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SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] and my GF[20 F] don't know how to tell her parents we are in love and would like to move out
POST: Me and my girlfriend have been together for 5 years, part of those 5 years was long distance until I was finally able to go see her(4 hours away) every month to month and a half. We get along great, although we have different tastes we have a healthy relationship. We both respect each others independence, as well as have full trust and confidence in one another.
Her parents are rather strict and I respect that fully, they have shown me they like my company and they like that I make their daughter happy and respect her. Her mother has always been the harder one on us and recently she said to her, "I do not want you to marry him, he seems lazy to me, he will bring you down and keep you from the goals you have set for your life". Her father on the other hand thinks that I am a hard worker and extremely respectful(always asking for permission to take her out and come see her), he likes having me around and invites me all the time to hangout with him and her brothers.
These past two years have gone great as we are both in school and well I work I always make time to go see her and be there as long as possible whether it is holidays, birthdays, or surprise visits. We more recently have been planning to move out since we are transferring to the same university, we know her mom doesn't want her to go off with me because she thinks I will just keep my gf from accomplishing anything and we are not sure on her father.
Neither of us have any idea how to approach them about it, I do wanna be there when we bring it up I just don't know how they will take it.
TL;DR: | Me and my gf of 5 years are finally planning to move out, but with strict parents we both have 0 idea on how to approach them about it and how they would react. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: What's happening with this girl (16F) and I (16M)
POST: [Last Post](
So since last week I asked another girl to come on a date with me and she said yes. We had initially planned to go to panara for dinner but plans fell through and she had to work. We've since rescheduled for next weekend but that's not what this post is about. The original girl I asked out (lets call her Susan) told me that she wasn't ready to commit to a relationship because her ex that she was forced to leave due to distance keeps calling her baby and telling her that he love her through text. We still text every night but she told me right after that, that she wanted to be friends. I'm a very flirty person and she knows this so I continue to casually flirt with her. She on the other hand has been telling me that my ass looks nice in whatever pants I happen to be wearing. On Monday we had an extracurricular event to go to so when she saw me she of course came up and we hung out there for a bit. She told me through text while she was next to me (since she didn't want to say it out loud so the people next to us wouldn't hear her) that she decided not to wear underwear this morning. I was like dying to grab her ass after this but managed to restrain myself. Today she told me that she was gonna make me wear one of her thongs and proceeded to give me a list of colors that I could chose from. I saw her texting her ex today though so idk if she's changed her mind again and she decided that she does in fact want to be in a relationship with me or if she's just being a tease. Susan doesn't know anything about the other girl that I asked on a date.
TL;DR: | Girl that told me she just wants to be friends is still being very unusually flirty with me including telling me she's not wearing underwear and wanting me to wear her thongs... |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] do i breakup with my long distance [16 F] girlfriend or do I leave my family?
POST: I've been in this long distance relationship for about 2 years now I have never met the girl yet but we love each others, we text everyday from the moment we wake up to the moment we go to sleep, we sometimes have skype calls.
For me there is nothing wrong with the relationship, and I can surely endure the distance between me and her but the problem is that my parents are very religious, and they knew that i'm in love with a girl from another country and a very different culture.
Two weeks ago mom found a letter from my girlfriend that she sent to me telling me that she loves me and she have put a bracelet for me in the envelope, mom read the letter and showed it to my father, I had a conversation about it with my father and from the way he talked I could see that he wasn't comfortable with it but he just got some information from me and he didn't talk about it again.
Last Friday my parents knew that I failed in my university twice and they got really angry at me, my father now wants to control my whole life and makes me live the way he wants, and when I argued with him about that he started yelling at me and blaming me for failing and starting a relationship with a 'whore' and he started dissing on my friends.
"You have to obey my orders or you will have to get out of the house", I don't want to breakup with my girlfriend because my father told me to, and I don't want to leave my family because of that, but I have no choice... either my girlfriend or my parents.
please help me to take the right decision I really can't decide what to do... :(
TL;DR: | My parents will kick me out of the house if I don't breakup with my 2 years long distance girlfriend... I need a help to decide what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Making a commercial about my school, which I hate
POST: Throwaway, because, duh.
So, I hate my current school. It's a small co-op, and I recently switched here from my old school. BIG MISTAKE. None of my classmates or teachers know that I hate it this much, I don't even think at all.
Anyway, our school has to make a commercial about why new students should come for next year, and all students must partake. I really just want to scream "DON'T COME HERE, IT SUCKS!" into the camera, but I have a feeling that'd be frowned upon.
I don't know what to do for this assignment. I don't want to fail the assignment, but I don't want to tell lies about why it's so great either.
I tried thinking of things that I liked about the school, but honestly, I could not think of a single thing. *Please do not tell me to try harder, that kind of advice does NOT help.* I suppose that I could try to be the camera man, but I have a feeling that either:
A) Everybody else will want to be as well, and the teacher/supervisor will choose a child who has been attending longer than me, since they play favorites on the originals
or
B) We would have to take turns.
Since I don't know what day it is, playing sick really isn't an option as well. Deleting the footage also isn't a reasonable option, but *possibly* doable.
If I do manage to score a behind the scenes job, *which, once again, is doubtful,* my name would show in the credits, which I don't want for personal reasons. (Essentially, I don't want my old/current friends finding out that I go to this hellhole.)
Not sure what to do, and any advice is much appreciated. *(Well, man up/get over it isn't.)*
Thanks.
/u/UDontKnowMeProbably/
TL;DR: | Have to make a commercial for my terrible school that I hate in which participation is required (which will be aired on local TV) and essentially want to get out of it. (Yes, I know, bad explanation) |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: What(I am 19M) to do with Flirty girl(17F) who has a boyfriend(17M)?
POST: Hey r/dating_advice, sorry this is late but want to get my information directly after. Met a girl at my work in college, same tastes in music same general direction with life plans, same major and favorite language( We talk to each other in german frequently), and same twisted kind of sexual and not work appropriate sarcasm. All in all a great girl in my books, flirting back and forth at work for the past week or so, even asked me to go to a party with her and start grabbing frequent lunches outside of work today. While we are taking a 15 min break together, we are complementing each other on our looks and drinks of choice when she drops the "My boyfriend" card in the conversation. To make sure it wasn't a misslip of saying an ex I asked how her boyfriend likes her sexual sarcasm she has, she responded he is one of the few who can take it not seriously.
My question isn't the typical "how should I win her over her current boyfriend", I ain't that type of guy, as a guy who has had a girlfriend "stolen" from me I am not happy about home wreckers. My question is more should I continue my friendly nature to her, go out to lunch with her and to the party this weekend. From what I gathered her boyfriend is still back in highschool back in her hometown( about an hour and a half away) so for college students that would be long distance. How should I act towards her she is a really awesome person to be around still.
TL;DR: | Met a girl who is in long distance relationship, she is flirty and has asked me out to lunch and a party, I don't want to be a homewrecker, wondring how to proceed. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: [TX] Can a landlord auto-sign me up for insurance?
POST: 2 years ago, I moved down to TX from Louisville for a new job and have been sitting in an apartment all the while, trying to pay off bills / save for a house downpayment. The office staff of this apartment complex are generally horrible people to deal with, but the rent and area's nice, so here I am.
One of the new (for me) parts of living in this complex is they require being an 'Additional Interest' on my insurance forms. 2 years ago, while moving in, they "remembered" I either needed this form with their name on it on move-in day or I would have to sign up for their renters' insurance (which was a poor policy and made no sense since I already had renters' insurance). That's kinda shady, but my insurance agent is awesome and sends them the necessary forms within the 2 hours before they close so I don't have to pay the monthly dues (or, the alternative they advised: sleep in my car until I could provide the forms).
Whatever, right? I need forms to play by the rules. 2 years pass and I've renewed my annual renters' insurance twice since, but now I get a note on my door Friday evening saying that I have until Monday morning to show evidence of insurance that lists them as an "Additional Interest" again, otherwise they're going to automatically sign me up for their BS insurance.
I raise a stink, try to argue they should've sent me an e-mail prior to Friday evening (they have on multiple occasions before), try to give them a copy of my policy until my agent can get the evidence of insurance to them (which they refused to accept), try to get more time since I'm not sure if my agent's able to pull the forms together over the weekend. However he does it (thank goodness he's a close friend who we can reach on the weekends), I submit the forms etc....
I know I'm not really entitled to recourse because I got the forms in in time. However, I wanted to see how legal this whole thing was. It really sounded like they wanted to catch me unaware so they could add $9/month onto my rent.
TL;DR: | Landlord gives me 1 business day to prove I have insurance. If I don't, they sign me up under their coverage and tack on $9/month to rent. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [Update] Me [26F] with 25M, 8 months, I stupidly snooped
POST: [Original](
2 hours later - he called me and he asked if something was bothering me so I spilled it out again and said I was still thinking about the deleted text messages and what he said about temptations to cheat.
I asked him point blank if he'd ever spoken on the phone with her and he said yes, as he was coming home from work one day. I then asked him how long they'd been talking and he said a couple of days at most. This doesn't make any sense as the photo he showed me of the girl he showed his friends, asking if they knew her, wasn't in the original set of text messages I looked at that went back to last Tuesday, which means she didn't send him that photo, which means his story about some random girl hitting him up doesn't make any sense.
I then asked him if he'd met up with her in person or if they'd made plans and he said no. He said she wanted to teach him how to fish and he said "one day" but that was it. I can't confirm this from the messages, there were a lot, I don't remember that part. Still, I saw the message where he asked her if meeting after 3pm would work for her, and if he should go to [name of city here].
We talked for awhile and got nowhere. He then brought up the idea of taking a break and I accepted it. We're going to exchange each others valuables, like musical instruments that I have of his and etc. tomorrow, and then NC for a week. Exchanging items was my idea. I'm going to use this time away to see how I feel (happier? He's somewhat bitter and can be really negative) and if I want to continue the relationship or not.
A part of me wants what I saw in his phone and what he told me today to be enough to end it. Another part of me wants it all to be rubbish and that I'm being silly. I honestly just need a good kick in the pants. Am I doing the right thing with the break?
TL;DR: | Talked to BF I suspect of cheating. Didn't admit to it, but his details don't match up and I'm concerned. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [20m] gf [20f] has a friend [20m] who has liked her for years and has continually asked her for pictures of her feet (in a sexual manner obviously) and she recently told me she caved in and sent them and now I'm mad at the friend
POST: First things first, it's known in our group of friends that this mutual friend has 'liked' my girlfriend for years, before we started going out. During the course of our relationship he has asked her numerous times and each time I have told him respectfully and sternly to stop. Recently, they had an argument and to make a long story short he made up some sob story to make her feel bad and asked again, resulting in her caving in and sending him one. Maybe I'm overreacting but I am furious at him as it shows he has no respect for either of us in my eyes. My gf doesn't want me talking to him about it and I respect her enough not to. Yet. I don't know if he saved the picture or not as it was over snapchat but any advice on how I can make sure he stops would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: | Friend continually asked for pics of gf's feet after being told no by both of us, she gave in and now I'm mad at him |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [21 M] girlfriend [21 F] has been texting a guy everyday and they are #1 friends on Snapchat
POST: Me and my girlfriend of 1 year have had a great steady relationship. However, recently, she has started texting a guy every day she met from work, and I've never read any of these conversations even though she says I can.. Every time I say can I read them she asks me why and tells me I should trust her. She even has him number 1 on snapchat, they've snapped each other for over 10 days in a row. I've also never seen her snap him, or him snap her.
Should I be worried?
She told me she doesn't like when I read her convos because she's afraid I won't understand if he's being flirty and she doesn't turn him down.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend talking to a guy she met from work every day, they are number one friends on Snapchat and have snapped for over 10 days in a row. |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Anybody else not even think about taking "before" pics?
POST: So I'm down 15 pounds now and gained a fair amount of my muscle back. I have no real frame of reference though aside from my weight and I guess how clothes fit. It started with my mom buying me a treadmill. I set up a TV in front of it and just started walking while watching shows. I figured I might as well be productive when watching something I would be watching anyways. Then I found out I was going to Japan and I started working out hard as I knew I would hike like crazy. I hiked a LOT in Japan, going everywhere with my 40+ pound backpack. Now I've come back and I realize I've lost 15 pounds so far, and sure my pants are falling down, but I still look in the mirror and see my flabby stomach, and it's a bit gut wrenching as I have nothing to directly compare it to. Oh well.
TL;DR: | Just a small rant about how I had no foresight in taking before pics as they can be a great motivation tool. |
SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Petting our newly adopted cat, when suddenly...
POST: ... she poops on me!
Not much, about the size of a nickel. But this isn't the first time. She did the same thing in the bed a few mornings ago.
Both times this has happened, she was being particularly affectionate, and was kneading. She does this thing while kneading in our laps where she tries to put her butt flush against us. Every now and then, while petting her, you catch a distinct whiff of cat poop. At first, I thought it was a fart, but I think it may be her butthole relaxing to the point where you can smell the turd on deck. She has pooped in the actual litter box, but only every other day. We've only had her a week, and this is the 2nd nugget she's dropped while being pet. Again, it's not much, so I don't think it's middeling behavior, or whatever, but I'm no expert.
Now here's my theory...
After googling every possible combination of "cat + pooped + on me + while kneading + being pet", I could think of, I found this one interesting article talking about how mother cats teach kittens how to relieve themselves by coaxing it out of them (licking the butt, I guess). There's a very good chance our little girl was separated from her mother earlier than the ideal, but she's 2 years old now, and lived with another family for 2 years. Kneading is apparently a very primal behavior, often indicative of cats separated too early -- and the pooping is happening while she's kneading.
So, I guess what I'm asking is -- Am I coaxing poop out of my cat by petting her? Has anyone else ever experienced this? How can I stop this?
TL;DR: | Sometimes while being pet, cat poops a little nugget. What is this, and how do I stop it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Help getting my wife and I on the same page financially.
POST: Over the last few years we have gone in and out of a fair amount of debt. The short term debt's have included cars, personal loans, credit cards and the long term has been student loans and mortgage.
I am working and my wife stays at home to raise our child. I do have a good income, but we both have been in the habit of looking at our finances as a paycheck to paycheck thing.
We have little to no savings, so any sort of emergency has gone on our credit cards. We have both been guilty of over spending and then just throwing another 50 or 75 dollar purchase on the credit cards when the cash is gone.
This has been a major source of stress for me and I am desperate to rectify the situation. In the last month, which I know is a very short period of time, I have pulled a lot of my unneeded spending back to try and help get things going in the right direction. It seems that this has just given her "more" money to spend.
I have talked to her and tried to explain as best I can to get her on the same page but nothing seems to work. I'm not saying its her fault that we are where we are financially, it has taken us both of us to get here, it just seems she has no desire to leave and get on the right path.
TL;DR: | Are there any online resources or books relating to this subject, so my wife and I can get on the right track together? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Fiance's family declining wedding invitation - how do I support him?
POST: My fiance [27M] and I [26F] are getting married later this year, and we've recently found out that both his sister [34F] and his dad [50?M] have both declined the invitation. I should immediately mention that we live in another country to where his family are from, but have outright offered to pay for their flights and accommodation whilst here.
He is not particularly close to his dad, and I can somewhat understand him declining as he has a job and family to support. His sister, however, has conjured up a tale of passport issues which I know to be outright lies (she claimed that she paid for her passport application, sent off all the details and that she would be called in to have her photos taken, which I know is not how it works). She doesn't work, has no dependents, but effectively brought up my fiance as his mother was AWOL during his childhood. She also got a save the date well over a year before the date of the wedding.
The result is that my fiance is pretty devastated - he would literally do anything to have his sister there. I'm not sure there is much I can do other than support him, but I am not sure I can face having his sister in my life at all with how she is lying to him. He has pretty bad rejection issues as it is with the situation with his parents, but I am terrified of the potential consequences of this. Should I intervene and make contact with her?
TL;DR: | Fiance's sister declined foreign wedding invitation despite the offer of it being fully paid for, lied and claimed passport was rejected. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My dad is cheating on my mom for the second time and she doesn't know about it. How do we go about this?
POST: About a year ago, my parents started acting a bit strange and a little distant from each other and my brother and I. I don't want to get into too many details but basically, my mom and dad came to my brother and I and my dad confessed that he had been unfaithful to my mother. They had talked about this between themselves and decided to tell us and bring the whole family up to speed. It caused a pretty big change in all of our lives and especially between my mom and dad. They got into frequent spats about it and both of them were having a pretty hard time with it. My dad promised that he wouldn't do it again and pleaded with my mom to not divorce and such, and claimed that they could make it work.
They can't really afford to split up, as neither of them really make enough to support themselves completely and I'm living here in the house temporarily as well. They went to marriage counseling and my dad had many meetups with various friends and community members to help him out.
Fast forward about a year, and I think he's becoming a bit too comfortable. Without the needless details, my brother tried to go to his email on my dad's computer and inadvertently saw an email that was auto logged on that was not his normal email. It was an email with a fake name with many responses and requests to Craigslist singles and "FWB" ads and pictures sent to other women with pictures of him, asking for pictures of them. It was definitely him and he is definitely looking to cheat again (He probably already has, we didn't read too far in). There are also various singles websites and hookup profiles with this fake name he created.
How do my brother and I go about bringing this up to my parents? If my mom knows, she will most likely get a divorce, and neither of them can afford that.
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TL;DR: | Dad cheated on my mom and is now doing it for a second time a year later under a fake name on singles sites. What do I do?) |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18m] can't convince my Gf [18f] that she doesn't need drugs to improve her appearance.
POST: My[18M] Gf [18F] of 8 months has recently started taking the drug adderall behind my back, to potentially lose weight. I immediately noticed the change in mood and attitude towards me and others due to the lack of sleep, which I've been told is a side effect. I confronted her with my concerns and asked her if she was hiding anything. I was assured by her that there was nothing going on and that she was just having a long week.
She must have felt guilty because she came clean to me about it a few days later and told me she would no longer take the drug. I was immediately concerned because her older sister[21F] also takes adderall to lose weight and has become addicted.
My Gf is not overweight by any means, she is athletic, runs daily, and plays soccer. She cannot lose much more weight without being unhealthy, however today she told me she was going to start taking adderall again to lose weight. I've tried explaining to her she doesn't need to lose weight and I've expressed my worries of addiction. It didn't change her mind.
Reddit, what do I say to prevent her from hurting herself or becoming addicted? Or is she need of professional help?
TL;DR: | Gf is taking drugs to lose weight and I'm worried she may become addicted. Need advice on how to prevent this. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19f] accidentally followed my boyfriend's [18m] ex [18f] on twitter. She's noticed. He hasn't.
POST: A few weeks ago I was on twitter and saw that my boyfriend retweeted something from his ex girlfriend. I've never met her (we're at college across the country from his home) and I ended up clicking on her page and looking through a few tweets I guess. I am pretty sure they ended on good terms when they both left for school.
A few days later I'm scrolling through my feed and I notice a tweet from her show up. I kind of freaked out and unfollowed as quickly as possible. I was already super embarrassed as it was. Later I see that her twitter is now private and I'm pretty sure she's blocked me, so she definitely noticed and felt weird about it (which I don't blame her for, this is so uncomfortable) I feel really weird about this and don't know whether I should tell my boyfriend in case his ex girlfriend talks to him about it or mentions it to her friends and they say something to him. I could obviously wait and see if he would bring it up to me if he finds out and explain the truth, but I don't want to feel like I'm hiding something... what's the right course of action here?
TL;DR: | Accidentally followed bf's ex gf. She blocked me and made account private. Do I tell him or wait and see if it catches up to me? |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: (US) Digging out of a hole, considering personal loan
POST: Here's my situation:
Yearly income: $95k
Monthly household (rent+Utilities): $1650
Total debt: $20k (including some back rent, credit cards, medical bills, and a repossession)
I financed a car a few years back and it got repossessed when I lost my job. I had a number of out-of-pocket medical expenses (my then wife and I both had a number of issues) that kept me from paying on any debt.
...Then my wife left me this year. I wound up basically draining what savings we had on filing, getting her moved out, deposits on a new place, etc. I agreed to that rather than some fight. All the while, I was working on paying off a number of credit cards and hospital bills she had.
Long story short, I didn't budget (that's getting fixed this year), and I wound up getting behind on rent, almost 2 months behind. I've floated a payday loan as well as a title loan on my current car.
I know that if I budget properly, I could totally pay everything off this year. But, what concerns me is that because of the lack of budgeting up to this point, I have been living paycheck-to-paycheck. I've basically been treading water, paying enough to not go past 2 months behind on my rent, and I haven't really been able to start paying out of that deficit (I'm about $2k short right now on that).
Here's my thought: I wanted to try and get a personal loan to get caught up on my rent, pay off my title/payday loans, and start putting the money that I am using in interest/fees towards paying down the other debt. The only thing is, since my credit basically stinks, I don't know what my options are for actually getting the approximately $5k loan that I would need.
Do I have any options? My income is really good, and if I could just get these couple of things back on track, I feel like I'd be a lot more capable of paying everything down quicker.
TL;DR: | Good income, past lack of budgeting, behind on rent, considering personal loan to get caught up on rent. What do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 M] with my live-in boyfriend [21 M] of 3 years, wants to move out to try living on his own.
POST: Hi all,
The boyfriend and I have been living together for 2 years out of our 3 year relationship. We dated long-distance for the first year as he was finishing up community college, was living with his parents at the time. After he graduated he move in immediately as we had both talked about and were very happy.
Over the last year he has mentioned on several occasions that he feels like he never got a chance to prove his self worth and independence by living on his own. A few days ago he asked me if I support his decision on moving out so that he can prove to himself that he can make it in the real world. I have already tried supporting him being more independent in our relationship but he has said its not enough and that he wants to see if he has it to "sink or swim" while living on his own
At the same time he mentioned to me that this decision is causing him great heartache as he doesn't want to lose me. He wants to stay in our committed relationship and definitely would want me to move in with him after a year or so.
I love him, and I want to stay with him, but I feel like moving out after moving in is a step in the wrong direction.
What do I do?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend and I are living together, he wants to move out to try living on his own but I think its a step in the wrong direction for a relationship. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [20/m] I can't seem to forget a crush [20/f]...
POST: I didn't exist to her during early high-school..We became good friends in the last two years. We haven't talked in ages. I randomly asked her to be my valentine after my 19th Birthday(she's never had one and is absolutely gorgeous) At first she seemed flattered, then I suppose got a bit nervous / questioning what "this" meant and that she was VERY surprised e.t.c you get the picture.
We ended up going out, I told her not to worry about all that It's no biggie, just some fun! I didn't want to harass her. After, she texts me saying she had an amazing time.It wasn't an awkward date. We talked for ages and had dinner and went home!
Insert confused me. I decided to leave it at just friends, I didn't feel that making a move towards more then friends was possible. We haven't spoken, except randomly bumping into each other out and shy hugs and exchanging of pleasantries. (She seemed visibly nervous/anxious) I tried small talk on Facebook to some normal conversations but she'd suddenly not reply so I stopped.
I still think about her ALOT. I have no idea why. I've slept with other girls, hooked up. Still always wonder about her? I've never had a serious relationship. I would say I'm (kinda) mature for my age.
I'm going to a 21'st tomorrow and she'll be there. Safe to say I'm nervous as fuck. 1) I'm working so I'll turn up late and might not even get to say hello
2) I'm picturing the expectations vs reality scene in 500 days of summer.
There has always been subtle hints with us, marriage pacts (albeit a while ago and most likely brought up by myself), being called attractive, saying she would've wanted me to ask her sooner... I could very well be reading WAY to deep into this.
TL;DR: | Highschool crush with a bit of history, can't stop thinking about her..the thought of even being with her brought me out of a slump and inspires me to want to somehow win her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21/M] just broke up with my girlfriend [21/F] of 5 years due to a cheating incident with my best friend
POST: It was my 21st birthday party. At the end of bar hopping my best friend (21/M) and girlfriend (21/F) came back to my house. We hung out for a little when I decided I wanted to go to bed after a long night out. I went to bed while my bestfriend and gf stayed up. They fucked and I was informed by my gf when I woke up. Later by my friend via text.
I'm an absolute wreck. I just lost my two best friends. I can't sleep or eat. This...I don't know how to handle this. I can't talk to her. Five year's on the 4th of July. A fifth of my life. Gone just like that. I told her we are over and packed all her stuff and told her that she should pick her stuff up at 12pm tomorrow and that I won't be seeing or talking to her. I'm trying to be emotionless and mature. My family is devastated and I can't stomach telling them why it's over and they want to know so bad and are very persistent. I told my father in confidence but....I just don't know what to do or what's real anymore.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend of 5 years cheated on me with my best friend after I fell asleep after my 21st birthday party and I don't know how to handle it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (30F) want to tell my ex (27M) that I'm seeing someone new. How do I do that without him being hurt?
POST: My ex and I were together for almost eight years. We broke up a little over three months ago. It was mutual, amicable, and we still remain friends but with fairly low contact.
I've recently started seeing someone else (not quite relationship-status, but definitely the potential for one). My ex knows that I've been dating, and he's cool with it, but he doesn't know that I've been getting relatively serious with someone.
My birthday is coming up, and I'm throwing a huge party. My new guy is coming as my plus one, and is really excited to meet all of my friends. The problem is that my ex will also be there. I don't want him to walk into the party and be blindsided by me making out with or dancing with or hanging all over with some dude. I just don't want him to be caught by surprise.
How do I go about telling him that I'm seeing someone else? Should I even bother? What do you guys think?
TL;DR: | I'm dating someone new and don't want my ex to find out by accident and be hurt. How do I tell him?* |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I [19F] get over my bf [23M] without losing him as a friend?
POST: So when I started seeing this guy it was only for the sex; I knew he would be graduating soon and I was kind of in to him. But we really hit it off and started something a little more serious.
I regret this now, but I kind of neglected my other friendships to be with him so I don't really have many other people to talk to. And then, for the last 4 months or so I needed a place to stay and he offered his place.Since it was summer break and we really didn't have any other commitments we were more or less joined at the hip. I never went more than a few hours without him.
I never told him I loved him because by the time I figured it out there were only a few months left before he left and it wasn't really a relationship I was interested in pursuing long-distance.
But now that he's gone I don't know what to do with myself. I feel like I can't go through my normal breakup procedure of telling myself all the reasons that the guy was bad for me and how much better I can do because... nothing really ever went wrong in our relationship. It was perfect. We didn't have big fights, we were always happy, we went on incredible trips together, but it just had to end due to distance.
The problem is I still love him so much, I think about him every day, I struggle even sleeping alone. I still talk to him and we play games together online--he's still my best friend, but I obsess about him. I know it's unhealthy but I have no idea how to stop without cutting my best friend out of my life.
TL;DR: | had to leave my bf because of distance, he's one of my only friends and I don't know how to get over him without losing that |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should i be afraid of my girlfriend?
POST: Hello, i'm a boy, 21, and i'm dating a girl of the same age, and she's really nice. She said that love me with a few weeks that we've been dating. The problem is that she have a long past. Her ex-boyfriends are what i call strange guys, like crazy long-haired satanists, tattooed jiu-jitsus fighters, guitar players of amateurs bands and recently she said to me that, if she wasn't dating me she could probably be dating a skin head. I'm just a normal guy. I think that i have a good appearence, but it's not the problem. I just think that i'm jus too normal, too "good person" to her.
TL;DR: | We've bee dating 2 months, but these things makes me feel a little insecure. Should i be carefull to not be hurted by her in the future? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: [Vent][Help] Got yelled at for someone else's untrained dog. What can I do?
POST: Last week I posted a question about getting my puppy to walk in the city. I've been taking the advice I was given and getting my pup to sit every time a car goes by so that he gets used to traffic and such.
This morning I took my pup out for a walk, and there happened to be quite a few cars coming by, so I got him to sit and stay until they had passed. Well apparently the house **across the street** from where we were sitting has a dog that cannot handle seeing other dogs near its house.
The owner of this dog comes out of her house and yells to me from across the street that I should not have my dog sit in front of her house because her dog is reacting to my dog and ripping up her curtains. She says to make sure if I'm ever in that neighbourhood that I not "do that" in front of her house ever again.
I didn't know what to say, so I just said okay, but as I was walking away I started to get really angry. Why should I sacrifice my puppy's training to appease her and her bad dog?
Now I'm not sure what to do. This house is very close to my house and we end up walking past it pretty much every time we go for a walk. What happens if there happens to be cars passing by when we're passing by? Do I risk getting yelled at again or do I stop training for a few minutes until we are out of sight from that dog?
TL;DR: | Lady yelled at me for having my puppy sit across the street from her house due to her reactive dog. Do I risk getting yelled at again or do I stop training my pup when walking past her house in the future? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by getting drunk on Thanksgiving
POST: It's still Thanksgiving in the US.
But now I've woken up from something shameful. I'm studying abroad, and yesterday (Thanksgiving) our abroad group had no classes and a group potluck feast. I got up bright and early to start preparing, also started drinking. Long story short, I passed out two hours before the feast and woke up two and a half hours after it started. I sat up in bed shouting "shit, shit, shit," fretted for a few minutes, resolved to go anyway. I managed to cook half of the green beans before I passed out, so I brought them, and a bottle of sake too. I was still drunk and everyone could tell. I sat in the corner pigging out, ashamed of myself, consoled by my drunk friends and by the free beer.
TL;DR: | Drank too early, too quickly, arrived two and a half hours late to school sponsored thanksgiving, sauced and sour, with half a tray of green beans and a bottle of sake. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me 24m dating a single 25f mom 3 months in
POST: Iv been dating my girlfriend for about 3 months now. She has a son who has just turned 2 this past December. Her last relationship which was with the biological father ended horribly. She was cheated on and he was both physically and mentally abusive. She has complete custody over her son. After about 2 months I finally decided I was ready to meet her son. She has the usual worries that I guess come with this type of thing.
Things like, am I good with kids, how will I react to being a role model in a child's life who isn't my own. Also. She's worried that her son is mixed and I will have issues there. I'm pretty safe to assume children of all races tend to act the same. A two year olds a two year old. Race isn't really a deterrence for me. I generally don't date others for reasons I'm not honestly sure. Its just not my thing. I'm by no means racist. To each their own.
The only issue I'm having a hard time with. Is even though her ex treated her like this. She wants him to be in her sons life. Which I'm not sure I could handle that.. I know it's not really my place but.. He's abusive. Drinks. And his family is racist. My gfs family was not allowed to her baby shower because of their color. If things progress well, which they are other than this topic, I'm not sure her ex being around is a great idea.
TL;DR: | gf wants abusive ex around her, me, and her son but im not comfortable with it. What to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [21 F] husband's [22 M] birthday lands on Valentine's day and I don't know how to emphasize his birthday rather than the holiday.
POST: Like the title says, my husband's birthday lands on Valentine's day. At face value that sounds cool, but he absolutely hates it. His mom scheduled her C-section specifically for that day (I don't understand why). As a kid, his parents always put Valentine's day dates before his birthday (even forgetting his birthday completely once or twice) and while other kids had special birthday privileges at school, his was always forgotten and overshadowed by the holiday. He always felt that he didn't deserve to celebrate his birthday.
Now that we're adults I very much want to show him that his birthday is far more special than Valentine's day, but it can be difficult. In years prior I opted for buying a Valentine's day card and a birthday card, but I don't want to double up on everything.
TL;DR: | What are some ways or activities that you find are special for Valentine's day or that I could use to focus more on his birthday? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M22] moved in with my gf [F24] and now we're having problems.
POST: So I love my girlfriend let's call her Stacy. Stacy and I have been together for about 4 months. When we first got together we were super happy and joking with each other all the time. I was living with a friend. She would come over and hang out with me all the time after she got off of work and stayed with me for days at a time. I didn't have a vehicle and she was helping me out by getting me to and from work and sometimes let me borrow her car.
The friend I was living with turned out to be a shitty friend and only wanted me around because I was paying him rent. Treating me like a tenant instead of a friend. I was stressed out by it all. Eventually Stacy's mom offered for me to move in with them and help out and help me put myself together.
Stacy hates being home with her mom and grandmother thus why she was hanging out with me all of the time. She's at a point in her life to where she needs help putting herself together as well which is why she's living with them.
Recently Stacy's car shut down so I sprung into action and got a vehicle. Now all the roles are reversed. She's used to being independent and doing things on her own which she likes to do. Now she's feeling like she's giving up control of her life to me. We've been both stressed out and barely talk to each other most days and it's bumming me out because I miss how things used to be. I feel like I've been added to the chaos of her life and I brought up getting an apartment to her yesterday so she'd have a place to go when she's stressed.
We argued for a few hours about how she felt like I was giving up on us. I only brought it up because she doesn't like being home. I ended the argument by saying that I'll stay and we'll figure out how to help her cope with these new changes and go from there. I just miss how we used to be when we had fun together.
TL;DR: | left my friends house because of stress, moved in with gf, and now things are more stressful on us. I want the way we used to be back. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [25 F] really want a baby with my [26 M] husband, when is the appropriate time to bring up the conversation?
POST: My husband and I have been married for six years now. We worked, went to school, husband has recently graduated with a bachelors degree this past June and just received his dream job.
I am going to school full time and am looking to transfer to a four year institution next fall.
Now, I have always wanted babies since we have been married. But we were very young and decided to wait. The plan was to wait until my husband graduated from school and then we would discuss it further.
He graduated and we decided that we would try when he got a job. Yay! A month after graduation, he got his dream job. Now he wants to wait until I finish school. I was heartbroken. He had changed his mind and I was so looking forward to trying.
We moved closer to his new job and I met with a counselor at a community college today to see how many more classes I need to transfer. I don't need much more and I can transfer by next fall.
I want to bring the conversation up again simply because I feel it needs to be discussed further. Only issue is, he works M-F and he is extremely exhausted and tired from his workday. He also is stressed out so I feel bringing it up during the week would be insensitive of me to add more onto his plate. But this is really weighing on my mind. Should I just bring it up because it is eating away at me or wait until the weekend?
TL;DR: | Husband and I want children, we decided on a timeframe, he changed his mind and wants to wait a few more years. I want to bring up the conversation again but not entirely sure how to. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Why is it that everyone assumes that my girlfriend(18f) and I(30m) are together for the wrong reasons?
POST: A little background 1st. For the longest time, i have actively avoided getting into a serious relationship. I have purposely kept things nice and breezy. A few months back, I found out that i had a 14 year old son, and that i needed to take over raising him. I did.
This didnt effect my dating life much. I still went out to bars, and clubs, still met women, still tried to keep things loose. The women ive always been attracted to have always been a bit on the younger side, but nothing illegal. My married friends, and friends with girlfriends have always poked fun at my choices in women, and i always just chocked it up to jealousy.
A few weeks ago, i met a beautiful girl at a bar. lets call her Ally. Ally was everything that i look for in a companion, and we hit it off in a major way. Something about Ally is different than the rest of the girls. In just a couple of weeks, there were no other girls, only Ally. The kicker, is that Ally is 18. A friend got her into the bar, and she graduated about a week after i met her.
I care about her alot, and I know she cares about me alot too. My friends and parents dont seem to understand. My father(who i respect more than anyone in the world), thinks that she is only dating me because i can take care of her, which is the consensus of everyone else. They also think that i cant possibly care about a girl so young for the right reasons either. My son, is the only person who has had anything good to say about the whole thing.
I know that these peoples opinions dont really matter in the end, I am just looking for some outside wisdom.
TL;DR: | I am a 30 year old man, with an 18 year old girlfriend, and everyone I know is giving me shit for it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by 'tricking' my girlfriend into thinking I got her flowers when I got her something else.
POST: I feel really fucking stupid right now and I'm going to disappoint her.
Okay, let's begin..
My girlfriend and I have quite a hard relationship. We don't live overly close to each other and even then the visits we have are just..awkward. I haven't seen her in months.
About 2 months ago, my girlfriend asked for flowers. I promised her I'd get them for her, But to be honest I have no source of income (I'm 16) except what is in my bank (Which I can't withdraw until I'm eighteen) except for the £15 a week I get for being in care, which has had to go on clothes and essentials.
Today, I saw something she'd REALLY like. An Iron Man USB drive. She REALLY likes Marvel, DC, all that shizzle, so I thought 'Hey, I'll get it for her!' I scraped up some money and bought it off amazon, shipped to her house. I then swore to myself I'd try and get her flowers ASAP.
I then messaged her telling her I'd gotten her a gift. What I said was
"Right I got you something small, there's more to come trust me, I also hadvent' forgotten about the flowers ;) (But thats not it...yet)...I love you x"
Now I think about it, she probably now thinks I have gotten her flowers instead of the Iron Man USB drive.
Maybe I'm just overreacting a bit (probably) But I don't really want to disappoint her.
Shit.
TL;DR: | Told my girl she'd be getting some cool things, she probably thinks its flowers because that what she likes the most in the world, and Instead I got her something else. here comes some disappointment. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I [29M] convince my newly engaged fiance [29F] to agree on financial planning and outlook on money?
POST: Since we've been engaged for a little over a month now(been together for 8 years prior), we often talk and daydream about buying a house, having kids, and settling down in the city of our choice. Last week I told her we should sit down and realistically set our future goals as a married couple and future family.
She was taken a back and got a bit defensive over the idea of combining our income. She's afraid that I'll micro manage her spending, gawk at her debt, and strip her independence. I keep telling her that managing her spending is not the issue, and that the point is to plan our future and be prepared for buying a house, having kids, and saving for retirement. She has reluctantly agreed BUT I want her to be 100% on board and realize that this is in the best interest of both of us and our future.
The subject of money has always been a touchy subject mainly because of our upbringings. My family isn't rich but a pretty well off middle class family. My parents paid for my college tuition and living expenses throughout my school years. My mother is an accountant and very shrewd with money. Her parents live paycheck to paycheck and my fiance had to support herself throughout college with student loans. Her parents aren't very money savvy and are quite impulsive with money. We both inherited our money habits from our parents and it's touchy to bring up and say "well your parents are rich and spoil you" or "well don't be like your parents and live paycheck to paycheck." It's like a serious Yo mama insult.
I already know that money issues are the #1 reason for divorce and I'm not getting married until we see eye to eye on money. But how do I get her on board and comfortable with the idea of financial planning without having her feel attacked?
TL;DR: | Newly engaged fiance(GF of 8 years) is hesitant about financial planning, how can I make her comfortable with the process? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (16F) BF (18M) is going to university halfway across the country in the fall. I need some help.
POST: We started dating almost three years ago, although we broke up last February and got back together again in December. This is both of our first real relationships, and we are very committed. We are a Christian couple, and he has done a lot of good in my life in many respects. After we broke up, it took us a few months, but we did manage to become friends again (it was a really small school). We worked through all the issues we had, and things have been going really well for us. He graduates high school this year, but I still have a couple years to go.
Being young with that kind of age gap is hard, and some people might think it's ridiculous and childish, but we want to make the long distance work. We do talk about getting married someday, but right now we're trying to focus on the next few months. We know it's going to be really hard, but we have a really great relationship, and I don't want to see it going downhill anytime soon. What are some things things that we could do to make this work?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend is moving three provinces away in the fall, looking for some tips on keeping the relationship as amazing as it is. We are willing to go the distance to make long distance work. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by telling the girl I like that she belongs on her knees
POST: First things first, a little knowledge of the seating arrangement. The girl I like sits one seat behind me and across the aisle so we sit pretty close. We are pretty good friends and joke around a lot and she knows I like her, but thats a different story. Anyways, it was about 5 minutes to the end of class and I was talking to the person behind me. The girl, lets call her M, was also talking to someone else. About a minute before the bell rang, she turned around and bumped her desk thus making her pencil roll of the desk and onto the floor. It rolled a bit aways from her desk and she got up and got on her knees and grabbed it. I don't know what compelled me to say this, but I said "you belong on your knees". Also, I guess that I said it pretty loud because the classroom went silent and everyone just stared at me. At that point I just kind of walked out of the room.
I didn't mean to say that but it just kinda came out. Fuck my life.
TL;DR: | Girl I like pencil rolled of her desk, got on her knees to pick it up, said that she belonged on her kness, room went quiet and everyone looked at me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: NSV: Feeling bad about not being active?! WHAT IS THIS FEELING!?
POST: Since moving across town, I have a lot more options for biking (and no internet yet!) so I've been riding my bike to a coffee shop only about a mile away, but on days I don't go, I just feel awful and lazy.
I finally had a chance to go today, since I can't go on days I'm on call (have to have a car with me).
It feels great to be able to be this active AND save the environment! I'm hoping this will help accelerate my weight loss. I started out at a high weight of 296 lbs (and I'm only 5'3, female), probably around December 09-March 10, and managed to get down to about 267 lbs without really trying over a year or so. This summer, in May, I kicked my ass into gear with diet only, and now I've been able to work in exercise after a head injury kept me off the streets and out of the gym. Now I'm at 238ish lbs. My first real goal is 170 lbs, but I would LOVE to get down under 140 lbs, I haven't been there since middle school!
Starting the 29th, I get my gym access back when classes start for my first year of grad school. I'm really excited!!
TL;DR: | I LOVE RIDING MY BIKE AND AM EXCITED TO GET TO USE MY UNIVERSITY GYM AGAIN!!! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [29 M] with my Wife [25 F] Extremely close relationship own our business live/work together. Seems to be a lot of anxiety when I talk about long term future and personal goals.
POST: So we have been together 5 years married for two. We are inseparable and love each other tremendously. Very good communication skills, have worked through some keystone relationship issues successfully with very little scars. We are at a point where our business is going to grow some this year, and we (mostly I) will have a chance to step back and pursue some other endeavors. I am an artist, and hold the expression I find in art to be a key satisfying element in my life. I should say, our business is a creative one, with which I do much of the creative work. Today I brought up the idea of possibly going for my MFA and she unexpectedly was very dissmisive and close minded to the idea. Got very emotional. Questioning why i would want to waste time on a title (to be clear I'm much more interested in pushing my abilities as an artist/ finding a great mentor than the degree).
She said she didn't want to be a student wife. Tried to explain that MFA studies I would be in class like once a month at most, one class per semester etc. She wasn't able to hear any of that. She fixated on our financial situation, which is really not that bad. We'll be in six figures (combined) by next year. I have some student debt from undergrad, but I was thinking I would apply in 3 years maybe, so it would give me some time to pay that down and set up revenue streams to cover all the tuition. I think she's really worried that our emotional bond will break if we separate our life tracks like that. I just don't see things that way..
Seems like when I bring up things that I want to pursue that are personal goals she gets very insecure and shuts down communication on the topic. Also, worth mentioning, when we are required to spend a few nights apart (which doesn't happen often) when I return she's really emotionally withdrawn. Takes a couple days to warm back up. Also worth mentioning, I am not the best at communicating (texts, phone calls) during those times. I know I can do better there.
TL;DR: | My wife and are are inseparable/ very compatible. When I bring up individual goals she seems very insecure and gets quite emotional. Any advice? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm still bitter over my ex (F-24) breaking up with me (M-23)
POST: So about a month ago (I feel stupid for being angry still) my girlfriend who'd I'd been dating for about 2 years, was infatuated with, wanted to spend the rest of my life with broke up with me.
She basically stopped talking to me all together (we lived about 2 hours apart so it was pretty much long distance), and then when I called her about it she dumped me with some story about how she was getting a job in a far off land for 2 months and how she "wouldn't recognize me when she got back."
Then I see pictures of her plastered all over facebook drinking and being all over this other guy. If you don't want to be with me fine but don't lie to me if you just want to fuck around with other guys. She was so apathetic about how I felt and got to detach herself from me and I didn't get that. I'm so sad, lonely, and pissed. When I think about our relationship I remember all the times she lied to me or had selective memory about events, and I feel so stupid for not seeing those red flags.
I started working out every day, I read, I try to hang out with friends more, I hike all the time, nothing can quench my anger. I want to make her angry, and I want her to feel like shit, and I hate myself for feeling this way.
TL;DR: | gf dumped me and she had a dick lined up, and I don't have a college worth of people to mac on so I'm pissed and I shouldn't be. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] with my ex [21 F] together for about 6 months. Need help moving on
POST: A couple weeks ago she told me she just wants to be friends. I feel like it was all so sudden and out of the blue. On the day it happened we planned to go see a movie. She asked me if she should meet and my place then go, or if I would pick her up then she would stay over and I'd take her home in the morning before work. Now she lives out of the way and it really is inconvenient to take her home then go to work. It makes a half hour commute into over an hour.
The reason I keep going over that day in my head is why would she ask if she could sleep over if she was going to end it. I feel like that was my last "chance" to show I put in enough effort into the relationship (something she brought up all the time).
In my mind I put in plenty of effort. I work a 9 to 5 and have a one hour class for work two times a week that takes place after work. So sometimes my days don't end until 7:30. And I'm also kind of introverted so some days I just need to be alone or just play a videogame to unwind and relax.
That doesn't leave much time for her and I feel I messed up in that aspect. She always said she wanted me to spend more time in her area, with her friends, that she was only living in "my world." I want to show her that I really do care, and that my computer, videogames, and sports feel empty if I don't have her.
But,
all the advice on her and from friends say the opposite -- cut contact. I'm very stubborn and don't usually listen to advice, but do what I feel is best. I just don't want to regret not doing anything. I know it seems like such a short relationship, but it was my first somewhat serious one.. and I've never felt anything like this for any other girl. I was gonna call her today and just try to learn why.. why so sudden, what I did or didn't do.
TL;DR: | 6 months, she broke up with me from what I think is a lack of effort, but want to be sure. first relationship |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 M] with anyone - is my behaviour bad?
POST: I've had a discussion with a friend about how she considers some things I said (and do) very bad, heartless and maybe immoral, and want to hear some other opinions.
I am a foreign graduate student in a small university city. I naturally get in touch with people in my same situation; most of them will be here for a few months (at most 10, for those doing one "full year"); a few of them, like me, will be here for three or more years.
Once, as I was talking with some of my friends including the critical one, I said that I put more efforts into being social and bonding with the people who will be here for many years, as that is a better investment. I won't be directly rude to anybody, of course. My friend considers such ideas quite awful as you should naturally be nice to everyone and you will naturally end up being nicer to people you like more, without thinking about how long they'll stay, and you'll still have great friendships even with people who might be leaving in one month. The discussion then moved to the romantic aspect of the same problem but I'm actually more interested in the one I presented here.
TL;DR: | I put less efforts into bonding with people who will leave my town soon, and a friend of mine thinks this is bad. What do you think? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Am I being a bad Atheist or do these people really not understand the concept of Atheism?
POST: I'm 17 and in a Jewish family, in the last few years I've decided that I'm going to be an Atheist. I started hanging around a few Atheist friends last year and thought they were the best. But recently I decided to not be friends with them (for other reasons). This morning I noticed on Facebook that two of them were tormenting a girl from another school for posting a bible quote. When I became an Atheist I told myself that I wouldn't disrespect other's beliefs unless they were trying to convert me. I commented on the status saying that the point of Atheism was to respect peoples beliefs. They told me I was being ignorant and the world would be better off without religion. Correct me if I'm wrong but aren't they being hypocrites for imposing Atheism on Christians? Or is this really what the movement has become?
TL;DR: | Is the point of Atheism trying to convert (not fanatical) Christians to our cause? Or to respectfully opt out of religion based on conflicting beliefs (like science and reason) and not try to convert them |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskDocs
TITLE: Hepatitis C exposure, how at risk am I of contraction?
POST: So before I got clean off of heroin I was around junkies almost every day. I never shot up and I only used notebook paper to snort, so I never got in contact with Hep C in the typical way.
However, the people I associated with were all diagnosed HCV+. Oftentimes they would shoot up and wipe the blood off of their marks with toilet paper, but with 2-5 junkies in one apartment there was probably dried blood in plenty of places that I didn't see.
Well, I cut my hand somehow while we were outside one day and didn't notice until we came back in the apartment. It was a decent cut, openly bleeding. Memory is hazy but from what I remember I probably went straight to wash my hands with soap and water, and then I spent the next 30 minutes applying hand sanitizer and rubbing it on my hands / the wound whilst dabbing blood off with a paper towel. Is it reasonable to ask if I may have exposed myself by rubbing my fingers directly over the wound? What are the chances of something like this causing infection? I do not remember coming into contact with any dried blood or blood in general but I know that all it takes is a microscopic amount.
TL;DR: | Cut my hand while hanging around junkies who shoot up, bleed, and are pretty bad about cleaning up. Rubbed hand sanitizer onto the wound. Could I have rubbed Hep C into my cut and blood stream this way? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by trying dip intoxicated.
POST: This happened in November of 2011 in Alabama. Sophomore year of college, never drank a whole lot in my life before this semester. A really good friend of mine came up from school, where he played football, to go out and have a lot of fun. Keep in mind I'm 6'4" 165lb bean pole walking around with a 6'1" 295lb offensive lineman and a 6'2" 245lb dude who could have played blocking tight end or full back; both LOVED to put in HUGE 'chaws' the size of softballs once good and lit. So my buddy, we'll call him Jim (the football player) and my other good buddy go over to this tri-delts home and begin to pre-game. At this point we're shot gunning beers, taking shots, and funneling beer with whiskey and vodka shots mixed in. Solid 2 hours of pre-gaming, acting like typical 21 year old college students, and seeing my buddy Jim scrubbing his ass on the carpet dancing with this little red head having a good time.
Probably, around 11:30 we call the drunk bus to come escort us to the strip to begin our night. We all get off the bus and stand around cutting up and just enjoying the night. Jim breaks out a can of "backy", as we called it during the "NINJY STAR-EM!" youtube vids fad. So me, bean-pole, or "queer tower" as my friend likes to call me..., had to hang onto Jim's back for stability. I reach my hand in the can and ask if I can get a "peanch" of "chaw" and slide it right on in. My buddy with a shit eating grin watches as I put it in.
All I can say is god damn, when that nicotine hit my drunk ass the entire world began to spin. Proceeded to puke down my buddy Jim's back all over the Publix parking lot we got dropped off in.
Rallied after puking and proceeded to dance with a good friend of mine at the time for the last bit of the evening. Other highlights are we met Trent Richardson during his junior season (Roll god damned tide and praise Nick Saban).
TL;DR: | Got HAMMERED, borderline black out, and took a HUGE pinch of dip and threw the sum-bitch in. Puked my guts up all over my buddies back. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [17M] tell her [17F] thar I like her directly?
POST: Throwaway account.
So, there is this girl in my school, she is really beautiful in my opinion, more than the average.
We are not friend, we are like "complete strangers" (we go to the same school for about five years or even more but never talk). Physically I like her *(obviously I'm not in love with her, I don't know her personality)*, and she knows that *(friends in common)*, but is not enough for me, **I** want to tell her. And here is when doubts appears, I read in another posts about make eye contact and smile. I should do that first, for a time (Idk, two weeks for example) and then tell her that I think, that she is pretty and etc, or just tell her directly?.
I have to say that this will be difficult for me, I'm very shy, but I prefer do something that do nothing.
And another question, What should I have to say? "Hey, you are really beautiful"? or what?
I want that she hear the truth from me, not dating her.
TL;DR: | I like a girl, she knows, but not from me, so **I** want to tell her. I have to do it directly or do something before? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Me [23] and bf [21] of 1.5 years having big issues, need advice ASAP
POST: So I'm asking for advice because I know the advice I would give myself and need others opinions. We live together and have done so for almost a year, in this year we've both started work full-time and my mum's been diagnosed with cancer. We have been rocky for a while but it always starts with me wanting to talk about our problems and him saying he's tired blah blah and yelling at me saying he doesn't want to discuss the same shit again. We have hit breaking point a couple of times, he has said he doesn't love me then when it's over he does, and most recently he said he may have to move for work but wouldn't want me to come with him because I'm not the one. But when it's good we are very much in love and have a great time. We both have also been battling pretty major depression this year because of so much stress. Tonight we need to talk, I don't want to be sitting around waiting for us to end when our lease finishes in february because I believe that's what he wants. Last night I asked him if he still wanted to be with me in the future and he hasn't spoken a word to me since. What do I do? I know if it was a friend of mine I would say end it and find someone who wants to be with me. Also we made promises yada yada and I've kept mine which was cook more, clean more (or all the time), and dropped a dress size to a 10. He hasn't done anything and comes home, says he's tired and would rather play video games then hang out, he also never invites me to hang out with his friends which I feel is a big part of the problem.
TL;DR: | he most likely doesn't want to be with me in the future but it's too complicated to end things now. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Need help, love my gf, but having uncontrollable urges for other women. I need to be polygamous
POST: Hi reddit
I am facing a troubling paradigm in my relationship.
I am, in many regards hyper sexual. When my girlfriend and I first started dating, my sexuality was a real problem for her, but over the last two years she has completely adjusted and now wants sex more than me; generally speaking she wants it 7 times a week and I want it about 4.
The problem is I still am as sexual as ever, I just now suffer from extreme urges for other women. I think about other women daily, look at and masturbate to porn, and fantasize regularly about other women. I have tried to stop, I can't, the urge isn't going away and when I have tried to talk to my gf about it she just breaks down, and then gets drunk to forget about it.
I love her to death, and I am extremely attracted to her, she seriously like the perfect girl, but I can't control my urges and they are getting the best of me.
I'm not the cheater type so I'm basically just going insane with lust that seems like it can't all be Aimed at one female.
Please help reddit, I need advice!!
TL;DR: | I am polygamous and my gf is monogomous and it's making me insane, I NEED sex with other women; but I don't want to lose my best friend, help me :( |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Why doesn't Reddit have a way to regulate troll accounts? Or does it and I just haven't heard about it?
POST: Besides the mods banning by subreddit, I mean.
Just wondering. It always kind of irks me to see someone only posting negative comments. In my opinion, Reddit is much better and shouldn't be a place like that.
Granted, it'd be difficult to put a report button, because that would easily be abused.
Possibly something could work such as posting "x" number of posts that receive "-y" amounts of karma gets your account banned for "z" days. This way, trolls can't go on a daily spree and fill Reddit with useless, and a lot of times offensive, garbage.
Don't get me wrong, I love that we can share ideas and speak openly on Reddit, but I don't really feel that someone telling multiple people to kill themselves is helping Reddit very much.
TL;DR: | In my opinion, Reddit would be a much nicer place if we added something to filter users who only post negative, offensive, harmful, and useless comments. |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: bad boss has it out for me and i've run out of ways to COVER MY ASS
POST: I've tried doing whatever bad boss says, no matter how petty and nuanced it is. Even when I follow exact instructions and somehow clear the entire (growing) workload every single day, I'm asked over and over if I have ever completed it, no matter HOW easily verifiable it is without asking. Sometimes I follow instructions exactly, but then get chastised when I failed to somehow figure out missing puzzle pieces of information that I needed to give bad boss what he/she actually wanted. Small, petty details are held against me and used as justification for preventing me to do bigger tasks that I'm capable of doing, know how to do, was HIRED to do, and am LICENSED to do.
I'm constantly slated as a failure and incompetent because I get stuck with overwhelming expectations that are changing and conflicting on a daily basis. My peers are not held to those standards, and are still somehow held in esteem.
I'm accused constantly of ALWAYS doing something wrong and NEVER doing something right. Any one error that I've made somehow becomes a theme for every other situation with everyone else in the department, even if they never witnessed it. No matter what problem I'm troubleshooting, everyone's first question becomes, "Well did you do (*insert one mistake that happened two months ago*)?"
I'm somehow disrespectful no matter what I say, and even if I say nothing at all. My only option at this point seems to be own whatever I'm accused of (no matter how grossly inaccurate or unfair), apologize, and bow my head. Defending myself and correcting the record of what I actually typed, did, or said is taken as insubordination. Even if I choose silence and submission, I'm bombarded with lies that are used against me to show how "incompetent" I am. I feel like I will be inevitably ousted.
I have been unsuccessful with getting another job because of scarcity of local opportunities and not having enough job history in my new field. Am I just screwed, and should bow out with grace, dignity, and somewhat of my reputation left in tact? Or should I just cling on until bad boss finishes me off and burns down everything I have left?
TL;DR: | Bad boss has leveraged me into a lose-lose position, and I don't know if I have any options left. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [Relationships] I (24m) need some advice on how to approach a coworker (23f)
POST: So one of my coworkers and I seem to hit it off great ever since she started. We both joke around a lot with each other and I'm constantly making her laugh. Long story short, I really like her, and she seems to genuinely like me too. The problem is, and this is where you guys come in, she is recently married. From what she has told me about her marriage she does not seem that happy. To complicate matters even more, I am in sort of a leadership position at work. I don't want to come off as a home wrecker, nor am I looking to convince her to end her marriage. All I want is a way to tell her how I feel in sort of a, if the married life doesn't work out for you then, just so you know, I'm interested, kind of thing. I really hope you guys can give me some insight, and I apologize for the wall of text.
TL;DR: | I really like my coworker but she's married so I world like to be able to tell her that I like her, just to put it or there so she knows how I feel. |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: 5K to 10K in 6 weeks?! Please help!
POST: Hi there! So here's the scoop:
I am pretty new to running but I started out with a fairly good level of fitness. I am a yogi, a swimmer, I have an active job, etc. My stats are F/5'5"/129lbs if that helps. At present I can comfortably run a 5k at about 28-30 mins, depending on the route/day. I don't have any race experience but am running my first timed 5k this Saturday.
I'm interested in running a 10k mid October and I'm wondering if that's realistic for me at this point. I have my eye on the <55 minute category because I'd rather be able to take my time and enjoy it. I have time to train/cross-train every day and I have great self discipline when it comes to exercise. Runners of reddit, what are your thoughts? Is this something I can try? How many times a week will I need to run? Any other tips or words of advice? Cautionary tales? I'll take anything.
TL;DR: | I am a new runner, comfortably running a 5k in 30 min, wondering if I can train for a 10K in 6 weeks. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Canadian Lawyers, and Trustee's of Bankruptcy. I have a question about my bankruptcy.
POST: In 2000, I got a student loan. in 2004 I was forced to declare bankruptcy.
When I declared, The trustee handling my bankruptcy informed me that student loans could not be included in the bankruptcy. My councillor said she would see what she could do. Later on in the process, she informed me that she had spoken to someone at the bank and that they had agreed to write off the student loan.
I finally get out from under the bankruptcy and get rid of the paperwork regarding it. (This is REALLY stupid, I realize now. To people going through this DON"T do this! Ever!)
Fast forward to last week, I start getting calls from a collection agency in regards to the student loan. They inform me it is still outstanding.
I contact the Office of the Superintendent of Bankruptcy Canada and inform them of my situation. they said they would contact my trustee and see what they could do.
well appearently the person who ran the comapny retired and moved to another province. they no longer have any of my paperwork and cannot back up what I have said.
The person whom I contacted about my situation at the Office of the Superintendent of Bankruptcy Canada informs me to contact a lawyer (Which I will be doing so on monday) to see if the statute of limitations has run out in regards to the loan.
Basically, does anyone have any suggestions?
TL;DR: | declared bankruptcy in 2004 but now have a collections agency coming after me for a student loan I thought was discharged during the bankruptcy.*** |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I am a Computer Information Systems major and I keep failing my english classes. How can I avoid this class!
POST: Title explains most of it. I am in my first semester in College and can literally not pass Compostion. I can write fairly well but half the midterm and final is grammar and I really suck at that. I study my ass off and still cannot see results as I just got back my midterm and only got a 65%. I already know I have to drop it this semester, but for the following semester is there any way I can avoid this class? I need to move on so I can get into programming and the other courses that actually HAVE to do with my major. The worst thing is, is that my schools lowest grade to pass is a 75% which is fine I guess just not this class. Sorry if I am being a bitch but I just don't want to waste more money on a lost cause. Thanks ahead of time.
TL;DR: | Failing composition as a Computer Info Systems Major and do not want to pay to take it again after studying my ass off. What to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23M] asked my hairdresser [23F] out and she said yes, but have yet to hear back.
POST: Hello fellas,
I have been getting my hair cut regularly at the same place from the same hairdresser each time. I found it online, made an appointment, followed through, etc. and have been pleased with everything.
This beautiful gal caught my attention quickly. She is very witty and we crack jokes the entire time. She seems great, we have similar interests and I would be happy to take her on a date. What I am having trouble with is, is she acting this way because she is in the service industry or is she being genuine?
That question aside, after a month and a half and realizing I am attracted to her, I asked her out at the end of an appointment. I asked her to something casual; frozen treats and a movie. She replied with a "yes" fairly quickly, and she gave me her card with her number on the back. We did not specify when or what we were actually going to do together. There were clients within earshot so I was trying to be as courteous to her and those around us as possible.
A couple of hours later I sent her one text greeting her and with my name (as a means of having my number). She never replied and now I feel like she gave me her number out of feeling surprised/left-field question/did not know how to handle the situation.
I am scheduled for my next appointment just shy of a week from today; how do I make this comfortable for both of us? Should I try contacting her this Friday or over the weekend at all? I am trying to justify leaving her alone vs not seeing the hurt in trying to call her once and ask how she is doing. I may return for my appointment and not bring it up at all; keeping things professional seems like a good solution.
I would appreciate any and all input.
TL;DR: | Asked hairdresser out. She gave me her number. Contacted her once but never received a reply. Debating on what to do next (no further action or phone call). |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I play a sport that's relatively unheard of outside of my country. Does your country have a sport that very few know about?
POST: Only recently started creeping Reddit on a regular basis and felt like making my first post. If this is a repost I must apologise as I did genuinely search for five minutes looking for anything similar.
Since I was 5 years old I've played two of Ireland's most popular sports. [Gaelic football] and [Hurling] and almost always without fail whenever I travel abroad and talk to people from other countries they'll never have heard of them. A player on my team actually had his hurl (the stick) taken away from him in America because the police wouldn't believe that it was for a sport.
... [Though in fairness] I can see why.
All athletes that play these sports do so as amateurs, even at the highest levels. Though there are a few small *benefits* to being one of the best (I know some people that are paid €40 per game for playing for certain clubs - big bucks i know). This means that they all have full time jobs as well as training multiple times per week and playing matches every weekend.
What sport, native to your country or that you know of, do you wish had more international publicity?
One that I'm aware of, though I don't know much about, is [Finnish baseball] and I'm only aware of it due to my brother playing it when he was serving over in Chad with the Finnish.
TL;DR: | Hurling and Gaelic football are two of the most popular sports in Ireland though very few have heard of them. What great, abstract sports from other countries do you know of? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Not sure if my (me F25) relationship with my boyfriend (M25) is having a low point or if it's time to move on
POST: A bit of history, he and I met in college and have been together ever since, currently going on 5 years together. We have had talks about marriage and future children, but we haven't gotten engaged or anything. Over this time we have moved house together, over 700 miles away from where we used to live, and survived periods of unemployment and family health issues. With each of these life changes we have had periods of dejection.
However, though we have been very settled for over a year now, recently we have reached a point where we aren't communicating, neither of us seems very happy with the other, and when we are home together we are either in opposite rooms or we are in a cold silence while we watch a movie. We still have moments of laughter and since we have been together for so long already we really understand each other, our quirks and habits, but we haven't been as physically intimate as we once were, we are still having sex regularly just no cuddling or random hugs. I feel like we are at an impasse, either we work through this funk and end up married or we break up.
An important note, I am the poorer of the two of us, though I am working full time it isn't enough to maintain our lifestyle so he pays for everything, he makes a lot of money so this isn't a burden to him. So leaving him would be financially difficult for me, though it isn't impossible. Not sure what to do.
TL;DR: | Been together for a long time, not sure if current lull is just a slow point in the relationship or a sign of the relationship ending |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by not washing my hands enough before sexy time.
POST: Over the last few years my wife has taken to gardening. This year she planted a bunch of peppers for me, everything from standard bells, Cajun Bells, Datil peppers (200,000 Scovilles), Jamaican Hot (200,000 Scovilles), and Caribbean Red Habanero (400,000 Scovilles) peppers. We just had another good harvest of peppers (yay for Florida weather). I had decided to take a bunch of the hotter ones and dice them up and make a spaghetti sauce to freeze for later.
Last time I did this I made the mistake of rubbing my eye after I was done cutting some of the peppers. The pain, oh my god the pain. Since then I have learned that I need to wash my hands at least 3 or 4 times, scrubbing them hard each time. I found that using Gojo helped a ton.
Back to yesterday. I made my sauce, washed a couple of times, made some lunch, washed again. I didn't use the normal Gojo that I have in the past. Shortly after lunch my wife started to get a little frisky. Shortly after we moved to the bedroom she shoved my hand away from her southern parts and glared at me.
"It started hurting a little, I thought it was the angle, but now I realize it wasn't, did you wash your hands after cutting those peppers?"
That was the last thing my wife said to me before curling into the fetal the position and crying for 40 minutes. She later compared the pain roughly to childbirth. Apparently I didn't wash well enough an managed to finger her with some oil and capsaicin on one of my fingers. Needless to say sexy time was over for the rest of the day. She at least joked a little this morning saying that her fire vag finally felt somewhat normal again.
TL;DR: | I didn't wash my hands enough after cutting a bunch of super spicey peppers and then proceeded to finger my wife and set her vag on fire, ending in her crying for 40 minutes and shoving ice packs against her crotch. |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I thought it was gonna be terrible news, but...
POST: While I was in class tonight, I could hear my phone vibrating like crazy. I got out to a ton of calls, texts, voicemails, facebook notifications, etc etc from a bunch of my family members. I thought my mom was thrown in jail again (a story for another time) but I called my sister-in-law first and it was the complete opposite of what I was expecting.
She's pregnant! I'm going to be an aunt!
I've been waiting for this for so long. They've been together six years now and married for four and have been talking about kids for YEARS now and finally, FINALLY it's happening. The first planned pregnancy in three generations... Holy shit. They've decided to make me the godmother and I couldn't be happier. I can't tell anyone outside the family yet so I decided to tell you guys and I just had to tell someone because this is too great to keep inside!
I'm gonna be an aunt and a godmother! Fuuuuuuuuuuck!
TL;DR: | I thought my mom was thrown in jail but there's going to be a new addition to our family in seven and a half months! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [25M] My best friend of 5 years, who happens to be female, has completely cut me out of her life at the request of her (ex) boyfriend.
POST: My best friend [23F] started talking to her ex-boyfriend again, who is jealous and controlling. She and I used to date, and when our relationship ended (almost 2 years ago), we stayed really good friends. Her boyfriend thinks I tried to "isolate" her from him and that I want her back, when in reality, all I wanted was some quality time with her without him once in a while. The worst part is that they met through me -- I went to school with him (although I never considered him to be a close friend). Their 1-year relationship has been riddled with conflict and verbal abuse on his part, even during times when she and I rarely hung out (because of him). They have broken up and gotten back together several times, and the cycle continues. He doesn't get along with her other close friends, her brother, or her mother. She had gotten a new phone with a new number and, as a result, went a couple of weeks without talking to him. Last week she turned her old phone back on and he called her. Within a matter of days, she deleted me from her Facebook and stopped answering my calls/texts without explanation. My own dating life has been virtually non-existent during the past few months, and I've been feeling depressed. I thought we were a team and never expected her to do this to me. Has anyone been in this type of situation? How did it turn out? I could really use some encouraging advice.
TL;DR: | My best friend has abandoned me without explanation at the request of her boyfriend. There's no one else in my life who I connect with like her. How can I cope with this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Update to "I (17/M) am not comfortable with girlfriend (17/F) drinking"
POST: See original post [here](
Basically, today, I told her how I feel about drinking and so forth. She agreed, and we decided we'd go anyways. When I asked my parents to go to the concert today, they said (because of a recent incident -- a minor car accident I had), that they weren't sure if I could go. Then, I spilled everything to my mother -- basically, I told her how uncomfortable I am with drinking, and I have such an anxiety about it. I told her how I just want to be able to protect my girlfriend, and that I'm uncomfortable with her drinking. She suggested that I throw her (my mother) under the bus, and tell my girlfriend that I can't go because I was grounded.
Now, apparently, the only reason my girlfriend's mom was letting her go was because I was going with her -- she wanted me to protect her from the other guys at the concert and from drinking. She's not allowed to go now, and she is pissed (she really wanted to go). The thing is, despite me saying to her that it was my parents that aren't allowing me to go, she is still angry at me.
In the past, I have discussed my nervousness and anxiety about going to the concert, and I think she's calling my bluff. How do I recover from this situation? Yes, I know I lied to her, but I don't know what to do.
TL;DR: | I lied to my girlfriend about not being able to go to an event because of my own anxieties, now she can't do something she really wanted to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Dogtraining
TITLE: When should I leave our puppy out in the house with our other dog instead of separated?
POST: Back story:
We have a 13-week old corgi male puppy. He is a well-behaved little guy so far. We also have a 1.5 year old mix dog who has the full run of the house while we are gone. She uses a dog door to use the bathroom during the day. We crate train our puppy at night, but during the day, we leave him in a laundry room with plenty of water, toys, and a pee pad because our days can run a bit long. We also have a dog walker for both dogs who comes in the middle of the day.
So, we seem to be very lucky so far, and our puppy does really well being left on the main level of our house for periods of time (so far, no more than 1 hour). I think he is learning from his big sister.
I am conflicted as to whether to leave him out for the whole day with the other dog so early in his life. He uses the dog door and is house trained. He doesn't have many chewing problems, although he will occasionally find something like a sock to have some fun with. We are working on that.
My question: Other than the inherent risk of chewing, digging, etc., are there any downsides to giving a puppy this much freedom at this age? Alternatively, is it a good thing to catch him while he is behaving like this and to let him have free reign instead of possibly waiting until he develops bad tendencies later in life?
TL;DR: | If a puppy is being good, should you give him free reign of the house while you are away, or should you wait until some pre-determined later age (e.g., 7 months after teething). |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: What can I do to help with my inner sadness? (X-post from r/Advice)
POST: I am a guy. My girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me last week and although I have had a lot of support from my friends, I still don't feel right. I have enjoyed the last week, I have been able to speak to my friends, train my sports, play my games, eat at better times and have better food. These things are all things I enjoy, and I have laughed and appreciated the company of everyone around me.
But it doesn't feel right. Even when I'm enjoying myself, inside I'm not. It's the little things, like that when I do something of merit in my sports training, I don't have someone to tell me they're proud of what I achieved when I tell them about it. They're just not that interested. I don't have someone who I can talk to about my boring day but who can appreciate it anyway.
Our break up made perfect sense. Having been in a relationship for 3 years and with her leaving the country for a year, we knew it would be difficult. But it was only a month in when she said she couldn't do it any more. It wasn't the distance, it was just that the distance had helped her to see that since we'd been in a relationship for 3 years, since we were 17, it would be a long time before anything actually happened within the relationship. That is, neither of us are interested in being married until we are much older. With that in mind, why were we in the relationship still? Were we not depriving each other of the experience of having any other partner in adulthood? Of being single even? This made sense in my opinion. As a result I managed to keep my cool and agree with her.
What crushes me is the thought that when she ends up in a new relationship (and she will, because she is amazing) someone else will be able to bring her more joy than I could in the 3 years that I tried. I would have failed in being nothing short of the best thing she could have asked for, and that is awful to have to come to terms with bearing in mind that she has been the best thing to happen to me so far in my life.
TL;DR: | What can I do to get over my worries that my ex-girlfriend will be much happier with someone else, and how can I find a way to enjoy what I enjoyed before? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Cutting a 'friend' out of my life...
POST: This is a throwaway because I don't want it traceable to me...
I have a friend who I have known for years. He is my best friend, basically, but mostly because I'm not great at making friends. He is very outgoing and I'm introverted. The problem is that over the years I have been used and discarded by this guy a lot. I've always had the best time with him when we are together and he's not in the process of being an ass, but when he decides there is someone more important - most of the time some hot chick - he trashes me, makes me feel worthless and used. He never really abandons me and says I'm imagining things, but I know I need him out of my life. He's toxic.
My question is, how do I do it? I've tried getting away from him in the past, but I always get roped back in when he's nice to me. I've written him a letter that would give him a clear message (not yet sent), but it's a bit hurtful, and I don't want to be a bad guy, because I'm still friends with his family, and we might still see one another. If I just tell him we can't be friends anymore, he won't understand and just say I'm imagining things again. Help?
TL;DR: | Must dump my best friend. Can't be too mean because our families are close. Can't be too vague because it won't work. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my gf [19 F] 6 months, started off horribly, trying to gain faith in relationship
POST: So my gf and her ex I've known since high school. I had a crush on her then and vice versa. However she was dating someone at the time and I tried to date other girls. I regret not telling her my interest in her back then but anyway, fast forward a bit. My best friend who had class with her and I, asked her out at the end of last year. I was kinda jealous and disappointed I had not kept in contact with her. Many times I had been a third wheel on this relationship, and gave them rides; drove them around. I'll never forget after I had a wreck, my friend ended up in the hospital. She was there for him, and the following days was over at my neighbors house whom was trying to be supportive of me. They actively tried to make me feel better, and then one night she came over to my house, spent the night and when we woke up. I clicked and I kissed her. She spilled her guts about not loving him and how she always wished to be with me. 2 weeks later we ended up sleeping together. Her first time. I feel really bad about this because I know she just wanted to prove something to me. To show she loved me but, we rushed into this relationship in a weird way. My neighbor who found out about all of this before my ex best friend, told her this is gonna be hard on us cause I'll always worry she'll cheat on me as well. So I do but I have complete faith in her, and I've talked to her about this many times and it ends in tears. She thinks I have no faith in the relationship. Maybe I don't, but I know she loves me more than anyone. It's just I'm afraid to get hurt, then again maybe I deserve it for what I put my friend through.
TL;DR: | gf cheated on her ex that she didn't love to be with me, trying to have faith she won't do this to me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Should I [17 M] ask out my friend [18 F] when I see her this summer, even though I haven't seen her in almost a year?
POST: Using a throwaway for this.
I'm a senior in high school, and last school year (my junior year) I joined my school's robotics team. Overall a great decision, made a lot of great, close friends, some older, younger, same age. This is how I met the girl in question. She was a grade above me and had been on the team for all 4 years of high school, so she was one of the team members us rookies looked up to.
Now this girl is absolutely amazing, and I don't think I'm exaggerating. Aside from being a programmer on the team like me(she's now a CS major), she dances, plays instruments, is a published poet, going to Stanford University - I could go on.
Basically, I ended up developing a crush on her during second semester. I never told her because she had a boyfriend at the time, but after they broke up I was REALLY tempted to ask her out. But I didn't because she was graduating and now goes to college across the country, so I though, What's the point? Well, senior year has changed my perspective a bit. I'd rather ask her out and get rejected than never ask at all, but at the same time, I don't want to screw up a perfectly good friendship by bringing awkward teenage feelings into it.
I should mention that even though we haven't met in person since a week before she went to college, I had actually arranged to have lunch with her during the holiday break(It wasn't a date though), but those plans fell through.
Now that I'm graduating, I was already planning on inviting her to my grad party because we are friends, but now I'm thinking I should also ask her out. But I'm so nervous because I've never dated before, and I don't want to be super awkward and ruin our friendship. So should I ask her out?
TL;DR: | Should I ask out the girl I like, taking into account that I've never dated,she's in college(and I will be shortly), and we haven't seen each other recently? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (25F) and my bf (27M) of 5 years. Great relationship, but no sex. And it's getting to me.
POST: Our relationship could be wonderful and healthy, if not for this.
A few months into the relationship, we tried to get intimate. It didn't work out. We brushed it off thinking it was just us being nervous, but several tries later we still coundn't make it happen. He assured me he didn't mind, but didn't want to talk about it. And also wasn't comfortable with me talking about this to anyone, not even my mom.
In time we found alternatives. Sex life was ok for the both of us, but still no intercourse. And after all these years I feel like this is too much. I feel broken, and a sorry excuse of a woman. More often than not, I find myself shutting down his advances for intimacy, as I can only think about how terrible I'll feel afterwards. Everyone just assumes we're a fulfilled sexually active couple, and after so many years I can't bring myself to talk about the truth to anyone I know. And I desperately want to see a gynecologist, a therapist, or anyone who could help me make some sence of what we're going through. But I'm unemployed, financially dependant on my mother. He's studying, no job either. I have no money, and no way to tell my mom why I need to see a professional. I don't have the heart to tell ver I've been lying all these years.
So this is us. In our 20's, the both of us still virgins. No one I can turn to for help.
I'm not even sure what advice to ask. I feel like I just needed to vent.
TL;DR: | 5 year relationship, both still virgins. Everyone thinks we're sexually active. None of us have jobs or money for professional help. No one that can help. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [20 F] boyfriend [22 M] of 1.5 years wants to move out of our parents house, but I don't have near as much savings as he does and I'm afraid this will affect our relationship for the worse..
POST: My boyfriend wants to move out of our parents homes because he wants the independence and I live in a toxic home.
My only issue is our savings. He has 30k+ in savings; more than enough to pay for his remaining tuition and any rent or expenses we have, without working. We both work part time through the school year, I work full time in the summer.
I on the other hand have almost 3x more tuition than he does and <2k in savings... all of which will go to paying tuition (12k/yr).
He has offered to pay for my rent when I can't afford it, but I'm worried I won't be able to afford it at all, and he will end up paying for most of not all of it and this will make him upset. He insists he will not be upset, but I was raised by NParents who made a big fuss over buying ANYTHING for me.
Should I tell him I'm going to stay at home with my toxic family to avoid being broke and a chance of ruining our relationship, or should I leave my toxic home and let him support me for the next two years of my schooling while doing the best I can?
Note: I hate being dependent on anyone.
TL;DR: | boyfriend wants to move out but I can't afford it. Afraid him paying for my half of rent will make him resent me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My roommate[M21] is awful with girls, how do I[M21] help him?
POST: I've been roommates with this guy for 3 years and we were friends Freshman year. He's kind of short(5'5) and a bit chubby, but he's a very funny guy and can easily make girls laugh. However, he's been rejected with no success a decent amount, so his self-esteem and confidence are absolutely awful. He complains about being overweight and girls finding him gross constantly, which I've just started to ignore after years of it.
My friends and I try to get him to go out so he'll meet more girls, get more comfortable, etc. But he complains about going out too, about hating the bar scene and all that. He recently was about to dance with a girl when her friend shook her head and dragged the girl away, so situations like that are probably the cause of him hating bars. I don't think it helps that some of my friends are really good with women and that I'm having some success as well, despite just getting out of a long term relationship and having zero experience with picking girls up.
I also worry that he might have the tendency to be needy. He met this friend of my friend for like an hour at the start of the year and has constantly asked me to text the friend to get the girl to come out with us, and if she doesn't, he won't come out with us sometimes. It's half joking but half serious. He also has the issue of falling for girls who have rejected him before, which has happened multiple times.
How do my friends and I help him? He's made out with a girl once last year, but in his mind it was a pity thing from a friend(I tell him it wasn't, but nobody is sure to be honest) but nothing else ever. He has zero confidence, complains when he goes to the bars and might be needy, but he is a very funny dude and can make girls laugh and like him, he can just never close either for a relationship or just to hook up.
TL;DR: | Friend is short and chubby, zero confidence, no experience with girls, may be needy...But funny and can make girls like him easily. How do I help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I am [28 M] not sure if a friend [30 F] is giving me signals.
POST: So, I have a female friend that I have know for a couple of years. We were never really close until just a few months ago. She invited me to hang out at a bar and we had a good time. We talked more than we ever had before. Since then we have been talking more and seeing each other more often, but usually in group situations. A couple times when we have gone out drinking, she starts getting a little touchy. Putting a hand on my back and leaning in to say something, or putting a hand on my arm, or hugging. She also talks a lot about guys she dates, but mentions they are all people she just wants to see casually, no real connections.
I am a massive over-thinker with little dating experience, so I really can't tell if these are signals or of we really are just becoming closer friends. I've heard women talk about how they think they are sending these obvious signals, but the guys are just oblivious. Could use some help or opinions.
TL;DR: | Massive over-thinker not sure about see "signals" from a friend. Does she like me? Should I try pursuing anything? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Unusual/uncommon attraction to a specific part of the body?
POST: OK so I'm honestly not sure how common this is but amongst the group of people I hang around this is apparently uncommon. So I am a straight male and being attracted to woman, like most guys enjoy all aspects of a woman. Although like guys there are some things more appealing to certain people. E.g. ass guys, boobs guys, etc. So obviously as a straight guy it's hard not to enjoy the a nice set of breast on a beautiful woman or a nice buttock, but one thing that just really turns me on is the stomach of the woman. I have no idea what it is about the stomach that is so attractive to me. I don't particularly like woman with abs just a flat stomach is attractive beyond belief to me and amongst the group I hang around it's always about breasts or asses, whatever. So Reddit my question for you, am I one of the 10 guys on this planet who is like this or am I not as "strange" as initially thought. Also what are some of the things about people that really turn you on that maybe you don't think is a common attraction.
TL;DR: | Really attracted to woman with a nice flat stomach. Is this as uncommon in society compared to ass guys etc? What about people attracted you that you might think is an uncommon attraction? |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: I don't run, but my wife does...please help
POST: As the title states, my wife is an avid runner. She doesn't use reddit, but she knows how helpful the communities here can be. She asked me a question about running and I have no idea how to answer. Any help would be great. **here is her question**:
"During my training I've been following a schedule that is similar to the following:
T-W-R: 3-4 miles
F: 1-2 easy miles
Sa or Su: long run over 8 miles
Up until this week my "during the week" runs have been going well, as are my long runs. It seems this week I'm plateauing and the 3-4mi runs are really difficult.
I don't know if that 8mi run on Saturday really whooped my ass or if I need to just work through it and step it up a little? Kinda like lifting? Like when I feel stuck sometimes I just need to stick more weight on and I break the trend. Within the next week or so my "during the week" runs will bump up to 3.5-5 miles so maybe I just need to suck it up and do it. But I don't know."
It seems like she is plateauing and thinks that the best course of action during her daily runs would be to just up the distance, but I'm afraid she might hurt herself. Is there some kind of different interval training she could consider? I'm just kind of lost.
TL;DR: | my wife is upset becasue she seems to be plateauing on her daily runs and she doesn't know how to get past it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [44 M] with my new [39 F] GF - Projecting Past Relationship
POST: I've been dating a wonderful lady for around three months. I was married for 18 years (together for over 20) and this is the first person I've dated exclusively since my divorce. My marriage died a slow painful death and over the course of around 6 years I became really anxious and worried all the time. At times I would lose a lot of weight, not sleep well and always felt like I was on edge with worry. Those times were the saddest times of my life.
Now that I am dating again I've started to feel that way again. Because this relationship is new, I know there's a lot of uncertainty and you never know how things will end up, that's just part of a new relationship and I'm aware of that. The problem is the uncertainty of it all makes me feel exactly like I did when my marriage was bad. I feel like I have no control over it and it's feeding my anxiety. I've lost weight, feel anxious/depressed and generally uncomfortable. It's like the uncertainty of a new relationship has triggered feelings from the past and I'm not sure how to handle it.
My marriage ended mid 2014 so it's not like I didn't wait a while before dating again. This isn't something I imagined would happen.
TL;DR: | In a new relationship after divorce and I feel old issues are being triggered. I'm not sure what to do or how to prevent it from ruining this relationship. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Worried that I'm making my (20M) friend in the Marines (21M) feel bad/homesick.
POST: Here's my back story. Fake names will be used.
Alex, John and I have been best friends since elementary school. I could tell you everything about these guys. We are all pretty much the same people it feels like. I can't see myself ever finding a bond this tight with any other guys.
John and I go to University together and live in the same house. Alex was living with us too earlier this year. We're all single guys in a college town, so we have a lot of fun. A lot of partying, drinking at bars, and hooking up with lots of girls. The past few years have definitely been the best of my life.
Alex moved out last November when he left for boot camp for the Marines. We lost our third musketeer. He didn't have his phone for a few months, so we mailed him a few times to keep up.
After finishing boot camp, Alex got his phone back. It was nice to be able to call, text, and Snapchat him again. He told us about boot camp, and how even though it was rough he kind of enjoyed it in an odd way. Recently however has not been very fun for him. He's even said once he kind of regrets joining the military.
This is where I run into my predicament. John and I's good times have not slowed down. I Snapchat Alex videos and pictures of us having our fun. I tell him over the phone about the stuff we get into. I am starting to think I should not be doing this. I feel that this is only making his experience in the marines worse. He sees us partying and having fun while he is stuck in bunk beds being heavily disciplined.
It would be weird not telling him this stuff because this is someone I've told everything to for the past ten years. I'd like some advice on what I should do. Perhaps from a former military member.
Thanks everyone.
TL;DR: | I am worried my snapchats/stories over the phone sent to my Marine friend Alex of my other friend John and I partying and having a good time are making Alex resent his choice to join the military. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Girlfriend[23/f] having insecurity issues, has killed our sex life
POST: Basically what the title says. Here's the backstory:
My girlfriend was diagnosed with GERD 6 months ago. She was getting nauseous in bed and spent more than a few nights in the bathroom freaking out (she has emetephobia, fear of vomiting). They suggested she get a wedge or a slanted pillow to sleep on. She opted to sleep on the couch because she can't roll off of it and the lights keep me awake. That was the start of our drifting.
After a few months of this it began to get better, but she still has bad nights. It's under control if she keeps to her diet. However, the rift is still there. She has gotten accustomed to sleeping on the couch and has no desire to find a bedroom solution. The couch is an easier, effortless solution.
During all this, her sex drive plummeted to 0. She wants it almost none of the time. And now she's having issues with her body. She has lost a lot of weight from choosing to not eat (because of the GERD). She skips meals if she has nothing readily available that won't make her sick, yet puts herself in that position often. Also she eats less when she does eat so that she doesn't get sick from being too full. Because she's lost all this weight, she has lost her boobs (they're probably down to A-cups now) and her butt has shrunk (it used to be very large, and now it isn't, at least not to her).
In addition to all that, she has developed awful back acne and chest acne. I suspect it's from sleeping on the couch (microfiber) without a bedsheet, making her sweat quite a bit in the night.
Because of the acne and the loss of her "sexy" features, she feels very unattractive and very unsexy. Her sex drive has hit rock bottom.
She seems to have no interest in fixing any of her issues, and by extension, fixing the problems we have in the bedroom.
I'm basically at a loss. What can I do to help her?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend is depressed/has no sex drive because she was diagnosed with GERD. She feels unattractive because of backne and weight loss, but isn't trying to fix it. How I help fix it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: I feel out of control. It's like im watching my weight gain in slow motion.
POST: I had to buy new work pants. My old work pants were already a size bigger than I was comfortable with, I told myself it was temporary. I tried on the 10. I nearly suffocated. So I went and grabbed a 12 hurriedly so my husband wouldn't have to know that I needed a bigger size. I just hoped they would fit, I figured they would. Happy monday, I will be miserable all day bc I truly would have been comfortable in a 14. A 14?
I'm victim of that team sports phenomenon, harder to execersie without a team. But I used to run at least 3 miles every day also, solo. I've run 2 marathons. I worked out every day for my first 1 and a half of college. But then I got dumped, got depressed and I have slowly, slowly gained around 40 or 50 pounds over 4 years. I have a masters now, a good husband, good job. But I will never be happy if I can't get myself esteem back!! I look bad in everthing. I've had mfp forever, but couldn't stick with it. Lately I've slowly tried to make significant diet changes to get used to it when I "get ready" to do this foreal. I have no idea how to balance my relationship when he isn't on board fully. It isn't just a change in diet. It's a fundamental change in the dynamic of our day. He's supportive but im weak.
I don't even have a scale, I used to base my weight on how I felt...that was all I needed, I was able to do intermittent fasting and lead a generally healthy lifestyle. Last time I was on the scale at the store as a 'joke', it said 175. I jumped right off, made a joke about it being broken. I'm afraid to weigh myself now. There are alot of posts right now about this exact same thing. I am resetting mfp again, for the 3rd time today. I have meals planned for the week. I just need to write this out. I want to get better. I want to be in control.
TL;DR: | I feel out of control and literally have lost all self esteem due to my weight gain. This is a great community and I need to share some thoughts and perhaps gather some strength from you lovely people. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by becoming a shaolin master
POST: Disclaimer: this FU is not related to sex.
This happened when I was in my 5th grade. It was 4 months since I moved from Pakistan to USA, and I was playing with my new found friends in the apartment complex that I was living in.
Being new to America, and never hearing a Your mom joke before, I was pretty pissed when a 'new' friend(lets name him 'Fart head') cracked a Your mom joke.
Being the biggest of my friends and a Shaolin master monk that I believed I was(after watching >10 dubbed movies), I challenged Fart head to a medieval duel.
With a low sweep kick, I successfully knocked fart head down, and was now [this situation without the blonde](
While I was making my rounds around the now weeping fart head, making fart jokes I see the parents of Fart Head staring at the now maniac Foreign child hulk circling their child(which was me btw).
What came after a treaty between the parents was an agreement that fart head and I make up by hugging each other, I was later reprimanded with doing 150 sit ups and staying in the [wall chair position] for 5 minutes and also cutting my previlges to dessert for a whole week while my family was eating a fucking *cheese cake* (dad woke me up in middle of the night and gave me a slice)
TL;DR: | 10 year old shaolin master challenged another 10 year old knight to a medieval duel, was caught by knights mom. No dessert for a week |
SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: Should I speak to my lecturer?
POST: So a lecturer (professor?) I have at University has started to take a bit of an extra interest in me and has stated she's worried about me, wants to help me succeed and hopes to be a support for me.
We have spoken a couple of times recently about my work and during this she's asked me if there's anything else I need to talk to her about and let me know I could knock on her office any time.
Anyways the part I need advice with - Since I started this course last year I've been having anxiety about going to class and being in class due to struggling with my sexuality and feeling different (I'm a girl in a class which is all girls).
Since my conversations with the lecturer I'm very tempted to email her and ask to speak to her privately and tell her. Though on the other hand I think it might be kind of strange to tell her, what if she thinks "why is she telling me this?". I don't want to overshare and make myself out to be a bit of a weirdo and I'm afraid she will think why are you telling me this now, so far into the course? I'm just really not sure what to do I guess or why I even want to tell her. Help?
TL;DR: | Should I tell my lecturer I have been suffering from some anxiety around going to/being in class due to my sexuality? |
SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: Should I apply for a Fulbright Grant?
POST: Hi there Reddit! I need some outside opinions to try to put this into perspective. I've been urged by my professors to apply for a Fulbright Grant to be an English Teaching Assistant abroad. This year is my last chance to apply, and a Fulbright would be a big boost when I apply for graduate school later on. I'd also, of course, get to spend some time living in another country. According to my professors, I'd be a very strong candidate for the grant.
But when I sit down to do it, I don't feel like a strong candidate, even though I have all the right credentials. I don't know if I can explain why I want to go to X particular country to teach English. I'm of course interested and would enjoy it, but there isn't really the grand narrative there to support my application and show how "it is my ultimate destiny to go teach English in Taiwan," for example. I think I could come up with something in the end, but then I'd feel bad asking my references to support such a vague application. I would like to apply, but I can't get past this barrier of me thinking "there's no particular reason I would go to X country except that it intrigues me in several ways..."
TL;DR: | I want to apply for a Fulbright Grant to teach English abroad but I can't explain why I'd want to teach in a particular country. |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: You're not even a teacher yet, stop acting like you'll be living in poverty.
POST: I have so many friends in college going into a teaching profession and I think thats great and noble but I'm sick and tired of them acting like they've chosen a life of poverty in service of children. I get it. You think teachers should be payed more for what they do, in most cases they should. Not in our area though! A starting salary for a teacher in the area in which they hope to work is 40 grand a year plus a 4% guaranteed raise every year they work. After 5 years you can use the teachers union's collective bargaining to get at minimum a 12% raise on top of that. I know this for a fact, my mother was a teacher and the pay is only getting better.
I'm so tired of seeing posts on Facebook about how "they've found their calling" and how students are their life but it's such a shame that they have to "sacrifice money to pursue their dreams." Their not even teachers yet! Their student teaching, and its only been like a week! Do you know how excited I would be to enter a profession with a starting salary of 40 grand plus a guaranteed raise every year? They won't be working summers or weekends but still "the job is so demanding."
In my state a high school teacher on average makes more money than a tenured college professor. Sure teachers in states that don't value education pay their teachers peanuts but guess what? We don't live in those states and your not working in them. Your getting a decent paying job without even needing to get a masters degree. If you want a masters degree the state will fucking pay for it. It wouldn't be so bad if it was just one but its almost every single one of them. Its probably the most common complaint I've heard in the past year. I value our teachers, I think they should live comfortable lives but its not like their chosen profession is putting them in poverty FAR FAR from it.
TL;DR: | Your becoming a teacher not Mother Theresa living in squallier. Stop talking like your chosen profession is the most noble thing a person can do with their life. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How can I be sure if I'm [25M] not the third wheel in an upcoming hangout?
POST: So I'll [25 M] will go out with a friend [18 F] of mine to the movie next week. I asked her if she was interested and this week she said ok but we will be 3 with another guy. I don't know this guy personnaly but I know that:
1. He's older than me
2. He's been playing with her those last 2 weeks a lot.
I've known her for more than a year, this guy know her for maybe a few week, but I know how she always start her love relationship with someone, she spend a lot of time playing with them online, talking with them, etc.. and then they're dating.. for max 2 weeks.
I don't mind that she found someone, but I feel like she still invited me to go the movie just to be nice about it and I feel like I'm gonna be a third wheel there.
I asked her when she told me we were going to be 3 that it's fine as long as I'm not that and she just said: "What?" and I followed up saying it was nothing jsut a bad joke. I didn't want to push too much on the subject too not seem too much inconfident.
TL;DR: | Going out with a friend of mine and another guy and I'm afraid to be a third wheel, asking her once didn't work, should I ask her again or just no worry about that? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How would you handle this situation?
POST: My boyfriend and I (F21) have been dating nearly two years. He's dealt drugs a few times this year and while he's been away on holiday has asked me to pick up the drugs from the mail. I have, but sold some and had some myself. He said I could have some as long as I measured it out.. I didn't measure it at all and I'm worried that when e gets back from holiday he's going to weigh it all and see more is missing and be mad at me. This sounds really lame, but how do I stop him from being mad at me?
TL;DR: | Looking after boyfriend's drugs, sold some off and had some but didn't weigh it out so I'm worried he's gonna be angry. How do I handle this?* |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: How do you know if there will be another date?
POST: Despite what guys like to say about how they like to be hit on and asked out and such and such, I dont think it actually works that way. Sure it might be okay for people who just met and are flirting, and it might work for people in a relationship, but what about if you've gone out a few times? I dont want to be labeled annoying, or clingy, or crazy. But if the guy is willing, I'd certainly like to go out again. And if he's not, then I'd like some clear indicator so I can just move on and not wait for his call.
I've been out with this guy twice already, and I have no idea if there will be another. Honestly, the first two were kind of dull, but I think that's just because I'm socially inept and cant make small talk for the life of me. So I really have no idea if he's into me, but *I* would certainly like to see him again if he's up for it.
What's the usual etiquette in this situation? Wait for him to call? Ask him out? Forget about it and move on?
TL;DR: | If you're stalking my reddit history, my roommate will be out of town this weekend, so if you're interested you could come over on the weekend and fool around. |
SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Traveling to the UK in a few weeks... how can I go about being able to use my smartphone still on the cheap?
POST: I'm a Canadian traveling to the UK for 3 weeks in June, and I just realized that I haven't yet figured out a good way to be able to use my smartphone while I'm over there without incurring gigantic roaming charges.
I have a Nexus 4 smartphone with Koodo. Ideally, I would like to be able to use the phone over there as much as I do over here: as a navigational tool (GPS/maps), as a search engine on the fly, and perhaps for texting back home to Canada as well. At first I was thinking of just limiting myself to free WiFi only, but I realized this would severely limit what I'm wanting to use it the most for (navigation and Google while on the go).
Is there some way I can buy a prepaid card or something to plug into the phone so that I can use it over there on British networks for relatively cheap?
Any help would be AWESOME!
TL;DR: | traveling to UK, hoping there's a relatively cheap and easy way to get my Nexus 4 on UK networks so I can use it while I'm there |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] just broke up with my [18 F] gf of three years. I need help getting over it.
POST: It was pretty mutual, we love each other but we were having a hard time keeping a healthy relationship. I work a lot and she has a lot of pressure from her family, so we couldn´t really make it work. We still love each other, and we are going to try to keep our friendship, but I don´t know how that is going to work out.
I was the one that caused the break-up (2 weeks ago) and now I´m having a hard time not thinking that I made a mistake. I feel like I gave up on us, and it feels like crap.
How do you deal with such bad breakups? I would love to hear your imput. Thanks r/relationships.
TL;DR: | Broke up with my gf of 3 years. I´m having a hard time getting over it. Help me reddit. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [19/m]Highschool girlfreind(18/f) moved off to college
POST: Alright, so i want to clear this up first, she moved 2 hours away. Not super far, but just far enough that we can't visit eachother very often. she was gone for 10 days, i visited her this past weekend. My initial fear was she'd leave and meet someone she'd llike more than me. well, i doubt that will happen, and she's not exactly having the time of her life.
there's the backstory, and here's what my problem with it is and maybe it's me, maybe i'm in the wrong. So, first idea everyone thinks, just move down there, well that city is terrible, my grandma has maybe a few years left to live(not being cold, it's a reality i, aswell as everyone else has accepted) and I love my grandma more than this girl, that i love VERY much. Now, we live in a town with a great college, like it's a college that people everywhere know(not going to say any names, don't want to give away who i am) but she went to this other one, why, because they have a better program for her major. so she wont transfer back here, and i'm not moving down there. She is basically going to live there after this year, like getting an apartment, etc...
if anyone asked me advice on this, i'd say you're wasting your time. and that's how i feel about this. I fell in love with this girl, and we've been together two years. She's like family to me, and i don't know what to do without her, but i don't think that i can do the distance (read: neither of us have time to drive two hours, let alone the money for gas, and in my case, new tires to make the trip frequently).
So reddit, what do you think?
we love one another, in a way i can't explain in words, but i can't deal with not having her around.
TL;DR: | love of my life moved away, miss her, can't move to her and she wont move back. breakup or wait 4 years. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Question about child support in NC
POST: First of all Sorry for the long read, and also if this is not the right place to post this...
My Best friend, we will call him 'J' and his girlfriend have a child together who will be 2 in January. They are breaking up and his Girlfriend, we will call 'S' is trying to use the baby against him every way she can. J is not on the birth certificate but he is 100% the father and has been taking care of her and the baby since she first got pregnant.
Facts about J:
-His mother lives when them, she has 20 years and 2 masters degrees in childhood education
-J is NOT on the birth certificate of the baby because S WAS married and going through a divorce when the baby was born and NC law would have required her former husband to be named the father if one was named.
-J works 50+ hours a week
-J spends most of his free time taking care of his son
-J spends 1 night a week with his co-workers at a dinner party or card game, no strip clubs or anything of that nature.
Facts about S
-Discharged from the military for trying to kill herself
-Works only 25 hours a week
-does not allow the grandmother(20yrs in child education) to watch their son unless S "allows" it
The issue now is the S is trying to use the baby every way she can against J. She is only going to allow him every other weekend with the baby and demanding max child support since she works so few hours and all her income goes to her car payment and insurance. She also is saying she will not allow the baby to be left with the grandmother and instead wants J to pay for daycare while she works, including days when J is off of work.
The question here is does my friend have a leg to stand on? Not being on the birth certificate is an issue I am assuming, but I do not know what for. can she sue him for child support if he is not on it? if he is not on it can he sue her for custody? He is going to meet with a lawyer next week, who wants a $175 consultation fee, to see what his options are.
TL;DR: | My friend has a crazy ex who is trying to screw him to the wall over their son. He is not on the birth certificate, what can he do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I recently ordered die cut business cards from a website I thought seemed pretty legitimate but I am now finding out it seems more like a scam. What can I do to try and get my money back?
POST: I am a graphic design student and I came up with a cool idea for a business card that included a die cut, unfortunately die cuts are expensive so I had to shell out 230 dollars to order them. The site I went to seemed really great and professional, I got a proof within two days and I approved it. It all seemed to be going well, they said I would be notified when it shipped and that was around 2 weeks ago. I started getting curious so I researched the company and found out that a number of people who ordered from the site had terrible experiences with long waits, terrible customer service, and low quality cards. A lot of people who reviewed it online seem to believe it's a scam and the more I think about it, the more I am starting to agree. I have decided that I don't want to risk getting terrible business cards with a company that has a history of not accepting reprints or refunds so I was wondering if there is any way I can get my money back? I emailed the company earlier requesting the order be cancelled but I doubt that will work since I think they only let you cancel before the approval not to mention if it's a scam they probably don't want to give my money back.
TL;DR: | ordered business cards from a site, I am now realizing it's sketchy and most likely a scam and I am looking to get my money back. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [28 F] meet my boyfriend [26 M] of 1yr at the airport?
POST: He's been travelling for the last few weeks with his best friend, and said best friend's girlfriend is due to pick them up at the airport. He's never met his friend's girlfriend before, btw.
So boyfriend and I are very close, he's been messaging loads while he's been away, and we are missing each other a lot.
However he appears to be really laid-back about this kinda thing - he has to be, as we both are challenged with anxiety and try not to get too bogged down with the whole arranging to see each other stuff - we like spontaneity and giving each other space, and only see each other at weekends usually anyway. I especially try hard to give him space and sleep especially is vital to his well-being in the long term. We chat loads online but aren't that couple who see each other nearly every night iyswim.
So I have a dilemma! Do I let him get picked up by someone else, dropped off at his parents' house (he lives there and they miss him very much) and allow him to sleep so he can come and see me in his own time, maybe a couple of days later when he's settled in, or should I surprise him at the airport with his favourite food etc. and see what happens?
For what it's worth - we were all about surprises at the start of the relationship, (before we had to start giving each other space for our well-being) and he loved it :)
TL;DR: | Do I surprise boyfriend at the airport and go with the flow with his tiredness etc. Or leave him to do his own thing, sleep and see me when he's feeling settled? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by not looking where I was driving
POST: Actually happened last night but I hated myself too much to post.
Last night, after smoking some weed with my friend, we go back to her house. It was raining and really foggy, so I was having issues seeing. I've never met her mom before, and I have a crush on her brother. I'm following her in my car to her house and we pull into her drive way. I park next to her, only to realize there was no pavement where I parked. Of course it was raining really hard, and when I try to back up off the lawn I had just accidentally drove on, I get stuck in the mud. I look up and her mom is giving me the DEATH STARE through the window. I'm mortified. My friend pushes my car out and I apologize profusely for ruining their lawn, which now has 2 deep tire mud marks.
I go in the house and apologize for the lawn and her mom just looks at me and doesn't say anything. The first impression her mom gets is I'm some dumbass that ruined her lawn. I'm sure her mom hates me now and I hate myself.
TL;DR: | drove in the rain and fog while kinda high and accidentally parked on my new friends lawn and ruined it. her mom hates me now. i'm sure her brother does now too. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Need some advice on how to read this girl.
POST: So a little back story. I'm 20/m, and I just got out of a 4 and a half year relationship about a month and a half ago, and I'm trying to get myself back out there. I know it seems pretty soon, but I figured the best thing to do is move on from what happened and see what else is out there and not mope around forever.
So recently I started talking to this girl, who said she had a "crush on me," so I've been trying to get to know her better and see how I feel about her. Well hanging out with her in person is great because we actually have quite a bit in common, and she's really easy to talk to. However, lately when we talk, the conversation is pretty one sided, and I usually have to engage it. She'll start it sometimes, but she doesn't say much. I'll ask tons of open ended questions to keep it going, but she seems so uninterested at times. And for the past few nights I've asked her to hang out, but something always comes up with her. Last night she said she couldn't because "her dog was sick." (Turns out her dog is actually sick). I immediately took it as bullshit and told her if she really doesn't want to hang out, she can just say no. She then comes out and says "Noooooo noooooo that's not it at all! I just have other priorities I need to take care of before I hangout." Then she says how she feels bad for not wanting to and feels terrible for it. I'm just really unsure of how I'm supposed to read this, and not having really talked to other girls in awhile, it all just seems confusing. Is this her just trying to tell me she's not interested?
I know this all sounds almost "childish" to read, but I'm clueless and don't know how else to put it. I just want to know how to understand her.
TL;DR: | Girl says she likes me, but doesn't talk much in messages. Has excuses the past few nights for not wanting to hang out with me, but says she does and feels bad for not doing so. |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: Long-distance Breakup? (x-post to r/longdistance & r/relationship_advice)
POST: I'm dating a girl who goes to school about 2 hours away, and I want to break up with her. It's not that easy, though, when one of us has to drive for 2 hours to see the other one. I feel like a dick making her drive here and then breaking up with her and making her drive home, but I also feel like a dick driving over there, dumping her, and then just leaving. So my question is, is it okay to break up over the phone in this situation? Or does face-to-face still reign supreme? Also, to complicate things, her school is having a dance at the end of the month, and she's already bought tickets/a dress. I don't want to go (obviously), and I don't want to make her take someone who's not into it, but I also don't want to ruin her time by breaking up with her and making her go alone. Should I just do it now, or wait until after? We're both 21, and we've been together a little more than a year.
TL;DR: | 1. Is it kosher to break up with a LD girlfriend via phone? 2. Should I wait until after the dance at her school which she already has tickets and a dress for? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I am a [19M] in love with my girlfriend [18F] but sometimes wonder if its too early to settle down so much. I don't know where to turn. Help!
POST: I have been together with my girlfriend for a year now, and I think we both genuinely love eachother. We have gone through many good times and some bad, and sad times, and are still together after a full year. This is both our longest realest relationship. Lately we have slightly annoyed with eachother and have differing ideas about the future. We both want to travel when she graduates highschool in a few months (I already graduted) But she doesn't have a job, or license, and I do. I am already able to travel, and I cannot wait to finally leave. I have saved enough money up and could leave now, but I can't because I have to wait for my girlfriend to graduate and get money first. I feel like I am somewhat holding myself back by dating her, even though I love her very much, I kind of miss what it was like to not have anything weighing me down. I also secretly have a desire to experience what its like to date foreign women since I speak 3 languages :D, It just seems like it would be a hell of a thrill. I just do not know what to do or how to word any of this. We basically have a perfect relationship, our parents like eachother, we have met alot of our extended families, we are friends with eachothers friends and know everything there is to know about eachother, and yet I fantasize sometimes what It would be like to be on my own again... I just do not know what to do and I feel bad about it.. Thanks in advance for any advice I receive, I would be glad to include more information upon request.
TL;DR: | My GF and I have been together for a year and basically have a perfect relationship, yet sometimes I fantasize about going off on my own and meeting other women in far off lands. I also feel like being in this relati |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: 18y/o looking to move to Scandinavia
POST: Greetings everybody,
I'm a freshman at a state university in New England. I've enrolled myself in the prestigious business program for accounting and I'm beginning to question whether it really is the right career path for me. I really want to move to a Scandinavian country because I feel that the United States is beyond repair. But I don't know what career path will help me to get a job that will allow me to feed myself and live comfortably, at the same time as relocating myself.
On one hand, I'm an atheist, ent, progressive collectivist who enjoys volunteering, biking, computers, drawing, wants to explore graphic design (which my university doesn't offer) and loves to enjoy the company of his friends and live music.
On the other hand, I'm very materialistic and enjoy my gadgets. I'm not proud of it, but this is one of my vices. This is a bit contradictory to my philosophy, but it's just the way I am.
I want to know what you all think would be a fun and rewarding career, that doesn't leave me at the end of my college career out of a job, in my parents house and unable to be independent. Any suggestions?
Thanks Reddit!
TL;DR: | I'm a progressive American student currently studying accounting who wants to move to Scandanavia. What are other good career paths for this goal? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me 29F and crush 29M with intense unrequited feelings
POST: Long story short:
Me and Donald went on a couple of dates. I have never met someone I was able to connect with on such a deep level. We had a great time talking late at night and a second outing for dinner and drinks. It felt like our connection was on a soul level. It seemed like I was able to feel his feelings and he was able to feel mine. I could not describe the intensity of these feelings, despite the relationships I've had in the past. Those moments with him felt so intense and powerful we could both intuitively feel each others thought processes and emotions. The concept of a soulmate always seemed just a fictional concept until I locked my eyes with Donald's.
After our second outing, Donald had suggested we go out again for a meal. I had texted him and tried to set up third outing, but have not heard a response. It's been a month since then. I am not sure if perhaps he's just not interested. The more I think about him and hoping he would respond, the more pain I feel inside yearning to experience the moments we had together. Frankly, I do not want to be that girl who is nagging for another date and am used to the male initiating.
How should one proceed from this? I am trying really hard not to think about this and to experience such intense feelings. However, so many things we had discussed remind me of him and this intense feeling of unrequited love disturbs me from time to time.
TL;DR: | Had intense feelings with crush, went on a couple of dates. Have not heard a response and is feeling intensely "heart broken". |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Women of reddit: How do i tell a friend who lost me (in a nice way) that she needs to move on?
POST: I can tell the story: I was friends with a girl for about a year. We were best friends and very close for about six-seven months, until we started to argue. The thing was that she was constantly meddling in my life. She chased away girls that i was interested in, kept telling me how i was supposed to act and what kind of a person i was supposed to be, and she got really upset when i disagreed with her. I tried to fix it several times, tried my best to be as diplomatic as i could, but she just refused to listen to me.
So i finally just gave up, told her to get lost (and i wasn't very polite at all). Now it's been almost five months, i moved on a long time ago, but through mutual friends i've found out that she is still upset and feels hurt because of me. She really wants to hurt me back, and no matter what i do to try and ignore it, she just keeps trying even harder.
So what's a very polite way to tell her that she needs to get over me, and move on with her life? It's kind of hard for me to think of anything because she gets so easily offended.
TL;DR: | Had a possessive, controlling and meddling best friends that still hasn't gotten over losing me. How do i tell her to move on? |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Sublease scammer [Central PA]
POST: Hi everyone at /r/legaladvice I hope you are having a good new years.
I am currently under going a sublease scammer, that coincides with the information here.
Basically how the scam works is that they don't ever contact you over phone, but by email. When sent an email they ask for your information. Name, phone number, address. After providing this info to them, they then send a bank certified check.
They overpay you and eventually ask you to send the remainder of the money.
The check eventually clears out to be fake. And the money that you sent to them is now is in their hands while you won't be paid by the fake check.
I want to scam the scammers. I will be leaving the country to not return. Maybe return to the US in about 5 years.... Do you think I can scam the scammers without recourse?
TL;DR: | Money was sent to me, 100% scam. I want to scam the scammers. Will I get in trouble for scamming the scammers? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [f22] made out with a this guy [m21] I'm kind of friends with (met him in February), once; I'm now kind of into his best friend [m21]
POST: Rereading that title, I feel like a dick.
Hey Reddit! So this is my first self-post to the internet ever. I'm a pretty stoned right now and feeling expressive, you know? And I'm really excited for all the feedback! I read these posts and everyone is so nice and supportive, it makes my soul so happy.
I've just come out of a 4 year relationship and I'm really really not looking for anything serious, just flings. I'm also the kind of person who thinks a bit too much and so I'm trying to get out of my head.
I met this guy who's a good friend of one my close buddies and we flirted a bit and fooled around once. I wasn't super into him, it was just something I decided to do in the moment. Afterwards he'd text me to have coffees and see movies and stuff, to most of which I said no (conveniently this was in the middle of exams). He seems quite into me and I don't want to lead him on. I still really want to be his friend because he's a cool guy and we're often in social situations together, so I was hoping that transition would happen gracefully. But it's still pretty awkward when we're alone; like he makes very obvious suggestions.
Unfortunately now, I'm kind of into his best friend and roommate. I'm thinking I should just leave it. I'd really only be looking to casually see him for a while and so maybe its not worth the confusion. On the other hand, I still really want to go for it and I feel like if I could just clear the air with the first guy (considering it really wasn't a big deal, its not like we hooked up), I shouldn't feel conflicted about it. What do you think reddit?
During the creation of this post, I was eating a tuna melt on garlic olive bread. It was fucking awesome, I highly recommend it.
TL;DR: | I fooled around with this guy once and I'm now into his best friend and roommate, trying to decide if to go for it or not |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by putting a fire extinguisher in my trunk
POST: Alright Reddit, it's story time. Gather round.
I recently moved into my new house. I've been moving a lot of stuff the past week and I came across a fire extinguisher I had purchased years previously. In fact, I cannot remember how/where/when/why I acquired this archaic piece of hardware.
Anyway, I own a sedan but no truck so naturally I have to make a few trips. I am almost done moving out, and it is time to bring the fire extinguisher to my new place. I actually checked the safety pin before I even picked it up. I made sure it was in place, then carried it to the trunk of my car. Positive that it is in a reasonably safe spot, I proceed to drive to my new house.
Now before you rightfully say "Oh rjalaskan, you dumb fuck. Clearly driving will make it roll around!", I drove like Mother Teresa in a school zone! Plus the safety is in, I have nothing to worry about!
Fast forward five minutes. I pull into my driveway and behold the splendor of true home ownership before me for a few seconds, as this is the last load and I am beat. I empty my back seat without incidence, then proceed to the trunk.
I open the trunk and a white dust cloud pours out. "Yo, what the fuck...", I say to myself as I lean down to inspect what demons have possessed my car. The trunk is *covered* in white dust from the fire extinguisher. Turns out, the safety had been removed before, a fact I had been unaware of until that harrowing moment. It had slipped out, and the fire extinguisher rolled back and forth throughout the drive, spraying the payload of what appeared to be a kilogram of cocaine all over my trunk.
TL;DR: | Moving to my new house, no truck, put fire extinguisher in car trunk, safety is defective, now trunk looks like a crack whore's nostrils. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Trying to date a really shy girl, any advice? (m/23)
POST: I go to college, I met her in class (she's 25 years old). We both have very similar interests. We got to talking, and I seem to make her laugh more than any of her friends, after knowing her for the last few months.
So tonight she invited me over to her friends place for a party. We got to talking, we make good eye contact and feel comfortable around each other. But her shyness made me feel like she didn't want to get intimate, so I didn't make any moves. One of my friends actually tried to make a move by sitting close to her when I went to the bathroom, but she stood up and waited for spots to open up for both of us by the chairs.
I feel like she sees me as a really good guy friend, but doesn't know how to get intimate with me. My worry is that if I make a move on her she might get creeped out. So how do I do this? My initial thought is I need to know her for a longer period, I've been with lots of girls for short periods of time, it just seems like she may be looking in the long term? I'm afraid that I may lose time to make a move though.
**Her Shyness:** She is not shy in a way that she doesn't talk much. She loves to talk to me. But we just talk about stuff, I crack a joke here and there and she laughs. It's the type of shyness where she easily reacts to things and people around her. She's actually very willing to get out of her comfort zone...
TL;DR: | How do you go from a guy friend to more intimate, knowing that the girl wants it, but can't because she's too shy to make gestures in that way? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [42F]. Husband [43M] has taken up smoking as a means of handling stress. How to handle this?
POST: I'm 42 and from the UK. Been married for 23 years now.
Over the past 3 weeks my husband's suddenly taken up smoking; he never used to smoke before now.
He does it wherever we go, even in front of our children (aged 14 and 16). He's not a bad guy, but why he does it worries me.
I asked him one night over dinner when the kids were doing homework/college work and he admitted it was to cope with stress in work, a colleague got some cigarettes to cope and it all spiralled from there.
I know people can be stressed, but is taking up smoking normal as a response? I tried to educate him on the dangers, but probably goofed by showing him pictures of smokers' lungs online. It's put me off sex, as he's even smoking in bed, and sometimes gets up at 4-5am in the morning just to smoke outside in the garden, even in a T-shirt and shorts!
I am worried, but at least unlike some couples, I know why he's done what he's done.
He told me that he wants help dealing with the stress in work but doesn't know how to; he says he's got deadlines and thinks he can't get everything done - the boss wants a project that would take 12 weeks done in 3, which says it all really about the stress, doesn't it?
My husband said it's impossible to get something that takes 12 weeks to do done in 3 - and it's for technical reasons that it's impossible.
We need help, and I would be interested to know how you can help me.
TL;DR: | Husband has just taken up smoking, doesn't seem convinced by attempts to put him off, this is a new thing. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] with my ex-gf [17F] Should I take her back? I'm am so confused.
POST: Okay. So it all began a few months back. I met this girl at work, and we quite fast began to 'date' or whatever. We had a few dates, and they were very good. But well, after some time being in this relationship, she suddenly decided to end it with me, and we lost connection untill a few days ago.
She asked me if I wanted to come to her place and watch a few movies, and I said yes, because I got no idea why honestly. But when I got there, and we began watching movies, she began 'making moves'. And me as I unfortuneate am, gave after and we did things I don't need to go into details with. Anyways! After this, I got NO idea what to do as I really can't decide if I should give her a solid chance after she broke up with me last time.
We talked it out today, and I said I didn't knew if I could trust her completely after what happended (She broke up in a very immature way.. Ignored me for a week before having the guts to say it). But after I talked it out with her she seems quite.. Serious.. Changed.. And more mature. She claims that she have been depressed all the time since she broke up with me, and claims that she broke up with me because she was afraid I did not feel same thing for her. She used a long time crying, and telling me how much she regret it, but I just can't decide witch to give her another chance.. Or just break it off now.
I really hope someone here can give me some advice, because I'm not very good with these sorts of things.
Thanks in advance.
TL;DR: | Were together for a month, she broke up. We were together one night yesterday. And now I can't decide to take her back or not. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My[22M] girlfriend[20F] is having a guy friend spend the weekend at her house
POST: My girlfriend's best friend is a guy. I'll call him Joe. They haven't seen each other in a long time because of distance. About 8 months. They text, call, and skype each other on a regular basis. I have no problem with my girlfriend having a guy best friend, but many aspects of their relationships make me uncomfortable.
I have never met Joe. All I know about him is from what my girlfriend tells me. I know that they have had sex, but those times were mistakes according to my girlfriend. They say I love you to each other. I also saw a mildly inappropriate photo that she sent him. It was a picture of her in only bra and undies. She was showing off that she lost a lot of weight. All of theses things are really hard for me to be cool with. I know that I'm the jealous type, and i know its because of my own insecurities so I haven't told her that I'm bothered by any of this.
Joe is going to stay the weekend at her house. I told her that I'm okay with it, but I'm not. I'm really worried. I trust her, and I don't want to keep her from being with her friend. Am I right to be concerned about any of this? Or am I just being a jealous little boy?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend is having a guy sleep over her house for the weekend. I'm worried but don't know if I should be. |
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