | My girlfriend hates my daughter's mother (my ex who cheated on me), and I need advice on how to help her cope. | 5,666 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: Newborn Addicted to Night Nurse...
POST: My son (2nd child) was born 5 weeks ago. My wife and I also have a 2.5 YO daughter. We did not get a night nurse when our daughter was born. When our son was born, we were encouraged to get a night nurse to help out. At first it was great. Now, however, we are scaling back on the nurse and she is only there 3 nights a week. Our newborn sleeps for 2-4 hours at a time when the night nurse is there. On the nights when the nurse is not there, he does not sleep. Maybe for 30-60 minutes, but only if he is being held AND walked around. I spent from midnight-2am walking around the first floor of my house trying to get him to sleep. He's not hungry, we feed him plenty (gained 2.5lbs in first month), but he will not sleep. As soon as we put him down in the bassinet (or even sit down while holding him) he starts to wake up and cry. We have even tried driving him around to get him to sleep. He falls asleep in the car, then, as soon as he is back in the house (not even out of the car carrier) he wakes up. It's like he has some crazy spider-sense. Has anyone had similar experiences? Like I said, its ONLY on the nights where the night nurse is not there, so my wife insists he is addicted to her. Our daughter was colicky, and that was rough, but at least she eventually fell asleep. This is a whole new level of difficult. I know the answer is probably "that sucks but it'll pass," but does anyone have any advice for getting overtired newborns to sleep?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | newborn sleeps great when night nurse is there, but does not sleep on nights she is not. Any tips for getting overtired newborns to sleep? | newborn sleeps great when night nurse is there, but does not sleep on nights she is not. Any tips for getting overtired newborns to sleep? | 2,898 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27 /F] with my __date_ [31 M] 3 months, unsure of exclusivity etiquette
POST: been dating a dude for 3 months. To be honest, it seems more like a FWB type deal. Some days he texts me a lot, some days I barely hear from him. We hang out at least twice a week. Sometimes we go on dates, sometimes we cuddle and watch TV. He has not asked me to be his girlfriend, and told me from day 1 that it takes a while for him to ask someone that.
I posted on Facebook about someone asking me out in a creative way, and he messaged me basically saying "not that we are exclusive but I see you posting about dates on Facebook, just curious if we should be using condoms during sex?"
We never explicitly said we were or weren't exclusive, so I sort of assumed we were.
I'm confused at his angle. If we're not exclusive, if you're seeing other people wouldn't that mean we should be using condoms? Why is it only if *i'm* seeing other people would that be necessary?
Or is this implying that he isn't actually seeing anyone else?
Oh Reddit. How do I proceed?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | 3 months in it is confirmed we aren't exclusive, but guy told me "if you're seeing someone else we should use condoms." Can't tell if he's seeing someone else, not sure how to proceed. | 3 months in it is confirmed we aren't exclusive, but guy told me "if you're seeing someone else we should use condoms." Can't tell if he's seeing someone else, not sure how to proceed. | 4,127 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I moved 2 years ago to the US with my brother, he applied for a credit card and got accepted, I did the same got rejected, 6 months later he gets another credit card and he adds me as an authorized user, now my credit score shows 680
POST: Hey anyone who reads this, I am a 26 years old guy living in south Texas, I moved almost two years ago from Mexico, I was born here in the US so I've always had the US citizenship.
My brother (28) and I have been going back and forward on the idea of coming to he US and make a life here, we finally decided to do it.
After a few months my brother went to our local bank (IBC) to make some deposits and the teller gave him a credit card application which he filled and 2 weeks later he received a credit card, I did the same but through the website (I was making a little bit more than him at the time but we have been here the exact same time and have pretty much no record whatsoever) anyway I got rejected I received a letter saying that they had not enough credit information to report.
About 6 or 8 months later he gets an application for a capital one credit card which he sent and 2 weeks later he gets a new credit card, he decided to add me as an authorized user using my full social security number, a week later I get my credit card.
I'm using credit karma to see my credit score which I know can be inaccurate, but I was wondering if I actually got a credit bump by being added and if it's safe to apply for a new credit card
TL;DR: . Assistant: | After my brother added me as an authorized user my credit went from 0 to 680 on credit karma and I want to know if its safe to assume that I can aply for a credit card for myself now. | After my brother added me as an authorized user my credit went from 0 to 680 on credit karma and I want to know if its safe to assume that I can aply for a credit card for myself now. | 5,478 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: How forgiving should I [30/F] be to a good friend [32/M] who has been under stress?
POST: I've been good friends with this guy for nearly 7 years. He's always been super sweet and considerate. Over the last year and a half, we've decided to become something more like friends with benefits. At first, it was just fine, but in the past few months, he's become for the lack of a better term, an asshole.
We've always messaged each other about stuff like asking how was your day or just to chat. In the past months, he's stopped messaging me first, I always have to message him to initiate a conversation. And half the time, my messages go ignored. He'll still be friendly in group situations and when we're face to face, but when we chat over messages, I'm usually ignored. I've tried bringing it up to him, but he just says I'm being paranoid over nothing. If I press the matter, I get snapped at and told I'm being ridiculous. He never replies when I ask to hang out, so I've been seeing less and less of him, but he'll readily hang out with other people. The only time he'll actually initiate a chat with me or talk to me for an extended period of time is when he's asking for sexual photos of me cause he's horny.
I know he's been under a lot of stress lately with both a job he hates and recently his dad just had a stroke. So I want to be forgiving and understanding, but I can't help feeling like I went from friends with benefits to just benefits only.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Good friend went from being a sweet guy to a raging asshole probably due to stress, but how much is too much to put up with? | Good friend went from being a sweet guy to a raging asshole probably due to stress, but how much is too much to put up with? | 2,709 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [22 M] with my Girlfriend [21 F] of almost 2 years, cancer, cuckolding and confusion.
POST: Okay, to start off with my girlfriend has been going through some shit this year. She found out her Grandfather is terminally ill and her parents are splitting up, obviously she has an excuse to go a bit crazy. We also have this kinky thing going on where she does stuff with other dudes, which was my idea and I'm pretty comfortable with. I tell you this because of it's relevance to the situation. also, about a month ago I found out she messaged a saying she loved him. Honestly if it wasn't for what she's going through I'd of ended it at that point but she said she was just trying to get him to like her and nothing els.
So, lately she has been acting strange and it's been getting me down. She never really sees me and cancels on me but then goes out with other people, she says I'm smothering her when I try to talk to her for half an hour when I haven't seen her all day. I mean fair enough but she doesn't just say she doesn't want to talk, then when I do get to have a meaningful conversation she just says things to hurt my feelings.
I've tried talking to her but she just says there's nothing going on. Things are a bit better now but what I have got out of her doesn't make sense. She once said, "I feel like I have nobody to talk to and you never help me."
Then ten minutes later it was, "I just feel like you're smothering me." I explained that I can't help if she doesn't give me a chance to talk to her about it.
What do I do from here? Could it be something to do with another boy? Is she just having a bad time?
Obviously there's allot more to it but this already feels long enough, hoping to get some help, thanks for your time.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend is/was acting weird and I don't know why, is she just fucked up because she's gong through a allot of stress? | My girlfriend is/was acting weird and I don't know why, is she just fucked up because she's gong through a allot of stress? | 5,393 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I think I may have just lost the girl I love with all my heart forever...
POST: Earlier tonight I did the dumbest thing possible, I sent an unintended text to my girlfriend that was hurtful and insincere. I had been texting a friend of mine about a meeting that we had planed for tomorrow concerning a project we are working on with my girlfriend. The text I sent to her that was meant for him was "She said 3pm works for her but with the way she has been acting lately I don't know if she is going to "have something come up"". This was said while I was frustrated and drunk. I didn't truly mean it. I feel like the biggest piece of shit on the planet at the moment. How do I make this right? I love her with all my heart and don't want this to be the end. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Accidentally sent m girlfriend a hurtful insincere text message and I fear that this might be the end. Please help me make this right! | Accidentally sent m girlfriend a hurtful insincere text message and I fear that this might be the end. Please help me make this right! | 4,454 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [27 F] break up with my bf [27 M] of 10 years
POST: Hi All. I'm in a tricky spot in my relationship and could do with some advice.
I've been with my bf for almost 11 years now, since we were both in high school. I never really thought that was a bad thing as we've both changed a lot over the years, but we've been through it all together.
I've had a tough past year - mild depression, but I have my good days also. But instead of supporting me and helping me through this my bf seems to have had enough of me being upset and him having to listen to it. I've had doubts about our relationship for around 6 months - and I've told him this. But every time I mention that I don't feel appreciated he turns it back on me and tells me its my fault, or its all in my head. I'm not asking for the world, but just normal stuff any bf should do for their girlfriend. For example I received no presents for birthday or xmas, he can't keep up with paying for the flat we share, he never organises holidays or dinners or time for us, and he has a tendency to be busy on days that are important for me.
I want more from my relationship with him, and if he could do those things I'd be happy. But how can I continue if he no longer listens to how I feel? I really don't want to be without him, but I'm not willing to stay with him and continue to be unhappy. I mean how hard can it be to buy your other half a present even something small - and not end up attacking me when I mention it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How can I fix my issues with my bf when he won't listen anymore. Is is time to just give up? | How can I fix my issues with my bf when he won't listen anymore. Is is time to just give up? | 3,085 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Unemployment office told me I was unemployable... now what?
POST: I was laid off in December and have been on unemployment ever since as such I am required to attend 're-employment seminars' at my local unemployment office. At the last one we sat down with consultants and they went through our resume, job history etc and they go through the database and suggest jobs for you to apply to. The conclusion of my consultant was that I am unemployable...
My problem is I have a solid work history doing project management in the construction industry before making the jump in manufacturing and product development. At my last position I had a 5 person engineering in our Shanghai plant reporting to me and on an org chart was on the same level as the Plant General Manager reporting to the CEO and President. I won national level awards for my product designs and closed multimillion dollar contracts with Fortune 500 companies.
**The issue is I don't have a degree.**
I was told I should start applying for entry level jobs and remove a lot of my achievements and dumb down my responsibilities and such. Normally I would think this is insane but after applying for hundreds (literally hundreds I keep a log) of jobs and still not getting anywhere I am willing to give it a shot even if it means taking a job I'm not happy with.
I am consistently told 1.) I was overqualified 2.) Even though the job I apply for is exactly what I was doing before I'm not eligible because I don't have a degree or 3.) No response.
The easy answer here is 'go back to school' and as much as I would love to do that I can't. I currently live out of my car since my apartment lease came up for renewal and I couldn't provide proof of income (unemployment doesn't qualify), can't get financial aid because my father makes to much money and is a believer in the 'you pay for your own way' line of thinking which I tend to agree with but screws me in this situation. Student loans aren't really an option because Stafford loans won't cover tuition and I don't have enough credit history to be approved for a traditional loan.
I'm kind of at a loss now and becoming really discouraged so any advice would be great.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am unemployable because I have been working at a high level of business without a degree and can't land an interview to prove myself | I am unemployable because I have been working at a high level of business without a degree and can't land an interview to prove myself | 6,506 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: I'm a lean muscled man and I'm so confused about BMR/Calories and BMI/"Proper Weight".
POST: I've been on 1200 calories for just over 60 days and I've lost 19 pounds (so close to a few flair!). I'll be done dieting somewhere in the next 10 pounds but I'm VERY confused about how many calories I need to eat to maintain:
I know I'm lucky:
* I'm full on 1100 calories per day. I only go over when I drink alcohol.
* I've made some changes for life and I can't see myself eating more than 1400 net calories in a day (after subtracting workout calories). (34y man)
But here is the problem:
* Calculators show that sedentary (which I'm not) calories are around 2100 to maintain.
* Calculators already show me at *below* the "ideal weight" for someone my age, yet body fat measurements put me at *just* overweight (belly is 37").
* I'm nearing my weight in college (155lbs) where I was *repeatedly* told that my BMI was in the underweight category and that I had to *gain* weight *despite* having the "spare tire" of fat around my midsection.
I think that this is all because I have a small frame and lean muscle: I'm skinny-fat. I'm fine with how I look, except the extra 5-10 pounds around my midsection.
So what the heck is my ideal weight!? How can my ideal weight be more than what I'm now if my fat% is still in the overweight category? And finally, is it reasonable to eat 1500 calories per day permanently? (Note, I'm vegan and eat very healthily).
I'd love to hear from anyone that is anywhere near in the same situation.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Is it possible that BMR calculators overestimate my calories since I have a small frame and lean muscle? Is it reasonable to eat 1500 permanently as a 34-year old man? | Is it possible that BMR calculators overestimate my calories since I have a small frame and lean muscle? Is it reasonable to eat 1500 permanently as a 34-year old man? | 5,223 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [22/f] LDR bf [22/m] does not show he cares about me at all. The lack of affection is extremely unfulfilling. Should I just give up?
POST: I have been with my bf (X) for a year and a half. We met while I was abroad, starting dating, and visit each other probably once every 3 months. We skype daily and have no problem keeping contact with one another. Overall, I would say our communication is great.
The problem is, X has reached the point where he is not affectionate at all, in person or otherwise. For instance, when I was in his country the last time, he was rarely physically affectionate. He never initiated sex or introduced any verbal affection. He would often ignore me to watch videos online of his favorite MMO. He'll say he loves me if I ask, but is overall very disinterested.
Now that we are LDR again, it's even harder to feel loved. He claims that he's "not good with words," but I really feel like he just doesn't even try. I feel love through verbal affection, and X has resigned himself to the belief that he isn't good at all with words and that I should accept that. I feel incredibly frustrated and unfulfilled.
When we began dating, he was incredible about showing affection. I never felt unloved and was confident about our relationship, but lately I just feel so frustrated. Is there any way I can fix this?
What could I possibly say to my boyfriend to make him show that he cares more?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Formerly caring boyfriend no longer shows any affection. Does it mean he just doesn't care anymore? How can I get through to him? | Formerly caring boyfriend no longer shows any affection. Does it mean he just doesn't care anymore? How can I get through to him? | 2,641 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I [21F] make my coworker [22M] feel comfortable talking to me again?
POST: Last night I went out bar crawling with several of my coworkers. One of them, Harry, got heavily drunk so I offered him my couch to pass out on because it was just a short walk away. He happily accepted, but I told him that first I need to just double check that it was okay with my roommates and my significant other. He immediately said, "oh you have a boyfriend?" and stormed away.
An hour later I got this text:
" It would be for the best if we didn't speak again. I'm sorry for being the asshole that I am. I did a lot of stupid things tonight, and I'm still in the process of doing something stupid. I'm so sorry for putting you in any kind of awkward position, you don't deserve that. I figure I should say all this before I get too sober and clam up."
Now I understand that he probably had a crush on me and was upset to find out that I have a boyfriend, but I did not lead him on in anyway before this. I also realize that this was blown out of proportion for him because of how much alcohol he had.
How do I respond to his text in a way that let's him know that it was okay to have a bad drunk night and that I don't think any less of him for it? I'm at a loss how to do this since I know about his crush. I have to continue working with him so it would be awkward if I can't resolve this.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my coworker got drunk and freaked out when he found out I have a SO. I want to let him know he doesn't need to be embarrassed. | my coworker got drunk and freaked out when he found out I have a SO. I want to let him know he doesn't need to be embarrassed. | 1,290 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: I have lost the will to go on...
POST: Hi guys, it's been about 2 months since the girl(20) I love walked out of my life and I(m19) have lost the any motivation to do anything whatsoever. I know most of you guys are going tell me to move on and forget about her. I've been told this many times... I just can't do it...
I go to university and work part time, surely I thought that these things would get my mind off her but it hasn't. Everywhere I go and everything I do reminds me of her. I started my uni life with her and spent nearly 2 years with her, seeing her everyday for lunch and going home together. She would leave me messages when I worked and she would wait for me to have dinner with her after work. My life revolved around her and now that she's not apart of it anymore... I'm just lost.
I broke no contact the other night by sending her a email about how I was sorry and was asking her for another chance. She bluntly replied that it would never work out and she doesn't want me in her life anymore...
I don't know what I'm supposed to do anymore. These days I just sit at home playing computer games, skipping my lectures and classes... I'm scared of going to university because I might run into her and I don't know how I would react if I did... It's a big place with thousands students... The probability of me running into a law major on my side of campus is quite low... Despite that I don't want to do anything. The semester has just started and I know I'm not going to do too well at this rate.
I know that she's off having fun everyday, smiling and making new friends... and I'm here, alone in my room, crying myself to sleep every night. I don't want to go on... I'm losing my mind.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriend dumped me 2 months ago. I'm still sad. I have absolutely zero motivation to move on with my life. | girlfriend dumped me 2 months ago. I'm still sad. I have absolutely zero motivation to move on with my life. | 567 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/GetMotivated
TITLE: Have trouble getting started in the morning?
POST: I do. But there's a root cause of my getting motivated in the morning. Obviously, it's the internet.
The internet has a huge snowball effect. It's easier to stay away completely than it is to do it in moderation, especially in the morning when everything seems like a better idea than going to class or going into lab or work or whatever. The key is to do NO INTERNETTING in the morning. None. Don't sleep with your smartphone next to your bed--you'll just load up reddit the moment you open your eyes. Bad!
Change your morning routine. Instead of blindly opening up your sleeping laptop, go straight into the bathroom to piss and wash your face or shower, then grab breakfast--NOT AT YOUR COMPUTER--eat in the kitchen or something. Brush your teeth, grab your shit, and roll out.
I always tell myself "Oh I'll just check reddit for a minute and then go into lab" (I'm a grad student), but end up internetting for like 3 hours straight, and by then, I tell myself it's a wasted day and just internet the whole day and never go in. It sucks.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | The internet is fine, but DON'T MAKE IT PART OF YOUR MORNING ROUTINE if your goal is to have even a semblance of a productive day. | The internet is fine, but DON'T MAKE IT PART OF YOUR MORNING ROUTINE if your goal is to have even a semblance of a productive day. | 3,814 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17M] and my 'partner' [18F] - caught her with my best friend.
POST: We met and hit it off the first night and this continued for just over a month and a bit, things were going good but i had noticed my best friend was spending lots of time with her like going for walks and getting coffee and lunch and he would always pay (friends would split it, if the guy is interested he would pay usually).
This went on for a while and after a night out with the group of us last week I noticed the both of them had become quite distant and rather unwilling to talk to me much. In the end, a week later at a party I stumbled across the both of them hooking up. Who should I be angry at? The girl I've known for about 6 weeks or the guy who I have been to school with and friends with for 6 years? I feel like it's more of her fault and that she initiated it but I can't help but think about the fact that he's been my friend for 6 years and did this with the girl he knows i'm seeing and am involved with.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Best friend hooked up with girl I've been seeing for just over a month, caught them in the act, not sure who to be angry at. | Best friend hooked up with girl I've been seeing for just over a month, caught them in the act, not sure who to be angry at. | 4,121 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My GF [19] is frustrated with me because I [19] thinks the lack of sex is a big deal.
POST: So usually me and my GF have sex about once a week sometimes twice, but mostly once, while i'd like it to be more often, i can live with once a week it's fine, because when we do have sex it's really great. But it's been over three weeks now, and i'm getting really frustrated. Every time i try to do anything while we are cuddling she just moves so she's not so accesable, e.g if we're spooning she'll move so she lays on her stomach instead. Even just if i try to grab her butt she'll get annoyed and tell me to stop in the most frustrated manner. It's getting to the point where i don't really feel like cuddling with her because i know i'll want to make a move, and i'll just get rejected, and sometimes it's just so much easier to be frustrated than to be rejected by your own GF.
She's noticed how frustrated i've been in the last couple of days, and i've explained that the lack of sex is a really big deal for me. She says she's been really tired in the las couple of weeks, and it's true she has been extremely tired going to bed an hour or two earlier than usual, and her usual is already earlier than me. I've tried to tell her to take nap when she gets home so we could spend more time in the evening, trying to give her a hint, but she always refuses.
She doesn't get why it's such a big deal for me, and says that me being to frustrated makes her want sex even less.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend and i haven't had sex in a while and it really bothers me, it bothers her how frustrated i am. | Girlfriend and i haven't had sex in a while and it really bothers me, it bothers her how frustrated i am. | 3,065 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my GF [19 F], are having an argument about social roles and need a third party(s) opinon.
POST: My girl friend who i am in a long distance relationship with asked me if it was fine for her to go out with one of her Ex's, who planned to come down and see her in a few weeks. From what she has told me this Ex still have feelings for her, and has been the topic of a few of our discussions, when he's said some very,sexual things to her. When she asked for my opinion on the topic i told her it was her decision on whether she wanted to go or not.
This apparently got her very upset, and the argument ensued. She sent me a text later saying i shouldn't have given her a choice and should have just told her No, from the start of the conversation. She said that she should play the role of the woman and i should play the role of the man, which means being more aggressive with her.
This is something i'm always doing in the relationship, but i don't feel as though i should be telling her what to do all the time as shes a grown woman (at least in my opinion). i cant understand why she is so angry that i gave her a choice, and now i'm wondering if it really is my fault.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Was I wrong to give her a choice in the matter, and do you think social roles are still very important in a modern relationship? | Was I wrong to give her a choice in the matter, and do you think social roles are still very important in a modern relationship? | 4,796 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27M] had a rough New Year. [32F] SO of 4 months is not talking to me.
POST: So I have dated this girl for 4 months. She has been really great so far, we fight minimally and get a long great. So unfortunately she had to work for NYE, and my friends wanted me to go out with them to a fancy dinner, then to a house party, then to the casino, and then they had a hotel room at the casino we could crash at so no one would drink and drive.
The SO really wanted to come but she couldn't get off work. I told her I would send her pic updates through out the night. I sent a selfie on the way to the restaurant and then I proceeded to get way too drunk. I only sent the one picture and the rest of the night was a blur, i missed several calls and finally answered her texts at 2 in the morning. Not my finest moment and I admit that I wasn't the worlds best boyfriend. But I have been faithful the entire relationship.
Now she is not talking to me, she got drunk and high last night, which is out of character, then said the texts were sent from someone else on her phone, and I'm really at a loss of words. Maybe she thinks I was cheating? Maybe she was looking for an out in the relationship and took this opportunity? Her past boyfriends have all been pretty scummy and I have a job and am independent. I really don't know.
I suppose I'm just looking for another set of eyes, to help me understand that aren't related to me, as all my family has loved her and I don't want them thinking differently of her. Feel free to ask questions.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Got way too drunk and forgot to keep in touch with my SO over NYE, she's not talking to me. Have no idea where the sudden ending of the relationship came from and would like some help in understanding. | Got way too drunk and forgot to keep in touch with my SO over NYE, she's not talking to me. Have no idea where the sudden ending of the relationship came from and would like some help in understanding. | 145 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my gf [19 F] for a little over a year, I'm graduating and it's causing problems
POST: Hey guys,
So this is a pretty short post, but basically I only have one more semester left in college. This has sparked lots of emotions and confusion of what we should do. I love this girl to bits but we have had our fair share of problems, and a lot of the problems were caused during summer and last year's winter break. Basically, it is apparent that we cannot handle long distance and we have said it before in the past.
I should also mention I go to school with her but I live a state away during the breaks. There is a huge chance I am going back after college to come back home and find a job somewhere which is what my sister did when she graduated college.
My question to you guys is I have no idea what to do now, winter break just started and we have already been freaking out cuz the date is getting closer and closer to me graduating. It sounds like we have an expiration date but it is really hard for me to understand what to do with this situation. It is really hard to force a breakup when things are not going that poorly.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Graduating college next semester, gf isn't and long distance is not an option. I have no idea what to do. | Graduating college next semester, gf isn't and long distance is not an option. I have no idea what to do. | 1,923 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] for four months now, he talks very slow.
POST: I don't know how to ask this without it sounding really silly, but this is a genuine problem. I created a throwaway because of too much personal detail in my main account.
My boyfriend and I are both grad students and have been together for four months now. I absolutely love him. He's sweet, caring, tolerant, liberal, basically every single thing on my 'checklist', if I had one, is there.
The problem, though, is he talks VERY slowly. I mean his speed is really slow. If I ask him anything, he takes about 3 seconds before he starts to talk, then when he starts, the words go at a very slow pace,and he even pauses for 3-5 seconds in the middle of his sentence. I get really impatient and sometimes just feel like telling him to hurry up (of course I don't, but I really feel like doing so).
I asked him today, very gently, why he spoke so slow, and he said he just gets thoughts very slowly in his brain. He then went on to say he's just generally slow at thinking. I felt really sad when he said this, I don't know why. He's a Math PhD student,and we are at a pretty good school, and his research has been going slow for a while now (but this is totally normal in grad school), so I think that response was kind of a self-deprecating one since he's already low on self-esteem.
Anyway, my point is, his speed of talking is just a part of him, it can't be changed. I love him so much otherwise but I just want to know how to deal with this. Conversation is so important in a relationship! How do we manage? He's an introvert and talks very little in general; I suspect this has something to do with his pace of talking?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend of four months who's otherwise fantastic, has a very slow pace of talking, and I feel impatient talking to him. How do I deal with this situation? | Boyfriend of four months who's otherwise fantastic, has a very slow pace of talking, and I feel impatient talking to him. How do I deal with this situation? | 6,438 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [18 M] mom [44 F] is definitely cheating on my dad [49 M] with her coworker. How do I handle the situation?
POST: Hey r/relationships,
I never thought I would be in a situation like this, but my mom is cheating on my dad and its become more and more evident to me now. Initially it was just doubts, but I'm quite certain now. I don't have any solid proof other than observations, which are pretty strong themselves. The person she's seeing isn't currently working with her. He was her colleague in her previous place of work.
When it started off, I found out when she would use her phone more often than she ever has. I didn't think much of it but it started increasing my curiosity. Then, I started noticing her deleting chats with that particular person every time she sent him something or received something from. She hasn't realized that I know that she's been doing this, so she's quite unsuspecting of the whole thing.
Recently however, she's been more involved with him. She wakes up early in the morning and the first thing she does is check her phone for messages from him. She calls and secretly talks with him in the room. And now, she's been coming home quite late too.
My dad is oblivious to the whole thing. He just assumes she's talking to her friends or what not. But you don't delete every message you get from your friend. I don't know what else she's been up to, and I sincerely hope things aren't going really fast. I have no clue how to proceed. In a few weeks, I'll be off to college. They're shelling out a lot of money to send me to college abroad, so I don't want to screw things up, because I *really* appreciate what they're doing for me, and also because I don't want any of this messing around with my college education.
Wat do reddit?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | mom is cheating on dad. dad is clueless. I'm going to college and don't want things going complete AWOL for me or for the family | mom is cheating on dad. dad is clueless. I'm going to college and don't want things going complete AWOL for me or for the family | 5,257 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My boyfriend (31/m) is generally kind and fun, but loses his temper and yells at me (32/f) and then feels bad after and apologizes. Should I stay or leave?
POST: We've been a couple for a little over a year and it's been happening more lately. He admits to having a temper, he admits to yelling and me and saying hurtful things. I'm trying to be understanding because he hasn't been in a long-term relationship because so many women have left him and didn't give him a chance at a relationship. He's a successful man and is generally very nice and doesn't like when men are jerks to women, which is why I'm having such a problem with this one. I went to hug him today as we are very affectionate with each other, and he pushed me away and then when I asked him if it's bad to hug him, he lost his cool and started yelling at me and getting angry with me. It's funny because in the past (we live together), he would work from home and had no problem with me going down on him, but if I want to hug him, he freaks out. I don't get it. He tells me he is a jerk and he's sorry for treating me poorly but he keeps doing this and then apologizing and then tells me he'll "work on it" and it just happens again. I am getting to the point where I don't even want to tell him how I feel because he's going to get mad or say that I get sad about little things or that I'm exhausting. He wants to marry me but I'm afraid it won't get better. In all other aspects, he is a nice guy who has been trying to work on his consideration of other people and has become more open-minded during our relationship. Any advice? Can he change? What can I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend loses his temper and yells and I wonder if there is something I can do to make it better. And if I should stay? | Boyfriend loses his temper and yells and I wonder if there is something I can do to make it better. And if I should stay? | 3,503 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by eating tzatziki
POST: Obligatory this was when I was in high school.
So, for those of you who don't know, in Boston there's a shopping area called Haymarket. To all the tourists in the area, it's just Faneuil Hall, which is the crazy cramped food court building in the center of the area. You can get all kinds of foods there, ranging from Irish pub to mediocre Chinese food to sushi to Gelato. My personal favorite is currently the mac and cheese shop, but that's not the point.
When I was in high school and come into Boston on my own, I would always make a bee line to the Greek shop in Faneuil Hall. During my first time there, I noticed the food item called "tzatziki - a kind of Greek yogurt." Coming from East Bumfuck, NH, I didn't know much about many other cultures' food stuffs, but I certainly knew about Greek yogurt!
I don't know why I choose this, because I hated yogurt at the time ("it has live bacteria in it!" I can't explain the logic in that argument if I tried,) but I decided to order it. The people at the counter looked at me and were like, "Okay, tzatziki aaaaaand?" And then I cheerfully replied with, "Oh, and a Nantucket Nectar!"
They just looked at me, reached into the display case, and slid the solid near-2 cup tub of tzatziki over to me. I bounced up and down in excitement, gave them some money (and told them to keep the change! I'm a good person!) And bounced upstairs to eat lunch with a spoon. It tasted great, but after like five or more bites it caused that reaction where your body is just like, "Okay, you need to cool it with that stuff."
I proceeded to order tzatziki every time I went to Faneuil Hall for a solid year. I couldn't figure out why everyone around me looked at me with mild disgust/bewilderment. Until I looked at the ingredient list for an online recipe for tzatziki.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I sat by myself in one of the most cramped sections of Boston eating the Greek equivalent of mayonnaise with a spoon. A lot. | I sat by myself in one of the most cramped sections of Boston eating the Greek equivalent of mayonnaise with a spoon. A lot. | 2,207 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24F] with my bosses [F,F,M mid 20's] Once again have not sent me a schedule for the upcoming week.
POST: I'm really just asking if my solution is the best, if I can tweak something or scrap it all together.
For background info, I started working there in late January, work super part time, and don't enjoy working there at all. I'm already looking for a new job but it's been proving difficult.
Anyway, for the past FOUR weeks I've had to chase down a manager for the upcoming week's schedule, and they usually make it the Thursday or Friday before. The work week starts on Sunday. I've now held off for four weeks booking various appointments, haven't been able to make plans with friends, and now work the weekends, despite making it clear I could not due to other commitments and the fact that my bus doesn't run (I'm from the next town over) between my town and theirs on the weekends, so I've had to take cabs or rely on a family member or friend to get to work.
Well, I couldn't hold off on making these appointments any further, and it's the day before the new work week and I still haven't gotten the schedule. My solution is just to politely explain why I can't make it (I have an appointment just about every day of the week) and that I have a life and if they expect me to be able to come to work, I need notice. And just not show up. This is getting kind of insane and I've been having lots of anxiety over it for a while. What should I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my job never has the schedule out in time, I won't be able to make it now because I had to make appointments, need advice. | my job never has the schedule out in time, I won't be able to make it now because I had to make appointments, need advice. | 2,625 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my ___ [22 F] of 9 months, caught her lying about a guy.
POST: So my girlfriend and I go to the same college. Now she tutors Chinese (shes a foreign exchange student) and this one guy she tutors keeps hitting on her (hes like mid 30's old looking and fat) and she has told me about it before. They became friends and she hangs out with him in a group setting usually. Whenever he would hit on her she would text me about it, tell me in person, send screenshots, whatever and been up front and honest. She stopped a little bita go because she knows how mad it gets me that she still talks to this guy but I trust her. Recently theyve been hanging alone, I told her I'm against but she has told me he got a girlfriend and I should just be ok with her since I know her and know she wont do anything. Which I still believe, shes not near him on the ratings scale to even put the guy in her league. Still I get jealous so I checked her phone while she was in the shower and I found basically saying "Oh man if I did [ACTIVITY] with you we wouldve had a better time. I should be your boyfriend." I semi confronted her about it with questions like is this guy really not trying anything with you? He hasnt hit on you? Talked shit about me? Told her she should date him recently? And she said no he has a girlfriend why would he hit on me.
Its at this point I ask you guys do I confront her and tell her I snooped her phone and caught her lying to me repeatedly, or just trust her not to do anything with him.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend caught lying about creep she hangs with (with information I got by going through her messages) do I trust her or do I confront her | Girlfriend caught lying about creep she hangs with (with information I got by going through her messages) do I trust her or do I confront her | 1,392 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [30/M] My SO [26/F] is beginning a new lifestyle that I am excited about! I just need some advice from people to see what I should do.
POST: Hello everyone!:)) I have been a long time reddit lurker & I am now happy to say that my wife is willing to explore the world of having multiple female partners. I have a question regarding what I would call our new relationship.
**background:** She has always been bisexual. Since we are both happily married and I trust her very much, we both decided to have her go out and explore her bisexuality. She really wants to date other women. I am a monogamous person at heart, and only want what is best for her. She does not want to date other men since she already has me.
I recently heard of the term "unicorn" and "unicorn hunting" but I just want to clarify that I will not be part of this lifestyle. This is her own secondary relationship to keep herself happy and exhilarated with the beauty of the female body.
Is this wrong? Are we "unicorn hunters" if I am not part of this? What would we call my wife's lifestyle?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Wife is going to go out and find women to date. I love the idea of her having secondary relationships with women (*not* men.) Is this wrong or is this "unicorn hunting?" | Wife is going to go out and find women to date. I love the idea of her having secondary relationships with women (*not* men.) Is this wrong or is this "unicorn hunting?" | 4,873 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Can't stand living at home, need financial independence
POST: Hey guys, first time posting here so lmk if I'm doing anything wrong! I'm 23 years old and I just graduated from my bachelor's program, so I'm back at home for the year. I'm applying to dental schools in the states (but Canadian) for next September, so I'll be living at home for the next 16 months and I don't know if I can do this anymore. I've been back for 3 months and I already feel so suffocated and I'm being treated like a child. My dad is very controlling and doesn't want me to stay out of the house past 10pm (yes, I'm 23). He always wants me home on time and we have already gotten into many fights about this because he is very firm with it. I have a boyfriend and I have a life, and last night we got into a huge fight and he told me to either be home at 10pm latest every night or pack my bags and move out. I wish I could just find a job with my degree and have a salary and be independent, but that's not the case. I'm going to need him to co-sign dental loans next year and I'm scared if I move out he won't want to take me back in and help with the loans. Also, I'm currently studying for the DAT, so I don't work that many hours a week.. so I'm very low on money and I couldn't even afford rent. Should I look into a line of credit and maybe do that for the next 16 months? Or should I just suck it up and live at home because I need those dental loans and don't want to get on his bad side. I'm not sure if there are any other options to be financially independent... Please help!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | controlling dad, it's getting to be too much and I want to move out but don't have the funds + need his help with co-signing loans for dental school | controlling dad, it's getting to be too much and I want to move out but don't have the funds + need his help with co-signing loans for dental school | 4,462 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23M] with my Friend [23M], His Girlfriend [22F] And A Bunch Of Our Friends Revealing A Secret.
POST: So I've got a friend, we'll call him Jim. Jim has been dating his Girlfriend, we'll call her Sam, for about 2 years now or so. But before this, Sam and I used to fool around. Sam has also fooled around with 4 of our other friends, so including me that makes 5.
Here's where it gets complicated; Jim doesn't know. A good question would be why we didn't tell him. Well I did. Or least I tried to. The reason I didn't just blurt it out was because when he told me he was interested in Sam, he seemed like he genuinely really liked her so I wanted to tell him as gently as possible but he shut me down and gave a really cocky and arrogant response so I dropped it. We wrestled with whether or not to tell him because we didn't want it to seem like we were jealous or being petty. And I've asked Jim and he said he thinks she's the one and he'll pop the question one day.
Now Sam has been known to tell lies to try and come between our circle of friends. She told a lie about two of our friends, Michael and Ryan. She also lied that Michael and I were fighting over her. Now she's told another lie. She told Jim that our friend, Paul, slept with Ryan's ex girlfriend which is hilariously untrue.
Now Paul is absolutely fuming and says he's going to confront Jim with this and he's going to tell Jim about Sam's history with the 5 of us.
My question is, what should I do? What's the best course of action here?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Jim's girlfriend Sam has a history with 5 of us. Jim doesn't know but now he might find out. What to do? | Jim's girlfriend Sam has a history with 5 of us. Jim doesn't know but now he might find out. What to do? | 3,190 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [19F] FWB [23 M] secretly took screenshots of my nudes. I want them deleted, he said no. What do I do?
POST: Throwaway account. I have never posted on Reddit ever so please be gentle on the formatting! I am trying my best.
I met Nick* on Tinder. I was just checking it out for fun, my best friend loved and used it etc. I met up with him and we just hung out. He's a nice guy and I just had broken up with my ex. So we became friends with benefits.
Since I left that summer for college, we just sext a lot. And often it was just texting but sometimes he would ask me for some pictures and I was naive so I thought a 3 second picture on snapchat should get the job done and keep me safe.
Three months into this; snapchat notified me with the little triangle symbol that he had screenshoted it. And I **FLIPPED OUT**. I told him it made me uncomfortable and so the next time we met up, I had him deleted them off his computer. And I thought he understood that I didn't like the fact that he saved the pictures. He said he would stop.
Recently, we met up and I asked him if he saved any of the pictures. And he said that he didn't. However, I saw on his phone that he had one of the apps that allows you to secretly screenshot snaps without letting the other person know.
When he returned, I asked again. And he said maybe he saved a few and that he only did it because he really liked them and he saved them for fun. I begged him to delete the pictures and he said no. So I left. And he deleted me off snapchat.
This guy that I trusted, has nudes of me. I am terrified and I understand I should never ever taken them in the first place. But I never thought he would be this kind of person. He was so sweet in the beginning. I fear he'll share them and ruin my career. I had a nightmare last night that he had cameras in his bedroom and that he has videos too. I don't know what to do anymore.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Sexted with a fwb on snapchat; he refuses to delete them. I am in fear of him distributing them. How do I convince him to delete them? | Sexted with a fwb on snapchat; he refuses to delete them. I am in fear of him distributing them. How do I convince him to delete them? | 239 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me 26 mwith my 26m friend of nearly 20 years. I can't make his bachelor party. Help.
POST: So I feel obligated to put some context to this. I suffered chronic homesickness as a teenager. It meant I wouldn't stay at folks houses, I wouldn't visit friends at college and a whole host of other things. It took me a long time to get over it and every now and then I still have the odd lapse.
This means I developed a reputation as being a no-show. It was only recently I tried to explain it to some of my friends but I still have the reputation as not being reliable to show up.
With that said. I legitimately can't make my friends bachelor party. I work in sports and so weekends are my Monday-Friday. That weekend is a big derby, and I also have commitments to a column I write that needs me to watch games on the Saturday/Sunday.
So I need to tell him I can't do it and I'm trying to do it in a way that doesn't make it look like I'm just bailing out of not wanting to go. Truth is I'd actually love to go and every time I try to put the words together they sound cliche. I think in the bigger picture I'm also wrestling with some conflicted feelings. We've known each other 20 years. He hasn't always been present and there's months gone by where I don't hear from him or I reach out and he's busy. Some of those months I really needed him but I feel like that could be me just reaching for an excuse to justify a decision I know will upset him.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | History of 'bailing' due to homesickness and other issues. Now legitimately can't attend an important event and trying to work out how to tell a very old friend. | History of 'bailing' due to homesickness and other issues. Now legitimately can't attend an important event and trying to work out how to tell a very old friend. | 3,749 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/books
TITLE: Help me /rbooks-ken-obi you're my only hope!
POST: Hello everyone!
My[26M] wife[28F] has been studying writing (mainly) creative non-fiction at university for six years now. She can get a master's if she sticks with school for two more years. Problem is she's quite fatigued with full time schooling and 3 days a week at work.
I'm looking to give her a big boost, here's my plan...
I've found 1st edition copies of her 3 all time favorite books, and contacted their agents/publishers asking if I could send them the book and get them to personalize it for her.
I'm also going to contact as many author for the books she does own, (there's a lot and I have until the end of this school year) if they can send a letter of encouragement or some wise words!
Upon Finnish this year I want to give her the books, and one box (hopefully a big one!) full of letters of encouragement/wise advice to write/keep on going for her masters!
Or if your willing, can you send your favorite book with written words of advice from you!
I'm also hoping to get a 2nd job so she can work less.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm hoping to get some hand written letters from anonymous book lovers and the authors she loves who can help revitalize her gusto for writing! | I'm hoping to get some hand written letters from anonymous book lovers and the authors she loves who can help revitalize her gusto for writing! | 2,111 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Past and present drug users/abusers/ and dealers, what are your craziest drug-related stories?
POST: An ex-friend of mine (let's call him rob) got hurt real bad a while back and was prescribed perc's for the pain. He wasn't into the idea of getting hooked on them so he barely took the pills. One day someone asked him for a free pill, and that's where the downfall began. Eventually and slowly Rob started to distribute the pills and began selling them. After seeing how fast the money came (over 20 grand in one month) he pretty much was the biggest perc connection in the area.
At this point he was buying them illegally rather than getting them prescribed, so when his suppliers weren't able to meet the, he got about 20 grand together and flew to florida to get his pills. After finding a "reliable dealer" and testing some of the perc's, he was happy and bought them, then flew back.
First deal back in my state, was a major one. Rob went to meet up with the buyer, and when they went to exchange the product, the pills... Were fake. All of them. In a single blow all his business was gone.
Now this is where Robs luck truly runs out. Being a semi-small town where this was all happening, the cops caught wind after a few months. Rob had quit the dealing due to the fake pills, but barely a few days later, while Rob was at a fellow drug-dealers house waiting for pizza, things got suspicious. Their regular pizza guy wasn't the one deliviring, but it was a guy in his mid-40's. For some reason Rob opened the door, and immediatelywas bum rushed by 10 cops.
Both Rob and his friend were placed under arrest. The cops found the 10000 fake percs, and looked like they hit the jackpot, thinking they were real . Fast-forward after court, percs were found as fake and all Rob got was a year in jail for possessing fake drugs.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | guy starts dealing percs, goes big fast, gets ripped off for 10000 fake pills, gets arrested by cops with them, and gets away with only 1 year of jail. | guy starts dealing percs, goes big fast, gets ripped off for 10000 fake pills, gets arrested by cops with them, and gets away with only 1 year of jail. | 495 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Has anyone ever felt sexual chemistry with someone the second time around but not the first?
POST: Backstory: I'm 22 (f) and a few days ago, on our third date, I finally had my first kiss/other shenanigans with someone I like very much. But I didn't feel much - in fact I was rather bored and disappointed with the apparent discrepancy in our emotional and sexual reactions to making out. A couple of days later I very grudgingly broke it off because I figured that's that - no sexual chemistry, and I didn't want to string him along. But I really want this to not be the case because I rarely (obviously being 22 and only having just had my first kiss) meet guys whom I like quite like this. Maybe it was just so new that I couldn't appreciate it and a second go-round would prove more lady-boner inducing? Maybe sexual chemistry can pop up (har har) after developing more of an emotional connection? Or maybe I'm just grasping at straws, and if it were possible to give it another shot I'd just put us both through more disappointment.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Has anyone ever felt little sexual chemistry upon kissing/making out with someone to at first, but then found that "spark" a little later on? | Has anyone ever felt little sexual chemistry upon kissing/making out with someone to at first, but then found that "spark" a little later on? | 39 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21 M] told a girl I liked her [19F] in a drawn out, multi-step, inconclusive manner - next step?
POST: So I had this really awkward talk with the girl I've liked for the past year now. We work in the same place so I started by asking if anyone had been asking her about us - I now regret this and I wish I'd just said I like you, let's go out some time. Instead I guess I wanted to gage her reaction and I ended up jokingly asking if she had a 'crazy crush' on me. She laughs and says 'not crazy'. A few sentences when we talk about what other people have said I say the words 'so if I did ask you out, what'd you say' to which she says 'I'd give it a go'. We kind of ended it there because we both had places we realy needed to be.
Today we talked again, kind of breifly. This time I just said 'cut to the chase, d'you want to go out with me sometime' She once again said she'd give it ago but the way was kind of non-enthusiastic. I wasn't expecting her to celebrate but the way she said it made me feel bad, I felt like it was something I was now pressuring her into after a year of being friends. Anyways, I check my phone and see my grand dad just died so said we'll leave this hear since I have to go for a few days (almost instantly because of funeral circumstances).
Basically I feel like I've dragged this on in a really weird and awkward way. I think it's kind of clear that we both like each other, but she has some reservations because of her own life and I did too which was why I hadn't asked before. Basically, how would you proceed?
The way I'm thinking is over the next few days, send a few texts, give it some space for a few days or so and then when it makes sense ask her to actually do something and say let's make a date of it. That sound reasonable?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How should I proceed having kind of established me and a girl like each other in the most mammby pampy way possible | How should I proceed having kind of established me and a girl like each other in the most mammby pampy way possible | 4,341 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hey Reddit, I need your help/opinions on religion.
POST: I am 15 years old, in my sophomore year in highschool and im kinda questioning my religion(Roman Catholic) a little bit. I've always been Roman Catholic and i am because my parents are, im sure that if i was born into a family that followed a different religion or no religion at all, I would be raised to believe that that religion was correct instead of other religions or not to be religious at all. Anyway i've prayed and all for many many things such as for help with depression and bad grades in school and i put as much effort forth as i could yet things just kept getting worse and i've yet to see religion make my life any better. Also if i ever questioned my religion to my parents they would make me say the rosary and go to confessions. They have made me go to Church every single sunday since i was born, haven't gone a week without going to church. Do you guys think this is right or should i confront my parents and take the punishment?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Questioning my religion(Roman Catholic) and have very religious parents that would pretty much disown me if i told them i didn't want to be religious. Please help me! | Questioning my religion(Roman Catholic) and have very religious parents that would pretty much disown me if i told them i didn't want to be religious. Please help me! | 5,959 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: M/28 dating 26/F. GF has trust issues with me. That Facebook stuff too...
POST: Never thought I'd be posting something like this but I'm at my wits end.
Have been seeing the woman of my dreams for about 5 months now. Just flew 15 hours to meet her parents in another country and we had the best time ever. Our holidays were nice nice and everything was great.
Yesterday morning, my GF woke up crying to me, telling me she is crazy. And that I was going to kill her. I thought she had cheated on me or something horrible but it wasn't as bad as I had imagined. But still a shocker of what she admitted to me.
She REACTIVATED my Facebook account. That means she had the password resent to my email address then logged into my Facebook after the new pswd was generated. So she could read my messages and whatnot. When she told me, I just stared at her and then kind of laughed it off, just because I didn't want to have a bad day before I had to go back to work the following.
I was pissed inside. I knew she was insecure a bit but didn't think she'd do something like this. Just to clarify, I haven't given her any reasons to go snooping. I don't go out much. When I do it's once in a blue moon. I always answer my phone. I always text within a reasonable amount of time, and don't have randoms contacting me or anything sketchy to give her reason to be looking into me.
I want to stick up for myself but don't want to ruin things by flying off the handle. In her defense she "has to know everything and wants to know everything about me".....which is fine, but I feel she is ruining something amazing between us.
I don't want to distance us from each other but I feel betrayed and all that crap. I offered for us to see a counselor just to talk through things, but tha's pretty serious. But I am serious about her.
What are your thoughts? I do love this woman and she loves me too, but I'm sad about this crap. Glad she admitted this to me prior to me finding out.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF reactivated my FB account. Admitted to me prior to me finding out. I feel betrayed. She's insecure. I want to work through this, but wow. | GF reactivated my FB account. Admitted to me prior to me finding out. I feel betrayed. She's insecure. I want to work through this, but wow. | 1,421 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [18/m] I love a girl (19/f), but I'm in an atypical friendzone. Go for it or don't risk ruining the friendship?
POST: She's amazing. Funny, super cute. She likes me, a lot, and we have a lot of physical contact. The problem is her family is super-Christian, and she, while not a fanatic, is very religious. I'm an atheist. It doesn't really bother her, and her religion doesn't really bother me. But it has restricted the bounds of our relationship.
We talked about the possibility of dating, and the way she sees it is that the relationship will never go very far, i.e. marriage. Not that she wants to go into a relationship only if she thinks she'll marry, but that she thinks that we can never break that barrier. She agrees that we'd be great together, and that we might date for years, but that eventually she KNOWS we would never go further than that.
My opinion is that we should take the happiness while we can get it. She doesn't want to go into a relationship knowing it will end, which seems pessimistic and a little illogical to me. Love is about risk, and in my opinion you go for it and if it hurts in the end, the happiness was worth it.
I think that she thinks we're done talking about it, but I'm thinking about bringing it up again. Should I risk losing her friendship, which I don't really think would happen, but would be awful, in order to state my argument better?
Additionally, I'm totally not good enough for her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | She doesn't want to go into a relationship knowing it will never go to marriage. I think we should take the happiness while we can get it. Risk the friendship to state my case better? | She doesn't want to go into a relationship knowing it will never go to marriage. I think we should take the happiness while we can get it. Risk the friendship to state my case better? | 800 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I (18/f) have to choose between my parents and my boyfriend (21/m).
POST: My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. It's been a long-distance relationship (we met online) but we've spent time together in person and are madly in love and want to spent the rest of our lives together. I recently started attending college and my boyfriend and I were so excited because we had been planning on him moving out there with me (he attended trade school and is now working and has the flexibility to move). He has purchased an apartment and a plane ticket and is planning to come out here at the end of October.
My parents, however, are completely against it. They've gone overboard (my mom threw away everything in my room back home, she's trying to convince my dad to sell my car, and she's trying to get me to pay for everything entirely on my own i.e. insurance and whatnot).
My mom and I were always friends and my dad was the mean one, but the roles have flipped, even though my dad is still against it too. They are concerned I'll begin to completely ignore my friends and not get involved with anything (I'm in music ensembles, the cycling club, and the residence hall senate).
He completely refuses to wait any longer, which I fully understand. At home, he has only one real friend due to everything being expensive in New York City so he doesn't like going out with people. He isn't close with his family and is just very lonely. He will not wait any longer to move, regardless of what my parents will do.
I don't want to completely ruin my relationship with my parents, I mean, they're my parents and they've given up a lot for me over the past 18 years. But I also couldn't imagine my life without my boyfriend. My parents want me to have the "college experience," even though I feel like they are the ones that are messing that up. They call me daily and cause me to cry, which then causes me to lock myself up in my room and not spend time with my friends.
I love my boyfriend and I don't want to lose him. And I don't want my children to not know their grandparents. What the hell do I do :(
TL;DR: . Assistant: | BF is moving to my college town to be with me after 2 yrs of long-distance. Parents threatening to completely cut me off if he does. I don't want to lose either of them. | BF is moving to my college town to be with me after 2 yrs of long-distance. Parents threatening to completely cut me off if he does. I don't want to lose either of them. | 6,215 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28 M] with my gf [26 F] of 4 years, just found out she is cheating
POST: So I apologize if I'm a little incoherent, this literally happened in the last hour. I'm sitting in a local coffee shop, and this is an attempt to just write it down and get it all out.
So I've been living with my gf for the last two years. Dated a few years before that.
Normally, I'm at work from 8-5, and as far as I knew, she had the same. At this point, I'm thinking I don't want to assume anything.
I had some stuff for work at home that I had to run back to get earlier this afternoon, went up to our apartment. Once inside, I heard something odd. At this point, I think some part of me knew what I was hearing, but I still just walked closer. It was the sound of my girlfriend fucking, and the sound of some masculine voice fucking her, near as I could tell. I was basically in a fog at this point, and just walked out. My boss at work is a really laid back guy, so I told him that something came up, and I was just going to drop off the paperwork.
And now I'm here. Probably looking like psycho, staring at some coffee cup that I'm not going to drink, tapping this out. I'm not even sure what I'm going to do... I think I should be angry, but I feel like my entire brain has been dropped in ice water. I want to be angry, or sad, or something, but I can't seem to feel anything at all right now.
What should I do? I'm not even sure how I'd confront her at this point.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Home from work on an errand, walk in to hear my longterm GF banging some guy. No other details, currently emotionally dead. | Home from work on an errand, walk in to hear my longterm GF banging some guy. No other details, currently emotionally dead. | 6,175 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [15 F] boyfriend [15 M] is being abused and my mother [40s F] doesn't want me to tell anyone
POST: I've been with my boyfriend (named Andy) for a few months. I knew he was beaten as a child (with a whip) by his father, but then again, so was I. I assumed his father stopped, and that it was a cultural thing, as he had lived in Israel until two years ago. Andy and his uncle had been eating at a restaurant when he was a child, and there was a terror attack. Andy's uncle protected Andy and died in the process, causing Andy's father to blame him for his brother's death.
I recently learned that the beatings have not stopped. They have instead continued to grow worse, and he is whipped with a belt for things like coming home late or having his music on too loud. At one point, when Andy's father knew Andy and I had kissed, he beat Andy with a belt until his back bled and threw him outside the house until midnight (I am Indian, and Andy's father would prefer he be a with a white, Jewish girl).
I've told my mother what is happening to Andy. She had been abused by her father as a child, so I thought she would understand. She said that Andy is probably lying and that if something was really happening, Andy should tell someone. She said I am being naive, and that if this is really happening to him, it's only an incentive for him to move out when he turns 18. She walked in on us kissing (it was our first kiss, so it wasn't like we were making out) and now she thinks he just wants to use me and is manipulating me.
Today, he asked his father if he could come to my house. He says his father broke his rib and said no when he asked. I told my mother this, asking if I should call an ambulance or something. She said it's his problem, not mine, and that if he wants help, he should do it himself.
Is she right? I really don't have any proof other than his texts to me, but abusers are good at hiding what they do. Should I keep it to myself?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My boyfriend says he is being physically abused by his father, and while my mother knows, she thinks it's not my problem | My boyfriend says he is being physically abused by his father, and while my mother knows, she thinks it's not my problem | 5,029 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How can we deal with the looters in England?
POST: The people that are looting cities across England aren't standing up for any cause, there has been no injustice done to them, yet they feel dissatisfied with the government and take this out on small business owners and retail chains who are not the root of the problem. Some of these people (gang members and criminals aside) justify it by saying that they have been wronged by society, the police, the government. How do you deal with people like this? If you whack them, you just increase the feeling of resentment whilst pacifying them for a while, and if you pander to them and try to placate them, they just feel more entitled to do the same thing again like a spoiled child.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How do you deal with rioters/looters when they resent you if you pacify them, and feel entitled to rob small businesses and burn buildings? | How do you deal with rioters/looters when they resent you if you pacify them, and feel entitled to rob small businesses and burn buildings? | 2,040 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My brother-in-law cheated on my pregnant sister
POST: when she was 31 weeks pregnant and confessed when she was 35 weeks pregnant because he contracted chlamydia. We don't know if he would have even told her otherwise. She gave birth on Wednesday and told me today because my parents didn't want what happened to her to sour my views on marriage. She's not sure what she should do, and I'm SO ANGRY I want to kill him.
He created an alternate email address and went on Adultfriendfinder to set up a "date" with a young woman to let him give her a facial, since my sister wouldn't. The day he met up with this prostitute (she asked for $300 because she was broke..... clearly a prostitute), he told my sister he was going out to get a gift for her because she was working so hard as a mother and wife. :| Then he drove an hour away, rented a hotel room and got his rocks off. It was all so premeditated.
He's apologizing profusely and they're in marriage counseling now and he has his own personal counselor as well. Apparently he had abandonment issues from his own very fucked up childhood and was worried my sister was leaving him too after the birth of their first child (born in 2010). He basically abandoned his own family after the birth of the first child and hired a full-time nanny to help my sister (who also had a full time job). This nanny sucked and neglected my niece and now she STILL can't speak because of this neglect. All because my brother-in-law was a selfish fucking asshole.
I just wanted to know, has anyone else been cheated on like this (or worse) and managed to make the relationship work? Do you know of other couples that have overcome this? Or should my sister just start planning her exit strategy? She's not sure what she should do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My brother-in-law cheated, fucked up his family all to get his dick sucked by a whore. Can my sister recover from this? | My brother-in-law cheated, fucked up his family all to get his dick sucked by a whore. Can my sister recover from this? | 5,726 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by taking sleeping pills.
POST: This happened on Monday but nonetheless I'm not happy about it.
On Sunday I closed for the job I work at and I was out until about 12AM. After a 12 hour shift I was extremely exhausted. And so, once I got home from said job, I decided to take a shower and take some sleeping pills, and go to sleep. Not in that order. I took the pills first, not knowing what effect they would have on me.
I get into a nice hot shower and begin to feel very drowsy. About five minutes into the shower (and 15 minutes after taking the pills) I decided to just sit down in the shower and let the water wash over me for a while. No one else was home so I figured, why not? I don't remember much after that.
On Monday, I had another shift to work at 10AM. I woke up in the shower at 9:54 and realized my wrongdoing. I panicked and got to work as quick as possible, getting their six minutes after my shift was supposed to start. My boss was not happy at all, and I received a scolding despite it being my fourth day on the job. I nearly got fired but it's water under the bridge now. My manager found out what happened and actually laughed it off with me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | took sleeping pills before getting into a hot shower, fell asleep in the shower and was late for work the next day. | took sleeping pills before getting into a hot shower, fell asleep in the shower and was late for work the next day. | 3,848 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (34m) parents never disciplined my (31m) brother and now he's a psychopath
POST: I'm kind of at my wits end here.
My parents never disciplined my brother growing up. My father always thought it was "adorable" how he always tried to control everyone and my Mother never intervened
Now my brother is a 31 year old man and is a complete psychopath. He tries to control everyone by doing shit like moving things around the house to "force (usually me) to get exercise" or to "take responsibility" for shit, when there's nothing to have responsibility for.
Both him and I are disabled and I have literally no place else to go. I'm physically disabled and my parents are my IHSS workers, but they let my brother who is I guess you can say "more normal" that me, run rampart and do whatever he wants.
A few years ago my brother started popping pills and has become worse with anger; acting more crazy than he already was, but now he has this notion that he's gonna be president next year (I've posted about this before) and thinks people are constantly after him wanting him dead
Pretty much I don't feel safe in my house anymore and my parents refuse to do anything about it or do anything about him. I've asked them and told them it's not Fair to me because I have no where else to go, and as my IHSS workers and Parents, they should make my place of living as safe as possible.
I don't know what else to do. I don't want to contact IHSS and tell them my parents aren't making my living situation a safe environment but at the same time, I can't live like this much longer from someone who thinks I need to learn life lessons on a daily basis
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my brother is a controlling psychopath after no discipline as a child. Parents refuse to make my home where I'm physically disabled a better place and do something about him | my brother is a controlling psychopath after no discipline as a child. Parents refuse to make my home where I'm physically disabled a better place and do something about him | 4,843 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm[22M] falling for my friend's girlfriend while I slowly watch their relationship fall apart. Any advice?
POST: Almost a year ago, I went to visit my good friend who was away at school. There was a big party and I met this girl, and we hit it off. The only thing is, one of my best friends also hit it off with her. He had just gotten out of a really shitty relationship, and as much as I liked this girl, I let him have this one.
Fast-forward to about a month ago. I'm jobless and my dad is a dick, so he waited until I got laid off to kick me out. So now, I'm homeless and jobless at 22. Guess who takes me in? My friend and his girlfriend.
Now, I knew they were having issues, but I had no idea how fucked up and abusive my friend was being. He constantly treats her like she's second class, puts her down, completely disregards anything she has to say and when she sticks up for herself or argues back he has no problem getting physical. I would've never expected this type of bullshit from him, and he's never even come close to treating another human being like this, let alone a girlfriend
The worst part is, this girl is absolutely amazing. She has the sweetest smile and is probably the most kind, caring person in the fucking world. Over the coarse of their relationship, her and I became good friends and very close and I get to hear all of the bullshit my friend pulls. I get the 1 am Facebook messages saying how he wants to break up with her. The next morning its like nothing happened and I look like a jackass for sticking up for her.
I need advice Reddit, on what to say to them, and what to do in this situation. Any help would be appreciated
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I need advice on what to do as I'm falling for my friend's girlfriend while they're slowly falling apart, and I get a front row seat | I need advice on what to do as I'm falling for my friend's girlfriend while they're slowly falling apart, and I get a front row seat | 4,791 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend [23M] of 4 years just told me [22F] he's bisexual. I'm very confused and have some questions.
POST: I've always been a strong supporter of gay rights and have many gay friends, but now that it is happening on such a personal level, I find myself frustrated that I am having troubles coping. I'm hoping that learning more about this will help me figure it out.
He told me about a week ago. Our sex life and romantic lives have been stable, so I have no rational reason to believe our relationship is at risk, but there are still of these nagging fears in the back of my head. After he told me, I did a bad thing and went through his browser history. When I found gay and only gay porn for about the last 2 weeks, I got really upset and almost felt threatened in a way. Even if I have no reason to believe so, I feel like his attraction to women (i.e. me) might falter. My reasonable side tells me he is experimenting and learning about himself, but at the same time the absence of straight porn signals a lessening attraction to women in my head.
He has expressed no desire to fuck men or even try a relationship with one, but what's to stop those desires from happening in the future? My self esteem has plummeted and I don't feel nearly as sexually desirable as I did a week ago. My biggest end all fear is that two years from now he won't like women at all.
Does him being bisexual mean his attraction for women is less than if he was fully straight? How do I cope with that fact that he watches gay porn? Is this strictly gay porn situation just a phase as he figures things out?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend just came out as bisexual. I am having a lot of troubles coping, especially given the fact he doesn't watch straight porn anymore. | Boyfriend just came out as bisexual. I am having a lot of troubles coping, especially given the fact he doesn't watch straight porn anymore. | 1,735 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Sexless marriage (28/F) and incredibly horny (36/M). Advice please.
POST: I (36/M) have the sex drive of a rabbit. I'm horny all the time. For the last 2 years, my wife (28/F) has developed anxiety issues and also perceives our marriage as more of a friendship than lovers. We have sex maybe once every 2 months, and even then, its not a good time. Its like she feels like she's having to do it to make me happy and I just want her to want to have sex with me. We get along in every day life and we hang out and whatnot, but intimacy has dwindled to almost zero. She has pretty much checked out, sexually and has no desire to make things better in the bedroom. I do not want to cheat on my wife, but I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. Im incredibly horny every day, I dont want masturbate every day so I can function, and I really yearn to be intimate with a woman. Like even kissing and making out and making love would be awesome. What else is difficult is that I'm a fairly good-looking guy so getting women is not a problem. I really just want to have sex with my wife, even 3 times a week would be great. But she wants nothing to do with me and I've resorted to just watching porn and jerking off every day so I'm not an angry bear. I really hate the state of our marriage and intimacy and want no one else other than my wife, but she literally has no sex drive and I dont want to feel like I'm making her do anything she doesn't want to do. I kind of feel like she's not really contributing to this marriage, but I'd be an asshole if I went out and sought intimacy from another woman. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks
TL;DR: . Assistant: | She's never horny, has no sex drive. I'm always horny. Dont wanna cheat, but its becoming more difficult not seek intimacy elsewhere. | She's never horny, has no sex drive. I'm always horny. Dont wanna cheat, but its becoming more difficult not seek intimacy elsewhere. | 1,041 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hey Reddit, what are the silliest things you've gotten into an argument about?
POST: My Boss just sent me home because I was trying to clarify exactly what he wanted me to wipe down the tables with. Of course it didn't start out as an argument, but when I was attempting to double check what spray cleaner to use (so that I didn't ruin the finish or anything like that) he decided instead of flat out telling me to just continue to yell at me for the amount of times he had to ask me to wipe them down. I am a sensitive person (okay fine I'm totally a cry baby) and my eyes started to well up as I was attempting to defend myself/just figure out what solution to use so I could start wiping them down! No tears fell, and I've explained to him before that I'm an emotional person, that just because my eyes start to well up does not mean I don't have a hold on myself, my tear ducts routinely betray me! This made him even angrier and so now I have the afternoon off I guess.
I don't normally wipe the tables down, thats not in my job description, and I usually arrive after the morning shift completes the task, so I've never seen it done before. I'm assuming he was just stressed about something, but whoooo boy did he get mad at me!! I guess clarification questions are more inflammatory than I thought.
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TL;DR: . Assistant: | Clarification of Cleaning Solution escalates to Boss in a tizzy. (It was the Windex the whole time!!!) | Clarification of Cleaning Solution escalates to Boss in a tizzy. (It was the Windex the whole time!!!) | 1,322 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: 15M my girlfriend 14F ended it and I'm confused.
POST: Go ahead. I'm 15, I shouldn't be dating, blah blah blah, relationships come and go, blah blah blah. Whatever. I did. Me and this girl were EXTREMELY close for 2 years before I decided I wanted her and she felt the same. She ended it claiming she still likes me but enjoys being the best friends that we were more than being my girlfriend. You can say what you like, but I really and truly love this girl. I've talked to her, there's no getting it back. I am attracted to no one else. I think of her 24/7 and come up with some way something or some event correlates with her. Today, I saw a completely beautiful, gorgeous girl. She kinda smiled when we made eye contact, and I recognized her attractiveness. I processed it. But I didn't feel attracted to her at all. AT ALL. I literally only like my ex girlfriend and I'm scared by that. You're free to ridicule me now. Just keep in mind I'm an innocent, sensitive, sweet 15 year old. Seriously though, I'm not so sure I'm getting over her anytime soon at all. I'm significantly less happy than I was when we were dating, and I've been a complete ass to my friends for it. I just feel like crap, all around. I don't know. Help?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend broke up with me, says she still likes me but wants to be best friends as we were very close before dating. I'm attracted to no one else and I'm kinda hurt. | Girlfriend broke up with me, says she still likes me but wants to be best friends as we were very close before dating. I'm attracted to no one else and I'm kinda hurt. | 6,125 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] , and my grandma [65 F] have huge arguments about once a week so now I feel I can't tell her about my life
POST: Okay so I live with my grandma and my mom and step-dad and little half brother/sister live in another house (close by though)
the agument start out with me ether me trying to tell my grandma about a problome I have in my life and then
I getting annoyed at something she is saying then us talking about it back once or twice then her saying something inflammatory (something she knows will piss me off)
I tell her I am getting mad so lets stop talking and then she expresses anger too and I ask her why she is angry and the response is always something along the lines of because you told me your getting angry and all I did was ask a few questions.
Then we end up calling my mom who comes over and yells at me over what the oringal problom was saying the probloms my falt alone and it drills down into everyone just trying to hurt each other(including me witch I relize is wrong) and ends with me storming off to my bedroom
and I apologize the next day for the hurtful things I said
and never, EVER get and apology for the hurtful thing said to me.
Please give advice
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Grandma hates the idea of me feeling mad, EVER! and mom ignores the problome so I can't tell them anything anymore. | Grandma hates the idea of me feeling mad, EVER! and mom ignores the problome so I can't tell them anything anymore. | 5,609 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Redditors, have you ever gone had to go from being friendless to having a solid social life? How did you do it?
POST: Hey Reddit.
Like a lot of people on here, I'm introverted. We all have our social hang ups, mine particularly is that I have quite a bit of social anxiety and have trouble connecting with people in loud atmospheres, especially parties and bars. I don't have a lot of popular interests... I listen to hip hop and play video games, don't follow sports, and have a fucking hard time with social networking. It always seems that I end up as the odd person out when I'm with a group of people.
I've been in relationships all my life, but recently I've gone through a pretty devastating break-up. We're both to blame, but I want to get back together after 2 months apart but she doesn't. Most people might find the freedom awesome after a long relationship, but because we were so close and home bodied, I have no friends now, and it makes it so much worse missing someone.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm asking you, Reddit, what are your strategies for finding friends and holding on to them? No friends, no girl. How do people change their lives? | I'm asking you, Reddit, what are your strategies for finding friends and holding on to them? No friends, no girl. How do people change their lives? | 4,457 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: [22] and pregnant, what would you do?
POST: I'm a moderately high achieving community college student and president of a club.
I'm currently eligible for three AA degrees, my plan is to get my Bachelor's in zoology, then go to vet school.
/endbrag
All signs point to not having this baby right?
My boyfriend of four years is super supportive and really wants to have this baby. He said he would do everything he can so I don't have to stop going to school. However he said he would support me with whatever decision I make.
Currently I live with my parents, I expect to get kicked out which wouldn't be terrible I guess because my boyfriend and his family are moving up north closer to the school I want to transfer to.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm doing really good in school and I have a bright future, I don't want to give up on my lifelong dreams but I would also feel selfish having an abortion. | I'm doing really good in school and I have a bright future, I don't want to give up on my lifelong dreams but I would also feel selfish having an abortion. | 713 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Best way to admit feelings to a good friend?
POST: After reading many posts on the subject, I know I should just tell my friend my feelings and get it over with. But what is the best way to do this? Anyone ever been through this and can offer some advice? Or best way to mitigate hurt feelings?
Him and I have been friends for a couple years now, we have a lot of similar interests. A few months ago he broke up with his most recent boyfriend and we really reconnected as I helped him through it. Since then we've started hanging out a lot more often and even go on "dates" about every week or so. Although, they're under the guise of being just a platonic date. At some point I started realizing that I have feelings for him and I would really like to take our relationship to the next level.
We talk all the time now and play video games together almost every single day. He's started saying things about our "future" together and bringing up all sorts of things weve talked about in the past. Like having a business together and moving in together when his lease runs out etc. And he often sends me a message the second he gets out of work or wakes up (he works odd hours). So I feel like the feeling is mutual, especially since his behavior has really changed a lot from what he was like before. Although this past week he's been mentioning other guys that he thinks are hot or he could date. And I'm not sure if he's seeing if I'm jealous or if he's just not into me. And the last time we went on a "date" after my roommate teased us of dating, he mentioned that he didn't understand why two friends couldn't go on platonic dates together as we walked to my car. Although, I'm sure I've said somethings to make him think this is all just friendly etc.
Sorry for ranting but needed to type it out.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Seeing really good friend for dinner this weekend and want to tell him how I feel about him. Advice? Stories of personal experience? | Seeing really good friend for dinner this weekend and want to tell him how I feel about him. Advice? Stories of personal experience? | 5,050 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by sending my girlfriend a photo of a shirt
POST: So, this just happened two weeks ago, and I'm just now facing the shit-storm.
My girlfriend does wild land firefighting. Well, so needless to say we are in a short-term long distance relationship.
Back story: her and I have been friends for two years. We got together in March (Pi Day!), and she spent her vacation with me during spring break. Well, she and I had lots of sex and clothes were thrown everywhere.
Last week I was cleaning my room and I found a shirt at the foot of my bed, but inside the corner of the bed frame. So, I sent my girlfriend picture of said shirt and said, "You left this here." Well, she went home yesterday, and started looking through her stuff, and she had both shirts she had brought.
She sent me a text that said, "We need to talk." This is also known as, "The four words that make your buttcheeks clench." She calls me and tells me she has both shirts and has no idea whose shirt I have. I told her, "Well, that makes two of us." I honestly don't know.
I'm not fucking around on her. The last time I had sex was in December (more than likely this one's), and then there was that fooling around thing with that girl from work at the beginning of January, but no sex happened. I'm not fooling around on her, but I don't want her to feel like I am.
Her tone says she is going to let it go, but I'm not trying to give her a reason to doubt me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | sent my gf a picture of a shirt I found in an obscure place in my room, and now I think she doubts me. I am fucked. | sent my gf a picture of a shirt I found in an obscure place in my room, and now I think she doubts me. I am fucked. | 473 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What was the best "Dick Moment" you ever experienced in School?
POST: One time in High school just before graduation, there was a random announcement broadcasting that the school was on lockdown, but there was no reason given, and no indication of it being a drill (Literally just *click "attention, we're on lock down" *click*). I began to ask the teacher what was going on but in mid sentence the guy next to me says "Shut up n*gger" in a very icy tone. Not having it for a second, I promptly get up and leave the classroom in a semi-rage; unconsciously knocking over the chair I got out of (<- Key Element). The teacher comes out and asks if I'm okay. I reply that I am and say that I'm going down to the office to cool down. A little later while sitting down the assistant principal storms over to me and starts screaming bloody murder. I was caught off guard and reduced to a rubble in seconds. My tears turned to confusion when he repeated what he thought happened to me. According to him, I stood up, threw a chair at my class mate, flipped off the teacher, stormed out the class room and punched a locker. He also told me that I should "...stop using [my] autism as a crutch".
TL;DR: . Assistant: | After leaving a classroom in anger at a classmate for calling me the N word, the vice principal flips out at me for stuff I didn't do, while telling me that my legitimate autism is more or less an excuse. | After leaving a classroom in anger at a classmate for calling me the N word, the vice principal flips out at me for stuff I didn't do, while telling me that my legitimate autism is more or less an excuse. | 1,043 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [22/M] girlfriend [23/F] wants to break up because she doesn't want to have regrets
POST: Hi,
I apologize in advance for the formatting. I am on mobile.
My girlfriend of 4 1/2 years wants to break up because she is worried that we've been together too long and that we're too young. She says that she doesn't want to have regrets like her parents and end up like her mother (cheated on her dad because she was unhappy).
She said she is worried that she hasnt experienced enough in life to be tied down but she still loves me and I love her.
She says she is worried about life together because she doesn't know what to expect. She said she wants to focus on herself as well.
I really don't know what to do in this situation. She is literally the most important person in my life and I can't see myself with a future without her. We have been through so much together.
Would someone be able to help me? For such a long time I felt like life was a tunnel that I was walking through with her and now I feel like I'm alone in that tunnel and I have no idea what to do.
She has never done anything wrong to me and I haven't done anything wrong to her and all of this just feels so sudden. I was literally with her last night and slept over and everything was fine.
After our talk she said she wants to think about us.
How can I keep her? Obviously I'm not going to force her to stay in something she doesn't want to be in but I know we have a chance together. The only thing I've texted her since our talk is asking if she got home okay cause she was crying while we talked.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend of 4.5 years wants to break up because she's afraid she'll have life regrets about not trying things and ending up like her parents relationship (divorced) | Girlfriend of 4.5 years wants to break up because she's afraid she'll have life regrets about not trying things and ending up like her parents relationship (divorced) | 4,037 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (21F) think I've fallen out of love with my (22M) boyfriend.
POST: I'm not exactly sure what it is, but I don't feel very happy with him anymore.
The sex is great, we get along amazingly, and he's a pretty great boyfriend.
But recently I've just started losing interest. I'm not happy the way I was when things were beginning. We've been together for a little over 3 months, but we have known each other since 2013, we dated back then for a bit.
I've just begun questioning if I'm truly happy with him. I've finally just met his parents and currently his friends are at the house (I haven't met them yet) but I'm so sick that I am laying upstairs on the bedroom.
I need a little advice. I don't want to end it just because I *think* I'm unhappy. I truly love him, and I just don't know what to do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Think I might be losing interest in my boyfriend, but don't want to make a mistake and end it without truly realizing how I feel. | Think I might be losing interest in my boyfriend, but don't want to make a mistake and end it without truly realizing how I feel. | 3,690 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm stuck with what happened tonight. I don't know what to think. (This is all over the place, I'm sorry.)
POST: I'm 32/F he's 29/M, together 1 year friends for 2 before that off and on. My guy we'll call Luke and I went to our first pregnancy appointment today. I'm about 6 weeks. We've had a crazy day with his car not working right, supposed to be fixed but the hood flew up and crashed into the windshield while on the highway. Took it to his mechanic and we got another car to get home in.
On our way to my place there's this stray cat in the road and it darts back across the street in front of the car. Luke doesn't even brake or swerve to miss it. We've talked about moving in together but he doesn't want my cats to come along. He's never had indoor pets or much of pets while growing up. Cats have been my companions all my life. My first pregnancy 9 years ago I went it alone and because of where I was living I had to give up my cats then to have the baby, alone. I gave them up. It wasn't feasible then. So here we go again. He wants me to give them up because he doesn't want inside pets. My Harley has food allergies and is racking up lots of debt for me with health problems and expensive cat foods. Mallory can be obnoxious sometimes.
He lives with his parents has for 7 years now. I have my own apartment and bills and such. He's never had to be responsible or adult until now. He won't have a civilized conversation about keeping the baby or not. Is this really a good choice, what's the right answer? He says we can do it but the cats have to go. Even then he still wants to maintain two apartments. I get SSI Disability and am looking for work. He has a stable job. We need each other to do this right. But his lack of empathy tonight with the stray cat leaves me feeling scared of him.
Any advice? This is my first time having a partner to have a baby with but I feel like I'm doing all the sacrificing.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Bf and I are expecting and he wants me to get rid of my cats. Tonight he tried to hit a cat with his car. | Bf and I are expecting and he wants me to get rid of my cats. Tonight he tried to hit a cat with his car. | 417 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23/F] desperately need to leave my partner [26/M], but I have nowhere to go.
POST: I need to leave my partner of 4.5 years, but I don't know where to go.
Long story short... we are just two different people and want two different things out of life. We get along well enough as friends, but we have very little romantic, and no sexual (he was abusive) attraction between us. All we do is either ignore each other, or bicker over petty crap. A few days ago, he tried to grab a knife out of my hands because he didn't want me to make dinner for him. It is beyond toxic.
Unfortunately I am financially dependent on him, 100%. I cannot survive on my own. I have no education, no job, nothing to my name. I suffer from chronic depression and anxiety, and could not handle the stress of a full time job. It makes things very difficult.
My family is loving and supportive, but they barely have a sofa for me to sleep on. They are going through their own financial hardships, and I cannot burden them. I also have pets that need safe accommodation.
Where the hell do I go? I feel so trapped. My relationship is so destructive, and I know it needs to end, before I spiral even further down. But where do I go? Who do I turn to? I cannot even fathom starting to get my own **** together when I'm living with someone who, in part, put me in this situation. He is NOT supportive or uplifting at all, and if you've ever lived with depression, you know how much harder that makes everything. And it could take YEARS before I'm in a position to financially support myself.
I can't get out...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am depressed and stuck in a destructive, dead end relationship. I want out, but I have no money, nowhere to go, and no one to turn to for help. | I am depressed and stuck in a destructive, dead end relationship. I want out, but I have no money, nowhere to go, and no one to turn to for help. | 5,785 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Depressed girlfriend is unstable, I don't want to continue with the relationship but I think i'm hurting her, help?
POST: I am 26/m she is 26 we've been together for 3 weeks and we dated for like 4 months, met each other a couple of years ago.
Before we started dating seriously she told me she was taking an antipsychotic medication and an antidepressant for the treatment of guess what?... Depression! We've having a good time but I've been losing interest because her mood is increasingly bad and negative, I know it's due to depression but I don't want to be with her anymore, I'd like to keep being there for her, to support her but I don't want to keep going with this relationship.
Yesterday she got mad at me because she wanted me to pick her up from work and I refused because I was tired. Today she broke up with the through whatsapp (she completely overreacted), but I was kinda happy about it and tried to have a good day smoking weed and playing videogames but after a couple of hourse she texted me saying she regretted breaking up.
She tried to talk to me but I didn't answered any phone calls or text messages until she mentioned through one of them that she wasn't "feeling ok" so I called her immediately and she became very obsessive. For the last 2 hours I've been trying to persuade her from coming to my house but it's turning into a bad argument, she is saying "I'm not gonna hurt you", I don't know what to do, I think I've handled this quite bad and I want to do something about because it's my responsibility but I don't know exactly what I should do. Help!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Gf diagnosed with depression broke up with me, regrets it and wants to see me, I don't want to, she is being QUITE obsessive, I want to help her but don't know how. | Gf diagnosed with depression broke up with me, regrets it and wants to see me, I don't want to, she is being QUITE obsessive, I want to help her but don't know how. | 1,649 |
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