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t3_2st1oc | tifu | TIFU by drawing a swastika on my brother's forehead | This happened when I was in high school. My brothers and I were always in prank wars with each other but since my older brother had been away at University, the opportunities had been minimal. When I found out that he was coming home for the weekend, to meet his new girlfriend's family, I was excited for the chance to start things back up again.
The night before meeting the parents, he went out with his friends, came home tipsy and passed out in his bed. Perfect opportunity! I went in his room and drew a swastika on his forehead with a permanent marker. I thought it was hilarious. When he woke up the next morning, he was PISSED. The most angry I had seen him. He yelled at me and had our mom try to help him clean off the drawing. She actually managed to get most of it off. Just a red mark and a faint outline could be seen when he left to his girlfriend's place.
Fast-forward to 2am. I wake up to the sound of buzzing in my ear and my brother standing over my bed. His revenge was to shave off a small section of my hair - Jackass style. I started screaming at him, which woke up my parents.
I went into my parent's room almost in tears, freaking out over what happened. "He shaved off my hair!!! How the hell can I go out like this? He took things too far! What an asshole" etc. My mother was just as frantic as me "I told you guys to knock it off with these fucking pranks!" My dad was still lying in bed with his eyes closed and said, in a completely serious voice, "Well, what the hell did you expect messing with a Nazi?" I laughed and wore my hair up for the rest of the semester. | Drew a swastika on my brother's forehead and had a section of my hair shaved off in retaliation. Dad said I deserved it for messing with a Nazi. |
t3_2zoctc | relationships | My [15m] friend [15f] went through reddit submissions after I told her not to. I feel disappointed and betrayed. | I recently introduced my friend to reddit, and a while ago I, stupidly, brought up in conversation (via facebook) my reddit username.
Today in class she was next to me on her phone, going through reddit, and then she asked me what my username was, and I wouldn't tell her and I told her I didn't want her going through my submissions, at least until I had 'sanitised' them, by removing all posts in this subreddit.
She then searched the facebook conversation to find my username, and she was going through my submissions, and she opened one that was quite obviously about her .(
I'm not going to delete anything, because it is probably too late, and yes, this is the same account and I know she will probably read this. She refuses to tell me her reddit username, just to add insult to injury.
I don't know how to confront her about it, because she just didn't listen to me. I don't want to get mad at her, because I also tend to do some things when she tells me not to, like touching her thigh when she is trying to do a math assignment. | My friend know my reddit username and has read my /r/relationship posts about her. I feel betrayed and don't know how to confront her about it. |
t3_3ytc33 | relationships | Me [31 F] with my BF [32 M] of 3yrs hate his friendship with his ex gf | Okay, so here's the deal. I have been with my current guy for 3 years. Things haven't always been perfect but we do have a lot of fun together. The sex is great and we have a great mental and emotional connection. He is planning on proposing and I do love him and want to be with him.
Having said all of that, his friendship with his ex-girlfriend drives me crazy. His ex gf lives abroad across the international date line and due to his weird schedule they gchat a lot late at night. I've read their gchats (the ones he hasn't deleted since he know it bothers me and doesn't want me to see it) and most are pretty innocent/tame. My guy is a bit of a lone wolf and doesn't have a lot of friends so part of me feels bad for wanting to prevent him from having a friendship with this girl since I know she's supportive to him.
However, it's not the innocent Gchats that bother me, it's the frequent Skyping and requests for money (that's a separate post, and something he had promised me would end and has ended, I think...) that really drives me insane. Idle gchat is one thing but Skyping crosses a line in my opinion. We fought about this before and he agreed that it was too intimate and that it would stop. It hasn't, I think he won't ever give up the attention he gets from her.
This has been an ongoing issue for us; the last time we talked about it he told me he was going to write her an email and tell her the deal. That she was wedging herself in between us and that it had to end. But he hasn't written her to tell her this and at this point I doubt he ever will. I feel like I'm being controlling by bringing this up again. When I saw that they had been Skyping despite my repeatedly telling him that it hurt me was a real blow. Maybe I'm making too big of a deal here and am being too controlling. I don't even know anymore. | I hate my bf's friendship with his ex gf; what types of friendships are normal? Am I being unreasonable? |
t3_3602yj | relationships | Me [26 M] with my [30 F] potential f**k buddy, how should I handle this initial meet up at my place? SERIOUS | I met this girl over a cup of coffee today on the premise of us being in a strictly sexual relationship. We had a great time feeling each other out in person (been texting/sexting back in forth for last couple days). She has an outstanding body and very cute face. I think we even joked about how we have the same eyes when we first saw each other. So she has all the attributes I find very attractive, plus she is very down to earth and experienced. I told her that I have no desire to have a serious relationship/marriage and she told me that she is just looking for someone to meet her sexual needs and explore or whatever (she is divorced and has a kid). So everything is going great and I ask her to come over to my place tomorrow night and she agrees. Peachy.
Now, a little about me. I have had 3 relationships ranging from 4 months to 3 years and a handful of one night stands. I have never had a girl who who wants a sex-only relationship. Obviously, I am a few years younger than her, I am put together rather well, and I have a job that I think turns her on. I'm not bragging, these are "criteria" that I think she has -she told me she is picky when it comes to men.
Honestly, I don't know if girls like this want to be pulled in through the door and get down to business, or if they prefer to have a drink or two and chat it up for a bit before diving in. She has told me likes making love, being ravaged, and rough sex. She also likes role-play. My game plan going into this is to have some drinks first and go nice and easy. Then if we "click", start revving it up. Is this a good plan? Looking for advice on how other guys handled this...and how other girls have liked it..? | Met an attractive girl who wants only sex and am curious on how to handle the initial "encounter" at my place tomorrow. |
t3_13m586 | relationships | My g[f] (19) of nearly 3 year has an infatuation with a "bad boy" at her college, [m]e (18) | My girlfriend and I have shared a wonderfully relationship for nearly three years. She recently admitted to that she has a crush on some boy at her college (~2 weeks), I will refer to him as Bob (21). Me and Bob offer her completely different relationships and she is aware of this. Bob is smart but has a "bad boy" persona, he smokes a lot and does stupid shit, my girlfriend finds him very interesting and a relationship with him would be exciting and new for her but short-lived. On the other hand, I am a much more rational/safe sort of person and even though she trusts me and we are very happy together she says she's going through a phase where she just wants to try reckless things.
She feels very guilty about her infatuation, and we are trying to figure it out together. What do you suggest /r/relationship? (I do realize we are very young but please save me the lecture) | Girlfriend has met a "bad boy" she feels guilty but she is attracted to him. What should she/we do? |
t3_4d1wg6 | relationships | I detest my "best" friend / roommate [22/F] for showing emotional weakness and I [22/F] can't deal with it. PLEASE tell me what to do. | I'm a shitty person. My closest friend (and roommate since we live together in college) was sad four days ago and wanted a hug / physical signs of affection. I don't like being touched sometimes and I really did not want to be touched that time. I didn't want to touch her so I backed away and she was upset and said it "hurt".
To be honest, the fact that she said it hurt disgusted me. I don't like to think she has emotional feelings. I don't give a fuck if she's hurt. I want her to stop being so emotional and stop needing things from me like physical affection. We've been close for the past few months (texting every day, being verbally affectionate, hugging when I see her) and now I feel feelings of disgust for her and like I detest her and I'm ghosting on her. I've been avoiding her and she fucking knows.
What the fuck is wrong with me. I'm cutting her out of my life because I feel disgust for her. Whenever else she shows sad emotions, I can't deal with it but I quickly remove myself from the situation and we're back to normal when she's not sad anymore. A few months ago, she was tearing up because she was stressed and didn't get a job. I said words of comfort, initiated physical contact, and then left. I didn't feel disgusted then, but I didn't want to be around her and I blocked out all emotions.
How do I fix this? I can't go on like this because I fucking live with her and it's the elephant in the room. But I can't bring myself to touch her or treat her intimately. What do I do? | I detest my roommate / best friend for showing emotions and I just cannot deal with it. I feel disgust for her and I can't bring myself to be around her. |
t3_4t8zke | relationships | Me [27 F] with my [35 M] I think now ex-boyfriend, he wanted us to be 'Discrete', ended up feeling like a total stranger when I met him in social settings. | After a short but intense period of dating this man, I ended it. He is so controlled by what his ex might think, that it controlled every interaction between us. I am sure they indeed split up, but she seems to control him still. And he cares too much. We had no chance of being together, and I'm sure as hell worth much more than a part time relationship!! So I ended it, told him it's better to be just friends because I can't do it like this!!
Now I feel completely heartbroken, not sure how to get over this one. I never had a problem getting over lost loves, but this time I am not sure how I'll manage to get over it.
Kind of needed to get it off my chest too, since none of my friends know there was something more between him and me. They think I just have an unanswered crush :/ | he's so controlled by ex that we never had a chance. Am madly in love and heartbroken. Don't know how to get over him. |
t3_3ty1c6 | relationships | I [26M] am not sure if I should continue seeing her [23F] because her heart belongs to someone else. | Met up on Coffee Meets Bagel. Not the first girl I've dated on this app, but she was very fun and we had similar professional interests so it was easy to talk to her. She invited me over on our first date, but we didn't have sex -- we just cuddled and slept in the same bed. The next morning -- we had sex.
I've been talking to her for two weeks now, and we've been enjoying each other's company and spoiling each other with doing stuff for each other. We finally had the **define the relationship** over the course of the last two nights, and she revealed to me that her heart belongs to someone else who lives across the country.
She broke up with him when she moved here for graduate school because he was addicted to marijuana, is living off his parents and not going to college or has a job, and long-distance phone calls were not enough for her to feel a meaningful connection. However, she has been with him for around a year and they were talking about marriage before she moved to graduate school. She will be going back to visit her family during winter break, and will see him and figure things out.
Until then, there's me. She doesn't want to drag me along or lead me on -- and I understand that. I've been through many rodeos now, and recently my ex-girlfriend broke up with me too because of long-distance (also half-way across the country), and I feel like it's nice talking to my date because we have that shared experience. I also do enjoy spoiling her by buying her gifts, visiting her (she's about two hours by commute), and complimenting her in front of her friends -- just in general making her feel appreciated.
My friends are all warning me that I'm going to get hurt -- and I think they're right. Yet, I just can't seem to stop seeing her. We're definitely not serious, but I honestly am looking for someone to take care of and be taken care of. We're both kind of using each other as bandaids, but I don't know if I should rip it off first or just continue until she gets back together with him. | My date loves her ex-boyfriend, I just got out of a serious relationship, and we're using each other as bandaids. When is it appropriate to stop, or should I just keep going along with it? |
t3_1z5b4u | relationships | Me [20 M] with my girl [19 F] for 6 months, on the verge of being dumped | My Girl recently got mad at me after finding out that I was really close with another girl when we first started talking. While there was no cheating or flirting, she says I broke her trust, something that she takes very seriously. Once again this was about 6 months ago and we've been in a strong, amazing relationship before she found this out.
Now she won't talk to me, wants to end things with me, and all her friends despise me. She really cares about me, so instead of completely breaking things off with me, she wants a break from me to decide what she wants in the future, basically if she wants to end things officially or not.
I need help, I like her so much, told her I was so sorry on many accounts, and I need to win her back.
What can I do to help convince her to take me back, while respecting her request for space? | Had an outstanding relationship with a totally amazing girl, shes is contemplating ending things with me over an issue 6 months ago, what can I do to convince her to stay with me? |
t3_2sb81e | relationships | Girlfriend troubles and break up maybe? | Me(20m) and my girlfriend(20f) have been dating for just over a year. As of the last few months she has been having a lot of problems losing a sport she loved, swimming, and most of her life revolved around. It's caused our relationship to become worse and start heading down.
As of last Thursday she asked to take a break for two weeks to see what it was like being friends and so we could both work on things ourselves. It hurt us both a lot and has been really sucky for the past few days. Today we had a talk about it and she was saying it wasn't fair to me and we were holding each other back and she decided to break up with me. We both walked away crying pretty hard and that was the end of that.
She said, during this talk, she used to get butterflies in her stomach at the mention of my name or a text to her and loved being with me but she said since about four months ago she hasn't been happy that I haven't made her happy or feel that way at all. She also said in her mind a boyfriend and a best friend are no different really and she didn't understand what she was supposed to feel with the romantic aspect.
So I guess just what I'm asking is what is everyone's opinions on this? I loved being with her every second really. I was in love I enjoyed it even when we were both down just cause i knew someone loved me and cared and had my back. I loved her as a person and tried to show it as much as I could and she seemed to also. I'm just really hurting and was wondering different opinions on it? Thank you for any responses. | girlfriend and I were doing great. Not as great. Took a break then broke up. Not sure and want opinions. |
t3_3ythyc | relationships | Me [20 F] with my bf [21 M/F] of about 3 years, I've caught him snooping through my texts multiple times now and lies straight to my face when I confront him about it | I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 3 years now, and we have been good friends for years before that. A couple months ago, I caught him snooping through my texts while I was in the shower looking through messages I had with a guy friend. I was pretty upset about him breaking my trust and privacy like that, because I've never given him any reason to think I would cheat on him. I would NEVER. Yet he lied straight to my face about it and eventually fessed up.
About a month after that, I caught him again and yet again, he lied. He has a problem owning up to doing me wrong at first, and will lie about when I beg him to tell me the truth because I am not stupid and he knows that I know when he is lying. I told him he needed to gain my trust back because snooping is not cool at all, but lying about it after getting caught almost hurts more. Earlier this week, I saw that he was looking at my messages with a guy friend AGAIN, because he thinks that every guy is out to get me. But I know that I'm allowed to have guy friends and like always, there was nothing to hide in the messages. I am still hurt, though.
My main issue here, is what to do about him breaking my trust by looking through my messages. I never wanted to be "that couple" where I would not let him know any of my passwords and seem like I'm hiding something, because there is nothing to hide. I do feel, however, that I've reached my breaking point. I told him that he needed to show me that he could gain back my trust again, yet he keeps snooping, and keeps lying about it when I know I'll get the truth later on.
I'm at a loss, and I don't know what to do. I've tried talking through everything before, and clearly it is not working. It does not make me feel like I need to break up with him, but I will not stand for this anymore. Thanks for your help. | Caught my bf snooping through my texts multiple times, he's lied to my face at first about it every time, and talking to him about how I feel is obviously not doing a damn thing. |
t3_fvzev | AskReddit | Men & Ladies: How much sex have I earned? | I pay all the bills, I do all of the cooking, I clean up all of her girl clutter, and in general I do all of the normal stuff that allows the two of us to function as normal adults. I also don't really mind doing any of those things. I make money like a boss, I cook like a boss, I clean house like a boss, In general I'm a mother fuckin boss. Now In return, for the before mentioned goods and services, I get some half assed attempt at smex ~1/month.
This isn't my first rodeo, so my first instinct is to run for the hills, but here's the rub; one, we live together, and two, other then the lack of good lovin everything else is awesome. We get along extremely well.
So there's the problem. Now like I said I've been around the world ay yai yai.. diddy style, and all of my experiences has led me to two observations:
1. Right or wrong, I'm beginning to resent the amount of work that I'm doing for such little return. Sure I could "woo" her more, but in my head (and in reality) I already do all the before mentioned stuff. Not only do I do all that stuff, but also, I do it like a boss.
2. She's lazy. Right or wrong, in her mind, I should be making the moves to seduce her.
So is this whole situation a bust? Should I stay/leave? Is the grass really greener on the other side? Do interesting intellectual nymphos that I get along with exist? And most importantly, How much sex have I earned? | I found a website where, upon registering, you EARN SEXUAL FAVORS from the sites employees by doing good deeds around your neighborhood. Like raking the old lady across the streets leaves. Pay it forward. |
t3_1q22z4 | relationships | I need help with my mom. | I need help you guys. I'm a 16 y/o male, 5' 7", 125 lbs. I'm on both the crew team, and JROTC Raiders (this is essentially after school boot camp) team at my high school. I regularly work out, and have been doing so for about 3 months with no results. I had been seeing results earlier with the same workout, and a better diet, but this was quickly stopped by my mother (44, 5' 4", ~180 lbs). She isn't terribly unhealthy (she has a few issues but not due to her weight), but has a poor outlook on the aspects of health. She encourages exercise, but never buys good food. I confronted her about this today, and she ranted about how I always treat her like shit. She constantly claims to have healthy foods, then meals, the veggies, and finally says we don't have any veggies because I let them go bad. I need to get in better shape, and I need better FOOD. It's not only for me, but for her. It makes me so sad to watch her do this to not only me, but to herself. My brother left to go to college, he told me he's doing the same workouts as at home, but now he's in better shape because of what he eats. What can I do to make my mom see that this good food is necessary? | My mom buys shit food, gets furious at me for calmly asking for it. How can I get her to buy better food? Also, I posted this to FPS, and they sent me here. |
t3_3qcr4e | relationships | Me [19 M] with my girlfriend[19 F] have been together for 3 years. Both in school and talking about money... | She keeps asking about my debt and how much it'll be. It's not like I have a problem with her asking, but she has been increasingly worried about it.
Don't get me wrong, when I graduate and am finally done with school I will be in a lot of debt. I understand that entering into a marriage not only includes emotional connection, but financial obligation too. I just feel like it shouldn't be a huge obstacle in our relationship to the point where it bars the next step in our relationship (moving in, marriage, family).
My question is that should I be more concerned about my relationship with her if she is making such a big deal about money? Or am I underwhelming the situation and need to change my views on getting married with a decent amount of debt? | Girlfriend is worried about my student debt, I don't think it should be an obstacle in the next step of our relationship. |
t3_2u2b2b | tifu | TIFU by telling my ex I still love him | So, my ex broke up with me back in June. We were together for a year and a half. We graduated from college, and he was moving back home, four hours away from where I live. We tried long distance for two months, and I thought everything was going well. Until one night, over Skype, he was like, "Hey...if we were to break up, would we still be friends?" I giggled, and I swear I thought he was joking. I was like "Pfft of course! why? Are you breaking up with me?" And, I laughed some more. He bluntly said, "Yes, I am. I don't like being in a long distance relationship. It would be better if we were just friends." For a few seconds longer, I naively believed he was still kidding, but his stern look snapped me out of it. I broke down in front of him, and all I could manage to keep repeating was "But, I love you." I felt so pathetic. Anyway, after about a month of not talking to each other, I contacted him. I still wanted to be friends, too. He's an amazing person, and I care about him a lot. Fast-forward to now. Lately, we've been texting and Skyping a lot, and I thought, maybe if I let him know that I still have really strong feelings for him, we could give it another try. Well, we skyped tonight, and I told him I was still in love with him. To which he replied, "oh, I love you, too. But just as a friend." And, if that didn't make me feel foolish enough, he also thought it was the best time to let me know that he is talking to somebody else and it's getting pretty serious. Guys...my heart hurts. Why did I tell him!? | I told my ex I'm still in love with him. He loves me too....as a friend. And, he's talking to somebody else. |
t3_mm3er | AskReddit | Husband and I are about to lose everything. Anyone got any suggestions? | Backstory: My husband and I were both working for the same company this year. They laid both of us off at the end of August with no notice or severance package. I was still a contract employee but he didn't even get cash for his unused vacation time. Husband works a part time, weekend evenings only job at the local indie theater and has for over ten years. Because of the income from it he's not getting unemployment. We were depending on a full time job PLUS the part time to make ends meet, but apparently that doesn't matter to the unemployment office. I am getting unemployment, but it's less than half of what I was making.
We've limped along as long as we could through help from friends and family and using every resource we had available. We've both been steadily job hunting, and not being picky at all. Fast food, retail, temp agencies... you name it we've tried it. But it looks like we're finally dried up. If we don't make a car payment by Friday they'll repossess it, and our mortgage is already at the point that if we don't manage to do something by the beginning of December they're going to start the foreclosure process.
Both of our families are poor and neither of us have degrees or anything. Husband is getting denied every job that calls him because of the part time job, but we can't afford to give it up, especially since it's actually permanent. We're both exhausted and feeling fairly hopeless about everything. We won't be on the street, and at least we don't have kids, but going to live with either set of parents is a miserable looking option, even if it's the only one we have.
So, | husband and wife fired on the same day, out of options, about to lose everything. Does anyone have ANY suggestions? Any ideas of places or organizations that can help? We'll do ANYTHING at this point. |
t3_1t0j8r | relationships | She [25f] has lower sex drive than me [34m] wants to get married | Ok so some background: we've been together for 8 months, practically live together. Everything is great, we love each other and she's the best thing that's ever happened to me.
Except...I want sex way more and often feel rejected when she says she doesn't feel like it, or rejects my advances. It can really hurt sometimes. She assures me it is not me and she simply doesn't want sex as often.
When we do have sex, it's always great and she always seems to really enjoy it and be in to it. When we first met, it was sex all the time, which I suppose is understandable because of the newness. The irony being I was more overweight then than now, I was 225 now 203 (6'). For my part, I am continuing to work out, run, lift weights, and diet. For her part, she does make an effort a couple times a week to make time for intimacy. I just wish it wasn't an effort on her part, and I still want her more often, and I hate that she has to always initiate.
Also, we decided maybe switching her birth control would help...shes now been on ortho tri cyclen for a month with little change, but it could take a while.
Contributing factor may be she feels she is overweight (shes not overweight, she is very tall and blonde. and if she lost 5-15? Lbs she'd look like a super model) and she is often upset about her acne (she picks at her face a lot and it leaves red blemishes. I have no problem with her looks at all, I am very attracted to her and she is very beautiful, And I tell her all the time.
We are moving into a house together soon, she wants to marry me, and I want to marry her, I'm just concerned about the situation. Thoughts? | I want sex more than her, we both want to get married, factors may be my being slightly overweight, her being very slightly overweight, her birth control, her sex drive, my sex drive, and her acne. |
t3_4dakhm | relationships | Me [19F] likes this guy at my school [19m] but I am not sure the best way to ask him out. Am I being too forward? | I have liked this guy Damian for a while now, we go to the same school, I make a point of saying morning to him and bye when I see him before and after school.
He keep's to himself, does not really talk to anyone unless he has no choice. It really does not help that before we went on school break the teacher for career path's day asked what we want to do with our life
They asked him and he replied " I want to be a professional wrestler and I want main event a wrestle kingdom and a wrestlemania one day"
Everyone except me and the teachers laughed at him for it. He walked out and he said " I'll prove you all wrong someday"
Literally by chance later that week, my friend and I found an advertisement for a local wrestling show in the window of a shop and he was on it.
We decided to go and he was really good, like some of the stuff he could do I could not wrap my head around it. People there were chanting " young Chris Jericho" at him. I don't know if that's a compliment
But seriously he was like a completely different person, he was charismatic, he looked like he was having fun and enjoying himself
I don't know if he saw us, I don't think he did.
I really like this guy, I have like him for a while for like 2 years, but I have never really had the courage to ask him out.
Am I being to forward by just rocking up at one of his local shows? and how would be the best way to ask him out and should I tell him I went to one | I want to ask this guy out, but I am not sure how to go about it and I don't know if I am being to forward |
t3_33k1ml | relationship_advice | [25/m] girl I'm talking to [25/f] and she seems to be getting distance...am i over thinking this? | So i went on two dates with this girl and we really hit it off and she was having a great time. At the end of each date i got to 2nd base both times. But since the date this past week, she seems to be more distant, taking 24 hours to respond to texts and stuff, I was starting to like her but dunno how to react to this. She went from texting back after a minute or an a couple hours to 24 hours the past couple days.
So what'd y'all think? Am i crazy, or is it time to just move on from this girl ? | Went on couple of dates, both of us had a great time, now she's becoming distant. Am I overreacting or should i just chill the fuck out |
t3_104suk | dating_advice | 20[M] I'm doing this in the wrong order. Help! | Hi Reddit!
Recently I took a liking to a girl at my uni. My problem is that I seem to be doing everything in the wrong order.
First let me give you some back-story, My uni is a private institute that is quite small, we all live in the same accommodation block so we see everybody, everyday. I am very well known and have a bad reputation of being a bit of a player although I'm not the most attractive guy around.
The girl I like I first really noticed in a club two weekends ago, we danced, grinded and kissed without saying a word.
The next weekend, again with minimal, real conversation we slept together.
I know this girl likes me and I asked her to prom, she said yes.
My problem is, we never built any real connection and I have never dated a girl before. We only talk through Facebook and it is all very superficial, small talk, even passing in the hallway we only say hi to each other.
I don't know how to talk to this girl face to face and I always find myself overthinking when I am talking to her online.
Pretty much I don't know how to talk to her and get to know her which is generally what people do before they get into bed with each other.
I don't want this girl to think I used her for sex because I genuinely like her, I just find it hard to connect with girls on a serious and emotional level. | I like this girl, I slept with her before getting to know her and I don't know how to get to now her on a serious level that could lead to dating due to a bad reputation and over thinking. |
t3_mf918 | books | Google eBooks vs Amazon Kindle: prices | Google eBooks recently became available for purchase in Australia, and being quite fond of Google and Android in general and not having purchased any ebooks in the past (or any paper ones in recent history), I was keen on trying it out.
I saw Terry Pratchett's newest novel (Snuff) on eBooks and went, oh joy! Unfortunately, that quickly turned into 'oh no' when I compared the price to the one on Amazon Kindle:
Snuff, by Terry Pratchett
eBooks: [AUD23.99]
Kindle: [$12.99](
After that, I began searching and comparing prices across other titles.
The Man Who Mistook His Wife For a Hat, by Oliver Sacks
eBooks: [AUD15.99](
Kindle: [$8.19](
A Game of Thrones, by George R.R. Martin
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Bear in mind I haven't actually purchased anything from either, so I don't know if Amazon Kindle accepts only US customers like its Android app store. I suspect it doesn't care. | I recently discovered Google eBooks and spent some time comparing its prices to Amazon Kindle. On average, it appears Kindle is the cheaper bookseller. |
t3_3r2lks | relationships | Me [26M] with my Fiance [25F] of 5 years, I have suspicions of mild cheating on a work social event, do I ask her? | This is going to be pretty tame compared to some. My Fiance (Sarah for purposes) went out on a work social event two nights ago, I was expecting her back in the evening, but she didnt come home, this isn't unusal as she often stays at her friends house (laura), I sent her a text and eventually got a reply, but something just seemed a little odd with her lack of communication about staying out, usually I wouldnt have to text her first.
Sarah spent all day on her phone yesterday claiming to be messaging people she was out with, but my suspicions were high although I still can't put my finger on why, she hasnt been acting noticably different with me, but while she was having a bath i had a very quick look on her phone, I really shouldn't have which is why i'm questioning whether raising what I found with her is a recipe for disaster anyway.
there was a message sent to Laura just saying "dont worry, nothing happened", there were no previous messages from Laura so it seems these have been deleted. And she had been chatting to Luke on messenger all day, but the final messages hit me hard.
> Luke: "I have no idea considering my blackout"
> Sarah: "I'm missing about 2 hours. I don't know what happened between the last pub and getting the taxi!"
> Luke: "My Memory ends in the greys and the thing"
> Luke: "and then restarts on the sofa cudling someone"
Do I raise this with Sarah, and if so how, i've looked through her phone behind her back and found messages which *suggest* she spent the night cuddling up with another man. If i raise this am I set to open floodgates to destroy our relationship just a few months before we're supposed to be getting married... | suspicons of something happening on work night, found slightly incrimiating messages searching her phone, do I raise this with her, am I about to destroy our relationship? |
t3_3y29as | offmychest | Am I being childish?? | My bf(21) and I(f22) have been in a relationship for five years (it will be five on Jan 1st) and he still doesn't want to put it on Facebook. He says he thinks it's stupid and childish when I bring it up. He says he only uses fb to talk to old friends, but he's constantly adding new friends from work and such. I want these people to know he's in a relationship. He says anyone that matters knows we're together, anyone who doesn't know doesn't matter.
So I've changed my Facebook settings so that it says nothing; not "single" or "In a realtionship" or "complicated", just nothing. His still says single. I think that's fucked.
The other part of it that bothers me is that I have to constantly explain to friends or random creeps on Facebook that yes, I'm still in a relationship, and no, I don't know why he doesn't want to post it. A guy friend was trying to pick me up on Facebook, and when I told him all this he said "I would want to brag all about it if I had a girl like you." I decided to show the bf this message, but he FLIPPED out that I was even casually talking to another man. I'm all, this is EXACTLY MY POINT. How can he act all jealous and then say I'm childish for wanting our relationship to be public?
I know it's just stupid social media, and our relationship isn't defined by it, but it still bugs me. After years of fighting about it I kinda let it go, but then I mentioned it to my mom and she thought it was kind of weird too. Then of course she blabbed to my sister and my sister freaked out saying he must be cheating and bla bla bla. When I get home from visiting my parents this week I want to say something, but I don't know guys, am I making a big deal out of nothing? | I've been in a relationship for five years and he still doesn't want to change his single status on Facebook. Am I out of line for wanting him to make it public? |
t3_q1n6y | AskReddit | Reddit, I fucked up. What can I do? | Basically I am 22, in university, but have been winging it and gliding by since I was 15, when I started smoking pot and trying drugs. Well, in this time I have managed to alienate myself from a) normal social groups b) any sort of religious thing... not that I am religious and c) my peers in school. I feel like a fucking retard, because I know that I had so much more potential than this and I smoked it all away. My only real asset is my intelligence, and my plan was law school. My upper level arts courses are destroying me and loading me with anxiety. Is there a way to fix this? I haven't smoked anything in a few weeks, but all that happens is day after day I am more aware of what I am lacking mentality. | did too much drugs, and am now in my early twenties stuck between the environment that created me and the environment / lifestyle I want to achieve. |
t3_169ve5 | relationships | Struggling with confidence in my relationship. | My girlfriend (19) and I (19/m)have been dating for about 11 months now. We have a very solid relationship with very easy communication, and we get along very well. We've had a few fights here and there (as all relationships do) but nothing particularly serious.
My girlfriend just left to go on tour with a select choir in our University to the south (far away from me). Even though we've been dating for 11 months, I still get these bubbles of insecurity about her being faithful, even though I intellectually know that she wouldn't do anything with anyone else. It irks me that this bothers me, but I can't help how I feel and no matter what I do to try and get it out of my head, it somehow meanders right back into my thoughts.
I suppose this may be the result of a previous relationship I had when I was younger that lasted 3 years. In that relationship, my ex would always be flirting with other guys and I would constantly be wondering whether she was faithful or not.
I have briefly and lightly talked about this with my girlfriend, to which of course she said something along the lines of "im yours and so in love with you." Im not a controlling person and have been keeping down these tempting emotions of jealousy, control, and clinginess all to myself. Im conscious of these emotions and am able to control them, but I want them completely out of my head.
I want to build my confidence in this relationship. I want to be stronger than what I am now, and I want to already subconsciously trust her. I guess I also feel a little bit of fear of losing her. What can I do? | I don't feel secure enough in my relationship to automatically trust my girlfriend of 11 months without having to reassure myself intellectually. |
t3_1ur9zr | relationship_advice | I(21M) fell in love with my co-worker(22F). I really need your help reddit. | I started working at this job 6 months ago, and there was this girl, lets call her Eve. For the first 4 months we barely talked, she was really annoying all the time, at least to me. But then we started working alone a lot, due to others not having time and less work. So we started becoming friends and from my side, recently, also more, I think I am in love with her. So by now you think no problem right ?
There is a problem, she has a boyfriend. They have been together for 3 years. We talk a lot but never about him, but from others and from little things I did pick up I think their relationship is not that strong.
For example there is touching and a lot of flirting between us but its hard to know is its just like this innocent flirt or maybe she thinks there can be something more. She did also invite me out for drinks twice (just us alone) and I don't know is it was like friends or more. We text a lot too, at least every few days but when we do its few hours of intense texting.
I don't know what to do because I don't want to risk losing this friendship that we have but I also want more. Some advice would really be helpful. | I Think I'm in love with my co-worker, she has a boyfriend, I don't know what to do. Help. |
t3_51m3rb | relationships | my ex gf (21) rang me (25m) earlier today | My ex and I were together for a 1.5 months and she was the first girlfriend I had after I broke up with my long term girlfriend in 2014. Started to like her quite quick but the problem was, we barely had anything in common except that we were both single and that we were horny.
So, I was at a job interview today and my phone starts to go off in my pocket (was on vibrate). Get out of the interview and see that my ex (we broke up 3 weeks ago) rang me. Text her asking "whats up" and she replies "we need to talk now".
Get home and ring her 40 minutes later and she misses me and that she loves me. "Cool, but you do realise we still aren't right for each other".
"I'm going to hurt myself and it will be your fault just remember that"
This is what happened earlier on today and I feel crappy. She was the one talking with other guys while we were together and seeing them behind my back and is now trying to blackmail me into getting back with her. What can I do because I know she will be ringing me back | unfaithful ex rings me wanting to get back together and blackmails me with self harm. Need advice on what to do |
t3_wo623 | relationships | Any Ex-Peace Corps Volunteers here? I want to hear your thoughts | Hi everyone. I am 25(M) currently in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend (23) who is serving in the Peace Corps in Africa. She has been serving for about 11 months now and we are still together even though it has been quite difficult.
My question is for redditors that have been through a Peace Corps tour (or perhaps some other similar life-changing experience). Your time with the PC or some other program most likely gave you unique experiences and perspectives. Your experience probably made it harder for you to relate to your friends/GF/BF/Family back home.
* Has this put a strain on your relationships?
* Did you find it harder to be with your BF/GF after going through a unique experience that they can never really understand unless they go through something similar?
* Did you perhaps think you would be better off with someone that experienced something similar and can relate to you better?
I ask because there is going to be an inevitable gap in experiences between me and my GF. She is experiencing and seeing things I will NEVER experience or understand unless I go through something similar. She is becoming much more "worldly" due to these experience. I fear that when she gets back, we are going to have a hard time relating anymore. I know that people change over time in general but I feel like this is a special case and the changes might be more extreme than usual. I just want to get an idea of what other people have experienced. | Has a unique life experience such as serving in the PC weakened your relationships back home and made it harder for you to relate to your friends/family/significant other? |
t3_1cybka | dating_advice | What does tentative mean? | So I [28/M] met this girl [24/F] through a mutual friend at a show. We got to talking at this show and decided we had a mutual interest in dance, she dud some before and I wanted to learn so we took lessons.
After 2 weeks of going to these classes and spending much of the weeks together I was certain I was A) In the Friend Zone and B) Was ok with it because she was an extremely cool girl that I could hang
around with as a friend and have a lot of fun. It was that following weekend where I was at a big party/event
and she was giving me confusing signals. I finally confronted her about it and apparently she was in fact attracted to me the whole time but I guess she was a bit awkward and I misinterpreted the signals early on (e.g. goodnight hugs with face turned far away for no chance of a kiss, etc. )
A week goes by with us spending almost every day together and I come to a crossroads, I tell her that "I don't usually do this so early, but the weekend is coming up and we've been spending a lot of time together and want to know where we are at, dating/casual/etc. for exclusivity's sake" I brought this up because I had a few dates lined up that weekend and didn't want to hide anything and also not frick anything up. She said that we should keep it in a "tentative" phase.
Another week+ has passed since then (those keeping score at home, 1 mo knowing each other, 1 1/2 weeks in a physical relationship) and we spend almost every day together. We are cuddly but it all together seems like a very emotionally cool relationship, similar to others I've seen were the girl is holding the guy as more or less a stepping stone. I have had some other girls showing interest, one was on old FWB buddy and the other a girl I met a few weeks ago whose date I cancelled. So the question remains, should I bring up exclusivity again, or who do I approach this? | been going out with a girl for 1 1/2 week, she said we are "tentative" when I asked about what we are. Other girls want to date me, should I go out with them or what? |
t3_2ix6hc | relationships | My boyfriend[23M] of three years and I[23F] are about to go on our last ever date together. How should this go down? | My boyfriend Jeff and I have been dating for 3 years. He is the most amazing guy I know-- smart, hot, kind, loyal. However, about 1 year ago we started talking about more serious things, i.e. marriage, kids, career. We slowly realized over the course of that year that we are incompatible:
1. I want 2 kids by the age of 32-35, he wants none or 1 at 43 at the earliest. He wants to live his life childfree first and have fun
2. We have different ideas about wealth, career, and where and how to live.
3. He doesn't want to get married, while marriage is very important to me.
Though all of these reasons are really important, we still love each other a lot. It's hard to want to break up, but now that we are doing long distance, as of 3 months ago, we've decided we have to break up officially. We want to do it in person, so he is visiting me this weekend for 2 days. How should this weekend go down? He wants to have one last really romantic weekend, but won't that just make the breakup harder? | Long-distance boyfriend is visiting so we can break up with each other in person, due to incompatibilities in terms of marriage and kids. How should we handle ourselves this weekend? Doomed to fail and terrible idea? |
t3_2jl6mc | relationships | Me [19 M] with my Gf [20 F] of 8 months, she feels guilty about her sexual fantasies | M 19 here with F 20 SO. We have a great relationship and communicate with each other openly. Last night she told me that since she has been seeing me she has been aroused by/masturbated to thoughts of me having sex with my ex's/other women.
It seems to have something to do with the fact that I have had serious relationships in the past, while she has never had any serious commitments. She feels like she is "just another girl" to me because she didn't get me first, although I reassure her this is not the case at all. She has also had to deal with a lot of guys treating her badly, blowing her off, even calling her by another girls name during sex.
Honestly she is a pretty innocent person. She hates the idea of me being with another women and hates that she is aroused by thinking about it, she said after she masturbates she feels really really guilty and hates herself for it. This whole thing is strange to me because she is quite a jealous (not in a negative way) girlfriend, she likes my attention.
I told her that sexual fantasies are normal, out of our control, and that a lot of people have stranger ones. I told her it is okay for her to have these fantasies, and that it doesn't mean that anything has to happen because of them. She hates having them however (she said she hates "being turned on by feeling worthless") and she just wishes she could make them go away, even though I've suggested this probably wont happen through sheer will power.
Any advice here? kind of out of my depth. | gf gets off to thoughts of me with other women, linked to a feeling of herself having low worth, she hates being aroused like this. Also posted this over at r/sex. |
t3_40ly1w | relationships | I (29/F) need help rejecting someone (24/F) after what was NOT supposed to be a date. | Recently I was messaged by a girl on an online dating site. Though she would have usually been my type, I am not currently looking for any new romantic or sexual relationships right now. I informed her of this promptly and clearly, and she acknowledged it. She still asked if we could hang out since we lived close by each other, and she didn't have a lot of friends in the area. After talking/texting for a few days, I agreed to have lunch with her. Most of the meal went well. We chatted about our mutual interests, and it was generally a fun time, except...
She started having issues violating personal space. It started off with her bumping my foot with hers, which I initially thought was just her being clumsy or the fact that our booth was rather cramped. She then reached across the table and started touching my hands, which was much more clear of her intentions.
Eventually she had a youtube video she wanted to show me on her phone, and for some reason she came to sit on my side of the booth to show me. During this, she went into full snuggle mode and even put her head on my should for an extended period of time, even after the video. Suffice it to say, she stayed on my side until she had to leave.
Usually I don't have problems rejecting people from dates. Depending on the person/situation, I either tell them the truth about why I don't want to meet up again, or use a little white lie. I'm flummoxed with this one for two reasons. 1: It was not supposed to be a date. 2: During the meal she disclosed but was not specific about some mental health problems, apparently severe enough to necessitate harsh medication and seeing a therapist several times a week. I'm not a fan of the fade, and she has said in texting that a lot of people she's dated have done that to her and it hurts her. | How do I call it off with someone whom I wasn't supposed to be on a date with and has severe, unspecified mental health issues? |
t3_1sy52p | relationships | Me [24 F], him [24M], 3 months in, we've never had the talk and he he hasn't initiated contact in 3 weeks/keeps saying "maybe" to hanging out - can I flat out ask if he isn't interested anymore? (I don't want to start seeing someone else and hurt him if that isn't the case) | Met this great guy at a bar. He seemed really into me, kept trying to hang out multiple times, and all of my friends loved him so I decided to keep him around for a bit. In the beginning I was a bit busier and had trouble finding time for him. Now I've been able to invite him out more frequently but he's pretty much disappeared and I've been left extremely confused.
I saw him before Thanksgiving (I slept over) and he said maybe we could do dinner that Saturday after I left his place. He didn't respond to any text messages after that, and I didn't hear from him until the following weekend. He then said he was busy that Saturday and maybe would drink the following weekend. The following weekend rolled around and he said that he might be able to hang out but that he had a lot of football to watch.
This past week we were talking about other random things going back and forth via text message until Thursday when I asked him what he was up to this weekend and received radio silence.
On one hand he really is that busy, he's a consultant that puts in 12 hour days. He's also extremely sweet when he is in touch, he just hasn't been initiating contact at all and randomly ignores messages these days.
On the other hand past experience tells me that this is probably a sign that we're done.
My question for those with more experience in this regard, is it appropriate to send a "Hey just to clarify, are you doing hooking up? I'd still love to buddies with you regardless" type of message? Or should I just assume he's done and not bother contacting him again?
I'd rather be with him, but if he's out I'd rather keep dating other people instead of waiting for the phone to ring... And the last thing I'd want to do is start dating other people and find out he still thought we had a thing. What do the reddit-relationship wizards think? | We haven't hung out in 3 weeks, he keeps saying maybe we'll hang out, do I flat out ask him if he's done and say I'd still like to be friends? |
t3_2g8sv4 | tifu | TIFU by engaging in conversation | So this was just a month or 2 ago. I was just pulling up to work, I worked 2nd shift for a while so it was around 4 in the afternoon. So as I said I was just pulling up to work and decided to sit in my car for a few minutes and smoke a cigarette. So I smoked and listened to music when all of a sudden there's this guy standing right next to my car, he looked like the basic surfer stoner from the 70s so I thought this was kind of funny and I thought it was cool we had a new stoner to work with! But that's when it happened... he started talking! I had to sit there and listen to this guy talk with this massive woman that everyone thought was a man standing almost on top of him. I was confused since he was skinny and she was huge.. but shit happens... anyways, we were sitting there talking and it was regular questions for someone starting a new job. But then later on lunch he was talking to me again. I didn't get a single word in, but I didn't want to talk to this guy anymore after he had told me he can sleep underwater and "become one with the water" and continue to breathe while taking an hour and a half long nap... he then gets side tracked and goes onto a new topic. He's talking about werewolves now. I wasn't caught off guard by it after what he had already told me. But this guy thinks he's a werewolf too!! How crazy can you be! And that's when I realized. I had really fucked up. I had engaged in a conversation with a psychopath and he was obsessed with me and thought we were best friends. After a single week, everyone wanted him to get fired because he thought he could do all this crazy shit, but there is no way people can do the crazy shit he thought he could do.. after about 2 months he got arrested.. good for everyone! Especially californeee way! | I met a psychopath at work he told me crazy stories and scared people at work, everyone wanted him fired, he was then arrested :) |
t3_25y8cf | relationships | I [30M] am planning a surprise birthday party for my girlfriend of 2 years[29F]. Need advice. | First time posting here, so hopefully I don't make too many faux pas in my post. Anyway, my girlfriend is turning 30 in a few weeks and I want to throw her a surprise birthday party (it falls on a Saturday). The following week, we are driving half-way across the country because she is moving in with me, so it will be a bit of a going away party as well.
Thing is, I'm not exactly loaded with cash. I figure I can budget around $300-400 for the party, max. Expecting about 30 people there.
So here is my question: is it cheap if I just rent out the bar area, in a restaurant she likes, for the surprise party and have everyone pay for their own drinks? Maybe I could order some appetizers or something. Basically I don't have enough to rent out a room with food for everyone, and not sure how it looks to ask people for money/to pay should I do that. Her parents are a bit old fashioned and proper, so I want to look good for them too. Let me know what you think. Thank you everyone. | Low on cash and want to throw surprise party for my girlfriend, but worried about looking cheap by having it in the bar and having people pay for their own drinks. |
t3_175xu6 | dating_advice | A[M23] I being too clingy? | Hello all,
I graduated from undergrad this past May and just started grad school about an hour away. I visted my college town for the first time since the weekend of the 12th- a friend was throwing a party.
I met a girl there who was pretty much the anti-Medusa- she's so breathtakingly fetching that the first time I caught her gaze, I swear my heart had stopped and I was petrified. She turns out to be incredibly intelligent and well read on top.
Turns out a friend had just studied abroad with her this past semester, and I used that as an in to hang out with that group. Got along smashingly with everybody (ended up getting facebook friended by everyone... aside from the gal in question. Haven't added her either despite facebook suggesting it daily to not freak her out), and in some drunken feat of incredible daring I flirted with her the whole night and got the lovely lady's number and asked her on a date the following morning (adding to my subsequent incredulity, she agreed despite being the sober DD!).
Unfortunately, we had to mutually cancel the following morning due to feeling terrible (the group stayed up until 5 in the morning getting some food)- I think our texts literally crossed each other around 9 in the morning. We definitely agreed to plan for another attempt the next time I could make it to town in ~3 weeks.
So far, in the ~2 weeks since I've texted her on two occasions (spaced about 4-5 days apart since we past interacted?), for say 3-5 texts each (I initiated each time, but something came up that caused me to disengage).
Is this being too clingy and freaking her the hell out? I'd wanted to text her for a short phone chat this weekend (say 5-10 minutes) because I'd like to hear her voice again (she's got an amazing contralto speaking voice), but is this too much, too soon? | Met a nice young lady at a party 2 weekends ago, asked her on a date for the next time I'm in town. Is texting her two times in the time since too clingy? |
t3_272ujr | relationships | I [21/M] recently began seeing a girl [20/F] who has chosen abstinence. It didn't bother me at first, but now I have my doubts. [NSFW] | I recently began seeing a very sweet girl who does not have sex. All of my relationships have been sexual since I was 17. She doesn't abstain from all sexual activity, only PIV. I knew this going into the relationship, and until very recently had no problem with it; we have gotten by with plenty of foreplay. Admittedly, she often has to give up on trying to bring me to climax because foreplay, you'll hopefully understand, isn't as enjoyable for me as it is for her.
I get a lot of emotional satisfaction from sex, and it's growing increasingly difficult to have the same connection with her that I have had with previous relationships because there's a degree of intimacy that our relationship lacks compared to others I've had. I find it difficult to get close to her.
I have no intent to try to convince her to have sex with me, especially because I'm not sure how long this relationship will last anyway. | I thought I liked this girl enough to get by without PIV, but I'm starting to realize it's really keeping me from seeing this as a serious relationship. Am I an asshole? |
t3_2kmmkm | relationships | [25 M] Is not being on the same level of romance a death sentence in a 4 month relationship? [23 F] | Since our first date, I had felt a little off in the relationship. I've had two breakups within the last year (one a 3 year relationship) and looking back on it, I feel like I was too eager to find another one. On paper, she is near perfect and exactly what most guys are looking for. Intelligent (PhD student), charming, witty, great cook, able to clearly speak her mind, the list really goes on. I've known since day one that, objectively anyway, she is someone so worth chasing which is why I've tried making it work as long as I have.
Yesterday she confronted my standoffish-ness and after some talking, I sorta veered towards wanting to breakup citing that she needed someone 'more on her level' since it was clear I wasn't putting in as much effort into it as she was. After some waterworks on her part and just general talking about relationships, some essentially told me a break would be good, she would wait for me, but I needed to promise her that we would go on one more date when I was feeling better. I promised her without thinking too much about it.
So here I am now. We have texted a bit since; nobody really brings up with happened in the car, just really casual conversation. I know I care for her a lot and maybe even love her platonically but it's just not on the same level as her's. | She's into me a lot more than I am into her romantically. Do I give it more time? I promised her one more date after attempting to break up. |
t3_43uc9i | personalfinance | (IL) About to join the IDF, how should i manage the small paychecks i'll recieve | I hope this post is ok here, I've read the links in the sidebar and haven't found the answer there. haven't placed this in Militaryfinance since that's for the US army
I live in Israel, and i turned 18. which means i'm about ot be conscripted. went through tests and ended up going to the navy.
Now since everyone serves and it's not a choice, the paychecks are quite low (now after a 50% raise, the highest risk grade rate paycheck is about 1/3 minimum wage) and since I'm going to a combat job, i'll recieve that - about 1600 NIS.
Since the army will be providing me with food, housing and clothing, and i don't suspect I'll have many places to spend my money anyway since I'll be on a ship 2-3 weeks at a time, I'd like to save it up somehow. I reckon I'll spend around 100-300 a month at most.
My service will last 32 months, with the first 6 or so in bootcamp and training for the job - about 700 NIS during that. doing some simple math you come up to 45,800 NIS. and I jsut don't know what to do with it, I can't invest it on my own during my service, I won't even have internet or phone acess most of the time. but the amount is too small to get a professional to do it. I basically know nothing about what is available here in Israel for that, and I don't want to come out of the (almost) 3 years nearly broke, like most people do nowadays. | I'm about to join the army and get a small salary, what can I do with it besides "not spend it" to come out on top when I'm done. |
t3_4icy3l | relationships | My (30m) girlfriend (28f, 1 year) ate a pan of lasagna, recorded it and sent me a video of it. What, the, fuck? | My girlfriend and I met a long time ago. I've never loved anybody more. She's always been a little out there. Like, Phoebe from Friends. She sent me a me a video of her baking a lasagna. She set it up like a diary of video like "dear video camera, today i ..." but then she started going off topic talking about all these times i made her feel fat or unattractive.
look, she gained weight. a lot of it. she went from shenae grimes to pearchan. it wasn't attractive and i don't think i'm wrong in that.
well she lost weight over the last year and she is back to a healthy weight. more than the original, but in a good place. we were both a lot happier, and then she breaks up with me and the next morning, sends me this video explaining things. and as she explains it all she's eating a fucking lasagna. she just eats the entire a lasagna as she talks. at the end she washes it all down with fiji water and tells me its because i one time criticized her for buying fiji water. only because she was upset i bought a | Crazy ex-girlfriend is crazy and sends me a video of her eating lasagna and criticizing me. How do I figure out this behavior before this shit goes down? |
t3_3std6j | relationships | Me [24F] with my boyfriend [29M] of 3 months. He doesn't want me to post anything on social media about us because of his "crazy ex". I'm worried it's because he's dating another girl. | We have been "officially" a couple for like 3 months. We were kind of in a FWB situation before that but it's a little complicated. I can understand when we were only FWB that he didn't really want people to know and neither did I really because I don't want everyone to know who I was having casual sex with but now we're properly together the way he is acting is making me nervous.
He told me to not post anything on Facebook of us together because his ex is crazy and stalks his page. It made me a little suspicious but he had told me before about his ex. Yesterday I posted a picture of us together on Instagram and he got mad at me – he doesn't want anything on social media of us together. Because of his ex.
It's making me feel weird – surely she can't be that bad and even if she does stalk him what is she going to do? It got me thinking about other things, like how he cancels dates at short notice and I've not met many of his friends. I feel paranoid now that he's cheating or I'm the other woman. It feels so weird, what does anyone else think? Is this a genuine reason to be so secretive about our relationship? | My boyfriend wants us to be really secretive about our relationship and doesn't want me to post anything on social media about us because of his "crazy ex". Am I paranoid in thinking that he might be cheating? |
t3_40my73 | tifu | TIFU by forgetting the extra battery for my phone. | I visit my home and my mother every couple weeks. She lives alone with three dogs, and I help her around the house and bring her a lot of groceries/supplies so that she wouldn't need to carry the heavy stuff home.
So, shortly after New Year mom calls me, very upset. A dog brought in a firework dud from the garden, and it exploded in house, and nearly set the house on fire! She's outraged at the neighbor who was launching a bunch of fireworks on New Year. She describes how it shot flaming ribbons all around, how it's stinking forcing her to vent the house in winter. How the dogs luckily seem uninjured, but simply terrified.
In the end, she decided she would call the police and report the incident.
An hour later she calls me again, much calmer this time. The police came, they examined the remains of the "firework" and said it's not a firework. It's a cell phone battery.
Yeah. Recently, my phone began ailing, battery dying way faster. I bought a new one, kept the old as "backup" to extend the phone life, putting it in my pocket just after the purchase. Then, when staying with mom, I found the forgotten old battery in my pocket and decided to charge it full. I put it in my phone, plugged into the charger by my bed. I left the new one next to it. Then, when I was leaving, I took the phone, the charger, but left the new battery with full charge. Well within dog's mouth reach. I normally close my room when I leave, but with poor heating there it gets pretty cold, so she had opened the door "to let some warm air in". And she let the dogs in as result. | I had forgotten to take a fully charged new Li-Ion battery, mother's dog bit through it causing explosion. |
t3_4f67pu | loseit | Binged in response to a minor setback | I posted about a week ago about restarting my weight loss journey and received loads of great feedback that I've implemented over the last few days. This morning, however, I was wearing one of my favourite pairs of skinny jeans and as I bent down to pick something up, felt it rip right up the back. Now I know that the age and number of times I've washed the jeans are undoubtably factors, but I couldn't help feeling like a fat ass and all my old insecurities came rushing back. As a result, I ended up eating loads for breakfast and, whilst it was nothing like my old binges, I'd hit my 1200 cal limit by 11am and now have to face an afternoon and evening of green tea and a few veggies for dinner. Does anyone have advice on how to deal with setbacks like this in a more healthy way? Thanks a mil :) | Ripped my jeans and ended up bingeing at breakfast. Need tips to avoid having such an healthy knee-jerk response to setbacks. |
t3_544zc8 | relationships | My (29m) fiance (29f) of 3 years was recently fired from her job. She's only been employed for 9 months of the 2 years we've lived together. | I love my fiance, and I have no desire to leave her or anything like that. I'm a little frustrated and don't know how to help her here. When we met, she had a nice job, but she lived in another state. When she moved here, it took her a while to find a job -- in the interim, she did freelance work for some people.
She's never put us in a position where she had no income. She is smart and great with a budget, and she has skills like writing SEO blogs and things like that to bring in some extra funds.
The first job she had here was administrative work as a virtual assistant. The company shut down and laid off everyone. It wasn't her fault, and she worked with some of her clients after in the long stretch to where she found a new job.
The second job... wow. The boss was an impulsive alcoholic who yelled at everyone. She dreaded going in and she was so upset half of the time when she got home that she started to get depressed. It was a website company. But she got into an argument with one of the employees over really blatant racism (no HR, nobody really cared) and she was fired the next day.
She's trying to rally now, but every time I come home (I'm in grad school) she looks more and more defeated.
Could part of the problem be that she doesn't really have a career? Her jobs have always been administrative assistant jobs, and in different fields. Insurance, Law, Website Design/Marketing. She's really smart, but she takes whatever job will hire her every time because she's terrified of being without money, regardless of whether or not it's in the same industry.
She liked the work she was doing at her last job, but the environment was toxic and awful. Is that just how those tech-y jobs are?
I'm worried about this being a cycle in our lives. I want her to have a career, or at least a stable job. I know it's holding her back.
What can I do to help her? If anything? | Fiance has a bad work history jumping around industries. I don't know how to help her, but after being fired from a bad job, she's really defeated and depressed. What can I do? |
t3_1lydv0 | relationships | I'm starting to (26M) date my brother's sister in law (26F)? Any opinions or experiences or advice I should be aware of? | We've flirted before and I knew for quite a while that she was interested in me, but I've always been stupid with relationships so I never did anything because I consider her family. However a couple of weeks ago we were at her house having some drinks and I blurted out that we SHOULD date and she agreed. It was all very formal really. So we're dating now. I only see her on weekends because she's super busy and tired with her studies and I with work, but so far it's been going pretty good. I think this could turn into a serious long term relationship in the future.
No one's mentioned anything about it being weird that I'm dating an in law, except for a friend ("Sacrilicious!"). Mostly I'm asking you guys to share any similar experiences of dating an in law family member in case there's anything I should be aware of. Is this a common thing or am I in a really uncommon situation? | I started dating my brother's sister in law. Things are going fine so far, looking for past experiences from you guys/girls. |
t3_3p4334 | relationships | Me [17 M] and my girlfriend [17 F], have had fights, lots of them. Help me please! | Lenght of relationship: 1 year, 2 months
I don't know where to start but I love my girlfriend very very much. But lately we have been fighting more and more and mostly about stupid things. Also, she doesn't trust me because I tried weed once and she didn't like it but I have never done it again and that's more than a year ago.
Lately it seems like my gf has 2 personalities, the loving one and one which hates me. When she feels down and I'm not even the reason she will actually put all her anger on me. She then expects from me to make her feel better but just can't when she does this to me. I feel like I'm dieing here. She says she wants me to break up but I don't want to.
Also all these fights are via Whatsapp/phonecalls we never fight IRL. IRL she is the most loving person I know but online she seems a whole other person.
Help me reddit, what do I do? | Lots of fights with my gf about stupid stuff, she doesnt trust me because of something small which happened a year ago. Fights are via social media and not IRL. |
t3_1dbh4s | relationships | I think she is only with me so she wont lose me as a friend m(20) | i have been dating a girl since i was 16 and we broke up briefly for each of us going to college (she is one year younger) and in that time neither of us did anything sexual with another person. Anyway she is transferring and the topic of if we stay are to stay together came up. She asked me if i would be her friend and i told her honestly i cant be just her friend. so to this she said then we will stay together and that it felt like were were only friends now. (we are hours away now and only see each other ever few weeks.) additionally she is moving no further then before what should i do am i panicking for no reason is it just because she was my first serious girlfriend any advice is good advise | girlfriend referred to us as already being pretty much just friends and changed her decided she defiantly doesn't want to break up when i said it would most likely be the end of our friendship |
t3_1t7cso | personalfinance | I get that renting isn't 'throwing away' money since you're paying for a place to live. I also get that when buying a home you throw away money in interest, maintenance, taxes etc. But isn't it still better to get a 30 yr mortgage now, than renting for 10 years and then getting a 30 yr mortgage? | The rent vs buy debate comes up on this subreddit frequently. People who explain that they feel renting is just throwing away money are quickly told that you throw away lots of money with home ownership due to realtor fees, repairs, taxes etc. I understand and can agree with all of that. But, all other things being equal, won't it be better to buy a house sooner than later? My thought process is that for people who will eventually buy a house they will eventually have to get a mortgage and waste money on interest, realtor fees etc. But if you buy a house earlier in life, you have fewer additional years of spending money on rent.
There are other factors that can have a huge impact and are hard to predict such as buying a starter home young and needing to sell and move later in life and home ownership getting in the way of moving for another job opportunity. I suppose this is more of a hypothetical question since there are so many factors. | All other things equal, if someone is only ever going to own one home in their life, would it be better to buy as soon as possible? |
t3_2vc3h7 | relationships | I [22F] got together with my best friend of ten years [23M] immediately after I got out of a two year relationship, now I need help getting out. | My ex and I had a very civil break up and we are still friends. Right after we broke up my best friend confessed his love for me, and I admitted that I have thought about us being together and we immediately fell into dating and a relationship. We have had a lot of sexual tension over the years and he knows me better than anyone else. I genuinely thought it would be perfect and we would fit really well together. At first, I was right, and then I lost the feelings. I was totally wrong about this. As friends, we are perfect. As lovers, I feel no connection or chemistry at all.
Reddit, I fucked up. He has had years to process these feelings and I thought about it for all of one day (during which I was also lonely from the break up) and now I'm trying to think of how to tell him what's up. I thought we should be together, but now it is clear to me that we shouldn't be. Have any of you ever tried to date a friend and have it fall to bits? How can I go about this so the friendship can (at some point hopefully) last? I feel so guilty and ashamed of myself.
I can't believe I was so impulsive and now I have to really hurt someone I care so much about. He said when we got together that no matter what happened everything would be okay, but where do I start with this conversation? Helphelphelp | Got together with my oldest friend on pure stupidity and impulse, now I need help with the words to let him know how I feel but also try to mend our friendship |
t3_42c7eb | relationships | I [24 F] recently split with my [27 M] long term boyfriend, struggling its not the right decision | Background:
We've been in a long term relationship, got together when we were in school. We spent a couple of years very long distance, though seeing each other about 3 times a year for a few weeks. About 6 months ago we moved from LTR to the same city, dictated by a move with my job, and moved in together for the first time. He ended up finding a job he adored, and I ended up being the financial supporter in a job that I hated.
Issue:
Life just didn't seem to gel the way it should. Our schedules were different, me working mon-fri, him evenings and some weekends. He fell into a very social group of friends, whereas my work was long hours with no-one close by (I have a long commute).
We are really best friends and a great team, but life seemed to be tripping us up. We didn't have that much time to see each other, and when we did there was a lot of petty bickering. We weren't getting to do activities or any of the things we'd planned on doing, like travelling, due to time and money issues. I was really unhappy in my job and down a lot of the time. I started to be consumed by the idea that I wanted to quit my job and go travelling with my savings, but he wouldn't be able to join due to his ideal job and lack of savings. I panicked and I ended it, despite us both still being in love.
Fast forward to post break up (still living together) - we are getting on together so well, just like we used to! Despite both parties being heart broken about the situation, we now have lots of affection and laughter, which had been quite lacking recently... We actually enjoy each others company more than before...which has left me entirely confused.
Does this mean I shouldn't have given up quite so soon? Or would we just fall into the same trap a few months down the line?
Has anyone ever been in a situation where a seemingly perfectly good relationship had to be ended because it was for the best? | Split with my long term partner, now we're getting on much better than before. Worried I've made a mistake. |
t3_36i7ln | relationships | I think my [26/M] 1.5 ye relationship with my girlfriend [22/F] is coming to an end, is there any way to save it? | My partner and I have been together about a year and a half. In November, I took a new job that has me working nights while she works days. A few months after this, she started going out with a new group of friends and we started arguing a lot about issues from the beginning of our relationship. We split up for a month, she saw someone else briefly, and we got back together. It has now been two months or so that we've been back together and she has started going out more again. Last night I saw her texting a band mate of mine and she basically said she wouldn't be going out or texting him if we had a healthier relationship. I try to talk about our issues in order to learn from them and be a better partner but she has grown distant and turns away from the arguments.
The biggest problem we've had recently is that I have a friend [24/F] who used to live with a good friend of my GFs. I vented to this girl about my girlfriend and I's fights (over a year ago). This turned into my girlfriend hating that girl. Last weekend she gave me an ultimatum saying I wasn't allowed to see that girl, because I chose to get coffee with the girl before meeting other people at a book fair. | I feel like my relationship is a train wreck and I can't stop it. I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to open the lines of communication again and build intimacy. |
t3_3d2zl4 | relationships | I (16M) have made the biggest mistake of my life up to this point. Potentially ruined first serious relationship (16F). | I don't even know where to begin, so I'm going to try and make it short in an attempt to not accidentally write a novel. I am in love with a girl for the first time, and she is in love with me. She is my thoughts every second, the only person my heart wants and the only person I know I will be able to be happy with as I currently am. I am her first serious boyfriend as well; we are both virgins. Trust is huge in our relationship, and I cherish hers more than most other things on this Earth. And I betrayed it. One afternoon our mutual friend (We'll call her F2) who we are both very close with and I have never been attracted to came over to play with my new dog. She came out to dinner with my family. We went out to the beach together at around 10 PM to talk about life. I brought up that stupid "nervous game" people played in middle school and how no one had ever made me nervous. She decided she was going to try.
I let her. I fucking let her put her hands in my pants and give me a short hand job. I fucking let her. It was late, I hadn't seen my girlfriend in three weeks and we were seeing each other the next day, I was hormone ridden. I have not been able to forgive myself. I've been crying every night, I've been having nightmares non-stop i just can't fucking believe myself for betraying the trust of this beautiful soul who i can trust with every cell in my body and she trusts me yet i fucking... i don't know what to do, i can't sleep, i don't know who to talk to about it i want to tell her but i fucking *can't* i *can't* lose her i don't know why I'm coming here maybe in hopes someone can tell me what to do because i don't know what the hell to do with myself anymore, i don't want her to never be able to trust me again... I'm scared, can anyone, someone please offer me advice on what to do | mutual friend of my girlfriend and i gave me short hand job. doesnt seem like much but we are each others' first serious relationships and we're both still virgins. I'm guilty beyond words and i don't know what to do |
t3_2e5oc8 | relationships | Me [24F] with my boyfriend [24M] 1 year, moving in together to save money. | My boyfriend and I are moving in together in September. For all intents and purposes we already live together .... he spends 90% of his time at my apartment. Our employment is kind of awesome in the sense that they give us either free housing, or an allowance to find our own place. We've both got the allowance and have found a place that would put 200$ a month in both our pockets as extra remaining from the allowance we get. Soooo we're going for it.
My main concern in the divide of chores and whatnot. As it is now, when we stay mostly at 'my' place, I do most of the chores. He'll do dishes or whatnot if I ask but he sees it as not his apartment so not his to clean, even if he spends the vast majority of his time here. The new place will be both of ours equally. I want to make it clear that I won't be doing the lion share of chores anymore, and that we need to split it equally. I don't think it'll be an issue verbally at all, I think he'll agree and be fine with it.
Doing and saying are two different things though. I'm a very neat and tidy organized person. He is clean but not to the same level as me. If we split the chores down the middle, I'm worried that he'll leave his share until I get annoyed and do them myself. I don't want to live in mess, I like it clean. And I don't want it to cause an issue between us. How do I go about making sure we both stick to our fare share? And how would you recommend splitting them up?
The list we've made so far includes: laundry, grocery shopping, cooking, dishes, sweeping, tidying (emptying the dehumidifier, putting things in places, random tid bits, etc), and the bathroom. The best we've come up with is I do the grocery shopping and cooking and tidying. He does laundry, sweeping, and bathroom. Is there anything we're missing or any other way to work out chores around the house? | What's a good breakdown in chores and how would you recommend splitting them between me and my SO, and making sure we both follow through on our ends? |
t3_3zcsut | relationships | My nan(81f)has just passed away in Brazil, I (25f)had to leave my mum (48f)there 3 weeks ago. Feeling lost and immensely guilty. | My beautiful and courageous nan suffered a stroke in November, she lives in Brazil. Me and my mum live in the UK.
As soon as we heard we booked a flight and we went there. She never left the ICU. My return ticked was booked for the 18th of December because I'm still at uni.
I begged my mum to let me stay with her to support her through this. (She also had to put all of my nans affairs in order) she was very stressed and emotional...it's her mom afterall. My mum though it was best I came home to catch up on lost uni work and to not miss any lectures in the new term. I respected her choice even tho i wanted to stay with her and my nan.
My nan left us for a better place yesterday on the 3rd around 9ish in the evening. If you are from a South American you will know funerals happens very quickly. My nans funeral is already under way.
I wish i could be there so bad to support my mum, even if I took the next available flight I wouldn't make the funeral (12 hours plane journey plus 8 hours car journey to the town my nan lives)
I'm a bit lost right now. I feel so guilty for leaving my mum. My heart hurts so much for loosing my nan so i couldnt even begin to imagine what my mum must be feeling like.
My mum saw her at 6 in the evening and said how weak she looked and how devastating it was to see her like that.
How can i support my mum from here? All i want is to be there with my family saying goodbye to the most amazing woman that I have ever met.
I'm sorry for spelling mistakes. I'm writing this with tears in my eyes | My nan has passed away in another country, my mum is there with her and I'm back in the UK feeling helpless. |
t3_1scufm | relationships | Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [21 M/F] seems to think nothing about me unless she is trying very hard. | When she [21] is "trying very hard" she has no time thinking about me but she says unless she is consistently trying she has a hard time thinking about me or being considerate of me. For instance, almost anything that has to do with her roommate comes before me. We've been dating over a year so I'm getting pretty tired of this. The other day I called her like 10 times over 2 hours because she wouldn't answer and we were supposed to talk so I was a little worried. I text her roommate asking if she's with her, she tells me where she is and then I get a call about 10 minutes later....Tonight she had trouble taking 5 minutes to talk to me because her and her roommate had some friends over so she asked not to call because they were watching a football game....this would normally be ok but I just got my wisdom teeth out and am layed up at the house with nothing to do and she can't take a little bit of time to talk to me. Makes me sad you know? What gives? How do I get her to constantly "try" or is there any way to? | Girlfriend only is considerate of me if she "trys" to be. Unfortunately she doesn't try very often :( |
t3_js3tr | Cooking | Help me Reddit: Vacation plans fell through and I'm getting a little bored. I have the urge to cook something new. (Details inside.) | OK, there's a solid chance this is just going to get buried, but whatever. Please don't downvote this. I'm really bored.
I was supposed to go camping on my vacation this week, but long story short, the trip fell through for a bunch of reasons. I've been doing a bunch of tourist-at-home stuff and generally taking it easy, but I'm starting to get bored. And it's only Tuesday night.
I'm not a very good cook, but I have a lot of fun in the kitchen, and I'm always looking to expand my repertoire. So what I want to do tomorrow is try to cook something cool and elaborate.
This is where you come in Cookit. Whatever the top-voted recipe is tomorrow morning (say 9 EST) I will attempt to make. I will document the dramatic result/failure.
RULES:
* Ingredients must be easily available. Doesn't have to be potatoes and chicken breasts, but try to keep it relatively simple. If the local supermarket and specialty stores in my small city don't have it, I won't be able to make it.
* Raw ingredients can't cost more than $30 total. I'm not rich. (There's a bit of wiggle room here, but no cooking with 10 lbs of truffles or anything.)
* You don't need to provide a recipe, but it would help. Suffice it to say, if I can't find it through standard Google-fu, I won't be makin' it.
* No crazy obscure appliances. I have a basic kitchen, with the basic dishes, pots, pans and whatnot that you'd expect.
* I reserve the right to make new rules if y'all start trolling me. (But if I think the troll is funny, I may try to go through with it anyway.)
Thanks in advance for your help. | I'm bored. Suggest a dish and I'll make it. If it's impressive/complex/nifty, so much the better. |
t3_baaj7 | relationship_advice | 3-girl affection crash coming.... HELP! | I really need to know if there is any way to salvage this situation. There are 3 girls that I have become very close to in the last 6-7 months. They are all beautiful, smart, and overall VERY enjoyable girls. I have thought about dating each one of them for various reasons but lately (last 3 months) one has been sticking out above the rest. I have slowly switched my interest towards her only and have just kept the other two to a standard friendship. The problem is that I have come to find out in the last month that ALL three girls have interest in me.
ok… cool… no worries… except all three girls are VERY close friends. They share pretty much everything with the others… except they haven't told each other that they all have a common love interest. I think they suspect each other of the attraction but since I haven't made a clear move in any direction they don't have any real evidence.
More fun to add to that… none of them have ever had a boyfriend before and therefore when they fall, they fall hard. Is there any way to salvage this situation or should I give up on possibly dating any of them? I really don't want to crush a single one but I know the longer this goes on the worse it will get. Can you give me any advice how the hell this might turn out ok?
Context: Male 22 in college. Girls age 19,20, and 23. | 3 close friends have crush on me without telling each other. I have interest in one of them but respect heavily the others. Is there any way to resolve this well? |
t3_1j7dn2 | relationships | I [21 M] don't really know how to handle this internal feeling about one of my best friends [F 20]. | Here's the deal. I met this girl a while back and we hit it off. We were at a point where we were talkig about dating. We took things slow, I took her out a couple of times, casually hung out, the usual. One day she asks to talk to me and says that she's not really feeling it right now and wants to stay friends.
Not a huge deal. Of course I was bummed, but if it wasn't right then it wasn't right. In the months to follow, we've become one of each other's best friends. We can count on each other for anything. She ended up dating a guy afterwards, but recently broke up with him. She consulted me about it and I gave her my honest input about the situation.
I really enjoy her company and I feel like that we complement each other well. We'd make a good couple. I've recently thought about trying to make moves to potentially date. One of my biggest concerns however, she being the extrovert and me being the introvert, is she does like to have a good time. She has lots of guy friends and when she drinks, I would be a little concerned about her going home with someone else if she went out with her friends without me. Having guy friends doesn't bother me at all, but if she were to have too much...
I'm just a bit confused on what to make of the situation and how I feel. She called things off and wanted to stay friends the first time, and part of me wants to honor that and make her speak up for a relationship. The other part of me wants to make sure I don't miss out on an opportunity with her.
If anyone could help me better understand what's going on and what I should do, I'd greatly appreciate it. | Girl and I talked about dating. She called things off and we became great friends. She's single again and I'd like to make moves, but I have reservations about doing that. |
t3_10c17r | AskReddit | A bird just flew into my room. I have no idea what do, help? | As the title says, a small sparrow flew into my house a couple hours ago while i was sitting in the living room. It flew around the house a few times, then went back into my room. So i then went outside and opened my bedroom window, thinking the bird would immediately fly out. The thing is, the bird has been there for TWO HOURS flying in circles, occasionally perching on my desk of bookshelf. I really have no idea what to do. It's to late to call animal control, and the fucker is just lounging.
Also, should i wash my sheets before i sleep in that bed again? I'm really concerned that it may be carrying something, and it probably landed on my bed a few times. Does anyone know the health issues surrounding this? | A sparrow is in my room. it wont leave. Should i wash my sheets before i use them again (because the bird touched them)? |
t3_1x5aa2 | relationships | Ex(m28) contacted me(f19) and I haven't heard anything since | My ex ended things last October after almost 2 years and I haven't heard from him until last Sunday. When he ended things he was the one talking mostly. I didn't know what to say at the time because it was really unexpected and my brain couldn't process in the moment what was happening. Earlier in January I sent him text with everything I wanted to say that night. I was having a hard time moving in and I needed to let go. He didn't respond which I expected. One night I was staying with my sister and we had been drinking. She took my ipad and messaged him asking how he was doing.
I was embarrassed especially since he again did not respond.
Last Sunday I was in bed and I got a text from him saying "I'm alright. How are you?".....!?!?! I was very confused and wary but I messages him back and we did small talk about work and the Super Bowl. I was getting tired of beating around the bush so I asked him why he was talking to me now after all this time. He said he felt he was blowing it out of proportion and he wanted to talk to his friend and he wanted to be my friend and that I seem awesome and his life would benefit from having me in it. He apologized for waiting so long to talk to me.
I told him I would like to be his friend and I asked what now? He said we take small steps and he thanked me for the messages I sent him. I fell asleep and woke up to a picture of him he sent a little after I went to bed. I could tell he was a bit drunk that night because of the way he was texting so I decided to message him the next morning and see what would happen. I said that was a good picture of him and I haven't heard anything since. I'm very confused on what to think. I care for him but I don't have feelings for him anymore and I would like to be his friend but I feel like at this point it's up to him. | ex drunkly texts me after 4 months of no contact asking to be friends. Texted him next morning but haven't heard anything since. WTF? |
t3_2h3pbw | relationships | Me [39 M] with my gf [28 F], different level of interest - worth staying? | Been dating great woman for a while, but we want different things from the relationship. She has not had much dating experience, still lives with her folks, and she is just looking for an enjoyable romance. We live over an hour drive away, so we see each other only occasionally, and she is happy with that situation. Her immediate family and pets keep her busy, and her naccisistic mom keeps her close and discourages our relationship.
For me, I want a serious relationship, including getting a place together. We discussed a marriage together, as she indicated she wanted it someday. She is in college classes for the next three years, and she doesn't want to move in together before finishing them. Seeing her so little is causing me great distress. I asked her for something that we can do regularly, so we are now going to a church half way between us, every Sunday. That helped a lot, just to know that I will see her then, but that often is the only time throughout the week.
When we are together, things are so awesome and I have never felt so close, comfortable, and connected to someone. But, there is zero indication that the relationship will get more serious anytime soon. Lately, she is even trying to reverse and set new boundaries, like no more overnight stays. We fight about our expectations, but we cannot reach a compromise that works. I think she is the One, but she is not sure, although she says she loves me. Am I being played the fool, or am I impatient? I hit forty soon, and I don't want to waste three years, waiting on a breakup. | How long is too long to wait? Should I give up on a good, withdrawn girlfriend because it is not a great intimacy? |
t3_4zbmf4 | relationships | Relationship: Don't know anything about BF's (22M) sexual/relationship history, should I, how do I ask ? | Basically we've been together for around five months I'm F18 he's M22, I've never asked about his previous relationships and he's never asked about mine. So I have no idea what his relationship records like in terms of length, reason for breaking up.
I once mentioned someone I was seeing before but only because it was long distance and he works away so I was saying 'I can deal with you working away'
I also don't know how many people he's had sex with and he doesn't know my number.
I'm not particularly bothered by this, I've never felt the need to know, I'm really really happy with him but is it strange we haven't talked about this? What's the best way to spark these conversations? | Me and my boyfriend don't know anything about each other's sexual/relationship history. Never felt the need to know, I'm really happy but should I know, how do I ask? |
t3_43ctmu | cats | HELP! Downstairs neighbors losing it over cats | I moved into an apartment complex a couple of months ago and around October got a pair of kittens and my troubles began. I live on the second floor of a two story apartment complex in a 1/1 with a husband and wife below me. Around December when the kittens started becoming more of a normal cat in size, weight, and activity my downstairs neighbors started complaining of the cats making noise at night. I started by just lining my bed with my unused pillows to stop thuds from them jumping off at night. Didn't help and complaints increased in frequency and intensity.
Here I am almost two months later after having spent almost 600 dollars on extra carpeting for my tiny apartment and experimenting with feeding them at different times of night to make them sleep longer. I've tried separating them with one in he bathroom and one in the living room but they both just meow all night. I've tried putting them in the bathroom but they just jump off the counter and still wake up the neighbors.
I have no idea what to do anymore. Crating isn't really an option because the neighbors are banging on their ceiling as early as 730 pm and having them in a cage from 7pm to 8 am is unthinkable . In the past two weeks I've been woken up by them coming to our door and slamming on it to get us to do something about the cats. I came home to my girlfriend in tears one night because the husband came and basically just screamed at her and accused her of not doing shit to quiet the cats down. | downstairs neighbors are irate over cats being noisy at night and I'm at a total loss of what to do to help them. |
t3_3gv51t | relationships | Me [19 M] with my ex [19 F] 1 year, broke up with her a few months ago but regret breaking up with her | My ex and I have had an on/off relationship for a year. I broke up with her 2 months ago because I felt urges about other people, only primal, and it was starting to effect me. However, since then she's been on my mind a lot. What is more confusing is that my thoughts about her can change a lot from wanting to try again to "she's the one for me" to "we're not right for each other right now but I want to get back with her when we're more mature and my desires are sorted" to "she isn't right for me". It's confused me a lot and I don't want to get back into a relationship with her without knowing why I feel like this as I don't want history to repeat itself and break up with her again.
She's the only person that I've been with who I've felt strong feelings for from the very beginning, others who I've hooked up with/been on dates on for a while I haven't cared much after things between us went sour. In contrast, with this girl I wanted to be with her since we first got together. | Confused about on/off girlfriend. feelings are volatile: Want her for life to it was never going to work out. |
t3_142byu | GetMotivated | I'm going to develop a tool for motivation | I'm a guy who has lots of free time. I've decided that I'll spend some of this time creating a tool (website, app, software, ... I don't know yet) creating a tool that will help people get motivated. I already have knowledge in programming, so what I need now is to know what to develop.
I believe that this is the best place to ask what I should create. Since most of you are motivated, or trying to get motivated, I believe that your input can help me create a tool that can help us all. Why you should give your ideas? It's going to be **free**, I promise.
So, if you could design a tool that would help you get motivated, what would it have? | I'm going to develop a free tool to help people get motivated; your ideas can help me. All input is welcomed. |
t3_2bc3td | relationships | Me [27 M] got broken up by my girlfriend [28 F] of 3.5 months shortly after my 6 week trip to Rio, Brazil | I'm a 27 year old male and my 28 year old girlfriend of 3.5 months just broke up with me a few days after my trip to Rio, Brazil for the World Cup
We have only been dating for 2 months before I went on my trip to the World Cup which I had already planned and booked everything before we started dating. We reaffirmed exclusivity and boyfriend/girlfriend status before I left.
While I was gone I remained absolutely faithful and would often text with her throughout the day via WhatsApp and we skyped a few times a week.
I was 4 hours ahead and we would often Skype and text late on my nights (peak party times) so she knows I remained faithful and showed a lot of commitment while I was gone.
I came back Thursday July 17th and went to her place. She made us dinner, gave me a 5 minute hug which I thought I felt a lot of love from. We slept together that night. The next night was my birthday. We went out to dinner and then went to a bar and she met a lot of my friends.
Saturday she left for Oregon for a week for a friend's wedding. She gave me a call the next day that we need to talk and broke up with me. She said that I did nothing wrong and couldn't give me a reason why. She said she just had to go with her gut because she has had this feeling before. She said she felt like this for almost 2 weeks but couldn't tell while I was gone if she was just frustrated that I was gone for 6 weeks.
We rarely if ever argued, I saw no red flags. I can't picture her as being the girl that would cheat on me. She apologized and said that it was not fair for me, but she has to go with her gut.
Any advice? | My girlfriend of 3.5 months just broke up with me a few days after my 6 week trip to the World Cup and birthday. No red flags, I remained faithful, what do I do? |
t3_sdeja | AskReddit | What is the best cheating story you know? | Or a person getting caught cheating. At my school, this teacher for AP World History used to let us grade our own test (Yes....he did) and whoop-dee-doo, kids started to cheat by changing the answers when we went over them. One day, he told everybody in our class that he took pictures of the test before we went over them and anybody that changed it, he would know. So he gave us an ultimatum, turn ourselves in and not get kicked out or he'll submit all of the tests to the principals. The class freaked and about 15 of the kids turn themselves in. At the end of the school year, the day after our AP Exam, he told us that he lied and trolled us all. | Teacher lied to class that he knows who cheated on the test. A bunch of kids admitted to it. End of the year, we found out that he trolled us. |
t3_z1zrg | relationships | I don't know if what I'm feeling is normal...any insight to my relationship? | I want to keep this as short as possible. I've been in a relationship for 2 years now and live with him. Some months things are so great and I'm extremely happy with where I'm at in life. I think marriage could be on the table somewhere down the road. Then I go through periods where I think things could never possibly work out with us in the long run. I'm not sure if this is a sudden moment of clarity and I need to just be single for a bit longer or if it's me going temporarily insane.
Has anyone else ever been through this? Is what I'm feeling some sort of hint to move it along/go with my gut kind of deal or just typical relationship stuff? (Married people would be most helpful) | Me 26F him 25M parts of our relationship are perfect and sometimes I feel that we could never be. Is this normal? |
t3_1pfv6w | relationships | Boyfriend [M27] bought his female friend a Tiffany necklace for her birthday. I [F27] feel weird about it. | [Update](
Help me decide if I'm blowing this out of proportion before I overreact.
My boyfriend of 11 months has a best friend -- a girl best friend. I've been totally fine with this from the beginning because she was here before me and they've been friends since college. Although, I feel it's important to add that they've never had the chance to date because they were both in relationships when they met. She's also been single for the past three months.
Her birthday is this Friday and my boyfriend wanted to get her something really special. I thought that was sweet of him until I realized what he had bought her. Now I feel like it's extremely inappropriate and at the risk of sounding like a bitch, I want him to take it back.
He claims she's been wanting this specific necklace from Tiffany's forever, so he bought it for her. He REFUSED to tell me how much he spent on it but I found an identical one on their website and it costs $250. Here's the [link](
To put it mildly, my boyfriend's really excited to give it to her. He says it's also a "thank you" gift for helping get him through a couple shitty semesters at graduate school. (She's extremely smart and was in the same program). Okay, fine, but a necklace? Why not a gift card or something less romantic?
She wants to have a "friend date" with him on Thursday as an early birthday celebration, so he's taking her out for lunch or dinner on Thursday, which means they're going to get drunk.
I've never had a problem with this girl but I don't like how close they are. She's always been nice to me but I can't help but feel like they might have some underlying feelings for each other.
How can I solve this? Perhaps, I could suggest to him that we BOTH get her something and then have him take back the necklace while we still have time? Any ideas? | Boyfriend got his best friend friend a tiffany necklace for her birthday. He doesn't know I'm jealous and upset but I'd like to solve this without there being any hurt feelings. |
t3_2sn6xg | legaladvice | Showed up to an appearance date at a small town court and nobody was there. Now what? (Perrysburg, NY) | I had an appearance date for a traffic ticket last night at 6:00pm. When I arrived at court, there was only one truck in the parking lot and the doors to the court were locked. After walking away from the locked door, a man rolled down the window of the truck in the parking lot and asked if I needed help. He informed that he was the town supervisor and said that they had no plans of holding court appearances tonight. After confirming that the date on my ticket was correct, he ended up giving me the home phone number of the town judge and told me to try calling her. I tried calling her, but received her answering machine. It felt intrusive leaving a message on her home answering machine, so I dialed the court and tried leaving a message with my name and number there. After waiting around for an hour for someone to show up, I eventually left. I called the court today, and again received no answer. What do I now? Will my license be suspended due to a "failure" to appear at a court date? | Showed up to court, nobody was there. A man in a truck gave me the town Judge's home phone number, she did't answer. |
t3_51pduu | relationships | Me [20F] with my bf [23 M] of 4 1/2 years, he doesn't trust me should I leave? | I got with Craig (name changed) when I was 16, and he was 18. I lost my virginity to him. The first three years I was head over heals. He did cheat on me on two different occasions with the same girl in this time period, but I forgave him.
The past few months things just haven't felt the same. We moved into a place we can't afford, and he is never home. He's always at the bar with his friend, or at work. There is never a time when his friend (34/m) is not attached to him.
The other day he took my phone and went through it like I was a child, and wouldn't give it back. I never touch his phone. Recently he told me he doesn't trust me, and he thinks I'm lying all the time and cheating on him. I'm not doing either of those things.
My dad said I can come back home, and wants me home anytime. He's never liked Craig. I ended up dropping out of school when I was younger to go work with Craig so he could have a place to live. We have always been behind in bills and rent by one month, and we're never going to get out of this hole.
He recently gave me an ultimatum when his brother and his brother's girlfriend broke up that I have to choose his brother's side, or it's over. His brother's ex is my best friend. All my other friends dropped me when I got with Craig.
What really bothers me is the ultimatum, and what is love without trust? | He doesn't trust me, gives me ultimatums , and we are struggling financially already. Should I stay, or should I go? |
t3_3rjdx4 | relationships | Me [19M] want to get back with my ex [18F] but don't know how | So about 2 months ago me and my girlfriend of a year broke up. The reason we broke up was because she felt like I was clingy sometimes, which i admit I was a little, but whatever I learned my lesson and moved on.
About a few days ago she texts me asking to get together and go to the mall tomorrow and maybe back to my house. She said she wants to be best friends however and nothing more, even though she flirts with me a lot. I want to date her again, can I get any advice on what to do and say on our date tomorrow so I don't screw up any chances of getting back together. | Going on a date with ex girlfriend, I want to get back together, but don't know what to do or say on the date. |
t3_2ckwzp | relationship_advice | I'm [18/m] dating a [16/f] she has rough family life. Refuses any kind of help from me, but is considering turning to prostitution to help family with money issues. | My gf of 6 months has had a difficult family life. Parents divorced with a restraining order against dad. Mom is taking care of 3 kids on a low salary so debt has piled up. I am starting a job at a company that works for the government, so i have offered my gf some assistance with bills etc. She bluntly refuses and gets angry saying that she'd be dependent on me, which you kinda do in a relationship. You depend on one another.
Now my gf is the type of girl that still gets embarrassed when we're naked around each other, and sees sex as a very special bond between 2 people. (i am the only person she has ever had sex with and the only person she has ever gotten attached to)
Recently some guy asked her if she would go to private "CEO parties", since "CEOs can't be seen in public clubs", for about $100 a night, more if she has sex with someone and even more if she has sex and lets people watch. She told me about this and expected me to be ok with it, i instead was mortified and pissed. She was mad that i disliked the idea of her doing it and even more mad that i was upset that she would rather be a prostitute than accept help from me. She refuses to listen to reason and says that if something bad were to happen it would be ok, cause she did it for her family. "This is the easiest and fastest way to make money."
I do not have a single clue as what to do. I can not just leave her knowing what might happen after i leave etc. However i can't stay with her knowing that some nights she'll be out possibly having sex with others for money or even worse getting raped and possibly killed while i know it's going on and do nothing. Can anybody please help me? The only hope i have is that the guy won't call her since she is only 16. | gf refuses money help from me, wants to turn to prostitution instead. Expects me to be ok with it. |
t3_ey4iw | AskReddit | Best way to sell a massive amount of random stuff? | I'm cleaning out my parent's attic and there is an extremely large number of things that they (and me) want to sell. Perhaps extremely large number is not accurate; this is over two decades of stuff, ranging from childhood toys for me and my siblings to stuff I had in college that has been stored there since I graduated to random stuff my parents just put up there when there was no room elsewhere.
We could have a yard sale, but the neighborhood they live in is not that great (location wise) for those and the HOA always has a problem with them, so a whole shitload of regulations are in place for any yard sale occurring. Not to mention I'd have to handle all the lifting and setting up as the parentals have limited mobility. I'd prefer anything other than that.
I figured I could put it on ebay or craigslist, but like I said, there is a SHIT ton of shit; it would take a long time to list every single thing separately. Unless there is a system through ebay that people use in situations like this? I've only used ebay a few times to buy books so I know nothing in this area.
Has anyone else had to go through this? If so, what did you do? I know some html, so I could set up a website and put a craigslist ad pointing to it for people to peruse, pick and choose, with Paypal used as a means to pay for it. This seems the most logical, but then again, I've never done anything like this and haven't used my html knowledge in a while; would have to practice a bit to get it back.
Any other suggestions my friends? And I'll probably end up putting all the gaming stuff in a sponsored link here on Reddit since you all help me out so much, you definitely should have first pick on those :) I do believe there are some rare games up there, all stored properly so in good conditions, along with some board games from the '60s on and memorabilia from all over the world (lived in Japan for a decade, lots of Japanese things that cannot be found elsewhere, and some that cannot be found at all). | must sell bunch of things (hundreds of things) from parent's attic. What is best way to do this (preferably online and not a yard sale)? |
t3_2jqgwy | relationship_advice | I [17M] don't know how to proceed with girl [16F] I like. | So I met this girl about 2 months ago. We started talking a lot and we really got along, we eventually started texting quite a bit. I then asked her out, but she had no time in the weekend. We agreed on going to her place after school. We watched a movie together, but she seemed a bit distant. I thought that she was probably just not comfortable yet, so I thought that would get better if we had more dates. So I asked her out again. She then asked me if I saw her as more than just a friend. I said yes, but she just wanted to be friends. I was disappointed but I told her it was okay. I stopped texting her. After something more than a week, she texted me. Which is quite odd, because I started almost all conversations. So she does want to keep texting. I like her a lot and I want to be more than friends. What's the best way to proceed? Should I keep texting her like usually or get to the point and ask if she wants to give it a shot anyways? | I like a girl, thought we had something going on. She just wants to be friends. Don't know how to proceed. |
t3_22hr1d | relationships | Very difficult situation with my (18F) on/off boyfriend (19M). Was supposed to stay with him when I move away. Now I'm stuck. | Boyfriend moved for college to New York. I'm supposed to take summer classes in the same area and planned to stay with him. We were in a limbo-esque scenario. He and I used to speak every day for the past nine months. It was difficult. We knew we didn't want to have a long distance relationship at such a young age, but we spoke about what it would be like when I was there.
Long story short, I cut off contact because I felt we both needed space. I wanted to wait for him, he didn't. It hurt me too much to know he wouldn't be committed to me when I could do it so easily. It became too much and I felt like I had to. I still cared about him immensely. This was a month ago. In another month I was planning to move out to stay with him for a bit.
I still have feelings for him. A lot of feelings. He says he really doesn't know how he feels about me. He wants to try when I get out there, but right now knows that it doesn't matter to even discuss it. He wants it to develop naturally.
I'm stuck. I don't know if I can find another place. Money is tight. Dorms aren't an option during the summer. I just feel screwed. This has been my plan for a while now, and now I don't know what to do. Please help. | Planning to stay with on/off boyfriend during the summer when classes start. Now, situation is tense and overall kind of fucked. I need help figuring out what to do. |
t3_195col | relationships | I [20M] have really strong feelings for my best friend [24F] but she views my as a brother not a boyfriend | I am a 20M who has completely fallen in love with my best friend 24F. I met her about a year and a half ago.
How we met? She started dating one of my teammates and they were going to get married. He randomly broke up with her about 4 months ago. It was a bad break up, Im still good friends with him.Before they broke up we were close but we have been even closer ever since.
What makes our relationship even weirder. She lives 200 miles away, and has graduated college. I live in my colleges dorms and am 4 years younger than her, but I graduate at the end of fall so I am almost done with college. I wonder if she just views me as a kid because I still live in the dorms. But she doesnt drink or party at all and neither do I. She also has a much more childish and innocent personality than me but I love that quality in her. I also do look like a man, not someone who just got out of high school. So I dont think she views me as a brother because of my physical attributes.
Last week I awkwardly confessed my love for her as I left. She cried and didnt really say anything but I thought it was a good kinda of crying not bad. Later she clarified that she views me as a brother not a boyfriend.
I know more about her than her ex-boyfriend, and she knows more about me than my entire family. We are both depressed, athletes, and talk to each other allday everyday. She is the only person I feel like has every loved me in my entire life. I have never been in a relationship in my life.
I also dont think she is pursuing any other guy. We have talked a little this week not much. We see each other in person every two weeks. She dislikes romantic stuff and so I dont think that is my issue either. | dont understand why the girl that is closest to me, views me as a brother not a boyfriend. We know every aspect of each others life's. |
t3_2rsb2w | tifu | TIFU by shaving my scrotum and ended up chewing it up | Just happened. I had the day off, which doesn't happen often. I decided to enjoy it just like everyone else, slept in, had a good breakfast, watched some netflix, etc.
After the gym, I decided to do some manscaping, and I recently bought an electric shaver and trimmer in one, and I've been using it to trim my beard and such; figured, hey, this is going to be awesome! I no longer have to use a razor! Big mistake.
First, it was going well, the trimmer was working its way around the pube area, it wasn't silky smooth, had some stubbles, but it was heck of a lot easier than using a razor and getting clumps of hair. Figured I'd just go over it with a razor later in the shower. I decided to go at the base of my johnson and then moved laterally to go around the curvature when it happened.
Zzzttttt and I felt it burn. And then I saw it start bleeding. Oh god. The trimmers had actually taken in the hair follicle bumps around my scrotum and chewed it up. Now I have multiple small cuts all over around the base of my dick.
In an effort to make it stop and clean the area, I hopped in the shower and washed with soap, and then, thought, shit, I don't want this to get infected. Let me put some aftershave on it. That hurt a bit. Now it hurts more than a bit. | used the trimmer to hedge my johnson's overgrowth, ended up landscaping more than I wanted to, and now it's scorched earth. |
t3_103l2c | AskReddit | How to deal with a Kleptomaniac roommate who is also a friend? How would you handle the situation? | I have been living with my friend for a few months now, and recently discovered that she has been taking some of my stuff without me realizing until recently (small accessories, clothing items, etc.). When I confronted her, she gets very defensive to the point where I believe, in her mind, she justifies the items as her own. I have spoken with her previous roommates, and they all tell me pretty much the same thing: she has done this numerous times and does not want any psychological help.
I am so shocked she would do this since we have been very close over the last few years, which leads me to believe she has some type of personality disorder. I am less upset about my stuff being gone than I am that she would betray me. I still care about this person, so I want to help her get better, but also don't think I could handle the burden of always distrusting her.
How should I handle the situation? | Roommate stole from me, believes in her mind items are hers. Don't know how to get her psychological help. |
t3_u01zf | AskReddit | Reddit, can you help me, an English citizen, find a job in the USA and with getting a work visa? | Hi Reddit, You might not care, but here is my story.
So i have just graduated from University. I did 4 years, with one year abroad in California. I met a girl when i was there which has completely changed my life. I love her and want to be with her. I had one year left of Uni to do and so i returned but scrimped and saved all the money i could to see her as often as i could. Now im done with my degree, and i want to be in the States so we dont have to be long distance.
its a long shot, but you hear of these fantasy tales of reddit kindness. Anyone out there who has advice/ an opportunity? | met a girl in America want to be with her, dont have a work visa, looking for someone who might be able to get me over there to stay. |
t3_4s3lpf | personalfinance | Netflix somehow knows my new credit card number without me giving it to them? | My credit card was compromised a few weeks ago, so I got a new one recently. In the time before I activated my new card, most of subscription services lapsed, such as Hulu and Netflix.
I activated my new card and renewed my Hulu subscription, but didn't bother with Netflix because I decided I didn't use it much anymore. However, I just received an email from Netflix telling me they have processed the payment, and showed the last four digits of my new card.
My question is- how on earth did they get this new cc number? Did my bank (Wells Fargo) just give it to them? Just seems kind of odd. Thanks! | of this thread is don't assume that getting a new credit card will prevent charges from subscription services like Netflix or Xbox Live, because they can easily access your new cc number. |
t3_2kqnms | relationships | Me [29M] is breaking up with my GF [31F] and I need help finding her a place to go | So for various reasons I have decided to break it off with my GF. I am not asking for advice about whether or not to do that. I have for sure made up my mind. The thing is that she has been living with me for 2 months and has no where else to go. No family, No friends, and I have exhausted my limited knowlege of shelter situations.
Shes currently in between jobs, and her savings/credit situation is not really conducive to her finding a new place to live on her own. Obviously, I don't want to co-sign on a new lease with her, as I would prefer for a clean break.
So, Reddit, what are my options? If it helps I am in the Chicago, IL area. | Its over, but I still care and don't want to throw her out on the street. Where can she go for a few weeks? |
t3_4zd42j | relationships | My friend [19F] wants me [20M] to trust her | Her boyfriend broke up with the her last year and since then me and her have become best friends. I went on he family vacation this year for 2 weeks. We spend (or used to) every weekend together. I like her. A lot. She has feelings for me too. But she wants to "hang out" with her ex boyfriend. And she has been a lot recently. They've been going to movies together and going out to eat a lot. Like 6 times in the past 2 weeks. And apparently she thinks it's ok to kiss him since me and her are not dating. She told me to trust her to not do anything with him and then she breaks my trust. She said it was just a quick kiss and that she felt bad when she did. So we had a really long conversation about it last night and she told me that since me and her are not dating that she can do whatever she wants and I can't tell her not to. So she is gonna continue to "hang out" with her ex, and wants me to trust her. I told her that it's gonna be really hard to trust her considering how she has already broken my trust once. I told her I don't want to sit here and wait for her to be ready for a relationship with me while she's running around every night with her ex and I'm supposed to trust her. | Should I trust my best friend to "hang out" with her ex after she has already broken my trust one time. |
t3_yx7gd | AskReddit | My house was destroyed in Hurricane Katrina, but this turned out to be the best thing to ever happen to my family and I. What stories of blessings in disguise do you have reddit? | In August 2005, I was living in Biloxi, Mississippi, which is right on the coast of the Gulf of Mexico. I lived in a low-income neighborhood, I was attending a middle school where I had few friends, and my mother had just been fired from her job, so we were in a tough situation. We evacuated for Hurricane Katrina when it hit on August 29th, and came back to find our house devestated. The roof was gone, there was a lot of structural damage, and the inside of the house had serious flooding. On top of this, my dad was working at a casino which was sitting on a barge that floated out to sea, so he was unemployed for an uncertain amount of time.
To keep a long story short, my mom had connections to someone in the Charlotte, NC area that agreed to hire her, so we sold our land and moved up there. Both of my parents were able to find well-paying jobs, I attended a much better school, and I was able to make connections that led to me attending NC State University, where I currently am right now. Our family is in a much better situation now than it ever was before Hurricane Katrina.
Now I'm interested to hear what stories of blessings in disguise you guys have. | My house was destroyed in Katrina, it led to me moving to the great state of North Carolina and living a much better life. |
t3_35xvly | relationships | Me [18/F] with my project partner [18/F]. Shes not pulling her own weight with our project. | For AP Psychology we have a final project grade where we have to make a 10 minute video about a certain psychological disorder. This means that we have to make a script, do research, etc.
Well, my partner has done her portion of the research, and just left it at that. She emailed it to me and told me to email her back when I create the Google Document so she can help edit. In class the next day, I begin typing up the script and ask her to help me, but she says shes busy with other school work and that she'll help tonight. This goes on for two days, where I have been writing the ENTIRE script and shes done absolutely nothing at all.
I'm very frustrated and have tried talking to her, but she always has excuses (I'm sick, I have a lot of homework, etc). I' trying to get this script done tonight so we can record on Friday, because I wont be in town this weekend, and the project is due Tuesday.
What are some civil words I can email/text her to tell her she needs to help me work on this project, because I am at my wits end. | Partner wont work on project and I'm stressed out to the max. What can I text/email her to let her know she needs to pull her own weight? |
t3_3tqfnl | relationships | I [19/M] have problems in bed... | Ok, this is quite embarrassing but I've decided I need another opinion.
This is something I discovered a few years ago as a young boy discovering the world of the internet and all the joys along with it (yes I do mean porn). Of course I would jack off to it and as a young teen (around 14 at this point) I never thought too much of it. But as I grew older I started to realise that there was a problem.
I can only last 15 seconds.
I know there is of course such a thing as premature ejaculation, but that is anything up to a minute - I have never lasted anything close to that. I have tried slower "pumps" but to no avail, the longest I think I've ever managed to last is about 25 seconds.
I have had a girlfriend and it was a problem there too - we never did anything under the clothes, but one time when we were making out I actually finished while we were doing it and luckily she didn't notice (it was all over my pants for crying out loud!) but as a result I had to significantly limit our kissing (we aren't together anymore for other reasons). As far as I'm aware she never found out about that incident.
I haven't had PIV sex but judging by the above incident I'm going to take a wild guess that it's not going to be any better.
I read somewhere premature ejaculation could be a cause of a poor upbringing, but I would like to point out I have had a very happy childhood, this isn't a case of parental neglect or anxiety or anything like that. So I am really confused as to what is the problem.
Anyway, I was hoping for advice on two things:
Girls who haven't stopped reading (thank you), I want brutal honesty - would this be a turn off for you? And even a dealbreaker when it comes to relationships?
Guys - anybody else had this bad a problem and can relate? Any tips to solve this? Should I go to the doctor?
Thank you in advance to anybody who replies with helpful advice. | 19M can only last around 15 seconds in bed, is this going to be a problem for any relationships I may have? |
t3_4sehs0 | relationships | Am I [16M] an "monster" for giving up on helping my brother [17M] lose weight after I found out that he goes to burger king and other fast food establishments on his walks? | My brother is fat, there is no sugar coating it. He did this to himself he chooses to sit in his room all day and play over watch, league of legends, | Brother has been gaining weight, while I have been trying to help him lose weight. I gave up on him and now I am an monster for giving up on him. Parents have sent me to live with my sisters |
t3_297dlz | relationships | Me [18M] slept with my (grossish) 'friend' [18F] and I don't want anything much to do with her. | I've never had any romantic feelings for her and no physical attraction to her. Quite frankly shes very unattractive and honestly I gagged. hile boning her and now when I think about it makes me gag a bit. I know I sound like a dick, but that's my reaction. Based on my other relationships and hearsay I'm waaay out of her league.
We used to smoke togetherr, didn't speak for awhile, then started hanging out earlier this past fall. I was going through a lot of psychological distress and I guess she was there to talk and vice versa. Straight up I can't be friends with girls I'm attracted to in anyway really, its tough, and that's why I think I stayed friends with her. We verbalized that we have a platonic relationship, but I never believed it on her end. She looks at me a certain way and I can tell she might want more.
The past 4-6 weeks I distanced myself a lot from the world especially her, but she blows my phone and snapchat up even if I dont respond. I said five we'll hang out, but in getting drunk. Fast forward, I needed to crash at her crib, she drinks , vodka goggles Idk, stick finger in mouth sucks. Hop in bed, start to go down realise I'm about to eat fat chick out, pull away, smells of sweat and mayo, but I'm too far in to just peace out, stick my Weiner in, we fuck forever because I'm bored, she says she finish twice, I don't finish cuz blahhh.
Wake up, wtf did I do, take me home now I smell like poon.
I already was leaning towards not being friends anymore just because I thought the relationship ran its course, but this night confirmed that. How do I do this without coming off as an asshole? Don't want to burn any bridges. Plus we're going to the same school next year. | fucked friend i didnt want to be friends with, shes more attached, how do I break off the friendship without burning a bridge? |
t3_3xxapg | relationships | Me [19F] with my boyfriend [23M] going on 3 years. Trouble in Paradise. | My boyfriend and I met at a summer camp when we were both kids. We were good friends for a long time, dated other people and then decided we wanted to be together. We had an LDR for 2.5 years.
In September of this year, I moved six hours away from home for the first time and into a small apartment with him. We got a cat. My boyfriend goes to university and I've taken a year off school to get acquainted with being an adult and living in the big city. For some context, I'm used to living in a big house on a farm and now I'm living in a very small apartment in a very big city. It's very stressful for me.
I'm holding down two shitty minimum wage jobs as both a server and a gas station attendant. I miss my family and my farm and my animals so much. It's Christmas now and I'm home for the holidays and I'm starting to consider that maybe I don't want to go back to the big city. I like living at home and I'm getting kind of tired of working so hard to be with him. I have to be away from pretty much everything that makes me happy and work shitty jobs. But I love him so much and I've already put so much work into this. He is my best friend and I feel like my world would fall apart without him. I guess I just needed to vent, support and advice are welcome. | LDR became in person relationship, had to give up a lot to be together, wondering if it's worth it. |
t3_1t37bc | relationships | Me [22 F] with my TA [25 M]. Should I make a move or forget about it? | I have a crush on my TA(25 M) he's a master student and I'm(22 F) a second year uni student. I really want to get to know him better but I'm scared shitless of rejection.
I can't tell if his friendliness is because he's my TA or because he's also interested in me. After classes we normally talk, we walk out together and he walks me to my car before he hops on the bus. Other than that we don't communicate out of class.
I have a stupid suspicion that he's probably 'out of my league' which is why I have never said anything to him.
What do you think though, reddit? Should I stop crushing or should I gather my courage and go for it? | I have a crush on my TA. We talk after class, he walks me to my care. No other communication outside of class. Should I make a move or forget about it? |
t3_2zdmxz | tifu | TIFU by forgetting that even if I can't hear something over my headphones, other people certainly can. | As usual this didn't happen today. Probably around September before I graduated college. First some background: I went to a small university that was built on a steep hill at the end of the town. I had an apartment in town and while the distance wasn't very far, the hill made the walk to campus horribly inconvenient. Being the genuinely good people they are, the university provided a bus service that picked you up downtown and dropped you off at the top of the hill. Since I'm hella lazy I usually took the bus and since I'm not too keen on talking to strangers in the morning I always wore headphones.
Now the FU: On this particular day I was mildly hungover and because of this had some, dare I say, intestinal discomfort. The bus stop wasn't very crowded, just me and a few girls who lived in the apartment building next to mine. I was standing and they were sitting on the bench when suddenly I felt it coming. It was just an awful pocket of flatulence brewing inside me. The wind was blowing and I was assuming it wouldn't be loud so I just let it go. I was delighted when it was quite silent even though I felt my cheeks flapping away. A gust of wind came to blow it away almost immediately. I thought nothing of it until I caught a glimpse of the girls behind me. One of them was laughing hysterically and the rest were staring at me looking completely mortified. I suddenly realized I was listening to music, and while I didn't hear the noise my bottom made, that didn't mean it didn't make one. I flushed red, hid my face, and clenched my butt for the rest of the day. I saw these girls quite constantly throughout the rest of the semester and couldn't once bare to make eye contact with them. On the bright side I graduated in December and never saw them again! | I passed gas at a bus stop with headphones on and thought everything was ok because I couldn't hear it. I was dead wrong. |
t3_3x65lj | Advice | I don't know where to post this? Maybe here? | Hello, my s/o [m23] has posted a photo that I am not comfortable with. He acts like it is no big deal. He works at a Vape shop and this girl seems to be in there every night they seem pretty comfortable with each other he buys her soda he lets her use his Vape whenever she wants he posts her and some other girls on snapchat more often then he posts me. I have threatened to leave him am I over reacting should I be more upset!? Help!!
The photo is of the girl licking his Vape while he is holding in in his hand
I should also add that I always assume that he likes every girl he talks to but he has never posted a picture like this before of a girl | My bf [m23] has posted a photo I feel is inappropriate and I have threatened to break up with him am I over reacting? Am I just being jealous? |
t3_49p7hd | relationships | Me [38 M] with my GF [32F] of 15 months, stopped wanting to talk dirty | I have an odd question that I'm hoping for some advice with. When my girlfriend and I first got together, she seemed to really enjoy talking dirty. Honestly, it wasn't something I had much experience in (my ex didn't like it), but I enjoyed hearing it and even began to join in the dirty talk.
These days, I've found that I have become the only one doing this. My GF seems to have stopped altogether, apart from the occasional line. I worry that it's part of an, overall, decrease in her engagement in sex. We used to have sex all around the house and it was wild and really hot. Now, it'll be some foreplay on the couch and then we make our way to the bedroom. Also, it used to be, through foreplay, she became incredibly, um, ready. I loved knowing I turned her on that much. Now, though she still seems to enjoy what's going on, physically, there's a lot less of a reaction (though still within the normal range).
I've talked to her about this and she says it's been harder for her since her life has, due to work, gotten a lot busier. She feels her mind is on other things much more and finds it hard to keep her mind focused when we're having sex or even switch her mind over to thinking about it, at all. I had expected this would be a temporary thing due to the change in schedule and was patient, but it seems to be the new normal. Her schedule isn't changing anytime soon, so it's not like a temporary thing I need to wait out.
I realize that, as a relationship progresses, there's always a certain amount of loss of passion. I just don't know what's normal and what I should be worried about. | Girlfriend used to talk dirty. Now she doesn't and seems, overall, less engaged with our sex life. Should I worry? |
t3_2ec8sf | relationships | My mom [53/F] has been getting late night calls from a coworker [?/M] while my dad [53/M] is out of town | I know this is really none of business, but I'm honestly more curious than concerned. My mom is really childish, very impulsive. Her behavior is very erratic, she's always feeling bad for herself, etc... I love her, but she can be such a pain.
About a month ago my dad moved across the water (we live on an island across from a big city) and he lives in the city during the week. On her phone he found that she's been getting late night calls (1-3am, 3 nights in a row) from a coworker that she's met for coffee/lunch during the summer before. My parents are both teachers so there's no reason for the late calls, or the lunch/coffee. On top of that, she doesn't tell my dad about the meetups. One time she told me but didn't tell him, he asked me and I told him not knowing she was trying to keep it from him.
What I'm really looking for is someone else's perspective. | my mom has been getting late night (1-3am) calls from a coworker while my dad was away, is this a reason to worry? |
t3_1rbx8u | offmychest | I had a bad feeling about it but I still went. | My girlfriend messaged me today saying she was gonna be alone later today. so later today I went. We had a fun time, messed around but we didn't have sex. We're teenagers so we really wanted this for the longest, but it felt off. We did our business, chilled, and as soon as I was about to leave her dad comes home. I tried to hide in the closet but my ride came at the same time so he recognized the driver. He told me he didn't want me in his house without him around and let me go. I ran away but I feel so bad not knowing what the hell is happening to my girl. Shit I really fucked up. | messed around with my girlfriend, got caught by her dad in her house. Now I don't know what's next for us. |
t3_pqx8e | AskReddit | Reddit, how can I salvage valentines day? | Dear Reddit,
I had it all planned. I had reservations at a nice restaraunt, jewelry ordered, the flowers, the candy... but alas...
Valentines day was a disaster. After my wife got off work, she discovered she had a flat tire. i went to where she was to change it, only to discover she had no tire tool. Mine was the wrong size, so I was going to go to NAPA to get a new one... no dice. My Truck battery died.
So now we have two disabled vehicles and no one around to jump mine off. We punt and call her mother over to take us to NAPA where we are going to buy a tire tool and a battery. She does and we do, and then we begin driving back to our vehicles... and her rig promptly dies. Alternator is toast.
Walk back to NAPA. Buy alternator. Put on alternator. Back to the car. Change the tire. Then to the truck, change the battery. It's not 8:00 PM and I'm covered in grease, and we've missed our reservation.
We couldn't make it in time for the reservation, didn't have a chance to pick up the flowers, AND ups couldn't deliver the jewelry without a signature, and since I wasn't there to sign for it...
We went home, exhausted, ate the candy in lieu of dinner and fell asleep frustrated.
I need to find some spectacular way to salvage this. I HAVE to. My pride as a man and a husband are at stake here. My only question is.... how? I need something over the top. | An unbelievable series of automotive failures caused my wife and I to miss our first Valentines day together. How can I salvage this mess? |
t3_1q35zl | loseit | Intro - Finally doing this for me | Hello [/r/loseit] I wanted to introduce myself and maybe find some support, and possibly some fellow type 2 sufferers. I know my account was created today - but that's because I don't want anyone from my life to figure out my main account because of my posts here. I've been lurking for quite a while on my main account.
I'm F/24/5'5" SW:260 CW: 247. It was a diagnosis of type 2 diabetes that really got me motivated to start. Every time I've done this before, it's been because of shame or guilt. This time, I'm doing it because I know I have a chance to reverse the T2. For that reason, we're waiting 6 months before starting medication - we're seeing what diet and exercise can do.
Cue my visit to the dietician. I was there the other day to talk about nutrition and how to keep my blood sugar consistent all day. I knew from the beginning that I wanted to do something about my diet - but the whole idea of losing weight and taking care of my body with diabetes was a bit overwhelming for me. She gave me a plan and talked with me for a while. I was amazed at how complicated the nutrition plan was (I see why lots of people find a few staple meals that work and stick with them!) and how wrong some of my impressions about portion sizes were (how did I not know a serving of grains is 1/4 of a large bagel!?)
I've also been more committed to using MFP, and finally started testing my blood sugar. My doctor suggested a glucometer to see how some foods impact my blood sugar. I'm having a hard time because I've decided I don't want to tell everyone (or anyone, really) that I'm diabetic - it seems like there's so much judgement (I hear people make comments about "this dessert is going to make me diabetic!" all the time) - but I'm lacking support. I'm hoping the support I'm lacking in real life (by choice) can be more than made up for by the support in this community.
Just a quick intro - and thanks for the inspiration! | Finding out I have type 2 diabetes scared the crap out of me - this is going to be much more complicated than I thought... |
t3_36abyt | relationships | Me [21 M] just left my SO [22 F] of two months, and after two days it feels like I have made a huge mistake. | Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.
I met a girl about three months ago, and two months ago began dating. Over time I began to feel less and less like I wanted to be in a relationship and ended up calling it off three days ago. It was an extremely abrupt and unexpected break up.
The complications arrived over the last two nights, during each of which we ran into each other while out drinking and she attempted to convince me to remain in the relationship. Suffice it to say the conversations were long, involved, and heartbreaking.
I've really and truly hurt this woman. I roped her into the relationship and then ended things extremely abruptly as soon as it became too inconvenient for me. Yet she still has strong feelings for me and in her attempts to salvage what we had has made me begin to feel like I have made a huge mistake. Like I have thrown away something great, that I actually wanted, because I didn't understand how I felt three days ago and in reality do still have the feelings for this girl that I thought I had lost.
My question is whether or not it is normal do have such regrets after leaving someone, or if anybody thinks that my vacillations are indicative of whether I still have feelings for her. | Feeling regretful and confused after leaving gf, how do I sort out my feelings/get in touch with them? Or is it normal to feel like you've made a mistake after a break up? |
t3_3wdkx0 | tifu | TIFU by not getting locked up | So I am new to this school, and as is the case with most, they have a gym with a locker room. Since the school itself is kind of big, I learned too late that only the sports teams had use of the actual lockers in the locker room. I digress, here is where the FU comes, not knowing this, I thought that everyone in the gym class had their own locker, so since I (obviously) was never assigned any, I figured that my classmates put their things in their own locker or just left them in their school bag. Being the idiot I am, I left my clothes which had my wallet, driver's license, phone, and keys on my bag in the locker room.
1 hour later...
The gym class finally ends and I am now looking for my things with the coach. He asked me why I didn't put my things with everyone else, I had no clue what the hell he was talking about. It turns out that gym classes that weren't in the sports teams had a separate room to put their stuff in. I start searching for my things, and alas I can't find them. After about 20 minutes of searching through the locker rooms, I call the administrators for help, and wind up searching for another hour with them.
At the end of the day, I am now looking at having to renew a 90$ license, cancel my phone subscription, and that's to name a few... all because I didn't get locked up... | I didn't know my school had stupid policies regarding locker rooms, and now I lost close to 700$ worth of stuff... |
t3_4t7xt8 | relationships | Almost two-year relationship ends with him (19M) breaking up with me (18F) and asking to be friends. Need some sense knocked into me. | Happened a few days ago. He's been working at a summer camp this month so we've only been able to see each other a couple of times. It was one of his break days and he took me out to the park, sat me down on a bench, and told me he wasn't sure about our relationship and hoped we could be friends.
His reasons were that he felt pressure when he was with me, like he couldn't be himself, which supposedly began only a couple of months into our relationship and continued until he reached this breaking point. I struggle a lot with this because he was the one who stressed communication from the very beginning, but he never once mentioned it and I still feel a lot of guilt for not noticing. This was all worse because we were best friends before we started dating, so I've lost both my boyfriend and my closest friend in one shot.
He was very nice about it and agreed to let me call him if I needed things to be made clearer. I did, twice, the day after and he actually broke down in tears from our conversation. Since he did specify that he doesn't like me *that* way anymore, though, it was probably out of guilt. So because of that, I'm currently forcing myself into no contact.
I'm better now, definitely not fully recovered, but I'm not crying or wishing death upon myself like I was the first couple of days. My family's been sticking close to me to counsel me, so my head's a lot clearer.
I just don't know what to do. He said he really wants to be friends with me, and as of now I'm only in agreement because I miss him. But because our relationship was so serious and both of us thought we would grow old together, I honestly don't think I would be able to do it.
Logically, I know I should just cut him out of my life completely. But I keep managing to persuade myself otherwise. | My boyfriend (also best friend) broke up with me and wants to be friends. I know I'm still way too attached but I'm tempted to agree and I feel that I need to be stopped. |
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