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t3_1xywo2 | relationships | I feel guilty for my relationships... | I've currently have been feeling a rollercoaster of emotions for something that happened to me today. One of my friends asked if I wanted to go out with him and I rejected him because I was already with someone else of whom he happened to know. He then called me out and said I was a self-hater because I've never been in a relationship with someone of my own ethnicity and I was brainwashed by the media.
I'm African American (Age: 18/Gender: Female) and I've only dated Caucasian men. 99% of the time I've found men who have a more huskier build to be attractive, including a hairy body, beards, bald/short hair, etc. I've been attracted to mostly men of all ethnicities (including my own) who fit that description.
Although I tend to think these features look more attractive on those with lighter skin tone guys and even though darker skin tone turns me off (just like every other body type turns me off), I wouldn't rule out dating someone with said features if I found something else about them that would turn me on just because of their skin color or body type or whatever.
But what he said really bothered me and made me feel guilty about what I'm attracted to... | My friend called me self-hater because I've never been in a relationship with my own ethnicity and I feel awful for being mostly attracted to other races: |
t3_1y5l5t | relationships | Me [20 M] with my GF [19 F], she still continues to talk to this other guy.. | Basically I'll sum up the context:
She started talking to this guy (at her uni). They sing together and spend a lot of time together. This one weekend she and him were talking for all of Saturday and much of Sunday. I even told her it made me feel uncomfortable and she said I had nothing to worry. I told her she should cut down the talking to him. FYI, I'm about 120 miles away so I can't see her very often.
From what I know, they spend every other day together. I know this because once when I visited her, she said she was with ___ (guy's name here) that's why I couldn't find her. | Guy still talks to my GF, told her how I felt. She keeps doing it over and over. Not sure what to do. |
t3_4u0kp3 | relationships | Am I F(22) crazy for being upset that my bf M(23) of 6 months never compliments me? | We've been going out for 6 months and although I make sure to always tell him what I genuinely appreciate about his appearance and personality and character he has never once complimented me. I make sure that I only compliment him when I'm being sincere, but I love sharing with him how special he is to me and making him feel loved and wanted.
Every aspect of our relationship is great, it's just I'm very insecure about my appearance (he doesn't know this) and on top of that he's the first boyfriend I've ever had that hasn't complimented me. Especially in the beginning of a relationship is when I find guys pint out what they like about you and it's so reassuring for a self depreciating and shy girl like me. I can't help but feel I'm being unfair to him by saying this though, because every other aspect of our relationship couldn't be better.
But the reason I'm motivated to write this post is that we were discussing a friend and he referred to her as a "babe" and it KILLED me purely because he's never once even said 'I like your smile/eyes/laugh/that thing you do' etc. I feel so pathetic but this is how I feel and I can't help it. Am I irrational? | boyfriend probably thinks I'm ugly. I'm very insecure. Worried I'll ruin a good relationship with my own insecurities. |
t3_2l0h93 | relationships | My [M 21] girlfriend [F 22] of 2 years is angry over a picture I have of my friends [4 girls] in my wallet. | So I attended this academic program and became really good friends with these girls. I had no feelings for any of them. We were strictly just friends. After the program had ended the girls all went and took some nice studio pictures and gave me a wallet size picture for me to keep as memories. I put it in my wallet without really thinking much about it, except that it was thoughtful of them to give me a picture when I didn't ask for one.
This was before I started dating my girlfriend. My girlfriend saw this picture in my wallet and did not say anything to me about it. The wallet containing this picture was getting old and I had to replace my wallet. Keep in mind the picture of the 4 girls wasn't the only wallet size picture in my wallet. I also had 3 other wallet size picture of my different high school friends and their s/o at their prom dances dressed up really nice and formal.
So upon getting a new wallet, I just transferred every wallet size picture into my new wallet. Fast forward to a couple weeks, my girlfriend wants to look at my new wallet. She sees the picture of the 4 girls and now she's angry. She asked me why I still kept it.
First, I told her I had forgotten it was there, because I don't go through looking at my wallet size pictures everyday. And while transferring the pictures, I just grabbed them all and moved them over not looking at each of them independently.
Secondly, I told her that I didn't know having the picture was going to hurt her. The girls in the pictures were just really good friends. I had no emotional connection with any of them.
However, she is saying that all that explanation was BS. Does she have the right to be this mad? I already threw out the picture. | Girlfriend of 2 years is upset and angry at me for having a wallet size picture of my old friends whom are girls in my wallet. Should she be this upset/angry? |
t3_220wpo | offmychest | Love? I'm not so sure. | I've been seeing a girl that I knew (and wanted to be with) since high school for about two months now and it started off great as things usually do. A few weeks ago something changed and she said she didn't want to be with someone she wasn't sure she loved. This wasn't a breakup since we weren't and still aren't officially dating. It feels like she's put some distance between us compared to how it was when we first started talking again.
I want to ask her if we are ever going to actually end up dating in any official manner since we've had conversations about the "ground rules" of if we did since she's non monogamous which ended up fine, but now I just feel like I'm waiting around for her to make a decision and don't want to force it.
We hang out, she'll stay over and sleep next to me and cuddle and kids and such, but other times I just feel distant. I'm just getting mixed signals what feels like every day.
I really want this to work since it would be a dream come true, and I only came here because I want to get it out there and maybe see what people have to say. | been seeing the girl of my dreams for two months but she can't seem to decide whether she wants to move into "dating" aka bf/gf. |
t3_30mq42 | relationships | Is it fine/normal that my BF [27/m] of over one year didn't even bother calling me the night he knew I [25/f] was very ill? | He spent the night hanging out with his friends instead.
I told him the doctor said it could have been a kidney infection and his only text after that was "oh no."
He didn't bother calling me or texting me the rest of the night.
Whenever he's feeling sick or down I dote on him like an idiot and now I just feel foolish.
He finally texted me this morning and I said I felt better but he never bothered responding. I'm assuming he'd rather spend the day at the beach than check in on me. He lives 20 minutes away.
I just feel like the way he acted was so thoughtless. I already had multiple talks with him about his thoughtlessness. I'm getting really tired of not being a priority in his life.
I love him but stuff like this makes me think it's time to move on.
A few months ago we were talking about moving in together, & looking at places, so I quit a job I really liked and started working full-time at a place I really hate. Several weeks ago he admitted he didn't want to move in together anymore because his friends said it was a bad idea and he was scared it might compromise the relationship. I was completely dumbstruck and blindsided. It's just another example of his complete immaturity. I felt like a fool planning my life with him in it and realizing he was no where on the same page despite all the conversations we had about it.
Sometimes I feel like I'm not somebody he cares about as much as I am somebody he could just rely on to de-stress and cuddle whenever he feels like it. I'm just a comfort thing. | Boyfriend didn't call or text me the night I was very sick, despite me always offering to help him out when he's sick. Shows signs of not caring in other ways. |
t3_1tzjsa | relationships | Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [21F] 6 month, asking for space, still taking need advice, what to do? | Started seeing my now girlfriend in the summer, august (UK) we are from totally different backgrounds, but both passionate about horses.
Summer ended, I'm back at university, she is working. Things continued at a slower pace but the excitement of seeing each other was pretty awesome.. I would come back from uni most weekends and we would do all the "normal couple stuff"
I've met her family and we have told each other we love each other quite a long time ago.. We did have a pretty amazing thing going on.
I left the country (organised well before we met - I did tell her early on and we both thought it would be fine.. ((we're stronger than this etc))
So as I see it, I'm slowly drifting out of her life little by little. She has told me how she has been hurt so many times and never felt like this with anyone. I am passionately in love with this girl/woman.
She told me she needs space and tells me she has depression..
I read up about depression r/depression is actually really handy.
She tells me its been over a month now but she has just been hiding it.. ( i left on the 16th of dec, so it started about 2-3 weeks beforehand.
I'm lost, i feel inadequate, i think about her all the time, I'm angry, an then really sad.. I then tell myself stupid shit like "she is acting" "attention seeking" ( i won't lie she was always a bit needy.. now i feel like a total dickhead writing this as its only now becoming clear. This is my first proper relationship. I need advice.
I'll be back in the UK in about 12 days, we have been radio silent (no text or phoning) for about 48 hours, which is a first.
but she wished me happy christmas and send me two snapchats (i haven't opened them) I'm trying really hard to just let her be alone ever since she asked for space. | 6 month relationship steadily becoming long distance as we drift apart. GF is suffering depression of some sort, I'm not in the country but will return soon. (12 days) I love her, but she wants space. |
t3_2pusou | relationships | Me [21/F] caught my bf [M/20] looking for porn of his ex, don't know how to feel? | I have been dating my bf for 1 1/2 years now. I come from a conservative background and have had mixed feelings on porn in general, but he comes from a very open-minded home and it has led to disagreements.
Ultimately we agreed on tolerance and I accepted it was his "me time", and I was more important when it came to the real thing. That is just how our relationship works, not saying it's best for everyone.
I asked him one day if I could look up someone on IMDB on his laptop and he said okay, and then I pulled up his internet (which he had left open) and all his tabs were searches for porn of his ex-gf. I felt very hurt and betrayed (especially because this was the night before I left for a 5 month, out-of-state internship).
She was his high school girlfriend whom he dated longer than me at this point. She is much hotter than me and I know she fulfilled him better, so my self-esteem wasn't terribly high before this incident.
I confronted him about his searches and he claimed one of his friends told him there were videos up and to search for them. He said he wanted to see them to feel better about himself and she means nothing to him. IMO, she must mean something to that little head.
I left for my internship the next day, still seething, and the issue was never resolved fully. How can I bring it back up again without sounding like a bitter bitch? I really want to understand and to solve the issue, but I want to let the past stay in the past as well. | I caught my boyfriend looking up porn of his ex-gf, and the issue was never resolved. How can I bring it back up and solve it? |
t3_31i1pa | tifu | TIFU by calling the cops on the handicapped girl across the street | So a little back-story, the house across the street from us, and the one next to it, have been robbed a few times, and by a few I mean enough to be concerned, like 2-3 times. Also last week one of the houses had a police officer come over to check out a window or something, couldn't really tell from across the street, but still a little weird.
Anyways so tonight my family and I get home from vacation and my sisters friend comes over to spend the night. They come upstairs at around 11 pm and watch a movie, and around 12:30 they head downstairs into the basement. While walking my sisters friend sees a flashlight shining around the living room, and they go wake my dad up to show him. So the whole family is staring out the window looking at the person walking around inside the house, and at this point we have enough reason to think that it could be a burglar, since no cars were out front and no lights were on inside besides the flashlight, along with the houses previous track record, so my dad calls the police.
The light turns off for a few minutes before the cops show, about five freaking cars, and my dad goes out to talk to them. While he is speaking to them the flashlight turns back on and the police surround the house, guns drawn, yelling at the robber to come out with their hands up. No one shows at first until the porch light turns on and out comes, you guessed it, the handicapped daughter with her shaking arms held high.
She came outside followed by the rest of the family and talked to the cops for a bit, while my family shrunk back into our rooms, embarrassed that we thought the handicapped girl across the street who has been living there for 18 years was trying to rob the place.
Turns out she had to go to the bathroom and couldn't find the lights for some reason, so she used her phone to guide her. Time to send over a gift basket I guess... | Saw flashlight in "empty" house across the street, call cops, ends up being handicapped girl using her phone to find her way around. |
t3_1rnj5f | legaladvice | Protecting grandma's assets | Grandma had been in long term care for 100 days now and is probably not going to get out as she cannot care for herself. She transferred the house to us 7+ years ago so it is legally not hers. She has been paying for all upkeep and utilities. Grandma has about $60K in the bank that she wants to protect now and either move out spend.
With the house being ours now she can't make improvements to it with her money. We're told that the IRS would flag that and could deny medicare coverage. Apparently we have no options for hiding or protecting her assets, all liquid, from the $7k a month medicare draw down. This is in Wisconsin.
I'm trying to find out if there's any suggestions or resources for ways to protect her assets or things she could spend it on without setting off red flags during the medicare audit that could go back 5 years.
Question two, can she pay for some of the home upgrades and utilities as it is a type of rent payment even though she is currently not living there? She will move back if she ever can but we have no formal lease in place. Thanks everyone, this was a pretty unexpected scenario and had been stressful for us to help her with. | grandma will lose her cash in the bank to a medicare draw down and can't invest it in the house since it's in the grandkids names. Can she still pay for upkeep and any options for where to hide her money? |
t3_4z0k06 | relationships | Me [27F] with my husband [25M] of almost 2 years are trying to get pregnant, but his medication kills his libido | My husband and I have been talking about having kids since our 1 year anniversary, and because I'm older than him, and we want to have multiple kids, we don't want to wait too long before we start trying. I've been off the pill for awhile now, and I've been tracking my ovulation dates. However, my husband is taking medication for anxiety, and it completely kills his sex drive. It also makes him "finishing" much more difficult than before, so it takes more effort and a longer amount of time.
Not only does this affect our baby making plans, it also affects the intimacy aspect of our marriage. I don't want him to stop taking the medication if it helps him, but I also don't want to force him into being intimate when he does not have a desire to do so. | My husband's meds kill his sex drive and make ejaculation very difficult, which affects our marriage and our desire to get pregnant. |
t3_15awch | AskReddit | How do I handle myself at a party that an ex-hookup buddy will be at tonight? Karma to all suggestions | Reddit,
Since last New Years, I've been hooking up with a girl that went to the same high school as I did every time I come back home from college. Last time, however, things ended somewhat awkwardly and now we don't hookup or interact with each other.
We share many mutual friends, most of which will be at the party tonight (and who know that we've hooked up several times), and I'm not sure how to best handle myself. Certain contingencies that I've thought of but aren't sure how to handle are:
1.) I wind up becoming mutually interested in another girl
2.) She (ex-buddy) becomes interested in a different guy
3.) Ex-buddy shows me affection.
4.) She totally ignores me
Any and all advice as to how I can conduct myself tonight in a manner that doesn't embarrass myself or bring awkwardness to the party. Thanks for your time! | I need help not making things awkward at a party that my ex-hookup buddy is attending. We have mutual friends. |
t3_xnldt | AskReddit | Is there anything bad about no-strings-attached sex? | So I might have a chance to hook up with a woman that I met on a personals site. We both want to get laid. We're still ... feeling each other up, via email and stuff.
I'm 24, she's 34. I've been in one serious relationship before. Not a virgin. But never done casual sex or even gotten close. No pubs, no crazy parties, no women throwing themselves at me. Emotionally, I'm a virgin.
For those of you who've had NSA sex of any kind - like a fuckbuddy or one-night-stand, how did it affect you emotionally? How did it affect your future more serious relationships? What are some of the things you wish you hadn't done, or that you had? | Might get a chance to get laid, no-strings-attached. Don't know how it'll affect me emotionally. Advise me, Reddit. |
t3_4k40xr | tifu | TIFU by thinking my hair gel was lotion | So to be completely honest this happened yesterday, but I was in too much of a rush to think about writing it up on Reddit.
So yesterday I had work at around 9:45 am(I am a substitiue supervisor for the school district so I take shifts that I can do in-between my schooling) and woke up around 8:45. "Cool!" I thought "enough time to shower, shave and get a good breakfast in." Before I went through my normal room cleaning routine, I asked my grandma, whose lived with us all my life, to make a bacon, egg and cheese croissant sandwich while I prepared for work. After that I grabbed my clothes and went to shower.
After my shower it was about 8:55 am "ok, 30 minutes to get ready and grab a bite to eat." A quick side note, I am a man who likes to have really spiky hair. So I buy salon style hair gel since a friend of my mom is a hair stylist and she gets them at a discount. ( this brand to be specific, I'm on mobile so I'll edit this when I get a chance at home. For the sake of this story, the brand sells different containers for the gel and I bought one in a pump style bottle.
While going through my normal, after shower routine, I didn't realize that I squeezed out some hair gel thinking it was lotion. I began rubbing it all over, realizing 15 seconds later that it was not the soothing Vaseline lotion I hoped and loved. I spent another 8 minutes in the shower scrubbing that bonding agent of doom off, Realised that is 9:35 and rushed to get out the door. I left my house at 9:40 and was late 20 minutes after my required clock in. Which means I'll be getting docked on my paycheck. And to top it all off, I forgot my bacon, egg and cheese sandwich at home on the counter my grandma made for me, skipping breakfast entirely. | Thought my salon hair gel was lotion, spent more time cleaning myself, arrived late for work and left an amazingly crafted sandwich on the counter wasted. |
t3_1a8ivl | running | Will training at sub-marathon pace really prepare me to run a full marathon at my goal pace? | I'm currently training for my first full marathon (Seattle Rock n' Roll, June 22). I've run a couple of half marathons over the past year, and I am following [Hal Higdon's Novice 2 program] in order to prepare for my first marathon. My goal, like many runners, is to run the marathon in less than 4 hours.
It seems like everyone is telling me to not worry about pace, and that running slower is fine. Higdon says that in training runners should "do their long runs anywhere from 30 to 90 seconds or more per mile slower than their marathon pace." Every other week in the Novice 2 plan has a medium-length run at pace (for me, 9:09), but that's it. And after reading the post on [easy runs] it seems like I'm supposed to run those at the same pace as my long runs. This worries me, because I don't see how training at 30-90 seconds per mile slower for almost all of my runs is going to prepare me to run a full marathon (6.2 miles than I will have ever run before) at my goal pace. | Does running almost all of my runs at 30-90s/mile slower really prepare me well enough to run at my goal pace for an entire marathon? |
t3_fnb9w | relationships | I think Ima Rebound guy, What should i do???? =\ | So I've never been in this position before and if anyone can relate or share your experiences/advice I'd really appreciate it.
Aight so my friend recently broke up with her BF of 2 years (he broke up with her because of long distance issues) I come into the picture and through a series of IM's and txt we find out we are both mutually attracted to each other.
We wound up having sex 20 or so times in the course of 4 weeks, tons of passionate kissing, embracing, and lots of snuggling/sleeping over. Come last night she tells me that she still has feelings for her BF and it isn't fair to me, so she wants to stop sleeping together.
Now I've obviously developed feelings for her and I've already confessed how i feel. She had a mixed response of still liking her BF and saying she felt bad. Now I 100% want to get this to work because i'm head over heels for her now, and would do anything. (she's basically my dream girl)
I think the main problem is that she still needs time and needs to work out her feelings, but i don't want to miss another opportunity (All my relationships have been missed opportunities that could have worked but i was too chicken to ask the girl out and another guy came in)
A little back story, She has only had 2 boyfriends and I've only had 1. She's 24 and I'm 25. I'm a very attractive guy and she's made it clear, but i just have really high standards and don't date around. She moves around a lot and wants to leave the country to find a teaching job next month (hence rushing to tell her how i feel)
Any advice would be much appreciated! I basically know deep down i'm not going to be interested in anyone else for a long time and will patiently wait to see if she will turn around. Is this just a hopeless thought? I once was in the friend zone for 4 years with another girl =( | Girl breaks up with her long distance BF of 2 years and rebounds with me, She confessed her feelings for her ex last night. Honestly I'd do anything for this girl, how should i go from here? |
t3_vwj56 | AskReddit | What's your biggest sh*t your pants moment? I'll start. | I was standing on some (very active) railroad tracks taking pictures of the crossing sign with the sunset in the background. I was already on edge since I'm paranoid about being on traintracks because I'm a bit of a railfanner and I'll spend hours on YouTube looking at train accidents and how messed up they can be. So anyway, at this particular crossing, you could see a good mile down the tracks each way. After a few minutes I heard some train horns and turned around to see a pair of really bright headlights coming right at me. I nearly shat myself running off the tracks, camera and tripod in tow. Turns out it was just a car on the dirt road right next to the tracks. | I was on some traintracks taking pictures when I heard train horns and turned around to be blinded by what I thought were the headlights of a train but were really just a car's. |
t3_5334p1 | relationships | My (26M) girlfriend (23F) won't let me take her underwear off? | Hi everyone. I'm using a throwaway as my girlfriend is also on reddit.
We've been together for 9 months and our relationship is great, we've never had real fights, we're both very affectionate and communicate well. However there is one thing that I noticed and I'm not sure if I should bring it up.
Our sex life is great, she's not shy, she likes being naked as she has the habit of walking around my house naked after sex or after taking a shower, and she's always been very open sex-wise. But whenever we start having sex and take our clothes off, the moment I touch her panties, she insists she takes them off herself and throws them on the other side of the room, or just says she needs to use the toilet and comes back in the room completely naked.
I'm not sure if I'm overthinking it or if there is any reason to be worried. | girlfriend will not let me take her panties off myself, insists on doing it herself even if she's very open sexually and not shy at all |
t3_26fmnl | relationships | Me [27 M] dating her [32 F] for 3 months, she's still on Match and dating websites | So, I'll break it down real quick. We met on Tinder, hooked up, and have been dating for 3 months. The first few 'dates' were pretty much meeting up and messing around, and I'll admit, I wasn't sure where it was going. I liked her and was infatuated. I found her extremely sexy and attractive.
Over the past couple of months, we've been going out more, getting to know each other, she unknowingly dropped the L word on accident and now she's introducing me to her friends and wants me to meet her parents. She's performed funny/gross bodily functions (ahem.. both ends) in front of me. She's told me she feels she can be herself and is super comfortable around me. She even invited me to her friend's lake house for memorial day weekend. All good things, right?
I really am starting to fall for this woman. I love being together with her, our sexual chemistry is incredible. She's labeled me 'best sex ever' status. So there's that.. We're not official but exclusive. She confessed a month ago that she went on a date, and it was awful. She's not one to play games, she's very straight forward and made it clear she despises being lied to and liars.
So... I got curious and dusted off my Match.com profile and found through the search tool that she has been 'active within the past 24 hours'. Now, A: I know. I shouldn't have done that. It's not wrong, but it's stupid. I am not a smart man. B: I'm wondering why she's still on it. Just out of curiosity.
Is this normal? To hang onto your profiles and check them, even though you're seriously dating a man/woman? Could it be for attention? Insight would be enlightening. | I have been dating this woman exclusively for 3 months. She still has been active on her Match.com profile. Cause for concern? or just getting inside my own head? |
t3_z7keu | relationship_advice | Unsure what [18/F] wants from [19/M] | We've known each other for nearly a year and have been just nothing more then friends. Recently we both developed an interest in each other. We started seeing each other, showing more affection and talking more.
Over this past week she has acted different leaving me uncertain. After confronting her she said she loves getting to know me and really really likes me as a friend but has to work out some stuff and it isn't fair for you to deal with that and she hopes we can still hang out.
To me, this means many things but suspected I'm being Friendzone. So I asked her if that's what she wants and she said "For the moment, but I never like to rule anything out".
I assumed she needed time to herself but then her friend said she was friendzoning me and I should get over her. I don't trust this person completely, but it does have me thinking.
I'm uncertain on her wants and do not wish to question it more to come across clingy or add more stress to her. I'm very interested in her and wish for it to work but do not know how to deal with it. IS there any advice? Should I ignore the friend? | Developed a start of a relationship well and now uncertain of her wants due to "some stuff" and meddling friend makes me confused. |
t3_5121i4 | tifu | TIFU by going go kart racing | Today was my friend's birthday party and we went go karting with 6 friends. We bought 2 races, one to get the hang of the handling, and kart, and the other for the race between us. We get all the instructions for the race (what all the types of flags mean, when and how to use brakes, and all that) and get in our karts. We finish the first race and start messing around until the second race starts and get in our carts.
This is where the FU happens. We are on the second lap and trying to pass my friend, let's call him V, when he spins out. Me, having no time to react, crashes into him. Me without realizing what happens, I see employees running towards us. I realize that they don't stop the race for a little crash and look infront of me. My go kart is literally on V's kart. The employees help us out with the incident and ask if we're hurt and all of that. One of the people says, "From my angle I saw his head get hit." V says he's alright and they continue.
After they are making sure we aren't hurt, they proceed to tell us that the crash was unacceptable and we aren't allowed to race anymore, because of safety. We got out and the race continued as usual. Still feel bad AF for V and still apologizing for it. Should've passed when I could've. :( | Went go karting, crashed into friend's kart and managed to get my kart to hit his head, got kicked out of race. |
t3_4d60xu | tifu | TIFU by sharing science notes with my grade and making everyone think I'm gay (I'm not) | So around a year ago I was making notes for the second unit (a chemistry topic) in my school science class. The entire grade pretty much takes the same course, by the way.
The unit (I think periodic patterns or something) was really boring so I just found some notes online from a girl studying the same course (an international standardized course) and copied them in for my work-in-progress compilation. I didn't really need to read them anyways because I already understood the topic.
Anyways, a year later - three weeks ago, actually - we start prepping for our final exams. Naturally, I share my entire unit note revision compilation (roughly 30 units in chem, bio, and physics) with the grade on our Facebook page.
Like two days later I get messages from friends congratulating me on coming out of the closet. Some were surprised and some said they "knew all along". I'm guessing at this point word got through most people in my grade. Yea... well I'm not gay.
So, basically, it turns out that the unit 2 the notes I copied from online (which I hadn't looked at yet because I was studying Physics first) had multiple mentions of how "I" (the girl who published it) was gay, what it was like being in the closet (seriously... in the middle of fucking chemistry notes), and at one point giving an analogy between coming out as gay and properties of noble gases. It was the shittiest fucking analogy ever. | got lazy when writing notes, copied some from online, those notes had a shit ton of references to the author being gay, shared the entire notes compilation with the grade, got outed as being gay. |
t3_ypwm3 | relationships | Is it unreasonable that I find gf's desire to sleep with 2 guys at once a total turnoff? [29M, 27F] | So we [29M], [27F] were watching something stupid on tv, and the topic of threesomes came up. She asked me if I had ever had one, I said no. She hadn't either. I then asked if she would sleep with two guys at once, and she said, "Yes, if the circumstances were right."
Now I've dated girls that have that fantasy, but this girl actually wants to do it. I let her know that I wasn't interested in taking part in this and she said, "yea I don't know if I would want you to be a part of it." Like seriously, wtf?
Anyway, I did ask her the question, so i can't be mad about the response, but is it unreasonable for me to be totally turned off by this? Am I being a prude? Now I feel like I'm holding her back from something, as I am not an eligible participant apparently. I just envision her with two guys at once and it grosses me out.
What do you think? | I'm not comfortable with girlfriends desire to fuck 2 guys at once. We've been together for 3 months. Un reasonable? |
t3_16gtti | offmychest | I think I'm a terrible person | So a friend of mine came home for the holidays, after being away for school. She doesn't seem to like it at her school, and just doesn't seem happy anymore. She talked about how she doesn't really have any friends there, and didn't really have anything positive to say about her life over there. Some of my other friends noticed that she's kind of withdrawn and quiet now, and suspect that she might be depressed, so they start making plans to include her in everything and make her feel better.
This is where I start to feel terrible. I've felt like this for almost 3 years now, since high school, when I saw my friends everyday, and no one noticed. I've spent so much time thinking about how life would be easier if I was dead and stuff like, well whatever no one gives a shit about me anyway. It was my senior year, and went from being a straight A student, to getting Cs. I ended up spending the free blocks in my school schedule talking to a mental health professional that the school had contacted to talk to me (after my teachers got concerned that something was wrong). My friends never noticed.
And now I kind of resent them. I hate it but all I can think is: what makes her so special? Why didn't you guys try to help me? What did I do? I know my friend is hurting, and I get it, but I'm so jealous that everyone cares so much, that I don't want to help.
Sorry I kind of rambled. | All my friends are worried about another friend who they think is depressed, but none of them gave a shit about me when I was depressed and I'm jealous and I suck. |
t3_2grzye | relationships | Dating: I [19 F] have been friends with my dude friend [20 M] for a year, but I feel like he's giving signs of something more. | My friend and I met on OkCupid while trying to find people to hang out with/date/whatever when we both moved to our college town about a year ago. We've been friends ever since.
A while ago, he tried to kiss me while we were smoking, and I said no. He was cool with it, and we didn't talk about it again.
We're hanging out a lot more now that he lives closer to campus. We were talking about dating in general, and he said he's stopped having casual sex. He and I also agree that "going out" often isn't really a thing we're into; we both, as introverts, just enjoy spending quality time with an S.O. That night, we literally just talked, ate pizza, and listened to music for seven hours.
A couple of nights ago, we were talking about how much fun we have together. He was like "you're a lot of fun to hang out with", then asked to hang out again tonight (we're going to open mic night at a local bar/coffee house).
We're both the type of people who like seeing a person maybe once a week since we both need recovery time from socializing, so wanting to see someone twice a week is out of the norm for both of us.
When we met, he was either looking for friends or a hook-up. Now he isn't hooking up, so it's not like he's propositioning me for casual sex or anything. We've cuddled a few times before, but never did anything beyond that.
I like him as a friend, but I also *like* him. I really enjoy spending time with him, too. Does anyone have any input as to what this all means? I'm kinda spectrum and I suck at reading signs. | Dude friend seems interested and I'm interested, too, but don't want to be presumptuous. I suck at reading signs, so I have no idea what to think. Ideas? Thoughts? Suggestions? |
t3_qwpqv | AskReddit | How do you cope with being in your 30s and having a hot bi-sexual wife? | My story is that I am in my 30s years, am straight, and I am married to a hot bisexual wife. I have been in numerous threeways from this unfortunate circumstance. I now facing myself often kissing two girls at the same time, and I have no need to have sex with prostitutes.
I am unfortunately starting to feel happy all the time and very not depressed. Doctors can't seem to treat my happiness.
Now, starting only from about a month ago, for whatever reason, I have stopped worrying about all these constant threeways. I work full time for a high-end salary, but I love my job and when I am not working I am usually having sex with my wife and one of her girlfriends.
I am an attractive man by any measure. I am extremely tall, and atheltic. I therefore tend to look down with pity on people that are short and ugly, and not having sex with two women at the same time.
Long boring story aside, how many other redditors have surrendered to the idea of constant sexual bliss? How does this make you feel and do you believe it to be genuine? For me personally, I would much prefer to let shorter, uglier people dedicate the rest of their lives to doing something good like curing a disease or discovering new things about the human brain than wasting years in vain to snag some woman who probably won't be that into them. | 30+ years old and stuck in a life of sexual bliss. For those of you have taken this path, please share you stories/advice for a fulfilling existence. |
t3_470xqd | relationships | Is my [34M] marriage [32f] over? | Where do i begin? We have been together for almost 11 years and married for 4. I have a 14 year old from a previous relationship that I have custody of and we have a year 6 old child together. I hate the way she talks to them. She yells at them at the drop of a hat. This person had to audacity to tell our 6 year old that she ruins everything. She apologized but still who does that. I feel like she hates my older child even shes has been in her life for as long as the child can remember.
My wife constantly complains about everything. She does have a full time job but she goes out of her way to not cook. Now before i catch shit about that i work 7 to 430 m thru f and night classes m t w 530 to 9. We have sex maybe 3 or 4 times a month. Its mostly boring because she likes whats she likes and is unwilling to do anything differently although to her credit she will put lingerie on once in a while. I suspect if it was up to her, we would fuck once a month. We literally have arguments about it once every financial quarter because i get fed up.
The first time we argued about it, i told her i felt lied to because before we moved in together we had sex all time to which she replied that she didnt lie we only hung out on the weekends so it only seemed like that. She goes to bed very early (8pm) every night (weekends included). Shes 32 year old. We argue a lot. Mostly because im angry at her due to the lack of sex. I suggested counseling and she refused, she saying that it would a waste of time because she thinks I wouldnt listen to a therapist. I suspect that she doesn't want to go because therapist will tell her things she doesn't want to hear about herself. | my wife and i dont get along. She complains alot and we dont have sex alot. She doesnt want couseling because she doesnt think it will help. |
t3_v6o0b | dating_advice | First real dates and am unsure about timing. | I'm a 22F and he is a 29M. I've never really gone on real dates before because my relationships have always come from friendship first, so I'm not sure how to proceed.
We've known each other for a while through a friend, but just recently started talking more sometime in the last 2-3 weeks. I asked him on a date, he accepted, and we went out for coffee. Everything seemed to go really well (good conversation, no awkward silences, etc). We have different main interests, but are able to keep up conversations and talk about different things, that type of deal. He said afterwards he had a good time.
I asked him on a second date a few days later and we went to dinner for an hour at somewhere I thought he might enjoy based off what I had learned about him. After dinner finished, we went for dessert. Again, great date, got along, found more things we could talk about, had a good time, etc.
We talked this week, and while he's had a good time, he's not sure yet about whether he's interested or not. He didn't seem opposed to a third date, but he was busy this weekend. He has said he'd be fine meeting my friends, and seems to enjoy my company, but can be a bit unreadable. I've initiated light physical contact, and he seems fine with it, but he hasn't reciprocated yet, maybe because he's still not sure.
I'm having a hard time reading him, so I'm not sure how to proceed for the third date. Since I've asked so far, should I be the one to ask him on the third date, or is this something I should wait for him to do? I don't want to come on too strong and come off as needy/going too fast, but I don't want to accidentally make him think I'm not interested anymore either. Basically, I don't want to ruin anything and am unsure about timing. | New to dating, went on two dates with a guy, had a good time, but he's not sure yet. I'm not sure how to proceed appropriately in terms of who asks for a third date. |
t3_11vcjp | relationship_advice | [18/f] Should I do it? | My ex who is still my best friend broke up with me after a 2 year long distance (online) relationship soon after my first semester in college started. Now he has a new girlfriend who lives closer to him, and I feel happy for him. At the same time, I'm still torn from the break up, especially because we tried again and it didn't work out. Now, around the time we broke up, my friend from high school who goes to the came college as me (18m) broke up with another friend of mine. I've been considering asking me out, but the only things that are holding me back are
1. I haven't really talked to him in a while.
2. Last time I saw him, I looked like shit.
3. I don't want to hurt his ex.
4. I still have some feelings for my ex.
5. My fear of rejection and fucking up again due to my possible clinical depression.
Should I go for it? Cause I have ALOT going on in my life.. and this can either fix things or ruin them... | I am still heartbroken and I'm unsure if I should ask this kid I haven't seen in a while out. Should I do it? |
t3_41x6ny | relationships | I (24f) inherited a large sum of money. Now my boyfriend (24 - dating 4 years) resents me for it. Is the relationship doomed? | Hi reddit
Sorry for my English, it's not my first language.
My boyfriend and I have had a stable relationship for the past four years. My grandfather passed away and I inherited a large sum of money. My boyfriend already disliked the fact that my parents are financially well-off (both hard working people with good jobs who invested wisely over the years). He says he can't respect me anymore because my life will be easier than his because of this money. I understand his reasoning but I am still hurt by his comment. I'm still studying and intend on working full time and he knows this. I feel guilty even though this situation was beyond my control.
We used to pay 50/50 but now I pay about 80% of the time and I'm fine with that but he's not. I'm at a loss..
I feel like this relationship is doomed. So I guess I just want some advice from people who have a partner that has more/less money than them and how they manage this issue.
Thank you! | I inherited a large sum of money and now my boyfriend can't respect me anymore because my life will be easier than his. What to do? |
t3_1defvr | AskReddit | Reddit, What is your biggest secret? | Sometimes you just need to let go of your secrets, I am here to listen.
Just to be fair here is my biggest secret:
-When i was 14 i was at my friends house with a bunch of people, her step father asked me to come down stairs to cut his hair & i did. After i was done we went in his bedroom so i could have a smoke (i wasn't allowed to smoke around the younger kids) He kept asking to see my tits, i refused. He came up to me & pulled my dress off me & began to touch me, then it escalated until he was raping me. (I don't know why i didn't yell or fight back, i was just so ashamed & i didn't want my friends to see me like that.) Later his wife & my friend found out, they thought i seduced him. They then would call me all the time just to tell me i was a whore. They would go on facebook & tell the guys i liked or had started a relationship that i was a whore & had STD's. | My friends step dad raped me while my all my friends were upstairs. His wife & my friend found out & harassed me. Now I'm scared to make friends. |
t3_18wgil | relationships | [M25] Looking for advice on deciphering relationship with [F23] - concerned with deciphering the difference between being happy together and being in love. | I want to know if you guys truly believe in true love or of the media has desensitized me to believe that it can exist. I like my girlfriend, a lot. She is beautiful, smart, the relationship is easy etc. We have been together for six months. I just don't feel like I am in love with her, that I miss her when I'm not with her and that I want to spend the majority of my time with her. And it is driving me crazy. I can't figure out why I don't feel it and I think maybe I am just being ridiculous. | I want to know this subreddits opinion on the availability of true love vs. being with someone whom you get a long with and making it work for the long term. |
t3_i4ntz | AskReddit | Hey Reddit, my car engine seized-up. What now? | I paid off my car 12 months ago and last night the car lost power and wouldn't start again. I had it towed to my mechanic's shop and he discovered that the engine had seized. The car is a 2005 Pontiac G6 with 120K. My options are to: 1) sell it to a junk yard; 2) donate it; 3) drop in a used engine; 4) drop in a rebuilt engine; 5) store the car for a while and worry about it later.
My mechanic is having someone else come look at the car tomorrow for a second opinion and estimate. Right now, a used engine of the same type would cost ~$3k and a rebuild w/ 12 month warranty would cost ~5k.
All the non-OEM work that I've done on the car has original-owner lifetime warranties and since I stopped buying GM OEM replacement parts for the car, the replacement parts have last without failure. As for the current engine, it's always been serviced as recommended by GM. | = I have the title to a 2005 G6 w/ 120K and the engine seized last night. What do I do with that car, especially since I refuse to buy another brand new car. |
t3_2pir01 | relationships | I [26M] was getting intimate with this girl [27F] for the first time and she asked me something no one has before | A little history first: We've been seeing each other for the past couple weeks after she asked me out. We both are sex positive ane open, discussed our kinks on the first date. Found out we are pretty much into the same stuff (Awesome!). We agreed to explore playing switch as we're both used to being the Dom/Top.
So, things started getting hot and heavy. While making out, she starts to take control, gets on top, and places her hand around my neck. I'm totally cool with it, but she quickly stopped and apologized for not checking with me first. I reassured her that I was enjoying the moment and that I'd pipe up if I were uncomfortable. Then, she asked me a simple question that blew me out of water. "How do you like to be touched?" I didn't know how to respond. No one has ever asked me that, hell, I've never even asked myself that. She's too sweet though, moving us right past this bump and asking that I think about it later. The rest of the night, and next morning, went great (even though I'm still fighting some confidence issues from my ex).
I've been thinking about her question. I don't really know where to start. In the past, my pleasure came from my partner's pleasure. Always focused on my partner, even if we were doing things I was interested in. My world has been turned upside down (rightside up maybe?) and I don't know what to do.
My apologies if this seems a little unorganized. I'm better at explaining mechanics than discussing my feelings. And thanks in advance, everyone. | my partner asked, "How do you like to be touched?" No one has ever asked me that, and I'm not sure where to even start. |
t3_2qaz0c | relationships | [26 F] How to get over personal/professional embarrassment around coworkers/supervisors? | I'm in the middle of medical training. I suffer from a history of depression and anxiety (no meds, no therapy) and am a type A personality to the extreme.
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Right now we've got a minor reprieve for the holidays, but I begin again soon. A few months into it I managed to get overwhelmed by all my work and had four really bad crying spells. I mean like, full on ugly cry, hyperventilating, inconsolable, choking level crying. It was pretty much an "I'm completely overwhelmed and can't escape this situation" triggered reaction. I also did not feel supported by my immediate supervisor, which I'm sure contributed (I know, I need to grow a thicker skin). I then switched medical settings (natural progression of the teaching, not forced) and had no issues in this new setting, but my embarrassment over the situation before is lingering.
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I'll soon be in a new setting surrounded by people who know about and/or witnessed my previous spells (some of who act quite juvenile and may comment on it). I am mortified and ruminating on the shame of being seen as weak and unprofessional and unstable. If I had my way I'd simply drop all contact and never see them again, but obviously this is not feasible. I have my to finish this to ever get to the career I want.
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Any words of wisdom or techniques or solutions to quash some of these feelings? They're eating at me quite badly the closer the new period gets. | I got emotional and acted completely unprofessional in front of people I wanted to look professional and well-composed in front of. How do I get over this embarrassment and move forward? |
t3_2o8huw | relationships | I (22f) don't know if I should tell him (22m) this or not | I had sex with one of my guy friends once. We hung out for three hours, which now I realize is a HUGE commitment and chunk of his time. He said that we were friends first and sex second. He also said he assumed we would hang out without the sex more than with the sex.
I broke things off with him when I found out he had spare time, but waited for someone to ask him to hang outm . I had told him earlier I wanted to see him before break. I freaked out and said we shouldn't have sex anymore since he didn't make time for me and it made me feel used.
He agreed and apologized for not having much time.
Anyways, I was thinking of thanking him for the three hours and how I know now what it means... But I'm not sure | thinking about thanking my ex fwb for spending such a large chunk of his time with me since I realize he doesn't have much time. |
t3_2x9ez2 | relationships | Me [26F] have question about social media etiquette regarding past relationship pictures, stories, tags, etc. | I am a 28F in monogamous, stable marriage, the marriage is fairly recent, but the relationship has been long term. I won't go into those details because it is not exactly pertinent to my question. Me and my husband are both going to graduate from grad school and looking for jobs and as a result I've been cleaning up my social media forums and updating my resume and all that.
My husband and I both had relationships, lived it up before me met and, even for a period after we were going out. I have been fairly strict about my social media sharing, I have my settings on FB very restricted and my friends do not tag me in anything without my permission. This was in part because of my need for privacy and my need to segregate my personal life from family and professional interactions. My husband on the other hand has pictures of him doing NSFW things (no nudity, no obvious politically wrong things) mainly just inappropriate touching of people and obvious drunken pictures at parties. He is not tagged in many of them but these pictures are not hard to trace back to him. He is very lax about FB and does not use it very much and thinks this is not a big problem.
I am not jealous in any way about all of this, he had a life before me. But I am concerned about his overall image. Since we got married he has been closer to his extended family, many of whom are fairly new to FB and ask personal questions on his wall or comment on these questionable pictures wanting to know what is going on. I have also had potential employers find me on FB and ask to verify if that profile is mine and I wouldn't want him to lose out on opportunities just because he hasn't been smart about tightening up his privacy and security settings.
I also find it kind of unpleasant to have trashy pictures of his making out with previous girlfriends show up on my feed on those ridiculous #tbt things. Legitimizing our relationship has brought us into contact with a lot of extended family who we were not in touch with before and its just exhausting dealing with the questions about whether our marriage is okay when these pictures resurface every few Thursdays. | Teach me the ways of social media etiquette, past partying is catching up with sedate married life and an attempt to find better situations for ourselves. |
t3_28te7m | askwomenadvice | Can any good come from showing hubby my nude photos? | I went to italy with 2 of my girlfriends-- we had a great time. As a goof we went nude at the beach-- not just topless, full nude! In an alochol induced lapse of judgement we had some guys next to us take some pictures of us posing and smiling full monty naked (we were very buzzed), with everything showing. The worst photos show us together in an inflatable raft rubbing tanning lotion on each other--very silly and humiliating. Unfortunately some of them show us rolling around and showing crotch views only an OBGYN should see.
My friends husband found these photos on her camera (a whole other story there--they have trust issues). I told my husband about this in the spirit of full disclosure, and he was very upset about the situation...that my nude image is controlled by this guy. Some of the poses are not the most dignified, and I would prefer he not see them, but he is ABSOLUTELY demanding to see them.
Can anything good come from him seeing them, or should i refuse? | friends hubby saw my nude photo from vacation with the girls, now my husband wants to see. They are kinda bad. Do i show him? |
t3_1ylccy | legaladvice | [Bosque County TX] Appearing in court for failure to provide insurance, but have no registration | Hi, I bought a Ford Mustang in August '13 in California (licence based in CA too) from a private seller and never registered it. In November '13 I moved to Louisiana and did a country road trip to bring the car to my new home at February '14, figured I'd transfer the title and register it in the new state. While I was crossing rural texas I didn't notice the speed limit dropping and there was a cop in front of me. I got pulled over for speeding [TXTRC 545.351; 545.352] (warning) but got a ticket for no insurance [TXTRC 601.191; 643.253]. | If I show up in court with a pink slip, and proof of insurance will they give a new charge of no registration? |
t3_3g4bum | jobs | opinion on hr agent | just got a new job and have to clear a background check before i can officially "begin" work. My tentative start date is 8/17.
But i feel like my hr contact has been handling things rather strangely (and unprofessionally?)
She emailed me at 930AM last friday (no warning, only unofficial offer 4 days prior) telling me to come in at 11AM to sign the offer letter.
orientation begins this monday BUT I still need to clear background check before starting.
Today I ask if i should expect to start on monday and she says "still in process. Will inform you early next week"
can I clarify this with her?
"could you elaborate further" or "should i expect an email/phone call on monday morning"?
or would it be rude | Hr lady at the new job gives me little prior notice about start date. Should I clarify with her about being contacted early monday morning about starting work? |
t3_1fbxvl | relationships | My[20M] best friend [23F] is slowly ruining her life | Posting from my phone, so the format may be off. Pretty much I've known this girl for almost two years now, we talk daily. In the past we have had a long distance relationship, being as intimate as you possibly can be over the internet. This has always been on and off. Recently though, she has become depressed after breaking up with her recent boyfriend, has begun smoking, and isn't making good choices. She seeks the attention of one Guy who only wants her for her body, and yet even after she constantly rejects her, she still jumps at the chance to go drink with him and some friends because "we have nothing in common but he's cute."
I learn all this, get told all this, and she hates what she does, but continuously does these things, falling for guys, becoming intimate very quickly, and then getting hurt. Now she is just at a worse time, and we are several thousand miles away, so all I can do is give words of encouragement and re-assure her that I love her. She loves me as well, but does not want to roll with the long distance at all.
Is there anything I can do differently? Even though I'm far away, I am her closest friend, and it kills me to see all of this happening. I feel like she is slowly killing herself(after telling me last Saturday that she feels like she will die soon which seriously has made me worry) sandi have no clue of my options. If I could see her, she would change these habits instantly, it would be a wake up call, but I don't know what to do for now. :/ | best friend is several thousand miles away, from a different country. We would have a relationship otherwise, but right now she is trying to fill emotional voids and choosing poorly. |
t3_1ltxia | Advice | Shooting my first porn on Saturday. Second lined up for Sunday. That desperate. | Im sure no one will see this but i just need to vent and maybe someone will and will say something nice to make me feel better.
I lost my job in May of this year. My self esteem dropped the lowest it's ever been. I hated that job, but it paid well, and I was in a very respectable industry, with lots of room to grow and tons of potential to make lots of money. The only problem is that I have been doing it for almost 10 years now and i am and have been increasingly sick of it. So, I tried to take my getting fired as an opportunity to find something else amazing.the only problem is, I had no money saved thanks to some car and legal bullshit expenses.
Fast forward to now:after many job interviews and applications, I finally got a job a month ago, but I am waaay overqualified for it and I am bored as shit, plus so incredibly broke I can't pay most of my bills. My family has helped me about as much as they can, and I don't want to burden my friends because I don't know when I'll be able to pay them back. I am deep in debt and behind on all my bills. This week, in a desperate brainstorm to come up with rent, I decided to peruse Craigslist for gigs I could work in the evening and weekend. Lo and behold, the "talent" section.
This is something I have considered doing before - dominatrix/kink stuff mostly, and I actually already had my first client last night (he paid me $200 to smother him with my ass for an hour. Didn't even have to get naked.) But porn I had never considered before now. I like to think of myself as a very openminded sexually expressive person, and honestly the thought of being in a porno really turns me on. So here I am. On one hand I am excited, the other, absolutely dejected that this is what I feel is my best option. But at least by the end of the day on Sunday, after fucking who knows how many guys and girls, I'll have enough money to cover my bills for a month. | I was fired and had no safety net...downward spiral. Shitty job, can't cover bills, so started doing porn as only option. Feels shitty. |
t3_3d5gu6 | relationships | 26[M] here with 29[F] for 4 years. Having issues with 'ups and downs' due to shallow reasons? | Details in the subject. Obviously getting to the age where we're both considering the next level of the relationship, however, I am having issues related to 'shallow' thinking that I'm not proud of. There are days where my gf looks great and I really think "I'm going to marry this girl" and then there are days where I have trouble finding her attractive and question the relationship.
As far as I go, I'm a bit of a worrier and have a hard time taking my mind off things. I'm always comparing myself to others, and her to other women and thinking "grass greener on other side" thoughts even though my current gf is absolutely fantastic. We get along quite well and have lived with eachother for over a year now with similar very interests. Has anyone had any similar experiences? | Very attracted to girlfriend at times, unattracted at others. Feeling 'ups and downs' and wondering how to deal with them for a more stable relationship.. |
t3_nlq77 | AskReddit | Have you ever taken the blame for something you didn't do? intentional or otherwise | I was walking home from the subway station with a friend at maybe 4 in the morning. We pass by this bakery and I notice these paper bags on some boxes in front of the door. I look inside one and see a bunch of bagels so in my drunken stupor I snag a bag and carry it back to our dorm. This is a pretty hefty amount, I later found an invoice inside for $38.
So we get back and decide to stop by the common area to see if anyone is still awake. We look inside the billiards room and there are a bunch of sleeping girls in there, probably twenty girls in sleeping bags. Nothing to see so we leave and my friend asks me if we should give the bagels to them. I'm thinking we just offer them bagels so I agree but no, he takes the bag and fucking hurls it into the room and we bolt. We end up in the stairwell, he's on the next flight of stairs and I'm hiding behind the hinges of the door so I can hear what's going on and he hides on the next flight of stairs. I hear some running around in the hall and soon enough the door opens. Friend runs up the stairs and I'm stuck behind the door holding my breath. Just as I think I'm safe, this fucking clairvoyant girl looks behind the door and goes off at me, saying that my "bagels hit a human being!" I try to explain it wasn't me but she says that she saw my face through the window that first time we looked inside and points out that I'm hiding behind a fucking door. Eventually I end up apologizing to twenty random girls because she threatened to report me to campus security if I didn't. | Got blamed for throwing a bag of bagels on a sleeping girl. Made pizza bagels for the rest of the week. |
t3_lyeq6 | AskReddit | Why do straight guys get so offended by gay guys hitting on them? | Alright... Where to begin... I'm by no-means a creep, stalker, weirdo, or possessing of any straight guy fetish. I'm just your average guy who happens to be attracted to other guys. My question to you (straight guys) is... why do you get so offended and/or weird-ed out when another guy gives you a compliment, hits on you, or just comes out to you?
Lets be serious here. I'm not looking for, "Because that's so gay!" or "Faggots are too gay for me." Because I have a little info for you.. I promise some of YOUR friends are gay. Maybe I'm going about asking this the wrong way... But here's a [little] backstory... I recently came out to my best friend and he no longer wants to talk. At all. Totally disconnected from me. Blocked on facebook, blocked number, and all.
I talked to a couple of my friends and this seems to happen quite often. Just help me understand here... what is so "scary" about gay guys for you? The worst we'd do is perm your hair or teach you how to wash it properly. If anything, we make fucking awesome wingman.
Anyways, I'd love to hear some ideas.. Sorry for rage/rant, but just kinda ticked. | I'm a normal guy/faggot, came out to straight best friend, scared to be around me. Fucking faggots, why you so afraid? |
t3_34le6u | relationships | I [23M] can't wait around for my crush [24F] anymore and I'm afraid to tell her. | I've been in love with a girl for 7 months. She was unavailable for 3 of those months but we've spent the entire 7 months as best friends and most of them falling for each other.
If you asked her, she'd tell you she has feelings for me. If you ask me, I'd tell you I'm in love with her. Unfortunately she'd probably also tell you she's not comfortable with getting into another relationship yet and that she'd rather be sensible and remain friends with me than ruin what we have by trying and failing in a relationship.
She's so afraid of losing me and I'm afraid of losing her. I need her to let me go or jump into something with me, and fast. I don't wanna dump an ultimatum on her but I have no other ideas. She knows I like her, and can't let me go, so why isn't she doing any pursuing? She's flirty, affectionate, and spends time with me, but never wants to even _think_ about "more".
She's important to me, I don't want to lose her, but I think I'm going to end up doing so. How do I avoid it? | I'm in love but feeling strung along - Don't want to drop an ultimatum on her but I don't know what else to do. |
t3_ml3kk | dating_advice | Would like some advice | I have a friend, with whom I enjoy spending time with. She is smart, attractive and fun to be around. In the summer she broke up with her boyfriend of a few years. Since I had known her during the time she was dating him I had worked hard to just not place her into a romantic light in my eyes. Now I am pretty sure you can fill in some blanks here so I will skip ahead.
Anyway after hanging out in a fairly platonic context, the default setting of our interactions for the past two years, I asked if she would like to go out. I was met with silence and the conversation mostly stalled there, to add some context this was on a bus approaching my stop and she was holding a potluck later in the evening. So me being an idiot got off at my stop instead of staying on the bus to sort things out.
Now typical of me I did not find a situation I felt right to raise the question at the potluck and much to my chagrin ended up sending an email which basically just asked if she would like to go out on a date.
Now that was the course of events over the weekend, and I am fairly sure that my best course of action at this point in time is to simply wait. Allow her to respond instead of pestering or adding more to what is already a one-sided conversation.
But I of course have lingering doubts in my mind about what I should be doing, if I should push the point or argue my case or offer alternatives. I also have a belif that my best course of action is to sit and wait, to let her decide on her own what she will do with this information.
I just want some response as to what you would do or would want in this situation. | Asked out a friend, didnt get a clear answer sent e-mail now waiting for reply. Should I send another message? |
t3_146xfw | loseit | After a year long plateau, down 5.5 lbs since Thanksgiving :) | It's a small victory, but I'm glad I'm on the right track again.
I've been overweight since my mom died when I was eight and I started eating my feelings. I fluctuated for a while, until, after lots of bullying at school and having sustained verbal abuse from a live-in nanny when I was 11, I peaked at about 170 lbs at age 16. I'm 5'2", and was eating nothing but cookies, chips, and ramen at boarding school. I lost a lot of then went I went back to being a day student at a school where I was happier, but by the time I reached age 20, after two years in college, I was back up to 165. Then, something clicked. It might have been my anxiety meds finally working. Summer of last year I kicked into gear and started exercising a lot, and really watching what I eat. I kept my diet pretty low carb and tried my best to cut out sugar, and within a couple of months I was down to about 138. I plateaued after, however, and until recently I stayed at 140. I tried to go Paleo throughout the summer, but never seemed to keep it. After Thanksgiving the other week, I decided to dive in head on, and I've been pretty strict keeping a keto/paleo blend diet. (I can't give up cheese. I've tried. There's no way.) I haven't been able to exercise, apart from walking my dog, as I moved recently and have been working on my new apartment. But today, I stepped on the scale and saw that I had dropped over 5 lbs. Eating all the bacon and eggs you have.
I know this is incredibly long, but I'm just so glad I finally found something that I think can work for me long term. Huzzah! | After eating my feelings through years of abuse, bullying, and bereavement, fluctuating, then plateauing, I'm finally getting strict about doing keto/paleo and magically dropped 5 lbs in just over a week. |
t3_rp5fb | relationships | How should I handle this with my Girlfriend? | I'll try to keep it short and sweet: Me 22M GF23 been together 5 months. I have been evicted from my apartment. I asked all my friends to help me move basically just be there to keep me company, going through a hard time with the no job(have one now), dream car almost being taken away, no money struggling for everything. Not one person said yes all flaked with half ass lies.
I turn to my girlfriend and ask her to come over, she says yes just have to do something with her grandma earlier that day. Day comes she is no where to be found text her and see her read it(Imessage) no answer and not until 9 tonight i get a text saying her Iphone was stolen and had to be a new one. I understand that her phone was stolen but I haven't seen one message till tonight but I seen she has posted on facebook hours ago.
I don't wanna sound whiny but I wanted her support and got nothing from the person that said they love me. How do I handle this? I suck at arguing and getting my point across when I do. | Needed moral support from GF didn't get any texts or calls all day because her phone was stolen and had to get new one but has been posting on Facebook |
t3_2sqqwp | tifu | TIFU by joking about feminism on Reddit. | I frequent a subreddit for an online game I play, where a post on supposed "objectification of women" pops up.
The replies are mostly sarcastic so I don't see it out of place to make a joke which I (and, as evident by karma, a few other redditors) find funny.
Next thing I know, my mom is yelling at me for being an insensitive jerk and offending my aunt. I lose computer access for a week and am forbidden from playing that "inappropriate game" again.
Turns out one of my cousins who also follows the sub saw the post and liked my joke so much that he showed it to his mom, my aunt (who's a gamer herself and usually a "cool mom").
The rest should be obvious, my aunt calls mom and in a fit about the joke and my lack of discipline, and tells her to forbid me from playing the offensive game as she did with her son. | told a joke about feminism, lost computer privileges for a week and I'm not allowed to play one of my favorite games anymore. |
t3_135qbm | relationship_advice | [20f]. Boyfriend (21) snoops through my computer | I have caught my boyfriend on my computer before when I saw him close out of something on the internet really quickly when I walked in. I reopened the closed tab, and saw that he deleted someone I had hooked up with off of Facebook. I would have had no problem deleting the person if it made him feel better, I just wish he would have asked. I confronted him about it months later and he admitted that he knew it was wrong and he wouldn't do it again.
I would just like to say that we have a great relationship. There are no issues except maybe a little jealousy from both sides, but nothing too bad at all. A few days ago, I was scrolling through my FB feed and he asked who someone one, who happened to be my ex-boyfriend.
Fast forward to today. I come home from work and find that my computer had the browsing history open, which I never touch. This made me suspicious, so when I pressed back a bunch of times I found that my boyfriend went through my conversations (private messages) with my ex (of over 3 years ago), looked at his photos, went through his conversations with my friends and family members. I asked him if he went on my computer, and he said just to google something, and swore up and down and even promised that he didn't do anything else.
Now my question is: do I ask him about it? I've been thinking about it for a while now and don't want to bring it up because I hate catching people in lies. | Boyfriend went on my facebook through private messages with my ex from high school, promised he didn't, don't know what to do. |
t3_4depes | relationships | My brother (28/m) went to Europe a few years ago. Ever since he got back, he had never been the same. | My brother who had always wanted to go to Europe end up went about four years ago. He was supposed to be there for a month, but end up stay for two and half months.
When he came back, he wasn't happy to be back in USA. He went on to dumped his girlfriend and decide to not buy a house and moved out into a two bedroom apartment instead. As soon as he turned 25, he inherited the money his grandfather leave for him. He quickly quit his job and start a business.
Ever since that, he would regularly leave the country for weeks only to come back for a bit before he either leave again or have one of his European buddy over. He also often travels with a female friend from Europe as well.
On Easter day, he was at the family dinner. My mom ends up asked him what he was up to. He says he's buying a house in Europe and moving there. We couldn't understand why he choose to move there. We asked him about his goals and all that. My parents were so heartbroken to learn that he got snipped not long ago, so he'd never have kids and have never dated other American women since he got back from Europe, and isn't planning on settling down for good. He just wants to move there because he feel more at home there and would be able to travel more easily.
My family really didn't get why he would want to leave USA and are really worried about him. I'm really worried about him and my family too.
He lives in the same city as most of us, but yet he is always gone or with one of his friends from Europe. So we barely see him anymore except on facebook and occasional holiday. Now that he's going to move, it will be even rarer.
We still don't understand why he lost interest in American women and doesn't want to have a family or anything.
Is this something to worry about? Is there a way we can convince him to not make this bold move? | Brother went to Europe four years ago. After the trip, he had never been happy in USA and no longer have any American friends and spend more and more time in Europe. Now he is planning on moving there. |
t3_ol07n | AskReddit | Reddit, tell me about a "kickass" friend of yours? | Posted this simply because of the amount of comments I got for my friend "James".
I've decided to post the Story here:
I was 15. This was about 10 years ago, I had a girlfriend, lets call her Sophie, and it was my best friends 16th birthday party, lets call him Tim. The party was amazing, about 40-50 people, tonnes of beer, a hot tub, people dancing everywhere, chicks in bikinis, it was great. For the first couple of hours, I drank a little, and was in the hot tub with Sophie, talking to her, kissing her, hugging her. We had been together for about 2-3 years, something like that.
Anyway, she always said she wanted to try whiskey, and I remembered that my parents had some at my house. A bottle of Jack Daniels, as I was slightly tipsy, I thought it was a good idea to get it, so I set off. When I got there, I recieved a text from Sophie asking me how long I was going to be. I told her about half an hour. After sending the text, I realised I could get there in about 5 minutes, if I used my bike. So I did.
When I arrived at the party it was apparent that Sophie was not in the hot tub. So I searched the place. I found Tim and Sophie, having sex in Tim's bedroom. I was horrified, I loved this girl so much. I dropped the whiskey, walked out, and proceeded to cry my eyes out on the stairs. My other friend, lets call him James, comes over and asks me whats wrong. I told him what had happened, and he raced up the stairs. The next thing I see, is James punching Tim in the face, punching him in the balls (Tim's still in his boxers,) and pushing him down the stairs, James then gets everyone's attention and tells them what Tim and Sophie has done.
Tim and Sophie were made outcasts at my school, and James is now my bestfriend, 10 years later. | Came back to my best friends party to find him fucking my girlfriend of 3 years. Other friend gets mad, hits him the balls, and embaresses him infront of all the party members. I <3 James. |
t3_39ga7c | relationships | My [18M] girlfriends [17F] overreactive family is causing her to shut me out | Not too long ago, my girlfriends cousin [16m, I'll call him Chris] was diagnosed with cerebral palsy. She's always been very close to her family, so this obviously caused her to become upset.
Last week she was meant to spend some time with him, but was called into work so wasn't able to. Normally, she picks him up from school, drives him home and stays over for a few hours. She couldn't pick him up so she contacted his dad, who said it was "No problem." and that was that.
She got a number of texts and calls the next day telling that that Chris had never made it home, that it was her fault, wasting his and Chris' time. She was at a uni open day, so all this happened in public, making her feel even worse. This ended in a full blown argument between both sides of the family, and ended with no contact between any of them.
She told me all this at the weekend, but since then we've hardly spoken. She always seems to be in a rush to leave whenever I stop by to see her. We both have work deadlines next week so I'm hoping that it's just stress related, but she's never acted like this before. I'm not sure how to go forward, seeing as there's nothing I can do about the situation. | GF couldn't spend time with cousin, so uncle yelled over the phone and cut contact with her family. She's now avoiding talking to me. |
t3_4t21hh | relationships | Me (26/f) and my ex-fiancee (27/f) just broke up 2 1/2 months ago and she just got married. | So my ex fiancee and I were together for almost two years. She told me two days ago that she got married. She married this girl who she met a month ago. My ex told me just by looking at her (the now wife) that she found her "forever person" so she decided to marry her. Although I appreciate her telling me she got married so I wouldn't find out by mutual friends or social media, but all the other details were a kick in the gut.
I'm still in shock due to the fact that when we broke up, we also lived together for two weeks after and during that time it seemed we had gotten close again. When I confronted her about what that meant afterwards, her response was "I felt it too but I can't look at this, it's too late to go back". Now just a 8 weeks since that happened she's married to someone else, someone she just met!
For some reason though I can't stop thinking about why and how she could just ignore what happened those last days between us and just move on so quickly. I don't want her back, but I can't seem to stop thinking about her either.
If anyone has any advice I'd really appreciate it. | Ex-fiancee together for almost two years, broke up 10 weeks ago and she got married to a girl she barely knows 2 days ago. In need of some advice on how to let go/move on. |
t3_3lsl05 | Advice | Studying abroad in Germany in 1 week but I don't feel ready at all, really in need of advice. | So I'm supposed to go to Berlin, Germany to study communications design (I wanted Illustration but communications design was the only option taught entirely in English). My mother is basically really pushing this on me. I'm supposed to leave in exactly 1 week. We haven't figured out housing yet, I'm taking a course that will probably feel useless given that it's more of a tangent subject to what I'm really interested in, and I don't even feel mentally prepared for the kind of culture shock + the idea of being immediately financially independent and responsible for myself (something that I've always been terrible about), I also have pretty acute social anxiety. Basically, the ONLY reason why I have to go is because I will be getting financial support. If I really decide not to go without a valid reason, my mom would basically kick me out. I need to figure out how to convince her that I need more time (I could easily postpone enrollment to the next semester in spring).
It's entirely her decision and not mine, which really scares me. | Studying something I'm not excited about nor prepared for just because my mom is in a hurry to get rid of me |
t3_4ggb2t | legaladvice | Speeding Violation | I need some help from the people of r/legal advice in fighting a ticket.
At 2:10 am I am less than one mile from my home. I am caught going a speed of 42 mph up a hill marked 30. At the top of the hill is a police officer who had just finished handing out a ticket. By the time he decides to begin the next ticketing process I had already slowed, turned the corner, and begun down the next road. We were separated at the intersection by a light. At the end of the street I had turned onto was another stop light. I came to a complete stop and then after beginning my way down a now 40 mph marked road was I finally signaled to pull over. | Can I get pulled over two street (.25 miles) later on a 40 mph street for doing 40 in a 30? |
t3_s0dpc | relationships | Considering a FWB situation... (X-post from relationship_advice) | Link to [original discussion](
I started seeing this girl about a month ago. We've had a lot of fun, and it's stayed quite innocent so far, but she's awfully flirty (lots of touching, laughing at my dumb jokes, lots of talking about sex, etc), which makes me think she's interest in more than just friendship.
Additionally, we were chatting the other day and she mentioned some guy that was really into her, and how he "didn't just want to hook up," and how she isn't really looking for a relationship right now, which seems to suggest that she is looking for a FWB sort of situation. She then proceeds to continue her very touchy, flirty behavior towards me right after saying these things.
I'm moving in a few months, and will be far too far away to continue any sort of relationship, nor do I really want anything too serious right now for myself. I'm considering asking her to hook up, but it's not really something I've done before and I'm not sure how to go about doing it.
I enjoy hanging out with her; we've had a lot of fun in the past month or so. I'm trying to find a way to ask that won't be too... how do I say... off-putting. I'd like us to remain friends, but fooling around would be a lot of fun.
Does anyone have suggestions on good ways to go about this? I'm not sure if it'd be better to ask in person, over the phone, text or FB message, etc.
I've been leaning toward a FB message, since I can sufficiently explain my idea but with minimal investment from either of us. It'd be easier for her to just ignore it, too, rather than bringing it up in a face-to-face conversation, in case that's not what she's really into. What are your thoughts? | girl is flirty, neither of us want a relationship, how do I ask her to hook up in a way that maximizes my chances of maintaining our friendship and hooking up? |
t3_48qzba | relationship_advice | (28/m)My long term girlfriend(23/f) is diagnosed bipolar and has recently started using marijuana to self-medicate, with negative effects. | We've been together for 4 years. She's had various but very mild psychological issues over the years and I've always suggested she see a counselor. She finally agreed to start counseling last fall. She's been diagnosed bipolar and is receiving medication. She's seemed to do better once it started.
Shortly after the beginning of this year, she made friends with a dealer and has began replacing her meds with smoking weed almost every day. She claims it works better for her than prescription meds, but she's now displaying a plethora of new and more concerning symptoms. Insomnia/visible exhaustion, loss of appetite/weight loss, delusional thoughts/hallucinations, poor hygiene, excessively late for work, and various other causes for concern since she's began smoking regularly. She's in the middle of grad school right now and has an internship working as a counselor herself with clients shes solely responsible for.
She's been incredibly distant of late and has began a variety of risk-taking behaviors. Any time we are together, she's basically a walking zombie. I have no problem with casual and responsible marijuana use, but its all she talks about and seems to be taking over her life. She has been through a phase with heavy marijuana use a few years ago during summer break while not working, but she had very few symptoms at that time(compared to now) besides some risk-taking behavior and mild depression. She came out of that pretty easily once classes started and after we had a few talks.
I've been struggling to make any progress with her these past few months. She refuses to acknowledge her marijuana use may potentially be causing an interaction with her medication or her existing neurochemical imbalance. What's the appropriate way to approach this? | GF has started smoking weed to deal with her issues, now has a plethora of far more severe issues and refuses to acknowledge weed may be the problem. |
t3_3qr9zg | relationships | Me [18M] and my ex [18F] broke up 1 month ago 1 week into uni, and I'm seriously regretting it, HELP! | Hello,
Bare with me, this is my first post on here. I have decided to post here after having the same discussion with my friends but they do not seem to understand the situation as well as I hoped.
Me and My ex were together for 4 and a half years from the age of 14. We did everything together, life was great and I would like to think that we truly loved each other. The final year of our relationship was ruined by arguments about uni and what will happen there and after uni. It pushed us both apart and it made us become very distant.
After starting at uni, in all honesty I had such a great time even after 6 days. I started to think that maybe I didn't need her in my life, not in a horrible way but I felt more independent when she wasn't around me. One argument lead to another and we ended up breaking up over the phone, which she didn't take very well as you can imagine and it really affected me.
I regrettably had one girlfriend after her but it wasn't really the same, me and her never had the spark that me and my ex had. Everyday passes and I miss her more and more, I hope she doesn't have a boyfriend but at the same time I hope that she is happy and I wouldn't want to ruin it. I am really struggling to find life as satisfying as it was when I was with my ex, now that the novelty of independence is wearing off, I am starting to realise that I may have made a ridiculously stupid, rash, idiotic mistake.
Someone please help me, I don't know what to do. Should I contact her? her birthday is coming up soon. We said we would stay friends but (this is going to sound really childish) she has unfriended me on Facebook and unfollowed me on Twitter. I thought the feelings might pass but they grow stronger every day.
Thank you! | After being with my girlfriend for 4 1/2 years, from the age of 14 to 18. We constantly argued about the future and what would happen at and after uni. |
t3_1kcpep | running | Help choosing a target pace for a half marathon a month out, please? | I'm running the Newport Liberty half marathon on September 22nd. This will be my second half marathon, I did the same one last year in 2:34. I've now been running for a year and a half with a few minor breaks this year, but roughly 20mpw on average. Kind of a low base, I know, but I goofed up earlier this year. I'm okay with just finishing this race again, though any improvement over last year will be great.
My 5k PR is 30:36, though the fastest I've been able to do since that is 32:00. I've been doing my long runs by myself and at a purposely slow pace, about 12:00 minute miles. I want some gas in the tank at the end of them. My long runs are also very hilly, whereas the course is flat. Last weekend I worked up to 9 miles, which took me 1:48, but that was taking it fairly easy.
I've pushed hard in 5k races, but I haven't really pushed hard at longer distances. Today I did 4 miles in 41 minutes and only stopped at 4 because I have to get ready for work. I definitely could have kept that 10:30 pace up for 6 miles and possibly for longer.
I'm not concerned about having any gas in my tank at the end of the race. I'm definitely in better shape now than I was last year. But I am wondering if I'm setting myself up for total disappointment if I set out too fast, or if the disappointment will be in going too slow.
I'm glad I will have all winter to work on things like this in preparation for my first full marathon in the spring, but that doesn't help me with this race. Maybe you guys can! | I'm trying to pick a target pace for an upcoming half, choosing between 10:30 and 11:30 min/mile but my long runs are 11:30 to 12:00 min/mile on easy mode. |
t3_tipkb | AskReddit | A lot of my coworkers and I are wanting to go to the labor board over unpaid overtime wages. Before we go I'd like to know if we're in the right. | I work at a fast food franchise that was recently bought by another company, in California. My girlfriend also works for the company but at another store as a manager. A couple weeks a go she worked 48 hours in one week the other week she worked 38 hours. On her check all she received was 1 hour of overtime. This happened to quite a bit of people at all the stores. There's 3 in my city. This isn't the first time its happened either but now everyone is fed up. Because the company says that they will not pay anything over 40 hours. But that they will be back paying everyone back up to the April 17th. Also one pay period about a month ago these douches paid everyone at my store only half there check. We got paid the rest like 3 days later. Yesterday one of my coworkers confronted two owners of the company while they were at our store. The two claimed to be mostly ignorant but that they need to make some phone calls. About an hour or so later. The area coach and another higher up chick came and talked to my coworker privately saying things like you don't have your facts straight and stuff like that trying to intimidate her. Should we go to labor board? | company doesn't wanna pay for overtime. Owners were confronted about it. Sent some chicks to intimidate coworker who confronted them. |
t3_4brtlf | relationships | I (31,m) don't think my wife (29f) should be giving relationship advice based on our relationship. | No throwaway, cause fuck it.
That title may have sounded harsh, but I actually kind of mean it in a positive way. My wife and I met when she was 19 and I was 21. As far as relationships go, ours has been amazing. We were officially married last October on our 10 year anniversary...
However, we really beat the odds. We met about a week before we attended a mutual party, slept together that night and moved in together about 3 days later and we've been living happily living together since.
This brings me to the issue at hand...
She had mentioned a friend of hers had been asking for advice on their relationship and my wife was very much "follow your heart, just look at us!"
I mentioned that what we did probably wouldn't work out for the vast majority of people, moving in after knowing each other for a week? At our ages?
I don't regret a single thing, nor would I change anything. I'm just realistic enough to know that we really beat the odds.
I was her first serious relationship and she was my second, and I think she has got a little bit of a distorted view because we essentially won the relationship lottery and I feel like she may accidentally encourage a big move.
The other day she off handily mentioned that said friend had been dating for six months and couldn't believe they weren't living together. That it probably wasn't a good sign for their relationship...
When I explained that's what most couples do, she genuinely seemed confused as to why.
Let me just add that she's not dumb, she ls brilliant. She's very successful and smart as a whip....I just know that if someone asked me for relationship advice, the last thing I'd do was draw from our situation....
She did get a little miffed when I mentioned that, and her response was one should "always follow their heart" which isn't bad to say, I guess.. | I don't think my wife should use our relationship as a basis to give advice on, what worked for us is probably not going to work for the next couple, especially considering the friend is several years younger. Am I wrong? |
t3_15zifq | self | I need a list of interesting individuals to research for a HS English class | My mother is a high school English teacher and she's having her ninth grade students (ages 15-16) do a fairly extensive research project on a (famous) individual who has impacted more than one field. Basically, she's trying to get them to really dig into the life of someone interesting.
The criteria are that the person has to have impacted more than one field (musician/philanthropist or artist/author kind of thing counts), that they were born between 1750 and 1950, and that there is a **sufficient amount of material available to research their life**.
Every year she gets a lot of projects on Elvis, Marilyn Monroe, Babe Ruth, Johnny Cash, Michael Jackson, and she gets bored. This year she wants to generate a list of possible subjects that are a little more unique. So, if you know of any figures that might fit the bill and liven up the project, please list them here.
(Good past projects have been: Carl Sagan, Shel Silverstein, Frieda Kahlo, Jules Verne, Andy Warhol, Maya Angelou)
**( | I need interesting people to research, please list ideas. Artists, authors, politicians, activists, scientists, athletes, entertainers, etc.) |
t3_1t1or5 | AskReddit | Does anyone know of any websites or anything were I can get an old beat up antiques to restore? | Ok so I'm trying to get my dad something for Christmas. He is in his 50's and due to a string of accidents at work and medical issues, he is no longer able to work and has been out on disability. My dad has never been the type of person to sit around, he's worked his whole life and is incredibly handy. However recently because he hasn't been able to work he has been very bored and I can tell he's a little depressed to. He needs a hobby and recently he has been fixing up the old brass fan that he's had lying around forever. He loves shows like American Pickers to, so I figured getting him something he could work on and restore wold be perfect and I know he'll love it. However I have no idea where to get such a thing, so any suggestions would help. Also anyone who does anything similar to this and can suggest a type certain type of item that is fun to work with, that would be great. We live in a small home so old antique furniture won't really fit anywhere, so anything kinda like the fan would be ideal. Thanks! | Dad can't work, likes to restore old antiques, suggestions of types of antiques to restore and where to acquire them needed |
t3_4bsja6 | relationships | My [20sF] family are foster carers and have been looking after a baby for 6 months. My Mom [50sF] will be crushed when he leaves. What steps can I take to prepare her/ us? | We've been looking after a baby [10 months old] for 6 months now. He was physically abused by his parents and placed into emergency care with us.
We've had him through Christmas and birthdays, and all of us have become increasingly attached to this little bundle of joy. My Mother especially, probably due to the fact that she is the primary care giver.
We've fostered many children in the past but none this young or with futures so uncertain. Chances are when all the court proceedings are finished, we'll never see him again. There's a small chance of contact if he gets adopted, but there's also a large possibility he'll go back to his family.
We've all spoken briefly about how badly we'll all feel the loss when the baby finally gets re-homed, but I was wondering if there are any measures we can take in order to soften the blow slightly. The feeling of being unprepared for an inevitable loss is really taking it's toll on me.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated! | Fostering a child, he's due to leave in the next month or so. Need tips of how to soften blow of inevitable loss. |
t3_104vt1 | AskReddit | What excuse would explain away 3 years of joblessness? | I have had issues in the past with holes in my job history. I'm hoping to rejoin the workforce coming back from my biggest hole yet. I have been unemployed for a little over 3 years. I left my last job to return to school, but was able to get unemployment for awhile because of some technicalities. School didn't work out, but I didn't immediately try and find a job, I must admit enjoyed not having shit to do. After a while I found that there wasn't much out there in the way of jobs and the ones that were seemed to have a problem with the fact that I hadn't worked in the past couple years. I'm sure if I gave them a decent reason, they would maybe have considered me for the job. I've thought about it a lot, and come up short every time. Help me out reddit? What kind of excuses would be good to explain my crappy work history? | I'm a lazy fuck who hasn't had a job in 3 years, what excuse could help me land a job?? |
t3_246rrr | relationships | My (25m) significant other (19f) seems to be forming a strong non-sexual (as far as I'm aware) but very affectionate relationship with another man | Hi r/relationships, I could use some advice.
My partner and I have been together around 9 months. We used to post to r/gonewild a lot, both together and just as her. It never bothered me that she received messages and replied to them and flirted with other men because it was open and there was no deceit.
I recently found out that she has been sending messages to some of her 'fans' from another Reddit account that I don't have access too (found out as she left it logged in on my iPad), specifically so I can't see the messages - she says that in her messages.
There is one person in particular who she talks to a lot, most days. As far as I saw there was nothing very sexual in her messages (just him complementing her on her r/gonewild posts), but they were very affectionate toward each other. He would say how he hoped they could be together one day, how much he misses her, she said that he's one of the few people that she feels she can talk to and feels comfortable with.
For full disclosure, we had a problem a few months back that I was chatting explicitly to other women via social media and it almost caused the end of our relationship. I'm not proud of it, and I'm doing everything I can to make it right.
So what do I do? I haven't confronted her as she's more than entitled to have a friend I don't know about and speak to them in confidence. Should I be worried? Maybe she's trying to get back at me?
Let me know what you think. Thank you for reading. | My SO seems to be in the early stages of an emotional affair with another man and I'm not sure how to react. |
t3_1tce1m | relationships | I'm single by choice [24 M] and my platonic friend [23 F] she wants something more, the feeling is not reciprocated, how do I diffuse this bomb? | I've been working with this girl for about a year and a half, let's call her Kathryn, and we've always been good friends. We're both nerds, have all the same interests - and from the time we met she's had a boyfriend, so there have been no romantic pressures - just two people being friends!
Well, 2 months ago she broke up with her boyfriend, and ever since then she's become obviously interested in me.
The other day I was bullshitting with her as I often do. I made some comments about how the new women that got hired at our office are really hot and I'm going to 'try and mack on some of them,' just being somewhat facetious. She got mad over *something* (wouldnt tell me why she was mad) and went out for a cig.
Later that night a mutual friend of ours talked to me, telling me I really crushed Kathryn, "broke her heart." Apparently she has this huge thing for me that I always figured might have been there but was in denial about because I don't want anything beyond a platonic relationship.
Kathryn is surely not my type, I do not want to have any kind of romantic relationship with her whatsoever and I know that will never change. However I really want to keep her as my friend! I haven't talked to Kathryn about it but now there's this weird elephant in the room we're going to have to kill and I don't know how to go about it.
How can i diffuse this bomb without having it blow up in my face? | Girl is into me romantically, I do not feel the same way about her but want to remain friends without romantic pressures. What do? |
t3_1di42t | relationship_advice | I [24m] am feeling a pit in my stomach, like I'm forcing this new relationship with [25f]. Is it doomed? | We have been dating exclusively 2 months.
In the last week, something changed for me. I don't know if my feelings dropped, or things felt more serious, or what...but I'm suddenly feeling a pit in my stomach and dreading seeing her/talking to her.
Is the relationship over?
I don't know what brought it on. The only thing I can think of is, we started way too fast and intense, and maybe now that's catching up with me. Maybe my emotions can't play "catch-up" with my actions, and my gut is trying to make up for it. We became exclusive very quickly and started sleeping in eachothers' beds every single night within the first month of meeting eachother.
I don't really know what to do here. I don't know if I should break up with her, because I do like her, but if this feeling doesn't go away, I don't really see another choice.
She is also leaving for Europe for 1 month on Sunday, so I'm hoping that month apart will help me clearly see my feelings/what's going on. | I feel like I was enjoying this relationship, then suddenly my mind is racing and I feel like I need to get out. Where is this pit in my stomach coming from? |
t3_28hvcj | relationships | Boyfriend [m/27] told me [f/24] he's a commitmentphobe. | Hi /r/relationships, looking for some insight or thoughts.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 8 months. We met online and everything was so amazing at the start. Similar backgrounds, similar lifestyles, grew up in the same area. Things were amazing and I met his family within about a month and a half of dating. Met his friends before that.
Anyway, for the past few weeks / months, I've felt less important to him. He's been stressed with work stuff and so I did my best to be understanding and give him space. But I finally had to tell him that I no longer felt all that special to him, and that I felt as though he prioritized his friends over me sometimes. We see each other about 2-3 times a week, but we typically just have sleepovers and watch TV or movies. No real 'date nights'. I also want to mention that I do a lot of sweet little things for him, picking up little treats or gifts for him, and I don't get that in return.
So I bring these feelings up to him and he says that he's too stressed trying to make everyone happy and he doesn't really offer any solutions. I used 'I' statements, not 'you' statements and tried to focus on working together to get back to being secure and feeling cared for. I should note, we haven't said any 'I love you's.
He came out and told me he was a commitmentphobe, and said he was sorry but didn't really resolve to try anything and didn't really explain. He did say he felt pressure from his brother getting married this summer and wouldn't be ready for that anytime soon. Which is fine, I haven't forced any talks about that stuff.
What do I do? I need to meet my own needs, and I don't like feeling insecure in an 8 month old relationship. Everything was so easy at first and I'm willing to work on things, but he admits to being introverted and emotionally distant and says that that's just how he is. | My boyfriend of 8 months says he is a commitmentphobe and I don't feel all that important to him. What do? |
t3_1s5p2r | relationships | Me [28 M] with my amazing gf [23 F] 3mo, she went travelling for 6 weeks | I was just wondering what the experiences are of those of you who at some point got 'left behind' when your SO went travelling. I wasn't really stressed about her leaving, she'd planned it before we got together and we haven't been together that long.
I was telling myself 6 weeks is not that long. But now, even though I really do have a full life (studies, job, friends, hobbies), I already miss her way more than I thought I would and she's only been gone a couple days yet. To me it's a sign that well, I'm really in love :D But I do catch myself concentrating on the missing part, which I don't really want to be doing. My question is how did you guys not concentrate too much on that, especially those of you who have a full life and *should* be able to not do that? | Girlfriend on 6 week vacation, although I'm a very busy guy, still missing her more than I thought. Any tips? |
t3_1qhown | relationships | How can I [M23] trust anybody again after she [F23] abandoned me? | I [M23] was with this girl [F23] for a little over a year, and things seemed to be going fine. She left me a little over a week ago out of the blue, despite the fact that everything seemed to be perfect. She hasn't given me a concise explanation.
So far as I can tell, she left because she wanted to go have fun and drink and be young. She said she loves me and that she couldn't stand the fact that she always looked for conflict...that she wasn't ready.
But she's started seeing a guy she works with, so she's obviously ready for a relationship, she just doesn't think I'm good enough..and she still feels the need to lie to me.
Someone has sent me pics of her messages, and she has been telling our friends that I'm crazy and that her new bf is better for this reason and that reason...it's completely destroyed my self confidence
How am I supposed to get over this and trust people again? | My gf did the same thing to me she claimed to be so afraid of having happen to her..how can I ever trust someone again? |
t3_zg5wc | running | I strained/tweaked my hammy last night playing ultimate...I have a 10 miler Saturday... | I play ultimate once or twice every single week and haven't hurt myself in awhile. In the past 3 weeks for some completely unknown reason I have been lackadaisical with my dynamic stretching not wanting to take the 10 minutes to do it (FUCKING KARMA ARRRGH).
I have a tough mudder on Saturday...10+ miles, 30 obstacles...I was just slowly running and cut towards a disc and felt a strong twinge (not really a snap) in the middle of my hamstring area. It never hurt so bad I had to fall down or get helped off the field, but I waited 2 throws till a turnover and subbed out.
So, within an hour I had a big ice pack on it, took some Aleve, and Icy Hot a couple hours later when i went to bed. This morning it started pretty tender, the first time up my 3 flights of steps I could really feel it, second time not so much. Now I'm sitting here with ice on it again. I've tried some very light stretches, only hands to my knees kind of thing.
For Saturday, I'm running the Tough Mudder with my dad and brother (both very slow...dad used to run 4 marathons a year and 50 milers so now he's got titanium hips). If this was a plain old 10 mile trail race I would finish 25 minutes ahead of them, so I will be able to maintain a slow pace. What stretches/rehab/drugs should i do over the next 48 to be able to start this run and get warmed up enough that going slow I won't immobilize myself? | strained/tweaked a hamstring last night, what can i do (stretching/icing/drugs/etc) to maximize my ability to run a 10 miler slow with my dad and brother on Saturday? |
t3_1g1fdh | relationship_advice | Is it wrong for me (25/m) to be mad at her (22/f) parents? | My girlfriends parents don't like me at all. They actually hate me and make fun of me and my family. I've done nothing to make them feel this way. They believe I'm fake and that I am a bad influence on her (letting her eat meat is one of them). I've tried my best to let them know I'm not a bad guy and that I love their daughter.
This has been going on for over a year now and I feel like I am done dealing with her parents accusations. I tried to keep calm, but it looks like they won't change whatsoever.
But is it ok for me to be mad at her parents? Do I have to suck it up and support my girlfriend? It's already difficult enough on her, so why should I bother her with my anger? | Do I have the right to be mad at my girlfriends parents who treated me like dirt for over a year? Or do I shut up and support my girlfriend during this situation? |
t3_2c0v0u | Pets | what's the longest time you've ever needed to succesfully introduce two cats to each other? we're at 4 months =( | We're almost at our wit's end with these two cats and really do not want to have to re-home our new cat.
We picked up a stray in April that had been hanging out near my work, and after a brief stay at the humane society we decided to adopt her. She is a 1.5 year old female, and a pretty big girl, probably about 10lbs (in fact, she was so well fed despite being out on her own that we thought she was pregnant). She's an friendly and confident cat who loves meeting people and is super inquisitive (if not the brightest). Our other cat, on the other hand, is a bit more reserved. She is now 6 years old and more petite and timid. She's been with us since she was 2 or so and is used to being the only cat in the house.
When we first brought the new cat home, we kept them in separate rooms and used feliway spray. We then started to try to do feedings on opposite sides of a door, but during one of these early feedings they caught sight of each other and Muji (the older) immediately hissed. We backed off for a bit and then reintroduced feedings separated by a door as well as doing some side-switching so they could get used to each other's scent.
We've been working on the two of them now for almost four months, and we've gotten to the point that they can eat separated only by a baby gate without much problem. But as soon as the food is gone, the older cat will hiss and the younger cat will swat at the gate and we're back to square one.
We try to play with them every day using Da Bird so they do get some excitement (they're both indoor cats) and exercise to tire them out.
Any advice?
Has any one gone longer than this and actually had success integrating a new cat? I know it wasn't the greatest idea to try this with two adult females. | unsuccessful integration of a new adult female cat into a house with an older adult female cat despite 4 months of trying. need advice |
t3_2pvc1b | tifu | TIFU by making my mom pee herself | My mom boiled a lot of hot water, and I wanted some for tea. So I poured it into my mug and she tossed some loose tea leaves in for me.
After a few minutes, I tried to drink it but leaves kept getting in my mouth, so I looked everywhere for a strainer. Jackpot! I finally found one in a teapot ([like this] Eyes on the prize, I took it out, happy to finally have found a strainer. This is where I apparently completely forgot how they work.
Without thinking, I held it over the sink and poured my entire mug of tea into it. My mom was watching. My sister was watching. We stared at what I did for a bit, I think in disbelief, then broke into an insane cacophony of laughter and tears.
In between my family laughing and making fun of me, my mom shrieked, "I peed my pants!" We all thought she was joking but... a nice puddle was forming in the hallway. Even worse, my sister was nearby and got it on her socks.
So yeah, just when our laughter couldn't get louder, now we were practically roaring at this point. And instead of helping her wipe it up, I of course rushed here to post. I can still hear my mom cackling downstairs. She's wheezing sometime along the lines of "YOU HAVE A DEGREE!" | I forgot how strainers work and poured out all my tea. My mom peed herself with laughter. Suddenly not in the mood to drink tea. |
t3_131qn9 | Advice | Girlfriend her Friend, and Me (her boyfriend). | I was kind of unsure of how to proceed with this problem.
So he (being a few years older) drove over to her house today to give her some help on her saxophone audition music since we have tryouts Tuesday. At the time her mother was at work and she was home alone. From what she said, the tutoring went like normal, but then when she went to go take a break on her couch, a fairly small couch i might add, while they just talked.
However, from her accounts while they were talking, he became physically aroused and he began to tickle her every now and then on her side, close to her breast, and grab a little at her knees (Shes extremely ticklish) at one point even holding her down a little (he was not on top of her or anything). At this point she said she felt kinda scared that he might try to do more. She stood up and told him to just stop, and that her mom said he could only come over for a little and that he should leave, and when she asked this by her account he seemed hesitant to do so, though he finally left after being asked a few times.
We discussed this and she feels uncomfortable about the whole matter, as do I. I am a pretty good friend with him as well, and this all seems out of character for him. I do not think ignoring it is the best course of action, and my girlfriend and I want to confront him about it, though we feel that he will just think we are crazy and take a lot of offense to it. | Girlfriend's friend got a little too close, and made her feel uncomfortable while I would have been unable to assist. What do. |
t3_2q3zo9 | relationships | 19F with my 24M boyfriend of a year--I think that he is getting me something quite nice for Christmas and I don't know how to tell him not to without being a rude little git. | Hey Reddit, quick and pretty silly question...I collect Ralph Lauren clothing, which is an incredibly expensive label. I got a text from my boyfriend today asking if there was a Ralph Lauren outlet at the mall in the town that he's in for the day. He makes fun of the clothing from there quite a bit (he is a child of the deep South and I am from New England & he thinks that Ivy League culture is hilarious) in a lighthearted way, so I can only imagine one reason that he is looking for an RL outlet.
I am uncomfortable with him spending that kind of money on me. I think that he is a bit more invested in this relationship than I am; I just got him a really simple gift for the holidays (this is my first Christmas, really, since I don't have a family). How can I ask him to not get me a gift as classy as that without sounding rude or ungrateful? It just feels like a lot. | my boyfriend is likely getting me something nice for Christmas and I would prefer if he did not; how can I explain this to him kindly? |
t3_1uuvua | AskReddit | Reddit: What's one of your most memorable anecdotes from your college experience? | I have a long list of silly stories from college but this one is most memorable (I'll keep it short and sweet):
One night, my sophomore year at UMich, my dorm roommate was sick as hell so he just kept the door unlocked, as he was constantly going to and from the bathroom. All of a sudden at 3am, our neighbor across the hall (a big wrestler dude) bursts into our room. I was sleeping but woke up when my roommate yells "Willy, what the fuck are you doing?!?"
I woke up startled (as my name is also Will), only to our neighbor Willy standing near me with my desktop printer in his hands, pissing all over our floor. I was so confused as I was just woken up by this beast of a man randomly pissing on my floor. I could swear I was dreaming. Then, all of a sudden, after my roommate exclaimed yet again "Willy get the fuck out of here!", Willy causally remarks "Willy does....what Willy wants!"
Willy left our room right after that, leaving us befuddled. When we approached him about it the next day, he said that he tends to do that from time to time, but was very sorry about it. | neighbor across the hall in college randomly pissed on our floor at 3am and exclaimed in the 3rd person that he does whatever he wants. |
t3_3py0zr | relationships | Me 20M with my housemate 26M (2 years) has bedbugs how do I tell our landlord without ruining living condition | My roommate just told me two days ago that he believes he has bed bugs. He also told me he didn't really know what it was at first, and thought he had some sort of skin condition. He stated he was going to start staying over at other people's places in order to avoid the bed bugs. I have had bed bugs before, and had to have a full blown move, with chemical treatment, and all my possessions and furniture held. It was probably one of the most stressful, and horrible experiences I have had. I still get anxiety every time I get a bug bite because I worry it's from bed bugs. I am especially allergic to the bite, and they swell up to the size of a baseball.
I have tried to tell my roommate what precautions he needs to take and that he should consider calling an exterminator, or land lord in our situation (California). Especially since it has been a month or more since he has gotten them. He continues to brush me off, and tells me he plans on vacuuming his room in the coming days. Our rooms are right next to each other. I even recommended him to check his bed seams, and he brushed me off and left the house to stay at his parents last night. It's clear he has no idea what could happen, and doesn't quite care.
I really want to tell my landlord about the situation. She is an awesome land lord, and I know she will handle the situation. However, I don't know how to go about telling her, as well as telling my roommate that I will. I genuinely enjoy my living situation, and would hate to mess it up. But I also would even more hate getting bed bugs, as well as the rest of my housemates receiving them too. I know it's only a matter of time until he stays over at a friend's house to "dodge" the bed bugs, and they will come looking for the next closest food source, me. | Roommate has had bed bugs for atleast month. Thinks it's no big deal, brushes me off when I give him advice. How do I tell my landlord without ruining my living situation? |
t3_2t4dk0 | relationship_advice | advice for a (24/m)dating a a girl(24/f) who does coke occasionally | Started dating this girl 4 months ago, liked her for awhile, shes like me for a very long time also. Things are great. Very much in love, I stay over at hers frequently and its fantiastic.
However she does coke occasionally. I find that super unattractive, She knows I dont like it, and has promised to cut back/stop eventually. She also wont do it if I'm with her, knowing it bums me out to see it. Honestly though I know she does most weekends. She doesnt tell me, but its super obvious when she calls me at 5 am wanting to come over cause she cant sleep. Just looking for anyone with a similar experience to give some advice.
I had a serious talk with her post New Years about it, and she promised she would dial it back.... but shes partied at least once every weekend since. It just really bums me out cause I love this girl and I know some people who go light on the coke in the early 20s and years later they're still doin it and regretting the shit. I also realize how fucking hard it must be to go hang out with your friends, have it around, and not join in. It's not like it has had an effect on our relationship other than me being stressed. It's also her life and I cant just make demands. Anyone have experience with coke and a relationship before? | girlfriend does coke most weekends. has promised to dial it down, but it stresses me out and she hasnt changed after a month. looking for anyone whose been in a similar situation to give some advice. Thanks! |
t3_mjg09 | dating_advice | I don't want to ruin things with a new girl. I need some advice please :) | Hi guys. This is my first post, so be nice :D
I worked with a really cool girl for 6 months recently, who became a good friend. We spent a lot of time out doing stuff, but always surrounded by other friends from the office. I know we had a real good connection though. Saw her last night with friends again, and really want to ask her out.
But I'm now living two hours drive away, and we're both really busy in final year at university.
Also, I'm a little bit unstable from my last (5 year) relationship that ended recently. With my ex running off save the third world and deciding she doesn't want relationships holding her back.
I really don't want to screw things up by asking her out when I'm still too messed up from my last relationship, and also because I don't know if either of us have the time to commit at the moment.
I don't want to start something that could be amazing, only for it to be doomed from the start due to bad circumstances!
Any advice as to what I should do?
Should I go for it? Or wait? Or move on, and never know what might have been.
Thanks everyone! | Interested in really cool girl; don't want to screw up chances of awesome relationship because of long distance and personal issues. |
t3_2on7v6 | tifu | TIFU by exploding my girlfriend's vagina (NSFW) | My girlfriend and I are currently long distance for a semester because I'm studying abroad for a bit. To make up for the distance and tension, we have Skype dates almost every night and have some fun every other night.
She and I are into the whole BDSM thing, so the Skype sessions get pretty spicy pretty quickly. I tell her what I want her to do and she follows, no questions asked.
One of the things we usually do is I have her place a bullet vibrator up in her hoo-ha; these things are small, but powerful and we figured that the pleasure gained from it would be doubled if she also shoved another dildo in the mix. We've done this more than a handful of times now and never had a problem with it, until last night.
She stopped mid-orgasm to find that her geyser shot out some blood onto her thigh. She freaked out and pulled out everything and found the bullet, half of it's cord and the dildo were caked in blood. Her period had already passed, but there was something else we didn't take into account.
She had just recently had an IUD installed into her hardware (This is a T-shaped birth control thingamabob that gynecologists shove into a girls vajay to block any sperms passage into the uterus). We realized the dildo had probably sledgehammered the bullet far enough to nail the IUD further in there and possibly punctured her uterus.
Needless to say, we immediately stopped and she's going to meet with her gynecologist soon and see if there's any lethal damage.
I felt really bad about the situation and did the best I could do at the distance I was. [I made her an e-card] (It helped her laugh the situation off a bit). | I made my girlfriend sledgehammer a dildo so far up her treasure cove, she hit a sweet spot that made all her rubies spill out. |
t3_23yyd0 | relationships | My gf [22 F] of 1.75 years broke up with me [26 M], yet I hold no ill will to her. What do I say to people who might try to talk bad about her to "cheer me up"? | It's a pretty simple question, but one I feel like I need to ask because it's going to come up, especially, I fear, with my parents.
So over the last several weeks, I've noticed that my girlfriend was becoming more withdrawn from me, not really talking to me or wanting any sort of intimacy. Last night we had the talk, and while we do still care for each other, she just wasn't wanting to be in the relationship anymore and had felt that it had run its course. While it does suck on my end, there's not a whole lot I can do, and I really do think the best of her even right now. Chances are we'll see each other again, maybe even an occasional hookup if we're both single and feel like it, but our lives are going in two different directions and a relationship just isn't going to work.
But really, that's not the problem. The problem is that now I have to explain to folks that we've broken up, and I don't want to give them the wrong idea that it was a bad breakup filled with gnashing and weeping, laying in the fetal position listening to Nickleback. I really don't want people saying some bad shit about her when I mention that we've broken up, but I feel like it's going to happen when I say "We've broken up" and they'll just respond immediately "Oh man, well she sucks, you're too good for her." At the same time, I don't want to come across as being hung up on her, and that's why I'm refusing to say anything bad because that's not true. The relationship has run its course, but I literally can't say anything bad about her because there's nothing bad to say.
So, what's the best way of letting folks know we've broken up, but without giving the impression I'm mad at her or that I'm still pining after her? | GF broke up with me, I don't hate her but I don't want other people trying to comfort me by calling her a bitch, wat do? |
t3_ivkw7 | self | I was buying a Black and Mild, and the attendant/owner told me a story... | >I had a guy that used to come in all the time and buy two single black and milds.
I finally asked him "Why do you always buy two? Why not buy a whole pack?"
He told me, "One of these is for me, the other is for my friend. He died, But I always smoked with him." This went on for a while, until one day he started buying only one.
I had to ask him, "Why are you only buying one now?"
He responded "I quit smoking, this one is just for my friend."
Obviously I don't know how much of this story is true, but I found it to be uplifting in a way. | Guy bought two single black and milds regularly, only to smoke one for himself, and have one to immortalize his dead friend. |
t3_3e3nx2 | tifu | TIFU by getting a new phone number. | Today I fucked up by switching to a new phone plan and gaining a new phone number. After I received that phone number I wanted to inform all my my old contacts of my new number by sending a text to them all individually only by selecting a mass group of recipients. I sent a text stating the new phone number was my current phone number. I then forgot to state my name, so I received about 45 text messages saying "who is this?". I tried to clear things up by entering my name and apologizing into the mass recipient text but when I sent the text, here's the fuck up i didn't uncheck "group message" and so I added around 60 people to one group chat and hell awoke. My phone wouldn't stop vibrating, everyone was just replying "Why am i in this", "Remove me", "Who even are these people". It is still continuing atm and i can't get them to stop replying to it, because you can't just delete a group message. | New number, notified old friends, forgot to not send as group message, RIP inbox, can't get it to stop. |
t3_3i5zx1 | relationships | Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] 1year, how to break up with her? | So I have been with my girlfriend for a year in October and am simply unhappy with the relationship and want to break it off. The dillema I have is we have a dog together which I would take with me, and a cat which I would like to leave with her. Also we have a cellphone bill which I pay but is in her name, around 250/month, cable which we are in a contract with, then a outstanding electric bill of 700$. None of these are in my name but I don't hate her I mean she doesn't have a job, so if I cut her off financially she would most definitely be screwed, however I don't want to foot all of the bill either. What should I be responsible for, considering she has no job currently? I live with her parents and they cannot help her in anyway financially, as they make less then I do combined and can barely afford rent as it is. Also we don't hate eachother or fight but she just isn't the person I want to spend the rest of my life with so what's the best way to break things off without breaking her heart. Everything we have together I have bought, and could care less if she wants to keep it however I do want our dog as he means the world to me. | How to break up with girlfriend? We love each other but I know I can't spend the rest of my life with her. Also what should I be responsible for financially? |
t3_37xk5v | relationships | Should I [24m] invite my ex GF [21f] and her sister [23f] to my upcoming birthday at a club | This isn't really as straightforward a question as you're probably all thinking.
I first met my ex and her sister when we all worked together at McDonalds. We started dating in mid-2012 and we broke up about 10 weeks ago.
My birthday is coming up soonish and I'm planning on having a night out at one of my favourite nightclubs.
We share a lot of mutual friends who will all be invited and I'm friends with my ex's sister. We went to a McDonald's manager's training course together in early 2012 and we worked together a fair bit.
I can't decide if I should extend an invite to my ex and her sister and I was wondering if anyone had any advice on what to do. | Having an upcoming birthday at a nightclub. I'm friends with ex's sister and we share a lot of mutual friends who will be invited. Should I invite ex and her sister? |
t3_35mk83 | relationships | Am I [21F] over-sensitive, or is my bf [22M] some kind of pedophile? | I started dating this guy for almost 3 years. There have been ups and downs, but I can still say that we have a perfectly healthy and normal relationship. He's witty, fun and understanding; he's almost my first everything.
Since I am a very private person that gets very annoyed when someone touches my phone and my emails, I respect my bf's life and never really looked into his privacy. However, yesterday, when he was in the bathroom, I suddenly wanted to look for some of our photos in his phone, and started to browse his phone gallery. The newest photo was a photo of a lovely little girl (8 or 9 years old at most), in a lovely dress and flower crown. I had an "aww" feeling, especially when he has never showed any interest in neither marriage nor kids) and continued to browse the gallery. Now weird things happened: I found a lot of photos (around 30-40) of little girls (around 8 or 9 years old), in between normal photos, in this kind of style, all look lovely, innocent and angelic. They're not the kind of sick, sexual photos that pedophiles; they're the kind of photos that people would use for their wallpapers. It's totally understandable that there is 1 or 2 of them in his phone, but for 30-40, is it concerning? | I found a lot (30-40) photos of lovely little girls in my bf's phone. Is it concerning? |
t3_2nzbmo | Dogtraining | Picking up bad habits from the neighbor's dog. | I live in an urban part of my city. The way our yard is, it sits one yard to the right of our neighbor's yard. The neighbor's yard is to the right of the back of the neighbor around the corner, but on a different street's property. Hopefully that makes sense. The neighbors on the other street own at least 7 pit bulls. I don't know the exact number because they are constantly breeding them and always keep at least one of the puppies from each litter. The dogs are outside year round, never brought into the house no matter the weather or time of day. They have very little human contact. I think the "owners" are scumbags, but since my city's Animal Control and dog warden officer did very little when my neighbor's pit bull attacked my dogs and yet they continued to let it off leash to roam in our yard, I doubt they'd do anything about these dogs. Since the dogs are kept outside, you can hear them bark. And they bark at every little noise and movement. My GSD has picked up the habit of barking when they bark. I don't have a problem with him barking when people come to the door or someone is in our yard because it's a very intimidating bark, and makes me feel safer especially when I'm home alone. But now, with him barking with the other dogs, I'm never sure if it's a false alarm or something to be aware of. I try to tell him no when he does it or tell him "it's ok'" which is the signal that I've checked things out and he can relax and not be on guard. He stops when I tell him this, but it doesn't seem to prevent him from not starting once the other dogs do. | neighbors pack of dogs barking is setting my dog into high alert/protective barking mode including the middle of the night. How to get him to disregard nonsense dogs, while encouraging protective barking when actually needed? |
t3_2lkz3a | legaladvice | Searching for my Medical Monitoring Fund for Cancer Screening from the Brio Site. | Sorry ahead of time if I posted this in the wrong subreddit!
I am part of a settlement for the [Brio Superfund Site] ( for being conceived in the south Houston neighborhood of Southbend where this all took place in the 1980's. The settlement was reached in 1991 when I was 4 years old and on my 18th birthday, I went to the courthouse with my father and signed a document that started the payments I was entitled to. I remembered reading in the document that I was also entitled to cancer screenings as part of the settlement.
I have never had any information regarding this medical monitoring fund but have been receiving my annuities monthly with no issue. I have contacted the company that handles the annuities, but they have no other information besides the structured settlement payments.
Flash forward to today, My father has been diagnosed with cancer (he will be fine) and the doctors have told my sister and I that we should begin screening. My father finally dug out the document that I signed on my 18th birthday and it states:
"As further consideration, it has been explained to us that the settlement reached on July 1, 1991, subject to the approval of the court, also includes a medical monitoring fund wherein ieatkidz4lunch will receive medical examinations at no cost to him on a periodic basis with the University of Texas Health Science Center at Houston and the University of Texas M. D. Anderson Cancer Center. The terms of said medical monitoring fund have been explained to us by our attorneys."
The problem I face is my parents have no information on this. I need help on where to go next to find out more. I plan on going to the courthouse soon and seeing if my Case number is linked to any other records. I have contacted both of the attorneys, Tom Pettiette and Marty Akins, Tom has not called me back and I had to contact Marty via Twitter and his response to me was that it's been 27 years he has no information. | I am entitled to medical screening from when I was born, I am 27 and have no information other than my settlement Case Number. |
t3_mqv9i | relationships | Should I lust for girls other than my GF? | Male, 27, in a relationship for nearly two years.
I love my girlfriend to bits. We have so much in common and share a lot together. We've been living with each other since April, and we've been getting on very well.
Unfortunately our sex life has taken a dive over the past year. For whatever reason, she lost her libido completely and we've not been having sex. I, on the other hand, have a typical male libido and have started lusting over other girls such as those who I find attractive at work or random girls I see in the street.
My problem is that this makes me feel guilty and that I shouldn't be doing this if I'm in a happy relationship. Part of me wants to go out and shag loads of women (not that I'd actually go and do it; I hate clubbing, drinking and so-on, which is what my GF and I enjoy about each other).
Similarly, my lust for my GF has dwindled over this same period and I feel I'm at a crossroads. | should I be lusting for other girls like I am? Although my GF and I aren't having sex, should I still have that lust for her? |
t3_3qeqz6 | tifu | TIFU by having one leg. | So, I've been missing my leg for four years now. I've adapted quite well. I get around just fine with a prosthetic.
However, when I'm at home in my small apartment, I prefer to crawl short distances instead of going through the hassle of putting my prosthetic on. It's jut more convenient that way.
So last night we had some company over to watch scary movies, and I read everyone a few short submissions to /r/nosleep. Everyone was pretty spooked before we went to bed. Two friends of mine slept on the couch, and one of them was someone we have never had over before. So this individual had never seen me crawl without my leg on. To describe it, I kind of move like a very slow cheetah who's missing a hind leg. Like a tri-pod crawl, if that makes sense. So, I suppose it can be unsettling if you're not expecting it.
In the middle of the night/early morning, I decide to leave my room for a drink. I didn't turn the hall light on so I wouldn't disturb my sleeping guests. There's just enough light coming from the light above the sink to guide me where I needed to go. As I'm turning the corner to enter the kitchen, I see a figure and I hear "OH SHIT WHAT THE FUCK", next thing I know, I'm getting kicked in the face.
I suppose my friend recognized my foul mouth screaming back at him, because then he turned the light on and started apologizing profusely. | I crawled through my apartment without my prosthetic leg, my friend thought I was a demon and started kicking me in the face. |
t3_41jyje | offmychest | my brother is so fucking paranoid | I know thisll be unclear but I'm too frustrated to give details so here's how it went
Sitting in my room and I hear some angry yells from downstairs. 10pm.
Mom: "No I wasn't, I wasn't trying to do that at all--"
Brother: "Yes you were, you deliberately opened my door to piss me off"
Mom: "No, I did it because the cat is going to meow at my door all night unless I let her into my room before I go to sleep"
Brother: "You're just fucking playing mind games with me, you've admitted it before you're just trying to get a rise out of me"
Mom: "NO, I WASN'T, wtf are you talk--"
Brother: "If you raise an angry kid you're gonna have an angry kid mom"
Mom: "Ohhh go find another place to live"
Brother: "Yeah, *exactly*" (as if that's an argument)
*Moms leaves the argument and closes door, going to bed shortly after | My brother is a 27 year old paranoid narcissist who lives with our mom and, of all people, likes to pick on her to vent his stupid, selfish, dishonest delusions. Fuck him. |
t3_rjl9f | AskReddit | What is your best work story? | I worked at a carpet cleaning business during the summer after my senior year in high school. That experience produced many gems, here's two.
1. We show up to an elderly man's apartment for his appointment to find him watching porn on the tv with mute on. He sat and stared at the tv without saying anything while we cleaned around him, and said nothing the entire time we were there.
2. Another elderly story. We had an appointment to clean a nun's apartment. She was the sweetest old lady I've ever met, but she had difficulty moving around in her old age. While we were cleaning she disappeared for a while, but we didn't think much of it. We were about to leave we heard a faint noise coming from the bathroom. She was calling to us for help. The guy I was working with (who had been at the company for 5+ years) got out of there and left me to handle it because I was the new guy. I turned away as I opened the door to ask what was wrong. Turns out she was stuck on the toilet and needed me to help her up. I grabbed both of her hands to help her up, then one at a time while she pulled up her underwear. She said "thanks sweetie" and that was that.
( | #2: went to clean carpets, ended up holding an elderly nun's hands to help her pull up her underwear in the bathroom.) |
t3_16a7td | pettyrevenge | Be polite to your waitress. | Anyone in the customer service industry knows that dealing with demanding people day in and day out can wear on your nerves especially since people seem to treat those in a customer service position differently than they would treat anyone else (i.e., not like a human). I have my little ways of keeping my sanity while working in a very busy restaurant. There are two main things I do: 1) When seating someone, if they pleasantly say something like, "Would it be possible to get a booth?" I will probably seat them at a booth, however if they walk in and say, "There's four of us. We want a booth." in a very rude and demanding manner, I will pretend to look at the reservation book and then claim that all the booths are taken and they will have to sit at a table. 2) The restaurant I work in has the option of building your own pizza (you check off all the toppings you'd like and hand in your form to your server) but people rarely read the top of the menu which states that the pizzas start with mozzarella and tomato sauce and often select the option to get extra mozzarella cheese, not realizing it already comes on the pizza. If the table has been pleasant to me, and they checked off mozzarella, I will hand in their form as it is to the kitchen but I will not charge them for the extra cheese on their bill. If they are unpleasant, I will charge them for the cheese. It really doesn't take much. Just little impolite things and the absence of basic courtesies get to me, for example "Hello, how is everyone doing today?" followed by the response of, "I'll have a pint of Keiths." THAT, sir, is not the answer to the question I just asked. Would you ever respond to anyone else so impolitely? Probably not. | As a server, I will take petty revenge on impolite customers, and no, I don't spit in their food. I also reward polite customers and they have no idea. |
t3_32ln9j | relationships | Me [21 M] with my GF [19 F] of 1 year, she wants me to delete/u tag all facebook photos of me with other girls | Short background, my girlfriend of 1 year is fairly self concious which can be tough for me, things like me talking to a girl in her sorority one time before we met have been brought up and she then will be upset about it at me. I'm ok with this sometimes but it can also be a strain on me as she tries to make me feel bad about this or things like this.
My current question is that she wants me to delete all photos of other girls from my Facebook because she wants it to "Just be us". We both had partners before each other, and she had been in a relationship while I had not. (She has also been upset at me because I have had 8 past partners and she had 3 before me, this difference is mostly because I have been in college 2 full more years than her). So these photos are of mostly friends and some girls who I took on fraternity events who I did hook up with, while I am more ok with getting rid of those photos as I don't care about those girls, they are memories from when I went to another school. I also do not want to delete photos of my friends from that past school. She also does not have many or any photos of guys on her profile, but I'm not totally sure as I never asked her to delete these, and I don't post on social media ever really.
What can I say to her because I don't want to delete these photos, primarily the ones of my friends. Or am I being unfair because I want to keep these photos? | Girlfriend wants all Facebook photos of me with other girls gone. Is this fair or is she being unreasonable with her request? |
t3_37bx8a | relationships | My (22F) boyfriend (28M) has become selfish or lazy in bed. | We've been together four years, lived together for three.
We've always had a great sex life and he is usually very attentive to my needs/pleasure. He went down on me all the time and made sure I came when we did the deed. Lately we've been going for 3-4 days during the week without sex and then we'll have sex (or he gets off from a BJ) 5-8 times during the weekend. For instance we went from last Sunday-Wednesday without, I gave him a BJ on Thursday and we had sex Friday.
This past 3-day weekend we had sex probably 5 or more times, and I gave him 4-5 blowjobs as well to completion. The first time we had sex he went down on me (kind of lazily), but I came. The rest of the weekend he didn't- I would go down on him then he immediately wanted to fuck me, whether I was turned on/wet and ready or not. On Sunday night we began to have sex and he stopped halfway through and said he'd pick back up in the morning because he was tired from having orgasmed 3+ times within 24 hours and said it was "uninspired". Ok.
So yesterday he got another BJ and half-assed sex with me once. I'm just getting frustrated when we go 4 days without and then I get *him* off multiple times and he doesn't seem concerned with getting me off anymore. I don't know what's changed. He was kind of quiet last night too. Should I be concerned about something?
I know I need to communicate with him but we've never had troubles in this arena before, so I'm out of my element, and I don't want to hurt his feelings. I like pleasuring him so I don't want to withhold things like BJs, but geez. I want to get off as well, KWIM? Please advise me. What's going on and how do I go about remedying it? | boyfriend of 4 years used to be attentive in bed but has recently (within the past two or three weeks) become focused on only his orgasms. |
t3_4n4u0m | legaladvice | North Carolina - Real Estate Transaction/ Title Search | I'm under contract on a home (a fixer upper). I'm getting my mortgage through my credit union and they have a promotion that if you use a preferred realtor then your origination fee is waived - which is how I was put in contact with my realtor. However, she doesn't seem very familiar with the program so we've hit a lot of roadblocks now that I'm closing on a home in getting that fee waived.
The latest is the title search. The lender will only waive my origination fee if I use their lawyer for the title search. My loan officer called me 2 days ago to let me know that my realtor had ordered a title search and that the lawyer had contacted her (the loan officer) and if I wanted the origination fee waived I'd have to call him off. So I texted my realtor and told her, she said no problem. Today, I got an email saying that the lawyer that my realtor had ordered had already ordered the title search and that I still must pay him.
I did sign a paper with his name on it the day that I made the initial offer, but my realtor told me that all of those names could change (which I know, means nothing really).
As I said, it's a fixer upper. So there's been a lot of potential that I'd want to back out until after the inspection. We had the inspection, I'm asking for concession and we haven't come to agreement on those concessions. So, I'm even more irritated the the title search was already ordered because my realtor said that if I back out I'm only out the due diligence fee and the cost of the inspection fee. Now it's also the title search and who knows what else!
So, if there any scenario where I'm not responsible for this title search that I didn't want? Can I just tell him to bill me (so that I don't have to pay it as I'm also draining my bank account to close on this house)? It will be about $1,000.
I really didn't want this title search so soon, I have month until closing! | My real estate agent ordered a title search earlier in the process than I would have liked, I don't want to pay for it, do I have to? |
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