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t3_4756df | pettyrevenge | Won't let me fix my car? I'll make you thing yours needs fixing. | Recently my car developed an oil leak, so i asked my landlady (who I live with) if I could use the garage for one day to fix it. She was hesitant as I may drop oil on the garage floor (WTF its a garage....) so I said i'd buy some carpet to soak up any oil that may spill on the floor. She agreed and I said I would do it on the weekend I get back from holiday. Bear in mind that if I were to get this professionally fixed, the bill will be around $1200 and the part was $25 so it was worth it for me to do it myself.
So when I came back from holiday to complete the work on the agreed date, I instead find her big Range Rover parked in the middle of the double garage. I asked her if I could move it to the side so I can complete the work, to which she replied no as "Plans had changed". Well now I'm pissed as I am not going to spend $1200 due to her being an indecisive bitch.
I recently done an oil change on my car and still had the old oil leftover, so what I did was tip about 25 ml (1oz ish) of oil underneath her car to make her think her car had a minor oil leak and smeared a little around the bottom of the sump and the sump plug. When she parked her car outside I would also do the same to make her think it was fresh oil and did this for about 3 nights until she noticed. She then booked in a service at the dealership which from what I understand cost around $400-$500.
Take that bitch, try make me spend money unnecessarily, I'll do the same. | My car had oil leak, landlady wouldn't let me fix it. Made her think car had oil leak, made her spend money at dealership. |
t3_4oipim | relationships | My friend | So, me and arguably my best friend have known eachother for 2 years now. We have been through alot, we became more than friends and that led to that it broke our friendship, so then we went to being enemies for like 6 months or even more, we wanted to try just being friends for some time, it worked out pretty well. Now at this time, we are both in love with eachother but we want to wait to become more than friends since we knew what happened last time. So, we love eachother very much, but I don't want to be friends with her anymore since it feels like she doesn't love me in the '' not the friendly way '' anymore, when i tell her i love her she doesnt say she loves me back, she cares less about how i feel, it basically feels like she wants us to just be not even close friends just friends. We are both 15 years old now, and as I said, idw to be friend with her, but she is the only reason im happy in the days, but the fact that this thing happened i literally just cant take this, it's too much. What do you think I should do? | I need help what to do with my best friend, if i should just try to get over it and state the fact that we'll only be friends forever or just forget about her which is almost impossible |
t3_3xl6vi | relationships | Is it a bad idea for me [27F] to date a friend [27M] of my ex [28M] - who I have a child [4M] with? | My ex (Ben) and I broke up a year ago. We had been on/off for a long time and we had only stayed together because of our son (now 4). Finally, we realized it was never going to work so we broke up for good. We're still friends and see each other regularly with our son.
Recently, I started dating this guy (Adam). I've known him a long time, since college, which is also where I met Ben and they are friends. The thing with Adam and I has been quite casual and we have taken it slow.
Now it has reached the stage where we both want to take it more seriously but I'm starting to feel a bit weird about the situation with Ben. Is it bad to date your ex's friend, especially when you have a child together? I really like Adam and it's nice to be in a happy relationship but I don't want to ruin the relationship with my child's father. I'm not sure I would like one of my friend's dating my ex, so maybe I'm answering my own question.
Does anyone else have any thoughts on this? Is it a bad idea? | I've started dating a friend of my ex, don't know if this is a bad idea. Made more complicated because my ex and I have a child |
t3_11nwgr | AskReddit | I am in third year at University and I don't have many friends in my program. Everyone is already in groups so how do I become friends with anyone? | I'm a female nursing student so most of my program is other females. I find it hard to make good friends with other girls in general. The only good girl friends I have are from kindergarten and they live in my hometown. My university is in a different city so I don't have many friends here. I tend to go out with my sister and her friends. I am in third year so everyone already has a set group of friends.
They only time I see people in my program is during class and I know most of them stick to certain groups. I am kinda friends with some students but I only really talk to them in class I don;t see them outside of school. How to I join one of these groups so I can start going out with them to bars and stuff? | How to I make friends with people(preferably a group) in a classroom setting - Goal is to go out with them to bars and stuff. |
t3_vgif6 | AskReddit | Reddit, what's the most outrageous true story you've heard that you can't believe.... I'll start | One of my co workers told this story about when he was in Korea. He goes into a bar meets this chick, starts talking to her and she starts buying him shots. He figure he would keep drinking till she started to look better, since she was about the only thing in bar. Ends up with them two getting wasted and get a hotel room, and then he goes to take a piss comes back out and she's past out drunk. He sits on the bed pissed off and looking around the room, he notices a pile of change on the nightstand. He then proceeds to shove quarters in her butt, him saying that he got at least a buck twenty five in there. When he finshes he gets up and grabs his stuff and leaves the chick still past out. | gets drunk with chick, she passes out and then he shoves $1.25 in her butt then leaves her passed out |
t3_4gf6ou | relationships | Me [24M] with my friend [35F]. Met her some time ago, have been close - feelings involved. | Hello reddit:
I am currently about to graduate from college and during one of my internships on another city, during my first 2 weeks, a new employee comes in. Since we're both new we sort of began to stick together because the other circles had already been formed. We began to go out to lunch together pretty much every day, hang out some afternoons in a bar and we talked about pretty much everything.
So, during the internship which lasted 2 months we became to know each other and once it was over for me we kept in touch even though I left the city. We have been talking ever since (I've nown her since January). Nowadays I'm on another 2 month internship very far in the south and we've kept messaging, she talks to me about how she doesn't like the work environment, about her coworkers and asks me for advice on stuff sometimes, hell, we even talked about our ideal mates and some other stuff. I think that I might be the only close person/friend she's met there.
Now, due to the shift system the place I'm working in has, I get some days off every X days worked so I'm going to my hometown which is close to the city she's working, when I told her I was finally having some days off she asked me to come over to see her and even offered to let me stay at her place.
Now that might sound normal considering the situation but even back then when I offered to help her after she moved to a new place she refused.
In any case, I might be reading too much into it.
The thing is that I began developing feelings for her during the internship and I am not sure how she feels about me, we both call each other cute and silly names very often and I don't know if that's just how she expresses herself or not; I am uncertain about everything surrounding this whole matter.
I need some advice on how to deal with this, I'll see her during the whole weekend and I'll be staying with her at her place, do you have any ideas in how to subtly get a clearer understanding on all this? | Met an older coworker 4 months ago, got along, developed feelings now she invited me to stay at her place during my days off. I want to use that time to try to see how to proceed. |
t3_53u8lk | relationships | Me [16 M/F] with my _Classmate__ [16 M/F] Unsure | There is this girl in my class who is very cute and kind. She's a Christian and went to a Christian Private School. (Probably due to her parents and raise, doesn't matter blabla.)
Anyways. I really have no clue if she likes me or not. We have the gold heart on Snapchat which means we're both #1 best friends in Snapchat. We also have a 23-24+ fire streak if that even matters in opposition to 0 to my friend who she thinks is handsome.
We always stare at eachother but it can get confusing, she stares at other boys too.
When I look at something behind her, she looks back to see what it is as if she's looking at me. I look at her and then she looks at me and then to another person. Like 'dragging' her eye. She possibly copies me, maybe. We were able to use music in class, I decided not to but then the next hour, I did and she did the same. Or usually laughs when I do, even though I laugh at everything. But if I don't laugh, she doesn't. Probably a coincidence.
In snapchat sometimes I send snaps and she responds like "What about you?". Once I asked if she liked someone and she said "How about you tell me". I told her "If I tell you, you'll tell me, ok?" Then she said "maybe". I told her yes, and then she said yes too. I wrote earlier "Oh well, that's how life is." and she didn't respond, I am assuming that's normal?
I can't just ask her out because that will make all hell as we meet eachother everyday as we go in the same classes. | Does any of this mean anything? Sorry for writing a mess, lol. She's the kindest I have ever met. |
t3_2lkgxb | relationships | Me [20 M] with my Girlfriend [18 F] 1 year, Daydream about rejecting other girls | So before I met my SO I started daydreaming about random cute girls I saw. Whenever I'd see a cute girl I'd start daydreaming about how cool it'd be to ask her out and all that stuff. Being self conscious as I am that always stayed with daydreaming.
A year ago I met my SO. We started dating fairly quick and she's my first real girlfriend. I love her to dead. She's my everything and I'd never do anything to hurt hur. I'd never cheat on her. I just wouldn't. But recently whenever I see a cute girl in my class or something I start daydreaming that they come up to me and ask for my number or something, Just to be like "No sorry, I'm dating a wonderful girl". There's no much to it. I just want to be able to reject other girls for my current girlfriend.
So now my question is, Is the something I should tell my SO about? She'd probally feel horrible that I'm daydreaming about other girls even tho it's purely to reject them. This isn't considered emotional cheating in one way or another is it? Maybe you guys can give me some insight in this. | Daydreaming about how I want cute girls to come up to me and ask me out, just to reject them for my current SO. |
t3_3xfl2h | relationships | Me [25M] and my gf [23 F] of 2 years, I don't plan on marrying her. | Not sure why I am even posting this but I really don't know what to do. I love her like the moon loves the earth but I don't really think were right for each other. Things are going good, we've had fights in the past, but what couple hasn't?
She is a great, awesome, wonderful girl, but I don't know if she's the right one for me. I was raised poor, she was raised upper middle class. I see the way that her parents fight and the way her mother berates her father for his lack of gumption (he kind of likes to take it easy, like me). I really don't want to end up with a wife that looks to me to make her life comfortable. I'm kind of a deadbeat in the sense that I don't really want/expect too much out of my life. I'm not a bum, mind you. I'm going to school. I just don't feel like slaving away my life to support a family and become "established".
I'm a good guy, and I take care of myself. But I've never felt the calling to "fit in" with the Jones's the way that I think she wants to. I feel like like her plan in life is to settle down and have children and get a big house and have a nice family and just be normal. I don't really see myself as a normal person.
I love her to the moon and back, and I'm not planning on breaking up with her any time soon. But I know in my heart I don't want to marry her. At what point am I just wasting her time? At what point should I break up with her because I know I don't want to end up married to her?
Am I wasting her time? I don't know how to tell her I don't plan on marrying her because our relationship as it is right now (young adults) is peachy keen. | I don't know if I'm wasting her time by being in a relationship with her that I don't think will end up in marriage. |
t3_2ulr6t | relationships | Me [23 M] with my [24 M] of 2.5 years. Should I be mad at this? | I moved to Australia from the States 1.5 years ago after graduating. My partner and I have been together for 2.5 years. Without going into much detail I was just wondering if I should be mad at this statement he made...
We were discussing how I miss the states and how I am debating whether my [lack] of career in Australia is worth moving back home to the states. I have been finding it very difficult to find a job in my field, and I left behind my family, friends, car, pets, and everything else that I had going for me. He then made the comment "I know I would choose my career over a relationship without a doubt".
Should this be an eye-opener for me? I have given up so much to move to Australia to be with him, yet he would give me up for his career without a question. Or am I just over-reacting to his statement?
Cheers | Partner of 2.5 years stated he would choose his career over me, after I moved country to be with him. Should I be upset? |
t3_25f3m7 | relationships | He [19M] and I[20F] separated for the summer, then he suddenly stopped calling. My spidey sense is tingling. | My SO of six months and I attend the same college, but we had to separate for the summer. We've been apart for almost two weeks now, and suddenly our communication has been greatly reduced. He's canceled every pre-agreed upon skype session and phone call save a single very short one. He's sent me one unprompted text, and ends the few texting conversations I've started within a message or two.
The issue I have with all of this is that I have no idea where this came from or what could be wrong, if anything. This is a guy who is normally very considerate and loving, and while we've never kept in constant contact, we've spent almost every night together and talk when needed during the day. He's told me he's not remotely busy now, and though we had a small fight the night before we left, we made up and things seemed to be mostly ok the next morning. He did seem slightly more tense than normal when said our final goodbye, but I chalked that up to the 8 hour drive he was starting. Now, I'm not so sure.
Is it unreasonable for me to feel like something is odd about his behavior, or that he's probably upset or hiding something? If it's not, how do I ask him about it without sounding accusatory? We agreed before we left that we both care about each other immensely and value our relationship, so I don't want to risk ending it.
That said, I've been in a similar situation thrice before, and each time it was the strongest sign that the relationship was about to end. I don't want to believe that my current relationship is going to suffer the same fate, but I have the same gut feeling I've had each of those times before. | One half of a seemingly happy college couple stops communicating when separated for the summer. He won't say why, and I'm getting concerned. |
t3_1aq0th | dating_advice | I [m28] dont know where i am standing with her [f29] | I went on two dates with a girl. On the first date we went out for drinks and talked alot. At the end of the Date we say bye and she says "We gonna hear from each other". I thought this was a polite way to say its not working out.
So the next day i send her a short message saying Thank you for the nice evening, that i had a lot of fun and if she would like to go to the movies. She writes back that she too had a lot of fun and would got to the movies with me.
At the beginng of the second date i get her with the car. I hug her hello and we go to the movies. After i bring her home we talk for another 30 min in the car. Before she leaves she says thank you for the nice evening and that she would like to meet again. But no hug or kiss. But i didnt go for it either.
When i got home i wrote a short text message. She writes again that she liked the evening and would be happy to meet again.
So my Problem is i dont know where i am standing with this girl. If i would know if she isnt interested i could go on. I dont know if i am on my way to the friendzone already. I was the one who wrote after the first date and i am thinking about waiting this time if she writes back. But maybe i should just text her, invite her for an evening with cooking and watching a film at home and try to initiate more physical contact. | 2 dates with a girl but not much physical contact. She said both times she had fun and would like to meet again. |
t3_3fwbpv | personalfinance | Major credit score drop after deferment of student loan? | I am enrolled in a Ph.D program and decided to defer my undergraduate loans. Unfortunately, I did not realize I had a federal Perkins Loan which apparently requires a separate deferment. After receiving a collections notice I immediately contacted the department to learn how to defer the loan. I gave the documents to my registrar to verify enrollment and they sent them to the company that services the loan. A week later I contacted the department again and they said they still had not received my deferment form. I sent the documents again to both the school and the loan servicer. The other day I received a letter saying the loan had officially been deferred and that no payment was due. My concern with this issue is that my credit score has dropped from 750 to 660 throughout this whole ordeal. Will it recover on its own? I feel like, aside from not knowing I had to defer the loan separately (which is totally my fault), I handled the situation as quickly and reasonably as I could and it does not merit such a harsh penalty. Any advice? | Forgot to defer a federal perkins loan with my other loans. Deferred it. Credit score dropped 100 points. |
t3_rmr9t | AskReddit | I recently found my my grandpa was on an episode of Captain Kangaroo. Can Reddit help me find the episode? | Unfortunately I don't have very many details, which could make this difficult. I know for sure he was on the show demonstrating how to make pottery. He's pretty sure he was on the same episode as a glass-blower, as well.
He said it was around 1971, but my grandma thinks it couldn't have been '71... she says he was overseas at the time. He was only home for a year after serving as an Airborne Ranger in Vietnam. He was having a hard time re-adjusting to "normal" life after that, so he went back into the army a year later. Since he was having a difficult time while he was home, I figure it's possible he's remembering the date wrong. That being said-- I think he still probably remembers better than my grandma... so I'd stick with 1971, haha.
He was working at Silver Dollar City in Branson, MO (doing pottery) when they found him & asked him to be on the show. Apparently they found a lot of the show's guests there, though.
If anyone on Reddit can figure out which episode it was, we will be forever grateful! My grandpa just acted like it was no big deal and he didn't know why we were so excited about it, lol. | My grandpa was on Captain Kangaroo in roughly 1971 doing pottery. Same episode as a glass-blower. Can anyone help me find the episode he was in? Thanks, Reddit!! |
t3_2p353u | relationships | Me [31 M] with my girlfriend [33 F], is it time to shit or get off the pot? | I need some advice from people outside my relationship. I have been with my GF for 2 years and things have for the most part been great. Recently we moved to support her career and i ended up in a cool job too. The problem is that I recently got a job offer somewhere else and Im not sure if i should accept it. Im relatively happy where i am and with our relationship but there are some definite negatives about staying.
Those negatives would be my currently massive commute, we live kind of in the middle of nowhere aka social life is damn near non existent, my gf works like a bazillion hours a week so we have at most 1 day a week to actually go out and do stuff, and lastly our sex is mediocre at best.
The job offer would be a sizable salary increase, living in a bigger city/much closer to work, and potentially meeting someone else. I love my gf but i'm not sure what move to make here. I dont want to spend the rest of my life regretting losing an amazing woman if i move, but i dont want to spend my life wondering what could have been if i stay. I realize i need to just make a decision and live with it, but how do i make the best decision? Any advice is very sincerely appreciated. Thanks! | Should I move away from my great gf and current job for a higher paying job in a better location but potentially losing her? |
t3_164iq9 | self | I've got something to share with all of you. Perhaps we can trade some life story with each other. | Recently concluded my study and I'm slated to receive my Degree at a ripe age of 27. Yup - I'm 27 years old.
The reason why I'm only having my Degree now would be when I was growing up, I never really knew what to do with my life. So I decided to delve into a lot of things over the years and got myself a nice freelance gig in the world of communications. I did a lot of stuff ranging from Events Management, Public & Media Relations to Advertising.
My country, Malaysia, has a quite fucked up tertiary education system where students are being spoonfed every time and there's little change in the mentality to switch it. Sure, they practice Outcome Based Education but nothing to show for it.
Thus, instead of entering the world of 9am to 6pm like I'm expected to, here I am resuming my freelance gig - Consulting people who are consulting people who do Consultations on Events, Public and Media Relations.
It's been tough - Most of my friends boasted that they got a stable job with a future. While here I am working for scraps some of the time and got huge pay some other time. It all depends on the work scope and portfolio I'm given.
But one thing for sure is that - I'm happy.
Sure, my days are hectic when there's one to many jobs that I need to do. Due to that, I've never been in a serious relationship for the past 7 years. Sure, I date around but nothing to show for other than headcounts. It does eats me up sometimes seeing my friends getting engaged and married and stuff.
But hey, Happiness is a state of mind right? I know I can conquer this. I know there's plenty more out there in the same position as I am right now or perhaps have overcome it and now living the life they want. | I'm going to be just fine. My decision in my life are sound and was taken after a lot of thoughts. |
t3_1z6j0n | relationships | Me [23 M] with my _gf__ [28 M/F] 11 months, Gf wants to hangout with an old guy friend. What is considered a normal situation. | Hi me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for 11 months. Everything is going well. She is in college finishing her degree. Recently she mentioned running into an old guy friend that she hasn't seen in a while. She told me that she used to hangout with him before class when she commuted to college. She is still in college and dorms there now. She wants to hangout with him again. I am thinking I should be fine with this but I feel insecure about it. Should I be like its fine as long as they don't hangout in her dorm? Should I stay out of it for now? Should I ask if there is any previous history between them? I think it is more she is just looking for someone to hangout with before class but I dont know. I am just looking for advice. | College Gf wants to hangout before class with old guy friend that she used to hangout with before class when she commuted. This is fine right? |
t3_2nnill | tifu | TIFU by wearing a moustache and accidentally making a Hitler salute | Context: Today was Movember and some of us wore a moustache to school today. I didn't wear a moustache but my friend had a toothbrush moustache.
School ends and we wait for the bus, longing for the weekend. While we're waiting for it, he decided to show it to me and let me wear it for a while. A couple of Hitler jokes were thrown around.
The unforgettable sound of the bus came and I raised my hand to 'catch' the bus. *It wasn't a bus. It was a truck.* And then a teacher's car drives out and stops besides me, letting the truck go first. **SHIT.** I just did a nazi salute and she's staring at me. My friend quickly took off the moustache and she drove off.
The teacher in question doesn't *particularly* like me, or a couple of my friends for that matter. On Monday I find out whether she remembers or not. I hope she doesn't. | I catch a bus by raising my hand, turns out it was a truck, I was wearing a Hitler moustache. Teacher sees it. I have 2 days to live. |
t3_1l8vu7 | relationships | How to stop feeling lonely? [20,M] | I've been single for nearly a year since my first relationship ended. I started looking for another woman about ~3 months into being single.
I've tried a good number of things to improve my chances of meeting a woman with dating potential, but nothing has surfaced. Some of these things are joining dating websites like POF and OKC (been active for ~9 months with 0 dates and have sent hundreds of messages), joining clubs at my local community college, being active and staying in above average shape, keeping myself clean and always dressing nicely.
I'm 5'7", 145 lbs, well built/muscular, kind of shy/awkward around women I think are pretty but I have no problem chatting and making friends. I'm confident. A lot of that has to do with how well I've taken care of myself since graduating high school. I dropped about 40 lbs. of fat and have improved myself mentally as well.
I go to school full time (3 classes/12 credit hours), work a well paying full time job and work a part time job at the community college I attend for school. As a 20 year old, I have a good chunk of savings and recently used some of it to purchase a motorcycle in hopes of it attracting a woman. No luck.
My biggest problem is how lonely I feel.. It just.. Sucks. I miss being intimate with someone and telling someone how I care about them. I miss taking that special someone on dates and having a good time when I'm free of obligations like work and school. I like to think I'm happy, but when the end of the day rolls around, I get the same feeling of being lonely.
How do I deal with this lonely feeling? I'm obviously ready for a relationship, but I'm so fucking bad at getting a girl interested I don't know what to do with myself.. | I feel lonely all the time. How do I stop? (Just read the top part, I think it will help you understand more). |
t3_33guc7 | relationships | Me [26 F] with my Fiance (26 M) together 5 years. I went away and he cheated on me. Getting married in 6 weeks | Hi first post because I really just need to get this out there.
We have been together 5 years. He proposed 8 months ago and we are getting married in 6 weeks. I went away for a two week holiday to visit family and 5 days after I came back he told me he cheated on me.
So we have always been really open about bdsm stuff but it didn't really mesh well with us a couple beyond some light stuff.. I know in the past my partner has been a bit of a Dom but as I'm far more into it in fantasy rather than reality we didn't really go further than experimentation. We have great non dynamic sex. While it isn't perfect with regard to the little things we discussed it and we're working through it.
My partner admitted that he had had a 'non sexual' d/s scene with a good friend/coworker (25ish F). It doesn't sound like it was very planned but he caned her on her hand and bottom in the lounge and spare bedroom of the house we share.
He told me yesterday and I'm struggling on how to process. I feel very betrayed because I thought that we could discuss anything in a non judgemental way. I wish he had discussed this all with me beforehand. He has been really stressed about the wedding and all the planning and said he was feeling trapped but just wanted to see how it would feel.
He has been really contrite about it since and insists that it won't happen again. He is still not sure if d/s is something that he needs in a relationship. I am just not sure if I can believe him. I just feel like he had completely disregarded me.
We are 6 weeks to the wedding, it's costing a bomb and nearly everything is contracted and paid for. I just want everything to get back to normal. Any advice or comment appreciated. | my(26f) fiance (26m) caned a coworker in our house while I was away. 6weeks before the wedding. I feel completely disregarded and betrayed. No clue how to move forward. |
t3_wkwdr | AskReddit | I think my dog is going through a false pregnancy because she knows that I'm pregnant. Is this even possible? | My dog got sexually assaulted at a dog park 5 weeks ago, and within 3 days her nipples started swelling. I thought she was over her heat cycle, otherwise I wouldn't have brought her there. I am 5 months pregnant. She isn't showing at all, but she is really sleepy and has gotten very protective over me. I'm taking her to the vet on Monday for a blood test. I have had this dog literally from the moment she was born, so she is very attached to me. She has all the symptoms of pregnancy that I went through, like morning sickness and lack of energy, but she is still very skinny. When I felt her breasts, they are empty. Like, no mammary glands or hardness...just loose saggy skin that look like she already had pups before. | I am starting to think there are no puppies, but she developed these symptoms because she wants to be like me or something. |
t3_13jwjr | relationships | Worried I (19f) won't be able to move on from my boyfriend (20m) of 4 years. | Is it possible to truly move on from a first love and come out better in the end, and if it has successfully happened for you or someone you know, could you share tips on doing that? My boyfriend (20M) and I (19F) have been together almost 4 years but recently broke up (again). I'm not looking for opinions on our age, naively, etc. I just feel like I truly will never be able to move on from him and love anybody else in a similar capacity. Every time we broke up I would stay in contact and we'd get back together. I get so worried that I will never have as strong an emotional, physical, or overall loving connection with any other person as I do with him, so I usually try to get through the issues we are having. I can answer more specific questions if they are relevant to advice you think may help, but there's a general overview. | I've been with my bf for almost 4 years and feel like I won't love anyone as much as him. |
t3_33xlt1 | relationships | Me [29 M] with my GF [24 F] of 8 months who has health problems. Any way to dump her and not be a jerk? | I've been with my girlfriend for about 8 months. The sex is great, but I'm not feeling any kind of emotional connection to her anymore, so I have decided I will need to end the relationship.
Here's the problem: She's in the hospital right now undergoing treatment for a long-term health issue, and will be for 2-3 more weeks. The health issue has nothing to do with the reasons I'm ending the relationship, and I knew going in that there would be challenges and I was ok with that. I just don't feel that we're right for each other and she's not the person who will make me happy in the long term. (There is someone else who might be better for me, who I might go out with after this ends, but not pursuing that while I'm still in a relationship.)
I'm obviously not going to break up with her while she's in the hospital. It would not be helpful for her recovery. She has no idea this is coming, and she is totally crazy about me.
Do I continue to visit and act normal? How long after she gets out of the hospital do I break up with her? What would be the least bad way to do it? (Not over email or phone obviously, but are there any other tips to not be a jerk?) | Want to break up with gf but she's in the hospital. Don't want to be a jerk about it. How long to wait? |
t3_2djza8 | relationships | Me [22 M/F], 6 months, I don't understand myself. | Hello. I'm a 22M and I don't understand myself. I was in a relationship (of 7 years) with my first GF until 7 months ago (I broke with her). I really don't cared about that because I was in love with another girl and I only thought about her in that time. The thing is, that this girl broke up with me a few days ago and… I feel lonely.
It's weird. I can make a party, a BBQ, or something with friends. I have a few girls interested in me, but I still feel lonely when i come back home (I live with my parents). I need this girl for some late night calls, watch some movies at Netflix, late night chats and snapchats. I feel like I lost my personality, my day-to-day routine, and all for a girl that I know 6 months ago. I don't know how get out of this…
I have a trip in some days but I feel lonely and I just think I need this girl to be happy. Why? What can I do? Thanks and sorry for my bad English, I'm not from US. | i have friends and other girls interested in me, but i feel lonely without a girl i just meet 6 months ago. WHY? |
t3_4e8tdq | tifu | TIFU By sleeping in and rushing to work | So this was friday and I was looking at about a 2hr drive to the job site I was working at that day from my shop which is about 5mins around the corner from my place.
Hit the snooze 1 too many times and ended up skipping the bathroom routine, grabbing an apple and running out the door.
Whats wrong with skipping the morning bathroom routine is missing out on my morning poop. I climb networking towers for a living and trust me, 500ft in the air is the LEAST idea place to need to go #2.
None the less I barely made it on time-ish to work, got my gear on and started my climb. About 250ft-300ft up the error of my ways made itself apparent.
My climbing partner who is years more experienced is laughing his ass off at me radioing the ground crew so they too can laugh at my situation.
He explained that there are mounts up at 400ft that are big enough to sit on and I would have to literally just shit into the wind from there.
That last 100ft climb was nothing short of horrible. Your legs do not have the range of motion needed to climb towers when your clenching your ass cheeks as hard as you can to avoid a high altitude underpants explosion.
Once I made it to the mounts at 400ft the next terrifying step was losening my leg straps on my harness enough to get my pants down and into position.
After a quick wind direction check and a radio call to the ground that the bombing was about to commence I finally was able to let loose my steamy payload from 400ft in the air.
My cotton glove liner was sacrificed as improvisional TP.
And because I know people will ask the tower was in a field, bombing was successful and on target with the splashdown area safely away from equipment, vehicles and co-workers somewhere in a farm field. | TIFU by rushing to work without using the bathroom and having to shit off the edge of a tower 400ft in the air. |
t3_2465ry | relationships | I [19F] think my boyfriend [18M] of 10 months is taking me for granted. | My boyfriend for almost 10 months now told me last night that he loves himself more than he loves me. It's normal to love yourself but what he told me just broke my heart. It seems like I'm the man in the relationship. I'm always the one making the first move and I'm getting tired. I've called out on him already about this twice and he doesn't seem to at least make it up to me in anyway. He rarely ask me out on dates and I'm always the one asking if we could see each other.
I think I love him more than he loves me. Help, Reddit. I'm really broken right now. I don't know what to do. He thinks we're already okay but I don't think we completely are. He's not even bothering to text or call me.
I thought before that he was just adjusting to our relationship since I'm his first girlfriend. But it's already 10 months, Reddit. Why can't he catch my drift? He's so stubborn. He's already too comfortable with me that he almost treats me just like a friend with just little bit extras. I want him to make me feel that I'm special. I don't think he's willing to make sacrifices for me too. | I think I am the man in the relationship. Always the one who asks out and always the one making the first move. |
t3_1fhidi | relationship_advice | Do I continue a relationship with a friend I cannot trust? (X-post r/advice) | I have a good friend of similar age to me. We generally get along great, but recently I've been having doubts about our friendship. In the past, we have gone out with each other and during that time she cheated on me... with three different guy. Obviously I broke up with her, but we did remain good friends.
When we first started dating, she had told me that she'd been raped by an ex, but I asked her recently about it and she told me that she had lied to me about it, for a reason she doesn't know.
Recently, I started hearing rumours that she had started taking drugs, although just weed mostly and bit of this and that. Her farther is a drug dealer, so she has easy access to any drug she could want. She's only 17, I've looked after her for most of her life and I'm worried that she's going to end up getting into crime or developing an addiction to a hard drug. She says she cares about me, loves me and would do anything for me, so I asked her to stop otherwise I'd move away and break contact with her. She said she would stop and begged me to stay, however I still have the feeling she won't. She has ADHD, so she is impulsive and often acts before she thinks. This, in additon to her previous actions means that it's hard for me to trust her and believe what she says. Currently, I'm not in the same country as her and won't for a few more months, so it's impossible for me to keep a good eye on her.
Basically, do I continue with our friendship, or tell her to screw it? | My friend who cheated and lied about being raped, has started taking drugs. I don't trust her and don't want to get hurt again. |
t3_3c7ey6 | relationships | Me (30s F) with some guy (late 20s? M) and a chance meeting that may or may not be pursued | Some background - I was dumped fairly recently, out of the blue, by a guy I was completely in love with. I'm not over him/it. I'm interested in moving on but not really ready to push things - I don't really see myself as ready enough for any attempt at a relationship to succeed right now.
So anyway, I decided to walk for lunch from my office on Thursday and was approached by a guy on foot who was looking for a specific shop. I told him I couldn't help him and went on my way, but a second later he stopped me and said he was sorry, but he would regret not trying, could he have my number? I relented but said I wasn't really good company right now and to wait awhile before contacting me.
I got a text within an hour. Texted back and forth for a bit, he seems interesting - and then he tris to get me to go out that evening. Ok, sure, it was worth trying, but I said no and expected that to be the end. He probably asked two or three more times that evening before I stopped reading his texts.
He's now done this for three days in a row. "No" doesn't work. "No I have plans" doesn't work. "No I don't feel good" doesn't work. Since I'm not particularly open to meeting someone right now, I can't tell if this is supposed to be cute or blatantly disrespectful of my boundaries. What does reddit think? | boy meets girl, asks her out persistently despite repeated refusals. Is this flattering or creepy? Should I eventually meet this guy for a date? |
t3_2b3m68 | tifu | TIFU by taking a midnight piss | Where to begin, first off, I live in a small apartment where the the walls are very thin, and the floor is very creaky (I live on the top floor). Usually my mum goes to sleep around 11, and I try to be as quiet as possible, at all times. Sometimes to enforce this unwritten rule, I piss in empty bottles to avoid possibly waking up my mum, and because I'm a lazy shit, yes its awful but its a guilty pleasure to be honest.
In my room, My chair at my computer is currently kinda broken, If I lean back too hard, The back of my chair comes off completely (It's like an old office chair, the part that connects the back of the chair to the rest of it is very loose).
One night, I had been browsing the internet for much longer then I thought I had, it was around 4.00 AM, and I had a pretty big piss stored up and ready to go, So, I reach for one of the empty water bottles that I had devoured earlier in the day, stand up off the chair and slightly away from it, whip out my old man and start taking a leak, Ah bliss, it was such a relief, I had enjoyed this one, this was a special piss, a special piss that, ultimately lead to my downfall.
I was in a state of relaxation now, I had peace of mind, and with this state of relaxation and relief, I sit down, but not only do I sit down, I put all my weight behind sitting down onto the back of my chair, oh shit, the back comes off, and I go with it, and this is where disaster strikes, because I didn't put the lid back on afterwords, Suddenly, I go from a state of relaxation, to a state of angry-as-fuck-covered-in-piss, But not only that, I also woke up my mum from all the noise I made from my humiliating urine-filled fall, I have never seen such a confused, tired and angry face in all my life, she never even said a word, just sighed and left me lying there covered in my own piss, I quickly bought a new chair after this dreadful event. | Pissed in a bottle, fell backwards and spilled it over me, and basically got disowned by my mum for a day. |
t3_ps2jo | AskReddit | My future fiance wants the ring from my mother's recent messy divorce. Any advice? | This ring is beautiful, and very expensive. We are of modest means and my mother has given us the option of using or scavenging three of her rings, one of which was from her previous marriage. My girlfriend LOVES it. This ring has blown her mind, as far as expectations for what she was going to be wearing for the rest of her life. One big problem, it is from the failed marriage of my mother. It is from her second marriage, and my step-father from this marriage made me a much better man. Then I opened the door one day to my mother, while I was hosting a party, sobbing. He had cheated on her, and their marriage had fallen apart. There will never be a way to describe the pain of watching my mother, who sacrificed so much for me, sobbing. Telling me how she will die alone because no one will ever love her again. This is what I associate with this ring, but my girlfriend loves it. She gushes every time she sees it, and I want to give her everything she has ever wanted. Is it crazy to give her the ring? | Soon-to-be-fiance wants a ring from my mother's recent messy divorce. Should I give it to her? |
t3_4407de | relationships | Me [20 M] with my GF [22 F] of 5 months, need an outside view on an aspect of our relationship. | Hey /r/relationships,
So I'm probably dating the most amazing girl that I've had the pleasure of meeting. A couple days ago, right before our 5-month mark, we had a conversation about the pace of our relationship. We both think that, for dating for only 5 months, we've been going faster than other relationships. However, we both agreed that were comfortable with the way our relationship has been going. I'm a junior in college and she's a senior who graduates this spring. I feel like the reason that the past 5 months have been like they have been is because I wont see her on a daily basis next school year when she is working. Does the pace of a relationship really matter that much if both persons are comfortable with the current situation? I just want to hear outside opinions outside of our own on the situation.
Thanks guys/gals! | dating for 5 months. both are comfortable with the pace of relationship, but we're concerned others may think we're going to fast. |
t3_2928o3 | dating_advice | Need advise. Lifeguard at the pool. | Hey guys and gals. Maybe im over thinking this but heres the deal. I take my kids to the local gym for swimming lessons. They just started the current class twice a week last week. There is an very cute lifeguard that works there. I catch her looking at me a few times during the lessons and she is constantly running her hands through her hair. She always seems to have a bored look on her face and doesnt talk to many people. Just seems super focused on her job.
Last week at the end of the lesson I walked behind her to get to the locker room, she turns around rather quickly and with a big smile on her face says have a good day, i smile and say you too. Then last night, similar behavior during lesson, afterwards she is standing near door and again turns and smiles and says have a good day. I smile and ask her what her name is. She tells me her name. I say "ok, I just like to put a name on the cute face" She had a big smile on her face and turned to focus on the pool again.
So my question is, what next? Due to my work schedule i wont be there for lessons again till next week. Thoughts on my cute face comment? She was working and i think shes somewhat new so i didnt want to get her in trouble. Would it be a good idea to take kids there for an open swim in the next day or so to hopefully see her again or just wait till next week? Thoughts on how to break the ice in a situation like that? Just so you all know im 32 and she appears to probably be low to mid 20s. Normally id just not think too much of it, but she is definitely showing signs of interest in my opinion.
Thanks for any input. | lifeguard showing signs of being attracted to me. I asked her for her name and made comment that basically told her i think shes cute. Wont see her again for a week. How do i progress? |
t3_4438dj | relationships | My [26F] fiancé [31M] of three years says I need to be proactive with our sex life but he isn't as well.. | So my fiancé and I have been together for 3 years now. Our sex life is currently doing it once a month, maybe twice.
We were long distance for two years and of course would do it any chance we got when we were together and honestly (even though it's cliche) sex with him was the best! Toys, outfits, the whole nine yards..
But now, it's almost like a chore. We both work long hours and almost every day (medical). Recently, I tried to initiate (will get more to that later) and by the time I reached the bed I literally was going to pass out.
I brought up to him why it's changed and he said I need to initiate more, like just grab his dick and do it. I also enjoy doing it at night before bed and he doesn't. The thing is he doesn't initiate much either and I told him this but he wants me to just grab it and do it..
Any advice y'all? This sounds sad since we've only been together three years but I feel like there may be something I'm missing and a way I can be a better fiancé. | My fiancé and I have a boring sex life and need advice on how I can do better/what I'm doing wrong. |
t3_39d715 | relationships | Me [35 M] with my wife [38 F] of 5 years, she has stayed in contact with inappropriate relationship SO | A year ago I was deployed and looked at my phone bill. I noticed that one number came up A LOT. A lot of texts, some calls. Eventually, I found that it was a male friend of my wife. I was suspicious but the texting stopped. When I returned home I looked at my wife's phone and noticed she'd installed Kik and had one friend.... you guessed it. So that's why the texting stopped; they had begun to use Kik. I looked at her work email and found 100's of emails between them... some inappropiate, but most not.
I called her on it. She swore it would stop and that they only used Kik (with fake names) to avoid questions about their "friendship."
I occasionally checked her work email and eventually found that she was still in contact with him by work phone and email, but had been deleting the messages. I called her on it again and she said that she only deleted them to avoid hurting me... that it was all work related but she knew how I felt. I explicitly told her to cut off ALL communication with this guy. I wanted no uncertainty.
She's out of town today for the first time in about a year. I have installed a keylogger and she's asked the guy to lunch when she arrives in town. He said no, that it's not a good idea. She insisted and said, she'll give him some time to "reconsider."
I'm at a loss. She really has nothing to gain by this guy. I've made it clear that her chances are over. But now what? | Wife won't cut off communication with object of inappropriate correspondence. Wants to meet with him for lunch while traveling for work. |
t3_latt3 | AskReddit | Reddit, if a native American strategically bombed the Senate and House as they convened, taking out the majority of our national legislative branch, would you secretly approve? What do you think would follow? | Just a question I've always wondered. Like a lot of others, I'm fed up with our government--the legislative branch in particular. And though I feel that an act like this would be a tragedy, I can't help but feel that I'd secretly be in favor of what it might force our government to do.
While killing is never a publicly advocated solution, it seems that killing off our Congress in an attack would send a ripple across the nation. Kind of like a killswitch for a hard reset--one that says, "look at this event, it happened for a reason and not because of shoddy security measures." While of course the bomber would become somewhat of a martyr, he might achieve his goal in having our government examine what Congress is doing wrong to draw such hostility.
This is all speculation, of course. | American bomber kills off the majority of Congress in an attack--do you approve? What do you think would happen in this case? |
t3_33u5wa | loseit | 50 Ways to Lose my Blubber | I [F] got up early on my day off and skipped out to the gym with my mom. I biked for 30 minutes and burned over 200 calories. I felt good. My current weight is 180 and my goal is 135. I've been tracking and watching, and really trying for 2 months. I slip up and drink too much beer, or eat an extra cookie, but I'm staying active and that matters most. Until today. Today after my workout I realized there's goofing up, and then there's throwing the bomb that blows the whole damn thing up. My mother bought me a Dairy Queen bacon cheeseburger $5 meal. I have ot eaten fast food in 11 years, but I just succumbed. For whatever reason, nothing I care to evaluate too hard. I don't like fast food and I won't normally eat it. Once in 11 years is just fine. UNTIL! Until I saw how many calories I wasted on that crappy meal. 977 to be exact. At 1:30pm I have 500 calories I can eat until I reach my goal. And guess what? I'm hungry because junk food doesn't satiate your hunger.
So I got online to find out what exercises burn 500 calories. I needed 50 ways to burn my blubber. I thought I would share [this one that I found that was encouraging] I'm going to grab my hula hoop, bundle up and head outdoors. | I wasted 977 calories on a dairy queen burger and now I need to hula hoop for 50 minutes just to get half of that back. |
t3_1b1047 | relationship_advice | My boyfriend [m26] thinks list of men is a list of my [f20] sex partners. | My boyfriend pretty much lives with me. We've been together for 8 months.
While I was at work today, he found a list of men while "looking for paper to draw on".
The list, written only days after I met him in an old school notebook, was meant to be the start of a blog idea- a compilation of bad dates and bad romantic experiences.
He assumed it was a list of men I've slept with.
I tried to explain, but he drove away. I ran after his car.
I drove after him, only to be told that he'd "talk to me tomorrow".
After bimonthly arguments like these, I am starting to lose patience.
Is this where I call it quits?
Is this emotionally abusive?
Or is there any hope of turning this boat around? | Boyfriend snooped through my things and found a list of people I've dated. He assumes they're people I've slept with. Drama. |
t3_oz74d | BreakUps | A huge regretful fuck up? | I've been in a short but intense relationship that just ended a week ago by my doing. I felt like there was a lot that my boyfriend didn't understand about me and it made me upset. I had little patience where I should have had a more. This was my reason for ending things.
Rewind to last August...
the first time we dated. I had been broken up with my first love for several months. I thought I was over him at the time. Once me and my most current boyfriend had been dating a few months, I realize I wasn't over him. I really thought about it and knew that I couldn't be in a relationship with my first love again. So, I gave this guy another shot because I really liked him and we are very compatible.
A week ago I broke up with him for the reasons stated above. Shortly after, I had sex with my first love because I was feeling so down and out and NEEDED someone to be there for me (bad idea all around). My first love started becoming interested in me and such.
This is about the time I realize I should have been a lot more patient with the guy I want to be with. We start talking again and I tell him about me having sex with this guy. He freaks out and says it'll be a long time before he wants anything to do with me. He says it is even hard to be my friend right now.
I can confidently say I didn't know what I want. But I do now.
I don't need anyone in my life, I just really want him to be. I want to make him feel better and be around him. But he is nowhere near ready.
Should I feel like a horrible person for what I did, reddit?
( | I went back to an ex after breaking up with my current boyfriend. I made a mistake. Should I feel horrible?) |
t3_4fue30 | relationships | I [24/M] started talking to a girl [25/F] from a dating website, lost interest, and she won't leave me alone | I hate everything about this, but I started talking to a girl on OKCupid. We started talking a lot, and I eventually got her number and started texting her.
Three days in, she starts getting really upset over something, and I asked why, and she lashed back at me. Got pissed that she's being confrontational, and told her that I don't appreciate her lashing out at me for no reason. Anyways, we apologized to each other, but later she started getting upset again, about how she hasn't had sex in a while, and she said she didn't know how sex worked anymore. She sent me a picture of herself, and she is morbidly obese, which is different than what she has on her dating profile. She starts asking me where we stand in our relationship, and that, combined with the picture of her morbidly obese self, turned me off completely. I stopped talking to her for a day just to gather my thoughts, then I went back and told her that I don't think we are compatible.
She said I broke her heart, *yeah yeah, totally, whatever,* but I said that we could remain friends and I'd be there to talk if she wanted to talk about the world of dating. Anyways, that night, she starts saying that she is really horny and keeps sending me nudes. I am not attracted at all to this woman at this point, and she thinks that I don't want to see her because of her personality. I hate it's for a shallow reason, but I am just *not* attracted to her physically. She says that she'll make an exception for me and will hook up with me, and the nudes have continued for a while. I told her again that I don't think we are compatible, but she will not stop. Do I need to flat out tell her I don't find her attractive? | Clingy girl I'm not attracted to keeps sending me nudes, and I want to get the point across that I don't want her to do that anymore without hurting her feelings |
t3_yvdk7 | AskReddit | My mind is all over the place! I need some advice, Reddit. Please? | Ok, so I'm a 19 year old guy. In September of last year I started college. it was a course that wasn't exactly my first choice, but the best of a bad bunch. In January of this year, i just decided it wasn't for me. i thought it would grow on me, but it never really did. But I stuck it out until May cause I wasn't gonna be getting my registration fee back and i had nothing else to do.
So all Summer, the plan has been to enter in to a new course, the one that I had first intended on before my slightly lacking results. It was a sort of 'back-door' style entrance into this course. But now, I'm not even sure if i want to do that one! I'm starting to think that it just sounded so appealing when I was in the course I hated.
I have an interview tomorrow for the new course. I'm gonna go, but I'm unprepared, frightened a little and honestly, I'm probably gonna mess it up.
I've thought of so many other things to do instead of this course. I've been thinking of getting a job, taking night-time classes in something like cooking, even joining the army came into my head! I'm so fucking confused! The worst part is, I haven't said a word to anyone about all this. My family obviously knows about the whole switching courses thing, but not about how I'm feeling right now. And I haven't told any of my friends about any of it! I'm useless at opening up to people about how I feel. My mom normally knows when something is up because I go all quiet and a bit moody.
I need some help, advice, input, anything! Please guys! | I'm confused about where my life is going in terms of my education. Too nervous to talk to my family. Friends haven't an idea of what's going on with me. Need advice! |
t3_3m624w | relationships | My(23m) ex fiance(21f) of 2 years tells me she still loves me, after two months of no contact and trying to move on | My ex fiance Sarah and myself started going through a huge rough patch around 3 months ago. And ended up breaking up shortly after.
We tried to remain in contact, as it appeared she only wanted to take the summer to really think about our relationship. Shortly after this, she started saying things like her friend and her are going out with these two guys, but its not a date.
She ends up talking and spending time with one of these guys. I can obviously see what's going on here, and I tell her that if she wants to be involved with other people, I can't be a part of her life for a while.
Not long after this, still within the first month of the breakup, she calls me crying saying she made mistakes and that she wants to work on things.
It ends up just getting worse, and I find out more about her and this guy and decide it's time to just go no contact and move on, I really felt like I had no choice. I mean my future wife was off fucking around with other people. At least that's how it felt.
Fast forward to now, she says she still loves me and would like to spend time together. She also clarified and said she only kissed this person, and that we were broken up. Which is true. I still love this person but am worried that these last two months of progress may be for nothing if I try to mend things and be a part of her life again. | spent two months avidly trying to move on, ex fiance whom I still love wants to get back together. Scared to lose progress of moving on |
t3_35f9l0 | relationships | Am I overthinking things with my girlfriend? [20F] [21M] | I have been dating my girlfriend for about 8 months now and things have been amazing this whole time. However before we started dating we were best friends and she would tell me everything... including the people she liked before me.
I was always a little upset about it because it annoyed me she was attracted to other guys while still knowing me and being friends with me. Once we started dating though she never looked back and its been great.
The other day however she told me that she had liked my best friend for a couple weeks before we started dating and it's driving me crazy. I guess it's bothering me so much because she was attracted to these people before she was attracted to me even though we were good friends who would hang out almost every day.
Is it normal that I feel so terrible about this or am I overthinking things? Thanks! | My girlfriend seems very happy and in love with me but admitted she liked my best friend first and a couple of other guys while she was still good friends with me. Don't know if I should feel as terrible as I do. |
t3_m56rq | relationships | Should two people who are madly in love but who have totally different futures ahead of them try to make it work or break it off? | I am 22(f) and he is 27(m) almost 28. Lets call him X.
X and I have been dating for three years. We both come from families with an average income.
Right now I am finishing up at college, but am going to grad school near my hometown (which happens to also be where X lives) for numerous reasons. I am probably one of the most ambitious people I know. I am really set on setting myself up to be successful in the future, and so far, everything is going according to plan for me. I have the connections I need for my chosen field and was even promised a job at my desired work location upon my graduation.
Whats the problem, you ask? He is one of the least ambitious people I have ever met in my entire life. He has a minimal pay job that is unreliable and is living paycheck to paycheck. Absolutely nothing has changed with his situation in the last three years. Yes, there were a few failed attempts at a slightly better job then what he is doing now. But as I said, these were FAILED attempts.
When X and I first met, it was all fun and games. I had no idea what I wanted from my future so I wasn't really concerned about him not really doing anything all day everyday. But now that I am beginning to think about a career. I am much younger then X and I am getting started on this NOW. It hurts because I see that he might not be headed in the same direction as I am. This sucks. I love everything about him. Minus this one aspect, which unfortunately is important, our relationship is flawless. We NEVER fight (I can think of only one major argument throughout our relationship).
I don't know what to do. | I am on the road to success and he is content with living paycheck-to-paycheck. Should I stay or should I go? |
t3_2r21vt | relationships | I'm [20F] unsure about how to confront my SO [26 M] about a problem. | Okay, so I'm posting on my friend's behalf. She asked me to put this here to get some advice. I will put "" for her speaking through me.
"So, this morning I found pictures of my SO in clothing for the opposite sex. I don't know how to confront him about this. I don't want it to end our relationship, but I don't know what to do. Should I confront him or should I leave it be. The pictures were from 4 years ago and we have been dating for about 2 years. I'm worried I may be a "beard" for him and I'm just confused and stressed out about what to do about this. I love him and I don't want to lose him, but how do I talk to him about this without causing a huge issue."
"Any help is much appreciated. Thank you." | ! - "Found pics of SO in women's panties/clothing, stressed out and don't know how to confront him." |
t3_3r5vc0 | tifu | TIFU by Wondering Trading a Sigilyph in Pokemon | This happened last night.
My partner and I were lying in bed playing video games; he was playing New Leaf and I was playing Pokemon Alpha Sapphire. I love Wonder Trading as it's just a random, silly novelty to pass the time, but it gets rather boring. So while I was Wonder Trading, I was also browsing Reddit on my phone, every so often glancing over to see what Pokemon I got. I wasn't paying much more attention to the game than that.
One of the Pokemon I received was a Sigilyph, who I'm not particularly fond of, so I set it up to go back into the trade. Now remember that I'm paying little attention to the game, and just trading Pokemon as they come in. Well, that also means I didn't see any of the nicknames.
I look at my screen just in time to see "CumDumpster will be sent to [player]. Bye, CumDumpster!" And then I felt guilty for the rest of the night that I sent a Pokemon named "CumDumpster" to someone who may or may not have been a little kid. | I wasn't paying attention as I was Wonder Trading, and so I received and subsequently traded a Sigilyph with the nickname "CumDumpster" to a stranger. |
t3_3nk15z | relationships | Me [20 M] with my Girlfriend [20 F] 1.5 years, Pushing past the insecurities and on to the next level! | My girlfriend and I have been going out for a year and a half and I feel like she is taking her time to advance her own aspirations.
This worries me because it's starting to take a toll on our relationship - mainly for the fact she hasn't got a job despite all the support she has from myself, my parents, her parents, her therapist and her doctor.
Additionally, she speaks of moving in together - which I would absolutely **love** to do - but cannot afford until she is financially stable and able to help with payments.
I become very discouraged when my parents tell me they see that she is sometimes lazy ( she rarely offers to help with chores or use her initiative ) and are dissapointed she hasn't been able to get a job for a year.
(They think she is manipulating me subtly)
I'm constantly trying to keep positive and I do believe she has the potential to do anything - she just lacks self motivation or is too scared to "take the plunge" and get stuck in.
Whenever I try to broach the subject of "make some phonecalls to potential employeers" or "take a walk in the neighbourhood to drop in her CV" or even simply suggest updating her CV to a high standard so it'll get noticed more. -
I get fobbed off and she tells me "I'll do it in my own time" or "Don't push me".
So I try to resist being forcefull/blunt and sugercoat everything I say to her otherwise she doesn't respond or gets upset.
She is quite sensitive to constructive critisisim and always fears the worst situation. This is probably due to extreme bullying in her past and rough times when her parents seperated.
She also requires constant reminders from me that I love her and won't leave her. - Most of these she spoke to her therapist about but I don't know how much of a difference it made.
So I'm at a loss, I want her to be the best she can and start towards a career of some kind so we can live together and really begin to explore the world as a couple. | My girlfriend has insecurity issues and stays at home with no job still after a year, although she has support. It's keeping us from moving in together and being independant - How do I deal/talk to her about this? |
t3_1vvd0u | relationships | I [18M] want to break up with my gf [18F] for 1 year and 9 months. How? | I'm going to break up with my gf tomorrow, but I have never done this before and have no idea what the do's and don'ts are. I'm breaking up for many reaons. First of all she doesn't seem to care for her future and has dropped out of school two years in a row now. I know we are young, but it's hard to invest time and energy in a relationship I know I have to end one day.
I don't really feel the same way as I used to either. I rarely actually want to hang out with her. It most often feel like a chore. She doesn't say much so having an actually interesting conversation is hard and very rare. She is plain and boring.
The only thing that have kept me with her for so long is that I really care for her, even if I don't feel as strong for her as I used to, and that I am worried for how she will do without me. She doesn't have friends and her family doesn't seem to care that she quits school. She is in many ways childish and she thinks everything will fix itself eventually. She doesn't realize things change when you grow up.
Why I'm breaking up isn't really that relevant, but maybe it will help you help me in how to do it. I'm really not looking forward to it. I have never broken up with someone before, and I know there will be tears and I really don't want to hurt her.
First of all, should I send her a text or call her tonight telling her we need to talk? Or should it come as a surprise tomorrow when she thinks I'm coming over to hang out with her? Also, I bought her a late birthday gift because of a tight budget. What should I do with it? Of course I want her to have it, but how should I give it to her? And if I don't get it in the mail by tomorrow, how should I then do it?
I'm also wondering about what to say. How detailed I should be, and if there is anything I should avoid to say or really should say. Any other important pointers would also be very appreciated. | I'm breaking up with my gf tomorrow. Never done it before, and I have a late birthday gift for her. How should I go about this? |
t3_2o62ku | relationship_advice | What can I[f24] do to have guys respecting me more? | two weeks ago i ended up sleeping with a friend of mine (we know each other for something like 2 years and are rather close), he made me feel that he liked me and that we had a real connection beyond friendship. but i'm moving away so we didn't talk about having a relationship, keeping things casual.
Last weekend i went to my hometown to move some stuff. we went to the same party. we ended up kissing but i couldnt take him to my place because there were people there. we ended up having sex in a park, but he left right after.. i guess i shouldn't have acted so kinky but i though in a UTTERLY naive point of view that because he was a friend i wasn't just a one night stand.
This never happened to me before and i feel pathetic now.
Making a guy wait for like 5 dates seems a bit hypocritical..
except from don't have sex in park would you have constructive idea on how to make sure that guys are respectful?
sorry for my English, and sorry for being complaining like this! It's just very embarrassing.. | slept with friend of mine, he left right after, I feel very stupid now and want to feel respected by guys i'm with. |
t3_tn1sk | AskReddit | reddit, my mom has forced me to do weird things my whole life. but now she's going a bit over wacko. | hi reddit. alt account.
my mom is one who believes 9/11 was a conspiracy, always getting into stuff the rest of family finds strange and whatnot. we were fine with it until she started making us do it.
she is trying to make me a vegetarian. now, i would like to say im a normal sized person. not fat, i don't desperately need meat, but I feel like now is a time to show her whenever she gets into a new weird thing, she shouldn't force others to do it. I never had any say living with her my whole life, and sitting down to talk with her wont help. I'ts like trying to reason/talk with someone from the WBC.
a few days ago she said "i won't force you to be a vegetarian." now today she's telling me she won't buy meat again anymore. it's not about the meat though that makes me pissed off about this, it's that the more i go along with the crazy bullshit she makes me do, the more she thinks it's okay to make me do more crazy bullshit.
when i try to have a conversation with her about it, she talks over me and starts reading books with veggie recipes out loud. | parent trying to force vegetarianism, no say in anything, this shit goes back. i need advice to know how to talk to her and reason with her. |
t3_p9k7h | AskReddit | What are examples of wealthy people whose parents/grandparents gave them their inheritance? HELP! Ignorant peers are going to get away with being arrogant... again. Details inside~ | In my AP Lang & Comp class, we talked about the questions "Is it the wealthy's duty to give to the less fortunate?" And my opinion is no, because I think it is no ones duty to do anything, and there are just other factors into making decisions. Anyway, I brought up the point that a lot (not all, which they idiotically assumed I meant) of wealthy people havent actually EARNED their money, rather they have inherited it from parents or it has been passed down for generations and how it isn't fair that they get to take baths in Franklins, and not have a single care. I do assume not ALL of them keep all their money to themselves or do not do ANY good for the world, so keep that in mind. I just need some family names and corporations that are being run by the creator/entrepreneur's employees and hence the people who have gone to college and got their job at the corporation and don't have any connection to the starter of the business, but the creator's FAMILY is mooching off all the money and their title, for lack of better words, would be "rich". I know one: Paris Hilton, and I'm gonna use that one when I present my research. I thought Reddit would be a good place to find other people who share my rage at people like this, and to let my arrogant, ignorant peers that they, well, are. | What are family names and companies whose creators are dead, and the generations after them are mooching off their earnings? |
t3_3a8bhv | tifu | TIFU by not listening to my girlfriend and staying in the ocean for an extra few seconds. | Yesterday my girlfriend and I decided to get out of town for a while and take our dog, Dexter, to the beach. We looked up a beach that allowed dogs off leash and headed out.
After an hour of running around in the sun sniffing butts and digging holes, we could tell Dexter was getting too hot. Unfortunately, he is a big baby and is really afraid of the ocean unless someone is carrying him. So my girlfriend picked him up and we walk into the ocean. We get in about waist high, Dexter doggy paddling and looking freaked out by the waves. We stay in for about 5 minutes splashing around and finally my girlfriend says "hey let's head in. I think Dexter needs a break" and I say "let's just go a little further!" and start stepping a little deeper. 10 seconds later I feel something slippery under my foot that I assumed was a plastic bag. One more step and I feel a sharp pain in the bottom of my foot.
I yelp in pain and say I stepped on a nail and that I think it went deep into my foot. Once back on the shore, we clean out the small cut with water. By now, the pain has become so intense that I'm literally shaking all over. I figure I must have hit a nerve. I hate going to the doctor, but the pain keeps getting worse and my girlfriend insists. We find an urgent care and she waits in the care while I go inside. After the most unbelievably painful half hour wait, the doctor finally gets into the room, takes one look at my foot and tells me that I've been stung by a stingray. He prescribes me antibiotics, steroids, and pain medicine and sends me on my way.
So here I am, high as shit on pain killers and stuck in bed for a few days, all because I didn't listen to my girlfriend.
Don't get stung by a stingray. It's easily the most painful this I've ever experienced, and I've had some pretty serious surgeries with rough recoveries. | Went into the ocean with girlfriend. She wants to head in. I say no and seconds later get stung by a stingray. Experience worst pain of my life. Now I'm stuck in bed for a few days. |
t3_4sbvlh | relationships | When should I (29M) tell potential dates I have children? | Not sure where the best subreddit to post this is, and I'm sure it's been asked before, but reddit's search function sucks!
My ex and I split up about 6 months ago, and I think I'm ready to resume dating again. I met someone (25F) recently, and we're going out on our first date later this week.
I've got two children (5 and 7), and I have primary custody of them. I'm not looking to hide them forever, but it's not something I'm looking to lead conversations with when talking with potential dates.
I realize there's some people out there who this is going to be a complete deal breaker for, and it won't matter when I tell them, it will be the end of conversation (and I'll feel bad for "wasting" their time). I also realize there's some people who will be 100% fine with it. But there's probably a lot of people who are in between. For the people in between, I don't want to lead with the children discussion, because it might prevent them from getting to know me first, and then making a decision if it's something they can accept or not.
Based on my custody situation (and my house being full of children's stuff), I won't be able to "hide" this for long. But I'm trying to figure out the right time to share this with someone. I've spoken to a friend who was in a similar boat, and he told me he generally waited about 3-4 dates. Enough time to know if it's going anywhere, and they've gotten to know me, and not so long that they feel they've wasted a lot of time on it.
Also, I've got one additional concern specific to the date I'm going on. She lives 20 minutes outside of my town (not a crazy distance), but if we end up going for drinks or something, there's the possibility it may come up that we spend the night at my place. How should I handle this if it happens and I haven't brought my kids up yet?
What are your thoughts? | Single father re-entering the dating scene, and not wanting to scare potential dates away, but also not wanting to wait too long. |
t3_40h7v9 | relationships | Awesome relationship- about to move in together! [23M, 20F] Any advice (either from problems in past or good things that worked)? | Hi everyone! For once, no problems need solving here! Short post, but here's the gist:
My partner [22M] and I [19F] have been together for about a year and a half. We've decided after house-sitting for a friend for about a month that we'd like to live together. We spend a lot of time doing things such as grocery shopping, cleaning, laundry, etc. together already and we feel that we are ready for this next step. (Note: This isn't a move for convenience, we are living together because we plan on eventually getting married and we want to make sure that we are compatible in the same home.)
We will be 23 and 20, respectively, when we actually make the move to an apartment near my college. My partner has a full-time job in the same area and I am receiving money from a full-ride scholarship to pay for the apartment, so neither of us is very concerned about money. Essentially, we're fairly confident that we are prepared for what we're doing, but I do always appreciate learning from other people's successes or failures. Any advice? Thanks! | My partner and I are moving in together soon; no problems in the relationship, and no concerns, but I'd love to hear any advice anyway! |
t3_2ui8dn | relationships | Me [24M] with girlfriend and cohabitant [22F] of 3 years, I think we have a very unhealthy relationship (arguing, violence, infidelity) | Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years now. And I have been thinking about how this relationship is working out for the last year.
We meet about 3 years a go when I was working full time at my birthplace with all my friends gone studying in another city. It was a terribly dark period in my life when thinking about dying was a daily part of my life. After we meet things got quite a lot better and I have learned to live with and handle my issues.
Now, for the **problems**:
* We argue a lot
* These arguments sometimes turn into breaking stuff and domestic violence (we're both bad here)
* I have cheated, twice
* I suspect she has too, caught her having received money for showing herself on a webcamera, and caught her lying about phonecalls when she was away for a weekend
* I feel like I'm taking precautions to not piss her off everyday
* Both of us feel attacked when we're talking about normal things with eachother
* We got almost nothing to talk about anymore
Well that's a summary some of our "issues", I feel quite bad just writing this. And I'm a bit afraid what answers I might get from this.
I think I love her, but when I see my friends relationships or at least how they talk about their girlfriends I begin to wonder wether this is unhealthy for me and her.
So I guess my question is, am I in a really unhealthy relationship that both of us should get out of, or should we try to work on it to fix it? | Me and my girlfriend for 3 years argue, fight, cheat, lie and been violent with eachother. Should we break up or work on it? |
t3_4312ch | relationships | I want us [28/F] & [35/M] to become exclusive. Do I just ask? | First of all, I'm embarrassingly inexperienced with relationships and dating in general so I have no idea what I'm doing. I had one terrible relationship in college which landed me in therapy for a few years. I tried online dating for the last two years, but nothing ever really went anywhere... until this guy I met with back in November.
Things seems to be going well. We talk almost every day, we make plans to do stuff, we kiss and hold hands in public (which is something I've never done before), and I've slept over at his place a few times. I noticed he was pretty distant early on when we first met so I asked him about it, and he said he just wanted to take things slow. He's certainly opened up since then.
I really like him. He's goofy and playful, and we make each other laugh. We both enjoy the same lazy indoor activities. He kisses and cuddles me in the morning and tells me I'm sexy and cute even with my dorky winter PJ's, no make up, matted hair, and morning breath. Basically, he makes me feel really good, and I've lost interest in dating anyone else.
I want us to become exclusive, but I don't want to scare him away. Is it too soon to ask? Is it even normal to ask? I don't want to lose this, but I don't want to further get attached if he isn't looking for a relationship with me... | I want us to become exclusive, but I don't know how to bring this up because I don't know how dating works. Do I just ask him? |
t3_14qfin | relationships | i [26m] am not sure if i should marry my gf [25f] before i can move out of my parents house | So, my parents are retiring and will not be able to keep the house i grew up in. however right now is not a good time for sellers, and the suggested price just isnt what we had expected.
I stay home right now and every month i help out with the mortgage and such.
My parents had laid it out very clearly that they are counting on me to keep my job and continue to help the family maintain this house we're living in.
But at the same time my gf really wants to get married, and move on to the next level of our relationship.
But i dont want to get married and sleep with my wife in the same room that i grew up in since high school... any advice? | cant leave parents house becuase im helping out with the mortgage, GF wants to get married but i dont wanna get married and stay in my parents house... |
t3_ezin8 | AskReddit | Complaining Neighbour - Please Advise | I rent a student terrace house with 7 other people in York, England.
Basically the issue is that one of our neighbours is complaining about noise and, ultimately, last night decided to threaten to call our landlord.
Whenever the neighbour arrives he is vocally aggressive and confrontational. He is probably late 50's early 60's.
The issue is, however, that we really aren't making much noise at all. In the house most are in bed before 11 due to early lectures and we rarely have social events at our house due to the location.
Last night was one of the rare occasions where we had people round. We were not drinking, just sitting in the living room talking, having a laugh at some youtube videos and playing Need for Speed. No music, no boozing and everyone was gone by 11:30. Hardly what I'd consider hardcore student partying. Anyway, he came round about 11 and was shouting at the girl who answered the door with threats to call our landlord and accused us of breaking some kind of contract regarding neighbourly conduct. I can't remember this contract, he seems to think it's a university related thing but I've no idea and suspect it's empty rhetoric. I swear this guy gets off on bollocking students.
We really don't know what to do, this is everytime we have people over and we're up talking past 11ish he comes over and complains. We've been more than amiable and always attempted to help the situation, we've moved people from smoking out at the back to stop them hearing from their bedroom. But he even complains if, for example, I put the bins out for the morning past midnight, which I've done once due to forgetting to do it during the day.
We feel the only thing we can do to reduce noise further would be to stop having people over at all. But this is our house, our living room and I feel we ought to be able to socialise.
I'm looking for some advice with what to do. What are the laws and regulations regarding what neighbours can do and what landlords are likely to do? I imagine if he was to call the police at 11 and complain about people talking loudly in the living room next-door they would laugh in his face... | We are very quiet yet our neighbour is still threatening to call our landlord over noise. How vulnerable are we and what should we do? |
t3_27fvxb | relationships | I [30f] have been cut off by the man I love [37M] | I'm so devastated right now I can barely type. I've been with a man for almost 4 years. We broke up a couple months ago when it came out he cheated. I was a total bitch immediately afterward I was so so angry. He spent the next 2 months wooing me back. I wanted to believe things would be repaired. I slowly let my guard down again. But there were slip ups. I would get so angry sometimes. I wasn't the best girlfriend, sometimes I was awful even before the cheating. A couple days ago I sent him a pretty nasty text about one of his female friends. I don't trust him with her.
He didn't talk to me after that for 3 days, I was angry and also worried. I had the police do a wellness check because his phone has been broken and when it happened before, 2 weeks went by where he didn't see a soul. The police called me back saying he was one but he wanted no further contact from me. I guess I ignored it. I called and texted and begged and pleaded for him to tell me why. He a hasn't answered.
I'm so fucking devastated. 3 days ago he was telling me he loved me that he was happy things were improving. He won't even say goodbye to me. I've been in a state of panic, when I'm not calling I'm wailing in pain. How the fuck am I gonna deal with this? I have never been so heartbroken in my life. | my Boyfriend cut me off with no explanation and had the police do the dumping for him. I honestly feel like I'm dying. |
t3_2hl3nu | relationships | Last year me [23 M] and my ex-best friends [22 F , 24 M] of 6 years , broke off our friendship (badly) and now we're strangers. how do I get closure? | I just need advice on how to put this all behind me, it's been a year now and I just feel really shitty.
We were as close as siblings and due to a lot of crap happening and me just being a general idiot without knowing (may sound stupid but I have autism) I ended up damaging a friendship.
when I say idiot I mean doing things like showing off things I bought without realizing how it made her feel knowing she and her fam. had almost no money, Asking things from him without a proper thank you only doing so when told.
though afterwards I did find out both of them did shit behind my back that was inexcusable, She was soliciting my GF for sex and told her I needn't know about it.
and he was complaining and bitching to my GF about me even though he said he'd have my back and still be my friend.
Now I'm not saying I was the best friend ever, I know that i've made a lot of mistakes.
But my question is how do I get closure and just stop letting them pop up into my mind?
It's gotten me in tears a lot of time because I just can't process what happened or what else I did wrong.
I feel I should Get Angry (Loud stomping foulmouthed expletive spewing wrecking all your shit angry)
but I don't know if I'm allowed to.
any advice? | I had a friendship end on bad terms and in bad blood, How do I get over this and give myself Closure? |
t3_1a9k98 | relationships | Is it possible to ask a guy if he'll fall in love? | I [20F] am graduating college early this month. My [21 M] boyfriend initially asked me out over a year ago, but I friendzoned him. We became good friends although I knew he still harbored feelings for me and was waiting for me. A little less than 4 months ago I agreed to go out with him. It wound up being a great decision; I've never fallen for the nice, practical guy before but he makes me incredibly happy.
As soon as I graduate in a week we'll be going long distance. I'm terrible at LDRs, and I'd rather break up now, in person, and stay friends than lose him in the frustration of long distance and starting my career. However, he insists that he wants to try one with me. It's alright that he hasn't said I love you, but I want to ask him if he thinks he can love me. When I lost my virginity to him a month ago, he explained that he was serious about me but it takes him a while to say I love you. This confuses me because I'm friends with his ex long term gf and know he told her he loved her within 2 months of knowing her, but I know he's waited for me for a long time and honestly cares about me.
He knows I'm hesitant about trying long distance, and I'm afraid that talking to him straightforwardly will 1) be pressuring him, and 2) getting him to say something that he doesn't mean but I'll believe in order to keep me around. But we both put a lot of stock in love, and I'd like to know why he doesn't think he loves me yet and when he'll want to take that step. | Is it possible to ask my bf if he thinks he'll fall in love, without pressuring him into saying yes? |
t3_3bui86 | tifu | TIFU by getting drunk and telling my feelings to my best friend | Not today, but last night, I had been waiting in line at Disneyland with my cousin while talking about our relationship statuses. After telling him how I had started to have feelings for my best (and pretty much only) friend, he advised me to talk to her about it. So we went back to the hotel and he got us some drinks, and then left to his room. I sat in my room for a bit contemplating everything he has said, and thought it would be a good idea to that I tell her how I feel about her. I called her up, told her how I felt, and she immediately got awkward and I realized I had fucked up immediatly. I tried to clarify and only made it even more confusing for her and awkward for the both of us. After talking about it more today, it was quite a bit more awkward, and I'm not sure whats going to happen between us. | I got drunk, told best friend my feelings for her, made it more awkward trying to explain it, probably lost best friend lol. |
t3_2mc2fk | relationships | I (20 F) love my boyfriend (20 M) worried I'm too attached | I've been dating my boyfriend for almost two years now. After my first year of college I broke up with him for 9 months-ish because he was my only real relationship ever. First kiss everything. I did this because I was so unsure that you could love someone for the rest of your life without having experienced anyone else.
during the breakup we both hooked up with people, tried stopping all contact but in the end i always came back to him... would get drunk and text him saying i missed him and stuff like that. we eventually got back together (i was very hesitant) and I couldn't be happier. My mom isnt as supportive, she keeps telling me high school sweethearts never work out, that I don't want to move on because its hard to do and staying in a relationship you know is easier blah blah blah.
I really don't care. at this point I know I love him like crazy and hes my everything. could easily see us getting married and all that. but I spend almost every day with him. I spend 50% or more of my week at his house, I sleep over too. I'm doing fine in school (we are 20 mins apart @ different schools), but I spend almost no time at my sorority.
I worry I will end up regretting not spending more time with friends and partying or whatever. but as of now I hate partying, not a big fan of drinking, I see my friends enough but they study a lot so we couldn't hang out as much anyways. I'm happy now and love spending time with him, it's what I would rather be doing, the only reason its an issue is because I'm remarkably paranoid and worry people are judging me for not being at my sorority as often or that my friends think I'm being lame. My mom says I'll regret everything I'm doing and would be better off without a boyfriend so I can go out to games, party, all that stuff, none of which I even want to do.
I don't really know what I'm asking here... but help would be appreciated | spend a lot of time with my bf in my college years, worried I'll regret it later (even though I really don't right now) |
t3_4n1raz | relationships | Me (21 F) with (29 M) friends with benefits, he's confusing me? | So like the title says I have a FWB for around 2 months now. When we first started talking he would call me baby and tell me how much he missed me and all that.
We go on dates and have not had sex every single time we see eachother. More like 2/5 times. We text every single day, however the baby and I miss you talk has stopped.
Today we had the talk. I wanted more and it turned into us just wanting to be friends with benefits. How should I approach this reddit? He says he doesn't want more but I feel as though we're already more. He doesn't even want me to sleep with other guys without letting him know first, because he's only sleeping with me. It's super confusing and I'm not sure if I should keep it going and hope that he will eventually want more or if I should end it even though I already told him I was okay with FWB. I'm so confused reddit. | have a friend's with benefits who is basically my boyfriend except he says he doesn't want to be my boyfriend. |
t3_uifwo | AskReddit | What is your biggest failure trying to impress the opposite (or same) sex? | My friend and I were driving in his truck. We spied some pretty ladies on the sidewalk downtown and proceeded to start waving and making idiots of ourselves, but oddly enough they returned our waves and started saying things back. So my friend is driving and he decides that he should impress these fine specimens with a nice burnout. as soon as the tires start to squeal a cop comes down the road. I don't know if it was shear panic at the sight of the cop or if he was legitimately unaware of his presence, but he took his foot off the brake pedal and burned out right through the intersection in full view of a cop, who was less than 50 feet from us. Needless to say we were instantly pulled over. The officer asks us what the hell we think we're doing and my friend blurts out that we were talking to some pretty women on the sidewalk. He points to them, and right as the cop looks over at them, I see the girls turn and walk away laughing, one laughing so loud I could hear it from where we were, which was about a half block from them. Never saw those pretty girls again. Luckily for my friend the officer gave him a break. He received a driving without do care ticket, which is basically like a speeding ticket for something other than speeding. He could have easily been nailed with exhibition driving or something along those lines. | Friend attempts to burn rubber in his truck to impress ladies, gets pulled over and ticketed, said ladies walk away laughing. |
t3_332jds | relationships | The girl [19 F] I [23 M] am talking to wants wait on a date. | So, I met a girl online. I like her a lot. We get along very well. Last night, she gave me her number and we talked for 2 straight hours. We openly talk about sex and what not as well. Asked her out last night and she said yes, but we didn't specify a time. Asked her today, and while she still wants to go out, she said it'd have to wait for the weekend after this next weekend.
I told my friend about this (being excited because I haven't been in a relationship for a long while and I really like this girl's personality), and he told me that the wait might be too long and she could possibly lose interest. We have been steadily talking back and forth and still carry on conversations. Am I at risk at losing her interest? | Talking to girl, asked her out, she wants to date 2 weeks from now. Would she lose interest in that time? |
t3_4c28ns | relationships | Me [21 F] with my parents, moved close to where I go to college and now have given me a lot more responsibility that may interfere with my schoolwork? | Basically, my parents moved close to where I go to college this year. My school, and especially this year, is super high pressure, and I've gotten to the point where I managed my time religiously. This week, however, my yearlong thesis is due. My sister needs to get picked up from school everyday, and they're asking me to pick her up the day before its due. I'm way behind on the thesis and it takes about three hours to get her. My parents are screaming at me for being lazy, but I think its not fair that just because they chose to move close to me, I have a greater burden. Usually, I would kind of me fine with it, but the day before my thesis is going to be a big day and I think it just shows a lack of respect for my work. Who's right? I don't know if I'm being unreasonable, I just feel like this is something none of my classmates have to deal with. | parents moved close to me, now are expecting me to help out more around the family when i feel like i've made my own life here. |
t3_37xlyf | relationships | Me [28 M] with my GF [28F] been together for 2 years. We're both from Brisbane, Australia but we're living in Beijing, China. I want to go home, she doesn't. | Girlfriend and I have been living together for 2 years, almost all of that time has been here in Beijing. We both moved abroad because we wanted to experience life and work in another country. It's been amazing living abroad, especially in a country as different as China, but the working conditions and salaries can't really compare to Australia which has a great quality of life. We're both making about a third of the salary we could make back home. So we both pretty much agreed to return home this year.
She's working in her industry of choice and recently her boss decided giving her a promotion to a role she'd be very hard pressed to get back home. I've realised that my current industry doesn't really interest me and the only way I can see to work in the industry I want is to return home. (A lot professional roles available to foreigners in China require a ton of experience that we don't have yet because they're managerial positions in mostly Chinese staffed companies, understandably.) I feel like I'm wasting time at an important juncture in my career where I need to be building my resume, and earning much less money than I would otherwise be to boot!
We both don't really believe in long distance relationships as viable for anything beyond a short term basis and she'd likely need to stay for at least another year to cement the work experience. Apart from this issue our relationship is amazing. Should I go home alone (essentially break up) or stick it out here in Beijing in a job I don't like until she's got the experience to take up a similar role back home? | We're living abroad. I want to return home for valid career reasons, she wants to stay for equally valid career reasons. Otherwise everything is great, should we split up? |
t3_36spw5 | jobs | Should I include my current job that I've been at for less than a month on job applications? | About a month ago, I was hired at an assisted living center. I was hired as PRN, but I was led to believe I would get regular, part-time hours (20- 24 weekly). I only needed a part-time job to last through graduation and the summer until I had a better idea of where I was going to grad school and where my fiancee was getting hired. After my first two weeks, where I was working part-time, I wasn't put on the schedule anymore. When I asked my manager about this, she told me that because I was PRN, I wouldn't be put on the schedule unless they needed me. I was not aware that this would happen and I cannot afford that. I started looking for other part-time jobs, but decided to stick it out until I graduated.
Well, I graduated this week and I am still in desperate need of regular, part or full time work. Now that I have a degree and it looks like my fiancee will be hired in this area, I would like to apply to jobs that actually fall into what I would like to do. Here's my question: **Do I list my current job in my work history on job applications?** I've only been there about a month and I'm still in my probationary period. I'm afraid listing it on my job application will look bad on me, but on the other hand, I'm worried not listing it will get me in trouble. What do I do? | Need a new job since my current one doesn't get me consistent hours, but I've only been at my current job for a month. Do I list it on job applications? |
t3_4wn1zy | relationships | I [18F] feel like my boyfriend [17m] and I are deeply in love. | When I first met him, we hit it off so easily we dated in the first two days of knowing eachother. I got scared cause everything was happening so quickly, and decided to be just friends. A month later, we got back together, and have been happy together for 10 months now.
It almost feels like when I'm not with him a part of me is missing. No matter where we are, if we are together, it feels like home. He agrees with me wholeheartedly.
Every time I tell my family or my friends, even friends of an older age that we will get married, they think it's cute but they don't quite understand. My brain tells me I'm too young to be this sure, but my heart says otherwise. Everyone around us says that they think we're perfect together.
I'm going through a lot right now, and he has been so supportive through all of it. He would do anything for me, and I would do anything for him. We both have never opened up this much to someone, and I feel like we are truly life partners. | My boyfriend and I are deeply in love, and at a young age. Everyone seems to be supporting but skeptical, and I wanted to hear opinions about us and stories. |
t3_33nalc | Advice | I've fallen in love with a girl who only has affection for me when she's drunk. | The other night, I went out drinking with a friend. We had been close, but strictly platonic. We go out drinking as friends, per her request. After a beer, she holds my hand. After another beer and a shot, she's guiding my hand along her body. After another beer, she tells me I should've been hers. After one more beer and a shot, we're kissing and sucking on each other's tongues. We both confess feelings for one another, and part ways.
The next morning, I don't hear from her. I text. No reply that whole day. Or the next day. Or the following day, when we see each other but she refuses to talk about it. Instead, she cold-shoulders me and acts as if nothing happened, save for the fact that I can't get within twenty feet of her. This tears me apart, as I don't tell just anybody that I care about them, and it makes me feel stupid for even going out. I would've gladly said no to the best night of my life if I'd known I'd lose her over it, but it happened, and I meant it, and for that I'm not sorry.
What do I do? How do I get rid of these feelings, or turn them back into platonic friendship, when her actions and words that night stick to me like glue? How do I stop the pain of going from passionate and serious to cold and unrequited? | Got drunk with a close friend, exchanged confessions and saliva. Fell in love. Her love dissolved at sunrise; mine didn't. What do I do? |
t3_4kyy1k | relationships | Me [21 M] with my Girlfriend [25F] of 6 months, She is a CONSPIRACY theorist and hates medicine. | First post so be kind
My Girlfriend of a few months (have known each other for about 8 month). has started pushing me to accept all these conspiracy theories.
Everything from: 9/11 was a inside job.
JFK was killed by FBI
We have not been to the moon
The world is doomed
Cancer can be cured with food but chemo and surgery doesnt work
Doctors are mindcontrolled and will do you no good.
ALL medicine does more damage then good.
Vaccination is a hoax and hasnt helped anyone
Shes also very spiritual. Believes in ghosts, Karma, Aura and chi. Me on the other hand is a Veteran with a stone cold logical point of view. I really really like her but I cant stand having all these theories pressed down my thoat allll day.
I also should mention that I am an army medic and will study to become a doctor within the next year and I know I will be opposed to all her health theories and god forbidd we have a child she refuses to vaccinate. I have tried debating with her but she wont budge an inch and thinks Im ignorant for not "accepting" her world view
Should I end this relationship or can we work around it? | Im a army medic and soon to be medical-student, my girlfriend is a conspiracy theorist and hates doctors. is our relationship doomed? |
t3_ou0m9 | loseit | Questions about weight loss. | m/6'2"/208lbs
So I joined the BTFC and have been going for about 2 weeks now. I'll typically workout 6-7 times a week ( 4 - 5 weight, 2 cardio for 45 min, 1 day yoga [usually these overlap]). I've been doing mostly compound barbell lifts (typical circuit will be as follows, but not in any specific order: Wide/close grip bench press, dead lift, squats, lunges, bent over row, military press, clean and press, dips, pullups. Although I may skip one or two depending on how much time I take.
Things seem strange to me, because I've been getting stronger but I haven't been losing a whole lot of weight. I have changed my diet as well. Not drinking any pop (not that I drank a whole lot to begin with), not eating as many high carb foods (cut off fast food completely). And to be honest I ate fairly healthy to begin with. But on average I'll consume around 1200 - 1500 carbs/day. That leaves a deficit of maybe 700 - 900 carbs/day. I don't know what that translates to in weight lost but I feel like I should be losing more (i've lost 2 lbs since I started). I'm not discouraged, but I'm perplexed, I thought I'd be making a lot more progress on weight loss. Any tips, anything I can/should change about my routines? Or am I fussing over nothing? | changed diet, working out more, not losing a whole lot of weight, but getting stronger. Tips on weight loss? (details above) |
t3_28pn14 | relationships | Update: Me [21F] with my ex [23 M] 9 months, He doesn't know that we broke up | link to first post:
He still hasn't acknowledged it. So I deleted him off of social media, his phone number, and the pictures of us. And sobbed for a good hour. I love him still but I know it was the best choice. He didn't love me and hasn't acted like my boyfriend in a while.
I just feel so... worthless. Like I am nothing. He was my first boyfriend, first guy to ever touch me below the belt, took my virginity. (I did stuff with guys before they just weren't the reciprocating type)
And every other guy I've ever kissed/fooled around with, refused to date me. They just used me for what they wanted, treated me poorly, then pulled the fade away on me when they had what they wanted or were tired of me.
Finally I meet a man who really wanted to date me, promised me love and care. Told me I was beautiful, and that I deserved to be loved and adored. Asked me to be his without me pressing for it. And after the first time we slept together he told me that I was his and he wanted me to get attached to him.
I don't feel like I deserve anything better. I am fat, like obese, and all men want is the physical. He's the only one who ever wanted to date me and around January stopped acting like a real bf. Who would date me?
The worst part is, I should of known. What kind of bf doesn't buy his gf a X-mas gift knowing she bought one for him? Doesn't do anything for Valentine's Day? No birthday gift either.
I vacillate between feeling numb, not anger or hurt or anything (pretty much blase about it), to cracking like I did today and just feeling so hurt, like I am nothing. | Ex still hasn't acknowledged that we've broken up, and after removing him from all social media and deleting pictures, his phone number, and old texts, I broke down and now I feel like I am worthless and undateable. |
t3_41c8wy | relationships | Me [16 F] and my 2 friends [16 F] , I stopped talking to my 2 best friends after I started feeling left out. Should I try to rekindle our friendship ,if so how. | So I was good friends with Ana and Sue ,we understood each other and just clicked really well. Although I was always closer to Ana
Ana used to never drink. But over the summer Ana spent her entire summer just drinking and going to raves. She drank so much she doesn't remember some nights. Over the summer she changed. She used to be against drinking. And when she came back from the summer she even changed from liberal to loving trump. I live in a conservative area and have many friends that are conservative also, but I felt it was necessary to emphasize how much shes changed.Up to this point me and Ana were still good friends despite our differences.
Then one day Sue and Ana decided that for Homecoming they would go drinking in the school parking lot. And then go to the dance. I tell Sue I think this is a bad idea because besides me not drinking getting caught would mean a possible school suspension. She decides to go drinking before arriving to the school with sue. I decide to not show up at all. Ana is upset with me the next school day and doesn't really talk to me. I could tell she was upset ,but the next day we were okay again.
Then later I find out Sue and Ana went to a haunted house without me. This was strange since we usually did things together and they kept it a secret from me.
So I finally decided to just break away from my friend group. And just outright stop talking to them instead of sorting things out. I thought it would be better this way. But I really miss talking to her despite everything. She was the only person that truly understood me not even my family understood me like she did. I am also worried that she might develop a serious drinking problem. I really miss her. How do I start talking to her after basically ignoring her for the past four months? | Ana changed. Both Ana and Sue started to leave me out of things. I stopped talking to them and basically ignored them for the past four months. I want to make up with her because I really miss her. |
t3_p78v4 | AskReddit | A question to all of you atheists. | My parents never brought religion into my house. That being said, they never discussed atheism either. As it is, I consider myself an apathetic agnostic. Therefore I think I have a completely unbiased view on the entire conflict.
My question: Have you atheists ever read any religious book like the Bible, Torah, etc. I have. I realize that there are a few things that such documents ask of their followers that I don't think any rational person should agree with. The persecution of gays for example, most of the homosexual people I have met have been the most caring and exceptional individuals I have ever met. That being said, I also acknowledge that said religious documents were the foundation of civilization and domestication as we know it. I also know that the majority of religious people I know are comfortable within their beliefs and don't try to impose it on anyone else. The majority of atheists I know, however, try to impose their views on anyone who says they're religious.
This irritates me to no end. I feel like the majority of you 'atheists' have no real first-hand experience with the topic you so firmly disagree with. I also feel that the majority of religious folk have learned to be humble in their beliefs, while atheists seem to think they're intellectually superior for taking a stance that has become popular among pseudo-intellectuals.
As stated before, I really am bias-free in this debate. As far as I'm concerned, life is all we know, so we shouldn't think about an after-life. I have no problem with people finding solace in the possibility that there is a heaven; to each his own. I do have a problem with atheism becoming ' a new religion' in the sense that they feel entitled to preach their non-theist views to everyone they encounter with conflicting views. | people are people and will always be savages. A world under atheism would be just as barbaric and prejudicial. I welcome all debate, as that's why i asked the question. |
t3_hfze6 | AskReddit | Would you willingly be an exhibit at an alien zoo? | **Conditions:**
1 square mile (2.59 sq. km) of Earth like environment, including a large house with every amenity will be provided for you. You can bring up to 5 friends/family members. You will never have to work. The gender of your choice sexual partner will be provided (for mating/socialization) upon your request.
Unlimited gourmet food, alcohol/drugs; state of the art entertainment including: video games, movies, internet (barring all mention of your situation/overlords), music, exercise equipment, and the like will be provided for you. All of your medical needs will be met.
You can not leave your enclosure until you reach retirement age, at which point you may return to Earth.
Twice per day, you (and friends) will be required to come out of your house to dance/sing/cavort around for 30 minutes for the purpose of your alien overlord's entertainment. *The aliens are large and terrifyingly ugly. | You are treated very well at an alien zoo. You *must* entertain the aliens for at least 1 hour per day. You *must* stay for a large portion of your life. |
t3_17251y | relationships | Insecurities with a new man (20F20M). | I've always been a pretty confident girl. I had a lot of boyfriends in high school, and after I broke up with my long term boyfriend (long distance problems because of different colleges), I was back on the market.
The problem is, the last 3 boys I have been truly interested in have played the SHIT out of me. They all do the same thing. Texted me every day, hung out when we could, made me feel really special. Of course everyone loves when someone is paying attention to them like that, and when they are, you're in a pretty vulnerable state (at least I am). Then, after I've been talking to them for a while, it turns out that they aren't interested in actually being with me, and are keeping me at arms length so they can have me when they want, but have no commitment when they don't.
And it's really affected me. I've had a crush on a boy for a while now, and recently he admitted that he liked me. We've been talking for a few weeks now and we had an awesome weekend. I stayed at his house most of the time, as boys aren't allowed upstairs in my sorority house. But I don't act the same way that I used to be able to once I'm alone. Now I'm anxious all the time, wondering if he'll want to ever see me again. Did I overstay my welcome at his house? Am I being too much? Should I back off? Should I text him? Does he have the same intentions as the others? I'm constantly on edge (but only when I'm alone, I'm generally pretty normal around him).
It's ridiculous. I am not an anxious person, and I really like this guy. But this constant worrying is draining me out. I don't know how to just stop - it's like I can't help it even though I'm conscious that it's happening. Has anyone else that's gone through this give me some advice? It would be greatly appreciated. | I've been played a lot recently and now that a guy I really like is into me I'm incredibly insecure. How do I handle this? |
t3_3ogz20 | relationships | I [26M] drunkenly told my GF [25F] two lies when we first started talking. Come clean or let it be? | Alright so this is actually a small issue but I've just realized it today.
My girlfriend and I met via Tinder. As such, I didn't take it seriously when we first matched and started chatting. I was quite drunk one night after an event and stated sending messages. Weirdly enough it worked, go figure.
Anyway, I told her two lies that I honestly forgot about. The first was my job. I told her I was a fully fledged professional when in fact I have 1 more year to go in grad school. This isn't an ongoing lie because, well, it's obvious and I never tried to hide the fact that I'm a student aside from the initial convo and she's never mentioned what I first told her.
The second is a potentially bigger issue. I have NO idea why but I told her I was born in a foreign country and lived in another country as a baby. Dunno what drunk me was thinking and I honestly forgot about it. I've lived in the same basic area my entire life. Again, I never continued the lie and I've definitely said things that make it clear I've lived here my entire life. And again, she's never mentioned what I told her.
It hasn't been an issue and I was wondering how you would feel in her shoes and whether I should come clean. | told now-gf some drunk lies when initially chatting on tinder, not an issue and hasn't come up, wondering if I should even bother coming clean bc it might open up a can of worms. |
t3_4e5f93 | personalfinance | /r/personalfinance, you have inspired me to get and stay debt free | When I first started reading this subreddit I was in a bad financial space. I couldn't make monthly expenses on my salary and resorted to using my credit card.
I watched my credit card balance climb in no time to over ZAR 12,000 (South African Rands - think of it in USD terms without converting as we earn in Rands roughly the same number value as you guys)
One day my wife noticed the bank's balance reminder text msg on my mobile, and freaked. It was a stressful time but I kept reading motivating posts here and resolved to get myself out of this hole and assured her I had a plan in mind.
I read your sidebar links on ways of paying up credit cards. Up to now I attempted to pay as much of the credit card debt at month end, but then would be thin on cash for groceries and stuff, which led to a never ending cycle of charging more on my credit card.
I started paying down less but more than the minimum and tried to keep enough cash to cover essentials. The idea was to get myself out of the habit of using my credit card.
Another huge thing for me, which I learnt here - was an emergency fund. I setup an auto monthly payment of ZAR 300 into an investment account. In an emergency funds could be withdrawn with one weeks notice. I've already used it once since then, and I cannot stress enough what an important step this is, in staying off credit. Previously in an emergency I had only my credit card to resort to.
This post is approaching | so I'm gonna wrap up. By eliminating my mandatory monthly card payments and clothing store accounts, that has freed up about ZAR 2,500 for other budget items. |
t3_35rwon | relationships | My gf got a text from an unsaved # (29m 25f) | 2 weeks my gf got a text from an unsaved # asking her what she is doing that night and told her that he was close by. my gf asked who this is and he said mike, then she wrote wrong number. that was the end of that.
i had some suspicions. a while ago, i found out that she had a 2nd facebook account and a bunch of times, i saw that she added some ex's on her isntagram. she told me all of these things were accidents, bunch of lies.
i didnt trust that text, so today i made a fake # with the same area code. i texted her "what happened like two weeks ago? :-("
she wrote "you almost killed me lol"
i feel like she meant she almost got caught by me
then i asked how?
i guess she got spooked because right away she wrote to me and asked "babe?". then she stopped replying to the fake # | gf got a text from a unsaved #. has a history of sketchyness. today i pretended to be that # and she wrote "u almost killed me lol" |
t3_3qwq12 | relationships | Me [19F] with my roommates [19-22F], one of my roommates is a manipulative liar. | I don't have much money and I am putting myself through school without trying to take out students loans. I live an hour from my school so I usually commute but on the days when I have 8am classes it is hard so I found a place to sleep a few nights a week. I pay $200 +utilities to live under a staircase and it has been like this for a month and a half.
So my roommates all go to my school. When I first moved in the girl whos name is on the lease told me it will be nice to have the extra money to take off of every girls lease. Two of the girls share a room and the girl who is on the lease has her own room. The apartment is $1780 a month, the two girls who share a room (the smaller room at that) pay $550 each, the girl whos name is on the lease has her own room at $680.
Yesterday it came out that neither of the other two roommates knew I was paying $200 a month and their rent was not reduced when I moved in. That means the girl whos name is on the lease is paying $480 to have a single master bedroom while the other two girls pay $550 each to share a room. I think this is so unfair and deceitful. When I first moved in they girl on the lease told the other two girls I would only be paying utilities and thats it.
The other unfair thing is the girl on the lease gets the only parking spot and her boyfriend spend every single night at our place. He lives there and doesnt pay utilities. He has his own place 4 houses away and he still doesnt shower at his house.
My one roommate talked to her about it and she said "well im the one who the apartment name is in so you are just living in my house". She also started saying all this manipulative stuff and cried and somehow weaseled her way out of not reducing the other girls rent for now. | I feel like the girl whos apartment I moved into lied to everybody and is selfish. I dont know what to do about the situation and I feel like it is all my fault. |
t3_2wzqi1 | tifu | TIFU by not knowing my friend's past before cracking inappropriate jokes. | This actually happened today, technically. Past 00:00
I am casually having a late night chat with a friend. She is talking about what videos to watch for laughs. I recommend stand-up. Really offensive kind of stand-up. She watches a few and then says how do I find racist jokes or dead baby jokes or rape jokes funny. I said they're rather funny. One can't take these things too seriously, right?
She says but what if these jokes actually hurt someone's feeling. I say then don't watch it. But I do sound defensive. I love me some offensive jokes! We go back and forth on that a while where she says offensive jokes aren't always okay and I say we can't quantify how much offense is acceptable. Once you go down that road, you go all the way. I even end up sending her reddit's choicest offensive archives. Eventually, I get a bit irritated. So we talk about music instead.
While I'm almost preparing to go to sleep, she drops this on me - She got offended because she was sexually assaulted repeatedly as a child. I don't know what to say except "Fuck.. I am so sorry." She says it is okay, I didn't know etc. But I feel like such an asshole. Apparently, all her friends know and it was just me who didn't. | I defended rape jokes to a rape victim friend. Almost an hour. Sent her rape jokes. I am the only one who didn't know. |
t3_4m9uue | relationships | Kind of a weird one – how can I [27F] help make my husband's [27 M] graduation memorable for everyone? | I've been with my husband for 6 years. He is graduating with his Master's in one month, and I am so, so happy and proud for him!
However, his family can't come to the ceremony; it's just not logistically- or financially-feasible. Only his mom and I will be there.
I have two concerns:
1) I feel bad that his family will miss out on a once-in-a-lifetime event
2) I worry that my husband will feel left-out/neglected. He is also starting his dream job soon—it feels like a whole new chapter of his life is unfolding, so I just want to make him feel special.
How can I make this as memorable and special as possible for both him and the family? My ideas so far:
* Skype his family during the ceremony
* Make a scrapbook with photos from the event
* Decorate his graduation cap with him and frame it after the ceremony (is this tacky for a Master's from an Ivy?)
* Take him out to a fancy dinner
I'm not terribly creative, so ANY suggestions are welcome! I have a budget of a few hundred dollars, if needed. Thank you! | Please help me come up with ideas on how to make my husband's graduation a special event for both him and his family, who can't attend. |
t3_47o9b2 | relationships | Me [22 M] with my gf [23 F] 8 months, my GF is trying to lose weight. | She successfully lost 10 kgs 6 months ago and has only lost 1kg in the last 5 months. She continually asks me to be supportive and help her in her quest to lose weight. She asked me to help her maintain a good diet and encourage her to exercise. She pays 60 dollars a week to see a personal trainer as well.
However she just over eats continuously. She will go to Mcdonalds several times a week and order not 1 but 2 meals in one go. If I ever mention anything about it she gets very snappy with me. I honestly don't mind the weight she is now, but it gets to me when she asks for help and throw it in my face, there's a daily affirmation from her that she wants to lose weight and then she goes and orders 2 cheeseburgers meals for lunch... Thoughts? | GF says she wants to lose weight but wont stop overeating eand gets mad at me if I try to limit her food intake like she has asked me to. |
t3_4l5oxw | relationships | Me [20F] with a guy [21M] I am dating. It seems like he doesn't want to see me | About a month and a half ago I met a guy and we dated for a few weeks before school ended and we got really busy. Things were going really well. We were hanging out a lot and we both expressed that we really liked each other. I haven't been able to see him for a couple weeks because we were both traveling, but the whole time we kept in touch and we agreed that we'd hang out once we were back in the same city. I came home yesterday and I suggested hanging out last night, but he said he was too tired and didn't seem all that excited. He has a huge project he's been working on, so I understand if he's been really stressed, but I'm hurt that he didn't want to hang out with me. I'll admit though that I was being pushy because I really wanted to hang out with him. This is so different from before where he would practically beg me to hang out with him, even on nights where we both had work to do, and during finals when we were both really stressed out, we made time for each other. He's leaving tomorrow for a couple weeks so yesterday and today were our only chances to hang out for a really long time. I don't want to let this time pass without seeing him because we didn't date in person for very long in the first place, and this will be forced to either be a long distance relationship (which sucks) or we'll lose touch (more likely), which I don't want either. Mostly I'm just disappointed because this is our last chance to hang out for a long time, and we haven't seen each other for two weeks, I thought he'd be more excited to see me. Is this something I should bring up with him? I don't know if I should be pushy to hang out today or just let it go, because it kind of seems like he lost interest. But it doesn't make sense if he lost interest. Just a few days ago he was texting me telling me he missed me. The last time I saw him he said he really liked me, I don't understand how things could've changed. | Guy I really like doesn't seem to want to hang out with me, despite things going really well between us a couple weeks ago. |
t3_269wkg | relationships | [25F] with [30M] how can I tell if he wants a third date? | I met him at a bar a couple weeks ago, we were both tipsy. We really hit it off. We exchanged numbers and he contacted me to get drinks last week. I thought it went really well, we made plans that same night for dinner and a movie later in the week. He seemed really into me. We had our date tonight, he paid for everything (I offered to pay but he insisted), but I'm not sure it went as well as I was hoping. He didn't bring up seeing me again, and when we parted ways, he gave me a quick hug and seemed in a hurry to leave. I'm not sure if I should text him about seeing each other again, or if he's not into me? I like him but I can't read him very well. | Should I text him to see if he wants to see me again? or was his body language and lack of enthusiasm during our date telling enough? |
t3_3cgrng | relationships | I'm (f22) a nanny and there's an incredibly weird situation happening between bossparents (f34&m36) and me. | I've been a summer nanny for a couple with a three-year-old little girl that I adore. It's been great with her and we've bonded very well.
However, I also became friends with the bossdad as he was home every day for lunch (~45 mins). Strictly, incredibly platonic. He's given me advice on some problems with my live-in boyfriend and we've exchanged a few emails on that topic. Nothing more than an older brother giving advice kind of thing.
Around a month after I started the parents began having some marital issues so I was doing overtime so they could go on dates and to marriage counseling, etc. Simultaneously the wife became intensely jealous of her husband's interaction with me and now she's just cold toward me. Husband says she doesn't dislike me, she just feels threatened and "can't wait for summer to be over" so I'm no longer around.
She hasn't spoken to me about anything, and she tells me regularly that she likes my job with the kid. But she's definitely cold. Yesterday she came home crying because I texted bossdad about what the kid was watching on TV? So I've just quit talking to husband and make sure the girl and I are out of the house at lunch.
This is so awkward, should I just quit even though I only have a month left? I can't really afford to quit without another job lined up. | I'm a nanny and had a friendly rapport with bossdad and bossmom is insanely (and irrationality) jealous and unhappy. Should I quit? |
t3_297co5 | legaladvice | Trouble with an employer (UT) | Today I had a bit of trouble with an employer. My close friend and I are working as independent contractors at a local festival. However, yesterday we had a bit of a dispute with one of our coworkers after she was not doing her job correctly at all. We were not rude, simply stern in reminding her to do her job right as this was the second time we had to get on her case. However, after we had finished she walked away from us and reportedly started crying. My friend and I felt dreadful and apologized to her later and we believed that would be the end of it. We spoke to all 3 of our directors (it's an acting gig) who all agreed that she was doing her job incorrectly and that we were in the right in the situation. The next day however, we were spoken to by the big man (the man who signs our paychecks) and informed that the girl's parents wanted us both fired. Apparently the girl had claimed that we had been rude to her throughout the entire rehearsal period of about 3 weeks and that my friend had been bullying her from the start. However, while that was not true at all, that is not the important part. The important part was that he had already decided to give my friend a substantial pay cut since he was too invaluable to fire. He had made this decision before even listening to our side of the story or even consulting with our directors who were present at every rehearsal. I personally believe this is unethical, however I know nothing of law so I may be wrong. Hence why I came here. | Employer cut friend's paycheck for something that did not happen. However he made this decision before even discussing it with the accused party. Employer trusted the word of one person over the words of five others. Is this disputable? |
t3_3at1qc | Advice | How to deal with scalpers....FRUSTRATED | Last week I wanted to purchase a pair of tickets to attend a pretty big weekend event. I was able to purchase my Saturday tickets, but all the Sunday tickets got sold out. Because I really want to go for the whole weekend, I went on Ebay and Stubhub to see how much people were selling the tickets for, to find they were selling at 4 to 12 times the amount of the price sold. I can technically buy the tickets but I am not going to as I feel ridiculous paying $200 for an event I could have gone to for $40. I literally tried to buy my tickets when it came out online, but I missed the timing. How do I deal with these scalpers? I JUST WANTED TO WATCH A GAME OF LEAGUE OF LEGENDS IN NYC damn it | scalpers bought all the LoL tickets, wondering how to compete against people who buy all the tickets only to resell them for stupid prices. |
t3_38f27y | relationships | Me [30M] with my fiancee [30F] of 4 years (total time together), I sometimes want to leave her | Ooph. I need to vent and get this one off my chest.
I met my fiancee just over four year ago, we've been engaged for a few months. We love each other deeply, but we struggle to communicate about our problems without things spiraling into an argument and we have intimacy issues. Yes, we've tried couples therapy but left because we didn't like the therapist we found. We haven't been able to go to another one since because we've been struggling with scheduling. Still, we do love each other and we can sometimes have discussions about these issues without things going too awry. But the problems aren't going away and have been a persistent issue for several years now.
In addition to our relationship problems, we're in grad school. This means we're also constantly stressed about our theses and money, so I'm not sure how much of my anxiety is actually about our relationship vs. the circumstances we find ourselves in.
Regardless, our wedding planning is ramping up, and I feel completely overwhelmed by the possibility that the marriage might be a very bad idea. Expenses are mounting quickly and I just don't know if we'll last. Am I making a huge mistake? Is this just cold feet? I don't know and I can't talk to anyone I know about it. | I'm strongly conflicted about staying in my current relationship. Any insight, advice, or probing questions from an outside perspective are appreciated. |
t3_mho0t | dating_advice | On-track to friend zone a great girl, need advice to change course (23 M & F) | Hey r/dating_advice,
I've been seeing a girl practically every day for the last week (let's call her Amy). We have really awesome discussions for hours and exchange ~100 texts a day on top of that. There's sexual tension and I want to start hooking up with her, and down the line possibly have a relationship with her.
**Trouble is**, I haven't made a move. I am usually pretty good at making a move when I first meet someone new, but when I'm with her my brain is so focused on the conversation that I have failed to do so. Now many chances have passed and I am afraid that the window of opportunity is closing soon. *Therefore,* I am asking for your advice as to how to make the right move (things to say, date ideas, and general instruction to 'man up' are all fair game).
How is this different from any other "how to make a move" thread? Well, maybe it's not and I need to hear that. But I feel like the usual tricks are best used on a first or second date, and not a 7th/8th and that is where I need help.
Some context: We met randomly through a mutual friend over lunch and started texting constantly 2 weeks ago. Went bar hopping last Friday and had a great time, and have hung out pretty much every day since for 5+ hours (cooked meals, bar hopped, doodled/debated late into the night, consumed lots of alcohol). She and I are both very experienced in relationships, and both exited long-term relationships 2 months ago. We are both extremely open book around each other (especially for how new our friendship is).
I figure the intellectual intensity will die down soon if I do not create sexual intensity, so I ask for your advice as to how to move things along. I think she and I could have an excellent relationship (casual or serious) if I can do this soon.
Thanks Reddit! | I've been wowing this girl with my mind for 2 weeks and am seeking advice on how to get physical before we friend-zone each other. |
t3_35v8b4 | relationships | Me[23m] worried about my girlfriend of six months[21f] leaving me for a guy she met at work. | So for about a week and a half now, my girlfriend has been texting this one man, we'll call him Jim, every day.
She texts him when we're in bed or when we're just hanging out. She smiles at all his texts and looks up at me with a frown. Cheating isn't possible, as we spend too much time together, but thoughts of cheating?
Is she maybe thinking that she should leave me for a more successful and stable person? How do I talk to her about it without it becoming an argument?
Thank you whoever read this as I've needed to voice this and have nowhere to go. | Afraid my girlfriend of half a year is thinking of leaving me and idk how to talk to her about it. |
t3_2fghgf | relationships | I think My (21M) Girlfriend (21F) is using sex to get what she wants | So we were in bed the other night and we hadn't had sex in a while so i was trying to initiate, kissing her neck etc... She tells me to stop and turns around and says "I feel like if i don't pleasure you now that your going to cheat on me" then rolls back over
I apologize that i make her feel that way. I am laying there on my back feeling like an asshole for the past mistakes I've made (almost cheated once and texted other females, but I realize she is worth it and I've cut that shit out). She then rolls back over and says how she would really love to get these pajamas for Victoria Secret. I immediately felt pressured and didn't really respond. She continued on about some other things she wants.
Sure enough i find myself in Victoria Secret some days later buying her the pajamas, it is for her birthday that is coming up soon.
Another thing is yesterday we were texting while i was in class and it got pretty sexual. She texted me saying how she wanted me. Later that night i tried to initiate sex again but she said she was tired and wanted to just go to bed. For the next 30 minutes she just sat on her phone ignoring my want to make love to her... it is so fucking confusing. I get it if she wasn't in the mood, but why wind me up all day just to turn me down later.
With the statement she said that one night, the "if i don't do this i feel like ur gonna cheat" has really pressured me into trying not to initiate anything sexual now. I love having sex with her its always awesome, but now i feel like she either doesn't like it or is just going to use it to her advantage | GF refused sexual advances only to turn around and tell me that she wanted something. GF texted me all day when i was in class sexually, get home and refuses sexual advances. |
t3_jzfyw | AskReddit | Got a call from a guy who said he was secret service. Is this a scam? | Hey Reddit -
Bit of background: I own a small business, a film production company, in Manhattan.
Today, I got a phone call from a (646) number. Guy started the conversation by asking me if my business had a physical address in NYC. I said yes. I asked what he was calling about, he said he couldn't tell me, but he was calling from the NYC District Attorney's office, and an agent had a few questions for any employee of my company. They didn't know my name, they'd just called the company's general number. He passed the phone off quickly to this "agent", who said he needed to talk to me in person. I asked what about, he said he couldn't say over the phone. I asked who he worked for, he said the UNITED STATES SECRET SERVICE. I chuckled and said he must be kidding me, he said he wasn't. I asked if I should be worried, he said absolutely not. Then he said he'd call again tomorrow to set a meeting. No more details.
I googled the number ((646) 839-2477) and it's from a landline in Midtown, even though the NYC DA office is in lower Manhattan. I tried calling them back and the first time I called back it kept ringing indefinitely, now whenever I try (about an hour later) I'm getting a strange busy signal.
Is this a scam?? | I got a call from a guy who said he's in the secret service who wants to meet with me. No more details of any kind - is this a scam? Should I ignore? |
t3_ycd3e | BreakUps | M (20) with a mutually ended relationship of 3 years F (19) not so mutual anymore... | [The original post can be seen here] Basically, I have been single for almost two months now and I am still crazy in love with my ex. She hasn't been acting normal around me, but I have been informed "there is no one else" by a few mutual friends of ours. I really need closure but every time I ask, my text doesn't get responded to. I talked to her for the first time this past weekend (after two months), and yesterday. It seemed to go okay. She said she wanted to be friends (as I told her I want my best friend back). She also apologized for being a stranger to me, which I had pointed out. I have no idea what to do. I still want to try to get back together. This is the first time we broke up. I don't want to spend the rest of my life wondering what could have been.
So: Do I try anymore (I still have crazy feelings for her)? Do I still pursue closure (which I truly need if we are genuinely over)? What to do? Help!! | GF of three years and I broke up. She hasn't talked to me in two months. I still have unanswered questions, and haven't been given closure. Advice? |
t3_qcfsy | AskReddit | Will everyone get caught slacking off at work eventually? | It happened to me for the first time today. My boss came up to me and said that I've been falling behind and it's pretty obvious that I'm just slacking off. She was VERY nice about it and said, "It happens to everyone. We just need to work on getting you caught up."
I've been crying since about 4:00 this evening because it's just ripping me apart. I am so embarrassed and ashamed and I just don't want to show my face in there again.
I had a pretty bad nervous breakdown in December. Going through a break up, severe depression and anxiety, bad medication for said depression and anxiety, parents getting divorced, not able to afford my apartment, dad's recovering alcoholism.... It was just a clusterfuck of bad voodoo, and one day at work I completely lost it (I always tried so hard not to fall apart at work; always happened at home and sometimes school). Told my boss, took the week off, finished up final exams, and then went back to work.
I moved back in with my dad and started going to therapy every week. It's been about 2 or 3 months, and although I'm doing better emotionally, I still can't focus or concentrate. And I just let it get the best of my work.
Please share some insight or stories. My SO said that it happens eventually and you just have to deal with it and it's not the end of the world. But I'm just....a wreck. | Been slacking off at work after a nervous breakdown; can't focus or concentrate. Boss confronted me. Totally freaking out. |
t3_1f7dgq | relationships | [M16] worried that I don't make my girlfriend [F17] happy. | Basically we have been together for around a year now and we are both preparing to go to college (I'm going early in some cool program).
I'm concerned that I don't make her as happy as she should be. When we first got to know eat other she was shy and secluded but she slowly came out of her shell in to this wonderful person that was lively and happy and outgoing. Recently, she's not been shy, but she hasn't seemed as happy and comfortable around me.
We have talked about it and agreed to try and focus more on each other's happiness than intimacy which makes sense but I'm not entirely sure how to pursue that. She says that she's genuinely happy when she's with her friends (which actually consist of three guys but that's not the point) and she's happy with me but she says it's a different kind of happy.
I'm just very confused and talking to her just kind of made me question more things about our relationship. I don't think it would be wise to be in a relationship just because I'm happy and she's not. | Girlfriend says she's a different kind of happy with her friends and hasn't been genuinely happy with us for a long time. What to do? |
t3_jggns | AskReddit | I'm a 20 year old who is scared for his future and I feel powerless, what can I do to make a difference in my future? | I'm already thousands of dollars in debt thanks to school, I probably won't get social security when i'm older, there's war, corruption and greed as well as a steady decrease in standard of living and an increasing distance between the upper and lower class. News isn't news in this country, our leaders and majority of our population still believe and run their lives by bible fairy tales. Our debt is increasing and by the time our leaders have to worry about it, it will be placed in our hands to deal with it. I can go on. I'm tired of it.
Now, you may not agree with anything I say, and i'm perfectly fine with that. I respect it. I just need some ideas.
Also, I'm looking for a group of like minded people. Not /r/anarchism and not /r/politics. Point me in the right direction please. Every time I try to find people with the same view point as me I get conspiracy theorists or high schoolers who think they're hXc though and are just out to disagree with everything establishment. | Guide me to a subreddit (hell, doesn't even need to be a reddit) somewhere between /r/politics and /r/anarchism that sees the 'big picture'. And again, no /r/conspiracy |
t3_2uee2b | tifu | TIFU by feverishly masturbating on a banana peel. | Alright so this literally happened about 15 minutes ago.
So I live in an apartment with 3 other guys. Normally we all had our computers and game systems set up in the living room. But recently we decided to move all of our electronics to our respective rooms. Tbh I have the nicest computer, and keep my bitchin bachelor pad of a bedroom clean, most of the time everyone chills in my room.
Well today was just one of those days were a man needed to just sit down and relieve some stress. So I sit down in my desk chair, pull my trash can out from under my desk, and got to work.
About 15 minutes later I start to clean up and I left my door open to walk to the bathroom. I come back to one of my roommates sitting at my desk pulling up a YouTube video to show me. No big deal, I had disposed of all evidence.. right?
About half way through the video I noticed my lube was still sitting next to the chair. "Fuck Fuck Fuck!" I thought to myself while trying to slowly reach my leg under the chair to roll in under the bed. Boink! Mission success! Lube is out of site and my roommate didn't notice.
As I look up at him I notice he's looking at the trashcan I didn't slide back under the desk. "You shouldn't leave these banana peels in the trash can in your room it will start to smell-" this is the moment he picked up the banana peel and immediately dropped it and froze stiff.
He turned and looked me right in the eye with the most horrified look on his face while holding out his hand.
I looked down and his hand was covered, and I mean SMOTHERED in my funky spunk. Without changing expressions he dashed to the bathroom and slammed the door.
This is where I closed and locked my door, and just sat back and thought. "Well I ruined a friendship today, but Reddit may get a kick out of it." FML. | Spanked my noodle into a trashcan containing a banana peel, roommate picked up the, now covered in liquid man love, banana peel and was instantly mortified. |
t3_38r46l | tifu | TIFU by going #2 in a urinal | Ok, so I and a few friends of mine set out on a road trip.
We headed down the road for a few hours and made great time. We didn't have to stop at a rest stop and we kept going from breakfast until lunch.
All of us were starving so we stopped for a strong meal that would keep us satisfied for a long time... And being young, we stopped at Waffle House.
Perhaps you've been to Waffle House or something like it. They are small and greasy but cook delicious meals. Although the food tastes good... It's not the most sanitary.
We decided to take the risk anyway.
Afterward we all felt satisfied and began driving again but within the first 30 minutes my friend made us pull over. He had food poisoning. We waited for him to do his business and made fun of him for the next hour or so. But because you reap what you sow... 1 hour later my other friend and I started getting the rumbles...
We stopped at the next exit and rushed into the bathroom. But lo and behold, there was only one toilet and one urinal. He shouted dibs and sprinted into the stall, I briefly considered using the girl's restroom but decided against it. Then, suddenly, my stomach couldn't hold any longer. I had to go. My only options were my pants, the floor, the sink, or the urinal... Not wanting to defile anything else, I chose the urinal.
After today I am sure I will be more careful about A) when I mock my friends, and B) where I eat food | My friends and I got food poisoning on a road trip. There weren't enough stalls so I used the urinal. |
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