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8d0mwk | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | I am absolutely certain a dog food killed my healthy 4 year old dog, after posting it on social media and it being shared I have found out that this is not an isolated case Like the title says, my healthy 4 year old yorkie fell violently ill hours after eating a new kind of dog food last Thursday. I am absolutely devastated as i watched my friend of 4 years rapidly degrade and die. Two hours after eating the dog food she started literally squirting blood out of her butt and vomiting. I took her to the vet immediately and after 3 hours and some test done on her she was diagnosed with sudden onset acute pancreatitis. The atmosphere at the vet seemed hopeful and we were certain she would recover and i was sent home with medication and fluids. My poor Khaleesi never recovered and passed away within an hour of getting home. I was devastated, furious and certain the dog food was he culprit as it was the only changing factor. I posted on Facebook my “rant” along with the details of this food. Within the following day my post got shared over 1000 times. Six different people contacted me through private message and shared similar recent experiences with this dog food with at least one other dog dying. I am not looking to profit off of this as nothing can bring back my sweet Khaleesi, but the emergency vet visit put a huge dent in my already tight finances. I buried my dog the day after she died but I still have the dog food, i have been in contact with the dog company and they are investigating. What can I do to recover my vet bill and ensure noone else has to go through the same experience? Location: Texas,USA | dxjon84 | dxk0wrr | 1,524,017,796 | 1,524,033,441 | 14 | 22 | Does the food have an AAFCO label claim on it? What type of food is it (dry kibble, wet, raw, etc)? | Hi there, I’m sorry to hear about your pup. I’m not certain you can directly place blame on the food without testing. Also you can have your dog necropsied and liver tested for poison, heavy metals, etc. Veterinary universities in the US do these types of tests if they have an on-site pathology lab. Pancreatitis can be cases by sudden change in diet typically from higher in fat meals. A typical scenario is a sudden change in diet such as switching to a new food too quickly without a proper transitioning period, getting fatty table scraps, or into the garbage. Also bloody diarrhea may point more towards a diagnosis of hemorrhagic gastroenteritis, which doesn’t have a well defined cause yet. Patients become severely hypovolemic and dehydrated and pass from complications of severe dehydration if not for aggressive fluid therapy. It may have been coincidence that signs may have started somewhat soon after you switched foods. Again I’m sorry for your loss, I hope you can find peace. | 0 | 15,645 | 1.571429 |
8d0mwk | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | I am absolutely certain a dog food killed my healthy 4 year old dog, after posting it on social media and it being shared I have found out that this is not an isolated case Like the title says, my healthy 4 year old yorkie fell violently ill hours after eating a new kind of dog food last Thursday. I am absolutely devastated as i watched my friend of 4 years rapidly degrade and die. Two hours after eating the dog food she started literally squirting blood out of her butt and vomiting. I took her to the vet immediately and after 3 hours and some test done on her she was diagnosed with sudden onset acute pancreatitis. The atmosphere at the vet seemed hopeful and we were certain she would recover and i was sent home with medication and fluids. My poor Khaleesi never recovered and passed away within an hour of getting home. I was devastated, furious and certain the dog food was he culprit as it was the only changing factor. I posted on Facebook my “rant” along with the details of this food. Within the following day my post got shared over 1000 times. Six different people contacted me through private message and shared similar recent experiences with this dog food with at least one other dog dying. I am not looking to profit off of this as nothing can bring back my sweet Khaleesi, but the emergency vet visit put a huge dent in my already tight finances. I buried my dog the day after she died but I still have the dog food, i have been in contact with the dog company and they are investigating. What can I do to recover my vet bill and ensure noone else has to go through the same experience? Location: Texas,USA | dxjon84 | dxk6cit | 1,524,017,796 | 1,524,045,647 | 14 | 16 | Does the food have an AAFCO label claim on it? What type of food is it (dry kibble, wet, raw, etc)? | Another thing to chime in with -- acute pancreatitis can also occur if you're transitioning to a completely new food cook turkey without mixing foods. Have you spoken to the manufacturer at all? | 0 | 27,851 | 1.142857 |
8d0mwk | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | I am absolutely certain a dog food killed my healthy 4 year old dog, after posting it on social media and it being shared I have found out that this is not an isolated case Like the title says, my healthy 4 year old yorkie fell violently ill hours after eating a new kind of dog food last Thursday. I am absolutely devastated as i watched my friend of 4 years rapidly degrade and die. Two hours after eating the dog food she started literally squirting blood out of her butt and vomiting. I took her to the vet immediately and after 3 hours and some test done on her she was diagnosed with sudden onset acute pancreatitis. The atmosphere at the vet seemed hopeful and we were certain she would recover and i was sent home with medication and fluids. My poor Khaleesi never recovered and passed away within an hour of getting home. I was devastated, furious and certain the dog food was he culprit as it was the only changing factor. I posted on Facebook my “rant” along with the details of this food. Within the following day my post got shared over 1000 times. Six different people contacted me through private message and shared similar recent experiences with this dog food with at least one other dog dying. I am not looking to profit off of this as nothing can bring back my sweet Khaleesi, but the emergency vet visit put a huge dent in my already tight finances. I buried my dog the day after she died but I still have the dog food, i have been in contact with the dog company and they are investigating. What can I do to recover my vet bill and ensure noone else has to go through the same experience? Location: Texas,USA | dxkflsa | dxkisrk | 1,524,059,502 | 1,524,062,592 | 3 | 9 | Wow, very sorry about your dog :-(. In addition to what others have said i would caution you to make sure what you posted on FB only contains facts and things you can prove. You are more likely to get a settlememt of the vet bill and less likely to get sued or at least stuck dealing with their legal department and having the other depts hands tied in being able to talk to you and resolve this. | What brand of dog food was it? | 0 | 3,090 | 3 |
9g2swl | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [FL] The owner of my pizza shop is taking hours out of my paycheck for bathroom breaks and takes half of the shared tip money every week. What can I do? I've been working at a pizza place in Florida now for about 6 months and I recently started tracking my hours on my clock out sheets to my paychecks. The check is always 2-6 hours short on a biweekly payscale. I asked him about it and he said it was because i don't clock out to use the bathroom or eating my staff slice(takes like 5 mins and i work in between eating), I also recently learned that he takes half the tips and then $50 on top every 2 weeks for the fountain soda he allows us to drink. What can I do in this situation? Isn't this all considered wage theft? | e612jcz | e61d00l | 1,537,031,792 | 1,537,041,838 | 176 | 255 | As someone who has prepared Payroll for restaurants, double check that the time frame on your paystub matches the timeframe you are accounting for in your calculations. It seems silly but I can’t tell you how many times employees thought their paycheck was short only to discover when I sat down with them that they were looking at dates that differed from what was being paid on that check. | As a general federal standard, breaks of less than about 20 minutes should be paid. Also, managers/owners typically are not allowed to get a cut of the tips except based on his working the same job as someone who would typically be tipped. So if he's out delivering pizza or waiting tables, then sure, he can have his tips. And charging you $25/week for fountain drinks? If you're providing your own cup he probably has under $0.02 per ounce in it. US DoL complaint time. (Florida, so far as i know, doesn't have a DoL.) | 0 | 10,046 | 1.448864 |
9g2swl | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [FL] The owner of my pizza shop is taking hours out of my paycheck for bathroom breaks and takes half of the shared tip money every week. What can I do? I've been working at a pizza place in Florida now for about 6 months and I recently started tracking my hours on my clock out sheets to my paychecks. The check is always 2-6 hours short on a biweekly payscale. I asked him about it and he said it was because i don't clock out to use the bathroom or eating my staff slice(takes like 5 mins and i work in between eating), I also recently learned that he takes half the tips and then $50 on top every 2 weeks for the fountain soda he allows us to drink. What can I do in this situation? Isn't this all considered wage theft? | e615a9g | e61d00l | 1,537,034,388 | 1,537,041,838 | 38 | 255 | I think short breaks of 20 minutes or less are still supposed to be paid for especially if you’re doing any work related activities like answering phones. Anything 30 minutes or more is not paid but you must be relieved of all duties during that time. | As a general federal standard, breaks of less than about 20 minutes should be paid. Also, managers/owners typically are not allowed to get a cut of the tips except based on his working the same job as someone who would typically be tipped. So if he's out delivering pizza or waiting tables, then sure, he can have his tips. And charging you $25/week for fountain drinks? If you're providing your own cup he probably has under $0.02 per ounce in it. US DoL complaint time. (Florida, so far as i know, doesn't have a DoL.) | 0 | 7,450 | 6.710526 |
9g2swl | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [FL] The owner of my pizza shop is taking hours out of my paycheck for bathroom breaks and takes half of the shared tip money every week. What can I do? I've been working at a pizza place in Florida now for about 6 months and I recently started tracking my hours on my clock out sheets to my paychecks. The check is always 2-6 hours short on a biweekly payscale. I asked him about it and he said it was because i don't clock out to use the bathroom or eating my staff slice(takes like 5 mins and i work in between eating), I also recently learned that he takes half the tips and then $50 on top every 2 weeks for the fountain soda he allows us to drink. What can I do in this situation? Isn't this all considered wage theft? | e615a9g | e61i4dc | 1,537,034,388 | 1,537,046,976 | 38 | 122 | I think short breaks of 20 minutes or less are still supposed to be paid for especially if you’re doing any work related activities like answering phones. Anything 30 minutes or more is not paid but you must be relieved of all duties during that time. | he's a thief and this is all-too-common in the restaurant industry ... Labor Dept. takes forever to investigate and resolve these cases and you'll only get a portion of what was stolen back tell your boss you will turn over all records to the Labor Dept. and your local county or state labor agency and the consumer affairs reporter if he doesn't pay back what he took from you and stop the nonsense ... if he fires you, sue him | 0 | 12,588 | 3.210526 |
9g2swl | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [FL] The owner of my pizza shop is taking hours out of my paycheck for bathroom breaks and takes half of the shared tip money every week. What can I do? I've been working at a pizza place in Florida now for about 6 months and I recently started tracking my hours on my clock out sheets to my paychecks. The check is always 2-6 hours short on a biweekly payscale. I asked him about it and he said it was because i don't clock out to use the bathroom or eating my staff slice(takes like 5 mins and i work in between eating), I also recently learned that he takes half the tips and then $50 on top every 2 weeks for the fountain soda he allows us to drink. What can I do in this situation? Isn't this all considered wage theft? | e61v5m0 | e61xrmv | 1,537,060,874 | 1,537,063,793 | 10 | 12 | On an odd note I’m a beverage salesman in a different state so the pricing could be a little different but not to much. Breaking down the cost of the syrup vs what he is charging you he is way over charging. Honestly he might be charging you more then his retail for customers. $25 should be buying you around 1200 of finished product at his cost. I seriously doubt you drinking that much soda in a week. This dude is a down right thief. | You've got a lot of issues here. 1. Shorting you on work hours is pure theft. Every state in the country, as far as I know, has a law requiring employers to pay employees the agreed-to rate for worked hours. His excuse is bullshit. The solution to an employee who takes excessive breaks or otherwise malingers instead of working is to discipline the employee, not to secretly short their hours. That said, I would be damn careful to document all of your hours and breaks going forward, because this guy is likely to try to retaliate against you for complaining. Don't give him an excuse to do so. 2. Taking tips is now straight-up illegal; see below. 3. Generically reducing your pay for "the fountain soda he allows us to drink" is unfortunately *not* illegal in most states (Florida is not, to my knowledge, one of the exceptions) or under federal law unless it takes your wage rate below the minimum wage (in which case it would be considered an illegal kickback). It is, of course, highly relevant information when trying to calculate your actual pay rate and whether this job is worth keeping or not. 4. The best way to protect yourself when making complaints of this sort is to recruit coworkers to make a joint complaint. Your individual complaint is *likely* protected against retaliation by the Fair Labor Standards Act, but making a joint complaint adds the additional backstop of potentially making it "concerted activity" protected by the National Labor Relations Act. 5. Consider forming or joining a union, which provides you additional procedural protections under the NLRA. | 0 | 2,919 | 1.2 |
8azu76 | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | I haven't seen or heard from my biological father in 21 years, and I received a phone call saying that they need the next of kin to make decisions. Hi Everyone! So just a little bit of a background: I'm turning 27 this year, and my biological father has been out of the picture since I was 6. If the man was to stand in front of me right now, I wouldn't even recognize him. I have very vague memories of him. The last that I've heard was that he got remarried to someone in Vietnam and had children with her, however, he is residing in the US and have not sponsored her over here so she's still in Vietnam. So yesterday, I received a phone call from my biological father's cousin. In our culture, I address her as my aunt. Her and her husband are the only people that I know of and keep in touch with on my biological father's side of the family. I'm not aware of any other relatives on his side or even if I know my paternal grandparents. She called to tell me that my BF was in the hospital about 2-3 hours (driving) away from me (which I didn't even know he was in the US). His housemate had called 911, because he collapsed due to cardiac arrest and keeps having seizures.I thought she was calling me to tell me that he was in the hospital and was going to try to coerce me to visit, but it was a lot more than what I imagined. She said that the physician needed the next of kin to make a decision on what to do with his medical concerns, when do they stop resuscitating if needed, and when to pull the plug. I didn't know what to say. This man is a complete stranger to me. It's like me going into some hospital to the ICU, picking some random person and say I want to pull their plug. This man is someone else's husband and father, but he is not MY father. I feel like I can't take this responsibility on myself. My aunt passed on the physician's phone number to me and I called her for more information. She said that he is currently on a ventilator and that they have to keep pushing meds to prevent the seizures. His lungs are failing, and although his brain functions and vitals are stable for now, the constant seizures will continue to affect his brain. I have no personal feelings for this man. I told the physician that if I HAD to make a decision, it would be based on the diagnosis, prognosis, treatment/cure, quality of life if he survives. This is getting really long. This is the gist for the most part. My questions that I have are: * Do I have to be the one to make the decision? * Would I be responsible for his medical debt? * Seriously, what the actual fuck. What would you do?! | dx2um2m | dx3ciad | 1,523,293,662 | 1,523,309,601 | 105 | 139 | 1. "No" is a complete sentence. 2. Nope. 3. I would say "No" | If he is actually married, his wife is next-of-kin, even if she's not in the country at this time. Tell the physicians to contact his out-of-country wife to deal with this, and leave you alone, because you don't want the responsibility and you aren't really closest next-of-kin anyway. | 0 | 15,939 | 1.32381 |
8azu76 | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | I haven't seen or heard from my biological father in 21 years, and I received a phone call saying that they need the next of kin to make decisions. Hi Everyone! So just a little bit of a background: I'm turning 27 this year, and my biological father has been out of the picture since I was 6. If the man was to stand in front of me right now, I wouldn't even recognize him. I have very vague memories of him. The last that I've heard was that he got remarried to someone in Vietnam and had children with her, however, he is residing in the US and have not sponsored her over here so she's still in Vietnam. So yesterday, I received a phone call from my biological father's cousin. In our culture, I address her as my aunt. Her and her husband are the only people that I know of and keep in touch with on my biological father's side of the family. I'm not aware of any other relatives on his side or even if I know my paternal grandparents. She called to tell me that my BF was in the hospital about 2-3 hours (driving) away from me (which I didn't even know he was in the US). His housemate had called 911, because he collapsed due to cardiac arrest and keeps having seizures.I thought she was calling me to tell me that he was in the hospital and was going to try to coerce me to visit, but it was a lot more than what I imagined. She said that the physician needed the next of kin to make a decision on what to do with his medical concerns, when do they stop resuscitating if needed, and when to pull the plug. I didn't know what to say. This man is a complete stranger to me. It's like me going into some hospital to the ICU, picking some random person and say I want to pull their plug. This man is someone else's husband and father, but he is not MY father. I feel like I can't take this responsibility on myself. My aunt passed on the physician's phone number to me and I called her for more information. She said that he is currently on a ventilator and that they have to keep pushing meds to prevent the seizures. His lungs are failing, and although his brain functions and vitals are stable for now, the constant seizures will continue to affect his brain. I have no personal feelings for this man. I told the physician that if I HAD to make a decision, it would be based on the diagnosis, prognosis, treatment/cure, quality of life if he survives. This is getting really long. This is the gist for the most part. My questions that I have are: * Do I have to be the one to make the decision? * Would I be responsible for his medical debt? * Seriously, what the actual fuck. What would you do?! | dx33gl8 | dx3ciad | 1,523,301,531 | 1,523,309,601 | 52 | 139 | What state are you in? Lots of states have clearly defined legal hierarchy as to who makes decisions. Usually a legal wife would trump a child so if he’s married she technically would be the correct person. Even if you are next in line, it doesn’t mean you have to make decisions. Physicians ask you to make decisions on behalf of the patient with substituted judgment. This means what they really want to know is what the patient would want if he/she could speak. This varies based on age, religious profile, ethical values, etc. which are things you can’t know about this man. You should tell them no and if you feel comfortable you could also say you would let your aunt make decisions (if appropriate) | If he is actually married, his wife is next-of-kin, even if she's not in the country at this time. Tell the physicians to contact his out-of-country wife to deal with this, and leave you alone, because you don't want the responsibility and you aren't really closest next-of-kin anyway. | 0 | 8,070 | 2.673077 |
8azu76 | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | I haven't seen or heard from my biological father in 21 years, and I received a phone call saying that they need the next of kin to make decisions. Hi Everyone! So just a little bit of a background: I'm turning 27 this year, and my biological father has been out of the picture since I was 6. If the man was to stand in front of me right now, I wouldn't even recognize him. I have very vague memories of him. The last that I've heard was that he got remarried to someone in Vietnam and had children with her, however, he is residing in the US and have not sponsored her over here so she's still in Vietnam. So yesterday, I received a phone call from my biological father's cousin. In our culture, I address her as my aunt. Her and her husband are the only people that I know of and keep in touch with on my biological father's side of the family. I'm not aware of any other relatives on his side or even if I know my paternal grandparents. She called to tell me that my BF was in the hospital about 2-3 hours (driving) away from me (which I didn't even know he was in the US). His housemate had called 911, because he collapsed due to cardiac arrest and keeps having seizures.I thought she was calling me to tell me that he was in the hospital and was going to try to coerce me to visit, but it was a lot more than what I imagined. She said that the physician needed the next of kin to make a decision on what to do with his medical concerns, when do they stop resuscitating if needed, and when to pull the plug. I didn't know what to say. This man is a complete stranger to me. It's like me going into some hospital to the ICU, picking some random person and say I want to pull their plug. This man is someone else's husband and father, but he is not MY father. I feel like I can't take this responsibility on myself. My aunt passed on the physician's phone number to me and I called her for more information. She said that he is currently on a ventilator and that they have to keep pushing meds to prevent the seizures. His lungs are failing, and although his brain functions and vitals are stable for now, the constant seizures will continue to affect his brain. I have no personal feelings for this man. I told the physician that if I HAD to make a decision, it would be based on the diagnosis, prognosis, treatment/cure, quality of life if he survives. This is getting really long. This is the gist for the most part. My questions that I have are: * Do I have to be the one to make the decision? * Would I be responsible for his medical debt? * Seriously, what the actual fuck. What would you do?! | dx3ciad | dx34li9 | 1,523,309,601 | 1,523,302,548 | 139 | 22 | If he is actually married, his wife is next-of-kin, even if she's not in the country at this time. Tell the physicians to contact his out-of-country wife to deal with this, and leave you alone, because you don't want the responsibility and you aren't really closest next-of-kin anyway. | You are not responsible for making decisions for him if you don't want to be. However, the doctor has a responsibility to ask the next of kin. So, it may be easier for the doctor if you are willing to sign a simple document stating that you do not want to be involved. That way the doctor can turn to the next next-of-kin without it looking like they bypassed you. You are not responsible for your parents debts. The only way you could be responsible is if you cosigned on a loan or something. I really don't know what I would do in your position. Do whatever is the right thing for you. You don't have any responsibility to a parent who made a choice not to be in your life. | 1 | 7,053 | 6.318182 |
imsivh | legaladvice_train | 0.68 | I was stung twice on my arm by a bee or bees while on the clock working. Now I have to carry an epipen. I told my manager and he did nothing. Is there anything that iam entitled to? What should I do? Let me know if you guys and gals need more info first time asking a question on here. | g42kjku | g42jec8 | 1,599,270,368 | 1,599,269,672 | 364 | 48 | If this happened on the clock, the first epipens may be covered by worker's comp. Any treatment you had at the time should also be covered by WC. The only way he'd be liable is if he knew about a hive on the premises and didn't do anything about it. | What's your location? When did you tell your manager? Right after you were stung? How serious was it at the time? Were you able to get the treatment you needed or was it delayed in some way leading to damages? | 1 | 696 | 7.583333 |
sq1zfr | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | I was contacted by the new landlord that purchased my apartment building. They stated that there not going section 8 but not tenants can have an income over $72,000 a year. My income for 2021 was $72,750 but a few thousand were bonuses my employer gave out for covid relief. I’m just trying to educate myself on why this is the case and see if I have any options to stay where I am because I love the apartment and neighborhood. I live in palm beach county Florida and this is the only thing I found with some type of info about the $72,000 threshold but I’m still looking for more information to educate myself. https://discover.pbcgov.org/HED/PDF/MHI/2021%20Income%20Limits%20for%20PBC%204.2021.pdf | hwiiz9t | hwjqwi6 | 1,644,593,266 | 1,644,609,468 | 2 | 40 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | Won’t they go off Agi on your taxes? So gotta get those deductions, or the standard deduction would put you at 60,250. So you would be fine I think. | 0 | 16,202 | 20 |
sq1zfr | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | I was contacted by the new landlord that purchased my apartment building. They stated that there not going section 8 but not tenants can have an income over $72,000 a year. My income for 2021 was $72,750 but a few thousand were bonuses my employer gave out for covid relief. I’m just trying to educate myself on why this is the case and see if I have any options to stay where I am because I love the apartment and neighborhood. I live in palm beach county Florida and this is the only thing I found with some type of info about the $72,000 threshold but I’m still looking for more information to educate myself. https://discover.pbcgov.org/HED/PDF/MHI/2021%20Income%20Limits%20for%20PBC%204.2021.pdf | hwk5eao | hwiiz9t | 1,644,614,892 | 1,644,593,266 | 13 | 2 | If you have a lease then after that term perhaps expect them not to renew it. Regardless it's probably a good idea to not live somewhere people don't want you to be due to your personal achievements. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 21,626 | 6.5 |
sq1zfr | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | I was contacted by the new landlord that purchased my apartment building. They stated that there not going section 8 but not tenants can have an income over $72,000 a year. My income for 2021 was $72,750 but a few thousand were bonuses my employer gave out for covid relief. I’m just trying to educate myself on why this is the case and see if I have any options to stay where I am because I love the apartment and neighborhood. I live in palm beach county Florida and this is the only thing I found with some type of info about the $72,000 threshold but I’m still looking for more information to educate myself. https://discover.pbcgov.org/HED/PDF/MHI/2021%20Income%20Limits%20for%20PBC%204.2021.pdf | hwkl3hy | hwiiz9t | 1,644,620,984 | 1,644,593,266 | 13 | 2 | I would suggest requesting documentation for anything concerning this change. As others have stated, there are programs that subsidize rent for landlord who abide by an income cap. Generally speaking, there is a fair amount of documentation both from and required by those programs so I would suggest asking to see the terms of that program. They may or may not count your bonuses for this program, depending on the requirements/outlines or they may request a letter from your employer that those funds are directly related to COVID and would otherwise have not been paid. It depends on the program itself and their requirements. Regardless, you should have until the remainder of your existing lease, whatever that is. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 27,718 | 6.5 |
sq1zfr | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | I was contacted by the new landlord that purchased my apartment building. They stated that there not going section 8 but not tenants can have an income over $72,000 a year. My income for 2021 was $72,750 but a few thousand were bonuses my employer gave out for covid relief. I’m just trying to educate myself on why this is the case and see if I have any options to stay where I am because I love the apartment and neighborhood. I live in palm beach county Florida and this is the only thing I found with some type of info about the $72,000 threshold but I’m still looking for more information to educate myself. https://discover.pbcgov.org/HED/PDF/MHI/2021%20Income%20Limits%20for%20PBC%204.2021.pdf | hwkr1q3 | hwiiz9t | 1,644,623,472 | 1,644,593,266 | 6 | 2 | You could increase your 401k contributions enough to put your AGI under the $72,000 threshold in the future. Not sure how you could remedy last year's situation though. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 30,206 | 3 |
3lmbru | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | UPDATE #2] My wife was assaulted by my step-mother and captured it on video. Step-mother stole the phone, deleted the video and lied that she hit first, but I was able to recover the video and show the police before they left. (Colorado) [OP UPDATE #1 This will be short and sweet. This letter came in the mail the other day, and the charges against my wife have been officially dropped! To say it was a big sigh of relief is an understatement. It feels great to not have to think about this anymore. Thanks for all the advice you've given, its been really great. If I ever need to post here again I hope it is under lighter circumstances! | cv7l65f | cv7jm1g | 1,442,720,616 | 1,442,717,324 | 13 | 8 | Best outcome you could get. As an assistant prosecutor, the only thing that pisses me off more than regular crimes are when people manipulate the system to get innocent people in trouble. If that happens to you, stick to your guns and don't plead to any charges. If you can't convince the prosecutor to dismiss the case, lawyer up and go to trial at the earliest day. All you have to do to win is create some sort of reasonable doubt, and generally scumbags trying to set you up aren't going to be reliable witnesses. | How old are you wife and step mother? | 1 | 3,292 | 1.625 |
3lmbru | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | UPDATE #2] My wife was assaulted by my step-mother and captured it on video. Step-mother stole the phone, deleted the video and lied that she hit first, but I was able to recover the video and show the police before they left. (Colorado) [OP UPDATE #1 This will be short and sweet. This letter came in the mail the other day, and the charges against my wife have been officially dropped! To say it was a big sigh of relief is an understatement. It feels great to not have to think about this anymore. Thanks for all the advice you've given, its been really great. If I ever need to post here again I hope it is under lighter circumstances! | cv7i4c9 | cv7l65f | 1,442,714,222 | 1,442,720,616 | 5 | 13 | I'm just catching up to this. I'm curious what type of phone you used and the software. Hopefully you have a pin code on your phones now, as well as data backups running. Easier to do on android, but still, worth it. | Best outcome you could get. As an assistant prosecutor, the only thing that pisses me off more than regular crimes are when people manipulate the system to get innocent people in trouble. If that happens to you, stick to your guns and don't plead to any charges. If you can't convince the prosecutor to dismiss the case, lawyer up and go to trial at the earliest day. All you have to do to win is create some sort of reasonable doubt, and generally scumbags trying to set you up aren't going to be reliable witnesses. | 0 | 6,394 | 2.6 |
3lmbru | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | UPDATE #2] My wife was assaulted by my step-mother and captured it on video. Step-mother stole the phone, deleted the video and lied that she hit first, but I was able to recover the video and show the police before they left. (Colorado) [OP UPDATE #1 This will be short and sweet. This letter came in the mail the other day, and the charges against my wife have been officially dropped! To say it was a big sigh of relief is an understatement. It feels great to not have to think about this anymore. Thanks for all the advice you've given, its been really great. If I ever need to post here again I hope it is under lighter circumstances! | cv7vwn4 | cv7i4c9 | 1,442,758,770 | 1,442,714,222 | 8 | 5 | Your next step should be working on getting the charges against your wife expunged. As it is now, a background check on your wife would still disclose that the charges were filed even though they have been dismissed. An expungement will get that off the public record. | I'm just catching up to this. I'm curious what type of phone you used and the software. Hopefully you have a pin code on your phones now, as well as data backups running. Easier to do on android, but still, worth it. | 1 | 44,548 | 1.6 |
3lmbru | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | UPDATE #2] My wife was assaulted by my step-mother and captured it on video. Step-mother stole the phone, deleted the video and lied that she hit first, but I was able to recover the video and show the police before they left. (Colorado) [OP UPDATE #1 This will be short and sweet. This letter came in the mail the other day, and the charges against my wife have been officially dropped! To say it was a big sigh of relief is an understatement. It feels great to not have to think about this anymore. Thanks for all the advice you've given, its been really great. If I ever need to post here again I hope it is under lighter circumstances! | cv7q4qo | cv7vwn4 | 1,442,735,035 | 1,442,758,770 | 2 | 8 | Great update. That was a crazy story. | Your next step should be working on getting the charges against your wife expunged. As it is now, a background check on your wife would still disclose that the charges were filed even though they have been dismissed. An expungement will get that off the public record. | 0 | 23,735 | 4 |
3lmbru | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | UPDATE #2] My wife was assaulted by my step-mother and captured it on video. Step-mother stole the phone, deleted the video and lied that she hit first, but I was able to recover the video and show the police before they left. (Colorado) [OP UPDATE #1 This will be short and sweet. This letter came in the mail the other day, and the charges against my wife have been officially dropped! To say it was a big sigh of relief is an understatement. It feels great to not have to think about this anymore. Thanks for all the advice you've given, its been really great. If I ever need to post here again I hope it is under lighter circumstances! | cv7jm1g | cv7i4c9 | 1,442,717,324 | 1,442,714,222 | 8 | 5 | How old are you wife and step mother? | I'm just catching up to this. I'm curious what type of phone you used and the software. Hopefully you have a pin code on your phones now, as well as data backups running. Easier to do on android, but still, worth it. | 1 | 3,102 | 1.6 |
55f2eq | legaladvice_train | 0.71 | [California Landlord eviction laws] Father wants to evict son but mother disagrees with this action, the property is owned by joint tenants on the grant deed. Can the son be evicted if both parties don't agree? | d8ae3jz | d8akxxo | 1,475,379,955 | 1,475,397,115 | 6 | 9 | Do your father and mother own the property? Is the brother on a lease or sublease? | No. Any owner can void any current notice to vacate, and may give permission to someone to stay. If a unilateral eviction suit got to court, and mom testifies for the son "I gave him permission to stay", the case would be dismissed, because the son's occupancy would not be in violation of the law. | 0 | 17,160 | 1.5 |
55f2eq | legaladvice_train | 0.71 | [California Landlord eviction laws] Father wants to evict son but mother disagrees with this action, the property is owned by joint tenants on the grant deed. Can the son be evicted if both parties don't agree? | d8akbuy | d8akxxo | 1,475,395,069 | 1,475,397,115 | 4 | 9 | I don't know any state-specific issues that may effect things, but the answer is otherwise no. The co-tenants may take each other to court and the court may order the property partitioned, mind you, but a simple eviction will not happen. | No. Any owner can void any current notice to vacate, and may give permission to someone to stay. If a unilateral eviction suit got to court, and mom testifies for the son "I gave him permission to stay", the case would be dismissed, because the son's occupancy would not be in violation of the law. | 0 | 2,046 | 2.25 |
auc7rf | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | California] UPDATE + more questions: Just now my mother beat the shit out of my brother. I recorded audio, and also have some pictures of me and my brother being beaten / injury areas. She’s been abusive, both verbally and mentally for years now. This is a continuation of previous post, below [First Post California ​ Hello r/legaladvice, I'm back. A lot has changed since I made the original post. First of all, my mother does now have a restraining order in place, and after being fostered for about 2 weeks, my brother and I are back living with our dad, and my mother's been charged with 2 felonies and 3 misdemeanors. Now we made statements that were recorded about how she's been hitting us with things like 2x4's, wooden rods and belts for many years, and how they've escalated in frequency over the years. My dad talked with me for an hour, drilling it into me that the allegations are overexaggerated (he says they didn't happen as frequently as we said and she never used a 2x4) and he wants me to talk to my lawyer and get her to rewrite the allegations. However, I remember it happening basically weekly until I reported it, and remember that once she did use a 2x4. He says that all of this is to help save costs, but I argued that by reducing the severity of the allegations he's just trying to help her get a lighter sentence. My questions are 1. Should I contact my laywer and ask her to fix this? 2. Should saving money be my dad's main concern? (He said he doesn't want to use a public defense attourney) 3. If the lawyer rewrites the allegations, does it make me and my brother's accusations seems less legit? 4. What can I say to my dad in the event that you guys think this is wrong? He was really trying to convince me to contact my attorney and he's pretty stubborn. | eh7h39g | eh7hxik | 1,551,049,615 | 1,551,050,285 | 48 | 218 | Not a lawyer, NASocialWorker, etc. The below are my opinions. 1. Tell the truth, and stick with that. 2. Your dad's main concern should be your (and brother's) welfare/safety. 3. Recanting/reducing your statements will likely reduce your credibility, which is likely why your dad wants this. 4. No idea. If it were me I'd say something like 'mom has been abusing us and you seem to be not protecting us as you should'. I'm not saying you should say this as I don't know how your dad would react, and from what you've said I'd guess his reaction would not be appropriate or conducive to your best interest. Good luck, you've been dealt a bad hand, but know it will get better. You exhibit signs of having the strength to come through this, and I commend you for sticking up for yourself and your brother. | Please, please, please do not change your testimony. That will work against you very badly, and I'm sure your father knows that. When you get to school, tell someone what your father is telling you to do. He is trying to protect himself and your mother. Changing your story will not reduce the costs. That is a completely ridiculous statement. If he asks you again about it, just say "No." Once. If he keeps pressing you, change the subject. Just ask a question about something completely unrelated, like "Dad. Do you think you can get this stain off my shirt?" even if there is no stain on your shirt. Or "Dad, did you hear that dog howl last night?" even if there was no dog howling last night. Keep doing that. Remember, all you have to do is say "No" one more time than he says "Yes." Stay strong. Get help. Contact someone at school to let them know what your father is doing. Keep your eyes on the goal, which is to protect yourself and your brother. | 0 | 670 | 4.541667 |
auc7rf | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | California] UPDATE + more questions: Just now my mother beat the shit out of my brother. I recorded audio, and also have some pictures of me and my brother being beaten / injury areas. She’s been abusive, both verbally and mentally for years now. This is a continuation of previous post, below [First Post California ​ Hello r/legaladvice, I'm back. A lot has changed since I made the original post. First of all, my mother does now have a restraining order in place, and after being fostered for about 2 weeks, my brother and I are back living with our dad, and my mother's been charged with 2 felonies and 3 misdemeanors. Now we made statements that were recorded about how she's been hitting us with things like 2x4's, wooden rods and belts for many years, and how they've escalated in frequency over the years. My dad talked with me for an hour, drilling it into me that the allegations are overexaggerated (he says they didn't happen as frequently as we said and she never used a 2x4) and he wants me to talk to my lawyer and get her to rewrite the allegations. However, I remember it happening basically weekly until I reported it, and remember that once she did use a 2x4. He says that all of this is to help save costs, but I argued that by reducing the severity of the allegations he's just trying to help her get a lighter sentence. My questions are 1. Should I contact my laywer and ask her to fix this? 2. Should saving money be my dad's main concern? (He said he doesn't want to use a public defense attourney) 3. If the lawyer rewrites the allegations, does it make me and my brother's accusations seems less legit? 4. What can I say to my dad in the event that you guys think this is wrong? He was really trying to convince me to contact my attorney and he's pretty stubborn. | eh7i0ni | eh81czy | 1,551,050,357 | 1,551,066,876 | 83 | 144 | >What can I say to my dad in the event that you guys think this is wrong? He was really trying to convince me to contact my attorney and he's pretty stubborn. He is trying to get you to commit perjury (giving a false statement in a legal context), which is a crime in itself. One of the problems with crimes is that criminals draw others into their criminality. Your father is now urging you to commit a crime, in order to mitigate the effect of your mother's crimes on the whole family. While his intentions are probably good, he is wrong to insist that you become a criminal just because he and your mother want to escape the consequences of her own criminal actions. There is nothing in particular to say to him to convince him otherwise; that's not your job. It is your job to live as a human being with integrity; so that just means, do not perjure yourself by retracting a true statement or making new false statements. Definitely let your lawyer know what your father is saying to you. Your lawyer can bring forces to bear on your father that you cannot. For instance, what he's doing is witness tampering, which is in itself a crime. | Contact your lawyer, your social worker, and the police--not necessarily in that order--while in a safe place. Tell them that your father is trying to get you and your brother to change your testimony. What your father is doing very likely will count witness tampering, and it definitely sounds like CPS jumped the gun at returning you and your brother to your father given that in your original post you say that he *is* abusive, just not as abusive as your mother. You need to get out of there. | 0 | 16,519 | 1.73494 |
auc7rf | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | California] UPDATE + more questions: Just now my mother beat the shit out of my brother. I recorded audio, and also have some pictures of me and my brother being beaten / injury areas. She’s been abusive, both verbally and mentally for years now. This is a continuation of previous post, below [First Post California ​ Hello r/legaladvice, I'm back. A lot has changed since I made the original post. First of all, my mother does now have a restraining order in place, and after being fostered for about 2 weeks, my brother and I are back living with our dad, and my mother's been charged with 2 felonies and 3 misdemeanors. Now we made statements that were recorded about how she's been hitting us with things like 2x4's, wooden rods and belts for many years, and how they've escalated in frequency over the years. My dad talked with me for an hour, drilling it into me that the allegations are overexaggerated (he says they didn't happen as frequently as we said and she never used a 2x4) and he wants me to talk to my lawyer and get her to rewrite the allegations. However, I remember it happening basically weekly until I reported it, and remember that once she did use a 2x4. He says that all of this is to help save costs, but I argued that by reducing the severity of the allegations he's just trying to help her get a lighter sentence. My questions are 1. Should I contact my laywer and ask her to fix this? 2. Should saving money be my dad's main concern? (He said he doesn't want to use a public defense attourney) 3. If the lawyer rewrites the allegations, does it make me and my brother's accusations seems less legit? 4. What can I say to my dad in the event that you guys think this is wrong? He was really trying to convince me to contact my attorney and he's pretty stubborn. | eh81czy | eh7h39g | 1,551,066,876 | 1,551,049,615 | 144 | 48 | Contact your lawyer, your social worker, and the police--not necessarily in that order--while in a safe place. Tell them that your father is trying to get you and your brother to change your testimony. What your father is doing very likely will count witness tampering, and it definitely sounds like CPS jumped the gun at returning you and your brother to your father given that in your original post you say that he *is* abusive, just not as abusive as your mother. You need to get out of there. | Not a lawyer, NASocialWorker, etc. The below are my opinions. 1. Tell the truth, and stick with that. 2. Your dad's main concern should be your (and brother's) welfare/safety. 3. Recanting/reducing your statements will likely reduce your credibility, which is likely why your dad wants this. 4. No idea. If it were me I'd say something like 'mom has been abusing us and you seem to be not protecting us as you should'. I'm not saying you should say this as I don't know how your dad would react, and from what you've said I'd guess his reaction would not be appropriate or conducive to your best interest. Good luck, you've been dealt a bad hand, but know it will get better. You exhibit signs of having the strength to come through this, and I commend you for sticking up for yourself and your brother. | 1 | 17,261 | 3 |
auc7rf | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | California] UPDATE + more questions: Just now my mother beat the shit out of my brother. I recorded audio, and also have some pictures of me and my brother being beaten / injury areas. She’s been abusive, both verbally and mentally for years now. This is a continuation of previous post, below [First Post California ​ Hello r/legaladvice, I'm back. A lot has changed since I made the original post. First of all, my mother does now have a restraining order in place, and after being fostered for about 2 weeks, my brother and I are back living with our dad, and my mother's been charged with 2 felonies and 3 misdemeanors. Now we made statements that were recorded about how she's been hitting us with things like 2x4's, wooden rods and belts for many years, and how they've escalated in frequency over the years. My dad talked with me for an hour, drilling it into me that the allegations are overexaggerated (he says they didn't happen as frequently as we said and she never used a 2x4) and he wants me to talk to my lawyer and get her to rewrite the allegations. However, I remember it happening basically weekly until I reported it, and remember that once she did use a 2x4. He says that all of this is to help save costs, but I argued that by reducing the severity of the allegations he's just trying to help her get a lighter sentence. My questions are 1. Should I contact my laywer and ask her to fix this? 2. Should saving money be my dad's main concern? (He said he doesn't want to use a public defense attourney) 3. If the lawyer rewrites the allegations, does it make me and my brother's accusations seems less legit? 4. What can I say to my dad in the event that you guys think this is wrong? He was really trying to convince me to contact my attorney and he's pretty stubborn. | eh7m6xd | eh81czy | 1,551,053,870 | 1,551,066,876 | 42 | 144 | Keep telling the truth. You’re doing a great job in an unfair and unreasonable situation. Tell your father that you’re telling the absolute truth as you remember it, and if he truly remembers it differently, it’ll be up to the judge to decide who is telling the truth. Don’t argue with him. He’s trying to downplay things, or maybe his brain is really misremembering, either way, that has nothing to do with what *you* remember, which is all you have to tell. Keep telling the truth. Remember that you and your brother aren’t doing this to your mother, **she did this**. You are doing the right thing. If you don’t feel safe with your dad, tell people. You and your brother have a right to feel safe and be safe. I admire you for doing the right thing to protect your safety. | Contact your lawyer, your social worker, and the police--not necessarily in that order--while in a safe place. Tell them that your father is trying to get you and your brother to change your testimony. What your father is doing very likely will count witness tampering, and it definitely sounds like CPS jumped the gun at returning you and your brother to your father given that in your original post you say that he *is* abusive, just not as abusive as your mother. You need to get out of there. | 0 | 13,006 | 3.428571 |
auc7rf | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | California] UPDATE + more questions: Just now my mother beat the shit out of my brother. I recorded audio, and also have some pictures of me and my brother being beaten / injury areas. She’s been abusive, both verbally and mentally for years now. This is a continuation of previous post, below [First Post California ​ Hello r/legaladvice, I'm back. A lot has changed since I made the original post. First of all, my mother does now have a restraining order in place, and after being fostered for about 2 weeks, my brother and I are back living with our dad, and my mother's been charged with 2 felonies and 3 misdemeanors. Now we made statements that were recorded about how she's been hitting us with things like 2x4's, wooden rods and belts for many years, and how they've escalated in frequency over the years. My dad talked with me for an hour, drilling it into me that the allegations are overexaggerated (he says they didn't happen as frequently as we said and she never used a 2x4) and he wants me to talk to my lawyer and get her to rewrite the allegations. However, I remember it happening basically weekly until I reported it, and remember that once she did use a 2x4. He says that all of this is to help save costs, but I argued that by reducing the severity of the allegations he's just trying to help her get a lighter sentence. My questions are 1. Should I contact my laywer and ask her to fix this? 2. Should saving money be my dad's main concern? (He said he doesn't want to use a public defense attourney) 3. If the lawyer rewrites the allegations, does it make me and my brother's accusations seems less legit? 4. What can I say to my dad in the event that you guys think this is wrong? He was really trying to convince me to contact my attorney and he's pretty stubborn. | eh81czy | eh7iumr | 1,551,066,876 | 1,551,051,049 | 144 | 12 | Contact your lawyer, your social worker, and the police--not necessarily in that order--while in a safe place. Tell them that your father is trying to get you and your brother to change your testimony. What your father is doing very likely will count witness tampering, and it definitely sounds like CPS jumped the gun at returning you and your brother to your father given that in your original post you say that he *is* abusive, just not as abusive as your mother. You need to get out of there. | Anything u do to alter your statement on the abuse will affect judgement of it by others negatively, the overall credibility. Your father, I think u mentioned that in the previous post, has a habit of beating the both of you too, but far less often? That, and the fact that he seems to be, as other mentioned before, far more concerned with your mother's well beeing as with yours, hints at a potentially dangerous situation for u and your brother and maybe for the case against your mother as well. Your father wants to influence and pressure you and your brother, maybe even shatter ur belief in your own memories. Don't let him get that much under your skin. Trust your judgment and your gut. It has brought you this far. Obviously he has not your best interest at heart if any, if he didn't do anything in the last year's to stop the abuse. Record him too. Be wary of his intentions. Do you have any family in the states that you could go to? Ideally someone who is not aware of the abuse, and a decent human being? Beyond that: maybe someone in your school has a heart and the financial means to take you in ? Everything before foster care is a good thing. Staying in that hell is worse. If you fear for you or your brothers phisycal well beeing, foster care is a good option too. Stay strong! | 1 | 15,827 | 12 |
auc7rf | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | California] UPDATE + more questions: Just now my mother beat the shit out of my brother. I recorded audio, and also have some pictures of me and my brother being beaten / injury areas. She’s been abusive, both verbally and mentally for years now. This is a continuation of previous post, below [First Post California ​ Hello r/legaladvice, I'm back. A lot has changed since I made the original post. First of all, my mother does now have a restraining order in place, and after being fostered for about 2 weeks, my brother and I are back living with our dad, and my mother's been charged with 2 felonies and 3 misdemeanors. Now we made statements that were recorded about how she's been hitting us with things like 2x4's, wooden rods and belts for many years, and how they've escalated in frequency over the years. My dad talked with me for an hour, drilling it into me that the allegations are overexaggerated (he says they didn't happen as frequently as we said and she never used a 2x4) and he wants me to talk to my lawyer and get her to rewrite the allegations. However, I remember it happening basically weekly until I reported it, and remember that once she did use a 2x4. He says that all of this is to help save costs, but I argued that by reducing the severity of the allegations he's just trying to help her get a lighter sentence. My questions are 1. Should I contact my laywer and ask her to fix this? 2. Should saving money be my dad's main concern? (He said he doesn't want to use a public defense attourney) 3. If the lawyer rewrites the allegations, does it make me and my brother's accusations seems less legit? 4. What can I say to my dad in the event that you guys think this is wrong? He was really trying to convince me to contact my attorney and he's pretty stubborn. | eh7os8e | eh81czy | 1,551,056,122 | 1,551,066,876 | 7 | 144 | The truth is the truth is the truth! I can’t stress that enough! If you recant, you will now be branded a liar! Stick to the truth regardless of what anyone tells you! No rug sweeping for anyone, no matter their reasoning! | Contact your lawyer, your social worker, and the police--not necessarily in that order--while in a safe place. Tell them that your father is trying to get you and your brother to change your testimony. What your father is doing very likely will count witness tampering, and it definitely sounds like CPS jumped the gun at returning you and your brother to your father given that in your original post you say that he *is* abusive, just not as abusive as your mother. You need to get out of there. | 0 | 10,754 | 20.571429 |
auc7rf | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | California] UPDATE + more questions: Just now my mother beat the shit out of my brother. I recorded audio, and also have some pictures of me and my brother being beaten / injury areas. She’s been abusive, both verbally and mentally for years now. This is a continuation of previous post, below [First Post California ​ Hello r/legaladvice, I'm back. A lot has changed since I made the original post. First of all, my mother does now have a restraining order in place, and after being fostered for about 2 weeks, my brother and I are back living with our dad, and my mother's been charged with 2 felonies and 3 misdemeanors. Now we made statements that were recorded about how she's been hitting us with things like 2x4's, wooden rods and belts for many years, and how they've escalated in frequency over the years. My dad talked with me for an hour, drilling it into me that the allegations are overexaggerated (he says they didn't happen as frequently as we said and she never used a 2x4) and he wants me to talk to my lawyer and get her to rewrite the allegations. However, I remember it happening basically weekly until I reported it, and remember that once she did use a 2x4. He says that all of this is to help save costs, but I argued that by reducing the severity of the allegations he's just trying to help her get a lighter sentence. My questions are 1. Should I contact my laywer and ask her to fix this? 2. Should saving money be my dad's main concern? (He said he doesn't want to use a public defense attourney) 3. If the lawyer rewrites the allegations, does it make me and my brother's accusations seems less legit? 4. What can I say to my dad in the event that you guys think this is wrong? He was really trying to convince me to contact my attorney and he's pretty stubborn. | eh81czy | eh7vihh | 1,551,066,876 | 1,551,061,868 | 144 | 7 | Contact your lawyer, your social worker, and the police--not necessarily in that order--while in a safe place. Tell them that your father is trying to get you and your brother to change your testimony. What your father is doing very likely will count witness tampering, and it definitely sounds like CPS jumped the gun at returning you and your brother to your father given that in your original post you say that he *is* abusive, just not as abusive as your mother. You need to get out of there. | Not a lawyer. Speak to your lawyer and social worker. Tell them what he is trying to do. Record conversations if your location has one party consent. It sounds like both of your parents are incredibly toxic. Id consider seeking a restraining order on him as well. Someone else should chime in here, but would this not fall under witness tampering? | 1 | 5,008 | 20.571429 |
auc7rf | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | California] UPDATE + more questions: Just now my mother beat the shit out of my brother. I recorded audio, and also have some pictures of me and my brother being beaten / injury areas. She’s been abusive, both verbally and mentally for years now. This is a continuation of previous post, below [First Post California ​ Hello r/legaladvice, I'm back. A lot has changed since I made the original post. First of all, my mother does now have a restraining order in place, and after being fostered for about 2 weeks, my brother and I are back living with our dad, and my mother's been charged with 2 felonies and 3 misdemeanors. Now we made statements that were recorded about how she's been hitting us with things like 2x4's, wooden rods and belts for many years, and how they've escalated in frequency over the years. My dad talked with me for an hour, drilling it into me that the allegations are overexaggerated (he says they didn't happen as frequently as we said and she never used a 2x4) and he wants me to talk to my lawyer and get her to rewrite the allegations. However, I remember it happening basically weekly until I reported it, and remember that once she did use a 2x4. He says that all of this is to help save costs, but I argued that by reducing the severity of the allegations he's just trying to help her get a lighter sentence. My questions are 1. Should I contact my laywer and ask her to fix this? 2. Should saving money be my dad's main concern? (He said he doesn't want to use a public defense attourney) 3. If the lawyer rewrites the allegations, does it make me and my brother's accusations seems less legit? 4. What can I say to my dad in the event that you guys think this is wrong? He was really trying to convince me to contact my attorney and he's pretty stubborn. | eh7h39g | eh7i0ni | 1,551,049,615 | 1,551,050,357 | 48 | 83 | Not a lawyer, NASocialWorker, etc. The below are my opinions. 1. Tell the truth, and stick with that. 2. Your dad's main concern should be your (and brother's) welfare/safety. 3. Recanting/reducing your statements will likely reduce your credibility, which is likely why your dad wants this. 4. No idea. If it were me I'd say something like 'mom has been abusing us and you seem to be not protecting us as you should'. I'm not saying you should say this as I don't know how your dad would react, and from what you've said I'd guess his reaction would not be appropriate or conducive to your best interest. Good luck, you've been dealt a bad hand, but know it will get better. You exhibit signs of having the strength to come through this, and I commend you for sticking up for yourself and your brother. | >What can I say to my dad in the event that you guys think this is wrong? He was really trying to convince me to contact my attorney and he's pretty stubborn. He is trying to get you to commit perjury (giving a false statement in a legal context), which is a crime in itself. One of the problems with crimes is that criminals draw others into their criminality. Your father is now urging you to commit a crime, in order to mitigate the effect of your mother's crimes on the whole family. While his intentions are probably good, he is wrong to insist that you become a criminal just because he and your mother want to escape the consequences of her own criminal actions. There is nothing in particular to say to him to convince him otherwise; that's not your job. It is your job to live as a human being with integrity; so that just means, do not perjure yourself by retracting a true statement or making new false statements. Definitely let your lawyer know what your father is saying to you. Your lawyer can bring forces to bear on your father that you cannot. For instance, what he's doing is witness tampering, which is in itself a crime. | 0 | 742 | 1.729167 |
auc7rf | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | California] UPDATE + more questions: Just now my mother beat the shit out of my brother. I recorded audio, and also have some pictures of me and my brother being beaten / injury areas. She’s been abusive, both verbally and mentally for years now. This is a continuation of previous post, below [First Post California ​ Hello r/legaladvice, I'm back. A lot has changed since I made the original post. First of all, my mother does now have a restraining order in place, and after being fostered for about 2 weeks, my brother and I are back living with our dad, and my mother's been charged with 2 felonies and 3 misdemeanors. Now we made statements that were recorded about how she's been hitting us with things like 2x4's, wooden rods and belts for many years, and how they've escalated in frequency over the years. My dad talked with me for an hour, drilling it into me that the allegations are overexaggerated (he says they didn't happen as frequently as we said and she never used a 2x4) and he wants me to talk to my lawyer and get her to rewrite the allegations. However, I remember it happening basically weekly until I reported it, and remember that once she did use a 2x4. He says that all of this is to help save costs, but I argued that by reducing the severity of the allegations he's just trying to help her get a lighter sentence. My questions are 1. Should I contact my laywer and ask her to fix this? 2. Should saving money be my dad's main concern? (He said he doesn't want to use a public defense attourney) 3. If the lawyer rewrites the allegations, does it make me and my brother's accusations seems less legit? 4. What can I say to my dad in the event that you guys think this is wrong? He was really trying to convince me to contact my attorney and he's pretty stubborn. | eh7iumr | eh7m6xd | 1,551,051,049 | 1,551,053,870 | 12 | 42 | Anything u do to alter your statement on the abuse will affect judgement of it by others negatively, the overall credibility. Your father, I think u mentioned that in the previous post, has a habit of beating the both of you too, but far less often? That, and the fact that he seems to be, as other mentioned before, far more concerned with your mother's well beeing as with yours, hints at a potentially dangerous situation for u and your brother and maybe for the case against your mother as well. Your father wants to influence and pressure you and your brother, maybe even shatter ur belief in your own memories. Don't let him get that much under your skin. Trust your judgment and your gut. It has brought you this far. Obviously he has not your best interest at heart if any, if he didn't do anything in the last year's to stop the abuse. Record him too. Be wary of his intentions. Do you have any family in the states that you could go to? Ideally someone who is not aware of the abuse, and a decent human being? Beyond that: maybe someone in your school has a heart and the financial means to take you in ? Everything before foster care is a good thing. Staying in that hell is worse. If you fear for you or your brothers phisycal well beeing, foster care is a good option too. Stay strong! | Keep telling the truth. You’re doing a great job in an unfair and unreasonable situation. Tell your father that you’re telling the absolute truth as you remember it, and if he truly remembers it differently, it’ll be up to the judge to decide who is telling the truth. Don’t argue with him. He’s trying to downplay things, or maybe his brain is really misremembering, either way, that has nothing to do with what *you* remember, which is all you have to tell. Keep telling the truth. Remember that you and your brother aren’t doing this to your mother, **she did this**. You are doing the right thing. If you don’t feel safe with your dad, tell people. You and your brother have a right to feel safe and be safe. I admire you for doing the right thing to protect your safety. | 0 | 2,821 | 3.5 |
auc7rf | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | California] UPDATE + more questions: Just now my mother beat the shit out of my brother. I recorded audio, and also have some pictures of me and my brother being beaten / injury areas. She’s been abusive, both verbally and mentally for years now. This is a continuation of previous post, below [First Post California ​ Hello r/legaladvice, I'm back. A lot has changed since I made the original post. First of all, my mother does now have a restraining order in place, and after being fostered for about 2 weeks, my brother and I are back living with our dad, and my mother's been charged with 2 felonies and 3 misdemeanors. Now we made statements that were recorded about how she's been hitting us with things like 2x4's, wooden rods and belts for many years, and how they've escalated in frequency over the years. My dad talked with me for an hour, drilling it into me that the allegations are overexaggerated (he says they didn't happen as frequently as we said and she never used a 2x4) and he wants me to talk to my lawyer and get her to rewrite the allegations. However, I remember it happening basically weekly until I reported it, and remember that once she did use a 2x4. He says that all of this is to help save costs, but I argued that by reducing the severity of the allegations he's just trying to help her get a lighter sentence. My questions are 1. Should I contact my laywer and ask her to fix this? 2. Should saving money be my dad's main concern? (He said he doesn't want to use a public defense attourney) 3. If the lawyer rewrites the allegations, does it make me and my brother's accusations seems less legit? 4. What can I say to my dad in the event that you guys think this is wrong? He was really trying to convince me to contact my attorney and he's pretty stubborn. | eh82vcn | eh7iumr | 1,551,068,218 | 1,551,051,049 | 17 | 12 | Tell your lawyer. When your dad pressures you to alter your testimony, say no and blame it on your lawyer (he or she will back you up). Say that your lawyer told you not to discuss your testimony with anyone other than your attorney and that altering your testimony could be perjury. Then if he continues, say, no, my lawyer said I can't discuss the case with anyone but my lawyer. Answer that way every time he brings it up. Whether it's to discuss the case, pressure you to change your testimony or anything else relating to it practice saying: my lawyer says not to discuss the case with anyone but my lawyer. | Anything u do to alter your statement on the abuse will affect judgement of it by others negatively, the overall credibility. Your father, I think u mentioned that in the previous post, has a habit of beating the both of you too, but far less often? That, and the fact that he seems to be, as other mentioned before, far more concerned with your mother's well beeing as with yours, hints at a potentially dangerous situation for u and your brother and maybe for the case against your mother as well. Your father wants to influence and pressure you and your brother, maybe even shatter ur belief in your own memories. Don't let him get that much under your skin. Trust your judgment and your gut. It has brought you this far. Obviously he has not your best interest at heart if any, if he didn't do anything in the last year's to stop the abuse. Record him too. Be wary of his intentions. Do you have any family in the states that you could go to? Ideally someone who is not aware of the abuse, and a decent human being? Beyond that: maybe someone in your school has a heart and the financial means to take you in ? Everything before foster care is a good thing. Staying in that hell is worse. If you fear for you or your brothers phisycal well beeing, foster care is a good option too. Stay strong! | 1 | 17,169 | 1.416667 |
auc7rf | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | California] UPDATE + more questions: Just now my mother beat the shit out of my brother. I recorded audio, and also have some pictures of me and my brother being beaten / injury areas. She’s been abusive, both verbally and mentally for years now. This is a continuation of previous post, below [First Post California ​ Hello r/legaladvice, I'm back. A lot has changed since I made the original post. First of all, my mother does now have a restraining order in place, and after being fostered for about 2 weeks, my brother and I are back living with our dad, and my mother's been charged with 2 felonies and 3 misdemeanors. Now we made statements that were recorded about how she's been hitting us with things like 2x4's, wooden rods and belts for many years, and how they've escalated in frequency over the years. My dad talked with me for an hour, drilling it into me that the allegations are overexaggerated (he says they didn't happen as frequently as we said and she never used a 2x4) and he wants me to talk to my lawyer and get her to rewrite the allegations. However, I remember it happening basically weekly until I reported it, and remember that once she did use a 2x4. He says that all of this is to help save costs, but I argued that by reducing the severity of the allegations he's just trying to help her get a lighter sentence. My questions are 1. Should I contact my laywer and ask her to fix this? 2. Should saving money be my dad's main concern? (He said he doesn't want to use a public defense attourney) 3. If the lawyer rewrites the allegations, does it make me and my brother's accusations seems less legit? 4. What can I say to my dad in the event that you guys think this is wrong? He was really trying to convince me to contact my attorney and he's pretty stubborn. | eh7os8e | eh82vcn | 1,551,056,122 | 1,551,068,218 | 7 | 17 | The truth is the truth is the truth! I can’t stress that enough! If you recant, you will now be branded a liar! Stick to the truth regardless of what anyone tells you! No rug sweeping for anyone, no matter their reasoning! | Tell your lawyer. When your dad pressures you to alter your testimony, say no and blame it on your lawyer (he or she will back you up). Say that your lawyer told you not to discuss your testimony with anyone other than your attorney and that altering your testimony could be perjury. Then if he continues, say, no, my lawyer said I can't discuss the case with anyone but my lawyer. Answer that way every time he brings it up. Whether it's to discuss the case, pressure you to change your testimony or anything else relating to it practice saying: my lawyer says not to discuss the case with anyone but my lawyer. | 0 | 12,096 | 2.428571 |
auc7rf | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | California] UPDATE + more questions: Just now my mother beat the shit out of my brother. I recorded audio, and also have some pictures of me and my brother being beaten / injury areas. She’s been abusive, both verbally and mentally for years now. This is a continuation of previous post, below [First Post California ​ Hello r/legaladvice, I'm back. A lot has changed since I made the original post. First of all, my mother does now have a restraining order in place, and after being fostered for about 2 weeks, my brother and I are back living with our dad, and my mother's been charged with 2 felonies and 3 misdemeanors. Now we made statements that were recorded about how she's been hitting us with things like 2x4's, wooden rods and belts for many years, and how they've escalated in frequency over the years. My dad talked with me for an hour, drilling it into me that the allegations are overexaggerated (he says they didn't happen as frequently as we said and she never used a 2x4) and he wants me to talk to my lawyer and get her to rewrite the allegations. However, I remember it happening basically weekly until I reported it, and remember that once she did use a 2x4. He says that all of this is to help save costs, but I argued that by reducing the severity of the allegations he's just trying to help her get a lighter sentence. My questions are 1. Should I contact my laywer and ask her to fix this? 2. Should saving money be my dad's main concern? (He said he doesn't want to use a public defense attourney) 3. If the lawyer rewrites the allegations, does it make me and my brother's accusations seems less legit? 4. What can I say to my dad in the event that you guys think this is wrong? He was really trying to convince me to contact my attorney and he's pretty stubborn. | eh7vihh | eh82vcn | 1,551,061,868 | 1,551,068,218 | 7 | 17 | Not a lawyer. Speak to your lawyer and social worker. Tell them what he is trying to do. Record conversations if your location has one party consent. It sounds like both of your parents are incredibly toxic. Id consider seeking a restraining order on him as well. Someone else should chime in here, but would this not fall under witness tampering? | Tell your lawyer. When your dad pressures you to alter your testimony, say no and blame it on your lawyer (he or she will back you up). Say that your lawyer told you not to discuss your testimony with anyone other than your attorney and that altering your testimony could be perjury. Then if he continues, say, no, my lawyer said I can't discuss the case with anyone but my lawyer. Answer that way every time he brings it up. Whether it's to discuss the case, pressure you to change your testimony or anything else relating to it practice saying: my lawyer says not to discuss the case with anyone but my lawyer. | 0 | 6,350 | 2.428571 |
auc7rf | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | California] UPDATE + more questions: Just now my mother beat the shit out of my brother. I recorded audio, and also have some pictures of me and my brother being beaten / injury areas. She’s been abusive, both verbally and mentally for years now. This is a continuation of previous post, below [First Post California ​ Hello r/legaladvice, I'm back. A lot has changed since I made the original post. First of all, my mother does now have a restraining order in place, and after being fostered for about 2 weeks, my brother and I are back living with our dad, and my mother's been charged with 2 felonies and 3 misdemeanors. Now we made statements that were recorded about how she's been hitting us with things like 2x4's, wooden rods and belts for many years, and how they've escalated in frequency over the years. My dad talked with me for an hour, drilling it into me that the allegations are overexaggerated (he says they didn't happen as frequently as we said and she never used a 2x4) and he wants me to talk to my lawyer and get her to rewrite the allegations. However, I remember it happening basically weekly until I reported it, and remember that once she did use a 2x4. He says that all of this is to help save costs, but I argued that by reducing the severity of the allegations he's just trying to help her get a lighter sentence. My questions are 1. Should I contact my laywer and ask her to fix this? 2. Should saving money be my dad's main concern? (He said he doesn't want to use a public defense attourney) 3. If the lawyer rewrites the allegations, does it make me and my brother's accusations seems less legit? 4. What can I say to my dad in the event that you guys think this is wrong? He was really trying to convince me to contact my attorney and he's pretty stubborn. | eh7os8e | eh8zib1 | 1,551,056,122 | 1,551,108,852 | 7 | 8 | The truth is the truth is the truth! I can’t stress that enough! If you recant, you will now be branded a liar! Stick to the truth regardless of what anyone tells you! No rug sweeping for anyone, no matter their reasoning! | 1. Contacting your lawyer will almost definitely help your situation. 2. Your dad’s primary concern should be your safety and well-being. I’m not even a father yet, but I know I would be begging for money out on the streets if it meant that I could keep my children safer, or hold a person that harmed my children accountable. In fact, what he *is doing*, sounds a lot like witness tampering. Which is a felony itself, I believe. You lawyer may be interested in informing him of that. Either way, do not do what your father is asking. If he’s more concerned with his wallet than your well-being, then he doesn’t deserve a single ounce of your concern or sympathy. I’m sure your lawyer will agree with this, too. 3. Im Not a lawyer, but as far as I know, it’s not up to you to press charges of abuse. If you have already provided definite proof that you were abused, then the state will absolutely pursue the felony charges and the misdemeanors. This absolutely doesn’t mean that you should recant your story as your father requested. That is a disgusting request, and you remain concerned with your own well-being and future safety. 4. Take your lawyer’s advice on how to communicate with your dad. Your lawyer will most likely request that you avoid any unnecessary contact with them, but your lawyer is much more knowledgeable about that than I am. OP, take care of yourself. You have a lot of people’s support. You did not deserve any of the terrible things that you went through, and your abuser deserves to be held accountable to the full extent of the law. I wish you the best of luck. | 0 | 52,730 | 1.142857 |
auc7rf | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | California] UPDATE + more questions: Just now my mother beat the shit out of my brother. I recorded audio, and also have some pictures of me and my brother being beaten / injury areas. She’s been abusive, both verbally and mentally for years now. This is a continuation of previous post, below [First Post California ​ Hello r/legaladvice, I'm back. A lot has changed since I made the original post. First of all, my mother does now have a restraining order in place, and after being fostered for about 2 weeks, my brother and I are back living with our dad, and my mother's been charged with 2 felonies and 3 misdemeanors. Now we made statements that were recorded about how she's been hitting us with things like 2x4's, wooden rods and belts for many years, and how they've escalated in frequency over the years. My dad talked with me for an hour, drilling it into me that the allegations are overexaggerated (he says they didn't happen as frequently as we said and she never used a 2x4) and he wants me to talk to my lawyer and get her to rewrite the allegations. However, I remember it happening basically weekly until I reported it, and remember that once she did use a 2x4. He says that all of this is to help save costs, but I argued that by reducing the severity of the allegations he's just trying to help her get a lighter sentence. My questions are 1. Should I contact my laywer and ask her to fix this? 2. Should saving money be my dad's main concern? (He said he doesn't want to use a public defense attourney) 3. If the lawyer rewrites the allegations, does it make me and my brother's accusations seems less legit? 4. What can I say to my dad in the event that you guys think this is wrong? He was really trying to convince me to contact my attorney and he's pretty stubborn. | eh7vihh | eh8zib1 | 1,551,061,868 | 1,551,108,852 | 7 | 8 | Not a lawyer. Speak to your lawyer and social worker. Tell them what he is trying to do. Record conversations if your location has one party consent. It sounds like both of your parents are incredibly toxic. Id consider seeking a restraining order on him as well. Someone else should chime in here, but would this not fall under witness tampering? | 1. Contacting your lawyer will almost definitely help your situation. 2. Your dad’s primary concern should be your safety and well-being. I’m not even a father yet, but I know I would be begging for money out on the streets if it meant that I could keep my children safer, or hold a person that harmed my children accountable. In fact, what he *is doing*, sounds a lot like witness tampering. Which is a felony itself, I believe. You lawyer may be interested in informing him of that. Either way, do not do what your father is asking. If he’s more concerned with his wallet than your well-being, then he doesn’t deserve a single ounce of your concern or sympathy. I’m sure your lawyer will agree with this, too. 3. Im Not a lawyer, but as far as I know, it’s not up to you to press charges of abuse. If you have already provided definite proof that you were abused, then the state will absolutely pursue the felony charges and the misdemeanors. This absolutely doesn’t mean that you should recant your story as your father requested. That is a disgusting request, and you remain concerned with your own well-being and future safety. 4. Take your lawyer’s advice on how to communicate with your dad. Your lawyer will most likely request that you avoid any unnecessary contact with them, but your lawyer is much more knowledgeable about that than I am. OP, take care of yourself. You have a lot of people’s support. You did not deserve any of the terrible things that you went through, and your abuser deserves to be held accountable to the full extent of the law. I wish you the best of luck. | 0 | 46,984 | 1.142857 |
auc7rf | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | California] UPDATE + more questions: Just now my mother beat the shit out of my brother. I recorded audio, and also have some pictures of me and my brother being beaten / injury areas. She’s been abusive, both verbally and mentally for years now. This is a continuation of previous post, below [First Post California ​ Hello r/legaladvice, I'm back. A lot has changed since I made the original post. First of all, my mother does now have a restraining order in place, and after being fostered for about 2 weeks, my brother and I are back living with our dad, and my mother's been charged with 2 felonies and 3 misdemeanors. Now we made statements that were recorded about how she's been hitting us with things like 2x4's, wooden rods and belts for many years, and how they've escalated in frequency over the years. My dad talked with me for an hour, drilling it into me that the allegations are overexaggerated (he says they didn't happen as frequently as we said and she never used a 2x4) and he wants me to talk to my lawyer and get her to rewrite the allegations. However, I remember it happening basically weekly until I reported it, and remember that once she did use a 2x4. He says that all of this is to help save costs, but I argued that by reducing the severity of the allegations he's just trying to help her get a lighter sentence. My questions are 1. Should I contact my laywer and ask her to fix this? 2. Should saving money be my dad's main concern? (He said he doesn't want to use a public defense attourney) 3. If the lawyer rewrites the allegations, does it make me and my brother's accusations seems less legit? 4. What can I say to my dad in the event that you guys think this is wrong? He was really trying to convince me to contact my attorney and he's pretty stubborn. | eh9niot | eh9mir1 | 1,551,125,142 | 1,551,124,519 | 3 | 2 | If there is an attorney or a guardian ad litem assigned to you, you should absolutely report what your father asked you to do to them. He is attempting to have you perjure yourself. Do not change your truthful testimony for anyone’s sake. If you are still seeing or assigned a social worker you may want to speak with them about this as well. | Your father's priority should be the physical health and mental well being of his sons after discovering what there mother has been doing, not how to get legal services for his wife at bargain basement prices. Inform your attorney, the assigned social worker to your case, of what your father is asking you to do. I'm so sorry you and your brother are in this situation. I wish you the best of luck getting the protection you need that you are not from your parents. \*hugs\* | 1 | 623 | 1.5 |
auc7rf | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | California] UPDATE + more questions: Just now my mother beat the shit out of my brother. I recorded audio, and also have some pictures of me and my brother being beaten / injury areas. She’s been abusive, both verbally and mentally for years now. This is a continuation of previous post, below [First Post California ​ Hello r/legaladvice, I'm back. A lot has changed since I made the original post. First of all, my mother does now have a restraining order in place, and after being fostered for about 2 weeks, my brother and I are back living with our dad, and my mother's been charged with 2 felonies and 3 misdemeanors. Now we made statements that were recorded about how she's been hitting us with things like 2x4's, wooden rods and belts for many years, and how they've escalated in frequency over the years. My dad talked with me for an hour, drilling it into me that the allegations are overexaggerated (he says they didn't happen as frequently as we said and she never used a 2x4) and he wants me to talk to my lawyer and get her to rewrite the allegations. However, I remember it happening basically weekly until I reported it, and remember that once she did use a 2x4. He says that all of this is to help save costs, but I argued that by reducing the severity of the allegations he's just trying to help her get a lighter sentence. My questions are 1. Should I contact my laywer and ask her to fix this? 2. Should saving money be my dad's main concern? (He said he doesn't want to use a public defense attourney) 3. If the lawyer rewrites the allegations, does it make me and my brother's accusations seems less legit? 4. What can I say to my dad in the event that you guys think this is wrong? He was really trying to convince me to contact my attorney and he's pretty stubborn. | ehaq64i | eh9mir1 | 1,551,153,116 | 1,551,124,519 | 3 | 2 | Hey. I was reading through your post history. I just want you to realise that none of this is your fault or your brother's. Keep your chin up. Don't be afraid if you don't know what to do or if you make mistakes. You'll rise above above this and when you look back you won't regret taking care of yourself or your brother. You're taking on way more than is fair for anyone, let alone someone your age. Stick with your brother, keep each other safe, and eventually this will all be in the past. | Your father's priority should be the physical health and mental well being of his sons after discovering what there mother has been doing, not how to get legal services for his wife at bargain basement prices. Inform your attorney, the assigned social worker to your case, of what your father is asking you to do. I'm so sorry you and your brother are in this situation. I wish you the best of luck getting the protection you need that you are not from your parents. \*hugs\* | 1 | 28,597 | 1.5 |
9ct1ys | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Condo neighbour refuses to let exterminators deal with bedbug infestation. Both me and his neighbour and fed up with constantly battling bed bugs. What can we do? Toronto, Ontario Backstory: In April of 2016 we had a neighbour buy the condo unit next to ours, who i will call Jane. The Condo buildings themselves are fairly new and built around 10 years ago, we own our unit. Jane does to. In August 2017 we discovered bed bugs and informed property management, exterminator came and confirmed bed bugs in our unit and in the other unit next to Jane. However Jane staunchly refused the exterminator entry into her property, same with the building manager (saying there was no bed bugs). The exterminator did our unit and basically told us it was meaningless unless he also did Jane's unit, he recommended we basically make a no mans land of diomesicus earth, all along the wall connecting to Jane's apartment, until he could do Jane's unit. From my understanding it took numerous attempts to actually be able to enter her unit from that point onwards. Unfortunately apparently she is somewhat of a hoarder and has absolutely refused to move or cleanup her stuff. Basically resulting in the extermination doing almost nothing. On top of this not long after apparently she sued our property management company for something (i don't know the details). Since then the property management company has basically refused to push any issue with her at all. I am fucking fed up. I can't sell my apartment with a bed bug infestation, and frankly it seems like our property management company doesn't want to push anything with her. She has constantly told us there is no bed bugs and both me and her other neighbour are just crazy. My question is: * Is there anything i can do legally to force her to clean up her apartment and have it be properly exterminated? Also just realized I screwed up the title, it should be 'her' not 'his' i apologize for misgendering. | e5dhaf4 | e5db4u2 | 1,536,067,270 | 1,536,058,605 | 122 | 3 | Someone has already mentioned what you can do with the municipal by-laws, but your property management company is acting in very opposite interests of the owner's board. Have you raised this issue with the board directly? It's also interesting that "Jane" is making the property management company scared of suing them. The condo board can make the owner pay for their legal costs if they win, and even make the owner pay for a lawyer's time just to write her a cease and desist letter, without even going to court. They can collect on this by placing a lien on Jane's condo, which is completely legal. It's **very** risky to sue your own condo board because when you lose, you lose big-time. You have a lot of power as an owner. If the board is refusing to act on these matters, you can force an owner-requisitioned meeting to discuss the matter of the board not acting in the owners' best interests. This is a last-resort option, as the only real way to make something happen here is an owner-majority vote to remove a director from the board and have them replaced with someone (maybe you) to continue acting. What's interesting is that it's been since August 2017 which means there's been an annual board meeting where you didn't attend and voice this concern either? Other owners will be VERY interested to hear that this is still going on. | There are small bedbug detector devices (like glue traps) available on the internet. You could place one outside her door to prove her as the source of ongoing infestation, for the purpose of forcing cleanup. | 1 | 8,665 | 40.666667 |
9ct1ys | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Condo neighbour refuses to let exterminators deal with bedbug infestation. Both me and his neighbour and fed up with constantly battling bed bugs. What can we do? Toronto, Ontario Backstory: In April of 2016 we had a neighbour buy the condo unit next to ours, who i will call Jane. The Condo buildings themselves are fairly new and built around 10 years ago, we own our unit. Jane does to. In August 2017 we discovered bed bugs and informed property management, exterminator came and confirmed bed bugs in our unit and in the other unit next to Jane. However Jane staunchly refused the exterminator entry into her property, same with the building manager (saying there was no bed bugs). The exterminator did our unit and basically told us it was meaningless unless he also did Jane's unit, he recommended we basically make a no mans land of diomesicus earth, all along the wall connecting to Jane's apartment, until he could do Jane's unit. From my understanding it took numerous attempts to actually be able to enter her unit from that point onwards. Unfortunately apparently she is somewhat of a hoarder and has absolutely refused to move or cleanup her stuff. Basically resulting in the extermination doing almost nothing. On top of this not long after apparently she sued our property management company for something (i don't know the details). Since then the property management company has basically refused to push any issue with her at all. I am fucking fed up. I can't sell my apartment with a bed bug infestation, and frankly it seems like our property management company doesn't want to push anything with her. She has constantly told us there is no bed bugs and both me and her other neighbour are just crazy. My question is: * Is there anything i can do legally to force her to clean up her apartment and have it be properly exterminated? Also just realized I screwed up the title, it should be 'her' not 'his' i apologize for misgendering. | e5dkdzp | e5djwm9 | 1,536,070,534 | 1,536,070,055 | 89 | 6 | What is the name of your management company? I can tell you right away if you have a good one or a bad one. I’m a Director at a condo Corp in your city. You absolutely have a lot of options at your disposal. 1. The management company on behalf of the corporation absolutely has the right of entry with given notice. 2. By not treating all units in the vicinity the entire building is at risk of a bed bug infestation. 3. You can’t clear the bed bug infestation from Janes unit unless she cleans up her hoarding mess. The hoarding is also a fire hazard. Your management company should be calling the fire Marshall and asking for them to do an inspection to determine the level of hazard. They can issue a city order for the owner to clean up. Additionally, I don’t recall the organization, but there’s a mental health organization that can come and investigate the owner and provide appropriate resources. 4. The board/management should be issuing a letter to enforce their right to treat her unit for bed bugs. They should set a few days options for said treatment. Then follow up with expensive legal letters to enforce their right of entry. Her refusal to cooperate and subsequent refusal to pay for legal costs of said letters allows a lien to be applied to her unit. She will be forced to sell if she does not comply. But it will be a legal battle for the corporation. This is standard in Toronto. Under no circumstances should your board and management let this issue fester. 5. Head over to free legal aid, or retain your own lawyer and send a threatening letter to your board that should they ignore the issue you will sue them in small claims for damages (cost of ongoing bed bug treatment) for failure to remedy the situation. 6. Formally Request to attend the next board meeting, no board should refuse you the opportunity for 15 minutes to discuss your issue with them. That will give you all the sense of how serious they are about the situation. Read up on CondoMadness.info for condo advice. Lastly, the board or management refuses to do anything, tell them you will launch complaints with the CAO tribunal, report the management to the ethics committee of ACMO, sue in court for damages and enforce your right of peace and enjoyment of your unit... And lastly... threaten that you will go around the building to inform owners of the growing bed bug infestation and gather the 15% signatures requires to force a General Meeting if Owners to discuss the bed bug issue as well as a separate petition to force the discussion of replacing management for failing to provide adequate preventative measures to ensure the assets of the corporation are protected. (Namely your units from bed bug infestation). | I am not a lawyer - but I am a public health inspector and do frequently deal or get asked to deal with problems such as yours. So, I am assuming you can probably sue in small claims court, but in terms of getting other agencies involved, there really is not much you can do. First off, under the landlord tenant act in Ontario, landlords are supposed to be providing pest control, in your case, you own the condo so that would be up to you. I am also assuming that the neighbor also owns her property, but seems to want to live with the bedbugs which can happen occasionally. I believe your property management would have to treat anything in the common areas of the complex. The only option I personally can see is to just to personally sue for damages or kindly speak to her and teach her how to identify bedbugs. There may also be underlying health issues as well. EDIT: Although bedbug are terrible to live with, they are not deemed to be a health hazard as they do not pass on any known disease to people. They can however, cause allergic reactions after biting and can be a vector. | 1 | 479 | 14.833333 |
9ct1ys | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Condo neighbour refuses to let exterminators deal with bedbug infestation. Both me and his neighbour and fed up with constantly battling bed bugs. What can we do? Toronto, Ontario Backstory: In April of 2016 we had a neighbour buy the condo unit next to ours, who i will call Jane. The Condo buildings themselves are fairly new and built around 10 years ago, we own our unit. Jane does to. In August 2017 we discovered bed bugs and informed property management, exterminator came and confirmed bed bugs in our unit and in the other unit next to Jane. However Jane staunchly refused the exterminator entry into her property, same with the building manager (saying there was no bed bugs). The exterminator did our unit and basically told us it was meaningless unless he also did Jane's unit, he recommended we basically make a no mans land of diomesicus earth, all along the wall connecting to Jane's apartment, until he could do Jane's unit. From my understanding it took numerous attempts to actually be able to enter her unit from that point onwards. Unfortunately apparently she is somewhat of a hoarder and has absolutely refused to move or cleanup her stuff. Basically resulting in the extermination doing almost nothing. On top of this not long after apparently she sued our property management company for something (i don't know the details). Since then the property management company has basically refused to push any issue with her at all. I am fucking fed up. I can't sell my apartment with a bed bug infestation, and frankly it seems like our property management company doesn't want to push anything with her. She has constantly told us there is no bed bugs and both me and her other neighbour are just crazy. My question is: * Is there anything i can do legally to force her to clean up her apartment and have it be properly exterminated? Also just realized I screwed up the title, it should be 'her' not 'his' i apologize for misgendering. | e5db4u2 | e5dkdzp | 1,536,058,605 | 1,536,070,534 | 3 | 89 | There are small bedbug detector devices (like glue traps) available on the internet. You could place one outside her door to prove her as the source of ongoing infestation, for the purpose of forcing cleanup. | What is the name of your management company? I can tell you right away if you have a good one or a bad one. I’m a Director at a condo Corp in your city. You absolutely have a lot of options at your disposal. 1. The management company on behalf of the corporation absolutely has the right of entry with given notice. 2. By not treating all units in the vicinity the entire building is at risk of a bed bug infestation. 3. You can’t clear the bed bug infestation from Janes unit unless she cleans up her hoarding mess. The hoarding is also a fire hazard. Your management company should be calling the fire Marshall and asking for them to do an inspection to determine the level of hazard. They can issue a city order for the owner to clean up. Additionally, I don’t recall the organization, but there’s a mental health organization that can come and investigate the owner and provide appropriate resources. 4. The board/management should be issuing a letter to enforce their right to treat her unit for bed bugs. They should set a few days options for said treatment. Then follow up with expensive legal letters to enforce their right of entry. Her refusal to cooperate and subsequent refusal to pay for legal costs of said letters allows a lien to be applied to her unit. She will be forced to sell if she does not comply. But it will be a legal battle for the corporation. This is standard in Toronto. Under no circumstances should your board and management let this issue fester. 5. Head over to free legal aid, or retain your own lawyer and send a threatening letter to your board that should they ignore the issue you will sue them in small claims for damages (cost of ongoing bed bug treatment) for failure to remedy the situation. 6. Formally Request to attend the next board meeting, no board should refuse you the opportunity for 15 minutes to discuss your issue with them. That will give you all the sense of how serious they are about the situation. Read up on CondoMadness.info for condo advice. Lastly, the board or management refuses to do anything, tell them you will launch complaints with the CAO tribunal, report the management to the ethics committee of ACMO, sue in court for damages and enforce your right of peace and enjoyment of your unit... And lastly... threaten that you will go around the building to inform owners of the growing bed bug infestation and gather the 15% signatures requires to force a General Meeting if Owners to discuss the bed bug issue as well as a separate petition to force the discussion of replacing management for failing to provide adequate preventative measures to ensure the assets of the corporation are protected. (Namely your units from bed bug infestation). | 0 | 11,929 | 29.666667 |
9ct1ys | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Condo neighbour refuses to let exterminators deal with bedbug infestation. Both me and his neighbour and fed up with constantly battling bed bugs. What can we do? Toronto, Ontario Backstory: In April of 2016 we had a neighbour buy the condo unit next to ours, who i will call Jane. The Condo buildings themselves are fairly new and built around 10 years ago, we own our unit. Jane does to. In August 2017 we discovered bed bugs and informed property management, exterminator came and confirmed bed bugs in our unit and in the other unit next to Jane. However Jane staunchly refused the exterminator entry into her property, same with the building manager (saying there was no bed bugs). The exterminator did our unit and basically told us it was meaningless unless he also did Jane's unit, he recommended we basically make a no mans land of diomesicus earth, all along the wall connecting to Jane's apartment, until he could do Jane's unit. From my understanding it took numerous attempts to actually be able to enter her unit from that point onwards. Unfortunately apparently she is somewhat of a hoarder and has absolutely refused to move or cleanup her stuff. Basically resulting in the extermination doing almost nothing. On top of this not long after apparently she sued our property management company for something (i don't know the details). Since then the property management company has basically refused to push any issue with her at all. I am fucking fed up. I can't sell my apartment with a bed bug infestation, and frankly it seems like our property management company doesn't want to push anything with her. She has constantly told us there is no bed bugs and both me and her other neighbour are just crazy. My question is: * Is there anything i can do legally to force her to clean up her apartment and have it be properly exterminated? Also just realized I screwed up the title, it should be 'her' not 'his' i apologize for misgendering. | e5djwm9 | e5dmlte | 1,536,070,055 | 1,536,072,678 | 6 | 10 | I am not a lawyer - but I am a public health inspector and do frequently deal or get asked to deal with problems such as yours. So, I am assuming you can probably sue in small claims court, but in terms of getting other agencies involved, there really is not much you can do. First off, under the landlord tenant act in Ontario, landlords are supposed to be providing pest control, in your case, you own the condo so that would be up to you. I am also assuming that the neighbor also owns her property, but seems to want to live with the bedbugs which can happen occasionally. I believe your property management would have to treat anything in the common areas of the complex. The only option I personally can see is to just to personally sue for damages or kindly speak to her and teach her how to identify bedbugs. There may also be underlying health issues as well. EDIT: Although bedbug are terrible to live with, they are not deemed to be a health hazard as they do not pass on any known disease to people. They can however, cause allergic reactions after biting and can be a vector. | You guys have bedbug dogs in Canada? In NYC we do. They're trained to sniff them out. Once you get entry into her apt you have the dog standing by to find them. It'll prove bedbugs are present and you can go from there. | 0 | 2,623 | 1.666667 |
9ct1ys | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Condo neighbour refuses to let exterminators deal with bedbug infestation. Both me and his neighbour and fed up with constantly battling bed bugs. What can we do? Toronto, Ontario Backstory: In April of 2016 we had a neighbour buy the condo unit next to ours, who i will call Jane. The Condo buildings themselves are fairly new and built around 10 years ago, we own our unit. Jane does to. In August 2017 we discovered bed bugs and informed property management, exterminator came and confirmed bed bugs in our unit and in the other unit next to Jane. However Jane staunchly refused the exterminator entry into her property, same with the building manager (saying there was no bed bugs). The exterminator did our unit and basically told us it was meaningless unless he also did Jane's unit, he recommended we basically make a no mans land of diomesicus earth, all along the wall connecting to Jane's apartment, until he could do Jane's unit. From my understanding it took numerous attempts to actually be able to enter her unit from that point onwards. Unfortunately apparently she is somewhat of a hoarder and has absolutely refused to move or cleanup her stuff. Basically resulting in the extermination doing almost nothing. On top of this not long after apparently she sued our property management company for something (i don't know the details). Since then the property management company has basically refused to push any issue with her at all. I am fucking fed up. I can't sell my apartment with a bed bug infestation, and frankly it seems like our property management company doesn't want to push anything with her. She has constantly told us there is no bed bugs and both me and her other neighbour are just crazy. My question is: * Is there anything i can do legally to force her to clean up her apartment and have it be properly exterminated? Also just realized I screwed up the title, it should be 'her' not 'his' i apologize for misgendering. | e5db4u2 | e5dmlte | 1,536,058,605 | 1,536,072,678 | 3 | 10 | There are small bedbug detector devices (like glue traps) available on the internet. You could place one outside her door to prove her as the source of ongoing infestation, for the purpose of forcing cleanup. | You guys have bedbug dogs in Canada? In NYC we do. They're trained to sniff them out. Once you get entry into her apt you have the dog standing by to find them. It'll prove bedbugs are present and you can go from there. | 0 | 14,073 | 3.333333 |
9ct1ys | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Condo neighbour refuses to let exterminators deal with bedbug infestation. Both me and his neighbour and fed up with constantly battling bed bugs. What can we do? Toronto, Ontario Backstory: In April of 2016 we had a neighbour buy the condo unit next to ours, who i will call Jane. The Condo buildings themselves are fairly new and built around 10 years ago, we own our unit. Jane does to. In August 2017 we discovered bed bugs and informed property management, exterminator came and confirmed bed bugs in our unit and in the other unit next to Jane. However Jane staunchly refused the exterminator entry into her property, same with the building manager (saying there was no bed bugs). The exterminator did our unit and basically told us it was meaningless unless he also did Jane's unit, he recommended we basically make a no mans land of diomesicus earth, all along the wall connecting to Jane's apartment, until he could do Jane's unit. From my understanding it took numerous attempts to actually be able to enter her unit from that point onwards. Unfortunately apparently she is somewhat of a hoarder and has absolutely refused to move or cleanup her stuff. Basically resulting in the extermination doing almost nothing. On top of this not long after apparently she sued our property management company for something (i don't know the details). Since then the property management company has basically refused to push any issue with her at all. I am fucking fed up. I can't sell my apartment with a bed bug infestation, and frankly it seems like our property management company doesn't want to push anything with her. She has constantly told us there is no bed bugs and both me and her other neighbour are just crazy. My question is: * Is there anything i can do legally to force her to clean up her apartment and have it be properly exterminated? Also just realized I screwed up the title, it should be 'her' not 'his' i apologize for misgendering. | e5db4u2 | e5djwm9 | 1,536,058,605 | 1,536,070,055 | 3 | 6 | There are small bedbug detector devices (like glue traps) available on the internet. You could place one outside her door to prove her as the source of ongoing infestation, for the purpose of forcing cleanup. | I am not a lawyer - but I am a public health inspector and do frequently deal or get asked to deal with problems such as yours. So, I am assuming you can probably sue in small claims court, but in terms of getting other agencies involved, there really is not much you can do. First off, under the landlord tenant act in Ontario, landlords are supposed to be providing pest control, in your case, you own the condo so that would be up to you. I am also assuming that the neighbor also owns her property, but seems to want to live with the bedbugs which can happen occasionally. I believe your property management would have to treat anything in the common areas of the complex. The only option I personally can see is to just to personally sue for damages or kindly speak to her and teach her how to identify bedbugs. There may also be underlying health issues as well. EDIT: Although bedbug are terrible to live with, they are not deemed to be a health hazard as they do not pass on any known disease to people. They can however, cause allergic reactions after biting and can be a vector. | 0 | 11,450 | 2 |
6ortlj | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | Neighbour blocking road access to seasonal property Hi, this property is in Thunder Bay Ontario Canada, if that makes a difference. We have a seasonal cottage, the very last property on a dead end road. In the 1960's my grandfather spoke with the adjacent land owner and they agreed my grandfather could build a road over the property to access the cottage that attached to a new township road. Fast forward till 2003 when the adjacent owner died and the property was sold. The new owners were told by the township that they had to keep providing access but they have slowly impeded it to the point where it has become such an issue we have had to seek legal help. They offered to buy our property (and I think this is the real motive because they said they want it for their son). They created "alternate access" by getting these other owners behind their property to give us year to year access to be determined by them and it would cost a fee. That access gets us to the back of our lot and we would need to build a 100 m driveway through forest in order to access our place. Quite cost prohibitive to us. Our lawyer said we had a prescriptive easement and then their lawyer said we didn't because we aren't out at the cottage enough since 2003. We use to go almost every week in the summer and now we go a few days a year. The only reason we are not there more is because they built a lawn over our road and yell at us when we go their and we can't have any friends or anyone do maintenance because they blockade the access. This has caused us issues with staying there to say the least. What should we do? Our lawyer says maybe litigation but I am worried we can't afford it. I haven't contacted the person who was the estate manager but he was aware of the road and longstanding use at the time of sale. In fact he indicated the purchaser was aware as well. We weren't given a copy of the purchase agreement. | dkjr5dh | dkjw242 | 1,500,684,558 | 1,500,691,596 | 15 | 16 | Not a Canadian lawyer, but I discussed a very similar issue with one a couple of years ago in Nova Scotia. In that case, my client wanted to buy a property that had a small adjacent piece with unclear ownership. The sellers of the main plot agreed to take the small piece by adverse possession and include it in the sale, since they would go there once a year for a picnic. That was sufficient for the courts to grant adverse possession. It was my understanding that regular use, even if it's infrequent, is the key. My client was charged maybe $500 for the entire transaction. But you need a Canadian lawyer, and you need to file with the court to take the easement and have it placed on the title to their property. | MS Paint map? | 0 | 7,038 | 1.066667 |
9tht66 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Turned down for a job, asked what the issues were. Told "your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment". I finished my degree a little bit ago but was asked by my current employer if I could finish out a project I was very involved in. The project is coming to an end and have been looking for a job that pays better and where I can actually begin using what I've been going to college for. I made it to the third interview that was directly with the head of the division on Wednesday and thought it went extremely well. The previous interviews also went very well and I thought I had this job in the bag until Wednesday, the interview went pretty well with a few odd questions thinking back on it but I brushed it off ass him trying to see what my homelife was like and see if I was available to work OT to meet deadlines etc. Questions along the line of "Do you gave a girlfriend or fiance at home?" "No, but I do have a significant other and he's entirely understanding of the importantance of finishing up a project on time and correctly" "You have a boyfriend? You seemed very masculine, very well let's move on" and more basic questions ending in "We have a lot of office/family events, would your boyfriend be joining us?" "Yes, of course he would if he was available". Now I brushed this off mostly due to the age of this man, he's in his 50s and while people can be really understanding about gay relationships sometimes older individuals just word things a bit differently and not entirely "PC" but generally mean well overall. Today I received a call from HR thanking me for my time however I am not being offered a position at this time. I tried to do the most professional thing and ask them what their policies are on reapplying within the company for other positions etc in the field because I really do want to work there, feel like I'd be a fit blah blah blah. HR was really nice and explained all their policies and then gave me the head of the divisions email so I could connect with him a bit more. Okay! Great, I can reach out and ask him about other positions or possibilities in the future and network a bit. So I sent him an email earlier in the day thanking him for his time and politely asking about other positions and very nicely asking is there anything I could have improved on or can work on currently to make myself more suited for the company. What I got back was quite different than I was expecting. He very nicely answered everything then at the end in regards to my question about being more suited to the company sent back this "Your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment I have helped create here. Thank you for your interest in (company) however I will not be able to have you work in my department now or in the future." I sent him an email to his company email and received the response from his company email. I've never been actually really discriminated against due to being gay in such a way in a professional setting. I'm not super flamboyant or shout out that I am gay at every turn, I'm quite masculine and it really throws people off when they find out that I'm gay. Do I contact a higher up in the company about this? I'm perfectly suited for what they were looking for, right experience and degree and even know a handful of the people I would be working with and they sent emails to HR recommending me. I feel he directly didn't hire me because I am gay. What are my options here? This is a large company that's multinational and located in Seattle, WA. | e8wmzer | e8wq638 | 1,541,158,648 | 1,541,162,721 | 150 | 475 | I am not a lawyer: I read all of your replies, and I completely understand how you want to go into your first job based on your merit and not a lawsuit. Bravo! If you found out that your boyfriend/family member/friend was denied a job because of something illegal, what you say? You said that this is a big multinational company and I’m sure they would not like the negative press from illegal hiring processes. I would be surprised if this went to court and your name was brought out. There could also be an NDA accompanied with everything. I think talking to a lawyer is a great first step, as they will be able to walk you through what exactly will/should happen and how they can protect you. Remember, what the company did was illegal and not your fault. We have these laws to protect everyone from not having a fair shot at employment. | If you have him admitting you didn't get the job because of your sexuality (close enough to "sexual orientation") you've got a unicorn. Think about how many gay people were discriminated against without any evidence -- usually people are smart enough not to say stuff like this. You have many avenues to pursue this, including a lawsuit. You could also contact the Seattle Human Rights Commission; they have powerful contacts in the city government and might be able to encourage positive change at the company such as better training for hiring managers. | 0 | 4,073 | 3.166667 |
9tht66 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Turned down for a job, asked what the issues were. Told "your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment". I finished my degree a little bit ago but was asked by my current employer if I could finish out a project I was very involved in. The project is coming to an end and have been looking for a job that pays better and where I can actually begin using what I've been going to college for. I made it to the third interview that was directly with the head of the division on Wednesday and thought it went extremely well. The previous interviews also went very well and I thought I had this job in the bag until Wednesday, the interview went pretty well with a few odd questions thinking back on it but I brushed it off ass him trying to see what my homelife was like and see if I was available to work OT to meet deadlines etc. Questions along the line of "Do you gave a girlfriend or fiance at home?" "No, but I do have a significant other and he's entirely understanding of the importantance of finishing up a project on time and correctly" "You have a boyfriend? You seemed very masculine, very well let's move on" and more basic questions ending in "We have a lot of office/family events, would your boyfriend be joining us?" "Yes, of course he would if he was available". Now I brushed this off mostly due to the age of this man, he's in his 50s and while people can be really understanding about gay relationships sometimes older individuals just word things a bit differently and not entirely "PC" but generally mean well overall. Today I received a call from HR thanking me for my time however I am not being offered a position at this time. I tried to do the most professional thing and ask them what their policies are on reapplying within the company for other positions etc in the field because I really do want to work there, feel like I'd be a fit blah blah blah. HR was really nice and explained all their policies and then gave me the head of the divisions email so I could connect with him a bit more. Okay! Great, I can reach out and ask him about other positions or possibilities in the future and network a bit. So I sent him an email earlier in the day thanking him for his time and politely asking about other positions and very nicely asking is there anything I could have improved on or can work on currently to make myself more suited for the company. What I got back was quite different than I was expecting. He very nicely answered everything then at the end in regards to my question about being more suited to the company sent back this "Your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment I have helped create here. Thank you for your interest in (company) however I will not be able to have you work in my department now or in the future." I sent him an email to his company email and received the response from his company email. I've never been actually really discriminated against due to being gay in such a way in a professional setting. I'm not super flamboyant or shout out that I am gay at every turn, I'm quite masculine and it really throws people off when they find out that I'm gay. Do I contact a higher up in the company about this? I'm perfectly suited for what they were looking for, right experience and degree and even know a handful of the people I would be working with and they sent emails to HR recommending me. I feel he directly didn't hire me because I am gay. What are my options here? This is a large company that's multinational and located in Seattle, WA. | e8wklm7 | e8wq638 | 1,541,154,668 | 1,541,162,721 | 82 | 475 | I'm surprised nobody has mentioned the possibility that the person who interviewed you has not disclosed the reason why he did not want you to HR. You could find some recourse by notifying the same HR person you spoke with earlier what has transpired. | If you have him admitting you didn't get the job because of your sexuality (close enough to "sexual orientation") you've got a unicorn. Think about how many gay people were discriminated against without any evidence -- usually people are smart enough not to say stuff like this. You have many avenues to pursue this, including a lawsuit. You could also contact the Seattle Human Rights Commission; they have powerful contacts in the city government and might be able to encourage positive change at the company such as better training for hiring managers. | 0 | 8,053 | 5.792683 |
9tht66 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Turned down for a job, asked what the issues were. Told "your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment". I finished my degree a little bit ago but was asked by my current employer if I could finish out a project I was very involved in. The project is coming to an end and have been looking for a job that pays better and where I can actually begin using what I've been going to college for. I made it to the third interview that was directly with the head of the division on Wednesday and thought it went extremely well. The previous interviews also went very well and I thought I had this job in the bag until Wednesday, the interview went pretty well with a few odd questions thinking back on it but I brushed it off ass him trying to see what my homelife was like and see if I was available to work OT to meet deadlines etc. Questions along the line of "Do you gave a girlfriend or fiance at home?" "No, but I do have a significant other and he's entirely understanding of the importantance of finishing up a project on time and correctly" "You have a boyfriend? You seemed very masculine, very well let's move on" and more basic questions ending in "We have a lot of office/family events, would your boyfriend be joining us?" "Yes, of course he would if he was available". Now I brushed this off mostly due to the age of this man, he's in his 50s and while people can be really understanding about gay relationships sometimes older individuals just word things a bit differently and not entirely "PC" but generally mean well overall. Today I received a call from HR thanking me for my time however I am not being offered a position at this time. I tried to do the most professional thing and ask them what their policies are on reapplying within the company for other positions etc in the field because I really do want to work there, feel like I'd be a fit blah blah blah. HR was really nice and explained all their policies and then gave me the head of the divisions email so I could connect with him a bit more. Okay! Great, I can reach out and ask him about other positions or possibilities in the future and network a bit. So I sent him an email earlier in the day thanking him for his time and politely asking about other positions and very nicely asking is there anything I could have improved on or can work on currently to make myself more suited for the company. What I got back was quite different than I was expecting. He very nicely answered everything then at the end in regards to my question about being more suited to the company sent back this "Your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment I have helped create here. Thank you for your interest in (company) however I will not be able to have you work in my department now or in the future." I sent him an email to his company email and received the response from his company email. I've never been actually really discriminated against due to being gay in such a way in a professional setting. I'm not super flamboyant or shout out that I am gay at every turn, I'm quite masculine and it really throws people off when they find out that I'm gay. Do I contact a higher up in the company about this? I'm perfectly suited for what they were looking for, right experience and degree and even know a handful of the people I would be working with and they sent emails to HR recommending me. I feel he directly didn't hire me because I am gay. What are my options here? This is a large company that's multinational and located in Seattle, WA. | e8wq638 | e8wn5bh | 1,541,162,721 | 1,541,158,888 | 475 | 9 | If you have him admitting you didn't get the job because of your sexuality (close enough to "sexual orientation") you've got a unicorn. Think about how many gay people were discriminated against without any evidence -- usually people are smart enough not to say stuff like this. You have many avenues to pursue this, including a lawsuit. You could also contact the Seattle Human Rights Commission; they have powerful contacts in the city government and might be able to encourage positive change at the company such as better training for hiring managers. | You can either make a big deal out of this or keep looking for a job. I would say the former wouldn't be a bad idea given you have concrete proof. I would talk to an employment lawyer about this. You don't necessarily have to sue the company, but they would have experience in figuring out how to navigate trying to get either a job here or something else based on the email you received. | 1 | 3,833 | 52.777778 |
9tht66 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Turned down for a job, asked what the issues were. Told "your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment". I finished my degree a little bit ago but was asked by my current employer if I could finish out a project I was very involved in. The project is coming to an end and have been looking for a job that pays better and where I can actually begin using what I've been going to college for. I made it to the third interview that was directly with the head of the division on Wednesday and thought it went extremely well. The previous interviews also went very well and I thought I had this job in the bag until Wednesday, the interview went pretty well with a few odd questions thinking back on it but I brushed it off ass him trying to see what my homelife was like and see if I was available to work OT to meet deadlines etc. Questions along the line of "Do you gave a girlfriend or fiance at home?" "No, but I do have a significant other and he's entirely understanding of the importantance of finishing up a project on time and correctly" "You have a boyfriend? You seemed very masculine, very well let's move on" and more basic questions ending in "We have a lot of office/family events, would your boyfriend be joining us?" "Yes, of course he would if he was available". Now I brushed this off mostly due to the age of this man, he's in his 50s and while people can be really understanding about gay relationships sometimes older individuals just word things a bit differently and not entirely "PC" but generally mean well overall. Today I received a call from HR thanking me for my time however I am not being offered a position at this time. I tried to do the most professional thing and ask them what their policies are on reapplying within the company for other positions etc in the field because I really do want to work there, feel like I'd be a fit blah blah blah. HR was really nice and explained all their policies and then gave me the head of the divisions email so I could connect with him a bit more. Okay! Great, I can reach out and ask him about other positions or possibilities in the future and network a bit. So I sent him an email earlier in the day thanking him for his time and politely asking about other positions and very nicely asking is there anything I could have improved on or can work on currently to make myself more suited for the company. What I got back was quite different than I was expecting. He very nicely answered everything then at the end in regards to my question about being more suited to the company sent back this "Your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment I have helped create here. Thank you for your interest in (company) however I will not be able to have you work in my department now or in the future." I sent him an email to his company email and received the response from his company email. I've never been actually really discriminated against due to being gay in such a way in a professional setting. I'm not super flamboyant or shout out that I am gay at every turn, I'm quite masculine and it really throws people off when they find out that I'm gay. Do I contact a higher up in the company about this? I'm perfectly suited for what they were looking for, right experience and degree and even know a handful of the people I would be working with and they sent emails to HR recommending me. I feel he directly didn't hire me because I am gay. What are my options here? This is a large company that's multinational and located in Seattle, WA. | e8wklm7 | e8wmzer | 1,541,154,668 | 1,541,158,648 | 82 | 150 | I'm surprised nobody has mentioned the possibility that the person who interviewed you has not disclosed the reason why he did not want you to HR. You could find some recourse by notifying the same HR person you spoke with earlier what has transpired. | I am not a lawyer: I read all of your replies, and I completely understand how you want to go into your first job based on your merit and not a lawsuit. Bravo! If you found out that your boyfriend/family member/friend was denied a job because of something illegal, what you say? You said that this is a big multinational company and I’m sure they would not like the negative press from illegal hiring processes. I would be surprised if this went to court and your name was brought out. There could also be an NDA accompanied with everything. I think talking to a lawyer is a great first step, as they will be able to walk you through what exactly will/should happen and how they can protect you. Remember, what the company did was illegal and not your fault. We have these laws to protect everyone from not having a fair shot at employment. | 0 | 3,980 | 1.829268 |
9tht66 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Turned down for a job, asked what the issues were. Told "your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment". I finished my degree a little bit ago but was asked by my current employer if I could finish out a project I was very involved in. The project is coming to an end and have been looking for a job that pays better and where I can actually begin using what I've been going to college for. I made it to the third interview that was directly with the head of the division on Wednesday and thought it went extremely well. The previous interviews also went very well and I thought I had this job in the bag until Wednesday, the interview went pretty well with a few odd questions thinking back on it but I brushed it off ass him trying to see what my homelife was like and see if I was available to work OT to meet deadlines etc. Questions along the line of "Do you gave a girlfriend or fiance at home?" "No, but I do have a significant other and he's entirely understanding of the importantance of finishing up a project on time and correctly" "You have a boyfriend? You seemed very masculine, very well let's move on" and more basic questions ending in "We have a lot of office/family events, would your boyfriend be joining us?" "Yes, of course he would if he was available". Now I brushed this off mostly due to the age of this man, he's in his 50s and while people can be really understanding about gay relationships sometimes older individuals just word things a bit differently and not entirely "PC" but generally mean well overall. Today I received a call from HR thanking me for my time however I am not being offered a position at this time. I tried to do the most professional thing and ask them what their policies are on reapplying within the company for other positions etc in the field because I really do want to work there, feel like I'd be a fit blah blah blah. HR was really nice and explained all their policies and then gave me the head of the divisions email so I could connect with him a bit more. Okay! Great, I can reach out and ask him about other positions or possibilities in the future and network a bit. So I sent him an email earlier in the day thanking him for his time and politely asking about other positions and very nicely asking is there anything I could have improved on or can work on currently to make myself more suited for the company. What I got back was quite different than I was expecting. He very nicely answered everything then at the end in regards to my question about being more suited to the company sent back this "Your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment I have helped create here. Thank you for your interest in (company) however I will not be able to have you work in my department now or in the future." I sent him an email to his company email and received the response from his company email. I've never been actually really discriminated against due to being gay in such a way in a professional setting. I'm not super flamboyant or shout out that I am gay at every turn, I'm quite masculine and it really throws people off when they find out that I'm gay. Do I contact a higher up in the company about this? I'm perfectly suited for what they were looking for, right experience and degree and even know a handful of the people I would be working with and they sent emails to HR recommending me. I feel he directly didn't hire me because I am gay. What are my options here? This is a large company that's multinational and located in Seattle, WA. | e8x0mb6 | e8wklm7 | 1,541,172,241 | 1,541,154,668 | 132 | 82 | Not a lawyer - You should definitely sue. Another point that I've ~~not~~ definitely seen mentioned here: The interviewing manager or director is an idiot and has made a likely career-ending mistake by giving you the honest reason why he won't hire you. You said this was with a large multinational located in Seattle. When your lawyer files suit, the most likely outcome is that corporate legal for this company, when they see the documented evidence for this blatant discrimination, will, after vomiting up their 3-cocktail lunch, march over to HR, who will then immediately shitcan your interviewer, and proceed to tell legal to settle with /u/throwaway7262728292 for whatever it takes to prevent damage to their reputation as an inclusive, nondiscriminatory workplace in a very inclusive, nondiscriminatory Pacific NorthWest (at least in the major cities). They'll probably offer to hire you at a minimum. | I'm surprised nobody has mentioned the possibility that the person who interviewed you has not disclosed the reason why he did not want you to HR. You could find some recourse by notifying the same HR person you spoke with earlier what has transpired. | 1 | 17,573 | 1.609756 |
9tht66 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Turned down for a job, asked what the issues were. Told "your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment". I finished my degree a little bit ago but was asked by my current employer if I could finish out a project I was very involved in. The project is coming to an end and have been looking for a job that pays better and where I can actually begin using what I've been going to college for. I made it to the third interview that was directly with the head of the division on Wednesday and thought it went extremely well. The previous interviews also went very well and I thought I had this job in the bag until Wednesday, the interview went pretty well with a few odd questions thinking back on it but I brushed it off ass him trying to see what my homelife was like and see if I was available to work OT to meet deadlines etc. Questions along the line of "Do you gave a girlfriend or fiance at home?" "No, but I do have a significant other and he's entirely understanding of the importantance of finishing up a project on time and correctly" "You have a boyfriend? You seemed very masculine, very well let's move on" and more basic questions ending in "We have a lot of office/family events, would your boyfriend be joining us?" "Yes, of course he would if he was available". Now I brushed this off mostly due to the age of this man, he's in his 50s and while people can be really understanding about gay relationships sometimes older individuals just word things a bit differently and not entirely "PC" but generally mean well overall. Today I received a call from HR thanking me for my time however I am not being offered a position at this time. I tried to do the most professional thing and ask them what their policies are on reapplying within the company for other positions etc in the field because I really do want to work there, feel like I'd be a fit blah blah blah. HR was really nice and explained all their policies and then gave me the head of the divisions email so I could connect with him a bit more. Okay! Great, I can reach out and ask him about other positions or possibilities in the future and network a bit. So I sent him an email earlier in the day thanking him for his time and politely asking about other positions and very nicely asking is there anything I could have improved on or can work on currently to make myself more suited for the company. What I got back was quite different than I was expecting. He very nicely answered everything then at the end in regards to my question about being more suited to the company sent back this "Your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment I have helped create here. Thank you for your interest in (company) however I will not be able to have you work in my department now or in the future." I sent him an email to his company email and received the response from his company email. I've never been actually really discriminated against due to being gay in such a way in a professional setting. I'm not super flamboyant or shout out that I am gay at every turn, I'm quite masculine and it really throws people off when they find out that I'm gay. Do I contact a higher up in the company about this? I'm perfectly suited for what they were looking for, right experience and degree and even know a handful of the people I would be working with and they sent emails to HR recommending me. I feel he directly didn't hire me because I am gay. What are my options here? This is a large company that's multinational and located in Seattle, WA. | e8wqzb3 | e8x0mb6 | 1,541,163,605 | 1,541,172,241 | 61 | 132 | Nothing bad will come of just talking to an attorney. There is confidentiality and if they're worth their salt they can guide you without pressuring you to do anything you don't want to do. | Not a lawyer - You should definitely sue. Another point that I've ~~not~~ definitely seen mentioned here: The interviewing manager or director is an idiot and has made a likely career-ending mistake by giving you the honest reason why he won't hire you. You said this was with a large multinational located in Seattle. When your lawyer files suit, the most likely outcome is that corporate legal for this company, when they see the documented evidence for this blatant discrimination, will, after vomiting up their 3-cocktail lunch, march over to HR, who will then immediately shitcan your interviewer, and proceed to tell legal to settle with /u/throwaway7262728292 for whatever it takes to prevent damage to their reputation as an inclusive, nondiscriminatory workplace in a very inclusive, nondiscriminatory Pacific NorthWest (at least in the major cities). They'll probably offer to hire you at a minimum. | 0 | 8,636 | 2.163934 |
9tht66 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Turned down for a job, asked what the issues were. Told "your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment". I finished my degree a little bit ago but was asked by my current employer if I could finish out a project I was very involved in. The project is coming to an end and have been looking for a job that pays better and where I can actually begin using what I've been going to college for. I made it to the third interview that was directly with the head of the division on Wednesday and thought it went extremely well. The previous interviews also went very well and I thought I had this job in the bag until Wednesday, the interview went pretty well with a few odd questions thinking back on it but I brushed it off ass him trying to see what my homelife was like and see if I was available to work OT to meet deadlines etc. Questions along the line of "Do you gave a girlfriend or fiance at home?" "No, but I do have a significant other and he's entirely understanding of the importantance of finishing up a project on time and correctly" "You have a boyfriend? You seemed very masculine, very well let's move on" and more basic questions ending in "We have a lot of office/family events, would your boyfriend be joining us?" "Yes, of course he would if he was available". Now I brushed this off mostly due to the age of this man, he's in his 50s and while people can be really understanding about gay relationships sometimes older individuals just word things a bit differently and not entirely "PC" but generally mean well overall. Today I received a call from HR thanking me for my time however I am not being offered a position at this time. I tried to do the most professional thing and ask them what their policies are on reapplying within the company for other positions etc in the field because I really do want to work there, feel like I'd be a fit blah blah blah. HR was really nice and explained all their policies and then gave me the head of the divisions email so I could connect with him a bit more. Okay! Great, I can reach out and ask him about other positions or possibilities in the future and network a bit. So I sent him an email earlier in the day thanking him for his time and politely asking about other positions and very nicely asking is there anything I could have improved on or can work on currently to make myself more suited for the company. What I got back was quite different than I was expecting. He very nicely answered everything then at the end in regards to my question about being more suited to the company sent back this "Your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment I have helped create here. Thank you for your interest in (company) however I will not be able to have you work in my department now or in the future." I sent him an email to his company email and received the response from his company email. I've never been actually really discriminated against due to being gay in such a way in a professional setting. I'm not super flamboyant or shout out that I am gay at every turn, I'm quite masculine and it really throws people off when they find out that I'm gay. Do I contact a higher up in the company about this? I'm perfectly suited for what they were looking for, right experience and degree and even know a handful of the people I would be working with and they sent emails to HR recommending me. I feel he directly didn't hire me because I am gay. What are my options here? This is a large company that's multinational and located in Seattle, WA. | e8x0mb6 | e8wvjoq | 1,541,172,241 | 1,541,167,981 | 132 | 24 | Not a lawyer - You should definitely sue. Another point that I've ~~not~~ definitely seen mentioned here: The interviewing manager or director is an idiot and has made a likely career-ending mistake by giving you the honest reason why he won't hire you. You said this was with a large multinational located in Seattle. When your lawyer files suit, the most likely outcome is that corporate legal for this company, when they see the documented evidence for this blatant discrimination, will, after vomiting up their 3-cocktail lunch, march over to HR, who will then immediately shitcan your interviewer, and proceed to tell legal to settle with /u/throwaway7262728292 for whatever it takes to prevent damage to their reputation as an inclusive, nondiscriminatory workplace in a very inclusive, nondiscriminatory Pacific NorthWest (at least in the major cities). They'll probably offer to hire you at a minimum. | Yes, talk to an attorney. If that statement is actually in an email, this would be a very fun case to write a demand letter. | 1 | 4,260 | 5.5 |
9tht66 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Turned down for a job, asked what the issues were. Told "your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment". I finished my degree a little bit ago but was asked by my current employer if I could finish out a project I was very involved in. The project is coming to an end and have been looking for a job that pays better and where I can actually begin using what I've been going to college for. I made it to the third interview that was directly with the head of the division on Wednesday and thought it went extremely well. The previous interviews also went very well and I thought I had this job in the bag until Wednesday, the interview went pretty well with a few odd questions thinking back on it but I brushed it off ass him trying to see what my homelife was like and see if I was available to work OT to meet deadlines etc. Questions along the line of "Do you gave a girlfriend or fiance at home?" "No, but I do have a significant other and he's entirely understanding of the importantance of finishing up a project on time and correctly" "You have a boyfriend? You seemed very masculine, very well let's move on" and more basic questions ending in "We have a lot of office/family events, would your boyfriend be joining us?" "Yes, of course he would if he was available". Now I brushed this off mostly due to the age of this man, he's in his 50s and while people can be really understanding about gay relationships sometimes older individuals just word things a bit differently and not entirely "PC" but generally mean well overall. Today I received a call from HR thanking me for my time however I am not being offered a position at this time. I tried to do the most professional thing and ask them what their policies are on reapplying within the company for other positions etc in the field because I really do want to work there, feel like I'd be a fit blah blah blah. HR was really nice and explained all their policies and then gave me the head of the divisions email so I could connect with him a bit more. Okay! Great, I can reach out and ask him about other positions or possibilities in the future and network a bit. So I sent him an email earlier in the day thanking him for his time and politely asking about other positions and very nicely asking is there anything I could have improved on or can work on currently to make myself more suited for the company. What I got back was quite different than I was expecting. He very nicely answered everything then at the end in regards to my question about being more suited to the company sent back this "Your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment I have helped create here. Thank you for your interest in (company) however I will not be able to have you work in my department now or in the future." I sent him an email to his company email and received the response from his company email. I've never been actually really discriminated against due to being gay in such a way in a professional setting. I'm not super flamboyant or shout out that I am gay at every turn, I'm quite masculine and it really throws people off when they find out that I'm gay. Do I contact a higher up in the company about this? I'm perfectly suited for what they were looking for, right experience and degree and even know a handful of the people I would be working with and they sent emails to HR recommending me. I feel he directly didn't hire me because I am gay. What are my options here? This is a large company that's multinational and located in Seattle, WA. | e8x0mb6 | e8wn5bh | 1,541,172,241 | 1,541,158,888 | 132 | 9 | Not a lawyer - You should definitely sue. Another point that I've ~~not~~ definitely seen mentioned here: The interviewing manager or director is an idiot and has made a likely career-ending mistake by giving you the honest reason why he won't hire you. You said this was with a large multinational located in Seattle. When your lawyer files suit, the most likely outcome is that corporate legal for this company, when they see the documented evidence for this blatant discrimination, will, after vomiting up their 3-cocktail lunch, march over to HR, who will then immediately shitcan your interviewer, and proceed to tell legal to settle with /u/throwaway7262728292 for whatever it takes to prevent damage to their reputation as an inclusive, nondiscriminatory workplace in a very inclusive, nondiscriminatory Pacific NorthWest (at least in the major cities). They'll probably offer to hire you at a minimum. | You can either make a big deal out of this or keep looking for a job. I would say the former wouldn't be a bad idea given you have concrete proof. I would talk to an employment lawyer about this. You don't necessarily have to sue the company, but they would have experience in figuring out how to navigate trying to get either a job here or something else based on the email you received. | 1 | 13,353 | 14.666667 |
9tht66 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Turned down for a job, asked what the issues were. Told "your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment". I finished my degree a little bit ago but was asked by my current employer if I could finish out a project I was very involved in. The project is coming to an end and have been looking for a job that pays better and where I can actually begin using what I've been going to college for. I made it to the third interview that was directly with the head of the division on Wednesday and thought it went extremely well. The previous interviews also went very well and I thought I had this job in the bag until Wednesday, the interview went pretty well with a few odd questions thinking back on it but I brushed it off ass him trying to see what my homelife was like and see if I was available to work OT to meet deadlines etc. Questions along the line of "Do you gave a girlfriend or fiance at home?" "No, but I do have a significant other and he's entirely understanding of the importantance of finishing up a project on time and correctly" "You have a boyfriend? You seemed very masculine, very well let's move on" and more basic questions ending in "We have a lot of office/family events, would your boyfriend be joining us?" "Yes, of course he would if he was available". Now I brushed this off mostly due to the age of this man, he's in his 50s and while people can be really understanding about gay relationships sometimes older individuals just word things a bit differently and not entirely "PC" but generally mean well overall. Today I received a call from HR thanking me for my time however I am not being offered a position at this time. I tried to do the most professional thing and ask them what their policies are on reapplying within the company for other positions etc in the field because I really do want to work there, feel like I'd be a fit blah blah blah. HR was really nice and explained all their policies and then gave me the head of the divisions email so I could connect with him a bit more. Okay! Great, I can reach out and ask him about other positions or possibilities in the future and network a bit. So I sent him an email earlier in the day thanking him for his time and politely asking about other positions and very nicely asking is there anything I could have improved on or can work on currently to make myself more suited for the company. What I got back was quite different than I was expecting. He very nicely answered everything then at the end in regards to my question about being more suited to the company sent back this "Your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment I have helped create here. Thank you for your interest in (company) however I will not be able to have you work in my department now or in the future." I sent him an email to his company email and received the response from his company email. I've never been actually really discriminated against due to being gay in such a way in a professional setting. I'm not super flamboyant or shout out that I am gay at every turn, I'm quite masculine and it really throws people off when they find out that I'm gay. Do I contact a higher up in the company about this? I'm perfectly suited for what they were looking for, right experience and degree and even know a handful of the people I would be working with and they sent emails to HR recommending me. I feel he directly didn't hire me because I am gay. What are my options here? This is a large company that's multinational and located in Seattle, WA. | e8wqzb3 | e8wn5bh | 1,541,163,605 | 1,541,158,888 | 61 | 9 | Nothing bad will come of just talking to an attorney. There is confidentiality and if they're worth their salt they can guide you without pressuring you to do anything you don't want to do. | You can either make a big deal out of this or keep looking for a job. I would say the former wouldn't be a bad idea given you have concrete proof. I would talk to an employment lawyer about this. You don't necessarily have to sue the company, but they would have experience in figuring out how to navigate trying to get either a job here or something else based on the email you received. | 1 | 4,717 | 6.777778 |
9tht66 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Turned down for a job, asked what the issues were. Told "your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment". I finished my degree a little bit ago but was asked by my current employer if I could finish out a project I was very involved in. The project is coming to an end and have been looking for a job that pays better and where I can actually begin using what I've been going to college for. I made it to the third interview that was directly with the head of the division on Wednesday and thought it went extremely well. The previous interviews also went very well and I thought I had this job in the bag until Wednesday, the interview went pretty well with a few odd questions thinking back on it but I brushed it off ass him trying to see what my homelife was like and see if I was available to work OT to meet deadlines etc. Questions along the line of "Do you gave a girlfriend or fiance at home?" "No, but I do have a significant other and he's entirely understanding of the importantance of finishing up a project on time and correctly" "You have a boyfriend? You seemed very masculine, very well let's move on" and more basic questions ending in "We have a lot of office/family events, would your boyfriend be joining us?" "Yes, of course he would if he was available". Now I brushed this off mostly due to the age of this man, he's in his 50s and while people can be really understanding about gay relationships sometimes older individuals just word things a bit differently and not entirely "PC" but generally mean well overall. Today I received a call from HR thanking me for my time however I am not being offered a position at this time. I tried to do the most professional thing and ask them what their policies are on reapplying within the company for other positions etc in the field because I really do want to work there, feel like I'd be a fit blah blah blah. HR was really nice and explained all their policies and then gave me the head of the divisions email so I could connect with him a bit more. Okay! Great, I can reach out and ask him about other positions or possibilities in the future and network a bit. So I sent him an email earlier in the day thanking him for his time and politely asking about other positions and very nicely asking is there anything I could have improved on or can work on currently to make myself more suited for the company. What I got back was quite different than I was expecting. He very nicely answered everything then at the end in regards to my question about being more suited to the company sent back this "Your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment I have helped create here. Thank you for your interest in (company) however I will not be able to have you work in my department now or in the future." I sent him an email to his company email and received the response from his company email. I've never been actually really discriminated against due to being gay in such a way in a professional setting. I'm not super flamboyant or shout out that I am gay at every turn, I'm quite masculine and it really throws people off when they find out that I'm gay. Do I contact a higher up in the company about this? I'm perfectly suited for what they were looking for, right experience and degree and even know a handful of the people I would be working with and they sent emails to HR recommending me. I feel he directly didn't hire me because I am gay. What are my options here? This is a large company that's multinational and located in Seattle, WA. | e8wvjoq | e8wn5bh | 1,541,167,981 | 1,541,158,888 | 24 | 9 | Yes, talk to an attorney. If that statement is actually in an email, this would be a very fun case to write a demand letter. | You can either make a big deal out of this or keep looking for a job. I would say the former wouldn't be a bad idea given you have concrete proof. I would talk to an employment lawyer about this. You don't necessarily have to sue the company, but they would have experience in figuring out how to navigate trying to get either a job here or something else based on the email you received. | 1 | 9,093 | 2.666667 |
9tht66 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Turned down for a job, asked what the issues were. Told "your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment". I finished my degree a little bit ago but was asked by my current employer if I could finish out a project I was very involved in. The project is coming to an end and have been looking for a job that pays better and where I can actually begin using what I've been going to college for. I made it to the third interview that was directly with the head of the division on Wednesday and thought it went extremely well. The previous interviews also went very well and I thought I had this job in the bag until Wednesday, the interview went pretty well with a few odd questions thinking back on it but I brushed it off ass him trying to see what my homelife was like and see if I was available to work OT to meet deadlines etc. Questions along the line of "Do you gave a girlfriend or fiance at home?" "No, but I do have a significant other and he's entirely understanding of the importantance of finishing up a project on time and correctly" "You have a boyfriend? You seemed very masculine, very well let's move on" and more basic questions ending in "We have a lot of office/family events, would your boyfriend be joining us?" "Yes, of course he would if he was available". Now I brushed this off mostly due to the age of this man, he's in his 50s and while people can be really understanding about gay relationships sometimes older individuals just word things a bit differently and not entirely "PC" but generally mean well overall. Today I received a call from HR thanking me for my time however I am not being offered a position at this time. I tried to do the most professional thing and ask them what their policies are on reapplying within the company for other positions etc in the field because I really do want to work there, feel like I'd be a fit blah blah blah. HR was really nice and explained all their policies and then gave me the head of the divisions email so I could connect with him a bit more. Okay! Great, I can reach out and ask him about other positions or possibilities in the future and network a bit. So I sent him an email earlier in the day thanking him for his time and politely asking about other positions and very nicely asking is there anything I could have improved on or can work on currently to make myself more suited for the company. What I got back was quite different than I was expecting. He very nicely answered everything then at the end in regards to my question about being more suited to the company sent back this "Your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment I have helped create here. Thank you for your interest in (company) however I will not be able to have you work in my department now or in the future." I sent him an email to his company email and received the response from his company email. I've never been actually really discriminated against due to being gay in such a way in a professional setting. I'm not super flamboyant or shout out that I am gay at every turn, I'm quite masculine and it really throws people off when they find out that I'm gay. Do I contact a higher up in the company about this? I'm perfectly suited for what they were looking for, right experience and degree and even know a handful of the people I would be working with and they sent emails to HR recommending me. I feel he directly didn't hire me because I am gay. What are my options here? This is a large company that's multinational and located in Seattle, WA. | e8xf97n | e8wn5bh | 1,541,183,552 | 1,541,158,888 | 10 | 9 | Save these emails in multiple places. Then send a politely disappointed reply back to him and BCC all the HR people you talked to so far. Most likely you won’t need to sue to get this guy fired and make sure this never happens again. A large multinational company in Seattle has nothing to gain from protecting a bigoted middle manager. | You can either make a big deal out of this or keep looking for a job. I would say the former wouldn't be a bad idea given you have concrete proof. I would talk to an employment lawyer about this. You don't necessarily have to sue the company, but they would have experience in figuring out how to navigate trying to get either a job here or something else based on the email you received. | 1 | 24,664 | 1.111111 |
9tht66 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Turned down for a job, asked what the issues were. Told "your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment". I finished my degree a little bit ago but was asked by my current employer if I could finish out a project I was very involved in. The project is coming to an end and have been looking for a job that pays better and where I can actually begin using what I've been going to college for. I made it to the third interview that was directly with the head of the division on Wednesday and thought it went extremely well. The previous interviews also went very well and I thought I had this job in the bag until Wednesday, the interview went pretty well with a few odd questions thinking back on it but I brushed it off ass him trying to see what my homelife was like and see if I was available to work OT to meet deadlines etc. Questions along the line of "Do you gave a girlfriend or fiance at home?" "No, but I do have a significant other and he's entirely understanding of the importantance of finishing up a project on time and correctly" "You have a boyfriend? You seemed very masculine, very well let's move on" and more basic questions ending in "We have a lot of office/family events, would your boyfriend be joining us?" "Yes, of course he would if he was available". Now I brushed this off mostly due to the age of this man, he's in his 50s and while people can be really understanding about gay relationships sometimes older individuals just word things a bit differently and not entirely "PC" but generally mean well overall. Today I received a call from HR thanking me for my time however I am not being offered a position at this time. I tried to do the most professional thing and ask them what their policies are on reapplying within the company for other positions etc in the field because I really do want to work there, feel like I'd be a fit blah blah blah. HR was really nice and explained all their policies and then gave me the head of the divisions email so I could connect with him a bit more. Okay! Great, I can reach out and ask him about other positions or possibilities in the future and network a bit. So I sent him an email earlier in the day thanking him for his time and politely asking about other positions and very nicely asking is there anything I could have improved on or can work on currently to make myself more suited for the company. What I got back was quite different than I was expecting. He very nicely answered everything then at the end in regards to my question about being more suited to the company sent back this "Your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment I have helped create here. Thank you for your interest in (company) however I will not be able to have you work in my department now or in the future." I sent him an email to his company email and received the response from his company email. I've never been actually really discriminated against due to being gay in such a way in a professional setting. I'm not super flamboyant or shout out that I am gay at every turn, I'm quite masculine and it really throws people off when they find out that I'm gay. Do I contact a higher up in the company about this? I'm perfectly suited for what they were looking for, right experience and degree and even know a handful of the people I would be working with and they sent emails to HR recommending me. I feel he directly didn't hire me because I am gay. What are my options here? This is a large company that's multinational and located in Seattle, WA. | e8xdd9y | e8xf97n | 1,541,182,139 | 1,541,183,552 | 8 | 10 | Not a lawyer However, according to the EEOC, this question was not allowed to be asked by the interviewer. It’s illegal to ask a candidate about many things (religion, race, age, sex and gender identity, pregnancy status, etc.); in your case they asked about your marital status which led to an answer about your sexual orientation, which is also something you aren’t allowed to ask about in an interview. That question did not merit an answer on your part, but you obliged him. Now he’s punishing you for answering a question he’s not allowed to ask. Clear cut discrimination. If you don’t want to seek litigation, please at least talk to the HR rep about him. They will know that question was out of line. Backed up by the statement he made IN WRITING to you for the reason why he will never give you a chance again, I’d say they would quite embarrassed and sympathetic. They may give you the “fair shot” you seek. Good luck OP! | Save these emails in multiple places. Then send a politely disappointed reply back to him and BCC all the HR people you talked to so far. Most likely you won’t need to sue to get this guy fired and make sure this never happens again. A large multinational company in Seattle has nothing to gain from protecting a bigoted middle manager. | 0 | 1,413 | 1.25 |
9tht66 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Turned down for a job, asked what the issues were. Told "your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment". I finished my degree a little bit ago but was asked by my current employer if I could finish out a project I was very involved in. The project is coming to an end and have been looking for a job that pays better and where I can actually begin using what I've been going to college for. I made it to the third interview that was directly with the head of the division on Wednesday and thought it went extremely well. The previous interviews also went very well and I thought I had this job in the bag until Wednesday, the interview went pretty well with a few odd questions thinking back on it but I brushed it off ass him trying to see what my homelife was like and see if I was available to work OT to meet deadlines etc. Questions along the line of "Do you gave a girlfriend or fiance at home?" "No, but I do have a significant other and he's entirely understanding of the importantance of finishing up a project on time and correctly" "You have a boyfriend? You seemed very masculine, very well let's move on" and more basic questions ending in "We have a lot of office/family events, would your boyfriend be joining us?" "Yes, of course he would if he was available". Now I brushed this off mostly due to the age of this man, he's in his 50s and while people can be really understanding about gay relationships sometimes older individuals just word things a bit differently and not entirely "PC" but generally mean well overall. Today I received a call from HR thanking me for my time however I am not being offered a position at this time. I tried to do the most professional thing and ask them what their policies are on reapplying within the company for other positions etc in the field because I really do want to work there, feel like I'd be a fit blah blah blah. HR was really nice and explained all their policies and then gave me the head of the divisions email so I could connect with him a bit more. Okay! Great, I can reach out and ask him about other positions or possibilities in the future and network a bit. So I sent him an email earlier in the day thanking him for his time and politely asking about other positions and very nicely asking is there anything I could have improved on or can work on currently to make myself more suited for the company. What I got back was quite different than I was expecting. He very nicely answered everything then at the end in regards to my question about being more suited to the company sent back this "Your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment I have helped create here. Thank you for your interest in (company) however I will not be able to have you work in my department now or in the future." I sent him an email to his company email and received the response from his company email. I've never been actually really discriminated against due to being gay in such a way in a professional setting. I'm not super flamboyant or shout out that I am gay at every turn, I'm quite masculine and it really throws people off when they find out that I'm gay. Do I contact a higher up in the company about this? I'm perfectly suited for what they were looking for, right experience and degree and even know a handful of the people I would be working with and they sent emails to HR recommending me. I feel he directly didn't hire me because I am gay. What are my options here? This is a large company that's multinational and located in Seattle, WA. | e8xf97n | e8x2bzl | 1,541,183,552 | 1,541,173,597 | 10 | 5 | Save these emails in multiple places. Then send a politely disappointed reply back to him and BCC all the HR people you talked to so far. Most likely you won’t need to sue to get this guy fired and make sure this never happens again. A large multinational company in Seattle has nothing to gain from protecting a bigoted middle manager. | Everyone who is telling him to sue, what law would that be based on? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_employment_discrimination_in_the_United_States *The regulation of LGBT employment discrimination in the United States varies by jurisdiction. Many states and localities prohibit bias in hiring, promotion, job assignment, termination, and compensation, as well as harassment on the basis of one's sexual orientation. Fewer extend those protections to cover sexual identity.[1] Some cover government employees, but do not extend their protections to the private sector. Protections at the national level are limited. There is no federal statute explicitly addressing employment discrimination based on sexual orientation or gender identity. However, the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) interprets Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 to cover discrimination against LGBT employees, as "allegations of discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation necessarily state a claim of discrimination on the basis of sex".[2] This interpretation in essence bars employment discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation in accordance with the Civil Rights Act of 1964.[3] In 2012 the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission ruled that Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 does not allow gender identity-based employment discrimination because it is a form of sex discrimination.[4] Then in 2015, the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission concluded that Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 does not allow sexual orientation discrimination in employment because it is a form of sex discrimination.[5][6] However, these rulings, while persuasive, may not be binding on courts.* | 1 | 9,955 | 2 |
9tht66 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Turned down for a job, asked what the issues were. Told "your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment". I finished my degree a little bit ago but was asked by my current employer if I could finish out a project I was very involved in. The project is coming to an end and have been looking for a job that pays better and where I can actually begin using what I've been going to college for. I made it to the third interview that was directly with the head of the division on Wednesday and thought it went extremely well. The previous interviews also went very well and I thought I had this job in the bag until Wednesday, the interview went pretty well with a few odd questions thinking back on it but I brushed it off ass him trying to see what my homelife was like and see if I was available to work OT to meet deadlines etc. Questions along the line of "Do you gave a girlfriend or fiance at home?" "No, but I do have a significant other and he's entirely understanding of the importantance of finishing up a project on time and correctly" "You have a boyfriend? You seemed very masculine, very well let's move on" and more basic questions ending in "We have a lot of office/family events, would your boyfriend be joining us?" "Yes, of course he would if he was available". Now I brushed this off mostly due to the age of this man, he's in his 50s and while people can be really understanding about gay relationships sometimes older individuals just word things a bit differently and not entirely "PC" but generally mean well overall. Today I received a call from HR thanking me for my time however I am not being offered a position at this time. I tried to do the most professional thing and ask them what their policies are on reapplying within the company for other positions etc in the field because I really do want to work there, feel like I'd be a fit blah blah blah. HR was really nice and explained all their policies and then gave me the head of the divisions email so I could connect with him a bit more. Okay! Great, I can reach out and ask him about other positions or possibilities in the future and network a bit. So I sent him an email earlier in the day thanking him for his time and politely asking about other positions and very nicely asking is there anything I could have improved on or can work on currently to make myself more suited for the company. What I got back was quite different than I was expecting. He very nicely answered everything then at the end in regards to my question about being more suited to the company sent back this "Your sexuality may be an issue with the atmosphere of the office environment I have helped create here. Thank you for your interest in (company) however I will not be able to have you work in my department now or in the future." I sent him an email to his company email and received the response from his company email. I've never been actually really discriminated against due to being gay in such a way in a professional setting. I'm not super flamboyant or shout out that I am gay at every turn, I'm quite masculine and it really throws people off when they find out that I'm gay. Do I contact a higher up in the company about this? I'm perfectly suited for what they were looking for, right experience and degree and even know a handful of the people I would be working with and they sent emails to HR recommending me. I feel he directly didn't hire me because I am gay. What are my options here? This is a large company that's multinational and located in Seattle, WA. | e8x2bzl | e8xdd9y | 1,541,173,597 | 1,541,182,139 | 5 | 8 | Everyone who is telling him to sue, what law would that be based on? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_employment_discrimination_in_the_United_States *The regulation of LGBT employment discrimination in the United States varies by jurisdiction. Many states and localities prohibit bias in hiring, promotion, job assignment, termination, and compensation, as well as harassment on the basis of one's sexual orientation. Fewer extend those protections to cover sexual identity.[1] Some cover government employees, but do not extend their protections to the private sector. Protections at the national level are limited. There is no federal statute explicitly addressing employment discrimination based on sexual orientation or gender identity. However, the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) interprets Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 to cover discrimination against LGBT employees, as "allegations of discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation necessarily state a claim of discrimination on the basis of sex".[2] This interpretation in essence bars employment discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation in accordance with the Civil Rights Act of 1964.[3] In 2012 the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission ruled that Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 does not allow gender identity-based employment discrimination because it is a form of sex discrimination.[4] Then in 2015, the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission concluded that Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 does not allow sexual orientation discrimination in employment because it is a form of sex discrimination.[5][6] However, these rulings, while persuasive, may not be binding on courts.* | Not a lawyer However, according to the EEOC, this question was not allowed to be asked by the interviewer. It’s illegal to ask a candidate about many things (religion, race, age, sex and gender identity, pregnancy status, etc.); in your case they asked about your marital status which led to an answer about your sexual orientation, which is also something you aren’t allowed to ask about in an interview. That question did not merit an answer on your part, but you obliged him. Now he’s punishing you for answering a question he’s not allowed to ask. Clear cut discrimination. If you don’t want to seek litigation, please at least talk to the HR rep about him. They will know that question was out of line. Backed up by the statement he made IN WRITING to you for the reason why he will never give you a chance again, I’d say they would quite embarrassed and sympathetic. They may give you the “fair shot” you seek. Good luck OP! | 0 | 8,542 | 1.6 |
zt4lj1 | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | job will not allow me to bring service dog into work anymore, not sure what to do? so i have a service dog, i’ve had him for two years and he’s task trained for both some physical disabilities as well as anxiety. i am not comfortable going anywhere without my service dog. simply put. i need this dog with me wherever i go because he is the only thing that can help mitigate my issues. i’m a teacher at a private elementary school. when i was hired i was told i can bring him as long as no one can pet him or anything. that’s fine, wasn’t planning on allowing anyone to pet him. he is very far from a distraction in my class. he lays at my feet all class and tasks when necessary. i usually sit at/near my desk at the front of the class during class time so most of the time he’s not even visible as he’s behind the desk. he wears very unassuming gear, just a harness that says that hes a service dog and a collar and of course a leash that wraps around my waist. the kids are used to him, i know the kids who have allergies to dogs and i keep him on a food made to reduce allergens as well as brush him out everyday so he doesn’t shed much. he doesnt go up to anyone or anything, he’s incredibly well trained. all of the parents are aware of him and i havent received any complaints or anything about him. i have a teacher’s website for my kids’ parents to find resources on and such. theres a page for him that shows his behaviour in class as well as tasks he is trained to do. the school is fine with him and hes just apart of the routine at this point. until this past week. i learned from my principal that a parent called and complained about my service dog, calling him a distraction from learning. i asked my principal to elaborate, to tell me what exactly this parent meant by a distraction, as he is my medical equipment and i need him to exist in everyday life. before i had him as my service dog, i had his predecessor, who went with me all throughout high school and early college and then i got him and slowly retired her. needless to say, i’ve relied on one to function since i was 15. my principal talked to HR and then told me he won’t be allowed to come to work with me anymore. i almost started crying learning this information. i have memorised the ADA law as i’ve had a service dog for 5 years, so i tried explaining to my principal that he legally can be wherever i want him to be except for a few places, classrooms not being one of them. he completely shut me down, saying “if you want to talk legally, we can have that conversation with HR” which scared the shit out of me so i just walked away. i’m at a loss as to what to do. we’re on winter break atm and i’m just not sure what to do. do i have a case? is the principal right? i’m not sure. completely unfamiliar with taking action against this because i’ve never been in this situation before. i’m in florida, if that matters. | j1bsguf | j1cb7yq | 1,671,765,663 | 1,671,776,091 | 546 | 850 | > “if you want to talk legally, we can have that conversation with HR” If you are not comfortable expressing your rights, you get a lawyer to help you fight for your rights. | People here seem to not know the difference between ADA employment accommodations and public access accommodations. Has your doctor filled out ADA paperwork? Have you gone through the interactive process? They don’t have to immediately accept your requested accommodation but they do have to agree to a reasonable accommodation if at all possible. (For instance if you were a surgeon it would not be reasonable to have your dog in the operating room.) If you haven’t done so already, ask hr for the ADA paperwork. And if you have and they already agreed to the service dog as an accommodation then what you need is an employment attorney. | 0 | 10,428 | 1.556777 |
zt4lj1 | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | job will not allow me to bring service dog into work anymore, not sure what to do? so i have a service dog, i’ve had him for two years and he’s task trained for both some physical disabilities as well as anxiety. i am not comfortable going anywhere without my service dog. simply put. i need this dog with me wherever i go because he is the only thing that can help mitigate my issues. i’m a teacher at a private elementary school. when i was hired i was told i can bring him as long as no one can pet him or anything. that’s fine, wasn’t planning on allowing anyone to pet him. he is very far from a distraction in my class. he lays at my feet all class and tasks when necessary. i usually sit at/near my desk at the front of the class during class time so most of the time he’s not even visible as he’s behind the desk. he wears very unassuming gear, just a harness that says that hes a service dog and a collar and of course a leash that wraps around my waist. the kids are used to him, i know the kids who have allergies to dogs and i keep him on a food made to reduce allergens as well as brush him out everyday so he doesn’t shed much. he doesnt go up to anyone or anything, he’s incredibly well trained. all of the parents are aware of him and i havent received any complaints or anything about him. i have a teacher’s website for my kids’ parents to find resources on and such. theres a page for him that shows his behaviour in class as well as tasks he is trained to do. the school is fine with him and hes just apart of the routine at this point. until this past week. i learned from my principal that a parent called and complained about my service dog, calling him a distraction from learning. i asked my principal to elaborate, to tell me what exactly this parent meant by a distraction, as he is my medical equipment and i need him to exist in everyday life. before i had him as my service dog, i had his predecessor, who went with me all throughout high school and early college and then i got him and slowly retired her. needless to say, i’ve relied on one to function since i was 15. my principal talked to HR and then told me he won’t be allowed to come to work with me anymore. i almost started crying learning this information. i have memorised the ADA law as i’ve had a service dog for 5 years, so i tried explaining to my principal that he legally can be wherever i want him to be except for a few places, classrooms not being one of them. he completely shut me down, saying “if you want to talk legally, we can have that conversation with HR” which scared the shit out of me so i just walked away. i’m at a loss as to what to do. we’re on winter break atm and i’m just not sure what to do. do i have a case? is the principal right? i’m not sure. completely unfamiliar with taking action against this because i’ve never been in this situation before. i’m in florida, if that matters. | j1cb7yq | j1byitx | 1,671,776,091 | 1,671,768,654 | 850 | 126 | People here seem to not know the difference between ADA employment accommodations and public access accommodations. Has your doctor filled out ADA paperwork? Have you gone through the interactive process? They don’t have to immediately accept your requested accommodation but they do have to agree to a reasonable accommodation if at all possible. (For instance if you were a surgeon it would not be reasonable to have your dog in the operating room.) If you haven’t done so already, ask hr for the ADA paperwork. And if you have and they already agreed to the service dog as an accommodation then what you need is an employment attorney. | Not a lawyer I would send an email to the principal kind of rehashing the conversation you guys had so you have it in writing. Going forward I would ask for policies or new rules in writing. That way if you end up contacting a lawyer to kindly explain to them they're breaking the law, or worst case scenario you got fired and were interested in contacting a lawyer about that, you would have written proof with some semblance of a timeline explaining what transpired. Sorry you're going through this. I hope you're able to enjoy your break and that you have a happy new year!!! | 1 | 7,437 | 6.746032 |
zt4lj1 | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | job will not allow me to bring service dog into work anymore, not sure what to do? so i have a service dog, i’ve had him for two years and he’s task trained for both some physical disabilities as well as anxiety. i am not comfortable going anywhere without my service dog. simply put. i need this dog with me wherever i go because he is the only thing that can help mitigate my issues. i’m a teacher at a private elementary school. when i was hired i was told i can bring him as long as no one can pet him or anything. that’s fine, wasn’t planning on allowing anyone to pet him. he is very far from a distraction in my class. he lays at my feet all class and tasks when necessary. i usually sit at/near my desk at the front of the class during class time so most of the time he’s not even visible as he’s behind the desk. he wears very unassuming gear, just a harness that says that hes a service dog and a collar and of course a leash that wraps around my waist. the kids are used to him, i know the kids who have allergies to dogs and i keep him on a food made to reduce allergens as well as brush him out everyday so he doesn’t shed much. he doesnt go up to anyone or anything, he’s incredibly well trained. all of the parents are aware of him and i havent received any complaints or anything about him. i have a teacher’s website for my kids’ parents to find resources on and such. theres a page for him that shows his behaviour in class as well as tasks he is trained to do. the school is fine with him and hes just apart of the routine at this point. until this past week. i learned from my principal that a parent called and complained about my service dog, calling him a distraction from learning. i asked my principal to elaborate, to tell me what exactly this parent meant by a distraction, as he is my medical equipment and i need him to exist in everyday life. before i had him as my service dog, i had his predecessor, who went with me all throughout high school and early college and then i got him and slowly retired her. needless to say, i’ve relied on one to function since i was 15. my principal talked to HR and then told me he won’t be allowed to come to work with me anymore. i almost started crying learning this information. i have memorised the ADA law as i’ve had a service dog for 5 years, so i tried explaining to my principal that he legally can be wherever i want him to be except for a few places, classrooms not being one of them. he completely shut me down, saying “if you want to talk legally, we can have that conversation with HR” which scared the shit out of me so i just walked away. i’m at a loss as to what to do. we’re on winter break atm and i’m just not sure what to do. do i have a case? is the principal right? i’m not sure. completely unfamiliar with taking action against this because i’ve never been in this situation before. i’m in florida, if that matters. | j1cb7yq | j1byzss | 1,671,776,091 | 1,671,768,905 | 850 | 59 | People here seem to not know the difference between ADA employment accommodations and public access accommodations. Has your doctor filled out ADA paperwork? Have you gone through the interactive process? They don’t have to immediately accept your requested accommodation but they do have to agree to a reasonable accommodation if at all possible. (For instance if you were a surgeon it would not be reasonable to have your dog in the operating room.) If you haven’t done so already, ask hr for the ADA paperwork. And if you have and they already agreed to the service dog as an accommodation then what you need is an employment attorney. | Here is a link to Florida’s state disability advocates. They can help steer you to resources. | 1 | 7,186 | 14.40678 |
zt4lj1 | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | job will not allow me to bring service dog into work anymore, not sure what to do? so i have a service dog, i’ve had him for two years and he’s task trained for both some physical disabilities as well as anxiety. i am not comfortable going anywhere without my service dog. simply put. i need this dog with me wherever i go because he is the only thing that can help mitigate my issues. i’m a teacher at a private elementary school. when i was hired i was told i can bring him as long as no one can pet him or anything. that’s fine, wasn’t planning on allowing anyone to pet him. he is very far from a distraction in my class. he lays at my feet all class and tasks when necessary. i usually sit at/near my desk at the front of the class during class time so most of the time he’s not even visible as he’s behind the desk. he wears very unassuming gear, just a harness that says that hes a service dog and a collar and of course a leash that wraps around my waist. the kids are used to him, i know the kids who have allergies to dogs and i keep him on a food made to reduce allergens as well as brush him out everyday so he doesn’t shed much. he doesnt go up to anyone or anything, he’s incredibly well trained. all of the parents are aware of him and i havent received any complaints or anything about him. i have a teacher’s website for my kids’ parents to find resources on and such. theres a page for him that shows his behaviour in class as well as tasks he is trained to do. the school is fine with him and hes just apart of the routine at this point. until this past week. i learned from my principal that a parent called and complained about my service dog, calling him a distraction from learning. i asked my principal to elaborate, to tell me what exactly this parent meant by a distraction, as he is my medical equipment and i need him to exist in everyday life. before i had him as my service dog, i had his predecessor, who went with me all throughout high school and early college and then i got him and slowly retired her. needless to say, i’ve relied on one to function since i was 15. my principal talked to HR and then told me he won’t be allowed to come to work with me anymore. i almost started crying learning this information. i have memorised the ADA law as i’ve had a service dog for 5 years, so i tried explaining to my principal that he legally can be wherever i want him to be except for a few places, classrooms not being one of them. he completely shut me down, saying “if you want to talk legally, we can have that conversation with HR” which scared the shit out of me so i just walked away. i’m at a loss as to what to do. we’re on winter break atm and i’m just not sure what to do. do i have a case? is the principal right? i’m not sure. completely unfamiliar with taking action against this because i’ve never been in this situation before. i’m in florida, if that matters. | j1dazru | j1byzss | 1,671,802,437 | 1,671,768,905 | 67 | 59 | Since you've been doing this without incident for 2 years, it's possible that due to a customer complaint the school is going to do a CYA by making you formally request your service dog as a reasonable accommodation. Start with talking to HR and requesting a reasonable accommodation. | Here is a link to Florida’s state disability advocates. They can help steer you to resources. | 1 | 33,532 | 1.135593 |
zt4lj1 | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | job will not allow me to bring service dog into work anymore, not sure what to do? so i have a service dog, i’ve had him for two years and he’s task trained for both some physical disabilities as well as anxiety. i am not comfortable going anywhere without my service dog. simply put. i need this dog with me wherever i go because he is the only thing that can help mitigate my issues. i’m a teacher at a private elementary school. when i was hired i was told i can bring him as long as no one can pet him or anything. that’s fine, wasn’t planning on allowing anyone to pet him. he is very far from a distraction in my class. he lays at my feet all class and tasks when necessary. i usually sit at/near my desk at the front of the class during class time so most of the time he’s not even visible as he’s behind the desk. he wears very unassuming gear, just a harness that says that hes a service dog and a collar and of course a leash that wraps around my waist. the kids are used to him, i know the kids who have allergies to dogs and i keep him on a food made to reduce allergens as well as brush him out everyday so he doesn’t shed much. he doesnt go up to anyone or anything, he’s incredibly well trained. all of the parents are aware of him and i havent received any complaints or anything about him. i have a teacher’s website for my kids’ parents to find resources on and such. theres a page for him that shows his behaviour in class as well as tasks he is trained to do. the school is fine with him and hes just apart of the routine at this point. until this past week. i learned from my principal that a parent called and complained about my service dog, calling him a distraction from learning. i asked my principal to elaborate, to tell me what exactly this parent meant by a distraction, as he is my medical equipment and i need him to exist in everyday life. before i had him as my service dog, i had his predecessor, who went with me all throughout high school and early college and then i got him and slowly retired her. needless to say, i’ve relied on one to function since i was 15. my principal talked to HR and then told me he won’t be allowed to come to work with me anymore. i almost started crying learning this information. i have memorised the ADA law as i’ve had a service dog for 5 years, so i tried explaining to my principal that he legally can be wherever i want him to be except for a few places, classrooms not being one of them. he completely shut me down, saying “if you want to talk legally, we can have that conversation with HR” which scared the shit out of me so i just walked away. i’m at a loss as to what to do. we’re on winter break atm and i’m just not sure what to do. do i have a case? is the principal right? i’m not sure. completely unfamiliar with taking action against this because i’ve never been in this situation before. i’m in florida, if that matters. | j1dazru | j1cr9e0 | 1,671,802,437 | 1,671,788,274 | 67 | 23 | Since you've been doing this without incident for 2 years, it's possible that due to a customer complaint the school is going to do a CYA by making you formally request your service dog as a reasonable accommodation. Start with talking to HR and requesting a reasonable accommodation. | If you're a part of a union, I'd ask them to go with you to the meeting. | 1 | 14,163 | 2.913043 |
zt4lj1 | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | job will not allow me to bring service dog into work anymore, not sure what to do? so i have a service dog, i’ve had him for two years and he’s task trained for both some physical disabilities as well as anxiety. i am not comfortable going anywhere without my service dog. simply put. i need this dog with me wherever i go because he is the only thing that can help mitigate my issues. i’m a teacher at a private elementary school. when i was hired i was told i can bring him as long as no one can pet him or anything. that’s fine, wasn’t planning on allowing anyone to pet him. he is very far from a distraction in my class. he lays at my feet all class and tasks when necessary. i usually sit at/near my desk at the front of the class during class time so most of the time he’s not even visible as he’s behind the desk. he wears very unassuming gear, just a harness that says that hes a service dog and a collar and of course a leash that wraps around my waist. the kids are used to him, i know the kids who have allergies to dogs and i keep him on a food made to reduce allergens as well as brush him out everyday so he doesn’t shed much. he doesnt go up to anyone or anything, he’s incredibly well trained. all of the parents are aware of him and i havent received any complaints or anything about him. i have a teacher’s website for my kids’ parents to find resources on and such. theres a page for him that shows his behaviour in class as well as tasks he is trained to do. the school is fine with him and hes just apart of the routine at this point. until this past week. i learned from my principal that a parent called and complained about my service dog, calling him a distraction from learning. i asked my principal to elaborate, to tell me what exactly this parent meant by a distraction, as he is my medical equipment and i need him to exist in everyday life. before i had him as my service dog, i had his predecessor, who went with me all throughout high school and early college and then i got him and slowly retired her. needless to say, i’ve relied on one to function since i was 15. my principal talked to HR and then told me he won’t be allowed to come to work with me anymore. i almost started crying learning this information. i have memorised the ADA law as i’ve had a service dog for 5 years, so i tried explaining to my principal that he legally can be wherever i want him to be except for a few places, classrooms not being one of them. he completely shut me down, saying “if you want to talk legally, we can have that conversation with HR” which scared the shit out of me so i just walked away. i’m at a loss as to what to do. we’re on winter break atm and i’m just not sure what to do. do i have a case? is the principal right? i’m not sure. completely unfamiliar with taking action against this because i’ve never been in this situation before. i’m in florida, if that matters. | j1d9u4j | j1dazru | 1,671,801,791 | 1,671,802,437 | 19 | 67 | Contact Disability Rights Florida https://disabilityrightsflorida.org/ | Since you've been doing this without incident for 2 years, it's possible that due to a customer complaint the school is going to do a CYA by making you formally request your service dog as a reasonable accommodation. Start with talking to HR and requesting a reasonable accommodation. | 0 | 646 | 3.526316 |
zt4lj1 | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | job will not allow me to bring service dog into work anymore, not sure what to do? so i have a service dog, i’ve had him for two years and he’s task trained for both some physical disabilities as well as anxiety. i am not comfortable going anywhere without my service dog. simply put. i need this dog with me wherever i go because he is the only thing that can help mitigate my issues. i’m a teacher at a private elementary school. when i was hired i was told i can bring him as long as no one can pet him or anything. that’s fine, wasn’t planning on allowing anyone to pet him. he is very far from a distraction in my class. he lays at my feet all class and tasks when necessary. i usually sit at/near my desk at the front of the class during class time so most of the time he’s not even visible as he’s behind the desk. he wears very unassuming gear, just a harness that says that hes a service dog and a collar and of course a leash that wraps around my waist. the kids are used to him, i know the kids who have allergies to dogs and i keep him on a food made to reduce allergens as well as brush him out everyday so he doesn’t shed much. he doesnt go up to anyone or anything, he’s incredibly well trained. all of the parents are aware of him and i havent received any complaints or anything about him. i have a teacher’s website for my kids’ parents to find resources on and such. theres a page for him that shows his behaviour in class as well as tasks he is trained to do. the school is fine with him and hes just apart of the routine at this point. until this past week. i learned from my principal that a parent called and complained about my service dog, calling him a distraction from learning. i asked my principal to elaborate, to tell me what exactly this parent meant by a distraction, as he is my medical equipment and i need him to exist in everyday life. before i had him as my service dog, i had his predecessor, who went with me all throughout high school and early college and then i got him and slowly retired her. needless to say, i’ve relied on one to function since i was 15. my principal talked to HR and then told me he won’t be allowed to come to work with me anymore. i almost started crying learning this information. i have memorised the ADA law as i’ve had a service dog for 5 years, so i tried explaining to my principal that he legally can be wherever i want him to be except for a few places, classrooms not being one of them. he completely shut me down, saying “if you want to talk legally, we can have that conversation with HR” which scared the shit out of me so i just walked away. i’m at a loss as to what to do. we’re on winter break atm and i’m just not sure what to do. do i have a case? is the principal right? i’m not sure. completely unfamiliar with taking action against this because i’ve never been in this situation before. i’m in florida, if that matters. | j1cr9e0 | j1dhbgz | 1,671,788,274 | 1,671,805,614 | 23 | 33 | If you're a part of a union, I'd ask them to go with you to the meeting. | I know this is shocking, but most reddit users have no clue how ADA works. An employer must make reasonable accommodations for your disability, it is the term reasonable that is key here. The school can say that since it's primary mission is educating children and the dog is distracting from that mission it is not reasonable to allow it. The correct course of action is to have a dialogue with HR, explain why you feel the accommodation is reasonable, if all goes good they will agree and make the accommodation, if they decide it isn't reasonable then you still have options, but they are going to cost you some lawyer fees. You want to find an employment lawyer who specializes in disability cases, or a disability lawyer who specializes in employment cases. They will start off with a demand letter saying that the request for accommodation is reasonable and should be allowed, if the school still doesn't allow it then it goes in front of a judge and the judge will decide what is reasonable. Honestly this isn't a homerun suit. | 0 | 17,340 | 1.434783 |
zt4lj1 | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | job will not allow me to bring service dog into work anymore, not sure what to do? so i have a service dog, i’ve had him for two years and he’s task trained for both some physical disabilities as well as anxiety. i am not comfortable going anywhere without my service dog. simply put. i need this dog with me wherever i go because he is the only thing that can help mitigate my issues. i’m a teacher at a private elementary school. when i was hired i was told i can bring him as long as no one can pet him or anything. that’s fine, wasn’t planning on allowing anyone to pet him. he is very far from a distraction in my class. he lays at my feet all class and tasks when necessary. i usually sit at/near my desk at the front of the class during class time so most of the time he’s not even visible as he’s behind the desk. he wears very unassuming gear, just a harness that says that hes a service dog and a collar and of course a leash that wraps around my waist. the kids are used to him, i know the kids who have allergies to dogs and i keep him on a food made to reduce allergens as well as brush him out everyday so he doesn’t shed much. he doesnt go up to anyone or anything, he’s incredibly well trained. all of the parents are aware of him and i havent received any complaints or anything about him. i have a teacher’s website for my kids’ parents to find resources on and such. theres a page for him that shows his behaviour in class as well as tasks he is trained to do. the school is fine with him and hes just apart of the routine at this point. until this past week. i learned from my principal that a parent called and complained about my service dog, calling him a distraction from learning. i asked my principal to elaborate, to tell me what exactly this parent meant by a distraction, as he is my medical equipment and i need him to exist in everyday life. before i had him as my service dog, i had his predecessor, who went with me all throughout high school and early college and then i got him and slowly retired her. needless to say, i’ve relied on one to function since i was 15. my principal talked to HR and then told me he won’t be allowed to come to work with me anymore. i almost started crying learning this information. i have memorised the ADA law as i’ve had a service dog for 5 years, so i tried explaining to my principal that he legally can be wherever i want him to be except for a few places, classrooms not being one of them. he completely shut me down, saying “if you want to talk legally, we can have that conversation with HR” which scared the shit out of me so i just walked away. i’m at a loss as to what to do. we’re on winter break atm and i’m just not sure what to do. do i have a case? is the principal right? i’m not sure. completely unfamiliar with taking action against this because i’ve never been in this situation before. i’m in florida, if that matters. | j1d9u4j | j1dhbgz | 1,671,801,791 | 1,671,805,614 | 19 | 33 | Contact Disability Rights Florida https://disabilityrightsflorida.org/ | I know this is shocking, but most reddit users have no clue how ADA works. An employer must make reasonable accommodations for your disability, it is the term reasonable that is key here. The school can say that since it's primary mission is educating children and the dog is distracting from that mission it is not reasonable to allow it. The correct course of action is to have a dialogue with HR, explain why you feel the accommodation is reasonable, if all goes good they will agree and make the accommodation, if they decide it isn't reasonable then you still have options, but they are going to cost you some lawyer fees. You want to find an employment lawyer who specializes in disability cases, or a disability lawyer who specializes in employment cases. They will start off with a demand letter saying that the request for accommodation is reasonable and should be allowed, if the school still doesn't allow it then it goes in front of a judge and the judge will decide what is reasonable. Honestly this isn't a homerun suit. | 0 | 3,823 | 1.736842 |
dmdldb | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I've heard that my daughters paternal grandmother is looking into changing my daughters last name from my name to her father's, can she legally do this if I have full custody? My daughter has my last name. Me and her father did not end things on a good note when we decided we weren't going to be together. And since I was the one going to the appointments, giving birth to her, and presumably being the main caretaker (which I was and mostly still am) I gave her my last name at birth. This has been something that my daughters father and his mother do not like, but I've told them before I'd prefer she keep my name. I get that most children take the fathers name but if we're not together and I was the one birthing her and then taking care of her the majority of her life I saw no reason that she shouldn't have my last name. They've asked me to go through the paper work to change it before. I've told them I'm not comfortable with it. Yesterday I had someone tell me that my daughters grandmother had mentioned she was going up to the social security office to see about changing my daughters last name. I'm obviously upset that they're going to these measures to go behind my back on something I told them I was not okay with. We went to court a few years ago and I was awarded full custody with us splitting visitation. In the court agreement it essentially says that as the parent with full custody all major decisions are mine to be made and while her father can give his input it's still not his place to be making any decisions. My question is, can they legally request for her name to be changed? Will the social security office or wherever else they go to do their homework and see that they don't have full custody and I do? ETA: I'm from Oklahoma. | f53k1wy | f50607r | 1,571,960,591 | 1,571,922,485 | 17 | 11 | This may be semantics, but children don't default to taking the father's name, they take the *family* name. If you weren't married and the sole parental guardian, it makes perfect sense your child has your surname. | She cant do it just because she feels like it but the father could take you to court to force it. Unfortunately, there are some judges that believe the kids should have the fathers last name regardless of the fathers involvement and will grant it based on tradition (something I learned from experience). There is the chance that if they push it you could end up in a court battle over it so just be prepared for that. | 1 | 38,106 | 1.545455 |
iqal2h | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [TN] Landlord won't let my friend move in and is requiring him to find someone to take over lease I have a friend who signed a lease with a popular student housing option in our town. On move-in day, they told him he will not be allowed to move in without submitting a guarantor, and if he cant, that he is obligated to find someone to take over the lease. This seems sketchy because I had the impression that guarantors sign the lease concurrently with the landlord and tenant, and if they don't render services as expressed in the signed lease, they are in breach of contract. Does this sound like breach of contract and what would be his options for recourse? | g4qs48v | g4qppro | 1,599,769,881 | 1,599,769,246 | 160 | 100 | If there was already a lease signed with no requirements of a guarantor then the landlord has to honor the lease. Why all of a sudden i a guarantor required. Does you friend had a copy of the lease signed by everyone? | What does the lease say? I doubt they can keep him from moving in while holding him to the part of the lease that requires he find a subletter. If the lease required a guarantor- and he is didn't have one (or his wasn't approved), then he probably doesn't have a lease. He can find someplace else to live. Find a new guarantor which is pretty hard- though I believe there are some companies that provide that as a service. | 1 | 635 | 1.6 |
q5naie | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My aunt works for the IRS, looked into my tax history, and has been telling my family without my consent. So I moved in with my grandpa to take care of him (in Wisconsin) I was paid for said work. My aunt who works for the IRS had made me an EIN for tax purposes. I had some issues with my taxes, and that EIN number and I kept getting rejected from a tax app (which I'm resolving with my tax guy, and hadn't discussed this with said aunt- because I don't want my family knowing about my Financials beyond the whole grandpa thing.) Anyway, my grandpa has since moved into assisted living- and I was renting his house (a loosely verbal agreement for me to stay there for $X/month) well I was supposed to be paid for taking my grandpa to appointments, and any time he wanted to run errands. I was told to log my hours, I logged 28 hours that I haven't been paid for. A bunch of drama went down with my family and they wanted me to move out. So I did, and I talked with my grandpa about the last month rent, and how I hadn't been paid for those hours- the amount they owe me is more than I owe for rent, and me and my grandpa agreed that we could just call it even. However my uncle and aunt have decided that somehow I am stealing from my grandpa by doing this? Than my aunt who works for the IRS had looked into my tax history without my consent, and than told some members of my family that my taxes are "all messed up" and she also said "she must be doing something suspicious". So... is it legal for her to take it upon herself to look into my tax history and than tell my family without my consent? | hg6s7o5 | hg7d3im | 1,633,923,409 | 1,633,937,454 | 703 | 874 | Report Fraud, Waste and Abuse to Treasury Inspector General for Tax Administration (TIGTA), if you want to report, confidentially, misconduct, waste, fraud, or abuse by an IRS employee or a Tax Professional, you can call 1-800-366-4484 (1-800-877-8339 for TTY/TDD users). | Former IRS employee, Accounts Management. Report her yesterday. The IRS will take it from there, and yes, they have access records for every file. Your aunt is *specifically* prohibited from looking up the tax info of anyone she knows or any major public figures. If she got your file in her caseload by accident and opened your file and recognized you, she has to report it to her manager and recuse herself. Additionally, for it to be random chance is one in 150 million (the approximate number of non-business individual US taxpayers) odds. She is absolutely, positively, **NOT ALLOWED BY LAW** to disclose the tax information she sees in the course of her day-to-day work to anyone outside of the IRS for any reason, like holy hell, the IRS takes that incredibly seriously. | 0 | 14,045 | 1.243243 |
q5naie | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My aunt works for the IRS, looked into my tax history, and has been telling my family without my consent. So I moved in with my grandpa to take care of him (in Wisconsin) I was paid for said work. My aunt who works for the IRS had made me an EIN for tax purposes. I had some issues with my taxes, and that EIN number and I kept getting rejected from a tax app (which I'm resolving with my tax guy, and hadn't discussed this with said aunt- because I don't want my family knowing about my Financials beyond the whole grandpa thing.) Anyway, my grandpa has since moved into assisted living- and I was renting his house (a loosely verbal agreement for me to stay there for $X/month) well I was supposed to be paid for taking my grandpa to appointments, and any time he wanted to run errands. I was told to log my hours, I logged 28 hours that I haven't been paid for. A bunch of drama went down with my family and they wanted me to move out. So I did, and I talked with my grandpa about the last month rent, and how I hadn't been paid for those hours- the amount they owe me is more than I owe for rent, and me and my grandpa agreed that we could just call it even. However my uncle and aunt have decided that somehow I am stealing from my grandpa by doing this? Than my aunt who works for the IRS had looked into my tax history without my consent, and than told some members of my family that my taxes are "all messed up" and she also said "she must be doing something suspicious". So... is it legal for her to take it upon herself to look into my tax history and than tell my family without my consent? | hg776nk | hg7d3im | 1,633,932,757 | 1,633,937,454 | 209 | 874 | Title 23 data is like Title 13 data. It's treated like plutonium. If your aunt is a sworn employee, she faces serious legal action and fines for breaking confidentiality rules. I'm a former Census employee, and one of the things we were instructed in was data stewardship. The IRS takes its data stewardship just as seriously. You needed to report her now, because if she's viewing your data, she's probably doing it to others. | Former IRS employee, Accounts Management. Report her yesterday. The IRS will take it from there, and yes, they have access records for every file. Your aunt is *specifically* prohibited from looking up the tax info of anyone she knows or any major public figures. If she got your file in her caseload by accident and opened your file and recognized you, she has to report it to her manager and recuse herself. Additionally, for it to be random chance is one in 150 million (the approximate number of non-business individual US taxpayers) odds. She is absolutely, positively, **NOT ALLOWED BY LAW** to disclose the tax information she sees in the course of her day-to-day work to anyone outside of the IRS for any reason, like holy hell, the IRS takes that incredibly seriously. | 0 | 4,697 | 4.181818 |
q5naie | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My aunt works for the IRS, looked into my tax history, and has been telling my family without my consent. So I moved in with my grandpa to take care of him (in Wisconsin) I was paid for said work. My aunt who works for the IRS had made me an EIN for tax purposes. I had some issues with my taxes, and that EIN number and I kept getting rejected from a tax app (which I'm resolving with my tax guy, and hadn't discussed this with said aunt- because I don't want my family knowing about my Financials beyond the whole grandpa thing.) Anyway, my grandpa has since moved into assisted living- and I was renting his house (a loosely verbal agreement for me to stay there for $X/month) well I was supposed to be paid for taking my grandpa to appointments, and any time he wanted to run errands. I was told to log my hours, I logged 28 hours that I haven't been paid for. A bunch of drama went down with my family and they wanted me to move out. So I did, and I talked with my grandpa about the last month rent, and how I hadn't been paid for those hours- the amount they owe me is more than I owe for rent, and me and my grandpa agreed that we could just call it even. However my uncle and aunt have decided that somehow I am stealing from my grandpa by doing this? Than my aunt who works for the IRS had looked into my tax history without my consent, and than told some members of my family that my taxes are "all messed up" and she also said "she must be doing something suspicious". So... is it legal for her to take it upon herself to look into my tax history and than tell my family without my consent? | hg7d3im | hg6s9tw | 1,633,937,454 | 1,633,923,440 | 874 | 82 | Former IRS employee, Accounts Management. Report her yesterday. The IRS will take it from there, and yes, they have access records for every file. Your aunt is *specifically* prohibited from looking up the tax info of anyone she knows or any major public figures. If she got your file in her caseload by accident and opened your file and recognized you, she has to report it to her manager and recuse herself. Additionally, for it to be random chance is one in 150 million (the approximate number of non-business individual US taxpayers) odds. She is absolutely, positively, **NOT ALLOWED BY LAW** to disclose the tax information she sees in the course of her day-to-day work to anyone outside of the IRS for any reason, like holy hell, the IRS takes that incredibly seriously. | Report her. That’s an instant termination. | 1 | 14,014 | 10.658537 |
q5naie | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My aunt works for the IRS, looked into my tax history, and has been telling my family without my consent. So I moved in with my grandpa to take care of him (in Wisconsin) I was paid for said work. My aunt who works for the IRS had made me an EIN for tax purposes. I had some issues with my taxes, and that EIN number and I kept getting rejected from a tax app (which I'm resolving with my tax guy, and hadn't discussed this with said aunt- because I don't want my family knowing about my Financials beyond the whole grandpa thing.) Anyway, my grandpa has since moved into assisted living- and I was renting his house (a loosely verbal agreement for me to stay there for $X/month) well I was supposed to be paid for taking my grandpa to appointments, and any time he wanted to run errands. I was told to log my hours, I logged 28 hours that I haven't been paid for. A bunch of drama went down with my family and they wanted me to move out. So I did, and I talked with my grandpa about the last month rent, and how I hadn't been paid for those hours- the amount they owe me is more than I owe for rent, and me and my grandpa agreed that we could just call it even. However my uncle and aunt have decided that somehow I am stealing from my grandpa by doing this? Than my aunt who works for the IRS had looked into my tax history without my consent, and than told some members of my family that my taxes are "all messed up" and she also said "she must be doing something suspicious". So... is it legal for her to take it upon herself to look into my tax history and than tell my family without my consent? | hg7d3im | hg72zve | 1,633,937,454 | 1,633,929,704 | 874 | 66 | Former IRS employee, Accounts Management. Report her yesterday. The IRS will take it from there, and yes, they have access records for every file. Your aunt is *specifically* prohibited from looking up the tax info of anyone she knows or any major public figures. If she got your file in her caseload by accident and opened your file and recognized you, she has to report it to her manager and recuse herself. Additionally, for it to be random chance is one in 150 million (the approximate number of non-business individual US taxpayers) odds. She is absolutely, positively, **NOT ALLOWED BY LAW** to disclose the tax information she sees in the course of her day-to-day work to anyone outside of the IRS for any reason, like holy hell, the IRS takes that incredibly seriously. | Not only did she illegally access your tax data, she also unlawfully disclosed it. If you have evidence that she told people, that would be helpful. | 1 | 7,750 | 13.242424 |
q5naie | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My aunt works for the IRS, looked into my tax history, and has been telling my family without my consent. So I moved in with my grandpa to take care of him (in Wisconsin) I was paid for said work. My aunt who works for the IRS had made me an EIN for tax purposes. I had some issues with my taxes, and that EIN number and I kept getting rejected from a tax app (which I'm resolving with my tax guy, and hadn't discussed this with said aunt- because I don't want my family knowing about my Financials beyond the whole grandpa thing.) Anyway, my grandpa has since moved into assisted living- and I was renting his house (a loosely verbal agreement for me to stay there for $X/month) well I was supposed to be paid for taking my grandpa to appointments, and any time he wanted to run errands. I was told to log my hours, I logged 28 hours that I haven't been paid for. A bunch of drama went down with my family and they wanted me to move out. So I did, and I talked with my grandpa about the last month rent, and how I hadn't been paid for those hours- the amount they owe me is more than I owe for rent, and me and my grandpa agreed that we could just call it even. However my uncle and aunt have decided that somehow I am stealing from my grandpa by doing this? Than my aunt who works for the IRS had looked into my tax history without my consent, and than told some members of my family that my taxes are "all messed up" and she also said "she must be doing something suspicious". So... is it legal for her to take it upon herself to look into my tax history and than tell my family without my consent? | hg6yu40 | hg7d3im | 1,633,927,054 | 1,633,937,454 | 18 | 874 | Not a lawyer but suggest this. Report her see what comes of it. If you feel unsettled try getting a free consultation and see what options you have against her at this moment. If they suggest going further now then make that decision. Otherwise wait to see if she tries to retaliate against you. This could be a lawsuit or it could be her going full psycho and trying to attack you or damage your property. OH I forgot! If/when you report her I wouldask them about changing your information so.sne can't go in there and completely fuck your shit up. Also if you dont report her I would go about changing this information ASAP because you.know she has access and is sharing it with family. Who's to say she won't try to "fix" the damage. | Former IRS employee, Accounts Management. Report her yesterday. The IRS will take it from there, and yes, they have access records for every file. Your aunt is *specifically* prohibited from looking up the tax info of anyone she knows or any major public figures. If she got your file in her caseload by accident and opened your file and recognized you, she has to report it to her manager and recuse herself. Additionally, for it to be random chance is one in 150 million (the approximate number of non-business individual US taxpayers) odds. She is absolutely, positively, **NOT ALLOWED BY LAW** to disclose the tax information she sees in the course of her day-to-day work to anyone outside of the IRS for any reason, like holy hell, the IRS takes that incredibly seriously. | 0 | 10,400 | 48.555556 |
q5naie | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My aunt works for the IRS, looked into my tax history, and has been telling my family without my consent. So I moved in with my grandpa to take care of him (in Wisconsin) I was paid for said work. My aunt who works for the IRS had made me an EIN for tax purposes. I had some issues with my taxes, and that EIN number and I kept getting rejected from a tax app (which I'm resolving with my tax guy, and hadn't discussed this with said aunt- because I don't want my family knowing about my Financials beyond the whole grandpa thing.) Anyway, my grandpa has since moved into assisted living- and I was renting his house (a loosely verbal agreement for me to stay there for $X/month) well I was supposed to be paid for taking my grandpa to appointments, and any time he wanted to run errands. I was told to log my hours, I logged 28 hours that I haven't been paid for. A bunch of drama went down with my family and they wanted me to move out. So I did, and I talked with my grandpa about the last month rent, and how I hadn't been paid for those hours- the amount they owe me is more than I owe for rent, and me and my grandpa agreed that we could just call it even. However my uncle and aunt have decided that somehow I am stealing from my grandpa by doing this? Than my aunt who works for the IRS had looked into my tax history without my consent, and than told some members of my family that my taxes are "all messed up" and she also said "she must be doing something suspicious". So... is it legal for her to take it upon herself to look into my tax history and than tell my family without my consent? | hg776nk | hg6s9tw | 1,633,932,757 | 1,633,923,440 | 209 | 82 | Title 23 data is like Title 13 data. It's treated like plutonium. If your aunt is a sworn employee, she faces serious legal action and fines for breaking confidentiality rules. I'm a former Census employee, and one of the things we were instructed in was data stewardship. The IRS takes its data stewardship just as seriously. You needed to report her now, because if she's viewing your data, she's probably doing it to others. | Report her. That’s an instant termination. | 1 | 9,317 | 2.54878 |
q5naie | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My aunt works for the IRS, looked into my tax history, and has been telling my family without my consent. So I moved in with my grandpa to take care of him (in Wisconsin) I was paid for said work. My aunt who works for the IRS had made me an EIN for tax purposes. I had some issues with my taxes, and that EIN number and I kept getting rejected from a tax app (which I'm resolving with my tax guy, and hadn't discussed this with said aunt- because I don't want my family knowing about my Financials beyond the whole grandpa thing.) Anyway, my grandpa has since moved into assisted living- and I was renting his house (a loosely verbal agreement for me to stay there for $X/month) well I was supposed to be paid for taking my grandpa to appointments, and any time he wanted to run errands. I was told to log my hours, I logged 28 hours that I haven't been paid for. A bunch of drama went down with my family and they wanted me to move out. So I did, and I talked with my grandpa about the last month rent, and how I hadn't been paid for those hours- the amount they owe me is more than I owe for rent, and me and my grandpa agreed that we could just call it even. However my uncle and aunt have decided that somehow I am stealing from my grandpa by doing this? Than my aunt who works for the IRS had looked into my tax history without my consent, and than told some members of my family that my taxes are "all messed up" and she also said "she must be doing something suspicious". So... is it legal for her to take it upon herself to look into my tax history and than tell my family without my consent? | hg72zve | hg776nk | 1,633,929,704 | 1,633,932,757 | 66 | 209 | Not only did she illegally access your tax data, she also unlawfully disclosed it. If you have evidence that she told people, that would be helpful. | Title 23 data is like Title 13 data. It's treated like plutonium. If your aunt is a sworn employee, she faces serious legal action and fines for breaking confidentiality rules. I'm a former Census employee, and one of the things we were instructed in was data stewardship. The IRS takes its data stewardship just as seriously. You needed to report her now, because if she's viewing your data, she's probably doing it to others. | 0 | 3,053 | 3.166667 |
q5naie | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My aunt works for the IRS, looked into my tax history, and has been telling my family without my consent. So I moved in with my grandpa to take care of him (in Wisconsin) I was paid for said work. My aunt who works for the IRS had made me an EIN for tax purposes. I had some issues with my taxes, and that EIN number and I kept getting rejected from a tax app (which I'm resolving with my tax guy, and hadn't discussed this with said aunt- because I don't want my family knowing about my Financials beyond the whole grandpa thing.) Anyway, my grandpa has since moved into assisted living- and I was renting his house (a loosely verbal agreement for me to stay there for $X/month) well I was supposed to be paid for taking my grandpa to appointments, and any time he wanted to run errands. I was told to log my hours, I logged 28 hours that I haven't been paid for. A bunch of drama went down with my family and they wanted me to move out. So I did, and I talked with my grandpa about the last month rent, and how I hadn't been paid for those hours- the amount they owe me is more than I owe for rent, and me and my grandpa agreed that we could just call it even. However my uncle and aunt have decided that somehow I am stealing from my grandpa by doing this? Than my aunt who works for the IRS had looked into my tax history without my consent, and than told some members of my family that my taxes are "all messed up" and she also said "she must be doing something suspicious". So... is it legal for her to take it upon herself to look into my tax history and than tell my family without my consent? | hg6yu40 | hg776nk | 1,633,927,054 | 1,633,932,757 | 18 | 209 | Not a lawyer but suggest this. Report her see what comes of it. If you feel unsettled try getting a free consultation and see what options you have against her at this moment. If they suggest going further now then make that decision. Otherwise wait to see if she tries to retaliate against you. This could be a lawsuit or it could be her going full psycho and trying to attack you or damage your property. OH I forgot! If/when you report her I wouldask them about changing your information so.sne can't go in there and completely fuck your shit up. Also if you dont report her I would go about changing this information ASAP because you.know she has access and is sharing it with family. Who's to say she won't try to "fix" the damage. | Title 23 data is like Title 13 data. It's treated like plutonium. If your aunt is a sworn employee, she faces serious legal action and fines for breaking confidentiality rules. I'm a former Census employee, and one of the things we were instructed in was data stewardship. The IRS takes its data stewardship just as seriously. You needed to report her now, because if she's viewing your data, she's probably doing it to others. | 0 | 5,703 | 11.611111 |
q5naie | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My aunt works for the IRS, looked into my tax history, and has been telling my family without my consent. So I moved in with my grandpa to take care of him (in Wisconsin) I was paid for said work. My aunt who works for the IRS had made me an EIN for tax purposes. I had some issues with my taxes, and that EIN number and I kept getting rejected from a tax app (which I'm resolving with my tax guy, and hadn't discussed this with said aunt- because I don't want my family knowing about my Financials beyond the whole grandpa thing.) Anyway, my grandpa has since moved into assisted living- and I was renting his house (a loosely verbal agreement for me to stay there for $X/month) well I was supposed to be paid for taking my grandpa to appointments, and any time he wanted to run errands. I was told to log my hours, I logged 28 hours that I haven't been paid for. A bunch of drama went down with my family and they wanted me to move out. So I did, and I talked with my grandpa about the last month rent, and how I hadn't been paid for those hours- the amount they owe me is more than I owe for rent, and me and my grandpa agreed that we could just call it even. However my uncle and aunt have decided that somehow I am stealing from my grandpa by doing this? Than my aunt who works for the IRS had looked into my tax history without my consent, and than told some members of my family that my taxes are "all messed up" and she also said "she must be doing something suspicious". So... is it legal for her to take it upon herself to look into my tax history and than tell my family without my consent? | hg72zve | hg6yu40 | 1,633,929,704 | 1,633,927,054 | 66 | 18 | Not only did she illegally access your tax data, she also unlawfully disclosed it. If you have evidence that she told people, that would be helpful. | Not a lawyer but suggest this. Report her see what comes of it. If you feel unsettled try getting a free consultation and see what options you have against her at this moment. If they suggest going further now then make that decision. Otherwise wait to see if she tries to retaliate against you. This could be a lawsuit or it could be her going full psycho and trying to attack you or damage your property. OH I forgot! If/when you report her I wouldask them about changing your information so.sne can't go in there and completely fuck your shit up. Also if you dont report her I would go about changing this information ASAP because you.know she has access and is sharing it with family. Who's to say she won't try to "fix" the damage. | 1 | 2,650 | 3.666667 |
q5naie | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My aunt works for the IRS, looked into my tax history, and has been telling my family without my consent. So I moved in with my grandpa to take care of him (in Wisconsin) I was paid for said work. My aunt who works for the IRS had made me an EIN for tax purposes. I had some issues with my taxes, and that EIN number and I kept getting rejected from a tax app (which I'm resolving with my tax guy, and hadn't discussed this with said aunt- because I don't want my family knowing about my Financials beyond the whole grandpa thing.) Anyway, my grandpa has since moved into assisted living- and I was renting his house (a loosely verbal agreement for me to stay there for $X/month) well I was supposed to be paid for taking my grandpa to appointments, and any time he wanted to run errands. I was told to log my hours, I logged 28 hours that I haven't been paid for. A bunch of drama went down with my family and they wanted me to move out. So I did, and I talked with my grandpa about the last month rent, and how I hadn't been paid for those hours- the amount they owe me is more than I owe for rent, and me and my grandpa agreed that we could just call it even. However my uncle and aunt have decided that somehow I am stealing from my grandpa by doing this? Than my aunt who works for the IRS had looked into my tax history without my consent, and than told some members of my family that my taxes are "all messed up" and she also said "she must be doing something suspicious". So... is it legal for her to take it upon herself to look into my tax history and than tell my family without my consent? | hg6yu40 | hg7kb00 | 1,633,927,054 | 1,633,944,030 | 18 | 50 | Not a lawyer but suggest this. Report her see what comes of it. If you feel unsettled try getting a free consultation and see what options you have against her at this moment. If they suggest going further now then make that decision. Otherwise wait to see if she tries to retaliate against you. This could be a lawsuit or it could be her going full psycho and trying to attack you or damage your property. OH I forgot! If/when you report her I wouldask them about changing your information so.sne can't go in there and completely fuck your shit up. Also if you dont report her I would go about changing this information ASAP because you.know she has access and is sharing it with family. Who's to say she won't try to "fix" the damage. | Call the IRS Office of the Inspector General https://www.treasury.gov/tigta/reportcrime_misconduct.shtml | 0 | 16,976 | 2.777778 |
q5naie | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My aunt works for the IRS, looked into my tax history, and has been telling my family without my consent. So I moved in with my grandpa to take care of him (in Wisconsin) I was paid for said work. My aunt who works for the IRS had made me an EIN for tax purposes. I had some issues with my taxes, and that EIN number and I kept getting rejected from a tax app (which I'm resolving with my tax guy, and hadn't discussed this with said aunt- because I don't want my family knowing about my Financials beyond the whole grandpa thing.) Anyway, my grandpa has since moved into assisted living- and I was renting his house (a loosely verbal agreement for me to stay there for $X/month) well I was supposed to be paid for taking my grandpa to appointments, and any time he wanted to run errands. I was told to log my hours, I logged 28 hours that I haven't been paid for. A bunch of drama went down with my family and they wanted me to move out. So I did, and I talked with my grandpa about the last month rent, and how I hadn't been paid for those hours- the amount they owe me is more than I owe for rent, and me and my grandpa agreed that we could just call it even. However my uncle and aunt have decided that somehow I am stealing from my grandpa by doing this? Than my aunt who works for the IRS had looked into my tax history without my consent, and than told some members of my family that my taxes are "all messed up" and she also said "she must be doing something suspicious". So... is it legal for her to take it upon herself to look into my tax history and than tell my family without my consent? | hg7vad2 | hg7md93 | 1,633,952,969 | 1,633,945,888 | 49 | 26 | Not a lawyer. https://www.treasury.gov/tigta/reportcrime_misconduct.shtml > IRS employee crime or misconduct You can report anonymously. You want to include your name in the person whose account was accessed unnecessarily. Heck, it could be one of your online buddies who made the report for you if you have to defend yourself to your family. The question is whether you are willing to disrupt your aunt’s life. On the other hand, you might be doing people a favor by reporting. I’m guessing that you are not the only person she has looked up without a need to know. | It's not legal for her to look. Saying she looked even if she didn't is problematic, and could result in her getting fired. While you could try to go directly to law enforcement, it may be hard to get them interested without more direct evidence (if she had said "I looked at his tax records, and she owes $123,456 is back taxes" when you do actually owe that amount is stronger proof than "her taxes are messed up".) The IRS isn't going to like this at all, even if she was just BSing. You can report to: * The office where your aunt works, if she works at a local office. * The IRS taxpayer advocate (https://www.taxpayeradvocate.irs.gov/) * If no response from the above, your congressional representative or senator. They have direct contacts at the IRS who are very responsive. (If any of them are on Ways and Means committee or the Joint Committee on Taxation, start there.) | 1 | 7,081 | 1.884615 |
q5naie | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My aunt works for the IRS, looked into my tax history, and has been telling my family without my consent. So I moved in with my grandpa to take care of him (in Wisconsin) I was paid for said work. My aunt who works for the IRS had made me an EIN for tax purposes. I had some issues with my taxes, and that EIN number and I kept getting rejected from a tax app (which I'm resolving with my tax guy, and hadn't discussed this with said aunt- because I don't want my family knowing about my Financials beyond the whole grandpa thing.) Anyway, my grandpa has since moved into assisted living- and I was renting his house (a loosely verbal agreement for me to stay there for $X/month) well I was supposed to be paid for taking my grandpa to appointments, and any time he wanted to run errands. I was told to log my hours, I logged 28 hours that I haven't been paid for. A bunch of drama went down with my family and they wanted me to move out. So I did, and I talked with my grandpa about the last month rent, and how I hadn't been paid for those hours- the amount they owe me is more than I owe for rent, and me and my grandpa agreed that we could just call it even. However my uncle and aunt have decided that somehow I am stealing from my grandpa by doing this? Than my aunt who works for the IRS had looked into my tax history without my consent, and than told some members of my family that my taxes are "all messed up" and she also said "she must be doing something suspicious". So... is it legal for her to take it upon herself to look into my tax history and than tell my family without my consent? | hg7vad2 | hg6yu40 | 1,633,952,969 | 1,633,927,054 | 49 | 18 | Not a lawyer. https://www.treasury.gov/tigta/reportcrime_misconduct.shtml > IRS employee crime or misconduct You can report anonymously. You want to include your name in the person whose account was accessed unnecessarily. Heck, it could be one of your online buddies who made the report for you if you have to defend yourself to your family. The question is whether you are willing to disrupt your aunt’s life. On the other hand, you might be doing people a favor by reporting. I’m guessing that you are not the only person she has looked up without a need to know. | Not a lawyer but suggest this. Report her see what comes of it. If you feel unsettled try getting a free consultation and see what options you have against her at this moment. If they suggest going further now then make that decision. Otherwise wait to see if she tries to retaliate against you. This could be a lawsuit or it could be her going full psycho and trying to attack you or damage your property. OH I forgot! If/when you report her I wouldask them about changing your information so.sne can't go in there and completely fuck your shit up. Also if you dont report her I would go about changing this information ASAP because you.know she has access and is sharing it with family. Who's to say she won't try to "fix" the damage. | 1 | 25,915 | 2.722222 |
q5naie | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My aunt works for the IRS, looked into my tax history, and has been telling my family without my consent. So I moved in with my grandpa to take care of him (in Wisconsin) I was paid for said work. My aunt who works for the IRS had made me an EIN for tax purposes. I had some issues with my taxes, and that EIN number and I kept getting rejected from a tax app (which I'm resolving with my tax guy, and hadn't discussed this with said aunt- because I don't want my family knowing about my Financials beyond the whole grandpa thing.) Anyway, my grandpa has since moved into assisted living- and I was renting his house (a loosely verbal agreement for me to stay there for $X/month) well I was supposed to be paid for taking my grandpa to appointments, and any time he wanted to run errands. I was told to log my hours, I logged 28 hours that I haven't been paid for. A bunch of drama went down with my family and they wanted me to move out. So I did, and I talked with my grandpa about the last month rent, and how I hadn't been paid for those hours- the amount they owe me is more than I owe for rent, and me and my grandpa agreed that we could just call it even. However my uncle and aunt have decided that somehow I am stealing from my grandpa by doing this? Than my aunt who works for the IRS had looked into my tax history without my consent, and than told some members of my family that my taxes are "all messed up" and she also said "she must be doing something suspicious". So... is it legal for her to take it upon herself to look into my tax history and than tell my family without my consent? | hg7md93 | hg6yu40 | 1,633,945,888 | 1,633,927,054 | 26 | 18 | It's not legal for her to look. Saying she looked even if she didn't is problematic, and could result in her getting fired. While you could try to go directly to law enforcement, it may be hard to get them interested without more direct evidence (if she had said "I looked at his tax records, and she owes $123,456 is back taxes" when you do actually owe that amount is stronger proof than "her taxes are messed up".) The IRS isn't going to like this at all, even if she was just BSing. You can report to: * The office where your aunt works, if she works at a local office. * The IRS taxpayer advocate (https://www.taxpayeradvocate.irs.gov/) * If no response from the above, your congressional representative or senator. They have direct contacts at the IRS who are very responsive. (If any of them are on Ways and Means committee or the Joint Committee on Taxation, start there.) | Not a lawyer but suggest this. Report her see what comes of it. If you feel unsettled try getting a free consultation and see what options you have against her at this moment. If they suggest going further now then make that decision. Otherwise wait to see if she tries to retaliate against you. This could be a lawsuit or it could be her going full psycho and trying to attack you or damage your property. OH I forgot! If/when you report her I wouldask them about changing your information so.sne can't go in there and completely fuck your shit up. Also if you dont report her I would go about changing this information ASAP because you.know she has access and is sharing it with family. Who's to say she won't try to "fix" the damage. | 1 | 18,834 | 1.444444 |
ws17wz | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Wellness Program Scam says my aunt owes $4,399 after having an initial consult and being sent recipes and grocery shopping lists. Is there any legal recourse to get her money refunded. My aunt who has cancer recently signed up for a Wellness Program which was being advertised by a new naturopath company in San Diego. She was given an initial consult where she was told she could not ask questions and had to sign a contract first. After signing she was given recipes and grocery shopping lists. She contacted the company because she cannot afford the items given that she is on social security. They told her that she was only entitled to the $3237 refund and owed the rest of the balance for “labor costs” which included their own business and the loan servicer that funds the $8,000+ expense for the program. I have photos of the contract that my dad sent to me and we’re trying to help my aunt get her money back. Is there any legal recourse? The contract obviously states not entitled to a refund but I’m wondering if we can argue she should not have been able to sign. My dad is her POA and she is on chemo medications that have mind altering side effects. Not to mention she is legally blind in one eye and being treated for her other so it’s not as if she would have been able to read the print about non refundable. | ikxw4mp | ikvsk74 | 1,660,920,761 | 1,660,876,328 | 36 | 31 | These kinds of "companies" take advantage of people like your aunt, I'm so glad she has you and your dad to help her. I'm not a lawyer, but my great aunt gave her daughter POA so just from my experience with that, with evidence that the meds do that to her from a doctor and since your dad has POA, her signing the contract MAY be considered invalid. Depends on California laws/regulations and such, but whether or not her signing that contract when someone else has POA makes her signature invalid is something to look into! Could really help the case in getting that money back. | I'm confused, how much did she already pay them? | 1 | 44,433 | 1.16129 |
ws17wz | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Wellness Program Scam says my aunt owes $4,399 after having an initial consult and being sent recipes and grocery shopping lists. Is there any legal recourse to get her money refunded. My aunt who has cancer recently signed up for a Wellness Program which was being advertised by a new naturopath company in San Diego. She was given an initial consult where she was told she could not ask questions and had to sign a contract first. After signing she was given recipes and grocery shopping lists. She contacted the company because she cannot afford the items given that she is on social security. They told her that she was only entitled to the $3237 refund and owed the rest of the balance for “labor costs” which included their own business and the loan servicer that funds the $8,000+ expense for the program. I have photos of the contract that my dad sent to me and we’re trying to help my aunt get her money back. Is there any legal recourse? The contract obviously states not entitled to a refund but I’m wondering if we can argue she should not have been able to sign. My dad is her POA and she is on chemo medications that have mind altering side effects. Not to mention she is legally blind in one eye and being treated for her other so it’s not as if she would have been able to read the print about non refundable. | ikvxptn | ikxw4mp | 1,660,878,817 | 1,660,920,761 | 6 | 36 | Is this an actual company she visited or some place online only? | These kinds of "companies" take advantage of people like your aunt, I'm so glad she has you and your dad to help her. I'm not a lawyer, but my great aunt gave her daughter POA so just from my experience with that, with evidence that the meds do that to her from a doctor and since your dad has POA, her signing the contract MAY be considered invalid. Depends on California laws/regulations and such, but whether or not her signing that contract when someone else has POA makes her signature invalid is something to look into! Could really help the case in getting that money back. | 0 | 41,944 | 6 |
4apro3 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [FL] My mothers sent me a bill for "the cost of raising me" and is threatening to take me to court if I don't pay. I'm in my twenties,my husband and I are finally starting to do well for ourselves. My mother sent me a bill for raising me. It's $2 million. She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. If anyone deserves money it's the maid that actually raised me, my mother did nothing for 18 year except occasionally screaming at me. She wants to take me to court if we don't pay within the next year. What do I do? | d12gb65 | d12klmr | 1,458,161,975 | 1,458,168,018 | 458 | 487 | Tell her that you dispute the validity of the debt and that you want documentation verifying the debt. | Accountant here who does accounts payable. Ask for an itemized receipt for the motherhood invoice you received. Otherwise, it's not valid. | 0 | 6,043 | 1.063319 |
4apro3 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [FL] My mothers sent me a bill for "the cost of raising me" and is threatening to take me to court if I don't pay. I'm in my twenties,my husband and I are finally starting to do well for ourselves. My mother sent me a bill for raising me. It's $2 million. She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. If anyone deserves money it's the maid that actually raised me, my mother did nothing for 18 year except occasionally screaming at me. She wants to take me to court if we don't pay within the next year. What do I do? | d12h59v | d12klmr | 1,458,163,090 | 1,458,168,018 | 374 | 487 | Did you agree to be born to her? To be raised by her? Did you sign a contract? | Accountant here who does accounts payable. Ask for an itemized receipt for the motherhood invoice you received. Otherwise, it's not valid. | 0 | 4,928 | 1.302139 |
4apro3 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [FL] My mothers sent me a bill for "the cost of raising me" and is threatening to take me to court if I don't pay. I'm in my twenties,my husband and I are finally starting to do well for ourselves. My mother sent me a bill for raising me. It's $2 million. She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. If anyone deserves money it's the maid that actually raised me, my mother did nothing for 18 year except occasionally screaming at me. She wants to take me to court if we don't pay within the next year. What do I do? | d12g9pb | d12klmr | 1,458,161,922 | 1,458,168,018 | 238 | 487 | Assuming your relationship is in the toilet already - round file it. If you actually have a relationship, then it might be a good idea to talk about mental health counseling. | Accountant here who does accounts payable. Ask for an itemized receipt for the motherhood invoice you received. Otherwise, it's not valid. | 0 | 6,096 | 2.046218 |
4apro3 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [FL] My mothers sent me a bill for "the cost of raising me" and is threatening to take me to court if I don't pay. I'm in my twenties,my husband and I are finally starting to do well for ourselves. My mother sent me a bill for raising me. It's $2 million. She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. If anyone deserves money it's the maid that actually raised me, my mother did nothing for 18 year except occasionally screaming at me. She wants to take me to court if we don't pay within the next year. What do I do? | d12klmr | d12hg3s | 1,458,168,018 | 1,458,163,503 | 487 | 108 | Accountant here who does accounts payable. Ask for an itemized receipt for the motherhood invoice you received. Otherwise, it's not valid. | I had an uncle who tried this in N.Y. and all it accomplished was alienating him from the rest of the family | 1 | 4,515 | 4.509259 |
4apro3 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [FL] My mothers sent me a bill for "the cost of raising me" and is threatening to take me to court if I don't pay. I'm in my twenties,my husband and I are finally starting to do well for ourselves. My mother sent me a bill for raising me. It's $2 million. She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. If anyone deserves money it's the maid that actually raised me, my mother did nothing for 18 year except occasionally screaming at me. She wants to take me to court if we don't pay within the next year. What do I do? | d12klmr | d12ghdo | 1,458,168,018 | 1,458,162,203 | 487 | 47 | Accountant here who does accounts payable. Ask for an itemized receipt for the motherhood invoice you received. Otherwise, it's not valid. | If she wins, please forward her pleadings to me. I'll be worth quite a bit :+). I also think mom's being pretty generous, giving you a whole year to pay up. | 1 | 5,815 | 10.361702 |
4apro3 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [FL] My mothers sent me a bill for "the cost of raising me" and is threatening to take me to court if I don't pay. I'm in my twenties,my husband and I are finally starting to do well for ourselves. My mother sent me a bill for raising me. It's $2 million. She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. If anyone deserves money it's the maid that actually raised me, my mother did nothing for 18 year except occasionally screaming at me. She wants to take me to court if we don't pay within the next year. What do I do? | d12gb65 | d12g9pb | 1,458,161,975 | 1,458,161,922 | 458 | 238 | Tell her that you dispute the validity of the debt and that you want documentation verifying the debt. | Assuming your relationship is in the toilet already - round file it. If you actually have a relationship, then it might be a good idea to talk about mental health counseling. | 1 | 53 | 1.92437 |
4apro3 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [FL] My mothers sent me a bill for "the cost of raising me" and is threatening to take me to court if I don't pay. I'm in my twenties,my husband and I are finally starting to do well for ourselves. My mother sent me a bill for raising me. It's $2 million. She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. If anyone deserves money it's the maid that actually raised me, my mother did nothing for 18 year except occasionally screaming at me. She wants to take me to court if we don't pay within the next year. What do I do? | d12g9pb | d12h59v | 1,458,161,922 | 1,458,163,090 | 238 | 374 | Assuming your relationship is in the toilet already - round file it. If you actually have a relationship, then it might be a good idea to talk about mental health counseling. | Did you agree to be born to her? To be raised by her? Did you sign a contract? | 0 | 1,168 | 1.571429 |
4apro3 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [FL] My mothers sent me a bill for "the cost of raising me" and is threatening to take me to court if I don't pay. I'm in my twenties,my husband and I are finally starting to do well for ourselves. My mother sent me a bill for raising me. It's $2 million. She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. If anyone deserves money it's the maid that actually raised me, my mother did nothing for 18 year except occasionally screaming at me. She wants to take me to court if we don't pay within the next year. What do I do? | d12ghdo | d12h59v | 1,458,162,203 | 1,458,163,090 | 47 | 374 | If she wins, please forward her pleadings to me. I'll be worth quite a bit :+). I also think mom's being pretty generous, giving you a whole year to pay up. | Did you agree to be born to her? To be raised by her? Did you sign a contract? | 0 | 887 | 7.957447 |
4apro3 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [FL] My mothers sent me a bill for "the cost of raising me" and is threatening to take me to court if I don't pay. I'm in my twenties,my husband and I are finally starting to do well for ourselves. My mother sent me a bill for raising me. It's $2 million. She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. If anyone deserves money it's the maid that actually raised me, my mother did nothing for 18 year except occasionally screaming at me. She wants to take me to court if we don't pay within the next year. What do I do? | d12ghdo | d12hg3s | 1,458,162,203 | 1,458,163,503 | 47 | 108 | If she wins, please forward her pleadings to me. I'll be worth quite a bit :+). I also think mom's being pretty generous, giving you a whole year to pay up. | I had an uncle who tried this in N.Y. and all it accomplished was alienating him from the rest of the family | 0 | 1,300 | 2.297872 |
4apro3 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [FL] My mothers sent me a bill for "the cost of raising me" and is threatening to take me to court if I don't pay. I'm in my twenties,my husband and I are finally starting to do well for ourselves. My mother sent me a bill for raising me. It's $2 million. She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. If anyone deserves money it's the maid that actually raised me, my mother did nothing for 18 year except occasionally screaming at me. She wants to take me to court if we don't pay within the next year. What do I do? | d12obyc | d12tava | 1,458,173,943 | 1,458,182,211 | 69 | 103 | Uhm, assuming that support stopped at age 18, Mom wants to charge $111,111.11 per year for raising you. Even if you had a pretty plush life with spectacular Christmas presents every year, mom wants to pay herself a hell of a salary. The average wage for a live-in nanny is about $36,000 a year. https://www.care.com/a/what-does-a-live-in-nanny-cost-1306280253 | >She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. Lets run some numbers. Average cost of heart transplant ranges between $550,000 and $650,000, according to Florida Hospital statistics. The cost of a soul? Homer Simpson sold his for about $1.00 (A donut), I presume your mother's soul is worth much less. Gross total: Heart + Soul. $550,000 + $0.50 = $550,000.50 _____________________________________ Net total: Used heart deduction (Since a new car loses about half it's value when it leaves the lot, we'll take off 50%): -$275,000. Poor condition of heart (blackened, cold, and dead.): -$75,000 Heart never delivered: -$200,000 Restocking fee/Inconvenience fee/Cancellation Fee: (Usually 10% to 30% at retailers): -$165,000 $550,000.50 - $275,000 - $75,000 - $200,000 - 165,000 = $ -$164,999.5 Pay up, OP. | 0 | 8,268 | 1.492754 |
4apro3 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [FL] My mothers sent me a bill for "the cost of raising me" and is threatening to take me to court if I don't pay. I'm in my twenties,my husband and I are finally starting to do well for ourselves. My mother sent me a bill for raising me. It's $2 million. She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. If anyone deserves money it's the maid that actually raised me, my mother did nothing for 18 year except occasionally screaming at me. She wants to take me to court if we don't pay within the next year. What do I do? | d12tava | d12ghdo | 1,458,182,211 | 1,458,162,203 | 103 | 47 | >She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. Lets run some numbers. Average cost of heart transplant ranges between $550,000 and $650,000, according to Florida Hospital statistics. The cost of a soul? Homer Simpson sold his for about $1.00 (A donut), I presume your mother's soul is worth much less. Gross total: Heart + Soul. $550,000 + $0.50 = $550,000.50 _____________________________________ Net total: Used heart deduction (Since a new car loses about half it's value when it leaves the lot, we'll take off 50%): -$275,000. Poor condition of heart (blackened, cold, and dead.): -$75,000 Heart never delivered: -$200,000 Restocking fee/Inconvenience fee/Cancellation Fee: (Usually 10% to 30% at retailers): -$165,000 $550,000.50 - $275,000 - $75,000 - $200,000 - 165,000 = $ -$164,999.5 Pay up, OP. | If she wins, please forward her pleadings to me. I'll be worth quite a bit :+). I also think mom's being pretty generous, giving you a whole year to pay up. | 1 | 20,008 | 2.191489 |
4apro3 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [FL] My mothers sent me a bill for "the cost of raising me" and is threatening to take me to court if I don't pay. I'm in my twenties,my husband and I are finally starting to do well for ourselves. My mother sent me a bill for raising me. It's $2 million. She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. If anyone deserves money it's the maid that actually raised me, my mother did nothing for 18 year except occasionally screaming at me. She wants to take me to court if we don't pay within the next year. What do I do? | d12tava | d12m5vb | 1,458,182,211 | 1,458,170,470 | 103 | 39 | >She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. Lets run some numbers. Average cost of heart transplant ranges between $550,000 and $650,000, according to Florida Hospital statistics. The cost of a soul? Homer Simpson sold his for about $1.00 (A donut), I presume your mother's soul is worth much less. Gross total: Heart + Soul. $550,000 + $0.50 = $550,000.50 _____________________________________ Net total: Used heart deduction (Since a new car loses about half it's value when it leaves the lot, we'll take off 50%): -$275,000. Poor condition of heart (blackened, cold, and dead.): -$75,000 Heart never delivered: -$200,000 Restocking fee/Inconvenience fee/Cancellation Fee: (Usually 10% to 30% at retailers): -$165,000 $550,000.50 - $275,000 - $75,000 - $200,000 - 165,000 = $ -$164,999.5 Pay up, OP. | >If anyone deserves money it's the maid that actually raised me, my mother did nothing for 18 year except occasionally screaming at me. If it makes you feel better, as long as Florida doesn't still use slaves she was probably paid. | 1 | 11,741 | 2.641026 |
4apro3 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [FL] My mothers sent me a bill for "the cost of raising me" and is threatening to take me to court if I don't pay. I'm in my twenties,my husband and I are finally starting to do well for ourselves. My mother sent me a bill for raising me. It's $2 million. She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. If anyone deserves money it's the maid that actually raised me, my mother did nothing for 18 year except occasionally screaming at me. She wants to take me to court if we don't pay within the next year. What do I do? | d12nh18 | d12tava | 1,458,172,559 | 1,458,182,211 | 29 | 103 | Laugh in her face. If you get served with a summons to court, show up to court and continue laughing in her face. | >She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. Lets run some numbers. Average cost of heart transplant ranges between $550,000 and $650,000, according to Florida Hospital statistics. The cost of a soul? Homer Simpson sold his for about $1.00 (A donut), I presume your mother's soul is worth much less. Gross total: Heart + Soul. $550,000 + $0.50 = $550,000.50 _____________________________________ Net total: Used heart deduction (Since a new car loses about half it's value when it leaves the lot, we'll take off 50%): -$275,000. Poor condition of heart (blackened, cold, and dead.): -$75,000 Heart never delivered: -$200,000 Restocking fee/Inconvenience fee/Cancellation Fee: (Usually 10% to 30% at retailers): -$165,000 $550,000.50 - $275,000 - $75,000 - $200,000 - 165,000 = $ -$164,999.5 Pay up, OP. | 0 | 9,652 | 3.551724 |
4apro3 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [FL] My mothers sent me a bill for "the cost of raising me" and is threatening to take me to court if I don't pay. I'm in my twenties,my husband and I are finally starting to do well for ourselves. My mother sent me a bill for raising me. It's $2 million. She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. If anyone deserves money it's the maid that actually raised me, my mother did nothing for 18 year except occasionally screaming at me. She wants to take me to court if we don't pay within the next year. What do I do? | d12obyc | d12ghdo | 1,458,173,943 | 1,458,162,203 | 69 | 47 | Uhm, assuming that support stopped at age 18, Mom wants to charge $111,111.11 per year for raising you. Even if you had a pretty plush life with spectacular Christmas presents every year, mom wants to pay herself a hell of a salary. The average wage for a live-in nanny is about $36,000 a year. https://www.care.com/a/what-does-a-live-in-nanny-cost-1306280253 | If she wins, please forward her pleadings to me. I'll be worth quite a bit :+). I also think mom's being pretty generous, giving you a whole year to pay up. | 1 | 11,740 | 1.468085 |
4apro3 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [FL] My mothers sent me a bill for "the cost of raising me" and is threatening to take me to court if I don't pay. I'm in my twenties,my husband and I are finally starting to do well for ourselves. My mother sent me a bill for raising me. It's $2 million. She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. If anyone deserves money it's the maid that actually raised me, my mother did nothing for 18 year except occasionally screaming at me. She wants to take me to court if we don't pay within the next year. What do I do? | d12m5vb | d12obyc | 1,458,170,470 | 1,458,173,943 | 39 | 69 | >If anyone deserves money it's the maid that actually raised me, my mother did nothing for 18 year except occasionally screaming at me. If it makes you feel better, as long as Florida doesn't still use slaves she was probably paid. | Uhm, assuming that support stopped at age 18, Mom wants to charge $111,111.11 per year for raising you. Even if you had a pretty plush life with spectacular Christmas presents every year, mom wants to pay herself a hell of a salary. The average wage for a live-in nanny is about $36,000 a year. https://www.care.com/a/what-does-a-live-in-nanny-cost-1306280253 | 0 | 3,473 | 1.769231 |
4apro3 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [FL] My mothers sent me a bill for "the cost of raising me" and is threatening to take me to court if I don't pay. I'm in my twenties,my husband and I are finally starting to do well for ourselves. My mother sent me a bill for raising me. It's $2 million. She claims that she poured her heart and soul into raising me and deserves to be paid back. If anyone deserves money it's the maid that actually raised me, my mother did nothing for 18 year except occasionally screaming at me. She wants to take me to court if we don't pay within the next year. What do I do? | d12obyc | d12nh18 | 1,458,173,943 | 1,458,172,559 | 69 | 29 | Uhm, assuming that support stopped at age 18, Mom wants to charge $111,111.11 per year for raising you. Even if you had a pretty plush life with spectacular Christmas presents every year, mom wants to pay herself a hell of a salary. The average wage for a live-in nanny is about $36,000 a year. https://www.care.com/a/what-does-a-live-in-nanny-cost-1306280253 | Laugh in her face. If you get served with a summons to court, show up to court and continue laughing in her face. | 1 | 1,384 | 2.37931 |
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