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How to Be Taken Seriously by Men
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1. Loving Yourself
1-1. Value and respect yourself.
If you know your own value, others may learn to recognize it as well.
If you ever feel devalued or unimportant, remind yourself that you are a worthy, valuable, and unique person.
You are not just an object, you are a person. You are more than a body or something pretty to look at. You have a beautiful mind you can share with others.
Respect yourself by making responsible choices that benefit you or others and do not cause harm.
Give yourself respect by treating yourself and your body well. Ways to treat yourself well include: eating healthy, getting enough sleep, exercising, relaxing, and engaging in safe recreational or creative activities.
1-2. Pay attention to your values.
Identify what you believe in and hold dear and stick to these values. These values might include things like: freedom, empowerment, equality, respect, justice, family, love, and stability. Focusing on your values can help you make better decisions and ultimately get people to take you seriously.
If you aren't sure of your values, make a list of everything that you care about. These things are part of your value-system. Add to your list as you come up with new ideas.
If you are disrespected by others, pay attention to your personal values. Remind yourself of what you think is important and act in line with these values. For example, if someone treats you poorly and you have an impulse to yell at them, you can remind yourself of your core value of respect; if you yell at someone you may not be showing them respect.
Avoid any activities that go against your personal value system (such as stealing, disrespecting others, or treating yourself poorly).
1-3. Accept yourself.
It is a sad reality that some women may be unhappy with themselves despite the many positive characteristics they have. However, if you truly love and accept who you are and what you do, you may be able to get others to accept you as well. The work always starts with you.
Focus on your strengths on a daily basis. You can list them in a journal or Word document. List things such as: ambitious, loving, caring, friendly, and athletic. Do you see how some of these strengths might coincide with your values? They are many times linked.
Acknowledge some of your flaws, and learn to accept them as they are. They may make you the unique person that you are, and perhaps people even love you for your flaws. You can love them too. Perhaps see them as unique qualities instead of flaws; they may make you different and interesting.
Avoid comparing yourself to others. This can cause you to feel inadequate or flawed.
Use mindfulness to promote self acceptance. Begin by sitting in a comfortable position. Focus on the criticisms you have of yourself, such as, "I feel ugly and fat." Take a moment to experience these thoughts without judgment. Then practice nonjudgmental acceptance by saying or thinking, "I'm not perfect. I can accept myself without judgment." Notice any additional thoughts you have; simply observe them without making a judgment about them (whether they are good or bad). Thoughts may come and go and they are always changing.
1-4. Take care of yourself.
Appearances do matter, and being taken seriously requires you put effort into how you look.
Grooming, hygiene, physical fitness, and regular health check-ups are a must.
Makeup is a controversial subject in terms of whether or not women should or should not wear it to be successful. This is honestly about preference. Some sources state that men prefer women with natural beauty or little-to-no makeup. However, some woman feel more confident with makeup.
If you're going on a date, try treating it like an interview. While you want to put in the effort to make a good first impression, you don't want to wear uncomfortable shoes or crazy amounts of jewelry and cosmetics, either.
1-5. Don’t let others treat you badly.
Studies suggest that doctors may treat males and females differently in regards to their physical pain; women may be discounted and not be taken seriously more often than men.
Hold men, and people in general, accountable if you notice any prejudice or biases toward you.
Choose your friends wisely and keep all personal struggles and defeats to yourself and a close group of friends and family you can trust.
Getting support from others (other women, family, friends) may help you cope with personal difficulties or dealing with prejudice.
2. Showing Confidence
2-1. Communicate appropriately and confidently.
While all the above steps can fit into anyone's life, one of the key factors in success with being taken seriously by men, is being intelligent and well spoken. How you speak goes with how you carry yourself (self-respect and confidence). Appropriate grammar and tone, as well as how frequently you speak can make or break success in the workplace, among new acquaintances and in recreational activities. Although all women have different sounding voices (high, low, soft, etc.), it is important to remember that you may be judged by your pitch, how much emphasis you put on words, and your laugh.
Record yourself to alter how you present yourself to other people. For example, if you let your voice trail off at the end of a sentence, this implies that you are not confident and you could be setting yourself back in terms of getting an important message across.
Speak in terms of specific outcomes and results.
Be assertive. Say what you think and feel in a respectful way. Be firm but polite. Ask for what you want. Say no when you need to. Be warm, welcoming, and friendly to others. Respect the opinions of others and be willing to compromise. Examples of assertive speech include, “That’s a good idea, and how about if we did this too…” or “I can see that, but I’d really like ____."
2-2. Educate yourself.
A woman who is well informed on various topics will have a better chance of being taken seriously by men (and other women).
There are many ways to be "intelligent" but for the most part-pursuing higher education is usually a good place to start.
Watching educational programs, reading books, and keeping up on the latest news are easy and usually low-cost ways to increase your knowledge.
Watching movies, playing video games, and being familiar with sports teams will also make you more diverse in conversations.
2-3. Use your body language.
It is important to pay attention to your body language in addition to your speaking. If you walk around with your head hung low, people may expect that you are negative and unmotivated. On the other hand, how you carry yourself can show gravitas and power.
Stand up straight and tall. Do not slouch. You can practice correcting your posture by lying flat on the ground or standing with your back against a wall.
Give a firm handshake, a weak or sloppy one can make the other person think you are not confident.
Show power by keeping your limbs open and taking up more space. Avoid fidgeting, which can make you appear nervous or uncomfortable.
2-4. Dress appropriately.
How you dress shows a lot about your confidence and self-image. Men are constantly inundated with sexual images of women on television and other forms of media. Unfortunately, if you dress in a sexual, provocative, or revealing way, it is possible that you will send the wrong message. If you really want to be heard, make an effort to appear professional and put together.
Dress to match the occasion. If you are at work, you probably should avoid short shirts or tops where your cleavage is visible. Try wearing a knee-length skirt, pants, or a suit jacket.
As a general rule for women in the work place, to check if your clothing is appropriate for the setting or for an interview, do the bend-over check. If you see any bit of cleavage or your skirt comes up way too high in the back when you bend over to touch your toes, chances are it is not work appropriate. If you have any doubts at all, don't risk it. Your reputation is more important than looking cute or stylish during important business transactions.
3. Following Your Ambitions
3-1. Get motivated.
A woman may influence others more if she demonstrates motivation for her life. Females with aspirations and commitments can be very appealing.
Be intentional and specific in your goals and aspirations.
You can create daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly goals. Write them down and remind yourself of them regularly. Amend any goals as you go along.
One way to get motivated is through creative means. Try drawing out your goals. What do you want for your life and yourself?
3-2. Take pride in your accomplishments.
If you smile, laugh and speak with enthusiasm about what you have going on in your life---men may see that you are motivated and confident and take you seriously. Keep in mind this can depend on how long you keep up with a task. If you are constantly changing your goals and are indecisive with what you want from your life this may leave doubt in people's minds.
If you have children, discuss their latest successes in school with a smile and comment on how proud you are of them.
Discuss any new business ideas you might have, or creative thoughts if they appear interested. Working on a new art piece? Writing a poem? Finishing a degree? Taking a new yoga class? You already have so many interesting things to talk about.
3-3. Make sure your ambitions are your own.
Apart from having self-respect, confidence, motivation and being competitive; you need to ask yourself for each aspect of your life, "Why am I doing this?" If your goals are contrived to impress a man, or men in general, you may be doing it for the wrong reasons. In the same light, trust your instincts; only you can make decisions about your life and where you are heading. Not anyone else.
3-4. Be an expert.
Experts are taken more seriously than novices. Whatever you do decide to do or excel in, be an expert. Learn as much as you can about the topic, and gain a variety of experiences.
Do your research. Spend some of your free-time exploring and learning more about your field of study or occupation. This can make all of the difference in the business world; if you give your all and make the extra effort, people may notice you more.
Do your homework. Focus on your tasks and obligations and don't drop the ball. Being a true expert is about becoming someone that people can count on and trust.
Be prepared. If you have a big speech coming up or a presentation at work, don't wait until the last minute to prepare. Give yourself plenty of time so that you can appear confident and educated about the topic.
Help others. When you are an expert, you help other people understand or complete work. Help as many coworkers, colleagues, or classmates as you can. However, don't overdo it and remember to have balance. You need to be able to complete your own work before you can help others.
If you have the resources and financial ability, you can earn an extra certificate or degree in your field. Some businesses even pay their employees to get advanced degrees.
3-5. Engage in healthy competition.
Men tend to enjoy healthy competition among themselves. Connecting with males on their level can be helpful in increasing a sense of unity, solidarity, or equality. Be sure when you participate in the activity that you bring your A-game and put forth your best effort. Even if you aren't a pro at any sport or hobby, by being open to new challenges and giving something your best effort; men may respect you for it.
If you enjoy a hobby that is physically demanding such as rock climbing, swimming, basketball, running or biking-share it with a male friend.
Finding your balance by trying methods that work and don't work will ensure you get more comfortable with yourself and therefore, with men. This can apply to work, school, hobbies, social gatherings, and the like.
Warnings
Exercise caution when sharing your successes with others. Women who are confident and motivated can be considered a threat to other women.
Flattery and flirting is a natural reaction between men and women. When two people share the same hopes and aspirations and can enjoy good conversation and competition, romantic attraction can ensue. Remember your goals, work, reputation, and self-respect. Carefully weigh the consequences of your actions before you act on them. You do not want to lose respect by making poor choices or being too free with your heart.
Being successful and being taken seriously comes with a few prices. Accept that not every man will respond favorably to your personality or efforts to make a way for yourself in this world.
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Focusing on your values can help you make better decisions and ultimately get people to take you seriously.\\nIf you aren't sure of your values, make a list of everything that you care about. These things are part of your value-system. Add to your list as you come up with new ideas.\\nIf you are disrespected by others, pay attention to your personal values. Remind yourself of what you think is important and act in line with these values. For example, if someone treats you poorly and you have an impulse to yell at them, you can remind yourself of your core value of respect; if you yell at someone you may not be showing them respect.\\nAvoid any activities that go against your personal value system (such as stealing, disrespecting others, or treating yourself poorly).\\n1-3. Accept yourself.\\nIt is a sad reality that some women may be unhappy with themselves despite the many positive characteristics they have. However, if you truly love and accept who you are and what you do, you may be able to get others to accept you as well. The work always starts with you.\\nFocus on your strengths on a daily basis. You can list them in a journal or Word document. List things such as: ambitious, loving, caring, friendly, and athletic. Do you see how some of these strengths might coincide with your values? They are many times linked.\\nAcknowledge some of your flaws, and learn to accept them as they are. They may make you the unique person that you are, and perhaps people even love you for your flaws. You can love them too. Perhaps see them as unique qualities instead of flaws; they may make you different and interesting.\\nAvoid comparing yourself to others. This can cause you to feel inadequate or flawed.\\nUse mindfulness to promote self acceptance. Begin by sitting in a comfortable position. Focus on the criticisms you have of yourself, such as, \\\"I feel ugly and fat.\\\" Take a moment to experience these thoughts without judgment. Then practice nonjudgmental acceptance by saying or thinking, \\\"I'm not perfect. I can accept myself without judgment.\\\" Notice any additional thoughts you have; simply observe them without making a judgment about them (whether they are good or bad). Thoughts may come and go and they are always changing.\\n1-4. Take care of yourself.\\nAppearances do matter, and being taken seriously requires you put effort into how you look.\\nGrooming, hygiene, physical fitness, and regular health check-ups are a must.\\nMakeup is a controversial subject in terms of whether or not women should or should not wear it to be successful. This is honestly about preference. Some sources state that men prefer women with natural beauty or little-to-no makeup. However, some woman feel more confident with makeup.\\nIf you're going on a date, try treating it like an interview. While you want to put in the effort to make a good first impression, you don't want to wear uncomfortable shoes or crazy amounts of jewelry and cosmetics, either.\\n1-5. Don’t let others treat you badly.\\nStudies suggest that doctors may treat males and females differently in regards to their physical pain; women may be discounted and not be taken seriously more often than men.\\nHold men, and people in general, accountable if you notice any prejudice or biases toward you.\\nChoose your friends wisely and keep all personal struggles and defeats to yourself and a close group of friends and family you can trust.\\nGetting support from others (other women, family, friends) may help you cope with personal difficulties or dealing with prejudice.\\n2. Showing Confidence\\n2-1. Communicate appropriately and confidently.\\nWhile all the above steps can fit into anyone's life, one of the key factors in success with being taken seriously by men, is being intelligent and well spoken. How you speak goes with how you carry yourself (self-respect and confidence). Appropriate grammar and tone, as well as how frequently you speak can make or break success in the workplace, among new acquaintances and in recreational activities. Although all women have different sounding voices (high, low, soft, etc.), it is important to remember that you may be judged by your pitch, how much emphasis you put on words, and your laugh.\\nRecord yourself to alter how you present yourself to other people. For example, if you let your voice trail off at the end of a sentence, this implies that you are not confident and you could be setting yourself back in terms of getting an important message across.\\nSpeak in terms of specific outcomes and results.\\nBe assertive. Say what you think and feel in a respectful way. Be firm but polite. Ask for what you want. Say no when you need to. Be warm, welcoming, and friendly to others. Respect the opinions of others and be willing to compromise. Examples of assertive speech include, “That’s a good idea, and how about if we did this too…” or “I can see that, but I’d really like ____.\\\"\\n2-2. Educate yourself.\\nA woman who is well informed on various topics will have a better chance of being taken seriously by men (and other women).\\nThere are many ways to be \\\"intelligent\\\" but for the most part-pursuing higher education is usually a good place to start.\\nWatching educational programs, reading books, and keeping up on the latest news are easy and usually low-cost ways to increase your knowledge.\\nWatching movies, playing video games, and being familiar with sports teams will also make you more diverse in conversations.\\n2-3. Use your body language.\\nIt is important to pay attention to your body language in addition to your speaking. If you walk around with your head hung low, people may expect that you are negative and unmotivated. On the other hand, how you carry yourself can show gravitas and power.\\nStand up straight and tall. Do not slouch. You can practice correcting your posture by lying flat on the ground or standing with your back against a wall.\\nGive a firm handshake, a weak or sloppy one can make the other person think you are not confident.\\nShow power by keeping your limbs open and taking up more space. Avoid fidgeting, which can make you appear nervous or uncomfortable.\\n2-4. Dress appropriately.\\nHow you dress shows a lot about your confidence and self-image. Men are constantly inundated with sexual images of women on television and other forms of media. Unfortunately, if you dress in a sexual, provocative, or revealing way, it is possible that you will send the wrong message. If you really want to be heard, make an effort to appear professional and put together.\\nDress to match the occasion. If you are at work, you probably should avoid short shirts or tops where your cleavage is visible. Try wearing a knee-length skirt, pants, or a suit jacket.\\nAs a general rule for women in the work place, to check if your clothing is appropriate for the setting or for an interview, do the bend-over check. If you see any bit of cleavage or your skirt comes up way too high in the back when you bend over to touch your toes, chances are it is not work appropriate. If you have any doubts at all, don't risk it. Your reputation is more important than looking cute or stylish during important business transactions.\\n3. Following Your Ambitions\\n3-1. Get motivated.\\nA woman may influence others more if she demonstrates motivation for her life. Females with aspirations and commitments can be very appealing.\\nBe intentional and specific in your goals and aspirations.\\nYou can create daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly goals. Write them down and remind yourself of them regularly. Amend any goals as you go along.\\nOne way to get motivated is through creative means. Try drawing out your goals. What do you want for your life and yourself?\\n3-2. Take pride in your accomplishments.\\nIf you smile, laugh and speak with enthusiasm about what you have going on in your life---men may see that you are motivated and confident and take you seriously. Keep in mind this can depend on how long you keep up with a task. If you are constantly changing your goals and are indecisive with what you want from your life this may leave doubt in people's minds.\\nIf you have children, discuss their latest successes in school with a smile and comment on how proud you are of them.\\nDiscuss any new business ideas you might have, or creative thoughts if they appear interested. Working on a new art piece? Writing a poem? Finishing a degree? Taking a new yoga class? You already have so many interesting things to talk about.\\n3-3. Make sure your ambitions are your own.\\nApart from having self-respect, confidence, motivation and being competitive; you need to ask yourself for each aspect of your life, \\\"Why am I doing this?\\\" If your goals are contrived to impress a man, or men in general, you may be doing it for the wrong reasons. In the same light, trust your instincts; only you can make decisions about your life and where you are heading. Not anyone else.\\n3-4. Be an expert.\\nExperts are taken more seriously than novices. Whatever you do decide to do or excel in, be an expert. Learn as much as you can about the topic, and gain a variety of experiences.\\nDo your research. Spend some of your free-time exploring and learning more about your field of study or occupation. This can make all of the difference in the business world; if you give your all and make the extra effort, people may notice you more.\\nDo your homework. Focus on your tasks and obligations and don't drop the ball. Being a true expert is about becoming someone that people can count on and trust.\\nBe prepared. If you have a big speech coming up or a presentation at work, don't wait until the last minute to prepare. Give yourself plenty of time so that you can appear confident and educated about the topic.\\nHelp others. When you are an expert, you help other people understand or complete work. Help as many coworkers, colleagues, or classmates as you can. However, don't overdo it and remember to have balance. You need to be able to complete your own work before you can help others.\\nIf you have the resources and financial ability, you can earn an extra certificate or degree in your field. Some businesses even pay their employees to get advanced degrees.\\n3-5. Engage in healthy competition.\\nMen tend to enjoy healthy competition among themselves. Connecting with males on their level can be helpful in increasing a sense of unity, solidarity, or equality. Be sure when you participate in the activity that you bring your A-game and put forth your best effort. Even if you aren't a pro at any sport or hobby, by being open to new challenges and giving something your best effort; men may respect you for it.\\nIf you enjoy a hobby that is physically demanding such as rock climbing, swimming, basketball, running or biking-share it with a male friend.\\nFinding your balance by trying methods that work and don't work will ensure you get more comfortable with yourself and therefore, with men. This can apply to work, school, hobbies, social gatherings, and the like.\\nWarnings\\nExercise caution when sharing your successes with others. Women who are confident and motivated can be considered a threat to other women.\\nFlattery and flirting is a natural reaction between men and women. When two people share the same hopes and aspirations and can enjoy good conversation and competition, romantic attraction can ensue. Remember your goals, work, reputation, and self-respect. Carefully weigh the consequences of your actions before you act on them. You do not want to lose respect by making poor choices or being too free with your heart.\\nBeing successful and being taken seriously comes with a few prices. Accept that not every man will respond favorably to your personality or efforts to make a way for yourself in this world.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Are you having trouble getting males to respect you and admire you for who you are and what you do? Due to stereotypes and sometimes sexism, women can be devalued in society. It is time to take that power back and show that you need to be taken seriously, not treated as incapable or fragile. There are a few simple steps that will empower you to be treated appropriately by male friends, co-workers, and casual acquaintances; this can make your job, hobbies, and daily interactions easier and less stressful. In order to be taken seriously by males, you may need to work on loving yourself, exuding confidence, and following your goals and ambitions.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Loving Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Value and respect yourself.\", \"描述\": \"If you know your own value, others may learn to recognize it as well.\\nIf you ever feel devalued or unimportant, remind yourself that you are a worthy, valuable, and unique person.\\nYou are not just an object, you are a person. You are more than a body or something pretty to look at. You have a beautiful mind you can share with others.\\nRespect yourself by making responsible choices that benefit you or others and do not cause harm.\\nGive yourself respect by treating yourself and your body well. Ways to treat yourself well include: eating healthy, getting enough sleep, exercising, relaxing, and engaging in safe recreational or creative activities.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pay attention to your values.\", \"描述\": \"Identify what you believe in and hold dear and stick to these values. These values might include things like: freedom, empowerment, equality, respect, justice, family, love, and stability. Focusing on your values can help you make better decisions and ultimately get people to take you seriously.\\nIf you aren't sure of your values, make a list of everything that you care about. These things are part of your value-system. Add to your list as you come up with new ideas.\\nIf you are disrespected by others, pay attention to your personal values. Remind yourself of what you think is important and act in line with these values. For example, if someone treats you poorly and you have an impulse to yell at them, you can remind yourself of your core value of respect; if you yell at someone you may not be showing them respect.\\nAvoid any activities that go against your personal value system (such as stealing, disrespecting others, or treating yourself poorly).\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Accept yourself.\", \"描述\": \"It is a sad reality that some women may be unhappy with themselves despite the many positive characteristics they have. However, if you truly love and accept who you are and what you do, you may be able to get others to accept you as well. The work always starts with you.\\nFocus on your strengths on a daily basis. You can list them in a journal or Word document. List things such as: ambitious, loving, caring, friendly, and athletic. Do you see how some of these strengths might coincide with your values? They are many times linked.\\nAcknowledge some of your flaws, and learn to accept them as they are. They may make you the unique person that you are, and perhaps people even love you for your flaws. You can love them too. Perhaps see them as unique qualities instead of flaws; they may make you different and interesting.\\nAvoid comparing yourself to others. This can cause you to feel inadequate or flawed.\\nUse mindfulness to promote self acceptance. Begin by sitting in a comfortable position. Focus on the criticisms you have of yourself, such as, \\\"I feel ugly and fat.\\\" Take a moment to experience these thoughts without judgment. Then practice nonjudgmental acceptance by saying or thinking, \\\"I'm not perfect. I can accept myself without judgment.\\\" Notice any additional thoughts you have; simply observe them without making a judgment about them (whether they are good or bad). Thoughts may come and go and they are always changing.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take care of yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Appearances do matter, and being taken seriously requires you put effort into how you look.\\nGrooming, hygiene, physical fitness, and regular health check-ups are a must.\\nMakeup is a controversial subject in terms of whether or not women should or should not wear it to be successful. This is honestly about preference. Some sources state that men prefer women with natural beauty or little-to-no makeup. However, some woman feel more confident with makeup.\\nIf you're going on a date, try treating it like an interview. While you want to put in the effort to make a good first impression, you don't want to wear uncomfortable shoes or crazy amounts of jewelry and cosmetics, either.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Don’t let others treat you badly.\", \"描述\": \"Studies suggest that doctors may treat males and females differently in regards to their physical pain; women may be discounted and not be taken seriously more often than men.\\nHold men, and people in general, accountable if you notice any prejudice or biases toward you.\\nChoose your friends wisely and keep all personal struggles and defeats to yourself and a close group of friends and family you can trust.\\nGetting support from others (other women, family, friends) may help you cope with personal difficulties or dealing with prejudice.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Showing Confidence\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Communicate appropriately and confidently.\", \"描述\": \"While all the above steps can fit into anyone's life, one of the key factors in success with being taken seriously by men, is being intelligent and well spoken. How you speak goes with how you carry yourself (self-respect and confidence). Appropriate grammar and tone, as well as how frequently you speak can make or break success in the workplace, among new acquaintances and in recreational activities. Although all women have different sounding voices (high, low, soft, etc.), it is important to remember that you may be judged by your pitch, how much emphasis you put on words, and your laugh.\\nRecord yourself to alter how you present yourself to other people. For example, if you let your voice trail off at the end of a sentence, this implies that you are not confident and you could be setting yourself back in terms of getting an important message across.\\nSpeak in terms of specific outcomes and results.\\nBe assertive. Say what you think and feel in a respectful way. Be firm but polite. Ask for what you want. Say no when you need to. Be warm, welcoming, and friendly to others. Respect the opinions of others and be willing to compromise. Examples of assertive speech include, “That’s a good idea, and how about if we did this too…” or “I can see that, but I’d really like ____.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Educate yourself.\", \"描述\": \"A woman who is well informed on various topics will have a better chance of being taken seriously by men (and other women).\\nThere are many ways to be \\\"intelligent\\\" but for the most part-pursuing higher education is usually a good place to start.\\nWatching educational programs, reading books, and keeping up on the latest news are easy and usually low-cost ways to increase your knowledge.\\nWatching movies, playing video games, and being familiar with sports teams will also make you more diverse in conversations.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Use your body language.\", \"描述\": \"It is important to pay attention to your body language in addition to your speaking. If you walk around with your head hung low, people may expect that you are negative and unmotivated. On the other hand, how you carry yourself can show gravitas and power.\\nStand up straight and tall. Do not slouch. You can practice correcting your posture by lying flat on the ground or standing with your back against a wall.\\nGive a firm handshake, a weak or sloppy one can make the other person think you are not confident.\\nShow power by keeping your limbs open and taking up more space. Avoid fidgeting, which can make you appear nervous or uncomfortable.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Dress appropriately.\", \"描述\": \"How you dress shows a lot about your confidence and self-image. Men are constantly inundated with sexual images of women on television and other forms of media. Unfortunately, if you dress in a sexual, provocative, or revealing way, it is possible that you will send the wrong message. If you really want to be heard, make an effort to appear professional and put together.\\nDress to match the occasion. If you are at work, you probably should avoid short shirts or tops where your cleavage is visible. Try wearing a knee-length skirt, pants, or a suit jacket.\\nAs a general rule for women in the work place, to check if your clothing is appropriate for the setting or for an interview, do the bend-over check. If you see any bit of cleavage or your skirt comes up way too high in the back when you bend over to touch your toes, chances are it is not work appropriate. If you have any doubts at all, don't risk it. Your reputation is more important than looking cute or stylish during important business transactions.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Following Your Ambitions\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get motivated.\", \"描述\": \"A woman may influence others more if she demonstrates motivation for her life. Females with aspirations and commitments can be very appealing.\\nBe intentional and specific in your goals and aspirations.\\nYou can create daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly goals. Write them down and remind yourself of them regularly. Amend any goals as you go along.\\nOne way to get motivated is through creative means. Try drawing out your goals. What do you want for your life and yourself?\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take pride in your accomplishments.\", \"描述\": \"If you smile, laugh and speak with enthusiasm about what you have going on in your life---men may see that you are motivated and confident and take you seriously. Keep in mind this can depend on how long you keep up with a task. If you are constantly changing your goals and are indecisive with what you want from your life this may leave doubt in people's minds.\\nIf you have children, discuss their latest successes in school with a smile and comment on how proud you are of them.\\nDiscuss any new business ideas you might have, or creative thoughts if they appear interested. Working on a new art piece? Writing a poem? Finishing a degree? Taking a new yoga class? You already have so many interesting things to talk about.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make sure your ambitions are your own.\", \"描述\": \"Apart from having self-respect, confidence, motivation and being competitive; you need to ask yourself for each aspect of your life, \\\"Why am I doing this?\\\" If your goals are contrived to impress a man, or men in general, you may be doing it for the wrong reasons. In the same light, trust your instincts; only you can make decisions about your life and where you are heading. Not anyone else.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be an expert.\", \"描述\": \"Experts are taken more seriously than novices. Whatever you do decide to do or excel in, be an expert. Learn as much as you can about the topic, and gain a variety of experiences.\\nDo your research. Spend some of your free-time exploring and learning more about your field of study or occupation. This can make all of the difference in the business world; if you give your all and make the extra effort, people may notice you more.\\nDo your homework. Focus on your tasks and obligations and don't drop the ball. Being a true expert is about becoming someone that people can count on and trust.\\nBe prepared. If you have a big speech coming up or a presentation at work, don't wait until the last minute to prepare. Give yourself plenty of time so that you can appear confident and educated about the topic.\\nHelp others. When you are an expert, you help other people understand or complete work. Help as many coworkers, colleagues, or classmates as you can. However, don't overdo it and remember to have balance. You need to be able to complete your own work before you can help others.\\nIf you have the resources and financial ability, you can earn an extra certificate or degree in your field. Some businesses even pay their employees to get advanced degrees.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Engage in healthy competition.\", \"描述\": \"Men tend to enjoy healthy competition among themselves. Connecting with males on their level can be helpful in increasing a sense of unity, solidarity, or equality. Be sure when you participate in the activity that you bring your A-game and put forth your best effort. Even if you aren't a pro at any sport or hobby, by being open to new challenges and giving something your best effort; men may respect you for it.\\nIf you enjoy a hobby that is physically demanding such as rock climbing, swimming, basketball, running or biking-share it with a male friend.\\nFinding your balance by trying methods that work and don't work will ensure you get more comfortable with yourself and therefore, with men. This can apply to work, school, hobbies, social gatherings, and the like.\"}], \"注意事项\": [\"Exercise caution when sharing your successes with others. Women who are confident and motivated can be considered a threat to other women.\\n\", \"Flattery and flirting is a natural reaction between men and women. When two people share the same hopes and aspirations and can enjoy good conversation and competition, romantic attraction can ensue. Remember your goals, work, reputation, and self-respect. Carefully weigh the consequences of your actions before you act on them. You do not want to lose respect by making poor choices or being too free with your heart.\\n\", \"Being successful and being taken seriously comes with a few prices. Accept that not every man will respond favorably to your personality or efforts to make a way for yourself in this world.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Discovering Your Talent
1-1. Revisit your childhood.
A good way to figure out where your talents lie is to go back to your childhood and think about what it was you wanted to do as a kid. This is often the time when you had plans that weren't limited by what people tend to think of as "reality."
Fear of failure is one of the things that tends to hold you back from achieving or finding your talent. By returning to childhood, you're taking yourself out of that fear of failure or limitations mindset.
Consider what it was you wanted to do when you were a child, and consider the things that you loved to do as a child. This doesn't mean that you get to raise dragons (sorry), or anything like that, but it can set you on a path towards your talent. For example, you might not be able to raise dragons but you might turn that desire towards writing stories, or leading a dragon camp at your local library.
1-2. Consider what it is you do when you lose track of time.
One of the chief things you can do is focus on what you love to do so much that you have a tendency to forget everything else for a while. Remember, not all talents are going to be super obvious. You might have to delve a bit deeper into the things you enjoy to discover what makes you tick.
For example, if what you really love is playing video games, that can absolutely be a talent. While you might not be able to play them as your job, you can still find ways to use that talent (reviewing games on your blog or streaming to Twitch).
Consider questions like: What is it you fantasize about doing when you're bored at work or school? If you were given unlimited funds, what would you do with that? If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go? If you didn't have to work, how would you occupy your day? Answering these and similar questions can help you uncover what you're good at and what inspires you.
1-3. Ask others.
Sometimes, when you're having difficulty seeing clearly, it's good to get an outside opinion. Your friends and family members know you well and they should be able to offer you some insights into the areas where they think you're talented.
Sometimes the areas you wish to have talent, aren't necessarily where others see you as having talent. That's okay! Just because you don't have an inborn talent at something, doesn't mean you can't be good at it and just because you have a talent at something doesn't mean that you need to pursue that in your life.
For example: your family and friends might point to your talent as lying in the area of math, especially accounting and figures, but your true passions lie in rock-climbing. Instead of thinking you should throw in the towel on rock-climbing, consider using your math abilities to help you fund your rock-climbing passion.
1-4. Try new things.
Especially if you're not sure what your talents might be, you should get out and try new things. This way you're more likely to hit on what it is that you're really good and that really makes you tick.
Observe and enjoy the talents of other people. In your quest for your own talent you should look into the talents of other people. Think about the people that you know who are talents (maybe your father is an amazing cook, maybe your mom has an amazing ability to listen) and enjoy their talents.
Go out in your community. Take classes offered at your local university; attend lectures or author meets at your local library or bookstore; try out cooking, rock-climbing, or mentoring at the local school.
1-5. Create space.
While it is good to get the opinions of others, sometimes you need to give yourself time and space to figure things out for yourself. You don't want to be completely driven by other people's opinions.
A lot of people find their talent through a moment that changes their life, that isn't scripted, or expected. It can happen that a brilliant musician attends a certain performance, which ignites a love of music in them. So, when confronted with something that might trigger that change in you, sit quietly and absorb the experience.
Go solo. Do things by yourself, especially new things. This will give you time to figure out whether you have a talent for something without feeling like you have to perform one way or another in front of people.
2. Developing Your Talent
2-1. Practice.
While talent can be important when it comes to doing things well, the real determinate is practice. It doesn't matter how talented you are. If you don't practice, you're simply not going to be as good at something, as you could have been. In fact, in many cases, people who are naturally talented at something, so worse in the long run, because they feel like they don't have to practice.
Set aside specific time each day that's devoted to practicing your talent. For example, if writing is your talent, set aside a half hour before work every morning to get up and write. If your talent is basketball, get out there and practice on the court.
Focus on the areas that you're less talented in. Even if you have a talent, it doesn't mean that you're going to be talented at every aspect of something. For example, you might have a talent for capturing dialogue, but struggle to create a coherent plot.
2-2. Kick negativity to the curb.
Talented or not, negative thinking can stop up your abilities quicker than anything else. The more you combat your negative thinking, the easier it will be to discover and develop your talent, because you won't be constantly second guessing yourself.
Identify your thought patterns. The first step towards combating negativity is to notice when you're doing, and what you're doing. Perhaps you only allow the bad things into your mind (this is called filtering), or you tend to catastrophize everything. Notice how you think about yourself, about situations, and about your talent (do you for instance place undue importance on your talent?).
Check in with your thinking every day. You have to be vigilant about your own thinking before you can work towards changing it. When you catch yourself catastrophizing ("I'm a failure because I keep forgetting to turn in my library books"), stop and identify the thought as what it is.
Practice positive or neutral self-talk. The trick is to replace your negative thinking with positive or neutral thinking. So, for example, when you start to think that you're a failure because you're having difficulty with a piano piece, turn that thought around and think "This is a challenging piece and I may have to practice harder to perform it to the standard that I would like." With a thought like that you're no longer casting value judgments on yourself.
2-3. Be kind to yourself and to others.
People have a bad tendency of linking themselves to their talent and when that fails (and it does occasionally) they feel like they're a failure. To keep your sanity and your happiness, be kind to yourself about your abilities.
Your talents are going to make you the best at everything at every time. By being kind to yourself and not having how well you, or your talent does, determine your well-being, you'll be more likely to feel happier.
You can use your talents in the service of kindness. This can help you feel fulfilled, as rather than focusing on what your talent can do for you, you're using your talent for other people. For example, If you're a writer, you could write a story for a sick friend to help cheer them up.
2-4. Challenge yourself.
Quite often talented people will hit a wall in terms of growth. Their talent has carried them as far as it can and they don't feel the need to keep developing it and growing. Remaining always in your comfort zone is a sure way to stagnate in your area of talent.
Challenging yourself is a good way to stay humble, as well. There's nothing wrong with being proud about your accomplishments, but bragging or believing you can do no wrong is a surefire way to irritate those around you, or to lead to you taking a fall.
Challenge yourself by going above and beyond what you've already done. Learned Spanish fluently? Work to translate a favorite book into Spanish, or start on a new language, something more difficult, like Arabic or Chinese.
Whenever you feel like you've plateaued or conquered some aspect of your talent, take it to a new level.
2-5. Do other things.
Being focused on your talent (whether it's getting a PHd in New Testament studies, or composing music) is incredibly important for improvement. However, you should make sure that you do other things, outside of your talent, so that you're not focusing all your energies on that one thing.
Do things that don't have anything to do with your talent, things that you're really bad at, or simply things that you find fun. This way you won't be limiting yourself and you'll have a wide range of experiences to draw on. For example: if your talent lies in math, try branching out and doing art, or going to the gym and trying out yoga.
Avoid basing your self-worth on your talent and avoid basing your whole life on your talent. You can be motivated and focused without letting your talent take over your life.
3. Using Your Talent
3-1. Find unusual outlets for your talent.
There are great ways to use your talents that are unexpected, especially in terms of jobs that might come about because of your talents. This could be a job that you found, or a job you created based on what you saw was needed.
For example, just because you're a trained singer, doesn't mean that you need to go into professional opera singing. You could use your musical abilities to start a singing camp for kids, or to help ease the seriously ill.
Look around to see what's needed in terms of your talents. If you identify a missing need you could start up your own job. For example: if your talent is getting to know people, you could start up a business dedicating to connecting people with one another in your community.
3-2. Find a way to incorporate your talent into your job.
You don't necessarily have to have a job that is all about your talent. There's no reason for you not to try to incorporate it into your job, however. In fact, using your talent at work is a great way to increase your enthusiasm for your job.
For example, if you love do artwork and you work at a coffee shop, consider decorating the specials blackboard, or turning your passion for art into learning latte art.
Stop and consider how your talent might benefit your workplace. What is it you have to offer that might provide a creative or unusual solution to a problem?
3-3. Do something with your talent outside of work.
If you can't think of a way to apply your talents to your job (and there's usually at least one way), find avenues to pursue it on your own time. There are lots of ways that you can enjoy your talent and have other people enjoy your talent, as well.
Consider creating a video or blogging series about your talent. For example, you might use your language skills to help others learn Arabic.
Find other people who are talented in the same manner and work with them, either online or in person. This is another great way to stay humble about your skills, but it can also be fun. These people will share your passions and help speed you along to better work.
3-4. Do something for your community.
Turn that talent into a way to build community and to help other people. Think about all the people who have helped you on your road to success and try to do the same for others.
Tutor low-income kids in your community in math skills, if math is your specialty. Participate in or create a local theater camp if acting is your talent. Offer to teach families in your city about gardening, or about fixing things, and so on and so on. You can find a million ways to give back.
Be a mentor to someone in your field. If you've already gotten that professorship, for example, offer to mentor an up-and-coming graduate student in your field and help them identify their talents!
Tips
Never stop learning or exploring because you find it too difficult. If you let that get in the way, you will never move forward.
Remember, what seemed hard to learn in the beginning, seems easy after having been learned.
Warnings
Try not to focus only on the monetary aspects of your talent. Yes, in this society, you will need money, but if you're only focused on making money with your talent, then you're not doing it because you're passionate and you will likely start to hate it.
Avoid thinking that a talent has to be something specific like art or writing or dancing. It can be as vague as "talent for listening to people" or "talent for connecting with people." These are just as good as specific talents and are a lot easier to incorporate into any job.
Helping others and being kind is a talent in itself.
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Consider what it is you do when you lose track of time.\\nOne of the chief things you can do is focus on what you love to do so much that you have a tendency to forget everything else for a while. Remember, not all talents are going to be super obvious. You might have to delve a bit deeper into the things you enjoy to discover what makes you tick.\\nFor example, if what you really love is playing video games, that can absolutely be a talent. While you might not be able to play them as your job, you can still find ways to use that talent (reviewing games on your blog or streaming to Twitch).\\nConsider questions like: What is it you fantasize about doing when you're bored at work or school? If you were given unlimited funds, what would you do with that? If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go? If you didn't have to work, how would you occupy your day? Answering these and similar questions can help you uncover what you're good at and what inspires you.\\n1-3. Ask others.\\nSometimes, when you're having difficulty seeing clearly, it's good to get an outside opinion. Your friends and family members know you well and they should be able to offer you some insights into the areas where they think you're talented.\\nSometimes the areas you wish to have talent, aren't necessarily where others see you as having talent. That's okay! Just because you don't have an inborn talent at something, doesn't mean you can't be good at it and just because you have a talent at something doesn't mean that you need to pursue that in your life.\\nFor example: your family and friends might point to your talent as lying in the area of math, especially accounting and figures, but your true passions lie in rock-climbing. Instead of thinking you should throw in the towel on rock-climbing, consider using your math abilities to help you fund your rock-climbing passion.\\n1-4. Try new things.\\nEspecially if you're not sure what your talents might be, you should get out and try new things. This way you're more likely to hit on what it is that you're really good and that really makes you tick.\\nObserve and enjoy the talents of other people. In your quest for your own talent you should look into the talents of other people. Think about the people that you know who are talents (maybe your father is an amazing cook, maybe your mom has an amazing ability to listen) and enjoy their talents.\\nGo out in your community. Take classes offered at your local university; attend lectures or author meets at your local library or bookstore; try out cooking, rock-climbing, or mentoring at the local school.\\n1-5. Create space.\\nWhile it is good to get the opinions of others, sometimes you need to give yourself time and space to figure things out for yourself. You don't want to be completely driven by other people's opinions.\\nA lot of people find their talent through a moment that changes their life, that isn't scripted, or expected. It can happen that a brilliant musician attends a certain performance, which ignites a love of music in them. So, when confronted with something that might trigger that change in you, sit quietly and absorb the experience.\\nGo solo. Do things by yourself, especially new things. This will give you time to figure out whether you have a talent for something without feeling like you have to perform one way or another in front of people.\\n2. Developing Your Talent\\n2-1. Practice.\\nWhile talent can be important when it comes to doing things well, the real determinate is practice. It doesn't matter how talented you are. If you don't practice, you're simply not going to be as good at something, as you could have been. In fact, in many cases, people who are naturally talented at something, so worse in the long run, because they feel like they don't have to practice.\\nSet aside specific time each day that's devoted to practicing your talent. For example, if writing is your talent, set aside a half hour before work every morning to get up and write. If your talent is basketball, get out there and practice on the court.\\nFocus on the areas that you're less talented in. Even if you have a talent, it doesn't mean that you're going to be talented at every aspect of something. For example, you might have a talent for capturing dialogue, but struggle to create a coherent plot.\\n2-2. Kick negativity to the curb.\\nTalented or not, negative thinking can stop up your abilities quicker than anything else. The more you combat your negative thinking, the easier it will be to discover and develop your talent, because you won't be constantly second guessing yourself.\\nIdentify your thought patterns. The first step towards combating negativity is to notice when you're doing, and what you're doing. Perhaps you only allow the bad things into your mind (this is called filtering), or you tend to catastrophize everything. Notice how you think about yourself, about situations, and about your talent (do you for instance place undue importance on your talent?).\\nCheck in with your thinking every day. You have to be vigilant about your own thinking before you can work towards changing it. When you catch yourself catastrophizing (\\\"I'm a failure because I keep forgetting to turn in my library books\\\"), stop and identify the thought as what it is.\\nPractice positive or neutral self-talk. The trick is to replace your negative thinking with positive or neutral thinking. So, for example, when you start to think that you're a failure because you're having difficulty with a piano piece, turn that thought around and think \\\"This is a challenging piece and I may have to practice harder to perform it to the standard that I would like.\\\" With a thought like that you're no longer casting value judgments on yourself.\\n2-3. Be kind to yourself and to others.\\nPeople have a bad tendency of linking themselves to their talent and when that fails (and it does occasionally) they feel like they're a failure. To keep your sanity and your happiness, be kind to yourself about your abilities.\\nYour talents are going to make you the best at everything at every time. By being kind to yourself and not having how well you, or your talent does, determine your well-being, you'll be more likely to feel happier.\\nYou can use your talents in the service of kindness. This can help you feel fulfilled, as rather than focusing on what your talent can do for you, you're using your talent for other people. For example, If you're a writer, you could write a story for a sick friend to help cheer them up.\\n2-4. Challenge yourself.\\nQuite often talented people will hit a wall in terms of growth. Their talent has carried them as far as it can and they don't feel the need to keep developing it and growing. Remaining always in your comfort zone is a sure way to stagnate in your area of talent.\\nChallenging yourself is a good way to stay humble, as well. There's nothing wrong with being proud about your accomplishments, but bragging or believing you can do no wrong is a surefire way to irritate those around you, or to lead to you taking a fall.\\nChallenge yourself by going above and beyond what you've already done. Learned Spanish fluently? Work to translate a favorite book into Spanish, or start on a new language, something more difficult, like Arabic or Chinese.\\nWhenever you feel like you've plateaued or conquered some aspect of your talent, take it to a new level.\\n2-5. Do other things.\\nBeing focused on your talent (whether it's getting a PHd in New Testament studies, or composing music) is incredibly important for improvement. However, you should make sure that you do other things, outside of your talent, so that you're not focusing all your energies on that one thing.\\nDo things that don't have anything to do with your talent, things that you're really bad at, or simply things that you find fun. This way you won't be limiting yourself and you'll have a wide range of experiences to draw on. For example: if your talent lies in math, try branching out and doing art, or going to the gym and trying out yoga.\\nAvoid basing your self-worth on your talent and avoid basing your whole life on your talent. You can be motivated and focused without letting your talent take over your life.\\n3. Using Your Talent\\n3-1. Find unusual outlets for your talent.\\nThere are great ways to use your talents that are unexpected, especially in terms of jobs that might come about because of your talents. This could be a job that you found, or a job you created based on what you saw was needed.\\nFor example, just because you're a trained singer, doesn't mean that you need to go into professional opera singing. You could use your musical abilities to start a singing camp for kids, or to help ease the seriously ill.\\nLook around to see what's needed in terms of your talents. If you identify a missing need you could start up your own job. For example: if your talent is getting to know people, you could start up a business dedicating to connecting people with one another in your community.\\n3-2. Find a way to incorporate your talent into your job.\\nYou don't necessarily have to have a job that is all about your talent. There's no reason for you not to try to incorporate it into your job, however. In fact, using your talent at work is a great way to increase your enthusiasm for your job.\\nFor example, if you love do artwork and you work at a coffee shop, consider decorating the specials blackboard, or turning your passion for art into learning latte art.\\nStop and consider how your talent might benefit your workplace. What is it you have to offer that might provide a creative or unusual solution to a problem?\\n3-3. Do something with your talent outside of work.\\nIf you can't think of a way to apply your talents to your job (and there's usually at least one way), find avenues to pursue it on your own time. There are lots of ways that you can enjoy your talent and have other people enjoy your talent, as well. \\nConsider creating a video or blogging series about your talent. For example, you might use your language skills to help others learn Arabic.\\nFind other people who are talented in the same manner and work with them, either online or in person. This is another great way to stay humble about your skills, but it can also be fun. These people will share your passions and help speed you along to better work.\\n3-4. Do something for your community.\\nTurn that talent into a way to build community and to help other people. Think about all the people who have helped you on your road to success and try to do the same for others.\\nTutor low-income kids in your community in math skills, if math is your specialty. Participate in or create a local theater camp if acting is your talent. Offer to teach families in your city about gardening, or about fixing things, and so on and so on. You can find a million ways to give back.\\nBe a mentor to someone in your field. If you've already gotten that professorship, for example, offer to mentor an up-and-coming graduate student in your field and help them identify their talents!\\nTips\\nNever stop learning or exploring because you find it too difficult. If you let that get in the way, you will never move forward.\\nRemember, what seemed hard to learn in the beginning, seems easy after having been learned.\\nWarnings\\nTry not to focus only on the monetary aspects of your talent. Yes, in this society, you will need money, but if you're only focused on making money with your talent, then you're not doing it because you're passionate and you will likely start to hate it.\\nAvoid thinking that a talent has to be something specific like art or writing or dancing. It can be as vague as \\\"talent for listening to people\\\" or \\\"talent for connecting with people.\\\" These are just as good as specific talents and are a lot easier to incorporate into any job.\\nHelping others and being kind is a talent in itself.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Talent tends to refer to that inborn skill that everyone seems to be born with. It's true that having a talent can help you in life, and that it's good to try to identify and practice that skill. However, try to avoid placing too much importance on finding a talent. Plenty of people go through life perfectly happy, and perfectly able to learn skills, without having one specific talent.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Discovering Your Talent\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Revisit your childhood.\", \"描述\": \"A good way to figure out where your talents lie is to go back to your childhood and think about what it was you wanted to do as a kid. This is often the time when you had plans that weren't limited by what people tend to think of as \\\"reality.\\\"\\nFear of failure is one of the things that tends to hold you back from achieving or finding your talent. By returning to childhood, you're taking yourself out of that fear of failure or limitations mindset.\\nConsider what it was you wanted to do when you were a child, and consider the things that you loved to do as a child. This doesn't mean that you get to raise dragons (sorry), or anything like that, but it can set you on a path towards your talent. For example, you might not be able to raise dragons but you might turn that desire towards writing stories, or leading a dragon camp at your local library.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Consider what it is you do when you lose track of time.\", \"描述\": \"One of the chief things you can do is focus on what you love to do so much that you have a tendency to forget everything else for a while. Remember, not all talents are going to be super obvious. You might have to delve a bit deeper into the things you enjoy to discover what makes you tick.\\nFor example, if what you really love is playing video games, that can absolutely be a talent. While you might not be able to play them as your job, you can still find ways to use that talent (reviewing games on your blog or streaming to Twitch).\\nConsider questions like: What is it you fantasize about doing when you're bored at work or school? If you were given unlimited funds, what would you do with that? If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go? If you didn't have to work, how would you occupy your day? Answering these and similar questions can help you uncover what you're good at and what inspires you.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ask others.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes, when you're having difficulty seeing clearly, it's good to get an outside opinion. Your friends and family members know you well and they should be able to offer you some insights into the areas where they think you're talented.\\nSometimes the areas you wish to have talent, aren't necessarily where others see you as having talent. That's okay! Just because you don't have an inborn talent at something, doesn't mean you can't be good at it and just because you have a talent at something doesn't mean that you need to pursue that in your life.\\nFor example: your family and friends might point to your talent as lying in the area of math, especially accounting and figures, but your true passions lie in rock-climbing. Instead of thinking you should throw in the towel on rock-climbing, consider using your math abilities to help you fund your rock-climbing passion.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Try new things.\", \"描述\": \"Especially if you're not sure what your talents might be, you should get out and try new things. This way you're more likely to hit on what it is that you're really good and that really makes you tick.\\nObserve and enjoy the talents of other people. In your quest for your own talent you should look into the talents of other people. Think about the people that you know who are talents (maybe your father is an amazing cook, maybe your mom has an amazing ability to listen) and enjoy their talents.\\nGo out in your community. Take classes offered at your local university; attend lectures or author meets at your local library or bookstore; try out cooking, rock-climbing, or mentoring at the local school.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Create space.\", \"描述\": \"While it is good to get the opinions of others, sometimes you need to give yourself time and space to figure things out for yourself. You don't want to be completely driven by other people's opinions.\\nA lot of people find their talent through a moment that changes their life, that isn't scripted, or expected. It can happen that a brilliant musician attends a certain performance, which ignites a love of music in them. So, when confronted with something that might trigger that change in you, sit quietly and absorb the experience.\\nGo solo. Do things by yourself, especially new things. This will give you time to figure out whether you have a talent for something without feeling like you have to perform one way or another in front of people.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Developing Your Talent\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practice.\", \"描述\": \"While talent can be important when it comes to doing things well, the real determinate is practice. It doesn't matter how talented you are. If you don't practice, you're simply not going to be as good at something, as you could have been. In fact, in many cases, people who are naturally talented at something, so worse in the long run, because they feel like they don't have to practice.\\nSet aside specific time each day that's devoted to practicing your talent. For example, if writing is your talent, set aside a half hour before work every morning to get up and write. If your talent is basketball, get out there and practice on the court.\\nFocus on the areas that you're less talented in. Even if you have a talent, it doesn't mean that you're going to be talented at every aspect of something. For example, you might have a talent for capturing dialogue, but struggle to create a coherent plot.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Kick negativity to the curb.\", \"描述\": \"Talented or not, negative thinking can stop up your abilities quicker than anything else. The more you combat your negative thinking, the easier it will be to discover and develop your talent, because you won't be constantly second guessing yourself.\\nIdentify your thought patterns. The first step towards combating negativity is to notice when you're doing, and what you're doing. Perhaps you only allow the bad things into your mind (this is called filtering), or you tend to catastrophize everything. Notice how you think about yourself, about situations, and about your talent (do you for instance place undue importance on your talent?).\\nCheck in with your thinking every day. You have to be vigilant about your own thinking before you can work towards changing it. When you catch yourself catastrophizing (\\\"I'm a failure because I keep forgetting to turn in my library books\\\"), stop and identify the thought as what it is.\\nPractice positive or neutral self-talk. The trick is to replace your negative thinking with positive or neutral thinking. So, for example, when you start to think that you're a failure because you're having difficulty with a piano piece, turn that thought around and think \\\"This is a challenging piece and I may have to practice harder to perform it to the standard that I would like.\\\" With a thought like that you're no longer casting value judgments on yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be kind to yourself and to others.\", \"描述\": \"People have a bad tendency of linking themselves to their talent and when that fails (and it does occasionally) they feel like they're a failure. To keep your sanity and your happiness, be kind to yourself about your abilities.\\nYour talents are going to make you the best at everything at every time. By being kind to yourself and not having how well you, or your talent does, determine your well-being, you'll be more likely to feel happier.\\nYou can use your talents in the service of kindness. This can help you feel fulfilled, as rather than focusing on what your talent can do for you, you're using your talent for other people. For example, If you're a writer, you could write a story for a sick friend to help cheer them up.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Challenge yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Quite often talented people will hit a wall in terms of growth. Their talent has carried them as far as it can and they don't feel the need to keep developing it and growing. Remaining always in your comfort zone is a sure way to stagnate in your area of talent.\\nChallenging yourself is a good way to stay humble, as well. There's nothing wrong with being proud about your accomplishments, but bragging or believing you can do no wrong is a surefire way to irritate those around you, or to lead to you taking a fall.\\nChallenge yourself by going above and beyond what you've already done. Learned Spanish fluently? Work to translate a favorite book into Spanish, or start on a new language, something more difficult, like Arabic or Chinese.\\nWhenever you feel like you've plateaued or conquered some aspect of your talent, take it to a new level.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Do other things.\", \"描述\": \"Being focused on your talent (whether it's getting a PHd in New Testament studies, or composing music) is incredibly important for improvement. However, you should make sure that you do other things, outside of your talent, so that you're not focusing all your energies on that one thing.\\nDo things that don't have anything to do with your talent, things that you're really bad at, or simply things that you find fun. This way you won't be limiting yourself and you'll have a wide range of experiences to draw on. For example: if your talent lies in math, try branching out and doing art, or going to the gym and trying out yoga.\\nAvoid basing your self-worth on your talent and avoid basing your whole life on your talent. You can be motivated and focused without letting your talent take over your life.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Using Your Talent\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find unusual outlets for your talent.\", \"描述\": \"There are great ways to use your talents that are unexpected, especially in terms of jobs that might come about because of your talents. This could be a job that you found, or a job you created based on what you saw was needed.\\nFor example, just because you're a trained singer, doesn't mean that you need to go into professional opera singing. You could use your musical abilities to start a singing camp for kids, or to help ease the seriously ill.\\nLook around to see what's needed in terms of your talents. If you identify a missing need you could start up your own job. For example: if your talent is getting to know people, you could start up a business dedicating to connecting people with one another in your community.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Find a way to incorporate your talent into your job.\", \"描述\": \"You don't necessarily have to have a job that is all about your talent. There's no reason for you not to try to incorporate it into your job, however. In fact, using your talent at work is a great way to increase your enthusiasm for your job.\\nFor example, if you love do artwork and you work at a coffee shop, consider decorating the specials blackboard, or turning your passion for art into learning latte art.\\nStop and consider how your talent might benefit your workplace. What is it you have to offer that might provide a creative or unusual solution to a problem?\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Do something with your talent outside of work.\", \"描述\": \"If you can't think of a way to apply your talents to your job (and there's usually at least one way), find avenues to pursue it on your own time. There are lots of ways that you can enjoy your talent and have other people enjoy your talent, as well. \\nConsider creating a video or blogging series about your talent. For example, you might use your language skills to help others learn Arabic.\\nFind other people who are talented in the same manner and work with them, either online or in person. This is another great way to stay humble about your skills, but it can also be fun. These people will share your passions and help speed you along to better work.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Do something for your community.\", \"描述\": \"Turn that talent into a way to build community and to help other people. Think about all the people who have helped you on your road to success and try to do the same for others.\\nTutor low-income kids in your community in math skills, if math is your specialty. Participate in or create a local theater camp if acting is your talent. Offer to teach families in your city about gardening, or about fixing things, and so on and so on. You can find a million ways to give back.\\nBe a mentor to someone in your field. If you've already gotten that professorship, for example, offer to mentor an up-and-coming graduate student in your field and help them identify their talents!\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Never stop learning or exploring because you find it too difficult. If you let that get in the way, you will never move forward.\\n\", \"Remember, what seemed hard to learn in the beginning, seems easy after having been learned.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Try not to focus only on the monetary aspects of your talent. Yes, in this society, you will need money, but if you're only focused on making money with your talent, then you're not doing it because you're passionate and you will likely start to hate it.\\n\", \"Avoid thinking that a talent has to be something specific like art or writing or dancing. It can be as vague as \\\"talent for listening to people\\\" or \\\"talent for connecting with people.\\\" These are just as good as specific talents and are a lot easier to incorporate into any job.\\n\", \"Helping others and being kind is a talent in itself.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Developing Multiple Talents with Practice
1-1. Practice.
Whatever it is you’re trying to be talented at, you know you have to practice. This is especially true if you hope to be talented in multiple areas. Fortunately, you may not need to practice quite as much as you think, and can likely make the time to practice multiple skills every day. In order to get the most out of the time you put in, you have to focus on what you’re hoping to learn.
Practice two different skills 40-45 minutes each, every day for a month.
1-2. Practice priority stacking.
While you may have multiple interests, use priority stacking to organize your time and resources around the hobbies you are most passionate about.
Check in with yourself once a week and make sure what you're pursuing is truly what you want and enjoy doing.
Don’t worry if you miss a day of practicing one of your talents once in a while. If you practice each skill almost every day for a month, you’ll have put in about 20 hours of focused practice on improving each of the talents you hope to develop!
1-3. Deconstruct the talents you hope to acquire.
In order to practice deliberately and efficiently, you need to make sure you are absolutely focused during practice. One way to help maximize the efficiency of your practice time is to deconstruct the talents you hope to improve upon into specific skills.
Ask yourself; What, specifically, do you need to be good at in order to be more talented at whatever ability you’re developing?
Choose specific objectives to achieve each time you sit down to practice something. Repeat a small task or process many, many times until you’ve mastered it. For instance, if you’re trying to improve your ability to play a sport, choose an extremely basic aspect of playing that sport and spend 45 minutes straight on just that specific aspect.
For example, if you’re hoping to become a better soccer player, dribble a soccer ball back and forth on the field with just one foot.
If you’re hoping to improve your talent as a basketball player, shoot only lay-ups.
Deconstructing your effort to improve one talent will help you improve other talents as well. Following the sports example, doing anything physically active will get you in better shape and improve your coordination, both of which will increase your physical abilities generally.
1-4. Practice until you can self-correct.
Practice enough so that you are able to both notice and correct errors in your execution of a particular ability. (Once you’ve completed a disciplined practice routine, during which you practice almost daily for a month, you will likely reach this point.)
Moving forward, your practice will become more efficient. This is because you have gained a solid base of knowledge from which your talent will more naturally progress.
For instance, if you’re hoping to improve your ability to play an instrument, practice playing the same single notes or chord so frequently than you automatically know exactly what you did wrong when the sound is even a little bit off.
1-5. Be consistent and persistent.
Dabbling and practicing are different things. Jogging or painting twice a week are fun and healthy things to do, but in order to acquire talent, you need to be more disciplined in your pursuit of improvement. Something that may help you be persistent is choosing two very different talents to practice and improve upon during the same time period.
Get in the groove of practicing at the same time of day each day.
Try practicing skills related to two talents you’re hoping to improve upon back-to-back. Get in the habit of practicing one talent then immediately practicing the other.
For example, right when you get home from a daily run, sit down to paint. Grouping your practice sessions together will encourage you to do both consistently.
Work on two widely different talents to increase the variety of your daily activities. Following the example used in this step, doing something active like running pairs well with something creative and contemplative, like painting.
1-6. Remove distractions during practice.
Do not rely entirely on willpower to focus adequately during practice time. Here are a few tips to ensure your practice time is free of interruption:
Set aside a block of time devoted exclusively to practice and commit to practicing for that full length of time. Set a timer if you’d like.
Turn your phone on silent.
Make sure there are no screens running in your vicinity (unless you’re using them to help you practice).
If you have music playing, consider choosing something without lyrics.
2. Maintaining a Talent-Inducing Mindset
2-1. Defy negative thoughts.
In order to maintain talent in multiple areas, train yourself to prevent negative thoughts that can diminish your ability to work towards achieving the multiple goals you set for yourself. Start by paying more attention to your inner dialogue. Then, work on breaking your negative thought habits. There are several ways to rid your mind of negative thinking:
Overcome fear. Audacious, yes. But reflect on what’s holding you back. The most common barriers to acquiring talent are based on your emotions. Recognize this and prevent emotional perspectives, such as fear, from preventing you from pursuing whatever talent you wish to acquire.
Filter out the negative. We tend to filter out the positive and be overly concerned with the negative, especially in terms of our perspective on our own abilities. Don’t fall for this mental trap. Contemplate your room for improvement only so far as it motivates you to continue improving.
Recognize the middle ground. Abandon the concept of perfection. Don’t think that you must be perfect at something to consider yourself talented.
2-2. Strengthen your position with positive thinking.
Optimism isn’t going to make you good at anything on its own, but it will help. Recognize that it is objectively within your control to decide how to think about something, especially goals you set for yourself and your ability to accomplish them.
Respond to negative thoughts that arise by re-framing them in equally true, but more positive perspectives. For instance:
Instead of thinking, “I’ve never done this before, and it seems hard,” think, “Here’s an opportunity to learn, and there are a few different ways to approach this.”
Instead of thinking, “I’m too lazy” or “There’s no way I can do that,” tell yourself, “I haven’t put enough time into this, but I can at least try it and see how it goes.”
Finally, don’t get discouraged by thoughts about how slowly your talents are improving. Decide to tell yourself that it’s worth one more try.
2-3. Practice the thinking part too.
Even convincing yourself to favor positive thinking takes practice. It will pay off though. Become less critical of the world around you, and of yourself, simply by repeating positive sentiments to yourself and pushing away negative thoughts.
Maintaining a positive mindset will not only improve your mood, but will help motivate you to stick with the hard work required to acquire new talents.
3. Broadening Your Ability to Gain Talent Generally
3-1. Monitor your progress.
Know that focused practice will not always be fun. Realizing the development of your talents, however, will be. Take note of and appreciate your achievements – such as a new personal record mile time or a particularly compelling painting.
If there are tangible indications of your progress (perhaps especially paintings), place them in locations you will frequently see them in order to motivate yourself to continue practicing and improving upon your talents!
3-2. Rest.
Keep your mind and body ready to practice with focus and energy. More to the point, rest strategically. If the talent you’re trying to improve requires intense physical activity or mental focus, you’re going to have to keep your mind and body conditioned enough to practice effectively.
This may actually require that you do take off one day a week. This is important to do if it improves your ability to practice effectively for the rest of the week.
3-3. Accept that innate skill is less significant than practice and perseverance.
Even the abilities some people seem to be born with come more from training than from inborn talent. This is true for athletes, musicians, and mathematicians!
Know you’ll need some grit. Psychologists have come to use the term “grit” when referring to an attribute held by successful people. Grit indicates both perseverance and passion in pursuing long-term goals.
Overcoming adversity in pursuit of developing your skills also positively contributes to improve your talents more generally. When facing challenges that others might not have to deal with, tell yourself that by overcoming them, you’ll have a step up on everyone else.
3-4. Improve upon talents that interest you.
Even scientists aren’t sure about how to increase talent. The question of how we become good at things is still largely unanswered. We do know that people who are exposed to things that they become drawn to naturally and who then become immersed in those things end up being good at them. With training and practice, people who are already into something become especially good at it. Accept the significance of these findings and act accordingly:
Observe and play without inhibition. Inspiration and curiosity will inevitably hit you and you’ll end up pursuing talents you’ll be interested in enough to stick with.
Ignore the technical aspects of the talent you’re hoping to acquire. You can bring in the technical aspects of perfecting your abilities once you’re committed.
Don’t try to judge where your interests are coming from.
Avoiding these tendencies will allow your more creative and emotional aspirations to get you hooked on something.
3-5. Read.
Reading is a great place to start learning about how you can become more talented in multiple ways. One of the main benefits here is perking your curiosity and motivating yourself to pursue new ways to expand your talents, or to pursue new talents altogether.
Becoming interested in something you’ve read is seen as an indication that you may take especially well to the material. If you become interested in something new, throw yourself at it.
There are literal advantages to reading too: you learn about language and writing, about whatever era of history is relevant to the book, and, of course, about the content contained in the book. You’re immediately more knowledgeable about all sorts of stuff, just by dragging your eyes back and forth across a page and interpreting a bunch of printed words!
Of course, nothing compares to hands-on experience. Whatever you read about that appeals to you, practice doing it yourself and develop a new talent!
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If you practice each skill almost every day for a month, you’ll have put in about 20 hours of focused practice on improving each of the talents you hope to develop!\\n1-3. Deconstruct the talents you hope to acquire.\\nIn order to practice deliberately and efficiently, you need to make sure you are absolutely focused during practice. One way to help maximize the efficiency of your practice time is to deconstruct the talents you hope to improve upon into specific skills.\\nAsk yourself; What, specifically, do you need to be good at in order to be more talented at whatever ability you’re developing?\\nChoose specific objectives to achieve each time you sit down to practice something. Repeat a small task or process many, many times until you’ve mastered it. For instance, if you’re trying to improve your ability to play a sport, choose an extremely basic aspect of playing that sport and spend 45 minutes straight on just that specific aspect.\\nFor example, if you’re hoping to become a better soccer player, dribble a soccer ball back and forth on the field with just one foot.\\nIf you’re hoping to improve your talent as a basketball player, shoot only lay-ups.\\n\\nDeconstructing your effort to improve one talent will help you improve other talents as well. Following the sports example, doing anything physically active will get you in better shape and improve your coordination, both of which will increase your physical abilities generally.\\n1-4. Practice until you can self-correct.\\nPractice enough so that you are able to both notice and correct errors in your execution of a particular ability. (Once you’ve completed a disciplined practice routine, during which you practice almost daily for a month, you will likely reach this point.)\\nMoving forward, your practice will become more efficient. This is because you have gained a solid base of knowledge from which your talent will more naturally progress.\\nFor instance, if you’re hoping to improve your ability to play an instrument, practice playing the same single notes or chord so frequently than you automatically know exactly what you did wrong when the sound is even a little bit off.\\n1-5. Be consistent and persistent.\\nDabbling and practicing are different things. Jogging or painting twice a week are fun and healthy things to do, but in order to acquire talent, you need to be more disciplined in your pursuit of improvement. Something that may help you be persistent is choosing two very different talents to practice and improve upon during the same time period.\\nGet in the groove of practicing at the same time of day each day.\\nTry practicing skills related to two talents you’re hoping to improve upon back-to-back. Get in the habit of practicing one talent then immediately practicing the other.\\nFor example, right when you get home from a daily run, sit down to paint. Grouping your practice sessions together will encourage you to do both consistently.\\nWork on two widely different talents to increase the variety of your daily activities. Following the example used in this step, doing something active like running pairs well with something creative and contemplative, like painting.\\n1-6. Remove distractions during practice.\\nDo not rely entirely on willpower to focus adequately during practice time. Here are a few tips to ensure your practice time is free of interruption:\\nSet aside a block of time devoted exclusively to practice and commit to practicing for that full length of time. Set a timer if you’d like.\\nTurn your phone on silent.\\nMake sure there are no screens running in your vicinity (unless you’re using them to help you practice).\\nIf you have music playing, consider choosing something without lyrics.\\n2. Maintaining a Talent-Inducing Mindset\\n2-1. Defy negative thoughts.\\nIn order to maintain talent in multiple areas, train yourself to prevent negative thoughts that can diminish your ability to work towards achieving the multiple goals you set for yourself. Start by paying more attention to your inner dialogue. Then, work on breaking your negative thought habits. There are several ways to rid your mind of negative thinking:\\nOvercome fear. Audacious, yes. But reflect on what’s holding you back. The most common barriers to acquiring talent are based on your emotions. Recognize this and prevent emotional perspectives, such as fear, from preventing you from pursuing whatever talent you wish to acquire.\\nFilter out the negative. We tend to filter out the positive and be overly concerned with the negative, especially in terms of our perspective on our own abilities. Don’t fall for this mental trap. Contemplate your room for improvement only so far as it motivates you to continue improving.\\nRecognize the middle ground. Abandon the concept of perfection. Don’t think that you must be perfect at something to consider yourself talented.\\n2-2. Strengthen your position with positive thinking.\\nOptimism isn’t going to make you good at anything on its own, but it will help. Recognize that it is objectively within your control to decide how to think about something, especially goals you set for yourself and your ability to accomplish them.\\nRespond to negative thoughts that arise by re-framing them in equally true, but more positive perspectives. For instance:\\nInstead of thinking, “I’ve never done this before, and it seems hard,” think, “Here’s an opportunity to learn, and there are a few different ways to approach this.”\\nInstead of thinking, “I’m too lazy” or “There’s no way I can do that,” tell yourself, “I haven’t put enough time into this, but I can at least try it and see how it goes.”\\nFinally, don’t get discouraged by thoughts about how slowly your talents are improving. Decide to tell yourself that it’s worth one more try.\\n2-3. Practice the thinking part too.\\nEven convincing yourself to favor positive thinking takes practice. It will pay off though. Become less critical of the world around you, and of yourself, simply by repeating positive sentiments to yourself and pushing away negative thoughts.\\nMaintaining a positive mindset will not only improve your mood, but will help motivate you to stick with the hard work required to acquire new talents.\\n3. Broadening Your Ability to Gain Talent Generally\\n3-1. Monitor your progress.\\nKnow that focused practice will not always be fun. Realizing the development of your talents, however, will be. Take note of and appreciate your achievements – such as a new personal record mile time or a particularly compelling painting.\\nIf there are tangible indications of your progress (perhaps especially paintings), place them in locations you will frequently see them in order to motivate yourself to continue practicing and improving upon your talents!\\n3-2. Rest.\\nKeep your mind and body ready to practice with focus and energy. More to the point, rest strategically. If the talent you’re trying to improve requires intense physical activity or mental focus, you’re going to have to keep your mind and body conditioned enough to practice effectively.\\nThis may actually require that you do take off one day a week. This is important to do if it improves your ability to practice effectively for the rest of the week.\\n3-3. Accept that innate skill is less significant than practice and perseverance.\\nEven the abilities some people seem to be born with come more from training than from inborn talent. This is true for athletes, musicians, and mathematicians!\\nKnow you’ll need some grit. Psychologists have come to use the term “grit” when referring to an attribute held by successful people. Grit indicates both perseverance and passion in pursuing long-term goals.\\nOvercoming adversity in pursuit of developing your skills also positively contributes to improve your talents more generally. When facing challenges that others might not have to deal with, tell yourself that by overcoming them, you’ll have a step up on everyone else.\\n3-4. Improve upon talents that interest you.\\nEven scientists aren’t sure about how to increase talent. The question of how we become good at things is still largely unanswered. We do know that people who are exposed to things that they become drawn to naturally and who then become immersed in those things end up being good at them. With training and practice, people who are already into something become especially good at it. Accept the significance of these findings and act accordingly:\\nObserve and play without inhibition. Inspiration and curiosity will inevitably hit you and you’ll end up pursuing talents you’ll be interested in enough to stick with.\\nIgnore the technical aspects of the talent you’re hoping to acquire. You can bring in the technical aspects of perfecting your abilities once you’re committed.\\nDon’t try to judge where your interests are coming from.\\nAvoiding these tendencies will allow your more creative and emotional aspirations to get you hooked on something.\\n3-5. Read.\\nReading is a great place to start learning about how you can become more talented in multiple ways. One of the main benefits here is perking your curiosity and motivating yourself to pursue new ways to expand your talents, or to pursue new talents altogether.\\nBecoming interested in something you’ve read is seen as an indication that you may take especially well to the material. If you become interested in something new, throw yourself at it.\\nThere are literal advantages to reading too: you learn about language and writing, about whatever era of history is relevant to the book, and, of course, about the content contained in the book. You’re immediately more knowledgeable about all sorts of stuff, just by dragging your eyes back and forth across a page and interpreting a bunch of printed words!\\nOf course, nothing compares to hands-on experience. Whatever you read about that appeals to you, practice doing it yourself and develop a new talent!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Setting out to increase your talents and abilities in multiple disciplines is an audacious endeavor. It’s also very feasible to accomplish. In fact, it’s far easier to become talented in multiple areas than you may expect. Practicing the skills you want to improve, maintaining a positive mindset, and broadening your base of interest and knowledge can all help you be talented in all sorts of ways.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Developing Multiple Talents with Practice\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practice.\", \"描述\": \"Whatever it is you’re trying to be talented at, you know you have to practice. This is especially true if you hope to be talented in multiple areas. Fortunately, you may not need to practice quite as much as you think, and can likely make the time to practice multiple skills every day. In order to get the most out of the time you put in, you have to focus on what you’re hoping to learn.\\nPractice two different skills 40-45 minutes each, every day for a month.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Practice priority stacking.\", \"描述\": \"While you may have multiple interests, use priority stacking to organize your time and resources around the hobbies you are most passionate about.\\nCheck in with yourself once a week and make sure what you're pursuing is truly what you want and enjoy doing.\\nDon’t worry if you miss a day of practicing one of your talents once in a while. If you practice each skill almost every day for a month, you’ll have put in about 20 hours of focused practice on improving each of the talents you hope to develop!\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Deconstruct the talents you hope to acquire.\", \"描述\": \"In order to practice deliberately and efficiently, you need to make sure you are absolutely focused during practice. One way to help maximize the efficiency of your practice time is to deconstruct the talents you hope to improve upon into specific skills.\\nAsk yourself; What, specifically, do you need to be good at in order to be more talented at whatever ability you’re developing?\\nChoose specific objectives to achieve each time you sit down to practice something. Repeat a small task or process many, many times until you’ve mastered it. For instance, if you’re trying to improve your ability to play a sport, choose an extremely basic aspect of playing that sport and spend 45 minutes straight on just that specific aspect.\\nFor example, if you’re hoping to become a better soccer player, dribble a soccer ball back and forth on the field with just one foot.\\nIf you’re hoping to improve your talent as a basketball player, shoot only lay-ups.\\n\\nDeconstructing your effort to improve one talent will help you improve other talents as well. Following the sports example, doing anything physically active will get you in better shape and improve your coordination, both of which will increase your physical abilities generally.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Practice until you can self-correct.\", \"描述\": \"Practice enough so that you are able to both notice and correct errors in your execution of a particular ability. (Once you’ve completed a disciplined practice routine, during which you practice almost daily for a month, you will likely reach this point.)\\nMoving forward, your practice will become more efficient. This is because you have gained a solid base of knowledge from which your talent will more naturally progress.\\nFor instance, if you’re hoping to improve your ability to play an instrument, practice playing the same single notes or chord so frequently than you automatically know exactly what you did wrong when the sound is even a little bit off.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be consistent and persistent.\", \"描述\": \"Dabbling and practicing are different things. Jogging or painting twice a week are fun and healthy things to do, but in order to acquire talent, you need to be more disciplined in your pursuit of improvement. Something that may help you be persistent is choosing two very different talents to practice and improve upon during the same time period.\\nGet in the groove of practicing at the same time of day each day.\\nTry practicing skills related to two talents you’re hoping to improve upon back-to-back. Get in the habit of practicing one talent then immediately practicing the other.\\nFor example, right when you get home from a daily run, sit down to paint. Grouping your practice sessions together will encourage you to do both consistently.\\nWork on two widely different talents to increase the variety of your daily activities. Following the example used in this step, doing something active like running pairs well with something creative and contemplative, like painting.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Remove distractions during practice.\", \"描述\": \"Do not rely entirely on willpower to focus adequately during practice time. Here are a few tips to ensure your practice time is free of interruption:\\nSet aside a block of time devoted exclusively to practice and commit to practicing for that full length of time. Set a timer if you’d like.\\nTurn your phone on silent.\\nMake sure there are no screens running in your vicinity (unless you’re using them to help you practice).\\nIf you have music playing, consider choosing something without lyrics.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Maintaining a Talent-Inducing Mindset\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Defy negative thoughts.\", \"描述\": \"In order to maintain talent in multiple areas, train yourself to prevent negative thoughts that can diminish your ability to work towards achieving the multiple goals you set for yourself. Start by paying more attention to your inner dialogue. Then, work on breaking your negative thought habits. There are several ways to rid your mind of negative thinking:\\nOvercome fear. Audacious, yes. But reflect on what’s holding you back. The most common barriers to acquiring talent are based on your emotions. Recognize this and prevent emotional perspectives, such as fear, from preventing you from pursuing whatever talent you wish to acquire.\\nFilter out the negative. We tend to filter out the positive and be overly concerned with the negative, especially in terms of our perspective on our own abilities. Don’t fall for this mental trap. Contemplate your room for improvement only so far as it motivates you to continue improving.\\nRecognize the middle ground. Abandon the concept of perfection. Don’t think that you must be perfect at something to consider yourself talented.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Strengthen your position with positive thinking.\", \"描述\": \"Optimism isn’t going to make you good at anything on its own, but it will help. Recognize that it is objectively within your control to decide how to think about something, especially goals you set for yourself and your ability to accomplish them.\\nRespond to negative thoughts that arise by re-framing them in equally true, but more positive perspectives. For instance:\\nInstead of thinking, “I’ve never done this before, and it seems hard,” think, “Here’s an opportunity to learn, and there are a few different ways to approach this.”\\nInstead of thinking, “I’m too lazy” or “There’s no way I can do that,” tell yourself, “I haven’t put enough time into this, but I can at least try it and see how it goes.”\\nFinally, don’t get discouraged by thoughts about how slowly your talents are improving. Decide to tell yourself that it’s worth one more try.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Practice the thinking part too.\", \"描述\": \"Even convincing yourself to favor positive thinking takes practice. It will pay off though. Become less critical of the world around you, and of yourself, simply by repeating positive sentiments to yourself and pushing away negative thoughts.\\nMaintaining a positive mindset will not only improve your mood, but will help motivate you to stick with the hard work required to acquire new talents.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Broadening Your Ability to Gain Talent Generally\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Monitor your progress.\", \"描述\": \"Know that focused practice will not always be fun. Realizing the development of your talents, however, will be. Take note of and appreciate your achievements – such as a new personal record mile time or a particularly compelling painting.\\nIf there are tangible indications of your progress (perhaps especially paintings), place them in locations you will frequently see them in order to motivate yourself to continue practicing and improving upon your talents!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Rest.\", \"描述\": \"Keep your mind and body ready to practice with focus and energy. More to the point, rest strategically. If the talent you’re trying to improve requires intense physical activity or mental focus, you’re going to have to keep your mind and body conditioned enough to practice effectively.\\nThis may actually require that you do take off one day a week. 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The question of how we become good at things is still largely unanswered. We do know that people who are exposed to things that they become drawn to naturally and who then become immersed in those things end up being good at them. With training and practice, people who are already into something become especially good at it. Accept the significance of these findings and act accordingly:\\nObserve and play without inhibition. Inspiration and curiosity will inevitably hit you and you’ll end up pursuing talents you’ll be interested in enough to stick with.\\nIgnore the technical aspects of the talent you’re hoping to acquire. 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1. Getting a Medical Examination
1-1. Ask your doctor about mold exposure and describe your symptoms.
There is no need to worry about life-threatening conditions after an exposure to mold—especially if you aren’t allergic. To determine whether mold exposure is actually causing you harm, schedule an appointment with your primary care doctor. Show up and describe the symptoms that you’re experiencing.
Don’t assume that you need to run off to the doctor as soon as you see mold. If you aren’t experiencing any symptoms and you’re not allergic, there isn’t any cause for serious concern so long as you have the mold removed.
Mold (such as coccidioides) can grow in certain soils, and it's possible to inhale the spores and develop pneumonia. This can cause flu-like symptoms that last for weeks to months. It's most common in the southwestern United States (California and Arizona), as well as parts of Mexico, Central America, and South America, and you don't need to worry about it if you don't live in these areas.
If you have an allergy to mold, your symptoms may include sneezing, itchy eyes, coughing, and wheezing.
According to the CDC, all types of mold should be treated with the same degree of seriousness. See your doctor if you have symptoms of an allergy or illness, and take steps to clean the mold, regardless of what type of mold it is.
You should seek medical help immediately if you experience shortness of breath, chest pain, memory loss, or lethargy after a prolonged exposure to mold. Some bacteria can build up in your lungs and cause infections if you’re exposed to mold for too long. These infections are extremely rare, though. The treatments for mold-based infections are typically steroids or antibiotics.
The private companies and labs that perform tests for “toxic mold exposure” tend to be pseudoscientific and unreliable. Consult your doctor first before going to a private company for testing.
1-2. Get examined and express your concern about mold exposure.
Allow your doctor to examine you and answer any of their questions. During your examination, tell your doctor that you’re worried about mold exposure. It’s possible that you may have an allergy to mold, and your doctor will be able to answer any of your questions and take a closer look at your skin, eyes, and nasal passages.
While mold can be a lung irritant in people that are not allergic to it, the medical consensus is that mold exposure is not life-threatening. In most cases, you can remove the mold from your environment and your symptoms will clear up.
1-3. Get a referral for an allergy specialist from your primary care doctor.
If your doctor is concerned that you have an allergy to mold, ask to get a test to confirm your allergy. If your doctor believes that it is appropriate, they will refer you to an allergy specialist. Follow your doctor’s post-care instructions to ensure that your symptoms do not get worse.
Your doctor may tell you to take antihistamines or decongestants to curb your symptoms. Keeping your windows closed and running a dehumidifier will also help curb symptoms from a mold allergy.
Some primary care doctors will be able to perform the allergy test in their office.
1-4. Take a skin test to determine whether you’re allergic to mold or not.
Go to your allergy specialist’s office and explain that you need a skin test for a mold allergy. The allergy specialist will apply a small amount of concentrated mold and study your skin’s reaction. If you are allergic, the doctor will prescribe a steroid, antihistamine, or decongestant to help your symptoms.
If the mold is in your home, you will need to remove it by either hiring a professional mold removal company or removing the mold and repairing the affected rooms, floors, or areas.
There is a blood test for mold exposure, but the skin test is the most common form of the test.
2. Taking a Mycotoxin Test
2-1. Ask your doctor or allergy specialist for a mycotoxin diagnostic test.
If you really want a more in-depth picture of your mold exposure, ask your doctor or allergy specialist for a mycotoxin test. Mycotoxins are toxic compounds that grow and feed on mold, and may be the source of your symptoms if you’ve been exposed to mold for an extended period of time.
You're more likely to be exposed to mycotoxins if you work in agriculture, and it's considered an occupational risk. It's best to take precautions to limit your exposure.
The only type of mold that produces mycotoxins in high amounts is stachybotrys, which is commonly known as “black” mold. They can often grow on moldy food as well.
There are 3 major mycotoxins: trichothecenes, aflatoxins, and ochratoxins. Your test may break your results down into these subcategories.
2-2. Take your urine, nasal, or tissue sample test to determine your exposure.
This test done may be completed by your doctor or your allergy specialist, but you’ll probably be sent to a private laboratory or diagnostic office for the exam. There are 3 different forms of the test, so either submit your urine sample, nasal tissue, or allow the clinician to inspect your skin and hair.
There is no major difference between the 3 tests in terms of the results.
2-3. Wait to receive your results from the laboratory.
After you’ve submitted your sample, wait 1-6 weeks for the lab to process your results. In the meantime, follow your doctor’s after-care instructions and limit your exposure to damp rooms, expired food, and humidity.
Mold particles are everywhere, so you may not be able to limit your exposure completely. Staying in dry areas and eating a healthy diet is a great way to limit your exposure to mold.
2-4. Bring your results to your primary care doctor for next steps.
When you receive your results, schedule another appointment with your primary care doctor. Show up for the appointment and share your results with the doctor. They will be able to refer you to a specialist and go over your results with you.
If you do have an issue with mycotoxin exposure, the treatments include oxygen therapy, nutritional changes, and immunotherapy.
3. Testing Your Home for Mold
3-1. Perform a visual inspection in your home to look for mold.
Put on a dust mask and a pair of rubber gloves. Go around your home and inspect the walls, ceilings, and floor. Look for discolored floorboards and drywall. Inspect your basement thoroughly and look under your crawl space if you have one. Note any locations where you find black, red, or brown residue.
Be sure to check behind your refrigerator, in your air vents, and behind large pieces of furniture.
Mold usually looks like a dusty debris that clings to moist or damp surfaces. It may look fuzzy or wet.
Pay attention to the smell in the air. Mold has a distinctive scent and it often smells like wet leaves or soil.
3-2. Use a moisture meter to find areas in your home that will attract mold.
A moisture meter cannot detect mold on its own, but it does an excellent job at narrowing down where mold will grow. Purchase a moisture meter online or in a construction supply store. Turn it on and walk it around your home to read the moisture levels in the air. Moisture meter results are color-coded, and any room that shows up in the green is unlikely to cultivate mold.
The yellow category means that the moisture levels are higher than average. Red is a sign that you have serious moisture problems in the area.
To reduce moisture in a room, improve the ventilation by turning a fan on and put a dehumidifier in the room.
3-3. Hire a professional lab service to confirm suspicious discoloration as mold.
To confirm the existence of mold in your home, hire a professional mold testing company to inspect your building. A professional service is the only surefire way to determine whether or not mold is an issue in your home. If they do find mold, they will be able to determine the best course of action to remove the problematic fungus.
A professional testing surface will cost $100-300, but it’s the only way to diagnose your mold problems accurately.
3-4. Purchase a mold testing kit to test your home on your own.
DIY mold testing kits are commonly sold for $20-60. Purchase a kit online or at a construction supply store. To use one of these kits, unpack the materials and read the instructions carefully. Usually, you leave a small petri dish out in an enclosed room for 24-48 hours. The chemical in the petri dish will absorb mold particles from the air. Put a lid on the dish and seal it. Check it after 2-4 days to see if mold has grown inside the dish.
DIY kits are less reliable than a professional service when it comes to identifying mold.
If mold grows inside the dish, you have a high percentage of mold in your air. You can send the dish to get tested at the manufacturer’s lab. Getting the sample tested will cost an additional $20-100.
If no mold grows, the odds that you have mold in your home are low.
3-5. Scrub mold with soap and water or replace the moldy surfaces.
If you have a moldy object or piece of furniture, throw it out. If you have a small infestation, put on gloves and a dust mask. Scrub the surface with 1-part dish soap and 3-parts water. Let the surface dry out under a fan and repeat the process until the mold is completely gone.
Scrub moldy tiles or caulk scrubbed clean with soap and water.
Don’t paint over mold. The mold will simply reappear after the paint has dried.
3-6. Prevent mold by using a dehumidifier to remove dampness.
Mold needs a moist environment to grow, so you may be able to prevent mold by keeping your home dry. Use a dehumidifier to remove the moisture in your home, especially in your bathroom and basement. Additionally, make sure your bathroom ventilation system is working so the moisture doesn't linger.
Don't put carpet in a bathroom because it traps moisture and provides a breeding ground for mold.
Tips
There are few documented cases of mold causing serious damage to a person. In the vast majority of cases, mold exposure is mostly just an irritant unless you’re allergic. There’s no need to worry while you’re waiting for your results to come in.[18]
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The treatments for mold-based infections are typically steroids or antibiotics.\\nThe private companies and labs that perform tests for “toxic mold exposure” tend to be pseudoscientific and unreliable. Consult your doctor first before going to a private company for testing.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get examined and express your concern about mold exposure.\", \"描述\": \"Allow your doctor to examine you and answer any of their questions. During your examination, tell your doctor that you’re worried about mold exposure. It’s possible that you may have an allergy to mold, and your doctor will be able to answer any of your questions and take a closer look at your skin, eyes, and nasal passages.\\nWhile mold can be a lung irritant in people that are not allergic to it, the medical consensus is that mold exposure is not life-threatening. 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Mycotoxins are toxic compounds that grow and feed on mold, and may be the source of your symptoms if you’ve been exposed to mold for an extended period of time.\\nYou're more likely to be exposed to mycotoxins if you work in agriculture, and it's considered an occupational risk. It's best to take precautions to limit your exposure.\\nThe only type of mold that produces mycotoxins in high amounts is stachybotrys, which is commonly known as “black” mold. They can often grow on moldy food as well.\\nThere are 3 major mycotoxins: trichothecenes, aflatoxins, and ochratoxins. Your test may break your results down into these subcategories.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take your urine, nasal, or tissue sample test to determine your exposure.\", \"描述\": \"This test done may be completed by your doctor or your allergy specialist, but you’ll probably be sent to a private laboratory or diagnostic office for the exam. There are 3 different forms of the test, so either submit your urine sample, nasal tissue, or allow the clinician to inspect your skin and hair.\\nThere is no major difference between the 3 tests in terms of the results.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Wait to receive your results from the laboratory.\", \"描述\": \"After you’ve submitted your sample, wait 1-6 weeks for the lab to process your results. In the meantime, follow your doctor’s after-care instructions and limit your exposure to damp rooms, expired food, and humidity.\\nMold particles are everywhere, so you may not be able to limit your exposure completely. Staying in dry areas and eating a healthy diet is a great way to limit your exposure to mold.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Bring your results to your primary care doctor for next steps.\", \"描述\": \"When you receive your results, schedule another appointment with your primary care doctor. Show up for the appointment and share your results with the doctor. 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To use one of these kits, unpack the materials and read the instructions carefully. Usually, you leave a small petri dish out in an enclosed room for 24-48 hours. The chemical in the petri dish will absorb mold particles from the air. Put a lid on the dish and seal it. Check it after 2-4 days to see if mold has grown inside the dish.\\nDIY kits are less reliable than a professional service when it comes to identifying mold.\\nIf mold grows inside the dish, you have a high percentage of mold in your air. You can send the dish to get tested at the manufacturer’s lab. Getting the sample tested will cost an additional $20-100.\\nIf no mold grows, the odds that you have mold in your home are low.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Scrub mold with soap and water or replace the moldy surfaces.\", \"描述\": \"If you have a moldy object or piece of furniture, throw it out. If you have a small infestation, put on gloves and a dust mask. Scrub the surface with 1-part dish soap and 3-parts water. 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1. Being Thankful in the Moment
1-1. Take a minute to be thankful for your life.
Sometimes a good way to get back on track and feeling better is to take a break. You'll need to identify things to be grateful for, and sometimes the break itself is a good reason to be thankful.
At work, school, etc., go for a walk around your building or step outside for 15 minutes to breathe the fresh air and muse about how thankful you are for the opportunity to take a break, to stretch your legs, to feel the sun, etc.
Take a moment to notice the little things you're thankful for, like your morning cup of coffee or your pillow when you lay down to go to sleep at night.
1-2. Tell someone you appreciate them.
So often life gets busy that you forget to tell people how much they matter to you, or that you've noticed what they do and it means a lot to you. Expressing your thanks to others will cultivate an atmosphere of thankfulness that can spread out gradually. For example:
If your spouse packs your lunch for you, call or text them something like “Honey, I know packing a lunch doesn’t seem like much to you, but I really appreciate how you always try to make my morning just a bit less hectic.”
1-3. Talk about gratitude with family.
Set aside a time, like the evening meal, to talk about the things you were grateful for that day. Let each family member have a turn to discuss what made them thankful that day.
Make it a routine to go around the table and mention at least 1 thing you’re thankful for before digging in.
Try to be as specific as possible. For example, instead of saying "I'm thankful for all of you being there for me," you could say "I'm thankful that you all help me tend to the garden every weekend."
1-4. Send thank you notes.
It is really amazing what sending just a small thank you note can do. A thank-you note acknowledges that the person gave you something (time, effort, a gift) that they didn't have to and that you appreciate what they've done. You don't have to write a massive novel thanking them, just a few lines that let them know what they and their gift, time, effort, etc. meant to you.
Thank you texts, emails, voicemails, etc. are great to send (and receive), but there still seems to be something particularly special about a handwritten thank you note.
Your thank you note can be as simple as a post-it with a short message, or it can be written on a notepad with a flower or heart doodle.
1-5. Give back as part of giving thanks.
Being thankful isn't just about telling people you are thankful — it's also about giving back to your community and friends. This doesn't mean that you give back so that everything is even and no one "owes" anyone anything. Give because it’s the right thing to do and because it feels good to do it.
If you know the person, help them directly. For example, you could take your grandmother to her appointments or help your friend move into her new place.
If you don't know the person, continue their good work. For example, you could repay your college advisor by mentoring others.
1-6. Focus on the intention behind kindness shown to you.
When someone does something nice for you — gives you a gift, brings you a hot meal, offers to read over and edit your thesis — focus on how they tried to bring something good into your life. Someone gave up their precious time, money, etc., just so they could do something kind for you.
This focus cultivates an atmosphere of gratitude that is then passed on to other people through your actions and words, especially if you have children.
1-7. Make sure to say “thank you” regularly.
Thank the barista who makes your coffee, thank the person who held the door for you, thank the customer service person who helped you figure out why your phone wasn't working. Speaking the words aloud can help cement the feeling of gratitude in your life.
Use the words "thank you" as a sort of prayer or mantra. You can thank specific things, or you can just repeat the words over and over to yourself. For example, you could give thanks for the food you ate this morning, the rain for watering all the trees, your rain jacket for keeping the rain off, and so on.
By cultivating gratitude (and by speaking it aloud), you can do things like ease anger, anxiety, depression, and other health problems.
When you say thank you to people, make eye contact and smile so they can feel the sincerity.
1-8. Find reasons to be thankful, even when it’s difficult.
Sometimes it can be really hard to be thankful in your life. These are the times, however, when it is even more important to cultivate gratitude, because that will help you get through the hard times better than getting angry or upset will.
To cultivate gratitude for something like a difficult or boring job, make a list of the good things about the job: it gives you money so you can buy food and have a roof over your head, it gives you a chance to take the bus into the city and see the early morning sun, and so on.
For something like a break-up or a death of someone you love, you should allow yourself time to grieve and be sad. Being grateful doesn't mean doing away with emotions like sadness, anger, etc. it simply means making them more manageable. After you've given yourself time to grieve, make a list of the things that you learned or are grateful for from the relationship, and then what you are thankful for about the relationship being over.
2. Developing a More Thankful Mindset
2-1. Keep a gratitude journal.
Record your reasons to be thankful each day in order to cement them in your memory. It doesn't matter how difficult your life is at the moment, there is always something to be thankful for. Finding that will help you deal with the other parts of life.
Record about five things you're thankful for every single day. These can be things as simple as "the sun was shining," or they can be as big as "my significant other proposed."
Spend a little time each day reflecting on the things you're most grateful for. You may even find that you have more than five things you want to record.
If you need a little reminder, download a gratitude journaling app for your phone that will send you daily notifications.
2-2. Refer back to your gratitude journal as needed.
When you're having a particularly difficult time, it can be beneficial to go back to what you've written previously. If it's a tough time, find the smallest things that you can be grateful for.
For example, even if you have a terminal illness, you can be grateful for things like someone bringing you dinner, a warm bed, or your cat snuggling with you. All these little things can make the trauma of the big thing (the illness) more bearable.
2-3. Get a gratitude buddy.
Share your goal of becoming more thankful with a close friend or family member, and ask for their help. Choose someone you can comfortably talk to about the things you're grateful for. Also, make it a person who will hold you accountable when you go down the slippery slope of complaining about things.
It might work best as a two-way-street — that is, each of you helping the other to become a more thankful person.
2-4. Turn around how you think about difficulties.
People who are thankful for the things in their lives aren't living an easier life than you. In fact, many people who practice gratitude abundantly have struggled quite a bit. They, however, understand that it isn't the situation that's the problem, it's how you think about the situation that makes it easier or more difficult.
For example, if you have to work in order to pay for college, you could think about how your work is teaching you responsibility instead of taking away free-time.
2-5. Use the right words to describe your life.
Using negative language and labeling can make a situation more difficult, and make it harder for you to be thankful in general. For example, labeling it "my horrible illness" creates a more negative perception than simply saying "the illness that I have." In the second instance, not only are you not making the illness part of you, you are also utilizing neutral language, rather than negative.
Include your gratitude in the words you use to describe your life. For example, you could say "Even though I have this illness, I'm thankful that I'm receiving wonderful treatment and that I have the support of my family."
2-6. Be positive about yourself and other people.
Bashing yourself and others will make you less able to be truly thankful. When you find that you're thinking negatively about yourself or another person, stop and turn that thinking around. For example, if you think "I am so stupid when it comes to math," tell yourself "I am having some difficulty with this math problem" instead.
A simple change in language and perception re-frame things so that the problem isn't you, it's that there is a disconnect between you and this problem. And that is something that you can overcome.
3. Cultivating Thankfulness with Mental and Physical Health
3-1. Eat a healthy diet.
Make sure you're putting food in your body that will help you feel good, which makes it easier to feel thankful as well. Go for veggies and fruits like kale, red peppers, and bananas; good carbohydrates like brown rice, whole grains, and oats; and proteins like salmon, nuts, lean meats, and eggs.
Moderation and variety is important. Your diet shouldn't solely consist of fruits and veggies; you need protein and good carbs too.
Be sure to avoid refined sugars and added salt as much as possible.
3-2. Stay hydrated
Water is a necessary component to making sure every part of your body and mind runs smoothly. Take sips regularly, and drink before you get thirsty.
Be thankful every time you can turn on the tap or open a bottle and have fresh, clean water to drink. Keep in mind that millions (perhaps billions) of people around the world don't have this luxury.
3-3. Don’t skimp on the amount of sleep you get.
Sleep is a huge component of healthiness and happiness, both of which make it easier to be thankful. While it's certainly admirable to practice gratitude even during those sleepless, anxiety-fueled times in your life, getting enough sleep can help make thankfulness easier to cultivate.
Set a consistent bedtime and wake-up time, create a comfortable sleeping location and a calming bedtime routine, and turn off all electronics well before bedtime.
3-4. Follow a regular exercise routine.
Exercise releases happy chemicals like endorphins, which help to regulate your mood and make you feel better. And feeling good is both a reason to be thankful and a motivator for practicing gratitude.
Try to get at least 30 minutes of exercise each day. This can be something as simple as going for a run, putting on some music and dancing, or doing some yoga.
3-5. Meditate
Meditation is another useful way of dealing with mental health issues and a general sense of malaise in your life. It can also help to support your thankfulness and gratitude practices.
Go somewhere quiet and meditate for at least fifteen minutes each day. Sit comfortably and take deep breaths. Focus on your breath. When errant thoughts demand your attention, acknowledge them and let them go when you exhale.
3-6. Practice mindfulness.
By remaining in the moment, you are making it very difficult for your brain to race ahead and worry or plan for the future, or become bogged down in the past. This is one way of practicing thankfulness, because you are immersing yourself in the present, and thereby giving thanks to the "now."
Practice mindfulness while you eat. Focus on the food that you're putting into your mouth: Is it hot or cold? What is the texture? Is it sweet or sour or salty?
Try this while going for a walk, or simply sitting outside. Notice the color of the sky and shape of the clouds. Use your nose to locate any scents, and listen to the wind in the trees.
Tips
Remember, sometimes you will have bad days, where you're grumpy and dislike everything. That's okay. Don't beat yourself up because you aren't constantly floating along in a bubble of gratitude. That may be the goal, but no one's yet reached it.
Just because you learn to be thankful doesn't mean that bad things won't happen, or that you won't be affected by the things that do happen. It can simply help to make the things that happen easier to deal with and not as taxing for your mental health.
You can't always control what happens to you, but you can work on controlling how you respond to things.
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In fact, many people who practice gratitude abundantly have struggled quite a bit. They, however, understand that it isn't the situation that's the problem, it's how you think about the situation that makes it easier or more difficult.\\nFor example, if you have to work in order to pay for college, you could think about how your work is teaching you responsibility instead of taking away free-time.\\n2-5. Use the right words to describe your life.\\nUsing negative language and labeling can make a situation more difficult, and make it harder for you to be thankful in general. For example, labeling it \\\"my horrible illness\\\" creates a more negative perception than simply saying \\\"the illness that I have.\\\" In the second instance, not only are you not making the illness part of you, you are also utilizing neutral language, rather than negative.\\nInclude your gratitude in the words you use to describe your life. For example, you could say \\\"Even though I have this illness, I'm thankful that I'm receiving wonderful treatment and that I have the support of my family.\\\"\\n2-6. Be positive about yourself and other people.\\nBashing yourself and others will make you less able to be truly thankful. When you find that you're thinking negatively about yourself or another person, stop and turn that thinking around. For example, if you think \\\"I am so stupid when it comes to math,\\\" tell yourself \\\"I am having some difficulty with this math problem\\\" instead.\\nA simple change in language and perception re-frame things so that the problem isn't you, it's that there is a disconnect between you and this problem. And that is something that you can overcome.\\n3. Cultivating Thankfulness with Mental and Physical Health\\n3-1. Eat a healthy diet.\\nMake sure you're putting food in your body that will help you feel good, which makes it easier to feel thankful as well. Go for veggies and fruits like kale, red peppers, and bananas; good carbohydrates like brown rice, whole grains, and oats; and proteins like salmon, nuts, lean meats, and eggs.\\nModeration and variety is important. Your diet shouldn't solely consist of fruits and veggies; you need protein and good carbs too.\\nBe sure to avoid refined sugars and added salt as much as possible.\\n3-2. Stay hydrated\\nWater is a necessary component to making sure every part of your body and mind runs smoothly. Take sips regularly, and drink before you get thirsty.\\nBe thankful every time you can turn on the tap or open a bottle and have fresh, clean water to drink. Keep in mind that millions (perhaps billions) of people around the world don't have this luxury.\\n3-3. Don’t skimp on the amount of sleep you get.\\nSleep is a huge component of healthiness and happiness, both of which make it easier to be thankful. While it's certainly admirable to practice gratitude even during those sleepless, anxiety-fueled times in your life, getting enough sleep can help make thankfulness easier to cultivate.\\nSet a consistent bedtime and wake-up time, create a comfortable sleeping location and a calming bedtime routine, and turn off all electronics well before bedtime.\\n3-4. Follow a regular exercise routine.\\nExercise releases happy chemicals like endorphins, which help to regulate your mood and make you feel better. And feeling good is both a reason to be thankful and a motivator for practicing gratitude.\\nTry to get at least 30 minutes of exercise each day. This can be something as simple as going for a run, putting on some music and dancing, or doing some yoga.\\n3-5. Meditate\\nMeditation is another useful way of dealing with mental health issues and a general sense of malaise in your life. It can also help to support your thankfulness and gratitude practices.\\nGo somewhere quiet and meditate for at least fifteen minutes each day. Sit comfortably and take deep breaths. Focus on your breath. When errant thoughts demand your attention, acknowledge them and let them go when you exhale.\\n3-6. Practice mindfulness.\\nBy remaining in the moment, you are making it very difficult for your brain to race ahead and worry or plan for the future, or become bogged down in the past. This is one way of practicing thankfulness, because you are immersing yourself in the present, and thereby giving thanks to the \\\"now.\\\"\\nPractice mindfulness while you eat. Focus on the food that you're putting into your mouth: Is it hot or cold? What is the texture? Is it sweet or sour or salty?\\nTry this while going for a walk, or simply sitting outside. Notice the color of the sky and shape of the clouds. Use your nose to locate any scents, and listen to the wind in the trees.\\nTips\\nRemember, sometimes you will have bad days, where you're grumpy and dislike everything. That's okay. Don't beat yourself up because you aren't constantly floating along in a bubble of gratitude. That may be the goal, but no one's yet reached it.\\nJust because you learn to be thankful doesn't mean that bad things won't happen, or that you won't be affected by the things that do happen. It can simply help to make the things that happen easier to deal with and not as taxing for your mental health.\\nYou can't always control what happens to you, but you can work on controlling how you respond to things.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"There is good reason to believe that people who cultivate thankfulness tend to be happier and healthier than those who don't. Thankful people appreciate what they have instead of obsessing over what they lack. They express gratitude to others and often receive more gratitude in return as a result. They see each day as a new opportunity for happiness, rather than another challenge to struggle through. While some people may naturally be more thankful, don’t assume that you cannot nurture a more thankful perspective in your own life. It may not be easy, but you’ll be thankful that you made the effort!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being Thankful in the Moment\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take a minute to be thankful for your life.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes a good way to get back on track and feeling better is to take a break. You'll need to identify things to be grateful for, and sometimes the break itself is a good reason to be thankful.\\nAt work, school, etc., go for a walk around your building or step outside for 15 minutes to breathe the fresh air and muse about how thankful you are for the opportunity to take a break, to stretch your legs, to feel the sun, etc.\\nTake a moment to notice the little things you're thankful for, like your morning cup of coffee or your pillow when you lay down to go to sleep at night.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Tell someone you appreciate them.\", \"描述\": \"So often life gets busy that you forget to tell people how much they matter to you, or that you've noticed what they do and it means a lot to you. Expressing your thanks to others will cultivate an atmosphere of thankfulness that can spread out gradually. For example:\\nIf your spouse packs your lunch for you, call or text them something like “Honey, I know packing a lunch doesn’t seem like much to you, but I really appreciate how you always try to make my morning just a bit less hectic.”\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Talk about gratitude with family.\", \"描述\": \"Set aside a time, like the evening meal, to talk about the things you were grateful for that day. Let each family member have a turn to discuss what made them thankful that day.\\nMake it a routine to go around the table and mention at least 1 thing you’re thankful for before digging in.\\nTry to be as specific as possible. For example, instead of saying \\\"I'm thankful for all of you being there for me,\\\" you could say \\\"I'm thankful that you all help me tend to the garden every weekend.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Send thank you notes.\", \"描述\": \"It is really amazing what sending just a small thank you note can do. A thank-you note acknowledges that the person gave you something (time, effort, a gift) that they didn't have to and that you appreciate what they've done. You don't have to write a massive novel thanking them, just a few lines that let them know what they and their gift, time, effort, etc. meant to you.\\nThank you texts, emails, voicemails, etc. are great to send (and receive), but there still seems to be something particularly special about a handwritten thank you note.\\nYour thank you note can be as simple as a post-it with a short message, or it can be written on a notepad with a flower or heart doodle.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Give back as part of giving thanks.\", \"描述\": \"Being thankful isn't just about telling people you are thankful — it's also about giving back to your community and friends. This doesn't mean that you give back so that everything is even and no one \\\"owes\\\" anyone anything. Give because it’s the right thing to do and because it feels good to do it. \\nIf you know the person, help them directly. For example, you could take your grandmother to her appointments or help your friend move into her new place.\\nIf you don't know the person, continue their good work. For example, you could repay your college advisor by mentoring others.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Focus on the intention behind kindness shown to you.\", \"描述\": \"When someone does something nice for you — gives you a gift, brings you a hot meal, offers to read over and edit your thesis — focus on how they tried to bring something good into your life. Someone gave up their precious time, money, etc., just so they could do something kind for you.\\nThis focus cultivates an atmosphere of gratitude that is then passed on to other people through your actions and words, especially if you have children.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Make sure to say “thank you” regularly.\", \"描述\": \"Thank the barista who makes your coffee, thank the person who held the door for you, thank the customer service person who helped you figure out why your phone wasn't working. Speaking the words aloud can help cement the feeling of gratitude in your life.\\nUse the words \\\"thank you\\\" as a sort of prayer or mantra. You can thank specific things, or you can just repeat the words over and over to yourself. For example, you could give thanks for the food you ate this morning, the rain for watering all the trees, your rain jacket for keeping the rain off, and so on.\\nBy cultivating gratitude (and by speaking it aloud), you can do things like ease anger, anxiety, depression, and other health problems.\\nWhen you say thank you to people, make eye contact and smile so they can feel the sincerity.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Find reasons to be thankful, even when it’s difficult.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes it can be really hard to be thankful in your life. These are the times, however, when it is even more important to cultivate gratitude, because that will help you get through the hard times better than getting angry or upset will.\\nTo cultivate gratitude for something like a difficult or boring job, make a list of the good things about the job: it gives you money so you can buy food and have a roof over your head, it gives you a chance to take the bus into the city and see the early morning sun, and so on.\\nFor something like a break-up or a death of someone you love, you should allow yourself time to grieve and be sad. Being grateful doesn't mean doing away with emotions like sadness, anger, etc. it simply means making them more manageable. After you've given yourself time to grieve, make a list of the things that you learned or are grateful for from the relationship, and then what you are thankful for about the relationship being over.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Developing a More Thankful Mindset\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep a gratitude journal.\", \"描述\": \"Record your reasons to be thankful each day in order to cement them in your memory. It doesn't matter how difficult your life is at the moment, there is always something to be thankful for. Finding that will help you deal with the other parts of life.\\nRecord about five things you're thankful for every single day. These can be things as simple as \\\"the sun was shining,\\\" or they can be as big as \\\"my significant other proposed.\\\"\\nSpend a little time each day reflecting on the things you're most grateful for. You may even find that you have more than five things you want to record.\\nIf you need a little reminder, download a gratitude journaling app for your phone that will send you daily notifications.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Refer back to your gratitude journal as needed.\", \"描述\": \"When you're having a particularly difficult time, it can be beneficial to go back to what you've written previously. If it's a tough time, find the smallest things that you can be grateful for.\\nFor example, even if you have a terminal illness, you can be grateful for things like someone bringing you dinner, a warm bed, or your cat snuggling with you. All these little things can make the trauma of the big thing (the illness) more bearable.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get a gratitude buddy.\", \"描述\": \"Share your goal of becoming more thankful with a close friend or family member, and ask for their help. Choose someone you can comfortably talk to about the things you're grateful for. Also, make it a person who will hold you accountable when you go down the slippery slope of complaining about things.\\nIt might work best as a two-way-street — that is, each of you helping the other to become a more thankful person.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Turn around how you think about difficulties.\", \"描述\": \"People who are thankful for the things in their lives aren't living an easier life than you. In fact, many people who practice gratitude abundantly have struggled quite a bit. They, however, understand that it isn't the situation that's the problem, it's how you think about the situation that makes it easier or more difficult.\\nFor example, if you have to work in order to pay for college, you could think about how your work is teaching you responsibility instead of taking away free-time.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Use the right words to describe your life.\", \"描述\": \"Using negative language and labeling can make a situation more difficult, and make it harder for you to be thankful in general. For example, labeling it \\\"my horrible illness\\\" creates a more negative perception than simply saying \\\"the illness that I have.\\\" In the second instance, not only are you not making the illness part of you, you are also utilizing neutral language, rather than negative.\\nInclude your gratitude in the words you use to describe your life. For example, you could say \\\"Even though I have this illness, I'm thankful that I'm receiving wonderful treatment and that I have the support of my family.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be positive about yourself and other people.\", \"描述\": \"Bashing yourself and others will make you less able to be truly thankful. When you find that you're thinking negatively about yourself or another person, stop and turn that thinking around. For example, if you think \\\"I am so stupid when it comes to math,\\\" tell yourself \\\"I am having some difficulty with this math problem\\\" instead.\\nA simple change in language and perception re-frame things so that the problem isn't you, it's that there is a disconnect between you and this problem. And that is something that you can overcome.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Cultivating Thankfulness with Mental and Physical Health\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Eat a healthy diet.\", \"描述\": \"Make sure you're putting food in your body that will help you feel good, which makes it easier to feel thankful as well. Go for veggies and fruits like kale, red peppers, and bananas; good carbohydrates like brown rice, whole grains, and oats; and proteins like salmon, nuts, lean meats, and eggs.\\nModeration and variety is important. Your diet shouldn't solely consist of fruits and veggies; you need protein and good carbs too.\\nBe sure to avoid refined sugars and added salt as much as possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Stay hydrated\", \"描述\": \"Water is a necessary component to making sure every part of your body and mind runs smoothly. Take sips regularly, and drink before you get thirsty.\\nBe thankful every time you can turn on the tap or open a bottle and have fresh, clean water to drink. Keep in mind that millions (perhaps billions) of people around the world don't have this luxury.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don’t skimp on the amount of sleep you get.\", \"描述\": \"Sleep is a huge component of healthiness and happiness, both of which make it easier to be thankful. While it's certainly admirable to practice gratitude even during those sleepless, anxiety-fueled times in your life, getting enough sleep can help make thankfulness easier to cultivate.\\nSet a consistent bedtime and wake-up time, create a comfortable sleeping location and a calming bedtime routine, and turn off all electronics well before bedtime.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Follow a regular exercise routine.\", \"描述\": \"Exercise releases happy chemicals like endorphins, which help to regulate your mood and make you feel better. And feeling good is both a reason to be thankful and a motivator for practicing gratitude.\\nTry to get at least 30 minutes of exercise each day. This can be something as simple as going for a run, putting on some music and dancing, or doing some yoga.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Meditate\", \"描述\": \"Meditation is another useful way of dealing with mental health issues and a general sense of malaise in your life. It can also help to support your thankfulness and gratitude practices.\\nGo somewhere quiet and meditate for at least fifteen minutes each day. Sit comfortably and take deep breaths. Focus on your breath. When errant thoughts demand your attention, acknowledge them and let them go when you exhale.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Practice mindfulness.\", \"描述\": \"By remaining in the moment, you are making it very difficult for your brain to race ahead and worry or plan for the future, or become bogged down in the past. This is one way of practicing thankfulness, because you are immersing yourself in the present, and thereby giving thanks to the \\\"now.\\\"\\nPractice mindfulness while you eat. Focus on the food that you're putting into your mouth: Is it hot or cold? What is the texture? Is it sweet or sour or salty?\\nTry this while going for a walk, or simply sitting outside. Notice the color of the sky and shape of the clouds. Use your nose to locate any scents, and listen to the wind in the trees.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Remember, sometimes you will have bad days, where you're grumpy and dislike everything. That's okay. Don't beat yourself up because you aren't constantly floating along in a bubble of gratitude. That may be the goal, but no one's yet reached it.\\n\", \"Just because you learn to be thankful doesn't mean that bad things won't happen, or that you won't be affected by the things that do happen. It can simply help to make the things that happen easier to deal with and not as taxing for your mental health.\\n\", \"You can't always control what happens to you, but you can work on controlling how you respond to things.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Steps
1-1. Be active and fit.
You don't have to do a sport, just try to be up and moving for at least 1 hour a day. Sometimes physical exercise does that for you. Don't just give up, it may be a lot of work, but when you're older you're going to be thankful for a fit body. Cute butts, are key to attracting a guy's attention, but it doesn't have to be HUGE. Seventeen Magazine is a great read, and it gives you health tips in every issue.
1-2. Brush and floss your teeth morning and night.
Always drink water throughout the day it keeps your breath fresh. Chew mint gum or have mints with you. Take a shower and after every work out. Wash your face with an amazing face wash. If you have acne, spend money to get a really good face wash. Make sure to shave your legs everyday, whether it's gym or if you want to wear shorts. When you get out of the shower put a nice smelling lotion on, and then spray yourself with matching perfume. Spray the perfume while you're in a towel and after you get dressed. Some good lotions and perfumes come from Bath and Body Works.
1-3. Wash your hair daily with a good shampoo and conditioner, and never skimp on one or the other.
Get your hair trimmed or cut every 6 weeks. This improves hair growth and gets rid of unsightly split-ends. On the weekends try to find out which products are best for your hair. If you straighten your hair, wear it natural on the weekends, and don't straighten it everyday or you will get split ends. Wear which hairstyle makes you feels most comfortable. If you choose, deep condition your hair once a week, this improves the health of your hair and this tends to add shine. Healthy hair also grows faster.
1-4. Always have your nails done professionally.
In the summer, have your nails done in bright colors (i.e. hot pink, purple, turquoise). In the spring, have your nails done in pastel colors (i.e. greens, baby pinks and blues). In the fall, have your nails done in earth tones (i.e. greens, oranges, reds). And in the winter, have your nails done in darker colors to make them POP (i.e. dark red, dark blue, dark purple). Remember French manicures are good for any season. Remember, NATURAL is always in too.
1-5. Consider getting your ears pierced.
One piercing is good, but if you want a little diamond or colored stud get a second. That way you have the option of wearing one or two earrings. Or, try to have a perfect pair of earrings and jewelry for every outfit.
1-6. Wear flattering make-up.
Make-up should be used to enhance your beauty, not to cover up flaws, so try to clear your skin. Mascara is a must have as well as lip gloss. if you have pimples you can cover them using cover up. Just make sure you use the right color for your skin.
1-7. Wear some cute clothes that compliment your figure.
The clothes you wear should make you feel comfortable. Try to pick your outfits the night before you go to school or an event, so in the morning you have more time to focus on make-up and hair. Don't be intimidated by other girls outfits if they are really cute. Just compliment her, and be the better person. Use her as a role model and try to find outfits in the stores instead of just buying shirts and pants
1-8. Remember to be confident and that you look beautiful.
Add your own personal style to your outfits, hair or make-up. Get highlights, wear bright colored eyeliner or eyeshadow, or wear the same necklace with every outfit.
Tips
Don't listen to what other guys or girls say, because when girls make fun of other girls they have low self-esteem and are trying to make someone else feel bad.
Don't let a guy influence all of your decisions. Someone out there will love you for you.
Stay active, people respect other people who take care of their bodies.
Warnings
When people become jealous of you, you may get a lot of hate. The best way to deal with it is to have a solid group of friends behind you.
Be nice! People will like you better if you smile and are friendly
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Steps\\n1-1. Be active and fit.\\nYou don't have to do a sport, just try to be up and moving for at least 1 hour a day. Sometimes physical exercise does that for you. Don't just give up, it may be a lot of work, but when you're older you're going to be thankful for a fit body. Cute butts, are key to attracting a guy's attention, but it doesn't have to be HUGE. Seventeen Magazine is a great read, and it gives you health tips in every issue.\\n1-2. Brush and floss your teeth morning and night.\\nAlways drink water throughout the day it keeps your breath fresh. Chew mint gum or have mints with you. Take a shower and after every work out. Wash your face with an amazing face wash. If you have acne, spend money to get a really good face wash. Make sure to shave your legs everyday, whether it's gym or if you want to wear shorts. When you get out of the shower put a nice smelling lotion on, and then spray yourself with matching perfume. Spray the perfume while you're in a towel and after you get dressed. Some good lotions and perfumes come from Bath and Body Works.\\n1-3. Wash your hair daily with a good shampoo and conditioner, and never skimp on one or the other.\\nGet your hair trimmed or cut every 6 weeks. This improves hair growth and gets rid of unsightly split-ends. On the weekends try to find out which products are best for your hair. If you straighten your hair, wear it natural on the weekends, and don't straighten it everyday or you will get split ends. Wear which hairstyle makes you feels most comfortable. If you choose, deep condition your hair once a week, this improves the health of your hair and this tends to add shine. Healthy hair also grows faster.\\n1-4. Always have your nails done professionally.\\nIn the summer, have your nails done in bright colors (i.e. hot pink, purple, turquoise). In the spring, have your nails done in pastel colors (i.e. greens, baby pinks and blues). In the fall, have your nails done in earth tones (i.e. greens, oranges, reds). And in the winter, have your nails done in darker colors to make them POP (i.e. dark red, dark blue, dark purple). Remember French manicures are good for any season. Remember, NATURAL is always in too.\\n1-5. Consider getting your ears pierced.\\nOne piercing is good, but if you want a little diamond or colored stud get a second. That way you have the option of wearing one or two earrings. Or, try to have a perfect pair of earrings and jewelry for every outfit.\\n1-6. Wear flattering make-up.\\nMake-up should be used to enhance your beauty, not to cover up flaws, so try to clear your skin. Mascara is a must have as well as lip gloss. if you have pimples you can cover them using cover up. Just make sure you use the right color for your skin.\\n1-7. Wear some cute clothes that compliment your figure.\\nThe clothes you wear should make you feel comfortable. Try to pick your outfits the night before you go to school or an event, so in the morning you have more time to focus on make-up and hair. Don't be intimidated by other girls outfits if they are really cute. Just compliment her, and be the better person. Use her as a role model and try to find outfits in the stores instead of just buying shirts and pants\\n1-8. Remember to be confident and that you look beautiful.\\nAdd your own personal style to your outfits, hair or make-up. Get highlights, wear bright colored eyeliner or eyeshadow, or wear the same necklace with every outfit.\\nTips\\nDon't listen to what other guys or girls say, because when girls make fun of other girls they have low self-esteem and are trying to make someone else feel bad.\\nDon't let a guy influence all of your decisions. Someone out there will love you for you.\\nStay active, people respect other people who take care of their bodies.\\nWarnings\\nWhen people become jealous of you, you may get a lot of hate. The best way to deal with it is to have a solid group of friends behind you.\\nBe nice! People will like you better if you smile and are friendly\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"You always want to be the girl everyone admires and make girls jealous. Studies show that girls get ready in the morning to impress other girls. Now be that one that girls boys aren't threatened by, but are impressed by with these easy tips.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be active and fit.\", \"描述\": \"You don't have to do a sport, just try to be up and moving for at least 1 hour a day. Sometimes physical exercise does that for you. Don't just give up, it may be a lot of work, but when you're older you're going to be thankful for a fit body. Cute butts, are key to attracting a guy's attention, but it doesn't have to be HUGE. Seventeen Magazine is a great read, and it gives you health tips in every issue.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Brush and floss your teeth morning and night.\", \"描述\": \"Always drink water throughout the day it keeps your breath fresh. Chew mint gum or have mints with you. Take a shower and after every work out. Wash your face with an amazing face wash. If you have acne, spend money to get a really good face wash. Make sure to shave your legs everyday, whether it's gym or if you want to wear shorts. When you get out of the shower put a nice smelling lotion on, and then spray yourself with matching perfume. Spray the perfume while you're in a towel and after you get dressed. Some good lotions and perfumes come from Bath and Body Works.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Wash your hair daily with a good shampoo and conditioner, and never skimp on one or the other.\", \"描述\": \"Get your hair trimmed or cut every 6 weeks. This improves hair growth and gets rid of unsightly split-ends. On the weekends try to find out which products are best for your hair. If you straighten your hair, wear it natural on the weekends, and don't straighten it everyday or you will get split ends. Wear which hairstyle makes you feels most comfortable. If you choose, deep condition your hair once a week, this improves the health of your hair and this tends to add shine. Healthy hair also grows faster.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Always have your nails done professionally.\", \"描述\": \"In the summer, have your nails done in bright colors (i.e. hot pink, purple, turquoise). In the spring, have your nails done in pastel colors (i.e. greens, baby pinks and blues). In the fall, have your nails done in earth tones (i.e. greens, oranges, reds). And in the winter, have your nails done in darker colors to make them POP (i.e. dark red, dark blue, dark purple). Remember French manicures are good for any season. Remember, NATURAL is always in too.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Consider getting your ears pierced.\", \"描述\": \"One piercing is good, but if you want a little diamond or colored stud get a second. That way you have the option of wearing one or two earrings. Or, try to have a perfect pair of earrings and jewelry for every outfit.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Wear flattering make-up.\", \"描述\": \"Make-up should be used to enhance your beauty, not to cover up flaws, so try to clear your skin. Mascara is a must have as well as lip gloss. if you have pimples you can cover them using cover up. Just make sure you use the right color for your skin.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Wear some cute clothes that compliment your figure.\", \"描述\": \"The clothes you wear should make you feel comfortable. Try to pick your outfits the night before you go to school or an event, so in the morning you have more time to focus on make-up and hair. Don't be intimidated by other girls outfits if they are really cute. Just compliment her, and be the better person. Use her as a role model and try to find outfits in the stores instead of just buying shirts and pants\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Remember to be confident and that you look beautiful.\", \"描述\": \"Add your own personal style to your outfits, hair or make-up. Get highlights, wear bright colored eyeliner or eyeshadow, or wear the same necklace with every outfit.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Don't listen to what other guys or girls say, because when girls make fun of other girls they have low self-esteem and are trying to make someone else feel bad.\\n\", \"Don't let a guy influence all of your decisions. Someone out there will love you for you.\\n\", \"Stay active, people respect other people who take care of their bodies.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"When people become jealous of you, you may get a lot of hate. The best way to deal with it is to have a solid group of friends behind you.\\n\", \"Be nice! People will like you better if you smile and are friendly\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Brushing Your Teeth
1-1. Clean your teeth at least twice a day.
The best oral hygiene habit to get into is to brush your teeth at least twice everyday — once when you wake up in the morning, and again before you go to bed at night. If you do absolutely nothing else for your teeth, at least do this.
1-2. Wait at least one hour after eating to brush your teeth.
When you eat and drink during a meal, the enamel on your teeth can soften temporarily. Brushing your teeth immediately after a meal means you may accidentally erode your enamel. Instead, wait for about an hour after you’ve eaten before you brush your teeth. This will allow the saliva in your mouth to help neutralize the acid content and return your enamel to its normal strength.
1-3. Use a soft-bristled toothbrush.
While toothbrushes come in variety of bristle stiffness, you should always use a soft or sensitive bristled brush.
If possible use an electric toothbrush instead of a manual toothbrush. The fast action of an electric toothbrush can actually remove twice as much plaque as manual brushing. Look for a sonic electric toothbrush — the head movement offers the correct movements of the brushing technique and they are more gentle on your teeth.
Toothbrushes also come in a variety of shapes and sizes. Choose the shape and size that fits best into your mouth and feels comfortable when brushing. The best brush is one that allows you to reach to the very back of your last molar without difficulty.
Some toothbrushes will come with a tongue scraper which is very useful to remove bacteria on the surface of the tongue. This can be used at the end of your teeth brushing process, thus, preventing bad breath.
1-4. Select a toothpaste that’s been approved by the ADA.
The American Dental Association (ADA) has a seal of acceptance that can be found on dental products that meet their rigorous standards. When selecting a toothpaste, ensure it has the ADA seal of acceptance on the label. Among other things, the ADA seal of acceptance ensures the toothpaste contains the proper amount of fluoride for certain age groups.
Look at the back label of the toothpaste and look for calcium carbonate which is an important ingredient to remove bacteria and stains.
The best toothpastes provide enamel protection which is necessary to combat hypersensitivity due to acids in the body or food.
Freshness and shiny teeth are desired by the consumers, thus, it's important to choose one that provides long-lasting and consistent results.
If you do not live in North America, check to see if a national or regional dental organization reviews and provides seals of approval for dental products in your area. Then look for that specific seal on the toothpaste you buy.
1-5. Brush your teeth with the proper technique.
Brushing your teeth with the proper technique will help ensure removal of the most amount of plaque possible. The back-and-forth technique you see in movies and on TV will actually harm your enamel. The best brushing technique to use is as follows:
Hold your toothbrush at a 45-degree angle to your gums.
Move your toothbrush back and forth in short, gentle strokes. Brush each tooth surface 15 times and make sure you count them without applying too much force.
The best way to clean the chewing surface of the molars (where is the highest risk of decay), is to apply a circular clockwise and anti clockwise movement so bacteria can be eliminated by the centrifugal force.
Clean the back of your front teeth by placing the brush vertically against the back of your teeth and making up and down strokes with the brush.
Don’t forget to use your toothbrush to brush the surface of your tongue as well.
1-6. Continue to brush your teeth for a full two minutes.
Each time you brush your teeth, you should brush continuously for two minutes. Split the time between all areas of your mouth to ensure they all get equal treatment. Use a timer or stopwatch to ensure you don’t stop early.
1-7. Keep your toothbrush clean.
Always rinse off your toothbrush when you’re done brushing and make sure there’s no toothpaste residue left on the brush. Store your toothbrush in a cup or toothbrush holder so that the brush is standing upwards.
If you’re away on vacation or a business trip, try to store your toothbrush in the same fashion in your hotel (or wherever you’re staying). It’s not a good idea to keep a toothbrush cooped up inside a toothbrush holder longer than absolutely necessary.
1-8. Replace your toothbrush every three to four months.
At the very least you should replace your toothbrush, or electric toothbrush head, every three to four months. If the toothbrush looks like it’s damaged or worn, replace it sooner than three months.
2. Flossing Between Your Teeth
2-1. Floss your teeth at least once a day.
An awesome oral hygiene routine includes flossing your teeth once a day. Dentist’s recommend you floss in the evening, before bed, as this will help to remove any food residue before it has a chance to sit on or between your teeth all night.
While most people tend to floss after they’ve brushed, it is actually recommended that you try flossing before you brush. This helps to remove food particles stuck between your teeth and gums and then allows those areas of your mouth to be cleaned more effectively when you brush.
Flossing is a good way to end your teeth brushing process by removing anything that is still stuck in between your teeth. It can also prevent gum disease.
Pick a floss that has the right thickness for the spaces between your teeth.
Make sure that the floss is ADA-approved.
2-2. Use at least 18 in of floss.
When pulling off a strand of floss from the roll, take about 18 in or 46 cm. Roll one end of the floss around the middle finger on your right hand, and roll the other end of the floss around the middle finger of your left hand. Leave enough floss between your middle fingers so you’re able to grab the floss using your thumbs and index fingers on both hands.
2-3. Be gentle while flossing your teeth.
While you want to hold the floss between your hands tightly, you want to be as gentle as possible when you’re actually flossing. The floss should be used to rub your tooth up and down while it’s in-between two teeth. You should also attempt to curve the floss around the tooth for better results.
As you move through your mouth, unwind one end of the floss and wind the opposite end, so you have fresh floss every one to two teeth.
2-4. Try an alternative to floss if you have trouble.
There are several alternative tools that can be used in place of floss, if you find it difficult to use floss. Floss picks have floss mounted between two ends so you don’t have to wind and unwind floss yourself. They also have an easy-to-grip handle to manipulate the pick between your teeth. There are also electric flossing machines that spray a jet of water that can be used to clean between your tooth (sometimes referred to as a WaterPik).
3. Keeping Your Mouth Healthy
3-1. Rinse your mouth with a mouthwash or mouth rinse.
Consider using an antimicrobial mouth rinse or a fluoride-based mouthwash everyday. You can use the rinse/wash each time you brush, but you can also use it between brushing to keep your mouth fresh.
If you don’t like the idea of bringing a toothbrush and toothpaste to school or work with you, you can always bring a small jar of rinse/wash instead to use after a meal.
3-2. Chew sugar-free gum.
Chewing sugar-free gum throughout the day, specifically after a meal, can help protect your teeth. Chewing gum generates more saliva in your mouth, which in turn can balance the level of acidity. Plus, chewing gum can clean the plaque off your teeth, which will help prevent decay and erosion.
Look for sugar-free gum that contains xylitol, as it helps maintain an neutral Ph balance in your mouth.
Note that some people with jaw issues (such as TMJ) may be advised not to chew gum as it will cause more problems than it will solve. If you have been diagnosed with a jaw issue, ask your dentist if you should be chewing gum.
3-3. Reduce the amount of sugar you eat and drink.
Sugar can be very hard on teeth. Sugar can cause or worsen tooth decay, which in turn can lead to cavities. Reducing the amount of sugary food and drinks you consume will help keep your teeth healthy in the long-term.
Keep in mind that this includes the sugar you put into items such as coffee, tea, lemonade, iced tea, and other drink mixes.
3-4. Be careful of how much acidic foods and drinks you consume.
Foods and drinks that have a high acidic value can also have a damaging effect on your teeth by eroding the enamel. Enamel protects protects the dentin, which contains the pulp with the nerves and blood vessels of your teeth. Without enamel you’ll find yourself becoming very sensitive to hot and cold foods and drinks and you’ll also likely experience pain. Reducing or eliminating acidic foods and drinks will help to protect your enamel and keep your teeth healthy and strong.
If you are drinking an acidic beverage, try drinking it with a straw. This methods help prevent the drink — and therefore the acid — from actually touching your teeth.
3-5. Stop smoking
Smoking is terrible on your mouth. In addition to giving you bad breath and stained teeth, smoking can also increase your chances of losing your teeth and getting mouth cancer. If you currently smoke, seriously consider quitting. If you do not smoke, don’t start. Quitting smoking can also have positive benefits on your overall health and wellbeing, not to mention your pocketbook.
3-6. Avoid other bad oral habits to keep your mouth strong and healthy.
There are several things you may do on a regular basis that have become habits, but are actually quite bad for your teeth and mouth. Reducing the amount of time you use the habit, or eliminating it altogether, will significantly help keep your mouth healthy and strong. The following bad habits should be avoided:
Biting your nails.
Brushing too hard or with a hard-bristled toothbrush. Massage, don’t scrub, your teeth when you brush.
Grinding or clenching your teeth. If you happen to do this while you sleep, ask your dentist about a mouthguard.
Chewing ice cubes.
Using your teeth as tools! This includes using your teeth to rip tape or open a plastic package. Use scissors instead.
4. Seeing Your Dentist
4-1. Schedule annual dental cleanings.
Ideally you should have a professional cleaning and dental exam at least once a year, however some dentists (and insurance plans) may suggest as often as every six months. A professional cleaning will allow a dentist or dental hygienist to scrape off all the built-up plaque and tartar on your teeth that you are not able to remove with brushing or flossing. X-rays are often taken at annual dental exams in order to allow the dentist to determine if you have any cavities or other issues.
You may need to get your teeth cleaned more than once a year depending on the condition of your teeth and gums. Some people need to get cleanings every 3 months or so!
4-2. See a dentist immediately if you experience problems.
If you find yourself experiencing any of the following problems, make an appointment to see your dentist right away. Many of these issues are symptoms for much more serious dental problems which, if caught early, may be simple to fix. If your dentist is already aware of these issues from an annual exam, follow their instructions as to how to handle the problem.
Very red, swollen and tender gums.
Gums that bleed a lot when you brush or floss.
Gums that appear to be pulling away from your teeth (it looks like your teeth are getting bigger).
Gums that seem to grow bigger and wider, slowly covering the surface of your teeth.
Loose teeth (other than baby teeth).
Changes in your bite — the way your top and bottom teeth align.
Very high sensitivity to heat or cold.
Constant bad breath or bad taste in your mouth.
4-3. Get a fluoride treatment.
Fluoride can help prevent tooth decay and, therefore, cavities. Fluoride is normally found in toothpastes and mouthwashes, but can also be applied as a varnish or treatment at your dentist’s office. Annual fluoride treatments are normally recommended for children and teenagers, but adults can also benefit.
Many cities throughout North America add fluoride to their drinking water, which is for your teeth. Check with your city to determine if fluoride is added to the water where you live.
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You should also attempt to curve the floss around the tooth for better results.\\nAs you move through your mouth, unwind one end of the floss and wind the opposite end, so you have fresh floss every one to two teeth.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Try an alternative to floss if you have trouble.\", \"描述\": \"There are several alternative tools that can be used in place of floss, if you find it difficult to use floss. Floss picks have floss mounted between two ends so you don’t have to wind and unwind floss yourself. They also have an easy-to-grip handle to manipulate the pick between your teeth. There are also electric flossing machines that spray a jet of water that can be used to clean between your tooth (sometimes referred to as a WaterPik).\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keeping Your Mouth Healthy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Rinse your mouth with a mouthwash or mouth rinse.\", \"描述\": \"Consider using an antimicrobial mouth rinse or a fluoride-based mouthwash everyday. You can use the rinse/wash each time you brush, but you can also use it between brushing to keep your mouth fresh.\\nIf you don’t like the idea of bringing a toothbrush and toothpaste to school or work with you, you can always bring a small jar of rinse/wash instead to use after a meal.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Chew sugar-free gum.\", \"描述\": \"Chewing sugar-free gum throughout the day, specifically after a meal, can help protect your teeth. Chewing gum generates more saliva in your mouth, which in turn can balance the level of acidity. Plus, chewing gum can clean the plaque off your teeth, which will help prevent decay and erosion.\\nLook for sugar-free gum that contains xylitol, as it helps maintain an neutral Ph balance in your mouth.\\nNote that some people with jaw issues (such as TMJ) may be advised not to chew gum as it will cause more problems than it will solve. If you have been diagnosed with a jaw issue, ask your dentist if you should be chewing gum.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Reduce the amount of sugar you eat and drink.\", \"描述\": \"Sugar can be very hard on teeth. Sugar can cause or worsen tooth decay, which in turn can lead to cavities. Reducing the amount of sugary food and drinks you consume will help keep your teeth healthy in the long-term.\\nKeep in mind that this includes the sugar you put into items such as coffee, tea, lemonade, iced tea, and other drink mixes.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be careful of how much acidic foods and drinks you consume.\", \"描述\": \"Foods and drinks that have a high acidic value can also have a damaging effect on your teeth by eroding the enamel. Enamel protects protects the dentin, which contains the pulp with the nerves and blood vessels of your teeth. Without enamel you’ll find yourself becoming very sensitive to hot and cold foods and drinks and you’ll also likely experience pain. Reducing or eliminating acidic foods and drinks will help to protect your enamel and keep your teeth healthy and strong.\\nIf you are drinking an acidic beverage, try drinking it with a straw. This methods help prevent the drink — and therefore the acid — from actually touching your teeth.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Stop smoking\", \"描述\": \"Smoking is terrible on your mouth. In addition to giving you bad breath and stained teeth, smoking can also increase your chances of losing your teeth and getting mouth cancer. If you currently smoke, seriously consider quitting. If you do not smoke, don’t start. Quitting smoking can also have positive benefits on your overall health and wellbeing, not to mention your pocketbook.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Avoid other bad oral habits to keep your mouth strong and healthy.\", \"描述\": \"There are several things you may do on a regular basis that have become habits, but are actually quite bad for your teeth and mouth. Reducing the amount of time you use the habit, or eliminating it altogether, will significantly help keep your mouth healthy and strong. The following bad habits should be avoided:\\nBiting your nails.\\nBrushing too hard or with a hard-bristled toothbrush. Massage, don’t scrub, your teeth when you brush.\\nGrinding or clenching your teeth. If you happen to do this while you sleep, ask your dentist about a mouthguard.\\nChewing ice cubes.\\nUsing your teeth as tools! This includes using your teeth to rip tape or open a plastic package. Use scissors instead.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Seeing Your Dentist\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Schedule annual dental cleanings.\", \"描述\": \"Ideally you should have a professional cleaning and dental exam at least once a year, however some dentists (and insurance plans) may suggest as often as every six months. A professional cleaning will allow a dentist or dental hygienist to scrape off all the built-up plaque and tartar on your teeth that you are not able to remove with brushing or flossing. X-rays are often taken at annual dental exams in order to allow the dentist to determine if you have any cavities or other issues.\\nYou may need to get your teeth cleaned more than once a year depending on the condition of your teeth and gums. Some people need to get cleanings every 3 months or so!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"See a dentist immediately if you experience problems.\", \"描述\": \"If you find yourself experiencing any of the following problems, make an appointment to see your dentist right away. Many of these issues are symptoms for much more serious dental problems which, if caught early, may be simple to fix. If your dentist is already aware of these issues from an annual exam, follow their instructions as to how to handle the problem.\\nVery red, swollen and tender gums.\\nGums that bleed a lot when you brush or floss.\\nGums that appear to be pulling away from your teeth (it looks like your teeth are getting bigger).\\nGums that seem to grow bigger and wider, slowly covering the surface of your teeth.\\nLoose teeth (other than baby teeth).\\nChanges in your bite — the way your top and bottom teeth align.\\nVery high sensitivity to heat or cold.\\nConstant bad breath or bad taste in your mouth.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get a fluoride treatment.\", \"描述\": \"Fluoride can help prevent tooth decay and, therefore, cavities. Fluoride is normally found in toothpastes and mouthwashes, but can also be applied as a varnish or treatment at your dentist’s office. Annual fluoride treatments are normally recommended for children and teenagers, but adults can also benefit.\\nMany cities throughout North America add fluoride to their drinking water, which is for your teeth. Check with your city to determine if fluoride is added to the water where you live.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Looking Timeless
1-1. Choose clothing with "classic" appeal.
If you're interested in looking timeless, start by considering clothing choices that have already been proven as timeless. While many trends in fashion come and go, some basic outfits stay more or less the same over time. Below are just a few outfit ideas for men and women that have been popular for at least a quarter-century and likely will be for the near future:
Skirts with blouses, jeans with tee shirts, black tights, simply-patterned dresses, flats, heels.
Shirt-and-tie combos, suit jackets/blazers, fitted dress pants, medium-to-dark jeans, polo shirts, medium-length tee shirts, sneakers, dress shoes.
1-2. Prioritize simple, minimalist outfits over complicated ones.
Having a timeless look is often as much about what you don't wear as it is about what you do wear. A timeless look is one that doesn't "try too hard" to catch others' attention. Instead, it lets the wearer's natural good looks speak for themselves. Try to wear mostly simple, unpretentious pieces of clothing, rather than flashy, overly-showy pieces. Whites, blacks, one-color items, and simple prints are good ideas — neon colors and overcomplicated patterns are not.
Not only will this give you a timeless look, but it will also save you money in the long run as you shop for clothes. Simple pieces of clothing (especially items that are either white or black) can be used in a huge range of outfits and still look good, while flashy pieces usually give you much more limited options and require you to buy more clothing to compensate.
For a great example of timeless fashion from the world of TV, consider the cult classic 90s show Twin Peaks. In show that's filled with sometimes-garish late 80s/early 90s fashion choices, the show's main character, detective Dale Cooper, looks about as good today as he did back then. By wearing mostly simple, elegant suit-and-tie combinations, he avoids looking like a stereotypical member of Generation X and instead achieves timeless appeal.
1-3. Wear clothing that fits you naturally.
Almost every outfit will look best on you if your clothing fits well. While it may occasionally be fashionable to wear clothes that don't fit properly in a conventional sense, these sorts of fashion choices are unlikely to beat the long-term appeal of clothing that fits you well. If you're shopping for formal clothes, don't be afraid to spend a little extra money at a tailor's to get your outfits looking just right. For casual clothes, you can be a little more forgiving about getting your fit exactly right, but it's still in your best interest to pick clothes that fit your figure comfortably without being too loose.
As a very general rule, clothing that's especially tight or especially loose is often part of a temporary trend or fad. For example, think of the tight pants worn by men in the disco scene in the 1970s — they were popular at one point, but today, it would be almost unthinkable for a man to seriously wear skin-hugging white polyester slacks. Keep this in mind if, for example, you're considering shopping for skinny jeans to give yourself a modern hipster look!
1-4. Don't go overboard with accessories.
One or two great accessories can be the "cherries on top" of a timeless outfit — on the other hand, wearing a dozen flashy accessories can be a great way to date yourself. Below are just a few great accessory ideas for men and women — try to pick one or two at maximum and tend towards simple, elegant accessories rather than large, attention-seeking ones.
Jewelry/earrings, purse/backpack, sunglasses, light makeup/lipstick, bracelets, painted nails, scarves
Dignified watches, ties, simple cufflinks, backpack/messenger bag/briefcase, sunglasses, jewelry or medallion (preferably worn around the neck and under the clothes)
For a textbook example of how to use accessories, look up photos of Audrey Hepburn in her prime. The most famous photo of the actress shows her in-character for the movie Breakfast at Tiffany's with plenty of jewelry and a long, skinny cigarette holder that would look fairly out-of-fashion today. However, the photos of Hepburn out-of-character are another story — she usually wears simple, one-colored tops accompanied with elegant earrings and light makeup for a look that's as striking today as it was decades ago.
1-5. Keep a natural, clean-cut hairstyle.
Some hairstyles belong to a certain time and place, while others virtually never go out of style. For example, it's difficult to think of a "beehive" hairdo without thinking of out-of-date style that housewives wore in the 1960s. On the other hand, a woman who wears an ordinary bob or simply lets her hair grow out won't necessarily scream, "2010s!" in a few years. Below are just a few ideas for hairstyles that aren't likely to go out of style any time soon:
Bobs, "fringe" cuts, long natural hair, layered cuts, ordinary ponytails, braids, bangs (optionally)
Crew cuts, buzz cuts, short parted hairdos, shaved heads. Light application of gel or pomade is OK.
As a very general rule, hairstyles that require lots of maintenance or upkeep are less likely to be timeless than others. For example, a spiky liberty mohawk, which requires daily application of hair products to keep it standing up, will almost always call to mind the punk scene of the 70s and 80s. There are, however, some exceptions — dreadlocks, for instance, can require some work to maintain, but can be a perfectly timeless look for someone with naturally kinky hair.
1-6. Be conservative with tattoos and piercings.
When it comes to being timeless, modifying your body permanently is something you'll want to be very careful about. You can always throw out or donate tasteless clothes, but piercings and (especially) tattoos can be much harder (and more expensive) to get rid of. Never get a tattoo or piercing on a whim — instead, talk to your friends, your family, and your tattoo artist/piercer to discuss whether it would be a smart long-term choice. When in doubt, err on the side of safety and don't get the tattoo or piercing. It's never embarrassing not to have any tattoos or piercings.
Keep in mind that, unfortunately, potential employers may make judgements about you based on your tattoos or piercings. It's not fair, but it's true — many employers report that tattoos (especially those on the hands or face) can make an otherwise-qualified applicant seem unsavory.
Women have a little more freedom with piercings than men do. For example, it's not at all unusual for a woman to have earrings, but it's still sometimes considered unconventional for men to wear them, especially in formal settings. Many women can even pull off wearing a simple nose stud in a formal context, while this would be very unusual for a man to do.
As a general rule, if you're getting a tattoo, it's wisest to get it somewhere on your body that isn't ordinarily exposed (like your chest, ribs, back, and so on.) This way, even if your tattoo ends up being a source of embarrassment in a few years, you won't have to show it to anyone you meet.
1-7. Beware of styles that became popular only recently.
If there's one major rule to take away from this section, it's this: avoid fashion trends that are popular today but weren't popular in the past, because these are almost certain to become unpopular again sooner or later. Fashion trends are constantly changing — a piece of clothing or a haircut that's "in" today may be majorly embarrassing in just a few years' time. However, by sticking to the classic, timeless suggestions above (which have changed only a little over the last few decades) you'll stay looking great for years to come.
2. Acting Timeless
2-1. Don't be afraid of aging.
Having a timeless sense of style is as simple as buying some new clothes and getting a good haircut. Becoming a timeless person, however, is another thing entirely — you'll need to attempt the difficult tasks of unfocusing your attention from the here and now and getting a broader perspective on life. To start, try to place less of an importance on the passage of time in the first place. Don't worry about growing old — trying to stay young forever or recapture past glory days will only date you. There are few things more awkward than someone who's aged out of a certain social group trying desperately to stay "cool" in the eyes of the younger members.
If you're worried about growing up or aging, it can help to look at the benefits of these things, rather than just the scary and sad parts. For instance, while adults may sometimes fall out of touch with old friends, they also have lots of opportunities to make new ones while devoting their energy to a fulfilling career. Older people also usually have the advantage of maturity and experience over younger people, which can make things that used to seem like a big deal (for instance, peer pressure) seem like no big deal at all.
2-2. Be true to yourself, not passing trends.
A timeless person has a self-identity that doesn't change depending on what's currently popular. Don't make any conscious choices to redefine yourself based on what other people think. Instead, any change in the way you see yourself should come about naturally and effortlessly over time. Don't look down on yourself if you don't conform exactly to what's popular today. Popularity is fleeting and can change at a moment's notice — the sense of peace you get from being true to yourself, on the other hand, lasts forever.
Beware: living your life to be trendy at all costs without considering your true feelings can cause significant problems in the long run: for instance, you may waste time and money trying to get a hold of the latest clothes and consumer goods, you may lose sight of who you truly "are" as a person and suffer identity confusion, and more. Being true to yourself avoids all this.
2-3. Don't compare yourself to other people.
In the words of Teddy Roosevelt, "Comparison is the thief of joy." It's a common piece of life advice to avoid comparing yourself to other people because it's ultimately pointless and will almost always lower your self-image. This habit isn't just a surefire way to become insecure and unhappy, however — it will also keep you from being timeless. Spending your time worrying about how everyone has a better life than you robs you of the time and energy you need to grow as person. Rather than changing and maturing naturally, you become static, forcing yourself only to make changes as a reaction to other people and never because of your true feelings and desires.
For young people, avoiding harmful comparisons to other people can be as simple as resisting peer pressure: for example, you shouldn't abandon your tried and true friends once you get a chance at hanging out with the "cool kids." Why be stressed about appearing unpopular when you can simply enjoy your time spent with your true friends?
For adults, this can be more complex: for example, you won't want to compare yourself unfavorably to a coworker who has all the latest tech gadgets or a new car. These things are sources of fleeting pleasure, not lasting satisfaction, so they have no bearing on your status as an individual. If you're true to yourself and this person is not, you're the happier person, no matter what car you drive.
2-4. Have an appreciation for great things from the past.
Someone who's living a timeless life won't be obsessed only with media and art that's currently popular. Instead, she'll have a rich variety of interests that shows an appreciation for the great works of the past and a discriminating taste for the best that the modern world has to offer. A timeless person understands, for instance, that while the language of great books, movies, and music may eventually start to seem old-fashioned, the thoughtfulness and emotional resonance of these works don't diminish with time. Below are just a few select examples of pieces of media that are widely considered to be timeless (there are many, many more.)
Ulysses, To Kill a Mockingbird, Lolita, Catch-22, Native Son, I, Claudius, Pride and Prejudice, A Brave New World.
The Godfather, Citizen Kane, Vertigo, The Shawshank Redemption, Casablanca, Apocalypse Now, Alien.
Revolver (The Beatles), Dark Side of the Moon (Pink Floyd), Aquemini (Outkast), What's Going On (Marvin Gaye), Blood on the Tracks (Bob Dylan), Thriller (Michael Jackson), London Calling (The Clash).
2-5. Pick timeless role models.
A timeless person knows that's wise to pick inspiring people to look up to and to learn from their example when possible. The people who inspire us can be famous people who've achieved great things, people who have shown incredible strength and integrity, or simply friends and family members who have given our lives meaning in some way. Don't waste time worshiping at the altar of pop celebrities — instead, pick a genuine role model with something more substantial and long-lasting to offer you. Below are just a few examples of role models who are truly timeless
A black American who won four gold medals at the 1936 Olympics in Berlin, Germany, single-handedly humiliating Adolph Hitler and disproving the Nazi doctrine of Aryan racial superiority.
A british nurse who selflessly treated wounded soldiers during the Crimean war whose contributions to the field of nursing helped improved the terrible conditions of hospitals at the time.
Indian spiritual leader who founded the Oneness-Home Peace Run, an event in support of world peace.
Note also that role models don't necessarily have to be real people — fictional characters can also be sources of inspiration in your life. A well-written character like, for example, Atticus Finch from To Kill a Mockingbird can be a great role model. In this example, Finch's tremendous strength of character and sense of justice can be an inspiration to anyone who wants to create these qualities in herself.
Tips
Take good care of your skin and body, both men and women. Looking youthful for longer gives you a more timeless quality. Lots of laughter helps this sense of youthfulness at any age.
If you're a woman, avoid overdoing makeup, always. The natural look will always be more timeless than any fad makeup look.
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Instead, it lets the wearer's natural good looks speak for themselves. Try to wear mostly simple, unpretentious pieces of clothing, rather than flashy, overly-showy pieces. Whites, blacks, one-color items, and simple prints are good ideas — neon colors and overcomplicated patterns are not.\\nNot only will this give you a timeless look, but it will also save you money in the long run as you shop for clothes. Simple pieces of clothing (especially items that are either white or black) can be used in a huge range of outfits and still look good, while flashy pieces usually give you much more limited options and require you to buy more clothing to compensate.\\nFor a great example of timeless fashion from the world of TV, consider the cult classic 90s show Twin Peaks. In show that's filled with sometimes-garish late 80s/early 90s fashion choices, the show's main character, detective Dale Cooper, looks about as good today as he did back then. By wearing mostly simple, elegant suit-and-tie combinations, he avoids looking like a stereotypical member of Generation X and instead achieves timeless appeal.\\n1-3. Wear clothing that fits you naturally.\\nAlmost every outfit will look best on you if your clothing fits well. While it may occasionally be fashionable to wear clothes that don't fit properly in a conventional sense, these sorts of fashion choices are unlikely to beat the long-term appeal of clothing that fits you well. If you're shopping for formal clothes, don't be afraid to spend a little extra money at a tailor's to get your outfits looking just right. For casual clothes, you can be a little more forgiving about getting your fit exactly right, but it's still in your best interest to pick clothes that fit your figure comfortably without being too loose.\\nAs a very general rule, clothing that's especially tight or especially loose is often part of a temporary trend or fad. For example, think of the tight pants worn by men in the disco scene in the 1970s — they were popular at one point, but today, it would be almost unthinkable for a man to seriously wear skin-hugging white polyester slacks. Keep this in mind if, for example, you're considering shopping for skinny jeans to give yourself a modern hipster look!\\n1-4. Don't go overboard with accessories.\\nOne or two great accessories can be the \\\"cherries on top\\\" of a timeless outfit — on the other hand, wearing a dozen flashy accessories can be a great way to date yourself. Below are just a few great accessory ideas for men and women — try to pick one or two at maximum and tend towards simple, elegant accessories rather than large, attention-seeking ones.\\n\\n Jewelry/earrings, purse/backpack, sunglasses, light makeup/lipstick, bracelets, painted nails, scarves\\n Dignified watches, ties, simple cufflinks, backpack/messenger bag/briefcase, sunglasses, jewelry or medallion (preferably worn around the neck and under the clothes)\\nFor a textbook example of how to use accessories, look up photos of Audrey Hepburn in her prime. The most famous photo of the actress shows her in-character for the movie Breakfast at Tiffany's with plenty of jewelry and a long, skinny cigarette holder that would look fairly out-of-fashion today. However, the photos of Hepburn out-of-character are another story — she usually wears simple, one-colored tops accompanied with elegant earrings and light makeup for a look that's as striking today as it was decades ago.\\n1-5. Keep a natural, clean-cut hairstyle.\\nSome hairstyles belong to a certain time and place, while others virtually never go out of style. For example, it's difficult to think of a \\\"beehive\\\" hairdo without thinking of out-of-date style that housewives wore in the 1960s. On the other hand, a woman who wears an ordinary bob or simply lets her hair grow out won't necessarily scream, \\\"2010s!\\\" in a few years. Below are just a few ideas for hairstyles that aren't likely to go out of style any time soon:\\n\\n Bobs, \\\"fringe\\\" cuts, long natural hair, layered cuts, ordinary ponytails, braids, bangs (optionally)\\n Crew cuts, buzz cuts, short parted hairdos, shaved heads. Light application of gel or pomade is OK.\\nAs a very general rule, hairstyles that require lots of maintenance or upkeep are less likely to be timeless than others. For example, a spiky liberty mohawk, which requires daily application of hair products to keep it standing up, will almost always call to mind the punk scene of the 70s and 80s. There are, however, some exceptions — dreadlocks, for instance, can require some work to maintain, but can be a perfectly timeless look for someone with naturally kinky hair.\\n1-6. Be conservative with tattoos and piercings.\\nWhen it comes to being timeless, modifying your body permanently is something you'll want to be very careful about. You can always throw out or donate tasteless clothes, but piercings and (especially) tattoos can be much harder (and more expensive) to get rid of. Never get a tattoo or piercing on a whim — instead, talk to your friends, your family, and your tattoo artist/piercer to discuss whether it would be a smart long-term choice. When in doubt, err on the side of safety and don't get the tattoo or piercing. It's never embarrassing not to have any tattoos or piercings.\\nKeep in mind that, unfortunately, potential employers may make judgements about you based on your tattoos or piercings. It's not fair, but it's true — many employers report that tattoos (especially those on the hands or face) can make an otherwise-qualified applicant seem unsavory.\\nWomen have a little more freedom with piercings than men do. For example, it's not at all unusual for a woman to have earrings, but it's still sometimes considered unconventional for men to wear them, especially in formal settings. Many women can even pull off wearing a simple nose stud in a formal context, while this would be very unusual for a man to do.\\nAs a general rule, if you're getting a tattoo, it's wisest to get it somewhere on your body that isn't ordinarily exposed (like your chest, ribs, back, and so on.) This way, even if your tattoo ends up being a source of embarrassment in a few years, you won't have to show it to anyone you meet.\\n1-7. Beware of styles that became popular only recently.\\nIf there's one major rule to take away from this section, it's this: avoid fashion trends that are popular today but weren't popular in the past, because these are almost certain to become unpopular again sooner or later. Fashion trends are constantly changing — a piece of clothing or a haircut that's \\\"in\\\" today may be majorly embarrassing in just a few years' time. However, by sticking to the classic, timeless suggestions above (which have changed only a little over the last few decades) you'll stay looking great for years to come.\\n2. Acting Timeless\\n2-1. Don't be afraid of aging.\\nHaving a timeless sense of style is as simple as buying some new clothes and getting a good haircut. Becoming a timeless person, however, is another thing entirely — you'll need to attempt the difficult tasks of unfocusing your attention from the here and now and getting a broader perspective on life. To start, try to place less of an importance on the passage of time in the first place. Don't worry about growing old — trying to stay young forever or recapture past glory days will only date you. There are few things more awkward than someone who's aged out of a certain social group trying desperately to stay \\\"cool\\\" in the eyes of the younger members.\\nIf you're worried about growing up or aging, it can help to look at the benefits of these things, rather than just the scary and sad parts. For instance, while adults may sometimes fall out of touch with old friends, they also have lots of opportunities to make new ones while devoting their energy to a fulfilling career. Older people also usually have the advantage of maturity and experience over younger people, which can make things that used to seem like a big deal (for instance, peer pressure) seem like no big deal at all.\\n2-2. Be true to yourself, not passing trends.\\nA timeless person has a self-identity that doesn't change depending on what's currently popular. Don't make any conscious choices to redefine yourself based on what other people think. Instead, any change in the way you see yourself should come about naturally and effortlessly over time. Don't look down on yourself if you don't conform exactly to what's popular today. Popularity is fleeting and can change at a moment's notice — the sense of peace you get from being true to yourself, on the other hand, lasts forever.\\nBeware: living your life to be trendy at all costs without considering your true feelings can cause significant problems in the long run: for instance, you may waste time and money trying to get a hold of the latest clothes and consumer goods, you may lose sight of who you truly \\\"are\\\" as a person and suffer identity confusion, and more. Being true to yourself avoids all this.\\n2-3. Don't compare yourself to other people.\\nIn the words of Teddy Roosevelt, \\\"Comparison is the thief of joy.\\\" It's a common piece of life advice to avoid comparing yourself to other people because it's ultimately pointless and will almost always lower your self-image. This habit isn't just a surefire way to become insecure and unhappy, however — it will also keep you from being timeless. Spending your time worrying about how everyone has a better life than you robs you of the time and energy you need to grow as person. Rather than changing and maturing naturally, you become static, forcing yourself only to make changes as a reaction to other people and never because of your true feelings and desires.\\nFor young people, avoiding harmful comparisons to other people can be as simple as resisting peer pressure: for example, you shouldn't abandon your tried and true friends once you get a chance at hanging out with the \\\"cool kids.\\\" Why be stressed about appearing unpopular when you can simply enjoy your time spent with your true friends?\\nFor adults, this can be more complex: for example, you won't want to compare yourself unfavorably to a coworker who has all the latest tech gadgets or a new car. These things are sources of fleeting pleasure, not lasting satisfaction, so they have no bearing on your status as an individual. If you're true to yourself and this person is not, you're the happier person, no matter what car you drive.\\n2-4. Have an appreciation for great things from the past.\\nSomeone who's living a timeless life won't be obsessed only with media and art that's currently popular. Instead, she'll have a rich variety of interests that shows an appreciation for the great works of the past and a discriminating taste for the best that the modern world has to offer. A timeless person understands, for instance, that while the language of great books, movies, and music may eventually start to seem old-fashioned, the thoughtfulness and emotional resonance of these works don't diminish with time. Below are just a few select examples of pieces of media that are widely considered to be timeless (there are many, many more.)\\n\\nUlysses, To Kill a Mockingbird, Lolita, Catch-22, Native Son, I, Claudius, Pride and Prejudice, A Brave New World.\\nThe Godfather, Citizen Kane, Vertigo, The Shawshank Redemption, Casablanca, Apocalypse Now, Alien.\\n Revolver (The Beatles), Dark Side of the Moon (Pink Floyd), Aquemini (Outkast), What's Going On (Marvin Gaye), Blood on the Tracks (Bob Dylan), Thriller (Michael Jackson), London Calling (The Clash).\\n2-5. Pick timeless role models.\\nA timeless person knows that's wise to pick inspiring people to look up to and to learn from their example when possible. The people who inspire us can be famous people who've achieved great things, people who have shown incredible strength and integrity, or simply friends and family members who have given our lives meaning in some way. Don't waste time worshiping at the altar of pop celebrities — instead, pick a genuine role model with something more substantial and long-lasting to offer you. Below are just a few examples of role models who are truly timeless\\n\\n A black American who won four gold medals at the 1936 Olympics in Berlin, Germany, single-handedly humiliating Adolph Hitler and disproving the Nazi doctrine of Aryan racial superiority.\\n A british nurse who selflessly treated wounded soldiers during the Crimean war whose contributions to the field of nursing helped improved the terrible conditions of hospitals at the time.\\n Indian spiritual leader who founded the Oneness-Home Peace Run, an event in support of world peace.\\nNote also that role models don't necessarily have to be real people — fictional characters can also be sources of inspiration in your life. A well-written character like, for example, Atticus Finch from To Kill a Mockingbird can be a great role model. In this example, Finch's tremendous strength of character and sense of justice can be an inspiration to anyone who wants to create these qualities in herself.\\nTips\\nTake good care of your skin and body, both men and women. Looking youthful for longer gives you a more timeless quality. Lots of laughter helps this sense of youthfulness at any age.\\nIf you're a woman, avoid overdoing makeup, always. The natural look will always be more timeless than any fad makeup look.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Ever notice how some famous people seem to become beloved icons while others seem to fade into nothingness? As an example, rappers J-Kwon and Jay-Z both had major hits on the Billboard Top 100 in 2004, but only one of them is still putting out successful albums and scoring prestigious guest spots today. There's no sure-fire way to predict what sorts of looks and attitudes will be popular in the future, but with a few common-sense strategies, it's not hard to give yourself the right ingredients for lasting popularity — the rest is a mixture of hard work and luck!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Looking Timeless\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Choose clothing with \\\"classic\\\" appeal.\", \"描述\": \"If you're interested in looking timeless, start by considering clothing choices that have already been proven as timeless. While many trends in fashion come and go, some basic outfits stay more or less the same over time. Below are just a few outfit ideas for men and women that have been popular for at least a quarter-century and likely will be for the near future:\\n\\n Skirts with blouses, jeans with tee shirts, black tights, simply-patterned dresses, flats, heels.\\n Shirt-and-tie combos, suit jackets/blazers, fitted dress pants, medium-to-dark jeans, polo shirts, medium-length tee shirts, sneakers, dress shoes.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Prioritize simple, minimalist outfits over complicated ones.\", \"描述\": \"Having a timeless look is often as much about what you don't wear as it is about what you do wear. A timeless look is one that doesn't \\\"try too hard\\\" to catch others' attention. Instead, it lets the wearer's natural good looks speak for themselves. Try to wear mostly simple, unpretentious pieces of clothing, rather than flashy, overly-showy pieces. Whites, blacks, one-color items, and simple prints are good ideas — neon colors and overcomplicated patterns are not.\\nNot only will this give you a timeless look, but it will also save you money in the long run as you shop for clothes. Simple pieces of clothing (especially items that are either white or black) can be used in a huge range of outfits and still look good, while flashy pieces usually give you much more limited options and require you to buy more clothing to compensate.\\nFor a great example of timeless fashion from the world of TV, consider the cult classic 90s show Twin Peaks. In show that's filled with sometimes-garish late 80s/early 90s fashion choices, the show's main character, detective Dale Cooper, looks about as good today as he did back then. By wearing mostly simple, elegant suit-and-tie combinations, he avoids looking like a stereotypical member of Generation X and instead achieves timeless appeal.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Wear clothing that fits you naturally.\", \"描述\": \"Almost every outfit will look best on you if your clothing fits well. While it may occasionally be fashionable to wear clothes that don't fit properly in a conventional sense, these sorts of fashion choices are unlikely to beat the long-term appeal of clothing that fits you well. If you're shopping for formal clothes, don't be afraid to spend a little extra money at a tailor's to get your outfits looking just right. For casual clothes, you can be a little more forgiving about getting your fit exactly right, but it's still in your best interest to pick clothes that fit your figure comfortably without being too loose.\\nAs a very general rule, clothing that's especially tight or especially loose is often part of a temporary trend or fad. For example, think of the tight pants worn by men in the disco scene in the 1970s — they were popular at one point, but today, it would be almost unthinkable for a man to seriously wear skin-hugging white polyester slacks. Keep this in mind if, for example, you're considering shopping for skinny jeans to give yourself a modern hipster look!\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't go overboard with accessories.\", \"描述\": \"One or two great accessories can be the \\\"cherries on top\\\" of a timeless outfit — on the other hand, wearing a dozen flashy accessories can be a great way to date yourself. Below are just a few great accessory ideas for men and women — try to pick one or two at maximum and tend towards simple, elegant accessories rather than large, attention-seeking ones.\\n\\n Jewelry/earrings, purse/backpack, sunglasses, light makeup/lipstick, bracelets, painted nails, scarves\\n Dignified watches, ties, simple cufflinks, backpack/messenger bag/briefcase, sunglasses, jewelry or medallion (preferably worn around the neck and under the clothes)\\nFor a textbook example of how to use accessories, look up photos of Audrey Hepburn in her prime. The most famous photo of the actress shows her in-character for the movie Breakfast at Tiffany's with plenty of jewelry and a long, skinny cigarette holder that would look fairly out-of-fashion today. However, the photos of Hepburn out-of-character are another story — she usually wears simple, one-colored tops accompanied with elegant earrings and light makeup for a look that's as striking today as it was decades ago.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Keep a natural, clean-cut hairstyle.\", \"描述\": \"Some hairstyles belong to a certain time and place, while others virtually never go out of style. For example, it's difficult to think of a \\\"beehive\\\" hairdo without thinking of out-of-date style that housewives wore in the 1960s. On the other hand, a woman who wears an ordinary bob or simply lets her hair grow out won't necessarily scream, \\\"2010s!\\\" in a few years. Below are just a few ideas for hairstyles that aren't likely to go out of style any time soon:\\n\\n Bobs, \\\"fringe\\\" cuts, long natural hair, layered cuts, ordinary ponytails, braids, bangs (optionally)\\n Crew cuts, buzz cuts, short parted hairdos, shaved heads. Light application of gel or pomade is OK.\\nAs a very general rule, hairstyles that require lots of maintenance or upkeep are less likely to be timeless than others. For example, a spiky liberty mohawk, which requires daily application of hair products to keep it standing up, will almost always call to mind the punk scene of the 70s and 80s. There are, however, some exceptions — dreadlocks, for instance, can require some work to maintain, but can be a perfectly timeless look for someone with naturally kinky hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be conservative with tattoos and piercings.\", \"描述\": \"When it comes to being timeless, modifying your body permanently is something you'll want to be very careful about. You can always throw out or donate tasteless clothes, but piercings and (especially) tattoos can be much harder (and more expensive) to get rid of. Never get a tattoo or piercing on a whim — instead, talk to your friends, your family, and your tattoo artist/piercer to discuss whether it would be a smart long-term choice. When in doubt, err on the side of safety and don't get the tattoo or piercing. It's never embarrassing not to have any tattoos or piercings.\\nKeep in mind that, unfortunately, potential employers may make judgements about you based on your tattoos or piercings. It's not fair, but it's true — many employers report that tattoos (especially those on the hands or face) can make an otherwise-qualified applicant seem unsavory.\\nWomen have a little more freedom with piercings than men do. For example, it's not at all unusual for a woman to have earrings, but it's still sometimes considered unconventional for men to wear them, especially in formal settings. Many women can even pull off wearing a simple nose stud in a formal context, while this would be very unusual for a man to do.\\nAs a general rule, if you're getting a tattoo, it's wisest to get it somewhere on your body that isn't ordinarily exposed (like your chest, ribs, back, and so on.) This way, even if your tattoo ends up being a source of embarrassment in a few years, you won't have to show it to anyone you meet.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Beware of styles that became popular only recently.\", \"描述\": \"If there's one major rule to take away from this section, it's this: avoid fashion trends that are popular today but weren't popular in the past, because these are almost certain to become unpopular again sooner or later. Fashion trends are constantly changing — a piece of clothing or a haircut that's \\\"in\\\" today may be majorly embarrassing in just a few years' time. However, by sticking to the classic, timeless suggestions above (which have changed only a little over the last few decades) you'll stay looking great for years to come.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Acting Timeless\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don't be afraid of aging.\", \"描述\": \"Having a timeless sense of style is as simple as buying some new clothes and getting a good haircut. Becoming a timeless person, however, is another thing entirely — you'll need to attempt the difficult tasks of unfocusing your attention from the here and now and getting a broader perspective on life. To start, try to place less of an importance on the passage of time in the first place. Don't worry about growing old — trying to stay young forever or recapture past glory days will only date you. There are few things more awkward than someone who's aged out of a certain social group trying desperately to stay \\\"cool\\\" in the eyes of the younger members.\\nIf you're worried about growing up or aging, it can help to look at the benefits of these things, rather than just the scary and sad parts. For instance, while adults may sometimes fall out of touch with old friends, they also have lots of opportunities to make new ones while devoting their energy to a fulfilling career. Older people also usually have the advantage of maturity and experience over younger people, which can make things that used to seem like a big deal (for instance, peer pressure) seem like no big deal at all.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be true to yourself, not passing trends.\", \"描述\": \"A timeless person has a self-identity that doesn't change depending on what's currently popular. Don't make any conscious choices to redefine yourself based on what other people think. Instead, any change in the way you see yourself should come about naturally and effortlessly over time. Don't look down on yourself if you don't conform exactly to what's popular today. Popularity is fleeting and can change at a moment's notice — the sense of peace you get from being true to yourself, on the other hand, lasts forever.\\nBeware: living your life to be trendy at all costs without considering your true feelings can cause significant problems in the long run: for instance, you may waste time and money trying to get a hold of the latest clothes and consumer goods, you may lose sight of who you truly \\\"are\\\" as a person and suffer identity confusion, and more. Being true to yourself avoids all this.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don't compare yourself to other people.\", \"描述\": \"In the words of Teddy Roosevelt, \\\"Comparison is the thief of joy.\\\" It's a common piece of life advice to avoid comparing yourself to other people because it's ultimately pointless and will almost always lower your self-image. This habit isn't just a surefire way to become insecure and unhappy, however — it will also keep you from being timeless. Spending your time worrying about how everyone has a better life than you robs you of the time and energy you need to grow as person. Rather than changing and maturing naturally, you become static, forcing yourself only to make changes as a reaction to other people and never because of your true feelings and desires.\\nFor young people, avoiding harmful comparisons to other people can be as simple as resisting peer pressure: for example, you shouldn't abandon your tried and true friends once you get a chance at hanging out with the \\\"cool kids.\\\" Why be stressed about appearing unpopular when you can simply enjoy your time spent with your true friends?\\nFor adults, this can be more complex: for example, you won't want to compare yourself unfavorably to a coworker who has all the latest tech gadgets or a new car. These things are sources of fleeting pleasure, not lasting satisfaction, so they have no bearing on your status as an individual. If you're true to yourself and this person is not, you're the happier person, no matter what car you drive.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Have an appreciation for great things from the past.\", \"描述\": \"Someone who's living a timeless life won't be obsessed only with media and art that's currently popular. Instead, she'll have a rich variety of interests that shows an appreciation for the great works of the past and a discriminating taste for the best that the modern world has to offer. A timeless person understands, for instance, that while the language of great books, movies, and music may eventually start to seem old-fashioned, the thoughtfulness and emotional resonance of these works don't diminish with time. Below are just a few select examples of pieces of media that are widely considered to be timeless (there are many, many more.)\\n\\nUlysses, To Kill a Mockingbird, Lolita, Catch-22, Native Son, I, Claudius, Pride and Prejudice, A Brave New World.\\nThe Godfather, Citizen Kane, Vertigo, The Shawshank Redemption, Casablanca, Apocalypse Now, Alien.\\n Revolver (The Beatles), Dark Side of the Moon (Pink Floyd), Aquemini (Outkast), What's Going On (Marvin Gaye), Blood on the Tracks (Bob Dylan), Thriller (Michael Jackson), London Calling (The Clash).\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Pick timeless role models.\", \"描述\": \"A timeless person knows that's wise to pick inspiring people to look up to and to learn from their example when possible. The people who inspire us can be famous people who've achieved great things, people who have shown incredible strength and integrity, or simply friends and family members who have given our lives meaning in some way. Don't waste time worshiping at the altar of pop celebrities — instead, pick a genuine role model with something more substantial and long-lasting to offer you. Below are just a few examples of role models who are truly timeless\\n\\n A black American who won four gold medals at the 1936 Olympics in Berlin, Germany, single-handedly humiliating Adolph Hitler and disproving the Nazi doctrine of Aryan racial superiority.\\n A british nurse who selflessly treated wounded soldiers during the Crimean war whose contributions to the field of nursing helped improved the terrible conditions of hospitals at the time.\\n Indian spiritual leader who founded the Oneness-Home Peace Run, an event in support of world peace.\\nNote also that role models don't necessarily have to be real people — fictional characters can also be sources of inspiration in your life. A well-written character like, for example, Atticus Finch from To Kill a Mockingbird can be a great role model. In this example, Finch's tremendous strength of character and sense of justice can be an inspiration to anyone who wants to create these qualities in herself.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Take good care of your skin and body, both men and women. Looking youthful for longer gives you a more timeless quality. Lots of laughter helps this sense of youthfulness at any age.\\n\", \"If you're a woman, avoid overdoing makeup, always. The natural look will always be more timeless than any fad makeup look.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Tolerating Others in Difficult Situations
1-1. Try to empathize.
A good first step to tolerating others in a tricky situation is making a conscious effort to empathize with him, and trying to see things from his perspective. You may have very different backgrounds and experiences to draw on, so what seems obvious to you might seem strange or alien to someone else.
1-2. Ask for an explanation.
If you are talking to someone and they say something that you find hard to accept, you can figure out the other person's perspective without being intolerant or aggressive. Try to gain a better understanding of someone else’s views by asking him or her to explain it to you.
You might say something like, “Ok, tell me more about that. What makes you think that?”
If you do this you are being tolerant by not dismissing him or her outright and you are attempting to understand something that you find difficult.
Remember that tolerance does not mean accepting unacceptable behavior.
1-3. Ignore your differences.
One way to deal with a difficult situation is just to try to ignore your differences. This is a more negative kind of tolerance than learning to accept and value difference, but it can be useful. To do this you would have to avoid certain topics of conversation, or swiftly change the subject when necessary.
1-4. Use “I” statements rather than “you” statements.
If you find yourself in a conversation with someone and you are struggling to maintain civility, it can help to avoid making accusations or assumptions about the person you are talking to. You can do this by using “I” statements instead of “you” statements. This can help to de-escalate any personal animosity and may help you be more open to each other’s viewpoints.
For example, if you are talking about schools giving teenagers contraception, you might say “I think it’s sensible for schools to make contraceptives available.” This is a tolerant way of expressing your opinion.
Avoid making “you” statements such as, “You’re stupid for thinking that schools shouldn’t give out contraception.”
1-5. Address a conflict.
If you are struggling to empathize or ignore the situation, and you are finding it hard to tolerate, you can try to address it to reach some kind of resolution. If you are good friends with someone and you don’t want this intolerance to de-rail your friendship, it’s worth making the effort to find a solution together. Everyone involved will need to be prepared to make an effort and participate fully.
You should start by calmly describing what you find offensive or intolerable in each other’s behavior or views. For example, “I don’t agree with your stance on gun control.”
You will then need to try to get a better understanding of each other’s cultural perceptions. You might do this by asking something like, “What experiences led you to develop your ideas about gun control?”
You should then explain how the issue would be dealt with in each other’s culture or view. You might start by stating what you think the ideal situation might be and then allow the other person to do the same. For example, you might start by saying something like, “I think that we should make it harder to obtain guns because…”
Then you can begin to negotiate a way forward that takes account of and respects your differences. This will be easier if there is a misunderstanding of each other’s behavior, than if you hold more or less incompatible views. For example, you might start by saying something like, “While I don’t agree with your views, I do have a better understanding of them. Now that I know the reasons behind your beliefs, it is easier for me to understand your point of view and I am willing to move forward.”
2. Developing a More Tolerant Outlook
2-1. Value difference.
An important part of developing a more tolerant outlook is learning to appreciate and value difference. People who value difference and diversity are generally more tolerant of others, and are less stressed by ambiguity and uncertainty. Intolerance can effectively narrow down and simplify an ever-changing world, making it easier to comprehend because it ignores the variety and complexity.
Adopting a more open-minded outlook and exposing yourself to views and cultures that are different from your own can help you to become more tolerant.
Talk to people you don’t know, and read newspapers or websites that you don’t normally look at.
Talk to people of a variety of ages and cultures.
2-2. Accept uncertainty.
Research has shown that intolerance of ambiguity or the inability to accept uncertainty, are key personality traits of people who are less tolerant of others. Research conducted on a national level has shown that countries whose people are more accepting of uncertainty tend to be more accepting of dissent, tolerant of deviance, less risk averse and more positive towards young people.
You can try to become more accepting of uncertainty by thinking more about answers than questions.
The idea is that if you are always focused on finding an answer you begin to think that there is only one answer, and the answer is constant and unchanging.
There are often many different answers to the same question, and if you stay open-minded and curious you will become more aware of the differences and more tolerant of this ambiguity.
2-3. Learn about other people and cultures.
A good way to become a more tolerant person is to educate yourself more deeply about other people and cultures. Often when people display a lack of tolerance for somebody, it is in part because they feel alienated or uncertain about what the other person is doing or saying. Take the time to learn about different cultures and belief systems. Don’t be afraid to ask questions, but always do this in a respectful and polite way.
For example, you could find out about different ways of celebrating significant events.
You can also expose yourself to new experiences to demystify things that might have seemed strange or alien to you before.
2-4. Analyze your intolerant feelings.
Understanding the context and roots of your intolerant feelings may help you to recognize and challenge them. Think about why you've been judgmental toward others in the past. Were you raised to believe that certain people are inferior to you, or have you had negative experiences? Diagnose why you feel a certain way about a certain group of people.
For example, perhaps you grew up in a household where it was common to hear derogatory comments about people of a certain race or religion. Or, perhaps you had some negative experiences with someone from a different race or religion and those experiences have contributed to your ideas about those people.
2-5. Foster your own self-esteem.
Sometimes people who don’t feel happy in themselves or have low or negative self-esteem are those most likely to be intolerant of others. This intolerance can be a reflection of how somebody feels about himself. If you feel more secure and confident in yourself you may find you are more open-minded and tolerant of other people.
2-6. Think a difficult thought.
One interesting way to try to become more tolerant is to practice dealing with thoughts that you find intolerable. This is a technique that psychologists use, and it can be a useful way to address intolerance. It works on the principle that it’s hard to maintain a difficult thought, and that trying to do this will help you learn to handle difficult situations.
We tend to flee from or avoid difficult thoughts, which can lead to an intolerant, impatient or unsympathetic outlook.
Pick a difficult thought and spend at least ten seconds each day thinking about it.
For example, if the idea of changing your religion is intolerable to you, then you might think “I am going to renounce my religion and become a Buddhist (or another religion that is different from your own).”
Then analyze what happens next. Do you have a physical reaction? What are the next thoughts that come into you mind?
Tips
Remember the Golden Rule: "Treat others how you would like to be treated."
Accepting that people are different and looking for the positive in them helps us build an attitude of tolerance.
One's true perfection lies in their ability to know and accept their personal imperfections. Don't forget that anything is possible and you can achieve it.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Tolerating Others in Difficult Situations\\n1-1. Try to empathize.\\nA good first step to tolerating others in a tricky situation is making a conscious effort to empathize with him, and trying to see things from his perspective. You may have very different backgrounds and experiences to draw on, so what seems obvious to you might seem strange or alien to someone else.\\n1-2. Ask for an explanation.\\nIf you are talking to someone and they say something that you find hard to accept, you can figure out the other person's perspective without being intolerant or aggressive. Try to gain a better understanding of someone else’s views by asking him or her to explain it to you.\\nYou might say something like, “Ok, tell me more about that. What makes you think that?”\\nIf you do this you are being tolerant by not dismissing him or her outright and you are attempting to understand something that you find difficult.\\nRemember that tolerance does not mean accepting unacceptable behavior.\\n1-3. Ignore your differences.\\nOne way to deal with a difficult situation is just to try to ignore your differences. This is a more negative kind of tolerance than learning to accept and value difference, but it can be useful. To do this you would have to avoid certain topics of conversation, or swiftly change the subject when necessary.\\n1-4. Use “I” statements rather than “you” statements.\\nIf you find yourself in a conversation with someone and you are struggling to maintain civility, it can help to avoid making accusations or assumptions about the person you are talking to. You can do this by using “I” statements instead of “you” statements. This can help to de-escalate any personal animosity and may help you be more open to each other’s viewpoints.\\nFor example, if you are talking about schools giving teenagers contraception, you might say “I think it’s sensible for schools to make contraceptives available.” This is a tolerant way of expressing your opinion.\\nAvoid making “you” statements such as, “You’re stupid for thinking that schools shouldn’t give out contraception.”\\n1-5. Address a conflict.\\nIf you are struggling to empathize or ignore the situation, and you are finding it hard to tolerate, you can try to address it to reach some kind of resolution. If you are good friends with someone and you don’t want this intolerance to de-rail your friendship, it’s worth making the effort to find a solution together. Everyone involved will need to be prepared to make an effort and participate fully.\\nYou should start by calmly describing what you find offensive or intolerable in each other’s behavior or views. For example, “I don’t agree with your stance on gun control.”\\nYou will then need to try to get a better understanding of each other’s cultural perceptions. You might do this by asking something like, “What experiences led you to develop your ideas about gun control?”\\nYou should then explain how the issue would be dealt with in each other’s culture or view. You might start by stating what you think the ideal situation might be and then allow the other person to do the same. For example, you might start by saying something like, “I think that we should make it harder to obtain guns because…”\\nThen you can begin to negotiate a way forward that takes account of and respects your differences. This will be easier if there is a misunderstanding of each other’s behavior, than if you hold more or less incompatible views. For example, you might start by saying something like, “While I don’t agree with your views, I do have a better understanding of them. Now that I know the reasons behind your beliefs, it is easier for me to understand your point of view and I am willing to move forward.”\\n2. Developing a More Tolerant Outlook\\n2-1. Value difference.\\nAn important part of developing a more tolerant outlook is learning to appreciate and value difference. People who value difference and diversity are generally more tolerant of others, and are less stressed by ambiguity and uncertainty. Intolerance can effectively narrow down and simplify an ever-changing world, making it easier to comprehend because it ignores the variety and complexity.\\nAdopting a more open-minded outlook and exposing yourself to views and cultures that are different from your own can help you to become more tolerant.\\nTalk to people you don’t know, and read newspapers or websites that you don’t normally look at.\\nTalk to people of a variety of ages and cultures.\\n2-2. Accept uncertainty.\\nResearch has shown that intolerance of ambiguity or the inability to accept uncertainty, are key personality traits of people who are less tolerant of others. Research conducted on a national level has shown that countries whose people are more accepting of uncertainty tend to be more accepting of dissent, tolerant of deviance, less risk averse and more positive towards young people.\\nYou can try to become more accepting of uncertainty by thinking more about answers than questions.\\nThe idea is that if you are always focused on finding an answer you begin to think that there is only one answer, and the answer is constant and unchanging.\\nThere are often many different answers to the same question, and if you stay open-minded and curious you will become more aware of the differences and more tolerant of this ambiguity.\\n2-3. Learn about other people and cultures.\\nA good way to become a more tolerant person is to educate yourself more deeply about other people and cultures. Often when people display a lack of tolerance for somebody, it is in part because they feel alienated or uncertain about what the other person is doing or saying. Take the time to learn about different cultures and belief systems. Don’t be afraid to ask questions, but always do this in a respectful and polite way.\\nFor example, you could find out about different ways of celebrating significant events.\\nYou can also expose yourself to new experiences to demystify things that might have seemed strange or alien to you before.\\n2-4. Analyze your intolerant feelings.\\nUnderstanding the context and roots of your intolerant feelings may help you to recognize and challenge them. Think about why you've been judgmental toward others in the past. Were you raised to believe that certain people are inferior to you, or have you had negative experiences? Diagnose why you feel a certain way about a certain group of people.\\nFor example, perhaps you grew up in a household where it was common to hear derogatory comments about people of a certain race or religion. Or, perhaps you had some negative experiences with someone from a different race or religion and those experiences have contributed to your ideas about those people.\\n2-5. Foster your own self-esteem.\\nSometimes people who don’t feel happy in themselves or have low or negative self-esteem are those most likely to be intolerant of others. This intolerance can be a reflection of how somebody feels about himself. If you feel more secure and confident in yourself you may find you are more open-minded and tolerant of other people.\\n2-6. Think a difficult thought.\\nOne interesting way to try to become more tolerant is to practice dealing with thoughts that you find intolerable. This is a technique that psychologists use, and it can be a useful way to address intolerance. It works on the principle that it’s hard to maintain a difficult thought, and that trying to do this will help you learn to handle difficult situations.\\nWe tend to flee from or avoid difficult thoughts, which can lead to an intolerant, impatient or unsympathetic outlook.\\nPick a difficult thought and spend at least ten seconds each day thinking about it.\\nFor example, if the idea of changing your religion is intolerable to you, then you might think “I am going to renounce my religion and become a Buddhist (or another religion that is different from your own).”\\nThen analyze what happens next. Do you have a physical reaction? What are the next thoughts that come into you mind?\\nTips\\nRemember the Golden Rule: \\\"Treat others how you would like to be treated.\\\"\\nAccepting that people are different and looking for the positive in them helps us build an attitude of tolerance.\\nOne's true perfection lies in their ability to know and accept their personal imperfections. Don't forget that anything is possible and you can achieve it.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Sometimes you find yourself in a situation where you find it hard to tolerate someone’s actions or words. Try to understand where each person is coming from, and avoid making it into a personal battle. You can try to develop a more tolerant outlook by learning about different people, developing confidence in yourself, and coming to appreciate difference.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Tolerating Others in Difficult Situations\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Try to empathize.\", \"描述\": \"A good first step to tolerating others in a tricky situation is making a conscious effort to empathize with him, and trying to see things from his perspective. You may have very different backgrounds and experiences to draw on, so what seems obvious to you might seem strange or alien to someone else.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Ask for an explanation.\", \"描述\": \"If you are talking to someone and they say something that you find hard to accept, you can figure out the other person's perspective without being intolerant or aggressive. Try to gain a better understanding of someone else’s views by asking him or her to explain it to you.\\nYou might say something like, “Ok, tell me more about that. What makes you think that?”\\nIf you do this you are being tolerant by not dismissing him or her outright and you are attempting to understand something that you find difficult.\\nRemember that tolerance does not mean accepting unacceptable behavior.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ignore your differences.\", \"描述\": \"One way to deal with a difficult situation is just to try to ignore your differences. This is a more negative kind of tolerance than learning to accept and value difference, but it can be useful. To do this you would have to avoid certain topics of conversation, or swiftly change the subject when necessary.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Use “I” statements rather than “you” statements.\", \"描述\": \"If you find yourself in a conversation with someone and you are struggling to maintain civility, it can help to avoid making accusations or assumptions about the person you are talking to. You can do this by using “I” statements instead of “you” statements. This can help to de-escalate any personal animosity and may help you be more open to each other’s viewpoints.\\nFor example, if you are talking about schools giving teenagers contraception, you might say “I think it’s sensible for schools to make contraceptives available.” This is a tolerant way of expressing your opinion.\\nAvoid making “you” statements such as, “You’re stupid for thinking that schools shouldn’t give out contraception.”\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Address a conflict.\", \"描述\": \"If you are struggling to empathize or ignore the situation, and you are finding it hard to tolerate, you can try to address it to reach some kind of resolution. If you are good friends with someone and you don’t want this intolerance to de-rail your friendship, it’s worth making the effort to find a solution together. Everyone involved will need to be prepared to make an effort and participate fully.\\nYou should start by calmly describing what you find offensive or intolerable in each other’s behavior or views. For example, “I don’t agree with your stance on gun control.”\\nYou will then need to try to get a better understanding of each other’s cultural perceptions. You might do this by asking something like, “What experiences led you to develop your ideas about gun control?”\\nYou should then explain how the issue would be dealt with in each other’s culture or view. You might start by stating what you think the ideal situation might be and then allow the other person to do the same. For example, you might start by saying something like, “I think that we should make it harder to obtain guns because…”\\nThen you can begin to negotiate a way forward that takes account of and respects your differences. This will be easier if there is a misunderstanding of each other’s behavior, than if you hold more or less incompatible views. For example, you might start by saying something like, “While I don’t agree with your views, I do have a better understanding of them. Now that I know the reasons behind your beliefs, it is easier for me to understand your point of view and I am willing to move forward.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Developing a More Tolerant Outlook\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Value difference.\", \"描述\": \"An important part of developing a more tolerant outlook is learning to appreciate and value difference. People who value difference and diversity are generally more tolerant of others, and are less stressed by ambiguity and uncertainty. Intolerance can effectively narrow down and simplify an ever-changing world, making it easier to comprehend because it ignores the variety and complexity.\\nAdopting a more open-minded outlook and exposing yourself to views and cultures that are different from your own can help you to become more tolerant.\\nTalk to people you don’t know, and read newspapers or websites that you don’t normally look at.\\nTalk to people of a variety of ages and cultures.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Accept uncertainty.\", \"描述\": \"Research has shown that intolerance of ambiguity or the inability to accept uncertainty, are key personality traits of people who are less tolerant of others. Research conducted on a national level has shown that countries whose people are more accepting of uncertainty tend to be more accepting of dissent, tolerant of deviance, less risk averse and more positive towards young people.\\nYou can try to become more accepting of uncertainty by thinking more about answers than questions.\\nThe idea is that if you are always focused on finding an answer you begin to think that there is only one answer, and the answer is constant and unchanging.\\nThere are often many different answers to the same question, and if you stay open-minded and curious you will become more aware of the differences and more tolerant of this ambiguity.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn about other people and cultures.\", \"描述\": \"A good way to become a more tolerant person is to educate yourself more deeply about other people and cultures. Often when people display a lack of tolerance for somebody, it is in part because they feel alienated or uncertain about what the other person is doing or saying. Take the time to learn about different cultures and belief systems. Don’t be afraid to ask questions, but always do this in a respectful and polite way.\\nFor example, you could find out about different ways of celebrating significant events.\\nYou can also expose yourself to new experiences to demystify things that might have seemed strange or alien to you before.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Analyze your intolerant feelings.\", \"描述\": \"Understanding the context and roots of your intolerant feelings may help you to recognize and challenge them. Think about why you've been judgmental toward others in the past. Were you raised to believe that certain people are inferior to you, or have you had negative experiences? Diagnose why you feel a certain way about a certain group of people.\\nFor example, perhaps you grew up in a household where it was common to hear derogatory comments about people of a certain race or religion. Or, perhaps you had some negative experiences with someone from a different race or religion and those experiences have contributed to your ideas about those people.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Foster your own self-esteem.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes people who don’t feel happy in themselves or have low or negative self-esteem are those most likely to be intolerant of others. This intolerance can be a reflection of how somebody feels about himself. If you feel more secure and confident in yourself you may find you are more open-minded and tolerant of other people.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Think a difficult thought.\", \"描述\": \"One interesting way to try to become more tolerant is to practice dealing with thoughts that you find intolerable. 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How to Be Tolerant to People's Opinions
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1. Look for common ground in your positions.
It’s rare for two people to have totally incompatible worldviews.
No matter how much you think you disagree with another person’s position, there’s usually at least some premise or element you both agree on. Identifying, acknowledging, and respecting that fact will go a really long way to helping you accept an opposing viewpoint.
If your coworker thinks that your project isn’t ready, and you absolutely think it is, you might say, “Look, we both want the project to be successful, right? Here’s why I think it’s ready…”
If you’re arguing with someone from a different political party, you might say, “Can we at least accept that we both want the best for the country? I think we’re on the same page there.”
Identifying common ground keeps you from seeing the other person as your enemy. If you share a common concern or interest, they can’t really be your opposition.
2. Pretend you’re the other person.
A shift in perspective can dramatically alter your response.
Literally imagine yourself being in the other person’s shoes. Picture yourself making the same claim they are right now. This little thought exercise is often all it takes to get a fresh perspective, and thinking about something from a new angle can help you understand how someone is thinking. If you understand where they’re coming from, you’ll be more tolerant of them.
If this is hard for you, tell the other person! There’s nothing wrong with saying (in a respectful manner) something like, “I’m really struggling to understand where you’re coming from. Can you walk me through how you arrived at this position?” There’s nothing intolerant about that.
3. Ask a lot of questions.
Curiosity leads to understanding and this prevents confusion.
Not only is this a good way to explore nuance, but it’s a sign of respect. Follow up questions indicate you want to understand the other person’s perspective. This will keep you from making assumptions about someone’s belief, which is exceptionally important when it comes to tolerating others.
For example, if someone says, “I believe everyone deserves a tax break,” you might ask, “So you think that taxes are too high?” or, “Do you mean literally every single citizen?”
If someone claims that they’re not in favor of making a video for your group project at school, you might ask, “Do you think we’ll get a better grade if we do a play instead?” or, “Do you think it’s going to be too time-consuming to make a movie for the project?”
4. Acknowledge you’re having an emotional reaction.
As soon as you feel a harsh reaction bubbling up, catch yourself.
It’s a lot harder to be tolerant in the face of an opinion you don’t like if you aren’t monitoring your feelings. When you feel yourself getting activated in the face of a belief that makes you uncomfortable or angry, pause, and say, “This is making me angry” in your head. By paying attention to your feelings, you’ll avoid lashing out before you can process what’s happening.
This can be very hard to do in the heat of the moment if you’re discussing a particularly heavy topic. Just do your best to monitor what’s happening inside of you—the more aware you are, the easier it will be to respond logically, not emotionally.
Being tolerant does not mean “not disagreeing.” It’s totally fine to have differing viewpoints, but it’s not okay to put someone down for who they are, or totally shut someone down for having an alternative perspective.
5. Listen carefully when people express themselves.
Pause before you respond so you can totally process their position.
A lot of people start preparing a retort before the other person has even finished talking, which makes it easy to miss important information. Track each word coming out of the other person’s mouth. Then, take a deep breath to collect your thoughts before formulating your response.
It’s easy to just pick up on a keyword at the beginning of an opinion and extrapolate from there. Someone might say, “I don’t think the president…” and that might be all you hear if you like president! Their position may be more nuanced than that though, so don’t jump the gun.
6. Work through your reaction logically.
Intolerance can be deeply illogical, so explore your response.
If you feel yourself teetering close to the edge of a super emotional, intolerant response and a short pause isn’t enough, you might say, “Give me a minute to think about that.” Take as much time as you need and try to poke holes in your reaction and diagnose why you’re having such a strong response.
It’s possible that you’re lashing out because you feel completely misunderstood. Maybe you just need to rephrase your opinion?
You might feel kind of activated because you have an illogical belief about the person you’re speaking to. Maybe you don’t understand their position?
If you’ve got an underlying bias about the other person, the stereotype in your mind might make you come off as intolerant. In these cases, focusing on the argument or opinion alone can help.
7. Respond to the idea, not the person.
Try to separate the who someone is from what they say.
The difference between “I don’t like you” and “I don’t like your idea” is monumental. If you want to feel and appear more tolerant, avoid attacking people—address their ideas instead. This way, you can redirect all of the frustration you have with someone’s position directly towards their position.
Use “I” language when you share your opinion, and stay away from the pronoun “you” whenever possible. Think of the difference between, “I think it’s important to protect the environment,” and “You don’t care about the planet.” One is a statement of belief. The other is an indictment against a person.
Never criticize another person for who they are as a person. Their race, age, nationality, and religion aren’t up for debate.
8. Remind yourself you aren’t under attack.
A difference of opinions is not an indictment against you as a person.
When you believe something, it’s easy to feel like you are an extension of that thing. If someone disagrees with you, try not to treat your opinion like it’s who you are as a person. It is extremely unlikely that someone is putting you down just for seeing something a different way.
This can be especially difficult if you ever discuss contentious topics, like race, religion, gender, or politics. When you have these conversations, try to cushion your responses to people with phrases like, “I mean no disrespect here” and, “This is just my personal belief.”
9. Hang out with people who aren’t like you.
Exposure to other people can help you build your tolerance over time.
It’s hard to be tolerant of someone if you’re never around anyone like them. Try to interact with people from different backgrounds as often as possible. Being around different kinds of people will expose you to different perspectives and ideas, and there’s a lot of research to suggest that these experiences are essential if you want to be a tolerant person.
The same way you build a tolerance to something like medicine, alcohol, or caffeine over time, you can build a tolerance to different opinions.
If everyone you hang out with looks like you, sounds like you, and believes the same things you do, you’ll never get the practice you need being around a variety of different perspectives.
10. Continue to learn as much as you can.
Educating yourself will open your mind and make it easier to be tolerant.
The more you learn about other belief systems, the easier it will be to process your feelings in the face of those belief systems. Watch video essays on different subjects, or pick up introductory books about topics you don’t know a ton about so that you can learn more. No bad has ever come from being more educated on a subject!
For example, if you have a natural distrust of people who say they’re feminists, you might watch videos about what feminists actually believe, or read books written by key feminist authors. It might be uncomfortable to imagine now, but maybe you’ll agree with them.
Even simply watching movies about people you tend to not be very tolerant of can make a huge difference.
11. Relax and destress in your spare time.
If you react strongly to opinions, finding other outlets may help.
The less stress you carry around with you, the easier it will be to deal with people who tend to frustrate you. Try meditating in your spare time. Alternatively, you might do yoga, or start waking up an hour early to read and drink tea. Whatever you can do to calm your body and mind may make it easier to deal with folks who voice opinions you find frustrating.
This may seem like kind of an odd connection, but people often react sharply just because they’re on edge. If you’re just generally kind of stressed out all of the time, it can make you come off as intolerant.
12. Travel more often to places you’ve never been.
Exposing yourself to new cultures may make you more empathetic.
If you never go outside of your comfort zone, you won’t be exposed to new opinions, people, and traditions. The more experiences you have with other cultures, the more flexible you may be in your own worldview. This can make you more empathetic of other people, which will make tolerance a lot easier to embody for you.
If you live in a rural or suburban area, even a weekend trip to the nearest big city can help. Cities tend to generally be very diverse, tolerant places!
13. Be kind to yourself and give it time.
Becoming more tolerant can take a lot of time, so don’t get down on yourself.
If you struggle with accepting the opinions of others, you’re probably a very passionate person. It’s hard to cool those passions down, and it’s going to take a lot of time to change. That’s okay! It doesn’t make you a bad person; so long as you’re doing your best to tolerate other people's opinions, you have something to be proud of.
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Pretend you’re the other person.\\nA shift in perspective can dramatically alter your response.\\nLiterally imagine yourself being in the other person’s shoes. Picture yourself making the same claim they are right now. This little thought exercise is often all it takes to get a fresh perspective, and thinking about something from a new angle can help you understand how someone is thinking. If you understand where they’re coming from, you’ll be more tolerant of them.\\nIf this is hard for you, tell the other person! There’s nothing wrong with saying (in a respectful manner) something like, “I’m really struggling to understand where you’re coming from. Can you walk me through how you arrived at this position?” There’s nothing intolerant about that.\\n3. Ask a lot of questions.\\nCuriosity leads to understanding and this prevents confusion.\\nNot only is this a good way to explore nuance, but it’s a sign of respect. Follow up questions indicate you want to understand the other person’s perspective. This will keep you from making assumptions about someone’s belief, which is exceptionally important when it comes to tolerating others.\\nFor example, if someone says, “I believe everyone deserves a tax break,” you might ask, “So you think that taxes are too high?” or, “Do you mean literally every single citizen?”\\nIf someone claims that they’re not in favor of making a video for your group project at school, you might ask, “Do you think we’ll get a better grade if we do a play instead?” or, “Do you think it’s going to be too time-consuming to make a movie for the project?”\\n4. Acknowledge you’re having an emotional reaction.\\nAs soon as you feel a harsh reaction bubbling up, catch yourself.\\nIt’s a lot harder to be tolerant in the face of an opinion you don’t like if you aren’t monitoring your feelings. When you feel yourself getting activated in the face of a belief that makes you uncomfortable or angry, pause, and say, “This is making me angry” in your head. By paying attention to your feelings, you’ll avoid lashing out before you can process what’s happening.\\nThis can be very hard to do in the heat of the moment if you’re discussing a particularly heavy topic. Just do your best to monitor what’s happening inside of you—the more aware you are, the easier it will be to respond logically, not emotionally.\\nBeing tolerant does not mean “not disagreeing.” It’s totally fine to have differing viewpoints, but it’s not okay to put someone down for who they are, or totally shut someone down for having an alternative perspective.\\n5. Listen carefully when people express themselves.\\nPause before you respond so you can totally process their position.\\nA lot of people start preparing a retort before the other person has even finished talking, which makes it easy to miss important information. Track each word coming out of the other person’s mouth. Then, take a deep breath to collect your thoughts before formulating your response.\\nIt’s easy to just pick up on a keyword at the beginning of an opinion and extrapolate from there. Someone might say, “I don’t think the president…” and that might be all you hear if you like president! Their position may be more nuanced than that though, so don’t jump the gun.\\n6. Work through your reaction logically.\\nIntolerance can be deeply illogical, so explore your response.\\nIf you feel yourself teetering close to the edge of a super emotional, intolerant response and a short pause isn’t enough, you might say, “Give me a minute to think about that.” Take as much time as you need and try to poke holes in your reaction and diagnose why you’re having such a strong response.\\nIt’s possible that you’re lashing out because you feel completely misunderstood. Maybe you just need to rephrase your opinion?\\nYou might feel kind of activated because you have an illogical belief about the person you’re speaking to. Maybe you don’t understand their position?\\nIf you’ve got an underlying bias about the other person, the stereotype in your mind might make you come off as intolerant. In these cases, focusing on the argument or opinion alone can help.\\n7. Respond to the idea, not the person.\\nTry to separate the who someone is from what they say.\\nThe difference between “I don’t like you” and “I don’t like your idea” is monumental. If you want to feel and appear more tolerant, avoid attacking people—address their ideas instead. This way, you can redirect all of the frustration you have with someone’s position directly towards their position.\\nUse “I” language when you share your opinion, and stay away from the pronoun “you” whenever possible. Think of the difference between, “I think it’s important to protect the environment,” and “You don’t care about the planet.” One is a statement of belief. The other is an indictment against a person.\\nNever criticize another person for who they are as a person. Their race, age, nationality, and religion aren’t up for debate.\\n8. Remind yourself you aren’t under attack.\\nA difference of opinions is not an indictment against you as a person.\\nWhen you believe something, it’s easy to feel like you are an extension of that thing. If someone disagrees with you, try not to treat your opinion like it’s who you are as a person. It is extremely unlikely that someone is putting you down just for seeing something a different way.\\nThis can be especially difficult if you ever discuss contentious topics, like race, religion, gender, or politics. When you have these conversations, try to cushion your responses to people with phrases like, “I mean no disrespect here” and, “This is just my personal belief.”\\n9. Hang out with people who aren’t like you.\\nExposure to other people can help you build your tolerance over time.\\nIt’s hard to be tolerant of someone if you’re never around anyone like them. Try to interact with people from different backgrounds as often as possible. Being around different kinds of people will expose you to different perspectives and ideas, and there’s a lot of research to suggest that these experiences are essential if you want to be a tolerant person.\\nThe same way you build a tolerance to something like medicine, alcohol, or caffeine over time, you can build a tolerance to different opinions.\\nIf everyone you hang out with looks like you, sounds like you, and believes the same things you do, you’ll never get the practice you need being around a variety of different perspectives.\\n10. Continue to learn as much as you can.\\nEducating yourself will open your mind and make it easier to be tolerant.\\nThe more you learn about other belief systems, the easier it will be to process your feelings in the face of those belief systems. Watch video essays on different subjects, or pick up introductory books about topics you don’t know a ton about so that you can learn more. No bad has ever come from being more educated on a subject!\\nFor example, if you have a natural distrust of people who say they’re feminists, you might watch videos about what feminists actually believe, or read books written by key feminist authors. It might be uncomfortable to imagine now, but maybe you’ll agree with them.\\nEven simply watching movies about people you tend to not be very tolerant of can make a huge difference.\\n11. Relax and destress in your spare time.\\nIf you react strongly to opinions, finding other outlets may help.\\nThe less stress you carry around with you, the easier it will be to deal with people who tend to frustrate you. Try meditating in your spare time. Alternatively, you might do yoga, or start waking up an hour early to read and drink tea. 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Be kind to yourself and give it time.\\nBecoming more tolerant can take a lot of time, so don’t get down on yourself.\\nIf you struggle with accepting the opinions of others, you’re probably a very passionate person. It’s hard to cool those passions down, and it’s going to take a lot of time to change. That’s okay! It doesn’t make you a bad person; so long as you’re doing your best to tolerate other people's opinions, you have something to be proud of.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Recognizing that you want to be a more tolerant person is an accomplishment all on its own. If you feel like you can be a little intolerant sometimes, that’s understandable—it’s natural to be defensive when someone believes something you don’t. Still, the more tolerant and understanding you can become, the happier you’ll be. 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I think we’re on the same page there.”\\nIdentifying common ground keeps you from seeing the other person as your enemy. If you share a common concern or interest, they can’t really be your opposition.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pretend you’re the other person.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A shift in perspective can dramatically alter your response.\", \"描述\": \"Literally imagine yourself being in the other person’s shoes. Picture yourself making the same claim they are right now. This little thought exercise is often all it takes to get a fresh perspective, and thinking about something from a new angle can help you understand how someone is thinking. If you understand where they’re coming from, you’ll be more tolerant of them.\\nIf this is hard for you, tell the other person! There’s nothing wrong with saying (in a respectful manner) something like, “I’m really struggling to understand where you’re coming from. Can you walk me through how you arrived at this position?” There’s nothing intolerant about that.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Ask a lot of questions.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Curiosity leads to understanding and this prevents confusion.\", \"描述\": \"Not only is this a good way to explore nuance, but it’s a sign of respect. Follow up questions indicate you want to understand the other person’s perspective. This will keep you from making assumptions about someone’s belief, which is exceptionally important when it comes to tolerating others.\\nFor example, if someone says, “I believe everyone deserves a tax break,” you might ask, “So you think that taxes are too high?” or, “Do you mean literally every single citizen?”\\nIf someone claims that they’re not in favor of making a video for your group project at school, you might ask, “Do you think we’ll get a better grade if we do a play instead?” or, “Do you think it’s going to be too time-consuming to make a movie for the project?”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Acknowledge you’re having an emotional reaction.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"As soon as you feel a harsh reaction bubbling up, catch yourself.\", \"描述\": \"It’s a lot harder to be tolerant in the face of an opinion you don’t like if you aren’t monitoring your feelings. When you feel yourself getting activated in the face of a belief that makes you uncomfortable or angry, pause, and say, “This is making me angry” in your head. By paying attention to your feelings, you’ll avoid lashing out before you can process what’s happening.\\nThis can be very hard to do in the heat of the moment if you’re discussing a particularly heavy topic. Just do your best to monitor what’s happening inside of you—the more aware you are, the easier it will be to respond logically, not emotionally.\\nBeing tolerant does not mean “not disagreeing.” It’s totally fine to have differing viewpoints, but it’s not okay to put someone down for who they are, or totally shut someone down for having an alternative perspective.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Listen carefully when people express themselves.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pause before you respond so you can totally process their position.\", \"描述\": \"A lot of people start preparing a retort before the other person has even finished talking, which makes it easy to miss important information. Track each word coming out of the other person’s mouth. Then, take a deep breath to collect your thoughts before formulating your response.\\nIt’s easy to just pick up on a keyword at the beginning of an opinion and extrapolate from there. Someone might say, “I don’t think the president…” and that might be all you hear if you like president! Their position may be more nuanced than that though, so don’t jump the gun.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Work through your reaction logically.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Intolerance can be deeply illogical, so explore your response.\", \"描述\": \"If you feel yourself teetering close to the edge of a super emotional, intolerant response and a short pause isn’t enough, you might say, “Give me a minute to think about that.” Take as much time as you need and try to poke holes in your reaction and diagnose why you’re having such a strong response.\\nIt’s possible that you’re lashing out because you feel completely misunderstood. Maybe you just need to rephrase your opinion?\\nYou might feel kind of activated because you have an illogical belief about the person you’re speaking to. Maybe you don’t understand their position?\\nIf you’ve got an underlying bias about the other person, the stereotype in your mind might make you come off as intolerant. In these cases, focusing on the argument or opinion alone can help.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Respond to the idea, not the person.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Try to separate the who someone is from what they say.\", \"描述\": \"The difference between “I don’t like you” and “I don’t like your idea” is monumental. If you want to feel and appear more tolerant, avoid attacking people—address their ideas instead. This way, you can redirect all of the frustration you have with someone’s position directly towards their position.\\nUse “I” language when you share your opinion, and stay away from the pronoun “you” whenever possible. Think of the difference between, “I think it’s important to protect the environment,” and “You don’t care about the planet.” One is a statement of belief. The other is an indictment against a person.\\nNever criticize another person for who they are as a person. Their race, age, nationality, and religion aren’t up for debate.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Remind yourself you aren’t under attack.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A difference of opinions is not an indictment against you as a person.\", \"描述\": \"When you believe something, it’s easy to feel like you are an extension of that thing. If someone disagrees with you, try not to treat your opinion like it’s who you are as a person. It is extremely unlikely that someone is putting you down just for seeing something a different way.\\nThis can be especially difficult if you ever discuss contentious topics, like race, religion, gender, or politics. When you have these conversations, try to cushion your responses to people with phrases like, “I mean no disrespect here” and, “This is just my personal belief.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Hang out with people who aren’t like you.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Exposure to other people can help you build your tolerance over time.\", \"描述\": \"It’s hard to be tolerant of someone if you’re never around anyone like them. Try to interact with people from different backgrounds as often as possible. Being around different kinds of people will expose you to different perspectives and ideas, and there’s a lot of research to suggest that these experiences are essential if you want to be a tolerant person.\\nThe same way you build a tolerance to something like medicine, alcohol, or caffeine over time, you can build a tolerance to different opinions.\\nIf everyone you hang out with looks like you, sounds like you, and believes the same things you do, you’ll never get the practice you need being around a variety of different perspectives.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Continue to learn as much as you can.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Educating yourself will open your mind and make it easier to be tolerant.\", \"描述\": \"The more you learn about other belief systems, the easier it will be to process your feelings in the face of those belief systems. Watch video essays on different subjects, or pick up introductory books about topics you don’t know a ton about so that you can learn more. No bad has ever come from being more educated on a subject!\\nFor example, if you have a natural distrust of people who say they’re feminists, you might watch videos about what feminists actually believe, or read books written by key feminist authors. It might be uncomfortable to imagine now, but maybe you’ll agree with them.\\nEven simply watching movies about people you tend to not be very tolerant of can make a huge difference.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Relax and destress in your spare time.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"If you react strongly to opinions, finding other outlets may help.\", \"描述\": \"The less stress you carry around with you, the easier it will be to deal with people who tend to frustrate you. Try meditating in your spare time. Alternatively, you might do yoga, or start waking up an hour early to read and drink tea. Whatever you can do to calm your body and mind may make it easier to deal with folks who voice opinions you find frustrating.\\nThis may seem like kind of an odd connection, but people often react sharply just because they’re on edge. If you’re just generally kind of stressed out all of the time, it can make you come off as intolerant.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Travel more often to places you’ve never been.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Exposing yourself to new cultures may make you more empathetic.\", \"描述\": \"If you never go outside of your comfort zone, you won’t be exposed to new opinions, people, and traditions. The more experiences you have with other cultures, the more flexible you may be in your own worldview. This can make you more empathetic of other people, which will make tolerance a lot easier to embody for you.\\nIf you live in a rural or suburban area, even a weekend trip to the nearest big city can help. Cities tend to generally be very diverse, tolerant places!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 13, \"标题\": \"Be kind to yourself and give it time.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Becoming more tolerant can take a lot of time, so don’t get down on yourself.\", \"描述\": \"If you struggle with accepting the opinions of others, you’re probably a very passionate person. It’s hard to cool those passions down, and it’s going to take a lot of time to change. That’s okay! It doesn’t make you a bad person; so long as you’re doing your best to tolerate other people's opinions, you have something to be proud of.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Mindset Shifts
1-1. Pump up your confidence.
Toughness and confidence go hand in hand. Being tough comes down to the choices you make about handling any given situation. Having confidence in yourself makes it possible to make the right choice and follow through with it. If you're not sure you're capable of stepping up to a challenge, it's probably because your self-confidence needs a boost.
Learn to recognize your true opinions, rather than letting yourself be swayed by what other people think. Trust yourself to know the right way to handle a situation.
Don't compare yourself to other people. It's a rabbit hole many of us fall into time and time again, but comparing yourself to others undermines your self-esteem. Next time you're faced with a decision, look inward.
Learn to say no. People will respect your opinion more if you actually say what you think. Always look them in the eye when saying no, so they'll know that you're sure.
1-2. Stay even-keeled under pressure.
Do you blow your top or burst into tears when something makes you angry or upset? Being tough doesn't mean not having emotions, but it does mean keeping them in check so you can think clearly and make rational decisions. Start reigning yourself in a bit if you tend to react strongly to unwelcome news.
Before you do anything, take a deep breath and count to ten. This well-known trick for keeping yourself together really does work. After 10 seconds, the first surge of emotion will calm down a bit.
Channel your energy instead of unleashing it on other people. Exercising, writing in a journal, and practicing meditation are good ways to give your emotions a positive output.
1-3. Don't worry about the little things.
If you're going to be tough, you can't let disappointing news or a negative comment ruin your day. If every little challenge makes you feel as though you're coming undone, you won't have energy left over for making strong choices regarding bigger issues. Work on developing a thicker skin.
Worrying excessively about other people's judgments is a waste of your time. It's a given that people will disagree with you and judge your choices sometimes; that's their problem. As long as what you're doing isn't hurting other people, you're fine.
Don't be a hothead. Traffic jams, lines at the post office, and other annoyances are not worth losing your temper. If you can't handle mailing a package without having a meltdown, how are you going to handle a real problem?
1-4. Follow through with your goals
Everyone sets goals, but following through with them is another matter entirely. Most goals worth setting require hours of monotonous hard work to achieve them. If you want to be tough, be willing to put in the time and effort it takes to accomplish goals.
Break your goals down into manageable steps and set a schedule for completing them. This way you'll know exactly what needs to be done in order to get to the finish line.
Be ruthlessly persistent. If you give up before you've met your goal, you're letting yourself down. Don't allow yourself to lose interest or get tired of working hard.
1-5. Pick yourself up after making a mistake.
Making mistakes is an inevitable part of life. Tough people use their mistakes as tools for learning how to do better next time. If you tend to let your mistakes get the better of you, or worse, blame someone else every time something goes wrong, try taking a different approach to your mistakes.
Admit when you've done something wrong. It's a misconception that in order to be tough, you've got to act like you're always right. In fact, the opposite is true: tough people are willing to endure the discomfort of owning up to their mistakes.
1-6. Have an optimistic outlook.
You don't have to be sunny and cheerful all the time, but having a generally optimistic point of view goes hand in hand with being tough. Being hopeful about what the future holds is an asset when life gets hard. People who complain a lot and feel cynical about the future aren't able to cope as well in the face of disaster or despair.
2. Facing Tough Situations
2-1. Face reality.
Don't attempt to evade difficult situations by running away or pretending they aren't happening. The ability face reality head-on will help you make practical decisions that will ultimately lead to positive change. If you bury your head in the sand, your problems will just keep festering.
Resist the temptation to ignore your problems by indulging in escapist behaviors. Using drugs and alcohol, watching too much TV, staying up all night online, gambling and other similar behaviors will make it harder to clearly see reality.
2-2. Consider your options carefully.
With every situation you encounter, you have a choice to make. It's up to you to decide how you'll react and what actions you should take. Sometimes the right choice is obvious, and other times right and wrong seem impossible to distinguish from one another. Taking the time to think things through clearly will help you choose correctly.
Let's say you get a piece of bad news: you weren't admitted into the program you applied for. What are the possible paths you can take from here? Is there a wrong way to react? What's the right way?
2-3. Get advice from wise people.
It's not weak to admit you could use some advice. Other people's opinions can be valuable when you're faced with a situation that you haven't encountered before. Ask people you trust what they would do in your position. Remember, though, that only you can ultimately determine the best course. Other people's opinions are secondary to your own values.
Trusted friends and family members are good people to confide in when you have a big decision to make. Take their advice with a grain of salt, though, since people who know you, even if they love you very much, might have their own personal stake in the decision you make. For example, your mom would prefer you didn't move to a different town, her advice about what college you should choose might be loaded with her emotions.
Going to a therapist or counselor is a great idea when you feel a professional opinion could be useful.
2-4. Let your conscience be your guide.
That little inner voice telling you what choice to make will become louder and stronger as you gain experience and wisdom. After examining a situation from all angles and getting a few outside opinions, it's time to act on your values. Being tough means acting with honor and courage, no matter how scary it might be to do so.
2-5. Don't back down (unless you should).
Once you've made your decision, follow through with it and stay true to your values. The tough decision to make is often the least popular, so there will be times when it seems like other people are against you. Stay strong when others try to tear you down for doing what you believe is right.
There are exceptions to this rule - like when the action you took was actually wrong. Don't automatically get defensive if you're accused of being in the wrong. Think clearly about what happened and decide if you're still on board with your original actions. If you realize that it would have been better to do something different, admit it.
3. Staying Resilient
3-1. Keep yourself in good physical condition.
Being physically strong and healthy is beneficial for your mind as well. If you're always tired and under the weather, it's going to be a lot more difficult to deal with issues that arise. Don't neglect your body's health if your goal is to be tough.
Get plenty of sleep. This will keep your body healthy and help you stay mentally alert. Aim for 7-8 hours per night. Make it a priority!
Eat plenty of vegetables and fruits. Making these a mainstay of your diet will provide the vitamins and nutrients your mind needs to stay strong.
Exercise. Cardio and strength training will keep your body and brain in good shape.
Destress. If your world is cluttered up with a million things to do, it'll affect your power to make good decisions.
3-2. Form strong bonds with other people.
There is strength in numbers. It's easier to build a wall around yourself than to reach out and form deep relationships with other people. Earning and keeping people's trust is no simple feat. It might sound strange, but exhibiting vulnerability with others is actually an important part of being tough.
Show your family, friends and colleagues, that you're trustworthy and dependable. Answer emails and calls promptly and be there for people when you're needed.
Take on a leadership role in your community. You could volunteer your time to help others, coach a little league team, start a neighborhood garden, and so on. Have a stake in your community!
3-3. Enrich your spiritual life.
Having an active spiritual life will help give you the perspective you need when your problems threaten to consume you. Find ways to become more spiritually aware and connected to the rest of the world. Doing yoga, meditating, participating in a place of worship, and spending time in nature are all good ways to enrich yourself spiritually.
3-4. Stay true to your values.
Ultimately, being tough comes down to knowing your values and acting on them. Understanding this will help you deflect petty insults and avoid getting wrapped up in drama. It will help you figure out what's important to you and set out to achieve your goals. Most importantly, it will help you boldly make the choice to do what you know is right.
Tips
Talk in a medium-loud voice. No one will listen if you're too quiet, and no one will pay attention if you're too loud.
Look people in the eye when you talk to them.
Don't allow your 'tough attitude' to turn into anything too aggressive, keep control.
Warnings
Threatening people makes it worse, and will land you in a heap of trouble.
Don't be egotistical. There is a significant difference between confident and cocky.
Don't speak too loudly, or it will sound like you're shouting.
Realize that people won't always do things you ask them because of their own reasons. Make sure you listen if they're trying to say something, or otherwise they won't listen to you.
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Stay even-keeled under pressure.\\nDo you blow your top or burst into tears when something makes you angry or upset? Being tough doesn't mean not having emotions, but it does mean keeping them in check so you can think clearly and make rational decisions. Start reigning yourself in a bit if you tend to react strongly to unwelcome news.\\nBefore you do anything, take a deep breath and count to ten. This well-known trick for keeping yourself together really does work. After 10 seconds, the first surge of emotion will calm down a bit.\\nChannel your energy instead of unleashing it on other people. Exercising, writing in a journal, and practicing meditation are good ways to give your emotions a positive output.\\n1-3. Don't worry about the little things.\\nIf you're going to be tough, you can't let disappointing news or a negative comment ruin your day. If every little challenge makes you feel as though you're coming undone, you won't have energy left over for making strong choices regarding bigger issues. Work on developing a thicker skin.\\nWorrying excessively about other people's judgments is a waste of your time. It's a given that people will disagree with you and judge your choices sometimes; that's their problem. As long as what you're doing isn't hurting other people, you're fine.\\nDon't be a hothead. Traffic jams, lines at the post office, and other annoyances are not worth losing your temper. If you can't handle mailing a package without having a meltdown, how are you going to handle a real problem?\\n1-4. Follow through with your goals\\nEveryone sets goals, but following through with them is another matter entirely. Most goals worth setting require hours of monotonous hard work to achieve them. If you want to be tough, be willing to put in the time and effort it takes to accomplish goals.\\nBreak your goals down into manageable steps and set a schedule for completing them. This way you'll know exactly what needs to be done in order to get to the finish line.\\nBe ruthlessly persistent. If you give up before you've met your goal, you're letting yourself down. Don't allow yourself to lose interest or get tired of working hard.\\n1-5. Pick yourself up after making a mistake.\\nMaking mistakes is an inevitable part of life. Tough people use their mistakes as tools for learning how to do better next time. If you tend to let your mistakes get the better of you, or worse, blame someone else every time something goes wrong, try taking a different approach to your mistakes.\\nAdmit when you've done something wrong. It's a misconception that in order to be tough, you've got to act like you're always right. In fact, the opposite is true: tough people are willing to endure the discomfort of owning up to their mistakes.\\n1-6. Have an optimistic outlook.\\nYou don't have to be sunny and cheerful all the time, but having a generally optimistic point of view goes hand in hand with being tough. Being hopeful about what the future holds is an asset when life gets hard. People who complain a lot and feel cynical about the future aren't able to cope as well in the face of disaster or despair.\\n2. Facing Tough Situations\\n2-1. Face reality.\\nDon't attempt to evade difficult situations by running away or pretending they aren't happening. The ability face reality head-on will help you make practical decisions that will ultimately lead to positive change. If you bury your head in the sand, your problems will just keep festering.\\nResist the temptation to ignore your problems by indulging in escapist behaviors. Using drugs and alcohol, watching too much TV, staying up all night online, gambling and other similar behaviors will make it harder to clearly see reality.\\n2-2. Consider your options carefully.\\nWith every situation you encounter, you have a choice to make. It's up to you to decide how you'll react and what actions you should take. Sometimes the right choice is obvious, and other times right and wrong seem impossible to distinguish from one another. Taking the time to think things through clearly will help you choose correctly.\\nLet's say you get a piece of bad news: you weren't admitted into the program you applied for. What are the possible paths you can take from here? Is there a wrong way to react? What's the right way?\\n2-3. Get advice from wise people.\\nIt's not weak to admit you could use some advice. Other people's opinions can be valuable when you're faced with a situation that you haven't encountered before. Ask people you trust what they would do in your position. Remember, though, that only you can ultimately determine the best course. Other people's opinions are secondary to your own values.\\nTrusted friends and family members are good people to confide in when you have a big decision to make. Take their advice with a grain of salt, though, since people who know you, even if they love you very much, might have their own personal stake in the decision you make. For example, your mom would prefer you didn't move to a different town, her advice about what college you should choose might be loaded with her emotions.\\nGoing to a therapist or counselor is a great idea when you feel a professional opinion could be useful.\\n2-4. Let your conscience be your guide.\\nThat little inner voice telling you what choice to make will become louder and stronger as you gain experience and wisdom. After examining a situation from all angles and getting a few outside opinions, it's time to act on your values. Being tough means acting with honor and courage, no matter how scary it might be to do so.\\n2-5. Don't back down (unless you should).\\nOnce you've made your decision, follow through with it and stay true to your values. The tough decision to make is often the least popular, so there will be times when it seems like other people are against you. Stay strong when others try to tear you down for doing what you believe is right.\\nThere are exceptions to this rule - like when the action you took was actually wrong. Don't automatically get defensive if you're accused of being in the wrong. Think clearly about what happened and decide if you're still on board with your original actions. If you realize that it would have been better to do something different, admit it.\\n3. Staying Resilient\\n3-1. Keep yourself in good physical condition.\\nBeing physically strong and healthy is beneficial for your mind as well. If you're always tired and under the weather, it's going to be a lot more difficult to deal with issues that arise. Don't neglect your body's health if your goal is to be tough.\\nGet plenty of sleep. This will keep your body healthy and help you stay mentally alert. Aim for 7-8 hours per night. Make it a priority!\\nEat plenty of vegetables and fruits. Making these a mainstay of your diet will provide the vitamins and nutrients your mind needs to stay strong.\\nExercise. Cardio and strength training will keep your body and brain in good shape.\\nDestress. If your world is cluttered up with a million things to do, it'll affect your power to make good decisions.\\n3-2. Form strong bonds with other people.\\nThere is strength in numbers. It's easier to build a wall around yourself than to reach out and form deep relationships with other people. Earning and keeping people's trust is no simple feat. It might sound strange, but exhibiting vulnerability with others is actually an important part of being tough.\\nShow your family, friends and colleagues, that you're trustworthy and dependable. Answer emails and calls promptly and be there for people when you're needed.\\nTake on a leadership role in your community. You could volunteer your time to help others, coach a little league team, start a neighborhood garden, and so on. Have a stake in your community!\\n3-3. Enrich your spiritual life.\\nHaving an active spiritual life will help give you the perspective you need when your problems threaten to consume you. Find ways to become more spiritually aware and connected to the rest of the world. Doing yoga, meditating, participating in a place of worship, and spending time in nature are all good ways to enrich yourself spiritually.\\n3-4. Stay true to your values.\\nUltimately, being tough comes down to knowing your values and acting on them. Understanding this will help you deflect petty insults and avoid getting wrapped up in drama. It will help you figure out what's important to you and set out to achieve your goals. Most importantly, it will help you boldly make the choice to do what you know is right.\\nTips\\nTalk in a medium-loud voice. No one will listen if you're too quiet, and no one will pay attention if you're too loud.\\nLook people in the eye when you talk to them.\\nDon't allow your 'tough attitude' to turn into anything too aggressive, keep control.\\nWarnings\\nThreatening people makes it worse, and will land you in a heap of trouble.\\nDon't be egotistical. There is a significant difference between confident and cocky.\\nDon't speak too loudly, or it will sound like you're shouting.\\nRealize that people won't always do things you ask them because of their own reasons. Make sure you listen if they're trying to say something, or otherwise they won't listen to you.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being tough is about much more than talking a big game. Tough people handle difficult situations with strength and grace. They stay positive instead of letting cynicism rule the day, and they're the ones who volunteer to help when someone needs to take the lead. Like wisdom, toughness can only be acquired through experience. In fact, every problem you have to face down gives you a chance to get tougher. Next time you encounter a tricky obstacle, will you waver and wilt, or will you choose to be tough?\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Mindset Shifts\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pump up your confidence.\", \"描述\": \"Toughness and confidence go hand in hand. Being tough comes down to the choices you make about handling any given situation. Having confidence in yourself makes it possible to make the right choice and follow through with it. If you're not sure you're capable of stepping up to a challenge, it's probably because your self-confidence needs a boost.\\nLearn to recognize your true opinions, rather than letting yourself be swayed by what other people think. Trust yourself to know the right way to handle a situation.\\nDon't compare yourself to other people. It's a rabbit hole many of us fall into time and time again, but comparing yourself to others undermines your self-esteem. Next time you're faced with a decision, look inward.\\nLearn to say no. People will respect your opinion more if you actually say what you think. Always look them in the eye when saying no, so they'll know that you're sure.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Stay even-keeled under pressure.\", \"描述\": \"Do you blow your top or burst into tears when something makes you angry or upset? Being tough doesn't mean not having emotions, but it does mean keeping them in check so you can think clearly and make rational decisions. Start reigning yourself in a bit if you tend to react strongly to unwelcome news.\\nBefore you do anything, take a deep breath and count to ten. This well-known trick for keeping yourself together really does work. After 10 seconds, the first surge of emotion will calm down a bit.\\nChannel your energy instead of unleashing it on other people. Exercising, writing in a journal, and practicing meditation are good ways to give your emotions a positive output.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don't worry about the little things.\", \"描述\": \"If you're going to be tough, you can't let disappointing news or a negative comment ruin your day. If every little challenge makes you feel as though you're coming undone, you won't have energy left over for making strong choices regarding bigger issues. Work on developing a thicker skin.\\nWorrying excessively about other people's judgments is a waste of your time. It's a given that people will disagree with you and judge your choices sometimes; that's their problem. As long as what you're doing isn't hurting other people, you're fine.\\nDon't be a hothead. Traffic jams, lines at the post office, and other annoyances are not worth losing your temper. If you can't handle mailing a package without having a meltdown, how are you going to handle a real problem?\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Follow through with your goals\", \"描述\": \"Everyone sets goals, but following through with them is another matter entirely. Most goals worth setting require hours of monotonous hard work to achieve them. If you want to be tough, be willing to put in the time and effort it takes to accomplish goals.\\nBreak your goals down into manageable steps and set a schedule for completing them. This way you'll know exactly what needs to be done in order to get to the finish line.\\nBe ruthlessly persistent. If you give up before you've met your goal, you're letting yourself down. Don't allow yourself to lose interest or get tired of working hard.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Pick yourself up after making a mistake.\", \"描述\": \"Making mistakes is an inevitable part of life. Tough people use their mistakes as tools for learning how to do better next time. If you tend to let your mistakes get the better of you, or worse, blame someone else every time something goes wrong, try taking a different approach to your mistakes.\\nAdmit when you've done something wrong. It's a misconception that in order to be tough, you've got to act like you're always right. In fact, the opposite is true: tough people are willing to endure the discomfort of owning up to their mistakes.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Have an optimistic outlook.\", \"描述\": \"You don't have to be sunny and cheerful all the time, but having a generally optimistic point of view goes hand in hand with being tough. Being hopeful about what the future holds is an asset when life gets hard. People who complain a lot and feel cynical about the future aren't able to cope as well in the face of disaster or despair.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Facing Tough Situations\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Face reality.\", \"描述\": \"Don't attempt to evade difficult situations by running away or pretending they aren't happening. The ability face reality head-on will help you make practical decisions that will ultimately lead to positive change. If you bury your head in the sand, your problems will just keep festering.\\nResist the temptation to ignore your problems by indulging in escapist behaviors. Using drugs and alcohol, watching too much TV, staying up all night online, gambling and other similar behaviors will make it harder to clearly see reality.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Consider your options carefully.\", \"描述\": \"With every situation you encounter, you have a choice to make. It's up to you to decide how you'll react and what actions you should take. Sometimes the right choice is obvious, and other times right and wrong seem impossible to distinguish from one another. Taking the time to think things through clearly will help you choose correctly.\\nLet's say you get a piece of bad news: you weren't admitted into the program you applied for. What are the possible paths you can take from here? Is there a wrong way to react? What's the right way?\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get advice from wise people.\", \"描述\": \"It's not weak to admit you could use some advice. Other people's opinions can be valuable when you're faced with a situation that you haven't encountered before. Ask people you trust what they would do in your position. Remember, though, that only you can ultimately determine the best course. Other people's opinions are secondary to your own values.\\nTrusted friends and family members are good people to confide in when you have a big decision to make. Take their advice with a grain of salt, though, since people who know you, even if they love you very much, might have their own personal stake in the decision you make. For example, your mom would prefer you didn't move to a different town, her advice about what college you should choose might be loaded with her emotions.\\nGoing to a therapist or counselor is a great idea when you feel a professional opinion could be useful.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Let your conscience be your guide.\", \"描述\": \"That little inner voice telling you what choice to make will become louder and stronger as you gain experience and wisdom. After examining a situation from all angles and getting a few outside opinions, it's time to act on your values. Being tough means acting with honor and courage, no matter how scary it might be to do so.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Don't back down (unless you should).\", \"描述\": \"Once you've made your decision, follow through with it and stay true to your values. The tough decision to make is often the least popular, so there will be times when it seems like other people are against you. Stay strong when others try to tear you down for doing what you believe is right.\\nThere are exceptions to this rule - like when the action you took was actually wrong. Don't automatically get defensive if you're accused of being in the wrong. Think clearly about what happened and decide if you're still on board with your original actions. If you realize that it would have been better to do something different, admit it.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Staying Resilient\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep yourself in good physical condition.\", \"描述\": \"Being physically strong and healthy is beneficial for your mind as well. If you're always tired and under the weather, it's going to be a lot more difficult to deal with issues that arise. Don't neglect your body's health if your goal is to be tough.\\nGet plenty of sleep. This will keep your body healthy and help you stay mentally alert. Aim for 7-8 hours per night. Make it a priority!\\nEat plenty of vegetables and fruits. Making these a mainstay of your diet will provide the vitamins and nutrients your mind needs to stay strong.\\nExercise. Cardio and strength training will keep your body and brain in good shape.\\nDestress. If your world is cluttered up with a million things to do, it'll affect your power to make good decisions.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Form strong bonds with other people.\", \"描述\": \"There is strength in numbers. It's easier to build a wall around yourself than to reach out and form deep relationships with other people. Earning and keeping people's trust is no simple feat. It might sound strange, but exhibiting vulnerability with others is actually an important part of being tough.\\nShow your family, friends and colleagues, that you're trustworthy and dependable. Answer emails and calls promptly and be there for people when you're needed.\\nTake on a leadership role in your community. You could volunteer your time to help others, coach a little league team, start a neighborhood garden, and so on. Have a stake in your community!\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Enrich your spiritual life.\", \"描述\": \"Having an active spiritual life will help give you the perspective you need when your problems threaten to consume you. Find ways to become more spiritually aware and connected to the rest of the world. Doing yoga, meditating, participating in a place of worship, and spending time in nature are all good ways to enrich yourself spiritually.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stay true to your values.\", \"描述\": \"Ultimately, being tough comes down to knowing your values and acting on them. Understanding this will help you deflect petty insults and avoid getting wrapped up in drama. It will help you figure out what's important to you and set out to achieve your goals. Most importantly, it will help you boldly make the choice to do what you know is right.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Talk in a medium-loud voice. No one will listen if you're too quiet, and no one will pay attention if you're too loud.\\n\", \"Look people in the eye when you talk to them.\\n\", \"Don't allow your 'tough attitude' to turn into anything too aggressive, keep control.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Threatening people makes it worse, and will land you in a heap of trouble.\\n\", \"Don't be egotistical. There is a significant difference between confident and cocky.\\n\", \"Don't speak too loudly, or it will sound like you're shouting.\\n\", \"Realize that people won't always do things you ask them because of their own reasons. Make sure you listen if they're trying to say something, or otherwise they won't listen to you.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Steps
1-1. Remember that women are tough.
Studies show that women can endure much more pain than men and that women by nature are very tough creatures. We go through a lot of pain, both mentally and physically, simply because we are women. A lot is expected out of us in life, especially in this day and age. We go through childbirth. And look at it this way - anything that can bleed for five days and not die has to be pretty tough!
1-2. When it comes to emotional toughness, look back on your life.
Think of hard things you've had to go through and how you dealt with them, how you made it through. Remind yourself that you made it through those times.
1-3. Take care of yourself.
Stay in shape. When it comes to physical toughness, well, that one can be a bit harder. If you're not already physically tough, work out! Build some muscle! Now don't go body building, but build up your strength so you will be able to take anyone who starts with you.
1-4. Be physically active, especially with sports, and do it earnestly.
Don't join a team just to mine the field for potential boyfriends. Throw yourself into the game, get in touch with your inner competitor, and don't be afraid to break a sweat. Try a really cool sport like martial arts. You get a good workout, meet great people and learn something that you can really use.
1-5. Choose clothes that allow you to become physically active at the drop of a hat.
Jeans, t-shirts, and trainers are always a good bet. High-heels, skirts, and dresses are no-nos if you plan on doing anything physical that day.
1-6. Keep in mind that you are still a female and you have every right to play that up.
Wear make-up, but if you want to look tough, make it look edgy.
1-7. Break a few rules with fashion and make-up.
They say to never pair intense lipstick with intense eyes. Who says you have to follow that rule? Intense, smoky eyes and the right shade of red lipstick can look great.
1-8. Try boots!
Another fashion tip for being tough: boots. A great pair of black combat boots or black knee-high boots and put a tough edge on any outfit.
1-9. For bathing suits, it's pretty simple.
' A good bathing suit is board shorts and a bikini top.
1-10. Get the attitude.
It's more about attitude than it is the way you look. It's one thing to look tough, it's a whole different ball game to actually be tough. Remind yourself that you can take what anyone has to dish out, and be prepared for it at all times.
1-11. Remember to always project confidence.
Confidence is the number one factor in being both feminine and tough. Keep in mind that you're a beautiful woman, but that you can also kick ass when need be. That will get you further than anything else!
1-12. It helps if you don't get freaked out at small things and try to seem brave even if you don't feel it.
You soon will!
1-13. Remember that though you want to be tough, it's okay to cry once in a while.
We can't stay tough for too long a time and keep all our emotions locked in.
Tips
Only wear make-up or nail polish if you feel like it. You don't have to dress up to please someone else, but you don't have to look like road-kill to be tough, either.
Don't try too hard. When someone is trying too hard, it's obvious. Just be yourself but with a lot of confidence and attitude. Then, your natural toughness will shine through!
It's great to be tough, it's not great to be cocky. Being confident and knowing that you can take it is a great attitude to have, but don't walk around like you're indestructible, because no matter how tough you are, no one is.
Warnings
Just because you're tough doesn't mean you can go around starting fights with people or otherwise causing mayhem. Not only does starting fights just to prove your toughness make you look like a bitch, it will probably land you a night in the slammer to boot.
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Be physically active, especially with sports, and do it earnestly.\\nDon't join a team just to mine the field for potential boyfriends. Throw yourself into the game, get in touch with your inner competitor, and don't be afraid to break a sweat. Try a really cool sport like martial arts. You get a good workout, meet great people and learn something that you can really use.\\n1-5. Choose clothes that allow you to become physically active at the drop of a hat.\\nJeans, t-shirts, and trainers are always a good bet. High-heels, skirts, and dresses are no-nos if you plan on doing anything physical that day.\\n1-6. Keep in mind that you are still a female and you have every right to play that up.\\nWear make-up, but if you want to look tough, make it look edgy.\\n1-7. Break a few rules with fashion and make-up.\\nThey say to never pair intense lipstick with intense eyes. Who says you have to follow that rule? Intense, smoky eyes and the right shade of red lipstick can look great.\\n1-8. Try boots!\\nAnother fashion tip for being tough: boots. A great pair of black combat boots or black knee-high boots and put a tough edge on any outfit.\\n1-9. For bathing suits, it's pretty simple.\\n' A good bathing suit is board shorts and a bikini top.\\n1-10. Get the attitude.\\nIt's more about attitude than it is the way you look. It's one thing to look tough, it's a whole different ball game to actually be tough. Remind yourself that you can take what anyone has to dish out, and be prepared for it at all times.\\n1-11. Remember to always project confidence.\\nConfidence is the number one factor in being both feminine and tough. Keep in mind that you're a beautiful woman, but that you can also kick ass when need be. That will get you further than anything else!\\n1-12. It helps if you don't get freaked out at small things and try to seem brave even if you don't feel it.\\nYou soon will!\\n1-13. Remember that though you want to be tough, it's okay to cry once in a while.\\nWe can't stay tough for too long a time and keep all our emotions locked in.\\nTips\\nOnly wear make-up or nail polish if you feel like it. You don't have to dress up to please someone else, but you don't have to look like road-kill to be tough, either.\\nDon't try too hard. When someone is trying too hard, it's obvious. Just be yourself but with a lot of confidence and attitude. Then, your natural toughness will shine through!\\nIt's great to be tough, it's not great to be cocky. Being confident and knowing that you can take it is a great attitude to have, but don't walk around like you're indestructible, because no matter how tough you are, no one is.\\nWarnings\\nJust because you're tough doesn't mean you can go around starting fights with people or otherwise causing mayhem. Not only does starting fights just to prove your toughness make you look like a bitch, it will probably land you a night in the slammer to boot.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"A lot of the time women are expected to either be very tough and tomboyish, or be extremely feminine, afraid to get even just a little grit and dirt under our nails. The good news is that the best of both worlds can exist in one woman!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Remember that women are tough.\", \"描述\": \"Studies show that women can endure much more pain than men and that women by nature are very tough creatures. We go through a lot of pain, both mentally and physically, simply because we are women. A lot is expected out of us in life, especially in this day and age. We go through childbirth. And look at it this way - anything that can bleed for five days and not die has to be pretty tough!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"When it comes to emotional toughness, look back on your life.\", \"描述\": \"Think of hard things you've had to go through and how you dealt with them, how you made it through. Remind yourself that you made it through those times.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take care of yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Stay in shape. When it comes to physical toughness, well, that one can be a bit harder. If you're not already physically tough, work out! Build some muscle! Now don't go body building, but build up your strength so you will be able to take anyone who starts with you.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be physically active, especially with sports, and do it earnestly.\", \"描述\": \"Don't join a team just to mine the field for potential boyfriends. Throw yourself into the game, get in touch with your inner competitor, and don't be afraid to break a sweat. Try a really cool sport like martial arts. You get a good workout, meet great people and learn something that you can really use.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Choose clothes that allow you to become physically active at the drop of a hat.\", \"描述\": \"Jeans, t-shirts, and trainers are always a good bet. High-heels, skirts, and dresses are no-nos if you plan on doing anything physical that day.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Keep in mind that you are still a female and you have every right to play that up.\", \"描述\": \"Wear make-up, but if you want to look tough, make it look edgy.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Break a few rules with fashion and make-up.\", \"描述\": \"They say to never pair intense lipstick with intense eyes. Who says you have to follow that rule? Intense, smoky eyes and the right shade of red lipstick can look great.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Try boots!\", \"描述\": \"Another fashion tip for being tough: boots. A great pair of black combat boots or black knee-high boots and put a tough edge on any outfit.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"For bathing suits, it's pretty simple.\", \"描述\": \"' A good bathing suit is board shorts and a bikini top.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Get the attitude.\", \"描述\": \"It's more about attitude than it is the way you look. It's one thing to look tough, it's a whole different ball game to actually be tough. Remind yourself that you can take what anyone has to dish out, and be prepared for it at all times.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Remember to always project confidence.\", \"描述\": \"Confidence is the number one factor in being both feminine and tough. Keep in mind that you're a beautiful woman, but that you can also kick ass when need be. 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Being confident and knowing that you can take it is a great attitude to have, but don't walk around like you're indestructible, because no matter how tough you are, no one is.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Just because you're tough doesn't mean you can go around starting fights with people or otherwise causing mayhem. Not only does starting fights just to prove your toughness make you look like a bitch, it will probably land you a night in the slammer to boot.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be Transparent
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1. Steps
1-1. Express your meaning and purposes in an unpretentious, clear, "transparent," manner so your motives "may be seen straight through" -- so that your ways are not posing, pretending, crooked, crazy or paranoid.
1-2. Have freedom of information about what is being considered or what will be and then was decided,
what things, when, how, why and
why not about the "other" things.
1-3. Be open, not just obvious, and not seeming self-centered, but be clear about revealing important things about yourself and your relationships, limitations and expectations, in work and play.
Reveal, in a nice and acceptable way, what you want and don't want -- not hiding from yourself, or from others.
Transparent - 2 b: easily detected or seen through : obvious c: readily understood d: characterized by visibility or accessibility of information...[1]
1-4. Plant the right seed for a good crop or family -- not weeds and thorns, and not pretending and posing.
Have what you "plant" into your life and the lives of friends, family and into other persons, as well as your own life: "good seed" are needed to produce good fruit.
1-5. Get an education and plan your inputs, efforts and outcome and generally for helping your family and friends as much as possible, but be easy to see through, not cheating or tricking people.
1-6. Make agreements above the table not under the table.
1-7. Lead by example.
Show them -- don't just tell them: it's what works in the long run!
Don't get all mad over mistakes or bumps in the road.
Think about having good attitudes.
Don't throw stones if you don't want a rock hitting your head in turn.
Help your family, friends and enemies to do better as much as possible;
1-8. Learn and teach by example to be happy, have fun and joy filled days.
1-9. Have an open door policy to learn and teach.
1-10. Purposely teach, create math and science ability
Take math tutoring.
1-11. Never say I have no talent!
-- no talent??? -- it can all be nurtured: musical talents or any in others!
Take music reading lessons even if you have no ear for music.
Teach yourself, even...
1-12. So -- at work, with friends, in the family -- be a communicator and a leader, or be walked around or over.
Tips
"Be like a steady rain... but not a flood."
Have audits of how the family spends its money.*Come out of your prayer closet believing that God lives, loves, hears and heard you.
Make the rules to include everyone, even people who seem to mean well who may make a slip in judgment -- so, "it's not just about mean or evil people." Things happen, but prepare yourself and children ahead of time to avoid much potential trouble.
Warnings
Don't tuck your knowledge in a safe deposit box or bury it.
Explain that tricky people may say the opposite of the truth. Most "bad behaving" people look nice, but they're not really that nice and may even be a relative like a cousin, an uncle, an aunt and look exactly like any other good looking people who do wrong things, and the child is easily confused. The goal is not "just being perfect" -- a saint -- but being good while not hiding or keeping back truth that would not just be nonsense (kind of like advanced math to a child), or not damaging, belittling or hurtful to a child or anyone for that matter.
Don't 'bury your talent in excuses like "I never had any talent." Nonsense:
Even tone deaf (tin eared) people can have musical talent -- just don't play by ear.
Don't hide in a hole or in your mind.
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Plant the right seed for a good crop or family -- not weeds and thorns, and not pretending and posing.\\nHave what you \\\"plant\\\" into your life and the lives of friends, family and into other persons, as well as your own life: \\\"good seed\\\" are needed to produce good fruit.\\n1-5. Get an education and plan your inputs, efforts and outcome and generally for helping your family and friends as much as possible, but be easy to see through, not cheating or tricking people.\\n\\n1-6. Make agreements above the table not under the table.\\n\\n1-7. Lead by example.\\nShow them -- don't just tell them: it's what works in the long run!\\nDon't get all mad over mistakes or bumps in the road.\\nThink about having good attitudes.\\nDon't throw stones if you don't want a rock hitting your head in turn.\\nHelp your family, friends and enemies to do better as much as possible;\\n1-8. Learn and teach by example to be happy, have fun and joy filled days.\\n\\n1-9. Have an open door policy to learn and teach.\\n\\n1-10. Purposely teach, create math and science ability\\n\\nTake math tutoring.\\n1-11. Never say I have no talent!\\n-- no talent??? -- it can all be nurtured: musical talents or any in others!\\nTake music reading lessons even if you have no ear for music.\\nTeach yourself, even...\\n1-12. So -- at work, with friends, in the family -- be a communicator and a leader, or be walked around or over.\\n\\nTips\\n\\\"Be like a steady rain... but not a flood.\\\"\\nHave audits of how the family spends its money.*Come out of your prayer closet believing that God lives, loves, hears and heard you.\\nMake the rules to include everyone, even people who seem to mean well who may make a slip in judgment -- so, \\\"it's not just about mean or evil people.\\\" Things happen, but prepare yourself and children ahead of time to avoid much potential trouble.\\nWarnings\\nDon't tuck your knowledge in a safe deposit box or bury it.\\nExplain that tricky people may say the opposite of the truth. Most \\\"bad behaving\\\" people look nice, but they're not really that nice and may even be a relative like a cousin, an uncle, an aunt and look exactly like any other good looking people who do wrong things, and the child is easily confused. The goal is not \\\"just being perfect\\\" -- a saint -- but being good while not hiding or keeping back truth that would not just be nonsense (kind of like advanced math to a child), or not damaging, belittling or hurtful to a child or anyone for that matter.\\nDon't 'bury your talent in excuses like \\\"I never had any talent.\\\" Nonsense:\\n\\nEven tone deaf (tin eared) people can have musical talent -- just don't play by ear.\\nDon't hide in a hole or in your mind.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Dirty tricks are everywhere -- have you ever been \\\"fooled\\\" or even fooled yourself. Have you heard familiarity\\\" breeds contempt, Hmm!: but then does a transparent life lead to contempt of the individual -- no, that's silly -- or is there a root of a problem there... Oh, do you know people who want someone else to do their work and to pamper them, while they seem worthless: well, they may be pretty transparent, so that trait alone is not a cure. But it is important not to just pretend and not to trick people; find out why and how to be transparent.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Express your meaning and purposes in an unpretentious, clear, \\\"transparent,\\\" manner so your motives \\\"may be seen straight through\\\" -- so that your ways are not posing, pretending, crooked, crazy or paranoid.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Have freedom of information about what is being considered or what will be and then was decided,\", \"描述\": \"what things, when, how, why and\\nwhy not about the \\\"other\\\" things.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be open, not just obvious, and not seeming self-centered, but be clear about revealing important things about yourself and your relationships, limitations and expectations, in work and play.\", \"描述\": \"Reveal, in a nice and acceptable way, what you want and don't want -- not hiding from yourself, or from others.\\nTransparent - 2 b: easily detected or seen through : obvious c: readily understood d: characterized by visibility or accessibility of information...[1]\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Plant the right seed for a good crop or family -- not weeds and thorns, and not pretending and posing.\", \"描述\": \"Have what you \\\"plant\\\" into your life and the lives of friends, family and into other persons, as well as your own life: \\\"good seed\\\" are needed to produce good fruit.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get an education and plan your inputs, efforts and outcome and generally for helping your family and friends as much as possible, but be easy to see through, not cheating or tricking people.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Make agreements above the table not under the table.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Lead by example.\", \"描述\": \"Show them -- don't just tell them: it's what works in the long run!\\nDon't get all mad over mistakes or bumps in the road.\\nThink about having good attitudes.\\nDon't throw stones if you don't want a rock hitting your head in turn.\\nHelp your family, friends and enemies to do better as much as possible;\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Learn and teach by example to be happy, have fun and joy filled days.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Have an open door policy to learn and teach.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Purposely teach, create math and science ability\", \"描述\": \"Take math tutoring.\"}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Never say I have no talent!\", \"描述\": \"-- no talent??? -- it can all be nurtured: musical talents or any in others!\\nTake music reading lessons even if you have no ear for music.\\nTeach yourself, even...\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"So -- at work, with friends, in the family -- be a communicator and a leader, or be walked around or over.\", \"描述\": \"\"}], \"小提示\": [\"\\\"Be like a steady rain... but not a flood.\\\"\\n\", \"Have audits of how the family spends its money.*Come out of your prayer closet believing that God lives, loves, hears and heard you.\\n\", \"Make the rules to include everyone, even people who seem to mean well who may make a slip in judgment -- so, \\\"it's not just about mean or evil people.\\\" Things happen, but prepare yourself and children ahead of time to avoid much potential trouble.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't tuck your knowledge in a safe deposit box or bury it.\\n\", \"Explain that tricky people may say the opposite of the truth. 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1. Tumblr Basics
1-1. Pick a catchy username.
You want to pick a username that people remember, so try to avoid using a bunch of numbers (like rockergurl555666.tumblr.com) because people won't remember it, or be intrigued by it.
If you can, pick a clever or odd username that people will want to ask you about, or that link to the theme you want for your tumblr (if it's a fandom blog about Teen Wolf, use something that refers to your part in the fandom [like if Allison is your favorite character, have something that links to her]) or if you interested in mythology choose a mythology type username (especially something that is lesser known, because there is less likelihood that someone has already taken that username).
1-2. Pick a theme for your Tumblr.
This is a many-pronged step, because you'll need to pick a specific theme for your Tumblr (i.e. how the blog looks) as well as what you want your Tumblr to specifically focus on.
You can build your own custom Tumblr theme, if you want to be really unique, but you have to know how to write html. Try to make one that corresponds to the overall content theme of your Tumblr. If it's good enough, or interesting enough, people might want to use it themselves. You can make it possible for people to use your theme, if you want.
For the theme of your blog think back to your username. Are you most interested in a fandom blog, an art blog, a fashion blog, a social justice blog? Having a personal blog is fine, but you won't collect as many followers as you will with a theme-specific Tumblr.
1-3. Understand the difference between reblogging and reposting.
Reposting is basically considered to be stealing, since you're uploading the original content of someone else, while reblogging shows where the original post came from, usually linking back to the artist, .gif maker, or text post.
Reposting is very bad form, so if you're uploading content make sure that it's content that's original to you. Especially if you get to be Tumblr famous, the repost will probably get back to the original creator.
Don't repost stuff from weheartit, because most of their content has been stolen from the original creators and that sort of behavior won't make you terribly popular.
1-4. Learn about tagging.
Tagging your posts properly is a great way to get likes and reblogs and have people take notice of the things that you're posting on your Tumblr. If you tag your posts, people who follow those particular tags will see the post. If they're interested they might like it or reblog it and if your blog has similar content they may even start following you.
You can use multiple tags and they work in the following ways: if you have a lot of similar content on your Tumblr, you can make specific tags for it and reuse those each post (for example, if you post a lot of Star Trek: The Original Series, you could have a specific tag you use for that). If there's a holiday coming up a lot of people tag for that (for example, Halloween).
Remember to be careful while tagging. If you are interested in a particular ship (relationship between two characters, typically romantic) and there's a rival ship (a pairing that puts one of the characters from your ship with a different character), don't start writing posts about how much you hate that pairing and then tag it with that tag. You will not make friends and gain followers with that method.
1-5. Learning about following.
Following basically means that you follow a Tumblr. You can be in a mutual follow with someone, meaning that they follow you and you follow them, or you can follow someone and they don't follow you, or someone follows you and you don't follow them. (Some popular blogs- brohaydo.tumblr.com , stupid-galaxies.tumblr.com)
People who tend to have lots of followers, don't typically follow you back the second you follow them. That's okay. If you get to know them, interact and talk with them, they'll be more likely to follow you.
Follow people whose content is similar to yours, or who are part of the niche area you've chosen. You'll be more likely to get into the niche and start recognising the big names in it.
1-6. Pay attention to statistics.
Take a look at posts of yours that get more likes than other ones and lean towards posts that are in a similar fashion to those that are more popular than some of your others.
2. Getting Famous
2-1. Find your niche.
While some personal Tumblrs do end up getting famous, they're usually the ones of people who are already famous like authors, actors, or comic artists. Even some popular fanfiction writers can become popular based on their fanfiction writing and still maintain a heavily followed personal blog (although they do tend to reblog and post things about specific fandoms).
Think about your interests: you can blog about things like dance, photography, art, writing, social justice, various fandoms (books, movies, t.v. shows). These are all very different parts of Tumblr, so you'll need to choose which you're going to go for, if you want to be famous on the website.
Some examples of Tumblrs that have gotten incredibly popular: medievalpoc.tumblr.com, venushowell.tumblr.com, omgthatdress.tumblr.com, oldloves.tumblr.com, compendiously.tumblr.com, twitterthecomic.tumblr.com, clipart.tumblr.com You'll notice that Tumblrs like these have one specific theme and tend to generate their own content (so that other people reblog them).
2-2. Pay attention to who is getting Tumblr famous.
Look around at the people in your niche and see who has lots of followers and who gets reblogged all the time. Check out what their Tumblr theme is like? How do they interact with followers?
Check out the posts they make. Are there lots of text posts (with things like social justice rants, or meta on a t.v. show, or poetry)? Do they share personal things? Are they funny (humor is something that can elevate you to popularity)? If they are writing text posts, are they long and rambling or short and to the point? It really depends on your niche, what kinds of posts are most sought after.
Do they make or post lots of .gifs? What is the quality of the .gifs? Do they link t.v. scenes with popular quotes?
See if they mix things up with pictures. Check out the quality of the images, and how the aesthetic matches their Tumblr. Do they post many pictures of themselves, or not at all?
Pay attention to your own posts that your followers are interested in, which posts are liked and reblogged the most. You can generate more content like those and will probably start accumulating more followers.
2-3. Talk to Tumblr famous people.
You especially want to find the people who are famous in your niche. Don't just ask them to promote you to their followers, ask them questions and engage with them on a more personal level. A lot of times Tumblr famous people will post the little surveys that go around Tumblr asking about things like favorite fictional character, first kiss, food they eat most often. This is a good way of getting to know them and allowing them to get to know you.
Check their FAQ's page first (this is their frequently asked questions) to see what sort of behavior is appropriate. They may not like having people ask for promos (and never make someone feel like that's the only reason you're contacting them) and what sort of questions they're tired of getting asked.
Once you've gotten on a friendly basis with them, maybe drop a line asking if they would check out some aspect of your blog and promote it to their followers. It's especially good if you have a specific thing in mind (like you're writing a fanfiction, or poetry, or you've just started trying out a new fashion look). If you're polite and specific about it, they probably won't mind helping you out.
2-4. Do promos.
Now these are hard to do well, but they can help you gain more followers and more recognition, but they can also irritate people, so they are to be used carefully. Basically, getting a promo means having someone promote your Tumblr on their Tumblr, and you can do a mutual promoting, etc. What you really want is to have someone who has a lot of followers in your niche do the promoting.
A promo for promo (p4p) is basically where you promote someone on your blog and they promote you on their blog. The nice thing about this way is that your followers and their followers only are seeing one blog and not having to look through a list of promotions. Of course, if the person you're promoting with doesn't have that many followers, you're not going to get much success out of it.
A double promo is basically a regular promo, only with two people running the show. If you're following both of them, then you have the chance to get promoted by both of them, which can be good because it reaches a greater number of potential followers.
Solo promo is where you're the only one getting promoted. This can come when you're friends with one of the more Tumblr famous people, who talks about you on their blog, or recommends you to their followers.
2-5. Make original posts.
One of the keys to getting to be a Tumblr famous person is to have a blog that is original. It sounds clichéd, but it's actually true. The posts that spread around Tumblr like wildfire are the ones that are original, therefore everyone wants to reblog what they said, or the art they made, etc. You'll need to come up with your own original posts, and they can be anything that has to do with your niche subject.
You can make original text posts. This means writing meta about t.v. shows or books, if that's your niche, or dissecting bad literature. It means putting your opinions and your ideas out there for people to see. That may seem scary, but, even if people don't agree with your ideas, they'll still be engaging you and then other people will see and be intrigued. (This is not to say that you should go around making racists or sexist, etc. comments and then say "but that's just my opinion;" be polite.)
Learn to make your own .gifs, especially if you're in fandom. Then people will be interested in reblogging your work, rather than you only reblogging the work of other people. In fact, people might even ask you to make .gifs, if you're good enough.
Post your own artwork, whatever it is: drawing, photography, creative writing (fanfiction counts). It will get your artwork out there and make sure that your Tumblr has lots of original content.
2-6. Be consistent about blogging.
Consistency is another key to being Tumblr famous. Even when the famous folks aren't around to blog, they usually have set up a queue, which means that the blog continues publishing content even when the blogger isn't there.
Make sure that you respond to people, particularly since the more people you talk to on Tumblr the more likely you'll get steadily more popular and have more followers.
2-7. Be patient.
There really is no way to get Tumblr famous overnight, except by accident (people have had a rather insignificant text post take off like wildfire around the site, but that's as likely as getting struck by lightning). Forge relationships with people and you'll find that you'll start getting more and more followers.
Remember that a lot of people who are Tumblr famous now have been on Tumblr for several years and have taken time to accumulate followers and get accustomed to how things work.
Tips
Try to stay active or add posts to your queue. In this way, your Tumblr will keep updating.
Post/reblog to express yourself! You don't need to post certain things to fit in!
Try not to do too many shoutouts because your followers can get sick of seeing them.
Warnings
As you get more famous you'll definitely get trolls in your inbox and hate mail (doesn't matter how nice and non-confrontational you are). The best way to deal with them is with humor. Publish their comment publicly with a humorous .gif or snarky comment. If they get really abusive, report them.
Sometimes what you have to do to be famous eats into your time, principles and resources––always ask yourself if it's truly worth the effort.
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Understand the difference between reblogging and reposting.\\nReposting is basically considered to be stealing, since you're uploading the original content of someone else, while reblogging shows where the original post came from, usually linking back to the artist, .gif maker, or text post.\\nReposting is very bad form, so if you're uploading content make sure that it's content that's original to you. Especially if you get to be Tumblr famous, the repost will probably get back to the original creator.\\nDon't repost stuff from weheartit, because most of their content has been stolen from the original creators and that sort of behavior won't make you terribly popular.\\n1-4. Learn about tagging.\\nTagging your posts properly is a great way to get likes and reblogs and have people take notice of the things that you're posting on your Tumblr. If you tag your posts, people who follow those particular tags will see the post. If they're interested they might like it or reblog it and if your blog has similar content they may even start following you.\\nYou can use multiple tags and they work in the following ways: if you have a lot of similar content on your Tumblr, you can make specific tags for it and reuse those each post (for example, if you post a lot of Star Trek: The Original Series, you could have a specific tag you use for that). If there's a holiday coming up a lot of people tag for that (for example, Halloween).\\nRemember to be careful while tagging. If you are interested in a particular ship (relationship between two characters, typically romantic) and there's a rival ship (a pairing that puts one of the characters from your ship with a different character), don't start writing posts about how much you hate that pairing and then tag it with that tag. You will not make friends and gain followers with that method.\\n1-5. Learning about following.\\nFollowing basically means that you follow a Tumblr. You can be in a mutual follow with someone, meaning that they follow you and you follow them, or you can follow someone and they don't follow you, or someone follows you and you don't follow them. (Some popular blogs- brohaydo.tumblr.com , stupid-galaxies.tumblr.com)\\nPeople who tend to have lots of followers, don't typically follow you back the second you follow them. That's okay. If you get to know them, interact and talk with them, they'll be more likely to follow you.\\nFollow people whose content is similar to yours, or who are part of the niche area you've chosen. You'll be more likely to get into the niche and start recognising the big names in it.\\n1-6. Pay attention to statistics.\\nTake a look at posts of yours that get more likes than other ones and lean towards posts that are in a similar fashion to those that are more popular than some of your others.\\n2. Getting Famous\\n2-1. Find your niche.\\nWhile some personal Tumblrs do end up getting famous, they're usually the ones of people who are already famous like authors, actors, or comic artists. Even some popular fanfiction writers can become popular based on their fanfiction writing and still maintain a heavily followed personal blog (although they do tend to reblog and post things about specific fandoms).\\nThink about your interests: you can blog about things like dance, photography, art, writing, social justice, various fandoms (books, movies, t.v. shows). These are all very different parts of Tumblr, so you'll need to choose which you're going to go for, if you want to be famous on the website.\\nSome examples of Tumblrs that have gotten incredibly popular: medievalpoc.tumblr.com, venushowell.tumblr.com, omgthatdress.tumblr.com, oldloves.tumblr.com, compendiously.tumblr.com, twitterthecomic.tumblr.com, clipart.tumblr.com You'll notice that Tumblrs like these have one specific theme and tend to generate their own content (so that other people reblog them).\\n2-2. Pay attention to who is getting Tumblr famous.\\nLook around at the people in your niche and see who has lots of followers and who gets reblogged all the time. Check out what their Tumblr theme is like? How do they interact with followers?\\nCheck out the posts they make. Are there lots of text posts (with things like social justice rants, or meta on a t.v. show, or poetry)? Do they share personal things? Are they funny (humor is something that can elevate you to popularity)? 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A lot of times Tumblr famous people will post the little surveys that go around Tumblr asking about things like favorite fictional character, first kiss, food they eat most often. This is a good way of getting to know them and allowing them to get to know you.\\nCheck their FAQ's page first (this is their frequently asked questions) to see what sort of behavior is appropriate. They may not like having people ask for promos (and never make someone feel like that's the only reason you're contacting them) and what sort of questions they're tired of getting asked.\\nOnce you've gotten on a friendly basis with them, maybe drop a line asking if they would check out some aspect of your blog and promote it to their followers. It's especially good if you have a specific thing in mind (like you're writing a fanfiction, or poetry, or you've just started trying out a new fashion look). If you're polite and specific about it, they probably won't mind helping you out.\\n2-4. Do promos.\\nNow these are hard to do well, but they can help you gain more followers and more recognition, but they can also irritate people, so they are to be used carefully. Basically, getting a promo means having someone promote your Tumblr on their Tumblr, and you can do a mutual promoting, etc. What you really want is to have someone who has a lot of followers in your niche do the promoting.\\nA promo for promo (p4p) is basically where you promote someone on your blog and they promote you on their blog. The nice thing about this way is that your followers and their followers only are seeing one blog and not having to look through a list of promotions. Of course, if the person you're promoting with doesn't have that many followers, you're not going to get much success out of it.\\nA double promo is basically a regular promo, only with two people running the show. If you're following both of them, then you have the chance to get promoted by both of them, which can be good because it reaches a greater number of potential followers.\\nSolo promo is where you're the only one getting promoted. This can come when you're friends with one of the more Tumblr famous people, who talks about you on their blog, or recommends you to their followers.\\n2-5. Make original posts.\\nOne of the keys to getting to be a Tumblr famous person is to have a blog that is original. It sounds clichéd, but it's actually true. The posts that spread around Tumblr like wildfire are the ones that are original, therefore everyone wants to reblog what they said, or the art they made, etc. You'll need to come up with your own original posts, and they can be anything that has to do with your niche subject.\\nYou can make original text posts. This means writing meta about t.v. shows or books, if that's your niche, or dissecting bad literature. It means putting your opinions and your ideas out there for people to see. That may seem scary, but, even if people don't agree with your ideas, they'll still be engaging you and then other people will see and be intrigued. (This is not to say that you should go around making racists or sexist, etc. comments and then say \\\"but that's just my opinion;\\\" be polite.)\\nLearn to make your own .gifs, especially if you're in fandom. Then people will be interested in reblogging your work, rather than you only reblogging the work of other people. In fact, people might even ask you to make .gifs, if you're good enough.\\nPost your own artwork, whatever it is: drawing, photography, creative writing (fanfiction counts). It will get your artwork out there and make sure that your Tumblr has lots of original content.\\n2-6. Be consistent about blogging.\\nConsistency is another key to being Tumblr famous. 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You don't need to post certain things to fit in!\\nTry not to do too many shoutouts because your followers can get sick of seeing them.\\nWarnings\\nAs you get more famous you'll definitely get trolls in your inbox and hate mail (doesn't matter how nice and non-confrontational you are). The best way to deal with them is with humor. Publish their comment publicly with a humorous .gif or snarky comment. If they get really abusive, report them.\\nSometimes what you have to do to be famous eats into your time, principles and resources––always ask yourself if it's truly worth the effort.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Tumblr is a great way to become popular on the Internet, especially if you know how to get and keep followers. But how does one achieve the elusive \\\"Tumblr fame\\\" that is coveted by so many? 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Especially if you get to be Tumblr famous, the repost will probably get back to the original creator.\\nDon't repost stuff from weheartit, because most of their content has been stolen from the original creators and that sort of behavior won't make you terribly popular.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Learn about tagging.\", \"描述\": \"Tagging your posts properly is a great way to get likes and reblogs and have people take notice of the things that you're posting on your Tumblr. If you tag your posts, people who follow those particular tags will see the post. If they're interested they might like it or reblog it and if your blog has similar content they may even start following you.\\nYou can use multiple tags and they work in the following ways: if you have a lot of similar content on your Tumblr, you can make specific tags for it and reuse those each post (for example, if you post a lot of Star Trek: The Original Series, you could have a specific tag you use for that). If there's a holiday coming up a lot of people tag for that (for example, Halloween).\\nRemember to be careful while tagging. If you are interested in a particular ship (relationship between two characters, typically romantic) and there's a rival ship (a pairing that puts one of the characters from your ship with a different character), don't start writing posts about how much you hate that pairing and then tag it with that tag. You will not make friends and gain followers with that method.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Learning about following.\", \"描述\": \"Following basically means that you follow a Tumblr. You can be in a mutual follow with someone, meaning that they follow you and you follow them, or you can follow someone and they don't follow you, or someone follows you and you don't follow them. (Some popular blogs- brohaydo.tumblr.com , stupid-galaxies.tumblr.com)\\nPeople who tend to have lots of followers, don't typically follow you back the second you follow them. That's okay. If you get to know them, interact and talk with them, they'll be more likely to follow you.\\nFollow people whose content is similar to yours, or who are part of the niche area you've chosen. You'll be more likely to get into the niche and start recognising the big names in it.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Pay attention to statistics.\", \"描述\": \"Take a look at posts of yours that get more likes than other ones and lean towards posts that are in a similar fashion to those that are more popular than some of your others.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Getting Famous\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find your niche.\", \"描述\": \"While some personal Tumblrs do end up getting famous, they're usually the ones of people who are already famous like authors, actors, or comic artists. 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Don't just ask them to promote you to their followers, ask them questions and engage with them on a more personal level. A lot of times Tumblr famous people will post the little surveys that go around Tumblr asking about things like favorite fictional character, first kiss, food they eat most often. This is a good way of getting to know them and allowing them to get to know you.\\nCheck their FAQ's page first (this is their frequently asked questions) to see what sort of behavior is appropriate. They may not like having people ask for promos (and never make someone feel like that's the only reason you're contacting them) and what sort of questions they're tired of getting asked.\\nOnce you've gotten on a friendly basis with them, maybe drop a line asking if they would check out some aspect of your blog and promote it to their followers. It's especially good if you have a specific thing in mind (like you're writing a fanfiction, or poetry, or you've just started trying out a new fashion look). If you're polite and specific about it, they probably won't mind helping you out.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Do promos.\", \"描述\": \"Now these are hard to do well, but they can help you gain more followers and more recognition, but they can also irritate people, so they are to be used carefully. Basically, getting a promo means having someone promote your Tumblr on their Tumblr, and you can do a mutual promoting, etc. What you really want is to have someone who has a lot of followers in your niche do the promoting.\\nA promo for promo (p4p) is basically where you promote someone on your blog and they promote you on their blog. The nice thing about this way is that your followers and their followers only are seeing one blog and not having to look through a list of promotions. Of course, if the person you're promoting with doesn't have that many followers, you're not going to get much success out of it.\\nA double promo is basically a regular promo, only with two people running the show. If you're following both of them, then you have the chance to get promoted by both of them, which can be good because it reaches a greater number of potential followers.\\nSolo promo is where you're the only one getting promoted. This can come when you're friends with one of the more Tumblr famous people, who talks about you on their blog, or recommends you to their followers.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Make original posts.\", \"描述\": \"One of the keys to getting to be a Tumblr famous person is to have a blog that is original. It sounds clichéd, but it's actually true. The posts that spread around Tumblr like wildfire are the ones that are original, therefore everyone wants to reblog what they said, or the art they made, etc. You'll need to come up with your own original posts, and they can be anything that has to do with your niche subject.\\nYou can make original text posts. This means writing meta about t.v. shows or books, if that's your niche, or dissecting bad literature. It means putting your opinions and your ideas out there for people to see. That may seem scary, but, even if people don't agree with your ideas, they'll still be engaging you and then other people will see and be intrigued. (This is not to say that you should go around making racists or sexist, etc. comments and then say \\\"but that's just my opinion;\\\" be polite.)\\nLearn to make your own .gifs, especially if you're in fandom. Then people will be interested in reblogging your work, rather than you only reblogging the work of other people. 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1. Having a Twee Personality
1-1. Be open-hearted.
If there's one thing twee people do above all else, it's wear their heart on their sleeve. If twee people are happy, they let the world know by wearing a grin and putting a pep in their step. If twee people are sad, they listen to nostalgic mixtapes, cry, drink tea, and go on solemn walks. "Twee" is practically synonymous with being open-hearted, so don't be afraid to show the world the way you feel!
Being open-hearted also means being sensitive to the way others make you feel. Twee people's emotions are strongly affected by their relationships with their friends, their families, and especially their significant others. Romance is the source of great joy and heartbreak for twee people, who tend to invest their emotions heavily in their relationships.
1-2. Be sweet.
When most people hear the word "twee", they associate it with a sort of extreme, even affected (but not insincere) sweetness. In fact, "sweet" is even one of the words used to describe "twee" in the Merriam-Webster dictionary. Twee people should aim to be polite, humble, and invested in their interactions with others. In addition, twee people should be conscious of other people's feelings and should hold others' feelings in high importance.
1-3. Get crushes easily.
Twee people are quick to fall in love and are firm believers in love at first sight. The twee-est may harbor innocent, semi-childish crushes for people before they even speak to them for the first time. Twee romance plays out like a high-school fantasy: boy meets girl, boy and girl share an instant connection, boy shows his affection in a cute and modest but memorable way, girl reciprocates, and so on. For twee people, there's no age too old for holding hands at the park, so don't be afraid to be as bashful as a teenager the next time you ask someone out.
Twee people also (stereotypically) tend to be attracted to certain types of people (although, on the other hand, harmless defiance of convention is very twee). As a reference, think of the romantic leads in twee movies, like Zoey Deschanel's Summer Finn in 500 Days of Summer or Woody Allen's Alvy Singer in Annie Hall — intellectual, witty, whimsical, spontaneous, emotionally intense people.
1-4. Enjoy simple pleasures.
Twee people don't spend their free time test-driving sports cars, mingling at glamorous night clubs, and going on expensive trips. Instead, they're more likely to enjoy less "serious", financially-demanding pursuits. To a twee person, an afternoon spent picnicking in the park, writing in a journal, playing folk songs, or enjoying a cup of coffee at a local cafe is just as appealing (if not more so) than any of the options listed above. When they can, twee people enjoy life's simpler joys — below is just a short sample list of the sorts of things twee people might be caught doing on a day off:
Hiking
Browsing the selection at a record store
Writing and/or practicing their own music
Making a mixtape for a friend or crush
Watching old movies
Writing their own literature or nonfiction
Enjoying local sights and sounds with their significant other
1-5. Reject the “seriousness” of adulthood.
To twee people, many traditional ideas about adulthood are outdated, misguided, or flat-out wrong. Being an adult doesn't necessarily mean acting overly serious or abandoning one's passions in favor of a stable career to a twee person. In addition, the time after graduating college isn't necessarily an invitation to start "acting like an grown-up" — though twee adults obviously need to practice responsible decision-making to be able to hold down a job and/or raise a family, they often pride themselves on their ability to retain some of their positive childish traits as they grow up. This can include:
Having a mischievous sense of humor
Having a somewhat dainty, non-conventional sense of style
Enjoying childish hobbies and past-times
Having an innocent, wide-eyed appreciation for the world
2. Looking Twee
2-1. Shop at thrift stores.
Like the members of many other modern subcultures, twee people prefer to do their shopping at vintage, retro, and thrift stores rather than at new clothing stores. These stores have two big advantages — they save money, which can be tight for someone who has a stereotypically twee profession (like "card writer" — see Her and 500 Days of Summer) and they also sell old, worn, and out-of-fashion clothes, which make up the majority of a twee person's wardrobe.
In general, the goal of twee fashion is to cultivate a "retro", endearingly gawky aesthetic. There are many different ways to do this — read on for more info.
2-2. Look for dainty accessories.
Twee people love their accessories. To a twee person, each accessory is a chance to add a new bit of retro, "cool-but-uncool" flavor to their outfit. Look for unconventional or out-of fashion belts, jewelry, purses, backpacks, shoes, and more to give the perfect finishing touches to your twee ensemble.
In addition, you'll want to wear glasses if you can. These classic twee accessories instantly can give almost anyone a bookish, intellectual look, making them the perfect complement to any twee outfit. When possible, go with older styles of glasses like horn rims, wayfarers, and so on.
2-3. Go for a somewhat “nerdy” or bookish look.
It's only natural that, with tastes that favor intellectual pursuits, twee people can tend to dress in a way that's somewhat nerdy. There's a big difference between wearing a pocket protector and being "twee-nerdy", however — while "ordinary" nerd style usually comes about when someone inadvertently wears something unflattering, "twee-nerdy" style is completely intentional and, thus, can look pretty chic. Below are just a few nerdy fashion ideas:
For men: Skinny jeans or colored chinos, vintage printed shirts with dorky patterns (tucked in), older formal wear.
For women: Skirts/jumpers, gawky glasses, plastic barrettes, tops with dorky prints, "librarian-esque" outfits.
2-4. Go for a “woodland” look.
For the twee person who's into the outdoors, nerdy clothes may not be the best fit. In this case, it's time to fully embrace the twee love of autumnal fashion choices. Beards, sweaters, and knitted items dominate twee outdoors fashion. Just a few outfit ideas are:
For men: Beards, plaid shirts, flannel, oversized jackets, band tees, bomber jackets.
For women: Scarves, floral dresses, sun hats, knitted skirts, boots.
For both: Shirts with cute animal prints, leather/knitted belts and accessories, poorly-sized sweaters and cardigans, almost anything bought from Etsy.
2-5. Go for a delightfully “old-fashioned” look.
Retro chic is a huge part of twee fashion — if it's not fashionable to wear a certain piece of clothing today, there's a decent chance that it can be incorporated into a twee outfit. For the best outfits, look for bold retro pieces that compliment your natural look. Below are just a few ideas to get you started:
For women: Vintage leather shoes, non-black dress pants, embroidered shirts.
For women: "Sailor" tops, old-fashioned stockings, tops with frilly lace collars, button-up skirts, vintage leather belts.
For both: Faded tees (twee band tees are best), anything with conspicuous buttons.
3. Having Twee Tastes
3-1. Listen to twee music.
Twee people love their music. Stereotypically, twee people show a preference for a certain sweet, wistful style of rock/pop music that became popular in the late 80s and early 90s. Just a few of the artists that are generally considered to be part of the twee "canon" are:
Belle and Sebastian
The Pains of Being Pure at Heart
The Vaselines
Calvin Johnson
Peter, Bjorn, and John.
Any artist on NME's Classic C86 mixtape
For maximum twee-ness, you'll probably also want to listen to your own custom mixtapes — or, better yet, ones your crushes have made for you. If you don't know where to start, try checking twee discussion sites like Twee.net for user-submitted playlists.
3-2. Enjoy twee literature.
Twee people often like to consider themselves as being well-read, so a twee person will usually be quick to discuss their favorite pieces of literature and show off their book collection. A twee person's tastes in literature will (stereotypically) reflect their emotional nature and childlike curiosity for the world around them. Just a few samples of twee reading material include:
The Catcher in the Rye (a twee classic)
Dave Eggers, Miranda July, Arundhati Roy, and other modern twee masters
Esoteric non-fiction (e.g., books about obscure historical events, nature, etc.)
Whimsical children's books (Where the Wild Things Are, etc.)
3-3. Watch twee films.
Though the term "twee" may not often be used on the silver screen, certain movies are indelibly associated with the twee lifestyle. These movies usually portray quirky romances and/or a character's struggle with his or her looming adulthood and often use both comedy and drama to achieve a bittersweet tone. Below is just a short list of movies that are often considered to either be "twee" or to portray twee characters:
Nearly all Wes Anderson movies
Most Michael Cera and Jesse Eisenberg-starring movies (Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist, The Squid and the Whale, etc.)
Most Zoey Deschanel-starring movies (500 Days of Summer, etc.)
Most indie (or indie-style) romances and comedies (Juno, Garden State, etc.)
Older movies that share themes with the ones above (Annie Hall, The Graduate, etc.)
3-4. Have a twee living space.
Twee people take pleasure in designing the aesthetics of their living space to reflect their twee tastes. The rooms of twee people are their "sanctuaries" of twee-ness — places where they can be immersed in their twee interests. Try adding some of the following touches to your room to make it a little more twee:
Retro/out-of-fashion furniture
Lots of books and/or vinyl records
Old-fashioned wallpaper or pastel-colored paints
Posters, etc. for twee media
Somewhat childish flourishes (bunk beds, etc.)
When in doubt, use bedrooms as portrayed in Wes Anderson movies as style guides — the director's aesthetic is unmistakably twee.
3-5. Have twee hobbies.
As noted above, twee people tend to enjoy simple, yet satisfying pursuits. Typical twee hobbies are delightfully whimsical — sometimes even bizarrely formal. Most of all, however, twee hobbies are natural expressions of the participant's twee sensibilities. Just a few twee hobby ideas include:
Tea parties
Art exhibitions
Twee music concerts
Picnics/hikes
Wine tastings
Indie film screenings
Browsing libraries
Tips
Try shopping at thrift & antique stores. You can find some really unique pieces for cheap if you don't mind wearing used. Make sure you wash everything well though!
The internet is great for music, clothes, jewelry - everything you'll ever need! Try Shana Logic, Etsy and little odd-forest. Watch out for shipping though!
Don't wear too much make-up. A little eye make-up is fine, but don't overdo it.
Warnings
Most people don't know what twee is.
Downloading music is fine, but if you really love a band you should support them by buying their records.
Many people will never have heard of the music you listen to.
Don't overdo the childish act. There's a line between cute & annoying.
if you're very new to twee, or aren't getting what twee is, you should just stick to basic twee, and then shape and form your own unique style as you understand more; twee is indie pendant!
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These stores have two big advantages — they save money, which can be tight for someone who has a stereotypically twee profession (like \\\"card writer\\\" — see Her and 500 Days of Summer) and they also sell old, worn, and out-of-fashion clothes, which make up the majority of a twee person's wardrobe.\\nIn general, the goal of twee fashion is to cultivate a \\\"retro\\\", endearingly gawky aesthetic. There are many different ways to do this — read on for more info.\\n2-2. Look for dainty accessories.\\nTwee people love their accessories. To a twee person, each accessory is a chance to add a new bit of retro, \\\"cool-but-uncool\\\" flavor to their outfit. Look for unconventional or out-of fashion belts, jewelry, purses, backpacks, shoes, and more to give the perfect finishing touches to your twee ensemble.\\nIn addition, you'll want to wear glasses if you can. These classic twee accessories instantly can give almost anyone a bookish, intellectual look, making them the perfect complement to any twee outfit. When possible, go with older styles of glasses like horn rims, wayfarers, and so on.\\n2-3. Go for a somewhat “nerdy” or bookish look.\\nIt's only natural that, with tastes that favor intellectual pursuits, twee people can tend to dress in a way that's somewhat nerdy. There's a big difference between wearing a pocket protector and being \\\"twee-nerdy\\\", however — while \\\"ordinary\\\" nerd style usually comes about when someone inadvertently wears something unflattering, \\\"twee-nerdy\\\" style is completely intentional and, thus, can look pretty chic. Below are just a few nerdy fashion ideas:\\nFor men: Skinny jeans or colored chinos, vintage printed shirts with dorky patterns (tucked in), older formal wear.\\nFor women: Skirts/jumpers, gawky glasses, plastic barrettes, tops with dorky prints, \\\"librarian-esque\\\" outfits.\\n2-4. Go for a “woodland” look.\\nFor the twee person who's into the outdoors, nerdy clothes may not be the best fit. In this case, it's time to fully embrace the twee love of autumnal fashion choices. Beards, sweaters, and knitted items dominate twee outdoors fashion. Just a few outfit ideas are:\\nFor men: Beards, plaid shirts, flannel, oversized jackets, band tees, bomber jackets.\\nFor women: Scarves, floral dresses, sun hats, knitted skirts, boots.\\nFor both: Shirts with cute animal prints, leather/knitted belts and accessories, poorly-sized sweaters and cardigans, almost anything bought from Etsy.\\n2-5. Go for a delightfully “old-fashioned” look.\\nRetro chic is a huge part of twee fashion — if it's not fashionable to wear a certain piece of clothing today, there's a decent chance that it can be incorporated into a twee outfit. For the best outfits, look for bold retro pieces that compliment your natural look. Below are just a few ideas to get you started:\\nFor women: Vintage leather shoes, non-black dress pants, embroidered shirts.\\nFor women: \\\"Sailor\\\" tops, old-fashioned stockings, tops with frilly lace collars, button-up skirts, vintage leather belts.\\nFor both: Faded tees (twee band tees are best), anything with conspicuous buttons.\\n3. Having Twee Tastes\\n3-1. Listen to twee music.\\nTwee people love their music. Stereotypically, twee people show a preference for a certain sweet, wistful style of rock/pop music that became popular in the late 80s and early 90s. Just a few of the artists that are generally considered to be part of the twee \\\"canon\\\" are:\\nBelle and Sebastian\\nThe Pains of Being Pure at Heart\\nThe Vaselines\\nCalvin Johnson\\nPeter, Bjorn, and John.\\nAny artist on NME's Classic C86 mixtape\\nFor maximum twee-ness, you'll probably also want to listen to your own custom mixtapes — or, better yet, ones your crushes have made for you. If you don't know where to start, try checking twee discussion sites like Twee.net for user-submitted playlists.\\n3-2. Enjoy twee literature.\\nTwee people often like to consider themselves as being well-read, so a twee person will usually be quick to discuss their favorite pieces of literature and show off their book collection. A twee person's tastes in literature will (stereotypically) reflect their emotional nature and childlike curiosity for the world around them. Just a few samples of twee reading material include:\\n\\nThe Catcher in the Rye (a twee classic)\\nDave Eggers, Miranda July, Arundhati Roy, and other modern twee masters\\nEsoteric non-fiction (e.g., books about obscure historical events, nature, etc.)\\nWhimsical children's books (Where the Wild Things Are, etc.)\\n3-3. Watch twee films.\\nThough the term \\\"twee\\\" may not often be used on the silver screen, certain movies are indelibly associated with the twee lifestyle. These movies usually portray quirky romances and/or a character's struggle with his or her looming adulthood and often use both comedy and drama to achieve a bittersweet tone. Below is just a short list of movies that are often considered to either be \\\"twee\\\" or to portray twee characters:\\nNearly all Wes Anderson movies\\nMost Michael Cera and Jesse Eisenberg-starring movies (Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist, The Squid and the Whale, etc.)\\nMost Zoey Deschanel-starring movies (500 Days of Summer, etc.)\\nMost indie (or indie-style) romances and comedies (Juno, Garden State, etc.)\\nOlder movies that share themes with the ones above (Annie Hall, The Graduate, etc.)\\n3-4. Have a twee living space.\\nTwee people take pleasure in designing the aesthetics of their living space to reflect their twee tastes. The rooms of twee people are their \\\"sanctuaries\\\" of twee-ness — places where they can be immersed in their twee interests. Try adding some of the following touches to your room to make it a little more twee:\\nRetro/out-of-fashion furniture\\nLots of books and/or vinyl records\\nOld-fashioned wallpaper or pastel-colored paints\\nPosters, etc. for twee media\\nSomewhat childish flourishes (bunk beds, etc.)\\nWhen in doubt, use bedrooms as portrayed in Wes Anderson movies as style guides — the director's aesthetic is unmistakably twee.\\n3-5. Have twee hobbies.\\nAs noted above, twee people tend to enjoy simple, yet satisfying pursuits. Typical twee hobbies are delightfully whimsical — sometimes even bizarrely formal. Most of all, however, twee hobbies are natural expressions of the participant's twee sensibilities. Just a few twee hobby ideas include:\\nTea parties\\nArt exhibitions\\nTwee music concerts\\nPicnics/hikes\\nWine tastings\\nIndie film screenings\\nBrowsing libraries\\nTips\\nTry shopping at thrift & antique stores. You can find some really unique pieces for cheap if you don't mind wearing used. Make sure you wash everything well though!\\nThe internet is great for music, clothes, jewelry - everything you'll ever need! Try Shana Logic, Etsy and little odd-forest. Watch out for shipping though!\\nDon't wear too much make-up. A little eye make-up is fine, but don't overdo it.\\nWarnings\\nMost people don't know what twee is.\\nDownloading music is fine, but if you really love a band you should support them by buying their records.\\nMany people will never have heard of the music you listen to.\\nDon't overdo the childish act. There's a line between cute & annoying.\\nif you're very new to twee, or aren't getting what twee is, you should just stick to basic twee, and then shape and form your own unique style as you understand more; twee is indie pendant!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Do you always seem to smile? Do you have a sweet, sensitive, childlike approach to life? Do you love all forms of quirky retro media? You may be twee. Twee-ness is as much an attitude as it is a way of life — twee people have a whimsical, nostalgic air about them and this is reflected in both the way they carry themselves and the ways they spend their time. If you think you may be twee, don't worry — this condition can be treated (though never cured) with a steady regimen of romantic heartache and Wes Anderson movies.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Having a Twee Personality\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be open-hearted.\", \"描述\": \"If there's one thing twee people do above all else, it's wear their heart on their sleeve. If twee people are happy, they let the world know by wearing a grin and putting a pep in their step. If twee people are sad, they listen to nostalgic mixtapes, cry, drink tea, and go on solemn walks. \\\"Twee\\\" is practically synonymous with being open-hearted, so don't be afraid to show the world the way you feel!\\nBeing open-hearted also means being sensitive to the way others make you feel. Twee people's emotions are strongly affected by their relationships with their friends, their families, and especially their significant others. Romance is the source of great joy and heartbreak for twee people, who tend to invest their emotions heavily in their relationships.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be sweet.\", \"描述\": \"When most people hear the word \\\"twee\\\", they associate it with a sort of extreme, even affected (but not insincere) sweetness. In fact, \\\"sweet\\\" is even one of the words used to describe \\\"twee\\\" in the Merriam-Webster dictionary. Twee people should aim to be polite, humble, and invested in their interactions with others. In addition, twee people should be conscious of other people's feelings and should hold others' feelings in high importance.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get crushes easily.\", \"描述\": \"Twee people are quick to fall in love and are firm believers in love at first sight. The twee-est may harbor innocent, semi-childish crushes for people before they even speak to them for the first time. Twee romance plays out like a high-school fantasy: boy meets girl, boy and girl share an instant connection, boy shows his affection in a cute and modest but memorable way, girl reciprocates, and so on. For twee people, there's no age too old for holding hands at the park, so don't be afraid to be as bashful as a teenager the next time you ask someone out.\\nTwee people also (stereotypically) tend to be attracted to certain types of people (although, on the other hand, harmless defiance of convention is very twee). As a reference, think of the romantic leads in twee movies, like Zoey Deschanel's Summer Finn in 500 Days of Summer or Woody Allen's Alvy Singer in Annie Hall — intellectual, witty, whimsical, spontaneous, emotionally intense people.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Enjoy simple pleasures.\", \"描述\": \"Twee people don't spend their free time test-driving sports cars, mingling at glamorous night clubs, and going on expensive trips. Instead, they're more likely to enjoy less \\\"serious\\\", financially-demanding pursuits. To a twee person, an afternoon spent picnicking in the park, writing in a journal, playing folk songs, or enjoying a cup of coffee at a local cafe is just as appealing (if not more so) than any of the options listed above. When they can, twee people enjoy life's simpler joys — below is just a short sample list of the sorts of things twee people might be caught doing on a day off:\\nHiking\\nBrowsing the selection at a record store\\nWriting and/or practicing their own music\\nMaking a mixtape for a friend or crush\\nWatching old movies\\nWriting their own literature or nonfiction\\nEnjoying local sights and sounds with their significant other\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Reject the “seriousness” of adulthood.\", \"描述\": \"To twee people, many traditional ideas about adulthood are outdated, misguided, or flat-out wrong. Being an adult doesn't necessarily mean acting overly serious or abandoning one's passions in favor of a stable career to a twee person. In addition, the time after graduating college isn't necessarily an invitation to start \\\"acting like an grown-up\\\" — though twee adults obviously need to practice responsible decision-making to be able to hold down a job and/or raise a family, they often pride themselves on their ability to retain some of their positive childish traits as they grow up. This can include:\\nHaving a mischievous sense of humor\\nHaving a somewhat dainty, non-conventional sense of style\\nEnjoying childish hobbies and past-times\\nHaving an innocent, wide-eyed appreciation for the world\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Looking Twee\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Shop at thrift stores.\", \"描述\": \"Like the members of many other modern subcultures, twee people prefer to do their shopping at vintage, retro, and thrift stores rather than at new clothing stores. These stores have two big advantages — they save money, which can be tight for someone who has a stereotypically twee profession (like \\\"card writer\\\" — see Her and 500 Days of Summer) and they also sell old, worn, and out-of-fashion clothes, which make up the majority of a twee person's wardrobe.\\nIn general, the goal of twee fashion is to cultivate a \\\"retro\\\", endearingly gawky aesthetic. There are many different ways to do this — read on for more info.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Look for dainty accessories.\", \"描述\": \"Twee people love their accessories. To a twee person, each accessory is a chance to add a new bit of retro, \\\"cool-but-uncool\\\" flavor to their outfit. Look for unconventional or out-of fashion belts, jewelry, purses, backpacks, shoes, and more to give the perfect finishing touches to your twee ensemble.\\nIn addition, you'll want to wear glasses if you can. These classic twee accessories instantly can give almost anyone a bookish, intellectual look, making them the perfect complement to any twee outfit. When possible, go with older styles of glasses like horn rims, wayfarers, and so on.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Go for a somewhat “nerdy” or bookish look.\", \"描述\": \"It's only natural that, with tastes that favor intellectual pursuits, twee people can tend to dress in a way that's somewhat nerdy. There's a big difference between wearing a pocket protector and being \\\"twee-nerdy\\\", however — while \\\"ordinary\\\" nerd style usually comes about when someone inadvertently wears something unflattering, \\\"twee-nerdy\\\" style is completely intentional and, thus, can look pretty chic. Below are just a few nerdy fashion ideas:\\nFor men: Skinny jeans or colored chinos, vintage printed shirts with dorky patterns (tucked in), older formal wear.\\nFor women: Skirts/jumpers, gawky glasses, plastic barrettes, tops with dorky prints, \\\"librarian-esque\\\" outfits.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Go for a “woodland” look.\", \"描述\": \"For the twee person who's into the outdoors, nerdy clothes may not be the best fit. In this case, it's time to fully embrace the twee love of autumnal fashion choices. Beards, sweaters, and knitted items dominate twee outdoors fashion. Just a few outfit ideas are:\\nFor men: Beards, plaid shirts, flannel, oversized jackets, band tees, bomber jackets.\\nFor women: Scarves, floral dresses, sun hats, knitted skirts, boots.\\nFor both: Shirts with cute animal prints, leather/knitted belts and accessories, poorly-sized sweaters and cardigans, almost anything bought from Etsy.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Go for a delightfully “old-fashioned” look.\", \"描述\": \"Retro chic is a huge part of twee fashion — if it's not fashionable to wear a certain piece of clothing today, there's a decent chance that it can be incorporated into a twee outfit. For the best outfits, look for bold retro pieces that compliment your natural look. Below are just a few ideas to get you started:\\nFor women: Vintage leather shoes, non-black dress pants, embroidered shirts.\\nFor women: \\\"Sailor\\\" tops, old-fashioned stockings, tops with frilly lace collars, button-up skirts, vintage leather belts.\\nFor both: Faded tees (twee band tees are best), anything with conspicuous buttons.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Having Twee Tastes\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Listen to twee music.\", \"描述\": \"Twee people love their music. Stereotypically, twee people show a preference for a certain sweet, wistful style of rock/pop music that became popular in the late 80s and early 90s. Just a few of the artists that are generally considered to be part of the twee \\\"canon\\\" are:\\nBelle and Sebastian\\nThe Pains of Being Pure at Heart\\nThe Vaselines\\nCalvin Johnson\\nPeter, Bjorn, and John.\\nAny artist on NME's Classic C86 mixtape\\nFor maximum twee-ness, you'll probably also want to listen to your own custom mixtapes — or, better yet, ones your crushes have made for you. If you don't know where to start, try checking twee discussion sites like Twee.net for user-submitted playlists.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Enjoy twee literature.\", \"描述\": \"Twee people often like to consider themselves as being well-read, so a twee person will usually be quick to discuss their favorite pieces of literature and show off their book collection. A twee person's tastes in literature will (stereotypically) reflect their emotional nature and childlike curiosity for the world around them. Just a few samples of twee reading material include:\\n\\nThe Catcher in the Rye (a twee classic)\\nDave Eggers, Miranda July, Arundhati Roy, and other modern twee masters\\nEsoteric non-fiction (e.g., books about obscure historical events, nature, etc.)\\nWhimsical children's books (Where the Wild Things Are, etc.)\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Watch twee films.\", \"描述\": \"Though the term \\\"twee\\\" may not often be used on the silver screen, certain movies are indelibly associated with the twee lifestyle. These movies usually portray quirky romances and/or a character's struggle with his or her looming adulthood and often use both comedy and drama to achieve a bittersweet tone. Below is just a short list of movies that are often considered to either be \\\"twee\\\" or to portray twee characters:\\nNearly all Wes Anderson movies\\nMost Michael Cera and Jesse Eisenberg-starring movies (Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist, The Squid and the Whale, etc.)\\nMost Zoey Deschanel-starring movies (500 Days of Summer, etc.)\\nMost indie (or indie-style) romances and comedies (Juno, Garden State, etc.)\\nOlder movies that share themes with the ones above (Annie Hall, The Graduate, etc.)\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Have a twee living space.\", \"描述\": \"Twee people take pleasure in designing the aesthetics of their living space to reflect their twee tastes. The rooms of twee people are their \\\"sanctuaries\\\" of twee-ness — places where they can be immersed in their twee interests. 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1. Look past first impressions.
You only start to understand others when you spend quality time together.
This isn't to say that first impressions aren't important. However, more often than not, people make their mind up completely about someone without enough information to do so. The first time you meet someone they may be frazzled or worried, giving off a wholly different impression than they would normally.
2. Put yourself in someone else’s position.
Change your perspective before rushing to judgment.
Pretend you’re going through a day in the life of another person, whether it’s a friend, loved one, acquaintance, or someone else entirely. Think about every aspect of their daily life, and what their schedule is really like. A role-reversal can provide a lot of valuable perspective, and help you better understand another person.
For instance, if your child or student is acting disrespectful, walk yourself through their daily schedule. They might be stressed because of their course load, or have trouble getting to bed at a consistent time each night.
If your friend seems a bit closed-off, think about her daily routine. She might have had a tough day at work, or might be having a difficult time at home.
3. Use inclusive language.
Say “we” and “us” instead of “I” and “me.”
This may not seem like a huge change, but this small vocabulary shift can really make a difference. When you naturally include others in your language, you may have an easier time tuning in to how other people are thinking and feeling.
For instance, when tackling a project at work or school, you might say, “Let’s figure out how we’re going to finish this” instead of “Here’s what I’m going to do.”
4. Ask questions.
Thoughtful questions show that you’d like to understand another person’s life better.
Instead of jumping into your own story or statement, take plenty of time to listen and digest what the other person is saying.
For example, instead of jumping into a story about how your day is going, ask the other person how their day is going instead.
You can ask meaningful, empathetic questions to just about anyone, even if you aren’t that close with them. Questions or statements like “Long day, huh” or “Looks like you’re having a tough day” are a great way to get a conversation going.
5. Do a mental empathy exercise.
Keep tabs on your friends and loved ones.
Think about their mood over the past few days, and if they’ve seemed a little less chipper than usual. Then, walk yourself through their daily life, and try to pinpoint anything that could make them feel anxious, sad, angry, or any other emotion. Ask yourself if you’re adding to the negativity in any way, and if there’s anything you can do to help.
For instance, if your parent or guardian seems a little sad, you might offer to help around the home, or lend them a listening ear.
Do this exercise whenever you’d like. It’s a great way to practice thinking with an empathetic mindset!
6. Read books.
Experts agree that reading books can improve your empathy.
Think about it: when you read a book, be it fiction or nonfiction, you’re actually entering another person’s world. This gives you a great chance to really understand and mesh with that character’s feelings and experiences.
A Lucky Man by Jamel Brinkley, Where the Dead Sit Talking by Brandon Tobson, and The Great Believers by Rebecca Makkah all explore experiences from different walks of life, and are great titles to check out.
Nonfiction books like The Making of Asian America: A History by Erika Lee and Heartland: A Memoir of Working Hard and Being Broke in the Richest Country on Earth by Sarah Smarsh are other good options.
7. Listen to other people’s experiences.
Documentaries and podcasts are great ways to expand your own horizons.
Newspaper and magazine articles are also great ways to see and understand what other individuals and communities are going through.
The New York Times runs an “Op-Docs” channel, which has lots of documentaries that discuss race.
Documentaries like “Hale,” “Almost Sunrise,” and “Poor Kids” detail a lot of different life stories and experiences.
Podcasts like “Code Switch,” “All My Relations,” and “1619 Podcast” also explore different experiences and walks of life.
8. Talk to new people.
Strike up a conversation with a colleague or stranger.
If they seem interested, chat with them about their daily life and what their day-to-day routine is like. Honest conversations are great ways to learn and understand more about what’s going on around you.
You might talk to a co-worker you don’t cross paths with very often, or say hi to a neighbor who lives down the street.
9. Follow new people on social media.
Look for people who come from a different background than you.
They might be a different race or ethnicity, or practice a different religion. Having a diverse news feed can really expand your worldview, and help you expand your horizons.
If you practice Judaism, you might follow Muslim or Hindu individuals on social media.
If you’re white, you might follow more people of color.
10. Help out in your community.
Volunteering is a hands-on way to be more understanding.
Look for opportunities where you can make a difference, like organizing a political rally, joining a committee at your church or house of worship, or helping at a community garden. Working as a community will help you focus on what brings everyone together, not what sets you apart as individuals.
You don’t need to tackle a huge project to be active in your community. For instance, if you just went through a loss, you might join a support group, where you can meet and connect with other like-minded people in your community.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Look past first impressions.\\nYou only start to understand others when you spend quality time together.\\nThis isn't to say that first impressions aren't important. However, more often than not, people make their mind up completely about someone without enough information to do so. The first time you meet someone they may be frazzled or worried, giving off a wholly different impression than they would normally.\\n2. Put yourself in someone else’s position.\\nChange your perspective before rushing to judgment.\\nPretend you’re going through a day in the life of another person, whether it’s a friend, loved one, acquaintance, or someone else entirely. Think about every aspect of their daily life, and what their schedule is really like. A role-reversal can provide a lot of valuable perspective, and help you better understand another person.\\nFor instance, if your child or student is acting disrespectful, walk yourself through their daily schedule. They might be stressed because of their course load, or have trouble getting to bed at a consistent time each night.\\nIf your friend seems a bit closed-off, think about her daily routine. She might have had a tough day at work, or might be having a difficult time at home.\\n3. Use inclusive language.\\nSay “we” and “us” instead of “I” and “me.”\\nThis may not seem like a huge change, but this small vocabulary shift can really make a difference. When you naturally include others in your language, you may have an easier time tuning in to how other people are thinking and feeling.\\nFor instance, when tackling a project at work or school, you might say, “Let’s figure out how we’re going to finish this” instead of “Here’s what I’m going to do.”\\n4. Ask questions.\\nThoughtful questions show that you’d like to understand another person’s life better.\\nInstead of jumping into your own story or statement, take plenty of time to listen and digest what the other person is saying.\\nFor example, instead of jumping into a story about how your day is going, ask the other person how their day is going instead.\\nYou can ask meaningful, empathetic questions to just about anyone, even if you aren’t that close with them. Questions or statements like “Long day, huh” or “Looks like you’re having a tough day” are a great way to get a conversation going.\\n5. Do a mental empathy exercise.\\nKeep tabs on your friends and loved ones.\\nThink about their mood over the past few days, and if they’ve seemed a little less chipper than usual. Then, walk yourself through their daily life, and try to pinpoint anything that could make them feel anxious, sad, angry, or any other emotion. Ask yourself if you’re adding to the negativity in any way, and if there’s anything you can do to help.\\nFor instance, if your parent or guardian seems a little sad, you might offer to help around the home, or lend them a listening ear.\\nDo this exercise whenever you’d like. It’s a great way to practice thinking with an empathetic mindset!\\n6. Read books.\\nExperts agree that reading books can improve your empathy.\\nThink about it: when you read a book, be it fiction or nonfiction, you’re actually entering another person’s world. This gives you a great chance to really understand and mesh with that character’s feelings and experiences.\\n\\nA Lucky Man by Jamel Brinkley, Where the Dead Sit Talking by Brandon Tobson, and The Great Believers by Rebecca Makkah all explore experiences from different walks of life, and are great titles to check out.\\nNonfiction books like The Making of Asian America: A History by Erika Lee and Heartland: A Memoir of Working Hard and Being Broke in the Richest Country on Earth by Sarah Smarsh are other good options.\\n7. Listen to other people’s experiences.\\nDocumentaries and podcasts are great ways to expand your own horizons.\\nNewspaper and magazine articles are also great ways to see and understand what other individuals and communities are going through.\\nThe New York Times runs an “Op-Docs” channel, which has lots of documentaries that discuss race.\\nDocumentaries like “Hale,” “Almost Sunrise,” and “Poor Kids” detail a lot of different life stories and experiences.\\nPodcasts like “Code Switch,” “All My Relations,” and “1619 Podcast” also explore different experiences and walks of life.\\n8. Talk to new people.\\nStrike up a conversation with a colleague or stranger.\\nIf they seem interested, chat with them about their daily life and what their day-to-day routine is like. Honest conversations are great ways to learn and understand more about what’s going on around you.\\nYou might talk to a co-worker you don’t cross paths with very often, or say hi to a neighbor who lives down the street.\\n9. Follow new people on social media.\\nLook for people who come from a different background than you.\\nThey might be a different race or ethnicity, or practice a different religion. Having a diverse news feed can really expand your worldview, and help you expand your horizons.\\nIf you practice Judaism, you might follow Muslim or Hindu individuals on social media.\\nIf you’re white, you might follow more people of color.\\n10. Help out in your community.\\nVolunteering is a hands-on way to be more understanding.\\nLook for opportunities where you can make a difference, like organizing a political rally, joining a committee at your church or house of worship, or helping at a community garden. Working as a community will help you focus on what brings everyone together, not what sets you apart as individuals.\\nYou don’t need to tackle a huge project to be active in your community. For instance, if you just went through a loss, you might join a support group, where you can meet and connect with other like-minded people in your community.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Empathy, or the ability to understand what another person is going through, can be a tough skill to master. How do you say the right thing without coming off the wrong way? Don’t worry. There are plenty of ways you can become more empathetic in your daily life.\\n\\nHere are 10 steps you can take to become a more understanding person.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Look past first impressions.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You only start to understand others when you spend quality time together.\", \"描述\": \"This isn't to say that first impressions aren't important. However, more often than not, people make their mind up completely about someone without enough information to do so. The first time you meet someone they may be frazzled or worried, giving off a wholly different impression than they would normally.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Put yourself in someone else’s position.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Change your perspective before rushing to judgment.\", \"描述\": \"Pretend you’re going through a day in the life of another person, whether it’s a friend, loved one, acquaintance, or someone else entirely. Think about every aspect of their daily life, and what their schedule is really like. A role-reversal can provide a lot of valuable perspective, and help you better understand another person.\\nFor instance, if your child or student is acting disrespectful, walk yourself through their daily schedule. They might be stressed because of their course load, or have trouble getting to bed at a consistent time each night.\\nIf your friend seems a bit closed-off, think about her daily routine. She might have had a tough day at work, or might be having a difficult time at home.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Use inclusive language.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Say “we” and “us” instead of “I” and “me.”\", \"描述\": \"This may not seem like a huge change, but this small vocabulary shift can really make a difference. When you naturally include others in your language, you may have an easier time tuning in to how other people are thinking and feeling.\\nFor instance, when tackling a project at work or school, you might say, “Let’s figure out how we’re going to finish this” instead of “Here’s what I’m going to do.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Ask questions.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Thoughtful questions show that you’d like to understand another person’s life better.\", \"描述\": \"Instead of jumping into your own story or statement, take plenty of time to listen and digest what the other person is saying.\\nFor example, instead of jumping into a story about how your day is going, ask the other person how their day is going instead.\\nYou can ask meaningful, empathetic questions to just about anyone, even if you aren’t that close with them. Questions or statements like “Long day, huh” or “Looks like you’re having a tough day” are a great way to get a conversation going.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Do a mental empathy exercise.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep tabs on your friends and loved ones.\", \"描述\": \"Think about their mood over the past few days, and if they’ve seemed a little less chipper than usual. Then, walk yourself through their daily life, and try to pinpoint anything that could make them feel anxious, sad, angry, or any other emotion. Ask yourself if you’re adding to the negativity in any way, and if there’s anything you can do to help.\\nFor instance, if your parent or guardian seems a little sad, you might offer to help around the home, or lend them a listening ear.\\nDo this exercise whenever you’d like. 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This gives you a great chance to really understand and mesh with that character’s feelings and experiences.\\n\\nA Lucky Man by Jamel Brinkley, Where the Dead Sit Talking by Brandon Tobson, and The Great Believers by Rebecca Makkah all explore experiences from different walks of life, and are great titles to check out.\\nNonfiction books like The Making of Asian America: A History by Erika Lee and Heartland: A Memoir of Working Hard and Being Broke in the Richest Country on Earth by Sarah Smarsh are other good options.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Listen to other people’s experiences.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Documentaries and podcasts are great ways to expand your own horizons.\", \"描述\": \"Newspaper and magazine articles are also great ways to see and understand what other individuals and communities are going through.\\nThe New York Times runs an “Op-Docs” channel, which has lots of documentaries that discuss race.\\nDocumentaries like “Hale,” “Almost Sunrise,” and “Poor Kids” detail a lot of different life stories and experiences.\\nPodcasts like “Code Switch,” “All My Relations,” and “1619 Podcast” also explore different experiences and walks of life.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Talk to new people.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Strike up a conversation with a colleague or stranger.\", \"描述\": \"If they seem interested, chat with them about their daily life and what their day-to-day routine is like. 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1. Being the Authentic You
1-1. Identify your personal goals and values.
Make a list of the things that are really important to you. Next, consider the things you most want to achieve in your lifetime. Review these lists to figure out what you most value. Then, choose 1-3 personal goals that are important to you.
For example, you might value creativity, helping others, and caring for the environment.
Your goal may be to reduce your carbon footprint, to write a novel, or to serve your community.
Try getting in touch with your inner child—don't be afraid to have fun and be who you really are!
1-2. Pursue your hobbies and interests to make yourself more interesting.
Think about the things you enjoy doing most, then figure out how you can include them in your life more. Set aside time throughout your week to pursue these activities. This will help you be more true to yourself, and it’ll show people that you’re an exciting person.
For example, you might play music in a local coffee shop, write a blog about movies, knit hats that you sell, or participate in local theater.
Don't be afraid to break out of your comfort zone and try something new. If you've always wanted to play the drums, sign up for classes! If you love seeing the sunrise, get up early and watch the sun come up.
1-3. Challenge the beliefs
You’ve probably absorbed a lot of rules about life from the people around you, like your parents, teachers, or religious leaders. Some of the beliefs will feel true for you, but others may not. Think about the beliefs you learned from others, then question whether or not they feel true for you. In some cases, you may want to talk to other people or do some research to learn more about the topic. Finally, adopt beliefs that fit with your personal values.
For example, your parents may have taught you that the only way to be successful in life is to get a high paying job. However, this might not feel true to you. Instead, you may prefer to pursue your passion for teaching dance.
Similarly, let's say your family taught you not to trust people who are a different religion from you. After thinking about it, you might decide that you don't like judging people based on labels and want to treat everyone equally.
1-4. Embrace your flaws
No one is perfect, and it’s okay to have flaws! Instead of looking at your flaws as a bad thing, view them as a balance that helps you recognize your best qualities. Then, try to stop criticizing yourself and focus on being your best self.
For example, you might feel like your feet are too big or you might wish you could sing better. Chances are, you're the only one who notices these "flaws." Either way, they help make you unique, so try to accept them.
It’s okay to work on improving your flaws if they bother you. For instance, let’s say that you get tired after you try to run a mile. You might set a goal to improve your fitness level if this bothers you. Similarly, you might want to attend tutoring sessions to help you do better at math if you're struggling in class. However, you don't need to feel bad about these things.
1-5. Silence your inner critic.
It’s likely that your inner critic is worried that people are going to judge you. That’s probably because you felt judged in the past. To quiet this voice, figure out what you’re afraid will happen if you just be yourself. Then, challenge those thoughts by focusing on what could go right and thinking about your strengths.
For example, your inner critic might say, “People will think you look stupid.” This fear might stem from getting teased in middle school. Tell yourself, “People who criticize me feel insecure about themselves, and I’m not going to let them drag me down with them. I’m creative and strong, so I’m going to show that off.”
2. Broadening Your Horizons
2-1. Try new things to get more experiences.
Your experiences make you more unique, so be open to trying new things. Attend local events and festivals, try out new hobbies, and sample new foods. Here are some things you can try:
Eat foods from other cultures.
Go to local museums.
Visit nearby towns.
Practice an instrument.
Ask your friends to show you their hobbies.
Go to local cultural festivals.
Attend local art shows.
2-2. Express yourself
Being creative will help you be more unique and different. Choose a hobby that you enjoy and work on improving at it. Here are some ideas:
Become a painter.
Keep a sketchbook.
Start a blog.
Play an instrument.
Join a community theater.
2-3. Learn
Having a wide range of knowledge will set you apart from the crowd. Plus, it gives you a lot to talk about! Watch documentaries, read books, and do online research to learn more. Choose topics that interest you, or just look up random things.
For example, learn about ancient Rome, Egyptian gods, or Aztec myths.
Read about psychology and the different theories people have had.
Learn more about movements like spiritualism, hippies, or prohibition.
2-4. Take an acting or improv class to boost your confidence.
Embracing your uniqueness can be hard at first, especially if you feel like everyone is looking. Taking a theater class will help you get used to being “seen,” so it can help you be more confident in your real life. Join your school or community theater troupe, or look for classes in your area.
You might be able to find free theater events on Meetup.com.
2-5. Travel to learn more about the world.
Visiting other places helps you understand how other people live. Additionally, it helps you learn more about yourself. Try to include more travel in your life, even if you’re just taking a day trip to a nearby location. Pay attention to the culture of the place you go, how people act and dress, and what they seem to value.
Think about how you feel about the places you go and look for things you can learn.
2-6. Ignore your haters
In a perfect world, there’d be no haters. However, that’s usually not how things play out. When your haters bother you, try not to listen to them and walk away. Then, use a positive affirmation to boost your spirits.
You might say, "I'm not going to let their negativity hold me back," or "I'm stronger than their words."
For example, let's say you've entered your school's talent show and people start spreading rumors about how you don't have talent. This can be a really painful experience, but it says more about them than it does about you. They're probably envious that you're following your dream, and making fun of you is the best way to get you to stop trying. Don't let people hold you back from doing what you want.
When you feel yourself getting discouraged, tell yourself, “My life must be more interesting than theirs if they’re so worried about what I’m doing,” or “I’d rather be different than invisible.”
3. Standing Out
3-1. Stop comparing
It’s hard to stop comparing yourself to what others are doing. However, it’s important to stop because you’ll always view yourself unfavorably, even if that’s not true. Instead, compare yourself to you in the past to make sure you’re growing into the person you want to be.
For instance, compare your skills last year to the skills you have now.
As an example, you might be tempted to compare your grades to your friend's grades. Instead, compare the skills you have now to your performance in the past. You might say to yourself, "Last year I didn't understand algebra at all, but now I'm passing my class. That's progress!"
3-2. Do what makes you happy without worrying about what others think.
Life is short, so spend it doing things that make you happy. People are going to have a different perspective on things than you do, but don’t listen when they say negative things. Just keeping doing you.
For instance, don’t be afraid to wear Halloween clothes in July if that makes you happy. Similarly, wear wigs every day if you have fun changing up your look.
Spend your time around people who are supportive of you, rather than people who will drag you down and judge you.
3-3. Reject conformity and choose your own path.
You’ve probably encountered conformity at your school or work. Sometimes it’s important to follow rules, but that doesn’t mean you have to give up your identity. Don’t feel like you have to fit in with everyone else. Just be yourself.
For instance, don’t worry about what’s trendy or fashionable. Choose clothes that express what you want to say to the world.
Similarly, don't feel pressured to choose an educational or career path just because everyone else is doing it. When you make decisions, do what feels right for you even if other people don't agree.
If you wear a uniform, try expressing yourself through your accessories. If those aren’t allowed either, look for other ways to express yourself, like starting a club or speaking out in class.
3-4. Combine your clothes in unexpected ways to create unique outfits.
First and foremost, it’s important to wear clothes that you like and make you feel comfy. However, you can also make your outfits unique by mixing up styles and pieces. Raid your closet and see what kind of outfit combinations you can make.
For example, wear a striped button-up shirt over a skirt with a bold print.
Wear a sleek red blazer with a graphic tee and a pair of leather pants.
Pair a shirt dress with floral skinny jeans.
3-5. Accessorize
Look for bold jewelry, glasses, hats, scarves, belts, shoes, and handbags. Alternatively, make your own accessories! Add at least one fun accessory to each outfit to help your look stand out from the crowd.
For example, use a white paint pen to decorate a pair of plain black shoes so they’re one-of-a-kind.
Add embellishments to your handbag or backpack to make it more original.
Pick jewelry that’s large or made out of weird materials. For instance, you might get a pendant that’s made from a glass eye.
3-6. Play around with your makeup if you wear it.
Break the rules when it comes to makeup! Pair colors in unexpected ways to create a fun, new look. Treat your face like a canvas where you can express yourself.
For example, use bold shades on your eyelids, draw on a temporary tattoo with eyeliner, create a crystal design using stick-on gems, wear a bold lipstick, or use different colored eyeliners on your top and lower lashes.
To learn new techniques, watch YouTube tutorials.
3-7. Get a tattoo or piercings if you like the way they look.
Tattoos and piercings can give you a different look from others. Additionally, they provide a great conversation starter when you meet new people. If you want a tattoo, pick designs that mean something to you or that you think look cool. If you want to get a piercing, look for earrings or body jewelry that show off what you like.
For example, you might get a mermaid tattoo because you’re obsessed with mermaids and a shooting star tattoo because you like how it looks.
Similarly, you might pick body jewelry that’s your favorite color, or you could pick a jewel that’s your birthstone.
Make sure you get your parent or guardian's permission if you're younger than the legal age of consent in your area.
Tips
Don't change for anyone other than yourself. There's no need to live by other people's standards for happiness and success.[23]
X
Expert Source
Kirsten Parker, MFAMindset & Action Coach
Expert Interview. 22 July 2020.
Learn something valuable from everyone you meet.
Try mixing different styles to find one that works for you.
Warnings
If you feel like people are bullying you, tell someone you trust. Bullying is not your fault, and it’s never okay.
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Finally, adopt beliefs that fit with your personal values.\\nFor example, your parents may have taught you that the only way to be successful in life is to get a high paying job. However, this might not feel true to you. Instead, you may prefer to pursue your passion for teaching dance.\\nSimilarly, let's say your family taught you not to trust people who are a different religion from you. After thinking about it, you might decide that you don't like judging people based on labels and want to treat everyone equally.\\n1-4. Embrace your flaws\\nNo one is perfect, and it’s okay to have flaws! Instead of looking at your flaws as a bad thing, view them as a balance that helps you recognize your best qualities. Then, try to stop criticizing yourself and focus on being your best self.\\nFor example, you might feel like your feet are too big or you might wish you could sing better. Chances are, you're the only one who notices these \\\"flaws.\\\" Either way, they help make you unique, so try to accept them.\\nIt’s okay to work on improving your flaws if they bother you. For instance, let’s say that you get tired after you try to run a mile. You might set a goal to improve your fitness level if this bothers you. Similarly, you might want to attend tutoring sessions to help you do better at math if you're struggling in class. However, you don't need to feel bad about these things.\\n1-5. Silence your inner critic.\\nIt’s likely that your inner critic is worried that people are going to judge you. That’s probably because you felt judged in the past. To quiet this voice, figure out what you’re afraid will happen if you just be yourself. Then, challenge those thoughts by focusing on what could go right and thinking about your strengths.\\nFor example, your inner critic might say, “People will think you look stupid.” This fear might stem from getting teased in middle school. Tell yourself, “People who criticize me feel insecure about themselves, and I’m not going to let them drag me down with them. I’m creative and strong, so I’m going to show that off.”\\n2. Broadening Your Horizons\\n2-1. Try new things to get more experiences.\\nYour experiences make you more unique, so be open to trying new things. Attend local events and festivals, try out new hobbies, and sample new foods. Here are some things you can try:\\nEat foods from other cultures.\\nGo to local museums.\\nVisit nearby towns.\\nPractice an instrument.\\nAsk your friends to show you their hobbies.\\nGo to local cultural festivals.\\nAttend local art shows.\\n2-2. Express yourself\\nBeing creative will help you be more unique and different. Choose a hobby that you enjoy and work on improving at it. Here are some ideas:\\nBecome a painter.\\nKeep a sketchbook.\\nStart a blog.\\nPlay an instrument.\\nJoin a community theater.\\n2-3. Learn\\nHaving a wide range of knowledge will set you apart from the crowd. Plus, it gives you a lot to talk about! Watch documentaries, read books, and do online research to learn more. Choose topics that interest you, or just look up random things.\\nFor example, learn about ancient Rome, Egyptian gods, or Aztec myths.\\nRead about psychology and the different theories people have had.\\nLearn more about movements like spiritualism, hippies, or prohibition.\\n2-4. Take an acting or improv class to boost your confidence.\\nEmbracing your uniqueness can be hard at first, especially if you feel like everyone is looking. Taking a theater class will help you get used to being “seen,” so it can help you be more confident in your real life. Join your school or community theater troupe, or look for classes in your area.\\nYou might be able to find free theater events on Meetup.com.\\n2-5. Travel to learn more about the world.\\nVisiting other places helps you understand how other people live. Additionally, it helps you learn more about yourself. Try to include more travel in your life, even if you’re just taking a day trip to a nearby location. Pay attention to the culture of the place you go, how people act and dress, and what they seem to value.\\nThink about how you feel about the places you go and look for things you can learn.\\n2-6. Ignore your haters\\nIn a perfect world, there’d be no haters. However, that’s usually not how things play out. When your haters bother you, try not to listen to them and walk away. Then, use a positive affirmation to boost your spirits.\\nYou might say, \\\"I'm not going to let their negativity hold me back,\\\" or \\\"I'm stronger than their words.\\\"\\nFor example, let's say you've entered your school's talent show and people start spreading rumors about how you don't have talent. This can be a really painful experience, but it says more about them than it does about you. They're probably envious that you're following your dream, and making fun of you is the best way to get you to stop trying. Don't let people hold you back from doing what you want.\\nWhen you feel yourself getting discouraged, tell yourself, “My life must be more interesting than theirs if they’re so worried about what I’m doing,” or “I’d rather be different than invisible.”\\n3. Standing Out\\n3-1. Stop comparing\\nIt’s hard to stop comparing yourself to what others are doing. However, it’s important to stop because you’ll always view yourself unfavorably, even if that’s not true. Instead, compare yourself to you in the past to make sure you’re growing into the person you want to be.\\nFor instance, compare your skills last year to the skills you have now.\\nAs an example, you might be tempted to compare your grades to your friend's grades. Instead, compare the skills you have now to your performance in the past. You might say to yourself, \\\"Last year I didn't understand algebra at all, but now I'm passing my class. That's progress!\\\"\\n3-2. Do what makes you happy without worrying about what others think.\\nLife is short, so spend it doing things that make you happy. People are going to have a different perspective on things than you do, but don’t listen when they say negative things. Just keeping doing you.\\nFor instance, don’t be afraid to wear Halloween clothes in July if that makes you happy. Similarly, wear wigs every day if you have fun changing up your look.\\nSpend your time around people who are supportive of you, rather than people who will drag you down and judge you.\\n3-3. Reject conformity and choose your own path.\\nYou’ve probably encountered conformity at your school or work. Sometimes it’s important to follow rules, but that doesn’t mean you have to give up your identity. Don’t feel like you have to fit in with everyone else. Just be yourself.\\nFor instance, don’t worry about what’s trendy or fashionable. Choose clothes that express what you want to say to the world.\\nSimilarly, don't feel pressured to choose an educational or career path just because everyone else is doing it. When you make decisions, do what feels right for you even if other people don't agree.\\nIf you wear a uniform, try expressing yourself through your accessories. If those aren’t allowed either, look for other ways to express yourself, like starting a club or speaking out in class.\\n3-4. Combine your clothes in unexpected ways to create unique outfits.\\nFirst and foremost, it’s important to wear clothes that you like and make you feel comfy. However, you can also make your outfits unique by mixing up styles and pieces. Raid your closet and see what kind of outfit combinations you can make.\\nFor example, wear a striped button-up shirt over a skirt with a bold print.\\nWear a sleek red blazer with a graphic tee and a pair of leather pants.\\nPair a shirt dress with floral skinny jeans.\\n3-5. Accessorize\\nLook for bold jewelry, glasses, hats, scarves, belts, shoes, and handbags. Alternatively, make your own accessories! Add at least one fun accessory to each outfit to help your look stand out from the crowd.\\nFor example, use a white paint pen to decorate a pair of plain black shoes so they’re one-of-a-kind.\\nAdd embellishments to your handbag or backpack to make it more original.\\nPick jewelry that’s large or made out of weird materials. For instance, you might get a pendant that’s made from a glass eye.\\n3-6. Play around with your makeup if you wear it.\\nBreak the rules when it comes to makeup! Pair colors in unexpected ways to create a fun, new look. Treat your face like a canvas where you can express yourself.\\nFor example, use bold shades on your eyelids, draw on a temporary tattoo with eyeliner, create a crystal design using stick-on gems, wear a bold lipstick, or use different colored eyeliners on your top and lower lashes.\\nTo learn new techniques, watch YouTube tutorials.\\n3-7. Get a tattoo or piercings if you like the way they look.\\nTattoos and piercings can give you a different look from others. Additionally, they provide a great conversation starter when you meet new people. If you want a tattoo, pick designs that mean something to you or that you think look cool. If you want to get a piercing, look for earrings or body jewelry that show off what you like.\\nFor example, you might get a mermaid tattoo because you’re obsessed with mermaids and a shooting star tattoo because you like how it looks.\\nSimilarly, you might pick body jewelry that’s your favorite color, or you could pick a jewel that’s your birthstone.\\nMake sure you get your parent or guardian's permission if you're younger than the legal age of consent in your area.\\nTips\\nDon't change for anyone other than yourself. There's no need to live by other people's standards for happiness and success.[23]\\nX\\nExpert Source\\n\\nKirsten Parker, MFAMindset & Action Coach\\nExpert Interview. 22 July 2020.\\nLearn something valuable from everyone you meet.\\nTry mixing different styles to find one that works for you.\\nWarnings\\nIf you feel like people are bullying you, tell someone you trust. Bullying is not your fault, and it’s never okay.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"While you likely have a lot in common with the people around you, you’re definitely one-of-a-kind! Being unique can be an asset, so it’s understandable that you’d want to play up what makes you unique. If you want to be unique, start by being your authentic self. Additionally, broaden your horizons by trying new and interesting things. Finally, work on standing out so you don’t blend into the crowd.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being the Authentic You\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Identify your personal goals and values.\", \"描述\": \"Make a list of the things that are really important to you. Next, consider the things you most want to achieve in your lifetime. Review these lists to figure out what you most value. Then, choose 1-3 personal goals that are important to you.\\nFor example, you might value creativity, helping others, and caring for the environment.\\nYour goal may be to reduce your carbon footprint, to write a novel, or to serve your community.\\nTry getting in touch with your inner child—don't be afraid to have fun and be who you really are!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pursue your hobbies and interests to make yourself more interesting.\", \"描述\": \"Think about the things you enjoy doing most, then figure out how you can include them in your life more. Set aside time throughout your week to pursue these activities. This will help you be more true to yourself, and it’ll show people that you’re an exciting person.\\nFor example, you might play music in a local coffee shop, write a blog about movies, knit hats that you sell, or participate in local theater.\\nDon't be afraid to break out of your comfort zone and try something new. If you've always wanted to play the drums, sign up for classes! If you love seeing the sunrise, get up early and watch the sun come up.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Challenge the beliefs\", \"描述\": \"You’ve probably absorbed a lot of rules about life from the people around you, like your parents, teachers, or religious leaders. Some of the beliefs will feel true for you, but others may not. Think about the beliefs you learned from others, then question whether or not they feel true for you. In some cases, you may want to talk to other people or do some research to learn more about the topic. Finally, adopt beliefs that fit with your personal values.\\nFor example, your parents may have taught you that the only way to be successful in life is to get a high paying job. However, this might not feel true to you. Instead, you may prefer to pursue your passion for teaching dance.\\nSimilarly, let's say your family taught you not to trust people who are a different religion from you. After thinking about it, you might decide that you don't like judging people based on labels and want to treat everyone equally.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Embrace your flaws\", \"描述\": \"No one is perfect, and it’s okay to have flaws! Instead of looking at your flaws as a bad thing, view them as a balance that helps you recognize your best qualities. Then, try to stop criticizing yourself and focus on being your best self.\\nFor example, you might feel like your feet are too big or you might wish you could sing better. Chances are, you're the only one who notices these \\\"flaws.\\\" Either way, they help make you unique, so try to accept them.\\nIt’s okay to work on improving your flaws if they bother you. For instance, let’s say that you get tired after you try to run a mile. You might set a goal to improve your fitness level if this bothers you. Similarly, you might want to attend tutoring sessions to help you do better at math if you're struggling in class. However, you don't need to feel bad about these things.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Silence your inner critic.\", \"描述\": \"It’s likely that your inner critic is worried that people are going to judge you. That’s probably because you felt judged in the past. To quiet this voice, figure out what you’re afraid will happen if you just be yourself. Then, challenge those thoughts by focusing on what could go right and thinking about your strengths.\\nFor example, your inner critic might say, “People will think you look stupid.” This fear might stem from getting teased in middle school. Tell yourself, “People who criticize me feel insecure about themselves, and I’m not going to let them drag me down with them. I’m creative and strong, so I’m going to show that off.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Broadening Your Horizons\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Try new things to get more experiences.\", \"描述\": \"Your experiences make you more unique, so be open to trying new things. Attend local events and festivals, try out new hobbies, and sample new foods. Here are some things you can try:\\nEat foods from other cultures.\\nGo to local museums.\\nVisit nearby towns.\\nPractice an instrument.\\nAsk your friends to show you their hobbies.\\nGo to local cultural festivals.\\nAttend local art shows.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Express yourself\", \"描述\": \"Being creative will help you be more unique and different. Choose a hobby that you enjoy and work on improving at it. Here are some ideas:\\nBecome a painter.\\nKeep a sketchbook.\\nStart a blog.\\nPlay an instrument.\\nJoin a community theater.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn\", \"描述\": \"Having a wide range of knowledge will set you apart from the crowd. Plus, it gives you a lot to talk about! Watch documentaries, read books, and do online research to learn more. Choose topics that interest you, or just look up random things.\\nFor example, learn about ancient Rome, Egyptian gods, or Aztec myths.\\nRead about psychology and the different theories people have had.\\nLearn more about movements like spiritualism, hippies, or prohibition.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take an acting or improv class to boost your confidence.\", \"描述\": \"Embracing your uniqueness can be hard at first, especially if you feel like everyone is looking. Taking a theater class will help you get used to being “seen,” so it can help you be more confident in your real life. Join your school or community theater troupe, or look for classes in your area.\\nYou might be able to find free theater events on Meetup.com.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Travel to learn more about the world.\", \"描述\": \"Visiting other places helps you understand how other people live. Additionally, it helps you learn more about yourself. Try to include more travel in your life, even if you’re just taking a day trip to a nearby location. Pay attention to the culture of the place you go, how people act and dress, and what they seem to value.\\nThink about how you feel about the places you go and look for things you can learn.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Ignore your haters\", \"描述\": \"In a perfect world, there’d be no haters. However, that’s usually not how things play out. When your haters bother you, try not to listen to them and walk away. Then, use a positive affirmation to boost your spirits.\\nYou might say, \\\"I'm not going to let their negativity hold me back,\\\" or \\\"I'm stronger than their words.\\\"\\nFor example, let's say you've entered your school's talent show and people start spreading rumors about how you don't have talent. This can be a really painful experience, but it says more about them than it does about you. They're probably envious that you're following your dream, and making fun of you is the best way to get you to stop trying. Don't let people hold you back from doing what you want.\\nWhen you feel yourself getting discouraged, tell yourself, “My life must be more interesting than theirs if they’re so worried about what I’m doing,” or “I’d rather be different than invisible.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Standing Out\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stop comparing\", \"描述\": \"It’s hard to stop comparing yourself to what others are doing. However, it’s important to stop because you’ll always view yourself unfavorably, even if that’s not true. Instead, compare yourself to you in the past to make sure you’re growing into the person you want to be.\\nFor instance, compare your skills last year to the skills you have now.\\nAs an example, you might be tempted to compare your grades to your friend's grades. Instead, compare the skills you have now to your performance in the past. You might say to yourself, \\\"Last year I didn't understand algebra at all, but now I'm passing my class. That's progress!\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Do what makes you happy without worrying about what others think.\", \"描述\": \"Life is short, so spend it doing things that make you happy. People are going to have a different perspective on things than you do, but don’t listen when they say negative things. Just keeping doing you.\\nFor instance, don’t be afraid to wear Halloween clothes in July if that makes you happy. Similarly, wear wigs every day if you have fun changing up your look.\\nSpend your time around people who are supportive of you, rather than people who will drag you down and judge you.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Reject conformity and choose your own path.\", \"描述\": \"You’ve probably encountered conformity at your school or work. Sometimes it’s important to follow rules, but that doesn’t mean you have to give up your identity. Don’t feel like you have to fit in with everyone else. Just be yourself.\\nFor instance, don’t worry about what’s trendy or fashionable. Choose clothes that express what you want to say to the world.\\nSimilarly, don't feel pressured to choose an educational or career path just because everyone else is doing it. When you make decisions, do what feels right for you even if other people don't agree.\\nIf you wear a uniform, try expressing yourself through your accessories. If those aren’t allowed either, look for other ways to express yourself, like starting a club or speaking out in class.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Combine your clothes in unexpected ways to create unique outfits.\", \"描述\": \"First and foremost, it’s important to wear clothes that you like and make you feel comfy. However, you can also make your outfits unique by mixing up styles and pieces. 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1. Helping People around You
1-1. Help people out during everyday life when you have the opportunity.
While they may not be glamorous, small gestures of kindness at a one-on-one level are a great way to be useful in your community. When you spot an opportunity to make a direct intervention and help another person in your community, do it with a smile.
For example, help an elderly man or woman cross a busy street.
Or, give a few dollars to a homeless person. Better yet, buy them a meal and chat with them while they eat.
If you see someone struggling to open a heavy door or carry a heavy package, go and help them.
1-2. Listen to the people in your daily life and show them empathy.
Our friends, family, and co-workers are members of society, and we can contribute by showing them emotional support. Or, if you need to talk about a negative experience with somebody else, let them share their own experiences, too.
For example, if a co-worker recently lost a loved one, say something like, “I’m so sorry, that’s hard to go through. If you want to talk about it, I’m happy to sit and listen.”
Or if a friend is having a hard time in school, say, “That sucks. Sorry you’re struggling so much this term. Let’s have a coffee; want to talk about your classes?”
1-3. Mentor a young person
If you’re an adult, you’ve probably accumulated decades of practical knowledge and worldly experience that many young people could benefit from. Mentorship programs exist for this purpose and allow adults to pass on personal or professional knowledge to young people who are struggling with an aspect of their lives.
For example, you could mentor a young person in your area through the Big Brothers or Big Sisters program. Many churches or social groups (like the Boy Scouts) also encourage mentorship programs.
1-4. Volunteer
Volunteering is a great way to interact with your local community and help out people who are less fortunate than yourself. Volunteering will only take a small amount of your time each week and can make a huge difference in the lives of people in society around you. Depending on your personal interests, you could:
Volunteer at a local homeless shelter or food bank.
Help out the Red Cross or Salvation Army.
Build homes in your area with the Habitat for Humanity.
Volunteer at a local hospital or hospice.
1-5. Give blood if you’d like to help injured or unhealthy people.
People who are ill or injured frequently need blood transfusions, and you can help them out by donating some of your own blood. Many local hospitals will do semiannual blood drives, and local blood banks are always looking for new people to sign up and donate blood.
Find out where you can donate by searching online. Type in something like “how to donate blood today near me.”
2. Contributing to Your Civic Society
2-1. Vote in local and national elections to influence society for the better.
If you live in a democratic society, voting is a crucial part of contributing to both your local and national community. To be a responsible voter, research ballot issues and candidates ahead of time, and vote for the individuals and policies that you think will most directly benefit society.
For example, research and vote on often-overlooked local issues like taxation, city management, and county regulations.
2-2. Find employment in your community that feels meaningful to you.
Working a job is a great way to contribute to society, whether directly or indirectly. If you’d like your work to directly benefit your community, you could look for jobs that involve helping local people or infrastructure. For example, you could work as a firefighter or a construction worker, at an animal control center, or as a public servant in a government position.
If you already have a job, look for ways that you can help the community through your place of employment, such as volunteer opportunities or public outreach.
2-3. Pay your taxes in full and on time if you’re able.
If you’re employed, paying taxes is part of your social responsibility. Local, state, and national governments use tax money to improve infrastructure and pay public officials. You can file your taxes through various online sites. A number of accounting businesses offer help with tax filing, and some even let you file your taxes for free.
If you’re unable to pay your taxes, talk to an accountant and see if they can offer any suggestions about deferring tax payments.
3. Enhancing Society at Large
3-1. Support a charity through financial donations if you have the means.
When you give to a local or global charity, you’re using your money to help strengthen society and the people who live in it. Charitable giving also sets a good example for others around you, because they’ll see you giving and be more inspired to do likewise. Give to charities like Doctors Without Borders, the NAACP, the Native American Rights Fund, or the Jane Goodall Institute.
You don’t have to restrict yourself to financial giving. Many charities, for example, will accept donations of used vehicles or clothing.
3-2. Teach people in your community useful skills to benefit their lives.
Giving other people practical knowledge and day-to-day skills is a great way to contribute to your local community and enhance society overall. You can help friends, neighbors, local kids, or complete strangers by showing them practical ways to solve common problems.
For example, if you see someone with a dead car battery, show them how to jump the car.
Or, teach kids in your neighborhood useful outdoor skills. Teach them how to pitch a tent, light a fire, or sharpen a knife.
If you’re a mechanic—or just good at fixing things—you could show a few neighbors how to change a flat tire, change the tire on a bicycle, or repair simple engines.
3-3. Get a good education that you can use to help others after you graduate.
There’s nothing selfish about working hard to receive a good education, whether at the level of high school, college, trade school, or graduate school. An education allows you to contribute to your society both locally and globally in ways you couldn’t have without the high-level knowledge.
For example, you could study farming or agriculture in college. After graduating, you could return to the community you grew up in and help people there develop better farming practices.
Or, you could get a BA and an MA in psychology, then open a private practice to counsel those struggling with negative thoughts or mental illness.
3-4. Share your specialized knowledge to give back to your local community.
Regardless of how much formal education you’ve had, you probably have some knowledge and skills that would be useful to people in your community. You could give a public lecture at your house about, for example, managing finances. Or, contact the public library and see if they’d let you put on a talk about paying taxes and saving money.
Sharing specialized knowledge is a great way to use your higher education to benefit society.
4. Helping the Environment
4-1. Reduce, reuse, and recycle goods whenever possible.
We all live in natural ecosystems, and protecting your local environment is an integral part of contributing to society. Recycle plastics and try to use less plastic in general. Always make sure to throw recyclable materials (e.g., drink and food containers) in recycling bins rather than trash cans.
For example, if your clothes are wearing out, mend them rather than trashing them. Or, donate the worn clothes to a local branch of the Salvation Army or other charity.
Also avoid buying materials that aren’t biodegradable, like Styrofoam.
4-2. Conserve fuel by taking public transportation or bicycling weekly.
Driving alone in a vehicle wastes fuel and contributes to polluting the environment. Try to conserve fuel as much as possible by carpooling or riding a bike instead of driving a car. Or, take public transportation like a bus or train to work to help cut down on the amount of fuel being burned in your city.
When you reduce your carbon footprint and help preserve the environment, you’ll also help the health of people in your community.
4-3. Plant a tree
Not only will planting a tree enhance the beauty of your neighborhood, it will also make the environment a little healthier. You can purchase saplings at a nearby plant nursery or garden center. Plant the tree in spring at the beginning of your local growing season.
If you’d like to plant a tree in a public park (or another city-owned area), you’ll need to contact city hall and fill out the necessary paperwork.
If you’re so inclined, you could also do a little research to find out what types of trees are native to your area.
4-4. Use solar power in your home to supply your own electricity.
Rather than getting your home’s electricity from large electric companies that burn fossil fuels and pollute the atmosphere, you can supply your own with solar panels. Solar panels can be attached to the roof of your house and can generate enough power to supply 100% of your electricity.
If you’d like to purchase solar panels, check at large home-supply stores. You can also reach out to local contractors to do the actual installation.
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Or, if you need to talk about a negative experience with somebody else, let them share their own experiences, too.\\nFor example, if a co-worker recently lost a loved one, say something like, “I’m so sorry, that’s hard to go through. If you want to talk about it, I’m happy to sit and listen.”\\nOr if a friend is having a hard time in school, say, “That sucks. Sorry you’re struggling so much this term. Let’s have a coffee; want to talk about your classes?”\\n1-3. Mentor a young person\\nIf you’re an adult, you’ve probably accumulated decades of practical knowledge and worldly experience that many young people could benefit from. Mentorship programs exist for this purpose and allow adults to pass on personal or professional knowledge to young people who are struggling with an aspect of their lives.\\nFor example, you could mentor a young person in your area through the Big Brothers or Big Sisters program. Many churches or social groups (like the Boy Scouts) also encourage mentorship programs.\\n1-4. Volunteer\\nVolunteering is a great way to interact with your local community and help out people who are less fortunate than yourself. Volunteering will only take a small amount of your time each week and can make a huge difference in the lives of people in society around you. Depending on your personal interests, you could: \\nVolunteer at a local homeless shelter or food bank.\\nHelp out the Red Cross or Salvation Army.\\nBuild homes in your area with the Habitat for Humanity.\\nVolunteer at a local hospital or hospice.\\n1-5. Give blood if you’d like to help injured or unhealthy people.\\nPeople who are ill or injured frequently need blood transfusions, and you can help them out by donating some of your own blood. Many local hospitals will do semiannual blood drives, and local blood banks are always looking for new people to sign up and donate blood.\\nFind out where you can donate by searching online. Type in something like “how to donate blood today near me.”\\n2. Contributing to Your Civic Society\\n2-1. Vote in local and national elections to influence society for the better.\\nIf you live in a democratic society, voting is a crucial part of contributing to both your local and national community. To be a responsible voter, research ballot issues and candidates ahead of time, and vote for the individuals and policies that you think will most directly benefit society.\\nFor example, research and vote on often-overlooked local issues like taxation, city management, and county regulations.\\n2-2. Find employment in your community that feels meaningful to you.\\nWorking a job is a great way to contribute to society, whether directly or indirectly. 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Enhancing Society at Large\\n3-1. Support a charity through financial donations if you have the means.\\nWhen you give to a local or global charity, you’re using your money to help strengthen society and the people who live in it. Charitable giving also sets a good example for others around you, because they’ll see you giving and be more inspired to do likewise. Give to charities like Doctors Without Borders, the NAACP, the Native American Rights Fund, or the Jane Goodall Institute.\\nYou don’t have to restrict yourself to financial giving. Many charities, for example, will accept donations of used vehicles or clothing.\\n3-2. Teach people in your community useful skills to benefit their lives.\\nGiving other people practical knowledge and day-to-day skills is a great way to contribute to your local community and enhance society overall. You can help friends, neighbors, local kids, or complete strangers by showing them practical ways to solve common problems. \\nFor example, if you see someone with a dead car battery, show them how to jump the car.\\nOr, teach kids in your neighborhood useful outdoor skills. Teach them how to pitch a tent, light a fire, or sharpen a knife.\\nIf you’re a mechanic—or just good at fixing things—you could show a few neighbors how to change a flat tire, change the tire on a bicycle, or repair simple engines.\\n3-3. Get a good education that you can use to help others after you graduate.\\nThere’s nothing selfish about working hard to receive a good education, whether at the level of high school, college, trade school, or graduate school. An education allows you to contribute to your society both locally and globally in ways you couldn’t have without the high-level knowledge.\\nFor example, you could study farming or agriculture in college. After graduating, you could return to the community you grew up in and help people there develop better farming practices.\\nOr, you could get a BA and an MA in psychology, then open a private practice to counsel those struggling with negative thoughts or mental illness.\\n3-4. Share your specialized knowledge to give back to your local community.\\nRegardless of how much formal education you’ve had, you probably have some knowledge and skills that would be useful to people in your community. You could give a public lecture at your house about, for example, managing finances. Or, contact the public library and see if they’d let you put on a talk about paying taxes and saving money.\\nSharing specialized knowledge is a great way to use your higher education to benefit society.\\n4. Helping the Environment\\n4-1. Reduce, reuse, and recycle goods whenever possible.\\nWe all live in natural ecosystems, and protecting your local environment is an integral part of contributing to society. Recycle plastics and try to use less plastic in general. Always make sure to throw recyclable materials (e.g., drink and food containers) in recycling bins rather than trash cans.\\nFor example, if your clothes are wearing out, mend them rather than trashing them. Or, donate the worn clothes to a local branch of the Salvation Army or other charity.\\nAlso avoid buying materials that aren’t biodegradable, like Styrofoam.\\n4-2. Conserve fuel by taking public transportation or bicycling weekly.\\nDriving alone in a vehicle wastes fuel and contributes to polluting the environment. Try to conserve fuel as much as possible by carpooling or riding a bike instead of driving a car. Or, take public transportation like a bus or train to work to help cut down on the amount of fuel being burned in your city.\\nWhen you reduce your carbon footprint and help preserve the environment, you’ll also help the health of people in your community.\\n4-3. Plant a tree\\nNot only will planting a tree enhance the beauty of your neighborhood, it will also make the environment a little healthier. You can purchase saplings at a nearby plant nursery or garden center. Plant the tree in spring at the beginning of your local growing season.\\nIf you’d like to plant a tree in a public park (or another city-owned area), you’ll need to contact city hall and fill out the necessary paperwork.\\nIf you’re so inclined, you could also do a little research to find out what types of trees are native to your area.\\n4-4. Use solar power in your home to supply your own electricity.\\nRather than getting your home’s electricity from large electric companies that burn fossil fuels and pollute the atmosphere, you can supply your own with solar panels. Solar panels can be attached to the roof of your house and can generate enough power to supply 100% of your electricity.\\nIf you’d like to purchase solar panels, check at large home-supply stores. You can also reach out to local contractors to do the actual installation.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Regardless of where you live in the world, you’re a part of a society. As members of a society, we all have a responsibility to help others and improve the state of the community and world that we live in. You can do this on both small and large levels. Pay attention to the people around you, and try to find ways to address their needs. You can also do things that will benefit society in the long run, like investing in your education, supporting charities, giving blood, and protecting the environment.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Helping People around You\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Help people out during everyday life when you have the opportunity.\", \"描述\": \"While they may not be glamorous, small gestures of kindness at a one-on-one level are a great way to be useful in your community. When you spot an opportunity to make a direct intervention and help another person in your community, do it with a smile.\\nFor example, help an elderly man or woman cross a busy street.\\nOr, give a few dollars to a homeless person. Better yet, buy them a meal and chat with them while they eat.\\nIf you see someone struggling to open a heavy door or carry a heavy package, go and help them.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Listen to the people in your daily life and show them empathy.\", \"描述\": \"Our friends, family, and co-workers are members of society, and we can contribute by showing them emotional support. Or, if you need to talk about a negative experience with somebody else, let them share their own experiences, too.\\nFor example, if a co-worker recently lost a loved one, say something like, “I’m so sorry, that’s hard to go through. If you want to talk about it, I’m happy to sit and listen.”\\nOr if a friend is having a hard time in school, say, “That sucks. 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Depending on your personal interests, you could: \\nVolunteer at a local homeless shelter or food bank.\\nHelp out the Red Cross or Salvation Army.\\nBuild homes in your area with the Habitat for Humanity.\\nVolunteer at a local hospital or hospice.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Give blood if you’d like to help injured or unhealthy people.\", \"描述\": \"People who are ill or injured frequently need blood transfusions, and you can help them out by donating some of your own blood. Many local hospitals will do semiannual blood drives, and local blood banks are always looking for new people to sign up and donate blood.\\nFind out where you can donate by searching online. Type in something like “how to donate blood today near me.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Contributing to Your Civic Society\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Vote in local and national elections to influence society for the better.\", \"描述\": \"If you live in a democratic society, voting is a crucial part of contributing to both your local and national community. To be a responsible voter, research ballot issues and candidates ahead of time, and vote for the individuals and policies that you think will most directly benefit society.\\nFor example, research and vote on often-overlooked local issues like taxation, city management, and county regulations.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Find employment in your community that feels meaningful to you.\", \"描述\": \"Working a job is a great way to contribute to society, whether directly or indirectly. If you’d like your work to directly benefit your community, you could look for jobs that involve helping local people or infrastructure. For example, you could work as a firefighter or a construction worker, at an animal control center, or as a public servant in a government position. \\nIf you already have a job, look for ways that you can help the community through your place of employment, such as volunteer opportunities or public outreach.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pay your taxes in full and on time if you’re able.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re employed, paying taxes is part of your social responsibility. Local, state, and national governments use tax money to improve infrastructure and pay public officials. You can file your taxes through various online sites. 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Many charities, for example, will accept donations of used vehicles or clothing.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Teach people in your community useful skills to benefit their lives.\", \"描述\": \"Giving other people practical knowledge and day-to-day skills is a great way to contribute to your local community and enhance society overall. You can help friends, neighbors, local kids, or complete strangers by showing them practical ways to solve common problems. \\nFor example, if you see someone with a dead car battery, show them how to jump the car.\\nOr, teach kids in your neighborhood useful outdoor skills. Teach them how to pitch a tent, light a fire, or sharpen a knife.\\nIf you’re a mechanic—or just good at fixing things—you could show a few neighbors how to change a flat tire, change the tire on a bicycle, or repair simple engines.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get a good education that you can use to help others after you graduate.\", \"描述\": \"There’s nothing selfish about working hard to receive a good education, whether at the level of high school, college, trade school, or graduate school. An education allows you to contribute to your society both locally and globally in ways you couldn’t have without the high-level knowledge.\\nFor example, you could study farming or agriculture in college. After graduating, you could return to the community you grew up in and help people there develop better farming practices.\\nOr, you could get a BA and an MA in psychology, then open a private practice to counsel those struggling with negative thoughts or mental illness.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Share your specialized knowledge to give back to your local community.\", \"描述\": \"Regardless of how much formal education you’ve had, you probably have some knowledge and skills that would be useful to people in your community. You could give a public lecture at your house about, for example, managing finances. Or, contact the public library and see if they’d let you put on a talk about paying taxes and saving money.\\nSharing specialized knowledge is a great way to use your higher education to benefit society.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Helping the Environment\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Reduce, reuse, and recycle goods whenever possible.\", \"描述\": \"We all live in natural ecosystems, and protecting your local environment is an integral part of contributing to society. Recycle plastics and try to use less plastic in general. Always make sure to throw recyclable materials (e.g., drink and food containers) in recycling bins rather than trash cans.\\nFor example, if your clothes are wearing out, mend them rather than trashing them. 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1. Being Long-Winded
1-1. Start speaking without a clear idea of where you’re going.
Warren G. Harding, grandiloquent speaker and former President of the United States, had a speech style consisting primarily of “an army of pompous phrases moving across the landscape in search of an idea,” according to one political critic. Emulate the verbosity of the 29th president of the Union.
Many speakers start to trail off toward the end of a thought, pausing to take a breath and collect their thoughts. Instead, learn to end passages with openings into new passages, immediately saying, "In other words," or "Additionally," to keep your grip on the conversation firm.
1-2. Use multitudinous, varied, and diverse adjectives.
To say a writer or a speaker is verbose is to say that, for him, one accurate adjective could never accomplish what five so-so, mediocre, middling, half-cocked, wobbly adjectives could accomplish by piling them up in a heap. Verbosity means wordiness. Over-describe every single noun in your speech and you will be well on your way.
Don't neglect adverbs. If a swan is swimming, it should be "swiftly, gently swimming." Think of each sentence as a Christmas tree that you want to hang ornaments.
1-3. Over-explain yourself.
Long-winded verbose speakers of the world never know when to quit. Never give up on proving your viewpoint, even if everyone in the room took your word for it twenty minutes ago.
Restate every claim and position for ultimate rhetorical effect. Make friends with the phrase “in other words," rephrasing your positions in different language but with exactly the same meaning.
Rethink everything you put forward, hedging every claim and debating inwardly with yourself over your statements. When you get to the end of one point, train yourself to say, “On the other hand…” to open up an avenue for further chatter.
1-4. Embrace digressions and asides.
The mind of the verbose should be like a fish tank. Let each thought-fish go wherever it wants, then follow it there. Don't worry so much about where you're going with an argument; just worry about exploring every possible nook and cranny of a conversation before you let it drop.
1-5. Read long-winded writers.
While Shakespeare's Polonius might be the patron-saint of the pompous, if you want more art and less matter in your speech, learn from the masters of long-windedness, who actually manage to pull off extreme verbosity. Check out the following writers of sentence-labyrinthes and pompous characters who never know when to quit:
Herman Melville
Susan Sontag
Salvatore Scibona
William Faulkner
Virginia Woolf
Samuel Beckett
2. Expanding Your Vocabulary
2-1. Start actively gathering new words to use.
Look for obscure word lists, sign up for word-a-day emails and never hesitate to look up a definition if you encounter an unfamiliar word.
After a while, you may discover that you’ve come down with a nasty case of logolepsy (a love of words). If you look, you will find words that are easy to love. Take "Hippopotomonstrosesquipedalian" as an example. This word, which means "a word coined so as to be long" is actually longer than its definition (unless, of course, you are being verbose in describing the word).
2-2. Study the roots of words.
By learning the roots of words, you can discern meanings of unfamiliar words more easily, helping you to build an infinite vocabulary. You will be able to create neologisms, or new words based on existing definitions.
If you know a substantial number of suffixes and prefixes, you can make up your own behemoth words. The Shakespearean gem "Honorificabilitudinitatibus" started with the simple root word of Honor.
Apply unconventional conjugations and parasynthesis (use odd tenses and variations). Sometimes a common word can be verbose if an unusual tense is applied. The word “datum” sounds particularly erudite when compared to the singular “data.”
2-3. Use long words.
Never use one syllable where three will do. In other words, eschew monosyllabic iterations when feasible.
If your lexicon is archaic enough, you can add additional words by using synonymous adjectives. For example, you could describe a redundant speaker as being "Tautologically loquacious,” which has a bit more juice than calling them "Redundantly repetitive,” though it means, more or less, the same thing.
Take the word 'hyperpolysyllabic' as your example. It means essentially the same thing if you leave the 'hyper' off, but why waste a perfectly good 17 letter word?
2-4. Use words correctly.
The goal of verbosity is to appear intelligent, not ridiculous. Using an obscure word incorrectly can be deleterious to the illusion of perspicacity. Be sure to check the usage of a new word in several sources before applying it in the real world. All the astute logorrhea in the world won't help you if you're caught saying "Don't condensate me."
3. Overblowing Your Rhetoric
3-1. Use heavy-handed metaphors.
Verbosity also includes a certain measure of pomposity in the execution. If you want to be counted as a verbose speaker or writer, it helps to get lost in the deep water of an overblown (and mixed) metaphor. Every molehill should not only be a mountain, but a mountain on which hordes of philandering demon spawn forth fortnightly.
3-2. Leave no streams in the torrent of words.
If you want to run on for a long time, make sure you stitch your prose together ever tighter with gapless precision. In other words, don’t let anyone get a word in edgewise.
Learn to anticipate the ends of your own sentences and start the next sentence before taking a breath.
Hook a reader in with a transitional phrase at the end of a long paragraph that will force us to read on, even if we’re bored to tears. Better yet, eschew paragraphing entirely and give no rest for the weary.
3-3. Sprinkle your prose with phrases from multiple languages.
The long-winded know one thing to be true: “Quidquid Latine dictum sit altum videtur” (Whatever is said in Latin sounds profound). Memorize a few good Latin phrases and insert these whenever you can. Mix in some French or Italian, overemphasizing the pronunciation, and you'll be pretentious in four languages.
Rather than saying, "He makes a habit of using arcane references", try "His modus operandi seems to be obscurum per obscurius" to give your volubility a bit of international flavor.
3-4. Interrupt other speakers.
If you have a question as to whether or not the floor is yours, it is. Take control of every conversation and don't let go of the talking stick until you've chattered everyone else into submission. Quell dissent like Ross Perot used to: constantly referring to how often you yourself are interrupted. "Can I finish? Can I get a word in please?"
Ignore body language and other nonverbal clues that indicate someone else would like to speak. Keep your gaze focused off in the middle-distance as you recount the sea-faring voyages of your childhood. Ignore the snores at the table around you.
Tips
Playing word games like Scrabble and Crosswords are fast and fun ways to improve your vocabulary.
Be creative. Even common words can be verbose if applied correctly.
Check pronunciation. It is better to use a simple word correctly than to misuse a complex one.
Warnings
The over-verbose may be tagged as a fake and know-it-all.
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Verbosity means wordiness. Over-describe every single noun in your speech and you will be well on your way.\\nDon't neglect adverbs. If a swan is swimming, it should be \\\"swiftly, gently swimming.\\\" Think of each sentence as a Christmas tree that you want to hang ornaments.\\n1-3. Over-explain yourself.\\nLong-winded verbose speakers of the world never know when to quit. Never give up on proving your viewpoint, even if everyone in the room took your word for it twenty minutes ago.\\nRestate every claim and position for ultimate rhetorical effect. Make friends with the phrase “in other words,\\\" rephrasing your positions in different language but with exactly the same meaning.\\nRethink everything you put forward, hedging every claim and debating inwardly with yourself over your statements. When you get to the end of one point, train yourself to say, “On the other hand…” to open up an avenue for further chatter.\\n1-4. Embrace digressions and asides.\\nThe mind of the verbose should be like a fish tank. Let each thought-fish go wherever it wants, then follow it there. Don't worry so much about where you're going with an argument; just worry about exploring every possible nook and cranny of a conversation before you let it drop.\\n1-5. Read long-winded writers.\\nWhile Shakespeare's Polonius might be the patron-saint of the pompous, if you want more art and less matter in your speech, learn from the masters of long-windedness, who actually manage to pull off extreme verbosity. Check out the following writers of sentence-labyrinthes and pompous characters who never know when to quit:\\nHerman Melville\\nSusan Sontag\\nSalvatore Scibona\\nWilliam Faulkner\\nVirginia Woolf\\nSamuel Beckett\\n2. Expanding Your Vocabulary\\n2-1. Start actively gathering new words to use.\\nLook for obscure word lists, sign up for word-a-day emails and never hesitate to look up a definition if you encounter an unfamiliar word.\\nAfter a while, you may discover that you’ve come down with a nasty case of logolepsy (a love of words). If you look, you will find words that are easy to love. Take \\\"Hippopotomonstrosesquipedalian\\\" as an example. This word, which means \\\"a word coined so as to be long\\\" is actually longer than its definition (unless, of course, you are being verbose in describing the word).\\n2-2. Study the roots of words.\\nBy learning the roots of words, you can discern meanings of unfamiliar words more easily, helping you to build an infinite vocabulary. You will be able to create neologisms, or new words based on existing definitions.\\nIf you know a substantial number of suffixes and prefixes, you can make up your own behemoth words. The Shakespearean gem \\\"Honorificabilitudinitatibus\\\" started with the simple root word of Honor.\\nApply unconventional conjugations and parasynthesis (use odd tenses and variations). Sometimes a common word can be verbose if an unusual tense is applied. The word “datum” sounds particularly erudite when compared to the singular “data.”\\n2-3. Use long words.\\nNever use one syllable where three will do. In other words, eschew monosyllabic iterations when feasible.\\nIf your lexicon is archaic enough, you can add additional words by using synonymous adjectives. For example, you could describe a redundant speaker as being \\\"Tautologically loquacious,” which has a bit more juice than calling them \\\"Redundantly repetitive,” though it means, more or less, the same thing.\\nTake the word 'hyperpolysyllabic' as your example. It means essentially the same thing if you leave the 'hyper' off, but why waste a perfectly good 17 letter word?\\n2-4. Use words correctly.\\nThe goal of verbosity is to appear intelligent, not ridiculous. Using an obscure word incorrectly can be deleterious to the illusion of perspicacity. Be sure to check the usage of a new word in several sources before applying it in the real world. All the astute logorrhea in the world won't help you if you're caught saying \\\"Don't condensate me.\\\"\\n3. Overblowing Your Rhetoric\\n3-1. Use heavy-handed metaphors.\\nVerbosity also includes a certain measure of pomposity in the execution. If you want to be counted as a verbose speaker or writer, it helps to get lost in the deep water of an overblown (and mixed) metaphor. Every molehill should not only be a mountain, but a mountain on which hordes of philandering demon spawn forth fortnightly.\\n3-2. Leave no streams in the torrent of words.\\nIf you want to run on for a long time, make sure you stitch your prose together ever tighter with gapless precision. In other words, don’t let anyone get a word in edgewise.\\nLearn to anticipate the ends of your own sentences and start the next sentence before taking a breath.\\nHook a reader in with a transitional phrase at the end of a long paragraph that will force us to read on, even if we’re bored to tears. Better yet, eschew paragraphing entirely and give no rest for the weary.\\n3-3. Sprinkle your prose with phrases from multiple languages.\\nThe long-winded know one thing to be true: “Quidquid Latine dictum sit altum videtur” (Whatever is said in Latin sounds profound). Memorize a few good Latin phrases and insert these whenever you can. Mix in some French or Italian, overemphasizing the pronunciation, and you'll be pretentious in four languages.\\nRather than saying, \\\"He makes a habit of using arcane references\\\", try \\\"His modus operandi seems to be obscurum per obscurius\\\" to give your volubility a bit of international flavor.\\n3-4. Interrupt other speakers.\\nIf you have a question as to whether or not the floor is yours, it is. Take control of every conversation and don't let go of the talking stick until you've chattered everyone else into submission. Quell dissent like Ross Perot used to: constantly referring to how often you yourself are interrupted. \\\"Can I finish? Can I get a word in please?\\\"\\nIgnore body language and other nonverbal clues that indicate someone else would like to speak. Keep your gaze focused off in the middle-distance as you recount the sea-faring voyages of your childhood. Ignore the snores at the table around you.\\nTips\\nPlaying word games like Scrabble and Crosswords are fast and fun ways to improve your vocabulary.\\nBe creative. Even common words can be verbose if applied correctly.\\nCheck pronunciation. 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Over-describe every single noun in your speech and you will be well on your way.\\nDon't neglect adverbs. If a swan is swimming, it should be \\\"swiftly, gently swimming.\\\" Think of each sentence as a Christmas tree that you want to hang ornaments.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Over-explain yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Long-winded verbose speakers of the world never know when to quit. Never give up on proving your viewpoint, even if everyone in the room took your word for it twenty minutes ago.\\nRestate every claim and position for ultimate rhetorical effect. Make friends with the phrase “in other words,\\\" rephrasing your positions in different language but with exactly the same meaning.\\nRethink everything you put forward, hedging every claim and debating inwardly with yourself over your statements. 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This word, which means \\\"a word coined so as to be long\\\" is actually longer than its definition (unless, of course, you are being verbose in describing the word).\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Study the roots of words.\", \"描述\": \"By learning the roots of words, you can discern meanings of unfamiliar words more easily, helping you to build an infinite vocabulary. You will be able to create neologisms, or new words based on existing definitions.\\nIf you know a substantial number of suffixes and prefixes, you can make up your own behemoth words. The Shakespearean gem \\\"Honorificabilitudinitatibus\\\" started with the simple root word of Honor.\\nApply unconventional conjugations and parasynthesis (use odd tenses and variations). Sometimes a common word can be verbose if an unusual tense is applied. The word “datum” sounds particularly erudite when compared to the singular “data.”\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Use long words.\", \"描述\": \"Never use one syllable where three will do. 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All the astute logorrhea in the world won't help you if you're caught saying \\\"Don't condensate me.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Overblowing Your Rhetoric\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Use heavy-handed metaphors.\", \"描述\": \"Verbosity also includes a certain measure of pomposity in the execution. If you want to be counted as a verbose speaker or writer, it helps to get lost in the deep water of an overblown (and mixed) metaphor. Every molehill should not only be a mountain, but a mountain on which hordes of philandering demon spawn forth fortnightly.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Leave no streams in the torrent of words.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to run on for a long time, make sure you stitch your prose together ever tighter with gapless precision. In other words, don’t let anyone get a word in edgewise.\\nLearn to anticipate the ends of your own sentences and start the next sentence before taking a breath.\\nHook a reader in with a transitional phrase at the end of a long paragraph that will force us to read on, even if we’re bored to tears. Better yet, eschew paragraphing entirely and give no rest for the weary.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Sprinkle your prose with phrases from multiple languages.\", \"描述\": \"The long-winded know one thing to be true: “Quidquid Latine dictum sit altum videtur” (Whatever is said in Latin sounds profound). Memorize a few good Latin phrases and insert these whenever you can. Mix in some French or Italian, overemphasizing the pronunciation, and you'll be pretentious in four languages.\\nRather than saying, \\\"He makes a habit of using arcane references\\\", try \\\"His modus operandi seems to be obscurum per obscurius\\\" to give your volubility a bit of international flavor.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Interrupt other speakers.\", \"描述\": \"If you have a question as to whether or not the floor is yours, it is. Take control of every conversation and don't let go of the talking stick until you've chattered everyone else into submission. Quell dissent like Ross Perot used to: constantly referring to how often you yourself are interrupted. \\\"Can I finish? Can I get a word in please?\\\"\\nIgnore body language and other nonverbal clues that indicate someone else would like to speak. Keep your gaze focused off in the middle-distance as you recount the sea-faring voyages of your childhood. Ignore the snores at the table around you.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Playing word games like Scrabble and Crosswords are fast and fun ways to improve your vocabulary.\\n\", \"Be creative. Even common words can be verbose if applied correctly.\\n\", \"Check pronunciation. It is better to use a simple word correctly than to misuse a complex one.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"The over-verbose may be tagged as a fake and know-it-all.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Being Quiet and Reserved
1-1. Find friends who understand you.
A common misconception about people who are quiet or reserved is that they do not have any friends. This is simply not true. In fact, some quiet/reserved individuals find it easier to build strong friendships with people, in part because they focus on getting to know the other person instead of making idle small talk or going on about themselves.
You don't necessarily need to find friends who are also quiet/reserved, but you should ensure that the people you surround yourself with are understanding of your quiet/reserved tendencies.
Seek out people who are understanding and accepting. If you don't know who in your social circle might be understanding and accepting, try talking to people and getting to know them.
1-2. Try to be more self-aware.
Some quiet, reserved individuals find that their personality traits allow them to tap into their own feelings. Recognizing and understanding how you feel about a person, idea, or subject is an important part of cultivating self-awareness, which can help you better navigate the world.
Make time to reflect on your day. If you're working on being more quiet and introspective, you should have some spare time to reflect on yourself and your day.
Figure out which of your life's experiences have been the most meaningful or enlightening, and examine why and how those experiences changed you.
When you do talk with others who are close to you, ask them for honest feedback about your behavior and your ideas. Let them know that you want to be more aware of yourself and the way you think and act, and that an outsider's perspective would be very useful in helping you learn more about yourself.
1-3. Cultivate your interests.
Many introverted personality types devote a lot of time and energy towards something they're passionate about. Though this obviously is not an absolute for all quiet/reserved individuals, it is a common trait, and it may help you become more grounded and comfortable in your quiet/reserved personality.
Think back to your childhood. What activities did you enjoy doing the most? If you loved drawing/finger painting, perhaps you could take up art. If you loved reading and writing, try taking a writing class. The things that were most meaningful to you at an early age of development are probably still lingering in your mind just below the surface.
If you still can't figure out where your passions lie, think about the things in your life now that spark your curiosity. What excites you in your day-to-day life?
1-4. Learn to navigate social situations.
If you're a quiet/reserved individual, chances are you feel intimidated or frustrated with many social situations. For some people, even going shopping can be stressful because of the interactions with strangers it will require. Fortunately, there are some ways you can navigate social situations which reduce your stress and discomfort, including:
wearing headphones while walking, taking public transportation, or browsing in a store
avoiding people who seem upset or irritated
avoiding or politely disengaging from small talk with strangers
2. Having Conversations with Others
2-1. Find a comfortable environment.
If you're a quiet and reserved individual, you may not be comfortable carrying on a personal conversation in the middle of a mall or school cafeteria. Many people with introverted tendencies find it easier and less stressful to carry on conversations in a quiet, more relaxed atmosphere. If at all possible, you may want to seek out a comfortable place to have a conversation before it begins.
Loud, chaotic environments are usually not very conducive to thoughtful and reflective conversations. The noise will most likely force both of you to speak louder and more directly, which may in itself be intimidating for some people.
Some people find that an uncomfortably warm environment is also disruptive to reflective thinking.
Understand where you're most comfortable, and try to arrange conversations in or around similar environments as much as possible.
2-2. Practice your listening skills.
Quiet, reserved people tend to be good listeners. That's because people with these personality traits tend to think and process information before speaking. People often seek introverted personality types when they need someone to help with a problem or give advice.
Listen carefully to everything the other person is saying.
Decide when to respond and what to say. Keep your responses concise and to a minimum.
Think before you give any response at all.
If you need some time to gather your thoughts before you respond, say something like, "Hmm. I have something to say on the matter, but let me have a moment to think this through."
2-3. Ask a lot of questions.
Questions are a great way for a quiet/reserved individual to get to know others. Asking questions lets you converse with another person without feeling pressured to talk endlessly about idle things, which many quiet/reserved people find intimidating or uninteresting.
The best questions to ask are open-ended questions. Don't set up simple yes/no questions. Instead, listen closely to the things the other person says, and ask probing questions that show both an interest in the story and an honest desire to get to know the person better.
Instead of asking yes/no questions like, "Did you like growing up in Florida?" ask open-ended questions that require discussion, such as, "What was it like growing up in Florida? What were your favorite/least-favorite things about living there?"
2-4. Be yourself.
Remember that there is no shame in being quiet and reserved. In fact, in some countries, being quiet is seen as a desirable trait! And when you speak less and listen more, you avoid inadvertently insulting someone through miscommunication. Plus, when you do meet people you enjoy communicating with, it will make your interactions that much more meaningful.
Tips
Always be yourself.
Find your own comfort zone. You may need to balance being quiet with interacting with others, especially if your job or school obligations require you to converse with strangers. Find a way to mange conversations that makes you comfortable while still allowing you to be who you are.
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1. Acting Weird
1-1. Invent your own places, and customs.
Invent a holiday, give it a weird name, and then when the day comes around, get decked out. Talk about a place you went that no one's ever heard of. Your holiday is celebrated there and you can show your friends the timeless customs of this magical place if they'd like.
Nowadays, every day is something, but no one actually celebrates it. Is it National Pancake Day? Walk around handing out pictures of pancakes, telling everyone that you’re trying to spread the word about this hidden breakfast treat but do be aware Shrive Tuesday, or Pancake Day, is celebrated widely in the UK and other Common Wealth countries. To be truly weird, pick a holiday or commemorative day not widely known anywhere.
1-2. Talk to random people in the streets and say ridiculous things.
Try "Hello Granny! I haven't seen you in years!" while grinning, of course, or "Oh my gosh! Are you okay?" When they are clearly alive, fine and well. Just make sure you're picking someone who will laugh, and not someone who will think you're crazy.
Ask random people if they've seen a rhino, and elephant, etc., "anywhere around here." Seem serious about it. But, of course, after a couple of minutes of pulling their leg, you may want to admit that it's a joke!
Pretend like you don't know what some specific, common things are. When your friend asks you if you want a banana, say, "What's a banana?"
Of course, some people may think you’re certifiably crazy and may think you’re harassing them. Choose your targets carefully and always do things with a smile on your face, showing you mean no harm.
1-3. Overreact to the little things.
For example, if you see a slinky, act as if it's a great discovery. Or, if you do a minor bad thing, like forget to push in your chair or crease a piece of paper, be inconsolable. How could you dare to do such a terrible thing?! No one will be able to tell if you're serious or not!
If you see your friend step on an ant, say, “Oh no! What have you done?! Oh, little ant, your life was so short! Rest in peace!” And then move on, happy as a clam.
Only do this on occasion. Again, if people can't predict your behavior, they'll probably just think you've lost your marbles.
1-4. Have strange taste in food.
For instance, say, "Oh my gosh! Are those Oreos? They're so spicy! I never knew they sold them here!" or "These pickles taste like my brother's wallpaper."
Try foods most people don't eat or foods that people eat, but wouldn't eat the way you're eating. For example, bring a lemon to lunch and eat it like an orange, or put an orange in between two pieces of bread for an "orange sandwich." Or make a sandwich with gummy worms and ketchup.
1-5. Have your own signature thing.
You want a thing that's quintessentially you. It should be quirky and something no one else you know does. You could put a little skip in your walk, make a noise after every time you sneeze, always wear hats everywhere, or be afraid of clams. Be creative!
It could be how you say things, when you say things, or even just the way you laugh. The tinier the thing, the more it'll stand out, too.
1-6. Choose a strange hobby.
You want to do something that no one else does, like collecting packing peanuts and turning them into sculptures, making piñatas, painting your nose, or writing bad poetry about Jackalopes. Who knows? If you're original enough you could turn it into a business!
This hobby could be a strange pet, such as a pet rock, a pet ladder, a pet soda can, or a pet sneaker. Take it everywhere with you, and converse with it. Soon enough, you’ll be the person “with the pet rock.” If you don’t have it, eventually people will start asking you where it is!
Make sure you have loyal friends who won't ditch you for being weird.
2. Speaking Weird
2-1. Make up new words.
Ninjas have ninjosity and ninjitude, for example. Use these words constantly, just like they’re real words. If someone tells you something is not a word, tell them it is now! Explain philosophically why.
Can't come up with something? Take a couple of your favorite words and mash them together. Your favorite words are bubble and flamingo? Bubbingo, it is. Now what's a bubbingo?
2-2. Speak with strange accents.
One day you fancy yourself Irish, one day you're French, and the next day you're Chinese. Why not? You could even invent your own accent if you'd like. Perhaps it's the accent of that made-up place you go to? Or try to talk in a really deep voice, or a really high one.
wikiHow has a great article on speaking gibberish. That's a way of speaking your own language that is very easy to learn. If your friends learn it too, you could be "weird" together!
Wildly fluctuate the tone and pitch of your voice at different times, too. Whisper when you don’t need to, sing your words, or talk very, very, very slowly whenever you feel like it. But be warned, this can really get on some people’s nerves!
2-3. Interject a half-thought into a conversation.
For best results make sure your half-thought has nothing to do with the conversation. Is everyone talking about that new song on the radio? All of a sudden, you come in with, “Oh, man. Blueberries. They’re just so…” Or, interject and say the name of a random type of food.
This is a good way to stop a conversation and get another one started. The current topic boring you? Say, "Did you see that TV show?" and your friends might be too distracted to go back to what they were originally thinking about.
2-4. Talk to yourself and inanimate objects.
Don't do it all the time (otherwise you'll just look schizophrenic) – just if someone around is ignoring you. That’ll get them to pay attention to you for sure!
A lull in the conversation? Friends boring you? Why not strike up a conversation with your notebook or your food? You could be the life of the party in no time! Weird, but the life of the party nonetheless.
2-5. Make up nicknames for all your friends.
Use a different one every day. They don't have to be good! Take aspects of their personality or their look (without being mean of course) and think about what fits them.
Or what doesn't fit them! Some nicknames are funny because they are so unfitting. Have a friend who's way taller than you? He's "short stuff" for today. A friend who loves puppies? Call her "cheese puffs" – it doesn't have to do with anything! Change the words in their name. For example: Paige can turn into Peige. Do this only if your friends are okay with it.
Bear in mind that this may not work as well in Australia, where redheads are often nicknamed 'Bluey.'
3. Looking Weird
3-1. Dress with clashing colors, textures, and patterns.
Clothing is a major part of being crazy! Combine clashing colors or patterns to create outfits that can't help but stand out. Combine decades too, with new, modern clothes and vintage ones. Just make sure you're okay with everyone staring!
Dress up in unusual clothing, too, such as fairy wings, witches' hats, or vampire teeth. Halloween costumes are always great, regardless of what day of the year it is.
3-2. Don't wear what everyone else is wearing.
If people are wearing skinny jeans, wear ripped up bell bottoms. If people are wearing checkers, wear some crazy design. Mix it up. Try thrift stores to find unique looks. Being weird is all about doing your own thing and standing out.
To be truly weird, this may mean wearing clothes you don't actually care for. After all, it's about being weird and not being fashionable, right? Raid your mom or dad's closet to get ideas that are truly inspirational.
3-3. Dress normally once in a while.
When Halloween comes around, dress as someone completely normal. Choose other random, arbitrary days where you dress normal, too. Otherwise, people might just get used to what you wear.
If you want to be weird, you have to be a little inconsistent. Being normal once in a while will highlight to others when you're being weird again. If you're weird all the time, they'll just come to expect it.
4. Thinking Weird
4-1. Don't be someone who you are not.
Nowadays, everyone is trying to be something. By just being yourself, you'll be a little weird. Finding someone who's truly genuine is a rare occurrence. Embrace the quirks that come to you naturally – they may be enough.
Everything will come a lot easier if you do as you're naturally inclined. If you fake being weird, you're just putting on a show, and it'll be hard to keep consistent. What's more, it may bring you down not being you. All the more reason to be yourself!
4-2. Don't pay attention to what others think.
If you're concerned with your image, being weird will not come easy. You need to abandon what others expect of you and only think about what feels right to you. Your reputation does not matter – you are an oddball now.
Whether you're an oddball or not, it shouldn't matter what others think. Those who matter won't mind who you are. Why should anyone else have any say in they you are or what you're like?
4-3. Wait for your reputation to precede you.
Once you start acting weirdly, word will get around that you're a little odd. Eventually people will just come to expect it. You may do something totally normally and just because it's you, people will get a kick out of it. So be sure you want to be weird – because it may last a while!
What's more, you may forget how to act normal. Habit makes practice, after all. If being weird doesn't work for you, it could be difficult to go back to the way you used to be. So be sure before you take the dive into weirdness that you're ready for the commitment.
4-4. Choose a new identity on occasion.
Be Napoleon, the President, a princess, a prince, an elf, etc. Embody them in their look and in their personality. Hit up Halloween stores after Halloween for awesome discounts and make your own costumes, too.
Try to think like them too! An elf wouldn't know what do with a cell phone, for example. When yours rings, you respond with, "Ahhh! What is this blasphemous contraption! How do I...hmm...interesting."
Tips
One other way to stand out from the crowd is to dye your hair an exotic color.
Learn a foreign language and break out into a conversation or song at random times while people are talking to you!
If someone says something insulting to you, or say you're weird in an insulting way. Make them feel like they just gave you the biggest compliment!
Warnings
Remember, some jokes can be hurtful, so be careful not to offend anybody too much. There is a limit to what you can say about somebody. But still speak your mind, even if the person is hurt you shouldn't not say what you think, just don't be extremely blunt with it.
Refrain from drooling, as it is perceived as creepy.
When you are not acting weird, people may still treat you as if you are a complete weirdo.
Not recommended for people who have jobs as doctors, psychiatrists, those helping children and adults, teachers, etc.
Some of the steps in this manual can sound like you're acting, even to the public - therefore you could end up in a center for various crazy people. Psychotic is different from weird.
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Are you okay?\\\" When they are clearly alive, fine and well. Just make sure you're picking someone who will laugh, and not someone who will think you're crazy.\\nAsk random people if they've seen a rhino, and elephant, etc., \\\"anywhere around here.\\\" Seem serious about it. But, of course, after a couple of minutes of pulling their leg, you may want to admit that it's a joke!\\nPretend like you don't know what some specific, common things are. When your friend asks you if you want a banana, say, \\\"What's a banana?\\\"\\nOf course, some people may think you’re certifiably crazy and may think you’re harassing them. Choose your targets carefully and always do things with a smile on your face, showing you mean no harm.\\n1-3. Overreact to the little things.\\nFor example, if you see a slinky, act as if it's a great discovery. Or, if you do a minor bad thing, like forget to push in your chair or crease a piece of paper, be inconsolable. How could you dare to do such a terrible thing?! No one will be able to tell if you're serious or not!\\nIf you see your friend step on an ant, say, “Oh no! What have you done?! Oh, little ant, your life was so short! Rest in peace!” And then move on, happy as a clam.\\nOnly do this on occasion. Again, if people can't predict your behavior, they'll probably just think you've lost your marbles.\\n1-4. Have strange taste in food.\\nFor instance, say, \\\"Oh my gosh! Are those Oreos? They're so spicy! I never knew they sold them here!\\\" or \\\"These pickles taste like my brother's wallpaper.\\\"\\nTry foods most people don't eat or foods that people eat, but wouldn't eat the way you're eating. For example, bring a lemon to lunch and eat it like an orange, or put an orange in between two pieces of bread for an \\\"orange sandwich.\\\" Or make a sandwich with gummy worms and ketchup.\\n1-5. Have your own signature thing.\\nYou want a thing that's quintessentially you. It should be quirky and something no one else you know does. You could put a little skip in your walk, make a noise after every time you sneeze, always wear hats everywhere, or be afraid of clams. Be creative!\\nIt could be how you say things, when you say things, or even just the way you laugh. The tinier the thing, the more it'll stand out, too.\\n1-6. Choose a strange hobby.\\nYou want to do something that no one else does, like collecting packing peanuts and turning them into sculptures, making piñatas, painting your nose, or writing bad poetry about Jackalopes. Who knows? If you're original enough you could turn it into a business!\\nThis hobby could be a strange pet, such as a pet rock, a pet ladder, a pet soda can, or a pet sneaker. Take it everywhere with you, and converse with it. Soon enough, you’ll be the person “with the pet rock.” If you don’t have it, eventually people will start asking you where it is!\\nMake sure you have loyal friends who won't ditch you for being weird.\\n2. Speaking Weird\\n2-1. Make up new words.\\nNinjas have ninjosity and ninjitude, for example. Use these words constantly, just like they’re real words. If someone tells you something is not a word, tell them it is now! Explain philosophically why.\\nCan't come up with something? Take a couple of your favorite words and mash them together. Your favorite words are bubble and flamingo? Bubbingo, it is. Now what's a bubbingo?\\n2-2. Speak with strange accents.\\nOne day you fancy yourself Irish, one day you're French, and the next day you're Chinese. Why not? You could even invent your own accent if you'd like. Perhaps it's the accent of that made-up place you go to? Or try to talk in a really deep voice, or a really high one.\\nwikiHow has a great article on speaking gibberish. That's a way of speaking your own language that is very easy to learn. If your friends learn it too, you could be \\\"weird\\\" together!\\nWildly fluctuate the tone and pitch of your voice at different times, too. Whisper when you don’t need to, sing your words, or talk very, very, very slowly whenever you feel like it. But be warned, this can really get on some people’s nerves!\\n2-3. Interject a half-thought into a conversation.\\nFor best results make sure your half-thought has nothing to do with the conversation. Is everyone talking about that new song on the radio? All of a sudden, you come in with, “Oh, man. Blueberries. They’re just so…” Or, interject and say the name of a random type of food.\\nThis is a good way to stop a conversation and get another one started. The current topic boring you? Say, \\\"Did you see that TV show?\\\" and your friends might be too distracted to go back to what they were originally thinking about.\\n2-4. Talk to yourself and inanimate objects.\\nDon't do it all the time (otherwise you'll just look schizophrenic) – just if someone around is ignoring you. That’ll get them to pay attention to you for sure!\\nA lull in the conversation? Friends boring you? Why not strike up a conversation with your notebook or your food? You could be the life of the party in no time! Weird, but the life of the party nonetheless.\\n2-5. Make up nicknames for all your friends.\\nUse a different one every day. They don't have to be good! Take aspects of their personality or their look (without being mean of course) and think about what fits them.\\nOr what doesn't fit them! Some nicknames are funny because they are so unfitting. Have a friend who's way taller than you? He's \\\"short stuff\\\" for today. A friend who loves puppies? Call her \\\"cheese puffs\\\" – it doesn't have to do with anything! Change the words in their name. For example: Paige can turn into Peige. Do this only if your friends are okay with it.\\nBear in mind that this may not work as well in Australia, where redheads are often nicknamed 'Bluey.'\\n3. Looking Weird\\n3-1. Dress with clashing colors, textures, and patterns.\\nClothing is a major part of being crazy! Combine clashing colors or patterns to create outfits that can't help but stand out. Combine decades too, with new, modern clothes and vintage ones. Just make sure you're okay with everyone staring!\\nDress up in unusual clothing, too, such as fairy wings, witches' hats, or vampire teeth. Halloween costumes are always great, regardless of what day of the year it is.\\n3-2. Don't wear what everyone else is wearing.\\nIf people are wearing skinny jeans, wear ripped up bell bottoms. If people are wearing checkers, wear some crazy design. Mix it up. Try thrift stores to find unique looks. Being weird is all about doing your own thing and standing out.\\nTo be truly weird, this may mean wearing clothes you don't actually care for. After all, it's about being weird and not being fashionable, right? Raid your mom or dad's closet to get ideas that are truly inspirational.\\n3-3. Dress normally once in a while.\\nWhen Halloween comes around, dress as someone completely normal. Choose other random, arbitrary days where you dress normal, too. Otherwise, people might just get used to what you wear.\\nIf you want to be weird, you have to be a little inconsistent. Being normal once in a while will highlight to others when you're being weird again. If you're weird all the time, they'll just come to expect it.\\n4. Thinking Weird\\n4-1. Don't be someone who you are not.\\nNowadays, everyone is trying to be something. By just being yourself, you'll be a little weird. Finding someone who's truly genuine is a rare occurrence. Embrace the quirks that come to you naturally – they may be enough.\\nEverything will come a lot easier if you do as you're naturally inclined. If you fake being weird, you're just putting on a show, and it'll be hard to keep consistent. What's more, it may bring you down not being you. All the more reason to be yourself!\\n4-2. Don't pay attention to what others think.\\nIf you're concerned with your image, being weird will not come easy. You need to abandon what others expect of you and only think about what feels right to you. Your reputation does not matter – you are an oddball now.\\nWhether you're an oddball or not, it shouldn't matter what others think. Those who matter won't mind who you are. Why should anyone else have any say in they you are or what you're like?\\n4-3. Wait for your reputation to precede you.\\nOnce you start acting weirdly, word will get around that you're a little odd. Eventually people will just come to expect it. You may do something totally normally and just because it's you, people will get a kick out of it. So be sure you want to be weird – because it may last a while!\\nWhat's more, you may forget how to act normal. Habit makes practice, after all. If being weird doesn't work for you, it could be difficult to go back to the way you used to be. So be sure before you take the dive into weirdness that you're ready for the commitment.\\n4-4. Choose a new identity on occasion.\\nBe Napoleon, the President, a princess, a prince, an elf, etc. Embody them in their look and in their personality. Hit up Halloween stores after Halloween for awesome discounts and make your own costumes, too.\\nTry to think like them too! An elf wouldn't know what do with a cell phone, for example. When yours rings, you respond with, \\\"Ahhh! What is this blasphemous contraption! How do I...hmm...interesting.\\\"\\nTips\\nOne other way to stand out from the crowd is to dye your hair an exotic color.\\nLearn a foreign language and break out into a conversation or song at random times while people are talking to you!\\nIf someone says something insulting to you, or say you're weird in an insulting way. Make them feel like they just gave you the biggest compliment!\\nWarnings\\nRemember, some jokes can be hurtful, so be careful not to offend anybody too much. There is a limit to what you can say about somebody. But still speak your mind, even if the person is hurt you shouldn't not say what you think, just don't be extremely blunt with it.\\nRefrain from drooling, as it is perceived as creepy.\\nWhen you are not acting weird, people may still treat you as if you are a complete weirdo.\\nNot recommended for people who have jobs as doctors, psychiatrists, those helping children and adults, teachers, etc.\\nSome of the steps in this manual can sound like you're acting, even to the public - therefore you could end up in a center for various crazy people. Psychotic is different from weird.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"It seems like everyone is sort of the same nowadays, doesn't it? Sometimes being yourself isn't enough, you need to be a little weird to stand out. The one thing to remember before jumping into this guide: you want to be weird, not crazy! Find a balance to be seen as endearing and weird, not a loose cannon.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Acting Weird\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Invent your own places, and customs.\", \"描述\": \"Invent a holiday, give it a weird name, and then when the day comes around, get decked out. Talk about a place you went that no one's ever heard of. Your holiday is celebrated there and you can show your friends the timeless customs of this magical place if they'd like.\\nNowadays, every day is something, but no one actually celebrates it. Is it National Pancake Day? Walk around handing out pictures of pancakes, telling everyone that you’re trying to spread the word about this hidden breakfast treat but do be aware Shrive Tuesday, or Pancake Day, is celebrated widely in the UK and other Common Wealth countries. To be truly weird, pick a holiday or commemorative day not widely known anywhere.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Talk to random people in the streets and say ridiculous things.\", \"描述\": \"Try \\\"Hello Granny! I haven't seen you in years!\\\" while grinning, of course, or \\\"Oh my gosh! Are you okay?\\\" When they are clearly alive, fine and well. Just make sure you're picking someone who will laugh, and not someone who will think you're crazy.\\nAsk random people if they've seen a rhino, and elephant, etc., \\\"anywhere around here.\\\" Seem serious about it. But, of course, after a couple of minutes of pulling their leg, you may want to admit that it's a joke!\\nPretend like you don't know what some specific, common things are. When your friend asks you if you want a banana, say, \\\"What's a banana?\\\"\\nOf course, some people may think you’re certifiably crazy and may think you’re harassing them. Choose your targets carefully and always do things with a smile on your face, showing you mean no harm.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Overreact to the little things.\", \"描述\": \"For example, if you see a slinky, act as if it's a great discovery. Or, if you do a minor bad thing, like forget to push in your chair or crease a piece of paper, be inconsolable. How could you dare to do such a terrible thing?! No one will be able to tell if you're serious or not!\\nIf you see your friend step on an ant, say, “Oh no! What have you done?! Oh, little ant, your life was so short! Rest in peace!” And then move on, happy as a clam.\\nOnly do this on occasion. Again, if people can't predict your behavior, they'll probably just think you've lost your marbles.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Have strange taste in food.\", \"描述\": \"For instance, say, \\\"Oh my gosh! Are those Oreos? They're so spicy! I never knew they sold them here!\\\" or \\\"These pickles taste like my brother's wallpaper.\\\"\\nTry foods most people don't eat or foods that people eat, but wouldn't eat the way you're eating. For example, bring a lemon to lunch and eat it like an orange, or put an orange in between two pieces of bread for an \\\"orange sandwich.\\\" Or make a sandwich with gummy worms and ketchup.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Have your own signature thing.\", \"描述\": \"You want a thing that's quintessentially you. It should be quirky and something no one else you know does. You could put a little skip in your walk, make a noise after every time you sneeze, always wear hats everywhere, or be afraid of clams. Be creative!\\nIt could be how you say things, when you say things, or even just the way you laugh. 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If someone tells you something is not a word, tell them it is now! Explain philosophically why.\\nCan't come up with something? Take a couple of your favorite words and mash them together. Your favorite words are bubble and flamingo? Bubbingo, it is. Now what's a bubbingo?\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Speak with strange accents.\", \"描述\": \"One day you fancy yourself Irish, one day you're French, and the next day you're Chinese. Why not? You could even invent your own accent if you'd like. Perhaps it's the accent of that made-up place you go to? Or try to talk in a really deep voice, or a really high one.\\nwikiHow has a great article on speaking gibberish. That's a way of speaking your own language that is very easy to learn. If your friends learn it too, you could be \\\"weird\\\" together!\\nWildly fluctuate the tone and pitch of your voice at different times, too. Whisper when you don’t need to, sing your words, or talk very, very, very slowly whenever you feel like it. 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Why not strike up a conversation with your notebook or your food? You could be the life of the party in no time! Weird, but the life of the party nonetheless.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Make up nicknames for all your friends.\", \"描述\": \"Use a different one every day. They don't have to be good! Take aspects of their personality or their look (without being mean of course) and think about what fits them.\\nOr what doesn't fit them! Some nicknames are funny because they are so unfitting. Have a friend who's way taller than you? He's \\\"short stuff\\\" for today. A friend who loves puppies? Call her \\\"cheese puffs\\\" – it doesn't have to do with anything! Change the words in their name. For example: Paige can turn into Peige. 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1. Behaving in the Classroom
1-1. Listen attentively to your teacher.
This is the easy part and will lay the foundation for the way others view your behavior. When a teacher, principal, or other school official is speaking, be sure to listen carefully or they may cross-question you. Listen even if they're not speaking to you directly (for instance, at an assembly). A teacher's day is spent struggling to win the attention of kids who would rather talk to friends and be on their phones and such things during lessons. If you listen intently, they will notice you and begin to think of you as a good student.
Avoid asking your teacher to re-explain things they've just explained in great detail just for fun or to gain their attention or else you may frustrate or anger them. Instead, wait for a moment when you can approach your teacher one-on-one and say something like, "I'm sorry, I think I need a little more help understanding how to do this."
If you have any such condition that makes it hard for you to concentrate, remember to take resolve it when you wake up in the morning (such as take a medicine if you are not feeling well) so that you'll pay attention during the lectures and lessons.
1-2. Follow the teacher's directions.
Teachers like to see that their students are treating them with respect. If you intently follow all of their directions, they may even give you special freedoms or privileges under the assumption that you're trustworthy. In addition to following their verbal directions, read your teacher's syllabus carefully and follow any special instructions you find. Many students forget to study their syllabuses - get one step further than them by paying extra attention.
If, for instance, your teacher said not to enter the classroom before they arrive, but your classmates have gone in anyway, you should wait outside. If you're the only person to follow the rules exactly, you'll stand out in your teacher's mind as a good rule-follower.
Some teachers like to give vague, cagey advice to see who listens and who doesn't. If they say something mysterious like, "be sure to study this weekend," take note - they might be planning a pop quiz for Monday. You'll make an excellent impression if you are the only one prepared.
1-3. Strive for good grades.
Everyone's academic strengths and weaknesses are different - don't worry if you can't get perfect grades or marks. It's much more important to show your teacher that you're trying your level best. Ask intelligent and sensible questions during class. If there's something you're having an especially hard time understanding, meet your teacher after class.
Your willingness to seek help will show your teacher that you're taking their class seriously. A student who's clearly engaged in the material is more likely to be considered favorably when the teacher is assigning partial credit, tests, re-takes, etc.
If you're struggling hard to comprehend any subject, don't be afraid to ask your teacher for a tutor recommendation. Seeking help when you need it is a sign of maturity which most teachers will admire and prefer.
1-4. Participate in the class.
Many classes are discussion-centered. The lecture in these classes takes the form of a dialog between the teacher and the students. Try to answer questions your teacher asks the class. Even if you don't answer correctly, you'll show your teacher that you're engaged in the material. If you don't participate, the teacher may think you aren't listening or don't care about the material.
Raise your hand when you have something to say in class. Never blurt out answers! Most teachers get irked when students answer without being called on.
1-5. Be quiet.
Don't talk to your friends or otherwise disrupt the class, especially if you're in your teacher's favouritism. Repeated disturbances can infuriate your teacher or even get you ejected from class. Respect your teacher. It should be fairly obvious when they want you to be quiet. If you're not sure, err on the side of quietness or try waiting for another student to talk first, then judge your teacher's reaction.
If the teacher leaves the room, you might get away with talking a little. However, quiet down as soon as they return. talk if the teacher leaves during a test - other students might tell about you if you disturb them or try to cheat.
1-6. Work towards a clean slate.
Not every student who reads this guide will have a history of perfect conduct. If you've behaved poorly in the past, start improving your image immediately. Apologize to your teachers, students, or administrators you've disrespected. If you've been especially bad, bring your teacher a small, modest gift for an upcoming holiday. Devote more attention to your schoolwork. Pay more attention in class. Serve any outstanding detention time, then follow the above steps to keep out of trouble in the future.
2. Behaving Outside of the Classroom
2-1. Don't waste time in the hallway.
Between classes, it's only natural to say hi to any friends you might meet. This is perfectly acceptable for a well-behaved student. However, don't let yourself get distracted talking or goofing off. Keep track of your time and always allow yourself enough time to get to class before the bell. Passing periods can be deceptively short and teachers hate it when a student is late. If you're tardy repeatedly, you might even be subject to detention or other discipline.
If you've got a timer function on your watch or cell phone, use it. Designate a set amount of time - three minutes, for example - that you're allowed to talk with friends. When your timer goes off, wrap up what you're doing and get to class!
2-2. Stay in the administration's good graces.
Presidents, deans, and provosts: these school figures aren't teachers, but that doesn't mean you can ignore them and other people in the administration. Anyone who works in an office in the school probably has the ear of the principal or someone else who can discipline you. Be respectful to these people - a good reputation among the members of the administration can be a godsend if you get in real trouble.
Here's one example: many schools have a secretary in the school's office who you need to talk to if you arrive at school late for some reason. Sometimes, this person is annoying, and, because they don't have the power to discipline you, it's tempting to give them sass. do it. They probably talk to the principal every day. Even if they don't rat you out to the principal, they'll make life difficult for you the next time you show up with a poorly-forged doctor's note.
2-3. Avoid fights.
This one's sometimes very difficult, but it's always very important. Many schools have zero-tolerance policies on fighting - throw a punch and you can easily find yourself suspended or expelled. Spare your permanent record from the threat of black ink. Don't get into fights unless it's absolutely necessary to protect yourself. Even in desperate cases where you have to fight, you run the risk of serious trouble. Teachers and administrators won't necessarily know who started the fight. If it's your word against the bully's words, then there's a good chance you'll both be punished. The best policy is to avoid fights entirely. Here are some tips:
Know how to deal with bullies. Bullies are weak, insecure people who hurt you to feel better about themselves. Try to thwart them without fighting.
Ignore your aggressors. Sometimes, people pick fights for attention or because they're bored or unfulfilled. Ignore these people to make them look like idiots. Headphones can be a great tool for this - just turn your music up.
Tell a teacher or administrator. If you feel like you're being picked on, tell your school's staff, especially if you're worried that your bully will eventually start a fight. If they do, you'll be able to say that you tried to warn them about the danger beforehand.
Never instigate a fight. No matter how disrespectful someone is to you, you'll bear the brunt of the blame if you throw the first punch. If you're fuming mad at another student, do whatever you need to do to control your temper - listen to some calming music, eat a big meal, or perform some vigorous exercise, for starters.
2-4. Don't badmouth anyone.
Gossip, especially juicy gossip, can be hard to resist spreading, but you definitely should avoid doing so. Word gets around schools quickly, and if someone hears you've said something nasty behind their back, you'll quickly get an untrustworthy reputation. This goes for teachers or administrators. Vicious rumors about staff members can put their jobs in jeopardy. If you're caught for starting a rumor about one of the school's employees, your punishment will be severe.
It goes without saying, but spreading gossip is also just a mean thing to do. Before you say something mean about someone, reflect on whether the statement is true or just a rumor. If it's true, think about how it would make this person feel if they heard it.
Don't contribute to drama on social media, either.
3. Going the Extra Mile
3-1. Enroll in extracurricular activities.
Your good behavior shouldn't necessarily begin and end in the classroom - most schools have a selection of extracurricular activities you can sign up for. By devoting yourself to your extracurricular, you'll have an opportunity to enlarge your circle of friends (in terms of both students faculty members) and develop a reputation as a hard worker. Here are a just a few extracurricular your school might offer:
Sports teams
Musical ensembles or bands
Vocal groups
Plays or musicals
Special interest clubs (debate, cooking, robotics, etc.)
Culture-based clubs
3-2. Cultivate a "good" appearance.
It's sad but true - many students and teachers are shallow - they'll judge you based on your looks. If you want to get a reputation as a goody two shoes, try to dress and groom yourself so that you look as clean-cut as possible. Avoid ripped denim, baggy pants or jerseys. Don't wear piercings on your face or body. Keep a smile - don't try to look tough or menacing. Sadly, these changes to your surface appearance will cause some people to view you differently.
Boys should be clean-shaven, with a short, conservative haircut. Tend towards button-up shirts and clean, good-fitting pants or slacks. Don't wear earrings.
Girls should avoid ostentatious makeup, revealing clothing (a bare midriff, low-cut shirts, etc.), and excessive jewelry.
3-3. Reach out to unpopular people.
One great way to get a saintly reputation is to go out of your way to be friendly and welcoming to unpopular students. Volunteer to show new kids around the school. If you see someone sitting by themselves at lunch, pull up a chair next to them. Stand up to bullying. You can even try taking social pariahs to school dances. Above all, be a friend to the friendless. You'll definitely be noticed. Plus, it's a really nice thing to do.
3-4. Become a leader.
By finding in a leadership role, you have more potential to do good (and a greater audience to notice your good deeds.) Run for student government, start your own after-school club, or become the captain of an intramural sports team. Whatever you do, lead by example - well-behaved leaders can quickly gain the respect and admiration of students and teachers alike.
3-5. Do good outside of school.
Word travels fast at school - the things you do outside of school can affect the way you're seen at school. Be an active volunteer at homeless shelters or charities. Enroll in a community-outreach program. Spend a Saturday building affordable housing through a program like Habitat for Humanity. Become a mentor for an at-risk youth. Encourage your friends to do the same. All of these things will count towards your goal of cultivating a noble goody-goody persona at school.
3-6. Ignore haters!
It's almost unavoidable - some people are going to resent you for trying to be good at school. Ignore any teasing or insults that might come your way. By doing so, you display maturity and restraint. In turn, you make them look immature. Don't let the haters get to you - the rewards of behaving well aren't worth the instant gratification of retaliation.
Don't stoop to your haters' level by hurling your own insults back at them. The best revenge is to live happily while continuing to do good - it'll frustrate them to no end.
Tips
Do not be afraid to ask questions about your subject.
Don’t disrupt the class. Throwing things, talking loudly, and shouting out is rude and disruptive.
Warnings
Good behavior means sticking to it.
If you have good behavior, then mess up badly, people will be very disappointed in you, they'll think that you're not serious, and wonder if what you're going after is what you really want to do. Chances are your teacher will even advise you to do something else.
Some teachers may just be kidding around when they say something odd, so make sure they say, "Yeah, that's what we're doing today." and doesn't just laugh.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Behaving in the Classroom\\n1-1. Listen attentively to your teacher.\\nThis is the easy part and will lay the foundation for the way others view your behavior. When a teacher, principal, or other school official is speaking, be sure to listen carefully or they may cross-question you. Listen even if they're not speaking to you directly (for instance, at an assembly). A teacher's day is spent struggling to win the attention of kids who would rather talk to friends and be on their phones and such things during lessons. If you listen intently, they will notice you and begin to think of you as a good student. \\nAvoid asking your teacher to re-explain things they've just explained in great detail just for fun or to gain their attention or else you may frustrate or anger them. Instead, wait for a moment when you can approach your teacher one-on-one and say something like, \\\"I'm sorry, I think I need a little more help understanding how to do this.\\\"\\nIf you have any such condition that makes it hard for you to concentrate, remember to take resolve it when you wake up in the morning (such as take a medicine if you are not feeling well) so that you'll pay attention during the lectures and lessons.\\n1-2. Follow the teacher's directions.\\nTeachers like to see that their students are treating them with respect. If you intently follow all of their directions, they may even give you special freedoms or privileges under the assumption that you're trustworthy. In addition to following their verbal directions, read your teacher's syllabus carefully and follow any special instructions you find. Many students forget to study their syllabuses - get one step further than them by paying extra attention.\\nIf, for instance, your teacher said not to enter the classroom before they arrive, but your classmates have gone in anyway, you should wait outside. If you're the only person to follow the rules exactly, you'll stand out in your teacher's mind as a good rule-follower.\\nSome teachers like to give vague, cagey advice to see who listens and who doesn't. If they say something mysterious like, \\\"be sure to study this weekend,\\\" take note - they might be planning a pop quiz for Monday. You'll make an excellent impression if you are the only one prepared.\\n1-3. Strive for good grades.\\nEveryone's academic strengths and weaknesses are different - don't worry if you can't get perfect grades or marks. It's much more important to show your teacher that you're trying your level best. Ask intelligent and sensible questions during class. If there's something you're having an especially hard time understanding, meet your teacher after class.\\nYour willingness to seek help will show your teacher that you're taking their class seriously. A student who's clearly engaged in the material is more likely to be considered favorably when the teacher is assigning partial credit, tests, re-takes, etc.\\nIf you're struggling hard to comprehend any subject, don't be afraid to ask your teacher for a tutor recommendation. Seeking help when you need it is a sign of maturity which most teachers will admire and prefer.\\n1-4. Participate in the class.\\nMany classes are discussion-centered. The lecture in these classes takes the form of a dialog between the teacher and the students. Try to answer questions your teacher asks the class. Even if you don't answer correctly, you'll show your teacher that you're engaged in the material. If you don't participate, the teacher may think you aren't listening or don't care about the material.\\nRaise your hand when you have something to say in class. Never blurt out answers! Most teachers get irked when students answer without being called on.\\n1-5. Be quiet.\\nDon't talk to your friends or otherwise disrupt the class, especially if you're in your teacher's favouritism. Repeated disturbances can infuriate your teacher or even get you ejected from class. Respect your teacher. It should be fairly obvious when they want you to be quiet. If you're not sure, err on the side of quietness or try waiting for another student to talk first, then judge your teacher's reaction.\\nIf the teacher leaves the room, you might get away with talking a little. However, quiet down as soon as they return. talk if the teacher leaves during a test - other students might tell about you if you disturb them or try to cheat.\\n1-6. Work towards a clean slate.\\nNot every student who reads this guide will have a history of perfect conduct. If you've behaved poorly in the past, start improving your image immediately. Apologize to your teachers, students, or administrators you've disrespected. If you've been especially bad, bring your teacher a small, modest gift for an upcoming holiday. Devote more attention to your schoolwork. Pay more attention in class. Serve any outstanding detention time, then follow the above steps to keep out of trouble in the future.\\n2. Behaving Outside of the Classroom\\n2-1. Don't waste time in the hallway.\\nBetween classes, it's only natural to say hi to any friends you might meet. This is perfectly acceptable for a well-behaved student. However, don't let yourself get distracted talking or goofing off. Keep track of your time and always allow yourself enough time to get to class before the bell. Passing periods can be deceptively short and teachers hate it when a student is late. If you're tardy repeatedly, you might even be subject to detention or other discipline.\\nIf you've got a timer function on your watch or cell phone, use it. Designate a set amount of time - three minutes, for example - that you're allowed to talk with friends. When your timer goes off, wrap up what you're doing and get to class!\\n2-2. Stay in the administration's good graces.\\nPresidents, deans, and provosts: these school figures aren't teachers, but that doesn't mean you can ignore them and other people in the administration. Anyone who works in an office in the school probably has the ear of the principal or someone else who can discipline you. Be respectful to these people - a good reputation among the members of the administration can be a godsend if you get in real trouble.\\nHere's one example: many schools have a secretary in the school's office who you need to talk to if you arrive at school late for some reason. Sometimes, this person is annoying, and, because they don't have the power to discipline you, it's tempting to give them sass. do it. They probably talk to the principal every day. Even if they don't rat you out to the principal, they'll make life difficult for you the next time you show up with a poorly-forged doctor's note.\\n2-3. Avoid fights.\\nThis one's sometimes very difficult, but it's always very important. Many schools have zero-tolerance policies on fighting - throw a punch and you can easily find yourself suspended or expelled. Spare your permanent record from the threat of black ink. Don't get into fights unless it's absolutely necessary to protect yourself. Even in desperate cases where you have to fight, you run the risk of serious trouble. Teachers and administrators won't necessarily know who started the fight. If it's your word against the bully's words, then there's a good chance you'll both be punished. The best policy is to avoid fights entirely. Here are some tips:\\n\\nKnow how to deal with bullies. Bullies are weak, insecure people who hurt you to feel better about themselves. Try to thwart them without fighting.\\nIgnore your aggressors. Sometimes, people pick fights for attention or because they're bored or unfulfilled. Ignore these people to make them look like idiots. Headphones can be a great tool for this - just turn your music up.\\nTell a teacher or administrator. If you feel like you're being picked on, tell your school's staff, especially if you're worried that your bully will eventually start a fight. If they do, you'll be able to say that you tried to warn them about the danger beforehand.\\nNever instigate a fight. No matter how disrespectful someone is to you, you'll bear the brunt of the blame if you throw the first punch. If you're fuming mad at another student, do whatever you need to do to control your temper - listen to some calming music, eat a big meal, or perform some vigorous exercise, for starters.\\n2-4. Don't badmouth anyone.\\nGossip, especially juicy gossip, can be hard to resist spreading, but you definitely should avoid doing so. Word gets around schools quickly, and if someone hears you've said something nasty behind their back, you'll quickly get an untrustworthy reputation. This goes for teachers or administrators. Vicious rumors about staff members can put their jobs in jeopardy. If you're caught for starting a rumor about one of the school's employees, your punishment will be severe.\\nIt goes without saying, but spreading gossip is also just a mean thing to do. Before you say something mean about someone, reflect on whether the statement is true or just a rumor. If it's true, think about how it would make this person feel if they heard it.\\nDon't contribute to drama on social media, either.\\n3. Going the Extra Mile\\n3-1. Enroll in extracurricular activities.\\nYour good behavior shouldn't necessarily begin and end in the classroom - most schools have a selection of extracurricular activities you can sign up for. By devoting yourself to your extracurricular, you'll have an opportunity to enlarge your circle of friends (in terms of both students faculty members) and develop a reputation as a hard worker. Here are a just a few extracurricular your school might offer:\\nSports teams\\nMusical ensembles or bands\\nVocal groups\\nPlays or musicals\\nSpecial interest clubs (debate, cooking, robotics, etc.)\\nCulture-based clubs\\n3-2. Cultivate a \\\"good\\\" appearance.\\nIt's sad but true - many students and teachers are shallow - they'll judge you based on your looks. If you want to get a reputation as a goody two shoes, try to dress and groom yourself so that you look as clean-cut as possible. Avoid ripped denim, baggy pants or jerseys. Don't wear piercings on your face or body. Keep a smile - don't try to look tough or menacing. Sadly, these changes to your surface appearance will cause some people to view you differently.\\nBoys should be clean-shaven, with a short, conservative haircut. Tend towards button-up shirts and clean, good-fitting pants or slacks. Don't wear earrings.\\nGirls should avoid ostentatious makeup, revealing clothing (a bare midriff, low-cut shirts, etc.), and excessive jewelry.\\n3-3. Reach out to unpopular people.\\nOne great way to get a saintly reputation is to go out of your way to be friendly and welcoming to unpopular students. Volunteer to show new kids around the school. If you see someone sitting by themselves at lunch, pull up a chair next to them. Stand up to bullying. You can even try taking social pariahs to school dances. Above all, be a friend to the friendless. You'll definitely be noticed. Plus, it's a really nice thing to do.\\n3-4. Become a leader.\\nBy finding in a leadership role, you have more potential to do good (and a greater audience to notice your good deeds.) Run for student government, start your own after-school club, or become the captain of an intramural sports team. Whatever you do, lead by example - well-behaved leaders can quickly gain the respect and admiration of students and teachers alike.\\n3-5. Do good outside of school.\\nWord travels fast at school - the things you do outside of school can affect the way you're seen at school. Be an active volunteer at homeless shelters or charities. Enroll in a community-outreach program. Spend a Saturday building affordable housing through a program like Habitat for Humanity. Become a mentor for an at-risk youth. Encourage your friends to do the same. All of these things will count towards your goal of cultivating a noble goody-goody persona at school.\\n3-6. Ignore haters!\\nIt's almost unavoidable - some people are going to resent you for trying to be good at school. Ignore any teasing or insults that might come your way. By doing so, you display maturity and restraint. In turn, you make them look immature. Don't let the haters get to you - the rewards of behaving well aren't worth the instant gratification of retaliation.\\nDon't stoop to your haters' level by hurling your own insults back at them. The best revenge is to live happily while continuing to do good - it'll frustrate them to no end.\\nTips\\nDo not be afraid to ask questions about your subject.\\nDon’t disrupt the class. Throwing things, talking loudly, and shouting out is rude and disruptive.\\nWarnings\\nGood behavior means sticking to it.\\nIf you have good behavior, then mess up badly, people will be very disappointed in you, they'll think that you're not serious, and wonder if what you're going after is what you really want to do. Chances are your teacher will even advise you to do something else.\\nSome teachers may just be kidding around when they say something odd, so make sure they say, \\\"Yeah, that's what we're doing today.\\\" and doesn't just laugh.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Carry yourself well, stay under control, be polite at all times, and you will develop a good reputation for being well-behaved. Good behavior makes a good impression on teachers and administrators and they'll be inclined to put in a good word for you. A squeaky-clean record and upright demeanor can also improve your college admission prospects and help when you search for jobs.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Behaving in the Classroom\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Listen attentively to your teacher.\", \"描述\": \"This is the easy part and will lay the foundation for the way others view your behavior. When a teacher, principal, or other school official is speaking, be sure to listen carefully or they may cross-question you. Listen even if they're not speaking to you directly (for instance, at an assembly). A teacher's day is spent struggling to win the attention of kids who would rather talk to friends and be on their phones and such things during lessons. If you listen intently, they will notice you and begin to think of you as a good student. \\nAvoid asking your teacher to re-explain things they've just explained in great detail just for fun or to gain their attention or else you may frustrate or anger them. Instead, wait for a moment when you can approach your teacher one-on-one and say something like, \\\"I'm sorry, I think I need a little more help understanding how to do this.\\\"\\nIf you have any such condition that makes it hard for you to concentrate, remember to take resolve it when you wake up in the morning (such as take a medicine if you are not feeling well) so that you'll pay attention during the lectures and lessons.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Follow the teacher's directions.\", \"描述\": \"Teachers like to see that their students are treating them with respect. If you intently follow all of their directions, they may even give you special freedoms or privileges under the assumption that you're trustworthy. In addition to following their verbal directions, read your teacher's syllabus carefully and follow any special instructions you find. Many students forget to study their syllabuses - get one step further than them by paying extra attention.\\nIf, for instance, your teacher said not to enter the classroom before they arrive, but your classmates have gone in anyway, you should wait outside. If you're the only person to follow the rules exactly, you'll stand out in your teacher's mind as a good rule-follower.\\nSome teachers like to give vague, cagey advice to see who listens and who doesn't. If they say something mysterious like, \\\"be sure to study this weekend,\\\" take note - they might be planning a pop quiz for Monday. You'll make an excellent impression if you are the only one prepared.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Strive for good grades.\", \"描述\": \"Everyone's academic strengths and weaknesses are different - don't worry if you can't get perfect grades or marks. It's much more important to show your teacher that you're trying your level best. Ask intelligent and sensible questions during class. If there's something you're having an especially hard time understanding, meet your teacher after class.\\nYour willingness to seek help will show your teacher that you're taking their class seriously. A student who's clearly engaged in the material is more likely to be considered favorably when the teacher is assigning partial credit, tests, re-takes, etc.\\nIf you're struggling hard to comprehend any subject, don't be afraid to ask your teacher for a tutor recommendation. Seeking help when you need it is a sign of maturity which most teachers will admire and prefer.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Participate in the class.\", \"描述\": \"Many classes are discussion-centered. The lecture in these classes takes the form of a dialog between the teacher and the students. Try to answer questions your teacher asks the class. Even if you don't answer correctly, you'll show your teacher that you're engaged in the material. If you don't participate, the teacher may think you aren't listening or don't care about the material.\\nRaise your hand when you have something to say in class. Never blurt out answers! Most teachers get irked when students answer without being called on.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be quiet.\", \"描述\": \"Don't talk to your friends or otherwise disrupt the class, especially if you're in your teacher's favouritism. Repeated disturbances can infuriate your teacher or even get you ejected from class. Respect your teacher. It should be fairly obvious when they want you to be quiet. If you're not sure, err on the side of quietness or try waiting for another student to talk first, then judge your teacher's reaction.\\nIf the teacher leaves the room, you might get away with talking a little. 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This is perfectly acceptable for a well-behaved student. However, don't let yourself get distracted talking or goofing off. Keep track of your time and always allow yourself enough time to get to class before the bell. Passing periods can be deceptively short and teachers hate it when a student is late. If you're tardy repeatedly, you might even be subject to detention or other discipline.\\nIf you've got a timer function on your watch or cell phone, use it. Designate a set amount of time - three minutes, for example - that you're allowed to talk with friends. When your timer goes off, wrap up what you're doing and get to class!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Stay in the administration's good graces.\", \"描述\": \"Presidents, deans, and provosts: these school figures aren't teachers, but that doesn't mean you can ignore them and other people in the administration. Anyone who works in an office in the school probably has the ear of the principal or someone else who can discipline you. Be respectful to these people - a good reputation among the members of the administration can be a godsend if you get in real trouble.\\nHere's one example: many schools have a secretary in the school's office who you need to talk to if you arrive at school late for some reason. Sometimes, this person is annoying, and, because they don't have the power to discipline you, it's tempting to give them sass. do it. They probably talk to the principal every day. Even if they don't rat you out to the principal, they'll make life difficult for you the next time you show up with a poorly-forged doctor's note.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Avoid fights.\", \"描述\": \"This one's sometimes very difficult, but it's always very important. Many schools have zero-tolerance policies on fighting - throw a punch and you can easily find yourself suspended or expelled. Spare your permanent record from the threat of black ink. Don't get into fights unless it's absolutely necessary to protect yourself. Even in desperate cases where you have to fight, you run the risk of serious trouble. Teachers and administrators won't necessarily know who started the fight. If it's your word against the bully's words, then there's a good chance you'll both be punished. The best policy is to avoid fights entirely. Here are some tips:\\n\\nKnow how to deal with bullies. Bullies are weak, insecure people who hurt you to feel better about themselves. Try to thwart them without fighting.\\nIgnore your aggressors. Sometimes, people pick fights for attention or because they're bored or unfulfilled. Ignore these people to make them look like idiots. Headphones can be a great tool for this - just turn your music up.\\nTell a teacher or administrator. If you feel like you're being picked on, tell your school's staff, especially if you're worried that your bully will eventually start a fight. If they do, you'll be able to say that you tried to warn them about the danger beforehand.\\nNever instigate a fight. No matter how disrespectful someone is to you, you'll bear the brunt of the blame if you throw the first punch. If you're fuming mad at another student, do whatever you need to do to control your temper - listen to some calming music, eat a big meal, or perform some vigorous exercise, for starters.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't badmouth anyone.\", \"描述\": \"Gossip, especially juicy gossip, can be hard to resist spreading, but you definitely should avoid doing so. Word gets around schools quickly, and if someone hears you've said something nasty behind their back, you'll quickly get an untrustworthy reputation. This goes for teachers or administrators. Vicious rumors about staff members can put their jobs in jeopardy. If you're caught for starting a rumor about one of the school's employees, your punishment will be severe.\\nIt goes without saying, but spreading gossip is also just a mean thing to do. Before you say something mean about someone, reflect on whether the statement is true or just a rumor. If it's true, think about how it would make this person feel if they heard it.\\nDon't contribute to drama on social media, either.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Going the Extra Mile\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Enroll in extracurricular activities.\", \"描述\": \"Your good behavior shouldn't necessarily begin and end in the classroom - most schools have a selection of extracurricular activities you can sign up for. By devoting yourself to your extracurricular, you'll have an opportunity to enlarge your circle of friends (in terms of both students faculty members) and develop a reputation as a hard worker. 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Don't let the haters get to you - the rewards of behaving well aren't worth the instant gratification of retaliation.\\nDon't stoop to your haters' level by hurling your own insults back at them. The best revenge is to live happily while continuing to do good - it'll frustrate them to no end.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Do not be afraid to ask questions about your subject.\\n\", \"Don’t disrupt the class. Throwing things, talking loudly, and shouting out is rude and disruptive.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Good behavior means sticking to it.\\n\", \"If you have good behavior, then mess up badly, people will be very disappointed in you, they'll think that you're not serious, and wonder if what you're going after is what you really want to do. Chances are your teacher will even advise you to do something else.\\n\", \"Some teachers may just be kidding around when they say something odd, so make sure they say, \\\"Yeah, that's what we're doing today.\\\" and doesn't just laugh.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Staying Kempt on a Daily Basis
1-1. Take a shower every day.
A requisite for a well-groomed appearance is cleanliness. Start every day with a shower and the soap of your choice. Do this unless specified otherwise by a medical professional.
Certain soaps are healthy for your skin and contain fewer harmful chemicals.
1-2. Use deodorant.
After cleaning your body, ensure that you smell fresh. Apply deodorant after your shower. Choose a sensitive or aluminum-free variety if you suffer from allergies. Spend time finding the smell that is right for you.
1-3. Brush your teeth.
Brushing twice a day should be a minimum for your routine. Brush once in the morning and once at night, but don’t feel like you can’t brush whenever you have the urge.
You should also floss once a day. Even if you could floss twice a week will help. Flossing decreases your bad breath by removing bacteria buildup from your mouth.
1-4. Shave or groom your hair.
Not everyone subscribes to shaving their face, legs, or other parts of the body every day. Only shave your face, legs, and armpits if you believe this is necessary. People with facial hair can appear well-groomed, but it must be kept under control and cared for.
Don't feel pressured to shave or not shave your body, regardless of your gender.
Do what is right for you. Half of looking well groomed is the confidence around you.
If you have sensitive skin, consider shaving less frequently and find a shaving cream made for sensitive skin.
1-5. Carry the essentials.
Have a “survival kit” with you at all times to combat a blemish once out of the house. You can use a strong zip lock bag and include items for dry skin, broken nails, or messy hair. Use some of the following for your own kit:
Lotion or vaseline
Mini comb
Mints
Mini mirror
Pins
Hairbands
Perfume or cologne
Compact towel
Miniature sewing kit
1-6. Style your hair.
You can pull off any type of haircut with the proper hair styling technique. Here are a few products to help with the many hairstyles out there:
Pomade can be used effectively for a sleek look on short and textured hair.
Waxes are great for adding shine and control to your short hair.
Muds and fibers help with the disheveled look for mid-length hair.
Creams can control frizz and flyaways for longer hair.
Gel can be used for a strong hold and wet look.
1-7. Make your hair look nice.
Before styling your hair, you should understand what type of hair you have. You can determine the thickness of your hair by how many times you need to wrap it in a ponytail. One wrap means your hair is thick, 2-3 wraps is medium, and anything more is fine hair. Use a high-wattage blow dryer (above 1800 watts) to prevent frizz and create a shiny, smooth finish.
Curl your hair. If you plan on curling your hair apply a lightweight mousse while your hair is wet. Then use a ceramic curling iron once it has dried. Keep the curls all day by using a frizz-fighting hair spray.
Straighten your hair. Choose a hair straightener with ceramic plates and prep your hair before straightening. Use shampoo and conditioners that are meant for smoothing.
Add volume to your locks by adding a volumizing gel while your hair’s wet from a shower. Do this at night and put your hair up in a bun before falling asleep. Then let your hair down the next morning for a healthy bounce.
When all else fails, wear a hat.
2. Dressing the Part
2-1. Wear clean clothing.
After cleaning and drying your clothes always fold them immediately after to avoid wrinkles. Take any clothing with stains for immediate treatment at a dry cleaner. Make sure there aren't loose threads, the buttons are intact, and the hem is clean.
If you take care of yourself, take care of your clothing.
Use a lint roller on your clothes if it’s needed.
2-2. De-pill your clothes.
Pilling is the build-up of fibers and threads that create little balls on your clothes. You don’t need any special equipment to de-pill your clothes. First clean your clothes then if you notice pilling, shave it off. Take a standard razor you’d use on your skin and shave off the pilling. Use a lint roller afterward for a clean finish.
Be slow and gentle with the razor. It is easy to cut a hole if you aren’t careful.
2-3. Wear clothes you love.
If you aren’t in love with an article of clothing, ditch it for something that excites you. When you enjoy the clothes you own, you tend to care for their condition more. Dressing in your favorite clothes will make you look great and boost your self-esteem.
If you love a coat or pants but they don’t fit well, take them to an alterations store.
2-4. Dress in style.
Notice the trends around you by noting what someone wears that strikes you as being well-groomed. As a general rule, keep it simple. You don’t have to dress up every day, but you can go a long way by wearing something simple that compliments itself and your body.
When you know what works for you, go for it and double up. Don’t hesitate if you know something looks good on you.
Embrace your shape. Whatever you’ve got, you can find clothing that accentuates your flattering qualities.
Make sure your clothes fit you. Don’t wear anything too loose or tight.
Always try clothes on before you purchase and get a second opinion.
2-5. Wear clean and polished shoes.
Shoes are always the first thing many people look at. They tell a lot about a person. If your shoes become dirty due to dirt or salt, clean them that night.
2-6. Wear a decent fragrance.
Finish off your clothing choice with a quick mist of fragrance. Go for a nicer type of perfume or cologne. Be aware that some people are violently allergic to certain scents. A fragrance should be discovered, not announced.
If in doubt find a health and beauty store, and pick out an essential oil-based fragrance. Using essential oils can even help elevate your mood, decrease your stress, and smell incredible.
2-7. Treat your leather.
About twice a year, go through all your leather goods and give them a thorough cleaning. If your leather articles are too dry and appear to scab, apply a leather dressing or cream to them. Try to use something recommended by the leather’s makers since all leather is different.
Clean dirt smudges with a damp cloth. You can use leather soap if you want. The trick is to never let your leather get too wet.
Never let your leather dry in direct sunlight.
3. Caring for Your Look
3-1. Keep hair cut and styled.
Well-cut hair allows you to present a confident image. Plan on cutting your hair every four weeks to retain a healthy look. Even if you are trying to grow out your hair, cutting the tips will prevent split ends and promote healthy growth.
Don't be a stranger to your barber or stylist. While you are there, schedule your next appointment to ensure your hair stays well-groomed.
3-2. Wash hair when needed.
People with straight hair may choose to wash their hair daily while others with very curly hair may need to do so less frequently. There is some debate on how daily washing can dry out hair and strip the scalp of important nutrients.
When you do shampoo, lather the product on your scalp and don't worry about the rest.
For curly hair that becomes very dry, consider conditioning your hair more frequently than shampooing.
Use conditioner for your mid-length hair and tips. These parts of hair are more vulnerable to becoming dried out.
3-3. Trim your nails.
Shorter nails look neater. Everyone should always have trimmed nails. If you have longer nails, keep them in good condition. Never hesitate if you want to take your nails to the nail salon.
Do not bite your nails. This doesn’t make your hands look well-groomed. Always use clippers or take them to a nail stylist.
3-4. Use a mirror.
Double-check your look in a mirror before leaving the house. Mirrors can help you catch easy-to-miss blemishes that could ruin your look like:
Red patches on your face
Wrinkled clothing
Untidy hair
Weak collars
Faded clothing
Tips
Washing your face twice a day can help with breakouts.
Moisturize your skin immediately after a shower to avoid your skin from drying.
Pluck your eyebrows often.
Warnings
When you shave, be careful not to cut yourself. Don’t shave against the grain.
Use a modest amount of aftershave, cologne, or perfume. A little usually goes a long way. Too much can make people wonder what you are hiding.
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Shave or groom your hair.\\nNot everyone subscribes to shaving their face, legs, or other parts of the body every day. Only shave your face, legs, and armpits if you believe this is necessary. People with facial hair can appear well-groomed, but it must be kept under control and cared for.\\nDon't feel pressured to shave or not shave your body, regardless of your gender.\\nDo what is right for you. Half of looking well groomed is the confidence around you.\\nIf you have sensitive skin, consider shaving less frequently and find a shaving cream made for sensitive skin.\\n1-5. Carry the essentials.\\nHave a “survival kit” with you at all times to combat a blemish once out of the house. You can use a strong zip lock bag and include items for dry skin, broken nails, or messy hair. Use some of the following for your own kit:\\nLotion or vaseline\\nMini comb\\nMints\\nMini mirror\\nPins\\nHairbands\\nPerfume or cologne\\nCompact towel\\nMiniature sewing kit\\n1-6. 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1. Reading the Classics
1-1. Read the classics before 1600.
Reading the classics is the very first thing you have to do to be well-read. If you want to build a solid foundation for your understanding of the books you read, then you can't avoid some of the earliest plays, poems, and oral tales ever written down. Remember that the novel didn't really get popular until the 18th century, so you won't find novels on this list. Without reading the poetry of Homer or the plays of Sophocles, you won't be able to call yourself well-read. Here's a list to get you started:
The Epic of Gilgamesh (Unknown author) (18th – 17th century BCE)
The Iliad and The Odyssey by Homer (850–750 BCE, 8th century BCE)
"The Oresteia" by Aeschylus (458 BCE)
Oedipus the King by Sophocles (430 BCE)
Medea by Euripides (431 BCE)
Aeneid by Virgil (29–19 BCE)
One Thousand and One Nights (Unknown author) (700–1500)
Beowulf (Unknown author) (975-1025)
The Tale of Genji by Murasaki Shikibu (11th century)
The Divine Comedy by Dante (1265–1321)
The Decameron by Boccaccio (1349–53)
The Canterbury Tales by Chaucer (14th century)
"The Mahabharata" by Vyasa
1-2. Read the classics from 1600-1913.
Though a large amount of material is covered in these measly 300 years, reading the books from the time period when the novel emerged until the beginning of World War I will give you a sense of the progress that the novel and other works had made throughout the Romantic and Victorian periods, as well as an understanding of the realism that was the traditional mode for novels which was then turned on its head with the advent of Modernism and the disillusionment that came from WWI. Here's a list to get you started:
Don Quixote by Cervantes 1605 (part 1), 1615 (part 2)
"Taming of the Shrew," Romeo and Juliet, "A Midsummer Night's Dream," "The Merchant of Venice," "Much Ado About Nothing," "As You Like It," "Julius Caesar," Hamlet, "Othello," "King Lear," and "Macbeth" by William Shakespeare (1593, 1594, 1595, 1596, 1598, 1599, 1599, 1600, 1604, 1605, 1605)
Gulliver's Travels by Jonathan Swift (1726)
Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen (1813)
Faust by Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1832)
Le Père Goriot by Honoré de Balzac (1835)
Dead Souls by Nikolai Gogol (1842)
Wuthering Heights by Emily Brontë (1847)
Moby-Dick by Herman Melville (1851)
Madame Bovary by Gustave Flaubert (1856)
Great Expectations by Charles Dickens (1861)
War and Peace and Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy (1869, 1877)
Heart of Darkness by Joseph Conrad (1899)
Crime and Punishment and The Brothers Karamazov by Fyodor Dostoevsky (1866, 1880)
Middlemarch by George Eliot (1871)
1-3. Read the classics from 1914-1995.
This time period spans the advent of Modernism, an experimental form of fiction, as well as a rebellion against traditional narratives. Reading the classics of this time period will help you gain an understanding of the dramatic transformation of literature in the 20th century. Here's a list to get you going:
In Search of Lost Time by Marcel Proust (1913–27)
Ulysses by James Joyce (1922)
The Magic Mountain by Thomas Mann (1924)
The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald (1925)
The Trial by Franz Kafka (1925)
Mrs Dalloway and To the Lighthouse byVirginia Woolf(1925, 1927)
The Sound and the Fury by William Faulkner (1929)
The Stranger byAlbert Camus (1942)
The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand (1943)
Nineteen Eighty-Four by George Orwell (1949)
The Catcher in the Rye by J.D. Salinger (1951)
Invisible Man by Ralph Ellison (1952)
The Sun Also Rises and The Old Man and the Sea by Ernest Hemingway (1926, 1952)
"The Lord of The Rings" by J.R.R. Tolkien (1954, 1955)
Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov (1955)
Pedro Páramo by Juan Rulfo (1955)
Things Fall Apart by Chinua Achebe (1958)
Rabbit, Run by John Updike (1960)
To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee (1960)
The Golden Notebook by Doris Lessing (1962)
The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath (1963)
One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel García Márquez (1967)
Slaughterhouse-Five by Kurt Vonnegut (1969)
1-4. Read more contemporary classics from 1980 to the present.
Though these books haven't stood the test of decades of time, there are still a number of contemporary novels that are so popular that it may feel like everyone has read them. In fact, reading these books may make you feel the most well-read because people will be talking about them the most. Here are some books to get you started:
Midnight's Children by Salman Rushdie (1981)
The Handmaid's Tale by Margaret Atwood (1984)
Beloved by Toni Morrison (1987)
The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle by Haruki Murakami (1997)
American Pastoral by Philip Roth (1997)
The God of Small Things" by Arundhati Roy (1997)
Disgrace by J. M. Coetzee (1999)
White Teeth by Zadie Smith (2000)
Atonement by Ian McEwan (2001)
The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier and Klay by Michael Chabon (2001)
Everything is Illuminated by Johnathan Safran Foer (2002)
Middlesex by Jeffery Eugenides
The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini (2003)
The Known World by Edward P. Jones (2003)
Gilead by Marilynne Robinson (2004)
The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao by Junot Diaz (2007)
2666 by Roberto Bolaño (2008)
Swamplandia! by Karen Russell (2011)
2. Becoming Well-Read in Different Genres
2-1. Read short stories.
Short stories are an incredible genre all their own, and if you really want to be well-read, then you have to read the short stories of classic masters as well as some contemporary short stories. For short stories, it's more important to read the works of a particular author than a collection, so here is a list of classic short story writers as well as more contemporary writers that you have to check out:
Classic short story masters (1600-1950): Edgar Allan Poe, Anton Chekhov, Ernest Hemingway, Jorge Luis Borges, Kafka, Isaac Babel, John Updike, Katherine Mansfield, Eudora Welty, and Ray Bradbury.
Contemporary short story masters: (1950-Present): Flannery O'Connor, Raymond Carver, Donald Barthelme, Tim 'O Brien, George Saunders, Jhumpa Lahiri, Junot Diaz, Z.Z. Packer, Joyce Carol Oates, and Denis Johnson.
Classic Short Story Collections:
In Our Time by Ernest Hemingway (1925)
A Good Man is Hard to Find by Flannery O'Connor (1953)
What We Talk About When We Talk About Love by Raymond Carver (1981)
Jesus' Son by Denis Johnson (1992)
Interpreter of Maladies by Jhumpa Lahiri (1999)
2-2. Read plays.
If you want to be well-read, then you also have to read the works of classic playwrights. Though Shakespeare is the playwright you should know the best, he has been previously listed. However, there are other contemporary and not-so-contemporary plays that you should read if you want to call yourself well-read. Check these out:
Everything by Shakespeare, including Macbeth, Romeo and Juliet, and Much Ado About Nothing (1606, 1597, 1599)
Hedda Gabler and A Doll's House by Henrik Ibsen (1890, 1879)
The Importance of Being Earnest by Oscar Wilde (1895)
Cyrano de Bergerac by Edmund Rostand (1897)
The Cherry Orchard and Uncle Vanya by Chekhov (1904, 1897)
Pygmalion by George Bernard Shaw (1912)
Our Town by Thornton Wilder (1938)
Death of a Salesman and The Crucible by Arthur Miller (1949, 1953)
Waiting for Godot by Samuel Beckett (1949)
Twelve Angry Men by Reginald Rose (1954)
A Streetcar Named Desire, The Glass Menagerie, Cat on a Hot Tin Roof by Tennessee Williams (1947, 1944, 1955)
No Exit by John-Paul Sartre (1944)
Inherit the Wind by Jerome Lawrence (1955)
Long Day's Journey into Night and The Iceman Cometh by Eugene O'Neill (1956, 1946)
A Raisin in the Sun by Lorraine Hansberry (1959)
Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf? by Edward Albee (1963)
Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead by Tom Stoppard (1966)
Betrayal by Harold Pinter (1978)
2-3. Read poetry.
Though the people around you may be less likely to talk about poetry unless you run in well-read circles, it's important to familiarize yourself with both classic and contemporary poets so that you can be part of the conversation. Here are some books to get you started:
Shakespeare's Sonnets by William Shakespeare (1609)
Paradise Lost by John Milton (1667)
The Complete Poems by John Keats (1815)
Leaves of Grass by Walt Whitman (1855)
The Collected Poems of Langston Hughes by Langston Hughes
The Poetry of Robert Frost by Robert Frost
The Collected Poems of Emily Dickinson by Emily Dickinson
The Waste Land and Other Poems by T. S. Eliot (1922)
Twenty Love Poems and a Song of Despair by Pablo Neruda (1924)
E. E. Cummings: Complete Poems, 1904 -1962 by E. E. Cummings
Howl and Other Poems by Allen Ginsberg (1956)
Ariel by Sylvia Plath (1965)
The Complete Poems, 1927 - 1979 by Elizabeth Bishop
Opened Ground: Selected Poems, 1966 - 1996 by Seamus Heaney
2-4. Read non-fiction.
If you really want to be well-read, then you can't just read stuff that people made up. You'll have to read some non-fiction too so that you know what's going on in the world of politics, history, popular science, and whatever the heck else is going on in the world. Here are the different types of non-fiction that you should familiarize yourself with:
History
Politics
Magazines
Memoirs
Biographies
The news
2-5. Read popular fiction and non-fiction.
If you really want to know what everyone is talking about, then you can't just sit around reading Virgil. You'll have to know what's going on in the modern world too, and to read those beach reads or plane reads or Oprah's book club has been talking about. How do you know what to read? Well, check out what people are reading on planes, beaches, etc., and also check out the New York Times bestseller list to check out which books are on the list. Here are some popular books that have all been published in the last twenty years that nearly everyone has read these days:
"The Wheel of Time" series by Robert Jordan
The Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling
Any novel by Nicholas Sparks
Any novel by John Grisham
The Hunger Games trilogy by Suzanne Collins
The Da Vinci Code by Dan Brown
Bonfire of the Vanities by Tom Wolfe
Fear of Flying by Erica Jong
Books by Bernard Cornwell
The "A Song of Ice and Fire" series by George R.R. Martin
The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion
A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius by Dave Eggers
Freakonomics by Steven Levitt
Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert
Outliers and The Tipping Point by Malcom Gladwell
The Twilight series by Stephanie Meyer
The Alchemist by Paolo Coelho
The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo series by Stieg Larsson
3. Making Reading More Fun
3-1. Set goals.
How can setting goals make reading more fun, you may ask? Well, because you'll feel good about yourself if you accomplish something, that's why. Start small: say, you want to read one book a month. Then go down to a book every two weeks. When you're officially addicted to reading, you can read one book a week -- or even two. Make a list of books and stick to them and you'll be reading more and more in no time at all.
Setting goals will also keep you from wasting your time in less productive endeavors. Let's say you've aimed to finish Ulysses by the weekend but there's a marathon of Bad Girls Club on. Bye bye bad girls, hello culture.
3-2. Blaze through top 100 lists.
The Modern Library, Amazon, Time Magazine, and the New York Times have some great top 100 lists that can make you feel even more accomplished for reading. You'll feel extremely well-read and good about yourself if you find yourself going down a list and crossing off every book you've read. Check out these lists for more reference:
The Modern Library Top 100 Modern Books list.
Time Magazine's Best Book of All Time list.
The Guardian's Top 100 Books of All Time list.
Read books by Nobel-prize winning authors. Check out the list of authors here:
The Village Voice's list of best books of the previous decade, by genre.
3-3. Listen to audio books.
Open an account at Audible.com or start listening to books you've rented from your local library. Listening to audiobooks is a great way to be well-read when you're too tired to pick up a book and read. You can also listen to the books in the car, which is perfect for a long commute, or on your iPod while you're taking a walk. Suddenly you'll be looking forward to that long drive to work instead of dreading it!
Before you buy or rent the book, see if you can listen to a sample to make sure you like the voice of the person who is reading. If you think the person has an annoying voice, the book will feel like a slow read.
3-4. Get a Kindle.
Though a Kindle can cost over $100, you'll quickly save money when you start buying books at the discount rate it offers. You can buy many classic novels, such as the works of Henry James, for under one dollar, and you can get contemporary novels at a 10-25% discount from what you would pay in the store, depending on the book. Getting a Kindle will also allow you to download a book the second you have a reading craving, instead of waiting around for a convenient time to run to the store.
When you have a Kindle, you can also sample a chapter of a book before buying it, so you can still browse the books a bit.
3-5. Reward yourself with fun books.
Though being well-read is important, having fun when you're reading is important too. What's your vice--cheesy detective novels, Harlequin romances, or thrillers? Whatever books you really love to read, don't give 'em up just to read Charles Dickens. Instead, reward yourself: say that for every classic novel or literary novel you read, you'll get to read one thriller, one beach romance, or one book of whatever genre you love the most.
3-6. Start or join a book club.
Being part of a book club will not only help you make friends with other well-read people, but it will open you up to a wider variety of books and will give you strict deadlines for finishing the books, as well as some time to think about what the books mean to you. Book clubs will keep you from speeding from one book to the next without stopping to think what it all means.
In most book clubs, you'll have a chance to pick a book for the club to read, so you'll get to share one of your favorite authors with others.
3-7. Start a Goodreads account.
If you start an account on Goodreads, you'll be able to make a list of all the books you've read or want to read, review the books you've read, and to interact with other book lovers. Starting an account is free and will connect you to even more books and more readers. And more importantly, it'll make you more excited about reading, so start an account today!
3-8. Become an Amazon top reviewer.
Get an account at Amazon if you don't have one already and start reviewing all of those great books you've read. Once you've reviewed a ton of books and have written interesting and thoughtful reviews, you'll be on your way to reaching top reader status. If you do make it to top reader, you'll get perks like discounts, and the ability to read books before their official release date.
And even if you don't become a top reader, taking the time to review the books you've read will help you think about what you've read.
3-9. Hang out with other well-read people.
Just hanging out with people who love to read, whether they're your co-workers or members of your book club, will open you up to more ideas of what books to read next, and will give you a better sense of which books are popular. There's no point in being well-read if you can't use your knowledge to have interesting discussions with other people.
3-10. Listen to podcasts.
You can download free podcasts, such as the New Yorker Fiction podcasts, or KCRW's weekly Bookworm podcasts, to hear writers read from their favorite stories or to hear authors discuss their new books. You can also get your news from podcasts, and listen anything from Chekhov's stories to classic speeches in American history, such as the Gettysburg address. Try these podcasts to become more well-read without reading a word:
The New Yorker Fiction podcast
KCRW's Bookworm
PRI's Selected Shorts
WBEZ Chicago's This American Life
PRI's America Abroad
LearnOutLoud's Great Speeches in History Podcast
New York Times Book Review podcast
Tips
If you want to have fun by reading, read books on your reading level (books you actually understand), but at the same time if you want to improve your skills you can always try to read and understand a harder book.
Don't be afraid to read children's books.
Reading also increases vocabulary.
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Here's a list to get you started:\\n\\nThe Epic of Gilgamesh (Unknown author) (18th – 17th century BCE)\\nThe Iliad and The Odyssey by Homer (850–750 BCE, 8th century BCE)\\n\\\"The Oresteia\\\" by Aeschylus (458 BCE)\\nOedipus the King by Sophocles (430 BCE)\\nMedea by Euripides (431 BCE)\\nAeneid by Virgil (29–19 BCE)\\nOne Thousand and One Nights (Unknown author) (700–1500)\\nBeowulf (Unknown author) (975-1025)\\nThe Tale of Genji by Murasaki Shikibu (11th century)\\nThe Divine Comedy by Dante (1265–1321)\\nThe Decameron by Boccaccio (1349–53)\\nThe Canterbury Tales by Chaucer (14th century)\\n\\\"The Mahabharata\\\" by Vyasa\\n1-2. Read the classics from 1600-1913.\\nThough a large amount of material is covered in these measly 300 years, reading the books from the time period when the novel emerged until the beginning of World War I will give you a sense of the progress that the novel and other works had made throughout the Romantic and Victorian periods, as well as an understanding of the realism that was the traditional mode for novels which was then turned on its head with the advent of Modernism and the disillusionment that came from WWI. Here's a list to get you started:\\n\\nDon Quixote by Cervantes 1605 (part 1), 1615 (part 2)\\n\\\"Taming of the Shrew,\\\" Romeo and Juliet, \\\"A Midsummer Night's Dream,\\\" \\\"The Merchant of Venice,\\\" \\\"Much Ado About Nothing,\\\" \\\"As You Like It,\\\" \\\"Julius Caesar,\\\" Hamlet, \\\"Othello,\\\" \\\"King Lear,\\\" and \\\"Macbeth\\\" by William Shakespeare (1593, 1594, 1595, 1596, 1598, 1599, 1599, 1600, 1604, 1605, 1605)\\nGulliver's Travels by Jonathan Swift (1726)\\nPride and Prejudice by Jane Austen (1813)\\nFaust by Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1832)\\nLe Père Goriot by Honoré de Balzac (1835)\\nDead Souls by Nikolai Gogol (1842)\\nWuthering Heights by Emily Brontë (1847)\\nMoby-Dick by Herman Melville (1851)\\nMadame Bovary by Gustave Flaubert (1856)\\nGreat Expectations by Charles Dickens (1861)\\nWar and Peace and Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy (1869, 1877)\\nHeart of Darkness by Joseph Conrad (1899)\\nCrime and Punishment and The Brothers Karamazov by Fyodor Dostoevsky (1866, 1880)\\nMiddlemarch by George Eliot (1871)\\n1-3. Read the classics from 1914-1995.\\nThis time period spans the advent of Modernism, an experimental form of fiction, as well as a rebellion against traditional narratives. Reading the classics of this time period will help you gain an understanding of the dramatic transformation of literature in the 20th century. Here's a list to get you going:\\n\\nIn Search of Lost Time by Marcel Proust (1913–27)\\nUlysses by James Joyce (1922)\\nThe Magic Mountain by Thomas Mann (1924)\\nThe Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald (1925)\\nThe Trial by Franz Kafka (1925)\\nMrs Dalloway and To the Lighthouse byVirginia Woolf(1925, 1927)\\nThe Sound and the Fury by William Faulkner (1929)\\nThe Stranger byAlbert Camus (1942)\\nThe Fountainhead by Ayn Rand (1943)\\nNineteen Eighty-Four by George Orwell (1949)\\nThe Catcher in the Rye by J.D. Salinger (1951)\\nInvisible Man by Ralph Ellison (1952)\\nThe Sun Also Rises and The Old Man and the Sea by Ernest Hemingway (1926, 1952)\\n\\\"The Lord of The Rings\\\" by J.R.R. Tolkien (1954, 1955)\\nLolita by Vladimir Nabokov (1955)\\nPedro Páramo by Juan Rulfo (1955)\\nThings Fall Apart by Chinua Achebe (1958)\\nRabbit, Run by John Updike (1960)\\nTo Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee (1960)\\nThe Golden Notebook by Doris Lessing (1962)\\nThe Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath (1963)\\nOne Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel García Márquez (1967)\\nSlaughterhouse-Five by Kurt Vonnegut (1969)\\n1-4. Read more contemporary classics from 1980 to the present.\\nThough these books haven't stood the test of decades of time, there are still a number of contemporary novels that are so popular that it may feel like everyone has read them. In fact, reading these books may make you feel the most well-read because people will be talking about them the most. Here are some books to get you started:\\n\\nMidnight's Children by Salman Rushdie (1981)\\nThe Handmaid's Tale by Margaret Atwood (1984)\\nBeloved by Toni Morrison (1987)\\nThe Wind-Up Bird Chronicle by Haruki Murakami (1997)\\nAmerican Pastoral by Philip Roth (1997)\\nThe God of Small Things\\\" by Arundhati Roy (1997)\\nDisgrace by J. M. Coetzee (1999)\\nWhite Teeth by Zadie Smith (2000)\\nAtonement by Ian McEwan (2001)\\nThe Amazing Adventures of Kavalier and Klay by Michael Chabon (2001)\\nEverything is Illuminated by Johnathan Safran Foer (2002)\\nMiddlesex by Jeffery Eugenides\\nThe Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini (2003)\\nThe Known World by Edward P. Jones (2003)\\nGilead by Marilynne Robinson (2004)\\nThe Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao by Junot Diaz (2007)\\n2666 by Roberto Bolaño (2008)\\nSwamplandia! by Karen Russell (2011)\\n2. Becoming Well-Read in Different Genres\\n2-1. Read short stories.\\nShort stories are an incredible genre all their own, and if you really want to be well-read, then you have to read the short stories of classic masters as well as some contemporary short stories. For short stories, it's more important to read the works of a particular author than a collection, so here is a list of classic short story writers as well as more contemporary writers that you have to check out:\\n\\nClassic short story masters (1600-1950): Edgar Allan Poe, Anton Chekhov, Ernest Hemingway, Jorge Luis Borges, Kafka, Isaac Babel, John Updike, Katherine Mansfield, Eudora Welty, and Ray Bradbury.\\nContemporary short story masters: (1950-Present): Flannery O'Connor, Raymond Carver, Donald Barthelme, Tim 'O Brien, George Saunders, Jhumpa Lahiri, Junot Diaz, Z.Z. Packer, Joyce Carol Oates, and Denis Johnson.\\nClassic Short Story Collections:\\n\\nIn Our Time by Ernest Hemingway (1925)\\nA Good Man is Hard to Find by Flannery O'Connor (1953)\\nWhat We Talk About When We Talk About Love by Raymond Carver (1981)\\nJesus' Son by Denis Johnson (1992)\\nInterpreter of Maladies by Jhumpa Lahiri (1999)\\n2-2. Read plays.\\nIf you want to be well-read, then you also have to read the works of classic playwrights. Though Shakespeare is the playwright you should know the best, he has been previously listed. However, there are other contemporary and not-so-contemporary plays that you should read if you want to call yourself well-read. Check these out:\\nEverything by Shakespeare, including Macbeth, Romeo and Juliet, and Much Ado About Nothing (1606, 1597, 1599)\\nHedda Gabler and A Doll's House by Henrik Ibsen (1890, 1879)\\nThe Importance of Being Earnest by Oscar Wilde (1895)\\nCyrano de Bergerac by Edmund Rostand (1897)\\nThe Cherry Orchard and Uncle Vanya by Chekhov (1904, 1897)\\nPygmalion by George Bernard Shaw (1912)\\nOur Town by Thornton Wilder (1938)\\nDeath of a Salesman and The Crucible by Arthur Miller (1949, 1953)\\nWaiting for Godot by Samuel Beckett (1949)\\nTwelve Angry Men by Reginald Rose (1954)\\nA Streetcar Named Desire, The Glass Menagerie, Cat on a Hot Tin Roof by Tennessee Williams (1947, 1944, 1955)\\nNo Exit by John-Paul Sartre (1944)\\nInherit the Wind by Jerome Lawrence (1955)\\nLong Day's Journey into Night and The Iceman Cometh by Eugene O'Neill (1956, 1946)\\nA Raisin in the Sun by Lorraine Hansberry (1959)\\nWho's Afraid of Virginia Woolf? by Edward Albee (1963)\\nRosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead by Tom Stoppard (1966)\\nBetrayal by Harold Pinter (1978)\\n2-3. Read poetry.\\nThough the people around you may be less likely to talk about poetry unless you run in well-read circles, it's important to familiarize yourself with both classic and contemporary poets so that you can be part of the conversation. Here are some books to get you started:\\n\\nShakespeare's Sonnets by William Shakespeare (1609)\\nParadise Lost by John Milton (1667)\\nThe Complete Poems by John Keats (1815)\\nLeaves of Grass by Walt Whitman (1855)\\nThe Collected Poems of Langston Hughes by Langston Hughes\\nThe Poetry of Robert Frost by Robert Frost\\nThe Collected Poems of Emily Dickinson by Emily Dickinson\\nThe Waste Land and Other Poems by T. S. Eliot (1922)\\nTwenty Love Poems and a Song of Despair by Pablo Neruda (1924)\\nE. E. Cummings: Complete Poems, 1904 -1962 by E. E. Cummings\\nHowl and Other Poems by Allen Ginsberg (1956)\\nAriel by Sylvia Plath (1965)\\nThe Complete Poems, 1927 - 1979 by Elizabeth Bishop\\nOpened Ground: Selected Poems, 1966 - 1996 by Seamus Heaney\\n2-4. Read non-fiction.\\nIf you really want to be well-read, then you can't just read stuff that people made up. You'll have to read some non-fiction too so that you know what's going on in the world of politics, history, popular science, and whatever the heck else is going on in the world. Here are the different types of non-fiction that you should familiarize yourself with:\\nHistory\\nPolitics\\nMagazines\\nMemoirs\\nBiographies\\nThe news\\n2-5. Read popular fiction and non-fiction.\\nIf you really want to know what everyone is talking about, then you can't just sit around reading Virgil. You'll have to know what's going on in the modern world too, and to read those beach reads or plane reads or Oprah's book club has been talking about. How do you know what to read? Well, check out what people are reading on planes, beaches, etc., and also check out the New York Times bestseller list to check out which books are on the list. Here are some popular books that have all been published in the last twenty years that nearly everyone has read these days:\\n\\\"The Wheel of Time\\\" series by Robert Jordan\\nThe Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling\\nAny novel by Nicholas Sparks\\nAny novel by John Grisham\\nThe Hunger Games trilogy by Suzanne Collins\\nThe Da Vinci Code by Dan Brown\\nBonfire of the Vanities by Tom Wolfe\\nFear of Flying by Erica Jong\\nBooks by Bernard Cornwell\\nThe \\\"A Song of Ice and Fire\\\" series by George R.R. Martin\\nThe Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion\\nA Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius by Dave Eggers\\nFreakonomics by Steven Levitt\\nEat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert\\nOutliers and The Tipping Point by Malcom Gladwell\\nThe Twilight series by Stephanie Meyer\\nThe Alchemist by Paolo Coelho\\nThe Girl With the Dragon Tattoo series by Stieg Larsson\\n3. Making Reading More Fun\\n3-1. Set goals.\\nHow can setting goals make reading more fun, you may ask? Well, because you'll feel good about yourself if you accomplish something, that's why. Start small: say, you want to read one book a month. Then go down to a book every two weeks. When you're officially addicted to reading, you can read one book a week -- or even two. Make a list of books and stick to them and you'll be reading more and more in no time at all.\\nSetting goals will also keep you from wasting your time in less productive endeavors. Let's say you've aimed to finish Ulysses by the weekend but there's a marathon of Bad Girls Club on. Bye bye bad girls, hello culture.\\n3-2. Blaze through top 100 lists.\\nThe Modern Library, Amazon, Time Magazine, and the New York Times have some great top 100 lists that can make you feel even more accomplished for reading. You'll feel extremely well-read and good about yourself if you find yourself going down a list and crossing off every book you've read. Check out these lists for more reference:\\nThe Modern Library Top 100 Modern Books list.\\nTime Magazine's Best Book of All Time list.\\nThe Guardian's Top 100 Books of All Time list.\\nRead books by Nobel-prize winning authors. Check out the list of authors here:\\nThe Village Voice's list of best books of the previous decade, by genre.\\n3-3. Listen to audio books.\\nOpen an account at Audible.com or start listening to books you've rented from your local library. Listening to audiobooks is a great way to be well-read when you're too tired to pick up a book and read. You can also listen to the books in the car, which is perfect for a long commute, or on your iPod while you're taking a walk. Suddenly you'll be looking forward to that long drive to work instead of dreading it!\\nBefore you buy or rent the book, see if you can listen to a sample to make sure you like the voice of the person who is reading. If you think the person has an annoying voice, the book will feel like a slow read.\\n3-4. Get a Kindle.\\nThough a Kindle can cost over $100, you'll quickly save money when you start buying books at the discount rate it offers. You can buy many classic novels, such as the works of Henry James, for under one dollar, and you can get contemporary novels at a 10-25% discount from what you would pay in the store, depending on the book. Getting a Kindle will also allow you to download a book the second you have a reading craving, instead of waiting around for a convenient time to run to the store.\\nWhen you have a Kindle, you can also sample a chapter of a book before buying it, so you can still browse the books a bit.\\n3-5. Reward yourself with fun books.\\nThough being well-read is important, having fun when you're reading is important too. What's your vice--cheesy detective novels, Harlequin romances, or thrillers? Whatever books you really love to read, don't give 'em up just to read Charles Dickens. Instead, reward yourself: say that for every classic novel or literary novel you read, you'll get to read one thriller, one beach romance, or one book of whatever genre you love the most.\\n3-6. Start or join a book club.\\nBeing part of a book club will not only help you make friends with other well-read people, but it will open you up to a wider variety of books and will give you strict deadlines for finishing the books, as well as some time to think about what the books mean to you. Book clubs will keep you from speeding from one book to the next without stopping to think what it all means.\\nIn most book clubs, you'll have a chance to pick a book for the club to read, so you'll get to share one of your favorite authors with others.\\n3-7. Start a Goodreads account.\\nIf you start an account on Goodreads, you'll be able to make a list of all the books you've read or want to read, review the books you've read, and to interact with other book lovers. Starting an account is free and will connect you to even more books and more readers. And more importantly, it'll make you more excited about reading, so start an account today!\\n3-8. Become an Amazon top reviewer.\\nGet an account at Amazon if you don't have one already and start reviewing all of those great books you've read. Once you've reviewed a ton of books and have written interesting and thoughtful reviews, you'll be on your way to reaching top reader status. If you do make it to top reader, you'll get perks like discounts, and the ability to read books before their official release date.\\nAnd even if you don't become a top reader, taking the time to review the books you've read will help you think about what you've read.\\n3-9. Hang out with other well-read people.\\nJust hanging out with people who love to read, whether they're your co-workers or members of your book club, will open you up to more ideas of what books to read next, and will give you a better sense of which books are popular. There's no point in being well-read if you can't use your knowledge to have interesting discussions with other people.\\n3-10. Listen to podcasts.\\nYou can download free podcasts, such as the New Yorker Fiction podcasts, or KCRW's weekly Bookworm podcasts, to hear writers read from their favorite stories or to hear authors discuss their new books. You can also get your news from podcasts, and listen anything from Chekhov's stories to classic speeches in American history, such as the Gettysburg address. Try these podcasts to become more well-read without reading a word:\\nThe New Yorker Fiction podcast\\nKCRW's Bookworm\\nPRI's Selected Shorts\\nWBEZ Chicago's This American Life\\nPRI's America Abroad\\nLearnOutLoud's Great Speeches in History Podcast\\nNew York Times Book Review podcast\\nTips\\nIf you want to have fun by reading, read books on your reading level (books you actually understand), but at the same time if you want to improve your skills you can always try to read and understand a harder book.\\nDon't be afraid to read children's books.\\nReading also increases vocabulary.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you want to be well-read, then, in the words of William Faulkner, you'll have to \\\"Read, read, read. Read everything...\\\" You can start at the very beginning, or just make your way down an eclectic list of books that you'd like to read. What's important is that you pick books that are lively, challenging, and which broaden your horizons. If you want to be well-read, here are some tips and recommendations to get you started.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Reading the Classics\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Read the classics before 1600.\", \"描述\": \"Reading the classics is the very first thing you have to do to be well-read. If you want to build a solid foundation for your understanding of the books you read, then you can't avoid some of the earliest plays, poems, and oral tales ever written down. Remember that the novel didn't really get popular until the 18th century, so you won't find novels on this list. Without reading the poetry of Homer or the plays of Sophocles, you won't be able to call yourself well-read. Here's a list to get you started:\\n\\nThe Epic of Gilgamesh (Unknown author) (18th – 17th century BCE)\\nThe Iliad and The Odyssey by Homer (850–750 BCE, 8th century BCE)\\n\\\"The Oresteia\\\" by Aeschylus (458 BCE)\\nOedipus the King by Sophocles (430 BCE)\\nMedea by Euripides (431 BCE)\\nAeneid by Virgil (29–19 BCE)\\nOne Thousand and One Nights (Unknown author) (700–1500)\\nBeowulf (Unknown author) (975-1025)\\nThe Tale of Genji by Murasaki Shikibu (11th century)\\nThe Divine Comedy by Dante (1265–1321)\\nThe Decameron by Boccaccio (1349–53)\\nThe Canterbury Tales by Chaucer (14th century)\\n\\\"The Mahabharata\\\" by Vyasa\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Read the classics from 1600-1913.\", \"描述\": \"Though a large amount of material is covered in these measly 300 years, reading the books from the time period when the novel emerged until the beginning of World War I will give you a sense of the progress that the novel and other works had made throughout the Romantic and Victorian periods, as well as an understanding of the realism that was the traditional mode for novels which was then turned on its head with the advent of Modernism and the disillusionment that came from WWI. Here's a list to get you started:\\n\\nDon Quixote by Cervantes 1605 (part 1), 1615 (part 2)\\n\\\"Taming of the Shrew,\\\" Romeo and Juliet, \\\"A Midsummer Night's Dream,\\\" \\\"The Merchant of Venice,\\\" \\\"Much Ado About Nothing,\\\" \\\"As You Like It,\\\" \\\"Julius Caesar,\\\" Hamlet, \\\"Othello,\\\" \\\"King Lear,\\\" and \\\"Macbeth\\\" by William Shakespeare (1593, 1594, 1595, 1596, 1598, 1599, 1599, 1600, 1604, 1605, 1605)\\nGulliver's Travels by Jonathan Swift (1726)\\nPride and Prejudice by Jane Austen (1813)\\nFaust by Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1832)\\nLe Père Goriot by Honoré de Balzac (1835)\\nDead Souls by Nikolai Gogol (1842)\\nWuthering Heights by Emily Brontë (1847)\\nMoby-Dick by Herman Melville (1851)\\nMadame Bovary by Gustave Flaubert (1856)\\nGreat Expectations by Charles Dickens (1861)\\nWar and Peace and Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy (1869, 1877)\\nHeart of Darkness by Joseph Conrad (1899)\\nCrime and Punishment and The Brothers Karamazov by Fyodor Dostoevsky (1866, 1880)\\nMiddlemarch by George Eliot (1871)\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Read the classics from 1914-1995.\", \"描述\": \"This time period spans the advent of Modernism, an experimental form of fiction, as well as a rebellion against traditional narratives. Reading the classics of this time period will help you gain an understanding of the dramatic transformation of literature in the 20th century. Here's a list to get you going:\\n\\nIn Search of Lost Time by Marcel Proust (1913–27)\\nUlysses by James Joyce (1922)\\nThe Magic Mountain by Thomas Mann (1924)\\nThe Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald (1925)\\nThe Trial by Franz Kafka (1925)\\nMrs Dalloway and To the Lighthouse byVirginia Woolf(1925, 1927)\\nThe Sound and the Fury by William Faulkner (1929)\\nThe Stranger byAlbert Camus (1942)\\nThe Fountainhead by Ayn Rand (1943)\\nNineteen Eighty-Four by George Orwell (1949)\\nThe Catcher in the Rye by J.D. Salinger (1951)\\nInvisible Man by Ralph Ellison (1952)\\nThe Sun Also Rises and The Old Man and the Sea by Ernest Hemingway (1926, 1952)\\n\\\"The Lord of The Rings\\\" by J.R.R. Tolkien (1954, 1955)\\nLolita by Vladimir Nabokov (1955)\\nPedro Páramo by Juan Rulfo (1955)\\nThings Fall Apart by Chinua Achebe (1958)\\nRabbit, Run by John Updike (1960)\\nTo Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee (1960)\\nThe Golden Notebook by Doris Lessing (1962)\\nThe Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath (1963)\\nOne Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel García Márquez (1967)\\nSlaughterhouse-Five by Kurt Vonnegut (1969)\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Read more contemporary classics from 1980 to the present.\", \"描述\": \"Though these books haven't stood the test of decades of time, there are still a number of contemporary novels that are so popular that it may feel like everyone has read them. In fact, reading these books may make you feel the most well-read because people will be talking about them the most. Here are some books to get you started:\\n\\nMidnight's Children by Salman Rushdie (1981)\\nThe Handmaid's Tale by Margaret Atwood (1984)\\nBeloved by Toni Morrison (1987)\\nThe Wind-Up Bird Chronicle by Haruki Murakami (1997)\\nAmerican Pastoral by Philip Roth (1997)\\nThe God of Small Things\\\" by Arundhati Roy (1997)\\nDisgrace by J. M. Coetzee (1999)\\nWhite Teeth by Zadie Smith (2000)\\nAtonement by Ian McEwan (2001)\\nThe Amazing Adventures of Kavalier and Klay by Michael Chabon (2001)\\nEverything is Illuminated by Johnathan Safran Foer (2002)\\nMiddlesex by Jeffery Eugenides\\nThe Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini (2003)\\nThe Known World by Edward P. Jones (2003)\\nGilead by Marilynne Robinson (2004)\\nThe Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao by Junot Diaz (2007)\\n2666 by Roberto Bolaño (2008)\\nSwamplandia! by Karen Russell (2011)\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Becoming Well-Read in Different Genres\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Read short stories.\", \"描述\": \"Short stories are an incredible genre all their own, and if you really want to be well-read, then you have to read the short stories of classic masters as well as some contemporary short stories. For short stories, it's more important to read the works of a particular author than a collection, so here is a list of classic short story writers as well as more contemporary writers that you have to check out:\\n\\nClassic short story masters (1600-1950): Edgar Allan Poe, Anton Chekhov, Ernest Hemingway, Jorge Luis Borges, Kafka, Isaac Babel, John Updike, Katherine Mansfield, Eudora Welty, and Ray Bradbury.\\nContemporary short story masters: (1950-Present): Flannery O'Connor, Raymond Carver, Donald Barthelme, Tim 'O Brien, George Saunders, Jhumpa Lahiri, Junot Diaz, Z.Z. Packer, Joyce Carol Oates, and Denis Johnson.\\nClassic Short Story Collections:\\n\\nIn Our Time by Ernest Hemingway (1925)\\nA Good Man is Hard to Find by Flannery O'Connor (1953)\\nWhat We Talk About When We Talk About Love by Raymond Carver (1981)\\nJesus' Son by Denis Johnson (1992)\\nInterpreter of Maladies by Jhumpa Lahiri (1999)\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Read plays.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to be well-read, then you also have to read the works of classic playwrights. Though Shakespeare is the playwright you should know the best, he has been previously listed. However, there are other contemporary and not-so-contemporary plays that you should read if you want to call yourself well-read. Check these out:\\nEverything by Shakespeare, including Macbeth, Romeo and Juliet, and Much Ado About Nothing (1606, 1597, 1599)\\nHedda Gabler and A Doll's House by Henrik Ibsen (1890, 1879)\\nThe Importance of Being Earnest by Oscar Wilde (1895)\\nCyrano de Bergerac by Edmund Rostand (1897)\\nThe Cherry Orchard and Uncle Vanya by Chekhov (1904, 1897)\\nPygmalion by George Bernard Shaw (1912)\\nOur Town by Thornton Wilder (1938)\\nDeath of a Salesman and The Crucible by Arthur Miller (1949, 1953)\\nWaiting for Godot by Samuel Beckett (1949)\\nTwelve Angry Men by Reginald Rose (1954)\\nA Streetcar Named Desire, The Glass Menagerie, Cat on a Hot Tin Roof by Tennessee Williams (1947, 1944, 1955)\\nNo Exit by John-Paul Sartre (1944)\\nInherit the Wind by Jerome Lawrence (1955)\\nLong Day's Journey into Night and The Iceman Cometh by Eugene O'Neill (1956, 1946)\\nA Raisin in the Sun by Lorraine Hansberry (1959)\\nWho's Afraid of Virginia Woolf? by Edward Albee (1963)\\nRosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead by Tom Stoppard (1966)\\nBetrayal by Harold Pinter (1978)\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Read poetry.\", \"描述\": \"Though the people around you may be less likely to talk about poetry unless you run in well-read circles, it's important to familiarize yourself with both classic and contemporary poets so that you can be part of the conversation. Here are some books to get you started:\\n\\nShakespeare's Sonnets by William Shakespeare (1609)\\nParadise Lost by John Milton (1667)\\nThe Complete Poems by John Keats (1815)\\nLeaves of Grass by Walt Whitman (1855)\\nThe Collected Poems of Langston Hughes by Langston Hughes\\nThe Poetry of Robert Frost by Robert Frost\\nThe Collected Poems of Emily Dickinson by Emily Dickinson\\nThe Waste Land and Other Poems by T. S. Eliot (1922)\\nTwenty Love Poems and a Song of Despair by Pablo Neruda (1924)\\nE. E. Cummings: Complete Poems, 1904 -1962 by E. E. Cummings\\nHowl and Other Poems by Allen Ginsberg (1956)\\nAriel by Sylvia Plath (1965)\\nThe Complete Poems, 1927 - 1979 by Elizabeth Bishop\\nOpened Ground: Selected Poems, 1966 - 1996 by Seamus Heaney\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Read non-fiction.\", \"描述\": \"If you really want to be well-read, then you can't just read stuff that people made up. You'll have to read some non-fiction too so that you know what's going on in the world of politics, history, popular science, and whatever the heck else is going on in the world. Here are the different types of non-fiction that you should familiarize yourself with:\\nHistory\\nPolitics\\nMagazines\\nMemoirs\\nBiographies\\nThe news\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Read popular fiction and non-fiction.\", \"描述\": \"If you really want to know what everyone is talking about, then you can't just sit around reading Virgil. You'll have to know what's going on in the modern world too, and to read those beach reads or plane reads or Oprah's book club has been talking about. How do you know what to read? Well, check out what people are reading on planes, beaches, etc., and also check out the New York Times bestseller list to check out which books are on the list. Here are some popular books that have all been published in the last twenty years that nearly everyone has read these days:\\n\\\"The Wheel of Time\\\" series by Robert Jordan\\nThe Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling\\nAny novel by Nicholas Sparks\\nAny novel by John Grisham\\nThe Hunger Games trilogy by Suzanne Collins\\nThe Da Vinci Code by Dan Brown\\nBonfire of the Vanities by Tom Wolfe\\nFear of Flying by Erica Jong\\nBooks by Bernard Cornwell\\nThe \\\"A Song of Ice and Fire\\\" series by George R.R. Martin\\nThe Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion\\nA Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius by Dave Eggers\\nFreakonomics by Steven Levitt\\nEat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert\\nOutliers and The Tipping Point by Malcom Gladwell\\nThe Twilight series by Stephanie Meyer\\nThe Alchemist by Paolo Coelho\\nThe Girl With the Dragon Tattoo series by Stieg Larsson\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Making Reading More Fun\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Set goals.\", \"描述\": \"How can setting goals make reading more fun, you may ask? Well, because you'll feel good about yourself if you accomplish something, that's why. Start small: say, you want to read one book a month. Then go down to a book every two weeks. When you're officially addicted to reading, you can read one book a week -- or even two. Make a list of books and stick to them and you'll be reading more and more in no time at all.\\nSetting goals will also keep you from wasting your time in less productive endeavors. Let's say you've aimed to finish Ulysses by the weekend but there's a marathon of Bad Girls Club on. Bye bye bad girls, hello culture.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Blaze through top 100 lists.\", \"描述\": \"The Modern Library, Amazon, Time Magazine, and the New York Times have some great top 100 lists that can make you feel even more accomplished for reading. You'll feel extremely well-read and good about yourself if you find yourself going down a list and crossing off every book you've read. Check out these lists for more reference:\\nThe Modern Library Top 100 Modern Books list.\\nTime Magazine's Best Book of All Time list.\\nThe Guardian's Top 100 Books of All Time list.\\nRead books by Nobel-prize winning authors. Check out the list of authors here:\\nThe Village Voice's list of best books of the previous decade, by genre.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Listen to audio books.\", \"描述\": \"Open an account at Audible.com or start listening to books you've rented from your local library. Listening to audiobooks is a great way to be well-read when you're too tired to pick up a book and read. You can also listen to the books in the car, which is perfect for a long commute, or on your iPod while you're taking a walk. Suddenly you'll be looking forward to that long drive to work instead of dreading it!\\nBefore you buy or rent the book, see if you can listen to a sample to make sure you like the voice of the person who is reading. If you think the person has an annoying voice, the book will feel like a slow read.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get a Kindle.\", \"描述\": \"Though a Kindle can cost over $100, you'll quickly save money when you start buying books at the discount rate it offers. You can buy many classic novels, such as the works of Henry James, for under one dollar, and you can get contemporary novels at a 10-25% discount from what you would pay in the store, depending on the book. Getting a Kindle will also allow you to download a book the second you have a reading craving, instead of waiting around for a convenient time to run to the store.\\nWhen you have a Kindle, you can also sample a chapter of a book before buying it, so you can still browse the books a bit.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Reward yourself with fun books.\", \"描述\": \"Though being well-read is important, having fun when you're reading is important too. What's your vice--cheesy detective novels, Harlequin romances, or thrillers? Whatever books you really love to read, don't give 'em up just to read Charles Dickens. Instead, reward yourself: say that for every classic novel or literary novel you read, you'll get to read one thriller, one beach romance, or one book of whatever genre you love the most.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Start or join a book club.\", \"描述\": \"Being part of a book club will not only help you make friends with other well-read people, but it will open you up to a wider variety of books and will give you strict deadlines for finishing the books, as well as some time to think about what the books mean to you. Book clubs will keep you from speeding from one book to the next without stopping to think what it all means.\\nIn most book clubs, you'll have a chance to pick a book for the club to read, so you'll get to share one of your favorite authors with others.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Start a Goodreads account.\", \"描述\": \"If you start an account on Goodreads, you'll be able to make a list of all the books you've read or want to read, review the books you've read, and to interact with other book lovers. Starting an account is free and will connect you to even more books and more readers. And more importantly, it'll make you more excited about reading, so start an account today!\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Become an Amazon top reviewer.\", \"描述\": \"Get an account at Amazon if you don't have one already and start reviewing all of those great books you've read. Once you've reviewed a ton of books and have written interesting and thoughtful reviews, you'll be on your way to reaching top reader status. If you do make it to top reader, you'll get perks like discounts, and the ability to read books before their official release date.\\nAnd even if you don't become a top reader, taking the time to review the books you've read will help you think about what you've read.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Hang out with other well-read people.\", \"描述\": \"Just hanging out with people who love to read, whether they're your co-workers or members of your book club, will open you up to more ideas of what books to read next, and will give you a better sense of which books are popular. There's no point in being well-read if you can't use your knowledge to have interesting discussions with other people.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Listen to podcasts.\", \"描述\": \"You can download free podcasts, such as the New Yorker Fiction podcasts, or KCRW's weekly Bookworm podcasts, to hear writers read from their favorite stories or to hear authors discuss their new books. You can also get your news from podcasts, and listen anything from Chekhov's stories to classic speeches in American history, such as the Gettysburg address. Try these podcasts to become more well-read without reading a word:\\nThe New Yorker Fiction podcast\\nKCRW's Bookworm\\nPRI's Selected Shorts\\nWBEZ Chicago's This American Life\\nPRI's America Abroad\\nLearnOutLoud's Great Speeches in History Podcast\\nNew York Times Book Review podcast\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If you want to have fun by reading, read books on your reading level (books you actually understand), but at the same time if you want to improve your skills you can always try to read and understand a harder book.\\n\", \"Don't be afraid to read children's books.\\n\", \"Reading also increases vocabulary.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Steps
1-1. Pray.
What can this do? Many, many, many wonders. Whatever you ask in Jesus' name that he will do. If you have faith and just believe, God can turn the impossible to possibility.
1-2. Fast.
There are many different ways of fasting. Some people may not eat until a certain time. (For example 6am-6pm). Some may drink water but not eat. But you just pray the whole day and have full concentration and conversation. Just you and the Lord.
1-3. Read the Bible.
The bible has many stories, tests, and tribulations that might be similar to what you are going through. No matter what you read, it's all there to encourage you and keep you strong in the Lord.
1-4. Don't listen to worldly secular music.
This music does not glorify God. It only talks about sexing somebody or something of that nature. It doesn't one time mention God's name. It's all about Jesus, the creator.
1-5. Faith.
You must believe. If you don't believe, what can God do for you? You must believe and trust in God.
1-6. Love everybody.
You can't hate people. God showed humanity and compassion to everyone he came in contact with, whether they were good or bad. Even that person you dislike you still have to love. Who knows, seeing the difference in you could turn their life around and bring them to Christ.
1-7. Go to Church.
It is important to get the word of God in your heart. If you don't know Jesus' way, whose way are you following? You may think it's yours, but it's really the devil's way. The reason God kicked Lucifer out of Heaven was because he wanted to do things his own way rather than God's way.
1-8. Repent daily.
Whatever sins you have committed, always confess so God can forgive you. God knows we will mess up from time to time. When you fall get back up each time and look to God for forgiveness.
1-9. Have a true heart for God.
He gave His life for the whole world. We need to give Him all of our undivided attention daily. You could do this by witnessing to others about Jesus, reading the Bible, praying, and fasting. All these things that can help you keep a true heart.
1-10. Forgive.
You must forgive others. If you don't your Father in Heaven will not forgive you for your sins you have committed. So, don't hold grudges.
Warnings
Don't hold grudges, or you will end up unhappy in the long run.
Don't leave the church if people talk about you.
No sin is greater than any other sin. All sin has the same consequence, so no one is greater than anybody. God is the only one that is truly perfect.
Don't backslide.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Steps\\n1-1. Pray.\\nWhat can this do? Many, many, many wonders. Whatever you ask in Jesus' name that he will do. If you have faith and just believe, God can turn the impossible to possibility.\\n1-2. Fast.\\nThere are many different ways of fasting. Some people may not eat until a certain time. (For example 6am-6pm). Some may drink water but not eat. But you just pray the whole day and have full concentration and conversation. Just you and the Lord.\\n1-3. Read the Bible.\\nThe bible has many stories, tests, and tribulations that might be similar to what you are going through. No matter what you read, it's all there to encourage you and keep you strong in the Lord.\\n1-4. Don't listen to worldly secular music.\\nThis music does not glorify God. It only talks about sexing somebody or something of that nature. It doesn't one time mention God's name. It's all about Jesus, the creator.\\n1-5. Faith.\\nYou must believe. If you don't believe, what can God do for you? You must believe and trust in God.\\n1-6. Love everybody.\\nYou can't hate people. God showed humanity and compassion to everyone he came in contact with, whether they were good or bad. Even that person you dislike you still have to love. Who knows, seeing the difference in you could turn their life around and bring them to Christ.\\n1-7. Go to Church.\\nIt is important to get the word of God in your heart. If you don't know Jesus' way, whose way are you following? You may think it's yours, but it's really the devil's way. The reason God kicked Lucifer out of Heaven was because he wanted to do things his own way rather than God's way.\\n1-8. Repent daily.\\nWhatever sins you have committed, always confess so God can forgive you. God knows we will mess up from time to time. When you fall get back up each time and look to God for forgiveness.\\n1-9. Have a true heart for God.\\nHe gave His life for the whole world. We need to give Him all of our undivided attention daily. You could do this by witnessing to others about Jesus, reading the Bible, praying, and fasting. All these things that can help you keep a true heart.\\n1-10. Forgive.\\nYou must forgive others. If you don't your Father in Heaven will not forgive you for your sins you have committed. So, don't hold grudges.\\nWarnings\\nDon't hold grudges, or you will end up unhappy in the long run.\\nDon't leave the church if people talk about you.\\nNo sin is greater than any other sin. All sin has the same consequence, so no one is greater than anybody. God is the only one that is truly perfect.\\nDon't backslide.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Here are tips for those of you interested. Use them to your own advantage.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pray.\", \"描述\": \"What can this do? Many, many, many wonders. Whatever you ask in Jesus' name that he will do. If you have faith and just believe, God can turn the impossible to possibility.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Fast.\", \"描述\": \"There are many different ways of fasting. Some people may not eat until a certain time. (For example 6am-6pm). Some may drink water but not eat. But you just pray the whole day and have full concentration and conversation. Just you and the Lord.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Read the Bible.\", \"描述\": \"The bible has many stories, tests, and tribulations that might be similar to what you are going through. No matter what you read, it's all there to encourage you and keep you strong in the Lord.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't listen to worldly secular music.\", \"描述\": \"This music does not glorify God. It only talks about sexing somebody or something of that nature. It doesn't one time mention God's name. It's all about Jesus, the creator.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Faith.\", \"描述\": \"You must believe. If you don't believe, what can God do for you? You must believe and trust in God.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Love everybody.\", \"描述\": \"You can't hate people. God showed humanity and compassion to everyone he came in contact with, whether they were good or bad. Even that person you dislike you still have to love. Who knows, seeing the difference in you could turn their life around and bring them to Christ.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Go to Church.\", \"描述\": \"It is important to get the word of God in your heart. If you don't know Jesus' way, whose way are you following? You may think it's yours, but it's really the devil's way. The reason God kicked Lucifer out of Heaven was because he wanted to do things his own way rather than God's way.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Repent daily.\", \"描述\": \"Whatever sins you have committed, always confess so God can forgive you. God knows we will mess up from time to time. When you fall get back up each time and look to God for forgiveness.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Have a true heart for God.\", \"描述\": \"He gave His life for the whole world. We need to give Him all of our undivided attention daily. You could do this by witnessing to others about Jesus, reading the Bible, praying, and fasting. All these things that can help you keep a true heart.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Forgive.\", \"描述\": \"You must forgive others. If you don't your Father in Heaven will not forgive you for your sins you have committed. So, don't hold grudges.\"}], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't hold grudges, or you will end up unhappy in the long run.\\n\", \"Don't leave the church if people talk about you.\\n\", \"No sin is greater than any other sin. All sin has the same consequence, so no one is greater than anybody. God is the only one that is truly perfect.\\n\", \"Don't backslide.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be Who You Want to Be
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1. Discovering Who You Want To Be
1-1. Write down what makes you unique.
Before you can understand who you want to be, it is key to know what makes you stand out. Learning what makes you different is a process called differentiation, and it is an essential part of self-discovery. Everybody has special gifts and talents that make them unique from people around them. By listing positive qualities that are a core part of who you are, you separate yourself from the potentially toxic influence and pressure of those around you.
1-2. Identify what makes you happy.
Try to think of all of the things that make you smile. Perhaps you feel fulfilled when you are playing music, or maybe you enjoy being out in nature. Make a list of everything you enjoy in life. Next ask yourself why these make you happy. Do they relax you during hectic times? Do they provide excitement in an otherwise dull life? By uncovering why they make you happy, you may also learn what makes you unhappy.
Once you discover what makes you happy, try spending more time on those activities and practices.
1-3. Discover what is holding you back.
Fears, anxieties, insecurities, and self-criticism can prevent you from changing yourself for the better. Such self-destructive thoughts stop you before you can even begin your reinvention. Every time you feel a burst of fear or self-doubt, stop yourself and ask “why do I feel this way?” Once you know why you are nervous, you can take steps to overcome those insecurities and obstacles.
Talking through your fears with your friends or a therapist can also help you identify the causes of your self-doubt.
Try writing in a journal when you feel anxious. Whenever you are feeling bad about yourself, write it down. Not only will it make you feel better but you can reflect on your entries later to figure out the source of your insecurities.
1-4. Find out which needs are not being met.
Everyone has needs and desires. If you have certain psychological or spiritual demands that are not being fulfilled, you may feel something lacking in your life. Create a hierarchy of your needs, and record what is and is not being satisfied.
Are your basic needs (food, water, shelter) being met?
Do feel safe in your current relationships or in your physical location?
Do you feel loved by those around you?
Do you feel as though what you do matters?
Are you fulfilled by your job/social life/school?
Do you have a creative outlet?
2. Setting Goals
2-1. Write down your goals.
Before you can become who you want to be, you have to realize who this new person is. Record all of your aspirations and goals. Make these dreams as specific as possible. Afterwards, go back through the list. Each goal should be realistic, and positive while focusing on yourself.
Realistic means that the dream is reasonable and can be achieved. If you’ve never played golf before, it might not be realistic that you will become a famous golfer, but it may be realistic that you can learn how to play.
Positive means that the goals are good things that will happen to you. Erase any negativity from your dream list. Affirmation will put you further than doubt and uncertainty will.
The goal should be about yourself, not other people. Instead of saying, “I want my boss to like me more,” try framing it as “I want to become more assertive and responsible in the workplace."
2-2. Create a vision board.
Visualizing your dreams on a daily basis can help motivate you. A vision board is a collage of all your aspirations and dreams. Find pictures that represent what you want out of life. These could be images of material objects such as a nice house, pictures related to your ideal career, or photos of a happy social life. You create the board by gluing these pictures onto a poster or cardboard. Hang the board somewhere where you will see it every day, such as on your bedroom wall or in your kitchen. Seeing the board will remind you of your dreams and give you affirmation that you can achieve them.
2-3. Set a schedule.
It will be more manageable for you to become a new person if you set a schedule for yourself. Where do you want to be in a week? How about two weeks? A month? A year? Write down your schedule in a book or calendar. Set specific benchmarks with tasks that you are able to achieve. As you complete tasks off your schedule, check them off. You will see yourself coming closer to your goals every day.
Your tasks on your schedule should be specific and easy to achieve. Instead of writing, “Become less shy by Tuesday,” write “talk to three strangers today” or “rehearse small talk for five minutes in front of the mirror.”
2-4. Give yourself room for failure.
You may face setbacks on your road to reinvention. If you fail, don’t stop and give up. Realize that failure is an opportunity to learn and grow. Furthermore, if you throw yourself into this new persona, you may experience burnout. This can cause you to revert back to bad habits. If you can, plan for failure, and when it occurs, look back on your list of goals to remind yourself why you’re doing this.
3. Reinventing Yourself
3-1. Break bad habits
Breaking bad habits is a process that involves looking closely at your behavior and trying to determine what triggers your bad habit. However, you can break bad habits by identifying the things that trigger your habit, learning how to break the cycle, and rewarding yourself when it works. You can also develop a plan to help you deal with your triggers.>
Choose a good time to try to break a habit. It might be easier to try to break a bad habit while you are on vacation.Although it might not be possible to wait to break a habit until you go on vacation, you might at least want to choose a time when you are not too stressed to work on breaking a bad habit.
Try to be patient. Keep in mind that it can take anywhere from 18 to 66 days to break a habit. Don’t become discouraged if you find it difficult to break the habit at first.
Remember to reward yourself. If you’ve had a great day where you did really well in your new habits and routines, praise yourself and give yourself a reward. Maybe eat a bowl of ice cream or go see a movie. Little rewards can affirm your progress, and they teach your brain to associate these new routines with pleasure.
3-2. Find a mentor.
Perhaps you are struggling in a new career or you want to make a difference in your community. Ask an experienced person in that area to mentor you. Meet once a week or month to discuss your goals. Your mentor will share the struggles that they faced getting to the point where they are now. They can give you advice on your own hurdles and help you realize your potential.
3-3. Form a support group.
As you reinvent yourself, talk to your close friends about your progress. Tell them the kind of person you want to be, and as you face success and failure, talk through your thoughts and feelings. Good friends will provide positive affirmation, and a strong support group can increase your chances of success.
If your friends tell you that you don’t need to change, try not to listen to them. They may have good intentions, but if you are unhappy with your current state of being, such advice can be discouraging. Thank them for their concern, but emphasize that this is something you want to continue. True friends will remain with you through the journey.
4. Asserting Yourself
4-1. Take care of your needs first.
Other people may want you to be someone who you are not. They may ask things of you that make you uncomfortable, anxious, or burdened. Realizing that not everyone will like you is liberating, as it allows you to take care of your own needs. Put your own happiness first. This does not mean you have to be selfish; rather, it is a simple awareness that by taking care of yourself, you are better positioned to take care of other people.
4-2. Stop blaming other people for your problems.
Being who you want to be means taking responsibility for your actions. By realizing that you can change, you also realize that you have control over your own actions. While other people may try to stop you or obstruct your dreams, you have the power to ignore them and to make your own choices.
4-3. Start loving yourself as though you are that new person
Every day, remind yourself of what makes you a great person. You can do this by praising yourself in the mirror or by writing down positive notes to yourself. Higher positivity leads to higher confidence and self-respect, and it will help you become more comfortable in your individual personality.
4-4. Cut out toxic relationships
Don't be surprised if old friends and acquaintances don't support you. Some people will try to convince you that it's just not possible to change. They may even try to make you feel guilty for trying. Don’t argue with people who criticize your choices.
Simply say something like, "I was unhappy before, and I am working towards being a better person."
You can also say, "Thank you for your concern. No matter who I become, I will always love you."
If you have a friend or loved one who still bothers you about the changes you are making, then you may want to take some time away from the person.
Tips
Remember the journey is more important than the reward. Try to enjoy the process.
Praise yourself often. By affirming your good qualities and your little successes, you will find it easier to stay on the road to success.
Always be hopeful, no matter what. There is nothing wrong with having hope. Hope motivates you and can keep you on the right path. If you are disappointed by your failures, don’t abandon hope. Use it to pick yourself up and keep going.
Warnings
Don't believe your own self-defeating thoughts. You can be who you want to be.
Don't be judgmental of other’s decisions if you do not want them to be judgmental of yours. You will only get back what you put out.
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By uncovering why they make you happy, you may also learn what makes you unhappy.\\nOnce you discover what makes you happy, try spending more time on those activities and practices.\\n1-3. Discover what is holding you back.\\nFears, anxieties, insecurities, and self-criticism can prevent you from changing yourself for the better. Such self-destructive thoughts stop you before you can even begin your reinvention. Every time you feel a burst of fear or self-doubt, stop yourself and ask “why do I feel this way?” Once you know why you are nervous, you can take steps to overcome those insecurities and obstacles.\\nTalking through your fears with your friends or a therapist can also help you identify the causes of your self-doubt.\\nTry writing in a journal when you feel anxious. Whenever you are feeling bad about yourself, write it down. Not only will it make you feel better but you can reflect on your entries later to figure out the source of your insecurities.\\n1-4. Find out which needs are not being met.\\nEveryone has needs and desires. If you have certain psychological or spiritual demands that are not being fulfilled, you may feel something lacking in your life. Create a hierarchy of your needs, and record what is and is not being satisfied.\\nAre your basic needs (food, water, shelter) being met?\\nDo feel safe in your current relationships or in your physical location?\\nDo you feel loved by those around you?\\nDo you feel as though what you do matters?\\nAre you fulfilled by your job/social life/school?\\nDo you have a creative outlet?\\n2. Setting Goals\\n2-1. Write down your goals.\\nBefore you can become who you want to be, you have to realize who this new person is. Record all of your aspirations and goals. Make these dreams as specific as possible. Afterwards, go back through the list. Each goal should be realistic, and positive while focusing on yourself. \\nRealistic means that the dream is reasonable and can be achieved. 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1. Steps
1-1. Get the attitude.
Be modest and ladylike. To look virtuous and sweet, don't yell or scream. Don't curse or be disrespectful. Just be kind to others and be nice. Courtesy and confidence is key.
1-2. Stop swearing.
It may be hard to cut out, but swearing is one of the worst things you could do if you're trying to be ladylike. Try making a deal with your friends about not swearing for a day. Just think about proving to everyone you have the will power and self control to actually control and think about what comes out of your mouth. If you're a person who swears loads, this is not a ladylike thing. Definitely say things like "shoot" and "idiot". Try not to use crude words like "crap" or "retarded". They're not okay. Try to make very calm and civil comebacks, not the regular old stuff. It'll take practice, but it's a huge step towards being innocent.
1-3. Wear the clothes.
Wear pastel clothes, like white, pink, grey, orange and brown. This will enhance your look of vulnerability and will make you look innocent.
1-4. Note that a conservative or preppy look is best for this time of your life, when you are at your most vulnerable.
Make sure hemlines reach at least your fingertips and necklines reach the collarbone area. Invest your hard-earned money in a few quality clothing and jewelry pieces that you will need your whole life.
1-5. Wear stuff that is clean, doesn't reveal too much, fits and suits you, and isn't too harsh.
Sounds complicated, but it's not. You could also try wearing a really light and clean top over a long sleeved white top. If the top you're wearing over it is very pretty and gives off the "baby doll" theme, you'll get the perfect, ladylike look. Experiment and play around.
1-6. Shower every day.
Make sure you use a conditioner and a shampoo that's right for your hair type (i.e. if you have thin hair, don't use a shampoo designed for thick hair).
1-7. Make sure your hair is nice.
Don't leave too much hair on your face unless you have bangs. Don't feel like you have to pin your bangs off your face and do an old fashioned style -you don't. Just make sure your hair looks sleek and well looked after. Wash your hair a couple of times a week, and use a good and sweet smelling shampoo.
1-8. Don't comb or brush your hair too much, and don't use too many hair products.
They damage your hair. Try not to curl or straighten too much, don't use it too much unless it's a special occasion. Your hair can be any length, it doesn't have to be very long.
1-9. Keep in mind that medium length is quite nice, and a bob is cute and neat.
As for hairstyles, you can do anything. Side ponytails, braids, buns, anything. Just make sure the style won't come out during P.E or anything, and that you won't have to keep adjusting it. Add a white, pink, or gold ribbon for a nice effect, and matching hair clips. The headbands with little bows on the side are very sweet and lady like..
1-10. Maintain your nails.
Clear coat on your fingernails; color or french pedicure on your toes. Don't let the skin around them get dry to the point that they crack, and stop biting your nails. If you polish them, go for a natural French manicure, clear polish, or even neutral, solid-colored polish. Don't let the polish chip off, and don't let your nails get too long.#Do not be involved in immoral and promiscuous activity, such as sexual activities, drinking and smoking. This will give you a bad reputation, and will harm you eventually.
1-11. Participate in quiet activities.
Try quiet and leisurely activities, such as reading, writing, listening to the radio and talking on the phone(not to much or it will annoy your parents).
1-12. Keep a low profile.
When you are at parties or at social events, you can flirt, but not too much. Just say hi and chat about nice things, like concerts, movies and television shows.
1-13. Act like you're innocent.
Develop this kind of attitude.
1-14. Always be nice and generous.
Having a selfish and nasty attitude towards others will drag you very far away from being sweet or lady like. Always have a smile on your face, and be willing to let people borrow things from you (but not to the point that they're using you).
1-15. Be nice to everyone, even people who you think are losers, because nobody is a loser and everyone is a human being.
Everyone deserves a chance, so make sure you give it to them. Don't exclude people from games, gifts, or secrets, keep your promises and don't gossip. When someone gossips about someone else, politely tell them you find gossiping rather mean and would prefer not to. Don't be mean or hotheaded, always keep your cool.
1-16. Be graceful.
This is a difficult step, but also a crucial one. Being graceful doesn't mean you have to hate sports and walk on tiptoe. Just make sure you walk with your head up, shoulders rolled back and your back straight. Don't swagger, or swing your hips. It looks exaggerated and weird. Don't swing your arms either - keep them by your side.
1-17. As for sports, just make sure you drink plenty of water to keep off red faces and sweat, and try your hardest.
Don't drag your team down, participate.
1-18. Do not insult, gossip, or slander.
When necessary, voice your opinions appropriately and constructively. This encourages your audience to listen carefully when you speak. But if someone is bulling you you have the right to insult.
1-19. Compliment everyone, but not too much.
You don't want to come off as creepy. Compliment people you wouldn't normally talk to, it's a good way to make new friends.
1-20. At home, try your best to please your parents.
i.e. Go to bed on time, offer to wash the dishes, bring in the groceries, clean up after dinner, etc. No matter how tempting it is, if you know there's something you should be doing (no matter how badly you don't want to do it), do it! They will trust you and let you do more things.
1-21. Make sure your belongings are neat.
Make sure you label and cover all of your school and text books. Try just covering them with clear contact paper,it looks a lot neater. If you really like patterned contact paper, try the metallic looking ones that come in red, silver, blue and gold. Label your things and look after them to make sure they don't get lost or damaged. Buy some nice pencils and pens, fancy pen or a cute- colored pencil. Make sure you always have enough of everything, constantly asking to borrow things isn't very lady like or innocent. When buying a school bag, go for light and neutral colors and posh brands, stuff that's good quality.
1-22. Concentrate in School.
It's important to be looked on as intelligent and keen at school. Try hard in every single, solitary subject and class you take, and always hand in homework(on time!). Don't talk during class(you have loads of time for that later, don't pass notes either-it gets very embarrassing if you're caught). Ask questions and participate in class discussions. Try to get involved with the school and its' activities, too. Reading up on background information about a topic you're studying is good too, and can actually be interesting. Help others if they're struggling, and don't suck up to your teachers. Just try hard, be punctual in everything and share your knowledge.
1-23. At school try to get a seat where you can clearly hear and see the teacher and chalkboard and pay attention.
A good goal to set for yourself is to try to get mostly A's in everything you do at school, including homework. Take notes, study for tests, focus, but most of all, come to school ready to learn and try not to worry about the social scene too much, after all, that's not what school is for. try to join extra curricular activities but only if you know it will not bring your grades down.
Tips
Get a really fun hobby. Ballet is just fabulous for this; it's the peak of sweet and innocent.
Follow and cherish any rules that you are supposed to follow at school, home, or wherever else you go.
Be on good terms with everyone. You never know when you'll need it.
Warnings
Your friends might think your acting weird and if they ask you what's going on, just say that you're trying to improve yourself. Don't lie.
Some people may dislike you or call you stuck-up or nerdy. If you know you've done nothing wrong or nasty, simply ignore them. They're trying to bring you down, so don't let them.
You may find it good to do this over a summer, or long break. Especially if you were the complete opposite of what this is.
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Wear the clothes.\\nWear pastel clothes, like white, pink, grey, orange and brown. This will enhance your look of vulnerability and will make you look innocent.\\n1-4. Note that a conservative or preppy look is best for this time of your life, when you are at your most vulnerable.\\nMake sure hemlines reach at least your fingertips and necklines reach the collarbone area. Invest your hard-earned money in a few quality clothing and jewelry pieces that you will need your whole life.\\n1-5. Wear stuff that is clean, doesn't reveal too much, fits and suits you, and isn't too harsh.\\nSounds complicated, but it's not. You could also try wearing a really light and clean top over a long sleeved white top. If the top you're wearing over it is very pretty and gives off the \\\"baby doll\\\" theme, you'll get the perfect, ladylike look. Experiment and play around.\\n1-6. Shower every day.\\nMake sure you use a conditioner and a shampoo that's right for your hair type (i.e. if you have thin hair, don't use a shampoo designed for thick hair).\\n1-7. Make sure your hair is nice.\\nDon't leave too much hair on your face unless you have bangs. Don't feel like you have to pin your bangs off your face and do an old fashioned style -you don't. Just make sure your hair looks sleek and well looked after. Wash your hair a couple of times a week, and use a good and sweet smelling shampoo.\\n1-8. Don't comb or brush your hair too much, and don't use too many hair products.\\nThey damage your hair. Try not to curl or straighten too much, don't use it too much unless it's a special occasion. Your hair can be any length, it doesn't have to be very long.\\n1-9. Keep in mind that medium length is quite nice, and a bob is cute and neat.\\nAs for hairstyles, you can do anything. Side ponytails, braids, buns, anything. Just make sure the style won't come out during P.E or anything, and that you won't have to keep adjusting it. Add a white, pink, or gold ribbon for a nice effect, and matching hair clips. The headbands with little bows on the side are very sweet and lady like..\\n1-10. Maintain your nails.\\nClear coat on your fingernails; color or french pedicure on your toes. Don't let the skin around them get dry to the point that they crack, and stop biting your nails. If you polish them, go for a natural French manicure, clear polish, or even neutral, solid-colored polish. Don't let the polish chip off, and don't let your nails get too long.#Do not be involved in immoral and promiscuous activity, such as sexual activities, drinking and smoking. This will give you a bad reputation, and will harm you eventually.\\n1-11. Participate in quiet activities.\\nTry quiet and leisurely activities, such as reading, writing, listening to the radio and talking on the phone(not to much or it will annoy your parents).\\n1-12. Keep a low profile.\\nWhen you are at parties or at social events, you can flirt, but not too much. Just say hi and chat about nice things, like concerts, movies and television shows.\\n1-13. Act like you're innocent.\\nDevelop this kind of attitude.\\n1-14. Always be nice and generous.\\nHaving a selfish and nasty attitude towards others will drag you very far away from being sweet or lady like. Always have a smile on your face, and be willing to let people borrow things from you (but not to the point that they're using you).\\n1-15. Be nice to everyone, even people who you think are losers, because nobody is a loser and everyone is a human being.\\nEveryone deserves a chance, so make sure you give it to them. Don't exclude people from games, gifts, or secrets, keep your promises and don't gossip. When someone gossips about someone else, politely tell them you find gossiping rather mean and would prefer not to. Don't be mean or hotheaded, always keep your cool.\\n1-16. Be graceful.\\nThis is a difficult step, but also a crucial one. Being graceful doesn't mean you have to hate sports and walk on tiptoe. Just make sure you walk with your head up, shoulders rolled back and your back straight. Don't swagger, or swing your hips. It looks exaggerated and weird. Don't swing your arms either - keep them by your side.\\n1-17. As for sports, just make sure you drink plenty of water to keep off red faces and sweat, and try your hardest.\\nDon't drag your team down, participate.\\n1-18. Do not insult, gossip, or slander.\\nWhen necessary, voice your opinions appropriately and constructively. This encourages your audience to listen carefully when you speak. But if someone is bulling you you have the right to insult.\\n1-19. Compliment everyone, but not too much.\\nYou don't want to come off as creepy. Compliment people you wouldn't normally talk to, it's a good way to make new friends.\\n1-20. At home, try your best to please your parents.\\ni.e. Go to bed on time, offer to wash the dishes, bring in the groceries, clean up after dinner, etc. No matter how tempting it is, if you know there's something you should be doing (no matter how badly you don't want to do it), do it! They will trust you and let you do more things.\\n1-21. Make sure your belongings are neat.\\nMake sure you label and cover all of your school and text books. Try just covering them with clear contact paper,it looks a lot neater. If you really like patterned contact paper, try the metallic looking ones that come in red, silver, blue and gold. Label your things and look after them to make sure they don't get lost or damaged. Buy some nice pencils and pens, fancy pen or a cute- colored pencil. Make sure you always have enough of everything, constantly asking to borrow things isn't very lady like or innocent. When buying a school bag, go for light and neutral colors and posh brands, stuff that's good quality.\\n1-22. Concentrate in School.\\nIt's important to be looked on as intelligent and keen at school. Try hard in every single, solitary subject and class you take, and always hand in homework(on time!). Don't talk during class(you have loads of time for that later, don't pass notes either-it gets very embarrassing if you're caught). Ask questions and participate in class discussions. Try to get involved with the school and its' activities, too. Reading up on background information about a topic you're studying is good too, and can actually be interesting. Help others if they're struggling, and don't suck up to your teachers. Just try hard, be punctual in everything and share your knowledge.\\n1-23. At school try to get a seat where you can clearly hear and see the teacher and chalkboard and pay attention.\\nA good goal to set for yourself is to try to get mostly A's in everything you do at school, including homework. Take notes, study for tests, focus, but most of all, come to school ready to learn and try not to worry about the social scene too much, after all, that's not what school is for. try to join extra curricular activities but only if you know it will not bring your grades down.\\nTips\\nGet a really fun hobby. Ballet is just fabulous for this; it's the peak of sweet and innocent.\\nFollow and cherish any rules that you are supposed to follow at school, home, or wherever else you go.\\nBe on good terms with everyone. You never know when you'll need it.\\nWarnings\\nYour friends might think your acting weird and if they ask you what's going on, just say that you're trying to improve yourself. Don't lie.\\nSome people may dislike you or call you stuck-up or nerdy. 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1. Steps
1-1. Begin by considering the essence of Tennessee Williams' quote.
The quote precedes this article. There are two implied characters. The wild at heart who is "caged", and the wild at heart who has managed to "fly free". But, there are two conditions implied here as well. Ought we not also consider what it means to be “caged” rather than “free?” And what is “free” after all? How you perceive freedom makes all the difference between contentment and discontentment. Freedom exists as much in being amongst those around you as it does in being away from them. Once you accept this, it will be easier to stop feeling overwhelmed by company and the busyness of the world.
1-2. Know who you are, by forgiving who you're not.
Who we are is important. Don't change "you" for someone else or to fit what you think someone wants you to be. Maybe you have habits that need attention but your personality is the kernel of who you are and the world needs your special contribution. You can deal with bad habits but if you suppress who you really are, you will suffer internal rage that will affect your life in a negative way.
1-3. Start a journal.
It takes effort to discover what you really want out of life. Writing down your feelings, thoughts and ideas is a great method for making sense of this effort. Maybe you dream of leaving your family and driving off into the sunset, but in reality all you want to do is stay at home. If this is true, you will discover this as you write in your journal. There's nothing wrong or weak about dreams. And there is nothing wrong with living in a world that is not your dream. Ask the question: "How can I make this place I am in an adventure?"
1-4. Treasure your dreams.
Work at keeping your dreams alive while waiting for the opportunity to weave them into your current situation. Don't lose sight of them; occasionally modifications may be needed as part of a reality check but never modify your dreams because they feel impossible or because you feel hemmed in by a situation. Work to change the external barriers so that your dreams can become possible.
1-5. Never be dissatisfied with what you have.
Learn to build on what you have. No imaginable life situation is limiting in and of itself. Think of Christopher Reeve and the strength he held despite his injury and how he made the most of the remaining years of his life. You will always have more than you realize. If not health, then a sense of humor. If not wealth, then health. And so on. Always check off the things that are positive about your life before becoming mired in the negative.
1-6. Read biographies.
It has all been done before, felt before and wondered about before. We are simply fortunate enough nowadays to be able to access an enormous array of insights of others through reading. Learn from other people's struggles for freedom and how other people have dealt with being a voice in the wilderness. Learn about how they found their "special place" that cradled them with hope and care when everything else felt oppressive and negative. Reach for their inspiration and take it as yours.
1-7. Heed warnings from those you respect.
Don't take to heart the criticisms of people you barely know or whom you don't respect. They don't know you and they don't understand what makes you tick. But listen very carefully when someone you respect very much gives you a constructive warning about aspects of your behavior. If you are honest with yourself and look deep inside, they may just be telling you what you already know. Act upon it sensibly and calmly. Make the difference that will still permit your freedom but will tone down the craziness that you may be revealing on the outside.
1-8. Avoid materialism.
Amassing things can never take place of the strength of good relationships, a sense there are people you can turn to in time of need and appreciation of the world around you. Don't let yourself become weighed down by the things in your lifestyle - an enormous mortgage, a car you're too afraid to drive for fear of denting it, a house you're too afraid to leave for fear of burglary - these are the worst gilded cages you can ever find yourself stuck in.
1-9. Get out.
Simple to say but often hard to do. Get away from your desk, get out of your house, get out of your city, get out of your country. Do something different from the normal. Take a safari in Africa, a canoe trip on a local lake or a trip to a part of the city you've never thought about before. Being mobile will often allay feelings of being caged or tied down to one place or activity. Accept that you are someone who needs to get out and feel the dew on your face early in the morning and the wind whipping through your hair. It is who you are - cater to it, don't bottle it up.
1-10. Know the difference between anger and wild.
The difference is important because it can direct your behavior for your own good or to your detriment:
Anger is bitterness, holding onto a grudge, a past hurt or an obsession. Anger is haunting, de-motivating and draining. Anger is the enemy of freedom; it is the cage-lock.
Wild is knowing who you are, what you want and striving for the freedom to enjoy the adventure of life. Wild is unlocking cages that prevent you from becoming who you are fully and making a full contribution to the world.
1-11. Figure out who you are apart from everyone.
There is a strange bind in those who are highly independent and seek freedom and yet desperately seek the approval and tolerance of others. This tension and pull can tear you apart if you do not take care of your internal needs and face the reasons why you crave others' acceptance so intensely. Take time away to build up your self-esteem and beliefs without being influenced by others. Then you will be in a better position to avoid hurt when criticized and will be able to cope with confrontation instead of seeking to run because you feel suffocated or oppressed.
1-12. Contribute to others' well-being.
It isn't all about yourself. It is about you as part of humankind, as part of the amazing place we call Earth. You have an obligation to treasure the life you have and to respect the lives of others. When your dreams, needs and wants do not seem to gel with what is happening around you, sometimes it is a chance to stop and ask yourself how you can make a difference for other people. This shifts the focus away from you. Often, in the process of helping others find their place in this world, you find yours. Don't dismiss the power of sharing your wisdom and teaching your skills with others. It is the most noble thing a person can ever do.
Tips
Go to loud and crazy places, it can help you unleash yourself.
Dare to be different
Find a place to scream, and just let your body do what it wants to. (Not in the city unless you want to be called in for a trip to a mental hospital). Or you could let your body do what you want in your home and scream into a pillow, but doing these things can help unleash the primal within.
Warnings
Just as being overly domesticated can be bad for you, so can being wild at heart if taken to the extremes. When you start doing whatever you want, wherever you want, to whoever you want, this is probably going to equal pain. We need balance. We have a mind for a reason. It can be best to not be controlled by either side of yourself completely
A shadow of danger haunts those people who are restless no matter where they go, who sit at the table with their families when all they want is to be driving off somewhere. Beware these signs in you or other people:
People who always look out of windows, even as you try to engage their attention.
People who think death is only a reminder that they're alive. These people often revel in scenarios involving risk to their own lives.
People whose gaze is always beyond you; that "faraway, dreamy" look. Try to snap their attention back to you with well-meaning but firm comments.
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Maybe you have habits that need attention but your personality is the kernel of who you are and the world needs your special contribution. You can deal with bad habits but if you suppress who you really are, you will suffer internal rage that will affect your life in a negative way.\\n1-3. Start a journal.\\nIt takes effort to discover what you really want out of life. Writing down your feelings, thoughts and ideas is a great method for making sense of this effort. Maybe you dream of leaving your family and driving off into the sunset, but in reality all you want to do is stay at home. If this is true, you will discover this as you write in your journal. There's nothing wrong or weak about dreams. And there is nothing wrong with living in a world that is not your dream. Ask the question: \\\"How can I make this place I am in an adventure?\\\"\\n1-4. Treasure your dreams.\\nWork at keeping your dreams alive while waiting for the opportunity to weave them into your current situation. Don't lose sight of them; occasionally modifications may be needed as part of a reality check but never modify your dreams because they feel impossible or because you feel hemmed in by a situation. Work to change the external barriers so that your dreams can become possible.\\n1-5. Never be dissatisfied with what you have.\\nLearn to build on what you have. No imaginable life situation is limiting in and of itself. Think of Christopher Reeve and the strength he held despite his injury and how he made the most of the remaining years of his life. You will always have more than you realize. If not health, then a sense of humor. If not wealth, then health. And so on. Always check off the things that are positive about your life before becoming mired in the negative.\\n1-6. Read biographies.\\nIt has all been done before, felt before and wondered about before. We are simply fortunate enough nowadays to be able to access an enormous array of insights of others through reading. Learn from other people's struggles for freedom and how other people have dealt with being a voice in the wilderness. Learn about how they found their \\\"special place\\\" that cradled them with hope and care when everything else felt oppressive and negative. Reach for their inspiration and take it as yours.\\n1-7. Heed warnings from those you respect.\\nDon't take to heart the criticisms of people you barely know or whom you don't respect. They don't know you and they don't understand what makes you tick. But listen very carefully when someone you respect very much gives you a constructive warning about aspects of your behavior. If you are honest with yourself and look deep inside, they may just be telling you what you already know. Act upon it sensibly and calmly. Make the difference that will still permit your freedom but will tone down the craziness that you may be revealing on the outside.\\n1-8. Avoid materialism.\\nAmassing things can never take place of the strength of good relationships, a sense there are people you can turn to in time of need and appreciation of the world around you. Don't let yourself become weighed down by the things in your lifestyle - an enormous mortgage, a car you're too afraid to drive for fear of denting it, a house you're too afraid to leave for fear of burglary - these are the worst gilded cages you can ever find yourself stuck in.\\n1-9. Get out.\\nSimple to say but often hard to do. Get away from your desk, get out of your house, get out of your city, get out of your country. Do something different from the normal. Take a safari in Africa, a canoe trip on a local lake or a trip to a part of the city you've never thought about before. Being mobile will often allay feelings of being caged or tied down to one place or activity. Accept that you are someone who needs to get out and feel the dew on your face early in the morning and the wind whipping through your hair. It is who you are - cater to it, don't bottle it up.\\n1-10. Know the difference between anger and wild.\\nThe difference is important because it can direct your behavior for your own good or to your detriment:\\nAnger is bitterness, holding onto a grudge, a past hurt or an obsession. Anger is haunting, de-motivating and draining. Anger is the enemy of freedom; it is the cage-lock.\\nWild is knowing who you are, what you want and striving for the freedom to enjoy the adventure of life. Wild is unlocking cages that prevent you from becoming who you are fully and making a full contribution to the world.\\n1-11. Figure out who you are apart from everyone.\\nThere is a strange bind in those who are highly independent and seek freedom and yet desperately seek the approval and tolerance of others. This tension and pull can tear you apart if you do not take care of your internal needs and face the reasons why you crave others' acceptance so intensely. Take time away to build up your self-esteem and beliefs without being influenced by others. Then you will be in a better position to avoid hurt when criticized and will be able to cope with confrontation instead of seeking to run because you feel suffocated or oppressed.\\n1-12. Contribute to others' well-being.\\nIt isn't all about yourself. It is about you as part of humankind, as part of the amazing place we call Earth. You have an obligation to treasure the life you have and to respect the lives of others. When your dreams, needs and wants do not seem to gel with what is happening around you, sometimes it is a chance to stop and ask yourself how you can make a difference for other people. This shifts the focus away from you. Often, in the process of helping others find their place in this world, you find yours. Don't dismiss the power of sharing your wisdom and teaching your skills with others. It is the most noble thing a person can ever do.\\nTips\\nGo to loud and crazy places, it can help you unleash yourself.\\nDare to be different\\nFind a place to scream, and just let your body do what it wants to. (Not in the city unless you want to be called in for a trip to a mental hospital). Or you could let your body do what you want in your home and scream into a pillow, but doing these things can help unleash the primal within.\\nWarnings\\nJust as being overly domesticated can be bad for you, so can being wild at heart if taken to the extremes. When you start doing whatever you want, wherever you want, to whoever you want, this is probably going to equal pain. We need balance. We have a mind for a reason. It can be best to not be controlled by either side of yourself completely\\nA shadow of danger haunts those people who are restless no matter where they go, who sit at the table with their families when all they want is to be driving off somewhere. Beware these signs in you or other people:\\n\\nPeople who always look out of windows, even as you try to engage their attention.\\nPeople who think death is only a reminder that they're alive. These people often revel in scenarios involving risk to their own lives.\\nPeople whose gaze is always beyond you; that \\\"faraway, dreamy\\\" look. Try to snap their attention back to you with well-meaning but firm comments.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"A prayer for the wild at heart, kept in cages. Tennessee Williams\\nThe last thing \\\"being wild\\\" means is seeking drug-thrills or being promiscuous. Wild does not mean hanging out in a bar, getting drunk, and wrecking your new car in a cow pasture. Wild is not about your gang slipping into the school at night and trashing the hallways and running off into the night howling with feral laughter. Wild is about real adventure, either in the world, or in the mind. Understanding that WikiHow is about answers and not questions, our task is to think out a 12 step plan, a “how-to” that teaches the caged bird to fly free, and the free bird to accept the limitless sky. Go forth and unleash your heart.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Begin by considering the essence of Tennessee Williams' quote.\", \"描述\": \"The quote precedes this article. There are two implied characters. The wild at heart who is \\\"caged\\\", and the wild at heart who has managed to \\\"fly free\\\". But, there are two conditions implied here as well. Ought we not also consider what it means to be “caged” rather than “free?” And what is “free” after all? How you perceive freedom makes all the difference between contentment and discontentment. Freedom exists as much in being amongst those around you as it does in being away from them. Once you accept this, it will be easier to stop feeling overwhelmed by company and the busyness of the world.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Know who you are, by forgiving who you're not.\", \"描述\": \"Who we are is important. Don't change \\\"you\\\" for someone else or to fit what you think someone wants you to be. Maybe you have habits that need attention but your personality is the kernel of who you are and the world needs your special contribution. You can deal with bad habits but if you suppress who you really are, you will suffer internal rage that will affect your life in a negative way.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Start a journal.\", \"描述\": \"It takes effort to discover what you really want out of life. Writing down your feelings, thoughts and ideas is a great method for making sense of this effort. Maybe you dream of leaving your family and driving off into the sunset, but in reality all you want to do is stay at home. If this is true, you will discover this as you write in your journal. There's nothing wrong or weak about dreams. And there is nothing wrong with living in a world that is not your dream. Ask the question: \\\"How can I make this place I am in an adventure?\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Treasure your dreams.\", \"描述\": \"Work at keeping your dreams alive while waiting for the opportunity to weave them into your current situation. Don't lose sight of them; occasionally modifications may be needed as part of a reality check but never modify your dreams because they feel impossible or because you feel hemmed in by a situation. Work to change the external barriers so that your dreams can become possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Never be dissatisfied with what you have.\", \"描述\": \"Learn to build on what you have. No imaginable life situation is limiting in and of itself. Think of Christopher Reeve and the strength he held despite his injury and how he made the most of the remaining years of his life. You will always have more than you realize. If not health, then a sense of humor. If not wealth, then health. And so on. Always check off the things that are positive about your life before becoming mired in the negative.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Read biographies.\", \"描述\": \"It has all been done before, felt before and wondered about before. We are simply fortunate enough nowadays to be able to access an enormous array of insights of others through reading. Learn from other people's struggles for freedom and how other people have dealt with being a voice in the wilderness. Learn about how they found their \\\"special place\\\" that cradled them with hope and care when everything else felt oppressive and negative. Reach for their inspiration and take it as yours.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Heed warnings from those you respect.\", \"描述\": \"Don't take to heart the criticisms of people you barely know or whom you don't respect. They don't know you and they don't understand what makes you tick. But listen very carefully when someone you respect very much gives you a constructive warning about aspects of your behavior. If you are honest with yourself and look deep inside, they may just be telling you what you already know. Act upon it sensibly and calmly. Make the difference that will still permit your freedom but will tone down the craziness that you may be revealing on the outside.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Avoid materialism.\", \"描述\": \"Amassing things can never take place of the strength of good relationships, a sense there are people you can turn to in time of need and appreciation of the world around you. 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1. Gaining Experience
1-1. Cultivate the mind of a beginner.
Do you remember the first time you saw dinosaur bones at the museum? Or the first time you ate a really good peach? Your world expanded at that moment by a fraction and you became a little wiser. The Buddhist concept of "beginner's mind" refers to the approach of a person just starting out, filled with the wonder of new learning, and being challenged anew by it. Always keep a curious and open mind.
Rather than prejudging situations, learn to keep your mind open and tell yourself "I don't know what to expect," which will allow you to learn and gain wisdom. When you cease to have a fixed idea of people, things, and situations surrounding you, you grow in wisdom by soaking up changes, new ideas, and don't set any person above or beneath you.
1-2. Ask lots of questions
Learning doesn't stop just because you might have graduated from high school or college, or that you've got kids and have lots of experience you'd like to teach them. Even if you're a teacher at the highest level or an expert in your field, you're not done learning. A wise person questions their motivations, questions widely accepted knowledge, and learns to love asking questions in moments of ignorance, because a wise person knows when it is time to learn.
Anais Nin neatly summed up this need to continue learning: "Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death."
When you share knowledge, you also learn better since you recognize your own understanding and how you may organize the information better.
1-3. Slow down
Be still at least once a day, to allow yourself time to rest and to stop taking in the rush of the world. Being constantly busy and worrying incessantly about being seen as inadequate may make you a paragon of workplace virtue but it does not make you wise. Stop. Stand still. Take in what the unhurried perspective brings to you.
Fill your time with contemplation. Fill your free time with learning rather than distractions. If you find yourself filling downtime with television or video games, try to substitute an hour of television with 1 hour of reading or choose instead to watch a nature documentary you've been meaning to watch. Better yet, go outside and go for a hike in the woods.
1-4. Think first and talk second
It's not always important to voice your opinion in a group or to contribute something just because you can. Wise people don't always need to prove their knowledge. If your opinion is necessary, give it. An old adage goes, "The best samurai lets the sword rust in its scabbard."
This isn't to say you should withdraw socially or never speak. Rather, be receptive to others and be a good listener. Don't just wait for your turn to speak because you think you're wiser than everyone else in the room. That's not wisdom, that's egotism.
2. Imitating Wisdom
2-1. Learn from mentors.
Find people whom you respect and who emulate the values and ideals that represent wisdom. Look for people doing the things you find interesting and of importance. Ask those people questions. Listen with great care to what they have to say, for you will learn much from their experience and reflection. When in doubt, ask your mentors for advice and guidance; while you don't necessarily have to agree with what they have to say, it will certainly give you food for thought.
Mentors don't have to be successful people or people you want to "be like." The wisest person you know might be a bartender, not a professor of mathematics. Learn to recognize the wisdom in everyone.
2-2. Read everything
Read the writings of philosophers and social commentators. Read comics. Read Lee Child adventure novels. Read online or on mobile devices. Get a library card. Read contemporary Irish poetry. Read Melville. Read as if your life depended on it and form opinions about the things you read and talk with others about what you've read.
Read especially about your particular fields of interest, whether it be your job or your hobby. Read about other people's experiences and learn how others before you have dealt with situations that you're likely to face.
2-3. Share with your mentors.
It's a mistake to think that the wise are above it all. Never troubled by their emotions, wise people float above the rest of us in an unfeeling bubble of their own making. Not true.
When you're feeling frustrated or disappointed in something, it's natural to want to discuss it with someone who will understand. Surround yourself with willing and receptive wise people who'll give you a sounding board. Be open with them and they'll be open with you.
2-4. Practice humility
Is it wise to sell yourself? The business and marketing world has convinced us self-promotion is a necessity, because we've managed to turn ourselves into commodities in need of a good sales pitch, and business language frequently reflects this. However, there is a huge difference between acknowledging to yourself and others that you are good at doing something and exaggerating a range of skill sets beyond your comfort zone just to keep up with the competition.
Being humble is not about abdicating your self-worth; rather, it's about being realistic and only emphasizing all that is good and capable within you. In turn, people will know that they can depend on your reliability for those traits.
Being humble is wise because it allows the real you to shine through. Humility also ensures that you respect the abilities of others rather than fearing them; the wisdom of accepting your own limitations and connecting with other people's strengths to bolster yours is infinite.
2-5. Be there for others
Wise people don't have to live in caves, growing wizard beards in their hermitage. Exchange wisdom with others to help guide them. As a mentor and teacher yourself, you can help other people learn about critical thinking, embracing feelings, loving lifelong learning, and trusting themselves.
Avoid the temptation to use learning as a barrier against others. Knowledge is for sharing not hoarding, and wisdom will only grow when exposed to everyone else's ideas no matter how confronting they may be.
3. Reflecting
3-1. Learn to recognize your faults
The hardest journey is often the one that requires looking inside yourself and being honest about what you find. try to work out what beliefs, opinions, and biases you harbor. Unless you're willing to know yourself well and learn to love both the strengths and weaknesses within you, it is difficult to be wise. Knowing yourself provides the space in which you can grow and forgive yourself as you journey through life.
Be wary of any self-improvement advice that claims to have "secrets". The only "secret" to self-improvement is that it requires hard work and constancy. Beyond that, you can fiddle at the edges (attested to remarkably by the massive success of the self-help industry) but you cannot change the reality of having to do the work of personal introspection and reflection on the world yourself.
3-2. Accept that you can't know everything.
The wisest of people have long been those who realize they actually know very little, often in spite of decades of learning and reflecting. The more you think about people, things, and events, the more it becomes clear that there is always more to know and that what you do know is but a pinhead amid all knowledge. Acceptance of the limitations of your own knowledge is a key to wisdom.
Don't confuse expertise with wisdom. Expertise refers to a high level of knowledge in a distinct field, whereas wisdom refers to the broader notion seeing the big picture of that knowledge, and to live calmly reassured of your decisions and actions in light of your knowledge.
3-3. Be responsible
Only you can know who you are and only you can be responsible for your ultimate choices. If you've spent years doing what was right according to someone else's standards rather than your own, you're not being responsible for yourself. Change the job where nobody recognizes your talents and find one where people will discover the tiger within. Move somewhere you're comfortable. Find a way to earn a living that doesn't compromise your compassion, care, and interests. Self-responsibility, including learning to accept the consequences of making your own decisions, increases wisdom.
3-4. Uncomplicate your life
For many people, a sense of meaning in life is "created" from being overly busy and by complicating everything from work to love. Complexity can make a person feel important and wanted but it is not wisdom. Rather, it's a form of distraction from oneself and from dealing with issues in life that really do matter, like questioning what your purpose is and what life is all about. Complication rules out reflection and leaves you vulnerable to the mysticism of expertise, causing you to make things harder than they need to be. Keep it simple and wisdom will flourish.
As you grow wiser in a topic, it should become more simple for you to understand. If something still seems complex to you, you may not understand the basic building blocks of the subject.
Tips
Think before you act or you will regret your actions.[13]
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Some decisions you will doubt because your decisions are only as valid as your reasoning, which - at times - you may think is not at all valid. But without decisions, you may not attain the things you want. No article can advise on how to balance these needs, that is up to you.
If you use logic to make decisions, consider this: When you have too much doubt in your reasoning, it will be hard to make those decisions.
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Ask lots of questions\\nLearning doesn't stop just because you might have graduated from high school or college, or that you've got kids and have lots of experience you'd like to teach them. Even if you're a teacher at the highest level or an expert in your field, you're not done learning. A wise person questions their motivations, questions widely accepted knowledge, and learns to love asking questions in moments of ignorance, because a wise person knows when it is time to learn.\\nAnais Nin neatly summed up this need to continue learning: \\\"Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.\\\"\\nWhen you share knowledge, you also learn better since you recognize your own understanding and how you may organize the information better.\\n1-3. Slow down\\nBe still at least once a day, to allow yourself time to rest and to stop taking in the rush of the world. Being constantly busy and worrying incessantly about being seen as inadequate may make you a paragon of workplace virtue but it does not make you wise. Stop. Stand still. Take in what the unhurried perspective brings to you.\\nFill your time with contemplation. Fill your free time with learning rather than distractions. If you find yourself filling downtime with television or video games, try to substitute an hour of television with 1 hour of reading or choose instead to watch a nature documentary you've been meaning to watch. Better yet, go outside and go for a hike in the woods.\\n1-4. Think first and talk second\\nIt's not always important to voice your opinion in a group or to contribute something just because you can. Wise people don't always need to prove their knowledge. If your opinion is necessary, give it. An old adage goes, \\\"The best samurai lets the sword rust in its scabbard.\\\"\\nThis isn't to say you should withdraw socially or never speak. Rather, be receptive to others and be a good listener. Don't just wait for your turn to speak because you think you're wiser than everyone else in the room. That's not wisdom, that's egotism.\\n2. Imitating Wisdom\\n2-1. Learn from mentors.\\nFind people whom you respect and who emulate the values and ideals that represent wisdom. Look for people doing the things you find interesting and of importance. Ask those people questions. Listen with great care to what they have to say, for you will learn much from their experience and reflection. When in doubt, ask your mentors for advice and guidance; while you don't necessarily have to agree with what they have to say, it will certainly give you food for thought.\\nMentors don't have to be successful people or people you want to \\\"be like.\\\" The wisest person you know might be a bartender, not a professor of mathematics. Learn to recognize the wisdom in everyone.\\n2-2. Read everything\\nRead the writings of philosophers and social commentators. Read comics. Read Lee Child adventure novels. Read online or on mobile devices. Get a library card. Read contemporary Irish poetry. Read Melville. Read as if your life depended on it and form opinions about the things you read and talk with others about what you've read.\\nRead especially about your particular fields of interest, whether it be your job or your hobby. Read about other people's experiences and learn how others before you have dealt with situations that you're likely to face.\\n2-3. Share with your mentors.\\nIt's a mistake to think that the wise are above it all. Never troubled by their emotions, wise people float above the rest of us in an unfeeling bubble of their own making. Not true.\\nWhen you're feeling frustrated or disappointed in something, it's natural to want to discuss it with someone who will understand. Surround yourself with willing and receptive wise people who'll give you a sounding board. Be open with them and they'll be open with you.\\n2-4. Practice humility\\nIs it wise to sell yourself? The business and marketing world has convinced us self-promotion is a necessity, because we've managed to turn ourselves into commodities in need of a good sales pitch, and business language frequently reflects this. However, there is a huge difference between acknowledging to yourself and others that you are good at doing something and exaggerating a range of skill sets beyond your comfort zone just to keep up with the competition.\\nBeing humble is not about abdicating your self-worth; rather, it's about being realistic and only emphasizing all that is good and capable within you. In turn, people will know that they can depend on your reliability for those traits.\\nBeing humble is wise because it allows the real you to shine through. Humility also ensures that you respect the abilities of others rather than fearing them; the wisdom of accepting your own limitations and connecting with other people's strengths to bolster yours is infinite.\\n2-5. Be there for others\\nWise people don't have to live in caves, growing wizard beards in their hermitage. Exchange wisdom with others to help guide them. As a mentor and teacher yourself, you can help other people learn about critical thinking, embracing feelings, loving lifelong learning, and trusting themselves.\\nAvoid the temptation to use learning as a barrier against others. Knowledge is for sharing not hoarding, and wisdom will only grow when exposed to everyone else's ideas no matter how confronting they may be.\\n3. Reflecting\\n3-1. Learn to recognize your faults\\nThe hardest journey is often the one that requires looking inside yourself and being honest about what you find. try to work out what beliefs, opinions, and biases you harbor. Unless you're willing to know yourself well and learn to love both the strengths and weaknesses within you, it is difficult to be wise. Knowing yourself provides the space in which you can grow and forgive yourself as you journey through life.\\nBe wary of any self-improvement advice that claims to have \\\"secrets\\\". The only \\\"secret\\\" to self-improvement is that it requires hard work and constancy. Beyond that, you can fiddle at the edges (attested to remarkably by the massive success of the self-help industry) but you cannot change the reality of having to do the work of personal introspection and reflection on the world yourself.\\n3-2. Accept that you can't know everything.\\nThe wisest of people have long been those who realize they actually know very little, often in spite of decades of learning and reflecting. The more you think about people, things, and events, the more it becomes clear that there is always more to know and that what you do know is but a pinhead amid all knowledge. Acceptance of the limitations of your own knowledge is a key to wisdom.\\nDon't confuse expertise with wisdom. Expertise refers to a high level of knowledge in a distinct field, whereas wisdom refers to the broader notion seeing the big picture of that knowledge, and to live calmly reassured of your decisions and actions in light of your knowledge.\\n3-3. Be responsible\\nOnly you can know who you are and only you can be responsible for your ultimate choices. If you've spent years doing what was right according to someone else's standards rather than your own, you're not being responsible for yourself. Change the job where nobody recognizes your talents and find one where people will discover the tiger within. Move somewhere you're comfortable. Find a way to earn a living that doesn't compromise your compassion, care, and interests. Self-responsibility, including learning to accept the consequences of making your own decisions, increases wisdom.\\n3-4. Uncomplicate your life\\nFor many people, a sense of meaning in life is \\\"created\\\" from being overly busy and by complicating everything from work to love. Complexity can make a person feel important and wanted but it is not wisdom. Rather, it's a form of distraction from oneself and from dealing with issues in life that really do matter, like questioning what your purpose is and what life is all about. Complication rules out reflection and leaves you vulnerable to the mysticism of expertise, causing you to make things harder than they need to be. Keep it simple and wisdom will flourish.\\nAs you grow wiser in a topic, it should become more simple for you to understand. If something still seems complex to you, you may not understand the basic building blocks of the subject.\\nTips\\nThink before you act or you will regret your actions.[13]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nSome decisions you will doubt because your decisions are only as valid as your reasoning, which - at times - you may think is not at all valid. But without decisions, you may not attain the things you want. No article can advise on how to balance these needs, that is up to you.\\nIf you use logic to make decisions, consider this: When you have too much doubt in your reasoning, it will be hard to make those decisions.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Confucius once said that there were three ways to learn wisdom: \\\"First, by reflection, which is noblest; second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.\\\" Gaining wisdom, the most prized of virtues across almost all cultures, is an exercise in life learning, careful analysis, and thoughtful action.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Gaining Experience\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Cultivate the mind of a beginner.\", \"描述\": \"Do you remember the first time you saw dinosaur bones at the museum? Or the first time you ate a really good peach? Your world expanded at that moment by a fraction and you became a little wiser. The Buddhist concept of \\\"beginner's mind\\\" refers to the approach of a person just starting out, filled with the wonder of new learning, and being challenged anew by it. Always keep a curious and open mind.\\nRather than prejudging situations, learn to keep your mind open and tell yourself \\\"I don't know what to expect,\\\" which will allow you to learn and gain wisdom. When you cease to have a fixed idea of people, things, and situations surrounding you, you grow in wisdom by soaking up changes, new ideas, and don't set any person above or beneath you.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Ask lots of questions\", \"描述\": \"Learning doesn't stop just because you might have graduated from high school or college, or that you've got kids and have lots of experience you'd like to teach them. Even if you're a teacher at the highest level or an expert in your field, you're not done learning. A wise person questions their motivations, questions widely accepted knowledge, and learns to love asking questions in moments of ignorance, because a wise person knows when it is time to learn.\\nAnais Nin neatly summed up this need to continue learning: \\\"Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.\\\"\\nWhen you share knowledge, you also learn better since you recognize your own understanding and how you may organize the information better.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Slow down\", \"描述\": \"Be still at least once a day, to allow yourself time to rest and to stop taking in the rush of the world. Being constantly busy and worrying incessantly about being seen as inadequate may make you a paragon of workplace virtue but it does not make you wise. Stop. Stand still. Take in what the unhurried perspective brings to you.\\nFill your time with contemplation. Fill your free time with learning rather than distractions. If you find yourself filling downtime with television or video games, try to substitute an hour of television with 1 hour of reading or choose instead to watch a nature documentary you've been meaning to watch. Better yet, go outside and go for a hike in the woods.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Think first and talk second\", \"描述\": \"It's not always important to voice your opinion in a group or to contribute something just because you can. Wise people don't always need to prove their knowledge. If your opinion is necessary, give it. An old adage goes, \\\"The best samurai lets the sword rust in its scabbard.\\\"\\nThis isn't to say you should withdraw socially or never speak. Rather, be receptive to others and be a good listener. Don't just wait for your turn to speak because you think you're wiser than everyone else in the room. That's not wisdom, that's egotism.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Imitating Wisdom\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn from mentors.\", \"描述\": \"Find people whom you respect and who emulate the values and ideals that represent wisdom. Look for people doing the things you find interesting and of importance. Ask those people questions. Listen with great care to what they have to say, for you will learn much from their experience and reflection. When in doubt, ask your mentors for advice and guidance; while you don't necessarily have to agree with what they have to say, it will certainly give you food for thought.\\nMentors don't have to be successful people or people you want to \\\"be like.\\\" The wisest person you know might be a bartender, not a professor of mathematics. Learn to recognize the wisdom in everyone.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Read everything\", \"描述\": \"Read the writings of philosophers and social commentators. Read comics. Read Lee Child adventure novels. Read online or on mobile devices. Get a library card. Read contemporary Irish poetry. Read Melville. Read as if your life depended on it and form opinions about the things you read and talk with others about what you've read.\\nRead especially about your particular fields of interest, whether it be your job or your hobby. Read about other people's experiences and learn how others before you have dealt with situations that you're likely to face.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Share with your mentors.\", \"描述\": \"It's a mistake to think that the wise are above it all. Never troubled by their emotions, wise people float above the rest of us in an unfeeling bubble of their own making. Not true.\\nWhen you're feeling frustrated or disappointed in something, it's natural to want to discuss it with someone who will understand. Surround yourself with willing and receptive wise people who'll give you a sounding board. Be open with them and they'll be open with you.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Practice humility\", \"描述\": \"Is it wise to sell yourself? The business and marketing world has convinced us self-promotion is a necessity, because we've managed to turn ourselves into commodities in need of a good sales pitch, and business language frequently reflects this. However, there is a huge difference between acknowledging to yourself and others that you are good at doing something and exaggerating a range of skill sets beyond your comfort zone just to keep up with the competition.\\nBeing humble is not about abdicating your self-worth; rather, it's about being realistic and only emphasizing all that is good and capable within you. In turn, people will know that they can depend on your reliability for those traits.\\nBeing humble is wise because it allows the real you to shine through. Humility also ensures that you respect the abilities of others rather than fearing them; the wisdom of accepting your own limitations and connecting with other people's strengths to bolster yours is infinite.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be there for others\", \"描述\": \"Wise people don't have to live in caves, growing wizard beards in their hermitage. Exchange wisdom with others to help guide them. As a mentor and teacher yourself, you can help other people learn about critical thinking, embracing feelings, loving lifelong learning, and trusting themselves.\\nAvoid the temptation to use learning as a barrier against others. Knowledge is for sharing not hoarding, and wisdom will only grow when exposed to everyone else's ideas no matter how confronting they may be.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Reflecting\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn to recognize your faults\", \"描述\": \"The hardest journey is often the one that requires looking inside yourself and being honest about what you find. try to work out what beliefs, opinions, and biases you harbor. Unless you're willing to know yourself well and learn to love both the strengths and weaknesses within you, it is difficult to be wise. Knowing yourself provides the space in which you can grow and forgive yourself as you journey through life.\\nBe wary of any self-improvement advice that claims to have \\\"secrets\\\". The only \\\"secret\\\" to self-improvement is that it requires hard work and constancy. Beyond that, you can fiddle at the edges (attested to remarkably by the massive success of the self-help industry) but you cannot change the reality of having to do the work of personal introspection and reflection on the world yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Accept that you can't know everything.\", \"描述\": \"The wisest of people have long been those who realize they actually know very little, often in spite of decades of learning and reflecting. The more you think about people, things, and events, the more it becomes clear that there is always more to know and that what you do know is but a pinhead amid all knowledge. Acceptance of the limitations of your own knowledge is a key to wisdom.\\nDon't confuse expertise with wisdom. 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1. Finding Opportunities to be Witty
1-1. Respond to questions or statements in a humorous way.
Being witty isn’t about memorizing funny jokes or quotes—it’s about learning how to come up with creative responses on the fly. Try adding a tinge of humor to normal questions to begin practicing your wit.
For example, the question “How would you spend a million dollars?” invites all sorts of creative thinking; responding with “Quite happily” answers it in a humorous way.
If you're having trouble thinking of creative responses, go for a dry, direct approach. For example, you might answer with "the sky" if someone asks you "What's up?"
1-2. Think outside the box to come up with unique jokes.
Witty people are able to see the world from a unique perspective, which then lets them come up with witty things to say. Come up with your own unique perspectives or realizations about things, and use your ideas to create witty conversation topics.
Read up on current events, pop culture, and other sources of news and information to give you lots of material to create your own opinion about.
Draw connections between words and their different meanings. For example, if you're talking about Spider Man, create a joke using the word "web," which could be referring to a spider web or the Internet.
1-3. Practice making puns.
While puns may seem more just like a simple joke than wit, a great pun plays on the connections between words and makes the listener think. Practicing making puns will help your mind learn to make connections to things quickly.
An example of a pun might be, "Without geometry, life is pointless."
To improve your puns, spend time learning new words, practicing rhyming, and read puns in books and online.
2. Honing Your Delivery
2-1. Choose material depending on your audience.
Though you should work on developing your own brand of humor, you should always be aware of the type of people you are around, and the particular things they find funny or offensive. This includes your audience’s age group, political views, or pop culture likes and dislikes.
If you're around a group of people who are very sensitive about religion, for example, then try to avoid jokes about this topic.
You might use different language and jokes around your close friends than you would with your grandparents.
2-2. Show confidence in your body language and tone.
Before you can begin to impress people with your wit, you have to give off a confident vibe to show people that you are comfortable with yourself as well as the jokes you tell. Standing tall, speaking clearly, and making eye contact when you deliver the punch line shows that you’re relaxed and confident.
If you mumble your jokes, people may ask you to repeat yourself and the humor will be lost.
Part of being witty is being sharp and quick, so don't hesitate too long or people won't understand how your funny comment connects to the conversation.
2-3. Listen to the people around you.
Instead of focusing your thoughts on the next witty line you’ll say, pause and really listen to the conversation that’s going on around you. This helps you understand the details of what’s being said and will help you come up with the perfect joke that aligns well with the conversation.
Listening to others will also help you pick up on funny and witty things that the people around you are saying so that you can learn from them as well.
2-4. Be concise when telling a joke.
Some of the wittiest responses are quick one-liners. Instead of rambling or making the joke excessively long, try to come up with quick comebacks that are only a line or two so the joke doesn’t lose its punch.
For example, “Velcro—what a rip-off!” is a good example of a joke that's simple yet witty.
2-5. Avoid putting pressure on yourself.
It’s hard to tell a perfect joke every time you come up with one, so don’t feel bad if you tell a bad joke or two. As long as you keep practicing, your wit will become better with time.
If nobody laughs at your jokes, just shake it off and say, "I'll get 'em next time," or "Whoops—wrong audience."
It also helps to not take yourself too seriously. That is key to the art of being witty.
3. Studying Witty People
3-1. Listen to comedy podcasts.
There are tons of podcasts you can listen to about all sorts of topics, from interviews with famous comedians to funny talks about what’s going on around the world. Just by doing a quick online search, you’re bound to come up with interesting podcasts that will give you great examples of how to be witty.
Some podcasts you might listen to include Ask Me Another, Free to a Good Home, or Comedy Bang! Bang!
3-2. Read the works of witty people.
These could be classics from authors like Shakespeare, blog posts about how to mix humor into conversations, or novels full of witty thoughts and remarks. Read as much as you can—the more you know about the world, the more likely you are to have an unbiased and unique perspective of the things around you.
Memoirs from famous comedians are full of wit and interesting stories.
Kurt Vonnegut and Mark Twain are two more examples of authors who used their wit in their writing.
Satirical websites like the Onion are known for their humorous articles.
3-3. Watch witty performances.
Watching witty people perform not only lets you hear their jokes, but it’s also a great chance to look at how they present themselves to their audience through their body language. Start watching witty performances on television, YouTube, or even in person.
SNL or any other late-night comedy show are great examples to look for.
Go online to search for movies or shows with witty characters in them.
See if your area has any local comedy sketches that you can watch.
3-4. Learn new words to expand your vocabulary.
In your studies of witty people, it’s likely you’ll come across new or rarely used words. Adding to your vocabulary will not only make you smarter, but it will allow you to create more connections between words, strengthening your wit in conversations.
Consider signing up for a free online service that sends you a new vocabulary word each day, or pick up a thesaurus in your free time and look through a page or two.
Tips
Don't over think jokes. If you have something funny that relates to a situation, say it!
Spend more time with people whom you find particularly witty, whether they are relatives, close friends, or acquaintances you'd like to get to know.
Understand when people are in the mood for humor—if you're at a serious event, such as a funeral, use your best judgement when thinking about making a joke.
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Come up with your own unique perspectives or realizations about things, and use your ideas to create witty conversation topics.\\nRead up on current events, pop culture, and other sources of news and information to give you lots of material to create your own opinion about.\\nDraw connections between words and their different meanings. For example, if you're talking about Spider Man, create a joke using the word \\\"web,\\\" which could be referring to a spider web or the Internet.\\n1-3. Practice making puns.\\nWhile puns may seem more just like a simple joke than wit, a great pun plays on the connections between words and makes the listener think. Practicing making puns will help your mind learn to make connections to things quickly.\\nAn example of a pun might be, \\\"Without geometry, life is pointless.\\\"\\nTo improve your puns, spend time learning new words, practicing rhyming, and read puns in books and online.\\n2. Honing Your Delivery\\n2-1. Choose material depending on your audience.\\nThough you should work on developing your own brand of humor, you should always be aware of the type of people you are around, and the particular things they find funny or offensive. This includes your audience’s age group, political views, or pop culture likes and dislikes.\\nIf you're around a group of people who are very sensitive about religion, for example, then try to avoid jokes about this topic.\\nYou might use different language and jokes around your close friends than you would with your grandparents.\\n2-2. Show confidence in your body language and tone.\\nBefore you can begin to impress people with your wit, you have to give off a confident vibe to show people that you are comfortable with yourself as well as the jokes you tell. Standing tall, speaking clearly, and making eye contact when you deliver the punch line shows that you’re relaxed and confident.\\nIf you mumble your jokes, people may ask you to repeat yourself and the humor will be lost.\\nPart of being witty is being sharp and quick, so don't hesitate too long or people won't understand how your funny comment connects to the conversation.\\n2-3. Listen to the people around you.\\nInstead of focusing your thoughts on the next witty line you’ll say, pause and really listen to the conversation that’s going on around you. This helps you understand the details of what’s being said and will help you come up with the perfect joke that aligns well with the conversation.\\nListening to others will also help you pick up on funny and witty things that the people around you are saying so that you can learn from them as well.\\n2-4. Be concise when telling a joke.\\nSome of the wittiest responses are quick one-liners. Instead of rambling or making the joke excessively long, try to come up with quick comebacks that are only a line or two so the joke doesn’t lose its punch.\\nFor example, “Velcro—what a rip-off!” is a good example of a joke that's simple yet witty.\\n2-5. Avoid putting pressure on yourself.\\nIt’s hard to tell a perfect joke every time you come up with one, so don’t feel bad if you tell a bad joke or two. As long as you keep practicing, your wit will become better with time.\\nIf nobody laughs at your jokes, just shake it off and say, \\\"I'll get 'em next time,\\\" or \\\"Whoops—wrong audience.\\\"\\nIt also helps to not take yourself too seriously. That is key to the art of being witty.\\n3. Studying Witty People\\n3-1. Listen to comedy podcasts.\\nThere are tons of podcasts you can listen to about all sorts of topics, from interviews with famous comedians to funny talks about what’s going on around the world. Just by doing a quick online search, you’re bound to come up with interesting podcasts that will give you great examples of how to be witty.\\nSome podcasts you might listen to include Ask Me Another, Free to a Good Home, or Comedy Bang! Bang!\\n3-2. Read the works of witty people.\\nThese could be classics from authors like Shakespeare, blog posts about how to mix humor into conversations, or novels full of witty thoughts and remarks. Read as much as you can—the more you know about the world, the more likely you are to have an unbiased and unique perspective of the things around you.\\nMemoirs from famous comedians are full of wit and interesting stories.\\nKurt Vonnegut and Mark Twain are two more examples of authors who used their wit in their writing.\\nSatirical websites like the Onion are known for their humorous articles.\\n3-3. Watch witty performances.\\nWatching witty people perform not only lets you hear their jokes, but it’s also a great chance to look at how they present themselves to their audience through their body language. Start watching witty performances on television, YouTube, or even in person.\\nSNL or any other late-night comedy show are great examples to look for.\\nGo online to search for movies or shows with witty characters in them.\\nSee if your area has any local comedy sketches that you can watch.\\n3-4. Learn new words to expand your vocabulary.\\nIn your studies of witty people, it’s likely you’ll come across new or rarely used words. Adding to your vocabulary will not only make you smarter, but it will allow you to create more connections between words, strengthening your wit in conversations.\\nConsider signing up for a free online service that sends you a new vocabulary word each day, or pick up a thesaurus in your free time and look through a page or two.\\nTips\\nDon't over think jokes. If you have something funny that relates to a situation, say it!\\nSpend more time with people whom you find particularly witty, whether they are relatives, close friends, or acquaintances you'd like to get to know.\\nUnderstand when people are in the mood for humor—if you're at a serious event, such as a funeral, use your best judgement when thinking about making a joke.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The easiest way to improve your wit is to study other people with admirable senses of humor. You can do this by listening to comedy podcasts, watching witty performers, or reading humorous writing. It's important to practice your skills when you're talking with other people and show confidence so people know you believe in yourself. By thinking creatively and having fun, you'll be showing off your wit in no time.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Finding Opportunities to be Witty\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Respond to questions or statements in a humorous way.\", \"描述\": \"Being witty isn’t about memorizing funny jokes or quotes—it’s about learning how to come up with creative responses on the fly. Try adding a tinge of humor to normal questions to begin practicing your wit.\\nFor example, the question “How would you spend a million dollars?” invites all sorts of creative thinking; responding with “Quite happily” answers it in a humorous way.\\nIf you're having trouble thinking of creative responses, go for a dry, direct approach. 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Practicing making puns will help your mind learn to make connections to things quickly.\\nAn example of a pun might be, \\\"Without geometry, life is pointless.\\\"\\nTo improve your puns, spend time learning new words, practicing rhyming, and read puns in books and online.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Honing Your Delivery\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Choose material depending on your audience.\", \"描述\": \"Though you should work on developing your own brand of humor, you should always be aware of the type of people you are around, and the particular things they find funny or offensive. This includes your audience’s age group, political views, or pop culture likes and dislikes.\\nIf you're around a group of people who are very sensitive about religion, for example, then try to avoid jokes about this topic.\\nYou might use different language and jokes around your close friends than you would with your grandparents.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Show confidence in your body language and tone.\", \"描述\": \"Before you can begin to impress people with your wit, you have to give off a confident vibe to show people that you are comfortable with yourself as well as the jokes you tell. Standing tall, speaking clearly, and making eye contact when you deliver the punch line shows that you’re relaxed and confident.\\nIf you mumble your jokes, people may ask you to repeat yourself and the humor will be lost.\\nPart of being witty is being sharp and quick, so don't hesitate too long or people won't understand how your funny comment connects to the conversation.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Listen to the people around you.\", \"描述\": \"Instead of focusing your thoughts on the next witty line you’ll say, pause and really listen to the conversation that’s going on around you. 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1. Steps
1-1. Choose your beta.
Every alpha has to have a good beta. This is a girl who is highly trusted and is usually the girl the alpha knows the most. She is the alpha's best friend and second-in-command! You don't need to focus on looks, but make sure she's pretty. She should be able to get you gossip as well, and make sure she's not annoying!
1-2. Don't let anyone boss you around.
You are in charge and no one else should try to take your job. If they try, have your own sneaky way of getting back at them.
1-3. To be an alpha, you have to act like one.
You have to care for your friends and support them. Never let anyone get away with teasing them; if you have their back, they have yours. And if they've ever been mean to you, maybe they shouldn't be in your clique.
1-4. Have a set of rules that aren't too hard to follow.
(Hair down on Fridays, no bootcut jeans, matching charm bracelets on Wednesday. No Walmart or superstore apparel, etc.)
1-5. Know a lot of good comebacks.
People will try to put you down in the beginning so practice how to evil grin, and say something mean without sounding stupid.
1-6. Know how to get what you want.
You have to learn how to manipulate anybody at any time.
1-7. Become drop-dead gorgeous.
Of course, this can't happen overnight. Start working out or join a sport.
1-8. Form a strong relationship with your friends.
The tighter your circle, the stronger you become.
1-9. Get guys to like you.
Read some of the flirt wikiHows and how to handle a boyfriend.
1-10. Portray confidence at all times.
If you've ever heard the phrase fake it till you make it; well now is the time to use it.
1-11. Make sure your friends are pretty!
If they aren't, please help them! If they have blackheads, get them Biore pore strips, etc.
1-12. Solve your friend's problems or at least help.
Have your friends wired at all times and if you sense anything wrong like if your friend needs a partner, invite her to be in your group and if she lost something, help her find it.
1-13. Use makeup but keep it natural.
Alphas cannot look like clowns.
1-14. Know what's in.
Seventeen, Teen Vogue, and Cosmo GIRL! are suggested magazines.
1-15. Keep yourself clean!
Wash your face, brush your teeth and hair, shave your armpits/legs/and arms are a must. Wash your hair regularly. Hygiene is thoroughly important.
Brittney Spears Perfumes are nice: Fantasy, Midnight Fantasy, Curious, Believe
Vera Wang Princess and Rock Princess
Dior: Miss Cherie and Miss Cherie L'eau for sure!
Clinique's Happy is good.
Paris Hilton perfume is very good too!
Victoria's Secret perfume is very good at an affordable price!
If you buy gift sets, they generally also come with body wash and body shimmer lotion so you won't have any conflicting scents.
Body sprays work too! If you buy the kind by Secret, you can match it with your deodorant for the best effect.
1-16. Wear tons of deodorant but don't overuse the perfume.
1-17. Have a perfect room; it states who you are.
1-18. Always make sure you have at least one set of eyes on you at ALL times!
1-19. Make sure your clique is trustworthy!
In Pretty Little Liars, Alison and the girls had a secret that bounded them forever! Don't have something like The Jenna Thing that could get someone in SERIOUS trouble as your secret, and never blackmail anyone!
Tips
Don't take on any drama inside of the clique. If you do, you might risk losing your friends.
Do not ever tell people that they aren't as good as you. They are just as good.
Do not wear any clothing that you find in Walmart. If you do you may be made fun of and may become a lower rank.
Warnings
Some people will hate you, so be prepared to deal with social downfalls and public displays of hatred.
Just because you have a clique doesn't mean it will be popular
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How to Be Your Dog's Best Friend
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1. Being Attentive and Observant
1-1. Learn your dog's moods and feelings.
This requires being observant and learning what you can about your own dog's temperament.
Use their body language to learn how your dog is feeling and if they are comfortable.
If you just adopted or purchased this dog, give it some time to adjust to its surroundings before overwhelming it with attention.
Dogs will try to tell you things that they need and want. They may bring you their favorite toy or a tennis ball if they want to play, or whine by the door if they need to go outside. Paying attention to the cues that your dog gives you will help you to address their needs and wants.
Some dogs may express themselves with different noises and expressions. Others, however, may be quieter and harder to read.
1-2. Pay close attention to your dog’s body language.
A dog’s body language can tell you how they are feeling about a situation, their mood, or if they are receptive to other dogs and people in their space.
Dogs that have relaxed body positions, are enthusiastically wagging their tail or thumping it on the floor, have a happy expression on their face like a smile, and are in a play bow (bowing the front of their body towards the floor with their tail wagging) are happy and receptive to play!
Dogs that are scared or anxious may try to avoid you by backing away from you, turning their head and body away from you, and hiding behind another person or object. Anxious dogs also may have their tail between their legs, and have wide bulging eyes (this is called a half moon eye).
A dog that is aggressive may growl, guard their favorite possessions, snap at you, snarl, lunge off their leash, and bite.
1-3. Give your dog space.
All animals need down time and to be alone so they can rest. Just like humans, dogs can become overwhelmed, tired, and cranky. If they're tired, they may try to tell you that they'd like to be alone by avoiding you and going to a space they enjoy sleeping in. This doesn't mean that your dog doesn't like you, they just need some time to themselves and to reset.
Give your dog space when they are tired, seem agitated, or appear to be afraid.
Make sure that the dog has a private, quiet space where it can retreat if it needs to nap or rest. This could be a crate, a bed in a different room, or a separate couch.
Once you are able to learn your dog’s body language, you need to respond appropriately to what they are communicating to you.
1-4. Respect your dog.
Whether you have had this dog for a few weeks or for many years, you should always treat them with respect and love. If you want your dog to become your best friend, you also have to be their best friend. Friendships are built on mutual respect and care; the way that you treat your dog will become the ways that your dog will treat you. When you treat them with care and attention, they will reciprocate in their own way.
Never harm or hit your dog. This is animal abuse and you should not have a dog if you cannot refrain from hurting them. If you have a dog that you find yourself abusing, immediately surrender the dog to a shelter where they can be well taken care of.
If you suspect that your dog has been harmed by someone else, you should take them to the veterinarian immediately. Contact law enforcement or your local animal control agency and let them know that your dog has been harmed.
If your dog does not trust you, it will take time to develop a relationship. Dogs that have been rescued from abusive situations may take a longer time to warm up to you and to feel safe. Be respectful of the fact that they need more time to feel comfortable, and let the relationship progress at a slower pace.
Some dogs may be startled by noises or fast movements. If you have a new dog in your home, try to move more slowly around it until it relaxes and you learn its triggers.
1-5. Keep your dog safe.
Your dog's safety can be threatened by things outside and inside of your home. Keeping your dog safe will help them to live a long and healthy life so that you can spend more time together!
Dogs are unable to eat many food items. You should avoid feeding your dog from your table as part of your behavioral training, but be aware that certain foods pose serious health risks to your pet. Some of the more common foods that dogs can never eat include chocolate, avocado, raisins and grapes, fruits with pits, garlic, and onions.
Always keep your dog on a leash when you take them on a walk. Many cities and states have laws that forbid dogs to be off leash, but it's always a good idea to stay on the leash. Leashing your dog can help keep them away from other dogs that may be aggressive, busy roads and intersections, and the risk that they may run away.
Pet proof your home. Like babies and small children, dogs are curious creatures that can get into things they shouldn't. Lock away your cleaning products and any medicines. Buy a trashcan that your dog can't open. Move or put away any cords lying on the ground. Use baby gates or lock doors to keep dogs out of rooms they don't belong in.
2. Keeping Your Dog Happy and Healthy
2-1. Feed and give water to your dog.
This may seem obvious, but feeding your dog is absolutely essential both to your relationship and the health of your dog.
The first week your dog is in your home, try feeding it from your hands. This will encourage the dog to trust you.
Let your dog watch you fill their food and water bowls. They will associate you with food and understand that you are providing for them.
Feed your dog at specific times during the day rather than leaving food out all day. This is a good way to help your dog build a routine and to further associate you with food and caring for them.
There are many different types of dog food. Ask your veterinarian for a recommendation if you are unsure of what to choose. Some dogs are pickier than others and prefer certain types of dog food over others. It may take a few tries to find a food that your dog likes.
Treats are a great way to motivate your dog to do tricks or to reward them for good behavior. Give treats in moderation to keep your dog at a healthy weight.
2-2. Take your dog to the veterinarian.
A healthy dog is a happy dog! Good preventive medical care helps them live a longer happier life.
Make sure your dog is up to date on vaccinations and worming.
If your dog does have medical problems, their medical care can become very expensive. Pet medical insurance is one option to help moderate your costs.
When you have a strong bond with your dog, your dog will begin to understand that you are concerned about their health and wellbeing when it comes to medical procedures or vet visits.
2-3. Walk your dog daily.
Your dog will need plenty of exercise to keep healthy and spending time together walking is a good way to bond with your pet. Again, they will associate you with going on walks, which many dogs find to be their favorite activity!
Purchase a good quality leash. If you have a larger dog that is strong, you may want to consider buying a harness or a head halter to attach to a leash.
Take your dog out regularly for good long walks.
Train them to behave appropriately on a leash. They should not be pulling you along the road. They should heel and stay close by your side and walk at your pace.
Take your dog to the dog park and let them socialize with other dogs and people. Your dog can bond and meet new friends while they enjoy being outside and running free.
Always clean up after your dog and carry plastic bags on your walks to dispose of your dog’s waste.
Try taking your dog to new and exciting places on your walks to keep it engaged. For example, you can go to a new park, garden, trail, or downtown street.
2-4. Bathe and groom your dog.
Depending on the breed of your dog, they may require more frequent or complicated grooming.
Generally, try to brush your dog’s fur at least once a week to prevent knotted, matted hair.
Give them baths. Some dogs love baths, some are not such big fans. Wash them at least once a month, or whenever they are muddy or dirty.. If you use a gentle shampoo, you can bathe your dog up to once a week.
Depending on the breed, you may need to take your dog to the groomers so they can give your dog hair cuts that are appropriate for the breed.
Trim your dog’s nails. Like humans, dogs’ nails grow continuously. Unless your dog is very active and wears them down on pavement or concrete, you will need to trim their nails when they become long. There are special dog nail clippers, but regular nail clippers can be used as well.
3. Training and Having Fun
3-1. Attend a brief dog training class.
If you have never trained a dog before, a dog training class is a helpful way to learn the basics. Obedience classes can also help you and your dog grow closer since you will be working with it one-on-one.
Training your dog can help keep them safe, healthy, and sociable.
As the owner, you are the leader and guide in your relationship with your dog. They rely on you for their health and well-being so it is important to set boundaries with your dog in regards to undesirable behaviors.
Obedience classes help you and your dog to establish good communication when they learn to respect and follow your verbal and physical cues.
3-2. Keep all learning a fun experience.
When you are training your dog, mix it with play!
Many dogs, especially working dog breeds, enjoy tasks and are bred to perform jobs. These dogs may benefit from participating in an agility training course, receiving more exercise, and spending more time outdoors.
Many dogs are motivated by food, so small treats can be a positive motivator when they correctly do a trick or a specific behavior.
3-3. Play with your dog.
Play encourages a healthy relationship and gives you an opportunity to continue to bond with your dog.
Games like fetch or tug of war are great ways to give your dog some exercise and for them to have fun. Try different games to see what your dog enjoys.
Some dogs are less interested in playing with you than others. Some may prefer to play independently or with other dogs. This is okay! This is just your dog’s personal preference and you should respect that.
Keep track of games and toys that your dog likes better than others! If your dog likes fetch, get toys that can be thrown or tossed, like balls and frisbees. If they prefer puzzles, invest in Kong toys or toys where treats can be hidden inside.
3-4. Pet your dog.
Physical contact is a great way to show that you care about your pet. Most dogs love belly rubs, pats on the head, and pets. When you pet your dog, studies have shown that both you and your dog release a hormone called oxytocin, which makes you both feel calm and happy.
Snuggling and cuddling with your dog helps to de-stress both of you, while encouraging a strong physical bond.
Some dogs like more physical contact than others, and there are times when even the cuddliest dog needs their space. Just like with humans, sometimes dogs want to be close to you and in physical contact, and during other times they don't.
Physical contact helps to solidify the emotional and relational bond between you and your dog. It demonstrates that you both love, respect, and care for each other.
Grooming also shows your dog that you care about their wellbeing, and it helps to foster a physical bond while keeping your dog healthy and clean.
3-5. Discipline your dog.
Disciplining your dog is essential in maintaining good boundaries in your relationship.
There are different ways to discipline your dog, but you should hit your dog. If a dog has done something that it shouldn't have, like going on your couch or eating off your plate, you can make them sit and sternly say, "No! Bad dog! Don't do that!"
If you use a stern voice for disciplining them, they will act submissive because they will know they were bad. What you see as "guilty", a dog sees as sad. Averting the eyes, crouching down low with their head bowed, or giving you that look, shows that they know you are mad at them. While they might know you are mad at them, it is important to give discipline right away, when they are bad. That way, they will know why they are in trouble.
If you come home to find that they have ripped the couch to shreds, do not discipline them. You didn't catch them in the act, therefore they have no idea what you are yelling at them for. Destructive behavior is a sign of boredom. Let them spend the day outside in your backyard, or perhaps take them for more frequent walks. If you do not want them in the livingroom, or any particular room, consider dog gates.
Don't use threats that your dog won't understand. For instance, "You ripped up the couch, we are not going to the dog park tomorrow!". Dogs will not understand this and have no idea what you are saying.
Use discipline that is appropriate for the scenario. The discipline that you would use if your dog barked when it shouldn't have versus tearing up your couch will be very different.
Avoid using the dog's crate for discipline. The crate should be a safe space for your dog. Only put the dog in there if it is too hyper or wound up.
Tips
Every dog is different. Each has a different personality, likes and dislikes, and they react in different ways. Be respectful of these differences when you are building your relationship with your dog.
Remember dogs only need three things: Exercise, discipline and affection.
Be affectionate with your dog if you are both comfortable. This is a loving relationship that you are building and showing affection demonstrates to your dog that you love them.
Warnings
If you have small children, train your dog to be more careful around them. Dogs are playful and small children are easily knocked over and injured by a rambunctious dog.
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Pay close attention to your dog’s body language.\\nA dog’s body language can tell you how they are feeling about a situation, their mood, or if they are receptive to other dogs and people in their space.\\nDogs that have relaxed body positions, are enthusiastically wagging their tail or thumping it on the floor, have a happy expression on their face like a smile, and are in a play bow (bowing the front of their body towards the floor with their tail wagging) are happy and receptive to play!\\nDogs that are scared or anxious may try to avoid you by backing away from you, turning their head and body away from you, and hiding behind another person or object. Anxious dogs also may have their tail between their legs, and have wide bulging eyes (this is called a half moon eye). \\nA dog that is aggressive may growl, guard their favorite possessions, snap at you, snarl, lunge off their leash, and bite.\\n1-3. Give your dog space.\\nAll animals need down time and to be alone so they can rest. Just like humans, dogs can become overwhelmed, tired, and cranky. If they're tired, they may try to tell you that they'd like to be alone by avoiding you and going to a space they enjoy sleeping in. This doesn't mean that your dog doesn't like you, they just need some time to themselves and to reset.\\nGive your dog space when they are tired, seem agitated, or appear to be afraid.\\nMake sure that the dog has a private, quiet space where it can retreat if it needs to nap or rest. This could be a crate, a bed in a different room, or a separate couch.\\nOnce you are able to learn your dog’s body language, you need to respond appropriately to what they are communicating to you.\\n1-4. Respect your dog.\\nWhether you have had this dog for a few weeks or for many years, you should always treat them with respect and love. If you want your dog to become your best friend, you also have to be their best friend. Friendships are built on mutual respect and care; the way that you treat your dog will become the ways that your dog will treat you. When you treat them with care and attention, they will reciprocate in their own way.\\nNever harm or hit your dog. This is animal abuse and you should not have a dog if you cannot refrain from hurting them. If you have a dog that you find yourself abusing, immediately surrender the dog to a shelter where they can be well taken care of.\\nIf you suspect that your dog has been harmed by someone else, you should take them to the veterinarian immediately. Contact law enforcement or your local animal control agency and let them know that your dog has been harmed.\\nIf your dog does not trust you, it will take time to develop a relationship. Dogs that have been rescued from abusive situations may take a longer time to warm up to you and to feel safe. Be respectful of the fact that they need more time to feel comfortable, and let the relationship progress at a slower pace.\\nSome dogs may be startled by noises or fast movements. If you have a new dog in your home, try to move more slowly around it until it relaxes and you learn its triggers.\\n1-5. Keep your dog safe.\\nYour dog's safety can be threatened by things outside and inside of your home. Keeping your dog safe will help them to live a long and healthy life so that you can spend more time together!\\nDogs are unable to eat many food items. You should avoid feeding your dog from your table as part of your behavioral training, but be aware that certain foods pose serious health risks to your pet. Some of the more common foods that dogs can never eat include chocolate, avocado, raisins and grapes, fruits with pits, garlic, and onions.\\nAlways keep your dog on a leash when you take them on a walk. Many cities and states have laws that forbid dogs to be off leash, but it's always a good idea to stay on the leash. Leashing your dog can help keep them away from other dogs that may be aggressive, busy roads and intersections, and the risk that they may run away.\\nPet proof your home. Like babies and small children, dogs are curious creatures that can get into things they shouldn't. Lock away your cleaning products and any medicines. Buy a trashcan that your dog can't open. Move or put away any cords lying on the ground. Use baby gates or lock doors to keep dogs out of rooms they don't belong in.\\n2. Keeping Your Dog Happy and Healthy\\n2-1. Feed and give water to your dog.\\nThis may seem obvious, but feeding your dog is absolutely essential both to your relationship and the health of your dog.\\nThe first week your dog is in your home, try feeding it from your hands. This will encourage the dog to trust you.\\nLet your dog watch you fill their food and water bowls. They will associate you with food and understand that you are providing for them.\\nFeed your dog at specific times during the day rather than leaving food out all day. This is a good way to help your dog build a routine and to further associate you with food and caring for them.\\nThere are many different types of dog food. Ask your veterinarian for a recommendation if you are unsure of what to choose. Some dogs are pickier than others and prefer certain types of dog food over others. It may take a few tries to find a food that your dog likes.\\nTreats are a great way to motivate your dog to do tricks or to reward them for good behavior. Give treats in moderation to keep your dog at a healthy weight.\\n2-2. Take your dog to the veterinarian.\\nA healthy dog is a happy dog! Good preventive medical care helps them live a longer happier life.\\nMake sure your dog is up to date on vaccinations and worming.\\nIf your dog does have medical problems, their medical care can become very expensive. Pet medical insurance is one option to help moderate your costs.\\nWhen you have a strong bond with your dog, your dog will begin to understand that you are concerned about their health and wellbeing when it comes to medical procedures or vet visits.\\n2-3. Walk your dog daily.\\nYour dog will need plenty of exercise to keep healthy and spending time together walking is a good way to bond with your pet. Again, they will associate you with going on walks, which many dogs find to be their favorite activity!\\nPurchase a good quality leash. If you have a larger dog that is strong, you may want to consider buying a harness or a head halter to attach to a leash.\\nTake your dog out regularly for good long walks.\\nTrain them to behave appropriately on a leash. They should not be pulling you along the road. They should heel and stay close by your side and walk at your pace.\\nTake your dog to the dog park and let them socialize with other dogs and people. Your dog can bond and meet new friends while they enjoy being outside and running free.\\nAlways clean up after your dog and carry plastic bags on your walks to dispose of your dog’s waste.\\nTry taking your dog to new and exciting places on your walks to keep it engaged. For example, you can go to a new park, garden, trail, or downtown street.\\n2-4. Bathe and groom your dog.\\nDepending on the breed of your dog, they may require more frequent or complicated grooming.\\nGenerally, try to brush your dog’s fur at least once a week to prevent knotted, matted hair.\\nGive them baths. Some dogs love baths, some are not such big fans. Wash them at least once a month, or whenever they are muddy or dirty.. If you use a gentle shampoo, you can bathe your dog up to once a week.\\nDepending on the breed, you may need to take your dog to the groomers so they can give your dog hair cuts that are appropriate for the breed.\\nTrim your dog’s nails. Like humans, dogs’ nails grow continuously. Unless your dog is very active and wears them down on pavement or concrete, you will need to trim their nails when they become long. There are special dog nail clippers, but regular nail clippers can be used as well.\\n3. Training and Having Fun\\n3-1. Attend a brief dog training class.\\nIf you have never trained a dog before, a dog training class is a helpful way to learn the basics. Obedience classes can also help you and your dog grow closer since you will be working with it one-on-one.\\nTraining your dog can help keep them safe, healthy, and sociable.\\nAs the owner, you are the leader and guide in your relationship with your dog. They rely on you for their health and well-being so it is important to set boundaries with your dog in regards to undesirable behaviors.\\nObedience classes help you and your dog to establish good communication when they learn to respect and follow your verbal and physical cues.\\n3-2. Keep all learning a fun experience.\\nWhen you are training your dog, mix it with play!\\nMany dogs, especially working dog breeds, enjoy tasks and are bred to perform jobs. These dogs may benefit from participating in an agility training course, receiving more exercise, and spending more time outdoors.\\nMany dogs are motivated by food, so small treats can be a positive motivator when they correctly do a trick or a specific behavior.\\n3-3. Play with your dog.\\nPlay encourages a healthy relationship and gives you an opportunity to continue to bond with your dog.\\nGames like fetch or tug of war are great ways to give your dog some exercise and for them to have fun. Try different games to see what your dog enjoys.\\nSome dogs are less interested in playing with you than others. Some may prefer to play independently or with other dogs. This is okay! This is just your dog’s personal preference and you should respect that.\\nKeep track of games and toys that your dog likes better than others! If your dog likes fetch, get toys that can be thrown or tossed, like balls and frisbees. If they prefer puzzles, invest in Kong toys or toys where treats can be hidden inside.\\n3-4. Pet your dog.\\nPhysical contact is a great way to show that you care about your pet. Most dogs love belly rubs, pats on the head, and pets. When you pet your dog, studies have shown that both you and your dog release a hormone called oxytocin, which makes you both feel calm and happy.\\nSnuggling and cuddling with your dog helps to de-stress both of you, while encouraging a strong physical bond.\\nSome dogs like more physical contact than others, and there are times when even the cuddliest dog needs their space. Just like with humans, sometimes dogs want to be close to you and in physical contact, and during other times they don't.\\nPhysical contact helps to solidify the emotional and relational bond between you and your dog. It demonstrates that you both love, respect, and care for each other.\\nGrooming also shows your dog that you care about their wellbeing, and it helps to foster a physical bond while keeping your dog healthy and clean.\\n3-5. Discipline your dog.\\nDisciplining your dog is essential in maintaining good boundaries in your relationship.\\nThere are different ways to discipline your dog, but you should hit your dog. If a dog has done something that it shouldn't have, like going on your couch or eating off your plate, you can make them sit and sternly say, \\\"No! Bad dog! Don't do that!\\\"\\nIf you use a stern voice for disciplining them, they will act submissive because they will know they were bad. What you see as \\\"guilty\\\", a dog sees as sad. Averting the eyes, crouching down low with their head bowed, or giving you that look, shows that they know you are mad at them. While they might know you are mad at them, it is important to give discipline right away, when they are bad. That way, they will know why they are in trouble.\\nIf you come home to find that they have ripped the couch to shreds, do not discipline them. You didn't catch them in the act, therefore they have no idea what you are yelling at them for. Destructive behavior is a sign of boredom. Let them spend the day outside in your backyard, or perhaps take them for more frequent walks. If you do not want them in the livingroom, or any particular room, consider dog gates.\\nDon't use threats that your dog won't understand. For instance, \\\"You ripped up the couch, we are not going to the dog park tomorrow!\\\". Dogs will not understand this and have no idea what you are saying.\\n\\nUse discipline that is appropriate for the scenario. The discipline that you would use if your dog barked when it shouldn't have versus tearing up your couch will be very different.\\nAvoid using the dog's crate for discipline. The crate should be a safe space for your dog. Only put the dog in there if it is too hyper or wound up.\\nTips\\nEvery dog is different. Each has a different personality, likes and dislikes, and they react in different ways. Be respectful of these differences when you are building your relationship with your dog.\\nRemember dogs only need three things: Exercise, discipline and affection.\\nBe affectionate with your dog if you are both comfortable. This is a loving relationship that you are building and showing affection demonstrates to your dog that you love them.\\nWarnings\\nIf you have small children, train your dog to be more careful around them. Dogs are playful and small children are easily knocked over and injured by a rambunctious dog.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Dogs have been bred for centuries to become man’s best friend. When you are attentive, respectful, and care about your dog’s well-being, it is easier to build a stronger bond between the two of you. Having a strong relationship with your dog can be a source of protection, of comfort, and of love for both of you. Strengthen your bond with your dog through respect, attentiveness, and kindness!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being Attentive and Observant\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn your dog's moods and feelings.\", \"描述\": \"This requires being observant and learning what you can about your own dog's temperament.\\nUse their body language to learn how your dog is feeling and if they are comfortable.\\nIf you just adopted or purchased this dog, give it some time to adjust to its surroundings before overwhelming it with attention.\\nDogs will try to tell you things that they need and want. They may bring you their favorite toy or a tennis ball if they want to play, or whine by the door if they need to go outside. Paying attention to the cues that your dog gives you will help you to address their needs and wants.\\nSome dogs may express themselves with different noises and expressions. Others, however, may be quieter and harder to read.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pay close attention to your dog’s body language.\", \"描述\": \"A dog’s body language can tell you how they are feeling about a situation, their mood, or if they are receptive to other dogs and people in their space.\\nDogs that have relaxed body positions, are enthusiastically wagging their tail or thumping it on the floor, have a happy expression on their face like a smile, and are in a play bow (bowing the front of their body towards the floor with their tail wagging) are happy and receptive to play!\\nDogs that are scared or anxious may try to avoid you by backing away from you, turning their head and body away from you, and hiding behind another person or object. Anxious dogs also may have their tail between their legs, and have wide bulging eyes (this is called a half moon eye). \\nA dog that is aggressive may growl, guard their favorite possessions, snap at you, snarl, lunge off their leash, and bite.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Give your dog space.\", \"描述\": \"All animals need down time and to be alone so they can rest. Just like humans, dogs can become overwhelmed, tired, and cranky. If they're tired, they may try to tell you that they'd like to be alone by avoiding you and going to a space they enjoy sleeping in. This doesn't mean that your dog doesn't like you, they just need some time to themselves and to reset.\\nGive your dog space when they are tired, seem agitated, or appear to be afraid.\\nMake sure that the dog has a private, quiet space where it can retreat if it needs to nap or rest. This could be a crate, a bed in a different room, or a separate couch.\\nOnce you are able to learn your dog’s body language, you need to respond appropriately to what they are communicating to you.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Respect your dog.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you have had this dog for a few weeks or for many years, you should always treat them with respect and love. If you want your dog to become your best friend, you also have to be their best friend. Friendships are built on mutual respect and care; the way that you treat your dog will become the ways that your dog will treat you. When you treat them with care and attention, they will reciprocate in their own way.\\nNever harm or hit your dog. This is animal abuse and you should not have a dog if you cannot refrain from hurting them. If you have a dog that you find yourself abusing, immediately surrender the dog to a shelter where they can be well taken care of.\\nIf you suspect that your dog has been harmed by someone else, you should take them to the veterinarian immediately. Contact law enforcement or your local animal control agency and let them know that your dog has been harmed.\\nIf your dog does not trust you, it will take time to develop a relationship. Dogs that have been rescued from abusive situations may take a longer time to warm up to you and to feel safe. Be respectful of the fact that they need more time to feel comfortable, and let the relationship progress at a slower pace.\\nSome dogs may be startled by noises or fast movements. If you have a new dog in your home, try to move more slowly around it until it relaxes and you learn its triggers.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Keep your dog safe.\", \"描述\": \"Your dog's safety can be threatened by things outside and inside of your home. Keeping your dog safe will help them to live a long and healthy life so that you can spend more time together!\\nDogs are unable to eat many food items. You should avoid feeding your dog from your table as part of your behavioral training, but be aware that certain foods pose serious health risks to your pet. Some of the more common foods that dogs can never eat include chocolate, avocado, raisins and grapes, fruits with pits, garlic, and onions.\\nAlways keep your dog on a leash when you take them on a walk. Many cities and states have laws that forbid dogs to be off leash, but it's always a good idea to stay on the leash. Leashing your dog can help keep them away from other dogs that may be aggressive, busy roads and intersections, and the risk that they may run away.\\nPet proof your home. Like babies and small children, dogs are curious creatures that can get into things they shouldn't. Lock away your cleaning products and any medicines. Buy a trashcan that your dog can't open. Move or put away any cords lying on the ground. Use baby gates or lock doors to keep dogs out of rooms they don't belong in.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keeping Your Dog Happy and Healthy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Feed and give water to your dog.\", \"描述\": \"This may seem obvious, but feeding your dog is absolutely essential both to your relationship and the health of your dog.\\nThe first week your dog is in your home, try feeding it from your hands. This will encourage the dog to trust you.\\nLet your dog watch you fill their food and water bowls. They will associate you with food and understand that you are providing for them.\\nFeed your dog at specific times during the day rather than leaving food out all day. This is a good way to help your dog build a routine and to further associate you with food and caring for them.\\nThere are many different types of dog food. Ask your veterinarian for a recommendation if you are unsure of what to choose. Some dogs are pickier than others and prefer certain types of dog food over others. It may take a few tries to find a food that your dog likes.\\nTreats are a great way to motivate your dog to do tricks or to reward them for good behavior. Give treats in moderation to keep your dog at a healthy weight.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take your dog to the veterinarian.\", \"描述\": \"A healthy dog is a happy dog! Good preventive medical care helps them live a longer happier life.\\nMake sure your dog is up to date on vaccinations and worming.\\nIf your dog does have medical problems, their medical care can become very expensive. Pet medical insurance is one option to help moderate your costs.\\nWhen you have a strong bond with your dog, your dog will begin to understand that you are concerned about their health and wellbeing when it comes to medical procedures or vet visits.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Walk your dog daily.\", \"描述\": \"Your dog will need plenty of exercise to keep healthy and spending time together walking is a good way to bond with your pet. Again, they will associate you with going on walks, which many dogs find to be their favorite activity!\\nPurchase a good quality leash. If you have a larger dog that is strong, you may want to consider buying a harness or a head halter to attach to a leash.\\nTake your dog out regularly for good long walks.\\nTrain them to behave appropriately on a leash. They should not be pulling you along the road. They should heel and stay close by your side and walk at your pace.\\nTake your dog to the dog park and let them socialize with other dogs and people. Your dog can bond and meet new friends while they enjoy being outside and running free.\\nAlways clean up after your dog and carry plastic bags on your walks to dispose of your dog’s waste.\\nTry taking your dog to new and exciting places on your walks to keep it engaged. For example, you can go to a new park, garden, trail, or downtown street.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Bathe and groom your dog.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on the breed of your dog, they may require more frequent or complicated grooming.\\nGenerally, try to brush your dog’s fur at least once a week to prevent knotted, matted hair.\\nGive them baths. Some dogs love baths, some are not such big fans. Wash them at least once a month, or whenever they are muddy or dirty.. If you use a gentle shampoo, you can bathe your dog up to once a week.\\nDepending on the breed, you may need to take your dog to the groomers so they can give your dog hair cuts that are appropriate for the breed.\\nTrim your dog’s nails. Like humans, dogs’ nails grow continuously. Unless your dog is very active and wears them down on pavement or concrete, you will need to trim their nails when they become long. There are special dog nail clippers, but regular nail clippers can be used as well.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Training and Having Fun\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Attend a brief dog training class.\", \"描述\": \"If you have never trained a dog before, a dog training class is a helpful way to learn the basics. Obedience classes can also help you and your dog grow closer since you will be working with it one-on-one.\\nTraining your dog can help keep them safe, healthy, and sociable.\\nAs the owner, you are the leader and guide in your relationship with your dog. They rely on you for their health and well-being so it is important to set boundaries with your dog in regards to undesirable behaviors.\\nObedience classes help you and your dog to establish good communication when they learn to respect and follow your verbal and physical cues.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keep all learning a fun experience.\", \"描述\": \"When you are training your dog, mix it with play!\\nMany dogs, especially working dog breeds, enjoy tasks and are bred to perform jobs. These dogs may benefit from participating in an agility training course, receiving more exercise, and spending more time outdoors.\\nMany dogs are motivated by food, so small treats can be a positive motivator when they correctly do a trick or a specific behavior.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Play with your dog.\", \"描述\": \"Play encourages a healthy relationship and gives you an opportunity to continue to bond with your dog.\\nGames like fetch or tug of war are great ways to give your dog some exercise and for them to have fun. Try different games to see what your dog enjoys.\\nSome dogs are less interested in playing with you than others. Some may prefer to play independently or with other dogs. This is okay! This is just your dog’s personal preference and you should respect that.\\nKeep track of games and toys that your dog likes better than others! If your dog likes fetch, get toys that can be thrown or tossed, like balls and frisbees. 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1. Steps
1-1. See your dog as a reflection of yourself.
This is not required, but it does shed light on how the monks view and treat their dogs.
"On a deeper level, when we pay close attention, dogs mirror us back to ourselves in unmistakable ways that, if we are open, foster understanding and change."
"You can't become a better trainer without becoming a better human being."
1-2. Create a genuinely positive, encouraging attitude whenever you work with your dog.
Dogs are very perceptive and will pick up on your negative emotions. Before training your dog, take a few deep breaths and clear your mind. Visualize the training session you're about to have with your dog. When you feel calm and ready, proceed.
1-3. Include your dog in your life on as many different levels as possible.
The more you can do to bond and spend time with your dog, the better. This is also a great way to incorporate training into your daily routine so that your dog has an easier time adjusting.
1-4. Use eye contact to communicate.
Use gentle looks to foster acceptance and trust. Use piercing and sustained eye contact when your dog has done something it should not do, and knows it should not do (such as snapping at strangers).
1-5. Approach training holistically.
It's not just a set of exercises contained within sessions, though that is important.
1-6. Understand your dog's roots.
Learn about wolf behavior. Investigate the breed of your dog, and what that breed was intended to do.
1-7. Use praise as a foundation, not just as a reward.
Many people use praise to "bribe" their dog, and that's something a dog can easily see through. Praise your dog generously and genuinely. Find out what kind of praise animates your dog; experiment! Use both physical and verbal praise. Positive rewards are the best way to build positive behavior.
"Praise is an attitude, a stance. Dogs who live in an atmosphere of praise come to love the human voice. They are more trusting and accepting. They are approachable by strangers but not demanding. Dogs confident of praise from their owners do not live o the edge of an emotional abyss, always seeking out attention and sulking when they do not get it. If praise is part of your attitude toward your dog, you have a rich and exciting relationship ahead."
1-8. Use discipline with meaning and care.
Never call a dog to you to discipline him. Always go to the dog, even if it means you have to chase him.
Don't use objects to discipline or punish.
Don't use your dog's name when correcting behavior.
Discipline in proportion to the offense. Verbal discipline and leash corrections can fix most offenses.
Make eye contact as you discipline.
Be dramatic.
Stop paying attention to the dog for about 30 minutes after a stern correction. Just be passive and avoid eye contact, you do not need to be aggressive or vocal at all. Then make up with your dog by taking him for a walk or giving him his favorite toy. It doesn't have to be dramatic, just resume your normal relationship.
"Watch yourself - owners who are physically or verbally domineering wind up with cringing, neurotic dogs. Discipline, like praise, must be meaningful. It must communicate the owner's displeasure clearly, and on the dog's level of understanding and perception, for unacceptable behavior."
1-9. Keep your dog healthy.
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This is also a great way to incorporate training into your daily routine so that your dog has an easier time adjusting.\\n1-4. Use eye contact to communicate.\\nUse gentle looks to foster acceptance and trust. Use piercing and sustained eye contact when your dog has done something it should not do, and knows it should not do (such as snapping at strangers).\\n1-5. Approach training holistically.\\nIt's not just a set of exercises contained within sessions, though that is important.\\n1-6. Understand your dog's roots.\\nLearn about wolf behavior. Investigate the breed of your dog, and what that breed was intended to do.\\n1-7. Use praise as a foundation, not just as a reward.\\nMany people use praise to \\\"bribe\\\" their dog, and that's something a dog can easily see through. Praise your dog generously and genuinely. Find out what kind of praise animates your dog; experiment! Use both physical and verbal praise. 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Verbal discipline and leash corrections can fix most offenses.\\nMake eye contact as you discipline.\\nBe dramatic.\\nStop paying attention to the dog for about 30 minutes after a stern correction. Just be passive and avoid eye contact, you do not need to be aggressive or vocal at all. Then make up with your dog by taking him for a walk or giving him his favorite toy. It doesn't have to be dramatic, just resume your normal relationship.\\n\\\"Watch yourself - owners who are physically or verbally domineering wind up with cringing, neurotic dogs. Discipline, like praise, must be meaningful. It must communicate the owner's displeasure clearly, and on the dog's level of understanding and perception, for unacceptable behavior.\\\"\\n1-9. Keep your dog healthy.\\n\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The Monks of New Skete are widely respected for their work with German Shepherd dogs. 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1. Participating in Class
1-1. Raise your hand.
When the teacher asks a question that you know how to answer, put your hand up. When you have an opportunity, volunteer to attempt problems on the board in front of your class. The more you participate, the more chances you will have to interact with your teacher and develop a rapport.
If you are not sure about a question, but no other classmates raise their hand, volunteer to attempt to answer the problem. Teachers typically seek out ways to encourage more participation and will appreciate the example that you set.
Class participation can be especially challenging or uncomfortable for foreign students. If you are participating in a study abroad or an exchange program, pay attention to how other students participate and mimic their behavior. Don’t be afraid to approach your teacher before or after class to discuss their expectations for classroom participation.
1-2. Listen to the teacher.
Teachers work hard to prepare lessons and effectively manage classrooms. Show that you appreciate this work by listening closely and focusing on the subject matter. Teachers will appreciate your show of interest in the subject, especially in contrast to other students who may show a lack of interest in the class.
If you find it difficult to pay attention in class, work to improve your focus. Sitting at the front of the classroom can make it easier to pay attention. Also, regular exercise, adequate sleep, and a healthy diet can all contribute to mental dexterity. You can also use regular meditation to strengthen your focus.
1-3. Don’t brag or gloat.
You will rarely impress teachers or classmates if you gloat or brag about success. Your math teacher especially may be unhappy if you inadvertently discourage your classmates by using your test scores to show that you are better at math than they are. Acknowledge your success, but encourage your classmates by noticing their success as well.
Avoid trying to attract attention to yourself for being the first finished or for getting the highest grade. There is no need to bring extra attention to yourself. Your teacher will see your success without you gloating. Additionally, overconfidence can hurt your learning.
You can speak about your accomplishments, but don’t dominate conversations by talking about them at length.
1-4. Don't dominate class discussion.
Participation is a good way to impress a math teacher, but make sure that other students have their chance to participate. Only talk in class when it is instructed or allowed. If you worry that you participate too much, keep a mental tally and limit the number of times that you raise your hand to five.
1-5. Don’t be rude in class.
Common classroom behaviors can upset your teacher because they distract other students and show that you are uninterested in the class. Don’t pass notes or talk to neighboring students. Respect other students by listening while they talk in class.
Avoid using your phone in class. Even if you think you are discrete, your teacher will probably notice.
1-6. Ask questions during office hours.
If you do not understand part of the assignment or need to clarify a concept from class, try to ask during office hours. Teachers like to address students’ confusion as early as possible. This will also give you a chance to develop your rapport with your teacher.
If they do not have office hours, ask questions as you leave the classroom. Respect the fact that your teacher may have limited time and keep questions brief and specific.
If you think other students might have the same question, don't be afraid to ask it during class.
2. Doing Homework
2-1. Complete assignments on time.
When you turn in work late, it creates extra work for a teacher. Teachers appreciate receiving each student’s completed work on time as it allows them to determine what material they need to spend more time on in class.
Remember that math teachers spend significant time and effort determining what homework they assign. You will impress your teacher by showing respect for their judgement.
2-2. Show your work on homework assignments.
It can be tempting to simply provide the answer if you understand a problem, but it is important to show the process that you used to get your answer. In math, the process used to reach the answer is very important and teachers appreciate when students show that work.
If in doubt, show more than is required. A teacher will not punish a student for showing a lot of work. In fact, their homework might be used as a class example in a class where most kids fail to show work.
2-3. Work on math during class free time.
If you are given class time to work on an assignment, start the new assignment or review the old one in class. If you work on other subjects, you can inadvertently signal to your teacher that math is less important to you than other classes. Study for an upcoming test or review previous homework assignments. This will show your teacher that you are interested in the subject that they have dedicated much of their life to teaching.
You can ask for additional problems if you are enjoying the work. The teacher may be able to give you more challenging problems that will help you understand the material more fully.
2-4. Look ahead.
You do not need to teach yourself a topic or concept in advance. If you have a rough idea of the lesson ahead, you will be able to engage the material while your classmates are confused. If your textbook came with supplemental materials, use them.
At home, you can go online and explore multiple sites dedicated to helping you learn math. Keep in mind that different sites will be directed at different age levels and math topics. Ask your teacher if they recommend any particular sites or search for materials by entering the subject and level that you want to explore into a search engine.
2-5. Ask for assistance.
It can be tempting to try to impress a teacher by never asking for help. Rather than cast a false image of already being an expert, allow your teacher and classmates to help you with specific question. Not only will this help you learn more, it will show your teacher the degree of your dedication.
3. Acknowledging Your Teacher’s Hard Work
3-1. Thank your teacher.
The challenge of being a student can dominate your attention, but your teacher works hard as well. Make sure to tell your teacher that you appreciate their work periodically. If they go to extra lengths to help you, acknowledge their extra effort appreciatively.
Your teacher does many things that you may take for granted. Look for times that you could tell them one of the following: “You really helped me understand that challenging idea, thank you.” “Today’s class was fun, thank you for making it easy to stay focused on the material.” “Your excitement for the subject is contagious!”
3-2. Volunteer in the classroom.
Offer to help if desks need to be moved, or if the chalkboard needs to be cleaned. Teacher’s often juggle many responsibilities and they will appreciate small efforts to make their day easier. This is a good way to show your appreciation for the person who teaches you.
3-3. Have your parents thank your teacher.
Encourage your parents to attend parent teacher conferences. While these conferences are primarily about your progress, they provide an opportunity for your parents to acknowledge your teacher’s hard work. Your teacher will likely appreciate the gesture.
3-4. Compliment your teacher.
Note something unique about your teacher that is not related to math. Compliment their classroom decorations, or something they have done for the school. This will show your teacher that they are appreciated beyond their teaching.
Appropriate compliments will come naturally once you think about them. Consider statements like: “I really like that art print you hung on the wall,” “It’s so clear that you care about our success,” “I like that you hang your child’s artwork, they are really talented,” or “You are such an important part of the school, you make each day better for so many students.”
3-5. Explore the uses of math in other subjects.
It can be difficult for some students to express an interest in math since it can be very abstract. If you have trouble finding math interesting, explore how it relates to other subjects and professions. You will find it easier to connect meaningfully with your teacher if you find overlapping interests.
If you want to study business, ask: “What do you think is the most important math to learn for finance?” If you are interested in sociology, ask: “What do you think are the limits of statistics for understanding human interactions?” If you are interested criminal investigations, you can ask: “How is math used in forensic sciences?”
Tips
Don't be over-eager to become teacher's pet. It will annoy your fellow students and some teachers do not like it either.
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Acknowledge your success, but encourage your classmates by noticing their success as well.\\nAvoid trying to attract attention to yourself for being the first finished or for getting the highest grade. There is no need to bring extra attention to yourself. Your teacher will see your success without you gloating. Additionally, overconfidence can hurt your learning.\\nYou can speak about your accomplishments, but don’t dominate conversations by talking about them at length.\\n1-4. Don't dominate class discussion.\\nParticipation is a good way to impress a math teacher, but make sure that other students have their chance to participate. Only talk in class when it is instructed or allowed. If you worry that you participate too much, keep a mental tally and limit the number of times that you raise your hand to five.\\n1-5. Don’t be rude in class.\\nCommon classroom behaviors can upset your teacher because they distract other students and show that you are uninterested in the class. Don’t pass notes or talk to neighboring students. Respect other students by listening while they talk in class.\\nAvoid using your phone in class. Even if you think you are discrete, your teacher will probably notice.\\n1-6. Ask questions during office hours.\\nIf you do not understand part of the assignment or need to clarify a concept from class, try to ask during office hours. Teachers like to address students’ confusion as early as possible. This will also give you a chance to develop your rapport with your teacher.\\nIf they do not have office hours, ask questions as you leave the classroom. Respect the fact that your teacher may have limited time and keep questions brief and specific.\\nIf you think other students might have the same question, don't be afraid to ask it during class.\\n2. Doing Homework\\n2-1. Complete assignments on time.\\nWhen you turn in work late, it creates extra work for a teacher. Teachers appreciate receiving each student’s completed work on time as it allows them to determine what material they need to spend more time on in class.\\nRemember that math teachers spend significant time and effort determining what homework they assign. You will impress your teacher by showing respect for their judgement.\\n2-2. Show your work on homework assignments.\\nIt can be tempting to simply provide the answer if you understand a problem, but it is important to show the process that you used to get your answer. In math, the process used to reach the answer is very important and teachers appreciate when students show that work.\\nIf in doubt, show more than is required. A teacher will not punish a student for showing a lot of work. In fact, their homework might be used as a class example in a class where most kids fail to show work.\\n2-3. Work on math during class free time.\\nIf you are given class time to work on an assignment, start the new assignment or review the old one in class. If you work on other subjects, you can inadvertently signal to your teacher that math is less important to you than other classes. Study for an upcoming test or review previous homework assignments. This will show your teacher that you are interested in the subject that they have dedicated much of their life to teaching.\\nYou can ask for additional problems if you are enjoying the work. The teacher may be able to give you more challenging problems that will help you understand the material more fully.\\n2-4. Look ahead.\\nYou do not need to teach yourself a topic or concept in advance. If you have a rough idea of the lesson ahead, you will be able to engage the material while your classmates are confused. If your textbook came with supplemental materials, use them.\\nAt home, you can go online and explore multiple sites dedicated to helping you learn math. Keep in mind that different sites will be directed at different age levels and math topics. Ask your teacher if they recommend any particular sites or search for materials by entering the subject and level that you want to explore into a search engine.\\n2-5. Ask for assistance.\\nIt can be tempting to try to impress a teacher by never asking for help. Rather than cast a false image of already being an expert, allow your teacher and classmates to help you with specific question. Not only will this help you learn more, it will show your teacher the degree of your dedication.\\n3. Acknowledging Your Teacher’s Hard Work\\n3-1. Thank your teacher.\\nThe challenge of being a student can dominate your attention, but your teacher works hard as well. Make sure to tell your teacher that you appreciate their work periodically. 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How to Be Your Own Best Friend
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1. Creating a Healthy Relationship with Yourself
1-1. Spend time getting to know yourself.
Think about what drives and motivates you, your likes and dislikes, and your strengths and weaknesses. We tend to look outward to figure out our tastes, ideas, goals, and pursuits, from gossip around the watercooler at work to Facebook posts and Instagram likes in the palm of our hands. But the more you understand yourself on an honest and real level, the easier it will be to like and respect yourself for who you are, rather than who you think you are according to other people, trends and circumstances in your life.
Get a pen and a piece of paper or your journal and consider prompts like, "Things I like", "Who I am right now", and "What would I tell my 99-year-old self?" Write down your answers and then read them over. These prompts should help you delve deeper into getting to know yourself.
One-on-one therapy, as well as lifestyle workshops and clinics, can help you develop deeper self-awareness. Investigate the various self-development services available to you in your area, or online.
1-2. Think about your relationships with other people.
Consider how you interact with the people in your life, from your partner or your loved ones to casual acquaintances and strangers on the street. Your attitude towards others reflects on your sense of self, and good relationships in your life can serve as models for how to be your own best friend.
Write down the names of the people you consider important in your life, and why they are important to you. Think about questions like, "Why am I grateful to have these individuals in my life?" and "What would these individuals say at my funeral?"
1-3. Set achievable goals for yourself.
Rather than rely on others to set goals and expectations for you, create and set reasonable goals for yourself. These goals can range from small changes in your life like doing the dishes and organizing your space to larger and more challenging ones like taking a public speaking class or applying for a desirable new position or career role. By setting yourself up so you meet your expectations, you can take control of what you expect from yourself and feel good when you achieve each goal.
To determine how achievable your goals are, consider questions like: "Is my goal specific?","Can I measure my goal?" and "Is my goal relevant to my desires and my life?"
Keep track of your goals in a journal or diary. As you keep track of your progress, finish each entry with a positive affirmation like "I approve of myself" to reinforce personal recognition of your achievements.
2. Enjoying Your Own Company
2-1. Get out of your comfort zone.
Changing your normal routines and settings or taking yourself out of your norm completely can help you get to know yourself better.
Take a solo trip to a foreign country or place. Solo travel is a great way to place yourself in a situation where you are navigating a new, different environment and experiencing being alone for an extended period. You will also have to develop strong independence and self-reliance, as well as an openness to the different attitudes and customs of others.
If you aren't ready for drastic alone time in a foreign country, going for a short walk around your neighbourhood alone or minimizing the distractions you have access to in your home and daily life can give help you embrace change. Even small shifts in your normal routine can allow you to challenge yourself and get to know yourself better.
2-2. Develop daily interests you can enjoy doing alone.
Cultivating a hobby you can enjoy alone or an activity that involves just you is a good way to get used to your own company and appreciate it.
Solo activities like fishing, knitting, surfing, writing, reading, or even meditation will deepen your understanding of yourself and create meaningful alone time. It will also help you cultivate self-love, an important factor to being your own best friend.
2-3. Go on a date with yourself.
We have been conditioned to enjoy ourselves in the company of others, but not in the company of ourselves. So it's important to learn how to have fun alone, whether it's movie and dinner or live music and a beer.
A solo date night out will help you positively enjoy your own company. Without the distraction of someone else sitting across from you, you may find you pay more attention to the movie or the band, or that you are more aware of your own opinions and perspectives on the environment around you.
If you don’t want to go out on your own at night, try doing something during the day, such as window shopping, antiquing, or sightseeing.
2-4. Make sure you treat yourself.
All that special attention and affection you receive from a best friend? You also have the same power to do the same for yourself.
Enjoy a relaxing massage, buy flowers for yourself, or a special gift. Random acts of kindness illustrate your love and respect yourself.
2-5. Compliment yourself and mean it.
In their seminal 1974 book, How to Be Your Own Best Friend, psychologists Mildred Newman and Bernard Berkowitz discuss the value of self-worth during the process of becoming a good friend to yourself. They recommend: “when you do something you are proud of, dwell on it a little, praise yourself for it, relish the experience, take it in.” By acknowledging your self-worth and cultivating inner value, you are taking control of what makes you feel good. Rather than try to fit your choices and decisions into what someone else defines as successful or powerful, turn inward and acknowledge that you have value and meaning in the world. Don't wait for someone else to recognize your self-worth.
Complimenting yourself helps you focus on the positive aspects of your day rather than the negative. Avoid negative self-talk like calling yourself names and putting yourself down. If you wouldn't talk to a friend that way, don't talk to yourself that way! Instead, work on positive self-talk until it becomes a habit. For example, you might say, “I rearranged my furniture in a very pleasing manner!”
A good best friend will have a good sense of humour, so have a good-natured attitude towards yourself and the things you say, think, and do. By being positive and supportive of yourself, you won't take yourself too seriously and will be able to laugh at yourself in a healthy, helpful way.
2-6. Work on improving your friendship every day.
Whether you note any improvements or adjustments to your relationship with yourself by writing down your thoughts and challenges in a diary or journal or if you make mental notes of your journey to self-discovery, it's a good idea to track your progress as you develop your friendship with yourself.
Notice if your sense of independence, self-worth, and self-love are positively affecting your other relationships, and helping you to achieve your goals. Consider if your fear of being alone has lessened and if you can now fully enjoy your own company.
2-7. Have a feel of what it means to understand yourself by having quiet times and just enjoying the moments you have with yourself.
You'll learn a lot about yourself when you take moments of the day and do what you love. Take the time to treat yourself well as you would a great friend. You know your favourite upbeat song, the one that energizes you and makes you feel great when you hear it? Put it on repeat and dance like no one is watching! Enjoy you all by yourself!
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Develop daily interests you can enjoy doing alone.\\nCultivating a hobby you can enjoy alone or an activity that involves just you is a good way to get used to your own company and appreciate it.\\nSolo activities like fishing, knitting, surfing, writing, reading, or even meditation will deepen your understanding of yourself and create meaningful alone time. It will also help you cultivate self-love, an important factor to being your own best friend.\\n2-3. Go on a date with yourself.\\nWe have been conditioned to enjoy ourselves in the company of others, but not in the company of ourselves. So it's important to learn how to have fun alone, whether it's movie and dinner or live music and a beer.\\nA solo date night out will help you positively enjoy your own company. 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They recommend: “when you do something you are proud of, dwell on it a little, praise yourself for it, relish the experience, take it in.” By acknowledging your self-worth and cultivating inner value, you are taking control of what makes you feel good. Rather than try to fit your choices and decisions into what someone else defines as successful or powerful, turn inward and acknowledge that you have value and meaning in the world. Don't wait for someone else to recognize your self-worth.\\nComplimenting yourself helps you focus on the positive aspects of your day rather than the negative. Avoid negative self-talk like calling yourself names and putting yourself down. If you wouldn't talk to a friend that way, don't talk to yourself that way! Instead, work on positive self-talk until it becomes a habit. 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How to Be Your Own Certificate Authority
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1. Creating your CA Certificate
1-1. Generate your CA's private key by issuing the following command.
openssl genrsa -des3 -out server.CA.key 2048
The options explained
openssl - the name of the software
genrsa - creates a new private key
-des3 - encrypt the key using the DES cipher
-out server.CA.key - the name of your new key
2048 - the length, in bits, of the private key (Please see the warnings)
Store this certificate and the password in a safe place.
1-2. Create a certificate signing request.
openssl req -verbose -new -key server.CA.key -out server.CA.csr -sha256
The options explained:
req - Creates a Signing Request
-verbose - shows you details about the request as it is being created (optional)
-new - creates a new request
-key server.CA.key - The private key you just created above.
-out server.CA.csr - The file name of the signing request you are creating
sha256 - The encryption algorithm to use for signing requests (If you don't know what this is, do not change this. You should only change this if you know what you are doing)
1-3. Fill out the information as much as possible.
US
CA
Silicon Valley
wikiHow, Inc.
CA Certificate for wikiHow.com
[email protected]
1-4. Self-sign your certificate:
openssl ca -extensions v3_ca -out server.CA-signed.crt -keyfile server.CA.key -verbose -selfsign -md sha256 -enddate 330630235959Z -infiles server.CA.csr
The options explained:
ca - Loads the Certificate Authority module
-extension v3_ca - Loads the v3_ca extension, a must-have for use on modern browsers
-out server.CA-signed.crt - The name of your new signed key
-keyfile server.CA.key - The private key you created in step 1
-verbose - shows you details about the request as it is being created (optional)
-selfsign - Tells openssl that you are using the same key to sign the request
-md sha256 - The encryption algorithm to use for the message. (If you don't know what this is, do not change this. You should only change this if you know what you are doing)
-enddate 330630235959Z - The end date of the certificate. The notation is YYMMDDHHMMSSZ where Z is in GMT, sometimes known as "Zulu" time.
-infiles server.CA.csr - the signing request file that you created the step above.
1-5. Inspect your CA certificate.
openssl x509 -noout -text -in server.CA.crt
The options explained:
x509 - Loads the x509 module to inspect signed certificates.
-noout - Do not output the encoded text
-text - output the information on the screen
-in server.CA.crt - Load the signed certificate
The server.CA.crt file can be distributed to anyone who will use your website or use certificates that you plan on signing.
2. Creating SSL Certificates for a Service, such as Apache
2-1. Create a private key.
openssl genrsa -des3 -out server.apache.key 2048
The options explained:
openssl - the name of the software
genrsa - creates a new private key
-des3 - encrypt the key using the DES cipher
-out server.apache.key - the name of your new key
2048 - the length, in bits, of the private key (Please see the warnings)
Store this certificate and the password in a safe place.
2-2. Create a certificate signing request.
openssl req -verbose -new -key server.apache.key -out server.apache.csr -sha256
The options explained:
req - Creates a Signing Request
-verbose - shows you details about the request as it is being created (optional)
-new - creates a new request
-key server.apache.key - The private key you just created above.
-out server.apache.csr - The file name of the signing request you are creating
sha256 - The encryption algorithm to use for signing requests (If you don't know what this is, do not change this. You should only change this if you know what you are doing)
2-3. Use your CA certificate to sign the new key.
openssl ca -out server.apache.pem -keyfile server.CA.key -infiles server.apache.csr
The options explained:
ca - Loads the Certificate Authority module
-out server.apache.pem - The file name the signed certificate
-keyfile server.CA.key - The file name of the CA certificate that will be signing the request
-infiles server.apache.csr - The file name of the Certificate Signing Request
2-4. Fill out the information as much as possible:
US
CA
Silicon Valley
wikiHow, Inc.
Apache SSL Certificate for wikiHow.com
[email protected]
2-5. Save a copy of your private key in another location.
Create a private key without a password to prevent Apache from prompting you for a password:
openssl rsa -in server.apache.key -out server.apache.unsecured.key
The options explained:
rsa - Runs the RSA encryption program
-in server.apache.key - The key name that you want to convert.
-out server.apache.unsecured.key - The file name of the new unsecured key
2-6. Use the resulting server.apache.pem file along with the private key you generated in step 1 to configure your apache2.conf file.
3. Creating a User Certificate for Authentication
3-1. Follow all the steps in _Creating SSL Certificates for Apache_.
3-2. Convert your signed certificate to a PKCS12.
openssl pkcs12 -export -in user_cert.pem -inkey user_private_key.pem -out user_cert.p12
4. Creating S/MIME E-mail Certificates
4-1. Create a private key.
openssl genrsa -des3 -out private_email.key 2048
4-2. Create a Certificate Signing Request.
openssl req -new -key private_email.key -out private_email.csr
4-3. Use your CA certificate to sign the new key.
openssl ca -out private_email.pem -keyfile server.CA.key -infiles private_email.csr
4-4. Convert the certificate to PKCS12.
openssl pkcs12 -export -in private_email.crt -inkey private_email.key -out private_email.p12
4-5. Create a Public Key certificate for distribution.
openssl pkcs12 -export -out public_cert.p12 -in private_email.pem -clcerts -nokeys -name "WikiHow's Public Key"
Tips
You can vary the contents of PEM keys by issuing the following command: openssl x509 -noout -text -in certificate.pem
Warnings
1024-bit keys are considered to be obsolete. 2048-bit keys are considered to be secure for user certificates until 2030, but is considered insufficient for root certificates. Consider these vulnerabilities as you create your certificates.
By default, most modern browsers will show an "Untrusted certificate" warning when someone visits your site. There has been much debate over the wording of these warnings, as non-technical users can be caught off-guard. It's often best to use a major authority so users do not get the warnings.
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1. Developing Heroic Qualities
1-1. Enhance your integrity.
Think of a personal hero--real, fictional, dead or alive. What are the qualities you look up to in this person? If you don't have one, you can create one based on the qualities you most admire in people or would love to possess. Chances are that this hero you have in mind will have integrity. Being a credible hero is about being trustworthy, and having strong moral values (sense of right and wrong).
Be honest. Integrity is also about being honest. Communicate your feelings and thoughts respectfully and assertively. This means not being afraid to say how you feel. Use "I statements" such as, "I feel ____, when you ____." For example, you might say, "I feel angry when you hurt other people."
Follow through. If you say you are going to do something, do it. Otherwise, don't make false promises if you aren't sure if you can follow through. Heroes are people that we can count on. They are dependable and consistent.
Know your moral values. Identify your ethics and what you believe in to increase moral responsibility. Write a list of your moral values. For example, you might believe in freedom, equality, justice, and free speech.
Identify what you disagree with and write these down. For example, you might be against: murder, stealing, harming yourself, harming others, cheating, and violence.
1-2. Be courageous.
Courage is another strong value of a hero. Being courageous means having independence, facing your fears, and being willing to take risks.
Have the bravery and courage needed to face your fears instead of avoiding them. Choose personal growth over safety (the desire to feel comfortable). If you feel uncomfortable in a situation such as public speaking, all the more reason to cultivate this skill. Once your face your fear you may realize that it wasn't so bad or scary after all.
Remember that having courage is not about doing risky things and putting yourself in unsafe situations. Always put safety first.
1-3. Look on the bright side.
Heroes do not dwell on the negative because if they did they would not have enough energy to save people and fight the bad guys. Heroes believe in themselves and think they can go up against anyone at any time. Positive thinking can increase self-esteem and overall life satisfaction. You are going to need that positive outlook and optimism to be a confident hero in your life.
Stop complaining and start living! When you find yourself getting down about the current situation, do something to get your mind off of it. Try taking a walk, taking deep breaths, or focusing on a task.
Develop a positive mantra. Heroes tend to have slogans or words to live by. Some examples of superhero slogans include, “I’m the best there is at what I do" (Wolverine) and “With great power comes great responsibility" (Spiderman).
1-4. Acknowledge your weaknesses.
Self-awareness is an important component of being a good hero. Being your own hero is not about feigning a false image of yourself to the world or becoming a narcissist without true integrity. Being your own hero is about knowing your strengths as well as your downfalls. Even Superman was weak to kryptonite.
Take personal responsibility for your part. Admit your mistakes and don’t blame your situation on others. Apologize when you need to.
Identify solutions and learn from your mistakes. Consider some situations in life (school, work, family) you think could have gone better. Next, play out these scenes as your hero. How would a hero have acted in the same situations? What would a hero have said or done?
Instead of focusing too much on your flaws, pay attention to what you can improve upon. Look at these mistakes or weaknesses as areas of personal growth. Tell yourself something like, "I am continually growing and developing. I am open to improving myself through new experiences."
1-5. Regulate your emotions.
Heroes are calm in the face of danger. If you find yourself getting upset try stopping yourself and taking a step back from the situation.
Think before you act. Stop and take a breath if that helps you. Observe your thoughts and feelings.
Practice coping resources that work for you. Some examples include: exercising, talking with a friend, writing in a journal, and meditating.
2. Setting and Achieving Heroic Goals
2-1. Get motivated.
Motivation is one of the secrets to being a good hero. Without motivation to be your own hero, you wouldn't be reading this right now. Motivation is what keeps us productive and focused on achieving our unique goals and aspirations. Heroes must stay motivated in order to have the strength and perseverance to continue on.
Start by identifying your core values. What is important to you in life? Do you value family, friends, your job, the government? These values can help motivate you toward positive change. Focus on making a difference in each component of your life such as increasing your connection with your family and friends.
Motivate yourself through positive affirmations. For example, when you are feeling unmotivated you can tell yourself or think, "I can do this. I am capable of achieving anything I put my mind to. I have done it before and I can do it again. I rock!"
Another good way to motivate yourself is to give yourself rewards when you accomplish something. Reward increase positive behaviors. You can give yourself candy, your favorite meal, or time to play a game. Make sure it is something you really want and can look forward to.
Expect success. Those who expect to succeed and trust in their own abilities are more motivated to press on when things get tough. Think positive thoughts such as, "I know I can do this. It may be tough but I will keep going and focus on achieving my goal. It will be worth it in the end."
2-2. Take control.
Know what you can control and what you can’t. People that believe they have control over the outcomes of their lives are more resilient in the face of challenges. Heroes need to be able to bounce back from adversity. Know that you have the power to change yourself and your life.
For example, you may not be able to control how tall you are, but you can control how you think and feel about your height (positively). Turn these negatives into positives by focusing on how unique and special you are.
Practice being your own hero. To begin with, simply consider the qualities of the hero you want to be and act some out in private. Get into the hero mindset by assuming a confident posture (shoulders back, stand up tall), and striding in a strong manner.
Use visualization and your imagination. Visualization (like playing a video in your head), or guided imagery, can help people make positive changes including increasing positive mood and health, while decreasing stress. Close your eyes and envision yourself as the hero or person you wish to be. What does it feel like? What sounds do you hear? What surrounds you? What needed to happen for you to get there?
2-3. Create positive goals.
Identify your superpower; do you want to be super intelligent, super strong, or help others? What do you want to be? Ask yourself, what do I want to accomplish in life?
Make a list of goals you want to accomplish in 1 month, 6 months, and 1 year. Make sure you identify why you want to accomplish each goal. Ask yourself, “Who or what am I doing this for? How will it help?” This helps create purpose and meaning in life, which enhances your motivation.
You can create a specific plan and timeline for each goal. What do you need to focus on to achieve each goal? For example, perhaps you want to help others get on their feet when they are struggling and you are giving yourself 6 months to complete this goal; this would be your overarching goal. In order to complete this goal your first steps might be to: research organizations that help the needy, look for companies that are looking for volunteers or employees, call organizations to inquire about programs, prepare a resume, apply to positions that seem like a good fit, prepare for interviews, and interview at organizations.
2-4. Take action and challenge yourself.
Heroes are busy people, they are focused on changing themselves and the world! Focus on ways you can constantly grow and improve yourself; this can increase your sense of well-being and assist you in becoming the best hero you can be.
Change things about yourself that you think reduce your ability to be your own hero. For example, your vision of a hero might be someone who is in top physical shape. If this is the case, try a powerful exercise such a martial arts (Taekwondo, Karate, Muay Thai Kickboxing).
Make a list of personal self-improvement goals. Include things like: lose 10 lbs, exercise 3 times per week, eat healthy 5 days per week, read a book 3 days per week, meditate 3 times per week, and spend time in nature 1 time per week.
Some additional positive characteristics to strive toward include: compassion, cooperation, ambition, dependability, competency, loyalty, and wisdom.
2-5. Persevere.
Life as a hero is full of obstacles, so in order to reach your heroic goals you have to never give up! Give your full 100% effort.
Using your problem-solving skills can help you persevere. If there is an issue, or something is overwhelming, try to come up with a solution; it may be to take a break, or to reanalyze your goals or values.
If you feel like quitting, remind yourself of your values, and your overarching goals this year.
Remember that heroes never give up, they keep fighting until the end. You can tell yourself, “I will never give up. This is so difficult, but I know I can do this!”
3. Helping Others
3-1. Inspire and motivate others.
Positive relationships are crucial to having a sense of calm, stability, and well-being. To be a leader or a hero in your own life you must be able to inspire and motivate others to be the people they want to be.
Focus on building others up. Give compliments readily. Let others know you appreciate them for what they do. For example, if your friend helped you volunteer you could say, "I really appreciate that you volunteered at the homeless shelter with me. It shows that you are willing to help not only me, but others in the community. You also did a great job; I noticed how comforting and understanding you were."
Be positive when others are struggling. Tell them that you believe in them and you are willing to help if they need a hand. You could say something like, "I know you are having a hard time and it is understandable. I want you to know that I am here for you. I believe in you and I know you can get through this."
Provide direction and a listening hear for others if they seek it. However, avoid telling people what to do in their personal lives (relationships, etc.) as this may backfire. Instead, ask them questions, be interested and validate of their feelings.
3-2. Serve others.
A hero's life is about service to others rather than financial or social gain. Empathy is a crucial component to being a hero. Heroes care about others and want to help them. Take Superman for example; he did not want fame but was focused on helping others– he even had a disguise (Clark Kent) so he could lead a normal life.
If you have the resources, you can donate goods, money, or services to organizations that help those in need.
One option is to help the needy by volunteering at a local food bank or homeless shelter.
When you see someone struggling, don't ignore them, ask them about themselves and provide any support that you feel comfortable with.
3-3. Be a positive role model.
People often learn through social interactions and observation. Setting a positive example for others is a great way to become a hero for others as well as yourself.
Show others that you stand up for what you believe in. If someone is being mistreated, say something, do something, intervene. Just make sure you are safe and do not put yourself in risky situations.
3-4. Get support.
There is power in numbers. Much like the Avengers, sometimes superheroes need to get together to fight for what they believe in or to overcome a great obstacle. In order to help others, we first need to help ourselves by having the support we need to cope with the demands of being a hero.
Join a group of like-minded people. For example, if you are passionate about exercise and health you could join a fitness center, or get together a group of friends to join you on weekly hikes.
Meetup.com is a website for forming groups of people with similar interest such as: rock-climbing, biking, beach-cleanup, parenting, helping the homeless, and volunteering.
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What would a hero have said or done?\\nInstead of focusing too much on your flaws, pay attention to what you can improve upon. Look at these mistakes or weaknesses as areas of personal growth. Tell yourself something like, \\\"I am continually growing and developing. I am open to improving myself through new experiences.\\\"\\n1-5. Regulate your emotions.\\nHeroes are calm in the face of danger. If you find yourself getting upset try stopping yourself and taking a step back from the situation.\\nThink before you act. Stop and take a breath if that helps you. Observe your thoughts and feelings.\\nPractice coping resources that work for you. Some examples include: exercising, talking with a friend, writing in a journal, and meditating.\\n2. Setting and Achieving Heroic Goals\\n2-1. Get motivated.\\nMotivation is one of the secrets to being a good hero. Without motivation to be your own hero, you wouldn't be reading this right now. Motivation is what keeps us productive and focused on achieving our unique goals and aspirations. Heroes must stay motivated in order to have the strength and perseverance to continue on.\\nStart by identifying your core values. What is important to you in life? Do you value family, friends, your job, the government? These values can help motivate you toward positive change. Focus on making a difference in each component of your life such as increasing your connection with your family and friends.\\nMotivate yourself through positive affirmations. For example, when you are feeling unmotivated you can tell yourself or think, \\\"I can do this. I am capable of achieving anything I put my mind to. I have done it before and I can do it again. I rock!\\\"\\nAnother good way to motivate yourself is to give yourself rewards when you accomplish something. Reward increase positive behaviors. You can give yourself candy, your favorite meal, or time to play a game. Make sure it is something you really want and can look forward to.\\nExpect success. Those who expect to succeed and trust in their own abilities are more motivated to press on when things get tough. Think positive thoughts such as, \\\"I know I can do this. It may be tough but I will keep going and focus on achieving my goal. It will be worth it in the end.\\\"\\n2-2. Take control.\\nKnow what you can control and what you can’t. People that believe they have control over the outcomes of their lives are more resilient in the face of challenges. Heroes need to be able to bounce back from adversity. Know that you have the power to change yourself and your life.\\nFor example, you may not be able to control how tall you are, but you can control how you think and feel about your height (positively). Turn these negatives into positives by focusing on how unique and special you are.\\nPractice being your own hero. To begin with, simply consider the qualities of the hero you want to be and act some out in private. Get into the hero mindset by assuming a confident posture (shoulders back, stand up tall), and striding in a strong manner.\\nUse visualization and your imagination. Visualization (like playing a video in your head), or guided imagery, can help people make positive changes including increasing positive mood and health, while decreasing stress. Close your eyes and envision yourself as the hero or person you wish to be. What does it feel like? What sounds do you hear? What surrounds you? What needed to happen for you to get there?\\n2-3. Create positive goals.\\nIdentify your superpower; do you want to be super intelligent, super strong, or help others? What do you want to be? Ask yourself, what do I want to accomplish in life?\\nMake a list of goals you want to accomplish in 1 month, 6 months, and 1 year. Make sure you identify why you want to accomplish each goal. Ask yourself, “Who or what am I doing this for? How will it help?” This helps create purpose and meaning in life, which enhances your motivation.\\nYou can create a specific plan and timeline for each goal. What do you need to focus on to achieve each goal? For example, perhaps you want to help others get on their feet when they are struggling and you are giving yourself 6 months to complete this goal; this would be your overarching goal. In order to complete this goal your first steps might be to: research organizations that help the needy, look for companies that are looking for volunteers or employees, call organizations to inquire about programs, prepare a resume, apply to positions that seem like a good fit, prepare for interviews, and interview at organizations.\\n2-4. Take action and challenge yourself.\\nHeroes are busy people, they are focused on changing themselves and the world! Focus on ways you can constantly grow and improve yourself; this can increase your sense of well-being and assist you in becoming the best hero you can be.\\nChange things about yourself that you think reduce your ability to be your own hero. For example, your vision of a hero might be someone who is in top physical shape. If this is the case, try a powerful exercise such a martial arts (Taekwondo, Karate, Muay Thai Kickboxing).\\nMake a list of personal self-improvement goals. Include things like: lose 10 lbs, exercise 3 times per week, eat healthy 5 days per week, read a book 3 days per week, meditate 3 times per week, and spend time in nature 1 time per week.\\nSome additional positive characteristics to strive toward include: compassion, cooperation, ambition, dependability, competency, loyalty, and wisdom.\\n2-5. Persevere.\\nLife as a hero is full of obstacles, so in order to reach your heroic goals you have to never give up! Give your full 100% effort.\\nUsing your problem-solving skills can help you persevere. If there is an issue, or something is overwhelming, try to come up with a solution; it may be to take a break, or to reanalyze your goals or values.\\nIf you feel like quitting, remind yourself of your values, and your overarching goals this year.\\nRemember that heroes never give up, they keep fighting until the end. You can tell yourself, “I will never give up. This is so difficult, but I know I can do this!”\\n3. Helping Others\\n3-1. Inspire and motivate others.\\nPositive relationships are crucial to having a sense of calm, stability, and well-being. To be a leader or a hero in your own life you must be able to inspire and motivate others to be the people they want to be.\\nFocus on building others up. Give compliments readily. Let others know you appreciate them for what they do. For example, if your friend helped you volunteer you could say, \\\"I really appreciate that you volunteered at the homeless shelter with me. It shows that you are willing to help not only me, but others in the community. You also did a great job; I noticed how comforting and understanding you were.\\\"\\nBe positive when others are struggling. Tell them that you believe in them and you are willing to help if they need a hand. You could say something like, \\\"I know you are having a hard time and it is understandable. I want you to know that I am here for you. I believe in you and I know you can get through this.\\\"\\nProvide direction and a listening hear for others if they seek it. However, avoid telling people what to do in their personal lives (relationships, etc.) as this may backfire. Instead, ask them questions, be interested and validate of their feelings.\\n3-2. Serve others.\\nA hero's life is about service to others rather than financial or social gain. Empathy is a crucial component to being a hero. Heroes care about others and want to help them. Take Superman for example; he did not want fame but was focused on helping others– he even had a disguise (Clark Kent) so he could lead a normal life.\\nIf you have the resources, you can donate goods, money, or services to organizations that help those in need.\\nOne option is to help the needy by volunteering at a local food bank or homeless shelter.\\nWhen you see someone struggling, don't ignore them, ask them about themselves and provide any support that you feel comfortable with.\\n3-3. Be a positive role model.\\nPeople often learn through social interactions and observation. Setting a positive example for others is a great way to become a hero for others as well as yourself.\\nShow others that you stand up for what you believe in. If someone is being mistreated, say something, do something, intervene. Just make sure you are safe and do not put yourself in risky situations.\\n3-4. Get support.\\nThere is power in numbers. Much like the Avengers, sometimes superheroes need to get together to fight for what they believe in or to overcome a great obstacle. In order to help others, we first need to help ourselves by having the support we need to cope with the demands of being a hero.\\nJoin a group of like-minded people. For example, if you are passionate about exercise and health you could join a fitness center, or get together a group of friends to join you on weekly hikes.\\nMeetup.com is a website for forming groups of people with similar interest such as: rock-climbing, biking, beach-cleanup, parenting, helping the homeless, and volunteering.\\nTips\\nLearn about the Hero's Journey[25]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\\n\\n\\n and read stories that follow this template. Write down what qualities you admire about the heroes in this story and consider how you can emulate them.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being your own hero is about rising to the occasion and being the best you can be. Striving toward being a hero in your own life means living with purpose and conviction, helping others, and being a leader (most superheroes have side-kicks, henchmen, fans, or followers). You can learn to be your own hero by improving yourself and developing hero-like qualities, setting and achieving goals, and helping others.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Developing Heroic Qualities\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Enhance your integrity.\", \"描述\": \"Think of a personal hero--real, fictional, dead or alive. What are the qualities you look up to in this person? If you don't have one, you can create one based on the qualities you most admire in people or would love to possess. Chances are that this hero you have in mind will have integrity. Being a credible hero is about being trustworthy, and having strong moral values (sense of right and wrong).\\nBe honest. Integrity is also about being honest. Communicate your feelings and thoughts respectfully and assertively. This means not being afraid to say how you feel. Use \\\"I statements\\\" such as, \\\"I feel ____, when you ____.\\\" For example, you might say, \\\"I feel angry when you hurt other people.\\\"\\nFollow through. If you say you are going to do something, do it. Otherwise, don't make false promises if you aren't sure if you can follow through. Heroes are people that we can count on. They are dependable and consistent.\\nKnow your moral values. Identify your ethics and what you believe in to increase moral responsibility. Write a list of your moral values. For example, you might believe in freedom, equality, justice, and free speech.\\nIdentify what you disagree with and write these down. For example, you might be against: murder, stealing, harming yourself, harming others, cheating, and violence.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be courageous.\", \"描述\": \"Courage is another strong value of a hero. Being courageous means having independence, facing your fears, and being willing to take risks.\\nHave the bravery and courage needed to face your fears instead of avoiding them. Choose personal growth over safety (the desire to feel comfortable). If you feel uncomfortable in a situation such as public speaking, all the more reason to cultivate this skill. Once your face your fear you may realize that it wasn't so bad or scary after all.\\nRemember that having courage is not about doing risky things and putting yourself in unsafe situations. Always put safety first.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Look on the bright side.\", \"描述\": \"Heroes do not dwell on the negative because if they did they would not have enough energy to save people and fight the bad guys. Heroes believe in themselves and think they can go up against anyone at any time. Positive thinking can increase self-esteem and overall life satisfaction. You are going to need that positive outlook and optimism to be a confident hero in your life.\\nStop complaining and start living! When you find yourself getting down about the current situation, do something to get your mind off of it. Try taking a walk, taking deep breaths, or focusing on a task.\\nDevelop a positive mantra. Heroes tend to have slogans or words to live by. Some examples of superhero slogans include, “I’m the best there is at what I do\\\" (Wolverine) and “With great power comes great responsibility\\\" (Spiderman).\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Acknowledge your weaknesses.\", \"描述\": \"Self-awareness is an important component of being a good hero. Being your own hero is not about feigning a false image of yourself to the world or becoming a narcissist without true integrity. Being your own hero is about knowing your strengths as well as your downfalls. Even Superman was weak to kryptonite.\\nTake personal responsibility for your part. Admit your mistakes and don’t blame your situation on others. Apologize when you need to.\\nIdentify solutions and learn from your mistakes. Consider some situations in life (school, work, family) you think could have gone better. Next, play out these scenes as your hero. How would a hero have acted in the same situations? What would a hero have said or done?\\nInstead of focusing too much on your flaws, pay attention to what you can improve upon. Look at these mistakes or weaknesses as areas of personal growth. Tell yourself something like, \\\"I am continually growing and developing. I am open to improving myself through new experiences.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Regulate your emotions.\", \"描述\": \"Heroes are calm in the face of danger. If you find yourself getting upset try stopping yourself and taking a step back from the situation.\\nThink before you act. Stop and take a breath if that helps you. Observe your thoughts and feelings.\\nPractice coping resources that work for you. Some examples include: exercising, talking with a friend, writing in a journal, and meditating.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Setting and Achieving Heroic Goals\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get motivated.\", \"描述\": \"Motivation is one of the secrets to being a good hero. Without motivation to be your own hero, you wouldn't be reading this right now. Motivation is what keeps us productive and focused on achieving our unique goals and aspirations. Heroes must stay motivated in order to have the strength and perseverance to continue on.\\nStart by identifying your core values. What is important to you in life? Do you value family, friends, your job, the government? These values can help motivate you toward positive change. Focus on making a difference in each component of your life such as increasing your connection with your family and friends.\\nMotivate yourself through positive affirmations. For example, when you are feeling unmotivated you can tell yourself or think, \\\"I can do this. I am capable of achieving anything I put my mind to. I have done it before and I can do it again. I rock!\\\"\\nAnother good way to motivate yourself is to give yourself rewards when you accomplish something. Reward increase positive behaviors. You can give yourself candy, your favorite meal, or time to play a game. Make sure it is something you really want and can look forward to.\\nExpect success. Those who expect to succeed and trust in their own abilities are more motivated to press on when things get tough. Think positive thoughts such as, \\\"I know I can do this. It may be tough but I will keep going and focus on achieving my goal. It will be worth it in the end.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Take control.\", \"描述\": \"Know what you can control and what you can’t. People that believe they have control over the outcomes of their lives are more resilient in the face of challenges. Heroes need to be able to bounce back from adversity. Know that you have the power to change yourself and your life.\\nFor example, you may not be able to control how tall you are, but you can control how you think and feel about your height (positively). Turn these negatives into positives by focusing on how unique and special you are.\\nPractice being your own hero. To begin with, simply consider the qualities of the hero you want to be and act some out in private. Get into the hero mindset by assuming a confident posture (shoulders back, stand up tall), and striding in a strong manner.\\nUse visualization and your imagination. Visualization (like playing a video in your head), or guided imagery, can help people make positive changes including increasing positive mood and health, while decreasing stress. Close your eyes and envision yourself as the hero or person you wish to be. What does it feel like? What sounds do you hear? What surrounds you? What needed to happen for you to get there?\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Create positive goals.\", \"描述\": \"Identify your superpower; do you want to be super intelligent, super strong, or help others? What do you want to be? Ask yourself, what do I want to accomplish in life?\\nMake a list of goals you want to accomplish in 1 month, 6 months, and 1 year. Make sure you identify why you want to accomplish each goal. Ask yourself, “Who or what am I doing this for? How will it help?” This helps create purpose and meaning in life, which enhances your motivation.\\nYou can create a specific plan and timeline for each goal. What do you need to focus on to achieve each goal? For example, perhaps you want to help others get on their feet when they are struggling and you are giving yourself 6 months to complete this goal; this would be your overarching goal. In order to complete this goal your first steps might be to: research organizations that help the needy, look for companies that are looking for volunteers or employees, call organizations to inquire about programs, prepare a resume, apply to positions that seem like a good fit, prepare for interviews, and interview at organizations.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take action and challenge yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Heroes are busy people, they are focused on changing themselves and the world! Focus on ways you can constantly grow and improve yourself; this can increase your sense of well-being and assist you in becoming the best hero you can be.\\nChange things about yourself that you think reduce your ability to be your own hero. For example, your vision of a hero might be someone who is in top physical shape. If this is the case, try a powerful exercise such a martial arts (Taekwondo, Karate, Muay Thai Kickboxing).\\nMake a list of personal self-improvement goals. Include things like: lose 10 lbs, exercise 3 times per week, eat healthy 5 days per week, read a book 3 days per week, meditate 3 times per week, and spend time in nature 1 time per week.\\nSome additional positive characteristics to strive toward include: compassion, cooperation, ambition, dependability, competency, loyalty, and wisdom.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Persevere.\", \"描述\": \"Life as a hero is full of obstacles, so in order to reach your heroic goals you have to never give up! Give your full 100% effort.\\nUsing your problem-solving skills can help you persevere. If there is an issue, or something is overwhelming, try to come up with a solution; it may be to take a break, or to reanalyze your goals or values.\\nIf you feel like quitting, remind yourself of your values, and your overarching goals this year.\\nRemember that heroes never give up, they keep fighting until the end. You can tell yourself, “I will never give up. This is so difficult, but I know I can do this!”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Helping Others\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Inspire and motivate others.\", \"描述\": \"Positive relationships are crucial to having a sense of calm, stability, and well-being. To be a leader or a hero in your own life you must be able to inspire and motivate others to be the people they want to be.\\nFocus on building others up. Give compliments readily. Let others know you appreciate them for what they do. For example, if your friend helped you volunteer you could say, \\\"I really appreciate that you volunteered at the homeless shelter with me. It shows that you are willing to help not only me, but others in the community. You also did a great job; I noticed how comforting and understanding you were.\\\"\\nBe positive when others are struggling. Tell them that you believe in them and you are willing to help if they need a hand. You could say something like, \\\"I know you are having a hard time and it is understandable. I want you to know that I am here for you. I believe in you and I know you can get through this.\\\"\\nProvide direction and a listening hear for others if they seek it. However, avoid telling people what to do in their personal lives (relationships, etc.) as this may backfire. Instead, ask them questions, be interested and validate of their feelings.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Serve others.\", \"描述\": \"A hero's life is about service to others rather than financial or social gain. Empathy is a crucial component to being a hero. Heroes care about others and want to help them. Take Superman for example; he did not want fame but was focused on helping others– he even had a disguise (Clark Kent) so he could lead a normal life.\\nIf you have the resources, you can donate goods, money, or services to organizations that help those in need.\\nOne option is to help the needy by volunteering at a local food bank or homeless shelter.\\nWhen you see someone struggling, don't ignore them, ask them about themselves and provide any support that you feel comfortable with.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be a positive role model.\", \"描述\": \"People often learn through social interactions and observation. Setting a positive example for others is a great way to become a hero for others as well as yourself.\\nShow others that you stand up for what you believe in. If someone is being mistreated, say something, do something, intervene. 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1. Preparing to Represent Yourself
1-1. Give serious thought to hiring an attorney.
You should not make the decision to represent yourself in court lightly. In a criminal trial, for example, you should certainly have a lawyer. Furthermore, you will also need an attorney for civil trials where you face over $100,000 in damages.
You can get by without a lawyer if you are in small claims court. Also, you may be able to successfully represent yourself in a civil trial that is worth $25,000 to $100,000.
Nevertheless, you should consider hiring an attorney if you believe the case is complicated or could become complicated. You may also want a lawyer if you are too close to the case emotionally and doubt that you can be objective.
1-2. Check if you can represent yourself.
Not all courts will allow you to appear “pro se.” For example, Florida probate courts will allow you to represent yourself only if the executor is the sole beneficiary or if the estate is very small. All other people appearing in Florida probate court need a lawyer.
To check if you are required to have a lawyer for your case, call the court clerk and ask.
1-3. Learn the different court systems.
The United States has two general court systems: a federal court system and individual state court systems. Different cases can be brought in each system. If you are the plaintiff in a lawsuit, you will need to learn the difference so that you can bring your suit in the correct court.
As a general rule, you should file a case that deals with state law in state court. State law cases typically involve personal injury suits (like medical malpractice or slip-and-fall cases), breach of contract, family law, and landlord-tenant cases. State courts almost always can hear a lawsuit involving events that happened within the state’s boundaries.
Federal courts hear a more limited range of cases. Federal courts typically hear discrimination claims, unfair competition claims, as well as cases alleging violations of copyright and trademark law. Federal courts will also hear cases where the parties are from different states if the amount in controversy exceeds $75,000, exclusive of costs and fees.
If you file your case in the wrong court, it will be dismissed. You will then have to file in the appropriate court provided the statute of limitations hasn’t expired.
1-4. Read the rules of evidence.
Each state has its own rules of evidence. These rules will spell out what evidence is admissible in court and what evidence isn’t. The federal court system also has its own rules of evidence.
The Federal Rules of Evidence are available online. You can find a copy by searching the internet.
State rules of evidence may be harder to find. If you have access to a law library, then you can search for a copy there. Some states may have posted them online. Even if you can’t find the state rules, then you should read the federal rules since they are often similar.
One of the most important rules you will want to know is the rule against hearsay evidence. Hearsay is any statement made outside of court which is offered as proof of the matter asserted. For example, if a bystander said at a crash scene, “The blue car was going too fast,” then it would be hearsay to admit that statement in court as proof that the blue car was driving too fast.
1-5. Read the rules of civil or criminal procedure.
The federal court system also has rules of civil procedure and rules of criminal procedure. These rules cover all aspects of a civil or criminal trial: deadlines for filing papers with the court, acceptable methods of service, what kinds of motions the court allows, etc. You should locate a copy of the rules online and read them.
States also have their own rules of procedure. As with the state’s rules of evidence, you should look online and in a law library. However, unlike the rules of evidence, state rules of procedure often differ significantly from the federal rules. Accordingly, you should not use the federal rules of procedure as a substitute.
1-6. Get the local rules.
In addition to rules of evidence and procedure, each judge has “local rules.” These rules are specific to his or her courtroom. For example, the judge might specify that he wants a certain number of copies of any motion delivered to his chambers before the hearing date. Local rules are sometimes posted on the court’s website.
You can request local rules by contacting the judge’s chambers. You will not know what judge you are appearing before until the lawsuit is filed. So you can wait a little bit before requesting local rules.
1-7. Seek legal assistance whenever necessary.
At some point you may have a legal question you cannot find the answer to. Even if you have access to the court’s law library, you may be overwhelmed and unable to find the correct answer. If this happens, then you may want to seek the advice of a lawyer. You have many options.
Some courthouses have centers where you can go for legal assistance. For example, many California Superior Courts have self-help centers in their courthouses. You can ask staff to look over your paperwork, advise you on next steps, and answer your questions.
These organizations are often non-profits that provide free or reduced-fee legal advice to people with low incomes. You can find a legal aid organization near you by visiting the Legal Services Corporation’s website at www.lsc.gov and click “Find Legal Aid” link at the top of the page.
Law libraries can be found in most law schools and courthouses. These libraries can be an incredible source for information and help. You can often find forms and practice manuals with the help of library employees. Practice manuals provide step-by-step instructions on how to tackle a particular legal issue and they are used every day by practicing lawyers. For example, if you need to file a personal injury claim, you can go to a law library and find a civil procedure practice manual, which will walk you through the steps of filing a case.
In a criminal case, you are entitled to a court-appointed attorney if you face at least six months in jail. You can also have a lawyer appointed as “stand by” counsel. Stand-by counsel can answer questions, look over any forms you must fill out, and appear in court with you.
You may also think about hiring a lawyer to perform discrete tasks. Historically, a lawyer took over the entire representation and did everything. Today, most states allow lawyers to provide “limited scope representation.” Under this arrangement, the lawyer does only the tasks you agree to. For example, the lawyer may look over documents or coach you as you prepare for trial. If you are interested in limited scope representation, you can call lawyers and ask if they provide this service.
1-8. Commit to being organized.
The typical lawsuit or criminal prosecution includes many pre-trial hearings. These hearings can involve disputes about what evidence you are entitled to, or they may be simple status “updates.” Regardless of the substance of the hearing, you need to attend every single one.
You should get a notebook in which you can write your hearing dates. Also create binders or folders so that you can keep all of your paperwork in one place.
The court will also set strict deadlines for filing motions. You must follow these deadlines. If you ever need an extension because of an emergency, then you should reach out to the judge and the other party before the deadline passes.
1-9. Sit in on another trial.
A good way to learn about trials is to watch one. Most trials are open to the public. If you have time, then you might want to spend at least a couple days watching court proceedings.
Pay attention to where the parties sit as well as how they describe their case to the judge.
2. Filing Motions
2-1. Understand pleadings and motions.
You start a lawsuit by filing a Complaint. This document alleges the facts surrounding the lawsuit and asks the court for relief, such as money damages to compensate the plaintiff for his or her injuries. The defendant who receives the complaint then typically files an Answer, in which he admits or denies the allegations and asserts any legal defenses. Complaints and answers are classed as “pleadings.”
In a lawsuit, you also might file a motion. A motion is any request for the judge to do something in a case. You can file a motion in a variety of situations: to ask the judge’s permission to do something or to ask the judge to compel the other side to do something.
You often need the judge’s permission to extend deadlines or approve fee waivers. You typically need the judge to compel the other side to turn over evidence or answer questions you have served on them.
To learn more about motions, see File a Motion in Court Without an Attorney.
2-2. Learn about service of process.
Whenever you file a pleading or a motion with a court, you will need to send a copy to the other party. The rules of procedure should spell out acceptable methods of service of process.
2-3. Participate in discovery.
Discovery is a process where the parties to a lawsuit can request documents or information in the possession or control of the other party. Discovery generally happens outside court. There are several common methods of obtaining evidence through discovery, which should be discussed in the applicable rules of procedure:
Requests for production: you may request documents or other physical evidence that relates to the case. For example, you may seek copies of contracts, communications (emails, letters, etc.), or employment files.
Interrogatories: these are written questions that one party sends to another which must be answered under oath.
Depositions: in a deposition, one party answers questions in person under oath. Depositions usually take place at a lawyer’s office with a court reporter present. If the party deposed cannot later appear at trial, then sometimes the deposition testimony can be read into evidence at trial.
2-4. Understand dispositive motions.
A “dispositive” motion is one that ends a lawsuit. After discovery, either party may file a “motion for summary judgment” in a civil trial. Alternately, a defendant in a criminal trial may file a motion to dismiss or, if trial has started, a motion for directed verdict.
In a civil trial, a judge can grant a motion for summary judgment if one party shows that there are no issues of material fact and that it is entitled to judgment as a matter of law.If you are defending against a summary judgment motion, you want to show that some important fact is in dispute, e.g., whether the defendant was driving too fast in an automobile accident case. If there is evidence both for and against that fact, then the judge shouldn’t grant a motion for summary judgment.
In a criminal case, you can argue that the case should be dismissed because the prosecution’s evidence does not establish guilt beyond a reasonable doubt.
3. Appearing in Court
3-1. Arrive early.
You should always arrive at court early, whether for a hearing or for the trial itself. Most courthouses now have security that all visitors must pass through. Give yourself plenty of time to find parking and get to the appropriate courtroom with about 15 minutes to spare.
You also should not bring food or drinks into court. If you need something to eat, consume it entirely outside of the courthouse.
3-2. Dress appropriately.
Although you do not need to wear a suit to represent yourself in court, you should still do your best to look clean and neat. Men should wear long pants with a belt, a collared-shirt, and a tie.
Women should wear a dress, skirt (not too short), or slacks with a nice blouse or top.
In no circumstances should you wear shorts, hats, halter or see-through tops, flip flops, belly shirts, ripped jeans, or baggy pants that hang below the hips. Also avoid clothing with offensive words or imagery.
3-3. Address the judge with respect.
Whenever you speak to the judge, always say, “Your Honor” or “Judge [last name].” Also stand when the judge enters or leaves the courtroom.
4. Representing Yourself during a Trial
4-1. Pick a jury.
If you are in civil or criminal court, you have the option of using a jury to decide your case. In criminal trials, the jury usually has 12 members. In civil trials, the number can vary by state, with juries of 12 or 9 being common. In civil trials held in state courts, jury verdicts do not always have to be unanimous.
Jurors are selected in a process called “voir dire.” The judge calls a panel of jurors (maybe 12 at a time) to the jury box to be questioned by the judge and the parties. Based on the juror’s answers, the plaintiff and defendant can each strike a juror for cause (e.g., the juror admitted to being biased). You are also given a number of “peremptory” challenges. You can use a peremptory challenge to strike a juror without having to give the judge a reason.
You should use your questions to try and uncover juror bias. First, ask open-ended questions to get the jurors talking. Asking, “What are your hobbies” could make jurors more comfortable. Then you can ask their opinions on topics that relate to your lawsuit. If you are suing a police officer for excessive force, ask about their opinions on the police. A juror who praises the police may not be open-minded to your case.
Do not assume that a juror’s race, age, or gender will make them biased against you. A person’s experience is much more important in shaping their worldview.
If you represent yourself, you might want to forego a jury trial and ask for a bench trial. Successfully selecting a jury is complicated and usually requires a lawyer’s help. If you are in small claims court, then you will most likely not have the option of a jury. Instead, the judge will decide the case.
4-2. Give an opening statement.
A trial begins with each side delivering an opening statement. An effective opening statement provides the jury (or judge) with a sneak peek of what the evidence will show. You should focus on your key facts—those facts that are most persuasive in your favor.
You also should disclose “bad facts.” A bad fact is anything that the other side will bring up during the course of trial to support their case. You can mention bad facts early in your own opening statement to take the sting out of them.
Be confident in your delivery. Jurors focus on tone, words, and nonverbal behavior. Do not be fidgety or refuse to look at the jury. Stand in place and speak to each juror.
Also be brief. Jurors begin to lose interest after about fifteen minutes, so you should try to keep your opening statement under that.
4-3. Present your evidence and witnesses.
To win your case, you will need to call witnesses and introduce documents or objects into evidence. The plaintiff will go first and the defendant will go second.
Think about the most logical way to present your evidence. For example, you could introduce evidence chronologically. If you are suing someone for causing a car accident, you could call a passenger in your car as the first witness. Then you can introduce the police officer who arrived at the scene. Next, you could present a doctor who can testify as to the injuries you suffered and your rehabilitation.
You must always “lay a foundation” for any document or object you want to introduce into evidence. To lay a foundation, you need a witness to testify that the object is what you claim it is. For example, if you have a picture of a car crash, you need a witness to testify that she recognizes the scene and how she knows the photo was taken of the scene.
You must also establish that witnesses have personal knowledge of anything they testify about. If you want a witness to testify that your neighbor’s dog barks all night, you have to establish that she was close enough to hear it on the night in question. You can elicit this information with questions: “Where do you live?” “Where were you during the evening of March 3, 2015?” “Did you hear anything?”
4-4. Cross-examine the other party’s witnesses.
You want to undermine the other party’s witnesses. You can do this in a variety of ways: by impeaching them, by emphasizing limitations on their ability to perceive, or by eliciting testimony that they have been convicted of a crime of moral turpitude.#* You can impeach a witness by introducing a prior inconsistent statement. If a witness testifies that she saw the green car hit the brown car, then she can be impeached if she testified in a deposition that she didn’t see which car hit the brown car.
You can also highlight the witness’s limitations. If the witness claims to have heard a conversation across a crowded room, you can draw out how crowded and noisy the room was. By doing so, you undermine the jury’s faith that the witness observed what he claimed.
You may also be able to undermine a witness by introducing evidence of a conviction for perjury or a felony. These convictions can undermine the credibility and character of the witness.
4-5. Object to evidence when necessary.
Always pay attention to the questions the other side asks witnesses. They may try to introduce evidence inappropriately. For example, the other side could elicit hearsay evidence from a witness or try to introduce a document without laying a proper foundation. You should always object.
To object, immediately stand after the other side asks the question and clearly state, “Objection, Your Honor.” Then state the reason for your objection: for example, “Hearsay.”
You must object in order to preserve any issue for appeal. Even if the other party inappropriately introduces evidence, you have forfeited your ability to raise the issue on appeal if you do not object in a timely manner.
4-6. Deliver a closing argument.
Each side also delivers a closing argument. You should use yours to sum up the evidence and explain how it supports your case. Be confident and look the jurors in the eyes.
After explaining how the evidence supports your case, rebut the other side’s evidence. Explain why their witnesses are mistaken or not believable.
Begin and end strong. Research shows that people remember the first and last things that they hear. Accordingly, you should begin and end your closing statement with strong points. Remind the jurors of the most persuasive evidence in your case.
4-7. Appeal if necessary.
If you lose at trial, you may have the right to appeal that decision to a higher court. You will have to file a Notice of Appeal. Many courts have pre-printed Notice of Appeal forms which you can use. After the verdict, ask the judge or clerk if there is a form.
If the court doesn’t have a form, then you should draft a Notice of Appeal. You will format it like every other motion: a caption, a title, and then state that you are taking an appeal. Here is sample language: “Please take notice that [insert your name] hereby appeals to the [name of the appellate court] from the judgment entered [date judgment is entered].” Then add a date and your signature.
You should file your Notice of Appeal as soon as possible.
If you wish to appeal, you should give serious consideration to hiring an attorney. Appellate practice is in many ways more complicated than the rules that govern trials. It is very easy to lose an appeal if you do not know what you are doing.
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Check if you can represent yourself.\\nNot all courts will allow you to appear “pro se.” For example, Florida probate courts will allow you to represent yourself only if the executor is the sole beneficiary or if the estate is very small. All other people appearing in Florida probate court need a lawyer.\\nTo check if you are required to have a lawyer for your case, call the court clerk and ask.\\n1-3. Learn the different court systems.\\nThe United States has two general court systems: a federal court system and individual state court systems. Different cases can be brought in each system. If you are the plaintiff in a lawsuit, you will need to learn the difference so that you can bring your suit in the correct court.\\nAs a general rule, you should file a case that deals with state law in state court. State law cases typically involve personal injury suits (like medical malpractice or slip-and-fall cases), breach of contract, family law, and landlord-tenant cases. State courts almost always can hear a lawsuit involving events that happened within the state’s boundaries.\\nFederal courts hear a more limited range of cases. Federal courts typically hear discrimination claims, unfair competition claims, as well as cases alleging violations of copyright and trademark law. Federal courts will also hear cases where the parties are from different states if the amount in controversy exceeds $75,000, exclusive of costs and fees.\\nIf you file your case in the wrong court, it will be dismissed. You will then have to file in the appropriate court provided the statute of limitations hasn’t expired.\\n1-4. Read the rules of evidence.\\nEach state has its own rules of evidence. These rules will spell out what evidence is admissible in court and what evidence isn’t. The federal court system also has its own rules of evidence. \\nThe Federal Rules of Evidence are available online. You can find a copy by searching the internet.\\nState rules of evidence may be harder to find. If you have access to a law library, then you can search for a copy there. Some states may have posted them online. Even if you can’t find the state rules, then you should read the federal rules since they are often similar.\\nOne of the most important rules you will want to know is the rule against hearsay evidence. Hearsay is any statement made outside of court which is offered as proof of the matter asserted. For example, if a bystander said at a crash scene, “The blue car was going too fast,” then it would be hearsay to admit that statement in court as proof that the blue car was driving too fast.\\n1-5. Read the rules of civil or criminal procedure.\\nThe federal court system also has rules of civil procedure and rules of criminal procedure. These rules cover all aspects of a civil or criminal trial: deadlines for filing papers with the court, acceptable methods of service, what kinds of motions the court allows, etc. You should locate a copy of the rules online and read them.\\nStates also have their own rules of procedure. As with the state’s rules of evidence, you should look online and in a law library. However, unlike the rules of evidence, state rules of procedure often differ significantly from the federal rules. Accordingly, you should not use the federal rules of procedure as a substitute.\\n1-6. Get the local rules.\\nIn addition to rules of evidence and procedure, each judge has “local rules.” These rules are specific to his or her courtroom. For example, the judge might specify that he wants a certain number of copies of any motion delivered to his chambers before the hearing date. Local rules are sometimes posted on the court’s website.\\nYou can request local rules by contacting the judge’s chambers. You will not know what judge you are appearing before until the lawsuit is filed. So you can wait a little bit before requesting local rules.\\n1-7. Seek legal assistance whenever necessary.\\nAt some point you may have a legal question you cannot find the answer to. Even if you have access to the court’s law library, you may be overwhelmed and unable to find the correct answer. If this happens, then you may want to seek the advice of a lawyer. You have many options.\\n\\n Some courthouses have centers where you can go for legal assistance. For example, many California Superior Courts have self-help centers in their courthouses. You can ask staff to look over your paperwork, advise you on next steps, and answer your questions.\\n These organizations are often non-profits that provide free or reduced-fee legal advice to people with low incomes. You can find a legal aid organization near you by visiting the Legal Services Corporation’s website at www.lsc.gov and click “Find Legal Aid” link at the top of the page.\\n Law libraries can be found in most law schools and courthouses. These libraries can be an incredible source for information and help. You can often find forms and practice manuals with the help of library employees. Practice manuals provide step-by-step instructions on how to tackle a particular legal issue and they are used every day by practicing lawyers. For example, if you need to file a personal injury claim, you can go to a law library and find a civil procedure practice manual, which will walk you through the steps of filing a case.\\n In a criminal case, you are entitled to a court-appointed attorney if you face at least six months in jail. You can also have a lawyer appointed as “stand by” counsel. Stand-by counsel can answer questions, look over any forms you must fill out, and appear in court with you.\\n You may also think about hiring a lawyer to perform discrete tasks. Historically, a lawyer took over the entire representation and did everything. Today, most states allow lawyers to provide “limited scope representation.” Under this arrangement, the lawyer does only the tasks you agree to. For example, the lawyer may look over documents or coach you as you prepare for trial. If you are interested in limited scope representation, you can call lawyers and ask if they provide this service.\\n1-8. Commit to being organized.\\nThe typical lawsuit or criminal prosecution includes many pre-trial hearings. These hearings can involve disputes about what evidence you are entitled to, or they may be simple status “updates.” Regardless of the substance of the hearing, you need to attend every single one.\\nYou should get a notebook in which you can write your hearing dates. Also create binders or folders so that you can keep all of your paperwork in one place.\\nThe court will also set strict deadlines for filing motions. You must follow these deadlines. If you ever need an extension because of an emergency, then you should reach out to the judge and the other party before the deadline passes.\\n1-9. Sit in on another trial.\\nA good way to learn about trials is to watch one. Most trials are open to the public. If you have time, then you might want to spend at least a couple days watching court proceedings.\\nPay attention to where the parties sit as well as how they describe their case to the judge.\\n2. Filing Motions\\n2-1. Understand pleadings and motions.\\nYou start a lawsuit by filing a Complaint. This document alleges the facts surrounding the lawsuit and asks the court for relief, such as money damages to compensate the plaintiff for his or her injuries. The defendant who receives the complaint then typically files an Answer, in which he admits or denies the allegations and asserts any legal defenses. Complaints and answers are classed as “pleadings.”\\nIn a lawsuit, you also might file a motion. A motion is any request for the judge to do something in a case. You can file a motion in a variety of situations: to ask the judge’s permission to do something or to ask the judge to compel the other side to do something.\\nYou often need the judge’s permission to extend deadlines or approve fee waivers. You typically need the judge to compel the other side to turn over evidence or answer questions you have served on them.\\nTo learn more about motions, see File a Motion in Court Without an Attorney.\\n2-2. Learn about service of process.\\nWhenever you file a pleading or a motion with a court, you will need to send a copy to the other party. The rules of procedure should spell out acceptable methods of service of process.\\n2-3. Participate in discovery.\\nDiscovery is a process where the parties to a lawsuit can request documents or information in the possession or control of the other party. Discovery generally happens outside court. There are several common methods of obtaining evidence through discovery, which should be discussed in the applicable rules of procedure:\\nRequests for production: you may request documents or other physical evidence that relates to the case. For example, you may seek copies of contracts, communications (emails, letters, etc.), or employment files.\\nInterrogatories: these are written questions that one party sends to another which must be answered under oath.\\nDepositions: in a deposition, one party answers questions in person under oath. Depositions usually take place at a lawyer’s office with a court reporter present. If the party deposed cannot later appear at trial, then sometimes the deposition testimony can be read into evidence at trial.\\n2-4. Understand dispositive motions.\\nA “dispositive” motion is one that ends a lawsuit. After discovery, either party may file a “motion for summary judgment” in a civil trial. Alternately, a defendant in a criminal trial may file a motion to dismiss or, if trial has started, a motion for directed verdict.\\nIn a civil trial, a judge can grant a motion for summary judgment if one party shows that there are no issues of material fact and that it is entitled to judgment as a matter of law.If you are defending against a summary judgment motion, you want to show that some important fact is in dispute, e.g., whether the defendant was driving too fast in an automobile accident case. If there is evidence both for and against that fact, then the judge shouldn’t grant a motion for summary judgment.\\nIn a criminal case, you can argue that the case should be dismissed because the prosecution’s evidence does not establish guilt beyond a reasonable doubt.\\n3. Appearing in Court\\n3-1. Arrive early.\\nYou should always arrive at court early, whether for a hearing or for the trial itself. Most courthouses now have security that all visitors must pass through. Give yourself plenty of time to find parking and get to the appropriate courtroom with about 15 minutes to spare.\\nYou also should not bring food or drinks into court. If you need something to eat, consume it entirely outside of the courthouse.\\n3-2. Dress appropriately.\\nAlthough you do not need to wear a suit to represent yourself in court, you should still do your best to look clean and neat. Men should wear long pants with a belt, a collared-shirt, and a tie.\\nWomen should wear a dress, skirt (not too short), or slacks with a nice blouse or top.\\nIn no circumstances should you wear shorts, hats, halter or see-through tops, flip flops, belly shirts, ripped jeans, or baggy pants that hang below the hips. Also avoid clothing with offensive words or imagery.\\n3-3. Address the judge with respect.\\nWhenever you speak to the judge, always say, “Your Honor” or “Judge [last name].” Also stand when the judge enters or leaves the courtroom.\\n4. Representing Yourself during a Trial\\n4-1. Pick a jury.\\nIf you are in civil or criminal court, you have the option of using a jury to decide your case. In criminal trials, the jury usually has 12 members. In civil trials, the number can vary by state, with juries of 12 or 9 being common. In civil trials held in state courts, jury verdicts do not always have to be unanimous.\\nJurors are selected in a process called “voir dire.” The judge calls a panel of jurors (maybe 12 at a time) to the jury box to be questioned by the judge and the parties. Based on the juror’s answers, the plaintiff and defendant can each strike a juror for cause (e.g., the juror admitted to being biased). You are also given a number of “peremptory” challenges. You can use a peremptory challenge to strike a juror without having to give the judge a reason.\\nYou should use your questions to try and uncover juror bias. First, ask open-ended questions to get the jurors talking. Asking, “What are your hobbies” could make jurors more comfortable. Then you can ask their opinions on topics that relate to your lawsuit. If you are suing a police officer for excessive force, ask about their opinions on the police. A juror who praises the police may not be open-minded to your case.\\nDo not assume that a juror’s race, age, or gender will make them biased against you. A person’s experience is much more important in shaping their worldview.\\nIf you represent yourself, you might want to forego a jury trial and ask for a bench trial. Successfully selecting a jury is complicated and usually requires a lawyer’s help. If you are in small claims court, then you will most likely not have the option of a jury. Instead, the judge will decide the case.\\n4-2. Give an opening statement.\\nA trial begins with each side delivering an opening statement. An effective opening statement provides the jury (or judge) with a sneak peek of what the evidence will show. You should focus on your key facts—those facts that are most persuasive in your favor.\\nYou also should disclose “bad facts.” A bad fact is anything that the other side will bring up during the course of trial to support their case. You can mention bad facts early in your own opening statement to take the sting out of them.\\nBe confident in your delivery. Jurors focus on tone, words, and nonverbal behavior. Do not be fidgety or refuse to look at the jury. Stand in place and speak to each juror.\\nAlso be brief. Jurors begin to lose interest after about fifteen minutes, so you should try to keep your opening statement under that.\\n4-3. Present your evidence and witnesses.\\nTo win your case, you will need to call witnesses and introduce documents or objects into evidence. The plaintiff will go first and the defendant will go second.\\nThink about the most logical way to present your evidence. For example, you could introduce evidence chronologically. If you are suing someone for causing a car accident, you could call a passenger in your car as the first witness. Then you can introduce the police officer who arrived at the scene. Next, you could present a doctor who can testify as to the injuries you suffered and your rehabilitation.\\nYou must always “lay a foundation” for any document or object you want to introduce into evidence. To lay a foundation, you need a witness to testify that the object is what you claim it is. For example, if you have a picture of a car crash, you need a witness to testify that she recognizes the scene and how she knows the photo was taken of the scene.\\nYou must also establish that witnesses have personal knowledge of anything they testify about. If you want a witness to testify that your neighbor’s dog barks all night, you have to establish that she was close enough to hear it on the night in question. You can elicit this information with questions: “Where do you live?” “Where were you during the evening of March 3, 2015?” “Did you hear anything?”\\n4-4. Cross-examine the other party’s witnesses.\\nYou want to undermine the other party’s witnesses. You can do this in a variety of ways: by impeaching them, by emphasizing limitations on their ability to perceive, or by eliciting testimony that they have been convicted of a crime of moral turpitude.#* You can impeach a witness by introducing a prior inconsistent statement. If a witness testifies that she saw the green car hit the brown car, then she can be impeached if she testified in a deposition that she didn’t see which car hit the brown car.\\nYou can also highlight the witness’s limitations. If the witness claims to have heard a conversation across a crowded room, you can draw out how crowded and noisy the room was. By doing so, you undermine the jury’s faith that the witness observed what he claimed.\\nYou may also be able to undermine a witness by introducing evidence of a conviction for perjury or a felony. These convictions can undermine the credibility and character of the witness.\\n4-5. Object to evidence when necessary.\\nAlways pay attention to the questions the other side asks witnesses. They may try to introduce evidence inappropriately. For example, the other side could elicit hearsay evidence from a witness or try to introduce a document without laying a proper foundation. You should always object.\\nTo object, immediately stand after the other side asks the question and clearly state, “Objection, Your Honor.” Then state the reason for your objection: for example, “Hearsay.”\\nYou must object in order to preserve any issue for appeal. Even if the other party inappropriately introduces evidence, you have forfeited your ability to raise the issue on appeal if you do not object in a timely manner.\\n4-6. Deliver a closing argument.\\nEach side also delivers a closing argument. You should use yours to sum up the evidence and explain how it supports your case. Be confident and look the jurors in the eyes.\\nAfter explaining how the evidence supports your case, rebut the other side’s evidence. Explain why their witnesses are mistaken or not believable.\\nBegin and end strong. Research shows that people remember the first and last things that they hear. Accordingly, you should begin and end your closing statement with strong points. Remind the jurors of the most persuasive evidence in your case.\\n4-7. Appeal if necessary.\\nIf you lose at trial, you may have the right to appeal that decision to a higher court. You will have to file a Notice of Appeal. Many courts have pre-printed Notice of Appeal forms which you can use. After the verdict, ask the judge or clerk if there is a form.\\nIf the court doesn’t have a form, then you should draft a Notice of Appeal. You will format it like every other motion: a caption, a title, and then state that you are taking an appeal. Here is sample language: “Please take notice that [insert your name] hereby appeals to the [name of the appellate court] from the judgment entered [date judgment is entered].” Then add a date and your signature.\\nYou should file your Notice of Appeal as soon as possible.\\nIf you wish to appeal, you should give serious consideration to hiring an attorney. Appellate practice is in many ways more complicated than the rules that govern trials. It is very easy to lose an appeal if you do not know what you are doing.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"People want to represent themselves in court for a variety of reasons. For example, they may be involved in a civil trial but cannot afford a lawyer. Although defendants have the right to an attorney in a criminal trial, they do not have the same right in a civil trial. Furthermore, some people feel that they can handle their case better than an attorney could. Whatever your reasons for representing yourself, you will need to do extensive preparation and understand the different elements of a trial.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Preparing to Represent Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Give serious thought to hiring an attorney.\", \"描述\": \"You should not make the decision to represent yourself in court lightly. In a criminal trial, for example, you should certainly have a lawyer. Furthermore, you will also need an attorney for civil trials where you face over $100,000 in damages.\\nYou can get by without a lawyer if you are in small claims court. Also, you may be able to successfully represent yourself in a civil trial that is worth $25,000 to $100,000.\\nNevertheless, you should consider hiring an attorney if you believe the case is complicated or could become complicated. You may also want a lawyer if you are too close to the case emotionally and doubt that you can be objective.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Check if you can represent yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Not all courts will allow you to appear “pro se.” For example, Florida probate courts will allow you to represent yourself only if the executor is the sole beneficiary or if the estate is very small. All other people appearing in Florida probate court need a lawyer.\\nTo check if you are required to have a lawyer for your case, call the court clerk and ask.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn the different court systems.\", \"描述\": \"The United States has two general court systems: a federal court system and individual state court systems. Different cases can be brought in each system. If you are the plaintiff in a lawsuit, you will need to learn the difference so that you can bring your suit in the correct court.\\nAs a general rule, you should file a case that deals with state law in state court. State law cases typically involve personal injury suits (like medical malpractice or slip-and-fall cases), breach of contract, family law, and landlord-tenant cases. State courts almost always can hear a lawsuit involving events that happened within the state’s boundaries.\\nFederal courts hear a more limited range of cases. Federal courts typically hear discrimination claims, unfair competition claims, as well as cases alleging violations of copyright and trademark law. Federal courts will also hear cases where the parties are from different states if the amount in controversy exceeds $75,000, exclusive of costs and fees.\\nIf you file your case in the wrong court, it will be dismissed. You will then have to file in the appropriate court provided the statute of limitations hasn’t expired.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Read the rules of evidence.\", \"描述\": \"Each state has its own rules of evidence. These rules will spell out what evidence is admissible in court and what evidence isn’t. The federal court system also has its own rules of evidence. \\nThe Federal Rules of Evidence are available online. You can find a copy by searching the internet.\\nState rules of evidence may be harder to find. If you have access to a law library, then you can search for a copy there. Some states may have posted them online. Even if you can’t find the state rules, then you should read the federal rules since they are often similar.\\nOne of the most important rules you will want to know is the rule against hearsay evidence. Hearsay is any statement made outside of court which is offered as proof of the matter asserted. For example, if a bystander said at a crash scene, “The blue car was going too fast,” then it would be hearsay to admit that statement in court as proof that the blue car was driving too fast.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Read the rules of civil or criminal procedure.\", \"描述\": \"The federal court system also has rules of civil procedure and rules of criminal procedure. These rules cover all aspects of a civil or criminal trial: deadlines for filing papers with the court, acceptable methods of service, what kinds of motions the court allows, etc. You should locate a copy of the rules online and read them.\\nStates also have their own rules of procedure. As with the state’s rules of evidence, you should look online and in a law library. However, unlike the rules of evidence, state rules of procedure often differ significantly from the federal rules. Accordingly, you should not use the federal rules of procedure as a substitute.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Get the local rules.\", \"描述\": \"In addition to rules of evidence and procedure, each judge has “local rules.” These rules are specific to his or her courtroom. For example, the judge might specify that he wants a certain number of copies of any motion delivered to his chambers before the hearing date. Local rules are sometimes posted on the court’s website.\\nYou can request local rules by contacting the judge’s chambers. You will not know what judge you are appearing before until the lawsuit is filed. So you can wait a little bit before requesting local rules.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Seek legal assistance whenever necessary.\", \"描述\": \"At some point you may have a legal question you cannot find the answer to. Even if you have access to the court’s law library, you may be overwhelmed and unable to find the correct answer. If this happens, then you may want to seek the advice of a lawyer. You have many options.\\n\\n Some courthouses have centers where you can go for legal assistance. For example, many California Superior Courts have self-help centers in their courthouses. You can ask staff to look over your paperwork, advise you on next steps, and answer your questions.\\n These organizations are often non-profits that provide free or reduced-fee legal advice to people with low incomes. You can find a legal aid organization near you by visiting the Legal Services Corporation’s website at www.lsc.gov and click “Find Legal Aid” link at the top of the page.\\n Law libraries can be found in most law schools and courthouses. These libraries can be an incredible source for information and help. You can often find forms and practice manuals with the help of library employees. Practice manuals provide step-by-step instructions on how to tackle a particular legal issue and they are used every day by practicing lawyers. For example, if you need to file a personal injury claim, you can go to a law library and find a civil procedure practice manual, which will walk you through the steps of filing a case.\\n In a criminal case, you are entitled to a court-appointed attorney if you face at least six months in jail. You can also have a lawyer appointed as “stand by” counsel. Stand-by counsel can answer questions, look over any forms you must fill out, and appear in court with you.\\n You may also think about hiring a lawyer to perform discrete tasks. Historically, a lawyer took over the entire representation and did everything. Today, most states allow lawyers to provide “limited scope representation.” Under this arrangement, the lawyer does only the tasks you agree to. For example, the lawyer may look over documents or coach you as you prepare for trial. If you are interested in limited scope representation, you can call lawyers and ask if they provide this service.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Commit to being organized.\", \"描述\": \"The typical lawsuit or criminal prosecution includes many pre-trial hearings. These hearings can involve disputes about what evidence you are entitled to, or they may be simple status “updates.” Regardless of the substance of the hearing, you need to attend every single one.\\nYou should get a notebook in which you can write your hearing dates. Also create binders or folders so that you can keep all of your paperwork in one place.\\nThe court will also set strict deadlines for filing motions. You must follow these deadlines. If you ever need an extension because of an emergency, then you should reach out to the judge and the other party before the deadline passes.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Sit in on another trial.\", \"描述\": \"A good way to learn about trials is to watch one. Most trials are open to the public. If you have time, then you might want to spend at least a couple days watching court proceedings.\\nPay attention to where the parties sit as well as how they describe their case to the judge.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Filing Motions\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Understand pleadings and motions.\", \"描述\": \"You start a lawsuit by filing a Complaint. This document alleges the facts surrounding the lawsuit and asks the court for relief, such as money damages to compensate the plaintiff for his or her injuries. The defendant who receives the complaint then typically files an Answer, in which he admits or denies the allegations and asserts any legal defenses. Complaints and answers are classed as “pleadings.”\\nIn a lawsuit, you also might file a motion. A motion is any request for the judge to do something in a case. You can file a motion in a variety of situations: to ask the judge’s permission to do something or to ask the judge to compel the other side to do something.\\nYou often need the judge’s permission to extend deadlines or approve fee waivers. You typically need the judge to compel the other side to turn over evidence or answer questions you have served on them.\\nTo learn more about motions, see File a Motion in Court Without an Attorney.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Learn about service of process.\", \"描述\": \"Whenever you file a pleading or a motion with a court, you will need to send a copy to the other party. The rules of procedure should spell out acceptable methods of service of process.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Participate in discovery.\", \"描述\": \"Discovery is a process where the parties to a lawsuit can request documents or information in the possession or control of the other party. Discovery generally happens outside court. There are several common methods of obtaining evidence through discovery, which should be discussed in the applicable rules of procedure:\\nRequests for production: you may request documents or other physical evidence that relates to the case. For example, you may seek copies of contracts, communications (emails, letters, etc.), or employment files.\\nInterrogatories: these are written questions that one party sends to another which must be answered under oath.\\nDepositions: in a deposition, one party answers questions in person under oath. Depositions usually take place at a lawyer’s office with a court reporter present. If the party deposed cannot later appear at trial, then sometimes the deposition testimony can be read into evidence at trial.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Understand dispositive motions.\", \"描述\": \"A “dispositive” motion is one that ends a lawsuit. After discovery, either party may file a “motion for summary judgment” in a civil trial. Alternately, a defendant in a criminal trial may file a motion to dismiss or, if trial has started, a motion for directed verdict.\\nIn a civil trial, a judge can grant a motion for summary judgment if one party shows that there are no issues of material fact and that it is entitled to judgment as a matter of law.If you are defending against a summary judgment motion, you want to show that some important fact is in dispute, e.g., whether the defendant was driving too fast in an automobile accident case. If there is evidence both for and against that fact, then the judge shouldn’t grant a motion for summary judgment.\\nIn a criminal case, you can argue that the case should be dismissed because the prosecution’s evidence does not establish guilt beyond a reasonable doubt.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Appearing in Court\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Arrive early.\", \"描述\": \"You should always arrive at court early, whether for a hearing or for the trial itself. Most courthouses now have security that all visitors must pass through. Give yourself plenty of time to find parking and get to the appropriate courtroom with about 15 minutes to spare.\\nYou also should not bring food or drinks into court. If you need something to eat, consume it entirely outside of the courthouse.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Dress appropriately.\", \"描述\": \"Although you do not need to wear a suit to represent yourself in court, you should still do your best to look clean and neat. Men should wear long pants with a belt, a collared-shirt, and a tie.\\nWomen should wear a dress, skirt (not too short), or slacks with a nice blouse or top.\\nIn no circumstances should you wear shorts, hats, halter or see-through tops, flip flops, belly shirts, ripped jeans, or baggy pants that hang below the hips. Also avoid clothing with offensive words or imagery.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Address the judge with respect.\", \"描述\": \"Whenever you speak to the judge, always say, “Your Honor” or “Judge [last name].” Also stand when the judge enters or leaves the courtroom.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Representing Yourself during a Trial\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pick a jury.\", \"描述\": \"If you are in civil or criminal court, you have the option of using a jury to decide your case. In criminal trials, the jury usually has 12 members. In civil trials, the number can vary by state, with juries of 12 or 9 being common. In civil trials held in state courts, jury verdicts do not always have to be unanimous.\\nJurors are selected in a process called “voir dire.” The judge calls a panel of jurors (maybe 12 at a time) to the jury box to be questioned by the judge and the parties. Based on the juror’s answers, the plaintiff and defendant can each strike a juror for cause (e.g., the juror admitted to being biased). You are also given a number of “peremptory” challenges. You can use a peremptory challenge to strike a juror without having to give the judge a reason.\\nYou should use your questions to try and uncover juror bias. First, ask open-ended questions to get the jurors talking. Asking, “What are your hobbies” could make jurors more comfortable. Then you can ask their opinions on topics that relate to your lawsuit. If you are suing a police officer for excessive force, ask about their opinions on the police. A juror who praises the police may not be open-minded to your case.\\nDo not assume that a juror’s race, age, or gender will make them biased against you. A person’s experience is much more important in shaping their worldview.\\nIf you represent yourself, you might want to forego a jury trial and ask for a bench trial. Successfully selecting a jury is complicated and usually requires a lawyer’s help. If you are in small claims court, then you will most likely not have the option of a jury. Instead, the judge will decide the case.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Give an opening statement.\", \"描述\": \"A trial begins with each side delivering an opening statement. An effective opening statement provides the jury (or judge) with a sneak peek of what the evidence will show. You should focus on your key facts—those facts that are most persuasive in your favor.\\nYou also should disclose “bad facts.” A bad fact is anything that the other side will bring up during the course of trial to support their case. You can mention bad facts early in your own opening statement to take the sting out of them.\\nBe confident in your delivery. Jurors focus on tone, words, and nonverbal behavior. Do not be fidgety or refuse to look at the jury. Stand in place and speak to each juror.\\nAlso be brief. Jurors begin to lose interest after about fifteen minutes, so you should try to keep your opening statement under that.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Present your evidence and witnesses.\", \"描述\": \"To win your case, you will need to call witnesses and introduce documents or objects into evidence. The plaintiff will go first and the defendant will go second.\\nThink about the most logical way to present your evidence. For example, you could introduce evidence chronologically. If you are suing someone for causing a car accident, you could call a passenger in your car as the first witness. Then you can introduce the police officer who arrived at the scene. Next, you could present a doctor who can testify as to the injuries you suffered and your rehabilitation.\\nYou must always “lay a foundation” for any document or object you want to introduce into evidence. To lay a foundation, you need a witness to testify that the object is what you claim it is. For example, if you have a picture of a car crash, you need a witness to testify that she recognizes the scene and how she knows the photo was taken of the scene.\\nYou must also establish that witnesses have personal knowledge of anything they testify about. If you want a witness to testify that your neighbor’s dog barks all night, you have to establish that she was close enough to hear it on the night in question. You can elicit this information with questions: “Where do you live?” “Where were you during the evening of March 3, 2015?” “Did you hear anything?”\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Cross-examine the other party’s witnesses.\", \"描述\": \"You want to undermine the other party’s witnesses. You can do this in a variety of ways: by impeaching them, by emphasizing limitations on their ability to perceive, or by eliciting testimony that they have been convicted of a crime of moral turpitude.#* You can impeach a witness by introducing a prior inconsistent statement. If a witness testifies that she saw the green car hit the brown car, then she can be impeached if she testified in a deposition that she didn’t see which car hit the brown car.\\nYou can also highlight the witness’s limitations. If the witness claims to have heard a conversation across a crowded room, you can draw out how crowded and noisy the room was. By doing so, you undermine the jury’s faith that the witness observed what he claimed.\\nYou may also be able to undermine a witness by introducing evidence of a conviction for perjury or a felony. These convictions can undermine the credibility and character of the witness.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Object to evidence when necessary.\", \"描述\": \"Always pay attention to the questions the other side asks witnesses. They may try to introduce evidence inappropriately. For example, the other side could elicit hearsay evidence from a witness or try to introduce a document without laying a proper foundation. You should always object.\\nTo object, immediately stand after the other side asks the question and clearly state, “Objection, Your Honor.” Then state the reason for your objection: for example, “Hearsay.”\\nYou must object in order to preserve any issue for appeal. Even if the other party inappropriately introduces evidence, you have forfeited your ability to raise the issue on appeal if you do not object in a timely manner.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Deliver a closing argument.\", \"描述\": \"Each side also delivers a closing argument. You should use yours to sum up the evidence and explain how it supports your case. Be confident and look the jurors in the eyes.\\nAfter explaining how the evidence supports your case, rebut the other side’s evidence. Explain why their witnesses are mistaken or not believable.\\nBegin and end strong. Research shows that people remember the first and last things that they hear. Accordingly, you should begin and end your closing statement with strong points. Remind the jurors of the most persuasive evidence in your case.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Appeal if necessary.\", \"描述\": \"If you lose at trial, you may have the right to appeal that decision to a higher court. You will have to file a Notice of Appeal. Many courts have pre-printed Notice of Appeal forms which you can use. After the verdict, ask the judge or clerk if there is a form.\\nIf the court doesn’t have a form, then you should draft a Notice of Appeal. You will format it like every other motion: a caption, a title, and then state that you are taking an appeal. Here is sample language: “Please take notice that [insert your name] hereby appeals to the [name of the appellate court] from the judgment entered [date judgment is entered].” Then add a date and your signature.\\nYou should file your Notice of Appeal as soon as possible.\\nIf you wish to appeal, you should give serious consideration to hiring an attorney. Appellate practice is in many ways more complicated than the rules that govern trials. It is very easy to lose an appeal if you do not know what you are doing.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Being Introspective
1-1. Observe your own behavior and thought patterns.
This will help you recognize your strengths and weaknesses, and identify which aspects of your life need improvement. Remember that before you fix something, you must first identify the problem(s).
Practice viewing your own life from an objective standpoint, i.e. from the perspective of somebody else. This might take months of practice, so be patient and keep reminding yourself to take a step back every once in a while to reflect.
Notice how you react to stress, excitement, anger, and anxiety. While these are universal human emotions, we all handle them differently. Do you handle these negative emotions rationally, or do you let them blow out of proportion? Pay attention to what triggers these emotions: school, work, family, etc.
1-2. Pay attention to your relationships with others.
Your relationships with friends, family members, and coworkers reveal a great deal about the kind of person you are. Ask yourself the following questions:
Do you frequently argue with friends and family members? Who is usually the one who instigates these arguments?
How do you reconcile disagreements? Do you compromise, or do you always assert your position?
Are there certain people in your life that make you feel irritated or insecure? Why is that?
Have you been neglecting or ignoring your loved ones? When was the last time you showed a friend or loved one that you care for them?
1-3. Identify your fears and insecurities about the future.
This will help you put your fears in perspective. The key is to determine whether a fear is rational (i.e. a real danger), or if it stems from personal insecurities. Consider the following exercise:
Think of a fear. For example, "I'm afraid of going back to school because I don't think I'm a strong student." Now, imagine that one of your good friends or family members told you that he or she felt this way. How would you react? What kind of advice would you give him or her? Would you tell this person to give up, or tell them that it is worth a try? We oftentimes give better advice than we are willing to take ourselves, because of the bias we have toward our own insecurities.
Remember that even the most successful inventors, entrepreneurs, and scientists were at one point in their lives doubtful of their own capacity. They were probably told by people around them that what they wanted to do was impossible, and yet they pushed through and followed their dreams.
1-4. Start a journal.
Journals are a great way to keep track of what has happened in your life (both good and bad) and how you reacted to these situations. Reviewing your journal entries will help you put your life in perspective, notice patterns, and identify recurring problems.
Go back and re-read old entries once some time has passed. Now that you are no longer in the heat of the moment, do you think that you reacted appropriately to the situation? How could you have handled it better? Keep these things in mind for the future.
2. Choosing The Right Path
2-1. Identify your interests.
The best way to have a fulfilling life is to spend your time doing things that you genuinely care about. Consider whether you are interested in art, science, politics, or the environment. Think about what you want your life's legacy to be. How do you want to impact the world around you? These questions will help you find the right career path for you.
Learn to distinguish between your hobbies and your bigger interests. Just because you like to play guitar, doesn't necessarily mean you should pursue music as a career. But if you eat, sleep and breathe guitar, then continue to practice and perfect your craft and pursue your dream.
Don't give up on your hobbies. Just because your passion isn't lucrative, doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't partake in it. In fact, the opposite is true. Life is about learning to balance work and fun, and giving up either will be detrimental to your emotional health. Remember that if you have never worked at anything, you won't be able to appreciate the free time you have to partake in hobbies or spend time with friends.
2-2. Explore and develop your talents.
If you want to reach your full potential, you will have to devote time to strengthening the talents you already have, and uncovering any hidden talents that you haven't discovered yet.
Take classes or private lessons in subjects that you are interested in, even if you have no previous experience. You never know when that one elective will open the door to an entirely new career that you had never considered.
Don't be discouraged if you realize that you are not skilled at something. Remember that even recognizing what you are good at is still a step in the right direction, pointing you toward what you good at.
2-3. Pursue your goals passionately and responsibly.
Once you have set your mind to doing something, follow through with it. Be prepared for obstacles, and don't expect immediate results. All good things take time and hard work, but it will be well worth it in the end when you achieve your goals.
Remember that at the end of your life, you are much more likely to regret the things you do than the things you do.
Choose goals because they're based on your values, not because you think they will help you earn respect and admiration from other people. You'll feel more fulfilled when you accomplish a goal if you're doing it for yourself, not other people.
2-4. Stand up for yourself.
In life, you will undoubtedly come across people who will try to take advantage of you, whether it is financially or emotionally. While you should strive to be a sensitive, caring person on the one hand, you must also be tough-skinned and not let people walk all over you.
Be skeptical when people ask you to borrow money, constantly expect you to pay for things, or ask for favors without reciprocating. This person is probably taking advantage of you.
Be vocal when something is bothering you. Whether it is your employer, your spouse, or your family member, you should get in the habit of calmly letting people know when they have crossed the line. You might be surprised to learn that this person had no idea that he or she was upsetting you.
3. Gaining a Positive Outlook
3-1. Learn to silence negative thoughts.
Some people say "you are what you eat." Even more so, you are what you Positive thinking has the power to transform a mundane or even unpleasant experience into a wonderful one. Thinking positively will give you the foundation for a happier life, regardless of what happens to you.
If you catch yourself having a negative thought, take a step back, identify the thought, and label it as a "negative" thought. Learning to isolate negative thoughts will help you put your worries and insecurities to rest.
Begin a regular meditation practice. Meditation is the practice of developing mindful awareness. Meditation not only trains you to silence negative thoughts, it helps you calm all thoughts, good or bad, so that you can learn to enjoy the present moment.
3-2. Surround yourself with positive people.
Remember that other peoples' energy will rub off on you, especially if you spend a great deal of time with them. Make a point to spend time with friends and loved ones who make you feel better, not worse.
Before distancing yourself from friends or family members who you consider to be "toxic," try to be a positive influence in their attitudes rather than succumbing to their negativity.
Terminate any physically or emotionally abusive relationships immediately. No matter how forgiving a person you may be, there is no excuse for violence and abuse.
3-3. Be thankful.
Many of us define ourselves in terms of what we want to do or what we want to own. In other words, we define ourselves in terms of what we have. This in essence suggests that we are somehow incomplete. Take some time to be thankful for the things you do have, whether they are physical objects or not, on a daily basis.
Remember positive memories. While it seems impossible to forget embarrassing or sad memories, many of us overlook all of the great memories that have taken place in our lives. Think of the best day(s) you have had in the past month or year. Remember special parties, vacations, and holidays.
Appreciate the wonderful people you have in your life. If you are depressed because you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend, dwelling on this missing element will only make you more unhappy. Take some time to appreciate all the great friends and family members you have in your life.
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Pay attention to your relationships with others.\\nYour relationships with friends, family members, and coworkers reveal a great deal about the kind of person you are. Ask yourself the following questions:\\nDo you frequently argue with friends and family members? Who is usually the one who instigates these arguments?\\nHow do you reconcile disagreements? Do you compromise, or do you always assert your position?\\nAre there certain people in your life that make you feel irritated or insecure? Why is that?\\nHave you been neglecting or ignoring your loved ones? When was the last time you showed a friend or loved one that you care for them?\\n1-3. Identify your fears and insecurities about the future.\\nThis will help you put your fears in perspective. The key is to determine whether a fear is rational (i.e. a real danger), or if it stems from personal insecurities. Consider the following exercise:\\nThink of a fear. For example, \\\"I'm afraid of going back to school because I don't think I'm a strong student.\\\" Now, imagine that one of your good friends or family members told you that he or she felt this way. How would you react? What kind of advice would you give him or her? Would you tell this person to give up, or tell them that it is worth a try? We oftentimes give better advice than we are willing to take ourselves, because of the bias we have toward our own insecurities.\\nRemember that even the most successful inventors, entrepreneurs, and scientists were at one point in their lives doubtful of their own capacity. They were probably told by people around them that what they wanted to do was impossible, and yet they pushed through and followed their dreams.\\n1-4. Start a journal.\\nJournals are a great way to keep track of what has happened in your life (both good and bad) and how you reacted to these situations. Reviewing your journal entries will help you put your life in perspective, notice patterns, and identify recurring problems.\\nGo back and re-read old entries once some time has passed. Now that you are no longer in the heat of the moment, do you think that you reacted appropriately to the situation? How could you have handled it better? Keep these things in mind for the future.\\n2. Choosing The Right Path\\n2-1. Identify your interests.\\nThe best way to have a fulfilling life is to spend your time doing things that you genuinely care about. Consider whether you are interested in art, science, politics, or the environment. Think about what you want your life's legacy to be. How do you want to impact the world around you? These questions will help you find the right career path for you.\\nLearn to distinguish between your hobbies and your bigger interests. Just because you like to play guitar, doesn't necessarily mean you should pursue music as a career. But if you eat, sleep and breathe guitar, then continue to practice and perfect your craft and pursue your dream.\\nDon't give up on your hobbies. Just because your passion isn't lucrative, doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't partake in it. In fact, the opposite is true. Life is about learning to balance work and fun, and giving up either will be detrimental to your emotional health. Remember that if you have never worked at anything, you won't be able to appreciate the free time you have to partake in hobbies or spend time with friends.\\n2-2. Explore and develop your talents.\\nIf you want to reach your full potential, you will have to devote time to strengthening the talents you already have, and uncovering any hidden talents that you haven't discovered yet.\\nTake classes or private lessons in subjects that you are interested in, even if you have no previous experience. You never know when that one elective will open the door to an entirely new career that you had never considered.\\nDon't be discouraged if you realize that you are not skilled at something. Remember that even recognizing what you are good at is still a step in the right direction, pointing you toward what you good at.\\n2-3. Pursue your goals passionately and responsibly.\\nOnce you have set your mind to doing something, follow through with it. Be prepared for obstacles, and don't expect immediate results. All good things take time and hard work, but it will be well worth it in the end when you achieve your goals.\\nRemember that at the end of your life, you are much more likely to regret the things you do than the things you do.\\nChoose goals because they're based on your values, not because you think they will help you earn respect and admiration from other people. You'll feel more fulfilled when you accomplish a goal if you're doing it for yourself, not other people.\\n2-4. Stand up for yourself.\\nIn life, you will undoubtedly come across people who will try to take advantage of you, whether it is financially or emotionally. While you should strive to be a sensitive, caring person on the one hand, you must also be tough-skinned and not let people walk all over you.\\nBe skeptical when people ask you to borrow money, constantly expect you to pay for things, or ask for favors without reciprocating. This person is probably taking advantage of you.\\nBe vocal when something is bothering you. Whether it is your employer, your spouse, or your family member, you should get in the habit of calmly letting people know when they have crossed the line. You might be surprised to learn that this person had no idea that he or she was upsetting you.\\n3. Gaining a Positive Outlook\\n3-1. Learn to silence negative thoughts.\\nSome people say \\\"you are what you eat.\\\" Even more so, you are what you Positive thinking has the power to transform a mundane or even unpleasant experience into a wonderful one. Thinking positively will give you the foundation for a happier life, regardless of what happens to you.\\nIf you catch yourself having a negative thought, take a step back, identify the thought, and label it as a \\\"negative\\\" thought. Learning to isolate negative thoughts will help you put your worries and insecurities to rest.\\nBegin a regular meditation practice. Meditation is the practice of developing mindful awareness. Meditation not only trains you to silence negative thoughts, it helps you calm all thoughts, good or bad, so that you can learn to enjoy the present moment.\\n3-2. Surround yourself with positive people.\\nRemember that other peoples' energy will rub off on you, especially if you spend a great deal of time with them. Make a point to spend time with friends and loved ones who make you feel better, not worse.\\nBefore distancing yourself from friends or family members who you consider to be \\\"toxic,\\\" try to be a positive influence in their attitudes rather than succumbing to their negativity.\\nTerminate any physically or emotionally abusive relationships immediately. No matter how forgiving a person you may be, there is no excuse for violence and abuse.\\n3-3. Be thankful.\\nMany of us define ourselves in terms of what we want to do or what we want to own. In other words, we define ourselves in terms of what we have. This in essence suggests that we are somehow incomplete. Take some time to be thankful for the things you do have, whether they are physical objects or not, on a daily basis.\\nRemember positive memories. While it seems impossible to forget embarrassing or sad memories, many of us overlook all of the great memories that have taken place in our lives. Think of the best day(s) you have had in the past month or year. Remember special parties, vacations, and holidays.\\nAppreciate the wonderful people you have in your life. If you are depressed because you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend, dwelling on this missing element will only make you more unhappy. Take some time to appreciate all the great friends and family members you have in your life.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"A life coach is somebody who helps you manage various aspects of your life, from your career goals to your finances to your personal life. While there are professional life-coaches who are paid for their insights, each and every one of us has the power to write our own destiny. Read this article to learn how.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being Introspective\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Observe your own behavior and thought patterns.\", \"描述\": \"This will help you recognize your strengths and weaknesses, and identify which aspects of your life need improvement. Remember that before you fix something, you must first identify the problem(s).\\nPractice viewing your own life from an objective standpoint, i.e. from the perspective of somebody else. This might take months of practice, so be patient and keep reminding yourself to take a step back every once in a while to reflect.\\nNotice how you react to stress, excitement, anger, and anxiety. While these are universal human emotions, we all handle them differently. Do you handle these negative emotions rationally, or do you let them blow out of proportion? Pay attention to what triggers these emotions: school, work, family, etc.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pay attention to your relationships with others.\", \"描述\": \"Your relationships with friends, family members, and coworkers reveal a great deal about the kind of person you are. Ask yourself the following questions:\\nDo you frequently argue with friends and family members? Who is usually the one who instigates these arguments?\\nHow do you reconcile disagreements? Do you compromise, or do you always assert your position?\\nAre there certain people in your life that make you feel irritated or insecure? Why is that?\\nHave you been neglecting or ignoring your loved ones? When was the last time you showed a friend or loved one that you care for them?\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Identify your fears and insecurities about the future.\", \"描述\": \"This will help you put your fears in perspective. The key is to determine whether a fear is rational (i.e. a real danger), or if it stems from personal insecurities. Consider the following exercise:\\nThink of a fear. For example, \\\"I'm afraid of going back to school because I don't think I'm a strong student.\\\" Now, imagine that one of your good friends or family members told you that he or she felt this way. How would you react? What kind of advice would you give him or her? Would you tell this person to give up, or tell them that it is worth a try? We oftentimes give better advice than we are willing to take ourselves, because of the bias we have toward our own insecurities.\\nRemember that even the most successful inventors, entrepreneurs, and scientists were at one point in their lives doubtful of their own capacity. They were probably told by people around them that what they wanted to do was impossible, and yet they pushed through and followed their dreams.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Start a journal.\", \"描述\": \"Journals are a great way to keep track of what has happened in your life (both good and bad) and how you reacted to these situations. Reviewing your journal entries will help you put your life in perspective, notice patterns, and identify recurring problems.\\nGo back and re-read old entries once some time has passed. Now that you are no longer in the heat of the moment, do you think that you reacted appropriately to the situation? How could you have handled it better? Keep these things in mind for the future.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Choosing The Right Path\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Identify your interests.\", \"描述\": \"The best way to have a fulfilling life is to spend your time doing things that you genuinely care about. Consider whether you are interested in art, science, politics, or the environment. Think about what you want your life's legacy to be. How do you want to impact the world around you? These questions will help you find the right career path for you.\\nLearn to distinguish between your hobbies and your bigger interests. Just because you like to play guitar, doesn't necessarily mean you should pursue music as a career. But if you eat, sleep and breathe guitar, then continue to practice and perfect your craft and pursue your dream.\\nDon't give up on your hobbies. Just because your passion isn't lucrative, doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't partake in it. In fact, the opposite is true. Life is about learning to balance work and fun, and giving up either will be detrimental to your emotional health. Remember that if you have never worked at anything, you won't be able to appreciate the free time you have to partake in hobbies or spend time with friends.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Explore and develop your talents.\", \"描述\": \"If you want to reach your full potential, you will have to devote time to strengthening the talents you already have, and uncovering any hidden talents that you haven't discovered yet.\\nTake classes or private lessons in subjects that you are interested in, even if you have no previous experience. You never know when that one elective will open the door to an entirely new career that you had never considered.\\nDon't be discouraged if you realize that you are not skilled at something. Remember that even recognizing what you are good at is still a step in the right direction, pointing you toward what you good at.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pursue your goals passionately and responsibly.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have set your mind to doing something, follow through with it. Be prepared for obstacles, and don't expect immediate results. All good things take time and hard work, but it will be well worth it in the end when you achieve your goals.\\nRemember that at the end of your life, you are much more likely to regret the things you do than the things you do.\\nChoose goals because they're based on your values, not because you think they will help you earn respect and admiration from other people. You'll feel more fulfilled when you accomplish a goal if you're doing it for yourself, not other people.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stand up for yourself.\", \"描述\": \"In life, you will undoubtedly come across people who will try to take advantage of you, whether it is financially or emotionally. While you should strive to be a sensitive, caring person on the one hand, you must also be tough-skinned and not let people walk all over you.\\nBe skeptical when people ask you to borrow money, constantly expect you to pay for things, or ask for favors without reciprocating. This person is probably taking advantage of you.\\nBe vocal when something is bothering you. Whether it is your employer, your spouse, or your family member, you should get in the habit of calmly letting people know when they have crossed the line. You might be surprised to learn that this person had no idea that he or she was upsetting you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Gaining a Positive Outlook\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn to silence negative thoughts.\", \"描述\": \"Some people say \\\"you are what you eat.\\\" Even more so, you are what you Positive thinking has the power to transform a mundane or even unpleasant experience into a wonderful one. Thinking positively will give you the foundation for a happier life, regardless of what happens to you.\\nIf you catch yourself having a negative thought, take a step back, identify the thought, and label it as a \\\"negative\\\" thought. Learning to isolate negative thoughts will help you put your worries and insecurities to rest.\\nBegin a regular meditation practice. Meditation is the practice of developing mindful awareness. Meditation not only trains you to silence negative thoughts, it helps you calm all thoughts, good or bad, so that you can learn to enjoy the present moment.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Surround yourself with positive people.\", \"描述\": \"Remember that other peoples' energy will rub off on you, especially if you spend a great deal of time with them. Make a point to spend time with friends and loved ones who make you feel better, not worse.\\nBefore distancing yourself from friends or family members who you consider to be \\\"toxic,\\\" try to be a positive influence in their attitudes rather than succumbing to their negativity.\\nTerminate any physically or emotionally abusive relationships immediately. No matter how forgiving a person you may be, there is no excuse for violence and abuse.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be thankful.\", \"描述\": \"Many of us define ourselves in terms of what we want to do or what we want to own. In other words, we define ourselves in terms of what we have. This in essence suggests that we are somehow incomplete. Take some time to be thankful for the things you do have, whether they are physical objects or not, on a daily basis.\\nRemember positive memories. While it seems impossible to forget embarrassing or sad memories, many of us overlook all of the great memories that have taken place in our lives. Think of the best day(s) you have had in the past month or year. Remember special parties, vacations, and holidays.\\nAppreciate the wonderful people you have in your life. If you are depressed because you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend, dwelling on this missing element will only make you more unhappy. Take some time to appreciate all the great friends and family members you have in your life.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Discovering Who You Are
1-1. Find yourself and define yourself on your terms.
Oscar Wilde once said with his usual wit: Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. As humorous as this might seem, it's a basic summation of the truth. Yet, you can't be yourself if you don't know, understand, and accept yourself first. It should be your primary goal to find this out.
Find the time to learn upon what you value and take time to consider what makes up the essence of who you are. As part of this, contemplate your life and choices. Try to think about what kinds of things you would or wouldn't like to do, and act accordingly; finding out through trial and error helps more than you might think it does.
You can even take personality tests, but be careful to only take what you want from them so that you do not let such tests define you. Instead, ensure that the defining you do is based on your own terms and is something you feel absolutely comfortable with. You may feel self-conscious, but over time if you are around the right type of people for you, they will accept you for who you are.
1-2. Don't be surprised if some of your values seem to conflict.
This is a natural result of taking on broad values from a variety of sources, including culture, religion, mentors, inspiring people, educational sources, etc. What does matter is that you continue working through these conflicts to resolve what values feel most true to yourself.
Just because your values seem to conflict doesn't mean you necessarily have to abandon them. Consider it all a part of a dynamic you. You cannot be shoved into any box or pegged. You have values for all different aspects of your life, so it's natural they be different.
1-3. Avoid fixating on the past
One of the most unhealthy approaches to being oneself is to make a decision that who you are is defined by a moment or period of time, after which you spend the rest of your life trying to still be that person from the past rather than someone who is still you but grows with the passing of each season and decade. Allow yourself this space to grow, to improve, to become wiser.
Allow yourself to forgive past errors and past behaviors you're not so proud of. Work on accepting mistakes and choices you've made; they're done and in the past. You had your reasons for them and the decision made sense at the time, so instead of harnessing yourself to past mistakes, allow yourself to learn their lessons and continue to grow.
Look for people around you who proudly proclaim they are no different than they were the day they turned 16 or 26 or 36, or whatever. Do these people seem flexible, easygoing, happy people? Often they are not because they are so busy insisting that nothing has changed for them ever, that they're incapable of taking on new ideas, learning from others, or growing. Growth into every new age and stage of our lives is an essential part of being true to ourselves and to being emotionally healthy and whole.
1-4. Never stop looking for your own strengths.
Over time, these may change and thus, so may your definition of yourself, but never let up in focusing and refocusing on them. They more than adequately balance out your flaws and are the principal reason for not comparing yourself to others.
Comparison leads to resentment. A person filled with resentment cannot focus on the mantra of "be yourself" because they are too busy hankering after someone else!
Comparison leads also to criticism of others. A life filled with criticizing others stems from low self-esteem and a need to pull others off their perches that you've placed them on. That's both a way to lose friends and respect, and it's also a way of never being yourself because you're envy-struck and spending too much time on admiring others for their characteristics and not on yourself.
1-5. Relax
Stop worrying about the worst that could happen, especially in social situations. So what if you fall flat on your face? Or get spinach stuck in your teeth? Or accidentally head butt your date when leaning in for a kiss? Learn to laugh at yourself both when it happens and afterward.
Turn it into a funny story that you can share with others. It lets them know that you're not perfect and makes you feel more at ease, too. It's also an attractive quality for someone to be able to laugh at themselves and not take themselves too seriously!
If people make mean or insensitive judgments, don't take it personally. That's their loss, not yours.
2. Dealing with Others
2-1. Be honest and open
What have you got to hide? We're all imperfect, growing, learning human beings. If you feel ashamed or insecure about any aspect of yourself and you feel that you have to hide those parts of you, whether physically or emotionally then you have to come to terms with that and learn to convert your so-called flaws into individualistic quirks or simply as basic, down-to-earth acknowledgments of your own imperfections.
Try the tactic of owning up to your imperfections mid-argument with someone. You will often discover that suddenly you've removed the very reason for stubbornly holding the line of argument, which is often about preserving face and not giving in. The moment you say, "Yeah, look, I get really irritable when the room's in a mess too. And I acknowledge that I shouldn't leave my clothes in a pile on the floor and yet I do it because that's a lazy part of myself I'm still trying to train out of the habit. I'm sorry. I know I could do better, and I will try," you suddenly infuse an argument with genuine self-honesty that disarms the entire point of the argument.
2-2. Don't compare yourself to others
If you're always striving to be someone you're not already, you'll never be a happy person. This comes about through comparing yourself to others and finding yourself wanting in certain ways. This is a slippery slope to tread, where your thinking will only become more and more negative.
You can always see the appearances others wish to portray publicly but you won't ever see what's really going on behind their facades in their apparently perfect world. By comparing yourself to others, you give their image-portrayal way too much power and reduce your own worth based on a mirage. It's a useless activity that only brings harm.
Instead, value the person you are, love your personality, and embrace your flaws; we all have them, and as explained earlier, being honest is better than running from them.
2-3. Stop caring about how people perceive you.
Some of them will like you and some of them won't. Either attitude is as likely to be right or wrong. It's next-to-impossible to be yourself when you're caught up in constantly wondering "Do they think I'm funny? Does she think I'm fat? Do they think I'm dumb? Am I good/clever/popular enough to be a part of their group of friends?" To be yourself, you've got to let go of these concerns and just let your behavior flow, with only your consideration of others as a filter — their consideration of you.
If you change yourself for one person or group, another person or group may not like you, and you could go on forever in a vicious cycle trying to please people instead of focusing on building up your talents and strengths.
2-4. Stop being a people-pleaser
Always wanting everyone's love and respect is a totally pointless exercise in the end that can harm your personal development and confidence. Who cares what other people say? As Eleanor Roosevelt said once, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent and what matters most is that you listen to your own inner confidence and if it's missing, that you start developing it!
Does this mean no one's opinion in life matters? No. It hurts if you're socially rejected. If you're forced into a situation where you must spend most or all of your time among people who can't stand you for reasons of their own, it's dangerous to internalize their negative ideas of who you are. What you can do is exercise some choice in whose opinions you value more than others. It's much healthier to pay attention to people who genuinely mean you well and who agree with you about what you want to do with your life.
2-5. Surround yourself with positive people.
Don't trivialize what you're going through if you face negative social pressure or bullying. It's easier to withstand it if you are aware of it as pressure and build healthy defenses. Building up a circle of trusted friends and people who share your views and beliefs in life is a good way to help reduce the impact of hostile people. You can tell yourself their opinions don't matter, and they shouldn't, but that's a lot easier when there are others who agree with you and stand by you.
Compare those who love you to whoever the bully is; suddenly you can realize that their opinion of you, your family or your lifestyle, is worthless. We inherently care about the opinions of those we respect and look up to. This works both ways; if someone has no respect for you, then what they say about you is just empty words coming from someone who is one step above being a total stranger.
2-6. Learn the difference between intimidating, sarcastic, or conniving comments and well-intended constructive criticism.
It will focus on real faults that you don't know about, and could do with remedying. In the latter case, people such as parents, mentors, teachers, coaches, etc., might well be telling you things that you need to digest and mull over at your own pace, to make self-improvements for the better. The difference is that their critique of you is intended to be helpful.
These people care about you and are interested in how you grow as a person, and are respectful. Learn how to spot the difference and you will live well, dismissing pointless negative critiques, and learning from the constructive critique.
3. Cultivating Your True Self
3-1. Treat yourself as you'd treat your own best friend.
You value your friends and those close to you; well, who is closer to you than you are? Give yourself the same kind, thoughtful, and respectful treatment that you give to other people you care about. If you had to hang out with yourself for a day, what is the most fun/enjoyable/fulfilled/calm/contented type of person you could be, while still being yourself? What is the best version of you?
Be responsible for yourself and for boosting your self-esteem. If others aren't telling you you're great, don't let it get to you. Instead, tell yourself you're special, wonderful, and worthwhile. When you believe these things about yourself, others will recognize that glow of self-confidence and begin confirming your self-affirmations in no time!
3-2. Develop and express your individuality
Whether it's your sense of style, or even your manner of speaking, if your preferred way of doing something strays from the mainstream and produces positive outcomes, then be proud of it. Be a character, not a type.
Learn to communicate well – the better you can express yourself, the easier it is for the people who like you as you are to find you and the ones who don't to just steer clear.
3-3. Avoid being unfair to yourself.
Sometimes comparison causes us to compare apples with pears. We'd like to be a top movie producer in Hollywood when we're a lowly, aspiring scriptwriter. To see that top producer's lifestyle and find yourself wanting as a result is an unfair comparison – that person has years of experience and hobnobbing behind them, while you're just starting out, testing the waters with writing skills that may one day prove to be exceptional.
Be realistic in your comparisons and only look to other people as inspiration and as sources of motivation, not as a means to belittling yourself.
3-4. Follow your own style
The common thing a lot of people do is copy others' actions because it seems like the better route to fit in, but really, shouldn't you stand out? Standing out is very hard, yes, but you need to try avoid assuming other people's perspectives of you, even if it's not something you would normally do; that's what being yourself is all about.
Whatever you are, accept it. Being different is absolutely beautiful and it attracts people to you. Don't let people change you!
3-5. Accept that some days will be better than others.
People might raise eyebrows and even make fun of you when you feel like you're truly being you, but as long as you can shrug and say, "Hey, that's just me," and leave it at that, people will ultimately respect you for it, and you'll respect yourself. Most people struggle being themselves; if you can do it, they might even admire you.
Sometimes it will hurt when you're teased. While this can be very difficult, and far easier said than done, try your best to flick it off your shoulder. In the end, you'll be a bigger and better person, know who you are, and better able to survive whatever obstacles arise in your future.
4. Standing Tall
4-1. Stand up for yourself.
When someone bullies you, why let them? They never got a certificate saying they had the right to bully! If you have a problem, there are so many good, understanding people eager to help you.
4-2. Stand up for others.
When you catch a bully, it is in your good nature to stop them. No matter how you do it, you have the right to stop it. You believe in yourself.
4-3. Stand up for those you stood up to.
Just because you had to defend yourself doesn't mean these people have no heart!
Tips
Girls and guys, never let anything stop you from being who you are. If you love sports and reading, great for you! You are a human being who is special in so many ways and comparing yourself to other people won't help you be your awesome self. Everyone has awesome in them; you just have to release it.
There will be times when you will wish to be someone else but remember you’re wonderfully and fearfully created. Love you.
Don't say you can do something when you can't just to please someone! This won't help at all, and that person will just find out easily.
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You may feel self-conscious, but over time if you are around the right type of people for you, they will accept you for who you are.\\n1-2. Don't be surprised if some of your values seem to conflict.\\nThis is a natural result of taking on broad values from a variety of sources, including culture, religion, mentors, inspiring people, educational sources, etc. What does matter is that you continue working through these conflicts to resolve what values feel most true to yourself.\\nJust because your values seem to conflict doesn't mean you necessarily have to abandon them. Consider it all a part of a dynamic you. You cannot be shoved into any box or pegged. You have values for all different aspects of your life, so it's natural they be different.\\n1-3. Avoid fixating on the past\\nOne of the most unhealthy approaches to being oneself is to make a decision that who you are is defined by a moment or period of time, after which you spend the rest of your life trying to still be that person from the past rather than someone who is still you but grows with the passing of each season and decade. Allow yourself this space to grow, to improve, to become wiser.\\nAllow yourself to forgive past errors and past behaviors you're not so proud of. Work on accepting mistakes and choices you've made; they're done and in the past. You had your reasons for them and the decision made sense at the time, so instead of harnessing yourself to past mistakes, allow yourself to learn their lessons and continue to grow.\\nLook for people around you who proudly proclaim they are no different than they were the day they turned 16 or 26 or 36, or whatever. Do these people seem flexible, easygoing, happy people? Often they are not because they are so busy insisting that nothing has changed for them ever, that they're incapable of taking on new ideas, learning from others, or growing. Growth into every new age and stage of our lives is an essential part of being true to ourselves and to being emotionally healthy and whole.\\n1-4. Never stop looking for your own strengths.\\nOver time, these may change and thus, so may your definition of yourself, but never let up in focusing and refocusing on them. They more than adequately balance out your flaws and are the principal reason for not comparing yourself to others.\\nComparison leads to resentment. A person filled with resentment cannot focus on the mantra of \\\"be yourself\\\" because they are too busy hankering after someone else!\\nComparison leads also to criticism of others. A life filled with criticizing others stems from low self-esteem and a need to pull others off their perches that you've placed them on. That's both a way to lose friends and respect, and it's also a way of never being yourself because you're envy-struck and spending too much time on admiring others for their characteristics and not on yourself.\\n1-5. Relax\\nStop worrying about the worst that could happen, especially in social situations. So what if you fall flat on your face? Or get spinach stuck in your teeth? Or accidentally head butt your date when leaning in for a kiss? Learn to laugh at yourself both when it happens and afterward.\\nTurn it into a funny story that you can share with others. It lets them know that you're not perfect and makes you feel more at ease, too. It's also an attractive quality for someone to be able to laugh at themselves and not take themselves too seriously!\\nIf people make mean or insensitive judgments, don't take it personally. That's their loss, not yours.\\n2. Dealing with Others\\n2-1. Be honest and open\\nWhat have you got to hide? We're all imperfect, growing, learning human beings. If you feel ashamed or insecure about any aspect of yourself and you feel that you have to hide those parts of you, whether physically or emotionally then you have to come to terms with that and learn to convert your so-called flaws into individualistic quirks or simply as basic, down-to-earth acknowledgments of your own imperfections.\\nTry the tactic of owning up to your imperfections mid-argument with someone. You will often discover that suddenly you've removed the very reason for stubbornly holding the line of argument, which is often about preserving face and not giving in. The moment you say, \\\"Yeah, look, I get really irritable when the room's in a mess too. And I acknowledge that I shouldn't leave my clothes in a pile on the floor and yet I do it because that's a lazy part of myself I'm still trying to train out of the habit. I'm sorry. I know I could do better, and I will try,\\\" you suddenly infuse an argument with genuine self-honesty that disarms the entire point of the argument.\\n2-2. Don't compare yourself to others\\nIf you're always striving to be someone you're not already, you'll never be a happy person. This comes about through comparing yourself to others and finding yourself wanting in certain ways. This is a slippery slope to tread, where your thinking will only become more and more negative.\\nYou can always see the appearances others wish to portray publicly but you won't ever see what's really going on behind their facades in their apparently perfect world. By comparing yourself to others, you give their image-portrayal way too much power and reduce your own worth based on a mirage. It's a useless activity that only brings harm.\\nInstead, value the person you are, love your personality, and embrace your flaws; we all have them, and as explained earlier, being honest is better than running from them.\\n2-3. Stop caring about how people perceive you.\\nSome of them will like you and some of them won't. Either attitude is as likely to be right or wrong. It's next-to-impossible to be yourself when you're caught up in constantly wondering \\\"Do they think I'm funny? Does she think I'm fat? Do they think I'm dumb? Am I good/clever/popular enough to be a part of their group of friends?\\\" To be yourself, you've got to let go of these concerns and just let your behavior flow, with only your consideration of others as a filter — their consideration of you.\\nIf you change yourself for one person or group, another person or group may not like you, and you could go on forever in a vicious cycle trying to please people instead of focusing on building up your talents and strengths.\\n2-4. Stop being a people-pleaser\\nAlways wanting everyone's love and respect is a totally pointless exercise in the end that can harm your personal development and confidence. Who cares what other people say? As Eleanor Roosevelt said once, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent and what matters most is that you listen to your own inner confidence and if it's missing, that you start developing it!\\nDoes this mean no one's opinion in life matters? No. It hurts if you're socially rejected. If you're forced into a situation where you must spend most or all of your time among people who can't stand you for reasons of their own, it's dangerous to internalize their negative ideas of who you are. What you can do is exercise some choice in whose opinions you value more than others. It's much healthier to pay attention to people who genuinely mean you well and who agree with you about what you want to do with your life.\\n2-5. Surround yourself with positive people.\\nDon't trivialize what you're going through if you face negative social pressure or bullying. It's easier to withstand it if you are aware of it as pressure and build healthy defenses. Building up a circle of trusted friends and people who share your views and beliefs in life is a good way to help reduce the impact of hostile people. You can tell yourself their opinions don't matter, and they shouldn't, but that's a lot easier when there are others who agree with you and stand by you.\\nCompare those who love you to whoever the bully is; suddenly you can realize that their opinion of you, your family or your lifestyle, is worthless. We inherently care about the opinions of those we respect and look up to. This works both ways; if someone has no respect for you, then what they say about you is just empty words coming from someone who is one step above being a total stranger.\\n2-6. Learn the difference between intimidating, sarcastic, or conniving comments and well-intended constructive criticism.\\nIt will focus on real faults that you don't know about, and could do with remedying. In the latter case, people such as parents, mentors, teachers, coaches, etc., might well be telling you things that you need to digest and mull over at your own pace, to make self-improvements for the better. The difference is that their critique of you is intended to be helpful.\\nThese people care about you and are interested in how you grow as a person, and are respectful. Learn how to spot the difference and you will live well, dismissing pointless negative critiques, and learning from the constructive critique.\\n3. Cultivating Your True Self\\n3-1. Treat yourself as you'd treat your own best friend.\\nYou value your friends and those close to you; well, who is closer to you than you are? Give yourself the same kind, thoughtful, and respectful treatment that you give to other people you care about. If you had to hang out with yourself for a day, what is the most fun/enjoyable/fulfilled/calm/contented type of person you could be, while still being yourself? What is the best version of you?\\nBe responsible for yourself and for boosting your self-esteem. If others aren't telling you you're great, don't let it get to you. Instead, tell yourself you're special, wonderful, and worthwhile. When you believe these things about yourself, others will recognize that glow of self-confidence and begin confirming your self-affirmations in no time!\\n3-2. Develop and express your individuality\\nWhether it's your sense of style, or even your manner of speaking, if your preferred way of doing something strays from the mainstream and produces positive outcomes, then be proud of it. Be a character, not a type.\\nLearn to communicate well – the better you can express yourself, the easier it is for the people who like you as you are to find you and the ones who don't to just steer clear.\\n3-3. Avoid being unfair to yourself.\\nSometimes comparison causes us to compare apples with pears. We'd like to be a top movie producer in Hollywood when we're a lowly, aspiring scriptwriter. To see that top producer's lifestyle and find yourself wanting as a result is an unfair comparison – that person has years of experience and hobnobbing behind them, while you're just starting out, testing the waters with writing skills that may one day prove to be exceptional.\\nBe realistic in your comparisons and only look to other people as inspiration and as sources of motivation, not as a means to belittling yourself.\\n3-4. Follow your own style\\nThe common thing a lot of people do is copy others' actions because it seems like the better route to fit in, but really, shouldn't you stand out? Standing out is very hard, yes, but you need to try avoid assuming other people's perspectives of you, even if it's not something you would normally do; that's what being yourself is all about.\\nWhatever you are, accept it. Being different is absolutely beautiful and it attracts people to you. Don't let people change you!\\n3-5. Accept that some days will be better than others.\\nPeople might raise eyebrows and even make fun of you when you feel like you're truly being you, but as long as you can shrug and say, \\\"Hey, that's just me,\\\" and leave it at that, people will ultimately respect you for it, and you'll respect yourself. Most people struggle being themselves; if you can do it, they might even admire you.\\nSometimes it will hurt when you're teased. While this can be very difficult, and far easier said than done, try your best to flick it off your shoulder. In the end, you'll be a bigger and better person, know who you are, and better able to survive whatever obstacles arise in your future.\\n4. Standing Tall\\n4-1. Stand up for yourself.\\nWhen someone bullies you, why let them? They never got a certificate saying they had the right to bully! If you have a problem, there are so many good, understanding people eager to help you.\\n4-2. Stand up for others.\\nWhen you catch a bully, it is in your good nature to stop them. No matter how you do it, you have the right to stop it. You believe in yourself.\\n4-3. Stand up for those you stood up to.\\nJust because you had to defend yourself doesn't mean these people have no heart!\\nTips\\nGirls and guys, never let anything stop you from being who you are. If you love sports and reading, great for you! You are a human being who is special in so many ways and comparing yourself to other people won't help you be your awesome self. Everyone has awesome in them; you just have to release it.\\nThere will be times when you will wish to be someone else but remember you’re wonderfully and fearfully created. Love you.\\nDon't say you can do something when you can't just to please someone! This won't help at all, and that person will just find out easily.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"\\\"Be yourself\\\" is quite possibly the most commonly used phrase in the history of individualist-based advice. Be yourself. It's such a vague adage. What does it really mean, to be yourself? And is it really as easy as it sounds? With the steps below, it can be.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Discovering Who You Are\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Find yourself and define yourself on your terms.\", \"描述\": \"Oscar Wilde once said with his usual wit: Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. As humorous as this might seem, it's a basic summation of the truth. Yet, you can't be yourself if you don't know, understand, and accept yourself first. It should be your primary goal to find this out.\\nFind the time to learn upon what you value and take time to consider what makes up the essence of who you are. As part of this, contemplate your life and choices. Try to think about what kinds of things you would or wouldn't like to do, and act accordingly; finding out through trial and error helps more than you might think it does.\\nYou can even take personality tests, but be careful to only take what you want from them so that you do not let such tests define you. Instead, ensure that the defining you do is based on your own terms and is something you feel absolutely comfortable with. You may feel self-conscious, but over time if you are around the right type of people for you, they will accept you for who you are.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't be surprised if some of your values seem to conflict.\", \"描述\": \"This is a natural result of taking on broad values from a variety of sources, including culture, religion, mentors, inspiring people, educational sources, etc. What does matter is that you continue working through these conflicts to resolve what values feel most true to yourself.\\nJust because your values seem to conflict doesn't mean you necessarily have to abandon them. Consider it all a part of a dynamic you. You cannot be shoved into any box or pegged. You have values for all different aspects of your life, so it's natural they be different.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Avoid fixating on the past\", \"描述\": \"One of the most unhealthy approaches to being oneself is to make a decision that who you are is defined by a moment or period of time, after which you spend the rest of your life trying to still be that person from the past rather than someone who is still you but grows with the passing of each season and decade. Allow yourself this space to grow, to improve, to become wiser.\\nAllow yourself to forgive past errors and past behaviors you're not so proud of. Work on accepting mistakes and choices you've made; they're done and in the past. You had your reasons for them and the decision made sense at the time, so instead of harnessing yourself to past mistakes, allow yourself to learn their lessons and continue to grow.\\nLook for people around you who proudly proclaim they are no different than they were the day they turned 16 or 26 or 36, or whatever. Do these people seem flexible, easygoing, happy people? Often they are not because they are so busy insisting that nothing has changed for them ever, that they're incapable of taking on new ideas, learning from others, or growing. Growth into every new age and stage of our lives is an essential part of being true to ourselves and to being emotionally healthy and whole.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Never stop looking for your own strengths.\", \"描述\": \"Over time, these may change and thus, so may your definition of yourself, but never let up in focusing and refocusing on them. They more than adequately balance out your flaws and are the principal reason for not comparing yourself to others.\\nComparison leads to resentment. A person filled with resentment cannot focus on the mantra of \\\"be yourself\\\" because they are too busy hankering after someone else!\\nComparison leads also to criticism of others. A life filled with criticizing others stems from low self-esteem and a need to pull others off their perches that you've placed them on. That's both a way to lose friends and respect, and it's also a way of never being yourself because you're envy-struck and spending too much time on admiring others for their characteristics and not on yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Relax\", \"描述\": \"Stop worrying about the worst that could happen, especially in social situations. So what if you fall flat on your face? Or get spinach stuck in your teeth? Or accidentally head butt your date when leaning in for a kiss? Learn to laugh at yourself both when it happens and afterward.\\nTurn it into a funny story that you can share with others. It lets them know that you're not perfect and makes you feel more at ease, too. It's also an attractive quality for someone to be able to laugh at themselves and not take themselves too seriously!\\nIf people make mean or insensitive judgments, don't take it personally. That's their loss, not yours.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Dealing with Others\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be honest and open\", \"描述\": \"What have you got to hide? We're all imperfect, growing, learning human beings. If you feel ashamed or insecure about any aspect of yourself and you feel that you have to hide those parts of you, whether physically or emotionally then you have to come to terms with that and learn to convert your so-called flaws into individualistic quirks or simply as basic, down-to-earth acknowledgments of your own imperfections.\\nTry the tactic of owning up to your imperfections mid-argument with someone. You will often discover that suddenly you've removed the very reason for stubbornly holding the line of argument, which is often about preserving face and not giving in. The moment you say, \\\"Yeah, look, I get really irritable when the room's in a mess too. And I acknowledge that I shouldn't leave my clothes in a pile on the floor and yet I do it because that's a lazy part of myself I'm still trying to train out of the habit. I'm sorry. I know I could do better, and I will try,\\\" you suddenly infuse an argument with genuine self-honesty that disarms the entire point of the argument.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't compare yourself to others\", \"描述\": \"If you're always striving to be someone you're not already, you'll never be a happy person. This comes about through comparing yourself to others and finding yourself wanting in certain ways. This is a slippery slope to tread, where your thinking will only become more and more negative.\\nYou can always see the appearances others wish to portray publicly but you won't ever see what's really going on behind their facades in their apparently perfect world. By comparing yourself to others, you give their image-portrayal way too much power and reduce your own worth based on a mirage. It's a useless activity that only brings harm.\\nInstead, value the person you are, love your personality, and embrace your flaws; we all have them, and as explained earlier, being honest is better than running from them.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Stop caring about how people perceive you.\", \"描述\": \"Some of them will like you and some of them won't. Either attitude is as likely to be right or wrong. It's next-to-impossible to be yourself when you're caught up in constantly wondering \\\"Do they think I'm funny? Does she think I'm fat? Do they think I'm dumb? Am I good/clever/popular enough to be a part of their group of friends?\\\" To be yourself, you've got to let go of these concerns and just let your behavior flow, with only your consideration of others as a filter — their consideration of you.\\nIf you change yourself for one person or group, another person or group may not like you, and you could go on forever in a vicious cycle trying to please people instead of focusing on building up your talents and strengths.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stop being a people-pleaser\", \"描述\": \"Always wanting everyone's love and respect is a totally pointless exercise in the end that can harm your personal development and confidence. Who cares what other people say? As Eleanor Roosevelt said once, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent and what matters most is that you listen to your own inner confidence and if it's missing, that you start developing it!\\nDoes this mean no one's opinion in life matters? No. It hurts if you're socially rejected. If you're forced into a situation where you must spend most or all of your time among people who can't stand you for reasons of their own, it's dangerous to internalize their negative ideas of who you are. What you can do is exercise some choice in whose opinions you value more than others. It's much healthier to pay attention to people who genuinely mean you well and who agree with you about what you want to do with your life.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Surround yourself with positive people.\", \"描述\": \"Don't trivialize what you're going through if you face negative social pressure or bullying. It's easier to withstand it if you are aware of it as pressure and build healthy defenses. Building up a circle of trusted friends and people who share your views and beliefs in life is a good way to help reduce the impact of hostile people. You can tell yourself their opinions don't matter, and they shouldn't, but that's a lot easier when there are others who agree with you and stand by you.\\nCompare those who love you to whoever the bully is; suddenly you can realize that their opinion of you, your family or your lifestyle, is worthless. We inherently care about the opinions of those we respect and look up to. This works both ways; if someone has no respect for you, then what they say about you is just empty words coming from someone who is one step above being a total stranger.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Learn the difference between intimidating, sarcastic, or conniving comments and well-intended constructive criticism.\", \"描述\": \"It will focus on real faults that you don't know about, and could do with remedying. In the latter case, people such as parents, mentors, teachers, coaches, etc., might well be telling you things that you need to digest and mull over at your own pace, to make self-improvements for the better. The difference is that their critique of you is intended to be helpful.\\nThese people care about you and are interested in how you grow as a person, and are respectful. Learn how to spot the difference and you will live well, dismissing pointless negative critiques, and learning from the constructive critique.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Cultivating Your True Self\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Treat yourself as you'd treat your own best friend.\", \"描述\": \"You value your friends and those close to you; well, who is closer to you than you are? Give yourself the same kind, thoughtful, and respectful treatment that you give to other people you care about. If you had to hang out with yourself for a day, what is the most fun/enjoyable/fulfilled/calm/contented type of person you could be, while still being yourself? What is the best version of you?\\nBe responsible for yourself and for boosting your self-esteem. If others aren't telling you you're great, don't let it get to you. Instead, tell yourself you're special, wonderful, and worthwhile. When you believe these things about yourself, others will recognize that glow of self-confidence and begin confirming your self-affirmations in no time!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Develop and express your individuality\", \"描述\": \"Whether it's your sense of style, or even your manner of speaking, if your preferred way of doing something strays from the mainstream and produces positive outcomes, then be proud of it. Be a character, not a type.\\nLearn to communicate well – the better you can express yourself, the easier it is for the people who like you as you are to find you and the ones who don't to just steer clear.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Avoid being unfair to yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes comparison causes us to compare apples with pears. We'd like to be a top movie producer in Hollywood when we're a lowly, aspiring scriptwriter. To see that top producer's lifestyle and find yourself wanting as a result is an unfair comparison – that person has years of experience and hobnobbing behind them, while you're just starting out, testing the waters with writing skills that may one day prove to be exceptional.\\nBe realistic in your comparisons and only look to other people as inspiration and as sources of motivation, not as a means to belittling yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Follow your own style\", \"描述\": \"The common thing a lot of people do is copy others' actions because it seems like the better route to fit in, but really, shouldn't you stand out? Standing out is very hard, yes, but you need to try avoid assuming other people's perspectives of you, even if it's not something you would normally do; that's what being yourself is all about.\\nWhatever you are, accept it. Being different is absolutely beautiful and it attracts people to you. Don't let people change you!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Accept that some days will be better than others.\", \"描述\": \"People might raise eyebrows and even make fun of you when you feel like you're truly being you, but as long as you can shrug and say, \\\"Hey, that's just me,\\\" and leave it at that, people will ultimately respect you for it, and you'll respect yourself. Most people struggle being themselves; if you can do it, they might even admire you.\\nSometimes it will hurt when you're teased. While this can be very difficult, and far easier said than done, try your best to flick it off your shoulder. In the end, you'll be a bigger and better person, know who you are, and better able to survive whatever obstacles arise in your future.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Standing Tall\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stand up for yourself.\", \"描述\": \"When someone bullies you, why let them? They never got a certificate saying they had the right to bully! 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How to Be Yourself Around Someone You Admire or Like
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1. Keeping Your Cool
1-1. Smile.
Smiling has been shown to give people a better impression of you. When you smile, you show that you’re friendly and confident. If you want to make a good impression on someone you admire or like, it’s best to smile when you meet them.
1-2. Breathe.
One of the key strategies for keeping your cool when you’re nervous for any reason is to simply breathe and focus on your breathing. Your heart will naturally slow down and you’ll feel calmer.
1-3. Slow down when you’re talking.
When you're nervous, you probably tend to talk faster, and this can cause the person you're talking to miss what you say. When you're talking to someone you admire or like, you don't want them to miss what you say! Speed-talking will make you seem nervous. Repeat to yourself, “Slow down. It’s going to be okay.”
1-4. Make your posture seem relaxed but attentive.
Making eye contact will let the person you're talking to feel know you’re paying attention. You’ll want to keep a good posture by standing with your back straight and your arms at your sides. If you’re meeting this person for the first time, be careful not to act overly familiar by waving at them as though you already know them well.
1-5. Listen to what the person you admire or like are saying.
In addition to helping you keeping your cool, paying attention to what they are saying will let you to have something intelligent to say back. You may find yourself getting lost in anxiety or overthinking what you want to say to back to them. If that happens, think to yourself, “Listen.” This should help you return to the moment.
1-6. Ask open-ended questions.
By asking open-ended questions, you can get to know who they really are, not just your impression of them. It's okay to be quiet and listen while they talk. Give yourself time to think about an open-ended question they've just asked. Say, "Let me think about that for a second." As long as you answer the question they're asking openly and honestly, such a response won't make you seem like you're dodging something uncomfortable.
It's also perfectly okay to set boundaries when they ask something you don't feel comfortable answering. You can say something like, "I appreciate how curious you are but I'm not really comfortable answering that right now."
2. Being Yourself
2-1. Prepare yourself.
If you’re going to meet someone you admire or like for the first time, make sure you've researched about or found out a bit about them. This will help you know how to connect to with them. You may also want to prepare yourself by listing out your good qualities on a sheet of paper before the meeting. This will remind you that you are worthwhile too, no matter how the interaction goes.
If you're around someone you admire or like, you may want to look on their social media to see what they like or ask a mutual friend.
If you're inviting them to hang out, try to choose an activity that makes you feel comfortable, like going for a hike or playing video games.
2-2. Don’t lie or exaggerate about yourself.
It may be tempting to lie about connections, positions, or even personality qualities in order to make yourself look better to someone you admire or like. However, simply put, with the internet, it is often easy to find out any lies, especially if you are going to have a working relationship with the person for any amount of time. Secondly, when you lie about your abilities or personality, it can make you less confident about yourself and make the interaction even more tense.
For someone you like and may want to date, it is especially important not to lie, as dishonesty can quickly destroy trust in a relationship.
2-3. Find common ground.
Finding something in common is one of the quickest ways to make a connection. While the research you have done about them will help you with this, it is important not to mirror them too much as this will make you seem creepy. However, simply talking over a recent show or book that has come out can foster conversation. Talking about common interests can also help connect you with a crush as well.
3. Keeping Perspective
3-1. Don’t think the worst.
Remember that even if you make a mistake, it is unlikely that it will seem as big a mistake (if they see it as one at all) to the person you admire or like. When you're getting ready to meet someone you admire or like, talk the negative thoughts down and remind yourself that it is extremely unlikely that the worst, or even something very bad, will happen when you meet the person you admire or like.
3-2. Remember that the person you admire or like is just a person like you.
A lot of times you might get nervous around people you admire or like because you've built them into something they’re not. They aren’t perfect and they are human. They’ll do some things better than you, but it is just as likely that you'll do some things better than them. Remember to appreciate their skills as well as your own.
3-3. Stay in the moment.
Staying in the moment can help you keep perspective as it allows you to forget what the moment will look like to your friends or to think the worst of any mistakes you make. Taking the interaction moment by moment will help you to listen and also say what you want to say.
Tips
Try to imagine yourself with a family member or friend you feel comfortable around.
Try not to worry about what the other person is thinking.
Remember to enjoy yourself. You are, after all, spending time with someone you admire or like.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Keeping Your Cool\\n1-1. Smile.\\nSmiling has been shown to give people a better impression of you. When you smile, you show that you’re friendly and confident. If you want to make a good impression on someone you admire or like, it’s best to smile when you meet them.\\n1-2. Breathe.\\nOne of the key strategies for keeping your cool when you’re nervous for any reason is to simply breathe and focus on your breathing. Your heart will naturally slow down and you’ll feel calmer.\\n1-3. Slow down when you’re talking.\\nWhen you're nervous, you probably tend to talk faster, and this can cause the person you're talking to miss what you say. When you're talking to someone you admire or like, you don't want them to miss what you say! Speed-talking will make you seem nervous. Repeat to yourself, “Slow down. It’s going to be okay.”\\n1-4. Make your posture seem relaxed but attentive.\\nMaking eye contact will let the person you're talking to feel know you’re paying attention. You’ll want to keep a good posture by standing with your back straight and your arms at your sides. If you’re meeting this person for the first time, be careful not to act overly familiar by waving at them as though you already know them well.\\n1-5. Listen to what the person you admire or like are saying.\\nIn addition to helping you keeping your cool, paying attention to what they are saying will let you to have something intelligent to say back. You may find yourself getting lost in anxiety or overthinking what you want to say to back to them. If that happens, think to yourself, “Listen.” This should help you return to the moment.\\n1-6. Ask open-ended questions.\\nBy asking open-ended questions, you can get to know who they really are, not just your impression of them. It's okay to be quiet and listen while they talk. Give yourself time to think about an open-ended question they've just asked. Say, \\\"Let me think about that for a second.\\\" As long as you answer the question they're asking openly and honestly, such a response won't make you seem like you're dodging something uncomfortable.\\nIt's also perfectly okay to set boundaries when they ask something you don't feel comfortable answering. You can say something like, \\\"I appreciate how curious you are but I'm not really comfortable answering that right now.\\\"\\n2. Being Yourself\\n2-1. Prepare yourself.\\nIf you’re going to meet someone you admire or like for the first time, make sure you've researched about or found out a bit about them. This will help you know how to connect to with them. You may also want to prepare yourself by listing out your good qualities on a sheet of paper before the meeting. This will remind you that you are worthwhile too, no matter how the interaction goes.\\nIf you're around someone you admire or like, you may want to look on their social media to see what they like or ask a mutual friend.\\nIf you're inviting them to hang out, try to choose an activity that makes you feel comfortable, like going for a hike or playing video games.\\n2-2. Don’t lie or exaggerate about yourself.\\nIt may be tempting to lie about connections, positions, or even personality qualities in order to make yourself look better to someone you admire or like. However, simply put, with the internet, it is often easy to find out any lies, especially if you are going to have a working relationship with the person for any amount of time. Secondly, when you lie about your abilities or personality, it can make you less confident about yourself and make the interaction even more tense.\\nFor someone you like and may want to date, it is especially important not to lie, as dishonesty can quickly destroy trust in a relationship.\\n2-3. Find common ground.\\nFinding something in common is one of the quickest ways to make a connection. While the research you have done about them will help you with this, it is important not to mirror them too much as this will make you seem creepy. However, simply talking over a recent show or book that has come out can foster conversation. Talking about common interests can also help connect you with a crush as well.\\n3. Keeping Perspective\\n3-1. Don’t think the worst.\\nRemember that even if you make a mistake, it is unlikely that it will seem as big a mistake (if they see it as one at all) to the person you admire or like. When you're getting ready to meet someone you admire or like, talk the negative thoughts down and remind yourself that it is extremely unlikely that the worst, or even something very bad, will happen when you meet the person you admire or like.\\n3-2. Remember that the person you admire or like is just a person like you.\\nA lot of times you might get nervous around people you admire or like because you've built them into something they’re not. They aren’t perfect and they are human. They’ll do some things better than you, but it is just as likely that you'll do some things better than them. Remember to appreciate their skills as well as your own.\\n3-3. Stay in the moment.\\nStaying in the moment can help you keep perspective as it allows you to forget what the moment will look like to your friends or to think the worst of any mistakes you make. Taking the interaction moment by moment will help you to listen and also say what you want to say.\\nTips\\nTry to imagine yourself with a family member or friend you feel comfortable around.\\nTry not to worry about what the other person is thinking.\\nRemember to enjoy yourself. You are, after all, spending time with someone you admire or like.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"It's hard to meet someone you admire or like. Most people act like a totally different person when they are around someone they admire or like. Keeping your cool, being yourself, or keeping perspective will all help you to be yourself around that person and overcome any anxiety. With time and a little practice, being around someone you admire or like will become easier.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keeping Your Cool\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Smile.\", \"描述\": \"Smiling has been shown to give people a better impression of you. When you smile, you show that you’re friendly and confident. If you want to make a good impression on someone you admire or like, it’s best to smile when you meet them.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Breathe.\", \"描述\": \"One of the key strategies for keeping your cool when you’re nervous for any reason is to simply breathe and focus on your breathing. Your heart will naturally slow down and you’ll feel calmer.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Slow down when you’re talking.\", \"描述\": \"When you're nervous, you probably tend to talk faster, and this can cause the person you're talking to miss what you say. When you're talking to someone you admire or like, you don't want them to miss what you say! Speed-talking will make you seem nervous. Repeat to yourself, “Slow down. It’s going to be okay.”\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Make your posture seem relaxed but attentive.\", \"描述\": \"Making eye contact will let the person you're talking to feel know you’re paying attention. You’ll want to keep a good posture by standing with your back straight and your arms at your sides. If you’re meeting this person for the first time, be careful not to act overly familiar by waving at them as though you already know them well.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Listen to what the person you admire or like are saying.\", \"描述\": \"In addition to helping you keeping your cool, paying attention to what they are saying will let you to have something intelligent to say back. You may find yourself getting lost in anxiety or overthinking what you want to say to back to them. If that happens, think to yourself, “Listen.” This should help you return to the moment.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Ask open-ended questions.\", \"描述\": \"By asking open-ended questions, you can get to know who they really are, not just your impression of them. It's okay to be quiet and listen while they talk. Give yourself time to think about an open-ended question they've just asked. Say, \\\"Let me think about that for a second.\\\" As long as you answer the question they're asking openly and honestly, such a response won't make you seem like you're dodging something uncomfortable.\\nIt's also perfectly okay to set boundaries when they ask something you don't feel comfortable answering. You can say something like, \\\"I appreciate how curious you are but I'm not really comfortable answering that right now.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Being Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Prepare yourself.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re going to meet someone you admire or like for the first time, make sure you've researched about or found out a bit about them. This will help you know how to connect to with them. You may also want to prepare yourself by listing out your good qualities on a sheet of paper before the meeting. This will remind you that you are worthwhile too, no matter how the interaction goes.\\nIf you're around someone you admire or like, you may want to look on their social media to see what they like or ask a mutual friend.\\nIf you're inviting them to hang out, try to choose an activity that makes you feel comfortable, like going for a hike or playing video games.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don’t lie or exaggerate about yourself.\", \"描述\": \"It may be tempting to lie about connections, positions, or even personality qualities in order to make yourself look better to someone you admire or like. However, simply put, with the internet, it is often easy to find out any lies, especially if you are going to have a working relationship with the person for any amount of time. 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Remember to appreciate their skills as well as your own.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Stay in the moment.\", \"描述\": \"Staying in the moment can help you keep perspective as it allows you to forget what the moment will look like to your friends or to think the worst of any mistakes you make. Taking the interaction moment by moment will help you to listen and also say what you want to say.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Try to imagine yourself with a family member or friend you feel comfortable around.\\n\", \"Try not to worry about what the other person is thinking.\\n\", \"Remember to enjoy yourself. You are, after all, spending time with someone you admire or like.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Steps
1-1. Associate yourself with people with whom you feel comfortable.
Find new friends that like to act like themselves, too. Also, try not to undersell yourself either, presenting a false personality.
1-2. Act normal.
Hegemony causes you to act differently from your friends to your family. Act as if you were at home, as home is where you feel comfortable the most and can act natural.
1-3. Treat others the way you want to be treated.
Everybody deserves respect, including you. If you find yourself out of the ordinary, stop and think about the feelings of others and how your feelings would be affected by your actions from another person's perspective.
1-4. Don't try to be perfect.
Think of a person who acts like he is perfect and then think of what is wrong with him. There is always a 'wrong' with them. Another thing, don't act like you're not so perfect because you can lose lots of friends that way too.
1-5. Be assertive.
Take control of your life. If someone is controlling your actions, take back that control by telling a responsible adult or ignoring that person.
Bossy people are different to bullies. If you feel threatened or experience aggressive behaviour, tell someone immediately.
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1-6. Accept yourself.
You are the first person to notice your mistakes and imperfections. Be aware of your attitude and behaviour toward others and either change for the betterment of yourself or for the respect of others.
Note that accepting yourself is not the same as becoming someone you want to be. Accepting yourself means to understand who you are in a variety of situations, aware of the way you react, respond and feel.
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1-7. Keep a journal.
Recording your thoughts and memorable moments will help maintain a healthy connection between your mental and spiritual awareness. Use this to make improvements to your mind, body and soul.
1-8. Have a purpose.
What are your goals, dreams and aspirations? Answering these questions will help your mind prepare for long-term achievements and make the most out of your developing maturity.
1-9. Share your thoughts.
Expressing yourself is a great way to appreciate yourself. Sharing your talents, opinions and goals can keep you on track to succeeding those goals. You may even make some long-lasting relationships with people who share the same interests and inspirations as you do.
1-10. Authorise yourself.
Stand tall! This withholds a rush of confidence and will improve your body language as well by sending positive signals.
1-11. Listen to your heart.
Your heart will never fail you! Worrying yourself about what others do and say, you will never learn to be yourself.
1-12. Smile!
be happy with yourself!
Tips
The best advice is to be comfortable with yourself. What ever you do or what ever you say, make sure it's your own opinion or what you want to do.
Always remember the saying, "You laugh at me because I'm different. I laugh at you because you're all the same." Some people copy each other because they don't have their own style. Be unique and people will notice you and like you.
Set goals for yourself. Try hard to achieve these goals, but don't take risks that may hurt you or others.
Warnings
Sometimes you may disregard others' opinions and thoughts about your actions. However, not all outside sources are a hindrance to your self-awareness or esteem. If what you think or do may be dangerous or otherwise, think twice before considering those actions.
You may encounter people who will try to change you forcibly. If such experiences become overwhelming, tell a responsible adult immediately. If your life is threatened, contact law enforcement. Bullying of any kind and peer pressure are serious issues that can be stopped if the problem is addressed early.
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How to Be Zen About Getting Bad Grades in College
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1. Coming to Terms With Your Grade
1-1. Take responsibility for the grade.
While it can be a blow to your pride, you should understand that you are responsible for the grade you have received. Conflicts with professors can happen, and external factors can affect your grade, but in most situations, you have to realize that if you want to improve, you have to act.
1-2. Put the situation into perspective.
Realize that bad things unfortunately happen in life. While getting a bad grade may put you in full panic mode, you have to put the situation into perspective in order to get to that Zen place. Do you have your health? Do you have a family who loves you and friends who rally around you? Count your blessings. Remember that while grades are important, they aren’t the only thing that should matter in your life.
1-3. Speak to a trusted confidante.
When you are upset, it is all right to discuss it with a friend or family member. Do not feel as though you have to keep it to yourself. It is understandable if you are concerned about disappointing your parents, ruining your GPA, or making a bad impression on your professors. Know that you can pull through this and that you can find support.
You can even book an appointment with your college's mental health counselors (often known as the Campus and Psychological Services or CAPS). These are trusted professionals who are trained to help stressed out and upset college students.
Do not go on the internet and write your complaints online. These can be seen by other students, college officials, or possibly your professors. There can be many consequences from this. Talk in private to a friend or counselor.
1-4. Give yourself a break.
While you may be stressed out, now is not the time to neglect your well-being. Get ice cream with a friend, watch a movie, or take a bubble bath. Do an activity that relaxes you. The goal is not to run away from the bad grade but to put yourself in a mental state where you can deal with it. Once you are relaxed, look back over your grade.
1-5. Remind yourself that grades do not determine your self-worth.
You are more than your grades. Good grades can give you great validation, but you should not let bad grades make you feel worthless. A bad grade does not mean you are stupid or that you are incapable of graduating college. Everybody has other great talents, qualities, and characteristics that can't be measured by a grade in school.
1-6. Meditate.
When alone in your room, take a few minutes to close your eyes. Breathe in and out deeply, making sure to focus on your breath. Allow your thoughts to drift away. Think about nothing, and whenever your grade anxieties surface, push them away. You can try using soft music to help calm you. Try meditating for fifteen to thirty minutes.
If it is hard for you to meditate for a long time, try using a meditation app, like The Mindfulness App or Headspace. These offer guided meditations to help you keep your focus.
Yoga is another great way to keep calm and achieve zen. Many campuses offer yoga classes. Check with your campus gym to see if you can sign up for a class.
1-7. Calm down during panic attacks using relaxation techniques.
Sometimes you don't have time to meditate when you feel anxious or panicked. You can use short relaxation techniques to soothe your mood. Stop what you are doing. Close your eyes, and count to ten. Visualize a calm and happy place, such as the ocean or a babbling brook. These techniques will help your body relax, and they will release any anxiety you have.
You can tense your muscles and slowly release them during your count. Or you can squeeze a stress ball and slowly relax your grip.
While visualizing your happy place, try to invoke all of your senses. If you are on the ocean, imagine the wind, the salty taste of the air, and the sand between your toes. This will make visualization more effective.
Remember to breathe deeply. Breathe in and out for every count up to ten.
1-8. Avoid drugs and alcohol.
Some people are so distressed about their grades that they start partying harder to forget about it, starting a vicious cycle. When you are stressed out about a bad grade, try to avoid drinking until you have calmed down.
2. Determining What Went Wrong
2-1. Calculate how much you studied.
Before you go into full panic mode, reflect on what you think led to poor grade(s). Did you study and put in your full effort? Did you slack off and skip tests? Understanding your study habits can help you understand where you need to improve.
Perhaps you gave it your all. While there may be nothing more frustrating than studying your brains out only to receive a bad grade, you have to remember that you did everything in your power to be successful. Next time, perhaps try changing up your study habits or getting help from a tutoring center.
Perhaps you slacked off and didn’t try. What you may have learned is that the days of "winging it" on talent alone are well and truly over. Learn from it, and do better next time through practice and hard work.
2-2. Consider what materials you studied.
Look back over your notes, readings, and exercises. What sections or assignments did you not understand? What did the syllabus say about certain tests or units? Try to see if there was a misunderstanding in what you were supposed to know or do.
Perhaps you only studied things that interested you. If anything was too hard or uninteresting, you might have turned back to the more interesting parts of the homework and ignored the harder or dull parts. Try to power through these parts next time.
Perhaps you only read the bare minimum for the class. Try adding extra readings to your homework. If you don’t understand a reading, go to the library, ask a tutor, or search on the internet for an explanation.
2-3. Factor in your class attendance.
Some professors take off points for missing too many classes. Other times, missing class could have made you miss key information. Look over your attendance record. Try to add up how many classes you missed.
Were these excused absences? Did you have a doctor’s note when you were sick? If family member died, did you get a letter from the Dean’s Office? Answering no to any of these questions might be the reason why even justified absences were not excused.
2-4. Identify outside influences.
If you are unwell or unable to afford basic necessities, you may struggle in college. In this case, talk to your doctor and guidance counselor to see what you need to do to tackle these issues successfully, including whether you need to take a break to improve your personal situation first. Unless it's too close to the end of semester, dropping one or more classes to make it more manageable may be a good decision. Common external factors include:
A death in the family
Working a part-time or full-time job
Raising young children
Mental health problems
Some colleges may let you negotiate the grade to an Incomplete if you have mitigating life circumstances, or you may be able to retake the class.
2-5. Consider how much you socialize.
When major life events become all-consuming, sometimes you can't keep up. Perhaps you have a new boyfriend or girlfriend who takes up all of your time. Maybe you are part of a sorority or fraternity that hosts frequent parties. It’s important to have a healthy social life, but if you're spending too much time partying and not enough time hitting the books, you could be ruining your GPA. Commit to buckling down and working or socializing less; use social events as treats at the end of study rounds rather than a nightly activity.
2-6. Meet with your professors.
Even in college, showing that you care can go a long way with college professors. They may realize you had certain difficulties, and they will appreciate your commitment to improve. Reaching out to your teachers may help you develop a deeper understanding about the class, how you understood the material, and how you could improve your performance in the future.
Visit them during their office hours, or write them an email to set up an appointment. It is almost always better to discuss this in person.
Although it can be hard, you can approach the subject in a calm, sincere way. You can say, “I was really disappointed with my grade on this last assignment. I was wondering what I could have done to do better. In the future, how should I approach an assignment like this?”
If you wait until the end of the semester to talk to your professor, it may be too late to change or improve your grade.
3. Creating a New Study Philosophy
3-1. Evaluate the total impact.
In order to reach a sense of peace about your grades, determine how big of an impact the bad grade will have overall on your college career. In some cases, a bad quiz grade won't do much to destroy your average. If you failed one or more classes, you may have dropped your GPA. Instead of getting upset, take a few deep breaths and look at the big picture, making concrete plans to fix what you can.
If you’re in your first year of college, you may be able to recover easily from a bad semester.
You can calculate what grades you will need from this point on to achieve your ideal GPA. This can give you a sense of what can be done in the future.
3-2. Identify areas of improvement.
Perhaps you’ve determined that you have poor study skills. Maybe you realize that your notes are disorganized or that you keep forgetting due dates. Once you have identified these issues, you can take steps to fix them. Make a commitment to change.
If you are forgetful, you can buy a calendar, mark down important dates, and set reminders on your phones.
If you have time management problems, you can make a schedule and reward yourself with treats when you finish tasks.
3-3. Create new goals.
Identify where you want to be when you graduate? Is there a career you want? Do you want to be making a certain amount of money? Do you want to apply to graduate school? Create a list of manageable goals. After you decide on a few, list some practical steps towards attaining those goals.
For example, if you want to apply to medical school, you should keep a list of what courses you need to take, what GPA you need when you graduate, and what extracurriculars look good on a medical school application. Your list of practical steps should also include things like “Study for the MCAT” or “Research good medical schools.”
3-4. Realize that you can improve.
Part of the process is understanding that while you can’t change the past, you can change the future. Reassure yourself that you can fix your problems. Once you know what you have done wrong, you can start taking steps to improving.
4. Moving On
4-1. Make an appointment with your guidance counselor.
If you're concerned about how the grade(s) will impact your college future, consult with your guidance counselor to create a plan. Perhaps you took courses that were too difficult, or maybe you should explore other majors. With the assistance of your counselor (and perhaps your parents, guardians, or other mentors), create a plan that will get you back on track.
4-2. Develop a plan to improve your performance.
Formulate a specific, step-by-step plan that will help you do better next time. Feeling as if you have power over the situation will help you find peace and give you goals to work toward for next time.
This plan should include how many hours a week you will study, what grades you want in each of your classes, how you will manage any medical conditions, and how many hours a week you will socialize, work, etc.
4-3. Examine your entire schedule.
If you packed last semester’s schedule with high-level, difficult courses you may have the answer to why your grades tanked. Even the most highly intelligent individual should give him or herself a break. Try mixing difficult courses with some of your easier or lighter courses for a balanced schedule.
4-4. Stay on top of your studies.
The key to staying zen is to now keep up with your studies at a pace that matches what you need to be learning. Staying organized, committed, and persistent will help you to stay zen in your college studies. However, if the studies are not improving after you've made changes, then it's probable that you need to seriously consider changes to the career path you've mapped out for yourself. Spending energy on something that isn't working out for you will only worsen your situation.
4-5. Study smarter, not harder.
You do not want to spend sixteen hours a day studying if you are not learning anything. You will only burn yourself out. Find study methods that work for you in the future. There are a few tactics you can do to help improve memory and comprehension:
Rewrite your notes every night after class. This will help you recall details. It will also help keep your notes legible.
Do ten flash cards a day. Memorize these ten before adding another ten the next day. Memorizing in small batches will help you remember.
Take notes as you read. After you’re done reading a passage, write down a summary of what you just read. This will help you understand what you read better.
When taking notes by hand, use block letters rather than cursive writing. The results are more likely to be legible and it becomes a habit fast. Half of the benefit of note taking is that writing it down tells your brain to put it in long term memory.
Test yourself after each passage. Do math exercises that test the principles you just learned. Quiz yourself on historical dates. These recall exercises will prepare you for the real test.
Tips
If possible, respectfully ask your professor if you can review the test or paper to ensure the grade you received was justified. In some (but rare) occasions the professor may have made an error grading your work.
If things are going bad early in the semester, consider dropping one or more classes to bring the load down to something you can handle. "Drop and change" is also usually possible in the first few weeks.
Realize that dropping a course is a last resort with a variety of consequences. Improving your effort and persisting for success is always your best option. Dropping reinforces an escape mentality rather than one of persistence and grit.
Warnings
Changing bad habits like socializing too much or not studying well enough takes trial and error. Rather than going "all or nothing" and quitting when that fails, set gradual steps and goals.
If you're not getting enough food or sleep or both, this takes its toll in a nasty way. It's gradual. Get help from the school social worker if it's a matter of finances.
If you are suffering from mental health challenges or from physical disabilities that are affecting your ability to study, do not sit back and suffer in silence. Most colleges and universities have specialty services in place to help you succeed and have the power to make adjustments to schedules direct with professors or schools in order to ensure that you can cope. Trying to be strong in spite of such challenges is admirable but can cause you to fail long-term, so seek the help that is there for taking.
Never do anything destructive (to yourself or anyone else) in response to the poor grades. Remember, this too will pass.
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Do not feel as though you have to keep it to yourself. It is understandable if you are concerned about disappointing your parents, ruining your GPA, or making a bad impression on your professors. Know that you can pull through this and that you can find support.\\nYou can even book an appointment with your college's mental health counselors (often known as the Campus and Psychological Services or CAPS). These are trusted professionals who are trained to help stressed out and upset college students.\\nDo not go on the internet and write your complaints online. These can be seen by other students, college officials, or possibly your professors. There can be many consequences from this. Talk in private to a friend or counselor.\\n1-4. Give yourself a break.\\nWhile you may be stressed out, now is not the time to neglect your well-being. Get ice cream with a friend, watch a movie, or take a bubble bath. Do an activity that relaxes you. The goal is not to run away from the bad grade but to put yourself in a mental state where you can deal with it. Once you are relaxed, look back over your grade.\\n1-5. Remind yourself that grades do not determine your self-worth.\\nYou are more than your grades. Good grades can give you great validation, but you should not let bad grades make you feel worthless. A bad grade does not mean you are stupid or that you are incapable of graduating college. Everybody has other great talents, qualities, and characteristics that can't be measured by a grade in school.\\n1-6. Meditate.\\nWhen alone in your room, take a few minutes to close your eyes. Breathe in and out deeply, making sure to focus on your breath. Allow your thoughts to drift away. Think about nothing, and whenever your grade anxieties surface, push them away. You can try using soft music to help calm you. Try meditating for fifteen to thirty minutes.\\nIf it is hard for you to meditate for a long time, try using a meditation app, like The Mindfulness App or Headspace. These offer guided meditations to help you keep your focus.\\nYoga is another great way to keep calm and achieve zen. Many campuses offer yoga classes. Check with your campus gym to see if you can sign up for a class.\\n1-7. Calm down during panic attacks using relaxation techniques.\\nSometimes you don't have time to meditate when you feel anxious or panicked. You can use short relaxation techniques to soothe your mood. Stop what you are doing. Close your eyes, and count to ten. Visualize a calm and happy place, such as the ocean or a babbling brook. These techniques will help your body relax, and they will release any anxiety you have.\\nYou can tense your muscles and slowly release them during your count. Or you can squeeze a stress ball and slowly relax your grip.\\nWhile visualizing your happy place, try to invoke all of your senses. If you are on the ocean, imagine the wind, the salty taste of the air, and the sand between your toes. This will make visualization more effective.\\nRemember to breathe deeply. Breathe in and out for every count up to ten.\\n1-8. Avoid drugs and alcohol.\\nSome people are so distressed about their grades that they start partying harder to forget about it, starting a vicious cycle. When you are stressed out about a bad grade, try to avoid drinking until you have calmed down.\\n2. Determining What Went Wrong\\n2-1. Calculate how much you studied.\\nBefore you go into full panic mode, reflect on what you think led to poor grade(s). Did you study and put in your full effort? Did you slack off and skip tests? Understanding your study habits can help you understand where you need to improve. \\nPerhaps you gave it your all. While there may be nothing more frustrating than studying your brains out only to receive a bad grade, you have to remember that you did everything in your power to be successful. Next time, perhaps try changing up your study habits or getting help from a tutoring center.\\nPerhaps you slacked off and didn’t try. What you may have learned is that the days of \\\"winging it\\\" on talent alone are well and truly over. Learn from it, and do better next time through practice and hard work.\\n2-2. Consider what materials you studied.\\nLook back over your notes, readings, and exercises. What sections or assignments did you not understand? What did the syllabus say about certain tests or units? Try to see if there was a misunderstanding in what you were supposed to know or do.\\nPerhaps you only studied things that interested you. If anything was too hard or uninteresting, you might have turned back to the more interesting parts of the homework and ignored the harder or dull parts. Try to power through these parts next time.\\nPerhaps you only read the bare minimum for the class. Try adding extra readings to your homework. If you don’t understand a reading, go to the library, ask a tutor, or search on the internet for an explanation.\\n2-3. Factor in your class attendance.\\nSome professors take off points for missing too many classes. Other times, missing class could have made you miss key information. Look over your attendance record. Try to add up how many classes you missed.\\nWere these excused absences? Did you have a doctor’s note when you were sick? If family member died, did you get a letter from the Dean’s Office? Answering no to any of these questions might be the reason why even justified absences were not excused.\\n2-4. Identify outside influences.\\nIf you are unwell or unable to afford basic necessities, you may struggle in college. In this case, talk to your doctor and guidance counselor to see what you need to do to tackle these issues successfully, including whether you need to take a break to improve your personal situation first. Unless it's too close to the end of semester, dropping one or more classes to make it more manageable may be a good decision. Common external factors include:\\nA death in the family\\nWorking a part-time or full-time job\\nRaising young children\\nMental health problems\\nSome colleges may let you negotiate the grade to an Incomplete if you have mitigating life circumstances, or you may be able to retake the class.\\n2-5. Consider how much you socialize.\\nWhen major life events become all-consuming, sometimes you can't keep up. Perhaps you have a new boyfriend or girlfriend who takes up all of your time. Maybe you are part of a sorority or fraternity that hosts frequent parties. It’s important to have a healthy social life, but if you're spending too much time partying and not enough time hitting the books, you could be ruining your GPA. Commit to buckling down and working or socializing less; use social events as treats at the end of study rounds rather than a nightly activity.\\n2-6. Meet with your professors.\\nEven in college, showing that you care can go a long way with college professors. They may realize you had certain difficulties, and they will appreciate your commitment to improve. Reaching out to your teachers may help you develop a deeper understanding about the class, how you understood the material, and how you could improve your performance in the future.\\nVisit them during their office hours, or write them an email to set up an appointment. It is almost always better to discuss this in person.\\nAlthough it can be hard, you can approach the subject in a calm, sincere way. You can say, “I was really disappointed with my grade on this last assignment. I was wondering what I could have done to do better. In the future, how should I approach an assignment like this?”\\nIf you wait until the end of the semester to talk to your professor, it may be too late to change or improve your grade.\\n3. Creating a New Study Philosophy\\n3-1. Evaluate the total impact.\\nIn order to reach a sense of peace about your grades, determine how big of an impact the bad grade will have overall on your college career. In some cases, a bad quiz grade won't do much to destroy your average. If you failed one or more classes, you may have dropped your GPA. Instead of getting upset, take a few deep breaths and look at the big picture, making concrete plans to fix what you can.\\nIf you’re in your first year of college, you may be able to recover easily from a bad semester.\\nYou can calculate what grades you will need from this point on to achieve your ideal GPA. This can give you a sense of what can be done in the future.\\n3-2. Identify areas of improvement.\\nPerhaps you’ve determined that you have poor study skills. Maybe you realize that your notes are disorganized or that you keep forgetting due dates. Once you have identified these issues, you can take steps to fix them. Make a commitment to change.\\nIf you are forgetful, you can buy a calendar, mark down important dates, and set reminders on your phones.\\nIf you have time management problems, you can make a schedule and reward yourself with treats when you finish tasks.\\n3-3. Create new goals.\\nIdentify where you want to be when you graduate? Is there a career you want? Do you want to be making a certain amount of money? Do you want to apply to graduate school? Create a list of manageable goals. After you decide on a few, list some practical steps towards attaining those goals.\\nFor example, if you want to apply to medical school, you should keep a list of what courses you need to take, what GPA you need when you graduate, and what extracurriculars look good on a medical school application. Your list of practical steps should also include things like “Study for the MCAT” or “Research good medical schools.”\\n3-4. Realize that you can improve.\\nPart of the process is understanding that while you can’t change the past, you can change the future. Reassure yourself that you can fix your problems. Once you know what you have done wrong, you can start taking steps to improving.\\n4. Moving On\\n4-1. Make an appointment with your guidance counselor.\\nIf you're concerned about how the grade(s) will impact your college future, consult with your guidance counselor to create a plan. Perhaps you took courses that were too difficult, or maybe you should explore other majors. With the assistance of your counselor (and perhaps your parents, guardians, or other mentors), create a plan that will get you back on track.\\n4-2. Develop a plan to improve your performance.\\nFormulate a specific, step-by-step plan that will help you do better next time. Feeling as if you have power over the situation will help you find peace and give you goals to work toward for next time.\\nThis plan should include how many hours a week you will study, what grades you want in each of your classes, how you will manage any medical conditions, and how many hours a week you will socialize, work, etc.\\n4-3. Examine your entire schedule.\\nIf you packed last semester’s schedule with high-level, difficult courses you may have the answer to why your grades tanked. Even the most highly intelligent individual should give him or herself a break. Try mixing difficult courses with some of your easier or lighter courses for a balanced schedule.\\n4-4. Stay on top of your studies.\\nThe key to staying zen is to now keep up with your studies at a pace that matches what you need to be learning. Staying organized, committed, and persistent will help you to stay zen in your college studies. However, if the studies are not improving after you've made changes, then it's probable that you need to seriously consider changes to the career path you've mapped out for yourself. Spending energy on something that isn't working out for you will only worsen your situation.\\n4-5. Study smarter, not harder.\\nYou do not want to spend sixteen hours a day studying if you are not learning anything. You will only burn yourself out. Find study methods that work for you in the future. There are a few tactics you can do to help improve memory and comprehension:\\nRewrite your notes every night after class. This will help you recall details. It will also help keep your notes legible.\\nDo ten flash cards a day. Memorize these ten before adding another ten the next day. Memorizing in small batches will help you remember.\\nTake notes as you read. After you’re done reading a passage, write down a summary of what you just read. This will help you understand what you read better.\\nWhen taking notes by hand, use block letters rather than cursive writing. The results are more likely to be legible and it becomes a habit fast. Half of the benefit of note taking is that writing it down tells your brain to put it in long term memory.\\nTest yourself after each passage. Do math exercises that test the principles you just learned. Quiz yourself on historical dates. These recall exercises will prepare you for the real test.\\nTips\\nIf possible, respectfully ask your professor if you can review the test or paper to ensure the grade you received was justified. In some (but rare) occasions the professor may have made an error grading your work.\\nIf things are going bad early in the semester, consider dropping one or more classes to bring the load down to something you can handle. \\\"Drop and change\\\" is also usually possible in the first few weeks.\\nRealize that dropping a course is a last resort with a variety of consequences. Improving your effort and persisting for success is always your best option. Dropping reinforces an escape mentality rather than one of persistence and grit.\\nWarnings\\nChanging bad habits like socializing too much or not studying well enough takes trial and error. Rather than going \\\"all or nothing\\\" and quitting when that fails, set gradual steps and goals.\\nIf you're not getting enough food or sleep or both, this takes its toll in a nasty way. It's gradual. Get help from the school social worker if it's a matter of finances.\\nIf you are suffering from mental health challenges or from physical disabilities that are affecting your ability to study, do not sit back and suffer in silence. Most colleges and universities have specialty services in place to help you succeed and have the power to make adjustments to schedules direct with professors or schools in order to ensure that you can cope. Trying to be strong in spite of such challenges is admirable but can cause you to fail long-term, so seek the help that is there for taking.\\nNever do anything destructive (to yourself or anyone else) in response to the poor grades. Remember, this too will pass.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Although it may have been easy to shrug off the occasional mediocre or terrible grade in high school, getting one or several bad grades in college can influence your career path for the future. Whether you’ve received less than perfect scores or totally bombed on your last test or report card, don't panic. Instead, go on a mental retreat to accept your fate, find peace, and prepare to move on. Becoming Zen is not just about tranquility, however. It’s about finding a commitment to improve in the future. You will have to understand what caused your bad grade, what you can do to improve, and how to move on so that you don’t continue getting bad grades.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Coming to Terms With Your Grade\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take responsibility for the grade.\", \"描述\": \"While it can be a blow to your pride, you should understand that you are responsible for the grade you have received. Conflicts with professors can happen, and external factors can affect your grade, but in most situations, you have to realize that if you want to improve, you have to act.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Put the situation into perspective.\", \"描述\": \"Realize that bad things unfortunately happen in life. While getting a bad grade may put you in full panic mode, you have to put the situation into perspective in order to get to that Zen place. Do you have your health? Do you have a family who loves you and friends who rally around you? Count your blessings. Remember that while grades are important, they aren’t the only thing that should matter in your life.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Speak to a trusted confidante.\", \"描述\": \"When you are upset, it is all right to discuss it with a friend or family member. Do not feel as though you have to keep it to yourself. It is understandable if you are concerned about disappointing your parents, ruining your GPA, or making a bad impression on your professors. Know that you can pull through this and that you can find support.\\nYou can even book an appointment with your college's mental health counselors (often known as the Campus and Psychological Services or CAPS). These are trusted professionals who are trained to help stressed out and upset college students.\\nDo not go on the internet and write your complaints online. These can be seen by other students, college officials, or possibly your professors. There can be many consequences from this. Talk in private to a friend or counselor.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Give yourself a break.\", \"描述\": \"While you may be stressed out, now is not the time to neglect your well-being. Get ice cream with a friend, watch a movie, or take a bubble bath. Do an activity that relaxes you. The goal is not to run away from the bad grade but to put yourself in a mental state where you can deal with it. Once you are relaxed, look back over your grade.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Remind yourself that grades do not determine your self-worth.\", \"描述\": \"You are more than your grades. Good grades can give you great validation, but you should not let bad grades make you feel worthless. A bad grade does not mean you are stupid or that you are incapable of graduating college. Everybody has other great talents, qualities, and characteristics that can't be measured by a grade in school.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Meditate.\", \"描述\": \"When alone in your room, take a few minutes to close your eyes. Breathe in and out deeply, making sure to focus on your breath. Allow your thoughts to drift away. Think about nothing, and whenever your grade anxieties surface, push them away. You can try using soft music to help calm you. Try meditating for fifteen to thirty minutes.\\nIf it is hard for you to meditate for a long time, try using a meditation app, like The Mindfulness App or Headspace. These offer guided meditations to help you keep your focus.\\nYoga is another great way to keep calm and achieve zen. Many campuses offer yoga classes. Check with your campus gym to see if you can sign up for a class.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Calm down during panic attacks using relaxation techniques.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes you don't have time to meditate when you feel anxious or panicked. You can use short relaxation techniques to soothe your mood. Stop what you are doing. Close your eyes, and count to ten. Visualize a calm and happy place, such as the ocean or a babbling brook. These techniques will help your body relax, and they will release any anxiety you have.\\nYou can tense your muscles and slowly release them during your count. Or you can squeeze a stress ball and slowly relax your grip.\\nWhile visualizing your happy place, try to invoke all of your senses. If you are on the ocean, imagine the wind, the salty taste of the air, and the sand between your toes. This will make visualization more effective.\\nRemember to breathe deeply. Breathe in and out for every count up to ten.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Avoid drugs and alcohol.\", \"描述\": \"Some people are so distressed about their grades that they start partying harder to forget about it, starting a vicious cycle. When you are stressed out about a bad grade, try to avoid drinking until you have calmed down.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Determining What Went Wrong\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Calculate how much you studied.\", \"描述\": \"Before you go into full panic mode, reflect on what you think led to poor grade(s). Did you study and put in your full effort? Did you slack off and skip tests? Understanding your study habits can help you understand where you need to improve. \\nPerhaps you gave it your all. While there may be nothing more frustrating than studying your brains out only to receive a bad grade, you have to remember that you did everything in your power to be successful. Next time, perhaps try changing up your study habits or getting help from a tutoring center.\\nPerhaps you slacked off and didn’t try. What you may have learned is that the days of \\\"winging it\\\" on talent alone are well and truly over. Learn from it, and do better next time through practice and hard work.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Consider what materials you studied.\", \"描述\": \"Look back over your notes, readings, and exercises. What sections or assignments did you not understand? What did the syllabus say about certain tests or units? Try to see if there was a misunderstanding in what you were supposed to know or do.\\nPerhaps you only studied things that interested you. If anything was too hard or uninteresting, you might have turned back to the more interesting parts of the homework and ignored the harder or dull parts. Try to power through these parts next time.\\nPerhaps you only read the bare minimum for the class. Try adding extra readings to your homework. If you don’t understand a reading, go to the library, ask a tutor, or search on the internet for an explanation.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Factor in your class attendance.\", \"描述\": \"Some professors take off points for missing too many classes. Other times, missing class could have made you miss key information. Look over your attendance record. Try to add up how many classes you missed.\\nWere these excused absences? Did you have a doctor’s note when you were sick? If family member died, did you get a letter from the Dean’s Office? Answering no to any of these questions might be the reason why even justified absences were not excused.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Identify outside influences.\", \"描述\": \"If you are unwell or unable to afford basic necessities, you may struggle in college. In this case, talk to your doctor and guidance counselor to see what you need to do to tackle these issues successfully, including whether you need to take a break to improve your personal situation first. Unless it's too close to the end of semester, dropping one or more classes to make it more manageable may be a good decision. Common external factors include:\\nA death in the family\\nWorking a part-time or full-time job\\nRaising young children\\nMental health problems\\nSome colleges may let you negotiate the grade to an Incomplete if you have mitigating life circumstances, or you may be able to retake the class.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Consider how much you socialize.\", \"描述\": \"When major life events become all-consuming, sometimes you can't keep up. Perhaps you have a new boyfriend or girlfriend who takes up all of your time. Maybe you are part of a sorority or fraternity that hosts frequent parties. It’s important to have a healthy social life, but if you're spending too much time partying and not enough time hitting the books, you could be ruining your GPA. Commit to buckling down and working or socializing less; use social events as treats at the end of study rounds rather than a nightly activity.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Meet with your professors.\", \"描述\": \"Even in college, showing that you care can go a long way with college professors. They may realize you had certain difficulties, and they will appreciate your commitment to improve. Reaching out to your teachers may help you develop a deeper understanding about the class, how you understood the material, and how you could improve your performance in the future.\\nVisit them during their office hours, or write them an email to set up an appointment. It is almost always better to discuss this in person.\\nAlthough it can be hard, you can approach the subject in a calm, sincere way. You can say, “I was really disappointed with my grade on this last assignment. I was wondering what I could have done to do better. In the future, how should I approach an assignment like this?”\\nIf you wait until the end of the semester to talk to your professor, it may be too late to change or improve your grade.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Creating a New Study Philosophy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Evaluate the total impact.\", \"描述\": \"In order to reach a sense of peace about your grades, determine how big of an impact the bad grade will have overall on your college career. In some cases, a bad quiz grade won't do much to destroy your average. If you failed one or more classes, you may have dropped your GPA. Instead of getting upset, take a few deep breaths and look at the big picture, making concrete plans to fix what you can.\\nIf you’re in your first year of college, you may be able to recover easily from a bad semester.\\nYou can calculate what grades you will need from this point on to achieve your ideal GPA. This can give you a sense of what can be done in the future.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Identify areas of improvement.\", \"描述\": \"Perhaps you’ve determined that you have poor study skills. Maybe you realize that your notes are disorganized or that you keep forgetting due dates. Once you have identified these issues, you can take steps to fix them. Make a commitment to change.\\nIf you are forgetful, you can buy a calendar, mark down important dates, and set reminders on your phones.\\nIf you have time management problems, you can make a schedule and reward yourself with treats when you finish tasks.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Create new goals.\", \"描述\": \"Identify where you want to be when you graduate? Is there a career you want? Do you want to be making a certain amount of money? Do you want to apply to graduate school? Create a list of manageable goals. After you decide on a few, list some practical steps towards attaining those goals.\\nFor example, if you want to apply to medical school, you should keep a list of what courses you need to take, what GPA you need when you graduate, and what extracurriculars look good on a medical school application. Your list of practical steps should also include things like “Study for the MCAT” or “Research good medical schools.”\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Realize that you can improve.\", \"描述\": \"Part of the process is understanding that while you can’t change the past, you can change the future. Reassure yourself that you can fix your problems. Once you know what you have done wrong, you can start taking steps to improving.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Moving On\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make an appointment with your guidance counselor.\", \"描述\": \"If you're concerned about how the grade(s) will impact your college future, consult with your guidance counselor to create a plan. Perhaps you took courses that were too difficult, or maybe you should explore other majors. With the assistance of your counselor (and perhaps your parents, guardians, or other mentors), create a plan that will get you back on track.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Develop a plan to improve your performance.\", \"描述\": \"Formulate a specific, step-by-step plan that will help you do better next time. Feeling as if you have power over the situation will help you find peace and give you goals to work toward for next time.\\nThis plan should include how many hours a week you will study, what grades you want in each of your classes, how you will manage any medical conditions, and how many hours a week you will socialize, work, etc.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Examine your entire schedule.\", \"描述\": \"If you packed last semester’s schedule with high-level, difficult courses you may have the answer to why your grades tanked. Even the most highly intelligent individual should give him or herself a break. Try mixing difficult courses with some of your easier or lighter courses for a balanced schedule.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stay on top of your studies.\", \"描述\": \"The key to staying zen is to now keep up with your studies at a pace that matches what you need to be learning. Staying organized, committed, and persistent will help you to stay zen in your college studies. However, if the studies are not improving after you've made changes, then it's probable that you need to seriously consider changes to the career path you've mapped out for yourself. Spending energy on something that isn't working out for you will only worsen your situation.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Study smarter, not harder.\", \"描述\": \"You do not want to spend sixteen hours a day studying if you are not learning anything. You will only burn yourself out. Find study methods that work for you in the future. There are a few tactics you can do to help improve memory and comprehension:\\nRewrite your notes every night after class. This will help you recall details. It will also help keep your notes legible.\\nDo ten flash cards a day. Memorize these ten before adding another ten the next day. Memorizing in small batches will help you remember.\\nTake notes as you read. After you’re done reading a passage, write down a summary of what you just read. This will help you understand what you read better.\\nWhen taking notes by hand, use block letters rather than cursive writing. The results are more likely to be legible and it becomes a habit fast. Half of the benefit of note taking is that writing it down tells your brain to put it in long term memory.\\nTest yourself after each passage. Do math exercises that test the principles you just learned. Quiz yourself on historical dates. These recall exercises will prepare you for the real test.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If possible, respectfully ask your professor if you can review the test or paper to ensure the grade you received was justified. In some (but rare) occasions the professor may have made an error grading your work.\\n\", \"If things are going bad early in the semester, consider dropping one or more classes to bring the load down to something you can handle. \\\"Drop and change\\\" is also usually possible in the first few weeks.\\n\", \"Realize that dropping a course is a last resort with a variety of consequences. Improving your effort and persisting for success is always your best option. Dropping reinforces an escape mentality rather than one of persistence and grit.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Changing bad habits like socializing too much or not studying well enough takes trial and error. Rather than going \\\"all or nothing\\\" and quitting when that fails, set gradual steps and goals.\\n\", \"If you're not getting enough food or sleep or both, this takes its toll in a nasty way. It's gradual. Get help from the school social worker if it's a matter of finances.\\n\", \"If you are suffering from mental health challenges or from physical disabilities that are affecting your ability to study, do not sit back and suffer in silence. Most colleges and universities have specialty services in place to help you succeed and have the power to make adjustments to schedules direct with professors or schools in order to ensure that you can cope. Trying to be strong in spite of such challenges is admirable but can cause you to fail long-term, so seek the help that is there for taking.\\n\", \"Never do anything destructive (to yourself or anyone else) in response to the poor grades. Remember, this too will pass.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a "Preppy" Girl in High School
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1. Steps
Evaluate your current social situation.
Are you a wallflower, an outcast, or an outgoing girl? Knowing where you stand can help you gain perspective on what you need to do to gain preppy status. Typically, preppy girls are outgoing and extroverted. They like to be popular but still remain in a medium to large group of friends rather than being the center of attention.
2. Acting Classy
2-1. Opt to learn and do well in school.
Always strive to get good grades in school. Listen to the teacher, take short but effective notes, ask questions, and always do your homework
If you can't attend a private school, at least try to take advanced placement (AP) or accelerated courses in almost everything you can. If your school offers electives, choose preparatory vocational training classes (such as culinary, architecture, or agricultural science) rather than an "easy A" class. Taking a student council or a physical education class is also good.
Try to focus your high school career on getting good grades and participating in clubs, sports, and organizations. It's okay to have fun sometimes, but it's important to realize that school is important. Use your school's resources (pre-ACT/SAT classes, tutoring, library, etc.) and try your best to earn scholarships!
Take a foreign language if your school offers it. Many universities require 2-3 years of a foreign language for admission, and you will look very educated. Preps take education very seriously, and can always hold up a conversation about any topic; be very well-rounded.
Reading is very classy and helps you expand your vocabulary and learn more stuff. Make it a goal to read at least 2 books a month.
2-2. Have good manners and class.
This is definitely the most important aspect of being preppy.
Real preps are always polite and kind. Preps are never rude, mean, or unpleasant. They are never bullies, and should always be able to make others feel good about themselves. Don't get too obnoxious when around strangers, just say a simple and polite "Hi." When eating dinner with others, make sure to keep clean and not make a huge mess after you're finished.
Preps do little to no cursing. They treat adults with respect and follow their rules. They surround themselves with positive, kind people, much like themselves. They are people you can go to with a problem, and they will help. Try not to swear or do anything unhygienic in public. Always say please and thank you, and greet your elders. Stay somewhat reserved and considerate.
2-3. Expand your vocabulary.
Slang words and curse words are not polite or classy. You don't have to use extremely complicated words for every sentence, but it's good to know some classic language that most don't use nowadays. You can do this by reading and listening to people who have a wide vocabulary talk.
2-4. Learn how to hold a good conversation.
Don't talk about partying, drugs, smoking, or anything rebellious. Talk about casual stuff like homework, what you're doing next week, what books you've been reading/what music you've been listening to, etc. Try to be a good conversationalist. Be a good listener and make eye contact. Try to listen more than you talk.
2-5. Be kind and courteous to those around you.
Classy people are intelligent and elegant, but they aren't unapproachable or arrogant. Learn when to stand up for yourself or others and be assertive, but never be bossy or rude. Avoid people who say bad things about you and avoid disloyal friends. Always offer honest compliments and smile, and offer to do favors with nothing in return.
2-6. Find good role models!
Women such as Meryl Streep, Princess Diana of Wales, Audrey Hepburn, and Jackie Kennedy. Women with class and grace are the kind you should be looking up to!
3. Looking Classy
3-1. Keep clean.
Dirty and smelly girls are very unattractive and seem trashy. Take a shower or bath every day, and use a light-scented body wash. Apply a light-scented body lotion. Use deodorant when you're out and are sweating and smelly. Brush your teeth twice a day and floss once at night. Wear clean clothes and wash your hair when it starts to smell and look very greasy and unappealing.
3-2. Be healthy.
Classy girls look naturally flawless.
Eat well and take care of your body. Eat lots of fruits and vegetables for fiber, and also eat lots of protein like chicken, fish, eggs, tofu, and nuts. Only eat junk food once or twice a week.
Take up a school sport such as tennis, track, golf, dance, lacrosse, polo (any type of English riding), rowing, swimming, soccer, or whatever else your school offers. Exercise at least 5 days a week for at least 20 minutes. Drink lots of water and sleep for at least 8 hours a night.
Your body does not have to be perfect; being preppy shows more in how you act and treat others around you, but participating in preppy sports never hurts.
3-3. Have glowing skin.
Wash your face twice a day. In the morning, just splash your face with cold water and gently pat it dry. Apply a light moisturizer. At night, follow the directions on your cleanser and rinse with warm water. Gently pat dry and apply a light moisturizer. Visit a dermatologist if you have acne.
3-4. Have natural, clean, shiny hair.
Unnatural colors or weird haircuts are not preppy at all. Your hair should always be clean, shiny, and well-groomed. Wear your hair in a bun, waves, straight and smooth, or braid. Get a trim if your hair is damaged.
Wash your hair every other day to every 3 days and use dry shampoo if your hair can't go a day without being very greasy. Squeeze some excess water out of your hair after showering/bathing. Gently pat your hair with a towel and let it air dry.
Avoid using heat on your hair or dyeing your hair too often.
3-5. Apply light makeup (if wanted).
It's completely fine to go all natural. For foundation, get something with SPF protection from Lancome or Clinique. Use primer and moisturizer. Try to use neutral and nude colors. Mascara, eyeshadow, lip gloss, and blush should be used lightly. On special occasions, wear a little bit of eyeliner and red lipstick. Makeup does not have to be from expensive department stores; if makeup from the drug store works well for you and makes you look good; use it! It's all about making you look your best and making you feel good; makeup is not about brands.
4. Dressing Preppy
4-1. Have a nice style.
Avoid showing too much skin (e.g. super short skirts, low-cut shirts). Wear real jewelry, and wear it sparingly.
4-2. Be classy and fashionable.
Never wear excessively revealing clothing! Stay away from extreme fads as well!
Good brands to buy from are Lacoste, Ralph Lauren, Tommy Hilfiger, Banana Republic, Vineyard Vines, J. Press, Lilly Pulitzer, or any other place that sells good quality clothes.
Wear a lot of polos, rugby shirts, blouses, cardigans, cable knit sweaters, khakis, Bermuda shorts, quality denim, and tea dresses. Wear comfortable but flattering clothes. Wear black leggings, thin cardigans, light-colored tank tops, pretty T-shirts,
4-3. Buy from sports brand stores.
What is important is to dress for the occasion--do not let these labels slip into your everyday wear.
4-4. You can find adorable preppy clothes at many stores.
Depending on the look you are going for, you can get name-brand clothes like Hollister, Abercrombie, and Aeropostale, or find equally cute outfits at thrift stores. No one knows how many previous owners your clothes have had unless you tell them. If you are low on cash, check out discount stores such as Goodwill and Plato's Closet. They will almost always have designer clothes for a fraction of the cost!
4-5. Buy brands like Coach, Burberry, Dooney and Bourke, Hérmes, Chanel, or Frank Clegg.
Monogrammed bags from L.L Bean are also a plus.
4-6. Wear 'preppy' shoes.
Wear high-quality runners, Uggs, and ballet flats. Own one pair of heels if necessary. flats, topsiders, loafers (Penny loafers are recommended.), dock siders, conservative wedges, and nice sandals, to name a few.
4-7. Accessorize lightly and prettily.
A ponytail with a ribbon tied at the base is very classic. Try family heirlooms, such as your mother's silver bracelet or your grandmother's diamond necklace. A simple charm bracelet (preferably gold in color) or sparkly headband should do the trick. Try to look simplistic, never gaudy.
Tips
Stay classy.
Be polite and friendly to everyone--not just other preps. It is quite unmannerly to be rude to someone simply for their difference.
Maintain your reputation.
Warnings
Never brag about money.
Don't change overnight or people will call you a poser.
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Taking a student council or a physical education class is also good.\\nTry to focus your high school career on getting good grades and participating in clubs, sports, and organizations. It's okay to have fun sometimes, but it's important to realize that school is important. Use your school's resources (pre-ACT/SAT classes, tutoring, library, etc.) and try your best to earn scholarships!\\nTake a foreign language if your school offers it. Many universities require 2-3 years of a foreign language for admission, and you will look very educated. Preps take education very seriously, and can always hold up a conversation about any topic; be very well-rounded.\\nReading is very classy and helps you expand your vocabulary and learn more stuff. Make it a goal to read at least 2 books a month.\\n2-2. Have good manners and class.\\nThis is definitely the most important aspect of being preppy.\\nReal preps are always polite and kind. Preps are never rude, mean, or unpleasant. They are never bullies, and should always be able to make others feel good about themselves. Don't get too obnoxious when around strangers, just say a simple and polite \\\"Hi.\\\" When eating dinner with others, make sure to keep clean and not make a huge mess after you're finished. \\nPreps do little to no cursing. They treat adults with respect and follow their rules. They surround themselves with positive, kind people, much like themselves. They are people you can go to with a problem, and they will help. Try not to swear or do anything unhygienic in public. Always say please and thank you, and greet your elders. Stay somewhat reserved and considerate.\\n2-3. Expand your vocabulary.\\nSlang words and curse words are not polite or classy. You don't have to use extremely complicated words for every sentence, but it's good to know some classic language that most don't use nowadays. You can do this by reading and listening to people who have a wide vocabulary talk.\\n2-4. Learn how to hold a good conversation.\\nDon't talk about partying, drugs, smoking, or anything rebellious. Talk about casual stuff like homework, what you're doing next week, what books you've been reading/what music you've been listening to, etc. Try to be a good conversationalist. Be a good listener and make eye contact. Try to listen more than you talk.\\n2-5. Be kind and courteous to those around you.\\nClassy people are intelligent and elegant, but they aren't unapproachable or arrogant. Learn when to stand up for yourself or others and be assertive, but never be bossy or rude. Avoid people who say bad things about you and avoid disloyal friends. Always offer honest compliments and smile, and offer to do favors with nothing in return.\\n2-6. Find good role models!\\nWomen such as Meryl Streep, Princess Diana of Wales, Audrey Hepburn, and Jackie Kennedy. Women with class and grace are the kind you should be looking up to!\\n3. Looking Classy\\n3-1. Keep clean.\\nDirty and smelly girls are very unattractive and seem trashy. Take a shower or bath every day, and use a light-scented body wash. Apply a light-scented body lotion. Use deodorant when you're out and are sweating and smelly. Brush your teeth twice a day and floss once at night. Wear clean clothes and wash your hair when it starts to smell and look very greasy and unappealing.\\n3-2. Be healthy.\\nClassy girls look naturally flawless. \\nEat well and take care of your body. Eat lots of fruits and vegetables for fiber, and also eat lots of protein like chicken, fish, eggs, tofu, and nuts. Only eat junk food once or twice a week.\\nTake up a school sport such as tennis, track, golf, dance, lacrosse, polo (any type of English riding), rowing, swimming, soccer, or whatever else your school offers. Exercise at least 5 days a week for at least 20 minutes. Drink lots of water and sleep for at least 8 hours a night.\\nYour body does not have to be perfect; being preppy shows more in how you act and treat others around you, but participating in preppy sports never hurts.\\n3-3. Have glowing skin.\\nWash your face twice a day. In the morning, just splash your face with cold water and gently pat it dry. Apply a light moisturizer. At night, follow the directions on your cleanser and rinse with warm water. Gently pat dry and apply a light moisturizer. Visit a dermatologist if you have acne.\\n3-4. Have natural, clean, shiny hair.\\nUnnatural colors or weird haircuts are not preppy at all. Your hair should always be clean, shiny, and well-groomed. Wear your hair in a bun, waves, straight and smooth, or braid. Get a trim if your hair is damaged.\\nWash your hair every other day to every 3 days and use dry shampoo if your hair can't go a day without being very greasy. Squeeze some excess water out of your hair after showering/bathing. Gently pat your hair with a towel and let it air dry.\\nAvoid using heat on your hair or dyeing your hair too often.\\n3-5. Apply light makeup (if wanted).\\nIt's completely fine to go all natural. For foundation, get something with SPF protection from Lancome or Clinique. Use primer and moisturizer. Try to use neutral and nude colors. Mascara, eyeshadow, lip gloss, and blush should be used lightly. On special occasions, wear a little bit of eyeliner and red lipstick. Makeup does not have to be from expensive department stores; if makeup from the drug store works well for you and makes you look good; use it! It's all about making you look your best and making you feel good; makeup is not about brands.\\n4. Dressing Preppy\\n4-1. Have a nice style.\\nAvoid showing too much skin (e.g. super short skirts, low-cut shirts). Wear real jewelry, and wear it sparingly.\\n4-2. Be classy and fashionable.\\nNever wear excessively revealing clothing! Stay away from extreme fads as well!\\nGood brands to buy from are Lacoste, Ralph Lauren, Tommy Hilfiger, Banana Republic, Vineyard Vines, J. Press, Lilly Pulitzer, or any other place that sells good quality clothes.\\nWear a lot of polos, rugby shirts, blouses, cardigans, cable knit sweaters, khakis, Bermuda shorts, quality denim, and tea dresses. Wear comfortable but flattering clothes. Wear black leggings, thin cardigans, light-colored tank tops, pretty T-shirts,\\n4-3. Buy from sports brand stores.\\nWhat is important is to dress for the occasion--do not let these labels slip into your everyday wear.\\n4-4. You can find adorable preppy clothes at many stores.\\nDepending on the look you are going for, you can get name-brand clothes like Hollister, Abercrombie, and Aeropostale, or find equally cute outfits at thrift stores. No one knows how many previous owners your clothes have had unless you tell them. If you are low on cash, check out discount stores such as Goodwill and Plato's Closet. They will almost always have designer clothes for a fraction of the cost!\\n4-5. Buy brands like Coach, Burberry, Dooney and Bourke, Hérmes, Chanel, or Frank Clegg.\\nMonogrammed bags from L.L Bean are also a plus.\\n4-6. Wear 'preppy' shoes.\\nWear high-quality runners, Uggs, and ballet flats. Own one pair of heels if necessary. flats, topsiders, loafers (Penny loafers are recommended.), dock siders, conservative wedges, and nice sandals, to name a few.\\n4-7. Accessorize lightly and prettily.\\nA ponytail with a ribbon tied at the base is very classic. Try family heirlooms, such as your mother's silver bracelet or your grandmother's diamond necklace. A simple charm bracelet (preferably gold in color) or sparkly headband should do the trick. Try to look simplistic, never gaudy.\\nTips\\nStay classy.\\nBe polite and friendly to everyone--not just other preps. It is quite unmannerly to be rude to someone simply for their difference.\\nMaintain your reputation.\\nWarnings\\nNever brag about money.\\nDon't change overnight or people will call you a poser.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being preppy is a lot more than the people you hang out with. It's the clothes you wear, the things you do, but more importantly, how you act. If you're up for giving off a naturally classy and intelligent vibe, you can become a preppy girl. As a preppy girl, here are some tips on how to embrace your new aesthetic.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Evaluate your current social situation.\", \"描述\": \"Are you a wallflower, an outcast, or an outgoing girl? Knowing where you stand can help you gain perspective on what you need to do to gain preppy status. Typically, preppy girls are outgoing and extroverted. They like to be popular but still remain in a medium to large group of friends rather than being the center of attention.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Acting Classy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Opt to learn and do well in school.\", \"描述\": \"Always strive to get good grades in school. Listen to the teacher, take short but effective notes, ask questions, and always do your homework \\nIf you can't attend a private school, at least try to take advanced placement (AP) or accelerated courses in almost everything you can. If your school offers electives, choose preparatory vocational training classes (such as culinary, architecture, or agricultural science) rather than an \\\"easy A\\\" class. Taking a student council or a physical education class is also good.\\nTry to focus your high school career on getting good grades and participating in clubs, sports, and organizations. It's okay to have fun sometimes, but it's important to realize that school is important. Use your school's resources (pre-ACT/SAT classes, tutoring, library, etc.) and try your best to earn scholarships!\\nTake a foreign language if your school offers it. Many universities require 2-3 years of a foreign language for admission, and you will look very educated. Preps take education very seriously, and can always hold up a conversation about any topic; be very well-rounded.\\nReading is very classy and helps you expand your vocabulary and learn more stuff. Make it a goal to read at least 2 books a month.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Have good manners and class.\", \"描述\": \"This is definitely the most important aspect of being preppy.\\nReal preps are always polite and kind. Preps are never rude, mean, or unpleasant. They are never bullies, and should always be able to make others feel good about themselves. Don't get too obnoxious when around strangers, just say a simple and polite \\\"Hi.\\\" When eating dinner with others, make sure to keep clean and not make a huge mess after you're finished. \\nPreps do little to no cursing. They treat adults with respect and follow their rules. They surround themselves with positive, kind people, much like themselves. They are people you can go to with a problem, and they will help. Try not to swear or do anything unhygienic in public. Always say please and thank you, and greet your elders. Stay somewhat reserved and considerate.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Expand your vocabulary.\", \"描述\": \"Slang words and curse words are not polite or classy. You don't have to use extremely complicated words for every sentence, but it's good to know some classic language that most don't use nowadays. You can do this by reading and listening to people who have a wide vocabulary talk.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Learn how to hold a good conversation.\", \"描述\": \"Don't talk about partying, drugs, smoking, or anything rebellious. Talk about casual stuff like homework, what you're doing next week, what books you've been reading/what music you've been listening to, etc. Try to be a good conversationalist. Be a good listener and make eye contact. Try to listen more than you talk.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be kind and courteous to those around you.\", \"描述\": \"Classy people are intelligent and elegant, but they aren't unapproachable or arrogant. Learn when to stand up for yourself or others and be assertive, but never be bossy or rude. Avoid people who say bad things about you and avoid disloyal friends. Always offer honest compliments and smile, and offer to do favors with nothing in return.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Find good role models!\", \"描述\": \"Women such as Meryl Streep, Princess Diana of Wales, Audrey Hepburn, and Jackie Kennedy. Women with class and grace are the kind you should be looking up to!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Looking Classy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep clean.\", \"描述\": \"Dirty and smelly girls are very unattractive and seem trashy. Take a shower or bath every day, and use a light-scented body wash. Apply a light-scented body lotion. Use deodorant when you're out and are sweating and smelly. Brush your teeth twice a day and floss once at night. Wear clean clothes and wash your hair when it starts to smell and look very greasy and unappealing.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be healthy.\", \"描述\": \"Classy girls look naturally flawless. \\nEat well and take care of your body. Eat lots of fruits and vegetables for fiber, and also eat lots of protein like chicken, fish, eggs, tofu, and nuts. Only eat junk food once or twice a week.\\nTake up a school sport such as tennis, track, golf, dance, lacrosse, polo (any type of English riding), rowing, swimming, soccer, or whatever else your school offers. Exercise at least 5 days a week for at least 20 minutes. Drink lots of water and sleep for at least 8 hours a night.\\nYour body does not have to be perfect; being preppy shows more in how you act and treat others around you, but participating in preppy sports never hurts.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Have glowing skin.\", \"描述\": \"Wash your face twice a day. In the morning, just splash your face with cold water and gently pat it dry. Apply a light moisturizer. At night, follow the directions on your cleanser and rinse with warm water. Gently pat dry and apply a light moisturizer. Visit a dermatologist if you have acne.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Have natural, clean, shiny hair.\", \"描述\": \"Unnatural colors or weird haircuts are not preppy at all. Your hair should always be clean, shiny, and well-groomed. Wear your hair in a bun, waves, straight and smooth, or braid. Get a trim if your hair is damaged.\\nWash your hair every other day to every 3 days and use dry shampoo if your hair can't go a day without being very greasy. Squeeze some excess water out of your hair after showering/bathing. Gently pat your hair with a towel and let it air dry.\\nAvoid using heat on your hair or dyeing your hair too often.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Apply light makeup (if wanted).\", \"描述\": \"It's completely fine to go all natural. For foundation, get something with SPF protection from Lancome or Clinique. Use primer and moisturizer. Try to use neutral and nude colors. Mascara, eyeshadow, lip gloss, and blush should be used lightly. On special occasions, wear a little bit of eyeliner and red lipstick. Makeup does not have to be from expensive department stores; if makeup from the drug store works well for you and makes you look good; use it! It's all about making you look your best and making you feel good; makeup is not about brands.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Dressing Preppy\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have a nice style.\", \"描述\": \"Avoid showing too much skin (e.g. super short skirts, low-cut shirts). Wear real jewelry, and wear it sparingly.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be classy and fashionable.\", \"描述\": \"Never wear excessively revealing clothing! Stay away from extreme fads as well!\\nGood brands to buy from are Lacoste, Ralph Lauren, Tommy Hilfiger, Banana Republic, Vineyard Vines, J. Press, Lilly Pulitzer, or any other place that sells good quality clothes.\\nWear a lot of polos, rugby shirts, blouses, cardigans, cable knit sweaters, khakis, Bermuda shorts, quality denim, and tea dresses. Wear comfortable but flattering clothes. Wear black leggings, thin cardigans, light-colored tank tops, pretty T-shirts,\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Buy from sports brand stores.\", \"描述\": \"What is important is to dress for the occasion--do not let these labels slip into your everyday wear.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"You can find adorable preppy clothes at many stores.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on the look you are going for, you can get name-brand clothes like Hollister, Abercrombie, and Aeropostale, or find equally cute outfits at thrift stores. No one knows how many previous owners your clothes have had unless you tell them. If you are low on cash, check out discount stores such as Goodwill and Plato's Closet. 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1. Choosing Grunge-Inspired Tops
1-1. Choose a plaid shirt.
The most important element in a grunge girl's outfit is her plaid shirt. Token grunge girls were all over 90s TV shows. For example, Angela Chase and Rayanne Graff from My So-Called Life were always covered in plaid. Try to stay away from bright colors, focusing more on earth tones and darker colors, such as brown, red, burgundy, black, gray, mustard yellow, and dark green. The plaid shirt should always be oversized and even have holes in it.
Try looking at thrift stores or second-hand stores for flannel shirts. These shirts will often have a worn, faded look, which is exactly the kind of plaid you want as a grunge girl.
If you buy your plaid new, avoid tight-fitting or girly fit shirts. The grunge look is unstructured and loose. Try looking in the men's section or go a size or two larger than you normally buy.
You can wear the shirt either as an overshirt with another shirt underneath or tied around your waist. Avoid wearing it buttoned up. This is more grunge boy than grunge girl.
If you want something plaid that is slightly more girly, look for a checkerboard plaid dress that you can wear over ripped jeans.
1-2. Wear a band t-shirt.
The grunge persona came from a musical genre, so graphic band t-shirts are a must. 90s grunge style icon Winona Ryder rocked band t-shirts as a main part of her repertoire. Try finding shirts from 90s bands that are popular in the genre, such as Nirvana, Silverchair, Soundgarden, Pearl Jam, and Stone Temple Pilots.
You can go oversized or fitted, depending on the rest of your outfit. If you go fitted, balance it out with a baggy plaid shirt or oversized overalls.
Vintage t-shirts are really the way to go. Try to find some original tour or album shirts at thrift stores or second hand shops. They are more authentic and have the added bonus of looking worn and grungy because of their age.
Some major retailers and department stores sell reprints of band tees. If you go this route, do something to make it look aged. Try washing it a few times to loosen the fabric. Cut off the armholes and make it into a tank top. You can also cut off the collar and wear it off the shoulder.
1-3. Try a crop top.
Despite the typically masculine attire related to the style, you can still show a little skin in the midsection. This style was popularized by 90s style icons such as Gwen Stefani, lead singer of the band No Doubt. Find a crop top, which can be a t-shirt or sweater, in a plain color such as black, grey, white, or maroon. You can also go for a subtle design. Just make sure it is short enough to show off your stomach.
If you can't find an oversized top that is short enough, cut off the lower portion of any shirt. You can cut it slightly jagged to make it look more grunge.
They make some crop tops with asymmetrical hem lines. These look great with flannels tied around your waist.
1-4. Pick a tank top.
Being grunge isn't just about oversized clothes. Try a tight wife beater tank in white, black, grey, or brown. They look great under flannel shirts.
You might also be able to find a band tank. These can be fitted or oversized, depending on what you can find. If they are oversized, pair them with a black bra and let the straps hang off your shoulders.
1-5. Pick a baby doll dress.
You can also add a little less masculine flare sometimes by wearing a baby doll dress, typically in floral patterns. Stay within the neutral and earth tones color palette. 90s grungers were all about mixing styles and adding a layer of irony to their outfits. The key is to add a flannel shirt over it or around your waist to make it go from preppy to grunge.
One of the most influential style icons of 90s grunge was Courtney Love from the band Hole. She was also the wife of Nirvana frontman Kurt Cobain. The grunge goddess rocked baby doll dresses all the time, mixing them with other grunge elements to create a messy, chic look.
It doesn't matter if the patterns don't match. Matching isn't important when you're grunge.
2. Wearing 90s Grunge Bottoms
2-1. Buy baggy, ripped, or patched jeans.
One of the hallmarks of grunge is comfort, and there is nothing more comfortable than a pair of worn, baggy jeans. Buy a pair of jeans a size or two larger than you normally buy. Make sure you steer clear of the skinny jeans. They are made to fit more snugly than you want your pants. Try to find jeans with rips, holes, or patches made on them. They give them a worn, lived in look that goes great with the grunge look.
You can save some money on jeans by buying a normal pair of jeans and ripping them up yourself. Non holey jeans are usually cheaper and you can add the holes wherever you want.
You can also try finding jeans at thrift or second hand stores. They will be more worn and comfortable than brand new jeans.
If it's warm weather, you can also go with a pair of cut off denim shorts. These look great with a crop top and a flannel shirt around your waist.
2-2. Try an A-line printed skirt.
If you don't want to go for the full dress, try an A-line printed skirt. Liv Tyler popularized this style both off screen and on, in music videos for Aerosmith and movies such as Empire Records. Try one in plaid or a floral design and earth tone color palette.
A-line skirts look great with an oversized band t-shirt and a flannel wrapped around your waist. Don't worry if your plaid shirt doesn't match the pattern on the skirt. It will make you seem even more grunge.
2-3. Wear overalls.
Denim overalls were a huge trend in the 90s and the grunge scene worked them to their advantage. Buy a pair overalls and match them with a band tee or tank. You can wear the flannel as an overshirt or around your waist because both styles look great with the overalls.
You can also try the one-shoulder look as well. Instead of wearing both of the straps clasped, wear one unclasped, folding down the panels on both sides of the overalls. This variation looks great with the crop top and a flannel.
2-4. Wear ripped tights or hose.
If you aren't really into wearing jeans all the time, try a pair of holey tights or hose to create the full grunge effect. Courtney Love would often pair her baby doll dresses with ripped tights. Buy a pair of neutral-colored or printed tights. In the same fashion as the jeans, rip holes and runs in the fabric of the legs. Match these tights with printed skirts or dresses. You can even wear them under your jeans.
You can layer multiple layers of tights on top of one another, with holes at different places on each pair. This adds a little extra texture to your outfit, especially if the tights or hose are two different colors or patterns.
3. Finishing Your Look
3-1. Wear minimal makeup.
The grunge style is made to look as low maintenance and comfortable as possible, and the same feel translates to the makeup. Pair a little bit of brown or dark eye shadow with thick eyeliner and mascara. You want it to look kind of like a messy smokey eye, but you don't want it to look bad. You can also not wear makeup altogether.
You can top this off with a dark color lipstick if you want to add another layer to your makeup. Liv Tyler often topped off her cropped top, floral skirt, and ripped tights combination with a deep red lip.
3-2. Dye your hair.
Grungers know how to rock dyed locks. You can either dye all of your hair or just some towards the bottom. Try dark red, maroon, ash blonde, brown, or caramel. You can even go pastel pink, purple, or blue. Just make sure the colors aren't too vibrant.
Gwen Stefani dyed her hair blue, pink, and orange. Angela from My So-Called Life dyed her hair maroon as a first act of grunge rebellion.
Make sure it looks messy and natural. Don't straighten your hair. You don't want it to look like you tried to fix your hair too much. The messier it is, the grungier you will be.
3-3. Wear combat boots.
No grunge outfit is complete without a great pair of combat boots. Buy them in black, maroon, grey, or brown. You can even buy a patterned pair. They make every grunge outfit look more comfortable and casual. Pair them with a band tee, a floral print skirt, a flannel around your waist, and a pair of holey tights to have the ultimate grunge outfit.
The most popular boot brand was Doc Martens. Girls were seen all over popular culture wearing this iconic footwear. Actresses like Liv Tyler and Winona Ryder wore them and Angela and Rayanne rocked them on My So-Called Life. Even 90s cartoons grunge style icon Jane Lane wore them on Daria. No grunge girl's wardrobe is complete without them.
If you don't like the combat boot style, you can also wear a pair of chunky shoes such as Mary Janes or a pair of canvas shoes such as Converse. Kurt Cobain was known for wearing Converse and Drew Barrymore often wore them with her baggy, ripped jeans.
3-4. Wear a beanie.
A great way to accessorize any grunge outfit is a beanie. Actresses such as Drew Barrymore popularized these accessories by topping off their plaid shirts and ripped jeans with a beanie. Pick out a black, grey, brown, or dark red beanie to wear. You can wear your hair up or down with the beanie. It looks great with most hairstyles.
If you aren't into beanies, try a bandanna. They have a similar grungy feel but come in more colors and designs. They are also more comfortable to wear in warm weather.
3-5. Grab some accessories.
Accessories can add some interesting flare to any grunge outfit. Liv Tyler and Gwen Stefani could rock a well placed necklace or earrings. Try a black braided tattoo choker, a large simple cross necklace, or large chunky earrings. You can also pick up a few silver and colored band rings to wear, layering a few on each finger.
4. Playing the Part
4-1. Stop caring.
The whole grunge persona is built on a sense of ambivalence towards society, consumerism, and conformity. The clothes are worn, large, and comfortable because you don't care about many things anymore. Don't rush around and stress about anything. A grunge girl is content to just sit around and listen to some good music. She is not typically high strung or obsessive. She lets things happen as they happen without much though or care.
4-2. Have attitude.
Now that you have the look, you need to adopt the attitude. Although grunge girls don't care, they get an attitude with people when they try to make them conform or join things. Don't listen when people tell you to do something. Just tell them you want to sit and listen to your music all day long. Do what you have to do in life, but get an attitude with others when they interact with you.
The way Courtney Love, Liv Tyler, and Drew Barrymore acted in the 90s provide perfect examples for the grunge attitude. Their lack of respect for authority and snarky attitude led them to constant trouble and even some arrests.
This doesn't apply to your grunge friends. They understand your carelessness and apathy for the world, which means you don't have to get an attitude with them to get your point across.
4-3. Know the music.
Grunge would not be a way of life if it wasn't for grunge music. While Nirvana popularized grunge music, there are many other grunge bands that you should become familiar with. Research who were the seminal bands of the era and familiarize yourself with their music. Go to your local CD store and look through their rock collection.
While there were many grunge bands in the 90s, some of the most influential were bands such as Hole, Green Magnet School, Pearl Jam, Soundgarden, Garbage, Rage Against the Machine, Alice in Chains, Smashing Pumpkins, 7 Year Bitch, Fastbacks, Temple of the Dog, Mad Season, Cat Butt, Veruca Salt, Skin Yard, Mother Love Bone, Tad, The Gits, Bush, Seven Mary 3, L7, Screaming Trees, Green River, The Melvins, Mudhoney, and Stone Temple Pilots.
Newer bands are still in the style of grunge. Look into Modest Mouse, Afghan Whigs, and Dinosaur Jr.
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Try to find some original tour or album shirts at thrift stores or second hand shops. They are more authentic and have the added bonus of looking worn and grungy because of their age.\\nSome major retailers and department stores sell reprints of band tees. If you go this route, do something to make it look aged. Try washing it a few times to loosen the fabric. Cut off the armholes and make it into a tank top. You can also cut off the collar and wear it off the shoulder.\\n1-3. Try a crop top.\\nDespite the typically masculine attire related to the style, you can still show a little skin in the midsection. This style was popularized by 90s style icons such as Gwen Stefani, lead singer of the band No Doubt. Find a crop top, which can be a t-shirt or sweater, in a plain color such as black, grey, white, or maroon. You can also go for a subtle design. Just make sure it is short enough to show off your stomach.\\nIf you can't find an oversized top that is short enough, cut off the lower portion of any shirt. You can cut it slightly jagged to make it look more grunge.\\nThey make some crop tops with asymmetrical hem lines. These look great with flannels tied around your waist.\\n1-4. Pick a tank top.\\nBeing grunge isn't just about oversized clothes. Try a tight wife beater tank in white, black, grey, or brown. They look great under flannel shirts.\\nYou might also be able to find a band tank. These can be fitted or oversized, depending on what you can find. If they are oversized, pair them with a black bra and let the straps hang off your shoulders.\\n1-5. Pick a baby doll dress.\\nYou can also add a little less masculine flare sometimes by wearing a baby doll dress, typically in floral patterns. 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Try to find jeans with rips, holes, or patches made on them. They give them a worn, lived in look that goes great with the grunge look.\\nYou can save some money on jeans by buying a normal pair of jeans and ripping them up yourself. Non holey jeans are usually cheaper and you can add the holes wherever you want.\\nYou can also try finding jeans at thrift or second hand stores. They will be more worn and comfortable than brand new jeans.\\nIf it's warm weather, you can also go with a pair of cut off denim shorts. These look great with a crop top and a flannel shirt around your waist.\\n2-2. Try an A-line printed skirt.\\nIf you don't want to go for the full dress, try an A-line printed skirt. Liv Tyler popularized this style both off screen and on, in music videos for Aerosmith and movies such as Empire Records. Try one in plaid or a floral design and earth tone color palette.\\nA-line skirts look great with an oversized band t-shirt and a flannel wrapped around your waist. 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Match these tights with printed skirts or dresses. You can even wear them under your jeans.\\nYou can layer multiple layers of tights on top of one another, with holes at different places on each pair. This adds a little extra texture to your outfit, especially if the tights or hose are two different colors or patterns.\\n3. Finishing Your Look\\n3-1. Wear minimal makeup.\\nThe grunge style is made to look as low maintenance and comfortable as possible, and the same feel translates to the makeup. Pair a little bit of brown or dark eye shadow with thick eyeliner and mascara. You want it to look kind of like a messy smokey eye, but you don't want it to look bad. You can also not wear makeup altogether.\\nYou can top this off with a dark color lipstick if you want to add another layer to your makeup. Liv Tyler often topped off her cropped top, floral skirt, and ripped tights combination with a deep red lip.\\n3-2. Dye your hair.\\nGrungers know how to rock dyed locks. You can either dye all of your hair or just some towards the bottom. Try dark red, maroon, ash blonde, brown, or caramel. You can even go pastel pink, purple, or blue. Just make sure the colors aren't too vibrant.\\nGwen Stefani dyed her hair blue, pink, and orange. Angela from My So-Called Life dyed her hair maroon as a first act of grunge rebellion.\\nMake sure it looks messy and natural. Don't straighten your hair. You don't want it to look like you tried to fix your hair too much. The messier it is, the grungier you will be.\\n3-3. Wear combat boots.\\nNo grunge outfit is complete without a great pair of combat boots. Buy them in black, maroon, grey, or brown. You can even buy a patterned pair. They make every grunge outfit look more comfortable and casual. Pair them with a band tee, a floral print skirt, a flannel around your waist, and a pair of holey tights to have the ultimate grunge outfit.\\nThe most popular boot brand was Doc Martens. Girls were seen all over popular culture wearing this iconic footwear. Actresses like Liv Tyler and Winona Ryder wore them and Angela and Rayanne rocked them on My So-Called Life. Even 90s cartoons grunge style icon Jane Lane wore them on Daria. No grunge girl's wardrobe is complete without them.\\nIf you don't like the combat boot style, you can also wear a pair of chunky shoes such as Mary Janes or a pair of canvas shoes such as Converse. Kurt Cobain was known for wearing Converse and Drew Barrymore often wore them with her baggy, ripped jeans.\\n3-4. Wear a beanie.\\nA great way to accessorize any grunge outfit is a beanie. Actresses such as Drew Barrymore popularized these accessories by topping off their plaid shirts and ripped jeans with a beanie. Pick out a black, grey, brown, or dark red beanie to wear. You can wear your hair up or down with the beanie. It looks great with most hairstyles.\\nIf you aren't into beanies, try a bandanna. 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While Nirvana popularized grunge music, there are many other grunge bands that you should become familiar with. Research who were the seminal bands of the era and familiarize yourself with their music. Go to your local CD store and look through their rock collection.\\nWhile there were many grunge bands in the 90s, some of the most influential were bands such as Hole, Green Magnet School, Pearl Jam, Soundgarden, Garbage, Rage Against the Machine, Alice in Chains, Smashing Pumpkins, 7 Year Bitch, Fastbacks, Temple of the Dog, Mad Season, Cat Butt, Veruca Salt, Skin Yard, Mother Love Bone, Tad, The Gits, Bush, Seven Mary 3, L7, Screaming Trees, Green River, The Melvins, Mudhoney, and Stone Temple Pilots.\\nNewer bands are still in the style of grunge. Look into Modest Mouse, Afghan Whigs, and Dinosaur Jr.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Grunge was a music style popularized by bands like Nirvana and Soundgarden in the 1990s. Soon after, grunge style spread all over the country and morphed into a way of life. To fully become a grunge girl and embrace 90s grunge fashion, you need to consider your clothes, shoes, attitude, and taste in music. If you follow a few simple steps, you'll be a grunge girl in no time.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Choosing Grunge-Inspired Tops\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Choose a plaid shirt.\", \"描述\": \"The most important element in a grunge girl's outfit is her plaid shirt. Token grunge girls were all over 90s TV shows. For example, Angela Chase and Rayanne Graff from My So-Called Life were always covered in plaid. Try to stay away from bright colors, focusing more on earth tones and darker colors, such as brown, red, burgundy, black, gray, mustard yellow, and dark green. The plaid shirt should always be oversized and even have holes in it.\\nTry looking at thrift stores or second-hand stores for flannel shirts. These shirts will often have a worn, faded look, which is exactly the kind of plaid you want as a grunge girl.\\nIf you buy your plaid new, avoid tight-fitting or girly fit shirts. The grunge look is unstructured and loose. Try looking in the men's section or go a size or two larger than you normally buy.\\nYou can wear the shirt either as an overshirt with another shirt underneath or tied around your waist. Avoid wearing it buttoned up. This is more grunge boy than grunge girl.\\nIf you want something plaid that is slightly more girly, look for a checkerboard plaid dress that you can wear over ripped jeans.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Wear a band t-shirt.\", \"描述\": \"The grunge persona came from a musical genre, so graphic band t-shirts are a must. 90s grunge style icon Winona Ryder rocked band t-shirts as a main part of her repertoire. Try finding shirts from 90s bands that are popular in the genre, such as Nirvana, Silverchair, Soundgarden, Pearl Jam, and Stone Temple Pilots.\\nYou can go oversized or fitted, depending on the rest of your outfit. If you go fitted, balance it out with a baggy plaid shirt or oversized overalls.\\nVintage t-shirts are really the way to go. Try to find some original tour or album shirts at thrift stores or second hand shops. They are more authentic and have the added bonus of looking worn and grungy because of their age.\\nSome major retailers and department stores sell reprints of band tees. If you go this route, do something to make it look aged. Try washing it a few times to loosen the fabric. Cut off the armholes and make it into a tank top. You can also cut off the collar and wear it off the shoulder.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Try a crop top.\", \"描述\": \"Despite the typically masculine attire related to the style, you can still show a little skin in the midsection. This style was popularized by 90s style icons such as Gwen Stefani, lead singer of the band No Doubt. Find a crop top, which can be a t-shirt or sweater, in a plain color such as black, grey, white, or maroon. You can also go for a subtle design. Just make sure it is short enough to show off your stomach.\\nIf you can't find an oversized top that is short enough, cut off the lower portion of any shirt. You can cut it slightly jagged to make it look more grunge.\\nThey make some crop tops with asymmetrical hem lines. These look great with flannels tied around your waist.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Pick a tank top.\", \"描述\": \"Being grunge isn't just about oversized clothes. Try a tight wife beater tank in white, black, grey, or brown. They look great under flannel shirts.\\nYou might also be able to find a band tank. These can be fitted or oversized, depending on what you can find. If they are oversized, pair them with a black bra and let the straps hang off your shoulders.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Pick a baby doll dress.\", \"描述\": \"You can also add a little less masculine flare sometimes by wearing a baby doll dress, typically in floral patterns. Stay within the neutral and earth tones color palette. 90s grungers were all about mixing styles and adding a layer of irony to their outfits. The key is to add a flannel shirt over it or around your waist to make it go from preppy to grunge.\\nOne of the most influential style icons of 90s grunge was Courtney Love from the band Hole. She was also the wife of Nirvana frontman Kurt Cobain. The grunge goddess rocked baby doll dresses all the time, mixing them with other grunge elements to create a messy, chic look.\\nIt doesn't matter if the patterns don't match. Matching isn't important when you're grunge.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Wearing 90s Grunge Bottoms\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Buy baggy, ripped, or patched jeans.\", \"描述\": \"One of the hallmarks of grunge is comfort, and there is nothing more comfortable than a pair of worn, baggy jeans. Buy a pair of jeans a size or two larger than you normally buy. Make sure you steer clear of the skinny jeans. They are made to fit more snugly than you want your pants. Try to find jeans with rips, holes, or patches made on them. They give them a worn, lived in look that goes great with the grunge look.\\nYou can save some money on jeans by buying a normal pair of jeans and ripping them up yourself. Non holey jeans are usually cheaper and you can add the holes wherever you want.\\nYou can also try finding jeans at thrift or second hand stores. They will be more worn and comfortable than brand new jeans.\\nIf it's warm weather, you can also go with a pair of cut off denim shorts. These look great with a crop top and a flannel shirt around your waist.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Try an A-line printed skirt.\", \"描述\": \"If you don't want to go for the full dress, try an A-line printed skirt. Liv Tyler popularized this style both off screen and on, in music videos for Aerosmith and movies such as Empire Records. Try one in plaid or a floral design and earth tone color palette.\\nA-line skirts look great with an oversized band t-shirt and a flannel wrapped around your waist. Don't worry if your plaid shirt doesn't match the pattern on the skirt. It will make you seem even more grunge.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Wear overalls.\", \"描述\": \"Denim overalls were a huge trend in the 90s and the grunge scene worked them to their advantage. Buy a pair overalls and match them with a band tee or tank. You can wear the flannel as an overshirt or around your waist because both styles look great with the overalls.\\nYou can also try the one-shoulder look as well. Instead of wearing both of the straps clasped, wear one unclasped, folding down the panels on both sides of the overalls. This variation looks great with the crop top and a flannel.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Wear ripped tights or hose.\", \"描述\": \"If you aren't really into wearing jeans all the time, try a pair of holey tights or hose to create the full grunge effect. Courtney Love would often pair her baby doll dresses with ripped tights. Buy a pair of neutral-colored or printed tights. In the same fashion as the jeans, rip holes and runs in the fabric of the legs. Match these tights with printed skirts or dresses. You can even wear them under your jeans.\\nYou can layer multiple layers of tights on top of one another, with holes at different places on each pair. This adds a little extra texture to your outfit, especially if the tights or hose are two different colors or patterns.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Finishing Your Look\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wear minimal makeup.\", \"描述\": \"The grunge style is made to look as low maintenance and comfortable as possible, and the same feel translates to the makeup. Pair a little bit of brown or dark eye shadow with thick eyeliner and mascara. You want it to look kind of like a messy smokey eye, but you don't want it to look bad. You can also not wear makeup altogether.\\nYou can top this off with a dark color lipstick if you want to add another layer to your makeup. Liv Tyler often topped off her cropped top, floral skirt, and ripped tights combination with a deep red lip.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Dye your hair.\", \"描述\": \"Grungers know how to rock dyed locks. You can either dye all of your hair or just some towards the bottom. Try dark red, maroon, ash blonde, brown, or caramel. You can even go pastel pink, purple, or blue. Just make sure the colors aren't too vibrant.\\nGwen Stefani dyed her hair blue, pink, and orange. Angela from My So-Called Life dyed her hair maroon as a first act of grunge rebellion.\\nMake sure it looks messy and natural. Don't straighten your hair. You don't want it to look like you tried to fix your hair too much. The messier it is, the grungier you will be.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Wear combat boots.\", \"描述\": \"No grunge outfit is complete without a great pair of combat boots. Buy them in black, maroon, grey, or brown. You can even buy a patterned pair. They make every grunge outfit look more comfortable and casual. Pair them with a band tee, a floral print skirt, a flannel around your waist, and a pair of holey tights to have the ultimate grunge outfit.\\nThe most popular boot brand was Doc Martens. Girls were seen all over popular culture wearing this iconic footwear. Actresses like Liv Tyler and Winona Ryder wore them and Angela and Rayanne rocked them on My So-Called Life. Even 90s cartoons grunge style icon Jane Lane wore them on Daria. No grunge girl's wardrobe is complete without them.\\nIf you don't like the combat boot style, you can also wear a pair of chunky shoes such as Mary Janes or a pair of canvas shoes such as Converse. Kurt Cobain was known for wearing Converse and Drew Barrymore often wore them with her baggy, ripped jeans.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Wear a beanie.\", \"描述\": \"A great way to accessorize any grunge outfit is a beanie. Actresses such as Drew Barrymore popularized these accessories by topping off their plaid shirts and ripped jeans with a beanie. Pick out a black, grey, brown, or dark red beanie to wear. You can wear your hair up or down with the beanie. It looks great with most hairstyles.\\nIf you aren't into beanies, try a bandanna. They have a similar grungy feel but come in more colors and designs. They are also more comfortable to wear in warm weather.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Grab some accessories.\", \"描述\": \"Accessories can add some interesting flare to any grunge outfit. Liv Tyler and Gwen Stefani could rock a well placed necklace or earrings. Try a black braided tattoo choker, a large simple cross necklace, or large chunky earrings. You can also pick up a few silver and colored band rings to wear, layering a few on each finger.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Playing the Part\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stop caring.\", \"描述\": \"The whole grunge persona is built on a sense of ambivalence towards society, consumerism, and conformity. The clothes are worn, large, and comfortable because you don't care about many things anymore. Don't rush around and stress about anything. A grunge girl is content to just sit around and listen to some good music. She is not typically high strung or obsessive. She lets things happen as they happen without much though or care.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Have attitude.\", \"描述\": \"Now that you have the look, you need to adopt the attitude. Although grunge girls don't care, they get an attitude with people when they try to make them conform or join things. Don't listen when people tell you to do something. Just tell them you want to sit and listen to your music all day long. Do what you have to do in life, but get an attitude with others when they interact with you.\\nThe way Courtney Love, Liv Tyler, and Drew Barrymore acted in the 90s provide perfect examples for the grunge attitude. Their lack of respect for authority and snarky attitude led them to constant trouble and even some arrests.\\nThis doesn't apply to your grunge friends. They understand your carelessness and apathy for the world, which means you don't have to get an attitude with them to get your point across.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Know the music.\", \"描述\": \"Grunge would not be a way of life if it wasn't for grunge music. While Nirvana popularized grunge music, there are many other grunge bands that you should become familiar with. Research who were the seminal bands of the era and familiarize yourself with their music. Go to your local CD store and look through their rock collection.\\nWhile there were many grunge bands in the 90s, some of the most influential were bands such as Hole, Green Magnet School, Pearl Jam, Soundgarden, Garbage, Rage Against the Machine, Alice in Chains, Smashing Pumpkins, 7 Year Bitch, Fastbacks, Temple of the Dog, Mad Season, Cat Butt, Veruca Salt, Skin Yard, Mother Love Bone, Tad, The Gits, Bush, Seven Mary 3, L7, Screaming Trees, Green River, The Melvins, Mudhoney, and Stone Temple Pilots.\\nNewer bands are still in the style of grunge. Look into Modest Mouse, Afghan Whigs, and Dinosaur Jr.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Bad Boy Behavior and Habits
1-1. Above all, be a man.
You have your own time, your own dreams, and your own plans, and you should almost never compromise them to make someone else happy (romantic interest or not). For instance, if you don't like something, don't pretend to like it. Be confident about your likes and dislikes - this will naturally attract like-minded people.
Discover your values. What do you like? What do you hate? What is unique about you? What makes you happy? Know your self, or you'll find yourself faking values in order to "fit in." Can you really be happy if you're pretending to be someone you're not?
1-2. Become the center of your world.
You exist primarily to make yourself happy - others are secondary. Make yourself and your life a priority. If you treat yourself like you're important, other people, including women, will see you as important too. Most people are naturally attracted to important people - being important is cool!
With very rare exceptions, never sacrifice your self-image when pursuing a romantic interest. Do you like a girl who doesn't seem interested? Forget about her - you're too valuable to waste time trying to appease her.
Women will appreciate your self-interest. It shows that you know what you want and you're not afraid to go for it.
1-3. Stop caring about everything.
Nothing's less sexy than someone who's constantly stressed out about every minor aspect of his life. Bad boys don't sweat the small stuff because they're sure that they have it all under control. For instance, in a situation where you're around women that you find attractive, while you won't necessarily want to act like a complete slob, you'll want to try to remain as relaxed as if you were at home watching TV. Doing this gives the signal to the people around you that you're cool, confident, and in-control of your situation, which, for bad boys, can be downright sexy.
It's pretty tough to go from being a nervous, worried person to a smooth, confident player overnight. If you're still working at being relaxed, try slowing down your movements and actions — this is a great first step that will make you look (and feel) much calmer. Walk with slow, sure strides. Speak slowly but confidently. Avoid flinching whenever you can.
Even for bad boys, things don't always go as planned. In the event that something does go wrong, try not to stress. Instead, play it off with a low-key joke. For instance, if you spill a drink all over yourself, don't spend time worrying about how you'll need to bleach it when you get home. Instead, just say something like, "Whoa! Looks like I have a new tie-dye to add to my collection." It's a little cheesy, but it shows that minor problems don't phase you.
1-4. Stop asking for permission or approval.
So-called "nice guys" are always waiting for a sign that it's safe to proceed before taking action. That sign, however, often doesn't come, so they appear indecisive. Be decisive (especially with women) and handle objections as they come. Don't look to others to determine if you're acting "right". Do what feels right for you. You might be surprised by what you've always had permission to do!
With women: instead of asking "Can I kiss you," just go for the kiss. The same goes for "Will you go on a date with me?" Start talking to her, and say "We need to hang out. What's good for you, Friday or Saturday?" Even if you're shot down, your decisiveness is much more attractive than if you simply asked for her attention.
Have an opinion on everything, from the restaurants you eat at to how you spend your free time. Know what you want, and take action to achieve it - not only will you be more attractive, but you'll be happier.
Real men aren't creeps or pervs. Be confident, but also be very aware of your partner's needs. Never, ever force a kiss (or worse) on someone who doesn't want it. Just as you are keenly aware of your own desires, so are they. Respect their decisions.
1-5. Lead.
As a man, always lead. Don't wait for someone to tell you where to go or what to do. If your group can't make a decision, make it yourself. Being a leader becomes natural once you stop worrying about other people and go and do what you know you need to do. You're not being selfish. Rather, you're taking care of your own life because you don't expect anyone to do it for you.
Be the leader of your life in every situation - If you want to talk to that girl, or want to get that job, go do it.
Also be a leader to your peers - If a friend is too chicken to talk to a girl, you can tease him a little as long as you're not cruel and your goal is to help motivate him to gain confidence. Your friends will appreciate your help and women will go crazy for you.
1-6. Be honest with everyone, especially yourself.
One reason girls love bad boys is because they're honest. "Nice guys" often aren't. If a bad boy likes a girl, he will show her. A nice guy tends to hide his interest or beat around the bush. A nice guy tries to be a girl's friend as a stepping stone to becoming her boyfriend, but winds up just being her friend. Most girls know when guys like them. A bad boy knows this and has no problem showing this to a girl. In order to be a bad boy, be honest about your intentions. Most girls will appreciate the honesty - no one likes wading through friendly BS to find a potential partner.
Girls can even appreciate relatively crude signs of interest. For instance, both bad boys and nice guys will look at a girl's chest. However, a bad boy won't care about being caught. This is much more attractive than trying to sneak a peek but being caught. The bad boy is honest about what he wants and he knows he has no reason to be ashamed.
1-7. Be independent.
Never "need" anyone else - other people are nice to have around, but not necessary for your happiness. Learn to enjoy yourself and your own company. You will realize that the less you need other people, the more other people will need you. Always create your own fun and entertainment. Have a , and find hobbies and other interests that you would like to spend your time.
Never make a relationship your or your . Stop looking for others, especially women, to make you happy - you don't them. Men all over the world waste time trying to find happiness in everything except themselves. When you're happy on your own, others will naturally want to be around you.
Have a hobby - anything that uses your time and makes you happy. If it's something that lets you come in contact with new, young, sexy people, all the better. It should be something that you're passionate about, something you like, and something that you can build on! If you don't have or want a hobby, at least volunteer. Use your time to better the world - you're a bad boy, but you're not evil.
1-8. Value yourself - love yourself in a balanced and respectable way.
A "bad boy" is bad because he knows that he is more valuable to himself than others are. He cares about himself. A bad boy realizes that he knows himself better than anyone else, thus, his opinion about himself is above the opinion of others. It comes down to having self respect, and you must earn your own self respect before you can expect others, especially girls, to respect you.
How do you earn self-respect? Create a standard for what you will accept or won't accept from people, and follow it to a T. The most important part of having self respect is to toward you or people who are important to you.
One problem with nice guys is that they are nice to everyone - even people who aren't nice back. We are all taught to turn the other cheek. In some cases, unfortunately, this only encourages jerks. Don't reward bad behavior. Be nice to people who deserve it. Remember, . Surround yourself with good people who have earned your trust and respect.
1-9. Be strong physically, but more so emotionally.
As a man, you should be a pillar of strength that your family, friends, and especially women can rely on. Realize that no matter how much you complain or vent, your circumstances won't change. Instead, Perpetual victims are unattractive and, more importantly, unable to better themselves.
When things go wrong, just do your best to make it through the day. It is easy to get caught in the moment when something bad happens, but just remember that you're a man who solves his own problems and you will be able to handle it.
Make sure the people in your life are taken care of. You shouldn't be anyone's sugar daddy - are the most important person in your life - but you'll be appreciated and sought-after if you're helpful, strong and reliable.
Work out or participate in some form of exercise every day. Regular exercise helps improve your mood, energy, and overall health! This is a critical part of helping you improve your emotional control, as it helps maintain the daily stress level. Working out also improves your confidence and your physical attractiveness - there's no reason not to!
2. Building Bad Boy Confidence
2-1. Know yourself.
Much of the advice above requires you to have high confidence and a good self-image. If you don't have these fundamentals, it's difficult if not impossible to be a true bad boy. Ask yourself questions like, "are there situations that make me nervous?" and "am I being the best that I can be?" If you don't like your answers, use the following steps to build healthy confidence. You'll be on your way to badness in no time.
2-2. Get fit.
You don't need to be a body builder to be a bad boy, but you do need to be healthy. Scientific evidence has shown that physical exercise has a positive effect on self-esteem and can help thwart depression. The effects are both immediate (through the release of stress-reducing endorphins) and long-term (through the improvement of self-image and overall fitness). Don't put it off - go to the gym today, not tomorrow.
One study found that moderately intense aerobic exercise produces the greatest immediate psychological boost. Any exercise routine that improves your physical fitness, however, will make you more attractive to yourself and others.
For tips on starting an exercise routine, consult one of our many how-to guides on exercising, such as How to Exercise.
2-3. Start winning.
Constantly work towards your career and personal goals. You don't need to be rich to have high confidence, but you do need to be proud of yourself. Working hard and succeeding will make you feel valuable and important - the cornerstones of a confident personality.
Everyone (including bad boys) suffers personal setbacks. If you're experiencing difficulty in your career or personal life, keep it in perspective - by persevering through your difficulties, you're building a stronger personality. Never give up!
2-4. Treat yourself with value.
Allow yourself to enjoy the things you like. You don't have to spend lots of money to feel valuable - simply cook the foods you like, enjoy your favorite drink in moderation, and reserve time to practice your hobbies. If you're doing the things you like, you'll naturally be happier, and if you're happier, you'll be more confident.
2-5. Address any personal psychological issues.
Sometimes, low confidence can be-deeply rooted. Childhood abuse and traumatic experiences can cause psychological difficulties throughout your life that can negatively affect your self esteem. Try to seek treatment for any issues that are affecting you mentally or emotionally. A variety of treatments, including counseling, biofeedback techniques, and the prescription of medicines, are available.
Remember that seeking help for psychological issues is a sign of strength, not of weakness. Real men don't ignore their personal problems, they fix them. Sometimes, this requires the help of someone else. Never feel embarrassed to see a counselor or a therapist - over a quarter of US adults received some kind of mental health treatment within two years of a 2004 poll.
3. Bad Boy Dating
3-1. Know what you want.
A bad boy knows what he wants from a partner and is honest about it (see step six under Part One.) There's no shame in pursuing purely sexual relationships as long as you're honest about it. Similarly, having a long-term girlfriend doesn't mean you have to be less of a bad boy. Below are some tips for handling the fairer sex like a true bad boy.
3-2. Have your own life.
The goal of a relationship shouldn't be to dedicate your life to your partner. Even if you're married, make your own plans. Reserve time for yourself. Spend time with your friends. If you treat yourself like a valuable commodity, your time will be highly sought-after by your partner. Conversely, if you're constantly making yourself available to your partner's whims, your time will become less valuable. Keep your backbone in any relationship - make sure you're not so dedicated to your partner that you forget about yourself.
3-3. Be cocky.
Being in a relationship with someone doesn't mean you need to worship them. Tease them! A lighthearted back-and-forth keeps a relationship passionate and fiery. It's also a good sign of a confident "alpha" personality - you're showing you're not afraid to engage in a little verbal swordplay. Think about it - would you really want to be in a relationship with someone you always have to be nice to?
Don't be too cruel with your teasing. Avoid subjects that your partner is sensitive about - for instance, her looks or her career. Keep it light.
Be prepared to receive some teasing yourself - don't dish it out if you can't take it!
If you accidentally hurt your partner's feelings, make a genuine apology. Remember, bad boys are honest - if you're truly sorry, say so. Don't feel like you need to withhold a well-deserved apology to be a bad boy. That's not "bad" - it's just
3-4. Wear the pants in your relationship.
This doesn't mean to boss your partner around or prevent her from making decisions. Rather, it means you should aim to be decisive in situations where it's appropriate and to have a plan at all times. For instance, if you're going out, pick a place and make reservations ahead of time. Take her hand to lead her through crowds without being asked. Kiss her when the mood suits you. Show her that you're confident about what you want for yourself and her. Choose a topic of conversation that you're passionate about. Talk your family, or an event that strikes home for you. Don't gossip; speak from the heart, and let your darling know that you have a sensitive side and show her your true family man side.
3-5. Be surprising.
In a long-term relationship, it can be difficult not to fall into certain habits and routines. Still, make an effort to be spontaneous sometimes. Plan weekend getaways when you both have the time. Surprise her with tickets to an evening concert when she wakes up in the morning. Breaking the routine of a relationship keeps it fresh and exciting.
It might seem paradoxical to plan seemingly "spontaneous" activities ahead of time. However, it's necessary - nothing's worse than making an impromptu trip to an ice-skating rink only to discover that it's closed. Skating rinks aren't very bad boy anyway.
Remember that the goal of being spontaneous is not to shower her with gifts. Maintain your personal value - if you're unsure of what to do, try to plan activities that like. You'll be happy to go, and your happiness will reflect in your partner.
3-6. Give her space and make sure she gives you space.
Bad boys and their partners aren't dependent on each other. They maintain their own lives, friendships, and hobbies. This makes the time that they do spend together more valuable.
Balancing time between your friends and your partner can be difficult. Luckily, since this is a common problem, it's been the source of much thoughtful (and some thoughtless) online writing. Consider consulting a sensibly-written article for advice.
Tips
Practice visualization. Everyday, imagine yourself as the man you would like to be. Just see yourself talking, walking and thinking the way you want, and it will help you get to your goal faster.
Not all women want a bad boy. If you want to act like a bad boy, still be courteous and respectful to women. This will make you seem even cooler. this is for being popular too,.
Being a bad boy takes time. Take it one step at time and one day you will have fully grown into that man you desire. This is not about faking it, but rather about being your best self. Give yourself time to truly grow.
Warnings
Women will sometimes test you to see if you're the real deal or just an actor. Follow these steps until you internalize them.
Remember that being a bad boy isn't the same thing as being a jerk. Bad boys are confident without being arrogant or cruel. They know they're valuable, but they never pretend like they're better than they are.
Being a bad boy will set you free of your old needy habits and your old needy friends.
It isn't easy to change yourself, and it can be almost impossible to escape years of programming. However, you can always become better. For the most efficient results, don't try to change yourself completely - concentrate your efforts where you can improve the most.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Bad Boy Behavior and Habits\\n1-1. Above all, be a man.\\nYou have your own time, your own dreams, and your own plans, and you should almost never compromise them to make someone else happy (romantic interest or not). For instance, if you don't like something, don't pretend to like it. Be confident about your likes and dislikes - this will naturally attract like-minded people.\\nDiscover your values. What do you like? What do you hate? What is unique about you? What makes you happy? Know your self, or you'll find yourself faking values in order to \\\"fit in.\\\" Can you really be happy if you're pretending to be someone you're not?\\n1-2. Become the center of your world.\\nYou exist primarily to make yourself happy - others are secondary. Make yourself and your life a priority. If you treat yourself like you're important, other people, including women, will see you as important too. Most people are naturally attracted to important people - being important is cool!\\nWith very rare exceptions, never sacrifice your self-image when pursuing a romantic interest. Do you like a girl who doesn't seem interested? Forget about her - you're too valuable to waste time trying to appease her.\\nWomen will appreciate your self-interest. It shows that you know what you want and you're not afraid to go for it.\\n1-3. Stop caring about everything.\\nNothing's less sexy than someone who's constantly stressed out about every minor aspect of his life. Bad boys don't sweat the small stuff because they're sure that they have it all under control. For instance, in a situation where you're around women that you find attractive, while you won't necessarily want to act like a complete slob, you'll want to try to remain as relaxed as if you were at home watching TV. Doing this gives the signal to the people around you that you're cool, confident, and in-control of your situation, which, for bad boys, can be downright sexy.\\nIt's pretty tough to go from being a nervous, worried person to a smooth, confident player overnight. If you're still working at being relaxed, try slowing down your movements and actions — this is a great first step that will make you look (and feel) much calmer. Walk with slow, sure strides. Speak slowly but confidently. Avoid flinching whenever you can.\\nEven for bad boys, things don't always go as planned. In the event that something does go wrong, try not to stress. Instead, play it off with a low-key joke. For instance, if you spill a drink all over yourself, don't spend time worrying about how you'll need to bleach it when you get home. Instead, just say something like, \\\"Whoa! Looks like I have a new tie-dye to add to my collection.\\\" It's a little cheesy, but it shows that minor problems don't phase you.\\n1-4. Stop asking for permission or approval.\\nSo-called \\\"nice guys\\\" are always waiting for a sign that it's safe to proceed before taking action. That sign, however, often doesn't come, so they appear indecisive. Be decisive (especially with women) and handle objections as they come. Don't look to others to determine if you're acting \\\"right\\\". Do what feels right for you. You might be surprised by what you've always had permission to do!\\nWith women: instead of asking \\\"Can I kiss you,\\\" just go for the kiss. The same goes for \\\"Will you go on a date with me?\\\" Start talking to her, and say \\\"We need to hang out. What's good for you, Friday or Saturday?\\\" Even if you're shot down, your decisiveness is much more attractive than if you simply asked for her attention.\\nHave an opinion on everything, from the restaurants you eat at to how you spend your free time. Know what you want, and take action to achieve it - not only will you be more attractive, but you'll be happier.\\n\\n Real men aren't creeps or pervs. Be confident, but also be very aware of your partner's needs. Never, ever force a kiss (or worse) on someone who doesn't want it. Just as you are keenly aware of your own desires, so are they. Respect their decisions.\\n1-5. Lead.\\nAs a man, always lead. Don't wait for someone to tell you where to go or what to do. If your group can't make a decision, make it yourself. Being a leader becomes natural once you stop worrying about other people and go and do what you know you need to do. You're not being selfish. Rather, you're taking care of your own life because you don't expect anyone to do it for you.\\nBe the leader of your life in every situation - If you want to talk to that girl, or want to get that job, go do it.\\nAlso be a leader to your peers - If a friend is too chicken to talk to a girl, you can tease him a little as long as you're not cruel and your goal is to help motivate him to gain confidence. Your friends will appreciate your help and women will go crazy for you.\\n1-6. Be honest with everyone, especially yourself.\\nOne reason girls love bad boys is because they're honest. \\\"Nice guys\\\" often aren't. If a bad boy likes a girl, he will show her. A nice guy tends to hide his interest or beat around the bush. A nice guy tries to be a girl's friend as a stepping stone to becoming her boyfriend, but winds up just being her friend. Most girls know when guys like them. A bad boy knows this and has no problem showing this to a girl. In order to be a bad boy, be honest about your intentions. Most girls will appreciate the honesty - no one likes wading through friendly BS to find a potential partner.\\nGirls can even appreciate relatively crude signs of interest. For instance, both bad boys and nice guys will look at a girl's chest. However, a bad boy won't care about being caught. This is much more attractive than trying to sneak a peek but being caught. The bad boy is honest about what he wants and he knows he has no reason to be ashamed.\\n1-7. Be independent.\\nNever \\\"need\\\" anyone else - other people are nice to have around, but not necessary for your happiness. Learn to enjoy yourself and your own company. You will realize that the less you need other people, the more other people will need you. Always create your own fun and entertainment. Have a , and find hobbies and other interests that you would like to spend your time.\\nNever make a relationship your or your . Stop looking for others, especially women, to make you happy - you don't them. Men all over the world waste time trying to find happiness in everything except themselves. When you're happy on your own, others will naturally want to be around you.\\nHave a hobby - anything that uses your time and makes you happy. If it's something that lets you come in contact with new, young, sexy people, all the better. It should be something that you're passionate about, something you like, and something that you can build on! If you don't have or want a hobby, at least volunteer. Use your time to better the world - you're a bad boy, but you're not evil.\\n1-8. Value yourself - love yourself in a balanced and respectable way.\\nA \\\"bad boy\\\" is bad because he knows that he is more valuable to himself than others are. He cares about himself. A bad boy realizes that he knows himself better than anyone else, thus, his opinion about himself is above the opinion of others. It comes down to having self respect, and you must earn your own self respect before you can expect others, especially girls, to respect you.\\nHow do you earn self-respect? Create a standard for what you will accept or won't accept from people, and follow it to a T. The most important part of having self respect is to toward you or people who are important to you.\\nOne problem with nice guys is that they are nice to everyone - even people who aren't nice back. We are all taught to turn the other cheek. In some cases, unfortunately, this only encourages jerks. Don't reward bad behavior. Be nice to people who deserve it. Remember, . Surround yourself with good people who have earned your trust and respect.\\n1-9. Be strong physically, but more so emotionally.\\nAs a man, you should be a pillar of strength that your family, friends, and especially women can rely on. Realize that no matter how much you complain or vent, your circumstances won't change. Instead, Perpetual victims are unattractive and, more importantly, unable to better themselves. \\nWhen things go wrong, just do your best to make it through the day. It is easy to get caught in the moment when something bad happens, but just remember that you're a man who solves his own problems and you will be able to handle it.\\nMake sure the people in your life are taken care of. You shouldn't be anyone's sugar daddy - are the most important person in your life - but you'll be appreciated and sought-after if you're helpful, strong and reliable.\\nWork out or participate in some form of exercise every day. Regular exercise helps improve your mood, energy, and overall health! This is a critical part of helping you improve your emotional control, as it helps maintain the daily stress level. Working out also improves your confidence and your physical attractiveness - there's no reason not to!\\n2. Building Bad Boy Confidence\\n2-1. Know yourself.\\nMuch of the advice above requires you to have high confidence and a good self-image. If you don't have these fundamentals, it's difficult if not impossible to be a true bad boy. Ask yourself questions like, \\\"are there situations that make me nervous?\\\" and \\\"am I being the best that I can be?\\\" If you don't like your answers, use the following steps to build healthy confidence. You'll be on your way to badness in no time.\\n2-2. Get fit.\\nYou don't need to be a body builder to be a bad boy, but you do need to be healthy. Scientific evidence has shown that physical exercise has a positive effect on self-esteem and can help thwart depression. The effects are both immediate (through the release of stress-reducing endorphins) and long-term (through the improvement of self-image and overall fitness). Don't put it off - go to the gym today, not tomorrow.\\nOne study found that moderately intense aerobic exercise produces the greatest immediate psychological boost. Any exercise routine that improves your physical fitness, however, will make you more attractive to yourself and others.\\nFor tips on starting an exercise routine, consult one of our many how-to guides on exercising, such as How to Exercise.\\n2-3. Start winning.\\nConstantly work towards your career and personal goals. You don't need to be rich to have high confidence, but you do need to be proud of yourself. Working hard and succeeding will make you feel valuable and important - the cornerstones of a confident personality.\\nEveryone (including bad boys) suffers personal setbacks. If you're experiencing difficulty in your career or personal life, keep it in perspective - by persevering through your difficulties, you're building a stronger personality. Never give up!\\n2-4. Treat yourself with value.\\nAllow yourself to enjoy the things you like. You don't have to spend lots of money to feel valuable - simply cook the foods you like, enjoy your favorite drink in moderation, and reserve time to practice your hobbies. If you're doing the things you like, you'll naturally be happier, and if you're happier, you'll be more confident.\\n2-5. Address any personal psychological issues.\\nSometimes, low confidence can be-deeply rooted. Childhood abuse and traumatic experiences can cause psychological difficulties throughout your life that can negatively affect your self esteem. Try to seek treatment for any issues that are affecting you mentally or emotionally. A variety of treatments, including counseling, biofeedback techniques, and the prescription of medicines, are available.\\nRemember that seeking help for psychological issues is a sign of strength, not of weakness. Real men don't ignore their personal problems, they fix them. Sometimes, this requires the help of someone else. Never feel embarrassed to see a counselor or a therapist - over a quarter of US adults received some kind of mental health treatment within two years of a 2004 poll.\\n3. Bad Boy Dating\\n3-1. Know what you want.\\nA bad boy knows what he wants from a partner and is honest about it (see step six under Part One.) There's no shame in pursuing purely sexual relationships as long as you're honest about it. Similarly, having a long-term girlfriend doesn't mean you have to be less of a bad boy. Below are some tips for handling the fairer sex like a true bad boy.\\n3-2. Have your own life.\\nThe goal of a relationship shouldn't be to dedicate your life to your partner. Even if you're married, make your own plans. Reserve time for yourself. Spend time with your friends. If you treat yourself like a valuable commodity, your time will be highly sought-after by your partner. Conversely, if you're constantly making yourself available to your partner's whims, your time will become less valuable. Keep your backbone in any relationship - make sure you're not so dedicated to your partner that you forget about yourself.\\n3-3. Be cocky.\\nBeing in a relationship with someone doesn't mean you need to worship them. Tease them! A lighthearted back-and-forth keeps a relationship passionate and fiery. It's also a good sign of a confident \\\"alpha\\\" personality - you're showing you're not afraid to engage in a little verbal swordplay. Think about it - would you really want to be in a relationship with someone you always have to be nice to?\\nDon't be too cruel with your teasing. Avoid subjects that your partner is sensitive about - for instance, her looks or her career. Keep it light.\\nBe prepared to receive some teasing yourself - don't dish it out if you can't take it!\\nIf you accidentally hurt your partner's feelings, make a genuine apology. Remember, bad boys are honest - if you're truly sorry, say so. Don't feel like you need to withhold a well-deserved apology to be a bad boy. That's not \\\"bad\\\" - it's just\\n3-4. Wear the pants in your relationship.\\nThis doesn't mean to boss your partner around or prevent her from making decisions. Rather, it means you should aim to be decisive in situations where it's appropriate and to have a plan at all times. For instance, if you're going out, pick a place and make reservations ahead of time. Take her hand to lead her through crowds without being asked. Kiss her when the mood suits you. Show her that you're confident about what you want for yourself and her. Choose a topic of conversation that you're passionate about. Talk your family, or an event that strikes home for you. Don't gossip; speak from the heart, and let your darling know that you have a sensitive side and show her your true family man side.\\n3-5. Be surprising.\\nIn a long-term relationship, it can be difficult not to fall into certain habits and routines. Still, make an effort to be spontaneous sometimes. Plan weekend getaways when you both have the time. Surprise her with tickets to an evening concert when she wakes up in the morning. Breaking the routine of a relationship keeps it fresh and exciting.\\nIt might seem paradoxical to plan seemingly \\\"spontaneous\\\" activities ahead of time. However, it's necessary - nothing's worse than making an impromptu trip to an ice-skating rink only to discover that it's closed. Skating rinks aren't very bad boy anyway.\\nRemember that the goal of being spontaneous is not to shower her with gifts. Maintain your personal value - if you're unsure of what to do, try to plan activities that like. You'll be happy to go, and your happiness will reflect in your partner.\\n3-6. Give her space and make sure she gives you space.\\nBad boys and their partners aren't dependent on each other. They maintain their own lives, friendships, and hobbies. This makes the time that they do spend together more valuable.\\nBalancing time between your friends and your partner can be difficult. Luckily, since this is a common problem, it's been the source of much thoughtful (and some thoughtless) online writing. Consider consulting a sensibly-written article for advice.\\nTips\\nPractice visualization. Everyday, imagine yourself as the man you would like to be. Just see yourself talking, walking and thinking the way you want, and it will help you get to your goal faster.\\nNot all women want a bad boy. If you want to act like a bad boy, still be courteous and respectful to women. This will make you seem even cooler. this is for being popular too,.\\nBeing a bad boy takes time. Take it one step at time and one day you will have fully grown into that man you desire. This is not about faking it, but rather about being your best self. Give yourself time to truly grow.\\nWarnings\\nWomen will sometimes test you to see if you're the real deal or just an actor. Follow these steps until you internalize them.\\nRemember that being a bad boy isn't the same thing as being a jerk. Bad boys are confident without being arrogant or cruel. They know they're valuable, but they never pretend like they're better than they are.\\nBeing a bad boy will set you free of your old needy habits and your old needy friends.\\nIt isn't easy to change yourself, and it can be almost impossible to escape years of programming. However, you can always become better. For the most efficient results, don't try to change yourself completely - concentrate your efforts where you can improve the most.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Ever wonder why women can't seem to resist bad boys? It's not because they're jerks - no one likes someone because they're a jerk. Rather, it's because they're confident and assertive - in other words, sexy and charming. Use these pointers to build your masculine confidence and show the world (and all the women in it) who wears the pants!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Bad Boy Behavior and Habits\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Above all, be a man.\", \"描述\": \"You have your own time, your own dreams, and your own plans, and you should almost never compromise them to make someone else happy (romantic interest or not). For instance, if you don't like something, don't pretend to like it. Be confident about your likes and dislikes - this will naturally attract like-minded people.\\nDiscover your values. What do you like? What do you hate? What is unique about you? What makes you happy? Know your self, or you'll find yourself faking values in order to \\\"fit in.\\\" Can you really be happy if you're pretending to be someone you're not?\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Become the center of your world.\", \"描述\": \"You exist primarily to make yourself happy - others are secondary. Make yourself and your life a priority. If you treat yourself like you're important, other people, including women, will see you as important too. Most people are naturally attracted to important people - being important is cool!\\nWith very rare exceptions, never sacrifice your self-image when pursuing a romantic interest. Do you like a girl who doesn't seem interested? Forget about her - you're too valuable to waste time trying to appease her.\\nWomen will appreciate your self-interest. It shows that you know what you want and you're not afraid to go for it.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Stop caring about everything.\", \"描述\": \"Nothing's less sexy than someone who's constantly stressed out about every minor aspect of his life. Bad boys don't sweat the small stuff because they're sure that they have it all under control. For instance, in a situation where you're around women that you find attractive, while you won't necessarily want to act like a complete slob, you'll want to try to remain as relaxed as if you were at home watching TV. Doing this gives the signal to the people around you that you're cool, confident, and in-control of your situation, which, for bad boys, can be downright sexy.\\nIt's pretty tough to go from being a nervous, worried person to a smooth, confident player overnight. If you're still working at being relaxed, try slowing down your movements and actions — this is a great first step that will make you look (and feel) much calmer. Walk with slow, sure strides. Speak slowly but confidently. Avoid flinching whenever you can.\\nEven for bad boys, things don't always go as planned. In the event that something does go wrong, try not to stress. Instead, play it off with a low-key joke. For instance, if you spill a drink all over yourself, don't spend time worrying about how you'll need to bleach it when you get home. Instead, just say something like, \\\"Whoa! Looks like I have a new tie-dye to add to my collection.\\\" It's a little cheesy, but it shows that minor problems don't phase you.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stop asking for permission or approval.\", \"描述\": \"So-called \\\"nice guys\\\" are always waiting for a sign that it's safe to proceed before taking action. That sign, however, often doesn't come, so they appear indecisive. Be decisive (especially with women) and handle objections as they come. Don't look to others to determine if you're acting \\\"right\\\". Do what feels right for you. You might be surprised by what you've always had permission to do!\\nWith women: instead of asking \\\"Can I kiss you,\\\" just go for the kiss. The same goes for \\\"Will you go on a date with me?\\\" Start talking to her, and say \\\"We need to hang out. What's good for you, Friday or Saturday?\\\" Even if you're shot down, your decisiveness is much more attractive than if you simply asked for her attention.\\nHave an opinion on everything, from the restaurants you eat at to how you spend your free time. Know what you want, and take action to achieve it - not only will you be more attractive, but you'll be happier.\\n\\n Real men aren't creeps or pervs. Be confident, but also be very aware of your partner's needs. Never, ever force a kiss (or worse) on someone who doesn't want it. Just as you are keenly aware of your own desires, so are they. Respect their decisions.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Lead.\", \"描述\": \"As a man, always lead. Don't wait for someone to tell you where to go or what to do. If your group can't make a decision, make it yourself. Being a leader becomes natural once you stop worrying about other people and go and do what you know you need to do. You're not being selfish. Rather, you're taking care of your own life because you don't expect anyone to do it for you.\\nBe the leader of your life in every situation - If you want to talk to that girl, or want to get that job, go do it.\\nAlso be a leader to your peers - If a friend is too chicken to talk to a girl, you can tease him a little as long as you're not cruel and your goal is to help motivate him to gain confidence. Your friends will appreciate your help and women will go crazy for you.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be honest with everyone, especially yourself.\", \"描述\": \"One reason girls love bad boys is because they're honest. \\\"Nice guys\\\" often aren't. If a bad boy likes a girl, he will show her. A nice guy tends to hide his interest or beat around the bush. A nice guy tries to be a girl's friend as a stepping stone to becoming her boyfriend, but winds up just being her friend. Most girls know when guys like them. A bad boy knows this and has no problem showing this to a girl. In order to be a bad boy, be honest about your intentions. Most girls will appreciate the honesty - no one likes wading through friendly BS to find a potential partner.\\nGirls can even appreciate relatively crude signs of interest. For instance, both bad boys and nice guys will look at a girl's chest. However, a bad boy won't care about being caught. This is much more attractive than trying to sneak a peek but being caught. The bad boy is honest about what he wants and he knows he has no reason to be ashamed.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Be independent.\", \"描述\": \"Never \\\"need\\\" anyone else - other people are nice to have around, but not necessary for your happiness. Learn to enjoy yourself and your own company. You will realize that the less you need other people, the more other people will need you. Always create your own fun and entertainment. Have a , and find hobbies and other interests that you would like to spend your time.\\nNever make a relationship your or your . Stop looking for others, especially women, to make you happy - you don't them. Men all over the world waste time trying to find happiness in everything except themselves. When you're happy on your own, others will naturally want to be around you.\\nHave a hobby - anything that uses your time and makes you happy. If it's something that lets you come in contact with new, young, sexy people, all the better. It should be something that you're passionate about, something you like, and something that you can build on! If you don't have or want a hobby, at least volunteer. Use your time to better the world - you're a bad boy, but you're not evil.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Value yourself - love yourself in a balanced and respectable way.\", \"描述\": \"A \\\"bad boy\\\" is bad because he knows that he is more valuable to himself than others are. He cares about himself. A bad boy realizes that he knows himself better than anyone else, thus, his opinion about himself is above the opinion of others. It comes down to having self respect, and you must earn your own self respect before you can expect others, especially girls, to respect you.\\nHow do you earn self-respect? Create a standard for what you will accept or won't accept from people, and follow it to a T. The most important part of having self respect is to toward you or people who are important to you.\\nOne problem with nice guys is that they are nice to everyone - even people who aren't nice back. We are all taught to turn the other cheek. In some cases, unfortunately, this only encourages jerks. Don't reward bad behavior. Be nice to people who deserve it. Remember, . Surround yourself with good people who have earned your trust and respect.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Be strong physically, but more so emotionally.\", \"描述\": \"As a man, you should be a pillar of strength that your family, friends, and especially women can rely on. Realize that no matter how much you complain or vent, your circumstances won't change. Instead, Perpetual victims are unattractive and, more importantly, unable to better themselves. \\nWhen things go wrong, just do your best to make it through the day. It is easy to get caught in the moment when something bad happens, but just remember that you're a man who solves his own problems and you will be able to handle it.\\nMake sure the people in your life are taken care of. You shouldn't be anyone's sugar daddy - are the most important person in your life - but you'll be appreciated and sought-after if you're helpful, strong and reliable.\\nWork out or participate in some form of exercise every day. Regular exercise helps improve your mood, energy, and overall health! This is a critical part of helping you improve your emotional control, as it helps maintain the daily stress level. Working out also improves your confidence and your physical attractiveness - there's no reason not to!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Building Bad Boy Confidence\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Much of the advice above requires you to have high confidence and a good self-image. If you don't have these fundamentals, it's difficult if not impossible to be a true bad boy. Ask yourself questions like, \\\"are there situations that make me nervous?\\\" and \\\"am I being the best that I can be?\\\" If you don't like your answers, use the following steps to build healthy confidence. You'll be on your way to badness in no time.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get fit.\", \"描述\": \"You don't need to be a body builder to be a bad boy, but you do need to be healthy. Scientific evidence has shown that physical exercise has a positive effect on self-esteem and can help thwart depression. The effects are both immediate (through the release of stress-reducing endorphins) and long-term (through the improvement of self-image and overall fitness). Don't put it off - go to the gym today, not tomorrow.\\nOne study found that moderately intense aerobic exercise produces the greatest immediate psychological boost. Any exercise routine that improves your physical fitness, however, will make you more attractive to yourself and others.\\nFor tips on starting an exercise routine, consult one of our many how-to guides on exercising, such as How to Exercise.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Start winning.\", \"描述\": \"Constantly work towards your career and personal goals. You don't need to be rich to have high confidence, but you do need to be proud of yourself. Working hard and succeeding will make you feel valuable and important - the cornerstones of a confident personality.\\nEveryone (including bad boys) suffers personal setbacks. If you're experiencing difficulty in your career or personal life, keep it in perspective - by persevering through your difficulties, you're building a stronger personality. Never give up!\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Treat yourself with value.\", \"描述\": \"Allow yourself to enjoy the things you like. You don't have to spend lots of money to feel valuable - simply cook the foods you like, enjoy your favorite drink in moderation, and reserve time to practice your hobbies. If you're doing the things you like, you'll naturally be happier, and if you're happier, you'll be more confident.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Address any personal psychological issues.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes, low confidence can be-deeply rooted. Childhood abuse and traumatic experiences can cause psychological difficulties throughout your life that can negatively affect your self esteem. Try to seek treatment for any issues that are affecting you mentally or emotionally. A variety of treatments, including counseling, biofeedback techniques, and the prescription of medicines, are available.\\nRemember that seeking help for psychological issues is a sign of strength, not of weakness. Real men don't ignore their personal problems, they fix them. Sometimes, this requires the help of someone else. Never feel embarrassed to see a counselor or a therapist - over a quarter of US adults received some kind of mental health treatment within two years of a 2004 poll.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Bad Boy Dating\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know what you want.\", \"描述\": \"A bad boy knows what he wants from a partner and is honest about it (see step six under Part One.) There's no shame in pursuing purely sexual relationships as long as you're honest about it. Similarly, having a long-term girlfriend doesn't mean you have to be less of a bad boy. Below are some tips for handling the fairer sex like a true bad boy.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Have your own life.\", \"描述\": \"The goal of a relationship shouldn't be to dedicate your life to your partner. Even if you're married, make your own plans. Reserve time for yourself. Spend time with your friends. If you treat yourself like a valuable commodity, your time will be highly sought-after by your partner. Conversely, if you're constantly making yourself available to your partner's whims, your time will become less valuable. Keep your backbone in any relationship - make sure you're not so dedicated to your partner that you forget about yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be cocky.\", \"描述\": \"Being in a relationship with someone doesn't mean you need to worship them. Tease them! A lighthearted back-and-forth keeps a relationship passionate and fiery. It's also a good sign of a confident \\\"alpha\\\" personality - you're showing you're not afraid to engage in a little verbal swordplay. Think about it - would you really want to be in a relationship with someone you always have to be nice to?\\nDon't be too cruel with your teasing. Avoid subjects that your partner is sensitive about - for instance, her looks or her career. Keep it light.\\nBe prepared to receive some teasing yourself - don't dish it out if you can't take it!\\nIf you accidentally hurt your partner's feelings, make a genuine apology. Remember, bad boys are honest - if you're truly sorry, say so. Don't feel like you need to withhold a well-deserved apology to be a bad boy. That's not \\\"bad\\\" - it's just\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Wear the pants in your relationship.\", \"描述\": \"This doesn't mean to boss your partner around or prevent her from making decisions. Rather, it means you should aim to be decisive in situations where it's appropriate and to have a plan at all times. For instance, if you're going out, pick a place and make reservations ahead of time. Take her hand to lead her through crowds without being asked. Kiss her when the mood suits you. Show her that you're confident about what you want for yourself and her. Choose a topic of conversation that you're passionate about. Talk your family, or an event that strikes home for you. Don't gossip; speak from the heart, and let your darling know that you have a sensitive side and show her your true family man side.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be surprising.\", \"描述\": \"In a long-term relationship, it can be difficult not to fall into certain habits and routines. Still, make an effort to be spontaneous sometimes. Plan weekend getaways when you both have the time. Surprise her with tickets to an evening concert when she wakes up in the morning. Breaking the routine of a relationship keeps it fresh and exciting.\\nIt might seem paradoxical to plan seemingly \\\"spontaneous\\\" activities ahead of time. However, it's necessary - nothing's worse than making an impromptu trip to an ice-skating rink only to discover that it's closed. Skating rinks aren't very bad boy anyway.\\nRemember that the goal of being spontaneous is not to shower her with gifts. Maintain your personal value - if you're unsure of what to do, try to plan activities that like. You'll be happy to go, and your happiness will reflect in your partner.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Give her space and make sure she gives you space.\", \"描述\": \"Bad boys and their partners aren't dependent on each other. They maintain their own lives, friendships, and hobbies. This makes the time that they do spend together more valuable.\\nBalancing time between your friends and your partner can be difficult. Luckily, since this is a common problem, it's been the source of much thoughtful (and some thoughtless) online writing. Consider consulting a sensibly-written article for advice.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Practice visualization. Everyday, imagine yourself as the man you would like to be. Just see yourself talking, walking and thinking the way you want, and it will help you get to your goal faster.\\n\", \"Not all women want a bad boy. If you want to act like a bad boy, still be courteous and respectful to women. This will make you seem even cooler. this is for being popular too,.\\n\", \"Being a bad boy takes time. Take it one step at time and one day you will have fully grown into that man you desire. This is not about faking it, but rather about being your best self. Give yourself time to truly grow.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Women will sometimes test you to see if you're the real deal or just an actor. Follow these steps until you internalize them.\\n\", \"Remember that being a bad boy isn't the same thing as being a jerk. Bad boys are confident without being arrogant or cruel. They know they're valuable, but they never pretend like they're better than they are.\\n\", \"Being a bad boy will set you free of your old needy habits and your old needy friends.\\n\", \"It isn't easy to change yourself, and it can be almost impossible to escape years of programming. However, you can always become better. For the most efficient results, don't try to change yourself completely - concentrate your efforts where you can improve the most.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Getting the Right Look
1-1. Pick the right shoes.
Bad girls pay attention to their entire look, and they don’t neglect shoes. They make a statement with them.
Stilettos are a bad girl’s key accessory, at least at night.
Jordans work, too.
Clogs or flip flops are no-nos. Bad girls aren’t that casual. And they’re never frumpy.
Above all, bad girls wear sexy shoes.
1-2. Wear makeup for effect.
Bad girls don’t leave the house without mascara. At night, especially, they aren’t afraid to go bold. They love to play with makeup. They do it strategically. They use it to make a creative statement.
It’s all about the eyebrows. Get them shaped. Make sure they are expressive. They should be bold.
Bad girls use eyeliner to show drama and strength. The French actress Brigitte Bardot used eyeliner in her movies as a statement. When it comes to eyeliner, “the blacker the better.” Try a cat eye.
Red lips make a statement. So do smoky eyes. Be careful with the glitter. Anything childish isn’t going to cut it.
1-3. Wear sunglasses.
Sunglasses create an aura of mystery and, above all, bad girls have an aura. They leave you wanting more. They leave you wondering.
Don’t wear sunglasses indoors or at night, though. There’s a fine line between cool and obnoxious.
1-4. Don’t be high maintenance.
Bad girls don’t take five hours to get ready. They’re too confident to fixate on their appearance excessively, although they take care of it.
A bad girl doesn’t have to be dressed to the nines at all times, but she never looks sloppy. One absolute no: Wearing sweatpants outside your own house.
1-5. Wear black and wear leather – but don’t wear it all the time.
Everyone looks good in black. And black is just cool. But bad girls know how to carry off color too.
Bad girls don’t wear pastels. So put away the pink and lilac. Those are for girly girls.
Bad girls don’t wear bows. And they don’t do ruffles. You won’t find them in a prairie skirt.
Try monochrome. When Beyonce’s sister Solange Knowles wore head-to-toe red, she won raves.
1-6. Get a tattoo.
It should be a small one, though, with meaning (and just one). And it shouldn’t be something you can’t cover up for the office. When Selena Gomez was trying to change her good girl image, she got a small tattoo on the back of her neck of a Roman numeral. That’s perfect.
Your tattoo should have a back story. And you should understand what it means.
Avoid a “tramp stamp.”
1-7. Don’t follow trends.
Make them. Madonna is an example of a bad girl who did things her own way. Whether it’s her cone bra or challenging society's rules, Madonna broke convention. Find a trademark. That means something uniquely yours. Bad girls find their own look, and they stick with it, whether they go vamp or goth.
1-8. Be comfortable with sex appeal.
Bad girls know their power over others. When they walk into a room, people look. Cleopatra is one of the most famous bad girls in history because she wasn’t afraid of using sex appeal to seduce.
2. Embracing the Bad Girl Attitude
2-1. Show confidence.
Girls who don’t show confidence are taken advantage of. It’s impossible to be passive and be a bad girl. People are attracted to confidence. Bad girls are not afraid to say what they want. They know what they want, and they go for it.
Bad girls never ask for compliments. They expect them.
2-2. Avoid showing desperation.
Never beg or call too many times. That doesn’t mean you should be rude. Show manners. If someone texts you, text back. It means you don't always text first, though.
Wait a day before calling back when starting out.
Understand when people need space.
2-3. Leave a little mystery.
Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis didn’t talk about her secrets. Neither should you. Never let them see you sweat. In the words of the Duchess of Windsor, “Never complain. Never explain.” The screen goddess Sophia Loren was known for saying, “Sex appeal is fifty percent what you've got and fifty percent what people think you've got.”
2-4. Be independent.
You have a circle of friends you trust, but you don’t need them with you at all times. You don’t need a partner to make you happy, either. You’re comfortable with yourself, and you know who you are.
Don't hesitate to do things on your own, whether it's traveling or exercising.
Make your own money.
Develop your own interests. Don't become a chameleon.
2-5. Be fun.
At a party, you don’t cling to the wall. You’re the person everyone clusters around because you’re fun. You laugh, but more importantly, you make other people laugh. You’re a conversationalist, and you aren’t afraid to talk to strangers.
2-6. Don't allow yourself to be mistreated.
Bad girls don’t tolerate abuse. They don’t let people call them names. They walk away if they’re not being treated right. Bad girls are strong. They are never, ever doormats.
2-7. Don’t apologize.
Bad girls don’t say they’re sorry. At least not for doing things their way or being themselves.
Passive people are always saying they're sorry, and it's usually for being themselves.
Apologize over the big things only.
Be confident in your own actions.
2-8. Find your passion.
What are you good at? What do you love? Whether it’s art, music, writing, hula hooping, softball, or something else, bad girls have something they love.
Tracey Emin was known as the “bad girl of art” in the United Kingdom partly because she was perceived as strong and confident “about her work.”
Angelina Jolie’s passion – charitable works – didn’t mar her bad girl image. It just gave her more depth. Some bad girls show a hint of good girl. Passion is always a key part of a bad girl's personality.
2-9. Be a tease.
Don’t ever tease someone cruelly. But a little flirting and coyness can be great. As the pop star Katy Perry put it, I'm kind of a good girl - and I'm not. I'm a good girl because I really believe in love, integrity, and respect. I'm a bad girl because I like to tease.”
Mae West perfected the art of teasing, especially using the sexy double entendre (words with double meaning).
2-10. Have a career.
Bad girls don’t need other people for their money. They make their own successes, and they do it the honest way.
Studies have found that men are attracted to girls with interesting jobs.Bad girls tend to have careers that are exciting and allow them to interact with people.
They might have a non-traditional career, like police officer, pilot, or firefighter. Bad girls prefer independent professions. The Girl with a Dragon Tattoo had a skill. It was non-traditional, and she wasn’t afraid to use it.
2-11. Embrace your story.
Maybe they were bullied as a kid but that made them tough and empathetic to others. They are survivors. They’ve been through stuff, but you can’t tell. Still, it’s made them more interesting and stronger.
The models who grow up awkward and loser-y and just getting made fun of are the ones with the most character,” says model Binx Walton. “They know how to handle it.”
2-12. Take the lead.
Bad girls don’t hang back waiting for other people to make up their minds or decide what to do. They know what they want, and others follow. Sometimes they break the rules, but never in a way that’s harmful.
Ask someone to dance. Or go out on the dance floor first.
Initiate ideas: Where to go out to eat, a big idea at work. Don't sit back, and wait for others to do it.
3. Being Adventurous
3-1. Pick the right ride.
You might find a bad girl on a motorcycle. She probably drives a sports car. You’ll never see her in a mini-van. Ever.
3-2. Travel.
When you travel, don’t sign up for a tour or stick to well-traveled routes. Be willing to go to exotic locales. Rent a car, and randomly land in little villages. Walk a trail like Reese Witherspoon in Wild.
3-3. Embrace activities that show courage.
Be the girl who is up for anything – within reason. While others are hanging back and looking timid, you’re out there giving it a try.
Skydiving isn't for everyone, but if you do it, people will be impressed with your moxie.
Rock climbing isn't for wimps.
Hang gliding highlights the bad girl's best trait: She loves freedom.
Whitewater rafting is a way to show you're adventurous.
Dancing shows your free-spirited side and confidence.
3-4. Enjoy sports.
But don’t just pretend to enjoy sports. Actually understand something about the game. Throw out a statistic or two to show you know your stuff.
The singer Taylor Swift says she showed her bad girl side by going to an NBA basketball game and having a beer.
3-5. Drink classy.
Bad girls don’t get drunk. They might be seen with a Martini in hand. Or they’ll have a beer with the guys. They drink - but they do it the right way.
You won’t see them doing Jell-O shots, losing control, or dancing on bars.
3-6. Don’t be the princess.
Angelina Jolie as Maleficent is a bad girl. Sleeping Beauty is not. Princesses are fragile. Bad girls don’t need saving. They are powerful, and they know it.
3-7. Eat with gusto - sometimes.
No one finds a person fun who picks at a salad for every meal or who sits down and watches other people eat. Bad girls eat with gusto – just not all the time. They’ll dive into a steak. They’re adventurous with food. They’re willing to try new things.
3-8. Listen to rock-and-roll.
Rocker Joan Jett personified what many people think of as a “bad girl.” She even wrote a song about it. "Cause I was born to be bad/I'm not sad/But I'm glad I did it/Born to be bad/I'm not sad/Why don't you all get with it."
If you are scared but want to be more adventurous, acknowledge your fear.
Try to find out the negative consequences of your adventurous actions that your brain perceives and be prepared to overcome them.
People are usually afraid of two things they are logistical outcomes (like losing money) and uncomfortable feelings (like embarrassment or shame).
Warnings
Don't wear skanky clothes. They will make you have a reputation that you don't want. Putting too much of the “assets on display” just makes you look tacky. [19]
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Research source
Don't flirt too much, sleep around, get into fights, take advantage of people, curse constantly or seduce every man you see. These are all good ways to NOT be a sexy bad girl, but just a BAD girl no one really wants to be around.
Don’t smoke or drink too much. No one likes a person who can’t hold their liquor, and bad girls never lose control. If you must smoke, make it the occasional cigar.
Talking trash about other people is uncool. Bad girls aren’t mean.
Don’t take too many selfies. Bad girls don’t need to prove to people they’ve got it. They just do. They’re not into themselves. Others are into them.
Take care of your kids, if you have them. Be there for them, and attend all of their activities. Bad girls are responsible about the right things.
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Still, it’s made them more interesting and stronger.\\nThe models who grow up awkward and loser-y and just getting made fun of are the ones with the most character,” says model Binx Walton. “They know how to handle it.”\"}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Take the lead.\", \"描述\": \"Bad girls don’t hang back waiting for other people to make up their minds or decide what to do. They know what they want, and others follow. Sometimes they break the rules, but never in a way that’s harmful. \\nAsk someone to dance. Or go out on the dance floor first.\\nInitiate ideas: Where to go out to eat, a big idea at work. Don't sit back, and wait for others to do it.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Being Adventurous\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pick the right ride.\", \"描述\": \"You might find a bad girl on a motorcycle. She probably drives a sports car. You’ll never see her in a mini-van. Ever.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Travel.\", \"描述\": \"When you travel, don’t sign up for a tour or stick to well-traveled routes. Be willing to go to exotic locales. Rent a car, and randomly land in little villages. Walk a trail like Reese Witherspoon in Wild.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Embrace activities that show courage.\", \"描述\": \"Be the girl who is up for anything – within reason. While others are hanging back and looking timid, you’re out there giving it a try.\\nSkydiving isn't for everyone, but if you do it, people will be impressed with your moxie.\\nRock climbing isn't for wimps.\\nHang gliding highlights the bad girl's best trait: She loves freedom.\\nWhitewater rafting is a way to show you're adventurous.\\nDancing shows your free-spirited side and confidence.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Enjoy sports.\", \"描述\": \"But don’t just pretend to enjoy sports. Actually understand something about the game. Throw out a statistic or two to show you know your stuff.\\nThe singer Taylor Swift says she showed her bad girl side by going to an NBA basketball game and having a beer.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Drink classy.\", \"描述\": \"Bad girls don’t get drunk. They might be seen with a Martini in hand. Or they’ll have a beer with the guys. They drink - but they do it the right way.\\nYou won’t see them doing Jell-O shots, losing control, or dancing on bars.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Don’t be the princess.\", \"描述\": \"Angelina Jolie as Maleficent is a bad girl. Sleeping Beauty is not. Princesses are fragile. Bad girls don’t need saving. They are powerful, and they know it.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Eat with gusto - sometimes.\", \"描述\": \"No one finds a person fun who picks at a salad for every meal or who sits down and watches other people eat. Bad girls eat with gusto – just not all the time. They’ll dive into a steak. They’re adventurous with food. 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1. Steps
1-1. See, at the same time, God's grace and God's justice.
God is loving, but He is also just. Yes, Christians are covered in God's grace, but God still has certain expectations for Christians. Paul says repeatedly that you are to "walk in a manner worthy of your calling."
There is the verse, "There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus." However Romans 14:12 says, "Each of us will give an account of ourselves to God." Being a Christian doesn't completely get you off the hook, in a sense. Paul says "work out your salvation with fear and trembling."
There are verses about falling from grace and falling from the faith. There are verses about branches that do not bear fruit being cut off.
Romans 11:22 says, "Consider therefore the kindness and sternness of God: sternness to those who fell, but kindness to you, provided that you continue in His kindness. Otherwise, you also will be cut off." God is just and, therefore, cannot put up with sin. If someone continues to habitually sin as a supposed Christian, God's justice will probably be seen then rather than His grace.
1-2. Understand both sides to the free will/predestination debate.
Yes, all Christians are chosen and called "before the foundation of the world", but also remember the verse, "Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved." Salvation is an open invitation. It is not just for "the chosen ones."
1 Timothy 2:4 says, "God our Savior, who wants all people to be saved and to come to a knowledge of the truth." Calvinism is not entirely true in saying that God picks some to be saved and some not to be saved. The truth is that God wishes that all people would come to be saved, but as He knows who will follow and what they will do.
Romans 8:29 says, "Those God foreknew, He also predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son." God's knowing who would choose to follow Him, preceded whom He predestined (and thus saved unto the works that He prepared and foreordained, but we still have to receive Him, lay aside wrong ideas, follow Christ and do accordingly, or not, and He helps us in cooperation with others, if we let Him and others share).
1-3. Recognize that Christians can become more filled with the Holy Spirit, but that this extra infilling comes and goes, as you may seek God -- or drift (slide or fall) away.
Every Christian receives the Holy Spirit when they are saved, but every Christian can be filled more with the Holy Spirit and with His gifts, of the Holy Spirit, in order to share the Gospel, etc.
Jesus' own disciples even received the Holy Spirit three or more times. John 20:21-22 says, "Jesus said to them again, 'Peace be with you; as the Father has sent Me, I also send you.' And, when He had said this, He breathed on them and said to them, 'Receive the Holy Spirit.' " This was when the disciples first became born again essentially. This when they received the Holy Spirit and were baptized in the Holy Spirit.
Then at Pentecost it says, "All of them were filled with the Holy Spirit." So in this instance they were filled more with the Holy Spirit, but it was only temporary, because again in Acts 4 it says, "After they prayed, the place where they were meeting was shaken. And, they were all filled with the Holy Spirit and spoke the word of God boldly."
These are the same disciples that were filled in this extra way at Pentecost. So over the course of a Christian's life, they can be filled many times, in this extra way, by the Holy Spirit.
1-4. Have the heart of a child but not the mind of a child.
Jesus said in Matthew 18:3, "Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of Heaven." What this means is that we are to trust God with our hearts as a child trusts their parent. It means that we are to have faith that God is real even when we can't see Him or fully understand Him. But, it does not mean that we are to have childish thinking. We are still called to reason, as Paul did in Acts with the Jews. Jesus said that we are to be "as wise as serpents but as innocent as doves." Don't have the intelligence of a child; only have the heart of a child.
One also needs the perspective to: "speak the things (that are true), not in words taught or learned through human wisdom/philosophy, but in those words of God taught by following the Spirit, explaining spiritual things to spiritual people." (1 Corinthians 2). That is a higher calling than mere schooling, to follow God's Spirit, with Jesus as your main instructor (with Paul, James, Peter, Jude, etc. as mentors to us all).
1-5. Understand that there are times to judge and times to not judge.
The Bible says "Judge not lest ye be judged." What this means is when Jesus said that we must first remove the plank from our own eye before we can judge our brother. If we struggle with something that we are condemning in someone's else, we need to look at ourselves first.
However we are called to judge certain things. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 5:12, "What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside?" We are not supposed to judge non-Christians. Only God can do that. But, we are called to tell the truth with love to judge the fruit of our fellow brothers and sisters in Christ, so that we can keep them accountable. Christians are meant to be held to a higher standard to do the good that God has foreordained.
If a fellow Christian is not living "in a manner worthy of their calling" as Paul talks about, we are supposed to call them out on it. However, we only do this for their own good. It is a corrective act of love, not condemnation.
1-6. Know that all spiritual gifts still exist today, but see that some have certain rules regarding their use.
The Bible at no time says that any spiritual gifts would cease. Most people use 1 Corinthians 13 to say that when the Bible was complete, certain gifts ceased. But, rather Paul says in 1 Corinthians 13, "When the perfect comes, the partial will be done away... For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face." This is referring to, in Heaven. People did not see God face to face when the Bible was completed. We will not see God face to face until we are in Heaven.
So all the gifts still exist today, but what does Paul say, for example, regarding the gift of tongues? 1 Corinthians 14:27 says, "If anyone speaks in a tongue, two—or at the most three—should speak, one at a time, and someone must interpret."
In communal worship tongues must always be interpreted, and only two or three people should speak in a tongue, and each in turn to give them a chance to be interpreted. It is not meant to be that the two or three speak in tongues at the same time to the congregation. Some churches practice whole group spontaneously praising, glorifying God and praying aloud (while some may speak in tongues). Some have an instrumental praise song be played and encourage people to pray or sing aloud in tongues. Thus they say that is decent, orderly, controlled and regulated. The gift is still in existence today, but it is meant to be decent, orderly, regulated and controlled in communal worship.
1-7. Understand that Jesus did come to give us an abundant life, but also see that the Christian life can be very hard.
Consider what Paul's life was like.
He says in 2 Corinthians 11, "Five times I received from the Jews the forty lashes minus one. Three times I was beaten with rods. Once I was pelted with stones. Three times I was shipwrecked. I spent a night and a day in the open sea. I have been constantly on the move. I have been in danger from rivers, in danger from bandits, in danger from my fellow Jews, in danger from Gentiles; in danger in the city, in danger in the country, in danger at sea; and in danger from false believers. I have labored and toiled and have often gone without sleep; I have known hunger and thirst and have often gone without food. I have been cold and naked. Besides everything else, I face daily the pressure of my concern for all the churches."
Therefore, do not expect to have a comfortable and happy life as a Christian. Sometimes becoming a Christian will only make your life harder. Why? Because Satan becomes more set against you once you are a Christian.
However in 2 Corinthians 4 this same Paul said about the Christian life, "We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed...Therefore, we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So, we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal." Amen! So even if the life of a Christian is harder due to persecution, etc., we still always have the hope of Heaven to look forward to. Someday we will achieve an "eternal glory" in Heaven thanks to Jesus' death. Praise God!
1-8. See that God does still do the supernatural today, but realize that not every supernatural thing is from God.
The Bible says that Satan can "masquerade as an angel of light." Satan can and does imitate miracles or things that God's Holy Spirit can do in order to deceive people. Also, remember that the magicians in Egypt could do all that Moses did, but the magicians were empowered by Satan, not God.
1-9. Recognize that God sometimes wants to heal people, but other times God allows people to remain in pain.
Paul says in 2 Corinthians 12:7, "Because of these surprisingly great revelations... in order to keep me from becoming conceited, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me." Sometimes God allows us to be in pain, or to stay in pain, in order to humble us.
Paul was given a vision of Heaven, but then God allowed this "thorn in the flesh" to keep him from becoming arrogant on account of what he had seen. Paul notes that he prayed for his pain to go away, but God essentially said, "No." Paul says, "Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But, He said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.'" God told Paul, "No.", of all people, and not just once, but three times.
Therefore, God may very well say, "No." to us also, many times, about many different things we request. Remember that God said, "My ways are higher than your ways, and my thoughts are higher than your thoughts." We may not understand why God tells us, "No.", but know that it is probably for our own good somehow.
God says to Paul essentially that He wants Paul to be weak because then his power can be shown greater in Paul. The more that we are weak, the more that God's strength shines through us. Then it becomes all about God, as it should be and not us. Amen.
1-10. See that God does always answer our prayers, but not always, "Yes."
Sometimes God says, "No.", or "Wait." When Jesus was praying in the garden of Gethsemane, He said, "Yet, not my will but your will be done." Essentially, God told Jesus, who was God in the Flesh, "No!" That is, also, we should pray for God's will, and sometimes tell ourselves, "No." Jesus did say, "You have not because you ask not." But, James 4:3 says, "When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures." It may not be a lack of faith for why we don't get what we are asking. It might just be because we are asking with wrong or bad motives that we don't get what we pray for.
But dis-agreement and "human anger does produce the righteousness that God desires. So, get rid of all moral filthiness and the evil that is in such general use, and humbly accept the word that has been planted in you, which can save you.", as James laid it out for us. (James 1:21).
Tips
In the usual Biblical debate, remember to always stay in the middle ground. Try to avoid taking a side, off to one extreme or the other. Avoid "splitting hairs", dividing on personal opinions/judging without clear bases, is a waste of time and energy, that could be spent profitably elsewhere. Facing off on extreme views creates division and dissension. Compromise, meaning to agree together or "drop-it" like, "We can't settle that issue either way; so, let's shake hands and go out to serve God, seeking to save those that are lost.", and thus suspending such an argument can promote unity in the church. "I am determined to know one thing here with you and that is 'Jesus Christ and Him crucified' (the Gospel)."
Warnings
Don't get into heated debates with other Christians over shades of meaning of Bible verses. There are verses in the Bible that, if taken by themselves, can seem to contradict another verse. Look at each verse in its context, and then see the Bible and the Church as a whole, and the Gospel will make sense as a complete fabric, not as many disjointed, single stitches nor bits and pieces. Then each follower of Christ will be in fellowship of believers, judged on the whole, not on a single dotting of an "i" or crossing of a "t" and then the Lord will attend to the questions in His own way and time (if you would burn inwardly, then you might leave and go to worship where that issue is not contentious, as the Bible warns us to avoid dissension), and we are to be of one accord.
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Otherwise, you also will be cut off.\\\" God is just and, therefore, cannot put up with sin. If someone continues to habitually sin as a supposed Christian, God's justice will probably be seen then rather than His grace.\\n1-2. Understand both sides to the free will/predestination debate.\\nYes, all Christians are chosen and called \\\"before the foundation of the world\\\", but also remember the verse, \\\"Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved.\\\" Salvation is an open invitation. It is not just for \\\"the chosen ones.\\\"\\n1 Timothy 2:4 says, \\\"God our Savior, who wants all people to be saved and to come to a knowledge of the truth.\\\" Calvinism is not entirely true in saying that God picks some to be saved and some not to be saved. The truth is that God wishes that all people would come to be saved, but as He knows who will follow and what they will do.\\nRomans 8:29 says, \\\"Those God foreknew, He also predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son.\\\" God's knowing who would choose to follow Him, preceded whom He predestined (and thus saved unto the works that He prepared and foreordained, but we still have to receive Him, lay aside wrong ideas, follow Christ and do accordingly, or not, and He helps us in cooperation with others, if we let Him and others share).\\n1-3. Recognize that Christians can become more filled with the Holy Spirit, but that this extra infilling comes and goes, as you may seek God -- or drift (slide or fall) away.\\nEvery Christian receives the Holy Spirit when they are saved, but every Christian can be filled more with the Holy Spirit and with His gifts, of the Holy Spirit, in order to share the Gospel, etc.\\nJesus' own disciples even received the Holy Spirit three or more times. John 20:21-22 says, \\\"Jesus said to them again, 'Peace be with you; as the Father has sent Me, I also send you.' And, when He had said this, He breathed on them and said to them, 'Receive the Holy Spirit.' \\\" This was when the disciples first became born again essentially. This when they received the Holy Spirit and were baptized in the Holy Spirit.\\nThen at Pentecost it says, \\\"All of them were filled with the Holy Spirit.\\\" So in this instance they were filled more with the Holy Spirit, but it was only temporary, because again in Acts 4 it says, \\\"After they prayed, the place where they were meeting was shaken. And, they were all filled with the Holy Spirit and spoke the word of God boldly.\\\"\\nThese are the same disciples that were filled in this extra way at Pentecost. So over the course of a Christian's life, they can be filled many times, in this extra way, by the Holy Spirit.\\n1-4. Have the heart of a child but not the mind of a child.\\nJesus said in Matthew 18:3, \\\"Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of Heaven.\\\" What this means is that we are to trust God with our hearts as a child trusts their parent. It means that we are to have faith that God is real even when we can't see Him or fully understand Him. But, it does not mean that we are to have childish thinking. We are still called to reason, as Paul did in Acts with the Jews. Jesus said that we are to be \\\"as wise as serpents but as innocent as doves.\\\" Don't have the intelligence of a child; only have the heart of a child.\\nOne also needs the perspective to: \\\"speak the things (that are true), not in words taught or learned through human wisdom/philosophy, but in those words of God taught by following the Spirit, explaining spiritual things to spiritual people.\\\" (1 Corinthians 2). That is a higher calling than mere schooling, to follow God's Spirit, with Jesus as your main instructor (with Paul, James, Peter, Jude, etc. as mentors to us all).\\n1-5. Understand that there are times to judge and times to not judge.\\nThe Bible says \\\"Judge not lest ye be judged.\\\" What this means is when Jesus said that we must first remove the plank from our own eye before we can judge our brother. If we struggle with something that we are condemning in someone's else, we need to look at ourselves first.\\nHowever we are called to judge certain things. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 5:12, \\\"What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside?\\\" We are not supposed to judge non-Christians. Only God can do that. But, we are called to tell the truth with love to judge the fruit of our fellow brothers and sisters in Christ, so that we can keep them accountable. Christians are meant to be held to a higher standard to do the good that God has foreordained.\\nIf a fellow Christian is not living \\\"in a manner worthy of their calling\\\" as Paul talks about, we are supposed to call them out on it. 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We will not see God face to face until we are in Heaven.\\nSo all the gifts still exist today, but what does Paul say, for example, regarding the gift of tongues? 1 Corinthians 14:27 says, \\\"If anyone speaks in a tongue, two—or at the most three—should speak, one at a time, and someone must interpret.\\\"\\nIn communal worship tongues must always be interpreted, and only two or three people should speak in a tongue, and each in turn to give them a chance to be interpreted. It is not meant to be that the two or three speak in tongues at the same time to the congregation. Some churches practice whole group spontaneously praising, glorifying God and praying aloud (while some may speak in tongues). Some have an instrumental praise song be played and encourage people to pray or sing aloud in tongues. Thus they say that is decent, orderly, controlled and regulated. The gift is still in existence today, but it is meant to be decent, orderly, regulated and controlled in communal worship.\\n1-7. Understand that Jesus did come to give us an abundant life, but also see that the Christian life can be very hard.\\nConsider what Paul's life was like.\\nHe says in 2 Corinthians 11, \\\"Five times I received from the Jews the forty lashes minus one. Three times I was beaten with rods. Once I was pelted with stones. Three times I was shipwrecked. I spent a night and a day in the open sea. I have been constantly on the move. I have been in danger from rivers, in danger from bandits, in danger from my fellow Jews, in danger from Gentiles; in danger in the city, in danger in the country, in danger at sea; and in danger from false believers. I have labored and toiled and have often gone without sleep; I have known hunger and thirst and have often gone without food. I have been cold and naked. Besides everything else, I face daily the pressure of my concern for all the churches.\\\"\\nTherefore, do not expect to have a comfortable and happy life as a Christian. Sometimes becoming a Christian will only make your life harder. Why? Because Satan becomes more set against you once you are a Christian.\\nHowever in 2 Corinthians 4 this same Paul said about the Christian life, \\\"We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed...Therefore, we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So, we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.\\\" Amen! So even if the life of a Christian is harder due to persecution, etc., we still always have the hope of Heaven to look forward to. Someday we will achieve an \\\"eternal glory\\\" in Heaven thanks to Jesus' death. Praise God!\\n1-8. See that God does still do the supernatural today, but realize that not every supernatural thing is from God.\\nThe Bible says that Satan can \\\"masquerade as an angel of light.\\\" Satan can and does imitate miracles or things that God's Holy Spirit can do in order to deceive people. Also, remember that the magicians in Egypt could do all that Moses did, but the magicians were empowered by Satan, not God.\\n1-9. Recognize that God sometimes wants to heal people, but other times God allows people to remain in pain.\\nPaul says in 2 Corinthians 12:7, \\\"Because of these surprisingly great revelations... in order to keep me from becoming conceited, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me.\\\" Sometimes God allows us to be in pain, or to stay in pain, in order to humble us.\\nPaul was given a vision of Heaven, but then God allowed this \\\"thorn in the flesh\\\" to keep him from becoming arrogant on account of what he had seen. Paul notes that he prayed for his pain to go away, but God essentially said, \\\"No.\\\" Paul says, \\\"Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But, He said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.'\\\" God told Paul, \\\"No.\\\", of all people, and not just once, but three times.\\nTherefore, God may very well say, \\\"No.\\\" to us also, many times, about many different things we request. Remember that God said, \\\"My ways are higher than your ways, and my thoughts are higher than your thoughts.\\\" We may not understand why God tells us, \\\"No.\\\", but know that it is probably for our own good somehow.\\nGod says to Paul essentially that He wants Paul to be weak because then his power can be shown greater in Paul. The more that we are weak, the more that God's strength shines through us. Then it becomes all about God, as it should be and not us. Amen.\\n1-10. See that God does always answer our prayers, but not always, \\\"Yes.\\\"\\nSometimes God says, \\\"No.\\\", or \\\"Wait.\\\" When Jesus was praying in the garden of Gethsemane, He said, \\\"Yet, not my will but your will be done.\\\" Essentially, God told Jesus, who was God in the Flesh, \\\"No!\\\" That is, also, we should pray for God's will, and sometimes tell ourselves, \\\"No.\\\" Jesus did say, \\\"You have not because you ask not.\\\" But, James 4:3 says, \\\"When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.\\\" It may not be a lack of faith for why we don't get what we are asking. It might just be because we are asking with wrong or bad motives that we don't get what we pray for.\\nBut dis-agreement and \\\"human anger does produce the righteousness that God desires. So, get rid of all moral filthiness and the evil that is in such general use, and humbly accept the word that has been planted in you, which can save you.\\\", as James laid it out for us. (James 1:21).\\nTips\\nIn the usual Biblical debate, remember to always stay in the middle ground. Try to avoid taking a side, off to one extreme or the other. Avoid \\\"splitting hairs\\\", dividing on personal opinions/judging without clear bases, is a waste of time and energy, that could be spent profitably elsewhere. Facing off on extreme views creates division and dissension. Compromise, meaning to agree together or \\\"drop-it\\\" like, \\\"We can't settle that issue either way; so, let's shake hands and go out to serve God, seeking to save those that are lost.\\\", and thus suspending such an argument can promote unity in the church. \\\"I am determined to know one thing here with you and that is 'Jesus Christ and Him crucified' (the Gospel).\\\"\\nWarnings\\nDon't get into heated debates with other Christians over shades of meaning of Bible verses. There are verses in the Bible that, if taken by themselves, can seem to contradict another verse. Look at each verse in its context, and then see the Bible and the Church as a whole, and the Gospel will make sense as a complete fabric, not as many disjointed, single stitches nor bits and pieces. Then each follower of Christ will be in fellowship of believers, judged on the whole, not on a single dotting of an \\\"i\\\" or crossing of a \\\"t\\\" and then the Lord will attend to the questions in His own way and time (if you would burn inwardly, then you might leave and go to worship where that issue is not contentious, as the Bible warns us to avoid dissension), and we are to be of one accord.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Balance is always key to having a peaceful and happy life! God is the only being alive that is perfectly balanced, and becoming a balanced Christian is about making time in your life to devote to your family, your work, and God. However, living life as a balanced Christian is also about finding the middle ground between extreme beliefs. Some Christians tend to focus too much on the law and doctrine, and some focus too much on grace and so forget about living well. Both views are extreme, and either extreme is wrong. Satan tries to drive us to either extreme, but God is often in the middle ground. Here are some tips on how to become a more balanced Christian.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"See, at the same time, God's grace and God's justice.\", \"描述\": \"God is loving, but He is also just. Yes, Christians are covered in God's grace, but God still has certain expectations for Christians. Paul says repeatedly that you are to \\\"walk in a manner worthy of your calling.\\\"\\nThere is the verse, \\\"There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.\\\" However Romans 14:12 says, \\\"Each of us will give an account of ourselves to God.\\\" Being a Christian doesn't completely get you off the hook, in a sense. Paul says \\\"work out your salvation with fear and trembling.\\\"\\nThere are verses about falling from grace and falling from the faith. There are verses about branches that do not bear fruit being cut off.\\nRomans 11:22 says, \\\"Consider therefore the kindness and sternness of God: sternness to those who fell, but kindness to you, provided that you continue in His kindness. Otherwise, you also will be cut off.\\\" God is just and, therefore, cannot put up with sin. If someone continues to habitually sin as a supposed Christian, God's justice will probably be seen then rather than His grace.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Understand both sides to the free will/predestination debate.\", \"描述\": \"Yes, all Christians are chosen and called \\\"before the foundation of the world\\\", but also remember the verse, \\\"Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved.\\\" Salvation is an open invitation. It is not just for \\\"the chosen ones.\\\"\\n1 Timothy 2:4 says, \\\"God our Savior, who wants all people to be saved and to come to a knowledge of the truth.\\\" Calvinism is not entirely true in saying that God picks some to be saved and some not to be saved. The truth is that God wishes that all people would come to be saved, but as He knows who will follow and what they will do.\\nRomans 8:29 says, \\\"Those God foreknew, He also predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son.\\\" God's knowing who would choose to follow Him, preceded whom He predestined (and thus saved unto the works that He prepared and foreordained, but we still have to receive Him, lay aside wrong ideas, follow Christ and do accordingly, or not, and He helps us in cooperation with others, if we let Him and others share).\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Recognize that Christians can become more filled with the Holy Spirit, but that this extra infilling comes and goes, as you may seek God -- or drift (slide or fall) away.\", \"描述\": \"Every Christian receives the Holy Spirit when they are saved, but every Christian can be filled more with the Holy Spirit and with His gifts, of the Holy Spirit, in order to share the Gospel, etc.\\nJesus' own disciples even received the Holy Spirit three or more times. John 20:21-22 says, \\\"Jesus said to them again, 'Peace be with you; as the Father has sent Me, I also send you.' And, when He had said this, He breathed on them and said to them, 'Receive the Holy Spirit.' \\\" This was when the disciples first became born again essentially. This when they received the Holy Spirit and were baptized in the Holy Spirit.\\nThen at Pentecost it says, \\\"All of them were filled with the Holy Spirit.\\\" So in this instance they were filled more with the Holy Spirit, but it was only temporary, because again in Acts 4 it says, \\\"After they prayed, the place where they were meeting was shaken. And, they were all filled with the Holy Spirit and spoke the word of God boldly.\\\"\\nThese are the same disciples that were filled in this extra way at Pentecost. So over the course of a Christian's life, they can be filled many times, in this extra way, by the Holy Spirit.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Have the heart of a child but not the mind of a child.\", \"描述\": \"Jesus said in Matthew 18:3, \\\"Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of Heaven.\\\" What this means is that we are to trust God with our hearts as a child trusts their parent. It means that we are to have faith that God is real even when we can't see Him or fully understand Him. But, it does not mean that we are to have childish thinking. We are still called to reason, as Paul did in Acts with the Jews. Jesus said that we are to be \\\"as wise as serpents but as innocent as doves.\\\" Don't have the intelligence of a child; only have the heart of a child.\\nOne also needs the perspective to: \\\"speak the things (that are true), not in words taught or learned through human wisdom/philosophy, but in those words of God taught by following the Spirit, explaining spiritual things to spiritual people.\\\" (1 Corinthians 2). That is a higher calling than mere schooling, to follow God's Spirit, with Jesus as your main instructor (with Paul, James, Peter, Jude, etc. as mentors to us all).\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Understand that there are times to judge and times to not judge.\", \"描述\": \"The Bible says \\\"Judge not lest ye be judged.\\\" What this means is when Jesus said that we must first remove the plank from our own eye before we can judge our brother. If we struggle with something that we are condemning in someone's else, we need to look at ourselves first.\\nHowever we are called to judge certain things. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 5:12, \\\"What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside?\\\" We are not supposed to judge non-Christians. Only God can do that. But, we are called to tell the truth with love to judge the fruit of our fellow brothers and sisters in Christ, so that we can keep them accountable. Christians are meant to be held to a higher standard to do the good that God has foreordained.\\nIf a fellow Christian is not living \\\"in a manner worthy of their calling\\\" as Paul talks about, we are supposed to call them out on it. However, we only do this for their own good. It is a corrective act of love, not condemnation.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Know that all spiritual gifts still exist today, but see that some have certain rules regarding their use.\", \"描述\": \"The Bible at no time says that any spiritual gifts would cease. Most people use 1 Corinthians 13 to say that when the Bible was complete, certain gifts ceased. But, rather Paul says in 1 Corinthians 13, \\\"When the perfect comes, the partial will be done away... For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face.\\\" This is referring to, in Heaven. People did not see God face to face when the Bible was completed. We will not see God face to face until we are in Heaven.\\nSo all the gifts still exist today, but what does Paul say, for example, regarding the gift of tongues? 1 Corinthians 14:27 says, \\\"If anyone speaks in a tongue, two—or at the most three—should speak, one at a time, and someone must interpret.\\\"\\nIn communal worship tongues must always be interpreted, and only two or three people should speak in a tongue, and each in turn to give them a chance to be interpreted. It is not meant to be that the two or three speak in tongues at the same time to the congregation. Some churches practice whole group spontaneously praising, glorifying God and praying aloud (while some may speak in tongues). Some have an instrumental praise song be played and encourage people to pray or sing aloud in tongues. Thus they say that is decent, orderly, controlled and regulated. The gift is still in existence today, but it is meant to be decent, orderly, regulated and controlled in communal worship.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Understand that Jesus did come to give us an abundant life, but also see that the Christian life can be very hard.\", \"描述\": \"Consider what Paul's life was like.\\nHe says in 2 Corinthians 11, \\\"Five times I received from the Jews the forty lashes minus one. Three times I was beaten with rods. Once I was pelted with stones. Three times I was shipwrecked. I spent a night and a day in the open sea. I have been constantly on the move. I have been in danger from rivers, in danger from bandits, in danger from my fellow Jews, in danger from Gentiles; in danger in the city, in danger in the country, in danger at sea; and in danger from false believers. I have labored and toiled and have often gone without sleep; I have known hunger and thirst and have often gone without food. I have been cold and naked. Besides everything else, I face daily the pressure of my concern for all the churches.\\\"\\nTherefore, do not expect to have a comfortable and happy life as a Christian. Sometimes becoming a Christian will only make your life harder. Why? Because Satan becomes more set against you once you are a Christian.\\nHowever in 2 Corinthians 4 this same Paul said about the Christian life, \\\"We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed...Therefore, we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So, we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.\\\" Amen! So even if the life of a Christian is harder due to persecution, etc., we still always have the hope of Heaven to look forward to. Someday we will achieve an \\\"eternal glory\\\" in Heaven thanks to Jesus' death. Praise God!\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"See that God does still do the supernatural today, but realize that not every supernatural thing is from God.\", \"描述\": \"The Bible says that Satan can \\\"masquerade as an angel of light.\\\" Satan can and does imitate miracles or things that God's Holy Spirit can do in order to deceive people. Also, remember that the magicians in Egypt could do all that Moses did, but the magicians were empowered by Satan, not God.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Recognize that God sometimes wants to heal people, but other times God allows people to remain in pain.\", \"描述\": \"Paul says in 2 Corinthians 12:7, \\\"Because of these surprisingly great revelations... in order to keep me from becoming conceited, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me.\\\" Sometimes God allows us to be in pain, or to stay in pain, in order to humble us.\\nPaul was given a vision of Heaven, but then God allowed this \\\"thorn in the flesh\\\" to keep him from becoming arrogant on account of what he had seen. Paul notes that he prayed for his pain to go away, but God essentially said, \\\"No.\\\" Paul says, \\\"Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But, He said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.'\\\" God told Paul, \\\"No.\\\", of all people, and not just once, but three times.\\nTherefore, God may very well say, \\\"No.\\\" to us also, many times, about many different things we request. Remember that God said, \\\"My ways are higher than your ways, and my thoughts are higher than your thoughts.\\\" We may not understand why God tells us, \\\"No.\\\", but know that it is probably for our own good somehow.\\nGod says to Paul essentially that He wants Paul to be weak because then his power can be shown greater in Paul. The more that we are weak, the more that God's strength shines through us. Then it becomes all about God, as it should be and not us. Amen.\"}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"See that God does always answer our prayers, but not always, \\\"Yes.\\\"\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes God says, \\\"No.\\\", or \\\"Wait.\\\" When Jesus was praying in the garden of Gethsemane, He said, \\\"Yet, not my will but your will be done.\\\" Essentially, God told Jesus, who was God in the Flesh, \\\"No!\\\" That is, also, we should pray for God's will, and sometimes tell ourselves, \\\"No.\\\" Jesus did say, \\\"You have not because you ask not.\\\" But, James 4:3 says, \\\"When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.\\\" It may not be a lack of faith for why we don't get what we are asking. It might just be because we are asking with wrong or bad motives that we don't get what we pray for.\\nBut dis-agreement and \\\"human anger does produce the righteousness that God desires. So, get rid of all moral filthiness and the evil that is in such general use, and humbly accept the word that has been planted in you, which can save you.\\\", as James laid it out for us. (James 1:21).\"}], \"小提示\": [\"In the usual Biblical debate, remember to always stay in the middle ground. Try to avoid taking a side, off to one extreme or the other. Avoid \\\"splitting hairs\\\", dividing on personal opinions/judging without clear bases, is a waste of time and energy, that could be spent profitably elsewhere. Facing off on extreme views creates division and dissension. Compromise, meaning to agree together or \\\"drop-it\\\" like, \\\"We can't settle that issue either way; so, let's shake hands and go out to serve God, seeking to save those that are lost.\\\", and thus suspending such an argument can promote unity in the church. \\\"I am determined to know one thing here with you and that is 'Jesus Christ and Him crucified' (the Gospel).\\\"\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Don't get into heated debates with other Christians over shades of meaning of Bible verses. There are verses in the Bible that, if taken by themselves, can seem to contradict another verse. Look at each verse in its context, and then see the Bible and the Church as a whole, and the Gospel will make sense as a complete fabric, not as many disjointed, single stitches nor bits and pieces. Then each follower of Christ will be in fellowship of believers, judged on the whole, not on a single dotting of an \\\"i\\\" or crossing of a \\\"t\\\" and then the Lord will attend to the questions in His own way and time (if you would burn inwardly, then you might leave and go to worship where that issue is not contentious, as the Bible warns us to avoid dissension), and we are to be of one accord.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Bald and Beautiful Woman
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1. Emphasize your features with makeup.
If you like makeup, now’s your time to experiment.
Emphasize your eyes with false lashes, black eyeliner, and smokey eyeshadow. Draw attention to your lips with a bold lipstick and shiny gloss. Highlight your cheekbones with a bit of bronzer and blush to really round out your look. If you’re wearing foundation, be sure to blend it down your neck and behind your ears, since all your skin is exposed now!
If you don’t like makeup, you definitely don’t have to wear it. Makeup is a personal choice, and you shouldn’t feel like you have to try it.
2. Wear clothing that makes you feel good.
Your confidence will skyrocket when your outfit looks great.
When you’re going out, put on a dress or a skirt that makes you feel awesome. If you’re just hanging with friends, throw on a T-shirt and jeans that fit you perfectly. You can spend a longer time on your look when you don’t have to worry about doing your hair!
3. Moisturize your scalp if it feels dry.
Some women deal with cradle cap or dandruff.
If that’s the case, rub an unscented lotion onto your scalp, like Epaderm, Hydromol, or Doublebase. It will help protect your scalp and keep your skin from drying out.
It might also help to cover your head in the sun. Your scalp can burn easily, and a sunburn on top of your head can get itchy.
4. Do a photoshoot.
Get glammed up and show off your bald head.
Put on an outfit that makes you feel great and hire a professional photographer to capture your beauty. You could go out into nature or stay in a studio to get fun images that make you feel great.
If you have any bald friends, consider asking them to come along for the photoshoot. Make it a fun day full of laughter and friends to really boost your confidence.
5. Fake your confidence.
You won’t feel confident every day, and that’s okay.
It’s the same for people who aren’t bald—sometimes you have to fake it until you make it. If you wake up one morning and really aren’t feeling yourself, just pretend like you are! Eventually, your fake confidence will turn into real confidence.
You might have to fake it a lot in the beginning, and that’s okay. Being bald can be tough to get used to, so give yourself a bit of time.
6. Laugh off comments.
You may get comments or questions about your bald head.
If friends or family members ask, feel free to explain why you went bald or chose to shave your head. If strangers on the street say anything, you can diffuse the situation with humor or ignore them completely.
For example, if someone on the street comments on your baldness, you could touch your head and say “What?! Where’d all my hair go?!”
7. Connect with other bald women.
Surround yourself with a support system of bald, beautiful women.
If you don’t know anyone else who is bald in real life, try searching on social media. You can look through hashtags like #BaldIsBeautiful and #BaldWoman to find other people going through the same thing as you.
If you lost your hair due to illness or chemotherapy, you can also find specific support groups online to connect with similar people.
8. Experiment with wigs.
Try out a new hairstyle you’ve never had before.
If you want to, try getting a few wigs in all different lengths, styles, and colors. You don’t have to wear one every day, but you can try them out when you want to dress up or look a little different.
Try buying wigs made out of real human hair so they look more realistic.
Use a wig cap to prevent it from moving around or falling down. Wig caps will work regardless of if you have hair or not!
9. Get a head tattoo.
Your scalp is free to experiment with.
If you already have tattoos, try adding to your collection with a piece on the side of your head. It’s a fun way to express yourself that not everyone can do.
Keep in mind that head tattoos might not be considered appropriate for a professional environment. If you have a job or plan on getting one in the future, a head tattoo might not be the best option for you.
10. Put on a headscarf or a head wrap.
Cover your head while staying fashionable.
If you’re feeling chilly or you want to cover up your scalp, try putting on a silk headscarf or wearing a long head wrap. In the winter, go for a cotton or a wool one to keep your head warm. These fun garments are a great way to spice up your bald head and add some variety to your everyday look.
You could also try a wide headband or a beanie to cover your head.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Emphasize your features with makeup.\\nIf you like makeup, now’s your time to experiment.\\nEmphasize your eyes with false lashes, black eyeliner, and smokey eyeshadow. Draw attention to your lips with a bold lipstick and shiny gloss. Highlight your cheekbones with a bit of bronzer and blush to really round out your look. If you’re wearing foundation, be sure to blend it down your neck and behind your ears, since all your skin is exposed now!\\nIf you don’t like makeup, you definitely don’t have to wear it. Makeup is a personal choice, and you shouldn’t feel like you have to try it.\\n2. Wear clothing that makes you feel good.\\nYour confidence will skyrocket when your outfit looks great.\\nWhen you’re going out, put on a dress or a skirt that makes you feel awesome. If you’re just hanging with friends, throw on a T-shirt and jeans that fit you perfectly. You can spend a longer time on your look when you don’t have to worry about doing your hair!\\n3. Moisturize your scalp if it feels dry.\\nSome women deal with cradle cap or dandruff.\\nIf that’s the case, rub an unscented lotion onto your scalp, like Epaderm, Hydromol, or Doublebase. It will help protect your scalp and keep your skin from drying out.\\nIt might also help to cover your head in the sun. Your scalp can burn easily, and a sunburn on top of your head can get itchy.\\n4. Do a photoshoot.\\nGet glammed up and show off your bald head.\\nPut on an outfit that makes you feel great and hire a professional photographer to capture your beauty. You could go out into nature or stay in a studio to get fun images that make you feel great.\\nIf you have any bald friends, consider asking them to come along for the photoshoot. Make it a fun day full of laughter and friends to really boost your confidence.\\n5. Fake your confidence.\\nYou won’t feel confident every day, and that’s okay.\\nIt’s the same for people who aren’t bald—sometimes you have to fake it until you make it. If you wake up one morning and really aren’t feeling yourself, just pretend like you are! Eventually, your fake confidence will turn into real confidence.\\nYou might have to fake it a lot in the beginning, and that’s okay. Being bald can be tough to get used to, so give yourself a bit of time.\\n6. Laugh off comments.\\nYou may get comments or questions about your bald head.\\nIf friends or family members ask, feel free to explain why you went bald or chose to shave your head. If strangers on the street say anything, you can diffuse the situation with humor or ignore them completely.\\nFor example, if someone on the street comments on your baldness, you could touch your head and say “What?! Where’d all my hair go?!”\\n7. Connect with other bald women.\\nSurround yourself with a support system of bald, beautiful women.\\nIf you don’t know anyone else who is bald in real life, try searching on social media. You can look through hashtags like #BaldIsBeautiful and #BaldWoman to find other people going through the same thing as you.\\nIf you lost your hair due to illness or chemotherapy, you can also find specific support groups online to connect with similar people.\\n8. Experiment with wigs.\\nTry out a new hairstyle you’ve never had before.\\nIf you want to, try getting a few wigs in all different lengths, styles, and colors. You don’t have to wear one every day, but you can try them out when you want to dress up or look a little different.\\nTry buying wigs made out of real human hair so they look more realistic.\\nUse a wig cap to prevent it from moving around or falling down. Wig caps will work regardless of if you have hair or not!\\n9. Get a head tattoo.\\nYour scalp is free to experiment with.\\nIf you already have tattoos, try adding to your collection with a piece on the side of your head. It’s a fun way to express yourself that not everyone can do.\\nKeep in mind that head tattoos might not be considered appropriate for a professional environment. If you have a job or plan on getting one in the future, a head tattoo might not be the best option for you.\\n10. Put on a headscarf or a head wrap.\\nCover your head while staying fashionable.\\nIf you’re feeling chilly or you want to cover up your scalp, try putting on a silk headscarf or wearing a long head wrap. In the winter, go for a cotton or a wool one to keep your head warm. These fun garments are a great way to spice up your bald head and add some variety to your everyday look.\\nYou could also try a wide headband or a beanie to cover your head.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"No matter why you’re shaving your head, doing it can feel liberating. While it might take some time to get used to, your newfound baldness can absolutely be beautiful, and you might even feel more confident than before! Read through some of these tips and tricks to learn how you can look and feel your best without a full head of hair.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Emphasize your features with makeup.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"If you like makeup, now’s your time to experiment.\", \"描述\": \"Emphasize your eyes with false lashes, black eyeliner, and smokey eyeshadow. Draw attention to your lips with a bold lipstick and shiny gloss. Highlight your cheekbones with a bit of bronzer and blush to really round out your look. If you’re wearing foundation, be sure to blend it down your neck and behind your ears, since all your skin is exposed now!\\nIf you don’t like makeup, you definitely don’t have to wear it. Makeup is a personal choice, and you shouldn’t feel like you have to try it.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Wear clothing that makes you feel good.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Your confidence will skyrocket when your outfit looks great.\", \"描述\": \"When you’re going out, put on a dress or a skirt that makes you feel awesome. If you’re just hanging with friends, throw on a T-shirt and jeans that fit you perfectly. You can spend a longer time on your look when you don’t have to worry about doing your hair!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Moisturize your scalp if it feels dry.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Some women deal with cradle cap or dandruff.\", \"描述\": \"If that’s the case, rub an unscented lotion onto your scalp, like Epaderm, Hydromol, or Doublebase. It will help protect your scalp and keep your skin from drying out.\\nIt might also help to cover your head in the sun. Your scalp can burn easily, and a sunburn on top of your head can get itchy.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Do a photoshoot.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get glammed up and show off your bald head.\", \"描述\": \"Put on an outfit that makes you feel great and hire a professional photographer to capture your beauty. You could go out into nature or stay in a studio to get fun images that make you feel great.\\nIf you have any bald friends, consider asking them to come along for the photoshoot. Make it a fun day full of laughter and friends to really boost your confidence.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Fake your confidence.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You won’t feel confident every day, and that’s okay.\", \"描述\": \"It’s the same for people who aren’t bald—sometimes you have to fake it until you make it. If you wake up one morning and really aren’t feeling yourself, just pretend like you are! 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1. Can anyone be a ballerina?
Yes—anyone can take lessons or decide to train in a program!
While women ballet dancers are called ballerinas, men can also become ballet dancers. They're called ballerinos. If you're interested in ballet, start with beginner lessons at a ballet or dance studio.
If you want to make ballet dancing a professional career, you can apply to ballet programs. From there, you'll train in order to get a place with a ballet company.
2. Do I have to learn ballet as a child?
2-1. No, although you'll have an advantage if you want to become a professional.
Most ballerinas take lessons as young children and begin training with a company between 7 and 10 years old. This usually means they'll have 1 or 2 technique classes a week. As a teenager, they'll take 10 to 15 classes a week if they're interested in ballet as a career.
Starting ballet as a child gives you years of practice so you're ready to perform in a company during your young adult years.
2-2. You can learn ballet as an adult—just look for an absolute beginner class.
If you weren't interested in ballet as a child or you missed your chance early on, it's never too late! In fact, you'll probably have better focus and attention when you learn ballet as an adult. Ballet is also a great way to stay in shape and express yourself.
Most ballet or dance studios offer absolute beginner classes. These are for people who have never danced ballet or haven't done it in years. They'll teach you the very basics so you can confidently grow as a ballerina.
3. What skills or qualifications do ballerinas need?
3-1. You'll need dedication and passion for dancing.
Ballet can be hard. It's physically demanding and you need to train like an athlete. This just means that you need the determination to stick with it. Above all, you must love ballet dancing!
Ballerinas usually need to have a good ear for music since the dances are choreographed to musical pieces. You should also be able to express yourself by dancing to the music.
3-2. Ballerinas need physical strength.
Many ballerinas practice a vigorous workout schedule that includes strength training, pilates, cycling, or running. Do a variety of exercises so you work different muscles and build strength across your entire body. This can also give you stamina for dancing.
Do exercises you enjoy doing so you're more likely to stick with a workout routine.
3-3. You'll need training at a ballet school if you want to be a professional.
If you feel passionate about ballet as a career, you'll need to complete a ballet program. These can cost between $1,000 to $6,000 a year in addition to supplies like leotards, tights, and shoes. Keep in mind that training usually lasts around 10 years.
Want to take ballet classes at a local studio for fun? A 1-hour weekly class averages between $40 and $70. You'll also need a leotard, tights, and shoes.
Check out summer ballet workshops. Although these may be pricy depending on the organization, they can be a great way to get some training in between school years.
3-4. Audition to land a job as a ballerina.
Usually, you'll train until you're hired by a dance company. They'll ask you to audition and you'll perform in front of several professional ballerinas or teachers. They'll be watching your technique and performance skills. In particular, they want to see your passion and how you express yourself as you dance.
Find ways to show your personality. Being yourself can help set you apart from other dancers. If you're allowed to select your own routine, pick moves that capture your unique personality.
Try your best not to panic on stage. If you make a minor mistake or misstep, how you recover from that in audition speaks volumes to your skills as a dancer. Try to stay calm and keep going even if you screw up during a routine.
4. How many years does it take to become a ballerina?
It takes around 8 to 10 years of training to be a professional ballerina.
You'll take technique classes once a week for the first 5 to 8 years. Then, you'll take 10 to 15 classes a week until you complete your training or you're hired by a ballet company.
If you're treating ballet as a hobby or workout, you can take classes or workshops whenever you feel like it.
5. How much should a ballerina weigh?
There's no perfect weight or height for a ballerina.
In the past, ballerinas tended to be short and thin although body perceptions are changing. If you're hoping for specific height or weight guidelines, check with the ballet company you'd like to join. They usually set their own requirements.
The most important thing about your ballet body is that you can cope with the physical demands of dancing.
Don't let the pressure of a "perfect" ballerina body wear you down. More ballet companies are hiring increasingly diverse dancers.
6. What's a ballerina's typical day like?
Ballerinas have very full, physical routines.
Usually, a ballerina starts the day with an hour-long technique class, does 4 to 6 hours of rehearsal, and finishes with a 2-hour performance. Ballerinas can do up to 10 hours of intense physical exercise every day.
Keep in mind that a professional ballerina might be rehearsing for several shows at a time. This can make for a very full day!
There's not much time for socializing, but ballerinas are often a tight-knit bunch.
7. How long does a ballerina's career last?
A professional ballerina usually dances into their early 30s.
Although there's no set age at which you have to stop dancing, most ballerinas find that ballet is very hard on their bodies. They may develop arthritis, muscle strain, or need several surgeries for back, knee, or foot problems. Many choose to stop dancing in order to recover or focus on other areas of their lives.
Some ballerinas may become teachers or choreographers, for instance.
If you're doing ballet as a hobby, there's really no age limit and you can dance as long as you enjoy doing it.
Tips
You may have heard that ballet is painful and it can be! Being "on pointe" means standing on the very tips of your toes. It takes a lot of practice and it can be physically demanding.[14]
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Geraldine Grace JohnsProfessional Ballerina & Ballet Instructor
Expert Interview. 11 November 2020.
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1. Getting Qualified
1-1. Finish high school.
Though you may be able to get started working at a bank without college experience, you definitely need to finish high school if you want to develop any sort of career. It's just good sense.
Pay attention in math class now and like it. If it bores you or if it's just something you slough through every afternoon, banking probably isn't up your alley.
1-2. Get your BA in finance, accounting, or other related field.
To compete with the hundreds or thousands of others that you'll be up against over the course of your lifetime, you'll need a BA to even be looked at seriously. You did well in high school so you can get into a good university, right?
Start networking now. Take a variety of courses (with a relation to math and business, of course), get to know your professors, and get involved on campus. The more work you do now, the less work you'll have to do later.
1-3. Get good grades in college.
This could've been a bullet point underneath the previous step, but it deserves being said in bold (and twice at that): get good grades in college. Sure, Cs get degrees, but they don't get into good grad schools and they sure as hell don't breed a good work ethic or good study habits.
1-4. Get a part-time gig at a bank.
You've gotta pay off that tuition somehow, so get started working at a bank! Even 10 hours a week being a teller is your foot in the door. The smaller banks in your area are great places to get started. You may even find a mentor and meet a bunch of people who can help you get going.
This is, obviously, apart from managing your own finances. If you want to get into investment banking or broking, it'll be of benefit to you to start managing your own stock portfolio. If you can't handle your own money, you probably shouldn't be handling anyone else's!
1-5. Read up.
This is a field where you can (and should) learn a ton from the pros. Since you're still not probably super sure which direction you want to go, reading books on the different aspects of banking can get your mind's feet wet.
Sometimes referred to as "the best book about mergers and acquisitions,", take a gander at "Barbarians at the Gate." As far as sales and trading go, look at "Liar's Poker." If it doesn't sound like fun, you're doing it wrong.
1-6. Get an internship.
So if your dream is to manage your town's credit union, you probably don't need an internship (read: you definitely don't need an internship). But if you ever see yourself flying to Tokyo to meet with a client and schmoozing and boozing them in the bars of 5-star hotels (that your bank is paying for), get an internship.
If you're looking into investments, mergers and acquisitions, public finance, leveraged finance, blah blah blah, you'll need an internship. It's only if you're planning on going the personal banker route and staying relatively small that an internship may be unnecessary stress on your pocketbook.
2. Finding Your Banking Career
2-1. Decide what type of job matches your current skill set and education.
Certain jobs are more entry level in the banking field than others. Most teller positions only require a high school education and on the job training. But pretty much every other will be looking for a BA or an MBA. Which is what you had in mind?
Entry-level, no-degree-required positions are generally part-time positions and have a high turn-over because employees often are college students who return to school or employees who move up to higher paid positions.
Positions such as financial managers, which can include the bank’s controller, credit manager, branch managers, treasurer or finance officer, risk and insurance manager, cash manager, and manager of international banking require a bachelor’s degree in finance, accounting, or a related field.
Positions that require additional training include investment banking sales agents. Many agents obtain their Master’s degrees in Business Administration (MBA), but it is the company’s specialized business model that is imperative to learn for an employee.
2-2. Go the personal banker route.
This is the guy (or gal!) at your bank that can offer you expert financial advice and that you actually know by name. S/He is great at building relationships with clients and is very service-oriented. Does this sound like your idea of "banker?"
From a personal banker, you can then be promoted to services manager, store manager, business specialist, or become a licensed personal banker. The web that bankers weave is clearly quite intricate!
To be a personal banker (at everywhere from your local credit union to a behemoth like Wells Fargo), you'll need your BA.
2-3. Or go the investment banker route.
This one is the one that's a bit more complicated and will eventually lead to you needing your MBA. There's a thousand possibilities for you out there if you start on this career -- meaning loads of people jump ship early on to a different banking related area. But if you see yourself scoring massive Gs and shaking hands for a living, an investment banker is your ticket to ride.
You'll start out as an analyst, move your way up to associate, then VP, then Managing Director, then a department/division head, executive something or other, and then, finally, CEO. At the beginning, you'll be swimming in your workload and not making a lot of money, but at the end you'll be swimming in your money and not doing a lot of work.
2-4. Pick an employer that fits you.
Regardless of which route you plan on going, do your research when it comes to looking for employment. This will be where you get your training and will thus shape you for the rest of your life. Do you want a small bank where you get lots of attention? Or do you want to be working with hundreds of people with the potential to rise above them all?
If size and location (and pay) are already sorted, be sure to think about their training program. Some banks will hand you over to the dogs more quickly than others. So before you sign that contract, make sure you know what's expected of you in the first few months.
2-5. Start at the bottom of the ladder.
Kinda how life works, really, but it's especially true in the banking world. At the beginning of your career, you'll be pushing paper. You'll be running meaningless errands, fixing your boss' typos, and slouching over piles of papers for hours. But it gets better!
If investment banking is your bag, you'll probably get hired on as an analyst for a very specific 2-year stint. You can imagine that after these two years, loads of people take the resume builder and get out of the banking world.
Beyond the analyst position is the financial assistant position. Once you get here, you're considered a "lifer." You'll still be working 100-hour work weeks (did we not mention that yet? Yeah....), but at least you'll be able to boss your analysts around.
Starting off as an analyst isn't going to be pretty. You'll spending the greater part of your waking life (and you won't get much sleep) doing math, fixing Excel spreadsheets, and being treated like you're not worth much. Just so you know. But, again, it gets better. Way better.
2-6. Get licensed, if necessary.
There are two exams that an agent may have to be aware of: The General Securities Registered Representative Examination, otherwise known as the Series 7 Exam, and the Uniform Securities Agents State Law Examination (Series 63 or 66). The Series 7 is administered by the Financial Industry Regulatory Authority (FINRA) and is a required exam to be a broker or investment advisor. Only some states require the 63/66.
This is only for a specific branch of banking -- namely investing. If you won't be doing any of that, you may not need to worry about taking these exams. By the time the need to take an exam (be it these two or not), you won't need this wikiHow article to outline the process for you.
You can get a license as a personal banker. Your bank will help facilitate this for you once you have enough experience under your belt.
3. Succeeding in Your Career
3-1. Work your butt off.
We've done more than allude to how crappy life is going to be for the first couple of years, mainly if you're planning on running with the big guys at banks like Chase, Goldman Sachs, or Wells Fargo (just to name a few). You're going to be surviving on black coffee and cheeseburgers with onions and, when all you want to do is sleep, you'll need to ask for more work. Sounds good, right?
For a while, you won't have much of a social life (unless, of course, you're constantly on uppers to avoid needing sleep, but that's a terrible idea). If that's not a sacrifice you're willing to make (which is why loads of people get out early on), you may need to consider a different career -- or at least banking on a much, much smaller level.
3-2. Get your MBA.
Loads of people take that two-year stint as an analyst and then go to work on their MBA. They come back and they've got all their bases covered. Some do get their MBA straightaway -- and then they get jobs as assistants, ordering around the analysts who actually have a better idea of how things should be done, so it can be a little jarring. If you see an MBA in your future, get it sooner rather than later, but don't feel the need to get it right outta the gate.
If you don't know whether or not an MBA is for you, sleep on it. It's a lot of money and time spent and if you don't need it, there's little point in worrying about it. Plenty of people don't have them and do more than just fine.
3-3. Be quantitative.
This really goes without saying -- if you don't have a head for math and the finance world, this is going to be one hell of an uphill battle. Not only should you be good at it, but you should take pride in it and enjoy it, too. For the long run! 5 years into it, those numbers still have to be interesting. Only a quantitative mind could manage that!
3-4. Be unflappable.
You're gonna come across a lot of situations that would stress the average Joe out. You cannot be that average Joe. Your response to a stressful situation should be more along the lines of, "The client wants 24/7 access this week and a brand spanking new presentation? Okay, no problem. I've got a gift card to Starbucks. Work has a shower. I got this."
You'll also be in situations that are stressful due to your coworkers. At the beginning, there may be some pretty fierce competition. You gotta believe in yourself and think of it all as hazing, not personal attacks. There's only so much money going around, so some people can get quite nippy.
3-5. Nail down that handshake.
Once you've put in your time falling asleep at the keyboard and making presentations that your boss gets credit for, you'll eventually get to the point where you're paid to fly to Chicago and shake some old guy's hand. When it comes to that, make sure you've worked on your charming smile, your punctuality, your taste for whiskey, and your firm-yet-warm grip.
It's all schmoozing and boozing at the end. All that work you did early on will finally pay off. People will come to you -- there's no need to come to them. This will take years, sure, maybe even more than a decade, but it can come with the right amount of persistence (and, well, economic upturns).
3-6. Rock the golden handcuffs.
That's sort of pessimistic, sure, but it doesn't necessarily mean it's untrue. When you're making that massive six figure salary, you may be able to back out early and spend the rest of your life doing something a little less stressful. Or you may get addicted to that paycheck and see out the rest of your years working to get it. You'll be handcuffed to your job, but at least those handcuffs are shiny.
Tips
Find out what seminars and training are available to you at no cost or minimal cost to give you additional training in your banking area. These might be offered in-house at your institution, or they might be training seminars that require travel. By increasing your knowledge and continuing your education, you broaden your area of expertise and make your chances for future advancement better.
Set a standard of professionalism. If you want to be a banker, become a model employee by being punctual, dressing in a business-like manner, speaking professionally, and refraining from cursing or using slang language.
Research the nuances of your particular job description. Guidelines have been set in place for the banking industry for a reason. They are there to protect the institution to help them follow state and national regulatory guidelines. So it is imperative that you take every precaution to understand and follow the rules and instructions laid out before you.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Getting Qualified\\n1-1. Finish high school.\\nThough you may be able to get started working at a bank without college experience, you definitely need to finish high school if you want to develop any sort of career. It's just good sense.\\nPay attention in math class now and like it. If it bores you or if it's just something you slough through every afternoon, banking probably isn't up your alley.\\n1-2. Get your BA in finance, accounting, or other related field.\\nTo compete with the hundreds or thousands of others that you'll be up against over the course of your lifetime, you'll need a BA to even be looked at seriously. You did well in high school so you can get into a good university, right?\\nStart networking now. Take a variety of courses (with a relation to math and business, of course), get to know your professors, and get involved on campus. The more work you do now, the less work you'll have to do later.\\n1-3. Get good grades in college.\\nThis could've been a bullet point underneath the previous step, but it deserves being said in bold (and twice at that): get good grades in college. Sure, Cs get degrees, but they don't get into good grad schools and they sure as hell don't breed a good work ethic or good study habits.\\n1-4. Get a part-time gig at a bank.\\nYou've gotta pay off that tuition somehow, so get started working at a bank! Even 10 hours a week being a teller is your foot in the door. The smaller banks in your area are great places to get started. You may even find a mentor and meet a bunch of people who can help you get going.\\nThis is, obviously, apart from managing your own finances. If you want to get into investment banking or broking, it'll be of benefit to you to start managing your own stock portfolio. If you can't handle your own money, you probably shouldn't be handling anyone else's!\\n1-5. Read up.\\nThis is a field where you can (and should) learn a ton from the pros. Since you're still not probably super sure which direction you want to go, reading books on the different aspects of banking can get your mind's feet wet.\\nSometimes referred to as \\\"the best book about mergers and acquisitions,\\\", take a gander at \\\"Barbarians at the Gate.\\\" As far as sales and trading go, look at \\\"Liar's Poker.\\\" If it doesn't sound like fun, you're doing it wrong.\\n1-6. Get an internship.\\nSo if your dream is to manage your town's credit union, you probably don't need an internship (read: you definitely don't need an internship). But if you ever see yourself flying to Tokyo to meet with a client and schmoozing and boozing them in the bars of 5-star hotels (that your bank is paying for), get an internship.\\nIf you're looking into investments, mergers and acquisitions, public finance, leveraged finance, blah blah blah, you'll need an internship. It's only if you're planning on going the personal banker route and staying relatively small that an internship may be unnecessary stress on your pocketbook.\\n2. Finding Your Banking Career\\n2-1. Decide what type of job matches your current skill set and education.\\nCertain jobs are more entry level in the banking field than others. Most teller positions only require a high school education and on the job training. But pretty much every other will be looking for a BA or an MBA. Which is what you had in mind?\\nEntry-level, no-degree-required positions are generally part-time positions and have a high turn-over because employees often are college students who return to school or employees who move up to higher paid positions.\\nPositions such as financial managers, which can include the bank’s controller, credit manager, branch managers, treasurer or finance officer, risk and insurance manager, cash manager, and manager of international banking require a bachelor’s degree in finance, accounting, or a related field.\\nPositions that require additional training include investment banking sales agents. Many agents obtain their Master’s degrees in Business Administration (MBA), but it is the company’s specialized business model that is imperative to learn for an employee.\\n2-2. Go the personal banker route.\\nThis is the guy (or gal!) at your bank that can offer you expert financial advice and that you actually know by name. S/He is great at building relationships with clients and is very service-oriented. Does this sound like your idea of \\\"banker?\\\"\\nFrom a personal banker, you can then be promoted to services manager, store manager, business specialist, or become a licensed personal banker. The web that bankers weave is clearly quite intricate!\\nTo be a personal banker (at everywhere from your local credit union to a behemoth like Wells Fargo), you'll need your BA.\\n2-3. Or go the investment banker route.\\nThis one is the one that's a bit more complicated and will eventually lead to you needing your MBA. There's a thousand possibilities for you out there if you start on this career -- meaning loads of people jump ship early on to a different banking related area. But if you see yourself scoring massive Gs and shaking hands for a living, an investment banker is your ticket to ride.\\nYou'll start out as an analyst, move your way up to associate, then VP, then Managing Director, then a department/division head, executive something or other, and then, finally, CEO. At the beginning, you'll be swimming in your workload and not making a lot of money, but at the end you'll be swimming in your money and not doing a lot of work.\\n2-4. Pick an employer that fits you.\\nRegardless of which route you plan on going, do your research when it comes to looking for employment. This will be where you get your training and will thus shape you for the rest of your life. Do you want a small bank where you get lots of attention? Or do you want to be working with hundreds of people with the potential to rise above them all?\\nIf size and location (and pay) are already sorted, be sure to think about their training program. Some banks will hand you over to the dogs more quickly than others. So before you sign that contract, make sure you know what's expected of you in the first few months.\\n2-5. Start at the bottom of the ladder.\\nKinda how life works, really, but it's especially true in the banking world. At the beginning of your career, you'll be pushing paper. You'll be running meaningless errands, fixing your boss' typos, and slouching over piles of papers for hours. But it gets better!\\nIf investment banking is your bag, you'll probably get hired on as an analyst for a very specific 2-year stint. You can imagine that after these two years, loads of people take the resume builder and get out of the banking world.\\nBeyond the analyst position is the financial assistant position. Once you get here, you're considered a \\\"lifer.\\\" You'll still be working 100-hour work weeks (did we not mention that yet? Yeah....), but at least you'll be able to boss your analysts around.\\nStarting off as an analyst isn't going to be pretty. You'll spending the greater part of your waking life (and you won't get much sleep) doing math, fixing Excel spreadsheets, and being treated like you're not worth much. Just so you know. But, again, it gets better. Way better.\\n2-6. Get licensed, if necessary.\\nThere are two exams that an agent may have to be aware of: The General Securities Registered Representative Examination, otherwise known as the Series 7 Exam, and the Uniform Securities Agents State Law Examination (Series 63 or 66). The Series 7 is administered by the Financial Industry Regulatory Authority (FINRA) and is a required exam to be a broker or investment advisor. Only some states require the 63/66.\\nThis is only for a specific branch of banking -- namely investing. If you won't be doing any of that, you may not need to worry about taking these exams. By the time the need to take an exam (be it these two or not), you won't need this wikiHow article to outline the process for you.\\nYou can get a license as a personal banker. Your bank will help facilitate this for you once you have enough experience under your belt.\\n3. Succeeding in Your Career\\n3-1. Work your butt off.\\nWe've done more than allude to how crappy life is going to be for the first couple of years, mainly if you're planning on running with the big guys at banks like Chase, Goldman Sachs, or Wells Fargo (just to name a few). You're going to be surviving on black coffee and cheeseburgers with onions and, when all you want to do is sleep, you'll need to ask for more work. Sounds good, right?\\nFor a while, you won't have much of a social life (unless, of course, you're constantly on uppers to avoid needing sleep, but that's a terrible idea). If that's not a sacrifice you're willing to make (which is why loads of people get out early on), you may need to consider a different career -- or at least banking on a much, much smaller level.\\n3-2. Get your MBA.\\nLoads of people take that two-year stint as an analyst and then go to work on their MBA. They come back and they've got all their bases covered. Some do get their MBA straightaway -- and then they get jobs as assistants, ordering around the analysts who actually have a better idea of how things should be done, so it can be a little jarring. If you see an MBA in your future, get it sooner rather than later, but don't feel the need to get it right outta the gate.\\nIf you don't know whether or not an MBA is for you, sleep on it. It's a lot of money and time spent and if you don't need it, there's little point in worrying about it. Plenty of people don't have them and do more than just fine.\\n3-3. Be quantitative.\\nThis really goes without saying -- if you don't have a head for math and the finance world, this is going to be one hell of an uphill battle. Not only should you be good at it, but you should take pride in it and enjoy it, too. For the long run! 5 years into it, those numbers still have to be interesting. Only a quantitative mind could manage that!\\n3-4. Be unflappable.\\nYou're gonna come across a lot of situations that would stress the average Joe out. You cannot be that average Joe. Your response to a stressful situation should be more along the lines of, \\\"The client wants 24/7 access this week and a brand spanking new presentation? Okay, no problem. I've got a gift card to Starbucks. Work has a shower. I got this.\\\"\\nYou'll also be in situations that are stressful due to your coworkers. At the beginning, there may be some pretty fierce competition. You gotta believe in yourself and think of it all as hazing, not personal attacks. There's only so much money going around, so some people can get quite nippy.\\n3-5. Nail down that handshake.\\nOnce you've put in your time falling asleep at the keyboard and making presentations that your boss gets credit for, you'll eventually get to the point where you're paid to fly to Chicago and shake some old guy's hand. When it comes to that, make sure you've worked on your charming smile, your punctuality, your taste for whiskey, and your firm-yet-warm grip.\\nIt's all schmoozing and boozing at the end. All that work you did early on will finally pay off. People will come to you -- there's no need to come to them. This will take years, sure, maybe even more than a decade, but it can come with the right amount of persistence (and, well, economic upturns).\\n3-6. Rock the golden handcuffs.\\nThat's sort of pessimistic, sure, but it doesn't necessarily mean it's untrue. When you're making that massive six figure salary, you may be able to back out early and spend the rest of your life doing something a little less stressful. Or you may get addicted to that paycheck and see out the rest of your years working to get it. You'll be handcuffed to your job, but at least those handcuffs are shiny.\\nTips\\nFind out what seminars and training are available to you at no cost or minimal cost to give you additional training in your banking area. These might be offered in-house at your institution, or they might be training seminars that require travel. By increasing your knowledge and continuing your education, you broaden your area of expertise and make your chances for future advancement better.\\nSet a standard of professionalism. If you want to be a banker, become a model employee by being punctual, dressing in a business-like manner, speaking professionally, and refraining from cursing or using slang language.\\nResearch the nuances of your particular job description. Guidelines have been set in place for the banking industry for a reason. They are there to protect the institution to help them follow state and national regulatory guidelines. So it is imperative that you take every precaution to understand and follow the rules and instructions laid out before you.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Working in the banking field covers a broad spectrum of job duties. You might be a loan officer who holds the future of a young family or a struggling business in your hands. You might be the Chief Executive Officer who has to hold it all together and know the big picture plan for the entire company, but may have started out in the mail room. Some bankers stay in one specific area their entire career, while others choose to cover a wide variety of job titles throughout their time while at a particular institution. What's in store for you?\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting Qualified\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Finish high school.\", \"描述\": \"Though you may be able to get started working at a bank without college experience, you definitely need to finish high school if you want to develop any sort of career. It's just good sense.\\nPay attention in math class now and like it. If it bores you or if it's just something you slough through every afternoon, banking probably isn't up your alley.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get your BA in finance, accounting, or other related field.\", \"描述\": \"To compete with the hundreds or thousands of others that you'll be up against over the course of your lifetime, you'll need a BA to even be looked at seriously. You did well in high school so you can get into a good university, right?\\nStart networking now. Take a variety of courses (with a relation to math and business, of course), get to know your professors, and get involved on campus. The more work you do now, the less work you'll have to do later.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get good grades in college.\", \"描述\": \"This could've been a bullet point underneath the previous step, but it deserves being said in bold (and twice at that): get good grades in college. Sure, Cs get degrees, but they don't get into good grad schools and they sure as hell don't breed a good work ethic or good study habits.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get a part-time gig at a bank.\", \"描述\": \"You've gotta pay off that tuition somehow, so get started working at a bank! Even 10 hours a week being a teller is your foot in the door. The smaller banks in your area are great places to get started. You may even find a mentor and meet a bunch of people who can help you get going.\\nThis is, obviously, apart from managing your own finances. If you want to get into investment banking or broking, it'll be of benefit to you to start managing your own stock portfolio. If you can't handle your own money, you probably shouldn't be handling anyone else's!\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Read up.\", \"描述\": \"This is a field where you can (and should) learn a ton from the pros. Since you're still not probably super sure which direction you want to go, reading books on the different aspects of banking can get your mind's feet wet.\\nSometimes referred to as \\\"the best book about mergers and acquisitions,\\\", take a gander at \\\"Barbarians at the Gate.\\\" As far as sales and trading go, look at \\\"Liar's Poker.\\\" If it doesn't sound like fun, you're doing it wrong.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Get an internship.\", \"描述\": \"So if your dream is to manage your town's credit union, you probably don't need an internship (read: you definitely don't need an internship). But if you ever see yourself flying to Tokyo to meet with a client and schmoozing and boozing them in the bars of 5-star hotels (that your bank is paying for), get an internship.\\nIf you're looking into investments, mergers and acquisitions, public finance, leveraged finance, blah blah blah, you'll need an internship. It's only if you're planning on going the personal banker route and staying relatively small that an internship may be unnecessary stress on your pocketbook.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Finding Your Banking Career\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Decide what type of job matches your current skill set and education.\", \"描述\": \"Certain jobs are more entry level in the banking field than others. Most teller positions only require a high school education and on the job training. But pretty much every other will be looking for a BA or an MBA. Which is what you had in mind?\\nEntry-level, no-degree-required positions are generally part-time positions and have a high turn-over because employees often are college students who return to school or employees who move up to higher paid positions.\\nPositions such as financial managers, which can include the bank’s controller, credit manager, branch managers, treasurer or finance officer, risk and insurance manager, cash manager, and manager of international banking require a bachelor’s degree in finance, accounting, or a related field.\\nPositions that require additional training include investment banking sales agents. Many agents obtain their Master’s degrees in Business Administration (MBA), but it is the company’s specialized business model that is imperative to learn for an employee.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Go the personal banker route.\", \"描述\": \"This is the guy (or gal!) at your bank that can offer you expert financial advice and that you actually know by name. S/He is great at building relationships with clients and is very service-oriented. Does this sound like your idea of \\\"banker?\\\"\\nFrom a personal banker, you can then be promoted to services manager, store manager, business specialist, or become a licensed personal banker. The web that bankers weave is clearly quite intricate!\\nTo be a personal banker (at everywhere from your local credit union to a behemoth like Wells Fargo), you'll need your BA.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Or go the investment banker route.\", \"描述\": \"This one is the one that's a bit more complicated and will eventually lead to you needing your MBA. There's a thousand possibilities for you out there if you start on this career -- meaning loads of people jump ship early on to a different banking related area. But if you see yourself scoring massive Gs and shaking hands for a living, an investment banker is your ticket to ride.\\nYou'll start out as an analyst, move your way up to associate, then VP, then Managing Director, then a department/division head, executive something or other, and then, finally, CEO. At the beginning, you'll be swimming in your workload and not making a lot of money, but at the end you'll be swimming in your money and not doing a lot of work.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Pick an employer that fits you.\", \"描述\": \"Regardless of which route you plan on going, do your research when it comes to looking for employment. This will be where you get your training and will thus shape you for the rest of your life. Do you want a small bank where you get lots of attention? Or do you want to be working with hundreds of people with the potential to rise above them all?\\nIf size and location (and pay) are already sorted, be sure to think about their training program. Some banks will hand you over to the dogs more quickly than others. So before you sign that contract, make sure you know what's expected of you in the first few months.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Start at the bottom of the ladder.\", \"描述\": \"Kinda how life works, really, but it's especially true in the banking world. At the beginning of your career, you'll be pushing paper. You'll be running meaningless errands, fixing your boss' typos, and slouching over piles of papers for hours. But it gets better!\\nIf investment banking is your bag, you'll probably get hired on as an analyst for a very specific 2-year stint. You can imagine that after these two years, loads of people take the resume builder and get out of the banking world.\\nBeyond the analyst position is the financial assistant position. Once you get here, you're considered a \\\"lifer.\\\" You'll still be working 100-hour work weeks (did we not mention that yet? Yeah....), but at least you'll be able to boss your analysts around.\\nStarting off as an analyst isn't going to be pretty. You'll spending the greater part of your waking life (and you won't get much sleep) doing math, fixing Excel spreadsheets, and being treated like you're not worth much. Just so you know. But, again, it gets better. Way better.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Get licensed, if necessary.\", \"描述\": \"There are two exams that an agent may have to be aware of: The General Securities Registered Representative Examination, otherwise known as the Series 7 Exam, and the Uniform Securities Agents State Law Examination (Series 63 or 66). The Series 7 is administered by the Financial Industry Regulatory Authority (FINRA) and is a required exam to be a broker or investment advisor. Only some states require the 63/66.\\nThis is only for a specific branch of banking -- namely investing. If you won't be doing any of that, you may not need to worry about taking these exams. By the time the need to take an exam (be it these two or not), you won't need this wikiHow article to outline the process for you.\\nYou can get a license as a personal banker. Your bank will help facilitate this for you once you have enough experience under your belt.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Succeeding in Your Career\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Work your butt off.\", \"描述\": \"We've done more than allude to how crappy life is going to be for the first couple of years, mainly if you're planning on running with the big guys at banks like Chase, Goldman Sachs, or Wells Fargo (just to name a few). You're going to be surviving on black coffee and cheeseburgers with onions and, when all you want to do is sleep, you'll need to ask for more work. Sounds good, right?\\nFor a while, you won't have much of a social life (unless, of course, you're constantly on uppers to avoid needing sleep, but that's a terrible idea). If that's not a sacrifice you're willing to make (which is why loads of people get out early on), you may need to consider a different career -- or at least banking on a much, much smaller level.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get your MBA.\", \"描述\": \"Loads of people take that two-year stint as an analyst and then go to work on their MBA. They come back and they've got all their bases covered. Some do get their MBA straightaway -- and then they get jobs as assistants, ordering around the analysts who actually have a better idea of how things should be done, so it can be a little jarring. If you see an MBA in your future, get it sooner rather than later, but don't feel the need to get it right outta the gate.\\nIf you don't know whether or not an MBA is for you, sleep on it. It's a lot of money and time spent and if you don't need it, there's little point in worrying about it. Plenty of people don't have them and do more than just fine.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be quantitative.\", \"描述\": \"This really goes without saying -- if you don't have a head for math and the finance world, this is going to be one hell of an uphill battle. Not only should you be good at it, but you should take pride in it and enjoy it, too. For the long run! 5 years into it, those numbers still have to be interesting. Only a quantitative mind could manage that!\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be unflappable.\", \"描述\": \"You're gonna come across a lot of situations that would stress the average Joe out. You cannot be that average Joe. Your response to a stressful situation should be more along the lines of, \\\"The client wants 24/7 access this week and a brand spanking new presentation? Okay, no problem. I've got a gift card to Starbucks. Work has a shower. I got this.\\\"\\nYou'll also be in situations that are stressful due to your coworkers. 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This will take years, sure, maybe even more than a decade, but it can come with the right amount of persistence (and, well, economic upturns).\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Rock the golden handcuffs.\", \"描述\": \"That's sort of pessimistic, sure, but it doesn't necessarily mean it's untrue. When you're making that massive six figure salary, you may be able to back out early and spend the rest of your life doing something a little less stressful. Or you may get addicted to that paycheck and see out the rest of your years working to get it. You'll be handcuffed to your job, but at least those handcuffs are shiny.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Find out what seminars and training are available to you at no cost or minimal cost to give you additional training in your banking area. These might be offered in-house at your institution, or they might be training seminars that require travel. 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1. Learning the Basics
1-1. Set up the banquet hall by placing tables, chairs, and more.
As a banquet server, you'll be responsible for setting up before an event. This will include placing tables, chairs, and even decorations. In some cases, you'll have 2 or more hours of set up before guests arrive.
Most employers expect banquet servers to be able to lift at least 25 pounds (11.4 kg).
1-2. Learn how to set silverware.
Place a large entrée fork to the left of the plate. Then, put a small salad fork to the left of that. Position the cutting knife to the right of the plate. Next to that will be a small spoon, followed by a large spoon on the outside. The napkin may be placed on the plate, to the left of the forks, or even behind the plate.
Place settings may vary based on region, taste, and your employer’s standards.
Your employer will most likely provide on-the-job training so you can perfect your place-setting skills.
1-3. Serve food and drinks to guests.
Depending on the event, you might take orders, bring individual plates to guests, or serve food from a buffet. In addition, you'll take orders for and bring drinks to guests.
If you're of age (over 18), you may be able to serve alcohol to guests.
1-4. Clear the tables assigned to you.
In addition to serving guests food and beverages, you'll be responsible for clearing tables. This includes clearing plates after every course. Ultimately, whenever a guest is finished with a dish, a glass, or a piece of silverware, you'll need to remove it from the table.
1-5. Keep good personal hygiene.
A banquet server should be clean and well-groomed. Shower before arriving to work. In addition, shave (if you need to), use deodorant, brush your teeth and hair, and make sure your clothes/uniform are laundered and pressed. Finally, make sure to wash your hands with warm soap and water when on the job.
2. Interacting With Guests and Your Team
2-1. Listen to the people you serve.
Whenever the people you’re serving say something or request something, listen to them. In addition to requesting a food or drink, they may be trying to communicate information about food allergies or medical problems you should be aware of.
Let the people you’re serving know that you heard them. For instance, say “Absolutely,” “Yes ma'am,” or “Yes sir.”
Keep a small pad of notebook paper and write down any food allergies or special instructions you think you might forget over the course of the banquet.
2-2. Pay attention to your supervisor.
Watch and listen to your supervisor. They will let you know when to serve and what to serve. If you don’t watch your supervisor, you may wind up serving your food at the wrong time. In addition, you may wind up serving the wrong plate to the wrong guest.
2-3. Watch what your fellow servers are doing.
In addition to listening to your supervisor, you should pay attention to your fellow servers. This is important, as individual servers are just part of a large team of people collaborating to make a specific event run as seamlessly as possible.
Look to see what your servers are doing at any given moment.
Listen to what other servers say to you. If a fellow server gives you a hint or suggestion, you should probably take it. In addition, if a fellow server asks you for help, you should do so if you can.
2-4. Don’t be too talkative.
When dealing with guests, don’t be overly friendly or familiar. Ultimately, a banquet server should be polite and attentive to the people they’re serving. If you get too involved with your guests, you won’t be able to attend to your duties as a server.
Avoid interrupting guests.
Try not to engage in small talk.
Don’t ask guests questions unrelated to your job, and never ask guests personal questions.
3. Securing a Job
3-1. Find out if large hotels near you are hiring.
Many large hotels that have banquet halls also have in-house catering services. As a result, they’ll regularly have openings for banquet servers. To find out if they have an opening:
Visit the hotel’s website. Look under employment for current positions.
Call the hotel and inquire if they’re hiring.
3-2. Look at convention center job postings.
Like large hotels, convention centers often have in-house catering services. To find a job at a convention center, visit their website and look at their employment page. In addition, you can also call and inquire if they are hiring.
3-3. Contact independent caterers in your area.
Run and internet search or look through the phone book for caterers near you. Call them and ask if they’re hiring banquet servers. Depending on the region you live, you’ll probably be able to find at least one caterer who is currently hiring.
3-4. Sign up with a staffing company.
Contact a staffing company near you. Let them know you are interested in working as a banquet server. They'll review the positions they have available and let you know if they can place you in a job as a banquet server.
Pay may be somewhat lower working for a staffing company. \
3-5. Look on job websites.
Visit popular job websites and search for “banquet servers.” Depending on your region, you’ll likely find a variety of positions at different employers. Some websites to consider searching include:
Monster
Indeed
Ziprecruiter
Snagajob
4. Making Yourself Competitive
4-1. Graduate high school or earn your GED.
While a formal education is not required to be a banquet server, having a high school diploma or GED may increase your chances of getting a job. In addition, holding a high school degree may help you earn more money and gain promotion later in your career.
4-2. Work as a restaurant server.
Having experience as a server in a restaurant may increase your chance of getting a job as a banquet server. This is because potential employers will know you have many of the basic skills required to succeed as a banquet server. Ultimately, by working as a restaurant sever, you’ll be able to hone your attention to detail, get used to working in a fast-paced environment, and have experience serving food to a variety of customers.
4-3. Have customer service experience.
Having prior experience in customer service positions, like those in retail or telemarketing, will help you hone the interpersonal skills you’ll need as a banquet server. Ultimately, the job of banquet server is o ne that focuses on satisfying customers.
4-4. Get CPR certified
Like a high school diploma or prior work experience, CPR is not required to be a banquet server. However, some employers may favor applicants who are CPR certified. As a result, if you want to increase your chances of landing a banquet server job, and it won’t take you too much time, get CPR certified.
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Serve food and drinks to guests.\\nDepending on the event, you might take orders, bring individual plates to guests, or serve food from a buffet. In addition, you'll take orders for and bring drinks to guests.\\nIf you're of age (over 18), you may be able to serve alcohol to guests.\\n1-4. Clear the tables assigned to you.\\nIn addition to serving guests food and beverages, you'll be responsible for clearing tables. This includes clearing plates after every course. Ultimately, whenever a guest is finished with a dish, a glass, or a piece of silverware, you'll need to remove it from the table.\\n1-5. Keep good personal hygiene.\\nA banquet server should be clean and well-groomed. Shower before arriving to work. In addition, shave (if you need to), use deodorant, brush your teeth and hair, and make sure your clothes/uniform are laundered and pressed. Finally, make sure to wash your hands with warm soap and water when on the job.\\n2. Interacting With Guests and Your Team\\n2-1. Listen to the people you serve.\\nWhenever the people you’re serving say something or request something, listen to them. In addition to requesting a food or drink, they may be trying to communicate information about food allergies or medical problems you should be aware of. \\nLet the people you’re serving know that you heard them. For instance, say “Absolutely,” “Yes ma'am,” or “Yes sir.”\\nKeep a small pad of notebook paper and write down any food allergies or special instructions you think you might forget over the course of the banquet.\\n2-2. Pay attention to your supervisor.\\nWatch and listen to your supervisor. They will let you know when to serve and what to serve. If you don’t watch your supervisor, you may wind up serving your food at the wrong time. In addition, you may wind up serving the wrong plate to the wrong guest.\\n2-3. Watch what your fellow servers are doing.\\nIn addition to listening to your supervisor, you should pay attention to your fellow servers. This is important, as individual servers are just part of a large team of people collaborating to make a specific event run as seamlessly as possible. \\nLook to see what your servers are doing at any given moment.\\nListen to what other servers say to you. If a fellow server gives you a hint or suggestion, you should probably take it. In addition, if a fellow server asks you for help, you should do so if you can.\\n2-4. Don’t be too talkative.\\nWhen dealing with guests, don’t be overly friendly or familiar. Ultimately, a banquet server should be polite and attentive to the people they’re serving. If you get too involved with your guests, you won’t be able to attend to your duties as a server. \\nAvoid interrupting guests.\\nTry not to engage in small talk.\\nDon’t ask guests questions unrelated to your job, and never ask guests personal questions.\\n3. Securing a Job\\n3-1. Find out if large hotels near you are hiring.\\nMany large hotels that have banquet halls also have in-house catering services. As a result, they’ll regularly have openings for banquet servers. To find out if they have an opening:\\nVisit the hotel’s website. Look under employment for current positions.\\nCall the hotel and inquire if they’re hiring.\\n3-2. Look at convention center job postings.\\nLike large hotels, convention centers often have in-house catering services. To find a job at a convention center, visit their website and look at their employment page. In addition, you can also call and inquire if they are hiring.\\n3-3. Contact independent caterers in your area.\\nRun and internet search or look through the phone book for caterers near you. Call them and ask if they’re hiring banquet servers. Depending on the region you live, you’ll probably be able to find at least one caterer who is currently hiring.\\n3-4. Sign up with a staffing company.\\nContact a staffing company near you. Let them know you are interested in working as a banquet server. They'll review the positions they have available and let you know if they can place you in a job as a banquet server. \\nPay may be somewhat lower working for a staffing company. \\\\\\n3-5. Look on job websites.\\nVisit popular job websites and search for “banquet servers.” Depending on your region, you’ll likely find a variety of positions at different employers. Some websites to consider searching include: \\nMonster\\nIndeed\\nZiprecruiter\\nSnagajob\\n4. Making Yourself Competitive\\n4-1. Graduate high school or earn your GED.\\nWhile a formal education is not required to be a banquet server, having a high school diploma or GED may increase your chances of getting a job. In addition, holding a high school degree may help you earn more money and gain promotion later in your career.\\n4-2. Work as a restaurant server.\\nHaving experience as a server in a restaurant may increase your chance of getting a job as a banquet server. This is because potential employers will know you have many of the basic skills required to succeed as a banquet server. Ultimately, by working as a restaurant sever, you’ll be able to hone your attention to detail, get used to working in a fast-paced environment, and have experience serving food to a variety of customers.\\n4-3. Have customer service experience.\\nHaving prior experience in customer service positions, like those in retail or telemarketing, will help you hone the interpersonal skills you’ll need as a banquet server. Ultimately, the job of banquet server is o ne that focuses on satisfying customers.\\n4-4. Get CPR certified\\nLike a high school diploma or prior work experience, CPR is not required to be a banquet server. However, some employers may favor applicants who are CPR certified. 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1. Meeting Education Requirements
1-1. Get your high school diploma.
Many states require that you not only complete a barbering program, but also have your high school diploma. Even if the state you live in does not have a diploma requirement, many barbering schools list this among admission requirements.
While in high school, you may have the option to prepare you for your barbering career. Any classes on hair styling, small business management, or accounting can be a serious benefit to your career.
Many high schools partner with community colleges to offer more specialized courses for students. You might be able to take a course in barbering or hair styling, which will give you a head start in your career.
1-2. Assist an experienced barber.
You might even want to see if a local barber will take you on as a part time employee. Explain your plans to him, and let him know that you're willing to help with whatever he might need around the shop while you observe his daily routines. Try to pay attention to:
How space and equipment are organized
How he interacts with customers
How chores and workflow are managed
Miscellaneous errands you might not have considered
1-3. Graduate from a barbering program.
Choose your program wisely. Your education and time are an investment, and you'll want to learn not only the ins and outs of snips and shaves, but you'll also want to learn about the business side of things. Some states also require a minimum number of hours of practice before you can even be considered for licensing as a barber. Regardless of state, most programs include courses in:
Bacteriology
Honing and stropping
Hygiene
Physiology
Sanitation and sterilization
Scalp and skin diseases
Shampoo and scalp massage
State barber laws, rules, and regulations
Straight razors
1-4. Take into account legal considerations.
Some of this may be covered in your barbering program, but on the business side of things, you might not think about the cost of insurance you may need to cut hair and shave. Accidents, though few and far between, do occur. You'll need to protect yourself, and your clients, from issues that might arise from being uninsured.
1-5. Get your license.
No matter the state you live in, you will be expected to take an examination to prove that you are ready to be a barber. In some cases, this test might be unique to your state or a national exam created by the National-Interstate Council of State Boards of Cosmetology (NIC). Some states even use a combination of state and national tests, but the written portion of the test will include:
Chemical services
Chemistry
Electricity and light
Facial and shaving services
Hair and scalp
Haircare services
Infection control and practice
Skin histology
Tools, implements, and equipmentAdditionally, there may be a practical portion of the exam which might include:
Chemical relaxing
Chemical waving
Hair lightening/coloring
Haircutting
Set up and client protection
Shaving with a straight razor
1-6. Consider your options for starting employment.
There are various routes you can take as a newly licensed barber. You may want to apprentice under a more experienced pair of scissors until you are fully confident in your skills and are ready to strike out on your own. You can also:
Work at a barbershop for commission
Rent a chair from a local barbershop
Contract with a spa
Open your own barbershop
2. Evaluating Yourself and the Profession
2-1. Do some field research.
Take several trips to various barbershops, choosing ones that match the image of the one in which you would like to work. Bring along a notebook or keep your cell phone handy and take notes on the state of the barbershop, the duties performed by the barber, and any other responsibilities you might notice.
Try to plan at least one of your barbershop visits during a high volume time of the day. You can do this by stopping by the shop you want to visit throughout the week, peeking in the front window to see which days are busiest.
It's important to get an idea of the range of responsibility of a career before committing to it. If you aren't sure you can handle the busy days, you may want to reconsider your choice of career.
2-2. Speak with the barber while doing your field research.
This is a rich opportunity for you to inquire about a practicing barber's experience, his thoughts on the profession, difficulties he's had in his career, and so on. If there is a particular barber you admire, try to arrange it so that you and he have time to chat, or even schedule a shave or a haircut with him.
2-3. Consider the clientele.
Location has a large impact on the kind of clients that will frequent the barbershop in which you will work. Your ideal clientele might be outside your reach while starting out as a barber. It's important that you provide a high level of service to all customers, even if you consider yourself more an artist than a glorified pair of hair clippers.
2-4. Judge your physical limits.
Though a job as a barber might seem quite laid back, after a busy day spent mostly on your feet, you might begin to question your choice of vocation. Is standing for long periods of time difficult for you? Can you maintain precision and skill with repetitive mechanical tasks, like sweeping, operating scissors, and using clippers? These requirements are all in a day's work for a successful barber.
2-5. Judge your social skills.
Though barbers are required to know how to cut and shave clients, sterilize tools, and even assess skin conditions, all of which are normally covered in the course of your barber schooling, no amount of school can guarantee your personality. Barbers are expected to be personable, friendly, and skillful. If you lack any of these qualities, barbering might not be for you.
2-6. Count the cost.
There are some certification programs that are affordable, but some programs can be expensive. You will also need to consider the cost of owning your own barbershop, is that is a goal of yours.
Some 6-month, comprehensive programs can cost up to $3,000, while a top tier 12-month program might cost as much as $12,000.
An associate's degree may take you 2 years to complete and anywhere between $6,000 and $26,000.
3. Working as a Barber
3-1. Keep your skills sharp.
Now that you've completed barbering school and received your license, you may be tempted to rest on your laurels and take things as they come. Even if most of your clientele prefers not to be shaved by straight razor, you never know when this service will be requested.
Some barbers maintain their skill-set by practicing on themselves daily.
3-2. Understand working for commission.
This is especially common when you are just starting out. You won't have a client base to support you, so you might be hired to barber for commission. This, most usually, entails a percentage split, where you split your profits with the barbershop.
A 60% take home with 40% returned to the barbershop is not uncommon while you build your clientele.
3-3. Work your way up to renting a chair.
As your client base grows and you gain more regular clients, you should renegotiate so that instead of paying commission per client you are instead playing a flat fee for use of the chair. This is referred to as "chair rental." In this case, you will not have to split any profits with the establishment, you will only be expected to pay a set fee.
3-4. Insure yourself against liability.
If you are cutting your way to owning your own barbershop, you'll need to shop around for insurance and be sure you have it before opening shop. Most states will require you to have some kind of legal coverage.
3-5. Advertise locally and be patient.
With online services, like Facebook, Twitter, and Yelp, you can get word out to new potential customers about your services and skills. However, it can take time before word gets out and the clients come in. You should be prepared both financially and emotionally to wait out opening doldrums.
3-6. Optimize your products.
Quality products are an investment in your business, and customers will appreciate quality tools and a comfortable environment. You should also pay attention to trends in style. If you notice locals in your area preferring a kind of wax or some other product, you may want to include that you carry this product in an advertisement.
3-7. Provide unique and exceptional service.
Some barbers, especially those who have been around a long time, can make ends meet offering only the basics. As a newly licensed barber, you should consider offering unique or special services. Something as simple as hot towel service and your winning personality can earn you customers and set you apart from the rest.
Warnings
Opening a barbershop, much like starting any small business, requires significant investment and business savvy. You don't want to open your own shop just to close it a few months down the road. If this is your goal, approach it seriously and with planning.
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Explain your plans to him, and let him know that you're willing to help with whatever he might need around the shop while you observe his daily routines. Try to pay attention to:\\nHow space and equipment are organized\\nHow he interacts with customers\\nHow chores and workflow are managed\\nMiscellaneous errands you might not have considered\\n1-3. Graduate from a barbering program.\\nChoose your program wisely. Your education and time are an investment, and you'll want to learn not only the ins and outs of snips and shaves, but you'll also want to learn about the business side of things. Some states also require a minimum number of hours of practice before you can even be considered for licensing as a barber. Regardless of state, most programs include courses in:\\nBacteriology\\nHoning and stropping\\nHygiene\\nPhysiology\\nSanitation and sterilization\\nScalp and skin diseases\\nShampoo and scalp massage\\nState barber laws, rules, and regulations\\nStraight razors\\n1-4. Take into account legal considerations.\\nSome of this may be covered in your barbering program, but on the business side of things, you might not think about the cost of insurance you may need to cut hair and shave. Accidents, though few and far between, do occur. You'll need to protect yourself, and your clients, from issues that might arise from being uninsured.\\n1-5. Get your license.\\nNo matter the state you live in, you will be expected to take an examination to prove that you are ready to be a barber. In some cases, this test might be unique to your state or a national exam created by the National-Interstate Council of State Boards of Cosmetology (NIC). Some states even use a combination of state and national tests, but the written portion of the test will include:\\nChemical services\\nChemistry\\nElectricity and light\\nFacial and shaving services\\nHair and scalp\\nHaircare services\\nInfection control and practice\\nSkin histology\\nTools, implements, and equipmentAdditionally, there may be a practical portion of the exam which might include:\\nChemical relaxing\\nChemical waving\\nHair lightening/coloring\\nHaircutting\\nSet up and client protection\\nShaving with a straight razor\\n1-6. Consider your options for starting employment.\\nThere are various routes you can take as a newly licensed barber. You may want to apprentice under a more experienced pair of scissors until you are fully confident in your skills and are ready to strike out on your own. You can also:\\nWork at a barbershop for commission\\nRent a chair from a local barbershop\\nContract with a spa\\nOpen your own barbershop\\n2. Evaluating Yourself and the Profession\\n2-1. Do some field research.\\nTake several trips to various barbershops, choosing ones that match the image of the one in which you would like to work. Bring along a notebook or keep your cell phone handy and take notes on the state of the barbershop, the duties performed by the barber, and any other responsibilities you might notice.\\nTry to plan at least one of your barbershop visits during a high volume time of the day. You can do this by stopping by the shop you want to visit throughout the week, peeking in the front window to see which days are busiest.\\nIt's important to get an idea of the range of responsibility of a career before committing to it. If you aren't sure you can handle the busy days, you may want to reconsider your choice of career.\\n2-2. Speak with the barber while doing your field research.\\nThis is a rich opportunity for you to inquire about a practicing barber's experience, his thoughts on the profession, difficulties he's had in his career, and so on. If there is a particular barber you admire, try to arrange it so that you and he have time to chat, or even schedule a shave or a haircut with him.\\n2-3. Consider the clientele.\\nLocation has a large impact on the kind of clients that will frequent the barbershop in which you will work. Your ideal clientele might be outside your reach while starting out as a barber. It's important that you provide a high level of service to all customers, even if you consider yourself more an artist than a glorified pair of hair clippers.\\n2-4. Judge your physical limits.\\nThough a job as a barber might seem quite laid back, after a busy day spent mostly on your feet, you might begin to question your choice of vocation. Is standing for long periods of time difficult for you? Can you maintain precision and skill with repetitive mechanical tasks, like sweeping, operating scissors, and using clippers? These requirements are all in a day's work for a successful barber.\\n2-5. Judge your social skills.\\nThough barbers are required to know how to cut and shave clients, sterilize tools, and even assess skin conditions, all of which are normally covered in the course of your barber schooling, no amount of school can guarantee your personality. Barbers are expected to be personable, friendly, and skillful. If you lack any of these qualities, barbering might not be for you.\\n2-6. Count the cost.\\nThere are some certification programs that are affordable, but some programs can be expensive. You will also need to consider the cost of owning your own barbershop, is that is a goal of yours.\\nSome 6-month, comprehensive programs can cost up to $3,000, while a top tier 12-month program might cost as much as $12,000.\\nAn associate's degree may take you 2 years to complete and anywhere between $6,000 and $26,000.\\n3. Working as a Barber\\n3-1. Keep your skills sharp.\\nNow that you've completed barbering school and received your license, you may be tempted to rest on your laurels and take things as they come. Even if most of your clientele prefers not to be shaved by straight razor, you never know when this service will be requested.\\nSome barbers maintain their skill-set by practicing on themselves daily.\\n3-2. Understand working for commission.\\nThis is especially common when you are just starting out. You won't have a client base to support you, so you might be hired to barber for commission. This, most usually, entails a percentage split, where you split your profits with the barbershop.\\nA 60% take home with 40% returned to the barbershop is not uncommon while you build your clientele.\\n3-3. Work your way up to renting a chair.\\nAs your client base grows and you gain more regular clients, you should renegotiate so that instead of paying commission per client you are instead playing a flat fee for use of the chair. This is referred to as \\\"chair rental.\\\" In this case, you will not have to split any profits with the establishment, you will only be expected to pay a set fee.\\n3-4. Insure yourself against liability.\\nIf you are cutting your way to owning your own barbershop, you'll need to shop around for insurance and be sure you have it before opening shop. Most states will require you to have some kind of legal coverage.\\n3-5. Advertise locally and be patient.\\nWith online services, like Facebook, Twitter, and Yelp, you can get word out to new potential customers about your services and skills. However, it can take time before word gets out and the clients come in. You should be prepared both financially and emotionally to wait out opening doldrums.\\n3-6. Optimize your products.\\nQuality products are an investment in your business, and customers will appreciate quality tools and a comfortable environment. You should also pay attention to trends in style. If you notice locals in your area preferring a kind of wax or some other product, you may want to include that you carry this product in an advertisement.\\n3-7. Provide unique and exceptional service.\\nSome barbers, especially those who have been around a long time, can make ends meet offering only the basics. As a newly licensed barber, you should consider offering unique or special services. Something as simple as hot towel service and your winning personality can earn you customers and set you apart from the rest.\\nWarnings\\nOpening a barbershop, much like starting any small business, requires significant investment and business savvy. You don't want to open your own shop just to close it a few months down the road. If this is your goal, approach it seriously and with planning.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The art of barbering has revitalized in recent years, perhaps thanks to a turning away from the long, uncut look of the '60s and '70s and a return to classic cuts and close shaves. Once you complete a barbering program, get your state license, and build reliable clientele, you can be sure to count on your customers regularly. Hair, much like time and tide, stops for no man. Armed with your hair-snips, clippers, and straight razor, you are just the person for this job.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Meeting Education Requirements\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get your high school diploma.\", \"描述\": \"Many states require that you not only complete a barbering program, but also have your high school diploma. Even if the state you live in does not have a diploma requirement, many barbering schools list this among admission requirements.\\nWhile in high school, you may have the option to prepare you for your barbering career. Any classes on hair styling, small business management, or accounting can be a serious benefit to your career.\\nMany high schools partner with community colleges to offer more specialized courses for students. You might be able to take a course in barbering or hair styling, which will give you a head start in your career.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Assist an experienced barber.\", \"描述\": \"You might even want to see if a local barber will take you on as a part time employee. Explain your plans to him, and let him know that you're willing to help with whatever he might need around the shop while you observe his daily routines. Try to pay attention to:\\nHow space and equipment are organized\\nHow he interacts with customers\\nHow chores and workflow are managed\\nMiscellaneous errands you might not have considered\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Graduate from a barbering program.\", \"描述\": \"Choose your program wisely. Your education and time are an investment, and you'll want to learn not only the ins and outs of snips and shaves, but you'll also want to learn about the business side of things. Some states also require a minimum number of hours of practice before you can even be considered for licensing as a barber. Regardless of state, most programs include courses in:\\nBacteriology\\nHoning and stropping\\nHygiene\\nPhysiology\\nSanitation and sterilization\\nScalp and skin diseases\\nShampoo and scalp massage\\nState barber laws, rules, and regulations\\nStraight razors\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take into account legal considerations.\", \"描述\": \"Some of this may be covered in your barbering program, but on the business side of things, you might not think about the cost of insurance you may need to cut hair and shave. Accidents, though few and far between, do occur. You'll need to protect yourself, and your clients, from issues that might arise from being uninsured.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Get your license.\", \"描述\": \"No matter the state you live in, you will be expected to take an examination to prove that you are ready to be a barber. In some cases, this test might be unique to your state or a national exam created by the National-Interstate Council of State Boards of Cosmetology (NIC). Some states even use a combination of state and national tests, but the written portion of the test will include:\\nChemical services\\nChemistry\\nElectricity and light\\nFacial and shaving services\\nHair and scalp\\nHaircare services\\nInfection control and practice\\nSkin histology\\nTools, implements, and equipmentAdditionally, there may be a practical portion of the exam which might include:\\nChemical relaxing\\nChemical waving\\nHair lightening/coloring\\nHaircutting\\nSet up and client protection\\nShaving with a straight razor\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Consider your options for starting employment.\", \"描述\": \"There are various routes you can take as a newly licensed barber. You may want to apprentice under a more experienced pair of scissors until you are fully confident in your skills and are ready to strike out on your own. You can also:\\nWork at a barbershop for commission\\nRent a chair from a local barbershop\\nContract with a spa\\nOpen your own barbershop\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Evaluating Yourself and the Profession\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Do some field research.\", \"描述\": \"Take several trips to various barbershops, choosing ones that match the image of the one in which you would like to work. Bring along a notebook or keep your cell phone handy and take notes on the state of the barbershop, the duties performed by the barber, and any other responsibilities you might notice.\\nTry to plan at least one of your barbershop visits during a high volume time of the day. You can do this by stopping by the shop you want to visit throughout the week, peeking in the front window to see which days are busiest.\\nIt's important to get an idea of the range of responsibility of a career before committing to it. If you aren't sure you can handle the busy days, you may want to reconsider your choice of career.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Speak with the barber while doing your field research.\", \"描述\": \"This is a rich opportunity for you to inquire about a practicing barber's experience, his thoughts on the profession, difficulties he's had in his career, and so on. If there is a particular barber you admire, try to arrange it so that you and he have time to chat, or even schedule a shave or a haircut with him.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Consider the clientele.\", \"描述\": \"Location has a large impact on the kind of clients that will frequent the barbershop in which you will work. Your ideal clientele might be outside your reach while starting out as a barber. It's important that you provide a high level of service to all customers, even if you consider yourself more an artist than a glorified pair of hair clippers.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Judge your physical limits.\", \"描述\": \"Though a job as a barber might seem quite laid back, after a busy day spent mostly on your feet, you might begin to question your choice of vocation. Is standing for long periods of time difficult for you? Can you maintain precision and skill with repetitive mechanical tasks, like sweeping, operating scissors, and using clippers? These requirements are all in a day's work for a successful barber.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Judge your social skills.\", \"描述\": \"Though barbers are required to know how to cut and shave clients, sterilize tools, and even assess skin conditions, all of which are normally covered in the course of your barber schooling, no amount of school can guarantee your personality. Barbers are expected to be personable, friendly, and skillful. 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Even if most of your clientele prefers not to be shaved by straight razor, you never know when this service will be requested.\\nSome barbers maintain their skill-set by practicing on themselves daily.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Understand working for commission.\", \"描述\": \"This is especially common when you are just starting out. You won't have a client base to support you, so you might be hired to barber for commission. This, most usually, entails a percentage split, where you split your profits with the barbershop.\\nA 60% take home with 40% returned to the barbershop is not uncommon while you build your clientele.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Work your way up to renting a chair.\", \"描述\": \"As your client base grows and you gain more regular clients, you should renegotiate so that instead of paying commission per client you are instead playing a flat fee for use of the chair. 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1. Looking Like a Beach Babe
1-1. Pick out a fun bathing suit.
Wear a bikini or a pretty one-piece that makes you feel comfortable and cute. Try a bathing suit in a bright color or pattern you wouldn’t normally wear. Slip into a wetsuit or rash guard, too, if you’re going surfing.
Try a white or neon bathing suit to bring out the tan in your skin. Or go with bright red for that classic Baywatch-inspired beach babe look!
Choose a one-piece or a tankini if you want to cover up your tummy. If you have a larger chest, a structured suit with underwire is a great choice; if you have a smaller chest, go for ruffles or embellishment on the top.
1-2. Wear beachy clothes.
Slip on a light swimsuit coverup, a flowing patterned dress, or a bright t-shirt, tank, or crop top with shorts. Remember to coordinate colors or patterns with your bathing suit if you can! Top your look with a big sun hat, straw cowboy hat, or cap.
If you're not really comfortable in a bathing suit, wear a dark one piece bathing suit under a beautiful cover up in colors so that you can't see through the cover up.
Bring along a warm layer, like a light blanket, a hoodie, or a cute knit poncho, if you’re headed to the beach at night.
1-3. Get the hairstyle.
Wear your hair in a loose bun or ponytail, or down and tousled. Get beachy waves if you have straight hair by keeping it in braids before letting it down, or putting wet hair into four small buns before bed and letting your hair loose in the morning. If you have curly hair or an afro, let it loose or try tiny braids.
Try a salt spray product, or make your own by combining sea salt and water in a spray bottle. You can also add coconut oil and leave-in conditioner to the mix to keep hair moisturized.
For natural sun-kissed blonde highlights, combine fresh lemon juice or chamomile tea with water in a spray bottle and spray from the middle to ends of your hair before going out in the sun. Do this regularly to start seeing a difference in your hair color.
1-4. Take it easy on makeup.
Don’t wear any makeup at all, or stick to a light lip gloss or chapstick. You can wear mascara, but make sure it’s the waterproof variety.
Try a chapstick that has built-in SPF for a soft shine that will also keep your lips from getting sunburned or dried and chapped from the wind.
Use a tinted moisturizer with SPF, which will provide your face with moisture, sun protection, and foundation all in one.
1-5. Wear minimal accessories.
Choose some simple sunglasses and straw cowboy hat or other sun hat, and go barefoot or in flip-flops or other sandals. Opt for simple, beach-inspired jewelry like a braided necklace, bracelet, or ankle bracelet with a few shells or beads. Bring along a cute and colorful beach bag to carry your towel, sunscreen, and water bottle.
1-6. Get a tan
You will naturally get a glowing tan by spending lots of time on the beach, but do it well by applying plenty of sunscreen, being in the sun for short periods of time, and moisturizing your skin before and after. Use a tinted lotion as well for an extra boost of bronze and shine.
Use a sunscreen that's SPF 15 or higher, apply it 30 minutes before you go outside, and reapply it after every two hours and after every time you get wet or sweaty.
Bring along an umbrella and chair as well, so that you can get a break from the sun every once in awhile.
2. Acting Like a Beach Babe
2-1. Act fun and flirty.
Whether you’re naturally outgoing or a quieter type, bring out your best flirty side and down-for-anything attitude. Go to the beach with good friends so you’re more comfortable. Try flirting with a surfer by talking to them about how long they’ve been surfing (and ask if they can teach you!), or chat with a lifeguard about the surf.
If you have a more reserved personality, just chill out solo by laying out to tan on a towel or chair while listening to music or reading a book or magazine. Quiet and mysterious can make for a beach babe attitude too!
Be easy and go with the flow! Just walk away from friends who are engaged in an argument or other drama, and easily accept when there’s a change of plans or new idea in your group. Beach babe attitude is all about being laid back and carefree!
2-2. Participate in beach activities.
Play beach volleyball, toss a frisbee, or skateboard on the boardwalk. Learn to surf, boogie board, or swim in the ocean. You can also try out sailing, jet skiing, or water skiing to adventure further offshore. Check out the boardwalk or nearby rental places to ask how you can get a lesson on boogie boarding, surfing, or boating, and where to rent or buy all the necessary equipment.
If you’re vacationing or new in town, talk to locals about beach parties or other fun things to participate in on the shore.
2-3. Learn the lingo.
Incorporate some classic surfer speak into your conversations, like “totally,” “radical,” “dude,” and “far out!” You can also pick up some terms related to the surf like “gnarly” or “da kine” when the waves are great for surfing, or “ankle biters” when they’re too small.
2-4. Make beach friends.
Head down to the beach and strike up a conversation! Join in with a group of beachgoers and ask them what they do for fun around the shore. Jump into a beach volleyball game, or join a group that regularly plays a beach sport to get active and meet new people.
3. Living Like a Beach Babe
3-1. Get to the beach as often as possible.
If you live near the beach, make an effort to be there every day or every weekend if you can. Or, if you’re taking a vacation to a beach locale, do some research and pick a spot where there are popular beaches for sunbathing, surfing, or other water sports, depending on what you’re looking to do.
Make sure you know what the water temperature is if you’re planning on swimming or surfing! The Atlantic Ocean is generally a lot warmer than the Pacific, for example. Be prepared with a wetsuit if necessary.
If you’re vacationing, try heading to a warmer location in the winter months, like Mexico, Bali, or the Caribbean, to maximize beach time.
3-2. Get a job near the beach.
If you live in a beach town, get paid to spend more time on the beach and support your lifestyle by getting a job as a surf instructor, a lifeguard, or a salesperson or server at beachside shops and restaurants.
3-3. Head to the beach early to catch the surf.
Get out to the beach in the early morning to catch the best waves (or just to chat up some surfers!). Check out local tide charts, buoy reports, and information about the breaks at a given beach to find the best times and conditions for great surf.
3-4. Check out beach parties at night.
Though you’ll probably spend most of your time on the beach during the day, head down on weekend nights to see if there’s a bonfire, party, or other event going on and join in the fun.
Tips
Be true to yourself! You don’t need to change who you are to be a beach babe. Wear and do what you truly enjoy, and you will be naturally attractive and fun to be around.
Warnings
Be safe when swimming, surfing, or any other activities in the ocean, as rough surf and riptides can be dangerous. Pay attention to any warning signs, stay out of the water during high winds and storms, and never go in without a lifeguard present.
If you have color-treated hair, stay away from hair products that contain salt. They will make your color fade faster.
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Top your look with a big sun hat, straw cowboy hat, or cap.\\nIf you're not really comfortable in a bathing suit, wear a dark one piece bathing suit under a beautiful cover up in colors so that you can't see through the cover up.\\nBring along a warm layer, like a light blanket, a hoodie, or a cute knit poncho, if you’re headed to the beach at night.\\n1-3. Get the hairstyle.\\nWear your hair in a loose bun or ponytail, or down and tousled. Get beachy waves if you have straight hair by keeping it in braids before letting it down, or putting wet hair into four small buns before bed and letting your hair loose in the morning. If you have curly hair or an afro, let it loose or try tiny braids.\\nTry a salt spray product, or make your own by combining sea salt and water in a spray bottle. You can also add coconut oil and leave-in conditioner to the mix to keep hair moisturized.\\nFor natural sun-kissed blonde highlights, combine fresh lemon juice or chamomile tea with water in a spray bottle and spray from the middle to ends of your hair before going out in the sun. Do this regularly to start seeing a difference in your hair color.\\n1-4. Take it easy on makeup.\\nDon’t wear any makeup at all, or stick to a light lip gloss or chapstick. You can wear mascara, but make sure it’s the waterproof variety.\\nTry a chapstick that has built-in SPF for a soft shine that will also keep your lips from getting sunburned or dried and chapped from the wind.\\nUse a tinted moisturizer with SPF, which will provide your face with moisture, sun protection, and foundation all in one.\\n1-5. Wear minimal accessories.\\nChoose some simple sunglasses and straw cowboy hat or other sun hat, and go barefoot or in flip-flops or other sandals. Opt for simple, beach-inspired jewelry like a braided necklace, bracelet, or ankle bracelet with a few shells or beads. Bring along a cute and colorful beach bag to carry your towel, sunscreen, and water bottle.\\n1-6. Get a tan\\nYou will naturally get a glowing tan by spending lots of time on the beach, but do it well by applying plenty of sunscreen, being in the sun for short periods of time, and moisturizing your skin before and after. Use a tinted lotion as well for an extra boost of bronze and shine.\\nUse a sunscreen that's SPF 15 or higher, apply it 30 minutes before you go outside, and reapply it after every two hours and after every time you get wet or sweaty.\\nBring along an umbrella and chair as well, so that you can get a break from the sun every once in awhile.\\n2. Acting Like a Beach Babe\\n2-1. Act fun and flirty.\\nWhether you’re naturally outgoing or a quieter type, bring out your best flirty side and down-for-anything attitude. Go to the beach with good friends so you’re more comfortable. Try flirting with a surfer by talking to them about how long they’ve been surfing (and ask if they can teach you!), or chat with a lifeguard about the surf.\\nIf you have a more reserved personality, just chill out solo by laying out to tan on a towel or chair while listening to music or reading a book or magazine. Quiet and mysterious can make for a beach babe attitude too!\\nBe easy and go with the flow! Just walk away from friends who are engaged in an argument or other drama, and easily accept when there’s a change of plans or new idea in your group. Beach babe attitude is all about being laid back and carefree!\\n2-2. Participate in beach activities.\\nPlay beach volleyball, toss a frisbee, or skateboard on the boardwalk. Learn to surf, boogie board, or swim in the ocean. You can also try out sailing, jet skiing, or water skiing to adventure further offshore. Check out the boardwalk or nearby rental places to ask how you can get a lesson on boogie boarding, surfing, or boating, and where to rent or buy all the necessary equipment.\\nIf you’re vacationing or new in town, talk to locals about beach parties or other fun things to participate in on the shore.\\n2-3. Learn the lingo.\\nIncorporate some classic surfer speak into your conversations, like “totally,” “radical,” “dude,” and “far out!” You can also pick up some terms related to the surf like “gnarly” or “da kine” when the waves are great for surfing, or “ankle biters” when they’re too small.\\n2-4. Make beach friends.\\nHead down to the beach and strike up a conversation! Join in with a group of beachgoers and ask them what they do for fun around the shore. Jump into a beach volleyball game, or join a group that regularly plays a beach sport to get active and meet new people.\\n3. Living Like a Beach Babe\\n3-1. Get to the beach as often as possible.\\nIf you live near the beach, make an effort to be there every day or every weekend if you can. Or, if you’re taking a vacation to a beach locale, do some research and pick a spot where there are popular beaches for sunbathing, surfing, or other water sports, depending on what you’re looking to do.\\nMake sure you know what the water temperature is if you’re planning on swimming or surfing! The Atlantic Ocean is generally a lot warmer than the Pacific, for example. Be prepared with a wetsuit if necessary.\\nIf you’re vacationing, try heading to a warmer location in the winter months, like Mexico, Bali, or the Caribbean, to maximize beach time.\\n3-2. Get a job near the beach.\\nIf you live in a beach town, get paid to spend more time on the beach and support your lifestyle by getting a job as a surf instructor, a lifeguard, or a salesperson or server at beachside shops and restaurants.\\n3-3. Head to the beach early to catch the surf.\\nGet out to the beach in the early morning to catch the best waves (or just to chat up some surfers!). Check out local tide charts, buoy reports, and information about the breaks at a given beach to find the best times and conditions for great surf.\\n3-4. Check out beach parties at night.\\nThough you’ll probably spend most of your time on the beach during the day, head down on weekend nights to see if there’s a bonfire, party, or other event going on and join in the fun.\\nTips\\nBe true to yourself! You don’t need to change who you are to be a beach babe. Wear and do what you truly enjoy, and you will be naturally attractive and fun to be around.\\nWarnings\\nBe safe when swimming, surfing, or any other activities in the ocean, as rough surf and riptides can be dangerous. Pay attention to any warning signs, stay out of the water during high winds and storms, and never go in without a lifeguard present.\\nIf you have color-treated hair, stay away from hair products that contain salt. They will make your color fade faster.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a beach babe is all about having a low-maintenance, laid-back style and attitude while having fun on the beach. Whether you’re on vacation at the shore or heading down to your local beach, you can achieve the beach babe look and personality with just a few simple changes to your wardrobe and attitude.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Looking Like a Beach Babe\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pick out a fun bathing suit.\", \"描述\": \"Wear a bikini or a pretty one-piece that makes you feel comfortable and cute. Try a bathing suit in a bright color or pattern you wouldn’t normally wear. Slip into a wetsuit or rash guard, too, if you’re going surfing.\\nTry a white or neon bathing suit to bring out the tan in your skin. Or go with bright red for that classic Baywatch-inspired beach babe look!\\nChoose a one-piece or a tankini if you want to cover up your tummy. If you have a larger chest, a structured suit with underwire is a great choice; if you have a smaller chest, go for ruffles or embellishment on the top.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Wear beachy clothes.\", \"描述\": \"Slip on a light swimsuit coverup, a flowing patterned dress, or a bright t-shirt, tank, or crop top with shorts. Remember to coordinate colors or patterns with your bathing suit if you can! Top your look with a big sun hat, straw cowboy hat, or cap.\\nIf you're not really comfortable in a bathing suit, wear a dark one piece bathing suit under a beautiful cover up in colors so that you can't see through the cover up.\\nBring along a warm layer, like a light blanket, a hoodie, or a cute knit poncho, if you’re headed to the beach at night.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Get the hairstyle.\", \"描述\": \"Wear your hair in a loose bun or ponytail, or down and tousled. Get beachy waves if you have straight hair by keeping it in braids before letting it down, or putting wet hair into four small buns before bed and letting your hair loose in the morning. If you have curly hair or an afro, let it loose or try tiny braids.\\nTry a salt spray product, or make your own by combining sea salt and water in a spray bottle. You can also add coconut oil and leave-in conditioner to the mix to keep hair moisturized.\\nFor natural sun-kissed blonde highlights, combine fresh lemon juice or chamomile tea with water in a spray bottle and spray from the middle to ends of your hair before going out in the sun. Do this regularly to start seeing a difference in your hair color.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Take it easy on makeup.\", \"描述\": \"Don’t wear any makeup at all, or stick to a light lip gloss or chapstick. You can wear mascara, but make sure it’s the waterproof variety.\\nTry a chapstick that has built-in SPF for a soft shine that will also keep your lips from getting sunburned or dried and chapped from the wind.\\nUse a tinted moisturizer with SPF, which will provide your face with moisture, sun protection, and foundation all in one.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Wear minimal accessories.\", \"描述\": \"Choose some simple sunglasses and straw cowboy hat or other sun hat, and go barefoot or in flip-flops or other sandals. Opt for simple, beach-inspired jewelry like a braided necklace, bracelet, or ankle bracelet with a few shells or beads. Bring along a cute and colorful beach bag to carry your towel, sunscreen, and water bottle.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Get a tan\", \"描述\": \"You will naturally get a glowing tan by spending lots of time on the beach, but do it well by applying plenty of sunscreen, being in the sun for short periods of time, and moisturizing your skin before and after. Use a tinted lotion as well for an extra boost of bronze and shine.\\nUse a sunscreen that's SPF 15 or higher, apply it 30 minutes before you go outside, and reapply it after every two hours and after every time you get wet or sweaty.\\nBring along an umbrella and chair as well, so that you can get a break from the sun every once in awhile.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Acting Like a Beach Babe\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Act fun and flirty.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you’re naturally outgoing or a quieter type, bring out your best flirty side and down-for-anything attitude. Go to the beach with good friends so you’re more comfortable. Try flirting with a surfer by talking to them about how long they’ve been surfing (and ask if they can teach you!), or chat with a lifeguard about the surf.\\nIf you have a more reserved personality, just chill out solo by laying out to tan on a towel or chair while listening to music or reading a book or magazine. Quiet and mysterious can make for a beach babe attitude too!\\nBe easy and go with the flow! Just walk away from friends who are engaged in an argument or other drama, and easily accept when there’s a change of plans or new idea in your group. Beach babe attitude is all about being laid back and carefree!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Participate in beach activities.\", \"描述\": \"Play beach volleyball, toss a frisbee, or skateboard on the boardwalk. Learn to surf, boogie board, or swim in the ocean. You can also try out sailing, jet skiing, or water skiing to adventure further offshore. Check out the boardwalk or nearby rental places to ask how you can get a lesson on boogie boarding, surfing, or boating, and where to rent or buy all the necessary equipment.\\nIf you’re vacationing or new in town, talk to locals about beach parties or other fun things to participate in on the shore.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn the lingo.\", \"描述\": \"Incorporate some classic surfer speak into your conversations, like “totally,” “radical,” “dude,” and “far out!” You can also pick up some terms related to the surf like “gnarly” or “da kine” when the waves are great for surfing, or “ankle biters” when they’re too small.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Make beach friends.\", \"描述\": \"Head down to the beach and strike up a conversation! Join in with a group of beachgoers and ask them what they do for fun around the shore. Jump into a beach volleyball game, or join a group that regularly plays a beach sport to get active and meet new people.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Living Like a Beach Babe\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get to the beach as often as possible.\", \"描述\": \"If you live near the beach, make an effort to be there every day or every weekend if you can. Or, if you’re taking a vacation to a beach locale, do some research and pick a spot where there are popular beaches for sunbathing, surfing, or other water sports, depending on what you’re looking to do.\\nMake sure you know what the water temperature is if you’re planning on swimming or surfing! The Atlantic Ocean is generally a lot warmer than the Pacific, for example. Be prepared with a wetsuit if necessary.\\nIf you’re vacationing, try heading to a warmer location in the winter months, like Mexico, Bali, or the Caribbean, to maximize beach time.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get a job near the beach.\", \"描述\": \"If you live in a beach town, get paid to spend more time on the beach and support your lifestyle by getting a job as a surf instructor, a lifeguard, or a salesperson or server at beachside shops and restaurants.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Head to the beach early to catch the surf.\", \"描述\": \"Get out to the beach in the early morning to catch the best waves (or just to chat up some surfers!). Check out local tide charts, buoy reports, and information about the breaks at a given beach to find the best times and conditions for great surf.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Check out beach parties at night.\", \"描述\": \"Though you’ll probably spend most of your time on the beach during the day, head down on weekend nights to see if there’s a bonfire, party, or other event going on and join in the fun.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Be true to yourself! You don’t need to change who you are to be a beach babe. Wear and do what you truly enjoy, and you will be naturally attractive and fun to be around.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Be safe when swimming, surfing, or any other activities in the ocean, as rough surf and riptides can be dangerous. Pay attention to any warning signs, stay out of the water during high winds and storms, and never go in without a lifeguard present.\\n\", \"If you have color-treated hair, stay away from hair products that contain salt. They will make your color fade faster.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Beautiful Black Teenage Girl
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1. Hair
1-1. Keep natural hair.
It emphasizes the uniqueness of being black, as no other race has it. It takes a lot of work to keep wild hair happy at first, but once you've done the first things it should be easy.
1-2. Oil your hair using natural sprays, creams, and moisturiser.
When washing, it's best to use two layers of conditioner that is designed for black hair, as it is manufactured to lock in moisture more than products aimed at other hair types. Don't use hair grease, though, as the chemicals in it aren't good for hair shine and can thin the hair.
Oiling your hair is especially important as the kinks in black people hair make the natural moisture stay at your roots, which is why black people's hair is always dry. Shampoos for straighter hair are designed to get rid of the natural greases, which black hair needs to grow. Using the wrong shampoos and not enough moisturizers is the main reason why black hair cuts/breaks off. Castor Oil, Black Castor Oil or Coconut Oil is a good product to keep on hand. Coconut Oil is good for your skin as well.
1-3. Air dry and use a thick wide comb when damp, rather than using a hot hair dryer comb.
Using the hair dryer extension is okay if your hair has been moisturised properly for a while, though using hair oils afterwards is essential.
1-4. If you have a weave, wrap your hair when you sleep, though this is a basic.
Weaves should be taken out from 1-2 months, depending on how messy it gets, how tight it is and what type of weave you have.
1-5. Leave space between each weave, about as much space between each weave as you last kept it in.
This will help prevent hair loss and a chipping hairline. It also stops thinning hair and some bold patches. However, remember; full hair loss is very rare with weaves. It only tends to happen to people with dryer and shorter hair or people with much shorter hairline hair than their central hair.
1-6. Think long and hard before using chemicals.
Perms/relaxers are quite extreme. If you don't have one and are thinking of getting one, watch a documentary such as Good Hair, which explains the chemicals and side-effects of perms.
On the positive side, perms don't require as much combing attention as natural hair and can be styled into styles that white people tend to have. As having a perm/relaxer can cut about half of your hair length off at a time, some people use black hair extensions to attach to the hair, though the glue can cut it further.
1-7. Make sure you follow instructions on a perm before you have one, always.
Have a specialist do your hair as they have done it many times before. Perms can burn. A lot.
2. Makeup
2-1. Know something about the type of makeup you want, if any.
Look around a market or in areas where the majority of the area is black. Makeup designed for darker skin can often be found in areas where hair products for African Americans can be found, so it shouldn't be too hard to find if you know where to look.
2-2. Get darker "nude" colored lip liner and lipstick.
For blush, if you are daring, try a dark purple. This doesn't look good on everyone, but if your skin is dark enough you can pull it off.
2-3. Don't wear too brightly colored mascara with black eyelashes.
It can sometimes turn out wrong, and it's also very hard to get off then.
Try using purple highlighter for a fun holographic effect. Apply it as eyeshadow in the center of your eyelid.
2-4. Do not ever buy foundation too light for your skin color.
It's like when white people put on too much fake tan. You look orange, and your eyes will just look dark so you'd look like a panda.
Buying darker foundation can be okay when they match your darker areas.
3. Skin Products
Choose the right type of products.
The stereotype is that black people love cocoa butter. So long as you're not allergic to them, coconuts are not only great for black hair, but also black skin. They are full of nutrients and cocoa butter even lightens/darkens your scars to make them less visible.
Cocoa butter is very good for moisturizing skin and it helps keep dry patches looking less dry. Also, the moisture can last even after a bath (though it's best to apply at least once a day, preferably in the morning).
Other great moisturizers are Shea butter and Aloe butter. When choosing products, look for ones with few chemicals and not a lot of fragrance. Remember: the further down the ingredient list, the less it contains.
4. Attitude
4-1. Be fashionable, but don't ruin your hair and complexion to do so.
Hair dye can damage black hair, and most of the time won't make a difference or only dye thinner parts of the hair.
4-2. Using a hot comb can straighten black people's hair, but like the hair dryer extension, can damage it just as much, or even more if it's very dry.
4-3. Don't drastically change the way you look.
Giving in to try to look 'white' is one of the last things a black girl should even be thinking. Black is beautiful, you are beautiful. Embrace this. If people tell you your hair looks nasty because it's curly or says something about your weave, ignore it, violence is never the right answer, don't let them get to you.
When people say racist things regarding your skin color right to your face, it can be annoying. If these people are your 'friends' tell them that what they said was not right and provide a bit of evidence of why it was if wanted. If they do it again, it's highly suggested you ditch them.
4-4. Do not ever try 'acting like a black girl or white girl' to fit in.
Act how you know you should act with dignity and respect. Saying 'yo' in sentences and enjoying reggae or rap music isn't what all black females prefer to do. Act the way you feel comfortable acting even if it is portrayed as ghetto or white.
4-5. Remember, not everyone who's not black is racist either.
There are people of color out there who don't care about whether their friends are a different shade to them or not. Look for those kinds of people rather than hanging with people who degrade you for being black who more often than not are white.
Tips
You don't have to accept back-handed compliments like "you're pretty for a black girl". It's rude and uncalled for. You are a beautiful person just like any other person. You don't see people going around saying "you're pretty for a white girl". Seems odd right? Chances are they'd be offended just as you are. Handle the situation tactfully. Just know you have a right to feel offended.
Sometimes, people will say things to suck up to you. They don't mean any harm, but can still offend you. For example, if someone were to say "You're pretty for a black girl" or "Wow! Your hair is weird!", stay calm and don't show you're annoyed, but say something like "Wow! Everyone always says that! Strange, isn't it?" or "I get that a lot!". or "But then to some people yours is too!"
There have been a few things going round about black girls being the most "ugly" or "unattractive race. However, just look at Beyonce, look at Naomi Campbell, look at Jourdan Dunn. Are they ugly?
Warnings
Usually when you're a racial minority in your school, people are going to know you much quicker than if you were the dominant race. Rumors are also very likely to get around fast. Rumors are rumors, and as long as you have decent people surrounding you, they can just be ignored.
Don't let people tug on your hair. If you have a weave and people do this, you will have to fend them off and it can result in hair breakage. However, don't worry. Unless there's a whole crowd of people, you're not going to have to take Tae Kwon Do lessons or anything.
Never do a perm by yourself unless you've had lots of practice. Remember, perms can cause bad flaky skin (psoriasis) or make eczema much worse. It can be very painful and sometimes permanent burns and could make you go blind or deaf if it gets near your eyes or ears.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Hair\\n1-1. Keep natural hair.\\nIt emphasizes the uniqueness of being black, as no other race has it. It takes a lot of work to keep wild hair happy at first, but once you've done the first things it should be easy.\\n1-2. Oil your hair using natural sprays, creams, and moisturiser.\\nWhen washing, it's best to use two layers of conditioner that is designed for black hair, as it is manufactured to lock in moisture more than products aimed at other hair types. Don't use hair grease, though, as the chemicals in it aren't good for hair shine and can thin the hair.\\nOiling your hair is especially important as the kinks in black people hair make the natural moisture stay at your roots, which is why black people's hair is always dry. Shampoos for straighter hair are designed to get rid of the natural greases, which black hair needs to grow. Using the wrong shampoos and not enough moisturizers is the main reason why black hair cuts/breaks off. Castor Oil, Black Castor Oil or Coconut Oil is a good product to keep on hand. Coconut Oil is good for your skin as well.\\n1-3. Air dry and use a thick wide comb when damp, rather than using a hot hair dryer comb.\\nUsing the hair dryer extension is okay if your hair has been moisturised properly for a while, though using hair oils afterwards is essential.\\n1-4. If you have a weave, wrap your hair when you sleep, though this is a basic.\\nWeaves should be taken out from 1-2 months, depending on how messy it gets, how tight it is and what type of weave you have.\\n1-5. Leave space between each weave, about as much space between each weave as you last kept it in.\\nThis will help prevent hair loss and a chipping hairline. It also stops thinning hair and some bold patches. However, remember; full hair loss is very rare with weaves. It only tends to happen to people with dryer and shorter hair or people with much shorter hairline hair than their central hair.\\n1-6. Think long and hard before using chemicals.\\nPerms/relaxers are quite extreme. If you don't have one and are thinking of getting one, watch a documentary such as Good Hair, which explains the chemicals and side-effects of perms.\\nOn the positive side, perms don't require as much combing attention as natural hair and can be styled into styles that white people tend to have. As having a perm/relaxer can cut about half of your hair length off at a time, some people use black hair extensions to attach to the hair, though the glue can cut it further.\\n1-7. Make sure you follow instructions on a perm before you have one, always.\\nHave a specialist do your hair as they have done it many times before. Perms can burn. A lot.\\n2. Makeup\\n2-1. Know something about the type of makeup you want, if any.\\nLook around a market or in areas where the majority of the area is black. Makeup designed for darker skin can often be found in areas where hair products for African Americans can be found, so it shouldn't be too hard to find if you know where to look.\\n2-2. Get darker \\\"nude\\\" colored lip liner and lipstick.\\nFor blush, if you are daring, try a dark purple. This doesn't look good on everyone, but if your skin is dark enough you can pull it off.\\n2-3. Don't wear too brightly colored mascara with black eyelashes.\\nIt can sometimes turn out wrong, and it's also very hard to get off then.\\nTry using purple highlighter for a fun holographic effect. Apply it as eyeshadow in the center of your eyelid.\\n2-4. Do not ever buy foundation too light for your skin color.\\nIt's like when white people put on too much fake tan. You look orange, and your eyes will just look dark so you'd look like a panda.\\nBuying darker foundation can be okay when they match your darker areas.\\n3. Skin Products\\nChoose the right type of products.\\nThe stereotype is that black people love cocoa butter. So long as you're not allergic to them, coconuts are not only great for black hair, but also black skin. They are full of nutrients and cocoa butter even lightens/darkens your scars to make them less visible.\\nCocoa butter is very good for moisturizing skin and it helps keep dry patches looking less dry. Also, the moisture can last even after a bath (though it's best to apply at least once a day, preferably in the morning).\\nOther great moisturizers are Shea butter and Aloe butter. When choosing products, look for ones with few chemicals and not a lot of fragrance. Remember: the further down the ingredient list, the less it contains.\\n4. Attitude\\n4-1. Be fashionable, but don't ruin your hair and complexion to do so.\\nHair dye can damage black hair, and most of the time won't make a difference or only dye thinner parts of the hair.\\n4-2. Using a hot comb can straighten black people's hair, but like the hair dryer extension, can damage it just as much, or even more if it's very dry.\\n\\n4-3. Don't drastically change the way you look.\\nGiving in to try to look 'white' is one of the last things a black girl should even be thinking. Black is beautiful, you are beautiful. Embrace this. If people tell you your hair looks nasty because it's curly or says something about your weave, ignore it, violence is never the right answer, don't let them get to you.\\nWhen people say racist things regarding your skin color right to your face, it can be annoying. If these people are your 'friends' tell them that what they said was not right and provide a bit of evidence of why it was if wanted. If they do it again, it's highly suggested you ditch them.\\n4-4. Do not ever try 'acting like a black girl or white girl' to fit in.\\nAct how you know you should act with dignity and respect. Saying 'yo' in sentences and enjoying reggae or rap music isn't what all black females prefer to do. Act the way you feel comfortable acting even if it is portrayed as ghetto or white.\\n4-5. Remember, not everyone who's not black is racist either.\\nThere are people of color out there who don't care about whether their friends are a different shade to them or not. Look for those kinds of people rather than hanging with people who degrade you for being black who more often than not are white.\\nTips\\nYou don't have to accept back-handed compliments like \\\"you're pretty for a black girl\\\". It's rude and uncalled for. You are a beautiful person just like any other person. You don't see people going around saying \\\"you're pretty for a white girl\\\". Seems odd right? Chances are they'd be offended just as you are. Handle the situation tactfully. Just know you have a right to feel offended.\\nSometimes, people will say things to suck up to you. They don't mean any harm, but can still offend you. For example, if someone were to say \\\"You're pretty for a black girl\\\" or \\\"Wow! Your hair is weird!\\\", stay calm and don't show you're annoyed, but say something like \\\"Wow! Everyone always says that! Strange, isn't it?\\\" or \\\"I get that a lot!\\\". or \\\"But then to some people yours is too!\\\"\\nThere have been a few things going round about black girls being the most \\\"ugly\\\" or \\\"unattractive race. However, just look at Beyonce, look at Naomi Campbell, look at Jourdan Dunn. Are they ugly?\\nWarnings\\nUsually when you're a racial minority in your school, people are going to know you much quicker than if you were the dominant race. Rumors are also very likely to get around fast. Rumors are rumors, and as long as you have decent people surrounding you, they can just be ignored.\\nDon't let people tug on your hair. If you have a weave and people do this, you will have to fend them off and it can result in hair breakage. However, don't worry. Unless there's a whole crowd of people, you're not going to have to take Tae Kwon Do lessons or anything.\\nNever do a perm by yourself unless you've had lots of practice. Remember, perms can cause bad flaky skin (psoriasis) or make eczema much worse. It can be very painful and sometimes permanent burns and could make you go blind or deaf if it gets near your eyes or ears.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Black is beautiful. You don't have to be a Nubian princess or an African rose to be beautiful. All you have to do is trust in your ability to wow other people. That's what confidence, having that and a true appreciation of who you are inside will create the total package. This article will show you how to make your natural assets stand out and give you more confidence to do the things you really want to do.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Hair\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keep natural hair.\", \"描述\": \"It emphasizes the uniqueness of being black, as no other race has it. It takes a lot of work to keep wild hair happy at first, but once you've done the first things it should be easy.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Oil your hair using natural sprays, creams, and moisturiser.\", \"描述\": \"When washing, it's best to use two layers of conditioner that is designed for black hair, as it is manufactured to lock in moisture more than products aimed at other hair types. Don't use hair grease, though, as the chemicals in it aren't good for hair shine and can thin the hair.\\nOiling your hair is especially important as the kinks in black people hair make the natural moisture stay at your roots, which is why black people's hair is always dry. Shampoos for straighter hair are designed to get rid of the natural greases, which black hair needs to grow. Using the wrong shampoos and not enough moisturizers is the main reason why black hair cuts/breaks off. Castor Oil, Black Castor Oil or Coconut Oil is a good product to keep on hand. Coconut Oil is good for your skin as well.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Air dry and use a thick wide comb when damp, rather than using a hot hair dryer comb.\", \"描述\": \"Using the hair dryer extension is okay if your hair has been moisturised properly for a while, though using hair oils afterwards is essential.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"If you have a weave, wrap your hair when you sleep, though this is a basic.\", \"描述\": \"Weaves should be taken out from 1-2 months, depending on how messy it gets, how tight it is and what type of weave you have.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Leave space between each weave, about as much space between each weave as you last kept it in.\", \"描述\": \"This will help prevent hair loss and a chipping hairline. It also stops thinning hair and some bold patches. However, remember; full hair loss is very rare with weaves. It only tends to happen to people with dryer and shorter hair or people with much shorter hairline hair than their central hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Think long and hard before using chemicals.\", \"描述\": \"Perms/relaxers are quite extreme. If you don't have one and are thinking of getting one, watch a documentary such as Good Hair, which explains the chemicals and side-effects of perms.\\nOn the positive side, perms don't require as much combing attention as natural hair and can be styled into styles that white people tend to have. As having a perm/relaxer can cut about half of your hair length off at a time, some people use black hair extensions to attach to the hair, though the glue can cut it further.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Make sure you follow instructions on a perm before you have one, always.\", \"描述\": \"Have a specialist do your hair as they have done it many times before. Perms can burn. A lot.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Makeup\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know something about the type of makeup you want, if any.\", \"描述\": \"Look around a market or in areas where the majority of the area is black. Makeup designed for darker skin can often be found in areas where hair products for African Americans can be found, so it shouldn't be too hard to find if you know where to look.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get darker \\\"nude\\\" colored lip liner and lipstick.\", \"描述\": \"For blush, if you are daring, try a dark purple. This doesn't look good on everyone, but if your skin is dark enough you can pull it off.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don't wear too brightly colored mascara with black eyelashes.\", \"描述\": \"It can sometimes turn out wrong, and it's also very hard to get off then.\\nTry using purple highlighter for a fun holographic effect. Apply it as eyeshadow in the center of your eyelid.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Do not ever buy foundation too light for your skin color.\", \"描述\": \"It's like when white people put on too much fake tan. You look orange, and your eyes will just look dark so you'd look like a panda.\\nBuying darker foundation can be okay when they match your darker areas.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Skin Products\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Choose the right type of products.\", \"描述\": \"The stereotype is that black people love cocoa butter. So long as you're not allergic to them, coconuts are not only great for black hair, but also black skin. They are full of nutrients and cocoa butter even lightens/darkens your scars to make them less visible.\\nCocoa butter is very good for moisturizing skin and it helps keep dry patches looking less dry. Also, the moisture can last even after a bath (though it's best to apply at least once a day, preferably in the morning).\\nOther great moisturizers are Shea butter and Aloe butter. When choosing products, look for ones with few chemicals and not a lot of fragrance. Remember: the further down the ingredient list, the less it contains.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Attitude\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be fashionable, but don't ruin your hair and complexion to do so.\", \"描述\": \"Hair dye can damage black hair, and most of the time won't make a difference or only dye thinner parts of the hair.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Using a hot comb can straighten black people's hair, but like the hair dryer extension, can damage it just as much, or even more if it's very dry.\", \"描述\": \"\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Don't drastically change the way you look.\", \"描述\": \"Giving in to try to look 'white' is one of the last things a black girl should even be thinking. Black is beautiful, you are beautiful. Embrace this. If people tell you your hair looks nasty because it's curly or says something about your weave, ignore it, violence is never the right answer, don't let them get to you.\\nWhen people say racist things regarding your skin color right to your face, it can be annoying. If these people are your 'friends' tell them that what they said was not right and provide a bit of evidence of why it was if wanted. If they do it again, it's highly suggested you ditch them.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Do not ever try 'acting like a black girl or white girl' to fit in.\", \"描述\": \"Act how you know you should act with dignity and respect. Saying 'yo' in sentences and enjoying reggae or rap music isn't what all black females prefer to do. Act the way you feel comfortable acting even if it is portrayed as ghetto or white.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Remember, not everyone who's not black is racist either.\", \"描述\": \"There are people of color out there who don't care about whether their friends are a different shade to them or not. Look for those kinds of people rather than hanging with people who degrade you for being black who more often than not are white.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"You don't have to accept back-handed compliments like \\\"you're pretty for a black girl\\\". It's rude and uncalled for. You are a beautiful person just like any other person. You don't see people going around saying \\\"you're pretty for a white girl\\\". Seems odd right? Chances are they'd be offended just as you are. Handle the situation tactfully. Just know you have a right to feel offended.\\n\", \"Sometimes, people will say things to suck up to you. They don't mean any harm, but can still offend you. For example, if someone were to say \\\"You're pretty for a black girl\\\" or \\\"Wow! Your hair is weird!\\\", stay calm and don't show you're annoyed, but say something like \\\"Wow! Everyone always says that! Strange, isn't it?\\\" or \\\"I get that a lot!\\\". or \\\"But then to some people yours is too!\\\"\\n\", \"There have been a few things going round about black girls being the most \\\"ugly\\\" or \\\"unattractive race. However, just look at Beyonce, look at Naomi Campbell, look at Jourdan Dunn. Are they ugly?\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Usually when you're a racial minority in your school, people are going to know you much quicker than if you were the dominant race. Rumors are also very likely to get around fast. Rumors are rumors, and as long as you have decent people surrounding you, they can just be ignored.\\n\", \"Don't let people tug on your hair. If you have a weave and people do this, you will have to fend them off and it can result in hair breakage. However, don't worry. Unless there's a whole crowd of people, you're not going to have to take Tae Kwon Do lessons or anything.\\n\", \"Never do a perm by yourself unless you've had lots of practice. Remember, perms can cause bad flaky skin (psoriasis) or make eczema much worse. It can be very painful and sometimes permanent burns and could make you go blind or deaf if it gets near your eyes or ears.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Beautiful Curvy Woman
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1. Steps
1-1. Highlight your waist.
If you've got a waist, make the most of it: it gives hourglass figures balance and makes you the envy of all those women with no shape!
If you have no waist, go for a large jacket with a belt to give the illusion of one - it's very flattering.
1-2. Try out High Heels.
"For every centimeter of heel you lose a kilo in weight," according to Marina Rinaldi. Heels make you taller, longer and leaner, but they can tire you out quickly, so go for boots during the day and save your stilettos for the evening if you struggle with foot ache. A good advice: High heels and a suit with a belted jacket can make anyone look instantly slimmer.
1-3. Highlight your best assets.
Follow your curves. Jennifer Lopez has a classic curvaceous figure and knows how to work it, but remember: no two curvy girls are the same.
If you have a toned, peachy derriere like Jen, go for a dress that will cling in all the right places to show them off.
If you have real authentic 1950s curves, nip your waist in to show them off.
If you're tall, put your legs on display in shorts. The golden rule is never to hide your curves but to dress them up subtly.
1-4. Flaunt them.
All the stick insects within a 3-mile radius are jealous of your jugs and men just can't help but stare. So make the most of your assets without going weird - you wouldn't want to make anyone else feel inadequate, naturally... Go for dresses with plunging necklines, open blouses, trench-style coats and jackets to show off your decollete.
Tips
The average size in the UK is a 16, not a 6! 40% of French women and 45% of German women are also a size 16+. However, times are changing for the better, partly thanks to a host of curvy celebrities who are out to show us all you don't need to starve yourself to be sexy and confident.
Accept your body and your shape, accept the fact that you're never going to be a size 0 and accept that you wouldn't want to be! It's also important to accept that as long as you're sensible, you eat healthy, and you exercise, you'll be happy and healthy, which is all that you need to be sexy.
Just because you're not very slim doesn't mean you can't wear shorts, which is good news because there are some gorgeous pairs around at the minute for both dressy and casual usage! Balance your look out well and you can look fabulous in shorts - just wear them with a bit of confidence! If you haven't got matchstick legs and knock knees, all the more reason to show off a pair of sexy pins. Go for styles that cover the tops of your thighs and match with a slightly decollete top that goes down to your waist, for a subtle, sensual look.
Warnings
Respect every body shape. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, and if you feel like beauty is narrowed down to one shape or size, then you should expand your definition of beauty.
Celebrate all body types. There is beauty in everyone and everything!
Only 8% of women are genetically endowed with an hourglass ("curvy") shape. Don't feel bad if you're not part of that 8%!
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Jennifer Lopez has a classic curvaceous figure and knows how to work it, but remember: no two curvy girls are the same.\\nIf you have a toned, peachy derriere like Jen, go for a dress that will cling in all the right places to show them off.\\nIf you have real authentic 1950s curves, nip your waist in to show them off.\\nIf you're tall, put your legs on display in shorts. The golden rule is never to hide your curves but to dress them up subtly.\\n1-4. Flaunt them.\\nAll the stick insects within a 3-mile radius are jealous of your jugs and men just can't help but stare. So make the most of your assets without going weird - you wouldn't want to make anyone else feel inadequate, naturally... Go for dresses with plunging necklines, open blouses, trench-style coats and jackets to show off your decollete.\\nTips\\nThe average size in the UK is a 16, not a 6! 40% of French women and 45% of German women are also a size 16+. However, times are changing for the better, partly thanks to a host of curvy celebrities who are out to show us all you don't need to starve yourself to be sexy and confident.\\nAccept your body and your shape, accept the fact that you're never going to be a size 0 and accept that you wouldn't want to be! It's also important to accept that as long as you're sensible, you eat healthy, and you exercise, you'll be happy and healthy, which is all that you need to be sexy.\\nJust because you're not very slim doesn't mean you can't wear shorts, which is good news because there are some gorgeous pairs around at the minute for both dressy and casual usage! Balance your look out well and you can look fabulous in shorts - just wear them with a bit of confidence! If you haven't got matchstick legs and knock knees, all the more reason to show off a pair of sexy pins. Go for styles that cover the tops of your thighs and match with a slightly decollete top that goes down to your waist, for a subtle, sensual look.\\nWarnings\\nRespect every body shape. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, and if you feel like beauty is narrowed down to one shape or size, then you should expand your definition of beauty.\\nCelebrate all body types. There is beauty in everyone and everything!\\nOnly 8% of women are genetically endowed with an hourglass (\\\"curvy\\\") shape. Don't feel bad if you're not part of that 8%!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"There is no weight requirement to being a (big) beautiful curvy woman. You've been blessed with your gorgeous curves; that hourglass shape!!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Highlight your waist.\", \"描述\": \"If you've got a waist, make the most of it: it gives hourglass figures balance and makes you the envy of all those women with no shape!\\nIf you have no waist, go for a large jacket with a belt to give the illusion of one - it's very flattering.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Try out High Heels.\", \"描述\": \"\\\"For every centimeter of heel you lose a kilo in weight,\\\" according to Marina Rinaldi. Heels make you taller, longer and leaner, but they can tire you out quickly, so go for boots during the day and save your stilettos for the evening if you struggle with foot ache. A good advice: High heels and a suit with a belted jacket can make anyone look instantly slimmer.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Highlight your best assets.\", \"描述\": \"Follow your curves. Jennifer Lopez has a classic curvaceous figure and knows how to work it, but remember: no two curvy girls are the same.\\nIf you have a toned, peachy derriere like Jen, go for a dress that will cling in all the right places to show them off.\\nIf you have real authentic 1950s curves, nip your waist in to show them off.\\nIf you're tall, put your legs on display in shorts. The golden rule is never to hide your curves but to dress them up subtly.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Flaunt them.\", \"描述\": \"All the stick insects within a 3-mile radius are jealous of your jugs and men just can't help but stare. So make the most of your assets without going weird - you wouldn't want to make anyone else feel inadequate, naturally... Go for dresses with plunging necklines, open blouses, trench-style coats and jackets to show off your decollete.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"The average size in the UK is a 16, not a 6! 40% of French women and 45% of German women are also a size 16+. However, times are changing for the better, partly thanks to a host of curvy celebrities who are out to show us all you don't need to starve yourself to be sexy and confident.\\n\", \"Accept your body and your shape, accept the fact that you're never going to be a size 0 and accept that you wouldn't want to be! It's also important to accept that as long as you're sensible, you eat healthy, and you exercise, you'll be happy and healthy, which is all that you need to be sexy.\\n\", \"Just because you're not very slim doesn't mean you can't wear shorts, which is good news because there are some gorgeous pairs around at the minute for both dressy and casual usage! Balance your look out well and you can look fabulous in shorts - just wear them with a bit of confidence! If you haven't got matchstick legs and knock knees, all the more reason to show off a pair of sexy pins. Go for styles that cover the tops of your thighs and match with a slightly decollete top that goes down to your waist, for a subtle, sensual look.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Respect every body shape. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, and if you feel like beauty is narrowed down to one shape or size, then you should expand your definition of beauty.\\n\", \"Celebrate all body types. There is beauty in everyone and everything!\\n\", \"Only 8% of women are genetically endowed with an hourglass (\\\"curvy\\\") shape. Don't feel bad if you're not part of that 8%!\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Beautiful Girl and Make Boys Like You
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1. Showcasing Your Beauty
1-1. Wear clothes that make you feel comfortable and confident.
An outfit can make you extremely self conscious or boost your self confidence. Choose pieces that accentuate your best features, hide your flaws, and fit you well.
For example, if you have a tiny waist, wear shirts, sweaters, and dresses that are cinched at the waist. If you want to mask your midsection, wear a peplum skirt, shirt, or dress.
If you aren’t comfortable rocking a crop top or a backless dress, don’t wear it.
1-2. Highlight your features with beauty products.
Makeup is designed to subtly enhance your natural features, not mask them. Experiment with various products to discover the makeup application process that best suits your features. Remember, too much makeup isn't attractive. Try to highlight what is attractive with makeup instead of using too much. Sometimes, girls look better without makeup.
Create a flawless complexion by covering any blemishes you may have with foundation and then concealer.
Enhance your eyes with natural shades of eyeshadow. For a dramatic look, line your eyes with eyeliner and coat your lashes with mascara.
Give your cheeks a natural glow with blush, bronzer, and highlighter.
Complete your look with the perfect shade of lipgloss or lipstick for your skintone.
1-3. Pamper yourself.
Little details, such as manicured fingernails and a radiant complexion, can attract the attention of boys. Set aside time to care for your skin and nails.
Cleanse, moisturize, and exfoliate your skin.
Protect your skin with sunscreen.
Trim, shape, and if desired, paint your nails.
1-4. Wear a signature scent.
When your wear perfume, scent, eau de toilette, body spray, scented lotion, etc, boys will remember your scent and associate it with you. Prior to going out, spray a small amount on your hair. When you encounter a boy you are attracted to, flip your hair to subtly waft the scent in his direction.
1-5. Smile often.
Boys and girls are more attracted to people that smile than to people that frown. Smiling also has the added benefits of making you and those around you feel happier.
Laughing is also very attractive. It illuminates your face.
2. Discovering Your Inner Beauty
2-1. Learn more about yourself.
When we become aware of who we are, we can start to accept ourselves, feeling more comfortable and confident around others. Keeping a journal or blog is an excellent way to improve your self-awareness and track your personal growth. While you write, consider the following topics:
Identify your likes and dislikes.
Define your dreams.
Determine if there are areas of your life that require additional work.
2-2. Accept your flaws.
With the media bombarding you with idealized images of beauty, it is easy to forget that perfection is not attainable and beauty is not perfection. Your flaws are what make you unique—embrace your imperfections and start making them work for you.
Instead of focusing on the negative aspects of your appearance, praise the features that you love.
Surround yourself with positive people that make you feel loved and beautiful.
2-3. Strive to be a positive, generous, and passionate person.
Beauty is more than skin deep—your thoughts, actions, and passions are a reflection of who you are as a person. You can enhance your inner beauty and your outward appeal by putting the needs and feelings of others above your own.
Instead of judging others, compliment them.
Freely donate your time and resources to those in need of your assistance.
Be kind and generous to everyone you meet.
Embrace your passions—when you do things that make you happy you will feel happy.
2-4. Surround yourself with positive people.
The people in your life can have a significant impact on your self esteem. When your friends and loved ones constantly criticize you or themselves, it is challenging to see yourself as beautiful. Choose to spend time with people that reaffirm your self-worth, complement you instead of criticizing you, and radiate confidence.
3. Getting a Guy to Like You
3-1. Become an expert in body language.
Non-verbal cues are a powerful form of communication. When you flirt, use your body language to let him know you are available and interested in him.
To show that you are available, keep your chest, torso, and abdomen open. Avoid crossing your arms in front of your chest.
Also, make time to be with guys and be one who is including. Following the popular girls or only listening to their opinions isn't attractive at all. Remember, just because your friend doesn't like someone, doesn't mean you should say no. Be inclusive with your friends and try to include everyone.
To show that you are trustworthy, keep your hands visible. Avoid placing them in pockets or under a table.
To showcase your sexuality, expose your neck. Tilt your head back slightly as you laugh.
To get or keep his attention, graze his arm. The human touch releases hormones that make you feel connected to the other person.
3-2. Engage him in meaningful conversation.
In order to form a genuine connection with a guy, your conversations need to move beyond small talk to more meaningful topics. During your conversations, make an effort to be vulnerable—share your interests, show him your goofy side, and tell him your fears.
When people discuss their passions, they light up, feel happier, and instantly become more attractive to those around them. Furthermore, they subconsciously associate those positive vibes with the people around them.
Throughout the conversation, maintain eye contact. It not only lets him know you are listening, but it can actually make him more attracted to you.
Compliment him for something that is clearly important to him, such as his determination to succeed in school or in a sport.
3-3. Never play hard to get.
Clingy girls can bore or overwhelm guys. However, playing hard to get will not help you seem "mysterious". You don't have to be intentionally elusive and vague from time to time for someone to be interested in you. One thing is for sure, though: if he is interested in you, he will put in the effort to capture your attention.
3-4. Maintain your independence.
Boys are fascinated by independent girls. Demonstrate to him that you have goals and interests your own. Talk to him about your classes—what is your favorite subject and why? Share your dreams with him—what adventures do you plan to take?
When he asks for your opinion, don’t respond with, “I don’t know.” Tell him what you want to do on your date and let him know where you want to eat.
Warnings
Even if you're sure that you like a boy, if you have nothing in common with him, then it might just be best to leave him and look for someone else who shares your interests. Not only will it cause a lot of awkward silences if there's just not anything to talk about, but there's also a good chance that you will get bored later.
Make sure you take care of your teeth! A yellow smile is usually taken as a sign of being unhygienic, and that's the last thing you want to be known as if your going for boys.
Remember, playing hard to get may work sometimes, but guys don't like closed off girls. Guys like friendly girls.
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Sometimes, girls look better without makeup.\\nCreate a flawless complexion by covering any blemishes you may have with foundation and then concealer.\\nEnhance your eyes with natural shades of eyeshadow. For a dramatic look, line your eyes with eyeliner and coat your lashes with mascara.\\nGive your cheeks a natural glow with blush, bronzer, and highlighter.\\nComplete your look with the perfect shade of lipgloss or lipstick for your skintone.\\n1-3. Pamper yourself.\\nLittle details, such as manicured fingernails and a radiant complexion, can attract the attention of boys. Set aside time to care for your skin and nails.\\nCleanse, moisturize, and exfoliate your skin.\\nProtect your skin with sunscreen.\\nTrim, shape, and if desired, paint your nails.\\n1-4. Wear a signature scent.\\nWhen your wear perfume, scent, eau de toilette, body spray, scented lotion, etc, boys will remember your scent and associate it with you. Prior to going out, spray a small amount on your hair. When you encounter a boy you are attracted to, flip your hair to subtly waft the scent in his direction.\\n1-5. Smile often.\\nBoys and girls are more attracted to people that smile than to people that frown. Smiling also has the added benefits of making you and those around you feel happier.\\nLaughing is also very attractive. It illuminates your face.\\n2. Discovering Your Inner Beauty\\n2-1. Learn more about yourself.\\nWhen we become aware of who we are, we can start to accept ourselves, feeling more comfortable and confident around others. Keeping a journal or blog is an excellent way to improve your self-awareness and track your personal growth. While you write, consider the following topics:\\nIdentify your likes and dislikes.\\nDefine your dreams.\\nDetermine if there are areas of your life that require additional work.\\n2-2. Accept your flaws.\\nWith the media bombarding you with idealized images of beauty, it is easy to forget that perfection is not attainable and beauty is not perfection. Your flaws are what make you unique—embrace your imperfections and start making them work for you.\\nInstead of focusing on the negative aspects of your appearance, praise the features that you love.\\nSurround yourself with positive people that make you feel loved and beautiful.\\n2-3. Strive to be a positive, generous, and passionate person.\\nBeauty is more than skin deep—your thoughts, actions, and passions are a reflection of who you are as a person. You can enhance your inner beauty and your outward appeal by putting the needs and feelings of others above your own.\\nInstead of judging others, compliment them.\\nFreely donate your time and resources to those in need of your assistance.\\nBe kind and generous to everyone you meet.\\nEmbrace your passions—when you do things that make you happy you will feel happy.\\n2-4. Surround yourself with positive people.\\nThe people in your life can have a significant impact on your self esteem. When your friends and loved ones constantly criticize you or themselves, it is challenging to see yourself as beautiful. Choose to spend time with people that reaffirm your self-worth, complement you instead of criticizing you, and radiate confidence.\\n3. Getting a Guy to Like You\\n3-1. Become an expert in body language.\\nNon-verbal cues are a powerful form of communication. When you flirt, use your body language to let him know you are available and interested in him.\\nTo show that you are available, keep your chest, torso, and abdomen open. Avoid crossing your arms in front of your chest.\\nAlso, make time to be with guys and be one who is including. Following the popular girls or only listening to their opinions isn't attractive at all. Remember, just because your friend doesn't like someone, doesn't mean you should say no. Be inclusive with your friends and try to include everyone.\\nTo show that you are trustworthy, keep your hands visible. Avoid placing them in pockets or under a table.\\nTo showcase your sexuality, expose your neck. Tilt your head back slightly as you laugh.\\nTo get or keep his attention, graze his arm. The human touch releases hormones that make you feel connected to the other person.\\n3-2. Engage him in meaningful conversation.\\nIn order to form a genuine connection with a guy, your conversations need to move beyond small talk to more meaningful topics. During your conversations, make an effort to be vulnerable—share your interests, show him your goofy side, and tell him your fears.\\nWhen people discuss their passions, they light up, feel happier, and instantly become more attractive to those around them. Furthermore, they subconsciously associate those positive vibes with the people around them.\\nThroughout the conversation, maintain eye contact. It not only lets him know you are listening, but it can actually make him more attracted to you.\\nCompliment him for something that is clearly important to him, such as his determination to succeed in school or in a sport.\\n3-3. Never play hard to get.\\nClingy girls can bore or overwhelm guys. However, playing hard to get will not help you seem \\\"mysterious\\\". You don't have to be intentionally elusive and vague from time to time for someone to be interested in you. One thing is for sure, though: if he is interested in you, he will put in the effort to capture your attention.\\n3-4. Maintain your independence.\\nBoys are fascinated by independent girls. Demonstrate to him that you have goals and interests your own. Talk to him about your classes—what is your favorite subject and why? Share your dreams with him—what adventures do you plan to take?\\nWhen he asks for your opinion, don’t respond with, “I don’t know.” Tell him what you want to do on your date and let him know where you want to eat.\\nWarnings\\nEven if you're sure that you like a boy, if you have nothing in common with him, then it might just be best to leave him and look for someone else who shares your interests. Not only will it cause a lot of awkward silences if there's just not anything to talk about, but there's also a good chance that you will get bored later.\\nMake sure you take care of your teeth! A yellow smile is usually taken as a sign of being unhygienic, and that's the last thing you want to be known as if your going for boys.\\nRemember, playing hard to get may work sometimes, but guys don't like closed off girls. Guys like friendly girls.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Boys are not just attracted to one type of girl. They are attracted to beautiful girls of all shapes and sizes. While your looks may capture a boy's attention, your radiant smile, self-confidence, and generous spirit will be what holds their interest.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Showcasing Your Beauty\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wear clothes that make you feel comfortable and confident.\", \"描述\": \"An outfit can make you extremely self conscious or boost your self confidence. Choose pieces that accentuate your best features, hide your flaws, and fit you well.\\nFor example, if you have a tiny waist, wear shirts, sweaters, and dresses that are cinched at the waist. If you want to mask your midsection, wear a peplum skirt, shirt, or dress.\\nIf you aren’t comfortable rocking a crop top or a backless dress, don’t wear it.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Highlight your features with beauty products.\", \"描述\": \"Makeup is designed to subtly enhance your natural features, not mask them. Experiment with various products to discover the makeup application process that best suits your features. Remember, too much makeup isn't attractive. Try to highlight what is attractive with makeup instead of using too much. Sometimes, girls look better without makeup.\\nCreate a flawless complexion by covering any blemishes you may have with foundation and then concealer.\\nEnhance your eyes with natural shades of eyeshadow. For a dramatic look, line your eyes with eyeliner and coat your lashes with mascara.\\nGive your cheeks a natural glow with blush, bronzer, and highlighter.\\nComplete your look with the perfect shade of lipgloss or lipstick for your skintone.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pamper yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Little details, such as manicured fingernails and a radiant complexion, can attract the attention of boys. Set aside time to care for your skin and nails.\\nCleanse, moisturize, and exfoliate your skin.\\nProtect your skin with sunscreen.\\nTrim, shape, and if desired, paint your nails.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Wear a signature scent.\", \"描述\": \"When your wear perfume, scent, eau de toilette, body spray, scented lotion, etc, boys will remember your scent and associate it with you. Prior to going out, spray a small amount on your hair. When you encounter a boy you are attracted to, flip your hair to subtly waft the scent in his direction.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Smile often.\", \"描述\": \"Boys and girls are more attracted to people that smile than to people that frown. Smiling also has the added benefits of making you and those around you feel happier.\\nLaughing is also very attractive. It illuminates your face.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Discovering Your Inner Beauty\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn more about yourself.\", \"描述\": \"When we become aware of who we are, we can start to accept ourselves, feeling more comfortable and confident around others. Keeping a journal or blog is an excellent way to improve your self-awareness and track your personal growth. While you write, consider the following topics:\\nIdentify your likes and dislikes.\\nDefine your dreams.\\nDetermine if there are areas of your life that require additional work.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Accept your flaws.\", \"描述\": \"With the media bombarding you with idealized images of beauty, it is easy to forget that perfection is not attainable and beauty is not perfection. Your flaws are what make you unique—embrace your imperfections and start making them work for you.\\nInstead of focusing on the negative aspects of your appearance, praise the features that you love.\\nSurround yourself with positive people that make you feel loved and beautiful.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Strive to be a positive, generous, and passionate person.\", \"描述\": \"Beauty is more than skin deep—your thoughts, actions, and passions are a reflection of who you are as a person. You can enhance your inner beauty and your outward appeal by putting the needs and feelings of others above your own.\\nInstead of judging others, compliment them.\\nFreely donate your time and resources to those in need of your assistance.\\nBe kind and generous to everyone you meet.\\nEmbrace your passions—when you do things that make you happy you will feel happy.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Surround yourself with positive people.\", \"描述\": \"The people in your life can have a significant impact on your self esteem. When your friends and loved ones constantly criticize you or themselves, it is challenging to see yourself as beautiful. Choose to spend time with people that reaffirm your self-worth, complement you instead of criticizing you, and radiate confidence.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Getting a Guy to Like You\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Become an expert in body language.\", \"描述\": \"Non-verbal cues are a powerful form of communication. When you flirt, use your body language to let him know you are available and interested in him.\\nTo show that you are available, keep your chest, torso, and abdomen open. Avoid crossing your arms in front of your chest.\\nAlso, make time to be with guys and be one who is including. Following the popular girls or only listening to their opinions isn't attractive at all. Remember, just because your friend doesn't like someone, doesn't mean you should say no. Be inclusive with your friends and try to include everyone.\\nTo show that you are trustworthy, keep your hands visible. Avoid placing them in pockets or under a table.\\nTo showcase your sexuality, expose your neck. Tilt your head back slightly as you laugh.\\nTo get or keep his attention, graze his arm. The human touch releases hormones that make you feel connected to the other person.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Engage him in meaningful conversation.\", \"描述\": \"In order to form a genuine connection with a guy, your conversations need to move beyond small talk to more meaningful topics. During your conversations, make an effort to be vulnerable—share your interests, show him your goofy side, and tell him your fears.\\nWhen people discuss their passions, they light up, feel happier, and instantly become more attractive to those around them. Furthermore, they subconsciously associate those positive vibes with the people around them.\\nThroughout the conversation, maintain eye contact. It not only lets him know you are listening, but it can actually make him more attracted to you.\\nCompliment him for something that is clearly important to him, such as his determination to succeed in school or in a sport.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Never play hard to get.\", \"描述\": \"Clingy girls can bore or overwhelm guys. However, playing hard to get will not help you seem \\\"mysterious\\\". You don't have to be intentionally elusive and vague from time to time for someone to be interested in you. One thing is for sure, though: if he is interested in you, he will put in the effort to capture your attention.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Maintain your independence.\", \"描述\": \"Boys are fascinated by independent girls. Demonstrate to him that you have goals and interests your own. Talk to him about your classes—what is your favorite subject and why? Share your dreams with him—what adventures do you plan to take?\\nWhen he asks for your opinion, don’t respond with, “I don’t know.” Tell him what you want to do on your date and let him know where you want to eat.\"}], \"注意事项\": [\"Even if you're sure that you like a boy, if you have nothing in common with him, then it might just be best to leave him and look for someone else who shares your interests. Not only will it cause a lot of awkward silences if there's just not anything to talk about, but there's also a good chance that you will get bored later.\\n\", \"Make sure you take care of your teeth! A yellow smile is usually taken as a sign of being unhygienic, and that's the last thing you want to be known as if your going for boys.\\n\", \"Remember, playing hard to get may work sometimes, but guys don't like closed off girls. Guys like friendly girls.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Steps
1-1. Just be calm.
Take deep breaths and don't think about striking out.
1-2. Dig into the batting box and get into your stance.
Any stance you feel comfortable with.
1-3. Don't be trying to figure what the pitcher is throwing.
Just be calm. Just watch the pitchers hand and you can tell what he is going to throw at the plate.
1-4. Watch the pitchers wind up and follow the ball with your eyes to try to detect what pitch he/she is throwing.
(Exception: if the pitcher is tipping his pitches, pay attention and stay relaxed).
1-5. Keep your weight back and swing.
1-6. Don't move your head, keep it on the ball.
1-7. Make solid contact and you should be a good hitter.
1-8. If you want, go to the batting cages regularly.
During season, go on weekends and days when there is no scheduled practice. Ask your coach(es) to accompany you to receive live feedback.
1-9. Lift weights regularly(not for under 13-14).
Don't max out though. Because you don't want to be injured for the season!
1-10. When you put the ball in play, always run hard!
This forces the defense to make a play and increases the chance of an error. Also you could stretch your singles into doubles as well as get more infield hits.
1-11. Never slide into first, it has been proven that it is faster to over run a base then to slide into it.
Tips
Don't be afraid of the ball. If the ball is coming at you calmly move out of the way. If it hits you it should only hurt for seconds.
When you are running to first base, don't look at the ball. Just focus on the base.
Remember to focus on the ball at all times.
Warnings
If you mess up, don't get disappointed. Just dig in and do it again.
Don't crash into the catcher when coming home, it could be a painful experience and you could get ejected from the game.
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How to Be a Better Boyfriend
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1. Creating a Balanced Relationship
1-1. Be honest.
If something is bothering you about the relationship, then let your partner know. Be sure to do this gently so that they don't feel like you're criticizing them. If you need or want something, don't be afraid to tell them that! If something is bothering outside of the relationship and you need to be alone for a little while, or you need to vent, you should let them know!
In return, ask them if there is anything that they wish you would do that you haven't been doing. This will keep both parties happy.
Let them know if you are in a bad mood and need to be alone. For example, if you are annoyed because you had a bad day at work, then tell them that rather than taking out your frustration on them. This will prevent them from thinking you are mad at them or have lost interest in the relationship.
1-2. Don't cheat on your partner.
Even if they find out and forgive you, it will be much harder for them to trust you in the future, which will undoubtedly lead to trouble down the road. Remember why you decided to be with them in the first place, and resist the temptation to chase after others.
If you find yourself constantly tempted to cheat, then you might want to reevaluate your relationship. Everybody's mind wanders every now and then, but constantly lusting after other people is a sign that something is wrong. Figure out whether you are really ready for a monogamous relationship with this person.
If you do cheat, then tell your partner. For some people, the lying aspect is even worse than the cheating aspect. Find the right time and place to let them know gently, and apologize for your mistake. While this may be difficult, covering up an infidelity will undoubtedly drive a wedge in your relationship, especially if they find out from somebody else down the road.
1-3. Be genuine.
Don't do or say things to your partner just to make them happy if you don't mean them. This may please them temporarily, but it will ultimately cause trouble in the relationship because you are not being totally honest.
Don't make promises that you can't keep. Give the relationship time to grow, and only make commitments that you feel comfortable with. If you think it's too soon for them to meet your family, then don't invite them over for Thanksgiving dinner. While relationships require a healthy balance, constantly compromising your own happiness for theirs will only lead you to resent them in the future.
1-4. Express your feelings.
Don't be afraid of letting your partner know how wonderful you think they are! This will make them feel special and loved.
Be sweet, but don't smother. Try to compliment your partner and give them the attention they deserve without getting too controlling, obsessive, or needy.
1-5. Know how to talk.
Give your partner your undivided attention, especially when having a serious conversation. It is not only respectful, but it will show them that you care about what they are saying.
Keep the conversation balanced. Don't be overly talkative or overly quiet. If you are overly talkative, your partner will feel like you care more about yourself than you do about them. If you are overly quiet, they might get bored with you or think that you have lost interest in them.
2. Keeping the Magic Alive
2-1. Make romantic gestures.
Whether it is surprising them by cooking their favorite dinner or sending them flowers at work, small gestures like these show your partner that they are on your mind and that you care for them.
2-2. Compliment them.
Everyone needs to be reminded of how attractive, smart, funny, or interesting they are. Don't stop complimenting them just because you have "won them over" and are already in a committed relationship. Do it because you mean it, and because it will make them feel more confident and loved.
2-3. Be open about sex.
Maintaining a healthy sex life will help keep the relationship alive. If you are worried that the sex is getting boring or that your partner is unsatisfied with the sex, then maturely bring up the subject together.
While this may feel awkward or difficult at first, it will be well worth it in the long run if it improves your sex life!
Wait for the appropriate moment. Don't bring up the issue in public, in front of other people, or in a joking manner. Joking about the topic might make your partner feel embarrassed or insecure.
3. Dealing with Difficult Patches
3-1. Learn to know when something is wrong.
The following are signs that your relationship is suffering:
You are fighting more than usual.
They haven't contacted you in several days.
Either one of you has totally lost interest in sex. (Remember that this could be due to a variety of factors, like a death in the family, personal insecurities, or excess stress).
They continuously cancel plans without suggesting a different date.
One of you has been dating/sleeping with somebody else.
One of you suggests a "break." No matter what either of you says, a break is usually just a segue into an official break-up.
Either one of you has become physically abusive.
3-2. Talk about the issue with your partner.
The only way to fix a problem in any relationship is for both parties to first be made aware of the issue. Remember that sometimes people are totally unaware of their own behavior.
3-3. Reach a compromise.
Once you have talked about the issue at hand and have both voiced your views and opinions, come to an agreement about what to do next. Come up with something that both parties can get on board with and feel comfortable with.
If you can't reach an agreement, then consider couples therapy. Getting the opinion of a third party will help put things in perspective and allow you to rationally sort of the issue from an objective standpoint.
Know when the relationship can't be fixed. If you or your partner are chronically unhappy in the relationship, then don't force things. Making healthy compromises to keep a relationship alive is one thing, but making yourself miserable to maintain the status quo will not do either of you any good.
3-4. Be patient.
Some issues just need a little time to blow over. If you recently had a big fight, give each other space for a day or two. Chances are that the issue will resolve itself, and being apart will remind you both how much you care for one another.
Tips
Be patient during rough patches. Every relationship has its ups and downs; don't give up on the relationship just because things feel tense or awkward for a couple of days. If you do the right things, you will get through it.
In any relationship, you should treat the other person as you would like them to treat you. Living by this rule will help you learn to treat your loved ones with the respect that they deserve.
Never compare your partner to an ex, whether it is meant to be a compliment or a criticism. This will give the impression that your ex is still on your mind.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Creating a Balanced Relationship\\n1-1. Be honest.\\nIf something is bothering you about the relationship, then let your partner know. Be sure to do this gently so that they don't feel like you're criticizing them. If you need or want something, don't be afraid to tell them that! If something is bothering outside of the relationship and you need to be alone for a little while, or you need to vent, you should let them know!\\nIn return, ask them if there is anything that they wish you would do that you haven't been doing. This will keep both parties happy.\\nLet them know if you are in a bad mood and need to be alone. For example, if you are annoyed because you had a bad day at work, then tell them that rather than taking out your frustration on them. This will prevent them from thinking you are mad at them or have lost interest in the relationship.\\n1-2. Don't cheat on your partner.\\nEven if they find out and forgive you, it will be much harder for them to trust you in the future, which will undoubtedly lead to trouble down the road. Remember why you decided to be with them in the first place, and resist the temptation to chase after others.\\nIf you find yourself constantly tempted to cheat, then you might want to reevaluate your relationship. Everybody's mind wanders every now and then, but constantly lusting after other people is a sign that something is wrong. Figure out whether you are really ready for a monogamous relationship with this person.\\nIf you do cheat, then tell your partner. For some people, the lying aspect is even worse than the cheating aspect. Find the right time and place to let them know gently, and apologize for your mistake. While this may be difficult, covering up an infidelity will undoubtedly drive a wedge in your relationship, especially if they find out from somebody else down the road.\\n1-3. Be genuine.\\nDon't do or say things to your partner just to make them happy if you don't mean them. This may please them temporarily, but it will ultimately cause trouble in the relationship because you are not being totally honest.\\nDon't make promises that you can't keep. Give the relationship time to grow, and only make commitments that you feel comfortable with. If you think it's too soon for them to meet your family, then don't invite them over for Thanksgiving dinner. While relationships require a healthy balance, constantly compromising your own happiness for theirs will only lead you to resent them in the future.\\n1-4. Express your feelings.\\nDon't be afraid of letting your partner know how wonderful you think they are! This will make them feel special and loved.\\nBe sweet, but don't smother. Try to compliment your partner and give them the attention they deserve without getting too controlling, obsessive, or needy.\\n1-5. Know how to talk.\\nGive your partner your undivided attention, especially when having a serious conversation. It is not only respectful, but it will show them that you care about what they are saying.\\nKeep the conversation balanced. Don't be overly talkative or overly quiet. If you are overly talkative, your partner will feel like you care more about yourself than you do about them. If you are overly quiet, they might get bored with you or think that you have lost interest in them.\\n2. Keeping the Magic Alive\\n2-1. Make romantic gestures.\\nWhether it is surprising them by cooking their favorite dinner or sending them flowers at work, small gestures like these show your partner that they are on your mind and that you care for them.\\n2-2. Compliment them.\\nEveryone needs to be reminded of how attractive, smart, funny, or interesting they are. Don't stop complimenting them just because you have \\\"won them over\\\" and are already in a committed relationship. Do it because you mean it, and because it will make them feel more confident and loved.\\n2-3. Be open about sex.\\nMaintaining a healthy sex life will help keep the relationship alive. If you are worried that the sex is getting boring or that your partner is unsatisfied with the sex, then maturely bring up the subject together.\\nWhile this may feel awkward or difficult at first, it will be well worth it in the long run if it improves your sex life!\\nWait for the appropriate moment. Don't bring up the issue in public, in front of other people, or in a joking manner. Joking about the topic might make your partner feel embarrassed or insecure.\\n3. Dealing with Difficult Patches\\n3-1. Learn to know when something is wrong.\\nThe following are signs that your relationship is suffering:\\nYou are fighting more than usual.\\nThey haven't contacted you in several days.\\nEither one of you has totally lost interest in sex. (Remember that this could be due to a variety of factors, like a death in the family, personal insecurities, or excess stress).\\nThey continuously cancel plans without suggesting a different date.\\nOne of you has been dating/sleeping with somebody else.\\nOne of you suggests a \\\"break.\\\" No matter what either of you says, a break is usually just a segue into an official break-up.\\nEither one of you has become physically abusive.\\n3-2. Talk about the issue with your partner.\\nThe only way to fix a problem in any relationship is for both parties to first be made aware of the issue. Remember that sometimes people are totally unaware of their own behavior.\\n3-3. Reach a compromise.\\nOnce you have talked about the issue at hand and have both voiced your views and opinions, come to an agreement about what to do next. Come up with something that both parties can get on board with and feel comfortable with.\\nIf you can't reach an agreement, then consider couples therapy. Getting the opinion of a third party will help put things in perspective and allow you to rationally sort of the issue from an objective standpoint.\\nKnow when the relationship can't be fixed. If you or your partner are chronically unhappy in the relationship, then don't force things. Making healthy compromises to keep a relationship alive is one thing, but making yourself miserable to maintain the status quo will not do either of you any good.\\n3-4. Be patient.\\nSome issues just need a little time to blow over. If you recently had a big fight, give each other space for a day or two. Chances are that the issue will resolve itself, and being apart will remind you both how much you care for one another.\\nTips\\nBe patient during rough patches. Every relationship has its ups and downs; don't give up on the relationship just because things feel tense or awkward for a couple of days. If you do the right things, you will get through it.\\nIn any relationship, you should treat the other person as you would like them to treat you. Living by this rule will help you learn to treat your loved ones with the respect that they deserve.\\nNever compare your partner to an ex, whether it is meant to be a compliment or a criticism. This will give the impression that your ex is still on your mind.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Maintaining a healthy relationship takes patience and effort, especially as the \\\"honeymoon phase\\\" starts to wear off. If you are worried that your boyfriend abilities have been slacking lately, or if you simply want to learn how to be an even better boyfriend, this article will point you in the right direction!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Creating a Balanced Relationship\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be honest.\", \"描述\": \"If something is bothering you about the relationship, then let your partner know. Be sure to do this gently so that they don't feel like you're criticizing them. If you need or want something, don't be afraid to tell them that! If something is bothering outside of the relationship and you need to be alone for a little while, or you need to vent, you should let them know!\\nIn return, ask them if there is anything that they wish you would do that you haven't been doing. This will keep both parties happy.\\nLet them know if you are in a bad mood and need to be alone. For example, if you are annoyed because you had a bad day at work, then tell them that rather than taking out your frustration on them. This will prevent them from thinking you are mad at them or have lost interest in the relationship.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't cheat on your partner.\", \"描述\": \"Even if they find out and forgive you, it will be much harder for them to trust you in the future, which will undoubtedly lead to trouble down the road. Remember why you decided to be with them in the first place, and resist the temptation to chase after others.\\nIf you find yourself constantly tempted to cheat, then you might want to reevaluate your relationship. Everybody's mind wanders every now and then, but constantly lusting after other people is a sign that something is wrong. Figure out whether you are really ready for a monogamous relationship with this person.\\nIf you do cheat, then tell your partner. For some people, the lying aspect is even worse than the cheating aspect. Find the right time and place to let them know gently, and apologize for your mistake. While this may be difficult, covering up an infidelity will undoubtedly drive a wedge in your relationship, especially if they find out from somebody else down the road.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be genuine.\", \"描述\": \"Don't do or say things to your partner just to make them happy if you don't mean them. This may please them temporarily, but it will ultimately cause trouble in the relationship because you are not being totally honest.\\nDon't make promises that you can't keep. Give the relationship time to grow, and only make commitments that you feel comfortable with. If you think it's too soon for them to meet your family, then don't invite them over for Thanksgiving dinner. While relationships require a healthy balance, constantly compromising your own happiness for theirs will only lead you to resent them in the future.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Express your feelings.\", \"描述\": \"Don't be afraid of letting your partner know how wonderful you think they are! This will make them feel special and loved.\\nBe sweet, but don't smother. Try to compliment your partner and give them the attention they deserve without getting too controlling, obsessive, or needy.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Know how to talk.\", \"描述\": \"Give your partner your undivided attention, especially when having a serious conversation. It is not only respectful, but it will show them that you care about what they are saying.\\nKeep the conversation balanced. Don't be overly talkative or overly quiet. If you are overly talkative, your partner will feel like you care more about yourself than you do about them. If you are overly quiet, they might get bored with you or think that you have lost interest in them.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Keeping the Magic Alive\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make romantic gestures.\", \"描述\": \"Whether it is surprising them by cooking their favorite dinner or sending them flowers at work, small gestures like these show your partner that they are on your mind and that you care for them.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Compliment them.\", \"描述\": \"Everyone needs to be reminded of how attractive, smart, funny, or interesting they are. Don't stop complimenting them just because you have \\\"won them over\\\" and are already in a committed relationship. Do it because you mean it, and because it will make them feel more confident and loved.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be open about sex.\", \"描述\": \"Maintaining a healthy sex life will help keep the relationship alive. If you are worried that the sex is getting boring or that your partner is unsatisfied with the sex, then maturely bring up the subject together.\\nWhile this may feel awkward or difficult at first, it will be well worth it in the long run if it improves your sex life!\\nWait for the appropriate moment. Don't bring up the issue in public, in front of other people, or in a joking manner. Joking about the topic might make your partner feel embarrassed or insecure.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Dealing with Difficult Patches\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn to know when something is wrong.\", \"描述\": \"The following are signs that your relationship is suffering:\\nYou are fighting more than usual.\\nThey haven't contacted you in several days.\\nEither one of you has totally lost interest in sex. (Remember that this could be due to a variety of factors, like a death in the family, personal insecurities, or excess stress).\\nThey continuously cancel plans without suggesting a different date.\\nOne of you has been dating/sleeping with somebody else.\\nOne of you suggests a \\\"break.\\\" No matter what either of you says, a break is usually just a segue into an official break-up.\\nEither one of you has become physically abusive.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Talk about the issue with your partner.\", \"描述\": \"The only way to fix a problem in any relationship is for both parties to first be made aware of the issue. Remember that sometimes people are totally unaware of their own behavior.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Reach a compromise.\", \"描述\": \"Once you have talked about the issue at hand and have both voiced your views and opinions, come to an agreement about what to do next. Come up with something that both parties can get on board with and feel comfortable with.\\nIf you can't reach an agreement, then consider couples therapy. Getting the opinion of a third party will help put things in perspective and allow you to rationally sort of the issue from an objective standpoint.\\nKnow when the relationship can't be fixed. If you or your partner are chronically unhappy in the relationship, then don't force things. Making healthy compromises to keep a relationship alive is one thing, but making yourself miserable to maintain the status quo will not do either of you any good.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be patient.\", \"描述\": \"Some issues just need a little time to blow over. If you recently had a big fight, give each other space for a day or two. Chances are that the issue will resolve itself, and being apart will remind you both how much you care for one another.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Be patient during rough patches. 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How to Be a Better Center Back in Field Hockey
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1. Positioning Yourself on the Field
1-1. Place yourself on the line-to-goal.
That is, if you were to draw a straight line from where the ball is on the field to where the goal is that you are defending, you should be positioned right on that line. This prevents the other team from hitting the ball straight down the field toward the goal. Ensure that your back is aligned with your goal.
Protecting the goal and the center of the field is your first priority. You want to force them to play the ball on the sides of the field, where it's less dangerous.
1-2. Don't get too spread out from your midfield line.
When your team has the ball higher up the field (i.e. near the goal you are trying to score on), don't get stuck too far back. Keep pushing up to support the midfielders and forwards.
When the other team regains possession, start backpedaling to retreat toward your own goal. Running backwards allows you to keep your eye on the ball at all times.
Make sure you also don't push too far up in case the other team has a counterattack and you have to sprint back down the entire length of the field. You should never be much farther than the 50 yard line.
1-3. Adjust your position (along with the rest of the defensive line) using the teeter-totter method.
The center back, right back, and left back should be readjusting as a unit according to where the ball is moving on the field. They should staggered on a diagonal line so as to not be caught in a flat line and risk being beat simultaneously.
For example, when an opponent is dribbling down the field on your right side, the right defender (closest to the ball) will step up to put pressure on that player. The center defender will remain in the center of the field but will be a few steps behind the line of the right defender. The left defender (furthest from the ball) will be staggered even further behind the center defender.
If the ball moves from one side to the other, the whole defensive line moves like a teeter totter. This allows for the other two defenders behind to be back-up support in case the first defender gets beat.
1-4. Always be ready on defense.
Even if the action is far away and you feel like you have nothing to do defensively, you should always be checked into the game and adjusting your position, both laterally and vertically. That way, if something unexpected happens and the other team has a counterattack, you are already in position and ready to defend.
1-5. Maintain a “bowl” shape with your other defenders when your team has the ball.
You should be the closest to the goal you are defending (or the “deepest” on the field), with your left and right defenders at about 45 degree angles on either side of you.
This allows you to pass to them easily and move the ball up the field along the sidelines.
When your side defenders have the ball, you being on a slightly backwards angle helps them to safely pass back to you and away from danger in case they can't go forward.
2. Marking
2-1. Know your marking strategy.
Marking helps protect your defensive zone of the field by covering space or opposing players to keeping them from scoring. The two main types of marking techniques are zone and man-to-man, and many teams use a mix of both depending on the situation.
Zone marking means a player is responsible for the space around them. For example, the right back is responsible for the back right corner of the field. Any opposing player who enters that space is their responsibility. This marking strategy is best when gameplay is spread out and opponents are interchanging positions, so that you can simply “switch” marks with your teammates instead of chasing them down the field.
Man-to-man marking means each player chooses an opponent to mark and always sticks with them, no matter where they go on the field. A useful trick is to memorize the number on your mark's jersey so that you never lose her. This marking strategy is best when gameplay is past-paced and confined near the goal you are defending because it limits confusion on who is marking whom amidst potential chaos. Every single opponent who enters your defensive circle surrounding the goal should be closely marked at all times.
Marking is not just for defenders. Make it clear to your team (especially the midfielders) that they should be helping out with marking as well. Even your forwards should be sprinting back during a counterattack.
2-2. Place yourself on the correct side of your mark according to the situation.
Sometimes it is best to step in front of your mark to block her from receiving a pass and intercept it yourself. Other times it is better to stay close behind your mark (in between her and the goal) so that even if she receives the ball she cannot go straight to goal.
Deciding the best way to position yourself while marking should come naturally as you assess each scenario. When in doubt, ask your coach for advice.
2-3. Communicate to your teammates about who they should be marking.
Since you can see what is happening on the entire field front of you, your role as a center back is to make sure all “dangerous” attacking players on the opposing team are marked.
In a clear, loud voice, direct your teammates in front of you on where to position themselves and tell them to mark up if they are not doing so already.
You can say something like, “Hey Sarah, mark #5!” or give them more directional instructions like, “Watch #13 behind your left shoulder!” to give them an idea of where their marks are.
3. Getting the Ball from an Opposing Player
3-1. Force or channel them to one side of the field.
An important defensive principle in field hockey is to minimize the opposing player's space by guiding them away from your goal and the center of the field. When someone is dribbling toward you, always force them toward the sidelines.
Since you are the center back, you have an option of which side you want to force them to. It is better to force them to your right side because that is your “strong side” of your stick. Note the left side players do not want to take this approach and instead want to force them to their left side, toward the sideline.
Position your body slightly to the left so that your shoulders are open toward the right. “Invite” them to dribble toward your strong side. Use the sideline or another defender to help you trap them into a small space.
If you are running neck-and-neck with your opponent who is dribbling the ball, keep forcing her to one side. This is called shadowing her down the field. Try as hard as you can to keep running at the same speed as her and keep her from cutting you off. One of your other teammates will likely come to your help and you can double-team her together.
3-2. Jab at the ball.
Jabbing is when you quickly poke at the ball with your stick when your opponent is dribbling to make them mess up or lose the ball.
Be sure you are not too close to your opponent. Position yourself about a stick-length away from her.
Reposition your grip on the stick as if you were holding a frying pan with your left hand. In one fluid motion, release your right hand from the stick and extend your left arm (holding to stick) while simultaneously lunging toward the ball so that the toe of your stick hits the ball.
Quickly retrieve your stick with both hands. A jab only lasts a second or two - don't let your stick linger near the ball. You can perform a few quick jabs in a row if you weren't successful the first time.
The point of jabbing is not necessarily to gain possession of the ball, but to distract and mess up the player with the ball in order to set yourself up for a more successful tackle.
3-3. Tackle to get the ball from your opponent.
Now that you've distracted or messed up your opponents with a few jabs, you are ready to lay down a tackle.
The best way to tackle is to lie your stick flat on the ground on your right side, crouching down so that you are in a strong, athletic stance. Keep your hands far apart on your stick for stability.
Collect the ball on your stick and push through until you have regained possession. Be sure not to “hack” or continuously swing/hit at the ball with your stick. This will be a foul called against you.
Do not dive into tackles, as it makes it easier for the opposition to beat you. Time your tackles only when you know you have a good chance of coming up with the ball, once you have already put significant pressure on your opponent. Do not tackle if your opponent is coming towards you with a lot of speed and space.
3-4. Double-team your opponent.
Of course, the best defense is team defense. You and another teammate can work together so that one person is putting pressure and forcing the opponent toward a space where the other person is waiting there to tackle.
Communication is key when double-teaming. If you are the tackler, guide your teammate ahead of you on where they should force the opponent by saying things like “Stay with her, force her right!”
4. Initiating Offensive Plays as a Defender
4-1. Clear the ball out to the sides when you come up with it.
If you make a tackle and regain possession of the ball, avoid passing the ball down the middle of the field. This can be very dangerous, because if they are intercepted, it could lead to a fast counterattack.
If your left and right defenders are correctly positioned, they should be ready to receive the ball from you on the sidelines. You may even have a side midfielder open further up the field to pass to.
If you cannot find a sideline teammate to pass to and you find yourself under a lot of pressure, hit the ball over the sideline anyways. This is the safest option. Even though it will be the other team's free hit, at least it will buy your team time to set up to defend.
The only time you should hit the ball up the center of the field is if you have a wide open channel and an open teammate to pass to, with no risk of your pass being intercepted.
Never intentionally hit the ball over your back endline. This will be called as a foul against you, resulting in a short corner, a set play in which the offensive team has a very strong chance of scoring.
4-2. Pass more than you dribble.
As a center defender, your role is to be a distributor, not a dribbler. Never go sprinting up the field with the ball, because if you get it taken away you leave your team in trouble by being out of position on defense.
Make sure your passes are hard so that they go fast and far up the field. You want to clear it as far as you can away from your defensive zone. Also make sure they are flat to the ground, as high balls will be called as a foul.
4-3. Take 16 yard hits.
As the center back, you will usually taking free hits at the top of the circle (16 yards from the endline) after the ball has gone over the endline off of the stick of an opposing player. This is like the equivalent of a “goal kick” in soccer.
16 yard hits are a new opportunity to generate offensive plays from the back. Pass the ball mainly to your side defenders on the left and right of you using a hit, sweep, or a strong push. Then they can send it up the field.
Occasionally, you can feed the ball up to your midfielders, and on rare occasions, you may be able to pass the ball all the way up to your forwards using a strong hit or aerial (a very high pass in the air). Be cautious, however, and only use these longer passes when your teammates are wide open.
4-4. Be the pivot player on transfers.
Sometimes when you watch high-level field hockey, you will notice the ball being passed across from the left back to the center back to the right back, or vice versa. This is called a transfer because the ball is being transferred from one side of the field to another. As the deepest player on this transfer, you are the “pivot” player.
Transfers can happen just once or multiple times in a row. One transfer from the left to right, for example, gives your team a chance to attack from a different angle. Multiple transfers in a row allow your teammates upfield time to reset and find open spaces, and also tire out the opposing team's forwards.
Keep passing the ball across to the other side using a strong hit or push. If you receive it from your right back, you will likely turn your body and pass it over to your left back.
Once your teammates up the field become open, only then should you or your other defenders hit it up to them. When transferring the ball, patience is key.
Tips
Never let the ball touch your feet. This is a foul in the game of field hockey.
Constantly communicate with your teammates; you should be the loudest voice on the field. Make sure everyone is marked up in front of you. You have the eye to see if there is anyone on the opposing team dangerously running around unmarked.
Also be in constant communication with your goalkeeper behind you, and listen out for any instructions she gives you, especially when the action is close you the goal you are defending.
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Running backwards allows you to keep your eye on the ball at all times.\\nMake sure you also don't push too far up in case the other team has a counterattack and you have to sprint back down the entire length of the field. You should never be much farther than the 50 yard line.\\n1-3. Adjust your position (along with the rest of the defensive line) using the teeter-totter method.\\nThe center back, right back, and left back should be readjusting as a unit according to where the ball is moving on the field. They should staggered on a diagonal line so as to not be caught in a flat line and risk being beat simultaneously.\\nFor example, when an opponent is dribbling down the field on your right side, the right defender (closest to the ball) will step up to put pressure on that player. The center defender will remain in the center of the field but will be a few steps behind the line of the right defender. The left defender (furthest from the ball) will be staggered even further behind the center defender.\\nIf the ball moves from one side to the other, the whole defensive line moves like a teeter totter. This allows for the other two defenders behind to be back-up support in case the first defender gets beat.\\n1-4. Always be ready on defense.\\nEven if the action is far away and you feel like you have nothing to do defensively, you should always be checked into the game and adjusting your position, both laterally and vertically. That way, if something unexpected happens and the other team has a counterattack, you are already in position and ready to defend.\\n1-5. Maintain a “bowl” shape with your other defenders when your team has the ball.\\nYou should be the closest to the goal you are defending (or the “deepest” on the field), with your left and right defenders at about 45 degree angles on either side of you.\\nThis allows you to pass to them easily and move the ball up the field along the sidelines.\\nWhen your side defenders have the ball, you being on a slightly backwards angle helps them to safely pass back to you and away from danger in case they can't go forward.\\n2. Marking\\n2-1. Know your marking strategy.\\nMarking helps protect your defensive zone of the field by covering space or opposing players to keeping them from scoring. The two main types of marking techniques are zone and man-to-man, and many teams use a mix of both depending on the situation.\\nZone marking means a player is responsible for the space around them. For example, the right back is responsible for the back right corner of the field. Any opposing player who enters that space is their responsibility. This marking strategy is best when gameplay is spread out and opponents are interchanging positions, so that you can simply “switch” marks with your teammates instead of chasing them down the field.\\nMan-to-man marking means each player chooses an opponent to mark and always sticks with them, no matter where they go on the field. A useful trick is to memorize the number on your mark's jersey so that you never lose her. This marking strategy is best when gameplay is past-paced and confined near the goal you are defending because it limits confusion on who is marking whom amidst potential chaos. Every single opponent who enters your defensive circle surrounding the goal should be closely marked at all times.\\nMarking is not just for defenders. Make it clear to your team (especially the midfielders) that they should be helping out with marking as well. Even your forwards should be sprinting back during a counterattack.\\n2-2. Place yourself on the correct side of your mark according to the situation.\\nSometimes it is best to step in front of your mark to block her from receiving a pass and intercept it yourself. Other times it is better to stay close behind your mark (in between her and the goal) so that even if she receives the ball she cannot go straight to goal.\\nDeciding the best way to position yourself while marking should come naturally as you assess each scenario. When in doubt, ask your coach for advice.\\n2-3. Communicate to your teammates about who they should be marking.\\nSince you can see what is happening on the entire field front of you, your role as a center back is to make sure all “dangerous” attacking players on the opposing team are marked.\\nIn a clear, loud voice, direct your teammates in front of you on where to position themselves and tell them to mark up if they are not doing so already.\\nYou can say something like, “Hey Sarah, mark #5!” or give them more directional instructions like, “Watch #13 behind your left shoulder!” to give them an idea of where their marks are.\\n3. Getting the Ball from an Opposing Player\\n3-1. Force or channel them to one side of the field.\\nAn important defensive principle in field hockey is to minimize the opposing player's space by guiding them away from your goal and the center of the field. When someone is dribbling toward you, always force them toward the sidelines.\\nSince you are the center back, you have an option of which side you want to force them to. It is better to force them to your right side because that is your “strong side” of your stick. Note the left side players do not want to take this approach and instead want to force them to their left side, toward the sideline.\\nPosition your body slightly to the left so that your shoulders are open toward the right. “Invite” them to dribble toward your strong side. Use the sideline or another defender to help you trap them into a small space.\\nIf you are running neck-and-neck with your opponent who is dribbling the ball, keep forcing her to one side. This is called shadowing her down the field. Try as hard as you can to keep running at the same speed as her and keep her from cutting you off. One of your other teammates will likely come to your help and you can double-team her together.\\n3-2. Jab at the ball.\\nJabbing is when you quickly poke at the ball with your stick when your opponent is dribbling to make them mess up or lose the ball.\\nBe sure you are not too close to your opponent. Position yourself about a stick-length away from her.\\nReposition your grip on the stick as if you were holding a frying pan with your left hand. In one fluid motion, release your right hand from the stick and extend your left arm (holding to stick) while simultaneously lunging toward the ball so that the toe of your stick hits the ball.\\nQuickly retrieve your stick with both hands. A jab only lasts a second or two - don't let your stick linger near the ball. You can perform a few quick jabs in a row if you weren't successful the first time.\\nThe point of jabbing is not necessarily to gain possession of the ball, but to distract and mess up the player with the ball in order to set yourself up for a more successful tackle.\\n3-3. Tackle to get the ball from your opponent.\\nNow that you've distracted or messed up your opponents with a few jabs, you are ready to lay down a tackle.\\nThe best way to tackle is to lie your stick flat on the ground on your right side, crouching down so that you are in a strong, athletic stance. Keep your hands far apart on your stick for stability.\\nCollect the ball on your stick and push through until you have regained possession. Be sure not to “hack” or continuously swing/hit at the ball with your stick. This will be a foul called against you.\\nDo not dive into tackles, as it makes it easier for the opposition to beat you. Time your tackles only when you know you have a good chance of coming up with the ball, once you have already put significant pressure on your opponent. Do not tackle if your opponent is coming towards you with a lot of speed and space.\\n3-4. Double-team your opponent.\\nOf course, the best defense is team defense. You and another teammate can work together so that one person is putting pressure and forcing the opponent toward a space where the other person is waiting there to tackle.\\nCommunication is key when double-teaming. If you are the tackler, guide your teammate ahead of you on where they should force the opponent by saying things like “Stay with her, force her right!”\\n4. Initiating Offensive Plays as a Defender\\n4-1. Clear the ball out to the sides when you come up with it.\\nIf you make a tackle and regain possession of the ball, avoid passing the ball down the middle of the field. This can be very dangerous, because if they are intercepted, it could lead to a fast counterattack.\\nIf your left and right defenders are correctly positioned, they should be ready to receive the ball from you on the sidelines. You may even have a side midfielder open further up the field to pass to.\\nIf you cannot find a sideline teammate to pass to and you find yourself under a lot of pressure, hit the ball over the sideline anyways. This is the safest option. Even though it will be the other team's free hit, at least it will buy your team time to set up to defend.\\nThe only time you should hit the ball up the center of the field is if you have a wide open channel and an open teammate to pass to, with no risk of your pass being intercepted.\\nNever intentionally hit the ball over your back endline. This will be called as a foul against you, resulting in a short corner, a set play in which the offensive team has a very strong chance of scoring.\\n4-2. Pass more than you dribble.\\nAs a center defender, your role is to be a distributor, not a dribbler. Never go sprinting up the field with the ball, because if you get it taken away you leave your team in trouble by being out of position on defense.\\nMake sure your passes are hard so that they go fast and far up the field. You want to clear it as far as you can away from your defensive zone. Also make sure they are flat to the ground, as high balls will be called as a foul.\\n4-3. Take 16 yard hits.\\nAs the center back, you will usually taking free hits at the top of the circle (16 yards from the endline) after the ball has gone over the endline off of the stick of an opposing player. This is like the equivalent of a “goal kick” in soccer.\\n16 yard hits are a new opportunity to generate offensive plays from the back. Pass the ball mainly to your side defenders on the left and right of you using a hit, sweep, or a strong push. Then they can send it up the field.\\nOccasionally, you can feed the ball up to your midfielders, and on rare occasions, you may be able to pass the ball all the way up to your forwards using a strong hit or aerial (a very high pass in the air). Be cautious, however, and only use these longer passes when your teammates are wide open.\\n4-4. Be the pivot player on transfers.\\nSometimes when you watch high-level field hockey, you will notice the ball being passed across from the left back to the center back to the right back, or vice versa. This is called a transfer because the ball is being transferred from one side of the field to another. As the deepest player on this transfer, you are the “pivot” player.\\nTransfers can happen just once or multiple times in a row. One transfer from the left to right, for example, gives your team a chance to attack from a different angle. Multiple transfers in a row allow your teammates upfield time to reset and find open spaces, and also tire out the opposing team's forwards.\\nKeep passing the ball across to the other side using a strong hit or push. If you receive it from your right back, you will likely turn your body and pass it over to your left back.\\nOnce your teammates up the field become open, only then should you or your other defenders hit it up to them. When transferring the ball, patience is key.\\nTips\\nNever let the ball touch your feet. This is a foul in the game of field hockey.\\nConstantly communicate with your teammates; you should be the loudest voice on the field. Make sure everyone is marked up in front of you. You have the eye to see if there is anyone on the opposing team dangerously running around unmarked.\\nAlso be in constant communication with your goalkeeper behind you, and listen out for any instructions she gives you, especially when the action is close you the goal you are defending.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"As the last line of defense before the goalkeeper, center back is one of the most important positions in field hockey. Protecting your goal is the number one priority, and the best way to do this is to position yourself correctly, mark dangerous players, and put pressure on the opponent with the ball. The center back position benefits from having a complete view of the game and their teammates in front of them and therefore should be an excellent communicator to keep their team working as a unit. Being a great center back does not just mean playing strong defense - it also involves passing and distributing the ball to your midfielders and forwards up the field to generate offensive plays.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Positioning Yourself on the Field\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Place yourself on the line-to-goal.\", \"描述\": \"That is, if you were to draw a straight line from where the ball is on the field to where the goal is that you are defending, you should be positioned right on that line. This prevents the other team from hitting the ball straight down the field toward the goal. Ensure that your back is aligned with your goal.\\nProtecting the goal and the center of the field is your first priority. You want to force them to play the ball on the sides of the field, where it's less dangerous.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Don't get too spread out from your midfield line.\", \"描述\": \"When your team has the ball higher up the field (i.e. near the goal you are trying to score on), don't get stuck too far back. Keep pushing up to support the midfielders and forwards.\\nWhen the other team regains possession, start backpedaling to retreat toward your own goal. Running backwards allows you to keep your eye on the ball at all times.\\nMake sure you also don't push too far up in case the other team has a counterattack and you have to sprint back down the entire length of the field. You should never be much farther than the 50 yard line.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Adjust your position (along with the rest of the defensive line) using the teeter-totter method.\", \"描述\": \"The center back, right back, and left back should be readjusting as a unit according to where the ball is moving on the field. They should staggered on a diagonal line so as to not be caught in a flat line and risk being beat simultaneously.\\nFor example, when an opponent is dribbling down the field on your right side, the right defender (closest to the ball) will step up to put pressure on that player. The center defender will remain in the center of the field but will be a few steps behind the line of the right defender. The left defender (furthest from the ball) will be staggered even further behind the center defender.\\nIf the ball moves from one side to the other, the whole defensive line moves like a teeter totter. This allows for the other two defenders behind to be back-up support in case the first defender gets beat.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Always be ready on defense.\", \"描述\": \"Even if the action is far away and you feel like you have nothing to do defensively, you should always be checked into the game and adjusting your position, both laterally and vertically. That way, if something unexpected happens and the other team has a counterattack, you are already in position and ready to defend.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Maintain a “bowl” shape with your other defenders when your team has the ball.\", \"描述\": \"You should be the closest to the goal you are defending (or the “deepest” on the field), with your left and right defenders at about 45 degree angles on either side of you.\\nThis allows you to pass to them easily and move the ball up the field along the sidelines.\\nWhen your side defenders have the ball, you being on a slightly backwards angle helps them to safely pass back to you and away from danger in case they can't go forward.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Marking\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know your marking strategy.\", \"描述\": \"Marking helps protect your defensive zone of the field by covering space or opposing players to keeping them from scoring. The two main types of marking techniques are zone and man-to-man, and many teams use a mix of both depending on the situation.\\nZone marking means a player is responsible for the space around them. For example, the right back is responsible for the back right corner of the field. Any opposing player who enters that space is their responsibility. This marking strategy is best when gameplay is spread out and opponents are interchanging positions, so that you can simply “switch” marks with your teammates instead of chasing them down the field.\\nMan-to-man marking means each player chooses an opponent to mark and always sticks with them, no matter where they go on the field. A useful trick is to memorize the number on your mark's jersey so that you never lose her. This marking strategy is best when gameplay is past-paced and confined near the goal you are defending because it limits confusion on who is marking whom amidst potential chaos. Every single opponent who enters your defensive circle surrounding the goal should be closely marked at all times.\\nMarking is not just for defenders. Make it clear to your team (especially the midfielders) that they should be helping out with marking as well. Even your forwards should be sprinting back during a counterattack.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Place yourself on the correct side of your mark according to the situation.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes it is best to step in front of your mark to block her from receiving a pass and intercept it yourself. Other times it is better to stay close behind your mark (in between her and the goal) so that even if she receives the ball she cannot go straight to goal.\\nDeciding the best way to position yourself while marking should come naturally as you assess each scenario. When in doubt, ask your coach for advice.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Communicate to your teammates about who they should be marking.\", \"描述\": \"Since you can see what is happening on the entire field front of you, your role as a center back is to make sure all “dangerous” attacking players on the opposing team are marked.\\nIn a clear, loud voice, direct your teammates in front of you on where to position themselves and tell them to mark up if they are not doing so already.\\nYou can say something like, “Hey Sarah, mark #5!” or give them more directional instructions like, “Watch #13 behind your left shoulder!” to give them an idea of where their marks are.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Getting the Ball from an Opposing Player\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Force or channel them to one side of the field.\", \"描述\": \"An important defensive principle in field hockey is to minimize the opposing player's space by guiding them away from your goal and the center of the field. When someone is dribbling toward you, always force them toward the sidelines.\\nSince you are the center back, you have an option of which side you want to force them to. It is better to force them to your right side because that is your “strong side” of your stick. Note the left side players do not want to take this approach and instead want to force them to their left side, toward the sideline.\\nPosition your body slightly to the left so that your shoulders are open toward the right. “Invite” them to dribble toward your strong side. Use the sideline or another defender to help you trap them into a small space.\\nIf you are running neck-and-neck with your opponent who is dribbling the ball, keep forcing her to one side. This is called shadowing her down the field. Try as hard as you can to keep running at the same speed as her and keep her from cutting you off. One of your other teammates will likely come to your help and you can double-team her together.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Jab at the ball.\", \"描述\": \"Jabbing is when you quickly poke at the ball with your stick when your opponent is dribbling to make them mess up or lose the ball.\\nBe sure you are not too close to your opponent. Position yourself about a stick-length away from her.\\nReposition your grip on the stick as if you were holding a frying pan with your left hand. In one fluid motion, release your right hand from the stick and extend your left arm (holding to stick) while simultaneously lunging toward the ball so that the toe of your stick hits the ball.\\nQuickly retrieve your stick with both hands. A jab only lasts a second or two - don't let your stick linger near the ball. You can perform a few quick jabs in a row if you weren't successful the first time.\\nThe point of jabbing is not necessarily to gain possession of the ball, but to distract and mess up the player with the ball in order to set yourself up for a more successful tackle.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Tackle to get the ball from your opponent.\", \"描述\": \"Now that you've distracted or messed up your opponents with a few jabs, you are ready to lay down a tackle.\\nThe best way to tackle is to lie your stick flat on the ground on your right side, crouching down so that you are in a strong, athletic stance. Keep your hands far apart on your stick for stability.\\nCollect the ball on your stick and push through until you have regained possession. Be sure not to “hack” or continuously swing/hit at the ball with your stick. This will be a foul called against you.\\nDo not dive into tackles, as it makes it easier for the opposition to beat you. Time your tackles only when you know you have a good chance of coming up with the ball, once you have already put significant pressure on your opponent. Do not tackle if your opponent is coming towards you with a lot of speed and space.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Double-team your opponent.\", \"描述\": \"Of course, the best defense is team defense. You and another teammate can work together so that one person is putting pressure and forcing the opponent toward a space where the other person is waiting there to tackle.\\nCommunication is key when double-teaming. If you are the tackler, guide your teammate ahead of you on where they should force the opponent by saying things like “Stay with her, force her right!”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Initiating Offensive Plays as a Defender\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Clear the ball out to the sides when you come up with it.\", \"描述\": \"If you make a tackle and regain possession of the ball, avoid passing the ball down the middle of the field. This can be very dangerous, because if they are intercepted, it could lead to a fast counterattack.\\nIf your left and right defenders are correctly positioned, they should be ready to receive the ball from you on the sidelines. You may even have a side midfielder open further up the field to pass to.\\nIf you cannot find a sideline teammate to pass to and you find yourself under a lot of pressure, hit the ball over the sideline anyways. This is the safest option. Even though it will be the other team's free hit, at least it will buy your team time to set up to defend.\\nThe only time you should hit the ball up the center of the field is if you have a wide open channel and an open teammate to pass to, with no risk of your pass being intercepted.\\nNever intentionally hit the ball over your back endline. This will be called as a foul against you, resulting in a short corner, a set play in which the offensive team has a very strong chance of scoring.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pass more than you dribble.\", \"描述\": \"As a center defender, your role is to be a distributor, not a dribbler. Never go sprinting up the field with the ball, because if you get it taken away you leave your team in trouble by being out of position on defense.\\nMake sure your passes are hard so that they go fast and far up the field. You want to clear it as far as you can away from your defensive zone. Also make sure they are flat to the ground, as high balls will be called as a foul.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Take 16 yard hits.\", \"描述\": \"As the center back, you will usually taking free hits at the top of the circle (16 yards from the endline) after the ball has gone over the endline off of the stick of an opposing player. This is like the equivalent of a “goal kick” in soccer.\\n16 yard hits are a new opportunity to generate offensive plays from the back. Pass the ball mainly to your side defenders on the left and right of you using a hit, sweep, or a strong push. Then they can send it up the field.\\nOccasionally, you can feed the ball up to your midfielders, and on rare occasions, you may be able to pass the ball all the way up to your forwards using a strong hit or aerial (a very high pass in the air). Be cautious, however, and only use these longer passes when your teammates are wide open.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be the pivot player on transfers.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes when you watch high-level field hockey, you will notice the ball being passed across from the left back to the center back to the right back, or vice versa. This is called a transfer because the ball is being transferred from one side of the field to another. As the deepest player on this transfer, you are the “pivot” player.\\nTransfers can happen just once or multiple times in a row. One transfer from the left to right, for example, gives your team a chance to attack from a different angle. Multiple transfers in a row allow your teammates upfield time to reset and find open spaces, and also tire out the opposing team's forwards.\\nKeep passing the ball across to the other side using a strong hit or push. If you receive it from your right back, you will likely turn your body and pass it over to your left back.\\nOnce your teammates up the field become open, only then should you or your other defenders hit it up to them. When transferring the ball, patience is key.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Never let the ball touch your feet. This is a foul in the game of field hockey.\\n\", \"Constantly communicate with your teammates; you should be the loudest voice on the field. Make sure everyone is marked up in front of you. You have the eye to see if there is anyone on the opposing team dangerously running around unmarked.\\n\", \"Also be in constant communication with your goalkeeper behind you, and listen out for any instructions she gives you, especially when the action is close you the goal you are defending.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Performance and Physicality
1-1. Stretch!
Whatever stretches your coach has you do at the beginning of practice, do at home 1-2 times per day (splits, etc..) If you are a flyer, stretch your scorpion and heel stretch/bow and arrow. Over time, you will see a huge improvement!
1-2. Improve your basics!
Handstands, bridges, back handsprings, and back bends will help you with more difficult tumbling. It's true!
Learn how to fall the right way. Believe it or not, there is a right way of falling! If you're falling backwards, don't just freak out or twist; just do a safety roll, which is just almost doing a backwards roll, but not rolling and just stopping with your hands above your head. If you're falling forwards, tuck your chin in, extend your arms above your head, and roll.
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1-3. Improve your jumps.
Remember to keep tight and squeeze your body the entire time. If you're sloppy, you can get hurt. A good way to improve your jumps is to practice the position of the jump you want to become better at when you're just sitting down watching TV or on the computer.
For further improvement, buy a pair of ankle weights (about 1 to 2 pounds each is good). While wearing them, do "leg lifts" - sit in a straddle, put your hands in front of you, and lift your right leg 10 times without letting it touch the ground in between each lift. Do the same with your left leg, and then with both legs at the same time. It's important that you keep your hands in front of you and don't let your legs touch the ground in between each lift. Do this every day and your jumps will be much better!
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1-4. Take tumbling.
Tumbling is extremely beneficial to an aspiring cheerleader. A couple of benefits of tumbling are learning how to have better tumbling passes, helping with jumps, and needed exercise.
1-5. Work on your arm motions.
When cheering, your motions should be sharp, not wild and uncontrolled. Shoot your arm motions, and make sure your arms aren't sloppy. Squeeze your arms at all times.
1-6. Work out every day!
Being strong will help your tumbling, jumps, stunts, and everything else.
Practice makes permanent, so even when you practice, fix every possible mistake.
1-7. Buy equipment to practice at home (don't do anything too dangerous, though).
If you're working on back handsprings, barrels will really help.
2. Attitude and Appearance
2-1. Pay attention to your appearance.
If you don't take yourself seriously and look like a mess, why should other people take you seriously? Wear clothes that fit you, not ones that are too tight or too baggy. The best choice for cheer clothes are soft shorts and a T-shirt or tank top.
Wear your hair up - ponytails are ideal. Not only does it look pretty, but it also keeps the hair out of your face while cheering.
Never wear jewelry! It can get caught, snagged or ripped, and that hurts.
2-2. Be loud!
Don't be afraid to yell! However, don't start screaming. You will stand out to the coach if they can hear you over everyone else. Remember to shout loudly and say the words clearly.
2-3. Have confidence.
If you don't make it the first time, keep practicing and trying. If you do make it, then don't think, "Gee, I'm the best." Obviously you have skill if you've made the team, but no one (including the coaches) will want to deal with that kind of attitude, and it can affect you next tryout season.
2-4. Be Positive
Always have a positive attitude! Always believe in yourself. If you believe in yourself, you will succeed!
2-5. Don't let your personal life interfere.
2-6. Never, ever give up!
2-7. If you want to work on one specific skill, take private lessons.
2-8. Try your best, even at your practice.
You perform what you practice, and if you practice not trying, or saying it's too hard, you won't perform as well. As as long as you can say "I gave 100%," your coach will be happy.
2-9. Be kind.
This step is another important one. When you watch movies, you may see cheerleaders being stuck up and rude but in reality, that's not how a cheerleader should be. If you're an awesome cheerleader, you will have respect for yourself and others. Don't pick on the new guy or people lower than you. That`s not cool even though your friends do it. A cheerleader is nice to everyone, and being nice means being nice to your team members too.Ask questions, ask your coach for things they are looking for also ask for previous routines and tapes.
2-10. Befriend a former cheerleader.
Ask someone who's been on the team in previous years, preferably Varsity cheerleaders with more experience.
Tips
Stretch, workout and keep a healthy diet.
If you're in a competition and make a mistake, pretend that was supposed to happen.
Always be cooperative with your team. Even if they have a really bad idea just smile and go with it or say politely say "that's a good idea, want to hear my idea?"
Warnings
Acting like a snob can cause you to be very unpopular among the rest of the school. Just remember that being on the cheerleading team doesn't make you better than everyone else, it just means you're good at cheering.
While in a stunt, if the flyer begins to fall and you're a base, don't move out to avoid getting hit. Move in closer to the other base, and attempt to grab your flyer before she hits the ground. While the flyer is important, your safety is important too. If you are about to have someone fall on your head, just try to catch them or warn your other cheerleaders before they do. This way, no one will get majorly hurt.
Don't work your muscles too much because that can cause injury and you won't be able to cheer.
Stay in time with the rest of your teammates. Keep counting in your else, and use your peripherals to see what part everyone else is on.
Don't spread any rumours about any other teammate during cheer-leading! It's just a major don't! People, even if they don't like the person you are talking about, will hate you, and it's just not a good thing to do!
Don't lie about missing a practice. Tell the truth about everything to your coaches, and if they are good people, they will understand!
When you do exercises, and your muscles start to burn, rest a bit then go back to exercising.
Don't be mean to other people in the school that aren't as popular as you.
Don't attempt any tumbling moves or advanced stunts unless you have a coach and mat or you have experience at them. Trying things before you are ready for them is what gets people hurt, and gives cheerleading a bad rep.
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Never, ever give up!\\n\\n2-7. If you want to work on one specific skill, take private lessons.\\n\\n2-8. Try your best, even at your practice.\\nYou perform what you practice, and if you practice not trying, or saying it's too hard, you won't perform as well. As as long as you can say \\\"I gave 100%,\\\" your coach will be happy.\\n2-9. Be kind.\\nThis step is another important one. When you watch movies, you may see cheerleaders being stuck up and rude but in reality, that's not how a cheerleader should be. If you're an awesome cheerleader, you will have respect for yourself and others. Don't pick on the new guy or people lower than you. That`s not cool even though your friends do it. A cheerleader is nice to everyone, and being nice means being nice to your team members too.Ask questions, ask your coach for things they are looking for also ask for previous routines and tapes.\\n2-10. Befriend a former cheerleader.\\nAsk someone who's been on the team in previous years, preferably Varsity cheerleaders with more experience.\\nTips\\nStretch, workout and keep a healthy diet.\\nIf you're in a competition and make a mistake, pretend that was supposed to happen.\\nAlways be cooperative with your team. Even if they have a really bad idea just smile and go with it or say politely say \\\"that's a good idea, want to hear my idea?\\\"\\nWarnings\\nActing like a snob can cause you to be very unpopular among the rest of the school. Just remember that being on the cheerleading team doesn't make you better than everyone else, it just means you're good at cheering.\\nWhile in a stunt, if the flyer begins to fall and you're a base, don't move out to avoid getting hit. Move in closer to the other base, and attempt to grab your flyer before she hits the ground. While the flyer is important, your safety is important too. If you are about to have someone fall on your head, just try to catch them or warn your other cheerleaders before they do. This way, no one will get majorly hurt.\\nDon't work your muscles too much because that can cause injury and you won't be able to cheer.\\nStay in time with the rest of your teammates. Keep counting in your else, and use your peripherals to see what part everyone else is on.\\nDon't spread any rumours about any other teammate during cheer-leading! It's just a major don't! People, even if they don't like the person you are talking about, will hate you, and it's just not a good thing to do!\\nDon't lie about missing a practice. Tell the truth about everything to your coaches, and if they are good people, they will understand!\\nWhen you do exercises, and your muscles start to burn, rest a bit then go back to exercising.\\nDon't be mean to other people in the school that aren't as popular as you.\\nDon't attempt any tumbling moves or advanced stunts unless you have a coach and mat or you have experience at them. Trying things before you are ready for them is what gets people hurt, and gives cheerleading a bad rep.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"What do you think when you think of a good cheerleader? Tight with motions? Can hold a stunt? Well, it's not just that. You need to be fit in 3 categories: mental/emotional health, social health, and physical health. Cheerleading isn't just all fun and games. If you're reading this article, you're here because you want to become a better cheerleader, because you're bored and have nothing else to do, or because you're not fit in all three categories. 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How to Be a Better Christian
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1. Improving Yourself
1-1. Read the Bible.
The Bible has all the answers and will always help you and give you advice on how to be a good Christian (a quick look at the Ten Commandments shows that). Also, most bookstores sell books that help you understand the scripture better, if you find the Bible a bit difficult to fully actualize – which happens to most of us!
Participating in Bible study groups can make this a fun, enjoyable activity that you stick with over the long-term. What’s more, you’ll make plenty of like-minded friends with whom you can share the word of God.
Jesus said in Matthew 24:35, "Heaven and earth shall pass away but My words shall not pass away." And by reading the Bible, you make sure His words live on.
1-2. Pray regularly.
It’s important to put God before everything, thanking Him for everything, too. Pray when you get up (and read the Bible), pray before you eat, and pray before you go to sleep (and read the Bible). Always keep Him with you, which is easiest done with prayer.
James 1:5 says that God wants to give you wisdom in abundance if you ask for it. Prayer can indeed be about anything, and regardless of what your prayer is about, God will answer you as He sees fit. Ask for advice, forgiveness, but also just drop in to say hello from time to time!
1-3. Always praise the Lord.
Be it through the way you talk to people or the way you are in the day-to-day, always praise the Lord. Let everybody see that God is present and within you. This means cultivating an aura of positivity and light, doing what He would do. Let Him live through you.
Part of this is up to interpretation. Does praising the Lord mean praying regularly to you? Singing? Talking about Him with others? All of these ideas are right! Praising him means living in His light – there's no wrong way to do it.
"This is the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad." Think about this: today is a day from the Lord – how uplifting and powerful is that? Realizing that makes it easier to turn every moment into a moment of praise.
1-4. Practice forgiveness – of others and yourself.
This is one of the hardest things for many of us – we read the scriptures, we go to church, we try to live as He would, but at the end of the day, we still play the blame game, even if that means we blame ourselves. To be closer to God, make a conscious effort toward forgiving yourself and forgiving others. We’re all trying to do our best!
Instead of acting out with anger or malice, turn the other cheek. When someone rubs you the wrong way, show them that you’re living in the light of Christ and taking the higher road. Forgive them for their sins as Jesus would do. Who knows? They may be inspired by your actions.
The next time you’re beating yourself up over the tiniest thing, remember how perfect you are to Him. He would hate to see you treating yourself that way! Instead, concentrate on doing better next time, focusing on the future and not the past.
Ephesians 4:32 says, "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you." When you're tempted otherwise, think of this simple yet beautiful sentiment.
1-5. Be modest and humble about your faith, even though it's beautiful.
Never brag how close you are to God. This will just turn people off from the Gospel and you'll miss your chance to witness to others. No one cares for arrogance – Jesus certainly never did. In the book of Peter, it says, "Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you." Remember: we are all his sons and daughters.
Unfortunately, some Christians come off as arrogant, assuming their faith is better than others’. Remember that Jesus preached that we are all sons and daughters of God, and that everyone should be loved equally. Keeping this in mind will make it easier to be humble in His image.
1-6. Try to participate in religious activities.
Youth groups or other get-togethers with people who share your faith can be a great thing to do to bring yourself closer to your religion.
2. Improving Your Community
2-1. Help the poor and destitute.
Whether this means donating clothes to your church’s next fundraiser or buying a sandwich for that homeless man you pass on the street every day, take action. Proverbs 19:17 says, “Whoever is generous to the poor lends to the Lord, and he will repay him for his deed.”
Virtually every community has individuals that need a helping hand. And if you're uncomfortable giving money, that's fine – do you have some old clothes you don't wear anymore? Could you bake a dish for a family you know, or give it to a homeless shelter? Could you make a craft to brighten someone's day? Money isn't the only route to happiness!
2-2. Spread His word.
Tell the world of His glory! A simple way to be a better Christian is to be proud of your faith and to talk of how wonderful it feels, being so loved. Do your part to better the world by spreading His message. Who knows, you could change a few people’s lives!
When you see people who are sick or in pain offer to pray for them and expect God to heal them
You don't have to do this directly (some people will not be receptive and view even the smallest comment as evangelizing); instead, you can attribute your happiness and success to the Lord. Simply embodying Him is spreading His power.
2-3. Be genuine about your religion.
Don’t put on a show on the outside that you think He would approve of, but that you don't truly feel on the inside. The opposite is true, too: don't put on a show on the outside to blend in, asking for forgiveness later. When your religion comes up, be open about it. You have nothing to be ashamed of!
Be genuine about your doubts, too. It’s only if you open up about them that others can reinforce your belief, making it ultimately stronger.
2-4. Donate to your church and to charity.
Give tithes to the church, as written in the Bible, for the betterment of those less fortunate that the church can help that one person alone may be unable to reach. This includes your time as well as your possessions. But other organizations would benefit from your time and money, too – so spread the love as much as you can!
In Corinthians it is said, “Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.” Don’t give tithes out of obligation – give them as a cheerful giver, knowing you're doing your part.
2-5. Go to church ‘’and’’ get involved.
In addition to going to church every Sunday, help out! Going through the motions is not what God intended. Sing in the choir, lector, or just be a greeter – any effort is appreciated. This will help you feel more devoted to your community, too.
Find out how you can help – there’s usually more help that needs to be done than there are hands. Do you have any special talents? Cooking? Playing the guitar? Sewing? Woodworking? Offer them up to your church. They’ll be able to make use of them somewhere!
2-6. Vote.
A great way to truly impact the world the way God wants is to vote according to your beliefs. Whether it’s for President or just a tiny neighborhood election, your vote matters, especially to Him. This way, you’re doing your part to better your community at large.
As the Bible is often subject to interpretation, think about what His words mean to you. If we are all sons and daughters of the Lord, what would be best for all of us, men and women, black and white, young and old?
3. Deepening Your Faith
3-1. Be creative in the name of God.
Going to church for an hour a week isn’t your “God time.” It’s 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. So take that time and do something with it where you can channel your energy and produce something in His name. Whether it’s a painting, a song, a story, or a dish, He’d be proud.
This "creative time" is good for you, too. It can help center you, relax you, and ultimately make you feel better about your situation. We all need to destress from time to time, and this may be the push you need to feel prepared to be a better Christian.
Proverbs 22:29 states, "Do you see a man skillful in his work? He will stand before kings; he will not stand before obscure men." Talk about an endorsement from the big guy upstairs!
3-2. Volunteer
The Bible heavily advocates helping your sisters and brothers – Hebrews 13:16 says it well: "Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God." And in today’s day and age, that’s easier than ever.
Volunteer at a soup kitchen, homeless shelter, or hospital. Work with neglected kids who need a mentor, organize your church’s next luncheon, or even walk a few dogs from the Humane Society! There are dozens of ways you can better your community in His name.
3-3. Visit ‘’other’’ churches.
This may sound a bit silly, but visiting other churches helps us understand other people, meet other Christians, and immerse ourselves in the Christian community, not just our one church. The more you learn about your faith, the stronger it'll be.
Experiment with other denominations, too. An orthodox Christian church could be a fascinating experience. However, don’t shy away from the other Abrahamic religions (Islam and Judaism) either – visiting a synagogue or mosque will also be a fruitful, enlightening experience. After all, we all share the same roots!
3-4. Study great Christians.
There is much to learn in the lives of those great Christians who lived before us. Do some research and pick out a few individuals with stories that speak to you. How can you have their faith and their resolve? How can you live as they would?
You've heard of Jesus, you've head of Martin Luther King, Jr., but have you heard of George Whitefield, Dwight Moody, or William Carey? There are so many individuals who have stories that we can learn from and be inspired by. And all it takes now is the press of a few buttons!
3-5. Keep a faith journal.
Devote a few minutes each day to your faith journal. You can talk about whatever you like – what you’re thankful for, what you’re thinking about that day, or what you’d like His guidance on. Just staying conscious of Him and His presence in your life is the goal.
As time goes on, flip back through the pages of your journal. You’ll likely be amazed at all the growth you’ve made!
Take it with you wherever you go – you may find a quiet moment where you feel particularly reflective and having it at your side will be handy to record how you feel right then and there.
Isaiah 40:8 – "The grass withers, the flower fades, but the word of our God will stand forever." This doesn't mean only the scripture, this can even be the word of God through you.
Tips
Jesus introduced the concept of giving and receiving by faith in Luke 6:38.
In today’s modern world, the idea of tithes and offerings to God in Christian finance has fallen by the wayside. Many are struggling financially, and the idea of relinquishing some of your financial wealth or possessions simply does not seem like a good financial sense. It is not about the Christian giving his own money to the Lord, but rather an act of returning it to the original owner.
Do more for other people than yourself.
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Always keep Him with you, which is easiest done with prayer.\\nJames 1:5 says that God wants to give you wisdom in abundance if you ask for it. Prayer can indeed be about anything, and regardless of what your prayer is about, God will answer you as He sees fit. Ask for advice, forgiveness, but also just drop in to say hello from time to time!\\n1-3. Always praise the Lord.\\nBe it through the way you talk to people or the way you are in the day-to-day, always praise the Lord. Let everybody see that God is present and within you. This means cultivating an aura of positivity and light, doing what He would do. Let Him live through you.\\nPart of this is up to interpretation. Does praising the Lord mean praying regularly to you? Singing? Talking about Him with others? All of these ideas are right! 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In the book of Peter, it says, \\\"Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you.\\\" Remember: we are all his sons and daughters.\\nUnfortunately, some Christians come off as arrogant, assuming their faith is better than others’. Remember that Jesus preached that we are all sons and daughters of God, and that everyone should be loved equally. Keeping this in mind will make it easier to be humble in His image.\\n1-6. Try to participate in religious activities.\\nYouth groups or other get-togethers with people who share your faith can be a great thing to do to bring yourself closer to your religion.\\n2. Improving Your Community\\n2-1. Help the poor and destitute.\\nWhether this means donating clothes to your church’s next fundraiser or buying a sandwich for that homeless man you pass on the street every day, take action. Proverbs 19:17 says, “Whoever is generous to the poor lends to the Lord, and he will repay him for his deed.”\\nVirtually every community has individuals that need a helping hand. And if you're uncomfortable giving money, that's fine – do you have some old clothes you don't wear anymore? Could you bake a dish for a family you know, or give it to a homeless shelter? Could you make a craft to brighten someone's day? Money isn't the only route to happiness!\\n2-2. Spread His word.\\nTell the world of His glory! A simple way to be a better Christian is to be proud of your faith and to talk of how wonderful it feels, being so loved. Do your part to better the world by spreading His message. Who knows, you could change a few people’s lives!\\nWhen you see people who are sick or in pain offer to pray for them and expect God to heal them\\nYou don't have to do this directly (some people will not be receptive and view even the smallest comment as evangelizing); instead, you can attribute your happiness and success to the Lord. Simply embodying Him is spreading His power.\\n2-3. Be genuine about your religion.\\nDon’t put on a show on the outside that you think He would approve of, but that you don't truly feel on the inside. The opposite is true, too: don't put on a show on the outside to blend in, asking for forgiveness later. When your religion comes up, be open about it. You have nothing to be ashamed of!\\nBe genuine about your doubts, too. It’s only if you open up about them that others can reinforce your belief, making it ultimately stronger.\\n2-4. Donate to your church and to charity.\\nGive tithes to the church, as written in the Bible, for the betterment of those less fortunate that the church can help that one person alone may be unable to reach. This includes your time as well as your possessions. But other organizations would benefit from your time and money, too – so spread the love as much as you can!\\nIn Corinthians it is said, “Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.” Don’t give tithes out of obligation – give them as a cheerful giver, knowing you're doing your part.\\n2-5. Go to church ‘’and’’ get involved.\\nIn addition to going to church every Sunday, help out! Going through the motions is not what God intended. Sing in the choir, lector, or just be a greeter – any effort is appreciated. This will help you feel more devoted to your community, too.\\nFind out how you can help – there’s usually more help that needs to be done than there are hands. Do you have any special talents? Cooking? Playing the guitar? Sewing? Woodworking? Offer them up to your church. They’ll be able to make use of them somewhere!\\n2-6. Vote.\\nA great way to truly impact the world the way God wants is to vote according to your beliefs. Whether it’s for President or just a tiny neighborhood election, your vote matters, especially to Him. This way, you’re doing your part to better your community at large.\\nAs the Bible is often subject to interpretation, think about what His words mean to you. If we are all sons and daughters of the Lord, what would be best for all of us, men and women, black and white, young and old?\\n3. Deepening Your Faith\\n3-1. Be creative in the name of God.\\nGoing to church for an hour a week isn’t your “God time.” It’s 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. So take that time and do something with it where you can channel your energy and produce something in His name. Whether it’s a painting, a song, a story, or a dish, He’d be proud.\\nThis \\\"creative time\\\" is good for you, too. It can help center you, relax you, and ultimately make you feel better about your situation. We all need to destress from time to time, and this may be the push you need to feel prepared to be a better Christian.\\nProverbs 22:29 states, \\\"Do you see a man skillful in his work? He will stand before kings; he will not stand before obscure men.\\\" Talk about an endorsement from the big guy upstairs!\\n3-2. Volunteer\\nThe Bible heavily advocates helping your sisters and brothers – Hebrews 13:16 says it well: \\\"Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God.\\\" And in today’s day and age, that’s easier than ever.\\nVolunteer at a soup kitchen, homeless shelter, or hospital. Work with neglected kids who need a mentor, organize your church’s next luncheon, or even walk a few dogs from the Humane Society! There are dozens of ways you can better your community in His name.\\n3-3. Visit ‘’other’’ churches.\\nThis may sound a bit silly, but visiting other churches helps us understand other people, meet other Christians, and immerse ourselves in the Christian community, not just our one church. The more you learn about your faith, the stronger it'll be.\\nExperiment with other denominations, too. An orthodox Christian church could be a fascinating experience. However, don’t shy away from the other Abrahamic religions (Islam and Judaism) either – visiting a synagogue or mosque will also be a fruitful, enlightening experience. After all, we all share the same roots!\\n3-4. Study great Christians.\\nThere is much to learn in the lives of those great Christians who lived before us. Do some research and pick out a few individuals with stories that speak to you. 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You’ll likely be amazed at all the growth you’ve made!\\nTake it with you wherever you go – you may find a quiet moment where you feel particularly reflective and having it at your side will be handy to record how you feel right then and there.\\nIsaiah 40:8 – \\\"The grass withers, the flower fades, but the word of our God will stand forever.\\\" This doesn't mean only the scripture, this can even be the word of God through you.\\nTips\\nJesus introduced the concept of giving and receiving by faith in Luke 6:38.\\nIn today’s modern world, the idea of tithes and offerings to God in Christian finance has fallen by the wayside. Many are struggling financially, and the idea of relinquishing some of your financial wealth or possessions simply does not seem like a good financial sense. 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Realizing that makes it easier to turn every moment into a moment of praise.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Practice forgiveness – of others and yourself.\", \"描述\": \"This is one of the hardest things for many of us – we read the scriptures, we go to church, we try to live as He would, but at the end of the day, we still play the blame game, even if that means we blame ourselves. To be closer to God, make a conscious effort toward forgiving yourself and forgiving others. We’re all trying to do our best!\\nInstead of acting out with anger or malice, turn the other cheek. When someone rubs you the wrong way, show them that you’re living in the light of Christ and taking the higher road. Forgive them for their sins as Jesus would do. Who knows? They may be inspired by your actions.\\nThe next time you’re beating yourself up over the tiniest thing, remember how perfect you are to Him. He would hate to see you treating yourself that way! Instead, concentrate on doing better next time, focusing on the future and not the past.\\nEphesians 4:32 says, \\\"Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.\\\" When you're tempted otherwise, think of this simple yet beautiful sentiment.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be modest and humble about your faith, even though it's beautiful.\", \"描述\": \"Never brag how close you are to God. This will just turn people off from the Gospel and you'll miss your chance to witness to others. No one cares for arrogance – Jesus certainly never did. In the book of Peter, it says, \\\"Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you.\\\" Remember: we are all his sons and daughters.\\nUnfortunately, some Christians come off as arrogant, assuming their faith is better than others’. Remember that Jesus preached that we are all sons and daughters of God, and that everyone should be loved equally. 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But other organizations would benefit from your time and money, too – so spread the love as much as you can!\\nIn Corinthians it is said, “Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.” Don’t give tithes out of obligation – give them as a cheerful giver, knowing you're doing your part.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Go to church ‘’and’’ get involved.\", \"描述\": \"In addition to going to church every Sunday, help out! Going through the motions is not what God intended. Sing in the choir, lector, or just be a greeter – any effort is appreciated. This will help you feel more devoted to your community, too.\\nFind out how you can help – there’s usually more help that needs to be done than there are hands. Do you have any special talents? Cooking? Playing the guitar? Sewing? Woodworking? Offer them up to your church. 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1. Dancing in Social Situations
1-1. Practice at home in front of a mirror.
If you’re worried about dancing at a club or during some other social situation, you’re not alone! This is a normal concern, especially if you’ve never danced in public before. The best way to combat your nervousness is to practice at home, preferably in front of a mirror. Wait until you can get some time alone to practice.
When you’re ready, start by putting on a song with a good beat that you can dance to.
No one is watching, so close your eyes and get into the music.
Incorporate different styles of dance, and see what styles you are best at.
1-2. Move to the beat.
The beat is the thump-thump-thump pattern that you hear. Relax and then start to nod your head along with the beat. As you get into the song, start to move your arms very slightly back and forth to the beat. Relax your shoulders and your knees so that they’re loose and easy to move. Gently bounce on your knees to the beat.
1-3. Incorporate the torso and arms.
Your knees are loose. You’re bouncing on them as you nod your head to the beat. Relax your torso and then rotate it slightly, keeping in time with your knee movements. The movement is sort of like when you're skiing. Make sure your arms are relaxed, then start to move them up and down.
Swing your arms so that they move in time with the beat.
Continue to bend your knees and rotate your torso as you incorporate the arm movements.
1-4. Keep it simple and low-key.
As you grow more comfortable, start incorporating additional movements. Loosen and move your shoulders in time with your arm movements. Get your feet moving to the beat – take steps side to side or back and forth. Vary your arm movements a bit. Make sure you continue to nod your head, which will help you stay in sync with the song’s beat.
Start out slow and ease your way into it.
It’s always better to make low-key movements rather than spastic ones.
1-5. Observe how other people dance.
Watch how people dance in music videos and in movies. Take note of their movements and try them out. Check out the way your friends dance for more ideas. If you’re at a club or party, look for inspiration by watching everyone. You can incorporate your new moves on the spot, or save them for when you’re practicing.
1-6. Be ready to adapt to the situation.
When you’re dancing, you won’t always have the space you’re used to having during practice. Anticipate different scenarios, such as a crowded dance floor. Practice how you would move in that situation. Consider how you’d move if you had lots of space on a relatively empty dancefloor. Also practice how you’d adapt to dancing face-to-face with another person.
You’ll need to be aware of your knees, so that you can avoid knocking them with your dance partner.
You also won’t have a lot of arm room in front of you. It might feel a little silly, but if you’re having a hard time picturing this, turn to face a wall and dance very close to it.
2. Training as a Dancer
2-1. Train frequently.
Set a practice schedule for yourself and stick to it. In order to improve, your training sessions should increase in intensity, length and/or frequency over time. The amount of training you choose to do depends on your personal goals and the kind of dance you’re performing. In general, if you’re trying to become a better dancer, a daily practice session is ideal. If you’re a beginner, start with a few training sessions per week and work your way up to daily training.
Set a training plan for yourself that gradually increases in difficulty.
Take practice seriously by removing distractions, like your cell phone and tablet, from the practice room.
2-2. Assign small tasks or goals for each training session.
As you’re creating your training plan, try to choose a few things to focus on for each session. For example, you could choose to concentrate on particular movements or portions of a routine in one session. If necessary, set a timer to let you know when you should move on to the next task.
To prevent injury, warm up your muscles before practice with some light cardio, like running in place or jumping jacks.
Don’t forget to schedule five to fifteen minute breaks into your sessions.
2-3. Practice in front of a mirror and video your training sessions.
Watching yourself dance is an important training tool. By practicing in front of a mirror, you can immediately correct mistakes and tweak movements in your performance. Taking video of your training sessions is equally important. Spend some time reviewing the video and analyzing yourself afterward.
As you review your videos, ask yourself questions like, “What are my strengths? What are my weaknesses? How is my technique?”
Take notes and incorporate what you’ve learned into your next training session. This will result in constant improvement.
2-4. Stretch after practice.
Flexibility is crucial for a dancer. Create a stretching routine and perform it after each practice. Stretch out the muscles that you use the most – the hamstrings, quads, hip flexors, calves, shoulders, forearms and lats. When you’re stretching a muscle, make sure you are in a comfortable position. You should be able to breathe normally and easily. Hold each stretch for 20 to 30 seconds.
Always wait until after you practice to do any serious stretching. Deep stretching can temporarily weaken your muscles, so doing it before practice is counterproductive.
Your post-training flexibility routine should be about 10 minutes long.
3. Building Confidence
3-1. Get consistent feedback.
Practicing in front of a mirror and recording training sessions will give you plenty of self-feedback, which is important. However, getting regular feedback from an outside source is also crucial for your improvement. Enlist a dance instructor, advanced dance student or a knowledgeable friend or family member to watch you perform. Go over your performance with them in detail afterward.
Ask them to tell you what you’re doing well along with what needs improvement.
The positive reinforcement provided in the feedback will increase your confidence.
3-2. Find a strong support system.
Have a few key people that you can turn to for advice and motivation, like friends and family members. Consider joining a local dance team for positive reinforcement and interaction. Search out a mentor or instructor to work closely with. These close interactions will provide support and help you build confidence.
A good instructor/mentor will provide advice and motivation without interfering with your natural abilities.
3-3. Tune out negativity.
Constructive criticism from outside sources is crucial for improvement. Harsh, negative commentary from others is not. Ignore any harmful negativity aimed at you. Try to avoid engaging in negative self-talk and criticism, as well. Replace your negative thought patterns with positive ones.
An example of constructive criticism is, “Your technique gets a little shaky during the middle of the routine. Work on those particular movements before our next session.”
An example of negative commentary to avoid is, “Your technique is weak. Your movements are sloppy and imprecise. You need to do a lot more practicing before you let anyone else see that.”
3-4. Train seriously.
Practice breeds confidence. Be sure to put in the necessary amount of training and preparation required for improvement. By consistently putting in serious time and effort, you will become more advanced as a dancer. You will begin to trust in your own skills. As you continue to train and advance, you will become naturally confident about your dancing.
4. Keeping Yourself Fit
4-1. Do aerobic exercise and strength training three times per week.
Your dance training shouldn’t be the only exercise you get. You also need between 20 and 40 minutes of aerobic exercise three times each week. Aerobic exercise is any kind of continuous movement that keeps your heart rate up, like running, aerobics classes, swimming, cycling, and skipping. Strength training using light weights should be performed three to four times per week.
In general, dancers don’t need to add any bulk, so avoid lifting any heavy weights.
Training with light weights will increase the strength and endurance of your muscles without adding bulk to your body.
4-2. Rest to prevent overtraining.
Muscles repair themselves during periods of rest. Unrested, a muscle can become strained much more easily. After particularly hard rehearsals, give your muscles a day or so of recovery time. Along with taking days off occasionally, be sure to sleep 7 to 8 hours each night.
Try to keep your sleep habits as consistent as possible.
Fatigue and the likelihood of injury both decrease when you get enough rest.
4-3. Take pains and minor injuries seriously.
If you’ve injured yourself, don’t dance through the pain. Ignoring aches and injuries will only serve to prolong them. It can also result in permanent damage, which will affect your dancing perpetually. Always take time to recover after you’ve hurt yourself.
Get advice from your trainer or a doctor about how to address each injury during recovery and follow it.
You risk further injury if you give yourself no recovery time.
4-4. Stay hydrated.
As a dancer, you’ll need to consume more fluids than a less active person to stay healthy. The adequate intake of fluids for men is about 13 cups (3 liters) daily. For women, about 9 cups (2.2 liters) of fluids are needed each day. On a typical training day, you’ll probably need to take in an additional 1.5 to 2.5 cups (400 to 600 milliliters) of water to replace what you lost through sweat.
On days of intense training, you should consume sports drinks containing sodium on top of the additional water.
Drink water and sports drinks during your training, and continue to hydrate well afterward.
4-5. Eat a healthy and balanced diet.
Dancing is very athletic and requires a lot of energy. To perform your best, you need to consume nutrient-rich food. Make sure that your daily diet includes a range of foods from the major food groups – fruits, vegetables, whole grains, low-fat dairy products, and lean protein including beans and other legumes, nuts and seeds, and other healthy fats.
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Also practice how you’d adapt to dancing face-to-face with another person.\\nYou’ll need to be aware of your knees, so that you can avoid knocking them with your dance partner.\\nYou also won’t have a lot of arm room in front of you. It might feel a little silly, but if you’re having a hard time picturing this, turn to face a wall and dance very close to it.\\n2. Training as a Dancer\\n2-1. Train frequently.\\nSet a practice schedule for yourself and stick to it. In order to improve, your training sessions should increase in intensity, length and/or frequency over time. The amount of training you choose to do depends on your personal goals and the kind of dance you’re performing. In general, if you’re trying to become a better dancer, a daily practice session is ideal. 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By practicing in front of a mirror, you can immediately correct mistakes and tweak movements in your performance. Taking video of your training sessions is equally important. Spend some time reviewing the video and analyzing yourself afterward.\\nAs you review your videos, ask yourself questions like, “What are my strengths? What are my weaknesses? How is my technique?”\\nTake notes and incorporate what you’ve learned into your next training session. This will result in constant improvement.\\n2-4. Stretch after practice.\\nFlexibility is crucial for a dancer. Create a stretching routine and perform it after each practice. Stretch out the muscles that you use the most – the hamstrings, quads, hip flexors, calves, shoulders, forearms and lats. When you’re stretching a muscle, make sure you are in a comfortable position. You should be able to breathe normally and easily. Hold each stretch for 20 to 30 seconds.\\nAlways wait until after you practice to do any serious stretching. Deep stretching can temporarily weaken your muscles, so doing it before practice is counterproductive.\\nYour post-training flexibility routine should be about 10 minutes long.\\n3. Building Confidence\\n3-1. Get consistent feedback.\\nPracticing in front of a mirror and recording training sessions will give you plenty of self-feedback, which is important. However, getting regular feedback from an outside source is also crucial for your improvement. Enlist a dance instructor, advanced dance student or a knowledgeable friend or family member to watch you perform. Go over your performance with them in detail afterward.\\nAsk them to tell you what you’re doing well along with what needs improvement.\\nThe positive reinforcement provided in the feedback will increase your confidence.\\n3-2. Find a strong support system.\\nHave a few key people that you can turn to for advice and motivation, like friends and family members. Consider joining a local dance team for positive reinforcement and interaction. Search out a mentor or instructor to work closely with. These close interactions will provide support and help you build confidence.\\nA good instructor/mentor will provide advice and motivation without interfering with your natural abilities.\\n3-3. Tune out negativity.\\nConstructive criticism from outside sources is crucial for improvement. Harsh, negative commentary from others is not. Ignore any harmful negativity aimed at you. Try to avoid engaging in negative self-talk and criticism, as well. Replace your negative thought patterns with positive ones.\\nAn example of constructive criticism is, “Your technique gets a little shaky during the middle of the routine. Work on those particular movements before our next session.”\\nAn example of negative commentary to avoid is, “Your technique is weak. Your movements are sloppy and imprecise. You need to do a lot more practicing before you let anyone else see that.”\\n3-4. Train seriously.\\nPractice breeds confidence. Be sure to put in the necessary amount of training and preparation required for improvement. By consistently putting in serious time and effort, you will become more advanced as a dancer. You will begin to trust in your own skills. As you continue to train and advance, you will become naturally confident about your dancing.\\n4. Keeping Yourself Fit\\n4-1. Do aerobic exercise and strength training three times per week.\\nYour dance training shouldn’t be the only exercise you get. You also need between 20 and 40 minutes of aerobic exercise three times each week. Aerobic exercise is any kind of continuous movement that keeps your heart rate up, like running, aerobics classes, swimming, cycling, and skipping. Strength training using light weights should be performed three to four times per week.\\nIn general, dancers don’t need to add any bulk, so avoid lifting any heavy weights.\\nTraining with light weights will increase the strength and endurance of your muscles without adding bulk to your body.\\n4-2. Rest to prevent overtraining.\\nMuscles repair themselves during periods of rest. Unrested, a muscle can become strained much more easily. After particularly hard rehearsals, give your muscles a day or so of recovery time. Along with taking days off occasionally, be sure to sleep 7 to 8 hours each night.\\nTry to keep your sleep habits as consistent as possible.\\nFatigue and the likelihood of injury both decrease when you get enough rest.\\n4-3. Take pains and minor injuries seriously.\\nIf you’ve injured yourself, don’t dance through the pain. Ignoring aches and injuries will only serve to prolong them. It can also result in permanent damage, which will affect your dancing perpetually. Always take time to recover after you’ve hurt yourself.\\nGet advice from your trainer or a doctor about how to address each injury during recovery and follow it.\\nYou risk further injury if you give yourself no recovery time.\\n4-4. Stay hydrated.\\nAs a dancer, you’ll need to consume more fluids than a less active person to stay healthy. The adequate intake of fluids for men is about 13 cups (3 liters) daily. For women, about 9 cups (2.2 liters) of fluids are needed each day. On a typical training day, you’ll probably need to take in an additional 1.5 to 2.5 cups (400 to 600 milliliters) of water to replace what you lost through sweat.\\nOn days of intense training, you should consume sports drinks containing sodium on top of the additional water.\\nDrink water and sports drinks during your training, and continue to hydrate well afterward.\\n4-5. Eat a healthy and balanced diet.\\nDancing is very athletic and requires a lot of energy. To perform your best, you need to consume nutrient-rich food. Make sure that your daily diet includes a range of foods from the major food groups – fruits, vegetables, whole grains, low-fat dairy products, and lean protein including beans and other legumes, nuts and seeds, and other healthy fats.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Whether you’re a beginner or a more advanced dancer, improvement is always possible. Becoming a better dancer requires dedication and a willingness to continuously challenge yourself. Frequent physical training is the most important part of improving dance skills, but building confidence and practicing proper self-care are also crucial aspects. No matter what your level of skill or preferred style of dance is, there are many helpful strategies that can help you grow as a dancer. 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Vary your arm movements a bit. Make sure you continue to nod your head, which will help you stay in sync with the song’s beat.\\nStart out slow and ease your way into it.\\nIt’s always better to make low-key movements rather than spastic ones.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Observe how other people dance.\", \"描述\": \"Watch how people dance in music videos and in movies. Take note of their movements and try them out. Check out the way your friends dance for more ideas. If you’re at a club or party, look for inspiration by watching everyone. You can incorporate your new moves on the spot, or save them for when you’re practicing.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Be ready to adapt to the situation.\", \"描述\": \"When you’re dancing, you won’t always have the space you’re used to having during practice. Anticipate different scenarios, such as a crowded dance floor. Practice how you would move in that situation. Consider how you’d move if you had lots of space on a relatively empty dancefloor. Also practice how you’d adapt to dancing face-to-face with another person.\\nYou’ll need to be aware of your knees, so that you can avoid knocking them with your dance partner.\\nYou also won’t have a lot of arm room in front of you. It might feel a little silly, but if you’re having a hard time picturing this, turn to face a wall and dance very close to it.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Training as a Dancer\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Train frequently.\", \"描述\": \"Set a practice schedule for yourself and stick to it. In order to improve, your training sessions should increase in intensity, length and/or frequency over time. The amount of training you choose to do depends on your personal goals and the kind of dance you’re performing. In general, if you’re trying to become a better dancer, a daily practice session is ideal. If you’re a beginner, start with a few training sessions per week and work your way up to daily training.\\nSet a training plan for yourself that gradually increases in difficulty.\\nTake practice seriously by removing distractions, like your cell phone and tablet, from the practice room.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Assign small tasks or goals for each training session.\", \"描述\": \"As you’re creating your training plan, try to choose a few things to focus on for each session. For example, you could choose to concentrate on particular movements or portions of a routine in one session. If necessary, set a timer to let you know when you should move on to the next task.\\nTo prevent injury, warm up your muscles before practice with some light cardio, like running in place or jumping jacks.\\nDon’t forget to schedule five to fifteen minute breaks into your sessions.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Practice in front of a mirror and video your training sessions.\", \"描述\": \"Watching yourself dance is an important training tool. By practicing in front of a mirror, you can immediately correct mistakes and tweak movements in your performance. Taking video of your training sessions is equally important. Spend some time reviewing the video and analyzing yourself afterward.\\nAs you review your videos, ask yourself questions like, “What are my strengths? What are my weaknesses? How is my technique?”\\nTake notes and incorporate what you’ve learned into your next training session. This will result in constant improvement.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stretch after practice.\", \"描述\": \"Flexibility is crucial for a dancer. Create a stretching routine and perform it after each practice. Stretch out the muscles that you use the most – the hamstrings, quads, hip flexors, calves, shoulders, forearms and lats. When you’re stretching a muscle, make sure you are in a comfortable position. You should be able to breathe normally and easily. Hold each stretch for 20 to 30 seconds.\\nAlways wait until after you practice to do any serious stretching. Deep stretching can temporarily weaken your muscles, so doing it before practice is counterproductive.\\nYour post-training flexibility routine should be about 10 minutes long.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Building Confidence\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get consistent feedback.\", \"描述\": \"Practicing in front of a mirror and recording training sessions will give you plenty of self-feedback, which is important. 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1. Maintain a 4-second gap between other vehicles.
The 4-second window is a trick to maintaining proper spacing.
You may have heard to keep 2 car-lengths between you and the vehicle in front of you, but that’s actually misleading. Depending on your speed, 2 car-lengths may be too much or too little room. Instead, ask yourself, “If the vehicle in front of me stops where they are right now and I slammed on the brakes, would I hit them in under 4 seconds?” If the answer is yes, back off a bit.
2. Adjust your mirrors so they’re actually correct.
Most people actually don’t have their mirrors in the optimal position.
From the driver’s seat, lean your head over the center console so you’re looking directly at the rearview. Adjust your passenger-side mirror from this position so that you barely see the edge of your vehicle. Then, put your cheek against the driver’s side window and do the same thing with that driver’s side mirror. For the rearview, up straight in the driver’s seat and adjust it so that you can see everything behind you.
If you adjust your side mirrors so that you see the edge of the vehicle from the driver’s seat, you’re actually wasting part of the mirror, since a portion of each side-mirror’s view will overlap with the rearview. By adjusting the mirrors while you’re leaning to a side, you’ll maximize your field of vision.
This should also keep you from getting blinded by headlights and reflections, since the angle will be wider.
3. Keep your head on a swivel.
Stay actively focused on the road and track your surroundings.
It’s easy to just pull behind another vehicle and mindlessly follow them, but it’s important to scan your surroundings so that you’re actively following what’s going on around you. Every 5-10 seconds, give the landscape a quick scan. Use your mirrors to see what’s happening around you on the right, left, and rear. This will keep you engaged and prevent you from getting fixated on any one thing for too long.
If you’re on a long stretch of highway with no turns and you’re just cruising along, just scan the road in front of you as far as you can see instead of focusing on the vehicle in front of you.
4. Use the flip switch on the rearview.
Many people don’t know this, but your rearview mirror has 2 settings!
That little tab under your rearview actually does something—it’s a dimmer switch! If you find yourself squinting because of the headlights in your rearview mirror when it’s dark out, flip this tab to soften those lights up. This one simple feature can make you a much better driver in low-light conditions since you’ll have an easier time seeing what’s going on.
Some newer vehicles have a button instead of a tab. Most of the time, you just push or pull that little tab until it slides into the second position to turn the dimmer on/off.
5. Check your mirrors before changing lanes.
Instead of turning all the way around for a few seconds, rely on your mirrors.
Once you turn your blinker on, check all 3 of your mirrors. This will help you build a mental image of where the vehicles around you are without totally twisting your neck around. If you scan your mirrors and spot an opening for the lane change, do a super quick turn to check the small blind spot on your side. Checking your mirrors first will keep you from needing to look at every vehicle on your side before switching lanes.
Obviously, if there’s nobody in front of you and you really want to be 100% certain that nobody’s in your blind spot, feel free to do one of those quick head spin moves. It’s not a good idea to take your eyes off of the road in front of you, but if it’s totally clear it’s alright to do this for a second or two.
6. Don’t turn the wheel before you turn left.
A lot of people make a big mistake on left turns.
When you’re sitting in the turn lane, keep your wheels pointed straight. Don’t start turning the wheel until the exact moment you want to initiate the turn. A lot of people wait in the turning lane with their steering wheel turned a bit, which causes them to overturn, potentially into oncoming traffic in the perpendicular lane! On top of that, if you get rear ended while your wheels are turned, your vehicle will slide into the oncoming traffic.
Also, make sure you don’t turn into the right-hand lane when they’re turning left. Not only is this inefficient from a turning perspective, but it’s usually illegal.
7. Pin your eyes on your target in tight situations.
If your vehicle skids, slides, or you’re surprised, focus on your exit point.
Keep your eyes pinned where you want your vehicle to go instead of focusing on how your steering wheel is oriented, or which direction your vehicle is facing. You’ll intuitively feel whether your vehicle is heading towards the point you’re looking at, and you’ll adjust the steering wheel accordingly based on the feedback you’re experiencing as your vehicle moves.
This is also helpful if you’re on a winding road or handling an odd turn. Look where you want to go, not where you are. You already know how to turn the steering wheel, and the reference point you’re looking at will help you intuit how you need to turn.
8. Anticipate the moves of drivers around you
Use the behavior of drivers around you to intuit what they’re thinking.
If there’s a driver two lanes over who keeps switching lanes and tailgating, they’re probably going to be super aggressive if you get too close. If the person in front of you keeps slowing down and speeding up, it’s safe to say they’re distracted, so stay alert! Drivers signal what they’re thinking through the way they navigate the roads, so if someone seems to be driving strangely or aggressively, it’s best to keep a tab on them and keep your distance.
Remember, you can’t control what other people do. Even if you’re the best driver possible, you still need to pay attention to what everyone else is doing!
9. Accelerate, brake, and turn slowly.
Driving should feel as smooth as butter if you’re doing it right!
Unless it’s unsafe to do so, accelerate evenly as you get up to speed, brake as reasonably slowly as you can, and don’t make any abrupt turns or movements. This is the safest way to drive—especially if it’s raining or snowing. On top of that, this will protect your vehicle from unnecessary wear and tear while saving you money on gas.
Making slow, measured movements also makes it a lot easier for the drivers around you to respond to your actions on the road.
10. Master parallel parking with traffic cones.
Parallel parking
Take your vehicle to an empty lot and set up two traffic cones near a curb. Pull up parallel to the front cone as if there’s a vehicle there. Pull back to where that imaginary vehicle’s passenger seat is located, and turn the steering wheel all the way to the curb. Then, straighten out by turning the wheel in the other direction while reversing once your rear curb-side wheel is even with the curb-side wheels of the “vehicle” in front of you.
Practice doing this over and over again to see if you can do it in one attempt!
11. Follow the rules of the road.
Safety is your paramount goal when you’re on the road.
Driving can be dangerous, so it’s important to follow your local laws. Always abide by the posted speed limit, regardless of how open the road may feel. Never try to “beat” a yellow light, and give pedestrians the right of way. Whatever the law is where you live, follow it to be the best driver you can be.
Your turn signal is your best friend. It’s the main way that you can signal your intentions to other drivers. Even if you feel like nobody is around, just use your turn signal before changing lanes or turning. It’s a good habit to get into.
Always wear your seatbelt. Seriously, it’s one of the simplest and easiest things you can do when you get in the vehicle, and it may save your life.
Unless you’re using a hands-free device, never use your phone while you’re driving. Not only is it almost always illegal, but it’s extremely dangerous.
12. Start meditating every day.
Yes, it sounds silly, but it will help you become a better driver!
Driving well is all about tracking multiple sets of information without losing your focus or cool. Since mindfulness meditation is all about learning to settle your thoughts and focus, there’s some evidence that it will actually make you a better driver! Start by following a guided meditation tutorial, and try to do at least 15 minutes a day. You’ll feel better, and you’ll end up being a better driver!
Yoga may have also have a similar effect if you prefer to do that!
Tips
If you’ve been struggling to keep your eyes off of the phone while you drive, put it in your trunk. That way, you won’t be tempted while you’re driving.[18]
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For the rearview, up straight in the driver’s seat and adjust it so that you can see everything behind you.\\nIf you adjust your side mirrors so that you see the edge of the vehicle from the driver’s seat, you’re actually wasting part of the mirror, since a portion of each side-mirror’s view will overlap with the rearview. By adjusting the mirrors while you’re leaning to a side, you’ll maximize your field of vision.\\nThis should also keep you from getting blinded by headlights and reflections, since the angle will be wider.\\n3. Keep your head on a swivel.\\nStay actively focused on the road and track your surroundings.\\nIt’s easy to just pull behind another vehicle and mindlessly follow them, but it’s important to scan your surroundings so that you’re actively following what’s going on around you. Every 5-10 seconds, give the landscape a quick scan. Use your mirrors to see what’s happening around you on the right, left, and rear. This will keep you engaged and prevent you from getting fixated on any one thing for too long.\\nIf you’re on a long stretch of highway with no turns and you’re just cruising along, just scan the road in front of you as far as you can see instead of focusing on the vehicle in front of you.\\n4. Use the flip switch on the rearview.\\nMany people don’t know this, but your rearview mirror has 2 settings!\\nThat little tab under your rearview actually does something—it’s a dimmer switch! If you find yourself squinting because of the headlights in your rearview mirror when it’s dark out, flip this tab to soften those lights up. This one simple feature can make you a much better driver in low-light conditions since you’ll have an easier time seeing what’s going on.\\nSome newer vehicles have a button instead of a tab. Most of the time, you just push or pull that little tab until it slides into the second position to turn the dimmer on/off.\\n5. Check your mirrors before changing lanes.\\nInstead of turning all the way around for a few seconds, rely on your mirrors.\\nOnce you turn your blinker on, check all 3 of your mirrors. This will help you build a mental image of where the vehicles around you are without totally twisting your neck around. If you scan your mirrors and spot an opening for the lane change, do a super quick turn to check the small blind spot on your side. Checking your mirrors first will keep you from needing to look at every vehicle on your side before switching lanes.\\nObviously, if there’s nobody in front of you and you really want to be 100% certain that nobody’s in your blind spot, feel free to do one of those quick head spin moves. It’s not a good idea to take your eyes off of the road in front of you, but if it’s totally clear it’s alright to do this for a second or two.\\n6. 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Anticipate the moves of drivers around you\\nUse the behavior of drivers around you to intuit what they’re thinking.\\nIf there’s a driver two lanes over who keeps switching lanes and tailgating, they’re probably going to be super aggressive if you get too close. If the person in front of you keeps slowing down and speeding up, it’s safe to say they’re distracted, so stay alert! Drivers signal what they’re thinking through the way they navigate the roads, so if someone seems to be driving strangely or aggressively, it’s best to keep a tab on them and keep your distance.\\nRemember, you can’t control what other people do. Even if you’re the best driver possible, you still need to pay attention to what everyone else is doing!\\n9. Accelerate, brake, and turn slowly.\\nDriving should feel as smooth as butter if you’re doing it right!\\nUnless it’s unsafe to do so, accelerate evenly as you get up to speed, brake as reasonably slowly as you can, and don’t make any abrupt turns or movements. This is the safest way to drive—especially if it’s raining or snowing. On top of that, this will protect your vehicle from unnecessary wear and tear while saving you money on gas.\\nMaking slow, measured movements also makes it a lot easier for the drivers around you to respond to your actions on the road.\\n10. Master parallel parking with traffic cones.\\nParallel parking\\nTake your vehicle to an empty lot and set up two traffic cones near a curb. Pull up parallel to the front cone as if there’s a vehicle there. Pull back to where that imaginary vehicle’s passenger seat is located, and turn the steering wheel all the way to the curb. Then, straighten out by turning the wheel in the other direction while reversing once your rear curb-side wheel is even with the curb-side wheels of the “vehicle” in front of you.\\nPractice doing this over and over again to see if you can do it in one attempt!\\n11. Follow the rules of the road.\\nSafety is your paramount goal when you’re on the road.\\nDriving can be dangerous, so it’s important to follow your local laws. Always abide by the posted speed limit, regardless of how open the road may feel. Never try to “beat” a yellow light, and give pedestrians the right of way. Whatever the law is where you live, follow it to be the best driver you can be.\\nYour turn signal is your best friend. It’s the main way that you can signal your intentions to other drivers. Even if you feel like nobody is around, just use your turn signal before changing lanes or turning. It’s a good habit to get into.\\nAlways wear your seatbelt. Seriously, it’s one of the simplest and easiest things you can do when you get in the vehicle, and it may save your life.\\nUnless you’re using a hands-free device, never use your phone while you’re driving. Not only is it almost always illegal, but it’s extremely dangerous.\\n12. Start meditating every day.\\nYes, it sounds silly, but it will help you become a better driver!\\nDriving well is all about tracking multiple sets of information without losing your focus or cool. Since mindfulness meditation is all about learning to settle your thoughts and focus, there’s some evidence that it will actually make you a better driver! Start by following a guided meditation tutorial, and try to do at least 15 minutes a day. You’ll feel better, and you’ll end up being a better driver!\\nYoga may have also have a similar effect if you prefer to do that!\\nTips\\nIf you’ve been struggling to keep your eyes off of the phone while you drive, put it in your trunk. That way, you won’t be tempted while you’re driving.[18]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Drifting around tight turns while burning rubber is definitely cool in an action movie, but in reality, being a great driver is all about avoiding the need for high-risk maneuvers. If you’re looking to become the best possible driver you can be, there are a ton of tricks, tips, and changes you can implement to improve your skills on the road. Here are a few of the bigger adjustments you can make!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Maintain a 4-second gap between other vehicles.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"The 4-second window is a trick to maintaining proper spacing.\", \"描述\": \"You may have heard to keep 2 car-lengths between you and the vehicle in front of you, but that’s actually misleading. Depending on your speed, 2 car-lengths may be too much or too little room. Instead, ask yourself, “If the vehicle in front of me stops where they are right now and I slammed on the brakes, would I hit them in under 4 seconds?” If the answer is yes, back off a bit.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Adjust your mirrors so they’re actually correct.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Most people actually don’t have their mirrors in the optimal position.\", \"描述\": \"From the driver’s seat, lean your head over the center console so you’re looking directly at the rearview. Adjust your passenger-side mirror from this position so that you barely see the edge of your vehicle. Then, put your cheek against the driver’s side window and do the same thing with that driver’s side mirror. For the rearview, up straight in the driver’s seat and adjust it so that you can see everything behind you.\\nIf you adjust your side mirrors so that you see the edge of the vehicle from the driver’s seat, you’re actually wasting part of the mirror, since a portion of each side-mirror’s view will overlap with the rearview. By adjusting the mirrors while you’re leaning to a side, you’ll maximize your field of vision.\\nThis should also keep you from getting blinded by headlights and reflections, since the angle will be wider.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keep your head on a swivel.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stay actively focused on the road and track your surroundings.\", \"描述\": \"It’s easy to just pull behind another vehicle and mindlessly follow them, but it’s important to scan your surroundings so that you’re actively following what’s going on around you. Every 5-10 seconds, give the landscape a quick scan. Use your mirrors to see what’s happening around you on the right, left, and rear. This will keep you engaged and prevent you from getting fixated on any one thing for too long.\\nIf you’re on a long stretch of highway with no turns and you’re just cruising along, just scan the road in front of you as far as you can see instead of focusing on the vehicle in front of you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Use the flip switch on the rearview.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Many people don’t know this, but your rearview mirror has 2 settings!\", \"描述\": \"That little tab under your rearview actually does something—it’s a dimmer switch! If you find yourself squinting because of the headlights in your rearview mirror when it’s dark out, flip this tab to soften those lights up. This one simple feature can make you a much better driver in low-light conditions since you’ll have an easier time seeing what’s going on.\\nSome newer vehicles have a button instead of a tab. Most of the time, you just push or pull that little tab until it slides into the second position to turn the dimmer on/off.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Check your mirrors before changing lanes.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Instead of turning all the way around for a few seconds, rely on your mirrors.\", \"描述\": \"Once you turn your blinker on, check all 3 of your mirrors. This will help you build a mental image of where the vehicles around you are without totally twisting your neck around. If you scan your mirrors and spot an opening for the lane change, do a super quick turn to check the small blind spot on your side. Checking your mirrors first will keep you from needing to look at every vehicle on your side before switching lanes.\\nObviously, if there’s nobody in front of you and you really want to be 100% certain that nobody’s in your blind spot, feel free to do one of those quick head spin moves. It’s not a good idea to take your eyes off of the road in front of you, but if it’s totally clear it’s alright to do this for a second or two.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Don’t turn the wheel before you turn left.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"A lot of people make a big mistake on left turns.\", \"描述\": \"When you’re sitting in the turn lane, keep your wheels pointed straight. Don’t start turning the wheel until the exact moment you want to initiate the turn. A lot of people wait in the turning lane with their steering wheel turned a bit, which causes them to overturn, potentially into oncoming traffic in the perpendicular lane! On top of that, if you get rear ended while your wheels are turned, your vehicle will slide into the oncoming traffic.\\nAlso, make sure you don’t turn into the right-hand lane when they’re turning left. Not only is this inefficient from a turning perspective, but it’s usually illegal.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Pin your eyes on your target in tight situations.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"If your vehicle skids, slides, or you’re surprised, focus on your exit point.\", \"描述\": \"Keep your eyes pinned where you want your vehicle to go instead of focusing on how your steering wheel is oriented, or which direction your vehicle is facing. You’ll intuitively feel whether your vehicle is heading towards the point you’re looking at, and you’ll adjust the steering wheel accordingly based on the feedback you’re experiencing as your vehicle moves.\\nThis is also helpful if you’re on a winding road or handling an odd turn. Look where you want to go, not where you are. You already know how to turn the steering wheel, and the reference point you’re looking at will help you intuit how you need to turn.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Anticipate the moves of drivers around you\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Use the behavior of drivers around you to intuit what they’re thinking.\", \"描述\": \"If there’s a driver two lanes over who keeps switching lanes and tailgating, they’re probably going to be super aggressive if you get too close. If the person in front of you keeps slowing down and speeding up, it’s safe to say they’re distracted, so stay alert! Drivers signal what they’re thinking through the way they navigate the roads, so if someone seems to be driving strangely or aggressively, it’s best to keep a tab on them and keep your distance.\\nRemember, you can’t control what other people do. Even if you’re the best driver possible, you still need to pay attention to what everyone else is doing!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Accelerate, brake, and turn slowly.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Driving should feel as smooth as butter if you’re doing it right!\", \"描述\": \"Unless it’s unsafe to do so, accelerate evenly as you get up to speed, brake as reasonably slowly as you can, and don’t make any abrupt turns or movements. This is the safest way to drive—especially if it’s raining or snowing. On top of that, this will protect your vehicle from unnecessary wear and tear while saving you money on gas.\\nMaking slow, measured movements also makes it a lot easier for the drivers around you to respond to your actions on the road.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Master parallel parking with traffic cones.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Parallel parking\", \"描述\": \"Take your vehicle to an empty lot and set up two traffic cones near a curb. Pull up parallel to the front cone as if there’s a vehicle there. Pull back to where that imaginary vehicle’s passenger seat is located, and turn the steering wheel all the way to the curb. Then, straighten out by turning the wheel in the other direction while reversing once your rear curb-side wheel is even with the curb-side wheels of the “vehicle” in front of you.\\nPractice doing this over and over again to see if you can do it in one attempt!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Follow the rules of the road.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Safety is your paramount goal when you’re on the road.\", \"描述\": \"Driving can be dangerous, so it’s important to follow your local laws. Always abide by the posted speed limit, regardless of how open the road may feel. Never try to “beat” a yellow light, and give pedestrians the right of way. Whatever the law is where you live, follow it to be the best driver you can be.\\nYour turn signal is your best friend. It’s the main way that you can signal your intentions to other drivers. Even if you feel like nobody is around, just use your turn signal before changing lanes or turning. It’s a good habit to get into.\\nAlways wear your seatbelt. Seriously, it’s one of the simplest and easiest things you can do when you get in the vehicle, and it may save your life.\\nUnless you’re using a hands-free device, never use your phone while you’re driving. Not only is it almost always illegal, but it’s extremely dangerous.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 12, \"标题\": \"Start meditating every day.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Yes, it sounds silly, but it will help you become a better driver!\", \"描述\": \"Driving well is all about tracking multiple sets of information without losing your focus or cool. Since mindfulness meditation is all about learning to settle your thoughts and focus, there’s some evidence that it will actually make you a better driver! Start by following a guided meditation tutorial, and try to do at least 15 minutes a day. You’ll feel better, and you’ll end up being a better driver!\\nYoga may have also have a similar effect if you prefer to do that!\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If you’ve been struggling to keep your eyes off of the phone while you drive, put it in your trunk. That way, you won’t be tempted while you’re driving.[18]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Better Driver in GTA V
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1. Settings
1-1. Go into the settings and play with the sensitivity.
Lower it if you need it and do some tests.
If you are playing on a personal computer, try using a joystick. It will make your turns much better and it will help a lot!
1-2. If you want to make a video and you need a clean screen, go into Settings and find the Screen settings.
From there, deactivate your Hud and Radar. You will then have a clean screen with nothing but the game. Also, you can choose the Visual in-game or from the Settings.
2. Training
2-1. Get a car that has the following requirements:
Soft suspensions; you should notice it in some cars like the Vigero. Mainly trucks and big cars have this kind of suspension, which is much better to handle.
Standard add-ons. You do not want a super fast turbo broom broom car to learn how to drive in a normal way. Get a nice standard vehicle and find a nice road.
2-2. Find a nice road!
There are sweet places around LS to practice. Try the Harbour or the Hills, or maybe Pacific Bluffs, which is the long road that goes from West to North-West along the sea.
2-3. Choose in what "game" you wanna play.
You can use GTA Online or GTA V Story Mode.
You might want to create an Invite Only Session or a Solo Session, if you wish to use GTA Online.
If you play Story Mode, use Franklin, who has the Driving Special Ability that should help you.
2-4. Practice a lot.
Go on different types of grounds at different altitudes.You can have a friend chase you if you want to try a chase.
Search for videos of people driving. You can search for cinematics on channels like Commando flauge.
Tips
Stay calm. Breathe slowly and don't get mad.
Try to imitate an Npc. Watch how he drives and try to do his same moves.
Take breaks. If you just can't do it anymore, go eat something or just stop playing for a while. You will notice that you have cleared your mind and you will then drive better.
Warnings
Do not spend too much time playing. If you start shaking or you start feeling dizzy, stop immediately. Eat and calm down until you feel better. If you don't, you may eventually puke and/or feel very sick for the whole day.
Avoid GTA Online. Players now are much angrier and aggressive than they were before.
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Find a nice road!\\nThere are sweet places around LS to practice. Try the Harbour or the Hills, or maybe Pacific Bluffs, which is the long road that goes from West to North-West along the sea.\\n2-3. Choose in what \\\"game\\\" you wanna play.\\nYou can use GTA Online or GTA V Story Mode.\\nYou might want to create an Invite Only Session or a Solo Session, if you wish to use GTA Online.\\nIf you play Story Mode, use Franklin, who has the Driving Special Ability that should help you.\\n2-4. Practice a lot.\\nGo on different types of grounds at different altitudes.You can have a friend chase you if you want to try a chase.\\nSearch for videos of people driving. You can search for cinematics on channels like Commando flauge.\\nTips\\nStay calm. Breathe slowly and don't get mad.\\nTry to imitate an Npc. Watch how he drives and try to do his same moves.\\nTake breaks. If you just can't do it anymore, go eat something or just stop playing for a while. You will notice that you have cleared your mind and you will then drive better.\\nWarnings\\nDo not spend too much time playing. If you start shaking or you start feeling dizzy, stop immediately. Eat and calm down until you feel better. If you don't, you may eventually puke and/or feel very sick for the whole day.\\nAvoid GTA Online. Players now are much angrier and aggressive than they were before.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Do you want to play a gamemode in which you have to hide from a helicopter, or you want to make a video of some kind and you need to become as good as a NPC Driver? This is the article you need!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Settings\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Go into the settings and play with the sensitivity.\", \"描述\": \"Lower it if you need it and do some tests.\\nIf you are playing on a personal computer, try using a joystick. It will make your turns much better and it will help a lot!\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"If you want to make a video and you need a clean screen, go into Settings and find the Screen settings.\", \"描述\": \"From there, deactivate your Hud and Radar. You will then have a clean screen with nothing but the game. Also, you can choose the Visual in-game or from the Settings.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Training\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get a car that has the following requirements:\", \"描述\": \"Soft suspensions; you should notice it in some cars like the Vigero. Mainly trucks and big cars have this kind of suspension, which is much better to handle.\\nStandard add-ons. You do not want a super fast turbo broom broom car to learn how to drive in a normal way. Get a nice standard vehicle and find a nice road.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Find a nice road!\", \"描述\": \"There are sweet places around LS to practice. Try the Harbour or the Hills, or maybe Pacific Bluffs, which is the long road that goes from West to North-West along the sea.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Choose in what \\\"game\\\" you wanna play.\", \"描述\": \"You can use GTA Online or GTA V Story Mode.\\nYou might want to create an Invite Only Session or a Solo Session, if you wish to use GTA Online.\\nIf you play Story Mode, use Franklin, who has the Driving Special Ability that should help you.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Practice a lot.\", \"描述\": \"Go on different types of grounds at different altitudes.You can have a friend chase you if you want to try a chase.\\nSearch for videos of people driving. You can search for cinematics on channels like Commando flauge.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Stay calm. Breathe slowly and don't get mad.\\n\", \"Try to imitate an Npc. Watch how he drives and try to do his same moves.\\n\", \"Take breaks. If you just can't do it anymore, go eat something or just stop playing for a while. You will notice that you have cleared your mind and you will then drive better.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Do not spend too much time playing. If you start shaking or you start feeling dizzy, stop immediately. Eat and calm down until you feel better. If you don't, you may eventually puke and/or feel very sick for the whole day.\\n\", \"Avoid GTA Online. Players now are much angrier and aggressive than they were before.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Reliable Eyewitness & Improve Your Testimony
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1. Take in the details from your surroundings.
You’ll recall memories better if you’re familiar with the area.
Make a mental note of who’s around you, where they are, and what’s happening around you to increase your situational awareness. Get an idea of the area’s layout as well so you can accurately describe any important locations or events. If there are any loud noises, turn in their direction so you can get a better look at what’s happening.
You can improve your situational awareness by meditating and practicing mindfulness. Pay attention to your surroundings and notice how they make you feel.
If you’re in the middle of a dangerous situation, get to somewhere safe first. Your safety is more important than trying to witness all the details.
Take a moment to get a good look at the people around you since remembering them can help you recall a suspect better.
Avoid looking for details you’d “expect” during an incident, such as a white van or a weapon in someone’s hand, since it could make you misremember what actually happened. Really pay attention to the events as they go on rather than assuming you know what to look for.
2. Focus on a suspect’s unique characteristics.
Height, weight, and complexion are all distinguishing features.
Instead of focusing on the victim at the scene of a crime, pay more attention to the perpetrator and what they look like. Describe the person by their permanent features, such as their height, weight, complexion, or scars they have. If they had any other characteristics that made them stand out, be sure to mention them.
If you safely can get a good look at the person, focus on their whole face rather than single features. That way, you’ll be able to recall their appearance better.
Try to think of someone with a similar appearance to the person that you can compare them to so you're able to job your memory better.
While it’s still helpful to know the suspect’s hairstyle, hair color, and clothes, someone could easily change them and make your eyewitness testimony less accurate.
3. Note the make and model of suspicious vehicles.
Knowing the make and model helps narrow down potential suspects.
If you can safely get a glimpse of the vehicle a perpetrator is using, try to remember the basic information about it. Make note of the vehicle’s color, damage, and license plate numbers as well. The suspect could take the vehicle in to get fixed or change vehicles, but the info will still give law enforcement a lead to work with.
4. Record what happened as soon as possible.
Writing the memory down while it’s fresh helps you remember it clearly.
As soon as it’s safe for you to do so, try to write down everything that occurred in order. If you don’t have a pen and paper, use a notes app on your phone or even record your voice. State all the details clearly and only mention the things that you actually witnessed. Include a time and date for your record so you can easily reference it later on.
If you’re on the scene, pull out your phone and record video or take pictures of events as they happen if you’re safely able to
Your memory will start to change and get influenced by other events the longer you wait to record what happened. Studies have shown if you immediately recall the events, you’ll be able to remember the events more clearly later on.
5. Avoid making assumptions to fill in missing details.
Only mention what you’ve observed so you don’t give false information.
As you’re trying to remember what happened, your brain may try to fill in gaps with things that didn’t actually happen. Rather than guessing or making up a detail, skip over the point and focus on what you know. Question any biases or expectations you have so you can think clearly about the events that took place.
If you’re asked about a detail you can’t remember during an eyewitness testimony, just be honest and say that you’re not sure about what happened.
When you’re stressed and scared, it can make you misremember details of what actually happened. Be sure to really think and question what you experienced so you give accurate information.
6. Stay away from the news and other witness accounts.
Hearing other people could influence how you remember the event.
When you hear the news or another witness recount the event, they may remember details a little differently than you. If someone else tells you conflicting details, you might start questioning what you actually saw and it may make your testimony sound less reliable. Trust what you saw, and avoid discussing or looking deeper into the event with anyone else.
Take a break from the news and fill your time with other activities to fill your time.
Be mindful of anyone asking leading questions that could influence your memory. For example, “Was the car red?” is a leading question but “What color was the car?” is not.
7. Recall the events before testifying.
Refresh your memory so you can give more accurate answers.
If you’re asked to give an eyewitness testimony, try to picture the scene of the event in your head. Read or listen to any notes you took when the event first happened so you can get a clear idea of what happened and feel confident in how you remember it.
When you’re testifying, only give information that you personally observed or know about. Don’t come to any conclusions about the event; just state the facts instead.
Tips
Memories aren’t perfectly reliable evidence since they can easily be influenced by biases, lighting, trauma responses, and emotional reactions.[11]
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Trustworthy Source
PubMed Central
Journal archive from the U.S. National Institutes of Health
Go to source
However, they can still be helpful for corroborating other eyewitness accounts.[12]
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If you ever make a mistake in your testimony in court, speak up and correct yourself as soon as you can.[13]
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If you’re giving an eyewitness testimony, do not discuss the case with anyone outside of the court.[14]
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United States Department of Justice
Official website of the U.S. Department of Justice
Go to source
Warnings
Avoid giving any opinions or irrelevant information in an eyewitness account since someone reading it just wants to know the facts.[15]
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If they had any other characteristics that made them stand out, be sure to mention them.\\nIf you safely can get a good look at the person, focus on their whole face rather than single features. That way, you’ll be able to recall their appearance better.\\nTry to think of someone with a similar appearance to the person that you can compare them to so you're able to job your memory better.\\nWhile it’s still helpful to know the suspect’s hairstyle, hair color, and clothes, someone could easily change them and make your eyewitness testimony less accurate.\\n3. Note the make and model of suspicious vehicles.\\nKnowing the make and model helps narrow down potential suspects.\\nIf you can safely get a glimpse of the vehicle a perpetrator is using, try to remember the basic information about it. Make note of the vehicle’s color, damage, and license plate numbers as well. The suspect could take the vehicle in to get fixed or change vehicles, but the info will still give law enforcement a lead to work with.\\n4. Record what happened as soon as possible.\\nWriting the memory down while it’s fresh helps you remember it clearly.\\nAs soon as it’s safe for you to do so, try to write down everything that occurred in order. If you don’t have a pen and paper, use a notes app on your phone or even record your voice. State all the details clearly and only mention the things that you actually witnessed. Include a time and date for your record so you can easily reference it later on.\\nIf you’re on the scene, pull out your phone and record video or take pictures of events as they happen if you’re safely able to\\nYour memory will start to change and get influenced by other events the longer you wait to record what happened. Studies have shown if you immediately recall the events, you’ll be able to remember the events more clearly later on.\\n5. Avoid making assumptions to fill in missing details.\\nOnly mention what you’ve observed so you don’t give false information.\\nAs you’re trying to remember what happened, your brain may try to fill in gaps with things that didn’t actually happen. Rather than guessing or making up a detail, skip over the point and focus on what you know. Question any biases or expectations you have so you can think clearly about the events that took place.\\nIf you’re asked about a detail you can’t remember during an eyewitness testimony, just be honest and say that you’re not sure about what happened.\\nWhen you’re stressed and scared, it can make you misremember details of what actually happened. Be sure to really think and question what you experienced so you give accurate information.\\n6. Stay away from the news and other witness accounts.\\nHearing other people could influence how you remember the event.\\nWhen you hear the news or another witness recount the event, they may remember details a little differently than you. If someone else tells you conflicting details, you might start questioning what you actually saw and it may make your testimony sound less reliable. Trust what you saw, and avoid discussing or looking deeper into the event with anyone else.\\n\\nTake a break from the news and fill your time with other activities to fill your time.\\nBe mindful of anyone asking leading questions that could influence your memory. For example, “Was the car red?” is a leading question but “What color was the car?” is not.\\n7. Recall the events before testifying.\\nRefresh your memory so you can give more accurate answers.\\nIf you’re asked to give an eyewitness testimony, try to picture the scene of the event in your head. Read or listen to any notes you took when the event first happened so you can get a clear idea of what happened and feel confident in how you remember it.\\nWhen you’re testifying, only give information that you personally observed or know about. Don’t come to any conclusions about the event; just state the facts instead.\\nTips\\nMemories aren’t perfectly reliable evidence since they can easily be influenced by biases, lighting, trauma responses, and emotional reactions.[11]\\nX\\nTrustworthy Source\\nPubMed Central\\nJournal archive from the U.S. National Institutes of Health\\nGo to source\\n\\n However, they can still be helpful for corroborating other eyewitness accounts.[12]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nIf you ever make a mistake in your testimony in court, speak up and correct yourself as soon as you can.[13]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nIf you’re giving an eyewitness testimony, do not discuss the case with anyone outside of the court.[14]\\nX\\nTrustworthy Source\\nUnited States Department of Justice\\nOfficial website of the U.S. Department of Justice\\nGo to source\\nWarnings\\nAvoid giving any opinions or irrelevant information in an eyewitness account since someone reading it just wants to know the facts.[15]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Are you trying to remember how an event played out but having trouble jogging your memory about what actually happened? When you’re an eyewitness to an event or incident, there are a lot of things going on at once fighting for your attention. However, there are some important details you should focus on so you can give a more accurate testimony. Keep reading, and you’ll find everything you’ll need for recalling your memory so your eyewitness account is reliable.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take in the details from your surroundings.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You’ll recall memories better if you’re familiar with the area.\", \"描述\": \"Make a mental note of who’s around you, where they are, and what’s happening around you to increase your situational awareness. Get an idea of the area’s layout as well so you can accurately describe any important locations or events. If there are any loud noises, turn in their direction so you can get a better look at what’s happening.\\nYou can improve your situational awareness by meditating and practicing mindfulness. Pay attention to your surroundings and notice how they make you feel.\\nIf you’re in the middle of a dangerous situation, get to somewhere safe first. Your safety is more important than trying to witness all the details.\\nTake a moment to get a good look at the people around you since remembering them can help you recall a suspect better.\\nAvoid looking for details you’d “expect” during an incident, such as a white van or a weapon in someone’s hand, since it could make you misremember what actually happened. Really pay attention to the events as they go on rather than assuming you know what to look for.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Focus on a suspect’s unique characteristics.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Height, weight, and complexion are all distinguishing features.\", \"描述\": \"Instead of focusing on the victim at the scene of a crime, pay more attention to the perpetrator and what they look like. Describe the person by their permanent features, such as their height, weight, complexion, or scars they have. If they had any other characteristics that made them stand out, be sure to mention them.\\nIf you safely can get a good look at the person, focus on their whole face rather than single features. That way, you’ll be able to recall their appearance better.\\nTry to think of someone with a similar appearance to the person that you can compare them to so you're able to job your memory better.\\nWhile it’s still helpful to know the suspect’s hairstyle, hair color, and clothes, someone could easily change them and make your eyewitness testimony less accurate.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Note the make and model of suspicious vehicles.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Knowing the make and model helps narrow down potential suspects.\", \"描述\": \"If you can safely get a glimpse of the vehicle a perpetrator is using, try to remember the basic information about it. Make note of the vehicle’s color, damage, and license plate numbers as well. The suspect could take the vehicle in to get fixed or change vehicles, but the info will still give law enforcement a lead to work with.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Record what happened as soon as possible.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Writing the memory down while it’s fresh helps you remember it clearly.\", \"描述\": \"As soon as it’s safe for you to do so, try to write down everything that occurred in order. If you don’t have a pen and paper, use a notes app on your phone or even record your voice. State all the details clearly and only mention the things that you actually witnessed. Include a time and date for your record so you can easily reference it later on.\\nIf you’re on the scene, pull out your phone and record video or take pictures of events as they happen if you’re safely able to\\nYour memory will start to change and get influenced by other events the longer you wait to record what happened. Studies have shown if you immediately recall the events, you’ll be able to remember the events more clearly later on.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Avoid making assumptions to fill in missing details.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Only mention what you’ve observed so you don’t give false information.\", \"描述\": \"As you’re trying to remember what happened, your brain may try to fill in gaps with things that didn’t actually happen. Rather than guessing or making up a detail, skip over the point and focus on what you know. Question any biases or expectations you have so you can think clearly about the events that took place.\\nIf you’re asked about a detail you can’t remember during an eyewitness testimony, just be honest and say that you’re not sure about what happened.\\nWhen you’re stressed and scared, it can make you misremember details of what actually happened. Be sure to really think and question what you experienced so you give accurate information.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Stay away from the news and other witness accounts.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Hearing other people could influence how you remember the event.\", \"描述\": \"When you hear the news or another witness recount the event, they may remember details a little differently than you. If someone else tells you conflicting details, you might start questioning what you actually saw and it may make your testimony sound less reliable. Trust what you saw, and avoid discussing or looking deeper into the event with anyone else.\\n\\nTake a break from the news and fill your time with other activities to fill your time.\\nBe mindful of anyone asking leading questions that could influence your memory. For example, “Was the car red?” is a leading question but “What color was the car?” is not.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Recall the events before testifying.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Refresh your memory so you can give more accurate answers.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re asked to give an eyewitness testimony, try to picture the scene of the event in your head. Read or listen to any notes you took when the event first happened so you can get a clear idea of what happened and feel confident in how you remember it.\\nWhen you’re testifying, only give information that you personally observed or know about. 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How to Be a Better Field Hockey Player
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1. Steps
1-1. Bend your knees and get down low to the ground.
It is easier to maneuver the ball that way and you can get more power and accuracy out of pushes, hits, and drives. With the ball in front of you, there is less risk of your stick rolling over the ball.
1-2. Become a faster sprinter and improve your endurance.
This can go a long way to improving how well you perform.Take up strength training and work on overall fitness.
1-3. Try to push the ball as much as you can as opposed to slapping and hitting.
Any type of hit where you lift your stick is an opportunity to get a penalty or to get the ball taken away from you.
1-4. Watch your feet!
Stepping on a ball or not moving your feet fast enough is something that can be easily corrected, but if not will result in the other team getting a free hit, so just move your feet!
1-5. When blocking free hits, put your stick completely on the ground from end to end.
This gives you a much larger area to stop the ball with and increases your chances of getting the ball greatly.
1-6. When within your own 25, and especially in your own circle, hit the ball to the outside!
Better it go out of bounds then for them to get a direct shot on goal.
1-7. Use your sidelines as much as possible.
Just trust me on this one, it is much easier to get up on the field this way as there are less players crowded over to the sides and it's easier to maneuver.
1-8. Be aggressive and work hard.
Listen to your coaches and your teammates.
1-9. Try air dribbling by allowing the ball to go on your stick, then bandy with it
1-10. Allow your opposition to use the side line.
Channel them down the side, preventing them from passing in towards the middle. Run them out over the backline. They cannot score unless they come into the circle. Watch for the back pass from the baseline towards the spot though.
1-11. Look around for teammates and pass to them.
Tips
Communicate with your teammates and listen to your coaches.
Call for the ball.
Play your position.
Warnings
A backhand can be used as an aerial shot or flat on the ground to score amazing goals, or if your playing up the right side of the field a backhand can be used if you are running out of room to whack the ball up to the circle!
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When blocking free hits, put your stick completely on the ground from end to end.\\nThis gives you a much larger area to stop the ball with and increases your chances of getting the ball greatly.\\n1-6. When within your own 25, and especially in your own circle, hit the ball to the outside!\\nBetter it go out of bounds then for them to get a direct shot on goal.\\n1-7. Use your sidelines as much as possible.\\nJust trust me on this one, it is much easier to get up on the field this way as there are less players crowded over to the sides and it's easier to maneuver.\\n1-8. Be aggressive and work hard.\\nListen to your coaches and your teammates.\\n1-9. Try air dribbling by allowing the ball to go on your stick, then bandy with it\\n\\n\\n1-10. Allow your opposition to use the side line.\\nChannel them down the side, preventing them from passing in towards the middle. Run them out over the backline. They cannot score unless they come into the circle. 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How to Be a Better Girlfriend
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1. Encouraging Your Partner and Growing Your Relationship
1-1. Seek out more together time in the week.
Being a better girlfriend sometimes just means being more available. Sometimes, you need to make your relationship a priority above other commitments you have. Being there for your boyfriend or girlfriend is a simple way to show that you care for the person.
For example, try to make sure you make time at least once a week to spend time together. You can go out on a date or just hang out together at home.
Try to fit in time when you can. You don't always need to go on a dinner date. Try meeting for lunch or even breakfast.
Spending time together doesn't always mean sitting down and talking, though that's important. Try fitting each other in while you're doing other things, such as working out together or even grocery shopping together.
1-2. Check in daily.
Another way to show your partner that you care is to check in daily, whether you're living together or not. For instance, text them at work just to tell the person you're thinking about them. Call them at night to see how their day went, or if you live together, make sure you take time to check in with them in the evening.
In other words, make time in each day to connect with your partner. You don't need to send twenty texts a day, though if you both are up for that, that's a good way to connect. Establish what works for both of you. That is, if one person isn't big on texting, maybe email would work better or a phone call in the evening.
Try to move beyond just, "How was your day?" Ask about each other's long-term dreams or talk about what you're grateful for. Discuss what you value or what you like best in a friend. It can be easy to slip into "How are you?" "Fine, how are you?" Digging deeper, though, will bring you closer.
While having weekly or bi-weekly dates is good, checking in every day keeps you in touch with how the other person is doing and creates a sense of familiarity and intimacy.
1-3. Tell your partner "thank you."
Everyone likes to be appreciated and not just for the things we do. Tell your partner often how grateful you are that he or she is in your life, as it will make your partner feel more appreciated and loved.
For instance, you can say things like, "I just want you to know how important you are to me. I'm so glad you're in my life."
You can also keep it more simple, such as "I'm so happy I got to see your face today."
Showing gratitude doesn't have to be verbal. Give your partner a card or surprise him or her with a small gift just to show them you're thinking about them and how special they are to you. For instance, surprise them with a home-cooked meal just to say "thank you."
1-4. Be empathetic.
Empathy means actually trying to feel what the other person is feeling. It takes an act of vulnerability to step into another's shoes. However, when you're in a relationship, you have to be able to feel what your partner's feeling to create a sense of intimacy and not necessarily of the sexual kind.
One way to start building empathy is to be conscientious of checking in with your partner about feelings. Ask the person how he or she is feeling in a given situation.
It also means you have to stop only seeing through your eyes. Sometimes, you have to shut off how you're seeing the world for a moment to understand how your partner is seeing it. You don't have to give up your point of view. You just have to change to your partner's perspective once in a while to understand the world through his or her eyes.
That may mean that you need to shut off the voices in your head. As your partner is talking about a situation, you may find yourself raising objections or trying to convince your partner to see it differently. Instead, you need to shut those objections down and truly listen to what your partner is saying.
1-5. Give as much as you take.
The best relationships function well because both partners give equally to the relationship. Of course, at times, you're going to be giving more, and at other times, your partner is going to be giving more. However, in the end, it should even out so your both giving to the relationship.
For instance, you may need to work more hours while your partner is in school, and then he or she works more hours while you finish a degree.
This step is also important in the smaller things. That is, if you live together, both of you should contributing to household chores and errands, not just one of you.
1-6. Skip the arrogance.
Arrogance can drive a wedge between you. In a relationship, you're supposed to be equal partners, so when your ego seeps in, it unbalances it. Humility on both sides keep relationships in check.
A little competition every now and then never hurts. However, when you start thinking you're a better person than your partner overall, that leads to an unhealthy relationship.
That doesn't mean you can't accept a compliment from your partner. If your partner tells you you're great at something, saying "Thank you!" is appropriate.
However, telling your partner in a serious tone that she's terrible at something and you do it better isn't appropriate. It only serves to drive a wedge between you two.
1-7. Encourage your partner.
In a relationship, it's important to be supportive of each other's interests. If you're trying to be a better girlfriend, it's important to support your boyfriend or girlfriend in what they do and encourage them.
For instance, one kind of support is not ragging on them when they want to spend time away from you to develop an interest.
Another way to encourage the person is to be their cheerleader. When something good happens, make sure to celebrate it with them.
1-8. Be respectful
Relationships are built on kindness and respect. When trying to be a better girlfriend, you can show respect in a number of ways, from listening well to being fully present when you are with the person.
For instance, give the person your full attention when you go on a date. Don't be looking at your phone or watching the television that's on in the restaurant.
Another way to show respect is to be sensitive to any cultural issues your partner may have. For instance, if your partner mentions that his or her family likes to do something a certain way, don't just laugh it off because you like to do it differently.
Another way to be respectful is to be forgiving rather than blaming. When your partner makes a mistake, offer forgiveness to him or her, rather than tearing them down for it.
1-9. Be kind.
Small acts of kindness make the day-to-day life with your boyfriend or girlfriend worth living. On your side, being a better girlfriend means being intentionally kind to your partner.
Kindness can show up in so many ways. It can mean being considerate of needed alone time. It can mean showing up with a cup of coffee when you know your partner needs it.
It can also mean something as simple as holding their hand when they're feeling a little anxious.
Kindness can also be doing a chore your partner hates, like running to the dry cleaners, before she has a chance to.
It's all the small things that add up to show you care for the person.
2. Communicating Well
2-1. Give your partner space to talk.
We all have times we need to vent or to talk about something that's bugging us. When you're in a relationship, you become each other's place to discuss what's going in your lives. However, you have to make sure you create the space for that, both time-wise and emotionally.
In other words, if you always cut your partner off when they start talking about something that's bothering them, that's not creating the emotional space for them to talk.
In addition, you have to open the door sometimes. When you notice your partner is looking down or sad, try to ask them what's going on.
2-2. Listen without being defensive.
Listening is an art. You've got to really pay attention to what the other person is saying, not just trying to figure out how to respond. When you're in a serious discussion, for example, you may have a tendency to get defensive based on just a few things your partner says without really hearing them out. Trying to truly understand what their trying to say rather than getting defensive can lead to better communication.
As they're talking, take in what they're saying. Open up to what's underneath the words, not just what they're saying aloud.
Show them you're listening by asking leading questions. You can also offer short summaries. For instance, you could say, "What I hear you saying is your upset because I'm not spending enough time with you." That helps them know you're listening, plus it helps you to know you are getting it right.
2-3. Hear verbal cues.
A cue is when your girlfriend or boyfriend casually mentions something that they are interested in. In turn, you take that cue and respond appropriately, sometimes by asking about the interest, sometimes by taking action.
For example, say your girlfriend says something like, "Isn't that car adorable? My car is getting so run down." You could say, "Oh, are you considering get a new car?" or you could ask her if she wants to go test drive one.
Another example is if your boyfriend mentions a new restaurant going in down the street that looks good. You could take the initiative and make reservations.
Picking up on verbal cues shows you are listening and paying attention.
2-4. Watch your partner's body language.
A person's body language can tell you as much about the person as what the person is actually saying. The body reveals underlying thoughts and feelings, so paying attention can help you put together what your partner is actually saying.
For instance, if the person turns away from you while you're talking, it could mean they've lost interested or they're trying to hide something.
If they're not looking at you, it could indicate they're hiding something or that they're having trouble getting out what they want to say. It can also be a sign of embarrassment.
If they cross they're arms, it could mean they're starting to get defensive about the conversation.
2-5. Try to keep discussions positive.
That doesn't mean you can't discuss problems. What it does mean is you try to keep your language positive and the way you hold the discussion positive. When you start out a discussion in a positive light, it has less of a chance of escalating. It also means your partner is more likely to listen and hear you, just as you're more likely to listen and hear your partner if he or she isn't yelling at you or being angry.
In other words, try not to have arguments when you're very angry, as they can just escalate into nastiness.
Humor can keep discussions light, as can affection gestures, such as hugging or lightly touching the person's hand or shoulder.
2-6. Wait until you've calmed down.
Sometimes, when you're really angry, you want to discuss the problem right then. However, that means the conversation is going to be overly charged with emotion, and you probably won't get anywhere except into a fight. It's okay to wait until you've calmed down to have a discussion.
A 2-day rule is a good bet. That is, you should bring it up within two days if you still feel strongly about it. If not, drop it.
If you must deal with the issue today, try taking an hour break. Go spend some time doing something you enjoy, such as listening to music or reading a book. Once you've distracted yourself for a while, you'll be better able to deal with the situation.
2-7. Deal with issues when they're small.
If you let small things go too often, sometimes they can snowball into something bigger. Deal with issues as they arise, and you're less likely to blow up at your partner.
For instance, if you hate it when your boyfriend doesn't call at night, bring it up. If you let it keep happening, it can grow into this huge thing that comes between you and him, and then you'll explode on him.
You could say, "Hey, I know you are busy at night, but I feel upset when I don't hear from you. I like to know you're safe."
3. Taking Care of Yourself
3-1. Know what your needs are.
In a relationship, you have to take care of yourself as well as your partner. In fact, sometimes you need to take care of your own needs first so that you can be supportive of your partner.
That means, of course, that you must know what your needs are. Maybe you need alone time once in awhile, or maybe you need cuddly time at least once a week.
Once you know what you need, express those needs to your partner. Have a conversation about what both of you need, both in and out of the relationship. Try to make a plan about how both of your needs can be met. For instance, you could say, "I really need cuddle time once a week." Your partner might counter with, "I'm happy to give you cuddle time. I love cuddling with you. But I also need to spend a bit of time apart as well."
3-2. Pay attention to the signs of emotional abuse.
Just because your partner is saying you need to be a better girlfriend doesn't mean you are being a bad one. In other words, you need to look for signs of emotional abuse in your relationship. You can find yourself in a emotionally abusive relationship without even realizing it.
For instance, some signs of an emotionally abusive relationship can be that your partner is hypercritical of you, humiliates you, shuts you out completely, and/or gets very angry and moody much of the time.
Other signs can be overusing a sarcastic/mean tone, being dominating, making you feel guilty often, and blaming you for everything that goes wrong.
You may also notice that your partner embarrasses you on purpose, is very controlling, calls you all the time to see where you are (and not in a caring way), or is overly jealous.
If your partner does one or even a couple of these once in a while, it may not be abusive. However, if your partner does it all the time with the intention of making you feel bad, humiliating you, or controlling you, then that is definitely a sign of emotional abuse. Look for the phrase, "I love you, but..." That's often a sign of a controlling person.
Be aware that many abusers will apologize for their behavior to draw you back in.
3-3. Sleep well
It may seem silly, but getting enough sleep can be essential for maintaining a good relationship. When you get enough sleep, you're more pleasant to be around, and you have more energy. However, it goes deeper than that. Getting enough sleep helps you maintain self-control.
Sleep affects your glucose levels, which in turn affects your self-control. If you don't have enough self-control, you tend to snap at your partner and not be available for what he or she needs.
Make sure you are getting your require 7 to 8 hours of sleep each night. Staying on a sleep schedule, meaning you go to bed and get up at the same time every day, can help you get enough sleep and feel more rested.
If you have trouble remembering to go to bed, try setting an alarm at night. Set for an hour before you need to be in bed. When it goes off, turn off all electronics and head for bed.
3-4. Eat well
Just like sleeping well, eating well contributes to overall well-being. When you don't eat well or you leave yourself feeling hungry, you have more of a tendency to snap at your partner. Try to keep up with eating healthy meals regularly, so you won't be tempted to snap.
Don't forget to eat lean proteins, fresh fruits and veggies, whole grains, and low-fat dairy to put you at your healthiest.
3-5. Pay attention to your triggers.
Everyone has emotional triggers. You know the type. That small thing that will set you off, usually because of something that happened in the past. Knowing your emotional triggers is important because you can learn to calm yourself down when they pop. In addition, you can provide warning to your partner, as well as an explanation of why you get so upset.
If you're not sure what you're emotional triggers are, pay attention when you get really upset, but you don't actually have a good reason. Try to think about what set you off.
Write down these instances and what you think caused it. As you write more down, you'll start to notice certain patterns.
3-6. Don't beat yourself.
Just like you should be kind to your partner, it's important to be kind to yourself, as well. Being kind to yourself helps you to feel better, and in turn, be kinder to your partner.
For instance, if you make mistake, tell yourself it's okay. You can learn from it and move on, not beat yourself up.
Remind yourself that no one's perfect. You make mistakes just like everyone else in the world and just be yourself that's what your boyfriend loves about you.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Encouraging Your Partner and Growing Your Relationship\\n1-1. Seek out more together time in the week.\\nBeing a better girlfriend sometimes just means being more available. Sometimes, you need to make your relationship a priority above other commitments you have. Being there for your boyfriend or girlfriend is a simple way to show that you care for the person.\\nFor example, try to make sure you make time at least once a week to spend time together. You can go out on a date or just hang out together at home.\\nTry to fit in time when you can. You don't always need to go on a dinner date. Try meeting for lunch or even breakfast.\\nSpending time together doesn't always mean sitting down and talking, though that's important. Try fitting each other in while you're doing other things, such as working out together or even grocery shopping together.\\n1-2. Check in daily.\\nAnother way to show your partner that you care is to check in daily, whether you're living together or not. For instance, text them at work just to tell the person you're thinking about them. Call them at night to see how their day went, or if you live together, make sure you take time to check in with them in the evening.\\nIn other words, make time in each day to connect with your partner. You don't need to send twenty texts a day, though if you both are up for that, that's a good way to connect. Establish what works for both of you. That is, if one person isn't big on texting, maybe email would work better or a phone call in the evening.\\nTry to move beyond just, \\\"How was your day?\\\" Ask about each other's long-term dreams or talk about what you're grateful for. Discuss what you value or what you like best in a friend. It can be easy to slip into \\\"How are you?\\\" \\\"Fine, how are you?\\\" Digging deeper, though, will bring you closer.\\nWhile having weekly or bi-weekly dates is good, checking in every day keeps you in touch with how the other person is doing and creates a sense of familiarity and intimacy.\\n1-3. Tell your partner \\\"thank you.\\\"\\nEveryone likes to be appreciated and not just for the things we do. Tell your partner often how grateful you are that he or she is in your life, as it will make your partner feel more appreciated and loved.\\nFor instance, you can say things like, \\\"I just want you to know how important you are to me. I'm so glad you're in my life.\\\"\\nYou can also keep it more simple, such as \\\"I'm so happy I got to see your face today.\\\"\\nShowing gratitude doesn't have to be verbal. Give your partner a card or surprise him or her with a small gift just to show them you're thinking about them and how special they are to you. For instance, surprise them with a home-cooked meal just to say \\\"thank you.\\\"\\n1-4. Be empathetic.\\nEmpathy means actually trying to feel what the other person is feeling. It takes an act of vulnerability to step into another's shoes. However, when you're in a relationship, you have to be able to feel what your partner's feeling to create a sense of intimacy and not necessarily of the sexual kind.\\nOne way to start building empathy is to be conscientious of checking in with your partner about feelings. Ask the person how he or she is feeling in a given situation.\\nIt also means you have to stop only seeing through your eyes. Sometimes, you have to shut off how you're seeing the world for a moment to understand how your partner is seeing it. You don't have to give up your point of view. You just have to change to your partner's perspective once in a while to understand the world through his or her eyes.\\nThat may mean that you need to shut off the voices in your head. As your partner is talking about a situation, you may find yourself raising objections or trying to convince your partner to see it differently. Instead, you need to shut those objections down and truly listen to what your partner is saying.\\n1-5. Give as much as you take.\\nThe best relationships function well because both partners give equally to the relationship. Of course, at times, you're going to be giving more, and at other times, your partner is going to be giving more. However, in the end, it should even out so your both giving to the relationship.\\nFor instance, you may need to work more hours while your partner is in school, and then he or she works more hours while you finish a degree.\\nThis step is also important in the smaller things. That is, if you live together, both of you should contributing to household chores and errands, not just one of you.\\n1-6. Skip the arrogance.\\nArrogance can drive a wedge between you. In a relationship, you're supposed to be equal partners, so when your ego seeps in, it unbalances it. Humility on both sides keep relationships in check.\\nA little competition every now and then never hurts. However, when you start thinking you're a better person than your partner overall, that leads to an unhealthy relationship.\\nThat doesn't mean you can't accept a compliment from your partner. If your partner tells you you're great at something, saying \\\"Thank you!\\\" is appropriate.\\nHowever, telling your partner in a serious tone that she's terrible at something and you do it better isn't appropriate. It only serves to drive a wedge between you two.\\n1-7. Encourage your partner.\\nIn a relationship, it's important to be supportive of each other's interests. If you're trying to be a better girlfriend, it's important to support your boyfriend or girlfriend in what they do and encourage them.\\nFor instance, one kind of support is not ragging on them when they want to spend time away from you to develop an interest.\\nAnother way to encourage the person is to be their cheerleader. When something good happens, make sure to celebrate it with them.\\n1-8. Be respectful\\nRelationships are built on kindness and respect. When trying to be a better girlfriend, you can show respect in a number of ways, from listening well to being fully present when you are with the person.\\nFor instance, give the person your full attention when you go on a date. Don't be looking at your phone or watching the television that's on in the restaurant.\\nAnother way to show respect is to be sensitive to any cultural issues your partner may have. For instance, if your partner mentions that his or her family likes to do something a certain way, don't just laugh it off because you like to do it differently.\\nAnother way to be respectful is to be forgiving rather than blaming. When your partner makes a mistake, offer forgiveness to him or her, rather than tearing them down for it.\\n1-9. Be kind.\\nSmall acts of kindness make the day-to-day life with your boyfriend or girlfriend worth living. On your side, being a better girlfriend means being intentionally kind to your partner.\\nKindness can show up in so many ways. It can mean being considerate of needed alone time. It can mean showing up with a cup of coffee when you know your partner needs it.\\nIt can also mean something as simple as holding their hand when they're feeling a little anxious.\\nKindness can also be doing a chore your partner hates, like running to the dry cleaners, before she has a chance to.\\nIt's all the small things that add up to show you care for the person.\\n2. Communicating Well\\n2-1. Give your partner space to talk.\\nWe all have times we need to vent or to talk about something that's bugging us. When you're in a relationship, you become each other's place to discuss what's going in your lives. However, you have to make sure you create the space for that, both time-wise and emotionally.\\nIn other words, if you always cut your partner off when they start talking about something that's bothering them, that's not creating the emotional space for them to talk.\\nIn addition, you have to open the door sometimes. When you notice your partner is looking down or sad, try to ask them what's going on.\\n2-2. Listen without being defensive.\\nListening is an art. You've got to really pay attention to what the other person is saying, not just trying to figure out how to respond. When you're in a serious discussion, for example, you may have a tendency to get defensive based on just a few things your partner says without really hearing them out. Trying to truly understand what their trying to say rather than getting defensive can lead to better communication.\\nAs they're talking, take in what they're saying. Open up to what's underneath the words, not just what they're saying aloud.\\nShow them you're listening by asking leading questions. You can also offer short summaries. For instance, you could say, \\\"What I hear you saying is your upset because I'm not spending enough time with you.\\\" That helps them know you're listening, plus it helps you to know you are getting it right.\\n2-3. Hear verbal cues.\\nA cue is when your girlfriend or boyfriend casually mentions something that they are interested in. In turn, you take that cue and respond appropriately, sometimes by asking about the interest, sometimes by taking action.\\nFor example, say your girlfriend says something like, \\\"Isn't that car adorable? My car is getting so run down.\\\" You could say, \\\"Oh, are you considering get a new car?\\\" or you could ask her if she wants to go test drive one.\\nAnother example is if your boyfriend mentions a new restaurant going in down the street that looks good. You could take the initiative and make reservations.\\nPicking up on verbal cues shows you are listening and paying attention.\\n2-4. Watch your partner's body language.\\nA person's body language can tell you as much about the person as what the person is actually saying. The body reveals underlying thoughts and feelings, so paying attention can help you put together what your partner is actually saying.\\nFor instance, if the person turns away from you while you're talking, it could mean they've lost interested or they're trying to hide something.\\nIf they're not looking at you, it could indicate they're hiding something or that they're having trouble getting out what they want to say. It can also be a sign of embarrassment.\\nIf they cross they're arms, it could mean they're starting to get defensive about the conversation.\\n2-5. Try to keep discussions positive.\\nThat doesn't mean you can't discuss problems. What it does mean is you try to keep your language positive and the way you hold the discussion positive. When you start out a discussion in a positive light, it has less of a chance of escalating. It also means your partner is more likely to listen and hear you, just as you're more likely to listen and hear your partner if he or she isn't yelling at you or being angry.\\nIn other words, try not to have arguments when you're very angry, as they can just escalate into nastiness.\\nHumor can keep discussions light, as can affection gestures, such as hugging or lightly touching the person's hand or shoulder.\\n2-6. Wait until you've calmed down.\\nSometimes, when you're really angry, you want to discuss the problem right then. However, that means the conversation is going to be overly charged with emotion, and you probably won't get anywhere except into a fight. It's okay to wait until you've calmed down to have a discussion.\\nA 2-day rule is a good bet. That is, you should bring it up within two days if you still feel strongly about it. If not, drop it.\\nIf you must deal with the issue today, try taking an hour break. Go spend some time doing something you enjoy, such as listening to music or reading a book. Once you've distracted yourself for a while, you'll be better able to deal with the situation.\\n2-7. Deal with issues when they're small.\\nIf you let small things go too often, sometimes they can snowball into something bigger. Deal with issues as they arise, and you're less likely to blow up at your partner. \\nFor instance, if you hate it when your boyfriend doesn't call at night, bring it up. If you let it keep happening, it can grow into this huge thing that comes between you and him, and then you'll explode on him.\\nYou could say, \\\"Hey, I know you are busy at night, but I feel upset when I don't hear from you. I like to know you're safe.\\\"\\n3. Taking Care of Yourself\\n3-1. Know what your needs are.\\nIn a relationship, you have to take care of yourself as well as your partner. In fact, sometimes you need to take care of your own needs first so that you can be supportive of your partner.\\nThat means, of course, that you must know what your needs are. Maybe you need alone time once in awhile, or maybe you need cuddly time at least once a week.\\nOnce you know what you need, express those needs to your partner. Have a conversation about what both of you need, both in and out of the relationship. Try to make a plan about how both of your needs can be met. For instance, you could say, \\\"I really need cuddle time once a week.\\\" Your partner might counter with, \\\"I'm happy to give you cuddle time. I love cuddling with you. But I also need to spend a bit of time apart as well.\\\"\\n3-2. Pay attention to the signs of emotional abuse.\\nJust because your partner is saying you need to be a better girlfriend doesn't mean you are being a bad one. In other words, you need to look for signs of emotional abuse in your relationship. You can find yourself in a emotionally abusive relationship without even realizing it.\\nFor instance, some signs of an emotionally abusive relationship can be that your partner is hypercritical of you, humiliates you, shuts you out completely, and/or gets very angry and moody much of the time.\\nOther signs can be overusing a sarcastic/mean tone, being dominating, making you feel guilty often, and blaming you for everything that goes wrong.\\nYou may also notice that your partner embarrasses you on purpose, is very controlling, calls you all the time to see where you are (and not in a caring way), or is overly jealous.\\nIf your partner does one or even a couple of these once in a while, it may not be abusive. However, if your partner does it all the time with the intention of making you feel bad, humiliating you, or controlling you, then that is definitely a sign of emotional abuse. Look for the phrase, \\\"I love you, but...\\\" That's often a sign of a controlling person.\\nBe aware that many abusers will apologize for their behavior to draw you back in.\\n3-3. Sleep well\\nIt may seem silly, but getting enough sleep can be essential for maintaining a good relationship. When you get enough sleep, you're more pleasant to be around, and you have more energy. However, it goes deeper than that. Getting enough sleep helps you maintain self-control.\\nSleep affects your glucose levels, which in turn affects your self-control. If you don't have enough self-control, you tend to snap at your partner and not be available for what he or she needs.\\nMake sure you are getting your require 7 to 8 hours of sleep each night. Staying on a sleep schedule, meaning you go to bed and get up at the same time every day, can help you get enough sleep and feel more rested.\\nIf you have trouble remembering to go to bed, try setting an alarm at night. Set for an hour before you need to be in bed. When it goes off, turn off all electronics and head for bed.\\n3-4. Eat well\\nJust like sleeping well, eating well contributes to overall well-being. When you don't eat well or you leave yourself feeling hungry, you have more of a tendency to snap at your partner. Try to keep up with eating healthy meals regularly, so you won't be tempted to snap.\\nDon't forget to eat lean proteins, fresh fruits and veggies, whole grains, and low-fat dairy to put you at your healthiest.\\n3-5. Pay attention to your triggers.\\nEveryone has emotional triggers. You know the type. That small thing that will set you off, usually because of something that happened in the past. Knowing your emotional triggers is important because you can learn to calm yourself down when they pop. In addition, you can provide warning to your partner, as well as an explanation of why you get so upset.\\nIf you're not sure what you're emotional triggers are, pay attention when you get really upset, but you don't actually have a good reason. Try to think about what set you off.\\nWrite down these instances and what you think caused it. As you write more down, you'll start to notice certain patterns.\\n3-6. Don't beat yourself.\\nJust like you should be kind to your partner, it's important to be kind to yourself, as well. Being kind to yourself helps you to feel better, and in turn, be kinder to your partner.\\nFor instance, if you make mistake, tell yourself it's okay. You can learn from it and move on, not beat yourself up.\\nRemind yourself that no one's perfect. You make mistakes just like everyone else in the world and just be yourself that's what your boyfriend loves about you.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"No matter what stage your relationship is, you can learn to be a better girlfriend. Being a better girlfriend often comes down to being kind and compassionate to your boyfriend or girlfriend, as well as communicating and listening well. It can also mean taking care of yourself so you can be more present in the relationship.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Encouraging Your Partner and Growing Your Relationship\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Seek out more together time in the week.\", \"描述\": \"Being a better girlfriend sometimes just means being more available. Sometimes, you need to make your relationship a priority above other commitments you have. Being there for your boyfriend or girlfriend is a simple way to show that you care for the person.\\nFor example, try to make sure you make time at least once a week to spend time together. You can go out on a date or just hang out together at home.\\nTry to fit in time when you can. You don't always need to go on a dinner date. Try meeting for lunch or even breakfast.\\nSpending time together doesn't always mean sitting down and talking, though that's important. Try fitting each other in while you're doing other things, such as working out together or even grocery shopping together.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Check in daily.\", \"描述\": \"Another way to show your partner that you care is to check in daily, whether you're living together or not. For instance, text them at work just to tell the person you're thinking about them. Call them at night to see how their day went, or if you live together, make sure you take time to check in with them in the evening.\\nIn other words, make time in each day to connect with your partner. You don't need to send twenty texts a day, though if you both are up for that, that's a good way to connect. Establish what works for both of you. That is, if one person isn't big on texting, maybe email would work better or a phone call in the evening.\\nTry to move beyond just, \\\"How was your day?\\\" Ask about each other's long-term dreams or talk about what you're grateful for. Discuss what you value or what you like best in a friend. It can be easy to slip into \\\"How are you?\\\" \\\"Fine, how are you?\\\" Digging deeper, though, will bring you closer.\\nWhile having weekly or bi-weekly dates is good, checking in every day keeps you in touch with how the other person is doing and creates a sense of familiarity and intimacy.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Tell your partner \\\"thank you.\\\"\", \"描述\": \"Everyone likes to be appreciated and not just for the things we do. Tell your partner often how grateful you are that he or she is in your life, as it will make your partner feel more appreciated and loved.\\nFor instance, you can say things like, \\\"I just want you to know how important you are to me. I'm so glad you're in my life.\\\"\\nYou can also keep it more simple, such as \\\"I'm so happy I got to see your face today.\\\"\\nShowing gratitude doesn't have to be verbal. Give your partner a card or surprise him or her with a small gift just to show them you're thinking about them and how special they are to you. For instance, surprise them with a home-cooked meal just to say \\\"thank you.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be empathetic.\", \"描述\": \"Empathy means actually trying to feel what the other person is feeling. It takes an act of vulnerability to step into another's shoes. However, when you're in a relationship, you have to be able to feel what your partner's feeling to create a sense of intimacy and not necessarily of the sexual kind.\\nOne way to start building empathy is to be conscientious of checking in with your partner about feelings. Ask the person how he or she is feeling in a given situation.\\nIt also means you have to stop only seeing through your eyes. Sometimes, you have to shut off how you're seeing the world for a moment to understand how your partner is seeing it. You don't have to give up your point of view. You just have to change to your partner's perspective once in a while to understand the world through his or her eyes.\\nThat may mean that you need to shut off the voices in your head. As your partner is talking about a situation, you may find yourself raising objections or trying to convince your partner to see it differently. Instead, you need to shut those objections down and truly listen to what your partner is saying.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Give as much as you take.\", \"描述\": \"The best relationships function well because both partners give equally to the relationship. Of course, at times, you're going to be giving more, and at other times, your partner is going to be giving more. However, in the end, it should even out so your both giving to the relationship.\\nFor instance, you may need to work more hours while your partner is in school, and then he or she works more hours while you finish a degree.\\nThis step is also important in the smaller things. That is, if you live together, both of you should contributing to household chores and errands, not just one of you.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Skip the arrogance.\", \"描述\": \"Arrogance can drive a wedge between you. In a relationship, you're supposed to be equal partners, so when your ego seeps in, it unbalances it. Humility on both sides keep relationships in check.\\nA little competition every now and then never hurts. However, when you start thinking you're a better person than your partner overall, that leads to an unhealthy relationship.\\nThat doesn't mean you can't accept a compliment from your partner. If your partner tells you you're great at something, saying \\\"Thank you!\\\" is appropriate.\\nHowever, telling your partner in a serious tone that she's terrible at something and you do it better isn't appropriate. It only serves to drive a wedge between you two.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Encourage your partner.\", \"描述\": \"In a relationship, it's important to be supportive of each other's interests. If you're trying to be a better girlfriend, it's important to support your boyfriend or girlfriend in what they do and encourage them.\\nFor instance, one kind of support is not ragging on them when they want to spend time away from you to develop an interest.\\nAnother way to encourage the person is to be their cheerleader. When something good happens, make sure to celebrate it with them.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Be respectful\", \"描述\": \"Relationships are built on kindness and respect. When trying to be a better girlfriend, you can show respect in a number of ways, from listening well to being fully present when you are with the person.\\nFor instance, give the person your full attention when you go on a date. Don't be looking at your phone or watching the television that's on in the restaurant.\\nAnother way to show respect is to be sensitive to any cultural issues your partner may have. For instance, if your partner mentions that his or her family likes to do something a certain way, don't just laugh it off because you like to do it differently.\\nAnother way to be respectful is to be forgiving rather than blaming. When your partner makes a mistake, offer forgiveness to him or her, rather than tearing them down for it.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Be kind.\", \"描述\": \"Small acts of kindness make the day-to-day life with your boyfriend or girlfriend worth living. On your side, being a better girlfriend means being intentionally kind to your partner.\\nKindness can show up in so many ways. It can mean being considerate of needed alone time. It can mean showing up with a cup of coffee when you know your partner needs it.\\nIt can also mean something as simple as holding their hand when they're feeling a little anxious.\\nKindness can also be doing a chore your partner hates, like running to the dry cleaners, before she has a chance to.\\nIt's all the small things that add up to show you care for the person.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Communicating Well\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Give your partner space to talk.\", \"描述\": \"We all have times we need to vent or to talk about something that's bugging us. When you're in a relationship, you become each other's place to discuss what's going in your lives. However, you have to make sure you create the space for that, both time-wise and emotionally.\\nIn other words, if you always cut your partner off when they start talking about something that's bothering them, that's not creating the emotional space for them to talk.\\nIn addition, you have to open the door sometimes. When you notice your partner is looking down or sad, try to ask them what's going on.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Listen without being defensive.\", \"描述\": \"Listening is an art. You've got to really pay attention to what the other person is saying, not just trying to figure out how to respond. When you're in a serious discussion, for example, you may have a tendency to get defensive based on just a few things your partner says without really hearing them out. Trying to truly understand what their trying to say rather than getting defensive can lead to better communication.\\nAs they're talking, take in what they're saying. Open up to what's underneath the words, not just what they're saying aloud.\\nShow them you're listening by asking leading questions. You can also offer short summaries. For instance, you could say, \\\"What I hear you saying is your upset because I'm not spending enough time with you.\\\" That helps them know you're listening, plus it helps you to know you are getting it right.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Hear verbal cues.\", \"描述\": \"A cue is when your girlfriend or boyfriend casually mentions something that they are interested in. In turn, you take that cue and respond appropriately, sometimes by asking about the interest, sometimes by taking action.\\nFor example, say your girlfriend says something like, \\\"Isn't that car adorable? My car is getting so run down.\\\" You could say, \\\"Oh, are you considering get a new car?\\\" or you could ask her if she wants to go test drive one.\\nAnother example is if your boyfriend mentions a new restaurant going in down the street that looks good. You could take the initiative and make reservations.\\nPicking up on verbal cues shows you are listening and paying attention.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Watch your partner's body language.\", \"描述\": \"A person's body language can tell you as much about the person as what the person is actually saying. The body reveals underlying thoughts and feelings, so paying attention can help you put together what your partner is actually saying.\\nFor instance, if the person turns away from you while you're talking, it could mean they've lost interested or they're trying to hide something.\\nIf they're not looking at you, it could indicate they're hiding something or that they're having trouble getting out what they want to say. It can also be a sign of embarrassment.\\nIf they cross they're arms, it could mean they're starting to get defensive about the conversation.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Try to keep discussions positive.\", \"描述\": \"That doesn't mean you can't discuss problems. What it does mean is you try to keep your language positive and the way you hold the discussion positive. When you start out a discussion in a positive light, it has less of a chance of escalating. It also means your partner is more likely to listen and hear you, just as you're more likely to listen and hear your partner if he or she isn't yelling at you or being angry.\\nIn other words, try not to have arguments when you're very angry, as they can just escalate into nastiness.\\nHumor can keep discussions light, as can affection gestures, such as hugging or lightly touching the person's hand or shoulder.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Wait until you've calmed down.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes, when you're really angry, you want to discuss the problem right then. However, that means the conversation is going to be overly charged with emotion, and you probably won't get anywhere except into a fight. It's okay to wait until you've calmed down to have a discussion.\\nA 2-day rule is a good bet. That is, you should bring it up within two days if you still feel strongly about it. If not, drop it.\\nIf you must deal with the issue today, try taking an hour break. Go spend some time doing something you enjoy, such as listening to music or reading a book. Once you've distracted yourself for a while, you'll be better able to deal with the situation.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Deal with issues when they're small.\", \"描述\": \"If you let small things go too often, sometimes they can snowball into something bigger. Deal with issues as they arise, and you're less likely to blow up at your partner. \\nFor instance, if you hate it when your boyfriend doesn't call at night, bring it up. If you let it keep happening, it can grow into this huge thing that comes between you and him, and then you'll explode on him.\\nYou could say, \\\"Hey, I know you are busy at night, but I feel upset when I don't hear from you. I like to know you're safe.\\\"\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Taking Care of Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know what your needs are.\", \"描述\": \"In a relationship, you have to take care of yourself as well as your partner. In fact, sometimes you need to take care of your own needs first so that you can be supportive of your partner.\\nThat means, of course, that you must know what your needs are. Maybe you need alone time once in awhile, or maybe you need cuddly time at least once a week.\\nOnce you know what you need, express those needs to your partner. Have a conversation about what both of you need, both in and out of the relationship. Try to make a plan about how both of your needs can be met. For instance, you could say, \\\"I really need cuddle time once a week.\\\" Your partner might counter with, \\\"I'm happy to give you cuddle time. I love cuddling with you. But I also need to spend a bit of time apart as well.\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pay attention to the signs of emotional abuse.\", \"描述\": \"Just because your partner is saying you need to be a better girlfriend doesn't mean you are being a bad one. In other words, you need to look for signs of emotional abuse in your relationship. You can find yourself in a emotionally abusive relationship without even realizing it.\\nFor instance, some signs of an emotionally abusive relationship can be that your partner is hypercritical of you, humiliates you, shuts you out completely, and/or gets very angry and moody much of the time.\\nOther signs can be overusing a sarcastic/mean tone, being dominating, making you feel guilty often, and blaming you for everything that goes wrong.\\nYou may also notice that your partner embarrasses you on purpose, is very controlling, calls you all the time to see where you are (and not in a caring way), or is overly jealous.\\nIf your partner does one or even a couple of these once in a while, it may not be abusive. However, if your partner does it all the time with the intention of making you feel bad, humiliating you, or controlling you, then that is definitely a sign of emotional abuse. Look for the phrase, \\\"I love you, but...\\\" That's often a sign of a controlling person.\\nBe aware that many abusers will apologize for their behavior to draw you back in.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Sleep well\", \"描述\": \"It may seem silly, but getting enough sleep can be essential for maintaining a good relationship. When you get enough sleep, you're more pleasant to be around, and you have more energy. However, it goes deeper than that. Getting enough sleep helps you maintain self-control.\\nSleep affects your glucose levels, which in turn affects your self-control. If you don't have enough self-control, you tend to snap at your partner and not be available for what he or she needs.\\nMake sure you are getting your require 7 to 8 hours of sleep each night. Staying on a sleep schedule, meaning you go to bed and get up at the same time every day, can help you get enough sleep and feel more rested.\\nIf you have trouble remembering to go to bed, try setting an alarm at night. Set for an hour before you need to be in bed. When it goes off, turn off all electronics and head for bed.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Eat well\", \"描述\": \"Just like sleeping well, eating well contributes to overall well-being. When you don't eat well or you leave yourself feeling hungry, you have more of a tendency to snap at your partner. Try to keep up with eating healthy meals regularly, so you won't be tempted to snap.\\nDon't forget to eat lean proteins, fresh fruits and veggies, whole grains, and low-fat dairy to put you at your healthiest.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Pay attention to your triggers.\", \"描述\": \"Everyone has emotional triggers. You know the type. That small thing that will set you off, usually because of something that happened in the past. Knowing your emotional triggers is important because you can learn to calm yourself down when they pop. In addition, you can provide warning to your partner, as well as an explanation of why you get so upset.\\nIf you're not sure what you're emotional triggers are, pay attention when you get really upset, but you don't actually have a good reason. Try to think about what set you off.\\nWrite down these instances and what you think caused it. As you write more down, you'll start to notice certain patterns.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Don't beat yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Just like you should be kind to your partner, it's important to be kind to yourself, as well. Being kind to yourself helps you to feel better, and in turn, be kinder to your partner.\\nFor instance, if you make mistake, tell yourself it's okay. You can learn from it and move on, not beat yourself up.\\nRemind yourself that no one's perfect. You make mistakes just like everyone else in the world and just be yourself that's what your boyfriend loves about you.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Improving Your Short Game
1-1. Work on your putting skills.
The quickest way to improve your score is to work on your short game. If you do not have a lot of time to practice, spending time on your short game is better than spending time hitting long balls. Putting is very important aspect of your short game.
Place ten balls in a circle, three feet from the hole. Move around the circle and try to sink all of the puts. Try to sink ten putts in a row. If you miss one, start over.
Try to practice your putting for fifteen minutes each day. The better you become at putting the more your confidence will increase.
You can also start off with two-foot putts and then graduate to three-foot putts.
1-2. Use soft hands when you chip.
Lightly grip the club to decrease the tension in your arms. Place more weight on your front foot, use your arms and shoulders to swing the club back, and swing downward by pushing your right knee towards your target. Your left wrist should be flat throughout the entire motion.
The swing is very short so your right elbow should never be behind your body.
The shaft of the club should always be in line with your left arm. Your left arm controls your chipping swing.
Rotate your body forward as you swing.
1-3. Pitch with your arms.
Your pitch shot is best when you rely on your arms instead of using your wrists and rotating your forearms. Keep your arms in the shape of a "V" as you do this swing. Stand over the ball so that it is right below the left side of your face to start your swing.
Keeping the "V" will make your ball have a nice spin and fly high.
Make sure your spine is straight before you begin your swing.
1-4. Check the lie of the golf ball.
The way the golf ball sits in the grass affects your shot. Learning how your shot changes depending on the lie of the ball will let you know what shot you should take. Your shot will differ if you are shooting in a thick rough, a bunker, or a tight lie.
If the ball is sitting up in tall grass, you may have trouble hitting the ball cleanly. Take a few practice swings and only brush the tips of the grass with your club head. Then hit the ball with a club that has a lower loft (i.e. launch angle of a club, the amount of slope on the face of the club).
If the ball is sitting down in a thick rough, hit down on the ball to get it to come out of the rough.
If you are hitting on a tight lie where the ground is firm and the grass is low, use your putter to hit the shot.
If your ball is sitting on top of the sand, use an open club face to hit the ball or hit behind the ball to get the ball to go a greater distance.
If the ball is sitting down in the sand, your shot will not have any spin when you hit it. If the sand is very moist, use more power for your shot. If the sand is dry, it will be easier to hit the ball.
2. Practicing at the Driving Range
2-1. Position your body.
Spread your legs at least shoulder width a part and place the ball in line with your front heel. Place your hands directly above the head of the driver and tilt your back so that your left shoulder is higher than your right shoulder.
The wider your stance, the better.
Place a little more weight on your back leg compared to your front leg.
2-2. Swing the driver.
Form a "V" with your hands and rotate your entire upper body. Shift your weight to your back foot and bring your driver back where the head of the driver is over your shoulders and facing your target. Shift your weight from your right foot to your left foot as you swing. At the end of your shot, your club head should be over your head.
The power for your shot comes from your lower body. Shifting your weight as you swing will give your shot power.
Hit the ball before you turn your back foot and keep your heels down as you swing.
Keep your head down as you follow through.
2-3. Perfect your swing.
Developing your swing is an ongoing process. Keeping your spine straight is crucial to your swing. Rotate your shoulders and keep your forearms straight as well. Allow the golf club to do the work instead of exerting all of your force to get a powerful swing.
Try to make your swing as fluid and smooth as possible. Although there are many movements involved, think of swinging as one single motion.
Your swing will be better if you are relaxed. Take a deep breath and clear your mind before you swing.
2-4. Focus on quality of your swings.
The quality of the shots you hit is more important than the amount of shots you hit. Get a bucket of fifty golf balls and try to make quality shots as if you are on the course. Take a few practice swings before you hit each shot.
Swing with your wedge, short iron, hybrid, and driver during your session.
Simulate the order of shots you would take on the golf course. Start with the driver, then short iron, and then your wedge.
2-5. Hit to a target.
Instead of mindlessly hitting the ball, choose a target for every single shot. Warm up for a little bit and then begin your targeted practice. Ranges usually have landing areas marked with yardages that you can aim for.
If you are using your driver, try to land your shot between two sets of the markers. This will simulate the fairway on a golf course.
Vary your targets instead of hitting to the same target each time. This will help you improve your accuracy.
3. Developing Good Practice Habits
3-1. Practice deliberately.
Practicing on its own is not enough. Your practice should be focused, meaningful and individualized. The skills and areas that you practice should be unique to the areas you need to improve in. What scenarios or shots make you nervous or uncomfortable? Those are the areas you should be practicing.
Spend more time on the things that you do not do very well versus the things that you excel in.
Your deliberate practice should also be high volume as well. Repeatedly doing the same thing over and over creates memory in your brain.
3-2. Work with a coach.
A coach can help you refine your skills and evaluate your golf game in a way that you can not do on your own. You are unable to see how you look when you hit the ball. You are only able to see the final product. Whether you hit a good shot or a bad shot, knowing what you did to achieve that result is critical for your improvement.
A coach can not only identify any mistakes you make, but also offer adjustments and corrections. You will improve much faster when you have this type of feedback.
A coach is helpful for new and established players. Coaches can teach fundamentals as well as tweak the game of experienced golfers.
3-3. Stay in the present when you practice.
It can be easy to think about your next shot or still be bothered about a shot that you just missed. Instead, focus on the shot at hand. When you step up to the tee, only think about how you want to hit that current shot. Once you have taken that shot, you accept the outcome and then move on to your next shot.
Keeping a running tally of your score in your head will distract you from giving each shot 100% of your attention.
It is easier to do this when you are playing well and making shots. When you are not playing well, you may become discouraged and think abut your mistakes. You will have to try harder to focus when things are not going your way.
Talk yourself through your shot. To help yourself focus, ask some questions such as: What club do I need for this shot? Where do I need to make contact with the ball? How should I position my hands?
3-4. Spend more time at the golf course.
The majority of your practice time should be spent playing rounds of golf instead of hitting shots at the driving range. At the driving range, you are only focused on your technique. However, golf is much more than having good technique. Playing rounds of golf will help you improve your scoring and reduce the number of strokes you play per round.
The majority of shots you take while playing golf are actually shorter shots and putting.
Only one third of your practice time should take place at the driving range.
4. Training Outside of the Golf Course
4-1. Watch golf on television.
Watching golf is a great way to get better. As you are watching, evaluate what the professional golfers are doing and take notes. Watch how professional players assess each shot before they take it and note the decisions that were made. Look at how each player swings the driver, the wedges, and the putter.
Imagine yourself taking the same shot the players on television are taking. Where would you aim for the shot? Compare the choice you made to what the professional player has done.
Try to imitate some of the shots you see at your next practice session.
Good golf players typically have a pre-shot routine (i.e. what they do before they take every single shot). Use the examples of pre-shot routines to help you develop your own routine. Begin to incorporate your routine into your practice sessions.
A pre-shot routine may consist of checking the lie of the ball, checking the distance to your target, checking the direction of the wind, selecting a shot, choosing a club, visualizing the shot, and taking a few practice swings.
4-2. Practice visualization.
Visualizing your shots allows you to practice golf from any location. Devote five minutes a day to visualization practice. Focus on the things that you have done well on the golf course. Did you sink a putt? Did you hit a nice long drive?
It is important that you make visualization a regular activity. The more consistently you do it, the more beneficial it will be.
Avoid replaying your mistakes when you visualize.
4-3. Do full body strength training.
Increasing the strength of your muscles and bones without bulking up too much will help your golf game. Your strength training program should be focused on lifting heavier weights with fewer repetitions. Choose a weight that you can lift about six or seven times before your body becomes really tired.
Try exercises that mimic natural movements and engage multiple muscle groups such as squats and dead lifts.
Aim for four sets, of one to six repetitions. Rest three minutes between each set.
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Your left wrist should be flat throughout the entire motion.\\nThe swing is very short so your right elbow should never be behind your body.\\nThe shaft of the club should always be in line with your left arm. Your left arm controls your chipping swing.\\nRotate your body forward as you swing.\\n1-3. Pitch with your arms.\\nYour pitch shot is best when you rely on your arms instead of using your wrists and rotating your forearms. Keep your arms in the shape of a \\\"V\\\" as you do this swing. Stand over the ball so that it is right below the left side of your face to start your swing.\\nKeeping the \\\"V\\\" will make your ball have a nice spin and fly high.\\nMake sure your spine is straight before you begin your swing.\\n1-4. Check the lie of the golf ball.\\nThe way the golf ball sits in the grass affects your shot. Learning how your shot changes depending on the lie of the ball will let you know what shot you should take. Your shot will differ if you are shooting in a thick rough, a bunker, or a tight lie.\\nIf the ball is sitting up in tall grass, you may have trouble hitting the ball cleanly. Take a few practice swings and only brush the tips of the grass with your club head. Then hit the ball with a club that has a lower loft (i.e. launch angle of a club, the amount of slope on the face of the club).\\nIf the ball is sitting down in a thick rough, hit down on the ball to get it to come out of the rough.\\nIf you are hitting on a tight lie where the ground is firm and the grass is low, use your putter to hit the shot.\\nIf your ball is sitting on top of the sand, use an open club face to hit the ball or hit behind the ball to get the ball to go a greater distance.\\nIf the ball is sitting down in the sand, your shot will not have any spin when you hit it. If the sand is very moist, use more power for your shot. If the sand is dry, it will be easier to hit the ball.\\n2. Practicing at the Driving Range\\n2-1. Position your body.\\nSpread your legs at least shoulder width a part and place the ball in line with your front heel. Place your hands directly above the head of the driver and tilt your back so that your left shoulder is higher than your right shoulder.\\nThe wider your stance, the better.\\nPlace a little more weight on your back leg compared to your front leg.\\n2-2. Swing the driver.\\nForm a \\\"V\\\" with your hands and rotate your entire upper body. Shift your weight to your back foot and bring your driver back where the head of the driver is over your shoulders and facing your target. Shift your weight from your right foot to your left foot as you swing. At the end of your shot, your club head should be over your head.\\nThe power for your shot comes from your lower body. Shifting your weight as you swing will give your shot power.\\nHit the ball before you turn your back foot and keep your heels down as you swing.\\nKeep your head down as you follow through.\\n2-3. Perfect your swing.\\nDeveloping your swing is an ongoing process. Keeping your spine straight is crucial to your swing. Rotate your shoulders and keep your forearms straight as well. Allow the golf club to do the work instead of exerting all of your force to get a powerful swing.\\nTry to make your swing as fluid and smooth as possible. Although there are many movements involved, think of swinging as one single motion.\\nYour swing will be better if you are relaxed. Take a deep breath and clear your mind before you swing.\\n2-4. Focus on quality of your swings.\\nThe quality of the shots you hit is more important than the amount of shots you hit. Get a bucket of fifty golf balls and try to make quality shots as if you are on the course. Take a few practice swings before you hit each shot.\\nSwing with your wedge, short iron, hybrid, and driver during your session.\\nSimulate the order of shots you would take on the golf course. Start with the driver, then short iron, and then your wedge.\\n2-5. Hit to a target.\\nInstead of mindlessly hitting the ball, choose a target for every single shot. Warm up for a little bit and then begin your targeted practice. Ranges usually have landing areas marked with yardages that you can aim for.\\nIf you are using your driver, try to land your shot between two sets of the markers. This will simulate the fairway on a golf course.\\nVary your targets instead of hitting to the same target each time. This will help you improve your accuracy.\\n3. Developing Good Practice Habits\\n3-1. Practice deliberately.\\nPracticing on its own is not enough. Your practice should be focused, meaningful and individualized. The skills and areas that you practice should be unique to the areas you need to improve in. What scenarios or shots make you nervous or uncomfortable? Those are the areas you should be practicing.\\nSpend more time on the things that you do not do very well versus the things that you excel in.\\nYour deliberate practice should also be high volume as well. Repeatedly doing the same thing over and over creates memory in your brain.\\n3-2. Work with a coach.\\nA coach can help you refine your skills and evaluate your golf game in a way that you can not do on your own. You are unable to see how you look when you hit the ball. You are only able to see the final product. Whether you hit a good shot or a bad shot, knowing what you did to achieve that result is critical for your improvement.\\nA coach can not only identify any mistakes you make, but also offer adjustments and corrections. You will improve much faster when you have this type of feedback.\\nA coach is helpful for new and established players. Coaches can teach fundamentals as well as tweak the game of experienced golfers.\\n3-3. Stay in the present when you practice.\\nIt can be easy to think about your next shot or still be bothered about a shot that you just missed. Instead, focus on the shot at hand. When you step up to the tee, only think about how you want to hit that current shot. Once you have taken that shot, you accept the outcome and then move on to your next shot.\\nKeeping a running tally of your score in your head will distract you from giving each shot 100% of your attention.\\nIt is easier to do this when you are playing well and making shots. When you are not playing well, you may become discouraged and think abut your mistakes. You will have to try harder to focus when things are not going your way.\\nTalk yourself through your shot. To help yourself focus, ask some questions such as: What club do I need for this shot? Where do I need to make contact with the ball? How should I position my hands?\\n3-4. Spend more time at the golf course.\\nThe majority of your practice time should be spent playing rounds of golf instead of hitting shots at the driving range. At the driving range, you are only focused on your technique. However, golf is much more than having good technique. Playing rounds of golf will help you improve your scoring and reduce the number of strokes you play per round.\\nThe majority of shots you take while playing golf are actually shorter shots and putting.\\nOnly one third of your practice time should take place at the driving range.\\n4. Training Outside of the Golf Course\\n4-1. Watch golf on television.\\nWatching golf is a great way to get better. As you are watching, evaluate what the professional golfers are doing and take notes. Watch how professional players assess each shot before they take it and note the decisions that were made. Look at how each player swings the driver, the wedges, and the putter.\\nImagine yourself taking the same shot the players on television are taking. Where would you aim for the shot? Compare the choice you made to what the professional player has done.\\nTry to imitate some of the shots you see at your next practice session.\\nGood golf players typically have a pre-shot routine (i.e. what they do before they take every single shot). Use the examples of pre-shot routines to help you develop your own routine. Begin to incorporate your routine into your practice sessions.\\nA pre-shot routine may consist of checking the lie of the ball, checking the distance to your target, checking the direction of the wind, selecting a shot, choosing a club, visualizing the shot, and taking a few practice swings.\\n4-2. Practice visualization.\\nVisualizing your shots allows you to practice golf from any location. Devote five minutes a day to visualization practice. Focus on the things that you have done well on the golf course. Did you sink a putt? Did you hit a nice long drive?\\nIt is important that you make visualization a regular activity. The more consistently you do it, the more beneficial it will be.\\nAvoid replaying your mistakes when you visualize.\\n4-3. Do full body strength training.\\nIncreasing the strength of your muscles and bones without bulking up too much will help your golf game. Your strength training program should be focused on lifting heavier weights with fewer repetitions. Choose a weight that you can lift about six or seven times before your body becomes really tired.\\nTry exercises that mimic natural movements and engage multiple muscle groups such as squats and dead lifts.\\nAim for four sets, of one to six repetitions. Rest three minutes between each set.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"It takes a lot of time and practice to become an expert golfer. Practice can take place at the driving range, the golf course, or at home. Take a well-rounded approach to improving your golf game by working on your short game, long drives, and mental approach to the game. Being consistent and having a good attitude will help be on your way to being a better golfer.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Improving Your Short Game\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Work on your putting skills.\", \"描述\": \"The quickest way to improve your score is to work on your short game. If you do not have a lot of time to practice, spending time on your short game is better than spending time hitting long balls. Putting is very important aspect of your short game.\\nPlace ten balls in a circle, three feet from the hole. Move around the circle and try to sink all of the puts. Try to sink ten putts in a row. If you miss one, start over.\\nTry to practice your putting for fifteen minutes each day. The better you become at putting the more your confidence will increase.\\nYou can also start off with two-foot putts and then graduate to three-foot putts.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Use soft hands when you chip.\", \"描述\": \"Lightly grip the club to decrease the tension in your arms. Place more weight on your front foot, use your arms and shoulders to swing the club back, and swing downward by pushing your right knee towards your target. Your left wrist should be flat throughout the entire motion.\\nThe swing is very short so your right elbow should never be behind your body.\\nThe shaft of the club should always be in line with your left arm. Your left arm controls your chipping swing.\\nRotate your body forward as you swing.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pitch with your arms.\", \"描述\": \"Your pitch shot is best when you rely on your arms instead of using your wrists and rotating your forearms. Keep your arms in the shape of a \\\"V\\\" as you do this swing. Stand over the ball so that it is right below the left side of your face to start your swing.\\nKeeping the \\\"V\\\" will make your ball have a nice spin and fly high.\\nMake sure your spine is straight before you begin your swing.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Check the lie of the golf ball.\", \"描述\": \"The way the golf ball sits in the grass affects your shot. Learning how your shot changes depending on the lie of the ball will let you know what shot you should take. Your shot will differ if you are shooting in a thick rough, a bunker, or a tight lie.\\nIf the ball is sitting up in tall grass, you may have trouble hitting the ball cleanly. Take a few practice swings and only brush the tips of the grass with your club head. Then hit the ball with a club that has a lower loft (i.e. launch angle of a club, the amount of slope on the face of the club).\\nIf the ball is sitting down in a thick rough, hit down on the ball to get it to come out of the rough.\\nIf you are hitting on a tight lie where the ground is firm and the grass is low, use your putter to hit the shot.\\nIf your ball is sitting on top of the sand, use an open club face to hit the ball or hit behind the ball to get the ball to go a greater distance.\\nIf the ball is sitting down in the sand, your shot will not have any spin when you hit it. If the sand is very moist, use more power for your shot. If the sand is dry, it will be easier to hit the ball.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Practicing at the Driving Range\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Position your body.\", \"描述\": \"Spread your legs at least shoulder width a part and place the ball in line with your front heel. Place your hands directly above the head of the driver and tilt your back so that your left shoulder is higher than your right shoulder.\\nThe wider your stance, the better.\\nPlace a little more weight on your back leg compared to your front leg.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Swing the driver.\", \"描述\": \"Form a \\\"V\\\" with your hands and rotate your entire upper body. Shift your weight to your back foot and bring your driver back where the head of the driver is over your shoulders and facing your target. Shift your weight from your right foot to your left foot as you swing. At the end of your shot, your club head should be over your head.\\nThe power for your shot comes from your lower body. Shifting your weight as you swing will give your shot power.\\nHit the ball before you turn your back foot and keep your heels down as you swing.\\nKeep your head down as you follow through.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Perfect your swing.\", \"描述\": \"Developing your swing is an ongoing process. Keeping your spine straight is crucial to your swing. Rotate your shoulders and keep your forearms straight as well. Allow the golf club to do the work instead of exerting all of your force to get a powerful swing.\\nTry to make your swing as fluid and smooth as possible. Although there are many movements involved, think of swinging as one single motion.\\nYour swing will be better if you are relaxed. Take a deep breath and clear your mind before you swing.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Focus on quality of your swings.\", \"描述\": \"The quality of the shots you hit is more important than the amount of shots you hit. Get a bucket of fifty golf balls and try to make quality shots as if you are on the course. Take a few practice swings before you hit each shot.\\nSwing with your wedge, short iron, hybrid, and driver during your session.\\nSimulate the order of shots you would take on the golf course. Start with the driver, then short iron, and then your wedge.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Hit to a target.\", \"描述\": \"Instead of mindlessly hitting the ball, choose a target for every single shot. Warm up for a little bit and then begin your targeted practice. Ranges usually have landing areas marked with yardages that you can aim for.\\nIf you are using your driver, try to land your shot between two sets of the markers. This will simulate the fairway on a golf course.\\nVary your targets instead of hitting to the same target each time. This will help you improve your accuracy.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Developing Good Practice Habits\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practice deliberately.\", \"描述\": \"Practicing on its own is not enough. Your practice should be focused, meaningful and individualized. The skills and areas that you practice should be unique to the areas you need to improve in. What scenarios or shots make you nervous or uncomfortable? Those are the areas you should be practicing.\\nSpend more time on the things that you do not do very well versus the things that you excel in.\\nYour deliberate practice should also be high volume as well. Repeatedly doing the same thing over and over creates memory in your brain.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Work with a coach.\", \"描述\": \"A coach can help you refine your skills and evaluate your golf game in a way that you can not do on your own. You are unable to see how you look when you hit the ball. You are only able to see the final product. Whether you hit a good shot or a bad shot, knowing what you did to achieve that result is critical for your improvement.\\nA coach can not only identify any mistakes you make, but also offer adjustments and corrections. You will improve much faster when you have this type of feedback.\\nA coach is helpful for new and established players. Coaches can teach fundamentals as well as tweak the game of experienced golfers.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Stay in the present when you practice.\", \"描述\": \"It can be easy to think about your next shot or still be bothered about a shot that you just missed. Instead, focus on the shot at hand. When you step up to the tee, only think about how you want to hit that current shot. Once you have taken that shot, you accept the outcome and then move on to your next shot.\\nKeeping a running tally of your score in your head will distract you from giving each shot 100% of your attention.\\nIt is easier to do this when you are playing well and making shots. When you are not playing well, you may become discouraged and think abut your mistakes. You will have to try harder to focus when things are not going your way.\\nTalk yourself through your shot. To help yourself focus, ask some questions such as: What club do I need for this shot? Where do I need to make contact with the ball? How should I position my hands?\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Spend more time at the golf course.\", \"描述\": \"The majority of your practice time should be spent playing rounds of golf instead of hitting shots at the driving range. At the driving range, you are only focused on your technique. However, golf is much more than having good technique. Playing rounds of golf will help you improve your scoring and reduce the number of strokes you play per round.\\nThe majority of shots you take while playing golf are actually shorter shots and putting.\\nOnly one third of your practice time should take place at the driving range.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Training Outside of the Golf Course\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Watch golf on television.\", \"描述\": \"Watching golf is a great way to get better. As you are watching, evaluate what the professional golfers are doing and take notes. Watch how professional players assess each shot before they take it and note the decisions that were made. Look at how each player swings the driver, the wedges, and the putter.\\nImagine yourself taking the same shot the players on television are taking. Where would you aim for the shot? Compare the choice you made to what the professional player has done.\\nTry to imitate some of the shots you see at your next practice session.\\nGood golf players typically have a pre-shot routine (i.e. what they do before they take every single shot). Use the examples of pre-shot routines to help you develop your own routine. Begin to incorporate your routine into your practice sessions.\\nA pre-shot routine may consist of checking the lie of the ball, checking the distance to your target, checking the direction of the wind, selecting a shot, choosing a club, visualizing the shot, and taking a few practice swings.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Practice visualization.\", \"描述\": \"Visualizing your shots allows you to practice golf from any location. Devote five minutes a day to visualization practice. Focus on the things that you have done well on the golf course. Did you sink a putt? Did you hit a nice long drive?\\nIt is important that you make visualization a regular activity. The more consistently you do it, the more beneficial it will be.\\nAvoid replaying your mistakes when you visualize.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Do full body strength training.\", \"描述\": \"Increasing the strength of your muscles and bones without bulking up too much will help your golf game. Your strength training program should be focused on lifting heavier weights with fewer repetitions. Choose a weight that you can lift about six or seven times before your body becomes really tired.\\nTry exercises that mimic natural movements and engage multiple muscle groups such as squats and dead lifts.\\nAim for four sets, of one to six repetitions. Rest three minutes between each set.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Steps
1-1. Remember that Hinduism is a very open-minded religion.
You can practice this faith any way you want. There is no prescribed ritual in Hinduism or any particular way to worship God. Our scriptures clearly state that while God is one, he has many forms and one can worship him in any way and in any religion.
1-2. Choose the form of God you wish to worship.
It depends on which God gives you peace. If Krishna gives you peace, then worship Krishna, if Shiva gives you peace, then worship Shiva! It is your decision. You may even worship God in Himself like the Brahmo Samajis or Arya Samajis, if you wish. It is all up to you.
1-3. Pray and sincerely believe in the form of Parambrahman (God) you have chosen.
You may perform puja for Him, or you may worship Him in your way. Call upon him even when you are not in distress.
1-4. Read some of the holy scriptures of Hinduism.
The Bhagvad Gita and the Upanishads are good examples. But remember though, that while some scriptures show God commanding people to kill, this is not a justification of murder. Hinduism is a religion of peace. What God is trying to say is that you should kill the Devil inside you and become righteous.
1-5. Try to understand some of the tenets of Hinduism.
Reincarnation is one, and it has also been proven scientifically. Hindus believe that a person is born again and again after death, and to escape this cycle one must attain moksha (salvation). Some people say that to attain moksha you must leave your family. This is not true. You can attain salvation, even if you are a family man, but you must overcome the sins - Kaam (lust), krodh (anger), lobh (greed), maya (illusion or attachment to worldly things and relations) and abhimaan (ego). If you do not overcome these you cannot attain salvation.
1-6. Karma is another tenet of Hinduism which means that you are responsible for whatever wrong you do, and you will be punished unless you repent sincerely.
God is All-Forgiving and All-Merciful.
1-7. Respect other religions and do not convert to any religion or convert anyone to your religion.
Hinduism is not a special-class religion. It is equal to all other religions be it Islam, Baha'i Faith, Christianity, Buddhism or any other faith. Respect others and their point of view.
1-8. Be peaceful and loving to all people, and try to consume less meat.
Remember, animal sacrifice is a heretic's act and has no place in Hinduism, though some Hindus still practice it. Do not consume beef, for cow is considered sacred. In fact, it is better to avoid meat of the larger animals, or even better, eat no meat at all.
Tips
If a friend inquires to you as to what Hinduism is or what its teachings are do not be afraid to tell them as they are only curious and do not mean any harm.
If someone insults Hinduism and makes fun of it do not insult them back or attack them with hurtful comments. Instead be calm and defend Hinduism with logical statements and open-mindedness.
Warnings
Beware of the false pundits (priests) and sadhus (saints) who will try to cheat you calling themselves the "exalted ones" and that to pay them and worship them is to worship God. They are false. A true saint is one who is humble and takes little and keeps to himself. Sai Baba, Kabir, and Guru Nanak are stunning examples of saints.
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But remember though, that while some scriptures show God commanding people to kill, this is not a justification of murder. Hinduism is a religion of peace. What God is trying to say is that you should kill the Devil inside you and become righteous.\\n1-5. Try to understand some of the tenets of Hinduism.\\nReincarnation is one, and it has also been proven scientifically. Hindus believe that a person is born again and again after death, and to escape this cycle one must attain moksha (salvation). Some people say that to attain moksha you must leave your family. This is not true. You can attain salvation, even if you are a family man, but you must overcome the sins - Kaam (lust), krodh (anger), lobh (greed), maya (illusion or attachment to worldly things and relations) and abhimaan (ego). If you do not overcome these you cannot attain salvation.\\n1-6. Karma is another tenet of Hinduism which means that you are responsible for whatever wrong you do, and you will be punished unless you repent sincerely.\\nGod is All-Forgiving and All-Merciful.\\n1-7. Respect other religions and do not convert to any religion or convert anyone to your religion.\\nHinduism is not a special-class religion. It is equal to all other religions be it Islam, Baha'i Faith, Christianity, Buddhism or any other faith. Respect others and their point of view.\\n1-8. Be peaceful and loving to all people, and try to consume less meat.\\nRemember, animal sacrifice is a heretic's act and has no place in Hinduism, though some Hindus still practice it. Do not consume beef, for cow is considered sacred. In fact, it is better to avoid meat of the larger animals, or even better, eat no meat at all.\\nTips\\nIf a friend inquires to you as to what Hinduism is or what its teachings are do not be afraid to tell them as they are only curious and do not mean any harm.\\nIf someone insults Hinduism and makes fun of it do not insult them back or attack them with hurtful comments. Instead be calm and defend Hinduism with logical statements and open-mindedness.\\nWarnings\\nBeware of the false pundits (priests) and sadhus (saints) who will try to cheat you calling themselves the \\\"exalted ones\\\" and that to pay them and worship them is to worship God. They are false. A true saint is one who is humble and takes little and keeps to himself. Sai Baba, Kabir, and Guru Nanak are stunning examples of saints.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Are you a person born into Hinduism and because of its diversity don't know how to properly practice your faith? This article might help you.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Remember that Hinduism is a very open-minded religion.\", \"描述\": \"You can practice this faith any way you want. There is no prescribed ritual in Hinduism or any particular way to worship God. Our scriptures clearly state that while God is one, he has many forms and one can worship him in any way and in any religion.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Choose the form of God you wish to worship.\", \"描述\": \"It depends on which God gives you peace. If Krishna gives you peace, then worship Krishna, if Shiva gives you peace, then worship Shiva! It is your decision. You may even worship God in Himself like the Brahmo Samajis or Arya Samajis, if you wish. It is all up to you.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pray and sincerely believe in the form of Parambrahman (God) you have chosen.\", \"描述\": \"You may perform puja for Him, or you may worship Him in your way. 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You can attain salvation, even if you are a family man, but you must overcome the sins - Kaam (lust), krodh (anger), lobh (greed), maya (illusion or attachment to worldly things and relations) and abhimaan (ego). If you do not overcome these you cannot attain salvation.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Karma is another tenet of Hinduism which means that you are responsible for whatever wrong you do, and you will be punished unless you repent sincerely.\", \"描述\": \"God is All-Forgiving and All-Merciful.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Respect other religions and do not convert to any religion or convert anyone to your religion.\", \"描述\": \"Hinduism is not a special-class religion. It is equal to all other religions be it Islam, Baha'i Faith, Christianity, Buddhism or any other faith. 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13 Ways to Be a Better Listener When You Have ADHD
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1. Stop anything else you’re doing to listen.
Multi-tasking can make it harder for you to pay attention.
If someone wants to talk, put away your phone, close your book, or turn off the TV. Pull up a chair and give them your undivided attention. They’ll appreciate it and it’ll make it easier for you to focus on what they’re saying.
Your ability to multi-task may be great for getting things done at work and around your home, but it won’t make you a better listener!
Catch yourself when your mind starts wandering off.
2. Smile, nod, and say brief words or sounds.
It’ll help keep your mind from wandering.
While you’re listening to someone talk, nod your head to acknowledge that you understand what they’re saying and smile occasionally (like when they say something funny) to let them know you’re listening. Every now and then, make a sound like “uh-huh” or say something brief like, “okay” or “right.” It can help you stay focused on the conversation and it’ll make it seem like you’re really listening, which the person talking may really appreciate.
For instance, while the other person is talking to you, when they make a point, you could say, “Gotcha.”
Focusing on what they’re saying in order to respond or react can help you pay attention.
3. Mentally repeat their words.
It may help you follow along in the conversation.
As they’re talking to you, echo the words in your mind. It’ll help them stick and will force you to really pay attention to what they’re saying. If you get lost or you aren’t sure what they said, just ask so you can get back on track.
4. Visualize the story.
Imagine what they’re saying like a movie in your head.
Many people with ADHD are visual thinkers and learners, so take advantage of the way your brain works. When someone is talking or explaining something to you, try thinking of it like a movie with characters and lots of detail. It can help you follow along in the conversation and may help you better comprehend what someone is saying.
For instance, if a teacher is explaining a concept, try visualizing it in your mind. If your friend is telling you about their day, imagine it in your mind as they talk about it.
Make sure to visualize and listen, though—you don't want to start daydreaming!
5. Use fidgeting to help improve your focus.
Keeping your hands busy can make it easier for you to listen.
Fidgeting is a mindless activity that you can do while you’re working on another task (like listening). It’s been proven to be an effective way to help people with ADHD improve their ability to focus. Try playing with a fidget toy while you’re listening. If you can’t use a toy, try carrying around a small, smooth stone (known as a “worry rock”) in your pocket that you can fiddle with when you need to focus.
You can also try explaining to people that fidgeting actually helps you pay attention so they’ll understand and you don’t have to keep it hidden.
Other simple forms of fidgeting include drumming your fingers or doodling while you’re on a phone call or listening to a lecture.
Similarly, taking up a physical activity that incorporates mindfulness (like martial arts or yoga) might help you improve your focus.
6. Try not to focus on what you’ll say next.
You’ll know what to say when it’s your turn to talk.
Pay attention to what the person talking to you is saying right now. Follow along with their words and don’t worry about coming up with something to say when they’re done talking.
Plus, just by being a better listener and paying attention to the person you’re talking to when they’re speaking, you’ll actually be better prepared to respond to them.
Bring your mind back to the conversation if you catch yourself thinking way ahead.
7. Wait until it’s your turn to talk.
It can help you focus on what someone else is saying.
Resist the urge to jump in and interrupt a conversation. Focus on waiting until the person speaking finishes their sentence or is done talking before you say something. If you do need to interrupt to clarify something or ask a question, politely ask for permission first.
Not only is it rude to interrupt someone when they’re speaking, it can actually make it harder for you to pay attention to what they’re saying.
If you need to interrupt, you could ask, “Excuse me, can I ask a quick question?”
8. Comment on a key point you heard.
It shows you’re listening and can help you follow along.
Whenever someone talking to you says something important or if they put emphasis on something, try repeating it back out loud or summarizing it in your own words. It’ll help it stick out in your memory and keep you focused on the conversation.
If someone says, “After we finish getting groceries, we’ll stop by Tim’s to drop off the food, then we’ll swing by the dog park for a bit” you could say, “Okay, groceries, Tim’s, dog park. Got it.”
9. Repeat instructions before you start something.
Make sure you understand what you need to do.
If a boss, teacher, friend, or anyone else gives you a task or an assignment, listen closely to what they say when they explain it to you. Then, echo their instructions to make sure you know what you need to do and to show them that you understand what they’re saying.
For instance, if your manager gives you a list of things to do before you get off work, you could say, “Okay, empty the garbage, adjust the thermostat, and turn off all the lights. Got it.”
They can also correct or clarify something if you aren’t fully understanding them.
10. Ask for the key points if you’re confused.
It can help you out if you get lost in the details.
If someone is talking really quickly, sharing lots of little details, or if you’re just having trouble following along, try asking them to help you out. Tell them you’re a bit confused and ask if they can give you the main points that they want you to understand.
You could try, “So sorry, I’m a bit lost. Can you tell me what the main points were?”
You could also try to keep it casual with something like, “I’m having a little trouble keeping up. Can you give me the summary?”
11. Take notes or ask for something in writing.
That way you’re super clear on what the instructions are.
If you’re in a meeting, class, or lecture, taking notes is a great way to keep yourself focused and record the information so you can study or review it later. Jot down key words and any questions you have so you can remember to ask them later. If someone is asking you to do something, ask them if they can email or write out the directions so you can consult them and you won’t get confused.
If you’re able to, recording a conversation, class, or lecture can be really helpful. Use a recording app and replay it as many times as you need! Just make sure you get permission or ask if it’s okay first.
12. Avoid trying to give advice.
Sometimes people just need to vent.
If someone comes to you to talk about a problem or something that’s upsetting them, try not to worry about coming up with the perfect solution. Instead, focus on just being a good listener and being there for them. If they want your opinion or your input, they’ll ask!
If you’re busy trying to come up with words of advice while someone is talking, you probably aren’t giving them your full attention.
13. Practice listening with someone you trust.
Ask a friend to help you get better at it.
Listening is actually a skill! But that’s good news. It means you can work to get better at it. Ask a friend, family member, or even a trusted co-worker to help you out. Take turns telling each other a story about something that recently happened to you. Keep it short, but long enough that you’ll have to pay attention. When they’re done talking, repeat back key details from the story and ask them for some feedback.
For instance, you could have your friend tell you about a restaurant they went to recently. They can talk about everything they did while they were there, what they ate, and what they thought about the experience. When they’re finished, you can give a recap of the story to see how well you were paying attention.
The more you practice listening, the better you’ll be. In time, you can become a master listener!
Tips
If you’re prescribed medication for your ADHD, take it! It can really help improve your focus, which can help you be a better listener.[18]
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Every now and then, make a sound like “uh-huh” or say something brief like, “okay” or “right.” It can help you stay focused on the conversation and it’ll make it seem like you’re really listening, which the person talking may really appreciate.\\nFor instance, while the other person is talking to you, when they make a point, you could say, “Gotcha.”\\nFocusing on what they’re saying in order to respond or react can help you pay attention.\\n3. Mentally repeat their words.\\nIt may help you follow along in the conversation.\\nAs they’re talking to you, echo the words in your mind. It’ll help them stick and will force you to really pay attention to what they’re saying. If you get lost or you aren’t sure what they said, just ask so you can get back on track.\\n4. Visualize the story.\\nImagine what they’re saying like a movie in your head.\\nMany people with ADHD are visual thinkers and learners, so take advantage of the way your brain works. When someone is talking or explaining something to you, try thinking of it like a movie with characters and lots of detail. It can help you follow along in the conversation and may help you better comprehend what someone is saying.\\nFor instance, if a teacher is explaining a concept, try visualizing it in your mind. If your friend is telling you about their day, imagine it in your mind as they talk about it.\\nMake sure to visualize and listen, though—you don't want to start daydreaming!\\n5. Use fidgeting to help improve your focus.\\nKeeping your hands busy can make it easier for you to listen.\\nFidgeting is a mindless activity that you can do while you’re working on another task (like listening). It’s been proven to be an effective way to help people with ADHD improve their ability to focus. Try playing with a fidget toy while you’re listening. If you can’t use a toy, try carrying around a small, smooth stone (known as a “worry rock”) in your pocket that you can fiddle with when you need to focus.\\nYou can also try explaining to people that fidgeting actually helps you pay attention so they’ll understand and you don’t have to keep it hidden.\\nOther simple forms of fidgeting include drumming your fingers or doodling while you’re on a phone call or listening to a lecture.\\nSimilarly, taking up a physical activity that incorporates mindfulness (like martial arts or yoga) might help you improve your focus.\\n6. Try not to focus on what you’ll say next.\\nYou’ll know what to say when it’s your turn to talk.\\nPay attention to what the person talking to you is saying right now. Follow along with their words and don’t worry about coming up with something to say when they’re done talking.\\nPlus, just by being a better listener and paying attention to the person you’re talking to when they’re speaking, you’ll actually be better prepared to respond to them.\\nBring your mind back to the conversation if you catch yourself thinking way ahead.\\n7. Wait until it’s your turn to talk.\\nIt can help you focus on what someone else is saying.\\nResist the urge to jump in and interrupt a conversation. Focus on waiting until the person speaking finishes their sentence or is done talking before you say something. If you do need to interrupt to clarify something or ask a question, politely ask for permission first.\\nNot only is it rude to interrupt someone when they’re speaking, it can actually make it harder for you to pay attention to what they’re saying.\\nIf you need to interrupt, you could ask, “Excuse me, can I ask a quick question?”\\n8. Comment on a key point you heard.\\nIt shows you’re listening and can help you follow along.\\nWhenever someone talking to you says something important or if they put emphasis on something, try repeating it back out loud or summarizing it in your own words. It’ll help it stick out in your memory and keep you focused on the conversation.\\nIf someone says, “After we finish getting groceries, we’ll stop by Tim’s to drop off the food, then we’ll swing by the dog park for a bit” you could say, “Okay, groceries, Tim’s, dog park. Got it.”\\n9. Repeat instructions before you start something.\\nMake sure you understand what you need to do.\\nIf a boss, teacher, friend, or anyone else gives you a task or an assignment, listen closely to what they say when they explain it to you. Then, echo their instructions to make sure you know what you need to do and to show them that you understand what they’re saying.\\nFor instance, if your manager gives you a list of things to do before you get off work, you could say, “Okay, empty the garbage, adjust the thermostat, and turn off all the lights. Got it.”\\nThey can also correct or clarify something if you aren’t fully understanding them.\\n10. Ask for the key points if you’re confused.\\nIt can help you out if you get lost in the details.\\nIf someone is talking really quickly, sharing lots of little details, or if you’re just having trouble following along, try asking them to help you out. Tell them you’re a bit confused and ask if they can give you the main points that they want you to understand.\\nYou could try, “So sorry, I’m a bit lost. Can you tell me what the main points were?”\\nYou could also try to keep it casual with something like, “I’m having a little trouble keeping up. Can you give me the summary?”\\n11. Take notes or ask for something in writing.\\nThat way you’re super clear on what the instructions are.\\nIf you’re in a meeting, class, or lecture, taking notes is a great way to keep yourself focused and record the information so you can study or review it later. Jot down key words and any questions you have so you can remember to ask them later. If someone is asking you to do something, ask them if they can email or write out the directions so you can consult them and you won’t get confused.\\nIf you’re able to, recording a conversation, class, or lecture can be really helpful. Use a recording app and replay it as many times as you need! Just make sure you get permission or ask if it’s okay first.\\n12. Avoid trying to give advice.\\nSometimes people just need to vent.\\nIf someone comes to you to talk about a problem or something that’s upsetting them, try not to worry about coming up with the perfect solution. Instead, focus on just being a good listener and being there for them. If they want your opinion or your input, they’ll ask!\\nIf you’re busy trying to come up with words of advice while someone is talking, you probably aren’t giving them your full attention.\\n13. Practice listening with someone you trust.\\nAsk a friend to help you get better at it.\\nListening is actually a skill! But that’s good news. It means you can work to get better at it. Ask a friend, family member, or even a trusted co-worker to help you out. Take turns telling each other a story about something that recently happened to you. Keep it short, but long enough that you’ll have to pay attention. When they’re done talking, repeat back key details from the story and ask them for some feedback.\\nFor instance, you could have your friend tell you about a restaurant they went to recently. They can talk about everything they did while they were there, what they ate, and what they thought about the experience. When they’re finished, you can give a recap of the story to see how well you were paying attention.\\nThe more you practice listening, the better you’ll be. In time, you can become a master listener!\\nTips\\nIf you’re prescribed medication for your ADHD, take it! It can really help improve your focus, which can help you be a better listener.[18]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nWarnings\\nDon’t be too hard on yourself if you have trouble focusing. That’s just your ADHD! If you need help dealing with it, try working with a therapist. They’ll give you tools (and potentially medication) you can use to manage your symptoms.[19]\\nX\\nTrustworthy Source\\nHelpGuide\\nNonprofit organization dedicated to providing free, evidence-based mental health and wellness resources.\\nGo to source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Does this sound familiar to you? You’re listening to someone talk, and they say something that reminds you of something else—and then before you know it, you’re thinking about something you forgot to do, what you want to eat for dinner, or a song you heard recently (or maybe all three at once). If you’ve got ADHD, staying focused can be a real challenge, especially when someone is talking to you. Fortunately, there are a few things you can do about it. To help you out, we’ve put together an authoritative list of great tools and strategies you can use to keep yourself focused and be a better listener.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stop anything else you’re doing to listen.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Multi-tasking can make it harder for you to pay attention.\", \"描述\": \"If someone wants to talk, put away your phone, close your book, or turn off the TV. Pull up a chair and give them your undivided attention. They’ll appreciate it and it’ll make it easier for you to focus on what they’re saying.\\nYour ability to multi-task may be great for getting things done at work and around your home, but it won’t make you a better listener!\\nCatch yourself when your mind starts wandering off.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Smile, nod, and say brief words or sounds.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"It’ll help keep your mind from wandering.\", \"描述\": \"While you’re listening to someone talk, nod your head to acknowledge that you understand what they’re saying and smile occasionally (like when they say something funny) to let them know you’re listening. Every now and then, make a sound like “uh-huh” or say something brief like, “okay” or “right.” It can help you stay focused on the conversation and it’ll make it seem like you’re really listening, which the person talking may really appreciate.\\nFor instance, while the other person is talking to you, when they make a point, you could say, “Gotcha.”\\nFocusing on what they’re saying in order to respond or react can help you pay attention.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Mentally repeat their words.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"It may help you follow along in the conversation.\", \"描述\": \"As they’re talking to you, echo the words in your mind. It’ll help them stick and will force you to really pay attention to what they’re saying. If you get lost or you aren’t sure what they said, just ask so you can get back on track.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Visualize the story.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Imagine what they’re saying like a movie in your head.\", \"描述\": \"Many people with ADHD are visual thinkers and learners, so take advantage of the way your brain works. When someone is talking or explaining something to you, try thinking of it like a movie with characters and lots of detail. It can help you follow along in the conversation and may help you better comprehend what someone is saying.\\nFor instance, if a teacher is explaining a concept, try visualizing it in your mind. If your friend is telling you about their day, imagine it in your mind as they talk about it.\\nMake sure to visualize and listen, though—you don't want to start daydreaming!\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Use fidgeting to help improve your focus.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Keeping your hands busy can make it easier for you to listen.\", \"描述\": \"Fidgeting is a mindless activity that you can do while you’re working on another task (like listening). It’s been proven to be an effective way to help people with ADHD improve their ability to focus. Try playing with a fidget toy while you’re listening. If you can’t use a toy, try carrying around a small, smooth stone (known as a “worry rock”) in your pocket that you can fiddle with when you need to focus.\\nYou can also try explaining to people that fidgeting actually helps you pay attention so they’ll understand and you don’t have to keep it hidden.\\nOther simple forms of fidgeting include drumming your fingers or doodling while you’re on a phone call or listening to a lecture.\\nSimilarly, taking up a physical activity that incorporates mindfulness (like martial arts or yoga) might help you improve your focus.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Try not to focus on what you’ll say next.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"You’ll know what to say when it’s your turn to talk.\", \"描述\": \"Pay attention to what the person talking to you is saying right now. Follow along with their words and don’t worry about coming up with something to say when they’re done talking.\\nPlus, just by being a better listener and paying attention to the person you’re talking to when they’re speaking, you’ll actually be better prepared to respond to them.\\nBring your mind back to the conversation if you catch yourself thinking way ahead.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Wait until it’s your turn to talk.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"It can help you focus on what someone else is saying.\", \"描述\": \"Resist the urge to jump in and interrupt a conversation. Focus on waiting until the person speaking finishes their sentence or is done talking before you say something. If you do need to interrupt to clarify something or ask a question, politely ask for permission first.\\nNot only is it rude to interrupt someone when they’re speaking, it can actually make it harder for you to pay attention to what they’re saying.\\nIf you need to interrupt, you could ask, “Excuse me, can I ask a quick question?”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Comment on a key point you heard.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"It shows you’re listening and can help you follow along.\", \"描述\": \"Whenever someone talking to you says something important or if they put emphasis on something, try repeating it back out loud or summarizing it in your own words. It’ll help it stick out in your memory and keep you focused on the conversation.\\nIf someone says, “After we finish getting groceries, we’ll stop by Tim’s to drop off the food, then we’ll swing by the dog park for a bit” you could say, “Okay, groceries, Tim’s, dog park. Got it.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Repeat instructions before you start something.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Make sure you understand what you need to do.\", \"描述\": \"If a boss, teacher, friend, or anyone else gives you a task or an assignment, listen closely to what they say when they explain it to you. Then, echo their instructions to make sure you know what you need to do and to show them that you understand what they’re saying.\\nFor instance, if your manager gives you a list of things to do before you get off work, you could say, “Okay, empty the garbage, adjust the thermostat, and turn off all the lights. 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1. Improving Yourself Internally
1-1. Stay true to your values.
Make a conscious effort to define your core values—the principles you hold as true and unchanging—and commit to following through on those values regardless of any inconvenience that might result from doing so.
Having a strong moral base will make it easier to remain true to who you are even when things get tough. Committing to your values may take courage from time to time, but it'll be well worth the effort.
To fix your values firmly in place, take time to actually write them down. Keep the list somewhere secure and occasionally return to it, especially when your present circumstances start testing those values.
1-2. Train yourself to be realistically positive.
Being unreasonably idealistic could prevent you from effectively dealing with the reality of your life, but being optimistic will allow you to acknowledge that reality while still hoping for the best outcome.
Challenge your negative thoughts. Instead of assuming that things will go poorly, acknowledge the possibility but fix your mind on what you need to do to prevent failure from happening.
1-3. Pursue your goals.
Think ahead and plan for the future. Ask yourself what you want to accomplish and set the appropriate goals in response. Once you set those goals, commit to achieving them.
To some degree, you do need to live in the moment and enjoy your life for what it is. Don't let the blessings your life disappear because you're too focused on the future to pay attention to the present.
On the other hand, failing to set goals for yourself can easily lead to stagnation, which can cause your life to feel less fulfilling than it could be.
1-4. Stand steady under pressure.
Stress is unavoidable. When faced with an infuriating or anxiety-inducing situation, though, train yourself to remain calm and control those emotions instead of letting them run wild.
Instead of following through with a knee-jerk reaction, take the time you need to calm down and think through things rationally. React according to reason rather than emotion.
This doesn't mean you can't have emotion, of course. On the contrary, accepting the fact that you do have feelings can be a difficult thing for some men, but the sooner you admit it, the easier it will be to control those emotions instead of letting them control you.
1-5. Take responsibility for your own behavior.
When things go wrong and your actions are to blame, accept your responsibility and move on. Similarly, when things go well and your actions are one primary cause, graciously accept your due credit for the accomplishment.
Don't blame others for your own lack of success, and don't focus on the negative behaviors others have done when evaluating why things went wrong. You have no control over the things other people do to you; you can only control your own actions, so it makes sense to focus on your actions when evaluating the past and moving forward.
1-6. Sharpen your mind.
Actively pursue knowledge and keep your brain in optimal working condition. Reading is a great way to do this, but you can also keep your mental abilities sharp by solving puzzles or tackling new challenges.
1-7. Let your mind rest.
While it's important to keep your mind sharp, it'll be easy to overwork it if you don't give yourself a chance to escape from the world and relax every once in a while.
Hanging out with your friends can be an important part of relaxing, but you should also throw some alone time into the mix. When you do spend alone time, unplug from the world as much as possible. Get off the computer and turn off your phone. Spend time in solitude and give yourself a chance to recharge.
2. Improving Yourself Externally
2-1. Take care of your body.
You don't need to look like a bodybuilder—though, congratulations if you do—but some basic self-maintenance can go a long way. Keep the three cornerstones of a healthy lifestyle in mind: a healthy diet, regular exercise, and sufficient sleep.
You don't need to live on salad and protein smoothies to have a healthy diet. On the contrary, the healthiest diets are also the most balanced. You may, however, have to resist the temptation to binge on junk food. Man cannot live on bacon and deep-fried candy bars alone.
Try to exercise as soon as you wake up in the morning. You can go to the gym if doing so appeals to you, but if it doesn't, you can still take a brisk walk or get your blood pumping with a few jumping jacks.
2-2. Maintain a well-groomed appearance.
Your appearance plays a major role in someone's first impression of you. While a woman's beauty rituals and routines can be somewhat complex, all you really need to do as a man is maintain some basic hygiene and wear clean, orderly clothes that fit the occasion.
Bathe regularly. You don't need to swim in your cologne, but you might consider dabbing some on for a special occasion, like an important date.
If you have facial hair, keep it trimmed. If you only have stubble, keep it shaved.
Wear clean clothes that look good, and make sure that they fit the occasion. Jeans and an old t-shirt are fine for a night with friends, but you should look a little sharper for a job interview or a first date.
2-3. Stay informed.
Keep yourself updated on the world around you. Instead of filling your mind with relatively meaningless information, though, focus on the people and events that really matter. This might mean sacrificing some of the time you devote to sports or gaming to learn about things like the current state of foreign affairs or the economic effect of the latest natural disaster.
You need to understand the world you live in if you want to function in it as best as possible.
This doesn't mean you can't devote time to your hobbies and interests, of course. These things are important since they help you wind down and recharge. Simply learn to prioritize your attention, and learn to enjoy your hobbies without letting them control your life.
2-4. Clean your living and working spaces.
There's a reason why bachelors have a notorious reputation for being slobs. Defy the stereotype and keep your personal space in relatively clean condition. You don't need to maintain absolute pristine conditions, but you should probably make sure that you can at least look down and see the floor instead of seeing piles of dirty laundry and empty take-out containers.
2-5. Be responsible with your money.
Debt can be a major burden, and having too much of it will make financial institutions less likely to loan you money for things like education, new cars, and better living spaces. In short, being financially irresponsible will prevent you from moving ahead in life.
Don't spend money you don't have, and save some of the money you do have. Setting a little of your paycheck aside in your bank account or investing some of it wisely can give you greater financial security during hard times.
2-6. Experience something new.
The key to living an interesting life is to do interesting things. Challenge yourself to learn something new or travel someplace you've never seen before.
Find something that interests you and learn about it. This might mean doing something mental, like studying a new language, or doing something physical, like learning karate.
3. Thinking Beyond Yourself
3-1. Think before you act.
While foot-in-mouth syndrome can affect both men and women equally, men generally have more of a reputation to get in trouble for it. Regardless of whether or not this is fair, you should make a conscious effort to put a few seconds of thought into the things you plan on saying or doing before actually following through with them.
Being “hot-blooded” is often viewed as a masculine trait, but it generally isn't wise. While you shouldn't be afraid to take action, recognize that some impulses are not necessarily good. A quick evaluation should be enough to determine whether or not it's safe to proceed.
For instance, if your first reaction is to insult your coworker or subordinate for a minor mistake, it'll be to everyone's benefit if you pause, question your impulse, and choose a better way to deal with the issue.
3-2. Adopt an altruistic attitude.
Seek the best course of action for all parties involved, even if you have to make some self-sacrifice along the way. By demonstrating your willingness to put others before yourself, you send the message that you're someone worth trusting.
Empathy isn't something that comes easily to many men, and it's easy to lose sight of other people when you're focused on your owl goals. Nevertheless, it's important to keep persisting in your efforts to meet the spoken and unspoken needs of other people.
This does not mean sacrificing your self-respect, of course. There's a fine line between sacrificing for others and letting others walk all over you. The former is your choice, but the latter is a choice forced upon you that you blindly accept.
3-3. Behave sincerely.
Treat other people with the same sort of genuine attitude you wish they'd demonstrate in return. Be true to yourself, and allow that truthfulness to spill out in the midst of your daily interactions.
Try not to say or do things you don't mean, even if you're trying to spare someone's feelings or defuse an ugly situation. Being caught in your insincerity will cause people to lose confidence in you, which will make it difficult to have a successful personal or professional relationship with that person.
Take two major action steps here: stop telling white lies and keep any commitments you make (unless a true and unavoidable emergency prevents you from doing so).
3-4. Meet your familial obligations.
There are many family roles you might play during your lifetime. You might be a son, a brother, a husband, or a father. You could have important connections to extended family, or your friends might be your family even though they aren't related. Regardless of where you fit, you need to make sure that you meet the responsibilities called for within that role.
Both men and women need to be equally involved in their families, but while this is already socially expected of women, society doesn't often place the same degree of expectation on men. For instance, a working mom may receive questions regarding how she balances her career with her family, but a working dad probably won't.
By striving to meet your obligations within your family, you can build your relationships while also building your personal moral character. Families are life-long testing grounds, and treating your family well teaches you to treat others outside the family with similar care.
3-5. Treat women with respect.
Contrary to popular belief, jerks don't get the girl—at least, not when the girl has any sense of self-respect. If you aren't already doing so, you need to stop treating women as objects and start looking at them as fellow human beings.
3-6. Make the first move.
In any social situation, one person has to be the one who says “go.” Don't be afraid to be that person. Start making choices and arranging plans, and work through any objections as they come instead of worrying about them ahead of time.
The romantic realm offers the most obvious example. If you want to ask a girl out, ask her out. You might get rejected, but even if you do, her rejection at least frees your attention and allows you to start looking elsewhere.
As a non-romantic example, consider the dynamic between you and your friends. Instead of being the one who gets invited to things, start reaching out and extending the invite yourself.
3-7. Accept others for who they are.
Nobody gets along with everybody, but you can probably tolerate most people if you can view them through an objective lens.
No one shares your exact history and current circumstances, so no one will think in exactly the same way you think. Moreover, each person is in a different stage of personal growth; you can probably look back on your life to a time you're not especially proud of.
Once you learn to accept the strengths and weaknesses of other people, you can start influencing them from a place of genuine concern rather than harsh criticism.
3-8. Demonstrate gratitude.
Becoming a better man takes a lot of hard work, and you should be proud of your own accomplishments. You also need to acknowledge the help you receive from other people, though. Be grateful for that help internally, and be eager to share your gratitude externally to the appropriate parties.
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Train yourself to be realistically positive.\\nBeing unreasonably idealistic could prevent you from effectively dealing with the reality of your life, but being optimistic will allow you to acknowledge that reality while still hoping for the best outcome.\\nChallenge your negative thoughts. Instead of assuming that things will go poorly, acknowledge the possibility but fix your mind on what you need to do to prevent failure from happening.\\n1-3. Pursue your goals.\\nThink ahead and plan for the future. Ask yourself what you want to accomplish and set the appropriate goals in response. Once you set those goals, commit to achieving them.\\nTo some degree, you do need to live in the moment and enjoy your life for what it is. 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Take responsibility for your own behavior.\\nWhen things go wrong and your actions are to blame, accept your responsibility and move on. Similarly, when things go well and your actions are one primary cause, graciously accept your due credit for the accomplishment.\\nDon't blame others for your own lack of success, and don't focus on the negative behaviors others have done when evaluating why things went wrong. You have no control over the things other people do to you; you can only control your own actions, so it makes sense to focus on your actions when evaluating the past and moving forward.\\n1-6. Sharpen your mind.\\nActively pursue knowledge and keep your brain in optimal working condition. Reading is a great way to do this, but you can also keep your mental abilities sharp by solving puzzles or tackling new challenges.\\n1-7. 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Jeans and an old t-shirt are fine for a night with friends, but you should look a little sharper for a job interview or a first date.\\n2-3. Stay informed.\\nKeep yourself updated on the world around you. Instead of filling your mind with relatively meaningless information, though, focus on the people and events that really matter. This might mean sacrificing some of the time you devote to sports or gaming to learn about things like the current state of foreign affairs or the economic effect of the latest natural disaster.\\nYou need to understand the world you live in if you want to function in it as best as possible.\\nThis doesn't mean you can't devote time to your hobbies and interests, of course. These things are important since they help you wind down and recharge. Simply learn to prioritize your attention, and learn to enjoy your hobbies without letting them control your life.\\n2-4. Clean your living and working spaces.\\nThere's a reason why bachelors have a notorious reputation for being slobs. Defy the stereotype and keep your personal space in relatively clean condition. You don't need to maintain absolute pristine conditions, but you should probably make sure that you can at least look down and see the floor instead of seeing piles of dirty laundry and empty take-out containers.\\n2-5. Be responsible with your money.\\nDebt can be a major burden, and having too much of it will make financial institutions less likely to loan you money for things like education, new cars, and better living spaces. In short, being financially irresponsible will prevent you from moving ahead in life.\\nDon't spend money you don't have, and save some of the money you do have. Setting a little of your paycheck aside in your bank account or investing some of it wisely can give you greater financial security during hard times.\\n2-6. Experience something new.\\nThe key to living an interesting life is to do interesting things. Challenge yourself to learn something new or travel someplace you've never seen before.\\nFind something that interests you and learn about it. This might mean doing something mental, like studying a new language, or doing something physical, like learning karate.\\n3. Thinking Beyond Yourself\\n3-1. Think before you act.\\nWhile foot-in-mouth syndrome can affect both men and women equally, men generally have more of a reputation to get in trouble for it. Regardless of whether or not this is fair, you should make a conscious effort to put a few seconds of thought into the things you plan on saying or doing before actually following through with them.\\nBeing “hot-blooded” is often viewed as a masculine trait, but it generally isn't wise. While you shouldn't be afraid to take action, recognize that some impulses are not necessarily good. A quick evaluation should be enough to determine whether or not it's safe to proceed.\\nFor instance, if your first reaction is to insult your coworker or subordinate for a minor mistake, it'll be to everyone's benefit if you pause, question your impulse, and choose a better way to deal with the issue.\\n3-2. Adopt an altruistic attitude.\\nSeek the best course of action for all parties involved, even if you have to make some self-sacrifice along the way. By demonstrating your willingness to put others before yourself, you send the message that you're someone worth trusting.\\nEmpathy isn't something that comes easily to many men, and it's easy to lose sight of other people when you're focused on your owl goals. Nevertheless, it's important to keep persisting in your efforts to meet the spoken and unspoken needs of other people.\\nThis does not mean sacrificing your self-respect, of course. There's a fine line between sacrificing for others and letting others walk all over you. The former is your choice, but the latter is a choice forced upon you that you blindly accept.\\n3-3. Behave sincerely.\\nTreat other people with the same sort of genuine attitude you wish they'd demonstrate in return. Be true to yourself, and allow that truthfulness to spill out in the midst of your daily interactions.\\nTry not to say or do things you don't mean, even if you're trying to spare someone's feelings or defuse an ugly situation. Being caught in your insincerity will cause people to lose confidence in you, which will make it difficult to have a successful personal or professional relationship with that person.\\nTake two major action steps here: stop telling white lies and keep any commitments you make (unless a true and unavoidable emergency prevents you from doing so).\\n3-4. Meet your familial obligations.\\nThere are many family roles you might play during your lifetime. You might be a son, a brother, a husband, or a father. You could have important connections to extended family, or your friends might be your family even though they aren't related. Regardless of where you fit, you need to make sure that you meet the responsibilities called for within that role.\\nBoth men and women need to be equally involved in their families, but while this is already socially expected of women, society doesn't often place the same degree of expectation on men. For instance, a working mom may receive questions regarding how she balances her career with her family, but a working dad probably won't.\\nBy striving to meet your obligations within your family, you can build your relationships while also building your personal moral character. Families are life-long testing grounds, and treating your family well teaches you to treat others outside the family with similar care.\\n3-5. Treat women with respect.\\nContrary to popular belief, jerks don't get the girl—at least, not when the girl has any sense of self-respect. If you aren't already doing so, you need to stop treating women as objects and start looking at them as fellow human beings.\\n3-6. Make the first move.\\nIn any social situation, one person has to be the one who says “go.” Don't be afraid to be that person. Start making choices and arranging plans, and work through any objections as they come instead of worrying about them ahead of time.\\nThe romantic realm offers the most obvious example. If you want to ask a girl out, ask her out. You might get rejected, but even if you do, her rejection at least frees your attention and allows you to start looking elsewhere.\\nAs a non-romantic example, consider the dynamic between you and your friends. Instead of being the one who gets invited to things, start reaching out and extending the invite yourself.\\n3-7. Accept others for who they are.\\nNobody gets along with everybody, but you can probably tolerate most people if you can view them through an objective lens.\\nNo one shares your exact history and current circumstances, so no one will think in exactly the same way you think. Moreover, each person is in a different stage of personal growth; you can probably look back on your life to a time you're not especially proud of.\\nOnce you learn to accept the strengths and weaknesses of other people, you can start influencing them from a place of genuine concern rather than harsh criticism.\\n3-8. Demonstrate gratitude.\\nBecoming a better man takes a lot of hard work, and you should be proud of your own accomplishments. You also need to acknowledge the help you receive from other people, though. Be grateful for that help internally, and be eager to share your gratitude externally to the appropriate parties.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"You may be a good man, but can you be better? Of course! It doesn’t take much, either; there are so many little changes you can make to improve as a man. Whether it’s changing the way you feel about yourself, or taking the first steps towards pursuing a goal, we’ll cover the changes you can make right now to be a better person. Read on to learn more about the steps you can take to become the best possible version of yourself today.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Improving Yourself Internally\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Stay true to your values.\", \"描述\": \"Make a conscious effort to define your core values—the principles you hold as true and unchanging—and commit to following through on those values regardless of any inconvenience that might result from doing so.\\nHaving a strong moral base will make it easier to remain true to who you are even when things get tough. Committing to your values may take courage from time to time, but it'll be well worth the effort.\\nTo fix your values firmly in place, take time to actually write them down. Keep the list somewhere secure and occasionally return to it, especially when your present circumstances start testing those values.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Train yourself to be realistically positive.\", \"描述\": \"Being unreasonably idealistic could prevent you from effectively dealing with the reality of your life, but being optimistic will allow you to acknowledge that reality while still hoping for the best outcome.\\nChallenge your negative thoughts. Instead of assuming that things will go poorly, acknowledge the possibility but fix your mind on what you need to do to prevent failure from happening.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pursue your goals.\", \"描述\": \"Think ahead and plan for the future. Ask yourself what you want to accomplish and set the appropriate goals in response. Once you set those goals, commit to achieving them.\\nTo some degree, you do need to live in the moment and enjoy your life for what it is. Don't let the blessings your life disappear because you're too focused on the future to pay attention to the present.\\nOn the other hand, failing to set goals for yourself can easily lead to stagnation, which can cause your life to feel less fulfilling than it could be.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stand steady under pressure.\", \"描述\": \"Stress is unavoidable. When faced with an infuriating or anxiety-inducing situation, though, train yourself to remain calm and control those emotions instead of letting them run wild.\\nInstead of following through with a knee-jerk reaction, take the time you need to calm down and think through things rationally. React according to reason rather than emotion.\\nThis doesn't mean you can't have emotion, of course. On the contrary, accepting the fact that you do have feelings can be a difficult thing for some men, but the sooner you admit it, the easier it will be to control those emotions instead of letting them control you.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Take responsibility for your own behavior.\", \"描述\": \"When things go wrong and your actions are to blame, accept your responsibility and move on. Similarly, when things go well and your actions are one primary cause, graciously accept your due credit for the accomplishment.\\nDon't blame others for your own lack of success, and don't focus on the negative behaviors others have done when evaluating why things went wrong. You have no control over the things other people do to you; you can only control your own actions, so it makes sense to focus on your actions when evaluating the past and moving forward.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Sharpen your mind.\", \"描述\": \"Actively pursue knowledge and keep your brain in optimal working condition. Reading is a great way to do this, but you can also keep your mental abilities sharp by solving puzzles or tackling new challenges.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Let your mind rest.\", \"描述\": \"While it's important to keep your mind sharp, it'll be easy to overwork it if you don't give yourself a chance to escape from the world and relax every once in a while.\\nHanging out with your friends can be an important part of relaxing, but you should also throw some alone time into the mix. When you do spend alone time, unplug from the world as much as possible. Get off the computer and turn off your phone. Spend time in solitude and give yourself a chance to recharge.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Improving Yourself Externally\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take care of your body.\", \"描述\": \"You don't need to look like a bodybuilder—though, congratulations if you do—but some basic self-maintenance can go a long way. Keep the three cornerstones of a healthy lifestyle in mind: a healthy diet, regular exercise, and sufficient sleep.\\nYou don't need to live on salad and protein smoothies to have a healthy diet. On the contrary, the healthiest diets are also the most balanced. You may, however, have to resist the temptation to binge on junk food. Man cannot live on bacon and deep-fried candy bars alone.\\nTry to exercise as soon as you wake up in the morning. You can go to the gym if doing so appeals to you, but if it doesn't, you can still take a brisk walk or get your blood pumping with a few jumping jacks.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Maintain a well-groomed appearance.\", \"描述\": \"Your appearance plays a major role in someone's first impression of you. While a woman's beauty rituals and routines can be somewhat complex, all you really need to do as a man is maintain some basic hygiene and wear clean, orderly clothes that fit the occasion.\\nBathe regularly. You don't need to swim in your cologne, but you might consider dabbing some on for a special occasion, like an important date.\\nIf you have facial hair, keep it trimmed. If you only have stubble, keep it shaved.\\nWear clean clothes that look good, and make sure that they fit the occasion. Jeans and an old t-shirt are fine for a night with friends, but you should look a little sharper for a job interview or a first date.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Stay informed.\", \"描述\": \"Keep yourself updated on the world around you. Instead of filling your mind with relatively meaningless information, though, focus on the people and events that really matter. This might mean sacrificing some of the time you devote to sports or gaming to learn about things like the current state of foreign affairs or the economic effect of the latest natural disaster.\\nYou need to understand the world you live in if you want to function in it as best as possible.\\nThis doesn't mean you can't devote time to your hobbies and interests, of course. These things are important since they help you wind down and recharge. Simply learn to prioritize your attention, and learn to enjoy your hobbies without letting them control your life.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Clean your living and working spaces.\", \"描述\": \"There's a reason why bachelors have a notorious reputation for being slobs. Defy the stereotype and keep your personal space in relatively clean condition. 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A quick evaluation should be enough to determine whether or not it's safe to proceed.\\nFor instance, if your first reaction is to insult your coworker or subordinate for a minor mistake, it'll be to everyone's benefit if you pause, question your impulse, and choose a better way to deal with the issue.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Adopt an altruistic attitude.\", \"描述\": \"Seek the best course of action for all parties involved, even if you have to make some self-sacrifice along the way. By demonstrating your willingness to put others before yourself, you send the message that you're someone worth trusting.\\nEmpathy isn't something that comes easily to many men, and it's easy to lose sight of other people when you're focused on your owl goals. Nevertheless, it's important to keep persisting in your efforts to meet the spoken and unspoken needs of other people.\\nThis does not mean sacrificing your self-respect, of course. 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1. Set goals for yourself.
Positive, obtainable aspirations can give you something to thrive for.
Everyone needs something to live for, so think about what you want in life. Not only can striving for something make you a happier and better person, but it can also help you find your purpose. Use a pen and paper and write down the short and long-term goals you would like to achieve. Try asking yourself these questions to find and set an achievable goal:
Is there a relationship in your life you want to improve?
What causes or movements are you passionate about?
Is there a project you’ve been meaning to finish?
What do you like to do in your free time?
Making your goal to “be a better” person may be challenging to define and achieve. Instead, opt for small goals that can help you grow as an individual, like reading a nonfiction book, writing a short story, calling your mom every weekend, or helping someone in need every day.
2. Practice forgiveness.
Forgiving yourself
On your journey to becoming a better person, it’s important to let go of any grudges you're holding. The past is in the past; it’s time to move forward. Allow yourself time to forgive your past mistakes and recognize what they’ve taught you. Then, forgive those who have hurt you. You may not be able to forget what they’ve done, and that’s okay, but forgiveness can give you peace of mind.
Dwelling on past wrongs can actually increase your blood pressure and heart rate, while forgiveness can help manage and lower stress.
3. Be empathetic towards others.
Imagining what someone’s been through can give you a new perspective.
Empathy is one of the first steps to being a better person because it builds your compassion. Not only does cultivating empathy help you be more sensitive toward other people, but it also helps you form lasting relationships and feel less isolated. Being empathic helps you gain a friend while challenging your perspective. Here are some ways you can be more empathic:
Avoid making assumptions about people and jumping to conclusions.
Imagine yourself in someone else’s shoes or situation.
Actively listen to express interest and help someone feel heard.
4. Give back to your community.
Helping others doesn’t only benefit them; it benefits you too!
Research shows that being altruistic (the act of promoting someone else’s welfare) improves mood and overall happiness. So, consider volunteering at a local shelter, donating used clothes, or picking up trash at the park. Even the smallest act can make the biggest difference.
Aim to practice at least one act of kindness every day. It doesn’t have to be something big or time-consuming. Even leaving a sticky note on a public bathroom mirror saying, “You’re beautiful inside and out!” can make someone’s day.
When you help others, you get a rush of endorphins that make you feel good. This is known as the “helper’s high.”
5. Go outside your comfort zone.
Expose yourself to new experiences to grow as an individual.
Comfort zones are great, but they can also be stagnant. Every once and a while, change up your daily schedule, try something new, and step outside your comfort zone. Trying new things that make you a little uncomfortable can broaden your horizons and open your eyes to a different perspective.
Make a bucket list of things you can do outside of your comfort zone. Then, spend every other weekend checking an activity off the list.
Ask friends to join you on your adventures for double the fun.
Experiment with a different routine by going to a different coffee shop for lunch or taking an alternative route to work.
Don’t be afraid to challenge yourself. The impossible can be obtainable if you put your best foot forward.
6. Learn something new.
One of the best ways to better yourself is to educate yourself.
Knowledge can go a long way, especially when it comes to understanding other people’s situations. Whether you're in school or not, self-educating can help you grow and evolve as an individual. The more you know, the more perspective you’ll gain. Here are some ways you can learn something new today:
Sign up for a class you're interested in online or at a library. Maybe that’s an art class or a course on American Literature.
Read a nonfiction book.
Listen to a podcast about a topic you want to learn more about, like business, money, culture, or mental health.
7. Acknowledge your weaknesses.
Everyone has flaws, but you can aim to improve yours.
Notice how your behavior and attitude affect others. Are people generally happy or sad around you? Do friends come to you for help or advice? Answering these questions and analyzing your interactions can help you discover and strengthen your weaknesses.
For instance, if friends don’t usually come to you for advice, ask yourself why. Do you talk over them or criticize their decisions? Maybe you need to work on being a better listener.
The more you learn to be flexible and adaptable with your behavior, the better you can care for yourself and those around you.
8. Control your anger.
Feeling angry is natural, but too much anger can hinder compassion.
When you want to be a better person, it’s important to understand the whys and hows of someone else’s situation. Things may not work out how they’re supposed to, but that's okay. Take a deep breath and remember that you may not be able to control many things, but you can control your attitude.
Try redirecting your anger away from yourself and others by going on a walk, doing yoga, or punching a pillow.
Calm yourself down by taking deep belly breaths and visualizing a relaxing or joyful memory.
Reconstruct your thinking patterns by avoiding words like “never” or “always” to describe yourself or others.
9. Express your feelings respectfully.
Using “I” statements can help you thoughtfully articulate emotions.
Life is full of complex and confusing emotions, and with those emotions comes conflict. You may not be able to control every situation you’re in, but you can control your reactions. “I” statements can be used in conflicts or emotionally tense situations to communicate feelings without pointing blame. Check out these ways you can change these phrases into “I” statements:
“You never listen to me anymore,” changes to, “I feel that my concerns aren’t being heard.”
“I hate when you shout at the kids,” changes to, “When you shout at the kids, I feel upset because I want the kids to feel respected.”
“You’re always grounding me. It’s not fair!” changes to, “I feel like you’re always grounding me, and it upsets me.”
10. Be grateful.
Practicing gratitude
Gratitude is more than a feeling; it’s an active practice. Being thankful and appreciative of your life, no matter where you are in it, helps you be compassionate and loving towards yourself and others. Take a moment to recognize that goodness can be outside yourself and that every smile or simple favor is a gift. Here are some more ways you can cultivate gratitude in your life:
Keep a gratitude journal or make a gratitude list to highlight all the things you're thankful for each day, big or small.
Savor surprises by appreciating the thought that was put into them.
Share what you’re thankful for with others. For instance, if your brother helped you move your couch, let him know how much you appreciate his help.
11. Be patient.
Things don’t always happen the way you’d like them to, and that’s okay!
Rather than getting upset when things don’t go your way, take a deep breath and remember to have patience. It’s alright if life is slower. Try savoring these slow moments by noticing the little things and acknowledging the positives in the situation.
For instance, maybe you ordered a pizza for family game night, but the deliverer is stuck in traffic. Instead of getting frustrated, recognize that the extra time waiting for your pizza has given you more time to pick out a game. Plus, you’ll probably get a discounted pizza.
Another example could be that your computer starts updating the moment you want to work. Rather than getting upset, use the extra minutes of downtime to play with your dog, take a walk, or do some tidying up.
12. Be yourself.
The best way to be a better person is to simply be 100% you!
You are unique, special, and one-of-a-kind. Accepting yourself for who you truly are can help you feel happier, improve your life, and strengthen your identity. Follow your gut, do what you love, and explore your interests. The more you do to fuel your energy, the happier and more confident you’ll be.
Enroll in classes that spark your interest to learn a new skill or find a new passion.
Do things that are meaningful to you to help you feel fulfilled.
13. Take care of yourself.
Sleep, food, and exercise can give you the energy you need to be better.
If you don’t give your body the proper nutrition and rest it needs, you won’t be able to serve yourself or others. Stick to a regular routine that’s healthy for you, and watch how your mood changes for the better. When you support your physical health, you support your mental health.
Aim to get at least 7 hours of sleep every night to help your mind and body recharge.
Eat food that nourishes your mind and body. Aim to eat whole foods, but don’t restrict yourself—it’s okay to have a cookie every now and then!
Do a form of exercise you enjoy for at least 30 minutes every day. Maybe that’s walking, dancing, hiking, doing yoga, or kickboxing.
14. Accept that change happens.
It’s okay if your goals don’t stay the same as you grow.
The journey of self-improvement isn’t a straight path—it bends and twists when you least expect it! Because of this, your short-term and long-term goals may change as you go. This is completely normal and a sign that you’re becoming a better person. After all, you wouldn’t be adapting if you didn’t want to improve.
Try your best not to dwell on the past. Instead, focus on the present moment. Change is inevitable, but you can roll with the punches.
15. Be kind to yourself.
Before learning to love others, you must learn to love yourself.
Self-compassion may sound like the opposite of being a better person, but caring for yourself is the first step to improvement. After all, if you can’t care for yourself, how can you care for others? Try these exercises to help you be kinder to yourself:
Pretend you’re writing a letter to a friend in a similar situation. How would you talk them through it?
Place your hand over your heart and whisper positive affirmations to yourself when you’re down, like “I am safe,” “I am kind to myself,” and “I am smart and have a big heart.”
Note your accomplishments and achievements without criticism by responding rationally to self-critical thoughts. Acknowledge where the critic comes from and then prove it wrong in a logical way.
Look in the mirror every morning and compliment yourself. You could say something like, “You’re beautiful, no matter what,” or “You have the brightest smile.”
Tips
Follow the golden rule “treat others the way you want to be treated” to be a kind person.
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Practice forgiveness.\\nForgiving yourself\\nOn your journey to becoming a better person, it’s important to let go of any grudges you're holding. The past is in the past; it’s time to move forward. Allow yourself time to forgive your past mistakes and recognize what they’ve taught you. Then, forgive those who have hurt you. You may not be able to forget what they’ve done, and that’s okay, but forgiveness can give you peace of mind.\\nDwelling on past wrongs can actually increase your blood pressure and heart rate, while forgiveness can help manage and lower stress.\\n3. Be empathetic towards others.\\nImagining what someone’s been through can give you a new perspective.\\nEmpathy is one of the first steps to being a better person because it builds your compassion. Not only does cultivating empathy help you be more sensitive toward other people, but it also helps you form lasting relationships and feel less isolated. Being empathic helps you gain a friend while challenging your perspective. Here are some ways you can be more empathic:\\nAvoid making assumptions about people and jumping to conclusions.\\nImagine yourself in someone else’s shoes or situation.\\nActively listen to express interest and help someone feel heard.\\n4. Give back to your community.\\nHelping others doesn’t only benefit them; it benefits you too!\\nResearch shows that being altruistic (the act of promoting someone else’s welfare) improves mood and overall happiness. So, consider volunteering at a local shelter, donating used clothes, or picking up trash at the park. Even the smallest act can make the biggest difference.\\nAim to practice at least one act of kindness every day. It doesn’t have to be something big or time-consuming. Even leaving a sticky note on a public bathroom mirror saying, “You’re beautiful inside and out!” can make someone’s day.\\nWhen you help others, you get a rush of endorphins that make you feel good. This is known as the “helper’s high.”\\n5. Go outside your comfort zone.\\nExpose yourself to new experiences to grow as an individual.\\nComfort zones are great, but they can also be stagnant. Every once and a while, change up your daily schedule, try something new, and step outside your comfort zone. Trying new things that make you a little uncomfortable can broaden your horizons and open your eyes to a different perspective.\\n\\nMake a bucket list of things you can do outside of your comfort zone. Then, spend every other weekend checking an activity off the list.\\nAsk friends to join you on your adventures for double the fun.\\nExperiment with a different routine by going to a different coffee shop for lunch or taking an alternative route to work.\\nDon’t be afraid to challenge yourself. The impossible can be obtainable if you put your best foot forward.\\n6. Learn something new.\\nOne of the best ways to better yourself is to educate yourself.\\nKnowledge can go a long way, especially when it comes to understanding other people’s situations. Whether you're in school or not, self-educating can help you grow and evolve as an individual. The more you know, the more perspective you’ll gain. Here are some ways you can learn something new today:\\nSign up for a class you're interested in online or at a library. Maybe that’s an art class or a course on American Literature.\\nRead a nonfiction book.\\nListen to a podcast about a topic you want to learn more about, like business, money, culture, or mental health.\\n7. Acknowledge your weaknesses.\\nEveryone has flaws, but you can aim to improve yours.\\nNotice how your behavior and attitude affect others. Are people generally happy or sad around you? Do friends come to you for help or advice? Answering these questions and analyzing your interactions can help you discover and strengthen your weaknesses.\\nFor instance, if friends don’t usually come to you for advice, ask yourself why. Do you talk over them or criticize their decisions? Maybe you need to work on being a better listener.\\nThe more you learn to be flexible and adaptable with your behavior, the better you can care for yourself and those around you.\\n8. Control your anger.\\nFeeling angry is natural, but too much anger can hinder compassion.\\nWhen you want to be a better person, it’s important to understand the whys and hows of someone else’s situation. Things may not work out how they’re supposed to, but that's okay. Take a deep breath and remember that you may not be able to control many things, but you can control your attitude.\\nTry redirecting your anger away from yourself and others by going on a walk, doing yoga, or punching a pillow.\\nCalm yourself down by taking deep belly breaths and visualizing a relaxing or joyful memory.\\nReconstruct your thinking patterns by avoiding words like “never” or “always” to describe yourself or others.\\n9. Express your feelings respectfully.\\nUsing “I” statements can help you thoughtfully articulate emotions.\\nLife is full of complex and confusing emotions, and with those emotions comes conflict. You may not be able to control every situation you’re in, but you can control your reactions. “I” statements can be used in conflicts or emotionally tense situations to communicate feelings without pointing blame. Check out these ways you can change these phrases into “I” statements:\\n“You never listen to me anymore,” changes to, “I feel that my concerns aren’t being heard.”\\n“I hate when you shout at the kids,” changes to, “When you shout at the kids, I feel upset because I want the kids to feel respected.”\\n“You’re always grounding me. It’s not fair!” changes to, “I feel like you’re always grounding me, and it upsets me.”\\n10. Be grateful.\\nPracticing gratitude\\nGratitude is more than a feeling; it’s an active practice. Being thankful and appreciative of your life, no matter where you are in it, helps you be compassionate and loving towards yourself and others. Take a moment to recognize that goodness can be outside yourself and that every smile or simple favor is a gift. Here are some more ways you can cultivate gratitude in your life:\\nKeep a gratitude journal or make a gratitude list to highlight all the things you're thankful for each day, big or small.\\nSavor surprises by appreciating the thought that was put into them.\\nShare what you’re thankful for with others. For instance, if your brother helped you move your couch, let him know how much you appreciate his help.\\n11. Be patient.\\nThings don’t always happen the way you’d like them to, and that’s okay!\\nRather than getting upset when things don’t go your way, take a deep breath and remember to have patience. It’s alright if life is slower. Try savoring these slow moments by noticing the little things and acknowledging the positives in the situation.\\nFor instance, maybe you ordered a pizza for family game night, but the deliverer is stuck in traffic. Instead of getting frustrated, recognize that the extra time waiting for your pizza has given you more time to pick out a game. Plus, you’ll probably get a discounted pizza.\\nAnother example could be that your computer starts updating the moment you want to work. Rather than getting upset, use the extra minutes of downtime to play with your dog, take a walk, or do some tidying up.\\n12. Be yourself.\\nThe best way to be a better person is to simply be 100% you!\\nYou are unique, special, and one-of-a-kind. Accepting yourself for who you truly are can help you feel happier, improve your life, and strengthen your identity. Follow your gut, do what you love, and explore your interests. The more you do to fuel your energy, the happier and more confident you’ll be.\\nEnroll in classes that spark your interest to learn a new skill or find a new passion.\\nDo things that are meaningful to you to help you feel fulfilled.\\n13. Take care of yourself.\\nSleep, food, and exercise can give you the energy you need to be better.\\nIf you don’t give your body the proper nutrition and rest it needs, you won’t be able to serve yourself or others. Stick to a regular routine that’s healthy for you, and watch how your mood changes for the better. When you support your physical health, you support your mental health.\\nAim to get at least 7 hours of sleep every night to help your mind and body recharge.\\n\\nEat food that nourishes your mind and body. Aim to eat whole foods, but don’t restrict yourself—it’s okay to have a cookie every now and then!\\nDo a form of exercise you enjoy for at least 30 minutes every day. Maybe that’s walking, dancing, hiking, doing yoga, or kickboxing.\\n14. Accept that change happens.\\nIt’s okay if your goals don’t stay the same as you grow.\\nThe journey of self-improvement isn’t a straight path—it bends and twists when you least expect it! Because of this, your short-term and long-term goals may change as you go. This is completely normal and a sign that you’re becoming a better person. After all, you wouldn’t be adapting if you didn’t want to improve.\\nTry your best not to dwell on the past. Instead, focus on the present moment. Change is inevitable, but you can roll with the punches.\\n15. Be kind to yourself.\\nBefore learning to love others, you must learn to love yourself.\\nSelf-compassion may sound like the opposite of being a better person, but caring for yourself is the first step to improvement. After all, if you can’t care for yourself, how can you care for others? Try these exercises to help you be kinder to yourself:\\nPretend you’re writing a letter to a friend in a similar situation. How would you talk them through it?\\nPlace your hand over your heart and whisper positive affirmations to yourself when you’re down, like “I am safe,” “I am kind to myself,” and “I am smart and have a big heart.”\\nNote your accomplishments and achievements without criticism by responding rationally to self-critical thoughts. Acknowledge where the critic comes from and then prove it wrong in a logical way.\\nLook in the mirror every morning and compliment yourself. You could say something like, “You’re beautiful, no matter what,” or “You have the brightest smile.”\\nTips\\nFollow the golden rule “treat others the way you want to be treated” to be a kind person.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Life can be a whirlwind of responsibilities and stress, but with the right focus, you can start becoming a better person and who you want to be. In this article, we’ll help you learn how to be a better person in a number of different ways. From honoring yourself to doing small acts of kindness, there’s something you can do each and every day to better yourself and grow as an individual. Keep reading to learn how you can embark on your self-improvement journey.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Set goals for yourself.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Positive, obtainable aspirations can give you something to thrive for.\", \"描述\": \"Everyone needs something to live for, so think about what you want in life. Not only can striving for something make you a happier and better person, but it can also help you find your purpose. Use a pen and paper and write down the short and long-term goals you would like to achieve. Try asking yourself these questions to find and set an achievable goal:\\nIs there a relationship in your life you want to improve?\\nWhat causes or movements are you passionate about?\\nIs there a project you’ve been meaning to finish?\\nWhat do you like to do in your free time?\\nMaking your goal to “be a better” person may be challenging to define and achieve. Instead, opt for small goals that can help you grow as an individual, like reading a nonfiction book, writing a short story, calling your mom every weekend, or helping someone in need every day.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Practice forgiveness.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Forgiving yourself\", \"描述\": \"On your journey to becoming a better person, it’s important to let go of any grudges you're holding. The past is in the past; it’s time to move forward. Allow yourself time to forgive your past mistakes and recognize what they’ve taught you. Then, forgive those who have hurt you. You may not be able to forget what they’ve done, and that’s okay, but forgiveness can give you peace of mind.\\nDwelling on past wrongs can actually increase your blood pressure and heart rate, while forgiveness can help manage and lower stress.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Be empathetic towards others.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Imagining what someone’s been through can give you a new perspective.\", \"描述\": \"Empathy is one of the first steps to being a better person because it builds your compassion. Not only does cultivating empathy help you be more sensitive toward other people, but it also helps you form lasting relationships and feel less isolated. Being empathic helps you gain a friend while challenging your perspective. Here are some ways you can be more empathic:\\nAvoid making assumptions about people and jumping to conclusions.\\nImagine yourself in someone else’s shoes or situation.\\nActively listen to express interest and help someone feel heard.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Give back to your community.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Helping others doesn’t only benefit them; it benefits you too!\", \"描述\": \"Research shows that being altruistic (the act of promoting someone else’s welfare) improves mood and overall happiness. So, consider volunteering at a local shelter, donating used clothes, or picking up trash at the park. Even the smallest act can make the biggest difference.\\nAim to practice at least one act of kindness every day. It doesn’t have to be something big or time-consuming. Even leaving a sticky note on a public bathroom mirror saying, “You’re beautiful inside and out!” can make someone’s day.\\nWhen you help others, you get a rush of endorphins that make you feel good. This is known as the “helper’s high.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Go outside your comfort zone.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Expose yourself to new experiences to grow as an individual.\", \"描述\": \"Comfort zones are great, but they can also be stagnant. Every once and a while, change up your daily schedule, try something new, and step outside your comfort zone. Trying new things that make you a little uncomfortable can broaden your horizons and open your eyes to a different perspective.\\n\\nMake a bucket list of things you can do outside of your comfort zone. Then, spend every other weekend checking an activity off the list.\\nAsk friends to join you on your adventures for double the fun.\\nExperiment with a different routine by going to a different coffee shop for lunch or taking an alternative route to work.\\nDon’t be afraid to challenge yourself. The impossible can be obtainable if you put your best foot forward.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Learn something new.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"One of the best ways to better yourself is to educate yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Knowledge can go a long way, especially when it comes to understanding other people’s situations. Whether you're in school or not, self-educating can help you grow and evolve as an individual. The more you know, the more perspective you’ll gain. Here are some ways you can learn something new today:\\nSign up for a class you're interested in online or at a library. Maybe that’s an art class or a course on American Literature.\\nRead a nonfiction book.\\nListen to a podcast about a topic you want to learn more about, like business, money, culture, or mental health.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Acknowledge your weaknesses.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Everyone has flaws, but you can aim to improve yours.\", \"描述\": \"Notice how your behavior and attitude affect others. Are people generally happy or sad around you? Do friends come to you for help or advice? Answering these questions and analyzing your interactions can help you discover and strengthen your weaknesses.\\nFor instance, if friends don’t usually come to you for advice, ask yourself why. Do you talk over them or criticize their decisions? Maybe you need to work on being a better listener.\\nThe more you learn to be flexible and adaptable with your behavior, the better you can care for yourself and those around you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Control your anger.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Feeling angry is natural, but too much anger can hinder compassion.\", \"描述\": \"When you want to be a better person, it’s important to understand the whys and hows of someone else’s situation. Things may not work out how they’re supposed to, but that's okay. Take a deep breath and remember that you may not be able to control many things, but you can control your attitude.\\nTry redirecting your anger away from yourself and others by going on a walk, doing yoga, or punching a pillow.\\nCalm yourself down by taking deep belly breaths and visualizing a relaxing or joyful memory.\\nReconstruct your thinking patterns by avoiding words like “never” or “always” to describe yourself or others.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Express your feelings respectfully.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Using “I” statements can help you thoughtfully articulate emotions.\", \"描述\": \"Life is full of complex and confusing emotions, and with those emotions comes conflict. You may not be able to control every situation you’re in, but you can control your reactions. “I” statements can be used in conflicts or emotionally tense situations to communicate feelings without pointing blame. Check out these ways you can change these phrases into “I” statements:\\n“You never listen to me anymore,” changes to, “I feel that my concerns aren’t being heard.”\\n“I hate when you shout at the kids,” changes to, “When you shout at the kids, I feel upset because I want the kids to feel respected.”\\n“You’re always grounding me. It’s not fair!” changes to, “I feel like you’re always grounding me, and it upsets me.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 10, \"标题\": \"Be grateful.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practicing gratitude\", \"描述\": \"Gratitude is more than a feeling; it’s an active practice. Being thankful and appreciative of your life, no matter where you are in it, helps you be compassionate and loving towards yourself and others. Take a moment to recognize that goodness can be outside yourself and that every smile or simple favor is a gift. Here are some more ways you can cultivate gratitude in your life:\\nKeep a gratitude journal or make a gratitude list to highlight all the things you're thankful for each day, big or small.\\nSavor surprises by appreciating the thought that was put into them.\\nShare what you’re thankful for with others. For instance, if your brother helped you move your couch, let him know how much you appreciate his help.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 11, \"标题\": \"Be patient.\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Things don’t always happen the way you’d like them to, and that’s okay!\", \"描述\": \"Rather than getting upset when things don’t go your way, take a deep breath and remember to have patience. It’s alright if life is slower. Try savoring these slow moments by noticing the little things and acknowledging the positives in the situation.\\nFor instance, maybe you ordered a pizza for family game night, but the deliverer is stuck in traffic. 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1. Being Yourself
1-1. Develop your sense of right and wrong.
The world today is fast and impatient, but being a better person involves taking the time to work on your values. Decide what values and virtues are most important to you. Create a personal system of morals by joining clubs and organizations that will help you build your virtues, like a sports team, community service clubs, choir, or student government.
Empathy, honesty, patience, humor, and perseverance are just a few examples of good values.
Consider some clubs and activities that might help you develop values. For instance, joining a sports team can help you practice perseverance. Joining student government can help you develop dependability, and doing community service can help you cultivate empathy and generosity.
Think about how you can put those qualities into practice throughout the school day. For example, if you think generosity is a good value, then find a way to really brighten someone’s day by sharing something that belongs to you.
1-2. Apply yourself at whatever you do.
Making a genuine effort to do something is an important part of self-esteem and positive thinking. Put your best foot forward at school, in an extracurricular activity, or at work if you have a part-time job. Be able to say, “I studied my hardest and put all my effort into this,” even if your test score is a little less than you were hoping for.
1-3. Work on time management.
Work on your school work over time. Do your homework and study a little every day, rather than cram the night before the big test. Don't procrastinate on a big project, especially if it's a big portion of your final grade.
You'll be less overwhelmed with your schoolwork in the long run, and will have time to deal with unexpected problems with the material you might face.
If you have any trouble understanding something, never hesitate to get extra help. Ask your teacher to spend a little more time covering the material with you. See if your school offers peer tutoring services.
Make a calendar so you can keep track of your homework, activities, and social engagements.
Try to schedule your hangouts on the weekends or weeknights where you don't have a test or project due on the next day.
1-4. Work on quiet confidence.
Being confident in an understated way is a great way to approach your classes, after-school activities, and friendships. No one likes being around a show-off or someone who’s overconfident in a fake way, so don’t put others off by being too cocky. Just work on developing your self-esteem and an easygoing sense of pride: you are a unique person who has great qualities, interests, and talents and no one on Earth is exactly on you.
Make decisions about your diet, how you schedule time for studying and activities, and exhibit self-control in your behavior in and out of school in order to gain a sense of independence. Independence can really help your self-esteem.
Don’t be afraid to try new things or make mistakes: if you mess up, have the confidence to treat it as a learning opportunity!
Be confident about your emotions: everyone has them, and everyone has to manage their emotional lives. Work on building your self-esteem so you can better manage positive and negative emotions.
1-5. Create your own style.
Wear clothes and accessories that represent you and make you feel good. Know your own likes and dislikes, and express who you are. Dress for success: wear what not only makes you comfortable, but what makes you feel happy and ready to put your best foot forward.
It doesn't need to be expensive, trendy, or flashy: your style should just make you feel confident and happy.
Don't pretend to like something to get someone's attention. People being around will appreciate your different interests and want to get to know you better.
2. Creating Great Relationships
2-1. Create a diverse circle of friends.
You can be friends with anyone you like, and having a diverse group of friends helps you learn a lot about other people. Do your best to not only be nice and friendly to everyone, but to build relationships with people outside of your comfort zone.
Create a diverse circle of friends by reaching out to people regardless of their race, gender, what “clique” they fit into, or any other way that they might be different from you.
2-2. Be nice to everyone.
Show kindness to everyone, whether or not you're friends with them. Even if you don't get along with someone or don't feel comfortable hanging out with them, show them respect and politeness. Don't be a bully or make fun of anyone.
2-3. Don’t talk badly about people behind their backs.
It can be tempting to gossip, especially with close friends or people you trust. It's best to avoid bad-mouthing though. Always assume that if you tell one person something, they’ll tell at least one other person. Before long, everyone will know what you said about so-and-so.
It's always best to be authentic, genuine, and sincere: in other words, don't be two-faced.
2-4. Build a strong relationship with your parent or parents.
Becoming a better person at school also involves your relationships with your family. Work on ways to build or improve your relationship with whoever is raising you. Talk to them about issues you face at school or with friends, and ask them for advice.
Have clear and open conversations with them about how to be a better person.
Try asking, “What do you think makes a great person?” or “How do you think I can work on being less angry, or stay calmer when something dramatic happens?”
2-5. Find a mentor.
In addition to your parents, teachers, coaches, and other trusted adults can be positive role models. You can look to them for a good example, and they can offer you advice about how to deal with specific situations. Consider favorite teachers, coaches, or club moderators.
Ask them questions about decisions they made when they were your age, and ask them to help you respond to problems with schoolwork or friendships. Ask for advice about particular things and let a mentor relationship develop naturally.
Think about some really good people in your life who you look to as role models. What do you respect about them? What are their best qualities and values?
Don't take on a stranger as a role model or mentor. It should be someone both you and your parents trust.
3. Dealing with Problems
3-1. Learn from mistakes.
Don’t complain if something bad happens: lots of negative stuff will happen to you in life that’s beyond your control. In ten or twenty years you’ll be wishing your biggest problem was a fight with your best friend, or a bad decision you made at school! Take the time to learn from everything you face: whether something bad just came out of nowhere or you made a decision that had bad consequences.
It can help to talk to a friend, parent, or mentor to get an outside opinion. Ask, “How did this decision bring about these consequences? What would have been a better course of action?”
Don’t dwell if you messed up a friendship, failed a test, yelled at or said really hurtful things to someone, or anything else you might regret. There’s a difference between learning from a bad situation and obsessing over it. Learn from it, resolve the situation, then get over it and move on.
3-2. Accept rejection and celebrate success.
Success and failure is part of being human. Whether you were accepted or rejected from a college or you asked someone to prom and they said no, you will face rejection in life. Handle both successes and failures with grace.
Remember, whatever happens doesn’t control how you react. Only YOU control your reaction, so make the choice: do you want to let rejection or success control your behavior? Or do you want to be the one who decides how you feel?
3-3. Brush off bullies (and don’t be a bully).
It’s a bit of a cliché, but people really do bully because they’re jealous or afraid. Bullies just want to pick on someone they think is vulnerable in order to look cool or cover up their own insecurities. Don’t retaliate or respond to bullies, and don’t be a bully yourself.
If you're being bullied, try saying something small and light-hearted first. If they make rude remarks again, tell them that they're not being nice before changing the subject.
If you really feel like you’re getting picked on to the point that you feel endangered, it’s okay to ask for help. Talk to a parent, teacher, or mentor: ask them for advice about how to handle it yourself, or to help mediate the situation.
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For example, if you think generosity is a good value, then find a way to really brighten someone’s day by sharing something that belongs to you.\\n1-2. Apply yourself at whatever you do.\\nMaking a genuine effort to do something is an important part of self-esteem and positive thinking. Put your best foot forward at school, in an extracurricular activity, or at work if you have a part-time job. Be able to say, “I studied my hardest and put all my effort into this,” even if your test score is a little less than you were hoping for.\\n1-3. Work on time management.\\nWork on your school work over time. Do your homework and study a little every day, rather than cram the night before the big test. Don't procrastinate on a big project, especially if it's a big portion of your final grade.\\nYou'll be less overwhelmed with your schoolwork in the long run, and will have time to deal with unexpected problems with the material you might face.\\nIf you have any trouble understanding something, never hesitate to get extra help. Ask your teacher to spend a little more time covering the material with you. See if your school offers peer tutoring services.\\nMake a calendar so you can keep track of your homework, activities, and social engagements.\\nTry to schedule your hangouts on the weekends or weeknights where you don't have a test or project due on the next day.\\n1-4. Work on quiet confidence.\\nBeing confident in an understated way is a great way to approach your classes, after-school activities, and friendships. No one likes being around a show-off or someone who’s overconfident in a fake way, so don’t put others off by being too cocky. Just work on developing your self-esteem and an easygoing sense of pride: you are a unique person who has great qualities, interests, and talents and no one on Earth is exactly on you.\\nMake decisions about your diet, how you schedule time for studying and activities, and exhibit self-control in your behavior in and out of school in order to gain a sense of independence. Independence can really help your self-esteem.\\nDon’t be afraid to try new things or make mistakes: if you mess up, have the confidence to treat it as a learning opportunity!\\nBe confident about your emotions: everyone has them, and everyone has to manage their emotional lives. Work on building your self-esteem so you can better manage positive and negative emotions.\\n1-5. Create your own style.\\nWear clothes and accessories that represent you and make you feel good. Know your own likes and dislikes, and express who you are. Dress for success: wear what not only makes you comfortable, but what makes you feel happy and ready to put your best foot forward.\\nIt doesn't need to be expensive, trendy, or flashy: your style should just make you feel confident and happy.\\nDon't pretend to like something to get someone's attention. People being around will appreciate your different interests and want to get to know you better.\\n2. Creating Great Relationships\\n2-1. Create a diverse circle of friends.\\nYou can be friends with anyone you like, and having a diverse group of friends helps you learn a lot about other people. Do your best to not only be nice and friendly to everyone, but to build relationships with people outside of your comfort zone.\\nCreate a diverse circle of friends by reaching out to people regardless of their race, gender, what “clique” they fit into, or any other way that they might be different from you.\\n2-2. Be nice to everyone.\\nShow kindness to everyone, whether or not you're friends with them. Even if you don't get along with someone or don't feel comfortable hanging out with them, show them respect and politeness. Don't be a bully or make fun of anyone.\\n2-3. Don’t talk badly about people behind their backs.\\nIt can be tempting to gossip, especially with close friends or people you trust. It's best to avoid bad-mouthing though. Always assume that if you tell one person something, they’ll tell at least one other person. Before long, everyone will know what you said about so-and-so.\\nIt's always best to be authentic, genuine, and sincere: in other words, don't be two-faced.\\n2-4. Build a strong relationship with your parent or parents.\\nBecoming a better person at school also involves your relationships with your family. Work on ways to build or improve your relationship with whoever is raising you. Talk to them about issues you face at school or with friends, and ask them for advice.\\nHave clear and open conversations with them about how to be a better person.\\nTry asking, “What do you think makes a great person?” or “How do you think I can work on being less angry, or stay calmer when something dramatic happens?”\\n2-5. Find a mentor.\\nIn addition to your parents, teachers, coaches, and other trusted adults can be positive role models. You can look to them for a good example, and they can offer you advice about how to deal with specific situations. Consider favorite teachers, coaches, or club moderators.\\nAsk them questions about decisions they made when they were your age, and ask them to help you respond to problems with schoolwork or friendships. Ask for advice about particular things and let a mentor relationship develop naturally.\\nThink about some really good people in your life who you look to as role models. What do you respect about them? What are their best qualities and values?\\nDon't take on a stranger as a role model or mentor. It should be someone both you and your parents trust.\\n3. Dealing with Problems\\n3-1. Learn from mistakes.\\nDon’t complain if something bad happens: lots of negative stuff will happen to you in life that’s beyond your control. In ten or twenty years you’ll be wishing your biggest problem was a fight with your best friend, or a bad decision you made at school! Take the time to learn from everything you face: whether something bad just came out of nowhere or you made a decision that had bad consequences.\\nIt can help to talk to a friend, parent, or mentor to get an outside opinion. Ask, “How did this decision bring about these consequences? What would have been a better course of action?”\\nDon’t dwell if you messed up a friendship, failed a test, yelled at or said really hurtful things to someone, or anything else you might regret. There’s a difference between learning from a bad situation and obsessing over it. Learn from it, resolve the situation, then get over it and move on.\\n3-2. Accept rejection and celebrate success.\\nSuccess and failure is part of being human. Whether you were accepted or rejected from a college or you asked someone to prom and they said no, you will face rejection in life. Handle both successes and failures with grace.\\nRemember, whatever happens doesn’t control how you react. Only YOU control your reaction, so make the choice: do you want to let rejection or success control your behavior? Or do you want to be the one who decides how you feel?\\n3-3. Brush off bullies (and don’t be a bully).\\nIt’s a bit of a cliché, but people really do bully because they’re jealous or afraid. Bullies just want to pick on someone they think is vulnerable in order to look cool or cover up their own insecurities. Don’t retaliate or respond to bullies, and don’t be a bully yourself.\\nIf you're being bullied, try saying something small and light-hearted first. If they make rude remarks again, tell them that they're not being nice before changing the subject.\\nIf you really feel like you’re getting picked on to the point that you feel endangered, it’s okay to ask for help. Talk to a parent, teacher, or mentor: ask them for advice about how to handle it yourself, or to help mediate the situation.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Becoming a better person at school involves working on being yourself, liking who you are, building relationships with others, and learning how to handle problems. Getting to know your likes and dislikes, and being proud of the person you are is key: it starts with thinking positively about you. Surrounding yourself with a great support system of friends, family, and positive role models is also important. Finally, working on exhibiting self-control and learning from the difficulties life hands you will keep you on the right track in school and beyond.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Develop your sense of right and wrong.\", \"描述\": \"The world today is fast and impatient, but being a better person involves taking the time to work on your values. Decide what values and virtues are most important to you. Create a personal system of morals by joining clubs and organizations that will help you build your virtues, like a sports team, community service clubs, choir, or student government.\\nEmpathy, honesty, patience, humor, and perseverance are just a few examples of good values.\\nConsider some clubs and activities that might help you develop values. For instance, joining a sports team can help you practice perseverance. 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Just work on developing your self-esteem and an easygoing sense of pride: you are a unique person who has great qualities, interests, and talents and no one on Earth is exactly on you.\\nMake decisions about your diet, how you schedule time for studying and activities, and exhibit self-control in your behavior in and out of school in order to gain a sense of independence. Independence can really help your self-esteem.\\nDon’t be afraid to try new things or make mistakes: if you mess up, have the confidence to treat it as a learning opportunity!\\nBe confident about your emotions: everyone has them, and everyone has to manage their emotional lives. Work on building your self-esteem so you can better manage positive and negative emotions.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Create your own style.\", \"描述\": \"Wear clothes and accessories that represent you and make you feel good. Know your own likes and dislikes, and express who you are. 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1. Devoting Time to Practice and Training
1-1. Set a practice schedule.
Some players have more natural talent than others. But everyone needs to practice efficiently and train properly to become better at soccer. Set a detailed schedule for practicing that you can follow.
Plan out what you will work on before you practice. If your practice is unorganized and you just shoot the ball around or pass and dribble you won’t improve. Think about what specifically you need to improve.
Set a dedicated time for training. You might allow yourself one hour every day to train. During that hour block out specific time to work on a specific skill. For example, you may decide to spend 20 minutes on ball control with your off foot.
Being specific and setting goals will allow you to advance at a faster pace than when you just play around.
1-2. Perform basic drills.
Advanced dribbling and finesse shots are fun. But you will never be able to perform these advanced moves if you haven’t mastered the basics.
Messi wouldn’t be able to weave in and out of defenders with ease if he never mastered basic dribbling and passing. Ronaldo wouldn’t be able to curve the ball just under the crossbar if he never mastered proper shooting technique.
To be a better soccer player you have to first become a great player when it comes to the basics. The building blocks may not be as fun to learn or practice, but without these tools, you’ll never develop the ability to perform the advanced moves.
Practice simple passing, receiving, shooting, dribbling, etc. Many players never effectively master these basic skills and, therefore, don’t even know how to defend against the simplest attack. Once you can perform basic skills without even thinking, you’ll be ready to advance your training and skill. You’ll also be amazed at how many other players who skipped over the basics can’t keep up with you.
1-3. Exercise your whole body.
Look at professional soccer players and you’ll notice the incredible shape these players are in. The shape these players is in isn’t solely due to practicing, playing, and running up and down a field. It’s due to strict diet and exercise that benefits the whole body.
While your legs are doing a lot of work you need to exercise and train your whole body so that you can support your legs. Proper exercise will also help you prevent injury.
An elite soccer player will typically run 6-10 miles during a match. So you need to be able to run without getting winded. But, you will notice that much of your running is in shorter bursts and sprints. You won’t train for soccer the same way you would for a marathon. Instead of just running long distances, do interval training.
Do sprint workouts that get your body used to working hard for shorter periods of time. You may be able to run 10 miles at a steady pace, but during a game, find yourself winded after a few minutes of bursts and sprints. That’s because your body isn’t used to this kind of running.
You also need to strengthen your muscles. Lifting weights to build muscles in your legs, back, and abdominal region will benefit you and allow you to improve. Start with higher reps at lower weights to build lean muscle. Squats, deadlifts, and ab workouts are going to help you on the field.
High-intensity interval training will help you with strength, endurance, and agility. This kind of training involves working your body hard for shorter periods of time, taking short rests, and then working another area of the body.
For example, to improve your explosive speed and endurance you may train in intervals for 17 minutes. Alternate between sprinting for 15 seconds and then walking for 45 seconds. This kind of training will help your body perform during a game without getting as fatigued.
1-4. Keep a healthy diet.
Elite players may burn between 1500-3000 calories in a 90-minute game. That means that you not only need a proper diet to keep you energized for a game. You also need it to help your strength and endurance training as well.
You won’t become a better player if you don’t take care of your body and mind. A proper diet will allow you to stay energized, focused, and will reduce the risk of injury.
Some basic tips for a soccer player diet include eating the least processed foods you can get. Such foods as fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and high-fiber carbohydrates will provide you with proper nutrients to stay in great shape.
Eat fruits and vegetables that are colorful. Foods with natural colors provide plenty of nutrients. Lean proteins like fish, chicken, and even a little pork will build lean muscle. Healthy fats in olive oil, nuts, fish, and avocados are great for restoring your body after intense activity.
Additionally, eating breakfast and smaller meals throughout the day will get your metabolism going and keep you energized and focused. After training or working out eat a post-workout recovery meal full of healthy carbs and protein.
After a match or intense workout, eat a healthy post-game meal to ensure your body recovers properly. Try eating three cups of whole grain pasta with one cup of tomato sauce with mushrooms. You can also add a bit of parmesan cheese for flavor. Greek yogurt with strawberries or other fruits can be a great dessert too.
Stay hydrated. All that running around and training makes you sweat a lot. The more dehydrated you are, the worse you perform. Drink plenty of water. Finally, get enough rest. Your mind and body need time to relax and recover. If you aren’t getting an average of eight hours a night, your body won’t regenerate and perform as well.
2. Being a Team Player
2-1. Play correctly in your position.
Often at lower levels players will clump together and not play the correct positions. But if you want to be a better player you will have to learn how to best play in your assigned position.
Learn the roles of your position, where your imaginary limits are on the field. For example, if you are a right forward, your zone is the right side of the attacking third. You need to stay in this area of the field so that you can receive passes and loose balls. When you are on offense you will be responsible for using your position to advance the ball and possibly score. On defense, you will fall back to the center circle or near the center line.
2-2. Develop field vision.
Having a great sense of where the action is happening on the field and where the ball will go next is a necessary skill.
When playing and practicing you should learn to not only know where each player is but also the most likely path of the ball. Even when you’re not close to it.
When you don’t have the ball you still need to be active. Don’t just watch the game as if you were a spectator. Practice predicting what kind of passes will happen, which players will get the ball next, and how those players will move into a new position.
Being able to predict the next action and placement of the ball and players will give you a great vision of the game. It will allow you to position yourself in the right spot to get the ball, block an attacker, and support. Being a great soccer player isn’t only about scoring goals. It’s about being ready at all times to help your team.
2-3. Support your teammates.
Supporting your teammates means more than just giving encouragement. You need to physically support your team as well.
As you progress you will discover that you excel at certain skills more than others. Recognize where you’re most valuable and use your skills to help the team, not yourself.
If you are skilled at dribbling and moving the ball up the field but lack shooting ability, you can easily support your team. You’ll best support your team by getting the ball near the goal and passing it to a striker.
Talk to your teammates on and off the field to build a rapport. During a game, you should be helping your teammates by giving encouragement as well as alerting players to open passes or shots, even if you aren’t sending the ball to yourself. Call for the ball loudly and use your hands to signal.
Don’t hog the ball. Your teammates won’t pass you the ball if you never pass it back. Your teammates also won't give you the ball if you always miss a shot or lose it on a run. Remember that you’re not a star and can’t win alone. Make smart passes and learn to get rid of the ball when you need to. If you don't hog the ball, and instead to learn to pass, you'll probably end up getting it back more often.
2-4. Learn to play any role.
Depending on your level you may play many positions or just a few. But you should be able to play effectively anywhere. Knowing what to do in any position will inform you how the game works and help you in your primary position.
You need to be able to react quickly and switch your mindset during a game. For example, if you’re an attacker and loose the ball, you become the first defender. Your job is now to defend and get the ball back.
Playing any role goes beyond your position. You will also have to be a leader, supporter, cheerleader, and coach during your matches. Sometimes your role will be to cheer on your team as the ball advances toward the opponent’s goal. Other times it will be your job to dictate a set of moves and guide the players and ball into the best positions to advance.
3. Advancing Your Skill and Knowledge
3-1. Watch professionals and take notes.
Watching soccer matches is a great way to get better. It’s like studying for a school test. You need to learn how the game works on the whole so that when on the field you know what to do.
Watch how the players move and take notes. Notice how professionals don’t always drive the ball forward toward the opponent’s goal but take time passing the ball. Oftentimes the players will pass the ball laterally and backward to find an open player before advancing.
Pay attention to how the players move around one another and where the imaginary boundaries for each position are. If you watch closely enough you’ll start to see passing and moving patterns.
A lot of times players move in a triangle formation, passing the ball as a unit back and forth. When the ball gets to an area near the goal, players on the wings typically cross the ball to the center for a header. Take notes on how the players get into scoring positions.
3-2. Practice drills and ball control with both feet.
Most likely you have one dominant foot that you pass and shoot with. But to advance your skill you’ll need to be able to handle the ball with both.
Being able to handle the ball with both feet will greatly open up your ability to pass, move, and score. A lot of players are right-footed, being able to use your opposite foot well will throw off the opponent.
You may also find yourself in a position where using your off foot is the only way to keep the ball, pass, or even shoot and score. Being comfortable with both feet will give you confidence and allow you to succeed in any situation.
3-3. Treat the game like chess.
Soccer is not unlike a game of chess. Pieces move across the board in several different ways. Always be thinking three steps ahead.
When you watch matches notice the patterns in movements and formations. Learn the different kinds of formations and know which one your coach typically puts your team in.
Being able to predict the next moves is important for field vision and being a great player. If you see that your teammate is going to need to pass the ball, you can get into position to receive it. At the same time knowing where you can then pass the ball will help you be a great team player.
Watch for the patterns and put yourself in the right position. For example, if you see a player moving the ball up and near a corner you know that the player will most likely cross the ball to the center. If you’re a forward, it’s your job to be there when the ball is passed.
3-4. Practice finesse moves and learn passing tactics.
Passing effectively is the best way to move the ball forward. But passing forward isn’t always the best way to get closer to your opponent’s goal. Additionally, when done correctly, finesse moves will allow you to beat your opponent and press on.
Lean the different kinds of passes and when to use each one. You’ll also need to learn how to effectively receive each type of pass.
Run drills where you practice passing and receiving. Pay attention to your foot placement and which parts of your foot touch the ball. As a general rule, you should pass and receive with the inside of your foot, not with your toes. The inside gives you greater control.
Learn to use the correct passes to achieve the best result. You may do a short pass to make your teammate rush to the ball to create space. Or, you’ll need to do a long through ball so your teammate who is running forward can meet the ball without stopping.
Finesse moves are fun but hard to pull off. However, learning a few once you’ve gotten good at dribbling and passing can put you leagues ahead of other players. You have to learn to sell the move. You’re not only moving your feet, but you have to use your body to trick the defender as well. Practice cutting and chopping while keeping your body up and square so as not to give away your move.
3-5. Play against opponents who are better than you.
Playing against people that are more skilled than you will make you work harder to win. You’ll also be able to see how moves, passing, shooting, etc., are done correctly.
If you’re only playing against people at your skill level or a lower skill, you’ll have a hard time progressing and getting better. When you play against superior players you won’t have any opportunity to get lazy.
Better opponents will also be able to show you how to achieve the results you want. Treat better players like a teacher or coach and use the opportunity to learn.
3-6. Always be courteous and have a good attitude.
Being a great team player is not only the right way to be, but it will make you valuable to the team.
Even if you’re losing, always be encouraging and supportive. Don’t check out just because you think the game is over. Offer support and keep trying until the actual end of the game. Be a courteous loser and a graceful winner.
The more support you offer on and off the field the more people will want you around. If you’re not the best player but always do your best and offer support you’ll have more opportunity to play and practice.
Lastly, have fun! Don’t get too caught up on winning. Soccer should be a fun sport. You play because you love the game. So remember that you’re supposed to be having fun. And that even if you lose, you are still getting better because you paid attention and learned from the game.
Tips
Watch soccer or even play games like FIFA. You can see how to move on the field and when certain tactics can be valuable to you.
Practice every day, even if it's for ten minutes. The consistency will help you improve.
Always be a team player. You are more likely to get better if you are liked. People will want you around and value your abilities.
Warnings
Leave the trash talk at home. Trash talking is bad practice and if a ref sees it, he may give you a yellow card.
Never argue with the referee. This will make him less likely to be on your side. And you could even get kicked out of the match.
Don't foul anyone purposefully. This could result in free kicks and penalty kicks which could result in the other team scoring.
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But you will never be able to perform these advanced moves if you haven’t mastered the basics.\\nMessi wouldn’t be able to weave in and out of defenders with ease if he never mastered basic dribbling and passing. Ronaldo wouldn’t be able to curve the ball just under the crossbar if he never mastered proper shooting technique.\\nTo be a better soccer player you have to first become a great player when it comes to the basics. The building blocks may not be as fun to learn or practice, but without these tools, you’ll never develop the ability to perform the advanced moves.\\nPractice simple passing, receiving, shooting, dribbling, etc. Many players never effectively master these basic skills and, therefore, don’t even know how to defend against the simplest attack. Once you can perform basic skills without even thinking, you’ll be ready to advance your training and skill. You’ll also be amazed at how many other players who skipped over the basics can’t keep up with you.\\n1-3. Exercise your whole body.\\nLook at professional soccer players and you’ll notice the incredible shape these players are in. The shape these players is in isn’t solely due to practicing, playing, and running up and down a field. It’s due to strict diet and exercise that benefits the whole body. \\nWhile your legs are doing a lot of work you need to exercise and train your whole body so that you can support your legs. Proper exercise will also help you prevent injury.\\nAn elite soccer player will typically run 6-10 miles during a match. So you need to be able to run without getting winded. But, you will notice that much of your running is in shorter bursts and sprints. You won’t train for soccer the same way you would for a marathon. Instead of just running long distances, do interval training.\\nDo sprint workouts that get your body used to working hard for shorter periods of time. You may be able to run 10 miles at a steady pace, but during a game, find yourself winded after a few minutes of bursts and sprints. That’s because your body isn’t used to this kind of running.\\nYou also need to strengthen your muscles. Lifting weights to build muscles in your legs, back, and abdominal region will benefit you and allow you to improve. Start with higher reps at lower weights to build lean muscle. Squats, deadlifts, and ab workouts are going to help you on the field. \\nHigh-intensity interval training will help you with strength, endurance, and agility. This kind of training involves working your body hard for shorter periods of time, taking short rests, and then working another area of the body.\\nFor example, to improve your explosive speed and endurance you may train in intervals for 17 minutes. Alternate between sprinting for 15 seconds and then walking for 45 seconds. This kind of training will help your body perform during a game without getting as fatigued.\\n1-4. Keep a healthy diet.\\nElite players may burn between 1500-3000 calories in a 90-minute game. That means that you not only need a proper diet to keep you energized for a game. You also need it to help your strength and endurance training as well.\\nYou won’t become a better player if you don’t take care of your body and mind. A proper diet will allow you to stay energized, focused, and will reduce the risk of injury.\\nSome basic tips for a soccer player diet include eating the least processed foods you can get. Such foods as fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and high-fiber carbohydrates will provide you with proper nutrients to stay in great shape.\\nEat fruits and vegetables that are colorful. Foods with natural colors provide plenty of nutrients. Lean proteins like fish, chicken, and even a little pork will build lean muscle. Healthy fats in olive oil, nuts, fish, and avocados are great for restoring your body after intense activity. \\nAdditionally, eating breakfast and smaller meals throughout the day will get your metabolism going and keep you energized and focused. After training or working out eat a post-workout recovery meal full of healthy carbs and protein.\\nAfter a match or intense workout, eat a healthy post-game meal to ensure your body recovers properly. Try eating three cups of whole grain pasta with one cup of tomato sauce with mushrooms. You can also add a bit of parmesan cheese for flavor. Greek yogurt with strawberries or other fruits can be a great dessert too.\\nStay hydrated. All that running around and training makes you sweat a lot. The more dehydrated you are, the worse you perform. Drink plenty of water. Finally, get enough rest. Your mind and body need time to relax and recover. If you aren’t getting an average of eight hours a night, your body won’t regenerate and perform as well.\\n2. Being a Team Player\\n2-1. Play correctly in your position.\\nOften at lower levels players will clump together and not play the correct positions. But if you want to be a better player you will have to learn how to best play in your assigned position. \\nLearn the roles of your position, where your imaginary limits are on the field. For example, if you are a right forward, your zone is the right side of the attacking third. You need to stay in this area of the field so that you can receive passes and loose balls. When you are on offense you will be responsible for using your position to advance the ball and possibly score. On defense, you will fall back to the center circle or near the center line.\\n2-2. Develop field vision.\\nHaving a great sense of where the action is happening on the field and where the ball will go next is a necessary skill.\\nWhen playing and practicing you should learn to not only know where each player is but also the most likely path of the ball. Even when you’re not close to it.\\nWhen you don’t have the ball you still need to be active. Don’t just watch the game as if you were a spectator. Practice predicting what kind of passes will happen, which players will get the ball next, and how those players will move into a new position.\\nBeing able to predict the next action and placement of the ball and players will give you a great vision of the game. It will allow you to position yourself in the right spot to get the ball, block an attacker, and support. Being a great soccer player isn’t only about scoring goals. It’s about being ready at all times to help your team.\\n2-3. Support your teammates.\\nSupporting your teammates means more than just giving encouragement. You need to physically support your team as well. \\nAs you progress you will discover that you excel at certain skills more than others. Recognize where you’re most valuable and use your skills to help the team, not yourself.\\nIf you are skilled at dribbling and moving the ball up the field but lack shooting ability, you can easily support your team. You’ll best support your team by getting the ball near the goal and passing it to a striker.\\nTalk to your teammates on and off the field to build a rapport. During a game, you should be helping your teammates by giving encouragement as well as alerting players to open passes or shots, even if you aren’t sending the ball to yourself. Call for the ball loudly and use your hands to signal. \\nDon’t hog the ball. Your teammates won’t pass you the ball if you never pass it back. Your teammates also won't give you the ball if you always miss a shot or lose it on a run. Remember that you’re not a star and can’t win alone. Make smart passes and learn to get rid of the ball when you need to. If you don't hog the ball, and instead to learn to pass, you'll probably end up getting it back more often.\\n2-4. Learn to play any role.\\nDepending on your level you may play many positions or just a few. But you should be able to play effectively anywhere. Knowing what to do in any position will inform you how the game works and help you in your primary position.\\nYou need to be able to react quickly and switch your mindset during a game. For example, if you’re an attacker and loose the ball, you become the first defender. Your job is now to defend and get the ball back.\\nPlaying any role goes beyond your position. You will also have to be a leader, supporter, cheerleader, and coach during your matches. Sometimes your role will be to cheer on your team as the ball advances toward the opponent’s goal. Other times it will be your job to dictate a set of moves and guide the players and ball into the best positions to advance.\\n3. Advancing Your Skill and Knowledge\\n3-1. Watch professionals and take notes.\\nWatching soccer matches is a great way to get better. It’s like studying for a school test. You need to learn how the game works on the whole so that when on the field you know what to do.\\nWatch how the players move and take notes. Notice how professionals don’t always drive the ball forward toward the opponent’s goal but take time passing the ball. Oftentimes the players will pass the ball laterally and backward to find an open player before advancing.\\nPay attention to how the players move around one another and where the imaginary boundaries for each position are. If you watch closely enough you’ll start to see passing and moving patterns.\\nA lot of times players move in a triangle formation, passing the ball as a unit back and forth. When the ball gets to an area near the goal, players on the wings typically cross the ball to the center for a header. Take notes on how the players get into scoring positions.\\n3-2. Practice drills and ball control with both feet.\\nMost likely you have one dominant foot that you pass and shoot with. But to advance your skill you’ll need to be able to handle the ball with both. \\nBeing able to handle the ball with both feet will greatly open up your ability to pass, move, and score. A lot of players are right-footed, being able to use your opposite foot well will throw off the opponent.\\nYou may also find yourself in a position where using your off foot is the only way to keep the ball, pass, or even shoot and score. Being comfortable with both feet will give you confidence and allow you to succeed in any situation.\\n3-3. Treat the game like chess.\\nSoccer is not unlike a game of chess. Pieces move across the board in several different ways. Always be thinking three steps ahead.\\nWhen you watch matches notice the patterns in movements and formations. Learn the different kinds of formations and know which one your coach typically puts your team in.\\nBeing able to predict the next moves is important for field vision and being a great player. If you see that your teammate is going to need to pass the ball, you can get into position to receive it. At the same time knowing where you can then pass the ball will help you be a great team player.\\nWatch for the patterns and put yourself in the right position. For example, if you see a player moving the ball up and near a corner you know that the player will most likely cross the ball to the center. If you’re a forward, it’s your job to be there when the ball is passed.\\n3-4. Practice finesse moves and learn passing tactics.\\nPassing effectively is the best way to move the ball forward. But passing forward isn’t always the best way to get closer to your opponent’s goal. Additionally, when done correctly, finesse moves will allow you to beat your opponent and press on.\\nLean the different kinds of passes and when to use each one. You’ll also need to learn how to effectively receive each type of pass.\\nRun drills where you practice passing and receiving. Pay attention to your foot placement and which parts of your foot touch the ball. As a general rule, you should pass and receive with the inside of your foot, not with your toes. The inside gives you greater control.\\nLearn to use the correct passes to achieve the best result. You may do a short pass to make your teammate rush to the ball to create space. Or, you’ll need to do a long through ball so your teammate who is running forward can meet the ball without stopping.\\nFinesse moves are fun but hard to pull off. However, learning a few once you’ve gotten good at dribbling and passing can put you leagues ahead of other players. You have to learn to sell the move. You’re not only moving your feet, but you have to use your body to trick the defender as well. Practice cutting and chopping while keeping your body up and square so as not to give away your move.\\n3-5. Play against opponents who are better than you.\\nPlaying against people that are more skilled than you will make you work harder to win. You’ll also be able to see how moves, passing, shooting, etc., are done correctly.\\nIf you’re only playing against people at your skill level or a lower skill, you’ll have a hard time progressing and getting better. When you play against superior players you won’t have any opportunity to get lazy.\\nBetter opponents will also be able to show you how to achieve the results you want. Treat better players like a teacher or coach and use the opportunity to learn.\\n3-6. Always be courteous and have a good attitude.\\nBeing a great team player is not only the right way to be, but it will make you valuable to the team.\\nEven if you’re losing, always be encouraging and supportive. Don’t check out just because you think the game is over. Offer support and keep trying until the actual end of the game. Be a courteous loser and a graceful winner.\\nThe more support you offer on and off the field the more people will want you around. If you’re not the best player but always do your best and offer support you’ll have more opportunity to play and practice.\\nLastly, have fun! Don’t get too caught up on winning. Soccer should be a fun sport. You play because you love the game. So remember that you’re supposed to be having fun. And that even if you lose, you are still getting better because you paid attention and learned from the game.\\nTips\\nWatch soccer or even play games like FIFA. You can see how to move on the field and when certain tactics can be valuable to you.\\nPractice every day, even if it's for ten minutes. The consistency will help you improve.\\nAlways be a team player. You are more likely to get better if you are liked. People will want you around and value your abilities.\\nWarnings\\nLeave the trash talk at home. Trash talking is bad practice and if a ref sees it, he may give you a yellow card.\\nNever argue with the referee. This will make him less likely to be on your side. And you could even get kicked out of the match.\\nDon't foul anyone purposefully. This could result in free kicks and penalty kicks which could result in the other team scoring.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Soccer is a fun sport for all ages to enjoy. Whether you are playing for a school team or just for the fun of it, you can always work to improve your skill. From setting a practice schedule to being a great team player, you can become a better player. With practice, learning, and communication you'll gain the skills to advance.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Devoting Time to Practice and Training\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Set a practice schedule.\", \"描述\": \"Some players have more natural talent than others. But everyone needs to practice efficiently and train properly to become better at soccer. Set a detailed schedule for practicing that you can follow. \\nPlan out what you will work on before you practice. If your practice is unorganized and you just shoot the ball around or pass and dribble you won’t improve. Think about what specifically you need to improve.\\nSet a dedicated time for training. You might allow yourself one hour every day to train. During that hour block out specific time to work on a specific skill. For example, you may decide to spend 20 minutes on ball control with your off foot.\\nBeing specific and setting goals will allow you to advance at a faster pace than when you just play around.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Perform basic drills.\", \"描述\": \"Advanced dribbling and finesse shots are fun. But you will never be able to perform these advanced moves if you haven’t mastered the basics.\\nMessi wouldn’t be able to weave in and out of defenders with ease if he never mastered basic dribbling and passing. Ronaldo wouldn’t be able to curve the ball just under the crossbar if he never mastered proper shooting technique.\\nTo be a better soccer player you have to first become a great player when it comes to the basics. The building blocks may not be as fun to learn or practice, but without these tools, you’ll never develop the ability to perform the advanced moves.\\nPractice simple passing, receiving, shooting, dribbling, etc. Many players never effectively master these basic skills and, therefore, don’t even know how to defend against the simplest attack. Once you can perform basic skills without even thinking, you’ll be ready to advance your training and skill. You’ll also be amazed at how many other players who skipped over the basics can’t keep up with you.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Exercise your whole body.\", \"描述\": \"Look at professional soccer players and you’ll notice the incredible shape these players are in. The shape these players is in isn’t solely due to practicing, playing, and running up and down a field. It’s due to strict diet and exercise that benefits the whole body. \\nWhile your legs are doing a lot of work you need to exercise and train your whole body so that you can support your legs. Proper exercise will also help you prevent injury.\\nAn elite soccer player will typically run 6-10 miles during a match. So you need to be able to run without getting winded. But, you will notice that much of your running is in shorter bursts and sprints. You won’t train for soccer the same way you would for a marathon. Instead of just running long distances, do interval training.\\nDo sprint workouts that get your body used to working hard for shorter periods of time. You may be able to run 10 miles at a steady pace, but during a game, find yourself winded after a few minutes of bursts and sprints. That’s because your body isn’t used to this kind of running.\\nYou also need to strengthen your muscles. Lifting weights to build muscles in your legs, back, and abdominal region will benefit you and allow you to improve. Start with higher reps at lower weights to build lean muscle. Squats, deadlifts, and ab workouts are going to help you on the field. \\nHigh-intensity interval training will help you with strength, endurance, and agility. This kind of training involves working your body hard for shorter periods of time, taking short rests, and then working another area of the body.\\nFor example, to improve your explosive speed and endurance you may train in intervals for 17 minutes. Alternate between sprinting for 15 seconds and then walking for 45 seconds. This kind of training will help your body perform during a game without getting as fatigued.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Keep a healthy diet.\", \"描述\": \"Elite players may burn between 1500-3000 calories in a 90-minute game. That means that you not only need a proper diet to keep you energized for a game. You also need it to help your strength and endurance training as well.\\nYou won’t become a better player if you don’t take care of your body and mind. A proper diet will allow you to stay energized, focused, and will reduce the risk of injury.\\nSome basic tips for a soccer player diet include eating the least processed foods you can get. Such foods as fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and high-fiber carbohydrates will provide you with proper nutrients to stay in great shape.\\nEat fruits and vegetables that are colorful. Foods with natural colors provide plenty of nutrients. Lean proteins like fish, chicken, and even a little pork will build lean muscle. Healthy fats in olive oil, nuts, fish, and avocados are great for restoring your body after intense activity. \\nAdditionally, eating breakfast and smaller meals throughout the day will get your metabolism going and keep you energized and focused. After training or working out eat a post-workout recovery meal full of healthy carbs and protein.\\nAfter a match or intense workout, eat a healthy post-game meal to ensure your body recovers properly. Try eating three cups of whole grain pasta with one cup of tomato sauce with mushrooms. You can also add a bit of parmesan cheese for flavor. Greek yogurt with strawberries or other fruits can be a great dessert too.\\nStay hydrated. All that running around and training makes you sweat a lot. The more dehydrated you are, the worse you perform. Drink plenty of water. Finally, get enough rest. Your mind and body need time to relax and recover. If you aren’t getting an average of eight hours a night, your body won’t regenerate and perform as well.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Being a Team Player\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Play correctly in your position.\", \"描述\": \"Often at lower levels players will clump together and not play the correct positions. But if you want to be a better player you will have to learn how to best play in your assigned position. \\nLearn the roles of your position, where your imaginary limits are on the field. For example, if you are a right forward, your zone is the right side of the attacking third. You need to stay in this area of the field so that you can receive passes and loose balls. When you are on offense you will be responsible for using your position to advance the ball and possibly score. On defense, you will fall back to the center circle or near the center line.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Develop field vision.\", \"描述\": \"Having a great sense of where the action is happening on the field and where the ball will go next is a necessary skill.\\nWhen playing and practicing you should learn to not only know where each player is but also the most likely path of the ball. Even when you’re not close to it.\\nWhen you don’t have the ball you still need to be active. Don’t just watch the game as if you were a spectator. Practice predicting what kind of passes will happen, which players will get the ball next, and how those players will move into a new position.\\nBeing able to predict the next action and placement of the ball and players will give you a great vision of the game. It will allow you to position yourself in the right spot to get the ball, block an attacker, and support. Being a great soccer player isn’t only about scoring goals. It’s about being ready at all times to help your team.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Support your teammates.\", \"描述\": \"Supporting your teammates means more than just giving encouragement. You need to physically support your team as well. \\nAs you progress you will discover that you excel at certain skills more than others. Recognize where you’re most valuable and use your skills to help the team, not yourself.\\nIf you are skilled at dribbling and moving the ball up the field but lack shooting ability, you can easily support your team. You’ll best support your team by getting the ball near the goal and passing it to a striker.\\nTalk to your teammates on and off the field to build a rapport. During a game, you should be helping your teammates by giving encouragement as well as alerting players to open passes or shots, even if you aren’t sending the ball to yourself. Call for the ball loudly and use your hands to signal. \\nDon’t hog the ball. Your teammates won’t pass you the ball if you never pass it back. Your teammates also won't give you the ball if you always miss a shot or lose it on a run. Remember that you’re not a star and can’t win alone. Make smart passes and learn to get rid of the ball when you need to. If you don't hog the ball, and instead to learn to pass, you'll probably end up getting it back more often.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Learn to play any role.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on your level you may play many positions or just a few. But you should be able to play effectively anywhere. Knowing what to do in any position will inform you how the game works and help you in your primary position.\\nYou need to be able to react quickly and switch your mindset during a game. For example, if you’re an attacker and loose the ball, you become the first defender. Your job is now to defend and get the ball back.\\nPlaying any role goes beyond your position. You will also have to be a leader, supporter, cheerleader, and coach during your matches. Sometimes your role will be to cheer on your team as the ball advances toward the opponent’s goal. Other times it will be your job to dictate a set of moves and guide the players and ball into the best positions to advance.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Advancing Your Skill and Knowledge\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Watch professionals and take notes.\", \"描述\": \"Watching soccer matches is a great way to get better. It’s like studying for a school test. You need to learn how the game works on the whole so that when on the field you know what to do.\\nWatch how the players move and take notes. Notice how professionals don’t always drive the ball forward toward the opponent’s goal but take time passing the ball. Oftentimes the players will pass the ball laterally and backward to find an open player before advancing.\\nPay attention to how the players move around one another and where the imaginary boundaries for each position are. If you watch closely enough you’ll start to see passing and moving patterns.\\nA lot of times players move in a triangle formation, passing the ball as a unit back and forth. When the ball gets to an area near the goal, players on the wings typically cross the ball to the center for a header. Take notes on how the players get into scoring positions.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Practice drills and ball control with both feet.\", \"描述\": \"Most likely you have one dominant foot that you pass and shoot with. But to advance your skill you’ll need to be able to handle the ball with both. \\nBeing able to handle the ball with both feet will greatly open up your ability to pass, move, and score. A lot of players are right-footed, being able to use your opposite foot well will throw off the opponent.\\nYou may also find yourself in a position where using your off foot is the only way to keep the ball, pass, or even shoot and score. Being comfortable with both feet will give you confidence and allow you to succeed in any situation.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Treat the game like chess.\", \"描述\": \"Soccer is not unlike a game of chess. Pieces move across the board in several different ways. Always be thinking three steps ahead.\\nWhen you watch matches notice the patterns in movements and formations. Learn the different kinds of formations and know which one your coach typically puts your team in.\\nBeing able to predict the next moves is important for field vision and being a great player. If you see that your teammate is going to need to pass the ball, you can get into position to receive it. At the same time knowing where you can then pass the ball will help you be a great team player.\\nWatch for the patterns and put yourself in the right position. For example, if you see a player moving the ball up and near a corner you know that the player will most likely cross the ball to the center. If you’re a forward, it’s your job to be there when the ball is passed.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Practice finesse moves and learn passing tactics.\", \"描述\": \"Passing effectively is the best way to move the ball forward. But passing forward isn’t always the best way to get closer to your opponent’s goal. Additionally, when done correctly, finesse moves will allow you to beat your opponent and press on.\\nLean the different kinds of passes and when to use each one. You’ll also need to learn how to effectively receive each type of pass.\\nRun drills where you practice passing and receiving. Pay attention to your foot placement and which parts of your foot touch the ball. As a general rule, you should pass and receive with the inside of your foot, not with your toes. The inside gives you greater control.\\nLearn to use the correct passes to achieve the best result. You may do a short pass to make your teammate rush to the ball to create space. Or, you’ll need to do a long through ball so your teammate who is running forward can meet the ball without stopping.\\nFinesse moves are fun but hard to pull off. However, learning a few once you’ve gotten good at dribbling and passing can put you leagues ahead of other players. You have to learn to sell the move. You’re not only moving your feet, but you have to use your body to trick the defender as well. Practice cutting and chopping while keeping your body up and square so as not to give away your move.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Play against opponents who are better than you.\", \"描述\": \"Playing against people that are more skilled than you will make you work harder to win. You’ll also be able to see how moves, passing, shooting, etc., are done correctly.\\nIf you’re only playing against people at your skill level or a lower skill, you’ll have a hard time progressing and getting better. When you play against superior players you won’t have any opportunity to get lazy.\\nBetter opponents will also be able to show you how to achieve the results you want. Treat better players like a teacher or coach and use the opportunity to learn.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Always be courteous and have a good attitude.\", \"描述\": \"Being a great team player is not only the right way to be, but it will make you valuable to the team.\\nEven if you’re losing, always be encouraging and supportive. Don’t check out just because you think the game is over. Offer support and keep trying until the actual end of the game. Be a courteous loser and a graceful winner.\\nThe more support you offer on and off the field the more people will want you around. If you’re not the best player but always do your best and offer support you’ll have more opportunity to play and practice.\\nLastly, have fun! Don’t get too caught up on winning. Soccer should be a fun sport. You play because you love the game. So remember that you’re supposed to be having fun. And that even if you lose, you are still getting better because you paid attention and learned from the game.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Watch soccer or even play games like FIFA. You can see how to move on the field and when certain tactics can be valuable to you.\\n\", \"Practice every day, even if it's for ten minutes. The consistency will help you improve.\\n\", \"Always be a team player. You are more likely to get better if you are liked. People will want you around and value your abilities.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Leave the trash talk at home. Trash talking is bad practice and if a ref sees it, he may give you a yellow card.\\n\", \"Never argue with the referee. This will make him less likely to be on your side. And you could even get kicked out of the match.\\n\", \"Don't foul anyone purposefully. This could result in free kicks and penalty kicks which could result in the other team scoring.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Learning from Experience
1-1. Meet a wide array of people and observe them.
People watching is a great way to learn how to mimic expressions, gestures, and tones of voice. Observe strangers while you’re out and about, and try to interact with a diverse range of people. Paying attention can inspire you to come up with the details that make a performance great.
Coffee shops, restaurant patios, malls, and grocery stores are all great people watching places. If you're in line somewhere, say hello to the people next to you and try to strike up a conversation.
1-2. Watch as many performances as possible.
You can find plenty of live performances on YouTube, Netflix, and other services. In addition to performances of your play, watch anything else you can as time allows. Watch with a critical eye and note how you might have made an expression or delivered a line differently.
1-3. Learn from the other actors in your play.
It is not cheating or copying to learn from others. Watch other actors in your productions and see what they do with the parts they're given. Try to notice things they do that you might incorporate into your own acting style.
Don't be shy about asking more experienced actors in your play for help. Ask them for notes, advice, and tricks of the trade.
1-4. Get as much practice as possible.
Do your best to actually act, instead of just going to one audition after another. If you’re trying to break into professional theater, that might mean taking a role in a community production without getting a paycheck. Look at it as a chance to hone your craft instead of a step in the wrong direction.
You’ll have a chance to play more challenging roles, learn from different directors and choreographers, and gain more knowledge of how a production works.
2. Perfecting Your Delivery
2-1. Memorize your lines
The first step to delivering a masterful performance is memorizing your lines. If you don’t have to worry about your lines, you’ll be able to concentrate on your mechanics and character development.
Read your lines at every opportunity, recite them over and over, and copy them by hand to help commit them to memory.
If you have a long passage, say the first line over and over until you remember it, then add the next line. Add one line at a time until you’re comfortable with the entire passage.
2-2. Enunciate your words.
Enunciation, or speaking clearly, is a vital part of stage acting. Exaggerate your pronunciation so that audience members in the last row will be able to understand every syllable.
Try practicing tongue-twisting vocal exercises, such as, “A proper copper coffee pot,” or “Knit kilts for nasty cold nights.”
Even if you’ll be using a microphone system, your audience won’t understand you if you mumble your lines.
2-3. Work on projecting your voice.
Fill your belly up with air and use your diaphragm to support your speech. Try to speak clearly and loudly without changing the tone of your voice. Proper projection sounds like talking, but can be heard at a distance. Shouting, on the other hand, is when the tone of your voice becomes harsh and grating.
If you have access to your performance space, have someone sit in the last row while you practice projecting your lines. They can let you know how audible you are and whether the quality of your voice changes. Try to find a large hall or similar space if you don't have access to your performance location.
2-4. Exaggerate your expressions, but keep them natural.
Facial expressions and gestures should be more intense. That way, the emotions they convey will be clear from a distance. However, you don’t want to over-act and seem unnatural.
Try setting up a mirror or video camera and stand as far away from it as possible. Practice exaggerating your expressions and try to find your balance between clarity and staying natural.
Getting notes from your director or theater-loving friend is also useful.
It helps to know the size of your performance space. In a small intimate setting, you won’t need to exaggerate your expressions the way you would in a large theater.
2-5. Sync your expressions with the play’s text.
Work on your timing so your expressions don’t anticipate or spoil the next line. Instead of just waiting for another actor to finish speaking, look at them and actively listen as if you’ve never before heard those words. Try not to know more than your character knows at that moment - be genuinely surprised, elated, angry, or sad.
For example, if your character learns something upsetting, you have to emote at exactly the right moment. Poor timing would ruin the illusion by reminding the audience that you've memorized a script.
Think carefully about how to naturally time your expressions. If your character has just learned that their romantic interest is dead, would it take a moment or two to comprehend the news? Should you first convey shock and disbelief, then build into grief or rage?
2-6. Enroll in acting classes.
Get referrals from other actors or search online for classes in your area. Think about your needs and choose a class that focuses on an area that would most benefit you. Look for a teacher who's tough, honest, and has plenty of teaching experience.
You'll find a range of available classes. If you want to work on reactions and concentration, improv might be best for you. A technique-focused class, like one on a specific acting method, might be best if you want to work on immersing yourself in a character.
Go a teacher with years of proven teaching experience over flashy acting credentials. Just because someone has an impressive acting resume doesn't mean they're a great acting teacher.
Depending on the prestige of the school or instructor, you might find courses that cost anywhere between $150 and $2000 (US). Choose one that's in your budget with the smallest class size. One on one time with a good teacher is better than being in packed class with a prestigious name.
3. Developing a Believable Character
3-1. Research your character.
Whether you’ve been cast in a role or are auditioning, spend as much time as you can learning about your character. Figure out who they are and what their world is like. The script is a great start, but you should dig deeper by searching online, reading history books, and looking at works of art.
For example, if your character is a noble living in sixteenth-century Italy, learn about the politics, religion, economics, and popular fashions of their world. Find portraits of wealthy people who lived at that time, and look closely at how they present themselves.
Look up your character’s name. Find out if the playwright used its meaning as a clue about who that person is.
3-2. Give your character details.
Take cues from the script and construct an intellectual and emotional portrait of the person you're playing. Fill in the script’s blanks and create backstories for your character. Speculate about their motivations, dreams, and ambitions.
Make a list of their strengths, flaws, values, and temptations. What life events shaped them into who they are?
3-3. Figure out how your character is connected to others.
Use the script, research, and your imagination to define how your character relates to the play’s other characters. Decide how your character forms relationships and interacts with others.
For instance, is there another character whom they trust more than others? Maybe you could hold your posture more rigidly and speak with a more formal tone around other characters. Then, drop your shoulders and speak with a more relaxed tone in scenes with the person your character trusts.
3-4. Immerse yourself in the role completely.
Use the images and details you’ve assembled to transform yourself into your character. Envision how they react to life, move, think, and relate to others. Forget that you are pretending, and try to become the character you are playing.
3-5. Come up with subtle details that add authenticity.
Little actions are noticeable and can help bring your character to life. If your character is fastidious, maybe you could straighten your clothes frequently. If they’re generally anxious, figure out gestures, like wringing your hands, that convey anxiety.
4. Being Comfortable Onstage
4-1. Try to keep calm and relax.
Do breathing exercises or meditate before going on stage. Don’t worry about embarrassing yourself or messing up. If you know your lines, have worked on your mechanics, and have committed to your character, you have nothing to worry about.
4-2. Use the stage lights to kill stage fright.
The stage lights are your friend! With the lights shining on you, you won’t be able to see most of the theater. Try to use them to help you focus on the action on the stage.
4-3. Try to block out the audience.
Pretend there's a wall between you and the audience. Tell yourself that you're no longer on a stage, but in your private world. Try to stay within your character and within the play, and forget the audience exists.
4-4. Remember that acting is your passion.
If you ever get nervous on stage, remind yourself how important acting is to you. Try to focus on everything you love about theater. Embrace being onstage and have fun!
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Learn from the other actors in your play.\\nIt is not cheating or copying to learn from others. Watch other actors in your productions and see what they do with the parts they're given. Try to notice things they do that you might incorporate into your own acting style.\\nDon't be shy about asking more experienced actors in your play for help. Ask them for notes, advice, and tricks of the trade.\\n1-4. Get as much practice as possible.\\nDo your best to actually act, instead of just going to one audition after another. If you’re trying to break into professional theater, that might mean taking a role in a community production without getting a paycheck. Look at it as a chance to hone your craft instead of a step in the wrong direction.\\nYou’ll have a chance to play more challenging roles, learn from different directors and choreographers, and gain more knowledge of how a production works.\\n2. Perfecting Your Delivery\\n2-1. Memorize your lines\\nThe first step to delivering a masterful performance is memorizing your lines. If you don’t have to worry about your lines, you’ll be able to concentrate on your mechanics and character development.\\nRead your lines at every opportunity, recite them over and over, and copy them by hand to help commit them to memory.\\nIf you have a long passage, say the first line over and over until you remember it, then add the next line. Add one line at a time until you’re comfortable with the entire passage.\\n2-2. Enunciate your words.\\nEnunciation, or speaking clearly, is a vital part of stage acting. Exaggerate your pronunciation so that audience members in the last row will be able to understand every syllable.\\nTry practicing tongue-twisting vocal exercises, such as, “A proper copper coffee pot,” or “Knit kilts for nasty cold nights.”\\nEven if you’ll be using a microphone system, your audience won’t understand you if you mumble your lines.\\n2-3. Work on projecting your voice.\\nFill your belly up with air and use your diaphragm to support your speech. Try to speak clearly and loudly without changing the tone of your voice. Proper projection sounds like talking, but can be heard at a distance. Shouting, on the other hand, is when the tone of your voice becomes harsh and grating.\\nIf you have access to your performance space, have someone sit in the last row while you practice projecting your lines. They can let you know how audible you are and whether the quality of your voice changes. Try to find a large hall or similar space if you don't have access to your performance location.\\n2-4. Exaggerate your expressions, but keep them natural.\\nFacial expressions and gestures should be more intense. That way, the emotions they convey will be clear from a distance. However, you don’t want to over-act and seem unnatural.\\nTry setting up a mirror or video camera and stand as far away from it as possible. Practice exaggerating your expressions and try to find your balance between clarity and staying natural.\\nGetting notes from your director or theater-loving friend is also useful.\\nIt helps to know the size of your performance space. In a small intimate setting, you won’t need to exaggerate your expressions the way you would in a large theater.\\n2-5. Sync your expressions with the play’s text.\\nWork on your timing so your expressions don’t anticipate or spoil the next line. Instead of just waiting for another actor to finish speaking, look at them and actively listen as if you’ve never before heard those words. Try not to know more than your character knows at that moment - be genuinely surprised, elated, angry, or sad.\\nFor example, if your character learns something upsetting, you have to emote at exactly the right moment. Poor timing would ruin the illusion by reminding the audience that you've memorized a script. \\nThink carefully about how to naturally time your expressions. If your character has just learned that their romantic interest is dead, would it take a moment or two to comprehend the news? Should you first convey shock and disbelief, then build into grief or rage?\\n2-6. Enroll in acting classes.\\nGet referrals from other actors or search online for classes in your area. Think about your needs and choose a class that focuses on an area that would most benefit you. Look for a teacher who's tough, honest, and has plenty of teaching experience.\\nYou'll find a range of available classes. If you want to work on reactions and concentration, improv might be best for you. A technique-focused class, like one on a specific acting method, might be best if you want to work on immersing yourself in a character.\\nGo a teacher with years of proven teaching experience over flashy acting credentials. Just because someone has an impressive acting resume doesn't mean they're a great acting teacher.\\nDepending on the prestige of the school or instructor, you might find courses that cost anywhere between $150 and $2000 (US). Choose one that's in your budget with the smallest class size. One on one time with a good teacher is better than being in packed class with a prestigious name.\\n3. Developing a Believable Character\\n3-1. Research your character.\\nWhether you’ve been cast in a role or are auditioning, spend as much time as you can learning about your character. Figure out who they are and what their world is like. The script is a great start, but you should dig deeper by searching online, reading history books, and looking at works of art.\\nFor example, if your character is a noble living in sixteenth-century Italy, learn about the politics, religion, economics, and popular fashions of their world. Find portraits of wealthy people who lived at that time, and look closely at how they present themselves.\\nLook up your character’s name. Find out if the playwright used its meaning as a clue about who that person is.\\n3-2. Give your character details.\\nTake cues from the script and construct an intellectual and emotional portrait of the person you're playing. Fill in the script’s blanks and create backstories for your character. Speculate about their motivations, dreams, and ambitions.\\nMake a list of their strengths, flaws, values, and temptations. What life events shaped them into who they are?\\n3-3. Figure out how your character is connected to others.\\nUse the script, research, and your imagination to define how your character relates to the play’s other characters. Decide how your character forms relationships and interacts with others.\\nFor instance, is there another character whom they trust more than others? Maybe you could hold your posture more rigidly and speak with a more formal tone around other characters. Then, drop your shoulders and speak with a more relaxed tone in scenes with the person your character trusts.\\n3-4. Immerse yourself in the role completely.\\nUse the images and details you’ve assembled to transform yourself into your character. Envision how they react to life, move, think, and relate to others. Forget that you are pretending, and try to become the character you are playing.\\n3-5. Come up with subtle details that add authenticity.\\nLittle actions are noticeable and can help bring your character to life. If your character is fastidious, maybe you could straighten your clothes frequently. If they’re generally anxious, figure out gestures, like wringing your hands, that convey anxiety.\\n4. Being Comfortable Onstage\\n4-1. Try to keep calm and relax.\\nDo breathing exercises or meditate before going on stage. Don’t worry about embarrassing yourself or messing up. If you know your lines, have worked on your mechanics, and have committed to your character, you have nothing to worry about.\\n4-2. Use the stage lights to kill stage fright.\\nThe stage lights are your friend! With the lights shining on you, you won’t be able to see most of the theater. Try to use them to help you focus on the action on the stage.\\n4-3. Try to block out the audience.\\nPretend there's a wall between you and the audience. Tell yourself that you're no longer on a stage, but in your private world. Try to stay within your character and within the play, and forget the audience exists.\\n4-4. Remember that acting is your passion.\\nIf you ever get nervous on stage, remind yourself how important acting is to you. Try to focus on everything you love about theater. Embrace being onstage and have fun!\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Stage acting is a unique art that takes effort to master. Apart from taking classes, there are plenty of ways to hone your craft on your own. 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1. Improving Your Skills
1-1. Learn to serve overhand.
While many top players have perfected the jump serve, a simple overhand serve may be just as effective. Stand behind the serving line, toss the ball to a comfortable height over your head and hit it with a flat palm over the net as hard as you can. The ball must stay in bounds on the other side of the net. While underhand and sidearm serves put the ball in play, they are not as difficult to return as overhand serves, and are not as desirable to learn.
Practice your serving pitch. For each type of serve, toss the ball to your hitting hand and aim for the lower part of the ball. Try hitting the ball not with your palm but with the horseshoe part of your hand for a more accurate serve. Make sure you have positioned yourself and aimed correctly or the ball will go haywire.
Experiment with force. What's too much? What's too little? Soon enough your muscles will remember what works and you'll be able to aim the ball like a bullet out of a gun.
1-2. Learn to pass and bump with accuracy.
One of the first things that you'll need to learn after getting your serve developed is how to pass the ball effectively to a player in the setting position and give your team the best chance of scoring a point. The best passes and passers can calm the ball down, removing the spin and getting the ball high enough into the air to give the setter time to get under it.
Develop the proper form to pass. Hold your arms straight in front of you and put one palm inside the other, using the space between your elbows and wrists to guide the ball. Cup one hand and place your other hand on top of the cupped palm. Bring your thumbs together so that they face out and away from you, but do not cross your thumbs.
When you bump, you want the ball to hit the inside part of your forearm. This will be more sensitive at first, but it allows you to have a flat, even surface for the ball to bounce off. Practice passing back and forth with a partner, trying to put the ball in the same place every time you pass. You don't even need a net.
1-3. Learn to set effectively.
A good set intends to allow other players to score for the team. A set, like an assist in basketball or soccer, is the best way of contributing to the flow of the game and give your team a chance to get ahead. Depending on who you're playing with, sets need to be The setter should be loud and clear if calling help and if not, then she should call her hitter.
Place your hands above your head so that when you look up, your index fingers and thumbs create a triangle shape (without your hands touching). When you are attempting a set, you should be attempting to center the ball in this triangle and using only the pads of your fingers to push the ball back up.
Try shrugging your shoulders while bending your arms at a slant during your sets and bumps. If you're moving from your elbows, chances are that you aren't going to get maximum power. When you set, it also helps if you form your hands into a diamond and look through as you're hitting the ball.
1-4. Learn to hit powerfully.
The hit, sometimes called the "kill" should ideally be the third touch on the ball. Performed correctly, it should end with a point for your team. Although it's best practiced with a net, players can drill effectively to get the wrist-snapping action down pat.
Practice hits with one teammate, letting one player pass, the partner set it back, so the first may hit it down to the partner, who digs it up. Repeat this process in the opposite rotation. After a few rounds, you'll be developing the fundamental skills and improving significantly.
1-5. Learn to block.
Volleyball is about a lot more than offense. Learning to coordinate your blocks as a team and keep the other team from scoring will set you apart and improve your standing on the court. It's a simple skill, but learning to react and leap quickly into the path of the ball requires practice.
The best blocking drill involves three people and a net, letting other players practice shooting simultaneously. Let one teammate set, one hit, and one block. Let the two offensive players practice setting and shooting and the other player attempt to jump as high as possible and block.
If you don't have a net, practice blocking by working on your vertical leap. Practice jumping effectively and improving your power and the height in your jumps.
2. Developing Your Teamwork
2-1. Practice from different positions.
In order to become a better player, you need to learn to play from all the positions. From the net to the back line, you need to get experience all over the court, regardless of your height and your skill set. Even if you're particularly good at one position, play from all over. Have good sportsmanship.
2-2. Hustle.
Go after every ball, even if you don't think that you can get it. Go for every ball like it's your last hit, giving it your all each and every time you're on the court. If you're in it 110%, everyone else will feel the pressure, too. Soon enough, your entire team will be firing on all cylinders.
2-3. Communicate with your teammates.
The game of volleyball relies on good communication and the best team on the court is usually the team talking the most. Call "got" or "mine" really loud to avoid confusion between you and your teammates. Yell whether the ball is in or out. If you see a tip coming let your team know. Your whole squad will benefit from just one person talking.
2-4. Be coachable.
Good volleyball players know that they always need to get better. Learning to take constructive criticism and suggestions for improvement is an important part of improving your play, whether you're on a volleyball team or playing informally with friends. If someone, a coach or a teammate, makes a suggestion, listen openly and try to integrate new ideas into your practice routine. Make it a goal to get better.
2-5. Be a mentally tenacious player.
If you hit a ball out or shank a pass, try to stay positive. Just move on and focus on the next serve. Volleyball is a mental sport and by getting down, you will greatly impact your game in a negative way. Stay focused and intent on winning. Find the zone and stay there. When your teammates see you playing with intensity and poise, it'll rub off on everyone and improve the team as a group.
Be alert, even if you are winning with a 10-point lead, the game could easily turn around with a good server. Focus on seeing a game through till the end and not changing your focus until the job is done.
Be a good sportsperson. Know that even if you don't win, you can always play another game and hit the ball twice as hard next time. Your teammates will appreciate your good attitude, regardless of your performance.
2-6. Encourage your teammates.
High-fives, vocal encouragement, and positive vibes should always be coming from good players. Whether you're on the court or on the bench, always be cheering your team on and focused in with the game.
3. Improving Your Fitness
3-1. Develop your speed
It's a common misconception that volleyball is a sport that requires arm strength. In reality, good volleyball players have learned to be in the right place at the right time, and use the proper techniques. While strength is important, the best players aren't always the strongest, but are able to move efficiently and fluidly around the court.
Practice wind sprints and side-to-side shuffle runs to improve your ability to move around the court quickly and effectively. Learn to be in the right place at the right time.
3-2. Incorporate plyometrics into your training
Plyometrics involves using your body as resistance, meaning you can do it anywhere, at any time, all by yourself. Working on jumping and using your weight for resistance will help you get into and stay in volleyball shape.
3-3. Improve your vertical leap
A high vertical jump gives a hitter or a blocker numerous advantages on the volleyball court. Train hard by jumping rope, doing squats, and practicing tuck jumps, and your vertical will increase dramatically. The key is to keep up with it.
Practice with a jump rope. This is one of the most amazing tools for general fitness, as it increases endurance, and helps your jumping muscles. Look up some good jump rope routines.
3-4. Train with agility workouts
You have to be fast enough to react and pass a ball in volleyball, meaning that training should focus on improving your all-around agility and fast-twitch muscle reaction times.
3-5. Strengthen your lower body and core muscles
Volleyball players spend a lot of time in the ready position, a partial squat that allows players to react quickly and powerfully to the approaching ball. For beginning players, staying in this position for long periods of time can be quickly exhausting, so developing your lower body and core strength will help you be the best player you can be during the whole game. Improve your endurance by improving your core strength.
Try wall sits. If you "sit on a wall" then your muscles in your thighs will get strong. You need strong thighs in volleyball because you need to squat down a little bit to show that you are down and ready.
Try a circuit-training regimen, if you're looking for a good all-around fitness workout that will benefit your volleyball skills. This can be a good way to incorporate aerobic exercise, strength training, and stamina-building workout skills, improving you as a player.
Tips
Always cheer up your teammates when they also shank a ball, so the whole team doesn't get down.
Try practicing against a wall to improve your bumping, setting, and receiving skills.
Work as a team, not several individuals. Without a good pass, how will the setter ever make a set, and set up a kill?
Warnings
Don't stress too much if your skills don't build up immediately, becoming good at a sport will take time and lots of patience.
When bumping the volleyball, never cross your thumbs. If your thumbs are crossed and you bump on a hard serve, you could sprain or even break your thumb(s).
Always wear kneepads, and you may want to wear ankle braces of some sort if you have experienced ankle problems in the past.[13]
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Soon enough your muscles will remember what works and you'll be able to aim the ball like a bullet out of a gun.\\n1-2. Learn to pass and bump with accuracy.\\nOne of the first things that you'll need to learn after getting your serve developed is how to pass the ball effectively to a player in the setting position and give your team the best chance of scoring a point. The best passes and passers can calm the ball down, removing the spin and getting the ball high enough into the air to give the setter time to get under it. \\nDevelop the proper form to pass. Hold your arms straight in front of you and put one palm inside the other, using the space between your elbows and wrists to guide the ball. Cup one hand and place your other hand on top of the cupped palm. Bring your thumbs together so that they face out and away from you, but do not cross your thumbs.\\nWhen you bump, you want the ball to hit the inside part of your forearm. This will be more sensitive at first, but it allows you to have a flat, even surface for the ball to bounce off. Practice passing back and forth with a partner, trying to put the ball in the same place every time you pass. You don't even need a net.\\n1-3. Learn to set effectively.\\nA good set intends to allow other players to score for the team. A set, like an assist in basketball or soccer, is the best way of contributing to the flow of the game and give your team a chance to get ahead. Depending on who you're playing with, sets need to be The setter should be loud and clear if calling help and if not, then she should call her hitter. \\nPlace your hands above your head so that when you look up, your index fingers and thumbs create a triangle shape (without your hands touching). When you are attempting a set, you should be attempting to center the ball in this triangle and using only the pads of your fingers to push the ball back up.\\nTry shrugging your shoulders while bending your arms at a slant during your sets and bumps. If you're moving from your elbows, chances are that you aren't going to get maximum power. When you set, it also helps if you form your hands into a diamond and look through as you're hitting the ball.\\n1-4. Learn to hit powerfully.\\nThe hit, sometimes called the \\\"kill\\\" should ideally be the third touch on the ball. Performed correctly, it should end with a point for your team. Although it's best practiced with a net, players can drill effectively to get the wrist-snapping action down pat.\\nPractice hits with one teammate, letting one player pass, the partner set it back, so the first may hit it down to the partner, who digs it up. Repeat this process in the opposite rotation. After a few rounds, you'll be developing the fundamental skills and improving significantly.\\n1-5. Learn to block.\\nVolleyball is about a lot more than offense. Learning to coordinate your blocks as a team and keep the other team from scoring will set you apart and improve your standing on the court. It's a simple skill, but learning to react and leap quickly into the path of the ball requires practice.\\nThe best blocking drill involves three people and a net, letting other players practice shooting simultaneously. Let one teammate set, one hit, and one block. Let the two offensive players practice setting and shooting and the other player attempt to jump as high as possible and block.\\nIf you don't have a net, practice blocking by working on your vertical leap. Practice jumping effectively and improving your power and the height in your jumps.\\n2. Developing Your Teamwork\\n2-1. Practice from different positions.\\nIn order to become a better player, you need to learn to play from all the positions. From the net to the back line, you need to get experience all over the court, regardless of your height and your skill set. Even if you're particularly good at one position, play from all over. Have good sportsmanship.\\n2-2. Hustle.\\nGo after every ball, even if you don't think that you can get it. Go for every ball like it's your last hit, giving it your all each and every time you're on the court. If you're in it 110%, everyone else will feel the pressure, too. Soon enough, your entire team will be firing on all cylinders.\\n2-3. Communicate with your teammates.\\nThe game of volleyball relies on good communication and the best team on the court is usually the team talking the most. Call \\\"got\\\" or \\\"mine\\\" really loud to avoid confusion between you and your teammates. Yell whether the ball is in or out. If you see a tip coming let your team know. Your whole squad will benefit from just one person talking.\\n2-4. Be coachable.\\nGood volleyball players know that they always need to get better. Learning to take constructive criticism and suggestions for improvement is an important part of improving your play, whether you're on a volleyball team or playing informally with friends. If someone, a coach or a teammate, makes a suggestion, listen openly and try to integrate new ideas into your practice routine. Make it a goal to get better.\\n2-5. Be a mentally tenacious player.\\nIf you hit a ball out or shank a pass, try to stay positive. Just move on and focus on the next serve. Volleyball is a mental sport and by getting down, you will greatly impact your game in a negative way. Stay focused and intent on winning. Find the zone and stay there. When your teammates see you playing with intensity and poise, it'll rub off on everyone and improve the team as a group.\\nBe alert, even if you are winning with a 10-point lead, the game could easily turn around with a good server. Focus on seeing a game through till the end and not changing your focus until the job is done.\\nBe a good sportsperson. Know that even if you don't win, you can always play another game and hit the ball twice as hard next time. Your teammates will appreciate your good attitude, regardless of your performance.\\n2-6. Encourage your teammates.\\nHigh-fives, vocal encouragement, and positive vibes should always be coming from good players. Whether you're on the court or on the bench, always be cheering your team on and focused in with the game.\\n3. Improving Your Fitness\\n3-1. Develop your speed\\nIt's a common misconception that volleyball is a sport that requires arm strength. In reality, good volleyball players have learned to be in the right place at the right time, and use the proper techniques. While strength is important, the best players aren't always the strongest, but are able to move efficiently and fluidly around the court.\\nPractice wind sprints and side-to-side shuffle runs to improve your ability to move around the court quickly and effectively. Learn to be in the right place at the right time.\\n3-2. Incorporate plyometrics into your training\\nPlyometrics involves using your body as resistance, meaning you can do it anywhere, at any time, all by yourself. Working on jumping and using your weight for resistance will help you get into and stay in volleyball shape.\\n3-3. Improve your vertical leap\\nA high vertical jump gives a hitter or a blocker numerous advantages on the volleyball court. Train hard by jumping rope, doing squats, and practicing tuck jumps, and your vertical will increase dramatically. The key is to keep up with it.\\nPractice with a jump rope. This is one of the most amazing tools for general fitness, as it increases endurance, and helps your jumping muscles. Look up some good jump rope routines.\\n3-4. Train with agility workouts\\nYou have to be fast enough to react and pass a ball in volleyball, meaning that training should focus on improving your all-around agility and fast-twitch muscle reaction times.\\n3-5. Strengthen your lower body and core muscles\\nVolleyball players spend a lot of time in the ready position, a partial squat that allows players to react quickly and powerfully to the approaching ball. For beginning players, staying in this position for long periods of time can be quickly exhausting, so developing your lower body and core strength will help you be the best player you can be during the whole game. Improve your endurance by improving your core strength.\\nTry wall sits. If you \\\"sit on a wall\\\" then your muscles in your thighs will get strong. You need strong thighs in volleyball because you need to squat down a little bit to show that you are down and ready.\\nTry a circuit-training regimen, if you're looking for a good all-around fitness workout that will benefit your volleyball skills. This can be a good way to incorporate aerobic exercise, strength training, and stamina-building workout skills, improving you as a player.\\nTips\\nAlways cheer up your teammates when they also shank a ball, so the whole team doesn't get down.\\nTry practicing against a wall to improve your bumping, setting, and receiving skills.\\nWork as a team, not several individuals. Without a good pass, how will the setter ever make a set, and set up a kill?\\nWarnings\\nDon't stress too much if your skills don't build up immediately, becoming good at a sport will take time and lots of patience.\\nWhen bumping the volleyball, never cross your thumbs. If your thumbs are crossed and you bump on a hard serve, you could sprain or even break your thumb(s).\\nAlways wear kneepads, and you may want to wear ankle braces of some sort if you have experienced ankle problems in the past.[13]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Volleyball requires speed, agility, and teamwork. Whether you're an experienced or inexperienced player, good players know that there's always room for improvement. Learning which areas of your game could use a little work can help you develop as a player, improving your skills, teamwork, and all-around fitness.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Improving Your Skills\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn to serve overhand.\", \"描述\": \"While many top players have perfected the jump serve, a simple overhand serve may be just as effective. Stand behind the serving line, toss the ball to a comfortable height over your head and hit it with a flat palm over the net as hard as you can. The ball must stay in bounds on the other side of the net. While underhand and sidearm serves put the ball in play, they are not as difficult to return as overhand serves, and are not as desirable to learn.\\nPractice your serving pitch. For each type of serve, toss the ball to your hitting hand and aim for the lower part of the ball. Try hitting the ball not with your palm but with the horseshoe part of your hand for a more accurate serve. Make sure you have positioned yourself and aimed correctly or the ball will go haywire.\\nExperiment with force. What's too much? What's too little? Soon enough your muscles will remember what works and you'll be able to aim the ball like a bullet out of a gun.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Learn to pass and bump with accuracy.\", \"描述\": \"One of the first things that you'll need to learn after getting your serve developed is how to pass the ball effectively to a player in the setting position and give your team the best chance of scoring a point. The best passes and passers can calm the ball down, removing the spin and getting the ball high enough into the air to give the setter time to get under it. \\nDevelop the proper form to pass. Hold your arms straight in front of you and put one palm inside the other, using the space between your elbows and wrists to guide the ball. Cup one hand and place your other hand on top of the cupped palm. Bring your thumbs together so that they face out and away from you, but do not cross your thumbs.\\nWhen you bump, you want the ball to hit the inside part of your forearm. This will be more sensitive at first, but it allows you to have a flat, even surface for the ball to bounce off. Practice passing back and forth with a partner, trying to put the ball in the same place every time you pass. You don't even need a net.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn to set effectively.\", \"描述\": \"A good set intends to allow other players to score for the team. A set, like an assist in basketball or soccer, is the best way of contributing to the flow of the game and give your team a chance to get ahead. Depending on who you're playing with, sets need to be The setter should be loud and clear if calling help and if not, then she should call her hitter. \\nPlace your hands above your head so that when you look up, your index fingers and thumbs create a triangle shape (without your hands touching). When you are attempting a set, you should be attempting to center the ball in this triangle and using only the pads of your fingers to push the ball back up.\\nTry shrugging your shoulders while bending your arms at a slant during your sets and bumps. If you're moving from your elbows, chances are that you aren't going to get maximum power. When you set, it also helps if you form your hands into a diamond and look through as you're hitting the ball.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Learn to hit powerfully.\", \"描述\": \"The hit, sometimes called the \\\"kill\\\" should ideally be the third touch on the ball. Performed correctly, it should end with a point for your team. Although it's best practiced with a net, players can drill effectively to get the wrist-snapping action down pat.\\nPractice hits with one teammate, letting one player pass, the partner set it back, so the first may hit it down to the partner, who digs it up. Repeat this process in the opposite rotation. After a few rounds, you'll be developing the fundamental skills and improving significantly.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Learn to block.\", \"描述\": \"Volleyball is about a lot more than offense. Learning to coordinate your blocks as a team and keep the other team from scoring will set you apart and improve your standing on the court. It's a simple skill, but learning to react and leap quickly into the path of the ball requires practice.\\nThe best blocking drill involves three people and a net, letting other players practice shooting simultaneously. Let one teammate set, one hit, and one block. Let the two offensive players practice setting and shooting and the other player attempt to jump as high as possible and block.\\nIf you don't have a net, practice blocking by working on your vertical leap. Practice jumping effectively and improving your power and the height in your jumps.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Developing Your Teamwork\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Practice from different positions.\", \"描述\": \"In order to become a better player, you need to learn to play from all the positions. From the net to the back line, you need to get experience all over the court, regardless of your height and your skill set. Even if you're particularly good at one position, play from all over. Have good sportsmanship.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Hustle.\", \"描述\": \"Go after every ball, even if you don't think that you can get it. Go for every ball like it's your last hit, giving it your all each and every time you're on the court. If you're in it 110%, everyone else will feel the pressure, too. Soon enough, your entire team will be firing on all cylinders.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Communicate with your teammates.\", \"描述\": \"The game of volleyball relies on good communication and the best team on the court is usually the team talking the most. Call \\\"got\\\" or \\\"mine\\\" really loud to avoid confusion between you and your teammates. Yell whether the ball is in or out. If you see a tip coming let your team know. Your whole squad will benefit from just one person talking.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be coachable.\", \"描述\": \"Good volleyball players know that they always need to get better. Learning to take constructive criticism and suggestions for improvement is an important part of improving your play, whether you're on a volleyball team or playing informally with friends. If someone, a coach or a teammate, makes a suggestion, listen openly and try to integrate new ideas into your practice routine. Make it a goal to get better.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be a mentally tenacious player.\", \"描述\": \"If you hit a ball out or shank a pass, try to stay positive. Just move on and focus on the next serve. Volleyball is a mental sport and by getting down, you will greatly impact your game in a negative way. Stay focused and intent on winning. Find the zone and stay there. When your teammates see you playing with intensity and poise, it'll rub off on everyone and improve the team as a group.\\nBe alert, even if you are winning with a 10-point lead, the game could easily turn around with a good server. Focus on seeing a game through till the end and not changing your focus until the job is done.\\nBe a good sportsperson. Know that even if you don't win, you can always play another game and hit the ball twice as hard next time. Your teammates will appreciate your good attitude, regardless of your performance.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Encourage your teammates.\", \"描述\": \"High-fives, vocal encouragement, and positive vibes should always be coming from good players. Whether you're on the court or on the bench, always be cheering your team on and focused in with the game.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Improving Your Fitness\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Develop your speed\", \"描述\": \"It's a common misconception that volleyball is a sport that requires arm strength. In reality, good volleyball players have learned to be in the right place at the right time, and use the proper techniques. 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1. Buying a Motorcycle
1-1. Get the bike that suits you best.
Think about what you want to do with your bike, and how you want to ride it. If you're a new rider, you should consider the weight of the bike, as well as how tall it is. You want to be able to put both feet down on the ground when you come to a stop.
Bikes come in all shapes and sizes. When shopping for your bike, think about how you want to ride it. Do you want something you can cruise around on, or do you want something a little more extreme? If you're looking to tour around on a bike, opt for a traditional motorcycle. If you want something with speed, consider a sportbike.
Start looking at various manufacturers' websites to find the specifications of bikes. Select a few you're interested in and compare them to find one that suits your needs.
1-2. Set a budget.
Motorcycles can range from under $5,000 to $25,000. Before you drop thousands of dollars on a motorcycle, do some research on the going rate for the bike in question. You may find a cheaper alternative.
Consider buying a used bike if this is your first time buying a motorcycle. When you're learning to ride, you run the risk of laying your bike down at some point. If you buy a used bike, you won't feel so bad if it gets a little dinged up. Once you get the hang of riding, you can swap your bike for something nicer.
Keep in mind that you will have to pay a few other fees for owning a motorcycle aside from the cost of the bike. There are title and registration fees, sales tax, and in some cases, a delivery fee. If you buy used, you may have to pay for some maintenance if the bike needs any work done.
1-3. Buy protective gear.
After you buy your bike, you'll need to invest in a helmet. While there are plenty of other riding accessories available, a helmet is essential.
When shopping for a helmet make sure you buy one that has a good fit. You want your helmet to be snug around your cheeks and jaw, as well as the top and sides of your head. Be wary of used helmets, as they may not offer as much protection due to wear and tear.
Other riding accessories include riding jackets, boots, and gloves. The more you can protect yourself on a bike, the better off you will be. Shop for jackets and gloves that have armor sewn into them. Armored gear offers the most protection if you do end up in a crash.
1-4. Remember to get a license for your bike.
Depending on which state you live in, the rules for getting your motorcycle license may vary. Some states require a motorcycle safety course before giving potential riders their license. Check with the Department of Motor Vehicles to find out what the requirements are in your state.
2. Joining a Club
2-1. Think about what type of club you want to join.
There are motorcycle clubs, and then there are riding clubs. Each club offers something different for members.
Riding clubs are for people who only want to ride. You meet with some other members, ride around, and that's it. There are rarely any other commitments when you join a riding club.
Motorcycle clubs are more social. They value forming bonds with your fellow members, creating a brotherhood of sorts. Motorcycle clubs tend to require a lifelong commitment to the club. There are often dues involved, as well as required attendance to club-sponsored events.
2-2. Find a club that you're interested in.
You can find clubs for a wide variety of interests. There are clubs based on anything from the type of bike you ride, to what you do for a living. Check online to find information on any club chapters that may operate in your area.
2-3. Apply for membership.
Depending on the type of club you are interested in, you may have to apply for membership. Some riding clubs are free, while others may require dues.
If you want to join a riding club, all you have to do is approach your local chapter and ask what it takes to join. If you can't find a local chapter, you can start your own. If you find enough members, you can become an AMA (American Motorcycle Association) certified group.
Motorcycle clubs can be much more difficult to join. Some motorcycle clubs recruit members by invitation only. If you want to join an established motorcycle club, find out where the local chapter meets and start hanging around. Introduce yourself to some of the members and get to know them. If the members get along with you, they may ask you to join.
Motorcycle clubs often get bad press because they can sometimes resemble gangs. While there are several motorcycle clubs that operate on the wrong side of the law, not every motorcycle club is bad. Before you join any club, do your research and make sure you know what you're getting into.
2-4. Go on group rides.
A big part of both clubs is group riding. Group rides offer companionship and great views, but there are some rules to follow.
Make sure your group plans the ride before setting out. Discuss things such as destination, how long you plan to ride, or where you'll be stopping.
Follow a set riding order, with an experienced rider in the lead. Less experienced riders should be right behind the lead, with veteran riders next. This way, the experienced riders can keep an eye on the new riders.
3. Following the Rules of the Road
3-1. Be courteous to other riders and drivers.
Pay attention to your surroundings and take care to stay out of any blind spots on the road. Avoid weaving through traffic, or riding on the shoulders.
Drivers should be keeping an eye out for bikers, but do your best to make yourself visible on the road. For extra safety, always assume that you're invisible to other drivers.
Always follow the local traffic laws. Don't speed, and always keep an eye on the traffic ahead of you.
3-2. Always wear your safety gear.
You should never ride your motorcycle without wearing the appropriate safety gear. Even if you're going down the street, wear your helmet.
3-3. Ride sober.
Handling a motorcycle requires more skill than driving a car. Drinking before riding your motorcycle will hinder your ability to ride safely.
Don't be fooled into thinking that you can ride if you've only had a few drinks.
3-4. Take extra care when riding with a passenger.
If you have a bike that allows you to carry a passenger, make sure you are skilled enough to carry them on your bike. Give your passenger a helmet, and make sure they're comfortable riding with you.
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Before you drop thousands of dollars on a motorcycle, do some research on the going rate for the bike in question. You may find a cheaper alternative.\\nConsider buying a used bike if this is your first time buying a motorcycle. When you're learning to ride, you run the risk of laying your bike down at some point. If you buy a used bike, you won't feel so bad if it gets a little dinged up. Once you get the hang of riding, you can swap your bike for something nicer.\\nKeep in mind that you will have to pay a few other fees for owning a motorcycle aside from the cost of the bike. There are title and registration fees, sales tax, and in some cases, a delivery fee. If you buy used, you may have to pay for some maintenance if the bike needs any work done.\\n1-3. Buy protective gear.\\nAfter you buy your bike, you'll need to invest in a helmet. While there are plenty of other riding accessories available, a helmet is essential.\\nWhen shopping for a helmet make sure you buy one that has a good fit. You want your helmet to be snug around your cheeks and jaw, as well as the top and sides of your head. Be wary of used helmets, as they may not offer as much protection due to wear and tear.\\nOther riding accessories include riding jackets, boots, and gloves. The more you can protect yourself on a bike, the better off you will be. Shop for jackets and gloves that have armor sewn into them. Armored gear offers the most protection if you do end up in a crash.\\n1-4. Remember to get a license for your bike.\\nDepending on which state you live in, the rules for getting your motorcycle license may vary. Some states require a motorcycle safety course before giving potential riders their license. Check with the Department of Motor Vehicles to find out what the requirements are in your state.\\n2. Joining a Club\\n2-1. Think about what type of club you want to join.\\nThere are motorcycle clubs, and then there are riding clubs. Each club offers something different for members.\\nRiding clubs are for people who only want to ride. You meet with some other members, ride around, and that's it. There are rarely any other commitments when you join a riding club.\\nMotorcycle clubs are more social. They value forming bonds with your fellow members, creating a brotherhood of sorts. Motorcycle clubs tend to require a lifelong commitment to the club. There are often dues involved, as well as required attendance to club-sponsored events.\\n2-2. Find a club that you're interested in.\\nYou can find clubs for a wide variety of interests. There are clubs based on anything from the type of bike you ride, to what you do for a living. Check online to find information on any club chapters that may operate in your area.\\n2-3. Apply for membership.\\nDepending on the type of club you are interested in, you may have to apply for membership. Some riding clubs are free, while others may require dues.\\nIf you want to join a riding club, all you have to do is approach your local chapter and ask what it takes to join. If you can't find a local chapter, you can start your own. If you find enough members, you can become an AMA (American Motorcycle Association) certified group.\\nMotorcycle clubs can be much more difficult to join. Some motorcycle clubs recruit members by invitation only. If you want to join an established motorcycle club, find out where the local chapter meets and start hanging around. Introduce yourself to some of the members and get to know them. If the members get along with you, they may ask you to join.\\nMotorcycle clubs often get bad press because they can sometimes resemble gangs. While there are several motorcycle clubs that operate on the wrong side of the law, not every motorcycle club is bad. Before you join any club, do your research and make sure you know what you're getting into.\\n2-4. Go on group rides.\\nA big part of both clubs is group riding. Group rides offer companionship and great views, but there are some rules to follow. \\nMake sure your group plans the ride before setting out. Discuss things such as destination, how long you plan to ride, or where you'll be stopping.\\nFollow a set riding order, with an experienced rider in the lead. Less experienced riders should be right behind the lead, with veteran riders next. This way, the experienced riders can keep an eye on the new riders.\\n3. Following the Rules of the Road\\n3-1. Be courteous to other riders and drivers.\\nPay attention to your surroundings and take care to stay out of any blind spots on the road. Avoid weaving through traffic, or riding on the shoulders.\\nDrivers should be keeping an eye out for bikers, but do your best to make yourself visible on the road. For extra safety, always assume that you're invisible to other drivers.\\nAlways follow the local traffic laws. Don't speed, and always keep an eye on the traffic ahead of you.\\n3-2. Always wear your safety gear.\\nYou should never ride your motorcycle without wearing the appropriate safety gear. Even if you're going down the street, wear your helmet.\\n3-3. Ride sober.\\nHandling a motorcycle requires more skill than driving a car. Drinking before riding your motorcycle will hinder your ability to ride safely.\\nDon't be fooled into thinking that you can ride if you've only had a few drinks.\\n3-4. Take extra care when riding with a passenger.\\nIf you have a bike that allows you to carry a passenger, make sure you are skilled enough to carry them on your bike. Give your passenger a helmet, and make sure they're comfortable riding with you.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a biker is often associated with being a rebel, or an outlaw. While there are biker gangs that roam the open road, you don't have to belong to a gang to enjoy the biker lifestyle. Shop around for a motorcycle that suits you, and remember to buy some protective gear. Once you get the hang of riding, you may want to consider joining a club. Whether you're part of a club, or you ride alone, always follow the rules of the road.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Buying a Motorcycle\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get the bike that suits you best.\", \"描述\": \"Think about what you want to do with your bike, and how you want to ride it. If you're a new rider, you should consider the weight of the bike, as well as how tall it is. You want to be able to put both feet down on the ground when you come to a stop.\\nBikes come in all shapes and sizes. When shopping for your bike, think about how you want to ride it. Do you want something you can cruise around on, or do you want something a little more extreme? If you're looking to tour around on a bike, opt for a traditional motorcycle. If you want something with speed, consider a sportbike.\\nStart looking at various manufacturers' websites to find the specifications of bikes. Select a few you're interested in and compare them to find one that suits your needs.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Set a budget.\", \"描述\": \"Motorcycles can range from under $5,000 to $25,000. Before you drop thousands of dollars on a motorcycle, do some research on the going rate for the bike in question. You may find a cheaper alternative.\\nConsider buying a used bike if this is your first time buying a motorcycle. When you're learning to ride, you run the risk of laying your bike down at some point. If you buy a used bike, you won't feel so bad if it gets a little dinged up. Once you get the hang of riding, you can swap your bike for something nicer.\\nKeep in mind that you will have to pay a few other fees for owning a motorcycle aside from the cost of the bike. There are title and registration fees, sales tax, and in some cases, a delivery fee. If you buy used, you may have to pay for some maintenance if the bike needs any work done.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Buy protective gear.\", \"描述\": \"After you buy your bike, you'll need to invest in a helmet. While there are plenty of other riding accessories available, a helmet is essential.\\nWhen shopping for a helmet make sure you buy one that has a good fit. You want your helmet to be snug around your cheeks and jaw, as well as the top and sides of your head. Be wary of used helmets, as they may not offer as much protection due to wear and tear.\\nOther riding accessories include riding jackets, boots, and gloves. The more you can protect yourself on a bike, the better off you will be. Shop for jackets and gloves that have armor sewn into them. Armored gear offers the most protection if you do end up in a crash.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Remember to get a license for your bike.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on which state you live in, the rules for getting your motorcycle license may vary. Some states require a motorcycle safety course before giving potential riders their license. Check with the Department of Motor Vehicles to find out what the requirements are in your state.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Joining a Club\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Think about what type of club you want to join.\", \"描述\": \"There are motorcycle clubs, and then there are riding clubs. Each club offers something different for members.\\nRiding clubs are for people who only want to ride. You meet with some other members, ride around, and that's it. There are rarely any other commitments when you join a riding club.\\nMotorcycle clubs are more social. They value forming bonds with your fellow members, creating a brotherhood of sorts. Motorcycle clubs tend to require a lifelong commitment to the club. There are often dues involved, as well as required attendance to club-sponsored events.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Find a club that you're interested in.\", \"描述\": \"You can find clubs for a wide variety of interests. There are clubs based on anything from the type of bike you ride, to what you do for a living. Check online to find information on any club chapters that may operate in your area.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Apply for membership.\", \"描述\": \"Depending on the type of club you are interested in, you may have to apply for membership. Some riding clubs are free, while others may require dues.\\nIf you want to join a riding club, all you have to do is approach your local chapter and ask what it takes to join. If you can't find a local chapter, you can start your own. If you find enough members, you can become an AMA (American Motorcycle Association) certified group.\\nMotorcycle clubs can be much more difficult to join. Some motorcycle clubs recruit members by invitation only. If you want to join an established motorcycle club, find out where the local chapter meets and start hanging around. Introduce yourself to some of the members and get to know them. If the members get along with you, they may ask you to join.\\nMotorcycle clubs often get bad press because they can sometimes resemble gangs. While there are several motorcycle clubs that operate on the wrong side of the law, not every motorcycle club is bad. Before you join any club, do your research and make sure you know what you're getting into.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Go on group rides.\", \"描述\": \"A big part of both clubs is group riding. Group rides offer companionship and great views, but there are some rules to follow. \\nMake sure your group plans the ride before setting out. Discuss things such as destination, how long you plan to ride, or where you'll be stopping.\\nFollow a set riding order, with an experienced rider in the lead. Less experienced riders should be right behind the lead, with veteran riders next. This way, the experienced riders can keep an eye on the new riders.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Following the Rules of the Road\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Be courteous to other riders and drivers.\", \"描述\": \"Pay attention to your surroundings and take care to stay out of any blind spots on the road. Avoid weaving through traffic, or riding on the shoulders.\\nDrivers should be keeping an eye out for bikers, but do your best to make yourself visible on the road. For extra safety, always assume that you're invisible to other drivers.\\nAlways follow the local traffic laws. 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How to Be a Billionaire
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1. Creating Opportunities
1-1. Study hard.
Normally, billionaires don't happen by accident. Be a billionaire by studying interest rates, tax brackets and dividends.
Study finance and entrepreneurship. Learn to identify consumer needs, then develop business models to fulfill those needs. Currently, computer science skills and new technology are lucrative careers.
If you haven't heard already STEM jobs (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Math) are going to be on the rise and are already on the rise. Taking "STEM" classes to be able to increase your chances of getting a job in the future, as well as they are fields in which the pay check has almost no limit.
Read about successful billionaires; Warren Buffett, Bill Gates or Jon Huntsman, Sr. Be wise with money to amass more.
1-2. Save money.
It takes money to make money. Use part of your income to generate wealth.Set aside a specific amount of money from each paycheck and put it in a savings account, to collect interest and use for future investments.
Decide what percentage of earnings to spare - as little as $20 per paycheck will make a difference over three or four years. Invest into the market only the money you can afford to lose.
1-3. Start an Individual Retirement Account (IRA).
Available from financial institutions, IRAs are customized financial plans, set up to save for the future. To save a billion dollars, start saving as soon as possible. Interest accrues on savings.
Depending on the financial institution, a minimum amount of money may be required initially. Research options and talk to a financial advisor.
1-4. Pay off your credit card debt
It's hard to get ahead with debts hanging over head. Student loans and credit card debt should be paid off as soon as possible. Average annual percentage rates vary between 20% and 30%, so the balance will continue growing.
1-5. Make a five-year plan.
Estimate how much money to save over 5 years. Decide the best way to use money, whether it's investing, starting a business or allowing money to collect interest.
Keep finances a priority. Write financial goals down and refer to these regularly. To stay interested in financial projects, write reminders and put them where they will be seen every day - for instance, on the bathroom mirror or the dashboard of your car.
2. Investing
2-1. Buy real estate
A common way to make money is investing in real estate. Property may gain in value over years, and may provide a good return on investment. Investments can be flipped, rented, or developed.
Beware of investing during an artificially inflated market, and make sure the monthly mortgage is easily affordable. It would be a good idea to read about the 2008 sub prime mortgage crisis in the United States to learn from cautionary tales.
2-2. Invest in business.
Starting your own business or buying into one can be a solid way to make money. Create or choose a company that offers a product or service that you would buy yourself, and put time and money toward improving it. Learn about the industry to differentiate good and bad business investments.
Investing in green energy and computer technology may be a good plan for the future. These businesses are projected to grow over the next decades, so investing now may be a smart investment.
2-3. Buy and sell stocks
The stock market may be a good place to increase wealth. Watch the markets carefully before buying and pay attention to which stocks are successful. Be informed to make smart purchases. Most stocks appreciate over the long term. Ride out small dips in value and take occasional risks.
Dividend reinvestment plans (DRIPs) and direct stock purchase plans (DSPs) bypass brokers (and commissions) by buying directly from company agents. These are offered by over 1,000 major corporations. Invest as little as $20-30 per month; fractional shares of stocks can be bought.
For a beginner investor, index and passive funds are a good place to start. This way you get familiar with the stock market but don't need to manage your investment yourself.
As time goes on and you get experience, you can put small portions of your income set aside for investing into passive funds, active investing, CFD trading, margin trading, options trading, and then pick and choose whichever you like the most.
2-4. Open Money Market Accounts (MMAs).
These accounts require a higher minimum amount than regular savings accounts, but accrue twice the rate of interest of a savings account. High-yield MMAs are somewhat risky--withdrawing the money and affecting its investments are limited--but it's a good way to allow money to grow by doing, essentially, nothing.
2-5. Invest in government bonds
Bonds are interest certificates issued by government agencies, like the Treasury, which offers no risk of default. The government controls the printing presses and can print whatever money is required to cover the principal, so these are relatively safe investments and a good way to diversify your investments.
Talk to a trustworthy broker and consider a bond-buying plan over to diversify your portfolio.
3. Maintaining Wealth
3-1. Consult good brokers for advice.
Money is as good as the advice received. After accumulating a considerable amount of wealth, nobody wants to spend time huddled in front of a monitor watching stocks change by fractions of a percentage. You're going to want to be out living life. Good, trustworthy financial advisors and brokers will work to keep your accounts swelling with excess funds.
3-2. Diversify portfolio and investments.
Don't keep money in one place. Diversify your portfolio and invest in stocks, real estate, mutual funds, bonds, and other investments recommended by brokers to modify risk. If a risky investment in ShamWow absorbent towels ends up tanking, at least you've still got a considerable amount of money in other ventures.
3-3. Make smart financial decisions.
The Internet is full of penny stock schemes and get-rich-quick hokum that preys upon the ignorant and seduces gullible people into making bad financial decisions. Do the research and commit to a lifetime of investing and making money. There are very few exceptions to becoming an overnight billionaire.
When in doubt, be conservative with investments. Diversifying money wisely, letting interest accrue and riding fluctuating markets will be a smart decision in the long run.
If anything seems too good to be true, be careful. Never act too fast and always analyze the situation.
3-4. Know when to get out.
At a certain point, knowing when to pull out of an investment before it collapses from under you is essential. If you've surrounded yourself with smart brokers, listen to their advice, but also know when to listen to your gut.
If you see an opportunity to sell big and make a profit, do it. Profit is profit. If that stock ends up appreciating the next year, you've still made money that you can reinvest elsewhere.
3-5. Act the part.
To be a billionaire, act like one. Mingle with moneyed and cultured people, pick up advice and knowledge from the experienced.
Cultivate interests in fine art, fine dining, and travel. Consider buying a yacht and other standard trappings of the wealthy that are unaffordable.
There's a distinction between "old money" and "new money." New money is a derogatory term for people who have gained wealth quickly and live ostentatiously, spending and living a lavish lifestyle. To hold onto wealth, learn from old money and ascend to the stratosphere.
Tips
Learn to take calculated risks. Money earns interest in the bank, but to earn more consider other ways to invest.
Be creative. To start a business or invest in a business, create a solution to a problem with an angle that no one else has considered.
Develop a framework of proper time management and routine. Save time and use extra time constructively.
Warnings
Avoid get-rich scams. Run from people promising unrealistic stock market returns (any return of 10-15% or more).
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Creating Opportunities\\n1-1. Study hard.\\nNormally, billionaires don't happen by accident. Be a billionaire by studying interest rates, tax brackets and dividends.\\nStudy finance and entrepreneurship. Learn to identify consumer needs, then develop business models to fulfill those needs. Currently, computer science skills and new technology are lucrative careers.\\nIf you haven't heard already STEM jobs (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Math) are going to be on the rise and are already on the rise. Taking \\\"STEM\\\" classes to be able to increase your chances of getting a job in the future, as well as they are fields in which the pay check has almost no limit.\\nRead about successful billionaires; Warren Buffett, Bill Gates or Jon Huntsman, Sr. Be wise with money to amass more.\\n1-2. Save money.\\nIt takes money to make money. Use part of your income to generate wealth.Set aside a specific amount of money from each paycheck and put it in a savings account, to collect interest and use for future investments.\\nDecide what percentage of earnings to spare - as little as $20 per paycheck will make a difference over three or four years. Invest into the market only the money you can afford to lose.\\n1-3. Start an Individual Retirement Account (IRA).\\nAvailable from financial institutions, IRAs are customized financial plans, set up to save for the future. To save a billion dollars, start saving as soon as possible. Interest accrues on savings.\\nDepending on the financial institution, a minimum amount of money may be required initially. Research options and talk to a financial advisor.\\n1-4. Pay off your credit card debt\\nIt's hard to get ahead with debts hanging over head. Student loans and credit card debt should be paid off as soon as possible. Average annual percentage rates vary between 20% and 30%, so the balance will continue growing.\\n1-5. Make a five-year plan.\\nEstimate how much money to save over 5 years. Decide the best way to use money, whether it's investing, starting a business or allowing money to collect interest.\\nKeep finances a priority. Write financial goals down and refer to these regularly. To stay interested in financial projects, write reminders and put them where they will be seen every day - for instance, on the bathroom mirror or the dashboard of your car.\\n2. Investing\\n2-1. Buy real estate\\nA common way to make money is investing in real estate. Property may gain in value over years, and may provide a good return on investment. Investments can be flipped, rented, or developed.\\nBeware of investing during an artificially inflated market, and make sure the monthly mortgage is easily affordable. It would be a good idea to read about the 2008 sub prime mortgage crisis in the United States to learn from cautionary tales.\\n2-2. Invest in business.\\nStarting your own business or buying into one can be a solid way to make money. Create or choose a company that offers a product or service that you would buy yourself, and put time and money toward improving it. Learn about the industry to differentiate good and bad business investments.\\nInvesting in green energy and computer technology may be a good plan for the future. These businesses are projected to grow over the next decades, so investing now may be a smart investment.\\n2-3. Buy and sell stocks\\nThe stock market may be a good place to increase wealth. Watch the markets carefully before buying and pay attention to which stocks are successful. Be informed to make smart purchases. Most stocks appreciate over the long term. Ride out small dips in value and take occasional risks.\\nDividend reinvestment plans (DRIPs) and direct stock purchase plans (DSPs) bypass brokers (and commissions) by buying directly from company agents. These are offered by over 1,000 major corporations. Invest as little as $20-30 per month; fractional shares of stocks can be bought.\\nFor a beginner investor, index and passive funds are a good place to start. This way you get familiar with the stock market but don't need to manage your investment yourself.\\nAs time goes on and you get experience, you can put small portions of your income set aside for investing into passive funds, active investing, CFD trading, margin trading, options trading, and then pick and choose whichever you like the most.\\n2-4. Open Money Market Accounts (MMAs).\\nThese accounts require a higher minimum amount than regular savings accounts, but accrue twice the rate of interest of a savings account. High-yield MMAs are somewhat risky--withdrawing the money and affecting its investments are limited--but it's a good way to allow money to grow by doing, essentially, nothing.\\n2-5. Invest in government bonds\\nBonds are interest certificates issued by government agencies, like the Treasury, which offers no risk of default. The government controls the printing presses and can print whatever money is required to cover the principal, so these are relatively safe investments and a good way to diversify your investments.\\nTalk to a trustworthy broker and consider a bond-buying plan over to diversify your portfolio.\\n3. Maintaining Wealth\\n3-1. Consult good brokers for advice.\\nMoney is as good as the advice received. After accumulating a considerable amount of wealth, nobody wants to spend time huddled in front of a monitor watching stocks change by fractions of a percentage. You're going to want to be out living life. Good, trustworthy financial advisors and brokers will work to keep your accounts swelling with excess funds.\\n3-2. Diversify portfolio and investments.\\nDon't keep money in one place. Diversify your portfolio and invest in stocks, real estate, mutual funds, bonds, and other investments recommended by brokers to modify risk. If a risky investment in ShamWow absorbent towels ends up tanking, at least you've still got a considerable amount of money in other ventures.\\n3-3. Make smart financial decisions.\\nThe Internet is full of penny stock schemes and get-rich-quick hokum that preys upon the ignorant and seduces gullible people into making bad financial decisions. Do the research and commit to a lifetime of investing and making money. There are very few exceptions to becoming an overnight billionaire.\\nWhen in doubt, be conservative with investments. Diversifying money wisely, letting interest accrue and riding fluctuating markets will be a smart decision in the long run.\\nIf anything seems too good to be true, be careful. Never act too fast and always analyze the situation.\\n3-4. Know when to get out.\\nAt a certain point, knowing when to pull out of an investment before it collapses from under you is essential. If you've surrounded yourself with smart brokers, listen to their advice, but also know when to listen to your gut.\\nIf you see an opportunity to sell big and make a profit, do it. Profit is profit. If that stock ends up appreciating the next year, you've still made money that you can reinvest elsewhere.\\n3-5. Act the part.\\nTo be a billionaire, act like one. Mingle with moneyed and cultured people, pick up advice and knowledge from the experienced.\\nCultivate interests in fine art, fine dining, and travel. Consider buying a yacht and other standard trappings of the wealthy that are unaffordable.\\nThere's a distinction between \\\"old money\\\" and \\\"new money.\\\" New money is a derogatory term for people who have gained wealth quickly and live ostentatiously, spending and living a lavish lifestyle. To hold onto wealth, learn from old money and ascend to the stratosphere.\\nTips\\nLearn to take calculated risks. Money earns interest in the bank, but to earn more consider other ways to invest.\\nBe creative. To start a business or invest in a business, create a solution to a problem with an angle that no one else has considered.\\nDevelop a framework of proper time management and routine. Save time and use extra time constructively.\\nWarnings\\nAvoid get-rich scams. Run from people promising unrealistic stock market returns (any return of 10-15% or more).\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Being a billionaire is more than having a bunch of zeroes in your bank account. Investing capital may be new to some, but it is not a barrier to becoming a billionaire. Working from a life of little or nothing to living in the lap of luxury is the classic American dream. To become a billionaire, create opportunities, invest wisely and retain wealth. Here's a theory of how to become a billionaire.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Creating Opportunities\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Study hard.\", \"描述\": \"Normally, billionaires don't happen by accident. Be a billionaire by studying interest rates, tax brackets and dividends.\\nStudy finance and entrepreneurship. Learn to identify consumer needs, then develop business models to fulfill those needs. Currently, computer science skills and new technology are lucrative careers.\\nIf you haven't heard already STEM jobs (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Math) are going to be on the rise and are already on the rise. Taking \\\"STEM\\\" classes to be able to increase your chances of getting a job in the future, as well as they are fields in which the pay check has almost no limit.\\nRead about successful billionaires; Warren Buffett, Bill Gates or Jon Huntsman, Sr. Be wise with money to amass more.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Save money.\", \"描述\": \"It takes money to make money. Use part of your income to generate wealth.Set aside a specific amount of money from each paycheck and put it in a savings account, to collect interest and use for future investments.\\nDecide what percentage of earnings to spare - as little as $20 per paycheck will make a difference over three or four years. Invest into the market only the money you can afford to lose.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Start an Individual Retirement Account (IRA).\", \"描述\": \"Available from financial institutions, IRAs are customized financial plans, set up to save for the future. To save a billion dollars, start saving as soon as possible. Interest accrues on savings.\\nDepending on the financial institution, a minimum amount of money may be required initially. Research options and talk to a financial advisor.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Pay off your credit card debt\", \"描述\": \"It's hard to get ahead with debts hanging over head. Student loans and credit card debt should be paid off as soon as possible. Average annual percentage rates vary between 20% and 30%, so the balance will continue growing.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Make a five-year plan.\", \"描述\": \"Estimate how much money to save over 5 years. Decide the best way to use money, whether it's investing, starting a business or allowing money to collect interest.\\nKeep finances a priority. Write financial goals down and refer to these regularly. To stay interested in financial projects, write reminders and put them where they will be seen every day - for instance, on the bathroom mirror or the dashboard of your car.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Investing\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Buy real estate\", \"描述\": \"A common way to make money is investing in real estate. Property may gain in value over years, and may provide a good return on investment. Investments can be flipped, rented, or developed.\\nBeware of investing during an artificially inflated market, and make sure the monthly mortgage is easily affordable. It would be a good idea to read about the 2008 sub prime mortgage crisis in the United States to learn from cautionary tales.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Invest in business.\", \"描述\": \"Starting your own business or buying into one can be a solid way to make money. Create or choose a company that offers a product or service that you would buy yourself, and put time and money toward improving it. Learn about the industry to differentiate good and bad business investments.\\nInvesting in green energy and computer technology may be a good plan for the future. These businesses are projected to grow over the next decades, so investing now may be a smart investment.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Buy and sell stocks\", \"描述\": \"The stock market may be a good place to increase wealth. Watch the markets carefully before buying and pay attention to which stocks are successful. Be informed to make smart purchases. Most stocks appreciate over the long term. Ride out small dips in value and take occasional risks.\\nDividend reinvestment plans (DRIPs) and direct stock purchase plans (DSPs) bypass brokers (and commissions) by buying directly from company agents. These are offered by over 1,000 major corporations. Invest as little as $20-30 per month; fractional shares of stocks can be bought.\\nFor a beginner investor, index and passive funds are a good place to start. This way you get familiar with the stock market but don't need to manage your investment yourself.\\nAs time goes on and you get experience, you can put small portions of your income set aside for investing into passive funds, active investing, CFD trading, margin trading, options trading, and then pick and choose whichever you like the most.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Open Money Market Accounts (MMAs).\", \"描述\": \"These accounts require a higher minimum amount than regular savings accounts, but accrue twice the rate of interest of a savings account. High-yield MMAs are somewhat risky--withdrawing the money and affecting its investments are limited--but it's a good way to allow money to grow by doing, essentially, nothing.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Invest in government bonds\", \"描述\": \"Bonds are interest certificates issued by government agencies, like the Treasury, which offers no risk of default. 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Diversify your portfolio and invest in stocks, real estate, mutual funds, bonds, and other investments recommended by brokers to modify risk. If a risky investment in ShamWow absorbent towels ends up tanking, at least you've still got a considerable amount of money in other ventures.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Make smart financial decisions.\", \"描述\": \"The Internet is full of penny stock schemes and get-rich-quick hokum that preys upon the ignorant and seduces gullible people into making bad financial decisions. Do the research and commit to a lifetime of investing and making money. There are very few exceptions to becoming an overnight billionaire.\\nWhen in doubt, be conservative with investments. Diversifying money wisely, letting interest accrue and riding fluctuating markets will be a smart decision in the long run.\\nIf anything seems too good to be true, be careful. Never act too fast and always analyze the situation.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Know when to get out.\", \"描述\": \"At a certain point, knowing when to pull out of an investment before it collapses from under you is essential. If you've surrounded yourself with smart brokers, listen to their advice, but also know when to listen to your gut.\\nIf you see an opportunity to sell big and make a profit, do it. Profit is profit. If that stock ends up appreciating the next year, you've still made money that you can reinvest elsewhere.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Act the part.\", \"描述\": \"To be a billionaire, act like one. Mingle with moneyed and cultured people, pick up advice and knowledge from the experienced.\\nCultivate interests in fine art, fine dining, and travel. Consider buying a yacht and other standard trappings of the wealthy that are unaffordable.\\nThere's a distinction between \\\"old money\\\" and \\\"new money.\\\" New money is a derogatory term for people who have gained wealth quickly and live ostentatiously, spending and living a lavish lifestyle. To hold onto wealth, learn from old money and ascend to the stratosphere.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Learn to take calculated risks. Money earns interest in the bank, but to earn more consider other ways to invest.\\n\", \"Be creative. To start a business or invest in a business, create a solution to a problem with an angle that no one else has considered.\\n\", \"Develop a framework of proper time management and routine. Save time and use extra time constructively.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Avoid get-rich scams. Run from people promising unrealistic stock market returns (any return of 10-15% or more).\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Birdwatcher
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1. Preparing Yourself for Birdwatching
1-1. Get some good binoculars.
To be a good birdwatcher, you’ll need a solid pair of binoculars to help you spot those birdies from a distance. Try to find a local nature center that will let you try out different kinds of binoculars before you spend your money purchasing one.
Ideally, choose binoculars with a magnification of 7x50 or 8x29. These will help you see the birds clearly, but they're lightweight enough that you can carry them around easily. Higher magnifications are more bulky and are best used with a tripod, and lower magnifications will have a smaller field of view.
Look for binoculars that are waterproof in case you drop them in a puddle.
A good pair will probably cost you between $100 and $300.
You could also use a telescope, though these are significantly less portable than binoculars.
1-2. Purchase a bird field guide.
The field guide is important because it allows you to match what you’ve seen in nature to the accurate species. This is how you start fine tuning your knowledge and learning about various species of birds.
A good field guide should cost you between $15 and $40.
Some guides use photographs of the different bird species, while others use paintings and illustrations. Decide which kind you like better.
Try to begin with a field guide that is specific to your geographical region. This will help keep you from getting overwhelmed in the beginning when you are still learning.
1-3. Create a birdwatching pack.
Depending on how long you stay out birdwatching and how far you travel from home, you may need to bring some important items with you. Pack a small bag or backpack with the following items:
Several bottles of water
Some food
Jacket and/or change of clothes
Lantern
Pocketknife
Insect repellent
Notebook to record your findings
Sleeping bag and tent (for overnight excursions)
2. Going Out to Birdwatch
2-1. Choose a location.
Go to a park or place where you suspect there will be a lot of birds. This means finding places where birds usually live – near water, trees, or feeding sites. Check the internet or your local field guide for recommendations about places to start your birdwatching adventure.
There are many online websites that provide lists of well-known locations for birdwatching all over the country.
2-2. Walk slowly and quietly.
You don’t want to startle the birds as you enter their habitat. So try to keep the noise and interference to a minimum. Walk as quietly as possible and make a serious effort to walk slowly through the area.
This will help you from scaring the birds away.
2-3. Pick a place to settle down.
Choose a location to sit down – on a bench, on the ground, wherever you can make yourself the most comfortable. Stay very still and use a notebook and pencil to record the birds you see. If you don't know the name of a bird you have seen, try to draw a picture.
It may take a little time for you to find a bird, but letting them come to you is a better way to observe them in their natural habitat than trying to search them out as this might scare them off.
3. Identifying Birds
3-1. Observe the bird.
Once you spot a bird, spend some time observing it. Use your binoculars to inspect the bird without getting too close so you don’t scare it. Focus your binoculars so you can see the bird as clearly as possible. Enjoy this glimpse into the natural world and absorb what you can.
Watch how the bird behaves, its mannerisms, and listen for any sounds it makes.
3-2. Notice any distinguishing features.
In order to identify the bird, you’ll need to observe certain markings and features that can help you differentiate what specific type of bird it is. Notice the coloring, any unique markings, or any identifying features on its head or tail.
First, identify the most obvious feature of the bird. This characteristic is called a bird’s field mark and will help you identify the bird.
Start at the top of the bird’s head and work your way down. This will help you keep your clues organized and to develop a system of observation and identification over time.
3-3. Make a list of birds you see.
Keeping track of the birds you see is a fun activity for you as a birdwatcher. But it will also help you make discoveries about what kinds of birds can be found in various areas.
This isn’t a requirement for birdwatchers, but if you want you can use the information from your list to help organizations that collect bird-related data.
3-4. Keep birdwatching regularly.
As with any hobby, the more you practice birdwatching, the better you will become at identifying the various species. This will probably make the activity more enjoyable to you over time. With practice you will be able to identify more birds more quickly, and you will know where to find them.
Tips
Wear dark or neutral colors. Part of being a good birdwatcher is blending into your surroundings so that you don’t disrupt the birds.[9]
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You can use a tent to stay even more hidden away from birds.
Sprinkle some bird seeds around the area you are in.
Warnings
Make sure you don’t get too close to a bird's nest as it may abandon it. Treat wildlife with respect.
Bring your field guide with you. It's very difficult to identify a bird from your guide long after you last viewed the information.
Some birds may attack you if you come too close to them. Be cautious.
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1. Doing Your Hair, Makeup, and Nails
1-1. Do your hair every day in your signature style so you always look good.
Traditionally, big, soft waves are the signature bombshell style. But depending on what kind of hair you have, you may be able to come up with something different. Whether your hair is long or short, curly or straight, or something in between, aim to find a look that is voluptuous, healthy, and stylish.
If you’re going to color or highlight your hair, which can be super fun and add an entirely new look to your style, try to choose a color that will complement your skin tone.
1-2. Take care of your hair
Bombshell hair should be glossy and loose, and it should move naturally (so avoid using too much hairspray or other styling products). For healthy hair, wash and condition your locks every couple of days so that you don’t remove essential oils from your scalp. Avoid using super hot styling products on a daily basis, and give your hair some extra TLC every week with a hair treatment.
Check out dry shampoo if your hair gets greasy on the days you don’t wash it.
1-3. Make time to do your eyebrows every day so they’re always defined.
For a sexy bombshell look, natural, bushy brows are in style right now. Avoid over-plucking your brows, but do take some time to pluck away stray hairs that grow outside of your brow lines. Use an eyebrow pencil or powder to fill in your brows and make them more defined. Pick a color that is close to your natural hair color, or go 1 shade darker for even more definition.
If you hate doing your eyebrows every day, consider having them microbladed. Microblading is a semi-permanent tattoo that will enable you to spend much less time on your brows.
1-4. Pick a foundation and blush that match your skin tone for a natural look.
You may think that heavier makeup will make you look more beautiful, but that’s not the case. With your foundation, aim to blend it in really well so that there are no unnatural lines. Use blush to give your skin a natural-looking glow.
To really define your cheekbones, try contouring your makeup.
1-5. Apply eye makeup to define your eyes and make them pop.
Wear eyeshadow every day to accentuate the natural color of your eyes and to make them appear larger. Use eyeliner to make your eyes sultrier and more dramatic (the cat eye is a great bombshell look). And don’t forget to put on 2 to 3 coats of mascara to lengthen your lashes.
Try creating a smoky eye for a sexy nighttime style.
1-6. Wear lipstick to accentuate your lips and complete your routine.
Don’t be afraid to try out different colors: reds, purples, pinks, and nudes are great shades, and there are literally thousands of colors and brands to choose from. Deeper shades are great for an evening out; lighter shades are more appropriate for regular daytime use. You can even apply lip liner if you want to create more definition in your lips or if you want to perhaps make them appear a bit bigger than they really are.
If you aren’t sure how to do a particular part of your makeup routine, look up a tutorial online to learn more about technique and style.
1-7. Keep your nails looking nice so that you always look polished.
In addition to grooming your nails by trimming and buffing them regularly, consider getting a manicure and pedicure every few weeks. Of course, you can paint your nails yourself at home, just make sure to use a protective topcoat so that they don’t chip easily. You can either paint them fun colors, choose a signature color that you always wear, or leave them plain, as long as they’re in good condition.
If you bite your nails or pick at them, now is a great time to stop.
2. Dressing Like a Bombshell
2-1. Choose clothes that fit you well and that accentuate your curves.
Being comfortable and confident in your own skin is a huge part of the bombshell look, and a big part of that is feeling good in the clothes you wear. A classic bombshell is curvy and wears items that highlight their waist, chest, and legs. Pick items that are form-fitting but not overly-tight, and steer clear of baggy or loose clothes.
If you aren’t naturally curvy, that’s okay! Look for items that create a waist, or consider getting undergarments that will help shape your body and make it appear curvier.
Consider getting your clothes tailored if you have pieces that you love but that don’t fit you quite right.
2-2. Wear a form-fitting dress for special evenings out.
Every bombshell should have at least two or three dresses in their wardrobe that can be worn to fancy dinners or events. If you go out a lot, consider expanding your wardrobe to include multiple colors and styles of dresses. Look for dresses made out of spandex of similar materials so that the material clings to your body.
A classic red or black dress is a staple of the bombshell wardrobe, so make sure you have at least one of these pieces in your closet.
Be careful when choosing your undergarments when wearing a form-fitting dress. Pick underwear, like a thong or shapewear, that will eliminate the chance of visible underwear lines.
2-3. Opt for high-waisted bottoms and sweetheart tops for every day wear.
Whether you pick shorts and a tank top or jeans and a sweater, you’re bound to look good! Tuck your top into your pants to create a sexy, streamlined look. Consider wearing a push-up bra to give your chest some extra support and to make your top look even more alluring.
You don’t have to spend a ton of money on clothes to be a bombshell. Take a look at what you already have and try to create a few good outfits from those items. Browse Pinterest and Instagram to get some outfit inspiration and see what you can recreate from what you already own.
2-4. Add shapewear to your ensemble to make your body look curvier.
A supportive bra can help lift your chest and make it more shapely, which can also make your waist look more defined. A corset or waist trainer is a great option to cinch in your waist a little bit. Similarly, Spanx and other kinds of body-shaping undergarments can help smooth out your belly and make you look great in all your outfits.
When choosing shapewear, look for colors that are as close to your skin tone as possible. This will make it less likely that they’ll show underneath your clothes.
2-5. Put on a pair of sexy high heels to elongate your legs.
Whether you’re wearing a dress or jeans, high heels are an essential part of the bombshell ensemble. Look for heels that are 3 inches (7.6 cm) or taller, and have an array of colors and styles in your closet so you can mix and match with your outfits.
During the cooler months, opt for boots with heels, but not at the risk of your safety in icy or snowy weather.
If you really don’t like high heels, opt for glam flats instead.
2-6. Finish your outfit with glamorous accessories.
Jewelry, purses, clutches, watches, hats, sunglasses, and other items should all be in really good condition and should flow with the style of the rest of your outfit. For example, don’t carry a canvas tote bag in lieu of a leather purse, or something similar. Choose two or three accessories for any given outfit, like a purse, a scarf, and a nice watch. Overdoing it on the number of accessories can make you look bulky and can visually overwhelm, rather than stun.
Try following the rule of opposites: if your outfit is bold, pair it with toned-down accessories. If your outfit is more neutrally-toned, pick a few accents that will pop.
3. Adopting the Right Attitude
3-1. Be confident
People love being around others who love themselves and are confident—it’s an alluring characteristic! Stand tall with your shoulders back and your head held high, and practice good posture when you’re sitting or standing. Speak clearly and make eye contact with others, and don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself when you need to.
If you don’t feel confident, “fake it until you make it”. A lot of times, just acting like you feel or believe a certain way can actually affect your brain chemistry and change the way you feel.
3-2. Learn to be comfortable with yourself to be truly authentic.
While a lot of being a bombshell is certainly about your looks and how you present yourself, there is a large component that has to do with attitude and with being a genuine person. Chances are, there are some parts of yourself that you might not like very much but that you can’t change—instead of zeroing in on and obsessing over those things, work on accepting them as part of who you are.
Look into the mirror every morning and tell yourself one affirming thing about the way you look. The more you speak positively to yourself, the sooner you’ll start to believe those things.
3-3. Try to be mysterious to create a sexy aura.
Part of the bombshell persona is wrapped up in mystery and sex appeal. You could try keeping your personal life private rather than oversharing on social media and try to keep your emotions concealed so others don’t always know what you’re feeling. You could also create an air of mystery by having your own interests and not always being available for other activities.
People will assume there is more to you than meets the eye, and they will want to know who you really are. Being mysterious captivates others.
3-4. Remember to be complex and more than just your looks.
A bombshell who is only focused on their looks might come across as shallow, but if you focus on your other interests and abilities, too, you’ll be the whole package. Cultivate your hobbies and interests, and don’t be afraid to try to new things to become a more well-rounded person.
Just because you’re a bombshell doesn’t mean you can’t also be smart, athletic, musical, artistic, or anything else that you want to be.
3-5. Develop a sense of humor to come across as laid-back and intelligent.
If you’re too uptight and can’t make jokes or laugh at yourself, people won’t want to relate to you. Plus, being able to make a joke or a witty comment can make others feel more at ease and want to be around you more.
Pay attention to what makes you laugh when you watch television or talk with friends. Observe what it is that you find funny, and try to translate that into your conversations.
3-6. Practice being kind to show that you are beautiful inside and out.
Your good looks will only get you so far if you’re mean to others or are self-centered. Speak kindly to the people you interact with on a daily basis, offer to help others when you can, and don’t be stingy with compliments. Being kind will only make your beauty shine brighter.
A big part of being kind is not judging others for their choices or looks. Work on learning to accept others for who they are.
4. Taking Care of Yourself
4-1. Get enough sleep every night so you feel and look better every day.
Not only will a thorough 7 to 9 hours of sleep every night help you feel more rested and ready to face your day, but it can also help with a lot of physical issues, too. Your skin will be clearer, it’ll be easier to maintain a healthy weight, and your heart will be healthier.
Try going to sleep and waking up at the same time every day, even on the weekends.
Eliminate bright screens, loud noises, and drinking caffeine in the hour before your bedtime.
4-2. Adopt a healthy diet and drink water so your body functions well.
Your diet and hydration have a big impact on your physical well-being. Everybody is different, so what you need to eat every day may differ from your best friend’s diet, but in general try to include lots of fresh fruits and veggies, lean proteins, healthy fats, and complex carbohydrates. Aim to drink at least 8 cups (1,900 mL) of water every day, if not more. The better your diet and the more water you drink, the better your skin will look, which is a huge part of being a bombshell.
Remember, what you put into your body is reflected on the outside. If you take good care of yourself, you’ll look and feel better.
4-3. Develop a skin care routine so that your skin will be healthy and glow.
Try to wash your face every morning when you wake up and in the evening before bed. If you wear makeup, always take it off before you go to bed to prevent your pores from getting clogged. Look into using a toner, moisturizer, and an exfoliator, and don’t forget to wear sunscreen every day (there are some great moisturizer/sunscreen combos, or you could even use a foundation that has SPF in it).
Depending on whether or not your skin is oily, dry, or a mix of the two, you might need to tweak your routine a little to get the best results.
4-4. Exercise
Yoga and pilates are great options that will make you more flexible while toning your body at the same time. Cardio, like running or biking, are good for getting your heart rate up and working off body fat. Weight lifting is also a good option, especially if you want to tone up your muscles even more. Figure out what kinds of movements you like, and create a routine that enables you to work up a sweat most days of the week.
Not only will exercise make you look better, but it’ll also help you feel better, too! Each time you get your heart rate up, your body will release endorphins, which make you feel good. You’ll find you’re able to handle day-to-day stress better, and you’ll probably sleep better, as well.
4-5. Practice good hygiene so that you always smell good.
Take a shower every day, especially if you’re working up a sweat at any point (if you don’t want to wash your hair every day, put it up in a shower cap so it doesn’t get wet). Brush your teeth at least twice a day, floss every evening, and consider using mouthwash to keep your breath smelling fresh. Remember to put on deodorant and to wear clean clothes every day.
If you want, you could even start wearing a signature perfume or cologne. The better you smell, the more attractive you’ll be.
Tips
If you smoke, now is a great time to quit. Smoking damages your skin, makes you age quicker, and can damage your internal organs.
Don’t try to pretend to be someone you’re not. People can spot inauthenticity from a mile away, and it won’t help you truly become a bombshell.
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Avoid using super hot styling products on a daily basis, and give your hair some extra TLC every week with a hair treatment.\\nCheck out dry shampoo if your hair gets greasy on the days you don’t wash it.\\n1-3. Make time to do your eyebrows every day so they’re always defined.\\nFor a sexy bombshell look, natural, bushy brows are in style right now. Avoid over-plucking your brows, but do take some time to pluck away stray hairs that grow outside of your brow lines. Use an eyebrow pencil or powder to fill in your brows and make them more defined. Pick a color that is close to your natural hair color, or go 1 shade darker for even more definition.\\nIf you hate doing your eyebrows every day, consider having them microbladed. Microblading is a semi-permanent tattoo that will enable you to spend much less time on your brows.\\n1-4. Pick a foundation and blush that match your skin tone for a natural look.\\nYou may think that heavier makeup will make you look more beautiful, but that’s not the case. With your foundation, aim to blend it in really well so that there are no unnatural lines. Use blush to give your skin a natural-looking glow.\\nTo really define your cheekbones, try contouring your makeup.\\n1-5. Apply eye makeup to define your eyes and make them pop.\\nWear eyeshadow every day to accentuate the natural color of your eyes and to make them appear larger. Use eyeliner to make your eyes sultrier and more dramatic (the cat eye is a great bombshell look). And don’t forget to put on 2 to 3 coats of mascara to lengthen your lashes.\\nTry creating a smoky eye for a sexy nighttime style.\\n1-6. Wear lipstick to accentuate your lips and complete your routine.\\nDon’t be afraid to try out different colors: reds, purples, pinks, and nudes are great shades, and there are literally thousands of colors and brands to choose from. Deeper shades are great for an evening out; lighter shades are more appropriate for regular daytime use. You can even apply lip liner if you want to create more definition in your lips or if you want to perhaps make them appear a bit bigger than they really are.\\nIf you aren’t sure how to do a particular part of your makeup routine, look up a tutorial online to learn more about technique and style.\\n1-7. Keep your nails looking nice so that you always look polished.\\nIn addition to grooming your nails by trimming and buffing them regularly, consider getting a manicure and pedicure every few weeks. Of course, you can paint your nails yourself at home, just make sure to use a protective topcoat so that they don’t chip easily. You can either paint them fun colors, choose a signature color that you always wear, or leave them plain, as long as they’re in good condition.\\nIf you bite your nails or pick at them, now is a great time to stop.\\n2. Dressing Like a Bombshell\\n2-1. Choose clothes that fit you well and that accentuate your curves.\\nBeing comfortable and confident in your own skin is a huge part of the bombshell look, and a big part of that is feeling good in the clothes you wear. A classic bombshell is curvy and wears items that highlight their waist, chest, and legs. Pick items that are form-fitting but not overly-tight, and steer clear of baggy or loose clothes.\\nIf you aren’t naturally curvy, that’s okay! Look for items that create a waist, or consider getting undergarments that will help shape your body and make it appear curvier.\\nConsider getting your clothes tailored if you have pieces that you love but that don’t fit you quite right.\\n2-2. Wear a form-fitting dress for special evenings out.\\nEvery bombshell should have at least two or three dresses in their wardrobe that can be worn to fancy dinners or events. If you go out a lot, consider expanding your wardrobe to include multiple colors and styles of dresses. Look for dresses made out of spandex of similar materials so that the material clings to your body.\\nA classic red or black dress is a staple of the bombshell wardrobe, so make sure you have at least one of these pieces in your closet.\\nBe careful when choosing your undergarments when wearing a form-fitting dress. Pick underwear, like a thong or shapewear, that will eliminate the chance of visible underwear lines.\\n2-3. Opt for high-waisted bottoms and sweetheart tops for every day wear.\\nWhether you pick shorts and a tank top or jeans and a sweater, you’re bound to look good! Tuck your top into your pants to create a sexy, streamlined look. Consider wearing a push-up bra to give your chest some extra support and to make your top look even more alluring.\\nYou don’t have to spend a ton of money on clothes to be a bombshell. Take a look at what you already have and try to create a few good outfits from those items. Browse Pinterest and Instagram to get some outfit inspiration and see what you can recreate from what you already own.\\n2-4. Add shapewear to your ensemble to make your body look curvier.\\nA supportive bra can help lift your chest and make it more shapely, which can also make your waist look more defined. A corset or waist trainer is a great option to cinch in your waist a little bit. Similarly, Spanx and other kinds of body-shaping undergarments can help smooth out your belly and make you look great in all your outfits.\\nWhen choosing shapewear, look for colors that are as close to your skin tone as possible. This will make it less likely that they’ll show underneath your clothes.\\n2-5. Put on a pair of sexy high heels to elongate your legs.\\nWhether you’re wearing a dress or jeans, high heels are an essential part of the bombshell ensemble. Look for heels that are 3 inches (7.6 cm) or taller, and have an array of colors and styles in your closet so you can mix and match with your outfits.\\nDuring the cooler months, opt for boots with heels, but not at the risk of your safety in icy or snowy weather.\\nIf you really don’t like high heels, opt for glam flats instead.\\n2-6. Finish your outfit with glamorous accessories.\\nJewelry, purses, clutches, watches, hats, sunglasses, and other items should all be in really good condition and should flow with the style of the rest of your outfit. For example, don’t carry a canvas tote bag in lieu of a leather purse, or something similar. Choose two or three accessories for any given outfit, like a purse, a scarf, and a nice watch. Overdoing it on the number of accessories can make you look bulky and can visually overwhelm, rather than stun.\\nTry following the rule of opposites: if your outfit is bold, pair it with toned-down accessories. If your outfit is more neutrally-toned, pick a few accents that will pop.\\n3. Adopting the Right Attitude\\n3-1. Be confident\\nPeople love being around others who love themselves and are confident—it’s an alluring characteristic! Stand tall with your shoulders back and your head held high, and practice good posture when you’re sitting or standing. Speak clearly and make eye contact with others, and don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself when you need to.\\nIf you don’t feel confident, “fake it until you make it”. A lot of times, just acting like you feel or believe a certain way can actually affect your brain chemistry and change the way you feel.\\n3-2. Learn to be comfortable with yourself to be truly authentic.\\nWhile a lot of being a bombshell is certainly about your looks and how you present yourself, there is a large component that has to do with attitude and with being a genuine person. Chances are, there are some parts of yourself that you might not like very much but that you can’t change—instead of zeroing in on and obsessing over those things, work on accepting them as part of who you are.\\nLook into the mirror every morning and tell yourself one affirming thing about the way you look. The more you speak positively to yourself, the sooner you’ll start to believe those things.\\n3-3. Try to be mysterious to create a sexy aura.\\nPart of the bombshell persona is wrapped up in mystery and sex appeal. You could try keeping your personal life private rather than oversharing on social media and try to keep your emotions concealed so others don’t always know what you’re feeling. You could also create an air of mystery by having your own interests and not always being available for other activities.\\nPeople will assume there is more to you than meets the eye, and they will want to know who you really are. Being mysterious captivates others.\\n3-4. Remember to be complex and more than just your looks.\\nA bombshell who is only focused on their looks might come across as shallow, but if you focus on your other interests and abilities, too, you’ll be the whole package. Cultivate your hobbies and interests, and don’t be afraid to try to new things to become a more well-rounded person.\\nJust because you’re a bombshell doesn’t mean you can’t also be smart, athletic, musical, artistic, or anything else that you want to be.\\n3-5. Develop a sense of humor to come across as laid-back and intelligent.\\nIf you’re too uptight and can’t make jokes or laugh at yourself, people won’t want to relate to you. Plus, being able to make a joke or a witty comment can make others feel more at ease and want to be around you more.\\nPay attention to what makes you laugh when you watch television or talk with friends. Observe what it is that you find funny, and try to translate that into your conversations.\\n3-6. Practice being kind to show that you are beautiful inside and out.\\nYour good looks will only get you so far if you’re mean to others or are self-centered. Speak kindly to the people you interact with on a daily basis, offer to help others when you can, and don’t be stingy with compliments. Being kind will only make your beauty shine brighter.\\nA big part of being kind is not judging others for their choices or looks. Work on learning to accept others for who they are.\\n4. Taking Care of Yourself\\n4-1. Get enough sleep every night so you feel and look better every day.\\nNot only will a thorough 7 to 9 hours of sleep every night help you feel more rested and ready to face your day, but it can also help with a lot of physical issues, too. Your skin will be clearer, it’ll be easier to maintain a healthy weight, and your heart will be healthier.\\nTry going to sleep and waking up at the same time every day, even on the weekends.\\nEliminate bright screens, loud noises, and drinking caffeine in the hour before your bedtime.\\n4-2. Adopt a healthy diet and drink water so your body functions well.\\nYour diet and hydration have a big impact on your physical well-being. Everybody is different, so what you need to eat every day may differ from your best friend’s diet, but in general try to include lots of fresh fruits and veggies, lean proteins, healthy fats, and complex carbohydrates. Aim to drink at least 8 cups (1,900 mL) of water every day, if not more. The better your diet and the more water you drink, the better your skin will look, which is a huge part of being a bombshell.\\nRemember, what you put into your body is reflected on the outside. If you take good care of yourself, you’ll look and feel better.\\n4-3. Develop a skin care routine so that your skin will be healthy and glow.\\nTry to wash your face every morning when you wake up and in the evening before bed. If you wear makeup, always take it off before you go to bed to prevent your pores from getting clogged. Look into using a toner, moisturizer, and an exfoliator, and don’t forget to wear sunscreen every day (there are some great moisturizer/sunscreen combos, or you could even use a foundation that has SPF in it). \\nDepending on whether or not your skin is oily, dry, or a mix of the two, you might need to tweak your routine a little to get the best results.\\n4-4. Exercise\\nYoga and pilates are great options that will make you more flexible while toning your body at the same time. Cardio, like running or biking, are good for getting your heart rate up and working off body fat. Weight lifting is also a good option, especially if you want to tone up your muscles even more. Figure out what kinds of movements you like, and create a routine that enables you to work up a sweat most days of the week.\\nNot only will exercise make you look better, but it’ll also help you feel better, too! Each time you get your heart rate up, your body will release endorphins, which make you feel good. You’ll find you’re able to handle day-to-day stress better, and you’ll probably sleep better, as well.\\n4-5. Practice good hygiene so that you always smell good.\\nTake a shower every day, especially if you’re working up a sweat at any point (if you don’t want to wash your hair every day, put it up in a shower cap so it doesn’t get wet). Brush your teeth at least twice a day, floss every evening, and consider using mouthwash to keep your breath smelling fresh. Remember to put on deodorant and to wear clean clothes every day.\\nIf you want, you could even start wearing a signature perfume or cologne. The better you smell, the more attractive you’ll be.\\nTips\\nIf you smoke, now is a great time to quit. Smoking damages your skin, makes you age quicker, and can damage your internal organs.\\nDon’t try to pretend to be someone you’re not. People can spot inauthenticity from a mile away, and it won’t help you truly become a bombshell.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you want to be a bombshell, you need to look stunning from head to toe, which can take a lot of work to accomplish! Start by figuring out what kind of signature look you’d like to have: from your hair to your clothes to your makeup and nails. Then start thinking about the kind of attitude you’ll need to go along with your look. Confidence, mystery, a sense of humor, and a streak of authenticity will give you the vibe you’re looking for. Remember to take good care of yourself, and you’ll be rocking that bombshell style before you know it.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Doing Your Hair, Makeup, and Nails\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Do your hair every day in your signature style so you always look good.\", \"描述\": \"Traditionally, big, soft waves are the signature bombshell style. But depending on what kind of hair you have, you may be able to come up with something different. 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Cultivate your hobbies and interests, and don’t be afraid to try to new things to become a more well-rounded person.\\nJust because you’re a bombshell doesn’t mean you can’t also be smart, athletic, musical, artistic, or anything else that you want to be.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Develop a sense of humor to come across as laid-back and intelligent.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re too uptight and can’t make jokes or laugh at yourself, people won’t want to relate to you. Plus, being able to make a joke or a witty comment can make others feel more at ease and want to be around you more.\\nPay attention to what makes you laugh when you watch television or talk with friends. Observe what it is that you find funny, and try to translate that into your conversations.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Practice being kind to show that you are beautiful inside and out.\", \"描述\": \"Your good looks will only get you so far if you’re mean to others or are self-centered. Speak kindly to the people you interact with on a daily basis, offer to help others when you can, and don’t be stingy with compliments. Being kind will only make your beauty shine brighter.\\nA big part of being kind is not judging others for their choices or looks. Work on learning to accept others for who they are.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Taking Care of Yourself\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get enough sleep every night so you feel and look better every day.\", \"描述\": \"Not only will a thorough 7 to 9 hours of sleep every night help you feel more rested and ready to face your day, but it can also help with a lot of physical issues, too. Your skin will be clearer, it’ll be easier to maintain a healthy weight, and your heart will be healthier.\\nTry going to sleep and waking up at the same time every day, even on the weekends.\\nEliminate bright screens, loud noises, and drinking caffeine in the hour before your bedtime.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Adopt a healthy diet and drink water so your body functions well.\", \"描述\": \"Your diet and hydration have a big impact on your physical well-being. Everybody is different, so what you need to eat every day may differ from your best friend’s diet, but in general try to include lots of fresh fruits and veggies, lean proteins, healthy fats, and complex carbohydrates. Aim to drink at least 8 cups (1,900 mL) of water every day, if not more. The better your diet and the more water you drink, the better your skin will look, which is a huge part of being a bombshell.\\nRemember, what you put into your body is reflected on the outside. If you take good care of yourself, you’ll look and feel better.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Develop a skin care routine so that your skin will be healthy and glow.\", \"描述\": \"Try to wash your face every morning when you wake up and in the evening before bed. If you wear makeup, always take it off before you go to bed to prevent your pores from getting clogged. Look into using a toner, moisturizer, and an exfoliator, and don’t forget to wear sunscreen every day (there are some great moisturizer/sunscreen combos, or you could even use a foundation that has SPF in it). \\nDepending on whether or not your skin is oily, dry, or a mix of the two, you might need to tweak your routine a little to get the best results.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Exercise\", \"描述\": \"Yoga and pilates are great options that will make you more flexible while toning your body at the same time. Cardio, like running or biking, are good for getting your heart rate up and working off body fat. Weight lifting is also a good option, especially if you want to tone up your muscles even more. Figure out what kinds of movements you like, and create a routine that enables you to work up a sweat most days of the week.\\nNot only will exercise make you look better, but it’ll also help you feel better, too! Each time you get your heart rate up, your body will release endorphins, which make you feel good. You’ll find you’re able to handle day-to-day stress better, and you’ll probably sleep better, as well.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Practice good hygiene so that you always smell good.\", \"描述\": \"Take a shower every day, especially if you’re working up a sweat at any point (if you don’t want to wash your hair every day, put it up in a shower cap so it doesn’t get wet). Brush your teeth at least twice a day, floss every evening, and consider using mouthwash to keep your breath smelling fresh. Remember to put on deodorant and to wear clean clothes every day.\\nIf you want, you could even start wearing a signature perfume or cologne. The better you smell, the more attractive you’ll be.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"If you smoke, now is a great time to quit. Smoking damages your skin, makes you age quicker, and can damage your internal organs.\\n\", \"Don’t try to pretend to be someone you’re not. People can spot inauthenticity from a mile away, and it won’t help you truly become a bombshell.\\n\"]}]}}",
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How to Be a Book Worm
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1. Steps
1-1. Visit your local library often.
The library is the heart of a true Bookworm's soul! Spend your leisure time visiting the library and pick up some books that you find interesting or have been acclaimed online, on the grapevine or in book reviews. If you don't like the sound of the book, it doesn't matter! You can always buy or borrow a different one.
1-2. Once you've found your section, just browse through it and pick out a few books you think are interesting.
Go take a seat and read the first couple pages. If you think it's the perfect book, check it out and go home.
1-3. Buy, or acquire, a lot of books!
Ever heard the saying, "Never judge a book by its cover"? There are many online and retail book-stores, which hold mind-boggling selections of books. Scan through a couple, and buy ones you think are interesting.
1-4. Carry/read books wherever you go.
Sure, your friends might think this is pretty dumb, but if you love books, read them a lot without worrying about others' disapproval.
Bookworms not only collect books that they are going to read in the future, but also keep books they have already read by their beds. In order for the book you chose to be a book you can snuggle up with you have to check these things over. Is the book in my preferred genre / style? Is it too hard / easy? Do I like the first part of the chapter? After you check these things over and they're all answered positively you are now a bookworm with the book you've chosen (not that you should stop with just this book, of course).
1-5. Find someone who loves books and literature as much as you do.
Try making or joining a book club. Did you know that there are many online book clubs to join for free and make new friends and acquaintances? Try Goodreads, a social bibliophile website.
1-6. Keep it healthy.
Say you read for half an hour in the morning, half in the afternoon, and half at night. Also read during your spare time.
1-7. Read thick books, if you're old enough for it.
Start chapter books at about six or seven years of age.
1-8. Read series.
They'll keep you busy if the first book is good.
1-9. If you find a book that you love and you know that you will read it over and over you should buy a copy to put on your shelf.
1-10. If you want to start writing try reading the genre that you would write e.g.:
sci-fi, mystery, romance.
1-11. Keep it fun.
Reading shouldn't be a chore, it should be something you look forward to.Read short version to know what is book about and then borrow it.
Tips
Never judge a book by a cover. Just because a book's cover may look stupid, doesn't mean the book is!
Try different types of books. Don't stick to the same ones.
Glasses don't make you a nerd.
Warnings
Don't become obsessed with books. Find other hobbies, such as writing or sports!
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Carry/read books wherever you go.\\nSure, your friends might think this is pretty dumb, but if you love books, read them a lot without worrying about others' disapproval.\\nBookworms not only collect books that they are going to read in the future, but also keep books they have already read by their beds. In order for the book you chose to be a book you can snuggle up with you have to check these things over. Is the book in my preferred genre / style? Is it too hard / easy? Do I like the first part of the chapter? After you check these things over and they're all answered positively you are now a bookworm with the book you've chosen (not that you should stop with just this book, of course).\\n1-5. Find someone who loves books and literature as much as you do.\\nTry making or joining a book club. Did you know that there are many online book clubs to join for free and make new friends and acquaintances? Try Goodreads, a social bibliophile website.\\n1-6. Keep it healthy.\\nSay you read for half an hour in the morning, half in the afternoon, and half at night. Also read during your spare time.\\n1-7. Read thick books, if you're old enough for it.\\nStart chapter books at about six or seven years of age.\\n1-8. Read series.\\nThey'll keep you busy if the first book is good.\\n1-9. If you find a book that you love and you know that you will read it over and over you should buy a copy to put on your shelf.\\n\\n1-10. If you want to start writing try reading the genre that you would write e.g.:\\nsci-fi, mystery, romance.\\n1-11. Keep it fun.\\nReading shouldn't be a chore, it should be something you look forward to.Read short version to know what is book about and then borrow it.\\nTips\\nNever judge a book by a cover. Just because a book's cover may look stupid, doesn't mean the book is!\\nTry different types of books. Don't stick to the same ones.\\nGlasses don't make you a nerd.\\nWarnings\\nDon't become obsessed with books. 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How to Be a Boxer
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1. Training to Be a Boxer
1-1. Sign up for classes at a local boxing gym.
Look online for boxing gyms in your area and find one near you. Once you find a location that you can travel to regularly, visit them or call them on the phone to see what times they offer classes and how much they cost. Many gyms offer a per-session rate as low as $10-$50, so you can try out the gym before committing to a monthly plan.
Go to the gym before committing to classes to see how comfortable you feel with the trainers there. The best gyms will have trainers who are understanding and respectful to all skill levels.
Read reviews online to get a better idea of how past students felt about the training there.
1-2. Jump rope, run, and perform other exercises to improve your stamina.
One of the most important aspects of being a good boxer is having an efficient cardiovascular system. Boxing is one of the most physically demanding sports and requires a lot of endurance to fight multiple rounds. Conventional boxing exercises include running, jumping rope, hitting the heavy bag, shadow boxing, sparring, or doing circuit exercises and light weight lifting. Before sparring or doing any technique training, you should do a cardio work out for at least 30 minutes to an hour each day.
When you're running, focus on long-distance running, which will help you improve your stamina, as well as sprints, which simulate the chaos and quick exchanges within a fight.
Do exercises like uphill sprints, jump squats, cycling, swimming, and jumping rope to improve your balance, stamina, and leg strength.
If you are out of shape, you may need to concentrate more on your stamina than the average person.Don't let bad cardio stand in the way of your boxing dreams. Joining a gym will help you improve cardio drastically if you stay committed.
1-3. Learn the proper boxing technique.
Technique in boxing is far more valuable than brute strength. Speed plus technique equals power, so bodybuilding or having big muscles with no practical strength will not help you. In boxing, you must learn how to stand correctly and how to throw a variety of punches.
The standard boxing stance has your back leg slightly bent with your weight on it and your toe at an angle. Your non-dominant foot should be pointed forward. Both hands should cover your chin and face.
You will need to master all the basic punching techniques which include jabs, straights, uppercuts, and hooks.
1-4. Work with a trainer.
A trainer can show you how to move forward, back, and side to side while staying guarded, as well as how to block and slip punches. It's important to have good chemistry with the trainer you are working with. Make sure to communicate with them and tell them what your goals are.
Your trainer should do pad work with you, which will help you gradually condition your body to the demands of boxing.
If you are a little more experienced with boxing, let your trainer know that you know the basic form and technique, so you don't waste time.
Always listen to what your trainer has to say. Trainers can see things from a more objective view and will help you improve your skills.
1-5. Practice on the speed bag.
The speed bag helps a boxer with timing and accuracy. Use one hand and punch the speed bag slowly at first. See how the bag acts when it bounces off the backboard and try to hit it when it is swinging back. Once you manage to control it, increase your pace and start using both of your hands.
Mastering the speed bag is not easy and will likely require hours of practice before you can get the correct rhythm.
1-6. Practice on the heavy bag.
The heavy bag helps a fighter work on his technique and power. Remember always to wrap your hands and wear gloves before practicing on the heavy bag. Start by throwing light jabs, straights, and hooks to the heavy bag. Your punches should be quick and crisp. Also remember that a punch's full range of motion includes bringing your hand back to protect your face.
A common misconception is that the heavy bag should sway back and forth. This indicates "pushing" punches, which don't utilize proper technique.
Even though a heavy bag can't hit back, it's essential you maintain good form while using it so you don't hurt yourself.
1-7. Remain dedicated even when it gets tough.
Boxing is one of the most grueling sports to train in and requires dedication and pushing yourself past your limits. In boxing you'll need to build up an incredible amount of stamina, toughness, power, and speed to defeat your opponents in the ring.
If you are a competing boxer, you should workout five days a week for three to five hours to stay in fighting shape.
If you feel like giving up, push yourself to keep going. You will not see improvement until you push yourself past what you thought you couldn't accomplish.
If you want to really take your boxing to the next level, take notes or watch film on all of your fights, and use information about your wins and losses to help you adjust your training.
1-8. Spar
Once you have the basics down, and your cardio and stamina are good enough, you should begin sparring with other people that train at your gym. Talk to your trainer to see if you're ready, then choose a sparring partner with a similar skill level. Sparring will show you to how it feels to deliver and receive punches in the ring.
Don't start sparring too early. Work with your coach to develop good fundamentals, like control and balance, as well as to overcome the instinct to flinch or close your eyes when you're against an opponent.
Do not try to hurt your sparring partner. The aim is not to win, but improve both of your skills and get practical experience in the ring.
If you have to spar with a more experienced fighter, they will likely go easy on you. You should do the same if you are sparring someone with less experience.
2. Fighting In the Ring
2-1. Don't exert all your energy in the first couple rounds.
Maintaining your endurance during a boxing match can be harder than other sports, because of psychological factors that may make you more nervous and interrupt your breathing. Pace yourself in the fight and don't make unnecessary movements or punches if you know they are not going to help you win.
The first round should be a feeling out round. Use defense and evaluate your opponent's technique.
2-2. Look for holes during the first couple rounds.
Find weaknesses in the opponents defense that you can exploit as the match progresses, instead of punching wildly and becoming tired. Take note of the bad habits or tendencies that they have as a fighter. For instance, if they always lower one hand when they throw a straight, this is an opportunity to counter with a hook.
If they put their hands down when they are disengaging, this is a good opportunity to move in and land some solid face punches.
If they don't protect their body, land body shots early in the fight, so you tire them out as the match progresses.
2-3. Tire your opponent out.
If you can defend properly and your opponent punches wildly, you can make them tired and take advantage of his lack of endurance during the later rounds. If your opponent is a power puncher and is looking to land one good shot, make sure to stay mobile and always keep your hands up.
Explosive punchers become tired more quickly because of the energy that they spend on each strike.
2-4. Don't stay on the ropes undefended.
Do not stay immobile and defensive on the ropes, or the referee may stop the fight early. Even when you are blocking, it's up the ref to make the final decision on whether the fight should continue. Also, being on the ropes limits your mobility and reduces your options if you need to move back.
2-5. Keep your hands up.
During the later rounds, you may become tired, and your hands will most likely start to fall, leaving your face and head exposed. This is the perfect opportunity for an opponent to take advantage of a hole in your defense and knock you out. Always keep your hands up unless you are defending body shots.
A boxer with a lot of power can punch through your block and cause damage even if you have your hands up. In this case, use lateral movement to stay away from his strikes.
Use a combination of head movement and blocking to defend strikes and tire out your opponent.
2-6. Listen to your corner.
Your corner will be able to see the fight from a different angle and can tell you where you need to improve and how and why you are winning or losing the fight. Make sure to listen to them between rounds and try to make adjustments as the fight progresses.
It's easy to develop tunnel vision during a fight and block out any noise or advice, but this will only work against you.
2-7. Determine your style.
Once you've learned the fundamentals and have spent time competing, you'll most likely have a style of your own. While the basic building blocks must always be there, people are proficient in different things. Leverage whatever your best assets are and use them in your boxing strategy.
If you are a powerful puncher, work on your blocking technique and opening up your opponent's defense by landing body shots.
If you have really good stamina, try wearing down your opponent and taking the fight into the later rounds.
If you are quick, work on counter punching , movement, and slipping your opponents punches.
3. Keeping Yourself Safe
3-1. Go to a doctor before you start boxing.
Certain medical conditions could prevent you from boxing. Make sure to consult a physician before you start training. If you are prone to seizures or have a neurological problem, you should not spar. Talk to your doctor to see what they recommend.
For some conditions you'll be able to train, but will be advised against fighting.
If you have heart disease, asthma, diabetes, cancer, or lung disease, consult a doctor before starting a new workout routine.
3-2. Don't fight without proper training.
Learning how to fight without the proper training can be a detriment. You could be utilizing poor technique during practice and reinforcing bad habits which may be hard to unlearn down the road. You also could be practicing in an unsafe environment and could hurt yourself or your training partner. When starting off, go to a certified gym with trainers who have experience.
3-3. Keep your hands wrapped when punching.
Your hands are the most valuable tool for boxing and must be preserved for you to compete. Many amateurs will put on boxing gloves without wrapping their hands first. This could cause serious injuries in your hand, knuckles, or wrists that could end your boxing career. Wrapping your hands will prevent injury and reduce swelling and pain after punching.
3-4. Always wear protective gear when sparring.
Always take precautions or someone could get seriously injured. Wear a mouthguard, headgear, and a cup so that you protect yourself during practice.
Sparring without a mouthguard could result in a cut lip, cut tongue, or a broken tooth.
Even light punches could cause serious injury if protective gear is not worn.
3-5. Never start fights.
Your experience as a boxer also comes with a new responsibility to keep a calm and cool head when outside of the gym. Taking your skills to the street and provoking fights could get yourself or someone else seriously injured or could even be fatal. Because you're the one with the training, you could face serious penalties or jail time. Avoid fights at all costs and try to resolve your problems with words.
In dire circumstances use your skills for self-defense.
To avoid a fight you could say something like, "I'm a trained fighter and I do not want to fight you. Please leave me alone."
3-6. Respect and listen to your instructor.
Your instructor will know how to train you safely and properly. Even if you have experience competing, always remain respectful towards your instructor. They may see something that you can improve on. Ultimately they are the expert, and you are the student so you must follow their directions to improve.
Tips
Boxing gloves are sized by the amount of padding that's inside the glove. For a versatile option you can use on bags, pads, and sparring, opt for a 16-ounce glove.[20]
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Expert Source
David EngelMuay Thai Instructor & Self Defense Trainer
Expert Interview. 5 May 2020.
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Work with your coach to develop good fundamentals, like control and balance, as well as to overcome the instinct to flinch or close your eyes when you're against an opponent.\\nDo not try to hurt your sparring partner. The aim is not to win, but improve both of your skills and get practical experience in the ring.\\nIf you have to spar with a more experienced fighter, they will likely go easy on you. You should do the same if you are sparring someone with less experience.\\n2. Fighting In the Ring\\n2-1. Don't exert all your energy in the first couple rounds.\\nMaintaining your endurance during a boxing match can be harder than other sports, because of psychological factors that may make you more nervous and interrupt your breathing. Pace yourself in the fight and don't make unnecessary movements or punches if you know they are not going to help you win.\\nThe first round should be a feeling out round. Use defense and evaluate your opponent's technique.\\n2-2. Look for holes during the first couple rounds.\\nFind weaknesses in the opponents defense that you can exploit as the match progresses, instead of punching wildly and becoming tired. Take note of the bad habits or tendencies that they have as a fighter. For instance, if they always lower one hand when they throw a straight, this is an opportunity to counter with a hook.\\nIf they put their hands down when they are disengaging, this is a good opportunity to move in and land some solid face punches.\\nIf they don't protect their body, land body shots early in the fight, so you tire them out as the match progresses.\\n2-3. Tire your opponent out.\\nIf you can defend properly and your opponent punches wildly, you can make them tired and take advantage of his lack of endurance during the later rounds. If your opponent is a power puncher and is looking to land one good shot, make sure to stay mobile and always keep your hands up.\\nExplosive punchers become tired more quickly because of the energy that they spend on each strike.\\n2-4. Don't stay on the ropes undefended.\\nDo not stay immobile and defensive on the ropes, or the referee may stop the fight early. Even when you are blocking, it's up the ref to make the final decision on whether the fight should continue. Also, being on the ropes limits your mobility and reduces your options if you need to move back.\\n2-5. Keep your hands up.\\nDuring the later rounds, you may become tired, and your hands will most likely start to fall, leaving your face and head exposed. This is the perfect opportunity for an opponent to take advantage of a hole in your defense and knock you out. Always keep your hands up unless you are defending body shots.\\nA boxer with a lot of power can punch through your block and cause damage even if you have your hands up. In this case, use lateral movement to stay away from his strikes.\\nUse a combination of head movement and blocking to defend strikes and tire out your opponent.\\n2-6. Listen to your corner.\\nYour corner will be able to see the fight from a different angle and can tell you where you need to improve and how and why you are winning or losing the fight. Make sure to listen to them between rounds and try to make adjustments as the fight progresses.\\nIt's easy to develop tunnel vision during a fight and block out any noise or advice, but this will only work against you.\\n2-7. Determine your style.\\nOnce you've learned the fundamentals and have spent time competing, you'll most likely have a style of your own. While the basic building blocks must always be there, people are proficient in different things. Leverage whatever your best assets are and use them in your boxing strategy.\\nIf you are a powerful puncher, work on your blocking technique and opening up your opponent's defense by landing body shots.\\nIf you have really good stamina, try wearing down your opponent and taking the fight into the later rounds.\\nIf you are quick, work on counter punching , movement, and slipping your opponents punches.\\n3. Keeping Yourself Safe\\n3-1. Go to a doctor before you start boxing.\\nCertain medical conditions could prevent you from boxing. Make sure to consult a physician before you start training. If you are prone to seizures or have a neurological problem, you should not spar. Talk to your doctor to see what they recommend.\\nFor some conditions you'll be able to train, but will be advised against fighting.\\nIf you have heart disease, asthma, diabetes, cancer, or lung disease, consult a doctor before starting a new workout routine.\\n3-2. Don't fight without proper training.\\nLearning how to fight without the proper training can be a detriment. You could be utilizing poor technique during practice and reinforcing bad habits which may be hard to unlearn down the road. You also could be practicing in an unsafe environment and could hurt yourself or your training partner. When starting off, go to a certified gym with trainers who have experience.\\n3-3. Keep your hands wrapped when punching.\\nYour hands are the most valuable tool for boxing and must be preserved for you to compete. Many amateurs will put on boxing gloves without wrapping their hands first. This could cause serious injuries in your hand, knuckles, or wrists that could end your boxing career. Wrapping your hands will prevent injury and reduce swelling and pain after punching.\\n3-4. Always wear protective gear when sparring.\\nAlways take precautions or someone could get seriously injured. Wear a mouthguard, headgear, and a cup so that you protect yourself during practice.\\nSparring without a mouthguard could result in a cut lip, cut tongue, or a broken tooth.\\nEven light punches could cause serious injury if protective gear is not worn.\\n3-5. Never start fights.\\nYour experience as a boxer also comes with a new responsibility to keep a calm and cool head when outside of the gym. Taking your skills to the street and provoking fights could get yourself or someone else seriously injured or could even be fatal. Because you're the one with the training, you could face serious penalties or jail time. Avoid fights at all costs and try to resolve your problems with words.\\nIn dire circumstances use your skills for self-defense.\\nTo avoid a fight you could say something like, \\\"I'm a trained fighter and I do not want to fight you. Please leave me alone.\\\"\\n3-6. Respect and listen to your instructor.\\nYour instructor will know how to train you safely and properly. Even if you have experience competing, always remain respectful towards your instructor. They may see something that you can improve on. Ultimately they are the expert, and you are the student so you must follow their directions to improve.\\nTips\\nBoxing gloves are sized by the amount of padding that's inside the glove. For a versatile option you can use on bags, pads, and sparring, opt for a 16-ounce glove.[20]\\nX\\nExpert Source\\n\\nDavid EngelMuay Thai Instructor & Self Defense Trainer\\nExpert Interview. 5 May 2020.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The exhilaration of being in a boxing match is unlike any other feeling in the world. The rush of being in a fight, the adoration of fans, and the recognition of other fighters are all things that an aspiring boxer may want. However, being a boxer is also one of the most difficult things that you can ever do. Training requires patience, dedication, intensity, and effort and not all people can stick with it long enough to compete. Luckily, if you train correctly, listen to experienced boxers, and put in the time that it takes to become good, you can become a prizefighter too.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Training to Be a Boxer\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Sign up for classes at a local boxing gym.\", \"描述\": \"Look online for boxing gyms in your area and find one near you. Once you find a location that you can travel to regularly, visit them or call them on the phone to see what times they offer classes and how much they cost. Many gyms offer a per-session rate as low as $10-$50, so you can try out the gym before committing to a monthly plan.\\nGo to the gym before committing to classes to see how comfortable you feel with the trainers there. The best gyms will have trainers who are understanding and respectful to all skill levels.\\nRead reviews online to get a better idea of how past students felt about the training there.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Jump rope, run, and perform other exercises to improve your stamina.\", \"描述\": \"One of the most important aspects of being a good boxer is having an efficient cardiovascular system. Boxing is one of the most physically demanding sports and requires a lot of endurance to fight multiple rounds. Conventional boxing exercises include running, jumping rope, hitting the heavy bag, shadow boxing, sparring, or doing circuit exercises and light weight lifting. Before sparring or doing any technique training, you should do a cardio work out for at least 30 minutes to an hour each day.\\nWhen you're running, focus on long-distance running, which will help you improve your stamina, as well as sprints, which simulate the chaos and quick exchanges within a fight.\\nDo exercises like uphill sprints, jump squats, cycling, swimming, and jumping rope to improve your balance, stamina, and leg strength.\\nIf you are out of shape, you may need to concentrate more on your stamina than the average person.Don't let bad cardio stand in the way of your boxing dreams. Joining a gym will help you improve cardio drastically if you stay committed.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn the proper boxing technique.\", \"描述\": \"Technique in boxing is far more valuable than brute strength. Speed plus technique equals power, so bodybuilding or having big muscles with no practical strength will not help you. In boxing, you must learn how to stand correctly and how to throw a variety of punches.\\nThe standard boxing stance has your back leg slightly bent with your weight on it and your toe at an angle. Your non-dominant foot should be pointed forward. Both hands should cover your chin and face.\\nYou will need to master all the basic punching techniques which include jabs, straights, uppercuts, and hooks.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Work with a trainer.\", \"描述\": \"A trainer can show you how to move forward, back, and side to side while staying guarded, as well as how to block and slip punches. It's important to have good chemistry with the trainer you are working with. Make sure to communicate with them and tell them what your goals are.\\nYour trainer should do pad work with you, which will help you gradually condition your body to the demands of boxing.\\nIf you are a little more experienced with boxing, let your trainer know that you know the basic form and technique, so you don't waste time.\\nAlways listen to what your trainer has to say. Trainers can see things from a more objective view and will help you improve your skills.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Practice on the speed bag.\", \"描述\": \"The speed bag helps a boxer with timing and accuracy. Use one hand and punch the speed bag slowly at first. See how the bag acts when it bounces off the backboard and try to hit it when it is swinging back. Once you manage to control it, increase your pace and start using both of your hands.\\nMastering the speed bag is not easy and will likely require hours of practice before you can get the correct rhythm.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Practice on the heavy bag.\", \"描述\": \"The heavy bag helps a fighter work on his technique and power. Remember always to wrap your hands and wear gloves before practicing on the heavy bag. Start by throwing light jabs, straights, and hooks to the heavy bag. Your punches should be quick and crisp. Also remember that a punch's full range of motion includes bringing your hand back to protect your face.\\nA common misconception is that the heavy bag should sway back and forth. This indicates \\\"pushing\\\" punches, which don't utilize proper technique.\\nEven though a heavy bag can't hit back, it's essential you maintain good form while using it so you don't hurt yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Remain dedicated even when it gets tough.\", \"描述\": \"Boxing is one of the most grueling sports to train in and requires dedication and pushing yourself past your limits. In boxing you'll need to build up an incredible amount of stamina, toughness, power, and speed to defeat your opponents in the ring.\\nIf you are a competing boxer, you should workout five days a week for three to five hours to stay in fighting shape.\\nIf you feel like giving up, push yourself to keep going. You will not see improvement until you push yourself past what you thought you couldn't accomplish.\\nIf you want to really take your boxing to the next level, take notes or watch film on all of your fights, and use information about your wins and losses to help you adjust your training.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Spar\", \"描述\": \"Once you have the basics down, and your cardio and stamina are good enough, you should begin sparring with other people that train at your gym. Talk to your trainer to see if you're ready, then choose a sparring partner with a similar skill level. Sparring will show you to how it feels to deliver and receive punches in the ring.\\nDon't start sparring too early. Work with your coach to develop good fundamentals, like control and balance, as well as to overcome the instinct to flinch or close your eyes when you're against an opponent.\\nDo not try to hurt your sparring partner. 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Use defense and evaluate your opponent's technique.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Look for holes during the first couple rounds.\", \"描述\": \"Find weaknesses in the opponents defense that you can exploit as the match progresses, instead of punching wildly and becoming tired. Take note of the bad habits or tendencies that they have as a fighter. For instance, if they always lower one hand when they throw a straight, this is an opportunity to counter with a hook.\\nIf they put their hands down when they are disengaging, this is a good opportunity to move in and land some solid face punches.\\nIf they don't protect their body, land body shots early in the fight, so you tire them out as the match progresses.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Tire your opponent out.\", \"描述\": \"If you can defend properly and your opponent punches wildly, you can make them tired and take advantage of his lack of endurance during the later rounds. If your opponent is a power puncher and is looking to land one good shot, make sure to stay mobile and always keep your hands up.\\nExplosive punchers become tired more quickly because of the energy that they spend on each strike.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Don't stay on the ropes undefended.\", \"描述\": \"Do not stay immobile and defensive on the ropes, or the referee may stop the fight early. Even when you are blocking, it's up the ref to make the final decision on whether the fight should continue. Also, being on the ropes limits your mobility and reduces your options if you need to move back.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Keep your hands up.\", \"描述\": \"During the later rounds, you may become tired, and your hands will most likely start to fall, leaving your face and head exposed. This is the perfect opportunity for an opponent to take advantage of a hole in your defense and knock you out. Always keep your hands up unless you are defending body shots.\\nA boxer with a lot of power can punch through your block and cause damage even if you have your hands up. In this case, use lateral movement to stay away from his strikes.\\nUse a combination of head movement and blocking to defend strikes and tire out your opponent.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Listen to your corner.\", \"描述\": \"Your corner will be able to see the fight from a different angle and can tell you where you need to improve and how and why you are winning or losing the fight. Make sure to listen to them between rounds and try to make adjustments as the fight progresses.\\nIt's easy to develop tunnel vision during a fight and block out any noise or advice, but this will only work against you.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Determine your style.\", \"描述\": \"Once you've learned the fundamentals and have spent time competing, you'll most likely have a style of your own. 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1. Being a Good Bro
1-1. Live by a bro code.
Every bro's gotta have a code. It's the thing that unites and binds and solidifies the concept of the bro, separating bro from the common beasts and squirrels of the world. Your bro code is up to you and your bros, as well as the punishments for transgressing, but a few rules are generally universal when it comes to bros.
Never mess with your bro's date, sister, or mother
Always have a bro's back
Always take wingman responsibilities seriously
Bros won't make other bros look bad in front of girls
Bros don't let bros drive drunk
1-2. Find your neighbors and build up a brommunity.
Bros gotta stick together. The number one requirement for being a bro? Surround yourself with other brosephs, brahs, and brosiehs. Get a close-knit community of friends to hang out with and support each other. Leave no bro behind.
Lots of bros join fraternities in college, but it's not a requirement. Wherever you can, find like-minded male friends that you can bond with on a deep level. That might mean joining a fraternal organization of some kind, but you can also find male friends at work, church, the garage, or school.
Intramural sports are great for meeting guys with similar interests. Likewise, if you're a gym rat, hang around the weight room to meet up with lifting buddies. You can have some school bros, some gym bros, a different set for every situation.
1-3. Learn the proper bro-shake.
When two bros meet, they don't shake hands like a couple of preachers. And they certainly don't hug. They bro-shake. It's like a combination hug, high-five, and arm-wrestling match. In other words, perfect for bros.
To execute the bro shake, high-five your friend about chest high, at a 45 degree angle, grasping his hand as if you were about to arm-wrestle. Don't let go. Flex your guns. Think of the bicep-bulging scene in Predator where Schwarzenegger meets Carl Weathers.
Next, keeping your hands grasped, use your other hand to pat your bro's back one time, hard, in a half-embrace. Your arm-wreslte hand-shake will still be between you, so it won't be a full on hug. A bro-hug, a bro-shake, whatever you want to call it, it's cool.
1-4. Be reliable.
You get a call from your good buddies across town, stranded and beaten up after getting in a bar fight? Your date night is over, bro. You need to get in your car and go help out. A good bro is always reliable to be there for his good friends, coming through in a pinch with a helping hand, advice, or the right socket wrench.
1-5. Say what you mean.
The world is full of too many complicated things. Conversing with your bros shouldn't be one of them. Communicate openly with your other bros and don't make talking a challenge, full of codes and misconceptions. If you're pissed that your bro borrowed your car and didn't fill it up with gas, say, "Dude, next time fill it up." If your bro's personal hygiene habits are falling off a bit, all you need to do is say, "Dude, it's called a shower. Take one." Get to the point, cut to the chase, speak from the heart.
Don't get offended when other bros cut you the same courtesy. Be thankful you can have friends who'll tell you what you need to hear without sugar-coating it. Think of it as a BS-free zone, not like your other bros are trying to be rude. Don't take it personally if it's the truth.
1-6. Always be rallying.
Just like Joe Montana in the Super Bowl, Andretti at the Indy 500, or Michael Jordan in the playoffs, good bros can't stop and won't stop. Whether you're partying, working out, or plugging through another round of Madden on Xbox, a bro is always coming from behind and charging through the finish line. Work hard to improve your stamina so you can be full of energy, regardless of the situation.
Partied a little hard last night, but it's your buddy's birthday tonight? Probably best to make it a nice quiet night in and watch Dancing With the Stars. Kidding. Get off the couch, dude. Pop a Red Bull, take a shower, and get ready to celebrate your bro's most recent trip around the sun.
Feeling lazy at the gym? Pump your headphones full of Guns 'n Roses, Eminem, Led Zeppelin, and whatever tunes will get you pumped to work out to your fullest. Don't waste time in the gym. Sweat is just weakness leaving your body.
1-7. Find bro inspirations.
Every bro should have some famous bros to look up to, swipe lingo from, and in general idolize as the pinnacles of brodom. Some classics bros include:
Ryan Lochte and Michael Phelps
Tim Tebow, Johnny Manziel, Derek Jeter, and Chad Johnson
Will Smith, Channing Tatum, Matthew McConaughey
The bros from Epic Meal Time
Dane Cook, Jim Belushi, and Joe Rogan
1-8. Try to make every day epic.
A bro is just like a regular dude, except more exciting. You've got to be in constant search of that next epic moment, tweaking every situation to make it just a little more perfect.
Don't "go out for dinner" with your bros, but make epic eating occasions. Seek out 72 oz. steak-eating challenges, or spicy-food eating challenges to make it competitive. Never let the loser live it down.
Don't "go to class," seek out epic new ways of integrating information. Research optimum workout routines to maximize your learning retention and record lectures on your iPod while you multi-task in the lecture hall. Make your presence in class epic by answering questions, arguing with the prof, and making your presence known.
Don't "go on dates," go on adventures. Dinner and a movie? That's for regular dudes. Take the cutie from econ white water rafting, or ask the hot barista at your favorite coffee shop to go to a metal concert. Tonight. Take your semi-serious date to the racket-ball court and see what you're made of.
2. Looking the Part
2-1. Get in shape.
Bros take fitness and health seriously. Proper fitness allows you to defend yourself, compete regularly, and show off your lean physique when you wear those muscle-shirts. Focus on strength training, cardio, and endurance training to lose pounds and get cut. Buy a couple tickets to the gun show, baby.
Develop a workout routine and stick to it a couple times a week. Your energy will improve, and you'll be the best possible version of yourself.
You don't have to be a buff guy to be a bro. If you're small or big, you can find similar bros and bro-down together. You might not be able to make friends at the gym like some other bros, but you can use your other bro traits to make up for it.
2-2. Always find a good reason to wear athletic gear.
It's easy, it's cool, and it's versatile. Athletic gear is the uniform on the field and the uniform off the field, for most bros. That means basketball shorts, jerseys, Nike shoes, and gym sandals. If it's comfortable and made for the locker room, then it's made for the streets. The athletic bro will usually be spotted in:
Training pants, with buttons up the side
Jerseys, team shirts, tank-tops with Greek letters
Backwards baseball cap
2-3. Go for the gentleman bro look.
Bros from more cosmopolitan origins will often have a slightly different vibe. Think less Dave Matthews Band concert parking lot and more Martha's Vineyard sailboat club. Different vibe, same bro-ness. This bro will typically be wearing:
White polo shirts
Ralph Lauren cargo shorts
Sperry shoes
Lacrosse gear
Ray Bans
2-4. Try out the motocross bro.
Gear-head, metal-listening, So-Cal bros have their own style and vibe altogether. You can see these sorts of bros at the Van's Warped Tour or at the skatepark. Typically, they'll be decked in the following attire:
Long Dickie's shorts
Skate shoes, like Van's or Airwalk
Flat-brim hats
Black socks, pulled all the way up
2-5. Try out the country-cowbro look.
City bros are different than country bros. If you've grown up listening to George Jones in the back of your dad's F-150, it's unlikely you'll be running around wearing all the Greek-letter gear. Get real. The cowbro can typically be seen wearing:
Wranglers, loose-fit
John Deere caps and shirts, tucked in
Cowboy boots
3. Avoiding Stereotypes
3-1. Drink responsibly
Being able to drink yourself into a blackout isn't a sign that you're a good bro, it's a sign that you've got a drinking problem. While it may be true that bros tend to enjoy a few brews when they get together, it's important to know your limits and stay on the right side of them. Limit your drinking, never drive after drinking, and stay responsible.
Aside from all the legal and responsibility problems over-drinking can get you into, it's also just a bad idea for your health. All those beers are full of empty calories, meaning that you'll develop an unbecoming bro-belly from all those empties and late night Taco Bell runs when you get the drunk munchies. Try to cut back.
3-2. Treat women respectfully.
This is a big one, bros. If there's one thing that gives you a bad name, it'll be treating women poorly, talking down to them, objectifying them, and being rude in general. Learn to talk to women one-on-one, calmly and with courtesy.
Showing off is a turn off. You don't have to beat on your chest like an ape or an idiot to attract women. Let your natural masculinity and your charm do the work, not your goofy machismo.
Don't assign numbers to girls. It's disrespectful, crude, and will work against you.
3-3. Eat a well-balanced diet.
Bros love dude-food, it's true. Bacon, french fries, pizza. What more could a bro need? The answer is fiber, green vegetables, and vitamins. While eating a diet rich in red meats and potatoes sounds great for building muscle and throwing barbecues, it's also a shortcut to bowel and prostate cancer. Bummers for any bro.
Try and introduce cooking into your routine. Bros should be good cooks! Experiment with making your own food and eating as healthily as possible. Avoid frozen dinners, fast food, and other junk food.
3-4. Drive responsibly.
Peeling out at stoplights, cutting off cars in traffic, or honking your horn at hotties you see on the sidewalk doesn't make you cool bro, it makes you a dork. A bro shouldn't have to compensate for feelings of inadequacy by revving his car engine. Work on your self-confidence instead of messing around in your car.
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Wherever you can, find like-minded male friends that you can bond with on a deep level. That might mean joining a fraternal organization of some kind, but you can also find male friends at work, church, the garage, or school.\\nIntramural sports are great for meeting guys with similar interests. Likewise, if you're a gym rat, hang around the weight room to meet up with lifting buddies. You can have some school bros, some gym bros, a different set for every situation.\\n1-3. Learn the proper bro-shake.\\nWhen two bros meet, they don't shake hands like a couple of preachers. And they certainly don't hug. They bro-shake. It's like a combination hug, high-five, and arm-wrestling match. In other words, perfect for bros.\\nTo execute the bro shake, high-five your friend about chest high, at a 45 degree angle, grasping his hand as if you were about to arm-wrestle. Don't let go. Flex your guns. Think of the bicep-bulging scene in Predator where Schwarzenegger meets Carl Weathers.\\nNext, keeping your hands grasped, use your other hand to pat your bro's back one time, hard, in a half-embrace. Your arm-wreslte hand-shake will still be between you, so it won't be a full on hug. A bro-hug, a bro-shake, whatever you want to call it, it's cool.\\n1-4. Be reliable.\\nYou get a call from your good buddies across town, stranded and beaten up after getting in a bar fight? Your date night is over, bro. You need to get in your car and go help out. A good bro is always reliable to be there for his good friends, coming through in a pinch with a helping hand, advice, or the right socket wrench.\\n1-5. Say what you mean.\\nThe world is full of too many complicated things. Conversing with your bros shouldn't be one of them. Communicate openly with your other bros and don't make talking a challenge, full of codes and misconceptions. If you're pissed that your bro borrowed your car and didn't fill it up with gas, say, \\\"Dude, next time fill it up.\\\" If your bro's personal hygiene habits are falling off a bit, all you need to do is say, \\\"Dude, it's called a shower. Take one.\\\" Get to the point, cut to the chase, speak from the heart.\\nDon't get offended when other bros cut you the same courtesy. Be thankful you can have friends who'll tell you what you need to hear without sugar-coating it. Think of it as a BS-free zone, not like your other bros are trying to be rude. Don't take it personally if it's the truth.\\n1-6. Always be rallying.\\nJust like Joe Montana in the Super Bowl, Andretti at the Indy 500, or Michael Jordan in the playoffs, good bros can't stop and won't stop. Whether you're partying, working out, or plugging through another round of Madden on Xbox, a bro is always coming from behind and charging through the finish line. Work hard to improve your stamina so you can be full of energy, regardless of the situation.\\nPartied a little hard last night, but it's your buddy's birthday tonight? Probably best to make it a nice quiet night in and watch Dancing With the Stars. Kidding. Get off the couch, dude. Pop a Red Bull, take a shower, and get ready to celebrate your bro's most recent trip around the sun.\\nFeeling lazy at the gym? Pump your headphones full of Guns 'n Roses, Eminem, Led Zeppelin, and whatever tunes will get you pumped to work out to your fullest. Don't waste time in the gym. Sweat is just weakness leaving your body.\\n1-7. Find bro inspirations.\\nEvery bro should have some famous bros to look up to, swipe lingo from, and in general idolize as the pinnacles of brodom. Some classics bros include:\\nRyan Lochte and Michael Phelps\\nTim Tebow, Johnny Manziel, Derek Jeter, and Chad Johnson\\nWill Smith, Channing Tatum, Matthew McConaughey\\nThe bros from Epic Meal Time\\nDane Cook, Jim Belushi, and Joe Rogan\\n1-8. Try to make every day epic.\\nA bro is just like a regular dude, except more exciting. You've got to be in constant search of that next epic moment, tweaking every situation to make it just a little more perfect.\\nDon't \\\"go out for dinner\\\" with your bros, but make epic eating occasions. Seek out 72 oz. steak-eating challenges, or spicy-food eating challenges to make it competitive. Never let the loser live it down.\\nDon't \\\"go to class,\\\" seek out epic new ways of integrating information. Research optimum workout routines to maximize your learning retention and record lectures on your iPod while you multi-task in the lecture hall. Make your presence in class epic by answering questions, arguing with the prof, and making your presence known.\\nDon't \\\"go on dates,\\\" go on adventures. Dinner and a movie? That's for regular dudes. Take the cutie from econ white water rafting, or ask the hot barista at your favorite coffee shop to go to a metal concert. Tonight. Take your semi-serious date to the racket-ball court and see what you're made of.\\n2. Looking the Part\\n2-1. Get in shape.\\nBros take fitness and health seriously. Proper fitness allows you to defend yourself, compete regularly, and show off your lean physique when you wear those muscle-shirts. Focus on strength training, cardio, and endurance training to lose pounds and get cut. Buy a couple tickets to the gun show, baby.\\n\\nDevelop a workout routine and stick to it a couple times a week. Your energy will improve, and you'll be the best possible version of yourself.\\nYou don't have to be a buff guy to be a bro. If you're small or big, you can find similar bros and bro-down together. You might not be able to make friends at the gym like some other bros, but you can use your other bro traits to make up for it.\\n2-2. Always find a good reason to wear athletic gear.\\nIt's easy, it's cool, and it's versatile. Athletic gear is the uniform on the field and the uniform off the field, for most bros. That means basketball shorts, jerseys, Nike shoes, and gym sandals. If it's comfortable and made for the locker room, then it's made for the streets. The athletic bro will usually be spotted in:\\nTraining pants, with buttons up the side\\nJerseys, team shirts, tank-tops with Greek letters\\nBackwards baseball cap\\n2-3. Go for the gentleman bro look.\\nBros from more cosmopolitan origins will often have a slightly different vibe. Think less Dave Matthews Band concert parking lot and more Martha's Vineyard sailboat club. Different vibe, same bro-ness. This bro will typically be wearing:\\nWhite polo shirts\\nRalph Lauren cargo shorts\\nSperry shoes\\nLacrosse gear\\nRay Bans\\n2-4. Try out the motocross bro.\\nGear-head, metal-listening, So-Cal bros have their own style and vibe altogether. You can see these sorts of bros at the Van's Warped Tour or at the skatepark. Typically, they'll be decked in the following attire:\\nLong Dickie's shorts\\nSkate shoes, like Van's or Airwalk\\nFlat-brim hats\\nBlack socks, pulled all the way up\\n2-5. Try out the country-cowbro look.\\nCity bros are different than country bros. If you've grown up listening to George Jones in the back of your dad's F-150, it's unlikely you'll be running around wearing all the Greek-letter gear. Get real. The cowbro can typically be seen wearing:\\nWranglers, loose-fit\\nJohn Deere caps and shirts, tucked in\\nCowboy boots\\n3. Avoiding Stereotypes\\n3-1. Drink responsibly\\nBeing able to drink yourself into a blackout isn't a sign that you're a good bro, it's a sign that you've got a drinking problem. While it may be true that bros tend to enjoy a few brews when they get together, it's important to know your limits and stay on the right side of them. Limit your drinking, never drive after drinking, and stay responsible.\\nAside from all the legal and responsibility problems over-drinking can get you into, it's also just a bad idea for your health. All those beers are full of empty calories, meaning that you'll develop an unbecoming bro-belly from all those empties and late night Taco Bell runs when you get the drunk munchies. Try to cut back.\\n3-2. Treat women respectfully.\\nThis is a big one, bros. If there's one thing that gives you a bad name, it'll be treating women poorly, talking down to them, objectifying them, and being rude in general. Learn to talk to women one-on-one, calmly and with courtesy.\\nShowing off is a turn off. You don't have to beat on your chest like an ape or an idiot to attract women. Let your natural masculinity and your charm do the work, not your goofy machismo.\\nDon't assign numbers to girls. It's disrespectful, crude, and will work against you.\\n3-3. Eat a well-balanced diet.\\nBros love dude-food, it's true. Bacon, french fries, pizza. What more could a bro need? The answer is fiber, green vegetables, and vitamins. While eating a diet rich in red meats and potatoes sounds great for building muscle and throwing barbecues, it's also a shortcut to bowel and prostate cancer. Bummers for any bro.\\nTry and introduce cooking into your routine. Bros should be good cooks! Experiment with making your own food and eating as healthily as possible. Avoid frozen dinners, fast food, and other junk food.\\n3-4. Drive responsibly.\\nPeeling out at stoplights, cutting off cars in traffic, or honking your horn at hotties you see on the sidewalk doesn't make you cool bro, it makes you a dork. A bro shouldn't have to compensate for feelings of inadequacy by revving his car engine. Work on your self-confidence instead of messing around in your car.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The stereotypical bro gets a bad reputation from the frat house to the weight room, but being a bro doesn't need to be a bad thing. Brotherhood and fraternity are the roots of bro culture, and can be a healthy way of building confidence and forging strong relationships with men.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being a Good Bro\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Live by a bro code.\", \"描述\": \"Every bro's gotta have a code. It's the thing that unites and binds and solidifies the concept of the bro, separating bro from the common beasts and squirrels of the world. Your bro code is up to you and your bros, as well as the punishments for transgressing, but a few rules are generally universal when it comes to bros.\\nNever mess with your bro's date, sister, or mother\\nAlways have a bro's back\\nAlways take wingman responsibilities seriously\\nBros won't make other bros look bad in front of girls\\nBros don't let bros drive drunk\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Find your neighbors and build up a brommunity.\", \"描述\": \"Bros gotta stick together. The number one requirement for being a bro? Surround yourself with other brosephs, brahs, and brosiehs. Get a close-knit community of friends to hang out with and support each other. Leave no bro behind.\\nLots of bros join fraternities in college, but it's not a requirement. Wherever you can, find like-minded male friends that you can bond with on a deep level. That might mean joining a fraternal organization of some kind, but you can also find male friends at work, church, the garage, or school.\\nIntramural sports are great for meeting guys with similar interests. Likewise, if you're a gym rat, hang around the weight room to meet up with lifting buddies. You can have some school bros, some gym bros, a different set for every situation.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn the proper bro-shake.\", \"描述\": \"When two bros meet, they don't shake hands like a couple of preachers. And they certainly don't hug. They bro-shake. It's like a combination hug, high-five, and arm-wrestling match. In other words, perfect for bros.\\nTo execute the bro shake, high-five your friend about chest high, at a 45 degree angle, grasping his hand as if you were about to arm-wrestle. Don't let go. Flex your guns. Think of the bicep-bulging scene in Predator where Schwarzenegger meets Carl Weathers.\\nNext, keeping your hands grasped, use your other hand to pat your bro's back one time, hard, in a half-embrace. Your arm-wreslte hand-shake will still be between you, so it won't be a full on hug. A bro-hug, a bro-shake, whatever you want to call it, it's cool.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be reliable.\", \"描述\": \"You get a call from your good buddies across town, stranded and beaten up after getting in a bar fight? Your date night is over, bro. You need to get in your car and go help out. A good bro is always reliable to be there for his good friends, coming through in a pinch with a helping hand, advice, or the right socket wrench.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Say what you mean.\", \"描述\": \"The world is full of too many complicated things. Conversing with your bros shouldn't be one of them. Communicate openly with your other bros and don't make talking a challenge, full of codes and misconceptions. If you're pissed that your bro borrowed your car and didn't fill it up with gas, say, \\\"Dude, next time fill it up.\\\" If your bro's personal hygiene habits are falling off a bit, all you need to do is say, \\\"Dude, it's called a shower. Take one.\\\" Get to the point, cut to the chase, speak from the heart.\\nDon't get offended when other bros cut you the same courtesy. Be thankful you can have friends who'll tell you what you need to hear without sugar-coating it. Think of it as a BS-free zone, not like your other bros are trying to be rude. Don't take it personally if it's the truth.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Always be rallying.\", \"描述\": \"Just like Joe Montana in the Super Bowl, Andretti at the Indy 500, or Michael Jordan in the playoffs, good bros can't stop and won't stop. Whether you're partying, working out, or plugging through another round of Madden on Xbox, a bro is always coming from behind and charging through the finish line. Work hard to improve your stamina so you can be full of energy, regardless of the situation.\\nPartied a little hard last night, but it's your buddy's birthday tonight? Probably best to make it a nice quiet night in and watch Dancing With the Stars. Kidding. Get off the couch, dude. Pop a Red Bull, take a shower, and get ready to celebrate your bro's most recent trip around the sun.\\nFeeling lazy at the gym? Pump your headphones full of Guns 'n Roses, Eminem, Led Zeppelin, and whatever tunes will get you pumped to work out to your fullest. Don't waste time in the gym. Sweat is just weakness leaving your body.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Find bro inspirations.\", \"描述\": \"Every bro should have some famous bros to look up to, swipe lingo from, and in general idolize as the pinnacles of brodom. 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Make your presence in class epic by answering questions, arguing with the prof, and making your presence known.\\nDon't \\\"go on dates,\\\" go on adventures. Dinner and a movie? That's for regular dudes. Take the cutie from econ white water rafting, or ask the hot barista at your favorite coffee shop to go to a metal concert. Tonight. Take your semi-serious date to the racket-ball court and see what you're made of.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Looking the Part\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Get in shape.\", \"描述\": \"Bros take fitness and health seriously. Proper fitness allows you to defend yourself, compete regularly, and show off your lean physique when you wear those muscle-shirts. Focus on strength training, cardio, and endurance training to lose pounds and get cut. Buy a couple tickets to the gun show, baby.\\n\\nDevelop a workout routine and stick to it a couple times a week. Your energy will improve, and you'll be the best possible version of yourself.\\nYou don't have to be a buff guy to be a bro. If you're small or big, you can find similar bros and bro-down together. You might not be able to make friends at the gym like some other bros, but you can use your other bro traits to make up for it.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Always find a good reason to wear athletic gear.\", \"描述\": \"It's easy, it's cool, and it's versatile. Athletic gear is the uniform on the field and the uniform off the field, for most bros. That means basketball shorts, jerseys, Nike shoes, and gym sandals. If it's comfortable and made for the locker room, then it's made for the streets. 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Typically, they'll be decked in the following attire:\\nLong Dickie's shorts\\nSkate shoes, like Van's or Airwalk\\nFlat-brim hats\\nBlack socks, pulled all the way up\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Try out the country-cowbro look.\", \"描述\": \"City bros are different than country bros. If you've grown up listening to George Jones in the back of your dad's F-150, it's unlikely you'll be running around wearing all the Greek-letter gear. Get real. The cowbro can typically be seen wearing:\\nWranglers, loose-fit\\nJohn Deere caps and shirts, tucked in\\nCowboy boots\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Avoiding Stereotypes\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Drink responsibly\", \"描述\": \"Being able to drink yourself into a blackout isn't a sign that you're a good bro, it's a sign that you've got a drinking problem. While it may be true that bros tend to enjoy a few brews when they get together, it's important to know your limits and stay on the right side of them. 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The Best Ways to Have a Bubbly & Likable Personality
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1. Being Charsmatic
1-1. Shake hands with everyone you meet.
Anytime you meet someone new (or even when you greet someone you have met before), it is a positive and bubbly gesture to shake hands. Make you sure are giving a nice firm and confident handshake. Be sure to make eye contact while you do so!
Practice your handshake at home with friends to be sure you use the right amount of pressure and maintain steady eye contact.
Repeating the person's name as you shake his or her hand is also a good strategy to seem bubbly. For example, when you meet someone new, say their name back to them once or twice before you introduce yourself, such as by saying, "Hi Brian. I'm Shirley. It's nice to meet you Brian!"
1-2. Make small talk with people you don't know.
Chat up your waiter or barista. Say hello to people on the street! Compliment people on the train. Converse with people in the coffee shop or in your class. Remember that you are an important player in the world. Interact with others as much as possible, and let your bright personality shine.
When you feel at a loss for things to say, think of a compliment.
Tell someone you like their sweater, then as a follow up, ask them where they bought it.
Tell someone they have a nice voice.
1-3. Have interesting things prepared to talk about.
Being bubbly means you can talk to anyone and always have something to talk about. Find ways to talk to the people around you. Whether this means people at school, at work, or just people you run into out in the world, try to have a few interesting pieces of small talk ready to go.
Practice a few funny stories from your life.
Listen to podcasts (such as This American Life) to hear interesting conversation points.
Ask questions! Let the other people do the talking for you.
If you find yourself at a party, try to talk to every person there for at least a little bit.
1-4. Try new things.
To cultivate a bubbly and charismatic personality, you must come off as passionate and interesting. One way to accomplish both of these things is to regularly try something new! When you seek out new experiences you stoke your passion for life, and at the same time, you generate lots of interesting things to talk about.
Learn a new language.
Take a trip.
Try a new restaurant.
Study a martial art.
1-5. Make new friends
Your bubbly personality is sure to attract the attention of others. Work on developing a lot of diverse friendships! Whenever you feel a connection with someone, invite them to get lunch or coffee.
You may also consider joining some activities in order to meet some new people.
Try signing up for a class, a sports team, or a craft circle.
1-6. Smile!
A bright smile is one of the most important aspects of a bubbly personality. Studies have shown that even if you are feeling down, forcing yourself to smile can improve your mood! Practice wearing a smile throughout the day. You will exude bubbliness, attract friends, and improve your mood in the process.
1-7. Stick to silly humor rather than deadpan or sarcastic humor.
The type of humor that you use can also make you seem more bubbly. Try to stick to silly humor, such as knock-knock jokes and puns, rather than using sarcastic, dark, or deadpan humor.
Try looking up a few silly jokes to tell to people you encounter throughout the day.
2. Having a Positive Attitude
2-1. Practice being optimistic.
It is a misconception that some people are just naturally positive. In reality, optimism takes practice. You can develop a bubbly personality by working to bolster your optimism.
Become aware of your “self-talk,” or the thoughts that you have about yourself.
Don’t say anything about yourself that you wouldn’t say about a friend.
When you have a negative thought, try to alter it. Instead of thinking, “I’ve never done this before,” try to tell yourself, “This is an opportunity to learn something new.”
Try to be optimistic when you talk with your friends too, such as by pointing out the positive in a situation. For example, if a friend is worried about an upcoming exam, don't join in on worrying about the test with your friend. Instead, you might say something like, "You are a great student! I am confident that you are going to do a great job! But for now, let's enjoy this beautiful day!"
2-2. Avoid complaining.
Negativity leads to more negativity. So even if something is bothering you, try to let it go rather than complaining about it. Complaining only spreads your misery around to others (which is decidedly un-bubbly). Embody a bubbly disposition by breaking the habit of complaint.
If you really need to air your complaints, try writing them down.
Another option is to speak to a therapist.
2-3. Develop some form of stress-relief.
If you want to exude a bubbly disposition, you can’t be hampered down by stress. Find some methods of stress-relief that work for you and practice them regularly.
Get a massage.
Go for a walk.
Diffuse essential oils (like lemon or lavender) in your home or office.
Try to relieve your stress before it even becomes a problem.
2-4. Express your gratitude.
When you feel genuine gratitude in your daily life, it becomes much easier to exude bubbliness. Develop and grow your experience of gratitude by keeping a gratitude journal.
Get a notebook, and write down five things you are grateful for each day.
In time, your gratitude will grow and grow!
2-5. Replace the word “have” with the word “get.”
The chores and monotony of daily life can easily bring you down. You may find yourself grumbling, “I have to go to work,” or, “I have to go to school,” or even, “I have to pay my rent.” But try swapping out just one little word, “have,” for the more positive verb, “get.”
When you say that you “get to go to work,” it reminds you to be grateful that you have a job.
When you say that you “get to pay rent,” it reminds you to be grateful both that you have a place to live, and that you can afford to pay for it.
2-6. Avoid unnecessary drama.
There is a Polish proverb that goes, “Not my monkeys, not my circus.” This saying reminds us that we do not need to engage in the drama of others.
When you encounter conflicts that do not directly involve you, try not to intervene.
Refrain from gossiping! Avoid talking about people behind their backs.
If you are constantly surrounded by the drama of others, consider surrounding yourself with new people.
3. Building Confidence
3-1. Look your best.
In order to be bubbly, you need to feel good about yourself. Take some time each day to look your best: groom yourself, wear clothes that make you feel good, and spend a little time on your hair, make-up, or other beauty rituals. When you take a little time to look your best, you will feel better and attract more positive attention from others.
3-2. Focus on the positive.
Write down a list of things that you like about yourself. This can be anything from your eyes, to the way that you are kind to everyone you meet. Aim to include at least ten attributes on your list. Read this list over daily. It is certain to make you feel good about yourself.
Once you have identified some of your best qualities, aim to let these qualities shine.
For example, if you have beautiful eyes, wear eye makeup that accentuated this.
If you are smart and well-versed in philosophy, practice ways to lead with this in conversation.
3-3. Carry yourself proudly.
Make sure that when you walk, you hold your back straight and pull your shoulders back, maintaining good posture. When you talk to people, look them in the eye and smile when appropriate. These are all good ways to improve your self-confidence and give off a bubbly attitude.
The shape you make with your body also affects your hormonal response.
Simply standing up straight can make you (on a hormonal level) more confident and better at dealing with stress.
3-4. Use daily affirmations.
You can use daily affirmations to and cultivate a bubbly personality. Affirmations are short, positive statements about yourself. You can post these any place that you’ll see each day. You will want to state these affirmations out loud.
Examples include: I am beautiful, I am worthy, I am confident, or I deserve to be happy.
Consider placing these near your bathroom mirror, above your kitchen sink, or any place you will look at them often.
3-5. Take good care of yourself.
Taking good care of yourself includes eating well, drinking water, staying active, and getting enough rest. Taking good care of yourself works to boost your self-esteem (and make you more bubbly) in two ways: first, when you feel cared for, you are more likely to cultivate self-love, and second, when you are in good health, your emotions are more stable.
Focus on eating vegetables, fruit, lean meats, and whole grains.
Avoid sugar, alcohol, and fast food.
Try to sleep 8 hours per night.
Drink at least 8 glasses of water per day.
Aim for at least 30 minutes of physical activity each day, such as kayaking, walking around the block, playing tennis, or dancing to music.
Tips
Try being more adventurous, this is not only fun but it will give you something to talk about. For example you can go to the zoo, play your favorite sports, or even go to an amusement park.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Being Charsmatic\\n1-1. Shake hands with everyone you meet.\\nAnytime you meet someone new (or even when you greet someone you have met before), it is a positive and bubbly gesture to shake hands. Make you sure are giving a nice firm and confident handshake. Be sure to make eye contact while you do so!\\nPractice your handshake at home with friends to be sure you use the right amount of pressure and maintain steady eye contact.\\nRepeating the person's name as you shake his or her hand is also a good strategy to seem bubbly. For example, when you meet someone new, say their name back to them once or twice before you introduce yourself, such as by saying, \\\"Hi Brian. I'm Shirley. It's nice to meet you Brian!\\\"\\n1-2. Make small talk with people you don't know.\\nChat up your waiter or barista. Say hello to people on the street! Compliment people on the train. Converse with people in the coffee shop or in your class. Remember that you are an important player in the world. Interact with others as much as possible, and let your bright personality shine.\\nWhen you feel at a loss for things to say, think of a compliment.\\nTell someone you like their sweater, then as a follow up, ask them where they bought it.\\nTell someone they have a nice voice.\\n1-3. Have interesting things prepared to talk about.\\nBeing bubbly means you can talk to anyone and always have something to talk about. Find ways to talk to the people around you. Whether this means people at school, at work, or just people you run into out in the world, try to have a few interesting pieces of small talk ready to go.\\nPractice a few funny stories from your life.\\nListen to podcasts (such as This American Life) to hear interesting conversation points.\\nAsk questions! Let the other people do the talking for you.\\nIf you find yourself at a party, try to talk to every person there for at least a little bit.\\n1-4. Try new things.\\nTo cultivate a bubbly and charismatic personality, you must come off as passionate and interesting. One way to accomplish both of these things is to regularly try something new! When you seek out new experiences you stoke your passion for life, and at the same time, you generate lots of interesting things to talk about.\\nLearn a new language.\\nTake a trip.\\nTry a new restaurant.\\nStudy a martial art.\\n1-5. Make new friends\\nYour bubbly personality is sure to attract the attention of others. Work on developing a lot of diverse friendships! Whenever you feel a connection with someone, invite them to get lunch or coffee.\\nYou may also consider joining some activities in order to meet some new people.\\nTry signing up for a class, a sports team, or a craft circle.\\n1-6. Smile!\\nA bright smile is one of the most important aspects of a bubbly personality. Studies have shown that even if you are feeling down, forcing yourself to smile can improve your mood! Practice wearing a smile throughout the day. You will exude bubbliness, attract friends, and improve your mood in the process.\\n1-7. Stick to silly humor rather than deadpan or sarcastic humor.\\nThe type of humor that you use can also make you seem more bubbly. Try to stick to silly humor, such as knock-knock jokes and puns, rather than using sarcastic, dark, or deadpan humor. \\nTry looking up a few silly jokes to tell to people you encounter throughout the day.\\n2. Having a Positive Attitude\\n2-1. Practice being optimistic.\\nIt is a misconception that some people are just naturally positive. In reality, optimism takes practice. You can develop a bubbly personality by working to bolster your optimism.\\nBecome aware of your “self-talk,” or the thoughts that you have about yourself.\\nDon’t say anything about yourself that you wouldn’t say about a friend.\\nWhen you have a negative thought, try to alter it. Instead of thinking, “I’ve never done this before,” try to tell yourself, “This is an opportunity to learn something new.”\\nTry to be optimistic when you talk with your friends too, such as by pointing out the positive in a situation. For example, if a friend is worried about an upcoming exam, don't join in on worrying about the test with your friend. Instead, you might say something like, \\\"You are a great student! I am confident that you are going to do a great job! But for now, let's enjoy this beautiful day!\\\"\\n2-2. Avoid complaining.\\nNegativity leads to more negativity. So even if something is bothering you, try to let it go rather than complaining about it. Complaining only spreads your misery around to others (which is decidedly un-bubbly). Embody a bubbly disposition by breaking the habit of complaint. \\nIf you really need to air your complaints, try writing them down.\\nAnother option is to speak to a therapist.\\n2-3. Develop some form of stress-relief.\\nIf you want to exude a bubbly disposition, you can’t be hampered down by stress. Find some methods of stress-relief that work for you and practice them regularly.\\nGet a massage.\\nGo for a walk.\\nDiffuse essential oils (like lemon or lavender) in your home or office.\\nTry to relieve your stress before it even becomes a problem.\\n2-4. Express your gratitude.\\nWhen you feel genuine gratitude in your daily life, it becomes much easier to exude bubbliness. Develop and grow your experience of gratitude by keeping a gratitude journal. \\nGet a notebook, and write down five things you are grateful for each day.\\nIn time, your gratitude will grow and grow!\\n2-5. Replace the word “have” with the word “get.”\\nThe chores and monotony of daily life can easily bring you down. You may find yourself grumbling, “I have to go to work,” or, “I have to go to school,” or even, “I have to pay my rent.” But try swapping out just one little word, “have,” for the more positive verb, “get.” \\nWhen you say that you “get to go to work,” it reminds you to be grateful that you have a job.\\nWhen you say that you “get to pay rent,” it reminds you to be grateful both that you have a place to live, and that you can afford to pay for it.\\n2-6. Avoid unnecessary drama.\\nThere is a Polish proverb that goes, “Not my monkeys, not my circus.” This saying reminds us that we do not need to engage in the drama of others.\\nWhen you encounter conflicts that do not directly involve you, try not to intervene.\\nRefrain from gossiping! Avoid talking about people behind their backs.\\nIf you are constantly surrounded by the drama of others, consider surrounding yourself with new people.\\n3. Building Confidence\\n3-1. Look your best.\\nIn order to be bubbly, you need to feel good about yourself. Take some time each day to look your best: groom yourself, wear clothes that make you feel good, and spend a little time on your hair, make-up, or other beauty rituals. When you take a little time to look your best, you will feel better and attract more positive attention from others.\\n3-2. Focus on the positive.\\nWrite down a list of things that you like about yourself. This can be anything from your eyes, to the way that you are kind to everyone you meet. Aim to include at least ten attributes on your list. Read this list over daily. It is certain to make you feel good about yourself.\\nOnce you have identified some of your best qualities, aim to let these qualities shine.\\nFor example, if you have beautiful eyes, wear eye makeup that accentuated this.\\nIf you are smart and well-versed in philosophy, practice ways to lead with this in conversation.\\n3-3. Carry yourself proudly.\\nMake sure that when you walk, you hold your back straight and pull your shoulders back, maintaining good posture. When you talk to people, look them in the eye and smile when appropriate. These are all good ways to improve your self-confidence and give off a bubbly attitude.\\nThe shape you make with your body also affects your hormonal response.\\nSimply standing up straight can make you (on a hormonal level) more confident and better at dealing with stress.\\n3-4. Use daily affirmations.\\nYou can use daily affirmations to and cultivate a bubbly personality. Affirmations are short, positive statements about yourself. You can post these any place that you’ll see each day. You will want to state these affirmations out loud.\\nExamples include: I am beautiful, I am worthy, I am confident, or I deserve to be happy.\\nConsider placing these near your bathroom mirror, above your kitchen sink, or any place you will look at them often.\\n3-5. Take good care of yourself.\\nTaking good care of yourself includes eating well, drinking water, staying active, and getting enough rest. Taking good care of yourself works to boost your self-esteem (and make you more bubbly) in two ways: first, when you feel cared for, you are more likely to cultivate self-love, and second, when you are in good health, your emotions are more stable.\\nFocus on eating vegetables, fruit, lean meats, and whole grains.\\nAvoid sugar, alcohol, and fast food.\\nTry to sleep 8 hours per night.\\nDrink at least 8 glasses of water per day.\\nAim for at least 30 minutes of physical activity each day, such as kayaking, walking around the block, playing tennis, or dancing to music.\\nTips\\nTry being more adventurous, this is not only fun but it will give you something to talk about. For example you can go to the zoo, play your favorite sports, or even go to an amusement park.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"When you think of a bubbly person, you likely imagine someone with high spirits, someone who is lively, animated, and fun to be around, and someone who is effusive, vivacious, and enthusiastic about life. A bubbly person is someone who appears confident, gives off a positive attitude, and exudes an attractive charisma. Fortunately, with a little patience and a little hard work, a bubbly personality can be carefully cultivated.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Being Charsmatic\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Shake hands with everyone you meet.\", \"描述\": \"Anytime you meet someone new (or even when you greet someone you have met before), it is a positive and bubbly gesture to shake hands. Make you sure are giving a nice firm and confident handshake. Be sure to make eye contact while you do so!\\nPractice your handshake at home with friends to be sure you use the right amount of pressure and maintain steady eye contact.\\nRepeating the person's name as you shake his or her hand is also a good strategy to seem bubbly. For example, when you meet someone new, say their name back to them once or twice before you introduce yourself, such as by saying, \\\"Hi Brian. I'm Shirley. It's nice to meet you Brian!\\\"\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Make small talk with people you don't know.\", \"描述\": \"Chat up your waiter or barista. Say hello to people on the street! Compliment people on the train. Converse with people in the coffee shop or in your class. Remember that you are an important player in the world. Interact with others as much as possible, and let your bright personality shine.\\nWhen you feel at a loss for things to say, think of a compliment.\\nTell someone you like their sweater, then as a follow up, ask them where they bought it.\\nTell someone they have a nice voice.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Have interesting things prepared to talk about.\", \"描述\": \"Being bubbly means you can talk to anyone and always have something to talk about. Find ways to talk to the people around you. Whether this means people at school, at work, or just people you run into out in the world, try to have a few interesting pieces of small talk ready to go.\\nPractice a few funny stories from your life.\\nListen to podcasts (such as This American Life) to hear interesting conversation points.\\nAsk questions! Let the other people do the talking for you.\\nIf you find yourself at a party, try to talk to every person there for at least a little bit.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Try new things.\", \"描述\": \"To cultivate a bubbly and charismatic personality, you must come off as passionate and interesting. One way to accomplish both of these things is to regularly try something new! When you seek out new experiences you stoke your passion for life, and at the same time, you generate lots of interesting things to talk about.\\nLearn a new language.\\nTake a trip.\\nTry a new restaurant.\\nStudy a martial art.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Make new friends\", \"描述\": \"Your bubbly personality is sure to attract the attention of others. Work on developing a lot of diverse friendships! 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1. Looking like a Butch Lesbian
1-1. Wear your hair short.
Butch lesbians usually have short hair. Try shaving parts of your hair, and try a mohawk. You can play with the style. Mohawks can be colored, spiked, and styled different ways.
You don’t have to go for the typical “mullet” look, although shaving the sides of your hair is a good look for a butch lesbian. You could also try a she-mullet look, although that was more common in the 1970s and 1980s. This look is characterized by a short, shaved look on the top and long hair down the nape of the neck, ending about at the shoulders.
Try a shaved head or superbuzz type cut or a crew cut. Try the “Shane” hair style from the “L Word” television show. This hair style is a short shag with multiple layers that is then mussed up with gel. It’s the “I just got out of bed” look.
1-2. Donate or give away your high femme fashion items.
High heels, blouses, low-cut tops and all other traditionally feminine apparel don't fit within the butch aesthetic.
Wear jeans and vests. This will help you get started when it comes to butch fashion. Pull a vest over a graphic t-shirt. Wear colored, skinny jeans, such as in a red hue. Or wear very baggy jeans. You aren’t going to see many butch lesbians in bell bottoms. Wear undershirts and suits.
Give flannel a try. Try wearing combat or work boots. You want to avoid anything that looks too frilly. Baggy t-shirts, the grunge or punk look, are good ways to go.
Wear a beanie, a hoodie, and boxer shorts. Butch lesbians will also be seen wearing suspenders, Oxford shoes, sneakers, leather jackets, black or gray t-shirts, and leather or letter jackets. Choose sturdy fabrics, not silks.
1-3. Wear the right jewelry.
You won’t see many butch lesbians wearing jewelry like you might buy for a female child. They would choose sturdier pieces.
Forget the rainbows, the unicorns, and anything with hearts or flowers. Avoid excessive bling. The Dynasty look is the opposite of what you’re going for here.
Silver jewelry is the best bet, not gold, especially if it’s on leather cuffs. Less is more and simpler is better when it comes to jewelry. Piercings are a better idea – a nose ring, for example, is a great idea. Solid silver or black circles work in the ears.
1-4. Wear a tie.
Butch lesbians like to rock the necktie look. They wear neckties with more than suits; sometimes you will see them wearing a necktie with a t-shirt.
Try wearing a bow tie to mix it up. A bow tie will show your personality, but it still conveys the butch look. Mix it up! Wear the bow tie with a striped shirt. Show your creativity!
Try a clip-on tie if you’re not sure how to tie it. Wearing a tie with a loose knot can be an appealing look for a butch lesbian. However, learning to tie a tie is a good idea.
2. Acting like a Butch Lesbian
2-1. Play sports.
Some of this is a stereotype; really you should just always feel free to be who you are. That being said, there are some sports that are regarded as more “butch” than others.
Archery, softball, boxing, kickboxing, roller derby, and other sports that require muscle or physical strength are good choices.
Avoid country club sports like racquetball and tennis unless you dress butch while playing them. Tennis skirts or ladies wear won’t do the trick. The same is true on the golf course.
2-2. Drink beer or hard liquor.
Always drink in moderation. Be safe. That being said, you want to avoid fruity drinks or anything with umbrellas.
Frozen daiquiris or the like are not very butch. Drinking hard liquor, like whiskey, bourbon, or scotch is.
Better yet, just grab a beer. Avoid drinks that have fruit in the glass or are made with juice mixed into them. Whatever you do, don't drink a Cosmopolitan! How about a Martini instead?
2-3. Pick a physical job.
Butch lesbians can sometimes be found in jobs that defy traditional stereotypes, and sometimes those jobs require physical labor or strength.
Again, you should always do what you prefer and not worry about conforming to some stereotype or expectation of what other people want. However, that being said, you may find butch lesbians more often in some professions.
Police work, firefighting, race car drivers, even the law are all professions that a butch lesbian might gravitate towards.
2-4. Read serious books.
A butch lesbian is unlikely to be spotted reading Danielle Steele or any romance novel at the beach. Stay away from chick lit.
Go for fantasy, spy, or thriller novels, things like Michael Crichton or Stephen King.
Care about serious issues, and read books related to history, politics, or social causes. Don’t be seen reading books that are too frivolous.
2-5. Play an instrument.
You’re likely to see a butch lesbian enjoying or playing music in the metal, rock, hip-hop or similar genres.
Drums and bass or electric guitar are great choices. To go along with the rock genre, try getting a tattoo!
Instruments like flute, violin, harp, cello, violin – really any string instrument – aren’t going to make you look very butch.
2-6. Try out masculine mannerisms.
Masculine mannerisms can be hard to define. Traditional ways of describing masculine mannerisms, such as walking with confidence and stride or not slouching, don't actually tell you anything. In fact, people with feminine gender presentation also exhibit these traits. Instead, if you like how a masculine person carries his or herself, watch how they move, and then try to move like them.
Idealized masculine mannerisms do seem to have something to do with confidence (just as idealized feminine mannerisms have something to do with confidence as well). This means that at the core of moving and feeling like a butch is to have self-confidence while doing it.
Becoming a butch, and moving like one, is all about finding a gender presentation that feels right to you. The confidence that comes with feeling good about yourself and how you look will be visible to those around you in how you carry yourself.
3. Getting a Butch Lesbian Vibe
3-1. Go natural.
A butch lesbian is unlikely to wear a ton of makeup. So forget sparkly eye shadow, pink blush, fake eyelashes, and all of that.
If you wear any makeup, choose black, brown or charcoal liner, akin to what a man in a rock band might wear. This is sometimes known as "guy liner."
Take care of your skin. Wear moisturizer that contains sunscreen every day. But you can forget the rest of the makeup routine.
3-2. Keep your nails short and clean.
Butch lesbians aren’t going to be seen wearing acrylic or gel nails or any kind of colorful nail polish really.
They would especially avoid pastels or glittery colors on the nails. More likely, a butch lesbian would keep her nails short and clean.
Some butch lesbians might paint their nails black. Dark or neutral colors are the best choice if you prefer to do something with your nails.
3-3. Get the right pet.
If you’re a butch lesbian, you’re not going to be carrying around a miniature poodle the size you could fit in a small purse.
You’re more likely to have a larger breed, a mastiff, a Great Dane, a St. Bernard, or the like. And you’re more likely to have a dog than a cat.
Go for a turtle, a snake, or any kind of insect or lizard.
3-4. Figure out which type of butch you want to be.
There are many different categories of being “butch” in lesbian culture. A butch is typically defined as a woman who adopts what are typically considered as masculine characteristics.
A soft butch is a lesbian with a largely androgynous appearance. The soft butch has some feminine traits, and falls somewhere in between a femme and butch.
A sport dyke is a butch lesbian who identifies with being an athlete and is often seen in baseball caps and sporting wear. A stone butch takes the lead in sexual activity and doesn’t worry about getting pleasure herself.
A stud is a term used to describe black butch lesbians.
3-5. Be your charming self.
While butchness can include traditionally masculine ways of behaving, it doesn't have to. Don't be fake or try to pretend to be someone you are not. People should like you for you, not for some fake personality traits.
However, it can be fun and enlightening to explore aspects of your personality that have been hidden away. If you want to explore your butchness, try working on assertiveness. If dressing butch means that you are asserting your preference for clothing, then having a butch personality means that you are assertive in life as well.
Don't limit yourself. The freedom to dress and act as you want to, and not how society wants you to, is at the heart of what it means to be a butch. If you want to wear a suit one day and a dress the next, that is perfectly okay. Your butchness can change from day to day, or minute to minute.
3-6. Think about butchness beyond masculinity and clothing.
There is more to butchness than just clothing and mannerisms. It is also a way of being and a way of belonging in lesbian culture.
Butches have a long and important place in lesbian history and their willingness to push the boundaries of sex and gender was foundational in creating lesbian-identified spaces and communities.
For some, butchness is a way of expressing one's sexuality for the world to see. When you are seen as butch, you are also seen as a lesbian. This can be very empowering for those previously assumed to be straight. It can also help you get a date.
Warnings
Some areas might be less accepting of butch lesbians. Use your head and consider your safety in all situations.
A butch lesbian may be called "sir" by people who don't understand that she is a woman. If this happens to you, you will need to decide how you want to respond.
Be mindful of public restrooms. Some women will mistake you for a man.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Looking like a Butch Lesbian\\n1-1. Wear your hair short.\\nButch lesbians usually have short hair. Try shaving parts of your hair, and try a mohawk. You can play with the style. Mohawks can be colored, spiked, and styled different ways.\\nYou don’t have to go for the typical “mullet” look, although shaving the sides of your hair is a good look for a butch lesbian. You could also try a she-mullet look, although that was more common in the 1970s and 1980s. This look is characterized by a short, shaved look on the top and long hair down the nape of the neck, ending about at the shoulders.\\nTry a shaved head or superbuzz type cut or a crew cut. Try the “Shane” hair style from the “L Word” television show. This hair style is a short shag with multiple layers that is then mussed up with gel. It’s the “I just got out of bed” look.\\n1-2. Donate or give away your high femme fashion items.\\nHigh heels, blouses, low-cut tops and all other traditionally feminine apparel don't fit within the butch aesthetic.\\nWear jeans and vests. This will help you get started when it comes to butch fashion. Pull a vest over a graphic t-shirt. Wear colored, skinny jeans, such as in a red hue. Or wear very baggy jeans. You aren’t going to see many butch lesbians in bell bottoms. Wear undershirts and suits.\\nGive flannel a try. Try wearing combat or work boots. You want to avoid anything that looks too frilly. Baggy t-shirts, the grunge or punk look, are good ways to go.\\nWear a beanie, a hoodie, and boxer shorts. Butch lesbians will also be seen wearing suspenders, Oxford shoes, sneakers, leather jackets, black or gray t-shirts, and leather or letter jackets. Choose sturdy fabrics, not silks.\\n1-3. Wear the right jewelry.\\nYou won’t see many butch lesbians wearing jewelry like you might buy for a female child. They would choose sturdier pieces.\\nForget the rainbows, the unicorns, and anything with hearts or flowers. Avoid excessive bling. The Dynasty look is the opposite of what you’re going for here.\\nSilver jewelry is the best bet, not gold, especially if it’s on leather cuffs. Less is more and simpler is better when it comes to jewelry. Piercings are a better idea – a nose ring, for example, is a great idea. Solid silver or black circles work in the ears.\\n1-4. Wear a tie.\\nButch lesbians like to rock the necktie look. They wear neckties with more than suits; sometimes you will see them wearing a necktie with a t-shirt.\\nTry wearing a bow tie to mix it up. A bow tie will show your personality, but it still conveys the butch look. Mix it up! Wear the bow tie with a striped shirt. Show your creativity!\\nTry a clip-on tie if you’re not sure how to tie it. Wearing a tie with a loose knot can be an appealing look for a butch lesbian. However, learning to tie a tie is a good idea.\\n2. Acting like a Butch Lesbian\\n2-1. Play sports.\\nSome of this is a stereotype; really you should just always feel free to be who you are. That being said, there are some sports that are regarded as more “butch” than others.\\nArchery, softball, boxing, kickboxing, roller derby, and other sports that require muscle or physical strength are good choices.\\nAvoid country club sports like racquetball and tennis unless you dress butch while playing them. Tennis skirts or ladies wear won’t do the trick. The same is true on the golf course.\\n2-2. Drink beer or hard liquor.\\nAlways drink in moderation. Be safe. That being said, you want to avoid fruity drinks or anything with umbrellas.\\nFrozen daiquiris or the like are not very butch. Drinking hard liquor, like whiskey, bourbon, or scotch is.\\nBetter yet, just grab a beer. Avoid drinks that have fruit in the glass or are made with juice mixed into them. Whatever you do, don't drink a Cosmopolitan! How about a Martini instead?\\n2-3. Pick a physical job.\\nButch lesbians can sometimes be found in jobs that defy traditional stereotypes, and sometimes those jobs require physical labor or strength.\\nAgain, you should always do what you prefer and not worry about conforming to some stereotype or expectation of what other people want. However, that being said, you may find butch lesbians more often in some professions.\\nPolice work, firefighting, race car drivers, even the law are all professions that a butch lesbian might gravitate towards.\\n2-4. Read serious books.\\nA butch lesbian is unlikely to be spotted reading Danielle Steele or any romance novel at the beach. Stay away from chick lit.\\nGo for fantasy, spy, or thriller novels, things like Michael Crichton or Stephen King.\\nCare about serious issues, and read books related to history, politics, or social causes. Don’t be seen reading books that are too frivolous.\\n2-5. Play an instrument.\\nYou’re likely to see a butch lesbian enjoying or playing music in the metal, rock, hip-hop or similar genres.\\nDrums and bass or electric guitar are great choices. To go along with the rock genre, try getting a tattoo!\\nInstruments like flute, violin, harp, cello, violin – really any string instrument – aren’t going to make you look very butch.\\n2-6. Try out masculine mannerisms.\\nMasculine mannerisms can be hard to define. Traditional ways of describing masculine mannerisms, such as walking with confidence and stride or not slouching, don't actually tell you anything. In fact, people with feminine gender presentation also exhibit these traits. Instead, if you like how a masculine person carries his or herself, watch how they move, and then try to move like them.\\nIdealized masculine mannerisms do seem to have something to do with confidence (just as idealized feminine mannerisms have something to do with confidence as well). This means that at the core of moving and feeling like a butch is to have self-confidence while doing it.\\nBecoming a butch, and moving like one, is all about finding a gender presentation that feels right to you. The confidence that comes with feeling good about yourself and how you look will be visible to those around you in how you carry yourself.\\n3. Getting a Butch Lesbian Vibe\\n3-1. Go natural.\\nA butch lesbian is unlikely to wear a ton of makeup. So forget sparkly eye shadow, pink blush, fake eyelashes, and all of that.\\nIf you wear any makeup, choose black, brown or charcoal liner, akin to what a man in a rock band might wear. This is sometimes known as \\\"guy liner.\\\"\\nTake care of your skin. Wear moisturizer that contains sunscreen every day. But you can forget the rest of the makeup routine.\\n3-2. Keep your nails short and clean.\\nButch lesbians aren’t going to be seen wearing acrylic or gel nails or any kind of colorful nail polish really.\\nThey would especially avoid pastels or glittery colors on the nails. More likely, a butch lesbian would keep her nails short and clean.\\nSome butch lesbians might paint their nails black. Dark or neutral colors are the best choice if you prefer to do something with your nails.\\n3-3. Get the right pet.\\nIf you’re a butch lesbian, you’re not going to be carrying around a miniature poodle the size you could fit in a small purse.\\nYou’re more likely to have a larger breed, a mastiff, a Great Dane, a St. Bernard, or the like. And you’re more likely to have a dog than a cat.\\nGo for a turtle, a snake, or any kind of insect or lizard.\\n3-4. Figure out which type of butch you want to be.\\nThere are many different categories of being “butch” in lesbian culture. A butch is typically defined as a woman who adopts what are typically considered as masculine characteristics.\\nA soft butch is a lesbian with a largely androgynous appearance. The soft butch has some feminine traits, and falls somewhere in between a femme and butch.\\nA sport dyke is a butch lesbian who identifies with being an athlete and is often seen in baseball caps and sporting wear. A stone butch takes the lead in sexual activity and doesn’t worry about getting pleasure herself.\\nA stud is a term used to describe black butch lesbians.\\n3-5. Be your charming self.\\nWhile butchness can include traditionally masculine ways of behaving, it doesn't have to. Don't be fake or try to pretend to be someone you are not. People should like you for you, not for some fake personality traits.\\nHowever, it can be fun and enlightening to explore aspects of your personality that have been hidden away. If you want to explore your butchness, try working on assertiveness. If dressing butch means that you are asserting your preference for clothing, then having a butch personality means that you are assertive in life as well.\\nDon't limit yourself. The freedom to dress and act as you want to, and not how society wants you to, is at the heart of what it means to be a butch. If you want to wear a suit one day and a dress the next, that is perfectly okay. Your butchness can change from day to day, or minute to minute.\\n3-6. Think about butchness beyond masculinity and clothing.\\nThere is more to butchness than just clothing and mannerisms. It is also a way of being and a way of belonging in lesbian culture.\\nButches have a long and important place in lesbian history and their willingness to push the boundaries of sex and gender was foundational in creating lesbian-identified spaces and communities.\\nFor some, butchness is a way of expressing one's sexuality for the world to see. When you are seen as butch, you are also seen as a lesbian. This can be very empowering for those previously assumed to be straight. It can also help you get a date.\\nWarnings\\nSome areas might be less accepting of butch lesbians. Use your head and consider your safety in all situations.\\nA butch lesbian may be called \\\"sir\\\" by people who don't understand that she is a woman. If this happens to you, you will need to decide how you want to respond.\\nBe mindful of public restrooms. Some women will mistake you for a man.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"A butch is usually defined as a lesbian that presents herself, and dresses, in a masculine way, as opposed to femmes, who present themselves in a more traditionally feminine way. However, the femme-butch division is about more than just presentation; butch women actually present themselves and define \\\"butchness\\\" in a variety of ways. For example, being butch is about traditional masculinity to some, while it is about a whole new category of gender to others. That being said, butch lesbians are often women who adopt what are typically seen as masculine or androgynous characteristics. With gender presentation, it's most important to be yourself and to be comfortable in your own skin. If you want to be seen as a butch lesbian, there are ways you can do so.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Looking like a Butch Lesbian\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Wear your hair short.\", \"描述\": \"Butch lesbians usually have short hair. Try shaving parts of your hair, and try a mohawk. You can play with the style. Mohawks can be colored, spiked, and styled different ways.\\nYou don’t have to go for the typical “mullet” look, although shaving the sides of your hair is a good look for a butch lesbian. You could also try a she-mullet look, although that was more common in the 1970s and 1980s. This look is characterized by a short, shaved look on the top and long hair down the nape of the neck, ending about at the shoulders.\\nTry a shaved head or superbuzz type cut or a crew cut. Try the “Shane” hair style from the “L Word” television show. This hair style is a short shag with multiple layers that is then mussed up with gel. It’s the “I just got out of bed” look.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Donate or give away your high femme fashion items.\", \"描述\": \"High heels, blouses, low-cut tops and all other traditionally feminine apparel don't fit within the butch aesthetic.\\nWear jeans and vests. This will help you get started when it comes to butch fashion. Pull a vest over a graphic t-shirt. Wear colored, skinny jeans, such as in a red hue. Or wear very baggy jeans. You aren’t going to see many butch lesbians in bell bottoms. Wear undershirts and suits.\\nGive flannel a try. Try wearing combat or work boots. You want to avoid anything that looks too frilly. Baggy t-shirts, the grunge or punk look, are good ways to go.\\nWear a beanie, a hoodie, and boxer shorts. Butch lesbians will also be seen wearing suspenders, Oxford shoes, sneakers, leather jackets, black or gray t-shirts, and leather or letter jackets. Choose sturdy fabrics, not silks.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Wear the right jewelry.\", \"描述\": \"You won’t see many butch lesbians wearing jewelry like you might buy for a female child. They would choose sturdier pieces.\\nForget the rainbows, the unicorns, and anything with hearts or flowers. Avoid excessive bling. The Dynasty look is the opposite of what you’re going for here.\\nSilver jewelry is the best bet, not gold, especially if it’s on leather cuffs. Less is more and simpler is better when it comes to jewelry. Piercings are a better idea – a nose ring, for example, is a great idea. Solid silver or black circles work in the ears.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Wear a tie.\", \"描述\": \"Butch lesbians like to rock the necktie look. They wear neckties with more than suits; sometimes you will see them wearing a necktie with a t-shirt.\\nTry wearing a bow tie to mix it up. A bow tie will show your personality, but it still conveys the butch look. Mix it up! Wear the bow tie with a striped shirt. Show your creativity!\\nTry a clip-on tie if you’re not sure how to tie it. Wearing a tie with a loose knot can be an appealing look for a butch lesbian. However, learning to tie a tie is a good idea.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Acting like a Butch Lesbian\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Play sports.\", \"描述\": \"Some of this is a stereotype; really you should just always feel free to be who you are. That being said, there are some sports that are regarded as more “butch” than others.\\nArchery, softball, boxing, kickboxing, roller derby, and other sports that require muscle or physical strength are good choices.\\nAvoid country club sports like racquetball and tennis unless you dress butch while playing them. Tennis skirts or ladies wear won’t do the trick. The same is true on the golf course.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Drink beer or hard liquor.\", \"描述\": \"Always drink in moderation. Be safe. That being said, you want to avoid fruity drinks or anything with umbrellas.\\nFrozen daiquiris or the like are not very butch. Drinking hard liquor, like whiskey, bourbon, or scotch is.\\nBetter yet, just grab a beer. Avoid drinks that have fruit in the glass or are made with juice mixed into them. Whatever you do, don't drink a Cosmopolitan! How about a Martini instead?\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Pick a physical job.\", \"描述\": \"Butch lesbians can sometimes be found in jobs that defy traditional stereotypes, and sometimes those jobs require physical labor or strength.\\nAgain, you should always do what you prefer and not worry about conforming to some stereotype or expectation of what other people want. However, that being said, you may find butch lesbians more often in some professions.\\nPolice work, firefighting, race car drivers, even the law are all professions that a butch lesbian might gravitate towards.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Read serious books.\", \"描述\": \"A butch lesbian is unlikely to be spotted reading Danielle Steele or any romance novel at the beach. Stay away from chick lit.\\nGo for fantasy, spy, or thriller novels, things like Michael Crichton or Stephen King.\\nCare about serious issues, and read books related to history, politics, or social causes. Don’t be seen reading books that are too frivolous.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Play an instrument.\", \"描述\": \"You’re likely to see a butch lesbian enjoying or playing music in the metal, rock, hip-hop or similar genres.\\nDrums and bass or electric guitar are great choices. To go along with the rock genre, try getting a tattoo!\\nInstruments like flute, violin, harp, cello, violin – really any string instrument – aren’t going to make you look very butch.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Try out masculine mannerisms.\", \"描述\": \"Masculine mannerisms can be hard to define. Traditional ways of describing masculine mannerisms, such as walking with confidence and stride or not slouching, don't actually tell you anything. In fact, people with feminine gender presentation also exhibit these traits. Instead, if you like how a masculine person carries his or herself, watch how they move, and then try to move like them.\\nIdealized masculine mannerisms do seem to have something to do with confidence (just as idealized feminine mannerisms have something to do with confidence as well). This means that at the core of moving and feeling like a butch is to have self-confidence while doing it.\\nBecoming a butch, and moving like one, is all about finding a gender presentation that feels right to you. The confidence that comes with feeling good about yourself and how you look will be visible to those around you in how you carry yourself.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Getting a Butch Lesbian Vibe\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Go natural.\", \"描述\": \"A butch lesbian is unlikely to wear a ton of makeup. So forget sparkly eye shadow, pink blush, fake eyelashes, and all of that.\\nIf you wear any makeup, choose black, brown or charcoal liner, akin to what a man in a rock band might wear. This is sometimes known as \\\"guy liner.\\\"\\nTake care of your skin. Wear moisturizer that contains sunscreen every day. 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1. Leading Confidently as CEO
1-1. Embrace your role with confidence and take charge.
The CEO of a company isn't necessarily the founder or even the owner, and they aren’t the same thing as an entrepreneur either, although a CEO can be all of these. Rather, the CEO's job is to run the company—by overseeing financial decisions, resolving imbalances, and keeping things on track for more profitability each and every year.
A great CEO is a combination of an ideas person (like an entrepreneur), willing to take risks and think big; and a hands-on person, eagle-eyed in matters of money and human resources, always willing to dig into the details until everything is perfect.
Remember that great leaders truly know their strengths—and can call on the right strength at the right time.
1-2. Provide a clear corporate vision that defines a specific culture.
To be a truly great CEO, you must exercise control over your company by shaping the workplace environment to be one that has a distinct and palpable culture. In other words, a great leader creates a sense among their employees that they are a part of something truly special, something bigger and more significant than any one part of the whole.
Lay out a succinct and specific list of values that define your corporate culture. Everyone in the company should be able to memorize and internalize these values, and utilize them in their daily work.
For example, you might lay out 5-10 core values. Instead of making them generic like “Treat people with respect,” though, be more specific: “Present our financial services to every client in such a way that they feel heard and valued.”
1-3. Tackle challenges boldly, without a fear of failure.
CEOs are the type of people who try, fail, adjust, and try again. A great leader solves problems and analyzes issues, always driving for results. People who aren’t cut out to be CEOs use a fear of failure as an excuse not to try. Being a CEO is a constant challenge, with high risks and high rewards. If you don’t thrive with your “feet to the fire,” consider other options.
Even if your “Widget 2.0” falls flat with consumers, move confidently forward in developing “Widget 3.0” while learning from your mistakes. Believe you’ll succeed this time, and accept that you’ll be replaced if you keep falling short.
If you’re a student dreaming of becoming a CEO someday, ask yourself how you’ve handled challenges so far. Are you the one who wants the ball when the clock is running out? Do you do your best work in school when the stakes are highest? Have you overcome failures?
1-4. Lead the company on a new course when you know it’s necessary.
As a CEO, it's your job to run the entire business. Though you delegate many of the daily tasks to your subordinates, you're the one with the bird's-eye view who can see the whole pattern of the company as it breathes and changes over time. When course corrections are required, don’t hesitate to act.
You may need to close a factory or relocate operations, for instance, which will obviously impact many people. You should be sympathetic, but at the same time accept that you must do what is best for the entire company.
Use what you can see and know from your unique perspective to communicate your plans and explain your decisions to your workers clearly, plainly, and openly. If they know what your vision for the company is, they'll have a much easier time helping you to realize that vision.
2. Interacting with Your Employees
2-1. Talk and listen to workers to stay connected to the company.
As CEO, you don’t get to sit in your cushy office and let your subordinates deal with everything but the most important decisions. Rather, an effective CEO is always in the thick of things: visiting every department, assisting with any task they are qualified to assist with, speaking to employees, and listening to their feedback. Make sure to always work on your communication skills.
Welcome everyone’s input—ask workers what they need, encourage suggestions for change and improvement, and make it clear that you take the employees seriously. However, always keep it clear that you are the final authority.
Provide avenues for anonymous feedback—such as webforms or the old-fashioned suggestion box—but also give opportunities for employees to come in and talk to you directly.
2-2. Earn trust and show respect so people want to follow you.
A CEO can’t be a good leader if other people don’t want to follow them. Employees want someone they can trust and respect leading the way. Stick to your principles, be true to your word, and treat others the way you wish to be treated.
If, for example, you insist that inappropriate behavior won’t be tolerated, follow through and refuse to tolerate it. If you claim to care what other people think, listen to them when they have something to say.
2-3. Set high expectations for your workers, but accept mistakes.
Show them that the company believes in them enough to let them keep trying until they make it–as long as they are good enough at their jobs to make it in a big way when they do. Encourage productivity by encouraging risk-taking and personal judgment calls. You always have the last word if something is a poor fit for the business.
To succeed in your job as the CEO, you must be willing to trust your people to do their jobs. Make sure you have the right people in the proper roles, then give them the space to support the greater good of the company.
People who learn and improve from mistakes are in the right jobs; people who don’t need to be reassigned or replaced.
2-4. Develop a thick skin, but don’t ignore criticism.
As a CEO, you’ll be a natural target for criticism from people both inside and outside your business. Employees, board members, shareholders, analysts, and competitors will all express doubts and level critiques at you. To be successful, you have to be able to brush off the sting of criticisms without ignoring any kernels of truth that may exist within them.
For example, if someone criticizes you for being too inflexible, are you able to set aside any self-doubt about your ability to be a leader? And, at the same time, are you self-aware and self-confident enough to re-evaluate your strategies as needed?
3. Staying Motivated and Up-To-Speed
3-1. Delegate tasks without becoming distant from day-to-day operations.
As CEO, you need to trust your lieutenants and workers to fulfill your vision without your direct guidance. At the same time, you must remain up-to-date with the operations of your company. No matter what business you’re in, technologies, markets, consumers, and competitors can change rapidly—make sure you (and your company) don’t fall behind the curve.
Delegate tasks and authority as necessary, but don’t lose sight of how things are being done. Stay informed and involved so you can jump in and make adjustments or changes when needed.
For instance, it’s not your job as CEO to design the company’s website, but you should remain aware enough about consumer preferences and your competition to guide changes and improvements.
3-2. Draw from the experience of working your way up the ladder.
Most CEOs attain their position after many years–sometimes decades–in the same industry, or even at the same company. Once you reach the top, don't forget your roots. Use all that you know about your business to run it as efficiently as possible.
For example, use your experience to recognize differences between written policy and practical ground rules; utilize connections who can give you insight into places you're no longer closely connected to; and anticipate the attitudes and beliefs of lower-level employees about the business.
3-3. Show curiosity and question standard procedures.
A good CEO always wants to know why things are the way they are, and if they can be improved. If you ever hear the phrase “that’s the way things are done around here,” your automatic reply should always be “Why?” No matter what situation you’re in, ask questions, get answers, and ask more questions—feed your curiosity.
Maintain your curiosity about people as well. Ask them what their goals are, what they need, what excites or frustrates them, and so on. A good CEO must excel at “reading” people.
3-4. Keep innovating and improving, and keep earning your position.
Above all else, once you become a CEO, your business is the future of the company. You must be adept at thinking several moves (or years) ahead, seeing around the next corner, and guessing what the future will hold. Never forget that, if you become complacent, there are plenty of qualified replacements out there ready to take over your role.
Stay abreast of trends and always think about your company's place in the business world at large. How can you stay king of the hill? If you're not, how can you knock the other guy out of the top spot?
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If you want to become a CEO, you need to perform well in school. Many CEOs complete an undergraduate degree first, work for several years as an employee, rise through the ranks, and then return to an MBA program to earn a graduate degree.[14]
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As an aspiring CEO, you should build up a strong base of financial knowledge. If you aren't majoring in accounting, economics, or finance, take plenty of elective courses in those areas. Once you're a part of the workforce, take advantage every opportunity your company offers to increase your financial knowledge with seminars, special classes, and other events.[15]
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Network and build professional connections early and often if you want to become a CEO. During college, attend business seminars and networking events whenever you can. Apply for internships where you can show off your leadership skills and willingness to work hard.[16]
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Leading Confidently as CEO\\n1-1. Embrace your role with confidence and take charge.\\nThe CEO of a company isn't necessarily the founder or even the owner, and they aren’t the same thing as an entrepreneur either, although a CEO can be all of these. Rather, the CEO's job is to run the company—by overseeing financial decisions, resolving imbalances, and keeping things on track for more profitability each and every year.\\nA great CEO is a combination of an ideas person (like an entrepreneur), willing to take risks and think big; and a hands-on person, eagle-eyed in matters of money and human resources, always willing to dig into the details until everything is perfect.\\nRemember that great leaders truly know their strengths—and can call on the right strength at the right time.\\n1-2. Provide a clear corporate vision that defines a specific culture.\\nTo be a truly great CEO, you must exercise control over your company by shaping the workplace environment to be one that has a distinct and palpable culture. In other words, a great leader creates a sense among their employees that they are a part of something truly special, something bigger and more significant than any one part of the whole.\\nLay out a succinct and specific list of values that define your corporate culture. Everyone in the company should be able to memorize and internalize these values, and utilize them in their daily work.\\nFor example, you might lay out 5-10 core values. Instead of making them generic like “Treat people with respect,” though, be more specific: “Present our financial services to every client in such a way that they feel heard and valued.”\\n1-3. Tackle challenges boldly, without a fear of failure.\\nCEOs are the type of people who try, fail, adjust, and try again. A great leader solves problems and analyzes issues, always driving for results. People who aren’t cut out to be CEOs use a fear of failure as an excuse not to try. Being a CEO is a constant challenge, with high risks and high rewards. If you don’t thrive with your “feet to the fire,” consider other options.\\nEven if your “Widget 2.0” falls flat with consumers, move confidently forward in developing “Widget 3.0” while learning from your mistakes. Believe you’ll succeed this time, and accept that you’ll be replaced if you keep falling short.\\nIf you’re a student dreaming of becoming a CEO someday, ask yourself how you’ve handled challenges so far. Are you the one who wants the ball when the clock is running out? Do you do your best work in school when the stakes are highest? Have you overcome failures?\\n1-4. Lead the company on a new course when you know it’s necessary.\\nAs a CEO, it's your job to run the entire business. Though you delegate many of the daily tasks to your subordinates, you're the one with the bird's-eye view who can see the whole pattern of the company as it breathes and changes over time. When course corrections are required, don’t hesitate to act.\\nYou may need to close a factory or relocate operations, for instance, which will obviously impact many people. You should be sympathetic, but at the same time accept that you must do what is best for the entire company.\\nUse what you can see and know from your unique perspective to communicate your plans and explain your decisions to your workers clearly, plainly, and openly. If they know what your vision for the company is, they'll have a much easier time helping you to realize that vision.\\n2. Interacting with Your Employees\\n2-1. Talk and listen to workers to stay connected to the company.\\nAs CEO, you don’t get to sit in your cushy office and let your subordinates deal with everything but the most important decisions. Rather, an effective CEO is always in the thick of things: visiting every department, assisting with any task they are qualified to assist with, speaking to employees, and listening to their feedback. Make sure to always work on your communication skills.\\nWelcome everyone’s input—ask workers what they need, encourage suggestions for change and improvement, and make it clear that you take the employees seriously. However, always keep it clear that you are the final authority.\\nProvide avenues for anonymous feedback—such as webforms or the old-fashioned suggestion box—but also give opportunities for employees to come in and talk to you directly.\\n2-2. Earn trust and show respect so people want to follow you.\\nA CEO can’t be a good leader if other people don’t want to follow them. Employees want someone they can trust and respect leading the way. Stick to your principles, be true to your word, and treat others the way you wish to be treated.\\nIf, for example, you insist that inappropriate behavior won’t be tolerated, follow through and refuse to tolerate it. If you claim to care what other people think, listen to them when they have something to say.\\n2-3. Set high expectations for your workers, but accept mistakes.\\nShow them that the company believes in them enough to let them keep trying until they make it–as long as they are good enough at their jobs to make it in a big way when they do. Encourage productivity by encouraging risk-taking and personal judgment calls. You always have the last word if something is a poor fit for the business.\\nTo succeed in your job as the CEO, you must be willing to trust your people to do their jobs. Make sure you have the right people in the proper roles, then give them the space to support the greater good of the company.\\nPeople who learn and improve from mistakes are in the right jobs; people who don’t need to be reassigned or replaced.\\n2-4. Develop a thick skin, but don’t ignore criticism.\\nAs a CEO, you’ll be a natural target for criticism from people both inside and outside your business. Employees, board members, shareholders, analysts, and competitors will all express doubts and level critiques at you. To be successful, you have to be able to brush off the sting of criticisms without ignoring any kernels of truth that may exist within them.\\nFor example, if someone criticizes you for being too inflexible, are you able to set aside any self-doubt about your ability to be a leader? And, at the same time, are you self-aware and self-confident enough to re-evaluate your strategies as needed?\\n3. Staying Motivated and Up-To-Speed\\n3-1. Delegate tasks without becoming distant from day-to-day operations.\\nAs CEO, you need to trust your lieutenants and workers to fulfill your vision without your direct guidance. At the same time, you must remain up-to-date with the operations of your company. No matter what business you’re in, technologies, markets, consumers, and competitors can change rapidly—make sure you (and your company) don’t fall behind the curve.\\nDelegate tasks and authority as necessary, but don’t lose sight of how things are being done. Stay informed and involved so you can jump in and make adjustments or changes when needed.\\nFor instance, it’s not your job as CEO to design the company’s website, but you should remain aware enough about consumer preferences and your competition to guide changes and improvements.\\n3-2. Draw from the experience of working your way up the ladder.\\nMost CEOs attain their position after many years–sometimes decades–in the same industry, or even at the same company. Once you reach the top, don't forget your roots. Use all that you know about your business to run it as efficiently as possible.\\nFor example, use your experience to recognize differences between written policy and practical ground rules; utilize connections who can give you insight into places you're no longer closely connected to; and anticipate the attitudes and beliefs of lower-level employees about the business.\\n3-3. Show curiosity and question standard procedures.\\nA good CEO always wants to know why things are the way they are, and if they can be improved. If you ever hear the phrase “that’s the way things are done around here,” your automatic reply should always be “Why?” No matter what situation you’re in, ask questions, get answers, and ask more questions—feed your curiosity.\\nMaintain your curiosity about people as well. Ask them what their goals are, what they need, what excites or frustrates them, and so on. A good CEO must excel at “reading” people.\\n3-4. Keep innovating and improving, and keep earning your position.\\nAbove all else, once you become a CEO, your business is the future of the company. You must be adept at thinking several moves (or years) ahead, seeing around the next corner, and guessing what the future will hold. Never forget that, if you become complacent, there are plenty of qualified replacements out there ready to take over your role.\\nStay abreast of trends and always think about your company's place in the business world at large. How can you stay king of the hill? If you're not, how can you knock the other guy out of the top spot?\\nTips\\nIf you want to become a CEO, you need to perform well in school. Many CEOs complete an undergraduate degree first, work for several years as an employee, rise through the ranks, and then return to an MBA program to earn a graduate degree.[14]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nAs an aspiring CEO, you should build up a strong base of financial knowledge. If you aren't majoring in accounting, economics, or finance, take plenty of elective courses in those areas. Once you're a part of the workforce, take advantage every opportunity your company offers to increase your financial knowledge with seminars, special classes, and other events.[15]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nNetwork and build professional connections early and often if you want to become a CEO. During college, attend business seminars and networking events whenever you can. Apply for internships where you can show off your leadership skills and willingness to work hard.[16]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Becoming a CEO doesn't happen overnight. CEOs work their way through the ranks and rise to the top thanks to a combination of hard work, perseverance, and traits and qualities that make them a top-notch business leader. Once you achieve your goal of becoming a CEO, though, your work is far from done—you must keep improving all the time to maintain your perch at the top!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Leading Confidently as CEO\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Embrace your role with confidence and take charge.\", \"描述\": \"The CEO of a company isn't necessarily the founder or even the owner, and they aren’t the same thing as an entrepreneur either, although a CEO can be all of these. Rather, the CEO's job is to run the company—by overseeing financial decisions, resolving imbalances, and keeping things on track for more profitability each and every year.\\nA great CEO is a combination of an ideas person (like an entrepreneur), willing to take risks and think big; and a hands-on person, eagle-eyed in matters of money and human resources, always willing to dig into the details until everything is perfect.\\nRemember that great leaders truly know their strengths—and can call on the right strength at the right time.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Provide a clear corporate vision that defines a specific culture.\", \"描述\": \"To be a truly great CEO, you must exercise control over your company by shaping the workplace environment to be one that has a distinct and palpable culture. In other words, a great leader creates a sense among their employees that they are a part of something truly special, something bigger and more significant than any one part of the whole.\\nLay out a succinct and specific list of values that define your corporate culture. Everyone in the company should be able to memorize and internalize these values, and utilize them in their daily work.\\nFor example, you might lay out 5-10 core values. Instead of making them generic like “Treat people with respect,” though, be more specific: “Present our financial services to every client in such a way that they feel heard and valued.”\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Tackle challenges boldly, without a fear of failure.\", \"描述\": \"CEOs are the type of people who try, fail, adjust, and try again. A great leader solves problems and analyzes issues, always driving for results. People who aren’t cut out to be CEOs use a fear of failure as an excuse not to try. Being a CEO is a constant challenge, with high risks and high rewards. If you don’t thrive with your “feet to the fire,” consider other options.\\nEven if your “Widget 2.0” falls flat with consumers, move confidently forward in developing “Widget 3.0” while learning from your mistakes. Believe you’ll succeed this time, and accept that you’ll be replaced if you keep falling short.\\nIf you’re a student dreaming of becoming a CEO someday, ask yourself how you’ve handled challenges so far. Are you the one who wants the ball when the clock is running out? Do you do your best work in school when the stakes are highest? Have you overcome failures?\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Lead the company on a new course when you know it’s necessary.\", \"描述\": \"As a CEO, it's your job to run the entire business. Though you delegate many of the daily tasks to your subordinates, you're the one with the bird's-eye view who can see the whole pattern of the company as it breathes and changes over time. When course corrections are required, don’t hesitate to act.\\nYou may need to close a factory or relocate operations, for instance, which will obviously impact many people. You should be sympathetic, but at the same time accept that you must do what is best for the entire company.\\nUse what you can see and know from your unique perspective to communicate your plans and explain your decisions to your workers clearly, plainly, and openly. If they know what your vision for the company is, they'll have a much easier time helping you to realize that vision.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Interacting with Your Employees\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Talk and listen to workers to stay connected to the company.\", \"描述\": \"As CEO, you don’t get to sit in your cushy office and let your subordinates deal with everything but the most important decisions. Rather, an effective CEO is always in the thick of things: visiting every department, assisting with any task they are qualified to assist with, speaking to employees, and listening to their feedback. Make sure to always work on your communication skills.\\nWelcome everyone’s input—ask workers what they need, encourage suggestions for change and improvement, and make it clear that you take the employees seriously. However, always keep it clear that you are the final authority.\\nProvide avenues for anonymous feedback—such as webforms or the old-fashioned suggestion box—but also give opportunities for employees to come in and talk to you directly.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Earn trust and show respect so people want to follow you.\", \"描述\": \"A CEO can’t be a good leader if other people don’t want to follow them. Employees want someone they can trust and respect leading the way. Stick to your principles, be true to your word, and treat others the way you wish to be treated.\\nIf, for example, you insist that inappropriate behavior won’t be tolerated, follow through and refuse to tolerate it. If you claim to care what other people think, listen to them when they have something to say.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Set high expectations for your workers, but accept mistakes.\", \"描述\": \"Show them that the company believes in them enough to let them keep trying until they make it–as long as they are good enough at their jobs to make it in a big way when they do. Encourage productivity by encouraging risk-taking and personal judgment calls. You always have the last word if something is a poor fit for the business.\\nTo succeed in your job as the CEO, you must be willing to trust your people to do their jobs. Make sure you have the right people in the proper roles, then give them the space to support the greater good of the company.\\nPeople who learn and improve from mistakes are in the right jobs; people who don’t need to be reassigned or replaced.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Develop a thick skin, but don’t ignore criticism.\", \"描述\": \"As a CEO, you’ll be a natural target for criticism from people both inside and outside your business. Employees, board members, shareholders, analysts, and competitors will all express doubts and level critiques at you. To be successful, you have to be able to brush off the sting of criticisms without ignoring any kernels of truth that may exist within them.\\nFor example, if someone criticizes you for being too inflexible, are you able to set aside any self-doubt about your ability to be a leader? 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Stay informed and involved so you can jump in and make adjustments or changes when needed.\\nFor instance, it’s not your job as CEO to design the company’s website, but you should remain aware enough about consumer preferences and your competition to guide changes and improvements.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Draw from the experience of working your way up the ladder.\", \"描述\": \"Most CEOs attain their position after many years–sometimes decades–in the same industry, or even at the same company. Once you reach the top, don't forget your roots. Use all that you know about your business to run it as efficiently as possible.\\nFor example, use your experience to recognize differences between written policy and practical ground rules; utilize connections who can give you insight into places you're no longer closely connected to; and anticipate the attitudes and beliefs of lower-level employees about the business.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Show curiosity and question standard procedures.\", \"描述\": \"A good CEO always wants to know why things are the way they are, and if they can be improved. If you ever hear the phrase “that’s the way things are done around here,” your automatic reply should always be “Why?” No matter what situation you’re in, ask questions, get answers, and ask more questions—feed your curiosity.\\nMaintain your curiosity about people as well. Ask them what their goals are, what they need, what excites or frustrates them, and so on. 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1. Dressing like a California Girl
1-1. Look for fun swimwear.
California girls are known for their love of the beach and are often seen wearing fun bikinis and one pieces, especially in the southern half of the state. Mix and match your bikinis, pairing a bold graphic top with a more neutral bottom. You can also go for one piece suits with bold graphics on it that evoke California, like the Hollywood sign or a beach scene.
You can also wear your swimwear off the beach by wearing a cover up and jean shorts or a summer dress over your bikini. This way you will always be prepared for a spur of the moment dip in the ocean.
1-2. Invest in several pairs of jeans.
The California girl aesthetic is often described as laid back, chill, and casual. Jeans are a staple of a laid back style, so invest in several pairs of jeans, from skinny jeans to wide leg jeans and boyfriend fit jeans.
You should also look for jeans that are distressed or ripped to create a more laid back vibe.
1-3. Shop for vintage kimonos and cover ups.
Kimonos are great layering pieces that can be worn over a vintage band t-shirt and jeans shorts for a casual day out or over a long summer dress for date night. Look for kimonos made of interesting prints at flea markets and vintage stores.
You can also look for cover ups in the form of jean vests or button up shirts that you can then layer over a bikini or a vintage t shirt for the ultimate California look.
1-4. Get comfortable sneakers, flip-flops, or flats.
Many California girls will choose comfort every time, with a preference for Converse sneakers, flat sandals, or close toed flats. You can pair your Converse sneakers with jeans and a t-shirt or jean shorts, a bikini top, and a kimono. You can also wear flat sandals with summer dresses for a relaxed date night look.
1-5. Look for desert boots and wedge heels.
If you are looking for a more dressy California girl look, you can pair desert books with a long print skirt or a long print dress. You can also wear wedge heels to give your outfit a bit more of a formal look, while still remaining laid back and very California.
1-6. Accessorize with interesting jewellery and hats.
Because the California girl style can be so relaxed and chill, you can use accessories like jewellery and hats to still feel put together. Look for delicate gold jewellery, such as thin rings, thin bangles, or stud earrings. Integrate color into your jewellery by going for turquoise rings and bracelets.
Many California girls also like to wear straw hats or wide brimmed hats. Baseball caps are also good for casual days out at the beach when you want to keep the sun out of your eyes.
2. Doing Your Hair and Make up like a California Girl
2-1. Do the beachy long haired look.
Many California girls have a seemingly effortless beachy hair look from swimming in the ocean all day long. You can create this look at home with a few styling tools, no ocean water necessary.
Start with damp hair, straight out of the shower. Create a rectangle with your hair at the front of your head. Make sure the rectangle extends from the end of one eyebrow to the end of your other eyebrow and four inches back from your hairline.
Use volumizer spray on the roots of your hair and blow dry your hair using a round brush. Move the brush straight and upward to create a tousled look.
Once you finish drying your hair, use three fingers to twist the rectangle section so it forms a pin curl and pin it with a bobby pin. Let the section cool as you spray sea salt on your hair. Tousle your hair with your fingers.
Remove the pin and let the curl fall over your face. Use dry shampoo on the roots of the rectangle section and flip most of the section to one side. This should form a side part that goes from the arch of your eyebrow and angles toward the crown of your head.
2-2. Try the messy top knot.
This is the go to style for many California girls, especially after a long day at the beach when their hair is still damp with salt water. It can also be done at home with the aid of damp hair from a shower and styling mousse.
Apply two dollops of styling mousse to dry hair or start with damp hair. Use your fingers to apply the mousse from the roots of your hair to the ends.
Flip your hair over and dry your hair with a blow dryer, using your fingers to roughly blow it out. Dry it until there are no stiff pieces and the mousse is completely dry. If you are using damp hair for this style, you can skip this step.
While your hair is still upside down, pull your hair together into a ponytail at the very top of your head. Use a hair tie to secure the ponytail and flip your head back up. Divide the ponytail into two sections and twist each section until they come together. Secure the sections at the base of the ponytail with bobby pins.
Finish with a few spritzes of salt spray.
2-3. Do minimal eye and lip make up.
Keep your face minimal by using a few products on your face. Apply waterproof mascara and minimal foundation so your skin looks natural and fresh. Then, apply a light tint of eyeshadow and lip gloss or lip tint in a warm pink to finish the relaxed California look.
2-4. Use bronzer for a sunkissed look.
Get the ultimate California look by “tanning” your skin tone with bronzer. Use a big make up brush to apply bronzer on your hairline, temples, chin, and jawline. Do one to two swoops of bronzer and do not over do the bronzer, as you do not want your skin tone to look too dark and unnatural.
Finish by applying bronzer to your neck and chest, including your collarbones, as well as your shoulders and your shins. This will give you a full body sun kissed look.
Another option is to try self tanner so you have a nice, even tan. However, self tanner can look fake and unnatural if it is applied poorly.
3. Acting like a California Girl
3-1. Explore the outdoors with friends and family.
California girls are known for their love of the outdoors, especially due to access to many beautiful beaches and national parks. You can embrace this love of the outdoors by making an effort to explore the natural areas where you live on your own, with family, or with friends. This could be weekly hikes, a daily walk in a park nearby, or even a surfing trip to a coastal area with friends. Focus on emulating the California girl way of connecting with nature.
3-2. Head to the beach for a tan and a swim.
Get the California girl look the natural way by going to the beach for a long swim in the ocean and a tanning session in the sun. If you do not live near the ocean, you can spend time tanning outside in your backyard during a warm day or swim in a lake close to your home. Maybe you’re lucky enough to have a pool or a friend with a pool, where you can try the California lifestyle of relaxing by the water.
Always wear sunscreen before going in the sun or in the water.
3-3. Dine like a Californian.
California cuisine is known for its "fusion" approach and for its focus on natural, locally grown ingredients including fresh (often lightly cooked) vegetables, fresh fruits, and seafood. California is also known for Mexican food like burritos and tacos, Japanese food like sushi and sashimi, and anything made with avocado. You may also show a preference for In-N-Out burgers, a popular burger chain in California.
3-4. Decorate your home in the California aesthetic.
Embrace the California vibes by decorating your room or your home with the laid back aesthetic of California. This means combining new furniture with vintage furniture and focusing on keeping the space open and calming. You can also choose furnishings that are light or dark wood and then adding pops of color in the frames on the walls or the light fixtures in the rooms.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Dressing like a California Girl\\n1-1. Look for fun swimwear.\\nCalifornia girls are known for their love of the beach and are often seen wearing fun bikinis and one pieces, especially in the southern half of the state. Mix and match your bikinis, pairing a bold graphic top with a more neutral bottom. You can also go for one piece suits with bold graphics on it that evoke California, like the Hollywood sign or a beach scene.\\nYou can also wear your swimwear off the beach by wearing a cover up and jean shorts or a summer dress over your bikini. This way you will always be prepared for a spur of the moment dip in the ocean.\\n1-2. Invest in several pairs of jeans.\\nThe California girl aesthetic is often described as laid back, chill, and casual. Jeans are a staple of a laid back style, so invest in several pairs of jeans, from skinny jeans to wide leg jeans and boyfriend fit jeans.\\nYou should also look for jeans that are distressed or ripped to create a more laid back vibe.\\n1-3. Shop for vintage kimonos and cover ups.\\nKimonos are great layering pieces that can be worn over a vintage band t-shirt and jeans shorts for a casual day out or over a long summer dress for date night. Look for kimonos made of interesting prints at flea markets and vintage stores.\\nYou can also look for cover ups in the form of jean vests or button up shirts that you can then layer over a bikini or a vintage t shirt for the ultimate California look.\\n1-4. Get comfortable sneakers, flip-flops, or flats.\\nMany California girls will choose comfort every time, with a preference for Converse sneakers, flat sandals, or close toed flats. You can pair your Converse sneakers with jeans and a t-shirt or jean shorts, a bikini top, and a kimono. You can also wear flat sandals with summer dresses for a relaxed date night look.\\n1-5. Look for desert boots and wedge heels.\\nIf you are looking for a more dressy California girl look, you can pair desert books with a long print skirt or a long print dress. You can also wear wedge heels to give your outfit a bit more of a formal look, while still remaining laid back and very California.\\n1-6. Accessorize with interesting jewellery and hats.\\nBecause the California girl style can be so relaxed and chill, you can use accessories like jewellery and hats to still feel put together. Look for delicate gold jewellery, such as thin rings, thin bangles, or stud earrings. Integrate color into your jewellery by going for turquoise rings and bracelets.\\nMany California girls also like to wear straw hats or wide brimmed hats. Baseball caps are also good for casual days out at the beach when you want to keep the sun out of your eyes.\\n2. Doing Your Hair and Make up like a California Girl\\n2-1. Do the beachy long haired look.\\nMany California girls have a seemingly effortless beachy hair look from swimming in the ocean all day long. You can create this look at home with a few styling tools, no ocean water necessary.\\nStart with damp hair, straight out of the shower. Create a rectangle with your hair at the front of your head. Make sure the rectangle extends from the end of one eyebrow to the end of your other eyebrow and four inches back from your hairline.\\nUse volumizer spray on the roots of your hair and blow dry your hair using a round brush. Move the brush straight and upward to create a tousled look.\\nOnce you finish drying your hair, use three fingers to twist the rectangle section so it forms a pin curl and pin it with a bobby pin. Let the section cool as you spray sea salt on your hair. Tousle your hair with your fingers.\\nRemove the pin and let the curl fall over your face. Use dry shampoo on the roots of the rectangle section and flip most of the section to one side. This should form a side part that goes from the arch of your eyebrow and angles toward the crown of your head.\\n2-2. Try the messy top knot.\\nThis is the go to style for many California girls, especially after a long day at the beach when their hair is still damp with salt water. It can also be done at home with the aid of damp hair from a shower and styling mousse.\\nApply two dollops of styling mousse to dry hair or start with damp hair. Use your fingers to apply the mousse from the roots of your hair to the ends.\\nFlip your hair over and dry your hair with a blow dryer, using your fingers to roughly blow it out. Dry it until there are no stiff pieces and the mousse is completely dry. If you are using damp hair for this style, you can skip this step.\\nWhile your hair is still upside down, pull your hair together into a ponytail at the very top of your head. Use a hair tie to secure the ponytail and flip your head back up. Divide the ponytail into two sections and twist each section until they come together. Secure the sections at the base of the ponytail with bobby pins.\\nFinish with a few spritzes of salt spray.\\n2-3. Do minimal eye and lip make up.\\nKeep your face minimal by using a few products on your face. Apply waterproof mascara and minimal foundation so your skin looks natural and fresh. Then, apply a light tint of eyeshadow and lip gloss or lip tint in a warm pink to finish the relaxed California look.\\n2-4. Use bronzer for a sunkissed look.\\nGet the ultimate California look by “tanning” your skin tone with bronzer. Use a big make up brush to apply bronzer on your hairline, temples, chin, and jawline. Do one to two swoops of bronzer and do not over do the bronzer, as you do not want your skin tone to look too dark and unnatural.\\nFinish by applying bronzer to your neck and chest, including your collarbones, as well as your shoulders and your shins. This will give you a full body sun kissed look.\\nAnother option is to try self tanner so you have a nice, even tan. However, self tanner can look fake and unnatural if it is applied poorly.\\n3. Acting like a California Girl\\n3-1. Explore the outdoors with friends and family.\\nCalifornia girls are known for their love of the outdoors, especially due to access to many beautiful beaches and national parks. You can embrace this love of the outdoors by making an effort to explore the natural areas where you live on your own, with family, or with friends. This could be weekly hikes, a daily walk in a park nearby, or even a surfing trip to a coastal area with friends. Focus on emulating the California girl way of connecting with nature.\\n3-2. Head to the beach for a tan and a swim.\\nGet the California girl look the natural way by going to the beach for a long swim in the ocean and a tanning session in the sun. If you do not live near the ocean, you can spend time tanning outside in your backyard during a warm day or swim in a lake close to your home. Maybe you’re lucky enough to have a pool or a friend with a pool, where you can try the California lifestyle of relaxing by the water.\\nAlways wear sunscreen before going in the sun or in the water.\\n3-3. Dine like a Californian.\\nCalifornia cuisine is known for its \\\"fusion\\\" approach and for its focus on natural, locally grown ingredients including fresh (often lightly cooked) vegetables, fresh fruits, and seafood. California is also known for Mexican food like burritos and tacos, Japanese food like sushi and sashimi, and anything made with avocado. You may also show a preference for In-N-Out burgers, a popular burger chain in California.\\n3-4. Decorate your home in the California aesthetic.\\nEmbrace the California vibes by decorating your room or your home with the laid back aesthetic of California. This means combining new furniture with vintage furniture and focusing on keeping the space open and calming. You can also choose furnishings that are light or dark wood and then adding pops of color in the frames on the walls or the light fixtures in the rooms.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"The Beach Boys sang in their famous song, “California Girls”, “I wish they all could be California girls”. The image of the California girl is often portrayed as blonde, sun kissed, and always clad in a bikini. But you can create your own image of the California girl by dressing in a relaxed and beach ready style, doing your hair and make up to create a tanned look, and acting like a California girl by being adventurous and in touch with nature.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Dressing like a California Girl\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Look for fun swimwear.\", \"描述\": \"California girls are known for their love of the beach and are often seen wearing fun bikinis and one pieces, especially in the southern half of the state. Mix and match your bikinis, pairing a bold graphic top with a more neutral bottom. You can also go for one piece suits with bold graphics on it that evoke California, like the Hollywood sign or a beach scene.\\nYou can also wear your swimwear off the beach by wearing a cover up and jean shorts or a summer dress over your bikini. This way you will always be prepared for a spur of the moment dip in the ocean.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Invest in several pairs of jeans.\", \"描述\": \"The California girl aesthetic is often described as laid back, chill, and casual. Jeans are a staple of a laid back style, so invest in several pairs of jeans, from skinny jeans to wide leg jeans and boyfriend fit jeans.\\nYou should also look for jeans that are distressed or ripped to create a more laid back vibe.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Shop for vintage kimonos and cover ups.\", \"描述\": \"Kimonos are great layering pieces that can be worn over a vintage band t-shirt and jeans shorts for a casual day out or over a long summer dress for date night. Look for kimonos made of interesting prints at flea markets and vintage stores.\\nYou can also look for cover ups in the form of jean vests or button up shirts that you can then layer over a bikini or a vintage t shirt for the ultimate California look.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get comfortable sneakers, flip-flops, or flats.\", \"描述\": \"Many California girls will choose comfort every time, with a preference for Converse sneakers, flat sandals, or close toed flats. You can pair your Converse sneakers with jeans and a t-shirt or jean shorts, a bikini top, and a kimono. You can also wear flat sandals with summer dresses for a relaxed date night look.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Look for desert boots and wedge heels.\", \"描述\": \"If you are looking for a more dressy California girl look, you can pair desert books with a long print skirt or a long print dress. You can also wear wedge heels to give your outfit a bit more of a formal look, while still remaining laid back and very California.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Accessorize with interesting jewellery and hats.\", \"描述\": \"Because the California girl style can be so relaxed and chill, you can use accessories like jewellery and hats to still feel put together. Look for delicate gold jewellery, such as thin rings, thin bangles, or stud earrings. Integrate color into your jewellery by going for turquoise rings and bracelets.\\nMany California girls also like to wear straw hats or wide brimmed hats. Baseball caps are also good for casual days out at the beach when you want to keep the sun out of your eyes.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Doing Your Hair and Make up like a California Girl\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Do the beachy long haired look.\", \"描述\": \"Many California girls have a seemingly effortless beachy hair look from swimming in the ocean all day long. You can create this look at home with a few styling tools, no ocean water necessary.\\nStart with damp hair, straight out of the shower. Create a rectangle with your hair at the front of your head. Make sure the rectangle extends from the end of one eyebrow to the end of your other eyebrow and four inches back from your hairline.\\nUse volumizer spray on the roots of your hair and blow dry your hair using a round brush. Move the brush straight and upward to create a tousled look.\\nOnce you finish drying your hair, use three fingers to twist the rectangle section so it forms a pin curl and pin it with a bobby pin. Let the section cool as you spray sea salt on your hair. Tousle your hair with your fingers.\\nRemove the pin and let the curl fall over your face. Use dry shampoo on the roots of the rectangle section and flip most of the section to one side. This should form a side part that goes from the arch of your eyebrow and angles toward the crown of your head.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Try the messy top knot.\", \"描述\": \"This is the go to style for many California girls, especially after a long day at the beach when their hair is still damp with salt water. It can also be done at home with the aid of damp hair from a shower and styling mousse.\\nApply two dollops of styling mousse to dry hair or start with damp hair. Use your fingers to apply the mousse from the roots of your hair to the ends.\\nFlip your hair over and dry your hair with a blow dryer, using your fingers to roughly blow it out. Dry it until there are no stiff pieces and the mousse is completely dry. If you are using damp hair for this style, you can skip this step.\\nWhile your hair is still upside down, pull your hair together into a ponytail at the very top of your head. Use a hair tie to secure the ponytail and flip your head back up. Divide the ponytail into two sections and twist each section until they come together. Secure the sections at the base of the ponytail with bobby pins.\\nFinish with a few spritzes of salt spray.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Do minimal eye and lip make up.\", \"描述\": \"Keep your face minimal by using a few products on your face. Apply waterproof mascara and minimal foundation so your skin looks natural and fresh. Then, apply a light tint of eyeshadow and lip gloss or lip tint in a warm pink to finish the relaxed California look.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Use bronzer for a sunkissed look.\", \"描述\": \"Get the ultimate California look by “tanning” your skin tone with bronzer. Use a big make up brush to apply bronzer on your hairline, temples, chin, and jawline. Do one to two swoops of bronzer and do not over do the bronzer, as you do not want your skin tone to look too dark and unnatural.\\nFinish by applying bronzer to your neck and chest, including your collarbones, as well as your shoulders and your shins. This will give you a full body sun kissed look.\\nAnother option is to try self tanner so you have a nice, even tan. However, self tanner can look fake and unnatural if it is applied poorly.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Acting like a California Girl\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Explore the outdoors with friends and family.\", \"描述\": \"California girls are known for their love of the outdoors, especially due to access to many beautiful beaches and national parks. You can embrace this love of the outdoors by making an effort to explore the natural areas where you live on your own, with family, or with friends. This could be weekly hikes, a daily walk in a park nearby, or even a surfing trip to a coastal area with friends. 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1. Becoming a Call Center Agent
1-1. Prepare a resume.
Emphasize your written and verbal communication skills. Convey that you’re professional and work well on a team. Relay your other strengths which would be beneficial in a call center.
Call centers look for employees who are good at multi-tasking, working in a fast-paced environment, learning quickly, and meeting goals. Being able to translate your customer service, communications and problem solving skills into a clean metric will help the hiring manager understand what you are capable of. To set yourself apart from other candidates, go beyond being merely a "good communicator" and give actual figures of the sales conversions, savings made, time saved, or risks reduced that you have achieved in prior roles.
For example, you can explain how you met a measurable goal through a previous job, volunteer work, or a challenge at school.
The typical education requirement for an entry-level call center agent is a high school diploma (or equivalent).
1-2. Give an impressive interview.
Show up early and dress appropriately. Show a willingness to be flexible with your role and schedule. Be enthusiastic to learn about the company and its policies/procedures.
For example, your potential employer may ask if you’re willing to take on different roles, such as inbound sales, outbound sales, or customer service. Explain how your specific experience has prepared you for meeting various responsibilities.
Try asking a question about something you found on the company’s website or social media page(s). This will show that you’ve done your research and are interested in the potential employer.
1-3. Be willing to go through a training process.
Expect that your new position will require a period of training. You may be trained in language, products and services, and software. Make sure that you attend all of your training without missing a day.
Training typically lasts between one and four weeks.
After training, a supervisor will likely be assigned to a group of employees including you.
2. Being a Good Employee
2-1. Improve your computer skills.
Take a class, if needed. Look for online or in-person classes. Practice your typing and computer navigation skills. Also practice talking while you type.
Call center agents need to be able to react and locate information quickly.
Call center roles are highly technically driven and data rich. Familiarizing yourself with computer navigation can help you learn new software as needed.
Free online programs and video tutorials are available to help you improve your computer skills.
2-2. Be punctual.
Plan to arrive to work early every day. Give yourself to time to commute and get settled in. Take breaks when your schedule allows you to.
Most call centers will require you to log in to your system before you can take calls.
It’s a good idea to check the traffic report in the morning significantly ahead of leaving for work. That way if there’s a traffic problem, you can leave even earlier.
2-3. Learn from your supervisors.
Ask for advice on specific situations or how to improve at your job in general. Try to talk to them during breaks if they are very busy with multiple agents while on the job. Alternately, you may be able to speak to them before or after work.
Supervisors usually started out with your same job. They’ll know the in’s and out’s of the position, and appreciate how hard it can get.
2-4. Stay up to date with your company's activities.
Memorize as much information about your employer as you can. Check your company's internet and intranet frequently. Don’t neglect your email, as important internal memos may await you.
You should know the details of the products and services your company offers.
Call center agents who are confident in their abilities are more effective at their jobs.
2-5. Keep a positive outlook.
Approach the job with enthusiasm. Arrive every day with a sense of optimism, and remind yourself to maintain it. Keep at least one yellow-colored item on your desk, if you’re allowed to. Keep positive affirmations with you – either memorize some or keep them in your purse, pocket, or cubicle.
The color yellow has an optimistic psychological effect.
For example, use yellow sticky notes, pens, or paper clips.
An example of a positive affirmation is, “I am in charge of how I feel and I choose to remain positive.”
3. Dealing with Customers
3-1. Develop your communication skills.
Speak slowly and clearly. Don’t mumble. Think (quickly) about what you’re going to say before you say it. Remember that calls may be monitored and recorded.
If English is your second language and you find customers have difficulty understanding you, consider taking English as a Second Language classes. You can find in-person and online classes. Some online resources are free to use.
3-2. Be polite.
Stay friendly at all times. Don’t be negative, condescending or confrontational, regardless of what the customer says. Use formalities and an upbeat tone of voice.
Try saying, “Please,” “Thank you,” “You’re welcome,” and “I’m sorry to hear that.”
3-3. Handle upset customers.
Don't take anything customers tell you personally, and don’t tell customers to “calm down.” Provide such customers with empathy and a solution. After the call, take a few seconds to breathe if you can, smile and move on to the next call.
One of the most important traits of a good call center agent is the ability to stay calm under pressure, especially while handling irate customers.
Try saying, “We truly appreciate your feedback,” “I’ll do my best to assist you,” and other pleasantries, using the customer’s name often.
To the customer, you are a representative of the company who’s speaking on the phone. They won’t always be respectful and may even seem to blame you for their issue with the company.
3-4. Shorten excessive conversation.
Ask questions that have “yes” or “no” answers. Steer the conversation back to its focus as needed. Avoid personal topics or comments about the weather unless you need to kill time while something loads on your end.
If you need to leave work and the call isn’t resolved, try saying, “This sounds like this is something my colleague can help you with.”
3-5. Make a good impression.
Pay attention to detail. Don’t assume you know what customers need before they finish explaining the issue. Make sure that customers are satisfied as best you can before you terminate the call.
Customers report that only half of call center agents address their concerns with an appropriate answer.
Repeating the customer’s problem back to them can help convey to them that you understand their concerns.
3-6. Transfer the call if necessary.
Find out when a call should be transferred, for instance, to a supervisor or manager. Ask your supervisor under what circumstances should you transfer a call elsewhere. Recognize if the caller has an issue you are unable to resolve yourself. Then advise the customer in a positive way that you’re going to transfer the call.
For example, if the customer is specifically requesting a rebate, and you are unable to issue one, you may need to transfer the call.
Instead of saying “I don’t handle that,” try saying, “[Person or department] can help you with that.”
Tips
Avoid telling customers that you’re a new employee. Get a coworker’s help, if needed, without making the customer think you’re uninformed on the topic.[20]
X
Research source
Call center agents make an average of $28,491 per year.[21]
X
Research source
Every call center is different. If you feel like the job itself suits you but that your workplace doesn't, consider switching employers.
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To set yourself apart from other candidates, go beyond being merely a \\\"good communicator\\\" and give actual figures of the sales conversions, savings made, time saved, or risks reduced that you have achieved in prior roles.\\nFor example, you can explain how you met a measurable goal through a previous job, volunteer work, or a challenge at school.\\nThe typical education requirement for an entry-level call center agent is a high school diploma (or equivalent).\\n1-2. Give an impressive interview.\\nShow up early and dress appropriately. Show a willingness to be flexible with your role and schedule. Be enthusiastic to learn about the company and its policies/procedures.\\nFor example, your potential employer may ask if you’re willing to take on different roles, such as inbound sales, outbound sales, or customer service. Explain how your specific experience has prepared you for meeting various responsibilities.\\nTry asking a question about something you found on the company’s website or social media page(s). This will show that you’ve done your research and are interested in the potential employer.\\n1-3. Be willing to go through a training process.\\nExpect that your new position will require a period of training. You may be trained in language, products and services, and software. Make sure that you attend all of your training without missing a day.\\nTraining typically lasts between one and four weeks.\\nAfter training, a supervisor will likely be assigned to a group of employees including you.\\n2. Being a Good Employee\\n2-1. Improve your computer skills.\\nTake a class, if needed. Look for online or in-person classes. Practice your typing and computer navigation skills. Also practice talking while you type.\\nCall center agents need to be able to react and locate information quickly.\\nCall center roles are highly technically driven and data rich. Familiarizing yourself with computer navigation can help you learn new software as needed.\\nFree online programs and video tutorials are available to help you improve your computer skills.\\n2-2. Be punctual.\\nPlan to arrive to work early every day. Give yourself to time to commute and get settled in. Take breaks when your schedule allows you to.\\nMost call centers will require you to log in to your system before you can take calls.\\nIt’s a good idea to check the traffic report in the morning significantly ahead of leaving for work. That way if there’s a traffic problem, you can leave even earlier.\\n2-3. Learn from your supervisors.\\nAsk for advice on specific situations or how to improve at your job in general. Try to talk to them during breaks if they are very busy with multiple agents while on the job. Alternately, you may be able to speak to them before or after work.\\nSupervisors usually started out with your same job. They’ll know the in’s and out’s of the position, and appreciate how hard it can get.\\n2-4. Stay up to date with your company's activities.\\nMemorize as much information about your employer as you can. Check your company's internet and intranet frequently. Don’t neglect your email, as important internal memos may await you.\\nYou should know the details of the products and services your company offers.\\nCall center agents who are confident in their abilities are more effective at their jobs.\\n2-5. Keep a positive outlook.\\nApproach the job with enthusiasm. Arrive every day with a sense of optimism, and remind yourself to maintain it. Keep at least one yellow-colored item on your desk, if you’re allowed to. 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Also practice talking while you type.\\nCall center agents need to be able to react and locate information quickly.\\nCall center roles are highly technically driven and data rich. Familiarizing yourself with computer navigation can help you learn new software as needed.\\nFree online programs and video tutorials are available to help you improve your computer skills.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be punctual.\", \"描述\": \"Plan to arrive to work early every day. Give yourself to time to commute and get settled in. Take breaks when your schedule allows you to.\\nMost call centers will require you to log in to your system before you can take calls.\\nIt’s a good idea to check the traffic report in the morning significantly ahead of leaving for work. That way if there’s a traffic problem, you can leave even earlier.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn from your supervisors.\", \"描述\": \"Ask for advice on specific situations or how to improve at your job in general. Try to talk to them during breaks if they are very busy with multiple agents while on the job. Alternately, you may be able to speak to them before or after work.\\nSupervisors usually started out with your same job. They’ll know the in’s and out’s of the position, and appreciate how hard it can get.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Stay up to date with your company's activities.\", \"描述\": \"Memorize as much information about your employer as you can. Check your company's internet and intranet frequently. Don’t neglect your email, as important internal memos may await you.\\nYou should know the details of the products and services your company offers.\\nCall center agents who are confident in their abilities are more effective at their jobs.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Keep a positive outlook.\", \"描述\": \"Approach the job with enthusiasm. Arrive every day with a sense of optimism, and remind yourself to maintain it. Keep at least one yellow-colored item on your desk, if you’re allowed to. Keep positive affirmations with you – either memorize some or keep them in your purse, pocket, or cubicle.\\nThe color yellow has an optimistic psychological effect.\\nFor example, use yellow sticky notes, pens, or paper clips.\\nAn example of a positive affirmation is, “I am in charge of how I feel and I choose to remain positive.”\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Dealing with Customers\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Develop your communication skills.\", \"描述\": \"Speak slowly and clearly. Don’t mumble. Think (quickly) about what you’re going to say before you say it. Remember that calls may be monitored and recorded.\\nIf English is your second language and you find customers have difficulty understanding you, consider taking English as a Second Language classes. You can find in-person and online classes. Some online resources are free to use.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be polite.\", \"描述\": \"Stay friendly at all times. Don’t be negative, condescending or confrontational, regardless of what the customer says. Use formalities and an upbeat tone of voice. \\nTry saying, “Please,” “Thank you,” “You’re welcome,” and “I’m sorry to hear that.”\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Handle upset customers.\", \"描述\": \"Don't take anything customers tell you personally, and don’t tell customers to “calm down.” Provide such customers with empathy and a solution. After the call, take a few seconds to breathe if you can, smile and move on to the next call.\\nOne of the most important traits of a good call center agent is the ability to stay calm under pressure, especially while handling irate customers.\\nTry saying, “We truly appreciate your feedback,” “I’ll do my best to assist you,” and other pleasantries, using the customer’s name often.\\nTo the customer, you are a representative of the company who’s speaking on the phone. They won’t always be respectful and may even seem to blame you for their issue with the company.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Shorten excessive conversation.\", \"描述\": \"Ask questions that have “yes” or “no” answers. Steer the conversation back to its focus as needed. Avoid personal topics or comments about the weather unless you need to kill time while something loads on your end.\\nIf you need to leave work and the call isn’t resolved, try saying, “This sounds like this is something my colleague can help you with.”\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Make a good impression.\", \"描述\": \"Pay attention to detail. Don’t assume you know what customers need before they finish explaining the issue. Make sure that customers are satisfied as best you can before you terminate the call.\\nCustomers report that only half of call center agents address their concerns with an appropriate answer.\\nRepeating the customer’s problem back to them can help convey to them that you understand their concerns.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Transfer the call if necessary.\", \"描述\": \"Find out when a call should be transferred, for instance, to a supervisor or manager. Ask your supervisor under what circumstances should you transfer a call elsewhere. Recognize if the caller has an issue you are unable to resolve yourself. Then advise the customer in a positive way that you’re going to transfer the call.\\nFor example, if the customer is specifically requesting a rebate, and you are unable to issue one, you may need to transfer the call.\\nInstead of saying “I don’t handle that,” try saying, “[Person or department] can help you with that.”\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Avoid telling customers that you’re a new employee. Get a coworker’s help, if needed, without making the customer think you’re uninformed on the topic.[20]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"Call center agents make an average of $28,491 per year.[21]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"Every call center is different. If you feel like the job itself suits you but that your workplace doesn't, consider switching employers.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Deciding Where to Volunteer
1-1. Find a hospital with a volunteer program.
The internet is a good resource for this. Use a search engine to find hospitals in your area with volunteer programs. You can usually apply to these online.
1-2. Choose what type of volunteering you want to do and where.
In addition, hospitals have different sections, and large hospitals have different buildings and locations that offer different services. You’ll have to choose where you want to volunteer and what kind of work you want to do before you apply. Some examples of where you might work might include:
The children's hospital;
The acute or urgent care wing;
The physical rehabilitation center;
Hospice and end-of-life care.
1-3. Pick your time commitment.
Many hospitals generally have two programs:
Summer programs aimed at teens, where the commitments are for the summer months only;
Longer commitments for adults, often only a few hours a week, but requiring a commitment typically of six months or a year.
2. Applying to Volunteer
2-1. Read the requirements for applying.
These days, most hospitals have websites where you can apply directly and find this information. Make sure you meet any requirements for applying, such as educational minimums, age, or free time.
2-2. Gather the materials you need.
Some examples may include:
References. Three is usually a good number to have, and teachers or bosses (if you've had a job) are good sources to approach.
A cover letter, similar to one you might write for a job application or to a college admissions essay. Focus on why you want to volunteer in this unit or at this hospital, and tell a personal story if you can.
2-3. Fill out and submit your application.
The hospital's website will usually have these, in multiple pages. You can usually save and come back if you need to. You may have to agree to additional requirements to volunteer, like a background check or a drug test.
3. Preparing to Volunteer
3-1. Prepare for your interview.
Some hospitals will offer you guidelines to follow before you interview, although otherwise this will be much like a job interview. Prepare appropriate answers to the questions you might be asked. Some examples include:
Why do you want to work with us?
What are you looking to get out of your volunteer work?
What do you know about our company?
What is your biggest weakness?
3-2. Don’t over-schedule yourself.
Many hospitals have minimum requirements for the time you have to commit to if you volunteer, usually three or four hours a week over a period of months. If you can’t make the time needed to meet your commitments, you may lose the position and find it difficult to be selected for more volunteer positions in the future.
3-3. Dress appropriately for your shift.
While the uniforms that gave rise to the nickname “candy stripers” aren’t in fashion anymore, there will be requirements for how you dress in your position. A sample dress code might include:
Your ID Badge must be worn at all times.
You must wear the volunteer uniform, if there is one. (It may just be a shirt.)
Dress pants may be worn but must not drag on the floor. Women way wear skirts at least knee length.
Jeans, shorts, and open-toed shoes are not permitted.
3-4. Attend the orientation.
This includes reading any preparatory materials the hospital sends you. The orientation will fill you in on the specific things you need to know about your position, including some you may not have thought of. Some things that are specific to the medial profession include:
Patient rights,
Patient confidentiality,
Medical ethics.
4. Dealing with the Patients
4-1. Treat the patients kindly and with respect.
They are not well, and part of your job as a volunteer is to help make their lives easier and more comfortable. These steps are especially important if you are volunteering in a unit where your interactions with the patients are part of their treatment, like behavioral medicine.
4-2. Give them praise when they manage to accomplish something challenging.
Positive thinking can aid in recovery, and encouragement helps patients stay positive.
A "Good job!" or "You're getting better every day" can really lift a patient's spirits.
4-3. Respond to patient complaints in a way that shows you are listening.
For example, if the patient feels they are not being responded to in a timely manner:
"I understand you must feel frustrated by that. Is there anything I can do?" is a good answer;
"All the doctors and nurses are busy; they'll get to you when they can” is not.
5. Behaving Professionally While Volunteering
5-1. Take your responsibilities seriously.
Don't goof off-- treat your volunteer position as you would a job. This is the best way to keep your volunteering position, or even turn it into a paid position down the line.
5-2. Listen to and learn from the professionals.
Don’t have an ego about the position or come in acting like you know more than you do. Observe the professionals you will be working with and learn from their example.
5-3. Ask questions if you need to.
Be polite, but try to stay to the point, as doctors and nurses have busy schedules.
A simple “What’s the best way to do this?” can be used in many situations and save you lots of time.
“What should I do if…” can prepare you for a lot of incidents or patient behaviors that may come up.
5-4. Offer to take on more responsibilities if you can handle them.
This is both a great way to get noticed and will provide valuable help to the hard-worked doctors, nurses, and other staff. The more responsibilities you show you can handle, the more the workers will trust you.
Don’t demand, but ask politely: “I’m enjoying the challenges I have now, but I feel like I could do more, if it would help.”
5-5. Don't take on work that isn't assigned to you.
There is a good chance you will make a mistake this way. If you act outside the duties assigned to you, the responsibilities for something going wrong fall on you and not the hospital.
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How to Be a Capitalist
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1. Getting Into the Capitalist Mindset
1-1. Understand the difference between capitalism and capitalists.
Capitalism is a political philosophy that advocates for free markets, free of government intervention, and believes in the self-regulating power of the market. A capitalist may or not share these political views, but instead simply is one who invests capital in business interests. That is, a capitalist can believe in socialism or communism, or any other political or economic system, while still taking advantage of the free market to further their own interests.
1-2. Believe in yourself.
Capitalism allows anyone with an amount of capital, no matter how small, to grow that capital and improve their position in life. Anyone can escape from a life of dependence on wages and start making their money work for them. In order to make your business ideas come to fruition, you'll have to believe in the capitalist system and in yourself.
1-3. Think of yourself as a company.
Being a capitalist requires a fundamental change in the way that you think about yourself. Instead of thinking of yourself as part of a business or the owner of one, think of yourself as the business. Use the assets available to you, including both physical assets and your skills and expertise, to produce income in the most efficient way possible. Grow your own personal value and net worth by investing in yourself, such as in education and networking. Build a personal brand and work to gain brand recognition for yourself. Reduce your own debts and try to build your assets over time. By shifting how you view yourself, you can turn around your finances and begin to grow your wealth.
1-4. Know the benefits of capital investment.
Capital investment frees you from dependence on wages and can earn money with less effort on your part. By putting your money into appreciating (growing) assets, you are not just earning money to spend but instead creating a cycle of growth. In this cycle, you earn money from working on your business or holding your assets and reinvest that earned money to grow the value of your business or assets. Any work you do is not just for wages, but also to increase the value of your assets.
1-5. Be open to opportunities.
Be alert to new business opportunities and be willing to try them out. Even if your primary area of expertise is in one area, don't lock yourself into that one field. Instead, branch out into new areas where possible, especially if you think they will be very profitable. This will not only increase your income, but also protect you from market fluctuations.
2. Acquiring Capital
2-1. Save your money
In order to be a capitalist, you will need some capital to invest. You don't need a lot of it, but you will need something to get started. If you weren't lucky enough to be born with money, you can still work diligently to save your income and earn enough money to invest it in capital. Quite simply, you need to carefully watch your income and expenses, making sure that you're saving as much as possible. Try setting a goal and making a budget to help you reach that goal in a set amount of time.]
2-2. Cut down your taxes
A capitalist knows that paying their tax burden and staying within the bounds of the law is a necessary civic duty. However, this doesn't mean that you should just accept your tax burden as is. Instead, always be on the lookout for ways to reduce your taxable income and taxes owed. Reductions can be made using tax credits or deductions, expensing everything you possibly can, and, for businesses, capitalizing assets over several years.
2-3. Buy securities
One of the easiest ways you can begin using your capital to earn more is by investing in securities, like stocks, bonds, and mutual funds. These assets have the ability to appreciate in value or return a steady income to you, depending on the nature of the security. Get started by researching each type of asset and determining where your money can earn the most for you.
For more, see how to choose stocks.
2-4. Invest in capital assets.
Capital assets are those assets, for instance a piece of production equipment or a commercial vehicle, that can be used to produce income. Owning these assets is the foundation of being a capitalist: you use them to earn income and then use the income to purchase more of them. Typically, these assets require a large initial investment. However, you can use various types of financing to reduce the immediate cost to you down to a very low amount, or in some cases nothing.
For more information, see how to start your own business without money and how to buy a business with no money.
2-5. Create value.
In the twenty-first century, the definition of capital has been expanded to include a lot of abstract ideas and intangible values. You can create value by simply coming up with a good idea and convincing others of the value of that idea without actually putting in or earning any money. Think of companies like Snapchat or Facebook that created a tremendous amount of value without earning any money for a long period of time. They started with a good idea then worked to perfect that idea, eventually earning billions of dollars from the effort.
Think about ideas that could create social, cultural, or human capital. Maybe consider ways to improve people's well-being or productivity.
Take advantage of the far-reaching powers of the internet to spread your idea and get people behind it.
As your idea develops, work towards turning it into a capital-producing business..
3. Growing Your Capital
3-1. Grow your business
If your primary business operations are up and running, you may want to look into growth options. In addition to increasing profitability and sales volume in your primary operations, you can expand to new areas, create and market new products, or look to attract a new type of customer.
3-2. Add income streams.
Look for areas outside of your primary business operations where you can make money. Maybe you can teach a skill in your spare time, or write a guide to help others do something that you know how to do. Adding to your personal income streams can give you an extra cushion in case your primary business goes south. It can also provide you with additional money to reinvest in assets.
3-3. Watch the market.
Always be on the lookout for the changing moods of your customers and trends in the market at large. Make changes to your way of doing business if they become outdated. Constantly seek out new ways to increase your profitability, diversify, take advantage of new technology, or reach new market segments. Read up on business developments in newspaper or magazines specific to your industry.
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Think of yourself as a company.\\nBeing a capitalist requires a fundamental change in the way that you think about yourself. Instead of thinking of yourself as part of a business or the owner of one, think of yourself as the business. Use the assets available to you, including both physical assets and your skills and expertise, to produce income in the most efficient way possible. Grow your own personal value and net worth by investing in yourself, such as in education and networking. Build a personal brand and work to gain brand recognition for yourself. Reduce your own debts and try to build your assets over time. By shifting how you view yourself, you can turn around your finances and begin to grow your wealth.\\n1-4. Know the benefits of capital investment.\\nCapital investment frees you from dependence on wages and can earn money with less effort on your part. By putting your money into appreciating (growing) assets, you are not just earning money to spend but instead creating a cycle of growth. In this cycle, you earn money from working on your business or holding your assets and reinvest that earned money to grow the value of your business or assets. Any work you do is not just for wages, but also to increase the value of your assets.\\n1-5. Be open to opportunities.\\nBe alert to new business opportunities and be willing to try them out. Even if your primary area of expertise is in one area, don't lock yourself into that one field. Instead, branch out into new areas where possible, especially if you think they will be very profitable. This will not only increase your income, but also protect you from market fluctuations.\\n2. Acquiring Capital\\n2-1. Save your money\\nIn order to be a capitalist, you will need some capital to invest. You don't need a lot of it, but you will need something to get started. If you weren't lucky enough to be born with money, you can still work diligently to save your income and earn enough money to invest it in capital. Quite simply, you need to carefully watch your income and expenses, making sure that you're saving as much as possible. Try setting a goal and making a budget to help you reach that goal in a set amount of time.]\\n2-2. Cut down your taxes\\nA capitalist knows that paying their tax burden and staying within the bounds of the law is a necessary civic duty. However, this doesn't mean that you should just accept your tax burden as is. Instead, always be on the lookout for ways to reduce your taxable income and taxes owed. Reductions can be made using tax credits or deductions, expensing everything you possibly can, and, for businesses, capitalizing assets over several years.\\n2-3. Buy securities\\nOne of the easiest ways you can begin using your capital to earn more is by investing in securities, like stocks, bonds, and mutual funds. These assets have the ability to appreciate in value or return a steady income to you, depending on the nature of the security. Get started by researching each type of asset and determining where your money can earn the most for you.\\nFor more, see how to choose stocks.\\n2-4. Invest in capital assets.\\nCapital assets are those assets, for instance a piece of production equipment or a commercial vehicle, that can be used to produce income. Owning these assets is the foundation of being a capitalist: you use them to earn income and then use the income to purchase more of them. Typically, these assets require a large initial investment. However, you can use various types of financing to reduce the immediate cost to you down to a very low amount, or in some cases nothing.\\nFor more information, see how to start your own business without money and how to buy a business with no money.\\n2-5. Create value.\\nIn the twenty-first century, the definition of capital has been expanded to include a lot of abstract ideas and intangible values. You can create value by simply coming up with a good idea and convincing others of the value of that idea without actually putting in or earning any money. Think of companies like Snapchat or Facebook that created a tremendous amount of value without earning any money for a long period of time. They started with a good idea then worked to perfect that idea, eventually earning billions of dollars from the effort. \\nThink about ideas that could create social, cultural, or human capital. Maybe consider ways to improve people's well-being or productivity.\\nTake advantage of the far-reaching powers of the internet to spread your idea and get people behind it.\\nAs your idea develops, work towards turning it into a capital-producing business..\\n3. Growing Your Capital\\n3-1. Grow your business\\nIf your primary business operations are up and running, you may want to look into growth options. In addition to increasing profitability and sales volume in your primary operations, you can expand to new areas, create and market new products, or look to attract a new type of customer.\\n3-2. Add income streams.\\nLook for areas outside of your primary business operations where you can make money. Maybe you can teach a skill in your spare time, or write a guide to help others do something that you know how to do. Adding to your personal income streams can give you an extra cushion in case your primary business goes south. It can also provide you with additional money to reinvest in assets.\\n3-3. Watch the market.\\nAlways be on the lookout for the changing moods of your customers and trends in the market at large. Make changes to your way of doing business if they become outdated. Constantly seek out new ways to increase your profitability, diversify, take advantage of new technology, or reach new market segments. Read up on business developments in newspaper or magazines specific to your industry.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"As a capitalist, you can take even a small amount of cash or resources—known as capital—and invest it to hopefully become even more successful. There's no guarantee that you'll make money doing this, but we can help you get started on the path!\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting Into the Capitalist Mindset\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Understand the difference between capitalism and capitalists.\", \"描述\": \"Capitalism is a political philosophy that advocates for free markets, free of government intervention, and believes in the self-regulating power of the market. A capitalist may or not share these political views, but instead simply is one who invests capital in business interests. That is, a capitalist can believe in socialism or communism, or any other political or economic system, while still taking advantage of the free market to further their own interests.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Believe in yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Capitalism allows anyone with an amount of capital, no matter how small, to grow that capital and improve their position in life. Anyone can escape from a life of dependence on wages and start making their money work for them. In order to make your business ideas come to fruition, you'll have to believe in the capitalist system and in yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Think of yourself as a company.\", \"描述\": \"Being a capitalist requires a fundamental change in the way that you think about yourself. Instead of thinking of yourself as part of a business or the owner of one, think of yourself as the business. Use the assets available to you, including both physical assets and your skills and expertise, to produce income in the most efficient way possible. Grow your own personal value and net worth by investing in yourself, such as in education and networking. Build a personal brand and work to gain brand recognition for yourself. Reduce your own debts and try to build your assets over time. By shifting how you view yourself, you can turn around your finances and begin to grow your wealth.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Know the benefits of capital investment.\", \"描述\": \"Capital investment frees you from dependence on wages and can earn money with less effort on your part. By putting your money into appreciating (growing) assets, you are not just earning money to spend but instead creating a cycle of growth. In this cycle, you earn money from working on your business or holding your assets and reinvest that earned money to grow the value of your business or assets. Any work you do is not just for wages, but also to increase the value of your assets.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be open to opportunities.\", \"描述\": \"Be alert to new business opportunities and be willing to try them out. Even if your primary area of expertise is in one area, don't lock yourself into that one field. Instead, branch out into new areas where possible, especially if you think they will be very profitable. This will not only increase your income, but also protect you from market fluctuations.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Acquiring Capital\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Save your money\", \"描述\": \"In order to be a capitalist, you will need some capital to invest. You don't need a lot of it, but you will need something to get started. If you weren't lucky enough to be born with money, you can still work diligently to save your income and earn enough money to invest it in capital. Quite simply, you need to carefully watch your income and expenses, making sure that you're saving as much as possible. Try setting a goal and making a budget to help you reach that goal in a set amount of time.]\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Cut down your taxes\", \"描述\": \"A capitalist knows that paying their tax burden and staying within the bounds of the law is a necessary civic duty. However, this doesn't mean that you should just accept your tax burden as is. Instead, always be on the lookout for ways to reduce your taxable income and taxes owed. Reductions can be made using tax credits or deductions, expensing everything you possibly can, and, for businesses, capitalizing assets over several years.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Buy securities\", \"描述\": \"One of the easiest ways you can begin using your capital to earn more is by investing in securities, like stocks, bonds, and mutual funds. 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1. Getting Your Education as a Cartoonist
1-1. Determine if you have a natural talent.
Do you find yourself doodling in your notebook at school? Would you rather draw a picture of an idea than write a paragraph describing it? Have your teachers, friends and family members praised your artistic abilities? Have they asked you to make posters, flyers or other artistic works? If so, this might be a sign you are a natural fit to become a cartoonist.
Most cartoonist positions do not require a formal education. A rich portfolio of work can be just as important -- if not more so -- than a degree. But a college education can help you connect to other cartoonists in your field, give you valuable professional experience through internships, and an opportunity to learn the latest technologies used by cartoonists.
College or art school will also give you the opportunity to study valuable skills you might need in running your own business, how to write for a comic strip in creative writing courses, and how to develop additional skills in related fields like animation or multimedia design, and journalism.
1-2. Prepare a portfolio.
Most art schools have their own requirements for compiling and submitting a portfolio, but they generally have to include 10-20 pieces of your best work (they can be unpublished). While you might be most interested in showing your cartoons, you should also include a broad range of work with multiple mediums, like paint, pastels,and photography.
Keep your work in a binder with plastic sleeves protecting the work. The portfolio should be clean and easy to view.
1-3. Prepare to attend art school in high school.
In high school, don't just keep your art locked up in your journals or notebooks. Instead, take as many art electives as you can and start building up a portfolio that you can use to apply to college.
Draw for your high school newspaper or magazine to get a sense of whether you like working for a publication. You will get into the practice of meeting deadlines and collaborating with an editor to create your cartoons.
Contact your local city's newspaper to see if they need any freelance cartoon or illustration work.
Maintain good grades and test scores. While you might think that an excellent academic record is not necessary to become an artist, it can be a major asset in furthering your career goals. The best art colleges and programs are very competitive; good grades will show your committee that you have the dedication and work ethic required to complete a large-scale art project.
It is also worth it to study for your SAT/ACT. While some art schools only require these scores on an optional basis, they can help you earn scholarships and fellowships to fund your education.
You can find study resources through the College Board's web site, including practice tests and sample questions. Do not study for the test overnight -- give yourself months to prepare. You can practice using a study guide book (often available in your local public library), by attending a prep course offered by companies like Kaplan or Pearson, or working with a private tutor.
1-4. Apply to college.
You might consider going to a university with an acclaimed school or art major within it, or you could also consider an art college to study.
Prestigious programs include the Rhode Island School of Design (RISD), School of the Art Institute of Chicago, Yale University, the University of California -- Los Angeles and the California Institute of the Arts.
Write an artist's statement. Many art colleges require an artist's statement in your application. This is similar to a personal statement, except you use it to clearly express your perspective on your art and creative process. Why do you create the art that you do? What are your objectives as an artist?
Keep in mind that the artist's statement shouldn't explain to the reader how to interpret your work. Rather, use the statement to give your perspective on your art, why you believe it is important and valuable work, and how you go about creating your pieces.
Prepare for an interview. Many art schools and programs admit students after interviewing them. Think of this as an opportunity to stand out to your committee and to give yourself a competitive edge over other candidates. Bring your artist's statement and your portfolio with you to the interview.
You will most likely be asked questions about your philosophy as an artist and what you hope to accomplish by studying in the program. Memorize responses to these questions so you can answer them very honestly and naturally in your interview.
2. Succeeding in College
2-1. Take a variety of courses.
While you may know that becoming a cartoonist is your ultimate goal, consider specializing in broad areas, like Multimedia art and animation. Multi-media artists make a median salary of $61, 370 a year and often have more stable, full time work than freelance cartoonists.
Multimedia art will give you valuable skills in computer programming and how to create graphics using different design software. You will get to build your storyboarding skills as your learn to create visuals for video games, films and other media.
2-2. Expand your portfolio.
While your coursework will add significantly to your portfolio, continue to seek out freelance opportunities with other clients while you are in college. Look to your local newspapers or magazines to see if you can do any temporary projects with them.
Consider focusing on a specialization in cartoons. Do you want to write political cartoons, comic books or graphic novels? Do you want to draw animated cartoons for film and television? Try your hand at each of these categories to see which one you enjoy the most.
Your college newspaper or art review will also be great sources to publish your work. Consider applying to join the editorial team on these publications.
Apply for art prizes and competitions. These might be hosted by your school's art department, your local arts alliance or by a larger institution, like the National Endowment for the Arts. Gaining accolades while you are in college will help strengthen the worth of your portfolio.
2-3. Learn important skills.
A cartoonist is often not just tasked with creating a drawing using pencil and paper. Often you will be required to learn other skills, especially if you want to illustrate for comic books or comic strips. Look into taking classes that specialize in some of the following skills or professional roles:
Pencil work
Colorist
Designing letter work for comic books
Ink work
2-4. Get a valuable internship or apprenticeship.
Although you will produce many cartoons for class projects, you should also look into getting an internship with a reputable company in your field. This experience can be a launching point for your career in that field. Some excellent companies include:
DC Comics
Marvel Comics
Dark Horse Comics
Walt Disney Imagineering
Fisher-Price
Research these companies to find out if they offer any internship opportunities during the summer or school year for students. You should generally plan to apply in the semester before you want to take the internship.
3. Marketing Your Work as a Cartoonist
3-1. Create an on-line space for your work.
While your physical portfolio will be required for most job interviews, an accessible on-line space can also be attractive to employers. Consider using a web site or an Instagram account to display the broad range of work you use.
The web site can also include your rates and reviews from previous clients and your contact information.
3-2. Contact production studios.
If you are interested in the process of storyboarding -- or pairing images with text to create a story -- then film and video games studio can use your expertise.
Make your own independent film or animated project as a sample of your storyboard work. You can upload this on a video streaming site like YouTube or Vimeo and link it to your on-line space.
3-3. Become active in your local artistic community.
Attend openings of galleries, exhibitions, conferences and lectures that apply to your field. These will be important events for expanding your professional network and finding new potential clients.
3-4. Join the National Cartoonists Society.
As a professional network of cartoonists, membership in this group can help you meet mentors and develop more artistic connections.
In order to join, you must have made the majority of your income from professional cartooning for at least the past three years. You will need two letters of recommendations, a short biographical sketch, and samples of your work. The work you submit must also have your signature.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Getting Your Education as a Cartoonist\\n1-1. Determine if you have a natural talent.\\nDo you find yourself doodling in your notebook at school? Would you rather draw a picture of an idea than write a paragraph describing it? Have your teachers, friends and family members praised your artistic abilities? Have they asked you to make posters, flyers or other artistic works? If so, this might be a sign you are a natural fit to become a cartoonist.\\nMost cartoonist positions do not require a formal education. A rich portfolio of work can be just as important -- if not more so -- than a degree. But a college education can help you connect to other cartoonists in your field, give you valuable professional experience through internships, and an opportunity to learn the latest technologies used by cartoonists.\\nCollege or art school will also give you the opportunity to study valuable skills you might need in running your own business, how to write for a comic strip in creative writing courses, and how to develop additional skills in related fields like animation or multimedia design, and journalism.\\n1-2. Prepare a portfolio.\\nMost art schools have their own requirements for compiling and submitting a portfolio, but they generally have to include 10-20 pieces of your best work (they can be unpublished). While you might be most interested in showing your cartoons, you should also include a broad range of work with multiple mediums, like paint, pastels,and photography.\\nKeep your work in a binder with plastic sleeves protecting the work. The portfolio should be clean and easy to view.\\n1-3. Prepare to attend art school in high school.\\nIn high school, don't just keep your art locked up in your journals or notebooks. Instead, take as many art electives as you can and start building up a portfolio that you can use to apply to college.\\nDraw for your high school newspaper or magazine to get a sense of whether you like working for a publication. You will get into the practice of meeting deadlines and collaborating with an editor to create your cartoons.\\nContact your local city's newspaper to see if they need any freelance cartoon or illustration work.\\nMaintain good grades and test scores. While you might think that an excellent academic record is not necessary to become an artist, it can be a major asset in furthering your career goals. The best art colleges and programs are very competitive; good grades will show your committee that you have the dedication and work ethic required to complete a large-scale art project.\\nIt is also worth it to study for your SAT/ACT. While some art schools only require these scores on an optional basis, they can help you earn scholarships and fellowships to fund your education.\\nYou can find study resources through the College Board's web site, including practice tests and sample questions. Do not study for the test overnight -- give yourself months to prepare. You can practice using a study guide book (often available in your local public library), by attending a prep course offered by companies like Kaplan or Pearson, or working with a private tutor.\\n1-4. Apply to college.\\nYou might consider going to a university with an acclaimed school or art major within it, or you could also consider an art college to study.\\nPrestigious programs include the Rhode Island School of Design (RISD), School of the Art Institute of Chicago, Yale University, the University of California -- Los Angeles and the California Institute of the Arts.\\nWrite an artist's statement. Many art colleges require an artist's statement in your application. This is similar to a personal statement, except you use it to clearly express your perspective on your art and creative process. Why do you create the art that you do? What are your objectives as an artist?\\nKeep in mind that the artist's statement shouldn't explain to the reader how to interpret your work. Rather, use the statement to give your perspective on your art, why you believe it is important and valuable work, and how you go about creating your pieces.\\nPrepare for an interview. Many art schools and programs admit students after interviewing them. Think of this as an opportunity to stand out to your committee and to give yourself a competitive edge over other candidates. Bring your artist's statement and your portfolio with you to the interview.\\nYou will most likely be asked questions about your philosophy as an artist and what you hope to accomplish by studying in the program. Memorize responses to these questions so you can answer them very honestly and naturally in your interview.\\n2. Succeeding in College\\n2-1. Take a variety of courses.\\nWhile you may know that becoming a cartoonist is your ultimate goal, consider specializing in broad areas, like Multimedia art and animation. Multi-media artists make a median salary of $61, 370 a year and often have more stable, full time work than freelance cartoonists.\\nMultimedia art will give you valuable skills in computer programming and how to create graphics using different design software. You will get to build your storyboarding skills as your learn to create visuals for video games, films and other media.\\n2-2. Expand your portfolio.\\nWhile your coursework will add significantly to your portfolio, continue to seek out freelance opportunities with other clients while you are in college. Look to your local newspapers or magazines to see if you can do any temporary projects with them.\\nConsider focusing on a specialization in cartoons. Do you want to write political cartoons, comic books or graphic novels? Do you want to draw animated cartoons for film and television? Try your hand at each of these categories to see which one you enjoy the most.\\nYour college newspaper or art review will also be great sources to publish your work. Consider applying to join the editorial team on these publications.\\nApply for art prizes and competitions. These might be hosted by your school's art department, your local arts alliance or by a larger institution, like the National Endowment for the Arts. Gaining accolades while you are in college will help strengthen the worth of your portfolio.\\n2-3. Learn important skills.\\nA cartoonist is often not just tasked with creating a drawing using pencil and paper. Often you will be required to learn other skills, especially if you want to illustrate for comic books or comic strips. Look into taking classes that specialize in some of the following skills or professional roles:\\nPencil work\\nColorist\\nDesigning letter work for comic books\\nInk work\\n2-4. Get a valuable internship or apprenticeship.\\nAlthough you will produce many cartoons for class projects, you should also look into getting an internship with a reputable company in your field. This experience can be a launching point for your career in that field. Some excellent companies include:\\nDC Comics\\nMarvel Comics\\nDark Horse Comics\\nWalt Disney Imagineering\\nFisher-Price\\nResearch these companies to find out if they offer any internship opportunities during the summer or school year for students. You should generally plan to apply in the semester before you want to take the internship.\\n3. Marketing Your Work as a Cartoonist\\n3-1. Create an on-line space for your work.\\nWhile your physical portfolio will be required for most job interviews, an accessible on-line space can also be attractive to employers. Consider using a web site or an Instagram account to display the broad range of work you use.\\nThe web site can also include your rates and reviews from previous clients and your contact information.\\n3-2. Contact production studios.\\nIf you are interested in the process of storyboarding -- or pairing images with text to create a story -- then film and video games studio can use your expertise.\\nMake your own independent film or animated project as a sample of your storyboard work. You can upload this on a video streaming site like YouTube or Vimeo and link it to your on-line space.\\n3-3. Become active in your local artistic community.\\nAttend openings of galleries, exhibitions, conferences and lectures that apply to your field. These will be important events for expanding your professional network and finding new potential clients.\\n3-4. Join the National Cartoonists Society.\\nAs a professional network of cartoonists, membership in this group can help you meet mentors and develop more artistic connections.\\nIn order to join, you must have made the majority of your income from professional cartooning for at least the past three years. You will need two letters of recommendations, a short biographical sketch, and samples of your work. The work you submit must also have your signature.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Working as a cartoonist can be a very rewarding career -- you will get to tell stories through visual drawings while you grow as an artist. But it can be a very precarious career -- the Bureau of Labor Statistics does not contain any in-depth data on this profession, which indicates that it is very rare to make a living as a full-time cartoonist. Most cartoonists work as freelancers or they have an additional specialization that allows them to draw cartoons as a secondary job. With some planning and dedication, you can make cartooning part of your professional life.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting Your Education as a Cartoonist\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Determine if you have a natural talent.\", \"描述\": \"Do you find yourself doodling in your notebook at school? Would you rather draw a picture of an idea than write a paragraph describing it? Have your teachers, friends and family members praised your artistic abilities? Have they asked you to make posters, flyers or other artistic works? If so, this might be a sign you are a natural fit to become a cartoonist.\\nMost cartoonist positions do not require a formal education. A rich portfolio of work can be just as important -- if not more so -- than a degree. But a college education can help you connect to other cartoonists in your field, give you valuable professional experience through internships, and an opportunity to learn the latest technologies used by cartoonists.\\nCollege or art school will also give you the opportunity to study valuable skills you might need in running your own business, how to write for a comic strip in creative writing courses, and how to develop additional skills in related fields like animation or multimedia design, and journalism.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Prepare a portfolio.\", \"描述\": \"Most art schools have their own requirements for compiling and submitting a portfolio, but they generally have to include 10-20 pieces of your best work (they can be unpublished). While you might be most interested in showing your cartoons, you should also include a broad range of work with multiple mediums, like paint, pastels,and photography.\\nKeep your work in a binder with plastic sleeves protecting the work. 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The best art colleges and programs are very competitive; good grades will show your committee that you have the dedication and work ethic required to complete a large-scale art project.\\nIt is also worth it to study for your SAT/ACT. While some art schools only require these scores on an optional basis, they can help you earn scholarships and fellowships to fund your education.\\nYou can find study resources through the College Board's web site, including practice tests and sample questions. Do not study for the test overnight -- give yourself months to prepare. 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Look to your local newspapers or magazines to see if you can do any temporary projects with them.\\nConsider focusing on a specialization in cartoons. Do you want to write political cartoons, comic books or graphic novels? Do you want to draw animated cartoons for film and television? Try your hand at each of these categories to see which one you enjoy the most.\\nYour college newspaper or art review will also be great sources to publish your work. Consider applying to join the editorial team on these publications.\\nApply for art prizes and competitions. These might be hosted by your school's art department, your local arts alliance or by a larger institution, like the National Endowment for the Arts. Gaining accolades while you are in college will help strengthen the worth of your portfolio.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Learn important skills.\", \"描述\": \"A cartoonist is often not just tasked with creating a drawing using pencil and paper. Often you will be required to learn other skills, especially if you want to illustrate for comic books or comic strips. Look into taking classes that specialize in some of the following skills or professional roles:\\nPencil work\\nColorist\\nDesigning letter work for comic books\\nInk work\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get a valuable internship or apprenticeship.\", \"描述\": \"Although you will produce many cartoons for class projects, you should also look into getting an internship with a reputable company in your field. This experience can be a launching point for your career in that field. Some excellent companies include:\\nDC Comics\\nMarvel Comics\\nDark Horse Comics\\nWalt Disney Imagineering\\nFisher-Price\\nResearch these companies to find out if they offer any internship opportunities during the summer or school year for students. 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You can upload this on a video streaming site like YouTube or Vimeo and link it to your on-line space.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Become active in your local artistic community.\", \"描述\": \"Attend openings of galleries, exhibitions, conferences and lectures that apply to your field. These will be important events for expanding your professional network and finding new potential clients.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Join the National Cartoonists Society.\", \"描述\": \"As a professional network of cartoonists, membership in this group can help you meet mentors and develop more artistic connections.\\nIn order to join, you must have made the majority of your income from professional cartooning for at least the past three years. You will need two letters of recommendations, a short biographical sketch, and samples of your work. The work you submit must also have your signature.\"}]}]}}",
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1. Building an Irresistible Personality
1-1. Work on your self-confidence.
Confidence is a very attractive quality, and it's something Casanova used to impress the people around him. If you don't feel like a confident person, then work on building your self-esteem and image. That way, you can interact with people easily, especially women, and draw them in.
A big part of confidence is the way you talk to yourself. Try to eliminate negative thinking from your mind, and focus on positive thoughts to improve your self-image.
Confidence stems from competence, and the best way to build competence is to engage in something that is a rigorous activity for you to do at first. Try to engage in some type of physical activity or hobby. As you become more proficient at it, you'll learn to be more confident in yourself and it will impact your dating life as well.
Don't overdo it, though. Trying to oversell your confidence could make you look selfish or like a show-off. You don't want that, and it could turn people away.
Women love men who can confidently talk about their achievements without coming off as being cocky. A big part of that is really just having a proper reference point for your competence, rather than just talking about how great you are. Do your best to talk about the impact that your experiences had on you. That way, you'll give them a little more insight into who you are and what values really resonate the most with you.
1-2. Try to charm everyone around you.
Work the room! Casanova was the life of the party, and he did this by winning others over with his personality. Introduce yourself to people, have small talk, learn their names, and give compliments when you can. This charms everyone and gets them on your side.
Remember not to only focus your charm on women you're trying to meet. Charming everyone is part of being a Casanova.
1-3. Have great conversations with everyone you meet.
Casanova loved conversation, so follow his lead and work on your own conversation skills. Tell stories and always have something to say to keep the conversation going. But don't just make it a one-sided conversation; ask questions too! Get people to talk about themselves so they loosen up. This is another great way to charm the people around you.
Listening is also part of having great conversations. Take a genuine interest in what people are saying and ask them more questions. This is a good way to show people that you're interested and get them to feel more comfortable.
1-4. Accept failures in stride.
No matter how hard you try, you'll fail sometimes. This is okay! Accepting those failures and moving on is a key part of having a strong personality. People will be impressed with the way you let failures roll right off your back.
This is especially important with dating. Some women will reject you, and that's their right. Accept it and move on. Casanova wouldn't let it get him down.
2. Becoming More Worldly
2-1. Educate yourself on literature and science to learn a variety of topics.
Casanova has a reputation as just a man who slept with a lot of women, but there was much more to him than that. He was well-educated in literature, philosophy, science, and music, which was a big part of his charm. Educating yourself is a great way to copy him. That way, you'll always have something interesting to say in conversations.
Work on inserting anecdotes from literature or science into your normal conversation. This will make you look enlightened and well-read.
Casanova was especially fond of poetry, and would often meet with famous poets of his day. Read some classic poetry like Homer’s Odyssey and Iliad or the works of Shakespeare.
2-2. Seek out new experiences to broaden your horizons.
Be a spontaneous person and never shy away from new experiences. This makes you a fun person to be around and gives you tons of stories to entertain people with. Breaking out of your own shell and trying new things will make you a more well-rounded person.
You don’t have to do crazy things to have new experiences. It can be as simple as trying a new cuisine that you’ve never had before or going to a park in your hometown you’ve never visited.
Being spontaneous and exciting was also a way that Casanova impressed women, so it can help you in your dating life as well.
Remember that Casanova’s spontaneity sometimes got him in trouble. Always be careful and don’t break the law while you’re seeking out new experiences.
2-3. Travel to learn about the world.
Traveling gives you insight into different people and cultures. Not only will this improve your own life, but you’ll look more sophisticated to other people as well.
Explore when you visit new places too. Take in the local sites, foods, and people to learn as much as you can.
You don’t have to spend a ton of money to travel. A simple road trip for a weekend is a great way to expand your horizons without being extravagant.
If you can’t travel, then you can still learn about the world. Try reading about different cultures or watching documentaries to educate yourself.
2-4. Treat yourself to fine food and clothes.
Don't deny yourself any pleasures. Follow Casanova's lead by seeking out fine food and wearing fancy clothing. This shows people that you appreciate the finer things in life.
These are also good ways to get attention on dates. Taking your date to an exotic restaurant is a good way to show that you’re a worldly person.
Casanova often had rich patrons who paid for his lifestyle. Since you probably don’t, be careful to watch your budget.
3. Talking to Women
3-1. Respect women and their opinions.
Casanova wasn’t just about getting women in bed. He viewed women as equals and always wanted to hear what they had to say. Make an effort to show respect and interest in the women you’re speaking to. View them as equals and take their opinions seriously to follow in Casanova’s footsteps.
Follow this advice even if you’re not romantically interested in a woman. Everyone deserves your respect and understanding.
This carries over to men as well if that’s who you’re attracted to. Always view potential dates as interesting people who you could learn something from.
3-2. Ask women genuine questions about themselves.
Listening is a key part of a good conversation. Whenever Casanova spoke to a woman, he tended to listen more than he talked and took a genuine interest in her answers. Following this advice is a great way to connect with people. Ask genuine questions during your conversations and listen attentively to the answers. This helps people feel more comfortable around you.
You don’t necessarily have to be romantically interested in a woman to ask questions about herself, but Casanova considered the practice a part of seduction. Keep this in mind if you’re on a date.
Don’t try to fake interest while you’re talking to someone. This doesn’t build any connection, and your partner will probably realize at some point that you’re not really interested.
3-3. Keep in touch with women after meeting them.
Don't just break contact with women after meeting them. If you meet someone and enjoyed talking with them, then stay in contact. Call, message, or text once in a while to talk and maintain the connection. Even if you aren’t romantically involved, this is a great way to make lifelong friends.
Don’t harass anyone, however. If they don’t want to keep talking to you, then respect that.
4. Seducing Your Dates
4-1. Take charge by planning out dates.
A well-planned date was key to Casanova’s seduction technique. Instead of simply asking your date what they want to do, be active and plan the date out. That way, your date sees that you made the effort to plan and prepare to impress her.
If you’re trying to think of date ideas, here is an opportunity to show that you were listening when your partner was talking. If she mentioned that she likes something in particular, like mini golf, make that your next date.
Don’t do this if your date says she doesn’t like when men do this. What she wants comes first.
4-2. Focus all your attention on your date.
Women love being the center of attention, so focus all of yours on your date. Listen to her, compliment her, make eye contact, and overall do what you can to let her know that you're completely focused on the date.
Keeping your phone away is important too. Don't make your date feel like you're distracted.
Definitely don't be staring at any other women on your date. This is a good way to get rejected.
4-3. Surprise your date with gifts.
A nice gift is key to a great date. Present your date with flowers, chocolates, or other little gifts to make them feel special. This was a big part of Casanova’s routine, and it should be part of yours too.
Try to give gifts that you know your date will like. If she says she loves orchids, for example, a bouquet of these flowers is a great choice.
Casanova tended to be lavish with his gifts, but keep your budget in mind and don’t overdo it. You don’t have to give your date fine clothes or jewels to make her happy!
4-4. Set a romantic mood.
If you’re trying to get your date interested in your, then atmosphere is key. Dim the lights, light candles, or put on some soft music to set the mood. This helps your date get more comfortable with you and builds intimacy.
Casanova liked to serve seductive foods on dates like oysters and champagne. You could follow his lead with dishes like these.
4-5. Take your time to build the attraction.
Don’t rush things. Enjoy the conversation, the food, the atmosphere, and all the other parts of your date. The best way to build connection and attraction with your potential partner is by showing them a great time, so stay in the moment and enjoy each other’s company before trying to end the date or get them to come home with you.
Ask plenty of questions during the date to keep your partner talking. Listen attentively so your date knows that you’re interested.
Remember that Casanova genuinely enjoyed company and conversation. He wouldn’t have just wanted to end the date and get his date in bed as quickly as possible.
4-6. Make sure you won’t be disturbed if you take your date home.
If your date does decide to come home with you, then privacy is key. Make sure you two can enjoy each other’s company without being disturbed. If you have any roommates or guests, warn them ahead of time so they won’t bother you. That way, you and your date can focus on each other.
A good way to set a private, romantic mood is cooking your date dinner at your home. This way, you can take your time, relax, set the mood, and avoid distractions.
You could also get a hotel room if your home isn’t as private as you’d like it to be.
Tips
You might come across some gurus who tell you that Casanova was all about having sex with as many women as possible. That was certainly part of his lifestyle, but not the whole thing.
Warnings
Always get consent from your date before doing anything sexual and stop immediately if they tell you to.
Casanova did many things that we would consider morally wrong or even illegal today, like pursuing underage women. This was common in Casanova’s time, so it wasn’t considered a problem. However, always follow modern laws and ethics when you’re looking for partners.
Practice safe sex by wearing a condom.
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Have great conversations with everyone you meet.\\nCasanova loved conversation, so follow his lead and work on your own conversation skills. Tell stories and always have something to say to keep the conversation going. But don't just make it a one-sided conversation; ask questions too! Get people to talk about themselves so they loosen up. This is another great way to charm the people around you.\\nListening is also part of having great conversations. Take a genuine interest in what people are saying and ask them more questions. This is a good way to show people that you're interested and get them to feel more comfortable.\\n1-4. Accept failures in stride.\\nNo matter how hard you try, you'll fail sometimes. This is okay! Accepting those failures and moving on is a key part of having a strong personality. People will be impressed with the way you let failures roll right off your back.\\nThis is especially important with dating. Some women will reject you, and that's their right. 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This helps people feel more comfortable around you.\\nYou don’t necessarily have to be romantically interested in a woman to ask questions about herself, but Casanova considered the practice a part of seduction. Keep this in mind if you’re on a date.\\nDon’t try to fake interest while you’re talking to someone. This doesn’t build any connection, and your partner will probably realize at some point that you’re not really interested.\\n3-3. Keep in touch with women after meeting them.\\nDon't just break contact with women after meeting them. If you meet someone and enjoyed talking with them, then stay in contact. Call, message, or text once in a while to talk and maintain the connection. Even if you aren’t romantically involved, this is a great way to make lifelong friends.\\nDon’t harass anyone, however. If they don’t want to keep talking to you, then respect that.\\n4. Seducing Your Dates\\n4-1. 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Make sure you won’t be disturbed if you take your date home.\\nIf your date does decide to come home with you, then privacy is key. Make sure you two can enjoy each other’s company without being disturbed. If you have any roommates or guests, warn them ahead of time so they won’t bother you. That way, you and your date can focus on each other.\\nA good way to set a private, romantic mood is cooking your date dinner at your home. This way, you can take your time, relax, set the mood, and avoid distractions.\\nYou could also get a hotel room if your home isn’t as private as you’d like it to be.\\nTips\\nYou might come across some gurus who tell you that Casanova was all about having sex with as many women as possible. 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This is a good way to show people that you're interested and get them to feel more comfortable.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Accept failures in stride.\", \"描述\": \"No matter how hard you try, you'll fail sometimes. This is okay! Accepting those failures and moving on is a key part of having a strong personality. People will be impressed with the way you let failures roll right off your back.\\nThis is especially important with dating. Some women will reject you, and that's their right. Accept it and move on. Casanova wouldn't let it get him down.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Becoming More Worldly\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Educate yourself on literature and science to learn a variety of topics.\", \"描述\": \"Casanova has a reputation as just a man who slept with a lot of women, but there was much more to him than that. He was well-educated in literature, philosophy, science, and music, which was a big part of his charm. Educating yourself is a great way to copy him. That way, you'll always have something interesting to say in conversations.\\nWork on inserting anecdotes from literature or science into your normal conversation. This will make you look enlightened and well-read.\\nCasanova was especially fond of poetry, and would often meet with famous poets of his day. Read some classic poetry like Homer’s Odyssey and Iliad or the works of Shakespeare.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Seek out new experiences to broaden your horizons.\", \"描述\": \"Be a spontaneous person and never shy away from new experiences. This makes you a fun person to be around and gives you tons of stories to entertain people with. Breaking out of your own shell and trying new things will make you a more well-rounded person.\\nYou don’t have to do crazy things to have new experiences. It can be as simple as trying a new cuisine that you’ve never had before or going to a park in your hometown you’ve never visited.\\nBeing spontaneous and exciting was also a way that Casanova impressed women, so it can help you in your dating life as well.\\nRemember that Casanova’s spontaneity sometimes got him in trouble. Always be careful and don’t break the law while you’re seeking out new experiences.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Travel to learn about the world.\", \"描述\": \"Traveling gives you insight into different people and cultures. Not only will this improve your own life, but you’ll look more sophisticated to other people as well.\\nExplore when you visit new places too. Take in the local sites, foods, and people to learn as much as you can.\\nYou don’t have to spend a ton of money to travel. A simple road trip for a weekend is a great way to expand your horizons without being extravagant.\\nIf you can’t travel, then you can still learn about the world. Try reading about different cultures or watching documentaries to educate yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Treat yourself to fine food and clothes.\", \"描述\": \"Don't deny yourself any pleasures. Follow Casanova's lead by seeking out fine food and wearing fancy clothing. This shows people that you appreciate the finer things in life.\\nThese are also good ways to get attention on dates. Taking your date to an exotic restaurant is a good way to show that you’re a worldly person.\\nCasanova often had rich patrons who paid for his lifestyle. Since you probably don’t, be careful to watch your budget.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Talking to Women\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Respect women and their opinions.\", \"描述\": \"Casanova wasn’t just about getting women in bed. He viewed women as equals and always wanted to hear what they had to say. Make an effort to show respect and interest in the women you’re speaking to. View them as equals and take their opinions seriously to follow in Casanova’s footsteps.\\nFollow this advice even if you’re not romantically interested in a woman. Everyone deserves your respect and understanding.\\nThis carries over to men as well if that’s who you’re attracted to. Always view potential dates as interesting people who you could learn something from.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Ask women genuine questions about themselves.\", \"描述\": \"Listening is a key part of a good conversation. Whenever Casanova spoke to a woman, he tended to listen more than he talked and took a genuine interest in her answers. Following this advice is a great way to connect with people. Ask genuine questions during your conversations and listen attentively to the answers. This helps people feel more comfortable around you.\\nYou don’t necessarily have to be romantically interested in a woman to ask questions about herself, but Casanova considered the practice a part of seduction. Keep this in mind if you’re on a date.\\nDon’t try to fake interest while you’re talking to someone. This doesn’t build any connection, and your partner will probably realize at some point that you’re not really interested.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Keep in touch with women after meeting them.\", \"描述\": \"Don't just break contact with women after meeting them. If you meet someone and enjoyed talking with them, then stay in contact. Call, message, or text once in a while to talk and maintain the connection. Even if you aren’t romantically involved, this is a great way to make lifelong friends.\\nDon’t harass anyone, however. If they don’t want to keep talking to you, then respect that.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Seducing Your Dates\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Take charge by planning out dates.\", \"描述\": \"A well-planned date was key to Casanova’s seduction technique. Instead of simply asking your date what they want to do, be active and plan the date out. That way, your date sees that you made the effort to plan and prepare to impress her.\\nIf you’re trying to think of date ideas, here is an opportunity to show that you were listening when your partner was talking. If she mentioned that she likes something in particular, like mini golf, make that your next date.\\nDon’t do this if your date says she doesn’t like when men do this. What she wants comes first.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Focus all your attention on your date.\", \"描述\": \"Women love being the center of attention, so focus all of yours on your date. Listen to her, compliment her, make eye contact, and overall do what you can to let her know that you're completely focused on the date.\\nKeeping your phone away is important too. Don't make your date feel like you're distracted.\\nDefinitely don't be staring at any other women on your date. This is a good way to get rejected.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Surprise your date with gifts.\", \"描述\": \"A nice gift is key to a great date. Present your date with flowers, chocolates, or other little gifts to make them feel special. This was a big part of Casanova’s routine, and it should be part of yours too.\\nTry to give gifts that you know your date will like. If she says she loves orchids, for example, a bouquet of these flowers is a great choice.\\nCasanova tended to be lavish with his gifts, but keep your budget in mind and don’t overdo it. You don’t have to give your date fine clothes or jewels to make her happy!\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Set a romantic mood.\", \"描述\": \"If you’re trying to get your date interested in your, then atmosphere is key. Dim the lights, light candles, or put on some soft music to set the mood. This helps your date get more comfortable with you and builds intimacy.\\nCasanova liked to serve seductive foods on dates like oysters and champagne. You could follow his lead with dishes like these.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Take your time to build the attraction.\", \"描述\": \"Don’t rush things. Enjoy the conversation, the food, the atmosphere, and all the other parts of your date. The best way to build connection and attraction with your potential partner is by showing them a great time, so stay in the moment and enjoy each other’s company before trying to end the date or get them to come home with you.\\nAsk plenty of questions during the date to keep your partner talking. Listen attentively so your date knows that you’re interested.\\nRemember that Casanova genuinely enjoyed company and conversation. He wouldn’t have just wanted to end the date and get his date in bed as quickly as possible.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Make sure you won’t be disturbed if you take your date home.\", \"描述\": \"If your date does decide to come home with you, then privacy is key. Make sure you two can enjoy each other’s company without being disturbed. If you have any roommates or guests, warn them ahead of time so they won’t bother you. That way, you and your date can focus on each other.\\nA good way to set a private, romantic mood is cooking your date dinner at your home. This way, you can take your time, relax, set the mood, and avoid distractions.\\nYou could also get a hotel room if your home isn’t as private as you’d like it to be.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"You might come across some gurus who tell you that Casanova was all about having sex with as many women as possible. That was certainly part of his lifestyle, but not the whole thing.\\n\"], \"注意事项\": [\"Always get consent from your date before doing anything sexual and stop immediately if they tell you to.\\n\", \"Casanova did many things that we would consider morally wrong or even illegal today, like pursuing underage women. This was common in Casanova’s time, so it wasn’t considered a problem. However, always follow modern laws and ethics when you’re looking for partners.\\n\", \"Practice safe sex by wearing a condom.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Physical Charm
1-1. Have good hygiene.
A dirty person is not attractive. Make sure to shower or bathe daily, making sure to thoroughly cleanse your body with body wash or soap from shoulders to feet. Wash your neck to if you think having a clean neck will make you charming. Brush your teeth at least twice daily and for at least two minutes. Make sure to always wear clean clothes and apply deodorant if necessary.
1-2. Care for your skin
Always wash your face in the morning. You can either do this by splashing it with cool water and gently patting it damp, or taking a face cloth, soaking it in warm water, and gently wiping your face clean. Use a facial cleanser if necessary. Make sure to always apply moisturizing facial lotion after washing your face. Also apply moisturizing body lotion to your body after showering or bathing.
Face masks are another great way to care for your skin. Pumpkin is rich in antioxidants and vitamins A, C, and E, making it a great ingredient to include in your mask.
White clay or turmeric are great face mask ingredients for oily skin.
Yogurt mixed with 1 tsp (4.9 mL) of honey is another great mask you can try. Leave it on your face for 10-15 minutes and then wipe it off with a cloth.
1-3. Have perfect teeth.
Get braces if your teeth are crooked. Even slightly crooked. Perfectly straight teeth are very appealing and charming according to some. Brush your teeth two to three times a day, using a whitening toothpaste and optional, a high-quality, electrical toothbrush. Brush for 2 minutes. Floss once at night and use mouthwash if necessary. This is essential to being charming.
1-4. Have healthy, shiny hair.
Leave your hair medium or long lengthen, or short. Hair lengths have little to no bearing on how charming anyone is. Wash your hair with a shampoo that works well with your hair. Make sure to massage your scalp when you lather the shampoo in and rinse thoroughly. Use conditioner on your hair from the bottom of the neck, down. Using conditioner on your roots will make your hair flat and greasy. Wash your hair every other day to every 3 days. Style it different everyday and try out different hairstyles and haircuts. Make sure to brush your hair in the morning and rid it of all tangles and knots. Don't use heat on your hair or dye your hair too often.
1-5. Have a healthy body
Cut down on all the junk foods you eat and replace them with whole, healthy foods. Make sure to get your daily dose of protein such as chicken, fish, tofu, nuts, etc. Also stack up on the fruits and vegetables. Exercise daily for 30 minutes to an hour. Drink lots of water and get at least 7 hours of sleep a night.
Snack on some dark chocolate if you're craving something sweet—it's full of antioxidants.
1-6. Have a good fashion sense.
Experiment with different clothes and wear appealing, flattering clothes that are comfortable and that fit. They cannot be too tight nor too baggy. Slightly loose clothes are fine, though. Sometimes just wear casual clothes like sweatpants and an oversized t-shirt. Make sure your clothes are charming.
1-7. Apply light makeup, optional.
Makeup can really help spark up your creativity and make you look even more glamorous than you already are and make your beautiful features pop. A little bit of brown mascara (clump-free), neutral eyeshadow, concealer that matches your skin tone, powder, and lip gloss or balm is fine.
2. Personality Charm
2-1. Smile
Smiling is physical, but anyone can smile at any time. Smiling will make people around you (including yourself), feel more happy and bright. Someone who smiles all the time is really attractive. Smiling will make you seem approachable. Whenever you see someone (even if you don't know them very well or at all), shine a big smile at them, chances are they'll smile back.
2-2. Be humble.
Don't try to show off too much or boast. Having pride, dignity, and confidence is definitely a must, but don't overdo it and let someone else have the spotlight on them every once in a while. Try not to be too overly loud or annoying. This may seem attractive to the people who act this way, but it really is not.
2-3. Be kind.
Kindness is a must! Always give compliments to everyone you know, maybe even strangers.Always offer to do favors for people and help others whenever you can. Treat others the way you would like to be treated. Unfortunately, nowadays many people are rude and ignorant, so don't be like that.
2-4. Be positive.
Always smile, always laugh, and always seem happy. Of course, you don't have to be 24/7, because we are all human and we all cry and frown, but don't let it show. Try to have a good temper and think of the good side.
2-5. Be brave.
Bravery is also important. Be willing to meet new people and speak for yourself. Don't let anyone tell you can't do something. As corny as it sounds, if you believe you can do it, you can. Don't think, act, is a good motto.
2-6. Be a good friend
Whenever a friend needs something, offer to help them achieve it. Always be there for the people you love. Friends are people who will help you get through rough times, and that will always support you, forever.
2-7. Be confident
Be confident in everything you do, sit or stand up straight, take a deep breath, and believe you can do it. Don't let others push you off your throne. You own yourself, so you can do whatever you want. Always be happy, healthy, and confident, of course, charming.
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Pumpkin is rich in antioxidants and vitamins A, C, and E, making it a great ingredient to include in your mask.\\nWhite clay or turmeric are great face mask ingredients for oily skin.\\nYogurt mixed with 1 tsp (4.9 mL) of honey is another great mask you can try. Leave it on your face for 10-15 minutes and then wipe it off with a cloth.\\n1-3. Have perfect teeth.\\nGet braces if your teeth are crooked. Even slightly crooked. Perfectly straight teeth are very appealing and charming according to some. Brush your teeth two to three times a day, using a whitening toothpaste and optional, a high-quality, electrical toothbrush. Brush for 2 minutes. Floss once at night and use mouthwash if necessary. This is essential to being charming.\\n1-4. Have healthy, shiny hair.\\nLeave your hair medium or long lengthen, or short. Hair lengths have little to no bearing on how charming anyone is. Wash your hair with a shampoo that works well with your hair. Make sure to massage your scalp when you lather the shampoo in and rinse thoroughly. Use conditioner on your hair from the bottom of the neck, down. Using conditioner on your roots will make your hair flat and greasy. Wash your hair every other day to every 3 days. Style it different everyday and try out different hairstyles and haircuts. Make sure to brush your hair in the morning and rid it of all tangles and knots. Don't use heat on your hair or dye your hair too often.\\n1-5. Have a healthy body\\nCut down on all the junk foods you eat and replace them with whole, healthy foods. Make sure to get your daily dose of protein such as chicken, fish, tofu, nuts, etc. Also stack up on the fruits and vegetables. Exercise daily for 30 minutes to an hour. Drink lots of water and get at least 7 hours of sleep a night.\\nSnack on some dark chocolate if you're craving something sweet—it's full of antioxidants.\\n1-6. Have a good fashion sense.\\nExperiment with different clothes and wear appealing, flattering clothes that are comfortable and that fit. They cannot be too tight nor too baggy. Slightly loose clothes are fine, though. Sometimes just wear casual clothes like sweatpants and an oversized t-shirt. Make sure your clothes are charming.\\n1-7. Apply light makeup, optional.\\nMakeup can really help spark up your creativity and make you look even more glamorous than you already are and make your beautiful features pop. A little bit of brown mascara (clump-free), neutral eyeshadow, concealer that matches your skin tone, powder, and lip gloss or balm is fine.\\n2. Personality Charm\\n2-1. Smile\\nSmiling is physical, but anyone can smile at any time. Smiling will make people around you (including yourself), feel more happy and bright. Someone who smiles all the time is really attractive. Smiling will make you seem approachable. Whenever you see someone (even if you don't know them very well or at all), shine a big smile at them, chances are they'll smile back.\\n2-2. Be humble.\\nDon't try to show off too much or boast. Having pride, dignity, and confidence is definitely a must, but don't overdo it and let someone else have the spotlight on them every once in a while. Try not to be too overly loud or annoying. This may seem attractive to the people who act this way, but it really is not.\\n2-3. Be kind.\\nKindness is a must! Always give compliments to everyone you know, maybe even strangers.Always offer to do favors for people and help others whenever you can. Treat others the way you would like to be treated. Unfortunately, nowadays many people are rude and ignorant, so don't be like that.\\n2-4. Be positive.\\nAlways smile, always laugh, and always seem happy. Of course, you don't have to be 24/7, because we are all human and we all cry and frown, but don't let it show. Try to have a good temper and think of the good side.\\n2-5. Be brave.\\nBravery is also important. Be willing to meet new people and speak for yourself. Don't let anyone tell you can't do something. As corny as it sounds, if you believe you can do it, you can. Don't think, act, is a good motto.\\n2-6. Be a good friend\\nWhenever a friend needs something, offer to help them achieve it. Always be there for the people you love. Friends are people who will help you get through rough times, and that will always support you, forever.\\n2-7. Be confident\\nBe confident in everything you do, sit or stand up straight, take a deep breath, and believe you can do it. Don't let others push you off your throne. You own yourself, so you can do whatever you want. Always be happy, healthy, and confident, of course, charming.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Charm is a powerful quality that every person would like to have, and is the quality of being attractive in either demeanor or appearance. If you think you aren't charming enough, read on for easy steps on how to improve yourself.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Physical Charm\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Have good hygiene.\", \"描述\": \"A dirty person is not attractive. Make sure to shower or bathe daily, making sure to thoroughly cleanse your body with body wash or soap from shoulders to feet. Wash your neck to if you think having a clean neck will make you charming. Brush your teeth at least twice daily and for at least two minutes. Make sure to always wear clean clothes and apply deodorant if necessary.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Care for your skin\", \"描述\": \"Always wash your face in the morning. You can either do this by splashing it with cool water and gently patting it damp, or taking a face cloth, soaking it in warm water, and gently wiping your face clean. Use a facial cleanser if necessary. Make sure to always apply moisturizing facial lotion after washing your face. Also apply moisturizing body lotion to your body after showering or bathing.\\nFace masks are another great way to care for your skin. Pumpkin is rich in antioxidants and vitamins A, C, and E, making it a great ingredient to include in your mask.\\nWhite clay or turmeric are great face mask ingredients for oily skin.\\nYogurt mixed with 1 tsp (4.9 mL) of honey is another great mask you can try. Leave it on your face for 10-15 minutes and then wipe it off with a cloth.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Have perfect teeth.\", \"描述\": \"Get braces if your teeth are crooked. Even slightly crooked. Perfectly straight teeth are very appealing and charming according to some. Brush your teeth two to three times a day, using a whitening toothpaste and optional, a high-quality, electrical toothbrush. Brush for 2 minutes. Floss once at night and use mouthwash if necessary. 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1. Cultivating the Right Personality
1-1. Make friends with the squad.
This can help you get a sense of the culture of your school's squad. Every squad is different, and oftentimes members want to choose new cheerleaders who will fit in with the group. Try to strike up a conversation with members of the squad to get a feel for the group.
If you have class with a member of the cheer squad, try talking to her before the bell rings. If you can choose your seat, try sitting next to her in class so you can chat.
Ask to sit with the cheer squad at lunch. While you may feel awkward doing so, remember that the worst thing that can happen is they'll say no.
1-2. Keep a positive attitude
Cheerleaders are supposed to build up morale, so being positive is vital. Work on developing a positive mentality, as this will help you bring out enthusiasm in those around you.
Be kind to yourself. Do not say anything to yourself that you would not say to someone else. Check yourself throughout the day to make sure you're staying confident.
If you screw up on a test, you may think, "You're so stupid. I can't believe you did that." Stop and correct yourself. Instead, think, "Everyone makes mistakes. I'll do better next time."
Surround yourself with positive people. Stay close to friends and family members who are encouraging others. Try to be equally kind and enthusiastic in return.
1-3. Develop confidence.
Confidence is contagious. Part of a cheerleader's job is to keep the team and crowd excited about the victory. You should work on building up your confidence to increase your chance of getting on the team.
Work on your overall wellbeing. This will make you feel better about yourself. For example, do not watch TV all night. Instead, work on activities that make you feel good. Get your homework done, go out with friends, or work on a hobby.
Set goals and pursue them. This will also help bolster your confidence. For example, say you want to finish a book you're reading. Set out to read a certain number of pages each day.
1-4. Be energetic
Cheerleaders need to be high energy to get everyone in the stadium excited. Work on building your energy in preparation for tryouts.
Laugh throughout the day. This can raise your heart rate, blood pressure, and mood. Watch a funny video clip online. Watch a movie you like. Hang out with a friend who makes you laugh.
Stretch throughout the day when you're feeling sluggish. A good stretch can help increase your energy and mood.
Make sure to get adequate sleep each night. A regular sleep schedule can help improve your overall energy.
2. Getting in Shape
2-1. Eat a healthy diet.
This will make sure your body has enough energy and strength to train. Cheerleading is a very physical sport that requires a lot of endurance. Therefore, a diet high in carbohydrates, protein, fruits, and vegetables is important.
Make sure each meal contains healthy, complex carbohydrates. Your body needs carbs for energy, so eat things like oatmeal, brown rice, whole wheat bread, and other nutrient-rich carbs.
Get some fruits and vegetables in with every meal. Have a side salad with lunch. Add some fruit to your morning cereal. Snack on assorted vegetables or fruits between meals.
Go for lean sources of protein like low-fat dairy, poultry, and fish.
A lot of people think cheerleaders do not eat a lot. This is not the case. If you're going to be working out in preparing for tryouts, a lot of healthy food is necessary for energy. Do not try to restrict your diet too much.
2-2. Build your endurance.
Cheerleading requires a lot of endurance, as you'll be moving and cheering throughout each game. Focus on physical activities that strengthen endurance.
Running or biking can help build endurance. If you have a gym membership, or if there is a gym at your school, try riding the elliptical machine, a stationary bike, a treadmill, or the stair master.
Strive to keep your heart rate up throughout the workout. Push yourself a little more each week to add length to your workout.
Remember, start slow. If you haven't worked out in a while, you may want to stick to 15 or 20-minute sets and build up from there.
2-3. Be flexible.
There will be a lot of jumps, kicks, and different body positions during your routine. Therefore, flexibility is key. Engage in activities that help build your flexibility if you want to become a cheerleader.
Yoga is a great way to build flexibility. You can take a yoga class at a gym, community center, or your school. You can also find yoga routines online.
In addition to helping you be a better cheerleader, flexibility will help prevent injury during training. Your muscles will be more bendable overall.
2-4. Weight train.
Cheerleaders need to be strong. You'll be working long hours at practice and during competitions/ games. Also, there may be cheers where you're required to lift another player. Incorporate weight training into your regular fitness regimen.
Aim to weight train 2 to 3 times a week. Make sure not to weight train two days in a row, as this can cause strain.
You can use weights or a weight machine at the gym. You can also do things like push-ups, sit-ups, and Pilates, which use your own body as a weight.
If you do make the team, you will probably need to cut back on weight training during cheer season. You'll be doing a lot of weight training just during practice, and too much weight training can cause injury.
2-5. Develop a strong voice.
You will need to be able to belt out cheers during games. Therefore, you should train your voice in addition to your body.
Breathe correctly. Your breathing affects how your voice sounds. Do not take shallow breaths. Take big, deep breaths that fill your lungs with as much air as possible.
Use energy when you speak. You want to sound enthusiastic. Make sure you're using your cheek muscles as you talk, as this will affect how your voice comes out.
When you speak, pull away from the muscles inside your throat the same way you do when you yawn. This will cause your voice to sound bigger, without sounding loud or shrill.
2-6. Be careful not to overtrain.
You should always talk to a doctor before beginning a new training regimen. Over training can cause strain or injury. While you should work hard to become a cheerleader, do not do anything that could cause physical harm.
Watch for signs of overtraining. You may feel a sense of heaviness, ongoing soreness in your muscles, lack of appetite, decreased concentration, and tiredness throughout the day. You may also feel an increased desire to skip workouts, as your body is warning you you're overdoing it.
If you've been overtraining, talk to your doctor about what you should be doing differently. You should also take a few days off of training to let your body recover.
3. Trying Out for the Squad
3-1. Do some research.
You want to know what the expectations are for the cheer squad. Before your audition, try to get a sense of what kind of cheers the team does.
Ask other people who have auditioned. Every squad has different expectations regarding how to audition. Some squads may disapprove of you bringing in a spirit poster, while others may encourage it. You may be expected to wear school colors for some schools, while other schools may simply require you to wear comfortable clothing that allows you to move around.
Talk to the coach or the head cheerleader. Ask him or her for tips on how to audition.
Go to some games. Try to memorize some of the cheers and moves. Make sure you're able to keep up with the team.
3-2. Practice leading up to auditions.
A lot of quality practice time can help you shine. You may get nervous during auditions. You're less likely to slip up if you've practiced to the point you have a solid routine committed to memory.
Make time to practice every day. Schedule time in your day-to-day schedule for practice. You could, for example, practice for an hour after dinner each night.
If you have friends auditioning as well, ask them to practice with you. You guys can help keep each other on track.
3-3. Come to the audition prepared.
Make sure you have everything that's required. You may need a permission slip, for example. Ask beforehand what materials you need, and make sure to bring them with you to the audition. You do not want to look underprepared.
Relax and do your best when you're auditioning. Remember, cheerleaders, are supposed to make the game fun for everyone. If you're having fun, you're more likely to look like cheerleader material.
3-4. Do not get discouraged if you do not make the squad.
You can always try out again next year. Many people have faced rejection at some point in life, so take this as an opportunity to try harder next time. It's not necessarily a personal reflection of you. There were probably a lot of talented people trying out that year.
You can always get involved with the cheer squad in some other way. You can volunteer to help out with coaching, for example, or a position like a team manager.
Tips
Always have a positive attitude! Be open to learning new skills and have a good relationship with cheerleaders and the coach!
Have confidence and do your best. Always smile. Never cross your arms or it will look like you have an attitude, instead put your hands behind your back. Always try and make new friends and be 20 min early.
You don't need to do everything! If you can't do a back bend, don't get frustrated. You will learn to do all the moves over time.
Warnings
Wear no jewelry, loose clothes, or bagging clothes. Wear something that won't fly around while you're tumbling.
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Check yourself throughout the day to make sure you're staying confident.\\nIf you screw up on a test, you may think, \\\"You're so stupid. I can't believe you did that.\\\" Stop and correct yourself. Instead, think, \\\"Everyone makes mistakes. I'll do better next time.\\\"\\nSurround yourself with positive people. Stay close to friends and family members who are encouraging others. Try to be equally kind and enthusiastic in return.\\n1-3. Develop confidence.\\nConfidence is contagious. Part of a cheerleader's job is to keep the team and crowd excited about the victory. You should work on building up your confidence to increase your chance of getting on the team.\\nWork on your overall wellbeing. This will make you feel better about yourself. For example, do not watch TV all night. Instead, work on activities that make you feel good. Get your homework done, go out with friends, or work on a hobby.\\nSet goals and pursue them. This will also help bolster your confidence. For example, say you want to finish a book you're reading. Set out to read a certain number of pages each day.\\n1-4. Be energetic\\nCheerleaders need to be high energy to get everyone in the stadium excited. Work on building your energy in preparation for tryouts.\\nLaugh throughout the day. This can raise your heart rate, blood pressure, and mood. Watch a funny video clip online. Watch a movie you like. Hang out with a friend who makes you laugh.\\nStretch throughout the day when you're feeling sluggish. A good stretch can help increase your energy and mood.\\nMake sure to get adequate sleep each night. A regular sleep schedule can help improve your overall energy.\\n2. Getting in Shape\\n2-1. Eat a healthy diet.\\nThis will make sure your body has enough energy and strength to train. Cheerleading is a very physical sport that requires a lot of endurance. Therefore, a diet high in carbohydrates, protein, fruits, and vegetables is important.\\nMake sure each meal contains healthy, complex carbohydrates. Your body needs carbs for energy, so eat things like oatmeal, brown rice, whole wheat bread, and other nutrient-rich carbs.\\nGet some fruits and vegetables in with every meal. Have a side salad with lunch. Add some fruit to your morning cereal. Snack on assorted vegetables or fruits between meals.\\nGo for lean sources of protein like low-fat dairy, poultry, and fish.\\nA lot of people think cheerleaders do not eat a lot. This is not the case. If you're going to be working out in preparing for tryouts, a lot of healthy food is necessary for energy. Do not try to restrict your diet too much.\\n2-2. Build your endurance.\\nCheerleading requires a lot of endurance, as you'll be moving and cheering throughout each game. Focus on physical activities that strengthen endurance.\\nRunning or biking can help build endurance. If you have a gym membership, or if there is a gym at your school, try riding the elliptical machine, a stationary bike, a treadmill, or the stair master.\\nStrive to keep your heart rate up throughout the workout. Push yourself a little more each week to add length to your workout.\\nRemember, start slow. If you haven't worked out in a while, you may want to stick to 15 or 20-minute sets and build up from there.\\n2-3. Be flexible.\\nThere will be a lot of jumps, kicks, and different body positions during your routine. Therefore, flexibility is key. Engage in activities that help build your flexibility if you want to become a cheerleader.\\nYoga is a great way to build flexibility. You can take a yoga class at a gym, community center, or your school. You can also find yoga routines online.\\nIn addition to helping you be a better cheerleader, flexibility will help prevent injury during training. Your muscles will be more bendable overall.\\n2-4. Weight train.\\nCheerleaders need to be strong. You'll be working long hours at practice and during competitions/ games. Also, there may be cheers where you're required to lift another player. Incorporate weight training into your regular fitness regimen.\\nAim to weight train 2 to 3 times a week. Make sure not to weight train two days in a row, as this can cause strain.\\nYou can use weights or a weight machine at the gym. You can also do things like push-ups, sit-ups, and Pilates, which use your own body as a weight.\\nIf you do make the team, you will probably need to cut back on weight training during cheer season. You'll be doing a lot of weight training just during practice, and too much weight training can cause injury.\\n2-5. Develop a strong voice.\\nYou will need to be able to belt out cheers during games. Therefore, you should train your voice in addition to your body.\\nBreathe correctly. Your breathing affects how your voice sounds. Do not take shallow breaths. Take big, deep breaths that fill your lungs with as much air as possible.\\nUse energy when you speak. You want to sound enthusiastic. Make sure you're using your cheek muscles as you talk, as this will affect how your voice comes out.\\nWhen you speak, pull away from the muscles inside your throat the same way you do when you yawn. This will cause your voice to sound bigger, without sounding loud or shrill.\\n2-6. Be careful not to overtrain.\\nYou should always talk to a doctor before beginning a new training regimen. Over training can cause strain or injury. While you should work hard to become a cheerleader, do not do anything that could cause physical harm.\\nWatch for signs of overtraining. You may feel a sense of heaviness, ongoing soreness in your muscles, lack of appetite, decreased concentration, and tiredness throughout the day. You may also feel an increased desire to skip workouts, as your body is warning you you're overdoing it.\\nIf you've been overtraining, talk to your doctor about what you should be doing differently. You should also take a few days off of training to let your body recover.\\n3. Trying Out for the Squad\\n3-1. Do some research.\\nYou want to know what the expectations are for the cheer squad. Before your audition, try to get a sense of what kind of cheers the team does.\\nAsk other people who have auditioned. Every squad has different expectations regarding how to audition. Some squads may disapprove of you bringing in a spirit poster, while others may encourage it. You may be expected to wear school colors for some schools, while other schools may simply require you to wear comfortable clothing that allows you to move around.\\nTalk to the coach or the head cheerleader. Ask him or her for tips on how to audition.\\nGo to some games. Try to memorize some of the cheers and moves. Make sure you're able to keep up with the team.\\n3-2. Practice leading up to auditions.\\nA lot of quality practice time can help you shine. You may get nervous during auditions. You're less likely to slip up if you've practiced to the point you have a solid routine committed to memory. \\nMake time to practice every day. Schedule time in your day-to-day schedule for practice. You could, for example, practice for an hour after dinner each night.\\nIf you have friends auditioning as well, ask them to practice with you. You guys can help keep each other on track.\\n3-3. Come to the audition prepared.\\nMake sure you have everything that's required. You may need a permission slip, for example. Ask beforehand what materials you need, and make sure to bring them with you to the audition. You do not want to look underprepared.\\nRelax and do your best when you're auditioning. Remember, cheerleaders, are supposed to make the game fun for everyone. If you're having fun, you're more likely to look like cheerleader material.\\n3-4. Do not get discouraged if you do not make the squad.\\nYou can always try out again next year. Many people have faced rejection at some point in life, so take this as an opportunity to try harder next time. It's not necessarily a personal reflection of you. There were probably a lot of talented people trying out that year. \\nYou can always get involved with the cheer squad in some other way. You can volunteer to help out with coaching, for example, or a position like a team manager.\\nTips\\nAlways have a positive attitude! Be open to learning new skills and have a good relationship with cheerleaders and the coach!\\nHave confidence and do your best. Always smile. Never cross your arms or it will look like you have an attitude, instead put your hands behind your back. Always try and make new friends and be 20 min early.\\nYou don't need to do everything! 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1. Choosing a Focus
1-1. Learn more about the different types of chemists.
There are many different fields of chemistry, and while they are all related to studying and performing experiments with chemical compounds, they are all unique. Some of the more common fields include the following:
Materials chemists are responsible for researching and developing materials to create new products or improve existing ones.
Analytical chemists examine and classify various chemical compounds that can be used in new drugs. Also, they study the ways different chemicals react to each other.
Inorganic chemists investigate non-carbon compounds, such as electronic components, to develop new products.
Theoretical and physical chemists study things such as molecules, atoms and chemical reactions to develop different energy sources.
Medicinal chemists research chemicals and compounds used to create medications for people.
Organic chemists investigate the makeup of different carbon compounds. They then combine those different compounds to create new ones.
Macromolecular chemists study how molecules and atoms behave. Unlike physical and theoretical chemists, macromolecular chemists' work doesn't lead to new or improved energy sources.
1-2. Think about your strengths and interests.
With so many diverse career opportunities available in the field of chemistry, it is important to choose a specialty that appeals to your interests. The American Chemical Society provides lots of helpful information on the wide variety of careers that are available in chemistry.
For all careers in chemistry, you should be highly organized and analytical, and you should love performing research and experiments.
You might be surprised by how many different fields of chemistry exist. If, for example, you have an interest in environmental conservation, you may consider looking into the field of green chemistry.. If you have an interest in helping to ensure that the world has clean drinking water, you may look into the field of water chemistry..
1-3. Decide what kind of environment you want to work in.
Chemists work in many different kinds of environments, depending on the specifics of their jobs. Think about whether you would like to work in a laboratory, in an office, in a factory, in a classroom, or in the field. This may help you narrow your choices.
If possible, talk to people who currently hold a position that you think you might be interested in to learn more about the working conditions.
1-4. Consider salary.
Salaries also vary greatly for different careers within the field of chemistry. Once you have identified careers that might interest you, do some research into the average salaries and projected job growth for those specific fields. Comparing this information may help you decide between a few different career interests.
The United States Department of Labor's Bureau of Labor Statistics provides salary information for a variety of different industries and geographic locations.
Checking job listings in your area might also give you some good insight into the types of chemist jobs available and how much they pay.
2. Pursuing an Education in Chemistry
2-1. Start in high school.
Take as many science and math classes as you can in high school, including AP classes. This will help prepare you for more advanced studies in chemistry.
Maintain high grades in all your classes to gain a competitive edge for admissions to undergraduate and graduate programs.
Look for elective science classes that interest you, such as forensic science.
2-2. Earn an undergraduate degree.
The degree takes four years to complete and includes core courses such as organic chemistry and physical chemistry, as well as elective classes related to your interests and general education classes. You should be prepared to spend a lot of time in the laboratory learning about how to handle chemicals, conduct experiments, and interpret data.
The American Chemical Society maintains a list of approved undergraduate programs that adhere to their strict educational requirements.
For most future chemists, a bachelor's degree in chemistry is the best first step. However, there are some career paths that require a slightly different degree. If, for example, you wish to teach chemistry to elementary, middle school, or high school students, you will need to obtain the proper credentials required by your state for a teaching license. If you wish to Become a Chemical Engineer, you may need a degree specifically in chemical engineering.
Some universities also offer undergraduate degrees in specific fields of chemistry, such as environmental chemistry. These more specialized degrees might not be necessary for your career, but they can certainly be helpful if you know what kind of chemist you want to be.
An undergraduate degree in chemistry will prepare you for an entry-level position in chemistry, as a research assistant or technician, for example. It can also prepare you for many other careers. Many chemistry students choose to attend medical, dental, veterinary, or law school after completing their undergraduate degrees. Careers in business are also popular.
2-3. Attend graduate school.
There is a lot of competition for well-paying chemist jobs, so a graduate degree will be very important if you want to advance in your field. The specific type of degree you need will depend on your precise career aspirations.
A master's degree in chemistry typically takes two or three years to complete, and may or may not require a thesis.
A doctorate degree in chemistry requires five or more years of study, and will require you to write a dissertation.
Graduate degrees typically give you the opportunity to focus on a sub-specialty, such as analytical chemistry or biochemistry.
3. Finding a Job
3-1. Gain work experience.
Make yourself more marketable to potential employers by getting as much experience as you can in your field of interest.
Complete a fellowship, work-study or internship during college.
Look for volunteer opportunities that will give you unique experiences in your field of interest or a closely related field.
3-2. Network.
Find ways to meet people who work in your field. This may include attending conferences or job fairs, or simply networking online. Make connections with as many people as you can, and let them know that you would greatly appreciate any advice or guidance they could provide you with during your job search.
Join chemical societies and other organizations related to your specific interests in order to meet people who might be able to help you find a job.
Your university may be able to offer you some assistance with finding a job, so be sure to find out what career placement services they offer.
3-3. Write your resume or curriculum vitae (CV).
To get the job of your dreams, you'll need to spend some time highlighting your skills, experience, and knowledge in a well written and nicely formatted resume or CV.
If you are applying for a job in academia, you will want to write a CV that covers all of your experience and education. For most other positions, a shorter resume, which should be tailored to the position for which you are applying, is more appropriate.
Choose a format that fits your experience. If you have a great deal of professional experience, a traditional chronological resume might work best for you. If you lack experience, you may wish to create different sections on your resume that each focus on a specific skill you possess that will be valuable to the job.
Highlight specific skills you have learned in school. If you took special courses to pursue a specific type of chemistry, be sure to mention them. If you have done a tremendous amount of research on a specific topic for your thesis, let future employers know about the knowledge you possess.
Focus on accomplishments, either at work or at school, instead of just listing responsibilities. Try to be as specific as possible about your strengths.
3-4. Look for job listings.
Looking through employment classified advertisements or online employment websites for job opportunities. You may have to be flexible, especially if you have little or no work experience, but keep working towards the career of your dreams.
Tips
Advancement opportunities for chemists consist of receiving larger researching budgets, gaining greater independence regarding research projects, becoming a chemistry professor, and obtaining a management position. If you advance to a management position, you will spend time with administrative tasks like creating budgets instead of conducting research.
Chemist jobs are highly competitive. Thus, employers prefer hiring chemists with at least a master's degree or higher in chemistry or a related subject.
It is recommended to start out as a lab technician and work your way up.
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Also, they study the ways different chemicals react to each other.\\nInorganic chemists investigate non-carbon compounds, such as electronic components, to develop new products.\\nTheoretical and physical chemists study things such as molecules, atoms and chemical reactions to develop different energy sources.\\nMedicinal chemists research chemicals and compounds used to create medications for people.\\nOrganic chemists investigate the makeup of different carbon compounds. They then combine those different compounds to create new ones.\\nMacromolecular chemists study how molecules and atoms behave. Unlike physical and theoretical chemists, macromolecular chemists' work doesn't lead to new or improved energy sources.\\n1-2. Think about your strengths and interests.\\nWith so many diverse career opportunities available in the field of chemistry, it is important to choose a specialty that appeals to your interests. The American Chemical Society provides lots of helpful information on the wide variety of careers that are available in chemistry.\\nFor all careers in chemistry, you should be highly organized and analytical, and you should love performing research and experiments.\\nYou might be surprised by how many different fields of chemistry exist. If, for example, you have an interest in environmental conservation, you may consider looking into the field of green chemistry.. If you have an interest in helping to ensure that the world has clean drinking water, you may look into the field of water chemistry..\\n1-3. Decide what kind of environment you want to work in.\\nChemists work in many different kinds of environments, depending on the specifics of their jobs. Think about whether you would like to work in a laboratory, in an office, in a factory, in a classroom, or in the field. This may help you narrow your choices.\\nIf possible, talk to people who currently hold a position that you think you might be interested in to learn more about the working conditions.\\n1-4. Consider salary.\\nSalaries also vary greatly for different careers within the field of chemistry. Once you have identified careers that might interest you, do some research into the average salaries and projected job growth for those specific fields. Comparing this information may help you decide between a few different career interests.\\nThe United States Department of Labor's Bureau of Labor Statistics provides salary information for a variety of different industries and geographic locations.\\nChecking job listings in your area might also give you some good insight into the types of chemist jobs available and how much they pay.\\n2. Pursuing an Education in Chemistry\\n2-1. Start in high school.\\nTake as many science and math classes as you can in high school, including AP classes. This will help prepare you for more advanced studies in chemistry.\\nMaintain high grades in all your classes to gain a competitive edge for admissions to undergraduate and graduate programs.\\nLook for elective science classes that interest you, such as forensic science.\\n2-2. Earn an undergraduate degree.\\nThe degree takes four years to complete and includes core courses such as organic chemistry and physical chemistry, as well as elective classes related to your interests and general education classes. You should be prepared to spend a lot of time in the laboratory learning about how to handle chemicals, conduct experiments, and interpret data.\\nThe American Chemical Society maintains a list of approved undergraduate programs that adhere to their strict educational requirements.\\nFor most future chemists, a bachelor's degree in chemistry is the best first step. However, there are some career paths that require a slightly different degree. If, for example, you wish to teach chemistry to elementary, middle school, or high school students, you will need to obtain the proper credentials required by your state for a teaching license. If you wish to Become a Chemical Engineer, you may need a degree specifically in chemical engineering.\\nSome universities also offer undergraduate degrees in specific fields of chemistry, such as environmental chemistry. These more specialized degrees might not be necessary for your career, but they can certainly be helpful if you know what kind of chemist you want to be.\\nAn undergraduate degree in chemistry will prepare you for an entry-level position in chemistry, as a research assistant or technician, for example. It can also prepare you for many other careers. Many chemistry students choose to attend medical, dental, veterinary, or law school after completing their undergraduate degrees. Careers in business are also popular.\\n2-3. Attend graduate school.\\nThere is a lot of competition for well-paying chemist jobs, so a graduate degree will be very important if you want to advance in your field. The specific type of degree you need will depend on your precise career aspirations.\\nA master's degree in chemistry typically takes two or three years to complete, and may or may not require a thesis.\\nA doctorate degree in chemistry requires five or more years of study, and will require you to write a dissertation.\\nGraduate degrees typically give you the opportunity to focus on a sub-specialty, such as analytical chemistry or biochemistry.\\n3. Finding a Job\\n3-1. Gain work experience.\\nMake yourself more marketable to potential employers by getting as much experience as you can in your field of interest.\\nComplete a fellowship, work-study or internship during college.\\nLook for volunteer opportunities that will give you unique experiences in your field of interest or a closely related field.\\n3-2. Network.\\nFind ways to meet people who work in your field. This may include attending conferences or job fairs, or simply networking online. Make connections with as many people as you can, and let them know that you would greatly appreciate any advice or guidance they could provide you with during your job search.\\nJoin chemical societies and other organizations related to your specific interests in order to meet people who might be able to help you find a job.\\nYour university may be able to offer you some assistance with finding a job, so be sure to find out what career placement services they offer.\\n3-3. Write your resume or curriculum vitae (CV).\\nTo get the job of your dreams, you'll need to spend some time highlighting your skills, experience, and knowledge in a well written and nicely formatted resume or CV.\\nIf you are applying for a job in academia, you will want to write a CV that covers all of your experience and education. For most other positions, a shorter resume, which should be tailored to the position for which you are applying, is more appropriate.\\nChoose a format that fits your experience. If you have a great deal of professional experience, a traditional chronological resume might work best for you. If you lack experience, you may wish to create different sections on your resume that each focus on a specific skill you possess that will be valuable to the job.\\nHighlight specific skills you have learned in school. If you took special courses to pursue a specific type of chemistry, be sure to mention them. If you have done a tremendous amount of research on a specific topic for your thesis, let future employers know about the knowledge you possess.\\nFocus on accomplishments, either at work or at school, instead of just listing responsibilities. Try to be as specific as possible about your strengths.\\n3-4. Look for job listings.\\nLooking through employment classified advertisements or online employment websites for job opportunities. You may have to be flexible, especially if you have little or no work experience, but keep working towards the career of your dreams.\\nTips\\nAdvancement opportunities for chemists consist of receiving larger researching budgets, gaining greater independence regarding research projects, becoming a chemistry professor, and obtaining a management position. If you advance to a management position, you will spend time with administrative tasks like creating budgets instead of conducting research.\\nChemist jobs are highly competitive. Thus, employers prefer hiring chemists with at least a master's degree or higher in chemistry or a related subject.\\nIt is recommended to start out as a lab technician and work your way up.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Chemists are scientists who study chemical compounds and work to create new products or improve existing products. Chemists are often employed by manufacturing companies such as chemical, bio-technical, and pharmaceutical firms; by research and development firms; and by government agencies, like the Federal Executive Branch. Your career options in the field of chemistry will depend on both your specific interests and your level of education.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Choosing a Focus\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Learn more about the different types of chemists.\", \"描述\": \"There are many different fields of chemistry, and while they are all related to studying and performing experiments with chemical compounds, they are all unique. Some of the more common fields include the following:\\nMaterials chemists are responsible for researching and developing materials to create new products or improve existing ones.\\nAnalytical chemists examine and classify various chemical compounds that can be used in new drugs. Also, they study the ways different chemicals react to each other.\\nInorganic chemists investigate non-carbon compounds, such as electronic components, to develop new products.\\nTheoretical and physical chemists study things such as molecules, atoms and chemical reactions to develop different energy sources.\\nMedicinal chemists research chemicals and compounds used to create medications for people.\\nOrganic chemists investigate the makeup of different carbon compounds. They then combine those different compounds to create new ones.\\nMacromolecular chemists study how molecules and atoms behave. Unlike physical and theoretical chemists, macromolecular chemists' work doesn't lead to new or improved energy sources.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Think about your strengths and interests.\", \"描述\": \"With so many diverse career opportunities available in the field of chemistry, it is important to choose a specialty that appeals to your interests. The American Chemical Society provides lots of helpful information on the wide variety of careers that are available in chemistry.\\nFor all careers in chemistry, you should be highly organized and analytical, and you should love performing research and experiments.\\nYou might be surprised by how many different fields of chemistry exist. If, for example, you have an interest in environmental conservation, you may consider looking into the field of green chemistry.. If you have an interest in helping to ensure that the world has clean drinking water, you may look into the field of water chemistry..\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Decide what kind of environment you want to work in.\", \"描述\": \"Chemists work in many different kinds of environments, depending on the specifics of their jobs. Think about whether you would like to work in a laboratory, in an office, in a factory, in a classroom, or in the field. This may help you narrow your choices.\\nIf possible, talk to people who currently hold a position that you think you might be interested in to learn more about the working conditions.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Consider salary.\", \"描述\": \"Salaries also vary greatly for different careers within the field of chemistry. Once you have identified careers that might interest you, do some research into the average salaries and projected job growth for those specific fields. Comparing this information may help you decide between a few different career interests.\\nThe United States Department of Labor's Bureau of Labor Statistics provides salary information for a variety of different industries and geographic locations.\\nChecking job listings in your area might also give you some good insight into the types of chemist jobs available and how much they pay.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Pursuing an Education in Chemistry\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Start in high school.\", \"描述\": \"Take as many science and math classes as you can in high school, including AP classes. This will help prepare you for more advanced studies in chemistry.\\nMaintain high grades in all your classes to gain a competitive edge for admissions to undergraduate and graduate programs.\\nLook for elective science classes that interest you, such as forensic science.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Earn an undergraduate degree.\", \"描述\": \"The degree takes four years to complete and includes core courses such as organic chemistry and physical chemistry, as well as elective classes related to your interests and general education classes. You should be prepared to spend a lot of time in the laboratory learning about how to handle chemicals, conduct experiments, and interpret data.\\nThe American Chemical Society maintains a list of approved undergraduate programs that adhere to their strict educational requirements.\\nFor most future chemists, a bachelor's degree in chemistry is the best first step. However, there are some career paths that require a slightly different degree. If, for example, you wish to teach chemistry to elementary, middle school, or high school students, you will need to obtain the proper credentials required by your state for a teaching license. If you wish to Become a Chemical Engineer, you may need a degree specifically in chemical engineering.\\nSome universities also offer undergraduate degrees in specific fields of chemistry, such as environmental chemistry. These more specialized degrees might not be necessary for your career, but they can certainly be helpful if you know what kind of chemist you want to be.\\nAn undergraduate degree in chemistry will prepare you for an entry-level position in chemistry, as a research assistant or technician, for example. It can also prepare you for many other careers. Many chemistry students choose to attend medical, dental, veterinary, or law school after completing their undergraduate degrees. Careers in business are also popular.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Attend graduate school.\", \"描述\": \"There is a lot of competition for well-paying chemist jobs, so a graduate degree will be very important if you want to advance in your field. The specific type of degree you need will depend on your precise career aspirations.\\nA master's degree in chemistry typically takes two or three years to complete, and may or may not require a thesis.\\nA doctorate degree in chemistry requires five or more years of study, and will require you to write a dissertation.\\nGraduate degrees typically give you the opportunity to focus on a sub-specialty, such as analytical chemistry or biochemistry.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Finding a Job\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Gain work experience.\", \"描述\": \"Make yourself more marketable to potential employers by getting as much experience as you can in your field of interest.\\nComplete a fellowship, work-study or internship during college.\\nLook for volunteer opportunities that will give you unique experiences in your field of interest or a closely related field.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Network.\", \"描述\": \"Find ways to meet people who work in your field. This may include attending conferences or job fairs, or simply networking online. Make connections with as many people as you can, and let them know that you would greatly appreciate any advice or guidance they could provide you with during your job search.\\nJoin chemical societies and other organizations related to your specific interests in order to meet people who might be able to help you find a job.\\nYour university may be able to offer you some assistance with finding a job, so be sure to find out what career placement services they offer.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Write your resume or curriculum vitae (CV).\", \"描述\": \"To get the job of your dreams, you'll need to spend some time highlighting your skills, experience, and knowledge in a well written and nicely formatted resume or CV.\\nIf you are applying for a job in academia, you will want to write a CV that covers all of your experience and education. For most other positions, a shorter resume, which should be tailored to the position for which you are applying, is more appropriate.\\nChoose a format that fits your experience. If you have a great deal of professional experience, a traditional chronological resume might work best for you. If you lack experience, you may wish to create different sections on your resume that each focus on a specific skill you possess that will be valuable to the job.\\nHighlight specific skills you have learned in school. If you took special courses to pursue a specific type of chemistry, be sure to mention them. If you have done a tremendous amount of research on a specific topic for your thesis, let future employers know about the knowledge you possess.\\nFocus on accomplishments, either at work or at school, instead of just listing responsibilities. Try to be as specific as possible about your strengths.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Look for job listings.\", \"描述\": \"Looking through employment classified advertisements or online employment websites for job opportunities. You may have to be flexible, especially if you have little or no work experience, but keep working towards the career of your dreams.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Advancement opportunities for chemists consist of receiving larger researching budgets, gaining greater independence regarding research projects, becoming a chemistry professor, and obtaining a management position. If you advance to a management position, you will spend time with administrative tasks like creating budgets instead of conducting research.\\n\", \"Chemist jobs are highly competitive. Thus, employers prefer hiring chemists with at least a master's degree or higher in chemistry or a related subject.\\n\", \"It is recommended to start out as a lab technician and work your way up.\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Getting Started
1-1. Graduate from high school or pass the General Education Development (GED) exam.
You will need to do either one of these things in order to be accepted to a four-year institution.
Take the SATs, the required standardized test for colleges, your junior year and apply to various colleges and universities to keep your options open.
1-2. Get a bachelor's degree from a four-year institution.
You will need to have completed at least three years of undergraduate education in order to apply to a doctor of chiropractic program. You should have at least 90 semester hours in both liberal arts and science courses like physics, chemistry, and biology.
You don't necessarily have to complete your bachelor's degree to be accepted to chiropractic school, though having a bachelor's degree will increase your job prospects in the future.
1-3. Complete a Doctor of Chiropractic (DC) program.
These programs typically take four years to complete. During the first two years, you will study physiology, anatomy, biology, and other subjects in a classroom setting. In the following two years, you will get supervised clinical training in spinal manipulation and diagnosis.
Consider completing a residency program after graduating in order to gain specialty in a particular area, like pediatrics.
1-4. Get licensed.
All states require that chiropractors be licensed, and specific requirements vary between states. In addition to completing the Doctor of Chiropractic (DC) program, you will also need to pass a series of examinations, which may include both national and local exams.
Check with your state, or the state you would like to practice in, for specific requirements. If you move to a new state, you will need to become re-certified in that state.
1-5. Find work.
Most chiropractors work full-time in their own practice or in group practices, while others work in hospitals or physicians' offices. The job requires being on your feet for long periods of time while treating patients, so be sure that you are in shape physically.
The number of chiropractic jobs is expected to increase by 28% from 2010 to 2020, which is faster than the average growth rate for jobs.
If you decide to start your own practice, you will need to invest time in marketing your clinic, determining your appointment scheduling system, maintaining relationships with clients, and keeping track of your clinic's performance. You'll get to wear many hats!
Tips
In addition to completing the necessarily educational and licensure requirements, chiropractors should be detail oriented, have good manual dexterity and strong interpersonal skills as the job requires working with many people on a daily basis.[12]
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During the first two years, you will study physiology, anatomy, biology, and other subjects in a classroom setting. In the following two years, you will get supervised clinical training in spinal manipulation and diagnosis.\\nConsider completing a residency program after graduating in order to gain specialty in a particular area, like pediatrics.\\n1-4. Get licensed.\\nAll states require that chiropractors be licensed, and specific requirements vary between states. In addition to completing the Doctor of Chiropractic (DC) program, you will also need to pass a series of examinations, which may include both national and local exams.\\nCheck with your state, or the state you would like to practice in, for specific requirements. If you move to a new state, you will need to become re-certified in that state.\\n1-5. Find work.\\nMost chiropractors work full-time in their own practice or in group practices, while others work in hospitals or physicians' offices. The job requires being on your feet for long periods of time while treating patients, so be sure that you are in shape physically.\\nThe number of chiropractic jobs is expected to increase by 28% from 2010 to 2020, which is faster than the average growth rate for jobs.\\nIf you decide to start your own practice, you will need to invest time in marketing your clinic, determining your appointment scheduling system, maintaining relationships with clients, and keeping track of your clinic's performance. You'll get to wear many hats!\\nTips\\nIn addition to completing the necessarily educational and licensure requirements, chiropractors should be detail oriented, have good manual dexterity and strong interpersonal skills as the job requires working with many people on a daily basis.[12]\\nX\\nTrustworthy Source\\nUS Bureau of Labor Statistics\\nU.S. government agency that collects and reports labor-related information\\nGo to source\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Chiropractors are licensed professionals who treat patients with pain/injuries of the neck and back. They conduct x-ray exams and other diagnostic tests, provide various therapies, and advise patients on their overall health and lifestyle. Read this article to learn how to become a chiropractor.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting Started\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Graduate from high school or pass the General Education Development (GED) exam.\", \"描述\": \"You will need to do either one of these things in order to be accepted to a four-year institution.\\nTake the SATs, the required standardized test for colleges, your junior year and apply to various colleges and universities to keep your options open.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Get a bachelor's degree from a four-year institution.\", \"描述\": \"You will need to have completed at least three years of undergraduate education in order to apply to a doctor of chiropractic program. You should have at least 90 semester hours in both liberal arts and science courses like physics, chemistry, and biology.\\nYou don't necessarily have to complete your bachelor's degree to be accepted to chiropractic school, though having a bachelor's degree will increase your job prospects in the future.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Complete a Doctor of Chiropractic (DC) program.\", \"描述\": \"These programs typically take four years to complete. During the first two years, you will study physiology, anatomy, biology, and other subjects in a classroom setting. In the following two years, you will get supervised clinical training in spinal manipulation and diagnosis.\\nConsider completing a residency program after graduating in order to gain specialty in a particular area, like pediatrics.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Get licensed.\", \"描述\": \"All states require that chiropractors be licensed, and specific requirements vary between states. In addition to completing the Doctor of Chiropractic (DC) program, you will also need to pass a series of examinations, which may include both national and local exams.\\nCheck with your state, or the state you would like to practice in, for specific requirements. If you move to a new state, you will need to become re-certified in that state.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Find work.\", \"描述\": \"Most chiropractors work full-time in their own practice or in group practices, while others work in hospitals or physicians' offices. The job requires being on your feet for long periods of time while treating patients, so be sure that you are in shape physically.\\nThe number of chiropractic jobs is expected to increase by 28% from 2010 to 2020, which is faster than the average growth rate for jobs.\\nIf you decide to start your own practice, you will need to invest time in marketing your clinic, determining your appointment scheduling system, maintaining relationships with clients, and keeping track of your clinic's performance. You'll get to wear many hats!\"}], \"小提示\": [\"In addition to completing the necessarily educational and licensure requirements, chiropractors should be detail oriented, have good manual dexterity and strong interpersonal skills as the job requires working with many people on a daily basis.[12]\\nX\\nTrustworthy Source\\nUS Bureau of Labor Statistics\\nU.S. government agency that collects and reports labor-related information\\nGo to source\\n\"]}]}}",
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1. Getting Converted to Christianity
1-1. Allow faith to lead you to your new path to obedience.
When Christians experience problems, they also experience strength through Jesus. You will also experience amazing forgiveness, grace, healing and miracles including the miracle of Salvation and everlasting life. Faith is an essential part of your personal life as a Christian. When you have faith, you don't get fooled by fear.
1-2. Be faithful in your witness to Jesus.
Every Christian is to preach the Gospel in word and deed, but do this with gentleness and respect. Christ did not preach what people wanted to hear. If He had, our Lord wouldn't have been crucified. People will get offended, but make sure, if they do get offended, you don't stir more emotions to aggravate the issue instead you calm them or loosen up the conversation.
1-3. Find community and assembly with other Christians.
Even if you can walk alone with Yehoshua or Jesus, it will help more if you find a group of supportive Christian believers who can help eachother and encourage you in your new faith. You may find it helpful to talk to a Christian. Choose someone that you respect for his or her integrity and knowledge as a Christian. Learn the difference between churches of the Gospel. Choose a Christian meeting to attend and fellowship. Consider and decide on the Baptist, Catholic, Lutheran, Methodist, Nondenominational, Orthodox, Pentecostal, Mormon, etc. denominations in order to decide which one is the Church that Christ started, the "Pillar and Foundation of Truth".
1-4. Be baptised
Baptism is about coming into the community of Christ. This is the second step of salvation, after repentance. It may be thought of as a self portrait of your joining with Christ in the death and resurrection in your heart (core of your being) and in the eye of the observer. “Peter said to them, “Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of sins, and you shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit” (Acts 2:38). Baptism was described by the apostle Paul as: "Therefore we are planted together (united) with Him by baptism into death: that as Christ was raised up from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life" (Roman 6:4).
Remember when you get baptized it is an act of obedience but cannot grant you salvation by itself. You must repent, believe and place your faith in Jesus Christ.
1-5. Repent which means, "turn to God" for salvation.
Repent for your sins. When you in your mind or deed are convicted of sin, make penance so that you can be forgiven, and you can keep on living as a Child of God. Verbalize your belief in Jesus' forgiveness and your regret for all the ways you have fallen short in obedience. This is a good time to admit your personal failure and disobedience to God. Believe that Jesus Christ forgives you. Repentance always expresses itself in a changed life; you turn from sin and to Jesus Christ; then, accept your free gift of salvation by faith in Jesus' redemptive death through grace from God. As Son of Man, Jesus said, "Father, if it is your will, let this bitter cup pass from me - nevertheless, not my will but thine be done", giving Himself freely to His Heavenly Fathers will for He loves His Father.
1-6. Love Jesus and love others with the love that Jesus gives you.
Christianity is a personal relationship with Jesus, the one mediator between God and man, with the Spirit of God as your friend and comforter. These things reflect your changed heart, and love one of the most important aspects of a Christian life. You should hate the sin and not have anything in your heart against anyone even a sinner. God will give you a new heart with new strength when you seek and find the Holy Spirit.
1-7. Understand God's gift when you understand what Ephesians 2:8-10 says:
"For it is "by grace" you have been saved, through faith and this "not of yourselves", it is the gift of God - not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God's workmanship created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do."(Ephesians 2:8--10)
2. Growing with Obedience
2-1. Don't be too unhappy to let go and love.
When you become a Christian, you will have a new attitude towards God. When reading the Bible, don't just read pages of words, just to look good and think you're doing a good thing. Study small portions at a time, or as much as you can. Absorb mentally without being overwhelmed. You will find it helpful to continue to study who Jesus is and what He has done. The Bible states that "all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God" (Romans 3:23). In other words, each and every person has done wrong. Romans 6:23 continues, "The wages sin pays is death, but the gift God gives is everlasting life by Christ Jesus our Lord." His love is perfect, with the power to overcome through His all sufficient grace, abundant, that His Holy Spirit should reside in you, and His blood, as your Father flow within your veins as a child of The King. Thus, you yourself, then "walking not with but in Him" by receiving His measure of faith, a free gift -- that you may serve Him (by loving others, thus showing Him forth).
2-2. Read the Holy Bible to learn the law.
Remember it isn't just prayers. After your repentance you can receive the Holy Spirit and the power to live a Christ-like life. You will begin to understand what you need to do with your walk with the Lord. In order to become a Christian, you need to grow in Christ. Learn about Jesus. Believe that He died, rose from the dead as your Savior and then pray for repentance to the one, true God. You might say: "Father, God, I turn from my sin, all my wrong doing; I want to change, and I truly thank you for everything you have done and that I am now freely forgiven and saved from the penalty for my sins -- as a free gift, and you do place a new life in me. Thank you for your gift for me of receiving the Holy Spirit in Jesus's name.
2-3. Obey more than sacrifice.
God loves obedience more than sacrifice for His sake. When you obey what He said, you avoid sin and hatred. With sacrifice you give up something. Understand fasting or any other act of giving away something should be done with knowledge. Because Jesus said, "If you do not love one another, you are none of mine." And so, Jesus explained God's amazing gift to us when He was asked about not loving each other: 'Lord, when did we see You hungry, or thirsty, or a stranger, or naked, or sick, or in prison, and did not take care of You?' He answered, "Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did not do it to one of the least of my children, you did not do it to Me. These will go away into eternal punishment, but the righteous into eternal life."(Matthew 25:44-46)
2-4. In silence, connect with Jesus.
Reading on religion will help you, but it is only a beginning. You can find God by following in His path and keeping silent in prayers for some time every day. Jesus said follow me and "I and my Father will come to you and live with you." Be mindful and allow your full being to calm down as you sit to pray. In a hurry or with a lot of words, you may just do ideal work but to fulfill your purpose as a Christian for which you were called to be a Christian will seep in slowly as you don't talk, don't worry and trust yourself with Jesus.
3. Being a True Christian
3-1. Know that God is love.
If you feel the need for change in your life and want to be free from the oppression of your sins, then see God's love for you. If you want to learn to live a better life without the burdens of your past, then visit a Christian church and take a look at the Bible verse John 3:16, "For God so loved the world that He gave His only son [Jesus], that whoever believes in Him shall not die but will have everlasting life." This means that God sent His son to free us through our trust and belief in Him. Following Jesus Christ shall include going to Christian meetings with people of like faith, being Baptised, in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit, as a sign of accepting your new life.
3-2. Continue your walk.
After you have accepted Christ by receiving the Holy Spirit, follow Him in your daily life by praying, reading the Bible, and following Christ's example. Walk in love, telling others, "For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus" (1 Timothy 2:5) the Son of God, who is Lord and Savior for everyone who believes, repents and follows Him. So, walk in the Spirit, and live to do good to others, according to God's law of love.
3-3. Practice love and accept one another.
Reflect God's love by kindness, forgiving others, making peace, having a faithful and loving relationship with believers. When you come across conflicting views, don't go by feelings; judge no one harshly, not even yourself, and walk in Christ's Spirit. "Whatever you do to the least of my children, you do to Me" said Jesus. When you fulfill the purpose you were created for, you experience deep fulfillment, peace and joy even through the tougher times in life.
3-4. Understand others like you understand yourself.
Remember that all human beings are incomplete, and sinful including you. There are many non-believers, but that doesn't mean you can't be friends with them. Be an example with your attitude which should be like that of Christ. Although Christ sat and ate with sinners, He taught and lead them to become saints. Think of Saul who once persecuted Christians was made Paul who became an iconic follower of Jesus. We all stumble in many ways. Remember the height from which you've fallen! Forgive as Christ God forgave you.
3-5. Be spiritual.
The Spirit of God, stirs faith, hope and charity. So, live in the Spirit, following truth and goodness and no one can snatch you out of Jesus' hands. Feel safe believing that God is your refuge. God's love is perfect and casts out fear. God created you to be joyful in life. Don't mistake Christianity to be a set of moral codes to live by that takes away happiness from life. Don't be ashamed, live freely, approach God at all times, come into a personal relationship with Him, and be transformed as His own. Accept God as your source of happiness with exceeding joy and He will lead you to find true happiness in Him. God is most glorified when you thank Him after you find you are most satisfied in Him.
3-6. Defend God tactfully.
Don't curse unnecessarily. If somebody says something that hurts you, don't let them get into your skin. After all, when the Lord Himself was accused of guilt (even though He didn't do anything wrong as He is holy), He didn't retaliate or even get angry. Act wise when someone accuses your faith or speaks unkindly of God. Jesus drove away those who made His Father's temple as a marketplace. Follow His example. God does not make mistakes. Don't think He did something wrong or bad. He knows exactly what He's doing, and all of His plans for you are good and attainable. If you walk in the straight and narrow path He places before you, He becomes your refuge.
Tips
Read and be encouraged by inspiring examples of God working in lives of people who have become Christians and have received miracles and healings -- that can help you to believe what God can do for you, being a Christian.
As often as you receive the Holy Communion -- as a gift from Christ, do so in remembrance of Jesus Christ giving His life's blood and body as explained by He, Himself, concerning the bread and the wine at "The Lord's Supper." "Holy Communion" is the Jesus for us all to live in us.
The Holy Bible documents the redemptive works of God in this world. The Christian Bible is divided into two categories of Old Testament and New Testament. The Protestant Bible contains 66 and Catholic Bible contains 73 books, and different Eastern Orthodox Bibles have varying numbers of books. That difference is in the number of books of Jewish writers included in the Old Testament. The number of books in the New Testament volume does not vary but is the same among those denominations.
The first four books of the New Testament are called the Gospels (the "good news") because they present the life-changing Gospel that brings you the new life in Jesus Christ. The book of John is generally recognized as a good place to start to understand the teachings of Jesus Christ.
The book of Revelations is the last book in the Bible and is a very interesting book to read, but jumping right into it can be distracting and scary by giving the reader only one large piece of the Biblical message that may seem to give mystical thrills, not whole saving faith that you need. Be sure you understand its place in the context of the Gospel before reading this complicated book of the Bible.
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Find community and assembly with other Christians.\\nEven if you can walk alone with Yehoshua or Jesus, it will help more if you find a group of supportive Christian believers who can help eachother and encourage you in your new faith. You may find it helpful to talk to a Christian. Choose someone that you respect for his or her integrity and knowledge as a Christian. Learn the difference between churches of the Gospel. Choose a Christian meeting to attend and fellowship. Consider and decide on the Baptist, Catholic, Lutheran, Methodist, Nondenominational, Orthodox, Pentecostal, Mormon, etc. denominations in order to decide which one is the Church that Christ started, the \\\"Pillar and Foundation of Truth\\\".\\n1-4. Be baptised\\nBaptism is about coming into the community of Christ. This is the second step of salvation, after repentance. It may be thought of as a self portrait of your joining with Christ in the death and resurrection in your heart (core of your being) and in the eye of the observer. “Peter said to them, “Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of sins, and you shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit” (Acts 2:38). Baptism was described by the apostle Paul as: \\\"Therefore we are planted together (united) with Him by baptism into death: that as Christ was raised up from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life\\\" (Roman 6:4).\\nRemember when you get baptized it is an act of obedience but cannot grant you salvation by itself. You must repent, believe and place your faith in Jesus Christ.\\n1-5. Repent which means, \\\"turn to God\\\" for salvation.\\nRepent for your sins. When you in your mind or deed are convicted of sin, make penance so that you can be forgiven, and you can keep on living as a Child of God. Verbalize your belief in Jesus' forgiveness and your regret for all the ways you have fallen short in obedience. This is a good time to admit your personal failure and disobedience to God. Believe that Jesus Christ forgives you. Repentance always expresses itself in a changed life; you turn from sin and to Jesus Christ; then, accept your free gift of salvation by faith in Jesus' redemptive death through grace from God. As Son of Man, Jesus said, \\\"Father, if it is your will, let this bitter cup pass from me - nevertheless, not my will but thine be done\\\", giving Himself freely to His Heavenly Fathers will for He loves His Father.\\n1-6. Love Jesus and love others with the love that Jesus gives you.\\nChristianity is a personal relationship with Jesus, the one mediator between God and man, with the Spirit of God as your friend and comforter. These things reflect your changed heart, and love one of the most important aspects of a Christian life. You should hate the sin and not have anything in your heart against anyone even a sinner. God will give you a new heart with new strength when you seek and find the Holy Spirit.\\n1-7. Understand God's gift when you understand what Ephesians 2:8-10 says:\\n\\\"For it is \\\"by grace\\\" you have been saved, through faith and this \\\"not of yourselves\\\", it is the gift of God - not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God's workmanship created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.\\\"(Ephesians 2:8--10)\\n2. Growing with Obedience\\n2-1. Don't be too unhappy to let go and love.\\nWhen you become a Christian, you will have a new attitude towards God. When reading the Bible, don't just read pages of words, just to look good and think you're doing a good thing. Study small portions at a time, or as much as you can. Absorb mentally without being overwhelmed. You will find it helpful to continue to study who Jesus is and what He has done. The Bible states that \\\"all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God\\\" (Romans 3:23). In other words, each and every person has done wrong. Romans 6:23 continues, \\\"The wages sin pays is death, but the gift God gives is everlasting life by Christ Jesus our Lord.\\\" His love is perfect, with the power to overcome through His all sufficient grace, abundant, that His Holy Spirit should reside in you, and His blood, as your Father flow within your veins as a child of The King. Thus, you yourself, then \\\"walking not with but in Him\\\" by receiving His measure of faith, a free gift -- that you may serve Him (by loving others, thus showing Him forth).\\n2-2. Read the Holy Bible to learn the law.\\nRemember it isn't just prayers. After your repentance you can receive the Holy Spirit and the power to live a Christ-like life. You will begin to understand what you need to do with your walk with the Lord. In order to become a Christian, you need to grow in Christ. Learn about Jesus. Believe that He died, rose from the dead as your Savior and then pray for repentance to the one, true God. You might say: \\\"Father, God, I turn from my sin, all my wrong doing; I want to change, and I truly thank you for everything you have done and that I am now freely forgiven and saved from the penalty for my sins -- as a free gift, and you do place a new life in me. Thank you for your gift for me of receiving the Holy Spirit in Jesus's name.\\n2-3. Obey more than sacrifice.\\nGod loves obedience more than sacrifice for His sake. When you obey what He said, you avoid sin and hatred. With sacrifice you give up something. Understand fasting or any other act of giving away something should be done with knowledge. Because Jesus said, \\\"If you do not love one another, you are none of mine.\\\" And so, Jesus explained God's amazing gift to us when He was asked about not loving each other: 'Lord, when did we see You hungry, or thirsty, or a stranger, or naked, or sick, or in prison, and did not take care of You?' He answered, \\\"Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did not do it to one of the least of my children, you did not do it to Me. These will go away into eternal punishment, but the righteous into eternal life.\\\"(Matthew 25:44-46)\\n2-4. In silence, connect with Jesus.\\nReading on religion will help you, but it is only a beginning. You can find God by following in His path and keeping silent in prayers for some time every day. Jesus said follow me and \\\"I and my Father will come to you and live with you.\\\" Be mindful and allow your full being to calm down as you sit to pray. In a hurry or with a lot of words, you may just do ideal work but to fulfill your purpose as a Christian for which you were called to be a Christian will seep in slowly as you don't talk, don't worry and trust yourself with Jesus.\\n3. Being a True Christian\\n3-1. Know that God is love.\\nIf you feel the need for change in your life and want to be free from the oppression of your sins, then see God's love for you. If you want to learn to live a better life without the burdens of your past, then visit a Christian church and take a look at the Bible verse John 3:16, \\\"For God so loved the world that He gave His only son [Jesus], that whoever believes in Him shall not die but will have everlasting life.\\\" This means that God sent His son to free us through our trust and belief in Him. Following Jesus Christ shall include going to Christian meetings with people of like faith, being Baptised, in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit, as a sign of accepting your new life.\\n3-2. Continue your walk.\\nAfter you have accepted Christ by receiving the Holy Spirit, follow Him in your daily life by praying, reading the Bible, and following Christ's example. Walk in love, telling others, \\\"For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus\\\" (1 Timothy 2:5) the Son of God, who is Lord and Savior for everyone who believes, repents and follows Him. So, walk in the Spirit, and live to do good to others, according to God's law of love.\\n3-3. Practice love and accept one another.\\nReflect God's love by kindness, forgiving others, making peace, having a faithful and loving relationship with believers. When you come across conflicting views, don't go by feelings; judge no one harshly, not even yourself, and walk in Christ's Spirit. \\\"Whatever you do to the least of my children, you do to Me\\\" said Jesus. When you fulfill the purpose you were created for, you experience deep fulfillment, peace and joy even through the tougher times in life.\\n3-4. Understand others like you understand yourself.\\nRemember that all human beings are incomplete, and sinful including you. There are many non-believers, but that doesn't mean you can't be friends with them. Be an example with your attitude which should be like that of Christ. Although Christ sat and ate with sinners, He taught and lead them to become saints. Think of Saul who once persecuted Christians was made Paul who became an iconic follower of Jesus. We all stumble in many ways. Remember the height from which you've fallen! Forgive as Christ God forgave you.\\n3-5. Be spiritual.\\nThe Spirit of God, stirs faith, hope and charity. So, live in the Spirit, following truth and goodness and no one can snatch you out of Jesus' hands. Feel safe believing that God is your refuge. God's love is perfect and casts out fear. God created you to be joyful in life. Don't mistake Christianity to be a set of moral codes to live by that takes away happiness from life. Don't be ashamed, live freely, approach God at all times, come into a personal relationship with Him, and be transformed as His own. Accept God as your source of happiness with exceeding joy and He will lead you to find true happiness in Him. God is most glorified when you thank Him after you find you are most satisfied in Him.\\n3-6. Defend God tactfully.\\nDon't curse unnecessarily. If somebody says something that hurts you, don't let them get into your skin. After all, when the Lord Himself was accused of guilt (even though He didn't do anything wrong as He is holy), He didn't retaliate or even get angry. Act wise when someone accuses your faith or speaks unkindly of God. Jesus drove away those who made His Father's temple as a marketplace. Follow His example. God does not make mistakes. Don't think He did something wrong or bad. He knows exactly what He's doing, and all of His plans for you are good and attainable. If you walk in the straight and narrow path He places before you, He becomes your refuge.\\nTips\\nRead and be encouraged by inspiring examples of God working in lives of people who have become Christians and have received miracles and healings -- that can help you to believe what God can do for you, being a Christian.\\nAs often as you receive the Holy Communion -- as a gift from Christ, do so in remembrance of Jesus Christ giving His life's blood and body as explained by He, Himself, concerning the bread and the wine at \\\"The Lord's Supper.\\\" \\\"Holy Communion\\\" is the Jesus for us all to live in us.\\nThe Holy Bible documents the redemptive works of God in this world. The Christian Bible is divided into two categories of Old Testament and New Testament. The Protestant Bible contains 66 and Catholic Bible contains 73 books, and different Eastern Orthodox Bibles have varying numbers of books. That difference is in the number of books of Jewish writers included in the Old Testament. The number of books in the New Testament volume does not vary but is the same among those denominations.\\n\\nThe first four books of the New Testament are called the Gospels (the \\\"good news\\\") because they present the life-changing Gospel that brings you the new life in Jesus Christ. The book of John is generally recognized as a good place to start to understand the teachings of Jesus Christ.\\nThe book of Revelations is the last book in the Bible and is a very interesting book to read, but jumping right into it can be distracting and scary by giving the reader only one large piece of the Biblical message that may seem to give mystical thrills, not whole saving faith that you need. Be sure you understand its place in the context of the Gospel before reading this complicated book of the Bible.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"Have you felt the tug of the Spirit and Love on your life? If you believe in Jesus Christ, as your Lord and Savior, you begin to live in Christ by \\\"grace through faith, saved unto good works\\\". If you have chosen to become a Christian, but you don't know if there is more for you to do or not, this article will shed some light on receiving your new life and living in God's love. Becoming a Christian is easy and does not require any rites or rituals, though some churches have classes and confirmation by a pastor or priest. Your new beginning in your new birth, however, leads into the personal development of serving others and living in Christ as discussed below.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Getting Converted to Christianity\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Allow faith to lead you to your new path to obedience.\", \"描述\": \"When Christians experience problems, they also experience strength through Jesus. You will also experience amazing forgiveness, grace, healing and miracles including the miracle of Salvation and everlasting life. Faith is an essential part of your personal life as a Christian. When you have faith, you don't get fooled by fear.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Be faithful in your witness to Jesus.\", \"描述\": \"Every Christian is to preach the Gospel in word and deed, but do this with gentleness and respect. Christ did not preach what people wanted to hear. If He had, our Lord wouldn't have been crucified. People will get offended, but make sure, if they do get offended, you don't stir more emotions to aggravate the issue instead you calm them or loosen up the conversation.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Find community and assembly with other Christians.\", \"描述\": \"Even if you can walk alone with Yehoshua or Jesus, it will help more if you find a group of supportive Christian believers who can help eachother and encourage you in your new faith. You may find it helpful to talk to a Christian. Choose someone that you respect for his or her integrity and knowledge as a Christian. Learn the difference between churches of the Gospel. Choose a Christian meeting to attend and fellowship. Consider and decide on the Baptist, Catholic, Lutheran, Methodist, Nondenominational, Orthodox, Pentecostal, Mormon, etc. denominations in order to decide which one is the Church that Christ started, the \\\"Pillar and Foundation of Truth\\\".\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Be baptised\", \"描述\": \"Baptism is about coming into the community of Christ. This is the second step of salvation, after repentance. It may be thought of as a self portrait of your joining with Christ in the death and resurrection in your heart (core of your being) and in the eye of the observer. “Peter said to them, “Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of sins, and you shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit” (Acts 2:38). Baptism was described by the apostle Paul as: \\\"Therefore we are planted together (united) with Him by baptism into death: that as Christ was raised up from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life\\\" (Roman 6:4).\\nRemember when you get baptized it is an act of obedience but cannot grant you salvation by itself. You must repent, believe and place your faith in Jesus Christ.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Repent which means, \\\"turn to God\\\" for salvation.\", \"描述\": \"Repent for your sins. When you in your mind or deed are convicted of sin, make penance so that you can be forgiven, and you can keep on living as a Child of God. Verbalize your belief in Jesus' forgiveness and your regret for all the ways you have fallen short in obedience. This is a good time to admit your personal failure and disobedience to God. Believe that Jesus Christ forgives you. Repentance always expresses itself in a changed life; you turn from sin and to Jesus Christ; then, accept your free gift of salvation by faith in Jesus' redemptive death through grace from God. As Son of Man, Jesus said, \\\"Father, if it is your will, let this bitter cup pass from me - nevertheless, not my will but thine be done\\\", giving Himself freely to His Heavenly Fathers will for He loves His Father.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Love Jesus and love others with the love that Jesus gives you.\", \"描述\": \"Christianity is a personal relationship with Jesus, the one mediator between God and man, with the Spirit of God as your friend and comforter. These things reflect your changed heart, and love one of the most important aspects of a Christian life. You should hate the sin and not have anything in your heart against anyone even a sinner. God will give you a new heart with new strength when you seek and find the Holy Spirit.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Understand God's gift when you understand what Ephesians 2:8-10 says:\", \"描述\": \"\\\"For it is \\\"by grace\\\" you have been saved, through faith and this \\\"not of yourselves\\\", it is the gift of God - not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God's workmanship created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.\\\"(Ephesians 2:8--10)\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Growing with Obedience\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Don't be too unhappy to let go and love.\", \"描述\": \"When you become a Christian, you will have a new attitude towards God. When reading the Bible, don't just read pages of words, just to look good and think you're doing a good thing. Study small portions at a time, or as much as you can. Absorb mentally without being overwhelmed. You will find it helpful to continue to study who Jesus is and what He has done. The Bible states that \\\"all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God\\\" (Romans 3:23). In other words, each and every person has done wrong. Romans 6:23 continues, \\\"The wages sin pays is death, but the gift God gives is everlasting life by Christ Jesus our Lord.\\\" His love is perfect, with the power to overcome through His all sufficient grace, abundant, that His Holy Spirit should reside in you, and His blood, as your Father flow within your veins as a child of The King. Thus, you yourself, then \\\"walking not with but in Him\\\" by receiving His measure of faith, a free gift -- that you may serve Him (by loving others, thus showing Him forth).\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Read the Holy Bible to learn the law.\", \"描述\": \"Remember it isn't just prayers. After your repentance you can receive the Holy Spirit and the power to live a Christ-like life. You will begin to understand what you need to do with your walk with the Lord. In order to become a Christian, you need to grow in Christ. Learn about Jesus. Believe that He died, rose from the dead as your Savior and then pray for repentance to the one, true God. You might say: \\\"Father, God, I turn from my sin, all my wrong doing; I want to change, and I truly thank you for everything you have done and that I am now freely forgiven and saved from the penalty for my sins -- as a free gift, and you do place a new life in me. Thank you for your gift for me of receiving the Holy Spirit in Jesus's name.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Obey more than sacrifice.\", \"描述\": \"God loves obedience more than sacrifice for His sake. When you obey what He said, you avoid sin and hatred. With sacrifice you give up something. Understand fasting or any other act of giving away something should be done with knowledge. Because Jesus said, \\\"If you do not love one another, you are none of mine.\\\" And so, Jesus explained God's amazing gift to us when He was asked about not loving each other: 'Lord, when did we see You hungry, or thirsty, or a stranger, or naked, or sick, or in prison, and did not take care of You?' He answered, \\\"Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did not do it to one of the least of my children, you did not do it to Me. These will go away into eternal punishment, but the righteous into eternal life.\\\"(Matthew 25:44-46)\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"In silence, connect with Jesus.\", \"描述\": \"Reading on religion will help you, but it is only a beginning. You can find God by following in His path and keeping silent in prayers for some time every day. Jesus said follow me and \\\"I and my Father will come to you and live with you.\\\" Be mindful and allow your full being to calm down as you sit to pray. In a hurry or with a lot of words, you may just do ideal work but to fulfill your purpose as a Christian for which you were called to be a Christian will seep in slowly as you don't talk, don't worry and trust yourself with Jesus.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Being a True Christian\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know that God is love.\", \"描述\": \"If you feel the need for change in your life and want to be free from the oppression of your sins, then see God's love for you. If you want to learn to live a better life without the burdens of your past, then visit a Christian church and take a look at the Bible verse John 3:16, \\\"For God so loved the world that He gave His only son [Jesus], that whoever believes in Him shall not die but will have everlasting life.\\\" This means that God sent His son to free us through our trust and belief in Him. Following Jesus Christ shall include going to Christian meetings with people of like faith, being Baptised, in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit, as a sign of accepting your new life.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Continue your walk.\", \"描述\": \"After you have accepted Christ by receiving the Holy Spirit, follow Him in your daily life by praying, reading the Bible, and following Christ's example. Walk in love, telling others, \\\"For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus\\\" (1 Timothy 2:5) the Son of God, who is Lord and Savior for everyone who believes, repents and follows Him. So, walk in the Spirit, and live to do good to others, according to God's law of love.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Practice love and accept one another.\", \"描述\": \"Reflect God's love by kindness, forgiving others, making peace, having a faithful and loving relationship with believers. When you come across conflicting views, don't go by feelings; judge no one harshly, not even yourself, and walk in Christ's Spirit. \\\"Whatever you do to the least of my children, you do to Me\\\" said Jesus. When you fulfill the purpose you were created for, you experience deep fulfillment, peace and joy even through the tougher times in life.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Understand others like you understand yourself.\", \"描述\": \"Remember that all human beings are incomplete, and sinful including you. There are many non-believers, but that doesn't mean you can't be friends with them. Be an example with your attitude which should be like that of Christ. Although Christ sat and ate with sinners, He taught and lead them to become saints. Think of Saul who once persecuted Christians was made Paul who became an iconic follower of Jesus. We all stumble in many ways. Remember the height from which you've fallen! Forgive as Christ God forgave you.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Be spiritual.\", \"描述\": \"The Spirit of God, stirs faith, hope and charity. So, live in the Spirit, following truth and goodness and no one can snatch you out of Jesus' hands. Feel safe believing that God is your refuge. God's love is perfect and casts out fear. God created you to be joyful in life. Don't mistake Christianity to be a set of moral codes to live by that takes away happiness from life. Don't be ashamed, live freely, approach God at all times, come into a personal relationship with Him, and be transformed as His own. Accept God as your source of happiness with exceeding joy and He will lead you to find true happiness in Him. God is most glorified when you thank Him after you find you are most satisfied in Him.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Defend God tactfully.\", \"描述\": \"Don't curse unnecessarily. If somebody says something that hurts you, don't let them get into your skin. After all, when the Lord Himself was accused of guilt (even though He didn't do anything wrong as He is holy), He didn't retaliate or even get angry. Act wise when someone accuses your faith or speaks unkindly of God. Jesus drove away those who made His Father's temple as a marketplace. Follow His example. God does not make mistakes. Don't think He did something wrong or bad. He knows exactly what He's doing, and all of His plans for you are good and attainable. 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1. Answer God's Call
1-1. Pray for guidance.
Christians communicate with God regularly through prayer, meditation, going to church and loving one another. To be a Christian leader, you will need faith that you are called to lead.
1-2. Discuss your calling with friends, family members and mentors in your church.
This will help you prepare for leadership and give you the opportunity to gather support.
1-3. Think about your skills and talents.
There are many ways to lead. You might be called to the clergy or asked to lead as a musician, counselor, educator or some other role.
Keep an open mind. Christian leaders are not only priests, pastors, ministers or nuns. Leading a bible study, prayer group or Sunday school class also offers opportunities for leadership.
1-4. Ask for help.
Christians believe God will not call them to do more than can be handled. Let your community support and assist you.
2. Lead your Flock
2-1. Encourage people who look to you for help and guidance.
Restore confidence to people who are suffering, lift up those who are depressed, and remind people of their value to God and others.
Provide comfort. As a Christian leader, people will look to you for help when people die, lose their jobs, or get sick. A good leader will do more than read Scripture from the Bible. Listen to people and let them know they are not alone.
2-2. Maintain morale.
Leadership means helping people through rough periods without losing them. Empathize with those who are hurting, and remind them of better days to come and blessings that exist in an otherwise miserable situation.
2-3. Mediate conflict effectively.
You will need to show people how to compromise as a Christian leader. Conflicts may arise between the people you are leading, and instead of choosing sides, you will need to defuse the crisis.
2-4. Build your team.
Whether you are leading the choir or managing the youth group, you will have to get everyone on the same page and moving toward the same goals.
2-5. Follow through.
A leader has to do what she says she is going to do. Build trust by demonstrating that you can be relied upon.
3. Setting an Example
3-1. Model your life after Jesus.
Christians believe Jesus lived and died for their sins. Since he was the original Christian leader, you will want to live and preach as Jesus did.
Study your Bible and read what scholars and theologians have written about Jesus. The more you learn, the more you can share with the people you lead.
3-2. Serve the people you lead.
In the gospel of Mark, Jesus said "the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve." Christian leaders will be humble and willing to put the people they lead ahead of themselves.
3-3. Live simply and without greed.
Christians are taught not to collect material possessions and to give generously to people in need. A Christian leader in a mansion with expensive cars will probably not be very credible.
3-4. Remember you are not required to be perfect.
Christians believe no human is without sin, so a leader who has the same struggles as the people she leads will be respected and trusted.
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Encourage people who look to you for help and guidance.\\nRestore confidence to people who are suffering, lift up those who are depressed, and remind people of their value to God and others.\\nProvide comfort. As a Christian leader, people will look to you for help when people die, lose their jobs, or get sick. A good leader will do more than read Scripture from the Bible. Listen to people and let them know they are not alone.\\n2-2. Maintain morale.\\nLeadership means helping people through rough periods without losing them. Empathize with those who are hurting, and remind them of better days to come and blessings that exist in an otherwise miserable situation.\\n2-3. Mediate conflict effectively.\\nYou will need to show people how to compromise as a Christian leader. Conflicts may arise between the people you are leading, and instead of choosing sides, you will need to defuse the crisis.\\n2-4. Build your team.\\nWhether you are leading the choir or managing the youth group, you will have to get everyone on the same page and moving toward the same goals.\\n2-5. Follow through.\\nA leader has to do what she says she is going to do. Build trust by demonstrating that you can be relied upon.\\n3. Setting an Example\\n3-1. Model your life after Jesus.\\nChristians believe Jesus lived and died for their sins. Since he was the original Christian leader, you will want to live and preach as Jesus did.\\nStudy your Bible and read what scholars and theologians have written about Jesus. The more you learn, the more you can share with the people you lead.\\n3-2. Serve the people you lead.\\nIn the gospel of Mark, Jesus said \\\"the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve.\\\" Christian leaders will be humble and willing to put the people they lead ahead of themselves.\\n3-3. Live simply and without greed.\\nChristians are taught not to collect material possessions and to give generously to people in need. A Christian leader in a mansion with expensive cars will probably not be very credible.\\n3-4. Remember you are not required to be perfect.\\nChristians believe no human is without sin, so a leader who has the same struggles as the people she leads will be respected and trusted.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"If you ask a Christian what he or she looks for in a leader, you will get varied responses. Examples of Christian leaders are also wide-ranging and could include everyone from the Pope to your next door neighbor who does not go to church but spends every weekend feeding the homeless. Be a Christian leader by heeding God's call to leadership, caring for the people you serve, and setting an example that fellow Christians will want to follow.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Answer God's Call\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Pray for guidance.\", \"描述\": \"Christians communicate with God regularly through prayer, meditation, going to church and loving one another. To be a Christian leader, you will need faith that you are called to lead.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Discuss your calling with friends, family members and mentors in your church.\", \"描述\": \"This will help you prepare for leadership and give you the opportunity to gather support.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Think about your skills and talents.\", \"描述\": \"There are many ways to lead. You might be called to the clergy or asked to lead as a musician, counselor, educator or some other role.\\nKeep an open mind. Christian leaders are not only priests, pastors, ministers or nuns. Leading a bible study, prayer group or Sunday school class also offers opportunities for leadership.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Ask for help.\", \"描述\": \"Christians believe God will not call them to do more than can be handled. Let your community support and assist you.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Lead your Flock\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Encourage people who look to you for help and guidance.\", \"描述\": \"Restore confidence to people who are suffering, lift up those who are depressed, and remind people of their value to God and others.\\nProvide comfort. As a Christian leader, people will look to you for help when people die, lose their jobs, or get sick. A good leader will do more than read Scripture from the Bible. Listen to people and let them know they are not alone.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Maintain morale.\", \"描述\": \"Leadership means helping people through rough periods without losing them. Empathize with those who are hurting, and remind them of better days to come and blessings that exist in an otherwise miserable situation.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Mediate conflict effectively.\", \"描述\": \"You will need to show people how to compromise as a Christian leader. Conflicts may arise between the people you are leading, and instead of choosing sides, you will need to defuse the crisis.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Build your team.\", \"描述\": \"Whether you are leading the choir or managing the youth group, you will have to get everyone on the same page and moving toward the same goals.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Follow through.\", \"描述\": \"A leader has to do what she says she is going to do. Build trust by demonstrating that you can be relied upon.\"}]}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Setting an Example\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Model your life after Jesus.\", \"描述\": \"Christians believe Jesus lived and died for their sins. 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How to Be a Christian When Your Spouse Is an Atheist
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1. Steps
1-1. Know that Atheists are people just like Christians.
Some are nice, some are not. Some are happy and successful, some are not. Never assume anything about a person because of their religion, spirituality, or lack thereof.
1-2. Continue to attend Church regularly on your own.
Do not force your spouse to attend with you, if he/she does not wish to. That is disrespectful to their views, and may cause your spouse to harbor resentment.
1-3. Plan how you will raise your children in advance with your spouse.
If you wish to raise them as Christians, make that clear with your spouse. In fact, this should be done with any interfaith couples, be they Christian/Atheist, Christian/Jewish, Muslim/Jewish, Muslim/Atheist, Christian/Confucianist, and so on.
1-4. Plan in advance what kind of wedding you intend to have with your spouse-to-be.
Plan whether you will have a church wedding or a wedding performed by a Justice of the Peace.
1-5. Avoid the subject of religion or politics with your spouse unless you can engage in the discussion peacefully.
Religion is a sensitive subject for many, so if things take a turn toward hostility, it's best to leave it alone. However, peaceful and insightful discussions can be intellectually satisfying, so if both of you are able to handle it, go for it.
1-6. Avoid statements that imply or outright state that you think they're wrong or that you pity them.
It's very hurtful to be told that what you truly feel is wrong or something to be looked down upon -- by your own spouse nonetheless. If you do feel that way, try to overcome them, or at least keep them to yourself.
1-7. Don't try to force your spouse into your religion.
This will cause marital problems and will not help. Besides, their "faith" would probably come from superficial reasons instead of true belief in God. By that same token, nor should your spouse try to force you into his/her Atheism, nor mock your beliefs. That too, will cause marital problems, as your faith is really sacred to you.
1-8. Open the door for discussion, and use it peacefully.
Explain that they can come to you if they have a problem, or if they feel that you aren't respecting them, and that you can discuss it together without anger on your part. Then, ask that they do the same for you if you feel that they aren't respecting you.
1-9. Agree to disagree.
Sometimes, you just won't be able to see things their way, and the same goes for them. If your spouse and you are constantly butting heads on the issue of religion, it may be best to learn how to walk away and accept that your views are different.
Tips
Do not be paranoid over the state of your spouse's soul, simply because he/she is an Atheist. Christian faith says that God sees and knows all our hearts, and your spouse may still come to believe, repent and be baptized. Jesus said "I tell you,... except you repent, you shall all likewise perish." [1]
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And, for salvation Jesus explains: "He said to them, “Go into all the world and preach the good news to all creation. Whoever believes and is baptized will be saved, but whoever does not believe will be condemned."[2]
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Research source
If you find yourself getting angry in the midst of a discussion of viewpoints, or your spouse finds themselves getting angry, it's best to walk away and cool down first before resuming.
Remember that respect is important, and that it's a two way street. It's important that you respect your spouse, and equally important that they respect you. If your spouse makes condescending statements regarding your faith, point that out and explain how their words make you feel. Likewise, they should be able to come to you without you getting angry.
Warnings
The two of you must be clear on your plans for your children. This must be planned way before you both conceive, as any last minute decisions for how your children will be raised (with or without religion) may end up as a huge problem for you both.
Religion is such a sensitive issue because what people believe in (or don't) feel as real and true to them as the fact that the sky is blue. The issue should be handled with care, by both sides.
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"回答明细": "{\"回答\": \"1. Steps\\n1-1. Know that Atheists are people just like Christians.\\nSome are nice, some are not. Some are happy and successful, some are not. Never assume anything about a person because of their religion, spirituality, or lack thereof.\\n1-2. Continue to attend Church regularly on your own.\\nDo not force your spouse to attend with you, if he/she does not wish to. That is disrespectful to their views, and may cause your spouse to harbor resentment.\\n1-3. Plan how you will raise your children in advance with your spouse.\\nIf you wish to raise them as Christians, make that clear with your spouse. In fact, this should be done with any interfaith couples, be they Christian/Atheist, Christian/Jewish, Muslim/Jewish, Muslim/Atheist, Christian/Confucianist, and so on.\\n1-4. Plan in advance what kind of wedding you intend to have with your spouse-to-be.\\nPlan whether you will have a church wedding or a wedding performed by a Justice of the Peace.\\n1-5. Avoid the subject of religion or politics with your spouse unless you can engage in the discussion peacefully.\\nReligion is a sensitive subject for many, so if things take a turn toward hostility, it's best to leave it alone. However, peaceful and insightful discussions can be intellectually satisfying, so if both of you are able to handle it, go for it.\\n1-6. Avoid statements that imply or outright state that you think they're wrong or that you pity them.\\nIt's very hurtful to be told that what you truly feel is wrong or something to be looked down upon -- by your own spouse nonetheless. If you do feel that way, try to overcome them, or at least keep them to yourself.\\n1-7. Don't try to force your spouse into your religion.\\nThis will cause marital problems and will not help. Besides, their \\\"faith\\\" would probably come from superficial reasons instead of true belief in God. By that same token, nor should your spouse try to force you into his/her Atheism, nor mock your beliefs. That too, will cause marital problems, as your faith is really sacred to you.\\n1-8. Open the door for discussion, and use it peacefully.\\nExplain that they can come to you if they have a problem, or if they feel that you aren't respecting them, and that you can discuss it together without anger on your part. Then, ask that they do the same for you if you feel that they aren't respecting you.\\n1-9. Agree to disagree.\\nSometimes, you just won't be able to see things their way, and the same goes for them. If your spouse and you are constantly butting heads on the issue of religion, it may be best to learn how to walk away and accept that your views are different.\\nTips\\nDo not be paranoid over the state of your spouse's soul, simply because he/she is an Atheist. Christian faith says that God sees and knows all our hearts, and your spouse may still come to believe, repent and be baptized. Jesus said \\\"I tell you,... except you repent, you shall all likewise perish.\\\" [1]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\\n\\n\\n And, for salvation Jesus explains: \\\"He said to them, “Go into all the world and preach the good news to all creation. Whoever believes and is baptized will be saved, but whoever does not believe will be condemned.\\\"[2]\\nX\\nResearch source\\nIf you find yourself getting angry in the midst of a discussion of viewpoints, or your spouse finds themselves getting angry, it's best to walk away and cool down first before resuming.\\nRemember that respect is important, and that it's a two way street. It's important that you respect your spouse, and equally important that they respect you. If your spouse makes condescending statements regarding your faith, point that out and explain how their words make you feel. Likewise, they should be able to come to you without you getting angry.\\nWarnings\\nThe two of you must be clear on your plans for your children. This must be planned way before you both conceive, as any last minute decisions for how your children will be raised (with or without religion) may end up as a huge problem for you both.\\nReligion is such a sensitive issue because what people believe in (or don't) feel as real and true to them as the fact that the sky is blue. The issue should be handled with care, by both sides.\\n\", \"简要回答\": \"So, the two of you are an interfaith couple, with a Christian who believes in an Almighty God, and a spouse, an Atheist who doesn't. The two of you are very much in love, and want your marriage to be as happy as possible and defy all the odds including your differing views on God and life.\", \"结构\": {\"方法\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Steps\", \"步骤\": [{\"编号\": 1, \"标题\": \"Know that Atheists are people just like Christians.\", \"描述\": \"Some are nice, some are not. Some are happy and successful, some are not. Never assume anything about a person because of their religion, spirituality, or lack thereof.\"}, {\"编号\": 2, \"标题\": \"Continue to attend Church regularly on your own.\", \"描述\": \"Do not force your spouse to attend with you, if he/she does not wish to. That is disrespectful to their views, and may cause your spouse to harbor resentment.\"}, {\"编号\": 3, \"标题\": \"Plan how you will raise your children in advance with your spouse.\", \"描述\": \"If you wish to raise them as Christians, make that clear with your spouse. In fact, this should be done with any interfaith couples, be they Christian/Atheist, Christian/Jewish, Muslim/Jewish, Muslim/Atheist, Christian/Confucianist, and so on.\"}, {\"编号\": 4, \"标题\": \"Plan in advance what kind of wedding you intend to have with your spouse-to-be.\", \"描述\": \"Plan whether you will have a church wedding or a wedding performed by a Justice of the Peace.\"}, {\"编号\": 5, \"标题\": \"Avoid the subject of religion or politics with your spouse unless you can engage in the discussion peacefully.\", \"描述\": \"Religion is a sensitive subject for many, so if things take a turn toward hostility, it's best to leave it alone. However, peaceful and insightful discussions can be intellectually satisfying, so if both of you are able to handle it, go for it.\"}, {\"编号\": 6, \"标题\": \"Avoid statements that imply or outright state that you think they're wrong or that you pity them.\", \"描述\": \"It's very hurtful to be told that what you truly feel is wrong or something to be looked down upon -- by your own spouse nonetheless. If you do feel that way, try to overcome them, or at least keep them to yourself.\"}, {\"编号\": 7, \"标题\": \"Don't try to force your spouse into your religion.\", \"描述\": \"This will cause marital problems and will not help. Besides, their \\\"faith\\\" would probably come from superficial reasons instead of true belief in God. By that same token, nor should your spouse try to force you into his/her Atheism, nor mock your beliefs. That too, will cause marital problems, as your faith is really sacred to you.\"}, {\"编号\": 8, \"标题\": \"Open the door for discussion, and use it peacefully.\", \"描述\": \"Explain that they can come to you if they have a problem, or if they feel that you aren't respecting them, and that you can discuss it together without anger on your part. Then, ask that they do the same for you if you feel that they aren't respecting you.\"}, {\"编号\": 9, \"标题\": \"Agree to disagree.\", \"描述\": \"Sometimes, you just won't be able to see things their way, and the same goes for them. If your spouse and you are constantly butting heads on the issue of religion, it may be best to learn how to walk away and accept that your views are different.\"}], \"小提示\": [\"Do not be paranoid over the state of your spouse's soul, simply because he/she is an Atheist. Christian faith says that God sees and knows all our hearts, and your spouse may still come to believe, repent and be baptized. Jesus said \\\"I tell you,... except you repent, you shall all likewise perish.\\\" [1]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\\n\\n\\n And, for salvation Jesus explains: \\\"He said to them, “Go into all the world and preach the good news to all creation. Whoever believes and is baptized will be saved, but whoever does not believe will be condemned.\\\"[2]\\nX\\nResearch source\\n\", \"If you find yourself getting angry in the midst of a discussion of viewpoints, or your spouse finds themselves getting angry, it's best to walk away and cool down first before resuming.\\n\", \"Remember that respect is important, and that it's a two way street. It's important that you respect your spouse, and equally important that they respect you. If your spouse makes condescending statements regarding your faith, point that out and explain how their words make you feel. 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